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"anyone tell me what my problem is and why I'm like this? I know.. the title sounds silly. \nhear me out. \n\nContext: I am in Japan, wherein everyone is polite.\n\nI was in a coffee shop, standing in a corner, waiting for a seat to be vacated. It was a full house. There's different people on different areas waiting for someone to leave, so they can grab a seat. I'm specifically waiting on one corner. After waiting for about 20 minutes, the mother-daughter in a 2-person table shows sign of taking off, and I was poising to take over their seat. They took their time, and I stood there behind them for about a minute while they are packing their stuff. \n\nAll of a sudden, there was this japanese lady who just arrived, and she noticed the two mother-daughter about to leave. She then approached them and asked if she could take their table. All the while i was behind the mother-daughter. The mother, who knew I had been standing there for 20 minutes and knew that I was going to take their place, looked confused and didn't know what to do. At this point in time, Me, with my earphone on, am visibly upset and pissed. \nI was pissed with the fact that the Japanese didnt realize I was already there waiting. The mother talked to the lady and probably told her that I was waiting. She bowed her head, and tried to gesture that I was there behind them. The Japanese lady was embarrassed, surprised, and was confused as well. However, my initial reaction through the entire ordeal was to shake my head, did not talk to either of them, and headed out. All the while all 3 of them were looking at me, confused and dont know what to do. The Japanese was probably apologetic and embarrased, but I was angry. I waited there for 20 minutes, but I gave up on my seat. I didnt; want to take it after what happened, since I would feel awkward and feel that I stole a seat from the Japanese lady, even though I didnt. Maybe I felt wronged by, and didnt bother fighting for the seat since I didnt want to beg for a seat. \n\nAfter leaving, I'm still super pissed and angry.\nI dont know why I couldnt stay there and take the seat after the entire ordeal. I'm not sure if im pissed at myself, or the lady. \nI dont know why my behavior is like these in these kind of scenarios.\n\nAnyone have any idea? \n",
"anyone tell me what my problem is and why I'm like this? I know.. the title sounds silly. \nhear me out. \n\nContext: I am in Japan, wherein everyone is polite.\n\nI was in a coffee shop, standing in a corner, waiting for a seat to be vacated. It was a full house. There's different people on different areas waiting for someone to leave, so they can grab a seat. I'm specifically waiting on one corner. After waiting for about 20 minutes, the mother-daughter in a 2-person table shows sign of taking off, and I was poising to take over their seat. They took their time, and I stood there behind them for about a minute while they are packing their stuff. \n\nAll of a sudden, there was this japanese lady who just arrived, and she noticed the two mother-daughter about to leave. She then approached them and asked if she could take their table. All the while i was behind the mother-daughter. The mother, who knew I had been standing there for 20 minutes and knew that I was going to take their place, looked confused and didn't know what to do. At this point in time, Me, with my earphone on, am visibly upset and pissed. \nI was pissed with the fact that the Japanese didnt realize I was already there waiting. The mother talked to the lady and probably told her that I was waiting. She bowed her head, and tried to gesture that I was there behind them. The Japanese lady was embarrassed, surprised, and was confused as well. However, my initial reaction through the entire ordeal was to shake my head, did not talk to either of them, and headed out. All the while all 3 of them were looking at me, confused and dont know what to do. The Japanese was probably apologetic and embarrased, but I was angry. I waited there for 20 minutes, but I gave up on my seat. I didnt; want to take it after what happened, since I would feel awkward and feel that I stole a seat from the Japanese lady, even though I didnt. Maybe I felt wronged by, and didnt bother fighting for the seat since I didnt want to beg for a seat. \n\nAfter leaving, I'm still super pissed and angry.\nI dont know why I couldnt stay there and take the seat after the entire ordeal. I'm not sure if im pissed at myself, or the lady. \nI dont know why my behavior is like these in these kind of scenarios.\n\nAnyone have any idea? \n",
"anyone tell me what my problem is and why I'm like this? I know.. the title sounds silly. \nhear me out. \n\nContext: I am in Japan, wherein everyone is polite.\n\nI was in a coffee shop, standing in a corner, waiting for a seat to be vacated. It was a full house. There's different people on different areas waiting for someone to leave, so they can grab a seat. I'm specifically waiting on one corner. After waiting for about 20 minutes, the mother-daughter in a 2-person table shows sign of taking off, and I was poising to take over their seat. They took their time, and I stood there behind them for about a minute while they are packing their stuff. \n\nAll of a sudden, there was this japanese lady who just arrived, and she noticed the two mother-daughter about to leave. She then approached them and asked if she could take their table. All the while i was behind the mother-daughter. The mother, who knew I had been standing there for 20 minutes and knew that I was going to take their place, looked confused and didn't know what to do. At this point in time, Me, with my earphone on, am visibly upset and pissed. \nI was pissed with the fact that the Japanese didnt realize I was already there waiting. The mother talked to the lady and probably told her that I was waiting. She bowed her head, and tried to gesture that I was there behind them. The Japanese lady was embarrassed, surprised, and was confused as well. However, my initial reaction through the entire ordeal was to shake my head, did not talk to either of them, and headed out. All the while all 3 of them were looking at me, confused and dont know what to do. The Japanese was probably apologetic and embarrased, but I was angry. I waited there for 20 minutes, but I gave up on my seat. I didnt; want to take it after what happened, since I would feel awkward and feel that I stole a seat from the Japanese lady, even though I didnt. Maybe I felt wronged by, and didnt bother fighting for the seat since I didnt want to beg for a seat. \n\nAfter leaving, I'm still super pissed and angry.\nI dont know why I couldnt stay there and take the seat after the entire ordeal. I'm not sure if im pissed at myself, or the lady. \nI dont know why my behavior is like these in these kind of scenarios.\n\nAnyone have any idea? \n",
"anyone tell me what my problem is and why I'm like this? I know.. the title sounds silly. \nhear me out. \n\nContext: I am in Japan, wherein everyone is polite.\n\nI was in a coffee shop, standing in a corner, waiting for a seat to be vacated. It was a full house. There's different people on different areas waiting for someone to leave, so they can grab a seat. I'm specifically waiting on one corner. After waiting for about 20 minutes, the mother-daughter in a 2-person table shows sign of taking off, and I was poising to take over their seat. They took their time, and I stood there behind them for about a minute while they are packing their stuff. \n\nAll of a sudden, there was this japanese lady who just arrived, and she noticed the two mother-daughter about to leave. She then approached them and asked if she could take their table. All the while i was behind the mother-daughter. The mother, who knew I had been standing there for 20 minutes and knew that I was going to take their place, looked confused and didn't know what to do. At this point in time, Me, with my earphone on, am visibly upset and pissed. \nI was pissed with the fact that the Japanese didnt realize I was already there waiting. The mother talked to the lady and probably told her that I was waiting. She bowed her head, and tried to gesture that I was there behind them. The Japanese lady was embarrassed, surprised, and was confused as well. However, my initial reaction through the entire ordeal was to shake my head, did not talk to either of them, and headed out. All the while all 3 of them were looking at me, confused and dont know what to do. The Japanese was probably apologetic and embarrased, but I was angry. I waited there for 20 minutes, but I gave up on my seat. I didnt; want to take it after what happened, since I would feel awkward and feel that I stole a seat from the Japanese lady, even though I didnt. Maybe I felt wronged by, and didnt bother fighting for the seat since I didnt want to beg for a seat. \n\nAfter leaving, I'm still super pissed and angry.\nI dont know why I couldnt stay there and take the seat after the entire ordeal. I'm not sure if im pissed at myself, or the lady. \nI dont know why my behavior is like these in these kind of scenarios.\n\nAnyone have any idea? \n"
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"Three-year Tokyo resident here.\n\n* Next time do what the Japanese lady did and ask instead of just passively standing there. When I'm packing up my stuff I have old ladies asking me if they can sit there all the time. \n* Don't get pissed over a seat in a cafe. It's just a seat. In a cafe. ",
"You should have been super slick and asked the lady who took the table if you can join her, ask how her day was and maybe make a new friend. That would've been awesome.",
"This is standard [Passive-Agressive](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Passive-aggressive_behavior) behavior. Think of it like this: each morning when you get up you are given a certain amount of \"patience\" tokens. Sometimes more, sometimes less depending on how stressful your life is, how well you slept, etc. But you have a daily allotment.\n\nEach time someone does something that you perceive has \"wronged\" you (just perception here), you give them some of these tokens. When you run out of tokens, you slip from passive to aggressive. You're mad, and you're letting the next person know it.\n\nThe way \"out\" is to not give away your tokens. Sometimes you need to, but for the server who got your order wrong, or the cashier who short-changed you, just don't give them any of your tokens. They are yours to keep or lose as you wish. \n\nYou keep your token by being [assertive](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Assertiveness). Speak up! But with respect and kindness. Almost always you find that nobody meant you any harm and things are remedied quickly.",
"The problem is you expect people to read your mind, or you automatically took the other person's behavior in bad faith. All you had to do was simply state \"excuse me, I have been waiting for this table.\"\n\n\nIt's okay, thats a very common tendency. The problem is these tendencies develop when we are children and we get used to people taking care of our needs without asking us, or being frustrated trying to explain our feelings, or adults often have a policy of not caring what kids have to say by default. So then these kids grow up with internalized helplessness, the engrained assumption that situations that involve miscommunication are hopeless and are inevitably going to go horribly wrong. It's like mini-PTSD where you get triggered and fall back on automatic fight-or-flight behavior.\n\n\nWhat you need to is cultivate an inner calmness and discipline, practice m"
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"sound proofing a connecting door from my room to my roomate's There's a door connecting the the roommate and my room instead of a wall. What's the best way to sound proof it so I don't hear of yelling, sex, and what not? \n\nWas thinking of that compressed fiber, some [fiber board](http://www.homedepot.com/p/Sound-Choice-1-2-in-x-4-ft-x-8-ft-R-1-32-Insulation-Sheathing-Board-717008/202090237;jsessionid=556F735FE4345D4AC60A63A9DCAAA5CB#), and possibly a bookcase. Anybody have any other strategies. ",
"sound proofing a connecting door from my room to my roomate's There's a door connecting the the roommate and my room instead of a wall. What's the best way to sound proof it so I don't hear of yelling, sex, and what not? \n\nWas thinking of that compressed fiber, some [fiber board](http://www.homedepot.com/p/Sound-Choice-1-2-in-x-4-ft-x-8-ft-R-1-32-Insulation-Sheathing-Board-717008/202090237;jsessionid=556F735FE4345D4AC60A63A9DCAAA5CB#), and possibly a bookcase. Anybody have any other strategies. "
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"If you’re pretty good with home improvement, you can make a door out of alternating layers of solid wood and green glue. Then install foam around the doorframe seams and cover each side of the door with sound absorbing panels. \n\nIf you’re less of a handyman, you can purchase a solid wood door and install that.\n\nIf you’re even less skilled, you can put sound absorbing foam or panels on either side of the door. ",
"Sticky back foam in the parts where the door meets the frame will stop air/sound travelling through its cheap and easily sourced you want to make the seals as airtight as possible a thick door will only stop do much "
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"How can I confront with confidence? Hi,\n\nI have a problem which has been with me since I was a teenager, I hate to confront people (for argument, price negotiation, requests etc). I'm always passive and I always always avoid such situations. I feel that I'm not strong enough or even \"deserving enough\" to stand up for myself. \nFor example, there is a small fitness club which I wanted to join, the owner is well-known and very successful and everyone loves her. The prices are way expensive (overpriced) compared to the market price, and I was very passive and signed up anyway because I didn't wanna miss out on the opportunity. I could have argued with her that her prices are too expensive for students, but I kept my mouth shut (not that my argument would change her mind, all I wanted was to speak up my mind). \n\nHow can I have confidence in myself? and my abilities to convince others? ",
"How can I confront with confidence? Hi,\n\nI have a problem which has been with me since I was a teenager, I hate to confront people (for argument, price negotiation, requests etc). I'm always passive and I always always avoid such situations. I feel that I'm not strong enough or even \"deserving enough\" to stand up for myself. \nFor example, there is a small fitness club which I wanted to join, the owner is well-known and very successful and everyone loves her. The prices are way expensive (overpriced) compared to the market price, and I was very passive and signed up anyway because I didn't wanna miss out on the opportunity. I could have argued with her that her prices are too expensive for students, but I kept my mouth shut (not that my argument would change her mind, all I wanted was to speak up my mind). \n\nHow can I have confidence in myself? and my abilities to convince others? ",
"How can I confront with confidence? Hi,\n\nI have a problem which has been with me since I was a teenager, I hate to confront people (for argument, price negotiation, requests etc). I'm always passive and I always always avoid such situations. I feel that I'm not strong enough or even \"deserving enough\" to stand up for myself. \nFor example, there is a small fitness club which I wanted to join, the owner is well-known and very successful and everyone loves her. The prices are way expensive (overpriced) compared to the market price, and I was very passive and signed up anyway because I didn't wanna miss out on the opportunity. I could have argued with her that her prices are too expensive for students, but I kept my mouth shut (not that my argument would change her mind, all I wanted was to speak up my mind). \n\nHow can I have confidence in myself? and my abilities to convince others? ",
"How can I confront with confidence? Hi,\n\nI have a problem which has been with me since I was a teenager, I hate to confront people (for argument, price negotiation, requests etc). I'm always passive and I always always avoid such situations. I feel that I'm not strong enough or even \"deserving enough\" to stand up for myself. \nFor example, there is a small fitness club which I wanted to join, the owner is well-known and very successful and everyone loves her. The prices are way expensive (overpriced) compared to the market price, and I was very passive and signed up anyway because I didn't wanna miss out on the opportunity. I could have argued with her that her prices are too expensive for students, but I kept my mouth shut (not that my argument would change her mind, all I wanted was to speak up my mind). \n\nHow can I have confidence in myself? and my abilities to convince others? "
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"I think a lot of it boils down to knowing whether you're right or wrong. If someone's been an asshole to you, first of all, do you care about this person? Is there any reason for you to repair or maintain a good relationship with them? I'll stand up for myself no matter what, but if I'm walking home and some idiot shouts something across the street at me, I won't even turn my head - not worth the time or stress. They're a nobody, I save my time for my family and friends. Someone that's enough of a loser to yell something at a stranger on the street isn't enough to be part of my life. I know that sounds arrogant, but someone has to filter out the shit people from the good ones, and no one can do it for you.\n\nIf it's someone you need to get along with like a relative or coworker, just civilly bring up whatever it is and ask them about it. Just be like \"That thing earlier, what was that? Were you just having a bad day or something?\" That'll let them know you're paying attention to how they're treating you and you're calling them on their shit. If the person is an overt dickhead who wouldn't respond well to something like that, point out their insecurity. Reduce their power. Cut to the heart of it. Just be like \"Aww, are you showing off to your friends?\" then carry on doing what you're doing. Because at the heart of every asshole, there's insecurity, always, and they don't like being called out on it. Just be as condescending as possible and treat them like a kid. They're being an asshole for ego and having the room hearing them get patronised will make them stop.\n\nWith regards to negotiating, etc., I know this sounds simple but, don't worry about it. Just don't, you're not being rude. Business owners have to deal with all kinds of people FAR less courteous than yourself, and if their product/service is as good as they say it is, they'll be happy to tell you how much it is and why it's that. Never be afraid to ask questions. Also, don't put any pressure on yourself. No one is judging you. People are far too interested in how *they* come across to even care about you (or me.)\n\nIn summary, we're all so painfully self-critiquing and egocentric, we all think that because WE'RE thinking about ourselves, that everyone else must be thinking about us too. Do whatever you must to escape that trap because millions fall for it and it isn't true. We all live in our own little bubbles and think we're the centre of the universe, we think that because we got a bad haircut and can't stop thinking about it, that everyone else has noticed it and is talking about it. Not true. In fact, most people probably won't even notice whatsoever. What we fail to realise is that EVERYBODY has their own little bubble and they're every bit as concerned with themselves as you are with yourself or I am with myself.\n\n\"99% of what you worry about doesn't happen, and 99% of things that happen, you didn't have time to worry about.\"",
"I'm actually in the same boat, and I've been reading a book that I absolutely LOVE. I definitely recommend you check it out. It has already helped me a lot in social situations where I feel stressed.\n\n\"The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck\"\nby Mark Manson.\n\nAnother great one to check out that I recently finished is \"How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less\" by Nicholas Boothman. It's not some cheesy self help book like the title suggests. It goes into pretty in depth analysis of how our brains perceive first interactions, body language, how we respond based off of our preferred senses, etc. \n\nI'm in the beauty industry so these things are very important in creating a business for myself. First impressions are important, and communication is more important. Standing up for myself and not being taken advantage of by hagglers, low ballers, etc is most important. \n\nDefinitely check these books out. Good luck!",
"Think in terms of a discussion instead of confrontation, argument, etc. You're couching everything in such negative terms it's no wonder you run scared. \n\n",
"* If you want to convince others, sound convincing. Any uncertainty lingering in your voice projects the notion that you don't entirely believe in what you're saying or that you are capable of entertaining the possibility of doubt. Of course this may actually be the case, but you need others to be oblivious of this.\n* Anticipate responses and have your counterarguments ready.\n* For situations where someone is trying to sell you something - you need to start realising that in sales, everything is about a balance of power. Forget arguing with someone, just fake a phone call and walk away - \"Sorry, I've gotta take this\"\n* Have excuses like that ready, and start enjoying using them. Make a list of at least 5, but not too many. Try reusing the same excuse at different situations with different people, because this will make the lie more convincing. Also, try using an excuse which evokes sympathy - \"I've really got to go, my friend has just been taken to the hospital\"\n* The mindset of being not \"deserving enough\" is flawed - don't think of yourself as having \"mindsets\", just think of your desired outcome and do anything to make it happen. \n* What is important is results. Forget about how you feel during an interaction, just think about the outcome. As your desired outcomes begin to realise, you will start feeling \"deserving enough\".\n* In sales situations, turn it into a game and make the other person slip up. Ask them lots of questions about the product and service, ideally something that they won't know, and as they don't have an answer, this will transfer some power to you.\n* Again, if a similar situation like the fitness club happens again, LIE - \"This is great, let me go to the ATM\" or \"Terrific, let me go and get my friend to take a look also\" or \"Great, I can't purchase right now due to a bad financial situation this week, but I'll be back next week\" and just turn around and walk out of the door. They won't remember you.\n* Start speaking in declarative sentences.\n* Start hanging around with people who are more confident. Their confidence and their approach will rub off on you."
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"Un-train your body from something that it's been conditioned to do So, I had severe hyperemesis throughout my last pregnancy. I threw up all throughout the day, but the first thing I did when I woke up was brush my teeth and even now, two and a half years after I've given birth, brushing my teeth makes me puke. I've tried to change toothpaste or even go without since I thought it was the smell or taste that was triggering it, but no, it's the act itself. And I'm certainly not sticking my brush down my tongue or anything like that, just standard tooth brushing. Any ideas for how to fix this??",
"Un-train your body from something that it's been conditioned to do So, I had severe hyperemesis throughout my last pregnancy. I threw up all throughout the day, but the first thing I did when I woke up was brush my teeth and even now, two and a half years after I've given birth, brushing my teeth makes me puke. I've tried to change toothpaste or even go without since I thought it was the smell or taste that was triggering it, but no, it's the act itself. And I'm certainly not sticking my brush down my tongue or anything like that, just standard tooth brushing. Any ideas for how to fix this??",
"Un-train your body from something that it's been conditioned to do So, I had severe hyperemesis throughout my last pregnancy. I threw up all throughout the day, but the first thing I did when I woke up was brush my teeth and even now, two and a half years after I've given birth, brushing my teeth makes me puke. I've tried to change toothpaste or even go without since I thought it was the smell or taste that was triggering it, but no, it's the act itself. And I'm certainly not sticking my brush down my tongue or anything like that, just standard tooth brushing. Any ideas for how to fix this??",
"Un-train your body from something that it's been conditioned to do So, I had severe hyperemesis throughout my last pregnancy. I threw up all throughout the day, but the first thing I did when I woke up was brush my teeth and even now, two and a half years after I've given birth, brushing my teeth makes me puke. I've tried to change toothpaste or even go without since I thought it was the smell or taste that was triggering it, but no, it's the act itself. And I'm certainly not sticking my brush down my tongue or anything like that, just standard tooth brushing. Any ideas for how to fix this??",
"Un-train your body from something that it's been conditioned to do So, I had severe hyperemesis throughout my last pregnancy. I threw up all throughout the day, but the first thing I did when I woke up was brush my teeth and even now, two and a half years after I've given birth, brushing my teeth makes me puke. I've tried to change toothpaste or even go without since I thought it was the smell or taste that was triggering it, but no, it's the act itself. And I'm certainly not sticking my brush down my tongue or anything like that, just standard tooth brushing. Any ideas for how to fix this??"
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"This is an interesting one, but i might have an answer for you; about 7 years ago when I had braces my orthodontist had to put a bar on the roof of my mouth so his hand was pretty far back there to secure it. I was told to hold my breath because it actually inhibits your gag reflex. Give it a shot.",
"Have you tried switching to or from (depending on what you use now) an electric toothbrush? The sensations may be different enough not to trigger. If not, you might want to try gradual desensitization--that is, do some relaxation exercises and get as far as you can with tootbrushing without triggering the nausea--this may be simply putting your toothbrush near the mouth. Then every day or couple of days take it a little further and see how it goes.",
"Yay conditioning. What you want to do is get science similar sensation that you can calm yourself down from. And little nausea is ok of its not puking. And get yourself used to that, and then try again.\n\nFor brushing teeth, you could try just letting the toothbrush sit in your mouth for a second, or a very gentle brushing that produces nausea but not vomit. Repeat. If that's to much, use a finger, or a spoon, something gentle but noticeable.\n\nStep yourself up at a rate that's doable but uncomfortable. You will eventually (maybe quickly, everyone is different) become used to the toothbrush. \n\nBtw, the same process works on a ton of stuff. Almost every reflex and a ton of basic behavior changes are done through some variation of this.",
"I'd find out whether there is something else you can do or think about that would make this less serious, and overtime solve it\n\nAlso this could sound weird but maybe if you could brush your teeth again after puking, several times even, it would go away\n\nThe reason for these two suggestions is that brushing your teeth without puking will make this go away whereas puking when you do it makes it worse, anything similar you can think of would do the trick too, for example if you prevented the gag reflex by holding your breath as someone else suggested, over time you wouldnt need to anymore :)",
"Also an ... Interesting tip. I have a problem with brushing my tongue, I gag if I go past a certain point. Well, somewhere online they said make a fist with your thumb in the middle and squeeze your thumb as tight as you can to stop your gag reflex. I promise this was in reference to oral hygiene, not anything else. It works every time. I have no idea why.\n\nIt doesn't sound like you have a gag reflex problem, but some sort of negative mental association with brushing. So no clue if the thumb thing will work, but its worth a shot!!"
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"How to avoid getting sink dirty? I know there are tools/techniques to clean it AFTER sink gets dirty. Are they any tips to avoid or delay BEFORE it gets dirty (ex. stuck food particles)? ",
"How to avoid getting sink dirty? I know there are tools/techniques to clean it AFTER sink gets dirty. Are they any tips to avoid or delay BEFORE it gets dirty (ex. stuck food particles)? ",
"How to avoid getting sink dirty? I know there are tools/techniques to clean it AFTER sink gets dirty. Are they any tips to avoid or delay BEFORE it gets dirty (ex. stuck food particles)? ",
"How to avoid getting sink dirty? I know there are tools/techniques to clean it AFTER sink gets dirty. Are they any tips to avoid or delay BEFORE it gets dirty (ex. stuck food particles)? "
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"First clean your sink really well. Once you have a shiny sink consider the sink itself a big dish. If you wash dishes it's the last dish you wash. If you are starting with a shiny sink this may mean just a rinse and a quick wipe with a dish towel or maybe a quick soapy wipe down with a wash cloth or sponge just like a big pot followed by the rinse and wipe-out.\n\n\n\nIf you are pouring out a liquid be mindful to steady pour it straight down the drain rather than just dumping it in the sink. (this may seem obvious if it does sorry but my husband will just dump the left overs of iced tea and get it all over the sink rather than steady pouring it down the drain.)",
"Wash it after you use it with a cloth or sponge. Then those food particles don't even have a chance to stick.",
"I had a lot of problems with my sink getting dirty, but then I stopped using it altogether, and it stayed spotless. If I have dishes, I just go outside and hose them off. Sink stays spotless and I don't pay for water (using the neighbor's hose while he's at work).",
"Fill the sink with with water and vinegar. The vinegar will eat away all the calcium deposits and it should be all shiny in no time."
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"Keeping ice cream more solid in the freezer I had some ice cream in the freezer for 2 days and when I opened it, it was still all mushy. Was it just because it was on the door of the freezer? If I want something frozen more, where in the freezer should I store it?",
"Keeping ice cream more solid in the freezer I had some ice cream in the freezer for 2 days and when I opened it, it was still all mushy. Was it just because it was on the door of the freezer? If I want something frozen more, where in the freezer should I store it?",
"Keeping ice cream more solid in the freezer I had some ice cream in the freezer for 2 days and when I opened it, it was still all mushy. Was it just because it was on the door of the freezer? If I want something frozen more, where in the freezer should I store it?",
"Keeping ice cream more solid in the freezer I had some ice cream in the freezer for 2 days and when I opened it, it was still all mushy. Was it just because it was on the door of the freezer? If I want something frozen more, where in the freezer should I store it?"
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"That's quite worrying, 2 days in the freezer and still soft. You may need to check if your freezer temperature is correct with what it says it is. \n\nAlso, in both fridges and freezers, the door is generally the warmest part, however if your temperature setting is correct it shouldn't be that big a problem.",
"In theory cold air settles so my guess would be on the bottom, but over all I think you need to turn your freezer to a colder setting.",
"Frozen custard (try it) will stay solid at a lower temp than ice cream. Not many flavors available yet, but the choices are growing as it expands its user base.",
"Don't store anything you need completely chilled in the door. Put them in the back.\n\nAlso, assuming this icecream is store bought stuff, then your freezer might simply suck.\n\nIf it's home made icecream and your freezer is plenty cold, you probably added too much sugar."
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"How to tell a housemate you do not wish to look for another house with them. Am currently living with a guy that me and my friend dont want to live with anymore once we go and look for a new house in January.\nWe consider him a friend, but he has annoying habits and we've become annoyed by him in general. It's not really a hugely concrete reason, hence the difficulty.\nHe doesn't have many/any other friends to really move in with, so we feel kind of guilty about not wanting to live with him.\nHow can we break it to him?\nThanks",
"How to tell a housemate you do not wish to look for another house with them. Am currently living with a guy that me and my friend dont want to live with anymore once we go and look for a new house in January.\nWe consider him a friend, but he has annoying habits and we've become annoyed by him in general. It's not really a hugely concrete reason, hence the difficulty.\nHe doesn't have many/any other friends to really move in with, so we feel kind of guilty about not wanting to live with him.\nHow can we break it to him?\nThanks",
"How to tell a housemate you do not wish to look for another house with them. Am currently living with a guy that me and my friend dont want to live with anymore once we go and look for a new house in January.\nWe consider him a friend, but he has annoying habits and we've become annoyed by him in general. It's not really a hugely concrete reason, hence the difficulty.\nHe doesn't have many/any other friends to really move in with, so we feel kind of guilty about not wanting to live with him.\nHow can we break it to him?\nThanks",
"How to tell a housemate you do not wish to look for another house with them. Am currently living with a guy that me and my friend dont want to live with anymore once we go and look for a new house in January.\nWe consider him a friend, but he has annoying habits and we've become annoyed by him in general. It's not really a hugely concrete reason, hence the difficulty.\nHe doesn't have many/any other friends to really move in with, so we feel kind of guilty about not wanting to live with him.\nHow can we break it to him?\nThanks",
"How to tell a housemate you do not wish to look for another house with them. Am currently living with a guy that me and my friend dont want to live with anymore once we go and look for a new house in January.\nWe consider him a friend, but he has annoying habits and we've become annoyed by him in general. It's not really a hugely concrete reason, hence the difficulty.\nHe doesn't have many/any other friends to really move in with, so we feel kind of guilty about not wanting to live with him.\nHow can we break it to him?\nThanks",
"How to tell a housemate you do not wish to look for another house with them. Am currently living with a guy that me and my friend dont want to live with anymore once we go and look for a new house in January.\nWe consider him a friend, but he has annoying habits and we've become annoyed by him in general. It's not really a hugely concrete reason, hence the difficulty.\nHe doesn't have many/any other friends to really move in with, so we feel kind of guilty about not wanting to live with him.\nHow can we break it to him?\nThanks",
"How to tell a housemate you do not wish to look for another house with them. Am currently living with a guy that me and my friend dont want to live with anymore once we go and look for a new house in January.\nWe consider him a friend, but he has annoying habits and we've become annoyed by him in general. It's not really a hugely concrete reason, hence the difficulty.\nHe doesn't have many/any other friends to really move in with, so we feel kind of guilty about not wanting to live with him.\nHow can we break it to him?\nThanks"
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"Ask them what they'll do when the lease is up. That's a way of saying it, they should be able to take the hint. If not then be bland, say you're just moving on to other things. Like a break up",
"Tactful honesty is the best policy, will ensure no feelings are hurt, and do make sure that you give him plenty of time to find another place to stay so your not putting him in a difficult circumstance. \n\nLet him know concretely why your parting ways and that you do/dont want to remain friends. The only way we improve (if hes open to suggestion) is by Constructive Criticism, though being gentle but firm is recommended ",
"I just went through this. He is usually late with rent, unstable mentally (bipolar, depression), his dog won't calm down if anyone comes over, very anal about the apartment, drinks everyday, and when drinking in public he causes an issue with someone outside of our group 75% of the time. We have very little in common anymore and honestly I'm over our friendship. However, if I just told him that truth, I'm afraid he might kill himself. So when I told him I was going to find a place without him. I told him I couldn't deal with dog anymore and I couldn't handle the stress of waiting for his rent money. I knew he wouldn't get rid of the dog and the rent thing was going on so long he couldn't argue the point that he could change it. So my advice is to look for points that validate your decision without taking shots at who he is on a personal level.",
"I feel like we got along better as friends than roommates, and I think if we continue living together then we'll end up falling out, and I value our friendship too much to let that happen.",
"you can tell him exactly what you posted here. what kind of friendship do you really have if you cant be honest?",
"You could tell a bit of a lie and say another person found a house and invited you (OP) and the non-annoying housemate to live with them. But that they don't know the annoying housemate and there isn't room for them anyway. That way you don't hurt their feelings (as much).",
"If you guys get along all right, then just tell him. He'll probably appreciate the honesty, and knowing what he is doing that annoys you might help him get along with his next housemates better. "
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"Measuring the finger for a wedding ring. While she is asleep? I mean...what is the best possible way that almost always works?",
"Measuring the finger for a wedding ring. While she is asleep? I mean...what is the best possible way that almost always works?",
"Measuring the finger for a wedding ring. While she is asleep? I mean...what is the best possible way that almost always works?"
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"Go ring shopping together. Marriage shouldn't be a surprise. You can make the proposal a surprise but, personally, I want to choose my own ring.",
"I had a colleague who was the same size, build with similar hands. Asked her size and it was close enough. Might have adjusted it after the fact, can't remember, but it worked.",
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"what to do when you dislike your sibling's partner... I really don't like my brother's girlfriend and neither do a lot of my other family members. There's not much I can really do about it as he's made his choice and I have to respect that but what can I do for myself and other members of my family that don't get along with her either. It's all becoming very petty and juvenile (FB unfriending, yikes!) and all that seems to happen is I get angry about the whole situation. Anyone out there experienced the same thing that can give me any advice? I don't want to stop seeing and communicating with my bro and I also don't want to see him manipulated and bullied by someone who I believed he was in a loving and caring relationship with. ",
"what to do when you dislike your sibling's partner... I really don't like my brother's girlfriend and neither do a lot of my other family members. There's not much I can really do about it as he's made his choice and I have to respect that but what can I do for myself and other members of my family that don't get along with her either. It's all becoming very petty and juvenile (FB unfriending, yikes!) and all that seems to happen is I get angry about the whole situation. Anyone out there experienced the same thing that can give me any advice? I don't want to stop seeing and communicating with my bro and I also don't want to see him manipulated and bullied by someone who I believed he was in a loving and caring relationship with. ",
"what to do when you dislike your sibling's partner... I really don't like my brother's girlfriend and neither do a lot of my other family members. There's not much I can really do about it as he's made his choice and I have to respect that but what can I do for myself and other members of my family that don't get along with her either. It's all becoming very petty and juvenile (FB unfriending, yikes!) and all that seems to happen is I get angry about the whole situation. Anyone out there experienced the same thing that can give me any advice? I don't want to stop seeing and communicating with my bro and I also don't want to see him manipulated and bullied by someone who I believed he was in a loving and caring relationship with. ",
"what to do when you dislike your sibling's partner... I really don't like my brother's girlfriend and neither do a lot of my other family members. There's not much I can really do about it as he's made his choice and I have to respect that but what can I do for myself and other members of my family that don't get along with her either. It's all becoming very petty and juvenile (FB unfriending, yikes!) and all that seems to happen is I get angry about the whole situation. Anyone out there experienced the same thing that can give me any advice? I don't want to stop seeing and communicating with my bro and I also don't want to see him manipulated and bullied by someone who I believed he was in a loving and caring relationship with. ",
"what to do when you dislike your sibling's partner... I really don't like my brother's girlfriend and neither do a lot of my other family members. There's not much I can really do about it as he's made his choice and I have to respect that but what can I do for myself and other members of my family that don't get along with her either. It's all becoming very petty and juvenile (FB unfriending, yikes!) and all that seems to happen is I get angry about the whole situation. Anyone out there experienced the same thing that can give me any advice? I don't want to stop seeing and communicating with my bro and I also don't want to see him manipulated and bullied by someone who I believed he was in a loving and caring relationship with. ",
"what to do when you dislike your sibling's partner... I really don't like my brother's girlfriend and neither do a lot of my other family members. There's not much I can really do about it as he's made his choice and I have to respect that but what can I do for myself and other members of my family that don't get along with her either. It's all becoming very petty and juvenile (FB unfriending, yikes!) and all that seems to happen is I get angry about the whole situation. Anyone out there experienced the same thing that can give me any advice? I don't want to stop seeing and communicating with my bro and I also don't want to see him manipulated and bullied by someone who I believed he was in a loving and caring relationship with. ",
"what to do when you dislike your sibling's partner... I really don't like my brother's girlfriend and neither do a lot of my other family members. There's not much I can really do about it as he's made his choice and I have to respect that but what can I do for myself and other members of my family that don't get along with her either. It's all becoming very petty and juvenile (FB unfriending, yikes!) and all that seems to happen is I get angry about the whole situation. Anyone out there experienced the same thing that can give me any advice? I don't want to stop seeing and communicating with my bro and I also don't want to see him manipulated and bullied by someone who I believed he was in a loving and caring relationship with. ",
"what to do when you dislike your sibling's partner... I really don't like my brother's girlfriend and neither do a lot of my other family members. There's not much I can really do about it as he's made his choice and I have to respect that but what can I do for myself and other members of my family that don't get along with her either. It's all becoming very petty and juvenile (FB unfriending, yikes!) and all that seems to happen is I get angry about the whole situation. Anyone out there experienced the same thing that can give me any advice? I don't want to stop seeing and communicating with my bro and I also don't want to see him manipulated and bullied by someone who I believed he was in a loving and caring relationship with. ",
"what to do when you dislike your sibling's partner... I really don't like my brother's girlfriend and neither do a lot of my other family members. There's not much I can really do about it as he's made his choice and I have to respect that but what can I do for myself and other members of my family that don't get along with her either. It's all becoming very petty and juvenile (FB unfriending, yikes!) and all that seems to happen is I get angry about the whole situation. Anyone out there experienced the same thing that can give me any advice? I don't want to stop seeing and communicating with my bro and I also don't want to see him manipulated and bullied by someone who I believed he was in a loving and caring relationship with. ",
"what to do when you dislike your sibling's partner... I really don't like my brother's girlfriend and neither do a lot of my other family members. There's not much I can really do about it as he's made his choice and I have to respect that but what can I do for myself and other members of my family that don't get along with her either. It's all becoming very petty and juvenile (FB unfriending, yikes!) and all that seems to happen is I get angry about the whole situation. Anyone out there experienced the same thing that can give me any advice? I don't want to stop seeing and communicating with my bro and I also don't want to see him manipulated and bullied by someone who I believed he was in a loving and caring relationship with. ",
"what to do when you dislike your sibling's partner... I really don't like my brother's girlfriend and neither do a lot of my other family members. There's not much I can really do about it as he's made his choice and I have to respect that but what can I do for myself and other members of my family that don't get along with her either. It's all becoming very petty and juvenile (FB unfriending, yikes!) and all that seems to happen is I get angry about the whole situation. Anyone out there experienced the same thing that can give me any advice? I don't want to stop seeing and communicating with my bro and I also don't want to see him manipulated and bullied by someone who I believed he was in a loving and caring relationship with. ",
"what to do when you dislike your sibling's partner... I really don't like my brother's girlfriend and neither do a lot of my other family members. There's not much I can really do about it as he's made his choice and I have to respect that but what can I do for myself and other members of my family that don't get along with her either. It's all becoming very petty and juvenile (FB unfriending, yikes!) and all that seems to happen is I get angry about the whole situation. Anyone out there experienced the same thing that can give me any advice? I don't want to stop seeing and communicating with my bro and I also don't want to see him manipulated and bullied by someone who I believed he was in a loving and caring relationship with. ",
"what to do when you dislike your sibling's partner... I really don't like my brother's girlfriend and neither do a lot of my other family members. There's not much I can really do about it as he's made his choice and I have to respect that but what can I do for myself and other members of my family that don't get along with her either. It's all becoming very petty and juvenile (FB unfriending, yikes!) and all that seems to happen is I get angry about the whole situation. Anyone out there experienced the same thing that can give me any advice? I don't want to stop seeing and communicating with my bro and I also don't want to see him manipulated and bullied by someone who I believed he was in a loving and caring relationship with. ",
"what to do when you dislike your sibling's partner... I really don't like my brother's girlfriend and neither do a lot of my other family members. There's not much I can really do about it as he's made his choice and I have to respect that but what can I do for myself and other members of my family that don't get along with her either. It's all becoming very petty and juvenile (FB unfriending, yikes!) and all that seems to happen is I get angry about the whole situation. Anyone out there experienced the same thing that can give me any advice? I don't want to stop seeing and communicating with my bro and I also don't want to see him manipulated and bullied by someone who I believed he was in a loving and caring relationship with. ",
"what to do when you dislike your sibling's partner... I really don't like my brother's girlfriend and neither do a lot of my other family members. There's not much I can really do about it as he's made his choice and I have to respect that but what can I do for myself and other members of my family that don't get along with her either. It's all becoming very petty and juvenile (FB unfriending, yikes!) and all that seems to happen is I get angry about the whole situation. Anyone out there experienced the same thing that can give me any advice? I don't want to stop seeing and communicating with my bro and I also don't want to see him manipulated and bullied by someone who I believed he was in a loving and caring relationship with. ",
"what to do when you dislike your sibling's partner... I really don't like my brother's girlfriend and neither do a lot of my other family members. There's not much I can really do about it as he's made his choice and I have to respect that but what can I do for myself and other members of my family that don't get along with her either. It's all becoming very petty and juvenile (FB unfriending, yikes!) and all that seems to happen is I get angry about the whole situation. Anyone out there experienced the same thing that can give me any advice? I don't want to stop seeing and communicating with my bro and I also don't want to see him manipulated and bullied by someone who I believed he was in a loving and caring relationship with. ",
"what to do when you dislike your sibling's partner... I really don't like my brother's girlfriend and neither do a lot of my other family members. There's not much I can really do about it as he's made his choice and I have to respect that but what can I do for myself and other members of my family that don't get along with her either. It's all becoming very petty and juvenile (FB unfriending, yikes!) and all that seems to happen is I get angry about the whole situation. Anyone out there experienced the same thing that can give me any advice? I don't want to stop seeing and communicating with my bro and I also don't want to see him manipulated and bullied by someone who I believed he was in a loving and caring relationship with. ",
"what to do when you dislike your sibling's partner... I really don't like my brother's girlfriend and neither do a lot of my other family members. There's not much I can really do about it as he's made his choice and I have to respect that but what can I do for myself and other members of my family that don't get along with her either. It's all becoming very petty and juvenile (FB unfriending, yikes!) and all that seems to happen is I get angry about the whole situation. Anyone out there experienced the same thing that can give me any advice? I don't want to stop seeing and communicating with my bro and I also don't want to see him manipulated and bullied by someone who I believed he was in a loving and caring relationship with. ",
"what to do when you dislike your sibling's partner... I really don't like my brother's girlfriend and neither do a lot of my other family members. There's not much I can really do about it as he's made his choice and I have to respect that but what can I do for myself and other members of my family that don't get along with her either. It's all becoming very petty and juvenile (FB unfriending, yikes!) and all that seems to happen is I get angry about the whole situation. Anyone out there experienced the same thing that can give me any advice? I don't want to stop seeing and communicating with my bro and I also don't want to see him manipulated and bullied by someone who I believed he was in a loving and caring relationship with. ",
"what to do when you dislike your sibling's partner... I really don't like my brother's girlfriend and neither do a lot of my other family members. There's not much I can really do about it as he's made his choice and I have to respect that but what can I do for myself and other members of my family that don't get along with her either. It's all becoming very petty and juvenile (FB unfriending, yikes!) and all that seems to happen is I get angry about the whole situation. Anyone out there experienced the same thing that can give me any advice? I don't want to stop seeing and communicating with my bro and I also don't want to see him manipulated and bullied by someone who I believed he was in a loving and caring relationship with. ",
"what to do when you dislike your sibling's partner... I really don't like my brother's girlfriend and neither do a lot of my other family members. There's not much I can really do about it as he's made his choice and I have to respect that but what can I do for myself and other members of my family that don't get along with her either. It's all becoming very petty and juvenile (FB unfriending, yikes!) and all that seems to happen is I get angry about the whole situation. Anyone out there experienced the same thing that can give me any advice? I don't want to stop seeing and communicating with my bro and I also don't want to see him manipulated and bullied by someone who I believed he was in a loving and caring relationship with. ",
"what to do when you dislike your sibling's partner... I really don't like my brother's girlfriend and neither do a lot of my other family members. There's not much I can really do about it as he's made his choice and I have to respect that but what can I do for myself and other members of my family that don't get along with her either. It's all becoming very petty and juvenile (FB unfriending, yikes!) and all that seems to happen is I get angry about the whole situation. Anyone out there experienced the same thing that can give me any advice? I don't want to stop seeing and communicating with my bro and I also don't want to see him manipulated and bullied by someone who I believed he was in a loving and caring relationship with. ",
"what to do when you dislike your sibling's partner... I really don't like my brother's girlfriend and neither do a lot of my other family members. There's not much I can really do about it as he's made his choice and I have to respect that but what can I do for myself and other members of my family that don't get along with her either. It's all becoming very petty and juvenile (FB unfriending, yikes!) and all that seems to happen is I get angry about the whole situation. Anyone out there experienced the same thing that can give me any advice? I don't want to stop seeing and communicating with my bro and I also don't want to see him manipulated and bullied by someone who I believed he was in a loving and caring relationship with. "
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"Be a fucking adult. Ignore her as much as possible, and bear her attendance when needed. You will have colleagues you do not get along with, other parents at the PTA, the kids Little League coach, whatever. You do not have to sleep with her, you do not have to spend time with her without your brother, you do not have to like her, just be polite when you're in the same room.\n\nKeep your own counsel, and try to make choices you can stand by later. So stay away from petty and juvenile. if you really think she is some sort of horror show level of bad for your brother, have a calm conversation with him. Until that point, he is allowed to learn from his own mistakes, let him.\n\n",
"I've been on both sides of this. Both as the one with the person everyone seemed to hate, and the one who saw the \"bad\" in a close friend's partner. \n\nAs far as their relationship, the fastest way you will lose contact with your brother is to try and break them apart. You will only make them distance themselves from you because they will see it as \"You\" are the problem.\n\nbest advice I can give, is avoid large social gatherings, keep chatting with your brother via various online means, Text, FB, etc. And when you know he's not busy but she is, make arrangements to go for coffee etc.\n\nYou can still keep a relationship with your brother alive, and relatively healthy even, just by being willing to maintain contact with him. That being said, do not discuss the girlfriend with him unless he comes to you. If he comes to you saying they're having problems, THEN you can bring up everything, till then, it will just make them see you as the \"villain\" in their love story and they'll force you out. ",
"I feel your pain. My older brother and I used to be super close. When my older brother was 17, he met a girl and started dating her. We all knew right away that she was... Not someone we wanted around. She was incredibly rude, disrespectful, and controlling. She would swear at him and tear him down all the time. \n\nAt first, we tried an intervention - my parents and I sat down with my brother and told him nicely about our concerns about her. It didn't do anything other than make him mad. \n\nThen my parents told him, well, she's not allowed to come around here anymore because we don't support this relationship. She was banned from our house for ~ 2 years. \n\nAll it really did was push him away. \n\nEventually, I tried to make peace with the girl and she shot me down, claimed she was too hurt by everything and played the victim card. Alright, we won't be friends. I decided I would just tolerate her (at this point, I was only around 19). \n\nAnd then my brother proposed to her after being together for 8 years. My dad wrote him a letter at this point, saying that he loved him and would support him but still didn't think she was the one. It caused a rift between my dad and brother, despite my parents contributing financially to the wedding. \n\nI was a bridesmaid, she was a bridezilla, it was a nightmare. She blew up over everything. She was just so mean. \n\nThey got married in September; the next summer, my brother asked me if we could talk and he told me they'd been in counselling for 5 months because she had told him she was done with their marriage. \n\nIt turned out that she had been sleeping with her yoga instructor the whole time. Actually, that she had been cheating on him for the entire duration of their relationship (10 years). If I had known that, you can bet I wouldn't have sat by and put on a fake smile and been a bridesmaid. \n\nShe left him, we picked up the pieces, he learned how to be on his own again... Two years later and he's engaged to someone else. She's at least a good person. \n\nThroughout it all, I realized that people have to live their own lives and make their own decisions. Making the wrong decision is their prerogative. \n\nI know that I have dated guys that were jerks. I put up with it. It's easy to fight for a loved one; it's harder to fight for yourself. Hopefully, after time, you'll realize that you deserve better and you'll dump that dirtbag and move on. For me, it took having someone in my life who built me up everyday. \n\nAfterwards, my parents sat me down and said, \"we knew he wasn't the one, but we wanted you to make that decision on your own\". \n\nI guess what I'm really saying is that we all have to go through these things to learn our own lessons. It devastated him, but as a person be grew a lot from it, as I grew a lot from my own experiences. The most important thing is that he knows you're always there for him, regardless. Your brother needs to be built back up - tell him how great he is and why he's so great. Every day. He needs it. Hopefully over time he'll realize he deserves better. \n\nOne more thing - once they do break up, don't talk shit about her. After she left my brother, suddenly everybody started telling him what a bitch she was... Yes, that's true, but it's not helpful. Just remember that your loved one is in pain and as fucked up as it is, he loved her. Just be there for him, let him have his feelings. \n\nSending internet hugs your way, I wish all the best to your family. \n\n",
"I'm in the exact same situation. My bro has been engaged to this crazy bitch for almost 4 years now. She won't let him see his family. She controls every aspect of his life. She makes him work full time while she 'travels', like it's a job or something. They're in an 'open' relationship, but he's not allowed to have sex with other girls. It's insane.When they got engaged, she made him go exchange the ring because the diamond wasn't big enough. \n\nI haven't spoken to either one of them in 6 months because she tried talking to me like she talks to him and I just went off on the bitch. Who does he stick up for? Not his family, that's for sure.\n\nI've been telling myself that he will figure it out eventually, but he never seems to. I do wish I could hang out with my bro, go fishing, and drink a few beers. Sorry to rant without giving any helpful advice. I hope your situation turns out better than mine.",
"I can't stand my girlfriend's sister. I can tolerate her for about 15 minutes and then I have to leave the room and take a couple deep breaths...so that's what I do. i simply tolerate her. I'm not friends with her on social media, I don't go out of my way for her, but I'm not rude towards her. I treat her with the same respect that I'd want to be shown if she didn't like me",
"He has to live his life. You're his sibling and you'll always be family but he has to go and do his own thing as well. Stay out of it. You don't want him deciding who you date and who is or is not 'right' for you so don't do it to him. ",
"I'm sorry this is happening, OP. I have an awesome younger brother (24) and his girlfriend is actually really great. I definitely feel lucky to have a lovely brother's-girlfriend, but if my situation was like yours, there are a couple of ways I think I would go about it. I'll outline here the first assault, and if you're interested, I have a couple other approaches that might help. \nDon't let your brother forget for a minute how much you love him. Send him funny texts of things that make you think of him, and when he doesn't respond, don't let that keep you from sending him the next one. But make it light-hearted, not \"this picture of a trout made me think of that time we went fishing as a family, miss you bro,\" because if he's going to miss having you in his daily life it will be the easygoing and fun relationship he misses, not the emotional, meaningful bonds you have. Of course this isn't to say that that isn't important too, but daily easiness and laughing with those close to you builds its own bonds. Also I think if you often reach out in a light-hearted manner it might make him feel like when he does interact with you it will be fun and joyful, not like you're going to question his life choices. So when you do hang out with him, you should try and be fun and happy and not bring up anything sad or heavy or bothersome, even though it might not feel 100% genuine yet. I think this kind of communication is empowering for both sides- you get to show him that having someone important in your life doesn't have to ever feel bad, and he gets to walk away with a feeling of \"well that was easy,\" and maybe you will have planted the seed of him thinking that it feels better to be around someone positive and joyful than whatever his girlfriend is. \nI think the planting of the seed is important, because if you nurture this idea of \"we can hang out and be in contact with each other without any heaviness,\" he will probably want to continue doing that. It might take a while for him to trust that you're not being fake about it, or just trying to butter him up so you can drop the \"seriously dude you need to break up with that girlfriend of yours\" bomb, so you also need to reevaluate the nature of the energy you put toward your brother and make this genuine, because that is where this benefits you as well. \nI guess in short, make your relationship with him a safe place. You don't have to talk to his girlfriend or pretend to like her, I wouldn't even bring it up since it seems like you and your brother both know how you feel about the situation. But if there's anything that will start him thinking that he would rather have a nice time and not be judged or put down or made to feel bad for any reason, it could easily start with your friendship with him. Nobody wants to go from laughing over beers with your brother to a snarky comment and a slice of vegan pizza. \n",
"Eh, he'll see the light and she'll be gone inside of two years.\n\nIn the meantime, there's no reason to get angry about this, all you control is yourself. Behave in a way that you respect, be honest and loving to those you care about and it will all work out.",
"Ugh. My wifes brothers wife. \n\nShe herself has family issues, so guess what? Now he does too. \n\nThey moved to a different country, and he started a fight with my wife, and she told her family that the reason they are leaving was them. We are talking about a pretty high end middle class upbringing. Thanks for paying for school and the masters! \n\nWe own our own business,and no one ever gets that we operate on an entirely different system. With pay, with hours, with being on call. I can be off Tuesday morning, and working Sunday at midnight. So the mother in law was moving, and we had been clear that we wouldn't be helping, as we were working. \n\nThe brothers wife, at their going away party says loudly, \"you know, I have a job too! You are a terrible daughter.\" \n\nAnd done. \n\nThey moved, but are coming back (yay?) can't wait to hear how we are failing. \n\nSo pro tips:\n\nWe have drawn the line. It's easier once it gets in the open. The difficult part is trying to ignore someone that is passively undercutting you. \n\nIgnore what you can, when you can but make sure you have your limits. Be nice, but firm. \n\n\"I would prefer we not talk about this \"\n\nIn our case, my wife has cut contact with the brother. Eventually, it gets to the point where you can't separate the pair. Her mother is in the process of losing her shit over it. If one person is saying awful stuff and the family member defends it... Well isn't that line saying it yourself? ",
"Even if this person is obviously awful and not right for your brother remember that he probably loves her more than anything. My best friend is dating a guy that she absolutely loves but her family can't stand him. Her mom is blatantly obvious about it and all that has done is push the guy away from wanting to spend any time with her family that hates him and it makes my friend angry, upset, and sad that her family doesn't understand why she loves him. Ultimately it's your brothers choice. You don't have to be best friends with her but you should be nice to her. She shouldn't know that you hate her. Maybe even try to see why your brother loves her? Seeing the situation as he does might help you gain some perspective. I'm sure he knows how you all feel by now and he still wants to be with her, that means something. ",
"Call a halt to the family echo chamber. You feel more and more \"right\" each time someone in your family agrees with you. It drives the \"something must be done!\" attitude. When someone starts a \"UGH, Shebeast did this\" conversation, say, \"I love my brother and I don't want to talk about his girlfriend this way\" and excuse yourself. Or, just excuse yourself. You'll find that you feel less passionate about how terrible she is without the reinforcement. \n\nIn dealing with your brother, show only kindness and love. Be gracious with his lady, too. She may be terrible (may) but that shouldn't change who you are. If you're a cool dude, keep being a cool dude. ",
"We absolutely hate my SIL. We see my brother seem very unhappy. She doesn't like us very much either from what I can gather too. \n\n\nMy parents deal with it because they have a granddaughter out of it and a 2nd forthcoming. I basicslly6 hate her, my niece and my brother do I don't don't give a fuck. But, its all about just finding a way to accomodate it. It's not easy. I basically ignore her existence and don't care about their lives at all but every time they visit they annoy us very much.\n\nIt's not the best advice. Its accommodating it and hoping things change.",
"The short answer is, do nothing.\n\nEither your brother will eventually see that she's no good for him and make his decision, or he won't. You can't MAKE him see it, no matter how much you want to. You just end up making yourself \"the bad guy\" for trying to break them up.\n\nKeep your relationship with your brother strong. Call. Chat. Go do stuff. If the thing with the girl eventually blows up, he's going to need some support, which you'll be in a better position to give.\n\nDon't talk about it with the rest of the family. That's gossip, and it's unhelpful. Eventually, things will blow up, and then you're in a position to say \"Sorry, Bro. That sucks. I never liked her much, but it's your life to live.\"\n\nKeep in mind, you may end up saying that after the divorce proceedings. That's how it went with my sister. She knew she married a jerk, but didn't decide to get out until he started getting drunk and borderline abusive. You can't change people, but you can be there to help them pick up the pieces.",
"The hardest and most painful part about this kind of situation is there is nothing you can directly do about it. The more you try to discuss the issue the more your brother will push back and the farther apart you'll become. I have the exact same issue with my brother, but now he's married with a second kid on the way. All you can really do without any negative repercussions is be there for your brother, and let him know you love him.\n\nI have limited all contact with my brothers wife and she with my family. He comes to holidays by himself because she decides not to come at the last second and refuses to let my brother bring his kid with him. While this is heart breaking, every time my brother comes home by himself we have a great time and remind him how much we love him. Slowly but surely he has started to realize that he is not happy, but he doesn't know what to do about it. Just getting to this point has taken 6 years and I know it will take many more to come to any kind of resolution.\n\nThe just of it? It takes time, and it sucks so hard but stay strong and stay out of their business and you will get your brother back. ",
"Only thing you can do is keep out of it, take the high road and be nice and welcomming in the situations where you have to be in the same room as the person you dislike. Always take the high road.\n",
"Jus get over it. Everyone has annoying in-laws, so to speak, and you just have to grit your teeth, be polite in order to keep your brother happy. Assuming you're both young, it probably won't be forever so just deal with it for now. Be the bigger person if you can.",
"It all depends on the reasons. Why don't you all like her? Is she a bad person? Does she make him a bad person? Is she disrespectful to you all? Does she abuse him?\n\nDoes she make him *actually* happy? Does he make her happy? \n\nI've seen people not like their siblings SO because she didn't \"fit in\" with their family because she was shy and liked different things. To me that's absurd. I found it more funny because I am not very much like them and was shyish around them and they liked me fine (or so I assume since we still hang out and dont fight).",
"I wish you luck. My brother married his terrible girlfriend. She doesn't let my parents see their son or grandchildren. Bro and wife never send cards or gifts to their nieces and nephews but heaven forbid we forget to call/text/send something for their kids. We try to be civil. The favor is not frequently returned. There isn't much you can do. Hopefully your brother comes to his senses before it gets to that point. There won't be much you can say or do to help him out, and any attempts to help him realize it will only create a rift between you. If he asks, be honest but as kind as you can. And expect him to be utterly devastated if she breaks it off first.",
"I hate my brothers girl friend. Being a couple years older I'm not about to jump into his buisness but I have told him I miss hanging out with him and made sure he knows I just want him to be happy. I guess the more you know someone is looking out for you the more convincing they are when they talk. I ignore his girlfriend but am always friendly as I don't want to cause drama. It's all in the way you go about things, always be calm and non aggresive. We made one day a week to go out and get dinner together and have some brother time, no gfs allowed. Maybe that could be something you and your brother can work out. Unfortunately it's not your place to make them break up but you can make it known, in a peaceful way, you don't think the world of her but you'll always be there for your brother. Good luck. ",
"I didn't dislike my sister's boyfriend per say, but rather how she was cutting ties and ignoring her own family in order to be with him and his family. She was too into him, did anything for him even though he wasn't asking her too, she was just obsessed with him. I told her she was putting too much of herself into him, that if it ends it will be bad. She never listened, never backed off, moved in an apartment with him. He finally had enough and broke it off, but they were stuck in the same apartment for while. \n\nNot really the same kind of situation, but the moral of the story is that you can't really convince your sibling or even a friend about how messed up their relationship is, they need to figure it out for themselves. You can give them hints and advice that they will stew on, but the decision has to come from them. ",
"You and your family are participating in the petty bullshit. So just stop. Simple. If you don't, you're all assholes who deserve each other.",
"People have said it here already, but just be civil when you're around them. Ignore them otherwise. This makes living easier. We all have people in our lives that we do not exactly like, and we all get on with our lives just fine. If that's really difficult for you, then the real world is going to make you its bitch.",
"I'm in he situation your brother is in. Told my family to suck it up and be adult about it, they were being fucking petty and childish. \n\nIt really is ridiculously childish to not just accept her and be happy for him."
