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[ "What do you do with a sweater/jacket when it’s too hot and you don’t wanna carry it/have anywhere to put it? ", "What do you do with a sweater/jacket when it’s too hot and you don’t wanna carry it/have anywhere to put it? " ]	[ "Tie the sleeves around your neck or waist or toss it. Otherwise suck it up you brought, deal with it.", "Bind it around your hips with the sleeves.\n\nHang it from your backpack straps. (Only works If you have a backpack) assuming the backpack is full." ]	[ 8, 8 ]	safe
[ "My office has 10 PCs/laptops that are not used at night. What can I do with them to benefit? \n\nI have a company, my office workers use the PCs for 8h per day then go home. So for the remaining 16 hours the PCs & Laptops are just sat there not doing anything.\n\nHas anyone ever thought of a way to make use of their investment in office space or equipment as per the above?\n\nMaybe not farming e-coins because I'll have to learn how to do that (which is not a bad idea), but any other suggestions are welcome...", "My office has 10 PCs/laptops that are not used at night. What can I do with them to benefit? \n\nI have a company, my office workers use the PCs for 8h per day then go home. So for the remaining 16 hours the PCs & Laptops are just sat there not doing anything.\n\nHas anyone ever thought of a way to make use of their investment in office space or equipment as per the above?\n\nMaybe not farming e-coins because I'll have to learn how to do that (which is not a bad idea), but any other suggestions are welcome...", "My office has 10 PCs/laptops that are not used at night. What can I do with them to benefit? \n\nI have a company, my office workers use the PCs for 8h per day then go home. So for the remaining 16 hours the PCs & Laptops are just sat there not doing anything.\n\nHas anyone ever thought of a way to make use of their investment in office space or equipment as per the above?\n\nMaybe not farming e-coins because I'll have to learn how to do that (which is not a bad idea), but any other suggestions are welcome..." ]	[ "You can set machines to use their graphics cards to search for rare prime numbers. The prize money can be in the 10s-100s of thousands of dollars!", "You can outsource the hardware to process and compute for major university research. I forget the program name but you can google it. University research sometimes requires major computational power to complete their ends so someone worked out loaning out computational power as part of a processing network. It's a cool idea but outsourcing your PC has other security risks.\n\nWhatever you decide, keep cyber security in mind.", "Don't use them to mine Bitcoin! Mining Bitcoin is an intensive process that will destroy your office computers. You're better off turning them off at night.\n\nMost office PCs, especially laptops, already have heat issues. Usually they're a cheap Intel processor with an onboard GPU and as little RAM as they can run Windows with (for the current Windows 10 that would be 8 GB). They are built to minimum specs because they're used to run Microsoft Office, send emails, run proprietary programs, and browse the web.\n\nThey also don't have anywhere near the fan capacity or heat sink capacity to handle the heat generated by mining crypto. They will quickly overheat. Best case scenario is they shut down from the safety mechanisms kicking on as they heat up. Those mechanisms could fail, in which case it can destroy the computers entirely or even cause a structure fire if you have enough of them close together." ]	[ 6, 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to stay happy and inspired? Until I found out just how awful the world was, it seemed I had bottomless reserves of inner happiness. Now I only get inspiration in small injections from outside sources like music and anime. I don't want to call it escapism, more like clearing my head and reminding myself of what makes life worth living. I can't do my creative work lately without going to my \"happy place\" some way or another but it seems to be getting harder and harder the older I get. I tend to lose it easily. How do I stop the world from bringing me down?", "How to stay happy and inspired? Until I found out just how awful the world was, it seemed I had bottomless reserves of inner happiness. Now I only get inspiration in small injections from outside sources like music and anime. I don't want to call it escapism, more like clearing my head and reminding myself of what makes life worth living. I can't do my creative work lately without going to my \"happy place\" some way or another but it seems to be getting harder and harder the older I get. I tend to lose it easily. How do I stop the world from bringing me down?", "How to stay happy and inspired? Until I found out just how awful the world was, it seemed I had bottomless reserves of inner happiness. Now I only get inspiration in small injections from outside sources like music and anime. I don't want to call it escapism, more like clearing my head and reminding myself of what makes life worth living. I can't do my creative work lately without going to my \"happy place\" some way or another but it seems to be getting harder and harder the older I get. I tend to lose it easily. How do I stop the world from bringing me down?", "How to stay happy and inspired? Until I found out just how awful the world was, it seemed I had bottomless reserves of inner happiness. Now I only get inspiration in small injections from outside sources like music and anime. I don't want to call it escapism, more like clearing my head and reminding myself of what makes life worth living. I can't do my creative work lately without going to my \"happy place\" some way or another but it seems to be getting harder and harder the older I get. I tend to lose it easily. How do I stop the world from bringing me down?", "How to stay happy and inspired? Until I found out just how awful the world was, it seemed I had bottomless reserves of inner happiness. Now I only get inspiration in small injections from outside sources like music and anime. I don't want to call it escapism, more like clearing my head and reminding myself of what makes life worth living. I can't do my creative work lately without going to my \"happy place\" some way or another but it seems to be getting harder and harder the older I get. I tend to lose it easily. How do I stop the world from bringing me down?", "How to stay happy and inspired? Until I found out just how awful the world was, it seemed I had bottomless reserves of inner happiness. Now I only get inspiration in small injections from outside sources like music and anime. I don't want to call it escapism, more like clearing my head and reminding myself of what makes life worth living. I can't do my creative work lately without going to my \"happy place\" some way or another but it seems to be getting harder and harder the older I get. I tend to lose it easily. How do I stop the world from bringing me down?", "How to stay happy and inspired? Until I found out just how awful the world was, it seemed I had bottomless reserves of inner happiness. Now I only get inspiration in small injections from outside sources like music and anime. I don't want to call it escapism, more like clearing my head and reminding myself of what makes life worth living. I can't do my creative work lately without going to my \"happy place\" some way or another but it seems to be getting harder and harder the older I get. I tend to lose it easily. How do I stop the world from bringing me down?", "How to stay happy and inspired? Until I found out just how awful the world was, it seemed I had bottomless reserves of inner happiness. Now I only get inspiration in small injections from outside sources like music and anime. I don't want to call it escapism, more like clearing my head and reminding myself of what makes life worth living. I can't do my creative work lately without going to my \"happy place\" some way or another but it seems to be getting harder and harder the older I get. I tend to lose it easily. How do I stop the world from bringing me down?", "How to stay happy and inspired? Until I found out just how awful the world was, it seemed I had bottomless reserves of inner happiness. Now I only get inspiration in small injections from outside sources like music and anime. I don't want to call it escapism, more like clearing my head and reminding myself of what makes life worth living. I can't do my creative work lately without going to my \"happy place\" some way or another but it seems to be getting harder and harder the older I get. I tend to lose it easily. How do I stop the world from bringing me down?", "How to stay happy and inspired? Until I found out just how awful the world was, it seemed I had bottomless reserves of inner happiness. Now I only get inspiration in small injections from outside sources like music and anime. I don't want to call it escapism, more like clearing my head and reminding myself of what makes life worth living. I can't do my creative work lately without going to my \"happy place\" some way or another but it seems to be getting harder and harder the older I get. I tend to lose it easily. How do I stop the world from bringing me down?" ]	[ "Life is just about experiencing life. Do what you want. But the struggle is being financially sound. Find that balance and you're set. ", "I think something similar happened to me. You gotta have a no fucks given approach to life, not actually not caring, it's actually the opposite, care a lot about what you are doing, but approach it with a \"I'm going to own this shit\" mindset. Do it for everything and you'll start feeling happy again. This works because right now you don't value yourself, and approaching life with this attitude is empowering and makes you value yourself. ", "Health is the key. Diet, exercise, and the right amount of sleep.\n\nBuild good habits, it will be difficult at first but soon it will get easy.", "Exercise. That shit is like antidepressants but way more effective. Eating right isn't really that important, although it does help. For major depressives exercise is far more helpful. Keep it simple like a walk/run everyday. \n\nLearn to do basic m", "Be grateful and proud of your achievements. Set your goals high enough to need some effort on your part.", "Totally feel you...\n\nFirst, I'm sorry for your loss :/\n\nOkay, so the first thing you gotta do is realize that the world is the world and you are not. \nThen you've got to find a way to be content with what you have in your life at this very moment, understand that you're not going to have more or less at this very moment and you literally cannot do a thing to add or remove from THIS VERY MOMENT. Maybe by the time time you have processed this thought you will have added to or removed from your situation but as it was when you initially read it... well it was what it was. So learn to just be cool with \"the moment\".\n\nOnce you've got the whole \"content in the moment\" thing down, you can relax for a bit and remember what it was that so inspired you before; was it the newness of an idea, maybe the fact that everything was fresh, maybe you only had shallow thoughts back then and THOUGHT that you were being creative or inspired but in reality you had less knowledge and so it only appeared to be something great and now that you've lived a little and lost some innocence... maybe you're just realizing now that what you used to understand as great is actually something that you now consider mundane. \n\nCreativity and inspiration do come and go of their own accord, but sometimes you just need to be the first one to give a little in order to get a lot back. \nStart turning the gears with sore muscles... in short time you'll be warmed up and you'll have the gears spinning with enthusiasm. \n\nThat's what I do anyways... want to make music but don't know what to play or say, I just start banging away and singing random terribleness until I remember that I know the difference between good and bad and right now it's bad so I better make it better because good music is what I love making. Boom, inspired and motivated by my own lack. Now I'm back to doing what I love. \n-Sure, it's my own opinion of good music... but everyone can be convinced :)\n\nHope that helped!", "I have had this same exact thing recently. I used to be able to do constant uploads and speedpaints and lately its been getting to me- the other issues of the world. So many posts and complaints about what is wrong, covering up what is being done right. Im fully back at it again and Im gaining my creative momentum back. What worked for me isnt exactly conventional but fixed it completely... \n\nThe world has always been a terrible place, with torture since the medieval times and war since humanity existed, but now that the internet exists this is a new era of people being able to protest against things that are wrong and create revolutions that have been needed for a long time. Everything is improving at a faster pace than before in humanity and the people far up in the government can understand now what society wants. Everyone is going straight up against corruption, and undoubtedly, things are changing. Humanity is actually gripping onto the ethics and morality of things. There are people out there far higher up than everyone realizing the situation and now working for everyones best interests. Dont let the world weigh you down. Know that there are people out there that can change things with the snap of their fingers and are working to do just that. Channel your energy through the creative process. Never stop what you're doing. You do what you do, while other people involved with that stuff do what they do.", "Life has it's ups and downs, you can't stay in one play forever or too long, no matter how hard you try. \n\nExperience life, get some inspiration, detune yourself from where you want to be and focus on where you are, physically, mentally, spiritually, whatever ally you wanna go up. ", "Give back to others - be the good you want to see. Once you start to see that yielding results, you'll find it propels you forward into doing more, bigger and better because you want more results - plus, it can also spread a lot of good and do a lot for others so everyone wins. ", "Flow and being grateful are the secrets to happiness.\n\nhttps://www.ted.com/talks/david_steindl_rast_want_to_be_happy_be_grateful?language=en\n\nhttps://www.ted.com/talks/mihaly_csikszentmihalyi_on_flow?language=en" ]	[ 13, 9, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to approach a girl for the first time I've been seeing this girl around school for quite some time now, but I've never actually had the courage to go up and actually speak to her. Can someone give me some tips on how to go up and talk her?", "How to approach a girl for the first time I've been seeing this girl around school for quite some time now, but I've never actually had the courage to go up and actually speak to her. Can someone give me some tips on how to go up and talk her?", "How to approach a girl for the first time I've been seeing this girl around school for quite some time now, but I've never actually had the courage to go up and actually speak to her. Can someone give me some tips on how to go up and talk her?", "How to approach a girl for the first time I've been seeing this girl around school for quite some time now, but I've never actually had the courage to go up and actually speak to her. Can someone give me some tips on how to go up and talk her?", "How to approach a girl for the first time I've been seeing this girl around school for quite some time now, but I've never actually had the courage to go up and actually speak to her. Can someone give me some tips on how to go up and talk her?", "How to approach a girl for the first time I've been seeing this girl around school for quite some time now, but I've never actually had the courage to go up and actually speak to her. Can someone give me some tips on how to go up and talk her?", "How to approach a girl for the first time I've been seeing this girl around school for quite some time now, but I've never actually had the courage to go up and actually speak to her. Can someone give me some tips on how to go up and talk her?", "How to approach a girl for the first time I've been seeing this girl around school for quite some time now, but I've never actually had the courage to go up and actually speak to her. Can someone give me some tips on how to go up and talk her?" ]	[ "Talking to her is the easy part, but just talking to her is not why you don't have the courage to do it.\n\nGetting rejected is why - So let's solve that.\n\nFirst, you must know your enemy. Why do you like this girl, and not other girls. She is attractive to you right?\n\nSo lets reverse the roles, what would you do if an fat ugly girl with braces hit on you? You'd turn her down. But what if the girl you're talking about came up and asked you on a date? You'd be thrilled!\n\nIt's the same for her. If you're a guy she is attracted to, she'd be thrilled to talk to you. If not, she'd most likely, politely, reject you.\n\nGetting rejected is a good thing, don't feel bad, she's doing you a favor. It means you're not attractive to her. Just like the ugly girl wasn't attractive to you, so you said 'no thanks' - you can't force attraction on someone, it will never work that way.\n\nIt's important to make sure your intentions (ie. not just friends) are known early, you don't want to become her friend, you want to become her man. Be direct, give her the choice to reject or accept you. Otherwise she will just think you're being nice and want to be friends. You don't want this. You want to go on a date, or get rejected asap.\n\nAlso once a girl puts you in the 'non attractive' bucket, it's just not worth your time trying to change her mind. Plenty more fish in the sea.\n\nBut there is good news! First, you can improve your attractiveness in many areas, here are 2 of the easiest:\n\nFirst, Confidence! This is attractive and there is a simple secret to it...practice. The first time you do something you had no confidence. The 100th time it's a walk in the park. So don't hesitate, don't second guess, go, try, laugh if you fail, have a good time. This is attractive!\n\nGo one day and try getting rejected by 10 women in a place you will never see them again. Make it a game. I guarantee you at the end you will be enjoying yourself more than trying to get in their panties, and that is when they will be asking for you to get in their panties!\n\nThis is why people are more attractive when they drink. They give no shits - everything is a game.\n\nIf you really want this girl I suggest you practice first on other girls. Girls way below your league. Think of it like this, you will brighten their day, because they never get hit on, and will be thrilled, and you gain some much needed practice, because let's face it, if you had what it takes to ask this girl out, you wouldn't be asking reddit.\n\nSecond, Body! Work out, it's hard and takes discipline, but a nice and healthy body is always attractive.\n\nWork on yourself first, pretend you're the fat ugly girl that tried to hit on YOU, imagine she comes back after a year, with a hot body, no more acne or braces, and not stuttering when she asks you out - suddenly she's attractive to you.\n\nSo that is your goal, turn into that attractive version of you!\n\nAnyone can do it. It just takes work.", "Realistically, just take a deep breath and say fuck it, and go and introduce yourself (if you don't know her well that is, depends on your prior interactions). Think about it this way, if you don't do it, one day you might really regret not going up to her and saying hi ", "Smile and then explain that you have seen her around and want to introduce yourself. Be confident but do not ask on a date from the first interaction... She might be shy and give you a big NO. After you introduced yourself you can stop her and talk an other day...the idea is to take it step by step :) ", "Be confident. Just do it. Don't think of anything to say. Don't over think it at all. Women want to be talked to. If you are asking her out, be specific about when and where. \" Hi, girls name, I would like to take you to go see the new movie everyone is talking about. Friday night at 8:00.\" If she says no, do not sweat it, she isn't going to talk bad about you or anything like that. She will likely say , \" awe, that is so sweet, I've already got plans, then you can say \" alright then, anther time\" and walk away like a boss. She will watch you walk away and think about the whole interaction. Your confident stride and the nerve you displayed will leave her impressed. Maybe only to a small degree but she will remember you. It then gives you opportunity to try again. ", "Do you not know what to say or do you not know how to manifest the courage?\n\nThe former has already been answered by others! Just do it. Say 'hi'. If she wants to talk to you, she will. She's a human being like you or I. More so than us troglodytes, probably.\n\nManifesting the courage was always the part that was more difficult for me. This might or might not be helpful, but the first time I asked a girl out, I just kept going forward. I imagined a wall right behind me preventing me from retreating or running away without at least saying something.", "What usually works for me is, I wait until they walk past and say \"ooooh we. Look at those fries and all that shake! Let me holla atcha. HollaHollaHooollllllaa atcha!!!\"", "Really just don't over think it, what's the worst that can happen ? Even if the worst happens you will still be yourself, same body same everything ", "Girl here. Try to find something in common with her. Do you both like computers? Are you a part of the same fandom? Approach her about it and get a conversation going. But don't try to act like you're a fan of something that you're not- that won't go well." ]	[ 51, 15, 8, 4, 3, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "What can you do for an exam in the 24 hours beforehand (other than study)? I find that even tests/exams I'm completely ready for, I'll still make mistakes on things that I did know how to do.\nDoes anyone have any tips for how to prepare for an exam, from the night before to the morning of to 1 hour before to as you're walking in? Any proven routines?", "What can you do for an exam in the 24 hours beforehand (other than study)? I find that even tests/exams I'm completely ready for, I'll still make mistakes on things that I did know how to do.\nDoes anyone have any tips for how to prepare for an exam, from the night before to the morning of to 1 hour before to as you're walking in? Any proven routines?", "What can you do for an exam in the 24 hours beforehand (other than study)? I find that even tests/exams I'm completely ready for, I'll still make mistakes on things that I did know how to do.\nDoes anyone have any tips for how to prepare for an exam, from the night before to the morning of to 1 hour before to as you're walking in? Any proven routines?", "What can you do for an exam in the 24 hours beforehand (other than study)? I find that even tests/exams I'm completely ready for, I'll still make mistakes on things that I did know how to do.\nDoes anyone have any tips for how to prepare for an exam, from the night before to the morning of to 1 hour before to as you're walking in? Any proven routines?", "What can you do for an exam in the 24 hours beforehand (other than study)? I find that even tests/exams I'm completely ready for, I'll still make mistakes on things that I did know how to do.\nDoes anyone have any tips for how to prepare for an exam, from the night before to the morning of to 1 hour before to as you're walking in? Any proven routines?", "What can you do for an exam in the 24 hours beforehand (other than study)? I find that even tests/exams I'm completely ready for, I'll still make mistakes on things that I did know how to do.\nDoes anyone have any tips for how to prepare for an exam, from the night before to the morning of to 1 hour before to as you're walking in? Any proven routines?", "What can you do for an exam in the 24 hours beforehand (other than study)? I find that even tests/exams I'm completely ready for, I'll still make mistakes on things that I did know how to do.\nDoes anyone have any tips for how to prepare for an exam, from the night before to the morning of to 1 hour before to as you're walking in? Any proven routines?", "What can you do for an exam in the 24 hours beforehand (other than study)? I find that even tests/exams I'm completely ready for, I'll still make mistakes on things that I did know how to do.\nDoes anyone have any tips for how to prepare for an exam, from the night before to the morning of to 1 hour before to as you're walking in? Any proven routines?", "What can you do for an exam in the 24 hours beforehand (other than study)? I find that even tests/exams I'm completely ready for, I'll still make mistakes on things that I did know how to do.\nDoes anyone have any tips for how to prepare for an exam, from the night before to the morning of to 1 hour before to as you're walking in? Any proven routines?", "What can you do for an exam in the 24 hours beforehand (other than study)? I find that even tests/exams I'm completely ready for, I'll still make mistakes on things that I did know how to do.\nDoes anyone have any tips for how to prepare for an exam, from the night before to the morning of to 1 hour before to as you're walking in? Any proven routines?", "What can you do for an exam in the 24 hours beforehand (other than study)? I find that even tests/exams I'm completely ready for, I'll still make mistakes on things that I did know how to do.\nDoes anyone have any tips for how to prepare for an exam, from the night before to the morning of to 1 hour before to as you're walking in? Any proven routines?" ]	[ "Get some sleep, eat a full breakfast, wear comfortable clothes. You want to distractions due to tiredness, hunger, or comfort levels. You want nothing to interfere with your mind and the test.", "After a while, staying up late to cram gives you diminishing returns. I would gather up everything needed for test (pens, pencils, erasers, rulers, calculator, allowed cheatsheet, etc) and pack them in bookbag, to avoid last minute scrambles. Make sure you have the correct date/time/location of exam room. \n\nGet a good night sleep, aim to get to the test room slightly earlier. Good luck.\n\n", "Are you in college?\n\nHave a drink.\n\nThat's not a joke.\n\nIn college before an afternoon test I'd do a couple of shots to take the edge off. It would made the walk to class a little easier, and that in turn made settling into the test easier. By the time I was actually taking it, I was sober but calmer than before.\n\nNever affected my ability to recall info and made me much more relaxed when writing essays. ", "before you enter the exam room go to the bathroom, even if you dont feel like you have to go. Having to pee during an exam is distracting. Also blow your nose before entering, for the same reason. Get enough sleep. If you are really crunched for time, study strategically - pick the important, overarching things and study those the most as they are more likely to be on the test. While waiting to be let into the exam wear headphones to calm yourself with music and so that the \"omg I\"m so going to fail!!\" people dont bother you\n\nOnce you get the exam: Scan the entire thing. Try to guage how much time it will take you to comkplete the exam, vs how much time you have been given. If you think you have time, scan the entire exam more closly. If you dont nkow an answer, leave it blank and come back to it later - leave a mark with yoru pen by the question to identify unanswered questions so you dont forget them. Answer whatever question type you are better at, first (ie multiple choice, long answer etc). Dont worry if you cant remember things at first - as you write, you will remember more. ", "SLEEP, and wake up at least a few hours before the exam. So, if you wake up feeling really tired, you can go back to bed for a while.", "Personally I always dress well and make sure I take thorough shower. I treat test almost as I would an interview, the better I feel and dress, the more confident I feel, the more confident I feel about myself, the more confident I am with my choices and decisions on tests. ", "Honestly? In the 24 hours before, what nickcan said is important. But I like to game. What should I do then, since it does look completely counterproductive? \n\nWell, I go hunting for borderline serious games or some simulations. My top choices everytime are CIV (the latest the iteration, the better) and Victoria II, or anything with a pervasive tech tree. Why? You have probably noticed that the tech tree in Civ 5 for example comes loaded with information, not so different from little flash cards - and at times even containing more than you bargained for. Also, since the tech trees are big enough, there is at least ONE tech that relates to whatever it is that you're studying. It's a good way for me to relax, further consolidate some knowledge and completely make Germany my bitch. \n\nTL;DR: relaxation is key before a test, but that does not mean you should stop studying. Studying the usual archaic way is stressful - there's bound to be a game built on the principles of whatever you need.", "Do your cramming two days before the exam. Ex. The exam is Friday morning. Cram on Wednesday evening. Then the next day, the day before the exam, just do a quick review, maybe 20-30 minutes max. Make a cheat sheet, even if you're not allowed to take it into the exam. Then, 5-10 minutes before the exam, go over your cheat sheet really quick.\n\nObviously, the best preparation is to study well throughout the semester. But I've found that cramming just a day earlier and then doing quick reviews really helps me remember better.\n\nAs for other preparations, get lots of sleep, eat healthy food, etc. I've also found that it helps me to get a really good workout in the day before an exam. It helps me relax.", "Sleep. In the last 24 hours, you should just learn to relax. Just don't drink. Some of your best subject solidification will come from not thinking about the subject consciously.", "Make up pneumonic(sp?) to remember certain things. \n\nDraw pictures of your topics. \n\nRead, then verbally rephrase what you just read. \n\nWhen done, wind down with something that will take your mind off of it. The next morning review again. ", "If, for whatever reason you're not concentrated, taking some Dextro Energy or something else with dextrose can help. But if the dextrose is out of your bloodstream, you will feel even more tired than before. So if you have a long test and you haven't slept well for some reason, make sure you can eat those things also during the test. But this will only be a short-term solution, next time take some more sleep or make sure you're more concentrated and less nervous." ]	[ 8, 6, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "What resources are available to help get victims out of an abusive relationship when the victim is financially reliant on their abuser? ", "What resources are available to help get victims out of an abusive relationship when the victim is financially reliant on their abuser? " ]	[ "Anyone living in Australia should know about askizzy.org.au - an amazing resource. \n\nIn NSW Australia, Victims Services offer immediate financial aid for people leaving family violence situations. \nThere are several classes of payments to apply for including immediate needs support package (up to $5,000), financial loss package and recognition of crime payment. I’m sure it’s similar in other states, and there are also various NGOs that provide practical support.\n\nAll victims of crime in Australia are also eligible to receive 22hours free counselling.", "There's typically just domestic violence shelters and the staff there would be good about linking with any possible county benefits available, as well as legal options. You should be able to access them through your local help line." ]	[ 4, 1 ]	safe
[ "dealing with blisters on my fingers from playing bass to much? I recently just picked up a bass, and I spent an hour+ playing bass last night (I love it!) and now the ends of my middle and index fingers on both hands are sore and two have blisters on them. any advice on how to cope with them?", "dealing with blisters on my fingers from playing bass to much? I recently just picked up a bass, and I spent an hour+ playing bass last night (I love it!) and now the ends of my middle and index fingers on both hands are sore and two have blisters on them. any advice on how to cope with them?", "dealing with blisters on my fingers from playing bass to much? I recently just picked up a bass, and I spent an hour+ playing bass last night (I love it!) and now the ends of my middle and index fingers on both hands are sore and two have blisters on them. any advice on how to cope with them?", "dealing with blisters on my fingers from playing bass to much? I recently just picked up a bass, and I spent an hour+ playing bass last night (I love it!) and now the ends of my middle and index fingers on both hands are sore and two have blisters on them. any advice on how to cope with them?", "dealing with blisters on my fingers from playing bass to much? I recently just picked up a bass, and I spent an hour+ playing bass last night (I love it!) and now the ends of my middle and index fingers on both hands are sore and two have blisters on them. any advice on how to cope with them?", "dealing with blisters on my fingers from playing bass to much? I recently just picked up a bass, and I spent an hour+ playing bass last night (I love it!) and now the ends of my middle and index fingers on both hands are sore and two have blisters on them. any advice on how to cope with them?" ]	[ "Personally, i let them develop into calluses (I'm a drummer so i got them in different spots, same idea though) so that instead of having to wear gloves (i find them restrictive), they just go hard and you dont need to worry about any pain on the tips of your fingers ever again!", "Let your fingers sit in a bowl of warm salt water for 5-10 mins after playing. My guitar teacher taught me that when I started learning acoustic (bassist first, though). I also would suggest getting some picks to mess around with, so you can play even if your fingers hurt. I've had bad luck with plastic picks, so I picked up a pack of brass and stainless picks from musiciansfriend.com (the brand is Ice Pix, they should be 3 for ~$5). If you are or know any woodworkers, wooden ones sound really nice. I made a couple from Purpleheart and Walnut, they're definitely worth the effort. If you need some motivation, listen to some SMV (I suggest Thunder)", "As a guitar player, I got blisters when I first started. I popped them, then put Superglue on them, and also on the pads of my other fingertips. Instant callous. After a day or two, my fingers had callouses from the glue, and I was set. Should apply to bass playing as well.", "After you play, put some rubbing alcohol on your fingertips. Apparently it helps to reduce the amount of fluid that would collect around the blister site. Good luck my friend, you'll develop some nasty blisters on your index finger in different places than what you'd get with guitar.\n\nfor more motivation to continue: [one of my favourite bassists](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRTSrz_9MLM)", "deal with the blisters the same way you always would, ask your doctor for actual real advice. let the calluses build up slowly and dont pick at them. they are your finger armor. using moisturizer wont make them disappear, only ripping them off or using a pumice stone will. moisturizer keeps them from cracking too much if your hands get dry", "Soak your fingertips in water with ice cubes in for a few minutes to promote the development of calluses. I did this when I was starting out on the guitar and it helped." ]	[ 7, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to Break Up with a Toxic Friend My best friend of 12 years has been taking advantage of me and just overall treating me terribly for the majority of our friendship, but I've been forgiving her because she's really my only friend and because we've been friends for so long. I'm an adult now though and I really don't care if I have friends or not. I want to cut this toxic friend out of my life. How do I go about it?", "How to Break Up with a Toxic Friend My best friend of 12 years has been taking advantage of me and just overall treating me terribly for the majority of our friendship, but I've been forgiving her because she's really my only friend and because we've been friends for so long. I'm an adult now though and I really don't care if I have friends or not. I want to cut this toxic friend out of my life. How do I go about it?", "How to Break Up with a Toxic Friend My best friend of 12 years has been taking advantage of me and just overall treating me terribly for the majority of our friendship, but I've been forgiving her because she's really my only friend and because we've been friends for so long. I'm an adult now though and I really don't care if I have friends or not. I want to cut this toxic friend out of my life. How do I go about it?", "How to Break Up with a Toxic Friend My best friend of 12 years has been taking advantage of me and just overall treating me terribly for the majority of our friendship, but I've been forgiving her because she's really my only friend and because we've been friends for so long. I'm an adult now though and I really don't care if I have friends or not. I want to cut this toxic friend out of my life. How do I go about it?" ]	[ "Hang out with other people from wherever. It's easier to give up shit friends when you have true ones to fall back on. ", "Stop answering calls, text, block on everything, plastic surgery to alter your appearance, witness protection program, fake death", "What I found to be useful is to write down clearly bad things they did to you, and imagine what you would tell him/her if a friend told you about these things. Helps alleviate the guilt/realize this is not your fault. ", "Be upfront about why you dont want to be friends anymore. You are building yourself up and hopefully the friend will use it as an intervention and get better. Either way you wont have that shit friend anymore" ]	[ 12, 6, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Moving out at 25 (M). Tips / Red Flags for apartment, room mates, being new in town without knowing anyone Hi,\n\nAs the title says, I am finally moving out of my parents house at 25 (I know it's a bit late) and I am looking for every tip you can give.", "Moving out at 25 (M). Tips / Red Flags for apartment, room mates, being new in town without knowing anyone Hi,\n\nAs the title says, I am finally moving out of my parents house at 25 (I know it's a bit late) and I am looking for every tip you can give.", "Moving out at 25 (M). Tips / Red Flags for apartment, room mates, being new in town without knowing anyone Hi,\n\nAs the title says, I am finally moving out of my parents house at 25 (I know it's a bit late) and I am looking for every tip you can give.", "Moving out at 25 (M). Tips / Red Flags for apartment, room mates, being new in town without knowing anyone Hi,\n\nAs the title says, I am finally moving out of my parents house at 25 (I know it's a bit late) and I am looking for every tip you can give.", "Moving out at 25 (M). Tips / Red Flags for apartment, room mates, being new in town without knowing anyone Hi,\n\nAs the title says, I am finally moving out of my parents house at 25 (I know it's a bit late) and I am looking for every tip you can give.", "Moving out at 25 (M). Tips / Red Flags for apartment, room mates, being new in town without knowing anyone Hi,\n\nAs the title says, I am finally moving out of my parents house at 25 (I know it's a bit late) and I am looking for every tip you can give.", "Moving out at 25 (M). Tips / Red Flags for apartment, room mates, being new in town without knowing anyone Hi,\n\nAs the title says, I am finally moving out of my parents house at 25 (I know it's a bit late) and I am looking for every tip you can give.", "Moving out at 25 (M). Tips / Red Flags for apartment, room mates, being new in town without knowing anyone Hi,\n\nAs the title says, I am finally moving out of my parents house at 25 (I know it's a bit late) and I am looking for every tip you can give.", "Moving out at 25 (M). Tips / Red Flags for apartment, room mates, being new in town without knowing anyone Hi,\n\nAs the title says, I am finally moving out of my parents house at 25 (I know it's a bit late) and I am looking for every tip you can give.", "Moving out at 25 (M). Tips / Red Flags for apartment, room mates, being new in town without knowing anyone Hi,\n\nAs the title says, I am finally moving out of my parents house at 25 (I know it's a bit late) and I am looking for every tip you can give." ]	[ "Take pictures of anything and everything in the apartment before you move in. And when you leave request a list of everything they are fixing with the deposit. Dont let them use your money to fix problems they already had.", "Narrow your search to places that are as close to your work as you can possibly find. Yes you can save money by moving farther out but if you monetize the time lost in long commutes you're always better off being closer.", "A thorough rental agreement May seem limiting, but it saves both parties from a lot of grief. \n\nIndependence means personal responsibility - expect it from everyone you live with, specially yourself. This includes but is not limited to, steady work to pay rent, communicates consistently, cleans after themselves.\n\n1st three months are cool, 2nd 3 months are annoying, afterwards you start to iron out your issues and find balance. \n\n\nCannot emphasize enough what another commenter said - BUDGET! You won’t really feel stressed about money of you have a plan of where it goes. Add your monthly necessities (rent, utilities, insurance, car, savings, etc…) subtract from your monthly income and do not go over that amount. If you want to buy something big or plan on an event, track it as an expense so when it comes, you were prepared. \n\nThrift or free online furniture will save tons of money and help make your place feel like your own. \n\nIf you want a good idea of the community, wander around a local grocery store. Most people go to grocery stores and aren’t there to be flashy. It’s a decent indicator of the locals. \n\nHopefully these help, just a few things off the top of my head. Cheers, friend, and congrats!", "1 - when searching for a place check your phone signal there. Nothing worse than moving and in you can't use your phone.\n\n2 - check out trip adviser for the area you're moving to.\n\n3 - when you do find a place, learn where to turn off the power, water and gas as soon as you move in.", "Make sure your apartment complex has ample parking + guest parking. \n\nAlso check out their mail and package room, and don’t forget about washers and dryers. Are they included? Will you need to buy your own?\n\nPro tip for renting: never go with the school cycle, IE signing a rental agreement in Summer or Fall. You’ll get the cheapest rates December-February.\n\nFor roommates: if you smoke and they don’t (or vice versa) just DON’T sign together. You’ll hate eachother by the end even if you say it’s okay and you accept it. Passive aggressive shared-living-space behavior can be cut with a knife, and it sucks to know the person you live with is constantly hating on your lifestyle.\n\nFastest way to make friends? Coworkers unless you’re WFH, then it’s to pick up a group hobby. Skating, ultimate frisbee, photography meetups, whatever. Join the FB groups for your hobby in your area, OR try MeetUp.", "With roommates:\n1. Have one person buy each piece of furniture outright. If you split the cost of a couch 50/50 then who gets it when the lease ends and how do you account for depreciation?\n2. Take photos of all your own items kept in common areas as you buy them. A year or two later it’s easy to forget whose lamp or measuring cup it is. You wouldn’t believe the arguments I’ve seen over the rightful owner of a muffin tin.", "Check water pressure—flush toilet, run sink, run shower. \n\nIf moving in w a roommate, open fridge. A person will likely clean up ahead of your visit to appear clean, but they likely won’t clean the fridge. If the apt is clean but fridge isn’t—they might be a messy roommate.", "Tips for looking at apartments: pay attention to the number of outlets, the size of the stove/oven, the height of the shower. Look for a lot of storage space unless you really don't need it. If you're looking at a place where there's an empty spot waiting to be rented pay attention to the space left in the fridge, kitchen cupboards, bathroom. Sometimes other tenants will takeover extra space while it's empty and then feel entitled to it after a new tenant has moved in, that's not a situation you want. If you can go another time to the rental without the seller and ask other tenants how maintenance is handled, how quickly, if things are actually fixed, if the landlord is quick to respond to an emergency like flooding. Ask if the landlord ever comes by unannounced or with short notice. Ask how much the rent has increased by year to year if you're looking for longer term options. Know what the deposit is and what amount, if any, is refundable at the end of the contract. Make sure you know what is due right away usually a deposit and first and/or last month's rent.", "Make sure your furniture fits through the door and into the unit - something you don’t think about until you can’t get your bed in", "Ask other tenants if they like the building and manager. Don't live above the entrance (noise,drafts). If a sublet by owner, ask to see strata minutes (not critical). Ground floors can be a security issue but more convenient. Just a few thoughts" ]	[ 11, 9, 8, 8, 6, 5, 5, 3, 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to remove the smell from a baseball cap I find all kinds of different things on the internet that I have no faith in. Does anyone have a method that has actually worked for them?", "How to remove the smell from a baseball cap I find all kinds of different things on the internet that I have no faith in. Does anyone have a method that has actually worked for them?", "How to remove the smell from a baseball cap I find all kinds of different things on the internet that I have no faith in. Does anyone have a method that has actually worked for them?", "How to remove the smell from a baseball cap I find all kinds of different things on the internet that I have no faith in. Does anyone have a method that has actually worked for them?" ]	[ "What type of smell? I use dryer sheets in my sweaty lacrosse gloves and it sucks the smell right out.", "Slather that bitch in some baking soda and water and a tiny drip of dish soap, spray it with clean water and let dry, then toss it in the dryer for 3-5 minutes. Brand new hat friend.", "If its a real wool cap, wash it in the sink with some cold water and Woolite. Be careful though, it will shrink so either dry it on your head or use a hat dryer. ", "I would hopefully try and use water+windex. Or put it in the washer and dryer, but not the dishwasher." ]	[ 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to counteract spice level in overly spicy Thai food? What are some effective ways to reduce the spice in a dish that has come in too spicy?\n\nDoes not have to be specifically for Thai food. Any food works.", "How to counteract spice level in overly spicy Thai food? What are some effective ways to reduce the spice in a dish that has come in too spicy?\n\nDoes not have to be specifically for Thai food. Any food works.", "How to counteract spice level in overly spicy Thai food? What are some effective ways to reduce the spice in a dish that has come in too spicy?\n\nDoes not have to be specifically for Thai food. Any food works.", "How to counteract spice level in overly spicy Thai food? What are some effective ways to reduce the spice in a dish that has come in too spicy?\n\nDoes not have to be specifically for Thai food. Any food works.", "How to counteract spice level in overly spicy Thai food? What are some effective ways to reduce the spice in a dish that has come in too spicy?\n\nDoes not have to be specifically for Thai food. Any food works." ]	[ "cucumber and or radish. At good thai places a little goes into the fish sauce dressing, Vietnamese places its part of the dressings, the Pho and Bun, so it would not be to unusal to ask for a small dish on the side. Some Mexican and Latin places provide them on the side. Of course you might be able to ask for cucumber anyware they server salads.\n", "Lime juice and raw onions neutralize spices to an extent. When it comes to Thai food, avoid red pepper based gravy curry and stick to coconut milk based gravy curry. ", "I was in Thailand last winter. Every table (restaurant, street food stand, kitchen) had thai chili flakes, birds eye chili soaked in fish sauce, and sugar. The sugar will counteract the heat. I had some Tom Kha at a food stand and I was sweating bullets because it was so spicy. The girl I was with added some sugar and it was so much better.", "Drink thai iced tea (it has sweetened condensed milk in it, and it contains casein which binds with the capsaicin in spicy foods and washes it away). Alternatively, try lassi at an Indian place, or horchata at a mexican place. If you're at home and are just eating something too spicy, drink milk. If you don't have milk, try ice cream. If you have neither (and are eating takeout because you don't want to grocery shop), the sweetened condensed milk, classic condensed milk, sour cream or yogurt in your fridge will also cool your face off.", "Ask what spices were used that may contain heat, if it was cayenne then ask for jalapeños. If it was jalapeños ask for cayenne. Peppers have a variety of flavors but can arguably be categorized between smokey and fruity. The way to effectively reduce the hest in a smoky pepper is to add a fruity pepper. So if someone serves you a ghost pepper (smoky) then ask for a carolina reaper (subtle fruity) and eat them both at the same time. You'll be the new hero in every restaurant. If all else fails ask for cinnamon water. That always works. " ]	[ 3, 3, 3, 3, 3 ]	safe
[ "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be. I have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. What do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nThere is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\nI really didn't think this post would get any traction. First time on the front page actually. I didn't think I would have to use a throwaway account. So, hopefully the girl doesn't find out.", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be. I have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. What do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nThere is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\nI really didn't think this post would get any traction. First time on the front page actually. I didn't think I would have to use a throwaway account. So, hopefully the girl doesn't find out.", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be. I have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. What do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nThere is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\nI really didn't think this post would get any traction. First time on the front page actually. I didn't think I would have to use a throwaway account. So, hopefully the girl doesn't find out.", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be. I have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. What do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nThere is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\nI really didn't think this post would get any traction. First time on the front page actually. I didn't think I would have to use a throwaway account. So, hopefully the girl doesn't find out." ]	[ "Prepare for conversations with her by coming up with questions and conversation starters on topics you know she likes.\n\nMakes it easier to both start and continue conversations.\n\nBut make sure you’re actually contributing on the conversation as well and not only asking questions! This isn’t an interrogation. Conversation requires you to share thoughts/stories in similar amounts.\n\nDon’t steamroll and don’t interrogate. You’ll find the balance through practice eventually. You can practice initiating/participating more in conversations with your extrovert friends and take that experience to boost your confidence talking to the girl.\n\nAlso helpful is paying attention to facial/body cues if she looks uncomfortable with a topic or like she wants to leave, be gracious and change the topic or offer her an out by saying “It’s been great talking to you. I’ve gotta go do x right now, but would you want to talk more another time?”", "Start texting. Once you figure your favourite topics in this low pace distant way, you can talk face to face about specific things.", "I'd ask her for her phone number. Texting can give you time to think about what you'd like to say. Also, lets her know you have some interest in her at the same time.", "Haven’t had coffee yet. Front page… hmm. Wut?\n\nTo answer your question, you talk to her about being shy. About being an introvert. Ask her to lunch, dinner, or for coffee. \n\nBe happy and shy together." ]	[ 3, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to interview a loved one going through early stages of Alzheimers without it sounding morbid/akward? Hey everyone. \n\nSo this holiday season might be the last I spend with my father in a pretty good shape. He's had the disease for around 2 years (diagnosed 14 months ago) and I got the idea of interviewing him about his life, favourite memories and music. However, he's a very private person and I know he won't like being filmed. He still remembers most from years ago but his short term capabilities are getting worse. \n\nAnother reason for doing it is I want to be able to show my grandchildren how awesome he was, I never met his parents and often wonder how they looked like and sounded. \n\nSo how do I do this without it being so obvious or frankly a bit morbid? He'll most probably refuse if I just ask. I've already hinted at something and he didn't sound positive. I thought about setting up some type of game with my mother where I ask both of them questions so I don't put him on the spot as much. Maybe someone here has already done this and can help!\n\nPs. I searched for this topic in the subreddit and found some threads on filming your loved one but noone really talked about how to do it. And yeah, f* Alzheimers.", "How to interview a loved one going through early stages of Alzheimers without it sounding morbid/akward? Hey everyone. \n\nSo this holiday season might be the last I spend with my father in a pretty good shape. He's had the disease for around 2 years (diagnosed 14 months ago) and I got the idea of interviewing him about his life, favourite memories and music. However, he's a very private person and I know he won't like being filmed. He still remembers most from years ago but his short term capabilities are getting worse. \n\nAnother reason for doing it is I want to be able to show my grandchildren how awesome he was, I never met his parents and often wonder how they looked like and sounded. \n\nSo how do I do this without it being so obvious or frankly a bit morbid? He'll most probably refuse if I just ask. I've already hinted at something and he didn't sound positive. I thought about setting up some type of game with my mother where I ask both of them questions so I don't put him on the spot as much. Maybe someone here has already done this and can help!\n\nPs. I searched for this topic in the subreddit and found some threads on filming your loved one but noone really talked about how to do it. And yeah, f* Alzheimers.", "How to interview a loved one going through early stages of Alzheimers without it sounding morbid/akward? Hey everyone. \n\nSo this holiday season might be the last I spend with my father in a pretty good shape. He's had the disease for around 2 years (diagnosed 14 months ago) and I got the idea of interviewing him about his life, favourite memories and music. However, he's a very private person and I know he won't like being filmed. He still remembers most from years ago but his short term capabilities are getting worse. \n\nAnother reason for doing it is I want to be able to show my grandchildren how awesome he was, I never met his parents and often wonder how they looked like and sounded. \n\nSo how do I do this without it being so obvious or frankly a bit morbid? He'll most probably refuse if I just ask. I've already hinted at something and he didn't sound positive. I thought about setting up some type of game with my mother where I ask both of them questions so I don't put him on the spot as much. Maybe someone here has already done this and can help!\n\nPs. I searched for this topic in the subreddit and found some threads on filming your loved one but noone really talked about how to do it. And yeah, f*** Alzheimers." ]	[ "What about setting up the device beforehand and not mentioning that you are recording? You could write it down and explain it is for the grandchildren so that they can get a chance to know him. Also, with my mom, I've found earlier in the day is better overall for everything! Good luck!!", "It's not entirely ethical, but I would recommend just talking with them and recording it without their knowledge.", "I'm sorry, but in order to fight spam, we require submitters to have more karma. Consider participating in the comment sections of our subreddit to build up the karma you need to post here. Thanks for understanding! <3\n\n\nI am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/LifeProTips) if you have any questions or concerns." ]	[ 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I respond when large dogs start running towards me? For reference I am 5'8\" and I weigh about 175 pounds.\n\nToday I was doing my regular evening jog and about quarter a mile to my apartment building a large dog sees me jogging, crouches, and starts running towards me. At that moment I was super terrified and a bit in denial, since I like dogs, so my fight or flight system takes over and I fly, or sprint, more accurately, as fast as I can, I can hear the dog fully chasing me and barking at me, and I run faster than I ever have before and book it to my apartment building entrance. I never turn back and rush into my apartment building in under a minute.\n\nI am wondering if I responded correctly because a friend suggested that I should have instead yelled loudly at the dog instead of running away silently. But I was just in panic mode.", "How do I respond when large dogs start running towards me? For reference I am 5'8\" and I weigh about 175 pounds.\n\nToday I was doing my regular evening jog and about quarter a mile to my apartment building a large dog sees me jogging, crouches, and starts running towards me. At that moment I was super terrified and a bit in denial, since I like dogs, so my fight or flight system takes over and I fly, or sprint, more accurately, as fast as I can, I can hear the dog fully chasing me and barking at me, and I run faster than I ever have before and book it to my apartment building entrance. I never turn back and rush into my apartment building in under a minute.\n\nI am wondering if I responded correctly because a friend suggested that I should have instead yelled loudly at the dog instead of running away silently. But I was just in panic mode.", "How do I respond when large dogs start running towards me? For reference I am 5'8\" and I weigh about 175 pounds.\n\nToday I was doing my regular evening jog and about quarter a mile to my apartment building a large dog sees me jogging, crouches, and starts running towards me. At that moment I was super terrified and a bit in denial, since I like dogs, so my fight or flight system takes over and I fly, or sprint, more accurately, as fast as I can, I can hear the dog fully chasing me and barking at me, and I run faster than I ever have before and book it to my apartment building entrance. I never turn back and rush into my apartment building in under a minute.\n\nI am wondering if I responded correctly because a friend suggested that I should have instead yelled loudly at the dog instead of running away silently. But I was just in panic mode.", "How do I respond when large dogs start running towards me? For reference I am 5'8\" and I weigh about 175 pounds.\n\nToday I was doing my regular evening jog and about quarter a mile to my apartment building a large dog sees me jogging, crouches, and starts running towards me. At that moment I was super terrified and a bit in denial, since I like dogs, so my fight or flight system takes over and I fly, or sprint, more accurately, as fast as I can, I can hear the dog fully chasing me and barking at me, and I run faster than I ever have before and book it to my apartment building entrance. I never turn back and rush into my apartment building in under a minute.\n\nI am wondering if I responded correctly because a friend suggested that I should have instead yelled loudly at the dog instead of running away silently. But I was just in panic mode.", "How do I respond when large dogs start running towards me? For reference I am 5'8\" and I weigh about 175 pounds.\n\nToday I was doing my regular evening jog and about quarter a mile to my apartment building a large dog sees me jogging, crouches, and starts running towards me. At that moment I was super terrified and a bit in denial, since I like dogs, so my fight or flight system takes over and I fly, or sprint, more accurately, as fast as I can, I can hear the dog fully chasing me and barking at me, and I run faster than I ever have before and book it to my apartment building entrance. I never turn back and rush into my apartment building in under a minute.\n\nI am wondering if I responded correctly because a friend suggested that I should have instead yelled loudly at the dog instead of running away silently. But I was just in panic mode.", "How do I respond when large dogs start running towards me? For reference I am 5'8\" and I weigh about 175 pounds.\n\nToday I was doing my regular evening jog and about quarter a mile to my apartment building a large dog sees me jogging, crouches, and starts running towards me. At that moment I was super terrified and a bit in denial, since I like dogs, so my fight or flight system takes over and I fly, or sprint, more accurately, as fast as I can, I can hear the dog fully chasing me and barking at me, and I run faster than I ever have before and book it to my apartment building entrance. I never turn back and rush into my apartment building in under a minute.\n\nI am wondering if I responded correctly because a friend suggested that I should have instead yelled loudly at the dog instead of running away silently. But I was just in panic mode.", "How do I respond when large dogs start running towards me? For reference I am 5'8\" and I weigh about 175 pounds.\n\nToday I was doing my regular evening jog and about quarter a mile to my apartment building a large dog sees me jogging, crouches, and starts running towards me. At that moment I was super terrified and a bit in denial, since I like dogs, so my fight or flight system takes over and I fly, or sprint, more accurately, as fast as I can, I can hear the dog fully chasing me and barking at me, and I run faster than I ever have before and book it to my apartment building entrance. I never turn back and rush into my apartment building in under a minute.\n\nI am wondering if I responded correctly because a friend suggested that I should have instead yelled loudly at the dog instead of running away silently. But I was just in panic mode.", "How do I respond when large dogs start running towards me? For reference I am 5'8\" and I weigh about 175 pounds.\n\nToday I was doing my regular evening jog and about quarter a mile to my apartment building a large dog sees me jogging, crouches, and starts running towards me. At that moment I was super terrified and a bit in denial, since I like dogs, so my fight or flight system takes over and I fly, or sprint, more accurately, as fast as I can, I can hear the dog fully chasing me and barking at me, and I run faster than I ever have before and book it to my apartment building entrance. I never turn back and rush into my apartment building in under a minute.\n\nI am wondering if I responded correctly because a friend suggested that I should have instead yelled loudly at the dog instead of running away silently. But I was just in panic mode.", "How do I respond when large dogs start running towards me? For reference I am 5'8\" and I weigh about 175 pounds.\n\nToday I was doing my regular evening jog and about quarter a mile to my apartment building a large dog sees me jogging, crouches, and starts running towards me. At that moment I was super terrified and a bit in denial, since I like dogs, so my fight or flight system takes over and I fly, or sprint, more accurately, as fast as I can, I can hear the dog fully chasing me and barking at me, and I run faster than I ever have before and book it to my apartment building entrance. I never turn back and rush into my apartment building in under a minute.\n\nI am wondering if I responded correctly because a friend suggested that I should have instead yelled loudly at the dog instead of running away silently. But I was just in panic mode.", "How do I respond when large dogs start running towards me? For reference I am 5'8\" and I weigh about 175 pounds.\n\nToday I was doing my regular evening jog and about quarter a mile to my apartment building a large dog sees me jogging, crouches, and starts running towards me. At that moment I was super terrified and a bit in denial, since I like dogs, so my fight or flight system takes over and I fly, or sprint, more accurately, as fast as I can, I can hear the dog fully chasing me and barking at me, and I run faster than I ever have before and book it to my apartment building entrance. I never turn back and rush into my apartment building in under a minute.\n\nI am wondering if I responded correctly because a friend suggested that I should have instead yelled loudly at the dog instead of running away silently. But I was just in panic mode.", "How do I respond when large dogs start running towards me? For reference I am 5'8\" and I weigh about 175 pounds.\n\nToday I was doing my regular evening jog and about quarter a mile to my apartment building a large dog sees me jogging, crouches, and starts running towards me. At that moment I was super terrified and a bit in denial, since I like dogs, so my fight or flight system takes over and I fly, or sprint, more accurately, as fast as I can, I can hear the dog fully chasing me and barking at me, and I run faster than I ever have before and book it to my apartment building entrance. I never turn back and rush into my apartment building in under a minute.\n\nI am wondering if I responded correctly because a friend suggested that I should have instead yelled loudly at the dog instead of running away silently. But I was just in panic mode.", "How do I respond when large dogs start running towards me? For reference I am 5'8\" and I weigh about 175 pounds.\n\nToday I was doing my regular evening jog and about quarter a mile to my apartment building a large dog sees me jogging, crouches, and starts running towards me. At that moment I was super terrified and a bit in denial, since I like dogs, so my fight or flight system takes over and I fly, or sprint, more accurately, as fast as I can, I can hear the dog fully chasing me and barking at me, and I run faster than I ever have before and book it to my apartment building entrance. I never turn back and rush into my apartment building in under a minute.\n\nI am wondering if I responded correctly because a friend suggested that I should have instead yelled loudly at the dog instead of running away silently. But I was just in panic mode.", "How do I respond when large dogs start running towards me? For reference I am 5'8\" and I weigh about 175 pounds.\n\nToday I was doing my regular evening jog and about quarter a mile to my apartment building a large dog sees me jogging, crouches, and starts running towards me. At that moment I was super terrified and a bit in denial, since I like dogs, so my fight or flight system takes over and I fly, or sprint, more accurately, as fast as I can, I can hear the dog fully chasing me and barking at me, and I run faster than I ever have before and book it to my apartment building entrance. I never turn back and rush into my apartment building in under a minute.\n\nI am wondering if I responded correctly because a friend suggested that I should have instead yelled loudly at the dog instead of running away silently. But I was just in panic mode.", "How do I respond when large dogs start running towards me? For reference I am 5'8\" and I weigh about 175 pounds.\n\nToday I was doing my regular evening jog and about quarter a mile to my apartment building a large dog sees me jogging, crouches, and starts running towards me. At that moment I was super terrified and a bit in denial, since I like dogs, so my fight or flight system takes over and I fly, or sprint, more accurately, as fast as I can, I can hear the dog fully chasing me and barking at me, and I run faster than I ever have before and book it to my apartment building entrance. I never turn back and rush into my apartment building in under a minute.