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"Any camping tips one should know i.e fire building, tent building, area management, ways to be efficient? As the good weather is creeping up on us here in the UK I usually go camping with friends at least 2 times during summer, none of us are the Bear Grylls we would like to be so I ask your help!",
"Any camping tips one should know i.e fire building, tent building, area management, ways to be efficient? As the good weather is creeping up on us here in the UK I usually go camping with friends at least 2 times during summer, none of us are the Bear Grylls we would like to be so I ask your help!",
"Any camping tips one should know i.e fire building, tent building, area management, ways to be efficient? As the good weather is creeping up on us here in the UK I usually go camping with friends at least 2 times during summer, none of us are the Bear Grylls we would like to be so I ask your help!",
"Any camping tips one should know i.e fire building, tent building, area management, ways to be efficient? As the good weather is creeping up on us here in the UK I usually go camping with friends at least 2 times during summer, none of us are the Bear Grylls we would like to be so I ask your help!",
"Any camping tips one should know i.e fire building, tent building, area management, ways to be efficient? As the good weather is creeping up on us here in the UK I usually go camping with friends at least 2 times during summer, none of us are the Bear Grylls we would like to be so I ask your help!",
"Any camping tips one should know i.e fire building, tent building, area management, ways to be efficient? As the good weather is creeping up on us here in the UK I usually go camping with friends at least 2 times during summer, none of us are the Bear Grylls we would like to be so I ask your help!",
"Any camping tips one should know i.e fire building, tent building, area management, ways to be efficient? As the good weather is creeping up on us here in the UK I usually go camping with friends at least 2 times during summer, none of us are the Bear Grylls we would like to be so I ask your help!",
"Any camping tips one should know i.e fire building, tent building, area management, ways to be efficient? As the good weather is creeping up on us here in the UK I usually go camping with friends at least 2 times during summer, none of us are the Bear Grylls we would like to be so I ask your help!",
"Any camping tips one should know i.e fire building, tent building, area management, ways to be efficient? As the good weather is creeping up on us here in the UK I usually go camping with friends at least 2 times during summer, none of us are the Bear Grylls we would like to be so I ask your help!"
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"Eagle Scout, avid camper. Try to keep a watch on, and stay on top of time. Take a look in the paper or some quick googling, find out when the sun is coming up and going down. Keep in mind of what your camp demands are i.e. wood/water consumption and how long it's going to take to fulfill these before sundown. Then break it up across the day, eat/fun/work/fun/eat/work/fun/eat/drink rest\n\n[FOR THE LOVE OF GOD TAKE AT LEAST ONE OF THESE](http://www.walmart.com/ip/Outdoor-Products-40L-Valuables-Dry-Bag/20753462) \n\nThey will keep anything you need dry, bone dry. Put one in the bottom of your backpack. If it rains you and all your friends stuff will thank you. Keep your socks in there. nice dry socks. hell yeah.\n\nFor building fires you are gonna be the mother fucking camp counselor when it comes to this. \n\nThere are two fires you will need in your life. A log cabin fire, and a viking fire.\n\nTo start a fire you always start with a log cabin fire. Spend 20 min finding the dryest smallest wood you can, and sticks less than a foot in length to construct your log cabin.\n\nAssemble the log [cabin.](http://comingbackalive.com/images/cba/drawings/logcabin.gif)\n\nAll the tiny dry sticks go in the center. Try to push some paper down in there to help.\n\nNow over the log cabin you want to construct a [Tepee style fire.](http://www.practicalprimitive.com/images/newsletters/FireStructure/beautifulfire.jpg) His looks pretty good. Make sure there's a gap so you can light the mawfucker cabin inside your tepee. Use ticks around 2 feet. Now you have a super duper fire bro.\n\nLIGHTING THE FIRE.\n\nDon't fuck it up. Light it, with one match. It's all you need. Let the flames caress the hard wood that you fell while standing a midst nature's beauty. Now when the time comes, start to gently blow. You're feeding this fire with your lungs. Don't force feed it and don't starve it. Blow, pause, blow, pause. Watch the fire spread. you got it.\n\nNow, assuming that you don't want to do this every day, you're gonna want to make sure your fire lasts. \n\nCue the [viking fire.](http://www.adventure-safaris.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/Kwara-Camp-fire-place.jpg) \n\nViking fire's are dope, cus they are the johnny cut corner's of fires. You find a bunch of large dry tinder, and don't feel like chopping it up, so you simply lay the mawfucker over the fire, or right next to it if it'll crush the fire. I'm talking fallen tree's. Logs bro. the goal is to burn the log into two logs, start feeding them into each other, and shuffle the coals around the union. This is generally done by the eldest beer holding male. Simply shuffle around the fire and kick the ends of the logs into the fire, on a semi regular basis. Muttering is not only accepted, but encouraged.\n\nIf there are no bathrooms and you're willing to carry it for the ladies, a 5 gallon homer bucket with lid and some kitty litter is quite the amenity out in the bush.\n\nBring trash bags, and police the area before you leave. Line up, and sweep across the camp, picking up everything you dropped. Leave it as you found it.",
"Bring ear plugs. The cheap kind that you buy at the drugstore/apothecary/pharmacy/whatever you call it on your side of the pond. Really cuts down on nighttime noises.\n\nDo not skimp on a sleeping pad. Unless, um, you're in your 20s. Then go ahead, your inner organs can still handle it. \n\nGrab an empty liter bottle, and wrap tape around it. Consider this your pee bottle. When you wake up at 3 in the morning, dying to take a piss and it's godawful cold out there, you'll be glad to have your pee bottle. Caveat: this is all contigent on how accepting your tentmates may be and whether you were born with two X chromosomes.\n\nGo to your local big box store and buy a shower curtain *liner*, not the curtain itself. Cut the liner to be slightly smaller than the dimensions of your tent. Lay this liner under your tent when you set up. Keeps the floor of your tent dry and is much less expensive than a commercial tent footprint.\n\nIf you drink coffee in the morning, bring it with you. There's a special joy to drinking coffee by the campsite.\n\nFire: if you like to watch the flames and would rather not constantly tend to the fire, build an upside down fire (http://www.fourhourworkweek.com/blog/2009/02/02/how-to-build-an-upside-down-fire/). Even if the article mentions fireplaces, I still use this method for campfires.\n\nAnd, what eewm said about the food.\n\n",
"* Bring a whisk broom to clean out your tent then store said broom with the tent.\n* Freeze (a) gallon(s) of water and use that in your ice chest. It'll last for days and you can chug ice water pretty much the whole trip.\n* Pre-make your first meal and pack it appropriately in the cooking containers (e.g., pan). Then, all you have to do is heat it up when ready. This saves on packing space and time.",
"UK music festival and camping veteran here! It depends what you want tips on really. If you mean basic equipment;\n\nDon't skimp on a sleeping bag, especially in the UK. Trying to sleep if you're cold is awful - it gets cold at night, even in summer and especially under clear skies. \n\nRelated to the above is a decent tent with a good hydrostatic head rating (Google it). They're not too expensive. Dry = warm = comfortable.\n\nThose UFO parasol lights you can buy at the pound shop are far better than a torch or gas lantern. http://www.hayesgardenworld.co.uk/sites/default/files/imagecache/product_zoom/images/products/pl001_55thumb.jpg",
"Rules for fires at campsites might vary, but I always bring a little firestarter wood with me since it's hard to predict what will be readily available when you arrive. \nArea Management- \nMake sure everyone is on the same page with where to go to the bathroom; it should be far away from the campsite and nowhere near water. \nHave several plastic bags available for trash and glass. \nAt night (and when you leave camp during the day) all food & food scraps should either be stored in tents or hung off the ground to keep animals away.\nPlan for using at least 1Gal of clean drinking water per day. Bring an empty container for water that you get at the campsite (for cooking). \nConsider using paper plates and burning them in the fire when you're done. \nA small axe is handy, but a versatile camping saw can be invaluable. \nMaking pancakes for breakfast is really easy but mixing it at the camp site can be a pain, so I premix it at home into a ziploc plastic bag. \nFew things in life can top hanging your camping hammock at the campsite and relaxing with a book. \nBeer- you'll rarely bring enough. Plan accordingly ;)",
"Didn't see this mentioned cause I'm too lazy right now to read the whole shit...\nBefore you setup camp investigate the areas above. Campers die on the reg from falling dead tree parts. Make sure you setup beneath healthy greenery. \n\nAlso, bring a good size tarp and rope to setup a makeshift rain shield above your setup. Tents are only waterproof for so long. While we're on the topic, avoid setting up in a low land area that rain water will flow through. The only thing worse than being rained out whilst camping ( other than being destroyed by a falling fucking dead branch) is getting flooded out whilst camping. \n\nBeing eaten by bears can suck dick too so bring a gun if you can. Just don't tell your drunkn' fellow campers you have it. \n\nOh yeah, those disposable hand warmers are pretty rad to have. If it gets extra cold, open a few and toss em in your sleeping bag ",
"Someone already mentioned dry bags - you can organize your backpack very efficiently with thin drybags (exped has some). Buy some smaller ones and pack according to each task; One for your tent, one for your sleeping bag and pyjama, one for clean clothes, one for dirty clothes and one for your rain gear. This helps enormously when you have to rummage through your bag, especially in a rainfall since none of your dry stuff gets exposed to the weather or already wet stuff.\n\n\nClothes: Avoid cotton. It doesn't keep you as warm as synthetic or (even better) wool when wet and takes ages to dry. Also, walking in wet synthetic trousers is still better than wet jeans (ouch).\nAlso, bring a good pair of rainproof trousers (and jacket, of course).\n\n\nFor food, I use a large (5l) rectangular lock&lock-box. It's a bit on the heavy side, but it keeps everything dry and organized (which, in turn, helps to keep your stuff dry). Store your food and utensils out of reach of mice etc, as vermin will fuck your shit up if it smells edible.\n\n\nDepending on where you're going, you might consider to bring some flip-flops or other light-weight and quick drying shoes for walking around in the camp. (Alternatively, go barefoot and dry your feet before entering the tent or stepping into your boots).\n\n\nArea management: In inclement weather, avoid camping directly under trees. When chosing a spot for your tent, pay attention to the relief and vegetation so you don't wake up in a puddle (or step directly into one in the morning). Designate a communal area for cooking, hanging out etc. - a large tarpaulin keeps you sheltered from the elements. This is also the place where the trash bag should be during the day. (Dispose of it asap, see: Vermin)",
"Make a checklist to guide your packing so you don't forget things. Update it while you are camping as you think of things you wish you'd brought so it will be better the next trip.\n\nZipper style freezer bags are the best storage containers for the cooler.\n\n",
"Freeze your meals. I like fajitas for this. Steak, peppers, onions, and whatever else you like all chopped fine and put into a ziplock with salsa for marinade. Freeze it solid. It will marinade as it thaws out. Until it does, it'll keep the beer cold. By night two or three, it'll be thawed, marinated, and ready to go into a single skillet for an easy meal. Also, snap lights are great. I prefer yellow, but green is good too. Use small ones to mark your tent, your cooler, your car, whatever you can't find in the dark. Use one to mark the trail to the latrine. That way you can find your way there and back in the dark. "
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"How to stop pop-up windows and tabs from appearing? I am currently using uBlock, but it doesn't stop pop-up adds. I also use Block Site, but this only blocks the content from appearing. I have disabled pop-ups on chrome, but it also didn't work. Is there any alternative?"
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"Yes, don't click blindly on the 'YES' button on any pop-up, any installer or enter the root password from your Operating System when installing 3rd party software.",
"Long of it short, you can't. You can only do your best to minimize their occurrence.\n\nThink of the word popup as a generic description of something that happens. For example, a car breaking down could be caused from a number of reasons. A popup can be generated from a number of different sources.\n\nWhen popup blockers first came out, they worked really good. Over time as the underlying code for webpages changed, new ways to insert popup code were found. "
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"Loving my first job as a fresh grad, but feeling underpaid & burning out fast. What are my options? ",
"Loving my first job as a fresh grad, but feeling underpaid & burning out fast. What are my options? ",
"Loving my first job as a fresh grad, but feeling underpaid & burning out fast. What are my options? ",
"Loving my first job as a fresh grad, but feeling underpaid & burning out fast. What are my options? ",
"Loving my first job as a fresh grad, but feeling underpaid & burning out fast. What are my options? "
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"You didn't mention if the 60 to 100K a year was straight time or is that with overtime. That being said Dude you're just out of school you're making 60 to 100,000 thousand a year in the field of your choice. Suck it up welcome to the real world if it's a small industry the word will get out that you kick ass. Apparently somebody's noticed because they offered you an additional $10,000 a year if you get the $5 an hour.",
"Ohhhh boy. So…this is one of those situations where you have to consider the context. You work in one of the most competitive industries in the world, and you are making a lot of money for someone right out of college in said industry. You need to count your blessings here or move to a different line of work, because things aren’t going to get better. \n\nEven if they paid you more, that still wouldn’t solve the burnout problem. You are currently paying what’s called the “cool tax.” Anyone working in a so-called “dream industry” has to put up with being underpaid and overworked up to a certain point because of the rare experiences you’re picking up. People grow up wanting the sort of job you have, and these companies are very well aware of this. They’re also trying to weed people out and keep only the ones who can deal with a ton of stress and responsibilities successfully.\n\nI know many people in tv/film in LA and I guarantee you that it only gets worse from here, so if you’re already burnt out 3 months post-graduation then maybe this industry isn’t for you. The higher up you get, the more the job takes over your life. It becomes everything you do and everything you think about. So since you’re still young and able to make a different choice, I’d highly urge you to reconsider if you feel this isn’t what you’re looking for long-term.\n\nAnd if you feel that you will be able to achieve any semblance of work-life balance if you just keep pushing, you won’t. Tv/film production isn’t like other industries. They can make you all kinds of promises, then push your boundaries, and when you push back they will blackball you because there are always new grads more than happy to take your spot at less than what they’re paying you.",
"Same situation except I’m in the middle of college. If you don’t hate your day to day like I do, make sure you’re prioritizing your time so it benefits your potential to get rest (don’t be on your phone till 12am or procrastinating a task for work so you’re up late doing it another night). Second, get a feel for how hard everyone else is working, are they putting in the same hours you are? If so, get out. That is a cultural problem with the company and you’re already working too hard to try and change it. In the end it’s important to remember that this is a job, and when it starts to take up 50% of your week it starts to be a reflection of yourself. It’s a seriously dangerous rabbit hole to get into so make sure you do what is best for your mental health. \n\nTdlr: you’ll do your best work where you are the most healthy and enabled",
"It doesn't seem like resting is part the company culture at your job and I'm not surprised. I have a friend who had a similar role and schedule. She was a new grad, worked crazy hours, felt high pressure. She made a mistake one day that made her boss look bad to their clients and she got let go. The burnout will get to you eventually and manifest itself in some negative way. I suggest you think inwardly to see if it's really the right place for you, assuming nothing ever changes. In fact, you'll only get more responsibilities. If you want a change, you'll likely have to find a new job and most likely elsewhere besides LA.\n\nIf you try to go for a new job, I recommend you \"interview\" your interviewer about the work culture. Best of luck.",
"The best thing anyone can do is start organizing your peers to demand better working conditions, eventually forming a union. And don't feel like you owe loyalty to your company, none are going to give a shit about you at the end of the day. Take the best job offer you can get, including your break needs."
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"Suggestions for upgrading a rental home What special features would you love to see in a rental home? I have a house coming available next month and I need to refresh it before offering it for rent again. And as long as I'm at it it's a good chance to add some small upgrades. It's a smaller 2-bedroom, 1 1/2-bath with a full basement and a 1-car garage with workshop area. \n\nI plan to paint the entire interior a neutral color and add a few accent walls. I'm also going to replace the kitchen and living room floors with luxury vinyl plank that looks similar to the existing hardwood in the bedrooms. I also plan to add an over-the-stove microwave, replace the kitchen sink and faucet, put in a taller toilet, and replace the bathroom sink (currently pink). The house already has newer windows and updated electrical fixtures.\n\nIf you were in the market to rent a house, what features/upgrades would you be looking for?",
"Suggestions for upgrading a rental home What special features would you love to see in a rental home? I have a house coming available next month and I need to refresh it before offering it for rent again. And as long as I'm at it it's a good chance to add some small upgrades. It's a smaller 2-bedroom, 1 1/2-bath with a full basement and a 1-car garage with workshop area. \n\nI plan to paint the entire interior a neutral color and add a few accent walls. I'm also going to replace the kitchen and living room floors with luxury vinyl plank that looks similar to the existing hardwood in the bedrooms. I also plan to add an over-the-stove microwave, replace the kitchen sink and faucet, put in a taller toilet, and replace the bathroom sink (currently pink). The house already has newer windows and updated electrical fixtures.\n\nIf you were in the market to rent a house, what features/upgrades would you be looking for?",
"Suggestions for upgrading a rental home What special features would you love to see in a rental home? I have a house coming available next month and I need to refresh it before offering it for rent again. And as long as I'm at it it's a good chance to add some small upgrades. It's a smaller 2-bedroom, 1 1/2-bath with a full basement and a 1-car garage with workshop area. \n\nI plan to paint the entire interior a neutral color and add a few accent walls. I'm also going to replace the kitchen and living room floors with luxury vinyl plank that looks similar to the existing hardwood in the bedrooms. I also plan to add an over-the-stove microwave, replace the kitchen sink and faucet, put in a taller toilet, and replace the bathroom sink (currently pink). The house already has newer windows and updated electrical fixtures.\n\nIf you were in the market to rent a house, what features/upgrades would you be looking for?",
"Suggestions for upgrading a rental home What special features would you love to see in a rental home? I have a house coming available next month and I need to refresh it before offering it for rent again. And as long as I'm at it it's a good chance to add some small upgrades. It's a smaller 2-bedroom, 1 1/2-bath with a full basement and a 1-car garage with workshop area. \n\nI plan to paint the entire interior a neutral color and add a few accent walls. I'm also going to replace the kitchen and living room floors with luxury vinyl plank that looks similar to the existing hardwood in the bedrooms. I also plan to add an over-the-stove microwave, replace the kitchen sink and faucet, put in a taller toilet, and replace the bathroom sink (currently pink). The house already has newer windows and updated electrical fixtures.\n\nIf you were in the market to rent a house, what features/upgrades would you be looking for?",
"Suggestions for upgrading a rental home What special features would you love to see in a rental home? I have a house coming available next month and I need to refresh it before offering it for rent again. And as long as I'm at it it's a good chance to add some small upgrades. It's a smaller 2-bedroom, 1 1/2-bath with a full basement and a 1-car garage with workshop area. \n\nI plan to paint the entire interior a neutral color and add a few accent walls. I'm also going to replace the kitchen and living room floors with luxury vinyl plank that looks similar to the existing hardwood in the bedrooms. I also plan to add an over-the-stove microwave, replace the kitchen sink and faucet, put in a taller toilet, and replace the bathroom sink (currently pink). The house already has newer windows and updated electrical fixtures.\n\nIf you were in the market to rent a house, what features/upgrades would you be looking for?",
"Suggestions for upgrading a rental home What special features would you love to see in a rental home? I have a house coming available next month and I need to refresh it before offering it for rent again. And as long as I'm at it it's a good chance to add some small upgrades. It's a smaller 2-bedroom, 1 1/2-bath with a full basement and a 1-car garage with workshop area. \n\nI plan to paint the entire interior a neutral color and add a few accent walls. I'm also going to replace the kitchen and living room floors with luxury vinyl plank that looks similar to the existing hardwood in the bedrooms. I also plan to add an over-the-stove microwave, replace the kitchen sink and faucet, put in a taller toilet, and replace the bathroom sink (currently pink). The house already has newer windows and updated electrical fixtures.\n\nIf you were in the market to rent a house, what features/upgrades would you be looking for?",
"Suggestions for upgrading a rental home What special features would you love to see in a rental home? I have a house coming available next month and I need to refresh it before offering it for rent again. And as long as I'm at it it's a good chance to add some small upgrades. It's a smaller 2-bedroom, 1 1/2-bath with a full basement and a 1-car garage with workshop area. \n\nI plan to paint the entire interior a neutral color and add a few accent walls. I'm also going to replace the kitchen and living room floors with luxury vinyl plank that looks similar to the existing hardwood in the bedrooms. I also plan to add an over-the-stove microwave, replace the kitchen sink and faucet, put in a taller toilet, and replace the bathroom sink (currently pink). The house already has newer windows and updated electrical fixtures.\n\nIf you were in the market to rent a house, what features/upgrades would you be looking for?",
"Suggestions for upgrading a rental home What special features would you love to see in a rental home? I have a house coming available next month and I need to refresh it before offering it for rent again. And as long as I'm at it it's a good chance to add some small upgrades. It's a smaller 2-bedroom, 1 1/2-bath with a full basement and a 1-car garage with workshop area. \n\nI plan to paint the entire interior a neutral color and add a few accent walls. I'm also going to replace the kitchen and living room floors with luxury vinyl plank that looks similar to the existing hardwood in the bedrooms. I also plan to add an over-the-stove microwave, replace the kitchen sink and faucet, put in a taller toilet, and replace the bathroom sink (currently pink). The house already has newer windows and updated electrical fixtures.\n\nIf you were in the market to rent a house, what features/upgrades would you be looking for?",
"Suggestions for upgrading a rental home What special features would you love to see in a rental home? I have a house coming available next month and I need to refresh it before offering it for rent again. And as long as I'm at it it's a good chance to add some small upgrades. It's a smaller 2-bedroom, 1 1/2-bath with a full basement and a 1-car garage with workshop area. \n\nI plan to paint the entire interior a neutral color and add a few accent walls. I'm also going to replace the kitchen and living room floors with luxury vinyl plank that looks similar to the existing hardwood in the bedrooms. I also plan to add an over-the-stove microwave, replace the kitchen sink and faucet, put in a taller toilet, and replace the bathroom sink (currently pink). The house already has newer windows and updated electrical fixtures.\n\nIf you were in the market to rent a house, what features/upgrades would you be looking for?",
"Suggestions for upgrading a rental home What special features would you love to see in a rental home? I have a house coming available next month and I need to refresh it before offering it for rent again. And as long as I'm at it it's a good chance to add some small upgrades. It's a smaller 2-bedroom, 1 1/2-bath with a full basement and a 1-car garage with workshop area. \n\nI plan to paint the entire interior a neutral color and add a few accent walls. I'm also going to replace the kitchen and living room floors with luxury vinyl plank that looks similar to the existing hardwood in the bedrooms. I also plan to add an over-the-stove microwave, replace the kitchen sink and faucet, put in a taller toilet, and replace the bathroom sink (currently pink). The house already has newer windows and updated electrical fixtures.\n\nIf you were in the market to rent a house, what features/upgrades would you be looking for?",
"Suggestions for upgrading a rental home What special features would you love to see in a rental home? I have a house coming available next month and I need to refresh it before offering it for rent again. And as long as I'm at it it's a good chance to add some small upgrades. It's a smaller 2-bedroom, 1 1/2-bath with a full basement and a 1-car garage with workshop area. \n\nI plan to paint the entire interior a neutral color and add a few accent walls. I'm also going to replace the kitchen and living room floors with luxury vinyl plank that looks similar to the existing hardwood in the bedrooms. I also plan to add an over-the-stove microwave, replace the kitchen sink and faucet, put in a taller toilet, and replace the bathroom sink (currently pink). The house already has newer windows and updated electrical fixtures.\n\nIf you were in the market to rent a house, what features/upgrades would you be looking for?",
"Suggestions for upgrading a rental home What special features would you love to see in a rental home? I have a house coming available next month and I need to refresh it before offering it for rent again. And as long as I'm at it it's a good chance to add some small upgrades. It's a smaller 2-bedroom, 1 1/2-bath with a full basement and a 1-car garage with workshop area. \n\nI plan to paint the entire interior a neutral color and add a few accent walls. I'm also going to replace the kitchen and living room floors with luxury vinyl plank that looks similar to the existing hardwood in the bedrooms. I also plan to add an over-the-stove microwave, replace the kitchen sink and faucet, put in a taller toilet, and replace the bathroom sink (currently pink). The house already has newer windows and updated electrical fixtures.\n\nIf you were in the market to rent a house, what features/upgrades would you be looking for?",
"Suggestions for upgrading a rental home What special features would you love to see in a rental home? I have a house coming available next month and I need to refresh it before offering it for rent again. And as long as I'm at it it's a good chance to add some small upgrades. It's a smaller 2-bedroom, 1 1/2-bath with a full basement and a 1-car garage with workshop area. \n\nI plan to paint the entire interior a neutral color and add a few accent walls. I'm also going to replace the kitchen and living room floors with luxury vinyl plank that looks similar to the existing hardwood in the bedrooms. I also plan to add an over-the-stove microwave, replace the kitchen sink and faucet, put in a taller toilet, and replace the bathroom sink (currently pink). The house already has newer windows and updated electrical fixtures.\n\nIf you were in the market to rent a house, what features/upgrades would you be looking for?"
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"> If you were in the market to rent a house, what features/upgrades would you be looking for?\n\n\n\nPriced reasonably and not insanely high.",
"Decent levels of insulation throughout to keep heating and cooling costs down.\n\nEnergy efficient appliances and lighting (not just the cheapest ones you can find).",
"I'm not a fan of the taller toilet, I got one and it's not comfortable unless you're tall. I have to change it back. If someone is renting, they are somewhat stuck with it. It's something people need every single day. And I agree tiny comforts can make all the difference. If you want to upgrade a toilet, go with a bidet.",
"RUN ETHERNET AROUND THE HOUSE\n\nI work in the industry, and seeing lots of builders running Cat6 into one or two locations in every room, and the homeowners love it! As streaming and work from home keep getting larger, people are learning that using WiFi isn't always the greatest and a hardwired connection is better",
"I assume there's a dishwasher & washer/dryer? Otherwise: wooden blinds, a nice shower head & ceiling fans.",
"Ring doorbell (tenant can buy the $3/month subscription), Nest thermostat, electric vehicle charger in the garage. Garage fridge or wine fridge. \n\nPersonally, I wouldn’t like accent walls pre-painted for me as a tenant. Stick with white or cream or light grey (NOT “renters yellow”) so that the tenants can decorate as suits them. \n\nIf it’s possible, add ceiling fans to the bedrooms and/or living room. I grew up in Florida where most homes have ceiling fans, but ever since moving away it’s so hard to find them standard in homes! I have a ceiling fan in my current place in the living room and master and it helps keep it so much more comfortable!",
"Renting now, and four features really stand out for us:\n\nGood insulation. Energy bills are more affordable, making renting a little less painful.\n\n\"Constant\" hot water heater. We use less water and energy, and don't have the stress worrying about cold showers.\n\nDishwasher. Nuff said.\n\nKitchen sink faucet with flexible extension. It is a dish and sink cleaning game-changer. Here's an example:\n\nhttps://www.deltafaucet.com/kitchen/product/16953-SS-DST-R.html?gclid=Cj0KCQiAtbqdBhDvARIsAGYnXBOA7EkOZ2f-kKc3b1LV_nG9EiOfjuDItEOiWyWHCD5wXXdQJ4T9jzAaAtcdEALw_wcB",
"Personally, I would NOT add the above the stove microwave. That would be a turn off for me, as retrieving hot foods from heights is a scalding hazard. (Plus you don't want to get sued for injuries) It is better to leave space on a counter for a microwave. It is far safer to retrieve hot food from counter height. \nI would add a range hood/fan over the stove. \nAir conditioning is a must have. Even if it is through the wall units. So much damage occurs from window units. Bad idea. \n\nFinish the basement...if feasible\n\nFirst floor laundry... high priority. You lose older\npeople and people with health issues without this. A stacking unit in a closet\nor bathroom will do. \n\n(former landlord. Current renter)",
"Earth tone walls NOT WHITE. Absolutely don’t paint over any outlets and charge your tenants a fair price, not as high as you think you can.",
"Double paned windows if you don’t have them!! Such a game changer for energy bills. Don’t replace the kitchen sink with a two basin sink, go single basin. Make sure the faucet has a sprayer, ideally built into the faucet and not separate. If anything in the house is original and over 50 years old, opt to restore rather than replace - like removing paint from door handles. Pave the driveway or at least do gravel if it’s just dirt. Agreed with other posters who mention smart thermostat.",
"Additional storage and surfaces - shelving in closets for linens, extended kitchen counters/cabinets, towel hooks in the bathrooms",
"Man I LOVE the nest smoke alarms. Such a nice and manageable upgrade. \n\nIf you happen to be doing the bathroom floors, heated floors are amazing.",
"I hate having to deal with WiFi dropouts and speed limitations, so having the house wired for CAT5/6 would be a major upgrade."
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"How to stop shoes from squeaking while you walk Everyday it sounds like I walked through water but my shoes are dry. Help me :(",
"How to stop shoes from squeaking while you walk Everyday it sounds like I walked through water but my shoes are dry. Help me :("
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"• Sprinkle some powder in your shoes.\n\n\n• Stick a paper towel or dryer sheet in your shoe.\n\n\n• Smooth out the tongue. Sometimes shoes will squeak because the tongue is rubbing against the inside of the shoe. You can easily fix this by smoothing out the tongue with a bit of sandpaper. Get some fine grit sandpaper or a nail file and rub it against the outer edges of the tongue (where the tongue rubs against the inside of the shoe)\n\n\n• If you prefer not to sand the tongue of your shoes, then you can apply a bit of athletic tape to the edges of the tongue instead. Wrap the athletic tape around the tongue's edges so that the areas that rub against the inside of the shoe are covered.\n ",
"I had this problem with some casual leather shoes I had. Try first isolating exactly where the noise is coming from; most of the time it's the area between the bottom and the insole of the shoe. One way to find out is to step into a puddle of water of sorts and notice where air bubbles come from. \n\nOnce you've found where it is coming from, treat the shoe with something that would add lubrication, like an oil or what I used was just hand lotion. Apply it around the area and then try walking around."
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"Cleaning a large outdoor gas grill. I'm very curious if anyone has tips on this. All I could find while searching are tips on cleaning foreman grills!\n\nThanks ahead of time!",
"Cleaning a large outdoor gas grill. I'm very curious if anyone has tips on this. All I could find while searching are tips on cleaning foreman grills!\n\nThanks ahead of time!"
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"Get it stupid hot, let all the crap burn off. \n\nOnce everything is all crispy, take a wire brush, scrape everything off.\n\nliberally apply vegetable oil to the grates (helps make them non stick).\nUse a paper towel, cover all surfaces.\n\nClean every time you use it. \n\nApply vegetable oil when you first fire it up as well, for even better nonstickingness. \n",
"I thought everyone knew this, but\n\nUse a wire or metal grill brush before and after you cook. Start the grill, leave it on high with the cover closed and get it uber hot. Scrape the grill grates with your metal brush. Spray with a cooking spray before you cook. When your done cooking you can clean it off or just leave the bbq/ marinade bits stuck on and clean them off next time.\n\nThat's what I do. I don't clean it when I'm done, just leave the stuff there since I \"bake\" it off before cooking anything else the next time around."
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"How do I block someone's number so it appears to the caller that it's an inactive/dead phone number I've tried using block feature on iOS but it just sends people straight to my voicemail.. I want the person to get an error indicating the line is dead \"**this line is no longer in service\"** or something to that effect.. Not just to block certain people from calling me but it would be a big plus to block repeated marketing calls.",
"How do I block someone's number so it appears to the caller that it's an inactive/dead phone number I've tried using block feature on iOS but it just sends people straight to my voicemail.. I want the person to get an error indicating the line is dead \"**this line is no longer in service\"** or something to that effect.. Not just to block certain people from calling me but it would be a big plus to block repeated marketing calls.",
"How do I block someone's number so it appears to the caller that it's an inactive/dead phone number I've tried using block feature on iOS but it just sends people straight to my voicemail.. I want the person to get an error indicating the line is dead \"**this line is no longer in service\"** or something to that effect.. Not just to block certain people from calling me but it would be a big plus to block repeated marketing calls."
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"You need to block them on the side of your cellular service provider. Some of them have options similar to blacklist",
"Have you tried a call blocker app? I use Truecaller with reasonable results. I've also had good results with \"Should I Answer\". Truecaller lets you mark numbers as spam and they let you block spam text messages as well. SIA only does calls, no texts. Both are entirely free.",
"Could you just change your voicemail response? So that instead of, “Hi, this is Dave, yada yada”, the caller hears “Optus(or whoever) advises this number is no longer in service”. Just let the people you want to be in contact with know what you are doing."
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"how to increase your spoken vocabulary I have a problem in that the way I talk is pretty simplistic. I've been trying to build my vocabulary, mostly through apps lately, and know most of what is given to me. I know most common \"big\" words I see and can generally guess what a word means if i don't. If I have time to sit and think about what I say, such as through text, I can find better ways to express what I'm thinking. But when I'm talking I have to slow down just so that I don't get ahead of myself and stutter and so that I order my thoughts in a cohesive manner. I know words, I need to know how to use words. Any help?",
"how to increase your spoken vocabulary I have a problem in that the way I talk is pretty simplistic. I've been trying to build my vocabulary, mostly through apps lately, and know most of what is given to me. I know most common \"big\" words I see and can generally guess what a word means if i don't. If I have time to sit and think about what I say, such as through text, I can find better ways to express what I'm thinking. But when I'm talking I have to slow down just so that I don't get ahead of myself and stutter and so that I order my thoughts in a cohesive manner. I know words, I need to know how to use words. Any help?",
"how to increase your spoken vocabulary I have a problem in that the way I talk is pretty simplistic. I've been trying to build my vocabulary, mostly through apps lately, and know most of what is given to me. I know most common \"big\" words I see and can generally guess what a word means if i don't. If I have time to sit and think about what I say, such as through text, I can find better ways to express what I'm thinking. But when I'm talking I have to slow down just so that I don't get ahead of myself and stutter and so that I order my thoughts in a cohesive manner. I know words, I need to know how to use words. Any help?",
"how to increase your spoken vocabulary I have a problem in that the way I talk is pretty simplistic. I've been trying to build my vocabulary, mostly through apps lately, and know most of what is given to me. I know most common \"big\" words I see and can generally guess what a word means if i don't. If I have time to sit and think about what I say, such as through text, I can find better ways to express what I'm thinking. But when I'm talking I have to slow down just so that I don't get ahead of myself and stutter and so that I order my thoughts in a cohesive manner. I know words, I need to know how to use words. Any help?",
"how to increase your spoken vocabulary I have a problem in that the way I talk is pretty simplistic. I've been trying to build my vocabulary, mostly through apps lately, and know most of what is given to me. I know most common \"big\" words I see and can generally guess what a word means if i don't. If I have time to sit and think about what I say, such as through text, I can find better ways to express what I'm thinking. But when I'm talking I have to slow down just so that I don't get ahead of myself and stutter and so that I order my thoughts in a cohesive manner. I know words, I need to know how to use words. Any help?",
"how to increase your spoken vocabulary I have a problem in that the way I talk is pretty simplistic. I've been trying to build my vocabulary, mostly through apps lately, and know most of what is given to me. I know most common \"big\" words I see and can generally guess what a word means if i don't. If I have time to sit and think about what I say, such as through text, I can find better ways to express what I'm thinking. But when I'm talking I have to slow down just so that I don't get ahead of myself and stutter and so that I order my thoughts in a cohesive manner. I know words, I need to know how to use words. Any help?",
"how to increase your spoken vocabulary I have a problem in that the way I talk is pretty simplistic. I've been trying to build my vocabulary, mostly through apps lately, and know most of what is given to me. I know most common \"big\" words I see and can generally guess what a word means if i don't. If I have time to sit and think about what I say, such as through text, I can find better ways to express what I'm thinking. But when I'm talking I have to slow down just so that I don't get ahead of myself and stutter and so that I order my thoughts in a cohesive manner. I know words, I need to know how to use words. Any help?",
"how to increase your spoken vocabulary I have a problem in that the way I talk is pretty simplistic. I've been trying to build my vocabulary, mostly through apps lately, and know most of what is given to me. I know most common \"big\" words I see and can generally guess what a word means if i don't. If I have time to sit and think about what I say, such as through text, I can find better ways to express what I'm thinking. But when I'm talking I have to slow down just so that I don't get ahead of myself and stutter and so that I order my thoughts in a cohesive manner. I know words, I need to know how to use words. Any help?",
"how to increase your spoken vocabulary I have a problem in that the way I talk is pretty simplistic. I've been trying to build my vocabulary, mostly through apps lately, and know most of what is given to me. I know most common \"big\" words I see and can generally guess what a word means if i don't. If I have time to sit and think about what I say, such as through text, I can find better ways to express what I'm thinking. But when I'm talking I have to slow down just so that I don't get ahead of myself and stutter and so that I order my thoughts in a cohesive manner. I know words, I need to know how to use words. Any help?",
"how to increase your spoken vocabulary I have a problem in that the way I talk is pretty simplistic. I've been trying to build my vocabulary, mostly through apps lately, and know most of what is given to me. I know most common \"big\" words I see and can generally guess what a word means if i don't. If I have time to sit and think about what I say, such as through text, I can find better ways to express what I'm thinking. But when I'm talking I have to slow down just so that I don't get ahead of myself and stutter and so that I order my thoughts in a cohesive manner. I know words, I need to know how to use words. Any help?"
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"In my opinion, reading books is a great way to improve your vocabulary. \n\nAlso, when you are speaking take time to pause and formulate a sentence. Taking the time to pause may seem awkward at first, but it comes off as pretty natural. ",
"May be a little late, but- and this is going to sound ridiculous- consider looking at reading lists and vocabularies in the curriculum of dual enrollment English courses.\n\nI admittedly never broadened my proverbial horizons until I started reading books that were-at first- tougher to read and had much more antiquated language in them. It may seem quite simple, or childish, even, but it helps to have a context with your spoken words.",
"I love being verbose. Unfortunately, I go to a public high school, so if I want to be understood/not labeled as weird I have to talk just like everyone else. So when I do get the chance to use my vocabulary I do, but it just doesn't happen that often. It does come in handy on essays and such though.",
"Choose a new word you want to use in conversation and then use it in conversation and analyse all the times you say that word all through the week.",
"You could try using more \"big\" words in your [internal monologue](https://www.google.com/search?q=internal+monologue&oq=Internal+monologue&aqs=chrome.0.0l6.529j0j4&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8). If the way you talk to other people is \"pretty simplistic\" then I would guess the vocab you use in your inner thoughts is also pretty simple, even when you're having complicated thoughts. \n\nIt could be a matter of habit, as much as anything else. If you start to use more advanced words in your thoughts they would come out naturally when you speak because you would be used to using them normally, (if only in your head). Hopefully, this will be of some help. \n\n",
"Most people have a much bigger vocabulary than what they commonly use, meaning they understand more words than they might use in conversation. A good way would be to look up synonyms in a thesaurus to find different ways of expressing yourself.",
"You've got to have better words. I have all the best words. A lot of these guys we have, they're idiots, they don't have any good words, because they're losers. /s\n\nSeriously though, reading it the thing.",
"Practice, practice, practice - Most large cities have a Toastmasters Club where you can learn and practice public speaking",
"I would thing reading out loud would help. Not sure of the subject matter, but something that interests you, on the level at which you want to speak. ",
"FWIW I've learned a lot of words from having the closed captions on all my televisions and movies. 'Informative' (and I use that term lightly) TV and dialogue heavy films throw in a new word nearly every time I get a chance to watch.\n\nYou wouldn't believe how long entertainment writers wait to use certain words."
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"yellow discolouration on white appliances? Is there any way to remove sun discolouration on white appliances? My white blender has been sitting in the sun so there are yellow sections on it. I would like to remove them if it's possible to do so. ",
"yellow discolouration on white appliances? Is there any way to remove sun discolouration on white appliances? My white blender has been sitting in the sun so there are yellow sections on it. I would like to remove them if it's possible to do so. "
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"[Hydrogen peroxide.](http://www.exisle.net/mb/index.php?/topic/59657-de-yellowing-plastic-the-stain-isnt-permanent-after-all/)",
"I'd give /u/unoriginalsin's tip a go, but for prevention in future, look into UV filtered window tinting for your kitchen. Added bonus: preventing skin cancer while you're washing the dishes."
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"How to dust off black surfaces and devices and maybe even prevent dust from getting on them Is there any way to prevent dust from getting on a black surface?",
"How to dust off black surfaces and devices and maybe even prevent dust from getting on them Is there any way to prevent dust from getting on a black surface?"
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"Cleaning dust, microfibre cloths, \n\nPreventing dust, air filters and air purifiers, vacuuming often if you have carpeted floors, for your electronics in general you can look for anti-static dust repellent sprays.",
"Swiffer dusters. Really.\n\nWell, you can't prevent it. But they work to quickly and easily get the dust off. "
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"How to remember what floor you parked on I frequently park in the same multilevel garage but I can never remember which floor. I often accidentally go to the wrong floor and waste a bunch of time doing so. I am looking for a quick and easy way to remember without having to write it down every time. I also thought about parking in the same spot every time but I can never find a spot that is always open because it is a busy garage.",
"How to remember what floor you parked on I frequently park in the same multilevel garage but I can never remember which floor. I often accidentally go to the wrong floor and waste a bunch of time doing so. I am looking for a quick and easy way to remember without having to write it down every time. I also thought about parking in the same spot every time but I can never find a spot that is always open because it is a busy garage.",
"How to remember what floor you parked on I frequently park in the same multilevel garage but I can never remember which floor. I often accidentally go to the wrong floor and waste a bunch of time doing so. I am looking for a quick and easy way to remember without having to write it down every time. I also thought about parking in the same spot every time but I can never find a spot that is always open because it is a busy garage.",
"How to remember what floor you parked on I frequently park in the same multilevel garage but I can never remember which floor. I often accidentally go to the wrong floor and waste a bunch of time doing so. I am looking for a quick and easy way to remember without having to write it down every time. I also thought about parking in the same spot every time but I can never find a spot that is always open because it is a busy garage.",
"How to remember what floor you parked on I frequently park in the same multilevel garage but I can never remember which floor. I often accidentally go to the wrong floor and waste a bunch of time doing so. I am looking for a quick and easy way to remember without having to write it down every time. I also thought about parking in the same spot every time but I can never find a spot that is always open because it is a busy garage.",
"How to remember what floor you parked on I frequently park in the same multilevel garage but I can never remember which floor. I often accidentally go to the wrong floor and waste a bunch of time doing so. I am looking for a quick and easy way to remember without having to write it down every time. I also thought about parking in the same spot every time but I can never find a spot that is always open because it is a busy garage.",
"How to remember what floor you parked on I frequently park in the same multilevel garage but I can never remember which floor. I often accidentally go to the wrong floor and waste a bunch of time doing so. I am looking for a quick and easy way to remember without having to write it down every time. I also thought about parking in the same spot every time but I can never find a spot that is always open because it is a busy garage.",
"How to remember what floor you parked on I frequently park in the same multilevel garage but I can never remember which floor. I often accidentally go to the wrong floor and waste a bunch of time doing so. I am looking for a quick and easy way to remember without having to write it down every time. I also thought about parking in the same spot every time but I can never find a spot that is always open because it is a busy garage."
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"Pretend you're a race car driver and picture that your Floor/Section is your car's number. You're also on the same lap as your floor. There are the same number of drivers in the race as your floor or you're in \"Floor\"th place.\n\nVroom Vroom!",
"On Android there's an app called \"Park Me Right\" that remembers where you parked for you, it's free and is supposed to work in multilevel structures although I haven't tried it there yet. I'm sure there's a similar one for iPhone as well. ",
"Write down the level/area on the parking ticket and pop it into your wallet. I know you said no writing down, but this really is simple/easy.",
"Use a specific odd coin that you don't spend. Or another small item. And put in a a specific pocket.\n\n\nLeft pocket front = floor 1\n\nRight pocket front = floor 2\n\nleft pocket back = etc...",
"Try going to the same floor every time. I always park in the 5th row of any establisment that has their parkiing rows labled. I also usually go for distance away from others to avoid my car getting hit with doors. As long as you don't mind the extra walk, stick with the 5th floor. That way, when you go to do the whole \"wtf number is it\" and you go to facepalm, the number will be right in front of you",
"Most stairwells have the floor number printed on them. As you enter the elevator/stairwell, take a photo of the floor. Then, turn around, look at (or in the direction of) your car and take another photo.\n\nOnce you're on the right floor and heading in right direction, it is, admittedly, on you to recognize your car. ;)\n\nAlso, if you have the scratch, just get a Bat Mobile because it comes when you call it! ",
"If you have a smartphone, you can take a photo of the level. I saw this at Disneyland, and do this now myself. ",
"I always park on the top floor; it's normally quieter, if you don't get a spot on the top floor, get the first spot on the way down, then at least if you forget which floor you're on you only have to start at the top and work your way down, rather than wandering aimlessly!\n\nTake the stairs to keep yourself fit :)"
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"How to make dishes less terrible Doing the dishes kinda sucks, so some tips to make them less terrible-\n\n • rinse plates, cups, etc. right after using them \n\n• use dish gloves when handling dirty dishes \n\n• if you live with other people, rotate who does the dishes every week. If there are dishes in the sink at the end of the week they get a second week \n\n• stagger forks and spoons in the washer, if you have one; plus if packed together they don’t always come clean \n\n• always take knives out of the washer by the handle, right before it turns to the blade part \n\n• if washing knives by hand only scrub diagonally down the blade toward the sharp part and don’t move back. You might cut yourself but you can also shred the sponge/ poke holes in your dish rag if you’re not careful \n\n• don’t stack bowls after cleaning them and while putting them away. Put then away one by one. (depending on the kind/shape of the bowls you have they may be prone to sliding out of each other as you put them away. We’ve lost a few bowls this way.)\n\n• if you use a slow cooker or a crockpot and can’t clean them right after use then soak them before cleaning them. It makes scrubbing so much easier\n\nDefeat the dishes\n\n​\n\nRepost as original was removed for incorrect title formatting",
"How to make dishes less terrible Doing the dishes kinda sucks, so some tips to make them less terrible-\n\n • rinse plates, cups, etc. right after using them \n\n• use dish gloves when handling dirty dishes \n\n• if you live with other people, rotate who does the dishes every week. If there are dishes in the sink at the end of the week they get a second week \n\n• stagger forks and spoons in the washer, if you have one; plus if packed together they don’t always come clean \n\n• always take knives out of the washer by the handle, right before it turns to the blade part \n\n• if washing knives by hand only scrub diagonally down the blade toward the sharp part and don’t move back. You might cut yourself but you can also shred the sponge/ poke holes in your dish rag if you’re not careful \n\n• don’t stack bowls after cleaning them and while putting them away. Put then away one by one. (depending on the kind/shape of the bowls you have they may be prone to sliding out of each other as you put them away. We’ve lost a few bowls this way.)\n\n• if you use a slow cooker or a crockpot and can’t clean them right after use then soak them before cleaning them. It makes scrubbing so much easier\n\nDefeat the dishes\n\n​\n\nRepost as original was removed for incorrect title formatting",
"How to make dishes less terrible Doing the dishes kinda sucks, so some tips to make them less terrible-\n\n • rinse plates, cups, etc. right after using them \n\n• use dish gloves when handling dirty dishes \n\n• if you live with other people, rotate who does the dishes every week. If there are dishes in the sink at the end of the week they get a second week \n\n• stagger forks and spoons in the washer, if you have one; plus if packed together they don’t always come clean \n\n• always take knives out of the washer by the handle, right before it turns to the blade part \n\n• if washing knives by hand only scrub diagonally down the blade toward the sharp part and don’t move back. You might cut yourself but you can also shred the sponge/ poke holes in your dish rag if you’re not careful \n\n• don’t stack bowls after cleaning them and while putting them away. Put then away one by one. (depending on the kind/shape of the bowls you have they may be prone to sliding out of each other as you put them away. We’ve lost a few bowls this way.)\n\n• if you use a slow cooker or a crockpot and can’t clean them right after use then soak them before cleaning them. It makes scrubbing so much easier\n\nDefeat the dishes\n\n​\n\nRepost as original was removed for incorrect title formatting",
"How to make dishes less terrible Doing the dishes kinda sucks, so some tips to make them less terrible-\n\n • rinse plates, cups, etc. right after using them \n\n• use dish gloves when handling dirty dishes \n\n• if you live with other people, rotate who does the dishes every week. If there are dishes in the sink at the end of the week they get a second week \n\n• stagger forks and spoons in the washer, if you have one; plus if packed together they don’t always come clean \n\n• always take knives out of the washer by the handle, right before it turns to the blade part \n\n• if washing knives by hand only scrub diagonally down the blade toward the sharp part and don’t move back. You might cut yourself but you can also shred the sponge/ poke holes in your dish rag if you’re not careful \n\n• don’t stack bowls after cleaning them and while putting them away. Put then away one by one. (depending on the kind/shape of the bowls you have they may be prone to sliding out of each other as you put them away. We’ve lost a few bowls this way.)\n\n• if you use a slow cooker or a crockpot and can’t clean them right after use then soak them before cleaning them. It makes scrubbing so much easier\n\nDefeat the dishes\n\n​\n\nRepost as original was removed for incorrect title formatting"
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"Have you ever shared your flat with lovely people? You always run out of plates and bowls and the sink is so full you don't have the space to wash up.",
"Just do the dishes as you use them and make it the rule in the house. Only exception is drinking cups or things that rinse clean with water. I don't use my dishwasher, so I don't have that need to fill it before doing them.",
"If you need to wash a blender, add some soap and water to it and turn it on, rather than trying to scrub out around the blade by hand. If it’s really bad, you can usually take it apart pretty easily. Afterwards, rinsing it out isn’t nearly as bad.",
"For slow cookers they make a baggie that lines the slow cooker, almost like lining a baking tray or casserole dish with foil."
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"how do I deal with lazy Co workers claiming my hard work, and avoiding arguments. Delivery driving is fairly easy but lately I've been in heated arguments with Co workers because I ask for help. They like to talk shit about me to other workers and the gm. Which in turn since I never work with the gm thinks I'm lazy when that is not true. I've lost a raise because of this defamation. The only ones who see and compliment my good work ethic are the shift leader and assistant manager. I've won more incentives than drivers who have been there longer and have had a gracious ammount of customers call back with great feedback of me. The gm blows all this information off due to the \"elder Co workers\" taking or lying about my hard work. It's comes down to me demanding my raise or quitting but the tips are too good to leave yet the hourly is too low to stay. I shoulent have to been stressed out over easy work but it's really hurting that I'm being overy looked. How do I deal with any of this in an adult manner. \n\nUpdate: I've kept to my own work and have since ask for a raise that ultimately was countered with being asked to do job \"x\" in under a 1 minute which made me mad since I already work harder than 90% of the team. Since I've cut my 40+ hours down to 28 or less and now my boss seems miserable because nothing gets done since I cut my hours. I'm feel in the right to let the store suffer back to what is was before I transfered there.",
"how do I deal with lazy Co workers claiming my hard work, and avoiding arguments. Delivery driving is fairly easy but lately I've been in heated arguments with Co workers because I ask for help. They like to talk shit about me to other workers and the gm. Which in turn since I never work with the gm thinks I'm lazy when that is not true. I've lost a raise because of this defamation. The only ones who see and compliment my good work ethic are the shift leader and assistant manager. I've won more incentives than drivers who have been there longer and have had a gracious ammount of customers call back with great feedback of me. The gm blows all this information off due to the \"elder Co workers\" taking or lying about my hard work. It's comes down to me demanding my raise or quitting but the tips are too good to leave yet the hourly is too low to stay. I shoulent have to been stressed out over easy work but it's really hurting that I'm being overy looked. How do I deal with any of this in an adult manner. \n\nUpdate: I've kept to my own work and have since ask for a raise that ultimately was countered with being asked to do job \"x\" in under a 1 minute which made me mad since I already work harder than 90% of the team. Since I've cut my 40+ hours down to 28 or less and now my boss seems miserable because nothing gets done since I cut my hours. I'm feel in the right to let the store suffer back to what is was before I transfered there."
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"For starters, a log book helps immensely. Keep notes of altercations, and times when you are certain your work was claimed as another's. \n\nSecondly, as tough as it may be, enemy is my friend applies here. If the ones who are causing an issue begin to doubt themselves in the slightest that they may be wrong about you, then your work will begin to shine through inherently. ",
"1. Come in to work each day. \n2. Do the best you can.\n3. Don't let it get to you. \nThis situation you have described occurs at almost every work environment on the planet "
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"How to sleep on an airplane As a tall fellow who can't afford first class but must travel often, I'm wondering what I must do for some precious sleep on an airplane? Note: I've tried pills, they don't help much. Mostly I just atumble off the plane is a groggy disoriented haze. \n\nHelp?",
"How to sleep on an airplane As a tall fellow who can't afford first class but must travel often, I'm wondering what I must do for some precious sleep on an airplane? Note: I've tried pills, they don't help much. Mostly I just atumble off the plane is a groggy disoriented haze. \n\nHelp?",
"How to sleep on an airplane As a tall fellow who can't afford first class but must travel often, I'm wondering what I must do for some precious sleep on an airplane? Note: I've tried pills, they don't help much. Mostly I just atumble off the plane is a groggy disoriented haze. \n\nHelp?",
"How to sleep on an airplane As a tall fellow who can't afford first class but must travel often, I'm wondering what I must do for some precious sleep on an airplane? Note: I've tried pills, they don't help much. Mostly I just atumble off the plane is a groggy disoriented haze. \n\nHelp?",
"How to sleep on an airplane As a tall fellow who can't afford first class but must travel often, I'm wondering what I must do for some precious sleep on an airplane? Note: I've tried pills, they don't help much. Mostly I just atumble off the plane is a groggy disoriented haze. \n\nHelp?",
"How to sleep on an airplane As a tall fellow who can't afford first class but must travel often, I'm wondering what I must do for some precious sleep on an airplane? Note: I've tried pills, they don't help much. Mostly I just atumble off the plane is a groggy disoriented haze. \n\nHelp?",
"How to sleep on an airplane As a tall fellow who can't afford first class but must travel often, I'm wondering what I must do for some precious sleep on an airplane? Note: I've tried pills, they don't help much. Mostly I just atumble off the plane is a groggy disoriented haze. \n\nHelp?",
"How to sleep on an airplane As a tall fellow who can't afford first class but must travel often, I'm wondering what I must do for some precious sleep on an airplane? Note: I've tried pills, they don't help much. Mostly I just atumble off the plane is a groggy disoriented haze. \n\nHelp?",
"How to sleep on an airplane As a tall fellow who can't afford first class but must travel often, I'm wondering what I must do for some precious sleep on an airplane? Note: I've tried pills, they don't help much. Mostly I just atumble off the plane is a groggy disoriented haze. \n\nHelp?",
"How to sleep on an airplane As a tall fellow who can't afford first class but must travel often, I'm wondering what I must do for some precious sleep on an airplane? Note: I've tried pills, they don't help much. Mostly I just atumble off the plane is a groggy disoriented haze. \n\nHelp?",
"How to sleep on an airplane As a tall fellow who can't afford first class but must travel often, I'm wondering what I must do for some precious sleep on an airplane? Note: I've tried pills, they don't help much. Mostly I just atumble off the plane is a groggy disoriented haze. \n\nHelp?",
"How to sleep on an airplane As a tall fellow who can't afford first class but must travel often, I'm wondering what I must do for some precious sleep on an airplane? Note: I've tried pills, they don't help much. Mostly I just atumble off the plane is a groggy disoriented haze. \n\nHelp?",
"How to sleep on an airplane As a tall fellow who can't afford first class but must travel often, I'm wondering what I must do for some precious sleep on an airplane? Note: I've tried pills, they don't help much. Mostly I just atumble off the plane is a groggy disoriented haze. \n\nHelp?"
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"1. Request/upgrade to an exit row (might cost a few bucks but way cheaper than moving up a class)\n\n2. Noise cancelling headphones. (Keyword is \"cancelling\", make sure they are not just circum-aural headphones)\n3. Window seat - something to lean on makes sleeping a fraction easier.\n4. A lot of people don't know that the headrests on long-haul aircraft can actually move and wrap around your head, [like this](http://www.hobotraveler.com/2008/03/asiana-airlines-ideal-seat-headrest.html)\n5. Watch the diet - when spending large amounts of time waiting in airport lounges, the natural thing to do is get something to eat and drink. This does not help you get to sleep, just like you can't sleep at home if you eat too late at night. Stick to mealtimes. Avoid caffeine.\n\n6. When travelling across time zones, move yourself onto the time of the destination as soon as possible. i.e during travel.\n\n7. Shoes off, blanket on, blindfold-thingy on. Noise cancelling headphones on. (see point #2).\n8. Watch in-flight movies until your eyes bleed.\n\n9. Try not to stress about not sleeping. It will just prevent you from sleeping. \n",
"Here you go sir/madam\n\nhttp://www.aaanything.net/wp-content/gallery/weekend-fun-is-always-best/how_to_sleep_on_an_airplane_take_the_belt_and_strap_it_on_your_head.jpg",
"I try to NOT sleep before the flight, or at the very least, get by on much only short sleep the night before. \n\nIf I know I've got a 9-hr transatlantic the next day, I'll just stay up late the night before and then get up early the day of the flight.",
"A friend of mine who is 6' 6\" got a doctor (guy's actually a PhD, but they didn't check, just has business cards that say doctor) to write him a note that say he MUST be seated on the bulkhead row. Apparently this is a real thing, just make sure you get a medical doctor to write the note, just in case.",
"I have it on good authority that a certain kind of vegetable matter, smoked or ingested before a flight, makes you sleep just fine or at least not care whether you do or don't. ",
"Buy some proper work earplugs (not the shitty uncomfortable ones you get at chemists). Choose ones like laser lite, that are moulded.",
"neck pillow. ear plugs or noise cancelling headphones (latter is better - woo_hoo is right). dramamine. good eye mask to block the light - the ones they provide on the plane are terrible. ",
"I'm so sorry it's hard for you to sleep on planes, I have trouble staying awake on them. Even short two hour flights, I fall asleep within 10 minutes and wake up during landing. Don't know why though, but I guess I'll try not to take it for granted.",
"I know its not the best idea because flying already dehydrates you, but one airplane liquor bottle or wine bottle will put me out for most of an international flight. I don't know what it is about flying, but my tolerance plummets.\n\n",
"6'6\" here and I was never able sleep on a plane till I learned the joys of flying Air Vicodin. I take one shortly after take off and can sleep ok despite being in pain from the seats.",
"I travel just about every week. I find that the best time to fall asleep is when the plane is taxiing for takeoff. As soon as the obnoxiously loud pre-flight safety instructions finish, it is usually dead silent, except for the hum of the engines and the cool air from the overhead ventilation.\n\nI usually get woke up right at takeoff, but as soon as the plane leaves the ground, you can recline your seat. Then you have the added comfort of a reclined seat to put you back to sleep.\n\nNeck pillow and if you can't afford business/first class...Exit rows is a must, as was mentioned. ",
"Here's something a little weird, but trust me, it really gives you your own little mental space. Take one of the in-flight blankets. Put it over your head (like a ghost), keeping the middle part at the top of your head. Put a hat over the top of the blanket/head. This helps block light, keep the warmth from your breath. For me it just helps to block out the rest of the plane and give yourself a little area that is mine.\n\nAnother one: take a beanie hat with you, whether or not you're sleeping. Helps to stop that horrible head/nose cold from the cold, recycled air. Keeps your head warm, and minimizes vibrations which keep you awake.",
"Ambien and put your head down on the tray table like you used to sleep in high school classes. Having a puffy coat or a couple air plane blankets and pillows can help to. The ambien doesn't leave you groggy like other sleep aides. "
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"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?",
"Staying focused and productive at work when feeling ill? Not looking for medical advice, just general ideas for mentally powering through when you have a cold or other minor illness?"