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"How to get tougher stains out of clothes? I have some clothes with tougher stains on it. One pair of shorts has resin on it and washing won't get it out. One pair of chinos has acrylic paint on it and washing won't get it out.\n\nI'm pretty new to this whole household-stuff and don't want to ask my mom, because I'm a big boy already ;-)",
"How to get tougher stains out of clothes? I have some clothes with tougher stains on it. One pair of shorts has resin on it and washing won't get it out. One pair of chinos has acrylic paint on it and washing won't get it out.\n\nI'm pretty new to this whole household-stuff and don't want to ask my mom, because I'm a big boy already ;-)",
"How to get tougher stains out of clothes? I have some clothes with tougher stains on it. One pair of shorts has resin on it and washing won't get it out. One pair of chinos has acrylic paint on it and washing won't get it out.\n\nI'm pretty new to this whole household-stuff and don't want to ask my mom, because I'm a big boy already ;-)"
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"I suck at keeping my cloths clean. I always get mysterious stains on my cloths all the time. So over the years, because I’m not a big boy, here are some tips I have picked up from my mom:\n\n**I am not responsible for damaging or further ruining you cloths. These are simply my own suggestions and knowledge I have gained**\n\n**USE THESE METHODS AT YOUR OWN RISK**\n\n* First rule of trying to get a stain out: DONT PUT IT IN THE DRYER. Putting it in the dryer will \"bake\" the stain in and creates more problems. If u can’t get a stain out after the washing machine, air dry it, then move onto another cleaning method.\n* always wash alone. Don’t wash the stained shirt with the other cloths. Not to contaminate. \n\n* FIRST OPTION: Now if you are too lazy, have the money, or you are worried about damaging some of your cloths with these methods, just go to the dry cleaners. I swear they have magic tied up in the back room to remove the craziest stains and to fix any piece of cloth. Yes, they are expensive, but they are usually good about removing your worries about those stains, rips, and smells.\n\n* If it’s white, I swear by bleach. That shit will take anything out. Its 3$ at Wal-Mart and if u just soak some of your white cloths in it for an hour or more, white cloths look great! (Even those weird dark sock stains) (But your cloths will have strong bleach sent)\n* mystery stain on your shirt? Don’t know what category to put the stain in? Get some Resolve Spray, Goop, Orange Goop, Fast Orange, Shout, or anything like that. You can get this at the local Wal-Mart for a couple of bucks. But when u use it, spray/rub it on the stain, then let it sit for an hour or more, then wash it. The longer you let it sit, the better.\n* oil stain on the shirt? Fast Orange and Goop or other \"auto store hand cleaner\" is great to get rid of oil stains from working on the car. Just apply to the stain, let it sit, then get a coin or something with a tough edge and scrape the stain and goop off. (Be careful: this could damage your clothing.) Then wash normally, (and you could even throw some goop in the washing machine)\n* weird blood stain from that bar fight last night? Get the milk! If you’re having trouble with blood stains on your cloths, get a small container and lay the piece of cloth in the container, then fill it with some milk and let it sit for the night. Then just wash the shirt normally! (And drink the milk so u can get strong bones for the next brawl)\n\nNow paint. Paint is one hell of a bitch to remove. Even more so if its acrylic. I honestly wish anyone luck to successfully removing this stain. But here are some hard core measures for removing those stains that won’t come out. These are your last resort options:\n\n* Nail polish remover. Nail polish remover eats away at plastic and will hopefully do the same to acrylic paint. Just apply to the stain, let it sit. Then apply again. Keep doing this till u see some little progress. Then let it sit, and then wash.\n\n* Gasoline. This is your last option. You have tried everything and you NEED this clothing, u can’t go by a new shirt, it has to be this. (I personally haven't used this method, and don't suggest it.) Go get some gas and a small turkey baster or something like that. Squirt just a little gasoline on the stain; make sure u cover the whole stain. Let that sit for the night. Then wash normally by its self. \n",
"If I could also add to this a tip for getting grease stains out of T-shirts. I seem to gather those around the abdominal region for some reason...",
"-I've had white vinegar work on acrylic paint. Soak the stain for about two hours and then use a brush or a toothbrush to scrub that stain out. \n\n(Definitely test on a hidden part of your fabric before soaking the stain. Some fabrics will discolor.)\n\n-I second using Dawn dish washing liquid. I've gotten grease, coffee, and a dozen other things out with a good scrubbing with Dawn. \n"
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"How to speed up recovery from injuries? I have a few crappy injuries right now that have basically made it impossible for me to do anything in the meantime and it sucks. I can't lift weights because my left wrist is sprained. I can't play sports because I have a pulled groin and I can't do anything cardio because my ankle is sprained.\n\n\nI was hoping for some pointers on how to speed up recovery other than the obvious ones of resting, staying off your feet, etc.\n\n\n***Also, if there is a reddit that this post would be more suited for, please let me know and I will promptly move it.",
"How to speed up recovery from injuries? I have a few crappy injuries right now that have basically made it impossible for me to do anything in the meantime and it sucks. I can't lift weights because my left wrist is sprained. I can't play sports because I have a pulled groin and I can't do anything cardio because my ankle is sprained.\n\n\nI was hoping for some pointers on how to speed up recovery other than the obvious ones of resting, staying off your feet, etc.\n\n\n***Also, if there is a reddit that this post would be more suited for, please let me know and I will promptly move it.",
"How to speed up recovery from injuries? I have a few crappy injuries right now that have basically made it impossible for me to do anything in the meantime and it sucks. I can't lift weights because my left wrist is sprained. I can't play sports because I have a pulled groin and I can't do anything cardio because my ankle is sprained.\n\n\nI was hoping for some pointers on how to speed up recovery other than the obvious ones of resting, staying off your feet, etc.\n\n\n***Also, if there is a reddit that this post would be more suited for, please let me know and I will promptly move it."
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"It really depends on the type of injury, but for sprains/strains/inflammation, the following advice works wonders:\n\n1. R.I.C.E (rest, ice, compression, elevation) for the first 48 hours after an injury. Cycling ice for 20 minutes on, 10 minutes off every 30 minutes as much as possible while keeping the area wrapped and elevated above your heart will help reduce the amount of inflammation to the area.\n\n2. Now that the injury is stale, you want to promote bloodflow to the area to speed up the recovery process. This means you'll want to do some heat therapy (some alternate ice and heat, I've always just done heat) and massaging of the surrounding muscles. As you feel right, start re-introducing movement to the area and gradually increase the load. \n\n3. As you start to strengthen, you're going to want to figure out why you were hurt. In many cases it can be attributed to weak/imbalanced muscles, poor form, or a lack of flexibility. You'll want to work on all three of these to help prevent injury in the future.\n\n/r/fitness might be a good place to ask this kind of question as well.",
"I was in gymnastics for awhile where i would regularly get open wounds on my hands. I always took a couple gelatin pills a day to help those heal up extremely fast, in one day usually. Not really relevant to you problems but i just thought id throw this in here.",
"[http://startingstrength.wikia.com](http://startingstrength.wikia.com/wiki/Injuries)\n\nThe Starr rehab is really good for muscle belly injuries"
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"How does one keep their toast hot after putting their favourite spread(s) on? I wake in the morning excited for the usual... toast with butter and marmalade. However, no matter how quickly I spread it on, it always seems to be cold/luke warm. Please help!",
"How does one keep their toast hot after putting their favourite spread(s) on? I wake in the morning excited for the usual... toast with butter and marmalade. However, no matter how quickly I spread it on, it always seems to be cold/luke warm. Please help!",
"How does one keep their toast hot after putting their favourite spread(s) on? I wake in the morning excited for the usual... toast with butter and marmalade. However, no matter how quickly I spread it on, it always seems to be cold/luke warm. Please help!"
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"Two ways I can think of is. make sure your spreads are not cold and that the plate your using isn't cold. I suppose make sure your knife / spoon isn't cold as well. ",
"I don't, I like my toast cold and preferable a little bit squidgy. Especially if I then get a nice cold layer of butter on top rather than it soaking in. ",
"Are you keeping the marmalade in the fridge? \n\nDue to the sugar content, firstly there's no need since it's self-preserved, and secondly it'll act as a huge heat sink (the specific heat capacity is quite high - 2700 J/kgK). As such it'll absorb a lot of energy from the toast to raise its temperature.\n\nSo you can either keep it in the cupboard, or put a small amount in bowl and heat it separately. Though, this is a lot of work for hot toast\n\n*FYI: be SUPER careful if you heat the marmalade in the microwave. It'll get crazy hot, and because it's sticky it'll stay in contact with skin longer and leave surprisingly bad burns.*"
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"How to Minimize or stop blushing? I used to almost never blush before in my mid teens but now whenever I get nervous or get in trouble at work my blushing intensifies. Tips?",
"How to Minimize or stop blushing? I used to almost never blush before in my mid teens but now whenever I get nervous or get in trouble at work my blushing intensifies. Tips?",
"How to Minimize or stop blushing? I used to almost never blush before in my mid teens but now whenever I get nervous or get in trouble at work my blushing intensifies. Tips?",
"How to Minimize or stop blushing? I used to almost never blush before in my mid teens but now whenever I get nervous or get in trouble at work my blushing intensifies. Tips?",
"How to Minimize or stop blushing? I used to almost never blush before in my mid teens but now whenever I get nervous or get in trouble at work my blushing intensifies. Tips?"
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"Blushing has many causes. The best bet is to go see a doctor if it's extremely strong or otherwise bothers your daily life. ",
"Work in a porn shop for three years and densensitize yourself from debauchery and shame.\n\nSource: I managed a porn shop for three years while in uni and desensitized myself from debauchery and shame.",
"Try to \"make\" yourself blush when you feel yourself starting to blush. Don't know why it works, but it does for me.",
"There is a spray made by Urban Decay which is a cooling mist that lasts for a bit. Four spritzes and it cools the skin on contact and keeps the visible blood vessels if your face tame. \n\n*",
"Except that it might happen and be okay with it. The more you pay attention to it the worse in will be. I turn red and start to sweat when I get nervous/embarrassed. I try and mentally prepare myself. "
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"Stop biting nails Hi :)\nI'm biting nails since I am 8 or 9 years old. I am not sure. But I want to stop. My hands look ugly, I am a bit ashamed because of them and I mostly try to hide them in any way. I know there are some tricks like winding tape around your fingers, but yeah... I guess my bited nails are more unobtrusive...\nDo you have any handy (oh wow) tips? :)\n\n",
"Stop biting nails Hi :)\nI'm biting nails since I am 8 or 9 years old. I am not sure. But I want to stop. My hands look ugly, I am a bit ashamed because of them and I mostly try to hide them in any way. I know there are some tricks like winding tape around your fingers, but yeah... I guess my bited nails are more unobtrusive...\nDo you have any handy (oh wow) tips? :)\n\n",
"Stop biting nails Hi :)\nI'm biting nails since I am 8 or 9 years old. I am not sure. But I want to stop. My hands look ugly, I am a bit ashamed because of them and I mostly try to hide them in any way. I know there are some tricks like winding tape around your fingers, but yeah... I guess my bited nails are more unobtrusive...\nDo you have any handy (oh wow) tips? :)\n\n",
"Stop biting nails Hi :)\nI'm biting nails since I am 8 or 9 years old. I am not sure. But I want to stop. My hands look ugly, I am a bit ashamed because of them and I mostly try to hide them in any way. I know there are some tricks like winding tape around your fingers, but yeah... I guess my bited nails are more unobtrusive...\nDo you have any handy (oh wow) tips? :)\n\n",
"Stop biting nails Hi :)\nI'm biting nails since I am 8 or 9 years old. I am not sure. But I want to stop. My hands look ugly, I am a bit ashamed because of them and I mostly try to hide them in any way. I know there are some tricks like winding tape around your fingers, but yeah... I guess my bited nails are more unobtrusive...\nDo you have any handy (oh wow) tips? :)\n\n",
"Stop biting nails Hi :)\nI'm biting nails since I am 8 or 9 years old. I am not sure. But I want to stop. My hands look ugly, I am a bit ashamed because of them and I mostly try to hide them in any way. I know there are some tricks like winding tape around your fingers, but yeah... I guess my bited nails are more unobtrusive...\nDo you have any handy (oh wow) tips? :)\n\n",
"Stop biting nails Hi :)\nI'm biting nails since I am 8 or 9 years old. I am not sure. But I want to stop. My hands look ugly, I am a bit ashamed because of them and I mostly try to hide them in any way. I know there are some tricks like winding tape around your fingers, but yeah... I guess my bited nails are more unobtrusive...\nDo you have any handy (oh wow) tips? :)\n\n",
"Stop biting nails Hi :)\nI'm biting nails since I am 8 or 9 years old. I am not sure. But I want to stop. My hands look ugly, I am a bit ashamed because of them and I mostly try to hide them in any way. I know there are some tricks like winding tape around your fingers, but yeah... I guess my bited nails are more unobtrusive...\nDo you have any handy (oh wow) tips? :)\n\n"
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"Your question is very much like mine was not too long ago, and in a way still is and as men we can't just walk into a nail salon and get fake nails put on. I mean we could...but it's unlikely that we will. :) \n\nI've been biting my fingernails since I could remember, I really can't remember a time as a kid or an adult that I wasn't biting or picking at them, until recently. You won't solve your nail biting overnight, nor grow the fingernails you really want to show off overnight either. It's a process, but it's a simple one, and probably not as hard as you imagine. :)\n\nStart here: \n\n1. Decide you want to stop and set the goal for yourself. Something simple at first such as \"I will stop biting my nails and let them grow for the next 7 days.\" Write it down. Setting an actual goal, writing it down and communicating it to at least yourself is more important that you might think right now, it's quick, easy to do and completely changes the dynamic from there on in on a psychological level. If you don't set a starting goal for yourself you will struggle. \n\n2. Buy a simple and inexpensive home manicure/nail care kit like this one: http://tinyurl.com/qa36472 (I have no affiliation to this product). What you need the most to get started are clippers and a nail file. If you don't want to buy a kit that could come in handy later then no problem, head on over any drugstore and buy a simple nail file and clippers. \n\n3. Before you do anything to your nails, take out your phone and snap a couple pictures of each hand with your fingers and nails clearly visible. Then save it either in your phone's pictures, dropbox, iphoto, etc. This will serve as your \"before\" picture, and you will use it to track your progress. \n\n4. File your nails so you do not have any rough or jagged edges that you can feel and that you will want to bite or pick at. \n\n5. Ready. Set. Begin. Start your goal of remaining 7 days bite free. While I don't believe that snapping a rubber band will work in the long term, it can be of benefit in the short term. Wear one on your wrist, and make it a point to snap it three times a day. This will remind you not to bite, and that you've set a goal for yourself to stop for 7 days. \n\n6. After 7 days, take a picture of both your hands again in the same style that you took your first picture before you started 7 days earlier. Save it. Compare the two side by side for yourself. See the difference? Amazing what just 7 days can do huh? And even more amazing is the goal you set for yourself and then achieved. Isn't that neat? If you can do 7 days, what's stopping you from 14 days? 28 days? Forever? \n\n7. Now this might be one of the most important steps; find a nail salon that you like and trust around you in your area and go get a manicure AFTER the 7 days. Don't be embarrassed even though I know it's hard not to be, you won't believe what manicurist see and you're not as bad as you think you are ;). They're professionals (mostly) and know what they're doing. Not only does this step serve a propose for actually shaping your nails and getting them healthy and great looking, but it also puts you into a cycle where you're now starting to invest time, money and effort into your nail care. You'll see the huge improvements, the appointments for your next manicure on the calendar and be committed. You break old habits by replacing them with new ones and being accountable to them, and this step is very important.\n\nI hope this helps and the best of luck to you! \n\n- Ilya\nwww.nailgoals.com \n",
"There is nail polish called No Bite. It is clear and dries leaving a dull finish, so you wont be walking around with glossy nails (unless you're a woman or into that kind of thing). It tastes REALLY bad. As soon as you put your nail in your mouth, you will instantly regret it. \n\nWear it for a couple weeks and you'll break the habbit.",
"Get some good clippers and files so you can take care of them. Spending a little time doing that will help you to stop. ",
"Clip your nails so they are too short to bite off, and when ever you catch yourself biting, clip them again. If you do this long enough then you will lose the craving. This is the method I used.",
"Instead of biting when you feel a rough edge, use the seam of your pants to file them. It gives them a nice soft edge and looks a hell of a lot better then chewing on your nails in public.",
"I've struggled with this pretty much my whole life. I used to chew up all my fingers and bite the skin around the nails until it would bleed. It's a stress / anxiety / boredom thing.\n\nAs an adult, I have two-three fingers I do it to now on my right hand. It's better than it was, but it's still a problem.\n\nI do it now out of stress. If I'm having a rough week at work, I'll find myself picking at those familiar areas without thinking. I can go a good month without doing it, but when I do, it's a problem.",
"I was a heavy nail biter if you call it that. After a trip to China (you can do in your own country) I got a manicure done and since then, I've keep getting them cut professionally every month. Might be worth a go. ",
"Always keep a full bag of chips with you. This is also a good way to not be hungry anymore too.\n\nThere may be a side effect of weight gain though."
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"What are some books people should read to improve their lives? To either increase efficiency, improve socially, financially, etc.\n\nEx. \"How to win friends and influence people\" is a great book that helps a lot with networking",
"What are some books people should read to improve their lives? To either increase efficiency, improve socially, financially, etc.\n\nEx. \"How to win friends and influence people\" is a great book that helps a lot with networking",
"What are some books people should read to improve their lives? To either increase efficiency, improve socially, financially, etc.\n\nEx. \"How to win friends and influence people\" is a great book that helps a lot with networking",
"What are some books people should read to improve their lives? To either increase efficiency, improve socially, financially, etc.\n\nEx. \"How to win friends and influence people\" is a great book that helps a lot with networking",
"What are some books people should read to improve their lives? To either increase efficiency, improve socially, financially, etc.\n\nEx. \"How to win friends and influence people\" is a great book that helps a lot with networking",
"What are some books people should read to improve their lives? To either increase efficiency, improve socially, financially, etc.\n\nEx. \"How to win friends and influence people\" is a great book that helps a lot with networking",
"What are some books people should read to improve their lives? To either increase efficiency, improve socially, financially, etc.\n\nEx. \"How to win friends and influence people\" is a great book that helps a lot with networking",
"What are some books people should read to improve their lives? To either increase efficiency, improve socially, financially, etc.\n\nEx. \"How to win friends and influence people\" is a great book that helps a lot with networking",
"What are some books people should read to improve their lives? To either increase efficiency, improve socially, financially, etc.\n\nEx. \"How to win friends and influence people\" is a great book that helps a lot with networking",
"What are some books people should read to improve their lives? To either increase efficiency, improve socially, financially, etc.\n\nEx. \"How to win friends and influence people\" is a great book that helps a lot with networking",
"What are some books people should read to improve their lives? To either increase efficiency, improve socially, financially, etc.\n\nEx. \"How to win friends and influence people\" is a great book that helps a lot with networking",
"What are some books people should read to improve their lives? To either increase efficiency, improve socially, financially, etc.\n\nEx. \"How to win friends and influence people\" is a great book that helps a lot with networking",
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"\"the art of war\" - Sun Tzu. It explais how to approach difficulties in Life. \nYou can also read Seneca who speaks about efficiency of people. ",
"If you want to improve your overall efficiency, Getting Things Done by David Allen is a good idea. Even if you do not adapt his productivity methods, he has a few very solid tips.",
"You Are Not So Smart - helps greatly with understanding the fallacies we as humans commit regularly. Helps to observe yourself a little bit more as well as understand why others do things (that they themselves don't even understand.)\n\nThe Pocket Oracle by Balthazar Gracian - an excellent little handbook with short parables about how one should carry themselves.. It was originally written for a prince about to be king. But the advice imparted still holds true today\n\nThe 48 Laws of Power - this book isn't much of a hidden gem anymore but the information is still relevant and potent. Its an extremely harsh set of 'laws' one should follow in life to gain power. Masterful read",
"Till We Have Faces by CS Lewis. It takes the Cupid and Psyche myth and centers the story on one of the jealous sisters. I have some problems with Lewis and the way he writes about women, and I don't really subscribe to his beliefs on religion, but the way he explores the themes of jealousy, self-victimization, and what it really means to selflessly love the people around you stuck with me. And the myth aspect to the story makes for an interesting and easy read. ",
"The Five Love Languages and other associated books. Some are better than others, but it's helped my wife and I immensely in our relationship.",
"After reading The Moral Animal (why we are the way we are) I felt that I understood a lot more about us humans :) ",
"The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Can't recommend it enough if you actually do the things he says. Can't recommend it if you're just going to read it.",
"Personality Plus\nThe Five Love Languages\nHow to win Friends and influence People by Dale Carnegie\nHow to Have Confidence and Power When Dealing With People\n\nEverything you'll ever need when dealing with humans.",
"As far as social/world perspective, try reading some of the classics written in the past. The books that have stayed popular, have likely stayed popular for a reason.\n\nI'm not the most avid reader myself, but a while ago I read *The Jungle* by Upton Sinclair. It was written around 1900, and it follows the life of an immigrant family that moves to America looking for opportunity. Of course, nothing turns out to fulfill what they were promised by the rumors they had heard, and they end up with struggle upon struggle. Getting taken advantage of in every way imaginable, because they don't know the language or the culture.\n\nIt showed me just how much we tend to romanticize the immigrants of the past, acting like they walked off the boat knowing English and immediately assimilated into society. But it also made me aware that modern immigrants still face many of the same problems, and I had never really thought much about how hard it is to be an immigrant before. It also made me appreciate the importance of some of the safeguards we've put into place to make sure people aren't being treated like animals (minimum wage, workplace safety laws). Basically, it was interesting to examine the ways in which society has changed, and the ways it's stayed the same.",
"*Siddharta* by Herman Hesse.\n\nGreat story about how you yearn for something and the struggles that follow. I'm not very good at explaining it, but reading it really makes you think about life, humanity, goals and hardships.",
"\"Walden; or, Life in the Woods\" by american philosopher Henry David Thoreau. A collection of notes on self-reliance, simple life and nature.",
"\"Naked economics\" - Charles Wheelan. Great book about the basics of economics, and written in a way that is fun, interesting, and comical. I would highly recommend this to anyone.\n",
"I dunno if good books improve your life, mediocre books might be a lot more practical in day to day life.\n\n\n"
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"How to find some positivity in the state of the world today When I look at the state of affairs today, all I see is the environment crumbling while corrupt politicians shove truth aside to fund agendas. I see people killing innocents in the name of hate, encouraging others to do the same. Nothing is sacred anymore, if you open your mouth to say anything you risk offending someone, and if you dont conform to a commonly accepted mindset or political ideology you're more than likely going to be profiled negatively for it. I'm in my first year of college, and it seems that all I have to look forward to is a college loan that will take me most of my life to pay off, an unsteady job market that makes no promises, and reports that it's only going to get worse. I'd love to raise get married and have kids at some point, but I'm not certain that I'll be able to provide for myself, let alone a hypothetical family. \n\nSo my question is, how do you Redditors stay positive in the face of all this? I'm a pretty positive guy for the most part, but looking at the future in the longterm, it just doesn't seem easy to be optimistic. Not trying to come off as angsty, just genuinely would love some LPTs",
"How to find some positivity in the state of the world today When I look at the state of affairs today, all I see is the environment crumbling while corrupt politicians shove truth aside to fund agendas. I see people killing innocents in the name of hate, encouraging others to do the same. Nothing is sacred anymore, if you open your mouth to say anything you risk offending someone, and if you dont conform to a commonly accepted mindset or political ideology you're more than likely going to be profiled negatively for it. I'm in my first year of college, and it seems that all I have to look forward to is a college loan that will take me most of my life to pay off, an unsteady job market that makes no promises, and reports that it's only going to get worse. I'd love to raise get married and have kids at some point, but I'm not certain that I'll be able to provide for myself, let alone a hypothetical family. \n\nSo my question is, how do you Redditors stay positive in the face of all this? I'm a pretty positive guy for the most part, but looking at the future in the longterm, it just doesn't seem easy to be optimistic. Not trying to come off as angsty, just genuinely would love some LPTs",
"How to find some positivity in the state of the world today When I look at the state of affairs today, all I see is the environment crumbling while corrupt politicians shove truth aside to fund agendas. I see people killing innocents in the name of hate, encouraging others to do the same. Nothing is sacred anymore, if you open your mouth to say anything you risk offending someone, and if you dont conform to a commonly accepted mindset or political ideology you're more than likely going to be profiled negatively for it. I'm in my first year of college, and it seems that all I have to look forward to is a college loan that will take me most of my life to pay off, an unsteady job market that makes no promises, and reports that it's only going to get worse. I'd love to raise get married and have kids at some point, but I'm not certain that I'll be able to provide for myself, let alone a hypothetical family. \n\nSo my question is, how do you Redditors stay positive in the face of all this? I'm a pretty positive guy for the most part, but looking at the future in the longterm, it just doesn't seem easy to be optimistic. Not trying to come off as angsty, just genuinely would love some LPTs",
"How to find some positivity in the state of the world today When I look at the state of affairs today, all I see is the environment crumbling while corrupt politicians shove truth aside to fund agendas. I see people killing innocents in the name of hate, encouraging others to do the same. Nothing is sacred anymore, if you open your mouth to say anything you risk offending someone, and if you dont conform to a commonly accepted mindset or political ideology you're more than likely going to be profiled negatively for it. I'm in my first year of college, and it seems that all I have to look forward to is a college loan that will take me most of my life to pay off, an unsteady job market that makes no promises, and reports that it's only going to get worse. I'd love to raise get married and have kids at some point, but I'm not certain that I'll be able to provide for myself, let alone a hypothetical family. \n\nSo my question is, how do you Redditors stay positive in the face of all this? I'm a pretty positive guy for the most part, but looking at the future in the longterm, it just doesn't seem easy to be optimistic. Not trying to come off as angsty, just genuinely would love some LPTs",
"How to find some positivity in the state of the world today When I look at the state of affairs today, all I see is the environment crumbling while corrupt politicians shove truth aside to fund agendas. I see people killing innocents in the name of hate, encouraging others to do the same. Nothing is sacred anymore, if you open your mouth to say anything you risk offending someone, and if you dont conform to a commonly accepted mindset or political ideology you're more than likely going to be profiled negatively for it. I'm in my first year of college, and it seems that all I have to look forward to is a college loan that will take me most of my life to pay off, an unsteady job market that makes no promises, and reports that it's only going to get worse. I'd love to raise get married and have kids at some point, but I'm not certain that I'll be able to provide for myself, let alone a hypothetical family. \n\nSo my question is, how do you Redditors stay positive in the face of all this? I'm a pretty positive guy for the most part, but looking at the future in the longterm, it just doesn't seem easy to be optimistic. Not trying to come off as angsty, just genuinely would love some LPTs",
"How to find some positivity in the state of the world today When I look at the state of affairs today, all I see is the environment crumbling while corrupt politicians shove truth aside to fund agendas. I see people killing innocents in the name of hate, encouraging others to do the same. Nothing is sacred anymore, if you open your mouth to say anything you risk offending someone, and if you dont conform to a commonly accepted mindset or political ideology you're more than likely going to be profiled negatively for it. I'm in my first year of college, and it seems that all I have to look forward to is a college loan that will take me most of my life to pay off, an unsteady job market that makes no promises, and reports that it's only going to get worse. I'd love to raise get married and have kids at some point, but I'm not certain that I'll be able to provide for myself, let alone a hypothetical family. \n\nSo my question is, how do you Redditors stay positive in the face of all this? I'm a pretty positive guy for the most part, but looking at the future in the longterm, it just doesn't seem easy to be optimistic. Not trying to come off as angsty, just genuinely would love some LPTs",
"How to find some positivity in the state of the world today When I look at the state of affairs today, all I see is the environment crumbling while corrupt politicians shove truth aside to fund agendas. I see people killing innocents in the name of hate, encouraging others to do the same. Nothing is sacred anymore, if you open your mouth to say anything you risk offending someone, and if you dont conform to a commonly accepted mindset or political ideology you're more than likely going to be profiled negatively for it. I'm in my first year of college, and it seems that all I have to look forward to is a college loan that will take me most of my life to pay off, an unsteady job market that makes no promises, and reports that it's only going to get worse. I'd love to raise get married and have kids at some point, but I'm not certain that I'll be able to provide for myself, let alone a hypothetical family. \n\nSo my question is, how do you Redditors stay positive in the face of all this? I'm a pretty positive guy for the most part, but looking at the future in the longterm, it just doesn't seem easy to be optimistic. Not trying to come off as angsty, just genuinely would love some LPTs",
"How to find some positivity in the state of the world today When I look at the state of affairs today, all I see is the environment crumbling while corrupt politicians shove truth aside to fund agendas. I see people killing innocents in the name of hate, encouraging others to do the same. Nothing is sacred anymore, if you open your mouth to say anything you risk offending someone, and if you dont conform to a commonly accepted mindset or political ideology you're more than likely going to be profiled negatively for it. I'm in my first year of college, and it seems that all I have to look forward to is a college loan that will take me most of my life to pay off, an unsteady job market that makes no promises, and reports that it's only going to get worse. I'd love to raise get married and have kids at some point, but I'm not certain that I'll be able to provide for myself, let alone a hypothetical family. \n\nSo my question is, how do you Redditors stay positive in the face of all this? I'm a pretty positive guy for the most part, but looking at the future in the longterm, it just doesn't seem easy to be optimistic. Not trying to come off as angsty, just genuinely would love some LPTs",
"How to find some positivity in the state of the world today When I look at the state of affairs today, all I see is the environment crumbling while corrupt politicians shove truth aside to fund agendas. I see people killing innocents in the name of hate, encouraging others to do the same. Nothing is sacred anymore, if you open your mouth to say anything you risk offending someone, and if you dont conform to a commonly accepted mindset or political ideology you're more than likely going to be profiled negatively for it. I'm in my first year of college, and it seems that all I have to look forward to is a college loan that will take me most of my life to pay off, an unsteady job market that makes no promises, and reports that it's only going to get worse. I'd love to raise get married and have kids at some point, but I'm not certain that I'll be able to provide for myself, let alone a hypothetical family. \n\nSo my question is, how do you Redditors stay positive in the face of all this? I'm a pretty positive guy for the most part, but looking at the future in the longterm, it just doesn't seem easy to be optimistic. Not trying to come off as angsty, just genuinely would love some LPTs",
"How to find some positivity in the state of the world today When I look at the state of affairs today, all I see is the environment crumbling while corrupt politicians shove truth aside to fund agendas. I see people killing innocents in the name of hate, encouraging others to do the same. Nothing is sacred anymore, if you open your mouth to say anything you risk offending someone, and if you dont conform to a commonly accepted mindset or political ideology you're more than likely going to be profiled negatively for it. I'm in my first year of college, and it seems that all I have to look forward to is a college loan that will take me most of my life to pay off, an unsteady job market that makes no promises, and reports that it's only going to get worse. I'd love to raise get married and have kids at some point, but I'm not certain that I'll be able to provide for myself, let alone a hypothetical family. \n\nSo my question is, how do you Redditors stay positive in the face of all this? I'm a pretty positive guy for the most part, but looking at the future in the longterm, it just doesn't seem easy to be optimistic. Not trying to come off as angsty, just genuinely would love some LPTs",
"How to find some positivity in the state of the world today When I look at the state of affairs today, all I see is the environment crumbling while corrupt politicians shove truth aside to fund agendas. I see people killing innocents in the name of hate, encouraging others to do the same. Nothing is sacred anymore, if you open your mouth to say anything you risk offending someone, and if you dont conform to a commonly accepted mindset or political ideology you're more than likely going to be profiled negatively for it. I'm in my first year of college, and it seems that all I have to look forward to is a college loan that will take me most of my life to pay off, an unsteady job market that makes no promises, and reports that it's only going to get worse. I'd love to raise get married and have kids at some point, but I'm not certain that I'll be able to provide for myself, let alone a hypothetical family. \n\nSo my question is, how do you Redditors stay positive in the face of all this? I'm a pretty positive guy for the most part, but looking at the future in the longterm, it just doesn't seem easy to be optimistic. Not trying to come off as angsty, just genuinely would love some LPTs",
"How to find some positivity in the state of the world today When I look at the state of affairs today, all I see is the environment crumbling while corrupt politicians shove truth aside to fund agendas. I see people killing innocents in the name of hate, encouraging others to do the same. Nothing is sacred anymore, if you open your mouth to say anything you risk offending someone, and if you dont conform to a commonly accepted mindset or political ideology you're more than likely going to be profiled negatively for it. I'm in my first year of college, and it seems that all I have to look forward to is a college loan that will take me most of my life to pay off, an unsteady job market that makes no promises, and reports that it's only going to get worse. I'd love to raise get married and have kids at some point, but I'm not certain that I'll be able to provide for myself, let alone a hypothetical family. \n\nSo my question is, how do you Redditors stay positive in the face of all this? I'm a pretty positive guy for the most part, but looking at the future in the longterm, it just doesn't seem easy to be optimistic. Not trying to come off as angsty, just genuinely would love some LPTs",
"How to find some positivity in the state of the world today When I look at the state of affairs today, all I see is the environment crumbling while corrupt politicians shove truth aside to fund agendas. I see people killing innocents in the name of hate, encouraging others to do the same. Nothing is sacred anymore, if you open your mouth to say anything you risk offending someone, and if you dont conform to a commonly accepted mindset or political ideology you're more than likely going to be profiled negatively for it. I'm in my first year of college, and it seems that all I have to look forward to is a college loan that will take me most of my life to pay off, an unsteady job market that makes no promises, and reports that it's only going to get worse. I'd love to raise get married and have kids at some point, but I'm not certain that I'll be able to provide for myself, let alone a hypothetical family. \n\nSo my question is, how do you Redditors stay positive in the face of all this? I'm a pretty positive guy for the most part, but looking at the future in the longterm, it just doesn't seem easy to be optimistic. Not trying to come off as angsty, just genuinely would love some LPTs",
"How to find some positivity in the state of the world today When I look at the state of affairs today, all I see is the environment crumbling while corrupt politicians shove truth aside to fund agendas. I see people killing innocents in the name of hate, encouraging others to do the same. Nothing is sacred anymore, if you open your mouth to say anything you risk offending someone, and if you dont conform to a commonly accepted mindset or political ideology you're more than likely going to be profiled negatively for it. I'm in my first year of college, and it seems that all I have to look forward to is a college loan that will take me most of my life to pay off, an unsteady job market that makes no promises, and reports that it's only going to get worse. I'd love to raise get married and have kids at some point, but I'm not certain that I'll be able to provide for myself, let alone a hypothetical family. \n\nSo my question is, how do you Redditors stay positive in the face of all this? I'm a pretty positive guy for the most part, but looking at the future in the longterm, it just doesn't seem easy to be optimistic. Not trying to come off as angsty, just genuinely would love some LPTs",
"How to find some positivity in the state of the world today When I look at the state of affairs today, all I see is the environment crumbling while corrupt politicians shove truth aside to fund agendas. I see people killing innocents in the name of hate, encouraging others to do the same. Nothing is sacred anymore, if you open your mouth to say anything you risk offending someone, and if you dont conform to a commonly accepted mindset or political ideology you're more than likely going to be profiled negatively for it. I'm in my first year of college, and it seems that all I have to look forward to is a college loan that will take me most of my life to pay off, an unsteady job market that makes no promises, and reports that it's only going to get worse. I'd love to raise get married and have kids at some point, but I'm not certain that I'll be able to provide for myself, let alone a hypothetical family. \n\nSo my question is, how do you Redditors stay positive in the face of all this? I'm a pretty positive guy for the most part, but looking at the future in the longterm, it just doesn't seem easy to be optimistic. Not trying to come off as angsty, just genuinely would love some LPTs",
"How to find some positivity in the state of the world today When I look at the state of affairs today, all I see is the environment crumbling while corrupt politicians shove truth aside to fund agendas. I see people killing innocents in the name of hate, encouraging others to do the same. Nothing is sacred anymore, if you open your mouth to say anything you risk offending someone, and if you dont conform to a commonly accepted mindset or political ideology you're more than likely going to be profiled negatively for it. I'm in my first year of college, and it seems that all I have to look forward to is a college loan that will take me most of my life to pay off, an unsteady job market that makes no promises, and reports that it's only going to get worse. I'd love to raise get married and have kids at some point, but I'm not certain that I'll be able to provide for myself, let alone a hypothetical family. \n\nSo my question is, how do you Redditors stay positive in the face of all this? I'm a pretty positive guy for the most part, but looking at the future in the longterm, it just doesn't seem easy to be optimistic. Not trying to come off as angsty, just genuinely would love some LPTs",
"How to find some positivity in the state of the world today When I look at the state of affairs today, all I see is the environment crumbling while corrupt politicians shove truth aside to fund agendas. I see people killing innocents in the name of hate, encouraging others to do the same. Nothing is sacred anymore, if you open your mouth to say anything you risk offending someone, and if you dont conform to a commonly accepted mindset or political ideology you're more than likely going to be profiled negatively for it. I'm in my first year of college, and it seems that all I have to look forward to is a college loan that will take me most of my life to pay off, an unsteady job market that makes no promises, and reports that it's only going to get worse. I'd love to raise get married and have kids at some point, but I'm not certain that I'll be able to provide for myself, let alone a hypothetical family. \n\nSo my question is, how do you Redditors stay positive in the face of all this? I'm a pretty positive guy for the most part, but looking at the future in the longterm, it just doesn't seem easy to be optimistic. Not trying to come off as angsty, just genuinely would love some LPTs",
"How to find some positivity in the state of the world today When I look at the state of affairs today, all I see is the environment crumbling while corrupt politicians shove truth aside to fund agendas. I see people killing innocents in the name of hate, encouraging others to do the same. Nothing is sacred anymore, if you open your mouth to say anything you risk offending someone, and if you dont conform to a commonly accepted mindset or political ideology you're more than likely going to be profiled negatively for it. I'm in my first year of college, and it seems that all I have to look forward to is a college loan that will take me most of my life to pay off, an unsteady job market that makes no promises, and reports that it's only going to get worse. I'd love to raise get married and have kids at some point, but I'm not certain that I'll be able to provide for myself, let alone a hypothetical family. \n\nSo my question is, how do you Redditors stay positive in the face of all this? I'm a pretty positive guy for the most part, but looking at the future in the longterm, it just doesn't seem easy to be optimistic. Not trying to come off as angsty, just genuinely would love some LPTs",
"How to find some positivity in the state of the world today When I look at the state of affairs today, all I see is the environment crumbling while corrupt politicians shove truth aside to fund agendas. I see people killing innocents in the name of hate, encouraging others to do the same. Nothing is sacred anymore, if you open your mouth to say anything you risk offending someone, and if you dont conform to a commonly accepted mindset or political ideology you're more than likely going to be profiled negatively for it. I'm in my first year of college, and it seems that all I have to look forward to is a college loan that will take me most of my life to pay off, an unsteady job market that makes no promises, and reports that it's only going to get worse. I'd love to raise get married and have kids at some point, but I'm not certain that I'll be able to provide for myself, let alone a hypothetical family. \n\nSo my question is, how do you Redditors stay positive in the face of all this? I'm a pretty positive guy for the most part, but looking at the future in the longterm, it just doesn't seem easy to be optimistic. Not trying to come off as angsty, just genuinely would love some LPTs",
"How to find some positivity in the state of the world today When I look at the state of affairs today, all I see is the environment crumbling while corrupt politicians shove truth aside to fund agendas. I see people killing innocents in the name of hate, encouraging others to do the same. Nothing is sacred anymore, if you open your mouth to say anything you risk offending someone, and if you dont conform to a commonly accepted mindset or political ideology you're more than likely going to be profiled negatively for it. I'm in my first year of college, and it seems that all I have to look forward to is a college loan that will take me most of my life to pay off, an unsteady job market that makes no promises, and reports that it's only going to get worse. I'd love to raise get married and have kids at some point, but I'm not certain that I'll be able to provide for myself, let alone a hypothetical family. \n\nSo my question is, how do you Redditors stay positive in the face of all this? I'm a pretty positive guy for the most part, but looking at the future in the longterm, it just doesn't seem easy to be optimistic. Not trying to come off as angsty, just genuinely would love some LPTs",
"How to find some positivity in the state of the world today When I look at the state of affairs today, all I see is the environment crumbling while corrupt politicians shove truth aside to fund agendas. I see people killing innocents in the name of hate, encouraging others to do the same. Nothing is sacred anymore, if you open your mouth to say anything you risk offending someone, and if you dont conform to a commonly accepted mindset or political ideology you're more than likely going to be profiled negatively for it. I'm in my first year of college, and it seems that all I have to look forward to is a college loan that will take me most of my life to pay off, an unsteady job market that makes no promises, and reports that it's only going to get worse. I'd love to raise get married and have kids at some point, but I'm not certain that I'll be able to provide for myself, let alone a hypothetical family. \n\nSo my question is, how do you Redditors stay positive in the face of all this? I'm a pretty positive guy for the most part, but looking at the future in the longterm, it just doesn't seem easy to be optimistic. Not trying to come off as angsty, just genuinely would love some LPTs",
"How to find some positivity in the state of the world today When I look at the state of affairs today, all I see is the environment crumbling while corrupt politicians shove truth aside to fund agendas. I see people killing innocents in the name of hate, encouraging others to do the same. Nothing is sacred anymore, if you open your mouth to say anything you risk offending someone, and if you dont conform to a commonly accepted mindset or political ideology you're more than likely going to be profiled negatively for it. I'm in my first year of college, and it seems that all I have to look forward to is a college loan that will take me most of my life to pay off, an unsteady job market that makes no promises, and reports that it's only going to get worse. I'd love to raise get married and have kids at some point, but I'm not certain that I'll be able to provide for myself, let alone a hypothetical family. \n\nSo my question is, how do you Redditors stay positive in the face of all this? I'm a pretty positive guy for the most part, but looking at the future in the longterm, it just doesn't seem easy to be optimistic. Not trying to come off as angsty, just genuinely would love some LPTs",
"How to find some positivity in the state of the world today When I look at the state of affairs today, all I see is the environment crumbling while corrupt politicians shove truth aside to fund agendas. I see people killing innocents in the name of hate, encouraging others to do the same. Nothing is sacred anymore, if you open your mouth to say anything you risk offending someone, and if you dont conform to a commonly accepted mindset or political ideology you're more than likely going to be profiled negatively for it. I'm in my first year of college, and it seems that all I have to look forward to is a college loan that will take me most of my life to pay off, an unsteady job market that makes no promises, and reports that it's only going to get worse. I'd love to raise get married and have kids at some point, but I'm not certain that I'll be able to provide for myself, let alone a hypothetical family. \n\nSo my question is, how do you Redditors stay positive in the face of all this? I'm a pretty positive guy for the most part, but looking at the future in the longterm, it just doesn't seem easy to be optimistic. Not trying to come off as angsty, just genuinely would love some LPTs"
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"Realize that the good news doesn't sell. No one would watch a news show or read a newspaper loaded with nothing but good news.\n\nWhat I am trying to say is the world has plenty of good you just don't always hear about it in the news.\n\nAlso, /r/upliftingnews",
"For me, the biggest thing was unfollowing news sources from social media, turning off the news on tv, etc.\n\nIn my day-to-day life, there is little I can do to help with any tragedies abroad, so i focus more on my family and community.\n\nHopefully that doesn't sound ignorant, or like I don't care about the world. I just believe that I can impact my little corner a lot more than I can the entire planet at once.\n\n",
"Take some history classes. It is difficult to understand just how good life is in the US right now without knowledge of the past. Once you have that, you can start to view life from a perspective of how much better things have gotten rather than how things still need to improve.",
"Delete Facebook. Limit Reddit time. Go outside more and enjoy the sunshine. Drink your coffee/tea the way you like it. Read that book you've been meaning to do for a while. You don't have to do something super elaborate to be happy; happiness is in the small things that make you smile.",
"I always remember this quote from another thread \"The world isn't filled with rainbows and butterflies, but there are rainbows and butterflies in it.\" You have to know that even though the bad outshines the good there are many more good things happening than the bad. The world is getting better, just the worse information spreads faster than the good stuff. It's What You choose to focus on.",
"(Sorry for my broken English.) \nWell i can give you this selfish advice: \n**Stop thinking too much about things that you can't fix.** \nCan you stop hunger people in Africa? **No.** \nCan you stop terrorism? **No.** \nDoes death of stranger people in another country physically affect you? **No.** \nDo you have responsibility for solving every single global problem in this world? **No.** \n \nAs i can see you probably is worried about picture of world given by media. In reality it isn't that bad, future is **great** from my point of view. Hard to explain in one message but in last 20-70 years mankind evolved so much. Projects of renewable electricity, medicine know how to cure great number of disease, people getting education and etc. \n \nAbout positive part, the truth is (at least for me). You **can't** always feel positive about everything it is just part of human nature. \nBut bad feeling usually comes when you worried about yourself, about your future or about things you feel responsible for. \nYou worried about future? You want to know what will happen? \nThe next advice i can give: \n**Sit down and write your life plan for next 5 years more detail you write in it the better vision of your future you will have, the less worries you will have.** \nIf you don't know some stuff just go google it or ask people about it. Want to know how to deal college loan? Ask about it. Just make sure that you know about events in **your** life that will happen. \nP.S. You cant really read and learn from other people mistakes but if you can it is great. Never(fucking ***NEVER***) look at your bad past with desire to change it, instead think about it as expensive life lesson. \nYou have whole life ahead enjoy sadness and happiness of it.\nED: typo",
"I just genuinely live my life, make the world a better place around me, and always try to spread a smile with others and keep life simple.\n\nI workout, I run, I hike, I listen to chill music, enjoy the wonderful company of my SO and my two dogs, and often ride to and from work on a beach cruiser.\n\nEssentially, I'm just mindful, I keep my mind in the present and don't let the outside noise in. Life is way too short to get caught up in the drama. Keep things chill and positive and life sorts itself out.\n\nBest of luck my friend.",
"Spend time away from media and use it somewhere that media doesn't touch. Play arcade games at a local pizza place. Volunteer to wash dogs at a local shelter. Sign up for an afternoon dance class. Sit in a library and read a tween book from front to back. Sit at a park and document what you observe for an hour. There's so much more happening in the world that these terrible but singular occurrences of tragedy, but when the spotlight only shines on the terrible, it's hard to see the rest. You have to make an active choice to see ALL that is going on around you rather than subscribing to the \"if it bleeds, it leads\" view of life. ",
"This time right now is one of if not the best time ever, of course we have problems but less than we used to. One of the main things that's changed is how connected we are; this is both a tad irritating and one of the most awesome things that's ever happened. It means that we hear about more worse things because they are interesting and sell (a lose of life sells more than the loss of a problem). But it also means we can learn so much more and work together so much better! In so many cases we have battled with words not weapons because we can now meet and talk due to advances in communication. Sure we have global warming now but we also have a hell of a lot of investment in green energy(not reported because it's a bit dull), and yeah there's corrupt politicians but there's also some great ones(obamacare e.c.t). I'm not going to lie people do push messages of hate, but a hell of a lot more push for peace, they're just more quiet and polite. Our world is not the best ever as the best is yet to come.",
"If you like programming (or even if not), start following and using open source software. I find it so refreshing and uplifting to be a part of those communities. And they have \"news\" ALL the time. New programs, new versions, new languages. Everybody is sharing things for free and providing genuine valuable help to each other. It's quite unreal. To me, it is probably the single greatest movement in human civilisation. When else have so many people from around the world worked together and helped each other out to this degree.",
"Realize that most of the shit happening in the world doesn't concern you directly. It's not nice what is happening almost every day now it seems, but it rarely has impact on the individual. ",
"One of the ways I stay happy through little positive interactions with random individuals daily. You'd be surprised how your mood is uplifted by intentionally making eye contact with a store clerk, creating small conversation with waiters or such, smiling at strangers, asking the names of people you see frequently (i.e. your barista) so you can speak to them in a more friendly/personal manner, holding the door for people, complimenting strangers/acquaintances, etc. Make the effort to spread positivity and kindness to others beyond your social circle and you will feel uplifted, spread happiness that the world needs today, and gain some serious karma. :)",
"https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oUhA6fjgnLY\n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SJUhlRoBL8M\n\n/r/upliftingnews",
"The most important thing is to ensure you remind yourself that, whilst the world today is scary and far far from perfect, you have been born in what is the best time to be alive. \nHuman Beings have access to countless amounts of knowledge and education through the internet as well as instant communication around most of the world. We can travel by numerous types of transport around the world and be halfway around the world before the day is over. Medicine has progressed drastically to the point that illnesses that were a problem 100 years ago now are barely a threat to us. Opportunity for people is present more now than it ever has been before, Racism has decreased drastically, Sexism has decreased drastically. Acceptance of differences and Progressive ideas are on the rise and will likely continue in that way. \nWhatever issues the world appears to be in currently think of the past. Holocaust, Dysentry, Plague, Work from the age of 10, Average life to around 50, Herecy, Slavery etc etc. \nOur world is far from perfect but this is the best time to be about and looking at history it looks like life is logically going to get better as society becomes a community/union and technology improves. In 200 years time maybe we'll look back at today as terrible in comparison to the lives they are all living the same way we can today. ",
"It's simple, you put your phone down and get off the internet. Stop watching and reading the news entirely. Focus on reality, on your actual life, on being a good example. ",
"If we could harness all the energy from hand jobs around the world that would be positive. Lots of happy people and energy from it, too. Imagine that.",
"I'm actually a waiter myself at the moment, and this is exactly the thing I try to do to all of my customers ",
"Go to an community college if you can help it. I have a 2 year degree and had only ten thousand in student loans when I finished. My first job I started out at 40 a year. Most employers in my area don't give a shit if you have a 2 year vs a for year - as long as you present yourself well, work hard, and do the job. This generation is so lazy, if you work hard, it is very easy to make it. As for the other stuff, I cut myself off from it. I'm not gonna let anyone else bring me down. Life is hard enough as it is.",
"Create positivity. If you do good, then there is good in the world. Find a way to weave that into every aspect of your life.\n\nSo for instance, I work for a charity that looks after vulnerable young people, I donate clothes to charity, I'm a minimalist, I don't drive, I'm currently trying to cut down my meat intake (SO hard - I'm a total carnivore), I try to use recycled paper and natural cleaning products, I conserve electricity, I donate my time to children's charities because I have skills that are useful, I vote etc. \n\nFind things that work for your life - don't worry about doing everything. You can't possibly fix every problem but by finding little ways to do your bit, you reclaim your sense of control and contribution to the world. You're really at the start of your life, you have so much time to figure things out. Don't focus on the problems - focus on how you can contribute to solutions. ",
"College could very well be the best years of your life, be sure to attend every floor meeting, go to every event, especially in the beginning. There are lifelong friends to be found in college. Also, about your student debt, look into your school's acceptance of CLEP/DSST exams. These are for cr",
"Again it is a matter of perspective. I think our biggest challenge with all these challenging news is to educate ourselves better. One might think \"by educating\" I mean \"to read the news\" but no. I mean, to go beyond that and understand the background of all these headlines. Motives, interests, history, agendas, data (how many people are actually representing that event), among others. That way we will truly find ourselves in a better position to make a fair judgement. My two cents, ",
"Well, it really is a much safer world than it's ever been. That said, I've always enjoyed this quote by Petyr Baelish\n\n\"Chaos isn't a pit. Chaos is a ladder. Many who try to climb it fail and never get to try again. The fall breaks them. And some, are given a chance to climb. They refuse, they cling to the realm or the gods or love. Illusions. Only the ladder is real. The climb is all there is.\"\n\n\n \n\n\n\nBut yeah...we're just watching too much TV",
"Empower yourself by taking initative by learning wjat you need to do to succeed in the field you are pursuing and working your ass off to get there.\n\nIs your college degree going to be something that can apply to a job field quickly out of school (software engineering, accounting, finance, maybe teaching, etc)? This is a big key to finding some stability in the job market IMO. Sometimes going for a degree you dont love but will give you the peace of mind of not being clueless once you leave school and you always go back for another degree later or part time while you work. \n\nIf you can, go to a cheaper state school, work during college even if it's a few hours weekly. This is a major help, especially if you're studies a liberal arts related degree and know you are going to be stuck with massive loans (and arent going to Harvard or another extremely prestigious school). Social sciences, Lit, English, etc will require furthur education to (usually) get a decent job and you will need to get more loans to pursue post bfa education.\n\nYou are more empowered than you think. Research interships agressively now and pursue them now. Interships are CRUCIAL to have relevant professional experience. Speak to people working the field you want to be in NOW. Build relationships and find a mentor in that field."
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"How to get motivated to eat again. Recently, I don't feel like eating nearly as much as before, or at least don't notice it. How do I feel like eating again?",
"How to get motivated to eat again. Recently, I don't feel like eating nearly as much as before, or at least don't notice it. How do I feel like eating again?",
"How to get motivated to eat again. Recently, I don't feel like eating nearly as much as before, or at least don't notice it. How do I feel like eating again?",
"How to get motivated to eat again. Recently, I don't feel like eating nearly as much as before, or at least don't notice it. How do I feel like eating again?"
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"Not enough information provided to help. Are you eating one LESS slice of bacon, or skipping meals entirely? Is something, like say a drug or severe gaming addiction, replacing the need to eat altogether? or is it just a lower priority or a serious you're-losing-weight or you're-eating-nothing-nutritious problem? \n\nCount how many calories you're eating each day and see if it's enough. You might just be between growth spurts, or you might have a serious problem.\n",
"If you aren't sick then don't worry about it. I follow this special diet called \"I only eat when I'm hungry\" and it works well for me.",
"Have you seen a doctor? Probably a good idea to make sure that this isn't a medical problem. If it's not, I'd say get more exercise. Burning calories should leave you hungry. ",
"Assuming you are an adult and have no other serious health issues, try pot. It's often used medically for just that, to increase appetite."