\n\nI am wondering if I responded correctly because a friend suggested that I should have instead yelled loudly at the dog instead of running away silently. But I was just in panic mode." ]	[ "Dogs instinctively chase. I'm surprised you out ran it, it was probably just running with you after it caught up. \nIf it intended you harm flight would be the wrong response.", "I'm 6' 250lbs or so. I am able to intimidate a big dog. Keep this in mind.\n\nIf I'm on the dogs own land, I back away and leave. No eye contact. Dog will not be likely to follow. I'm the one in the wrong. They know their own property line.\n\nIf the dog is on my land, I'm aggressive and move slightly towards it making eye contact. They hate that. They run. My land, not theirs. I clap my hands, lower my voice into a warning bark, and yell \"Go Home!\" You could yell \"Strawberries\" for all the dog cares. It's the deep tone. You don't want to chase the dog, just speak to it sharply.\n\nOn neutral ground, ex. park, etc., being dismissive works pretty well. A sharp \"Go on dog!\" and a hand clap and they're usually fine. In this case, no eye contact. They'll go back to their business.\n\nHaven't been bitten yet. I've had Rottweilers, Pits, Dobies, all kinds of dogs take a dislike to me but they've never tried to bite me. The exception is Chihuahuas. Fortunately, they can't open their mouths big enough to get a grip on you so they're no worry. \n\nTo people that have aggressive dogs, leash your damn dog.", "Really hard to answer specifically how to get a random dog to stop with just a text description tbh.\n\nRunning is basically the worst response though, as the dog CAN outrun you. If it meant legit harm, you would be toast, and when tackled more likely to be seriously hurt by the fall.\n\n\nIf the dog is trained, shouting a command can work. If the dog is actually attention starved, dropping down to its level can work. If the dog feels territorial, backing up a few steps can work. If the dog is actually attacking, leg block can work, or shoving your off-hand down its throat.", "Yell, then mace the bastard. \n\"Foam mace\" blows around less in the wind, less likely to mace yourself accidentally. (Blow back from wind)", "Turn and face. \n\nStick your knee up and out in front of you, with your heel pulled in towards your butt. The way dog’s breastbones are they smash it when they try to jump on you from straight on. They won’t do it twice.\n\nA single dog really can’t get to you effectively like this. Dogs are pack and chase hunters, they get people from behind on the ankle or calf.", "Pretend to pick up a stone and throw it at the dog. It will stop the attack. Dogs have no defense against hurled objects.", "Running away from dogs actually activates their prey chase instinct. Better to shove your clenched fist into their mouth and try to shove it down their throat or pull both front legs sideways away from their body if they try to attack you. Also you can go for the eyes as well.", "going back to my home country for summer where street abandoned dogs are pretty common and being a jogging lover this is definitely a saver thread.", "There is no saying how a dog would react to you yelling at it. getting out of the situation was the best option when anything is a possibility", "1.) dogs love chasing you when you run \n2.) always be wary of strange dogs especially if you don’t see a owner you don’t know anything about the dog \n3.) a lot of people are saying you could have scared the dog away probably but also probably not don’t risk it with strange dogs this comes from a dog owner not all dogs have been trained to be nice", "When I was a runner, I carried thick, 3 foot long branch. I was prepared to beat the fuck out of the dog and the owner, if necessary!", "In my comp!ex, I was walking my pug and Japanese chin and some neighbor's pitbull got out and was in full sprint towards us barking and snarling. I picked up my pug, my chin bolted, and I stepped towards the dog and roared at him as loud and scary as I could. I was loud. Other neighbors came outside to see what was up. It scared the dog to a stop where his \"owner\" was able to retrieve him. I then had to go hunt down my scared chin who wisely was at the front door, terrified. For reference; male, 5'9, 170 lbs.\n\nTLDR: be the alpha dog and go for shock to snap it out of its instinct to hunt/chase.", "It depends a lot on the situation. If its a trained attacl dog you're basically fucked. Better start calling for the ha dler and standing still. If it's just some random person's dog I would just stay calm and mostly ignore it. I love dogs but if I had to I am pretty sure I could boot it in the side if the head and reduce its desire to try again but realistically it wants to play, jump up and pick you or give you a sniff so say hi to it", "I've had problems like this with an aggressive fox. Not dangerous to me like a large dog would be, but dangerous to small dogs at least. Pepper spray (or bear spray if you prefer) is a no-permanent-harm partial solution to consider. It's not great, they will have a lot of momentum, but it's faster than legal action against negligent owners at least." ]	[ 31, 18, 11, 10, 9, 7, 5, 4, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "I got some name cards from one of my professors to people he knows that I can contact regarding getting a job, what would I write in these e-mails and how long should they be? I have just graduated my Master's degree in engineering, and finding a job has not been going to well. However, I've gotten to know one of the professors and I did my M.Sc. thesis under him. I asked him if he could refer or recommend me to anyone in the industry, and he gave me a set of name cards of senior engineers, some of which are his past students, that I should e-mail.\n\nNow I need to contact these people like my entire future depended on it, but I'm far from an expert and I need this to go perfectly. What information do I put in an e-mail like this? How long should I make it? What general approach should I have when contacting these people?\n\nAny guidance or help is greatly appreciated reddit, and if anyone got examples I'm forever grateful!", "I got some name cards from one of my professors to people he knows that I can contact regarding getting a job, what would I write in these e-mails and how long should they be? I have just graduated my Master's degree in engineering, and finding a job has not been going to well. However, I've gotten to know one of the professors and I did my M.Sc. thesis under him. I asked him if he could refer or recommend me to anyone in the industry, and he gave me a set of name cards of senior engineers, some of which are his past students, that I should e-mail.\n\nNow I need to contact these people like my entire future depended on it, but I'm far from an expert and I need this to go perfectly. What information do I put in an e-mail like this? How long should I make it? What general approach should I have when contacting these people?\n\nAny guidance or help is greatly appreciated reddit, and if anyone got examples I'm forever grateful!", "I got some name cards from one of my professors to people he knows that I can contact regarding getting a job, what would I write in these e-mails and how long should they be? I have just graduated my Master's degree in engineering, and finding a job has not been going to well. However, I've gotten to know one of the professors and I did my M.Sc. thesis under him. I asked him if he could refer or recommend me to anyone in the industry, and he gave me a set of name cards of senior engineers, some of which are his past students, that I should e-mail.\n\nNow I need to contact these people like my entire future depended on it, but I'm far from an expert and I need this to go perfectly. What information do I put in an e-mail like this? How long should I make it? What general approach should I have when contacting these people?\n\nAny guidance or help is greatly appreciated reddit, and if anyone got examples I'm forever grateful!" ]	[ "Nice of your professor to help. \n\nStart the message by dropping the professor's name \"Dr. ___ gave me your name as a good person for me to contact to learn more about hiring into the industry.\" \n\nTry not to start too many sentences with the word \"I.\" \n\nRequest something specific (Can we schedule a time to speak?) and then do your homework about that person / their position / place in the industry ahead of time so you have good questions to ask.\n\nBest of luck!", "> I need this to go perfectly\n\nOne piece of advice is to try not to dwell on this fact. If you try to craft \"the perfect email\", you know what it will sound like? An email you spent days and nights writing. Let me tell you: I hate getting these emails.\n\nSenior people in business and/or academia get literally hundreds of emails a day. They care a little less about perfect messages and a lot more about getting to the point. Be casual (at least a little) and upfront.\n\nI would write something like this:\n\nDear <name>,\n\nI've been working under Prof. <blah> for the past <blah> years, and he gave me your email and suggested I reach out to you. I'm looking for opportunities in <blah blah> industry, and he thought you might be able to provide some insight or possible leads.\n\nWould you have a few minutes to chat over the phone in the next few days? Let me know when and how best to get in touch, and I can work around your schedule.\n\nKind Regards,\n<blah blah>\n<telephone #>\n\n\nas /u/morningsunshine420 suggested, you should have some good questions to ask. Know what you're looking for in a career path and the types of projects you could see yourself working on, even if it's far down the road.", "As /u/morningsunshine420 said begin the message by naming your professor and that s/he suggested them as someone to speak to.\n\n\"Dear NAME,\n\nProfessor X passed your information on to me as someone I should speak to about X industry.\n\nI would really appreciate it if we could meet over a coffee to pick your brains about working in the industry / whatever it is you want to achieve from meeting them.\n\nI have attached my C.V below, it would be great if you could look over it as I am always happy to receive feedback.\n\nBest wishes / whatever your preferred sign-off is\n\nYOUR NAME\"\n\nLook the person up, either on a university website or if they have LinkedIn, look up their place of employment, be knowledgeable on them / their organisation - but not in a creepy way.\n\nI work abroad but was visiting home recently, I met a woman my sister was in school with who's set up a company in the industry I work in, my 'angle' was \"I want to move home in 2-4 years, what do I need to add to my C.V to make me employable at X level by that time\"\n\nDon't ask them for a job, ask them what you can do to make yourself employable in the industry, if they think there is anyone else you could / should talk to, what will make your C.V stand out from all the others they receive.\n\nPlan to only have 20 - 30 minutes with them so know exactly what you want to ask them. If they're happy to talk to you for longer that's great, but don't overstay your welcome.\n\nAfter you meet them, send a quick email thanking them for their time.\n\nIf down the line you get a job through someone they introduce you to, send them an email thanking them. If one these people hires you, post a thank you card to your professor." ]	[ 22, 15, 5 ]	safe
[ "What would be a good gift for a couple that is about to have their first child? I guess they will receive a lot of baby clothes and products already, so I'm looking for something different. I was thinking something like a voucher for six weeks of a cleaning service or something similar. What do you think would be a good idea?", "What would be a good gift for a couple that is about to have their first child? I guess they will receive a lot of baby clothes and products already, so I'm looking for something different. I was thinking something like a voucher for six weeks of a cleaning service or something similar. What do you think would be a good idea?", "What would be a good gift for a couple that is about to have their first child? I guess they will receive a lot of baby clothes and products already, so I'm looking for something different. I was thinking something like a voucher for six weeks of a cleaning service or something similar. What do you think would be a good idea?", "What would be a good gift for a couple that is about to have their first child? I guess they will receive a lot of baby clothes and products already, so I'm looking for something different. I was thinking something like a voucher for six weeks of a cleaning service or something similar. What do you think would be a good idea?", "What would be a good gift for a couple that is about to have their first child? I guess they will receive a lot of baby clothes and products already, so I'm looking for something different. I was thinking something like a voucher for six weeks of a cleaning service or something similar. What do you think would be a good idea?", "What would be a good gift for a couple that is about to have their first child? I guess they will receive a lot of baby clothes and products already, so I'm looking for something different. I was thinking something like a voucher for six weeks of a cleaning service or something similar. What do you think would be a good idea?", "What would be a good gift for a couple that is about to have their first child? I guess they will receive a lot of baby clothes and products already, so I'm looking for something different. I was thinking something like a voucher for six weeks of a cleaning service or something similar. What do you think would be a good idea?", "What would be a good gift for a couple that is about to have their first child? I guess they will receive a lot of baby clothes and products already, so I'm looking for something different. I was thinking something like a voucher for six weeks of a cleaning service or something similar. What do you think would be a good idea?", "What would be a good gift for a couple that is about to have their first child? I guess they will receive a lot of baby clothes and products already, so I'm looking for something different. I was thinking something like a voucher for six weeks of a cleaning service or something similar. What do you think would be a good idea?", "What would be a good gift for a couple that is about to have their first child? I guess they will receive a lot of baby clothes and products already, so I'm looking for something different. I was thinking something like a voucher for six weeks of a cleaning service or something similar. What do you think would be a good idea?", "What would be a good gift for a couple that is about to have their first child? I guess they will receive a lot of baby clothes and products already, so I'm looking for something different. I was thinking something like a voucher for six weeks of a cleaning service or something similar. What do you think would be a good idea?", "What would be a good gift for a couple that is about to have their first child? I guess they will receive a lot of baby clothes and products already, so I'm looking for something different. I was thinking something like a voucher for six weeks of a cleaning service or something similar. What do you think would be a good idea?", "What would be a good gift for a couple that is about to have their first child? I guess they will receive a lot of baby clothes and products already, so I'm looking for something different. I was thinking something like a voucher for six weeks of a cleaning service or something similar. What do you think would be a good idea?", "What would be a good gift for a couple that is about to have their first child? I guess they will receive a lot of baby clothes and products already, so I'm looking for something different. I was thinking something like a voucher for six weeks of a cleaning service or something similar. What do you think would be a good idea?", "What would be a good gift for a couple that is about to have their first child? I guess they will receive a lot of baby clothes and products already, so I'm looking for something different. I was thinking something like a voucher for six weeks of a cleaning service or something similar. What do you think would be a good idea?", "What would be a good gift for a couple that is about to have their first child? I guess they will receive a lot of baby clothes and products already, so I'm looking for something different. I was thinking something like a voucher for six weeks of a cleaning service or something similar. What do you think would be a good idea?", "What would be a good gift for a couple that is about to have their first child? I guess they will receive a lot of baby clothes and products already, so I'm looking for something different. I was thinking something like a voucher for six weeks of a cleaning service or something similar. What do you think would be a good idea?", "What would be a good gift for a couple that is about to have their first child? I guess they will receive a lot of baby clothes and products already, so I'm looking for something different. I was thinking something like a voucher for six weeks of a cleaning service or something similar. What do you think would be a good idea?", "What would be a good gift for a couple that is about to have their first child? I guess they will receive a lot of baby clothes and products already, so I'm looking for something different. I was thinking something like a voucher for six weeks of a cleaning service or something similar. What do you think would be a good idea?", "What would be a good gift for a couple that is about to have their first child? I guess they will receive a lot of baby clothes and products already, so I'm looking for something different. I was thinking something like a voucher for six weeks of a cleaning service or something similar. What do you think would be a good idea?", "What would be a good gift for a couple that is about to have their first child? I guess they will receive a lot of baby clothes and products already, so I'm looking for something different. I was thinking something like a voucher for six weeks of a cleaning service or something similar. What do you think would be a good idea?", "What would be a good gift for a couple that is about to have their first child? I guess they will receive a lot of baby clothes and products already, so I'm looking for something different. I was thinking something like a voucher for six weeks of a cleaning service or something similar. What do you think would be a good idea?", "What would be a good gift for a couple that is about to have their first child? I guess they will receive a lot of baby clothes and products already, so I'm looking for something different. I was thinking something like a voucher for six weeks of a cleaning service or something similar. What do you think would be a good idea?", "What would be a good gift for a couple that is about to have their first child? I guess they will receive a lot of baby clothes and products already, so I'm looking for something different. I was thinking something like a voucher for six weeks of a cleaning service or something similar. What do you think would be a good idea?", "What would be a good gift for a couple that is about to have their first child? I guess they will receive a lot of baby clothes and products already, so I'm looking for something different. I was thinking something like a voucher for six weeks of a cleaning service or something similar. What do you think would be a good idea?" ]	[ "Diapers. Food delivery. Wine. Coffee. Fruit basket. A target gift card is always handy. \n\n\nIf you go visit the baby bring SOMEthing with you each time (text Mom if she needs coffee and pick her up one), don’t expect to hold the baby, and wash your hands as soon as you get there.", "Books! Lots of books! Always books! My favorite set to give is Sandra Boynton and her Big Blue Box set that includes: Moo, Baa, La La La!, A to Z, Doggies, Blue Hat, Green Hat. The box set is around $18.", "For something \"sentimental\" get the [Dr Suess book, Oh the Places You Will Go](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/81a5KHEkwQL.jpg)\n\nYou might have to type/write out a little letter with it with instructions. We got this for my son and have people who have had an impact on his life write a little something to him. Teachers, coaches, family, friends.\n\nWe plan to give it to him at his HS graduation. Something he can look at and see those who helped him along the way felt about him. If he doesn't graduate HS it will be a nice thing to whack him upside the head with...\n\n/s on the last part.", "Just to add a counter point: Do NOT get baby clothes or toys. Everyone gets baby clothes and toys and the clothes are outgrown in a month and the toys just keep accumulating. Diapers and food are great.", "Do you live near them? I like to drop off a food care package, bagels, coffee, and a pre-made lasagna. It's always very much appreciated", "Diapers and baby wipes. Might not seem original but they will use them! Unless they’re going the cloth diaper route.", "Get a box. Fill it with: A pack of 3 plain white muslin squares, a pack of wet wipes, a small carton of pre-mixed formula (yes I know how some people feel about formula, but if you're stuck and it's 3am, this will save you), a bag of EXCELLENT coffee, a large bar of posh chocolate, other snacks or sweets you think they'll like, and some dispersible aspirin. \n\n\nI got a package like that from my brother when we had our first. He knew exactly what we were about to go through. Now I pay it forward to everybody else.", "I have no good suggestion for you. But I think you're a great guy for trying to make them feel better about this stressful, new situation.", "Not everyone is comfortable with having their house cleaned by a stranger. Generally, it's a good idea to give clothes of larger size as most people just gift newborn sizes (go for 6-10 weeks sizes or so). Or, if you're into the idea of vouchers, pick one from a store with decent selection of baby gear (ideally one that carries more stuff than just clothes).", "My go-to is what I call an \"oh sh!t kit.\" Infant Tylenol and Motrin, gas drops, Baby Vicks, Spray n Wash stain remover, Dreft (or equivalent) baby detergent, wipes, diaper cream...anything that you would need in the middle of the night, in a snowstorm, or on a holiday when everything is closed. After my second baby my aunt brought over paper plates and cups, plastic silverware, and a gift card for pizza delivery. Not the most environmentally friendly gift but we didn't have to worry about dishes with a toddler and a newborn.", "Infant meds. Lots of those are forgotten about and can come in handy in the middle of the night sometimes. \n\nAnd food is always an issue.", "Someone posted in a thread a long time ago: a shop vac. He said that he would give it to new parents and they would usually think it was super weird at first but then thank him so much after a while with the kid.", "Maybe a digital -> printed picture album. I mean like Shutterfly or something. Or maybe one of those Alexa enabled devices w/ baby cam. Idk your price point.", "I've often given a babyproofing safety kit, something like this: \nhttps://www.amazon.com/Baby-Safety-Proofing-Cabinet-Locks/dp/B07Q2PDVCT/ \nThey usually include outlet covers, door & drawer latches, and sometimes corner bumpers. \nComes in different sizes / numbers of items; the above is just an example.", "Hmm, What I give is usually some money with something useful like a bottle warmer or a snuggly blanket... If you think that they already got that you could try to buy something that is a little bit larger than the child (toys, Teddy’s etc) or something that is adjustable for the growing little goblin ;)", "An IOU of few hours of babysitting that they can use anytime (within reason) during the kid's first year. They can use it for a social event, a date night or even to sleep in for a few hours on a weekend.", "Size 2 diapers, huge box of wipes, restaurant gift card make sure it's a place they can get to go food!", "Other than food, gift cards, diapers & wipes; touchless thermometer and largest natural baby laundry detergent you can find", "I always give new mothers a nice hand moisturiser. They’re suddenly washing their hands ten times as often as they used to, which really takes its toll.", "I always buy Going on a Bear Hunt, and outfit for a 6 or 9 month old(think about the season it will be when they are that age) and 1 or 2 lassagnas frozen and ready to be cooked for a good hearty dinner", "Gift cards. Target/Wal-mart (whatever their preference is) and wherever they shop for groceries.\n\nWhat you think they need is great. Giving them funds to actually get what they need (formula, crib, diapers, whatever momma is craving today), awesome.\n\nSource: am dad. Our favorite gift was gift cards.", "First baby in my circle of friends received a prepaid debit card with about 700 dollars on it. 2nd received a junior size comforter of good quality. \nWe are very tight knit though. 3rd and fourth was also the comforter. \n\nSo basically, kids are very expensive, and having basics taken care of by friends leaves money for all the things you didn't know you needed. A good comforter will be needed soon enough, \n\nA baby hammock is also cool.", "A subscription for express grocery delivery, an extra baby carrier/wrap in case of spit up, a gift card for audiobooks or podcasts. Gas drops and Tylenol for babies. Bottle of wine or beer for parents.", " Ask before buying diapers, or include a receipt. They may use cloth, or may have a strong brand or preference. Even wipes can be tricky, since some babies have very sensitive skin.", "Condoms, or an appointment to planned parenthood. Seriously though, people get pregnant so fast after the first one that they are surprised. Slow down and make a plan man, don't get ram-rodded into 5 kids just because you are horney and want to get your nut off. Friends of mine have 4 now, the last 2 were twins. I see them with their heads barely above water most of the time, they intended to have 2 kids." ]	[ 26, 9, 7, 6, 6, 6, 5, 4, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, -1 ]	safe
[ "How to read a book properly? When reading books, I always get distracted. I may be reading a page, but I won't be thinking about what I'm reading, then I would have to start all over. Sometimes, this repeats several times before I understand what has happened. \nHow can I avoid this, and what are the ideal methods to give you a pleasant read of a book?", "How to read a book properly? When reading books, I always get distracted. I may be reading a page, but I won't be thinking about what I'm reading, then I would have to start all over. Sometimes, this repeats several times before I understand what has happened. \nHow can I avoid this, and what are the ideal methods to give you a pleasant read of a book?", "How to read a book properly? When reading books, I always get distracted. I may be reading a page, but I won't be thinking about what I'm reading, then I would have to start all over. Sometimes, this repeats several times before I understand what has happened. \nHow can I avoid this, and what are the ideal methods to give you a pleasant read of a book?", "How to read a book properly? When reading books, I always get distracted. I may be reading a page, but I won't be thinking about what I'm reading, then I would have to start all over. Sometimes, this repeats several times before I understand what has happened. \nHow can I avoid this, and what are the ideal methods to give you a pleasant read of a book?", "How to read a book properly? When reading books, I always get distracted. I may be reading a page, but I won't be thinking about what I'm reading, then I would have to start all over. Sometimes, this repeats several times before I understand what has happened. \nHow can I avoid this, and what are the ideal methods to give you a pleasant read of a book?", "How to read a book properly? When reading books, I always get distracted. I may be reading a page, but I won't be thinking about what I'm reading, then I would have to start all over. Sometimes, this repeats several times before I understand what has happened. \nHow can I avoid this, and what are the ideal methods to give you a pleasant read of a book?", "How to read a book properly? When reading books, I always get distracted. I may be reading a page, but I won't be thinking about what I'm reading, then I would have to start all over. Sometimes, this repeats several times before I understand what has happened. \nHow can I avoid this, and what are the ideal methods to give you a pleasant read of a book?" ]	[ "After every few pages— or when you find a natural break in the story, make a quick summary about what happened. I'll ask myself after a few paragraphs, \"what is the significance of what I just read to the whole story?\" If you're reading when sleep deprived or tired, you are more likely to skip lines or fuzz out. Highlighting or annotating might help you too :)", "The comments already given are very good tips. To add:\n\n-try audiobooks, while I personally prefer visible text, I have many friends that excel at retention when they use that format.\n-read out loud (don't whisper, actually use normal speaking voice) and/or use your finger to path out where you are in the narrative.\n-the regular summary tip is one of the most important ones\n-try to visualize the story in things that are relevant to you (ex: character goes to the mall, picture your own mall); you could also imagine extreme or crazy scenarios in place because that will help you remember what is happening (ex: character goes to the mall, mall is massive or is painted in super random colors).\n-it is okay to flip back if you think you've missed something. I like to do this if I pick up on some foreshadowing and want to confirm, or if I spot a connection I didn't realize was there.\n", "Maybe try reading at the same time each day (before bed, after breakfast, whatever). That way, when it's time to read, your brain is like \"welp, it's x-o-clock, time to focus\". \n\nYou could also try reading online/kindle vs hard-copy book, some people like that better.\n\nBest of luck!", "Also, any recommendations on how to motivate yourself to finish a book? Personally, the size of the book really intimidates me and I find it hard to finish books.", "This begs the question, WHY are you reading? as a hobby? you heard about a book/story and wanted to read? or is it a required reading for a class? And, what are you reading? fiction? history? Because each of these categories require a different approach. And I'm sure there are a lot of book lovers here who would love to help you... ", "There are very rare moments when I am motivated. And I love it. But soon after, I lack the motivation...", "Reading is a skill, if you haven't done it in awhile you'll have trouble doing it again. Sounds silly because you read everyday, but probably don't read books very often/in years" ]	[ 11, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "Writing repetitive documents Are there any useful tips or shortcuts for people who write reports with similar content, with only a few aspects different? For example, if I wanted to generate a document which automatically filled in repetitive uses of a name that I enter once, or correct pronouns for gender when that information is entered once, and that added pre-written sections that I select filling in the name and correct pronouns, etc\n\nIf there are any tips on doing that with MS Word's built in features, that would be ideal. ", "Writing repetitive documents Are there any useful tips or shortcuts for people who write reports with similar content, with only a few aspects different? For example, if I wanted to generate a document which automatically filled in repetitive uses of a name that I enter once, or correct pronouns for gender when that information is entered once, and that added pre-written sections that I select filling in the name and correct pronouns, etc\n\nIf there are any tips on doing that with MS Word's built in features, that would be ideal. " ]	[ "learn how to mail-merge, you should be able to google a walkthrough for your specific version of Word. basically, you enter all of the variable data into an excel spreadsheet, create your document template with placeholders for that data (name, address, pronoun/title, etc.), and then Word automatically fills out each document for you. always scan them all for accuracy or weird spacing errors that occasionally occur, and if there's anything you only want to include on a handful of them, add that after.", "Microsoft word has a feature where u name a variable, and a wizard allows u to import variable properties to qucik fill. \n\nThis however is a advanced feature, I use it to send mass emails to parents at the school I work for.\n\nMicrosoft Word" ]	[ 3, 0 ]	safe
[ "How do get rid of daily fatigue and feel more energetic? A little about myself. I wake up at 6:30am, get to school, stay at the library from 7:30am to 1:30pm. Head back home at 3:00pm. I'm so tired from thinking that I nap from 3:00 to 6:00 pm. Then from 6pm to midnight I'm so fatigued from napping that I essentially watch Netflix and TV. I have no problem getting to sleep though, but my I'm fatigued the entire time I'm awake. ", "How do get rid of daily fatigue and feel more energetic? A little about myself. I wake up at 6:30am, get to school, stay at the library from 7:30am to 1:30pm. Head back home at 3:00pm. I'm so tired from thinking that I nap from 3:00 to 6:00 pm. Then from 6pm to midnight I'm so fatigued from napping that I essentially watch Netflix and TV. I have no problem getting to sleep though, but my I'm fatigued the entire time I'm awake. ", "How do get rid of daily fatigue and feel more energetic? A little about myself. I wake up at 6:30am, get to school, stay at the library from 7:30am to 1:30pm. Head back home at 3:00pm. I'm so tired from thinking that I nap from 3:00 to 6:00 pm. Then from 6pm to midnight I'm so fatigued from napping that I essentially watch Netflix and TV. I have no problem getting to sleep though, but my I'm fatigued the entire time I'm awake. ", "How do get rid of daily fatigue and feel more energetic? A little about myself. I wake up at 6:30am, get to school, stay at the library from 7:30am to 1:30pm. Head back home at 3:00pm. I'm so tired from thinking that I nap from 3:00 to 6:00 pm. Then from 6pm to midnight I'm so fatigued from napping that I essentially watch Netflix and TV. I have no problem getting to sleep though, but my I'm fatigued the entire time I'm awake. ", "How do get rid of daily fatigue and feel more energetic? A little about myself. I wake up at 6:30am, get to school, stay at the library from 7:30am to 1:30pm. Head back home at 3:00pm. I'm so tired from thinking that I nap from 3:00 to 6:00 pm. Then from 6pm to midnight I'm so fatigued from napping that I essentially watch Netflix and TV. I have no problem getting to sleep though, but my I'm fatigued the entire time I'm awake. ", "How do get rid of daily fatigue and feel more energetic? A little about myself. I wake up at 6:30am, get to school, stay at the library from 7:30am to 1:30pm. Head back home at 3:00pm. I'm so tired from thinking that I nap from 3:00 to 6:00 pm. Then from 6pm to midnight I'm so fatigued from napping that I essentially watch Netflix and TV. I have no problem getting to sleep though, but my I'm fatigued the entire time I'm awake. ", "How do get rid of daily fatigue and feel more energetic? A little about myself. I wake up at 6:30am, get to school, stay at the library from 7:30am to 1:30pm. Head back home at 3:00pm. I'm so tired from thinking that I nap from 3:00 to 6:00 pm. Then from 6pm to midnight I'm so fatigued from napping that I essentially watch Netflix and TV. I have no problem getting to sleep though, but my I'm fatigued the entire time I'm awake. " ]	[ "Instead of sitting around or napping, try getting up and doing something. You could go to a gym and workout, or just walk around. But you need to do something, the more you sit around the less energy you'll have, and conversely, the more active you become the more energy you'll have to do more.", "For one. \nStop napping as you call it. \n\nA 3 hour sleep is not a nap that is a sleep. A nap is to recharge you body 30 minutes to an hour max. A power nap =30 minutes.\n\nYou are falling into deep sleep and awaking with 3 hours. \"Your body is saying noooooo!!!!!!! Stop that....we need 8 hours\" and makes you fatigued. ", "Eat healthier. I used to be lethargic all the time, once I changed my diet to start losing weight, I had much more energy and also slept way better as well. ", "Try getting up a bit later, and getting more sleep. You need to be getting more than 6 hours of sleep, especially if you are studying.", "Sounds like a dietary problem. I gave up soda first, then fast food, then junk food, then pasta, and finally cut back on meat. Everytime i gave something up, my energy increased. Now im to the point where if there is nothing to do when i get to work, i have to go in the backroom and do pushups to get rid of all the energy. Dont give up naptime though. Sounds like youre mentally drained as well and really need it.", "Set your phone alarm for 30 minutes. \n\nNap and awake. Do not hit snooze. Awake and stay awake till your usual bed time. \n\nHeadaches normal for you?? Low blood sugar??? \n", "I am a curious case.\n\nI have a job that has me sitting probably 4-6 hours of the day and walking/lifting/assembling shit 2-4 hours. I also lift heavy 3 times a week. I also try and get 8 hours every night. Otherwise, yes I'm a couch potato.\n\nI still often wake up tired and look drowsy and feel lazy a lot. I don't and won't drink coffee. Also only drink diet pop. And of course because of the lifting my diet is on point. High protein, not too many bad fats.\n\nSo I just don't know what's going on. Probably terrible genetics.\n" ]	[ 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to ask potential employers what a position's pay is? Hi, I have an important job interview for an engineering related position coming up and the pay rate was not mentioned on the job posting. As prestigious as the place is, if it pays $12/hr then it's not worth it. How exactly do I bring this up? I am a candidate for another position that pays competitively and I'd hate to turn down that position only to find the first place pays poorly.", "How to ask potential employers what a position's pay is? Hi, I have an important job interview for an engineering related position coming up and the pay rate was not mentioned on the job posting. As prestigious as the place is, if it pays $12/hr then it's not worth it. How exactly do I bring this up? I am a candidate for another position that pays competitively and I'd hate to turn down that position only to find the first place pays poorly.", "How to ask potential employers what a position's pay is? Hi, I have an important job interview for an engineering related position coming up and the pay rate was not mentioned on the job posting. As prestigious as the place is, if it pays $12/hr then it's not worth it. How exactly do I bring this up? I am a candidate for another position that pays competitively and I'd hate to turn down that position only to find the first place pays poorly.", "How to ask potential employers what a position's pay is? Hi, I have an important job interview for an engineering related position coming up and the pay rate was not mentioned on the job posting. As prestigious as the place is, if it pays $12/hr then it's not worth it. How exactly do I bring this up? I am a candidate for another position that pays competitively and I'd hate to turn down that position only to find the first place pays poorly.", "How to ask potential employers what a position's pay is? Hi, I have an important job interview for an engineering related position coming up and the pay rate was not mentioned on the job posting. As prestigious as the place is, if it pays $12/hr then it's not worth it. How exactly do I bring this up? I am a candidate for another position that pays competitively and I'd hate to turn down that position only to find the first place pays poorly.", "How to ask potential employers what a position's pay is? Hi, I have an important job interview for an engineering related position coming up and the pay rate was not mentioned on the job posting. As prestigious as the place is, if it pays $12/hr then it's not worth it. How exactly do I bring this up? I am a candidate for another position that pays competitively and I'd hate to turn down that position only to find the first place pays poorly.", "How to ask potential employers what a position's pay is? Hi, I have an important job interview for an engineering related position coming up and the pay rate was not mentioned on the job posting. As prestigious as the place is, if it pays $12/hr then it's not worth it. How exactly do I bring this up? I am a candidate for another position that pays competitively and I'd hate to turn down that position only to find the first place pays poorly.", "How to ask potential employers what a position's pay is? Hi, I have an important job interview for an engineering related position coming up and the pay rate was not mentioned on the job posting. As prestigious as the place is, if it pays $12/hr then it's not worth it. How exactly do I bring this up? I am a candidate for another position that pays competitively and I'd hate to turn down that position only to find the first place pays poorly.", "How to ask potential employers what a position's pay is? Hi, I have an important job interview for an engineering related position coming up and the pay rate was not mentioned on the job posting. As prestigious as the place is, if it pays $12/hr then it's not worth it. How exactly do I bring this up? I am a candidate for another position that pays competitively and I'd hate to turn down that position only to find the first place pays poorly.", "How to ask potential employers what a position's pay is? Hi, I have an important job interview for an engineering related position coming up and the pay rate was not mentioned on the job posting. As prestigious as the place is, if it pays $12/hr then it's not worth it. How exactly do I bring this up? I am a candidate for another position that pays competitively and I'd hate to turn down that position only to find the first place pays poorly.", "How to ask potential employers what a position's pay is? Hi, I have an important job interview for an engineering related position coming up and the pay rate was not mentioned on the job posting. As prestigious as the place is, if it pays $12/hr then it's not worth it. How exactly do I bring this up? I am a candidate for another position that pays competitively and I'd hate to turn down that position only to find the first place pays poorly.", "How to ask potential employers what a position's pay is? Hi, I have an important job interview for an engineering related position coming up and the pay rate was not mentioned on the job posting. As prestigious as the place is, if it pays $12/hr then it's not worth it. How exactly do I bring this up? I am a candidate for another position that pays competitively and I'd hate to turn down that position only to find the first place pays poorly.", "How to ask potential employers what a position's pay is? Hi, I have an important job interview for an engineering related position coming up and the pay rate was not mentioned on the job posting. As prestigious as the place is, if it pays $12/hr then it's not worth it. How exactly do I bring this up? I am a candidate for another position that pays competitively and I'd hate to turn down that position only to find the first place pays poorly.", "How to ask potential employers what a position's pay is? Hi, I have an important job interview for an engineering related position coming up and the pay rate was not mentioned on the job posting. As prestigious as the place is, if it pays $12/hr then it's not worth it. How exactly do I bring this up? I am a candidate for another position that pays competitively and I'd hate to turn down that position only to find the first place pays poorly.", "How to ask potential employers what a position's pay is? Hi, I have an important job interview for an engineering related position coming up and the pay rate was not mentioned on the job posting. As prestigious as the place is, if it pays $12/hr then it's not worth it. How exactly do I bring this up? I am a candidate for another position that pays competitively and I'd hate to turn down that position only to find the first place pays poorly.", "How to ask potential employers what a position's pay is? Hi, I have an important job interview for an engineering related position coming up and the pay rate was not mentioned on the job posting. As prestigious as the place is, if it pays $12/hr then it's not worth it. How exactly do I bring this up? I am a candidate for another position that pays competitively and I'd hate to turn down that position only to find the first place pays poorly." ]	[ "Just ask. The pay rate is a fundamental part of the position. If it matters to you, then you are doing yourself and your interviewers a disservice by not bringing it up. An interview is not the place to negotiate a salary, but it is the place to make sure you and the company are in the same ballpark.\n\nEvery interview I've had has given me an opportunity to ask questions at the end. If you haven't found a good time to bring it up beforehand, that is your opening. Just ask what the anticipated starting salary would be. Really, you should ask more about your earning potential (cost - of - living increases, potential promotions, etc) but that can wait until further discussions if it makes you uncomfortable. But you need to know starting pay no matter what.\n\nThere's a weird stigma about asking about money. But it is your life and your career. If they aren't comfortable answering that basic question, then you don't want to work for them anyway.", "It seems to be a thing in the US that asking about pay seems to be taboo or something. In the UK just ask at the end of the interview, everyone wants to know what they are getting paid to do a job.", "In my experience if they don't come out and tell you in the first stage of the interview then you're not gonna like it.", "Just ask. The employer is smart enough to understand that you don't just work for the fun of it.\n\nThey are buying your time, of course you can talk about the price. They sure as hell is thinking about it, they will understand that you are.", "Whenever they ask for salary your requirements, answer with, \"What is the pay range for this position?\" and if that answer acceptable to you, then say your requirement fit within that range. ", "The pay rate only begins to matter after you get an offer, prior to that, focus on getting the offer. Once you do get the offer, the pay rate will be stated with the offering. You can then decide to accept or reject and if the other position later on returns with an offer, you can always change your mind.", "I got an interview once (for a sysadmin job) and aced essentially. he told me I could start the next day, then was told \"it pays eight\". My response was \"eight what?\" - current minimum at the time was $8/hour.\n\nI asked him what kind of sysadmin he expected to get for $8/hour. He shrugged and said that was all he could pay. I told him I was making more by staying on unemployment and wished him well. Fucking waste of time for both of us. Especially considering it was pissing down rain outside. \n", "\"let's suppose you find me as able and charming as I think I am and you decide to hire me. What kind of compensation range would I expect to receive as an offer?\" ", "The time to ask is when they say \"do you have questions\". That's the only question I asked and I got the job. It won't be awkward, they'll say a range and you'll end up negotiating within it.", "Thanks for all the great answers guys. It seems the consensus is to bring it up professionally toward the end of the interview.", "If you bring this up the right way and you are honest \"$12/hr then it's not worth it.\" it puts you in a good position compared to other candidates.", "I usually email the HR department from one of my alternate email addresses before I apply. I also ask for an expected \"salary range\" rather than just \"salary.\"", "I haven't read the other comments yet, but I was taught to wait until they bring up salary negotiations and then when they ask you your expectations for income, ask them what the position is budgeted for. Most wont tell you straight out - but they will tell you something that you can at least work from.", "Did the recruiter ask what your salary requirements were, or what you were currently making? Did you fill that out on an application?", "Ask directly. They know why you are working; to make money. Any employer who won't give you straight answers (at the very least, an expected salary range) is trying to dick you over. ", "Don't. Do some research on the interwebz about the position and expected pay in a given area. When (if) you get hired, negotiate. You now have a base from which to start and see where you get.\n\nPlus, if they really want you, you have leverage considering the other position. If the 1st place isn't willing to match or better the 2nd place, tell them to pound sand - also keep into consideration benefits packages (health, vision insurance, Short term disability, long term disability, vacation, personal/sick days, perks for working at one place over the other, workplace environment, etc.)" ]	[ 32, 8, 5, 4, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, -2 ]	safe
[ "How to avoid the \"kid\" perception, specially at workplace I am 23, but I look much younger (think 17-18). In short I look like a kid, which heavily impacts what people perceives of me.\n\nAt the workplace, I was at a different office today and the person there remarked something that was something you would to a junior; while I am higher in position than him. Though he does not know my position.\n\nHow can I avoid this?", "How to avoid the \"kid\" perception, specially at workplace I am 23, but I look much younger (think 17-18). In short I look like a kid, which heavily impacts what people perceives of me.\n\nAt the workplace, I was at a different office today and the person there remarked something that was something you would to a junior; while I am higher in position than him. Though he does not know my position.\n\nHow can I avoid this?", "How to avoid the \"kid\" perception, specially at workplace I am 23, but I look much younger (think 17-18). In short I look like a kid, which heavily impacts what people perceives of me.\n\nAt the workplace, I was at a different office today and the person there remarked something that was something you would to a junior; while I am higher in position than him. Though he does not know my position.\n\nHow can I avoid this?", "How to avoid the \"kid\" perception, specially at workplace I am 23, but I look much younger (think 17-18). In short I look like a kid, which heavily impacts what people perceives of me.\n\nAt the workplace, I was at a different office today and the person there remarked something that was something you would to a junior; while I am higher in position than him. Though he does not know my position.\n\nHow can I avoid this?", "How to avoid the \"kid\" perception, specially at workplace I am 23, but I look much younger (think 17-18). In short I look like a kid, which heavily impacts what people perceives of me.\n\nAt the workplace, I was at a different office today and the person there remarked something that was something you would to a junior; while I am higher in position than him. Though he does not know my position.\n\nHow can I avoid this?", "How to avoid the \"kid\" perception, specially at workplace I am 23, but I look much younger (think 17-18). In short I look like a kid, which heavily impacts what people perceives of me.\n\nAt the workplace, I was at a different office today and the person there remarked something that was something you would to a junior; while I am higher in position than him. Though he does not know my position.\n\nHow can I avoid this?" ]	[ ">How can I avoid this?\n\nYou don't, you deal with it. If your junior treats you like their junior, you correct them...diplomatically as possible. If you are not sure how to handle it, bring it up to your superior and ask for advice. \n\nI've been there, I was 19....too many years ago...with people who were my juniors, but older than I was. Regardless of position, you have to earn peoples respect. It will never, ever be given to you freely.\n", "Dress older. How you dress has a huge impact on how people perceive your age. Dump your high school wardrobe. ", "Let your accomplishments speak for themselves and know that when you are old you will look more youthful than people your age, hopefully. ", "It sounds insignificant but try adjusting your posture. Make sure you stand and sit upright. Keep your body language 'open'. It'll make you appear more mature and more confident.", "Like some others have said: body language and attire. People judge based on appearance at first glance (even if it's wrong--it's a fact of human nature). ", "Probably by getting over yourself and not demanding respect for your corporate ladder position.\n\nRespect is given, not asked for." ]	[ 8, 6, 3, 3, 1, -2 ]	safe
[ "Thick Straight Asian Hair Sticks Up Before i use to have very long layered hair. Recently i cut the sides and back very short like a 1 or 2 and trimmed the front. However my barber used clippers on the back and now its sticking up like crazy! It's sticking up in the area around your hair where it begins to grow where the spiral is (sorry don't know the term). Any ways to help keep it flat it looks ridiculous sticking up looking spiked. I've tried the blow drying method and product so if anyone has solutions that would be much appreciated!", "Thick Straight Asian Hair Sticks Up Before i use to have very long layered hair. Recently i cut the sides and back very short like a 1 or 2 and trimmed the front. However my barber used clippers on the back and now its sticking up like crazy! It's sticking up in the area around your hair where it begins to grow where the spiral is (sorry don't know the term). Any ways to help keep it flat it looks ridiculous sticking up looking spiked. I've tried the blow drying method and product so if anyone has solutions that would be much appreciated!", "Thick Straight Asian Hair Sticks Up Before i use to have very long layered hair. Recently i cut the sides and back very short like a 1 or 2 and trimmed the front. However my barber used clippers on the back and now its sticking up like crazy! It's sticking up in the area around your hair where it begins to grow where the spiral is (sorry don't know the term). Any ways to help keep it flat it looks ridiculous sticking up looking spiked. I've tried the blow drying method and product so if anyone has solutions that would be much appreciated!", "Thick Straight Asian Hair Sticks Up Before i use to have very long layered hair. Recently i cut the sides and back very short like a 1 or 2 and trimmed the front. However my barber used clippers on the back and now its sticking up like crazy! It's sticking up in the area around your hair where it begins to grow where the spiral is (sorry don't know the term). Any ways to help keep it flat it looks ridiculous sticking up looking spiked. I've tried the blow drying method and product so if anyone has solutions that would be much appreciated!", "Thick Straight Asian Hair Sticks Up Before i use to have very long layered hair. Recently i cut the sides and back very short like a 1 or 2 and trimmed the front. However my barber used clippers on the back and now its sticking up like crazy! It's sticking up in the area around your hair where it begins to grow where the spiral is (sorry don't know the term). Any ways to help keep it flat it looks ridiculous sticking up looking spiked. I've tried the blow drying method and product so if anyone has solutions that would be much appreciated!", "Thick Straight Asian Hair Sticks Up Before i use to have very long layered hair. Recently i cut the sides and back very short like a 1 or 2 and trimmed the front. However my barber used clippers on the back and now its sticking up like crazy! It's sticking up in the area around your hair where it begins to grow where the spiral is (sorry don't know the term). Any ways to help keep it flat it looks ridiculous sticking up looking spiked. I've tried the blow drying method and product so if anyone has solutions that would be much appreciated!", "Thick Straight Asian Hair Sticks Up Before i use to have very long layered hair. Recently i cut the sides and back very short like a 1 or 2 and trimmed the front. However my barber used clippers on the back and now its sticking up like crazy! It's sticking up in the area around your hair where it begins to grow where the spiral is (sorry don't know the term). Any ways to help keep it flat it looks ridiculous sticking up looking spiked. I've tried the blow drying method and product so if anyone has solutions that would be much appreciated!" ]	[ "I have thick straight hair as well. Haven't had a correct haircut that I can enjoy right out of the shower in my entire life. That being said, after I shower I put a beanie type hat on for about 10-20 minutes to flatten everything down. Sometimes I get a bad collick that I have to rinse out but seems to be the best method I've found so far.", "Unfortunately you may just be a bit stuck with it until it grows out. My husband suffers from the same issue (cow lick on the top of his head that sticks straight up with thick straight asian hair) and the only way to fix it is to just get it recut. ", "If you're male, find a good hipster barber shop in your area and ask for a fade for the sides and whatever style you like for the top. if your hair wants to stick up / have a lot of volume, work with it instead of against it. A good barber will know how to work your hair properly and can also suggest the appropriate product. \n\nFor the side though, it'll most likely be a 1 on the lower half and a 2 on the upper to get rid of the 'bulbing'. ", "I used to have the same problem when I was younger. There is really nothing you can do about it unless you want to go nuts with the hair products. Hair putty probably works the best. \n\nThis is no longer a issue for me due to male pattern baldness. Just be thankful that you are able to have this problem. ", "I have the same problem, so my barber suggested getting a perm. He said that the perm makes your hair more manageable. I don't know if this works or not since I haven't tried it, but I think it may be worth a shot if you're out of options. ", "I have the same exact problem. Thick Asian straight hair but with two spirals ): I wear a beanie or a hat to flatten it down after I get out of the shower. I use a Paul Mitchell dry wax when I want to style it and give it texture, but my hair has to be somewhat moist for it to work nice", "Have you tried using a hair pomade or paste? What about some gel? You wouldn't need much, just enough to calm them down a bit.\n\n/u/mbrushin's recommendation on wearing a beanie to flatten your hair post shower is also not a bad idea." ]	[ 5, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Hiding wires under carpet I recently got a 30 foot ethernet cable to reach my room to the cable modem. Apparently the entire house is all one piece of carpet, no cut offs at door frames. Normal? Plus all the corners and wall pieces wont lift up. Any ideas? Thanks for the help!", "Hiding wires under carpet I recently got a 30 foot ethernet cable to reach my room to the cable modem. Apparently the entire house is all one piece of carpet, no cut offs at door frames. Normal? Plus all the corners and wall pieces wont lift up. Any ideas? Thanks for the help!", "Hiding wires under carpet I recently got a 30 foot ethernet cable to reach my room to the cable modem. Apparently the entire house is all one piece of carpet, no cut offs at door frames. Normal? Plus all the corners and wall pieces wont lift up. Any ideas? Thanks for the help!", "Hiding wires under carpet I recently got a 30 foot ethernet cable to reach my room to the cable modem. Apparently the entire house is all one piece of carpet, no cut offs at door frames. Normal? Plus all the corners and wall pieces wont lift up. Any ideas? Thanks for the help!", "Hiding wires under carpet I recently got a 30 foot ethernet cable to reach my room to the cable modem. Apparently the entire house is all one piece of carpet, no cut offs at door frames. Normal? Plus all the corners and wall pieces wont lift up. Any ideas? Thanks for the help!" ]	[ "If you can't go down, go up. If you just absolutely need it to go under the carpet, find a carpet installer who will make a seem line for you at the doorways. ", "I am not sure how your house is built, but I ran mine through the walls into my attic, then dropped back into the room I need it to, super easy to do. Does require some drilling though and that can be a pain :/", "I GREATLY recommend aquiring a Powerline Adapter. It essentially is two little boxes you can plug into the wall. Hook one up to the router and then it will push interwebs through your power grid and make it come out at the other adapter which you can place in your room. Then jsut plug in a shorter ehternet cable to that little thing.\nTry soemthing like these \n http://www.amazon.com/TP-LINK-TL-PA211-KIT-Powerline-Adapter/dp/B0055XKBW4/ref=sr_1_4?s=electronics&ie=UTF8&qid=1367935143&sr=1-4&keywords=powerline+adapter \n", "Don't do it this way. My first attempt was running under carpet and it just looks shabby. Even if you do manage to hide it entirely the carpet is a bitch to get back in place and you can only run the cable around the edges or people will damage it when they walk over it. The best option to achieve a reasonable result with minimal effort is often to run cables round the outside of your house. Use a masonry drill bit to drill through an external wall and push the cable through. Tack the cable along the wall and then drill out the external wall in the room you are running the cable to. Poke the cable in through the hole, fix the wall mount box on (it's pretty simple to do with rawl plugs and the right sized drill bit), punch down the cable into the keystone jack and screw it on. You will then want to fill up the holes with weatherproof sealant. It looks so much prettier now I have installed the cable that way.", "Run the cable around a wall and over door frames around the border if needed, and paint the cable to match the corresponding colour surfaces surrounding the cable to make it appear non existanxt" ]	[ 3, 3, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Air underneath auto glass tint. Recently the tint on my passenger side window appears to have become wrinkled. There are strips of air underneath the plastic(?) tint and I'm not sure how to go about flattening it back down without leaving creases in the material and making it look even worse.\nI know my description doesn't exactly built a keen image in the mind, if needed I can provide a picture of my predicament. ", "Air underneath auto glass tint. Recently the tint on my passenger side window appears to have become wrinkled. There are strips of air underneath the plastic(?) tint and I'm not sure how to go about flattening it back down without leaving creases in the material and making it look even worse.\nI know my description doesn't exactly built a keen image in the mind, if needed I can provide a picture of my predicament. " ]	[ "usually its because ut was placed improperly or the material couldnt handle the heat.. if its more than a square .5 inch of bubble, get new tint", "It depends on the wrinkle. If it's small (more like a bubble) then 'pop' it with a pin, and smooth it down with the edge of a cr" ]	[ 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to stop comparing yourself to others? Basically, I've always compared myself to other people to drag myself down. Whether it has been telling myself I'm stupid because others in my class were smarter, telling myself I'm ugly because my friends are prettier, or even comparing myself to my brother who is far more mentally stable and functional. I know that the first thing way I need to do to help build my self-esteem back up is to stop comparing myself to others, but I have no idea how to stop. ", "How to stop comparing yourself to others? Basically, I've always compared myself to other people to drag myself down. Whether it has been telling myself I'm stupid because others in my class were smarter, telling myself I'm ugly because my friends are prettier, or even comparing myself to my brother who is far more mentally stable and functional. I know that the first thing way I need to do to help build my self-esteem back up is to stop comparing myself to others, but I have no idea how to stop. ", "How to stop comparing yourself to others? Basically, I've always compared myself to other people to drag myself down. Whether it has been telling myself I'm stupid because others in my class were smarter, telling myself I'm ugly because my friends are prettier, or even comparing myself to my brother who is far more mentally stable and functional. I know that the first thing way I need to do to help build my self-esteem back up is to stop comparing myself to others, but I have no idea how to stop. ", "How to stop comparing yourself to others? Basically, I've always compared myself to other people to drag myself down. Whether it has been telling myself I'm stupid because others in my class were smarter, telling myself I'm ugly because my friends are prettier, or even comparing myself to my brother who is far more mentally stable and functional. I know that the first thing way I need to do to help build my self-esteem back up is to stop comparing myself to others, but I have no idea how to stop. ", "How to stop comparing yourself to others? Basically, I've always compared myself to other people to drag myself down. Whether it has been telling myself I'm stupid because others in my class were smarter, telling myself I'm ugly because my friends are prettier, or even comparing myself to my brother who is far more mentally stable and functional. I know that the first thing way I need to do to help build my self-esteem back up is to stop comparing myself to others, but I have no idea how to stop. ", "How to stop comparing yourself to others? Basically, I've always compared myself to other people to drag myself down. Whether it has been telling myself I'm stupid because others in my class were smarter, telling myself I'm ugly because my friends are prettier, or even comparing myself to my brother who is far more mentally stable and functional. I know that the first thing way I need to do to help build my self-esteem back up is to stop comparing myself to others, but I have no idea how to stop. " ]	[ "How about you look at it a different way- imagine yourself in a vacuum with nobody else around. Do you like yourself? If you had to hang out with yourself, would you be cool with it? \n\nFor me, most of the time is yes. It helps me remember why I like me, and while I have smarter, hotter, and stabler friends, I have my own story and things that made me who I am. And if it's no, then maybe there's something I really do need to change. And if it's \"eh, you're kinda ok,\" that's usually indicative of me not doing enough things for me. \n\nA lot of people with esteem issues could actually do with being a bit more selfish, ironically! So: \n\n1. Decide if you like you. There will always be somebody better. There will always be somebody worse. But there will also always be yourself to answer to. :) that's the important one. \n\n2. If you don't like your answer to yourself, then go out and do some investing in yourself. Hit the gym. Learn a hobby. Just like anything else, it's always meaningless to us until we begin investing in it. Do the same with yourself!", "Building your self esteem (which is an excellent idea though) can take some time.\n\nWhile doing that, try understand that people literally don't give a fuck about other people. And not in the selfish negative way. They usually do things for them and not against other people. so don't take it personnally even if someones insults you. Don't take it personally if you see a beautiful person or intellignet person.\n\nTry learning from them. When i see a pretty girl, i see that she took time to put make up on, get her hair done and that she probably took some time to learn this. I can only admire that, and then ask myself \"are you ready to do that? do you want to do that?No, so that's ok. Nothing to be envious just admire the determination.\"\n\nDitch the envious feeling. Start being inspired.", "You really not comparing yourself to another when someone in your class is smarter and you tell yourself you are stupid. You are only comparing your brain to that person's brain. There's so much more to you than that one part of yourself. If you find yourself comparing just one part of yourself to another and getting down on yourself, you need to compare the whole person or at least more than 1 characteristic. For example, that person is smart... but they don't have the same hobby that I have had for years which I have gotten so many compliments about.