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"Why is everyone being such a dick in this thread? Do you all still live at home with your mommy? People have to eat, and pay rent, or take care of kids, etc. We're not talking the flu here. I think OP is referring to the sniffles or cramps or a headache. Even a very cool, fair boss wouldn't deal with someone calling out for those things on a regular basis. And your coworkers having to pick up your slack will hate you too. ",
"I'm sorry everyone else is lecturing you about staying home when you have a cold. Here's what I have done as a single mom when I've run out of paid sick time: drink lots of hot tea, take dayquil (probably spelled that wrong, but you know what I mean), also I take zycam like as soon as I feel anything coming on. It seems to keep me from getting a full blown cold. Also zinc an vitamin c. Hope this helps. ",
"First is to not expect to be as productive when you are sick. \n\nTake on tasks that require less concentration or less physical efforts.\n\nTry to break your tasks down to smaller tasks and take more breaks. During the breaks hydrate yourself, get as much vitamine C in your body as you can, and eat healthy snacks.\n\nIf at all possible, try to take little power naps during the day.\n\nI've threaded through many a sick day at work like this. I then haul my sick ass back home as early as I can, crash into bed and sleep as much as I can until the next day.\n\nHowever, if you are really sick (high fever, shivers, infection) get medical help asap, take the necessary time off and that will, in the end, make you more productive than being sick for weeks.",
"I dealt with this this week. I took DayQuil every four hours, had a ton of cough drops, and drank tea as much as I could. I also ate hot tomato soup for lunch. While the DayQuil was still fresh, I actually felt great, but once it started wearing off, I felt like death. ",
"Lots of advice about meds, but to *mentally* power through like you asked, I've found dressing your best and spending an extra few minutes on your hair/appearance will do wonders for how you feel throughout the day.\n\nYou feel how you look, so if you dress like crap and don't take care of yourself (which we all like to do when we go to work sick), it will drag you down just as much as your illness. However, if you dress up and spend a little time on yourself, you automatically feel less sick and can focus on work.",
"Lots of great comments. My addition would be to eat spicy food. The hotter you can stand the better. It clears out your sinuses, and the chemical that makes it \"hot\" is anti-inflammatory and helps reduce the swelling in your sinus cavity. For me it also wakes me up slightly. And has the added benefit of making you drink a lot of water. ",
"When I get a cold I become totally miserable and depressed for several days at the time. \n\nThis stuff totally changed my life.\n\nhttp://www.emergenc.com/\n\nSuppose to be one per day but on rough days I take 2.\n\nI get it at wallmart.\n\nHope this might help.",
"Vitamins, lots of B and C. Drink water as much and as often as possible. Also, play some upbeat music, preferably without lyrics. ",
"Medicate. Sudafed for nasal congestion and fatigue. DayQuil for the acetaminophen and to help with fatigue. Drink lots of water, or better yet tea with honey and ginseng(it's better if it's warm). Then make sure you take NyQuil at night and treat your symptoms until you're healthy. If you take an anti histamine as well it can mitigate a lot of the symptoms brought on by the common cold. Delsym is an over the counter medication that will help with sore throats. Be careful with those last two. Based on what you do at work, they may impair your ability to be productive. ",
"Ginger, vitamin B, coffee or green tea, and seriously day time cold meds with things like ephedrine in them will make you feel 10 times better. Do not take things with diphenhydramine in them - you will most likely fall asleep. \n\nIf you can take ten minutes to take a walk outside that would help too. Walking around helps me breathe better when I'm stuffed up. \n\n",
"Dealing with this right now. Lots and lots of tea. Hot tea. The heat soothes, there's some caffeine to prevent me from sleeping in my chair, and you are keeping hydrated. Take vitamins and any over-the-counter stuff to deal with your symptoms. Check to see if you can talk half a day off and come in and be productive while you can. Also, SLEEP! Get off reddit/netflix and rest!",
"12-hour Sudafed \n\nIt's a decongestant, but also works as a mild stimulant and will give you a mental boost to get through the day. \n \n\n \n \n\n *Disclaimer: avoid pseudoephedrine and other decongestants if you have uncontrolled high blood pressure, cardiac arrhythmias or other heart problems*",
"There is some good advice in this thread already. I just want to add, there is a hot tea called Throat Coat (terrible name, I know) that does wonders for a sore throat.\n\nAlso, stay away from sugars. Your body will crave sweets, but they're not good for your immune system.",
"Take a good multivitamin, like Spectro. It definitely helps me power through the day, taking the edge off and enabling mental acuity.",
"I survived this year's flu season relatively unscathed thanks to my new flu regimen. \n\n* Dayquil\n* [Zinc Lozenge](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00024D3SK/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s01?ie=UTF8&psc=1)\n* [Ginger Tea](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001EPPLWM/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o03_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1)\n* [Garlic extract](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00028LPHC/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1)\n\nAnd lots of hot water of course. If possible though, you should stay home. If you come to work with the flu, you'll end up passing it back and forth with your coworkers, thus missing even more work.\n\nAlso, if you're catching colds frequently, you need to take better care of yourself. ",
"Two things that helped me get through the last cold I had. Honey and this stuff called olbas oil. I found honey a lot more effective than lozenges. It lasted longer and really soothed my throat. I've even had sore throats stop being so sore pretty quickly. The olbas oil is like vaporub but much more strong. You put a few drops on a tissue to inhale. That really helps with the sinus headaches so you can be less distracted.",
"Take some 24 hour pseudo... The real stuff that requires an ID to get. That always perks me right up.",
"Take a lot of breaks. I find that I get more done when I take a break after a planned chunk of work. The less focused I feel, the more breaks I'll take. ",
"Take a bath, then wrap a hot towel around your head. And then, make yourself some soup, get a nap.\n\n\nBut seriously stay home if you're illin' with def jams.",
"If you are feeling some sinus congestion, I HIGHLY suggest the over the counter nasal spray called Sinex. It is made by Viks Vaporub and I get severe sinus infections ~4 times a year and its the only thing that can clear me up enough to function. Also in addition take some of the effervescent Alka Seltzer severe cold and cough. Drink a lot of water or hot tea. Try to enjoy some chicken noodle soup with sriracha in it to warm you up and clear you out. A pack of tissues along with everything I've said should power you through just about anything but the flu. ",
"I've found Airborne or its generic equivalent Walborne (sold at Walgreens) to be tremendously effective. I've also found that bundling up as much as possible when you get home and trying to sleep sometimes \"breaks\" the fever, but I don't have any scientific backing for that. \n\nI too wish people would lay off you for not taking sick leave. It's your employer and in turn domestic policy which sucks, rather than any fault of your own.",
"I keep these all in my desk: sinus spray, throat numbing lozenges, yummy cough drops (luden's- cherry), dayquil, and salt (for gargling with in the restroom). That being said, I've been home with the flu this week, lol",
"I just tell myself, \"I could be laying in bed staring at the ceiling, or get stuff done.\" \n\nIt's not like I work in the mines, so sitting in a cube isn't much different from sitting around at home.\n\nThis is assuming I'm not contagious. I wouldn't want to contaminate the office, unless one of my co-irkers gave me the germs in the first place by coughing around my cube or touching my stuff. When I'm sick, I make an effort not to go around spreading germs.",
"Hot water! Also, if you've got a thing for sweets, Welch's fruit snacks. May be the placebo effect, but the additional vitamin C in those gummies really does make a difference.",
"Take vitamins. Eat fruit. Concentrate on happy things. Treat yourself to something nice like pizza or a nice cold beer when you get home so you have something to look forward to.",
"Take a nap. Explain to your boss what's going on, that you arent getting much done anyway, tell them that you're going to lie down in your car for 45 minutes, and then go clock out and do it.",
"Just want to point out we dont know the illness. If you have the sniffles Vitamin C actually encourages mucus flow which will leave you with a booger-stained cuff on your shirt.",
"If you're sick, you should probably stay home. \n\nBeyond that, I just drug the heck out of myself to treat the symptoms and get all hopped up on caffeine. ",
"Think about you next paycheck. Your nose is running you don't feel good, your not dying get your ass into work. being there is half the battle",
"If you take the time to actually rest and get better you will get better faster and do better work. Sleep and eat healthy and rest. ",
"I had pneumonia and still went to work.. Yea yea contagious or what ever, but I worked in a factory operating a press, wearing gloves and a face mask.. with not much close contact with others.. I'd say just suck it up.. ",
"If you are working around other people, don't be that asshole that comes into work to be \"tough\" and subsequently gets everyone else sick, too. "
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"How do I overcome jealousy and possessiveness in a relationship? My jealousy and possessiveness cause arguments between my girlfriend and I and it's tearing our relationship apart. I realize I have a problem now, but what do I do to overcome jealousy and possessiveness?",
"How do I overcome jealousy and possessiveness in a relationship? My jealousy and possessiveness cause arguments between my girlfriend and I and it's tearing our relationship apart. I realize I have a problem now, but what do I do to overcome jealousy and possessiveness?",
"How do I overcome jealousy and possessiveness in a relationship? My jealousy and possessiveness cause arguments between my girlfriend and I and it's tearing our relationship apart. I realize I have a problem now, but what do I do to overcome jealousy and possessiveness?",
"How do I overcome jealousy and possessiveness in a relationship? My jealousy and possessiveness cause arguments between my girlfriend and I and it's tearing our relationship apart. I realize I have a problem now, but what do I do to overcome jealousy and possessiveness?",
"How do I overcome jealousy and possessiveness in a relationship? My jealousy and possessiveness cause arguments between my girlfriend and I and it's tearing our relationship apart. I realize I have a problem now, but what do I do to overcome jealousy and possessiveness?"
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"Honestly, I got knocked on my ass when I was like that, first when the girl I was abusing, and that's what possessiveness is, straight up dumped me. Then when I got home I shared the story with my brother who took me outside and gave me a black eye.\n\nI appreciate that you're trying to fix this so I won't make this mean spirited but it may come off harsh.\n\nYour girlfriend is not an asset. She is not yours through law, through marriage, or through personal choice. She is a human being and should be held to a higher value than yourself. If you are uncomfortable with her having the same rights that you have then you need to review the relationship. She has the capacity to encourage possessiveness, I've been in relationships where the women pushed me to literally control them. It's more likely that you were never adequately put in your place about the issue. Does it have a cause? Yes, everything has a cause. But knowing the cause is pointless in this situation. First and formost, you have to begin controlling your expression over situations. She goes to a friends house and doesn't tell you? Remind yourself over and over again that you wouldn't feel comfortable with her getting directly upset with you over that. Keep control of yourself. You're reactions to the situation are the problem, not necessarily you or her. So if you can learn to control your reactions you can begin to change them. This in itself has very far reaching value. People who have outbursts at work? They can't manage their reactions. Humans are very reactive to stimuli so it's understandable that it's a problem. But if you can keep your inside from becoming your outside you will keep your internal misunderstandings from becoming external fights.\n\nShe *chose* to be with you. Now you need to *choose* to be with her. Not above her or managing her.\n\nI found later on in life that my problem stemmed from narcissism(The belief that one is inherently of more worth than others through no fault of their own.). You need to start trusting her more and also placing less personal value on her. It's very easy to abuse things that you place personal value to because any threat to that asset is a threat to your happiness, and you wouldn't want your car to have free will now would you? Exactly. A good way to ease out of it is to find a hobby or some new friends. Something you can focus on rather than worrying about her. That way when you get stressed about her personal decisions you can focus that energy on a toy train or making a new app. Then you can speak with her later asking how her time out was or whatever.\n\n\nOne very important detail is that distrust is a very easy way to justify cheating in a relationship. So, if you fear the worst, then you express that fear to her over and over, you're only justifying her case to participate in dishonest behavior. And here's the best catch. It doesn't fucking matter if you think she's cheating or not. If somebody is willing to cheat then they aren't truly satisfied with their partner and will inevitably find a way out of the relationship. You shouldn't be proactive about the fear somebody is cheating on you. Be happy with them until you have actual facts suggesting you shouldn't be.\n\nRemember, the problem probably isn't *you*. It's just your reactions to situations out of your control. So practice managing your feelings about situations. Not lettings things boil over or push you into a situation you never wanted to be in. You're a human being, not a car. You're the driver. Don't let a mean semi-truck push you down the road of being an asshole. Just slow down and let it pass you.",
"Everything Nathan said is wonderful advice, and it's awesome that you're aware enough and care enough to change this. \nJealousy is often just people taking out their insecurities on other people.\nSince you can't easily change how you feel, be as honest as possible so she knows, but obviously, don't actually ask or demand anything based on that jealousy. \n\nPersonally, I'm a fan of the learn to love yourself approach. If you don't love yourself why would others love you, and how could you know how to love others? (But in an honest, stable way and not a shallow narcissistic way.) \nLearn to be happy with yourself and not depend on others, such as your girlfriend, for happiness. If you can be happy with yourself, you and her can be happy together.",
"Jealousy and possessiveness isn't about her. It isn't even about your relationship with her.\n\nIt is about you and the value you have~~n't~~ assigned to yourself.\n\nI saw in other comments that you moved outside of your comfort zone and are in a very vulnerable place right now. By being jealous, you are externalizing that. Canada has great mental healthcare. Go take advantage! This is not something you need to solve all by yourself!",
"Genuinely? Go talk to the folks in r/polyamory or r/nonmonogamy. I figure that's not your sorta thing, but nobody deals with jealousy like us, and there's a lot of good advice over there.",
"Don't give a fuck, that's what i do for everything in my life. If something bad happens, just end your relationship, no need to worry if it wasn't your fault."
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"How do I translate my behind-a-screen conversational skills to in-person conversations? I've noticed that when I'm in a conversation with somebody irl, I never know what to say next. I'm constantly drawing blanks, and I think a lot of this has to do with the fact that I get anxious and focus too much on *having to reply.* Over a screen, I have the opportunity to think about what I am going to say, and things usually go very well. How do I become better socially in real life?",
"How do I translate my behind-a-screen conversational skills to in-person conversations? I've noticed that when I'm in a conversation with somebody irl, I never know what to say next. I'm constantly drawing blanks, and I think a lot of this has to do with the fact that I get anxious and focus too much on *having to reply.* Over a screen, I have the opportunity to think about what I am going to say, and things usually go very well. How do I become better socially in real life?"
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"Practice. I'm sort of in the same boat as you as I get anxiety often and end up fumbling in conversations. Practicing is and gets very easy when you start with simple conversations, like when you are buying food from a takeout place. When practicing like this it's best to engage the person with an open ended question that could lead to a longer response. Rather than the, \"Hey, how is business doing?\" ... \"Good.\" type of conversation, you may want to start with something like, \"Hey, the food here is great, you guys must be doing well I hope?\" More often than not, showing a little bit of effort rather than the typical standard small talk phrases and questions, will provide you with enough information to go off of what they say. ",
"I too am not a great conversationalist, so I understand the pain of the awkward pause. I have several strategies... \nConversing with talkative people is super easy because they just keep going without you having to say much. \nIf the other person is not much of a chatterbox it's worth remembering that you're not a television anchor and you don't have to fill all the empty space with meaningless words. Pithy and well considered is often better than vapid chatter. Remember as well that everyone loves to talk about themselves or something they love. Ask questions like, \"Who's your favourite band?\" or \"Where do you come from?\" to get them started. Stick with the thing that they just won't shut up about and the conversation often gets more interesting because people are more interesting when they're talking about something they are interested in.\nHope this helps a bit!"
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"Ways to give yourself a 'wake up' when you're getting tired and losing motivation. E.g. when writing a paper or working on any kind of project. ",
"Ways to give yourself a 'wake up' when you're getting tired and losing motivation. E.g. when writing a paper or working on any kind of project. ",
"Ways to give yourself a 'wake up' when you're getting tired and losing motivation. E.g. when writing a paper or working on any kind of project. ",
"Ways to give yourself a 'wake up' when you're getting tired and losing motivation. E.g. when writing a paper or working on any kind of project. ",
"Ways to give yourself a 'wake up' when you're getting tired and losing motivation. E.g. when writing a paper or working on any kind of project. ",
"Ways to give yourself a 'wake up' when you're getting tired and losing motivation. E.g. when writing a paper or working on any kind of project. "
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"I picked up one habit a couple years back that works for me. When I started to feel a little brain dead from working on papers (I'm an English major and have to write a lot) every hour or so I would take a fifteen minute break and learn a new useless talent over the course of writing my paper. \n\nFor instance, the first time I taught myself how to solve a rubik's cube, and later, I taught myself how to juggle. By doing this, it gave me something completely unrelated to focus on and recharged me a little bit.\n\nI hope that helped.",
"wash your face and drink some water. being hydrated greatly improves attentiveness and is something many people do not realize the importance of. i also find bright lights tire out my eyes a lot, so i like to dim the computer screen at times. if you have a laptop, move to a different room, if possible. be sure to take a 15min break every hour, also!",
"Often when I am writing a history paper I will either use candy incentives( like M&Ms ) or I woul when I am tapped out of thought, do 10 push-ups/sit-ups to both train my body and rejuvenate my mind. ",
"[you brush your teeth! chchchch-chchchchch](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3dup3IArSNs) \n\nbut seriously, it gives you a little break and you feel all refreshed after.",
"Take a break. Grab a cup of coffee and walk away from your studies/paper for half an hour. When you sit down you will have a new approach. If it's late at night, go to bed. Sit back down tomorrow and again, you'll have a fresh approach.\n",
"As a musician without an outlet in college, I tend to, over the course of writing a paper, take small breaks every hour or so and make a quick beat with whatever I have on hand. For example, every break i'll record a small tidbit of a drum beat I have in mind for a new song, or some new melodies I've been thinking about.\nAnd then, at then when I finish the paper I go back and listen to all the new melodies and beats I thought of and incorporate them into a song.\nThis makes doing menial work decently rewarding because you're doing something you love.\nI'm sure this would also work with art, drawing/painting a small portion of a new piece every break. \nAnyways, I hope this gets those brain juices a-flowing! \n"
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"How to stop being so hung up on forgotten thoughts? For some reason, forgetting what I was going to do or look up really bothers me to an unreasonable extreme. Even if it was something small and miniscule, just the fact that something I really wanted to do has slipped my mind so easily makes me sad and frustrated. Sometimes, what I was going to do was important, and the only thing I remember about the thought was that it was important and I no longer have that very important thought. How do I cope with having forgotten a thought?\n\nBetter yet, how do I remember what I was going to do?",
"How to stop being so hung up on forgotten thoughts? For some reason, forgetting what I was going to do or look up really bothers me to an unreasonable extreme. Even if it was something small and miniscule, just the fact that something I really wanted to do has slipped my mind so easily makes me sad and frustrated. Sometimes, what I was going to do was important, and the only thing I remember about the thought was that it was important and I no longer have that very important thought. How do I cope with having forgotten a thought?\n\nBetter yet, how do I remember what I was going to do?"
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"A few ideas... First, keep a small notepad and write down the list of things to do. Not just the important thing, but all the things you need to remember. Going through that motion also imprints it on your mind. Second, say things out loud, like, \"remember to lock the door.\" \"Remember to stop for gas.\" ",
"I use a journal app my phone. Everything I want to remember goes in there; to do lists, random thoughts, etc. I use tags to make sure I can find things again. I have chronic memory issues so outsourcing memory retention is the best option I have. "
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"Ultimate College Textbook Guide Ive seen the guide here before and I thought i saved it but i guess not. Does anyone have the guide to get free textbooks online. Thanks",
"Ultimate College Textbook Guide Ive seen the guide here before and I thought i saved it but i guess not. Does anyone have the guide to get free textbooks online. Thanks",
"Ultimate College Textbook Guide Ive seen the guide here before and I thought i saved it but i guess not. Does anyone have the guide to get free textbooks online. Thanks"
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"found it. for those interested http://www.reddit.com/r/trackers/comments/16wjvq/anyone_looking_for_an_ebooktextbook_read_this/",
"A list Compilation from a while ago.\n\n\nPublic\n\nhttp://gen.lib.rus.ec (They are blocking U.S. IP addresses, use a foreign proxy to get around it)\n\nhttp://textbooknova.com\n\nhttp://en.bookfi.org/\n\nhttp://library.nu (invite only, Library.nu book request thread) - putting this here only because it fits with the rest of the public DDL sites R.I.P.\n\nhttp://wormhole.in (specializes in math/science-need to register)\n\nhttp://ebooksbay.org\n\nhttp://warez-bb.org (need to register and then go to eBooks)\n\nhttp://www.gutenberg.org\n\nhttp://www.updatebooks.com\n\nhttp://ebookee.org\n\nhttp://www.manybooks.net\n\nhttp://ebookshare.net\n\nhttp://book.libertorrent.com/\n\nhttp://www.giuciao.com\n\nhttp://www.feedurbrain.com\n\nhttp://oll.libertyfund.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=380\n\nhttp://www.alleng.ru/\n\nhttp://www.eknigu.com/\n\nhttp://ishare.iask.sina.com.cn/\n\nhttp://www.jubad.com/\n\nhttp://btebook.com/0-01a8edbf9d27cebe.htm\n\nhttp://www.cnshare.org/\n\nhttp://www.bookgo.org/\n\nhttp://www.pdfchm.com/\n\nhttp://2020ok.com/\n\nhttp://bbs.topsage.com/index_121.html\n\nhttp://www.ebookshare.net/\n\nhttp://nips.djvuzone.org/index.html\n\nhttp://www.zainbooks.com/\n\nhttp://free-books.us.to/\n\nhttp://www.freebookspot.es/Default.aspx\n\nhttp://www.freeetextbooks.com (need to register)\n\nhttp://ebooksshares.org (need to register)\n\nhttp://onebigtorrent.org\n\nhttp://www.downeu.com\n\nhttp://ebook-torrent-library.info (need to register)\n\nhttp://forums.mvgroup.org (need to register)\n\nhttp://theaudiobookbay.com (audiobooks)\n\n By: \"ratokursi\"\n\n Here's a custom search engine for ebooks: http://www.google.com/cse/home?cx=000661023013169144559:a1-kkiboeco\n\n Sites it indexes: http://gen.lib.rus.ec/*\n\n http://ebookee.org/*\n\n http://ebooksbay.org/*\n\n http://free-books.us.to/*\n\n http://librarypirate.me/*\n\n http://textbooknova.com/*\n\n http://www.downeu.com/*\n\n http://ebookshare.net/*\n\n http://www.freebookspot.es/*\n\n http://www.demonoid.me/*\n\n http://www.kat.ph/*\n\n http://www.esnips.com/*\n\n www.4shared.com/*\n\n http://www.ebooklink.net/*\n\n http://wowebook.net/*\n\n http://www.pdfchm.net/*\n\n http://www.free-ebook-download.net/*\n\n http://ebookbrowse.com/*\n\n http://www.ebook3000.com/*\n\n http://www.ipmart-forum.com/*\n\n http://www.mediafire.com/*\n\nThe following are general public torrent trackers:\n\nhttp://thepiratebay.org/browse/601\n\nhttp://www.demonoid.me/files/?category=11&subcategory=0&language=0&seeded=0&external=2&query=&uid=0&sort=\n\nhttp://www.kat.ph/books/\n\nhttp://bitsnoop.com/browse/other-ebooks/\n\nhttp://torrentz.eu\n\nhttp://torrent-finder.info\n\nThe following site searches direct download sites like megaupload R.I.P./rapidshare/etc:\n\nhttp://www.filestube.com\n\nYou can also try googling phrases like \"textbook/book title .torrent\" or \"textbook/book title .pdf\" or \"textbook/book title ebook\" or anything along those lines.\n\nPrivate (Feel free to make a request for any of these in the Consolidated Invite Thread.\n\nhttp://bibliotik.org R.I.P. IT IS ALIVE!\n\nhttp://bitme.org\n\nhttp://myanonamouse.net (see sidebar for invite)\n\nhttp://bitspyder.net\n\nhttp://www.learnbits.me\n\nhttp://www.ebookvortex.com\n\nhttp://elbitz.net\n\nhttp://docspedia.org\n\nhttp://abtorrents.com (audiobooks)\n\nThese last few are sort of specialized eBook private trackers. Google them for info.\n\nhttp://thegeeks.bz\n\nhttp://theplace.bz\n\nhttp://thevault.bz\n\nhttp://bitseduce.com\n\nhttp://salad.tl\n\nGeneral private trackers have some stuff too, try places like TL or DH and trackers like them. Reddit's private tracker BaconBits has a nice collection of eBooks too.\n\nAlso, don't forget that What.CD and Waffles.FM both have a huge selection of eBooks.\n\nIRC (Don't overlook this)\n\nirc://irc.undernet.org/bookz\n\nirc://irc.irchighway.net/ebooks\n\nIf you don't know how to use IRC to download books, check out this link or read this:\n\n IRC Guide\n\n You obviously need an IRC client installed, a quick google search should find you a bunch of decent free ones.\n\n Load up the client and then type:\n\n /server irc.irchighway.net\n\n This will connect you to the irchighway server. Once you're on there, type:\n\n /join #ebooks\n\n This will take you into the ebooks channel, which has more than 2.2Terabytes of ebooks for free download. Once you're in, all you have to do to find what you want is to simply type:\n\n @search \"Author or book title\"\n\n ... removing the inverted commas.\n\n You'll get a message saying that your search has been accepted. A few seconds later a searchbot will offer you a file, so accept the download. That will send you a .txt file that's zipped. Extract that and you'll get a list of files. I searched for Lian Hearn and got a list of 147 files. Here's an extract from it:\n\n !bald Lian Hearn - [Tales Of The Otori 02] - Grass For His Pillow .rar - 142.1 KB !bald Lian Hearn - Tales of the Otori 2 - Grass for His Pillow (CO.rar - 355.3 KB !bald Lian Hearn - Tales of the Otori 2 - Grass for His Pillow (ht.rar - 140.54 KB !bald LianHearn-[Otori_01]-Across_The_Nightingale_Floor(v3).rar - 111.62 KB !bald Lian_Hearn-[Otori_01]-Across_the_Nightingale_Floor(v4.0.rar - 115.45 KB !bald Lian Hearn - [Tales Of The Otori 03] - Brilliance Of The Moo.rar - 175.53 KB !bald Lian Hearn - [Tales Of The Otori 04] - The Harsh Cry of the Heron (v1.0) (html).rar - 351.80 KB !bald Lian Hearn - [Tales Of the Otori 05] - Heaven's Net Is Wide (v5.0) (epub).rar - 588.40 KB\n\n Say I wanted to download the first book. I'd copy the text shown below, deliberately removing the file size information (I've been booted for that before ):\n\n !bald Lian Hearn - [Tales Of The Otori 02] - Grass For His Pillow .rar\n\n Then just paste that into the IRC window then press enter. After 2-3 seconds you get a prompt asking you to accept or decline the file.You know how to do the rest.\n",
"Great alternatives to your assigned textbooks, with the same content, for $20: https://www.boundless.com/\n\nDisclaimer: this is my day job."
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"How to avoid inhaling engine exhaust when using a snowblower I got a snowblower for the winter for the very first time and it operates smoothly. However, I have discovered that I inhale too much exhaust fumes when starting and operating it. Is there a way to get around this? I don't want carbon monoxide in my system.",
"How to avoid inhaling engine exhaust when using a snowblower I got a snowblower for the winter for the very first time and it operates smoothly. However, I have discovered that I inhale too much exhaust fumes when starting and operating it. Is there a way to get around this? I don't want carbon monoxide in my system.",
"How to avoid inhaling engine exhaust when using a snowblower I got a snowblower for the winter for the very first time and it operates smoothly. However, I have discovered that I inhale too much exhaust fumes when starting and operating it. Is there a way to get around this? I don't want carbon monoxide in my system."
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"You can separately purchase hood attachments (they call them 'cabs' because they look like the cab on a piece of construction equipment) that protect you from blowing snow and would also probably do the same for the exhaust.\n\nIf you go to ebay and type in \"snow blower cab\", you'll see a number of variations. Then if you search for your specific model of snowblower at either its manufacturer's website or at the webpage for the store where it was sold, there might be dedicated ones. At minimum there should be universal clamp-on ones that you can also buy in your local area's general outdoor goods stores.\n\nAnd don't worry too much about inhaling Carbon Monoxide from exhaust. It's a product of incomplete combustion and flushes out easily if you're in open air. The fumes are unpleasant and loaded with other unhealthy chemicals, but CO is not the chief concern.\n",
"Is there any way you could perhaps extend the exhaust to distribute it away from you better? Bit of tubing and some duct tape?",
"I know it might be difficult to do this, but if you always operate the machine with the wind to your back, you'll avoid the exhaust. If there's no wind, well...\n\nAlternatively, you could buy a respirator mask and fabricate an intake hose onto it, and extend the hose down your leg, with the opening close to the ground. But it might be easier to just convert the blower to electric!"
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"How to handle your emotions during an argument or disagreement? Hey everyone,\n\nI've found a recurring theme in my life. When I call to get something fixed or argue with someone I know, my nervousness, anger and any other emotion overwhelms me. This isn't to say that I say things I shouldn't, I know when to walk away. \n\nMy problem is actually the opposite: I get so overwhelmed that my brain shuts down and I can't verbalize thoughts that I would verbalize perfectly fine in a controlled debate/environment. \n\nAn example: I asked get paperwork fixed, company agrees and after two weeks they didn't even try to fix it and said it's too late to start now. I called them and the person on the phone was quite rude. This, combined with my anger and nervousness at the time, made my brain just shut down and I kind of sighed and did nothing about my paperwork issue, despite knowing I should discuss other options with them. In the end I had to get a more level-headed friend to help me explore options with them and find another way to get it fixed. \n\nHow can I better remain level-headed in such encounters?\n\nThanks in advance!",
"How to handle your emotions during an argument or disagreement? Hey everyone,\n\nI've found a recurring theme in my life. When I call to get something fixed or argue with someone I know, my nervousness, anger and any other emotion overwhelms me. This isn't to say that I say things I shouldn't, I know when to walk away. \n\nMy problem is actually the opposite: I get so overwhelmed that my brain shuts down and I can't verbalize thoughts that I would verbalize perfectly fine in a controlled debate/environment. \n\nAn example: I asked get paperwork fixed, company agrees and after two weeks they didn't even try to fix it and said it's too late to start now. I called them and the person on the phone was quite rude. This, combined with my anger and nervousness at the time, made my brain just shut down and I kind of sighed and did nothing about my paperwork issue, despite knowing I should discuss other options with them. In the end I had to get a more level-headed friend to help me explore options with them and find another way to get it fixed. \n\nHow can I better remain level-headed in such encounters?\n\nThanks in advance!",
"How to handle your emotions during an argument or disagreement? Hey everyone,\n\nI've found a recurring theme in my life. When I call to get something fixed or argue with someone I know, my nervousness, anger and any other emotion overwhelms me. This isn't to say that I say things I shouldn't, I know when to walk away. \n\nMy problem is actually the opposite: I get so overwhelmed that my brain shuts down and I can't verbalize thoughts that I would verbalize perfectly fine in a controlled debate/environment. \n\nAn example: I asked get paperwork fixed, company agrees and after two weeks they didn't even try to fix it and said it's too late to start now. I called them and the person on the phone was quite rude. This, combined with my anger and nervousness at the time, made my brain just shut down and I kind of sighed and did nothing about my paperwork issue, despite knowing I should discuss other options with them. In the end I had to get a more level-headed friend to help me explore options with them and find another way to get it fixed. \n\nHow can I better remain level-headed in such encounters?\n\nThanks in advance!",
"How to handle your emotions during an argument or disagreement? Hey everyone,\n\nI've found a recurring theme in my life. When I call to get something fixed or argue with someone I know, my nervousness, anger and any other emotion overwhelms me. This isn't to say that I say things I shouldn't, I know when to walk away. \n\nMy problem is actually the opposite: I get so overwhelmed that my brain shuts down and I can't verbalize thoughts that I would verbalize perfectly fine in a controlled debate/environment. \n\nAn example: I asked get paperwork fixed, company agrees and after two weeks they didn't even try to fix it and said it's too late to start now. I called them and the person on the phone was quite rude. This, combined with my anger and nervousness at the time, made my brain just shut down and I kind of sighed and did nothing about my paperwork issue, despite knowing I should discuss other options with them. In the end I had to get a more level-headed friend to help me explore options with them and find another way to get it fixed. \n\nHow can I better remain level-headed in such encounters?\n\nThanks in advance!",
"How to handle your emotions during an argument or disagreement? Hey everyone,\n\nI've found a recurring theme in my life. When I call to get something fixed or argue with someone I know, my nervousness, anger and any other emotion overwhelms me. This isn't to say that I say things I shouldn't, I know when to walk away. \n\nMy problem is actually the opposite: I get so overwhelmed that my brain shuts down and I can't verbalize thoughts that I would verbalize perfectly fine in a controlled debate/environment. \n\nAn example: I asked get paperwork fixed, company agrees and after two weeks they didn't even try to fix it and said it's too late to start now. I called them and the person on the phone was quite rude. This, combined with my anger and nervousness at the time, made my brain just shut down and I kind of sighed and did nothing about my paperwork issue, despite knowing I should discuss other options with them. In the end I had to get a more level-headed friend to help me explore options with them and find another way to get it fixed. \n\nHow can I better remain level-headed in such encounters?\n\nThanks in advance!",
"How to handle your emotions during an argument or disagreement? Hey everyone,\n\nI've found a recurring theme in my life. When I call to get something fixed or argue with someone I know, my nervousness, anger and any other emotion overwhelms me. This isn't to say that I say things I shouldn't, I know when to walk away. \n\nMy problem is actually the opposite: I get so overwhelmed that my brain shuts down and I can't verbalize thoughts that I would verbalize perfectly fine in a controlled debate/environment. \n\nAn example: I asked get paperwork fixed, company agrees and after two weeks they didn't even try to fix it and said it's too late to start now. I called them and the person on the phone was quite rude. This, combined with my anger and nervousness at the time, made my brain just shut down and I kind of sighed and did nothing about my paperwork issue, despite knowing I should discuss other options with them. In the end I had to get a more level-headed friend to help me explore options with them and find another way to get it fixed. \n\nHow can I better remain level-headed in such encounters?\n\nThanks in advance!",
"How to handle your emotions during an argument or disagreement? Hey everyone,\n\nI've found a recurring theme in my life. When I call to get something fixed or argue with someone I know, my nervousness, anger and any other emotion overwhelms me. This isn't to say that I say things I shouldn't, I know when to walk away. \n\nMy problem is actually the opposite: I get so overwhelmed that my brain shuts down and I can't verbalize thoughts that I would verbalize perfectly fine in a controlled debate/environment. \n\nAn example: I asked get paperwork fixed, company agrees and after two weeks they didn't even try to fix it and said it's too late to start now. I called them and the person on the phone was quite rude. This, combined with my anger and nervousness at the time, made my brain just shut down and I kind of sighed and did nothing about my paperwork issue, despite knowing I should discuss other options with them. In the end I had to get a more level-headed friend to help me explore options with them and find another way to get it fixed. \n\nHow can I better remain level-headed in such encounters?\n\nThanks in advance!"
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" try to organize all of your thoughts before hand. for example, with your current situation you can do like:\n* how do we go about fixing this?\n* would you be able to fax me the paper work so i can fix it?\n* who do i have to speak to for it to get done?\n* how can i follow up?\n* what is the process that is needed in order to fix the mistake?\n* is there anything else i should know about the paper work? \nsometimes its better to ignore the rudeness and just get done what you have to get done. at the end you can even tell them to fuck off. but firstly stick to the task at hand.\nHope this helps :)",
"Practice.\n\nIt's one thing to know that things aren't personal, or that arguments are ultimately meaningless, or that sometimes people can't accept that they're wrong. It's another thing to actually maintain impartiality, patience, temperance, and control.\n\nIt's a lifestyle.",
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"Tried and true for me: Deep breathing, and counting to 10 - the thing with this is that it calms me down and also allows me a couple seconds to tell myself that whoever I'm interacting with is being rude/inconsiderate/stupid/what have you, so I can stick to my guns without getting too overwhelmed. If I tell myself the other person is being irrational, it forces me to confront them as I would a stubborn child so my patience and tolerance goes up without extinguishing my own emotion, and I'm still able to get my point across. \nI know that not every argument involves someone stupid or irrational but it's just a tactic to keep my head about me",
"Memorize and recite this Dunerism: \n\n\nI must not fear.\n\nFear is the mind-killer.\nFear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.\n\nI will face my fear.\nI will permit it to pass over me and through me.\n\nAnd when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.\nWhere the fear has gone there will be nothing.\n\nOnly I will remain.",
"I have this problem, and it has literally ruined my life. I still fall into the trap from time to time, and I have developed a well-practiced method (I call it a \"battle drill\") for controlling it. When I'm stressed I often forget to use it, but it works after the fact as well.\n\nThe reason it's so hard to control is that your body is built for the jungle and you live in the city. If you met a tiger, your only responses would be to run away or fight. When threatened, your brain identifies the threat and releases stress hormones (cortisole) into your blood. Your emotions take over because that instant access to violent energy is what saves you from tigers. You literally lose the ability to think up new ideas, and are only able to access old solutions, enacted forcefully (in the jungle this works; in the city, not so much). Sound familiar? Not your fault. \n\nWhat you (and I) have been doing is the equivalent of World War I-style frontal bayonet charges against enemy trenches and machineguns. You will always lose. Fight like the Viet Cong, always shifting position, always looking for better approaches. Play the long game, and try to slowly convince people rather than force them to admit error (few people can admit they are wrong). The psychological effect on you may be extremely good; you'll feel like you are in control, and are no longer the victim of your emotions. \n\nKeep saying \"STOP\" to yourself when you get spun up. Sometimes\nI say it out loud to reinforce it, and hearing it seems to help. \n\nWhile the encounter is going on, keep saying to yourself, \"this is not important.\" \n\nSay to the person, \"This is not that important to me, do whatever you want.\" Even if it is important (like the paperwork you mentioned), recognize that the other person isn't going to budge if you shout at him. Hang up and keep calling back until get a different person, and start over nicely with that person. \n\nRemind yourself that if you are unable to control what you are feeling and saying, so is the other person. They are equally trapped by their opinions and assumptions. \n\nIf it seems like the other person is deliberately goading, stare at you for a moment, then laugh out loud. Say, \"Okay, whatever you say,\" and walk away chuckling. This will shift the power back to you, and probably infuriate him.\n\nInstead of making statements (\"The data doesn't support that!\"), ask questions (\"Where are you getting that information? Why do you think that? What about ____? How is this different from ___?\") By making the other person explain, you may also make him think. If nothing else, it helps you feel like you are guiding the discussion rather than being swept along by it. Avoid \"yes-or-no\" questions; stick to questions that make the other person think. Make him explain rather than just reiterate his opinion. In problem-solving situations (e. g. customer service), keep coming back to \"What can I do/Who can I talk with to get this fixed?\" Remember that the objective is not make him admit that he's wrong, it's rather to allow you to remain in control and make both people argue with the brain, not heart (emotions). Sometimes making the person explain will cause him to change his own mind. \n\nUse the other person's name. If you're on the phone and the person says, \"This is Thomas, can I help you?\" write it down and use it. Keep beginning your sentences with, \"Thomas, I...\" \n\nSince you have the person's name, after you walk away use it as a weapon. If it's someone in, say, customer service, contact the person's company via email or another customer service representative, and say, \"Thomas told me that x y and z, and I think there must be some other way to solve this problem. Can you help me?\" \n\nKeep being nice. The person may deserve to be treated like a jerk, but if you want people to help you, you must treat them civilly even (especially) when they are being rude or incompetent. If nothing else, this will make everyone overhearing it think you are the better person. More importantly, it will make you think that, too. \n \nPlay the long game. I read about one man who was bumped off a flight, and the airline refused to help him in any way. He wrote to the company and told them that the representatives (gave their names) had assisted him greatly, gotten him the last available (but expensive) hotel room, and made him feel like a valued customer. He included the hotel receipt and asked if the airline could reimburse at least some of the cost. Because bosses are essentially shallow and harassed people who only want to hear good news, this letter went directly to the vice president for PR, who promptly sent a check for the full amount. Even if the story is apocryphal, the principle is sound. In your instance, you could say that the person (give the name) was not able to help with the late paperwork, but was very sympathetic and attempted to assist without success, while explaining the negative effects of the late paperwork on you. At the very least, the boss is likely to say, \"Hey, everybody! See how much good customer service matters? Everybody make a special effort from now on, goddammit!\" Even if it doesn't always work (what does?), the act of sending it off will give you sense of closure. And you will have embarrassed and confused the person who aggravated you, and made his boss pay attention to him, which makes most people nervous. From then on, he's likely to hear, \"Why are you being so rude? You're supposed to be the customer service superstar!\" Revenge is sweet.\n\nThese tactics only work if you use them, and when I get angry, I often forget about these tactics. I'll bet you already mentally revisit old arguments, or imagine arguments and encounters that haven't happened yet. So, instead, practice in your mind the best ways to deflect the other person. Even if you forget the method and let the other person get you upset, these tactics can work after the fact. Sit down, breathe deeply, and remind yourself that the issue was a momentary bump in the road of life. Keep saying \"STOP\" to yourself, out loud if possible. Then go get some brisk exercise to (literally, I'm not making this up) flush the stress hormones out of your system. Then go on with your life. Keep playing the long game, in everything. ",
"Just a heads up, there was a post with the same question about a month or so go with great advice. Search for it shouldn't take long to find it. Best of luck."
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"How to prevent a mental slump as you feel it coming on? Hi.\n\nSometimes when life get's crazy, I do the worst thing imaginable...I escape from everything. I don't do drugs or eat etc but I sleep, and that's often the same sometimes.\n\nBut anyway, life is crazy, and I feel it coming along, it's time to wake up but I decide not to, and I sleep. As the days go by, I sleep more...all until everything adds up and I cannot ignore it, and the only motivation I have to stay up is to not get screwed by life's challenges, or have to pay bills.\n\nSo how can one prevent a mental slump as you feel it coming along?\n\n### UPDATE\nThank you so much to everyone who commented with amazing feedback. The internet isn't always the crazy place we make it out to be. In taking your suggestions seriously and in the hopes that this will help someone else in my situation, here's a quick summary. Some might clash but it's simply everyone's opinion and the fact that they clash, means that there are so many shared reasons why to do certain things:\n\n**Friends**\nIf you have a good friend, get together and do something. Whether it's gym, coffee, or a game of (insert your favourite sport here), the distraction & activity will help your brain release endorphins that combat the slump. \n\n**Filter out your people**\nRemove toxic friendships totally. Even on Facebook. Hang around positive people who empower you. Just like hanging around drug-addicts will inevitably bring you down, hanging around positive, successful people will push you forward.\n\n**Just start with one thing**\nWe all suffer from procrastination so just pick one small task and dive in. By the time you finish it, whether it's doing the dishes or even getting up to brush your teeth, your brain is going to be too busy feeling gratification from \"finishing something\" and will make it easier to begin the next thing so that it can feel more of it.\n\n**Keep pushing for a great routine**\nNothing is easier done than something that's a part of our routine. Keep working toward a solid routine of getting up on time, eating healthy, getting exercise and enough sleep, so that it's not something we have to **try** to do, we just do it.\n\n**Get emotionally charged**\nThere are things that charge us up emotionally, pump us up and get us excited to do things, it can be music, it can be quotes, it can be reflecting on someone else's story, it can be running, but whatever it is, find it and use it. Think of it as a 'cheat code' in life to get you a limited boost that you can use to juust level up, enough to then carry on.\n\n**Get distracted**\nNot from work, but from the bad things. We should try our best to face challenges in life but for some more lingering emotions, like after a relationship break up, get distracted, either by watching a film, or TV show, read a book, go for a walk, this relates and links to advice above. The less time your brain spends falling down into a hole, the less time you need to spend bringing it back, so, get distracted.\n\n**Remember, it will pass**\nYou have to remember that it will pass, because in this state of mind we sometimes think that it's forever, but it really isn't...\n\n**Be active**\nIf you find yourself becoming dormant, get your ass up and do something positive. Follow one of the above suggestions. The more dormant you are, the more you are feeding the slump.\n\n**Get a pen and paper**\nAnd create a next level to-do list, which is basically a regular to do list with an added step of what you need to do to get the task done.Example:\n\nTO DO LIST|NEXT STEP?\n:--|:--\nGet water pipe fixed|Search google for plumbers in the area, get 3 quotes\nGet rid of slump|Ask Reddit for advice, see what happens\nCreate a CV/Resume|Download templates from the net, create one\nGet in shape|Visit the gym, speak to them about packages and pricing\n\n**Immediately Exercise**\nSometimes exercising immediately will help when the adrenaline rush fills you and you're active, different for most people but I guess this one works if you're already active. If not, then start slow.\n\n**Read a book**\nEven a comic book.\n\nHere are two quotes:\n> Once you realize that something needs to be done, you have 5 seconds to start on it. Otherwise it will never get done.\n\n> \"If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you'll never get it done.\" - Bruce Lee.\n\nGood luck to everyone.",
"How to prevent a mental slump as you feel it coming on? Hi.\n\nSometimes when life get's crazy, I do the worst thing imaginable...I escape from everything. I don't do drugs or eat etc but I sleep, and that's often the same sometimes.\n\nBut anyway, life is crazy, and I feel it coming along, it's time to wake up but I decide not to, and I sleep. As the days go by, I sleep more...all until everything adds up and I cannot ignore it, and the only motivation I have to stay up is to not get screwed by life's challenges, or have to pay bills.\n\nSo how can one prevent a mental slump as you feel it coming along?\n\n### UPDATE\nThank you so much to everyone who commented with amazing feedback. The internet isn't always the crazy place we make it out to be. In taking your suggestions seriously and in the hopes that this will help someone else in my situation, here's a quick summary. Some might clash but it's simply everyone's opinion and the fact that they clash, means that there are so many shared reasons why to do certain things:\n\n**Friends**\nIf you have a good friend, get together and do something. Whether it's gym, coffee, or a game of (insert your favourite sport here), the distraction & activity will help your brain release endorphins that combat the slump. \n\n**Filter out your people**\nRemove toxic friendships totally. Even on Facebook. Hang around positive people who empower you. Just like hanging around drug-addicts will inevitably bring you down, hanging around positive, successful people will push you forward.\n\n**Just start with one thing**\nWe all suffer from procrastination so just pick one small task and dive in. By the time you finish it, whether it's doing the dishes or even getting up to brush your teeth, your brain is going to be too busy feeling gratification from \"finishing something\" and will make it easier to begin the next thing so that it can feel more of it.\n\n**Keep pushing for a great routine**\nNothing is easier done than something that's a part of our routine. Keep working toward a solid routine of getting up on time, eating healthy, getting exercise and enough sleep, so that it's not something we have to **try** to do, we just do it.\n\n**Get emotionally charged**\nThere are things that charge us up emotionally, pump us up and get us excited to do things, it can be music, it can be quotes, it can be reflecting on someone else's story, it can be running, but whatever it is, find it and use it. Think of it as a 'cheat code' in life to get you a limited boost that you can use to juust level up, enough to then carry on.\n\n**Get distracted**\nNot from work, but from the bad things. We should try our best to face challenges in life but for some more lingering emotions, like after a relationship break up, get distracted, either by watching a film, or TV show, read a book, go for a walk, this relates and links to advice above. The less time your brain spends falling down into a hole, the less time you need to spend bringing it back, so, get distracted.\n\n**Remember, it will pass**\nYou have to remember that it will pass, because in this state of mind we sometimes think that it's forever, but it really isn't...\n\n**Be active**\nIf you find yourself becoming dormant, get your ass up and do something positive. Follow one of the above suggestions. The more dormant you are, the more you are feeding the slump.\n\n**Get a pen and paper**\nAnd create a next level to-do list, which is basically a regular to do list with an added step of what you need to do to get the task done.Example:\n\nTO DO LIST|NEXT STEP?\n:--|:--\nGet water pipe fixed|Search google for plumbers in the area, get 3 quotes\nGet rid of slump|Ask Reddit for advice, see what happens\nCreate a CV/Resume|Download templates from the net, create one\nGet in shape|Visit the gym, speak to them about packages and pricing\n\n**Immediately Exercise**\nSometimes exercising immediately will help when the adrenaline rush fills you and you're active, different for most people but I guess this one works if you're already active. If not, then start slow.\n\n**Read a book**\nEven a comic book.\n\nHere are two quotes:\n> Once you realize that something needs to be done, you have 5 seconds to start on it. Otherwise it will never get done.\n\n> \"If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you'll never get it done.\" - Bruce Lee.\n\nGood luck to everyone.",
"How to prevent a mental slump as you feel it coming on? Hi.\n\nSometimes when life get's crazy, I do the worst thing imaginable...I escape from everything. I don't do drugs or eat etc but I sleep, and that's often the same sometimes.\n\nBut anyway, life is crazy, and I feel it coming along, it's time to wake up but I decide not to, and I sleep. As the days go by, I sleep more...all until everything adds up and I cannot ignore it, and the only motivation I have to stay up is to not get screwed by life's challenges, or have to pay bills.\n\nSo how can one prevent a mental slump as you feel it coming along?\n\n### UPDATE\nThank you so much to everyone who commented with amazing feedback. The internet isn't always the crazy place we make it out to be. In taking your suggestions seriously and in the hopes that this will help someone else in my situation, here's a quick summary. Some might clash but it's simply everyone's opinion and the fact that they clash, means that there are so many shared reasons why to do certain things:\n\n**Friends**\nIf you have a good friend, get together and do something. Whether it's gym, coffee, or a game of (insert your favourite sport here), the distraction & activity will help your brain release endorphins that combat the slump. \n\n**Filter out your people**\nRemove toxic friendships totally. Even on Facebook. Hang around positive people who empower you. Just like hanging around drug-addicts will inevitably bring you down, hanging around positive, successful people will push you forward.\n\n**Just start with one thing**\nWe all suffer from procrastination so just pick one small task and dive in. By the time you finish it, whether it's doing the dishes or even getting up to brush your teeth, your brain is going to be too busy feeling gratification from \"finishing something\" and will make it easier to begin the next thing so that it can feel more of it.\n\n**Keep pushing for a great routine**\nNothing is easier done than something that's a part of our routine. Keep working toward a solid routine of getting up on time, eating healthy, getting exercise and enough sleep, so that it's not something we have to **try** to do, we just do it.\n\n**Get emotionally charged**\nThere are things that charge us up emotionally, pump us up and get us excited to do things, it can be music, it can be quotes, it can be reflecting on someone else's story, it can be running, but whatever it is, find it and use it. Think of it as a 'cheat code' in life to get you a limited boost that you can use to juust level up, enough to then carry on.\n\n**Get distracted**\nNot from work, but from the bad things. We should try our best to face challenges in life but for some more lingering emotions, like after a relationship break up, get distracted, either by watching a film, or TV show, read a book, go for a walk, this relates and links to advice above. The less time your brain spends falling down into a hole, the less time you need to spend bringing it back, so, get distracted.\n\n**Remember, it will pass**\nYou have to remember that it will pass, because in this state of mind we sometimes think that it's forever, but it really isn't...\n\n**Be active**\nIf you find yourself becoming dormant, get your ass up and do something positive. Follow one of the above suggestions. The more dormant you are, the more you are feeding the slump.\n\n**Get a pen and paper**\nAnd create a next level to-do list, which is basically a regular to do list with an added step of what you need to do to get the task done.Example:\n\nTO DO LIST|NEXT STEP?\n:--|:--\nGet water pipe fixed|Search google for plumbers in the area, get 3 quotes\nGet rid of slump|Ask Reddit for advice, see what happens\nCreate a CV/Resume|Download templates from the net, create one\nGet in shape|Visit the gym, speak to them about packages and pricing\n\n**Immediately Exercise**\nSometimes exercising immediately will help when the adrenaline rush fills you and you're active, different for most people but I guess this one works if you're already active. If not, then start slow.\n\n**Read a book**\nEven a comic book.\n\nHere are two quotes:\n> Once you realize that something needs to be done, you have 5 seconds to start on it. Otherwise it will never get done.\n\n> \"If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you'll never get it done.\" - Bruce Lee.\n\nGood luck to everyone.",
"How to prevent a mental slump as you feel it coming on? Hi.\n\nSometimes when life get's crazy, I do the worst thing imaginable...I escape from everything. I don't do drugs or eat etc but I sleep, and that's often the same sometimes.\n\nBut anyway, life is crazy, and I feel it coming along, it's time to wake up but I decide not to, and I sleep. As the days go by, I sleep more...all until everything adds up and I cannot ignore it, and the only motivation I have to stay up is to not get screwed by life's challenges, or have to pay bills.\n\nSo how can one prevent a mental slump as you feel it coming along?\n\n### UPDATE\nThank you so much to everyone who commented with amazing feedback. The internet isn't always the crazy place we make it out to be. In taking your suggestions seriously and in the hopes that this will help someone else in my situation, here's a quick summary. Some might clash but it's simply everyone's opinion and the fact that they clash, means that there are so many shared reasons why to do certain things:\n\n**Friends**\nIf you have a good friend, get together and do something. Whether it's gym, coffee, or a game of (insert your favourite sport here), the distraction & activity will help your brain release endorphins that combat the slump. \n\n**Filter out your people**\nRemove toxic friendships totally. Even on Facebook. Hang around positive people who empower you. Just like hanging around drug-addicts will inevitably bring you down, hanging around positive, successful people will push you forward.\n\n**Just start with one thing**\nWe all suffer from procrastination so just pick one small task and dive in. By the time you finish it, whether it's doing the dishes or even getting up to brush your teeth, your brain is going to be too busy feeling gratification from \"finishing something\" and will make it easier to begin the next thing so that it can feel more of it.\n\n**Keep pushing for a great routine**\nNothing is easier done than something that's a part of our routine. Keep working toward a solid routine of getting up on time, eating healthy, getting exercise and enough sleep, so that it's not something we have to **try** to do, we just do it.\n\n**Get emotionally charged**\nThere are things that charge us up emotionally, pump us up and get us excited to do things, it can be music, it can be quotes, it can be reflecting on someone else's story, it can be running, but whatever it is, find it and use it. Think of it as a 'cheat code' in life to get you a limited boost that you can use to juust level up, enough to then carry on.\n\n**Get distracted**\nNot from work, but from the bad things. We should try our best to face challenges in life but for some more lingering emotions, like after a relationship break up, get distracted, either by watching a film, or TV show, read a book, go for a walk, this relates and links to advice above. The less time your brain spends falling down into a hole, the less time you need to spend bringing it back, so, get distracted.\n\n**Remember, it will pass**\nYou have to remember that it will pass, because in this state of mind we sometimes think that it's forever, but it really isn't...\n\n**Be active**\nIf you find yourself becoming dormant, get your ass up and do something positive. Follow one of the above suggestions. The more dormant you are, the more you are feeding the slump.\n\n**Get a pen and paper**\nAnd create a next level to-do list, which is basically a regular to do list with an added step of what you need to do to get the task done.Example:\n\nTO DO LIST|NEXT STEP?\n:--|:--\nGet water pipe fixed|Search google for plumbers in the area, get 3 quotes\nGet rid of slump|Ask Reddit for advice, see what happens\nCreate a CV/Resume|Download templates from the net, create one\nGet in shape|Visit the gym, speak to them about packages and pricing\n\n**Immediately Exercise**\nSometimes exercising immediately will help when the adrenaline rush fills you and you're active, different for most people but I guess this one works if you're already active. If not, then start slow.\n\n**Read a book**\nEven a comic book.\n\nHere are two quotes:\n> Once you realize that something needs to be done, you have 5 seconds to start on it. Otherwise it will never get done.\n\n> \"If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you'll never get it done.\" - Bruce Lee.\n\nGood luck to everyone.",
"How to prevent a mental slump as you feel it coming on? Hi.\n\nSometimes when life get's crazy, I do the worst thing imaginable...I escape from everything. I don't do drugs or eat etc but I sleep, and that's often the same sometimes.\n\nBut anyway, life is crazy, and I feel it coming along, it's time to wake up but I decide not to, and I sleep. As the days go by, I sleep more...all until everything adds up and I cannot ignore it, and the only motivation I have to stay up is to not get screwed by life's challenges, or have to pay bills.\n\nSo how can one prevent a mental slump as you feel it coming along?\n\n### UPDATE\nThank you so much to everyone who commented with amazing feedback. The internet isn't always the crazy place we make it out to be. In taking your suggestions seriously and in the hopes that this will help someone else in my situation, here's a quick summary. Some might clash but it's simply everyone's opinion and the fact that they clash, means that there are so many shared reasons why to do certain things:\n\n**Friends**\nIf you have a good friend, get together and do something. Whether it's gym, coffee, or a game of (insert your favourite sport here), the distraction & activity will help your brain release endorphins that combat the slump. \n\n**Filter out your people**\nRemove toxic friendships totally. Even on Facebook. Hang around positive people who empower you. Just like hanging around drug-addicts will inevitably bring you down, hanging around positive, successful people will push you forward.\n\n**Just start with one thing**\nWe all suffer from procrastination so just pick one small task and dive in. By the time you finish it, whether it's doing the dishes or even getting up to brush your teeth, your brain is going to be too busy feeling gratification from \"finishing something\" and will make it easier to begin the next thing so that it can feel more of it.\n\n**Keep pushing for a great routine**\nNothing is easier done than something that's a part of our routine. Keep working toward a solid routine of getting up on time, eating healthy, getting exercise and enough sleep, so that it's not something we have to **try** to do, we just do it.\n\n**Get emotionally charged**\nThere are things that charge us up emotionally, pump us up and get us excited to do things, it can be music, it can be quotes, it can be reflecting on someone else's story, it can be running, but whatever it is, find it and use it. Think of it as a 'cheat code' in life to get you a limited boost that you can use to juust level up, enough to then carry on.\n\n**Get distracted**\nNot from work, but from the bad things. We should try our best to face challenges in life but for some more lingering emotions, like after a relationship break up, get distracted, either by watching a film, or TV show, read a book, go for a walk, this relates and links to advice above. The less time your brain spends falling down into a hole, the less time you need to spend bringing it back, so, get distracted.\n\n**Remember, it will pass**\nYou have to remember that it will pass, because in this state of mind we sometimes think that it's forever, but it really isn't...\n\n**Be active**\nIf you find yourself becoming dormant, get your ass up and do something positive. Follow one of the above suggestions. The more dormant you are, the more you are feeding the slump.\n\n**Get a pen and paper**\nAnd create a next level to-do list, which is basically a regular to do list with an added step of what you need to do to get the task done.Example:\n\nTO DO LIST|NEXT STEP?\n:--|:--\nGet water pipe fixed|Search google for plumbers in the area, get 3 quotes\nGet rid of slump|Ask Reddit for advice, see what happens\nCreate a CV/Resume|Download templates from the net, create one\nGet in shape|Visit the gym, speak to them about packages and pricing\n\n**Immediately Exercise**\nSometimes exercising immediately will help when the adrenaline rush fills you and you're active, different for most people but I guess this one works if you're already active. If not, then start slow.\n\n**Read a book**\nEven a comic book.\n\nHere are two quotes:\n> Once you realize that something needs to be done, you have 5 seconds to start on it. Otherwise it will never get done.\n\n> \"If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you'll never get it done.\" - Bruce Lee.\n\nGood luck to everyone.",
"How to prevent a mental slump as you feel it coming on? Hi.\n\nSometimes when life get's crazy, I do the worst thing imaginable...I escape from everything. I don't do drugs or eat etc but I sleep, and that's often the same sometimes.\n\nBut anyway, life is crazy, and I feel it coming along, it's time to wake up but I decide not to, and I sleep. As the days go by, I sleep more...all until everything adds up and I cannot ignore it, and the only motivation I have to stay up is to not get screwed by life's challenges, or have to pay bills.\n\nSo how can one prevent a mental slump as you feel it coming along?\n\n### UPDATE\nThank you so much to everyone who commented with amazing feedback. The internet isn't always the crazy place we make it out to be. In taking your suggestions seriously and in the hopes that this will help someone else in my situation, here's a quick summary. Some might clash but it's simply everyone's opinion and the fact that they clash, means that there are so many shared reasons why to do certain things:\n\n**Friends**\nIf you have a good friend, get together and do something. Whether it's gym, coffee, or a game of (insert your favourite sport here), the distraction & activity will help your brain release endorphins that combat the slump. \n\n**Filter out your people**\nRemove toxic friendships totally. Even on Facebook. Hang around positive people who empower you. Just like hanging around drug-addicts will inevitably bring you down, hanging around positive, successful people will push you forward.\n\n**Just start with one thing**\nWe all suffer from procrastination so just pick one small task and dive in. By the time you finish it, whether it's doing the dishes or even getting up to brush your teeth, your brain is going to be too busy feeling gratification from \"finishing something\" and will make it easier to begin the next thing so that it can feel more of it.\n\n**Keep pushing for a great routine**\nNothing is easier done than something that's a part of our routine. Keep working toward a solid routine of getting up on time, eating healthy, getting exercise and enough sleep, so that it's not something we have to **try** to do, we just do it.\n\n**Get emotionally charged**\nThere are things that charge us up emotionally, pump us up and get us excited to do things, it can be music, it can be quotes, it can be reflecting on someone else's story, it can be running, but whatever it is, find it and use it. Think of it as a 'cheat code' in life to get you a limited boost that you can use to juust level up, enough to then carry on.\n\n**Get distracted**\nNot from work, but from the bad things. We should try our best to face challenges in life but for some more lingering emotions, like after a relationship break up, get distracted, either by watching a film, or TV show, read a book, go for a walk, this relates and links to advice above. The less time your brain spends falling down into a hole, the less time you need to spend bringing it back, so, get distracted.\n\n**Remember, it will pass**\nYou have to remember that it will pass, because in this state of mind we sometimes think that it's forever, but it really isn't...\n\n**Be active**\nIf you find yourself becoming dormant, get your ass up and do something positive. Follow one of the above suggestions. The more dormant you are, the more you are feeding the slump.\n\n**Get a pen and paper**\nAnd create a next level to-do list, which is basically a regular to do list with an added step of what you need to do to get the task done.Example:\n\nTO DO LIST|NEXT STEP?\n:--|:--\nGet water pipe fixed|Search google for plumbers in the area, get 3 quotes\nGet rid of slump|Ask Reddit for advice, see what happens\nCreate a CV/Resume|Download templates from the net, create one\nGet in shape|Visit the gym, speak to them about packages and pricing\n\n**Immediately Exercise**\nSometimes exercising immediately will help when the adrenaline rush fills you and you're active, different for most people but I guess this one works if you're already active. If not, then start slow.\n\n**Read a book**\nEven a comic book.\n\nHere are two quotes:\n> Once you realize that something needs to be done, you have 5 seconds to start on it. Otherwise it will never get done.\n\n> \"If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you'll never get it done.\" - Bruce Lee.\n\nGood luck to everyone.",
"How to prevent a mental slump as you feel it coming on? Hi.\n\nSometimes when life get's crazy, I do the worst thing imaginable...I escape from everything. I don't do drugs or eat etc but I sleep, and that's often the same sometimes.\n\nBut anyway, life is crazy, and I feel it coming along, it's time to wake up but I decide not to, and I sleep. As the days go by, I sleep more...all until everything adds up and I cannot ignore it, and the only motivation I have to stay up is to not get screwed by life's challenges, or have to pay bills.\n\nSo how can one prevent a mental slump as you feel it coming along?\n\n### UPDATE\nThank you so much to everyone who commented with amazing feedback. The internet isn't always the crazy place we make it out to be. In taking your suggestions seriously and in the hopes that this will help someone else in my situation, here's a quick summary. Some might clash but it's simply everyone's opinion and the fact that they clash, means that there are so many shared reasons why to do certain things:\n\n**Friends**\nIf you have a good friend, get together and do something. Whether it's gym, coffee, or a game of (insert your favourite sport here), the distraction & activity will help your brain release endorphins that combat the slump. \n\n**Filter out your people**\nRemove toxic friendships totally. Even on Facebook. Hang around positive people who empower you. Just like hanging around drug-addicts will inevitably bring you down, hanging around positive, successful people will push you forward.\n\n**Just start with one thing**\nWe all suffer from procrastination so just pick one small task and dive in. By the time you finish it, whether it's doing the dishes or even getting up to brush your teeth, your brain is going to be too busy feeling gratification from \"finishing something\" and will make it easier to begin the next thing so that it can feel more of it.\n\n**Keep pushing for a great routine**\nNothing is easier done than something that's a part of our routine. Keep working toward a solid routine of getting up on time, eating healthy, getting exercise and enough sleep, so that it's not something we have to **try** to do, we just do it.\n\n**Get emotionally charged**\nThere are things that charge us up emotionally, pump us up and get us excited to do things, it can be music, it can be quotes, it can be reflecting on someone else's story, it can be running, but whatever it is, find it and use it. Think of it as a 'cheat code' in life to get you a limited boost that you can use to juust level up, enough to then carry on.\n\n**Get distracted**\nNot from work, but from the bad things. We should try our best to face challenges in life but for some more lingering emotions, like after a relationship break up, get distracted, either by watching a film, or TV show, read a book, go for a walk, this relates and links to advice above. The less time your brain spends falling down into a hole, the less time you need to spend bringing it back, so, get distracted.\n\n**Remember, it will pass**\nYou have to remember that it will pass, because in this state of mind we sometimes think that it's forever, but it really isn't...\n\n**Be active**\nIf you find yourself becoming dormant, get your ass up and do something positive. Follow one of the above suggestions. The more dormant you are, the more you are feeding the slump.\n\n**Get a pen and paper**\nAnd create a next level to-do list, which is basically a regular to do list with an added step of what you need to do to get the task done.Example:\n\nTO DO LIST|NEXT STEP?\n:--|:--\nGet water pipe fixed|Search google for plumbers in the area, get 3 quotes\nGet rid of slump|Ask Reddit for advice, see what happens\nCreate a CV/Resume|Download templates from the net, create one\nGet in shape|Visit the gym, speak to them about packages and pricing\n\n**Immediately Exercise**\nSometimes exercising immediately will help when the adrenaline rush fills you and you're active, different for most people but I guess this one works if you're already active. If not, then start slow.\n\n**Read a book**\nEven a comic book.\n\nHere are two quotes:\n> Once you realize that something needs to be done, you have 5 seconds to start on it. Otherwise it will never get done.\n\n> \"If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you'll never get it done.\" - Bruce Lee.\n\nGood luck to everyone.",
"How to prevent a mental slump as you feel it coming on? Hi.\n\nSometimes when life get's crazy, I do the worst thing imaginable...I escape from everything. I don't do drugs or eat etc but I sleep, and that's often the same sometimes.\n\nBut anyway, life is crazy, and I feel it coming along, it's time to wake up but I decide not to, and I sleep. As the days go by, I sleep more...all until everything adds up and I cannot ignore it, and the only motivation I have to stay up is to not get screwed by life's challenges, or have to pay bills.\n\nSo how can one prevent a mental slump as you feel it coming along?\n\n### UPDATE\nThank you so much to everyone who commented with amazing feedback. The internet isn't always the crazy place we make it out to be. In taking your suggestions seriously and in the hopes that this will help someone else in my situation, here's a quick summary. Some might clash but it's simply everyone's opinion and the fact that they clash, means that there are so many shared reasons why to do certain things:\n\n**Friends**\nIf you have a good friend, get together and do something. Whether it's gym, coffee, or a game of (insert your favourite sport here), the distraction & activity will help your brain release endorphins that combat the slump. \n\n**Filter out your people**\nRemove toxic friendships totally. Even on Facebook. Hang around positive people who empower you. Just like hanging around drug-addicts will inevitably bring you down, hanging around positive, successful people will push you forward.\n\n**Just start with one thing**\nWe all suffer from procrastination so just pick one small task and dive in. By the time you finish it, whether it's doing the dishes or even getting up to brush your teeth, your brain is going to be too busy feeling gratification from \"finishing something\" and will make it easier to begin the next thing so that it can feel more of it.\n\n**Keep pushing for a great routine**\nNothing is easier done than something that's a part of our routine. Keep working toward a solid routine of getting up on time, eating healthy, getting exercise and enough sleep, so that it's not something we have to **try** to do, we just do it.\n\n**Get emotionally charged**\nThere are things that charge us up emotionally, pump us up and get us excited to do things, it can be music, it can be quotes, it can be reflecting on someone else's story, it can be running, but whatever it is, find it and use it. Think of it as a 'cheat code' in life to get you a limited boost that you can use to juust level up, enough to then carry on.\n\n**Get distracted**\nNot from work, but from the bad things. We should try our best to face challenges in life but for some more lingering emotions, like after a relationship break up, get distracted, either by watching a film, or TV show, read a book, go for a walk, this relates and links to advice above. The less time your brain spends falling down into a hole, the less time you need to spend bringing it back, so, get distracted.\n\n**Remember, it will pass**\nYou have to remember that it will pass, because in this state of mind we sometimes think that it's forever, but it really isn't...\n\n**Be active**\nIf you find yourself becoming dormant, get your ass up and do something positive. Follow one of the above suggestions. The more dormant you are, the more you are feeding the slump.\n\n**Get a pen and paper**\nAnd create a next level to-do list, which is basically a regular to do list with an added step of what you need to do to get the task done.Example:\n\nTO DO LIST|NEXT STEP?\n:--|:--\nGet water pipe fixed|Search google for plumbers in the area, get 3 quotes\nGet rid of slump|Ask Reddit for advice, see what happens\nCreate a CV/Resume|Download templates from the net, create one\nGet in shape|Visit the gym, speak to them about packages and pricing\n\n**Immediately Exercise**\nSometimes exercising immediately will help when the adrenaline rush fills you and you're active, different for most people but I guess this one works if you're already active. If not, then start slow.\n\n**Read a book**\nEven a comic book.\n\nHere are two quotes:\n> Once you realize that something needs to be done, you have 5 seconds to start on it. Otherwise it will never get done.\n\n> \"If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you'll never get it done.\" - Bruce Lee.\n\nGood luck to everyone.",
"How to prevent a mental slump as you feel it coming on? Hi.\n\nSometimes when life get's crazy, I do the worst thing imaginable...I escape from everything. I don't do drugs or eat etc but I sleep, and that's often the same sometimes.\n\nBut anyway, life is crazy, and I feel it coming along, it's time to wake up but I decide not to, and I sleep. As the days go by, I sleep more...all until everything adds up and I cannot ignore it, and the only motivation I have to stay up is to not get screwed by life's challenges, or have to pay bills.\n\nSo how can one prevent a mental slump as you feel it coming along?\n\n### UPDATE\nThank you so much to everyone who commented with amazing feedback. The internet isn't always the crazy place we make it out to be. In taking your suggestions seriously and in the hopes that this will help someone else in my situation, here's a quick summary. Some might clash but it's simply everyone's opinion and the fact that they clash, means that there are so many shared reasons why to do certain things:\n\n**Friends**\nIf you have a good friend, get together and do something. Whether it's gym, coffee, or a game of (insert your favourite sport here), the distraction & activity will help your brain release endorphins that combat the slump. \n\n**Filter out your people**\nRemove toxic friendships totally. Even on Facebook. Hang around positive people who empower you. Just like hanging around drug-addicts will inevitably bring you down, hanging around positive, successful people will push you forward.\n\n**Just start with one thing**\nWe all suffer from procrastination so just pick one small task and dive in. By the time you finish it, whether it's doing the dishes or even getting up to brush your teeth, your brain is going to be too busy feeling gratification from \"finishing something\" and will make it easier to begin the next thing so that it can feel more of it.\n\n**Keep pushing for a great routine**\nNothing is easier done than something that's a part of our routine. Keep working toward a solid routine of getting up on time, eating healthy, getting exercise and enough sleep, so that it's not something we have to **try** to do, we just do it.\n\n**Get emotionally charged**\nThere are things that charge us up emotionally, pump us up and get us excited to do things, it can be music, it can be quotes, it can be reflecting on someone else's story, it can be running, but whatever it is, find it and use it. Think of it as a 'cheat code' in life to get you a limited boost that you can use to juust level up, enough to then carry on.\n\n**Get distracted**\nNot from work, but from the bad things. We should try our best to face challenges in life but for some more lingering emotions, like after a relationship break up, get distracted, either by watching a film, or TV show, read a book, go for a walk, this relates and links to advice above. The less time your brain spends falling down into a hole, the less time you need to spend bringing it back, so, get distracted.\n\n**Remember, it will pass**\nYou have to remember that it will pass, because in this state of mind we sometimes think that it's forever, but it really isn't...\n\n**Be active**\nIf you find yourself becoming dormant, get your ass up and do something positive. Follow one of the above suggestions. The more dormant you are, the more you are feeding the slump.\n\n**Get a pen and paper**\nAnd create a next level to-do list, which is basically a regular to do list with an added step of what you need to do to get the task done.Example:\n\nTO DO LIST|NEXT STEP?\n:--|:--\nGet water pipe fixed|Search google for plumbers in the area, get 3 quotes\nGet rid of slump|Ask Reddit for advice, see what happens\nCreate a CV/Resume|Download templates from the net, create one\nGet in shape|Visit the gym, speak to them about packages and pricing\n\n**Immediately Exercise**\nSometimes exercising immediately will help when the adrenaline rush fills you and you're active, different for most people but I guess this one works if you're already active. If not, then start slow.\n\n**Read a book**\nEven a comic book.\n\nHere are two quotes:\n> Once you realize that something needs to be done, you have 5 seconds to start on it. Otherwise it will never get done.\n\n> \"If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you'll never get it done.\" - Bruce Lee.\n\nGood luck to everyone."