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"What kind of dish cloths remove the most moisture from a washed dish? I'm after efficiency. I am sick of buying dish cloths that required me to make several wipes over a dish to remove water from them. I expect dishes to be dry and streak free within a couple of swipes.\n\nShould I be buying a particular type of dish cloth?",
"What kind of dish cloths remove the most moisture from a washed dish? I'm after efficiency. I am sick of buying dish cloths that required me to make several wipes over a dish to remove water from them. I expect dishes to be dry and streak free within a couple of swipes.\n\nShould I be buying a particular type of dish cloth?",
"What kind of dish cloths remove the most moisture from a washed dish? I'm after efficiency. I am sick of buying dish cloths that required me to make several wipes over a dish to remove water from them. I expect dishes to be dry and streak free within a couple of swipes.\n\nShould I be buying a particular type of dish cloth?",
"What kind of dish cloths remove the most moisture from a washed dish? I'm after efficiency. I am sick of buying dish cloths that required me to make several wipes over a dish to remove water from them. I expect dishes to be dry and streak free within a couple of swipes.\n\nShould I be buying a particular type of dish cloth?"
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"I use a thick waffle type dishcloth myself but dishcloths marketed as dishcloths are usually pretty good. It could be the way that you’re laundering them that’s making their absorbency less effective. Fabric softener, for example, is generally a big *no-no*. Some are meant to be line-dried, while others can be tossed in the dryer *without* a drying sheet. It’s one of those things where following the manufacturer’s wash instructions is super important. \n\nI also recommend you rinse your dishes in the hottest water temperature possible, let them drip dry for a bit in the rack or on your mat, organizing them there in a way that doesn’t allow water to sit in any pockets, and then go ahead and finish drying them by wiping them with your dishcloth. \n\nHope this helps, OP.",
"Stop using fabric softener/ dryer sheets the cloths you have will triple their absorbency after three or four washes without it",
"Scott's has blue contractor paper towels, thick, lint free, and absorbent. Rinse dishes with pure hot water then place in dish rack for a couple minutes. Tear off two sheets, fold in half and dry as you put away. repeat until all dishes are dry. If you can find a small countertop drying tree you can unfold the damp towels and place on the drying tree. If you aren't rough with the towels you can probably get 1/2 dozen uses from each.",
"Maybe a stupid question but: Did you wash them first? New dishcloths, straight from the store don’t work at all."
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"Things I can have in my car (or things that I can do) that will make it easier to pick up run away dogs. I tried chasing down a dog yesterday that was clearly running away, and I drove around and even ran after it for a long time, but I couldn't get it to come to me and it really upset me. What sort of preparations can I have in my car to make them come to me easier? What sort of actions do I take if I pass by a dog that looks owned and on the run? Do treats work? Dog whistles? Does anyone have experience with this?\n\n*This is not for stray dogs or dogs that look dangerous. This tip is obviously for domesticated animals who look like they're running away from home.",
"Things I can have in my car (or things that I can do) that will make it easier to pick up run away dogs. I tried chasing down a dog yesterday that was clearly running away, and I drove around and even ran after it for a long time, but I couldn't get it to come to me and it really upset me. What sort of preparations can I have in my car to make them come to me easier? What sort of actions do I take if I pass by a dog that looks owned and on the run? Do treats work? Dog whistles? Does anyone have experience with this?\n\n*This is not for stray dogs or dogs that look dangerous. This tip is obviously for domesticated animals who look like they're running away from home."
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"Dog treats/beef jerky or something to lure them\n\nOld towels \n\nWater bottles and a dog bowl\n\nCollar and leash\n\nThick work gloves\n\nA crate/kennel if you really wanna be prepared but you run the risk of looking even more like a dog-napper lol\n\n\nDon't feel bad if you can't catch a runaway - they just escaped and are having a great time, they don't wanna get caught! He might be having a jaunt and then plan to go home. Those dogs will probably not be lured in by you, but its worth a try if they are tiny or look like they're gonna get themselves run over or eaten. \n\nOnly time I've picked up a random dog in my car was this huge wet fluffy sheep dog bounding around in the street. He just didn't seem like he knew what he was doing, and was all wet, so for *some reason* I pulled over and got this GIANT wet dog in the back of my SUV. Took him to the vet listed on the tags, the owners were out of town, and no one even said thanks to me except the dog \n\n*Also, SERIOUSLY be careful doing this. If you get bitten by an animal, YOU MUST TAKE THAT ANIMAL TO BE TESTED FOR RABIES or there is no way of knowing whether or not you now have rabies. If that animal has rabies or if you can't be sure it doesn't have rabies, you will need a ~$30,000 emergency shot to the abdomen, or you will die. ",
"I always carry dry food and bowls and water bottles in the car. Also canned cat food. Also a leash. That way, i can coax the lost animal to me and for some reason if I can't, I leave the food (empty the can in a parade Bowl and take the can so nothing can hurt themselves) and I leave water so that they can at least eat something later on. I've never been bitten and I've gone through horrible neighborhoods to rescue anything from pits to rotties, etc. They all just want love. And if I happen to ever see an aggressive animal, which I never have, I'd call the local shelter to help. Usually though, the animal is scared and probably has been hurt by people so it's not that it is aggressive, it's being protective of itself which is understandable. \nThey are more scared of you and once in the car, they collapse in the back seat from relief. Once I picked up three dogs all diff sizes and they just slept in the back of the car. \nI take them to a local shelter, not city run if I can help it because they are overcrowded. Then they can get checked out and have a chance to get adopted and off the dangerous streets for good. "
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"Stay warm in cold house All I want to do is hide under blankets or in bed. Unfortunately, I have stuff to get done.\nI've tried the usual wearing layers (thick socks, sweaters).\nAny suggestions are appreciated!",
"Stay warm in cold house All I want to do is hide under blankets or in bed. Unfortunately, I have stuff to get done.\nI've tried the usual wearing layers (thick socks, sweaters).\nAny suggestions are appreciated!",
"Stay warm in cold house All I want to do is hide under blankets or in bed. Unfortunately, I have stuff to get done.\nI've tried the usual wearing layers (thick socks, sweaters).\nAny suggestions are appreciated!",
"Stay warm in cold house All I want to do is hide under blankets or in bed. Unfortunately, I have stuff to get done.\nI've tried the usual wearing layers (thick socks, sweaters).\nAny suggestions are appreciated!",
"Stay warm in cold house All I want to do is hide under blankets or in bed. Unfortunately, I have stuff to get done.\nI've tried the usual wearing layers (thick socks, sweaters).\nAny suggestions are appreciated!",
"Stay warm in cold house All I want to do is hide under blankets or in bed. Unfortunately, I have stuff to get done.\nI've tried the usual wearing layers (thick socks, sweaters).\nAny suggestions are appreciated!",
"Stay warm in cold house All I want to do is hide under blankets or in bed. Unfortunately, I have stuff to get done.\nI've tried the usual wearing layers (thick socks, sweaters).\nAny suggestions are appreciated!",
"Stay warm in cold house All I want to do is hide under blankets or in bed. Unfortunately, I have stuff to get done.\nI've tried the usual wearing layers (thick socks, sweaters).\nAny suggestions are appreciated!",
"Stay warm in cold house All I want to do is hide under blankets or in bed. Unfortunately, I have stuff to get done.\nI've tried the usual wearing layers (thick socks, sweaters).\nAny suggestions are appreciated!",
"Stay warm in cold house All I want to do is hide under blankets or in bed. Unfortunately, I have stuff to get done.\nI've tried the usual wearing layers (thick socks, sweaters).\nAny suggestions are appreciated!",
"Stay warm in cold house All I want to do is hide under blankets or in bed. Unfortunately, I have stuff to get done.\nI've tried the usual wearing layers (thick socks, sweaters).\nAny suggestions are appreciated!",
"Stay warm in cold house All I want to do is hide under blankets or in bed. Unfortunately, I have stuff to get done.\nI've tried the usual wearing layers (thick socks, sweaters).\nAny suggestions are appreciated!",
"Stay warm in cold house All I want to do is hide under blankets or in bed. Unfortunately, I have stuff to get done.\nI've tried the usual wearing layers (thick socks, sweaters).\nAny suggestions are appreciated!",
"Stay warm in cold house All I want to do is hide under blankets or in bed. Unfortunately, I have stuff to get done.\nI've tried the usual wearing layers (thick socks, sweaters).\nAny suggestions are appreciated!",
"Stay warm in cold house All I want to do is hide under blankets or in bed. Unfortunately, I have stuff to get done.\nI've tried the usual wearing layers (thick socks, sweaters).\nAny suggestions are appreciated!"
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"I've always been warm as long as my feet are warm. When I lived in colder climates I would have toe warmers around for situations just like this. Slide a pair in a set of slippers, slide those on and I would be nice and toasty.",
"You can get thermal under garments to put under your shirt and pants, that will help. Wear slippers or shoes around the house. If you have a beanie cap, or any comfortable hat you can wear will also help your body heat from escaping. ",
"Pick a room, close the doors and stay in it\n \nAny time you have to leave the room be sure to close the door \n \nUse warm colored lights (subconsciously make you feel warmer)\n \n-Candles work wonders (the smell can comfort you as well)\n \nIf you can, use fabric with a warm touch - doesn't matter how cold it is, velvet/fur/fleece always feels cosy when you first touch it.\n \nI was pretty poor for a few months once - learned some great life lessons\n\n",
"If your house is cold it's because it is losing heat from lack of insulation somewhere.\n\nFind the leak! \n- Windows, window frames, doors, and door frames are common sources of air leaks. Check for cold drafts or sounds of air flow. \n\nFix the leak!\n-Permanent solutions would involve repair or replacement of the structures that are leaking. But there are many easy way to temporarily fix leaks! Something as simple as a plastic sheet taped over a window can offer a noticeable amount of insulation.\n\n",
"Get into 3D rendering, or do something like Seti@Home, BOINC, or bitcoin mining. Keeps the CPU and possibly GPU running, and it's about the same as having a ceramic disk heater that's also doing something more useful than just making heat.\n\nIf you're running a computer at it's full load and the PSU is upwards of 500w, that's not a negligable amount of heat. Not scorching, but over a few hours it can keep a room comfortably warm to toasty.",
"Sleep only under a light blanket. You won't feel uncomfortable in temperatures higher than where you sleep.",
"Buy cheap gloves and cut the finger tips off. It will keep your hands warm but not interfere with needed dexterity for typing or tying.",
"house slippers seem to be the best remedy for this. Keep your extremeties warm and you will be warm. WHen your tootsies get cold, its all over.",
"Warm socks as others have said, two pairs if required. I keep all the doors closed, if I am struggling to keep warm despite the heating being on I go for a brisk walk while all bundled up with clothes. Then when you get home it seems incredibly warm. ",
"This is what I do.\n\nIf you are sitting at a desk, this kind of thing is awesome. Cozy Products FW Foot Warmer Heated Foot Warming Mat Rubber Design\n\nA simple solution to warm up is a corn bag. You warm them up in the microwave and wear them where ever you are cold.\n\nWool socks are best. Damp socks will never warm you up. Cotton is the worst.\n\nDown vest really helps. ",
"Invest in a space heater!\nVery affordable and does the job. \nRoom gets warm in minutes, but does a very poor job in an open area. Also depends on the type of space heater you get for that situation, but it definitely helps.",
"If you live someplace dry, like the Western USA, consider a humidifier. In Denver, where I live, indoor air in the winter can be amazingly dry, because heating air reduces its relative humidity considerably. When we added a humidifier to our home, we found that boosting indoor RH to 50% or so made it much more comfortable.\n\nIf you live someplace really humid (Seattle, the east coast, the southern USA), a humidifier won't help.",
"I usually just put on a comfy coat (if it's extreme cold in the house) or a light to heavy hoody if it's not that bad. Also your bed and blanket are your friends in this situation. When I was a kid my dad would leave the oven on, and it eventually got through the whole house. That is also an option I guess.",
"Don't just worry about insulation. When it is insulated think about the thirmal mass. An empty well insulated room will lose all its beat when the front door is opened and a the hot air escapes. Stone walls will gradually take heat from the air in a warm room. When all the hot air escapes when the front door opens the stone walls will give back that heat quickly. Also keeps a room cool in the heat of summer.",
"Basement dweller here! When things get really cold, I tend to put my next day's clothing under the covers with me when I sleep, so that I won't be changing into cold clothing in the mornings. I'm also a big fan of fleece legging under my jeans and finger-less gloves. I find that in addition to keeping my feet and ears warm, that it really helps to keep my wrists warm. Not entirely sure why. If you're working sitting down, you might want to think about an electric warming pad. Careful, though, I've burned myself with one before (~8 hrs of direct contact on my back, to deal with pain, left it looking sunburnt, and warm to the touch for days). Put down rugs on the floors, if they're not carpeted already! \n\nHope this helps!"
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"How to not feel like a zombie in the morning and get up from bed easier? I've tried http://sleepyti.me/ but regardless of sleeping 7½ or 9 hours (or other suggested times), I'm still tired in the morning.",
"How to not feel like a zombie in the morning and get up from bed easier? I've tried http://sleepyti.me/ but regardless of sleeping 7½ or 9 hours (or other suggested times), I'm still tired in the morning.",
"How to not feel like a zombie in the morning and get up from bed easier? I've tried http://sleepyti.me/ but regardless of sleeping 7½ or 9 hours (or other suggested times), I'm still tired in the morning.",
"How to not feel like a zombie in the morning and get up from bed easier? I've tried http://sleepyti.me/ but regardless of sleeping 7½ or 9 hours (or other suggested times), I'm still tired in the morning.",
"How to not feel like a zombie in the morning and get up from bed easier? I've tried http://sleepyti.me/ but regardless of sleeping 7½ or 9 hours (or other suggested times), I'm still tired in the morning.",
"How to not feel like a zombie in the morning and get up from bed easier? I've tried http://sleepyti.me/ but regardless of sleeping 7½ or 9 hours (or other suggested times), I'm still tired in the morning.",
"How to not feel like a zombie in the morning and get up from bed easier? I've tried http://sleepyti.me/ but regardless of sleeping 7½ or 9 hours (or other suggested times), I'm still tired in the morning.",
"How to not feel like a zombie in the morning and get up from bed easier? I've tried http://sleepyti.me/ but regardless of sleeping 7½ or 9 hours (or other suggested times), I'm still tired in the morning.",
"How to not feel like a zombie in the morning and get up from bed easier? I've tried http://sleepyti.me/ but regardless of sleeping 7½ or 9 hours (or other suggested times), I'm still tired in the morning.",
"How to not feel like a zombie in the morning and get up from bed easier? I've tried http://sleepyti.me/ but regardless of sleeping 7½ or 9 hours (or other suggested times), I'm still tired in the morning.",
"How to not feel like a zombie in the morning and get up from bed easier? I've tried http://sleepyti.me/ but regardless of sleeping 7½ or 9 hours (or other suggested times), I'm still tired in the morning."
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"It's a natural condition but it's a trained response. You have to force yourself to get up immediately after you wake up. Get up the second you become conscious or as fast as possible. Glass of water, medium physical activity like a few push-ups or jumping jacks and stretches will help shake it. \n\nIt takes a few days or weeks depending on your other health and sleep habits, but eventually you'll wake up alert and ready to go. \n\nIn the same respect, if you lay in bed and go back to sleep or doze with the snooze on certain days, you'll interrupt the conditioning of your brain and screw up the quality of sleep you get even more. ",
"get an app called Sleep Cycle (iOS). it measures how much you toss and turn, so when you're most active, it plays a song to wake you up. that way, you're not super tired when your alarm goes off. it actually works. ",
"Enjoy your job/life is by far the easiest way to do this.\n\nI have never been a morning person, and recently had to re-evaluate my job and found I wasn't happy with it due to just general laziness. Through various sources I got motivated, that gave me a real passion for my job, and I just get up in the mornings now where I could have easily snoozed for an hour or more before - even if it was important that I was on time.",
"I was sleeping but not getting rest when I slept. I tried a lot of different things. The thing that worked for me was trace minerals. I got a spectrum trace mineral mix and I sleep better and get more rest. the primary mineral to look at is magnesium.\n\nIt's what worked for me, YMMV.",
"Check for symptoms of Sleep Apena. It is much more wide-spread that you might think. I didn't think I had it because I don't snore (I thought one of the key traits was loud snoring). After a sleep study, I found out I thought I was getting many hours of sleep but in fact I was only getting 3.5hrs of the type of sleep needed to function.",
"Use a really, really annoying ringtone on your phone. A song you hate or that is incredibly loud. Now place it about 3-5 meters away from your bed before going to sleep.\n\nIf you really can't stand the alarm, you need to get up to silence it. Works for me every time.",
"Take a shower when you wake up. While rinsing your body make sure the water is cold or cold/ luke warm. This will wake you up give your hair a nice shine and is very good for your skin. I would recommend drinking a cold glass of water as soon as you wake up. This is telling your body to get ready for an activity thus will make you more awake and alert. ",
"Put your alarm clock across the room or under your bed. When you get up, you will have to go and shut it off, instead of hitting the snooze when you're half asleep and just going back to sleep.",
"Not healthy, but you could set your alarm for 30 mins before you need to get up and take a caffeine pill. That way, the caffeine starts working right as you need to wake up. I have to take ADD meds, so this is what I do (since they wake you up).",
"I used to be a like a zombie when waking up and I fixed it for myself by having the lights in my room(I live in a basement apartment with no windows) gradually turn on starting a few hours before I want to wake up. By the time you want to wake up you may already be past the deep sleep phase and be in a more light sleep because your body took the queue to start waking up.",
"Have kids... Oversleeping will be a thing of the past. Seriously though, I was the same as you until I had kids. I think that the added sense of urgency to get up (kid screaming), and training my body to hit REM sleep quickly (you never know when they're going to start screaming again) must have helped to make me a morning person. I'm not sure if you could replicate this, but it would be an interesting experiment. "
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"How to get an anxious dog to settle down and not bark. My roommates dog is so annoying. She has waayyyyy too much energy. Even if you try wearing her out, it doesn't work. It's so hard to get her to relax, and she's always up in your space. \nShe has FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) so she is constantly following you, and gets really upset if she's gated in the other room. She barks so much and so so LOUD. It's piercing. ",
"How to get an anxious dog to settle down and not bark. My roommates dog is so annoying. She has waayyyyy too much energy. Even if you try wearing her out, it doesn't work. It's so hard to get her to relax, and she's always up in your space. \nShe has FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) so she is constantly following you, and gets really upset if she's gated in the other room. She barks so much and so so LOUD. It's piercing. ",
"How to get an anxious dog to settle down and not bark. My roommates dog is so annoying. She has waayyyyy too much energy. Even if you try wearing her out, it doesn't work. It's so hard to get her to relax, and she's always up in your space. \nShe has FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) so she is constantly following you, and gets really upset if she's gated in the other room. She barks so much and so so LOUD. It's piercing. ",
"How to get an anxious dog to settle down and not bark. My roommates dog is so annoying. She has waayyyyy too much energy. Even if you try wearing her out, it doesn't work. It's so hard to get her to relax, and she's always up in your space. \nShe has FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) so she is constantly following you, and gets really upset if she's gated in the other room. She barks so much and so so LOUD. It's piercing. ",
"How to get an anxious dog to settle down and not bark. My roommates dog is so annoying. She has waayyyyy too much energy. Even if you try wearing her out, it doesn't work. It's so hard to get her to relax, and she's always up in your space. \nShe has FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) so she is constantly following you, and gets really upset if she's gated in the other room. She barks so much and so so LOUD. It's piercing. ",
"How to get an anxious dog to settle down and not bark. My roommates dog is so annoying. She has waayyyyy too much energy. Even if you try wearing her out, it doesn't work. It's so hard to get her to relax, and she's always up in your space. \nShe has FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) so she is constantly following you, and gets really upset if she's gated in the other room. She barks so much and so so LOUD. It's piercing. "
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"First off, do NOT tell the dog things are okay and say things like \"its okay\" \"good girl\" and pet the dog etc... This only encourages the nervous behavior. You need to ignore it as long as its not destructive. Ignoring the dog (no looking, talking, moving out of its way etc..) is the quickest way to get it to realize you hve no interest. You can verbally correct her, but do it quickly and look away. Do not stare or constantly repeat yourself, thats just begging your dog and she knows shes winning. Say it once and make it happen. Do this with a commanding voice and attitude and they will get the point. No need for violence or screaming. Be consistent!",
"I can't say it with any kind of authority, but what has worked for me is training. By that I mean basic clicker training with treats, getting them to sit, lie down, roll over, etc. 5 minutes a couple of times a day.\n\nSeems to burn off a lot of that mental energy that otherwise goes into anxiety. Also you strengthen your bond with them and you're positively reinforcing quiet, relaxed and obedient kind of behaviour.\n\nThere's hours of youtube videos on how to do it.",
"We have a dog at our rescue that is always barking and is a very high pitched bark. We haven't found a solution yet. We can't take her to adoption events because no one wants to come near her. She slips out of just about any harness we put on her. Short of removing her vocal cords, I don't know how to handle her. ",
"Try working it from a different angle. Train the dog to bark on command. The very next step is teaching the dog to stop barking. This teaches the dog when it is ok to bark.",
"Do what /r/RangerSqrd said, also what breed is he/she? Some dog breeds that come from working dogs still have their stamina from their ancestors and need more activity to tire out or get their needed stimulation.",
"I have a dog that gets anxious when the neighbor mows the lawn, so I'd love to have a solution to that as well. "
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"What are the best techniques for keeping your clothes from fading. Specific detergent and amount, drying techniques, ironing, sunlight? ",
"What are the best techniques for keeping your clothes from fading. Specific detergent and amount, drying techniques, ironing, sunlight? ",
"What are the best techniques for keeping your clothes from fading. Specific detergent and amount, drying techniques, ironing, sunlight? ",
"What are the best techniques for keeping your clothes from fading. Specific detergent and amount, drying techniques, ironing, sunlight? ",
"What are the best techniques for keeping your clothes from fading. Specific detergent and amount, drying techniques, ironing, sunlight? "
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"Use Woolite Dark Care Laundry Detergent (the amount it says on the container, not a full cap), wash on the coldest water possible, hang dry in the shade, and iron only if necessary (turn the clothes inside out first) and do so on the lowest heat setting possible. \n\nAlso, don't wash clothes after every time you wear them, if possible. \n\nIn the alternative, dry clean the dark clothes, but that can get expensive. \n\nIn the very last alternative, use clothing dye to get the clothes dark again. ",
"Don't wash them so much, and try and keep them out of the sunlight as much as possible.\n\n\nThe easiest is to just leave them in your closet and say FU to societies demand for modesty. ",
"Besides \"don't wash it and don't wear it\" that people are suggesting, quality clothing can have longer lasting colors. The Ralph Lauren polo's fade a lot slower compared to the ones from Gap or J-Crew.",
"At least for jeans stop washing/drying them, put em in a ziplock and throw them in the freezer, the cold kills all the bacteria and as long as they aren't heavily soiled you're golden.",
"Add a cup of plain white vinegar to your load. This doesn't necessarily prevent fading, but it does help brighten colors."
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"How do you argue with someone whose main train of thought is \"Fine, maybe I mess things up often, but I still try!\" Like, a family member who does a lot of the similar mistakes over and over again, but when is confronted with it, her defense is that \"at least I'm trying!\" And to be fair, she does, but it's almost like she never learns and still usually screws up.\n\n\n\nThen when you answer along the lines of acknowledging the effort but point out there are no results, she gets hurt because she feels like you're belittling the effort exerted.\nWhat's the best way to approach this sort of argument in general?",
"How do you argue with someone whose main train of thought is \"Fine, maybe I mess things up often, but I still try!\" Like, a family member who does a lot of the similar mistakes over and over again, but when is confronted with it, her defense is that \"at least I'm trying!\" And to be fair, she does, but it's almost like she never learns and still usually screws up.\n\n\n\nThen when you answer along the lines of acknowledging the effort but point out there are no results, she gets hurt because she feels like you're belittling the effort exerted.\nWhat's the best way to approach this sort of argument in general?",
"How do you argue with someone whose main train of thought is \"Fine, maybe I mess things up often, but I still try!\" Like, a family member who does a lot of the similar mistakes over and over again, but when is confronted with it, her defense is that \"at least I'm trying!\" And to be fair, she does, but it's almost like she never learns and still usually screws up.\n\n\n\nThen when you answer along the lines of acknowledging the effort but point out there are no results, she gets hurt because she feels like you're belittling the effort exerted.\nWhat's the best way to approach this sort of argument in general?",
"How do you argue with someone whose main train of thought is \"Fine, maybe I mess things up often, but I still try!\" Like, a family member who does a lot of the similar mistakes over and over again, but when is confronted with it, her defense is that \"at least I'm trying!\" And to be fair, she does, but it's almost like she never learns and still usually screws up.\n\n\n\nThen when you answer along the lines of acknowledging the effort but point out there are no results, she gets hurt because she feels like you're belittling the effort exerted.\nWhat's the best way to approach this sort of argument in general?",
"How do you argue with someone whose main train of thought is \"Fine, maybe I mess things up often, but I still try!\" Like, a family member who does a lot of the similar mistakes over and over again, but when is confronted with it, her defense is that \"at least I'm trying!\" And to be fair, she does, but it's almost like she never learns and still usually screws up.\n\n\n\nThen when you answer along the lines of acknowledging the effort but point out there are no results, she gets hurt because she feels like you're belittling the effort exerted.\nWhat's the best way to approach this sort of argument in general?",
"How do you argue with someone whose main train of thought is \"Fine, maybe I mess things up often, but I still try!\" Like, a family member who does a lot of the similar mistakes over and over again, but when is confronted with it, her defense is that \"at least I'm trying!\" And to be fair, she does, but it's almost like she never learns and still usually screws up.\n\n\n\nThen when you answer along the lines of acknowledging the effort but point out there are no results, she gets hurt because she feels like you're belittling the effort exerted.\nWhat's the best way to approach this sort of argument in general?",
"How do you argue with someone whose main train of thought is \"Fine, maybe I mess things up often, but I still try!\" Like, a family member who does a lot of the similar mistakes over and over again, but when is confronted with it, her defense is that \"at least I'm trying!\" And to be fair, she does, but it's almost like she never learns and still usually screws up.\n\n\n\nThen when you answer along the lines of acknowledging the effort but point out there are no results, she gets hurt because she feels like you're belittling the effort exerted.\nWhat's the best way to approach this sort of argument in general?"
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"Practice is only effective if you're doing it correctly. Trying is just wasted energy if there isn't any forward progress. I'm not belittling the fact that you put effort into this, I'm critical of the fact that the effort was completely ineffective, but you still want cr",
"Let's look at what's working and what's not. \nHow can we set things up so you can get this right?\n-are you forgetting? Can we make use of reminders, notes, alarms... lists.\n\n-should we practice? \n\n-are you rushing?\n\n-do you really want to work on this?\n\n-lets practice doing it right.\n\nOr stop. Just stop.\n\n",
"I have students who often argue they shouldn't receive poor grades because they tried. I generally remind them that, in the real world, effort doesn't matter-- only the end result. I can't grade their effort, only the final product. I believe the same logic applies to the situation you describe. That doesn't mean you should be harsh or critical or cruel, but at the end of the day you have to say \n\n\"Yes, you tried but it didn't get done correctly, and it needs to be done correctly so what needs to change so that the end result is correct?\" \n\n",
"An adult can be reasonably expected to learn from their mistakes. Especially repeated mistakes. Maybe focus on helping her pinpoint how to learn from her mistakes.\n\n*assuming this person is an adult",
"Try is just another word for fail. Go full Yoda. Do or not do, there is no try.\n\nOr the old standard definition of insanity, doing the same thing over and over expecting different results. \n\nSomeone who does know is going to have to guide her to get her to understand the concept, so she can execute it and work. ",
"You have examples of effort with no results?\n\nMaybe you are being a jerk, that's why I want to know what is happening.\n",
"So annoying. I often get \"So kill me, I'm a bastard.\" How do you argue with people who just want to remain status quo when they F-up?"
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"How to Keep Dogs off Lawn? I've had some neighbor urinate and shit in my flowers for the last couple of days. Does anyone has some tips that works, or should I go out and purchase an ultrasonic repellent?",
"How to Keep Dogs off Lawn? I've had some neighbor urinate and shit in my flowers for the last couple of days. Does anyone has some tips that works, or should I go out and purchase an ultrasonic repellent?"
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"> I've had some neighbor urinate and shit in my flowers for the last couple of days.\n\nYou've got way bigger issues to address here buddy.\n\nAlso, ultrasonic repellents tend to be a rip off. Best thing to do is ask your neighbor to keep their dog off your lawn, since its the core issue.",
"Anything you buy is unlikely to work. This is an issue with your neighbor, and you need to talk to them about it. I've also seen \"please clean up after your dog\" and plastic baggie dispensers work with varying levels of success."
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"New house with thin walls. How can I reduce the noise without covering my room with foam, carpet, etc? ",
"New house with thin walls. How can I reduce the noise without covering my room with foam, carpet, etc? "
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"Carpet is honestly the best bet. You specifically said \"without doing that\" but, particularly if the room is upstairs and the noise is being generated from downstairs, a few throw rugs will cut down on a lot of the noise that's percolating up through.\n\nFabric-based wall hanging and full bookcases can help quite a bit if it is the walls. [Here's a how-to on building your own acoustic panels if it's bad enough to spend a bit of money to fix.](http://acousticsfreq.com/how-to-build-your-own-acoustic-panels/)",
"Position furniture such as book cases against the thin internal walls and then in general just having stuff in the rooms will help to absorb sound that does get through. Rugs, curtains, furniture, cushions. You'll likely never get rid of all the sound. If some rooms are noisier than others then, if possible, plan to accommodate. Pick the quietest room as your bedroom and the noisiest as your living room. You'll notice it less if it's a room where you watch TV etc. "
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"How do I improve in something I'm not good at? I'm trying to get better at drawing. Any specific help.",
"How do I improve in something I'm not good at? I'm trying to get better at drawing. Any specific help.",
"How do I improve in something I'm not good at? I'm trying to get better at drawing. Any specific help."
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"There is only one way to do that...practice. Then practice some more. When you are done then you can practice still more.\n\nA lot of folks make what they do seem effortless, but that is rarely the case. We don't see the many hours of serious effort put into making it look effortless.\n\nFrom writers, to athletes, musicians, artists, etc....nothing just sort of \"happened\".",
"Draw often. I used to get frustrated because I couldn't draw what was in my head, then I started drawing cartoon characters or copying scenes from a comic & the more I did this the better I've gotten at drawing things off my own head.",
"I tend to find when I have no confidence in an activity, I do not perform. When I envision myself doing it well, I normally do well. Obviously skill cannot be fully replaced with confidence alone, but self belief is always an important factor. "
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"Struggling for 2 months and after 40 CV's and several online applications, im losing hope. How can I get a job at 19?(Ireland) ",
"Struggling for 2 months and after 40 CV's and several online applications, im losing hope. How can I get a job at 19?(Ireland) ",
"Struggling for 2 months and after 40 CV's and several online applications, im losing hope. How can I get a job at 19?(Ireland) ",
"Struggling for 2 months and after 40 CV's and several online applications, im losing hope. How can I get a job at 19?(Ireland) "
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"Applicant Tracking Systems (the software that reviews your application and resume before humans do) may be knocking you out for not hitting enough keywords from the job description. \n\n1. Tailor your resume to the posting\n2. Use tools like [jobscan.co](http://jobscan.co) and [cvscan.uk](http://cvscan.uk) to see how well you're matching up. Aim for at least 80%\n3. Have a friend proofread before you do a final submission\n4. If you're not submitting your resume as an attachment in an email to an actual human person, remove all your \"pretty formatting\" to be more ATS friendly. That means no underlining, italics, bullets (other than the standard circles), no colors or graphics, no tables, etc.",
"One thing my parent always say is tailor your cv to the specific job you want, send a new different cv to each of the jobs you’ve applied for rather than one cv for all",
"Most people (70-85%) got their job through networking. Be sure to spread the word that you're looking for work, and try meeting new people in fields you might be interested in. Asking for informational interviews is a good way to do this. Good luck!",
"It's a numbers game. Keep applying. Also consider if you're applying for realistic jobs for your experience. You might need to broaden your search. Also get someone to look over your CV, ideally a careers adviser or job centre employee. Even if you get a job you're not 100 per cent keen on you can still keep hunting while you work. Good luck."
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"How to understand a thick accent. I have a professor from Africa and has a really thick accent. It's hard to understand what he says in the lecture and hard for me to understand the material. Does anybody have any tips for me?",
"How to understand a thick accent. I have a professor from Africa and has a really thick accent. It's hard to understand what he says in the lecture and hard for me to understand the material. Does anybody have any tips for me?",
"How to understand a thick accent. I have a professor from Africa and has a really thick accent. It's hard to understand what he says in the lecture and hard for me to understand the material. Does anybody have any tips for me?",
"How to understand a thick accent. I have a professor from Africa and has a really thick accent. It's hard to understand what he says in the lecture and hard for me to understand the material. Does anybody have any tips for me?",
"How to understand a thick accent. I have a professor from Africa and has a really thick accent. It's hard to understand what he says in the lecture and hard for me to understand the material. Does anybody have any tips for me?"
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"Review the material before class. you will be able to know what direction he is going if the words are somewhat familiar to you before hand",
"Familiarizing yourself with the accent works sometimes. Not always, though. I've had an Indian teacher for the past 2 years and I still can't understand him. That may be due in part to the fact that he goes off on tangents and reads right off of powerpoint, though.\n\nAlternatively, if you just want it for the class, download the slides that he uses or read the book. I read mine in class and the teacher knew it. I didn't hide it, though. Headphones while reading, and he usually left me alone because he saw I was reading.",
"I lived overseas for a while in an incredibly diverse area and had to deal with at least a dozen different accents in the workplace. \n\nThe best tip I learned is to always try to watch the person's face while they speak. There seems to be some type of mental connection that happens (at least for me) that makes it 10x easier to understand the person if I can watch them speak the words. \n\nAlso, time and exposure is really the only answer. The more you listen to the accent, the more acclimated you'll become to it.",
"i second the review the material part. Also recording it might be a huge step. If you do both it should massively improve",
"I find trying to imitate the accent helps me become more used to it. It's probably not a good idea to do this in front of people though.... "
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"Career Hello!\n\nI will keep is simple and straight to the point.\n\nSo I have a degree in MIS back in 2012/2013. I didn’t work in any industry that would pertain to my degree. I mainly worked in Retail and currently am. \n\nIf I wanted to get into the I.T/Engineering Role; would it be best to go back to school for another degree, study and do self learn coding, or get certifications in I.T then applied? \nIs my degree still valid after a decade? No experience. \n\nThank you guys for your time and advice! :)",
"Career Hello!\n\nI will keep is simple and straight to the point.\n\nSo I have a degree in MIS back in 2012/2013. I didn’t work in any industry that would pertain to my degree. I mainly worked in Retail and currently am. \n\nIf I wanted to get into the I.T/Engineering Role; would it be best to go back to school for another degree, study and do self learn coding, or get certifications in I.T then applied? \nIs my degree still valid after a decade? No experience. \n\nThank you guys for your time and advice! :)"
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"If you have a bachelor's in MIS that's nine years old and ability that should be enough, go interview and talk tech w them. They ask questions and if you sound knowledgeable they'll hire you.\n\n If you have stopped indulging software/hardware then I would recommend learning through some free to use YouTube vids and some books you can purchase online and then going into the interview. A four year degree in MIS carry's much more weight than going and getting some certificate in IT. Now if you want to code then yes, fig out what language and get the proper certs in them.",
"What would you like to do in IT?\nThe answer to that question will guide the rest. Otherwise its just open ended trying to land you a job in industry with no direction"
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"I want to learn how to read better on a computer. I have a huge exam coming up that will require me to attempt reading comprehensions and logical reasoning on a computer screen. I have good comprehension skills on paper, but reading on the computer makes me zone out and lose focus. It impacts my retention and understanding and my eyes also start to ache after a while. What can I do to make this better?",
"I want to learn how to read better on a computer. I have a huge exam coming up that will require me to attempt reading comprehensions and logical reasoning on a computer screen. I have good comprehension skills on paper, but reading on the computer makes me zone out and lose focus. It impacts my retention and understanding and my eyes also start to ache after a while. What can I do to make this better?",
"I want to learn how to read better on a computer. I have a huge exam coming up that will require me to attempt reading comprehensions and logical reasoning on a computer screen. I have good comprehension skills on paper, but reading on the computer makes me zone out and lose focus. It impacts my retention and understanding and my eyes also start to ache after a while. What can I do to make this better?"
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"You can also use a sheet of paper to go under the line you are reading if that helps. My eyes like to jump around on the screen, but a piece of paper helps me to keep focused on the line I'm trying to read since it covers up the lines underneath. Hopefully that helps! Good luck.",
"You might try computer glasses to help stay focused on a screen longer.\n\nMost places will provide a sheet of paper upon request. Use it to help block off distractions or focus on specific lines/paragraphs. Alternatively, if you have time... write out the questions(paraphrase) and solve on paper. Then you know you'll stay on track and focused.\n\nIf possible, try getting a PDF version or maybe use a Reading Tablet to help prevent eye strain. Some tablets and computers have a special Reading Mode to help with this problem as well.\n\nAs a last resort, you can usually resize the screen or the letter sizes to help. Even a minor 1-2pt change can be significant over time... well worth checking out.",
"Longterm: get a better screen. Bad screens make it way more difficult to read on a screen. Not just the resolution but the brightness and the size all a make difference. E-ink is also an option but it requires a fair bit of patience."
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"Keeping headphones in your ears when running. So I have some pretty mediocre headphones, like the ones you get on an airline, and when I had to use scotch tape to keep them in my ears when I was running, I figured I needed an LPT.",
"Keeping headphones in your ears when running. So I have some pretty mediocre headphones, like the ones you get on an airline, and when I had to use scotch tape to keep them in my ears when I was running, I figured I needed an LPT.",
"Keeping headphones in your ears when running. So I have some pretty mediocre headphones, like the ones you get on an airline, and when I had to use scotch tape to keep them in my ears when I was running, I figured I needed an LPT.",
"Keeping headphones in your ears when running. So I have some pretty mediocre headphones, like the ones you get on an airline, and when I had to use scotch tape to keep them in my ears when I was running, I figured I needed an LPT."
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"Mine often bounce out of my ears, but I found that wearing one and throwing the other over your shoulder (under your shirt) seems to work. But that said, you have different headphones and ears.",
"I've seen people loop the wires up around the back of the ear, being held in by the ear's, well, ear-ness. I don't know how well it works.",
"When I run I have earbuds that are connected to these holdings that warp around the ear and stay in place. You might be able to find some attachable ones at drug stores for cheap.",
"Just uses a small amount of Teflon Tape. Wrap the teflon tape around the earbuds housing. And as an added bonus, you get a little added comfort! Hope this helps! Goodluck."
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"Create an address book in a Google drive and update it whenever someone moves I made myself a master address list (in a spreadsheet) for my wedding and I find myself still referring to it. Whenever someone I know moves, I make the change in the Google drive, that way I never have to think about it and is always up-to-date.",
"Create an address book in a Google drive and update it whenever someone moves I made myself a master address list (in a spreadsheet) for my wedding and I find myself still referring to it. Whenever someone I know moves, I make the change in the Google drive, that way I never have to think about it and is always up-to-date."
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"Google drive is a free service . Unlike , a paid service where you have rights as a customer , You and your data are the commodity being traded Here. Let’s do a thought experiment; wonder if you’d be happy if your doctor stored your medical notes on the Chinese equivalent of Google drive . The address itself is in the public domain. Who lives at that address is not . In the Uk people can opt NOT to have census information publicly available . Most educated people do so to avoid spam post or identity theft . Have you ever read the terms of use of Gmail and Google drive in detail? Google may change them at any point to own your data and you’d have no idea. I work in IT security and have to safeguard my client’s data and respect data protection laws . What you’re doing here is casually disregarding professional advice , potentially going against the wishes of your loved ones and endangering their personal details ; and using then a label, an epithet , an insult to discr",
"A lot of people I know work very hard to keep their information private . They do not join social media . Use throwaway accounts to sign up for stuff . Then, their less than savvy friends are the weak links in the chain and tag them on social media when they would never do so themselves . Or put their name , phone and address in a spreadsheet on google drive . Google has access to your data. Feel free to give your own details away to the big data miners but it’s unfair to expose your friends’ against their will or without their consent .Use a notepad , or an offline file . You wouldn’t store your bank account details on a Facebook would you? Why do what is essentially the same with your friends address?"
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"I live too much in the moment As the title says, I live too much in the present. I don't do stuff that needs doing till the last second. It's not that I don't worry about things but rather that I see days ahead of me and think that I'll be able to catch up. I get the stuff done at the end moment when I'm under tons of stress but I while away the time before. Right now, I'm writing this because I'm under stress due to a potentially life changing event coming up and it really is worrying me but I can't seem to motivate myself to do work for it.\n\nI have given lots of thought to this and there have been times when I decide that I will work hard that day and get stuff done but as soon as I get ready to do it, every part of my will goes against it and I never get started.\n\nThis is very sad as I was a very hard working kid and that's how I got one of the highest marks in my grades. But it has suddenly fallen off. The scenario of getting up and getting on with work and feeling satisfied once you are done sounds like the most amazing feeling to me. I'd rather stress about the future, as I do now, and overwork than stress but not work at all to do anything about it.\n\nAny help would be appreciated. If you want to ask me stuff or something that would help you in thinking of advice, I'd be happy sharing it down in the comments...",
"I live too much in the moment As the title says, I live too much in the present. I don't do stuff that needs doing till the last second. It's not that I don't worry about things but rather that I see days ahead of me and think that I'll be able to catch up. I get the stuff done at the end moment when I'm under tons of stress but I while away the time before. Right now, I'm writing this because I'm under stress due to a potentially life changing event coming up and it really is worrying me but I can't seem to motivate myself to do work for it.\n\nI have given lots of thought to this and there have been times when I decide that I will work hard that day and get stuff done but as soon as I get ready to do it, every part of my will goes against it and I never get started.\n\nThis is very sad as I was a very hard working kid and that's how I got one of the highest marks in my grades. But it has suddenly fallen off. The scenario of getting up and getting on with work and feeling satisfied once you are done sounds like the most amazing feeling to me. I'd rather stress about the future, as I do now, and overwork than stress but not work at all to do anything about it.\n\nAny help would be appreciated. If you want to ask me stuff or something that would help you in thinking of advice, I'd be happy sharing it down in the comments..."
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"I’m rather similar. \n\nI tend to do things at the last minute too. \n\nI find that having to-do lists and reminders on my phone helps me to get motivated. \n\nI’ll set reminders well in advance, so that when I procrastinate there’s still time. \n\nI don’t like facing up to hard facts, or doing difficult things either. \n\nSometimes breaking down tasks into manageable chunks, or individual ‘things’ can make it much easier. \n\nInstead of eg ‘packing for a holiday’, you could break this down into things like, do washing, find camera, download maps, get petrol, book hotel etc. \n\nThese can be ticked off - and you’ve made progress without it being overwhelming. \n\nSame thing can be applied to work or home life too. \n\nI’m in a similar situation with some events coming up. \n\nI find that discussing things helps too. My fiancée has been brilliant, and so have her parents and mine. \n\nIt helps to get input from others, and the things you be worrying most about, may not be as important as you think. \n\nAsking specific questions can help too. Instead of just being ‘worried’, if you say what you’re worried about, people can offer help and advice. \n\nHope this helps!",
"This sounds like procrastination and avoidance, as you mentioned that you are well aware of the things that you need to get done but lack the motivation to do it, and panic at only the last minute.\n\n​\n\nI'd suggest 2 things:\n\n​\n\n1. Use google calendar and break down the stuff you have to do into manageable parts across a few days, plotting them into the calendar so that they act like milestones. I have the calendar connected to my phone so that it sends me reminders of the tasks I need to get done.\n2. Focus on how stressed you are feeling now, and remind yourself of how shitty this feels every time you get a calendar notification. This'll act like kick up your ass to get you moving and attempting to complete the task set for the day. \n\nGradually you'll find that bit by bit, you are already on track and doing whatever you're supposed to do without being too stressed out about doing everything in one go. Without an actual example this is a pretty vague LPT, but hey, this is what I do when I'm unmotivated at work and it works like a charm."
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"how to deal with nosy/intrusive people I'm too much of a people pleaser to be blunt and confrontational, and have no clue how to be diplomatic. but I'm tired of this one person in my life who (i feel) probably believes me to be their competiton and they put me in the spot, ask me the most intrusive of questions and mock me subtly in front of other people. what is the best way to deal with this situation.",
"how to deal with nosy/intrusive people I'm too much of a people pleaser to be blunt and confrontational, and have no clue how to be diplomatic. but I'm tired of this one person in my life who (i feel) probably believes me to be their competiton and they put me in the spot, ask me the most intrusive of questions and mock me subtly in front of other people. what is the best way to deal with this situation.",
"how to deal with nosy/intrusive people I'm too much of a people pleaser to be blunt and confrontational, and have no clue how to be diplomatic. but I'm tired of this one person in my life who (i feel) probably believes me to be their competiton and they put me in the spot, ask me the most intrusive of questions and mock me subtly in front of other people. what is the best way to deal with this situation.",
"how to deal with nosy/intrusive people I'm too much of a people pleaser to be blunt and confrontational, and have no clue how to be diplomatic. but I'm tired of this one person in my life who (i feel) probably believes me to be their competiton and they put me in the spot, ask me the most intrusive of questions and mock me subtly in front of other people. what is the best way to deal with this situation.",
"how to deal with nosy/intrusive people I'm too much of a people pleaser to be blunt and confrontational, and have no clue how to be diplomatic. but I'm tired of this one person in my life who (i feel) probably believes me to be their competiton and they put me in the spot, ask me the most intrusive of questions and mock me subtly in front of other people. what is the best way to deal with this situation.",
"how to deal with nosy/intrusive people I'm too much of a people pleaser to be blunt and confrontational, and have no clue how to be diplomatic. but I'm tired of this one person in my life who (i feel) probably believes me to be their competiton and they put me in the spot, ask me the most intrusive of questions and mock me subtly in front of other people. what is the best way to deal with this situation.",
"how to deal with nosy/intrusive people I'm too much of a people pleaser to be blunt and confrontational, and have no clue how to be diplomatic. but I'm tired of this one person in my life who (i feel) probably believes me to be their competiton and they put me in the spot, ask me the most intrusive of questions and mock me subtly in front of other people. what is the best way to deal with this situation.",
"how to deal with nosy/intrusive people I'm too much of a people pleaser to be blunt and confrontational, and have no clue how to be diplomatic. but I'm tired of this one person in my life who (i feel) probably believes me to be their competiton and they put me in the spot, ask me the most intrusive of questions and mock me subtly in front of other people. what is the best way to deal with this situation.",
"how to deal with nosy/intrusive people I'm too much of a people pleaser to be blunt and confrontational, and have no clue how to be diplomatic. but I'm tired of this one person in my life who (i feel) probably believes me to be their competiton and they put me in the spot, ask me the most intrusive of questions and mock me subtly in front of other people. what is the best way to deal with this situation.",
"how to deal with nosy/intrusive people I'm too much of a people pleaser to be blunt and confrontational, and have no clue how to be diplomatic. but I'm tired of this one person in my life who (i feel) probably believes me to be their competiton and they put me in the spot, ask me the most intrusive of questions and mock me subtly in front of other people. what is the best way to deal with this situation.",
"how to deal with nosy/intrusive people I'm too much of a people pleaser to be blunt and confrontational, and have no clue how to be diplomatic. but I'm tired of this one person in my life who (i feel) probably believes me to be their competiton and they put me in the spot, ask me the most intrusive of questions and mock me subtly in front of other people. what is the best way to deal with this situation.",
"how to deal with nosy/intrusive people I'm too much of a people pleaser to be blunt and confrontational, and have no clue how to be diplomatic. but I'm tired of this one person in my life who (i feel) probably believes me to be their competiton and they put me in the spot, ask me the most intrusive of questions and mock me subtly in front of other people. what is the best way to deal with this situation.",
"how to deal with nosy/intrusive people I'm too much of a people pleaser to be blunt and confrontational, and have no clue how to be diplomatic. but I'm tired of this one person in my life who (i feel) probably believes me to be their competiton and they put me in the spot, ask me the most intrusive of questions and mock me subtly in front of other people. what is the best way to deal with this situation.",
"how to deal with nosy/intrusive people I'm too much of a people pleaser to be blunt and confrontational, and have no clue how to be diplomatic. but I'm tired of this one person in my life who (i feel) probably believes me to be their competiton and they put me in the spot, ask me the most intrusive of questions and mock me subtly in front of other people. what is the best way to deal with this situation.",
"how to deal with nosy/intrusive people I'm too much of a people pleaser to be blunt and confrontational, and have no clue how to be diplomatic. but I'm tired of this one person in my life who (i feel) probably believes me to be their competiton and they put me in the spot, ask me the most intrusive of questions and mock me subtly in front of other people. what is the best way to deal with this situation.",
"how to deal with nosy/intrusive people I'm too much of a people pleaser to be blunt and confrontational, and have no clue how to be diplomatic. but I'm tired of this one person in my life who (i feel) probably believes me to be their competiton and they put me in the spot, ask me the most intrusive of questions and mock me subtly in front of other people. what is the best way to deal with this situation.",
"how to deal with nosy/intrusive people I'm too much of a people pleaser to be blunt and confrontational, and have no clue how to be diplomatic. but I'm tired of this one person in my life who (i feel) probably believes me to be their competiton and they put me in the spot, ask me the most intrusive of questions and mock me subtly in front of other people. what is the best way to deal with this situation."
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"when they ask you a question, maybe respond with \" good question, I have to think about it\". so you won't feel put on the spot. it sounds like this person knows they're pushing your buttons and they enjoy it.",
"Give them a polite smile and say \"that's a very personal question\". And then just leave it at that and don't say anything else and/or just walk away.\n\nI used that one on a lady bothering me with unwelcome comments and nosy questions recently. I couldn't be outright rude to her, because she works at my son's school and we'll still have to do with each other. So I simply said \"that's a very personal question\" with the friendliest tone of voice and a smile. You should have seen her face, it was glorious. Her face snapped back as if I had bitch slapped her and she reacted as if she had never been insulted that badly in her whole life lol. But she can't complain. And she hasn't talked to me again since then, so that's a win. I'm happy I said that to her, instead of caving and answering her invasive questions.",
"The person asking questions is in control of the conversation so ask questions back. What do you mean? Why do you ask? What do you think? What are you hoping I will say? Usually a controlling person will back down when they have their questions reflected back on them. Also read about gray rocking techniques.",
"what you need to do is start setting up boundaries. You know what you don't like , start with that. Next step, enforcing your boundaries. Eg someone makes a rude comment about you ,to you. You can respond with something like \" dude ,that's not cool\" and walk away. Continue to do so = reenforcing boundaries. \nPractice in front of a mirror. It takes time, but you'll get there!!!\nthey say \" ppl treat you how you allow them to treat you\". \nso put some respect on your name",
"is this person related to you? why do you feel like you have to answer to them? sounds like they're a bully.",
"Ask them personal and intrusive questions. I find that nosy people don't like to talk about themselves, they only want to know other peoples business.",
"My instinct reaction would be to assume they are just asking honestly and don't know they are being rude and continue being polite and answer them honestly as long as it isn't too wierd. But if they are doing it to be rude or make you uncomfortable, I wonder if repeating the question back to them like you are pondering it will give you time to take a breath and respond thoughtfully without revealing too much or shut them down by saying something like \"I will get back to you\" or \" I dont think thats an appropriate thing to ask\" etc.",
"you have to crack a egg to make a omelette. It’s not going to stop till you look them in the eyes and tell them mind your fucking business. I learned at a young age that things like this only escalate I’ve been taught if I have a problem with someone it’s best to nip it in the bud straight away so it doesn’t escalate to a major issue. I also don’t joke around with people so they can’t joke around with me there’s a difference between banter and taking the piss out of someone.",
"You don't need to give out any information. period. if you want to shake things up, lie... give this person an ear full of shit🙂. if you have a vivid imagination, you can make this person's head spin.",
"Wow, you just described my brother ...sorry you have to experience this as a people pleaser learning boundaries myself I can't recommend healthy boundaries enough. It'll feel like a personal attack to them as they don't realize that their behavior affects others. It's an important teaching moment for someone who's ultimately insecure.",
"STEP #1: STOP BEING A PUSHOVER. \nSTEP #2: LEARN YOU CAN'T PLEASE EVERYBODY!\nSTEP #3: ESPECIALLY IN THE BUSINESS INDUSTRY, IT'S A DOG EAT DOG WORLD, REALIZE THAT ASAP!\n\n\nYou just became an easy target and a step stool to somebody else wanting to climb. We may not agree with it but you just gotta know when to play the cards. Start small, like clever sarcasm remarks to stupid comments. Look at Ryan Reynolds videos, the king of sarcasm! He never really loses his cool but uses his sarcasm to be charming while still demanding respect in a settle way. Try this for intrusive questions, \"EXCUSE ME, WHO THE F*$# PULLED YOUR STRING AND GOT YOU TO TALK?! STOP ASKING STUPID QUESTIONS!\" After that look at that person in the eye and say, \"Fucking children! Anywho, moving on! Where were we?\" You be loud and clear but don't lose your cool. Stay chill like that person is beneath you.\n\nBut seriously, people please on occasions... When earned so have medium to high standards and DEFINITELY stop being a PUSHOVER!",
"Recently, my daughter has the same problem at her class. I always say her you don't have to respond to her. And you don't need to get along with her. She isn't important to you. You might meet so many people who are soooo rude through your whole life, but just let them go. You don't have to be polite people like that even if you have to spend time with them. I know, it's too hard. But disregard is viable way... in my opinoin. I'm sorry i couldn't help you",
"Just say how you feel. “I don’t feel comfortable answering that.”\n\n",
"Tell them you don’t feel like answering questions you’ve had a bad day/night. This persons obviously gotten too comfortable with you and knows they can make you squirm but you can’t make someone squirm if they don’t care so don’t let them get to you and show your disdain or contempt that’s the best way to stop someone like that",
"If you’re like me, you’ll let it get to a point where he get bitchy about it. Better to just ask the question “do you have a nose problem?”",
"If it’s one after another I always say “would you like to know my social too? ”…“you would be a good cop” ooo or “ what a weird personal question to ask” it’s all in the tone of how you say it too. If you say it with a smile people are so stupid they just go with it. They usually nervously laugh it off and mind their own. I just try to remember that it’s normal and they are subconsciously trying to figure out something else. Humans are exhaustingly annoying. You either have the upper hand or break the ice by joking around and making an acquaintance. My husband is a great people person. He just changes the subject.",
"I wonder if any of these responses could ever help you due to how vague your request is, especially since you say it's university setting. University is a place specifically made for asking questions. All the questions. Each and every response I've read under this post deals with street scenario.\n\nI believe you're just venting or grieving, you should be able to see what difference it makes if that person is a teacher or student, if those questions are tied to the subject or off topic, if you can change classes so you avoid that person... And to disclose such info to your request. (After reading all these replies during oral exam: \"why do you ask, professor?\" \"because you shall not pass!\" :D )\n\nNosy and intrusive sounds really close to curious. Who would have guessed there are curious people at uni. That being said I remember some annoying idiots, who asked the lecturer the main question of the lecture afterwards and expected like... A rerun of the whole lecture? Nothing between students though, since we are all adults and this smells like teen spi- aehem, teenage drama.\n\nAnd I'd like to finish it with: since you haven't mentioned any friends to back you up, perhaps you're just highly antisocial and sensitive and they see you're alone all the time and they are trying to help you.\n\n(My friend is MD and he's antisocial af. He switched like 5 hospitals within one year due to \"people\". One of these reasons was that he got asked what are his plans for the upcoming weekend, apparently. He was confessing similar issues as you do now through the studies. Now I suspect all the animosity was in his head and any advice to avoid toxic people probably just made him worse.)"