\n", "This might be radical, but.. study Zen philosophy :) See everyone as one with you, like \"I am you\" or \"You are me\" (that is Love). If all are seen as one, one is never really missing a thing. The physical world is a world based on skills, which make every body unique, but our common being is beyond a physical body.", "Stop paying so much attention to them. You're wasting your time comparing yourself to others. Just do you.", "Compare yourself to people who are stupid, and ugly. Also, try to be more accepting, and happy for someone else who is more fortunate than yourself." ]	[ 12, 6, 3, 2, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How do I improve my business writing? I've just started a job and I'm noticing that my language structure is not up to par as the rest of my co-workers. Are there any online writing workshops you'd recommend? ", "How do I improve my business writing? I've just started a job and I'm noticing that my language structure is not up to par as the rest of my co-workers. Are there any online writing workshops you'd recommend? " ]	[ "As previously stated, improvement comes naturally with practice. If you're new and your colleagues are older/more experienced than you, it's natural that they would write better than you.\n\nBusiness writing should be clear, not waste anyone's time, and should flow logically, in that order. If you succeed at those three writing goals, then you're writing adequately for most business environments. If you work in sales/marketing or a highly technical field, there are more requisites, but these usually still stand. If you write clearly with simple clause after simple clause and a coworker writes in a sophisticated but obtuse manner that requires two read-throughs, who is \"adding more value\" (quotes for biz-speak) to the company?\n\nAlways read what you've written before publishing, submitting or sending it. Whether it's a two sentence email or a five page planning doc, you'll be surprised where simple typos and major screw-ups pop up. I constantly revise and reorder everything I'm writing, from work emails to this post. This is particularly helpful for my recursive writing style, but whether you produce perfect prose the first time or you cut paragraphs out of your writing, everyone benefits from a proofread.\n\nEmulate the style of writing you admire and want to write. If you notice your coworkers collectively write in a particular way, someone's good habits may have already rubbed off on them. Look at style and structure - how do they write that is so noticeably different from your writing? Copy, paste and rewrite/repurpose documents that you like, whether it's its formatting or its sentence structure. Do be sure to rewrite everything - it's ok to emulate, but don't get yourself accused of plagiarism.", "Any writing or English class would help, but won't solve this overnight. Look closely at why sentences are structured the way they are and use the internet to find out certain grammatical rules. Pay more attention when you read books or publications and you'll pick up better language skills." ]	[ 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "Meeting ladies in a new city I just moved to Houston, Texas from Florida and I want to meet girls but I'm not really sure how to. It was easy when I was in college and had lots of friends, but here I'm having a difficult time meeting anyone who I don't work with or isn't a friends girlfriend. Help? ", "Meeting ladies in a new city I just moved to Houston, Texas from Florida and I want to meet girls but I'm not really sure how to. It was easy when I was in college and had lots of friends, but here I'm having a difficult time meeting anyone who I don't work with or isn't a friends girlfriend. Help? ", "Meeting ladies in a new city I just moved to Houston, Texas from Florida and I want to meet girls but I'm not really sure how to. It was easy when I was in college and had lots of friends, but here I'm having a difficult time meeting anyone who I don't work with or isn't a friends girlfriend. Help? ", "Meeting ladies in a new city I just moved to Houston, Texas from Florida and I want to meet girls but I'm not really sure how to. It was easy when I was in college and had lots of friends, but here I'm having a difficult time meeting anyone who I don't work with or isn't a friends girlfriend. Help? ", "Meeting ladies in a new city I just moved to Houston, Texas from Florida and I want to meet girls but I'm not really sure how to. It was easy when I was in college and had lots of friends, but here I'm having a difficult time meeting anyone who I don't work with or isn't a friends girlfriend. Help? ", "Meeting ladies in a new city I just moved to Houston, Texas from Florida and I want to meet girls but I'm not really sure how to. It was easy when I was in college and had lots of friends, but here I'm having a difficult time meeting anyone who I don't work with or isn't a friends girlfriend. Help? " ]	[ "Meetup.com - find groups that interest you. You will have a hobby to help with loneliness of a new city, find new friends, and most likely find some available women. They even have groups solely for single people.", "Join a fun co-ed league such as dodgeball, kickball, etc. Not only is it good exercise, confidence comes naturally when you've broken a good sweat.", "Bars are fine. Don't be afraid to talk to a girl in a group. I go out with my friends all the time and love talking to random people. Exchange numbers. \n\nYou can also start new activities. Like festivals. Or softball leagues.", "Things that have worked for me:\n\n- Talk to girls at the airport on an airplane going to wherever you're going\n\n- Asking girls what music they're listening to on the bus, at a cafe, etc.\n\n- Petting a dog that is on a leash that a girl happens to be holding\n\n- Talking to girls at bars, clubs, etc.\n\n- Inviting girls to draw or do some kind of art project together (I like drawing, painting, and other random crafts)\n\nI basically just take whatever I'm doing, then ask if a girl would like to share space, time, or energy with me. And really don't worry about rejection (whatever that means). A girl is just another person, like you or me. And if they don't want to join in on what I'm doing, I know I'll be fine on my own or with other friends.", "I think it's important to not focus on meeting girls, because this will make you come across as desperate. Just go out and meet people and have fun. As you expand your network, you will meet girls automatically.", "Become friends with other guys, get into groups of friends, you will meet people with time.\n\nAlso, dont be afraid of rejection, strike up conversations with randos." ]	[ 9, 7, 4, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to get over crippling relationship insecurities. I have a bit of a problem. I've been aware of it for a long time, and I want to do something about it, because it's seriously fucking me up. Basically, whenever I'm in a fledgling relationship with a girl, or in a fully fledged relationship, whenever I see her talk to another guy, especially a guy that I think is more attractive than me etc. I get this this horrible pang of jealousy and doubt.\n\nThe worst thing is, I know it isn't rational. Recently I've started going out with a girl and I happened to see her talking with a guy in a group chat we share and that exact sting of jealousy/envy/I don't know what came over me once again, despite the fact that she has never talked to this guy physically and I'm going out on a fucking date with her on Saturday.\n\nI mean, what the fuck?\n\nI have to imagine this is my own insecurities. I know it's completely unfair on her, I know that it's completely unhealthy mindset for me to be in and I know that it may ultimately damage the relationship, but for the life of me I can't figure out what I should do. There's only so many times I can tell myself, \"This feeling is irrational and unfounded\" before I stop believing myself.\n\nAnyone have similar issues? Are there any solutions to this, or will I just have to deal with it?\n\nThanks a million", "How to get over crippling relationship insecurities. I have a bit of a problem. I've been aware of it for a long time, and I want to do something about it, because it's seriously fucking me up. Basically, whenever I'm in a fledgling relationship with a girl, or in a fully fledged relationship, whenever I see her talk to another guy, especially a guy that I think is more attractive than me etc. I get this this horrible pang of jealousy and doubt.\n\nThe worst thing is, I know it isn't rational. Recently I've started going out with a girl and I happened to see her talking with a guy in a group chat we share and that exact sting of jealousy/envy/I don't know what came over me once again, despite the fact that she has never talked to this guy physically and I'm going out on a fucking date with her on Saturday.\n\nI mean, what the fuck?\n\nI have to imagine this is my own insecurities. I know it's completely unfair on her, I know that it's completely unhealthy mindset for me to be in and I know that it may ultimately damage the relationship, but for the life of me I can't figure out what I should do. There's only so many times I can tell myself, \"This feeling is irrational and unfounded\" before I stop believing myself.\n\nAnyone have similar issues? Are there any solutions to this, or will I just have to deal with it?\n\nThanks a million", "How to get over crippling relationship insecurities. I have a bit of a problem. I've been aware of it for a long time, and I want to do something about it, because it's seriously fucking me up. Basically, whenever I'm in a fledgling relationship with a girl, or in a fully fledged relationship, whenever I see her talk to another guy, especially a guy that I think is more attractive than me etc. I get this this horrible pang of jealousy and doubt.\n\nThe worst thing is, I know it isn't rational. Recently I've started going out with a girl and I happened to see her talking with a guy in a group chat we share and that exact sting of jealousy/envy/I don't know what came over me once again, despite the fact that she has never talked to this guy physically and I'm going out on a fucking date with her on Saturday.\n\nI mean, what the fuck?\n\nI have to imagine this is my own insecurities. I know it's completely unfair on her, I know that it's completely unhealthy mindset for me to be in and I know that it may ultimately damage the relationship, but for the life of me I can't figure out what I should do. There's only so many times I can tell myself, \"This feeling is irrational and unfounded\" before I stop believing myself.\n\nAnyone have similar issues? Are there any solutions to this, or will I just have to deal with it?\n\nThanks a million", "How to get over crippling relationship insecurities. I have a bit of a problem. I've been aware of it for a long time, and I want to do something about it, because it's seriously fucking me up. Basically, whenever I'm in a fledgling relationship with a girl, or in a fully fledged relationship, whenever I see her talk to another guy, especially a guy that I think is more attractive than me etc. I get this this horrible pang of jealousy and doubt.\n\nThe worst thing is, I know it isn't rational. Recently I've started going out with a girl and I happened to see her talking with a guy in a group chat we share and that exact sting of jealousy/envy/I don't know what came over me once again, despite the fact that she has never talked to this guy physically and I'm going out on a fucking date with her on Saturday.\n\nI mean, what the fuck?\n\nI have to imagine this is my own insecurities. I know it's completely unfair on her, I know that it's completely unhealthy mindset for me to be in and I know that it may ultimately damage the relationship, but for the life of me I can't figure out what I should do. There's only so many times I can tell myself, \"This feeling is irrational and unfounded\" before I stop believing myself.\n\nAnyone have similar issues? Are there any solutions to this, or will I just have to deal with it?\n\nThanks a million" ]	[ "I was like this during one relationship and basically now don't care at all. When you feel that way just say to yourself if she cheats then she did you a favour because she helped you be one step closer to the girl you're meant to be with", "> I have to imagine this is my own insecurities. I know it's completely unfair on her, I know that it's completely unhealthy mindset for me to be in and I know that it may ultimately damage the relationship, but for the life of me I can't figure out what I should do.\n\nSounds like you are on the path. When you want to change intrusive behavior (unwanted thoughts) entering in your mind step one is to recognize them. You recognize your thoughts as if you were a third party and just try to watch them.\n\nStep two is to realize that these thoughts don't have power over you, they aren't 'you' they are your mind running rampant without control. Your mind is kind of like a river, you can either swim with that river, fight against it, let it take you where it wants, or you can simply get out of the river and take a step back to watch it flow by.\n\nYou have the power to choose what happens with that river of thoughts. You just need to learn how to swim first, and swim to a comfortable spot.", "not to be that guy but if they're going to cheat on you there's really nothing you can do about it. they're gonna cheat regardless of how well you treat them.\n\njust do your best.", "All that stuff about changing your mind from one of mindless competitive possessiveness to a more zen-like acceptance that her actions are up to her. Try to do things that make you more valuable. It can help. \n\nBad emotions are no excuse for bad behavior. Keep that in mind and you might still feel shitty until you get the jealousy trimmed back to a reasonable level, but you won't ruin your relationship over it. " ]	[ 9, 7, 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to Get Your Dog's Breath Tolerable We have two dogs that I love to play with and pet, but their breath is some of the worst I have ever smelled (man, I feel weird just typing this). My fiance and I tried green bones that clean their mouth, brushing their teeth, trying different foods, etc (for the record, they eat hard crunchy food, none of that Caesar wet dog food).\n\nEven with regular brushings their breath is horrendous. Some days are worse than others, but I am hoping someone might have an idea to consistently help them so it doesn't suck to lie around with them. Any help is appreciated.\n\nTL;DR: Dog's breath smells worse-than-shit; it comes and goes, but I hate it when it happens. Is there a way to stop it? I already tried Green Bones and toothpaste.", "How to Get Your Dog's Breath Tolerable We have two dogs that I love to play with and pet, but their breath is some of the worst I have ever smelled (man, I feel weird just typing this). My fiance and I tried green bones that clean their mouth, brushing their teeth, trying different foods, etc (for the record, they eat hard crunchy food, none of that Caesar wet dog food).\n\nEven with regular brushings their breath is horrendous. Some days are worse than others, but I am hoping someone might have an idea to consistently help them so it doesn't suck to lie around with them. Any help is appreciated.\n\nTL;DR: Dog's breath smells worse-than-shit; it comes and goes, but I hate it when it happens. Is there a way to stop it? I already tried Green Bones and toothpaste.", "How to Get Your Dog's Breath Tolerable We have two dogs that I love to play with and pet, but their breath is some of the worst I have ever smelled (man, I feel weird just typing this). My fiance and I tried green bones that clean their mouth, brushing their teeth, trying different foods, etc (for the record, they eat hard crunchy food, none of that Caesar wet dog food).\n\nEven with regular brushings their breath is horrendous. Some days are worse than others, but I am hoping someone might have an idea to consistently help them so it doesn't suck to lie around with them. Any help is appreciated.\n\nTL;DR: Dog's breath smells worse-than-shit; it comes and goes, but I hate it when it happens. Is there a way to stop it? I already tried Green Bones and toothpaste.", "How to Get Your Dog's Breath Tolerable We have two dogs that I love to play with and pet, but their breath is some of the worst I have ever smelled (man, I feel weird just typing this). My fiance and I tried green bones that clean their mouth, brushing their teeth, trying different foods, etc (for the record, they eat hard crunchy food, none of that Caesar wet dog food).\n\nEven with regular brushings their breath is horrendous. Some days are worse than others, but I am hoping someone might have an idea to consistently help them so it doesn't suck to lie around with them. Any help is appreciated.\n\nTL;DR: Dog's breath smells worse-than-shit; it comes and goes, but I hate it when it happens. Is there a way to stop it? I already tried Green Bones and toothpaste.", "How to Get Your Dog's Breath Tolerable We have two dogs that I love to play with and pet, but their breath is some of the worst I have ever smelled (man, I feel weird just typing this). My fiance and I tried green bones that clean their mouth, brushing their teeth, trying different foods, etc (for the record, they eat hard crunchy food, none of that Caesar wet dog food).\n\nEven with regular brushings their breath is horrendous. Some days are worse than others, but I am hoping someone might have an idea to consistently help them so it doesn't suck to lie around with them. Any help is appreciated.\n\nTL;DR: Dog's breath smells worse-than-shit; it comes and goes, but I hate it when it happens. Is there a way to stop it? I already tried Green Bones and toothpaste.", "How to Get Your Dog's Breath Tolerable We have two dogs that I love to play with and pet, but their breath is some of the worst I have ever smelled (man, I feel weird just typing this). My fiance and I tried green bones that clean their mouth, brushing their teeth, trying different foods, etc (for the record, they eat hard crunchy food, none of that Caesar wet dog food).\n\nEven with regular brushings their breath is horrendous. Some days are worse than others, but I am hoping someone might have an idea to consistently help them so it doesn't suck to lie around with them. Any help is appreciated.\n\nTL;DR: Dog's breath smells worse-than-shit; it comes and goes, but I hate it when it happens. Is there a way to stop it? I already tried Green Bones and toothpaste.", "How to Get Your Dog's Breath Tolerable We have two dogs that I love to play with and pet, but their breath is some of the worst I have ever smelled (man, I feel weird just typing this). My fiance and I tried green bones that clean their mouth, brushing their teeth, trying different foods, etc (for the record, they eat hard crunchy food, none of that Caesar wet dog food).\n\nEven with regular brushings their breath is horrendous. Some days are worse than others, but I am hoping someone might have an idea to consistently help them so it doesn't suck to lie around with them. Any help is appreciated.\n\nTL;DR: Dog's breath smells worse-than-shit; it comes and goes, but I hate it when it happens. Is there a way to stop it? I already tried Green Bones and toothpaste.", "How to Get Your Dog's Breath Tolerable We have two dogs that I love to play with and pet, but their breath is some of the worst I have ever smelled (man, I feel weird just typing this). My fiance and I tried green bones that clean their mouth, brushing their teeth, trying different foods, etc (for the record, they eat hard crunchy food, none of that Caesar wet dog food).\n\nEven with regular brushings their breath is horrendous. Some days are worse than others, but I am hoping someone might have an idea to consistently help them so it doesn't suck to lie around with them. Any help is appreciated.\n\nTL;DR: Dog's breath smells worse-than-shit; it comes and goes, but I hate it when it happens. Is there a way to stop it? I already tried Green Bones and toothpaste." ]	[ "How old are they? Bad breath can be indicative of [periodontal disease,](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Periodontal_disease) especially in older dogs. And yes, it can happen even with tooth brushing. :(\n\nGetting your dogs' teeth cleaned regularly is probably the best way to combat this (if it is gingivitis/periodontal disease). Talk to your vet about the health risks of the anesthesia.\n\nAlso, a veterinary check-up might be in order. Bad breath can be indicative of a wide, wide range of diseases, most of which you won't notice until something goes very wrong. Talk to your vet here. :)", "i saw some stuff on tv called Plaque Attack that's supposed to be just as good as a cleaning and freshens breath. just something you spray in their mouth. fairly inexpensive too. don't know if it works.", "Okay, this is late, but trying giving them a whole carrot every now and then. They chew on it and I read somewhere that it's a natural deodorizer and teeth cleaner. It worked for mine, but not indefinitely. ", "My parents fed our dog dry dog food her whole life, save for the scraps here and there and a can of wet dog food for Christmas. She had beautiful healthy teeth and her breath wasn't too bad. If parasites and other health problems can cause it (she only had arthritis in he later years) I would check on those first. Don't let anything go untreated!", "It may be they are eating something in your yard that is causing the smell. It is not unknown for dogs to eat faeces and vomit, and it certainly affects their breath.\nYou must find and eliminate the source! =P", "I know this link was posted almost a month ago but I remembered reading and commenting on it and wanted to add an update. I tried the Himalayan chewing sticks for my dog and he loved them, and it seemed to help remove some of the plaque and help his breath. ", "Check if the food you give them has SUGAR in it. Dogs don't react well to it because, well, obviously they don't brush teeth twice a day but bacteria is still there.\n\nSee if you can get food without sugar and try for a week.", "Id go with not putting chocolate and peanut butter on your nuts and having them lick it off before bed. That would probably help. " ]	[ 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to stop taking life seriously and be completely free from all the attachments? I've been worrying a lot lately about job security, breakups, relationships, money, death, etc. I take everything so seriously that I barely live. How can I let my happiness be independent from all those external factors and be happy from within?", "How to stop taking life seriously and be completely free from all the attachments? I've been worrying a lot lately about job security, breakups, relationships, money, death, etc. I take everything so seriously that I barely live. How can I let my happiness be independent from all those external factors and be happy from within?", "How to stop taking life seriously and be completely free from all the attachments? I've been worrying a lot lately about job security, breakups, relationships, money, death, etc. I take everything so seriously that I barely live. How can I let my happiness be independent from all those external factors and be happy from within?", "How to stop taking life seriously and be completely free from all the attachments? I've been worrying a lot lately about job security, breakups, relationships, money, death, etc. I take everything so seriously that I barely live. How can I let my happiness be independent from all those external factors and be happy from within?" ]	[ "The way I see it, there isn't any separation of the self with the experience that you are having. Most people believe that they deserve something better or different from their current situation, feeding the idea of this illusion of separation. Happiness from within is not something you can circumnavigate through the experiences that life throws at you. Realise that you and what you observe is a relationship. Life and your perspective of it is relative in nature and everything that you are experiencing is also experiencing you in return. You are already in the first step of self actualisation, where you are dissecting your experiences, but I would recommend not to distill it all into \"good\" and \"bad\" experiences. There is no separation. When you see it from a broader perspective and realise that your experiences, and the emotions that come through them, make you who you are, you feel a larger self that accumulates everything that surrounds you. Eventually, you will see yourself being a part of it all, and perhaps it will lead you to a place where you would understand the choices you make, and the experiences that follow, and maybe you will see that there's a certain purpose that you need to fulfil being where you are.\n\nThis, and the fact, that eventually you as an energy will cease to exist on this particular realm, and everything that you are worrying about will just disintegrate, and the new you will have no recollection of your current self or the understanding that came through it all. \n\nIt's just a ride.", "It's really tough trying to change how you think. Kudos to you for recognising you're having unhealthy thoughts. Have you tried CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy)? I found it really helpful as I have bad bouts of anxiety/depression. I can now realise when I am worrying about something in an unhealthy way.\n\nPersonally I've also tried to adopt the whole 'live in the now' idea. The past is the past, and it can’t be undone. The future is viewed in a similar way. No matter how much you plan or worry, the future will unfold and there’s nothing you can do about it. There’s no point in worrying about something that hasn’t happened yet! It’s not an easy thing to do and I still catch myself worrying about things, but now I try and stop it before it turns into a shame spiral. Shame spirals are the worst. \n", "You might want to sit down once a week with a notebook and have an official 'worry session'. Go over all the things that are bothering you. Brainstorm if there is anything you can do to improve the situation, if so what. Plan to do whatever things will help, put them on a list or calendar. Everything else now falls into the 'can't-change' category, just accept that 'it is what it is'. Hopefully some of the stress will be left on the paper instead of following you around constantly. \n\nOther things that can help are making time and plans to go have fun on a regular basis, take a kid somewhere to play, go out to a festival or take a day trip, etc. Don't get caught up in work-chores-worry every day. \n\nAnd a lot of people think if you can think once a day of one thing that you're grateful for, that that helps with feeling happy. A habit of being appreciative of what you have rather than focusing on what's wrong. ", "I'm reading The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle and throughly recommend it. I am lucky enough to have quite a mindful attitude to life anyway but this is filling in the gaps. Or emptying them maybe..." ]	[ 14, 3, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Getting Rid of Clothes Moths I started having a problem with moth holes appearing in my clothes a couple of years ago and went on an all-out war against them (washing all of my clothes and leaving them in the dryer for extended amounts of time). It worked for a little while but since then, they reappear from time to time and it's super annoying. If I don't wash a shirt immediately after wearing it, moth holes may appear. Most of my shirts have at least one or two small holes. I don't have the time to do my laundry every night, and I can't keep replacing my shirts.\n \nI've tried hanging up cedar blocks and lavender-scented blocks in my closet, but both wear out very quickly (probably a few months) and I'm tired of having to replace them. Does anyone here have any tips on how to eradicate them once and for all?", "Getting Rid of Clothes Moths I started having a problem with moth holes appearing in my clothes a couple of years ago and went on an all-out war against them (washing all of my clothes and leaving them in the dryer for extended amounts of time). It worked for a little while but since then, they reappear from time to time and it's super annoying. If I don't wash a shirt immediately after wearing it, moth holes may appear. Most of my shirts have at least one or two small holes. I don't have the time to do my laundry every night, and I can't keep replacing my shirts.\n \nI've tried hanging up cedar blocks and lavender-scented blocks in my closet, but both wear out very quickly (probably a few months) and I'm tired of having to replace them. Does anyone here have any tips on how to eradicate them once and for all?", "Getting Rid of Clothes Moths I started having a problem with moth holes appearing in my clothes a couple of years ago and went on an all-out war against them (washing all of my clothes and leaving them in the dryer for extended amounts of time). It worked for a little while but since then, they reappear from time to time and it's super annoying. If I don't wash a shirt immediately after wearing it, moth holes may appear. Most of my shirts have at least one or two small holes. I don't have the time to do my laundry every night, and I can't keep replacing my shirts.\n \nI've tried hanging up cedar blocks and lavender-scented blocks in my closet, but both wear out very quickly (probably a few months) and I'm tired of having to replace them. Does anyone here have any tips on how to eradicate them once and for all?" ]	[ "Go to the hardware store and buy some cedar planks and line the bottom of the closet with them and maybe the shelves, too. They do this in a lot of older closets, so it might work. It also is probably cheaper in the long-run than the tiny blocks that are specifically made for clothes. \n\nYou could also try putting your newly-washed clothes in garment bags if you decide to go for the mothballs. That way, the smell wouldn't get in them so bad, but they would still be protected from the moths. ", "Try mothballs. They have a pesticide in them. The only downside is that they smell awful, so once the moths are gone you're probably going to have to rewash all your clothes again, but it's a small price to pay for getting rid of the moths.", "Do you have cedar -balls- in your area? I've found them to be much more effective than cedar blocks, as they don't seem to lose their scent until almost a whole year is up. \nOther than that, I would agree with lining the bottom of your closet with cedar wood planks." ]	[ 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to meet new friends during COVID I moved to a new city JUST before covid took over and do not have any family or friends here. Been able to tough it out for the last 5 months, but isolation is freaking hard.\n\nI figured I'm probably not the only one feeling lonely in a new city. Please share your tips on friend-making during a pandemic.", "How to meet new friends during COVID I moved to a new city JUST before covid took over and do not have any family or friends here. Been able to tough it out for the last 5 months, but isolation is freaking hard.\n\nI figured I'm probably not the only one feeling lonely in a new city. Please share your tips on friend-making during a pandemic.", "How to meet new friends during COVID I moved to a new city JUST before covid took over and do not have any family or friends here. Been able to tough it out for the last 5 months, but isolation is freaking hard.\n\nI figured I'm probably not the only one feeling lonely in a new city. Please share your tips on friend-making during a pandemic." ]	[ "Do you like to play video games? Multi-player games might be a nice way to interact with some people and makes long distance friendships.\n\nIf you want to get to know people near you, try searching for Facebook events in the area. There might be a quizz via zoom, a yoga session, or whatever. It's not ideal, but it might be a nice way to virtually interact with some folks that you'll get to know afterwards.\n\nGood luck mate!", "I second meet up. I joined after a break up a couple of years ago. There's online events happening still! Think of what your interests are and see what's available.", "Some of this will have to wait until all restrictions are lifted but: \n\n-Some dating apps have a friend feature\n-join a local hobby group (painting class, workout class, hiking group, soccer team, video game club, book club, etc)\n-take a class \n-go sit at a bar, make appropriate convo with the bartenders and patrons \n-invite family/friends to visit you, and go out places (bars, restaurants, tourist places) \n-make friends through coworkers. \n-be yourself and do things you enjoy and you’ll find people who enjoy the same!" ]	[ 2, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to get friends to trust you? Anyone ever feel that you trust a friend more than they trust you? Would it be weird to tell them upfront that you feel this way? ", "How to get friends to trust you? Anyone ever feel that you trust a friend more than they trust you? Would it be weird to tell them upfront that you feel this way? ", "How to get friends to trust you? Anyone ever feel that you trust a friend more than they trust you? Would it be weird to tell them upfront that you feel this way? ", "How to get friends to trust you? Anyone ever feel that you trust a friend more than they trust you? Would it be weird to tell them upfront that you feel this way? ", "How to get friends to trust you? Anyone ever feel that you trust a friend more than they trust you? Would it be weird to tell them upfront that you feel this way? " ]	[ "It'd be dumb to say that. It sounds weird, right? Then it is. Don't say it.\n\nYou don't GET a true friend, or even a casual friend, to trust you. This sounds like you're needy and dependent on how they feel about you, and that makes you the problem.\n\nWhat you do is you COME TO DESERVE their trust through your actions over time. Be honest. Don't reveal confidences. Don't talk about them behind their back. \n\nThen trust comes naturally. If you try and force it, that just makes you look suspicious and needy, and it creates the opposite of trust.\n\nAnd if you're playing some \"I trust you more than you trust me\" game, you're playing the wrong game. Decent friends don't play those games.", "So one thing to understand is trust is built with time and it's different for everyone. You'll gain the trust of someone who has never had a bad thing happen to them a lot faster than someone who has gotten their shit stolen and has been backstabbed multiple times. Trust has to be earned and how it is earned is different for everyone.\n\nThat being said, I do have a lot of friends who just open up to me naturally and I feel there are some things you can do.\n\n1. Earning trust means giving trust. By this I mean I tell them something personal about me if they've shared something personal about them. It almost feels like we're trading secrets but it shouldn't really be viewed that way. You should be comfortable holding personal information about someone as much as you are giving up personal information to them.\n\n2. When someone asks to know something about someone that you feel the person wouldn't approve of, feel free to NOT tell them. I almost feel dumb mentioning this but I see a lot of people who just openly blabber stuff that I think to myself umm I wouldn't want this getting out if I told you about it wtf. Feel free to say something like \"Hey man I don't think I can share that. If you wanna know you can ask them yourself. I'd do the same for you if I felt something was personal to you.\" Usually they're pretty understanding and it says something about you.\n\n3. Don't talk shit about people. Or heavily avoid it. I have no fucking clue why people do this. I just know the people who do say that kind of stuff, I always find myself trusting them a little less.", "I've found being straightforward about what's bothering me without being too abrasive is good with the right people. Not so good with others... It can open the door to healthy conflict resolution and provide good perspective for both you and a friend. \n\nI knew someone who had trust issues from previous emotional traumas. I let them know how it was effecting me to not feel trusted and tried to show them they were safe with me. In the end, the best thing to do is to demonstrate trustworthy behavior... an actions speaking louder than words thing. ", "Tell them upfront. A true friend will be concerned about your feelings. Just try and avoid accusing them of doing anything intentionally.", "Bring something to the table. By that I mean.. What does your friend need? Support? Advice/help on a shared hobby? Also, ask people for small simple favors, like \"hey man can you pass me that thing that's just out of reach?\" They will rationalize that If they didn't like/trust you, they wouldn't go out of their way to help you." ]	[ 13, 3, 3, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "What is a quick trick to stay quiet and behaved at school? Hi guys,\n\nI need a simple trick to stay quiet and behaved at school. I need just one simple, effective trick before school starts this week. I'm really tired of everyone seeing me as annoying and irritating and loud. \n\nI just want one simple effective trick that will help me have self control and control my behaviour at school.\n\nThanks!", "What is a quick trick to stay quiet and behaved at school? Hi guys,\n\nI need a simple trick to stay quiet and behaved at school. I need just one simple, effective trick before school starts this week. I'm really tired of everyone seeing me as annoying and irritating and loud. \n\nI just want one simple effective trick that will help me have self control and control my behaviour at school.\n\nThanks!", "What is a quick trick to stay quiet and behaved at school? Hi guys,\n\nI need a simple trick to stay quiet and behaved at school. I need just one simple, effective trick before school starts this week. I'm really tired of everyone seeing me as annoying and irritating and loud. \n\nI just want one simple effective trick that will help me have self control and control my behaviour at school.\n\nThanks!", "What is a quick trick to stay quiet and behaved at school? Hi guys,\n\nI need a simple trick to stay quiet and behaved at school. I need just one simple, effective trick before school starts this week. I'm really tired of everyone seeing me as annoying and irritating and loud. \n\nI just want one simple effective trick that will help me have self control and control my behaviour at school.\n\nThanks!", "What is a quick trick to stay quiet and behaved at school? Hi guys,\n\nI need a simple trick to stay quiet and behaved at school. I need just one simple, effective trick before school starts this week. I'm really tired of everyone seeing me as annoying and irritating and loud. \n\nI just want one simple effective trick that will help me have self control and control my behaviour at school.\n\nThanks!", "What is a quick trick to stay quiet and behaved at school? Hi guys,\n\nI need a simple trick to stay quiet and behaved at school. I need just one simple, effective trick before school starts this week. I'm really tired of everyone seeing me as annoying and irritating and loud. \n\nI just want one simple effective trick that will help me have self control and control my behaviour at school.\n\nThanks!", "What is a quick trick to stay quiet and behaved at school? Hi guys,\n\nI need a simple trick to stay quiet and behaved at school. I need just one simple, effective trick before school starts this week. I'm really tired of everyone seeing me as annoying and irritating and loud. \n\nI just want one simple effective trick that will help me have self control and control my behaviour at school.\n\nThanks!", "What is a quick trick to stay quiet and behaved at school? Hi guys,\n\nI need a simple trick to stay quiet and behaved at school. I need just one simple, effective trick before school starts this week. I'm really tired of everyone seeing me as annoying and irritating and loud. \n\nI just want one simple effective trick that will help me have self control and control my behaviour at school.\n\nThanks!", "What is a quick trick to stay quiet and behaved at school? Hi guys,\n\nI need a simple trick to stay quiet and behaved at school. I need just one simple, effective trick before school starts this week. I'm really tired of everyone seeing me as annoying and irritating and loud. \n\nI just want one simple effective trick that will help me have self control and control my behaviour at school.\n\nThanks!" ]	[ "Before you do anything, ask yourself \"would an annoying idiot do this?\". If the answer is yes, then don't do that thing. ", "Start working on your sleep. A teenager needs about 9 hours of sleep as opposed to the usual reccommendation of 8 for adults. Being short on sleep impacts mood, mental focus, impulse control, and a ton of other things. Seriously, life is so much more manageable when your are facing it fully rested.", "What grade are you in? Maybe r/teenagers could help, but I don’t know if you’re talking about high school or college", "How old are you? do you have a ADHD diagnosis? I used to take my knitting to college class to help me pay attention and caffeine. If you notice caffeine calms you down and helps you focus, may be time to talk to a doctor. I usually bring a fidget something but some HS and MS ban taste they can be very noisy! I also use Arron's thinking putty", "I can flex my scrotum to imitate vocal chords and speak. But all it knows how to say is \"I'm in control now\" and then it beats me.", "As much a I try, I have not very good image at school but here's some advice that might work:\n\nCarry something around, a rock as I do, and fiddle with it in class. It helps you focus on the lesson while anything else is hard to do due to \"rock-focus\".\nIf somebody talks to you, just wave them away.\nTry to do good in at least one class, you'll figure out what works well.\n\nHappy classwork, my friend.", "Take a big deep breath and listen to some calming music. Smile, not the crazy smile 🤪 more like this one 😌", "I find chewing gum helps with my concentration and even anxiety at times. But if you’re having ongoing behavioral issues you should seek professional help, whether it be medication or just therapy. There might be an underlying cause for your disruptive behavior. ", "Channel it into positivity and be mature in your remarks. I've always been obnoxious, but I didn't quite get the hang of using it to my advantage until college. Also, don't speak when the instructor is speaking. People are there primarily to listen to them. In college they are even paying for it. Don't change who you are. Just channel your characteristics into positive aspects." ]	[ 11, 6, 5, 5, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How can I make my desk more comfortable for my wrists? My wrists get very uncomfortable on my desk. How can I add some pillows or something to improve the quality of life on the desk for my wrists? Is there some sort of gel pad I can add to my desk? My entire forearms need support for this to work.", "How can I make my desk more comfortable for my wrists? My wrists get very uncomfortable on my desk. How can I add some pillows or something to improve the quality of life on the desk for my wrists? Is there some sort of gel pad I can add to my desk? My entire forearms need support for this to work.", "How can I make my desk more comfortable for my wrists? My wrists get very uncomfortable on my desk. How can I add some pillows or something to improve the quality of life on the desk for my wrists? Is there some sort of gel pad I can add to my desk? My entire forearms need support for this to work." ]	[ "There are gel strips you can buy that pillow you wrists from your desk.\nBut the real goal you should strive for is keeping your wrists of the desk in the first place. It's better for your joints and helps to prevent carpal tunnel syndrome. Also, while we are on the subject of office work, make sure you stand up and stretch for a bit (like 2 minutes at least) to help your back, legs, and blood pressure.", "Look for a natural position to maintain your arms. Also, pause frequently, relax, and do some exercise routine with them. Don't let your wrists to always bear the weight of your hands. Even better, find expert assistance to evaluate your work area and habits.", "I work on a computer all day, and spend lots of time on my home computer after work. I find these to help my aching wrists. [Zensah Wrist Support](http://www.amazon.com/Zensah-Compression-Wrist-Support-Sleeve/dp/B00LJXRRA8?ie=UTF8&keywords=Zensah%20wrist&qid=1465349903&ref_=sr_1_1&sr=8-1)" ]	[ 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to become a morning person? I want to enjoy the morning and have those extra hours in my day but i just cant get myself to actually want to get up when its early. If i am able to (no appointments to be at) then i WILL sleep in. What are some tricks to help me train myself to be the morning person kind of guy?", "How to become a morning person? I want to enjoy the morning and have those extra hours in my day but i just cant get myself to actually want to get up when its early. If i am able to (no appointments to be at) then i WILL sleep in. What are some tricks to help me train myself to be the morning person kind of guy?", "How to become a morning person? I want to enjoy the morning and have those extra hours in my day but i just cant get myself to actually want to get up when its early. If i am able to (no appointments to be at) then i WILL sleep in. What are some tricks to help me train myself to be the morning person kind of guy?", "How to become a morning person? I want to enjoy the morning and have those extra hours in my day but i just cant get myself to actually want to get up when its early. If i am able to (no appointments to be at) then i WILL sleep in. What are some tricks to help me train myself to be the morning person kind of guy?", "How to become a morning person? I want to enjoy the morning and have those extra hours in my day but i just cant get myself to actually want to get up when its early. If i am able to (no appointments to be at) then i WILL sleep in. What are some tricks to help me train myself to be the morning person kind of guy?", "How to become a morning person? I want to enjoy the morning and have those extra hours in my day but i just cant get myself to actually want to get up when its early. If i am able to (no appointments to be at) then i WILL sleep in. What are some tricks to help me train myself to be the morning person kind of guy?", "How to become a morning person? I want to enjoy the morning and have those extra hours in my day but i just cant get myself to actually want to get up when its early. If i am able to (no appointments to be at) then i WILL sleep in. What are some tricks to help me train myself to be the morning person kind of guy?", "How to become a morning person? I want to enjoy the morning and have those extra hours in my day but i just cant get myself to actually want to get up when its early. If i am able to (no appointments to be at) then i WILL sleep in. What are some tricks to help me train myself to be the morning person kind of guy?", "How to become a morning person? I want to enjoy the morning and have those extra hours in my day but i just cant get myself to actually want to get up when its early. If i am able to (no appointments to be at) then i WILL sleep in. What are some tricks to help me train myself to be the morning person kind of guy?", "How to become a morning person? I want to enjoy the morning and have those extra hours in my day but i just cant get myself to actually want to get up when its early. If i am able to (no appointments to be at) then i WILL sleep in. What are some tricks to help me train myself to be the morning person kind of guy?", "How to become a morning person? I want to enjoy the morning and have those extra hours in my day but i just cant get myself to actually want to get up when its early. If i am able to (no appointments to be at) then i WILL sleep in. What are some tricks to help me train myself to be the morning person kind of guy?", "How to become a morning person? I want to enjoy the morning and have those extra hours in my day but i just cant get myself to actually want to get up when its early. If i am able to (no appointments to be at) then i WILL sleep in. What are some tricks to help me train myself to be the morning person kind of guy?", "How to become a morning person? I want to enjoy the morning and have those extra hours in my day but i just cant get myself to actually want to get up when its early. If i am able to (no appointments to be at) then i WILL sleep in. What are some tricks to help me train myself to be the morning person kind of guy?", "How to become a morning person? I want to enjoy the morning and have those extra hours in my day but i just cant get myself to actually want to get up when its early. If i am able to (no appointments to be at) then i WILL sleep in. What are some tricks to help me train myself to be the morning person kind of guy?", "How to become a morning person? I want to enjoy the morning and have those extra hours in my day but i just cant get myself to actually want to get up when its early. If i am able to (no appointments to be at) then i WILL sleep in. What are some tricks to help me train myself to be the morning person kind of guy?", "How to become a morning person? I want to enjoy the morning and have those extra hours in my day but i just cant get myself to actually want to get up when its early. If i am able to (no appointments to be at) then i WILL sleep in. What are some tricks to help me train myself to be the morning person kind of guy?", "How to become a morning person? I want to enjoy the morning and have those extra hours in my day but i just cant get myself to actually want to get up when its early. If i am able to (no appointments to be at) then i WILL sleep in. What are some tricks to help me train myself to be the morning person kind of guy?", "How to become a morning person? I want to enjoy the morning and have those extra hours in my day but i just cant get myself to actually want to get up when its early. If i am able to (no appointments to be at) then i WILL sleep in. What are some tricks to help me train myself to be the morning person kind of guy?", "How to become a morning person? I want to enjoy the morning and have those extra hours in my day but i just cant get myself to actually want to get up when its early. If i am able to (no appointments to be at) then i WILL sleep in. What are some tricks to help me train myself to be the morning person kind of guy?", "How to become a morning person? I want to enjoy the morning and have those extra hours in my day but i just cant get myself to actually want to get up when its early. If i am able to (no appointments to be at) then i WILL sleep in. What are some tricks to help me train myself to be the morning person kind of guy?", "How to become a morning person? I want to enjoy the morning and have those extra hours in my day but i just cant get myself to actually want to get up when its early. If i am able to (no appointments to be at) then i WILL sleep in. What are some tricks to help me train myself to be the morning person kind of guy?", "How to become a morning person? I want to enjoy the morning and have those extra hours in my day but i just cant get myself to actually want to get up when its early. If i am able to (no appointments to be at) then i WILL sleep in. What are some tricks to help me train myself to be the morning person kind of guy?" ]	[ "Force yourself to go to bed a little earlier each day. Eventually you will develop a rhythm and have a set sleep/wake cycle.", " During or after basic morning necessities (eat, clean, dress), do something you like (Listen to a podcast/anime album, or go play rhythm games on yer PSP if you take public transit like me) Videos don't usually wake you up as they are a normally very passive experience.\n\nIf you give yourself something to look forwards to in the morning, you end up liking it better.\n\nThink like this, if you had sex every morning, would you not look forwards to every morning? Now, I am not saying getting a 100% SS rank in DJ MAX is equal to sex, but it's pretty damn close.", "I have been getting up at roughly 430am for the past 3 years and driving about an hour to work. In all that time I still detest getting up in the morning but hate working any other shift that days because my family. If I take any amount of time off work I can be back on a 3rd shift schedule in a couple days, I think that is just natural for me and I think unfortunately some people are just predisposed to function better at certain times and never really become a so called morning person.", "have at least one thing to look forward to just right after you wake up: e.g. homemade breakfast, or the nice coffee you like or a bit of music. \n\nIt always helps me if I want to wake up early. ;)", "Waking up at the same time every morning is more important than going to bed at the same time every night. That being said, have a pre-bed routine and a morning routine. Our body learns through repetition, eventually your body will be used to waking up at that time and will be ready to go for the day :)", "Wake up as early as you can and then stare at bright light. This will rewire you sleep cycle forcing you to wake up early.", "This works for me: Force yourself the first day to wake up early and go to the gym/run/walk (exercise) and try to do that in the mornings as consistently as you can, you'll feel pretty tired come 9pm-ish. The other main thing that I take into account is how much late night TV/web browsing I consume. I try and do that during the day on my phone during lunch and whatnot, as it is a stimulant and will keep you up. Some people recommend changing your diet, like removing carbs, etc. But, I know nothing about that. Hope this helps.\n\nAlso, a little motivation: A survey of various questions was taken from a large number of Fortune 500 CEO's. One of the only lifestyle traits they could correlate was 'Early to bed, early to rise.' Perhaps due to its effects on your circadian rhythm.", "Move your alarm clock across the room - so you have to get up + out of bed to turn it off. After a few weeks you will wake up normally at the time you want. ", "It boils down to discipline and convincing your mind that it's all good.\n\nCreate a ritual in the morning to ease into the day, e.g.\n\n1. wake up\n\n2. brush your teeth\n\n3. take a shower\n\n4. change into a new set of clothes (this one is particularly effective!)\n\n5. have a coffee, etc\n\nUse such activities to signal to your brain that it's time to start doing things.\n\nAnother thing that might help is to do \"brain exercises\" each morning to increase communication between the two hemispheres of the brain, e.g. drawing an imaginary 'infinity' symbol with your fingers a couple of times. Google for more examples.", "I try to calculate it out in rem cycles. roughly at least. divide the time I have till I want to get up by 1.5 and add a little for passing out. So if i want to be up at 6 ill shoot for 10:15 (1.5 * 5 + 15 min) or 11:45 (1.5 * 4 + 15 min) I feel like waking up at a the end of a rem cycle is better than in the middle, I believe its scientifically proven. \n\nThere is also this approach too, which I approve of.\nhttp://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/04/how-to-get-up-right-away-when-your-alarm-goes-off/", "I think that setting different alarms for each day in a span of 10 minutes works well. So if you need to wake up around 8 have the alarm at 755 monday 802 tuesday 805 wednesday etc. After a while you start to naturally wake up around that time not just being able to predict an alarm. Also, someone mentioned earlier that the alarm should be across the room so you have to get up and walk across the room to turn it off. Of course no snoozing because that defeats the whole purpose of an alarm. Showering in the morning can feel really nice and if you are willing to go cold shock you awake quickly. I'm naturally an early riser but this helped me re-establish waking up at 730 after a year and a half of training to sleep in till 10 am. ", "I have three alarms in the morning. Alarm one, up and out of bed. Alarm two, into the shower. Alarm three, out of the shower. By then I'm moving enough to make coffee and get ready for the day. It also means I can't snooze, and snoozing is the enemy of good waking habits.", "Having something making me get up everyday early in the morning has made me a better morning person. Due to work, school and hobbies I was out the door by 8 latest (usually 7.30) every single day and now I can't stay in bed past 9 (but even that lie-in is nice when it rarely happens). Try and find a hobby that you can do early in the morning to make you get up earlier.", "Go to sleep earlier. That was always my problem. I'd still go to bed at 12 am and think that I could get up at 6am now instead of 8am. You need to get 7 or 8 hours so go to bed earlier. It helped me.", "Get rid of the snooze alarm. Pop-up with energy, it's completely a mind-set. If you wake and go you quickly become a morning person.", "Get nose pierced and then when your alarm goes off just rip the piercing out while rubbing your eyes. Seems to do the job for me.", "For me getting up at the desired time does the trick. The first days I don´t sleep much as I´m not getting sleepy early but after a few days of waking up at 8 am I will get sleepy in the right time. ", "Exercise early in the morning. Force yourself to get out of bed at 6am then jump on your bike and go for a 5 mile bikeride. By the time you get back you'll feel like you've been awake for hours and you'll be a little fitter because of it. ", "Create a morning routine for yourself that you mostly enjoy getting up for.\n\nGet out if bed and stretch. Never lay back down again.\n\nDo yoga/exercise. Have a tasty breakfast. Read/watch the news. Expose yourself to sun light.", "* Have a schedule. Always get up at exactly the same time, every day (well, except for weekends); also, go to sleep early in the night and try to do it around the same time.\n* Don't use snooze button. When the alarm goes on, just get on your feet.\n* Place your alarm somewhere far from reach, so that you have to get up to turn it off.\n* Cook something for breakfast. Take a shower. Have some bright light while doing your morning routine. Turn on your radio or TV. Play some music while you prepare your coffee.\n\nUltimately, it's a matter of will.", "One thing that might help: stop drinking caffeinated drinks. Caffeine is a drug and because you aren't consuming any of it through the night, when you wake, you're experiencing withdrawal. A cup of coffee or tea will fix this after an hour or two, but if you rid yourself of the caffeine dependency, you won't feel so rough in the mornings.\n\nExpect headaches as you do caffeine cold turkey, though.", "Set your alarm for 4:30 am and get up at 4:30 am every morning. Go to sleep at a time that is appropriate for someone who has to get up at 430 am...\n\nReally not that difficult." ]	[ 4, 4, 3, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, -3 ]	safe
[ "Interview tips for a student placement I have my first ever interview for a student placement approaching fast. Any tips or techniques that can make me stand out from other candidates? ", "Interview tips for a student placement I have my first ever interview for a student placement approaching fast. Any tips or techniques that can make me stand out from other candidates? " ]	[ "Some tips that helped land me a job that I was underqualified for: \n-Be polite. Courteous. Punctual. \n \n-Compliment the employees to other employees. (You should aim to make them look good in front of other people, you are basically being a wingman for them in the office. If you make them look good, they will like you that much more. Do not compliment based on appearance, compliment their work ethics. eg. Sarah is a wonderful host and has been very informative) \n \n-Dress to impress. \n \n-Don't accept anything the interviewer offers you (eg water, they do this for every person, and it becomes a hassle) \n \n-Be confident, sit up-right. \n \n-Don't ask pre-thoughtout questions (What is a typical day like?). Ask something that you are genuinely curious about (What program does your company use to complete task 'A'? Now you can say Oh! I know that program, or I have experience using something similar. Expand on the topic). LISTEN AND CONTRIBUTE. \n \n-Don't lie, talk about experiences that correlate well to what you will be doing. \n \n-At the end of everything, GET THEIR BUSINESS CARD. Call or send them an e-mail to let them know you appreciate them for taking their valuable time to interview you. Know when to hear back from them.", "Stay calm and don't rehearse, you never know what they might ask, plenty of confidence and have interesting things to say." ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do you make a long distance relationship work? Coming up in the next 7 or 8 months my girlfriend and I will be going off to college... 4 hours away from each other. I really don't want to have to end this when we go our separate ways. I've heard a lot of people say that they (LDRs) just don't/can't work but I truly want it to because man I'd be lying if I said I wasn't absolutely in love with this girl. I don't want to bring it up yet because I hate the thought of it, but I know I'll need to at some point. Any advice is appreciated, thanks.", "How do you make a long distance relationship work? Coming up in the next 7 or 8 months my girlfriend and I will be going off to college... 4 hours away from each other. I really don't want to have to end this when we go our separate ways. I've heard a lot of people say that they (LDRs) just don't/can't work but I truly want it to because man I'd be lying if I said I wasn't absolutely in love with this girl. I don't want to bring it up yet because I hate the thought of it, but I know I'll need to at some point. Any advice is appreciated, thanks.", "How do you make a long distance relationship work? Coming up in the next 7 or 8 months my girlfriend and I will be going off to college... 4 hours away from each other. I really don't want to have to end this when we go our separate ways. I've heard a lot of people say that they (LDRs) just don't/can't work but I truly want it to because man I'd be lying if I said I wasn't absolutely in love with this girl. I don't want to bring it up yet because I hate the thought of it, but I know I'll need to at some point. Any advice is appreciated, thanks.", "How do you make a long distance relationship work? Coming up in the next 7 or 8 months my girlfriend and I will be going off to college... 4 hours away from each other. I really don't want to have to end this when we go our separate ways. I've heard a lot of people say that they (LDRs) just don't/can't work but I truly want it to because man I'd be lying if I said I wasn't absolutely in love with this girl. I don't want to bring it up yet because I hate the thought of it, but I know I'll need to at some point. Any advice is appreciated, thanks.", "How do you make a long distance relationship work? Coming up in the next 7 or 8 months my girlfriend and I will be going off to college... 4 hours away from each other. I really don't want to have to end this when we go our separate ways. I've heard a lot of people say that they (LDRs) just don't/can't work but I truly want it to because man I'd be lying if I said I wasn't absolutely in love with this girl. I don't want to bring it up yet because I hate the thought of it, but I know I'll need to at some point. Any advice is appreciated, thanks.", "How do you make a long distance relationship work? Coming up in the next 7 or 8 months my girlfriend and I will be going off to college... 4 hours away from each other. I really don't want to have to end this when we go our separate ways. I've heard a lot of people say that they (LDRs) just don't/can't work but I truly want it to because man I'd be lying if I said I wasn't absolutely in love with this girl. I don't want to bring it up yet because I hate the thought of it, but I know I'll need to at some point. Any advice is appreciated, thanks.", "How do you make a long distance relationship work? Coming up in the next 7 or 8 months my girlfriend and I will be going off to college... 4 hours away from each other. I really don't want to have to end this when we go our separate ways. I've heard a lot of people say that they (LDRs) just don't/can't work but I truly want it to because man I'd be lying if I said I wasn't absolutely in love with this girl. I don't want to bring it up yet because I hate the thought of it, but I know I'll need to at some point. Any advice is appreciated, thanks.", "How do you make a long distance relationship work? Coming up in the next 7 or 8 months my girlfriend and I will be going off to college... 4 hours away from each other. I really don't want to have to end this when we go our separate ways. I've heard a lot of people say that they (LDRs) just don't/can't work but I truly want it to because man I'd be lying if I said I wasn't absolutely in love with this girl. I don't want to bring it up yet because I hate the thought of it, but I know I'll need to at some point. Any advice is appreciated, thanks.", "How do you make a long distance relationship work? Coming up in the next 7 or 8 months my girlfriend and I will be going off to college... 4 hours away from each other. I really don't want to have to end this when we go our separate ways. I've heard a lot of people say that they (LDRs) just don't/can't work but I truly want it to because man I'd be lying if I said I wasn't absolutely in love with this girl. I don't want to bring it up yet because I hate the thought of it, but I know I'll need to at some point. Any advice is appreciated, thanks.", "How do you make a long distance relationship work? Coming up in the next 7 or 8 months my girlfriend and I will be going off to college... 4 hours away from each other. I really don't want to have to end this when we go our separate ways. I've heard a lot of people say that they (LDRs) just don't/can't work but I truly want it to because man I'd be lying if I said I wasn't absolutely in love with this girl. I don't want to bring it up yet because I hate the thought of it, but I know I'll need to at some point. Any advice is appreciated, thanks.", "How do you make a long distance relationship work? Coming up in the next 7 or 8 months my girlfriend and I will be going off to college... 4 hours away from each other. I really don't want to have to end this when we go our separate ways. I've heard a lot of people say that they (LDRs) just don't/can't work but I truly want it to because man I'd be lying if I said I wasn't absolutely in love with this girl. I don't want to bring it up yet because I hate the thought of it, but I know I'll need to at some point. Any advice is appreciated, thanks." ]	[ "A fraction of a percent of the friends / people I knew that had LDRs made their relationship last the first year. And I knew a lot of people that had them, including myself. \n\nThe only LDRs that I've heard of were when they had a definitive time period set for when the long distance part would end. College doesn't work that way, unfortunately. \n\nTwo things happened with those that had them going into college: they either \"changed a lot\" or they moped about not taking advantage of the great experiences they could be having. In the first case you start making new friends and eventually you talk less and less until it just kinda dissolves. In the second scenario, one person or both is always driving home on the weekends. And you don't get to enjoy college life at all. You don't learn and grow up and do all those things that are important to do while in college. \n\n", "Make sure you spend enough time focusing on yourself, instead of being attached to your phone or computer 24/7 trying to communicate with your partner. Whether or not the relationship works out, you'll be glad you stuck with your passions/goals/desires/etc. in the end.\n\nEnergy invested in yourself will make you happy with yourself, which will help you be happy in your relationship.", "I met a woman on the last weekend I was going to be in Australia. Something really clicked between us. Flew back to new York. We stayed in touch. This was in 1989. So no Internet. Spent six months writing when letters took two weeks to get a reply. Phone calls were a dollar a minute. But it also gave us time. We talked about our feelings, we got to know each other. Then I came back to Australia and lived with her and her daughter for six months. Then went back to America for five months, sold everything that couldn't be shipped and came back. Married her. That was 26 years ago. We are still married. \n\nSo it is possible. \n\nSo have DEEP conversations when you are writing or speaking. \n\nWork out the details of the \"contract\" are you going to be exclusive or are \"Fuck buddies\" ok?\n\nOne thing my daughter did when she was in an ldr is she took a video camera to her work and introduced her fellow to all her co-workers. That way he could put faces to all the names. \n\n", "Skype is one way. I had a room-mate whose girlfriend went to school in Nebraska, while he went to engineering school in Texas. It requires a level of mutual commitment. If that commitment isn't there, it's better to end the relationship than for one party to suffer. \n\nCollege is a huge time of change in a young person's life and you both might not be the same people you were when you started out. My younger brother and his super cute girlfriend called it quits exactly for this reason. I would advise you to be open-minded about ending the relationship. I know of many HS relationships that ended in flames because college. In one notable relationship, a guy and his gf left Maine went to the same school in Texas. His financial aid fell through, and she slept with--and married his room-mate. \n\nAm currently in a LDR with a woman in New York City, and weirdly it kind of works. Communicate. Communicate. Communicate. Am in Oklahoma. Have gone to see her multiple times. She's come to see me too. But we're both not at the entering-school phase of life.", "It's college, ya'll better have a good amount of trust built up because the temptations will be aplenty.