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"I know they're hard to come by, but if you have a good friend, get them on board for an activity challenge you come up with together beforehand. This could be something like going to the gym every second day, or for a run (and an ice cream afterwards, no need to be cruel...). Once you feel the slump coming, call them and say it's time for the challenge. This way you don't have to think about what to do at that moment because that alone can be a lot when you're in a slump... Hope this helps. ",
"Procrastination is a weakness of mine. Honestly, the best thing you can do is to pick one small task and just dive in. As tempting as it is to say, \"I'll do that in 5, 10, or 20 minutes,\" if you can just clear one thing out of the way it will feel natural to do the next thing and you get that momentum going. For example, I hate cleaning the house and the idea of cleaning the whole thing... I'm always too tired/too busy... so I'll decide to put away clothes that are piled on the dresser, then it makes sense to take care of the clothes on the bed, then before I know it the house is clean!The first step is the hardest. I read somewhere a few weeks ago you should just say, \"1 2 3 4 5 go!\" because you'll never WANT to do whatever it is you're putting off. You just have to do it. \n\nSo I guess I should follow my own advice and get back to work. :) ",
"One preventative measure is eating right.\n\nWhen I was in between semesters, I would eat any garbage I could buy cheap. When school started back, I started to eat healthier, and it picked up my motivation like you wouldn't believe.",
"I go to the gym, wake up early, try not to drink as much, and force myself to cook a decent dinner.\n\nCan't do it every day, but every day I can helps",
"Getting myself out of a slump now. We all have them, so just remind yourself daily, hourly, minutely, however often you need to that it will pass. Eating healthy during this time is especially important. Don't eat pizza and have a beer the first day you feel better, you'll crash the next day. Your mind and body are especially sensitive during this time for whatever reason. Set you alarm 15 minutes earlier each day. IE 9:00am - 8:45am, etc until you hit your normal wake up time before your slump. Right when you get up, jog for 15-20 minutes. Not jog hard, but just jog. It releases endorphines and will get you past the i just want to sleep mode. You'll feel like shit for 15 minutes after your jog if you are out of shape, but 15 minutes of shit vs a whole day is worth the trade off. ",
"Get aggressive when you notice it. Just keep up the aggressive energy long enough and you should feel better for at least the day. Rinse and repeat.\n\nIf you have trouble with faking aggression,watch or listen to something that pumps you up. Remember how you feel during the afterglow and mimic that when you're in a slump. It's really just a fake it till you make it.",
"You could try writing down everything that you have to do, a big list of the things that you have to face but don't want to. Then under each one write what it will take to make that thing go away, like, under Faucet Leaking write Call Plumber, etc. Makes it feel more manageable. Also maybe try to figure out exactly what that feeling is that you're trying to avoid by sleeping. Sure it's depression, but what exactly does that consist of? Disappointment, fear, anxiety (and if so what makes up that anxiety), ambivalent feelings...Figuring out the details of your \"life is crazy\" emotion could help. Or see a counselor.",
"Immediately hit the gym. Even if I feel like shit, if I feel like i can't keep my eyes open, that adrenaline after doing a 5k always wakes me up and keeps me up for the next few hours. You will always be happy you got to the gym, if at all. And it is very likely you will never just leave the gym once you get there. If I have no control over mental issues, I have control over physical aspects of my life which also spills over into the mental well being. ",
"A change is as good as a rest sometimes. Just do something out of the ordinary and it should reinvigorate you enough to get you by."
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"How do I prom? I am an antisocial male (diagnosable antisocial so I'm not just being dramatic), and a girl just asked me to prom. I was not planning on attending so I don't know what to do, what it will be like, and how to do anything? I said yes to not be a prick. So my question is, how do I prom? Anything will help.\n\n\n(Yes I understand that \"to prom\" is not a verb. I thought it sounded funny.)\n\n",
"How do I prom? I am an antisocial male (diagnosable antisocial so I'm not just being dramatic), and a girl just asked me to prom. I was not planning on attending so I don't know what to do, what it will be like, and how to do anything? I said yes to not be a prick. So my question is, how do I prom? Anything will help.\n\n\n(Yes I understand that \"to prom\" is not a verb. I thought it sounded funny.)\n\n",
"How do I prom? I am an antisocial male (diagnosable antisocial so I'm not just being dramatic), and a girl just asked me to prom. I was not planning on attending so I don't know what to do, what it will be like, and how to do anything? I said yes to not be a prick. So my question is, how do I prom? Anything will help.\n\n\n(Yes I understand that \"to prom\" is not a verb. I thought it sounded funny.)\n\n",
"How do I prom? I am an antisocial male (diagnosable antisocial so I'm not just being dramatic), and a girl just asked me to prom. I was not planning on attending so I don't know what to do, what it will be like, and how to do anything? I said yes to not be a prick. So my question is, how do I prom? Anything will help.\n\n\n(Yes I understand that \"to prom\" is not a verb. I thought it sounded funny.)\n\n",
"How do I prom? I am an antisocial male (diagnosable antisocial so I'm not just being dramatic), and a girl just asked me to prom. I was not planning on attending so I don't know what to do, what it will be like, and how to do anything? I said yes to not be a prick. So my question is, how do I prom? Anything will help.\n\n\n(Yes I understand that \"to prom\" is not a verb. I thought it sounded funny.)\n\n",
"How do I prom? I am an antisocial male (diagnosable antisocial so I'm not just being dramatic), and a girl just asked me to prom. I was not planning on attending so I don't know what to do, what it will be like, and how to do anything? I said yes to not be a prick. So my question is, how do I prom? Anything will help.\n\n\n(Yes I understand that \"to prom\" is not a verb. I thought it sounded funny.)\n\n",
"How do I prom? I am an antisocial male (diagnosable antisocial so I'm not just being dramatic), and a girl just asked me to prom. I was not planning on attending so I don't know what to do, what it will be like, and how to do anything? I said yes to not be a prick. So my question is, how do I prom? Anything will help.\n\n\n(Yes I understand that \"to prom\" is not a verb. I thought it sounded funny.)\n\n"
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"Find out the color of her dress. Match your tuxedo accordingly (either the bow, pocket square, or vest... Depending on style), order her a corsage. You provide transportation. Get ready to smile for a lot of pictures. \nDance with her during the \"prom song\". \nPullout her chair for her. \nIt's really pretty simple. Rent a tux, provide transport, get her a corsage, be a gentleman.",
"Just do whatever you can to make her feel comfortable, beautiful, and happy; and you will have a successful prom. Don't let any of your issues become her issues. The entire night is about her feeling like a princess. Do that, and you'll have a great time. Congrats! Have fun! \n\n",
"It depends on your school. My school has prom (and post-prom) at the school itself, though larger schools may host it somewhere else. The dance itself isn't anything spectacular in most cases, depending on how the school does the dance. If your school has a post-prom party, that's usually where more of the \"fun\" is. Prom itself is usually dancing, not always slow sappy songs like it's expected to be. Post-prom will have various activities and entertainment. If you haven't gone before, just go for it and roll with the punches. ",
"Get your crotch ready to grind for two hours straight, wear a tux/suit that matches, talk to her, put effort into the conversation, sway with her during the slow songs ",
"Find a group of friends that are also going, ask her if she knows of any. You all throw in for a limo and pick a place to eat. The limo will pick all of you up at the house yall pick, take you to dinner, then take you to prom. Buy a corsage from a flower store to give to her when you meet for the limo. That's it. There may be an after party she knows of yall can take a taxi to. ",
"Do you even want to go? Do you like her? \"Ugh, I just found out that my family will be away that weekend\" will be totally fine if you don't. I didn't go to my prom and am pretty happy with that decision years later. ",
"Are you two going alone or with other couples? Figure out where you want to take her for dinner, unless as hostess she is taking care of that, and be prepared for lots of pictures. Your house, her house, if you're going with other people, their houses, everyone wants pictures! Be prepared to smile.\n\nOnce you get there, relax. Talk, dance, and have a good time.\n\nWhat will you do after? Does your school have an after prom activity? A lot do, and that takes the pressure off of deciding where to go."
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"How can I carry my money, id, cards and pictures without having to sit on a bulky wallet or money clip? ",
"How can I carry my money, id, cards and pictures without having to sit on a bulky wallet or money clip? ",
"How can I carry my money, id, cards and pictures without having to sit on a bulky wallet or money clip? "
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"You could probably create some sort of portable large pocket. It should have some compartments so things will be organized. I would also add some sort of zipper, or clippers, to close this pocket. If it's big enough, you'll have enough space to store your cell phone and maybe some mints. It would be hard to carry that pocket from place to place, so it should have a strap that will enable you to carry it easily. \n\nWait, somebody have already [thought about this](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Satchel_(bag)). \n\nI have never understood why american males don't like side bags. In Europe they are very popular and even the macho men of the middle east use them. \n ",
"Get yourself a [Jimi wallet](http://www.thejimi.com/), it forces you to cut down the amount of cards you're carrying.\n\nAlternatively, (or after the Jimi's habits are ingrained in you and it finally wears out), you can get any old business card holder. This is what I'm doing now. My cr",
"I carry a satchel, but the front pocket works just fine. Always check to make sure you have your phone, keys, and wallet with you when you leave the house. And more recently Ive started bringing my cell phones spare battery."
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"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
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"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now.",
"Razor burn on a clean shave Im applying for jobs and have to be clean shaven for interviews but when I shave i breakout on my neck. Does anyone have any tips for controlling the breakout so it doesn't keep happening?\n\nThis has been amazing, I did not think this was going to get the attention it did...I have a lot of things I have to try out now."
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"As someone who has suffered with terrible, terrible razor-burn for his whole adult life, I finally have the answer to this.\n\nFirst, check for three things:\n\n* How thick your facial hair is.\n* if it is curly by nature (if you have ever grown out a full beard, you know if it is more curly or straight - this can differ from the hair on your head)\n* which direction your facial hair grows (if it grows in every which direction imaginable, go directly to an electric razor with safety-gates)\n\nNow, I have tried everything... I mean everything. 3/4/5-blade piece of trash razors that Gillette likes to lie about being good for your skin, straight razors, safety razors, shave gel, cream, soap/brush, balms, oils, etc. I have finally come up with a method that works for me, so here it is:\n\n* First, buy a safety razor. Regardless of what any ads try and tell you, one single blade at a perfect angle, taking one (two MAX) swipe across your face creates MUCH less irritation. Razor burn is essentially a combination of rug-burn caused by multiple blade-drags across the skin, and hair growing back under the skin. Keep in mind that safety razors take a bit of practice - do not rush!!\n* Second, buy a bottle of Shave Secret oil. Ignore the instruction on the bottle - they tell you to use only shave secret and not shaving cream/soap.\n* Shave immediately after getting out of the shower; otherwise hold a HOT washcloth over your whole face and neck for 3-5 minutes.\n* Splash some bearably hot water over your face (yes, even after the washcloth)\n* Apply Shave-Secret liberally all over your face. This stuff is the God's-honest-truth best stuff that exists.\n* Lather up your shave-soap or cream-base (preferable over gel or barbasol IMHO) and apply liberally. If using a brush (recommended), apply using a small-circular motion which will ensure cream gets under all the hairs.\n* Shave in the direction your hair grows - NOT AGAINST. This is a number-one cause of razor-burn-pustules. When you shave against the grain you are doing two things: cutting the hair so short it will pull back under the skin, and creating an odd-angle cut which will encourage the hair to get stuck under your skin and cause a pimple or razor-burn bump.\n* Using your safety razor requires a steady hand and a bit of focus. You do NOT have to press the blade into your face, the weight of the safety razor itself is enough to cause its blade to do its best cutting... so just rest it on your face and allow it to slide easily over the surface of your skin.\n* Rinse with warm water first, then shock your skin with very cold water. If you cut yourself, use an Alum block/stick soaked in cold water and hold it over the cut until it stops bleeding. Practice will all but eliminate cuts.\n* Finally, rinse again if you used some Alum, and apply a nice face-oil, balm or another coat of Shave-Secret oil. If a bit oily, wipe off the excess.\n* NOTE: Sometimes it takes 2-3 shaves for your face to get used to a safety razor. It may be sensitive the first couple times, so don't touch your face a lot - this can cause irritation.\n\nHope this helps! I think everyone has to find their own personal method, but as a fellow razor-burn-sufferer I have found that this gets rid of about 98% of all face irritation for me. I'm a lot more confident in how I look now.",
"Switch to a double edge razor:\n\n/r/wicked_edge \n\nor\n\n/r/shaving\n\ncan help.\n\nOne big thing that helped me is you need to map your face, sounds stupid but trust me... FInd out exactly which direction your hair grow on you face and neck and always shave with the grain (especially when you're only shaving stubble).\n\nIf you switch to a double edge razor and buy good blades, a good brush, and good shaving cream you can reduce your razor burn.",
"Magic Powder. \nIt's marketed for black men specifically to avoid razor burn. It works amazingly well. The only issue would be if your interviews are close together, I believe it says to wait 36 hrs between uses so you may have 5 o'clock shadow issues.\n\nI'm a woman, and do not shave my face, but other sensitive areas. I'm fair and sensitive skinned and always had terrible razor burn until I started using this stuff after seeing it on a reddit thread over a year ago.",
"Go to /r/wicked_edge and start absorbing as much knowledge as possible. The thing about traditional shaving is one size does not fit all. So do some reading about what are the most popular products and sample them. Don't be afraid to go against the most popular products mentioned there as everyones skin in different and you need to listen to yours. ",
"I don't have this issue personally, but a family member swears by this stuff: \n\nhttp://www.walmart.com/ip/Fruit-Of-The-Earth-Aloe-Vera-Gel-12-Oz/10314797\n\nHe uses this instead of creme to shave with. Has for close to 20 years. You might try it.",
"TendSkin. You can get it on Amazon, it cleared me up in less than a week without even shaving down my beard.",
"I'm going to end this debate right now.\n\nBump Patrol.\n\nSearch for it on Amazon.\n\nEvery single day. Right after you shower. Slather it on.\n\nMiss your shower? Slather it on your filthy face.\n\nAcne and razor burn until I was 25. Weekly. Bump Patrol, coupled with OTC benzyl peroxide for the acne and have never, ever had razor burn since and rarely get acne.\n\nThe key, though, is every single day.",
"Women's Deodorant. \n\nOn a whim, I followed the advice of the stripper that had an AMA and was asked the question about how she keeps her lady parts free of irritation after shaving. She said she used just a regular scent-free women's speedstick after each shave and she would never get irritation. I thought it was a joke until women started responding that they do the same thing and it really works. I've been using an extra stick my wife had for months now on my neck after a shave and it is amazing how big the difference is. I believe it works because it absorbs all the skin moisture from your neck, much like using alcohol-based after shaves would do, but it does it for a much longer period of time, ensuring razor bumps do not form.\n\n",
"Put a damp hand towel in the microwave for 30-60 seconds, when it gets to a comfortable temp hold it on your face. Remove and immediately apply shaving cream. With your off hand, push up on the skin above the area your going to shave- make the skin taut and shave the area only once and do not push hard. Repeat on your neck.\n\n\nWash and if you have missed any stubble, do not reshave the area. Wait at least 30 minutes before doing the process again yo hit those areas.\n\n\nYou want hairs soft, skin straight as possible, and do not push your razor too hard against your skin. Give your skin time to recover before reshaving.",
"All of the tips I've seen in the comments deal with blade razor methods - anyone got tips for how to deal with neck-burn from an electric?",
"To avoid any razor bumps on my lady parts I fill a shot glass with half water half milk mixture and use it as a lotion after shaving. Works wonders and will leave your skin milky smooth. ",
"Shave while taking a hot shower(wait like 2-3 minutes so your pores upen up). You won't even need any shaving cream. I used to suffer from really bad razor burn whenever I would shave regularly, since I switched to shaving in the shower I never got another razor burn again.",
"Take everybody's advice. All I got is afta shave. Its an after shave called afta shave. Its fucking brutally good. ",
"I actually [use this](http://i.walmartimages.com/i/p/00/38/13/70/04/0038137004459_500X500.jpg) as an aftershave. It's instant relief against any irritation.\n\nI also shave with a shaving soap and brush, not the foam from a can. Once I started using a brush I never went back.\n\nAfter a hot shower, I shave once with the grain then lather again and shave once against the grain. I shave about twice a week and have fairly thick hair.",
"use real witch hazel on your face after patting dry. it's astringent properties close pores and the alcohol is antiseptic. stops ingrown hairs, soothes and promotes healing. \n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Original-Witch-Hazel-Formula-Thayers/dp/B0085E6OC6/ref=sr_1_16?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1378178881&sr=1-16&keywords=witch+hazel",
"When you get razor burn, you have literally caused damage to your skin. The only way to stop razor burn is to find a shaving routine that works for your face and improve your technique. Better technique, less razor burn. The folks over at /r/wicked_edge have ditched multiblade cartridge razors in favor of single-blade safety and straight razors in pursuit of the best shave, and if you want to try that out, they have plenty of advice.\n\nIf you don't want to ditch your cartridge razor, or don't have time to learn a new technique, then I would suggest working on your pre-shave and post-shave routines. Be sure to shave after a shower, and wash your face again at the sink with high-glycerin soap. After a shave, try rubbing your face with an alum block (which will sting if you have razor burn), rinsing with cold water, then applying alcohol-free witch hazel (such as Thayer's) with a cotton ball. That will not prevent razor burn (because it's already happened), nor is it a magic cure for it, but it will help somewhat.",
"Are you black? Around one quarter of black people can't shave without irritation: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pseudofolliculitis_barbae",
"Straight razor is the way to go. The initial purchase for the stuff you need is a little pricey but it is much less expensive in the long run and will give you a superior shave with much less irritation. ",
"Maybe it's the type of razor blade you're using, OP. The blade should be able to smoothly glide along the skin.",
"I'm not a man, but I shave other sensitive areas, and I always dab some peroxide on as soon as I step out of the shower. I've never had razor burn since.",
"I had the same problem. For me the answer was a double edge safety razor and liberal use of coconut oil instead of shave soap or lotion. I use coconut oil as my after shave lotion too. Also a really hot shower before.",
"Go to r/wickededge for starters and get into wet shaving. Either a straight, which I prefer, or a double or safety razor will replace your mach 3s. Water temp doesn't matter as much as some will let you believe, is more a matter of comfort. Get a pre-shave oil and stretch out your face when you shave to reduce irritation. There is a bit of a learning curve but don't get discouraged and follow the advice given over at wicked edge- they are amazing.",
"Been having amazing results with my safety razor and olive oil combo. Shaved three consecutive days ATG and no burn. ",
"read an interesting news article about this symptom the other day:\n\nhttp://www.metroactive.com/papers/metro/11.14.96/shaving-9646.html\n\nSome company got sued by the Equal Opportunity Commission because it violated African Americans rights.",
"http://www.soap.com/p/bump-patrol-aftershave-razor-bump-treatment-84296?site=CA&utm_source=Google&utm_medium=cpc_S&utm_term=ULT-006&utm_campaign=GoogleAW&CAWELAID=1323226270&utm_content=pla&adtype=pla&cagpspn=pla\n\nEveryone I recommend this to thanks me later. I haven't met someone who didn't get rid of their razor burn after using this. Also, wet the skin with warm water, use a good razor, start with the grain, use shaving cream, etc.",
"[Bikini Zone Medicated After-Shave](http://www.amazon.com/Bikini-Zone-Medicated-After-Shave-Anti-Bumps/dp/B003V06JRO/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1378148996&sr=8-3&keywords=bikini+zone)",
"Use a shaving lotion. I have the same prob in my nether region. Shaving lotion from jacob.\n https://www.google.com/shopping/product/15408808598673613154?q=shaving+lotion&hl=en-US&sboxchip=Shopping&biw=320&bih=461&sa=X&ei=dtIkUuuwBYf2iwLszYCICw&ved=0CLUBEPMCMAk4Hg#hsec:overview \n\nI hate creams.",
"The only thing that has worked for me has been to rub my face with rubbing alcohol as soon as I'm done shaving. It doesn't sting nearly as bad as you would think, and it seems to prevent the infections that cause razor burn. My wife is aghast at this, because she's convinced I'm going to dry my face out, but I've been doing this every day for 5 years, and my face is fine.\n\nI haven't tried everything else that was listed here, by the way. But I definitely tried cold water, good cream and gels, and different razors. Alcohol is the only thing that works every time for me.\n\nGood luck!",
"Some good advice here. I have very sensitive skin myself but I'm not shaving my face...\n\nUse an aftershave that is intended to *calm* your skin - many men's aftershave is basically cologne (if it feels like burning, that's bad). Here's a good one:\n\nhttp://www.paulaschoice.com/shop/skin-care-categories/targeted-treatments/_/CLINICAL-Instant-Calm-Advanced-Redness-Relief/\n\n\n\n",
"Shave IN the shower. I went from changing blades weekly and using expensive creams to shaving in the shower and using blades for a month with nothing but soap and get better results.",
"Razor burn can sometimes be folliculitis. The best treatment is to shave after a hot shower, wash the razor with hot water, and then use Aveeno anti-itch cream: http://www.amazon.com/Aveeno-Anti-Itch-Hydrocortisone-Maximum-Strength/dp/B004XMI5O4 ",
"On kickstarter there is actually a perfect mug and safety razor holder! http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/1050909968/obtineo-its-a-safety-razor-display-lather-mug",
"My problem with razor burn came from using shaving gels, when I switched back to cheaper shaving creams the problem was gone and no more razor burn. I still get pain if I shave before work and get a bit sweaty to close to the time I shaved, I think from the salt in my sweat but no rash or visual marks. ",
"Make sure your razor is sharp. i.e. if you've used it more than three times (depending on your facial hair thickness/toughness) it could be dulled and cause irritation.",
"Lots of hot water on your face first, then after shaving rinse a lot with cold water to close your pores. Open pores get irritated. The same used to happen to me.",
"I've struggled with taxer burn for a few years. Recently I've been applying aloe Vera gel after each shave. Of everything I've tried it has worked the best, I barely get any razer burn",
"I use tea tree oil aftershave and never have to worry about razor burn. no other special treatment or methods, just rub it where you shaved. there's no alcohol but it can still burn, just deal with it. ",
"I switched to DE a couple weeks ago and am getting similar results to [this guy](http://i.imgur.com/W88oRuP.jpg). Not only is my skin clearing up, but it is so much cheaper than typical cartridges. I highly recommend giving it a shot. As many others have said, head over to /r/wicked_edge",
"I personally prefer the Safety or Straight Razor approach, but I found if I am in a hurry, a good electric shaver may not look as close or clean, but I never get razor burn.\n\nShave with the grain, not against, as many people have pointed out that it will cause the hair to get pulled under the skin or basically irritate the face.\n\nAlso take a hot shower before hand, or place a wet hot towel on your face for 5-10 minutes prior to a shave.",
"I make an after shave lotion out of isopropyl alcohol, aspirin and propylene glycol. Works awesome on neck rash from shaving.",
"I like to take a bar of soap and run my razor blade through it a couple of times. This gives me a close, clean shave and I usually break out!",
"I just use regular hair clippers on my face. It takes it down to a nice manly five o'clock stubble, and never a thought of razor burn. ",
"I just know what works for me, and I've finally decided to share it even though my typical Reddit experience is people telling me what a colossal asshole I am or some such business.\n\nI use a Gillette fusion, which I alway dry immediately after use, and I use no more than 4 or 5 times, and I only shave 3 times a week. \n\nI take an all natural bar soap, although I've done his with everything from ivory to Irish spring. In a hot shower after at least 5 minutes, I rub the bar soap all over my face, against the grain of the beard. I then take my badger brush and really work the soap into a lather *on my face*. Then I shave, without applying much pressure, first against the grain, then with, cleaning off the blade after every pass.\n\nAfter the shower, I rub a dab of moisturizer into my face.\n\nAgain, this works for me, I can't say it'll work for anyone else.",
"I don't know if it works the other way, but women are told to swipe deodorant on our nether regions as a way to avoid red bumps/ irritation. I wouldn't recommend the overly-scented gel type that a lot of men have though. ",
"Good shaving technique alone could probably relieve a lot of your issues with razor burn but not everyone is fortunate enough to have an hour of free time for shaving..\n\nI have personally found that pure tea tree oil as an aftershave does the trick. It leaves my skin feeling icy and numb (albeit after an initial burning sensation) after shaving, while also protecting my skin and keeping it hydrated. Just a few drops spread over my face works well. I've also found that washing my face with cold water (vs. hot or warm water) after shaving helps with razor burn and skin irritation.",
"For me when I get bad razor burn I apply some cortisone 10 ointment to my neck. Helps with those little pimples that pop up from the burn as well. \n\nNot the regular white cream cortisone now. The ointment is like a Vaseline type consistency. Clearish yellow ointment. ",
"Even if you against the grain (for a closer shave.) Go back over the shaven spots with the grain. (to prevent razor burn)",
"Echoing shaving **in** (not after, makes a big difference) a hot shower after a few minutes. Just buy a shower mirror off Amazon. Try this before all the other complicated razors, shaving creams, and aftershave ointments.",
"Easy fix: women's deodorant. \nLearned this from a buddy who always shaved baby smooth down there and swore by it..as a girl...tried it down there and on my legs. Worked like a charm.",
"Pay a professional. I have the same problem. They do it best. Tell the guy about your skin. It's easier than buying all these different products people are suggesting. Plus, even if you don't get the job, you'll feel pretty good about having done it this way. ",
"Ok so can someone explain to me (A non hairy guy) Whats with using a metal razor? I just use an electric one and like, it works just fine. I feel like i am missing something here.",
"Keep it simple:\n\nNew razor\n\nLotion up for extra glide action\n\nUse short, light, gentle strokes \n\nShave in 4 directions:\n\n first shave entire face going down\n\n then entire face going up\n \n then toward the midline\n\n then from the midline\n\nShower after you're done - the water will rinse away all the shaving cream and lotion from your freshly excavated skin",
"I'm not going to tell you to buy a DE razor because they can take a long time to get used to (I've personally had difficulty using them, and shaving really shouldn't be difficult). Here are some general tips for any kind of razor:\n\n1. WATER WATER WATER. Make sure your facial hair is wet. Shave right after taking a shower so that your skin is moist. If you shave with dry skin/hair, you're going to have a bad time.\n\n2. Use shaving cream. You don't need to use a ton, but it will help keep your skin hydrated and will make the shave more comfortable.\n\n3. DO NOT APPLY A TON OF PRESSURE. This is more so for DE razors where you're essentially supposed to apply zero pressure, but even with a cartridge razor there's no need to press against your face. Just use light, short strokes. Shave a little slower. If the blades are sharp then they should be able to cut the hair without having to pull at it.\n\n4. If the blades are dull, USE A NEW CARTRIDGE. Dull blades will make bumps from shaving much worse. If you want your cartridges to last longer, then keep them dry when not in use.\n\n5. Shaving with the grain (as opposed to against the grain) will reduce razor burn.\n\nSource (of bias): I used to work for a razor company.",
"I posted this awhile back but this is what I found works for me:\n\nRazer - I've tried DE blades, straight edge, etc and they just don't work. My skin is too sensitive and even when a skilled barber does it, I always break out. I use the 3 or 5 blade Gillette Mach blades. Expensive? Yes, but I've found they work the best. (Full disclosure - I get work freebies every year and this year I got a few dozen Mach 3 blades so that's what I currently use. Free, you know?)\n\nTo keep the razor sharp - Not a lot you can do. You can strop it a bit and it helps but eventually they just wear. A week if you shave every day, I get a couple of weeks at least because I only shave a couple times a week. Also, there is a method of soaking the blade in barbicide to keep it from rusting/corroding and dulling the blade. Barbers do this with their straight edge. I found this does help but the huge caveat is that the barbicide will disintegrate the Gillette blade assembly and handle rather quickly. You've been warned.\n\nShaving - For christ sake, if you aren't shaving in the shower, why not? You're already in a wet, hot, steamy environment so just get it done there. Seriously, once I figured this out it help immensely. Plus, everything goes down the drain and no whisker rings in the sink.\n\nGels/Aftershave/Etc: You need to find what works for you. I used to use soap and brush and loved it but found that my brushes would eventually succumb to the moisture of the shower and mildew up. My favorite shave cream is by Mac (the cosmetics company) but I rarely find it and it's expensive so now I just usually use the Fusion for sensitive skin gel. It works, I have no issues.\n\nFor aftershaves/balms/etc, you need to find what works for you since we are all different. I used to like the Pinaud aftershave - it does work well for cooling the face but it is a bit oily and you smell like a barber shop. Not a bad thing but it gets old quickly.\n\nIf I every get irritation, I use a trick a bald friend of mine showed me. If you do have irritation, use cortizone cream after shaving and it will soothe better than anything. It works.",
"I have a few tips that may help.\n\n* The absolute most important thing is to shave **everyday**. Your skin gets used to the razor, and you are not trying to shave ultra long hairs.\n\n* Shave after you get out of the shower. The steam softens up the hair and opens your pores.\n\n* Use disposable razors. I buy the dual blade Gillette razors and pitch them after a week. I was told years ago (I am not sure if its true) but the bacteria on a razor is what causes most of the break outs. This also ensures that the blade is always sharp.\n\n* Find a shaving cream that works for your skin type. It took me several months to find one that I liked. I ended up with Barbasol Original. It is maybe the cheapest brand you can buy, and it works great for me.\n\n* Lastly find a post shave lotion that does not have alcohol in it. Alcohol dries the skin and can cause further break outs. I recommend Nivea Post Shave Balm.\n\nHope this helps.",
"I find it serendipitous that I just addressed this issue in another Reddit thread.\n\nAnyway, I don't know what to do about the breakouts, but I can certainly help with the razor burn. Before I tried this trick, I felt like a victim after each shave.\n\nThe answer: Noxzema. They used it all the time in the 40s, but later generations forgot about it. Too bad--it's cheap.\n\nSimply apply on face, then apply the shaving cream over it. It'll make a HUGE difference.",
"Honestly the best shave I have ever gotten I do the following:\n1. Use St. Ives Medicated Apricot Scrub on my face. \n2. Shave - don't need cream or anything, just shave in the shower.",
"Grow a beard :)\n\nOf course if you can't/wont/don't want to I recommend:\nHot water soak, be it bath shower or motorboating a sweaty woman.\nshave with the grain, rinsing your blade every swipe.\nthen shave against....gently, again rinsing after each swipe.\nhave a wash, dry off, PAT don't rub, then a spritz of aftershave followed by moisturising (E45 cream is my favourite).\n\nSeriously though, next time you have a week or two off work, start a beard.",
"As soon as possible\n\n1. Cut facial hair off of your cheeks, chin, and neck with eye brow trimmers. This will take a while, and doesn't need to be perfect. This will cause the least amount of irritation. Another method option is to use electric barber shears/clippers. If you choose this method, USE SHAVING CREAM. Trust me. Go with the grain.\n\n2. Wash off face, then dry it.\n\n3. Place men's depilatory cream on beard area for about 5-8 minutes before you jump in the shower. When you're using the depilatory cream, don't allow it to get wet or moist while you wait the 5-8 minutes. The moisture will severely weaken the effect of the cream. Make sure you have a little hand towel to scrub the hairs away.\n\nThe next morning you'll look beautiful. From now on wash your face with very warm water before you shave using a electrical barber shear/clipper. The shaving cream is important to avoid irritations, and leaves the skin feeling amazing.\n\nIf your issue is ingrown hairs, you'll think that those hairs are gone, but they're not. They're just waiting for you to let your hair grow again to show themselves off. Every other night before you go to bed, scrub your face (especially beard area) with warm water and a good heap of baking soda. The baking soda will release the less impounded hairs from the surface. Use the depilatory cream once a week. It'll help fend off creating new ingrown hairs, and make your facial hairs less prone to it. On weekends off, use a tweezer to pull out the remaining ingrown hairs. If you need to, use the eye brow trimmers to pull out the hairs. The trimmers make it easy to do so, but will cause a little bit of bleeding. Before you use it, make sure you sterilize it via rubbing alcohol. To be completely free of ingrown hairs, continue this process for two p-three months straight. Let your facial hair grow out for a bit to see if there's any more hiding away.",
"All you need is SHAVE SECRET from Walmart. Never get a shave bump again. My contribution to bettering this world is done. Video game time.",
"1) MOST IMPORTANT STEP: **Do not use a towel for drying** off your face after the deed. It introduces bacteria into the cuts. Maybe if you used a fresh towel each time it would work, but its too much hassle to be frank. Just let it drip and air dry or use cosmetic tissues.\n\n2) **Avoid touching the area** as much as possible.\n\n3) If possible use hot water (really hot) when shaving, sadly I cannot do that as my water is heated by gas and stored in a tank so it is only lukewarm. (= not uberimportant)\n\n4) Use after-shave, some say they get skin irritation from that but for me it seems to help (i think of it as desinfection)\n\n5) I use a moisturizing gel on the shaven area a few minutes later, might be counter productive though\n\n\nThe last two steps might be skipped. The first two are the important ones, they also help a lot with acne. **It's all about keeping the bacteria away!**",
"You will never get razor burn if you simply:\nlook at the hair you are trying to shave and move the razor in the direction the hair naturally goes. Your neck hair goes sideways, and when mis-shaven always will leave red bumps. Red bumps are common on people's necks or lady's groin areas because they don't know this. Silly humans.",
"I deal with the same problems you do. My solution is not the solution you would expect, and it took a lot of desperation on my behalf to figure it out.\n\n* Use the two bladed bic's with the moisture strip\n* Shave after a hot shower or use hot water to warm up the skin\n* Dry shave, no cream, no nothing. They all contain bizarre chemicals and oils. \n* Only do one \"swipe\" with the razor between rinsing it off\n* I go against the grain for a cleaner shave, that's not the problem\n* When done, rinse your face with water, pat dry\n* Now take a cotton makeup pad and put some 99% Isopropyl Alcohol on it\n* Wipe your face down, oxy-pad style\n* Marvel at the amount of dirt and oil pulled off your skin\n\nSo that's pretty much it. Cheap razor, dry shave, rubbing alcohol. I know, I know. It sounds retarded as all hell. But it works and that's what's important.\n\n"
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"Getting the bleach smell out of upholstery. We made a mistake of using bleach (we thought it is the only way to ensure it is clean) to clean pet poop. Of course we wiped the whole couch and as well as other couches, now the smell is one musty bleachy smell that is still there after 3 days. We opened windows for 6+hrs per day, it's still there. Please help, it's a terrible smell and we have kids.\nIt's Microfiber, if anyone is asking. So it probably soaked a bit. "
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"Improve focus on studying to do well on exam I’ve been studying for the LSAT for the past 3 years. I study for 30 mins then lose focus and just want to surf the internet or take a nap. I know if I can just dedicate 3-4 weeks of intense studying of 3-4 hours per day I can get past this thing. Any advice ?",
"Improve focus on studying to do well on exam I’ve been studying for the LSAT for the past 3 years. I study for 30 mins then lose focus and just want to surf the internet or take a nap. I know if I can just dedicate 3-4 weeks of intense studying of 3-4 hours per day I can get past this thing. Any advice ?",
"Improve focus on studying to do well on exam I’ve been studying for the LSAT for the past 3 years. I study for 30 mins then lose focus and just want to surf the internet or take a nap. I know if I can just dedicate 3-4 weeks of intense studying of 3-4 hours per day I can get past this thing. Any advice ?",
"Improve focus on studying to do well on exam I’ve been studying for the LSAT for the past 3 years. I study for 30 mins then lose focus and just want to surf the internet or take a nap. I know if I can just dedicate 3-4 weeks of intense studying of 3-4 hours per day I can get past this thing. Any advice ?",
"Improve focus on studying to do well on exam I’ve been studying for the LSAT for the past 3 years. I study for 30 mins then lose focus and just want to surf the internet or take a nap. I know if I can just dedicate 3-4 weeks of intense studying of 3-4 hours per day I can get past this thing. Any advice ?",
"Improve focus on studying to do well on exam I’ve been studying for the LSAT for the past 3 years. I study for 30 mins then lose focus and just want to surf the internet or take a nap. I know if I can just dedicate 3-4 weeks of intense studying of 3-4 hours per day I can get past this thing. Any advice ?",
"Improve focus on studying to do well on exam I’ve been studying for the LSAT for the past 3 years. I study for 30 mins then lose focus and just want to surf the internet or take a nap. I know if I can just dedicate 3-4 weeks of intense studying of 3-4 hours per day I can get past this thing. Any advice ?",
"Improve focus on studying to do well on exam I’ve been studying for the LSAT for the past 3 years. I study for 30 mins then lose focus and just want to surf the internet or take a nap. I know if I can just dedicate 3-4 weeks of intense studying of 3-4 hours per day I can get past this thing. Any advice ?",
"Improve focus on studying to do well on exam I’ve been studying for the LSAT for the past 3 years. I study for 30 mins then lose focus and just want to surf the internet or take a nap. I know if I can just dedicate 3-4 weeks of intense studying of 3-4 hours per day I can get past this thing. Any advice ?",
"Improve focus on studying to do well on exam I’ve been studying for the LSAT for the past 3 years. I study for 30 mins then lose focus and just want to surf the internet or take a nap. I know if I can just dedicate 3-4 weeks of intense studying of 3-4 hours per day I can get past this thing. Any advice ?",
"Improve focus on studying to do well on exam I’ve been studying for the LSAT for the past 3 years. I study for 30 mins then lose focus and just want to surf the internet or take a nap. I know if I can just dedicate 3-4 weeks of intense studying of 3-4 hours per day I can get past this thing. Any advice ?",
"Improve focus on studying to do well on exam I’ve been studying for the LSAT for the past 3 years. I study for 30 mins then lose focus and just want to surf the internet or take a nap. I know if I can just dedicate 3-4 weeks of intense studying of 3-4 hours per day I can get past this thing. Any advice ?"
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"If you can walk and read at the same time, I highly suggest studying on a treadmill. I have ADHD (though was not diagnosed at the time), and this is how I passed the bar. Go to the gym, set the treadmill at a comfortably slow pace, and read the material. Then turn around and walk backward to quiz myself or run through mnemonics. I can't explain why, but learning while walking forward and then practicing recall while walking backward really cemented things for me. Plus, I found that my brain didn't have room for as many distractions when I was walking and reading at the same time.",
"If u are at home, I suggest u get out of the house. I had the same problem as you but once outside, there’s no way I’m gonna get a nap. Try a quiet cafe or at the park.",
"The LSAT for 3 years? What are you getting on practice exams? I don't want to make this sound like a brag, but I spent like, 6 months tops studying and got a fine score.",
"Your are talking about a topic that been ongoing for several generations. Studies have shown a link to technology advancement with attention span shortening. Modern technology has evolved to entertain the humans so anything outside of that tends to be boring.",
"The LSAT tests the ability to reason and analyze. I’m not sure that’s something for which you can study, at least not more than doing some practice exams to get used to the types of questions. Like a previous poster, not a brag, but I took the LSAT after reading some practice questions the night before and did fine.",
"Use a timer app. Set it up for your current maximum + 10 minutes. 2nd timer for taking a break (not too long). Increase the 1st timer in 5-10 minute increments each time.\n\nThis set time reduces clock watching and stress.",
"If this has been going for years and assuming your diet, exercise, and sleep are in check then get tested for ADHD and ADHD inattentive (formerly known as ADD). Other symptoms include: lack of focus, easily distracted, having trouble completing tasks, avoiding work that requires mental effort, not being organized, prioritizing tasks, not being able to retain what you read, etc. If other symptoms such as sleep issues (too much or too little), poor hygiene, lack of motivation on a daily basis, weight gain or weight loss, GI issues, muscle aches, etc then get tested for anxiety and depression. Anxiety and depression symptoms overlap. \n\nThe fact that you have been able to raise your score to 160 proves you are extremely capable of improving further. Never took the LSAT myself but from what my friends who are in law school told me it’s easier to improve if you’re scoring in the 130-150s. The hard part is improving when you’re in the 160s and 170s. This is like SATs where improving to 1400 is not too bad but anything after or closer to 1600 will take more time or getting past a 700 GMAT score. \n\nBest of luck to you!",
"I used to pace the hall while I read, would stop to write notes about what I just read on my whiteboard, pace again (reading the notes as I passed them and chanting the stuff out loud), and repeat. I looked insane but I was fit and I passed every exam in which I did this.",
"I have similar problem but what worked out for me is that , I go on roof-terrace of my building and then read while walking . \nFor one , no one's looking at me on top of roof.\nSecond , Doing 2 tasks among which 1 is basic, doesn't allow me more room to do any other task .\nThird , reading and walking to and fro from end to end on roof , also taps into memorising technique cuz I go over same spots.\nFourth , while revision , you get to a spot while walking on roof and at it triggers some missing part of the answer.\n\n\n\nImp : I first make imp notes or similarly just take short reading material which can be easily read while walking.",
"Every time you feel like you are starting to lose focus, do 5 pushups. It will help you get some blood flowing, and help your mind focus. Bonus: you get stronger.",
"You might get your blood levels checked to make sure you're not iron-deficient and try a supplement like [Neuro Optimizer](https://jarrow.com/products/neuro-optimizer-120-capsules). It certainly works for me!",
"I take medication, as I've tried every trick in the book and it just doesn't work (ADD diagnosed). With it I can do more studying in an hour than I usually did in 5-6 hrs. \n\nI'm not going to take it for my future job, or anything else. For me, it's a temporary devils bargain to be able to attain my Masters degree and have a foundation on which to build my career. I would probably not be able to complete my studies with the same results without it, sadly. \n\nIt is a devils bargain, as you'll definitely feel negative side-effects and drawbacks from them, so do some research before considering it.",
"Don't be a lawyer. You will need to concentrate for longer than 30 mins all the time. This is a sign for you. Many other jobs for u that don't require intense work ethic. Try government jobs"
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"how to phase things like \"uhm\" \"uh\" and \"like\" out of your vocabulary. I work in a pretty competitive field where I deal with a lot of clients, and can't seem to get these killers out of my vocabulary. It really devalues what you're saying when you can't ... Uh... Finish a sentence. ",
"how to phase things like \"uhm\" \"uh\" and \"like\" out of your vocabulary. I work in a pretty competitive field where I deal with a lot of clients, and can't seem to get these killers out of my vocabulary. It really devalues what you're saying when you can't ... Uh... Finish a sentence. ",
"how to phase things like \"uhm\" \"uh\" and \"like\" out of your vocabulary. I work in a pretty competitive field where I deal with a lot of clients, and can't seem to get these killers out of my vocabulary. It really devalues what you're saying when you can't ... Uh... Finish a sentence. ",
"how to phase things like \"uhm\" \"uh\" and \"like\" out of your vocabulary. I work in a pretty competitive field where I deal with a lot of clients, and can't seem to get these killers out of my vocabulary. It really devalues what you're saying when you can't ... Uh... Finish a sentence. ",
"how to phase things like \"uhm\" \"uh\" and \"like\" out of your vocabulary. I work in a pretty competitive field where I deal with a lot of clients, and can't seem to get these killers out of my vocabulary. It really devalues what you're saying when you can't ... Uh... Finish a sentence. ",
"how to phase things like \"uhm\" \"uh\" and \"like\" out of your vocabulary. I work in a pretty competitive field where I deal with a lot of clients, and can't seem to get these killers out of my vocabulary. It really devalues what you're saying when you can't ... Uh... Finish a sentence. ",
"how to phase things like \"uhm\" \"uh\" and \"like\" out of your vocabulary. I work in a pretty competitive field where I deal with a lot of clients, and can't seem to get these killers out of my vocabulary. It really devalues what you're saying when you can't ... Uh... Finish a sentence. ",
"how to phase things like \"uhm\" \"uh\" and \"like\" out of your vocabulary. I work in a pretty competitive field where I deal with a lot of clients, and can't seem to get these killers out of my vocabulary. It really devalues what you're saying when you can't ... Uh... Finish a sentence. ",
"how to phase things like \"uhm\" \"uh\" and \"like\" out of your vocabulary. I work in a pretty competitive field where I deal with a lot of clients, and can't seem to get these killers out of my vocabulary. It really devalues what you're saying when you can't ... Uh... Finish a sentence. ",
"how to phase things like \"uhm\" \"uh\" and \"like\" out of your vocabulary. I work in a pretty competitive field where I deal with a lot of clients, and can't seem to get these killers out of my vocabulary. It really devalues what you're saying when you can't ... Uh... Finish a sentence. "
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"Become comfortable w/ silence. People typically afraid of silence when answering a question or presenting, but in reality people respect you more for your silence than filler words.",
"During my college radio station days we had a \"ummm\" jar. Every time we said it, we'd have to put in money. ",
"This is tough because my explanation comes across as very dick-ish because it essentially is \"just stop\". It is a habit like any other, your scrutinizing your own actions and putting in the effort to change it is all this will take. \n\n\nBeing conscious of the fact that you are using it is key. \n\nRecognize why these vocal place holders are used and decide how you want to replace the ones you don't want. \n\nWork on changing your habit.\n\n",
"No it doesn't, pause fillers like that exist in all languages and nobody with any knowledge of language would judge you for saying 'um', smart people would rather you briefly pause to gather the right words to express your self succinctly than bluster though using too many words and trying to over explain yourself or ending up apologising for yourself. 'like' used in that way is okay too but don't over use it. If you do it every other sentence then that would reflect badly, but once in one meeting? No. ",
"Normally this happens when people talk too much or too quickly. Slow yourself down and think about what you're going to say before you say it and you won't need words which are essentially just fillers until you think about what you want to say next",
"It's all about the breath. When you sense that unsureness, pause and inhale and think of the next word you want to say. Remind yourself that you have plenty of time. ",
"Instead of saying um just pause for a breath, then repeat the last 2 or 3 words you said and what you were saying should start to flow naturally again. ",
"I would rather take a moment to collect myself then utter verbal trash. The occasional uhm is no biggie when it's become a problem you need to practice public speaking. The best way to do this is to practice speaking. Read the news alert, read song lyrics, speak out loud. Now when you're actually speaking to someone don't freak out. if you start to stammer pause, collect yourself and move forward. Consider a public speaking class at your local community college. ",
"I don't use these too much, but I have a hard time talking to people and I use these to give me enough time to think about what to say or how to say it. Is the anything I can do to replace it besides just standing in awkward silence?",
"As someone who has been in sales for just shy of a decade. Best thing you can do is slow down. Usually \"uh\" is inserted in a place where your mind is catching up to what you are saying. Learn mentally replace uh/um with a different word or phrase. I personally go off topic when I get lost to avoid that awkward pause. An awkward change of topic seems very normal to the person you are speaking with vs an awkward \"ummmmm\" followed by a pause. Going back to my original suggestion. Speak slower. It will only sound weird to you. Listen to how politicians talk, i'm guessing its half the pace you speak at. \n\n"
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"How do you hold back/avoid crying? I'm getting married in 8 months. I'm terrified that I'm going to cry through the whole thing. I'm not averse to showing some emotion, but I also don't want to be a blubbering mess the entire day. Any tips/techniques for keeping this at bay?",
"How do you hold back/avoid crying? I'm getting married in 8 months. I'm terrified that I'm going to cry through the whole thing. I'm not averse to showing some emotion, but I also don't want to be a blubbering mess the entire day. Any tips/techniques for keeping this at bay?",
"How do you hold back/avoid crying? I'm getting married in 8 months. I'm terrified that I'm going to cry through the whole thing. I'm not averse to showing some emotion, but I also don't want to be a blubbering mess the entire day. Any tips/techniques for keeping this at bay?",
"How do you hold back/avoid crying? I'm getting married in 8 months. I'm terrified that I'm going to cry through the whole thing. I'm not averse to showing some emotion, but I also don't want to be a blubbering mess the entire day. Any tips/techniques for keeping this at bay?",
"How do you hold back/avoid crying? I'm getting married in 8 months. I'm terrified that I'm going to cry through the whole thing. I'm not averse to showing some emotion, but I also don't want to be a blubbering mess the entire day. Any tips/techniques for keeping this at bay?",
"How do you hold back/avoid crying? I'm getting married in 8 months. I'm terrified that I'm going to cry through the whole thing. I'm not averse to showing some emotion, but I also don't want to be a blubbering mess the entire day. Any tips/techniques for keeping this at bay?",
"How do you hold back/avoid crying? I'm getting married in 8 months. I'm terrified that I'm going to cry through the whole thing. I'm not averse to showing some emotion, but I also don't want to be a blubbering mess the entire day. Any tips/techniques for keeping this at bay?"
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"Get your cries out before hand... Watch a romantic movie and think really hard on why it is that you are so grateful... Or sad or whatever. I suggest a day or two before. Then during, deep breaths and keep something funny in mind. However... I think it's beautiful that there is a chance you could be moved so much. I'd want to see that if I was your SO. Congrats. You have no idea how bad I want something like that.",
"Whenever i feel a tear at an inappropriate moment, i ask myself, \"when was the last time the cubs won the superbowl?\"... i dont teally know much about sports, but asking myself a completely unemotional question gets my mind elsewhere, stopping the waterfall.",
"I have heard that looking up helps. \nOr zoning out, but I'm guessing you want to remember the moment :) \n\nConcentrate on deep, steady breaths. \nThey say your central nervous system cannot be in two states at the same time, and steady breathing automatically induces a calm state. \nIn through the nose, out through the mouth.",
"I read somewhere online that if you think of math when you feel you are going to cry, it helps you hold back tears. I'm not sure there's something special about math, but it works for me, because I always remember that weird \"trick\" and it distracts me. (I usually just say the quadratic formula because that's all I remember from high school)\n\n",
"A friend of mine said her vows to one of her bridesmaids about an hour before the ceremony. they were both in tears but in the ceremony itself she was able to remain composed and was just beaming throughout",
"Cry your ass off during the ceremony, while to have your first dance, as you cut the cake, when you kiss your soulmate. Your wedding day is the perfect time to show how much you love the person you are marrying. Everyone will cry with you. Cry goddammit. Just put on waterproof mascara or whatever. ",
"Constantly think about how awkward it is standing there with everyone staring at you and how hungry you are because you were too busy to eat the past 24 hours and oh God could this minister please hurry up so we can get to the fun part of the celebration!"
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"How do I get rid of pimples that randomly appear in my face? I'm out of puberty and wash my face every day. Yet there is at least one new pimple on my face each morning. It happens Tonne around the mouth/the area below my nose, only rarely somewhere else.",
"How do I get rid of pimples that randomly appear in my face? I'm out of puberty and wash my face every day. Yet there is at least one new pimple on my face each morning. It happens Tonne around the mouth/the area below my nose, only rarely somewhere else.",
"How do I get rid of pimples that randomly appear in my face? I'm out of puberty and wash my face every day. Yet there is at least one new pimple on my face each morning. It happens Tonne around the mouth/the area below my nose, only rarely somewhere else.",
"How do I get rid of pimples that randomly appear in my face? I'm out of puberty and wash my face every day. Yet there is at least one new pimple on my face each morning. It happens Tonne around the mouth/the area below my nose, only rarely somewhere else."
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"I answer this question as someone who was plagued with acne around my mouth area a good year into college. It was so bad that I have almost no photos from that time in my life. After some small changes, the issue completely went away and never returned.\n\n1. *Cut* all acne products. More likely than not, they're doing you harm. In fact, while you still get this kind of facial acne, don't use any product to wash your face at all. Only use cold water to splash on your face at the start and end of the day.\n2. Shave regularly. Preferably every day, even if hair doesn't grow fast. Use Bronner's liquid soap as your facial cream instead of traditional shaving cream. Even if you're using an electric shaver, use Bronner's soap. Disregard if you're a woman.\n3. Cut down dairy and sugar from your diet and drink more water.\n4. Change your bed sheets once a week.\n5. For extreme measures, go to a dermatologist and get blue light therapy.",
"So everyones skin is different and this might not work for everyone, but I tend to treat isolated pimples like small wounds. Because a pimple is essentially an inflamed blocked pore, I do this.\n\n* Put an ice cube on the pimple, which helps tone down the inflammation.\n* If I need to be at a social event in the next few days, or I really need the pimple popped, I gently pierce the skin with a clean needle and wipe away the sebum. (By squeezing a pimple, you're basically applying pressure and germs from your fingers into an already inflamed sore.) If you don't need the pimple popped, then I would avoid this step altogether.\n* Get an antibacterial or disinfectant cream, like Savlon or Dettol. Place a small dollop from the tube, so that it totally covers the pimple, but don't rub it in too much.\n* I like to get those small tiny circular Band Aids and put them on, especially if I'm doing this before bed. As long as the dollop of cream covers the pimple, this isn't strictly necessary.\n* Over the next few days, continue applying the cream. The pimple should became less inflamed and disappear.\n\nI never had serious acne as I teenager, so I don't know that struggle, but I've heard from a lot of people that specific acne washes are seriously abrasive and can do more long-term harm. I have sensitive skin and use Simple Face Wash daily, which is free from perfumes and other stuff that irritates my skin.\n\nIf acne is a serious problem, it might be more beneficial to go to your doctor and see about a prescription for Roaccutane or something similar.",
"I struggle with the same thing so this may be a long post :/\n\nThe first step is to pay attention during the day (especially if you have a desk job) of how much you are propping your head up on your hands. Your hands get lots of bacteria, etc. on them throughout the day.\n \nAlso, don't just wash your face. Use an exfoliate to scrub your face once every 3 days or so. (An exfoliate can be something with tiny bead feeling things in it or even a specific type of small scrub brush to wipe the skin cells away). \n \nThat being said, skin cells replenish all the time. One thing that can cause pimples is pores being clogged by dead skin cells. Try boiling water in a pot until it starts steaming. Set the pot on a pot holder on the table. Get a towel and drape it over your head as you lead over the pot (not to close). The steam will help cleanse your pores and get those dead skin cells loosened up. Wash your face afterwards.\n \nAnd lastly, stress. If you find yourself being stressed then try and do something that can help you to ease your stress. I can't recommend anything specific here as I don't know you personally :/\n",
"\"you'll grow out of it\"... As a 35 year old with bad acne, I disagree. At least I haven't heard that one for a good few years."
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"Best techniques to avoid urinal splashback? It seems that recently I've been getting far more flashback, or it's showing clearer on new clothes. Now this may be down to user error, inadequate knowledge of splash angle or excessive pressure.\n\nReddit, share with me your best tips to avoid that speckled crotch look.",
"Best techniques to avoid urinal splashback? It seems that recently I've been getting far more flashback, or it's showing clearer on new clothes. Now this may be down to user error, inadequate knowledge of splash angle or excessive pressure.\n\nReddit, share with me your best tips to avoid that speckled crotch look.",
"Best techniques to avoid urinal splashback? It seems that recently I've been getting far more flashback, or it's showing clearer on new clothes. Now this may be down to user error, inadequate knowledge of splash angle or excessive pressure.\n\nReddit, share with me your best tips to avoid that speckled crotch look.",
"Best techniques to avoid urinal splashback? It seems that recently I've been getting far more flashback, or it's showing clearer on new clothes. Now this may be down to user error, inadequate knowledge of splash angle or excessive pressure.\n\nReddit, share with me your best tips to avoid that speckled crotch look."
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"aim to get about a 25* angle with the bowl. it just kinda spins around and into the water. i've spent many hours perfecting this.",
"The ultimate in male pee-shame: sit down to urinate. No splash. Not so effective at urinals, however.",
"Slowly walk backwards once you begin your stream. As you lose pressure, steadily approach your target. Much like a proper drink pour, but horizontally. \n\nThis doesn't solve the problem of \"microdots\" or \"splash back,\" for the beginning and ending of your pee, but when mastered, this technique can reduce backfire by up to 90%",
"People have already mentioned that you need to control the angle of your pee. But what makes that even easier is using the \"kid's\" urinal. The almost parallel angle becomes very easy to do."
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"How to stop having anxiety over every aspect of your life by overthinking situations. I get anxiety over absolutely everything. Any time something doesn't go as planned, my mind jumps to worst case scenario. For instance; if I failed a test my mind would go to, \"I'm gunna fail the class, it's gunna bring my GPA down, I'm going to be a failure in life.\" I'm 100% worn out all day every day because of this and it's taken control of how I live my life. Any tips? \n\n",
"How to stop having anxiety over every aspect of your life by overthinking situations. I get anxiety over absolutely everything. Any time something doesn't go as planned, my mind jumps to worst case scenario. For instance; if I failed a test my mind would go to, \"I'm gunna fail the class, it's gunna bring my GPA down, I'm going to be a failure in life.\" I'm 100% worn out all day every day because of this and it's taken control of how I live my life. Any tips? \n\n",
"How to stop having anxiety over every aspect of your life by overthinking situations. I get anxiety over absolutely everything. Any time something doesn't go as planned, my mind jumps to worst case scenario. For instance; if I failed a test my mind would go to, \"I'm gunna fail the class, it's gunna bring my GPA down, I'm going to be a failure in life.\" I'm 100% worn out all day every day because of this and it's taken control of how I live my life. Any tips? \n\n",
"How to stop having anxiety over every aspect of your life by overthinking situations. I get anxiety over absolutely everything. Any time something doesn't go as planned, my mind jumps to worst case scenario. For instance; if I failed a test my mind would go to, \"I'm gunna fail the class, it's gunna bring my GPA down, I'm going to be a failure in life.\" I'm 100% worn out all day every day because of this and it's taken control of how I live my life. Any tips? \n\n"
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"Dwelling on the future causes anxiety. Dwelling on the past causes depression. Living in the present avoids both.\n\n“Tomorrow is tomorrow.\nFuture cares have future cures,\nAnd we must mind today.”\n― Sophocles, Antigone ",
"Middle-aged anxiety sufferer here. I didn't seek help for it until I was in my 40s. Seek help for it.\n\nAnxiety is a state of constant worry or panic. It arises from focusing on potential negative outcomes, and gradually causes changes in the chemistry and tissues of our brains until it's hard-wired.\n\nOnly through a mixture of exploration, thought exercises, medication, diet (caffeine is murderous with anxiety) etc. can we break the cycle and stop ruminating on bullshit until we go crazy. Doing that on your own is nearly impossible. \n\nFind a therapist and start the process. Otherwise you could spend the next 30 years in a state of constant self-loathing and panic. You know, like I did.",
"I suffer from generalized anxiety coupled with Avoidant Personality Disorder. I have found that practicing mindfulness (i.e. guided m",
"I find that a problem cause by my thinking won't be solved by my thinking. Tony Robbins talks about how those negative emotions are all physical, so you need to change your physical state.\n\nGoing for a 30 minute run or an intense walk outside will change your state. I find this works best for me when it comes to depression. Though sometimes I fall of the wagon and it takes a few days to get back on. Which is okay, we're only humans!"