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"How to save a puzzle from three cats. Me and my girlfriend have been trying to do a puzzle but the cats want to ruin everything. How can we keep it out without the cats destroying our work in progress the moment we turn our backs?",
"How to save a puzzle from three cats. Me and my girlfriend have been trying to do a puzzle but the cats want to ruin everything. How can we keep it out without the cats destroying our work in progress the moment we turn our backs?"
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"What about a [puzzle mat](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00MF59GDA/ref=cm_sw_r_other_apa_f23Kyb699Y04K)? ",
"Could you get a piece of that thick plastic that some people have on their dining room tables under regular table cloths to protect the wood? I'm guessing you could buy it at a well-stocked fabric store (one that sells upholstery fabric and such), but if they don't sell it they might know who does. \n\nIf you get a piece that overhangs the edges of the table where you're working on the puzzle by a good amount, I feel like it should be heavy and stable enough that the cats can't pull it off, but I don't know for sure. \n\nWhatever you try, good luck! : ) \n\n",
"Just some ideas for you \nIf you can move it \n\nPut it under a rug with a sheet over it \n\nIn the oven lol\n\nUnder your bed quilt \n\nLock it in the bathroom \n\nIf you can't move it \n\nPut a sheet over it with a stack of magazines on top\n\nPut a cutting board over it with something on top \n\n\n"
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"What kind of bait is best to trap a mouse in a humane trap? I have two mice living in my apartment, and they need to go. I bought a [humane mouse trap](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/611HzZMDtfL._SX425_.jpg), and baited it with peanut butter, but the trap has sat on my floor empty for about a week. Is there any fool-proof bait I can use to get the mice to go into the trap so they can go before one of them has a litter? \n\nI've been trying to find their nest, and I thought I had. There was a mess of lint and other stuff on the floor in my closet, and I couldn't figure out where it came from. The vacuum cleaner sat on the floor with its hose detached from the canister, and the mice must have gone into the dust bag and dumped a lot of it on the floor. It seemed they might be nesting in there, because particularly when they see me, they run into that closet. They weren't inside the dust bag. I used peppermint oil as a deterent, and the really intense breath drops on cotton and on the floors, but I saw one of the mice step right over it.\n\nI need some kind of bait they like enough to get them into the trap. Ideas are welcome, but I don't want to kill them.\n\n",
"What kind of bait is best to trap a mouse in a humane trap? I have two mice living in my apartment, and they need to go. I bought a [humane mouse trap](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/611HzZMDtfL._SX425_.jpg), and baited it with peanut butter, but the trap has sat on my floor empty for about a week. Is there any fool-proof bait I can use to get the mice to go into the trap so they can go before one of them has a litter? \n\nI've been trying to find their nest, and I thought I had. There was a mess of lint and other stuff on the floor in my closet, and I couldn't figure out where it came from. The vacuum cleaner sat on the floor with its hose detached from the canister, and the mice must have gone into the dust bag and dumped a lot of it on the floor. It seemed they might be nesting in there, because particularly when they see me, they run into that closet. They weren't inside the dust bag. I used peppermint oil as a deterent, and the really intense breath drops on cotton and on the floors, but I saw one of the mice step right over it.\n\nI need some kind of bait they like enough to get them into the trap. Ideas are welcome, but I don't want to kill them.\n\n",
"What kind of bait is best to trap a mouse in a humane trap? I have two mice living in my apartment, and they need to go. I bought a [humane mouse trap](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/611HzZMDtfL._SX425_.jpg), and baited it with peanut butter, but the trap has sat on my floor empty for about a week. Is there any fool-proof bait I can use to get the mice to go into the trap so they can go before one of them has a litter? \n\nI've been trying to find their nest, and I thought I had. There was a mess of lint and other stuff on the floor in my closet, and I couldn't figure out where it came from. The vacuum cleaner sat on the floor with its hose detached from the canister, and the mice must have gone into the dust bag and dumped a lot of it on the floor. It seemed they might be nesting in there, because particularly when they see me, they run into that closet. They weren't inside the dust bag. I used peppermint oil as a deterent, and the really intense breath drops on cotton and on the floors, but I saw one of the mice step right over it.\n\nI need some kind of bait they like enough to get them into the trap. Ideas are welcome, but I don't want to kill them.\n\n",
"What kind of bait is best to trap a mouse in a humane trap? I have two mice living in my apartment, and they need to go. I bought a [humane mouse trap](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/611HzZMDtfL._SX425_.jpg), and baited it with peanut butter, but the trap has sat on my floor empty for about a week. Is there any fool-proof bait I can use to get the mice to go into the trap so they can go before one of them has a litter? \n\nI've been trying to find their nest, and I thought I had. There was a mess of lint and other stuff on the floor in my closet, and I couldn't figure out where it came from. The vacuum cleaner sat on the floor with its hose detached from the canister, and the mice must have gone into the dust bag and dumped a lot of it on the floor. It seemed they might be nesting in there, because particularly when they see me, they run into that closet. They weren't inside the dust bag. I used peppermint oil as a deterent, and the really intense breath drops on cotton and on the floors, but I saw one of the mice step right over it.\n\nI need some kind of bait they like enough to get them into the trap. Ideas are welcome, but I don't want to kill them.\n\n",
"What kind of bait is best to trap a mouse in a humane trap? I have two mice living in my apartment, and they need to go. I bought a [humane mouse trap](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/611HzZMDtfL._SX425_.jpg), and baited it with peanut butter, but the trap has sat on my floor empty for about a week. Is there any fool-proof bait I can use to get the mice to go into the trap so they can go before one of them has a litter? \n\nI've been trying to find their nest, and I thought I had. There was a mess of lint and other stuff on the floor in my closet, and I couldn't figure out where it came from. The vacuum cleaner sat on the floor with its hose detached from the canister, and the mice must have gone into the dust bag and dumped a lot of it on the floor. It seemed they might be nesting in there, because particularly when they see me, they run into that closet. They weren't inside the dust bag. I used peppermint oil as a deterent, and the really intense breath drops on cotton and on the floors, but I saw one of the mice step right over it.\n\nI need some kind of bait they like enough to get them into the trap. Ideas are welcome, but I don't want to kill them.\n\n",
"What kind of bait is best to trap a mouse in a humane trap? I have two mice living in my apartment, and they need to go. I bought a [humane mouse trap](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/611HzZMDtfL._SX425_.jpg), and baited it with peanut butter, but the trap has sat on my floor empty for about a week. Is there any fool-proof bait I can use to get the mice to go into the trap so they can go before one of them has a litter? \n\nI've been trying to find their nest, and I thought I had. There was a mess of lint and other stuff on the floor in my closet, and I couldn't figure out where it came from. The vacuum cleaner sat on the floor with its hose detached from the canister, and the mice must have gone into the dust bag and dumped a lot of it on the floor. It seemed they might be nesting in there, because particularly when they see me, they run into that closet. They weren't inside the dust bag. I used peppermint oil as a deterent, and the really intense breath drops on cotton and on the floors, but I saw one of the mice step right over it.\n\nI need some kind of bait they like enough to get them into the trap. Ideas are welcome, but I don't want to kill them.\n\n",
"What kind of bait is best to trap a mouse in a humane trap? I have two mice living in my apartment, and they need to go. I bought a [humane mouse trap](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/611HzZMDtfL._SX425_.jpg), and baited it with peanut butter, but the trap has sat on my floor empty for about a week. Is there any fool-proof bait I can use to get the mice to go into the trap so they can go before one of them has a litter? \n\nI've been trying to find their nest, and I thought I had. There was a mess of lint and other stuff on the floor in my closet, and I couldn't figure out where it came from. The vacuum cleaner sat on the floor with its hose detached from the canister, and the mice must have gone into the dust bag and dumped a lot of it on the floor. It seemed they might be nesting in there, because particularly when they see me, they run into that closet. They weren't inside the dust bag. I used peppermint oil as a deterent, and the really intense breath drops on cotton and on the floors, but I saw one of the mice step right over it.\n\nI need some kind of bait they like enough to get them into the trap. Ideas are welcome, but I don't want to kill them.\n\n"
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"Domino's parmesan cheese powder (from the packets). They went nuts on some of those that fell behind my microwave and didn't touch a single other thing in the kitchen.\n\nAlso straight ammonia works better than peppermint oil. It smells like cat piss.",
"My dad (an exterminator) always used slim Jim's. \nHe said they worked well. That being said if there is not a clear line of sight from one end to the other the mice might not run into the trap no matter what you use.",
"I've had great luck with tootsie roll candy. That and cracked corn / chicken feed work to bait them. Good luck. ",
"I used the ones that they go in and dont come out, not as humane but they are pests and have eaten through wires in our house before, people do worse to native animals known as pests, i have tried a large range of traps, baits and whatnot but they were the only thing that worked\n\n[mousetrap](https://www.bunnings.com.au/the-big-cheese-ultra-power-seal-and-safe-mouse-trap_p2961724)",
"try chocolate. i had originally tried the peanut butter route as well but like yours, the mouse wasn’t interested. though no guarantee that chocolate isn’t bad for mice like it is for cats and dogs?",
"Peanut butter with bacon grease. If this dont get them nothing will. Also, you need to cover the sides of that cage. You want mice to follow the scent around to the entrance so they go into it. The way this trap is open, chances are the mice are just trying to go through the sides and giving up rather than going to the entrance.",
"It's not your bait, it's your positioning. Put the trap in a dark place against the wall, where mice like to run."
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"Coworker Needs Remedial Internet and Email Skills obligatory title says it all preface. \n\nI work in a small business of about ~30 employees and we are in a heavily technology-integrated consulting field. Everybody has softphones and works remotely through email and our database system. I have a coworker who, without being insensitive or disparaging, did not apparently develop internet/email skills to be properly effective in today's internet-based workplace. She will often reply to all inappropriately (wanting to reply to 1 person instead of everyone), get confused about how to effectively use subject lines, forward to all inappropriately (if only 1 or 2 people need to receive her fwd, she will send to all anyway) and other general poor use of grammar/spelling/punctuation/formatting. It's pretty bad.\n\nAs we are all remote employees, I've never met her or spoken to her in real IRL, so in addition to my primary question I could use some LPT's on how to say \"hey, you need Internet 101 like yesterday lady\". \n\nAlso, if there are any professional and not-too-condescending materials I can link her floating around, pointing me in the right direction would be awesome. \n\nI'm only posting because even my direct report supervisors are complaining - it may not only reflect poorly on her but also on others and our company as a whole to our clients. ",
"Coworker Needs Remedial Internet and Email Skills obligatory title says it all preface. \n\nI work in a small business of about ~30 employees and we are in a heavily technology-integrated consulting field. Everybody has softphones and works remotely through email and our database system. I have a coworker who, without being insensitive or disparaging, did not apparently develop internet/email skills to be properly effective in today's internet-based workplace. She will often reply to all inappropriately (wanting to reply to 1 person instead of everyone), get confused about how to effectively use subject lines, forward to all inappropriately (if only 1 or 2 people need to receive her fwd, she will send to all anyway) and other general poor use of grammar/spelling/punctuation/formatting. It's pretty bad.\n\nAs we are all remote employees, I've never met her or spoken to her in real IRL, so in addition to my primary question I could use some LPT's on how to say \"hey, you need Internet 101 like yesterday lady\". \n\nAlso, if there are any professional and not-too-condescending materials I can link her floating around, pointing me in the right direction would be awesome. \n\nI'm only posting because even my direct report supervisors are complaining - it may not only reflect poorly on her but also on others and our company as a whole to our clients. "
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"Is it your place to get her up to speed?\n\nAlso, if she's having this much trouble in a \"heavily technology-integrated consulting field\", she might not be worth saving. Poor spelling and grammar has nothing to do with technological challenges.",
"I am so sorry you have to work with that. I had an assistant that was like that. It got to the point where EVERY SINGLE EMAIL had to be sent to me and I had to approve it or make changes before it could be sent. \n\nHere is a link of lazy tips to pass along. https://www.lifewire.com/properly-formatted-email-replies-1173239\n\nSadly, I can't say I ever got my assistant to meet my high standards, as I left the company. But I hear that she still, after two years, can't send a professionally worded email to a client. \n\nBest of luck.\n\n"
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"how do you make friends when groups have already formed? So recently I moved school and I don't really know anyone there. Everyone knows everyone because of nearby clubs and various other things that I didn't attend. At this point I have no idea what to do.",
"how do you make friends when groups have already formed? So recently I moved school and I don't really know anyone there. Everyone knows everyone because of nearby clubs and various other things that I didn't attend. At this point I have no idea what to do.",
"how do you make friends when groups have already formed? So recently I moved school and I don't really know anyone there. Everyone knows everyone because of nearby clubs and various other things that I didn't attend. At this point I have no idea what to do.",
"how do you make friends when groups have already formed? So recently I moved school and I don't really know anyone there. Everyone knows everyone because of nearby clubs and various other things that I didn't attend. At this point I have no idea what to do."
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"That's tough as hell. The best advice I have for you is to give it time. Be involved as much as possible and let them get to know you. If there is one particular person that seems extra friendly and nice, tell them you just moved and don't know anyone, and ask if they would mind letting you sit with him/her during lunch and introducing you to people. ",
"Try signing up for a club that you're interested in - being late doesn't mean you can't join in! Try to find one person who seems approachable and kind, and try to start a conversation with them. Lots of folks want to help out the new person. ",
"Most of the other suggestions are good. To add to them, be the person who makes the gathering just a little better. I would advise against trying to be a star, because that involves displacing the current star - leading to factions.\n\nYou could be the person who brings donuts, or reserves the better room to meet in, or remembers the thing that everyone forgets. In most groups, there is a boring chore that no one wants to do. If you feel like it (and there's a risk you may be stuck with this, or identified as 'just that', or only noticed if 'certain task' is undone), you can take that up.\n\nAt worst, you'll be ignored until you don't do that thing. At best, people will be grateful, notice you for making their lives easier, and use it to begin a conversation. \n\nOther methods (if these are available) - hang out near the food. When people come to get a snack or refill, you're there. Introduce yourself and mention one positive thing about the gathering. Common topics are 'how did you get involved in? how do you know X or Y?' \n\nI'm not sure what grade you're in, but observe what is routine in your area/age range. Do people still have skating parties? Camping? If it's not too cheesy, you could throw yourself a 'welcome party' or 'I'm new party' - you don't have to call it that. \n\nEvery culture is different, and cultures vary from school to school & country to country. \n\nAt this stage, it's advisable to avoid gluing yourself to one group. If it turns out to be full of people you can't stand (or are getting into trouble) it will be more difficult to move into another one. Try to become peripherally involved in a few, instead of 100% involved in one. ",
"Join clubs, groups, teams, or events where people are expecting to talk to other people due to their various rolls in the event, and work your way from there. Once you're there, be friendly, confident, fun, and inviting to people to talk to you. Introduce yourself to everyone as the person who just moved and doesn't know anyone. \n\nPeople are generally pretty nice to newcomers. "
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"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome.",
"How do you regulate your emotions as a highly sensitive person? It is quite easy to be kind, polite, and composed around strangers, but at home, my emotions run rampant. I often fall prey to depression, panic, self-hatred, and general sensitivity. I wish I were a pleasant person to be around, but I fear I am not. Any advice is welcome."
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"1. Seek professional help. There's people out there that can really help you go through it and maybe you could use the help of some medicines.\n2. Try to keep a healthy routine. Eat well, develop hobbies, create a go-to-sleep ritual, try being with friends - but respect your limits of social interaction.\n3. Don't be so hard on yourself. You are trying your best.",
"Mindset Changing Podcast by Paul Sheppard talks a lot about this. If you find it check out his first 10-20 episodes (new ones are good but more advanced).\n\nI struggle with emotions but after practicing some of his techniques I notice a real difference in ability to sit back, observe my own thoughts, label which ones are relevant/useful, and those which are products of my anxiety or just unhelpful\n\nWish you the best",
"I know how this sounds, but what works for me, as a neurodivergent person, is exercise. \n\nIt takes every new thing I need to process from an 8 down to a 5. Quiets the intrusive thoughts. Helps me fall asleep faster. Makes my butt less weird.",
"I strongly recommend Dialectical Behavioral Therapy; it’s a great skills-based therapy that you can read about on your own, try out using an app, work directly on with an individual therapist, or even do a full program which includes group skills classes. \n\nIt incorporates many of the recommendations listed above (physical self-care management, mindfulness practices, interpersonal skills, distress tolerance, emotion regulation, etc.) and has a huge body of research endorsing its effectiveness with a wide range of symptomologies, including HSP. \n\nSource: I’m a psychologist who currently works for a DBT-focused practice.",
"Wow, timely post for me to come across as I am currently struggling with the same things. The problem with the oft suggested “get professional help” is where I live the appointments are so backed up it’s basically pointless to even set one up, not to mention the cost of going, then the cost of the medicine, plus the time cost. I’ve tried it before and it did not work for me. Not giving up yet but last night was especially brutal and difficult for me. Now I’m at work with a meeting in 10 minutes trying to shake it off so I’m not nasty to any of my coworkers…ugh. Best of luck, you are not alone. Following this post for now to see what suggestions come through.",
"Learn your habits, patterns, track your emotions, track sugar intake, water intake, periods (if you have them), exercise , tell yourself what you are feeling and quite literally create a dialogue with yourself",
"Distance yourself. It applies to your while life in a positive way. Remember, you are NOT your emotions and your thoughts. They just appear, you do not have to follow them.",
"The biggest breakthrough I ever made on my personal journey was when I internalized that my feelings ≠ reality. Your feelings are real and important, and they are also only one piece of information about any given situation. One’s feelings can be (and often are) out of place. Personally, I’ve found that big feelings in response to one thing frequently have more to do with other circumstances in my life than with the thing itself. I’ve found it helpful to give myself a beat to think about my feelings in- and out-of-context, before reacting. \n\nA good way to start being able to take that step back (way easier said than done, I know) is to start by simply naming your emotions as they come. Are you sad? angry? hurt? tired? Just naming the feeling can give you a new perspective. Another trick that has helped me with big feelings is to focus on how they present in your physical body. For example, when I’m very sad, my throat starts to close up, I feel pressure on the roof of my mouth, my stomach starts to churn, etc. Just observing those physical traits can help you begin to see your emotions not as separate from the rest of your physical being, but as just one of many kinds of feelings your body can experience.\n\nIt’s powerful once you realized that you *experience* your emotions, but that they don’t define you. Think of it like hunger: you can be hungry in any given moment, but that doesn’t make you “a hungry person,” in the general sense. It’s a cue from your brain that a need of yours hasn’t been met, not a referendum on your moral value. \n\nOf course, the reality of your feelings is not carte-blanche to act however you want. It’s also helpful to remember that your feelings don’t have to drive how you behave. To continue the hunger analogy, just being hungry doesn’t make it okay to take food off of someone else’s plate. If you can master the ability to observe your emotions, it’ll be much easier to think about a better way to resolve them.\n\nFinally, I want to tell you that having big emotions isn’t a bad thing. It doesn’t make you a bad person. It just makes you human. Even if it seems like your feelings are “too big,” it’s still okay to have them. They are not “too big,” and your needs are not “too much.” One thing that’s helped me embrace my own emotions was starting by leaning into my happier feelings. As someone with both ADHD and ASD, I think I feel things more intensely than a lot of other people, and that can be a *good* thing. I get excited about tiny things, like cute trinkets and pretty colors, and that’s a level of joy most people don’t experience. Give yourself permission to enjoy and indulge in the moments that make you happy, without judgement. You deserve that happiness! Once I let go of my shame about how big my positive feelings were, it was also a lot easier to do the same with my negative ones.\n\nOh also, it gets better. I swear. I know it’s hard to believe it, but I pinkie promise it does. I never thought I’d be around to see my 25th birthday, and here I am coming up on my 26th. Life ain’t always easy, but it’s always worth it. ♥",
"I could have literally written this post myself. Thank you for posting. I'm sure many people will benefit from the ideas shared here.",
"I am the opposite when it comes to strangers vs my friends/family. It is easy with people I love, but strangers I have zero natural patience for.\n\nI just focus on the consequences of getting worked up, I realize it only makes things worse.",
"Have you discovered when your emotions are the most negative? Personally, I feel often sad or irritated when I'm exhausted. Getting rest is important.\n\nSometimes I feel like that when I know that something is going to come up that will exhaust me. Hard to avoid that, however.\n\nFinally, remember that some people are not just highly sensitive but also \"sensation seekers\", as absurd as that might sound. So if you're a highly sensitive person but still found depressed or irritated when alone, you might want to consider that as well.",
"Whenever I get overly sensitive I try to be the first to tell myself I’m being overly sensitive because I’d rather hear it from me than anyone else. Sometimes it still pisses me off to even have to think of it but that’s when I know to take a step back from my situation.",
"When faced with an emotional stimulus, pause first,don't react and then respond. This prevents many negative things like lashing out, jumping to conclusions, overthinking etc...",
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"Meds. I went years and years without them because they were more stigmatized than they are now and I was miserable. \nI know meds don’t work for all but they work for some and there is no shame in working with a doctor to see if meds can be of some assistance. They aren’t magic pills but they can help. In my case, they level me off…which means I don’t have the same highs I used to have when I was REALLY happy but most importantly I don’t have have the lowest lows I used to have. \nTalking about it and letting your inner circle know when you are having a tough time helps for me as well. If they are in your inner circle they will understand and help in whatever way they can (even just listening). If they don’t understand or won’t listen to you, then you’ve identified someone that doesn’t need to be in your inner circle anymore. \nI hope you find the help you need and know that there are people out there rooting for you. <3",
"Dr. Elaine Aron has been studying the trait of sensitivity for decades, and has written several books about highly sensitive people (HSPs). If you Google her, you'll find a directory of therapists and coaches on her website who specialize in working with people with this trait. Your sensitivity is real, and it is a gift but also a burden until you learn how to care for yourself, because your needs are different than those of most people! Please feel free to message me; I'm a HSP and mental health professional and I would be happy to support you in finding the resources you need.",
"Thoughts are like radio waves, you have to learn to remember to scan for different frequencies when you got the same song going on repeat. Sometimes it feels like the knob gets stuck but help from a friend or better yet a licensed therapist can help you tune into something that you’re happier with.",
"This is a hard one. I think breathing techniques for relaxation are quite efective. When you feel your emotions coming up you can escape the place and go for a 5 min walk. A tabbaco cigarrete helps me a lot when I find myself troubled and need to be alone and process the feeling",
"I empathize. In addition to what many have already said, like therapy and understanding yourself and your triggers, m",
"When I feel overwhelmed I just take a step back, take a deep breath and relax... give myself a little pep talk like it's ok... you got this. Things with too much caffeine get my emotions going so I watch my diet... most importantly get plenty of sleep and m",
"So many great suggestions here! I also found that Dawn Ely’s “Liberate from Hate” webinars to be extremely helpful.",
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"I'm a highly sensitive person who has been in DBT for about a year. My personal experience is that I take longer to process my emotions. I've found that enforcing boundaries give me the time & energy I need to work through things. Boundaries are frequently minimized in US culture (assuming that's where you are). Knowing where to draw the line is a great tool.",
"I have found [Adult Child podcast](https://www.adultchildpodcast.com/) to be helpful, most likely you've got some sort of trauma that didn't seem like trauma. Parents not teaching any emotional regulation is trauma, you don't have to be in a war or have obvious abuse to have severely debilitating trauma -- all it takes is parents who bought junk to replace actual parenting while they mostly worked and ignored you which \"seems\" like \"good\" parents but definitely scars emotion-handling later, leaving you with unregulated emotions of a 5-year-old as an adult.\n\nAnyway this podcast really covers that and provides links to more resources. Host is not a doctor but a person going through the same things, she interviews a lot of smart people and a lot of it mirrors for free what I paid a lot to find out from my therapist ($90/session which is also as far as I can tell, \"cheap\")\n\nSo also get a therapist, but you can begin learning terminology and perhaps pick yourself a treatment method so you can select a therapist that specializes in your specific needs for faster results (most people have to try out 3-4 therapists before finding a good fit). I have been in therapy twice a month (not enough, but about all I can afford) for about 2 years and have made progress but it's not fast. It can go way faster if you really force yourself to do the homework (but I have bad discipline), I'm sure my progress is slow because I fell back off daily hikes and exercise and my self-care is terrible. But mostly CBT skills help take the edge off, I can tell I'm more stable but definitely have a long way to go.",
"I do this 24 hour thing...\n\n1. If I get triggered I note it (via mental note or physical note)\n2. I switch gears asap and work on a different activity to keep my mind off of it. The best thing you can do is prevent spiraling\n3. Wait 24 hours\n4. Check-in...is the trigger still bothering me or am I over it?\n 1. If it's still bothering me it helps to talk to somebody about it. There's likely something deep that needs to be worked through\n 2. If not, success! You let it go :-)\n\nThis has strangely been working really well for me. It's teaching me not to overreact to things immediately as I feel them. Instead, I give myself a day to work through my emotions. Overtime it becomes habitual not to listen to that immediate panic but instead let things roll off your shoulder.",
"I blow the fuck up when I’ve had it but maintain my rage to a simmer by humor. Especially things that are “inappropriate” to laugh at."
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"How do I cultivate a personality? Ive been told my whole life that I dont have a personality.\n\nNow that I am working at a job that I like, being told that in my review makes me feel desperate to change. ",
"How do I cultivate a personality? Ive been told my whole life that I dont have a personality.\n\nNow that I am working at a job that I like, being told that in my review makes me feel desperate to change. ",
"How do I cultivate a personality? Ive been told my whole life that I dont have a personality.\n\nNow that I am working at a job that I like, being told that in my review makes me feel desperate to change. ",
"How do I cultivate a personality? Ive been told my whole life that I dont have a personality.\n\nNow that I am working at a job that I like, being told that in my review makes me feel desperate to change. ",
"How do I cultivate a personality? Ive been told my whole life that I dont have a personality.\n\nNow that I am working at a job that I like, being told that in my review makes me feel desperate to change. ",
"How do I cultivate a personality? Ive been told my whole life that I dont have a personality.\n\nNow that I am working at a job that I like, being told that in my review makes me feel desperate to change. ",
"How do I cultivate a personality? Ive been told my whole life that I dont have a personality.\n\nNow that I am working at a job that I like, being told that in my review makes me feel desperate to change. ",
"How do I cultivate a personality? Ive been told my whole life that I dont have a personality.\n\nNow that I am working at a job that I like, being told that in my review makes me feel desperate to change. ",
"How do I cultivate a personality? Ive been told my whole life that I dont have a personality.\n\nNow that I am working at a job that I like, being told that in my review makes me feel desperate to change. "
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"Do things outside of your comfort zone, or that you have no interest in. \n\nSee what those things teach you about yourself. \n\nHone in on your values. What do you value? \n\nWhat do you enjoy?\n\nWhat do you like in others?\n\nAre those things a part of you?\n\nHonestly, you likely have a personality. Some people mistake strong opinions or the ability to be outgoing as \"personality\" and feel that chill/laid back/quiet aren't valid personality types. \n\nIf you like who you are, part of having a personality is accepting that you are totally fine. \n\nNow... you might want to cultivate certain behaviors/actions that would be beneficial at the workplace. That's different and is more of a persona than a personality. What you develop would vary depending on the job/who you are trying to work with.",
"A different perspective here. Most of your behavior is determinate for what you parents and your community has told you to do, to think and to behave, especially when you were a child. Look at your own habits, recognize them, and decide if you want to carry on being like that. In the moment you stop following a script, and choose your own course of action, you will have a strong personality, and you won't care about what the others think about you",
"That's just plain mean. I am sorry you are having to deal with this. Everyone has a personality, saying someone doesn't is plain stupid. I'm guessing you are just a little shy and not very outgoing but this isn't a bad thing in the slightest. It's always hard for introverts to befriend introverts ( for obvious reasons) which leaves us more open to be subject to ridicule. If you feel personally you want to be in better touch with yourself by all means do it but don't waste time trying something for people who just havent taken the time to get to know you. Don't let the turds get you down OP.",
"Paraphrasing: \"Action builds character, which I have come to understand that if we never did anything, we wouldn't be anybody.\" \n-Lynn Barber's \"An Education\"\n\nThis is actually one of my most favorite quotes. Simple yet insightful. When you think about it, it makes a lot of sense. If you want to cultivate a personality, you need to do things in your life. Anything. \n\nImagine for a second a person who spends their entire life in a room. Everything they need to survive is in this room; food, water, shelter. However, for this person's entire life, they've only experienced this one room and nothing more. They have never been to a concert, they have never read a book, they have never seen the vast ocean, they have never been in love. Just imagine how boring this person would be. If you could talk with this person (assuming they know how to speak), they wouldn't have much of a personality at all. Why? Because this person in this awful fictional scenario has never done anything besides just being alive. \n\nAction is what makes us who we are. Doesn't really matter what that action is, just as long as you are doing something with your life. Find hobbies that you enjoy, learn new skills, go out and explore the earth, meet new people. Once you start actually doing things, you'll notice your personality will start taking shape. You'll have stories to tell and information that can be passed on to other people. After living a long life of actually doing things, you'll have cultivated the best personality that you were able to. ",
"Omg, what a horrible thing to be told and so inaccurate. Everyone has a personality, those people are wrong. Yours is just apparently mild and docile I guess. I mean, ive never met anyone in my life that I thought didn't have a personality. Some people are just more subtle. Being true to yourself is the only way to emphasize the personality you have. Dont try to be something you aren't because a few people find you....dull? F*'em. ",
"Of course you have a personality. I find it very shocking that was written in your review? Everyone is unique, as cliche as it sounds. I hope it hasnt put you down, youre maybe just a quiet person.\n\nCarry on being you. \n(also the fact youre here on reddit shows you have atleast some sort of personality)",
"Maybe you are trying to hard too be liked? Trying to make everyone like you is incidently how to end up with plenty of aquaintances but few friends. At best you are forgettable and \"nice but boring\" at worst it comes across as low self esteem and you irritate people by trying too hard.",
"In my opinion, the best thing to develop personality is to listen to music. Find a genre that really fits your rhythm. People are rhythmic creatures and like to be around similar rhythms. Find one of the top artists of your favorite genre and then... Sit down and listen. literally just listen to an entire album or start with a couple songs. Learn who this popular artist has feature on his/her album and then do the same for those names. \nDo this same type of thing with a couple hobbies. You most likely haven't dived deep into any hobbies if you think you don't have any personality. This world is constructed of thousands of subgroups and no matter how weird or lame you might think someone might think your hobby or music genre is, there is definitely another group who loves it just as much as you do. Find those people.",
"'Not having a personality' is *nice* for not being charismatic, memorable, or passionate (just like 'think' is *nice* for fat).\n\nYou want to develop charisma through increasing your **presence** in conversations (you want them to leave thinking that they are the smartest, most interesting person in the world). Through your **power**, you want them to feel that you can move mountains. And through your **warmth**: you want them to feel like you will move mountains for them. The Charisma Myth explains specific techniques that will improve these areas, in a slow, but noticeable way."
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"How to whistle WITHOUT your fingers I'm talking about loud high-pitched whistling like is usually produced by sticking two fingers in your mouth. Not the type of whistling you do when whistling a tune. Thanks!",
"How to whistle WITHOUT your fingers I'm talking about loud high-pitched whistling like is usually produced by sticking two fingers in your mouth. Not the type of whistling you do when whistling a tune. Thanks!",
"How to whistle WITHOUT your fingers I'm talking about loud high-pitched whistling like is usually produced by sticking two fingers in your mouth. Not the type of whistling you do when whistling a tune. Thanks!",
"How to whistle WITHOUT your fingers I'm talking about loud high-pitched whistling like is usually produced by sticking two fingers in your mouth. Not the type of whistling you do when whistling a tune. Thanks!"
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"I actually just recently taught myself to do this. It's hard to explain because there's a few steps to get your mouth correctly set, but I tried to break it down:\n\nLip position:\n\n- Start with flattening your lips together, like the facepalm emoji\n- bring the sides of your mouth in so there's tension\n- lower the center of your bottom lip only, it'll feel like you're forming a v shape with it, but it doesn't look like it\n- curl the new v in your bottom lip back a bit so that the top of your lip is touching the front of your teeth\n- your top lip should be still flat, but pursed in a bit\n\nTongue position:\n\n- should be a gentle u shape, contacting the roof of your mouth on either side of the ridge above your teeth\n- also curve the tip of your tongue up towards the roof of your mouth\n\nThen it's a matter of kinda tuning the positions until you get a whistle going, sometimes I find it easier to get right if I lick my top teeth in order to get the upper lip so it doesn't catch on my teeth.\n ",
"Interesting note about whistling... I could NEVER (my whole life until now) make this two finger shrill whistle. Since I got braces and my teeth straightened, I can now do it. \n\nThe shape of my teeth must have had some influence. Wondering if anyone else had this happen?",
"In 4th and 5th grade my class had kids from different countries. I loved it because I got to learn about different cultures from my new friends. There was a group of about 4 boys from South America and Mexico who all knew how do to this weird whistle that I'd never seen before and I HAD to learn how to do it. I was so intrigued because like I said I've never seen it before and I was always envious of my aunt who was able to do the two finger whistle. It took me a little bit before I mastered it but it isn't that difficult. I was going to explain it but I just found this on YouTube. https://youtu.be/OybSncagK9I ",
"I breathe inwards, and have my tongue against my teeth \n\nIt's easier do low pitched whistles by exhaling until you get the hang of it, and know how your tongue should be, then try a high whistle breathing in fast"
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"How can I as a 15 year old save the most money by 18? Tbh I can’t stand living with my mom anymore and I want to move out when I’m 18. I have a job that pays $13.20/h and I work 1 hour a day after school ( I get out of school pretty late). Plus, I work 4 hours a day on non school days (excluding weekends). Can y’all help me start the process now?",
"How can I as a 15 year old save the most money by 18? Tbh I can’t stand living with my mom anymore and I want to move out when I’m 18. I have a job that pays $13.20/h and I work 1 hour a day after school ( I get out of school pretty late). Plus, I work 4 hours a day on non school days (excluding weekends). Can y’all help me start the process now?",
"How can I as a 15 year old save the most money by 18? Tbh I can’t stand living with my mom anymore and I want to move out when I’m 18. I have a job that pays $13.20/h and I work 1 hour a day after school ( I get out of school pretty late). Plus, I work 4 hours a day on non school days (excluding weekends). Can y’all help me start the process now?",
"How can I as a 15 year old save the most money by 18? Tbh I can’t stand living with my mom anymore and I want to move out when I’m 18. I have a job that pays $13.20/h and I work 1 hour a day after school ( I get out of school pretty late). Plus, I work 4 hours a day on non school days (excluding weekends). Can y’all help me start the process now?",
"How can I as a 15 year old save the most money by 18? Tbh I can’t stand living with my mom anymore and I want to move out when I’m 18. I have a job that pays $13.20/h and I work 1 hour a day after school ( I get out of school pretty late). Plus, I work 4 hours a day on non school days (excluding weekends). Can y’all help me start the process now?",
"How can I as a 15 year old save the most money by 18? Tbh I can’t stand living with my mom anymore and I want to move out when I’m 18. I have a job that pays $13.20/h and I work 1 hour a day after school ( I get out of school pretty late). Plus, I work 4 hours a day on non school days (excluding weekends). Can y’all help me start the process now?",
"How can I as a 15 year old save the most money by 18? Tbh I can’t stand living with my mom anymore and I want to move out when I’m 18. I have a job that pays $13.20/h and I work 1 hour a day after school ( I get out of school pretty late). Plus, I work 4 hours a day on non school days (excluding weekends). Can y’all help me start the process now?",
"How can I as a 15 year old save the most money by 18? Tbh I can’t stand living with my mom anymore and I want to move out when I’m 18. I have a job that pays $13.20/h and I work 1 hour a day after school ( I get out of school pretty late). Plus, I work 4 hours a day on non school days (excluding weekends). Can y’all help me start the process now?",
"How can I as a 15 year old save the most money by 18? Tbh I can’t stand living with my mom anymore and I want to move out when I’m 18. I have a job that pays $13.20/h and I work 1 hour a day after school ( I get out of school pretty late). Plus, I work 4 hours a day on non school days (excluding weekends). Can y’all help me start the process now?",
"How can I as a 15 year old save the most money by 18? Tbh I can’t stand living with my mom anymore and I want to move out when I’m 18. I have a job that pays $13.20/h and I work 1 hour a day after school ( I get out of school pretty late). Plus, I work 4 hours a day on non school days (excluding weekends). Can y’all help me start the process now?",
"How can I as a 15 year old save the most money by 18? Tbh I can’t stand living with my mom anymore and I want to move out when I’m 18. I have a job that pays $13.20/h and I work 1 hour a day after school ( I get out of school pretty late). Plus, I work 4 hours a day on non school days (excluding weekends). Can y’all help me start the process now?",
"How can I as a 15 year old save the most money by 18? Tbh I can’t stand living with my mom anymore and I want to move out when I’m 18. I have a job that pays $13.20/h and I work 1 hour a day after school ( I get out of school pretty late). Plus, I work 4 hours a day on non school days (excluding weekends). Can y’all help me start the process now?",
"How can I as a 15 year old save the most money by 18? Tbh I can’t stand living with my mom anymore and I want to move out when I’m 18. I have a job that pays $13.20/h and I work 1 hour a day after school ( I get out of school pretty late). Plus, I work 4 hours a day on non school days (excluding weekends). Can y’all help me start the process now?",
"How can I as a 15 year old save the most money by 18? Tbh I can’t stand living with my mom anymore and I want to move out when I’m 18. I have a job that pays $13.20/h and I work 1 hour a day after school ( I get out of school pretty late). Plus, I work 4 hours a day on non school days (excluding weekends). Can y’all help me start the process now?",
"How can I as a 15 year old save the most money by 18? Tbh I can’t stand living with my mom anymore and I want to move out when I’m 18. I have a job that pays $13.20/h and I work 1 hour a day after school ( I get out of school pretty late). Plus, I work 4 hours a day on non school days (excluding weekends). Can y’all help me start the process now?",
"How can I as a 15 year old save the most money by 18? Tbh I can’t stand living with my mom anymore and I want to move out when I’m 18. I have a job that pays $13.20/h and I work 1 hour a day after school ( I get out of school pretty late). Plus, I work 4 hours a day on non school days (excluding weekends). Can y’all help me start the process now?",
"How can I as a 15 year old save the most money by 18? Tbh I can’t stand living with my mom anymore and I want to move out when I’m 18. I have a job that pays $13.20/h and I work 1 hour a day after school ( I get out of school pretty late). Plus, I work 4 hours a day on non school days (excluding weekends). Can y’all help me start the process now?",
"How can I as a 15 year old save the most money by 18? Tbh I can’t stand living with my mom anymore and I want to move out when I’m 18. I have a job that pays $13.20/h and I work 1 hour a day after school ( I get out of school pretty late). Plus, I work 4 hours a day on non school days (excluding weekends). Can y’all help me start the process now?",
"How can I as a 15 year old save the most money by 18? Tbh I can’t stand living with my mom anymore and I want to move out when I’m 18. I have a job that pays $13.20/h and I work 1 hour a day after school ( I get out of school pretty late). Plus, I work 4 hours a day on non school days (excluding weekends). Can y’all help me start the process now?",
"How can I as a 15 year old save the most money by 18? Tbh I can’t stand living with my mom anymore and I want to move out when I’m 18. I have a job that pays $13.20/h and I work 1 hour a day after school ( I get out of school pretty late). Plus, I work 4 hours a day on non school days (excluding weekends). Can y’all help me start the process now?",
"How can I as a 15 year old save the most money by 18? Tbh I can’t stand living with my mom anymore and I want to move out when I’m 18. I have a job that pays $13.20/h and I work 1 hour a day after school ( I get out of school pretty late). Plus, I work 4 hours a day on non school days (excluding weekends). Can y’all help me start the process now?",
"How can I as a 15 year old save the most money by 18? Tbh I can’t stand living with my mom anymore and I want to move out when I’m 18. I have a job that pays $13.20/h and I work 1 hour a day after school ( I get out of school pretty late). Plus, I work 4 hours a day on non school days (excluding weekends). Can y’all help me start the process now?",
"How can I as a 15 year old save the most money by 18? Tbh I can’t stand living with my mom anymore and I want to move out when I’m 18. I have a job that pays $13.20/h and I work 1 hour a day after school ( I get out of school pretty late). Plus, I work 4 hours a day on non school days (excluding weekends). Can y’all help me start the process now?",
"How can I as a 15 year old save the most money by 18? Tbh I can’t stand living with my mom anymore and I want to move out when I’m 18. I have a job that pays $13.20/h and I work 1 hour a day after school ( I get out of school pretty late). Plus, I work 4 hours a day on non school days (excluding weekends). Can y’all help me start the process now?"
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"I’d like to give you a real answer here. I think it’s important that you fully visualize the end goal here so that you can stay on track. Let’s assume that you have a full 3 years ahead of you before you move it. \n\nAt your current salary, you annually earn $6750 (180x 1 hour days + 80x 4 hour days). You won’t be paying taxes if your income is under $10,000, so all of that is yours. Limit your spending and save about $5,000 the 1st year. \n\nIf you followed this plan for the full 3 years, you would be well ahead of most 18 year olds, with $15,000 in savings more or less. Be prepared to find a better paying job after you move because your savings will only last a good 15 months assuming you find a roommate and even less if you plan to live alone.\n\nBut you can do more… by putting your money to work for you. \n\nMy first intuition is that you’re young, ambitious, and not afraid to work. You can take your first $500, buy a vacuum, an extension cord, some towels, some glass and surface cleaner, and some q-tips for $200 max. Use the remaining money to boost a Facebook post that says something like “high school student cleaning interiors of cars to pay for college, $60-100 depending on the size of the vehicle.” I phrased it this way because you don’t want people to take pity on you by explaining your situation. The general public has their own issues to deal with. But people love a success story. By representing ambition over self pity life will be easier for you.\n\nWork your normal job until you start getting calls. When the work comes in, now you’re doing 2 cars per week for $120-200 rather than working 5 times per week for $67.50. Assuming you did this for 3 years $18,720-$31,200, and likely all cash money. More money for less work. Have more time on your hands? Scale these numbers for 3 cars, 4 cars, 5 cars per week and the numbers will impress you. \n\nBut this strategy could apply to several different ventures. If you take action now, you might find yourself with a great scaleable income before you even graduate high school, that you can take even further afterwards. Not to mention the entrepreneurial skills that will benefit every area of your life. Find what works for you, and put your money to work. You have a golden opportunity to set yourself up for a better life. Best of luck to you.",
"Don't buy anything and just let your parents buy your stuff for you. Most investing/savings accounts won't give you real results in 3 years, but it's still good to set up as soon as possible since time in the market is best. \n",
"Consider a well paying trade first if you are not sure a traditional college degree is what you want. Plumbers and electricians make good money and you can then afford to live on your own until you decide on your next move.",
"You’ve been given good advice. Is your mom mentally, verbally or physically abusive or just annoying and hard to tolerate?",
"Study hard. Apply for every grant an scholarship. The potential of A couple years of cost free education and minimal living expenses will a huge buffer. It wont be free, but it can get you under another roof with stable resources.",
"Savings = income - expenses.\n\nTo save more, you need to increase income and/or decrease spending. To increase income, you can work more hours and/or find a job that pays more.\n\nThere are also strategies to increase income in the long term at the expense of your savings in the short term. Examples include formal education, training/certification in a particular field, or starting a business. This may put you on a path that allows you to continue increasing your income over time without hitting a ceiling. It's good to balance both short term and long term strategies while having a bias towards long term in my opinion.\n\nInvest a portion of your savings. You're young, and the time is right, given the current economic downturn, so I would recommend you go aggressive and invest over 50% of it. Don't invest all once. Dollar cost average into the investments. Start with index funds. Index funds are like a basket of stocks. Tiny slivers of \n companies. Like the S&P500. Every paycheck, deduct your immediate expenses (keep them as low as possible). Whatever is left (your savings), invest at least 50% of it into these index funds.\n\nBy combining the increased salary and investment strategies, by the time we come out of this economic downturn, which may or may not coincide with your 18th birthday, you will have enough cashflow to cover living expenses as well as assets that contribute to your net worth.\n\nThe fact that you are 15 and asking these questions is very impressive to me. You strike me as a mature, motivated person, and I believe you will go far in life. Above all, have patience, faith, and trust, and you will be more than fine.",
"You're not going to make big bank off minimum wage. Create a goal to save X amount every paycheck from what you expect to make and don't touch it. Simple as that. Meanwhile you study up on becoming financially literate so that when you do become 18 you aren't clueless as to the proper way to use your savings.",
"You can't save enough money with the wages you can earn whilst a kid. It's unfair but that's just how it is. The best thing you can do is get yourself the educational success that will allow you to walk into a proper job / apprenticeship / university as soon as you're an adult.",
"While you won't build any kind of serious money reserves with a kid's pay, you can use this cycle to learn and practice some important (but simple) concepts that will help you have more responsible financial behaviors. \n\nStart by properly controlling exactly how much money you earn and how much and HOW you spend your money. There are several budgeting apps out there, use whatever and just track everything you spend, broken by some categories. Get used to paying attention to your lifestyle expenses compared to you earnings. After a few weeks of tracking and reviewing how much you earn and spend you can try and make some reasonable short and mid-term goals. Try and save some money every month and see if you can reach your goals. You might need to cut back on some non essential expenses, see how comfortably you can do it. \n\nJust being able to track what you earn, what you spend and how you spend your money will make it SUBSTANTIALLY easier to save money, that's a really important life skill. \n\nI wouldn't stress too much with saving everything you can right now, i'd focus on not living a miserable life, getting ready for your 'proper' entry into the workforce (getting some internships, training, education, professional courses, language courses, etc) and saving some money.",
"Officiating kids sports can be a good income, fun and fit your schedule. You need to be resilient to criticisms because it will come even if you’re calls a 100%.",
"However much you save between then and now, it will be less than the difference between a better job that you studied hard and prepared for and whatever you may be able to get now.",
"Work under the table. They don’t need ID however if you look 15 yeah no. Some people look 35. They can pull this off. However . I have another way. If you have a ssn. Get online sell your old clothes. Put aside some cash for taxes. 30%.",
"When I was that age I worked three jobs, but had no rent, my parents bought my car (I paid gas) bought my phone (I paid usage) they paid for food and clothing etc. I felt RICH. I bought $200 shirts and $400 jeans that I still can't afford. Not to mention it made me feel like I could always live like that. Consider you need to move out and appreciate expenses your parents save you. I wish I hadn't wasted money on fast food, video games, fancy clothes shoes, accessories, spa days and started a savings account and put money away instead. Treat yourself; you are still working and there should be reward in that, but go easy. The fact that you are even asking means you are a sensible young person. Good for you and good luck.",
"When I was in high school I would buy multipacks of candy bars and sell them for $1 each. I only did it for a couple months before graduation and made a few hundred dollars!",
"Put your money in the bank. Have your money automatically deposited into your bank account . Don't tell Anyone. I'm not sure if you can do this yet. Otherwise, put it in acan and hide it. Don't tell Anyone you're saving money. Anyone.",
"Just a little tip I wish I knew from 15-18; don’t spend your money on stupid things. \n\nSave as much as you can. It’s alright to spend a little here and there on something fun or materialistic but don’t make it a habit. SAVE SAVE SAVE as much as you can. I assume don’t have to worry about much necessities, if any at all, financially and you most likely aren’t paying any bills yet so use this time to save up as much money as you possibly can because when you do move out, you will be spending a vast amount of money on bills and such. I used to spend a lot on food, weed, gas/transportation, materialistic items, etc., but once I hit 18, the real world hit me like a train with how many things I had to be finically responsible for. I’m currently stuck trying to catch back up, living paycheck to paycheck, with barely anything in savings and that’s me at 22, still living at home and only paying some bills and necessities. \n\nMake the most of it while you can while you’re young, you have a long while ahead of you to enjoy the finer things in life. Good luck OP!",
"Don’t spend it. That’s literally it. Work more, save up nearly all of it, and you’ll have savings to start with. Trust me, I wish I had more when I got out on my own.",
" Okay also don’t go to college. Find a job that interests you to start off you don’t need to saddle yourself with 30k in debt just to move out. Fo to school once you know what you want to do if that’s what you want",
" Don’t spend money on fast food ever. If you want to eat somewhere get a job there and eat for free. There’s food at home (unless there isn’t) crunch the numbers often and build the habit of balancing your income and keeping track of every dollar. Watch some accounting videos on YouTube do you can see how corporations manage their money. Don’t try to just figure it out. You have an incredible amount of resources just use them wisely",
"The highest lever for you right now is to learn entrepreneurship. A slave wage won't ever free you financially. You need to learn how to deliver products/services the market wants better than competitors. Find your niche, and start experimenting now. Be willing to fail, because failures built on is the path to success.",
"In all seriousness, go be a raft guide, ranch hand, ski bum. Whatever makes you happy and helps with shelter and added food is nice as well. Don’t take it too serious.",
"Everyone one wants to move out when they are 18 but I've never met anyone that young good enough at saving money to do so",
"Do you have an adult in your life that is kind to you & willing to help you? Maybe someone who can mentor you? Don't be afraid to ask adults you respect questions or for advice. If you know someone who owns a small business, ask them for tips. You'd be amazed how willing people will be to share their wisdom with you. Good luck!",
"Budget your money,decide what is important and what you want but don’t need. We started our son with budgeting when he was 5 with his allowance. When he was in high school, about your age, we introduced him to YNAB, an app. You Need A Budget. He still uses it. By 21, he had saved $25,000. I am sure there are other apps like this, and are free,or low cost. Good luck!!"
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"Start talking to girls to date Im 17 years old and never really talked to girls aroud my age, I'd like to know how I could start some kind of conversation without looking a perv.",
"Start talking to girls to date Im 17 years old and never really talked to girls aroud my age, I'd like to know how I could start some kind of conversation without looking a perv.",
"Start talking to girls to date Im 17 years old and never really talked to girls aroud my age, I'd like to know how I could start some kind of conversation without looking a perv.",
"Start talking to girls to date Im 17 years old and never really talked to girls aroud my age, I'd like to know how I could start some kind of conversation without looking a perv.",
"Start talking to girls to date Im 17 years old and never really talked to girls aroud my age, I'd like to know how I could start some kind of conversation without looking a perv."
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"Start saying hi to your classmates in the morning and in between classes. Don't go out of your way to do it, but greet them in passing.\n\nThen build up to small talk. Ask for opinions on the homework assignment or reading. Comment on a new piece of clothing they're wearing. \n\nJoin some campus clubs and meet people in a setting where you share a common interest. Try to bond over that interest. If you're in a club that likes movies, plan a group outing to a movie. Afterwards, talk about the movie.\n\nNotice that up to this point, this is general friendship building and applies to guys and girls. Treat both groups the same. \n\nThe next step from here is inviting friends to hang out. Once you are better acquainted with a girl who interests you, ask her if she wants to hang out sometime. If she's down, then go out and do something fun. ",
"Just be friendly, make sure you smile when you say hello and ask questions about THEM! Been an introvert most of my life, and this has worked very well for me. When people see you're smiling and happy to see them, it puts them at ease and they are genuinely more encouraged to interact with you, especially if you're asking about them. Open ended questions about specific activities you both are involved in work well- instead of 'what's up', maybe 'Didn't you think last night's HW was really hard' or 'What was your favorite part about that movie/book/TV show'. This allows a common jumping-off point so you can get their opinion and ask them to specify a little further. Small compliments- that's a nice sweater, did you get a haircut- it looks great, are also great ways to build rapport.",
"Going to go ahead and give you some straight advice about interacting with women regardless of age. First and foremost don't treat them any different than you would someone on the street. I cannot stress this enough and there is a reason I say this.\n\nFirstly it's true. They eat sleep and shit just like you and me. It's not like you are interacting with Jesus. So cut the crap.\n\nSecondly it immediately removes the \"jitters\" that will often come with talking with women. When you don't worry about what your actions you will be more confident and natural when you speak to them.\n\nThirdly it makes it easier to walk away from them when they aren't interested. For some odd reason a lot of guys in general think it's the end of the world if a woman isn't interested. Big deal, it happens. There will be plenty of women you will have to turn down as well. It's life.\n\nNow, that I've cleared that up let's get into conversation. You only look like a perv when you are trying to force one. Let them happen naturally, and don't fish for things to say. Ask open ended questions and be direct if you want something. If you are self conscious about your looks or appearance (that you can change). Work on those insecurities first, because even if you manage to land a girlfriend those insecurities will often make you lose out.\n\nI know I gave you a bit more than you need but as a guy that teaches this sort of thing for a living I might as well give you the full topic instead of little nuggets. Feel free to ask if you have more specific questions. ",
"Stop masturbating to porn, and you won't feel like a perv when you talk to a girl. You feel like a perv cuz you've wired your brain that they're sex objects. \n\nIf you didn't see them this way, you wouldn't even be asking for a LPT on how to talk to them, you'd just be doing it, because they are people too, just like your guy friends.\n\nI know from experience. Bam. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU\n\n/r/pornfree\n",
"I'd recommend r/seduction. It's very helpful, not only how to ask someone out but also how to improve your social ability!"
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"How to stop people stealing your milk at work Don't know who it is, don't know what I'd say if I did, but it's mine!!\n\n",
"How to stop people stealing your milk at work Don't know who it is, don't know what I'd say if I did, but it's mine!!\n\n",
"How to stop people stealing your milk at work Don't know who it is, don't know what I'd say if I did, but it's mine!!\n\n",
"How to stop people stealing your milk at work Don't know who it is, don't know what I'd say if I did, but it's mine!!\n\n",
"How to stop people stealing your milk at work Don't know who it is, don't know what I'd say if I did, but it's mine!!\n\n",
"How to stop people stealing your milk at work Don't know who it is, don't know what I'd say if I did, but it's mine!!\n\n",
"How to stop people stealing your milk at work Don't know who it is, don't know what I'd say if I did, but it's mine!!\n\n",
"How to stop people stealing your milk at work Don't know who it is, don't know what I'd say if I did, but it's mine!!\n\n",
"How to stop people stealing your milk at work Don't know who it is, don't know what I'd say if I did, but it's mine!!\n\n",
"How to stop people stealing your milk at work Don't know who it is, don't know what I'd say if I did, but it's mine!!\n\n",
"How to stop people stealing your milk at work Don't know who it is, don't know what I'd say if I did, but it's mine!!\n\n",
"How to stop people stealing your milk at work Don't know who it is, don't know what I'd say if I did, but it's mine!!\n\n",
"How to stop people stealing your milk at work Don't know who it is, don't know what I'd say if I did, but it's mine!!\n\n",
"How to stop people stealing your milk at work Don't know who it is, don't know what I'd say if I did, but it's mine!!\n\n",
"How to stop people stealing your milk at work Don't know who it is, don't know what I'd say if I did, but it's mine!!\n\n",
"How to stop people stealing your milk at work Don't know who it is, don't know what I'd say if I did, but it's mine!!\n\n",
"How to stop people stealing your milk at work Don't know who it is, don't know what I'd say if I did, but it's mine!!\n\n",
"How to stop people stealing your milk at work Don't know who it is, don't know what I'd say if I did, but it's mine!!\n\n",
"How to stop people stealing your milk at work Don't know who it is, don't know what I'd say if I did, but it's mine!!\n\n"
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"Get a raw milk container (or soy, almond, goat, whatever) and keep your milk in that. Add some green or red food colouring as well. \n\nNo one will ever touch that shit. ",
"Make sure your boss kniws. Theft is theft. \n\nI work in Loss Prevention. Someone stealing food from the fridge -- from their coworkers -- *generally* is also down with stealing from their employer. A hidden camera is cheap and easy. ",
"I had someone drinking out of my 2 liter Pepsi at work. I drank about a third, then peed in it.\n\nAfter I noticed the level had dropped I casually joked about it at lunch. When someone questioned me I responded with, well I would tell you it's true but I wouldn't want to get sued.",
" If it's old milk, they won't drink it, if it's laced with anything bad, you don't want to drink it which defeats the purpose. If it makes someone sick, you're liable. Food coloring is the only idea here that might work and won't get you fired.\n\nAnd do tell someone, your boss or HR.",
"Step 1: Buy milk for home\n\nStep 2: Drink milk\n\nStep 3: Wash out container\n\nStep 4: Fill with new milk\n\nStep 5: Watch as they recoil in horror at the date on the side of the carton. \n\nStep 6: Enjoy your nice fresh milk",
"Laxatives and a label.\n\nLaxatives identify and punish the thief, label makes it entirely their fault.",
"put your milk in a different container of some kind, hopefully something they won't drink. And if you want revenge, put something nasty in the leftover milk container and put it where you normally put it.",
"What is the etiquette like where you work? Any place I've ever worked, milk in the fridge was always fair game, people would take turns buying milk as it ran out. ",
"This is going to cost money, but if you have your own office, buy a mini-fridge and store the milk in that.",
"Take two milks, spit on one and wrap in a note explaining how only one is safe to drink. Which one? Who knows..",
"Save a milk container with an expiration date from 2 weeks ago. Wash and clean the container. Then pour your milk in there. No one wants to drink expired milk",
"Put it in a thermos and then in the fridge? They are probably less likely to steal if they have to open and see what it is.",
"Put a very old milk in the fridge and wait, I think after that no one will ever steal your milk again.",
"Label it as goat milk. A lot of people won't go near goat's milk. For a female (especially one with kids), try labeling it as breast milk.",
"Instead of green or red food coloring, which seems more artificial IMO, maybe make it black or purple food coloring in the milk. I know that would put me off\n",
"If you're willing to be a bit passive aggressive, put your name on it and start marking the milk level on the jug each day (if it is see through) and date it. The person will probably not want to leave evidence that any milk was stolen, so they will avoid it. ",
"I worked with a guy who wrote \"God says stealing is a sin\" on everything he put in the fridge. I didn't steal any of his Cokes but I stole the idea and it's surprisingly effective. I don't know if it's the threat of eternal damnation or if the writing eliminates any 'Oops, I thought that was mine\" accidents but it works very well.\n\n\n\nIf you have an office, buy a [small fridge](http://mini-fridge.info/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/Mid-Size-Mini-Fridge.jpg). It is incredibly satisfying to be able to reach back and grab a cold drink on a hot day without leaving your chair. You can put them in most cubicles too but you won't get the same level of theft protection. Put a microwave oven on top of it and you'll never wait for the guy who starts heating his Smart Ones meal and then walks away. ",
"Few drops of ridiculous hot sauce will get the job done. Don't use normal hot sauce, go with one that's at least a a few million Scoville unit. ",
"Ask around and see if sharing it is office culture. Let it run out - is it replaced? Put up a sign-up sheet on the fridge for hose turn it is to bring milk. Write & cross out your name for the past week. Maybe even but a gallon, and make it clear you are sharing and expect someone to pick up.\n\nI bet everyone else knows who is doing it and will hopefully write his or her name on the sheet under yours. \n\nOr I have heard men with ulcers pay for unhomogenized goats' milk. You could just buy one and refill it. They have to add crazy blatant labels to it. It may put them off of it.\n\nPlease follow up! Office pettiness is the best. And post the revenge over at /r/pettyrevenge."