\n\nI'm a student in a coop program so I move every 4 months, tried doing LDR for the first year. Coincidentally that year saw my lowest average and I didn't know many of my classmates very well.\n\nLDR in college can be positive and I really liked the girl I had in first year too but distance is really hard, depending on your relationship/partner it may work out better.\n\nJust my perspective on the issue, not saying its a rule of thumb.", "I would go with not building or expecting certain forced things, like a phone call everyday, or a good morning message every morning etc. College is the time to grow and experience new things and making such forced traditions only leads to loss of interest because eventually you stop to mean it. What i would suggest is, meet as often as you can and keep the sex life healthy (even through phone calls or video calls).\nMost importantly, be prepared for things to dwindle down and don't loose morale if it does. You don't want to miss a year of college just moping around.\ntl;dr:\n1. Don't make daily tradiotios that must be stuck to\n2. Meet as often as possible (4 hours ain't bad)\n3. Have a lot of phone sex\n4. Be prepared and build your w=own life alongside ", "I was in a long distance relationship for 6 years with one girl than 1 year with the next one... shit sucks.\n\n\nSkype works well of course and try and have the deepest conversations you can but everything is easier to just be single instead, no matter how much you love this person, long distance is just exhausting", "I was in a long distance relationship for 2 years, back before skype and everything that everyone else is talking about now. The engagement is when things went sour (long story short: her parents - Russian/Ukranian - didn't like the idea of her marrying a member of the US military and caused enough of an issue after she said 'yes' that we realized she'd either have to disown her family, or find someone else - when I heard that she had to pick me or her family, I backed off.. I can't force someone into that decision). Here's a list of tips in the order of importance, in my opinion:\n\n- Trust. If you can't trust one another, it's over - end of statement. If you have ever had even the slightest theory that she might have cheated on you while you've been in the same location.. it won't work long distance.\n\n- Communication. This is a two-pronged statement. First and foremost is the one that everyone would likely guess right away - tell each other what's going on and things like that. The other is that you don't have to communicate 24/7, or even every day. I can't tell you how many days we went where the only communication was a short email saying \"I miss you.\"\n\n- Monotony. Long distance relationships are VERY monotonous because you can't spontaneously say \"hey, lets go bowling!\" You have to combat it from the start. Something I did on occasion was record myself (audio mostly.. then toasters that we called webcams came along) playing bass to a song that SHE liked (not me). Always do something extraordinarily special for the special days (birthday, valentine's day, etc). Flowers and small gifts (ie: teddy bears) are for random occasions.. not the special days. The best \"special occasion\" gift that I can think of probably isn't a good one for your scenario, but I showed up without telling her I was coming. I think she would've agreed that was the best gift. With skype, you might do something like eating a nice dinner together.. remotely, and things like that (maybe pay a service to bring her the nice dinner.. here in my home town the service is known by their phone number - 742-DINE).\n\n- When you can, meet up somewhere to spend some well-needed time together. She was in Niagara Falls, Ontario .. I was in Florida. Sometimes she'd come down to visit me. Sometimes I'd go see her. Sometimes we'd meet in the middle (I'd take leave for the weekend). \n\nLong distance relationships are extremely tough. I'm sure there's plenty more that will be important, but those are the ones that I felt were the most important. If you have any questions feel free to ask here or pm me.", "I think the biggest thing is to keep a balance between your partner and your college life. You want to make sure you keep in touch, but you also don't want to be so attached to one another that you miss out on new experiences.\n\nI was in an LDR for most of college (it ended last spring, but not because of the distance). My ex and I kept a kind of constant but low-key text conversation going. It was the sort of thing where I'd text him whenever I had something to tell him, but not expect a response for awhile. If he happened to be free, great, but if not then that was fine. It helped me feel not so far away from him, but also not tied down (I never felt like I had to drop what I was doing to text him.) We also always sent good morning and goodnight texts, but it wasn't a rule, we just liked to.\n\nPlan Skype dates with your girlfriend. I think the best way to do it is to make them infrequent, but a priority. Then you can also Skype or talk on the phone casually if you're both around and miss each other. And assuming you'll both go home during breaks, make each other a priority.\n\nAlso, just be really open and honest with each other. Talk about your worries once you get closer to the separation. Once you're at school, tell each other if you're feeling stifled or neglected. All relationships are complicated, but if it's really important to you two to stay together, you can make it work.", "I don't think that long distance relationships work beacuse of me, i need to feel the person near to me. But I heard many stories about long distance relationship that work, they talk a lot. The confidence is the key", "Been in one for seven years now. Talk every day, even if some days it's just a five minute good night call. Skype or some other program is always helpful. Be honest. More honest than you are now, however honest that is. I know when my fiance likes a girl by how he's talking about her, and it actually makes me feel better for him to admit it. There's a LPT about working through crushes that I think can help here.\n\n\nSet an end date. Do you plan on grad school? You should be trying to graduate on time. Plan trips as frequently as you can afford. I come up to see him for a few months every summer/winter break, but we live across the country from each other, you can probably do shorter, more frequent trips.\n\n\nHave a social life. You don't need each other 24/7. Just communicate your plans, when you'll be out. Toss her a text for spontaneous outings.\n\n\nThese all apply to her as well. Sometimes it's rough, because my impulse to end inevitable fights is physical affection and I can't do that long distance, but if you work it out, it's nice and stable.\n\n\nAs far as sex, do what you need. If she's got hangups about you watching porn, you need to have a conversation about why. You're gonna need some outlet. Set boundaries clearly about when being close to another person is cheating to you/her.\n\n\nFind stuff to do together. If one or both of you isn't into video games this is harder, but you need to find some things to do.\n\n\nGood luck. I hope the relationship lasts as long as you two are healthy and happy with it." ]	[ 4, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to not offend someone that says something you do not believe to be true Yesterday I was hanging out with a friend and his friends. They started telling me about their UFO experiences and things like that. I personally do not believe in any of those, but it feels like when I told him, he was be a little upset because it's something HE saw. I can only realize that if I told him I saw an eagle the other day and he would immediately doubt it I would also be upset. Do you simply lie about it and pretend you totally believe him ? (I usually prefer honesty)", "How to not offend someone that says something you do not believe to be true Yesterday I was hanging out with a friend and his friends. They started telling me about their UFO experiences and things like that. I personally do not believe in any of those, but it feels like when I told him, he was be a little upset because it's something HE saw. I can only realize that if I told him I saw an eagle the other day and he would immediately doubt it I would also be upset. Do you simply lie about it and pretend you totally believe him ? (I usually prefer honesty)", "How to not offend someone that says something you do not believe to be true Yesterday I was hanging out with a friend and his friends. They started telling me about their UFO experiences and things like that. I personally do not believe in any of those, but it feels like when I told him, he was be a little upset because it's something HE saw. I can only realize that if I told him I saw an eagle the other day and he would immediately doubt it I would also be upset. Do you simply lie about it and pretend you totally believe him ? (I usually prefer honesty)" ]	[ "There may be no denying they saw what they thought they saw...doesn't mean they saw what they thought they saw. Make sense? I've always just thought they believe it, don't make fun, but you can say things like 'I believe you, but I'm sure there's a logical/scientific explanation that we will never know for sure.' May be that their brain took incomplete visual information and made sense of it in their own way.", "Ok, I am reading you as someone who wants to be tactful while maintaining your own integrity and self-respect. This is an art! Here are some ideas that you can adapt to your own style and situation. \n\nIf you can comment in sociable ways that do not affirm or deny what the person said, you can roll along with the conversation without lying. Examples: \"I have not read much about UFOs\" or \"Won't that be something to tell your grandchildren?\" or \"Where is that smartphone with video camera when you need it?\"\n\nIf they flat out ask you if you \"agree\" that they saw it, one way to dodge conflict is to provide a friendly non-answer, like, \"Wouldn't you like to know?\" (very very jokingly) or even \"Wow, I just have no answer for that,\" or \"That is too outside of my experience to comment on.\"\n\nIf they pressure you to answer, or pressure you to say you believe (i.e., they indicate that they will be \"insulted\" if you do not give an opinion, or \"insulted\" if you do not believe them), then their behaviour to you is not respectful or emotionally healthy for either you or them. You could call them on that, lightly - \"Wow, lots of pressure here!\" If they get all wounded and say, \"You do not trust me,\" the lightest thing you can say, I think, is something like, \"on this matter I choose to reserve my opinion for now, I hope you can accept that.\" \n\nWell, they can always choose not to accept that, but that is their call, and not something you need to feel guilty or bad about.\n\nI think the key to carrying this all off successfully is remembering that they SHOULD know that, even if they do really believe in UFOs, expecting an average human being to believe in UFOs is a bit absurd. \n\nGood luck! \n", "I'm not sure how to say this nicely, but you're wrong. \n\nFirst, you don’t know the first thing UFO's. The first thing about UFO is what the letters stand for: unidentified flying object.\n\nSo if someone says they saw a UFO and you doubt them, I honestly don’t see how you can support your opinion. \n\nDid the person see SOMETHING? Yes\n\nIs that something an OBJECT? Yes\n\nWas that object FLYING? Yes\n\nCan you identify that object? No\n\nThen, by definition, that person saw a UFO.\n\nAnd that's why you are wrong.\n\nNow, was that UFO related to some extraterrestrial being? That's an entirely different question from was it a UFO. \n\nSo, to be clear, just because something is a UFO, doesn't mean it is related to aliens. " ]	[ 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "Overcoming a mental block during sports? Hey, guys, I've been having a bit of an issue lately with keeping focus in my favorite sport, which is supposed to be one of my main stress relief outlets. I'm not sure if this is the right sub for this kind of question, but I'd appreciate any ideas you guys have.\n\nIt seems that if I get angry about something during a game, I can't turn it off, and this affects my play. I take deep breaths, I rationalize with myself, all to no avail.\n\nFor example, during my volleyball match recently, one of my teammates showed up late wearing denim shorts. She has been late pretty consistently lately and even missed a bunch of games on short notice, and her play has been distracted. I know she has been going through some things lately, so it never really bothered me that she was distracted. However, when she suddenly showed up wearing denim shorts, I got so angry I pretty much shut down. I felt demoralized that she could care so little.\n\nBut it isn't just this teammate. When I play with my SO, if we get even a little bit frustrated, he seems to be able to shake it off after a couple of plays, but I can't. If I play an opposing player that does something really rude or unethical, I have been having trouble shrugging it off.\n\nSometimes getting frustrated with myself has the same effect - I'm less able to shake off my mistakes than I used to be. Accepting responsibility is one thing - letting it nag on is a problem I've been having.\n\nI am a competitive person, and I like that about myself and don't want to change that. What I want to change is this cloud of anger or frustration that rises up in me in-game. It is okay to be frustrated with someone, but it isn't okay to let it affect your game. \n\nAny ideas on how I can fix this? For example, playing as if one point is an individual game has usually helped me in the past, but sometimes it doesn't seem to be enough.\n\nTL;DR: How to overcome an anger or frustration block that comes up in the middle of playing a sport.", "Overcoming a mental block during sports? Hey, guys, I've been having a bit of an issue lately with keeping focus in my favorite sport, which is supposed to be one of my main stress relief outlets. I'm not sure if this is the right sub for this kind of question, but I'd appreciate any ideas you guys have.\n\nIt seems that if I get angry about something during a game, I can't turn it off, and this affects my play. I take deep breaths, I rationalize with myself, all to no avail.\n\nFor example, during my volleyball match recently, one of my teammates showed up late wearing denim shorts. She has been late pretty consistently lately and even missed a bunch of games on short notice, and her play has been distracted. I know she has been going through some things lately, so it never really bothered me that she was distracted. However, when she suddenly showed up wearing denim shorts, I got so angry I pretty much shut down. I felt demoralized that she could care so little.\n\nBut it isn't just this teammate. When I play with my SO, if we get even a little bit frustrated, he seems to be able to shake it off after a couple of plays, but I can't. If I play an opposing player that does something really rude or unethical, I have been having trouble shrugging it off.\n\nSometimes getting frustrated with myself has the same effect - I'm less able to shake off my mistakes than I used to be. Accepting responsibility is one thing - letting it nag on is a problem I've been having.\n\nI am a competitive person, and I like that about myself and don't want to change that. What I want to change is this cloud of anger or frustration that rises up in me in-game. It is okay to be frustrated with someone, but it isn't okay to let it affect your game. \n\nAny ideas on how I can fix this? For example, playing as if one point is an individual game has usually helped me in the past, but sometimes it doesn't seem to be enough.\n\nTL;DR: How to overcome an anger or frustration block that comes up in the middle of playing a sport." ]	[ "Hi, I'm a pole vaulter where having a mental block can literally prevent you from participating at all, for I've had to develop a lot of methods so here we go:\n\nSing a song quietly or in your head/ distract your brain enough that muscle memory takes over.\n\nHave someone tell you a really stupid joke/ not exactly sure why it works but it does\n\nHug someone/ one time I got really psyched out and my coach hugged me for like a minute and then I was totally fine\n\nChannel your frustration, think about what will happen if you don't play well and then just go fucking do it/ I tore my ACL and coming back I had to mentally justify to myself that I would rather tear it again than lose because I was scared.\n\nhopefully one of these works for you and if they don't I could probably think of some more. Best of luck!", "Hah. I was just in a thread titled [What science says about m" ]	[ 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "Easy ways to dispose of litter \nMy principal said I’m allowed to sell food at school as long as I can find a way to dispose of all the litter of my food which is mainly soda cans. What are some ways to make sure My customers dispose of their cans properly? Any tips are appreciated :)", "Easy ways to dispose of litter \nMy principal said I’m allowed to sell food at school as long as I can find a way to dispose of all the litter of my food which is mainly soda cans. What are some ways to make sure My customers dispose of their cans properly? Any tips are appreciated :)" ]	[ "Offer a reward for proof of recycling or returning the cans? So many cans could equal a free one or maybe a discount?", "Here in Australia we get 10c for every can/ eligible drink container that we take to a collection depot. So there’s that" ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Any day my neighbor’s 5 Cottonwood Trees will fall on my house My neighbor and my house are on opposing hills that come down to meet in a cute little “valley” with a stream. On their side of the stream is their property, and on my side of the stream is HOA land (with a walking path) and then my property. Their house isn’t in the HOA, mine is.\n\nTheir property that meets with the stream is the VERY back of their property, it’s all natural/native and filled with bushes and all types of vegetation including a clump of five towering Cottonwood Trees. That is to say these five start from one spot that is about ten to fifteen feet up from the creek bed (which is dry in summer but anywhere from 4”-2’ deep at its fullest in the winter). Cottonwood trees are known to become hollow on the inside as they age, thus making them unstable (correct me if I’m wrong!) and with the pouring rain in the winter they soak up water and become heavy and more unstable. \n\nThis past summer an arborist took a look at these and couldn’t imagine what the “operation” would look like to #1 get equipment to a close enough location to trim and #2 he imagined it would at LEAST be $15,000. We live in the city so we have to follow rules and even though I would be up for doing some type of covert mission I’m SURE that Linda on the HOA Board would find out. \n\nIf these trees or one of the trees fell, one half of my house would be decimated; the living room, and my and my partner’s bedroom/our bodies if we were sleeping. \n\nAdditionally if a tree outside of our property fell onto our property it would be our responsibility to take care of what was on our property per the city rules/laws.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice on what I should do for an impending arboreal annihilation unto our home? Would a letter sent somewhere so it’s on record be of use so our daughter could seek revenge after we’re dead? We have wind today so I’m drinking some coffee and staring at my demise.", "Any day my neighbor’s 5 Cottonwood Trees will fall on my house My neighbor and my house are on opposing hills that come down to meet in a cute little “valley” with a stream. On their side of the stream is their property, and on my side of the stream is HOA land (with a walking path) and then my property. Their house isn’t in the HOA, mine is.\n\nTheir property that meets with the stream is the VERY back of their property, it’s all natural/native and filled with bushes and all types of vegetation including a clump of five towering Cottonwood Trees. That is to say these five start from one spot that is about ten to fifteen feet up from the creek bed (which is dry in summer but anywhere from 4”-2’ deep at its fullest in the winter). Cottonwood trees are known to become hollow on the inside as they age, thus making them unstable (correct me if I’m wrong!) and with the pouring rain in the winter they soak up water and become heavy and more unstable. \n\nThis past summer an arborist took a look at these and couldn’t imagine what the “operation” would look like to #1 get equipment to a close enough location to trim and #2 he imagined it would at LEAST be $15,000. We live in the city so we have to follow rules and even though I would be up for doing some type of covert mission I’m SURE that Linda on the HOA Board would find out. \n\nIf these trees or one of the trees fell, one half of my house would be decimated; the living room, and my and my partner’s bedroom/our bodies if we were sleeping. \n\nAdditionally if a tree outside of our property fell onto our property it would be our responsibility to take care of what was on our property per the city rules/laws.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice on what I should do for an impending arboreal annihilation unto our home? Would a letter sent somewhere so it’s on record be of use so our daughter could seek revenge after we’re dead? We have wind today so I’m drinking some coffee and staring at my demise.", "Any day my neighbor’s 5 Cottonwood Trees will fall on my house My neighbor and my house are on opposing hills that come down to meet in a cute little “valley” with a stream. On their side of the stream is their property, and on my side of the stream is HOA land (with a walking path) and then my property. Their house isn’t in the HOA, mine is.\n\nTheir property that meets with the stream is the VERY back of their property, it’s all natural/native and filled with bushes and all types of vegetation including a clump of five towering Cottonwood Trees. That is to say these five start from one spot that is about ten to fifteen feet up from the creek bed (which is dry in summer but anywhere from 4”-2’ deep at its fullest in the winter). Cottonwood trees are known to become hollow on the inside as they age, thus making them unstable (correct me if I’m wrong!) and with the pouring rain in the winter they soak up water and become heavy and more unstable. \n\nThis past summer an arborist took a look at these and couldn’t imagine what the “operation” would look like to #1 get equipment to a close enough location to trim and #2 he imagined it would at LEAST be $15,000. We live in the city so we have to follow rules and even though I would be up for doing some type of covert mission I’m SURE that Linda on the HOA Board would find out. \n\nIf these trees or one of the trees fell, one half of my house would be decimated; the living room, and my and my partner’s bedroom/our bodies if we were sleeping. \n\nAdditionally if a tree outside of our property fell onto our property it would be our responsibility to take care of what was on our property per the city rules/laws.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice on what I should do for an impending arboreal annihilation unto our home? Would a letter sent somewhere so it’s on record be of use so our daughter could seek revenge after we’re dead? We have wind today so I’m drinking some coffee and staring at my demise.", "Any day my neighbor’s 5 Cottonwood Trees will fall on my house My neighbor and my house are on opposing hills that come down to meet in a cute little “valley” with a stream. On their side of the stream is their property, and on my side of the stream is HOA land (with a walking path) and then my property. Their house isn’t in the HOA, mine is.\n\nTheir property that meets with the stream is the VERY back of their property, it’s all natural/native and filled with bushes and all types of vegetation including a clump of five towering Cottonwood Trees. That is to say these five start from one spot that is about ten to fifteen feet up from the creek bed (which is dry in summer but anywhere from 4”-2’ deep at its fullest in the winter). Cottonwood trees are known to become hollow on the inside as they age, thus making them unstable (correct me if I’m wrong!) and with the pouring rain in the winter they soak up water and become heavy and more unstable. \n\nThis past summer an arborist took a look at these and couldn’t imagine what the “operation” would look like to #1 get equipment to a close enough location to trim and #2 he imagined it would at LEAST be $15,000. We live in the city so we have to follow rules and even though I would be up for doing some type of covert mission I’m SURE that Linda on the HOA Board would find out. \n\nIf these trees or one of the trees fell, one half of my house would be decimated; the living room, and my and my partner’s bedroom/our bodies if we were sleeping. \n\nAdditionally if a tree outside of our property fell onto our property it would be our responsibility to take care of what was on our property per the city rules/laws.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice on what I should do for an impending arboreal annihilation unto our home? Would a letter sent somewhere so it’s on record be of use so our daughter could seek revenge after we’re dead? We have wind today so I’m drinking some coffee and staring at my demise.", "Any day my neighbor’s 5 Cottonwood Trees will fall on my house My neighbor and my house are on opposing hills that come down to meet in a cute little “valley” with a stream. On their side of the stream is their property, and on my side of the stream is HOA land (with a walking path) and then my property. Their house isn’t in the HOA, mine is.\n\nTheir property that meets with the stream is the VERY back of their property, it’s all natural/native and filled with bushes and all types of vegetation including a clump of five towering Cottonwood Trees. That is to say these five start from one spot that is about ten to fifteen feet up from the creek bed (which is dry in summer but anywhere from 4”-2’ deep at its fullest in the winter). Cottonwood trees are known to become hollow on the inside as they age, thus making them unstable (correct me if I’m wrong!) and with the pouring rain in the winter they soak up water and become heavy and more unstable. \n\nThis past summer an arborist took a look at these and couldn’t imagine what the “operation” would look like to #1 get equipment to a close enough location to trim and #2 he imagined it would at LEAST be $15,000. We live in the city so we have to follow rules and even though I would be up for doing some type of covert mission I’m SURE that Linda on the HOA Board would find out. \n\nIf these trees or one of the trees fell, one half of my house would be decimated; the living room, and my and my partner’s bedroom/our bodies if we were sleeping. \n\nAdditionally if a tree outside of our property fell onto our property it would be our responsibility to take care of what was on our property per the city rules/laws.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice on what I should do for an impending arboreal annihilation unto our home? Would a letter sent somewhere so it’s on record be of use so our daughter could seek revenge after we’re dead? We have wind today so I’m drinking some coffee and staring at my demise.", "Any day my neighbor’s 5 Cottonwood Trees will fall on my house My neighbor and my house are on opposing hills that come down to meet in a cute little “valley” with a stream. On their side of the stream is their property, and on my side of the stream is HOA land (with a walking path) and then my property. Their house isn’t in the HOA, mine is.\n\nTheir property that meets with the stream is the VERY back of their property, it’s all natural/native and filled with bushes and all types of vegetation including a clump of five towering Cottonwood Trees. That is to say these five start from one spot that is about ten to fifteen feet up from the creek bed (which is dry in summer but anywhere from 4”-2’ deep at its fullest in the winter). Cottonwood trees are known to become hollow on the inside as they age, thus making them unstable (correct me if I’m wrong!) and with the pouring rain in the winter they soak up water and become heavy and more unstable. \n\nThis past summer an arborist took a look at these and couldn’t imagine what the “operation” would look like to #1 get equipment to a close enough location to trim and #2 he imagined it would at LEAST be $15,000. We live in the city so we have to follow rules and even though I would be up for doing some type of covert mission I’m SURE that Linda on the HOA Board would find out. \n\nIf these trees or one of the trees fell, one half of my house would be decimated; the living room, and my and my partner’s bedroom/our bodies if we were sleeping. \n\nAdditionally if a tree outside of our property fell onto our property it would be our responsibility to take care of what was on our property per the city rules/laws.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice on what I should do for an impending arboreal annihilation unto our home? Would a letter sent somewhere so it’s on record be of use so our daughter could seek revenge after we’re dead? We have wind today so I’m drinking some coffee and staring at my demise.", "Any day my neighbor’s 5 Cottonwood Trees will fall on my house My neighbor and my house are on opposing hills that come down to meet in a cute little “valley” with a stream. On their side of the stream is their property, and on my side of the stream is HOA land (with a walking path) and then my property. Their house isn’t in the HOA, mine is.\n\nTheir property that meets with the stream is the VERY back of their property, it’s all natural/native and filled with bushes and all types of vegetation including a clump of five towering Cottonwood Trees. That is to say these five start from one spot that is about ten to fifteen feet up from the creek bed (which is dry in summer but anywhere from 4”-2’ deep at its fullest in the winter). Cottonwood trees are known to become hollow on the inside as they age, thus making them unstable (correct me if I’m wrong!) and with the pouring rain in the winter they soak up water and become heavy and more unstable. \n\nThis past summer an arborist took a look at these and couldn’t imagine what the “operation” would look like to #1 get equipment to a close enough location to trim and #2 he imagined it would at LEAST be $15,000. We live in the city so we have to follow rules and even though I would be up for doing some type of covert mission I’m SURE that Linda on the HOA Board would find out. \n\nIf these trees or one of the trees fell, one half of my house would be decimated; the living room, and my and my partner’s bedroom/our bodies if we were sleeping. \n\nAdditionally if a tree outside of our property fell onto our property it would be our responsibility to take care of what was on our property per the city rules/laws.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice on what I should do for an impending arboreal annihilation unto our home? Would a letter sent somewhere so it’s on record be of use so our daughter could seek revenge after we’re dead? We have wind today so I’m drinking some coffee and staring at my demise.", "Any day my neighbor’s 5 Cottonwood Trees will fall on my house My neighbor and my house are on opposing hills that come down to meet in a cute little “valley” with a stream. On their side of the stream is their property, and on my side of the stream is HOA land (with a walking path) and then my property. Their house isn’t in the HOA, mine is.\n\nTheir property that meets with the stream is the VERY back of their property, it’s all natural/native and filled with bushes and all types of vegetation including a clump of five towering Cottonwood Trees. That is to say these five start from one spot that is about ten to fifteen feet up from the creek bed (which is dry in summer but anywhere from 4”-2’ deep at its fullest in the winter). Cottonwood trees are known to become hollow on the inside as they age, thus making them unstable (correct me if I’m wrong!) and with the pouring rain in the winter they soak up water and become heavy and more unstable. \n\nThis past summer an arborist took a look at these and couldn’t imagine what the “operation” would look like to #1 get equipment to a close enough location to trim and #2 he imagined it would at LEAST be $15,000. We live in the city so we have to follow rules and even though I would be up for doing some type of covert mission I’m SURE that Linda on the HOA Board would find out. \n\nIf these trees or one of the trees fell, one half of my house would be decimated; the living room, and my and my partner’s bedroom/our bodies if we were sleeping. \n\nAdditionally if a tree outside of our property fell onto our property it would be our responsibility to take care of what was on our property per the city rules/laws.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice on what I should do for an impending arboreal annihilation unto our home? Would a letter sent somewhere so it’s on record be of use so our daughter could seek revenge after we’re dead? We have wind today so I’m drinking some coffee and staring at my demise.", "Any day my neighbor’s 5 Cottonwood Trees will fall on my house My neighbor and my house are on opposing hills that come down to meet in a cute little “valley” with a stream. On their side of the stream is their property, and on my side of the stream is HOA land (with a walking path) and then my property. Their house isn’t in the HOA, mine is.\n\nTheir property that meets with the stream is the VERY back of their property, it’s all natural/native and filled with bushes and all types of vegetation including a clump of five towering Cottonwood Trees. That is to say these five start from one spot that is about ten to fifteen feet up from the creek bed (which is dry in summer but anywhere from 4”-2’ deep at its fullest in the winter). Cottonwood trees are known to become hollow on the inside as they age, thus making them unstable (correct me if I’m wrong!) and with the pouring rain in the winter they soak up water and become heavy and more unstable. \n\nThis past summer an arborist took a look at these and couldn’t imagine what the “operation” would look like to #1 get equipment to a close enough location to trim and #2 he imagined it would at LEAST be $15,000. We live in the city so we have to follow rules and even though I would be up for doing some type of covert mission I’m SURE that Linda on the HOA Board would find out. \n\nIf these trees or one of the trees fell, one half of my house would be decimated; the living room, and my and my partner’s bedroom/our bodies if we were sleeping. \n\nAdditionally if a tree outside of our property fell onto our property it would be our responsibility to take care of what was on our property per the city rules/laws.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice on what I should do for an impending arboreal annihilation unto our home? Would a letter sent somewhere so it’s on record be of use so our daughter could seek revenge after we’re dead? We have wind today so I’m drinking some coffee and staring at my demise.", "Any day my neighbor’s 5 Cottonwood Trees will fall on my house My neighbor and my house are on opposing hills that come down to meet in a cute little “valley” with a stream. On their side of the stream is their property, and on my side of the stream is HOA land (with a walking path) and then my property. Their house isn’t in the HOA, mine is.\n\nTheir property that meets with the stream is the VERY back of their property, it’s all natural/native and filled with bushes and all types of vegetation including a clump of five towering Cottonwood Trees. That is to say these five start from one spot that is about ten to fifteen feet up from the creek bed (which is dry in summer but anywhere from 4”-2’ deep at its fullest in the winter). Cottonwood trees are known to become hollow on the inside as they age, thus making them unstable (correct me if I’m wrong!) and with the pouring rain in the winter they soak up water and become heavy and more unstable. \n\nThis past summer an arborist took a look at these and couldn’t imagine what the “operation” would look like to #1 get equipment to a close enough location to trim and #2 he imagined it would at LEAST be $15,000. We live in the city so we have to follow rules and even though I would be up for doing some type of covert mission I’m SURE that Linda on the HOA Board would find out. \n\nIf these trees or one of the trees fell, one half of my house would be decimated; the living room, and my and my partner’s bedroom/our bodies if we were sleeping. \n\nAdditionally if a tree outside of our property fell onto our property it would be our responsibility to take care of what was on our property per the city rules/laws.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice on what I should do for an impending arboreal annihilation unto our home? Would a letter sent somewhere so it’s on record be of use so our daughter could seek revenge after we’re dead? We have wind today so I’m drinking some coffee and staring at my demise." ]	[ "We recommend that people send a certified letter to their neighbor indicating their concerns with the condition of the tree so that you can later sue them for negligence. (Though home insurance would cover a tree falling on the building, it is subject to your deductible, and may not completely pay for the removal of the tree itself.)", "Did the arborist actually tell you your house is at risk from the trees (i.e. lay hands on the trees and test if they were hollow)? It might go a long way to know they aren't a pending fall risk", "Cottonwoods are called \"Widowmakers\" for a reason - they will grow too big for their own trunks to handle and will drop limbs or come completely down in heavy rains.\n\nYou definitely need to get this resolved soon.", "Of your neighbors cannot afford the $15k - hedge the risk of the trees falling onto your house by securing them with steel cables. Get your neighbors to have some able person do annual checks for worsening conditions and forwarding you the results. Check the location for the closest school for arborists and offer demolishing them as a free practice object. Let some experienced lumber person estimate his effort for cutting down the trees- in most cases you can get really far with some steel cable, a winch and a chainsaw - if the transport is the expensive part, maybe you can roll the wood into the creek, like in the old days. The wood itself might also be of quite some value for such person", "Wait for insurance never know when the act of god will happen home insurance will cover that if not switch insurance now", "Put your (including your arborist’s recommendations) concerns in writing to the HOA, your neighbors AND their insurance company.", "My neighbors complain about my tree all the time. I've gotten an estimate from a tree removal service, 10 grand. \n\nThe tree isn't going anywhere. And if the neighbors want to get rid of it that badly, they can pay for it.", "Laws vary. Many surprisingly put the burden on you and leave very little if any liability for the person whose tree it was. So, number 1: make sure your property insurance is up to date and covers this when it happens.", "In most states/cities/towns if the owner of the tree is informed that the tree is causing a danger and they neglect, any damage is the responsibility of the TREE owner. Qualifying stipulations: owner must be notified of the danger, there actually must be a danger (is: broken branches, severe leaning/unbalanced). \n \n If a healthy non dangerous tree blows over in storm (considered an act of god), then each home owner is responsible for their own damage. \n \n Call and report to the city inspector to have solid documentation.", "I have read here in the past that if you do not send your neighbour a registered letter requesting they look after the problem, then all insurance liability is on you." ]	[ 22, 22, 6, 5, 3, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to make friends quickly at a large high school when you don't know anyone? I moved to a very large high school and have been here for about a month and a half now. Still haven't made any friends... Really could use some tips guys. Thanks :)", "How to make friends quickly at a large high school when you don't know anyone? I moved to a very large high school and have been here for about a month and a half now. Still haven't made any friends... Really could use some tips guys. Thanks :)", "How to make friends quickly at a large high school when you don't know anyone? I moved to a very large high school and have been here for about a month and a half now. Still haven't made any friends... Really could use some tips guys. Thanks :)", "How to make friends quickly at a large high school when you don't know anyone? I moved to a very large high school and have been here for about a month and a half now. Still haven't made any friends... Really could use some tips guys. Thanks :)" ]	[ "Don't sit around waiting for someone to invite you somewhere. It rarely happens, for many reasons. You've been there long enough to have gotten a sense of who you like and who you don't like. You just gotta start a conversation with someone, and if you click, it feels natural, then you make plans. Invite that person to hang out. I don't want to encourage juvenile delinquency, but get out there and do what teenagers area supposed to do. \n\nHigh school can brutal. I know that. But I've lived through it, and trust me, the risk of being shot down or embarrassed is well worth the chance of finding a lifelong friend who makes the prime of your life feel memorable. ", "Bring free snacks at lunch. (if that is ok with the school rules)\n\nWhen you graduate and get a job, bring free food at lunch. \n\nThe people you meet might not fit as friends, but at least you will have the opportunity to see if they do, and they will have a better opinion of you and will be less likely to cause trouble for you later.\n\nDeep down, we are still greedy primates and instinctively treat food sharers better.", "Attract, in the end, the right people for you by being kind to EVERYONE. Sometimes, kindness is subtle and the opportunity comes from paying attention. \nOne of the easiest ways to pat someone's back in high school is by having a stick of gum. It doesn't have to immediately be a conversation starter-\nThe gesture will later become it.\nFor instance, notice the person beside you is particularly tired? Put a minty stick of gum on their desk. If the opportunity is there, say, \"this keeps me from diving into the doze too...\"\nSomebody say something shitty to a peer? Stick of gum, pat back, and a simple, \"fuck it, k?\" \nKeep walking. \nBasically, use the stick of gum as a cure all entry-\nKid drops papers in the hall, help them them hand them gum- \"This is the most Monday-est, Tuesday ever, am I right?\" Walk away.\n\nAs an optimist, I can mostly assure you, that you will get more than you give. Lead with your kindness. Observe. Always, always observe. There are people equally as alone and there are always people that feel validated by \"being noticed\"-\nRespond to the slights of others.\nStick of gum = silver lining.\n\nIf you want friends, be the empathic observer. \n", "Carry chloroform and ask people if it smells funny. \n\nColumbine shirts/jerseys are big right now. Always a conversation starter. \n\nGirls love confidence, always speak to them in a demeaning and derogatory way. \n\nStart selling drugs." ]	[ 2, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I catch a ton of flies in an outdoor setting? So a bit of context here. My family and I have been feeding 3 cats outside of our home regularly for years (we've got them spayed/neutered/vaccinated, before anyone starts pontificating). We leave the food out when they're at our door and they eat it, but often leave traces of it behind. This has become a problem because it's now a breeding ground for those nasty thicc flies. I'm talking like dozens of them. I need an easy and effective method of trapping/killing these flies.", "How do I catch a ton of flies in an outdoor setting? So a bit of context here. My family and I have been feeding 3 cats outside of our home regularly for years (we've got them spayed/neutered/vaccinated, before anyone starts pontificating). We leave the food out when they're at our door and they eat it, but often leave traces of it behind. This has become a problem because it's now a breeding ground for those nasty thicc flies. I'm talking like dozens of them. I need an easy and effective method of trapping/killing these flies." ]	[ "I used flys b gone, before. \n\nIt stinks it smells like an unwashed teenager and you want to keep it a minimum of 20 feet away from your door, but it worked.", "Hello /u/tishstars and thank you for your submission! Unfortunately it has been removed for the following reason:\n\n>Posts about medical, hygiene, and toiletry related tips are no longer allowed, as they have been placed on our Restricted Topic list, which can be found in the [sidebar](/r/LifeProTips/about/sidebar). \n\nPlease make sure to read through the sidebar before submitting in the future. Thanks for thinking of us, though! Have an excellent day.\n\n\nI am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/LifeProTips) if you have any questions or concerns." ]	[ 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "Dealing with noisy neighbors There is a family two houses away that blasts their music so loud that it is intolerable. It has been occurring more frequently as the weather gets better. Not only can I not use my yard, but i can't even sit in my own living room. It rattled something off the wall today.\nI want to tell them to shut up, but they clearly have no regard for their neighbors in the first place. I'm afraid I'm going to make things worse with a confrontation. Advice?", "Dealing with noisy neighbors There is a family two houses away that blasts their music so loud that it is intolerable. It has been occurring more frequently as the weather gets better. Not only can I not use my yard, but i can't even sit in my own living room. It rattled something off the wall today.\nI want to tell them to shut up, but they clearly have no regard for their neighbors in the first place. I'm afraid I'm going to make things worse with a confrontation. Advice?", "Dealing with noisy neighbors There is a family two houses away that blasts their music so loud that it is intolerable. It has been occurring more frequently as the weather gets better. Not only can I not use my yard, but i can't even sit in my own living room. It rattled something off the wall today.\nI want to tell them to shut up, but they clearly have no regard for their neighbors in the first place. I'm afraid I'm going to make things worse with a confrontation. Advice?", "Dealing with noisy neighbors There is a family two houses away that blasts their music so loud that it is intolerable. It has been occurring more frequently as the weather gets better. Not only can I not use my yard, but i can't even sit in my own living room. It rattled something off the wall today.\nI want to tell them to shut up, but they clearly have no regard for their neighbors in the first place. I'm afraid I'm going to make things worse with a confrontation. Advice?", "Dealing with noisy neighbors There is a family two houses away that blasts their music so loud that it is intolerable. It has been occurring more frequently as the weather gets better. Not only can I not use my yard, but i can't even sit in my own living room. It rattled something off the wall today.\nI want to tell them to shut up, but they clearly have no regard for their neighbors in the first place. I'm afraid I'm going to make things worse with a confrontation. Advice?", "Dealing with noisy neighbors There is a family two houses away that blasts their music so loud that it is intolerable. It has been occurring more frequently as the weather gets better. Not only can I not use my yard, but i can't even sit in my own living room. It rattled something off the wall today.\nI want to tell them to shut up, but they clearly have no regard for their neighbors in the first place. I'm afraid I'm going to make things worse with a confrontation. Advice?", "Dealing with noisy neighbors There is a family two houses away that blasts their music so loud that it is intolerable. It has been occurring more frequently as the weather gets better. Not only can I not use my yard, but i can't even sit in my own living room. It rattled something off the wall today.\nI want to tell them to shut up, but they clearly have no regard for their neighbors in the first place. I'm afraid I'm going to make things worse with a confrontation. Advice?", "Dealing with noisy neighbors There is a family two houses away that blasts their music so loud that it is intolerable. It has been occurring more frequently as the weather gets better. Not only can I not use my yard, but i can't even sit in my own living room. It rattled something off the wall today.\nI want to tell them to shut up, but they clearly have no regard for their neighbors in the first place. I'm afraid I'm going to make things worse with a confrontation. Advice?", "Dealing with noisy neighbors There is a family two houses away that blasts their music so loud that it is intolerable. It has been occurring more frequently as the weather gets better. Not only can I not use my yard, but i can't even sit in my own living room. It rattled something off the wall today.\nI want to tell them to shut up, but they clearly have no regard for their neighbors in the first place. I'm afraid I'm going to make things worse with a confrontation. Advice?", "Dealing with noisy neighbors There is a family two houses away that blasts their music so loud that it is intolerable. It has been occurring more frequently as the weather gets better. Not only can I not use my yard, but i can't even sit in my own living room. It rattled something off the wall today.\nI want to tell them to shut up, but they clearly have no regard for their neighbors in the first place. I'm afraid I'm going to make things worse with a confrontation. Advice?" ]	[ "Your first course of action should be a friendly approach, next time they're blasting music politely ask them if they could turn it down, be sure to mention that the music has been causing vibrations in your house.\n\nIf the friendly reminder that they live around other human beings that may or may not share their musical taste especially at that volume goes ignored then you should consider what other people in this thread are suggesting.", "The police department will advise you on your best strategy. You don't have to provide address details or file a report, just simply ask for advice. They will/should give you city ordinances and resolutions.\n\ncall the non-emergency local police number\n\nPersonal confrontation is a bad idea, they'll likely just tell you to piss off.", "In my state you aren't even allowed to have a car radio loud enough to hear 50' away...gotta be some kind of ordinance they are breaking.\n\nUsed to have a neighbor whose garage was 25\"a way from my living room so these guys would go out and rehearse their band until 11PM while my husband need to get to sleep by 8PM so police were called after they disregarded our requests and they gave us a numberof our case so we could get right through and pretty quickly the music stopped. \n\nTrust me I felt badly about curtailing these guys hobby/career but couldn't take it.", "First things first, speak to them directly. You may just find out they are reasonable people and were unaware they had the music too loud.\n\nGoing to the authorities before trying any kind of dialogue sets a really bad tone for the future, although you will get to remain anonymous should you deal with it that way.\n\nJust be fair and honest.", "Call the cops. You can look up your local county or city's noise ordinance online if you want to find out the allowable decibel levels. Where I used to live, the acceptable noise level from 6am-10pm was 60dB and 50dB at other times. If your walls are shaking, your neighbors are probably over whatever the acceptable limit is. \n \nIn dealing with noisy neighbors, talking to them never worked for me. They'd just end up trying to convince me that they weren't loud instead of actually reaching some sort of reasonable compromise. I had neighbors who refused to not party on weeknights because they didn't want to have to live their lives according to my rules. Hello, the majority of the world actually works and it's not me being weird and uptight for wanting to sleep at reasonable times mon.-thurs. I also complained to apartment management and they not only told my neighbors my identity (leading to a surprise verbal confrontation) but also told me I was being too uptight. \n \nIn conclusion, it's best to go straight to the cops because they have more experience and won't out your identity to the offenders, and they know what the laws are. I had apartment managers who thought people were allowed to be as loud as they wanted before 10pm, which was contradictory to the noise ordinance. They are also more effective since they can fine the neighbors. Most nice people know better than to play music that loud. Your neighbors are probably not naive gentle souls who don't know they are being too loud. In the slim chance that they are, the police will warn them the first time, so it's not like they'll be fined if they behave in the future. Try to avoid confronting them yourself. At best, you'll get in a pointless argument with a dumb person; at worst, they're deranged and will try to kill/beat you up or destroy your property. \n \nJust had to add: I now don't go talk to them nicely because they usually end up ignoring me. Then when I call the cops they get angry and come yell at me for calling the cops. Even if it was another person calling the cops, they'll think it was you and be totally belligerent. Sadly, it's best not to try to talk things out nicely as a first resort in today's society.", "You need to just go and speak to them first. Kindly and nicely. People genuinely may have no idea that it is a problem (even if that is really ignorant of them). Going straight to the police could create animosity, it may not resolve the issue long-term or they might just ignore you anyway. ", "Most cities have noise restrictions which kick in at a certain time at night until a certain time in the morning, stating acceptable decibel levels at certain distances during that period and for the rest of the day. \n\nUnless it is during the time period specified, or higher volume than allowed, you don't have recourse besides earplugs or noise insulation.", "Imo Havre a word with them if they seem receptive leave it and see how you go. If they act like nobs call the police with a noise complaint every time they keep you up past 11 p .", "Are there rules about calling the police? I assume they are permitted to play music in their yard at some volume during certain hours. I don't want to have to wait until 10 pm at which point, experience has taught me, it will still be going on. Then have to wait for police to arrive, etc.", "You are fucked. Save your money and move. \n\nYou can complain if you want, or worse call the police, and things will only get worse. You'll end up with a dead cat in you mailbox, shit like that.\n\n" ]	[ 6, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, -3 ]	safe
[ "What to do after getting a useless degree where there are no jobs available I completed a games design course in July 2015. Since then I have done very little work. I got an interview at a games company for a tester, but they said it was a no in an email and that is about it for my current hopes for getting into the gaming industry. \n\nI have been working on a little project to keep me going, but it is nowhere near presentable for a few more months. I have terrible grades in everything I have done since I was a child (B’s, C’s, D’s) so many other jobs are closed to me. I have some skills with computer repair, and game testing… and that is about it. I may look into apprenticeships, but I don’t even know where to begin. \n\nI'm quite lost right now and I don’t know where to turn, what to do and I really need advice with what to do with my life. \n", "What to do after getting a useless degree where there are no jobs available I completed a games design course in July 2015. Since then I have done very little work. I got an interview at a games company for a tester, but they said it was a no in an email and that is about it for my current hopes for getting into the gaming industry. \n\nI have been working on a little project to keep me going, but it is nowhere near presentable for a few more months. I have terrible grades in everything I have done since I was a child (B’s, C’s, D’s) so many other jobs are closed to me. I have some skills with computer repair, and game testing… and that is about it. I may look into apprenticeships, but I don’t even know where to begin. \n\nI'm quite lost right now and I don’t know where to turn, what to do and I really need advice with what to do with my life. \n", "What to do after getting a useless degree where there are no jobs available I completed a games design course in July 2015. Since then I have done very little work. I got an interview at a games company for a tester, but they said it was a no in an email and that is about it for my current hopes for getting into the gaming industry. \n\nI have been working on a little project to keep me going, but it is nowhere near presentable for a few more months. I have terrible grades in everything I have done since I was a child (B’s, C’s, D’s) so many other jobs are closed to me. I have some skills with computer repair, and game testing… and that is about it. I may look into apprenticeships, but I don’t even know where to begin. \n\nI'm quite lost right now and I don’t know where to turn, what to do and I really need advice with what to do with my life. \n", "What to do after getting a useless degree where there are no jobs available I completed a games design course in July 2015. Since then I have done very little work. I got an interview at a games company for a tester, but they said it was a no in an email and that is about it for my current hopes for getting into the gaming industry. \n\nI have been working on a little project to keep me going, but it is nowhere near presentable for a few more months. I have terrible grades in everything I have done since I was a child (B’s, C’s, D’s) so many other jobs are closed to me. I have some skills with computer repair, and game testing… and that is about it. I may look into apprenticeships, but I don’t even know where to begin. \n\nI'm quite lost right now and I don’t know where to turn, what to do and I really need advice with what to do with my life. \n" ]	[ "> an interview\n\nApply to 50 more jobs in game design, get ignored 45 time, get 5 interviews and 1 job offer. While you're doing that continue to train your skills and keep track of relevant news and advances in the game design industry. Go to as many relevant events as possible and try to network/stay relevant. Be ready and excited to move anywhere. If you get rejected 100 times, lower your standards and spend the next 2-3 years getting back to where you want to be. ", "I'd reccommend going to a community college and studying Programming. It's a much better degree for getting into gaming than a game design degree since programming is more general of a degree with more applications. In the meantime, you may have to work outside of your career field. Look for office jobs or work in the dorms of residential schools or as teachers assistants. Those jobs usually pay okay and you could take online classes. Can you take FASFA? Have you been taking it? It can usually pay for a community college.", "It took me 2 years post university to get a job in the games industry, so having graduated 6 months ago I wouldn't give up yet. Make sure you do your own thing, and don't focus on massive devs, or specific types of games. Do your own apps if you can. Drive is everything, stopping now validates failure, it's only a waste when you let it be a waste. \n\nI also found that a lot of studios treat a degree as experience for entry level jobs, so mine was invaluable for that. \n", "Do you have a decent portfolio? Even just little animations/screen video captures of modules and techniques goes a long way for speaking on your behalf." ]	[ 5, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Throat Drainage I am looking for a remedy to a problem I have had for awhile now. I have always been a \"mouth breather\" which is probably what started this problem. Every morning I wake up and have to blow my nose and gargle water and hack out drainage. It is clear and looks like a thick spit. I have this year round regardless of season. Some days its worse, some days its lesser but it's almost always there. I have gotten tested for allergies before and the tests came back negative. I had an unrelated surgery over the summer and the surgeon said they had to clean a lot of that crud out of my lungs and I felt amazing for awhile. When I work out and run really hard and get my lungs going I usually have more of it to spit out. Is there anything I can do to clear this up? Hopefully someone can help.", "Throat Drainage I am looking for a remedy to a problem I have had for awhile now. I have always been a \"mouth breather\" which is probably what started this problem. Every morning I wake up and have to blow my nose and gargle water and hack out drainage. It is clear and looks like a thick spit. I have this year round regardless of season. Some days its worse, some days its lesser but it's almost always there. I have gotten tested for allergies before and the tests came back negative. I had an unrelated surgery over the summer and the surgeon said they had to clean a lot of that crud out of my lungs and I felt amazing for awhile. When I work out and run really hard and get my lungs going I usually have more of it to spit out. Is there anything I can do to clear this up? Hopefully someone can help." ]	[ "I have allergies, but otherwise I have the exact same problem. I'm interested in this as well.\n\nI've found that on especially bad days, Mucinex works well and Bronk-Aid works even better. I'd never heard of Bronk-Aid until recently, but Walgreens sells it.\n\nThat's not a permanent or every day solution, though.", "I have this problem, and while I don't have a solution for you, my dental hygienist told me to put vaseline on my front teeth before I go to bed at night because mouth breathing all night can fuck up your teeth and gums. Just FYI." ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "I've come to absolutely loath flying on airplanes, and my new job has me flying a lot. Any tips to make the experience more bearable? ", "I've come to absolutely loath flying on airplanes, and my new job has me flying a lot. Any tips to make the experience more bearable? ", "I've come to absolutely loath flying on airplanes, and my new job has me flying a lot. Any tips to make the experience more bearable? ", "I've come to absolutely loath flying on airplanes, and my new job has me flying a lot. Any tips to make the experience more bearable? ", "I've come to absolutely loath flying on airplanes, and my new job has me flying a lot. Any tips to make the experience more bearable? ", "I've come to absolutely loath flying on airplanes, and my new job has me flying a lot. Any tips to make the experience more bearable? ", "I've come to absolutely loath flying on airplanes, and my new job has me flying a lot. Any tips to make the experience more bearable? ", "I've come to absolutely loath flying on airplanes, and my new job has me flying a lot. Any tips to make the experience more bearable? ", "I've come to absolutely loath flying on airplanes, and my new job has me flying a lot. Any tips to make the experience more bearable? ", "I've come to absolutely loath flying on airplanes, and my new job has me flying a lot. Any tips to make the experience more bearable? ", "I've come to absolutely loath flying on airplanes, and my new job has me flying a lot. Any tips to make the experience more bearable? ", "I've come to absolutely loath flying on airplanes, and my new job has me flying a lot. Any tips to make the experience more bearable? ", "I've come to absolutely loath flying on airplanes, and my new job has me flying a lot. Any tips to make the experience more bearable? ", "I've come to absolutely loath flying on airplanes, and my new job has me flying a lot. Any tips to make the experience more bearable? ", "I've come to absolutely loath flying on airplanes, and my new job has me flying a lot. Any tips to make the experience more bearable? ", "I've come to absolutely loath flying on airplanes, and my new job has me flying a lot. Any tips to make the experience more bearable? ", "I've come to absolutely loath flying on airplanes, and my new job has me flying a lot. Any tips to make the experience more bearable? ", "I've come to absolutely loath flying on airplanes, and my new job has me flying a lot. Any tips to make the experience more bearable? ", "I've come to absolutely loath flying on airplanes, and my new job has me flying a lot. Any tips to make the experience more bearable? ", "I've come to absolutely loath flying on airplanes, and my new job has me flying a lot. Any tips to make the experience more bearable? ", "I've come to absolutely loath flying on airplanes, and my new job has me flying a lot. Any tips to make the experience more bearable? ", "I've come to absolutely loath flying on airplanes, and my new job has me flying a lot. Any tips to make the experience more bearable? " ]	[ "Moisturize and hydrate.\n\nCarry extra food.\n\nGood quality noise canceling earbuds.\n\nPhone charger pack.", "Pick one airline and stick to it, and get loyalty status that will get you upgrades. Flying first class, or even just extra legroom economy, makes a big difference. Once you have status, it's easy to get at least extra legroom.\n\nIf your company books with a travel management company, ask if they have a sales rep for your chosen airline that can get you a status nomination to start off, since you won't have status until you fly enough.\n\nI flew a lot for a couple years (before covid) and actually grew to enjoy it quite a bit.", "I traveled for years and hated every minute of it. \n\nHere’s what took me too long to learn, now I quite enjoy traveling. \n\n-\tGet TSA pre check, it will make your life better. Global entry if you’re doing international travel.\n\n-\tPick and airline and be loyal to it, get their cobranded card and put your travel expenses on it, you’ll have status faster than you think.\n\n-\tCards are also a good way to get access to lounges. Layovers are better in lounges. \n\n-\tIf you rent cars, pick the same company every time and join their rewards program. Getting status with rental companies is worth it. \n\n-\tHotels, join their rewards program. Status has benefits in room selection.\n\nAll of these make the trip just a little better in their own way, combined it makes a huge difference, almost makes business travel enjoyable.", "Favorite chewing gum to help with the pressure in your ears\n\nDramamine, or one of those motion sickness bracelets you find at the pharmacy. \n\nSilicone earplugs, or noise cancelling headset to drown out cabin noise\n\nEye mask to help you sleep\n\nAvoid any stimulants before boarding\n\nDevice with favorite movies or music\n\nAnd know that statistically, you are 100x safer in an aircraft, than in a passenger vehicle.", "25+ year flying commuter here: besides all the usual comments (water, food, entertainment) just accept that delays may be sometimes significant and are outside your control. Your client/boss needs to accept that but most importantly, so do you.", "My two cents -\n- Dress comfortably, wear khakis instead of jeans. Carry a jacket or a blanket\n- Carry 1 mg of Melatonin, take it if you have a red-eye or a flight above 5 hours\n- If you bum is getting sore, get a small pillow and sit on it\n- Watch up in the air and take some pointers from the movie \n- Hydrate internally and externally\n- Carry some cut fruits, if you feel hungry\n- Carry a neck pillow and noise cancelling over the ear headphones. Bose 700 does the job for me.", "I'm not a fan of air travel, and I've done far more of it than I ever wanted. Things that help:\n\nMoisturise and hydrate, and consider your eyes and your sinuses as well. Get the type of eye drops sold for people with dry eyes, and find a basic saline nasal spray (I use Fess, which may not be available in your location).\n\nNoise cancelling headphones are good, but a pair of the basic noise-occluding plugs sold for use in noisy environments is also useful. Pharmacies usually sell them.\n\nA good, comfortable eye mask.\n\nA scarf - nothing heavy, but just something that you can wrap around your neck or wad up as a pillow.