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"how to improve my B2 english level. Hi guys,\n\nI studied at an English institute when I was a teenage and 3 years ago I went to Europe alone for about 2 months where I had the opportunity to improve my speaking. However, recently I was in a situation where I had to make a question and said \"Does she work**s** ... ?\" and my teacher almost cried for that mistake haha. Do you have a nice resource to strengthen this?\n\nThanks!",
"how to improve my B2 english level. Hi guys,\n\nI studied at an English institute when I was a teenage and 3 years ago I went to Europe alone for about 2 months where I had the opportunity to improve my speaking. However, recently I was in a situation where I had to make a question and said \"Does she work**s** ... ?\" and my teacher almost cried for that mistake haha. Do you have a nice resource to strengthen this?\n\nThanks!",
"how to improve my B2 english level. Hi guys,\n\nI studied at an English institute when I was a teenage and 3 years ago I went to Europe alone for about 2 months where I had the opportunity to improve my speaking. However, recently I was in a situation where I had to make a question and said \"Does she work**s** ... ?\" and my teacher almost cried for that mistake haha. Do you have a nice resource to strengthen this?\n\nThanks!"
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"Play videogames with english friends or communities, you can also watch Twitch. I got a B2+ level during a trip to england , while I am still learning nothing at school. Ill maybe add a pic later\n",
"EFL lecturer here! \n\nMobymax is a great reading/comprehension site. \n\nQuiz Up is a fun app- available on your phone- where you challenge people in trivia, with different subjects including grammar. Any subject that interests you would be great immersion practice!\n\n5 Minute English has audio with comprehension- I would get students to use the transcripts and read along to help with pronunciation. In fact, anything with a transcript can be useful because you're producing, rather than just observing, if you read along. Even song lyrics! \n\nClose captions on YouTube can be helpful, just be aware that they may be automatically generated and therefore contain a lot of errors. \n\nYou can fine B2 practice tests online, these or iTEP are great resources- there's a listening and speaking section to the iTEP, too. \n\nBrowse reddit! ",
"Play video games, watch TV or movies, read books, listen to music, (whatever you like most) in english. I've been gaming, listening to music and watching videos in english for years and I've recently passed the Cambridge Advanced Exam with an A, with barely any studying for it. ( That's C2, and I was having a blast while learning it because I did what I felt like. Bring english into stuff you really enjoy, it will feel less like a chore and more like: I had lots of fun and woah, I learned some english without even noticing!"
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"How to clean crystallized Olive Oil So last night, I put some olive oil in my pan and turned it to medium heat to make some scrambled eggs before I went out with some friends. Except, I completely forgot about it and left... Luckily I still had a house 5 hours later when I came back, but the olive oil had blackened and [looked like this](http://i.imgur.com/GEDsCmM.jpg).\n\nNow, I've definitely learned my lesson, and I know I'm really lucky to have made it through this stupid mistake. I have to clean this pan, though, and I haven't had any luck so far.\n\nThe olive oil is black and glossy, almost like glass, but it doesn't break when I hit it with the butt of my knife. It doesn't scrape away either, and I let it soak overnight in soapy water, but that had no effect.\n\nHave any of you guys dealt with this before? Thanks for your time.\n\n---\n\n",
"How to clean crystallized Olive Oil So last night, I put some olive oil in my pan and turned it to medium heat to make some scrambled eggs before I went out with some friends. Except, I completely forgot about it and left... Luckily I still had a house 5 hours later when I came back, but the olive oil had blackened and [looked like this](http://i.imgur.com/GEDsCmM.jpg).\n\nNow, I've definitely learned my lesson, and I know I'm really lucky to have made it through this stupid mistake. I have to clean this pan, though, and I haven't had any luck so far.\n\nThe olive oil is black and glossy, almost like glass, but it doesn't break when I hit it with the butt of my knife. It doesn't scrape away either, and I let it soak overnight in soapy water, but that had no effect.\n\nHave any of you guys dealt with this before? Thanks for your time.\n\n---\n\n",
"How to clean crystallized Olive Oil So last night, I put some olive oil in my pan and turned it to medium heat to make some scrambled eggs before I went out with some friends. Except, I completely forgot about it and left... Luckily I still had a house 5 hours later when I came back, but the olive oil had blackened and [looked like this](http://i.imgur.com/GEDsCmM.jpg).\n\nNow, I've definitely learned my lesson, and I know I'm really lucky to have made it through this stupid mistake. I have to clean this pan, though, and I haven't had any luck so far.\n\nThe olive oil is black and glossy, almost like glass, but it doesn't break when I hit it with the butt of my knife. It doesn't scrape away either, and I let it soak overnight in soapy water, but that had no effect.\n\nHave any of you guys dealt with this before? Thanks for your time.\n\n---\n\n",
"How to clean crystallized Olive Oil So last night, I put some olive oil in my pan and turned it to medium heat to make some scrambled eggs before I went out with some friends. Except, I completely forgot about it and left... Luckily I still had a house 5 hours later when I came back, but the olive oil had blackened and [looked like this](http://i.imgur.com/GEDsCmM.jpg).\n\nNow, I've definitely learned my lesson, and I know I'm really lucky to have made it through this stupid mistake. I have to clean this pan, though, and I haven't had any luck so far.\n\nThe olive oil is black and glossy, almost like glass, but it doesn't break when I hit it with the butt of my knife. It doesn't scrape away either, and I let it soak overnight in soapy water, but that had no effect.\n\nHave any of you guys dealt with this before? Thanks for your time.\n\n---\n\n",
"How to clean crystallized Olive Oil So last night, I put some olive oil in my pan and turned it to medium heat to make some scrambled eggs before I went out with some friends. Except, I completely forgot about it and left... Luckily I still had a house 5 hours later when I came back, but the olive oil had blackened and [looked like this](http://i.imgur.com/GEDsCmM.jpg).\n\nNow, I've definitely learned my lesson, and I know I'm really lucky to have made it through this stupid mistake. I have to clean this pan, though, and I haven't had any luck so far.\n\nThe olive oil is black and glossy, almost like glass, but it doesn't break when I hit it with the butt of my knife. It doesn't scrape away either, and I let it soak overnight in soapy water, but that had no effect.\n\nHave any of you guys dealt with this before? Thanks for your time.\n\n---\n\n",
"How to clean crystallized Olive Oil So last night, I put some olive oil in my pan and turned it to medium heat to make some scrambled eggs before I went out with some friends. Except, I completely forgot about it and left... Luckily I still had a house 5 hours later when I came back, but the olive oil had blackened and [looked like this](http://i.imgur.com/GEDsCmM.jpg).\n\nNow, I've definitely learned my lesson, and I know I'm really lucky to have made it through this stupid mistake. I have to clean this pan, though, and I haven't had any luck so far.\n\nThe olive oil is black and glossy, almost like glass, but it doesn't break when I hit it with the butt of my knife. It doesn't scrape away either, and I let it soak overnight in soapy water, but that had no effect.\n\nHave any of you guys dealt with this before? Thanks for your time.\n\n---\n\n",
"How to clean crystallized Olive Oil So last night, I put some olive oil in my pan and turned it to medium heat to make some scrambled eggs before I went out with some friends. Except, I completely forgot about it and left... Luckily I still had a house 5 hours later when I came back, but the olive oil had blackened and [looked like this](http://i.imgur.com/GEDsCmM.jpg).\n\nNow, I've definitely learned my lesson, and I know I'm really lucky to have made it through this stupid mistake. I have to clean this pan, though, and I haven't had any luck so far.\n\nThe olive oil is black and glossy, almost like glass, but it doesn't break when I hit it with the butt of my knife. It doesn't scrape away either, and I let it soak overnight in soapy water, but that had no effect.\n\nHave any of you guys dealt with this before? Thanks for your time.\n\n---\n\n"
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"Anything that could clean that pan is also going to remove the finish. So you can either replace the ruined pan now, or in 4 hours after you try to scrub it. ",
"Wait- haven't you just seasoned it, as you would a cast iron pan? The carbon matrix you have deposited is inherently nonstick. Sure, it may be uneven and/or unattractive, but it is otherwise an improvement.\n\nDo it to the whole pan and be happy.",
"What I do if this happens is to heat up the pan, turn on the fan, and pour white vinegar into the pan. Let it boil for a while, and then take it off of the heat. Let it soak overnight, and it may just come off without much hassle.\n\nWhatever you do though, DO NOT BREATH THE FUMES! (I speak from experience)",
"I was going to suggest boiling baking soda or a mix of good dish soap & baking soda... Slow boil not fast. To be totally honest though you may have hosed this one :/",
"I seem to recall cases like this you might want to let it soak in salted water. I think coarse, like rock salt, is best.",
"[SOS pad](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/S.O.S_Soap_Pad). If you don't know what they are, they're fine steel wool impregnated with a degreaser. I get this sort of gunk when I use my broiler pan and this is the only thing that helps.",
"Wait... Heat up the pan and the oil will turn back into a liquid... Don't know if post is troll or srs?"
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"transitioning careers I'm 31, and have a degree in finance but working a dead end job at an insurance company in NYC. I find the work I do to be incredibly boring and somewhat of a dead end job (underwriter). Other than building my network, I've applied and gotten many interviews with the big banks and made final rounds, but my current role is a detriment as many hiring managers see the field I'm in to be too unrelated, any tips would be greatly appreciated."
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"You need to approach every interview with a lot of research on the company and the specific job you're applying for. By learning the language and background of that role you will come across in your interview that you're very motivated and able to learn the ropes to do the job. Without the actual experience, you at least need to be educated enough to be able to take on the position. \n\nSource: I've changed careers 3 times into different roles by doing this extensive background research. For my latest job I did no less than 4 hours of research and studying before my interview and I was incredibly prepared. ",
"I recently changed careers completely this year. I worked in college libraries for about ten years. One day, I decided I was over it and wanted to do something new. I have a degree in criminal justice and have always been interested in the law and how it works so I started focusing on finding a job in a law firm even though I had zero experience. \n\nWhen I was going through job postings, I tried to tailor what experience I did have to the qualities they were looking for. It took a really long time to finally get a call back, but once did, I did what another redditor suggested and researched the law firm. I learned what kinds of cases they handled, I looked up a general description of what kinds of things I may be handling. When I went to the interview, I was able to express my genuine interest in working for the firm and let them know that even though I had no experience, I was willing and able to learn. I think that's the most important part. "
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"How to say sorry after doing something MILDLY bad? I was in art class and cleaning my table and I accidentally sprayed this guy's painting with some cleaner. I didn't realize it was me until he was like \"Hey Dude!\" and everyone was staring at me. I saw his paper was a little wet and said, \"OH, was that me? I'm so Sorry. It should dry off hopefully\". Then he said, \"Yeah, it should dry\", and a little jokingly, \"If it doesn't we're gonna have a problem\". I didn't say anything after that. Was this an effective way to apologize? I really do feel bad for what I did but I didn't want to OVER apologize and sound weird.. Please help",
"How to say sorry after doing something MILDLY bad? I was in art class and cleaning my table and I accidentally sprayed this guy's painting with some cleaner. I didn't realize it was me until he was like \"Hey Dude!\" and everyone was staring at me. I saw his paper was a little wet and said, \"OH, was that me? I'm so Sorry. It should dry off hopefully\". Then he said, \"Yeah, it should dry\", and a little jokingly, \"If it doesn't we're gonna have a problem\". I didn't say anything after that. Was this an effective way to apologize? I really do feel bad for what I did but I didn't want to OVER apologize and sound weird.. Please help",
"How to say sorry after doing something MILDLY bad? I was in art class and cleaning my table and I accidentally sprayed this guy's painting with some cleaner. I didn't realize it was me until he was like \"Hey Dude!\" and everyone was staring at me. I saw his paper was a little wet and said, \"OH, was that me? I'm so Sorry. It should dry off hopefully\". Then he said, \"Yeah, it should dry\", and a little jokingly, \"If it doesn't we're gonna have a problem\". I didn't say anything after that. Was this an effective way to apologize? I really do feel bad for what I did but I didn't want to OVER apologize and sound weird.. Please help",
"How to say sorry after doing something MILDLY bad? I was in art class and cleaning my table and I accidentally sprayed this guy's painting with some cleaner. I didn't realize it was me until he was like \"Hey Dude!\" and everyone was staring at me. I saw his paper was a little wet and said, \"OH, was that me? I'm so Sorry. It should dry off hopefully\". Then he said, \"Yeah, it should dry\", and a little jokingly, \"If it doesn't we're gonna have a problem\". I didn't say anything after that. Was this an effective way to apologize? I really do feel bad for what I did but I didn't want to OVER apologize and sound weird.. Please help"
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"Don't just parrot out a stock apology. Show interest. \n\"Hey, did your painting dry out okay?\" then either \"Glad to hear it - I'll be more careful with the cleaner next time!\" or \"oh man, I'm sorry! Anything I can do to help you fix it?\"",
"\"It should dry off hopefully\" wasn't a good addition. Sounds like you're trying to minimize what happened ",
"Should be okay like this. If you find out it actually damaged his stuff and he cares for it, just do a \"hey man, just wanted to say again that I'm really sorry about being clumsy\". But if it doesn't come up or you see no real damage, it's fine like this. You and him both addressed it already.",
"\"Tom, I'm so sorry for messing up your painting. I was clumsy. I hope you can restore it to your liking.\" \n\n\nThat should do it. "
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"Making Long Distance Relationship Easier Any tips to make long distance be less awful, especially when the next time we will see each other isn't for awhile:(",
"Making Long Distance Relationship Easier Any tips to make long distance be less awful, especially when the next time we will see each other isn't for awhile:(",
"Making Long Distance Relationship Easier Any tips to make long distance be less awful, especially when the next time we will see each other isn't for awhile:("
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"Long distance sucks balls. Below are some things that helped us (transatlantic for 3 years, 1-2 visits a year max)\n\nCommunication is always important as you probably know, but when all you have for months on end is your ability to communicate without seeing physical cues (angry face, frustrated tones, etc) you need to make sure that you're actively communicating your feelings and looking for theirs.\n\nWatch movies together real-time while Skyping or chatting in some way. You still share in the moment.\n\nPlay online games (video games or PC) that allow you to have characters that interact. It sounds stupid but when you can't touch for months on end there's something sweet about seeing your characters get to. Halo and gears of war were our games of choice at the time!\n\nEven if you don't *do* anything, do nothing together because it helps you feel a sense of normalcy. Not sure what your time difference situation is, if there even is one at all, but I feel like some people drift because stop sharing the little daily bits of info that keep you clued in to each other's lives and start feeling like they have less in common.\n\nMail things every now and again as a surprise. Stuff you send will smell like you and that can be so comforting. Also, holding something they were the last to hold only a matter of days ago can be quite precious when you spend so long apart.\n\nRandom photos of where you are or what you're doing are cool. And I mean even stupid stuff like the view at any random given moment in time even if you're just on the bus or waiting in line at the store. Gives a sense of presence and you can kind of feel like you were with the sender. \n\nThis is longer than planned and might be stuff you do already but worth a shot sharing. Also might seem outdated as people share their lives digitally a lot more now than when we needed to.\n\nGood luck! \n\n",
"not super long distance but my now husband and I lived 100 miles apart for almost 2 years when we first started dating. the biggest thing for us was skyping almost every day, even if we didn't have a whole lot to talk about (he'd play Xbox and I'd study while we'd skype normally) it would still be like we were hanging out in the same room. I'd also suggest finding some kind of game to play together (we played on omgpop all the time but it's unfortunately shut down now). ",
"My fiance and I were long distance for years before I could move to his state. We had some rough patches, but we stuck it out and it was so worth it.\n\nWe were together everyday online. We met in WoW. So we played together and talked using [Vent](http://www.ventrilo.com/).\n\nThis is gonna sound harsh but, if you're stuck in this situation like we were, you just gotta suck it up. Do the best you can with what you have. If you both want it enough, you'll come through together.",
"let each other \"see\" other people while you are apart. you still love each other and are committed to each other... but masturbation will only get you so far"
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"How do you make friends in college? Need to make these next years count Hey guys, I don't usually post here, but because I am transferring to a university this fall (I should probably note that this is round 2 of a university, my previous one, college A, did not work out due to a slew of reasons, so I am transferring to college B in a few weeks), I really need (desperately need) to learn how to make friends in college.\n\nFirst of all, I have never had a wide circle of friends. I have a few *really* good friends, and that's it. I've never been one of those people to post on social media regularly, swarming up 100+ likes per photo or whatever. Unfortunately, pretty much 90% of my friends are transferring to other colleges, so it looks like I will have to start making friends at college B.\n\nAs I said, I went to college A last semester, and it simply didn't work out. Although the biggest reason was due to distance and financial reasons, a large portion of it was also due to the fact that I was practically incapable of making friends. I'm talking friends, not someone you just say \"Sup dude\" as you're walking to class. I had 3 roommates, and none of them really clicked with me. One of them did, however, but he just did his *own* things with *his* friends. I tried to invite myself (probably a bad idea) to a party he knew of, but felt like I was being intrusive.\n\nSame thing with clubs. Tried joining a few, but nothing ever came out of it - everyone seemed to had already formed their own cliques or whatever, leaving me as a ghost. Not a fun college experience overall. I went to a few parties thinking I made some friends along the way, but of course, the next morning when I tried talking to one of them, he didn't even remember who I was.\n\nSo I turn to you all. Clearly, I am not the best with making new friends, and in a way it really aggravates me because I have a wide variety of interests like music, hiking, snowboarding, etc, but unfortunately I have really paralyzing social anxiety - I've told my friends, but of course I don't get anxious around them, I've known them for years.\n\nDoes ANYONE have ANY tips on how to make friends in college? Parties? Clubs? Perhaps it was due to the college itself, but I found college A to be anything but a fun college experience. Need to make something happen at college B (less than three weeks at this point).\n\nTips? Advice? Suggestions? Thanks",
"How do you make friends in college? Need to make these next years count Hey guys, I don't usually post here, but because I am transferring to a university this fall (I should probably note that this is round 2 of a university, my previous one, college A, did not work out due to a slew of reasons, so I am transferring to college B in a few weeks), I really need (desperately need) to learn how to make friends in college.\n\nFirst of all, I have never had a wide circle of friends. I have a few *really* good friends, and that's it. I've never been one of those people to post on social media regularly, swarming up 100+ likes per photo or whatever. Unfortunately, pretty much 90% of my friends are transferring to other colleges, so it looks like I will have to start making friends at college B.\n\nAs I said, I went to college A last semester, and it simply didn't work out. Although the biggest reason was due to distance and financial reasons, a large portion of it was also due to the fact that I was practically incapable of making friends. I'm talking friends, not someone you just say \"Sup dude\" as you're walking to class. I had 3 roommates, and none of them really clicked with me. One of them did, however, but he just did his *own* things with *his* friends. I tried to invite myself (probably a bad idea) to a party he knew of, but felt like I was being intrusive.\n\nSame thing with clubs. Tried joining a few, but nothing ever came out of it - everyone seemed to had already formed their own cliques or whatever, leaving me as a ghost. Not a fun college experience overall. I went to a few parties thinking I made some friends along the way, but of course, the next morning when I tried talking to one of them, he didn't even remember who I was.\n\nSo I turn to you all. Clearly, I am not the best with making new friends, and in a way it really aggravates me because I have a wide variety of interests like music, hiking, snowboarding, etc, but unfortunately I have really paralyzing social anxiety - I've told my friends, but of course I don't get anxious around them, I've known them for years.\n\nDoes ANYONE have ANY tips on how to make friends in college? Parties? Clubs? Perhaps it was due to the college itself, but I found college A to be anything but a fun college experience. Need to make something happen at college B (less than three weeks at this point).\n\nTips? Advice? Suggestions? Thanks",
"How do you make friends in college? Need to make these next years count Hey guys, I don't usually post here, but because I am transferring to a university this fall (I should probably note that this is round 2 of a university, my previous one, college A, did not work out due to a slew of reasons, so I am transferring to college B in a few weeks), I really need (desperately need) to learn how to make friends in college.\n\nFirst of all, I have never had a wide circle of friends. I have a few *really* good friends, and that's it. I've never been one of those people to post on social media regularly, swarming up 100+ likes per photo or whatever. Unfortunately, pretty much 90% of my friends are transferring to other colleges, so it looks like I will have to start making friends at college B.\n\nAs I said, I went to college A last semester, and it simply didn't work out. Although the biggest reason was due to distance and financial reasons, a large portion of it was also due to the fact that I was practically incapable of making friends. I'm talking friends, not someone you just say \"Sup dude\" as you're walking to class. I had 3 roommates, and none of them really clicked with me. One of them did, however, but he just did his *own* things with *his* friends. I tried to invite myself (probably a bad idea) to a party he knew of, but felt like I was being intrusive.\n\nSame thing with clubs. Tried joining a few, but nothing ever came out of it - everyone seemed to had already formed their own cliques or whatever, leaving me as a ghost. Not a fun college experience overall. I went to a few parties thinking I made some friends along the way, but of course, the next morning when I tried talking to one of them, he didn't even remember who I was.\n\nSo I turn to you all. Clearly, I am not the best with making new friends, and in a way it really aggravates me because I have a wide variety of interests like music, hiking, snowboarding, etc, but unfortunately I have really paralyzing social anxiety - I've told my friends, but of course I don't get anxious around them, I've known them for years.\n\nDoes ANYONE have ANY tips on how to make friends in college? Parties? Clubs? Perhaps it was due to the college itself, but I found college A to be anything but a fun college experience. Need to make something happen at college B (less than three weeks at this point).\n\nTips? Advice? Suggestions? Thanks",
"How do you make friends in college? Need to make these next years count Hey guys, I don't usually post here, but because I am transferring to a university this fall (I should probably note that this is round 2 of a university, my previous one, college A, did not work out due to a slew of reasons, so I am transferring to college B in a few weeks), I really need (desperately need) to learn how to make friends in college.\n\nFirst of all, I have never had a wide circle of friends. I have a few *really* good friends, and that's it. I've never been one of those people to post on social media regularly, swarming up 100+ likes per photo or whatever. Unfortunately, pretty much 90% of my friends are transferring to other colleges, so it looks like I will have to start making friends at college B.\n\nAs I said, I went to college A last semester, and it simply didn't work out. Although the biggest reason was due to distance and financial reasons, a large portion of it was also due to the fact that I was practically incapable of making friends. I'm talking friends, not someone you just say \"Sup dude\" as you're walking to class. I had 3 roommates, and none of them really clicked with me. One of them did, however, but he just did his *own* things with *his* friends. I tried to invite myself (probably a bad idea) to a party he knew of, but felt like I was being intrusive.\n\nSame thing with clubs. Tried joining a few, but nothing ever came out of it - everyone seemed to had already formed their own cliques or whatever, leaving me as a ghost. Not a fun college experience overall. I went to a few parties thinking I made some friends along the way, but of course, the next morning when I tried talking to one of them, he didn't even remember who I was.\n\nSo I turn to you all. Clearly, I am not the best with making new friends, and in a way it really aggravates me because I have a wide variety of interests like music, hiking, snowboarding, etc, but unfortunately I have really paralyzing social anxiety - I've told my friends, but of course I don't get anxious around them, I've known them for years.\n\nDoes ANYONE have ANY tips on how to make friends in college? Parties? Clubs? Perhaps it was due to the college itself, but I found college A to be anything but a fun college experience. Need to make something happen at college B (less than three weeks at this point).\n\nTips? Advice? Suggestions? Thanks",
"How do you make friends in college? Need to make these next years count Hey guys, I don't usually post here, but because I am transferring to a university this fall (I should probably note that this is round 2 of a university, my previous one, college A, did not work out due to a slew of reasons, so I am transferring to college B in a few weeks), I really need (desperately need) to learn how to make friends in college.\n\nFirst of all, I have never had a wide circle of friends. I have a few *really* good friends, and that's it. I've never been one of those people to post on social media regularly, swarming up 100+ likes per photo or whatever. Unfortunately, pretty much 90% of my friends are transferring to other colleges, so it looks like I will have to start making friends at college B.\n\nAs I said, I went to college A last semester, and it simply didn't work out. Although the biggest reason was due to distance and financial reasons, a large portion of it was also due to the fact that I was practically incapable of making friends. I'm talking friends, not someone you just say \"Sup dude\" as you're walking to class. I had 3 roommates, and none of them really clicked with me. One of them did, however, but he just did his *own* things with *his* friends. I tried to invite myself (probably a bad idea) to a party he knew of, but felt like I was being intrusive.\n\nSame thing with clubs. Tried joining a few, but nothing ever came out of it - everyone seemed to had already formed their own cliques or whatever, leaving me as a ghost. Not a fun college experience overall. I went to a few parties thinking I made some friends along the way, but of course, the next morning when I tried talking to one of them, he didn't even remember who I was.\n\nSo I turn to you all. Clearly, I am not the best with making new friends, and in a way it really aggravates me because I have a wide variety of interests like music, hiking, snowboarding, etc, but unfortunately I have really paralyzing social anxiety - I've told my friends, but of course I don't get anxious around them, I've known them for years.\n\nDoes ANYONE have ANY tips on how to make friends in college? Parties? Clubs? Perhaps it was due to the college itself, but I found college A to be anything but a fun college experience. Need to make something happen at college B (less than three weeks at this point).\n\nTips? Advice? Suggestions? Thanks",
"How do you make friends in college? Need to make these next years count Hey guys, I don't usually post here, but because I am transferring to a university this fall (I should probably note that this is round 2 of a university, my previous one, college A, did not work out due to a slew of reasons, so I am transferring to college B in a few weeks), I really need (desperately need) to learn how to make friends in college.\n\nFirst of all, I have never had a wide circle of friends. I have a few *really* good friends, and that's it. I've never been one of those people to post on social media regularly, swarming up 100+ likes per photo or whatever. Unfortunately, pretty much 90% of my friends are transferring to other colleges, so it looks like I will have to start making friends at college B.\n\nAs I said, I went to college A last semester, and it simply didn't work out. Although the biggest reason was due to distance and financial reasons, a large portion of it was also due to the fact that I was practically incapable of making friends. I'm talking friends, not someone you just say \"Sup dude\" as you're walking to class. I had 3 roommates, and none of them really clicked with me. One of them did, however, but he just did his *own* things with *his* friends. I tried to invite myself (probably a bad idea) to a party he knew of, but felt like I was being intrusive.\n\nSame thing with clubs. Tried joining a few, but nothing ever came out of it - everyone seemed to had already formed their own cliques or whatever, leaving me as a ghost. Not a fun college experience overall. I went to a few parties thinking I made some friends along the way, but of course, the next morning when I tried talking to one of them, he didn't even remember who I was.\n\nSo I turn to you all. Clearly, I am not the best with making new friends, and in a way it really aggravates me because I have a wide variety of interests like music, hiking, snowboarding, etc, but unfortunately I have really paralyzing social anxiety - I've told my friends, but of course I don't get anxious around them, I've known them for years.\n\nDoes ANYONE have ANY tips on how to make friends in college? Parties? Clubs? Perhaps it was due to the college itself, but I found college A to be anything but a fun college experience. Need to make something happen at college B (less than three weeks at this point).\n\nTips? Advice? Suggestions? Thanks",
"How do you make friends in college? Need to make these next years count Hey guys, I don't usually post here, but because I am transferring to a university this fall (I should probably note that this is round 2 of a university, my previous one, college A, did not work out due to a slew of reasons, so I am transferring to college B in a few weeks), I really need (desperately need) to learn how to make friends in college.\n\nFirst of all, I have never had a wide circle of friends. I have a few *really* good friends, and that's it. I've never been one of those people to post on social media regularly, swarming up 100+ likes per photo or whatever. Unfortunately, pretty much 90% of my friends are transferring to other colleges, so it looks like I will have to start making friends at college B.\n\nAs I said, I went to college A last semester, and it simply didn't work out. Although the biggest reason was due to distance and financial reasons, a large portion of it was also due to the fact that I was practically incapable of making friends. I'm talking friends, not someone you just say \"Sup dude\" as you're walking to class. I had 3 roommates, and none of them really clicked with me. One of them did, however, but he just did his *own* things with *his* friends. I tried to invite myself (probably a bad idea) to a party he knew of, but felt like I was being intrusive.\n\nSame thing with clubs. Tried joining a few, but nothing ever came out of it - everyone seemed to had already formed their own cliques or whatever, leaving me as a ghost. Not a fun college experience overall. I went to a few parties thinking I made some friends along the way, but of course, the next morning when I tried talking to one of them, he didn't even remember who I was.\n\nSo I turn to you all. Clearly, I am not the best with making new friends, and in a way it really aggravates me because I have a wide variety of interests like music, hiking, snowboarding, etc, but unfortunately I have really paralyzing social anxiety - I've told my friends, but of course I don't get anxious around them, I've known them for years.\n\nDoes ANYONE have ANY tips on how to make friends in college? Parties? Clubs? Perhaps it was due to the college itself, but I found college A to be anything but a fun college experience. Need to make something happen at college B (less than three weeks at this point).\n\nTips? Advice? Suggestions? Thanks",
"How do you make friends in college? Need to make these next years count Hey guys, I don't usually post here, but because I am transferring to a university this fall (I should probably note that this is round 2 of a university, my previous one, college A, did not work out due to a slew of reasons, so I am transferring to college B in a few weeks), I really need (desperately need) to learn how to make friends in college.\n\nFirst of all, I have never had a wide circle of friends. I have a few *really* good friends, and that's it. I've never been one of those people to post on social media regularly, swarming up 100+ likes per photo or whatever. Unfortunately, pretty much 90% of my friends are transferring to other colleges, so it looks like I will have to start making friends at college B.\n\nAs I said, I went to college A last semester, and it simply didn't work out. Although the biggest reason was due to distance and financial reasons, a large portion of it was also due to the fact that I was practically incapable of making friends. I'm talking friends, not someone you just say \"Sup dude\" as you're walking to class. I had 3 roommates, and none of them really clicked with me. One of them did, however, but he just did his *own* things with *his* friends. I tried to invite myself (probably a bad idea) to a party he knew of, but felt like I was being intrusive.\n\nSame thing with clubs. Tried joining a few, but nothing ever came out of it - everyone seemed to had already formed their own cliques or whatever, leaving me as a ghost. Not a fun college experience overall. I went to a few parties thinking I made some friends along the way, but of course, the next morning when I tried talking to one of them, he didn't even remember who I was.\n\nSo I turn to you all. Clearly, I am not the best with making new friends, and in a way it really aggravates me because I have a wide variety of interests like music, hiking, snowboarding, etc, but unfortunately I have really paralyzing social anxiety - I've told my friends, but of course I don't get anxious around them, I've known them for years.\n\nDoes ANYONE have ANY tips on how to make friends in college? Parties? Clubs? Perhaps it was due to the college itself, but I found college A to be anything but a fun college experience. Need to make something happen at college B (less than three weeks at this point).\n\nTips? Advice? Suggestions? Thanks",
"How do you make friends in college? Need to make these next years count Hey guys, I don't usually post here, but because I am transferring to a university this fall (I should probably note that this is round 2 of a university, my previous one, college A, did not work out due to a slew of reasons, so I am transferring to college B in a few weeks), I really need (desperately need) to learn how to make friends in college.\n\nFirst of all, I have never had a wide circle of friends. I have a few *really* good friends, and that's it. I've never been one of those people to post on social media regularly, swarming up 100+ likes per photo or whatever. Unfortunately, pretty much 90% of my friends are transferring to other colleges, so it looks like I will have to start making friends at college B.\n\nAs I said, I went to college A last semester, and it simply didn't work out. Although the biggest reason was due to distance and financial reasons, a large portion of it was also due to the fact that I was practically incapable of making friends. I'm talking friends, not someone you just say \"Sup dude\" as you're walking to class. I had 3 roommates, and none of them really clicked with me. One of them did, however, but he just did his *own* things with *his* friends. I tried to invite myself (probably a bad idea) to a party he knew of, but felt like I was being intrusive.\n\nSame thing with clubs. Tried joining a few, but nothing ever came out of it - everyone seemed to had already formed their own cliques or whatever, leaving me as a ghost. Not a fun college experience overall. I went to a few parties thinking I made some friends along the way, but of course, the next morning when I tried talking to one of them, he didn't even remember who I was.\n\nSo I turn to you all. Clearly, I am not the best with making new friends, and in a way it really aggravates me because I have a wide variety of interests like music, hiking, snowboarding, etc, but unfortunately I have really paralyzing social anxiety - I've told my friends, but of course I don't get anxious around them, I've known them for years.\n\nDoes ANYONE have ANY tips on how to make friends in college? Parties? Clubs? Perhaps it was due to the college itself, but I found college A to be anything but a fun college experience. Need to make something happen at college B (less than three weeks at this point).\n\nTips? Advice? Suggestions? Thanks",
"How do you make friends in college? Need to make these next years count Hey guys, I don't usually post here, but because I am transferring to a university this fall (I should probably note that this is round 2 of a university, my previous one, college A, did not work out due to a slew of reasons, so I am transferring to college B in a few weeks), I really need (desperately need) to learn how to make friends in college.\n\nFirst of all, I have never had a wide circle of friends. I have a few *really* good friends, and that's it. I've never been one of those people to post on social media regularly, swarming up 100+ likes per photo or whatever. Unfortunately, pretty much 90% of my friends are transferring to other colleges, so it looks like I will have to start making friends at college B.\n\nAs I said, I went to college A last semester, and it simply didn't work out. Although the biggest reason was due to distance and financial reasons, a large portion of it was also due to the fact that I was practically incapable of making friends. I'm talking friends, not someone you just say \"Sup dude\" as you're walking to class. I had 3 roommates, and none of them really clicked with me. One of them did, however, but he just did his *own* things with *his* friends. I tried to invite myself (probably a bad idea) to a party he knew of, but felt like I was being intrusive.\n\nSame thing with clubs. Tried joining a few, but nothing ever came out of it - everyone seemed to had already formed their own cliques or whatever, leaving me as a ghost. Not a fun college experience overall. I went to a few parties thinking I made some friends along the way, but of course, the next morning when I tried talking to one of them, he didn't even remember who I was.\n\nSo I turn to you all. Clearly, I am not the best with making new friends, and in a way it really aggravates me because I have a wide variety of interests like music, hiking, snowboarding, etc, but unfortunately I have really paralyzing social anxiety - I've told my friends, but of course I don't get anxious around them, I've known them for years.\n\nDoes ANYONE have ANY tips on how to make friends in college? Parties? Clubs? Perhaps it was due to the college itself, but I found college A to be anything but a fun college experience. Need to make something happen at college B (less than three weeks at this point).\n\nTips? Advice? Suggestions? Thanks",
"How do you make friends in college? Need to make these next years count Hey guys, I don't usually post here, but because I am transferring to a university this fall (I should probably note that this is round 2 of a university, my previous one, college A, did not work out due to a slew of reasons, so I am transferring to college B in a few weeks), I really need (desperately need) to learn how to make friends in college.\n\nFirst of all, I have never had a wide circle of friends. I have a few *really* good friends, and that's it. I've never been one of those people to post on social media regularly, swarming up 100+ likes per photo or whatever. Unfortunately, pretty much 90% of my friends are transferring to other colleges, so it looks like I will have to start making friends at college B.\n\nAs I said, I went to college A last semester, and it simply didn't work out. Although the biggest reason was due to distance and financial reasons, a large portion of it was also due to the fact that I was practically incapable of making friends. I'm talking friends, not someone you just say \"Sup dude\" as you're walking to class. I had 3 roommates, and none of them really clicked with me. One of them did, however, but he just did his *own* things with *his* friends. I tried to invite myself (probably a bad idea) to a party he knew of, but felt like I was being intrusive.\n\nSame thing with clubs. Tried joining a few, but nothing ever came out of it - everyone seemed to had already formed their own cliques or whatever, leaving me as a ghost. Not a fun college experience overall. I went to a few parties thinking I made some friends along the way, but of course, the next morning when I tried talking to one of them, he didn't even remember who I was.\n\nSo I turn to you all. Clearly, I am not the best with making new friends, and in a way it really aggravates me because I have a wide variety of interests like music, hiking, snowboarding, etc, but unfortunately I have really paralyzing social anxiety - I've told my friends, but of course I don't get anxious around them, I've known them for years.\n\nDoes ANYONE have ANY tips on how to make friends in college? Parties? Clubs? Perhaps it was due to the college itself, but I found college A to be anything but a fun college experience. Need to make something happen at college B (less than three weeks at this point).\n\nTips? Advice? Suggestions? Thanks"
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"I've had my fair share of problems with building friendships in college too, but I also learned a couple things that have really helped me out.\n\nFirst of all, you gotta invest in these new friendships. Like you mentioned, there's a bunch of people who already have their own social circles, but there are also MANY others who are likely in the same position as you. To deal with both kinds, however, it is essential that you show your interest in becoming closer friends. Like some people said, you can do so by hanging out with them or inviting them to do things you enjoy. \n\nI know anxiety can be a bitch, and if you're someone who enjoys spending time alone you're probably gonna get VERY picky with the people you see as potential friends, but if you want to build meaningful friendships you have to put in the time and effort. If you didn't click right away with someone, that doesn't necessarily mean that you can't be their friend. Similarly, even if clicked absolutely well with someone, you can't expect to become their BFF overnight. Now, you don't have to hang out with douchebags or every nice person you meet, but if you feel like there's some connection with them, even if it's at a very small level, you should bank on it. Some people will likely be as anxious, if not more, as you. So, even if you felt that some conversation or hangout with them went great and you see them as \"social ones\", don't be the one waiting for the invite, take the initiative! Even if they're busy, nice people will likely take note of it and reciprocate if they find an opportunity. You can start with the small things that everyone does often, like grabbing some lunch or going to the library. Also, **NEVER** decline an invite out of laziness/social anxiety from people you found nice, even if you end up having a shitty time you can say you gave it a shot and did something different for a change, working towards a more outgoing personality. \n\nIf you're on the quiet end, don't wait for people to talk to you, if you think you can strike up a conversation about something happening around, or want to join the conversation at one of those clubs/parties, just go for it. Try to jump past the meaningless small talk though, if you just force yourself to talk but don't actually have *something* to say it's gonna look needy and it can actually worsen your social anxiety as you're just gonna be stuck in an endless loop of thinking \"What am I gonna say next?\". If someone's telling you something, even if it's not quite in your interest, **listen to understand, not to respond**. It gets much easier to hop towards the topics that may be of your interest, you'd be surprised by how much you can have in common with people that seem completely different. Even if that \"click\" doesn't come eventually, it's still some useful practice for future conversations.\n\nLastly, don't give up! Social skills are developed like every other skill, through constant practice and quite a lot of hit and miss throughout often long periods of time. Rome wasn't built in a day. Celebrate every success but be aware of your defects and learn how to conquer them. Reflect on every experience, the things you did well and the things you still need to work on. Stay loyal to your identity but also don't be afraid to try different things.",
"I would suggest clubs that interest you mainly to get yourself around other people who have similar interest I would stay away from parties",
"Honestly if you've never been great at making friends you need to look at yourself and figure out why. 99% of the time it is personality. You are your own worst enemy. What so I suggest? Get used to talking to people. Random person at bus stop? Talk to him. Taking an Uber back? Strike up a conversation. Long elevator ride? How's your life stranger? \n\nYes it will be weird and awkward. However, if you can overcome these harder scenarios then you'll easily be able to relate to people you have more in common with. Such as college students! \n\nGood luck!",
"Find the most social and extroverted people you can and befriend them first. By association they will introduce you to their friends, and they will introduce you to their friends and your social circle will be huge. ",
"I also transferred to college and had a hard time making friends, but honestly in the end the few people I talked to ended up dropping out or lost contact after college anyway. I recommend joining more academic clubs related to your major to form actual relationships that will help you after college. I have been out of college for three years. Since then I have made a few new friends that aren't shallow. College is full of losers looking to party and when you look back on it, you'll regret it if you didn't focus on building a professional Network. In college I studied a lot and wasn't as social. Now that I've graduated I have an amazing job and have way better \"party type\" experiences because I have a great job and salary. some people still go to shitty college bars were as I can afford to travel and go to nicer places.",
"get a job! i didn't have a whole lot of friends in college until i started working at the local jimmy johns near campus. everyone on the staff was young, friendly and we all bonded over the stresses of work and school. i made some of my best friends and memories working there. \n\nif you don't have enough free time to pick up a job that requires a whole lot of hours try becoming a desk assistant at a dorm. these people are usually friends with the RA's, who are friends with the residents and so on. also it's a pretty low stress job, you'll have plenty of time to do homework if necessary. \n\nbest of luck!",
"I'll share what worked for me. Do your studying in a public area, like the hall to your dorms. People will walk by, and it's likely some of them will strike up a conversation. Also, try to sound excited when you talk to people, even if it requires some faking. For extra points, prepare a 10-30 second anecdote that can be your reply to \"How are you?\". Good luck!",
"I met my friends from living in the dorms. Honestly it's just a numbers game. I'd try the club route again and see if you can find a few people that you click with that have similar interests. If you live in a decent sized city then checkout Meetup.com. \n\nAlso, have realistic expectations. Don't get discouraged if just after 2-3 weeks you aren't best friends with people. It takes time to build meaningful relationships. \n\nThe best advice my mom ever gave me was if you want to be invited places then to invite people to do things. It is far more likely for someone to invite you somewhere if you've invited them to do something first. ",
"Don't just join clubs on campus, try other stuff in the area. Whatever the local softball league is will have signups (free agent lists) you can join, drama, games, cornhole, beer clubs, there's all kinds of stuff in the area you can join, besides just college clubs.\n\nI have a copule softball teams and every year we get people looking to meet new people who join up and they end up with more friends then they can handle.",
"As someone who was in your shoes but somehoe managaged a few tips. \n\n1) don't care about making friends. The more you care the less people want to be your friend\n2) join whatever interests you, genuinely\n3) work hard in your major and do things to advance your career\n4) get an on campus job\n\nLiterally I struggled to make friends at first in college until I gave up and stopped giving a shit, then I magically made friends",
"My advice is to not be picky, and never cancel plans once you've made them. Hang out with people that you think are nice, even if they aren't your \"kind of people.\" I'm not suggesting you hang out with total douchebags. But if you're kind of nerdy, and you find someone who just lives for football, but they are nice and you have a few things to talk about, go hang out with them. Chances are you might change in college or they will introduce you to someone you do click with. If someone invites you to something, even if it sounds lame, try it once. Don't bail on plans because you are tired or don't feel social. No one is going to be exactly like your friends from high school. I see too many people trying to make the same connection or find exact analogues to their existing friend circle. Understand that new friendships are usually awkward, but get easier with time and effort. Some of my best friends now are people I didn't particularly think were interesting at first, but getting to know them proved otherwise. And as I got used to their quirks, they got used to mine. You also have to put effort into new friendships. You have to ask people to meet up. You have to be forgiving of people who don't have time to hang out. You have to keep trying. And understand that people are never just their hobbies or career ambitions. I am an artist and writer. One of my best friends is a doctor. She was a nurse when we met. She was my neighbor and I didn't think we'd have anything to talk about. But one night we shared a bottle of wine together and talked about gruesome medical issues and plagues. We have never had a lull in the conversation since we met. "
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"The short of it is mostly framing and exposure. I've gotten a bit lazy in my shooting lately where the most important aspects for me are just that, framing and exposure. As long as I have those while shooting in RAW format, I can fix whatever in post processing. Oh, I should add that I'm primarily a sports photographer. If you want to shoot portraits, events and weddings, or something else, that's a different ball game.\n\nThe number 1 tip is to learn your camera in and out. Read the manual, watch some videos, experiment, whatever it takes. And I don't recommend buying a [DSLR] camera without talking to a photographer and getting his or her recommendation.\n\nFrom there, view examples and take photos focusing on framing. Portrait, landscape, rule of thirds, etc.\n\nThere are three main components that manipulate exposure, that is the lightness and darkness of the photo: ISO, aperture, and shutter speed. ISO is the sensitivity of the camera's sensor. Aperture controls how much light the lens let's into the camera. Shutter speed is simply the speed of the shutter. You will want to study up on these three and know how to manipulate these settings with your camera.\n\nThese are really the main aspects of getting started with photography imo. Color balance is important obviously, but it can be easily set in-camera or corrected in post processing. And while equipment can help, it is by no means what makes a good photographer a good photographer. That'd be like saying a good painter is a good painter because of the brushes used. A common piece of advice is to purchase the best lens you can afford and buy a compatible camera body with what's left. I recently sold my Nikon d70s that I used as my 2nd backup camera. This 6.1mp camera had been excellent for me and I took many professional photos with it. At most, you should purchase a camera depending on how easily accessible the controls are.\n\nI could really go all day with photography advice, but I'll call this a stopping point. What type of photography are you interested in getting tips about? I've shot everything from sports to portraits to events to weddings and maintained my business for over a year before I turned hobby and picked up full-time employment in my primary skill set.",
"Just some basic pointers:\n\n \n\nRule of third - try not to put your subject in the center, vertically or horizontally. Put them 1/3 distance from the edge of the frame. Most cameras (even phones) have an option to show the guide lines when framing your picture.\n\n \n\nFill the frame - for portraits, don't be afraid to get up close. For every picture, think about the composition. Always consider the foreground and/or the background and how the subject will look against them. \n\n \n\nUnconventional angles - for objects or scenery, try taking the picture from low to the ground or higher up. Pictures from eye level shows what we always see. A picture from a different angle is more interesting.\n\n \n\nYou don't have to follow these strictly. A lot of great photos do not follow these rules. But it's a good starting point. And you don't need expensive gear to take great pictures. A well composed and framed photo from a phone can be just as compelling. The main thing is to just have fun and go out and take lots of pictures. \n\n"
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"Ending a relationship I've been with my girl for almost two years. I had moved with some buddies last summer. My girlfriend comes over to visit every few months. She has a brain injury, lots of medical problems, and needs LOTS of coaching, reminding her if she needs water, has ear plugs, if she's hungry, etc. etc. Not because of cognitive reasons, but because she is very hard on herself, but because of her TBI, if she doesn't check any of her comfort levels and we go out far in town, it's a big problem if she's unprepared.\n\nI don't have a good job, I don't have health care, I don't have a car. I can take care of myself, but I am in no position to take care of someone with serious medical problems. She has a system now with her parents and it works well. \n\nLately she's been \"complimenting\" me, calling me her \"savior\" and I'm really getting uncomfortable. She's a very sweet girl. Very kind, thoughtful, and does her best to help. But I'm starting to feel like she's a child, someone I have to remind and take care of. I don't feel equal with her.\n\nThe logical thing to do is end the romantic relationship. I intend on continuing our texting, writing letters and occasional video chat. But it is VERY stressful to be with her in person, because I'm constantly worried about her health.\n\nI want to stop the relationship romantically, while maintaining friendship and without hurting her feelings. She's going to be extremely upset. I don't want my reason for breaking up with her to be, \"I can't take care of you because of your brain injury\", because it's a condition she's stuck with the rest of her life and I don't want to make her feel worthless or not good enough.\n\nShe's one of my best friends and a very sweet person. I don't know how to ease our relationship back into a friendship only situation.\n\nShe and I are both in our late 20's, if that context is needed.\n\nThank you.",
"Ending a relationship I've been with my girl for almost two years. I had moved with some buddies last summer. My girlfriend comes over to visit every few months. She has a brain injury, lots of medical problems, and needs LOTS of coaching, reminding her if she needs water, has ear plugs, if she's hungry, etc. etc. Not because of cognitive reasons, but because she is very hard on herself, but because of her TBI, if she doesn't check any of her comfort levels and we go out far in town, it's a big problem if she's unprepared.\n\nI don't have a good job, I don't have health care, I don't have a car. I can take care of myself, but I am in no position to take care of someone with serious medical problems. She has a system now with her parents and it works well. \n\nLately she's been \"complimenting\" me, calling me her \"savior\" and I'm really getting uncomfortable. She's a very sweet girl. Very kind, thoughtful, and does her best to help. But I'm starting to feel like she's a child, someone I have to remind and take care of. I don't feel equal with her.\n\nThe logical thing to do is end the romantic relationship. I intend on continuing our texting, writing letters and occasional video chat. But it is VERY stressful to be with her in person, because I'm constantly worried about her health.\n\nI want to stop the relationship romantically, while maintaining friendship and without hurting her feelings. She's going to be extremely upset. I don't want my reason for breaking up with her to be, \"I can't take care of you because of your brain injury\", because it's a condition she's stuck with the rest of her life and I don't want to make her feel worthless or not good enough.\n\nShe's one of my best friends and a very sweet person. I don't know how to ease our relationship back into a friendship only situation.\n\nShe and I are both in our late 20's, if that context is needed.\n\nThank you.",
"Ending a relationship I've been with my girl for almost two years. I had moved with some buddies last summer. My girlfriend comes over to visit every few months. She has a brain injury, lots of medical problems, and needs LOTS of coaching, reminding her if she needs water, has ear plugs, if she's hungry, etc. etc. Not because of cognitive reasons, but because she is very hard on herself, but because of her TBI, if she doesn't check any of her comfort levels and we go out far in town, it's a big problem if she's unprepared.\n\nI don't have a good job, I don't have health care, I don't have a car. I can take care of myself, but I am in no position to take care of someone with serious medical problems. She has a system now with her parents and it works well. \n\nLately she's been \"complimenting\" me, calling me her \"savior\" and I'm really getting uncomfortable. She's a very sweet girl. Very kind, thoughtful, and does her best to help. But I'm starting to feel like she's a child, someone I have to remind and take care of. I don't feel equal with her.\n\nThe logical thing to do is end the romantic relationship. I intend on continuing our texting, writing letters and occasional video chat. But it is VERY stressful to be with her in person, because I'm constantly worried about her health.\n\nI want to stop the relationship romantically, while maintaining friendship and without hurting her feelings. She's going to be extremely upset. I don't want my reason for breaking up with her to be, \"I can't take care of you because of your brain injury\", because it's a condition she's stuck with the rest of her life and I don't want to make her feel worthless or not good enough.\n\nShe's one of my best friends and a very sweet person. I don't know how to ease our relationship back into a friendship only situation.\n\nShe and I are both in our late 20's, if that context is needed.\n\nThank you.",
"Ending a relationship I've been with my girl for almost two years. I had moved with some buddies last summer. My girlfriend comes over to visit every few months. She has a brain injury, lots of medical problems, and needs LOTS of coaching, reminding her if she needs water, has ear plugs, if she's hungry, etc. etc. Not because of cognitive reasons, but because she is very hard on herself, but because of her TBI, if she doesn't check any of her comfort levels and we go out far in town, it's a big problem if she's unprepared.\n\nI don't have a good job, I don't have health care, I don't have a car. I can take care of myself, but I am in no position to take care of someone with serious medical problems. She has a system now with her parents and it works well. \n\nLately she's been \"complimenting\" me, calling me her \"savior\" and I'm really getting uncomfortable. She's a very sweet girl. Very kind, thoughtful, and does her best to help. But I'm starting to feel like she's a child, someone I have to remind and take care of. I don't feel equal with her.\n\nThe logical thing to do is end the romantic relationship. I intend on continuing our texting, writing letters and occasional video chat. But it is VERY stressful to be with her in person, because I'm constantly worried about her health.\n\nI want to stop the relationship romantically, while maintaining friendship and without hurting her feelings. She's going to be extremely upset. I don't want my reason for breaking up with her to be, \"I can't take care of you because of your brain injury\", because it's a condition she's stuck with the rest of her life and I don't want to make her feel worthless or not good enough.\n\nShe's one of my best friends and a very sweet person. I don't know how to ease our relationship back into a friendship only situation.\n\nShe and I are both in our late 20's, if that context is needed.\n\nThank you."
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"Well sorry to break it to you but in her position it's very hard not to think that's the problem is her condition, and lets be frank, it is. \n\nGet it out of your head that you can have a easy breakup. They don't exist. \n\nYou can only be honest. Tell her that you are in a point in the relationship where she can't follow you and you can't follow her. The next step (children a house maybe) is practically impossible. It will hurt but you don't insult her with lies. \n\nFriends after that? Give it a few months to let the breakup sink in. Then maybe you can see each other as friends again. But that's really hard to do I never pulled it off. Good luck man. \n\n ",
"I'm actually going through something similar.. are you my bf!? Lol, I'm 22F and I had a TBI and a lot of times I mention to my bf how he'd be happier if he was with someone else.... and it's possible that she'd understand that. I'd be heartbroken, but I would completely understand. Especially if it feels like more of a friend or caregiver situation ",
"Man, that is a really tough scenario and i feel for you. My ex was basically summed up by those words in the third paragraph.\n\nShe was a bit younger than me and I was more ahead in life. Very sweet girl. She was loving and caring of me. And I would do whatever she needed help with. She called me her 'savior' and 'husband' and stuff like that. Which was somewhat uncomfortable, I agree. Over time it became a responsibility to take care of her and the things she had to do. Now, it's not that I minded. I love to help out anybody I can. It was when taking care of her problems or errands started to effect the things I needed to do in life to survive that I started questioning if our relationship was going to work out or not. She also wasn't one to make good decisions which ultimately, was the straw that broke the camels back. It still hurt of course. But i knew it was for the better. Granted, for you there is many more details intertwined.\n\nI don't know how i would have handled it if there was a medical issue involved. I know I would have tried a little harder than I did originally to make things work. Im not the type to walk away when the goin' gets tough. But there would be a point where I most likely would have asked myself \"Is this what I want to do for the next 5, 10, 20 years?\" If the answer was no, I would just have to discuss my feelings with her and I would have to break it to her the very easiest way i could.\n\nI just thought I should shed some sort of light here, man. I can feel for a situation like that because it could happen to anyone at anytime. Its even something me and my now girlfriend have discussed. I hope something here can help you.",
"In my opinion, if you feel that your relationship is becoming a burden, and if you think that the feeling is irreparable, you shouldn't make it hard on yourself. There is someone who will take care of her, someone who can afford to do so. \n\nShe might not like the idea of breaking up, she might find it difficult, but if you think that it will make things easier and better for yourself, you should probably do so. It's important not to rush the decision, though.\n\nI've also felt like a caretaker more than like a boyfriend in one of my previous relationships, and it sure is something I will definitely try to avoid in the futue. It just gets worse over time.\n\n"
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"How to make studying / schoolwork easier on my laptop. Also posting this on /r/getstudying\n\nI have a standard laptop, and it's huge. it takes up the whole desk, and is very heavy at school. I like to tak\ne notes on it for later on in the year when exams come. that way i can just print out all my notes and study them each semester. I'm in grade 11, and unfortunately my laptop has no touchscreen, so drawing diagrams is a royal pain in the ass. Also there is filthy looking ebook software for my textbooks which is slow and hard to navigate (no arrow keys, page turners are on opposite sides of screen). I've tried drawing with my mouse, but it's so painful, and looks like a toddler's drawings. Also, i have bitdefender antivirus. My school's IT blocks it as they don't know what it is, and can't add it to the system of recognized anitviruses. I have to uninstall it every 30 days, connect to internet with windows defender, then reinstall it.\n\nI know this sounds more like a rant than anything else, but any help in solving these problems is greatly appreciated.\n\nThanks a million.",
"How to make studying / schoolwork easier on my laptop. Also posting this on /r/getstudying\n\nI have a standard laptop, and it's huge. it takes up the whole desk, and is very heavy at school. I like to tak\ne notes on it for later on in the year when exams come. that way i can just print out all my notes and study them each semester. I'm in grade 11, and unfortunately my laptop has no touchscreen, so drawing diagrams is a royal pain in the ass. Also there is filthy looking ebook software for my textbooks which is slow and hard to navigate (no arrow keys, page turners are on opposite sides of screen). I've tried drawing with my mouse, but it's so painful, and looks like a toddler's drawings. Also, i have bitdefender antivirus. My school's IT blocks it as they don't know what it is, and can't add it to the system of recognized anitviruses. I have to uninstall it every 30 days, connect to internet with windows defender, then reinstall it.\n\nI know this sounds more like a rant than anything else, but any help in solving these problems is greatly appreciated.\n\nThanks a million.",
"How to make studying / schoolwork easier on my laptop. Also posting this on /r/getstudying\n\nI have a standard laptop, and it's huge. it takes up the whole desk, and is very heavy at school. I like to tak\ne notes on it for later on in the year when exams come. that way i can just print out all my notes and study them each semester. I'm in grade 11, and unfortunately my laptop has no touchscreen, so drawing diagrams is a royal pain in the ass. Also there is filthy looking ebook software for my textbooks which is slow and hard to navigate (no arrow keys, page turners are on opposite sides of screen). I've tried drawing with my mouse, but it's so painful, and looks like a toddler's drawings. Also, i have bitdefender antivirus. My school's IT blocks it as they don't know what it is, and can't add it to the system of recognized anitviruses. I have to uninstall it every 30 days, connect to internet with windows defender, then reinstall it.\n\nI know this sounds more like a rant than anything else, but any help in solving these problems is greatly appreciated.\n\nThanks a million.",
"How to make studying / schoolwork easier on my laptop. Also posting this on /r/getstudying\n\nI have a standard laptop, and it's huge. it takes up the whole desk, and is very heavy at school. I like to tak\ne notes on it for later on in the year when exams come. that way i can just print out all my notes and study them each semester. I'm in grade 11, and unfortunately my laptop has no touchscreen, so drawing diagrams is a royal pain in the ass. Also there is filthy looking ebook software for my textbooks which is slow and hard to navigate (no arrow keys, page turners are on opposite sides of screen). I've tried drawing with my mouse, but it's so painful, and looks like a toddler's drawings. Also, i have bitdefender antivirus. My school's IT blocks it as they don't know what it is, and can't add it to the system of recognized anitviruses. I have to uninstall it every 30 days, connect to internet with windows defender, then reinstall it.\n\nI know this sounds more like a rant than anything else, but any help in solving these problems is greatly appreciated.\n\nThanks a million."
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"Why not take notes on paper? Cheaper than a new laptop, and I feel like it makes me focus more in class and while studying ",
"For taking notes, i recommend microsoft one note. Since you are student, with an \"edu\" email, you can download ms products for free or very cheap. \n\nSecond, you can buy a graphics tablet but not expensive one. Because graphics tablet is used by generally designers so there are many expensive models in market, but these are higher sensitivity, close to real drawing material models and with our case these features are not that necessary. \n\nI use a graphics tablet produced by Trust. It is very cheap and it one works for taking notes. It is not elaborate for drawing or anything like that but powerful enough to take notes. I should note that if you take your chance with cheaper graphics tablet make sure that accessories of it would be available. If you used to take notes with tablet and stylus of it broke and you can't find any, this would be frustrating. For other producers apart from trust is Wacom. You can search for cheap models of it. ",
"There are drawing pads that come with a stylus, and are really sweet for art and design students. I'm not sure on the price though. As for the antivirus, they're all pretty trash right now, Windows defender/microsoft security essentials are just as good as any paid product. Just scan every so often with MBAM (free).",
"Please dont waste your money on a mac. For half the price you can get something 2x as powerfull and have access to more software. \n\nIf your using a laptop regularly, then u should get a mouse for the desk and make sure that the laptop is alwaya ventilated. That means dont put it on a bed while u study"
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"how can I stay more awake during the day without coffee? I am trying to drink less coffee and I find myself yawning and being groggy throughout the work day without it. I find it hard to function at 100% capacity without caffeine. Any tips on how to stay awake and alert throughout the day? \n\nBackground: I regularly exercise at night after work and usually get 6-8 hours of sleep. I have been trying to get more sleep but any lifestyle changes that might increase awake and alertness would be readily accepted.",
"how can I stay more awake during the day without coffee? I am trying to drink less coffee and I find myself yawning and being groggy throughout the work day without it. I find it hard to function at 100% capacity without caffeine. Any tips on how to stay awake and alert throughout the day? \n\nBackground: I regularly exercise at night after work and usually get 6-8 hours of sleep. I have been trying to get more sleep but any lifestyle changes that might increase awake and alertness would be readily accepted.",
"how can I stay more awake during the day without coffee? I am trying to drink less coffee and I find myself yawning and being groggy throughout the work day without it. I find it hard to function at 100% capacity without caffeine. Any tips on how to stay awake and alert throughout the day? \n\nBackground: I regularly exercise at night after work and usually get 6-8 hours of sleep. I have been trying to get more sleep but any lifestyle changes that might increase awake and alertness would be readily accepted.",
"how can I stay more awake during the day without coffee? I am trying to drink less coffee and I find myself yawning and being groggy throughout the work day without it. I find it hard to function at 100% capacity without caffeine. Any tips on how to stay awake and alert throughout the day? \n\nBackground: I regularly exercise at night after work and usually get 6-8 hours of sleep. I have been trying to get more sleep but any lifestyle changes that might increase awake and alertness would be readily accepted.",
"how can I stay more awake during the day without coffee? I am trying to drink less coffee and I find myself yawning and being groggy throughout the work day without it. I find it hard to function at 100% capacity without caffeine. Any tips on how to stay awake and alert throughout the day? \n\nBackground: I regularly exercise at night after work and usually get 6-8 hours of sleep. I have been trying to get more sleep but any lifestyle changes that might increase awake and alertness would be readily accepted.",
"how can I stay more awake during the day without coffee? I am trying to drink less coffee and I find myself yawning and being groggy throughout the work day without it. I find it hard to function at 100% capacity without caffeine. Any tips on how to stay awake and alert throughout the day? \n\nBackground: I regularly exercise at night after work and usually get 6-8 hours of sleep. I have been trying to get more sleep but any lifestyle changes that might increase awake and alertness would be readily accepted.",
"how can I stay more awake during the day without coffee? I am trying to drink less coffee and I find myself yawning and being groggy throughout the work day without it. I find it hard to function at 100% capacity without caffeine. Any tips on how to stay awake and alert throughout the day? \n\nBackground: I regularly exercise at night after work and usually get 6-8 hours of sleep. I have been trying to get more sleep but any lifestyle changes that might increase awake and alertness would be readily accepted.",
"how can I stay more awake during the day without coffee? I am trying to drink less coffee and I find myself yawning and being groggy throughout the work day without it. I find it hard to function at 100% capacity without caffeine. Any tips on how to stay awake and alert throughout the day? \n\nBackground: I regularly exercise at night after work and usually get 6-8 hours of sleep. I have been trying to get more sleep but any lifestyle changes that might increase awake and alertness would be readily accepted.",
"how can I stay more awake during the day without coffee? I am trying to drink less coffee and I find myself yawning and being groggy throughout the work day without it. I find it hard to function at 100% capacity without caffeine. Any tips on how to stay awake and alert throughout the day? \n\nBackground: I regularly exercise at night after work and usually get 6-8 hours of sleep. I have been trying to get more sleep but any lifestyle changes that might increase awake and alertness would be readily accepted.",
"how can I stay more awake during the day without coffee? I am trying to drink less coffee and I find myself yawning and being groggy throughout the work day without it. I find it hard to function at 100% capacity without caffeine. Any tips on how to stay awake and alert throughout the day? \n\nBackground: I regularly exercise at night after work and usually get 6-8 hours of sleep. I have been trying to get more sleep but any lifestyle changes that might increase awake and alertness would be readily accepted.",
"how can I stay more awake during the day without coffee? I am trying to drink less coffee and I find myself yawning and being groggy throughout the work day without it. I find it hard to function at 100% capacity without caffeine. Any tips on how to stay awake and alert throughout the day? \n\nBackground: I regularly exercise at night after work and usually get 6-8 hours of sleep. I have been trying to get more sleep but any lifestyle changes that might increase awake and alertness would be readily accepted.",
"how can I stay more awake during the day without coffee? I am trying to drink less coffee and I find myself yawning and being groggy throughout the work day without it. I find it hard to function at 100% capacity without caffeine. Any tips on how to stay awake and alert throughout the day? \n\nBackground: I regularly exercise at night after work and usually get 6-8 hours of sleep. I have been trying to get more sleep but any lifestyle changes that might increase awake and alertness would be readily accepted.",
"how can I stay more awake during the day without coffee? I am trying to drink less coffee and I find myself yawning and being groggy throughout the work day without it. I find it hard to function at 100% capacity without caffeine. Any tips on how to stay awake and alert throughout the day? \n\nBackground: I regularly exercise at night after work and usually get 6-8 hours of sleep. I have been trying to get more sleep but any lifestyle changes that might increase awake and alertness would be readily accepted."