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"Cat(s) just randomly started peeing on clothes and never did it before Just started discovering it lol. \nThe cat litter is in the laundry room so that might have some correlation but they did it upstairs too.",
"Cat(s) just randomly started peeing on clothes and never did it before Just started discovering it lol. \nThe cat litter is in the laundry room so that might have some correlation but they did it upstairs too.",
"Cat(s) just randomly started peeing on clothes and never did it before Just started discovering it lol. \nThe cat litter is in the laundry room so that might have some correlation but they did it upstairs too.",
"Cat(s) just randomly started peeing on clothes and never did it before Just started discovering it lol. \nThe cat litter is in the laundry room so that might have some correlation but they did it upstairs too.",
"Cat(s) just randomly started peeing on clothes and never did it before Just started discovering it lol. \nThe cat litter is in the laundry room so that might have some correlation but they did it upstairs too.",
"Cat(s) just randomly started peeing on clothes and never did it before Just started discovering it lol. \nThe cat litter is in the laundry room so that might have some correlation but they did it upstairs too.",
"Cat(s) just randomly started peeing on clothes and never did it before Just started discovering it lol. \nThe cat litter is in the laundry room so that might have some correlation but they did it upstairs too.",
"Cat(s) just randomly started peeing on clothes and never did it before Just started discovering it lol. \nThe cat litter is in the laundry room so that might have some correlation but they did it upstairs too.",
"Cat(s) just randomly started peeing on clothes and never did it before Just started discovering it lol. \nThe cat litter is in the laundry room so that might have some correlation but they did it upstairs too."
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"If the litter box is clean and there are no new animals causing a ruckus it may be a urinary tract thing. One of my cats is on science diet SO because she gets crystals in her urinary tract. She peed on my bed to let me know something was wrong or maybe she just couldn't hold it. Take her to the vet. ",
"Definitely check for health issues-cats that associate the litter box with pain will start to avoid it. I've also had cat with urinary tract problems that did exactly this, except he chose to pee on my pillow. Fun times!",
"Other people have already said the correct thing (take her to a vet and double check that the box is being cleaned often enough), but if the vet doesn't find a problem, you may need a litter box on every floor. This is especially true with older cats who might not be as quick getting down the stairs and skittish cats who might get scared away from their litterbox by the dog, a child, the sound of the dryer, a particularly menacing mote of dust, ghosts, imaginary murderers, etc. \n\nIf that doesn't work, put the clothes somewhere that the cat can't get to them. Get laundry baskets with lids if that's where it's happening. Don't let clothes pile up on the floor if that's part of the issue. Just generally try to keep tempting spots to a minimum. ",
"Take kitty to the vet! I spent close to $8k this year alone trying to save my one cat. He blocked up and had to have a massive surgery, tons of after care, and now is on special food. \n\nHopefully it isn't this same problem for your kitty, but it is so much better to err on the side of caution with this. ",
"same problem with my cat who was prone to UTI's. Take him to the vet and change his food to have a lower ash content.",
"We had the same problem. We immediately took her to the vet and they said she was all good \n\nWe found that our cat had a traumatizing experience in her cat box. We have a monster Maine coon who is still a \"kitten\" and he loves to fuck with our other cat who is about 10. I'm sure it was him. We have had a automatic cat box forever and it had never been an issue. Until recently. We went and bought a regular cat box and problem solved ",
"If it is different pieces of clothing, meaning that it could not detect the scent of a prior transgression, this smells to me like a possible urinary system problem.",
"My cat will pee on my clothes if I leave them on the floor. He never pees straight on the floor, only on piles of clothes. He's been checked at the vet and he's fine. If the litter box is not clean, the cat will look elsewhere. Litter boxes need to be cleaned EVERY DAY!!!! Also, putting a second litter box elsewhere may also help since cats like to mark their territory. In my case, I just don't leave clothes on the floor anymore, and my cat goes in his box because there are no tempting clothes piles.",
"Mine does this, its not a physical thing, she's been to more then one vet, I wasn't convinced nothing was wrong but I am now. \rShe will do it especially if she thinks she's hard done by, she's pissed on the lounge right next to my partner, staring him in the eyes because our other cat was on him. She had the room to share, walked in and saw then together, got up next to them like she was going to beg for some lovin too and just pissed. \r\rEverytime we bath her she will piss all though our bed if the doors not shut for the next 2-3 days. I love her but she's fucked that cat."
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"removing odor from new desk Ordered a new desk and arrived a few weeks ago. Had a very fishy smell to it and I thought it would be gone with time. Although the smell had lessened, it is still there. Any ideas on how to get rid of this fishy smell?",
"removing odor from new desk Ordered a new desk and arrived a few weeks ago. Had a very fishy smell to it and I thought it would be gone with time. Although the smell had lessened, it is still there. Any ideas on how to get rid of this fishy smell?",
"removing odor from new desk Ordered a new desk and arrived a few weeks ago. Had a very fishy smell to it and I thought it would be gone with time. Although the smell had lessened, it is still there. Any ideas on how to get rid of this fishy smell?"
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"Newspaper. Spread it out in the drawers and let it sit for a week. Replace as necessary until the odor is gone.",
"oh my dad died and I had to unsMel his stuff. \n\n​\n\nA good scrub wash is a great start.\n\nsomething nice smelling like essential oils on a cotton ball left in drawer helps.\n\nLeave the drawers open to air out",
"If it's made of a material that won't be damaged by vinegar, I'd wipe it down with vinegar--vinegar is great at fighting odors. Don't do that if it's real wood or wood veneer, though. You can hypothetically use *diluted* vinegar on wood furniture, but you'd want to be careful.\n\nBaking soda also absorbs odors, so you could scatter baking soda in the drawers for a day or two, then dump it back out.",
"Febreeze has been my go-to odor remover ever since I used it on fresh strong skunk with amazing results.\n\nDoesn't even have to be real Febreeze: the Dollar Tree knock-off is just as good."
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"How to tell if an internship is worth your time. I'm 18 and finally time to get started in my career. I'm looking to go to school for programming, and I already have a lot of experience in programming and IT, but probably not enough to get a real job in that field. My question is, how can I weed out internships where I'll be doing busy work? What are some tell-tale signs that a company is going to be using you for cheap labor instead of training you well. I'd like to find out how to do this before starting at the company obviously.",
"How to tell if an internship is worth your time. I'm 18 and finally time to get started in my career. I'm looking to go to school for programming, and I already have a lot of experience in programming and IT, but probably not enough to get a real job in that field. My question is, how can I weed out internships where I'll be doing busy work? What are some tell-tale signs that a company is going to be using you for cheap labor instead of training you well. I'd like to find out how to do this before starting at the company obviously.",
"How to tell if an internship is worth your time. I'm 18 and finally time to get started in my career. I'm looking to go to school for programming, and I already have a lot of experience in programming and IT, but probably not enough to get a real job in that field. My question is, how can I weed out internships where I'll be doing busy work? What are some tell-tale signs that a company is going to be using you for cheap labor instead of training you well. I'd like to find out how to do this before starting at the company obviously.",
"How to tell if an internship is worth your time. I'm 18 and finally time to get started in my career. I'm looking to go to school for programming, and I already have a lot of experience in programming and IT, but probably not enough to get a real job in that field. My question is, how can I weed out internships where I'll be doing busy work? What are some tell-tale signs that a company is going to be using you for cheap labor instead of training you well. I'd like to find out how to do this before starting at the company obviously.",
"How to tell if an internship is worth your time. I'm 18 and finally time to get started in my career. I'm looking to go to school for programming, and I already have a lot of experience in programming and IT, but probably not enough to get a real job in that field. My question is, how can I weed out internships where I'll be doing busy work? What are some tell-tale signs that a company is going to be using you for cheap labor instead of training you well. I'd like to find out how to do this before starting at the company obviously.",
"How to tell if an internship is worth your time. I'm 18 and finally time to get started in my career. I'm looking to go to school for programming, and I already have a lot of experience in programming and IT, but probably not enough to get a real job in that field. My question is, how can I weed out internships where I'll be doing busy work? What are some tell-tale signs that a company is going to be using you for cheap labor instead of training you well. I'd like to find out how to do this before starting at the company obviously.",
"How to tell if an internship is worth your time. I'm 18 and finally time to get started in my career. I'm looking to go to school for programming, and I already have a lot of experience in programming and IT, but probably not enough to get a real job in that field. My question is, how can I weed out internships where I'll be doing busy work? What are some tell-tale signs that a company is going to be using you for cheap labor instead of training you well. I'd like to find out how to do this before starting at the company obviously.",
"How to tell if an internship is worth your time. I'm 18 and finally time to get started in my career. I'm looking to go to school for programming, and I already have a lot of experience in programming and IT, but probably not enough to get a real job in that field. My question is, how can I weed out internships where I'll be doing busy work? What are some tell-tale signs that a company is going to be using you for cheap labor instead of training you well. I'd like to find out how to do this before starting at the company obviously.",
"How to tell if an internship is worth your time. I'm 18 and finally time to get started in my career. I'm looking to go to school for programming, and I already have a lot of experience in programming and IT, but probably not enough to get a real job in that field. My question is, how can I weed out internships where I'll be doing busy work? What are some tell-tale signs that a company is going to be using you for cheap labor instead of training you well. I'd like to find out how to do this before starting at the company obviously.",
"How to tell if an internship is worth your time. I'm 18 and finally time to get started in my career. I'm looking to go to school for programming, and I already have a lot of experience in programming and IT, but probably not enough to get a real job in that field. My question is, how can I weed out internships where I'll be doing busy work? What are some tell-tale signs that a company is going to be using you for cheap labor instead of training you well. I'd like to find out how to do this before starting at the company obviously.",
"How to tell if an internship is worth your time. I'm 18 and finally time to get started in my career. I'm looking to go to school for programming, and I already have a lot of experience in programming and IT, but probably not enough to get a real job in that field. My question is, how can I weed out internships where I'll be doing busy work? What are some tell-tale signs that a company is going to be using you for cheap labor instead of training you well. I'd like to find out how to do this before starting at the company obviously."
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"You should clearly discuss, and get in writing if possible, the goals of your internship. Now, this isn't free schooling, you'll have to do some busy work no matter what and you'll be the lowest on the totem pole, so don't expect to be taking the lead on any big projects. But voice your concerns and get a clear idea of what your day will be like and what skills you should expect to take away from the experience (and be wary of corporate speak... things like \"resource acquirement and distribution\" for getting coffee for the office, that nonsense), and remember you can always walk away if you don't feel like you're getting much out of the experience. But do be prepared for a fair amount of busy work, that's kinda just part of being an intern. ",
"There are actual labor laws that prevent unpaid interns from doing a job in which the company could just hire someone to do. If it's a paid internship, its a little different and you are generally more independent. But just look for two things.\n\n1. Is someone mentoring me on a consistent basis?\n2. Am I learning different things each day/week relevant to this field?\n\n\nMore formally, from the U.S. Department of Labor site:\n\n> The following six criteria must be applied when making this determination:\nThe internship, even though it includes actual operation of the facilities of the employer, is similar to training which would be given in an educational environment;\n\n> The internship experience is for the benefit of the intern;\n> The intern does not displace regular employees, but works under close supervision of existing staff;\n> The employer that provides the training derives no immediate advantage from the activities of the intern; and on occasion its operations may actually be impeded;\n> The intern is not necessarily entitled to a job at the conclusion of the internship; and\n> The employer and the intern understand that the intern is not entitled to wages for the time spent in the internship.\n\n*",
"In your interview, ask for details about what you'll be working on. Expect some ambiguity, but if they don't have anything concrete to say, it's a bad sign.\n\nAlso: you *will* be doing some busy work. This is both because you're cheap labor and because they won't always have important tasks for you to do. The question is the balance. You can also ask about this in your interview, e.g.: \"When you say I'll be doing 'some' [busy work], does that generally mean an hour a day or four hours a day?\"\n\nFinally, if you come to the internship with some ideas about what you want to learn and try, it increases the odds that it'll be worthwhile for you. It gives your managers some suggestions and helps them look for opportunities for you.\n\nSource: I used to recruit and manage interns (not in this industry, so YMMV). ",
"If possible, ask to speak with other interns/the intern you are replacing. Also, glassdoor.com is a great resource.",
"Well, once you start college, your college should help with that. We hire interns, and we hire most of them from colleges we have an ongoing relationship with, and they send a lot of people to companies they have an ongoing relationship with.\n\nAsk to talk to former interns they've had. \n\nLife Pro tip: if they spend a lot of time telling you how good it's going to be, it's not. This applies to so much more than internships.",
"If you aren't prepared to do busy work, you are in the wrong field. \n\nCS students at my school barely sleep.",
"I called but just got bounced around to various departments. Wrote a couple emails and nothing happened. ",
"From experience I can say the bottom line for Engineering/Science majors is if it pays more than minimum wage it is probably worth your time.\n\nThe summers I spent at minimum wage were shit jobs that gave me no experience (delivering papers, cleaning equipment) and I was better off spending my time at the math lab being a tutor. The summers I spent at a pay higher than minimum wage were actually really good. The highest paying one (20 $/hr) I actually helped design a device to install a heatsink and discovered the international contractor was trying to use cheaper material than the one specified for their heat sinks. This got me some great experience and some time on a CNC machine as well. I was also offered a job at the company when I graduated but ended up taking another one.\n\nThe tell tale sign that someone wants you to do something is that they will pay you good money. If they are paying you minimum wage then that means you are probably doing unskilled labor.\n\nAlso depending on the company busy work can be good experience. No one wanted to build a graphics driver for a custom program at the place where I work. So we just gave it to the highschool intern lol. He did a great job and we were blown away. But that guys dream was to build his own gaming engine and work in the gaming industry so he was pretty above and beyond.",
"Do they have a consistent record of hiring for entry level jobs from the internship program after graduation?",
"As a senior in Computer Engineering who is about to graduate, I can give you some pointers based off my experiences as well as those of my peers. If you are just graduating high school and have not even gone to college yet, don't expect anything meaningful in the CS/programming realm. To be as straightforwards as possible, you are not useful to a company and the amount they would have to train you is not something they would be willing to do since there are thousands of CS/CompE Sophomores and Juniors in college that cannot find internships every Summer. Any \"programming\" job you get offered with a high school skillset is going to be busy work and filing papers and data entry. \n\nNow, you mention that you have a lot of experience in programming, and while I am not doubting you (I know nothing about you obviously) having taken basic programming courses or AP Computer Science means almost nothing. If I handed you a piece of paper right now, could you write pseudo-code to reverse/sort/modify a singly linked list? Doubly linked list? Can you explain shortly but in detail the difference between threads and processes? How much do you know about threading in general? How about data structures and being able to find the time complexity of a program someone gives you a few minutes to look at? The amount of 18 year old high school grads I know that have the programming competency of a Junior/Senior in CS are, well, virtually nonexistent.\n\nBut since I this is LPT and I'm supposed to be helpful instead of rude, I will give you some tips. You see the sample questions I posted in the paragraph above? These are all sample questions I have gotten from interviewers for internships I have applied for...some I got and some I did not. If a company is not asking you any real technical questions then the job will be crap. Here is a site that has sample programming questions a company may ask you to solve in a very short amount of time... http://maxnoy.com/interviews.html\n\nAnother good thing to look for is for specifics in the job posting. There is no bigger red flag than an incredibly vague job posting with a lot of buzz words that end up meaning nothing... if you find an internship advertised as a \"Developer\" position, and all the posting says is things like \"BEING CREATIVE AND WORKING HARD TO CREATE AN AWESOME APP\" instead of listing technical skills you should know or expect to learn, then the job is most likely crap. \n\nIf they are not paying you a competitive wage, then the job is crap. Minimum in my state is around 8/hour, and I would expect at least 20 an hour depending on where the job is and if they are covering any of your expenses. Any company that pays you minimum or near-minimum wage will not give you anything meaningful to do with your time. I know people on Reddit like to complain about unpaid internships, so you should know that out of the 200-250 internships I have applied for over 3 summers (you get rejected a lot, it happens) I have NEVER seen anything remotely close to an unpaid internship. A programming internship should NEVER EVER be unpaid. \n\nA lot of people in this thread are saying that busy work is inevitable as an intern. I have an internship where I was coding 50% of the time and writing reports/filling data (busywork) the other 50% of the time. The next summer I was doing dev work building a project from the ground up with two other interns under the supervision of a senior engineer. There was virtually no \"busywork\"...just 40 hours (usually more) a week of brainstorming and coding. It can be hit or miss whether or not you will get busy work, but the important thing is that you are still learning something. Even in the first scenario, I stayed because I was still interacting with programmers way smarter and more experienced than I was and that was enough to keep me going.",
"This thread has been linked to from another place on reddit.\n\n\n- [/r/knowyourshit] [LPT Request: How to tell if an internship is worth your time. - LifeProTips](http://np.reddit.com/r/knowyourshit/comments/2xx0nn/lpt_request_how_to_tell_if_an_internship_is_worth/)\n\n\n^Please ^follow ^the ^rules ^of ^reddit ^and ^avoid ^voting ^or ^commenting ^in ^linked ^threads. ^\\([Info](/r/TotesMessenger/wiki/) ^| ^[Contact](/message/compose/?to=\\/r\\/TotesMessenger))"
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"Mechanics My family has had tons of car troubles all throughout my life and I'm sure it happens to everyone but I'm tired or gettin walked over. \n\n Let's here some tips about how not to get screwed or at least less screwed when we already have to forkout enough dough as it is at the mechanics. ",
"Mechanics My family has had tons of car troubles all throughout my life and I'm sure it happens to everyone but I'm tired or gettin walked over. \n\n Let's here some tips about how not to get screwed or at least less screwed when we already have to forkout enough dough as it is at the mechanics. ",
"Mechanics My family has had tons of car troubles all throughout my life and I'm sure it happens to everyone but I'm tired or gettin walked over. \n\n Let's here some tips about how not to get screwed or at least less screwed when we already have to forkout enough dough as it is at the mechanics. ",
"Mechanics My family has had tons of car troubles all throughout my life and I'm sure it happens to everyone but I'm tired or gettin walked over. \n\n Let's here some tips about how not to get screwed or at least less screwed when we already have to forkout enough dough as it is at the mechanics. "
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"Learn how to do it yourself. You can save a lot of money doing some of the arbitrary tune up stuff yourself. Changing tires, oil, air filter, oil filter, fuel pump, spark plugs, or brakes, for example. When you get a little more comfortable, start changing things like belts, the alternator, radiator, water pump, gaskets, or starter.\n\nThere are going to be some thing you can't do yourself due to lack of tools, but it amazes me how many people can't do something as simple as change disk brakes. Have some independence. Give it a try. Worst case you take it in to a shop to finish the job with your own parts and you pay them any way.\n\nWhich reminds me, another good idea would be to get price quotes on replacements parts, so when you go to a shop, you can make sure they aren't tagging on some outrageous markup on the parts.\n\nDisclaimer: I am not a mechanic (I can do all of the above, though).",
"*When you go to a mechanic and they say they have to replace anything... ask for the broken part. If you know what needs to be replaced and have acess to, mark it as well. \n*If you can shop around, take your car to more than one mechanic for a free assessment. \n*Make references to your \"uncle\" who is a mechanic that doesnt have time to make the repair, thats why you're there. This will plant the idea that they will be checked on.",
"The easiest way to prevent getting taken advantage of is to educate yourself. Here's how you do that:\n\n- When you purchase a new vehicle, read the owners manual. Additionally, purchase a Chilton's, Haynes or Bentley's manual for the vehicle. Keep the owners manual in the glove box and keep the other manual at the house. Read both on an annual basis. (The Chilton's manual can just be thumbed through.) \n\n- Take your cat-video watching ass and YouTube \"How a transmission works,\" or \"How a four stroke engine works.\" We live in an information age where you have the equivalent of a limitless encyclopedia of information (and porn) in your fucking pocket. Ignorance should not be an excuse for not knowing how your automobile works. \n\n- Find a mechanic in your city and have him do a few simple tasks like changing your oil, rotating your tires and changing your serpentine belt. These tasks are simple and can give you a feel for the shop you're visiting. PROTIP: You want to do business with a shop that is clean and hooligan free. How do the floors look? Is there oil and grease everywhere? Do the mechanics seem happy or a they all giving you a thousand yard stare? Does the place have a customer waiting area? Are the bathrooms clean? These are the things you need to look for when you are searching for a good mechanic. You need someone who is going to pay attention to the details. Details in the auto industry are the difference between enjoying your 2200 mile trip to Disneyland and having a wheel come off the car at 70mph. \n\n- Don't play games with the mechanic. Leaving a dollar on your dashboard to see if he steals it is the oldest customer trick in the book. You're not the first one to try it. (Ocassionally, I replace it with a ten spot to see if they're paying attention.) When you automatically assume a mech isn't trustworthy, it entices them to behave in an untrustworthy manner. I know that sucks, but it's the way of the world. Take your valuables out of the car (INCLUDING YOUR WEED, because I will steal that) and turn your stereo down before you get service done. This goes for you too, ladies. As much as We like looking at your tits, you've got to wait in line like everyone else. Tits =/= faster service. \n\n- Ask Questions. If you don't know how a ball joint works, ASK someone. Look it up on the net. Ask the mechanic to explain it to you in laymen's terms. Understand WHY he is recommending replacing it. This goes back to education. If he can explain it in a way that doesn't seem canned or wishy-washy, chances are YOUR CAR NEEDS IT FOR YOU NOT TO DIE IN A HORRIBLE ACCIDENT INVOLVING FIRE AND SMOKE AND THE DEVIL. \n\n- No matter what, remember, most mechanics didn't break your car. Throwing an adolescent temper tantrum about the cost of things when they give you an estimate is fucking juvenile. Getting mad and acting arrogant or disrespectful toward someone who's main job is to take care of your second largest investment is asinine. It's like giving a toddler a handgun. Treat your mechanic with respect. S/He knows more about cars than you do and can easily double or triple the price of the repair. \n\n- If you're going to ask for a discount don't be sleezy. Here is the proper way to ask for a discount: \"That seems like a reasonable price for the work you are doing today. Here's the thing, I'm a little short on cash this week. I know you guys do good work, but is there any way that you could help me out a little on the cost? I hate to even ask, but blah blah blah, my wife's birthday, my daughter's bat mitzvah, my dog's anniversary, whatever. If you can help me out a bit, then I'll say go ahead and do that stuff today.\" Trust me. This works. Don't start throwing out numbers or asking for a discount. It makes you come off like a cheapskate. I have, and I am not ashamed to admit, swapped lower quality parts for higher quality ones due to a customer haranguing me over $17 worth of parts for his BMW. \n\n- Above all else, remember the reason you need a mechanic is because you can't do all the work yourself. They have something you need. Treat them with the respect that you would other service personnel, (Fire fighters, doctors, ambulance drivers, district attorneys etc etc) and you'll go far. Start acting like an entitled tool and someone like myself will soak you. \n\nAnd just so you know, I sleep like a baby. ",
"LPT - buy a repair manual and some tools and do it yourself.\n\nSincerely, a mechanic, who got started in the industry by buying a manual, some tools, and doing it myself."
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"How to develop a long term mindset? Hey guys, I always thought I'm a pretty patient person, not getting upset when I have to wait for something. But since I started my business, I realized that I have trouble getting myself into a long term mindset.\n\nI can't expect my business to have success short term, it's all about the long game but I'm constantly looking for shortcuts and quick fixes.\n\nDo you have any tips on how to develop and stick to a long term mindset, and/or maybe improve patience?",
"How to develop a long term mindset? Hey guys, I always thought I'm a pretty patient person, not getting upset when I have to wait for something. But since I started my business, I realized that I have trouble getting myself into a long term mindset.\n\nI can't expect my business to have success short term, it's all about the long game but I'm constantly looking for shortcuts and quick fixes.\n\nDo you have any tips on how to develop and stick to a long term mindset, and/or maybe improve patience?"
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"I was always brought up with the long term reward > instant gratification mindset, but I can share what has helped me look at life that way.\n\nI always try to break things down into smaller short term goals, the kind of thing you could do in a week, or an hour, or an afternoon - having varying length tasks will help you ease into being more long term.\n\nI'm doing research for a book right now, so a little goal for me can be something as small as calling an expert to do some research, about an hour's job, or writing just one chapter, about a week's work.\n\nFor you running a business, maybe some of your short term goals would be to call around and look for potential clients, develop a professional website that can promote yourself, or make up some slick business cards to help with brand recognition. You can bang out stuff like that and cross it off a list. Before you know it, you'll have a whole bunch accomplished and be well on your way to your goal."
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"How to improve productivity at home office I was placed at home office from the start of the p.a.n.d.e.m.i.c and since then I'm struggling to get concentrated. It's been almost a year working at home, and I still don't feel I'm delivering all the productivity I used to do at presential work.\n\nSome days I try to work with music, but music gets me joy and makes me open various tabs at Chrome, putting the work aside for half a hour, sometimes more than one hour. When I try to work in silence, I got distracted with ambience, voices, dogs yelling, etc. If I made regular pauses, the pauses got too long. If I work continuously without pauses, I get extremely tired and my arms and neck starts to pain.\n\nAnyway, I didn't find \"a good way\" to work productively at home, but I need, because I won't go back to presential work anytime soon. Every tip you can share with me will be very valuable.",
"How to improve productivity at home office I was placed at home office from the start of the p.a.n.d.e.m.i.c and since then I'm struggling to get concentrated. It's been almost a year working at home, and I still don't feel I'm delivering all the productivity I used to do at presential work.\n\nSome days I try to work with music, but music gets me joy and makes me open various tabs at Chrome, putting the work aside for half a hour, sometimes more than one hour. When I try to work in silence, I got distracted with ambience, voices, dogs yelling, etc. If I made regular pauses, the pauses got too long. If I work continuously without pauses, I get extremely tired and my arms and neck starts to pain.\n\nAnyway, I didn't find \"a good way\" to work productively at home, but I need, because I won't go back to presential work anytime soon. Every tip you can share with me will be very valuable.",
"How to improve productivity at home office I was placed at home office from the start of the p.a.n.d.e.m.i.c and since then I'm struggling to get concentrated. It's been almost a year working at home, and I still don't feel I'm delivering all the productivity I used to do at presential work.\n\nSome days I try to work with music, but music gets me joy and makes me open various tabs at Chrome, putting the work aside for half a hour, sometimes more than one hour. When I try to work in silence, I got distracted with ambience, voices, dogs yelling, etc. If I made regular pauses, the pauses got too long. If I work continuously without pauses, I get extremely tired and my arms and neck starts to pain.\n\nAnyway, I didn't find \"a good way\" to work productively at home, but I need, because I won't go back to presential work anytime soon. Every tip you can share with me will be very valuable.",
"How to improve productivity at home office I was placed at home office from the start of the p.a.n.d.e.m.i.c and since then I'm struggling to get concentrated. It's been almost a year working at home, and I still don't feel I'm delivering all the productivity I used to do at presential work.\n\nSome days I try to work with music, but music gets me joy and makes me open various tabs at Chrome, putting the work aside for half a hour, sometimes more than one hour. When I try to work in silence, I got distracted with ambience, voices, dogs yelling, etc. If I made regular pauses, the pauses got too long. If I work continuously without pauses, I get extremely tired and my arms and neck starts to pain.\n\nAnyway, I didn't find \"a good way\" to work productively at home, but I need, because I won't go back to presential work anytime soon. Every tip you can share with me will be very valuable.",
"How to improve productivity at home office I was placed at home office from the start of the p.a.n.d.e.m.i.c and since then I'm struggling to get concentrated. It's been almost a year working at home, and I still don't feel I'm delivering all the productivity I used to do at presential work.\n\nSome days I try to work with music, but music gets me joy and makes me open various tabs at Chrome, putting the work aside for half a hour, sometimes more than one hour. When I try to work in silence, I got distracted with ambience, voices, dogs yelling, etc. If I made regular pauses, the pauses got too long. If I work continuously without pauses, I get extremely tired and my arms and neck starts to pain.\n\nAnyway, I didn't find \"a good way\" to work productively at home, but I need, because I won't go back to presential work anytime soon. Every tip you can share with me will be very valuable.",
"How to improve productivity at home office I was placed at home office from the start of the p.a.n.d.e.m.i.c and since then I'm struggling to get concentrated. It's been almost a year working at home, and I still don't feel I'm delivering all the productivity I used to do at presential work.\n\nSome days I try to work with music, but music gets me joy and makes me open various tabs at Chrome, putting the work aside for half a hour, sometimes more than one hour. When I try to work in silence, I got distracted with ambience, voices, dogs yelling, etc. If I made regular pauses, the pauses got too long. If I work continuously without pauses, I get extremely tired and my arms and neck starts to pain.\n\nAnyway, I didn't find \"a good way\" to work productively at home, but I need, because I won't go back to presential work anytime soon. Every tip you can share with me will be very valuable.",
"How to improve productivity at home office I was placed at home office from the start of the p.a.n.d.e.m.i.c and since then I'm struggling to get concentrated. It's been almost a year working at home, and I still don't feel I'm delivering all the productivity I used to do at presential work.\n\nSome days I try to work with music, but music gets me joy and makes me open various tabs at Chrome, putting the work aside for half a hour, sometimes more than one hour. When I try to work in silence, I got distracted with ambience, voices, dogs yelling, etc. If I made regular pauses, the pauses got too long. If I work continuously without pauses, I get extremely tired and my arms and neck starts to pain.\n\nAnyway, I didn't find \"a good way\" to work productively at home, but I need, because I won't go back to presential work anytime soon. Every tip you can share with me will be very valuable.",
"How to improve productivity at home office I was placed at home office from the start of the p.a.n.d.e.m.i.c and since then I'm struggling to get concentrated. It's been almost a year working at home, and I still don't feel I'm delivering all the productivity I used to do at presential work.\n\nSome days I try to work with music, but music gets me joy and makes me open various tabs at Chrome, putting the work aside for half a hour, sometimes more than one hour. When I try to work in silence, I got distracted with ambience, voices, dogs yelling, etc. If I made regular pauses, the pauses got too long. If I work continuously without pauses, I get extremely tired and my arms and neck starts to pain.\n\nAnyway, I didn't find \"a good way\" to work productively at home, but I need, because I won't go back to presential work anytime soon. Every tip you can share with me will be very valuable.",
"How to improve productivity at home office I was placed at home office from the start of the p.a.n.d.e.m.i.c and since then I'm struggling to get concentrated. It's been almost a year working at home, and I still don't feel I'm delivering all the productivity I used to do at presential work.\n\nSome days I try to work with music, but music gets me joy and makes me open various tabs at Chrome, putting the work aside for half a hour, sometimes more than one hour. When I try to work in silence, I got distracted with ambience, voices, dogs yelling, etc. If I made regular pauses, the pauses got too long. If I work continuously without pauses, I get extremely tired and my arms and neck starts to pain.\n\nAnyway, I didn't find \"a good way\" to work productively at home, but I need, because I won't go back to presential work anytime soon. Every tip you can share with me will be very valuable.",
"How to improve productivity at home office I was placed at home office from the start of the p.a.n.d.e.m.i.c and since then I'm struggling to get concentrated. It's been almost a year working at home, and I still don't feel I'm delivering all the productivity I used to do at presential work.\n\nSome days I try to work with music, but music gets me joy and makes me open various tabs at Chrome, putting the work aside for half a hour, sometimes more than one hour. When I try to work in silence, I got distracted with ambience, voices, dogs yelling, etc. If I made regular pauses, the pauses got too long. If I work continuously without pauses, I get extremely tired and my arms and neck starts to pain.\n\nAnyway, I didn't find \"a good way\" to work productively at home, but I need, because I won't go back to presential work anytime soon. Every tip you can share with me will be very valuable."
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"Try the Pomodoro method. Basically, you put all your focus on one task for 20 minutes, then take a five minute break. As your focus gets better you’ll be able to extend your focus time. In your case I’d say play your music, but focus on the task for 20 minutes, then take a break browsing the web for five. I used a timer when I first started using this technique. It really does get easier over time. Good luck!",
"Make a list of all the tasks that you need to do and cross them off as you go. Tell yourself that you can take a break after every third task or so.",
"Pomodoro study with me youtube videos work so well for me... At the end of the day you need to tey out different things and see what works for you but for me playing one of those videos works wonders !",
"If you are looking for music that will not distract you from your work but still cover up environmental noises do not play a list of songs you like. Instead go to youtube and search for \"study music\", \"ambient music\", \"instrumental music\" or something similar. You could also try various \"white noise\" videos that have rain storm, waterfall, or similar soundtracks.",
"As others suggested, using various methods of timing your breaks/distractions. My brain doesn’t work like that, but it definitely works for my partner. For me, it’s putting pants on. Getting ready for my day like I normally would (skipping the commute) and having the routine really helps. Changing out of them at the end of the work day also sets an endpoint to work.",
"Try Focusmate.com or caveday.org. Virtual co-working spaces have been life changing for me. You’re matched with a person or people to work with, you list out the things you want to work on, and at the end of the time (1hr for FM, 3hr for CD), you report out on what you did and how it went. Such a game changer! Really great way to find accountability buddies.",
"Get a good morning routine. I have put a list of some things on my morning routine and hope it helps you! \n\n1. Fix your sleep - Sleep and wake up consistently at the same time.\n\n2. Actually wake up - Don't hit that snooze button.\n\n2.5 (Bonus Tip). When using an alarm on your phone, place your phone on the opposite side of the room - This means you need to actually get up to shut it off\n\n3. Breakfast time - Get something to eat which will give you enough brain fuel for the day but doesn't have lots of sugar.\n\n3.5 (Bonus Tip). Plan your breakfast the night before - Just trust me on that one.\n\n4. Brush teeth + wash face - Washing your face with cold water will wake you fully up faster than any caffeinated beverage.\n\n5. Clothes - Get changed into actual clothes. Trying to work in pajamas or just lounge wear may be tricky. Put on some semi work clothes or casual clothes. Like jeans and a shirt or something. \n\n6. Lock that phone away - Don't try to work with a phone near you (unless you require it for work). Once your mind gets bored of doing work, your phone is the best source for entertainment hence, distraction. \n\n7. Switch up the scenery - If you have been working in the same room for the past 12 months, switch it up. If you are in your home office, move your setup into the kitchen, or living room or elsewhere. \n\n7.5 (Bonus Tip). Work in natural light - Make sure you have a good source of natural light bright source of natural light, it helps me focus a bit better.",
"First off, it takes time ot get productive working from home. Home is a place we relax, and making a mental transition takes time. I started working from home years ago, but it still took a year to get productive. I would watch tv, end up browsing etc. Now I'm better...\n\nGeneral advice\n- dress for work;helps set the mood\n- have a separate work area; this helps the mind transition when you sit there (could be a particular corner of the sofa) \n- i fake the commute while washing dishes (or doing and the chore) before work; it helps me start thinking about work\n- at the end of the day, write down the things you want to do first tomorrow. \n- give yourself a break. You'll be as productive as you want to be - each day is a battle, and sometimes you lose.",
"and yet people working from home are more productive than they were in the office most likely because they don't have to waste time and energy on getting all dressed up and commuting to work.",
"My company uses special tools. For example, [Stork ](https://stork.ai/). This service is a must-have for better communication within remote teams."
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"how do you handle people you really dont get along with/have nothing in common with but have to get along with and have to see/hear from them everyday? ",
"how do you handle people you really dont get along with/have nothing in common with but have to get along with and have to see/hear from them everyday? ",
"how do you handle people you really dont get along with/have nothing in common with but have to get along with and have to see/hear from them everyday? ",
"how do you handle people you really dont get along with/have nothing in common with but have to get along with and have to see/hear from them everyday? "
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"Throw in the towel, and just be yourself. Don't bother with a filter, you'll be happier just saying the first thing that comes to mind.\n\nActually, don't do that. It's terrible advice! 😂",
"\"...have to see/hear from them everyday?\"\n\n\"The In-Laws that want a lot of contact\"\n\nYou've got a much bigger problem than some shitty co-workers you're trying to escape.\n\nYou need to get your SO in on this, pronto. If your SO is with you, they should be able to run interference on your behalf and get them off your ass and do the dirty work of setting boundaries. If your SO is against you and thinks you two and her parents need to be bestest of buddies because they were their best friends growing up, that have to talk every day, you are fuuuuucked and just haven't figured out that you're the odd-man-out of this triangle just yet.\n\nTime to get with your significant other and see which side they are playing on to navigate this. This is their issue to resolve, not yours.",
"Just repeat Anthony Jeselnik jokes until you creep them out. The darker the better. They'll want to stop talking to you altogether.",
"LPT: \"everyday\" means common. \"Every day\" means each day. Know your language or be doomed to a life of being misunderstood."
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"Desperately need some advice on staying sane, and minimizing pain while going through zoloft withdrawal. So, I have ADD, which gives me anxiety. For that anxiety, I've been prescribed with zoloft which I take nightly. The last I took it was Thursday night, and because I'm a forgetful little piece of trash, I forgot to renew my prescription, and won't be getting any until monday night.\n\nI need some help staying sane for that time. I'm going into withdrawal already and it absolutley sucks. My whole emotional state is in the gutter, and I'm constantly on edge from all the random pains I'm feeling. Had to go to work while feeling this today, and IT FUCKING SUCKED.\n\nTomorrow I have a day off, but I'll still need to work Monday. Please give me any advice at all for staying positive and minimizing the pain.\n\nThanks in advance.",
"Desperately need some advice on staying sane, and minimizing pain while going through zoloft withdrawal. So, I have ADD, which gives me anxiety. For that anxiety, I've been prescribed with zoloft which I take nightly. The last I took it was Thursday night, and because I'm a forgetful little piece of trash, I forgot to renew my prescription, and won't be getting any until monday night.\n\nI need some help staying sane for that time. I'm going into withdrawal already and it absolutley sucks. My whole emotional state is in the gutter, and I'm constantly on edge from all the random pains I'm feeling. Had to go to work while feeling this today, and IT FUCKING SUCKED.\n\nTomorrow I have a day off, but I'll still need to work Monday. Please give me any advice at all for staying positive and minimizing the pain.\n\nThanks in advance.",
"Desperately need some advice on staying sane, and minimizing pain while going through zoloft withdrawal. So, I have ADD, which gives me anxiety. For that anxiety, I've been prescribed with zoloft which I take nightly. The last I took it was Thursday night, and because I'm a forgetful little piece of trash, I forgot to renew my prescription, and won't be getting any until monday night.\n\nI need some help staying sane for that time. I'm going into withdrawal already and it absolutley sucks. My whole emotional state is in the gutter, and I'm constantly on edge from all the random pains I'm feeling. Had to go to work while feeling this today, and IT FUCKING SUCKED.\n\nTomorrow I have a day off, but I'll still need to work Monday. Please give me any advice at all for staying positive and minimizing the pain.\n\nThanks in advance.",
"Desperately need some advice on staying sane, and minimizing pain while going through zoloft withdrawal. So, I have ADD, which gives me anxiety. For that anxiety, I've been prescribed with zoloft which I take nightly. The last I took it was Thursday night, and because I'm a forgetful little piece of trash, I forgot to renew my prescription, and won't be getting any until monday night.\n\nI need some help staying sane for that time. I'm going into withdrawal already and it absolutley sucks. My whole emotional state is in the gutter, and I'm constantly on edge from all the random pains I'm feeling. Had to go to work while feeling this today, and IT FUCKING SUCKED.\n\nTomorrow I have a day off, but I'll still need to work Monday. Please give me any advice at all for staying positive and minimizing the pain.\n\nThanks in advance."
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"Is there a clinic locally? Does your doctor have an on-call number? You *need* to get your medication. That's not a drug you can simply miss.",
"I don't know where you live but in Canada if you go into the pharmacy where you get your prescription filled and explain that you need a small quantity and that it's an emergency then they'll give you a few pills to keep you going until you can get a renewal. You could call and ask?",
"Go to your regular pharmacy. Explain the situation. They should be able to advance you a couple of days worth and just take it out of your next prescription. \n\nSource: I work in a pharmacy. We hand out emergency supplies like candy until the new script comes in. ",
"Dark Chocolate, and maybe St. John's Wort?. Good luck...\n\nObligatory: I am NOT any sort of medical pro. But research those two things on your own they may be helpful. "
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"How to accept a complement? So I'm a hard working introvert. Send me out in the world and I'll get all the tasks needed done- even stuff I don't need to do. Once in a while someone will thank me for something specific. I never know what to say. I know \"thanks\" is the casual response, but I over think things, so wondering, what is the proper way to accept complements? Do I smile? how should my body language be? \n\nThanks.",
"How to accept a complement? So I'm a hard working introvert. Send me out in the world and I'll get all the tasks needed done- even stuff I don't need to do. Once in a while someone will thank me for something specific. I never know what to say. I know \"thanks\" is the casual response, but I over think things, so wondering, what is the proper way to accept complements? Do I smile? how should my body language be? \n\nThanks.",
"How to accept a complement? So I'm a hard working introvert. Send me out in the world and I'll get all the tasks needed done- even stuff I don't need to do. Once in a while someone will thank me for something specific. I never know what to say. I know \"thanks\" is the casual response, but I over think things, so wondering, what is the proper way to accept complements? Do I smile? how should my body language be? \n\nThanks.",
"How to accept a complement? So I'm a hard working introvert. Send me out in the world and I'll get all the tasks needed done- even stuff I don't need to do. Once in a while someone will thank me for something specific. I never know what to say. I know \"thanks\" is the casual response, but I over think things, so wondering, what is the proper way to accept complements? Do I smile? how should my body language be? \n\nThanks.",
"How to accept a complement? So I'm a hard working introvert. Send me out in the world and I'll get all the tasks needed done- even stuff I don't need to do. Once in a while someone will thank me for something specific. I never know what to say. I know \"thanks\" is the casual response, but I over think things, so wondering, what is the proper way to accept complements? Do I smile? how should my body language be? \n\nThanks."
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"Often, a simple thank you will suffice. Especially given how rude people can be these days. I personally find awkward encounters delightful, it would just make me smile if someone got tripped up in accepting a compliment. \nTry to take each compliment sincerely. If they didn't mean it, they wouldn't have said it right? Must be true! :)",
"I'm in a similar boat.\n\nI usually say, \"Thank you,\" smile politely, and sometimes reference the compliment.\n\nSuch as, \"Thank you, I have been working on taking compliments better. That's encouraging to hear.\"",
"I'm an introvert just like you. Any compliments I get, I just simply smile and say \"Thank you!\" and that's it. No need to respond with anything else.",
"You know exactly what to say. \"Thank you\" and \"you're welcomed\" go a long way with most people. Quit overthinking it. ",
"Saying \"Thanks\" is always good, but looking the person in the eye and saying a little more like \"Thanks, I appreciate it\" is better. Those 3 extra words show that you're grateful for their compliment, and it sort of counter-compliments them. "
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"Is there a way to make text on a scanned document searchable/copyable? For one of my classes the professor has kindly scanned in the necessary chapters of the textbook so we don’t have to purchase (the wildly overpriced) book.\n\nWe need to cite certain passages, so it would be nice to be able to copy/paste the text instead of transcribing it. It would also be great to be able to ctrl-f to find keywords. These are east if the text is able to be highlighted but since the scans are just images of the page, that’s not possible.\n\nI’m just wondering if there’s an easy solution to be able to do all of this from the scans. I know in iOS photos, all text in the photos is indeed able to be highlighted. But this doesn’t seem to apply to macOS, so that would be really inconvenient to have to import the images to my phone’s photos app then do my work from there.\n\nFWIW I’m asking about solutions on Mac, but I’m hoping if there is a solution that it’ll be cross platform.\n\nThanks for any advice!",
"Is there a way to make text on a scanned document searchable/copyable? For one of my classes the professor has kindly scanned in the necessary chapters of the textbook so we don’t have to purchase (the wildly overpriced) book.\n\nWe need to cite certain passages, so it would be nice to be able to copy/paste the text instead of transcribing it. It would also be great to be able to ctrl-f to find keywords. These are east if the text is able to be highlighted but since the scans are just images of the page, that’s not possible.\n\nI’m just wondering if there’s an easy solution to be able to do all of this from the scans. I know in iOS photos, all text in the photos is indeed able to be highlighted. But this doesn’t seem to apply to macOS, so that would be really inconvenient to have to import the images to my phone’s photos app then do my work from there.\n\nFWIW I’m asking about solutions on Mac, but I’m hoping if there is a solution that it’ll be cross platform.\n\nThanks for any advice!"
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"I know Adobe acrobat can do this, but I've never looked for free alternatives. \n\nBut if your phone can do it, just take a picture of the text on your screen or whatever and then use that. I mean, worst case, of course, since it would be better to just do the whole doc.",
"Take a screen capture of the page and copy the image into onenote. Right click the image and extract text"
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"Managing free time appropriately Hello, I'm a compulsive gamer. DOTA 2, Xbox 1. It's not extreme I the way I would skip work or abandon a social life, but my free time needs to be used more productively. \n\nI would like to learn Spanish, work out and ride my bike more. Through the day at work I think today is the day I go work out or actually use some free time for good. Then when I get off its straight to the computer. ",
"Managing free time appropriately Hello, I'm a compulsive gamer. DOTA 2, Xbox 1. It's not extreme I the way I would skip work or abandon a social life, but my free time needs to be used more productively. \n\nI would like to learn Spanish, work out and ride my bike more. Through the day at work I think today is the day I go work out or actually use some free time for good. Then when I get off its straight to the computer. "
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"Time to buy a scheduler! Nothing digital or electronic, but an old-school, pin it to the wall schedular that provides a constant visual reminder of what needs to be done and when. After all, out of sight out of mind, right? So make sure you pencil in everything you want to do, gym, lessons, etc, and have it in a visually prominant spot. \nBeyond that, it's simply forcing yourself to change your habits. Perhaps a reward system will work? \nGood luck!",
"What if you check the Meetup.com in your area and see if you can hook up with people to do these things.. You might also have meetups on there for Gaming as well as other interested you have.. (as a gamer myself this worked for me, Photography clubs.. Beer/wine clubs.. Natural walks.. ) --- Also plan to do other these things before you go to work and take your stuff with you.. Then you can't get cozy on the couch...\n\n=)\n"
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"How do I ask my friend to pay me back for something? My friend and I went to a hockey game a few weeks ago and I ended up having to pay for his 9 dollar metro ticket. He promised me he would pay me back and told me he wont forget. He still hasn't payed me back. I'm really broke but his family is lower class and they need every dollar they can get. How can I ask him for my money without sounding like a dick? ",
"How do I ask my friend to pay me back for something? My friend and I went to a hockey game a few weeks ago and I ended up having to pay for his 9 dollar metro ticket. He promised me he would pay me back and told me he wont forget. He still hasn't payed me back. I'm really broke but his family is lower class and they need every dollar they can get. How can I ask him for my money without sounding like a dick? ",
"How do I ask my friend to pay me back for something? My friend and I went to a hockey game a few weeks ago and I ended up having to pay for his 9 dollar metro ticket. He promised me he would pay me back and told me he wont forget. He still hasn't payed me back. I'm really broke but his family is lower class and they need every dollar they can get. How can I ask him for my money without sounding like a dick? "
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"Asking nicely for what is owed is not being a dick. Having said that, I would approach the situation by asking \"when\" he would be able to pay.\n\nBeyond that, I agree with other commenters ... never a loan, always a gift. If you can't afford to do that, they politely say so.",
"not sure if it applies in this case but I have a habit of forgetting minor things like this and would have no problem being reminded of it",
"Any shot at the two of you doing something together again anytime?\n\nIf he asks you to do something say, \"I'd love to but I'm a little short on cash this month. Hey, I think you still owe me for the metro ticket from that one hockey game though - if you wouldn't mind fronting me this weekend we'll just call it even.\""
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"How can I be more confident when making new friends? I am a 32 married woman with a baby. My husband and I just moved to my hometown after years of living in a city surrounded by college friends - a strong clique. Since my mid 20s, I became really self conscious when making any friends outside this group. I get soooo incredibly nervous at the thought of striking up a new friendship. I totally overthink it. The best thing I can compare it to is that feeling of insecurity when dating, saying things to myself like: “they really don’t like me”, “they have lots of options, why would they want to make plans with me?”, “they already have a group of friends”, etc. \n\nI’m honestly not insecure in most other areas of my life! And up until just a handful of years ago, making friends seemed easy. Now it’s seems hard and complicated. I often think things like... “okay so we go out once. Then what? Then we hang out like a few time a year? What’s the point?”... and then decide I don’t even need friends. It’s all terribly confusing! Help!",
"How can I be more confident when making new friends? I am a 32 married woman with a baby. My husband and I just moved to my hometown after years of living in a city surrounded by college friends - a strong clique. Since my mid 20s, I became really self conscious when making any friends outside this group. I get soooo incredibly nervous at the thought of striking up a new friendship. I totally overthink it. The best thing I can compare it to is that feeling of insecurity when dating, saying things to myself like: “they really don’t like me”, “they have lots of options, why would they want to make plans with me?”, “they already have a group of friends”, etc. \n\nI’m honestly not insecure in most other areas of my life! And up until just a handful of years ago, making friends seemed easy. Now it’s seems hard and complicated. I often think things like... “okay so we go out once. Then what? Then we hang out like a few time a year? What’s the point?”... and then decide I don’t even need friends. It’s all terribly confusing! Help!",
"How can I be more confident when making new friends? I am a 32 married woman with a baby. My husband and I just moved to my hometown after years of living in a city surrounded by college friends - a strong clique. Since my mid 20s, I became really self conscious when making any friends outside this group. I get soooo incredibly nervous at the thought of striking up a new friendship. I totally overthink it. The best thing I can compare it to is that feeling of insecurity when dating, saying things to myself like: “they really don’t like me”, “they have lots of options, why would they want to make plans with me?”, “they already have a group of friends”, etc. \n\nI’m honestly not insecure in most other areas of my life! And up until just a handful of years ago, making friends seemed easy. Now it’s seems hard and complicated. I often think things like... “okay so we go out once. Then what? Then we hang out like a few time a year? What’s the point?”... and then decide I don’t even need friends. It’s all terribly confusing! Help!",
"How can I be more confident when making new friends? I am a 32 married woman with a baby. My husband and I just moved to my hometown after years of living in a city surrounded by college friends - a strong clique. Since my mid 20s, I became really self conscious when making any friends outside this group. I get soooo incredibly nervous at the thought of striking up a new friendship. I totally overthink it. The best thing I can compare it to is that feeling of insecurity when dating, saying things to myself like: “they really don’t like me”, “they have lots of options, why would they want to make plans with me?”, “they already have a group of friends”, etc. \n\nI’m honestly not insecure in most other areas of my life! And up until just a handful of years ago, making friends seemed easy. Now it’s seems hard and complicated. I often think things like... “okay so we go out once. Then what? Then we hang out like a few time a year? What’s the point?”... and then decide I don’t even need friends. It’s all terribly confusing! Help!",
"How can I be more confident when making new friends? I am a 32 married woman with a baby. My husband and I just moved to my hometown after years of living in a city surrounded by college friends - a strong clique. Since my mid 20s, I became really self conscious when making any friends outside this group. I get soooo incredibly nervous at the thought of striking up a new friendship. I totally overthink it. The best thing I can compare it to is that feeling of insecurity when dating, saying things to myself like: “they really don’t like me”, “they have lots of options, why would they want to make plans with me?”, “they already have a group of friends”, etc. \n\nI’m honestly not insecure in most other areas of my life! And up until just a handful of years ago, making friends seemed easy. Now it’s seems hard and complicated. I often think things like... “okay so we go out once. Then what? Then we hang out like a few time a year? What’s the point?”... and then decide I don’t even need friends. It’s all terribly confusing! Help!"