\n\nI always travel wearing a ScotteVest, so that all my small items are in easy reach. Also makes getting through the security circus quicker.\n\nI knit on planes: a small set of circular knitting needles and a ball of yarn will keep me calm for hours.", "Compression socks and walking during layovers.\n\nGood water bottle (I have Contigo that I love)\n\nLearn your best healthy snacks to pack or buy. Shorter flights, I just buy a cheese stick at airport to go with pretzels they give on plane with bloody Mary mix. Quest protein cookie and coffee good too.", "TSA pre check if you’re in the US. $99 for 5 years, let’s you absolutely breeze through security at most airports with your shoes on and electronics tucked away.\n\nNeck pillows and noise canceling earphones are things I never leave without. If you’re on a long flight, pop a Benadryl about an hour before you take off so you sleep easily.\n\nDownload games and movies to pass the time. Get a window seat if you can, sit behind the exit row (because those seats don’t recline) and don’t be afraid to recline. You paid for those 3 inches! I also use a sweater for lumbar support when my back starts to hurt.\n\nBring snacks and an empty reusable water bottle. Pee before you board the plane. Ignore everyone but the flight attendants.", "Stick with an airline. Maximize all their benefits for booking optimal routes for mileage. \nMake sure you book the best class ticket for upgrades one you get status.\nIf you can, book with your personal card and get reimbursed. \nGet a mileage cr", "Spend some money on nice travel gadgets and goodies to make traveling more comfortable. Search YouTube for travel EDC, flight essentials, Pack Hacker, and then dive into the rabbit hole.", "Somebody said pick an airline and stick to them for the loyalty rewards. I'll take it a step farther and get a cr", "I've started to hate flying as well. But one thing I've always liked about flights is that I can turn off my phone and ignore it entirely. \n\nI always travel with a deck of cards, a pack of gum, and an MP3 player. I have a flight playlist, I play solitaire, and I chew gum (I have ear pressure issues, and gum is hit or miss). I will also occasionally bring a book to read. \n\nRecently I've started buying the Delta snack boxes. They're pretty good. \n\nI hate take-offs because I'm keenly aware that I'm hurtling through the air way high up in a small metal tube. Music takes my mind off of that.", "Beware Neck pillows are commonly worn backwards by accident. The opening of the U shape goes behind your head. It does not go in front. \n\nAlso sleep mask or sunglasses. It makes people stop talking to you and you won’t be interrupted six times before you land by people wanting to give you a snack cracker like you are in kindergarten.", "Sounds like you’re going to smaller towns. Find a motel/hotel you like and make it a habit to stay there. \n\nI worked in the hospitality business and we remember people; particularly if they are polite. We would go the extra mile and set up the room the way you like it before you get there (extra pillow, fan, etc.). \n\nAnd don’t forget to tip your maids!", "Noise cancelling headphones (good ones, don't skimp), and being shorter helps. Work up those miles, always ALWAYS play with your seat assignment as the date approaches. Get yourself exit row every time.\n\n\nIf returning to the same hotel constantly, leave big luggage there (the bellhops got you), use dry cleaning, and travel only with a small overnight bag with basically underwear and toiletries.", "Make sure u have signed up for the rewards program for all those flights / hotels. I know when I was traveling like every other week it was nice cause u can use those points for vacay. I used to stay a night or two over so could enjoy some relax time and many times it’s feee with the hotel points.", "I used to travel a fair bit, and don't miss it at all.\n\nIt sounds like most of your downsides are from other people. Visible headphones serve two purposes; decreasing noise (which is surprisingly fatiguing) and sending a message that you don't want to talk that much.\n\nI've used eye covers as well and generally just try to sleep for the flight.\n\nAs for boarding and de-boarding, you can try to be last on, last off, or if you can get towards the front, last on, first-ish off. But you can only have a personal item, not a carry on if you try to do this.", "I just think about the millions of people that fly every day without incident. And think of the places you’ll get to visit. Can you save flyer miles for trips with family or spouse?\n\nI never rode a roller coaster until I was in my mid 30s. I just put the same thoughts in my head: thousands of people do it every day without incident. \n\nFlying is amazing today and the technology is so advanced it can be a luxury.", "Bose noise-cancelling headphones are life-changing. Also get a kindle and/or portable game system like 3ds/switch if you like gaming. Also a good messenger bag/briefcase for laptop + accessories. And the samsonite hard body expandable luggage with rotating wheels. And loafers.", "https://www.google.com/amp/s/robbreport.com/gear/gadgets/airs-microclimate-helmet-purifies-air-1234573884/amp/", "Lolz buck up and learn to tolerate flying or find another job why would you take a road warrior job if you don’t like flying" ]	[ 62, 49, 28, 9, 6, 5, 5, 5, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to tell a funny story in a deadpan manner Some can do it but me personnaly - I start giggling uncontrollably and ruin the delivery", "How to tell a funny story in a deadpan manner Some can do it but me personnaly - I start giggling uncontrollably and ruin the delivery" ]	[ "I've been told I'm very good at this, so I'll give this a whirl. I only care about other people's reactions to what I'm saying, my feelings are irrelevant to me when telling a story so I don't tap into them. \n\n", "Practice. And my problem is if someone starts laughing, it sets me off so try to tune out other people's reactions. " ]	[ 4, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to smooth things over with your SO? You've done something wrong and even though things seem to be fine, the air still needs to be cleared. So how do you smooth things over with your SO?\n\n(This literally just happened to me) But I'm going to have one of her favorite deserts ready, a movie she's been wanting to watch ready, and I'm going to give her a good back massage after she gets off work tonight. Might go grab a six pack of her favorite beer as well lol.", "How to smooth things over with your SO? You've done something wrong and even though things seem to be fine, the air still needs to be cleared. So how do you smooth things over with your SO?\n\n(This literally just happened to me) But I'm going to have one of her favorite deserts ready, a movie she's been wanting to watch ready, and I'm going to give her a good back massage after she gets off work tonight. Might go grab a six pack of her favorite beer as well lol.", "How to smooth things over with your SO? You've done something wrong and even though things seem to be fine, the air still needs to be cleared. So how do you smooth things over with your SO?\n\n(This literally just happened to me) But I'm going to have one of her favorite deserts ready, a movie she's been wanting to watch ready, and I'm going to give her a good back massage after she gets off work tonight. Might go grab a six pack of her favorite beer as well lol.", "How to smooth things over with your SO? You've done something wrong and even though things seem to be fine, the air still needs to be cleared. So how do you smooth things over with your SO?\n\n(This literally just happened to me) But I'm going to have one of her favorite deserts ready, a movie she's been wanting to watch ready, and I'm going to give her a good back massage after she gets off work tonight. Might go grab a six pack of her favorite beer as well lol.", "How to smooth things over with your SO? You've done something wrong and even though things seem to be fine, the air still needs to be cleared. So how do you smooth things over with your SO?\n\n(This literally just happened to me) But I'm going to have one of her favorite deserts ready, a movie she's been wanting to watch ready, and I'm going to give her a good back massage after she gets off work tonight. Might go grab a six pack of her favorite beer as well lol." ]	[ "Sometimes, it's not that action that is the real issue. It's difficult, but perhaps a deeper conversation is necessary to cut away all the garbage and get to why it upset your SO.\n\nCommunication, and finding common ground, and a plan going forward are, to me, the most important in a relationship discussion. Asking her why she was upset at what you did, what can you do in the future to not upset her like that, what is fair or not (IE is it something you like to do but it was just an inappropriate time). And lastly, it's whatever works for you both. You'll develop YOUR way of solving problems that works for both of you. Or don't what do I care", "Therapist here. Specifically a systemic therapist who focuses on communication.\n\nThere are two levels of communication. The report aspect and the command aspect. Report is the information in the communication \"Take out the trash\", or \"I'd like to have sex with you doggystyle\", command is meta and is information about the relationship between the two communicants. \"Take out the trash\" would mean two different things from a Father to his Son and from a pimp who just executed a rival.\n\nHow does this help you?\n\nSometimes couples get into arguments and, paradoxically, agree on what is going on, but yet still disagree.\n\n\nThe classic example is a man who invites his friend to stay with him and his wife after losing his home. The wife agrees that the man should be allowed to stay, and agrees with her husbands decision, but yet they are still arguing. Why?\n\nBecause they are arguing on the wrong communication level, The argument isn't over whether it was right or wrong, but rather \n\nWho has the right to make a unilateral decision in the relationship\n\nHow does this help you? \n\nAre you apologizing for what you did The report or are you apologizing for how you defined the relationship? The Command?\n\nIf you can figure out which one, you will have much better success.", "Talk. Clearly things are not right by what you say. People get mad, but get over it. Start with the treats etc. to break the ice is what i would do.", "Talk about what you did wrong and figure out how you can avoid it from happening then proceed with your plan ", "Give a heartfelt apology. Do not follow the apology with an explanation of why you did what you did- that will just undermine the apology." ]	[ 4, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Tips for your first time renting an apartment. Hello Reddit. I've been looking into renting my first apartment and I wanted to see what you had wished you knew when you first made this leap. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you.", "Tips for your first time renting an apartment. Hello Reddit. I've been looking into renting my first apartment and I wanted to see what you had wished you knew when you first made this leap. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you.", "Tips for your first time renting an apartment. Hello Reddit. I've been looking into renting my first apartment and I wanted to see what you had wished you knew when you first made this leap. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you.", "Tips for your first time renting an apartment. Hello Reddit. I've been looking into renting my first apartment and I wanted to see what you had wished you knew when you first made this leap. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you.", "Tips for your first time renting an apartment. Hello Reddit. I've been looking into renting my first apartment and I wanted to see what you had wished you knew when you first made this leap. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you.", "Tips for your first time renting an apartment. Hello Reddit. I've been looking into renting my first apartment and I wanted to see what you had wished you knew when you first made this leap. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you.", "Tips for your first time renting an apartment. Hello Reddit. I've been looking into renting my first apartment and I wanted to see what you had wished you knew when you first made this leap. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you.", "Tips for your first time renting an apartment. Hello Reddit. I've been looking into renting my first apartment and I wanted to see what you had wished you knew when you first made this leap. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you.", "Tips for your first time renting an apartment. Hello Reddit. I've been looking into renting my first apartment and I wanted to see what you had wished you knew when you first made this leap. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you.", "Tips for your first time renting an apartment. Hello Reddit. I've been looking into renting my first apartment and I wanted to see what you had wished you knew when you first made this leap. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you.", "Tips for your first time renting an apartment. Hello Reddit. I've been looking into renting my first apartment and I wanted to see what you had wished you knew when you first made this leap. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you.", "Tips for your first time renting an apartment. Hello Reddit. I've been looking into renting my first apartment and I wanted to see what you had wished you knew when you first made this leap. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you.", "Tips for your first time renting an apartment. Hello Reddit. I've been looking into renting my first apartment and I wanted to see what you had wished you knew when you first made this leap. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you.", "Tips for your first time renting an apartment. Hello Reddit. I've been looking into renting my first apartment and I wanted to see what you had wished you knew when you first made this leap. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you." ]	[ "1.) don't live on the ground floor, live one floor up, it makes life far easier (not too high for taking stuff up, but high enough to be able to leave curtains open without people staring in.)\n\n2.) Check phone reception - It's not essential, but it's nice to know what you're getting into.\n\n3.) when you move in, take pictures of EVERYTHING. Any marks on walls, dents, scratches, anything on cupboards, skirting boards, surfaces, carpets and furniture (if furnished). Upload them to Facebook because then you can prove issues from before moving in.\n\n4.) Move any furniture before you move stuff in. Make sure there's no mould behind anything and the carpets are in good condition. Apply point three if they're not.\n\n5.) Check the windows. Make sure they're sealed properly and there's no drafts coming in. make sure you can close them properly. It'll save a ton of money on heating bills. \n\n6.) Buy extension cords that are surge protected and have individual switches for each socket. You can turn off stuff you're not using to save even more power.\n\n7.) Make sure everything supplied works properly. I'm thinking things like water-heaters and the oven.\n\n8.) \nMicrowave\nPlate drying rack (provided you don't have a dishwasher)\nFridge\nWashing Machine (maybe a clothes drying rack)\nDrier (if you can afford it)\nCutlery\nPlates\nBowls\nCups\nGlasses\nStorage (bookshelves, boxes)\nBed (with storage under)\nWardrobe/Chest of drawers\nTowel rail\nBathroom caddy (basically shelves for the bathroom, super handy for loads of stuff)\nCouch\nTV stand\nRubbish bin (seriously)\nTV stand\nCurtains/ blinds.\n\nI'm sure I've missed things, and the other comments in this thread are really useful so I didn't re-iterate them, but this is mostly (not number 8) stuff I didn't know before leaving home. I've moved 6 or 7 times in the last 4 years, so I've gotten good at moving.\n\nP.S. If you have a lot of books, pack them into suitcases. Clothes can be bundled up and put anywhere, but if a box of books gives way while being carried it's infuriating.", "Visit the area at night to see what it's like. I rented my first apartment with a group of friends senior year of college. We toured the place a couple times during the day and everything seemed fine. After moving in we discovered that the area becomes very sketchy at night. I had my purse snatched as I was walking up the steps to my own front porch just a few weeks after moving in. ", "-Definitely go to the area at night. I try to go see apartments in the evening to get a feel of the area/noise level of the place. \n\n-CHECK FOR ANY SIGNS OF BUGS. This is SO important. My biggest apartment nightmare was my last place. There were holes under the sinks and along the heaters that the landlord promised to cover up before I moved in; he didn't. There were also these little balls of paste in the cupboards: turns out these we're cockroach paste. Those holes were where they got in. \n\nMy neighbor was a terrible hoarder and VERY dirty (I AM OCD CLEAN) and I GOT COCKROACHES FROM HER. IT WAS THE WORST EXPERIENCE EVER. She refused to fumigate her place for unknown reasons. It was absolutely terrible. I could not sleep. I lost 20 pounds because I was too afraid to eat. I had to leave almost all my furniture. 'Living' there I developed a terrible phobia/anxiety of bugs of any kind and still have trouble sleeping or eating in my beautiful new place. It was my hell. I still get night terrors about it.\n\n-ASK IF THE LANDLORD HAS AN EXTERMINATOR IN PLACE. I always ask now. Reputable buildings will have a contract with an exterminator or at least one they have on hand.\n\n\n-WALK THROUGH THE BUILDING. I know this may sound racist, but if you smell VERY strong food smells (curry, fish, exotic spices) or kind of 'off' smell at all, I would usually be averted to the building. Many times immigrants are 'used' to a certain quality of life that may not be up to par with your hygienic standards.\n\n-In the same vein, don't live above a restaurant. Period.\n\n\n-TYPE THE ADRESS INTO GOOGLE. Stupidly, I did this after I moved in to my nightmare. Turns out there was a couple reports of bedbugs and cockroaches at the building. Bedbugreports.com is a good place to start. \n\n\n-Check all taps, drains, plumbing. Inspect cupboards. \n\n-Ask the landlord what the other tenants are like. \n\n-Know your rights as a tenant! A quick search can find your local renting laws. \n\n\n\nBest of luck with your new place! Hope you find your dream apartment. <3 ", "My personal #1 Tip:\n\nMake absolutely sure you have enough money to support more than your most aggressive estimate of what you might spend in the first year on your own.\n\nI don't want to start any kind of lecture but it's worth noting that you are likely to spend a LOT of money in your first few months as you acquire some of the items you'll need to have, so you'll need to plan accordingly.\n\nI've seen friends move out only to outspend their means and have to move back in with parents at age 26.", "[Art of Manliness](http://www.artofmanliness.com/2012/08/01/heading-out-on-your-own-day-1-develop-a-self-reliant-mentality/) had a whole series on moving out for the first time and living on your own. Maybe a bit broader than what you asked for, but there's bound to be plenty of info and tips in there for you.", "Know your rights as a tenant. My first apartment I rented was in Quebec. they have a lot of rules that landlords try to break such as :\n\n1. Requesting Postdated Checks\n2. asking for first and last month's rent up front (can only ask for first)\n\nother tips:\n3. if the place has furniture, ask if you can see behind and under it for damage/mold. (happened at a friend's)\n4. talk to current tenants and neighbors (if you can, when the landlord isn't around, like at night)\n5. if you are a student, you may want to know about how to sublet your apartment. talk to the landlord. \n\nlastly, you should really know what you are getting into before you sign the lease so there aren't any surprises (expenses, etc). It probably wouldn't hurt to take an older/more experienced friend/family with you. they might see something you missed.", "Do not, repeat, DO NOT sign anything until you have toured the apartment with a manager. Look at everything, turn on every faucet, check fans, lights, ac, heater, dishwasher with a manager present. Have them fix anything that is wrong before you move in. Take pictures of everything before you move in, and take pictures of everything when you move out. Doing this saved me money because they tried to keep my deposit. The property manager called me and said that the cleaning people claimed my apartment was dirty. Funny that the manager was never around when I wanted to do a walk through and turn in the keys. With the pictures I was able to show that it was cleaned properly. The only mistake was not taking a picture of the inside of the oven and they charged me $40 to clean a damn oven, well it could have been worse. Greedy bastards.", "Be a courteous neighbor. Be conscious of how much noise you make at different times of the day and don't stomp, slam, yell, etc...\n\nBuy cleaning supplies BEFORE you move in. \n\nIf there is an on-site laundry room, check to see how clean it is and how much the machines are. My complex charges a full dollar less per load than the local laundromat and it's clean, so I have no worries with using it. YMMV\n\nFind out if your complex allows pets and what kinds/sizes. You don't want to be surprised by a neighbor's beagle serenading you at 3am or a strange cat pissing on your door.\n\nCount the outlets and light fixtures in each room. Plan to buy extension cords if necessary.\n\nAsk if package deliveries go directly to the apartment or to the site office. There are definite pros and cons to each.\n\nFind out if the property allows Section 8 (in the US). If they do, you will have a few (or lots) low-income neighbors with all the class that might entail. \n\nBe aware that in many states, you can't just refuse to pay rent if your landlord violates your lease. By law, you must continue to pay rent to an escrow account at your local circuit court until the issue is resolved. I live in Virginia and found this out when my landlord took over 80 days to repair a 6' x 8' section of my ceiling that had collapsed into my living room due to a leaky roof. It is illegal to withhold your rent payments in many places, so go to your local library and read up on renters rights.\n\nFind out before signing a lease which internet companies service that address. You don't want to find out (like I did) that you can't get FIOS (or whatever) because the neighborhood isn't currently wired for it.\n\nBe nice to your landlord and your new neighbors. Seriously. If you develop a rapport with your landlord, he or she may be more likely to be lenient if you need to be late on the rent.\n\n ", "If there are any complexes you are very interested in. Drive around late at night. 10pm on a week day and try once on a Saturday night around the same time.\n\nThis will let you know if you have any shady people in the complex or teenagers playing loud music, it will also give you a good hint on how parking is.\n\n", "Dont rent for the bottom floor. IF you apartment is going to get broken into, it will be on the 1st floor. I live in a 3 story complex, so the 2nd story is best, because I will get the heat/ac from the floor above and below me.\n\n\nAlso, invest in a laundry basket like [This!](http://www.amazon.com/Rubbermaid-Home-299787-WHT-Laundry-Basket/dp/B000YHNQFU/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1379050071&sr=8-2&keywords=laundry+basket) for groceries, it will make the trips up stairs a lot easier and have less of them. ", "Take pictures of it before you move anything in. I can't tell you how many times I meant to do this, didn't remember, then wished I had in the end when it was time to try and get my deposit back.", "9 years later, but wanted to add this. If your city has upcoming construction projects listed on their site publicly, check to see if the apartment you're about to rent is situated next to construction. It might look quiet, green, and peaceful when you signed, but 8 months later they'll begin construction next to your apartment building & it'll suck!", "I am a property owner and landlord and I'll put in my two cents worth. Before signing anything make that you do a thorough inspection for damages. Make a list of what you find and have the landlord sign off on it. Open every cabinet and look for leaks and bugs. Check the plumbing to see that it works, drains too! Make sure that you know the difference between a security deposit, cleaning fee and last months rent before you sign. Some landlords require a security deposit that you will get back when you move minus the cost of repairs for damages you may have done (normal wear is not damage). Where I live, I must return your deposit within 21 days and if I used part of it for repairs I must itemize these for you, it's the law. Some landlords require a last months rent instead of a security deposit and some change both. Cleaning fees (I don't charge them) are non refundable but you might get them back if you leave the unit like you got it. Once youve signed and moved in, some good advice is to tell your landlord immediately if something breaks as some things get worse if ignored. The same goes for if you find bugs.... Tell the landlord before they take over your home! Good luck in your search!", "Don't sign a lease if you don't have to. Moving into an apartment and having to sign a 1-year lease before your first night there is a risky move. Many things can go wrong, that you'd never see coming, be it noisy neighbors, too hot or too cold, bugs, ect. Should you want to move out, you should be able to without hassle, and having signed a lease may give you more hassle than you'll want to deal with. " ]	[ 37, 23, 17, 15, 13, 10, 8, 7, 6, 6, 3, 3, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to get a silent door to squeak This is probably the opposite of what’d you expect but I need to get this door to squeak. The door to my basement was just replaced and it’s silent. It’s problematic because me and my girlfriend strictly hang out at my house cuz her mom comes downstairs every 30 mins to “check up” on us. The old door to our basement squeaked like a mofo so if someone were to open the door to come downstairs we could hear them and readjust ourselves in time lol. Now someone could walk up right behind me and I have no idea that they’re there unless they say something. \n\nAny kind of suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thank you!", "How to get a silent door to squeak This is probably the opposite of what’d you expect but I need to get this door to squeak. The door to my basement was just replaced and it’s silent. It’s problematic because me and my girlfriend strictly hang out at my house cuz her mom comes downstairs every 30 mins to “check up” on us. The old door to our basement squeaked like a mofo so if someone were to open the door to come downstairs we could hear them and readjust ourselves in time lol. Now someone could walk up right behind me and I have no idea that they’re there unless they say something. \n\nAny kind of suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thank you!", "How to get a silent door to squeak This is probably the opposite of what’d you expect but I need to get this door to squeak. The door to my basement was just replaced and it’s silent. It’s problematic because me and my girlfriend strictly hang out at my house cuz her mom comes downstairs every 30 mins to “check up” on us. The old door to our basement squeaked like a mofo so if someone were to open the door to come downstairs we could hear them and readjust ourselves in time lol. Now someone could walk up right behind me and I have no idea that they’re there unless they say something. \n\nAny kind of suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thank you!", "How to get a silent door to squeak This is probably the opposite of what’d you expect but I need to get this door to squeak. The door to my basement was just replaced and it’s silent. It’s problematic because me and my girlfriend strictly hang out at my house cuz her mom comes downstairs every 30 mins to “check up” on us. The old door to our basement squeaked like a mofo so if someone were to open the door to come downstairs we could hear them and readjust ourselves in time lol. Now someone could walk up right behind me and I have no idea that they’re there unless they say something. \n\nAny kind of suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thank you!", "How to get a silent door to squeak This is probably the opposite of what’d you expect but I need to get this door to squeak. The door to my basement was just replaced and it’s silent. It’s problematic because me and my girlfriend strictly hang out at my house cuz her mom comes downstairs every 30 mins to “check up” on us. The old door to our basement squeaked like a mofo so if someone were to open the door to come downstairs we could hear them and readjust ourselves in time lol. Now someone could walk up right behind me and I have no idea that they’re there unless they say something. \n\nAny kind of suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thank you!" ]	[ "First you tap the pins out of the hinges and wash them with dish washer soap to get the oil off. Also wash the insides of the hinge sockets.\n\nTry to slightly bend one of the pins and pour salt over the pins and insert the pins back in. \n\nThen you partially unscrew the top hinges and misalign the hinge blades by pushing the blades slightly out of their original places before screwing them back.", "spray it with wd40....it will dry out the grease and make it squeak. You may think this is the opposite of what WD40 is supposed to do, but it's not actually made to lubricate hinges.", "Figure out how to remove any lubrications from the hinges. I’m sure a google search on how to do that would provide lots of results.", "Put something potentially loud in front of the door. Like a frying pan under a jar of marbles. When the door opens the marbles drop into the pan et voila! \n\nReadjust the trap after it's used of course. If they start asking questions just play dumb. You're a both young, they probably think you're fools already cause you're not afraid of the big bad 5G network.", "How about keeping it in your pants for an evening? Anyway, quick solution is to just put something slightly in front of it so you hear the bump when someone opens the door. Otherwise try taking apart the hinges and washing off the grease on the pin, that should do it. If it doesn't work you might have to use a paper towel to clean the inside of the hinge as well." ]	[ 10, 7, 4, 2, -1 ]	safe
[ "Getting rid of road rash/plywood scrapes. So this request is more about the plywood rash. It happens when plywood scrapes against you. I was building set pieces for a musical. A friend of mine made a stair landing and wanted me to test its sturdiness. It broke and scraped me. It's kind of like road rash and I need it gone asap since a work at a job where my arm is shown a lot and I don't want to gross anybody out. [Here's a picture](http://i.imgur.com/gpOn9.jpg)", "Getting rid of road rash/plywood scrapes. So this request is more about the plywood rash. It happens when plywood scrapes against you. I was building set pieces for a musical. A friend of mine made a stair landing and wanted me to test its sturdiness. It broke and scraped me. It's kind of like road rash and I need it gone asap since a work at a job where my arm is shown a lot and I don't want to gross anybody out. [Here's a picture](http://i.imgur.com/gpOn9.jpg)" ]	[ "I don't think you can do much to make it heal faster. Neosporin maybe. It's really not gross. Turn it into a war wound somehow. We're you helping kids? The elderly? I dunno. Doesn't seem like much to worry about. ", "> need it gone asap since a work at a job where my arm is shown a lot and I don't want to gross anybody out.\n\nWhere do you work? A daycare center?" ]	[ 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "My bed sheet comes off the mattress every night and I try to tuck it in as much as possible. Any tips? ", "My bed sheet comes off the mattress every night and I try to tuck it in as much as possible. Any tips? ", "My bed sheet comes off the mattress every night and I try to tuck it in as much as possible. Any tips? ", "My bed sheet comes off the mattress every night and I try to tuck it in as much as possible. Any tips? ", "My bed sheet comes off the mattress every night and I try to tuck it in as much as possible. Any tips? ", "My bed sheet comes off the mattress every night and I try to tuck it in as much as possible. Any tips? ", "My bed sheet comes off the mattress every night and I try to tuck it in as much as possible. Any tips? ", "My bed sheet comes off the mattress every night and I try to tuck it in as much as possible. Any tips? ", "My bed sheet comes off the mattress every night and I try to tuck it in as much as possible. Any tips? " ]	[ "I've had this problem for quite a while since I use a pillow top and Im a toss/turner at night. There are some bed clips that I tried which didnt work for me. Finally I switched to tarp clips and bungee cords both of which are cheap and durable. My sheet hasnt slipped since- even after a good romp session! \n\nTarp clips: http://www.amazon.com/TEKTON-6268-Tarp-Clips-4-Piece/dp/B00A50NB24/ref=sr_sp-atf_title_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1378927290&sr=8-1&keywords=tarp+clips\n\nBungee cords: http://www.amazon.com/Wenzel-Shock-Cord-Sizes-Utility/dp/B000BQSGTA/ref=sr_sp-btf_title_1_8?ie=UTF8&qid=1378927479&sr=8-8&keywords=bungee+cords\n\nBasically attach the clips to the 4 corners and use 2 bungee cords to make an X holding the corners down. You can also use string/cordage but that makes it a little more difficult when changing sheets.\n\ncheers", "Buy the little clips that hold the sheet to the bed. \nThese are the most common:\nhttp://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B005VL1NXG\n\nI actually use different ones I like better but so far I don't see them on amazon to show you what they look like.\n\nFound them: not sure why they have 3 stars, they are kinda hard to put on bit the stay on really well. I love them.\nhttp://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0050WWQ64/ref=pd_aw_sbs_6?pi=SY115", "If it's the top sheet, you can sew it to the fitted sheet and wash them together, no problem. \n\nIf it's the fitted sheet, I've seen people use giant rubber bands around the mattress, put the fitted sheet on and pull it through the bottom side of the bands to clip. ", "If it's the fitted sheet you're having problems with you can safety pin the corners to your mattress.", "There are several versions of sheet clips/clamps/holders out there. [Bed, Bath and Beyond](http://www.bedbathandbeyond.com/1/3/sheet-clips) has them, so do retailers like K-Mart.\n\nHere is one on Amazon: [Sheet Holders](http://www.amazon.com/Sheet-Holders-Pins-Clips-Tape/dp/B002S4K1JQ)\n\nJust put [bed sheet holders](https://www.google.com/search?q=bed+sheet+clamps&safe=off&client=firefox-a&hs=dXB&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&tbm=isch&tbo=u&source=univ&sa=X&ei=ErkwUq_dHJL49gS5jIGQDw&ved=0CI8BELAE&biw=1593&bih=944&dpr=1) in Google for tons of answers.", "I like to buy sheets a size bigger. I have a queen bed with King sized sheets. The fitted sheet never comes off and when I have a lady sleep over, there is enough of the top sheet for both of us, just incase she is a hogger.", "do you have an old set of suspenders?\njust clip an end to each corner of the sheet (on the underside) and you are good to go\n\nhad this problem for years before i thought of this", "I have thick shipping foam between the mattress and box spring. I then tucked the sheets between that and the bottom of the mattress. Funny how I did that to hide the foam to use later but it solved my sheet problem.", "I have bedsheets made from a cotton / stretch mixture and with a rubber band sewed around the circumference of the opening. I can't imagine one of those coming off. However, I have never seen these things outside of Germany. Can anybody comment on if those are also sold in e.g. the us?\n\nHere is a link: http://www.amazon.de/fleuresse-Spannlaken-1115-1000-Jersey-Baumwolle/dp/B000ISU8NI/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1379000699&sr=8-1&keywords=spannbettuch\n\n " ]	[ 12, 4, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to stop a lifetime of fingernail biting? Any input would help, been biting my nails for about 10 years now and I hate it, but haven't found a method that really works.\n\n", "How to stop a lifetime of fingernail biting? Any input would help, been biting my nails for about 10 years now and I hate it, but haven't found a method that really works.\n\n", "How to stop a lifetime of fingernail biting? Any input would help, been biting my nails for about 10 years now and I hate it, but haven't found a method that really works.\n\n", "How to stop a lifetime of fingernail biting? Any input would help, been biting my nails for about 10 years now and I hate it, but haven't found a method that really works.\n\n", "How to stop a lifetime of fingernail biting? Any input would help, been biting my nails for about 10 years now and I hate it, but haven't found a method that really works.\n\n", "How to stop a lifetime of fingernail biting? Any input would help, been biting my nails for about 10 years now and I hate it, but haven't found a method that really works.\n\n", "How to stop a lifetime of fingernail biting? Any input would help, been biting my nails for about 10 years now and I hate it, but haven't found a method that really works.\n\n", "How to stop a lifetime of fingernail biting? Any input would help, been biting my nails for about 10 years now and I hate it, but haven't found a method that really works.\n\n", "How to stop a lifetime of fingernail biting? Any input would help, been biting my nails for about 10 years now and I hate it, but haven't found a method that really works.\n\n", "How to stop a lifetime of fingernail biting? Any input would help, been biting my nails for about 10 years now and I hate it, but haven't found a method that really works.\n\n", "How to stop a lifetime of fingernail biting? Any input would help, been biting my nails for about 10 years now and I hate it, but haven't found a method that really works.\n\n", "How to stop a lifetime of fingernail biting? Any input would help, been biting my nails for about 10 years now and I hate it, but haven't found a method that really works.\n\n", "How to stop a lifetime of fingernail biting? Any input would help, been biting my nails for about 10 years now and I hate it, but haven't found a method that really works.\n\n", "How to stop a lifetime of fingernail biting? Any input would help, been biting my nails for about 10 years now and I hate it, but haven't found a method that really works.\n\n", "How to stop a lifetime of fingernail biting? Any input would help, been biting my nails for about 10 years now and I hate it, but haven't found a method that really works.\n\n", "How to stop a lifetime of fingernail biting? Any input would help, been biting my nails for about 10 years now and I hate it, but haven't found a method that really works.\n\n", "How to stop a lifetime of fingernail biting? Any input would help, been biting my nails for about 10 years now and I hate it, but haven't found a method that really works.\n\n", "How to stop a lifetime of fingernail biting? Any input would help, been biting my nails for about 10 years now and I hate it, but haven't found a method that really works.\n\n" ]	[ "I stopped by always having a nail clipper with me. I was always biting my nails because they were to long for me to accept. So clipping them goes fast and easy and looks better than before (like a saw). Hope that helps", "My problem is similar: I bite off the dead skin from my thumbs, usually until it bleeds (and then some more)\n\nNow my thumbs are almost fully healed, and the funny thing is that I didn't even try to do anything, I just magically stopped doing it after a couple of weeks m", "I was a nail-biter for a long time. Like, ages 8 to 22? It took me a long time to interrupt, but I was biting every nail down to a painfully short amount.\n\nStart with one sacred finger. Today this is the finger you will not bite. I picked my ring fingers on both hands because it was already the nail I would bite the least (shit is awkward to reach - like biting your elbow). Then, once you've got some level of consistency with that, add another finger (I picked the right-hand pinkie next, I think) and built from there.\n\nAfter this I learned a few things. 1. I hadn't realized that when I'm stressed I will be tempted even more. 2. Nailclippers were my saving grace (another redditor mentioned) - on bad days I would keep those near so that I wouldn't break my sacred-finger compact.\n\nGood luck!", "", "The book THE POWER OF HABIT has a section on this.\n\nYou need to retrain your \"cues\" to another habit. For example, when you have \"the urge\", you put your hands in your pocket and get up and walk around or somesuch. Before I read the book, I had done something like this--lifelong biter and now it has been years. Good luck!", "Have you tried nail polish? When I was little that's what we used to kick my habit. Your nails will look pretty! Or you can just use clear polish, no one will likely notice if you want a subtle fix.\n\nYou can try often hand sanitizer or lotion; the hand sanitizer will make your finger/nail taste awful and will be a shock and reminder to not bite. Also, you can use lotion to \"remind\" yourself with the smell to stop.\n\nCutting your nails more often will help too. You're probably biting them because they are too long and are bothering you; just clipping them more often will keep you from having anything to bite.", "As others have mentioned: Carry a nail clipper at all times. Bring it out as soon as you get the urge to bite. Also keep a nail file handy -- if a nail is smooth, you won't try to snag and tear it.\n\nAn outside of the box technique: Wrap a tape or band-aid around the end of one of your pinkie fingers. Do that for two weeks -- or even longer. If you can get one nail looking \"normal\" you have made progress (yay!) and you can use it as a constant reminder of your goal.", "Two things did it for me: I got deployed to Africa and I really didn't like the thought of putting my fingers near my mouth at that time haha... the other thing is nail clippers. Leave a nail clippers by the area you're around the most, like right next to your laptop. I bit my nails and the skin around them for about 20 years before I finally started this. The nail biting has stopped completely and the skin I at least cut with the clippers.\n\nI tried the stuff you put on your nails to make it taste bad and... then I just bit my nails and suffered the funky taste. Might work for others but I personally think its a waste. \n\nDoing a quick google image search, these are the cuticle clippers I use and they've worked wonders for my bad habit. http://www.goodluckbuy.com/three-seven-n118-stainless-steel-manicure-cuticle-trimmer-toe-nail-clipper-silver-.html", "Try chewing gum instead, that gives your mouth something to do as well as replacing the complusive habit. It worked for me.", "Okay, I also bite my nails, but I have this weird thing where the thought of metal on my fingernails gives me the willies. This then translates to really hating fingernail clippers, the sound of them, and the feeling of them. My girlfriend always wants to give me a mani and a pedi, but the thought of someone else clipping my nails is unbearable. You want to torture me for information...start with the big toe. You win.\n\nAny tips on that one? I often time use my 'Old Timer' knife to just slowly shave, but that gets dangerous :\\", "Not sure it will help you but I stopped when two of my friends had a completion to see how long they could stop bitting their nails. They didn't include me, I got pissed and stopped. They still bite theirs :)", "I used to bite my nails every time. I stopped because when i scratch a surface or something, it feels oddly uncomfortable and most of the time i bite too much causing so much pain. People usually look at my hands for some reason so i decided to use a clipper", "I stopped biting my nails using an NLP technique called the [Swish Pattern](http://www.personal-development-planet.com/nlp-swish-pattern.html).\n\nFor the uninitiated, NLP is neurolinguistic programming -- using language to hack your brain. Its what cognitive therapy should be. Unfortunately, there are a lot of charlatans involved in it and its early pioneers are freak shows so it never got traction in the scientific community. Its difficult to separate the wheat from the chaff but there is a lot of useful stuff to found if you read about it with an open mind and decently tuned bullshit detector.", "I stopped all of a sudden after 20+ years by keeping them clipped and generally well-manicured (immediately clipping any hangnails instead of picking or nibbling at them) plus becoming excessively paranoid about putting all those germs and crap in my mouth. But my husband still bites till he bleeds and hardly realizes when he is doing it, so I recognize this doesn't work for everyone. Good luck, OP.", "I read somewhere here on reddit that carrying a small nail clipper at all times (maybe on a key chain) will help you.\n\nI don't bite mine, but my brother in law did his whole life and he and his family had tried \"everything\". I bought him a small nail clipper and was trying to make him use it for day or two, just reminding him to use it instead of his teeth. He has completely stopped biting. \n\nBtw his fingers were so damaged of the biting, he used to keep his hands in fists because he was too embarrassed of them. ", "I carried around a bunch of sticks. 3-4 inch chopsticks, those things stir with from a coffeeshops, stuff like that. I just got used to always having one in my mouth for other reason and after, like, 5-6 days I noticed that my nails were now touching the keys when I typed. Even after I realised, I lost all impulse to bite my nails. Single most effective method I have ever tried, even though I kinda stumbled upon it. \n\nThat said, it's not a long term solution for everyone, obviously. especially not for me. After a couple of weeks, I went away for the weekend and forgot sticks. It was horrible. My jaw felt skewed and chewing was weird. I'd imagine that if I chewed sticks for a year, my Jaw would actually be skewed instead of just feeling skewed. \n\nBut I learned that nail biting for me was/is clearly a mouth fixation. Whenever I notice I'm biting my nails, I immediately put a toothpick in a mouth, go brush my teeth, start eating a snack. I haven't stopped biting them all together, but I no longer draw blood or bite them too far down. \n\nTL;DR - Distractions!", "I bit my nails for 20 years. I stopped a decade of so ago by doing the following.\nI only allowed myself to bite my thumb nails. As much as I want, but I must leave the other nails alone. I managed this really well and after about 6 months of doing this I just stopped altogether. \n\nI give myself the occasional cheeky bite but now I have more problems with having to cut my nails than I do from biting them.\n\nGood luck.\nJ", "A 4-stage nail buffer did it for me. Buff them smooth on top and the strange feeling on my teeth for whatever reason made me not want to bite them. My nail biting has been in a reasonable level of control for some time now." ]	[ 10, 6, 4, 4, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Best Discrete but Intense Home Security System I am looking for a very discrete home security system that provides real-time surveillance with picture and sound. Must haves:\n\n1. Alerts (e.g. when motion is detected)\n2. Apps/Web Interface (OS X/iOS)\n3. Motion Detection\n4. Night Vision\n5. Recording with Cloud-Based Storage (or Live Streaming with Option to Record)\n\nI live in a house with several roommates and I'm looking for a powerful but hidden security system (trust me, as long as its less than $1,000 it will be worth it).\n\nAny suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!\n\n", "Best Discrete but Intense Home Security System I am looking for a very discrete home security system that provides real-time surveillance with picture and sound. Must haves:\n\n1. Alerts (e.g. when motion is detected)\n2. Apps/Web Interface (OS X/iOS)\n3. Motion Detection\n4. Night Vision\n5. Recording with Cloud-Based Storage (or Live Streaming with Option to Record)\n\nI live in a house with several roommates and I'm looking for a powerful but hidden security system (trust me, as long as its less than $1,000 it will be worth it).\n\nAny suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!\n\n", "Best Discrete but Intense Home Security System I am looking for a very discrete home security system that provides real-time surveillance with picture and sound. Must haves:\n\n1. Alerts (e.g. when motion is detected)\n2. Apps/Web Interface (OS X/iOS)\n3. Motion Detection\n4. Night Vision\n5. Recording with Cloud-Based Storage (or Live Streaming with Option to Record)\n\nI live in a house with several roommates and I'm looking for a powerful but hidden security system (trust me, as long as its less than $1,000 it will be worth it).\n\nAny suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!\n\n**" ]	[ "When it comes to security discrete isn't good. Criminals pick their targets based on risk vs reward. If it appears 0 risk they will strike you may catch them on video but by then the damage will be dealt. ", "I'm using ATT digital life and it has all the things you mentioned other than hidden cameras. I can see everything on my phone. ", "I wouldn't make it discrete if I were you. If it doesn't look like you have security, robbers will target you. Make it as apparent as possible that you have good security." ]	[ 4, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "I noticed when I speak, my sentences are very broken up with pauses and staggered words. How can I improve my speech to form more flowing sentences? ", "I noticed when I speak, my sentences are very broken up with pauses and staggered words. How can I improve my speech to form more flowing sentences? ", "I noticed when I speak, my sentences are very broken up with pauses and staggered words. How can I improve my speech to form more flowing sentences? ", "I noticed when I speak, my sentences are very broken up with pauses and staggered words. How can I improve my speech to form more flowing sentences? ", "I noticed when I speak, my sentences are very broken up with pauses and staggered words. How can I improve my speech to form more flowing sentences? ", "I noticed when I speak, my sentences are very broken up with pauses and staggered words. How can I improve my speech to form more flowing sentences? ", "I noticed when I speak, my sentences are very broken up with pauses and staggered words. How can I improve my speech to form more flowing sentences? " ]	[ "Read books alound.\n\nI suffered with the same thing and ive found that since reading my childrens books alound to them its greatly improved my overall speach.\n\nId highly recommend trying it.", "Join a local Toast Masters or take a speech class at a local college. You will become so much better at a lot of things. We don’t realize how much our speech affects our life as a whole. ", "Hold your pen up in the air likes it's a speaking totem. Tell others they are not to speak until you lower the speaking totem. Failure to abide by the law will be punishable by death.", "Write your sentences down and read it out loud. Practice alone. \nSound of each word slowly and loud ", "Many people do this while they are trying to \"hold the floor\" while formulating thought. My husband will say \"and, uh\" while he's thinking so I don't talk.\n\nRecognizing the habit and letting go of the floor until you have another thought to add will likely help. Sure, you may not talk as much or forget a fee things you meant to say, but you will seem more polished. ", "The easiest, fastest thing to do is slow down a bit. If you just go a little bit slower, your mouth won't outpace your brain.", "Just try to slow down a bit. Helps me. Don't be afraid to take a moment before responding, maybe take a breath first " ]	[ 12, 8, 8, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I move for the first time? I’m 22 years old and just finished my undergrad degree. I’m currently living with my parents and working service jobs, but I’m really trying to move and start my life. The only problem is that I need somewhere cheap (under $700/mo) because I don’t have anyone I could split rent with. \n\nEvery apartment I’ve looked at requires me to be able to show income that’s 3x rent for at least three months. I’m trying to find a job via indeed, glassdoor, etc, but no one’s really hiring right now and everyone wants 4+ years experience for entry level positions. So until I can land something there I can’t show the required “income” because most of my income comes from tips.\n\nI could really use some pro tips for first time movers!", "How do I move for the first time? I’m 22 years old and just finished my undergrad degree. I’m currently living with my parents and working service jobs, but I’m really trying to move and start my life. The only problem is that I need somewhere cheap (under $700/mo) because I don’t have anyone I could split rent with. \n\nEvery apartment I’ve looked at requires me to be able to show income that’s 3x rent for at least three months. I’m trying to find a job via indeed, glassdoor, etc, but no one’s really hiring right now and everyone wants 4+ years experience for entry level positions. So until I can land something there I can’t show the required “income” because most of my income comes from tips.\n\nI could really use some pro tips for first time movers!", "How do I move for the first time? I’m 22 years old and just finished my undergrad degree. I’m currently living with my parents and working service jobs, but I’m really trying to move and start my life. The only problem is that I need somewhere cheap (under $700/mo) because I don’t have anyone I could split rent with. \n\nEvery apartment I’ve looked at requires me to be able to show income that’s 3x rent for at least three months. I’m trying to find a job via indeed, glassdoor, etc, but no one’s really hiring right now and everyone wants 4+ years experience for entry level positions. So until I can land something there I can’t show the required “income” because most of my income comes from tips.\n\nI could really use some pro tips for first time movers!", "How do I move for the first time? I’m 22 years old and just finished my undergrad degree. I’m currently living with my parents and working service jobs, but I’m really trying to move and start my life. The only problem is that I need somewhere cheap (under $700/mo) because I don’t have anyone I could split rent with. \n\nEvery apartment I’ve looked at requires me to be able to show income that’s 3x rent for at least three months. I’m trying to find a job via indeed, glassdoor, etc, but no one’s really hiring right now and everyone wants 4+ years experience for entry level positions. So until I can land something there I can’t show the required “income” because most of my income comes from tips.\n\nI could really use some pro tips for first time movers!", "How do I move for the first time? I’m 22 years old and just finished my undergrad degree. I’m currently living with my parents and working service jobs, but I’m really trying to move and start my life. The only problem is that I need somewhere cheap (under $700/mo) because I don’t have anyone I could split rent with. \n\nEvery apartment I’ve looked at requires me to be able to show income that’s 3x rent for at least three months. I’m trying to find a job via indeed, glassdoor, etc, but no one’s really hiring right now and everyone wants 4+ years experience for entry level positions. So until I can land something there I can’t show the required “income” because most of my income comes from tips.\n\nI could really use some pro tips for first time movers!" ]	[ "\"4+ years experience for entry level positions\" \n\n\nMost places put in stuff like this. You can often ignore it. If you have the skills/experience, fire off a resume/CV.", "Sorry, but be glad you have your parents. You need a lot of money to open an apartment. \n\nFirst and last months rent, in cash, security deposits and often, utility deposits. You will need savings of several thousand dollars. \n\nBe good to your parents and enjoy your time together. \n\nMaybe they can advise you on this.", "My first apartment I had my parents co-sign my lease... so I would pay, but in the event I wouldn’t be able to, my parents would have to. It never came to that because I was making enough money to pay the rent, but I also wasn’t making 2-3x the rent like they wanted ( and like they want you to do). I don’t know if something like that would be an option for you, but that’s how I managed to do it.\n\n", "Apply to every job you qualify for, even if you don’t have the exact number of years of experience etc. Let them decide if they want to interview you or not. Also, even if you don’t have someone to split rent with, look for a room in an apartment or someone looking for a roommate. You run the risk of ending up with bad roommates, but tbh sometimes moving in with a good friend turns out terribly & moving in with strangers turns out great.", "I’ve got some bad news bud. The lowest rent in the entire country, is $700. You’re certainly going to need room mates.\n\nI personally have never had good luck with room mates, but others swear by it." ]	[ 4, 3, 2, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to survive/kick-ass at a new company Hello! Long time lurker, but made an account to ask for your wise advice. I hope I'm doing this correctly.\n\nIn a few weeks I'm transitioning to a new company and I'm pretty sure I'm terrified. This will be my second job out of college and I know I didn't do it right the first time (I was shy, had a hard time making friends at first, and had a rough start to say the least), so I want to be more prepared this time around.\n\nI will be going from a company with 300 employees to one with 5,000+ employees. I will be leaving my comfort zone to a place of complete unfamiliarity. As an introvert, I'm scared I will be overwhelmed and hide in my shell once again. \n\nI found [this thread on how to gain traction in a new job](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/23lerk/lpt_quickly_gain_traction_in_a_new_job/), which has been extremely helpful, but I'm looking for more general tips for starting a new job rather than how to prove your usefulness.\n\nWhat can I do to help smooth the transition to a new company? Furthermore, do you have any tips on how to kick-ass during my first few weeks/months?\n\nSeeking tips, encouragement, and motivation-- thank you in advance :)\n", "How to survive/kick-ass at a new company Hello! Long time lurker, but made an account to ask for your wise advice. I hope I'm doing this correctly.\n\nIn a few weeks I'm transitioning to a new company and I'm pretty sure I'm terrified. This will be my second job out of college and I know I didn't do it right the first time (I was shy, had a hard time making friends at first, and had a rough start to say the least), so I want to be more prepared this time around.\n\nI will be going from a company with 300 employees to one with 5,000+ employees. I will be leaving my comfort zone to a place of complete unfamiliarity. As an introvert, I'm scared I will be overwhelmed and hide in my shell once again. \n\nI found [this thread on how to gain traction in a new job](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/23lerk/lpt_quickly_gain_traction_in_a_new_job/), which has been extremely helpful, but I'm looking for more general tips for starting a new job rather than how to prove your usefulness.\n\nWhat can I do to help smooth the transition to a new company? Furthermore, do you have any tips on how to kick-ass during my first few weeks/months?\n\nSeeking tips, encouragement, and motivation-- thank you in advance :)\n", "How to survive/kick-ass at a new company Hello! Long time lurker, but made an account to ask for your wise advice. I hope I'm doing this correctly.\n\nIn a few weeks I'm transitioning to a new company and I'm pretty sure I'm terrified. This will be my second job out of college and I know I didn't do it right the first time (I was shy, had a hard time making friends at first, and had a rough start to say the least), so I want to be more prepared this time around.\n\nI will be going from a company with 300 employees to one with 5,000+ employees. I will be leaving my comfort zone to a place of complete unfamiliarity. As an introvert, I'm scared I will be overwhelmed and hide in my shell once again. \n\nI found [this thread on how to gain traction in a new job](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/23lerk/lpt_quickly_gain_traction_in_a_new_job/), which has been extremely helpful, but I'm looking for more general tips for starting a new job rather than how to prove your usefulness.\n\nWhat can I do to help smooth the transition to a new company? Furthermore, do you have any tips on how to kick-ass during my first few weeks/months?\n\nSeeking tips, encouragement, and motivation-- thank you in advance :)\n", "How to survive/kick-ass at a new company Hello! Long time lurker, but made an account to ask for your wise advice. I hope I'm doing this correctly.\n\nIn a few weeks I'm transitioning to a new company and I'm pretty sure I'm terrified. This will be my second job out of college and I know I didn't do it right the first time (I was shy, had a hard time making friends at first, and had a rough start to say the least), so I want to be more prepared this time around.\n\nI will be going from a company with 300 employees to one with 5,000+ employees. I will be leaving my comfort zone to a place of complete unfamiliarity. As an introvert, I'm scared I will be overwhelmed and hide in my shell once again. \n\nI found [this thread on how to gain traction in a new job](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/23lerk/lpt_quickly_gain_traction_in_a_new_job/), which has been extremely helpful, but I'm looking for more general tips for starting a new job rather than how to prove your usefulness.\n\nWhat can I do to help smooth the transition to a new company? Furthermore, do you have any tips on how to kick-ass during my first few weeks/months?\n\nSeeking tips, encouragement, and motivation-- thank you in advance :)\n" ]	[ "Volunteer for all work that is available and unassigned. Often in meetings, someone will ask \"Who's going to do this?\" Be the first one to offer to do it, even if it's beyond your ability to complete. The managers won't give it to you if they know you can't handle it, but they will start thinking of you as someone who enthusiastically contributes.\n\nSecondly, get the book Crucial Conversations, and read it everyb6 months.\n\nKeep a list of your accomplishments, and update it every month.\n\nSet up a one on one meeting with your manager every two weeks to discuss your work progress and priorities.\n\nIf you get stuck, ask people for advice, and then implement the advice. When the advice leads to success, publicly cr", "It would be very helpful if we knew what your job is.\n\nI'm in software development and I find you get a lot of props if you look for small features/bugs that clearly everybody wants fixed but is too busy to do. Since you're going to have to familiarize with the software anyway, you have ample time for that. Our new colleague did exactly that: Doesn't talk a lot but keeps his eyes open and solves some small issues along the way. These are big pluses in my book.", "when being there, imagine whoever talking to you is naked/taking a dump !lol! then, proceed to talk to that person !\n\nit's funny but it helped me a lot ! ", "Make sure you either\n\n* Form a group of friends\n* Join a group of friends\n\nDo this on your 1st day of work.\n\nWith so many employees, you are bound to find people to your liking. Explain to them that it is your first day on the job and welcome the invitation of a clique that likes you and you like them. Otherwise if you join a group that hates you or you hate them then you will hate your job.\n\nBut above all else, relax.\n\nWork to find people with whom you enjoy socializing and relax. Do your work well and relax. Kick Ass and relax.\n\nRelax" ]	[ 5, 3, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to effectively cool down a car without an A/C? So, a car parked in a sunny spot has to be cooled down. What is the most effective way to do that without the use of an air conditioning? Furthermore what is the most effective way to keep the car cool after that?", "How to effectively cool down a car without an A/C? So, a car parked in a sunny spot has to be cooled down. What is the most effective way to do that without the use of an air conditioning? Furthermore what is the most effective way to keep the car cool after that?", "How to effectively cool down a car without an A/C? So, a car parked in a sunny spot has to be cooled down. What is the most effective way to do that without the use of an air conditioning? Furthermore what is the most effective way to keep the car cool after that?", "How to effectively cool down a car without an A/C? So, a car parked in a sunny spot has to be cooled down. What is the most effective way to do that without the use of an air conditioning? Furthermore what is the most effective way to keep the car cool after that?", "How to effectively cool down a car without an A/C? So, a car parked in a sunny spot has to be cooled down. What is the most effective way to do that without the use of an air conditioning? Furthermore what is the most effective way to keep the car cool after that?" ]	[ "Open the passenger-side window all the way and then open and close the driver-side door five times. This will draw out the hot air and draw in the (cooler) outside air, and the resulting drop in temperature inside the car will bring it very close to the outside air. See: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qldAvZL3TV4", "Get one of those aluminum sunscreens and put in the front window as well. They do make a difference. You can buy a generic one or spend maybe 40 bucks on one custom fit for your vehicle.", "When a liquid evaporates lowers the temperature of the surface. If you want to convince yourself this pour some alcohol on your hands and shake them until dry", "Open windows at opposite corners of the car to get cross ventilation while you are on the move.\n\nAlso, if you put up a sun shade in the windshield, your wheel and dash will soak up less heat to begin with.", "Never tint a car yourself, but if you can afford someone to do it, it helps a ton.\n\nYou just need to feel cool, the tip about rubbing alcohol on the palms of hand and feet work well because those are the body's most intense heat exchange areas. \n\nIf just the A/C doesn't work, but the fans do and you're a single rider, remember you can close off auxillary vents to make the fans hit you harder. \n\n" ]	[ 14, 5, 3, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How can I become more 'active' while meeting people and making new friends? I'm always waiting for my friends to invite me to a party or somewhere. I don't have this 'initiative' to tell my friends what to do to have fun and it sucks because I feel I'm losing so much time and it makes me a guy who looks like a grinch (and I have to confess that is fear of being rejected).\nHow can I train myself to gain this 'initiative' I'm talking about and lose the fear?", "How can I become more 'active' while meeting people and making new friends? I'm always waiting for my friends to invite me to a party or somewhere. I don't have this 'initiative' to tell my friends what to do to have fun and it sucks because I feel I'm losing so much time and it makes me a guy who looks like a grinch (and I have to confess that is fear of being rejected).\nHow can I train myself to gain this 'initiative' I'm talking about and lose the fear?", "How can I become more 'active' while meeting people and making new friends? I'm always waiting for my friends to invite me to a party or somewhere. I don't have this 'initiative' to tell my friends what to do to have fun and it sucks because I feel I'm losing so much time and it makes me a guy who looks like a grinch (and I have to confess that is fear of being rejected).\nHow can I train myself to gain this 'initiative' I'm talking about and lose the fear?", "How can I become more 'active' while meeting people and making new friends? I'm always waiting for my friends to invite me to a party or somewhere. I don't have this 'initiative' to tell my friends what to do to have fun and it sucks because I feel I'm losing so much time and it makes me a guy who looks like a grinch (and I have to confess that is fear of being rejected).