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"Get a waterbottle. Use it regularly. \n\nThis does two things: \n\n1) It keeps you hydrated, reducing fatigue\n\n2) It forces you to get up often to use the bathroom and refill the bottle, which helps you move around more and stay awake. ",
"Your mistake is that you've built up your tolerance to caffeine and your over reliance on it to keep you awake. Stay away from it for a while and let your body adjust back to not rely on coffee so that one day when you truly need it, it will work for you. In the meantime, if you're ever tired throughout the day, get up and take a walk and get some water.",
"You need to keep your mind fresh, much like how you feel sleepy when you're bored. Try new things, whether it be on reddit, youtube or a new way to hit on that senorita from accounting.",
"Keep drinking less coffee for a while. Coffee addiction is a real thing. May take a while, but eventually you will not need coffee to function well. After you overcome the withdrawal limit yourself to 1 cup a day so you do not build up more resistance to it. You may suffer for a while, however.\n\nI myself hate coffee and never drank it. I find just a cup of tea works fine for me. Try some Jasmine tea. Some studies show it to boost energy and metabolism, which seems to be the case with myself. It also contains antioxidants which also show some signs of helping.",
"I've heard getting up and walking a little bit throughout the day can do it. Usually when I'm tired at work though that's the last thing I want to do. But the few times I've tried it I have gone outside and walked for a few minutes and it actually helped. ",
"I think if you like caffeine its unwise to try and remove it completely.(one guy suggested tea) Sometimes, you need a boost and not getting it will lead you to drag your ass around and become even more tired.\n\nTry a bunch of suggestions that you get from people and experiment. I personally need naps and high intensity exercise in the middle of the day, so no amount of tweaks will fix my distain for the typical shackles of a fixed work schedule. There is *nothing* I can do to remain motivated in an 8-hour job setting. I need a lot of little breaks.",
"I love Yerba Mate tea. they keep me awake all day.\n\nalso the nonstop deathcore that plays in my car helps.",
"I heard that staying hydrated can greatly reduce fatigue. Exercise in the morning can be incredibly effective at waking you up. A healthy diet can also help you out.",
"Fruit. Easy to buy, store and eat anytime. \n\nDont eat it? Drink it. Get a small blender device thats hand held. Add fruit if choice into large mug with milk. Blend. Consume. Filling and packed with vitimins. The sugar in fruit is consumed slowly due to all the fiber so extra bonus! ",
"Do you consume sugar on a regular basis? Soda? Candy? Sweets of any kind? High sugar intake can mess with your system and make you crash when your blood sugar drops which it will do more intensely if you consume a lot of sugar. \n\nIf you don't consume much sugar, like no soda, no sweet breakfast, etc., then I'd say try to take a walk after you eat lunch while your stomach digests your food. And drink water in the afternoon after you get back from lunch/walk. ",
"As you come off your caffeine addiction, you're going to be groggy for a while. There's really nothing you can do about it except be patient.",
"1. Find a place where u can sleep for 15 minutes.\n\n2. Drink water and add to the water a little bit of fresh Lemon juice (squeeze the lemon on your own)\n\nHere you go, fresh and awake! \n\n",
"\"I would drink coffee, but when I'm tired, I just remember how much I love America.\"\n\n-My former military self"
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"Best way to prepare your car for a snow storm to minimize the amount of digging required Worst part about a storm for me personally is having to dig my car out of a snow especially if it's parked out on the street. What can I do to make this easy after snowfall?",
"Best way to prepare your car for a snow storm to minimize the amount of digging required Worst part about a storm for me personally is having to dig my car out of a snow especially if it's parked out on the street. What can I do to make this easy after snowfall?",
"Best way to prepare your car for a snow storm to minimize the amount of digging required Worst part about a storm for me personally is having to dig my car out of a snow especially if it's parked out on the street. What can I do to make this easy after snowfall?"
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"Some malls will let you store your car in the parking garage during the storm. You just walk, transit or Uber to it afterwards. Some people have parking garages at work.\n\nAlso, if you do leave it on the street to get covered in snow, remember to lift up the windshield wipers so they don't get frozen to the window and get torn up during the clean up.",
"Lay down a big tarp behind/in front of car so when u need to drive u pick up tarp and fling snow to the side. Same on top of car if u want.",
"You can apply hot water to the car just as the snow starts to fall. It will warm the metal for long enough to melt all of the snow falling on top of it."
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"Starting college I just committed to the college I will be going to in the fall! I know this is pretty early, but I want to start planning ahead in terms of dorm life, how to stay organized, etc. ",
"Starting college I just committed to the college I will be going to in the fall! I know this is pretty early, but I want to start planning ahead in terms of dorm life, how to stay organized, etc. ",
"Starting college I just committed to the college I will be going to in the fall! I know this is pretty early, but I want to start planning ahead in terms of dorm life, how to stay organized, etc. ",
"Starting college I just committed to the college I will be going to in the fall! I know this is pretty early, but I want to start planning ahead in terms of dorm life, how to stay organized, etc. ",
"Starting college I just committed to the college I will be going to in the fall! I know this is pretty early, but I want to start planning ahead in terms of dorm life, how to stay organized, etc. "
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"Befriend your lecturers, or the TAs. I never really got over the mental block against going to office hours and taking to the teaching staff even though for my course it was both the most valuable and the least utilised resource. \n\nAlso buy a decent kitchen knife and a sharpener. It feels like less of a pain in the ass to cook if it doesn't take you half an hour to slice an onion. \n\nMost of all seek out the people you really fit in with. There's such a diversity of people at uni, there's no sense hanging out with people you only really feel lukewarm about. By all means make loads of friend and be nice to everyone, but focus your energy on finding the people that make it feel like home for you. ",
"Look at off-campus student apartments, most have better deals/don't require a meal plan like living in a dorm would. \nDON'T TAKE 8 AMS. I took a 9AM my first semester and would never go. \nIf tutoring is offered for your class, take advantage of it. \nBuy a coffee pot instead of spending 15 + dollars a week on starbucks. \nStudy at the library, you won't study if you're at home. \nMost of the annoying/piece of shit people you dealt with in high school won't be in college, although there are some that are leftover. \nGet involved with organizations, there is seriously something for everybody. \nDON'T procrastinate, it'll be so much easier to procrastinate since you'll have a lot of extra time on your hands but don't. Try and make a time management sheet if you have issues. \nGo to events on campus/sporting events. \nUse a planner. Please. ",
"Hey! I graduated in 2014 so I may have some relevant tips for you.\n\n**1.)** If someone you know from your home town is also going to that school. Don't room with them. It acts as a relic and holds you back from branching out as much as you would with new roommates.\n\n**1.a)** Your roommate(s) are your college social life foundation, but doesn't make or break your experience like most will suggest. Spend the first 2 weeks testing the waters. Find out how well they mesh with what your game plan is. If you want to be a social butterfly see how willing your roommate is to join in on checking out parties or on-campus events etc. Always remember it isn't a requirement to be best of friends with your roommate as long as you guys are cool and can co-exist. \n\n**1.b)** If your roommate doesn't mesh well with your interests don't fault them for it. I had a roommate who never experimented and rarely went out, but I always looked forward to heading back home and bullshitting with him about the night. He became one of my best friends even though we wanted different things out of college. Always remember, once you start looking at someone in a negative light, every single thing they do will annoy you.\n\n**1.c)** Set up your boundaries through action. if you like the room clean, keep in that way. If you subscribe to \"what's mine is mine and whats yours is yours\" keep your stuff organized on your side of the room and always ask first if you need to borrow something. Be the tone setter for the year, and if their is conflict never ever be passive aggressive about it. A simple \"Yo can you keep your clothes off the floor\" is better than a stupid little note. \n\n**2.)** When you are able to make your own schedule pick either an early morning schedule or a late day schedule. Having an 8am class may suck, but its even worse to have to dread that 330pm class later in the day. One semester I perfected this: Mon&Wed I had a 12:30 class followed by a 2pm class. Tues, Thurs& Friday I had a 9am,10am and 11am class. So on any given day I either got to sleep in or was completely done for the day at noon. Both are awesome in their own way. *If possible, throw out this recommendation if it means getting no classes on Friday*\n\n**3.)**Organization wise, go with a notebook + folder combination or small flexible binder for each class. Some professors have a knack for handing out everything relevant to the class in printouts and expect you to treat it like the gospel and never lose it. Others will just throw relevant material online for you to access but important stuff always gets printed out and handed to you, so it helps to have dedicated folders for each class.\n\n**3.a)** Get a small calendar, notebook, app or whatever to keep tabs on all due dates and events. Things stack up quicker than you think and nobody will ever remind you of an obligation. You're either on top of it or not. \n\n**3.b)** Skip class when you have a good reason. Some teachers factor in attendance to your final grade. This usually gets packaged into a \"Participation grade\" which has upwards of a 10 percent stake in your Final grade. There will be teachers who don't take attendance at all too, but always remember that no one will hand you a \"hey welcome back here is what you missed last class\" packet. Get friendly with the people who sit by you. Chances are you can arrange a nice system where if you skip class they hold you down with any notes or printouts and you do the same for them. Professors are not privy to doing this, but e-mailing them ahead of time with a half decent excuse ensures that they won't be off putting if you ask for something you missed. Simply put, some classes are better to skip than others but usually showing up makes life easier in the long run. \n\nThose are just a couple of pro tips I wish someone told me freshman year. Good luck! If you have any other questions let me know. ",
"Go to office hours, even if you don't have any directly relevant questions about homework or the class. It's amazing how few students do. Make it a habit and your professors will not only remember you, they will like you. Seriously, your professors will be some of the most interesting people you'll meet in your entire life - and if you can get comfortable enough to drop by, shoot the shit with them for 20 minutes a week, and talk about their passions -- it will benefit you in incredible ways: intellectually, personally, academically, professionally. ",
"Get as many photos as you can, more photos make for a better college experience. \n\nIt's okay to print them as long as you use glossy paper. \n\nSome people like to cut really close to the faces, I like to leave a bit around the edges. \n\nMake sure your college makes sense, perhaps\nPick 1 or two key photos to centre it around\n\n"
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"How to fix stretched out necklines for t-shirts A lot of my t-shirts have a really stretched out neckline. So as a result, I don't often wear those shirts because it looks really unattractive. Is there a way to shrink the neckline down but not the rest of the shirt?",
"How to fix stretched out necklines for t-shirts A lot of my t-shirts have a really stretched out neckline. So as a result, I don't often wear those shirts because it looks really unattractive. Is there a way to shrink the neckline down but not the rest of the shirt?",
"How to fix stretched out necklines for t-shirts A lot of my t-shirts have a really stretched out neckline. So as a result, I don't often wear those shirts because it looks really unattractive. Is there a way to shrink the neckline down but not the rest of the shirt?",
"How to fix stretched out necklines for t-shirts A lot of my t-shirts have a really stretched out neckline. So as a result, I don't often wear those shirts because it looks really unattractive. Is there a way to shrink the neckline down but not the rest of the shirt?"
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"I had the same problem, but found a really cool solution online. First, you have to soak your t-shirt in a non-shrinking solution, except for the necklines of course. Then, you turn the shirt upside down, soaking the necklines in just regular water. Lastly, you toss the shirt in the dryer. Works like a charm.",
"You can try cutting the neck of your shirt off, making an \"intentional\" but bigger neckline. It can look better than stretched out, if not very formal. \n\nOf course, that generally works better for female-types...",
"Use an iron on the cotton setting with steam and a damp cloth over it and iron the neckline into the shape you want and let it dry. ",
"I always put my shirts on the hanger from the bottom of the shirt and remove it the same way. takes a few extra seconds, but the neck line is never stretched out anymore. "
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"How to not talk awkwardly in front of others English is my second language, and even though I have been rid of my accent long ago and learned to speak it properly, I still talk really awkward around others, I know it's an English problem, cause I never struggled with my first language and could usually strike a conversation with nearly anyone who spoke it.\n\nI usually find that others either ignore me in a group conversation, or don't add anything to the conversation with me and just ignore me in general, and i'm unsure why",
"How to not talk awkwardly in front of others English is my second language, and even though I have been rid of my accent long ago and learned to speak it properly, I still talk really awkward around others, I know it's an English problem, cause I never struggled with my first language and could usually strike a conversation with nearly anyone who spoke it.\n\nI usually find that others either ignore me in a group conversation, or don't add anything to the conversation with me and just ignore me in general, and i'm unsure why"
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"Try taking a course in public speaking. They're designed to get you over any anxiety you might have about speaking in public.",
"Maybe it’s the content of your conversation contributions that is catching people the wrong way? Language can be a weird thing sometimes (I noticed you said second language) and people are lazy and when they don’t understand you, and fear offending others by asking questions, hence they just don’t say anything. \n\nHave you been around others in the same situation as you? (Others from your orig country)? Might help to hear others who have same problem. Might take some googling, some cities have immigration integration events too. Just social events to connect and gain some new skills (such as practicing your English)\n\nGoodluck, don’t be discouraged. Where is Canada are you and where did you move from?"
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"with all the articles giving workplace advice on how to manage millennials, can I get advice on how to be a millennial managing boomers? I'm 28 and recently moved up into a supervisory/project management role. I have one member of my team who is 50+ and when I work cross functional projects I tend to deal with functional managers/directors who are all older. How does a young man early in a career get older folks to take him seriously?",
"with all the articles giving workplace advice on how to manage millennials, can I get advice on how to be a millennial managing boomers? I'm 28 and recently moved up into a supervisory/project management role. I have one member of my team who is 50+ and when I work cross functional projects I tend to deal with functional managers/directors who are all older. How does a young man early in a career get older folks to take him seriously?",
"with all the articles giving workplace advice on how to manage millennials, can I get advice on how to be a millennial managing boomers? I'm 28 and recently moved up into a supervisory/project management role. I have one member of my team who is 50+ and when I work cross functional projects I tend to deal with functional managers/directors who are all older. How does a young man early in a career get older folks to take him seriously?",
"with all the articles giving workplace advice on how to manage millennials, can I get advice on how to be a millennial managing boomers? I'm 28 and recently moved up into a supervisory/project management role. I have one member of my team who is 50+ and when I work cross functional projects I tend to deal with functional managers/directors who are all older. How does a young man early in a career get older folks to take him seriously?",
"with all the articles giving workplace advice on how to manage millennials, can I get advice on how to be a millennial managing boomers? I'm 28 and recently moved up into a supervisory/project management role. I have one member of my team who is 50+ and when I work cross functional projects I tend to deal with functional managers/directors who are all older. How does a young man early in a career get older folks to take him seriously?",
"with all the articles giving workplace advice on how to manage millennials, can I get advice on how to be a millennial managing boomers? I'm 28 and recently moved up into a supervisory/project management role. I have one member of my team who is 50+ and when I work cross functional projects I tend to deal with functional managers/directors who are all older. How does a young man early in a career get older folks to take him seriously?"
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"Would love to hear responses to this. I'm a 26 y-o account manager and I'm the youngest person in my 150 person team. I'm one of the best, but people don't know how to react to me. ",
"As someone who has dealt with this for a while (engineering fields and software development). The trick is first respect. Some baby boomers expect you to kiss ass because of experience. Whatever it is, make sure to respect their experience. \n\nThe second trick is to listen to them. A lot of baby boomers will whine and think they know better. Some times they are right. Sometimes they are not. Regardless what they say you must listen to them. Getting their trust that you value their word is a good step. \n\nFinally, find a single piece you take soul ownership and see it through to competition without any help. If you are the owner of your work, demonstrate competence without asking for assistance. The more the boomers object to how you are doing something and you are successful, the better. \n\nThere are a lot of attitudes out there (in tech industries at least) that if you are young you don't know squat. I will admit with my work history, you will get into some no win situations. Recognize them early and leave before you get burned. ",
"The best way to get respect is to be undeniably good at what you do. I wonder, is there something specific that happened or is happening that you are coping with? Perhaps if we had more detail you could get better answers. I am 62, and I have no trouble respecting younger people if they actually know what they are doing, and treat me politely.",
"I was born in 85 so I'm an early millennial (don't even remember being classified as a millennial until the last few years). I've always worked with boomers, rarely had jobs with people my age except in a few instances.\n\nYou have a lot to prove and it has almost nothing to do with your work skills or knowledge - they will respect you for your life wisdom. \n\nSaying sensible things, relating to them in regards to life responsibility, demonstrating that you're mature by acting like a human being who just wants to do a good job rather than an arrogant kid thinking he knows everything... I've never had trouble earning respect and praise from my elders because I'm willing to - at the very least - pretend like I am learning from them, even in situations when I'm technically their superior. That alone shows that I don't think I know everything.",
"1. Don't explain things, just dictate. Nothing is worse as a 35+ year old being told how the world works or why it works how it does by some 19 year old punk. If we genuinely want an explanation, take in a deep breath, and explain it simply. \n\n2. Don't assume your personal experiences on others. A lot of 35+ will come from more backgrounds than you can imagine. Not everyone likes Christmas, wants a baby, or had a healthy background.\n\n3. Don't use doublespeak or language tricks to turn negatives into positives - we see through the crap and hate it. So, a write-up isn't \"feedback\", it's a punishment - call it what it is. We can't take you at face value when you doublespeak at us and try to sugarcoat everything. \n\n4. Do ask us our goals. Start with our personal goals. Then our workplace goals.\n\n5. Don't use all the \"Management Psychology dealing with employees 101\" tricks on us. Save those for your other millenials and new hires. We recognize those tricks the second we see them, and view them as insulting to our intelligence.\n\n6. Do ask us the reasons we think the things we do. In our generational minds, the reason WHY we do or don't do something is actually more important than that we do or don't do it.\n\n7. Don't assume we either have families/babies or if we don't that we can just work all the holidays and concerts for you. Even if we have nothing going on in our lives that you can see, we still value our Saturdays and Fridays.\n\n8. Tell us this, it will earn you some respect points: \"Just tell me how you think things are and be blunt about it. I will try to figure things out and get back to you.\"",
"I would say be confident. If you are confident with what you do, it shows that you know what you're doing, you are knowledgeable about your work. People respect that, all people. And if you treat people how you want to be treated, they will return the favor. Doing these two things has helped me with running a team of people. "
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"How can I change my life in only 30 days? I have 3 months off work. I want to commit myself to changing my life as much as possible to be the best person I can. Working all the time means that I haven't had time to focus on self-development. I am fat, have no hobbies or creative pursuits and while not lonely, don't feel a deep connection with people or an enduring sense of meaning. \n\n Now, I realise that I am not going to be a fit, chiselled, creative, guru-saint in 90ish days but I want to make a start. I have a family, and I want to be the best person I can be for them. \n\nI was wondering what things can I do to change my life for the better in 3 Months? \n\nThanks for your help...\n\n",
"How can I change my life in only 30 days? I have 3 months off work. I want to commit myself to changing my life as much as possible to be the best person I can. Working all the time means that I haven't had time to focus on self-development. I am fat, have no hobbies or creative pursuits and while not lonely, don't feel a deep connection with people or an enduring sense of meaning. \n\n Now, I realise that I am not going to be a fit, chiselled, creative, guru-saint in 90ish days but I want to make a start. I have a family, and I want to be the best person I can be for them. \n\nI was wondering what things can I do to change my life for the better in 3 Months? \n\nThanks for your help...\n\n",
"How can I change my life in only 30 days? I have 3 months off work. I want to commit myself to changing my life as much as possible to be the best person I can. Working all the time means that I haven't had time to focus on self-development. I am fat, have no hobbies or creative pursuits and while not lonely, don't feel a deep connection with people or an enduring sense of meaning. \n\n Now, I realise that I am not going to be a fit, chiselled, creative, guru-saint in 90ish days but I want to make a start. I have a family, and I want to be the best person I can be for them. \n\nI was wondering what things can I do to change my life for the better in 3 Months? \n\nThanks for your help...\n\n",
"How can I change my life in only 30 days? I have 3 months off work. I want to commit myself to changing my life as much as possible to be the best person I can. Working all the time means that I haven't had time to focus on self-development. I am fat, have no hobbies or creative pursuits and while not lonely, don't feel a deep connection with people or an enduring sense of meaning. \n\n Now, I realise that I am not going to be a fit, chiselled, creative, guru-saint in 90ish days but I want to make a start. I have a family, and I want to be the best person I can be for them. \n\nI was wondering what things can I do to change my life for the better in 3 Months? \n\nThanks for your help...\n\n",
"How can I change my life in only 30 days? I have 3 months off work. I want to commit myself to changing my life as much as possible to be the best person I can. Working all the time means that I haven't had time to focus on self-development. I am fat, have no hobbies or creative pursuits and while not lonely, don't feel a deep connection with people or an enduring sense of meaning. \n\n Now, I realise that I am not going to be a fit, chiselled, creative, guru-saint in 90ish days but I want to make a start. I have a family, and I want to be the best person I can be for them. \n\nI was wondering what things can I do to change my life for the better in 3 Months? \n\nThanks for your help...\n\n",
"How can I change my life in only 30 days? I have 3 months off work. I want to commit myself to changing my life as much as possible to be the best person I can. Working all the time means that I haven't had time to focus on self-development. I am fat, have no hobbies or creative pursuits and while not lonely, don't feel a deep connection with people or an enduring sense of meaning. \n\n Now, I realise that I am not going to be a fit, chiselled, creative, guru-saint in 90ish days but I want to make a start. I have a family, and I want to be the best person I can be for them. \n\nI was wondering what things can I do to change my life for the better in 3 Months? \n\nThanks for your help...\n\n",
"How can I change my life in only 30 days? I have 3 months off work. I want to commit myself to changing my life as much as possible to be the best person I can. Working all the time means that I haven't had time to focus on self-development. I am fat, have no hobbies or creative pursuits and while not lonely, don't feel a deep connection with people or an enduring sense of meaning. \n\n Now, I realise that I am not going to be a fit, chiselled, creative, guru-saint in 90ish days but I want to make a start. I have a family, and I want to be the best person I can be for them. \n\nI was wondering what things can I do to change my life for the better in 3 Months? \n\nThanks for your help...\n\n",
"How can I change my life in only 30 days? I have 3 months off work. I want to commit myself to changing my life as much as possible to be the best person I can. Working all the time means that I haven't had time to focus on self-development. I am fat, have no hobbies or creative pursuits and while not lonely, don't feel a deep connection with people or an enduring sense of meaning. \n\n Now, I realise that I am not going to be a fit, chiselled, creative, guru-saint in 90ish days but I want to make a start. I have a family, and I want to be the best person I can be for them. \n\nI was wondering what things can I do to change my life for the better in 3 Months? \n\nThanks for your help...\n\n",
"How can I change my life in only 30 days? I have 3 months off work. I want to commit myself to changing my life as much as possible to be the best person I can. Working all the time means that I haven't had time to focus on self-development. I am fat, have no hobbies or creative pursuits and while not lonely, don't feel a deep connection with people or an enduring sense of meaning. \n\n Now, I realise that I am not going to be a fit, chiselled, creative, guru-saint in 90ish days but I want to make a start. I have a family, and I want to be the best person I can be for them. \n\nI was wondering what things can I do to change my life for the better in 3 Months? \n\nThanks for your help...\n\n"
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"Change your routines to ones healthy for your brain as well as your body. I started by going out and walking more often. That turned into going into more stores I never would have visited, meeting new people and suddenly I was in the mindset to work out because I wanted to turn the inner beauty that those people saw into outer beauty so as to make their day better too. Nothing quite like smiling at someone and having them beam back at you.",
"Walk, walk a lot. Keep walking. Get a dog, walk it. Walk it at dog parks and meet new people. Walk it through a forest trail and breath in the fresh air. Just get outside. If it's cold where you live or it's raining, get a jacket and keep walking. Exercise will make you feel better every time you do it, walking is the easiest step into this and the easiest to not give up on. As far as diets go, forget what anyone else tells you, Calories in vs Calories out is how you gain/lose weight. Doesn't matter if those calories came from 300 carrots or 2 slices of pizza, the number of calories is the only part that's important to your weight loss (though eating \"healthier\" foods will be better on your gut bacteria and make you feel bettwr). A pound of fat is around 3500 Calories, that means you need to burn 500 Calories more than you eat for a full week to lose one pound of fat. Luckily, most people burn 1400-1800 (depending on age/sex/weight) Calories by literally sitting around doing nothing just to keep you alive. Eating low Calorie foods and less of it is the key to losing weight. It's a process, and it takes patience, don't weigh yourself for the first month, then no more than once every couple weeks. Don't aim to eat 800 calories a day, you probably will give up. Figure out how many calories you burn a day, minus 500-800 and stick to it. Don't cheat, don't \"just this once\", don't \"well tomorrow I'll start again\", don't start this tomorrow. Start now. Don't sell yourself short, invest in yourself. It will always be worth it and you will never regret it.",
"Try to do as many things that you are procrastinating doing. Be it work out or any other uncomfortable activity. Try to point yourself 2 degrees in the right direction and in 90 days you will have turned your life around. I need to take my own advice.",
"This may seem a bit silly, but there's a whole industry of making change at the institutional level, and some of it is good advice for individuals. Take a look at the famous \"[eight steps](https://www.kotterinternational.com/8-steps-process-for-leading-change/)\" and see how you could do it on a one-person scale. Best example I can think of is short-term wins: write down a lot of small-to-medium goals, like a to-do list but really small things, so you can start crossing them off every day, and stay motivated.",
"I've been in a similar position, and in some ways still am. \n\nTo lose weight was easier for me because I had to change my diet for medical reasons, but my partner followed along with me for the two meals a day he was home with me and noticed significant weight loss and increased energy. \n\nI suggest you switch everything you drink except for maybe plain coffee and tea (green preferably), to water. If you struggle with wanting taste add lemon or lime slices, even orange or berries is fine, they'll flavor the water but you'll be getting only a tiny amount of added calories added. You can also always try the glass of warm water with lemon in the morning (said to stimulate your metabolism) thing, and a glass of ice cold water before meals, its got all sorts or reasoning behind it metabolism wise, but I mostly just find it moderates how fast and how much I eat, and slower eating/more chewing is much better for digestion. \n\nI also cut out simple carbs and refined sugar for two meals a day initially, and all my meals are free from those things now. But even just one meal a day can make a difference, my partner started off just joining me for salad and baked chicken/lean steak/steamed fish for the first month and lost 10lbs in about 4 weeks without changing anything else. When he moved away from processed cereals full of sugar and his latte in the morning he lost even more.\n\nAny change you make should feel sustainable, not terrifying, so the idea is to swap, not stop. So if diving into a diet plan feels daunting just think about things in your life you can swap. E.g. Instead of frozen or take away pizza make your own. You could go all out and make your own dough if you have time, or you could just use a whole wheat tortilla or flatbead, pick a tomato sauce/paste from the store that's the lowest in sugar etc, and include veggies along with whatever meat you like. Kids often love make your own pizza nights, and flatbread/tortilla pizzas are lower in carbs and sugar than anything you'll get in a box or a store, generally all of your ingredients will be higher quality than anything that comes in a box or from a take away store, you might end up with a nice family tradition too. \n\nExercise can be hard with family responsibility, or if you're like me and you just don't enjoy exercise. But anything is better than nothing. There are plenty of apps for exercise routines that you can use as you progress. I started with a 7 minute low intensity exercise program meant for home use, meaning I needed no fancy equipment. Browse on your app store and work out which app you like the best, most of the ones I tried were free. Even just a 5 minute stretch routine is a good start. And maybe set a goal to increase that to 10mins low intensity the next month, if you feel you can get to that point sooner then thats even better. \n\nHobbies are hard, if you work out a brilliant way to develop some let me know, please! You could try open nights for things like martial arts, yoga, m",
"Change is hard, people don't really want to think about what/where they really want to be in life to be happy....since it means change.\n\nFirst off think about what you **really want**...where/what you want for your life in a year or 5/10. Then start there. \n\nThe good news it takes 30 days to form a habit...with 90 your all set. \n\nGoogle and Youtube can be your friend.\n\nI would say join a gym and go everyday...new habit.\nStart cooking....New habit/hobby & healthier and cheaper too.\nJoin some groups at **meetup.com**",
"Visit jamesclear.com and read anything that you think you can apply to your life. Especially his free ebooks. They are under 100 pages long.",
"The first step is to commit to your self that you are gonna make a change. Tell your self there is no going back to old habits and tell your self you are going to enjoy the changes. Start off with something small, go for a walk, read a book anything that moves you forward. Starting is often the hardest part. Good luck you can do this!",
"3 months off of work!?! Damn you lucky. Alright let's tackle the weight issue. I suggest checking out the keto diet, it allows you to continue eating the high fat foods you may be used to, and you don't get the loss of energy you do with just cutting calories. Second, hobbies..since you want to get in shape you might as well Kill two birds with one stone and do something that is every bit physical activity as it is fun activity. My go to is mountain biking, it's a great workout but it's so fun I don't realize I'm working out. Now location and climate are obviously a big deciding factor in what type of activity you should engage in, but mountain biking is just one of many activities that are healthy and fun. Usually when you engage is activities like this, you meet tons of new and awesome people who keep you motivated and through them you meet more people and try out new things. 3 months is a long time, but don't waste it...get at it!"
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"How to get rid of a kink in your neck Pretty straightforward. Anybody got any tips or tricks to get rid a neck kink received from sleeping weird?",
"How to get rid of a kink in your neck Pretty straightforward. Anybody got any tips or tricks to get rid a neck kink received from sleeping weird?",
"How to get rid of a kink in your neck Pretty straightforward. Anybody got any tips or tricks to get rid a neck kink received from sleeping weird?"
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"http://www.reddit.com/r/videos/comments/1qn6l8/i_bet_lots_of_redditors_have_shitty_posture_ive/cdewt91\n\n\n\nThis helps me soo much. Hope it helps.",
"check out \"trigger point therapy\" and \"traction.\" these aim to release and realign, respectively, tight muscles that cause discomfort. rolling a tennis or racquet ball (in a long sock if it's hard to reach down your back) at the general muscle area against a wall will also help.",
"Get a wash cloth wet then wring out most of the water.\nNuke it till it's almost hotter than you can hold while you....\nRoll up wash cloth in a small hand towel or dish towel.\nLay flat on your back on the floor with the rolled up hand towel under the curve of your neck.\nGive it 10-15 before suddenly your neck muscles stop fighting it and relax.\nIF at any point in time it HURTS or pinches, stop don't push through pain."
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"How to avoid/quickly get over Jetlag Traveling to Europe in 2 weeks to a timezone 6 hours ahead (GMT +1). Then headed back to the US where it's GMT -7...Any suggestions? ",
"How to avoid/quickly get over Jetlag Traveling to Europe in 2 weeks to a timezone 6 hours ahead (GMT +1). Then headed back to the US where it's GMT -7...Any suggestions? ",
"How to avoid/quickly get over Jetlag Traveling to Europe in 2 weeks to a timezone 6 hours ahead (GMT +1). Then headed back to the US where it's GMT -7...Any suggestions? ",
"How to avoid/quickly get over Jetlag Traveling to Europe in 2 weeks to a timezone 6 hours ahead (GMT +1). Then headed back to the US where it's GMT -7...Any suggestions? ",
"How to avoid/quickly get over Jetlag Traveling to Europe in 2 weeks to a timezone 6 hours ahead (GMT +1). Then headed back to the US where it's GMT -7...Any suggestions? ",
"How to avoid/quickly get over Jetlag Traveling to Europe in 2 weeks to a timezone 6 hours ahead (GMT +1). Then headed back to the US where it's GMT -7...Any suggestions? ",
"How to avoid/quickly get over Jetlag Traveling to Europe in 2 weeks to a timezone 6 hours ahead (GMT +1). Then headed back to the US where it's GMT -7...Any suggestions? ",
"How to avoid/quickly get over Jetlag Traveling to Europe in 2 weeks to a timezone 6 hours ahead (GMT +1). Then headed back to the US where it's GMT -7...Any suggestions? ",
"How to avoid/quickly get over Jetlag Traveling to Europe in 2 weeks to a timezone 6 hours ahead (GMT +1). Then headed back to the US where it's GMT -7...Any suggestions? "
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"Well what has worked for me in the past is forced exhaustion. When traveling I make sure to stay awake before I leave so that by the time I land I'm tired and ready for bed. And then stay awake for the entire rest of the day. Then pass out for 8-9 hours and wake up at normal local wake-up time and I'm all ready to go.",
"[After you get where you're going, take off your shoes and your socks then walk around on the rug bare foot and make fists with your toes. ](http://sickontheroad.com/2012/03/02/how-to-get-over-jet-lag-as-quickly-as-possible/) \n\nYes sir, better than a shower and a hot cup of coffee. ",
"Eat by the time schedule of the place you're going to. Sleep on that time as well. It'll adjust you to the processes your body will go through. \nIf it's a swap between day/night, get half an hour of sleep as the sun goes up (was another LPT, not taking cr",
"My aunt would always take some sleep aid and sleep through her flight to Europe. My uncle would stay up, watch the in flight movies. She was always fine, he was always exhausted. So try and sleep on the way there. ",
"Having done a lot of travel from Australia, in which its basically 24 hours of travel to either Europe or the States, I've found that staying awake until it's time to sleep in the time zone that you're arriving in is always the best option. \n\nIf this means keeping yourself occupied on the plane, then so be it. My theory is basically that under regular circumstances, if I stay awake all night one night, and sleep really heavily the next, I can usually fully recover. Weird half-nights of quasi sleep are the things that tend to screw up my body clock. \n\nGood luck. ",
"From what I've heard, strenuous exercise helps a lot. As well as discharging. What I mean by this is taking off you shoes and walking in grass or laying in grass for a while. I don't know if it works, but it might.",
"The way back to the USA won't be as much a problem since you only have to stay awake a few extra hours. Traveling in the direction of Europe is more difficult. Depending on your flight and ability to sleep on airplanes: sleep as much as possible on the plane. Remember to bring an eye-mask, earplugs and neck pillow. Consuming alcohol could negatively affect you and I would recommend only partaking in the first part of the flight. ",
"I've always taken a sleeping pill at the start if the flight and knocked out in time to deplane and start my day in the new time zone. Has served me well on countless trips for 15 years.",
"Make sure that through the last 10 yearw you have an absurd sleep cycle. Going to bed at around 5-7 am some days and 2 am other days while having to get up randomly(i have weird job) makes you experience jetlag like conditions on daily basis.\nI have never had any jetlag, even when i went from Europe to Australia"
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"Cutting Down on Cursing Most people curse, and it's not necessarily a bad thing. I feel like i go above and beyond the norm. Does anybody have tips to censor yourself?",
"Cutting Down on Cursing Most people curse, and it's not necessarily a bad thing. I feel like i go above and beyond the norm. Does anybody have tips to censor yourself?",
"Cutting Down on Cursing Most people curse, and it's not necessarily a bad thing. I feel like i go above and beyond the norm. Does anybody have tips to censor yourself?",
"Cutting Down on Cursing Most people curse, and it's not necessarily a bad thing. I feel like i go above and beyond the norm. Does anybody have tips to censor yourself?",
"Cutting Down on Cursing Most people curse, and it's not necessarily a bad thing. I feel like i go above and beyond the norm. Does anybody have tips to censor yourself?",
"Cutting Down on Cursing Most people curse, and it's not necessarily a bad thing. I feel like i go above and beyond the norm. Does anybody have tips to censor yourself?",
"Cutting Down on Cursing Most people curse, and it's not necessarily a bad thing. I feel like i go above and beyond the norm. Does anybody have tips to censor yourself?"
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"Pick a silly word to use in place of a curse. For me, I say monkeys. I even have phrases to indicate increasing levels of frustration: fudge monkeys, flying fudge monkeys, flying fudge monkeys of doom.\n\nWhen I inevitably use these at work, they make my coworkers giggle and aren't terribly unprofessional (though a bit casual). Reducing your use of actual curse words also has the added benefit of making curses carry more weight when you DO choose to use them. If a coworker heard me utter a curse instead of \"monkeys,\" they'd know to be REALLY concerned!",
"Just recently, I went for an entire month without swearing. It took me about 3 months total to actually accomplish that, but it has been a really interesting journey in becoming aware of how I speak.\n\nFor me, swearing had just become a natural part of my language. Over labor day golf (I'm not very good at golf), I realized that I needed to change things, so I challenged myself to go a whole month.\n\nWhen the words are as automatic as they are in your immediate vocabulary, I learned that the first thing you have to do is simply become retroactively aware of when you're swearing. Don't get me wrong - try not to do it, but if you do, don't get frustrated. Rather, take a breath, tune into your body, and just become aware of the trigger or sensations that might be present.\n\nAt first, swearing was an unconscious thing. I could only become aware of my usage of those words retroactively. Its hard! Eventually, you'll notice that you have a little bit more of a choice when you swear. Its as if you know you can choose a different word, but your automatic programming just spits it out anyway. Just the fact that you've become aware of that moment BEFORE you swear vs after is a big shift. (Heh almost typed that without an \"f\" by accident - Freud anyone?)\n\nOnce I knew I was about to swear, it was simply a matter of choosing a different way to phrase things. The key here isn't just changing the word - you want to become so aware of your triggers that you can almost see it coming in a split second (its possible, trust me). Eventually, you start actively choosing different words - this came last for me because I had to really become aware of when I was about to swear.\n\nIn his book, *The Power of Habit*, Charles Duhigg talks about the \"keystone\" habit. It was really cool to see how this worked in my case. I noticed that as I chose different words, my internal monologue changed as well. My negativity lessened. I found myself able to create better lifestyle habits across the board much easier. Maybe this won't be the experience for everyone, but it certainly was for me.\n\nTry it, you won't be disappointed!\n\ntl;dr: Becoming aware of when you swear is the first step to stopping swearing, as described more in depth above.",
"Use a mindfulness exercise. Make a game out of creating a time gap between a stimulus and a reaction. For example, when there is something that causes you to be angry, happy, jubilant, etc., just hold back for a split second before saying something. Gradually build on that split second until it is a full second, and thereafter you will have much greater control over your emotional expression, including cursing. Good luck!",
"Take a Sharpie and mark the back of your hand every time you swear. You will stop or cut down within a day.",
"Right now, I am sure you are used to using fowl language as sort of a sentence enhancer (thanks a lot Patrick) so it seems natural. To stop, try to make it inconvenient to curse.\n\nWhen you catch yourself swearing, stop and apologize to the people around you. Something simple like \"Sorry about that. Trying to cut down on my cussing.\" Most likely they don't mind, but no one stands in the way of someone trying to better themselves. In fact, some friends may even start to watch their language around you in an effort to help.\n\nIf you think to yourself, \"I'm not going to apologize. I'll look like a complete moron!\" Bingo! You'll stop simply because the apology afterwards sucks.\n\nFinal suggestion I have is \"Garbage in, garbage out.\" The more you are exposed to it, the more you will rise (or sink) to that level of conversation. You can't avoid it everywhere obviously, and you really don't have to go to any extremes, but perhaps avoid hanging out around sailors.\n\nGood luck!",
"I was a camp counsellor and I managed o replace almost all of my swear words with \"swag\" example: God swaggit, mother swagger, swag you, oh swag ",
"I say \"what the deuce\" like Steele when something is odd. I replace fuck with Fuzz. Hopefully that helps"
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"Be more Organized in an office Hey, LPT, I was wondering what are some quick ways you stay organized in your office.\n\nI am in a position where I need to recall details quickly and remember when things were said/sent/received.\n\nAny ideas?",
"Be more Organized in an office Hey, LPT, I was wondering what are some quick ways you stay organized in your office.\n\nI am in a position where I need to recall details quickly and remember when things were said/sent/received.\n\nAny ideas?",
"Be more Organized in an office Hey, LPT, I was wondering what are some quick ways you stay organized in your office.\n\nI am in a position where I need to recall details quickly and remember when things were said/sent/received.\n\nAny ideas?",
"Be more Organized in an office Hey, LPT, I was wondering what are some quick ways you stay organized in your office.\n\nI am in a position where I need to recall details quickly and remember when things were said/sent/received.\n\nAny ideas?",
"Be more Organized in an office Hey, LPT, I was wondering what are some quick ways you stay organized in your office.\n\nI am in a position where I need to recall details quickly and remember when things were said/sent/received.\n\nAny ideas?"
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"There's a girl in our office (and admin level person) that has a great system. Rather than decorate her cubicle walls with photos and such like most of us do, she puts a lot of notes, directions, charts, and paperwork up on her wall. Makes it easy for her to find things quickly rather than sifting through piles or cabinets. Also, for reference material, it's always at eye level and always in the same place.",
"One tip that may help is this - always handle paperwork only once, by dealing with it (replying to a letter, etc) and then filing it where it should go.",
"One thing that made a world of difference to me was really think about where you want things to go. Establish a full on system of organization, try not to leave anything for just wherever.\n\nI'm amazed how much mental bandwidth that has cleared up. Like just having a place for all my things that I expect to have, so I don't have to think about it. ",
"I keep an ongoing log of notes / to-do list. Like, if I write something on a post-it or jot down a to-do somewhere, I collect all of those when I have a spare 5 mins and write it in my log with the date on the top (or just paste the post-its directly in there). I can then flip back to a week ago and see what happened that day, almost exactly.\n\nOver time, you get really good at writing directly into the log in a sequential, neat way. I also add personal commentary to keep myself entertained: an 'arg' for frustrating tasks or little pics to illustrate things. I'm looking at mine now and did a little cookie doodle for a morning meeting yesterday - oatmeal chocolate chip!\n\nIf something doesn't get done the day before, I bring it foward to the next day and start again.\n\nFor sent / received stuff - do you use email? I just search my sent folder and flag things I think I may need to follow up on (requests I make of lazy co-workers get flagged). If you use Outlook, you can even add mini notes and have it pop up at a future date / time.\n\nOther basic stuff: have labelled folders right on your desk next to you in some kind of stand / tray that relate to the most urgent / most frequent tasks you're responsible for. I use colours as well - red is for urgent stuff / my boss's work, blue is ongoing projects, invoices are yellow, green is for circulation material. I also have a cabinet behind me where I keep copies of stuff, which I date stamp.\n\nI have contact lists and a calendar stuck to my cube wall that I use all the time as well.",
"Folders, labels.\n\nChecklists on either a paper on your desk or in a calendar or electronically. There are lots of free programs you can use for what you need, and/or you could even use Excel to just track things manually on the computer."
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"What are good free/online tools/apps for tracking the progress of office tasks? I've been saddled with work requests the past week, and it has come to a point where the timelines overlap. Maybe someone out there knows of a good way to keep track of the work load. Thanks.",
"What are good free/online tools/apps for tracking the progress of office tasks? I've been saddled with work requests the past week, and it has come to a point where the timelines overlap. Maybe someone out there knows of a good way to keep track of the work load. Thanks.",
"What are good free/online tools/apps for tracking the progress of office tasks? I've been saddled with work requests the past week, and it has come to a point where the timelines overlap. Maybe someone out there knows of a good way to keep track of the work load. Thanks."
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"If you have a Mac/iPhone/iPad, you should check out **Things**.\n\nIt lets you create tags for priority, duration, keywords, etc. So you can filter when you're thinking \"I have 10 minutes free; what should I do?\" and that sort of thing. \n\nhttp://culturedcode.com/things/",
"I like [Remember the Milk](http://www.rememberthemilk.com/) a lot, especially the mobile/voice integration and the ability to set parameters like date, location, list/context/tag, time estimate, and priority while typing the task, i.e.\n\n Get body wash ^today #onthewayhomeerrand =15 min !3\n\nSets the due date for today, puts my onthewayhomeerrand tag on it, prioritizes it, and gives me a time estimate which, along with all the other tasks, helps get a general overview of what you need to do. \n\nI generally try to implement a Getting Things Done approach with it but changed a bit after reading [this](http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifehack/upgrade-your-gtd-calendar-and-keep-up-with-the-times.html) article.",
"I just use a spreadsheet to keep track of progress on multiple projects.\n\n"
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"is there any other cool websites like RainyMood (I mean, for background sounds or music while you working)? ",
"is there any other cool websites like RainyMood (I mean, for background sounds or music while you working)? ",
"is there any other cool websites like RainyMood (I mean, for background sounds or music while you working)? ",
"is there any other cool websites like RainyMood (I mean, for background sounds or music while you working)? ",
"is there any other cool websites like RainyMood (I mean, for background sounds or music while you working)? ",
"is there any other cool websites like RainyMood (I mean, for background sounds or music while you working)? ",
"is there any other cool websites like RainyMood (I mean, for background sounds or music while you working)? ",
"is there any other cool websites like RainyMood (I mean, for background sounds or music while you working)? ",
"is there any other cool websites like RainyMood (I mean, for background sounds or music while you working)? ",
"is there any other cool websites like RainyMood (I mean, for background sounds or music while you working)? ",
"is there any other cool websites like RainyMood (I mean, for background sounds or music while you working)? ",
"is there any other cool websites like RainyMood (I mean, for background sounds or music while you working)? ",
"is there any other cool websites like RainyMood (I mean, for background sounds or music while you working)? ",
"is there any other cool websites like RainyMood (I mean, for background sounds or music while you working)? "
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"http://Endlessstorm.com\n\nhttp://Mynoise.net\n\nMy two favorites. Mynoise is endlessly customizable. Endlessstorm has a really nice background video and peaceful rain.",
"http://www.radioparadise.com\n\nIt's a free internet radio station run by a husband and wife, and is completely listener supported. I can't tell you the number of times I've used it when I just need background music and I can't decide on a genre. They cover the map with different styles but they all flow so well since they do all the mixing and music selection themselves. You will continually discover new artists you've never heard of - highly recommended.",
"[myNoise](https://mynoise.net/noiseMachines.php) is a great website that has multiple sections that categorizes what you want to listen to.",
"Youtube works GREAT for me.\n\nI enjoy classical music pieces, particularly piano concertos. No lyrics and they can often last hours without ad interruptions. Slap one of those on in the background, \n\n[Example: four hours.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uONp49JEaGo)",
"Personally I prefer movie or video game soundtracks for background music when I'm working. I found a playlist linked over at /r/spotify with like 300 tracks of movie and video game soundtracks. [Link](https://www.reddit.com/r/spotify/comments/3tb5u3/i_absolutely_love_movie_game_trailer/?st=iu72q848&sh=732b7963)\n\n",
"One I haven't seen posted yet: [TableTopAudio](http://tabletopaudio.com/)\n\nIt plays a kind of mix of music and ambient sounds to create a specific atmosphere (being in a city, a post-apocalyptic land, a forest etc).",
"http://www.ayoungscores.com/\nAdam Young (better known by band name \"Owl City\") has a few FREE Downloadable albums which have calming music/background music. I listen to these when studying or on road trips. Hope this helps.",
"[SoundDrown](http://soundrown.com/) is by far my favorite, it has a bunch of different sounds that you can mix together, as well as controlling the volume of each sound independently.",
"There are also some ambient noise asmr videos you can find on youtube. [Here](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoXQCYOw5--9PlQ74JVIEmw) is a pretty good one",
"Not a website, but there's a DJ named JaBig who posts hours of his mixes on YouTube and they're amazing to listen to while focusing on work. ",
"I'm beginning to learn how to write code outside of formal education, so when there aren't exact outlines for me to follow I can get bored/sidetracked very easily. I found a video on YouTube where a guy took ambient soundtracks from video games and I think it really helped me focus on my task. \n\nhttps://youtu.be/svngvOLPd5E",
"Focus@will https://www.focusatwill.com\nI can't believe it hasn't been mentioned yet. There are a bunch of different channels all aimed at keeping you focused. It is my default concentration music. ",
"All of the music services, Google Play, iTunes, Pandora, Spoitify, etc... have a wide variety of things to listen too.",
"www.moodil.com is my go-to for ambient noise. Has lots of options to choose from, and you can combine a host of sounds for a different mood."
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"What do to with stress-free down time in between jobs For the next two months or so, I'll be working remotely, part-time at my parents' house while I figure out my next career move. Aside from the job search, what would you suggest I do with the down time? I'm 25 years old and seeing this as a good opportunity to start developing some positive habits.\n\nI've got a financial cushion and no costs during this period. I'm open to anything, but here are the big buckets of what I'm thinking to improve:\n\n- Personal Finance\n- Physical Activity\n- Hobbies (Guitar? Whittling? What's useful?)\n- Life Skills (I'm already decent at cooking, but similar life stuff)",
"What do to with stress-free down time in between jobs For the next two months or so, I'll be working remotely, part-time at my parents' house while I figure out my next career move. Aside from the job search, what would you suggest I do with the down time? I'm 25 years old and seeing this as a good opportunity to start developing some positive habits.\n\nI've got a financial cushion and no costs during this period. I'm open to anything, but here are the big buckets of what I'm thinking to improve:\n\n- Personal Finance\n- Physical Activity\n- Hobbies (Guitar? Whittling? What's useful?)\n- Life Skills (I'm already decent at cooking, but similar life stuff)",
"What do to with stress-free down time in between jobs For the next two months or so, I'll be working remotely, part-time at my parents' house while I figure out my next career move. Aside from the job search, what would you suggest I do with the down time? I'm 25 years old and seeing this as a good opportunity to start developing some positive habits.\n\nI've got a financial cushion and no costs during this period. I'm open to anything, but here are the big buckets of what I'm thinking to improve:\n\n- Personal Finance\n- Physical Activity\n- Hobbies (Guitar? Whittling? What's useful?)\n- Life Skills (I'm already decent at cooking, but similar life stuff)",
"What do to with stress-free down time in between jobs For the next two months or so, I'll be working remotely, part-time at my parents' house while I figure out my next career move. Aside from the job search, what would you suggest I do with the down time? I'm 25 years old and seeing this as a good opportunity to start developing some positive habits.\n\nI've got a financial cushion and no costs during this period. I'm open to anything, but here are the big buckets of what I'm thinking to improve:\n\n- Personal Finance\n- Physical Activity\n- Hobbies (Guitar? Whittling? What's useful?)\n- Life Skills (I'm already decent at cooking, but similar life stuff)"
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"Learn from your parents: laundry tips, home maintenance, budgeting, mending clothes, family history, writing down recipes of favorite dishes, looking at old photos, writing down your parent's (and more distant relatives') medical histories, etc. Your parents and this priceless information will not always be available to you. And spend time makng ng new memories with them. You have a great life opportunity in your lap.",
"Read \"How to win friends ad influence people\"\nStill relevant today, and a book I wish I had read before. It will help you in future jobs/relationships.",
"Buy a cheap ukulele and learn to play, got mine for 20 dollars off Amazon and it has filled many boring hours of my time. Very satisfying to learn and easy chords lead for rewarding progress. Plus who doesn't love the sound of a ukulele.",
"Consider learning another language. Statistically a surprising earnings booster, as well as being life-enriching and a useful form of brain-training."
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"How to not laugh Whenever anything is slightly funny, I cannot *not* laugh. If it makes other people laugh hard, I'm vomiting tears out of my eyes. It's pretty inappropriate sometimes and I feel bad. How does one stop this? \n\nThe only method I've tried is to totally distract myself... but that never goes well. \n\nAlso: If someone looks at me with a straight face and says \"Holocaust\" I cannot do anything but submit to convulsions of laughter.\n\nSo, anyone here really good at not laughing and want to share your secrets?",
"How to not laugh Whenever anything is slightly funny, I cannot *not* laugh. If it makes other people laugh hard, I'm vomiting tears out of my eyes. It's pretty inappropriate sometimes and I feel bad. How does one stop this? \n\nThe only method I've tried is to totally distract myself... but that never goes well. \n\nAlso: If someone looks at me with a straight face and says \"Holocaust\" I cannot do anything but submit to convulsions of laughter.\n\nSo, anyone here really good at not laughing and want to share your secrets?",
"How to not laugh Whenever anything is slightly funny, I cannot *not* laugh. If it makes other people laugh hard, I'm vomiting tears out of my eyes. It's pretty inappropriate sometimes and I feel bad. How does one stop this? \n\nThe only method I've tried is to totally distract myself... but that never goes well. \n\nAlso: If someone looks at me with a straight face and says \"Holocaust\" I cannot do anything but submit to convulsions of laughter.\n\nSo, anyone here really good at not laughing and want to share your secrets?",
"How to not laugh Whenever anything is slightly funny, I cannot *not* laugh. If it makes other people laugh hard, I'm vomiting tears out of my eyes. It's pretty inappropriate sometimes and I feel bad. How does one stop this? \n\nThe only method I've tried is to totally distract myself... but that never goes well. \n\nAlso: If someone looks at me with a straight face and says \"Holocaust\" I cannot do anything but submit to convulsions of laughter.\n\nSo, anyone here really good at not laughing and want to share your secrets?",
"How to not laugh Whenever anything is slightly funny, I cannot *not* laugh. If it makes other people laugh hard, I'm vomiting tears out of my eyes. It's pretty inappropriate sometimes and I feel bad. How does one stop this? \n\nThe only method I've tried is to totally distract myself... but that never goes well. \n\nAlso: If someone looks at me with a straight face and says \"Holocaust\" I cannot do anything but submit to convulsions of laughter.\n\nSo, anyone here really good at not laughing and want to share your secrets?",
"How to not laugh Whenever anything is slightly funny, I cannot *not* laugh. If it makes other people laugh hard, I'm vomiting tears out of my eyes. It's pretty inappropriate sometimes and I feel bad. How does one stop this? \n\nThe only method I've tried is to totally distract myself... but that never goes well. \n\nAlso: If someone looks at me with a straight face and says \"Holocaust\" I cannot do anything but submit to convulsions of laughter.\n\nSo, anyone here really good at not laughing and want to share your secrets?",
"How to not laugh Whenever anything is slightly funny, I cannot *not* laugh. If it makes other people laugh hard, I'm vomiting tears out of my eyes. It's pretty inappropriate sometimes and I feel bad. How does one stop this? \n\nThe only method I've tried is to totally distract myself... but that never goes well. \n\nAlso: If someone looks at me with a straight face and says \"Holocaust\" I cannot do anything but submit to convulsions of laughter.\n\nSo, anyone here really good at not laughing and want to share your secrets?",
"How to not laugh Whenever anything is slightly funny, I cannot *not* laugh. If it makes other people laugh hard, I'm vomiting tears out of my eyes. It's pretty inappropriate sometimes and I feel bad. How does one stop this? \n\nThe only method I've tried is to totally distract myself... but that never goes well. \n\nAlso: If someone looks at me with a straight face and says \"Holocaust\" I cannot do anything but submit to convulsions of laughter.\n\nSo, anyone here really good at not laughing and want to share your secrets?",
"How to not laugh Whenever anything is slightly funny, I cannot *not* laugh. If it makes other people laugh hard, I'm vomiting tears out of my eyes. It's pretty inappropriate sometimes and I feel bad. How does one stop this? \n\nThe only method I've tried is to totally distract myself... but that never goes well. \n\nAlso: If someone looks at me with a straight face and says \"Holocaust\" I cannot do anything but submit to convulsions of laughter.\n\nSo, anyone here really good at not laughing and want to share your secrets?",
"How to not laugh Whenever anything is slightly funny, I cannot *not* laugh. If it makes other people laugh hard, I'm vomiting tears out of my eyes. It's pretty inappropriate sometimes and I feel bad. How does one stop this? \n\nThe only method I've tried is to totally distract myself... but that never goes well. \n\nAlso: If someone looks at me with a straight face and says \"Holocaust\" I cannot do anything but submit to convulsions of laughter.\n\nSo, anyone here really good at not laughing and want to share your secrets?",
"How to not laugh Whenever anything is slightly funny, I cannot *not* laugh. If it makes other people laugh hard, I'm vomiting tears out of my eyes. It's pretty inappropriate sometimes and I feel bad. How does one stop this? \n\nThe only method I've tried is to totally distract myself... but that never goes well. \n\nAlso: If someone looks at me with a straight face and says \"Holocaust\" I cannot do anything but submit to convulsions of laughter.\n\nSo, anyone here really good at not laughing and want to share your secrets?",
"How to not laugh Whenever anything is slightly funny, I cannot *not* laugh. If it makes other people laugh hard, I'm vomiting tears out of my eyes. It's pretty inappropriate sometimes and I feel bad. How does one stop this? \n\nThe only method I've tried is to totally distract myself... but that never goes well. \n\nAlso: If someone looks at me with a straight face and says \"Holocaust\" I cannot do anything but submit to convulsions of laughter.\n\nSo, anyone here really good at not laughing and want to share your secrets?",
"How to not laugh Whenever anything is slightly funny, I cannot *not* laugh. If it makes other people laugh hard, I'm vomiting tears out of my eyes. It's pretty inappropriate sometimes and I feel bad. How does one stop this? \n\nThe only method I've tried is to totally distract myself... but that never goes well. \n\nAlso: If someone looks at me with a straight face and says \"Holocaust\" I cannot do anything but submit to convulsions of laughter.\n\nSo, anyone here really good at not laughing and want to share your secrets?"
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"Actually, I just commented saying I have no idea, but I thought of a way.\n\nSometimes when I'm playing with scissors or a toothpick or something, I get a fleeting vision of cutting my ear off or stabbing myself in the eye or the dickhole or something. I bet that'd work.\n\nThe vision, not actually stabbing yourself in the dickhole. Although that'd probably help too.",
"Oh man, a couple of weeks ago me and two friends were in a pub and this shady looking cockney guy came up to us trying to sell us designer jackets. We were all just like ¯\\(°_o)/¯ and when he realised it wasn't working he started trying to sell us amphetamines and coke and stuff. \n\nWe said no, and eventually he was like \"okay\" then packed his gear back into his backpack. He couldn't zip it up properly, though, so he was crouched there for about five minutes trying to put his stuff away. I couldn't help but laugh. I was trying so hard not to, but I was giggling under my breath the whole time, trying to disguise it as a cough. The whole time I was thinking \"I'm gonna get stabbed for this,\" but it made no difference. It was hilarious.\n\nBut yeah, I have no idea how to not laugh. I try to relax all of the muscles in my face, but that usually makes it come back stronger.",
"If I want to NOT laugh at something, I try to picture chronically unfunny comedians and the sad and hungry look in their eyes as they scan the crowd , trying to cajole a chuckle out of people. Jay Leno, Howie Mandel, Carrot Top, are all prime examples. They don't even have to be a comedian, just terrible. Phil Collins works. But you could then be stuck with a Phil Collins song stuck in your head, which is arguably worse than laughing at the word \"Holocaust\".",
"Remind yourself that somewhere in the world, at this exact moment, an incredibly cute animal is dying a slow and unimaginably painful death. Children too.\n\nFeel better?",
">Also: If someone looks at me with a straight face and says \"Holocaust\" I cannot do anything but submit to convulsions of laughter.\n\nI agree 100%.\n\nWhat I do to not laugh is by simply controlling my breaths. After a few strong breaths I find it easier to relax.... or just fail miserably and lose it.",
"Ever heard of the Batsu game show? It's a japanese show that involves 5 or so guys trying to make each other laugh, and if they do, they get punished. Try making not laughing a game.\n\nBut honestly, fuck it. Just laugh man, it's a gift, fuck all the bitch niggas hatin' on you.",
"Try explaining to yourself why it's funny. It seems like as soon as you start to explain something, it becomes rational and therefore neutral, if not a little sad. Any comedian knows that a joke you have to explain is a bad one, but it seems like the act of explaining *itself* can stifle the humour reaction.\n\nYou can still have rational humour, of course, but it tends to be more the \"bon mot\" variety, not the belly-laugh variety. They seem to be entirely separate systems, and somewhat antagonistic.",
"Once I saw an old lady on the bus pop her dentures in and out over an over, so it looked like she was pushing her teeth out her mouth. It was truly foul, and I think of it when I need to not laugh.",
"If I'm trying not to laugh at something, I just picture something in my mind of something really unfunny and sobering. For some reason, if I picture myself being stabbed with a dagger made of ice, I can almost always stop myself from laughing and maintain a 'poker face'. Weird, right.",
"don't overvalue certain phrases as a source of happiness. just laugh like that whenever you like, happiness is free",
"Staring straight into someone's eyes always works for me. Not sure why. I consider myself a rather funny guy, and sometimes delivery is in a straight face. That's what I do and it seems to work, but like I said, beats me as to why.",
"My acting experience has helped me...? I can not laugh if I want to, I think it's because I can control my emotions decently if I try to.",
"If you put a big smile on your face, you won't have to laugh. However, when you suppress your smile, you will chuckle. Test it"
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"How to cool down a garage? Specifically for putting a refrigerator in a garage and am concerned about burning out the motor because it gets so hot and there's not enough ventilation for the hot air to leave the garage.",
"How to cool down a garage? Specifically for putting a refrigerator in a garage and am concerned about burning out the motor because it gets so hot and there's not enough ventilation for the hot air to leave the garage.",
"How to cool down a garage? Specifically for putting a refrigerator in a garage and am concerned about burning out the motor because it gets so hot and there's not enough ventilation for the hot air to leave the garage."
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"Most garages aren't ventilated and that's why they get hot. \nA nice cheap solution is to put a vent with a fan blowing towards the outside on the side of the garage facing opposite the direction the wind blows will actually help a lot. The higher you place the vent the better. And put a screen in front so nothing climbs in (any old window screen will do). \n\nThis creates a negative pressure environment which will allow fresher and cooler air to travel in the garage and pull it up towards the ceiling/roof as the hot air (that rises, because well.... It's warm) will be vented out by the fan. This also helps remove smoke/dust from any welding/woodcutting you would do and overall actually help your garage smell better. \n\nIt's minimal cost overall if you do it yourself and you can use any fan really I used an old $10 box fan I got from Walmart years ago and during the winter months I just secure so.e tarp over the hole. I learned this after I realized that most factories in my area use this same method to keep the production areas cool enough to work in.",
"Maybe not park a hot car in there. I suppose you could drive the car up outside, let it cool off (1-3 hours?) then put it in the garage. ",
"It really depends on your situation. 10leej has a good plan for cooling the whole garage. Putting a ventilator fan pointing OUT directly behind the fridge near the top will help to draw (relatively) cool air into the coils and exhaust the hot air on the other side.\n\nThe basic solution for an unmodified fridge is to blow air over the coils and make sure you exhaust it outside afterwards. If water isn't a problem where you live and you don't need the fridge to last a super long time, you could probably rig some kind of evaporative cooling arrangement where the coils are in constantly in contact with a damp cloth. In that case, it is extra important to vent the heated air immediately because the moisture will become a problem very quickly.\n\nYou could also do something fancy with a 2nd stage heat exchanger or, if you have the budget for it, get a commercial unit where you can put the coils outside.",
"At one house I had there was a duct that ran next to the garage. I just cut a hole in the sheet rock(ceiling) and put a vent in. Hooked that vent up to the duct with a small extention hose/duct. Very simple to do and kept the garage in the mid to high 80's range during the summer."
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"How to get wax out of multiple surfaces. So I spilled hot candle wax everywhere! Desk, mirror, carpet, and even my headphones have wax in them.\n\nIt wasn't my most graceful moment.\n\nHow does one remove wax from... everything?",
"How to get wax out of multiple surfaces. So I spilled hot candle wax everywhere! Desk, mirror, carpet, and even my headphones have wax in them.\n\nIt wasn't my most graceful moment.\n\nHow does one remove wax from... everything?",
"How to get wax out of multiple surfaces. So I spilled hot candle wax everywhere! Desk, mirror, carpet, and even my headphones have wax in them.\n\nIt wasn't my most graceful moment.\n\nHow does one remove wax from... everything?",
"How to get wax out of multiple surfaces. So I spilled hot candle wax everywhere! Desk, mirror, carpet, and even my headphones have wax in them.\n\nIt wasn't my most graceful moment.\n\nHow does one remove wax from... everything?"