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"I would go to a mommy & me group. You at least have that in common with them there. Just be yourself & your tribe will find you... ",
"Think of how you’re thinking of those potential friends— usually it’s a desire to be liked and have a friend. \nThey’re thinking that way, too! Most people are thinking about /their/ insecurities, they might be having the same issues!\nThere’s a 110% chance that someone is feeling the same way you are. \nInstead of going into it thinking “I hope they like me!” Go into it thinking “how can I make them feel liked and that I want to be their friend?”\nChanging your mindset into a more service oriented thought process will help you be more comfortable. \nIt’s not gonna come all that easy— you have to consciously change your thoughts! All the time!\nAnother thing to do is to tell the person(s) that you’re attempting to befriend that you are feeling this way! Not only will they feel empathy, but then they will probably treat you differently, with more vulnerability— knowing that you have the same thoughts they do. If you show that honest desire for connection, that will invite them subconsciously to open up as well. To be honest. Communication is always key. \nShow them that you love them! Everyone just wants to be heard and loved. They’ll respond by wanting to be closer to you. \nThe biggest key is to remember that you are full of beauty and created to be loved and love in return! If you live that way and treat others that way, the people you need will come to you. \n\nIf you have any other questions or need any tips, I’m the type of person who makes lots of different types of friends with ease. It’s because of the effort I’ve put in and the things I’ve learned. I will be your support!",
"We moved around a lot when we grew up. There was always a real nervousness meeting new friends. I learned one rule... don’t get caught talking about yourself. Always listen to what your new friend has to say and ask lots of questions: who, what, when , where, why etc. If you catch yourself talking about yourself stop immediately. People will love you if you are genuine and listen to what they have to say. A little wit will go a long way. No sarcasm. ",
"Search for a local chapter to you on momsclub.org \n\nI made a lot of great friends being in a local moms club and truly enjoyed it. ",
"Yep I would be yourself and go to groups with people that have similar interests. If you feel you connect with any invite them that do something else with you after. If not you always have the group to go to. Good luck 😊"
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"How to wake up early painlessly Especially as winter and darker evening approaches, I'm desperate for a way to wake up early without feeling so horrible and so tired. I do get enough sleep, so that's not the issue. ",
"How to wake up early painlessly Especially as winter and darker evening approaches, I'm desperate for a way to wake up early without feeling so horrible and so tired. I do get enough sleep, so that's not the issue. ",
"How to wake up early painlessly Especially as winter and darker evening approaches, I'm desperate for a way to wake up early without feeling so horrible and so tired. I do get enough sleep, so that's not the issue. ",
"How to wake up early painlessly Especially as winter and darker evening approaches, I'm desperate for a way to wake up early without feeling so horrible and so tired. I do get enough sleep, so that's not the issue. ",
"How to wake up early painlessly Especially as winter and darker evening approaches, I'm desperate for a way to wake up early without feeling so horrible and so tired. I do get enough sleep, so that's not the issue. ",
"How to wake up early painlessly Especially as winter and darker evening approaches, I'm desperate for a way to wake up early without feeling so horrible and so tired. I do get enough sleep, so that's not the issue. ",
"How to wake up early painlessly Especially as winter and darker evening approaches, I'm desperate for a way to wake up early without feeling so horrible and so tired. I do get enough sleep, so that's not the issue. ",
"How to wake up early painlessly Especially as winter and darker evening approaches, I'm desperate for a way to wake up early without feeling so horrible and so tired. I do get enough sleep, so that's not the issue. ",
"How to wake up early painlessly Especially as winter and darker evening approaches, I'm desperate for a way to wake up early without feeling so horrible and so tired. I do get enough sleep, so that's not the issue. ",
"How to wake up early painlessly Especially as winter and darker evening approaches, I'm desperate for a way to wake up early without feeling so horrible and so tired. I do get enough sleep, so that's not the issue. "
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"If you're having problems getting up when it's still dark, you could try a dawn simulator alarm clock (or, if you are poor, a lamp on a timer set for 15min before your alarm). This helps me a lot. \n\n",
"I bought a coffee maker with a timer, so it starts making coffee early in the morning. The smell and sounds of coffee being made are gentle and easy to wake up. Drinking the coffee warms me up and makes it harder to go back to sleep.\n\nI also have a lamp set up to turn on a few minutes later - bought a cheap timer at Lowe's. \n\nFinally, the radio in the bathroom comes on.\n\nThat said - none of these are a substitute for getting a good night's sleep.",
"I would like to point out one thing...\n\nHow do you feel waking up when you have something on your agenda that you're excited about versus \"work\"? \n\nI have the same problem you have and I'm starting to think it's actually a sour disposition towards my obligations. \n\nI noticed this about myself one day when I was going on vacation. I had little sleep, but felt great even though I was tired.\n\nTry using positive verbal command requests - or whatever way you can contrive - to create some positivity in your daily routines.\n\nAnd I think what I'm saying is inline with much of what I've read here, just from a different angle.",
"I think diet is key.\n\nAt least for me, my feelings towards waking up completely changed after I eliminated processed foods (more specifically, anything with added sugar) from my diet.\n\nNo matter how much sleep I got, I always used to feel sluggish and extremely reluctant to leave my bed in the morning. Now, while I don't necessarily wake up feeling peppy and enthusiastic, waking up is pretty painless.\n\nAt least make sure you're hydrated in the evening. Drinking enough water can alleviate several problems, if not just drowsiness.\n\nSometimes I still find that dark winter mornings can make me prone to a deeper sort of sadness that is completely independent from my diet, though.\nI read [this quote](http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/148770-your-cold-mornings-are-filled-with-the-heartache-about-the), and it was strangely helpful for dealing with the winter morning feels.\nI know this might not be an answer you were looking for, but I think that sometimes the heartache of waking up in the dark is something that can't be completely eradicated from the experience of being human. It sucks but you deal with it and cope in the healthiest way possible.\n\n(But still, diet helps) ",
"Low carb diet turned me from an afternoon waker to a morning guy who considers sleeping till 8am \"sleeping in\". Don't know if it works for everyone but it's incredible how well it works for me. ",
"Keep a water bottle right on the night stand. Nothing wakes me up like re hydrating after not eating or drinking for ~ 8hrs",
"What is \"enough sleep\"? I would suggest seeing a sleep specialist in your area who may offer some more ideas about why your'e having trouble waking up. It could be that your rest is not as recuperative as you believe it to be.",
"It has really helped me to wake up in between REM sleep cycles. I use http://sleepyti.me/ every night to calculate when I should be falling asleep to time my waking.",
"I've had problems with waking up throughout my entire life. Even going as far as sleeping through the entire alarm sequence. Some things that I've found that replacing my alarm with my iPod really helps. Instead of waking up to the urgent sound of an alarm, I have a playlist of songs that I set as the alarm. I also find that the days following the nights when I'm at the gym a few hours before I sleep are the days when I'm feeling the least drowsy.",
"I've found that lately, the jolt of a phone vibration right under my head really helps. I bolt right up off the pillow, instead of groggily waking up, feeling the comfort of my pillow, and falling back to sleep. "
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"airplane motion sickness I’ve never had this problem when I was younger, but since a few years ago, I started getting extremely nauseous on planes-and then eventually throwing up. It doesn’t matter how long the plane ride is, since I’ve been on an hour, four hour, and 14 hour planes and I got nauseous/throwing up each time. It really sucks and its super tiring. Some things I’ve tried that didn’t work at all are:\n\n-Motion sickness medicine \n-Cut out alcohol before/during plane ride \n-Cut out caffeine before/during plane ride\n-Nicotine (doesn’t seem to be a factor at all). \n-Empty stomach (made it worse) \n\nI’ve also thought maybe because I hate/fear being in poorly lit/dark crowded places with a lot of people, I could sit near the emergency exit near the hallway (since it’d be more “empty”). But this didn’t work as well. \n\nI tried closing my eyes, just trying to sleep and I woke up in a panic because I felt that I was a few seconds near throwing up. I’m kinda lost on what to do. ",
"airplane motion sickness I’ve never had this problem when I was younger, but since a few years ago, I started getting extremely nauseous on planes-and then eventually throwing up. It doesn’t matter how long the plane ride is, since I’ve been on an hour, four hour, and 14 hour planes and I got nauseous/throwing up each time. It really sucks and its super tiring. Some things I’ve tried that didn’t work at all are:\n\n-Motion sickness medicine \n-Cut out alcohol before/during plane ride \n-Cut out caffeine before/during plane ride\n-Nicotine (doesn’t seem to be a factor at all). \n-Empty stomach (made it worse) \n\nI’ve also thought maybe because I hate/fear being in poorly lit/dark crowded places with a lot of people, I could sit near the emergency exit near the hallway (since it’d be more “empty”). But this didn’t work as well. \n\nI tried closing my eyes, just trying to sleep and I woke up in a panic because I felt that I was a few seconds near throwing up. I’m kinda lost on what to do. ",
"airplane motion sickness I’ve never had this problem when I was younger, but since a few years ago, I started getting extremely nauseous on planes-and then eventually throwing up. It doesn’t matter how long the plane ride is, since I’ve been on an hour, four hour, and 14 hour planes and I got nauseous/throwing up each time. It really sucks and its super tiring. Some things I’ve tried that didn’t work at all are:\n\n-Motion sickness medicine \n-Cut out alcohol before/during plane ride \n-Cut out caffeine before/during plane ride\n-Nicotine (doesn’t seem to be a factor at all). \n-Empty stomach (made it worse) \n\nI’ve also thought maybe because I hate/fear being in poorly lit/dark crowded places with a lot of people, I could sit near the emergency exit near the hallway (since it’d be more “empty”). But this didn’t work as well. \n\nI tried closing my eyes, just trying to sleep and I woke up in a panic because I felt that I was a few seconds near throwing up. I’m kinda lost on what to do. ",
"airplane motion sickness I’ve never had this problem when I was younger, but since a few years ago, I started getting extremely nauseous on planes-and then eventually throwing up. It doesn’t matter how long the plane ride is, since I’ve been on an hour, four hour, and 14 hour planes and I got nauseous/throwing up each time. It really sucks and its super tiring. Some things I’ve tried that didn’t work at all are:\n\n-Motion sickness medicine \n-Cut out alcohol before/during plane ride \n-Cut out caffeine before/during plane ride\n-Nicotine (doesn’t seem to be a factor at all). \n-Empty stomach (made it worse) \n\nI’ve also thought maybe because I hate/fear being in poorly lit/dark crowded places with a lot of people, I could sit near the emergency exit near the hallway (since it’d be more “empty”). But this didn’t work as well. \n\nI tried closing my eyes, just trying to sleep and I woke up in a panic because I felt that I was a few seconds near throwing up. I’m kinda lost on what to do. ",
"airplane motion sickness I’ve never had this problem when I was younger, but since a few years ago, I started getting extremely nauseous on planes-and then eventually throwing up. It doesn’t matter how long the plane ride is, since I’ve been on an hour, four hour, and 14 hour planes and I got nauseous/throwing up each time. It really sucks and its super tiring. Some things I’ve tried that didn’t work at all are:\n\n-Motion sickness medicine \n-Cut out alcohol before/during plane ride \n-Cut out caffeine before/during plane ride\n-Nicotine (doesn’t seem to be a factor at all). \n-Empty stomach (made it worse) \n\nI’ve also thought maybe because I hate/fear being in poorly lit/dark crowded places with a lot of people, I could sit near the emergency exit near the hallway (since it’d be more “empty”). But this didn’t work as well. \n\nI tried closing my eyes, just trying to sleep and I woke up in a panic because I felt that I was a few seconds near throwing up. I’m kinda lost on what to do. ",
"airplane motion sickness I’ve never had this problem when I was younger, but since a few years ago, I started getting extremely nauseous on planes-and then eventually throwing up. It doesn’t matter how long the plane ride is, since I’ve been on an hour, four hour, and 14 hour planes and I got nauseous/throwing up each time. It really sucks and its super tiring. Some things I’ve tried that didn’t work at all are:\n\n-Motion sickness medicine \n-Cut out alcohol before/during plane ride \n-Cut out caffeine before/during plane ride\n-Nicotine (doesn’t seem to be a factor at all). \n-Empty stomach (made it worse) \n\nI’ve also thought maybe because I hate/fear being in poorly lit/dark crowded places with a lot of people, I could sit near the emergency exit near the hallway (since it’d be more “empty”). But this didn’t work as well. \n\nI tried closing my eyes, just trying to sleep and I woke up in a panic because I felt that I was a few seconds near throwing up. I’m kinda lost on what to do. "
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"Take some Dramamine, or you could try Benadryl not only can it make you sleep through the flight but it also has anti emetic properties ",
"This same thing happens to me! It never happened as a kid but now it does as an adult. I've found it's worse in the aisle seat, and better by a window. When there are even minor bumps when I am in an aisle seat, the sight of people's heads and bags moving in unison makes the motion sickness feeling worse for me. The window seat is better. When I start to feel sick, I look out the window at the virtually unchanged scenery. Seeing the still scenery helps me with my motion sickness.",
"There are stronger prescription medications you could try; see a doctor. Maybe an antinausea med as well.",
"Take motion sickness medicine (wtf is it called) and ask your doc for some anxiety meds. Should help clear everything up!\n\nSource; had motion sickness my whole life ",
"If dramamine doesn't work then try xanax, or other anxiety meds. I asked my doctor for some and i slept through my whole flight, ",
"I used to have this same problem. I found these wrist bands that completely solved the problem. I’m not going to pretend to know how they work I just know I’ve never had an issue since. They also work on long bus rides which I also get sick on so they pull double duty. Just google motion sickness wristbands."
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"How can I be more of a leader and not be teased by my friends/classmates ? So basically I am that kid who is always left without a group during an activity, that kid who has to walk behind his friends if there isn't enough space, that kid everyone forgets about after a few years, that kid who gets teased in a group by others. How can I change this and not be \"that kid\"? How can I become a leader?\n\n",
"How can I be more of a leader and not be teased by my friends/classmates ? So basically I am that kid who is always left without a group during an activity, that kid who has to walk behind his friends if there isn't enough space, that kid everyone forgets about after a few years, that kid who gets teased in a group by others. How can I change this and not be \"that kid\"? How can I become a leader?\n\n",
"How can I be more of a leader and not be teased by my friends/classmates ? So basically I am that kid who is always left without a group during an activity, that kid who has to walk behind his friends if there isn't enough space, that kid everyone forgets about after a few years, that kid who gets teased in a group by others. How can I change this and not be \"that kid\"? How can I become a leader?\n\n",
"How can I be more of a leader and not be teased by my friends/classmates ? So basically I am that kid who is always left without a group during an activity, that kid who has to walk behind his friends if there isn't enough space, that kid everyone forgets about after a few years, that kid who gets teased in a group by others. How can I change this and not be \"that kid\"? How can I become a leader?\n\n",
"How can I be more of a leader and not be teased by my friends/classmates ? So basically I am that kid who is always left without a group during an activity, that kid who has to walk behind his friends if there isn't enough space, that kid everyone forgets about after a few years, that kid who gets teased in a group by others. How can I change this and not be \"that kid\"? How can I become a leader?\n\n",
"How can I be more of a leader and not be teased by my friends/classmates ? So basically I am that kid who is always left without a group during an activity, that kid who has to walk behind his friends if there isn't enough space, that kid everyone forgets about after a few years, that kid who gets teased in a group by others. How can I change this and not be \"that kid\"? How can I become a leader?\n\n",
"How can I be more of a leader and not be teased by my friends/classmates ? So basically I am that kid who is always left without a group during an activity, that kid who has to walk behind his friends if there isn't enough space, that kid everyone forgets about after a few years, that kid who gets teased in a group by others. How can I change this and not be \"that kid\"? How can I become a leader?\n\n"
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"You're trying to deal with multiple things. You won't instantly become \"that person\". It seems like your peers will probably treat you the same way no matter what because you have all fallen into a pattern of behavior. If you are young, that pattern of behaviors is unlikely to change because everyone is so insecure, they can't see outside themselves to change.\n\nConfidence is mostly a bluff. Counting on others to be slightly more insecure than you are, because everyone is insecure about something. The true break through is when you grow enough to recognize that your insecurity is so insignificant that is actually doesn't matter.\n\nYou've already pin pointed what you can address right now. \n\n1. Make a conscious effort to not walk in the back of the pack, stay equal if not with the front of the group (you're just walking so walk faster than the others even if you are just being quiet).\n2. Be empathetic. Listen to others and let them know you heard what they are saying (we all want to feel like we are heard and we don't forget the people who listen to us).\n3. If you get teased stand up for yourself at appropriate times (one-on-one). Most people really don't intend to tease to the point of being cruel or a bully. If they know it bothers you they will at least try to do it less.\n\nFinally, being a leader can take time. Try to release yourself from the prison that is self-consciousness. Recognize that everyone is self-conscious and try to tap into the emotions of others without worrying about yourself. \n\nSorry for the late night ramble.",
"Eat your greens and go work out. \n\nI agree, it sound like bullshit. It's not. \n\nEating a substantial amount of well cooked green (and other colored) veggies will give your body a substantial amount of micronutrients to work with. Alternately you can eat plenty of heart, skin, and liver. But most people prefer the greens. \n\nIf you then go work out, mostly lifting really heavy shit (we're talking 5, maybe 10 reps at max before you literally can't lift it again) you'll make some pretty fundamental changes to your body. \n\nOne of the biggest is that your testosterone production will go up. Also, your cortisol sensitivity will go down. In concert those will make you more socially forward and less nervous, which is basically the same thing as being more confident. \n\nIf you want to step it up even more, run wind sprints. Go for 100m. Don't time it. Don't measure it. Just run as hard as you can. Maximum anaerobic exertion will increase those hormonal changes. \n\nYou still won't be a leader unless other people want you to be. But that comes down to actually helping people out and not being a fucknugget. No one can really help you with those. \n\nOh, and you'll still be teased. But you'll probably care less. And be teased less. ",
"If your friends are that shitty then screw them, I realized this 3 years ago when my \"best friend\" blew me off 3 weekends in a row, my Lpt for this would be, wait it out until highschool is over, restart at where ever your life takes you after ",
"Pick an area in your life that you really feel you are good at and be a leader in that one area. Take on a cause? If there is one class in school that you are excited about hone your leadership skills there. Being a leader in every situation is exhausting and not really how we grow. ",
"My personal advice, admittedly coming more from the working world rather than what little I remember about school, is basically that if you have a good idea, or think you do at least, be vocal about it. Not annoying, or pushy, but something like \"hey, guys, I really think we should try X\". That being said, though, don't be afraid of owning up to your mistakes if you're wrong. ",
"If you've weighed two options and your gut feeling is option A, do option A without hesitation. When you're right, your confidence will increase. When you're wrong, it won't sting as bad, because you will know you made the best decision you could in a timely manner. ",
"Be yourself and do what you want. People like individuals, not followers. If you're friends suck, ditch them. You will make more, and if not, you're still better off. Please yourself first, and stop worrying about others, especially shitty friends that won't remember you. 1 or 2 good friends is much better than a large group of people that just hang out together. Don't worry about \"missing out\" if you don't go out with group, you aren't missing anything meaningful if it's with people who don't care about you. High School doesn't matter. I had a group of 6-7 guys I was real close with, 20 years later, I only keep in touch with 1 of them. Do what makes you feel good, not what others want you to do to be cool. Make yourself a stronger person, mentally and physically, and all the stuff you worry about now goes away and ceases to affect you. If you get to the point where getting teased or made fun of doesn't matter to you, people will stop. If they don't, it won't matter to you because you will be above it. If you get physically strong as well as mentally, they will probably just leave you alone out of fear of getting their ass kicked or owned by your newfound mental fortitude. Focus on yourself, not others."
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"What are some home remedies or tips to help fight a cold? Besides the Vitamin C, the lotion tissues, and being well rested. ",
"What are some home remedies or tips to help fight a cold? Besides the Vitamin C, the lotion tissues, and being well rested. ",
"What are some home remedies or tips to help fight a cold? Besides the Vitamin C, the lotion tissues, and being well rested. ",
"What are some home remedies or tips to help fight a cold? Besides the Vitamin C, the lotion tissues, and being well rested. "
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"Garlic, eat lots of garlic, its like nature's medicine\n\nDrinking tea with honey/lemon/ginger helps\n\nAlso eating raw honey is good too",
"lift weights hard, stop taking steamy hot showers and roughen up with colder water, maybe keep a fan on in your room at night too.\n\ni havnt been sick in a year now, which is like record for me.",
"[Cold remedies: What works, what doesn't, what can't hurt.](http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/common-cold/in-depth/cold-remedies/art-20046403)\n\nFluids (including chicken soup), Benadryl, and lots of rest are my best friends during a cold. ",
"Spicy foods, salt, lots of water and..\n\nSex... (Serious)\n\n"
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"How to handle warm weather better So, genetically I'm pretty much built for what the weather is usually like here (rain and cold) but it seems like some form of summer is lurking around finally. Problem is, I'm sweating my ass of and can barely concentrate because of the warmth! I have a bag on my back most of the time when I'm out which doesn't help either.. There's some anti-sweat stain tips out there, but to actually stop the problem?",
"How to handle warm weather better So, genetically I'm pretty much built for what the weather is usually like here (rain and cold) but it seems like some form of summer is lurking around finally. Problem is, I'm sweating my ass of and can barely concentrate because of the warmth! I have a bag on my back most of the time when I'm out which doesn't help either.. There's some anti-sweat stain tips out there, but to actually stop the problem?",
"How to handle warm weather better So, genetically I'm pretty much built for what the weather is usually like here (rain and cold) but it seems like some form of summer is lurking around finally. Problem is, I'm sweating my ass of and can barely concentrate because of the warmth! I have a bag on my back most of the time when I'm out which doesn't help either.. There's some anti-sweat stain tips out there, but to actually stop the problem?",
"How to handle warm weather better So, genetically I'm pretty much built for what the weather is usually like here (rain and cold) but it seems like some form of summer is lurking around finally. Problem is, I'm sweating my ass of and can barely concentrate because of the warmth! I have a bag on my back most of the time when I'm out which doesn't help either.. There's some anti-sweat stain tips out there, but to actually stop the problem?",
"How to handle warm weather better So, genetically I'm pretty much built for what the weather is usually like here (rain and cold) but it seems like some form of summer is lurking around finally. Problem is, I'm sweating my ass of and can barely concentrate because of the warmth! I have a bag on my back most of the time when I'm out which doesn't help either.. There's some anti-sweat stain tips out there, but to actually stop the problem?",
"How to handle warm weather better So, genetically I'm pretty much built for what the weather is usually like here (rain and cold) but it seems like some form of summer is lurking around finally. Problem is, I'm sweating my ass of and can barely concentrate because of the warmth! I have a bag on my back most of the time when I'm out which doesn't help either.. There's some anti-sweat stain tips out there, but to actually stop the problem?",
"How to handle warm weather better So, genetically I'm pretty much built for what the weather is usually like here (rain and cold) but it seems like some form of summer is lurking around finally. Problem is, I'm sweating my ass of and can barely concentrate because of the warmth! I have a bag on my back most of the time when I'm out which doesn't help either.. There's some anti-sweat stain tips out there, but to actually stop the problem?",
"How to handle warm weather better So, genetically I'm pretty much built for what the weather is usually like here (rain and cold) but it seems like some form of summer is lurking around finally. Problem is, I'm sweating my ass of and can barely concentrate because of the warmth! I have a bag on my back most of the time when I'm out which doesn't help either.. There's some anti-sweat stain tips out there, but to actually stop the problem?",
"How to handle warm weather better So, genetically I'm pretty much built for what the weather is usually like here (rain and cold) but it seems like some form of summer is lurking around finally. Problem is, I'm sweating my ass of and can barely concentrate because of the warmth! I have a bag on my back most of the time when I'm out which doesn't help either.. There's some anti-sweat stain tips out there, but to actually stop the problem?",
"How to handle warm weather better So, genetically I'm pretty much built for what the weather is usually like here (rain and cold) but it seems like some form of summer is lurking around finally. Problem is, I'm sweating my ass of and can barely concentrate because of the warmth! I have a bag on my back most of the time when I'm out which doesn't help either.. There's some anti-sweat stain tips out there, but to actually stop the problem?"
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"1. realise that when it's warmer *outside* then opening the window will only make the indoors *hotter* (a lot of British don't understand this)\n2. draw the curtains - less sun coming in will leave less infra-red heat radiation inside\n3. when outside in hot weather wear a t-shirt or singlet under your shirt - I know this is counter intuitive - but you're going to sweat - and better you sweat into a t-shirt than your business shirt on top",
"LPT- Easy fix carry a bandanna and put water on it and wear on your head - it's like an air conditioner ! \n",
"I live in Florida where it's hot and humid most of the year -- and I don't have air conditioning in my car! I do these to help get through the summer:\n\n- If I'm driving (or walking/ biking) somewhere and it's hot outside I wear a camisole or tank top when I'm en route. When I reach my destination I can put my \"presentable\" shirt on before I go inside -- don't have to worry about sweat marks. If you're a guy you could wear a light-colored undershirt or something similar and do the same thing.\n\n- I always have a cold drink with me when I drive somewhere.\n\n- Wear light-colored/ loose(ish) clothes. It really does help!\n\n- If you start getting seriously overheated, apply ice or a cold compress to your pulse points. It cools you down quickly.\n",
"Somebody posted this a while back: baby powder. Apply to problem areas (pits, crotch, etc) and it'll keep you smooth and dry all day. Plus, you'll smell nice. \n\nThere is also prescription deodorant, which basically kills the sweat glands if you apply it daily. It is kind of awful for you... I spilled it on a table once and it stripped the varnish. But if you tell your doctor you need it they'll write you a script for it and it's guaranteed to stop you from sweating excessively. And it's not like you have to use it forever.",
"If you take cold showers, consider taking hot showers instead. It has something to do with raising your temperature. It works for me. Also, be sure to dress weather appropriately, as far as wear white, or lighter coolers, etc.",
"For your concentration issues: stay hydrated, and replenish electrolytes. Try drinking as much water as you can. Have a glass or bottle next to you constantly. Eat healthy, and include lots of fresh fruit and veggies in your diet for electrolytes (and vitamins and minerals that also help keep you alert). If you don't eat a lot of processed foods (which are loaded with sodium) put a dash of table salt on your meals when it makes sense to. I mentioned in another post that bananas are an especially good source of potassium (an important electrolyte that pairs with sodium), and they're easy to eat and take with you.",
"You need to loofa yourself in the morning shower. Taking the dead skin away will avoid the sweat and dirt mixture that feels gross in warm weather. Also, drink aloe gel.",
"Just put dry bandanas and an ice pack in your freezer overnight, then put then in a thermal lunch bag and carry them around. Nice cold headband anytime",
"ALWAYS have water at hand and be drinking it. Know the key areas that cool you off quickest and either put ice packs there, damp cloth, or just having a fan blowing over it (back and front of neck, wrists, inside of thighs, biceps). Just accept it, sit with it for a minute and don't think of what you have to do, just sit in the warm and feel it. Light colored clothes (think island colors, neons, greens, yellows, whites, pinks). Also I plan to be making one of these very soon for my room http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lGtzlq-Z-eI&feature=related\n\n\nMy background: I grew up in Las Vegas, NV. June, July, August usually always over 100 daily ",
"Reduce your sodium intake. Don't know if it'll stop the sweating but I've found it helps a ton with how hot and swollen I feel. "
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"Make sure you tell them you love them and will miss them before going, so last meetings before the trip are sweet.\n\n Leave a small gift someplace for them to find. \n\n Mail them post cards. They will arrive after you return home, likely, but sitting and writing them is a way of sharing a moment with them.\n\n Skype and email weekly, if you can. Not so often that you don't get to experience the things you are traveling to experience.\n\n Have fun! Stay busy, meet great people, do memorable things.",
"Keep a blog, and update it daily or at least as often as possible. Write about what you are doing and upload photos. \nYour family will probably enjoy writing comments and talking to you through the blog. Make the blog viewable only to people you invite, and you'll be able to keep your privacy while enjoying the benefits of the internet. "
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"How to get bosses to pull their weight? We've just heard how to use the right language around bosses requests. For those that sometimes have to work alongside their bosses, how do you get them to work as hard as one of their employees? If my boss were my hire, I would fire him.",
"How to get bosses to pull their weight? We've just heard how to use the right language around bosses requests. For those that sometimes have to work alongside their bosses, how do you get them to work as hard as one of their employees? If my boss were my hire, I would fire him.",
"How to get bosses to pull their weight? We've just heard how to use the right language around bosses requests. For those that sometimes have to work alongside their bosses, how do you get them to work as hard as one of their employees? If my boss were my hire, I would fire him."
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"Depends on what your boss's job really is. A lot of managerial positions are simply there to oversee a team of employees and ensure that tasks are accounted for and completed. A boss tends to have more responsibilities than his subordinates and delegates pieces of those responsibilities to individual subordinates with the correct experience required of the task in order to get things accomplished in a timely manner. It really depends on what the job is though. Are we talking Construction Foreman? Claims Department Manager? Retail District Manager? Operations Reporting Coordinator? or simply an Assistant Manager or an employee with more time on the job? ",
"I always check to make sure posts like these don't apply to me.\n\n - Signed, a shitty boss that can't figure out how to let his staff let him do more stuff.",
"I think it really depends on the situation. I have been with my company 6 years, and while I am still at the lowest possible position, I have a lot of pull with my managers, especially when we are busy. Just be a facilitator. If things need done, try to give some direction if it won't be frowned upon. If I'm sprinting around like a chicken with my head cut off, my managers know to listen to me if I tell them something needs done.\n\nLPT for me: Get a new job."
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"How to lower my voice? So, my friends and family are always complaining that I speak too loud - and I acknowledge that. Sometimes it is embarrassing. I can't help it though.",
"How to lower my voice? So, my friends and family are always complaining that I speak too loud - and I acknowledge that. Sometimes it is embarrassing. I can't help it though.",
"How to lower my voice? So, my friends and family are always complaining that I speak too loud - and I acknowledge that. Sometimes it is embarrassing. I can't help it though.",
"How to lower my voice? So, my friends and family are always complaining that I speak too loud - and I acknowledge that. Sometimes it is embarrassing. I can't help it though."
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"Reddit can't really diagnose what you are doing without hearing it. \n\nIf you speak from your diaphragm like you are singing, don't do that. \nHave the sound emanate from your mouth/throat, not from your chest.",
"I second the speak slower tip. I often speak loud and my voice carries, i am known for it, as are my parents. Speaking slower and being aware of my breathing / taking pauses has helped!",
"You might just hurt yourself trying to do this. Read the book Change Your Voice, Change Your Life for more about the possible damage.",
"I know a few people including myself that have this issue, it can happen when you have a big family or a loud one. Were when talking you had to become louder in order to be heard. It helps me to think in my head when i talk that i dont need to yell to be heard. It's definitely something you are general taught and have to break like a bad habit. How ever if i get excited about a subject my volume can rise quite fast without me being activly aware. in which case im usually told that im talking loudly."
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"How do I keep my shoulders relaxed? I sit/walk around most of the day with my shoulders really tensed up. I know they are, but I just can't seem to relax them. Help!",
"How do I keep my shoulders relaxed? I sit/walk around most of the day with my shoulders really tensed up. I know they are, but I just can't seem to relax them. Help!",
"How do I keep my shoulders relaxed? I sit/walk around most of the day with my shoulders really tensed up. I know they are, but I just can't seem to relax them. Help!",
"How do I keep my shoulders relaxed? I sit/walk around most of the day with my shoulders really tensed up. I know they are, but I just can't seem to relax them. Help!"
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"Inhale and then loosen your shoulders with the exhale. Don't push your shoulders down with your neck/chest/back/shoulder muscles, focus more on letting your elbows and upper arms fall parallel to your body. Visually imagine your shoulders resting just below your collarbones and your chest strong in front of you, then maintain that position. Visualize your muscles relaxing in the neck, back, and upper chest area. Again, maintain even breathing. Sit or stand straight, slouching lends itself to hunching. Practice power pose whenever possible (google it, I'm lazy on mobile)- waiting in line at the store, on the subway, waiting for coffee to brew. The power pose will help give you confidence and confident people tend not to hunch or tense their shoulders up like anxious/insecure people do.\n",
"Start by regular heating sessions to naturally relax the muscles. I do this at night and it helps a lot! I use a 'magic bag' I don't know where you live, this is a canadian product, but I am sure you can get something similar in your area http://magicbag.com/en/our-products/extended",
"slowly roll them forward, up towards the ears, back (squeezing the shoulder blades together), and try and relax them again. At the very least this will help you be conscious of what you are doing, and at most will relax the shoulders. I do this with my music students when we do breathing and posture exercises.\n\nTense shoulders (raised shoulders) are a common physical sign of discomfort in your surroundings, a way to protect the neck. Consider what your daily surroundings are and how they affect your mood and mentality.",
"Here's a simple trick my mum taught me(or mom for you on the american continent): shrug your shoulders up, and look up, as if you're trying to touch your shoulders to your ears for few seconds. Then essentially do the inverse - put your chin to your chest, and push your shoulders down, and go from there. In both positions, you should be trying to push to an extreme. You'll really notice it on the second one."
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"How to say properly that you accept any place or any time to meet? In a conversation I am often faced with a question like, where or when it is better to gather. The answer is \"anytime anywhere\", but this confuses my interlocutor. The point is to free her from a burden of matching our schedules. But, it basically puts a responsibility on her. What could be a proper behaviour here?",
"How to say properly that you accept any place or any time to meet? In a conversation I am often faced with a question like, where or when it is better to gather. The answer is \"anytime anywhere\", but this confuses my interlocutor. The point is to free her from a burden of matching our schedules. But, it basically puts a responsibility on her. What could be a proper behaviour here?",
"How to say properly that you accept any place or any time to meet? In a conversation I am often faced with a question like, where or when it is better to gather. The answer is \"anytime anywhere\", but this confuses my interlocutor. The point is to free her from a burden of matching our schedules. But, it basically puts a responsibility on her. What could be a proper behaviour here?",
"How to say properly that you accept any place or any time to meet? In a conversation I am often faced with a question like, where or when it is better to gather. The answer is \"anytime anywhere\", but this confuses my interlocutor. The point is to free her from a burden of matching our schedules. But, it basically puts a responsibility on her. What could be a proper behaviour here?",
"How to say properly that you accept any place or any time to meet? In a conversation I am often faced with a question like, where or when it is better to gather. The answer is \"anytime anywhere\", but this confuses my interlocutor. The point is to free her from a burden of matching our schedules. But, it basically puts a responsibility on her. What could be a proper behaviour here?",
"How to say properly that you accept any place or any time to meet? In a conversation I am often faced with a question like, where or when it is better to gather. The answer is \"anytime anywhere\", but this confuses my interlocutor. The point is to free her from a burden of matching our schedules. But, it basically puts a responsibility on her. What could be a proper behaviour here?",
"How to say properly that you accept any place or any time to meet? In a conversation I am often faced with a question like, where or when it is better to gather. The answer is \"anytime anywhere\", but this confuses my interlocutor. The point is to free her from a burden of matching our schedules. But, it basically puts a responsibility on her. What could be a proper behaviour here?",
"How to say properly that you accept any place or any time to meet? In a conversation I am often faced with a question like, where or when it is better to gather. The answer is \"anytime anywhere\", but this confuses my interlocutor. The point is to free her from a burden of matching our schedules. But, it basically puts a responsibility on her. What could be a proper behaviour here?",
"How to say properly that you accept any place or any time to meet? In a conversation I am often faced with a question like, where or when it is better to gather. The answer is \"anytime anywhere\", but this confuses my interlocutor. The point is to free her from a burden of matching our schedules. But, it basically puts a responsibility on her. What could be a proper behaviour here?",
"How to say properly that you accept any place or any time to meet? In a conversation I am often faced with a question like, where or when it is better to gather. The answer is \"anytime anywhere\", but this confuses my interlocutor. The point is to free her from a burden of matching our schedules. But, it basically puts a responsibility on her. What could be a proper behaviour here?",
"How to say properly that you accept any place or any time to meet? In a conversation I am often faced with a question like, where or when it is better to gather. The answer is \"anytime anywhere\", but this confuses my interlocutor. The point is to free her from a burden of matching our schedules. But, it basically puts a responsibility on her. What could be a proper behaviour here?",
"How to say properly that you accept any place or any time to meet? In a conversation I am often faced with a question like, where or when it is better to gather. The answer is \"anytime anywhere\", but this confuses my interlocutor. The point is to free her from a burden of matching our schedules. But, it basically puts a responsibility on her. What could be a proper behaviour here?",
"How to say properly that you accept any place or any time to meet? In a conversation I am often faced with a question like, where or when it is better to gather. The answer is \"anytime anywhere\", but this confuses my interlocutor. The point is to free her from a burden of matching our schedules. But, it basically puts a responsibility on her. What could be a proper behaviour here?"
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"Say, \"I am usually pretty free but I could meet at X and Y\" which at least gives her something to plan against",
"I usually say something to the effect of \"What's the next best time for you?\" It seems like asking for a fact makes the other person feel less burdened.",
"Say something like \"I'm usually available anytime, on short notice, but I'd rather schedule things in advance, when possible.\"",
"it might be confusing for them because you aren't giving them any set options, and while \"at your convenience.\" might sound better it's pretty much the same message but more polite.\n\ngive them some options, be a little assertive.\n\nand if it is an appointment with more people involved ask about the other participants and when they are available and match that, but make sure they know it might change (they'll most likely contact you in this case to make sure you're still up for it or to rescheduled any changes (which ultimately would be fine in your case))",
"At least give a suggestion. For example, \"I'm pretty flexible, but how about 5:00 on Tuesday?\" \n\nIf you say \"anytime, anywhere\" it just makes you look desperate. ",
"Anytime and anywhere raises the image that late nights or even early mornings work or you are not sincere about being on time since some times are usually more convenient (when not working/ studying/ sleeping/ etc.). Similarly, there could be places which are not suitable/ reachable on time/ etc. Hence, take some time to understand what works best for meetings where the time and place are not only acceptable but would be very productive for all concerned.",
"\"Anytime anywhere\" is not a sincere response. Suggest 2-3 times/locations. That places the burden back on you and presents her with a simple choice.",
"I would say to first ask the person - \"Do you have a preference on a place or date/time?\" Asking the question shows you're being considerate, and not simply telling that person they have to decide. If they come back and say they have no preference, then the ball is in your court, and you can offer dates/times/places at your leisure. I think it is always polite to give the other person the chance to express a preference first, however. ",
"I will usually say any time is possible, but then give time blocks that I prefer. If the time doesn't work, then the other person will then try to negotiate when to meet. ",
"I usually say, \"My schedule is more flexible than yours so I can meet when it's best for you and the location doesn't matter to me.\"",
"I keep my Outlook calendar up to date, but my schedule is pretty flexible Tuesdays, Weds, and Thurs morning. If you find a spot I'm booked, let me know and I'll see if I can move it.",
"Give a couple choices rather than leaving it completely open, infinite choices are much harder to pick between, be nice and make it easy, chose a or b. ",
"Determine what it is y'all wanna do - meet for coffee? Hang out? See a movie? Then propose a few appropriate times and locations."
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"How to Act in a Club I am a somewhat sociable person but my girlfriend wants to go to a club to dance. Im not usually a fan of this but i want to but I'm worried kind of. Any tips?\n",
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"Man up. Be cool and confident. No one gives a shit about you because they're all too worried about themselves ",
"Just let yourself relax. If you're not up for dancing right away, just get a drink and sit at a table, or stand around with who you're with. Talk if it's quieter or you're far enough away from the music, or just enjoy your drink and try to settle into the music if you can't chat too much.\n\nEven if you're still not up for it, try to make an effort for her. Go out and dance with her for a bit, more than just 1 song, then step out for a bit to cool down/relax and go back out later. Understandably, not everyone will like it, and hopefully she gets that, but it's a bit of compromise to once in a while dance with her."
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"How do you get rid of phlegm in your throat? I've tried lots of things including gargling with warm salty water which eases it up a bit but doesn't do the full job.\n\nI have a very bad allergy which causes post nasal drip most of the times. Very annoying lol. What are the most effective techniques that worked for you?",
"How do you get rid of phlegm in your throat? I've tried lots of things including gargling with warm salty water which eases it up a bit but doesn't do the full job.\n\nI have a very bad allergy which causes post nasal drip most of the times. Very annoying lol. What are the most effective techniques that worked for you?",
"How do you get rid of phlegm in your throat? I've tried lots of things including gargling with warm salty water which eases it up a bit but doesn't do the full job.\n\nI have a very bad allergy which causes post nasal drip most of the times. Very annoying lol. What are the most effective techniques that worked for you?",
"How do you get rid of phlegm in your throat? I've tried lots of things including gargling with warm salty water which eases it up a bit but doesn't do the full job.\n\nI have a very bad allergy which causes post nasal drip most of the times. Very annoying lol. What are the most effective techniques that worked for you?",
"How do you get rid of phlegm in your throat? I've tried lots of things including gargling with warm salty water which eases it up a bit but doesn't do the full job.\n\nI have a very bad allergy which causes post nasal drip most of the times. Very annoying lol. What are the most effective techniques that worked for you?",
"How do you get rid of phlegm in your throat? I've tried lots of things including gargling with warm salty water which eases it up a bit but doesn't do the full job.\n\nI have a very bad allergy which causes post nasal drip most of the times. Very annoying lol. What are the most effective techniques that worked for you?",
"How do you get rid of phlegm in your throat? I've tried lots of things including gargling with warm salty water which eases it up a bit but doesn't do the full job.\n\nI have a very bad allergy which causes post nasal drip most of the times. Very annoying lol. What are the most effective techniques that worked for you?",
"How do you get rid of phlegm in your throat? I've tried lots of things including gargling with warm salty water which eases it up a bit but doesn't do the full job.\n\nI have a very bad allergy which causes post nasal drip most of the times. Very annoying lol. What are the most effective techniques that worked for you?",
"How do you get rid of phlegm in your throat? I've tried lots of things including gargling with warm salty water which eases it up a bit but doesn't do the full job.\n\nI have a very bad allergy which causes post nasal drip most of the times. Very annoying lol. What are the most effective techniques that worked for you?"
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"Spicy foods. The best I've used is hot ramen noodle bowls. If you dont like noodles, just take the packet, mix in a cup of hot water and just drink that.",
"Drink more water the more hydrated you are the higher the water content of the phlegm thus making it easier to cough up",
"30ml Irish whiskey. Heat up. Put 300ml hot water. 3 table spoons sugar and 3 cloves. \n\nThis will burn away all your germs.",
"I used to have this to the point I’d get paranoid it’d cut off my airway. \nNothing I did helped. \nI now take Montelukast for allergy induced asthma prescribed by my GP and it not only helps with the asthma (wheezing) but the phlegm has been gone since I started taking it. (Approx 2 years) You’d think since this phlegm issue is so problematic that this solution would be more readily tried.",
"Acid reflux also presents this way. You can try Pepcid or something similar for a few days and see if it helps. Speaking from experience.",
"An antihistamine to stop the nasal drip and in turn eliminate the source of the phlegm in ur throat. Also if u puke ur guts up the bile coming from ur stomach should have enough of an acidic effect on the phlegm and bring it out with it",
"I had the same issue. Post Nasel drip, sinusitis, extra phlegm in lungs.\n\nSome people are born with these issues and some acquire them with wrong food and wrong life style.\n\nI noticed that my phlegm increases when I eat milk, curd, or other milk products, and onion. I have stopped eating them for ever. It worked.\n\nAlso phlegm and post nasal drip increases when my intestine or colon in not clean. So I stopped eating white flour peoducts, bread, pizza, noodles, and also all animal proteins(nonveg) etc. Now I feel very fresh and my stomach is very healthy and post nasal drip is gone 90% though not 100% because this condition is in my gene.\n\nAlso THE CHINA STUDY proved thay all of our dissease is caused by the food we eat. Search the China Study on internet. also on youtube. Fruits will cure every disease.\n\nAt last- believe on research reports. not on we people's advice. Read research reports of The China Study. Everything I said up has been proved by researchers.",
"I eat cheese 'cause I find it helps break up the mucus and clears it faster while somehow keeping it lubed instead of dry.\n\nI keep finding articles saying there's no need to avoid dairy, but can't find anything that actually scientifically says it helps. Everything just says it doesn't make it worse ha\n\nBut for me, I find it helps break up the mucus so it's a bit grosser, but really helps things move along instead of sitting and collecting bacteria to make it worse",
"For me this helped:\n- nasal rinse\n- gargling the rest with salt water\n- trying to cough out while looking up (same position like when gargling)\n\n In this exact order. After i was done with it i ate a tea spoon of honey (only ate the honey part, without the spoon lol)\n\n It was such a relief getting that phlegm out which was stuck in the back of my throat for days!"
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"Polishing Silver Spoons I just got some beautiful engraved/personalized silver spoons to gift to someone. I want to include instructions/cream as to the best way to take care of them. \n\nNow, I've searched LPT and the top result had a giant comment underneath that said, \"Do not do this\". I don't want to give them the wrong information and potentially end up ruining the gift. \n\nSo, I'm asking for help. What are your own tried and tested means of polishing silver that has worked out?\n\nElse, what is, in your opinion, the best cream/spray to use?",
"Polishing Silver Spoons I just got some beautiful engraved/personalized silver spoons to gift to someone. I want to include instructions/cream as to the best way to take care of them. \n\nNow, I've searched LPT and the top result had a giant comment underneath that said, \"Do not do this\". I don't want to give them the wrong information and potentially end up ruining the gift. \n\nSo, I'm asking for help. What are your own tried and tested means of polishing silver that has worked out?\n\nElse, what is, in your opinion, the best cream/spray to use?"
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"my favorite is silvero, can be found in many hardware stores. its like a white paste and gets rid of the tarnished layer instantly. ",
"Sorry this is a little late, but just toothpaste also works very well for cleaning silver and won't damage it in any way."
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"how to deal with loud/agressive strangers? English is not my first language. Sorry if it's really confusing\n\nI know I'm kind of a wetwipe. I constantly think someone might approach me in the street\n\nWhen I walk in the streets either with friends or alone and there's strangers cussing and being obnoxiously loud (crackheads or just dodgy people) I often feel scared but my friends seem completely unbothered by them.\n\n\nI always fear I might irritated them and they will target me if I look at them in some kind of way but some of my friends simple stare and some even audibly laugh sometimes.\n\n\n\nHow should I deal with this people and be less scared?\n\nWhat is causing me to be so scared all the time?\n\nIt makes me feel like I'm not manly enough. How does one become more manly?\n\n\n\nWhen I moved to the UK I didn't went into any pubs for like 3 months cause I was scared of people approaching me with dodgy intentions even tho I moved to a really safe area\n\n\n\n\nDunno if this is the right subreddit tho. Should I post somewhere else?",
"how to deal with loud/agressive strangers? English is not my first language. Sorry if it's really confusing\n\nI know I'm kind of a wetwipe. I constantly think someone might approach me in the street\n\nWhen I walk in the streets either with friends or alone and there's strangers cussing and being obnoxiously loud (crackheads or just dodgy people) I often feel scared but my friends seem completely unbothered by them.\n\n\nI always fear I might irritated them and they will target me if I look at them in some kind of way but some of my friends simple stare and some even audibly laugh sometimes.\n\n\n\nHow should I deal with this people and be less scared?\n\nWhat is causing me to be so scared all the time?\n\nIt makes me feel like I'm not manly enough. How does one become more manly?\n\n\n\nWhen I moved to the UK I didn't went into any pubs for like 3 months cause I was scared of people approaching me with dodgy intentions even tho I moved to a really safe area\n\n\n\n\nDunno if this is the right subreddit tho. Should I post somewhere else?",
"how to deal with loud/agressive strangers? English is not my first language. Sorry if it's really confusing\n\nI know I'm kind of a wetwipe. I constantly think someone might approach me in the street\n\nWhen I walk in the streets either with friends or alone and there's strangers cussing and being obnoxiously loud (crackheads or just dodgy people) I often feel scared but my friends seem completely unbothered by them.\n\n\nI always fear I might irritated them and they will target me if I look at them in some kind of way but some of my friends simple stare and some even audibly laugh sometimes.\n\n\n\nHow should I deal with this people and be less scared?\n\nWhat is causing me to be so scared all the time?\n\nIt makes me feel like I'm not manly enough. How does one become more manly?\n\n\n\nWhen I moved to the UK I didn't went into any pubs for like 3 months cause I was scared of people approaching me with dodgy intentions even tho I moved to a really safe area\n\n\n\n\nDunno if this is the right subreddit tho. Should I post somewhere else?",
"how to deal with loud/agressive strangers? English is not my first language. Sorry if it's really confusing\n\nI know I'm kind of a wetwipe. I constantly think someone might approach me in the street\n\nWhen I walk in the streets either with friends or alone and there's strangers cussing and being obnoxiously loud (crackheads or just dodgy people) I often feel scared but my friends seem completely unbothered by them.\n\n\nI always fear I might irritated them and they will target me if I look at them in some kind of way but some of my friends simple stare and some even audibly laugh sometimes.\n\n\n\nHow should I deal with this people and be less scared?\n\nWhat is causing me to be so scared all the time?\n\nIt makes me feel like I'm not manly enough. How does one become more manly?\n\n\n\nWhen I moved to the UK I didn't went into any pubs for like 3 months cause I was scared of people approaching me with dodgy intentions even tho I moved to a really safe area\n\n\n\n\nDunno if this is the right subreddit tho. Should I post somewhere else?",
"how to deal with loud/agressive strangers? English is not my first language. Sorry if it's really confusing\n\nI know I'm kind of a wetwipe. I constantly think someone might approach me in the street\n\nWhen I walk in the streets either with friends or alone and there's strangers cussing and being obnoxiously loud (crackheads or just dodgy people) I often feel scared but my friends seem completely unbothered by them.\n\n\nI always fear I might irritated them and they will target me if I look at them in some kind of way but some of my friends simple stare and some even audibly laugh sometimes.\n\n\n\nHow should I deal with this people and be less scared?\n\nWhat is causing me to be so scared all the time?\n\nIt makes me feel like I'm not manly enough. How does one become more manly?\n\n\n\nWhen I moved to the UK I didn't went into any pubs for like 3 months cause I was scared of people approaching me with dodgy intentions even tho I moved to a really safe area\n\n\n\n\nDunno if this is the right subreddit tho. Should I post somewhere else?"
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"As a lifelong New Yorker , familiarity and comfort is what I recommend. Walk thru the parts of the city that are not nice. Walk some more. You seem less me you live in a bubble, so getting outside your comfort zone is key. Soon you'll recognize streets, see the same old things and it becomes familiar and you're not bothered. My little sister can walk thru any projects here. And body language. Walk like you have confidence and know where you're going. Don't have your headphones on. Eat at a local pizza or coffee shop. I spent a year in the Dyckman houses projects . Hated it at first. Then met some great ppl. I had a Spanish neighbor that would drop off food every other day cause she knew I lived alone and my parents were overseas. The thugs hanging out front selling coke and weed saw me daily and turned out to be ok. Hell better, they'd buzz my bell if my girls car was gonna get a ticket.",
"Ok think of it like this: how many times have dogs barked at you for no reason that you can comprehend and you just kept walking? That's the mentality you need here. I live in a major city and often see homeless people having a fight with imaginary people or maybe reliving a past argument like some sort of mentally ill George Costanza. Either way, most of them are mentally ill and you should just go about your day. It's not a question of being more or less manly. It's more or less you not being used to the area imo.",
"It sounds like you might be dealing with some anxiety. Talking to a doctor might help. If it is at an overwhelming level, you might want to consider anti-anxiety medication or talking to a therapist....this might be a bold guess, but there’s a chance you might be associating these loud/dodgy people with someone from your past who was similar that left a negative impression in your life. As for not being manly enough, don’t worry about that. That was a social construct made by the same people who decided certain colors were only for one gender or another and that men aren’t allowed to display emotion. It’s an antiquated concept",
"First, there absolutely is such a thing as being manly. Second, I recommend you do some things that will increase your self confidence. Weight lifting would be a good place to start, and no, you don't have to be a body builder. Also, look into learning a martial art like American boxing or Brazilian Jui Jitsu -- either of these could do a lot to increase your confidence in handling yourself in a confrontation with strangers. Of course, the best way is to avoid a fight in the first place.",
"first, there is no such thing as being \"manly.\" if you're a man, then you are. second, it might help if you keep a pocket knife or pepper spray. there's really nothing you can do to get them to stop, so just ignore then the best you can. and do not laugh or stare at them. some of them get extremely violent"
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"How to make our day less boring, and more exciting. How can one add more excitement to one's life? What are some things we can incorporate to make life more spontaneous and enjoyable?\n\n I noticed that when i wake up, i have a certain perception of what to expect for the rest of the day. Having a very routine sort of life kind of makes my day seem boring and unenjoyable. \n\n So what are some things I could do to add some excitability? \n",
"How to make our day less boring, and more exciting. How can one add more excitement to one's life? What are some things we can incorporate to make life more spontaneous and enjoyable?\n\n I noticed that when i wake up, i have a certain perception of what to expect for the rest of the day. Having a very routine sort of life kind of makes my day seem boring and unenjoyable. \n\n So what are some things I could do to add some excitability? \n"
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"\"i have a certain perception of what to expect for the rest of the day\"\n\nthis right here. you have to cultivate a sense of adventure. \n\ngoing to your office cubicle to do paperwork for 8 hours? no; heading out into the world to protect your family from need and want! \n\nmaybe slipping down to the pub for a bite and a quick pint? no; entering a mysterious tavern where all manner of folk congregate and you never know what will happen! \n\ndaily commute? no; daring injury or death to get home! (wear your seatbelt, and don't drive recklessly.)\n\nsome concrete suggestions from The Art of Manliness:\n\nFind the nearest whitewater and join up with a rafting exp",
"Take a vacation. Learn a language. Pick up a hobby. Make a bucket list and start crossing them off. Join an activities group. Volunteer. Read a book. Find a friend. Go on Reddit."
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"How to keep yourself afloat during a series of hardships in your early twenties. I'm 22 going on 23, just got out of a two year relationship with someone I love very dearly still, going on salary making about 45k in a month (if I pass a test), struggling with living arrangements (essentially out of my car and on my parents couch for a while), have over 10k in medical debt that I need to pay off, and simply being this age in general. \n\nI currently feel as though I'm drowning with everything happening and not knowing what I'm doing, with the added emotional stress it's making it very difficult. \n\nFor those of you that have surpassed this age and similar (or not similar) hardships, how do you manage yourself to make sure you don't end up somewhere awful? My boss has told me to put everything into pieces and take one at a time, and I'm trying, but they all still feel too heavy. \n\nBasically: how do you do everything when you don't know what you're doing?",
"How to keep yourself afloat during a series of hardships in your early twenties. I'm 22 going on 23, just got out of a two year relationship with someone I love very dearly still, going on salary making about 45k in a month (if I pass a test), struggling with living arrangements (essentially out of my car and on my parents couch for a while), have over 10k in medical debt that I need to pay off, and simply being this age in general. \n\nI currently feel as though I'm drowning with everything happening and not knowing what I'm doing, with the added emotional stress it's making it very difficult. \n\nFor those of you that have surpassed this age and similar (or not similar) hardships, how do you manage yourself to make sure you don't end up somewhere awful? My boss has told me to put everything into pieces and take one at a time, and I'm trying, but they all still feel too heavy. \n\nBasically: how do you do everything when you don't know what you're doing?",
"How to keep yourself afloat during a series of hardships in your early twenties. I'm 22 going on 23, just got out of a two year relationship with someone I love very dearly still, going on salary making about 45k in a month (if I pass a test), struggling with living arrangements (essentially out of my car and on my parents couch for a while), have over 10k in medical debt that I need to pay off, and simply being this age in general. \n\nI currently feel as though I'm drowning with everything happening and not knowing what I'm doing, with the added emotional stress it's making it very difficult. \n\nFor those of you that have surpassed this age and similar (or not similar) hardships, how do you manage yourself to make sure you don't end up somewhere awful? My boss has told me to put everything into pieces and take one at a time, and I'm trying, but they all still feel too heavy. \n\nBasically: how do you do everything when you don't know what you're doing?",
"How to keep yourself afloat during a series of hardships in your early twenties. I'm 22 going on 23, just got out of a two year relationship with someone I love very dearly still, going on salary making about 45k in a month (if I pass a test), struggling with living arrangements (essentially out of my car and on my parents couch for a while), have over 10k in medical debt that I need to pay off, and simply being this age in general. \n\nI currently feel as though I'm drowning with everything happening and not knowing what I'm doing, with the added emotional stress it's making it very difficult. \n\nFor those of you that have surpassed this age and similar (or not similar) hardships, how do you manage yourself to make sure you don't end up somewhere awful? My boss has told me to put everything into pieces and take one at a time, and I'm trying, but they all still feel too heavy. \n\nBasically: how do you do everything when you don't know what you're doing?",
"How to keep yourself afloat during a series of hardships in your early twenties. I'm 22 going on 23, just got out of a two year relationship with someone I love very dearly still, going on salary making about 45k in a month (if I pass a test), struggling with living arrangements (essentially out of my car and on my parents couch for a while), have over 10k in medical debt that I need to pay off, and simply being this age in general. \n\nI currently feel as though I'm drowning with everything happening and not knowing what I'm doing, with the added emotional stress it's making it very difficult. \n\nFor those of you that have surpassed this age and similar (or not similar) hardships, how do you manage yourself to make sure you don't end up somewhere awful? My boss has told me to put everything into pieces and take one at a time, and I'm trying, but they all still feel too heavy. \n\nBasically: how do you do everything when you don't know what you're doing?",
"How to keep yourself afloat during a series of hardships in your early twenties. I'm 22 going on 23, just got out of a two year relationship with someone I love very dearly still, going on salary making about 45k in a month (if I pass a test), struggling with living arrangements (essentially out of my car and on my parents couch for a while), have over 10k in medical debt that I need to pay off, and simply being this age in general. \n\nI currently feel as though I'm drowning with everything happening and not knowing what I'm doing, with the added emotional stress it's making it very difficult. \n\nFor those of you that have surpassed this age and similar (or not similar) hardships, how do you manage yourself to make sure you don't end up somewhere awful? My boss has told me to put everything into pieces and take one at a time, and I'm trying, but they all still feel too heavy. \n\nBasically: how do you do everything when you don't know what you're doing?",
"How to keep yourself afloat during a series of hardships in your early twenties. I'm 22 going on 23, just got out of a two year relationship with someone I love very dearly still, going on salary making about 45k in a month (if I pass a test), struggling with living arrangements (essentially out of my car and on my parents couch for a while), have over 10k in medical debt that I need to pay off, and simply being this age in general. \n\nI currently feel as though I'm drowning with everything happening and not knowing what I'm doing, with the added emotional stress it's making it very difficult. \n\nFor those of you that have surpassed this age and similar (or not similar) hardships, how do you manage yourself to make sure you don't end up somewhere awful? My boss has told me to put everything into pieces and take one at a time, and I'm trying, but they all still feel too heavy. \n\nBasically: how do you do everything when you don't know what you're doing?"