\nHow can I train myself to gain this 'initiative' I'm talking about and lose the fear?" ]	[ "If you have any charismatic friends, shadow them. If not, just continuously throw yourself into social situations that are uncomfortable until you learn that rejection is inevitable. \n\nJust follow conversation closer, add occasionally but focus on building on what they're speaking about. People like to be paid attention to, so laughing at their jokes or observations, then following up with a question that presents them with an open ended ability to share with you will make them more likely to find your company enjoyable. \n\nRead their physical body language like how much attention they're paying to you. Are they looking at you while they speak? Are they choosing to stand or sit near you? Are they actually responding to what you say, or waiting to talk? I've noticed I tend to physically face away from people who annoy me, or I'm not interested in talking to. I will look away a lot, or close my hands/arms in front of myself. Subtle things and word choice all combined paint a very clear picture if you pay attention. \n\nI can't tell you to just be confident, but seriously just the basics; Stand up straight, eye contact, voice volume, and smile. \n", "Your friends aren't inviting you to parties?\n\nMaybe look for new friends. I was in a similar situation and sometimes it's them thats at fault, not you.", "first, get used to the idea of being rejected. infact throw yourself into social situations with a chance of being rejected just so you can develop a thick skin. Theres nothing wrong being rejected! its just human nature, even the most successful, attractive people have been rejected or shun out multiple times, its the way they handle it that has brought them to the good place they are in now. \n\nput your ideas out there, in a light, encouraging way. if they dont like your ways, go out in search for other peeps that willl! do this by joining clubs, taking part in sports, getting a new job etc. any opportunity is good! if even in 6 extra-curricular hobbies you make one good new friend, thats enough, that can open social portals for you! and those extra-curricular hobbies will also get yourself used to being out there, making the first move, and being more sociable :)\n\ni used to be super shy, no way could i ever talk to a stranger or suggest things to do. but then i got a job in fastfood, and within a couple months of having to greet and serve strangers i got pretty confident and used to putting myself out there (wearing a stupid hat 3 days per week definitely helped in me not giving a shit of what others thought of me haha) just put it in your mind to achieve that goal and JUST DO ITTTT. i know you can :) learn to pump yourself up! hope that helps a little ", "There is no \"cure\" other than doing it. I used to hate this advice so much but your only real way to deal with these types of things will be to get over it. Want to initiate things? Call your friends and make up plans; feel that you're losing time? Stop the pity party right in its tracks and think about the things you'd rather be doing–then make plans and stick to them.\n\nThere is no training. You'll just have to do it, until your fear realizes that it is truly irrational and unneeded in many situations." ]	[ 4, 3, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "Adjusting to night shift I'm starting an overnight job and I'm wondering how I can get my body to adjust more easily. It's 4 nights a week, 10 pm to 7 am. And I'm also wondering about the psychological aspect of being on a different schedule than the rest of the world, and different from my wife and kids.", "Adjusting to night shift I'm starting an overnight job and I'm wondering how I can get my body to adjust more easily. It's 4 nights a week, 10 pm to 7 am. And I'm also wondering about the psychological aspect of being on a different schedule than the rest of the world, and different from my wife and kids.", "Adjusting to night shift I'm starting an overnight job and I'm wondering how I can get my body to adjust more easily. It's 4 nights a week, 10 pm to 7 am. And I'm also wondering about the psychological aspect of being on a different schedule than the rest of the world, and different from my wife and kids.", "Adjusting to night shift I'm starting an overnight job and I'm wondering how I can get my body to adjust more easily. It's 4 nights a week, 10 pm to 7 am. And I'm also wondering about the psychological aspect of being on a different schedule than the rest of the world, and different from my wife and kids.", "Adjusting to night shift I'm starting an overnight job and I'm wondering how I can get my body to adjust more easily. It's 4 nights a week, 10 pm to 7 am. And I'm also wondering about the psychological aspect of being on a different schedule than the rest of the world, and different from my wife and kids.", "Adjusting to night shift I'm starting an overnight job and I'm wondering how I can get my body to adjust more easily. It's 4 nights a week, 10 pm to 7 am. And I'm also wondering about the psychological aspect of being on a different schedule than the rest of the world, and different from my wife and kids.", "Adjusting to night shift I'm starting an overnight job and I'm wondering how I can get my body to adjust more easily. It's 4 nights a week, 10 pm to 7 am. And I'm also wondering about the psychological aspect of being on a different schedule than the rest of the world, and different from my wife and kids.", "Adjusting to night shift I'm starting an overnight job and I'm wondering how I can get my body to adjust more easily. It's 4 nights a week, 10 pm to 7 am. And I'm also wondering about the psychological aspect of being on a different schedule than the rest of the world, and different from my wife and kids.", "Adjusting to night shift I'm starting an overnight job and I'm wondering how I can get my body to adjust more easily. It's 4 nights a week, 10 pm to 7 am. And I'm also wondering about the psychological aspect of being on a different schedule than the rest of the world, and different from my wife and kids.", "Adjusting to night shift I'm starting an overnight job and I'm wondering how I can get my body to adjust more easily. It's 4 nights a week, 10 pm to 7 am. And I'm also wondering about the psychological aspect of being on a different schedule than the rest of the world, and different from my wife and kids.", "Adjusting to night shift I'm starting an overnight job and I'm wondering how I can get my body to adjust more easily. It's 4 nights a week, 10 pm to 7 am. And I'm also wondering about the psychological aspect of being on a different schedule than the rest of the world, and different from my wife and kids." ]	[ "It's not going to be fun for the family. Get used to sleeping while they're up and vice versa. I would keep your schedule on your days off. Your body will hate you less. ", "Long time night shift worker here, my Quick summary:\n\nMelatonin will help you Set your sleep schedule...but will not knock you out.\n\nSomewhere there is a phone app which will sense your optimum waking moment by listening to you sleep; and then wake you when you are ready.\n\nUse [this](www.sleepyti.me) to help you plan when and how much to sleep.\n\nOver doing caffeine can make you sleepy. Be careful to only use it to help maintain a consistent time period. Also CostCo has cheap equivalent to 5Hour Energy Drinks. ~$0.75 ea They have B vitamins, which help. The only better thing is to buy raw caffeine tablets...and be VERY careful.\n\nWhen waking up, do excercises. Then eat a big meal, also vitamin supplements, especially Vitamin D. Avoid big meals later in your 'day'\n\nVideo/computer games can help you stay awake during your nights off. Don't over do it or your sleep schedule is screwed.\n\nVideo game music is designed to help you focus. Use it if your work place allows.\n\nGet really good drapes/shutters; double/triple paned windows block noise very well. I also use an old black silk shirt over my eyes while I sleep. And I swear having a cat helps me sleep...but that's not scientific.\n\nThat's all I got.", "Trust me when I say your body will get used to it. Blackout curtains are your best friend. I currently am at a job where I work 6am to 6pm Monday-Friday, then 6pm-6am the next week etc. switching back and forth is a pain in the ass. Most of the time I don't even know what day it is. I had a hard time adjusting to nights at first as well but every one you do makes the next one a little easier.", "If you're not living with family or someone that you want to spend time with in the weekends, try and maintain the same sleep schedule on your days off, it keeps you from having to constantly readjust your sleep schedule.", "I work 4/10s 10pm to 8am. I have been doing this now for 7 years. \n\nThe key to my success is to stick to a schedule. I always go to sleep at noon and wake up at 6pm. ", "I work 4 PM to 1 AM. Never in bed before 4 AM. Don't try to coordinate your schedule with a daytime person.", "I work 2 jobs and go to school. Normal work hours are 9pm to 5am and then on some days my 2nd job is 12pm to 5pm and then school from 6pm to 8:30pm. Some days it is work rom 9pm to 5am, and then my 2nd job from 12pm-8pm and then back to my 1st job. The only thing that helps is going straight home, relaxing, then sleeping as much as I can and drinking caffeine as soon as I wake up. \n\nIt's extremely hard on me, but I have to do it. I don't have kids, but rarely see any friends of family. At most I see my friends at school and family as I am heading out the door or on my days off. \n\nI work alone and sometimes will call my mom to talk because I miss her. It's important to spend time with family as often as you can, but trust me, don't sacrifice too much sleep for it. It will wear you down fast.", "I used to split my sleep into two 3 or 4 hour naps. Then I'd have time to shop or play during the day! \n", "Fast for a day and when it's time for you to get up have breakfast, then lunch (during your lunch hour) then dinner at 7am. By fasting then eating, your body will \"reset\" to those hours. ", "Did a few years of the same schedule 5 days a week and have many friends/co-workers who did the same or close. There are two types of schedules at night just like during the day. Night/Morning people stay up at night and well after the sun rises, Evening/Night people are awake a little before sunset till the morning. \n \nThe later is better for social reasons but terrible for psychological reasons. Morning/afternoon is the worst time to sleep. Temperatures out side change the most during this time, There are lots of activities going on like road noises landscaping, and waking up and eating a large meal like dinner can fuck with your body. The social aspect isn't much better. From getting up and rushing just to hang out with people who just got off work and don't want to be around people yet, to not having enough time before you head in to really do anything. I once had a female co worker who quit because her children would be crying as she left every night. One last thought is that never seeing sunlight can be very depressing. \n \nNight/Morning isn't much better. Very few friends will be able to hang out at 0700, very few places are open that early as well. And though it's better on your body then the alternative can be just as depressing. Also, people look at you strange when you buy beer first thing in the morning. \n \nAlso 24 hour clocks are your new best friend.", "Almost every job I had was night shift. I can imagine this being very difficult with wife and kids, But it can be done! Divide sleep into 1-2 hour naps throughout the day. it will feel weird at first but your body will adjust very quickly. As for psychological effects, Sleep deprivation is like being on a drug, dizziness, confusion when completing tasks, so really try to eat lots of protein for energy. Lastly, water saved my life during back-shift. It will give you extra energy and not feel so much like a used up chainsaw in the morning. Here is a link to an alarm clock I used, It calculates your REM sleep cycle so you can wake up without feeling shitty. http://sleepyti.me/ Happy Night shift!" ]	[ 4, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "anything related to being a good supervisor (in the eyes of both, employees below AND above my pay grade). This is my first supervisor position at a legitimate company... I was a corporal in the army and a shift manager at Taco Bell before that.. while in the army, I was only accountable for a squad of 10 other people (who were all close friends anyway).. and the taco bell I worked at wasnt very professional at all.. hopefully some comments can help other passer-byers as well...", "anything related to being a good supervisor (in the eyes of both, employees below AND above my pay grade). This is my first supervisor position at a legitimate company... I was a corporal in the army and a shift manager at Taco Bell before that.. while in the army, I was only accountable for a squad of 10 other people (who were all close friends anyway).. and the taco bell I worked at wasnt very professional at all.. hopefully some comments can help other passer-byers as well...", "anything related to being a good supervisor (in the eyes of both, employees below AND above my pay grade). This is my first supervisor position at a legitimate company... I was a corporal in the army and a shift manager at Taco Bell before that.. while in the army, I was only accountable for a squad of 10 other people (who were all close friends anyway).. and the taco bell I worked at wasnt very professional at all.. hopefully some comments can help other passer-byers as well...", "anything related to being a good supervisor (in the eyes of both, employees below AND above my pay grade). This is my first supervisor position at a legitimate company... I was a corporal in the army and a shift manager at Taco Bell before that.. while in the army, I was only accountable for a squad of 10 other people (who were all close friends anyway).. and the taco bell I worked at wasnt very professional at all.. hopefully some comments can help other passer-byers as well...", "anything related to being a good supervisor (in the eyes of both, employees below AND above my pay grade). This is my first supervisor position at a legitimate company... I was a corporal in the army and a shift manager at Taco Bell before that.. while in the army, I was only accountable for a squad of 10 other people (who were all close friends anyway).. and the taco bell I worked at wasnt very professional at all.. hopefully some comments can help other passer-byers as well...", "anything related to being a good supervisor (in the eyes of both, employees below AND above my pay grade). This is my first supervisor position at a legitimate company... I was a corporal in the army and a shift manager at Taco Bell before that.. while in the army, I was only accountable for a squad of 10 other people (who were all close friends anyway).. and the taco bell I worked at wasnt very professional at all.. hopefully some comments can help other passer-byers as well...", "anything related to being a good supervisor (in the eyes of both, employees below AND above my pay grade). This is my first supervisor position at a legitimate company... I was a corporal in the army and a shift manager at Taco Bell before that.. while in the army, I was only accountable for a squad of 10 other people (who were all close friends anyway).. and the taco bell I worked at wasnt very professional at all.. hopefully some comments can help other passer-byers as well...", "anything related to being a good supervisor (in the eyes of both, employees below AND above my pay grade). This is my first supervisor position at a legitimate company... I was a corporal in the army and a shift manager at Taco Bell before that.. while in the army, I was only accountable for a squad of 10 other people (who were all close friends anyway).. and the taco bell I worked at wasnt very professional at all.. hopefully some comments can help other passer-byers as well...", "anything related to being a good supervisor (in the eyes of both, employees below AND above my pay grade). This is my first supervisor position at a legitimate company... I was a corporal in the army and a shift manager at Taco Bell before that.. while in the army, I was only accountable for a squad of 10 other people (who were all close friends anyway).. and the taco bell I worked at wasnt very professional at all.. hopefully some comments can help other passer-byers as well...", "anything related to being a good supervisor (in the eyes of both, employees below AND above my pay grade). This is my first supervisor position at a legitimate company... I was a corporal in the army and a shift manager at Taco Bell before that.. while in the army, I was only accountable for a squad of 10 other people (who were all close friends anyway).. and the taco bell I worked at wasnt very professional at all.. hopefully some comments can help other passer-byers as well...", "anything related to being a good supervisor (in the eyes of both, employees below AND above my pay grade). This is my first supervisor position at a legitimate company... I was a corporal in the army and a shift manager at Taco Bell before that.. while in the army, I was only accountable for a squad of 10 other people (who were all close friends anyway).. and the taco bell I worked at wasnt very professional at all.. hopefully some comments can help other passer-byers as well..." ]	[ "State specifically what you expect so people don't have to decipher your meaning. Take what other people say at face value to teach them to do the same. ", "Untrain your personal biases and remember that a valuable employee can be above or below you. Compliment the things that people do well. Morale can be your greatest asset! This is not to say you should be all buddy buddy with everyone.", "Remember that they are people, just like you. They have interests other than working. They have families, friends; they aren't just there for you. ", "Please and thank you when asking people to do stuff. If they're not done then escalate them to demands.", "Reflect on the things you've liked and disliked about your managers. \n\nFor people on your team, make the effort to casually complement their work. If they feel like they are a top performer doing a good job they will work to keep that narrative true.\n\nApproach differences with curiosity before judgement, \"can you explain how/why you did it this way\" vs \"why didn't you do it like this\".\n\nFor higher ups, make their life easier by being clear and concise. They want you to manage, so you should summarize things but be able to go into detail if needed. You are a resource for them to know what's happening on your team. ", "I'm sure a few of these have been repeated, but after almost 5 years in supervisory positions here's what I've learned:\n\n* Don't micromanage, but be mindful of your employees. People don't like being told what to do repeatedly when they know what's going on, but if you're too lenient they're more likely to slack off.\n\n* Be firm but fair. I liked to take a \"3 strike\" approach to rules, becoming more firm each time. A lot of people like to make an example and will give a pretty harsh punishment on someone's first offense, but I find this to be sort of counter-productive to everyone else. You don't necessarily need to give someone 3 strikes, but escalate your punishment each time (verbal warning, written warning, write up/termination). Also be fair; don't punish one person one way and punish someone else another way for a similar offense. Definitely don't play favorites.\n\n* Be transparent. Make your expectations clear to your employees so that there's no room for error.\n\n* Be open. Always be kind enough to your employees to where they respect you and your position, but they also feel they can come to you with their issues.\n\n* Be understanding. Not everyone is going to do everything 100% correct 100% of the time. If it's a simple mistake address it as such and move on.\n\n* Be a leader. This sounds like a given, but a leader is someone who isn't afraid to take charge of a situation and get dirty themselves. Every supervisory position I've held I've always been right there with my employees doing the work. Even though I couldn't be there all the time because I had other, behind-the-scenes duties, they knew that I still worked alongside them instead of simply telling them to do it all. Being a leader also means defending your people when they're not in the wrong; some of the higher ups may not understand the process of things or believe that a harsher punishment may be necessary when it isn't. Whatever the case, never fold under pressure unless you absolutely have to, and never throw your people under the bus. Even if they're wrong, don't lie or try to make them out to be right, but at least defend the fact that they're a good worker and made a mistake.\n\n* Don't be a \"Yes Man\". This one is tricky; some employers love people who do their bidding, others don't. Regardless, don't be the person who says yes to every order if it isn't what's right or best. Whenever my higher ups would tell me how or why I should do something and I knew it was wrong or inefficient I would say so and set out to prove it if I could. This shows that you have a spine, but obviously you don't want to be too hard-headed about it.\n\n* Be knowledgeable. This may be another given, but being a supervisor isn't just being in charge of other people. You really should strive to know as much as you can about not only your job, but the job of those who are under you. If you can also learn something about those who are above you that's good too because it shows you're willingness to learn and improve. It doesn't hurt to know about the company and it's inner workings (hiring process, vacation, benefits packages, etc). This way if someone has a question you can give them a correct answer. And if you don't know something, tell the person you don't know but you'll find out for them, then obviously follow up. This shows your people that you're willing to help them, and also some people have trouble asking simple questions out of embarrassment, so it's bonus for them.", "How to win debates, make people like you, pick up women and generally be a boss:\n\n ->Ask more questions than you make declarative statements.\n\nDebates: If you spend more time asking questions than answering, who works harder to justify their perspectives you or your opposition? Do you want to levy disagreement without seeming pushy or brash; how could break down the points you disagree on while remaining open to input... ask? Unsure about why things are done a specific way; how might you find out... ask? \n\nPeople: Want to show your boss you're interested in their input, want to do better, and are invested in details? How would you most simply communicate these points to them... ask? Want to show your employees you care about them as people and about their ideas, their concerns and needs? How might you elicit conversations on these points... ask?\n\nWomen: Want a woman to take you seriously as personal prospect? How might you earnestly demonstrate how seriously you take her as a person & prospect (in that order)... ask?\n\nBoss: Want to generally be a boss in social settings? How might you do that?\n\nGenuine people genuinely like it when you ask them about their thoughts and ideas, disingenuous people are disingenuously indignant about being questioned; might this be a useful social cipher?\n\nIf I went to fast for anyone, please, don't hesitate to ask questions.\n", "Give subordinates a list.. Don't expect them to remember tasks.\n\nI was an E-5... This isn't the ARMY. PC is a thing in the real world.", "Some additional things to what others have already said:\n1) you can delegate authority, not responsibility. (ie: bigger boss gives you a project, you hand off part or all of it to a subordinate. Sub doesn't get it done or does it half-ass. YOU are still on the hook. It was your responsibility.)\n\n2)Don't become or even appear to be an ass kisser to higher-up. Your subordinates will resent you.\n\n3) Praise / commend in public, reprimand / discipline in private. Both need to be done ina timely manner.\n\n4) Try to make your role more facilitator than director or leader.", "Listen to the Entreleadership Podcast. Give people responsibilities instead of 'tasks'. Find a way to reward good employees, even quiet, hardworking ones. ", "- Be the manager you wanted when you were a regular employee. If the crew is getting run over in a huge rush, don't sit in the back counting money. Be out there with them, asking how they're doing and what you can do to help them. Their respect for you will skyrocket.\n\n- Look at your employees/anyone below you as your coworkers and equals, but look at those above you/bosses as your superiors. This helps keep you humble and not let the power go to your head." ]	[ 6, 5, 5, 4, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to be Confident when it comes to Clothing I'm a pretty skinny dude. It's always been like that, genetically my entire family is slender (tall and very skinny). I know a fast answer would be to put on weight/workout, but that's not what I'm asking. You can't gain 30+ pounds overnight. Sooooo, with that being said: how can one by confident in what they're wearing (irregardless of size)?", "How to be Confident when it comes to Clothing I'm a pretty skinny dude. It's always been like that, genetically my entire family is slender (tall and very skinny). I know a fast answer would be to put on weight/workout, but that's not what I'm asking. You can't gain 30+ pounds overnight. Sooooo, with that being said: how can one by confident in what they're wearing (irregardless of size)?" ]	[ "Once you realize that people don't pay nearly as much attention to you as you think they do, it becomes a bit easier to be confident. \n\n And in any case, confidence is just about self-acceptance. You like wearing polo shirts even though they expose your long arms? Who cares, just own that shit. \n Unless you get funny looks from people, you probably look good in whatever you wear.", "Unless you are wearing something stupidly flashy or dirty, the only people who are going to judge you for your attire are douchebags, and who cares what they think? Smile and be cool and treat people well and you'll be OK." ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to get smells out of your fridge I left for 3 weeks and came back and my fridge had a horrible smell, almost like sour milk. The problem is, I didn't have anything in the fridge part (the freezer did). It was completely empty aside from condiments (BBQ sauce, Ketchup, etc). I've tried taking everything out an cleaning it with both Lysol and dish soap. I've also put a brand new box of baking soda in and a cup of coffee grounds (I read that it helps to get rid of smells). I'm pretty sure the smell is actually getting worse! Any suggestions?\n\n", "How to get smells out of your fridge I left for 3 weeks and came back and my fridge had a horrible smell, almost like sour milk. The problem is, I didn't have anything in the fridge part (the freezer did). It was completely empty aside from condiments (BBQ sauce, Ketchup, etc). I've tried taking everything out an cleaning it with both Lysol and dish soap. I've also put a brand new box of baking soda in and a cup of coffee grounds (I read that it helps to get rid of smells). I'm pretty sure the smell is actually getting worse! Any suggestions?\n\n", "How to get smells out of your fridge I left for 3 weeks and came back and my fridge had a horrible smell, almost like sour milk. The problem is, I didn't have anything in the fridge part (the freezer did). It was completely empty aside from condiments (BBQ sauce, Ketchup, etc). I've tried taking everything out an cleaning it with both Lysol and dish soap. I've also put a brand new box of baking soda in and a cup of coffee grounds (I read that it helps to get rid of smells). I'm pretty sure the smell is actually getting worse! Any suggestions?\n\n", "How to get smells out of your fridge I left for 3 weeks and came back and my fridge had a horrible smell, almost like sour milk. The problem is, I didn't have anything in the fridge part (the freezer did). It was completely empty aside from condiments (BBQ sauce, Ketchup, etc). I've tried taking everything out an cleaning it with both Lysol and dish soap. I've also put a brand new box of baking soda in and a cup of coffee grounds (I read that it helps to get rid of smells). I'm pretty sure the smell is actually getting worse! Any suggestions?\n\n", "How to get smells out of your fridge I left for 3 weeks and came back and my fridge had a horrible smell, almost like sour milk. The problem is, I didn't have anything in the fridge part (the freezer did). It was completely empty aside from condiments (BBQ sauce, Ketchup, etc). I've tried taking everything out an cleaning it with both Lysol and dish soap. I've also put a brand new box of baking soda in and a cup of coffee grounds (I read that it helps to get rid of smells). I'm pretty sure the smell is actually getting worse! Any suggestions?\n\n" ]	[ "You need to remove all the food and spray everything with Comet or Clorox Formula 409 Cleaner with bleach", "I got a mini fridge from a local college and it reeked of cigarette smoke.\n\nI scrubbed it down with a diluted white vinegar solution.\n\nBut if the smell is getting worse, you haven't found the spilled milk yet. Did you remove all the drawers and check behind them?", "1. Remove all items in the fridge\n2. Wash down all shelves\n3. Remove all drawers and rinse out/scrub out in the sink\n4. Check behind where the drawers were, often things slip behind there\n5. Clean behind where the drawers were while the drawers dry\n6. Check every tupperware item or butter bin (that you might recycle to hold leftovers or whatever) - there might be a crack in one of them that's the culprit\n7. Leave door open for everything inside the fridge to dry completely before restocking it completely while sorting/tossing out anything old or expired\n\n", "I had the same problem. turns out a piece of who knows what had fallen behind one of the drawers for who knows how long. that solved the problem the next day. Theres something growing/living/watching tv in there. you just have to find it and throw it away and then the baking soda will take over. ", "Baking Soda!!!!\n\njust open up a box of baking soda and stick the whole box in there (if it reeks bad)." ]	[ 3, 3, 3, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to stretch an attention span and concentrate better. I see students who can just sit there and listen all class and never get distracted. How can I be like that? ", "How to stretch an attention span and concentrate better. I see students who can just sit there and listen all class and never get distracted. How can I be like that? " ]	[ "Preparation, being...\n\n\nGet good sleep, requires...\n\n\nGet exercise, requires...\n\n\nEat well.\n\n\nThen, treat this subject like a job, or a project you chose and started yourself. I.e. create urgency and importance. Set a goal to excel at this subject (independent of all others, but not instead of them). Excel for it's own sake, but also recognizing you only get one chance to learn it. So crush it and move on.\n\n\nIn the moment, set up the room as if you OWN it. If the speaker is too quiet, ask them to speak up. If someone is distracting you, ask them to shut up. If you are too hot, ask to open the windows. \n\n\nPrepare for EACH session like an exam. Pee and hydrate before you go. Switch off your phone. Take all the books and pens and notebooks you need. Do not use a laptop to 'take notes' like 99pc of your colleagues. That just turns you into a freakin typist. You learn NOTHING that way. Use pen and paper and take only bulletpoints or spider diagrams.\n\n\nSo finally if your brain is elsewhere, either take more caffeine or less, based on where you are that day. Most people are overcaffeinated, so probably cutback. But after lunch, or late morning maybe you need a boost.\n\n\nAlso recognize if you are under stress, anxiety or depression, or emotional for some reason, a loss, a relationship... and sort that out as a separate activity. Maybe get help with that.\n\n\nThen, simply take your life, your knowledge SERIOUSLY and respect the organiser. Stop drifting through life. As some guy said, be 'meaningful specific'. Do everything with INTENT. Don't just show up or 'phone it in'.", "For me, sitting up front was always detrimental. I always sat in the back in high school to goof off, not be seen etc. In college, I didn't have any friends in my classes and started sitting up front more. it made a huge difference in my ability to pay attention." ]	[ 8, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to stop moths and other insects that are attracted to light coming inside at night Now it's summer here in the UK I have to leave my windows open at night to stop my bedroom from getting too hot and I'm constantly having to catch bugs and throw them back outside. Well tonight a moth of mammoth proportions flew into my room and here I am stood outside wondering what to do\n\n", "How to stop moths and other insects that are attracted to light coming inside at night Now it's summer here in the UK I have to leave my windows open at night to stop my bedroom from getting too hot and I'm constantly having to catch bugs and throw them back outside. Well tonight a moth of mammoth proportions flew into my room and here I am stood outside wondering what to do\n\n" ]	[ "We have these great things on the other side of the pond called 'screens,' which are specially designed for just that purpose.", "Get a cat! I purposefully lure moths to the porch light so I can open the door and draft them inside. My cats love chasing them. I bet you didn't think a cat would be the best answer when you posted your question, did you? :)" ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I stop stressing over everything? If you guys can list a bunch of events in your life that has made you immensely stressed, please list them! Back in May, I took an exam that determines whether or not I can stay in my selected major at my college. The students in this major have a total of 3 attempts to pass it, so I still have 2 more attempts. The results come out this Friday, so I don’t know whether I passed or not. Yet, I’m beyond stressed out! The thing is, I do this with almost everything that’s school related, and I’ve been losing so much hair. \n\nI’m trying to tell myself that I need to get a hold of this now because I’m still young, and I have barely experienced the real stresses of life.\n\nI tried going to the gym tonight, and I mentally could not motivate myself to go through my normal routine.", "How do I stop stressing over everything? If you guys can list a bunch of events in your life that has made you immensely stressed, please list them! Back in May, I took an exam that determines whether or not I can stay in my selected major at my college. The students in this major have a total of 3 attempts to pass it, so I still have 2 more attempts. The results come out this Friday, so I don’t know whether I passed or not. Yet, I’m beyond stressed out! The thing is, I do this with almost everything that’s school related, and I’ve been losing so much hair. \n\nI’m trying to tell myself that I need to get a hold of this now because I’m still young, and I have barely experienced the real stresses of life.\n\nI tried going to the gym tonight, and I mentally could not motivate myself to go through my normal routine.", "How do I stop stressing over everything? If you guys can list a bunch of events in your life that has made you immensely stressed, please list them! Back in May, I took an exam that determines whether or not I can stay in my selected major at my college. The students in this major have a total of 3 attempts to pass it, so I still have 2 more attempts. The results come out this Friday, so I don’t know whether I passed or not. Yet, I’m beyond stressed out! The thing is, I do this with almost everything that’s school related, and I’ve been losing so much hair. \n\nI’m trying to tell myself that I need to get a hold of this now because I’m still young, and I have barely experienced the real stresses of life.\n\nI tried going to the gym tonight, and I mentally could not motivate myself to go through my normal routine.", "How do I stop stressing over everything? If you guys can list a bunch of events in your life that has made you immensely stressed, please list them! Back in May, I took an exam that determines whether or not I can stay in my selected major at my college. The students in this major have a total of 3 attempts to pass it, so I still have 2 more attempts. The results come out this Friday, so I don’t know whether I passed or not. Yet, I’m beyond stressed out! The thing is, I do this with almost everything that’s school related, and I’ve been losing so much hair. \n\nI’m trying to tell myself that I need to get a hold of this now because I’m still young, and I have barely experienced the real stresses of life.\n\nI tried going to the gym tonight, and I mentally could not motivate myself to go through my normal routine.", "How do I stop stressing over everything? If you guys can list a bunch of events in your life that has made you immensely stressed, please list them! Back in May, I took an exam that determines whether or not I can stay in my selected major at my college. The students in this major have a total of 3 attempts to pass it, so I still have 2 more attempts. The results come out this Friday, so I don’t know whether I passed or not. Yet, I’m beyond stressed out! The thing is, I do this with almost everything that’s school related, and I’ve been losing so much hair. \n\nI’m trying to tell myself that I need to get a hold of this now because I’m still young, and I have barely experienced the real stresses of life.\n\nI tried going to the gym tonight, and I mentally could not motivate myself to go through my normal routine.", "How do I stop stressing over everything? If you guys can list a bunch of events in your life that has made you immensely stressed, please list them! Back in May, I took an exam that determines whether or not I can stay in my selected major at my college. The students in this major have a total of 3 attempts to pass it, so I still have 2 more attempts. The results come out this Friday, so I don’t know whether I passed or not. Yet, I’m beyond stressed out! The thing is, I do this with almost everything that’s school related, and I’ve been losing so much hair. \n\nI’m trying to tell myself that I need to get a hold of this now because I’m still young, and I have barely experienced the real stresses of life.\n\nI tried going to the gym tonight, and I mentally could not motivate myself to go through my normal routine." ]	[ "Stress is worrying about what may happen. You can control what you know how to control and the rest doesn’t matter. \n\nCreate a plan for an outcome you are worried about and relax. You can always reassess later.", "School/grades, few years of military service, relationship, marriage, starting a family, financials, getting laid off from a great job, having a stable job but getting an offer from a friend to help start a new company, investing life savings and taking a big loss...\n\nThe list never ends I’m afraid, it’s all in how you handle it. Every moment is a learning experience, whether good or bad. I’ve had good jobs, I’ve had bad jobs, I work in an inherently stressful field (high voltage work), and I’ve been laid off wondering how I’m going to pay my bills pay my nest egg. I’ve felt financially stable, and house broke. I’ve made money in investments, and lost big as well. Relationships can always be up and down, and the decision to have our first kid is nerve wracking but I wouldn’t trade it for the world now that my son’s here.\n\nI realized early in adulthood that stress is such a heavy weight to hold and it had a negative impact on my well being. Everyone around me seemed to have the same issues, the same rants, the same stress. I came to the conclusion that if everyone has such similar things in life that they stress over, why stress at all? I mean, everyone I’ve known has always gotten by, so if I just go with the flow, it’ll all work out. I think I overall live a pretty stress free life because of it.", "I just keep telling myself that worrying won’t effect the outcome, only hard work will. Just move on and study more. Either for the test you might retake or the next subject. Being prepared breeds confidence and silences self doubt.", "if you're having trouble with doing the above take the opportunity now to distract yourself with something you enjoy doing while you wait.", "I always ask if there are things I can do to change the outcome, when I find myself being stressed about something. Took an exam and don't know if I passed? There is absolutely nothing I can do now, tomorrow, or any day until the results come out, to change that outcome. \n\nRealizing and accepting this is a giant step in stress management for me.", "32 years old checking in.\n\nDont panic, easier said than done of course\n\nI still dont know what i want to do in life, but atm ive got a good job, got a lovely house ive been doing up etc.\n\nIf you ask any 60 year old, theyll almost certainly have the same answer as me.\n\n\nDomt put stress on yourself for the sake of exams or anything.\nWe're all going to die one day, have fun, rock out woth your cock out. Think of all the people in the world who havent even farted in the direction youve gone, you're doing fine budd, have some confidence in those cahonas!" ]	[ 5, 4, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Keeping papers from wrinkling and fraying in a messenger bag. I've got a small messenger bag that I carry to work everyday, containing my wallet, my lunch, my laptop, work papers, etc. I've noticed that papers tend to get frayed in the bag and wrinkle along the edges. I've tried putting the papers within my laptop, but they hang out along the edges due to it being a small laptop. A 3 ring binder would be bigger than what I need, and standard paper folders don't seem sturdy enough to keep everything crisp and protected. Is there anything else I could use to make sure the papers don't get bent up in my bag?", "Keeping papers from wrinkling and fraying in a messenger bag. I've got a small messenger bag that I carry to work everyday, containing my wallet, my lunch, my laptop, work papers, etc. I've noticed that papers tend to get frayed in the bag and wrinkle along the edges. I've tried putting the papers within my laptop, but they hang out along the edges due to it being a small laptop. A 3 ring binder would be bigger than what I need, and standard paper folders don't seem sturdy enough to keep everything crisp and protected. Is there anything else I could use to make sure the papers don't get bent up in my bag?", "Keeping papers from wrinkling and fraying in a messenger bag. I've got a small messenger bag that I carry to work everyday, containing my wallet, my lunch, my laptop, work papers, etc. I've noticed that papers tend to get frayed in the bag and wrinkle along the edges. I've tried putting the papers within my laptop, but they hang out along the edges due to it being a small laptop. A 3 ring binder would be bigger than what I need, and standard paper folders don't seem sturdy enough to keep everything crisp and protected. Is there anything else I could use to make sure the papers don't get bent up in my bag?" ]	[ "Instead of the usual \"bendable\" cardboardy-paper folders, try a type called poly folders. They're a flexible plastic, but not too flexible so that you don't get the wear/shaping/shredding effect. Example here: http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0017D3R7W/ref=pd_aw_sims_5?pi=SS115&simLd=1 (I've used the Esselte and the Staples brands with good luck. Much like everything else, I'm sure sturdiness varies with brand)", "I don't know how helpful this will be, but they sell plastic folders that are a good deal sturdier than the paper ones. They're what I use for my papers for classes. I picked them up at Office Depot for about $1 a piece.", "Buy one of those business leather notebooks/pads. These are maybe half an inch at most. \n\nLink as an example: \nhttp://www.luxuryleathergoods.com/a4-leather-portfolio \n\nYou can find these at staples or your local supply store for no more than 20$. Plus it makes you look professional. Lol, some employers provide these as well. \n" ]	[ 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Stop chewing pens I spend a ludicrous amount of money replacing pens that i basically inhale. I don't think I've ever run out of ink in a pen before devouring it. Any tips?", "Stop chewing pens I spend a ludicrous amount of money replacing pens that i basically inhale. I don't think I've ever run out of ink in a pen before devouring it. Any tips?", "Stop chewing pens I spend a ludicrous amount of money replacing pens that i basically inhale. I don't think I've ever run out of ink in a pen before devouring it. Any tips?", "Stop chewing pens I spend a ludicrous amount of money replacing pens that i basically inhale. I don't think I've ever run out of ink in a pen before devouring it. Any tips?", "Stop chewing pens I spend a ludicrous amount of money replacing pens that i basically inhale. I don't think I've ever run out of ink in a pen before devouring it. Any tips?", "Stop chewing pens I spend a ludicrous amount of money replacing pens that i basically inhale. I don't think I've ever run out of ink in a pen before devouring it. Any tips?", "Stop chewing pens I spend a ludicrous amount of money replacing pens that i basically inhale. I don't think I've ever run out of ink in a pen before devouring it. Any tips?" ]	[ "Try covering the end of the pen with something edible but that tastes nasty. Used this one for my sister who wouldn't stop biting her nails - there was a special varnish you could put onto the nails - don't see why you can't put it on a pen?\n\n", "Spray computer duster on the ends of the pens. One taste of that stuff and you'll never bite a pen again.", "I had a friend who did this, and got those really brittle bic mechanical pencils. The result was that she'd bite through the pencil and shatter the hard plastic, having to spit out the shards and occasionally made herself bleed.\n\nIt turned her off to the whole thing, because the pain in her mouth made her hate everything about it.", "Go to Petsmart (or any other pet supply store) and get some of the bitter spray that is used to keep pets from chewing furniture. It's non-toxic, tastes terrible, and lasts forever.A friend of mine did this to a guy she works with.", "Replace this habit with another. Buy toothpicks .99cents american gets you a box of 750 and they are from a renewable resource, also low calorie mints or sugarless gum.", "No idea what your context is, but I used to do this like mad in high school. One day one of my friends called me on it, and, as we had several classes together, would flick me whenever he caught me doing it. Haven't done it in years.\n\nIf you don't have friends, buy some cheap pens with chewy lids (I'm thinking the non-brittle BICs) and add the cheap lids to the ends of your not-shitty pens. Doesn't break the habit, but saves some $$.\n\nFinally, a tip that never worked for me but I've had recommended (for sunglasses, of all things): invest in a pen. The first time you ruin an $xx(x?) pen, you'll hate yourself so much you won't do it again. (I habitually break, lose, scratch, or lend out my sunglasses. Thank goodness for Urban Outfitters $10 hipster shades.)", "Chew cable ties instead. Buy an assortment of sizes, cut them through the middle and chew away.\n\nTwist ties also work, but they don't last very long.\n\nI also have chewed through a bunch of pens... I don't think you will break the habit, so just chew other cheaper things." ]	[ 4, 4, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Drinking with upper management. I'm going to a sporting event with some people from my company and a lot of the higher ups will be in attendance. I do know that a lot of them like to party but I didn't know if there was a general rule of thumb for drinking with co workers. This will be a first for me. ", "Drinking with upper management. I'm going to a sporting event with some people from my company and a lot of the higher ups will be in attendance. I do know that a lot of them like to party but I didn't know if there was a general rule of thumb for drinking with co workers. This will be a first for me. ", "Drinking with upper management. I'm going to a sporting event with some people from my company and a lot of the higher ups will be in attendance. I do know that a lot of them like to party but I didn't know if there was a general rule of thumb for drinking with co workers. This will be a first for me. ", "Drinking with upper management. I'm going to a sporting event with some people from my company and a lot of the higher ups will be in attendance. I do know that a lot of them like to party but I didn't know if there was a general rule of thumb for drinking with co workers. This will be a first for me. ", "Drinking with upper management. I'm going to a sporting event with some people from my company and a lot of the higher ups will be in attendance. I do know that a lot of them like to party but I didn't know if there was a general rule of thumb for drinking with co workers. This will be a first for me. ", "Drinking with upper management. I'm going to a sporting event with some people from my company and a lot of the higher ups will be in attendance. I do know that a lot of them like to party but I didn't know if there was a general rule of thumb for drinking with co workers. This will be a first for me. ", "Drinking with upper management. I'm going to a sporting event with some people from my company and a lot of the higher ups will be in attendance. I do know that a lot of them like to party but I didn't know if there was a general rule of thumb for drinking with co workers. This will be a first for me. " ]	[ "Definitely do not get drunk. While it is a social event, so you can have fun, you are still in front of the higher ups. Do a lot of listening while asking relevant questions. They are perfectly aware you are on your guard and feeling out of place. My guess is that they will charm you to put you at your ease...most higher ups are either charming or narcissists (or both), so just let them take the lead. \n\nIf you want to fit in, act like you are with your friends, but someone's uptight mom (that you don't want to offend) is also there.", "In general, one way to get people to like you is to be like them. So, wait to start drinking until the \"higher ups\" start. Order the same types of drinks. Speak and act like they do. Bam, next CEO.", "Treat them like they are the parents of an SO you plan on marrying. You want to seem fun, relaxed, and cool, but very professional and a good person at the same time. I use this an example because it is a social drinking situation many people have been in", "Drink slowly. My trick is to get a wine or beer that I don't really like very much and just sip it. \n\nMostly, my advice is to smile a lot and have a great time. They will remember how you held yourself, and there's nothing wrong with them remembering that you seemed to really be enjoying the game, even if you drink super slow. \n\nCome prepared with some topics to talk about, even if you have to do a little research ahead of time... the team's history, new micro breweries in your area, and so on.", "Wine or beer only. No cocktails. Nurse that drink for the whole event. Never get drunk at an office event. It's like rolling on your back and showing your throat to the wolves.", "Unless drinks are being provided, usually small groups of coworkers take turns buying rounds. No one will tell you when its your turn, you just have to take it. Sometimes its difficult to take your turn because someone is always offering to pay for the round, but you should try to pay at some point. \n\nIf everyone is drinking, keep a drink in your hand and drink it slowly. You don't want to finish your drink before everyone else, feel free to sit out a round. If you think you'll be encouraged to stay later than you wanted or drink more than you're comfortable with, be ready with a reasonable excuse.", "Play follow the leader, if they drink, you drink. That being said don't get drunk. It's easy to leave your drink or spill your drink (or even dump it in a plant) it gives the appearance you are drinking while you are not, the last thing you want to do is throw up on the boss. Also, if you can drink what the boss drinks, it's a good conversation starter - this works as long as it's not really expensive booze (Johnny Blue/Glenlivet 21) because they'll know that's not your drink of choice because you are a poor working pee-on not a boss." ]	[ 12, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How can i change my Body clock from staying awake to finish work at 2am to then in two days wake up at 4:30am to go to work? I do shift work at a hotel and I find it nearly impossible to change it with only one day in between", "How can i change my Body clock from staying awake to finish work at 2am to then in two days wake up at 4:30am to go to work? I do shift work at a hotel and I find it nearly impossible to change it with only one day in between" ]	[ "I'm a Dupont shift worker... Sleep and diet. Watch what you consume and when you sleep. My switch from days to nights isn't hard but that nights to days turn around sucks. Good luck", "I work in an industry with varied shifts so we might be working 5am to 3 one day and 2pm to 12am the next (like you :)). The best way I dealt with it is to think in terms of a 24 hr day, and block out sleep time in my schedule. Some days I'm tired but mostly it's not too bad because even at 2am you know you are going home to crash soon. Catch up for a few hours on your dats off when needed. Good luck!" ]	[ 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "how to avoid (covert) bullying at work? Hello\n\nI might leave my work place due to the constant covert (and somewhat overt) bullying at work from my boss.\nShe's the company owner so there's no superior I can talk to about it.\n\nI wanted to know how to avoid bullying in a new place.\nI know covert bullying is very hard to detect by outsiders and I believe it starts in a subtle way.\nIt could be a harmless joke on your clothes, a sharp remark during a meeting etc.\n\nI have been raised to be very obedient as a child, to say yes to anything the teacher or any adult asked or said) and I have never learnt to stand for myself. I'm terribly scared of being outcasted (bad memories from childhood) and to face harsh criticism (people shouting at me or simply voicing discontent to my face) brings tears to my eyes (that I hide as much as I can of course).\n\nBasically I don't know how to respond to someone who calls me unprofessional in front of everyone and even though I could call out a colleague on his behaviour, I'm certainly unable to do so with a superior. I think that even though I'm in my early 30s, I still feel like a child being scolded by her teacher deep inside.\n\nI should talk about this in therapy but I believe there are some things to do or not to do. I also believe in first impressions and I feel like bullies can sense \"victims\".\nThey start by testing your boundaries. But I think they don't test boundaries with everyone. I'm sure there are people who ooze self confidence and bullies won't even try.\n\nI don't know what's the right attitude to have at the very beginning.\nI have noticed among my friends who have also been bullied by their managers that they also have this \"good pupil\" syndrome. On their first day they show eagerness to help, start their work right away... I can't put the finger on it but they may appear as people pleasers.\nI also have that problem.\n\nAnyways any tips you could give would be very welcomed.\n\nIt's hard to stand for yourself when your personal life is shattered. I have little to no support from my family and have very few friends who live far away and are busy with their lives.\n\nTL;DR how not to be an easy target and not encourage the behavior of a bully", "how to avoid (covert) bullying at work? Hello\n\nI might leave my work place due to the constant covert (and somewhat overt) bullying at work from my boss.\nShe's the company owner so there's no superior I can talk to about it.\n\nI wanted to know how to avoid bullying in a new place.\nI know covert bullying is very hard to detect by outsiders and I believe it starts in a subtle way.\nIt could be a harmless joke on your clothes, a sharp remark during a meeting etc.\n\nI have been raised to be very obedient as a child, to say yes to anything the teacher or any adult asked or said) and I have never learnt to stand for myself. I'm terribly scared of being outcasted (bad memories from childhood) and to face harsh criticism (people shouting at me or simply voicing discontent to my face) brings tears to my eyes (that I hide as much as I can of course).\n\nBasically I don't know how to respond to someone who calls me unprofessional in front of everyone and even though I could call out a colleague on his behaviour, I'm certainly unable to do so with a superior. I think that even though I'm in my early 30s, I still feel like a child being scolded by her teacher deep inside.\n\nI should talk about this in therapy but I believe there are some things to do or not to do. I also believe in first impressions and I feel like bullies can sense \"victims\".\nThey start by testing your boundaries. But I think they don't test boundaries with everyone. I'm sure there are people who ooze self confidence and bullies won't even try.\n\nI don't know what's the right attitude to have at the very beginning.\nI have noticed among my friends who have also been bullied by their managers that they also have this \"good pupil\" syndrome. On their first day they show eagerness to help, start their work right away... I can't put the finger on it but they may appear as people pleasers.\nI also have that problem.\n\nAnyways any tips you could give would be very welcomed.\n\nIt's hard to stand for yourself when your personal life is shattered. I have little to no support from my family and have very few friends who live far away and are busy with their lives.\n\nTL;DR how not to be an easy target and not encourage the behavior of a bully", "how to avoid (covert) bullying at work? Hello\n\nI might leave my work place due to the constant covert (and somewhat overt) bullying at work from my boss.\nShe's the company owner so there's no superior I can talk to about it.\n\nI wanted to know how to avoid bullying in a new place.\nI know covert bullying is very hard to detect by outsiders and I believe it starts in a subtle way.\nIt could be a harmless joke on your clothes, a sharp remark during a meeting etc.\n\nI have been raised to be very obedient as a child, to say yes to anything the teacher or any adult asked or said) and I have never learnt to stand for myself. I'm terribly scared of being outcasted (bad memories from childhood) and to face harsh criticism (people shouting at me or simply voicing discontent to my face) brings tears to my eyes (that I hide as much as I can of course).\n\nBasically I don't know how to respond to someone who calls me unprofessional in front of everyone and even though I could call out a colleague on his behaviour, I'm certainly unable to do so with a superior. I think that even though I'm in my early 30s, I still feel like a child being scolded by her teacher deep inside.\n\nI should talk about this in therapy but I believe there are some things to do or not to do. I also believe in first impressions and I feel like bullies can sense \"victims\".\nThey start by testing your boundaries. But I think they don't test boundaries with everyone. I'm sure there are people who ooze self confidence and bullies won't even try.\n\nI don't know what's the right attitude to have at the very beginning.\nI have noticed among my friends who have also been bullied by their managers that they also have this \"good pupil\" syndrome. On their first day they show eagerness to help, start their work right away... I can't put the finger on it but they may appear as people pleasers.\nI also have that problem.\n\nAnyways any tips you could give would be very welcomed.\n\nIt's hard to stand for yourself when your personal life is shattered. I have little to no support from my family and have very few friends who live far away and are busy with their lives.\n\nTL;DR how not to be an easy target and not encourage the behavior of a bully", "how to avoid (covert) bullying at work? Hello\n\nI might leave my work place due to the constant covert (and somewhat overt) bullying at work from my boss.\nShe's the company owner so there's no superior I can talk to about it.\n\nI wanted to know how to avoid bullying in a new place.\nI know covert bullying is very hard to detect by outsiders and I believe it starts in a subtle way.\nIt could be a harmless joke on your clothes, a sharp remark during a meeting etc.\n\nI have been raised to be very obedient as a child, to say yes to anything the teacher or any adult asked or said) and I have never learnt to stand for myself. I'm terribly scared of being outcasted (bad memories from childhood) and to face harsh criticism (people shouting at me or simply voicing discontent to my face) brings tears to my eyes (that I hide as much as I can of course).\n\nBasically I don't know how to respond to someone who calls me unprofessional in front of everyone and even though I could call out a colleague on his behaviour, I'm certainly unable to do so with a superior. I think that even though I'm in my early 30s, I still feel like a child being scolded by her teacher deep inside.\n\nI should talk about this in therapy but I believe there are some things to do or not to do. I also believe in first impressions and I feel like bullies can sense \"victims\".\nThey start by testing your boundaries. But I think they don't test boundaries with everyone. I'm sure there are people who ooze self confidence and bullies won't even try.\n\nI don't know what's the right attitude to have at the very beginning.\nI have noticed among my friends who have also been bullied by their managers that they also have this \"good pupil\" syndrome. On their first day they show eagerness to help, start their work right away... I can't put the finger on it but they may appear as people pleasers.\nI also have that problem.\n\nAnyways any tips you could give would be very welcomed.\n\nIt's hard to stand for yourself when your personal life is shattered. I have little to no support from my family and have very few friends who live far away and are busy with their lives.\n\nTL;DR how not to be an easy target and not encourage the behavior of a bully", "how to avoid (covert) bullying at work? Hello\n\nI might leave my work place due to the constant covert (and somewhat overt) bullying at work from my boss.\nShe's the company owner so there's no superior I can talk to about it.\n\nI wanted to know how to avoid bullying in a new place.\nI know covert bullying is very hard to detect by outsiders and I believe it starts in a subtle way.\nIt could be a harmless joke on your clothes, a sharp remark during a meeting etc.\n\nI have been raised to be very obedient as a child, to say yes to anything the teacher or any adult asked or said) and I have never learnt to stand for myself. I'm terribly scared of being outcasted (bad memories from childhood) and to face harsh criticism (people shouting at me or simply voicing discontent to my face) brings tears to my eyes (that I hide as much as I can of course).\n\nBasically I don't know how to respond to someone who calls me unprofessional in front of everyone and even though I could call out a colleague on his behaviour, I'm certainly unable to do so with a superior. I think that even though I'm in my early 30s, I still feel like a child being scolded by her teacher deep inside.\n\nI should talk about this in therapy but I believe there are some things to do or not to do. I also believe in first impressions and I feel like bullies can sense \"victims\".\nThey start by testing your boundaries. But I think they don't test boundaries with everyone. I'm sure there are people who ooze self confidence and bullies won't even try.\n\nI don't know what's the right attitude to have at the very beginning.\nI have noticed among my friends who have also been bullied by their managers that they also have this \"good pupil\" syndrome. On their first day they show eagerness to help, start their work right away... I can't put the finger on it but they may appear as people pleasers.\nI also have that problem.\n\nAnyways any tips you could give would be very welcomed.\n\nIt's hard to stand for yourself when your personal life is shattered. I have little to no support from my family and have very few friends who live far away and are busy with their lives.\n\nTL;DR how not to be an easy target and not encourage the behavior of a bully", "how to avoid (covert) bullying at work? Hello\n\nI might leave my work place due to the constant covert (and somewhat overt) bullying at work from my boss.\nShe's the company owner so there's no superior I can talk to about it.\n\nI wanted to know how to avoid bullying in a new place.\nI know covert bullying is very hard to detect by outsiders and I believe it starts in a subtle way.\nIt could be a harmless joke on your clothes, a sharp remark during a meeting etc.\n\nI have been raised to be very obedient as a child, to say yes to anything the teacher or any adult asked or said) and I have never learnt to stand for myself. I'm terribly scared of being outcasted (bad memories from childhood) and to face harsh criticism (people shouting at me or simply voicing discontent to my face) brings tears to my eyes (that I hide as much as I can of course).\n\nBasically I don't know how to respond to someone who calls me unprofessional in front of everyone and even though I could call out a colleague on his behaviour, I'm certainly unable to do so with a superior. I think that even though I'm in my early 30s, I still feel like a child being scolded by her teacher deep inside.\n\nI should talk about this in therapy but I believe there are some things to do or not to do. I also believe in first impressions and I feel like bullies can sense \"victims\".\nThey start by testing your boundaries. But I think they don't test boundaries with everyone. I'm sure there are people who ooze self confidence and bullies won't even try.\n\nI don't know what's the right attitude to have at the very beginning.\nI have noticed among my friends who have also been bullied by their managers that they also have this \"good pupil\" syndrome. On their first day they show eagerness to help, start their work right away... I can't put the finger on it but they may appear as people pleasers.\nI also have that problem.\n\nAnyways any tips you could give would be very welcomed.\n\nIt's hard to stand for yourself when your personal life is shattered. I have little to no support from my family and have very few friends who live far away and are busy with their lives.\n\nTL;DR how not to be an easy target and not encourage the behavior of a bully", "how to avoid (covert) bullying at work? Hello\n\nI might leave my work place due to the constant covert (and somewhat overt) bullying at work from my boss.\nShe's the company owner so there's no superior I can talk to about it.\n\nI wanted to know how to avoid bullying in a new place.\nI know covert bullying is very hard to detect by outsiders and I believe it starts in a subtle way.\nIt could be a harmless joke on your clothes, a sharp remark during a meeting etc.\n\nI have been raised to be very obedient as a child, to say yes to anything the teacher or any adult asked or said) and I have never learnt to stand for myself. I'm terribly scared of being outcasted (bad memories from childhood) and to face harsh criticism (people shouting at me or simply voicing discontent to my face) brings tears to my eyes (that I hide as much as I can of course).\n\nBasically I don't know how to respond to someone who calls me unprofessional in front of everyone and even though I could call out a colleague on his behaviour, I'm certainly unable to do so with a superior. I think that even though I'm in my early 30s, I still feel like a child being scolded by her teacher deep inside.\n\nI should talk about this in therapy but I believe there are some things to do or not to do. I also believe in first impressions and I feel like bullies can sense \"victims\".\nThey start by testing your boundaries. But I think they don't test boundaries with everyone. I'm sure there are people who ooze self confidence and bullies won't even try.\n\nI don't know what's the right attitude to have at the very beginning.\nI have noticed among my friends who have also been bullied by their managers that they also have this \"good pupil\" syndrome. On their first day they show eagerness to help, start their work right away... I can't put the finger on it but they may appear as people pleasers.\nI also have that problem.\n\nAnyways any tips you could give would be very welcomed.\n\nIt's hard to stand for yourself when your personal life is shattered. I have little to no support from my family and have very few friends who live far away and are busy with their lives.\n\nTL;DR how not to be an easy target and not encourage the behavior of a bully", "how to avoid (covert) bullying at work? Hello\n\nI might leave my work place due to the constant covert (and somewhat overt) bullying at work from my boss.\nShe's the company owner so there's no superior I can talk to about it.\n\nI wanted to know how to avoid bullying in a new place.\nI know covert bullying is very hard to detect by outsiders and I believe it starts in a subtle way.\nIt could be a harmless joke on your clothes, a sharp remark during a meeting etc.