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"Thank you all for your excellent advice. I've got most of it off of my belongings. There is still a bit more to clean but I'll save that for later.\n\nIron + Newspaper = Works\nIce = Works",
"Ice. Especially on the carpet. Use an ice pack to harden up the wax and you should be able to pick it right out.",
"For carpet I've found that Oxiclean mixed with water, and a lot of elbow grease gets it out pretty quick. ",
"Either heat, like hiplesster suggested, or ice! If the items are small enough to be put in the freezer, leave them in for a day or so and the wax pops right off."
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"Expectant Father 26 y.o. with 24 y.o. fiancée and -8 month old. LPTs to keep them both happy and healthy.",
"Expectant Father 26 y.o. with 24 y.o. fiancée and -8 month old. LPTs to keep them both happy and healthy.",
"Expectant Father 26 y.o. with 24 y.o. fiancée and -8 month old. LPTs to keep them both happy and healthy.",
"Expectant Father 26 y.o. with 24 y.o. fiancée and -8 month old. LPTs to keep them both happy and healthy."
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"Pre birth:\n\n- make smoothies using frozen strawberries, blueberries, and OJ. You can add surprising amounts of baby spinach and not alter the taste or color.\n\n- pregnancy is tough emotionally, be really sympathetic of what she's going through.\n\n- exercise a lot now b/c after the baby arrives you'll have a lot less time.\n\n- prenatal vitamins for the expectant mom\n\n- light exercise for the expectant mom is also great.\n\nPost-birth:\n\n- breastfeeding is great and raises IQ\n\n- bring comfy clothes to the birth\n\n- buy a good digital baby monitor (audio or audio + video), otherwise you'll have to listen to constant noise.... or I suppose co-sleep.\n\n- get the 'happiest baby on the block' dvd, it demos very useful approaches to baby calming)\n\n- if it's a boy, do not circumcise it.\n\n\n\n",
"Variety of munchies on hand at all times...and if you don't have it and are forced to make a snack/food run - always buy multiples of it. This will save you trips.\n\nThe absolute best tip - from guy to guy here - is to completely be on board with her breastfeeding. Advocate for it even. This will completely help you with the lack of sleep stuff. Not to be a dick about it...because breastfeeding is universally recommended by peer-reviewed studies of baby development...but when that kid wakes up at 3:00 a.m. hungry as shit....you ain't got the titties man! Best thing ever. When she goes back to work and has to pump...that's when you'll be able/required to help out a bit more perhaps. Again, even writing this makes me feel like an asshole - but I've had kids on both formula and breast feeding and man...for your health and sanity (and the kids health...) - breastfeeding is awesome!\n\n\nCo-sleepers that go right next to the bed are great....or, we had one that you put right between us w/ padded bumper things. If you have a large enough bed, this is great too.\n\nEpidural(?). Get it and get is as early as possible. Again, this is a night/day thing when it comes to labor - we've done it both ways. It's so awesome. It's so awesome. It's SO awesome. I mean, hey, it's technology right? If you have a headache, no biggie taking ibiprofen or soemething right? And hell...you're already using a ton of med research, technology, drugs during this process (drugs to induce labor, etc.) - heart monitors, blood tests, baby \"stress\" monitors, fully trained doctors, staff....hell, you probably got to the hospital in car and not a horseless carriage amirite? Use the technology our brains have given us. Get the epidural(?). \n\n",
"What exactly do you want to know? \n\nJust so you know, there's really no humor or hyperbole that can get you through the initial no-sleep phase. It blows. People will try to laugh it off, and maybe that's how they had to cope with it, but no sleep + going to work for months eventually got me fired. \n \nAnd fuck what all the hippies say, let your baby cry it out and don't sleep with them for too long. ",
"Hey man! First off, congrats! My wife and I currently have a 9 month old boy. I'm 31 and my wife is 28. We went through a birthing class, and she had the baby the traditional way (with meds of course...lol.) Ask away and hopefully I can share some experiences."
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"If you have an early morning/late night bus stop time to get on the bus, but you're afraid of bad guys at night, what can you do to be safer? Excluding carrying a gun\n\nI mean you could be at the bus stop only at the last second to catch the bus but then you might miss it\n\n**Bad idea to call a cab/uber to and just have him sit there at the bus stop with you in his car?** ",
"If you have an early morning/late night bus stop time to get on the bus, but you're afraid of bad guys at night, what can you do to be safer? Excluding carrying a gun\n\nI mean you could be at the bus stop only at the last second to catch the bus but then you might miss it\n\n**Bad idea to call a cab/uber to and just have him sit there at the bus stop with you in his car?** ",
"If you have an early morning/late night bus stop time to get on the bus, but you're afraid of bad guys at night, what can you do to be safer? Excluding carrying a gun\n\nI mean you could be at the bus stop only at the last second to catch the bus but then you might miss it\n\n**Bad idea to call a cab/uber to and just have him sit there at the bus stop with you in his car?** ",
"If you have an early morning/late night bus stop time to get on the bus, but you're afraid of bad guys at night, what can you do to be safer? Excluding carrying a gun\n\nI mean you could be at the bus stop only at the last second to catch the bus but then you might miss it\n\n**Bad idea to call a cab/uber to and just have him sit there at the bus stop with you in his car?** ",
"If you have an early morning/late night bus stop time to get on the bus, but you're afraid of bad guys at night, what can you do to be safer? Excluding carrying a gun\n\nI mean you could be at the bus stop only at the last second to catch the bus but then you might miss it\n\n**Bad idea to call a cab/uber to and just have him sit there at the bus stop with you in his car?** ",
"If you have an early morning/late night bus stop time to get on the bus, but you're afraid of bad guys at night, what can you do to be safer? Excluding carrying a gun\n\nI mean you could be at the bus stop only at the last second to catch the bus but then you might miss it\n\n**Bad idea to call a cab/uber to and just have him sit there at the bus stop with you in his car?** ",
"If you have an early morning/late night bus stop time to get on the bus, but you're afraid of bad guys at night, what can you do to be safer? Excluding carrying a gun\n\nI mean you could be at the bus stop only at the last second to catch the bus but then you might miss it\n\n**Bad idea to call a cab/uber to and just have him sit there at the bus stop with you in his car?** "
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"Don’t make eye contact and talk angrily to yourself. People never bother a person having an argument with themselves.",
"Appear alert. Most criminals are looking for easy targets. Stay in the light if possible, pepper spray, gun...",
"If you're willing to call an uber, why the hell would you ride the bus in the first place?\n\nThere's no reason to not carry a knife, or even mace, if you for some reason don't want to carry a gun.",
"If I’m out by myself like when I’m hiking or walking alone at night I carry a stun gun with me.\n\nIt’s designed to look like a flashlight (the light part works) but you can flip a switch and turn on the stunny part if needed.\n\nI like that it looks like a flashlight. It makes it easier to catch people unaware with what it really is!",
"Stand at the corner of a crosswalk, if possible. If somebody approaches you in a questionable manner then step into whichever crosswalk is open to you. Preferably in front of some cars waiting for the light. This will give you immediate witnesses who are wondering what’s happening and why is this person standing in front of my car?\n\nThis isn’t the best trick, and there are much better options to keep you safe, but in a pinch it can get enough eyes on the person that they decide it’s not worth the risk.",
"Sing show tunes at very loud volumes. The more animated you are the better. They just look at you and think you’re crazier than they are.",
"I recommend against a knife for self-defense. Here’s why:\n\n[Why no knives for self-defense?](https://www.reddit.com/r/SelfDefense/comments/7j9s9l/why_no_knives_for_self_defense/?usqp=mq331AQCKAE%3D&_js_v=0.1)\n\n> Knife fights end with the loser dead in the street and the winner dead in an ambulance."
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"If you root/jailbreak your device you can download apps that will prevent the unwanted software from launching and some can even be deleted that way. If anyone has any advice that can be done without this method I would love to know it!",
"For what device? \n\nWith a windows computer, format it upon purchasing. Don't wait. Do it immediately. \n\nReinstall with the os. \n\n"
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"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n",
"How to let your superiors know you ended up doing 100% of the work on a project without sounding like a whiny tattletale? Doing a research project with three other students for a professor and two grad students. Literally did all the work. 100% of it. Not even sure if they logged onto the shared document once. And it's for a research conference next spring, not just a class project or something. \n\nI'm emailing it to the grad students and professor tomorrow. How would I go about indicating that I was the only one who even touched the project? Is there a way to do so without sounding annoying? I just want them to know how much care I put into this project and maybe indicate that these other two are not great to work with for future posters/publications.\n\nAny tips are welcome! Especially from grad students or profs.\n\n"
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"Hey dude, I work in research administration and I see a lot of post docs and grad students being overworked/ held to some high expectations, especially when they are working with busy people who are poor communicators. I know that it can be hard to have crappy people working in your team because at the end of the day, your group receives the outcome, not the individuals. \n\nHaving said that, I don't think you'll be able to do this covertly but you can do it politely and assertively. Rather than it seeming like, \"I've done all the work for this and I want the recognition\" it becomes a conversation about \"this process hasn't worked so how can we improve it\". \n\nI've found that the best way to address these issues is to \n\n1. Determine what you expected going into the project \n\"My expectation for this project was that we would all contribute to writing the poster and I thought this would involve fairly strong collaboration between us\"\n\n2. Discuss where this went wrong/ what your issue is\n\"It doesn't seem like the sharing document was used effectively and it looks like I was the only group member who contributed to this\"\n\n3. Provide a solution on how the group can do this better in future (successful research collaborations usually last years, not just one project)\n\"Next time we're working on something like this it would be helpful if we could have a list of tasks that we are each responsible for and had weekly meetings to go over what we have achieved towards the project\"\n\nYou might like to consider having a \"responsibility flow\" for your team in future so that it is clear who is responsible for what task, and it's easy then to say, \"hey, I can see that this hasn't been done - Jerry, where is this up to?\" \nYou may have shot yourself in the foot for taking responsibility for the poster and not communicating this with the group. \n\nHope this helps! ",
"An unpopular opinion: projects like this depend on more than just your ability to do work alone. The point of working together is to demonstrate the ability to network with other people and work as a group, and even to act in a leadership capacity to draw out effort from others.\n\nSimply turning the work in without assigning attribution to yourself not only removes any possibility of sounding like a tattletale, it also avoids highlighting your inability to work with the two people who were assigned the same material.\n\nI'm not trying to be harsh, it sucks to be in your situation. I'm only trying to draw attention to the very real possibility that your professor will be looking at how well you can work in a group.\n\n",
"Say what each person did at the end. That's what I did! Worked like a treat my other friend and I got all the cr",
"since you're trying to be discrete, here is my advice. Now i don't know the limitations of your projects or if you're only allowed to use one shared document. I would send it to your superiors saying something along the lines of here is my portion, the others will be sending theirs in separately. If they haven't touched the shared document and expect you to do the work this is a decent way of showing that 1. you are taking owner ship for your work and 2. you can feign ignorance and say that since they did not touch the shared document you assumed they were using their own document to turn in. ",
"**Be the default point person communicating with your supervisor throughout the project.** Any time there is a question, update, schedule modification, etc: I tell my team members that I'll shoot an email to our boss. People are generally happy to have someone else do this \"minor\" time consuming stuff. I *always* cc the team so there's no crying foul. My boss sees that I have a grasp on the entire project, and my lazy colleagues can't make excuses because they were copied and didn't say otherwise. Supervisors point out that they appreciate my \"taking the lead.\" They know.",
"I am a full professor at a top ten global institution (depends on which rankings you believe).\n\nTake this as a life lesson. People will take advantage of you if you let them. In future, sort this before hand-in. Part of effective teamworking is knowing when to escalate non-performance to the next higher level.\n\nHowever: life is split between \"people who get shit done\" and \"people who find excuses\". It seems to me like you are the former. The latter get found out.\n",
"Prof, here, with a general comment. \n\nAny prof who creates group assignments is putting an unfair burden on his/her students because this is exactly the dilemma students OFTEN find themselves in. \n\nIt should NEVER happen and I judge it harshly. There are many other ways to teach every type of material. \n\nIt's lazy and old-fashioned, and I believe more the fruit of wanting to do less grading than anything else. Shame on them. \n\nI'm afraid that I have no better advice than others on the thread for how to deal with the situation but just know that it is not your fault. I hold your prof 100% responsible. \n\nI just got so angry reading this that I had to jump in and say so. You should NEVER have been put in this situation. ",
"I was the manager for my senior project team during my undergraduate degree. We had one or two people who didn't really do much work. During the end of each semester, our faculty advisor gave us sheets to do peer grading and critiques, and they were completely anonymous (unless the professor could tell our hand-writing apart, which since 99% of our work was on a computer, I don't think he could). So maybe recommend something like that?\n\n\nThe way I see it, I've taken out over $100k in student loans, worked my ass off, and was at the culmination of my entire bachelor's degree. That's more than enough motivation to let a teacher know when someone wasn't pulling their weight on a project. In fact, I discussed my concern about feeling like a tattletale to my professor well before the first review, because I had concerns. He assured me that I had nothing to worry about because he sat with us on our twice weekly meetings with the sponsor of our project, he knew who did what, and he told me we'd have these peer critiques to voice any concern of the matter. \n\n\nAnd when it came time to present our final project to the various sponsors of the projects in my department, as well as faculty heads, it was clear as day who didn't do anything. Mainly it was obvious because everyone on the team presented slides pertaining what they worked on, so if one dude had one slide with nothing important on the project, it showed that they were carried.",
"If it was me I'd take their names off the paper and cite the fact on a footnote on the paper. Then if the prof brings it up tell him straight out that they did nothing and thus don't deserve cr",
"You should tell your professor immediately and apologize for not coming to him with it sooner.\n\nSo you kind of skipped a bit of your responsibility by not communicating with your teammates and professor. That's fine, because you picked up the team's slack like a boss and are delivering a, hopefully, suitable presentation. But you've also shown that you're willing to back down to confrontation at your own expense. Why are you waiting so late to come forward with this?\n\nThis is what I believe the ideal way to handle it would've been:\n\nAt the 25% mark check in with your classmates and see that they have done nothing. **Hold them accountable**. Make your expectation clear and set a deadline.\n\nAt the 50% mark check in with your classmates and see that they have done nothing. Again, **hold them accountable**. Reiterate your deadline and report to your TA and professor that you have done your portion of the work, your classmates have done none of the work, and you will continue by completing their portion of the assignment.\n\nAt the 75% mark check in with your classmates and see that they have done nothing. At this point I wouldn't bother with accountability as you've taken care of your end of the bargain and should be on your own deadline to complete the project without them and your superiors are aware of how things have unfolded.\n\nAt 100% be done with your project and know that you did your best to help your classmates but they denied you. Feel empathy for them, but no guilt in your actions. Eat a taco with your professor to celebrate your A+.",
"My advice would be NOT to tell your professor that you did all the work like a whiny little bitch but to tell him like a boss. Be totally direct and say that the other two didn't pull their weight. Don't pussyfoot around people who are dragging you down. \n\nAll the best with your grades!",
"You could indicate that this is your portion, and that you anticipate the others turning in their respective sections separately. ",
"What type of document is it. If it is a google doc you make a request to your professor to look at all the ",
"You said \"any tips are welcome\" so I want to add something that really doesn't help in this particular situation but will help in any further one.\n\nOne of the most important things to be able to do in a group work session is to learn how to rise to leadership in the group. This is especially useful when others in your group don't seem to want to do much. Note, this can be detrimental if you are in a group of others that push for leadership so be mindful of that. \n\nEarly in the project you should take initiative to volunteer yourself to one aspect of the total work and engage the others, guiding them to volunteer for their part. Set dates that you, as a group, can meet well before your deadline so that, again as a full group, you can go over completed work. This allows you to push anyone who doesn't meet that deadline while having the backing of others that have done their part of the work.\n\nIn the end, if you still have a party that refuses to contribute it would be better to remove them from the group than to do their work yourself. This is also a lot easier if you have others in the group that agree with you and have done their part.\n\nWhat I am stressing is for you to be the Manager instead of the Worker Bee. You will learn for more from the assignment this way but also learn more skills valuable in the world outside of academia. ",
"Invite everyone to the presentation. Have them each present what they've done. You finish. I did this in UX all the time. ",
"to all the people who apparently asked OP why he didn't do something about it earlier... You are the worst internet people in the world. \n\nHe doesn't have a time machine. Any time on the internet someone asks \"What do I do about X?\" and you answer \"you should have done something different earlier,\" you are making the world a worse, more horrible place. ",
"You say \n\n\"Hey professor and grad student, just letting you know that all of the work in this project is 100% mine the other two people didn't participate at all. I also feel them attaching their names to my work at this point would be plagiarism. Thanks\"",
"I went to office hours for the professor and explained my situation. I ended up writing 100% of a research paper assignment that all my group members forgot about. There were 3 other college aged kids, and I had done the bulk of the presentation in front of the class as well. I had their phone numbers that I could've texted them and told them it was due, however at the end of the day it is not my job to babysit 3 undergrads who don't care enough to remember an assignment. I was hoping we all would've been proactive and walked in with 4 research papers we had individually written, but they forgot. They wanted to take a \"late grade\" deduction for it too so they could say they helped me. Not on my watch, I submitted it personally to the professor after class and now I work as an assistant for him. Being the go getter pays off in strange ways I suppose.",
"My sister was in a group project where no one else did anything. Instead of doing the work herself, she just gave up, failed the course, and then dropped out and moved back home.\n\nLPT: Don't do that.\n\nThere are times in life where life sucks and is hard. Do the hard work to start with and worry about OP's problem later on.",
"Honestly, fuck them. You're not in a mutal professional situation where you have to work with them for the for the next 20yrs or contract duration. You're in an acedemic situation where your effort and performance has real ramifications in your competitiveness in the job market after. Don't let anyone ride your coattails.",
"Broach the conversation by asking for leniency in grading because you felt you didn't receive adequate help with the research. Most professors are usually pretty good with at least hearing out your case. There's a good chance prof will test the others to corroborate your story. If there is presenting involved and the other group members didn't even log in, that is the ultimate blacklight in the hotel room and those stains are revealed. ",
"once i did a science fair project with two buddies on \"which paintball gun leaves the biggest bruise\" (we all had different paintball guns). one buddy volunteered to be shot, and as i was shooting him with the last gun the paintball curved and hit him directly in the nuts (it was top 5 most miraculous things ive seen). we used my sister's makeup to fake a bruise for that gun not on genitalia to photo for the project, and because of... erm.. damages acquired we told bobby he didn't have to do any other work for the project. I have never felt bad that bobby did no work for that project\n\nLPT: work out a deal where you can shoot your classmates in the nuts w/ a paintball gun to atone for their lack of work, thus giving yourself satisfaction in compensation for all the work you did?",
"When I was in 7th grade I had to do a presentation on a topic of our choosing with a partner. I picked WW2. I made some cool posters and stuff, and put a lot of time into the presentation. My partner did nothing. When it came time to present I told him I would help him out and gave him a cheat sheet to reference during his portion of the presentation. \n\nHe went first and told the class how Brazil fought against the Japanese Samurai for about a minute before the teacher stopped him and asked him if he actually did anything on the project. He said no. We were friends so it was a little easier to do. ",
"I have no shame. During a final coding project, I straight up told the professor what was going on. She quizzed the group during the presentation and it became clear when only I had the answers.",
"Hi there. First of all, this is plagiarism, punishable with expulsion by any accr",
"Call a meeting of the participants to review authorship. Get them to discuss their own and each other's contributions. ",
"As a student that's also in a grad program, I question whether your professor is allowing the groups to grade one another based on contribution or participation. Every class I've had does this. I often find myself in the same position and generally just lay it all in the open commentary when I give my group minimal grades and myself a high grade. ",
"As a professor, I'd very much like to know and as soon as possible. The entire point of group work is division of labor. If I learn about mismatched efforts early enough, I can help make things more balanced. If I find out only after the fact, there's a lot less I can do. I advise you to never dawdle with this type of thing. If you're having trouble broaching the subject, make it seem like a request for clarification. \n\nNow as for the reaction of your peers, that's harder to deal with. Which is part of why I never tell anyone how I know what I know. ",
"the right answer is bring it up way way before you've already done everything.\n\nFor this situation, you're in a pickle. The first question your prof will ask is \"why wasn't I aware of this weeks ago?\" Followed by \"what efforts did you make to ensure the rest of the group was aware of your concerns?\"\n\n If you don't have a really outstanding answer for those questions (like the assignment was given two days ago and you blew up their phones/emails and never got a response), you might just be better off chalking this one up as a lesson learned and avoid working with those same folks again.",
"When I and two friends did our final university project we had a page detailing who wrote what. So that questions about that area could be asked to the one who wrote it. It was a great way to get all of us to contribute since none of us wanted to be seen as the one who did least work. \n\nIf you had a page for this in your project it would clearly state that you did all of the work. \n\nJust an idea for you. Maybe it won't fit your type of project though.",
"Wait until a week from deadline, email your 'partners,' tell them you've been too busy to work on the project, and have they made any progress? (I know it's not what you're asking, but the ensuing panic would sure be karma.)",
"Turn it in a day late, so everybody looks bad when it's due. Don't tell your team, make some shit up, \"I didn't do it.\" Very simple & concise. When they turn in some crap they all got together to work on that same night it was due, to turn in without you because \"you couldn't be trusted\", and you turn in your complete project that was finished well before the deadline, they'll know. \n\n",
"Try sticking a line right in the middle somewhere- \"if this line is still here, not one of my team mates made even a vague attempt to read\"",
"This is super late but as a CS major who works in a lot of group projects giving a detailed list of the requirements given and who did what is an easy indicator showing that you did the work while they didn't do anything. It also avoids sounding whiney. Just \"Attached is the requirements for this project and who accomplished each req\"",
"This is something I always did during projects I had at university\n\n**Step 1. Create a weekly meeting for all of you to attend**\n\nThis is super important, and not just to catch up with where everyone is at in the project, but it is super important because all the other points you are about to read will rely on them.\n\n**Step 2. In the first weekly meeting, discuss what each person will work on in that week coming up to the next meeting**\n\nDiscuss your entire project, break it up into tasks, and try to set milestones. Discuss what you all will work on in the week leading up to your next weekly meeting. Write down everyone's name on a piece of paper (No, you can't use Google Docs, get a piece of god damn paper right now), and list dot points under each person name with what task they are assigned to do. Do not lose this paper.\n\n**Step 3. At the start of the next meeting, get everyone to present their work on the next meeting**\n\nSimple. Bring out that old paper I told you not to lose. Now go to the first persons name and start going down the list and ask them to present to the group what they had to do. If they did the work, then tick that dot point as being done. Anything they didn't do, do not tick. Repeat for each person including yourself. ONLY tick the work off if it is presented. Do not take any excuses. If they did not demonstrate their work to the group then that task is uncompleted. If someone is absent from that meeting, write that on the sheet too and do not tick a single task from them. Now comes the finale.\n\n**Step 4. Get everyone to sign that sheet**\n\nOnce all the tasks have been gone through, write something like \"I agree that the information on this sheet is correct and accurate\" get everyone to sign the sheet underneath that. Now you can scan this sheet on upload it to Google Docs if your team is collaborating on there.\n\n**Step 5. Discuss what each person will work on in that week coming up to the next meeting**\n\nThere it ends. If someone did not pull their weight, no matter what argument they try to pull it will not work because they would have signed a sheet stating that they did not complete their tasks, and at the same time all the other team members would have signed that they hadn't either. \n\nThis saved my ass in a project where I actually did all the work, I ended up getting a 90 percent grade and the other two people had both failed. Hope it helps",
"There are some great comments here, but to be honest, the best way to do this is for you to be direct and straightforward in your e-mail. No need to pussyfoot around it. You show your value by the way you initially present this issue as someone who is equal to them.\n\nSend your e-mail to grad student and professor and simply say: \"Good morning so and so, here is the file x we have been working on for project y. In addition to this, there is something else I want to bring up to both of you. I feel uncomfortable saying this, but the fact is, I did 100% of the work for this project with no help from my team members. I hesitated for some time wondering how to bring this up. I'm not sure what else to say about it right now, but I hope we can talk about it in person - perhaps this afternoon or tomorrow afternoon or X time? Thank you. Sincerely, your name\"\n\nSource: I'm a little drunk, but I've worked in sales for 6 years and this is what I would do. Don't be afraid to declare yourself. You're in the right, and they will respect you for being forthright and honest. Good luck!",
"One time when I was 17 I had to present a slideshow about an internship I worked for to several board members that were associated with an academy I was involved in. Most of them were high ranking employees in very respectable businesses. My relationship and reputation with these people would be a key factor for getting job recommendations and future employment opportunities. \nI was supposed to do part of the work for this slideshow along with my internship partner who rarely ever showed up to the job. I did my part of the slideshow, he never did his. I showed up in front of these board members to present, and all I had was half a slideshow. To make it worse, the *sshole partner didn't even show up to present it with me as he was supposed to. \nThey ripped apart my half-presentation, and I had to take it, alone. I explained to them that I did most of the work on the job and expected him to do his part of the slideshow, but I was the one who did all the work. The head of the academy looked at me and straight up said, \"I think all of us in this room were the ones who did all of the work.\" They all looked at me in agreement with what he said. They were not at all forgiving. At the time I was infuriated, but those words really stood out to me. \nP.S - I found out *sshole partner stole my presentation (after I fixed it up and made it near perfect) to present it when applying for an internship at his college about six months later. ",
"On a side note - whichever approach you decide, you should also keep in mind that your professor may also have mechanisms to find this out anyway, and quite possibly will already know (particularly if there's an online component to this work). Any course controller who sets group assignments does have some level of responsibility to judge accurately and tactfully whether some students have been coasting on the work of others. Part of their job is to accurately assess you individually on your capabilities in the given field, so if they don't take this situation into account they're failing in their role in that respect. \n\nI've taught both adults and teens, and regardless of age or academic level if I set coursework of any bearing on the final grade (and often even when it's not graded - just because) I have a range of ways to make sure any judgment is accurate at an individual level and that includes judging the level of input of each member of a group relative to the final task. There are many many ways to do this, but the fact that this goes beyond class work and has an impact on your professional standing as well as your class grade should only intensify their obligation to monitor the respective input in some way. A heads up from a student is still useful, so by all means go ahead with that, but really the course controllers should have an idea of the situation before it comes to that, preventing such pressure from ending up on your shoulders alone.\n\n",
"Notes notes and more notes. Take the reigns, assign tasks. Document everything. It's a good practice to get into. Also never assign them important tasks if you believe they'll fail them. I did this at college and the guy quit completely and had all my notes I'd lent him. Most teachers I know would be impressed with you taking lead. It shows maturity and organisation. ",
"Just tell your professor. In the lab I TA for, at the end of every lab report we require the students to put an appendix section detailing each group member's contribution. We don't want to reward people for doing work any more than you want to have to do all the work yourself. \n\nIf any professor ever thinks you are whining about doing 100% of a group project because your group members refused to work on it then you need to report the professor to the department chair. In fact I wouldn't even put their name on the project as I am sure they would be in violation of the school's honor code for putting their name on that assignment. ",
"Just tell the professor flat out. You paid for your tuition, not for lazy kids to get free cr",
"Just talk to your teacher, and stand up for yourself and say \"your names not going on it you don't do any work I've talked to the teacher .\"",
"In grad school currently with many group projects, and recently received an email from our professor on this very topic. Here was their guidance, which I found to be thoughtful and fair. I'm sure your professor has opinions or guidelines they'll share.\n\n\"I received an inquiry about what a team (or partner or trio, etc) can do about a member that has not contributed adequately to a class deliverable. Should their name be put on it? Should they be allowed to present? Etc. This is a long-standing question with teams – whether they be at work or school. For my class, please be guided by the following: If a team determines that a member has not contributed adequately to a team assignment then the team can decide to exclude that person from the team's product by leaving off their name from the written deliverable (eg paper, presentation, etc.), and/or by excluding them from the team's oral deliverable (eg sharing a part of a presentation, facilitation, etc.). A make up assignment will be given to the excluded person in lieu of the regular team assignment. ",
"In a professional setting. You control the outbound praise, and answer all the emails and control the revision process. \n\nSince you're doing it all anyway you project slangs the shit out of it, and still compliment you ~~subordinates~~ other team members. \n\nYour ownership of the narrative in clear and specific terms will always outweigh someone's scrappy attempts to be relevant. \n\nThis does require a certain kind of power typically brokered through positive statements and generosity. Your job is to own the conversation...not exactly Reddit's strong points. ",
"If you've done this through google, you're superior has the ability to see who has done what on the project.",
"If this is for a conference, then it sounds like you will share authorship with the slackers. You should obviously contact your supervisor so that you can have sole authorship. I would just let your supervisor know in that way.",
"If this is a significant piece if work then you tell your prof and take all the cr",
"I've had to deal with Deadbeat mooching teammates before in school.\n\nReally simple solution, go talk to your professor in after hours.\n\nIf anything, you should tell them exactly what you told us.\n\nThat you did all the work and those losers did nothing but sit on their asses (albeit word it more school appropriately).\n\nIf your professor is understanding they will give you a few options.\n\nFor us we just kicked the person out of the group. I've had friends who were exactly in your situation. The professor let them turn in the paper / project as their own work, not as a group project.\n\n",
"I've always tried my best to give my \"partners\" plenty of chances before I sell them out. Each time, I've been honest with my professors about the amount/quality of work the others put in, trying to stay professional and asking them for their advice in how to handle the situation. It happened twice in college.\n\nThe first was for a biology project. It was the night before it was due and I sent my portion of work (literally 3/4 of the work for the group of 3) in to the others about two weeks before it was due. They didn't send me anything back. I had done so much of the research they literally just had to string it together and put it on a PowerPoint. Well, I was fed up and worried about my grade, so I did the rest of the project by myself and emailed it to my professor at 3 in the morning the day before it was due. I explained I was worried that the group wasn't going to finish but I wanted her to see that I finished the project regardless and if they decided not to pull their weight, I had a back up. I think my professor told them I did that, because they show up with a (shitty, but complete) PowerPoint that they literally never told me was finished or let me see to review how we would do the presentation. Then the bitch professor gave me a B for failing to cooperate with my partners. So fuck her.\n\nBut the other time, it was for my then-major (Education) and another girl and I had to put together a 20 minute math lesson about fractions and decimals. We had like a month and a half to do it. We did it on a shared google docs that could literally show you who wrote what. She seriously wrote 5 incomplete sentences for the whole damn thing, until I told her that was completely inadequate, so she wrote one more. I was close with the professor, and asked/followed his advice on how to fix this, but literally nothing worked. It was always excuses from her. When it came time to \"teach\" the lesson to the class, it was painfully obvious that she had no idea what to do and I had to direct her the entire time. She didn't even make notes of what to do/when and literally stole mine mid presentation and threw me off. Well, I got an A because it was a pretty fucking great lesson. It was supposed to be 20 minutes, but I had so many ideas and so much I wanted to teach that it would easily be a full 45 minute lesson in a real classroom. I'm pretty sure her complete and utter lack of work reflected on her grade, but my professor has too much class to share how he'll punish others. \n\nWhat's really fucked up is she approached me the following year, saying how she showed \"our\" lesson plan to her teacher friend, and that he loved it and used it in his class. I accepted the compliment, but was very bitter that she was so delusional to think she had even the slightest influence on the finished product.\n\nI guess the moral is to talk to the professor and hope for the best. They'll either make your situation worse (bio teacher) or give YOU cr",
"I'm gonna make this as clear as I can, being passive aggressive about this will get you no where you need to straight up tell your prof you did the work and they didn't touch it.\n\nDon't let them take cr",
"I'm a grad student, and I would say you should just be honest. As others have mentioned, this is actually a serious issue and there are serious consequences to the other students getting cr",
"I was never a part of any academia to mention, but I did work on 2 Naval Nuclear Reactors for 4 years and this is something that I had a lot of training on. If it applies then great, if not, then maybe it'll apply later on.\n\nFirst of all, being honest is not always the easiest thing and sometimes it requires ruffling a few feathers. The important thing to remember is that, if you are truly the hard worker you say you are, no superior of yours in their right mind will jeopardize your future for being honest.\n\nThe hardest part of telling the truth is when you tell it to the person/people who you might negatively affect. This step can sometimes be skipped if you think they'll be overly hostile or underhanded, but generally, it's always best to be upfront with the people you're working with. Let them know that you think they aren't pulling their weight and, if possible, in a way that is more constructive than accusatory. Give them tasks if your in a position to do that or ask them for help if they are your senior. Sometimes things like this are more of an issue of communication rather than actual douchebaggery.\n\nIf that doesn't work, go to the first person above you and let them know you're having difficulty getting input from the people you are working with. Don't directly state they are shafting you, let him/her come to that conclusion. Just tell it like it is; show how you've done all the work and how you've attempted to get their fair share of effort.\n\nNow, regardless of the outcome, it's always best to do something for a few reasons. If you don't do anything and you just keep doing all the work, it tells everyone around you that you like being the workhorse and boy will they take advantage. Little story: I knew a person who just would say yes to every task given to him and ended up working 100+ hour workweeks for about 3 months before having a breakdown due to stress and he was working about 2 times as much as everyone around him. Don't be that guy. \nDealing with instances like this in a professional manner is actually part of the job (at least in my experience). This probably won't be the last time this sort of thing will happen to you, and so you should live and learn sooner than later.\n\n",
"I used to submit two different versions of the project: Mine and theirs. Also, a small explanation on why I submitted it that way.",
"I remember in high school we were rushing to finish the school paper before the school year ended. One of our feature ",
"I once had a class presentation and we were doing it on stress.\n\nWhen one of the people appeared at the last moment, we decided to use him as a visual aid.\n\nWe had him look disheveled, sniffle, cough, hair a mess. We could only coach him about 5 minutes but he did great. He started his speech in a stammering way like he was cold reading, then broke down, said he'd been sick, whined, complained he was suffering all of the problems we'd go over, and we walked him off stage and said \"You've now seen an example of what too much stress can do....\"\n\n",
"I don't care for the term \"superiors.\" They're not your betters - they're power-hungry, morally bankrupt sociopaths who have skullfucked their way to the top. My preferred identifier would be \"bovine masters\" - as in 'what kind of bullshit should I feed to my bovine masters so as to maximally fuck over my shit-for-brains lazy-ass colleagues?'",
"I did this with my ethics professor.\n\nThere were five of us writing a 15 page paper. Three pages each. That is so easy. I've written a 10 page paper on breathing. Three pages is nothing. \n\nBy the deadline, two people had contributed.\n\nI really respect this professor a lot. So I emailed him explaining that three people had failed to contribute. I didn't want my grade to drop because three college seniors couldn't do three pages each.",
"I did an entire research project myself, and was happy to do so, because my partner was complete shit. I was able to realize this myself, but if you haven't, you should know that they're not contributing because they have nothing to contribute. \nI was happy to do the whole thing myself because it was something I cared about, and my partner's work would have ruined the whole thing and made more work for me. If this is not the case for you, then just suggest that they do some fuckin work and they probably will. If it is the case for you, then take solace in the fact that it doesn't matter if their name is on your work, they will never amount to much anyway. You have exceeded what is typical for this sort of thing, and they are floundering. You don't need to make it harder on them- you will continue to exceed and they will continue to flounder.",
"I am a female graduate student at a competitive institution, and I very much understand your frustration. If you pursue research, especially as a woman, you will encounter situations like this throughout your career. It is important to defend your work as your own without coming off as whiny, bitchy, etc. My recommendation to you is to first reach out to the graduate students you work with. They have a more casual relationship with the PI and might be able to help you deal with the issue without having to formally email a complaint or something similar. Generally when authorship is being assigned everybody will list what they contributed to the work. If you do want to directly email the PI instead of going through the graduate students, I would spin the email as you being super enthusiastic instead of the others being lazy. Say you are very excited by the project and interested in being more involved. Maybe you want to spend some more time in lab doing hands on research? With that as your lead in you can specify what you find really interesting, which you discovered when writing parts X, Y, and Z of the poster. This way you stand out as really involved and hard working without having to complain. This will most likely also put you as a higher ranking author/presenter in the eyes of the PI. I'd be happy to chat with you more if you feel like you need some guidance. ",
"I actually just had something similar to this happen to me a few weeks ago. As a group we had to do a PowerPoint presentation and turn in two papers revolving around the topic of the presentation. \n\nOne girl in the group would bail last minute on group meetings, would only turn in her parts night before things were due and whatever she did contribute was half assed. I came close to checking multiple times but the rest of my group are not the confrontation types. \n\nThe final straw was when we had to email our last paper to the professor, she waited til the last day to do anything and she eventually just asked us to do copy and paste some of her stuff from our last paper because she was still at work. The group got fed up and told me to let her have it. Long story short I told her we would not be doing that because she's had plenty of time to do it herself and it was the least she could do because of how much of a burden shes been. \n\nI told the professor the following day how she hadn't been contributing as much as she probably should've. Gave examples and told her that I wasn't looking to have a better grade or to give this slacking girl a worse grade, but that maybe our group projects were not as good as they could've been and this may be something to look out for when new groups are made. \n\nThe professor heard what I had to say and was extremely thankful for letting her know. The key is to be calm, not angry, and to emphasize that your project may not have been as good as it could've because the rest of your group was not contributing at all. ",
"Hey girl, I'm gonna echo what u/slackwalker said and say that the point of groupwork is to excercise teamwork.\n\nI have two classes this semester which are basically entirely groupwork. I'm managing 13 people total and so far have managed to get everyone to meaningfully contribute except for 2.\n\nNot only that, but I've taken on very little actual responsibility for the task because I've successfully delegated out the work. \n\nFirst off. I don't even know how shared docs work but that just sounds like a recipe for disaster. The problematic assumption here is that it sounds like you're leaving them with responsibility collectively and not individually.\n\nWhat I do is I send out little newsletters before and after group meetings. Before meetings I write up:\n\n- when we're meeting\n\n- where we're meeting\n\n- objectives for the meeting\n\n- my contact info. sometimes people can't make it.\n\nAfter meetings I send out another newsletter with a summary of what we discussed and who has been assigned to what task. Everyone has a deadline of when I need their stuff. I take what I consider to be the easiest jobs (cuz fuck, I'm busy trying to run a team) and try to assign other tasks according to skill.\n\nDuring meetings themselves I go early, get a board and start writing down a bunch of talking points for the meeting and start mapping out the discussion so that I can ensure people are productive.\n\nPeople get 3 strikes on whether or not they get shit to me. Then I cut them loose. You have to harass your group members too, while letting them know their responsibilities. \"guy, i need you to do your job on thursday so that I can get stuff to felix on friday so that mary can get her stuff done on saturday so that we can all meet again sunday\"\n\nLeadership skills are few and far between so you gotta be the one to do it. Don't shoulder the workload, but DO shoulder the responsibility",
"Don't cloud documents often have access logs? If yours does then simply encourage your professor to have a look at it and compare it to the names on the document. ",
"Currently facing the same problem. Only, my research advisor is pushing for one of the other team members to be the leader/spotlight solely because they are a master's student (and I'm an undergrad). Granted the master's student is a sweet person and I mostly get along with her great, but she just doesn't contribute much (she stresses too much over classes to get any research work done) and is just lacking some important skills/knowledge to be the leader. She needs more experience.\n\nIt pisses me off because I do 95% of the work. We have an important presentation with a major aerospace corporation this week. My advisor was saying he wants the masters student to be the spotlight and present most of it. I was reviewing the slides and 9 out of 11 were 100% my work. The other 2 were closely derived from my work. But I'm just supposed to be a low level supporting team member? Hell the original proposal for the project listed me as the primary person, but my advisor usurped me just because of my undergraduate status. Honestly I don't think the master's student even wants the glory because she has a very timid personality and hates presenting to important people, especially over material she didn't create. But she's supposed to talk 90% about my work which she's barely familiar with? Hah.\n\nCollege level research is bullshit tbh.",
"Assign cr",
"Ask your partners to explained detailed portions of the project in front of the professor. The sputtering and bullshit should be proof that they didn't do jack shit",
"A few years back when I was working on my MBA, I was in a class that had a major group project - there were 3 of us. We split the work up so that each person would do the rough draft of a section of the project and we'd get together to make final ",
"1. Have evidence they contributed nothing. \n2. If your teacher calls you a tattle tale, talk to the dean. \n3. Do not care what people say about you. That is a godly LPT.",
"1) MAKE DOCUMENT PRIVATE. \n\n2) TURN IN 1 PHYSICAL COPY. \n\n3) LET THEM CONFESS.\n\n__If you're worried about being an asshole, just remember that's exactly what they did to you.",
"\"I found myself doing all of the work on this project and unable to get my co-workers to contribute. I know it's late to be asking this, but how should I go about this in the future?\"",
"You walk up to them and say \"Hi. I did all of the work on this project\"\n\nI'm not kidding, I use this method for all difficult things in life and it always works. Just be straight forward.",
"You can absolutely take the \"don't tell\" route, but I would recommend the direct route.\n\nSchedule a meeting with your professor. Let them know that you are NOT asking for grading leniency as others have suggested. This makes it into a real tangible complaint rather than a mere comment.\n\nProfessor, I just wanted to talk to you today to let you know that our group submission is 100% my work and my group mates did not contribute in any fashion to the project. (Detail attempts you made to reach out and involve them here. If you did not make these attempts do not bother bringing anything up because it's partially your fault that they weren't involved if you never made an attempt to involve them.)\n\nThen have a civilized and normal conversation, mostly only answering questions that the professor asks. Do not make suggestions or offer your own solutions unless the professor asks you for them. Do not make requests or ask for hand outs. ",
"Use gmail and email it only to the professor and indicate you are and do provide copies to other students.",
"There's a revision history located in google drive that lets you see who made what changes. Take a screen cap of this and send it along with your submission. The greyed out text at the top of the screen that reads \"Lasted ",
"The relative strength of contributions to academic works (such as conference abstracts) is reflected in the order the authors' names are listed. Conventions are field specific, but if you want to discuss it, bring it up as \"authorship\" or \"the author list\".",
"OP, I've read a lot of good advice about direct communications, and I also realize that you really, really, don't want to come off as a dick.\n\nSo, here is a potential way - since you're pretty sure that you project partners didn't login to the project...is there a log page on the project webpage? That is something you could add to the end of the project - a screen shot of the logins. It would demonstrate the amount of work you put into the project, and the lack of effort the others did not...and is an appropriate document that should be a part of the project.",
"My real advice is that you're all adults and facts are facts.\n\nMy mischievous side suggests you could say, \"if this project isn't any good, it's all my fault; my partners were not involved.\"\n\nOr you could say, \"I have to confess that we three did not work on this together as we were assigned. I ended up working on it alone. I need to get better at leading a team.\"\n\nOr you could say \"This was my part of the project. I think the others will send you their parts separately.\"\n\nOr you could say \"I'm not sure how to list my classmates in the author section. They did not contribute anything to this document, and I wouldn't want them held responsible for it.\"",
"My granny worked for a newspaper and regularly had her work stolen. My mum suggested she put her initials at the end of every page. It seemed to work quite well, but she died (young) not long after this.\n\nMy mum went on to be a teacher, and kept up the rule of initialing everything. Every page. Eventually, she applied for head of department at a nearby school and got the job. When she moved in, there were some locked filing cabinets. The janitor couldn't open them, so eventually she asked him to break in.\n\nWhat did she find? A load of documents with her initials all over them. Turned out the previous head was a trainee under her at some point and had used her work to get the job.\n\nLPT: In an IT world, make a habit of embedding your signature into your work. Plant seeds *everywhere*. Some will never be known, so learn to live with that. But others will be found, and others will appreciate it more (as an inside joke) than they would from you pointing it out. As tempting as it is, try not to take cr",
"I would put it somewhere in the project. Or at the end of every statement. If you put a footer on the pages \"All research and work towards this document has been provided by /u/woahmanda8\" they probably won't even notice it, bonus points if they turn it in themselves with that on the bottom.",
"I think you're getting a harsh-but-necessary lesson in collaborative academic research. :)\n\nBy doing all the work yourself, you enabled their bad behavior. You're now stuck in a tough place because you want to be recognized for your own work while simultaneously punishing those who couldn't come through. I'd bet, though, that your professor and grad student don't realize that there's even a problem since this is the first they'll hear of it. That's kinda on you.\n\nI do think you could submit and say something like what /u/ikhanix suggested, that this is your portion of the work. I think you could also come right out and say that students X and Y shouldn't be assigned to this work in the future because they didn't perform well on this task. \n\nI think a lot of projects go this way, unfortunately. Many share the cr",
"I think there's a lot to be said for honest clear communication. If it were me I'd tell your professor and make sure to be clear that you are unsure of the best way to deal with situations like this and if it's relevant or correct to bring it to his/her attention just that it's what happened. \n\nThe key is not to put any expectations on what the professor should do aka \"I want you to do this about it\" or express anything that might sound like you're doing this because of unprofessional feelings aka \"I want to show you this because I'm angry/frustrated/annoyed.\" \n\nFor the most part people respect just being told stuff how it is.",
"I had a similar experience at work, and all I did was create a report on the time spent on each segment of the project. Obviously my name was under 96% of the tasks.",
"I feel like you may have missed your opportunity at this point. In the future though, I would go to office hours with your teacher during the time you should be working on the project and discuss the fact that they aren't participating at all. It will probably result in conflict, but in the end it'll fix the problem.",
"I don't know what you shared document program is like, but the one we use as work has a 'history/activity' column and shows who accessed it at what time/date and also when they checked it back in or printed etc. Although this can be ambiguous as to the amount of work done, (ie if its only check out for a few mins at a time that could just be because they worked on it offline/locally and then just updated a chunk rather than directly into the document.), if their name doesn't appear at all they obviously viewed it 0 times and therefor did 0 work.",
"I don't have have a way for you to not directly say something but also not be passive aggressive - I'm not sure a way exists to do that. It's one or the other. \n\nThat said, for next time, you should never have gotten to this point. You saw they weren't doing any work, yes? Why would you finish this for them and THEN worry about how to tell your prof? I've had lazy partners in university before; you ask if they intend to participate, you have discussions with your prof. about your worry that it will not have the benefit of help. Why would you finish this and THEN wonder how to fix this? ",
"I certainly don't know. \n\n\nI was on a complicated project with another guy, who's contribution was less than zero, so I took my boss into the lab and showed him all the things I had working on my own. I'm the one that got taken off the project due to funding issues.\n\nIn a situation similar to yours, on his senior project my roommate was doing all the work, mainly because he was a nice guy, had almost a 4.0 average, and was used to carrying other people along. Since everybody shares the grade on the senior project, he didn't get an A, which made him graduate ranked #2, rather than #1 for the College of Engineering. He talked to the professor, who didn't do anything.",
"Have you actually talked to the other students about this? Often this happens when last minute types are grouped up with type A types. The type A folks do all the work because they can't wait for the last minute folks to get in gear. I saw this constantly, as a student, as a graduate teaching assistant in Mathematics, in professional life and as a US Marine. \n\nAlso don't discount the fact that most of the time, group projects as an undergraduate are just as much about teaching you to work in a team environment, you'll deal with last minute types professionally too and this is a good opportunity to learn how to \"manage laterally\". You shouldn't be waiting until the last minute to make sure your team is engaged and this is on every team member. If other team members are struggling with the material it often doesn't look much different than them being lazy. This is where you should reach out to them and ask if they need help. You should never be content to go it alone when you are supposed to be collaborating. \n\nMy advice. Don't be negative about the involvement of the others. Either ask them if they need help and give them a chance to fess up or go to the professor, tell him that you got the work done mostly on your own but that you'd be happy to help the others get caught up before the presentation. When you are part of a team, try to suggest solutions when you point out problems. If you don't feel comfortable approaching them (which I highly recommend you learn to do) you are in a tough spot. Chances are they really did mean to get around to contributing but you get the work done faster than they would have. Yes, 24 hours left to go is the time a lot of students finally get in to gear. Is it enough time to do good work? No way, but some people really only care about graduating. This is an opportunity for you to learn how to deal with a type of person you are going to meet and work with for the rest of your life. ",
"Did you do it on Google Docs/Slides/etc? If so, you can look at the ",
"Best way to do it is cite which part each group member contributed towards. This will show the professor outright that you did all the work. The professor will have questions after seeing this. You should have a document citing your attempts to communicate with them and encourage them to help on the project. \n\nIf you didn't try communicating with your group members about this problem before turning in the project, you will look very bad. ",
"Ask it like a question... I have this friend that did all the work on this project and what would you suggest she does? Haha hint hint",
"After a lot of such failed group collaborations I just started to always hand in a \"who did what\" matrix.\nOn the horizontal axis you list the names of the group's individual contributors, so that everyone gets his own column. On the vertical axis you list all the single tasks and intermediate deliverables that were necessary to achieve the outcome you are handing in. Group those tasks to reasonable chunks, such as (sub)chapters or page-/slide-numbers and add stuff like \"general idea\" or \"merging and final layout\".\nAt the end you simply make an X in the cells if someone contributed to this part of the work. You can also use (X) to show that there was work done, but it was not on a satisfying level.\n\nLet it be signed by all group members, so that there won't be any arguing.\n\nJust the introduction of this matrix to my group projects has proven to improve the group work situation, as everybody tries to achieve a higher X-count to impress the superior or professor.",
"A lot of people answered this well already with essentially emailing a professor about a possible breach of ethics/integrity of other students assigned to the project and taking cr",
"\"when i die i want my group project members to lower me into my grave so they can let me down one last time\"\n\nThis may have to get filed under lesson learned. Next time perhaps group agreement to use project management software that tracks time worked on tasks. \n\nI'm a fan of the direct and diplomatic approach beyond that. ",
" If they didnt help you by anymeans you should feel obligated to inform your professor. I had this happen to me and I didnt tell anyone and my partner who did absolutely nothing actually got chose to work on more university research projects. I was very mad for a while and wish I would have told the truth because I did all of the work and I got shit on. Fuck those guys. "
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"I am with you there, I would love to fly and can afford it in most instances, but the cost is so dynamic that you have to hunt it and re-check for new deals constantly. \nTry out Kiwi.com as it was referred to me by other redditors on /r/travelhacks \n \nIt allows you to search multiple departures and destinations at the same time for the best price options. \nFun fact, I tried exploring booking options with WOW air, but their search function is painfully inefficient! \nI need to call them and ask them to fix it to show the flights available on the calendar instead of a week-by-week of nothing. \n\nPick a destination, date, package options\nNo flights found \n\nTry again, pick a new destination, alternate date, package options\nNo flights found \n\nGrrr! ",
"Not cheap but cheaper. If you suddenly have to fly, or decide to fly near a travel holiday and the ticket prices are obscene, book a cheap flight a couple months in the future and pay the change fee instead. ",
"View tickets on one computer, then book them on a different one at a different IP address.\n\nWebsites know you've been looking there before and will increase the price of that fare.",
"The trick to cheap flights is to be flexible on dates and locations. That's easier said than done, but it is how you truly get cheap flights. \n\nE.g. I flew to Copenhagen from Chicago for $365 last may. And I just flew non-stop to Paris from Chicago for $395 over NYE. \n\nExpedia can be good for some travel packages, but make sure you look up the package in separate parts on another website to ensure that you're actually getting a deal. \n\nWhat I do is see what dates I can travel and then just see where I can go. Anything under $400 to Europe I book. Anything under $600 to Asia I book. \n\nCheers. ",
"The Google recommendation is a good one. But I've also had excellent luck with Hotwire. Especially with hotels,. ",
"Scott’s Cheap Flights. Sign up for the free mailing list or get more flight deals on the $30/year membership. Lots of great international deals ",
"If you travel often for work you should be using a rewards card like the amex starwood or chase sapphire preferred or reserve cards. You would earn more than enough points for free flights and hotel stays.",
"IIRC, in general, your ticket will be cheapest Tuesday afternoon six weeks before your flight.\n\nSource: Used to work in IT in the air travel industry.",
"I was talking with my son over Christmas and he said that if he knows he'll be flying to a specific place in the next year, he'll check out SouthWest's deals to that place and get tickets for a date he think's he'll go. If that date changes, I think changing the ticket is free or very low cost. ",
"I use a cr",
"I flew WoW from the east coast US to Paris for 350 round trip. Anything other than a personal item adds cost though so pack light or buy stuff when you get there.",
"I believe this is a Canadian only company, but [Next Departure](https://nextdeparture.ca/https://nextdeparture.ca/) has some crazy good flight deals. ",
"Delete your cookies when you move to another website. Other providers will jack up the price based on your previous searches. ",
"Check out Irockey.trade for unannounced flight tickets at between 10-50 percent discount depending on the destination... ",
"Be very flexible with your travel dates and use google flights. Sign up for email newsletters with just about every airline you can/want to fly on as well as deal newsletters. Be very flexible with your travel dates and jump on them when you see them. Most great deals don't last very long and are for a limited window of time. (limited both in travel dates as well as availability) ",
"Always search one-way tickets there and one-way back. They will usually bump up the price for round tickets. \n\nGo on private/incognito mode when searching for tickets so they don’t see you’re looking for tickets and raise them on you. \n\nAlways check directly on the airlines websites before buying. Sometimes they have promo codes. \n\nHope it helps!",
"* Clear cookies between each search, travel sites use them to see what offers you already have\n* Look for surrounding airports. For example flying out of Newark instead of Philly saves me about $200 on average\n* if you DO NOT have checked bags the check skiplagged (there are some precautions, read over them)\n* get an airline cr"
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"getting college textbooks for free or cheap. On a very tight budget and starting school in 3 weeks. I'm getting financial aid, but due to our state's budget crisis (you guessed it, Illinois) I won't be getting the MAP grant. So I have just a few dollars leftover after tuition is paid by FAFSA. Looking like my books will be upwards of $500. Any helpful suggestions would be very appreciated.",
"getting college textbooks for free or cheap. On a very tight budget and starting school in 3 weeks. I'm getting financial aid, but due to our state's budget crisis (you guessed it, Illinois) I won't be getting the MAP grant. So I have just a few dollars leftover after tuition is paid by FAFSA. Looking like my books will be upwards of $500. Any helpful suggestions would be very appreciated.",
"getting college textbooks for free or cheap. On a very tight budget and starting school in 3 weeks. I'm getting financial aid, but due to our state's budget crisis (you guessed it, Illinois) I won't be getting the MAP grant. So I have just a few dollars leftover after tuition is paid by FAFSA. Looking like my books will be upwards of $500. Any helpful suggestions would be very appreciated.",
"getting college textbooks for free or cheap. On a very tight budget and starting school in 3 weeks. I'm getting financial aid, but due to our state's budget crisis (you guessed it, Illinois) I won't be getting the MAP grant. So I have just a few dollars leftover after tuition is paid by FAFSA. Looking like my books will be upwards of $500. Any helpful suggestions would be very appreciated.",
"getting college textbooks for free or cheap. On a very tight budget and starting school in 3 weeks. I'm getting financial aid, but due to our state's budget crisis (you guessed it, Illinois) I won't be getting the MAP grant. So I have just a few dollars leftover after tuition is paid by FAFSA. Looking like my books will be upwards of $500. Any helpful suggestions would be very appreciated.",
"getting college textbooks for free or cheap. On a very tight budget and starting school in 3 weeks. I'm getting financial aid, but due to our state's budget crisis (you guessed it, Illinois) I won't be getting the MAP grant. So I have just a few dollars leftover after tuition is paid by FAFSA. Looking like my books will be upwards of $500. Any helpful suggestions would be very appreciated.",
"getting college textbooks for free or cheap. On a very tight budget and starting school in 3 weeks. I'm getting financial aid, but due to our state's budget crisis (you guessed it, Illinois) I won't be getting the MAP grant. So I have just a few dollars leftover after tuition is paid by FAFSA. Looking like my books will be upwards of $500. Any helpful suggestions would be very appreciated."
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"Email me at [email protected] , every semester I make a post to r/college telling everyone to email me their books. I have amassed a database over the years of pdf format school text books. And alot of times I have atleast one or two of what someone needs. Search the isbn on amazon and email the link.",
"When I was at UCSC they had Slug Books, which I think is national now. 10 years ago most books were maybe $10-30 less than the bookstore, it might be better now. \n\nHowever, try your campus library! Depending on your schedule maybe you can just check out books for a few hours and not buy them at all. I did this for almost all my books my last year of college. I basically lived in the library but I saved at least $500.",
"Search online for PDF versions. I haven't bought a science or math book since my first 2 classes (dual math+physics major). \n\nIf you cannot get an online version of the book, you really should buy the used version of the book. \n\nSign up for the class again the next semester, send an email out to all the enrolled classmates, then drop the class. Sometimes I was able to sell it for more than I got it for, but I usually undercut the book store by $10-$20.",
"Just Google the Name, ",
"I'm not in college yet (going into my HS senior year), but through my dual cr",
"I rented mine from Amazon for a couple semesters for ~$25 a piece on average. It was nice the curriculum was continuous so we used the same books multiple times through the major. Eventually as new ",
"Ask around in your dept and see if there are any avaliable resources. As an example almost no one in my math dept after freshmen year bought books cause there was a full set avaliable in the tutoring dept"
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"Going on a long flight to Japan next month, would love some tips. (Tips relating to the flight specifically please). ",
"Going on a long flight to Japan next month, would love some tips. (Tips relating to the flight specifically please). ",
"Going on a long flight to Japan next month, would love some tips. (Tips relating to the flight specifically please). ",
"Going on a long flight to Japan next month, would love some tips. (Tips relating to the flight specifically please). ",
"Going on a long flight to Japan next month, would love some tips. (Tips relating to the flight specifically please). ",
"Going on a long flight to Japan next month, would love some tips. (Tips relating to the flight specifically please). ",
"Going on a long flight to Japan next month, would love some tips. (Tips relating to the flight specifically please). ",
"Going on a long flight to Japan next month, would love some tips. (Tips relating to the flight specifically please). "
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"Bring a pen. You can fill out the customs forms on the plane and speed up your trip through customs.\nAlso take your shoes off during the flight, you'll never want to fly with them on again.\n",
"A mild sleep aid, sleepy time tea, eye mask, and earplugs to assist your sleeping on the plane. Gravol or ginger candy to assist with nausea, some emergen-c or other vitamin c supplement, and b12 for when you land and need some pep. \nDress in comfortable, loose clothing, and layer up! You can always take layers off if you're too hot but airplanes tend to be cold (You can also use an extra layer as a makeshift pillow/blanket if you find the one provided on the plane to be lacking).\nUse the time on the plane to go over your itinerary, bring study materials to practice Japanese phrases (if your not already a pro!), and something to do for leisure. My top are: a short book, a pack of cards, and games (that don't use data) on my phone.",
" Bring a book or two, comfortable but still warm clothing, make sure to sleep. Set your clock to Japan time as soon as you get to the airport. ",
"If you're going to take your shoes off during the flight, bring a pair of sandals or flip-flops and switch ***before*** you get on the plane. If you have 2 minutes before getting on the plane, head to the bathroom and give your feet a quick wash. (Or at least a wipedown.)\n\nNobody wants to have to kill you over your foot odor halfway over the ocean!\n\n-----\n\nTry to go pee as late as possible while in the airport before boarding the plane. The only thing worse than having a full bladder while waiting on the tarmac is having a full bladder during takeoff.\n\n-----\n\nBe prepared for your sense of smell and taste to go haywire at maximum altitude. It can be different for each person and different for each trip.\n\n-----\n\nFind some taffy in a new flavor. Use it instead of gum to deal with your eustachian tubes. \n\n-----\n\nDepending on how long you are going to be there, try to adjust your day/night schedule about a week before you go. Try to stick to it during the flight.",
"I fly to TW about twice a year for work. These are some of my transpacific tips:\n\nGet up and stretch every 3 hours. Your body will thank you the next day.\n\nTime your sleep properly. For example - if you're flying from the US and arriving at night in Japan, try to stay awake as long as possible so you can sleep when your arrive. Same for the return trip.\n\nBring ear plugs and eye mask.\n\nDownload a few series on Netflix before the flight.\n\nDrink lots of water on the flight.\n\nChange into comfy clothes before you board.\n\nBe polite to your fellow passengers.\n\nBring a pen for customs - fill the card out on the plane. Note that you will need hotel info handy.\n\nTry to get an aisle seat, for some reason their culture doesn't promote standing up and moving for someone when a person in the window or middle seat needs get up and use the restroom.\n\nBring a neck pillow.\n\nToothbrush and toothpaste for when you land.\n\nLotion and lots of it(my skin tends to dry up)\n\nBe polite to the flight attendant. On Asian carriers, don't be afraid to use the call button.\n\nHand sanitizer.\n\nBaby wipes.\n\nThat should cover it, have fun!\n",
"Japan flights are not always full (certainly not leaving the island). Request a middle seat as far back as you can get. It's a gamble, but it will often net you a whole row to yourself. ",
"It seems the foot thing here is a very divisive issue...Yes make sure you're feet are clean but because it will be cold, I would recommend those thick fuzzy socks I think they are called slipper socks. Keep them in our bag and change into them as soon as the bathrooms are ready after takeoff. And if you have comfortable Sweatpants/lounge pants i would change into them too.. So comfortable for long flights 10+ hours",
"If you live in a place with legal weed, bring a good edible. If not, bring lots of NyQuil. Sleep through the flight."
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"Website that you can set how long you are allowed on a specific site each day Just as the title says. I remember seeing it being posted a while back, but I never wrote it down. Im hoping someone still has it so I can start managing my time better.",
"Website that you can set how long you are allowed on a specific site each day Just as the title says. I remember seeing it being posted a while back, but I never wrote it down. Im hoping someone still has it so I can start managing my time better."
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"For Firefox: http://www.proginosko.com/leechblock.html\n\nThere are likely others for Chrome. But the Google can assist with that.",
"Your router should have advanced settings allowing you to set certain times for certain websites. Not exactly what you wanted, but it works. Also, gives you an excuse to learn your router. odds are it needs a firmware update any way.",
"Theres an App on Mac i know called \"self control\" which firewalls the site you put on a blacklist for an allotted time \n\nTheres is Windows alternative but I forget what its called "
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"How do I start improving from my toxic and unproductive traits? I wanna do something about myself, I have a short temper and tendency to snap, I never clean up after myself and I can act selfishly sometimes, I wanna improve, I've tried in the past just telling myself \"just dont be lazy, dont be an ass\" but that like lasts a day, some tips or pointers on how to start improving as a person would go a long way for me. Thank you.",
"How do I start improving from my toxic and unproductive traits? I wanna do something about myself, I have a short temper and tendency to snap, I never clean up after myself and I can act selfishly sometimes, I wanna improve, I've tried in the past just telling myself \"just dont be lazy, dont be an ass\" but that like lasts a day, some tips or pointers on how to start improving as a person would go a long way for me. Thank you.",
"How do I start improving from my toxic and unproductive traits? I wanna do something about myself, I have a short temper and tendency to snap, I never clean up after myself and I can act selfishly sometimes, I wanna improve, I've tried in the past just telling myself \"just dont be lazy, dont be an ass\" but that like lasts a day, some tips or pointers on how to start improving as a person would go a long way for me. Thank you.",
"How do I start improving from my toxic and unproductive traits? I wanna do something about myself, I have a short temper and tendency to snap, I never clean up after myself and I can act selfishly sometimes, I wanna improve, I've tried in the past just telling myself \"just dont be lazy, dont be an ass\" but that like lasts a day, some tips or pointers on how to start improving as a person would go a long way for me. Thank you."