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"Yeah, that's pretty much how it goes.\n\nAs you've been told, compartmentalize things. Don't try to visualize or fix all your problems at once. And that's hard to do when someone has just told you not to.\n\nRealize that everyone you meet has gone through the same level of shit at one point or another and they are still holding it together, so so can you.",
"when you start to feel overwhelmed by your life, do two things:\n1. look at a clock, your watch, your phone for the time. set a timer if you need to - for five minutes.\n2. breathe deeply. stand up straight with your shoulders pushed back gently. fill your lungs completely. put a hand just underneath your breastbone and feel your chest move out. this is filling your lungs completely. if you have a quiet moment, hold your breath and count slowly to three. exhale slowly and fill your lungs again. repeat. if you are trying to accomplish other tasks that you cannot take a pause from, then simply devote a small part of your attention to breathing deeply like this.\n3. five minutes have passed and you are still breathing. maybe you even got something done, no matter how small. remind yourself that your hardships are temporary and you will get through them. remind yourself that your life will have its share of happy and sad times, and you are building your strength for future sad times. tell yourself you are doing your best, and you are still learning, as are all of the people around you, and which is all you or anyone else can expect of you. \n\nyou are going to be okay. ",
"Your post reminded me of a /r/GetMotivated post from yesterday.\n\n[from /u/carlinha1289 a quote from Louis C.K.](https://www.reddit.com/r/GetMotivated/comments/50basn/image_youll_be_okay_even_if_you_dont_feel_okay/)\n\nThe gist that I think applies at any age is also a good paraphrase from a similarly pithy facebook post.\n\n\"This too will pass. It may pass like a kidney stone, but it will pass\"\n\nPrepare as best you can for your job exam, and take full advantage of your parents kindness and spend more nights on their couch than you do in your car. \n\nTalk to those you owe the medical debt to and tell them you will work out a payment arrangement once you know the outcome of your job exam.\n\n",
"Waiting solves over 90% of all problems. The other 10% you gotta recognize and do something about. Life ends horribly for almost everyone just accept it ;)",
"I've been in almost the same situation. Granted, mine was a little different...\n\nI was 21 at the time.\n\nI've been just out of a year and a bit long relationship where I thought I was going to marry someone. This led to supreme sadness which made me not graduate when I had a year left of schooling. Had about three grand in medical bills due to a bicycle accident, and was in mad relations with parents so I had to be self-sufficient.\n\nJust remember that your family is always there to help you. One thing that I noticed that helped me is doing hobbies that I genuinely enjoy. Cycling, running, and science was my things so I kept at it. I kept at my job since that made me do stuff and keep organized.\n\nBut one thing for sure, if things seem to be overwhelming, don't be afraid to reduce your responsibilities. I had to fall into a pit to figure that out. And your boss is right, do one thing at a time.\n\nAnd just remember that there are always people in similar situations that have turned out alright. I'm sure your parents have faced similar situations. I've faced similar situations. You're facing similar situations.\n\nJust keep at it and it will get better as long as you put the effort to make yourself better. Trust me. I'm finishing my degree at Purdue with two minors in a very technical field. Have a solid career pathway lined up with another major backup as well. So, just keep facing the sun, that way the shadow is behind you.",
"I just turned 27 and my husband and I have both lost our jobs, leading to us haveing to sell our house. When we sold it we moved into my parent's basement, where my grandfather is also living. Each month we have the following bills to pay: cell phones, gas, my student loan, his truck payment.\n\n1 year ago I was looking at marrying my husband and beginning our family in our home. I was making plans for what school my kids would go to in the city we lived in. I was thinking about starting a baby sitting home so that I could be a stay at home mother when I got pregnant. We were making plans to save up and buy me a new vehicle because mine is old and has issues.\n\nLife constantly changes, the best you can do is remember that when the worst happens you always have someplace to crash (usually family), and that people who love you will help when you ask.",
"Break it down and deal with the pieces. Unfortunately there is no formula for it. It's a common situation and a lot of people go through it. The trick is to not stop trying to sort the pieces out. \n\nSometimes it will seem to not get any better, but if you stopped addressing individual issues it could get a whole lot worse. Just keep going, it's what makes adults out of kids; this is where your \"story\" comes from."
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"Need a strong enough reason to wake up earlier Hi!\n\nI'm self-employed and can work most days on a very loose schedule. I do feel like my days are more productive and that I feel better when I wake up at 8:30am rather than 11am, but I can literally do anything I need to do during the day at any time.\n\nNow, I *do* feel like I have to get going asap when I wake up late and want to replace that anxious rushing with serene mornings, but I don't have a strong enough incentive to get out of bed at a certain time other than a fuzzy \"feel less stressed and have a better day\" that doesn't win against \"but it's so warm in here.\"\n\nI really want to join the 5 or 6am club at some point - any ideas?",
"Need a strong enough reason to wake up earlier Hi!\n\nI'm self-employed and can work most days on a very loose schedule. I do feel like my days are more productive and that I feel better when I wake up at 8:30am rather than 11am, but I can literally do anything I need to do during the day at any time.\n\nNow, I *do* feel like I have to get going asap when I wake up late and want to replace that anxious rushing with serene mornings, but I don't have a strong enough incentive to get out of bed at a certain time other than a fuzzy \"feel less stressed and have a better day\" that doesn't win against \"but it's so warm in here.\"\n\nI really want to join the 5 or 6am club at some point - any ideas?",
"Need a strong enough reason to wake up earlier Hi!\n\nI'm self-employed and can work most days on a very loose schedule. I do feel like my days are more productive and that I feel better when I wake up at 8:30am rather than 11am, but I can literally do anything I need to do during the day at any time.\n\nNow, I *do* feel like I have to get going asap when I wake up late and want to replace that anxious rushing with serene mornings, but I don't have a strong enough incentive to get out of bed at a certain time other than a fuzzy \"feel less stressed and have a better day\" that doesn't win against \"but it's so warm in here.\"\n\nI really want to join the 5 or 6am club at some point - any ideas?",
"Need a strong enough reason to wake up earlier Hi!\n\nI'm self-employed and can work most days on a very loose schedule. I do feel like my days are more productive and that I feel better when I wake up at 8:30am rather than 11am, but I can literally do anything I need to do during the day at any time.\n\nNow, I *do* feel like I have to get going asap when I wake up late and want to replace that anxious rushing with serene mornings, but I don't have a strong enough incentive to get out of bed at a certain time other than a fuzzy \"feel less stressed and have a better day\" that doesn't win against \"but it's so warm in here.\"\n\nI really want to join the 5 or 6am club at some point - any ideas?",
"Need a strong enough reason to wake up earlier Hi!\n\nI'm self-employed and can work most days on a very loose schedule. I do feel like my days are more productive and that I feel better when I wake up at 8:30am rather than 11am, but I can literally do anything I need to do during the day at any time.\n\nNow, I *do* feel like I have to get going asap when I wake up late and want to replace that anxious rushing with serene mornings, but I don't have a strong enough incentive to get out of bed at a certain time other than a fuzzy \"feel less stressed and have a better day\" that doesn't win against \"but it's so warm in here.\"\n\nI really want to join the 5 or 6am club at some point - any ideas?"
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"Having to do something for someone else, or expecting a visitor between 7 and 8 gets my ass out of bed. My solution was to acquire some children; they get up hideously early. But non-parents can offer someone a morning ride somewhere, or meet a group for breakfast, or have a standard run, dogwalk, gym workout with a buddy--anything social and a commitment (though not so long-lasting it kills your morning, obv.) before 9 am ought to do it.",
"Exercise as soon as you can after waking up in the morning. It sucks at first but very quickly you'll be able to hop out of bed once you wake up and be fully alert if the first thing you do after taking a piss is strap on the running shoes and go for a jog. It's better than coffee.",
"What I do come exam time:\nset your alarm on your iPhone at eg. 5:45, and your iPad's alarm at 6:00.\nNext step is really simple: max out the volume of the iPad's alarm, and just leave it in another room. This works especially well if other people (or neighbors in an apartment) live with you: you're basically forced to get up & turn off the alarm on your iPad, or you'll wake up your friends/family/neighbors.\n\niDevices obv not necessary :)",
"don't piss at night; that should be strong enough for ya in the morning.\n\nor use an alarm clock with a higher pitched sound/ringing",
"Perhaps this quote from Christopher Hitchens will give you an idea or two: \"I get up every day thinking: 'what can I do to join the battle for and extend the battle for secular pluralist democracy and to inconvenience and humiliate its foes'\"\n\nFind something meaningful to do; something that'll spring you out of bed in the morning.\n\nFurthermore, embrace the finitude of your life. Realize that you have a limited number of days, and that your existence will one day cease, and you'll immediately be filled with a sense of urgency and a necessity to do as much as you can in the short time that you have.q"
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"How to work in another country (outside of the US) for 1-3 months with my SO I would love some advice on ways to find legitimate work abroad for myself and my boyfriend. Most of the research I have done so far has taken me to gimmick sites that offer 'packages' of job information you can buy that seem like a vacation package in disguise. Any resources that could point me in the right direction, or even more specific search terms I could use, will be a huge help. Our relationship just hit a huge obstacle when I discovered that he no longer wants to teach English in Asia because he wants to take the next step in his marketing career. He's coming over in a few hours to talk about our future together, and I'd like to have a few options ready. He's a pretty amazing man, and I hope we can find a way to shape our futures together.",
"How to work in another country (outside of the US) for 1-3 months with my SO I would love some advice on ways to find legitimate work abroad for myself and my boyfriend. Most of the research I have done so far has taken me to gimmick sites that offer 'packages' of job information you can buy that seem like a vacation package in disguise. Any resources that could point me in the right direction, or even more specific search terms I could use, will be a huge help. Our relationship just hit a huge obstacle when I discovered that he no longer wants to teach English in Asia because he wants to take the next step in his marketing career. He's coming over in a few hours to talk about our future together, and I'd like to have a few options ready. He's a pretty amazing man, and I hope we can find a way to shape our futures together.",
"How to work in another country (outside of the US) for 1-3 months with my SO I would love some advice on ways to find legitimate work abroad for myself and my boyfriend. Most of the research I have done so far has taken me to gimmick sites that offer 'packages' of job information you can buy that seem like a vacation package in disguise. Any resources that could point me in the right direction, or even more specific search terms I could use, will be a huge help. Our relationship just hit a huge obstacle when I discovered that he no longer wants to teach English in Asia because he wants to take the next step in his marketing career. He's coming over in a few hours to talk about our future together, and I'd like to have a few options ready. He's a pretty amazing man, and I hope we can find a way to shape our futures together.",
"How to work in another country (outside of the US) for 1-3 months with my SO I would love some advice on ways to find legitimate work abroad for myself and my boyfriend. Most of the research I have done so far has taken me to gimmick sites that offer 'packages' of job information you can buy that seem like a vacation package in disguise. Any resources that could point me in the right direction, or even more specific search terms I could use, will be a huge help. Our relationship just hit a huge obstacle when I discovered that he no longer wants to teach English in Asia because he wants to take the next step in his marketing career. He's coming over in a few hours to talk about our future together, and I'd like to have a few options ready. He's a pretty amazing man, and I hope we can find a way to shape our futures together.",
"How to work in another country (outside of the US) for 1-3 months with my SO I would love some advice on ways to find legitimate work abroad for myself and my boyfriend. Most of the research I have done so far has taken me to gimmick sites that offer 'packages' of job information you can buy that seem like a vacation package in disguise. Any resources that could point me in the right direction, or even more specific search terms I could use, will be a huge help. Our relationship just hit a huge obstacle when I discovered that he no longer wants to teach English in Asia because he wants to take the next step in his marketing career. He's coming over in a few hours to talk about our future together, and I'd like to have a few options ready. He's a pretty amazing man, and I hope we can find a way to shape our futures together.",
"How to work in another country (outside of the US) for 1-3 months with my SO I would love some advice on ways to find legitimate work abroad for myself and my boyfriend. Most of the research I have done so far has taken me to gimmick sites that offer 'packages' of job information you can buy that seem like a vacation package in disguise. Any resources that could point me in the right direction, or even more specific search terms I could use, will be a huge help. Our relationship just hit a huge obstacle when I discovered that he no longer wants to teach English in Asia because he wants to take the next step in his marketing career. He's coming over in a few hours to talk about our future together, and I'd like to have a few options ready. He's a pretty amazing man, and I hope we can find a way to shape our futures together.",
"How to work in another country (outside of the US) for 1-3 months with my SO I would love some advice on ways to find legitimate work abroad for myself and my boyfriend. Most of the research I have done so far has taken me to gimmick sites that offer 'packages' of job information you can buy that seem like a vacation package in disguise. Any resources that could point me in the right direction, or even more specific search terms I could use, will be a huge help. Our relationship just hit a huge obstacle when I discovered that he no longer wants to teach English in Asia because he wants to take the next step in his marketing career. He's coming over in a few hours to talk about our future together, and I'd like to have a few options ready. He's a pretty amazing man, and I hope we can find a way to shape our futures together.",
"How to work in another country (outside of the US) for 1-3 months with my SO I would love some advice on ways to find legitimate work abroad for myself and my boyfriend. Most of the research I have done so far has taken me to gimmick sites that offer 'packages' of job information you can buy that seem like a vacation package in disguise. Any resources that could point me in the right direction, or even more specific search terms I could use, will be a huge help. Our relationship just hit a huge obstacle when I discovered that he no longer wants to teach English in Asia because he wants to take the next step in his marketing career. He's coming over in a few hours to talk about our future together, and I'd like to have a few options ready. He's a pretty amazing man, and I hope we can find a way to shape our futures together.",
"How to work in another country (outside of the US) for 1-3 months with my SO I would love some advice on ways to find legitimate work abroad for myself and my boyfriend. Most of the research I have done so far has taken me to gimmick sites that offer 'packages' of job information you can buy that seem like a vacation package in disguise. Any resources that could point me in the right direction, or even more specific search terms I could use, will be a huge help. Our relationship just hit a huge obstacle when I discovered that he no longer wants to teach English in Asia because he wants to take the next step in his marketing career. He's coming over in a few hours to talk about our future together, and I'd like to have a few options ready. He's a pretty amazing man, and I hope we can find a way to shape our futures together.",
"How to work in another country (outside of the US) for 1-3 months with my SO I would love some advice on ways to find legitimate work abroad for myself and my boyfriend. Most of the research I have done so far has taken me to gimmick sites that offer 'packages' of job information you can buy that seem like a vacation package in disguise. Any resources that could point me in the right direction, or even more specific search terms I could use, will be a huge help. Our relationship just hit a huge obstacle when I discovered that he no longer wants to teach English in Asia because he wants to take the next step in his marketing career. He's coming over in a few hours to talk about our future together, and I'd like to have a few options ready. He's a pretty amazing man, and I hope we can find a way to shape our futures together.",
"How to work in another country (outside of the US) for 1-3 months with my SO I would love some advice on ways to find legitimate work abroad for myself and my boyfriend. Most of the research I have done so far has taken me to gimmick sites that offer 'packages' of job information you can buy that seem like a vacation package in disguise. Any resources that could point me in the right direction, or even more specific search terms I could use, will be a huge help. Our relationship just hit a huge obstacle when I discovered that he no longer wants to teach English in Asia because he wants to take the next step in his marketing career. He's coming over in a few hours to talk about our future together, and I'd like to have a few options ready. He's a pretty amazing man, and I hope we can find a way to shape our futures together.",
"How to work in another country (outside of the US) for 1-3 months with my SO I would love some advice on ways to find legitimate work abroad for myself and my boyfriend. Most of the research I have done so far has taken me to gimmick sites that offer 'packages' of job information you can buy that seem like a vacation package in disguise. Any resources that could point me in the right direction, or even more specific search terms I could use, will be a huge help. Our relationship just hit a huge obstacle when I discovered that he no longer wants to teach English in Asia because he wants to take the next step in his marketing career. He's coming over in a few hours to talk about our future together, and I'd like to have a few options ready. He's a pretty amazing man, and I hope we can find a way to shape our futures together."
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"Think of it from a company's perspective. I imagine you want to work a job related to your career, so a grown up job. The company will have to invest heavily in you in terms of training, insurance and other paperwork for a 3 month contract? I'm not saying it's impossible, just very unlikely. I can't imagine many foreign/multinational firms hiring for a decent position on that short of a term. For the company I work for they would require a longer (2+years at least) commitment. Companies rarely hire internationally unless the applicant is extremely qualified with extensive education or, more importantly, very applicable work experience/skills.\n\nOn the flip side, let's assume you just want to work wherever will hire you. Lower level retail and customer service positions will not hire international. To put it bluntly its too much time, money and trouble for an expendable position. The riskiest way, and I don't condone it but know some who got away with it, is to say fuck it and move there and, depending on the place, work a cash job. Again, I do not recommend this.\n\nIf you really want to go international work for a larger growing company. After a year or two when/if you've proven yourself apply internally to international careers.\n\nI don't mean to shit on your parade. I was in your boat a couple years ago and wanted to leave for an experience. Good luck.",
"Have you ever looked into [WOOFing](http://wwoofinternational.org/) or similar work-exchange programs ([Interexchange](https://www.interexchange.org/working-abroad/), [SWAP](http://www.swap.ca/out_eng/index.aspx))? Typically they're not paid positions; your \"wage\" is room and board, and often you get fed by the family/organization you work for. So you have to save up a bit if you want to shop, sightsee or eat out, but I stayed a month in Victoria, BC and only spent about $300 excluding my flight.",
"My brother has been doing exactly this for the past year, he and his SO have been traveling all over the world and he has been working the entire time for an online company, this is probably the best way to do it because you aren't tied down anywhere and you can work where ever you have wifi",
"If you are under 30 you can do working holidays in a handful of countries. NZ and OZ and some others. I did this in NZ for year and it was sweet. Just applied online on the NZ immigration website and got a visa. Had to show that I had money in my bank account and a plane ticket home IIRC.",
"This site gives a pretty good overview of prices:\nhttps://nomadlist.com\nKeep in mind that it is user data though. Accuracy may vary!",
"There is a podcast called. \"tropical mba\" that is all about setting up and running \"non location specfic businesses\" check it out. ",
"There are some services, like BUNAC, which you pay for and they'll set up your visa and help you find a job. Maybe in the field you want, but most likely tourism or service industry. This is only for Ireland, the UK, Australia and New Zealand I believe. \n\nOtherwise your only option is to get a cash job at a hostel or bar. No real company is going to hire you for a short amount of time, unless you're the Einstein of your field or have some serious connections. ",
"The Working Holiday scheme, although a little limited for US citizens, allows you to do some casual work in many countries. [Full list here.](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Working_holiday_visa) I've done this twice, in Australia and New Zealand, and it was simple (online application) and relatively cheap (a couple hundred bucks each time).\n\nSome countries require more paperwork and travel to their embassies, but otherwise I think it's the best fitting option to your situation.\n\nTip: if you choose Australia or New Zealand, don't fall for those \"Working Holiday Visa packages\" that offer to apply for the visa on your behalf in exchange for more money. I'm not saying it's dishonest, but the process is really childish and unless you have a criminal record, you don't need any help.",
"Teaching English abroad is a very popular and high demand work area. You have to work for a school year though. They often hire couples in certain countries! There is tons of info, just google it!\n\n Lets be real, though, working abroad for 1-3 months is unrealistic. The process to get the visa would not be worth only being in a country to work full time for a few months. Youd hardly see anything besides your work!",
"So are you going to Asia? Where? \n\nLocation is a very important part of the question.\n\nI live in Thailand and I've been working here for some time I JUST got a legit job that will offer a work-permit because Im planning on staying for several more years.\n\nIt will be near impossible for you to get a legit job for a 3 months stay. It's too much work for too little profit.\n\nYou could probably work as a English teacher. If you are a white female from the US it should be very easy even without a degree.\n\nBut it varies from country to country. There are no \"Go from the US to any part of the world\" deals (unless you are working online)",
"Recommending actually asking for advice from a lawyer here. Every country has different rules and regulations when it comes to work visas.",
"For heaven's sake, work online for an American company! Keep your American bank account for your pay to be deposited in. That way, you're not required to deal at all with any overseas employment hassles. Check out ratracerebellion.com for options. I'm living abroad for two months in Paris while I freelance online."
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"How to get over that fear of alcohol after a night of drinking too much? I haven't been able to drink for a few months now, every time I even smell alcohol now I get nauseous. Is there an easy way to get over this? ",
"How to get over that fear of alcohol after a night of drinking too much? I haven't been able to drink for a few months now, every time I even smell alcohol now I get nauseous. Is there an easy way to get over this? ",
"How to get over that fear of alcohol after a night of drinking too much? I haven't been able to drink for a few months now, every time I even smell alcohol now I get nauseous. Is there an easy way to get over this? ",
"How to get over that fear of alcohol after a night of drinking too much? I haven't been able to drink for a few months now, every time I even smell alcohol now I get nauseous. Is there an easy way to get over this? ",
"How to get over that fear of alcohol after a night of drinking too much? I haven't been able to drink for a few months now, every time I even smell alcohol now I get nauseous. Is there an easy way to get over this? ",
"How to get over that fear of alcohol after a night of drinking too much? I haven't been able to drink for a few months now, every time I even smell alcohol now I get nauseous. Is there an easy way to get over this? ",
"How to get over that fear of alcohol after a night of drinking too much? I haven't been able to drink for a few months now, every time I even smell alcohol now I get nauseous. Is there an easy way to get over this? "
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"Alcohol is a toxin.\n\nYour body recognises that and has reacted in a way to stop you ingesting in the future.\n\nMaybe listen to your body? You obviously over did it before and your body doesn't want any more of that shit. ",
"I can relate to this 150%, I've had too many bad hang overs and alcohol isn't appealing to me anymore.\n\nMy friends still go out and I still go with them, I usually just smoke a joint before hand and bring one with me. Maybe I'll have one drink but it's just gross and not fun to me anymore. \n\nListen to your body, if it doesn't sound appealing. Don't do it. ",
"Stop drinking. Your body/mind is trying to tell you to stop. Alcohol is a poison and messes up your mind and liver and friendships and family and work and sex. \n\nJust be thankful you are not addicted and or dependent on it. ",
"Don't. Just say no more and be done with drinking. There is absolutely no benefit to alcohol consumption and it's linked to 88,000 deaths a year and 8 types of cancer.\n\n",
"Consider yourself blessed, almost nothing good comes out of drinking, and those few good things you can also obtain them sober. No need.",
"Switch drinks. I had this happen with a specific flavor of vodka and now I never drink that anymore. I now drink that flavor of rum though. ",
"There are many ways that you can get away from this fear:\n1. Try women drinks like Vodka \n2. Dont drink much ...But How? .....Well, make your glass , drink it sip by sip, dont haste to finish it. This way you will end consuming less alcohol.\n3. Keep your self motivated that you dont booze...\n4. Diluet your drink with water or juices more that regular.\n5. If you still end up with booze..... try LEMON WATER in the morning,,,,it will not feel hangover."
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"Peeling Shrimp I love eating shrimp, but it always takes so long to peel each shrimp. Any tips/tricks to peel shrimp faster?",
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"Hmm...this is something that would be better shown than described, but I'll give it a shot.\n\nFirst off, you could use a shrimp peeler/deveiner, but they don't always work that well on small shrimp and they cost money (>$10). Second, you could do it the way I learned to do it. This is assuming the shrimp does not have its head:\n\n1. Hold the tail of the shrimp in one hand and grab all of the legs at once between your forefinger (pointer) and thumb in the other and gently pull them away from the body and to one side so it splits all of the sections of the shell at the same time.\n\n2. Once the shell sections split from the leg pulling, you can 'unwrap' the shell from the shrimp.\n\n3. This leaves the tail on, at this point you pinch the tail where it meets the last shell section (like you are trying to squeeze the meat out like toothpaste) and gently pull the shrimp away from the tail. The tail and last shell section should pull off leaving the meat intact.\n\nThis takes practice to get good at without mangling the shrimp, but once you get used to it, you will be able to peel shrimp really fast. In some cases, faster than using the aforementioned peeler.",
"Get accustomed to eating the entire thing. Head, tail, and all. I've done it, and if you eat shrimp that's been seasoned (marinated and such) then it tastes much better as all the flavour is in the shell.\n\nPlus, it's crunchy.\n\nChew well though!"
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"What's the best way to shop for a mattress? I have no idea what kind of mattress I need, and want a way to find out. It's hard to shop for mattresses because you can't sleep on them, and I'm not really sure what would give me a better night's sleep (my arms fall asleep and my back kills me).\n\nI'm concerned about going to a retail place and not coming out with what is best, or spending too much because I am so clueless.\n\nDoes anybody have any tips on how to shop? Or if there's a website with information about this stuff?\n\nThanks! ",
"What's the best way to shop for a mattress? I have no idea what kind of mattress I need, and want a way to find out. It's hard to shop for mattresses because you can't sleep on them, and I'm not really sure what would give me a better night's sleep (my arms fall asleep and my back kills me).\n\nI'm concerned about going to a retail place and not coming out with what is best, or spending too much because I am so clueless.\n\nDoes anybody have any tips on how to shop? Or if there's a website with information about this stuff?\n\nThanks! ",
"What's the best way to shop for a mattress? I have no idea what kind of mattress I need, and want a way to find out. It's hard to shop for mattresses because you can't sleep on them, and I'm not really sure what would give me a better night's sleep (my arms fall asleep and my back kills me).\n\nI'm concerned about going to a retail place and not coming out with what is best, or spending too much because I am so clueless.\n\nDoes anybody have any tips on how to shop? Or if there's a website with information about this stuff?\n\nThanks! "
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"get drunk and bring an equally tipsy sex partner. It will be really fun whether you get a good deal or not.",
"You need to understand just how ridiculously marked up mattreses are. When you find the right one, try to negotiate the price. Just remember not to offend the salesperson with your offer ($250 for a $2000 pricetag)",
"Mattress Firm has a 100 day happiness guarantee. As long as you don't stain the mattress, you can return it for full price within 100 days. \n\nAlso, most of the employees are well-trained to get you what YOU need instead of simply making a sale, but each individual salesperson is obviously going to be different. Feel free to shop around and see what the best deal is. \n\nJust give yourself some time to spend in a mattress store learning about all the options.\n"
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"How to break through a protest line I've been watching some of the recent protests videos with people barricading sidewalks and roads, and have been curious on to what exactly you could do, as an individual, if you really needed to get through.\n\nObviously in groups, there are military tactics to break it - and sure, if you have a weapon, that would be a means to create chaos -- but from a more self-defense perspective, what would be the most feasible method?\n\nDo you just try climbing over them? Attempt to domino them?\n\nAny thoughts?",
"How to break through a protest line I've been watching some of the recent protests videos with people barricading sidewalks and roads, and have been curious on to what exactly you could do, as an individual, if you really needed to get through.\n\nObviously in groups, there are military tactics to break it - and sure, if you have a weapon, that would be a means to create chaos -- but from a more self-defense perspective, what would be the most feasible method?\n\nDo you just try climbing over them? Attempt to domino them?\n\nAny thoughts?",
"How to break through a protest line I've been watching some of the recent protests videos with people barricading sidewalks and roads, and have been curious on to what exactly you could do, as an individual, if you really needed to get through.\n\nObviously in groups, there are military tactics to break it - and sure, if you have a weapon, that would be a means to create chaos -- but from a more self-defense perspective, what would be the most feasible method?\n\nDo you just try climbing over them? Attempt to domino them?\n\nAny thoughts?",
"How to break through a protest line I've been watching some of the recent protests videos with people barricading sidewalks and roads, and have been curious on to what exactly you could do, as an individual, if you really needed to get through.\n\nObviously in groups, there are military tactics to break it - and sure, if you have a weapon, that would be a means to create chaos -- but from a more self-defense perspective, what would be the most feasible method?\n\nDo you just try climbing over them? Attempt to domino them?\n\nAny thoughts?"
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"Stay calm, have a calm body language and just politely ask to let you through.\n\nOr you can pretend to be one of them and then just go through the line, most will let you through.",
"Carry a package of white t shirts and a market with you, then when you see a protest you need to walk through, copy one of the sign messages onto one of the shirts. ",
"As a Submariner accustomed to moving though tight corridors, walk sideways slowly keep an eye on your feet while still looking up occasionally you can tell how people are standing by foot placement. Find a gap and fill it, if people are moving those gaps come around often enough to maintain movement. And always say excuse me loud enough for the person around you but not yelling.",
"take a mildly gun looking like thing and put it under a blanket and start screaming when they move run out through, throw your \"weapon\" to the floor to show you are not going to hurt them and run"
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"How to deal with constructive/negative feedback that put you down ? I had a pretty harsh performance review that i didn't particularly agree with but since it was the perception of my peers, i wish to improve so i am a better person to begin with and don't get fired next semester as a bonus.\n\nThe problem is that the feedback really put me down and sucked away the motivation of improving and working there. I am really annoyed and depressed.\n\nThank you.",
"How to deal with constructive/negative feedback that put you down ? I had a pretty harsh performance review that i didn't particularly agree with but since it was the perception of my peers, i wish to improve so i am a better person to begin with and don't get fired next semester as a bonus.\n\nThe problem is that the feedback really put me down and sucked away the motivation of improving and working there. I am really annoyed and depressed.\n\nThank you."
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"Give it a few days for the sting to wear off and then reevaluate the review. Pick out points that you can remember the specifics of and try to see those situations from your coworkers points of view. For points that you can't remember the specifics of see if you can find someone to give you more information or examples. \n\nMany reviews will also include a plan of action for improvement but if not then get with your supervisor and/or coworkers and find out how you could have performed better then try to make those recommendations habits.\n\nRemember to be polite and non confrontational in your interactions during the process and if you have friends in your coworkers ask for their help to keep you in track.",
"So...you can work on your deficiencies or you can work on your proficiencies. \n\nSince it is a performance review situation, you have richer data to work with. I'd suggest talking with HR about a multi-rater, aka 360, review. Then, use the feedback to develop a data-driven performance improvement plan and present your plan to your supervisor/manager and peers/customers for feedback and support.\n\nNow, I have a stable process to deal with complaints. 1st time I hear a complaint about my behavior, I say \"GTK\" or \"Good to Know,\" 2nd time I hear the complaint, I say \"GTK\" and it rises to the awareness level. 3rd time I hear the complaint, action time because it is no longer an anomaly and is probably not situational; my behavior is systemic on my part, and it is my responsibility to change my future behaviors to eliminate it from reoccurring. \n\nI also avoid the \"I'm sorry\" response because of the power of self-talk and my internal critic. Instead, my apology takes the form of \"I regret I caused that. I want to apologize and endeavor to make a behavior change to keep it from happening to you again.\" Then, it doesn't happen again without my intentional thoughts and application. "
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"How do I easily find matching pant shirt color combinations for formal wear? I have pink, green, white, navy blue, light blue, maroon, black shirts\nAnd Black, white, cream and navy blue color pants!",
"How do I easily find matching pant shirt color combinations for formal wear? I have pink, green, white, navy blue, light blue, maroon, black shirts\nAnd Black, white, cream and navy blue color pants!",
"How do I easily find matching pant shirt color combinations for formal wear? I have pink, green, white, navy blue, light blue, maroon, black shirts\nAnd Black, white, cream and navy blue color pants!"
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"Search for a contrasting/complementing colours wheel and match up accordingly! \n\nOutfits of one tone or similar tones look especially smart too.\n\nETA: \n\nSuggestions:\n\nblack trousers - all colours \n\nwhite trousers - pink shirt, green shirt (depending on shade), light blue shirt. Good for summer or more informal events\n\ncream pants - see above\n\nnavy blue trousers - white shirt, navy blue shirt, light blue shirt, black shirt, possibly maroon shirt\n\nI’d suggest getting a pair of maroon or burgundy trousers also as they look very smart when paired with a shirt of a similar colour (burgundy/maroon/purple/etc) or a cream or white shirt. Personal preference though!",
"When I started working where I do now, I started a capsule wardrobe. It's a life saver. Wake up late? Everything matches! Just pick and swap. \n\n[Capsule Wardrobe ](https://classyyettrendy.com/2017/02/start-capsule-wardrobe-5-steps.html/)\n\nYou can use these tips with what you already have. Pick stuff that matches and hang them up together on one hanger. Do one for each work day. (If you're able) that way you don't have to decide what to wear, it's already done for you. \n\nI like to optimize dressing so I can sleep longer lol.",
"Black goes with everything. All black attire looks sharp, but might be a little dark for certain occasions. \n\nSimilar colors in outfits usually look good(light blue shirt, navy blue pants) complementary colors are good(maroon shirt, black pants/white shirt, cream or light blue pants)\n\ncontrast colors are tricky, but can really pop if done right(white shirt, black pants)"
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"Best non-lethal protective tools (pepper spray, mace, etc) What is the best nonlethal protection that my wife can carry on her to protect herself from random acts of aggression? What are my options?",
"Best non-lethal protective tools (pepper spray, mace, etc) What is the best nonlethal protection that my wife can carry on her to protect herself from random acts of aggression? What are my options?",
"Best non-lethal protective tools (pepper spray, mace, etc) What is the best nonlethal protection that my wife can carry on her to protect herself from random acts of aggression? What are my options?",
"Best non-lethal protective tools (pepper spray, mace, etc) What is the best nonlethal protection that my wife can carry on her to protect herself from random acts of aggression? What are my options?",
"Best non-lethal protective tools (pepper spray, mace, etc) What is the best nonlethal protection that my wife can carry on her to protect herself from random acts of aggression? What are my options?",
"Best non-lethal protective tools (pepper spray, mace, etc) What is the best nonlethal protection that my wife can carry on her to protect herself from random acts of aggression? What are my options?",
"Best non-lethal protective tools (pepper spray, mace, etc) What is the best nonlethal protection that my wife can carry on her to protect herself from random acts of aggression? What are my options?",
"Best non-lethal protective tools (pepper spray, mace, etc) What is the best nonlethal protection that my wife can carry on her to protect herself from random acts of aggression? What are my options?"
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"Well there's a few common day items that she can use, since she's a woman she's got a few more options.\n\nInstead of the actual protective items, consider house hold items that no law enforcement officer would suspect.\n\nA few being:\n- Rolled up newspaper (incredibly strong, much like a baton, especially if bent in half after rolling)\n- Hair spray or deodorant. Considering she is a woman she could get away with one of those big bottles of hair spray, this can be both used as a spray and melee bottle, these bottles are incredibly strong, I've seem people with fractured skulls because of these bottles.\n- Keys - While this may not seem attractive a set of keys can be really effective, I've had to use mine before and they are effective with blows to the face (eyes especially) and the throat.\n- Umbrella - This is more for the winter times, but you can get a lot of them with spikes on the end which are made to be stuck in the ground, but it can be used to poke at someone in any of their vital regions. Also you can extend the umbrella and use it as a impromptu shield against an attacker.\n- Kick - Of course there is the good old fashion kicking in the nuts which is effective with an umbrella, as much as I am against it as a guy myself, it there are guys willing to rape or steal from women then they should get a kicking in the nuts.\n\n\nIn terms of the best there is a pepper spray/mace that when sprayed over a would be attacker will actually dye their skin a bright colour, like red or blue. This can be very useful when reporting the crime, as the skin will still be dyed up to 7 days before it will wash out, regardless of any sort of cleaning.\n\nF.Y.I OP Mace is just a stronger version of pepper spray",
"A can of wasp killer is a good substitute for pepperspray. A wooden dowl rod about 24\" long (keep in the car) can do wonders in a confrontation. Remember, it should be used for striking bone and not flesh, e.g. skull, jaw, elbow, wrist, knuckles, knee, ankle. Several quick blows can take the fight out of anyone.",
"Have you thought about Martial arts lessons? I've always thought good ol' fashion Okinawa Karate is great for protecting someone and getting someone out of the situation. ",
"You might get some better ideas if you tell us what country you are in so we know what weapons are legal there. If you are from the UK then you are shit outta luck and can't carry any defensive weapons.",
"There are also tasers. Or knives and scissors which you can use as non-lethal if you use them for slashing the skin, particularly the face. As long as you don't stab them in the vital organs or veins.",
"The best tool she can use to protect herself is her brain. I know this sounds like an asshole statement but it is true. Common sense will protect her far better than pepper spray, tazers, etc. Of course it never hurts to have a back up plan. Some form of self defense course. Your best bet, rather than asking random strangers on the internet would be to evaluate WHY she would need protection and go from there. \n\nPepper spray and the ilk are next to worthless in real life situations. Far too often is it sitting at the bottom of a purse well out of easy reach. And when it is actually on hand it typically isn't used properly by someone in a crisis situation. Things such as wind direction, proximity can actually work against her. Without proper training, anything she might carry to protect herself can be very easily taken away from her and used against her. ",
"I don't know, I think a mace [mace](http://images4.wikia.nocookie.net/__cb20120704191732/dnd4/images/thumb/9/99/Mace_IMG_3823.jpg/480px-Mace_IMG_3823.jpg) is pretty lethal. ",
"A stun gun, hands down. I am a woman and have one myself. The noise alone from pressing the button would deter someone, let alone actually using it. [I have this, but in black.](http://www.amazon.com/14-000-Stun-Gun-Flashlight/dp/B007Z3MWH4) It's great, and they are definitely not illegal nor lethal. \n\nThree seconds with a stun gun on an attacker will immobilize them for at least about 20 seconds (usually more) and give you time to either run or attack them when they are down. I have tested it on my guy friend for just one second, it gave him a sore leg the next day as well as hurt like a bitch after I did it."
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"How to not go bat shit crazy with a really busy schedule as someone who's used to a lot of free time? As the title states, I'm used to a schedule full of downtime, which meant I've always had enough time to decompress after a hard day's work, and I was always able to get enough sleep, eat, etc...\n\nWell, starting in two days, my schedule is going to go from too much free time to none. I'll be working full time and taking classes full time, and because gainz are life, I'll be hitting the gym full time as well. \n\nPart of me is actually kind of excited, because these next few months are really going to test my limits, but I know that it's not going to be easy. I know there are a ton of people out there with much busier schedules than I will have, and I was hoping some of you could pitch in, and offer your best LPT's on how to not go crazy during a super crazy schedule.\n\nThank you!",
"How to not go bat shit crazy with a really busy schedule as someone who's used to a lot of free time? As the title states, I'm used to a schedule full of downtime, which meant I've always had enough time to decompress after a hard day's work, and I was always able to get enough sleep, eat, etc...\n\nWell, starting in two days, my schedule is going to go from too much free time to none. I'll be working full time and taking classes full time, and because gainz are life, I'll be hitting the gym full time as well. \n\nPart of me is actually kind of excited, because these next few months are really going to test my limits, but I know that it's not going to be easy. I know there are a ton of people out there with much busier schedules than I will have, and I was hoping some of you could pitch in, and offer your best LPT's on how to not go crazy during a super crazy schedule.\n\nThank you!",
"How to not go bat shit crazy with a really busy schedule as someone who's used to a lot of free time? As the title states, I'm used to a schedule full of downtime, which meant I've always had enough time to decompress after a hard day's work, and I was always able to get enough sleep, eat, etc...\n\nWell, starting in two days, my schedule is going to go from too much free time to none. I'll be working full time and taking classes full time, and because gainz are life, I'll be hitting the gym full time as well. \n\nPart of me is actually kind of excited, because these next few months are really going to test my limits, but I know that it's not going to be easy. I know there are a ton of people out there with much busier schedules than I will have, and I was hoping some of you could pitch in, and offer your best LPT's on how to not go crazy during a super crazy schedule.\n\nThank you!"
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"Employ a time management system. This can be in the form of a diary, calendar, notebook, and/or a combination. There are also online solutions. Write EVERYTHING down.\n\nBreak tasks such as assignments into timed blocks. This may take practice re how much time you'll actually need. \n\nCross everything off as you achieve it.\n\nYou will feel stressed, you will feel overwhelmed. Prepare yourself for this. Develop coping strategies in advance to get yourself through.\n\nAsk for help! Friends, family, professional services like cleaners. Whatever, ask. Accept!\n\nGood luck!",
"Your time is your valuable resource. When others demand too much of it, tell them ok for 3 times the price demand just rose you saw it, oh you dont want to take all my remaining time, ok good.",
"See if you can exchange gymming for something slightly less sensory straining like doing home gymming with water jugs or milk gallons, and or going for runs.\n\nIt sounds insane but reducing your gym a little bit in favor for night time and morning yoga can actually make up for missed sleep, and some missed gym.\n\n(I'm an ex bulimic and believe me when I say I know yoga feels pathetic in comparison to real gym workouts) \n\nDoing home work outs saves the time to and from the gym, and I find that I'm mentally able to enjoy it more. I'm not kidding when I say that going for runs outside made me smarter. Like I could sort my brain out even better than I ever did at the gym, and there was this small park area close to my apartment where I'd do strength instead of cardio. In the beginning I'd do sit ups and push ups against a bench in the end I was doing chin ups at a tree branch. If it's still not intense enough for you, get some wrist/ankle weights (I got three pairs of 1kg each and a pair of 500g so to begin with I was using only 500g on my legs, then 1kg on my legs, then 500g on my arms and 1kg on my legs etc etc until I was doing 1,5kg on each arm and 2kg on my legs) \n(When you get to your strength workout spot you can take them off and use them for that) (if you still think I'm suggesting wuss training, get a pair of milk jugs that you fill with sand at the local park, and hide them somewhere.\nThen you've got bigger weights over there)"
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"Things you should ask a landlord before signing the lease (Ontario, Canada). I'm a student about to get my first place away from home, but I'm a little nervous about the ins and outs of lease agreements and landlord dealies. I've reviewed the Residential Tenancies Act, but I have no idea what serious questions for the landlord I might be overlooking before I jump into this. Any advice is appreciated :)\n\n",
"Things you should ask a landlord before signing the lease (Ontario, Canada). I'm a student about to get my first place away from home, but I'm a little nervous about the ins and outs of lease agreements and landlord dealies. I've reviewed the Residential Tenancies Act, but I have no idea what serious questions for the landlord I might be overlooking before I jump into this. Any advice is appreciated :)\n\n",
"Things you should ask a landlord before signing the lease (Ontario, Canada). I'm a student about to get my first place away from home, but I'm a little nervous about the ins and outs of lease agreements and landlord dealies. I've reviewed the Residential Tenancies Act, but I have no idea what serious questions for the landlord I might be overlooking before I jump into this. Any advice is appreciated :)\n\n",
"Things you should ask a landlord before signing the lease (Ontario, Canada). I'm a student about to get my first place away from home, but I'm a little nervous about the ins and outs of lease agreements and landlord dealies. I've reviewed the Residential Tenancies Act, but I have no idea what serious questions for the landlord I might be overlooking before I jump into this. Any advice is appreciated :)\n\n",
"Things you should ask a landlord before signing the lease (Ontario, Canada). I'm a student about to get my first place away from home, but I'm a little nervous about the ins and outs of lease agreements and landlord dealies. I've reviewed the Residential Tenancies Act, but I have no idea what serious questions for the landlord I might be overlooking before I jump into this. Any advice is appreciated :)\n\n",
"Things you should ask a landlord before signing the lease (Ontario, Canada). I'm a student about to get my first place away from home, but I'm a little nervous about the ins and outs of lease agreements and landlord dealies. I've reviewed the Residential Tenancies Act, but I have no idea what serious questions for the landlord I might be overlooking before I jump into this. Any advice is appreciated :)\n\n",
"Things you should ask a landlord before signing the lease (Ontario, Canada). I'm a student about to get my first place away from home, but I'm a little nervous about the ins and outs of lease agreements and landlord dealies. I've reviewed the Residential Tenancies Act, but I have no idea what serious questions for the landlord I might be overlooking before I jump into this. Any advice is appreciated :)\n\n",
"Things you should ask a landlord before signing the lease (Ontario, Canada). I'm a student about to get my first place away from home, but I'm a little nervous about the ins and outs of lease agreements and landlord dealies. I've reviewed the Residential Tenancies Act, but I have no idea what serious questions for the landlord I might be overlooking before I jump into this. Any advice is appreciated :)\n\n"
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"I have lived on my own for 4 years, since I was 22. I have found through experience that these are the top concerns.\n\n1) What utilities (if any) are you responsible for, if any? (Hydro, water etc.)\n\n2) Ask for protocol regarding fixing issues around the place. (Do you call him/her or is there a form to fill out?)\n\n3) Ask how long the lease is for, usually its 1 year, but some ask for 2 or 3 years. Don't assume.\n\n4) Ask if the locks have been changed. Don't assume they have been.\n\nI have more but I have to leave the office right now.\n\n5) Designated/undesignated parking. I once rented a place with no indicators for tenant/visitor parking. There were no lines either. Not kidding, Christmas eve I came home after visiting, and I had no where to put my car at my own place. I had to park on the side streets, even though I pay rent.\n\ntl; dr: Make sure you have your own parking space",
"Landlord and Tenant Board of Ontario link: http://www.ltb.gov.on.ca/en/Key_Information/STEL02_111232.html\n",
"I just urge every single person who plans on renting to read the Residential Tenancy Act and any matierals for their specific province/state. \n\nThese are all BC resources but helpful nonetheless: \n\n[Landlord Guide of BC](http://tinyurl.com/c2ytr3l)\n\n[Tenant Rights & Responsibilities](http://www.rto.gov.bc.ca/content/rightsResponsibilities/security.aspx)\n\n\nAlso good to note: landlords can't keep your damage deposit unless you consent to it. As in, you feel the damage you've caused warrants it. If you don't think the damage = the amount of your DD, you can register a dispute with the RTB. Me and my boyfriend took our first landlord to small claims court and we were awarded double our damage deposit, reimbursement of our court fees PLUS some interest because they failed to pay us on time. Deposit was $400, they ended up paying us over $1,000 at the end. \n",
"A lot of the property management companies in my town have really bad reputations (ripping people off on security deposits, unresponsive to maintenance requests, etc.), so I've been making sure to ask all the landlords I've been getting tours from recently if they work privately or through a property management company. \n\nI happen to know which companies have bad reputations since I'm familiar with the area already, but you can always ask and look up the company later. It could end up saving a lot of headaches.\n\n",
"ask when are the garbage and recycling day if applicable, you don't want your boxes and cans full from your move for too long, also verifying the exact moving date to reserve elevators and possibly even the garage, to let the moving truck in, where is nearby transportation and stores is also a good one, good luck wit the move kiddo (oh and if your moving to Otawa, stay clear from herongate, you'll live longer for it)",
"[I wrote this and I think it will help you a lot.](http://www.hackcollege.com/blog/2013/04/04/8-steps-to-finding-an-awesome-landlord.html) I'm not a definitive expert by any means, but I've stayed in a few places and learned some hard lessons.",
"You should also ask about laundry facilities. Are there any on site? ensuite? Do you have to hike it to a laundrymat and is it close by? If onsite is it coin operated or do you have to top up some sort of card? ",
"In South Africa most leases (if not all) provide the tenant with a 1 week period to supply a 'snag list' (list of damages) to the landlord upon occupation. Doing so absolves the tenant from being held responsible for those damages when moving out."
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"How to fix a bad shoulder hunch. I don't really notice it until I see pictures of myself. It's not like I'm a hunchback or anything. I'm relatively tall and so looking down to people is my reasoning behind it when people say \"you need to sort that hunch out\" and \"stand up straight\". I've tried balancing things on my head which helps but is tiring and weird. Any of you guys know any tips?",
"How to fix a bad shoulder hunch. I don't really notice it until I see pictures of myself. It's not like I'm a hunchback or anything. I'm relatively tall and so looking down to people is my reasoning behind it when people say \"you need to sort that hunch out\" and \"stand up straight\". I've tried balancing things on my head which helps but is tiring and weird. Any of you guys know any tips?",
"How to fix a bad shoulder hunch. I don't really notice it until I see pictures of myself. It's not like I'm a hunchback or anything. I'm relatively tall and so looking down to people is my reasoning behind it when people say \"you need to sort that hunch out\" and \"stand up straight\". I've tried balancing things on my head which helps but is tiring and weird. Any of you guys know any tips?",
"How to fix a bad shoulder hunch. I don't really notice it until I see pictures of myself. It's not like I'm a hunchback or anything. I'm relatively tall and so looking down to people is my reasoning behind it when people say \"you need to sort that hunch out\" and \"stand up straight\". I've tried balancing things on my head which helps but is tiring and weird. Any of you guys know any tips?",
"How to fix a bad shoulder hunch. I don't really notice it until I see pictures of myself. It's not like I'm a hunchback or anything. I'm relatively tall and so looking down to people is my reasoning behind it when people say \"you need to sort that hunch out\" and \"stand up straight\". I've tried balancing things on my head which helps but is tiring and weird. Any of you guys know any tips?"