\n\nI have been raised to be very obedient as a child, to say yes to anything the teacher or any adult asked or said) and I have never learnt to stand for myself. I'm terribly scared of being outcasted (bad memories from childhood) and to face harsh criticism (people shouting at me or simply voicing discontent to my face) brings tears to my eyes (that I hide as much as I can of course).\n\nBasically I don't know how to respond to someone who calls me unprofessional in front of everyone and even though I could call out a colleague on his behaviour, I'm certainly unable to do so with a superior. I think that even though I'm in my early 30s, I still feel like a child being scolded by her teacher deep inside.\n\nI should talk about this in therapy but I believe there are some things to do or not to do. I also believe in first impressions and I feel like bullies can sense \"victims\".\nThey start by testing your boundaries. But I think they don't test boundaries with everyone. I'm sure there are people who ooze self confidence and bullies won't even try.\n\nI don't know what's the right attitude to have at the very beginning.\nI have noticed among my friends who have also been bullied by their managers that they also have this \"good pupil\" syndrome. On their first day they show eagerness to help, start their work right away... I can't put the finger on it but they may appear as people pleasers.\nI also have that problem.\n\nAnyways any tips you could give would be very welcomed.\n\nIt's hard to stand for yourself when your personal life is shattered. I have little to no support from my family and have very few friends who live far away and are busy with their lives.\n\nTL;DR how not to be an easy target and not encourage the behavior of a bully" ]	[ "I had the exact same problem as you. What I wished I had done is this:\n\nEverytime my boss made a snide little comment, ask her in a friendly tone what exactly she meant. This can nip those little remarks in the bud because she realizes she doesn't get away with it.\n\nYou can also contradict her in a calm, friendly tone. If she says something about your clothes, just say, \"My attire is professional and suited for this place of work.\" Nothing else. Block her insult before it even reaches you. This, too, may demotivate her from bullying you.\n\nIf she gives you vague negative feedback, press her on details. Ask her, again in a calm manner, if she can pinpoint what exactly you are doing wrong and which steps she recommends to improve your work. If she just meant to demotivate you, she won't be able to say something concrete.\n\nThe bottom line is: Show her that you know what she's trying to do. She may realize that you won't fall into her trap, that you're not as easy prey as she thought you were. Hopefully, this will demotivate her from bullying you further.\n\n\nOn a more personal note: I hate, hate, hate the fact that _so_ many managers have zero team leading and social skills. That all they use their position for is to put others down to make themselves feel better. There is something inherently wrong with how people climb the corporate ladder, and what kind of people do it.\n\nThere is no shame in looking for something better while you're employed at this in company. If your boss bullies you, you owe them _nothing_. So, if things get too horrible there, search for a new job _on their dime_. I know you'll feel bad about it, but do it regardless. No one wins of you allow yourself to be walked all over.", "You've gotten a lot of actionable tips. Yet, to every one of them, you reply with some version of \"this doesn't work in my case\". I suggest you bring this up in therapy asap. You've sunk so deeply into your victim role that you see no way out of it and dismiss all the ways shown to you by other people without even trying them first. \n\nYou will have to find a way out of this victim complex and build up some self-confidence.", "I have been here. Make an active exit by starting to search for new work. Right now is the perfect time to find new work since many employers are looking for someone just like you. Doing a resume is good therapy, it makes you write down your accomplishments. Bottom line is if it the owner, or just the head boss, trying to change things is going to be difficult and the effects may be detrimental to you. Once you get into a new job, with a boss that appreciates you, you will find the peace you are looking for.", "I experienced this. I walked out. No notice, no nothing. They don't deserve it. You should do the same.", "Here are a few thoughts - they might seem unrelated and not what you're asking about, but this is what works for me.\n\n* Get a haircut (and also a manicure, if you're in the mood - doesn't have to be coloured nail polish, can be just the clear one, or even no polish at all).\n\nThe haircut doesn't have to be anything specific, you don't even have to particularly like it, tbh - just has to be different from what you normally look like.\n\nIt's a bit of a shortcut to changing the way you see yourself (a little too literal, I know :) But works.). I also suggest the nails because in most types of work, you'll be seeing your fingers a lot (unless you work in gloves), and they will continuously and subtly push you out of your usual self-perception throughout the day.\n\nMaybe you won't start 'oozing confidence', but it will change how you feel and therefore, how you carry yourself.\n\nI usually do this trick when I feel like I need more control in my life: personally, shorter hair gives me energy, and nails (I don't do nail polish, and my nails are short - but I still do the manicure) give me the feeling of being organized.\n\n* Protect somebody else\n\nSounds like bullying is not an uncommon occurrence at your office. As a shy and socially awkward person myself - it can be exhausting to even think about standing up to somebody. It can be much easier to just bear it, since you're the only one suffering. But you might find that it is a completely different story if it's somebody else being attacked.\n\nYou mentioned the new guy who you can just see will become a victim at some point - so speak up for him if/when it happens. Or, when you change jobs, protect the people in your new workplace, if they need it. I find it's much, much, much easier to stand up for other people than for yourself. And they might do the same for you, when you don't have the energy to stand up for yourself. And at the same time, it will prevent you from developing the image of a victim, since in bullies' eyes, victims don't protect others.\n\n* If you do run into bullying on the new job, confuse the bully\n\nIn most cases, verbal sparring with bullies or pointing out they're wrong doesn't really help - they're better at arguing. I think confusing them by responding in an unexpected way is the most efficient tactic.\n\nI suggest an approach you could call weaponized sincerity. It is very similar to what u/lapaleja was saying, in terms of responding in a calm and, most importantly, friendly way. The bully is expecting you to be miserable, awkward, stressed out - so if you respond by being happy every time you see their face, they will likely subconsciously avoid you just because they can't figure out wtf is going on. Just don't overdo it to the point where they ask you about it, you want to keep it as something unsettling but quiet in the back of their mind :)\n\nAn example from my experience, though it was just a random rude person, but I think it would work similarly with a bully:\n\nOne day I went to a bank just as they were changing how their lines are organized across all branches (single line vs a separate line for each teller). So I asked a lady who was already waiting there which type it was. She was obviously having a bad day, and finished her response with a 'have you never been to a bank before??' I have no idea what came over me, but basically I smiled like she just made my day and told her in a super sincere and happy voice that no, I haven't, it's my first time at a bank, and thanked her for helping me. I mean, she shouldn't have believed me, how many adults in this day and age have never been to a bank?? - but I guess I was too convincing in my sincerity? She got super confused and immediately shut up and didn't even look at me for the rest of the wait, lol.\n\nThe details of how to apply this depend on your specific type of bullying and your situation, but I imagine it would work best in cases of passive-agressiveness or something like fake/sarcastic compliments. The downside of using this at work, as opposed to on a random stranger you will never see again, is that you might develop a reputation of a bit of a weirdo, lol. But if this is not the first case of bullying, everybody else will likely know what you're doing, and might actually chuckle along with you.\n\nHope this helps, but in any case - good luck!", "I would start actively look for a new job and in the meantime deploy this method:\n\nhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/toxic-relationships/201911/the-price-and-payoff-gray-rock-strategy\n\nThe goal is to become uninteresting and thus hoping your boss focuses her attention elsewhere. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You are worthy of respect and kindness. Best of luck!", "@satsucake\n>Sorry to jump in. But I noticed in another comment you asked how to avoid being perceived as a victim in the first place. Well, you perceive the new employee as the next victim, right? So the solution for you is just don't be like him. Don't act, behave, or give an impression as an easy target. It's hard to say no? Well you have to learn when to say no. No need to please people all the time, just do your job properly then your boss should be pretty pleased, no? Respect people but know that you deserve to be respected as well, so have some boundaries and speak up when people start treating you like shit. If you still think that you can't do any of these or this can't be applied to your situation at all, well, good luck and hope some therapy sessions will be able to help you :)\n\nThere are several levels of \"victim\" just like shyness. So I explained that covered harassment is precisely that: covered. It's hard to identify at first and that's how the breach opens up. It is extremely insidious. \n\nBelieve me if from day one I had been called an idiot I would have reacted. But it doesn't happen that way. Bullies know how to do it very well and evaluate their targets through small tests. There are several types of bullies, some love to manipulate others by being ambivalent so you're confused.\n\nYour last sentence sounds like victim blaming as if everything was in my mind.", "You sound like a dog that is easily kicked. Stop being one. Set boundaries. Learn to stand up for yourself, no matter who the person is. Bullies keep bullying because they don't get resistance." ]	[ 29, 7, 4, 4, 4, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to use broken guitar strings?? When you break them... instead of just throwing them away, what's something cool to use them for?", "How to use broken guitar strings?? When you break them... instead of just throwing them away, what's something cool to use them for?", "How to use broken guitar strings?? When you break them... instead of just throwing them away, what's something cool to use them for?", "How to use broken guitar strings?? When you break them... instead of just throwing them away, what's something cool to use them for?", "How to use broken guitar strings?? When you break them... instead of just throwing them away, what's something cool to use them for?" ]	[ "I've been combining all of my broken and replaced strings into a giant tangly art piece ever since I started playing guitar about 9 years ago. I have a nail on my wall where I hang and tangle them. Sometimes if they break while away from home or something I'll forget to bring them along. But I have about 75% or more of all of my guitar strings on the wall. It's not the most aesthetically pleasing ~~art~~ mess in the world, but it is nostalgic (playing shows, breaking a string while writing or recording a song, changing strings with a friend, etc.) and reminds me how much time has passed/how long I've been playing. So, yes, it's pretty ugly (my favorite oxymoron), but I like it and will never get rid of it.\n\nAlso, I had a set that I looped into a circle and hung from my rearview mirror for a while because I'd changed my strings while staying at someone else's house. I actually did it so that I would see them and remember to hang them on the wall when I got home, but I liked them in the car and left them hanging.\n\nI've seen some really cool guitar string [rings](http://imgur.com/TTjnJ) and [bracelets](http://imgur.com/ObLwq) as well. You could probably make a decent amount of money if you turned them into good jewelry and sold them on etsy.\n\n", "Cleaning your bowls/bongs with....I'm dead serious about this...this is THE best use for them, and most likely the best tool for doing so you can get. They must be B string or smaller, though (no ridges, resin gets stuck in the ridges) I have been doing it for 12+ years. ", "well this is incredible specific but...I unraveled a Low E string and used the inner wire for a tattoo needle.", "You might get some great suggestions by posting this to /r/diy or /r/crafts. They are great at reusing/making stuff.", "I've used some thinner strings as wires to hang pictures... depends on how long you have left after they break. Don't forget, you can collect them when you change strings every so often." ]	[ 7, 5, 4, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Smooth passage through TSA. I haven't been in an airport since roughly 2004. You'd have to have been living under a rock to be unaware of how difficult the TSA is lately. I am not keen on dosing my body with high levels of radiation, and I can't seem to remember whether or not the xray machines will destroy camera film, hard drives or my iphone (all things I didn't own or bring along the last time I did this).\n\nSo: What are some good tips for getting through TSA without being bombarded with radiation or held up because I did something wrong?", "Smooth passage through TSA. I haven't been in an airport since roughly 2004. You'd have to have been living under a rock to be unaware of how difficult the TSA is lately. I am not keen on dosing my body with high levels of radiation, and I can't seem to remember whether or not the xray machines will destroy camera film, hard drives or my iphone (all things I didn't own or bring along the last time I did this).\n\nSo: What are some good tips for getting through TSA without being bombarded with radiation or held up because I did something wrong?", "Smooth passage through TSA. I haven't been in an airport since roughly 2004. You'd have to have been living under a rock to be unaware of how difficult the TSA is lately. I am not keen on dosing my body with high levels of radiation, and I can't seem to remember whether or not the xray machines will destroy camera film, hard drives or my iphone (all things I didn't own or bring along the last time I did this).\n\nSo: What are some good tips for getting through TSA without being bombarded with radiation or held up because I did something wrong?", "Smooth passage through TSA. I haven't been in an airport since roughly 2004. You'd have to have been living under a rock to be unaware of how difficult the TSA is lately. I am not keen on dosing my body with high levels of radiation, and I can't seem to remember whether or not the xray machines will destroy camera film, hard drives or my iphone (all things I didn't own or bring along the last time I did this).\n\nSo: What are some good tips for getting through TSA without being bombarded with radiation or held up because I did something wrong?", "Smooth passage through TSA. I haven't been in an airport since roughly 2004. You'd have to have been living under a rock to be unaware of how difficult the TSA is lately. I am not keen on dosing my body with high levels of radiation, and I can't seem to remember whether or not the xray machines will destroy camera film, hard drives or my iphone (all things I didn't own or bring along the last time I did this).\n\nSo: What are some good tips for getting through TSA without being bombarded with radiation or held up because I did something wrong?", "Smooth passage through TSA. I haven't been in an airport since roughly 2004. You'd have to have been living under a rock to be unaware of how difficult the TSA is lately. I am not keen on dosing my body with high levels of radiation, and I can't seem to remember whether or not the xray machines will destroy camera film, hard drives or my iphone (all things I didn't own or bring along the last time I did this).\n\nSo: What are some good tips for getting through TSA without being bombarded with radiation or held up because I did something wrong?", "Smooth passage through TSA. I haven't been in an airport since roughly 2004. You'd have to have been living under a rock to be unaware of how difficult the TSA is lately. I am not keen on dosing my body with high levels of radiation, and I can't seem to remember whether or not the xray machines will destroy camera film, hard drives or my iphone (all things I didn't own or bring along the last time I did this).\n\nSo: What are some good tips for getting through TSA without being bombarded with radiation or held up because I did something wrong?", "Smooth passage through TSA. I haven't been in an airport since roughly 2004. You'd have to have been living under a rock to be unaware of how difficult the TSA is lately. I am not keen on dosing my body with high levels of radiation, and I can't seem to remember whether or not the xray machines will destroy camera film, hard drives or my iphone (all things I didn't own or bring along the last time I did this).\n\nSo: What are some good tips for getting through TSA without being bombarded with radiation or held up because I did something wrong?", "Smooth passage through TSA. I haven't been in an airport since roughly 2004. You'd have to have been living under a rock to be unaware of how difficult the TSA is lately. I am not keen on dosing my body with high levels of radiation, and I can't seem to remember whether or not the xray machines will destroy camera film, hard drives or my iphone (all things I didn't own or bring along the last time I did this).\n\nSo: What are some good tips for getting through TSA without being bombarded with radiation or held up because I did something wrong?", "Smooth passage through TSA. I haven't been in an airport since roughly 2004. You'd have to have been living under a rock to be unaware of how difficult the TSA is lately. I am not keen on dosing my body with high levels of radiation, and I can't seem to remember whether or not the xray machines will destroy camera film, hard drives or my iphone (all things I didn't own or bring along the last time I did this).\n\nSo: What are some good tips for getting through TSA without being bombarded with radiation or held up because I did something wrong?", "Smooth passage through TSA. I haven't been in an airport since roughly 2004. You'd have to have been living under a rock to be unaware of how difficult the TSA is lately. I am not keen on dosing my body with high levels of radiation, and I can't seem to remember whether or not the xray machines will destroy camera film, hard drives or my iphone (all things I didn't own or bring along the last time I did this).\n\nSo: What are some good tips for getting through TSA without being bombarded with radiation or held up because I did something wrong?", "Smooth passage through TSA. I haven't been in an airport since roughly 2004. You'd have to have been living under a rock to be unaware of how difficult the TSA is lately. I am not keen on dosing my body with high levels of radiation, and I can't seem to remember whether or not the xray machines will destroy camera film, hard drives or my iphone (all things I didn't own or bring along the last time I did this).\n\nSo: What are some good tips for getting through TSA without being bombarded with radiation or held up because I did something wrong?", "Smooth passage through TSA. I haven't been in an airport since roughly 2004. You'd have to have been living under a rock to be unaware of how difficult the TSA is lately. I am not keen on dosing my body with high levels of radiation, and I can't seem to remember whether or not the xray machines will destroy camera film, hard drives or my iphone (all things I didn't own or bring along the last time I did this).\n\nSo: What are some good tips for getting through TSA without being bombarded with radiation or held up because I did something wrong?", "Smooth passage through TSA. I haven't been in an airport since roughly 2004. You'd have to have been living under a rock to be unaware of how difficult the TSA is lately. I am not keen on dosing my body with high levels of radiation, and I can't seem to remember whether or not the xray machines will destroy camera film, hard drives or my iphone (all things I didn't own or bring along the last time I did this).\n\nSo: What are some good tips for getting through TSA without being bombarded with radiation or held up because I did something wrong?", "Smooth passage through TSA. I haven't been in an airport since roughly 2004. You'd have to have been living under a rock to be unaware of how difficult the TSA is lately. I am not keen on dosing my body with high levels of radiation, and I can't seem to remember whether or not the xray machines will destroy camera film, hard drives or my iphone (all things I didn't own or bring along the last time I did this).\n\nSo: What are some good tips for getting through TSA without being bombarded with radiation or held up because I did something wrong?" ]	[ "First: Be white. Only half kidding here. \n\nHere's the things you can control. Here's some common items and how to get them through: \n\n* Carry on bag containing no laptop or liquids of any form - put it on the conveyor belt. Simple. \n\n* Camera film - Though not used much these days, there are some things to look out for. The X-Rays can \"fog\" film ([see this kodak guide for some ways to get past that](http://www.kodak.com/global/en/service/tib/tib5201.shtml)). [Though, TSA says the effect won't occur on any film <= ISO/ASA 800.](http://www.tsa.gov/traveler-information/how-get-through-line-faster) If you find yourself worrying, just take your film out of your bag and ask them to manually inspect it. It should be quick and there should be no problems. Just know going into it that the people behind you (especially for morning flights) may be annoyed. \n\n* Liquids - like /u/WhateverFitsToday said, refer to [this 3-1-1 guide](http://www.tsa.gov/traveler-information/3-1-1-carry-ons) for information on carrying liquids. I always find that it is better to check liquids or buy them again when I get to my location. The gist of the 3-1-1 guide: If you have to take liquids with you, buy some containers that hold less than 3.4 ounces of liquid. Put all of your <3.4 containers in a 1-quart sized see-through plastic bag (or smaller). Put that 1 bag in a bin on the conveyor belt. (3 ounces of each liquid in a 1 quart bag, 1 per person). \n\n* Laptops/Tablets - TSA is good at this now: You do not need to remove your tablet from your bag. However, you must remove your laptop from your bag. If you have a laptop sleeve, you do not have to remove your laptop from that, but it must lay flat inside a bin to go through the conveyor. Timbuk2 offers some TSA-compliant messenger bags with laptop sleeves that allow you to unfold your bag in a way that makes most TSA people happy. [Here is one of those bags](http://www.timbuk2.com/tb2/products/command-laptop-tsa-friendly-messenger-bag). The requirement is essentially that the laptop lay alone and flat so they can really see you're not sneaking on anything inside of the laptop casing. Some screeners may be picky if you try to dodge this rule too much. Just do what they say with a smile and you'll be fine. \n\n* Your hard drives and iPhone will have no problem with the TSA machines. Just put them in the bag. \n\nAs far as radiation stuff, you're probably being too afraid but it's not a problem. There has been no evidence that the TSA's body scanner will cause any cancer or any negative side effects other than seeing your junk. Who cares, though? \n\nIf you care, here's what to do: Ask to opt out of the body scanner. They will let you do this. You will be searched manually, though. For comic effect, I hear it is fun to stare at your pat-down officer in the eye and then moan when they approach your fun-time-zones. You could also just do nothing and make it painless. \n\nHowever, here's my guide for getting to your gate quickly:\n\n1. Check in at the ticket counter. Check your non-carry-on bags (if any). \n\n2. Walk to the TSA line. \n\n3. As soon as you're in the TSA line, do the following: Put everything in your pockets into your carry on bag. Hopefully, you have a bag with a front pocket or something. Put receipts, pocket change, pocket lint, wallets, keys, phone, headphones, everything into the bag except your state-issued ID card and your boarding pass. There will be a minor check for these pretty soon. \n\n4. Greet the TSA guy who is there to check that you are who you say you are. Give him your ID and boarding pass. Answer his questions. Be candid. A smile on your face will help this whole process. If you're happy and care-free (or appear to be), then TSA will give you that right back. If you're looking to rebel against the man, you may just get the man on your ass. The fact is, they're in the seat of power and can make your life a living hell for the next several hours. If that's right or wrong, that's irrelevant. Just avoid the problem and be nice to get on your way. \n\n5. Now you're past the identity check. They may filter you into a bunch of lines with separate X-Ray conveyor belts. From this point, if you're wearing a belt, take it off and loosen your shoes. People behind you will greatly appreciate this soon. Also, unzip your bag and get ready to pull out your laptop, liquids or film. \n\n6. Your'e now at the place where you can grab a bin and begin loading your stuff on the belt. First, grab a bin. Get your laptop and liquids out of your bag, the get your shoes off and in the bin. Put your bag on the belt. If you have film to be manually checked, tell the attendant who will be hovering in the area. \n\n7. Get ready to be scanned. Nothing in your pockets at all, yada yada. Wait for your turn, then follow instructions. \n\n8. Pick up your stuff and get out of the way ASAP. If you have to tie your shoes, grab them and the rest of your stuff and find a seat off to the side. Your'e now through TSA.\n\n9. Find your gate an get on your way! \n\nLet me know if you have any more questions. ", "Wear slip on shoes and don't wear a belt. No sequins (seriously, my wife wore sequins twice and got stopped as they set off the machines). Laptop out of the bag. Don't worry about tablets. Don't keep anything in your pockets at all. No wallet, cash, paper, coins, nothing. The scanners can notice these and they will stop you. The x-ray machines do not damage anything but highly specialized film and equipment. Check out all your clothing before you leave and make sure nothing has metal in it. Some designer jeans have tons of little shiny bits that will set off the detectors. Rings and watches are fine in the full body scanner but may set off the old style scanner depending on what metal they are made from. Avoid carrying any liquids but there is a guide for that:\n\nhttp://www.tsa.gov/traveler-information/3-1-1-carry-ons\n\nBasically, I fly without any carry-on and wear slip on dress shoes and no belt. I walk right through and have no problems.", "Just leave your pride at the door and do what they ask in a timely fashion. It sucks, but it's the easiest way.", "You either get to chose not being bombarded with radiation OR not being held up. You do not get both. \n\nYou can opt out of the scanner, but then they will call someone over to do a pat down and this can take a REALLY long time! ", "This is NOT difficult. Very simple. \n\nPut your liquids in a quart sized bag. No more than 3 oz per item. Do not try to put everything in the baggie, just liquids, gels ad aerosols. Things like brushes and razors do not have to go in that bag (that is a rookie mistake).\n\nAt the line get two bins. Put your quart sized bag, shoes, belt, wallet (in your shoe), watch (in your shoe), and jacket if you have one. In the other bin put your laptop and iPad if you have one. Put your phone in your laptop bag.\n \nMake sure you do not have ANYTHING (like your boarding pass- another rookie mistake) in your pocket and go through the stupid machine. You can hold your boarding pass in your hand.\n\nAs for radiation I dont know what to say. I believe that it is not harmful. You can request a patdown. \n\nI travel all the time. I have been to virtually every major airport in the US. I never really had much trouble with TSA. Maybe a few isolated incidents (New Orleans comes to mind).", "This happened last week. I moved slightly in the scanner and they had to check my neck and through my hair. ", "There are several comments here saying to throw your watch, phone, etc into your carry on bag. I prefer to put these items in the pocket of my jacket instead. Seems more accessible and since you have to remove your jacket anyway, those items will not be on your person. When re-assembling after the scanner, you can just throw the jacket on, then replace the items into their original locations as you're walking to your gate.", "Something I have noticed is that the airports with the creepy under-clothes scanning machines are only in some of the lines. I've flown enough times to notice that the people that go through those machines get pulled aside way more often than the people that go through the regular machines. I always make a point of discretely aiming for those lines. \n\nAlso, try to get in line behind a business man. They know the drill and all you have to do is imitate. Take off and pull out of your bag everything you know will need to be in their own bins before it's your turn to put your items on the scanning belt. If you feel like something weird in your bag might cause suspicion, take it out and put it in one of the bins. If they can see it easily they won't pull you to the side as long as the item is not a threat. \n\nAnd this is the most important piece of advice I can give. Do not give the appearance of being in a rush! I don't care how late for your flight you are or how slow the person in front of you is going. Stay calm and look mildly bored. You can start running for your gate as soon as you are out of sight of security. ", "Pay $100 to get on the list that lets you through security almost instantly. You just need to go through a background check with the fbi. \n\n\n", "I'd suggest if you know your airport has an alternate route for the TSA check, take it. Often airports will have a separate check for families with babies, staff members, and the mentally handicapped, and they cannot stop someone normal from using it. The lines are usually a lot shorter, and in my experience, the on duty officers are a lot nicer. \n\nPittsburg's alternate route is a bit hidden, going up some stairs and over a road, so sniff around at your airport. Or, ask someone.", "Be ready. All your liquids in your carry on must conform to their standards. They don't go by actual amount in the container, but the container size. Or so they told me last time. \n\nTake your shoes off and start getting your gear off before you get to the front of the line. \n\nRequest \"opt out\" if you don't want to go in the radiation machine. You might spend a couple extra minutes getting the pat down, but I've done it multiple times - in my experience, it's not nearly as bad as it's made out to be. A dude doesn't wanna feel up another dude any more than a dude wants to be felt up by another dude. They tell you where and what they're gonna do beforehand. \n\nThe xray machines won't destroy hard drives or phones. Not sure about film. ", "Be fat and ugly, always works for me :-(, on a serious note wear easy to remove clothes (sweat pants and such) the more comfortable you look the less likely you are stopped", "1) Assure that you have a rock hard erection\n\n2) Bring no bags\n\n3) When singled out for screening, ask for a hand search\n\n4) Make eye contact with the screener as much as possible while he searches, wile maintaining the erection and smiling. ", "The problem is that the TSA's incompetence is too random to give transferrable tips. You never know what the morons are going to do. I guess that's the _real_ way to catch terrorists, if any there be in our airports: random morons who can't learn the TSA's rules bullying people who actually know the rules.\n\nThe x-ray machines had no effect on my camera film (both exposes and unexposed) the times I flew with film. I bring SSD and regular HDDs, and there has been no effect on them. Cell phones go through unharmed. Some people send phones and cameras through with the video running to see if they can see x-rays or whatever in the resulting video.\n\nI usually fly with handheld ham radios, and they go through fine, too.\n\nGenerally, they have someone standing at the beginning of the strip point telling you what you have to do: small liquid bottles in a ziplock bag, laptops in a separate bin, shoes off, all articles of jewelry and belts off, empty your pockets, and so on. \n\nI've taken to wearing a photographers' vest. I put my valuables in vest pockets where they're out of site of the public, then I can put the vest on and have all my money, keys, and such on me without having to sort through it all and put it in my pants pockets.\n\nThey claim to be phasing out the x-ray machines, so you'll probably do a sniffer or metal detector. If you want to opt out of the x-ray if you're chosen for it, you are given the manual exam of your groin instead.", "It's really not that bad. I've flow multiple times to and from major US cities and I've never had a problem. My best advice is dont be Middle Eastern or Arabian. " ]	[ 26, 7, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0 ]	safe
[ "Bug repellent for short dog walks I'm in dire need of some mosquito repellent that I don't need to spray on then immediately wash off whenever I take my dog for a walk in the evenings. I live in an apartment and she's still a puppy, so I don't feel comfortable letting her go out behind the building without a leash.\n\nI know that there are plenty of sprays that work, but like I mentioned I'm not outside long and I don't want to have to shower 3-4 times a night. Any tips/tricks?!", "Bug repellent for short dog walks I'm in dire need of some mosquito repellent that I don't need to spray on then immediately wash off whenever I take my dog for a walk in the evenings. I live in an apartment and she's still a puppy, so I don't feel comfortable letting her go out behind the building without a leash.\n\nI know that there are plenty of sprays that work, but like I mentioned I'm not outside long and I don't want to have to shower 3-4 times a night. Any tips/tricks?!" ]	[ "Couple drops citronella essential oil & witch hazel in a big spray bottle w/ distilled water. Make sure to dilute the essential oils well because they are strong. Natural bug spray.", "Avon skin so soft bath oil original. It is a natural bug repellant because it's citronella based. It will make your skin soft, too. " ]	[ 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "how to get certificate ink off wallet sleeve My husband accidentally washed his wallet. In it was a card-sized certificate that he absolutely needs for work. It's not allowed to be laminated and it physically needs to be on him legally. We took all the cards out of the plastic wallet sleeves, and the ink of that certificate is stuck to the wallet sleeve. So all of the pertinent information (his name, the certificate number) aren't on the certificate. And the issuing agency was VERY adamant that they will not reissue these cards under any circumstances. What the hell do we do?", "how to get certificate ink off wallet sleeve My husband accidentally washed his wallet. In it was a card-sized certificate that he absolutely needs for work. It's not allowed to be laminated and it physically needs to be on him legally. We took all the cards out of the plastic wallet sleeves, and the ink of that certificate is stuck to the wallet sleeve. So all of the pertinent information (his name, the certificate number) aren't on the certificate. And the issuing agency was VERY adamant that they will not reissue these cards under any circumstances. What the hell do we do?" ]	[ "I really think they should reissue the card. If there's a security concern because for all they know the original card might have been stolen or given to somebody else, then all they need to do is change his code / credentials so that the new card is technically a new employee, and the old one's signature is just invalid.\n\nBut since that is out of the question, maybe you could do something with heat. With an iron, perhaps. I would try to put the card exactly where it was and hope the heat would transfer the ink back, slowly and steadily. Just do yourself a favor and have a fire extinguisher at hand for the worst case scenario. This tip is in no way verified or tried and proven. It's a hypothesis — it might work. Definitely not a pro tip.", "So nobody with that certificate has EVER had their wallet stolen or lost, and this problem has NEVER EVER come up, ever? That's very hard to believe.\n\nHave him go to his company's HR or management, fess up, and ask for guidance. Make sure to bring the wallet as evidence before he does anything to further wreck it, or (and I don't recommend this) simply lie and say it was stolen.\n\nIf your husband is a valued employee at all, they'll find some way to see what they can do to help.\n\nIn the meantime and so he can bring a potential solution with him (which is always preferred by management), slip the original certificate back in the sleeve so the lettering lines up, take a picture of the result and photoshop that back to original size and print it so he has something that superimposes his details on the certificate form. Your HR person or manager might feel that the combination of readable copy and original certificate/form without lettering, still in its sleeve, might possibly serve." ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to fake confidence Hi LPT!\nSo all the time I see 'even if you're not confident, fake it!'. How exactly do I fake confidence?", "How to fake confidence Hi LPT!\nSo all the time I see 'even if you're not confident, fake it!'. How exactly do I fake confidence?", "How to fake confidence Hi LPT!\nSo all the time I see 'even if you're not confident, fake it!'. How exactly do I fake confidence?", "How to fake confidence Hi LPT!\nSo all the time I see 'even if you're not confident, fake it!'. How exactly do I fake confidence?", "How to fake confidence Hi LPT!\nSo all the time I see 'even if you're not confident, fake it!'. How exactly do I fake confidence?", "How to fake confidence Hi LPT!\nSo all the time I see 'even if you're not confident, fake it!'. How exactly do I fake confidence?", "How to fake confidence Hi LPT!\nSo all the time I see 'even if you're not confident, fake it!'. How exactly do I fake confidence?", "How to fake confidence Hi LPT!\nSo all the time I see 'even if you're not confident, fake it!'. How exactly do I fake confidence?", "How to fake confidence Hi LPT!\nSo all the time I see 'even if you're not confident, fake it!'. How exactly do I fake confidence?", "How to fake confidence Hi LPT!\nSo all the time I see 'even if you're not confident, fake it!'. How exactly do I fake confidence?", "How to fake confidence Hi LPT!\nSo all the time I see 'even if you're not confident, fake it!'. How exactly do I fake confidence?", "How to fake confidence Hi LPT!\nSo all the time I see 'even if you're not confident, fake it!'. How exactly do I fake confidence?", "How to fake confidence Hi LPT!\nSo all the time I see 'even if you're not confident, fake it!'. How exactly do I fake confidence?", "How to fake confidence Hi LPT!\nSo all the time I see 'even if you're not confident, fake it!'. How exactly do I fake confidence?", "How to fake confidence Hi LPT!\nSo all the time I see 'even if you're not confident, fake it!'. How exactly do I fake confidence?", "How to fake confidence Hi LPT!\nSo all the time I see 'even if you're not confident, fake it!'. How exactly do I fake confidence?", "How to fake confidence Hi LPT!\nSo all the time I see 'even if you're not confident, fake it!'. How exactly do I fake confidence?" ]	[ "This worked for me when I was in college. I had previously thought I was just the \"nice guy\", and girls didn't want nice guys. As it turns out, it was just that I was shy and uninteresting. A few friends of mine, who were in the same boat, discussed one evening that girls want assholes. So slowly by slowly, we each became assholes. Since we were assholes as a group, we had this harmony to it, and then we leveled up from being assholes to being funny assholes who did amusing things all the time. During this whole progression, we weren't directly trying to gain confidence; but when you're being an asshole, a part of it is not caring about other people, and with that, you don't care how other people judge you. This made me more confident.\n\nSo what I'm saying is, try to stop caring about how other people think of you. One way to do this is to be a funny asshole who does stuff with his friends who are also funny assholes.", "1. Strong body language (Google it). Just by exhibiting strong body language, you will feel \"bigger\" and more confident. \n2. Look in the mirror each morning and tell yourself you are a confident, interesting person. Remind yourself several times a day. It's corny and you'll feel awkward, but one day you will look in the mirror and realise that you actually have changed and become a confident person. \nThose are 2 things that worked for me.", "Realize that it's not the end of the world if things don't work out the way you want them to. Believe you can accomplish anything if you put your mind, heart, and soul into it; why wouldn't you be able to? What would really go wrong in the end if that girl says no? Would it be any better than wondering forever what could have happened?\n\nI struggled with confidence until I got sick of the unanswered questions. When you are confident in yourself and assertive, you at least have answers. I guarantee those answers will be much more positive if you are more positive towards yourself. What you see and feel is projected on the outside. If you believe you are intelligent, attractive, charismatic, the world will see the same.\n\nWith that in mind, please distinguish the difference between confidence and arrogance. Boasting, gloating, and rubbing things in will get you nowhere. It is acceptable with close friends but not with strangers or people you don't know well.\n\nBeing sure of yourself is one of the best qualities people can find in you. When shit hits the fan, you want that guy who's got it all figured out, right? Until you can truly believe in yourself, at least pretend that you do. The rest will come naturally. You will see the results.", "Stand up straight. Take a few deep breaths. Walk/act with purpose -- emulate how you think your favorite superhero/fictional character would hold themselves. You'll feel like you're a kid again playing make-believe, but it plays out well in the end. \n\nWhen you're speaking, eliminate filler words like \"ummm\" and \"like\" and instead be silent until you're able to gather your thoughts. Similiarly, intro phrases like \"I believe/think\" can be redundant -- just say whatever it is you want to say. Rely more on tone and delivery to soften or strengthen your words (depending on context).", "Start by being \"confident\" about something you are 95% sure you can accomplish. Then work hard on that achievement so you succeed. With practice you learn your limits. \"I'm only 75% sure I can fulfill these job requirements, but I'm comfortable accepting the job anyway.\" \"I'm 60% sure that if I ask this person out they'll say yes, and that's an acceptable risk.\" It's all about understanding and believing in your strengths and learning to gamble with failure. ", "Body language is what I used. Mimicking the body language of someone who is confident, especially when interacting with people, can give you a sense of confidence.\n\nKeep your hands out of your pockets\n\nTry to make yourself as wide as comfortable (feet shoulder width apart, maybe using an arm to reach to the side and brace yourself on something)\n\nIf youre talking to someone who seems confident, mimic their body language. this does 2 things. 1) it prevents them from making you feel inferior/less confident and 2) it teaches you the different ways you can look confident through muscle memory.\n\nAlso mimicking the neutral mannerisms of people you're interacting with, subtly, will make them like you a tiny bit more", "You are the sum of every person you've grown up around. With that said, remember back to that really awesome, fun, cool person you had in your life and emulate them just a little bit. Try it on for size. Does it feel good? Bam! You're the owner of confidence. ", "Make eye contact \n\nSmile and acknowledge people with a nod when you make eye contact. \n\nKeep your chin up don't look down.\n\nConfidence isn't what you say It is an aura you emit. \n\n\nFind a character from a movie or TV show you see as \"confident\" and in situations you need to be more confident ask yourself how that character would react. I.e. for me the character would be Liam Neeson in basically any movie. ", "Imagine the most awesome version of yourself. One who oozes confidence. Imagine what that person does - what they eat for breakfast, when they work out, how they interact with people, what they say about themselves. Use your imagination like you were writing yourself into a TV show, then start doing the little things that person does. Slowly you'll become that person. Don't try to immediately put on a new persona, people can sense that fakeness. ", "Faking it is just a method of practicing. Two muscle groups to work on to practice confidence. Both are closely intertwined with self knowledge.\n\nThe first is clarity of purpose. If you are able to clearly set an objective and consistently choose actions that will lead to that objective, you will come across as competent, driven, and on track. This is the \"active\" component of confidence. This is the guy who pushes others to do their best or leaves the party early to work on something more important. This can be practiced through goal setting. However, this can also come across as busy, frantic, or hurried if lacking the second component.\n\nThe second component is presence of mind. This is the \"cool\" component of confidence. This is the ability to not flinch when things go wrong. This is the woman who calmly maintains eye contact across a room with mild curiosity. This is the calm pause before answering a question with great depth and clarity. This can be practiced through m", "You won't grow if you are comfortable. The secret to faking it as acting like your confident when you're shaking on the inside. Eventually the shaking stops. If you feel uncomfortable in social situations then you are doing it right. Treat you're confidence like a muscle. Give it a workout by doing things outside your comfort zone and it will slowly grow stronger over time. ", "What if u dont fake it but earn it? See, some people are confident because they think they are worthy or they have something worthy. If u become the best version of urself or get something worth of value, u can become confident because u will know that u are important. \n\nAll the above things also work. Specially the get a job where u HAVE to interact with peoplr. marketing or sales can help", "Stand up straight, look forwards and around you as you walk, have a slight smile or smirk, don't be afraid of eye contact. Talk loudly and clearly. Don't think, just do it. ", "Speaking as a socially awkward introvert, I recommend:\n\n1) Dress in clean, tidy clothes and shoes. No need to wear a jacket where it isn't necessary, nor is it necessary to buy expensive clothing, but looking your best is a sure fire way to feeling your best. People treat you more respectfully and seek out your company when are appear to be a well put together adult; that alone helps you feel more confident.\n\n2) Keeping up with local news, politics, science, etc. Being well informed and well read makes it much easier to hold a conversation, broadens your ability to speak at length with authority and insight.\n\n3) Being part of a discussion group helps develop your improvisational speaking skills, helps you learn to speak fluidly without mumbling. Even if you don't speak much on groups like this, simply listening to the way others speak and tell stories is an educational experience.\n\nHope that helps.", "Ive had success by simply being witty in casual, or professional conversations. A quick response with a witty come back can make the other person laugh and open up to you. Thus, you can be more confident bc they, and you are more relaxed. \n\nLaughter is key ", "If you make a conscious effort to have \"confident body language\" you will find it easier to do things confidently", "Confidence is knowing you are right. Feigning confidence is a state of mind where you don't care about it at all, so you can just \"be confident\". In other words, do not worry, think positive, smile, and keep your back straight. Those are signs of confidence, and with those people will think you are." ]	[ 14, 12, 8, 7, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to wake up from a nightmare? Also, tips on how to make sure that you're really awake in reality and not in another dream?", "How to wake up from a nightmare? Also, tips on how to make sure that you're really awake in reality and not in another dream?", "How to wake up from a nightmare? Also, tips on how to make sure that you're really awake in reality and not in another dream?", "How to wake up from a nightmare? Also, tips on how to make sure that you're really awake in reality and not in another dream?" ]	[ "Google lucid dreaming and reality checks \nMuch to read about this \nBest tips are to do reality checks (write, read, check the time, look around, count) regularly and write dream journals (as soon as you woke up and categorize your dreams)", "I lucid dream a lot and I can recall telling myself while dreaming that I am dreaming. If something I don't like is happening I tell myself to open my eyes and shift around a bit... I don't know if other people have this control, but its pretty comforting. Takes practice i think.", "I used to have constant nightmares when I was younger, so this could be due to having lots of practice. \n\nBut I will (in my dream, once I realize I am dreaming) open my eyelids with my own hands. I can't find the words to explain it in depth, but I pretty much close my fingers so that they're all touching by the tip, put them to my eyes and open them. ", "How I make sure I'm actually dreaming/having a nightmare: Run or hit something. Both are terribly unrealistic when you're sleeping. \n\nIf I know i'm sleeping, I will start screaming as loud as i can, flailing my arms and opening my eyes wide as i can. Most of the time i end up sort of yelping out in real life, and it usually wakes me up. Terrifies my fiancé, though. " ]	[ 5, 3, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "Any useful tips to stay cool this summer? I work outside a lot and like to wet my cap periodically to keep my head cool. ", "Any useful tips to stay cool this summer? I work outside a lot and like to wet my cap periodically to keep my head cool. ", "Any useful tips to stay cool this summer? I work outside a lot and like to wet my cap periodically to keep my head cool. ", "Any useful tips to stay cool this summer? I work outside a lot and like to wet my cap periodically to keep my head cool. ", "Any useful tips to stay cool this summer? I work outside a lot and like to wet my cap periodically to keep my head cool. ", "Any useful tips to stay cool this summer? I work outside a lot and like to wet my cap periodically to keep my head cool. ", "Any useful tips to stay cool this summer? I work outside a lot and like to wet my cap periodically to keep my head cool. ", "Any useful tips to stay cool this summer? I work outside a lot and like to wet my cap periodically to keep my head cool. " ]	[ "I like to keep a towel around my neck. Forget the baseball cap, I feel like it just insulates the heat on your head making you hotter. \n\nThe towel keeps your neck cool from the sun, you can wipe off the sweat and you can throw it over your head to give shade when you need it. Also you can dump water on it to cool you down further while wearing the towel. ", "I don't know about outside, but when I've slept in hot weather without air conditioning, one thing that works is a wet washcloth or towel on your legs or stomach or whatever. If you stay still, eventually you can cool down enough to fall asleep.", "Ziploc sandwich bag with a handful of ice cubes inside your hat (you may need a bigger hat, like a straw cowboy hat). This will cool you d amazingly well. Of course you need an ongoing supply of ice.", "So this is useful for humid weather.. My medical physics professor told us this on a tangent and it totally works.\n\nPut some rubbing alcohol on your skin arms/legs. The reason why humid weather feels so intolerable is that the sweat we produce does not evaporate. Alcohol on the other hand will evaporate, drying your skin slightly and increasing convection to the skin surface and cooling you down.\n\nOn the flip side during really dry, cold weather. Cover your exposed skin in a layer of vasoline to prevent evaporation of water at the skin surface, thereby keeping warmer.", "Put an ice pack in a pillowcase and leave it in your bed - the antithesis of a hot water bottle. \n\nI should say, if you have air con this probably isn't that useful but in the UK very few houses have it. ", "Provided it's not humid and you're wearing light clothes, a hot drink can actually help cool you down. I recommend unsweetened tea. http://www.smithsonianmag.com/science-nature/a-hot-drink-on-a-hot-day-can-cool-you-down-1338875/", "Get a small, thin towel wet, wring it out, then hang it on the door-shelves of your freezer. Close the freezer and let the towel freeze. Once it's frozen solid (only takes 10-15 min), take it out and lay it on yourself until it softens enough to wipe your arms, face, neck, etc with it to cool yourself. Repeat as often as necessary.", "My dad just went on a bender of buying hand held fans. The legit ones have become extremely useful! Not ideal for when you're working but I use mine when I'm chilling outside or sitting in traffic in my car with crappy AC. The one I use costs $6 on Amazon." ]	[ 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Short term memory help for serving. I work in the kitchen of an old folks home, I never received any form of training or guidance just tossed into the dining room and assigned five tables which have residents come down to at random intervals and locations all demand I serve them immediately.\n\nMy problem is that I don't always remember to write everything down, who at what table had x order and often they don't either, I probably forget to ask what salad dressing they want 8 out of 10 times, and a whole myriad of other problems relating to short term memory.\n\nAre there any short term memory exercises/tricks/things to remember or a good way to write orders down that would help?", "Short term memory help for serving. I work in the kitchen of an old folks home, I never received any form of training or guidance just tossed into the dining room and assigned five tables which have residents come down to at random intervals and locations all demand I serve them immediately.\n\nMy problem is that I don't always remember to write everything down, who at what table had x order and often they don't either, I probably forget to ask what salad dressing they want 8 out of 10 times, and a whole myriad of other problems relating to short term memory.\n\nAre there any short term memory exercises/tricks/things to remember or a good way to write orders down that would help?", "Short term memory help for serving. I work in the kitchen of an old folks home, I never received any form of training or guidance just tossed into the dining room and assigned five tables which have residents come down to at random intervals and locations all demand I serve them immediately.\n\nMy problem is that I don't always remember to write everything down, who at what table had x order and often they don't either, I probably forget to ask what salad dressing they want 8 out of 10 times, and a whole myriad of other problems relating to short term memory.\n\nAre there any short term memory exercises/tricks/things to remember or a good way to write orders down that would help?" ]	[ "Remember how you approach a table and jot down orders in that order. If someone sitting across jumps in just skip to the appropriate line and fill in", "Don't take an order without writing it down. Read the order back to them to confirm you got all the right information. If they try to order, say I'll be back in one second let me just grab my notepad. Or buy a waitress apron and keep pen and paper in the pocket so you always have it to hand. ", "As a server who works in a completely different work pace environment than you do I can only give you what helps me. \n\nNow I do forget things probably once a night but my scale is a little larger so we will see if I can help. \n\nThe asking for salad dressing is something that will come with time. Just keep trying and Dont get too upset if the dressing is wrong and try again. Eventually you will remember what you need to ask what with and it will be second nature. \n\nFor remembering, I always write down everything the FIRST time I walk to a new table, now the way you write things down is going to be a big part of this. \n\nSome people like a list, I write down the table number, and I kinda look for a starting point with the people, now i see who wants what and the first person to order is the first on the list and then I move clockwise. And you would have to remember that. \n\nI would suggest you use something different tho.\n\n See in my line of work we are rewarded for speed. We have anywhere from 8 to 10 tables on a normal night and those tables will normally all get Sat at the same time. It can be a nightmare but it's also a blessing. \n\nWhat I think you should do is get a pad that you write things down on. With this don't think of it as a list but as a picture! \n\nSo if you have 4 people at a table you use the 4 corners to write down the orders. Top right will be person x and top left is sitting across from them. \n\nStarting with this will help you a bunch. and it sounds like you really are trying and I bet your boss sees that. See you said you have no server experience, guess what if all you're messing up is some salad dressings and forgetting an order or two? \n\nIt costs money to train someone to do anything don't be too afraid, just take every day as a new learning experience. If you messed up something today learn from it and try again tomorrow. This is the best advice I can give. " ]	[ 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to increase appetite This recently has become a problem for me. When I experience something very stressful or traumatic, one of the largest effects on me is how my stomach feels. It usually goes away, however it is lasting this time. I just never seem to be hungry, no matter how long since I last ate. Every time I do eat it feels like a chore. Anyone have any advice on this?", "How to increase appetite This recently has become a problem for me. When I experience something very stressful or traumatic, one of the largest effects on me is how my stomach feels. It usually goes away, however it is lasting this time. I just never seem to be hungry, no matter how long since I last ate. Every time I do eat it feels like a chore. Anyone have any advice on this?", "How to increase appetite This recently has become a problem for me. When I experience something very stressful or traumatic, one of the largest effects on me is how my stomach feels. It usually goes away, however it is lasting this time. I just never seem to be hungry, no matter how long since I last ate. Every time I do eat it feels like a chore. Anyone have any advice on this?" ]	[ "You could drink, an empty stomach gets you drunk faster so a couple shots should get you there if you aren't a regular, drinking always makes me hungry.", "Try baby food squeezies and large glasses of water to begin stretching out your stomach. Work out i. Tje mornings to build up appetite. Make strong smelling and yummy food like popcorn or cake. Watch cooking shows. \nIf this was triggered by an emotional state, get help. ", "Find an activity you enjoy and spend at least an hour a day doing it, preferably before dinner. Also, don't skip breakfast." ]	[ 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "The best ways to help in a mass casualty situation, like triage, clearing an entry way for first responders, and easy first aid tips. ", "The best ways to help in a mass casualty situation, like triage, clearing an entry way for first responders, and easy first aid tips. ", "The best ways to help in a mass casualty situation, like triage, clearing an entry way for first responders, and easy first aid tips. " ]	[ "We have 4 groups: Green, yellow, red, and black.\nGreen - Those who can move themselves.\nYellow - Those who can't move but whose injuries aren't life threatening.\nRed - Can't move and life threatening injuries.\nBlack - Dead.\n\nGreen group will group themselves once told to go to one area. The remaining are marked by somebody in the field and receive first aid accordingly.", "Look for an Army Field Guide https://www.armystudyguide.com/content/powerpoint/First_Aid_Presentations/overview-of-cls-tasks-and-2.shtml", "Take the Red Cross Wilderness First Aid class if you are in the US. You will gain the skills to help when help is not going to arrival for a while." ]	[ 3, 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to keep hairs from not being so itchy/annoying/slightly painful after shaving. I shave in the mornings, usually during or right after my shower. The shaving itself isn't an issue, I don't think, as my neck/chin end up really smooth. The problems come during the evenings. As the hairs begin to grow back, they itch like crazy and are painful to the touch, specially those in the neck area. Is there something I can do, some specific way to shave? Or am I doomed to deal with this until I can properly grow a beard?", "How to keep hairs from not being so itchy/annoying/slightly painful after shaving. I shave in the mornings, usually during or right after my shower. The shaving itself isn't an issue, I don't think, as my neck/chin end up really smooth. The problems come during the evenings. As the hairs begin to grow back, they itch like crazy and are painful to the touch, specially those in the neck area. Is there something I can do, some specific way to shave? Or am I doomed to deal with this until I can properly grow a beard?", "How to keep hairs from not being so itchy/annoying/slightly painful after shaving. I shave in the mornings, usually during or right after my shower. The shaving itself isn't an issue, I don't think, as my neck/chin end up really smooth. The problems come during the evenings. As the hairs begin to grow back, they itch like crazy and are painful to the touch, specially those in the neck area. Is there something I can do, some specific way to shave? Or am I doomed to deal with this until I can properly grow a beard?", "How to keep hairs from not being so itchy/annoying/slightly painful after shaving. I shave in the mornings, usually during or right after my shower. The shaving itself isn't an issue, I don't think, as my neck/chin end up really smooth. The problems come during the evenings. As the hairs begin to grow back, they itch like crazy and are painful to the touch, specially those in the neck area. Is there something I can do, some specific way to shave? Or am I doomed to deal with this until I can properly grow a beard?" ]	[ "I used to get shaving rash reeeally bad, to the point where I didn't bother shaving anymore. I discovered the only way to stop it from happening was to cover the area I had just shaved in a hot flannel and leave it on there for a good five minutes. I think this works so well because when you shave, you strech your skin to try and get as closer shave as possible. When you let go, the hair has been chopped down to a level just beneath the skin, so heating the area up causes all of your pores and follicles open up, allowing your hairs to grow with out irritating the surrounding skin. Let me know how it goes. ", "Always use a small fresh towel for your shaved areas alone. Don't rub. Just press on your skin repeatedly until dry.\n\nApply after shave, preferably a lotion / balm with little or no alcohol.", "I swear to god, I will swear by Tend Skin. It's a solution you dab on with cotton balls (direct contact with your hands can make them harmlessly peel sometimes, for some reason). I use it when shaving itches, or when I notice I'm starting to get ingrowns (it's especially good for ingrowns). I'm on mobile so I can't post a link, but just google it or go to just about any salon that does waxing. \n\nHope that helps!", "tea tree oil helps me a lot, \ni have a tea tree oil foam cleanser that i use and it works wonders, however pure tea tree oil is way better" ]	[ 5, 3, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to build up courage for something important. I have both a job interview and a School dance coming up and I'm nervous as all hell about both. i want to look, Sound and feel like i have courage in what I'm doing! \n\nLPT I'm counting on you!\n\n", "How to build up courage for something important. I have both a job interview and a School dance coming up and I'm nervous as all hell about both. i want to look, Sound and feel like i have courage in what I'm doing! \n\nLPT I'm counting on you!\n\n", "How to build up courage for something important. I have both a job interview and a School dance coming up and I'm nervous as all hell about both. i want to look, Sound and feel like i have courage in what I'm doing! \n\nLPT I'm counting on you!\n\n", "How to build up courage for something important. I have both a job interview and a School dance coming up and I'm nervous as all hell about both. i want to look, Sound and feel like i have courage in what I'm doing! \n\nLPT I'm counting on you!\n\n", "How to build up courage for something important. I have both a job interview and a School dance coming up and I'm nervous as all hell about both. i want to look, Sound and feel like i have courage in what I'm doing! \n\nLPT I'm counting on you!\n\n", "How to build up courage for something important. I have both a job interview and a School dance coming up and I'm nervous as all hell about both. i want to look, Sound and feel like i have courage in what I'm doing! \n\nLPT I'm counting on you!\n\n", "How to build up courage for something important. I have both a job interview and a School dance coming up and I'm nervous as all hell about both. i want to look, Sound and feel like i have courage in what I'm doing! \n\nLPT I'm counting on you!\n\n", "How to build up courage for something important. I have both a job interview and a School dance coming up and I'm nervous as all hell about both. i want to look, Sound and feel like i have courage in what I'm doing! \n\nLPT I'm counting on you!\n\n" ]	[ "Instead of imagining all the things that will go wrong, turn your mind around and think of how awesomely great everything is going to be. Visualize yourself answering the questions right in your interview, smiling at your interviewer and giving a firm handshake, feeling cheerful and being polite as hell so they think to themselves, \"This Mr. Monkeysareall is a fine upstanding young man, eminently hireable!\". When you visualize being successful, it helps you so much more than visualizing failure. You don't know what's going to happen, so just believe that you will get something valuable out of the experience, even if you aren't offered this job.\n\nAs for the dance--Ignore what you think everyone else thinks of you. If you have friends there, have fun chatting, laughing, and dancing with them and having a great time. I assume you're nervous because of the girls? Don't be, dude. I was one of those girl at school dances a few years ago and trust me, the girls won't be laughing at you or sneering at your awkward dancing or whatever, they'll be having fun with their friends too and most likely not paying you any mind. No matter how badly you think you dance, dancing is just moving your body in a way that says \"I'm comfortable, I love this music and I'm having fun!\" so it's impossible to do it wrong unless you're uncomfortable, you hate the music and/or you aren't having fun. If that's the case, take a break. You are there to enjoy yourself, not to impress anyone, but funnily enough the more you enjoy yourself, the more impressive you'll look. Then people might notice you and think to themselves, \"Wow, that monkeysareall sure looks like he's having a blast! I want to have as much fun as he's having!\"\n\nIf it's a super awkward dance where no one is chatting and no one is dancing or having fun... just leave, man. You won't be missing anything at all if that's the case. Have fun somewhere else instead.