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"Probably not the most helpful comment but I'd suggest maybe start to judge and adjust your actions as if you were watching someone else do these things.\n\nIf you're a slob that doesn't clean up imagine how someone who walks into that for the first time might view that living style.\n\nIf you're an aggressive or quick to anger person then maybe treat yourself as if you are around small children that shouldn't be exposed to that or again as if someone is viewing and constantly judging that behavior.\n\nThe obvious issue here is that we all go day to day with the impression of \"I don't care who judges me or thinks about me certain ways.\" but this self-improvement attempt could be viewed as the opposite, put yourself under a microscope and course correct everytime you catch yourself. It obviously won't be an overnight change but if you modify the behaviors then eventually it'll just become second nature and you find yourself having to step back saying \"Why am I doing this... \"",
"When you want to pick up a habit try repeating the ‘thing’ you want to do over and over for few times. For example, you want to clean your cereal bowl once you’re done. Clean the cereal bowl and also other dishes that are left in the sink. Keep doing this eventually you won’t live behind dirty dishes. Learning or studying it takes time, you won’t be able to concentrate for 2 hrs at a stretch on your first day itself. Try with 15 mins and a break, get back at it after break and so on. It’s just like beard you don’t grow a thick beard overnight. It starts as a small patch and becomes thick ( I’m talking about the guys that are unable grow a beard). Good luck buddy! Realizing you need to change is the first step to change and your effort will bring about that change.",
"Set goals maybe. Having something to look forward to and work towards gives meaning to existence. Have short term goals that you set say within a week, at a specific time. Make it something simple, or maybe it is the first step towards a bigger thing. Like paying a bill or opening a book and reading a few pages. \nMake a long term goal for how you want your life in five years. Think about what you would like to achieve. \nI’m terrible for procrastinating and motivating myself. I find that the busier I get it all just gets easier. When you’re feeling low any little thing seems pointless.\nAlso, try to do something creative. I like making shitty music and taking photos. Creating is very therapeutic. \n\nThat’s all my two cents. It’s easy for me to say all that but I go through my moods too. \n\nAs for anger, that’s a tricky one. Sometimes people get angry as a response to something they’re upset about. Sometimes there are genuine reasons to be angry. Just try and breathe through it or walk away before bubbling over. I’ve told my family to not badger me when I’m walking away and asking for space. \n\nYou’ve got to think about why you feel the way you do about specific things every time. I think this is called emotional intelligence and you can teach yourself to be good at it. Just get to know yourself. \n\nI’ll shut up now hha\n\nGood luck",
"It takes a certain kind of person to admit your faults, congrats on taking step 1!\n\nIn terms of laziness, i try to follow a rule, never leave a room without picking 1 thing up and tidying it away, taking it to the kitchen or whatever needs to be done. So if you're watching tv and get up to go to the toilet, tidy something on your way!\n\nIn terms of anger, 2 things help me: going for a ride on my bike, smoking a spliff. Biking helps me enjoy nature and forget my anger and smoking helps me put things into perspectice and see that im angry about something that isn't important in the grand scheme of things.\n\nWeed might not be the best solution, and wont work for everybody but you gotta find your own escape. Also self improvenent isn't a race, you never reach the finish line as there is always room to improve. Be happy with progress and you can be happy with yourself. \n\nA journal helps! Always write down what you're grateful for!"
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"How to properly find a stud behind drywall without a stud finder. I know there are proper methods, one I know of is 3/4\" from the edge of an electrical outlet, but I'm not sure how you can determine which side to hit, first shot. Do not want to poke a half dozen holes in the wall. Is there proper strategy to this? Or is it blindly firing away?",
"How to properly find a stud behind drywall without a stud finder. I know there are proper methods, one I know of is 3/4\" from the edge of an electrical outlet, but I'm not sure how you can determine which side to hit, first shot. Do not want to poke a half dozen holes in the wall. Is there proper strategy to this? Or is it blindly firing away?",
"How to properly find a stud behind drywall without a stud finder. I know there are proper methods, one I know of is 3/4\" from the edge of an electrical outlet, but I'm not sure how you can determine which side to hit, first shot. Do not want to poke a half dozen holes in the wall. Is there proper strategy to this? Or is it blindly firing away?",
"How to properly find a stud behind drywall without a stud finder. I know there are proper methods, one I know of is 3/4\" from the edge of an electrical outlet, but I'm not sure how you can determine which side to hit, first shot. Do not want to poke a half dozen holes in the wall. Is there proper strategy to this? Or is it blindly firing away?",
"How to properly find a stud behind drywall without a stud finder. I know there are proper methods, one I know of is 3/4\" from the edge of an electrical outlet, but I'm not sure how you can determine which side to hit, first shot. Do not want to poke a half dozen holes in the wall. Is there proper strategy to this? Or is it blindly firing away?"
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"You can knock on the wall. The sound is different when you are knocking on the part where there is a stud vs where there is nothing behind it. It takes some practice though. \nThe other option is measuring. If the house was built correctly, the studs should be 16\" apart on center. They won't always be 16\" but it's a good general rule. \nAlso, if you ask this in r/homeimprovement there will be a lot of people that will be able to help you too.",
"Use a magnet. Rub it on the wall till you find a nail. Go straight up or down to find a 2nd nail and draw a straight line through them. Now you marked your stud from floor to ceiling. You do need a strong magnet. I use a hard drive magnet",
"If the wall material isn't too thick you can sometimes rap on the wall with your knuckle and hear when there isn't as much of a hollow sound you are over a stud. ",
"Honestly my stud finder cost $15 and has been around for 10 years. Even if you just hang pictures, it doesn't really take up any room. ",
"Tap lightly with a hammer. The sound it makes hittin the wall where a stud is versus an area without is obvious. Tapping the area without a stud sounds hollow and it gives way a bit. Hitting a studded part is obvious AF"
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"Acclimate myself to cooler/cold weather, and cold water when submerged? I have lived in Arizona all of my life and hardly venture out of state or into the mountains. I don't swim that often at all. However I want to start making it routine.\n\nThat being said, I have two questions -- any tips/advice would be greatly appreciated!\n\n1) How can I acclimate myself to being comfortable outside in the cold? Not wet/submerged/etc. Just being outside in cooler weather witthout shivering. Say in the Low 50's and below. \n\n2) How can I acclimate myself to swimming in cooler water? Should I just jump right in and man up? Nothing abnormally cold, just much much more chilly than I am ever use to.\n\nThanks!",
"Acclimate myself to cooler/cold weather, and cold water when submerged? I have lived in Arizona all of my life and hardly venture out of state or into the mountains. I don't swim that often at all. However I want to start making it routine.\n\nThat being said, I have two questions -- any tips/advice would be greatly appreciated!\n\n1) How can I acclimate myself to being comfortable outside in the cold? Not wet/submerged/etc. Just being outside in cooler weather witthout shivering. Say in the Low 50's and below. \n\n2) How can I acclimate myself to swimming in cooler water? Should I just jump right in and man up? Nothing abnormally cold, just much much more chilly than I am ever use to.\n\nThanks!"
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"When I took swimming lessons in cold water lakes (5-10 deg C), the instructor suggested that splashing water on the back of one's neck helped acclimitisation. She suggested the area had a high concentration of nerves which, if shocked with cold water, sped up the signalling of the brain to alter blood vessel dilation. I can't speak to the veracity of the claim, but I use it frequently and it seems to work for me. However, when ice water hits gonads, a small shriek is inevitable.\n\nAs for cold temperature weather it seems it is all about exposure (similar to Spinnaker's post). After a few days of -40C weather, -15C feels like summer. However, to answer your question more specifically, if you want to be comfortable outside in cool weather, dress appropriately. Wear a hat that covers your ears, drink warm beverages, wear gloves, etc. Maintaining a positive attitude also goes a long ways to feeling warm.",
"Are you talking low 50's Fahrenheit or Celsius? There's no way to get around it your body will acclimate in it's own time, there is no way to speed this process up or make it easier, just bear with it. Avoid heat as this will steal all progress. For water do not jump in, the shock could be too intense for your body, better to ease yourself in and let your body adjust."
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"How much money should I keep in my checking account? Opening my first checking account, don't know how much I should keep in there. ",
"How much money should I keep in my checking account? Opening my first checking account, don't know how much I should keep in there. ",
"How much money should I keep in my checking account? Opening my first checking account, don't know how much I should keep in there. ",
"How much money should I keep in my checking account? Opening my first checking account, don't know how much I should keep in there. ",
"How much money should I keep in my checking account? Opening my first checking account, don't know how much I should keep in there. ",
"How much money should I keep in my checking account? Opening my first checking account, don't know how much I should keep in there. ",
"How much money should I keep in my checking account? Opening my first checking account, don't know how much I should keep in there. "
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"What I do is I directly deposit my paychecks into my checking account. At the end of the month, I put the remainder from the previous month into my savings. This happens at the same time I receive my next paycheck. So I'll always have enough money to cover my bills, but I'll never have more than a single paycheck's worth of money in there. This is also a nice way to track your spending each month, because you can just view your savings account transaction history and you can see how much money you saved each month rather easily.\n\nI do this personally because my savings offers higher rates than my checking. But there are some banks/cr",
"money in a checking account is literally losing value by the day. \n\nThe interest rates in most checking accounts are abysmal and are lower then inflation. As GobiasIndustries has mentioned, keep as little money in a checking account as possible and invest or put the rest into savings accounts/CDs/etc. ",
"Well I have a checkings and a savings but all my money is in my savings and it takes a few days to transfer.",
"Enough to cover your bills plus a little extra. Do not keep all of your money in your checking. That's a recipe for disaster... I keep about $500 in there at all times. The rest goes into savings. ",
"No more than £35,000 \n \nMove as much as you can into a tax free savings account or pension. \n \nInvest the rest in long term bonds.",
"Enough to cover a major fuckup.\n\nPaycheck didn't deposit? Rent come out twice? Have enough depth to ensure that your other bills still get paid while you sort out the problem.\n\nFor most people, this would be about one paycheck's worth to keep in your account at all times. I'd suggest more like the 1.5-2 paychecks worth as a \"buffer\" against such problems.",
"All my bills are paid from a separate account, I transfer in every month what my bills accumulate to, plus 10%, it grows over time but then drops when I get an extra bill or a bill is higher than normal.\n\nI am not to sure on your terminology with checking and savings account. I have a single account, which my wage is paid to and I distribute from there, to my savings account, and my bills account."
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"The best way to cook a hamburger either in the over or on the stove top. Living in an apartment that doesn't allow grills sucks! ",
"The best way to cook a hamburger either in the over or on the stove top. Living in an apartment that doesn't allow grills sucks! ",
"The best way to cook a hamburger either in the over or on the stove top. Living in an apartment that doesn't allow grills sucks! "
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"Cast iron frying pan. If you don't have one, go get one, they are awesome in dozens of ways and even up the iron content of the food you cook. Fresh ground chuck, mixed with a 1 tablespoon each of salt and pepper per pound of chuck before cooking. Get the pan up to heat to where drops of water will skitter around on the pan, then drop the burgers. 4 minutes on one side, 4 minutes on the other side, DO NOT PRESS OR FLIP OR OTHERWISE EFF WITH THE BURGER. Just let the burger sit in the pan and cook. Once it's done, pull it off and let the burger sit for about five minutes. Awesomeness will ensue.",
"also check out [this](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/nlchx/lpt_how_to_reheat_a_hamburger/) \nposted today by MartianManchild",
"Oh, hamburgers, how I love thee.\n\nI assume that you're using fresh ground beef, so we won't address sad frozen pucks of tasteless pre-preparedness.\n\nNo grill. Bummer. My next choice would be...griddle. One of those plug in jobs you can get for about 20-30 bucks. Makes a great burger, and is a handy thing to have about the house anyway...(make pancakes like a pro, griddle up some hot ham and chee sands?) Season your burgs the way you like them, get your griddle preheated...350 or so (start at 400 to get a \"steak-n-shake\" style crust to the outside of the burger) and grill until done to your liking.\n\nDownside to the griddle: Mess. They usually have some sort of grease trap, but they always seem to be inadequate for burgers. You may want to press your burgers a time or two, depending on how you like them cooked, and that creates a massive amount of grease...just monitor your grease trap thing, and everything should be alright.\n\nSecond choice: Stove top. A nice non-stick frying pan and a burger can be good friends. And, everybody has a frying pan right?\n\nDownside: Messy...so messy. Splatters the top of your oven. Greasy. No where for all that delicious fat to go, so you end up with a wet greasy burger. Temperature...hard to get right on an electric stove, and a gas stove...now you're playing with fire. Get it? Grease splatter plus open flame? Flare ups? Fire? Right.\n\nI would never ever admit that I tried to bake a burger. Not to my closest friends...but what the hell, I don't know you. I tried it. I hated it. Consistency of meatloaf that wasn't made right. Fat congeals around the bottom of the burger, difficult to get to the temp that you want. (Too rare, popped back in for bit, comes out well)\n\nIf neither of the above options is a go for you, don't ignore the clamshell delight of a george foreman style grill. They serve their purpose...grilling meats indoors when you don't have the ability to grill outdoors. The only thing I don't like about them is the mess, and that they are a bit of a one item kitchen utensil. I try not to clutter my kitchen with things that only do one job.\n\nLike Alton Brown says...the only kitchen utensil that should only have one job...is a fire extinguisher."
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"How do I get better at getting up in the morning for work? I feel extremely reluctant to get out of bed every morning, even on nights when I get 8 hours of sleep! Help!",
"How do I get better at getting up in the morning for work? I feel extremely reluctant to get out of bed every morning, even on nights when I get 8 hours of sleep! Help!",
"How do I get better at getting up in the morning for work? I feel extremely reluctant to get out of bed every morning, even on nights when I get 8 hours of sleep! Help!",
"How do I get better at getting up in the morning for work? I feel extremely reluctant to get out of bed every morning, even on nights when I get 8 hours of sleep! Help!",
"How do I get better at getting up in the morning for work? I feel extremely reluctant to get out of bed every morning, even on nights when I get 8 hours of sleep! Help!",
"How do I get better at getting up in the morning for work? I feel extremely reluctant to get out of bed every morning, even on nights when I get 8 hours of sleep! Help!",
"How do I get better at getting up in the morning for work? I feel extremely reluctant to get out of bed every morning, even on nights when I get 8 hours of sleep! Help!",
"How do I get better at getting up in the morning for work? I feel extremely reluctant to get out of bed every morning, even on nights when I get 8 hours of sleep! Help!",
"How do I get better at getting up in the morning for work? I feel extremely reluctant to get out of bed every morning, even on nights when I get 8 hours of sleep! Help!",
"How do I get better at getting up in the morning for work? I feel extremely reluctant to get out of bed every morning, even on nights when I get 8 hours of sleep! Help!",
"How do I get better at getting up in the morning for work? I feel extremely reluctant to get out of bed every morning, even on nights when I get 8 hours of sleep! Help!"
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"I like to use 2 alarms. My phone right next to me and my alarm clock across the room. I set my phone alarm 1 minute before the alarm clock. This gives me a moment to open my eyes and what not. Then the alarm clock forces me to stand and stretch my legs.\n\nAlso, do you drink coffee? Buy a coffeemaker with a timed auto brew feature and set it about 10 minutes before you wake up. Waking up to coffee smell has always perked me up.\n\nBefore I make my coffee though I toss back an ice cold glass of water. Seems to get the body and mind moving quick.\n\nMake sure you eat breakfast every morning as well. It's a reason to get out of bed and will give you energy.\n\nFinally, if possible, try to use natural sunlight when you wake up. I know this isn't an option for everybody but I have a timed blinds opener that opens my east facing window at the same time as my alarm clock. Most of the year the sun is smack dab in the middle of my window around the time I wake up. Nothing gets your ass up faster than a giant ball of fire.",
"I have a lamp that is supposed to simulate sunlight that is within arms reach from my bed. \n\nMy new routine has become: first alarm off goes off and I turn on the lamp. Snooze for about twenty minutes when the second alarm goes off and I get up. \n\nIt has worked out pretty well for me so far. ",
"I actually have 4 alarms, at 6, 6:30, 6:45 and the real one, at 7. When the real one actually arrives you're so fed up with the alarms that you just end up waking up. Also, the amazing feeling of thinking \"damn, I get to sleep another hour\".",
"Definitely saving this. I have the exact same problem, and it's not just on days I have to work, even if I have to get up at a set time on my days off I resent it, when I'm planning to do something fun. ",
"As some people in here have said, light helps a lot. I keep my blinds open so the sun wakes me up. I also have a timer and a lamp across the bedroom that turns on in the morning. Bright light is SO helpful. \n\nBreakfast helps for sure. But.. I'm usually in a rush. I keep a container of fresh fruit because its cheap and easy to cut up. On my phone an alarm goes off and it shows a message (iPhone) \"Wake up now. Being tired is better than being fired.\" Usually makes me panic enough. ",
"You might try a wake-up light. Human wake/sleep cycles are strongly linked to light. I use one of these in the winter when it's still not light when I need to get up. In addition, go to sleep and wake up at the same time every day and your mind will program that in in time. \n\nhttps://www.amazon.com/Philips-Wake-Up-Sunrise-Simulation-HF3500/dp/B00F0W1RIW/ref=pd_day0_121_2?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=B00F0W1RIW&pd_rd_r=6NYPX0JFJNRRAZ435SRN&pd_rd_w=2Mzct&pd_rd_wg=ioWgO&psc=1&refRID=6NYPX0JFJNRRAZ435SRN",
"Waking up at the same time every day helps a lot, but also getting up earlier than you have to every now and again helps a lot as well. sleeping in isn't really a reward or a privilege and if you can just remove thinking of it that way from your vocabulary it makes everything easier. If you need more sleep go to bed earlier. I've found if I get up earlier on Saturday and Sunday then I do during the week I function way better. Regardless you have to work, so you gotta make sacrifices",
"If you've got an Android there's an alarm clock on the play store that won't turn off unless it senses a strong/weak enough wifi signal (depending on the relation of your bed to your router) I use one of these at 5:15 every morning since my router is in the living room. Then I sit/lay on the couch for 15 min with an alarm set quietly at 5:30 to tell me it's time to actually do stuff. That 15 minutes is mine to do with what I want and I look forward to it. I like to think of it as a way to get my procrastination/Reddit/listen to music fix so that I can focus on what I need to until I have to leave. It also helps to get into a consistent schedule with your sleep.",
"Honestly the best thing I found, go to bed earlier. I started going to bed at 10:30 rather than 11:30-12 and was able to get in the habit of getting up at 5:45 to hit the gym.",
"Drink decaf. I used to think I was a night owl, up till 2, crawled out of bed. Started drinking decaf and hey, I'm not a night owl any more. I wake up at sunrise some days now, go figure.",
"Don't snooze or lie in bed dreading getting out for ages. Just count down from 10 and GET UP. Do it without thinking, you actually feel far better in the long run. A lot of people come here asking for lifehacks on how to make getting up easy. There are no shortcuts, sorry."
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"How to sharpen a knife A buddy of mine sharpens knives for $5 per knife. And he does a damn good job. But I have always wanted to have this ability for myself. ",
"How to sharpen a knife A buddy of mine sharpens knives for $5 per knife. And he does a damn good job. But I have always wanted to have this ability for myself. ",
"How to sharpen a knife A buddy of mine sharpens knives for $5 per knife. And he does a damn good job. But I have always wanted to have this ability for myself. "
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"Wait I thought the point of sharpening was to get a new sharp edge. I've always sharpened while pushing the cutting edge away to grind away burrs and imperfections. ",
"/r/knives. Do a search for \"sharpening\" since sharpening questions are posted daily. Also you can try /r/bestofknives there are two sharpening posts linked there.\n\nWhat many bits of sharpening advice won't cover is that it takes practice. You can only learn so much from guides, tutorials, and youtube demonstrations. Don't worry too much about ruining a knife, part of the learning process is learning how to fix messed up edges and mistakes.",
"For kitchen knives use a knife sharpener.\n\nFishing/camping/hunting knife, use a bench grinder or wet stone. And pay attention to the angle you are putting on it, there are certain angles for different uses.\n\nTldr; google it."
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"How to handle rejection gracefully I was told tonight that I did not get cast in an opera that I was looking forward to being part of. That on top of not being in a play I auditioned for at the same time has really taken a blow to my confidence. How do I handle this with grace and professionalism?",
"How to handle rejection gracefully I was told tonight that I did not get cast in an opera that I was looking forward to being part of. That on top of not being in a play I auditioned for at the same time has really taken a blow to my confidence. How do I handle this with grace and professionalism?",
"How to handle rejection gracefully I was told tonight that I did not get cast in an opera that I was looking forward to being part of. That on top of not being in a play I auditioned for at the same time has really taken a blow to my confidence. How do I handle this with grace and professionalism?",
"How to handle rejection gracefully I was told tonight that I did not get cast in an opera that I was looking forward to being part of. That on top of not being in a play I auditioned for at the same time has really taken a blow to my confidence. How do I handle this with grace and professionalism?",
"How to handle rejection gracefully I was told tonight that I did not get cast in an opera that I was looking forward to being part of. That on top of not being in a play I auditioned for at the same time has really taken a blow to my confidence. How do I handle this with grace and professionalism?",
"How to handle rejection gracefully I was told tonight that I did not get cast in an opera that I was looking forward to being part of. That on top of not being in a play I auditioned for at the same time has really taken a blow to my confidence. How do I handle this with grace and professionalism?",
"How to handle rejection gracefully I was told tonight that I did not get cast in an opera that I was looking forward to being part of. That on top of not being in a play I auditioned for at the same time has really taken a blow to my confidence. How do I handle this with grace and professionalism?",
"How to handle rejection gracefully I was told tonight that I did not get cast in an opera that I was looking forward to being part of. That on top of not being in a play I auditioned for at the same time has really taken a blow to my confidence. How do I handle this with grace and professionalism?",
"How to handle rejection gracefully I was told tonight that I did not get cast in an opera that I was looking forward to being part of. That on top of not being in a play I auditioned for at the same time has really taken a blow to my confidence. How do I handle this with grace and professionalism?",
"How to handle rejection gracefully I was told tonight that I did not get cast in an opera that I was looking forward to being part of. That on top of not being in a play I auditioned for at the same time has really taken a blow to my confidence. How do I handle this with grace and professionalism?",
"How to handle rejection gracefully I was told tonight that I did not get cast in an opera that I was looking forward to being part of. That on top of not being in a play I auditioned for at the same time has really taken a blow to my confidence. How do I handle this with grace and professionalism?"
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"You audition for *another one*. You didn't get that either? *Another one.* Unlucky? *Another one.* Never give up. Never surrender. Many great actors got rejected before they had their breakthrough. ",
"What do you call a guy who handed out 100 resumes before getting a job? A guy with a job. \nWhat do you call a guy who asked out 100 girls before getting a date? A guy with a date. \nThose weren't the roles for you, other ones will be. Keep at it :)",
"In my experience the best thing to do is NOT simply to move on to the next one. You may run into these people again and you want them to remember you positively. If you receive a rejection in person, do this in person. If it's in writing, mail back a thank you-card. As far as what to say, put yourself in their shoes and follow it up with a hopeful, optimistic message - I know how difficult it can be to choose the right person for a role and while this one wasn't for me, I hope that we have the opportunity to work together in the future, and that your production exceeds your expectations - something like that, SHORT AND SWEET. That's about it. And do it right away, immediately even. THEN move on top the next one.",
"rejection is part of life. not everyone thinks you are perfect for the job. what are you going to do? quit for the rest of your life? you keep going, do the best you can, and don't take it personally. once got in a competition with my friends to see who could get rejected by the most women at a bar. it was a blast because it made us realize that it's all a game and to not take it personally.",
"You recognize that your position and thus your self esteem is based on peoples whims who cant do what you can do. \n\nI dint know this it ia the same fir life. How do you deal with consistent blows to tour self esteem\n\n",
"The arts are like this, notoriously so! I worked in music for a long time, and it's good to take a 'carpet bombing' approach to auditions. Get out there and do as many as you can, even for things you may not wish to pursue, just to get more experience of auditioning. *Always* be friendly and courteous, because word gets around! ",
"Thank them anyway and offer to volunteer on the production. If something happens, you may pick up another role i this or, at the very least, make connections for another opera.",
"Learn to accept rejection by not taking it to heart. You know what you're capable of. You did your thing and you did it amazingly. Keep going and stay consistent. That one \"yes\" that comes thereafter will far outweigh all the \"no's\". I promise. Nothing in life worth having comes easy. Except ice cream, they're everywhere.",
"Just think about any professional or famous person, a lot of them would have been rejected/ told they won't be good. But they didn't give up, they were persistent and eventually OP you will be just as good. As long as you are persistent. Just remember every entertainer didn't easily get their jobs they had to work for it.",
"I deal with rejection nearly every day of my life. Not quite rejection you've encountered, but it all stings in some ways. A wise man once told me, \"Every time someone says no to you, it gets you closer and closer to getting a yes.\" I see that a lot now. Don't take it personally. What you were given and what the other person wasn't, was a chance to reflect on how you could have improved. You handled it well by asking for ways to become a better person over it. Like most of these people are saying on here, don't give up. You're a little closer to getting a yes.",
"Maybe get a real job to gratify you, and keep on trying your little acting thing in your spare time. "
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"How to avoid pain in buttocks because of sitting for too long If you have to sit for a lecture for example of about 4 hours in a row without getting up, how do you avoid pain on the buttocks or in the back?",
"How to avoid pain in buttocks because of sitting for too long If you have to sit for a lecture for example of about 4 hours in a row without getting up, how do you avoid pain on the buttocks or in the back?",
"How to avoid pain in buttocks because of sitting for too long If you have to sit for a lecture for example of about 4 hours in a row without getting up, how do you avoid pain on the buttocks or in the back?",
"How to avoid pain in buttocks because of sitting for too long If you have to sit for a lecture for example of about 4 hours in a row without getting up, how do you avoid pain on the buttocks or in the back?",
"How to avoid pain in buttocks because of sitting for too long If you have to sit for a lecture for example of about 4 hours in a row without getting up, how do you avoid pain on the buttocks or in the back?"
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"[This article](http://voices.yahoo.com/dealing-sciatica-travel-doesnt-pain-1871074.html) seems to answer your question. Essentially, what's going on is that pressure is being put on your Sciatic nerve when you sit for long periods of time; a condition (for lack of a better term) called *Sciatica*, in case you want to do more research. The article suggests - in more detail than I feel like typing here - that you sit straight, use any extra space you have, use massage/heat/cold to ease the pain, and walk around as much as possible if the pain persists.\n\nThere is a bunch of more information on this if you do a quick google search of some combination of \"sciatic nerve pain long sitting\". The seriousness of the condition really depends on the amount of pain you have; if it is serious and lasts days/weeks you might be looking at surgery, but for the majority of us it's just - wait for it - a pain in the butt. ",
"* Bring a small pillow\n\n* If you only have to attempt this kind of lecture a few times, periodically shifting your position could help (Putting more weight on the lower part of your \"butt\" vs the higher part)\n\n* It's kind of obvious, but you should avoid sitting down prior to the actual lecture. Play some sport, take a long walk, browse reddit while standing up, whatever. Just avoid crushing your ass.\n\n* I'm talking out of my ass for this one, but maybe contracting your glutes could relieve some stress down there. ",
"[Work on your posture.](http://www.mayfieldclinic.com/PE-POSTURE.htm) It's not easy to keep an ideal sitting posture for a long time, even if you're good at it. Don't favor anything - i.e., shifting to one side or hanging your head to one side - because that will cause a strain and you'll cramp up.\n\nI realize that your question is about a specific instance, but if this is still a problem when you're working, look at getting/building a [standing desk](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Standing_desk).\n",
"Stomach crunches to strengthen the abs can help support the back. But the best is to stand at least a few minutes per hour.\n\nI would sit near a wall, preferably near a door, and periodically stand. If it was distracting, I will stand just outside the door leaning against the wall to stop the back spasms, while still being able to hear the lecture. Of course, I had a certified back problem at the time, and my profs were cool with it.\n\n[The SacroWedgy](http://www.sacrowedgy.com/) can help the lingering sciatic pain and other back pain issues. It is also available thru [Amazon](http://www.amazon.com/Sacro-Wedgy-Female-Version/dp/B000RZWKOC). It would be awkward to take to the lecture, I suppose. ",
"Oh man, my chiropractor has this bladder on one of the chairs in the waiting room that is awesome. I searched around and didn't find anything like it. Lot of wheelchair pad type things, but nothing like this. It's pretty expensive but god is it nice to sit on if you have a bad back. I can call and ask tomorrow if you want to know the name. "
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"Thinking myself to death Lately I've been thinking myself into pain almost because I'm so scared of something being wrong with me. I'm literally thinking myself into headaches, stomach aches, or my side hurting. I've also scheduled a doctors appointment that way I can talk this through with my doctor and check if anything is wrong with me to relieve me of my stress. So I'm just wondering how I can stop this besides just keeping myself occupied?\nSorry for any errors as I'm writing this on mobile.\n\n",
"Thinking myself to death Lately I've been thinking myself into pain almost because I'm so scared of something being wrong with me. I'm literally thinking myself into headaches, stomach aches, or my side hurting. I've also scheduled a doctors appointment that way I can talk this through with my doctor and check if anything is wrong with me to relieve me of my stress. So I'm just wondering how I can stop this besides just keeping myself occupied?\nSorry for any errors as I'm writing this on mobile.\n\n",
"Thinking myself to death Lately I've been thinking myself into pain almost because I'm so scared of something being wrong with me. I'm literally thinking myself into headaches, stomach aches, or my side hurting. I've also scheduled a doctors appointment that way I can talk this through with my doctor and check if anything is wrong with me to relieve me of my stress. So I'm just wondering how I can stop this besides just keeping myself occupied?\nSorry for any errors as I'm writing this on mobile.\n\n",
"Thinking myself to death Lately I've been thinking myself into pain almost because I'm so scared of something being wrong with me. I'm literally thinking myself into headaches, stomach aches, or my side hurting. I've also scheduled a doctors appointment that way I can talk this through with my doctor and check if anything is wrong with me to relieve me of my stress. So I'm just wondering how I can stop this besides just keeping myself occupied?\nSorry for any errors as I'm writing this on mobile.\n\n",
"Thinking myself to death Lately I've been thinking myself into pain almost because I'm so scared of something being wrong with me. I'm literally thinking myself into headaches, stomach aches, or my side hurting. I've also scheduled a doctors appointment that way I can talk this through with my doctor and check if anything is wrong with me to relieve me of my stress. So I'm just wondering how I can stop this besides just keeping myself occupied?\nSorry for any errors as I'm writing this on mobile.\n\n"
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"Read books. When you are emersed in a good book your brain can't think about other things. You're in a different world where there is nothing but the authors words and your interpretation. It had really helped me recently ",
"Anxiety is so crippling. :( Good job on realizing you have a problem, and taking steps to fix it, though! :) You might look into therapy and/or medication, if the problem is bad enough. ",
"Find some way to keep yourself busy through physical activity, or relax by getting back to nature. Take photos, take a hike, visit someplace you've never been even if it's in your hometown. Good to hear you have a doctor's appointment because that's what the best answer is.",
"(Re)Focusing your energy on desiring to be healthy might help. You might try some positive affirmations. Which is where you daily repeat a statement internally to yourself a number of times until you start to identify with/believe that statement. You could try an affirmation like: \"I desire to be radiantly healthy and I am radiantly healthy.\"(ten times, every morning, for example.) You don't have to believe it at first, you only need to want it to be true. The idea of the practice is that over time, you will absorb/internalize the positive affirmations you repeatedly expose yourself to, just as you probably passively absorbed or internalized the negative thoughts you are combatting from certain negative messages you were repeatedly exposed to in the outside world.\nPeople who are into positive affirmations say that they are powerful and effective.\n\nObviously this is not a substitute for actually checking and making sure that there is in fact nothing the matter with you, as you plan to do.\n\n"
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"Change your own oil kit So a while back ago someone posted a great LPT detailing step by step instructions on changing your own oil; however, it has since been deleted. I can easily research this process but the post also included recommendations for which oil change kits to purchase. Anyone have any advice on what brands I should look into. Keep in mind I'm not super knowledgeable about cars \n\nAlso, I drive a 2011 Hyundai Sonata if that has any factor.",
"Change your own oil kit So a while back ago someone posted a great LPT detailing step by step instructions on changing your own oil; however, it has since been deleted. I can easily research this process but the post also included recommendations for which oil change kits to purchase. Anyone have any advice on what brands I should look into. Keep in mind I'm not super knowledgeable about cars \n\nAlso, I drive a 2011 Hyundai Sonata if that has any factor.",
"Change your own oil kit So a while back ago someone posted a great LPT detailing step by step instructions on changing your own oil; however, it has since been deleted. I can easily research this process but the post also included recommendations for which oil change kits to purchase. Anyone have any advice on what brands I should look into. Keep in mind I'm not super knowledgeable about cars \n\nAlso, I drive a 2011 Hyundai Sonata if that has any factor.",
"Change your own oil kit So a while back ago someone posted a great LPT detailing step by step instructions on changing your own oil; however, it has since been deleted. I can easily research this process but the post also included recommendations for which oil change kits to purchase. Anyone have any advice on what brands I should look into. Keep in mind I'm not super knowledgeable about cars \n\nAlso, I drive a 2011 Hyundai Sonata if that has any factor.",
"Change your own oil kit So a while back ago someone posted a great LPT detailing step by step instructions on changing your own oil; however, it has since been deleted. I can easily research this process but the post also included recommendations for which oil change kits to purchase. Anyone have any advice on what brands I should look into. Keep in mind I'm not super knowledgeable about cars \n\nAlso, I drive a 2011 Hyundai Sonata if that has any factor.",
"Change your own oil kit So a while back ago someone posted a great LPT detailing step by step instructions on changing your own oil; however, it has since been deleted. I can easily research this process but the post also included recommendations for which oil change kits to purchase. Anyone have any advice on what brands I should look into. Keep in mind I'm not super knowledgeable about cars \n\nAlso, I drive a 2011 Hyundai Sonata if that has any factor.",
"Change your own oil kit So a while back ago someone posted a great LPT detailing step by step instructions on changing your own oil; however, it has since been deleted. I can easily research this process but the post also included recommendations for which oil change kits to purchase. Anyone have any advice on what brands I should look into. Keep in mind I'm not super knowledgeable about cars \n\nAlso, I drive a 2011 Hyundai Sonata if that has any factor.",
"Change your own oil kit So a while back ago someone posted a great LPT detailing step by step instructions on changing your own oil; however, it has since been deleted. I can easily research this process but the post also included recommendations for which oil change kits to purchase. Anyone have any advice on what brands I should look into. Keep in mind I'm not super knowledgeable about cars \n\nAlso, I drive a 2011 Hyundai Sonata if that has any factor.",
"Change your own oil kit So a while back ago someone posted a great LPT detailing step by step instructions on changing your own oil; however, it has since been deleted. I can easily research this process but the post also included recommendations for which oil change kits to purchase. Anyone have any advice on what brands I should look into. Keep in mind I'm not super knowledgeable about cars \n\nAlso, I drive a 2011 Hyundai Sonata if that has any factor.",
"Change your own oil kit So a while back ago someone posted a great LPT detailing step by step instructions on changing your own oil; however, it has since been deleted. I can easily research this process but the post also included recommendations for which oil change kits to purchase. Anyone have any advice on what brands I should look into. Keep in mind I'm not super knowledgeable about cars \n\nAlso, I drive a 2011 Hyundai Sonata if that has any factor.",
"Change your own oil kit So a while back ago someone posted a great LPT detailing step by step instructions on changing your own oil; however, it has since been deleted. I can easily research this process but the post also included recommendations for which oil change kits to purchase. Anyone have any advice on what brands I should look into. Keep in mind I'm not super knowledgeable about cars \n\nAlso, I drive a 2011 Hyundai Sonata if that has any factor."
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"As far as kits go, Most auto parts stores have a kit for around $15.\n\nAside from a set of basic wrenches, most kits will include the following. \noil drain pan $2-$10\n\n1 Roll of blue shop towels. No more than $3\n\nA funnel for pouring the oil. $0.99 (tops)\n\nSome kits include gloves, if not try to find some rubber or nitrile gloves. They make cleanup a breeeeeeeze. \nThe right oil filter for your car ( avoid Fram, even though it's cheaper. The things are practically cardboard and glue)\n\nThen of course you need the recommended oil, if you're not sure the parts store can tell you what type-how much of it you need and even recommend a good brand. \n\nThe extras, that I have on hand when I do an oil change: \n\nAn oil filter wrench\n\nKitty Litter (or oil absorbent pellets) (for cleaning up spilled oil)\n\nFast Orange (or other pumice soap hand cleaner)\n\nAnd definitely a nice cold beer, or 2....\n\n(",
"By the way the commonly known \"change you're oil every 3000 miles\" is bullshit. Make sure to check you're owners manual. It will tell you the type of oil you should be using, and how often to change it. For example my car uses 0W-40 synthetic and needs to be changed every 9000 miles.",
"Get under the vehicle and look for the Oil drain plug. It's usually at an angle from the oil pan. MAKE SURE YOU HAVE THE RIGHT BOLT. Once you remove it, you could be draining transmission fluid (Common on Toyotas). To remove it, you'll need a wrench. Don't use a wrench that has any slack on the bolt. You want it to be a perfect fit or you could ruin the bolt. Let the oil drain from the car and while you are waiting, locate and unscrew the oil filter. It is located on the side of the engine block.\n\nNOTE: You should already have your oil and oil filter before changing, so if you are unsure what the oil filter looks like, take a look at the new one. They usually look identical. To choose the oil, it should have the type in the dip stick somewhere. If not ask the auto body shop.\n\nYou should also have the oil dip stick removed to help not keep a vacuum in the engine block. You want to put the oil pan bolt back into the hole you got it from, and tighten it down. Next, take some fresh oil and wipe a little bit around the rubber seal on the new oil filter. This is so the rubber seal doesn't melt to the engine block and you'll have a big pain in the ass next time you try to replace your oil. Only hand tighten the filter or you'll also have a hard time getting that off next time. Grab a funnel and fill the correct amount of oil in the car. You're ready to go!",
"well you will need to at least search youtube to find the right bolt or maybe even pirate/buy a car manual so you don't go an drain something you shouldn't have. The manual will/should tell you what plug to undo and how much of what to refill it with. Most of the time the caps/lids of the thing you need to refill with are stated (5w-25 oil, Grade 3 Break fluid, shit like that). The amount is different for every car, I had two silverados (90/'04 both v8's) one for mini van (91 aerostar v6) one camaro (86 v8 305 block) and one firebird (94 350 v8). the silverado's ranged from 5 quarts to 5.5, the aerostar was about 4.5 quarts, and the camaro and firebird was 5 quarts each.\n\nThe plug is also in different locations on every car/truck. Almost always at the lowest point of the oil pan though so you wont be looking too hard. When draining the oil think, how would I get the most of the used crappy oil out so I can get most of the new oil in? I park/lift/jack my trucks/cars front end up a bit to get most of it out. \n\nMake sure the vehicle is warm (around 150 degrees or a ten minutes of running idle) to get the sludge warmed up and it might come out with it, not always, but maybe. You can try opening up the oil filter also to get everything out, but it isn't necessary since it could get messy. Plug up the oil drain and then remove the oil filter (if you hadn't already) and let it drain some. \n\nWhen putting the new filter on, pour some oil into it (about 30% is more than enough) and make sure to get some new oil on the rubber seal and threads, this will help it seal good so you don't get any leaks. once those are all taken care of, start pouring the oil in, start with four quarts and then check every half a quart after that since you can put too much in it and it will/might overflow and mess up your whip. If your ride says it holds 5 quarts, it should be more than fine with half a quart more or less, but always good to be half a quart more than less since oil can be burned off.\n\nlower the vehicle if you jacked it up or something to get the oil out.\n\n\nonce you get to your recommended levels (if you are changing out and leveling off your other fluids), and you make sure you don't have any extra parts. start it up and let it run for a bit to make sure you don't hear any weird noises.\n\nturn it off after a few minutes of good idle (doesn't need to be too long, three minutes) and turn it back off. Wait a bit (about ten) and recheck the oil since there are air pockets that get filled once the ride is on and oil is circulating. Refill if needed.\n\nRemember, always check oil when the vehicle is off, check the transmission fluid when it is running.\n\nthe type of oil is up to you. Conventional oil is cheap but wont last as long as full synthetic and it wont lubricate as well. Half synthetic is also good but again, not as good as full synthetic. When using conventional oil, you should change it around 6k miles (older auto techs will tell you around 3-4k miles but you are good at 6k miles). Full synthetic oil is good to 15k or so but is also around two to three times as expensive.\n\nThe weight is very important though, for the smaller engines, you should run a lighter weight oil (0w-25) and a larger one can run heavier (10w-30). Think the difference between syrup and honey, but not as extreme. I don't remember what, but one of the numbers means its viscosity when cold and the other means its viscosity when it is hot. You totally could run heavier oil in a smaller engine, but your gas mileage will suffer since it revs at a higher RPM than a bigger heavier engine. The rev limits of inline 4 (honda civics) and v8s (2004 silverado or 91 silverado) are way different. The inline fours can run around 8-9k rpms redline and the silverados can only run around 5k RPMS redline. The lower viscosity is easier to move at higher rpms than thicker oil.\n\nThe brand doesn't really matter (to me anyways) since I always get premium full synthetic oil. But I usually get mobile 1, quakerstate, or pensoil mostly because it is on sale at costco :) for around 30$ for six quarts.\n\nI also like to add oil additives just because most of my cars have been older (none have had under 100k miles so far) and why not? 10$ isn't much I think. I use some stuff that is in a silver can that looks like an energy drink but is blue in color. Supposed to help with the small scraches in the piston walls and the cracks in the piston seals and head seals....another thing I use is....I can't think right now....lucas oil additives...and...something else...starts with a z...z-max? lol...up to you though :D",
"Honestly I used to change my own oil, but recently I have been getting it done wherever there is a good deal. I went to merchants tire and bought 4 regular oil changes at once that must be used over a 12 month period, so for my wife and I that was no problem. I paid 75.00 for the four oil changes which comes out to 18.75 each. If I could go to auto zone or advance and buy the things for an oil change for less then I would do the change myself and recycle the oil where I bought the new oil (for free) most auto parts stores offer free oil recycling in the back of their store, just ask them where the tank is and you can go dump it. \n\nBasic oil is more expensive than my oil change most of the time. This could be different if you require a synthetic.\n\nhttp://shop.advanceautoparts.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product_gtx-10w-30-conventional-motor-oil-(5-plus-quarts-jug)-castrol_10070118-p?navigationPath=L1*14926%7CL2*15035\n\nAlso if you are weary that a sketchy place won't replace your filter for such a low price then just ask for your part back, most of the time they will tell you no problem.\n\nTL;DR: Dont change it yourself if there is a good deal in your area, I know it might make you feel accomplished, but for less money and not having to worry about the mess and having your free time line up with good weather if you don't have a garage, get someone else to do it for you.",
"All the step by steps are great. As for a kit, most things have been covered but I'd throw a few more in. Full list, please people, add to if you have any suggestions:\n\nMetric wrench to fit your oil pan drain bolt.\n\nFunnel.\n\nDrain pan - Make sure it's big enough to hold all your oil! Seen overflows before... Messy...\n\nSpeaking of messy, I have an old bath towel and several rags I always use for oil changes. Good to have on hand for spills, clean up, wiping the dipstick and your hands, etc. \n\nYou can get an oil filter wrench (parts store will help you get the right one) but only use it to remove your filter if you need/want to! As has been stated before, hand tighten the oil filter only!\n\nMechanics gloves can help too. That's mostly personal preference. \n\nI think I got everything... Good luck!",
"Changing your own oil is a great way to save money and keep your car going. Here are my $0.02.\n\n\nIf you go to a car shop, you can get a \"kit\" of oil and filter. It's reasonably priced. However, buying them separately at Walmart is still usually a bit cheaper.\n\n\nOil and filter brands don't really matter. All oils and filters today are better than any oil 10 years ago.\n\n\nCheck to see if you car has any recommendations on synthetic. If so, follow the recommendation. It could be anything from \"don't use it\" to \"always use it\".\n\n\nWhen you go to the car shop, but a new oil plug (the thing on the bottom that lets the oil out when you unscrew it). Get a new one with a magnet on it. It's under $10. Then every oil change, clean it off. It'll put a low of metal out of your motor. BUT, before you install it, stick your finger inside the hole and double-check to make sure it won't hit anything. If it's on the computer, though, you should be good to go.\n\n\nBuying cheap oil and changing it at the recommended interval is better than buying expensive oil and not changing it often enough.\n\n\nHINT: learn how to reset you oil change indicator light. Do it when you change your oil. It's easy but if you don't reset it, when you hit the recommended change interval it might come on just because of mileage.\n\n\nTrack you oil changes. I reset my trip odometer #2 when I change my oil. I can then double check my mileage since last oil change easily. Hey, what else are you using it for, anyway?\n\nCheck your other fluids at the same time. Refill your wiper fluid. Check your blinker fluid. Check your brake fluid and power steering. Check you tire inflation and tread depth. Check your lights. It's good to know everything is okay.",
"Pull the drain plug, it's metric. Pull the oil filter, just unscrews. Put the new one on, put the plug back in. Fill it with 5qt oil and start the engine. This primes the filter. Turn it right back off and check the dip stick three times, wipe it off each time. \n\nChange your air filter too and check all other fluids. ",
"Go to jiffy lube. Seriously. Pay $25 bucks for an oil change and don't worry about the trips to the car part store, recycling old oil, and general mess. You'll be saving maybe 8-9 dollars doing it yourself. At about 4 oil changes a year, that comes out to about $36/year. I'd say let someone else do it. ",
"By \"kit\" do you mean oil and a filter or tools? You get whatever kind your car requires. You manual will tell you. Some cars will want different oil depending on the season if you live in a climate with a large disparity between summer and winter temps. Most stores (that sell oil filters) will have an oil filter catalog where you look up the model and year of your car and it will tell you what oil filter to get.\n\nAs for tools, I recommend these:\n\nGet a decent rubber glove with a grippy surface. The high-wrist heavy duty dish washing gloves work great.\n\nKeep a good rag around that's specifically for wiping up oil.\n\nGet a good oil container. You can buy them at any auto parts store or department store. It will make disposing of your oil much easier. You have to take it to some place that recycles motor oil. I take mine to AutoZone and they recycle it for free.\n\nYou probably don't need a funnel just for changing your oil. They're more for transmission fluid. Most engine oil receptacles are larger than the mouth of a quart of oil. You can just shove it in there updside down.\n\nOther than that, the only thing you need for changing your oil is the correct size wrench for your oil drain plug.\n\nI also recommend changing your oil with the engine warm. Run it for a few minutes. Oil is less viscous (sticky) as it heats up. You'll drain more old crap out of your engine if you're draining less viscous oil which has been agitated before draining. The oil may be hot, but that's what the thick rubber glove is for.",
"Fuck this advice that says to crawl under your car and unscrew the drain pan bolt. That shit is for idiots.\n\nBuy this:\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Mityvac-7400-Liter-Fluid-Evacuator/dp/B000JFJM14/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1386610005&sr=8-2&keywords=oil+changer+pump\n\nPull out your dipstick. Shove the tube down the dipstick hole. Pump the handle. Wait a few minutes while the oil is pumped out.\n\nNow, sadly, you still have to get under your car to change the filter. Read this:\n\nhttp://www.paulstravelpictures.com/Hyundai-Sonata-Theta-II-I4-Engine-Oil-Change-Guide/\n\nPersonally, even if I have to get under a car, not dealing with the oil pan bolt and subsequent mess is a wonderful thing."
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"Any advice on how to stop video game addiction? [Serious] I really need to stop playing video games as much as I do. I am a senior at a local university but I just can't seem to stop this constant video game habit. I have tried uninstalling and similar things to that, but I need something more permanent than that. Any advice / suggestions would be awesome. Thank you so much.",
"Any advice on how to stop video game addiction? [Serious] I really need to stop playing video games as much as I do. I am a senior at a local university but I just can't seem to stop this constant video game habit. I have tried uninstalling and similar things to that, but I need something more permanent than that. Any advice / suggestions would be awesome. Thank you so much.",
"Any advice on how to stop video game addiction? [Serious] I really need to stop playing video games as much as I do. I am a senior at a local university but I just can't seem to stop this constant video game habit. I have tried uninstalling and similar things to that, but I need something more permanent than that. Any advice / suggestions would be awesome. Thank you so much.",
"Any advice on how to stop video game addiction? [Serious] I really need to stop playing video games as much as I do. I am a senior at a local university but I just can't seem to stop this constant video game habit. I have tried uninstalling and similar things to that, but I need something more permanent than that. Any advice / suggestions would be awesome. Thank you so much.",
"Any advice on how to stop video game addiction? [Serious] I really need to stop playing video games as much as I do. I am a senior at a local university but I just can't seem to stop this constant video game habit. I have tried uninstalling and similar things to that, but I need something more permanent than that. Any advice / suggestions would be awesome. Thank you so much.",
"Any advice on how to stop video game addiction? [Serious] I really need to stop playing video games as much as I do. I am a senior at a local university but I just can't seem to stop this constant video game habit. I have tried uninstalling and similar things to that, but I need something more permanent than that. Any advice / suggestions would be awesome. Thank you so much.",
"Any advice on how to stop video game addiction? [Serious] I really need to stop playing video games as much as I do. I am a senior at a local university but I just can't seem to stop this constant video game habit. I have tried uninstalling and similar things to that, but I need something more permanent than that. Any advice / suggestions would be awesome. Thank you so much."
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"* Install a virus on your mac. That won't let you do any work on mac, and thus, will make you not use it.\n* Tell your Friend or parents to put a parental control password that you shouldn't know.\n* Just get some guts for 5 minutes and delete all the games in fury. After 5 minutes even if cry out loud you won't get them back.\n* Most important: get some serious work and you won't feel the need to play.",
"Try replacing the habit with one that is less time consuming / destructive / involved. This is done for nicotine, drug, and alchohol addiction in lots of cases. ",
"The way we get over any addiction, willpower. If there was advice for this type of thing, there would be less addicts in the world. You find your own way away from the problem, just the same way you got into it in the first place. You can do it alone, or you can do it with support, either way works. It works because you will it so, and you must will it, not want it, will it.",
"So you uninstall games and then, out of desperation, reinstall them? If that's the case, your LPT is seeing a licensed professional, someone qualified to help treat addition. Find out if your university has mental health services available if your health insurance doesn't cover it, because this probably isn't about video games. ",
"Just find another hobby that you really like. And just keep doing it, eventually you will be doing the new hobby more than the old one. That is what worked for me, I still play from time to time, but it is no where near as prominent.",
"Ive been very much addicted to gaming too. Theres alot of great things you can learn from gaming like language, teamwork and solving things faster and so on. So all your time wasted gaming, might not be all of a waste in the end. But what you really should do if you want to end your addiction is to find something else to do other than gaming, like playing music or doing sports and so on. Personally i play music which is really great! My advice would be to totally stop gaming for a while, and mabye take 3-4 days totally off your computer. This will force you to find something else to do, which you might find interesting. Hope it helped. ",
"Figure out how much time you spend on average each week gaming. Then set limits for yourself that are slightly less than your average. Keep reducing this alotted time week after week. Also, buy a small key lock and use it on the power prong for your PC or game console, and give the key to a roommate or trusted friend who is working with you to control your gaming time."
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"How not to get caffeine withdrawals I've been drinking coffee more since university hits my life ^^^hard ^^^too.\n\nI've been controlling like at least 2 or 3 glasses coffee a week and while I don't mind the extra caffeine, I don't want to get the damned withdrawals after drinking too much. Is my drinking frequency okay or there is room for improvement?\n\n",
"How not to get caffeine withdrawals I've been drinking coffee more since university hits my life ^^^hard ^^^too.\n\nI've been controlling like at least 2 or 3 glasses coffee a week and while I don't mind the extra caffeine, I don't want to get the damned withdrawals after drinking too much. Is my drinking frequency okay or there is room for improvement?\n\n",
"How not to get caffeine withdrawals I've been drinking coffee more since university hits my life ^^^hard ^^^too.\n\nI've been controlling like at least 2 or 3 glasses coffee a week and while I don't mind the extra caffeine, I don't want to get the damned withdrawals after drinking too much. Is my drinking frequency okay or there is room for improvement?\n\n",
"How not to get caffeine withdrawals I've been drinking coffee more since university hits my life ^^^hard ^^^too.\n\nI've been controlling like at least 2 or 3 glasses coffee a week and while I don't mind the extra caffeine, I don't want to get the damned withdrawals after drinking too much. Is my drinking frequency okay or there is room for improvement?\n\n",
"How not to get caffeine withdrawals I've been drinking coffee more since university hits my life ^^^hard ^^^too.\n\nI've been controlling like at least 2 or 3 glasses coffee a week and while I don't mind the extra caffeine, I don't want to get the damned withdrawals after drinking too much. Is my drinking frequency okay or there is room for improvement?\n\n",
"How not to get caffeine withdrawals I've been drinking coffee more since university hits my life ^^^hard ^^^too.\n\nI've been controlling like at least 2 or 3 glasses coffee a week and while I don't mind the extra caffeine, I don't want to get the damned withdrawals after drinking too much. Is my drinking frequency okay or there is room for improvement?\n\n"
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"coming from someone who drinks a lot of coffee, daily, i personally don't get withdrawals unless i go more than about 36 hours without any. i get a headache, but ibuprofen and water usually get rid of it just fine.",
"Control your dosage, think of it like an IV drip hanging from your arm, don't hit it hard first thing in the morning, do a milder drink, and space them across your working day, and have a cut-off towards dinner time to avoid staying up all night, your body is an engine, don't just gun it",
"I think if you're suffering withdrawal from anything, the only option is to consume less on a regular basis.",
"Hello from Finland. In here we drink most coffee in the world. I personally drink about 2 liters per day (sometimes more and sometimes less) and still had never any withdravals.. Ok maybe felt a bit tired. Three cups a week is wery little. \n\nhttp://www.worldatlas.com/articles/top-10-coffee-consuming-nations.html ",
"> I've been controlling like at least 2 or 3 glasses a week \n\nSorry you're unclear here. \n\nIf the words are reasonably accurate there's no way 2 to 3 glasses of anything (except maybe concentrated caffeine stimulants in those little bottles) will badly affect you or cause you to experience withdrawal symptoms. Caffeine's just not that sort of addictive.",
"2-3 glasses a week of what? A crash later is normal. What goes up...\n\nA withdrawal is a massive migraine, where you literally can not stay up for more than a few hours before falling over. Its the shakes. Caffeine is a hell of a drug.\n\n3 drinks a week isn't an addiction\n\nI drink a lot of soda, though my uncle with from soda/cofee to sweet tea. Tea has more caffeine then soda, and usually healthier than a cream/sugar coffee"
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" We are renting and don't want to tear up the walls more than we need to...but we are broke so we can't just buy all those sticky pads. Our thoughts so far are that thick translucent plastic. What's a way to seal it well that won't leave so much of a trace? Don't want to use duct tape. Thanks for your help!\n\nSorry I didn't respond for all the useful tips but reddit has proved its full of nice and helpful people once again! upvotes for ye all and thank you",
" We are renting and don't want to tear up the walls more than we need to...but we are broke so we can't just buy all those sticky pads. Our thoughts so far are that thick translucent plastic. What's a way to seal it well that won't leave so much of a trace? Don't want to use duct tape. Thanks for your help!\n\nSorry I didn't respond for all the useful tips but reddit has proved its full of nice and helpful people once again! upvotes for ye all and thank you",
" We are renting and don't want to tear up the walls more than we need to...but we are broke so we can't just buy all those sticky pads. Our thoughts so far are that thick translucent plastic. What's a way to seal it well that won't leave so much of a trace? Don't want to use duct tape. Thanks for your help!\n\nSorry I didn't respond for all the useful tips but reddit has proved its full of nice and helpful people once again! upvotes for ye all and thank you",
" We are renting and don't want to tear up the walls more than we need to...but we are broke so we can't just buy all those sticky pads. Our thoughts so far are that thick translucent plastic. What's a way to seal it well that won't leave so much of a trace? Don't want to use duct tape. Thanks for your help!\n\nSorry I didn't respond for all the useful tips but reddit has proved its full of nice and helpful people once again! upvotes for ye all and thank you"
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"you can get thermal insulated curtains from walmart for about $10 per panel. they made a HUGE difference last year for us when our heating bills were astronomical because of big, gorgeous, multiple windows around the townhouse.\n\nif you don't want to get curtain rods, use an industrial staple gun to attach them to the walls. the staples make very very small holes that can be filled with simple paint later. you can then pull them back with strips of fabric when you want to let light in.",
"[this](http://reviews.homedepot.com/1999/100135637/e-o-indoor-window-insulation-kit-3-pack-reviews/reviews.htm) is available at every home depot and lowes, comes with removable double stick tape.",
"Use heavy fabric; curtains or blankets to cover the windows during the dark hours. That alone will retain more heat than plastic wrapped windows. Also, roll up blankets and put them on your window sill. Should keep some of the cold air coming off the glass off your floors.\n\nAnyway, if you have windows that swing open, you can use saran wrap and just wrap it around the windows, frames and all, (almost) no tape needed. You'll get an outer layer of saran wrap, then a column of air, then a glass layer, another air column, followed by a second glass layer (hopefully you've got double-glassed windows!), and finally a third column of air trapped under the inner layer of saran wrap. Three insulating air columns is better than one. You'll also be less likely to have air circulating between the glass panes, transferring heat from inner to outer.",
"If you don't care about *seeing* out of the windows, you can go to a big box hardware store and get insulating foam panels, with the foil on one side. you can them into the walls with little nails, and cover the whole window, blinds and all. I have a huge southern facing bay window in my master bedroom. It turns into an oven even in winter. After I covered the windows with foam, I get less heat through the windows than the walls. Since it's behind the blinds, neighbors can't say a thing.\n"
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"Sweating I have a problem of sweating at the most random/unnecessary times of the day. I wear deodorant but I still sweat buckets. Any tips?",
"Sweating I have a problem of sweating at the most random/unnecessary times of the day. I wear deodorant but I still sweat buckets. Any tips?",
"Sweating I have a problem of sweating at the most random/unnecessary times of the day. I wear deodorant but I still sweat buckets. Any tips?",
"Sweating I have a problem of sweating at the most random/unnecessary times of the day. I wear deodorant but I still sweat buckets. Any tips?",
"Sweating I have a problem of sweating at the most random/unnecessary times of the day. I wear deodorant but I still sweat buckets. Any tips?",
"Sweating I have a problem of sweating at the most random/unnecessary times of the day. I wear deodorant but I still sweat buckets. Any tips?"
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"I used to have a similar issue. It eventually went away on it's own (despite me switching from anti-antiperspirant to deodorant during the thick of it), but I definitely spent a lot of time racking my brain for causes. Some things I thought of were:\n\n- Thyroid issues (thyroid helps regulate body temperature and sweating something our body does to cool down)\n- Anxiety - Is there more of a pattern than you think in your sweating?\n- Being dehydrated (water cools our body down)\n\nSome things I tried:\n- Being more mindful of dressing in layers/breathable fabrics\n- Taking a stylish bandana with me to wipe my forehead and feel more prepared if it flared up\n- Drinking more water\n\nSweating for me was such a mind fuck. When I felt it coming on I would immediately lose confidence and become more self-aware which would bring on more sweating. Anyway, best of luck!\n\n",
"http://www.certaindri.com/ This is the strongest antiperspirant you can get. I think it actually permanently damages the pores you apply it to---so don't use it without considering it for a while. Note: You will sweat in other areas if you use this. It's your body compensating.\n\nThe other option is botox. It's very expensive, but you won't sweat anywhere else. You'll have to do it every 3 to six months. \n\nAlso try getting into really good shape. Your body will just naturally sweat less.",
"I went to the doctors because I have the same problem and he prescribed me Drysol and it works beautifully. If you don't want to go through the hassle of going to the doctors and getting a prescription, I'm almost positive that there is another product that works just as well and is on the shelves of most drug stores; that product is called CertainDri. You should check it out.",
"I had an issue with this where I would constantly sweat through my armpits no matter how cold it was. This was a few years ago, and I was an active, fit police officer, so being inactive/overweight/eating unhealthy wasn't the issue. I went to the dermatologist and she prescribed me DrySol, which worked like a charm. I haven't used it in years, and currently use a clear anti-antiperspirant, and I'm not having any issues to this date. (not sure whether that stuff was a permanent solution, or whether it's all in my head and I just don't think about it any more.) I now see that you can get it on Amazon without a script, but I don't know if it's a weaker solution or not. Give it a shot, it couldn't hurt.",
"Get some body powder and apply it to your socks and underwear for sweating in those particular areas. Anti perspirant for underarms. And if you have semi long or thick hair, cut it. Best decision I ever made was to stop letting my hair grow so long.",
"As has been noted, check out using a deodorant with antiperspirant.\n\nWhile deodorant helps with scent, it has no effect on your sweat glands, which is what you need help with."
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"Make the day go by faster? I can't stand the 9-5 and it seems like each day get's longer and longer. How do you guys make it through the day without going insane? I want to just quit sometimes and go live in the middle of no where and live off the land and get out of the daily grind. I miss my family, I miss my friends, and my free time.",
"Make the day go by faster? I can't stand the 9-5 and it seems like each day get's longer and longer. How do you guys make it through the day without going insane? I want to just quit sometimes and go live in the middle of no where and live off the land and get out of the daily grind. I miss my family, I miss my friends, and my free time.",
"Make the day go by faster? I can't stand the 9-5 and it seems like each day get's longer and longer. How do you guys make it through the day without going insane? I want to just quit sometimes and go live in the middle of no where and live off the land and get out of the daily grind. I miss my family, I miss my friends, and my free time.",
"Make the day go by faster? I can't stand the 9-5 and it seems like each day get's longer and longer. How do you guys make it through the day without going insane? I want to just quit sometimes and go live in the middle of no where and live off the land and get out of the daily grind. I miss my family, I miss my friends, and my free time.",
"Make the day go by faster? I can't stand the 9-5 and it seems like each day get's longer and longer. How do you guys make it through the day without going insane? I want to just quit sometimes and go live in the middle of no where and live off the land and get out of the daily grind. I miss my family, I miss my friends, and my free time."
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"Look for another job. There's probably something else out there, with comparable pay, that won't be as brutal. If you live near a college, you might want to see if they're hiring in any capacity. You could work in an office or with a landscaping team or... whatever, depending on the needs. Just get out of there, buddy. \n",
"Get the hell out of retail. I did it for 8 years and so I understand how miserable it is. I now have a job where there aren't enough hours in the day. I feel accomplished and still have time to kill on Reddit here and there. ",
"First, depends on what sort of work you do. I spend my day at a desk on a computer myself, so between being on reddit, reading news, and doing actual work, I'll take periodic breaks where I just stand up and walk around for a minute or two, grab some water, grab a snack, stuff like that. ",
"Find side projects that you can manage yourself. \n\nHaving something you can take pride in makes it much better. ",
"My days go faster when I am really focused and keep myself busy. I can tell it's going to be a long day when I am browsing reddit or imgur instead of actually doing work. "
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"Better way of knowing the dishes in the dishwasher are clean or dirty. Every now and then, my wife or I get lazy and sneak a cup or bowl out of a clean dishwasher. Then the \"clean\" light indicator goes off and both of us forget if the load in there is clean or dirty. Does anyone have a simple trick on how to remember?",
"Better way of knowing the dishes in the dishwasher are clean or dirty. Every now and then, my wife or I get lazy and sneak a cup or bowl out of a clean dishwasher. Then the \"clean\" light indicator goes off and both of us forget if the load in there is clean or dirty. Does anyone have a simple trick on how to remember?",
"Better way of knowing the dishes in the dishwasher are clean or dirty. Every now and then, my wife or I get lazy and sneak a cup or bowl out of a clean dishwasher. Then the \"clean\" light indicator goes off and both of us forget if the load in there is clean or dirty. Does anyone have a simple trick on how to remember?",
"Better way of knowing the dishes in the dishwasher are clean or dirty. Every now and then, my wife or I get lazy and sneak a cup or bowl out of a clean dishwasher. Then the \"clean\" light indicator goes off and both of us forget if the load in there is clean or dirty. Does anyone have a simple trick on how to remember?",
"Better way of knowing the dishes in the dishwasher are clean or dirty. Every now and then, my wife or I get lazy and sneak a cup or bowl out of a clean dishwasher. Then the \"clean\" light indicator goes off and both of us forget if the load in there is clean or dirty. Does anyone have a simple trick on how to remember?",
"Better way of knowing the dishes in the dishwasher are clean or dirty. Every now and then, my wife or I get lazy and sneak a cup or bowl out of a clean dishwasher. Then the \"clean\" light indicator goes off and both of us forget if the load in there is clean or dirty. Does anyone have a simple trick on how to remember?"