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"Working out, especially your back and shoulder muscles - many guys who work out tend to neglect these muscle groups. Exercises that focus on your scapular muscles, like the [Cable Face Pull](http://www.menshealth.com/mhlists/The_Best_New_Exercises/Cable_Face_Pull_with_External_Rotation.php), prevent shoulder slouching and in turn lead to better posture. Do some web research on this and other back exercises you can try. A little weight goes a long way.",
"http://maddieruud.hubpages.com/hub/Pillow_Placement This has helped me a lot! It's odd getting used to though XD",
"Have you tried a posture brace? I used to wear one when I was younger, it keeps your shoulders back, almost impossible to slouch while wearing one. I know some coworkers who are sitting at the computer all day wear them to keep from hunching at the screen.\n\n[example](http://www.amazon.com/Posture-Corrective-Brace--Beige--46/dp/B000KPHEXQ/ref=sr_1_11?ie=UTF8&qid=1336967033&sr=8-11) of what it looks like.",
"Six weeks after I signed up for a m",
"If you're a girl (or a curious boy) You can wear a bodice. I can't slouch when wearing a bodice and wearing them over the years has helped wwith my posture"
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"How to nicely tell people that you aren't going to give them your homework/notes I don't feel good about pretending that I didn't get someone's text/email, partially because it's dishonest (and I'm a terrible liar) but also because I don't want to be taken advantage of in school. How do I gently tell someone that I'm not going to send them the assignments that I worked hard on and stayed up late to finish, just because they dropped the ball? I am older than a lot of my classmates, so I don't want to come off condescending or patronizing. \n\nI should also add that it feels really one-sided. I have a few people that I will ask for information if I've missed something, or maybe a day of notes or whatever, but I've never said \"hey can you send me your completed homework\" because it feels weird and I don't want to get caught cheating anyway. ",
"How to nicely tell people that you aren't going to give them your homework/notes I don't feel good about pretending that I didn't get someone's text/email, partially because it's dishonest (and I'm a terrible liar) but also because I don't want to be taken advantage of in school. How do I gently tell someone that I'm not going to send them the assignments that I worked hard on and stayed up late to finish, just because they dropped the ball? I am older than a lot of my classmates, so I don't want to come off condescending or patronizing. \n\nI should also add that it feels really one-sided. I have a few people that I will ask for information if I've missed something, or maybe a day of notes or whatever, but I've never said \"hey can you send me your completed homework\" because it feels weird and I don't want to get caught cheating anyway. ",
"How to nicely tell people that you aren't going to give them your homework/notes I don't feel good about pretending that I didn't get someone's text/email, partially because it's dishonest (and I'm a terrible liar) but also because I don't want to be taken advantage of in school. How do I gently tell someone that I'm not going to send them the assignments that I worked hard on and stayed up late to finish, just because they dropped the ball? I am older than a lot of my classmates, so I don't want to come off condescending or patronizing. \n\nI should also add that it feels really one-sided. I have a few people that I will ask for information if I've missed something, or maybe a day of notes or whatever, but I've never said \"hey can you send me your completed homework\" because it feels weird and I don't want to get caught cheating anyway. ",
"How to nicely tell people that you aren't going to give them your homework/notes I don't feel good about pretending that I didn't get someone's text/email, partially because it's dishonest (and I'm a terrible liar) but also because I don't want to be taken advantage of in school. How do I gently tell someone that I'm not going to send them the assignments that I worked hard on and stayed up late to finish, just because they dropped the ball? I am older than a lot of my classmates, so I don't want to come off condescending or patronizing. \n\nI should also add that it feels really one-sided. I have a few people that I will ask for information if I've missed something, or maybe a day of notes or whatever, but I've never said \"hey can you send me your completed homework\" because it feels weird and I don't want to get caught cheating anyway. ",
"How to nicely tell people that you aren't going to give them your homework/notes I don't feel good about pretending that I didn't get someone's text/email, partially because it's dishonest (and I'm a terrible liar) but also because I don't want to be taken advantage of in school. How do I gently tell someone that I'm not going to send them the assignments that I worked hard on and stayed up late to finish, just because they dropped the ball? I am older than a lot of my classmates, so I don't want to come off condescending or patronizing. \n\nI should also add that it feels really one-sided. I have a few people that I will ask for information if I've missed something, or maybe a day of notes or whatever, but I've never said \"hey can you send me your completed homework\" because it feels weird and I don't want to get caught cheating anyway. ",
"How to nicely tell people that you aren't going to give them your homework/notes I don't feel good about pretending that I didn't get someone's text/email, partially because it's dishonest (and I'm a terrible liar) but also because I don't want to be taken advantage of in school. How do I gently tell someone that I'm not going to send them the assignments that I worked hard on and stayed up late to finish, just because they dropped the ball? I am older than a lot of my classmates, so I don't want to come off condescending or patronizing. \n\nI should also add that it feels really one-sided. I have a few people that I will ask for information if I've missed something, or maybe a day of notes or whatever, but I've never said \"hey can you send me your completed homework\" because it feels weird and I don't want to get caught cheating anyway. ",
"How to nicely tell people that you aren't going to give them your homework/notes I don't feel good about pretending that I didn't get someone's text/email, partially because it's dishonest (and I'm a terrible liar) but also because I don't want to be taken advantage of in school. How do I gently tell someone that I'm not going to send them the assignments that I worked hard on and stayed up late to finish, just because they dropped the ball? I am older than a lot of my classmates, so I don't want to come off condescending or patronizing. \n\nI should also add that it feels really one-sided. I have a few people that I will ask for information if I've missed something, or maybe a day of notes or whatever, but I've never said \"hey can you send me your completed homework\" because it feels weird and I don't want to get caught cheating anyway. ",
"How to nicely tell people that you aren't going to give them your homework/notes I don't feel good about pretending that I didn't get someone's text/email, partially because it's dishonest (and I'm a terrible liar) but also because I don't want to be taken advantage of in school. How do I gently tell someone that I'm not going to send them the assignments that I worked hard on and stayed up late to finish, just because they dropped the ball? I am older than a lot of my classmates, so I don't want to come off condescending or patronizing. \n\nI should also add that it feels really one-sided. I have a few people that I will ask for information if I've missed something, or maybe a day of notes or whatever, but I've never said \"hey can you send me your completed homework\" because it feels weird and I don't want to get caught cheating anyway. ",
"How to nicely tell people that you aren't going to give them your homework/notes I don't feel good about pretending that I didn't get someone's text/email, partially because it's dishonest (and I'm a terrible liar) but also because I don't want to be taken advantage of in school. How do I gently tell someone that I'm not going to send them the assignments that I worked hard on and stayed up late to finish, just because they dropped the ball? I am older than a lot of my classmates, so I don't want to come off condescending or patronizing. \n\nI should also add that it feels really one-sided. I have a few people that I will ask for information if I've missed something, or maybe a day of notes or whatever, but I've never said \"hey can you send me your completed homework\" because it feels weird and I don't want to get caught cheating anyway. ",
"How to nicely tell people that you aren't going to give them your homework/notes I don't feel good about pretending that I didn't get someone's text/email, partially because it's dishonest (and I'm a terrible liar) but also because I don't want to be taken advantage of in school. How do I gently tell someone that I'm not going to send them the assignments that I worked hard on and stayed up late to finish, just because they dropped the ball? I am older than a lot of my classmates, so I don't want to come off condescending or patronizing. \n\nI should also add that it feels really one-sided. I have a few people that I will ask for information if I've missed something, or maybe a day of notes or whatever, but I've never said \"hey can you send me your completed homework\" because it feels weird and I don't want to get caught cheating anyway. ",
"How to nicely tell people that you aren't going to give them your homework/notes I don't feel good about pretending that I didn't get someone's text/email, partially because it's dishonest (and I'm a terrible liar) but also because I don't want to be taken advantage of in school. How do I gently tell someone that I'm not going to send them the assignments that I worked hard on and stayed up late to finish, just because they dropped the ball? I am older than a lot of my classmates, so I don't want to come off condescending or patronizing. \n\nI should also add that it feels really one-sided. I have a few people that I will ask for information if I've missed something, or maybe a day of notes or whatever, but I've never said \"hey can you send me your completed homework\" because it feels weird and I don't want to get caught cheating anyway. ",
"How to nicely tell people that you aren't going to give them your homework/notes I don't feel good about pretending that I didn't get someone's text/email, partially because it's dishonest (and I'm a terrible liar) but also because I don't want to be taken advantage of in school. How do I gently tell someone that I'm not going to send them the assignments that I worked hard on and stayed up late to finish, just because they dropped the ball? I am older than a lot of my classmates, so I don't want to come off condescending or patronizing. \n\nI should also add that it feels really one-sided. I have a few people that I will ask for information if I've missed something, or maybe a day of notes or whatever, but I've never said \"hey can you send me your completed homework\" because it feels weird and I don't want to get caught cheating anyway. ",
"How to nicely tell people that you aren't going to give them your homework/notes I don't feel good about pretending that I didn't get someone's text/email, partially because it's dishonest (and I'm a terrible liar) but also because I don't want to be taken advantage of in school. How do I gently tell someone that I'm not going to send them the assignments that I worked hard on and stayed up late to finish, just because they dropped the ball? I am older than a lot of my classmates, so I don't want to come off condescending or patronizing. \n\nI should also add that it feels really one-sided. I have a few people that I will ask for information if I've missed something, or maybe a day of notes or whatever, but I've never said \"hey can you send me your completed homework\" because it feels weird and I don't want to get caught cheating anyway. ",
"How to nicely tell people that you aren't going to give them your homework/notes I don't feel good about pretending that I didn't get someone's text/email, partially because it's dishonest (and I'm a terrible liar) but also because I don't want to be taken advantage of in school. How do I gently tell someone that I'm not going to send them the assignments that I worked hard on and stayed up late to finish, just because they dropped the ball? I am older than a lot of my classmates, so I don't want to come off condescending or patronizing. \n\nI should also add that it feels really one-sided. I have a few people that I will ask for information if I've missed something, or maybe a day of notes or whatever, but I've never said \"hey can you send me your completed homework\" because it feels weird and I don't want to get caught cheating anyway. ",
"How to nicely tell people that you aren't going to give them your homework/notes I don't feel good about pretending that I didn't get someone's text/email, partially because it's dishonest (and I'm a terrible liar) but also because I don't want to be taken advantage of in school. How do I gently tell someone that I'm not going to send them the assignments that I worked hard on and stayed up late to finish, just because they dropped the ball? I am older than a lot of my classmates, so I don't want to come off condescending or patronizing. \n\nI should also add that it feels really one-sided. I have a few people that I will ask for information if I've missed something, or maybe a day of notes or whatever, but I've never said \"hey can you send me your completed homework\" because it feels weird and I don't want to get caught cheating anyway. "
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"you just gotta be a savage like me bro\n\nhttp://imgur.com/eMtVmEt\n\n",
"Try this: \"Show/send me what you have and I'll see if I can help\"\n\nIf they have nothing to show you, you can't help because you don't know where they need the help.",
"You can avoid sharing your homework (aka cheating), and still build great relationships by telling your friends:\n\n\"Im not comfortable with breaking the rules of the college by sharing homework, but I am more than happy to sit down with you and help you out where you are stuck.\"\n\nThis way you are not cheating, and they end up owing you a favour, and will build better friendships that way.\n\nIf they are asking you the night before, you could change that to:\n\n\"Im not comfortable with breaking the rules of the college by sharing homework, but next time if you let me know in advance, we will have time for me to sit down with you and help you out where you are stuck.\"\n\nThis also avoids helping deadbeats who are just using you to avoid doing real work.",
"I've done this before and to be honest I didn't care if I came off as a dick: \"I'm sorry man, but I don't study for 2 people.\" Honestly, that worked for me very easily.",
"dont talk around it, get straight to the point. also, if you're a maths/computer science student, bonus points for saying yes as in \"yes I can/could\" and then don't do it.\n\n",
"Notes from classes they missed, no biggie (to my mind). They aren't really \"private\", you aren't being graded on them, etc. So sure, this \"friend\" can pay to photocopy the notes (or, if they are actually a friend, you could pay for the photocopying, your call).\n\nSharing homework is really different. If the other person in contributing in some way (I've taken classes where the homework was specified as \"group work\" so a bunch of people would get together and work out the problems as a team), but just out-and-out asking for your completed answers? Not cool dude. I'd just tell them no on the homework answers.",
"I had a so-called friend deliberately not take notes in a lecture intensive history class we shared. He would just sit in class and be lazy. He then wanted to copy my notes. \n \nShort answer, after he did this a few times, I just told him no. He got really pissed, but I didn't care.\n \nSomeone that wants to take advantage of you is not your friend. Tell him to do his own work. \n \nHere is a simple reply to this person:\n\"We all have to do our own work. You should understand why I can't just let you copy mine. It is not how college works.\"\n \nIf he can't respect this, then to hell with him.",
"The simpliest way is to say no.\nBut the better way is to ask something in exchange. Does the person have notes or project you need? Exchange then. It's a win-win, since you can actually start trading with him/her.",
"LifeProTip - Friends I shared my hw with are my good friends later in life, and also pulled great favors for me recently. ",
"It sounds like you're not dealing with friends. If you're dealing with friends, you just say \"Shit, Mike, I can't just GIVE you my homework. Be a friend and don't ask this of me.\" A friend is someone you HELP with homework, not give them your work.\n\nAs for notes, I always help out my friends with notes, but not forever. Sooner or later, they need to show up to class.\n\nAnyone who is not a friend is NOT worth violating academic principles of sharing student work.",
"I know someone who would let you copy his work, but he needs you to understand it first. He would explain to you every item on the homework. \nHe is the epitome of a good citizen.\n\nAs for me, I always give my homework, but I would always make sure that they will give me something in return unconsciously, doesn't matter if it is about school matters. Same thing the other way around. If I ask for notes, I would offer my help with other things. I am like the Godfather except I tend to cut ties fast and I do not save favors for a long time. If I think the person asking for help is a shit, I would tell them that I would let them copy once I finish it, but I would not do the homework. If I have the time, I would copy someone's homework on the day of submission, and of course the unconscious give-and-take rule still applies.",
"What happens to me: I do things differently than others so I sometimes send it, but they don't understand anything of that.",
"I would say that a friend did it in high school and got expelled and you can't afford to get kicked out of school. ",
"I don't have any advice for you, but why not just share it so they aren't screwed? The educational system is messed up, overly stress inducing, etc.",
"Home works overrated. I'd share it with people you like even if their lazy. If you don't care much for the person just tell them sorry no. \n\nStudy/homework groups are a great way to meet people. The person who routinely doesn't finish homework themselves is not likely to do well. "
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"Does it cost more money to keep a house consistently at 70 degrees (F) or to turn the heat off at night and then turn it on during the day? My parents turn the heat off at night and it'll go down to the low 60s at night and then they'll turn it up to 70 durning the day. Just wondering if any of y'all may have experimented with this or are math wizards or heating experts and know if there's a difference or if they'll both end up costing pretty much the same on the gas bill at the end of the month.\n\n&#x200B;\n\n",
"Does it cost more money to keep a house consistently at 70 degrees (F) or to turn the heat off at night and then turn it on during the day? My parents turn the heat off at night and it'll go down to the low 60s at night and then they'll turn it up to 70 durning the day. Just wondering if any of y'all may have experimented with this or are math wizards or heating experts and know if there's a difference or if they'll both end up costing pretty much the same on the gas bill at the end of the month.\n\n&#x200B;\n\n",
"Does it cost more money to keep a house consistently at 70 degrees (F) or to turn the heat off at night and then turn it on during the day? My parents turn the heat off at night and it'll go down to the low 60s at night and then they'll turn it up to 70 durning the day. Just wondering if any of y'all may have experimented with this or are math wizards or heating experts and know if there's a difference or if they'll both end up costing pretty much the same on the gas bill at the end of the month.\n\n&#x200B;\n\n",
"Does it cost more money to keep a house consistently at 70 degrees (F) or to turn the heat off at night and then turn it on during the day? My parents turn the heat off at night and it'll go down to the low 60s at night and then they'll turn it up to 70 durning the day. Just wondering if any of y'all may have experimented with this or are math wizards or heating experts and know if there's a difference or if they'll both end up costing pretty much the same on the gas bill at the end of the month.\n\n&#x200B;\n\n",
"Does it cost more money to keep a house consistently at 70 degrees (F) or to turn the heat off at night and then turn it on during the day? My parents turn the heat off at night and it'll go down to the low 60s at night and then they'll turn it up to 70 durning the day. Just wondering if any of y'all may have experimented with this or are math wizards or heating experts and know if there's a difference or if they'll both end up costing pretty much the same on the gas bill at the end of the month.\n\n&#x200B;\n\n",
"Does it cost more money to keep a house consistently at 70 degrees (F) or to turn the heat off at night and then turn it on during the day? My parents turn the heat off at night and it'll go down to the low 60s at night and then they'll turn it up to 70 durning the day. Just wondering if any of y'all may have experimented with this or are math wizards or heating experts and know if there's a difference or if they'll both end up costing pretty much the same on the gas bill at the end of the month.\n\n&#x200B;\n\n",
"Does it cost more money to keep a house consistently at 70 degrees (F) or to turn the heat off at night and then turn it on during the day? My parents turn the heat off at night and it'll go down to the low 60s at night and then they'll turn it up to 70 durning the day. Just wondering if any of y'all may have experimented with this or are math wizards or heating experts and know if there's a difference or if they'll both end up costing pretty much the same on the gas bill at the end of the month.\n\n&#x200B;\n\n"
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"You can save money by turning down the heat setting at night, however, if you turn it up more than 4 degrees in the morning you will lose any savings because the furnace has to work so hard to raise the temp in the house.",
"In cold climates, one can [save 10% in energy costs](https://www.energy.gov/energysaver/thermostats) by lowering your thermostat when you are asleep.\n\nThe basic reason is that the rate of heat loss/transfer from the building is significantly less as the interior temperature is lowered.\n\nThe easiest solution is to use a programmable thermostat and turn it down at night and when your home (or building) isn't occupied.\n\nThis is similarly true for summers and air conditioning.\n\n",
"I kept my house at 65 during the day and 50-55 at night. My bill was normally $90 a month but then I read that I was using more electricity and wasting money so I kept it at 65 all the time. My bill was over $200 that month so yes you're saving quite a bit",
"My grandparents found it’s cheaper to keep the house at constant 18C and turn it up when you’re cold that have the heating on and off at 21C when you’re in the house. ",
"It depends, too, on what kind of heater you have. A gas furnace takes x units of gas add y joules of heat to your house, no matter the temperature of the house. A heat pump compresses a refrigerant which heats it up and then it blows that heat into your house. The refrigerant is then pumped outside to expand which cools it off (\"air conditioning\" the outside) before bring pumped in to repeat the process. The process works best when the temperatures are close between inside and outside than when there is a big difference. In this case running it all night means that it doesn't have to run as much in the morning when the temperature difference it's the highest, which saves energy overall.",
"I feel like it should be opposite because it’s more cold at night! I find that it’s not worth the misery of being warm/cold/warm/cold on and off. I just keep it “on” and set the thermostat to kick on when it gets below a certain threshold, like 68. If the temperature wildly fluctuates thru the day, your house prob isn’t insulated well and your bill is gonna be high either way. Or you’re gonna be cold. ",
"[Science](https://www.engineeringtoolbox.com/thermal-conductivity-d_429.html) to the rescue: \n>due to a unit *temperature gradient* under steady state conditions \n\nIf it is 0⁰C outside and 21⁰C inside then you lose 21 'units' of heat, if it is 16⁰C inside you lose 16 'units'. \n \n"
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"How to equilibriate the temperature in my apartment I have a weird situation with my apartment, where apparently the bedroom is somehow perfectly insulated from the rest of the apartment. The A/C is a wall unit, and not central air, and it's located in the living room. Basically on a typical day, my apartment is about 10 degrees colder than it is outside, except for my bedroom which is 10 degrees warmer. Even if I leave the air fully on all day with all the fans on and additional fans in the bedroom, nothing changes. It stays hot in my bedroom and gets really cold everywhere else. It's weird because the windows are the exact same size facing the exact same direction, only a few feet away from each other (separated by a wall). ",
"How to equilibriate the temperature in my apartment I have a weird situation with my apartment, where apparently the bedroom is somehow perfectly insulated from the rest of the apartment. The A/C is a wall unit, and not central air, and it's located in the living room. Basically on a typical day, my apartment is about 10 degrees colder than it is outside, except for my bedroom which is 10 degrees warmer. Even if I leave the air fully on all day with all the fans on and additional fans in the bedroom, nothing changes. It stays hot in my bedroom and gets really cold everywhere else. It's weird because the windows are the exact same size facing the exact same direction, only a few feet away from each other (separated by a wall). ",
"How to equilibriate the temperature in my apartment I have a weird situation with my apartment, where apparently the bedroom is somehow perfectly insulated from the rest of the apartment. The A/C is a wall unit, and not central air, and it's located in the living room. Basically on a typical day, my apartment is about 10 degrees colder than it is outside, except for my bedroom which is 10 degrees warmer. Even if I leave the air fully on all day with all the fans on and additional fans in the bedroom, nothing changes. It stays hot in my bedroom and gets really cold everywhere else. It's weird because the windows are the exact same size facing the exact same direction, only a few feet away from each other (separated by a wall). ",
"How to equilibriate the temperature in my apartment I have a weird situation with my apartment, where apparently the bedroom is somehow perfectly insulated from the rest of the apartment. The A/C is a wall unit, and not central air, and it's located in the living room. Basically on a typical day, my apartment is about 10 degrees colder than it is outside, except for my bedroom which is 10 degrees warmer. Even if I leave the air fully on all day with all the fans on and additional fans in the bedroom, nothing changes. It stays hot in my bedroom and gets really cold everywhere else. It's weird because the windows are the exact same size facing the exact same direction, only a few feet away from each other (separated by a wall). "
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"Put a box fan on the floor blowing into the bedroom. See if it pulls some of the cooler air into the room. Turn off the other fans as they can be working at cross purposes and actually trapping the hot bedroom air in the bedroom. ",
"The bedroom must be receiving full sunlight during part of the day on one of it's outer walls and heating up. I have this same issue. It's crappy insulation and heat eventually penetrates through it and warms the room. Putting a box fan in a window so that it blows the air outside will draw air into the bedroom from the rest of the house. You can help this be more efficient if you can open another window on the other side of the house to create \"negative pressure\". I do it here at my house and it works awesome!",
"It sounds like you've got an insulation problem. Are the windows in different rooms different from each other? Have you tried putting fans in the door way with one blowing in, one blowing out on top?",
"Do you have a central heater? If you do you should be able to turn it to \"Fan\" instead of heat or cold. It should circulate the air in your apartment better."
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"Always bored on my free time How do I expand my interest or find new interest in thing. Most of the time throughout the day. When I finish everything that’s need to be done. I would usually just play the game or scroll mindlessly on my phone on my free time. But playing games, scrolling through Netflix and Hulu with nothing to watch, and scrolling through my phone is extremely repetitive. \n\n I’m always bored and people say try new thing but a lot of thing don’t interest me. I don’t know maybe it’s because. I’m not looking hard enough or something. Like I’ll see a tv show or a hobby and just be like ”Eh looks boring”. I can’t go out as I please either because I don’t have a car yet and I’m still in high school but I graduate this year.",
"Always bored on my free time How do I expand my interest or find new interest in thing. Most of the time throughout the day. When I finish everything that’s need to be done. I would usually just play the game or scroll mindlessly on my phone on my free time. But playing games, scrolling through Netflix and Hulu with nothing to watch, and scrolling through my phone is extremely repetitive. \n\n I’m always bored and people say try new thing but a lot of thing don’t interest me. I don’t know maybe it’s because. I’m not looking hard enough or something. Like I’ll see a tv show or a hobby and just be like ”Eh looks boring”. I can’t go out as I please either because I don’t have a car yet and I’m still in high school but I graduate this year.",
"Always bored on my free time How do I expand my interest or find new interest in thing. Most of the time throughout the day. When I finish everything that’s need to be done. I would usually just play the game or scroll mindlessly on my phone on my free time. But playing games, scrolling through Netflix and Hulu with nothing to watch, and scrolling through my phone is extremely repetitive. \n\n I’m always bored and people say try new thing but a lot of thing don’t interest me. I don’t know maybe it’s because. I’m not looking hard enough or something. Like I’ll see a tv show or a hobby and just be like ”Eh looks boring”. I can’t go out as I please either because I don’t have a car yet and I’m still in high school but I graduate this year."
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"So people have given you very good suggestions on how to not be bored and you poo poo'd on all of them. Your problem is not boredom.\n\nYou are unwilling to entertain yourself. Sometimes this is a symptom of depression. \n\nYou say that after the stuff that needs to get done is finished you get bored. Make bigger lists.\n\nHomework, chores, read a book, go out for a walk, clean something unexpected, Write it all down the day before.",
"Your problem boils down to one fact: you havent found your passion yet. Either a hobby, research into another profession, etc. You have not discovered it yet, and can feel that hole in your life. \n\nThe way to find it is to put your phone down, delete time wasting games and social media, and choose to read or learn about different passions—anything that ignites interest in you. You may not find it today or tomorrow—or for a long long time—but step one is put down your phone. And stop making excuses for not trying new things. (See above!)\n\nYou’re unfullfillment isnt because you cant have what you want. Its because you dont know WHAT you want",
"Volunteer. Try a different organization every month til you find one that matters to you. You will start thinking outside of yourself, realize the vastness of the world, and learn interesting things that will serve you in life. You may meet people who are more interesting than your current crew.",
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"Dealing with a boss/superior that is just downright rude? What is the right way to deal with a superior who is constantly putting you down and being unnecessarily rude no matter how hard you work? ",
"Dealing with a boss/superior that is just downright rude? What is the right way to deal with a superior who is constantly putting you down and being unnecessarily rude no matter how hard you work? ",
"Dealing with a boss/superior that is just downright rude? What is the right way to deal with a superior who is constantly putting you down and being unnecessarily rude no matter how hard you work? "
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"Not sure of the situation but sometimes business is business and there's no place for your feelings in the workplace. Rudeness? Ignore it. Do what you're being paid to do and do it well. Being put down or seriously insulted? Unless you've got no other options, leave. Life's too short. ",
"Walk away fam. Can't fix it and no sense in fighting it. Will only make I worse for you while you suffer there alone ... ",
"Without a specific situation to advise on, i'd say you should ask yiur manager for an evaluation. If they have legitimate issues with your job performance, they have notes on that. They can give you an eval on the spot and corroborate with specific examples of what areas need improvement and why. If they dislike you cause you look just like their stepdad who slept with their girlfriend and have been treating you unfairly, they'll either make things up or delay the eval long enough to bring a bunch of nitpicky things to the meeting. \n\n\"You left the seat up at the urinal this morning. You didn't use a 3rd napkin at lunch. And quite frankly, i feel like not being able to see at a glance whether you're a boxers or briefs kind of guy is distracting to the team cause they spend all their time speculating instead of working.\"\nVs\n\"Every saturday shift you come in late and it takes you a good 2-3 hours to start putting in quality work while you sober up. You take smoke breaks so often that you literally took a smoke break in the middle of a smoke break today. I've gone over how to research inventory discrepancies with you 4 times now, yet i can see from your reports that you're not doing a bit of research and just making up reasons. This makes us question if you are stealing from the company yourself or don't care enough to catch whomever is.\"",
"In my personal experience, we, as a group, talked to our superior's superior and laid it on the line. They commiserated with us, said oh, that's terrible and then gave her a promotion and a raise. At least we didn't have to work with her any more."
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"How to spot mis/disinformation in media? I am seeing a rise amongst my friends & family sending blatantly ",
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"I get what you mean about it coming across as condescending, but it shouldn't. It does because they know what they're sharing is just confirming their beliefs, and not necessarily factual. \n\nI have an older relative that I thought genuinely needed help. I told her she could look for a \"story\" on more than one site. If you cant find it sourced elsewhere. it's likely not real.",
"Opinions like insurance coverage should be examined once and a while.\n\nIf it confirms what you think challenge it. Find out what it isn't saying.\n\nEven in science things change from known to new discovery. So too our insights may shift to reveal something more.\n\nIt's ok to rely on a formerly proven principle but \"I feel\" type statements about \"facts\" generally mean they aren't proven but hoped to be right.",
"Pick 20 posts on this sub and Google the key point in each. You'll quickly get good at the process, learning which search results are solid, which are the same or worse than those in the posts. Repeat this over several days and you'll be well on your way to pointing out what's incorrect and posting a reply of what is. The result is deleted or removed posts.",
"Be skeptical of what you read. If something you read makes you think, \"That doesn't seem right\", find other sources with the same story, to see if it is confirmed or refuted..",
"Dont know if its useful but why I do is try to watch the least amount of news on TV and I try to remind myself that channels are there for ratings for views they dont have to legally tell you the truth",
"Don't trust any \"sources\" because they ALL have an agenda. You just need to find alternative versions of the story and read them all and trust that the truth is somewhere in there."
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"The best way to pick someone up from the airport without paying for parking Whenever I go to the airport to pick someone up, traffic enforcement shoos me away if I wait outside the arrivals. I don't want to pay for parking if I'm going to have to wait just 20 minutes or something and I don't want to keep driving around and around until the person(s) I'm picking up finally make it outside. What do?\n\n",
"The best way to pick someone up from the airport without paying for parking Whenever I go to the airport to pick someone up, traffic enforcement shoos me away if I wait outside the arrivals. I don't want to pay for parking if I'm going to have to wait just 20 minutes or something and I don't want to keep driving around and around until the person(s) I'm picking up finally make it outside. What do?\n\n",
"The best way to pick someone up from the airport without paying for parking Whenever I go to the airport to pick someone up, traffic enforcement shoos me away if I wait outside the arrivals. I don't want to pay for parking if I'm going to have to wait just 20 minutes or something and I don't want to keep driving around and around until the person(s) I'm picking up finally make it outside. What do?\n\n",
"The best way to pick someone up from the airport without paying for parking Whenever I go to the airport to pick someone up, traffic enforcement shoos me away if I wait outside the arrivals. I don't want to pay for parking if I'm going to have to wait just 20 minutes or something and I don't want to keep driving around and around until the person(s) I'm picking up finally make it outside. What do?\n\n",
"The best way to pick someone up from the airport without paying for parking Whenever I go to the airport to pick someone up, traffic enforcement shoos me away if I wait outside the arrivals. I don't want to pay for parking if I'm going to have to wait just 20 minutes or something and I don't want to keep driving around and around until the person(s) I'm picking up finally make it outside. What do?\n\n",
"The best way to pick someone up from the airport without paying for parking Whenever I go to the airport to pick someone up, traffic enforcement shoos me away if I wait outside the arrivals. I don't want to pay for parking if I'm going to have to wait just 20 minutes or something and I don't want to keep driving around and around until the person(s) I'm picking up finally make it outside. What do?\n\n",
"The best way to pick someone up from the airport without paying for parking Whenever I go to the airport to pick someone up, traffic enforcement shoos me away if I wait outside the arrivals. I don't want to pay for parking if I'm going to have to wait just 20 minutes or something and I don't want to keep driving around and around until the person(s) I'm picking up finally make it outside. What do?\n\n",
"The best way to pick someone up from the airport without paying for parking Whenever I go to the airport to pick someone up, traffic enforcement shoos me away if I wait outside the arrivals. I don't want to pay for parking if I'm going to have to wait just 20 minutes or something and I don't want to keep driving around and around until the person(s) I'm picking up finally make it outside. What do?\n\n",
"The best way to pick someone up from the airport without paying for parking Whenever I go to the airport to pick someone up, traffic enforcement shoos me away if I wait outside the arrivals. I don't want to pay for parking if I'm going to have to wait just 20 minutes or something and I don't want to keep driving around and around until the person(s) I'm picking up finally make it outside. What do?\n\n",
"The best way to pick someone up from the airport without paying for parking Whenever I go to the airport to pick someone up, traffic enforcement shoos me away if I wait outside the arrivals. I don't want to pay for parking if I'm going to have to wait just 20 minutes or something and I don't want to keep driving around and around until the person(s) I'm picking up finally make it outside. What do?\n\n",
"The best way to pick someone up from the airport without paying for parking Whenever I go to the airport to pick someone up, traffic enforcement shoos me away if I wait outside the arrivals. I don't want to pay for parking if I'm going to have to wait just 20 minutes or something and I don't want to keep driving around and around until the person(s) I'm picking up finally make it outside. What do?\n\n"
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"Most of the airports I have been to have some sort of a parking area where you can wait that is just off property or a little ways away from the main property. They call it something like a cell lot. Everybody has a phone. Sit there and wait for the call.",
"in LAX you would just keep doing the circle again and again until you can pick up the person.\n\nUsually around Airports there are 1. Hotels and 2. Places to eat...like Dennys or some fast food restaurant. If you can, wait there until your person is ready to be picked up, then swoop in and grab them as they wait on the curb.\n\nThats what I do.\n\n",
"Look up the airport online to see if they have a \"cell phone lot\" - most airports that don't allow waiting have one and every international airport in the US I've been to has one. You park in the cell phone lot and tell the person to call you as soon as they have their bags.",
"The REAL LPT:\n\nDepending on how busy the airport is, it can be much easier to arrange to pickup a person at DEPARTURES instead of arrivals. Departures is generally much less crowded and easier to wait for a few minutes",
"Pull off the exit before the airport and park at a gas station/store and check the status of the plane or wait for a text that they landed. takes about 30 min after the plane lands, collect luggage and to meet them for a domestic flight. ",
"My (tiny) local airport you can sit there indefinitely. I'd just keep circling around. If the person has a phone, just have them call you when ready.",
"Jesus OP. Find a bagel store or coffeshop or whatever you're into 1 exit away from the airport and wait for the call. Or wait by the side of the road just outside the airport.",
"It takes about a half an hour to get from the plane to the door, more if you checked baggage. JohnnyZondo is right on. \n\nPark half an hour away. Pretty far. Have them text you when they are departing and it's allowed, then again when they are in the terminal. Then again when they have their luggage. By then you are sitting out front. :)",
"In addition to using the cell lot, my old pro tip was to pick up on the departures level but my local airport security goons have picked up on that trick and whistle on anyone not doing dropoffs from departures. Fine.\n\nNow when I pick up people I have them go to the far, far end of the arrivals deck, past all the morons who pull over at the first door and double- or triple-park. I can always get right up to the curb and (bonus) there's a cart return right close at my airport. Makes for a smooth easy pickup.",
"Agreed on cell phone lot. Also, download the app for the airline, and it will tell you when the plane has landed, if you pull up then, you won't be waiting long, and typically if security walks up, and you know your flight number you are waiting for and can show them that its already landed, they will allow you to stay there.",
"Came tot ell you about cell phone lots... but just in case your looking to be even more clever:\n\nAirports usually have a \"taxi lane\" right outside the terminals. Just throw a little taxi sign on your car and wait. (though the first car is supposed to get passengers first so you may get evil eyes hard)"
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"Good friend's mom passed away. What can I do/bring to help? My friend lost her mom and I'm planning on bringing her some breakfast on Saturday. I can't imagine how hard it must be to take care of yourself when going through such an intense grieving process and I would love to help ease other areas in her life. For those who may have been through something similar, what are some things that I could maybe bring that could provide a big help?",
"Good friend's mom passed away. What can I do/bring to help? My friend lost her mom and I'm planning on bringing her some breakfast on Saturday. I can't imagine how hard it must be to take care of yourself when going through such an intense grieving process and I would love to help ease other areas in her life. For those who may have been through something similar, what are some things that I could maybe bring that could provide a big help?",
"Good friend's mom passed away. What can I do/bring to help? My friend lost her mom and I'm planning on bringing her some breakfast on Saturday. I can't imagine how hard it must be to take care of yourself when going through such an intense grieving process and I would love to help ease other areas in her life. For those who may have been through something similar, what are some things that I could maybe bring that could provide a big help?",
"Good friend's mom passed away. What can I do/bring to help? My friend lost her mom and I'm planning on bringing her some breakfast on Saturday. I can't imagine how hard it must be to take care of yourself when going through such an intense grieving process and I would love to help ease other areas in her life. For those who may have been through something similar, what are some things that I could maybe bring that could provide a big help?",
"Good friend's mom passed away. What can I do/bring to help? My friend lost her mom and I'm planning on bringing her some breakfast on Saturday. I can't imagine how hard it must be to take care of yourself when going through such an intense grieving process and I would love to help ease other areas in her life. For those who may have been through something similar, what are some things that I could maybe bring that could provide a big help?",
"Good friend's mom passed away. What can I do/bring to help? My friend lost her mom and I'm planning on bringing her some breakfast on Saturday. I can't imagine how hard it must be to take care of yourself when going through such an intense grieving process and I would love to help ease other areas in her life. For those who may have been through something similar, what are some things that I could maybe bring that could provide a big help?",
"Good friend's mom passed away. What can I do/bring to help? My friend lost her mom and I'm planning on bringing her some breakfast on Saturday. I can't imagine how hard it must be to take care of yourself when going through such an intense grieving process and I would love to help ease other areas in her life. For those who may have been through something similar, what are some things that I could maybe bring that could provide a big help?",
"Good friend's mom passed away. What can I do/bring to help? My friend lost her mom and I'm planning on bringing her some breakfast on Saturday. I can't imagine how hard it must be to take care of yourself when going through such an intense grieving process and I would love to help ease other areas in her life. For those who may have been through something similar, what are some things that I could maybe bring that could provide a big help?",
"Good friend's mom passed away. What can I do/bring to help? My friend lost her mom and I'm planning on bringing her some breakfast on Saturday. I can't imagine how hard it must be to take care of yourself when going through such an intense grieving process and I would love to help ease other areas in her life. For those who may have been through something similar, what are some things that I could maybe bring that could provide a big help?",
"Good friend's mom passed away. What can I do/bring to help? My friend lost her mom and I'm planning on bringing her some breakfast on Saturday. I can't imagine how hard it must be to take care of yourself when going through such an intense grieving process and I would love to help ease other areas in her life. For those who may have been through something similar, what are some things that I could maybe bring that could provide a big help?",
"Good friend's mom passed away. What can I do/bring to help? My friend lost her mom and I'm planning on bringing her some breakfast on Saturday. I can't imagine how hard it must be to take care of yourself when going through such an intense grieving process and I would love to help ease other areas in her life. For those who may have been through something similar, what are some things that I could maybe bring that could provide a big help?",
"Good friend's mom passed away. What can I do/bring to help? My friend lost her mom and I'm planning on bringing her some breakfast on Saturday. I can't imagine how hard it must be to take care of yourself when going through such an intense grieving process and I would love to help ease other areas in her life. For those who may have been through something similar, what are some things that I could maybe bring that could provide a big help?"
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"Going through this right now. Her mom passed Sunday and her birthday is tomorrow. The best thing to do is be with her. Lend a shoulder and allow her to share whatever emotion she feels at the time. It will be a roller coaster",
"1) Privacy \n\nA lot of times, in good faith, we think that since someone is going through a loss, he or she is definitely not in a stable state and needs support. Sometimes all they nerd is to be with themselves and grieve in peace. It gets tough to grieve/cry cathartically when there's people present, and hence sometimes the best thing we can give to them is their space\n\n2) Your presence\n\nFor some people, it's not always a great to leave them entirely alone, because they might not be as emotionally and mentally strong as you might think they are, so if your friend is one of those people who is emotional, you should just be there for her. You don't have to say anything, or give any advice, a few words are enough to show you care, you don't need to force a conversation, just be silent and make sure she realizes that you are simply there to listen to her or just be present, and aren't forcing that present\n\n3) Prevent misinterpreted empathy\n\nSometimes, when people are grieving, they tend to think that everyone around them is just showing them pity and fake sympathy. It's a natural reaction when everyone is just saying sorry or saying repetitive things, in those scenarios, try to make sure other friends who aren't as close to her, don't present that _oh you poor thing you must be so miserable_ attitude, She isn't in the state to say it directly, so as her friend, maybe you can take the responsibility to make sure other friends/colleagues respect her space\n\n4) It is ok to cry, but not at the expense of health \n\nIt is often said that more than half the pain and sorrow we feel, is self inflicted, and that the real suffering is just 10 percent of the pain we feel, which is kinda true tbh, Hence, as her friend, you could maybe make sure that even though she's grieving, she's not putting her health in the backseat. Make sure she stays hydrated, eats her meals even if just a little bit\n\n5) Give her the most important thing, Time\n\nSome people might agree, some disagree, but i believe time is the best healer. You can try everything as a friend but can't reduce certain pains, so just give her time, she'll be ok, just be there for her, be her best friend, and in the process, remember that you're not doing all of this out of pity, you're doing this because you love your best friend, and hopefully soon, she'll be better and she'll come to terms with her mother's death.\n\nMore power to her, hope she finds the strength she needs, and more power to you, hope you can be the friend she needs rn\n\nBest of luck ❤️",
"The most comforting thing I know is that although mynparents are gone they arent. Literally they are innmy DNA and they are also present in everything they taught me. \n\nThe death of a parent make the child become a new person. Everything they see and experience is seen anew. Let them know that feeling so disconnected to what was familiar is normal, that they are developing a new way of looking at the world that wrenched them out of the familiar. It is a lot to process and they need to take care of their health, follow a good routine and be patient with themself. It will take the time it takes . But in the meantime what they learned from mom is still a guide to them.",
"I lost my mom a couple years ago and it was a rollercoaster; things that created a sense of normalcy and stability were good for me. That said, different people need different things.\nI had plenty of meals brought to me and it is definitely a relief in times of trouble to not have to worry about that. Make sure you get everything, If you bring baked potatoes bring the fixings too. Ya never know what they’re out of at home.",
"I have been there when i have lost my dad. Please don't tell her to cheer up. Don't tell her that she will be fine soon or forget about it by the time. The most valuable thing is to make her feel that you are there all the time and ready for her. Ready for listening, ready for being silent together, ready for anything to make her comfortable. If she doesn't respond to your calls or messages, don't give up and keep checking her.",
"Does she know you are coming? Make sure she’s aware and if she asks you not to, check when you may. Sometimes we just want alone time. Accept it but fix a different time/or date if she doesn’t want company or tell her that you’re just coming to bring her breakfast and then leave again, that way you can still check up on her and respect her boundaries whilst she’s grieving. Daily little messages such as “Good morning, let me know if you need something” or just a simple hug emoji let’s them know you are thinking of them.\n\nBe guided by her needs, not yours wanting to help, we all have different ways of dealing with loss.\n\nYou are a good friend, keep caring.",
"When my mother died, a lot of life tasks were just so hard- getting the dishes done, laundry done, dog walked, trash out, etc. If you're able to offer support in those areas, it could be really helpful. But easy to heat up food never goes wrong too.",
"The best suggestion I've ever heard is a veggie/meat/cheese platter. Or plenty of frozen leftovers. The last thing somebody wants to do when someone close to them passes is cook/take care of themself, and this makes it way easier for them to do so without expending too much effort. Breakfast will definitely help, but this will extend to beyond breakfast.",
"Keep showing up and reaching out to your friend. When my mom died I had a friend that did that, we’d go geocaching or get lunch, or go for a walk. Just something for me to look forward to and keep me moving forward in my grief. Still appreciate the just showing up part. It meant a lot and really helped.",
"I'm assuming you're adults, I remember hearing one tip saying that everyone brings food and flowers and you should bring some gift cards to somewhere they like to eat or fast food, because they probably wont have the energy to cook. Also everyone forgets about the person after the funeral, the day right after the funeral is the hardest make sure they have something planned or just hang out with them and dont just expect them to get over it quickly. It can take some people over a year to truly get over it goodluck",
"Get em a plant that's easy to take care of. It can be useful to have something to take their mind off it, it improves the air quality of their home, certain ones ward off certain insects, etc.\n\n",
"Do you know if there will be a lot of family/friends around? Things like cookies, granola bars, fruit are helpful to have around and she wont have to run around to get snacks for them. The best thing to do is follow their lead. If they want to talk/vent, receive it without interjecting about yourself. If they want to stay quiet, accept that. And if you’re not sure, ask. “Do you want me to stay longer or would you rather have some time too yourself?” Depending on the situation offers to walk the dog, mow the lawn, drive her to places are also helpful."
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"How to get past from being acquainted to being friend? There is nothing, personally for me, more bothersome than the fact that every person I have tried to make friend with, always ends up as acquaintances rather than an actual friend. I also notice the goddamn lack of selfie or group selfie when I am with other people, yet everytime on facebook, people I know upload pictures of them and their friends without me. I never feel close to anyone in a long time.\n\nStory Time:\nCurrently a college student, I have tried going to clubs, hangout, and texting. I also am able to crack witty one-liners to some degree so you know I am not totally a boring chump. I admit I am kinda socially awkward, but I can quickly adapt depend on situations. However, I notice how some people who are even more socially awkward than me have a better-knit group of friends, and in the end, I feel like I am the only one ostracized.\n\nThere is this one girl I know who I would very much like to befriend with. It's 100% platonic and I want it to be that way. I got to walk with her after class every week. We even ate at a restaurant one time. But alas, after the quarter ended, she no longer contact me eventhough I had tried to contact her.\n\nOr another instance, I have a group of friends who I would say we are somewhat close. They seem to see me as orbiter, not an actual hanging out friend. Despite the fact that I went to almost every meeting, every dining, every hangout except maybe study sessions because I like to study alone. It's driving me crazy.\n\nWhat did I do wrong Reddit? ",
"How to get past from being acquainted to being friend? There is nothing, personally for me, more bothersome than the fact that every person I have tried to make friend with, always ends up as acquaintances rather than an actual friend. I also notice the goddamn lack of selfie or group selfie when I am with other people, yet everytime on facebook, people I know upload pictures of them and their friends without me. I never feel close to anyone in a long time.\n\nStory Time:\nCurrently a college student, I have tried going to clubs, hangout, and texting. I also am able to crack witty one-liners to some degree so you know I am not totally a boring chump. I admit I am kinda socially awkward, but I can quickly adapt depend on situations. However, I notice how some people who are even more socially awkward than me have a better-knit group of friends, and in the end, I feel like I am the only one ostracized.\n\nThere is this one girl I know who I would very much like to befriend with. It's 100% platonic and I want it to be that way. I got to walk with her after class every week. We even ate at a restaurant one time. But alas, after the quarter ended, she no longer contact me eventhough I had tried to contact her.\n\nOr another instance, I have a group of friends who I would say we are somewhat close. They seem to see me as orbiter, not an actual hanging out friend. Despite the fact that I went to almost every meeting, every dining, every hangout except maybe study sessions because I like to study alone. It's driving me crazy.\n\nWhat did I do wrong Reddit? ",
"How to get past from being acquainted to being friend? There is nothing, personally for me, more bothersome than the fact that every person I have tried to make friend with, always ends up as acquaintances rather than an actual friend. I also notice the goddamn lack of selfie or group selfie when I am with other people, yet everytime on facebook, people I know upload pictures of them and their friends without me. I never feel close to anyone in a long time.\n\nStory Time:\nCurrently a college student, I have tried going to clubs, hangout, and texting. I also am able to crack witty one-liners to some degree so you know I am not totally a boring chump. I admit I am kinda socially awkward, but I can quickly adapt depend on situations. However, I notice how some people who are even more socially awkward than me have a better-knit group of friends, and in the end, I feel like I am the only one ostracized.\n\nThere is this one girl I know who I would very much like to befriend with. It's 100% platonic and I want it to be that way. I got to walk with her after class every week. We even ate at a restaurant one time. But alas, after the quarter ended, she no longer contact me eventhough I had tried to contact her.\n\nOr another instance, I have a group of friends who I would say we are somewhat close. They seem to see me as orbiter, not an actual hanging out friend. Despite the fact that I went to almost every meeting, every dining, every hangout except maybe study sessions because I like to study alone. It's driving me crazy.\n\nWhat did I do wrong Reddit? "
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"Take a genuine interest in who they are or what they like to do, People like talking about themselves. Also, be the creator of an outing or outings on a semi-regular basis...Group hike, group lunch, concert with friends. Most people prefer group settings over one on one. Save the one on one stuff for texts, phone calls, dropping by, etc.\n\nSincerely, \n\nan introvert.",
"Smoking weed really helps and not in a superficial way like some might think. \n\nIm 32 and havnt smoked weed in over 4 years yet every single one of my true life long friends, I made from just hanging out and smoking weed together. \n\nThe smoke sessions always lead to other things like going out to eat, skateboarding, going on hikes, making music, going out to get drinks, doing fun stuff that would have never happened if we all didnt get together to burn one real quick. If it wasnt for the weed I would have just stayed home alone but getting together with random people daily just to smoke turned those random people into good friends I would do other things with. Eventually those people turned into friends I would plan vacations with or attend major events with, and those things turned those random people into serious meaningful friendships. \n\n We are all adults now living in different states yet we make annual trips to visit each other, attend each other's weddings, call just to bs every now and then... These are true friends and i would not have a single one of these friendships if it wasnt for the times we shared just sitting around laughing and smoking weed together. ",
"I had to learn to cut my losses with some people. If they are just not open, they are not open. I met other people who wanted to be friends and so it was."
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"How to gather info about something a person likes for a gift Lets say for a birthday, how can I ninja info about something they really want without them suspecting a thing",
"How to gather info about something a person likes for a gift Lets say for a birthday, how can I ninja info about something they really want without them suspecting a thing",
"How to gather info about something a person likes for a gift Lets say for a birthday, how can I ninja info about something they really want without them suspecting a thing",
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"I normally tell my friend I'd like to hang out with him/her on their birthday before hand. Then we can openly discuss something both of us will enjoy doing. So instead of buying something, we just go enjoy our planned activity. Always beats a gift and their is no guessing involved.",
"LPT: If you feel the need to get someone a birthday gift, get to know them better first.\n\nSarcasm aside, if you're friends, then you should have similar interests, at least one or two. Go with that small amount of knowledge, and find something that you would think is cool. Gift cards to restaurants are okay too, because who doesn't like free food? Then there's always the gag gift, but if you're good enough friends, they shouldn't be to bummed if you don't get them anything.",
"Have a ninja birthday/holiday gift list for everyone who gets gifts from you. I swear, sometime this year there was some occasion you probably thought that you should get your friend/spouse/family member XY for their birthday. Then you forgot all about it, hence your question.",
"Tell them a few days before you've bought something and ask them to guess. Naturally, they'll begin asking for what they want and you can go and buy it.",
"I usually try and instigate a conversation along the lines of \"I've been thinking about getting a new book/dvd/coat etc.\" and see if you can squeeze some ideas out of them. "
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"How to tell someone they can help you do something, but not if they are going to debate/question how you do it? Have you ever been very tired (mentally and physically) & someone offers to help you do something, but they keep asking things like, \"Why don't you do it this way?\" or as you start working on one part (like tightening a nut or turning a screw) they step in with \"Why not let me do that piece instead?\" But you know that explaining which nut to turn next will be more work than just turning the wrench yourself.\n\nWhat is a nice way to say, \"I am so tired right now that I don't have the energy to explain or debate every step with you, and if you really want to be helpful I need you to just hold the flashlight or work independently on that other thing\"\n\nI need a pat answer I can use over and over again - something that I can rely on that doesn't require any more thought but still prevents me from hurting their feelings while making it clear that I do not have the energy to discuss the work - I only have enough to DO the work.",
"How to tell someone they can help you do something, but not if they are going to debate/question how you do it? Have you ever been very tired (mentally and physically) & someone offers to help you do something, but they keep asking things like, \"Why don't you do it this way?\" or as you start working on one part (like tightening a nut or turning a screw) they step in with \"Why not let me do that piece instead?\" But you know that explaining which nut to turn next will be more work than just turning the wrench yourself.\n\nWhat is a nice way to say, \"I am so tired right now that I don't have the energy to explain or debate every step with you, and if you really want to be helpful I need you to just hold the flashlight or work independently on that other thing\"\n\nI need a pat answer I can use over and over again - something that I can rely on that doesn't require any more thought but still prevents me from hurting their feelings while making it clear that I do not have the energy to discuss the work - I only have enough to DO the work.",
"How to tell someone they can help you do something, but not if they are going to debate/question how you do it? Have you ever been very tired (mentally and physically) & someone offers to help you do something, but they keep asking things like, \"Why don't you do it this way?\" or as you start working on one part (like tightening a nut or turning a screw) they step in with \"Why not let me do that piece instead?\" But you know that explaining which nut to turn next will be more work than just turning the wrench yourself.\n\nWhat is a nice way to say, \"I am so tired right now that I don't have the energy to explain or debate every step with you, and if you really want to be helpful I need you to just hold the flashlight or work independently on that other thing\"\n\nI need a pat answer I can use over and over again - something that I can rely on that doesn't require any more thought but still prevents me from hurting their feelings while making it clear that I do not have the energy to discuss the work - I only have enough to DO the work."
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"\"I am so tired right now that I don't have the energy to explain or debate every step with you, and if you really want to be helpful I need you to just hold the flashlight or work independently on that other thing\" \nBest way to go with it TBH, tell them upfront so they don't think \"maybe they think im not good enough so ill try and prove myself\" and make things worse.",
"\"I am exhausted and have a very specific way I want to get this done. If you could just hold this flashlight, it'd really help out and is be grateful.\"",
"\"I'm more efficient if I do it my way. But what would help would be if you could take that piece of the job over there so we don't step on each other's toes. Or maybe just point the flashlight here so I can see better.\"\n\nAcknowledge that there might be other ways of doing things, but trying them out now would not be efficient. "
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"I spend too much time procrastinating and need to focus on homework. How can I? I'm failing class and am not doing homework do to all the distractions and time I spend here.\n\n1.How can I stay focused and get back on track to what's important? \n\n2. How can I start focusing more on school? \n\n3. How do I do my homework without procrastinating?\n\n4.What are good study tips? \n\nI sincerely need help and I Thank you very much!",
"I spend too much time procrastinating and need to focus on homework. How can I? I'm failing class and am not doing homework do to all the distractions and time I spend here.\n\n1.How can I stay focused and get back on track to what's important? \n\n2. How can I start focusing more on school? \n\n3. How do I do my homework without procrastinating?\n\n4.What are good study tips? \n\nI sincerely need help and I Thank you very much!",
"I spend too much time procrastinating and need to focus on homework. How can I? I'm failing class and am not doing homework do to all the distractions and time I spend here.\n\n1.How can I stay focused and get back on track to what's important? \n\n2. How can I start focusing more on school? \n\n3. How do I do my homework without procrastinating?\n\n4.What are good study tips? \n\nI sincerely need help and I Thank you very much!",
"I spend too much time procrastinating and need to focus on homework. How can I? I'm failing class and am not doing homework do to all the distractions and time I spend here.\n\n1.How can I stay focused and get back on track to what's important? \n\n2. How can I start focusing more on school? \n\n3. How do I do my homework without procrastinating?\n\n4.What are good study tips? \n\nI sincerely need help and I Thank you very much!",
"I spend too much time procrastinating and need to focus on homework. How can I? I'm failing class and am not doing homework do to all the distractions and time I spend here.\n\n1.How can I stay focused and get back on track to what's important? \n\n2. How can I start focusing more on school? \n\n3. How do I do my homework without procrastinating?\n\n4.What are good study tips? \n\nI sincerely need help and I Thank you very much!",
"I spend too much time procrastinating and need to focus on homework. How can I? I'm failing class and am not doing homework do to all the distractions and time I spend here.\n\n1.How can I stay focused and get back on track to what's important? \n\n2. How can I start focusing more on school? \n\n3. How do I do my homework without procrastinating?\n\n4.What are good study tips? \n\nI sincerely need help and I Thank you very much!"
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"Dedication and a personal reward system. Put your will power to use; tell yourself that you will spend an hour a day doing homework, learning, etc. Shut out all distractions from that time: no music, no phone, no snacks, no tv. Just you, some water, and your work. Get through that time and then reward yourself with a treat such as reading reddit or hiring a prostitute.",
"Don't listen to music with lyrics. Biggest distraction ever. Listen to classical or some sort of ambient instrumental music.",
"Shut up and do it. \n\nBut yeah, reward yourself when you do something right. Procrastination is just you rewarding yourself for nothing. I want an Oreo, I'm going to eat these Oreos instead of doing my homework. I want to browse Reddit, so I'm going to do that instead of finishing this TPS report. \n\nNo! You want to masturbate? Only when all your chores are done, mister. ",
"Don't do your work at home, there are too many distractions. Take all your work and go to a library or coffee shop where you can sit and get it done.",
"Take a 30-minute walk/run first thing every morning. That will get your body to produce more dopamine receptors, and a lack of dopamine is thought to be the cause of ADHD.",
"I remember reading about extensions you can get for chrome which allow you to block sites for a set amount of time. Also their is a site where if you stop writing for a certain amount of time it starts deleting it.\n\nGoogling now.\n\n"
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"What are some simple tips to help prevent baldness I know badness is going to happen if it's going to happen. I also know there are a billion different treatments, like hair implants and Propecia, Rogain etc\n\nI just want to know, are there simple (probably natural) preventative measures that men can take as they approach the natural age for hair loss? Not cures just things we can do/avoid to increase our chances of retaining our hair?\n\n",
"What are some simple tips to help prevent baldness I know badness is going to happen if it's going to happen. I also know there are a billion different treatments, like hair implants and Propecia, Rogain etc\n\nI just want to know, are there simple (probably natural) preventative measures that men can take as they approach the natural age for hair loss? Not cures just things we can do/avoid to increase our chances of retaining our hair?\n\n",
"What are some simple tips to help prevent baldness I know badness is going to happen if it's going to happen. I also know there are a billion different treatments, like hair implants and Propecia, Rogain etc\n\nI just want to know, are there simple (probably natural) preventative measures that men can take as they approach the natural age for hair loss? Not cures just things we can do/avoid to increase our chances of retaining our hair?\n\n",
"What are some simple tips to help prevent baldness I know badness is going to happen if it's going to happen. I also know there are a billion different treatments, like hair implants and Propecia, Rogain etc\n\nI just want to know, are there simple (probably natural) preventative measures that men can take as they approach the natural age for hair loss? Not cures just things we can do/avoid to increase our chances of retaining our hair?\n\n",
"What are some simple tips to help prevent baldness I know badness is going to happen if it's going to happen. I also know there are a billion different treatments, like hair implants and Propecia, Rogain etc\n\nI just want to know, are there simple (probably natural) preventative measures that men can take as they approach the natural age for hair loss? Not cures just things we can do/avoid to increase our chances of retaining our hair?\n\n",
"What are some simple tips to help prevent baldness I know badness is going to happen if it's going to happen. I also know there are a billion different treatments, like hair implants and Propecia, Rogain etc\n\nI just want to know, are there simple (probably natural) preventative measures that men can take as they approach the natural age for hair loss? Not cures just things we can do/avoid to increase our chances of retaining our hair?\n\n",
"What are some simple tips to help prevent baldness I know badness is going to happen if it's going to happen. I also know there are a billion different treatments, like hair implants and Propecia, Rogain etc\n\nI just want to know, are there simple (probably natural) preventative measures that men can take as they approach the natural age for hair loss? Not cures just things we can do/avoid to increase our chances of retaining our hair?\n\n",
"What are some simple tips to help prevent baldness I know badness is going to happen if it's going to happen. I also know there are a billion different treatments, like hair implants and Propecia, Rogain etc\n\nI just want to know, are there simple (probably natural) preventative measures that men can take as they approach the natural age for hair loss? Not cures just things we can do/avoid to increase our chances of retaining our hair?\n\n",
"What are some simple tips to help prevent baldness I know badness is going to happen if it's going to happen. I also know there are a billion different treatments, like hair implants and Propecia, Rogain etc\n\nI just want to know, are there simple (probably natural) preventative measures that men can take as they approach the natural age for hair loss? Not cures just things we can do/avoid to increase our chances of retaining our hair?\n\n"
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"Having your testicles removed before puberty is about the only thing that works. Male pattern baldness is hormonal, and nothing works reliably to prevent it other than the two drugs, Propencia and Rogaine, that aren't very effective for many people.",
"> like hair implants \n\nThat's probably the only one. If I had a WORKING answer to your question, I would be a billionaire.",
"Well there's the Christopher Walken method: http://immortalhair.forumandco.com/t6898-how-christopher-walken-keeps-his-hair\n\nNot scientifically proven, but if it's good for CW it's good for you :)",
"No real way to prevent balding other than shaving it all off. Then you're already bald. Balding is now a thing of the past.",
"My barber informed me towel drying my hair is like 'Using sandpaper' on your head. Instead, blot or dab the towel on your hair rather than scrubbing the towel back and forth. ",
"I think you have to accept it will happen. Shampoos might make it look thicker, you can do a comb-over like Donald Trump, but you may as well just shave your head and not worry about it any more. It looks worse trying to cover it up.",
"Avoid wearing ball caps especially trucker style with that plastic/nylon weave. They tend to pull hair when putting on/removing. Granted the hair is usually already not being held onto your scalp very well that comes off. At least this way you are not contributing to it being pulled out.",
"> are there simple (probably natural) preventative measures that men can take as they approach the natural age for hair loss?\n\nNo.",
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"Hard-shelled tacos How can I eat a hard-shelled taco without it turning into taco shrapnel at the first bite?",
"Hard-shelled tacos How can I eat a hard-shelled taco without it turning into taco shrapnel at the first bite?",
"Hard-shelled tacos How can I eat a hard-shelled taco without it turning into taco shrapnel at the first bite?"
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"I use a napkin, piece of waxed paper, piece of foil, etc. as a holster for my taco. I expose a bite and then take it, then as I'm chewing I expose a little more and then gobble that up. The holster keeps things together as I methodically ingest the tacoey goodness.\n\nK.I.T.T. \\- Keep It Together Taco",
"I set it down with the flat part down. Then I wrap my left hand around one half of it.\n\nI eat it in 4 bites. I put rooster sauce on every bite before I bite it off.\n\nIf you don't squeeze it too hard and crumble the whole thing, you will be fine.",
"I eat from the top down. So first bite consists of mostly lettuce cheese and sauce. Second bite would be under the first bite so thats where the meat is. If youre feeling adventerous you can take two consecutive bites to get a little bit of everything. Either way, tacos rule."
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