\n\nBest of luck to you in your endeavors!", "Whenever that happens, I simply remember how it won't really matter if I fail because I'll always have more opportunities. You got balls, man. Use 'em.", "I'll add this: later you'll learn, or realize, there's someone there who has a huge crush on you. Might be hard to believe now, but later you'll realize it for sure. I have no advice as to how to find out who it is, unfortunately, but there is definitely someone in your school who does.", "Alcohol.\n\nNo, seriously, [try this.](http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are.html)", "Practice doing something similar that can also apply to dancing/talking.\n\nExample: goto bookstore and strike up conversations with random people about books for interview\n\ngoto club or place with dancing and copy other people even if you suck. \n\n\n\n", "Just remember the cowardly lion in the Wizard of Oz. He was a dumpy looking, kinda goofy lion but he had the courage all along to be strong. He just didn't think he did. You don't need us, you already have courage.", "I like to imagine the worst case scenario and come up with a plan to deal with that. I find it helps me take the pressure off myself and I perform better because I'm not riddled with anxiety. I realize this approach may not work for everyone, but it does for me. ", "As long as it's not something that takes preparation work, and just requires courage to do it, then my strategy is to blank my mind from thinking about it until the actual moment, and then do it in one spontaneous impulse. It's always getting started that's hard, once you put your foot in the door, you no longer have any choice but to go forward, and from that point on it's easy.\n\nAs for things that take preparation, my backup strategy is to think about the worst case scenario, where in many cases they're not really that bad. For example, if I fail the job interview, I'd still be in the same spot as I am right now, so what's there to fear?\n\nAt the same time, you can approach it like an experiment. You're doing this so that you can see what happens, and then be curious about it. \"Well, might as well do it and see what happens\" is the magic phrase that makes it a lot easier for me to take initiative." ]	[ 5, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "a good way to divide, organize and access the contents of a backpack that has little to no pouches, compartments or dividers. ", "a good way to divide, organize and access the contents of a backpack that has little to no pouches, compartments or dividers. ", "a good way to divide, organize and access the contents of a backpack that has little to no pouches, compartments or dividers. ", "a good way to divide, organize and access the contents of a backpack that has little to no pouches, compartments or dividers. " ]	[ "Packing cubes. I use packing cubes when I travel and they're awesome for organization. I'd imagine slim packing cubes [like these](http://www.ebags.com/product/ebags/slim-packing-cubes-3pc-set/107842?productid=10150079) would work for a backpack. \n\nThis is sort of [what my suitcase looks like when i travel.](http://d1kcl3yiuixneo.cloudfront.net/wp-content/uploads/bags-by-ebags-packing-cubes-suitcase.jpg)\n\nIf you buy ebags packing cubes, make sure to use a coupon as they usually have those. Also, Amex often has a spend $X at ebags.com, get $10 back, which can be combined with the coupon. ", "If it's for school/something where you need a lot of papers, I've found accordion files to be pretty awesome. ", "I've got the stuff in my bag sorted into Maxp", "I used a similar technique with a bunch of stuff sacks I got at REI. They're cheap and easy to retrieve. " ]	[ 4, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?", "How to force myself to nap? I want to start having an evening nap every day of 20-40 minutes. I feel like it could be very good for me. But when i try to nap, i never manage to actually sleep, i just lie on my bed trying to. \nGot any tips for me?" ]	[ "Don't stress it, it won't get you any closer. Even lying down with your eyes closed is good for you.", "If you can't fall asleep on your own then you probably don't need the nap. Laying still for 20 minutes with your eyes closed listening to pleasant music can also be refreshing. Do that on a regular basis and you might start falling asleep.\n\nPersonally, I get sweaty and get indigestion if I have a nap. Usually only take one if I am feeling sick.", "So pretty much what everyone here has said is bang on. Allow me to summarize, make it easier.\n\n- Set and setting is really important. Are you in your own bed? Is it dark, or is there music playing and/or your cellphone nearby? Put distractions somewhere else, otherwise you won't be able to focus on them\n\n- Don't force yourself to sleep. The stress that comes from 'Why am I not asleep yet!?' will actually make it worse.\n\n- How to relax: Starting at your toes, clench every muscle group in turn, and hold for ten seconds. Toes - Ankles - Calves - Quads and Hamstrings - Bum - Abs - Chest - Arms - Hands - Neck - Jaw. If it doesn't work the first time you go through the circuit, do it again, holding for 15. And when I say clench, I mean clench like you're trying to open a bottle that's been in the back of the freezer for a month.\n\n- Even if you lie there just with your eyes closed, you will get some rest. Start with that and move on.\n\n- Cardio. If you really want a nap, try a strenuous workout that you've never tried before - Swimming, running, and \"hiit\" workouts are great for exhausting your body and getting you to sleep. ", "I'm trying to think how I finally learned to nap, but the only thing I can come up with is to have children. ", "Stupid retarded anecdote I heard, guess I'll write it here:\n\nTwo soldiers in a foxhole during ww1 stand guard while nothing is going on... the first one asks the other one \"are you hungry, by any chance?\", the other soldier eagerly says \"yes I am\"... The first soldier proceeds to pull out a pocket knife and a dirty piece of cheese with pocket lint and stray hairs on it, then he starts slicing it up and eating it with obvious enjoyment and offers a piece. His fellow soldier looks at that piece of cheese and says \"There's no way in hell I'm eating that, look at it, it's dirty!\" which yields the reply: \"nope... you're not hungry\".\n\nThe same probably goes for you. You may think you're tired, but you're not tired.", "I can't nap on my bed, but I can always nap better on my couch. I feel like my body knows that bed is for sleeping and if I have the intention of napping it won't let me do it. Naps on my couch are easier and more refreshing.", "When I want to take a short nap during the day, nothing has worked so well for me as getting one of those sleep masks that people wear on airplanes. I can generally achieve at least low level sleep after a few minutes if I wear that thing. I don't use it at night--just for napping.\n", "Something I realized this morning after a few nights of using a sleep-measuring app to wake me up when I'm not in REM sleep, is that when I set the alarm on my phone and put it down next to my pillow, I somehow feel like I actually have a purpose for going to sleep.\n\nWhat is mean is, usually, I lay down and daydream for an hour or two before drifting off (I can't shut my brain off, regardless of how tired I might be) but with the knowledge that my phone is sitting there recording my movements, I actually feel like I should actively go to sleep. Like, the reason I'm in the bed is to sleep - nothing else. I've been falling asleep within 20-30 minutes of lying down with that sort of no-pressure motivation.\n\nYMMV, obviously, I just thought it was interesting, and that it might help with your napping.", "Simple mindfulness m", "1. Make where you nap as dark as you can.\n2. Turn off / unplug your phone(s) / alerts.\n2. Do not set an alarm\n3. Commit to letting go of any thoughts which come.\n4. Notice your breathing.\n5. Begin your napping ritual at the same time every day.\n6. Try having a quick rinse in the shower first.\n7. Start running every other morning before breakfast.\n8. Commit to this for 21 days and your new behaviors will change into habits.", "One cannot \"force\" oneself to nap. You can only increase your odds. You increase your chances of falling asleep by limiting nearby sound, (but white noise can help) darkening the light, or going to a dark place, relaxing your muscles, which lying down can certainly help, and finally by thinking of inconsequential things. Being too hot or too cold will make it less likely. Concentrating on anything important will make it less likely. \n\ngood luck. ", "Now, I've got two solutions that may work for you. \n \nTypically when I get home from school I see my mom watching Judge Judy, this typically puts her right to sleep and she will typically nap for a good 30 minutes. \n \nAnother way is watching VSauce videos. Although they are so interesting I always get tired when I watch them. \n \nTest these two methods out for yourself and let me know if they work.", "Nap is slang for masturbate from round my area so I'd say just grab it and go for it. Mental motivation is key.", "Learn to m", "It helps me to try to use my long-distance-vision while my eyes are closed. Imagine that all the thoughts and images shooting through your mind are just pictures painted on plywood and then look up and over them into the distance. Repeat.", "I like to crank the AC and get that room super cold. Then, I open the window to non-direct sunlight. Provides for a nice sleep, without your body going into full-nighttime slumber mode.", "A while back, I started working overnight shifts and would have to sleep with a blindfold to shut out the light in my bedroom. I've taken to wearing the blindfold whenever I'm sleeping, and can now sleep practically anywhere at any time. You might want to try it.", "Why do you want to nap? You should only be wanting to nap if your body feels it needs the extra rest. Back when my schedule was more full I needed a short nap to \"recharge my batteries\" so to speak and a short nap was good. Don't force your self to nap, just fill your day with more to do and the need to nap will come naturally ", "What I do in college, in between classes, is sit in a comfy couch in the lounge with my sunglasses on. Works every time. Helps to have the curtains closed. \n\n", "This might sound weird but it works for me. Don't think, clear your mind When you close your eyes, focus on the black you see, or the back of your eyelids. Try it.", "Take a sublingual melatonin supplement 10 min before a nap. Safe, natural, does not cause drowsiness. Another option is trying to learn and use progressive muscle relaxation, worked for me. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HFwCKKa--18", "Only take a nap if you feel tired. Like others have said, if youre not tired, you dont need the nap.\n\nHowever, if you do nap, limit it to about 20 minutes. I've read short naps like this are the best because you don't enter REM sleep. Entering REM sleep will cause you to be groggy when you wake up.\n\nThats why all my 40 minite naps turned onto 4 hour naps.", "Non-energetic sports on TV. Snooker, Pool, Poker, etc, and documentaries on space. pokerstars.tv is my favourite.\n\n\n", "Just lying on your bed with your eyes closed can be refreshing.\n\nThe kinda works but not for everybody LPT you're after: White noise.\n\nIf you have a smart phone, find an install a white noise generator. The better ones will have background sounds like rain, waves that kind of thing, and they'll have fade-in timers/alarms so that you can set how long you want to rest.\n\nI used to nap by firing up such an app ([this one](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.tmsoft.whitenoise.lite)), lying down and resting my phone on my chest. Half an hour later, the alarm would fade in and I'd be gradually woken.", "In my experience there are a couple of things that keep us from sleeping. 1) over stimulation, like video games, the internet, TV, what ever your hobbies maybe. Try napping some place where you don't have access to these things so you won't tempted.\n2) Routine. Sleep has a rhythm. You can't just tell your body to sleep. It has to be in the habit. So make a schedule and you might not get it for a few days but keep at it.\n3) Worrying about shit. Best advice I have seen is to write things down before you go to sleep, so you wont worry about forgetting them. Plus when you wake up you have a to do list which often makes planning the rest of your time more effective\n4) Caffeine and other stimulants. Avoid them before sleep. Its Pretty common sense really, but If I splurge on taco bell for dinner and get my favorite caffeine drink, I have trouble sleeping that night. So keep clear for several hours before because it can have an effect.\n5) Do something to make your self tired. Workout. Maybe not right before, but I think it would lower blood sugar over all and relax muscles.\nI'm sure there are more but I hope this helps. Sleep has a lot to do with cortisol, so if you really want to get into it, look up stuff about that.", "I've personally found I can't take naps for short periods of time in my bed. I nap on my couch and even if there is sun shining in, i can fall asleep for about an hour no issues. In my bed I fall asleep for 2, 3, or 4 hours at a time.", "I've found that running a slow 5K in the morning makes me sleep like a baby at night. Wake up at 5 AM, go out for a run. The rest of your day will be great and the sleep will be awesome.", "I usually try to create silence artificially. How? Just \"wrapping\" my head/ears with my pillow. My pillow is as wide as my bed, not cushion shaped, so I just make some strange \"U shape\" putting the pillow behind my neck/head, keeping it in place with my crossed arms.\n\nThe silence you get that way is really deep, in 2 minutes I'm usually asleep. In 20 minutes my alarm clock rings, I wake up and my afternoon is really productive again.\n\nGet a similar pillow to try it on your nap time.\n\nSource: Spaniard here :)", "I used to work early mornings at a hard manual labor job, then 10 am to 6 pm at a desk job. I'd come home from the first job, shower, and catch a 30 minute nap before going to the second job. Light classical music, no tv, keep the eyes closed.\nAfter a few times I got into the routine and the nap was just long enough to recharge without feeling groggy. ", "I used to hate to nap, I'd wake up super cranky and unpleasant to be around. When I started working the morning shift, I HAD to take a nap to have a regular relationship with my fiancee. I just started to make it a habit. I go to the room and lay down everyday at 2pm and get up at 4pm. Over 2 years it's such a habit, I get super cranky and unpleasant if I don't lay down.", "I recently started making myself nap for 15-30 minutes every day on my lunch break. My method is as follows: \n\n1. Set the timer on your phone so you don't worry about oversleeping. \n2. find a relaxing album to listen to, and put both headphones on so you're not distracted by outside noise.\n3. I keep a light blanket at work to cover my arms and put my head down on my desk. Makes it more comfy and warm.\n4. Once in napping position with the music on, consciously relax all of your muscles, starting with the neck and shoulders.\n\nI usually fall asleep within 2-4 minutes. I know I'm fortunate to zonk out so quickly, but given practice, I'm sure you can too. ", "I lived in Spain for many years and had to teach myself to have a siesta, partly to socially acclimatise myself but mainly to be able to stay up later and keep up with the locals. \nThe way I did it was to roster a nap into my daily programme. For example between 4-4:30 I have to nap. I found that by designating a period of time where all I had to accomplish was sleep, I was able to put aside other thoughts/worries and sleep. Works a charm! ", "Focus on your eyes resting, rather than on the need to sleep. Just let those eyes rest and be aware of, and relax, all muscles of your body. Dont try to fall asleep, just tell yourself it's the eye resting that you're doing. Try to look up for a couple of seconds, with your eyes closed, it will get you \"deeper\". Bam, in 10 minutes, you'll be out.\nAt least, that's what I do.", "Ehem... first of all, you don't need to sleep to relax, and the purpose of napping is relaxing. Also 20-40 minutes might be too much already, but that depends on yourself. After 15 minutes I am complety refreshed, longer and it's less effective, too long and you will feel cranky. (You will feel similar as if you just had wake up from too little sleep.)\n\nIf you feel tired relaxing should be no problem, don't try to sleep, it might make it impossible to relax. Calm music might help to relax and at the same time prevents you from falling into a deep sleep.", "Close youre eyes. Pace your breathing really slow and everytime you exhale in your head say out and every time you inhale say in. Match the word with the length of your breath. IE If your exhale is 2 seconds long in your head the word out should take 2 seconds." ]	[ 111, 109, 68, 23, 13, 6, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to find the proper dryer cord converter? I can't use my dryer because the plug does not fit the wall outlet as seen [here](http://i.imgur.com/1qk9L.jpg). The black cord belongs to the washer.\n\nHow do i find the proper converter for the dryer cord? The number reads E 169172 and the brand name is Smart Choice.", "How to find the proper dryer cord converter? I can't use my dryer because the plug does not fit the wall outlet as seen [here](http://i.imgur.com/1qk9L.jpg). The black cord belongs to the washer.\n\nHow do i find the proper converter for the dryer cord? The number reads E 169172 and the brand name is Smart Choice.", "How to find the proper dryer cord converter? I can't use my dryer because the plug does not fit the wall outlet as seen [here](http://i.imgur.com/1qk9L.jpg). The black cord belongs to the washer.\n\nHow do i find the proper converter for the dryer cord? The number reads E 169172 and the brand name is Smart Choice." ]	[ "That looks like a [NEMA 10-30](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/NEMA_connector) plug. You can't get an adapter for it, because it pulls 240V and 30A, vs the regular 120V and 15A. You'd need to get an electrician to install a new plug.", "That socket doesn't carry enough amps (or volts for that matter) for your dryer. You need to run a new circuit with a 4 conductor 10ga wire (2x hot, neutral, ground), 2p 30a breaker, and a NEMA 10-30 socket. You'll need an electrician to do this work.", "What part of the country are you in? I might know somebody who can install the proper plug for you, depending on where you live. Like /u/uhoreg says, you can't get an adapter for that plug, it needs 240V vs the 120V that the regular plugs have available.\n\nAre you trying to put an electric dryer where there used to be a gas dryer?" ]	[ 4, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to I stop theft on a Construction site? Needless to say, my parents bought and is rebuilding a property that is about 30 mins from our house. We're thinking about setting up some security cameras, but aren't they really easy to avoid? Plus, even if we see something, all we can do is call 911 because we're 30 mins away. All we really have for defense is just a small fence.\n", "How to I stop theft on a Construction site? Needless to say, my parents bought and is rebuilding a property that is about 30 mins from our house. We're thinking about setting up some security cameras, but aren't they really easy to avoid? Plus, even if we see something, all we can do is call 911 because we're 30 mins away. All we really have for defense is just a small fence.\n", "How to I stop theft on a Construction site? Needless to say, my parents bought and is rebuilding a property that is about 30 mins from our house. We're thinking about setting up some security cameras, but aren't they really easy to avoid? Plus, even if we see something, all we can do is call 911 because we're 30 mins away. All we really have for defense is just a small fence.\n" ]	[ "Don't leave anything there. This is the only way. Load materials as you need them and get the job done without delay. I am a Tradesman in the residential building industry.\n\n", "My dad builds houses for a living, and his crew rents a U-Haul trailer that the keep all their tools in overnight.\n\nThere tools still get stolen occasionally, but there's really not much other option.", "Lights help, if possible. It's a lot easier to steal something that's in the dark.\n\nMotion alarms are good too. They don't need to be wired into a security monitoring system, just something that makes flashing lights and noise when movement is detected (for a period of time).\n\nAnd to say the obvious, don't leave stuff around that can be easily taken if possible. Put palettes of stuff on top levels, keep tools in good lockboxes, etc., " ]	[ 3, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "What website to use to design cheap T-shirts There are a lot of sites out there for designing t-shirts, but many of them are overpriced or just crappy. Does anyone have a site they love to use?", "What website to use to design cheap T-shirts There are a lot of sites out there for designing t-shirts, but many of them are overpriced or just crappy. Does anyone have a site they love to use?", "What website to use to design cheap T-shirts There are a lot of sites out there for designing t-shirts, but many of them are overpriced or just crappy. Does anyone have a site they love to use?" ]	[ "You should just run to like office depot or office max and grab the \"Dark t-shirt\" iron on paper, and buy some cheep black or what ever color t shirts and just print what ever you want on the shirt, make sure its mirrored though so when you iron it on it looks right, and it holds up pretty well for an iron on.", "Maybe this is a long shot, but when I needed shirts made I got them from a local high school. Most highschools now have a tshirt making class or they just have a press. They can design them and print them really cheap. Check into it.", "How many cheap tshirts are you wanting?\n\nVistaprint (dot com) often runs specials where you can design a \"free\" tshirt, for the cost of shipping which is almost always less than $10. The tshirt that you get to use is white and you cannot make a size larger than XL, but I find their color and ink quality to be impeccable. While they have a limited number of free tshirt designs, if you sign up for their deal emails, sometimes they'll do a free premium tshirt where you can design it however you want. In fact, [here is a link to one](http://e.vistaprint.com/a/hBOtA5cAZdBOAB8eT-BAoQY6MaS/vph11). Enjoy!\n\nOther than that, if you also want to make just one, consider [freezer paper stencils](http://www.frugalupstate.com/crafts-diy/diy-freezer-paper-fabric-stencils/).\n\nIf you are ordering more than one, I recommend going with the ideas submitted by the other comments." ]	[ 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "how to work with people you don't like? I work at a fairly small company, about 40 people, been here for about a year but there's one coworker who I don't get along with. We are polar opposites in all the ways that matter, and the few people who know about it understand my reasons, but I don't want to get a reputation for someone who doesn't work well with others. Rationally, I know there's no point in harping about it but sometimes I can't help myself from bitching. The thing is almost everyone I work with is older than me (married with kids) so its hard to find things in common to talk about when everyone wants to talk about their kids and sports. What can I do to cultivate friends without alienating people?", "how to work with people you don't like? I work at a fairly small company, about 40 people, been here for about a year but there's one coworker who I don't get along with. We are polar opposites in all the ways that matter, and the few people who know about it understand my reasons, but I don't want to get a reputation for someone who doesn't work well with others. Rationally, I know there's no point in harping about it but sometimes I can't help myself from bitching. The thing is almost everyone I work with is older than me (married with kids) so its hard to find things in common to talk about when everyone wants to talk about their kids and sports. What can I do to cultivate friends without alienating people?", "how to work with people you don't like? I work at a fairly small company, about 40 people, been here for about a year but there's one coworker who I don't get along with. We are polar opposites in all the ways that matter, and the few people who know about it understand my reasons, but I don't want to get a reputation for someone who doesn't work well with others. Rationally, I know there's no point in harping about it but sometimes I can't help myself from bitching. The thing is almost everyone I work with is older than me (married with kids) so its hard to find things in common to talk about when everyone wants to talk about their kids and sports. What can I do to cultivate friends without alienating people?", "how to work with people you don't like? I work at a fairly small company, about 40 people, been here for about a year but there's one coworker who I don't get along with. We are polar opposites in all the ways that matter, and the few people who know about it understand my reasons, but I don't want to get a reputation for someone who doesn't work well with others. Rationally, I know there's no point in harping about it but sometimes I can't help myself from bitching. The thing is almost everyone I work with is older than me (married with kids) so its hard to find things in common to talk about when everyone wants to talk about their kids and sports. What can I do to cultivate friends without alienating people?", "how to work with people you don't like? I work at a fairly small company, about 40 people, been here for about a year but there's one coworker who I don't get along with. We are polar opposites in all the ways that matter, and the few people who know about it understand my reasons, but I don't want to get a reputation for someone who doesn't work well with others. Rationally, I know there's no point in harping about it but sometimes I can't help myself from bitching. The thing is almost everyone I work with is older than me (married with kids) so its hard to find things in common to talk about when everyone wants to talk about their kids and sports. What can I do to cultivate friends without alienating people?" ]	[ "Keep your head down and just focus on your job. Get reputation as being the guy who focuses on his job.\n\nFriends are overrated anyway!", "Psychologically speaking, there's a few tricks you can use to make people like you, when approached or when you're approaching them make sure you look them in they eyes, there's a little trick to make people like you a little bit more: ask them if you can borrow something from them, a pencil or stapler, use it, give it back in time and thank them. It shows humility and submissiveness and they will subconsciously like you more. Don't overuse this trick though. \nCool topics to talk about: their day, funny stories, films,ask about their kids and listen to them, what works best for me is asking for some sort of advice and then rephrasing the advice back into the form of a question, that will make them feel valued.\nSources: North Dakota State University psychology major.", "I worked with \"that guy I hated\" for a year and a half. Finally told him he was an asshole and we didn't speak for a year. It was great! Was happiest handshaker at his goodbye party when he left the company. ", "You could be the better man and learn his ticks. That way you can avoid the bad ones and exploit the good ones.\nThe key to working with people who are your opposite is minimize confrontation and maximize work output.", " I will figure out their likes, passions, motivational cues and anger ques and use it to make them more productive. If need be I'll pretend, if it helps the bigger picture.\n\nMost people like/love me but have no idea why at work. See above.\n\n" ]	[ 8, 3, 3, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "What are some effective studying methods? I'm starting school again after being gone for almost 10 years. What are some effective studying methods?", "What are some effective studying methods? I'm starting school again after being gone for almost 10 years. What are some effective studying methods?", "What are some effective studying methods? I'm starting school again after being gone for almost 10 years. What are some effective studying methods?", "What are some effective studying methods? I'm starting school again after being gone for almost 10 years. What are some effective studying methods?", "What are some effective studying methods? I'm starting school again after being gone for almost 10 years. What are some effective studying methods?", "What are some effective studying methods? I'm starting school again after being gone for almost 10 years. What are some effective studying methods?", "What are some effective studying methods? I'm starting school again after being gone for almost 10 years. What are some effective studying methods?", "What are some effective studying methods? I'm starting school again after being gone for almost 10 years. What are some effective studying methods?", "What are some effective studying methods? I'm starting school again after being gone for almost 10 years. What are some effective studying methods?", "What are some effective studying methods? I'm starting school again after being gone for almost 10 years. What are some effective studying methods?" ]	[ "Pomodoro technique is a good one to try. Just set a timer for 25 minutes and use that time to study. At the end of the 25 minutes, take a break. It helps with procrastination.", "Create your own study guide questions if they aren't already provided. Test yourself by keeping the answers separate from the question, and keep doing so until you don't need to look at the answers anymore. \n\nIf you're struggling with a specific topic, go back to the fundamentals of that topic.\n\nLastly, some believe that if you chew gum while studying and chew the same flavor gum during tests, it makes it easier to remember things. Whether thats a placebo or not, I'm not sure...may be worth a shot though!", "Mind maps! After doing readings, make a visual illustration to link concepts together so that the synthesis of course material sticks in your memory. This can be done with boxes or bubbles, index cards or sheets of paper - the key is organization. Tip I got from an A+ sociology student", "If you have more than 1 class to study for, switch them after every hour. when you switch back, quiz yourself on the material to see if you retained the information you had studied an hour ago. It helps me to stay focused/not get bored. Also useful to make surebthat I'm actual learning and not staring at book for nothing.", "If listening to music helps, create one playlist just for studying and listen to it only when doing so. It helps you realize it's time to concentrate on the work. Helped me finish college. ", "I never made notes in lectures. Just sit there and listen- take it in. I found that making notes is a distraction and you don't ever read them anyway.\n\nRead synopses rather than complicated and difficult to digest articles. You'll always forget the tiny details and they will rarely be on an exam.\n\nNot sure what you're learning and whether this will be of any use- I did both a medical and science/maths degree, so more science rather than arts\n\n", "Figure out what you're studying for. What you're getting out of it. It SHOULD be enough to get you motivated enough to actually do your work. The only way to efficiently work is to know you want to do the work in the first place. Otherwise, what you're doing might not be worth it. ", "Depends what you do but my best studying technique was to just hammer on problems over and over until I could do them no problem. Easy problems, medium problems and hard problems made me apply what I know which gave me a deeper understanding of what I was applying. By the time I got to the midterms and finals it was really easy to solve the problems similar to the ones I'd already done and solving the new problems wasn't too difficult now that I understood everything inside and out. \n\nThis is more from STEM courses though, I never did much of the arts.", "3 thinks worked for me and other friends too ; \n-A good big piece of dark chocolate increases very much brain activity. Especially before tests, eat some. \n-The aroma trick : release a specific unit aroma when studying something specific. \nThe smell shall help remember. \n-The Wall. Make post-its core notes of A4 with a unique drawing sequence and blue tack them on the wall. Then read! Optical memorizing works wonders! Good luck :) ", "1. Be realistic about how much time you need to study (usually 3x class time for college courses).\n\n2. Set a fixed time/place to study. Once you groove this, it makes it a lot easier to get started. Procrastination is your foe.\n\n3. Space repetitions: Review an item 5' later, an hour later, a day later, a week later. And, related, spreading study time out over the week is more effective than doing one big chunk of time." ]	[ 4, 3, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to remove or prevent sweat stains around dress shirt collars without dry cleaning. All of my light shirts look totally new except for very visible yellowy/brown sweat stains, right where the collar rubs my neck all day. I know I can dry clean or do laundry/ironing, but that's expensive and time consuming, given that the shirt stays in clean, fresh shape other than that one trouble area.", "How to remove or prevent sweat stains around dress shirt collars without dry cleaning. All of my light shirts look totally new except for very visible yellowy/brown sweat stains, right where the collar rubs my neck all day. I know I can dry clean or do laundry/ironing, but that's expensive and time consuming, given that the shirt stays in clean, fresh shape other than that one trouble area.", "How to remove or prevent sweat stains around dress shirt collars without dry cleaning. All of my light shirts look totally new except for very visible yellowy/brown sweat stains, right where the collar rubs my neck all day. I know I can dry clean or do laundry/ironing, but that's expensive and time consuming, given that the shirt stays in clean, fresh shape other than that one trouble area.", "How to remove or prevent sweat stains around dress shirt collars without dry cleaning. All of my light shirts look totally new except for very visible yellowy/brown sweat stains, right where the collar rubs my neck all day. I know I can dry clean or do laundry/ironing, but that's expensive and time consuming, given that the shirt stays in clean, fresh shape other than that one trouble area." ]	[ "7 Solutions for [Removing Sweat Stains](http://www.rd.com/home/7-solutions-for-removing-sweat-stains) from Readers Digest", "Also: how to get rid of deodorant build-up in the armpit area? \n\nI have great shirts that still look fab except for an unsightly whitish/yellow build-up around the armpits where I deodorize daily.", "These form on some of my shirts, the way I get rid of them is with a little dish soap. Wet the collar and get a little dish soap on it. Remember dish soap \"cuts the grease\" so it will get the oil out. Rub the collar on itself with the dish soap and then throw it in a load of laundry immediately after. Presto!", "The Laundress for J.Crew Stain Bar\nhttp://www.gq.com/style/blogs/the-gq-eye/2012/04/field-tested-the-laundress-for-jcrew-stain-bar.html" ]	[ 4, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to prevent static shocks. Where I live we have wood and stone-tile floors. Even so, wearing socks, you can build up a lot of static electricity. This results in frequent and severe static shocks when people touch eachother or anything metal.", "How to prevent static shocks. Where I live we have wood and stone-tile floors. Even so, wearing socks, you can build up a lot of static electricity. This results in frequent and severe static shocks when people touch eachother or anything metal.", "How to prevent static shocks. Where I live we have wood and stone-tile floors. Even so, wearing socks, you can build up a lot of static electricity. This results in frequent and severe static shocks when people touch eachother or anything metal.", "How to prevent static shocks. Where I live we have wood and stone-tile floors. Even so, wearing socks, you can build up a lot of static electricity. This results in frequent and severe static shocks when people touch eachother or anything metal." ]	[ "When you touch something metal, slap it instead. The impact distracts from the shock, and hurts less because you're doing it.\n\nDoesn't translate to people.", "Humidifier. Not sure where you are located but during winter the air is so dry that is what causes the increase in static electricity.", "Try fabric softener with your clothes, it helps you isolate yourself from generating such energy. You could try with an anti-static agent or a ground bracelet.", "I feel like Joe Pesci in Goodfellas when he gets insulted about shining shoes whenever I touch something in my apartment" ]	[ 5, 3, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to Follow Through on a Plan So, I'm currently dealing with depression (seeing a therapist a few times a month). One of the things that came out in a session, that I didn't really notice or think about until we started talking about it, is how absolutely god awful I am at sticking with a plan.\n\nFor example, I need to lose some weight. Great, I thought, I'll drink less soda! I lasted for about four days, then just went back to drinking the same amount.\n\nI want to learn a new hobby. I'll teach myself how to draw! Stuck with it for a few weeks, then just stopped.\n\nMaybe I'll start a blog! Post for a few weeks, stopped.\n\nI want to start exercising! Cycle regularly for about a week, then just stopped. \n\nOver and over and over again. My life appears to be a never ending series of start/stop, start/stop, start/stop. And while the shrink and I are trying to get down to the underlying causes and whatnot, she's yet to offer any kind of practical advice for how to address this. \"Change your attitude\" doesn't mean much without telling me how.\n\nI've tried planning ahead with a daily planner, leaving post-its, using an app I forgot the name of to gamify tasks, but most of the time those things fall by the wayside simply because it never occurs to me to actually use them. Like, I'll plan a week's worth of exercise in my planner, then forget to look at my planner ever again. Or I'll fall out of the habit for a legitimate reason (can't exercise one day due to being sick), but being thrown off that one day makes it feel pointless to start again, which I know is silly, but I don't know how to shake it.\n\nSo, does anyone have some practical tips for how to stick with a new thing? Maybe I should be asking for tips on how to successfully develop and maintain a habit? Is that the same thing? Anyone? Bueller? ", "How to Follow Through on a Plan So, I'm currently dealing with depression (seeing a therapist a few times a month). One of the things that came out in a session, that I didn't really notice or think about until we started talking about it, is how absolutely god awful I am at sticking with a plan.\n\nFor example, I need to lose some weight. Great, I thought, I'll drink less soda! I lasted for about four days, then just went back to drinking the same amount.\n\nI want to learn a new hobby. I'll teach myself how to draw! Stuck with it for a few weeks, then just stopped.\n\nMaybe I'll start a blog! Post for a few weeks, stopped.\n\nI want to start exercising! Cycle regularly for about a week, then just stopped. \n\nOver and over and over again. My life appears to be a never ending series of start/stop, start/stop, start/stop. And while the shrink and I are trying to get down to the underlying causes and whatnot, she's yet to offer any kind of practical advice for how to address this. \"Change your attitude\" doesn't mean much without telling me how.\n\nI've tried planning ahead with a daily planner, leaving post-its, using an app I forgot the name of to gamify tasks, but most of the time those things fall by the wayside simply because it never occurs to me to actually use them. Like, I'll plan a week's worth of exercise in my planner, then forget to look at my planner ever again. Or I'll fall out of the habit for a legitimate reason (can't exercise one day due to being sick), but being thrown off that one day makes it feel pointless to start again, which I know is silly, but I don't know how to shake it.\n\nSo, does anyone have some practical tips for how to stick with a new thing? Maybe I should be asking for tips on how to successfully develop and maintain a habit? Is that the same thing? Anyone? Bueller? ", "How to Follow Through on a Plan So, I'm currently dealing with depression (seeing a therapist a few times a month). One of the things that came out in a session, that I didn't really notice or think about until we started talking about it, is how absolutely god awful I am at sticking with a plan.\n\nFor example, I need to lose some weight. Great, I thought, I'll drink less soda! I lasted for about four days, then just went back to drinking the same amount.\n\nI want to learn a new hobby. I'll teach myself how to draw! Stuck with it for a few weeks, then just stopped.\n\nMaybe I'll start a blog! Post for a few weeks, stopped.\n\nI want to start exercising! Cycle regularly for about a week, then just stopped. \n\nOver and over and over again. My life appears to be a never ending series of start/stop, start/stop, start/stop. And while the shrink and I are trying to get down to the underlying causes and whatnot, she's yet to offer any kind of practical advice for how to address this. \"Change your attitude\" doesn't mean much without telling me how.\n\nI've tried planning ahead with a daily planner, leaving post-its, using an app I forgot the name of to gamify tasks, but most of the time those things fall by the wayside simply because it never occurs to me to actually use them. Like, I'll plan a week's worth of exercise in my planner, then forget to look at my planner ever again. Or I'll fall out of the habit for a legitimate reason (can't exercise one day due to being sick), but being thrown off that one day makes it feel pointless to start again, which I know is silly, but I don't know how to shake it.\n\nSo, does anyone have some practical tips for how to stick with a new thing? Maybe I should be asking for tips on how to successfully develop and maintain a habit? Is that the same thing? Anyone? Bueller? ", "How to Follow Through on a Plan So, I'm currently dealing with depression (seeing a therapist a few times a month). One of the things that came out in a session, that I didn't really notice or think about until we started talking about it, is how absolutely god awful I am at sticking with a plan.\n\nFor example, I need to lose some weight. Great, I thought, I'll drink less soda! I lasted for about four days, then just went back to drinking the same amount.\n\nI want to learn a new hobby. I'll teach myself how to draw! Stuck with it for a few weeks, then just stopped.\n\nMaybe I'll start a blog! Post for a few weeks, stopped.\n\nI want to start exercising! Cycle regularly for about a week, then just stopped. \n\nOver and over and over again. My life appears to be a never ending series of start/stop, start/stop, start/stop. And while the shrink and I are trying to get down to the underlying causes and whatnot, she's yet to offer any kind of practical advice for how to address this. \"Change your attitude\" doesn't mean much without telling me how.\n\nI've tried planning ahead with a daily planner, leaving post-its, using an app I forgot the name of to gamify tasks, but most of the time those things fall by the wayside simply because it never occurs to me to actually use them. Like, I'll plan a week's worth of exercise in my planner, then forget to look at my planner ever again. Or I'll fall out of the habit for a legitimate reason (can't exercise one day due to being sick), but being thrown off that one day makes it feel pointless to start again, which I know is silly, but I don't know how to shake it.\n\nSo, does anyone have some practical tips for how to stick with a new thing? Maybe I should be asking for tips on how to successfully develop and maintain a habit? Is that the same thing? Anyone? Bueller? ", "How to Follow Through on a Plan So, I'm currently dealing with depression (seeing a therapist a few times a month). One of the things that came out in a session, that I didn't really notice or think about until we started talking about it, is how absolutely god awful I am at sticking with a plan.\n\nFor example, I need to lose some weight. Great, I thought, I'll drink less soda! I lasted for about four days, then just went back to drinking the same amount.\n\nI want to learn a new hobby. I'll teach myself how to draw! Stuck with it for a few weeks, then just stopped.\n\nMaybe I'll start a blog! Post for a few weeks, stopped.\n\nI want to start exercising! Cycle regularly for about a week, then just stopped. \n\nOver and over and over again. My life appears to be a never ending series of start/stop, start/stop, start/stop. And while the shrink and I are trying to get down to the underlying causes and whatnot, she's yet to offer any kind of practical advice for how to address this. \"Change your attitude\" doesn't mean much without telling me how.\n\nI've tried planning ahead with a daily planner, leaving post-its, using an app I forgot the name of to gamify tasks, but most of the time those things fall by the wayside simply because it never occurs to me to actually use them. Like, I'll plan a week's worth of exercise in my planner, then forget to look at my planner ever again. Or I'll fall out of the habit for a legitimate reason (can't exercise one day due to being sick), but being thrown off that one day makes it feel pointless to start again, which I know is silly, but I don't know how to shake it.\n\nSo, does anyone have some practical tips for how to stick with a new thing? Maybe I should be asking for tips on how to successfully develop and maintain a habit? Is that the same thing? Anyone? Bueller? " ]	[ "What I have found is the end matters.\n>For example, I need to lose some weight. Great, I thought, I'll drink less soda! I lasted for about four days, then just went back to drinking the same amount.\n\n\nYou didn't say: I need to lose 20 lbs in 6 mo, I will drink less soda and weigh my self once a month to see my progress and write down my weight loss, In addition I will cycle every 2 days for 1/2 hour . Log this so you can see how many times you did this per month.\nYou need to have small goals as well as big ones ,this is why a lot of people fail at new years resolutions as well. One grand open ended gesture is easy to put off . Habits take time and you need to build the habit of setting these smaller ,measurable, goals for yourself and as you finish a couple things and are proud that you did, it gets easier to do . I also put a clip board by the bed to keep track of what I was doing Built the habit of keeping track of things day by day and that made it easier to see that I kept at things \n", "There is something called the 22 Day Challenge. Not my idea, it was taught at a camp I worked at and all the camp staff tried it. Basically. Pick 5, 7 or 10 or however many habits you want to start doing. You must do these habits for 22 days straight. The theory behind it is, after 22 days these habits will turn into things you're just used to doing everyday. \n\nIf you miss one habit you get a strike. I gave myself three strikes. If I got three strikes then I technically would fail the 22 Day Challenge. BUT the good news is, if you fail, you can start over. \n\nThere are no other rules to this. Just make sure that you are not lenient on it. Focus on doing these habits. It will change you, trust me. Just make sure that they are habits that improve yourself and your overall well being. \n\nIf you have anymore questions feel free to PM me. Good luck, you can do it. ", "I'm the same way. I've used apps, set reminders, post it's, the whole nine. The two things that helped me out the most were: \n1) a big ass white board\n2) serious and life altering punishments for failure\n\nWhy a white board? Because I remember what I write, and it's hard to ignore a big sign. Especially if you put it on top of something you will definitely need later (I.e. Shoes, book bag, laptop, phone, bed, etc) also write legibly, if you can't read it you most likely won't remember it. \n\nWhy punishment? Everyone gets motivated when something really bad could be prevented by just doing the thing. It is always smaller than the worst case, so use the small steps to get away from it. \nTHE PUNISHMENT WAS NOT HARMFUL, NOTHING CRAZY!!! \n\nJust my methods though. ", "I find that focusing on only one or two things at a time, for a fixed period of time or short-term goal works great. For example I would have 21-day challenges with a friend to eat no junk food. (Oh yeah, and doing it with a friend to keep you accountable HELPS!). We'd based the 21-day thing off of some study that said it took 3 weeks to make or break a habit. Probably not true, but at least we did it. \n\nIf you're a rewards-incentivized person, try to see the rewards in what you do everywhere. Even if it means fucking with your mind a little on purpose (\"wow, that zit went away -- must have been because I haven't been drinking soda for 2 days!\")", "Give into your laziness and see how far you can take it before you decide too much is too much. \n\nAnother tip is start with one goal for the day. \n\nANOTHER TIP is begin with the end J your mind. So you can try writing it down and having a goal for the day. \n\nALSO you can write down a mission statement for different things\n\n" ]	[ 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Easiest way to clean years of grime and filth off of a keyboard and it's keys. I was inspired to write this post because I bought an old PS/2 keyboard from Goodwill for about $3. It's an incredible keyboard, but after typing with it for 5 seconds, I don't want to use it.\n\nI can feel the filth under my fingers. I'm asking for an LPT here because the last time I cleaned a keyboard, I spent 2 and a half hours or so meticulously scrubbing each individual key clean, then replacing the keys on the keyboard one-by one. Any advice?", "Easiest way to clean years of grime and filth off of a keyboard and it's keys. I was inspired to write this post because I bought an old PS/2 keyboard from Goodwill for about $3. It's an incredible keyboard, but after typing with it for 5 seconds, I don't want to use it.\n\nI can feel the filth under my fingers. I'm asking for an LPT here because the last time I cleaned a keyboard, I spent 2 and a half hours or so meticulously scrubbing each individual key clean, then replacing the keys on the keyboard one-by one. Any advice?", "Easiest way to clean years of grime and filth off of a keyboard and it's keys. I was inspired to write this post because I bought an old PS/2 keyboard from Goodwill for about $3. It's an incredible keyboard, but after typing with it for 5 seconds, I don't want to use it.\n\nI can feel the filth under my fingers. I'm asking for an LPT here because the last time I cleaned a keyboard, I spent 2 and a half hours or so meticulously scrubbing each individual key clean, then replacing the keys on the keyboard one-by one. Any advice?", "Easiest way to clean years of grime and filth off of a keyboard and it's keys. I was inspired to write this post because I bought an old PS/2 keyboard from Goodwill for about $3. It's an incredible keyboard, but after typing with it for 5 seconds, I don't want to use it.\n\nI can feel the filth under my fingers. I'm asking for an LPT here because the last time I cleaned a keyboard, I spent 2 and a half hours or so meticulously scrubbing each individual key clean, then replacing the keys on the keyboard one-by one. Any advice?" ]	[ "Dishwasher; do not use the heated dry setting, let it sit for about a week upside in an area with plenty of air movement (a cold air return for a furnace is great)\n\nAlternatively, here is an article that suggests taking the keyboard apart before you wash it - probably a better idea - http://www.howtogeek.com/65915/how-to-clean-your-filthy-keyboard-in-the-dishwasher-without-ruining-it/ ", "Personally, I like cleaning keyboards the way you described. It lets me know that it is completely clean\n", "I found that a light rub with a supermarket melamine sponge took the grime off very easily from the tops of my keys. It was an apple keyboard, and none of the lettering was rubbed off. I recommend testing first on a less favoured key. :)", "Don't think this will get up inside the keys, but it might work for what you need. [Cleaning Putty](http://www.thinkgeek.com/homeoffice/gear/b88d/?srp=4)" ]	[ 12, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Best way to break nervous habits I have this nervous habit of holding my hands up to my chin or neck area and scratching my palms, neck, arms, and chin, rubbing my hands together, and/or rubbing my arms. Simply trying to stop isn't doing much. Are there any other effective methods that work?", "Best way to break nervous habits I have this nervous habit of holding my hands up to my chin or neck area and scratching my palms, neck, arms, and chin, rubbing my hands together, and/or rubbing my arms. Simply trying to stop isn't doing much. Are there any other effective methods that work?" ]	[ "Classical conditioning/behavioral therapy. Do something like put a rubber band on your wrist. Each time you catch yourself doing undesired behavior, snap it against your wrist until you associate those movements with pain. Something like that.\n\nside note: I once watched a video that used a punitive technique on a women who had some unwanted habit (I forget what it was). The therapist deduced that her behavior stemmed from trauma she experienced as the daughter of Jewish couple who were affected by events during the Holocaust. The therapist asked her to keep an envelope in her pocket and every time she repeated the bad habit, she would have to put a dollar bill inside it and increase the amount every time. At the end of the week she would be forced to take that money and donate it to an antisemitic hate group. Totally fucked, but I wonder if it worked....", "A great book to read on the subject would be \"the Power of Habit\" by Charles Duhigg. It is fascinating. He goes into details about how our brains work and gives vivid and examples that are easy to relate to.\n\nThe first step is to start making a note of every time you notice it. Write down the first three words that come to your head when you have noticed yourself doing it. \n\nThen you start to discover the real reason why you do it. You mentioned it was a nervous habit, do you only do it when you are nervous? Exactly what type of situations are you in.\n\nthe next step is to experiment with different solutions to the stimulus. Learning to replace your current habit with a more acceptable one. \n\nThe book can explain and give much better details than this short little answer. I hope it helps. :-) Good Luck!\n" ]	[ 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "How do you actually properly cope with the changes that come with trying to better yourself and becoming more successful? ", "How do you actually properly cope with the changes that come with trying to better yourself and becoming more successful? ", "How do you actually properly cope with the changes that come with trying to better yourself and becoming more successful? ", "How do you actually properly cope with the changes that come with trying to better yourself and becoming more successful? ", "How do you actually properly cope with the changes that come with trying to better yourself and becoming more successful? ", "How do you actually properly cope with the changes that come with trying to better yourself and becoming more successful? " ]	[ "Personally, I believe that if you don't talk about what you're doing with your life, people will have nothing or little to talk about. Be discreet, do your stuff, fly low, be a ninja. :)", "Different strategies, but...\n\nA) gotta work on thick skin; dont let the shit talk get to you if you can, also...\nB) if you can handle the talk/fight, ask why this bothers them? Dont they want you to be happy and living your best life? Try to get them to talk it out by asking questions, getting them to speak about why they are bitching...\nC) Kill em with kindness - if they wont come around, be nice and polite, celebrate their positive changes and wins to remind them of their own aspirations, and DONT TAKE THEIR BAIT in negativity when possible...\nd) Go Low Contact or No Contact with the haters if need be, made easier by...\nE) hanging out with friends/family that support the new you. If you dont have em, try to find em.\nF) remember your goals - visualize, commit, celebrate your milestones, make sure to hone the systems u build to support your goals. And\nG) remember this life is for you to live, and our environments of origin dont always support that. It can suck at times, but not chasing this change sucks more. YOU CAN DO IT.", "Hmm, this is a good question. My first thought is that if your family or friends are upset or talking negatively about you behind your back because of your success, those aren’t real friends. If your finding success in your life, the people around you should be overjoyed for you. They should be pushing you to succeed even more. Not the opposite. Perhaps it is jealousy, but even then, to make it seem like it’s your fault for them not succeeding, or otherwise, isn’t the mark of a true relationship. To cope with the stress you talk about, one suggestion I have for you might be to change who you share your successes with. This would help to avoid any jealousy between your more intimate relationships, while simultaneously creating a network of professional peers to share successes with. This way you’re able to share your successes with people who truly care and support you, all the while building your professional network- which may open unseen doors in your future.\n\n", "If they're not supporting you, or being neutral, their behavior is toxic, and you should set boundaries. You're allowed to cut people out when the relationship is bringing you down", "Honestly what works for me is brushing off what they say because guess what you’re working on yourself and successful :). If someone ever makes you feel bad for improving yourself they shouldn’t be in your life…", "It used to be called life. But back then people figured it out the best they could and learned from their and others mistakes and thrived." ]	[ 13, 6, 4, 3, 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "What's the best thing a friend or family member did for you ( or you did) when you were going through something stressful or traumatic? I have a friend who is dealing with something very stressful for him and his family. (Wife and almost 3yo daughter) I want to do something significant to help him or his entire family forget for a minute or just have less things to worry about. What can I do that will have an impact aside from asking : how can I help?\n\nI'm also not local and its in covid times.", "What's the best thing a friend or family member did for you ( or you did) when you were going through something stressful or traumatic? I have a friend who is dealing with something very stressful for him and his family. (Wife and almost 3yo daughter) I want to do something significant to help him or his entire family forget for a minute or just have less things to worry about. What can I do that will have an impact aside from asking : how can I help?\n\nI'm also not local and its in covid times.", "What's the best thing a friend or family member did for you ( or you did) when you were going through something stressful or traumatic? I have a friend who is dealing with something very stressful for him and his family. (Wife and almost 3yo daughter) I want to do something significant to help him or his entire family forget for a minute or just have less things to worry about. What can I do that will have an impact aside from asking : how can I help?\n\nI'm also not local and its in covid times.", "What's the best thing a friend or family member did for you ( or you did) when you were going through something stressful or traumatic? I have a friend who is dealing with something very stressful for him and his family. (Wife and almost 3yo daughter) I want to do something significant to help him or his entire family forget for a minute or just have less things to worry about. What can I do that will have an impact aside from asking : how can I help?\n\nI'm also not local and its in covid times.", "What's the best thing a friend or family member did for you ( or you did) when you were going through something stressful or traumatic? I have a friend who is dealing with something very stressful for him and his family. (Wife and almost 3yo daughter) I want to do something significant to help him or his entire family forget for a minute or just have less things to worry about. What can I do that will have an impact aside from asking : how can I help?\n\nI'm also not local and its in covid times.", "What's the best thing a friend or family member did for you ( or you did) when you were going through something stressful or traumatic? I have a friend who is dealing with something very stressful for him and his family. (Wife and almost 3yo daughter) I want to do something significant to help him or his entire family forget for a minute or just have less things to worry about. What can I do that will have an impact aside from asking : how can I help?\n\nI'm also not local and its in covid times.", "What's the best thing a friend or family member did for you ( or you did) when you were going through something stressful or traumatic? I have a friend who is dealing with something very stressful for him and his family. (Wife and almost 3yo daughter) I want to do something significant to help him or his entire family forget for a minute or just have less things to worry about. What can I do that will have an impact aside from asking : how can I help?\n\nI'm also not local and its in covid times.", "What's the best thing a friend or family member did for you ( or you did) when you were going through something stressful or traumatic? I have a friend who is dealing with something very stressful for him and his family. (Wife and almost 3yo daughter) I want to do something significant to help him or his entire family forget for a minute or just have less things to worry about. What can I do that will have an impact aside from asking : how can I help?\n\nI'm also not local and its in covid times.", "What's the best thing a friend or family member did for you ( or you did) when you were going through something stressful or traumatic? I have a friend who is dealing with something very stressful for him and his family. (Wife and almost 3yo daughter) I want to do something significant to help him or his entire family forget for a minute or just have less things to worry about. What can I do that will have an impact aside from asking : how can I help?\n\nI'm also not local and its in covid times.", "What's the best thing a friend or family member did for you ( or you did) when you were going through something stressful or traumatic? I have a friend who is dealing with something very stressful for him and his family. (Wife and almost 3yo daughter) I want to do something significant to help him or his entire family forget for a minute or just have less things to worry about. What can I do that will have an impact aside from asking : how can I help?\n\nI'm also not local and its in covid times." ]	[ "Sometimes just sending food can lift a HUGE burden... you could place a huge grubhub/ubereats/seamless/what have you delivery order from someplace local to them... Not having to worry about dinner for a night (and having enough left overs for the following night) can be IMMENSELY helpful during stressful times - especially when the last thing you want to think about is food/basic needs.", "Send them meals, they will feel loved and have less tasks. Amazon sells fudge too, $20 and everyone loves fudge", "When my mom was in her final weeks of life and had little appetite, a co-worker and friend made her a big pot of chicken and dumplings that was nearly identical to how Mom would make it herself. She ate that pot of C&D for days, until it was gone. The food was totally unexpected, and I was so happy that Mom was eating something. I'll be grateful until the day I die for that little moment of kindness and hope. \n\nSince you're not local, you can't do this, but you can send gift cards for restaurants so they can order in\n\n", "Honestly, just sit with me. \n\nWhen my gram died my best friend just sat with me while I cried, vented, or sat almost catatonic. \n\nIn covid times... zoom and be with them.", "Take care of the chores for week or even the groceries. Little daily stuff like that can feel impossible during such times.\nOr make meals for them for a week. The best would be to directly ask how you can support them through this time.\n\n[check this thread out](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/mjy4ib/lpt_if_you_are_going_through_something_difficult/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)", "Door dash let’s you send gift cards - if you aren’t around. If you were nearby I would say take the kid for a day and give the parents a breather.", "You have to be careful not to come across to them as taking pity. Although I know you aren’t being that way, when people are down they can wind up feeling ashamed when others who aren’t step in. \n\nYou should honestly just find a simple activity. Something that doesn’t cost much, and maybe pass it off as something you got for free and wanted to share. Don’t let them know you’re specifically trying to go out of your way, just let them know you wanted to include them. \n\nOr idk maybe make a plan to send the girls on a little spa day, girl trip, and take your buddy fishing or to play pool or something. \n\nSometimes for a guy whose got a new family the break away with a friend can be amazing.", "Stay in touch. A quick text. A card in the mail. I've had many friends go through major crisis. I sat down and asked \"how can I help?\" Quite a few said \"just keep being my friend. Keep reaching out. Keep telling me what's going on your life.\"\n\nDuring a crisis, people feel awkward and don't know what to say so they pull away. Or they stick with platitudes. During rough times, people want moments of normalcy. It allows them to escape for a few minutes. So I continued to send my friends the snarky memes I have always sent. I continued to send them funny stories about my dog. Of course, I would ask about their situation too. But all of my friends said they loved that I continued to be their friend, that I gave them moments in the day that were not serious or about the crisis. Most importantly, they knew I was thinking about them. \n\nIt doesn't need to be a grand gesture. It's staying present for the duration that matters", "Let them know they can reach out to you whenever they need someone to listen, and it won’t go anywhere. Crisis can create situations where someone needs to safely vent.", "For me - taking care of my food so I have one less thing to worry about getting/ making. Not about the money but about the time and mental energy behind meals" ]	[ 7, 6, 5, 5, 3, 3, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I stop making that dumb grin when I pass my coworkers in the hallway? You know that strange, closed mouth grin that you and your coworkers shoot at each other when you catch each other's glances in passing? How can I stop doing that?", "How do I stop making that dumb grin when I pass my coworkers in the hallway? You know that strange, closed mouth grin that you and your coworkers shoot at each other when you catch each other's glances in passing? How can I stop doing that?", "How do I stop making that dumb grin when I pass my coworkers in the hallway? You know that strange, closed mouth grin that you and your coworkers shoot at each other when you catch each other's glances in passing? How can I stop doing that?" ]	[ "Fuck, I hate myself for always doing that. Sometimes I even mouth \"hi\" but for some reason don't actually say it. What is wrong with me?! ", "In my first job, this unconsciously grew to a full grin, that I flashed on/off quickly, which made it even more awkward. I only realized I was doing it when a colleage did the same back to me.\n\nI was so shocked I never did it again. Now if I have already greeted the person in our first passing by of the day, I only nod/smile/show my nipples/twerk if they do it first. Otherwise I just maintain the same neutral facial expression I had before, with a discrete and slight eye/eyelid hint of \"I acknowledge you saw I saw you, but since we are both busy and going somewhere, I'll just skip any reaction and respectfully fly by\". ", "Open your mouth and make direct eye contact with your co-workers while you rub your belly. Negative reinforcement will take over when they start scowling at you. " ]	[ 6, 3, 1 ]	safe

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