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"As soon as you fully empty the dishwasher, put detergent in for the next load. That way, if the detergent door is closed, the dishes are dirty, if its open, they're clean, but not fully unloaded.\n\nAlternate solution: Just empty the full load, ya lazy bum!",
"This post reminded me of this [clean/dirty christina](http://www.kulfoto.com/funny-pictures/29258/christina-aguilera-can-tell)",
"Look at the bottoms of the upside-down cups. If water has gathered on them, then the dishes are clean! If not, then they have yet to be washed.",
"Like easier than opening the dishwasher and seeing if they are clean or not? If you are cleaning your dishes before putting them in the dishwasher and thus that is where the difficulty comes in distinguishing between dishes ran pre and post dishwashing, then I suggest [this article](http://www.nytimes.com/2009/05/21/garden/21fix.html).",
"I put Clean / Dirty magnets on the front of my dishwasher. Saves me from everyone in the house asking me if the dishes are clean rather than simply looking themselves. ",
"As you put dirty dishes in the dishwasher, small bit or food or drink will drip down to the bottom or on the door. If literally every surface inside is clean, then chances are the dishes have been washed already. "
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"When is the best time to book for a holiday? I've read mixed reports about certain algorithm's when booking flights, accommodation and car hire. Can anyone share their experience?",
"When is the best time to book for a holiday? I've read mixed reports about certain algorithm's when booking flights, accommodation and car hire. Can anyone share their experience?"
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"On the Tuesday 8 weeks before you plan to go, don't forget to use your browser in \"incognito\" mode while you're searching as you may see a small increase in price with every return visit to the same web page",
"Depends where you are going, when you are going, and how flexible you are. But off peak anywhere is great prices, but then you are sacrificing the weather or other factors at your desired location. \n\nIn general I use skypicker or google flights to book the absolute cheapest flights I can, and whenever they are, that is when I plan my holiday for. \n\nSorry I couldn't be of more help. "
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"In my small flat, I have a traditional duo of washer and dryer in my kitchen (similar to the picture). Are there easy ways of hiding them in plain sight? ",
"In my small flat, I have a traditional duo of washer and dryer in my kitchen (similar to the picture). Are there easy ways of hiding them in plain sight? ",
"In my small flat, I have a traditional duo of washer and dryer in my kitchen (similar to the picture). Are there easy ways of hiding them in plain sight? ",
"In my small flat, I have a traditional duo of washer and dryer in my kitchen (similar to the picture). Are there easy ways of hiding them in plain sight? "
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"I live in a modular home and mine are in the kitchen as well. I use an old shower rod/stretchy bungee cord and curtains to cover them. It makes it look better plus you don't have many issues getting in and out like you would if you put on actual doors.",
"I had a friend in a similar situation. He built a drop down hinged desk that looked something like [this](http://www.flickr.com/photos/andrewodom/5178875302/) that he kept in the downward position for additional food prep space when not doing laundry. When doing laundry, he simply raised his additional counter top.\n\nI added the ingenuity of hot gluing fabric to the edges of the shelf thing to hide the washer and dryer from view. It worked wonders.",
"My advice would be to get a wooden board and cut it with the dimensions of the space. Use it to prepare food on and simply prop it on the side or somewhere if you want to do laundry",
"A large tablecloth would work to camouflage them if you had people over. Then you could put snacks and drinks on the washer and dryer and use it like a buffet."
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"How to stop mumbling and speak more clearly People are always asking me to repeat myself because they can't hear me",
"How to stop mumbling and speak more clearly People are always asking me to repeat myself because they can't hear me",
"How to stop mumbling and speak more clearly People are always asking me to repeat myself because they can't hear me",
"How to stop mumbling and speak more clearly People are always asking me to repeat myself because they can't hear me",
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"Practice deep breathing from your diaphragm. You will be able to project your voice much easier. Also,\" diction is done with the tip of the teeth and the tongue\", repeat aloud multiple times daily. Source , 8 years of choir. ",
"Imagine your voice as a lance. Like a knight ramming the lance through the person, and then sticking out behind them about 2-3 feet. You want your voice to go THROUGH the listener, not just TO them. \n\nYour voice has to carry to behind them; if they are 5 feet away, speak as though they were 8. Project your voice, speak from your diaphragm, and keep your chest and posture open and unchoked. \n\nAlso, don't let yourself drone in or drone off. By that I mean, a lot of mumblers start and end like a wave or hump if you were to picture a graph of their volume/time. They start off unsure and quiet, as if they are waiting to see if people listen. Then they see people are so they speak louder and clearer. But then, they worry about speaking too long and they see others attention drifting, so they lower their volume and mumble / stop \"lancing\" their words through. It becomes habit and even if they are confident in what they are saying, it's just a vocal pattern for them at this point. \n\nDon't do that - start strong and finish strong. ",
"I have this same issue, but when I want to be heard it's never an issue. Generally I tell people if They didn't hear me I didn't care if they did or didn't. If I'm speaking something I feel strongly about I will be clear and heard. So LPT, talk less, and say what you mean. ",
"Open your jaw more. Speak slowly and enunciate, as if you're teaching someone English. Sit up straight (it's easier to move your diaphragm this way). Talk with your diaphragm. Let your abdomen expand and contract and not your upper chest.",
"Calm yourself, breath and don't try to say many things at the same time. Speak like the world's not going to end after you have spoken.",
"Consider that you dominate people by making them strain to hear and/or understand you. If you really want to speak more clearly, just do it... unless there you have a physical limitation. Otherwise, folks will get tired and frustrated from their interactions with you."
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"How to keep standing straight? Being a tall 6'6'' guy being a bit hunched is now just force of habit. Standing straight at this moment is now just outright uncomfortable if not painful if for an extended period of time. \nProbably because I sit too much at the computer hunched. \nIs there a way to make standing straight feel natural to me and no longer get hunched? A proper chair? Some stand-straight aid maybe or some tip other than \"stand straight when you notice you're hunched\" I kept hearing from parents my entire childhood? <- Yeah. \nI welcome Your help <3 \n",
"How to keep standing straight? Being a tall 6'6'' guy being a bit hunched is now just force of habit. Standing straight at this moment is now just outright uncomfortable if not painful if for an extended period of time. \nProbably because I sit too much at the computer hunched. \nIs there a way to make standing straight feel natural to me and no longer get hunched? A proper chair? Some stand-straight aid maybe or some tip other than \"stand straight when you notice you're hunched\" I kept hearing from parents my entire childhood? <- Yeah. \nI welcome Your help <3 \n",
"How to keep standing straight? Being a tall 6'6'' guy being a bit hunched is now just force of habit. Standing straight at this moment is now just outright uncomfortable if not painful if for an extended period of time. \nProbably because I sit too much at the computer hunched. \nIs there a way to make standing straight feel natural to me and no longer get hunched? A proper chair? Some stand-straight aid maybe or some tip other than \"stand straight when you notice you're hunched\" I kept hearing from parents my entire childhood? <- Yeah. \nI welcome Your help <3 \n",
"How to keep standing straight? Being a tall 6'6'' guy being a bit hunched is now just force of habit. Standing straight at this moment is now just outright uncomfortable if not painful if for an extended period of time. \nProbably because I sit too much at the computer hunched. \nIs there a way to make standing straight feel natural to me and no longer get hunched? A proper chair? Some stand-straight aid maybe or some tip other than \"stand straight when you notice you're hunched\" I kept hearing from parents my entire childhood? <- Yeah. \nI welcome Your help <3 \n",
"How to keep standing straight? Being a tall 6'6'' guy being a bit hunched is now just force of habit. Standing straight at this moment is now just outright uncomfortable if not painful if for an extended period of time. \nProbably because I sit too much at the computer hunched. \nIs there a way to make standing straight feel natural to me and no longer get hunched? A proper chair? Some stand-straight aid maybe or some tip other than \"stand straight when you notice you're hunched\" I kept hearing from parents my entire childhood? <- Yeah. \nI welcome Your help <3 \n",
"How to keep standing straight? Being a tall 6'6'' guy being a bit hunched is now just force of habit. Standing straight at this moment is now just outright uncomfortable if not painful if for an extended period of time. \nProbably because I sit too much at the computer hunched. \nIs there a way to make standing straight feel natural to me and no longer get hunched? A proper chair? Some stand-straight aid maybe or some tip other than \"stand straight when you notice you're hunched\" I kept hearing from parents my entire childhood? <- Yeah. \nI welcome Your help <3 \n",
"How to keep standing straight? Being a tall 6'6'' guy being a bit hunched is now just force of habit. Standing straight at this moment is now just outright uncomfortable if not painful if for an extended period of time. \nProbably because I sit too much at the computer hunched. \nIs there a way to make standing straight feel natural to me and no longer get hunched? A proper chair? Some stand-straight aid maybe or some tip other than \"stand straight when you notice you're hunched\" I kept hearing from parents my entire childhood? <- Yeah. \nI welcome Your help <3 \n",
"How to keep standing straight? Being a tall 6'6'' guy being a bit hunched is now just force of habit. Standing straight at this moment is now just outright uncomfortable if not painful if for an extended period of time. \nProbably because I sit too much at the computer hunched. \nIs there a way to make standing straight feel natural to me and no longer get hunched? A proper chair? Some stand-straight aid maybe or some tip other than \"stand straight when you notice you're hunched\" I kept hearing from parents my entire childhood? <- Yeah. \nI welcome Your help <3 \n",
"How to keep standing straight? Being a tall 6'6'' guy being a bit hunched is now just force of habit. Standing straight at this moment is now just outright uncomfortable if not painful if for an extended period of time. \nProbably because I sit too much at the computer hunched. \nIs there a way to make standing straight feel natural to me and no longer get hunched? A proper chair? Some stand-straight aid maybe or some tip other than \"stand straight when you notice you're hunched\" I kept hearing from parents my entire childhood? <- Yeah. \nI welcome Your help <3 \n",
"How to keep standing straight? Being a tall 6'6'' guy being a bit hunched is now just force of habit. Standing straight at this moment is now just outright uncomfortable if not painful if for an extended period of time. \nProbably because I sit too much at the computer hunched. \nIs there a way to make standing straight feel natural to me and no longer get hunched? A proper chair? Some stand-straight aid maybe or some tip other than \"stand straight when you notice you're hunched\" I kept hearing from parents my entire childhood? <- Yeah. \nI welcome Your help <3 \n",
"How to keep standing straight? Being a tall 6'6'' guy being a bit hunched is now just force of habit. Standing straight at this moment is now just outright uncomfortable if not painful if for an extended period of time. \nProbably because I sit too much at the computer hunched. \nIs there a way to make standing straight feel natural to me and no longer get hunched? A proper chair? Some stand-straight aid maybe or some tip other than \"stand straight when you notice you're hunched\" I kept hearing from parents my entire childhood? <- Yeah. \nI welcome Your help <3 \n",
"How to keep standing straight? Being a tall 6'6'' guy being a bit hunched is now just force of habit. Standing straight at this moment is now just outright uncomfortable if not painful if for an extended period of time. \nProbably because I sit too much at the computer hunched. \nIs there a way to make standing straight feel natural to me and no longer get hunched? A proper chair? Some stand-straight aid maybe or some tip other than \"stand straight when you notice you're hunched\" I kept hearing from parents my entire childhood? <- Yeah. \nI welcome Your help <3 \n",
"How to keep standing straight? Being a tall 6'6'' guy being a bit hunched is now just force of habit. Standing straight at this moment is now just outright uncomfortable if not painful if for an extended period of time. \nProbably because I sit too much at the computer hunched. \nIs there a way to make standing straight feel natural to me and no longer get hunched? A proper chair? Some stand-straight aid maybe or some tip other than \"stand straight when you notice you're hunched\" I kept hearing from parents my entire childhood? <- Yeah. \nI welcome Your help <3 \n",
"How to keep standing straight? Being a tall 6'6'' guy being a bit hunched is now just force of habit. Standing straight at this moment is now just outright uncomfortable if not painful if for an extended period of time. \nProbably because I sit too much at the computer hunched. \nIs there a way to make standing straight feel natural to me and no longer get hunched? A proper chair? Some stand-straight aid maybe or some tip other than \"stand straight when you notice you're hunched\" I kept hearing from parents my entire childhood? <- Yeah. \nI welcome Your help <3 \n",
"How to keep standing straight? Being a tall 6'6'' guy being a bit hunched is now just force of habit. Standing straight at this moment is now just outright uncomfortable if not painful if for an extended period of time. \nProbably because I sit too much at the computer hunched. \nIs there a way to make standing straight feel natural to me and no longer get hunched? A proper chair? Some stand-straight aid maybe or some tip other than \"stand straight when you notice you're hunched\" I kept hearing from parents my entire childhood? <- Yeah. \nI welcome Your help <3 \n",
"How to keep standing straight? Being a tall 6'6'' guy being a bit hunched is now just force of habit. Standing straight at this moment is now just outright uncomfortable if not painful if for an extended period of time. \nProbably because I sit too much at the computer hunched. \nIs there a way to make standing straight feel natural to me and no longer get hunched? A proper chair? Some stand-straight aid maybe or some tip other than \"stand straight when you notice you're hunched\" I kept hearing from parents my entire childhood? <- Yeah. \nI welcome Your help <3 \n",
"How to keep standing straight? Being a tall 6'6'' guy being a bit hunched is now just force of habit. Standing straight at this moment is now just outright uncomfortable if not painful if for an extended period of time. \nProbably because I sit too much at the computer hunched. \nIs there a way to make standing straight feel natural to me and no longer get hunched? A proper chair? Some stand-straight aid maybe or some tip other than \"stand straight when you notice you're hunched\" I kept hearing from parents my entire childhood? <- Yeah. \nI welcome Your help <3 \n"
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"I have a good exercise to help with slouched shoulders, it helped me at least.\n\n1. Stand against a wall\n\n2. Bend knees slightly\n\n3. Keep butt and back of head against wall\n\n4. Pull your shoulders back so that they are against the wall (think of trying to make your shoulder blades touch each other)\n\n5. So now your head, shoulders and butt should be touching wall\n\n6. Hold this position for 2 minutes, do for 3 sets.\n\n7. You will be walking straight in no time doing this every day a couple times each day\n\n",
"**LPT:** I had a similar issue. I went to a chiropractor and they suggested working out my upper back more to strengthen those muscles. ",
"One tip someone suggested is simply to remember to stand up straight every time you walk through a doorway. This worked somewhat, but it never really stuck with me. \n\nI later learned how to keep standing straight without trying - I began m",
"Long Answer:\nStretch the pec minor\nStretch the lats\nStretch the neck\nStrengthen the upper back\nPerform band pull aparts\nDo face pulls\n\nShort answer:\nDo yoga",
"You may have something called FNS (forward neck syndrome). yes it's a real thing. I saw a chiropracter at a company sponsored free health day years ago and as I walked in to the room, he said \"oh, I see that you have FNS\". He gave me a brochure on FNS, pushed, pulled tweeked my upper body for 1-2 minutes and from that moment on my posture changed (the brochure actually showed me what to do, chest slightly out, chin slightly down, head pulled back) also I had numbness/tingling in both hands which was gone within minutes. ",
"Other than exercises to strengthen muscles, here's something you can do: Imagine that you are being pulled up by a string attached to the very top of your head and that you are a pupped hanging lightly from that string.",
"Bad posture is usually a combination of habit, lack of strength or flexibility. Sounds like you're working on the habit and strength aspects so I'd add some stretching.",
"you need to strengthen the muscles in your mid back (lower trapezius muscles). the best exercise for me was resistance band pull aparts. \n\nbasically lean against the corner of a wall (or doorway), get a resistance band and pull it apart (imagine squeezing the corner with the middle of your upper back) while remembering to keep your elbows tucked close to your sides and palms supinated, and maintaining contact on the corner with your butt, upper back, and head.",
"When I was a kid, my mom kept on reminding me to put my hands behind me and hold them together while I walk, to keep me from slouching. I don't know if this might help now but it became a habit for me and slouching made me feel weird so I'd straighten right up whether in standing or sitting.",
"When I had lower back problems I had trouble standing for any length if time. This is what I was taught: stand as though someone is pulling you up via a piece of string through the crown of your head. This will automatically pull in your butt, engage your core and straighten your spine. Another good description that helped was to pretend you're looking over a fence that's just higher than your nose. ",
"There was a posture band thingy on Shark Tank a while back. I haven't tried it, but it might be worth looking into.\n\n\nhttp://sharktanksuccess.blogspot.com/2012/10/posturenow.html?m=1\n",
"My mom told me her father made her lay on the ground for thirty minutes with her shoulders touching the ground. I haven't tried this yet, but I've been trying to stand straight when I see myself slipping. Good luck!",
"Just do pushups. A main reason pushups are a constant exercise in the military, aside from not being weaak,is because they want you perfectly straight",
"Just a thought, but what about trying an **upper back brace and posture support?** Wear that a bit, maybe under clothes or around the house when nobody is around and get used to the feeling of better posture.\n\nProper chair would help as well; if you can find one for someone taller, that would be ideal. I'm sure if you search specifically for 'computer chair for tall people' something might come up. Gaming chairs are often good for support.",
"I used to be in this situation. What really helped me to straighten up was pulling my shoulders back as I walked. I assume because I wanted to be as natural and comfortable while walking as possible that I didn't have much choice but to feel comfortable in that position. Eventually it did become natural and my posture improved. The best part is feeling more confident and knowing that you look more confident than when slouched over. \n\nAlso, keep your eyes up. Keeping your neck straight is a shoe in for keeping your back straight. It slightly bugs me now to see people staring at the ground when I pass them.",
"I use to have the same problem. Grew up hunched over my computer. I've been working out the past few months and I've noticed a huge difference in my posture and physic. \n\nFor a while I was rotating upper body workouts and lower body workouts every other day. All my upper body workouts were with 25lb-30lb weights. I would pretty much take 25lb dumbbells in each hand and lift them above my head until I couldn't do it anymore. And do 5 sets as many as I could do. Also leaning over something and lifting the weight from the ground to your chest.\n\nI don't know what these types of lifts are, but I can feel the burn in my back and shoulders, and after a few months I walk and stand with a much better posture.",
"I actually believe that it was proven that if you lean back when you sit down, it's better on your back. If you don't have a reclining computer chair, you can try to put a pillow up right behind your back and it will help keep your lower back comfortable and you upright."
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"Removing \"Heat Stains\" from a wood table? I have a wood finish glossy sort of wood dining table and am curious if there is a way to get rid of the white sort of stains that are left by hot items. I know its best to keep hot items off but every now and then it happens. Any help would be greatly appreciated.",
"Removing \"Heat Stains\" from a wood table? I have a wood finish glossy sort of wood dining table and am curious if there is a way to get rid of the white sort of stains that are left by hot items. I know its best to keep hot items off but every now and then it happens. Any help would be greatly appreciated.",
"Removing \"Heat Stains\" from a wood table? I have a wood finish glossy sort of wood dining table and am curious if there is a way to get rid of the white sort of stains that are left by hot items. I know its best to keep hot items off but every now and then it happens. Any help would be greatly appreciated."
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"Put a towel on top of it, and iron the towel. I was skeptical, but tried it after my friend spilled a flaming shot in my parents basement. Worked like a charm.",
"Vasoline. My grandmother has been doing it for years. Spread a thin layer on the white marks, leave it be for a bit, then wipe it off. Also works on white water rings...basically the same thing as the heat marks as its the temp difference and condensation that causes it. ",
"Take 10inx10n cheesecloth. Soak in a mixture that is 10 parts isopropanol, two parts liquid butane (you can use zippo lighter fuel), and one part water. After soaking for say five minutes, rub the affected wood and apply the solution liberally. You will want to do this in a well ventilated area. When the mixture has soaked into the wood thoroughly you should leave it sit for a minute or two. Take this opportunity to wash your hands thoroughly, your hands will thank you for this later. When it has aired out for a few minutes, light a match and ignite the wood aflame. Once the wood has arrived at its desired \"doneness\" smother the fire with an asbestos blanket. Marvel at the new sheen that could only have been achieved by that marvel of science, chemical combustion.\n\n"
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"Properly quitting a job So I'm 17 and I don't have a really fancy job, but I'm planning on quitting my job soon. The thing is, I'm not really sure *how*... \n\n\nI mean I know about the 2 weeks in advance thing but how do I say it to my boss? and do I just approach him like \"oh yeah I'm quitting, ile still give you two weeks though\"\n\n\nAnd if she asks why I'm quitting? \"eh, the job is pretty lame\"\n\n\nThe reason why is basically I have enough money and I got the experience that I wanted. I also want to have free time to hang out with my friends and sleep in late. What would be my best option?",
"Properly quitting a job So I'm 17 and I don't have a really fancy job, but I'm planning on quitting my job soon. The thing is, I'm not really sure *how*... \n\n\nI mean I know about the 2 weeks in advance thing but how do I say it to my boss? and do I just approach him like \"oh yeah I'm quitting, ile still give you two weeks though\"\n\n\nAnd if she asks why I'm quitting? \"eh, the job is pretty lame\"\n\n\nThe reason why is basically I have enough money and I got the experience that I wanted. I also want to have free time to hang out with my friends and sleep in late. What would be my best option?",
"Properly quitting a job So I'm 17 and I don't have a really fancy job, but I'm planning on quitting my job soon. The thing is, I'm not really sure *how*... \n\n\nI mean I know about the 2 weeks in advance thing but how do I say it to my boss? and do I just approach him like \"oh yeah I'm quitting, ile still give you two weeks though\"\n\n\nAnd if she asks why I'm quitting? \"eh, the job is pretty lame\"\n\n\nThe reason why is basically I have enough money and I got the experience that I wanted. I also want to have free time to hang out with my friends and sleep in late. What would be my best option?",
"Properly quitting a job So I'm 17 and I don't have a really fancy job, but I'm planning on quitting my job soon. The thing is, I'm not really sure *how*... \n\n\nI mean I know about the 2 weeks in advance thing but how do I say it to my boss? and do I just approach him like \"oh yeah I'm quitting, ile still give you two weeks though\"\n\n\nAnd if she asks why I'm quitting? \"eh, the job is pretty lame\"\n\n\nThe reason why is basically I have enough money and I got the experience that I wanted. I also want to have free time to hang out with my friends and sleep in late. What would be my best option?",
"Properly quitting a job So I'm 17 and I don't have a really fancy job, but I'm planning on quitting my job soon. The thing is, I'm not really sure *how*... \n\n\nI mean I know about the 2 weeks in advance thing but how do I say it to my boss? and do I just approach him like \"oh yeah I'm quitting, ile still give you two weeks though\"\n\n\nAnd if she asks why I'm quitting? \"eh, the job is pretty lame\"\n\n\nThe reason why is basically I have enough money and I got the experience that I wanted. I also want to have free time to hang out with my friends and sleep in late. What would be my best option?",
"Properly quitting a job So I'm 17 and I don't have a really fancy job, but I'm planning on quitting my job soon. The thing is, I'm not really sure *how*... \n\n\nI mean I know about the 2 weeks in advance thing but how do I say it to my boss? and do I just approach him like \"oh yeah I'm quitting, ile still give you two weeks though\"\n\n\nAnd if she asks why I'm quitting? \"eh, the job is pretty lame\"\n\n\nThe reason why is basically I have enough money and I got the experience that I wanted. I also want to have free time to hang out with my friends and sleep in late. What would be my best option?"
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"Firstly, do not say the job is lame even if it is.\nIn the future when you are getting another job, it is possible they will call your old one if its listed on your resume. It wont look good if they explain why you left.\nI would say that you learned a lot and got the experience that you needed but you are starting on your next path in life and that it was a pleasure to have worked for them. ",
"Basically you just say, “hey, it’s been great working here. I appreciate the opportunity...blah,blah,blah, but due to some scheduling changes I’m going to have to submit my two weeks notice.”",
"Probably already been said but always leave on good terms, no matter how shitty the job is. You never know when you may need it again if things don’t work out in future, or when you may need a reference from them. \n\nLeft all previous jobs on good terms, pretty sure if I lost my current job I could walk back into my old place and get a job there straight away. ",
"i worked as a cashier for a grocery store (A&P) when i was 16-18. i quit with two weeks notice because i saw others do it and looking back, it was the right way to do it even though it was a bullshit job and i was a teen.\n\nif only because i know a bakery worker there who quite out of spite on the day the delivery came in knowing full well the frozen shit would spoil because they left her by herself.\n\nso obviously this is an extreme example but in principle its polite to give some level of notice, even if just one week, which is standard on union jobs i work now. but its sort of a floaty industry so people bounce around between jobs and employers. so thats a more serious gig and even they are fine hearing 'Friday is my last day'",
"You have enough money for what exactly? to get by as a 17 year old? You should consider starting to build a nest egg. Quit for the right reasons, not out of laziness. Nobody likes to work, we do it to get paid. Take a look at your expenditures and see if what little takehome you have is due to bad habits. Stop looking at money as something to keep you afloat and start looking at it as something you can build a life around. Try to get a different job before you quit. If you're not going to put it on a resume (which it sounds like you won't), then at the very least sustain the job and just half ass it until they fire you. You may want more free time now but you will hate free time in 3 months when you can't afford to do anything.",
"Just tell them you think your profile fits better into whatever you're trying to get into, but that you learned a lot from them; and whether and how long they'd like you to stay so they can start looking for a replacement. If it's too long, say that you can't wait that long but that you can do two weeks."
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"How the hell do I flirt with guys? (23F) New to the city, trying really hard to break out of my shell. I'm pretty faux-confident. I ask the other person a lot of questions and hope they don't ask me anything. Not working. They get bored fast. \n\nHow the fuck do I go to a bar/party/where ever and just...do the thing that twenty-somethings do to meet new and interesting people?\n\n",
"How the hell do I flirt with guys? (23F) New to the city, trying really hard to break out of my shell. I'm pretty faux-confident. I ask the other person a lot of questions and hope they don't ask me anything. Not working. They get bored fast. \n\nHow the fuck do I go to a bar/party/where ever and just...do the thing that twenty-somethings do to meet new and interesting people?\n\n",
"How the hell do I flirt with guys? (23F) New to the city, trying really hard to break out of my shell. I'm pretty faux-confident. I ask the other person a lot of questions and hope they don't ask me anything. Not working. They get bored fast. \n\nHow the fuck do I go to a bar/party/where ever and just...do the thing that twenty-somethings do to meet new and interesting people?\n\n",
"How the hell do I flirt with guys? (23F) New to the city, trying really hard to break out of my shell. I'm pretty faux-confident. I ask the other person a lot of questions and hope they don't ask me anything. Not working. They get bored fast. \n\nHow the fuck do I go to a bar/party/where ever and just...do the thing that twenty-somethings do to meet new and interesting people?\n\n",
"How the hell do I flirt with guys? (23F) New to the city, trying really hard to break out of my shell. I'm pretty faux-confident. I ask the other person a lot of questions and hope they don't ask me anything. Not working. They get bored fast. \n\nHow the fuck do I go to a bar/party/where ever and just...do the thing that twenty-somethings do to meet new and interesting people?\n\n",
"How the hell do I flirt with guys? (23F) New to the city, trying really hard to break out of my shell. I'm pretty faux-confident. I ask the other person a lot of questions and hope they don't ask me anything. Not working. They get bored fast. \n\nHow the fuck do I go to a bar/party/where ever and just...do the thing that twenty-somethings do to meet new and interesting people?\n\n"
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"I like how fast some people are at assuming that by being a girl, it's somehow easier -- as if y'all weren't also people who get nervous about meeting others and making the \"right\" impression.\n\nBut asking questions, and maybe taking it in a direction that involves hobbies. That way they talk and you get to hear what they're passionate (or not) about, how they talk about things they're passionate about, and if the question comes back your way, you can talk about your hobbies, OR hobbies that you would like to get into! This then sets you up to inviting them to join you on that hobby. If you're into coffee, tea, foods, or something else, you can then segway to, \"Oh I heard of this new place called ____ would you like to try it out with me?\" And you can set up a date and get their contact.\n\nOr not, maybe they're busy and can't join -- no probs, people get busy! Move back onto hobbies or if their excuse was about how busy they are, ask them if they'd mind you asking what they do.\n\nI'm probably overly courteous with people, which makes it easier for them to come up with excuses or conversations become a bit generic, but I'm more interested in people who are passionate about what they do and why they do it, so whatever. Be you and do you!\n\nAlso, if you're in a big city, join hobby groups -- lifestyle, sports, cooking, food, etc. Host dinner parties and tell friends to bring a +1 to network and meet others. Or if you're at a bar or party, just jump in -- they're likely to be just as nervous or open to meeting others as you! I think as long as you're genuine and nice, people will open up to you. Im idealistic though haha",
"Ok, so do you actually like going to bars/parties? Or are you just doing that with the sole intent to meet someone? I'd recommend trying /r/r4r and put up a post and see how your luck fares. Of course there are creepers and assholes since this is the internet, but I like giving Redditor's the benefit of the doubt and assume they might be like minded individuals. (HA, this isn't 100% though so YMMV.)",
"Honestly.... be yourself. \n\nDo things you enjoy doing, because if you act like not your normal self while trying to meet someone, it won't work because both parties have a false sense of who the other is. \n\nLong story short: dont rush it, be yourself, it will happen when it's meant to\n\n\n23(m)-. Hey girl how you doin'",
"In my experience every one is very down to meet new people. 95% of the time people won't be offended if you just start to strike up a conversation with them. Don't just go to random people though. Find someone that you have something to identify with, like a piece of clothing they're wearing or something you may have over heard them saying to someone else. If you don't have either one of those options just walk up and introduce yourself and then shake their hand. Ask how old they are/where they're from/what they're interested in. Very rarely do people just actually outright ask people what they're genuinely interested in instead of making pointless small talk. If you're actually trying to get to know people let them lead the conversation so that you can decide if you like them or not, don't try to lead them to things you like to do. (20 year old male if that matters) ",
"I deal with this problem too. I carry conversations in a way that milks the other guy for info while not giving much myself. It leads to dead ends quickly cause there isn't much to talk about. \nI would be better off as an interrogator probably.",
"Well the great thing about being a woman is that if you're remotely attractive, guys will tend to approach you."
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"How do I remove highlighter out of a book? I accidentally highlighted a page of a book that belongs to my college library. I’ve tried lemon but that doesn’t work, so does anyone know how to get rid of the highlighter? The pages are paper.",
"How do I remove highlighter out of a book? I accidentally highlighted a page of a book that belongs to my college library. I’ve tried lemon but that doesn’t work, so does anyone know how to get rid of the highlighter? The pages are paper.",
"How do I remove highlighter out of a book? I accidentally highlighted a page of a book that belongs to my college library. I’ve tried lemon but that doesn’t work, so does anyone know how to get rid of the highlighter? The pages are paper.",
"How do I remove highlighter out of a book? I accidentally highlighted a page of a book that belongs to my college library. I’ve tried lemon but that doesn’t work, so does anyone know how to get rid of the highlighter? The pages are paper.",
"How do I remove highlighter out of a book? I accidentally highlighted a page of a book that belongs to my college library. I’ve tried lemon but that doesn’t work, so does anyone know how to get rid of the highlighter? The pages are paper.",
"How do I remove highlighter out of a book? I accidentally highlighted a page of a book that belongs to my college library. I’ve tried lemon but that doesn’t work, so does anyone know how to get rid of the highlighter? The pages are paper.",
"How do I remove highlighter out of a book? I accidentally highlighted a page of a book that belongs to my college library. I’ve tried lemon but that doesn’t work, so does anyone know how to get rid of the highlighter? The pages are paper."
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"PLT: Don't worry about shit until it is an actual problem. Highly unlikely anyone will notice or care even if they do notice.",
"You don't, and they likely won't notice anyway. If they do, they're unlikely to care about a single highlighter mark. You'll probably cause more damage trying to remove it",
"How would they even know that you highlighted one page? Do they flip through each book or do they just try to check in as many books as rapidly as possible? Just return it. (Sorry if this is an ULPT.)",
"Highlighter markers are not designed to be erasable and anything you do will only damage the book more. Admit your mistake and pay the fine or just hope you don't get caught. Stop messing with it.",
"Librarian here. DO NOT TRY TO FIX IT YOURSELF!Some academic libraries will flip through textbooks when they are returned to see if they are written in, highlighted or damaged in any way. You will likely cause more damage by trying to fix it.\n\nBest to be honest if it is just a small amount on one page. They likely won’t charge you for anything small. If you did a lot of highlighting they will probably consider that damage and ask you to replace the book.\n\nEvery library is different in how they deal with these situations. I once worked at an academic library where we did a quick flip through when materials were returned just so that people couldn’t say “it was damaged when I checked it out”. We record damage in the staff section of the item record so we know if it was written in before you checked it out.",
"If you highlighted it, that part must be important. Whomever borrows the book next will glad you highlighted it for them.",
"Bleach and water! You can actually fill a highlighter with bleach water to use as an “eraser” when you highlight a map for a trip but change plans and want to reroute. For textbooks, I just dampen a rag with bleach and stet and wring it out, then swipe the page. The pages might get wrinkly, but just iron them flat if that bothers you."
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"Anger Management I have this weird (weird because none of my friends do it) habit of punching a wall when I get mad. Obviously, my hand constantly gets bruised but imo the pain is worth the effort to get rid of the rage. Usually, I do it when there is constant shouting in group work or I rage after an inability to do something (homework or martial arts action). Basically, I am short tempered. Is there a way I could control my anger and keep my hand not bruised?\nNote: I know the basic \"breathe and count\". I would like to know alternatives as I feel it doesn't work for me.",
"Anger Management I have this weird (weird because none of my friends do it) habit of punching a wall when I get mad. Obviously, my hand constantly gets bruised but imo the pain is worth the effort to get rid of the rage. Usually, I do it when there is constant shouting in group work or I rage after an inability to do something (homework or martial arts action). Basically, I am short tempered. Is there a way I could control my anger and keep my hand not bruised?\nNote: I know the basic \"breathe and count\". I would like to know alternatives as I feel it doesn't work for me.",
"Anger Management I have this weird (weird because none of my friends do it) habit of punching a wall when I get mad. Obviously, my hand constantly gets bruised but imo the pain is worth the effort to get rid of the rage. Usually, I do it when there is constant shouting in group work or I rage after an inability to do something (homework or martial arts action). Basically, I am short tempered. Is there a way I could control my anger and keep my hand not bruised?\nNote: I know the basic \"breathe and count\". I would like to know alternatives as I feel it doesn't work for me."
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"You could redefine your game. Instead of hitting a wall cuts the rage, it could be hitting the wall makes me one who can't handle the pressure. \n\nYou could gather information. Instead of seeing the situation as too much, you could curious what will happen next. Not because of your actions, but because of everyone else's. \n\nYou could spot the perceived threat and decide it's not real. Look for a way to belittle you undesired behavior, \"I'm acting like a child out of control again\", while validating the desired behaviour, \"I am the man who can handle the pressure.\" \n\nMost anger can be traced back to our desire to look good, feel good and be good. Any threat to those three things, real or perceived, will be a cause for you to act. But it doesn't have to be. Once you can identify the trigger, you have a choice in the matter. \n\nOne of the many things that worked for me, was to realize that once I'm dead, nothing matters. If nothing matters if I'm dead, did it really matter while I was alive? I think not. \n\nI lost control of my emotions after a stroke. It took a couple of years to learn how to spot the build up of pressure that would lead to an outburst of anger. \n\nOne example of redefining the game would be, \"are you going to be outdone by a cripple?\" ",
"You didn't mention how old you are, but if on the younger side you can find some comfort that as you grow older patience will come a little more naturally. This has only been my experience, but I think it's just that; *experiences* that teach you several things. \n\n1. Lashing out is futile. \n2. You'll observe how others deal with anger and hopefully observe and absorb some healthier techniques. \n3. Things that used to frustrate you will be replaced by truly significant things that need a smarter approach. \n\nIt seems ridiculously simple, but deep breaths go a long way. \n\nYou're already on the right track by identifying this as a shortcoming so stay the course! \n\nYou'll be so much happier and have a much higher self esteem in the long run. \n\nGood luck!\n",
"A **[stress ball](http://www.geekalerts.com/infectious-disease-stress-balls/)** might be helpful.\nBut consider the thoughts from **[Buddhism](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=odWIPhj-ivo)** or better yet **[Stoicism](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OJs3soKq2-A)**."
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"What do you say when people correct you? Like when you make a sort of judgmental, broad statement that's factually incorrect and someone goes, \"actually....\" \n\nExample:\n\nA: I think January 15th was when MLK died.\n\nB: Actually, it's when he was born.\n\nA: oh.\n\nMost of the time I just say \"oh.\" and leave it there, but should I add on something like \"you're right\", \"my bad\", \"I was wrong\", etc.?",
"What do you say when people correct you? Like when you make a sort of judgmental, broad statement that's factually incorrect and someone goes, \"actually....\" \n\nExample:\n\nA: I think January 15th was when MLK died.\n\nB: Actually, it's when he was born.\n\nA: oh.\n\nMost of the time I just say \"oh.\" and leave it there, but should I add on something like \"you're right\", \"my bad\", \"I was wrong\", etc.?"
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"I like to say something that makes them question if they are actually correct. Like “really? Are you sure about that?” With kind of a grossed out look on my face. Then after they affirm their knowledge I say “huh…interesting”"
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"How to stop severe nail biting and picking? I pick both finger nails and toenails. I know…\nThis has been a thing my whole life, I’ve tried different fidget toys and bad tasting nail polishes. Has anyone conquered severe nail biting?",
"How to stop severe nail biting and picking? I pick both finger nails and toenails. I know…\nThis has been a thing my whole life, I’ve tried different fidget toys and bad tasting nail polishes. Has anyone conquered severe nail biting?",
"How to stop severe nail biting and picking? I pick both finger nails and toenails. I know…\nThis has been a thing my whole life, I’ve tried different fidget toys and bad tasting nail polishes. Has anyone conquered severe nail biting?",
"How to stop severe nail biting and picking? I pick both finger nails and toenails. I know…\nThis has been a thing my whole life, I’ve tried different fidget toys and bad tasting nail polishes. Has anyone conquered severe nail biting?",
"How to stop severe nail biting and picking? I pick both finger nails and toenails. I know…\nThis has been a thing my whole life, I’ve tried different fidget toys and bad tasting nail polishes. Has anyone conquered severe nail biting?",
"How to stop severe nail biting and picking? I pick both finger nails and toenails. I know…\nThis has been a thing my whole life, I’ve tried different fidget toys and bad tasting nail polishes. Has anyone conquered severe nail biting?",
"How to stop severe nail biting and picking? I pick both finger nails and toenails. I know…\nThis has been a thing my whole life, I’ve tried different fidget toys and bad tasting nail polishes. Has anyone conquered severe nail biting?",
"How to stop severe nail biting and picking? I pick both finger nails and toenails. I know…\nThis has been a thing my whole life, I’ve tried different fidget toys and bad tasting nail polishes. Has anyone conquered severe nail biting?",
"How to stop severe nail biting and picking? I pick both finger nails and toenails. I know…\nThis has been a thing my whole life, I’ve tried different fidget toys and bad tasting nail polishes. Has anyone conquered severe nail biting?",
"How to stop severe nail biting and picking? I pick both finger nails and toenails. I know…\nThis has been a thing my whole life, I’ve tried different fidget toys and bad tasting nail polishes. Has anyone conquered severe nail biting?",
"How to stop severe nail biting and picking? I pick both finger nails and toenails. I know…\nThis has been a thing my whole life, I’ve tried different fidget toys and bad tasting nail polishes. Has anyone conquered severe nail biting?",
"How to stop severe nail biting and picking? I pick both finger nails and toenails. I know…\nThis has been a thing my whole life, I’ve tried different fidget toys and bad tasting nail polishes. Has anyone conquered severe nail biting?",
"How to stop severe nail biting and picking? I pick both finger nails and toenails. I know…\nThis has been a thing my whole life, I’ve tried different fidget toys and bad tasting nail polishes. Has anyone conquered severe nail biting?",
"How to stop severe nail biting and picking? I pick both finger nails and toenails. I know…\nThis has been a thing my whole life, I’ve tried different fidget toys and bad tasting nail polishes. Has anyone conquered severe nail biting?",
"How to stop severe nail biting and picking? I pick both finger nails and toenails. I know…\nThis has been a thing my whole life, I’ve tried different fidget toys and bad tasting nail polishes. Has anyone conquered severe nail biting?",
"How to stop severe nail biting and picking? I pick both finger nails and toenails. I know…\nThis has been a thing my whole life, I’ve tried different fidget toys and bad tasting nail polishes. Has anyone conquered severe nail biting?"
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"keeping my fingernails painted a color I like has helped me. And keeping them clipped short enough that they don’t annoy me and make me want to bite them down. But I also am not 100% stopped, I just do it less. \n\nI was a toenail biter as a kid/teen too. Getting older, fatter, and less flexible sorted that out for me, so I don’t have any useful advice.",
"I replaced the habit of picking my nails with rubbing my nails. Everytime I got the urge to pick my nails, I’d instead rub the spot I usually picked with my fingers (no nails, just skin). This satisfied the “craving” of picking my nails for the moment, and once the craving is gone, it’s done! After I did that for a few weeks, I stopped getting cravings/inclinations to pick my nails, and now I never feel the urge to do so!\n\n\n\nFor this next solution, I’ve never tried it, but I’ve heard getting a certain type of manicure makes your nails super hard, which prevents you from being able to bite or pick them for a while (yes men can get them too). \n\n\nI think addressing the urge is better than addressing the ability to damage the nails, but hey trying something is better than wallowing in miserable failure!",
"I got lightweight cotton gloves (the kind a photographer would use to touch photos) to wear during my most likely times to bite (driving, reading, watching tv) and that helped a ton, when I remembered them. \n\nFor me it is a symptom of my ADHD. If I took the meds, it could potentially help that but I can’t, so I will never know if that would help.",
"I got a job as a dog groomer and that made me never bite my nails again. We have to clean up lots of dog shit and wash lots of assholes so you won't be tempted to put them in your mouth.",
"Dude I have this same exact problem. I'm 31 years old and have been doing this almost my whole life. Sometimes it's bad, other times it's less severe. Doesn't seem like much help is out there. Not trying to burst your bubble, but it sucks and seems like we're doomed. \n\nCold turkey worked for a while.\n\nConscious effort. But gets exhausting.",
"There was a study done that showed that taking N-acetyl cysteine can help with this.\n\nhttps://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27007062/",
"The only thing that has worked for me is medical tape. I tape over my nails till they grow long enough to get a manicure. Always have tape near you. Have grown my mm long nails to healthy “normal” nails during my 30s.",
"What helped me was carrying a small nail clipper on me. I always carry my keys so I attached one to those. Once I felt the urge to bite my nails I turned to the nail clipper instead",
"I used to be a cronic nail biter... then i got sic and almost died... i spent 18 days in the hospital after they took some digestive parts from me.... after learning of the many germs transmitted from the things we touch, i got to thinking of how often i stick my dirty ass fingers in my mouth... this very well could be the demise that gave me the joy of wearing this ileostomy bag the resta my life... i quit chewing my nails... couldnt even pic my fukn toes... it works.",
"Weird thing that worked for me. I got REALLY nice nail clippers. Like, Imported Japanese Steel nice. Cost like $20 for it (8 years ago) instead of drug store 50¢. \n\nIt was such a different world, borderline luxurious, I didn't want to waste that opportunity with mere nail biting.",
"See your doctor, ask about behavioral therapy and especially Wellbutrin (your milage will vary) this is a treatable, real form of (most likely) dermatillomania. \n\nhttps://iocdf.org/about-ocd/related-disorders/skin-picking-disorder/#:~:text=Skin%20picking%20disorder%20can%20hurt,school%2C%20and/or%20work.\n\nThere's help out there!",
"I wish I knew, I’ve tried the same stuff. I started biting as a kid and I’m 56 and still do it. It’s basically grooming gone wrong. I’m thinking maybe hypnosis might work, but I doubt I’m the sort of person that can be hypnotised.",
"I had a bad problem doing this. Finally stopped but catch myself when I get anxious. I used to chew on my cheeks too. Didn't realize I damaged my teeth until it was too late. It is so hard to break a bad habit. Be kind with yourself if you struggle! I don't know what got me to stop, I guess I got tired of it all.",
"I did it. If they break I still bite then flat though.\n\nFor me (a female, I don't know if you're good with this) I used fake nails for awhile to get the past the skin line, then kept a file or 8 on hand at all times to keep them even and too short to be tempting until it stopped being so much of a compulsion. I repaired the damage from the nail glue with vitamin nailpolish, careful soft filing, and lots of cuticle oil and/or bio oil between paint jobs. There are some vitamins that are supposed to help them grow faster and stronger but I'm not super sure how real that is. I still always have a file handy. In the beginning I was latched onto those things like a smoker to a lighter. it made a difference to never feel uneven edges or catch on things. It helped me forget that I was obsessed with them. Now they're long and healthy and cute AF.",
"Get clear nail polish.\n\nGo on Amazon and search \"Pure Capsaicin\" \n\nChoose one that sounds brutal. \n\nMix some into the clear nail polish and coat the tips of your nails making sure to not get any on your skin. \n\nIf you bite you suffer.\n\n\n\nMy mother did something like this with my pacifier when I began to want it too long, I still think it was a bit harsh but it definitely worked.",
" I have a family member who has same issue. She talks to an amazing therapist (who specializes in anxiety) who's teaching her how to manage and cope with her anxious feelings. she says it helps. I bought her a small Squishmallow to hold while she watches TV, so her hands are occupied."
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"about to live on my own for the first time. What are overlooked things I should always keep around the house? Hey Reddit, I've lived with roommates since graduating college and am finally in a good position to get my own place. I'm a single guy in my late 20's, no unhealthy addictions, living in a big city. Likely going to rent a big studio or a 1br. Still deciding on whether to get a car, it won't be necessary for day-to-day life.\n\nI'm used to splitting random chores with people and not worrying about purchasing everything, so I will need to furnish almost from scratch. Can anyone recommend some things I should buy or habits I should develop to make living alone easier? I have a healthy income so I can afford most everyday needs. Thanks in advance!",
"about to live on my own for the first time. What are overlooked things I should always keep around the house? Hey Reddit, I've lived with roommates since graduating college and am finally in a good position to get my own place. I'm a single guy in my late 20's, no unhealthy addictions, living in a big city. Likely going to rent a big studio or a 1br. Still deciding on whether to get a car, it won't be necessary for day-to-day life.\n\nI'm used to splitting random chores with people and not worrying about purchasing everything, so I will need to furnish almost from scratch. Can anyone recommend some things I should buy or habits I should develop to make living alone easier? I have a healthy income so I can afford most everyday needs. Thanks in advance!",
"about to live on my own for the first time. What are overlooked things I should always keep around the house? Hey Reddit, I've lived with roommates since graduating college and am finally in a good position to get my own place. I'm a single guy in my late 20's, no unhealthy addictions, living in a big city. Likely going to rent a big studio or a 1br. Still deciding on whether to get a car, it won't be necessary for day-to-day life.\n\nI'm used to splitting random chores with people and not worrying about purchasing everything, so I will need to furnish almost from scratch. Can anyone recommend some things I should buy or habits I should develop to make living alone easier? I have a healthy income so I can afford most everyday needs. Thanks in advance!",
"about to live on my own for the first time. What are overlooked things I should always keep around the house? Hey Reddit, I've lived with roommates since graduating college and am finally in a good position to get my own place. I'm a single guy in my late 20's, no unhealthy addictions, living in a big city. Likely going to rent a big studio or a 1br. Still deciding on whether to get a car, it won't be necessary for day-to-day life.\n\nI'm used to splitting random chores with people and not worrying about purchasing everything, so I will need to furnish almost from scratch. Can anyone recommend some things I should buy or habits I should develop to make living alone easier? I have a healthy income so I can afford most everyday needs. Thanks in advance!",
"about to live on my own for the first time. What are overlooked things I should always keep around the house? Hey Reddit, I've lived with roommates since graduating college and am finally in a good position to get my own place. I'm a single guy in my late 20's, no unhealthy addictions, living in a big city. Likely going to rent a big studio or a 1br. Still deciding on whether to get a car, it won't be necessary for day-to-day life.\n\nI'm used to splitting random chores with people and not worrying about purchasing everything, so I will need to furnish almost from scratch. Can anyone recommend some things I should buy or habits I should develop to make living alone easier? I have a healthy income so I can afford most everyday needs. Thanks in advance!",
"about to live on my own for the first time. What are overlooked things I should always keep around the house? Hey Reddit, I've lived with roommates since graduating college and am finally in a good position to get my own place. I'm a single guy in my late 20's, no unhealthy addictions, living in a big city. Likely going to rent a big studio or a 1br. Still deciding on whether to get a car, it won't be necessary for day-to-day life.\n\nI'm used to splitting random chores with people and not worrying about purchasing everything, so I will need to furnish almost from scratch. Can anyone recommend some things I should buy or habits I should develop to make living alone easier? I have a healthy income so I can afford most everyday needs. Thanks in advance!",
"about to live on my own for the first time. What are overlooked things I should always keep around the house? Hey Reddit, I've lived with roommates since graduating college and am finally in a good position to get my own place. I'm a single guy in my late 20's, no unhealthy addictions, living in a big city. Likely going to rent a big studio or a 1br. Still deciding on whether to get a car, it won't be necessary for day-to-day life.\n\nI'm used to splitting random chores with people and not worrying about purchasing everything, so I will need to furnish almost from scratch. Can anyone recommend some things I should buy or habits I should develop to make living alone easier? I have a healthy income so I can afford most everyday needs. Thanks in advance!",
"about to live on my own for the first time. What are overlooked things I should always keep around the house? Hey Reddit, I've lived with roommates since graduating college and am finally in a good position to get my own place. I'm a single guy in my late 20's, no unhealthy addictions, living in a big city. Likely going to rent a big studio or a 1br. Still deciding on whether to get a car, it won't be necessary for day-to-day life.\n\nI'm used to splitting random chores with people and not worrying about purchasing everything, so I will need to furnish almost from scratch. Can anyone recommend some things I should buy or habits I should develop to make living alone easier? I have a healthy income so I can afford most everyday needs. Thanks in advance!",
"about to live on my own for the first time. What are overlooked things I should always keep around the house? Hey Reddit, I've lived with roommates since graduating college and am finally in a good position to get my own place. I'm a single guy in my late 20's, no unhealthy addictions, living in a big city. Likely going to rent a big studio or a 1br. Still deciding on whether to get a car, it won't be necessary for day-to-day life.\n\nI'm used to splitting random chores with people and not worrying about purchasing everything, so I will need to furnish almost from scratch. Can anyone recommend some things I should buy or habits I should develop to make living alone easier? I have a healthy income so I can afford most everyday needs. Thanks in advance!",
"about to live on my own for the first time. What are overlooked things I should always keep around the house? Hey Reddit, I've lived with roommates since graduating college and am finally in a good position to get my own place. I'm a single guy in my late 20's, no unhealthy addictions, living in a big city. Likely going to rent a big studio or a 1br. Still deciding on whether to get a car, it won't be necessary for day-to-day life.\n\nI'm used to splitting random chores with people and not worrying about purchasing everything, so I will need to furnish almost from scratch. Can anyone recommend some things I should buy or habits I should develop to make living alone easier? I have a healthy income so I can afford most everyday needs. Thanks in advance!",
"about to live on my own for the first time. What are overlooked things I should always keep around the house? Hey Reddit, I've lived with roommates since graduating college and am finally in a good position to get my own place. I'm a single guy in my late 20's, no unhealthy addictions, living in a big city. Likely going to rent a big studio or a 1br. Still deciding on whether to get a car, it won't be necessary for day-to-day life.\n\nI'm used to splitting random chores with people and not worrying about purchasing everything, so I will need to furnish almost from scratch. Can anyone recommend some things I should buy or habits I should develop to make living alone easier? I have a healthy income so I can afford most everyday needs. Thanks in advance!",
"about to live on my own for the first time. What are overlooked things I should always keep around the house? Hey Reddit, I've lived with roommates since graduating college and am finally in a good position to get my own place. I'm a single guy in my late 20's, no unhealthy addictions, living in a big city. Likely going to rent a big studio or a 1br. Still deciding on whether to get a car, it won't be necessary for day-to-day life.\n\nI'm used to splitting random chores with people and not worrying about purchasing everything, so I will need to furnish almost from scratch. Can anyone recommend some things I should buy or habits I should develop to make living alone easier? I have a healthy income so I can afford most everyday needs. Thanks in advance!",
"about to live on my own for the first time. What are overlooked things I should always keep around the house? Hey Reddit, I've lived with roommates since graduating college and am finally in a good position to get my own place. I'm a single guy in my late 20's, no unhealthy addictions, living in a big city. Likely going to rent a big studio or a 1br. Still deciding on whether to get a car, it won't be necessary for day-to-day life.\n\nI'm used to splitting random chores with people and not worrying about purchasing everything, so I will need to furnish almost from scratch. Can anyone recommend some things I should buy or habits I should develop to make living alone easier? I have a healthy income so I can afford most everyday needs. Thanks in advance!",
"about to live on my own for the first time. What are overlooked things I should always keep around the house? Hey Reddit, I've lived with roommates since graduating college and am finally in a good position to get my own place. I'm a single guy in my late 20's, no unhealthy addictions, living in a big city. Likely going to rent a big studio or a 1br. Still deciding on whether to get a car, it won't be necessary for day-to-day life.\n\nI'm used to splitting random chores with people and not worrying about purchasing everything, so I will need to furnish almost from scratch. Can anyone recommend some things I should buy or habits I should develop to make living alone easier? I have a healthy income so I can afford most everyday needs. Thanks in advance!"
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"If you’re a guy who will have a woman over at any time, bathroom trash can with liner is absolutely essential. Also, always have extra toilet paper stocked. ",
"A plunger. When you need one, you don't have time to go get one.\n\nGet a good toilet plunger and a sink plunger. The sink plunger has cleared a shower drain more than once. Between my wife and my dogs, my drains don't have a chance. So much hair...",
"Well I've only been living alone for a year, but if you are prone to procastinate your chores... well don't. Stuff like dishes and unwashed clothes stack up fast and you will be put off by the amount of things you need to do to get everything in order so you postpone 'em more. It's a vicious cycle. Oh and always keep a good amount of meds at home for any possibility, it's a pain in the A when you have the sh*ts and the pharmacy is too far. Other than that keep a good amount of food at home, some non perishables. Also helps if you look up some easy but delicious recipies with few ingredients and have most of those at hand, so you can make food if you want/ have to. Dont eat out often, your wallet will thank you. Thats my 2 cents, I'm still a noob at this life thing...",
"Basic toolbox.\n\nFirst aid kit.\n\nAll the cleaning supplies needed to do a top to bottom cleaning of the whole house in a neat tub.\n\nPlunger.",
"Get a few storage tubs. They come in handy for moving things and organizing, and as you build up things like a kitchen set or a library, they’re right there ready for your next move. \n\nIt’s also pretty fair to imagine that you can fit most of the basics of what you need in particular aspects of your life into an 18gal bucket. Once you fill a tub with cleaning supplies, you know you don’t need more than that to handle yourself. Same with spare towels or clothes, canvas bags, pillowcases, etc. \n\nOne of the first things I did when I moved out on my own was build a toolbox. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy. Make sure to have Allen hex wrenches, basic screwdrivers, a multitool and a pocket knife, small hammer, a box of brads/nails and a pack of small wall screws. I found myself using a pair of tin snips and a pair of gloves quite a bit, along with a stapler, some binder clips, electrical tape and superglue. I added a metal file and needle nose pliers, and a wireless driver, eventually, and that would get you through a lot of around the house tasks. \n\n",
"Tip if you plan to have lady company over : keep your bathroom and bedroom clean. Especially if you shed hair everywhere. No girl wants to spend the night if your bed sheets are funky or if they don’t feel comfortable showering at your place the next day if the bathroom is dirty. Get A good cleaning agent with bleach and wipe down the bathroom tub, sink, and toilet seat every few days and sweep the bathroom floor at least once a week. Keep a set of extra sheets so you can change your sheets before company. Febreeze your couch and bedding regularly to keep bachelor funk at bay. A swifer sweeper is a great cheat for mopping and works great for hardwood floors. ",
"Always keep toilet paper, a sink plunger and a toilet plunger, a well stocked first aid kit, and a fire extinguisher around the house. I'd also recommend a small drain snake, a set of screw drivers and wrenches of various sizes, and a couple of buckets with sturdy handles. There are so many times having those things around kept an annoying problem from becoming a major emergency.",
"As obvious as this is, a microwave. After living with my cousin for 3 years, I finally moved out and realized I don't have anything to warm up the food I cooked earlier.",
"Always keep a gallon jug or two of water. There so useful if needed in case the water is off you can flush the toilet with one and do several things with the other such as way up busy your teeth. And they won't go bad. Small grill I love grilled food.",
"a fucking LONG, im talking like 20ft, drain snake. God damn eggs fucked my shit up for like 2 weeks! i had to drain liquids in the bathroom until the douchey maintenance guy came and snaked my drain. ",
"The right spices in your kitchen. Buy them from the bulk section and label the tags with more than just the bin number. Makes cooking way more of a pleasure.",
"I would say don't get a car but live on the bus line. That way you could get to further places if you need, and your wallet will thank you (no gas fill ups, car payment, tabs, car insurance...) \n\nOh that reminds me! You might want to get renters insurance. That way if a fire happens you're all covered. ",
"Don't horde. If you're single and only ever anticipate a few friends over at a time, keep 4 of everything. You don't need 10 coffee cups so don't waste space in your cupboards. I wouldn't apply this to silverware though. Keep paper plates and cups just in case. They're nice to have in emergencies and I usually left those behind after I would move. Buy toilet paper and paper towels in bulk. You pay more when you buy less. ",
"A bottle of Dawn or similar dish soap kept in the bathroom. A few squirts in a clogged toilet, a brief wait, and you can usually clear a minor blockage without a messy plunger."
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"Best way possible to pack a suitcase? I'm reaching out to /r/LifeProTips because I have a problem - as a girl, I cannot, for the life of me, pack suitcases. I am leaving Southeast Idaho to go live with my aunt in Phoenix, Arizona until the end of the year. The plane ticket I purchased allows me to have two checked bags, with a weight limit of 40lbs each, and one personal carry-on bag (ex: purse, laptop bag, backpack). \n\nMy question is, what exactly should I pack, versus not pack, and what's the best way to pack everything? Is it best to fold, or roll up clothes (or use some other ingenious method) ? What's the best way to pack shoes? What should I avoid taking? What should I leave behind any buy once I get there? (note, I am driving back to Idaho, so there's no luggage or weight limit on things when I come back to Idaho).\n\nYour help is very much appreciated :) ",
"Best way possible to pack a suitcase? I'm reaching out to /r/LifeProTips because I have a problem - as a girl, I cannot, for the life of me, pack suitcases. I am leaving Southeast Idaho to go live with my aunt in Phoenix, Arizona until the end of the year. The plane ticket I purchased allows me to have two checked bags, with a weight limit of 40lbs each, and one personal carry-on bag (ex: purse, laptop bag, backpack). \n\nMy question is, what exactly should I pack, versus not pack, and what's the best way to pack everything? Is it best to fold, or roll up clothes (or use some other ingenious method) ? What's the best way to pack shoes? What should I avoid taking? What should I leave behind any buy once I get there? (note, I am driving back to Idaho, so there's no luggage or weight limit on things when I come back to Idaho).\n\nYour help is very much appreciated :) ",
"Best way possible to pack a suitcase? I'm reaching out to /r/LifeProTips because I have a problem - as a girl, I cannot, for the life of me, pack suitcases. I am leaving Southeast Idaho to go live with my aunt in Phoenix, Arizona until the end of the year. The plane ticket I purchased allows me to have two checked bags, with a weight limit of 40lbs each, and one personal carry-on bag (ex: purse, laptop bag, backpack). \n\nMy question is, what exactly should I pack, versus not pack, and what's the best way to pack everything? Is it best to fold, or roll up clothes (or use some other ingenious method) ? What's the best way to pack shoes? What should I avoid taking? What should I leave behind any buy once I get there? (note, I am driving back to Idaho, so there's no luggage or weight limit on things when I come back to Idaho).\n\nYour help is very much appreciated :) "
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"Consider shipping it, too. It's cheap to ship and if you do so early, you might have it there before you arrive.\n\nI moved and had quite a bit of stuff with me. Let's just say that it is NOT easy to drag two suitcases fully stuffed and a carryon with a laptop. You are bound to go mad.\n\nIf you do insist, though, the very best way to pack is to use a big black garbage bag, a vacuum cleaner, and packing tape. \n\n* Fill the garbage bag with about 20 lbs of clothes. \n* Take the vacuum hose and slip it inside the bag, trying not to cover the nozzle with the trashbag\n* Turn on the vacuum to suck out the air - do so intermittently in order to get a good vacuum.\n* Occasionally pound bag into shape as best you can. You can stop the vacuum and redo it if it doesn't turn out right.\n* Once it is vacuum sealed enough, give the bag a twist and then tape it shut immediately. Tape around the item several times. I just tape one end and make a spiral around it.\n\nYou will look like you are carrying a big brick of drugs, but it saves a lot of space. I did it several times, especially since I live abroad and travel to the US often.",
"Check out [this link](http://www.nytimes.com/slideshow/2010/05/06/business/businessspecial/20100506-pack-ss.html) for an instructional slideshow of packing for 10 days in a carry-on bag. Have a great trip! ",
"I'm female, and have absolutely no problem packing suitcases. It's not a skill that requires a penis, just a good eye for space and some forethought. :)\n\nAlso, bring ziploc bags. They're cheap, and great for everything from small cosmetic items to socks, depending on the size of the bag. I wouldn't travel without them!"
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"How to make a laptop battery last longer. In a week or so I'm going to be going on a flight that's around 4-5 hours long. My laptop battery only lasts 2-3 hours. I was wondering if there are simple ways to extend the life, without buying a second battery? \n\nI plan to turn off wi-fi and lower the brightness, but are there any other things I should do? Thanks!",
"How to make a laptop battery last longer. In a week or so I'm going to be going on a flight that's around 4-5 hours long. My laptop battery only lasts 2-3 hours. I was wondering if there are simple ways to extend the life, without buying a second battery? \n\nI plan to turn off wi-fi and lower the brightness, but are there any other things I should do? Thanks!",
"How to make a laptop battery last longer. In a week or so I'm going to be going on a flight that's around 4-5 hours long. My laptop battery only lasts 2-3 hours. I was wondering if there are simple ways to extend the life, without buying a second battery? \n\nI plan to turn off wi-fi and lower the brightness, but are there any other things I should do? Thanks!",
"How to make a laptop battery last longer. In a week or so I'm going to be going on a flight that's around 4-5 hours long. My laptop battery only lasts 2-3 hours. I was wondering if there are simple ways to extend the life, without buying a second battery? \n\nI plan to turn off wi-fi and lower the brightness, but are there any other things I should do? Thanks!"
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"Check if your laptop had a 'power saving' mode that usually extends mine a good 1-2hours more. Although the screen is so dark I can barely see anything which makes masturbating harder. ",
"Start - run - msconfig - startup tab.\n\nuncheck everything. Recheck the things you want.\n\nWill same some cpu work.\n\nInstall an SSD before you go, faster = get more done on same battery time.\nUses less power = more battery time.\n\n",
"Not many people know this, but the default web browser on your OS's operating system is optimized to save power. On Windows this means Internet Explorer; on OS X this means Safari. (I promise IE 9 isn't as bad as prior versions!)",
".... Buy a new one. So many people I know use them waaaaaay past their useful life. Did it last 4 hours when the laptop was new and only one hour now? Time for a new one."
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"Easy Pony Tail This might sound ridiculous, but I'm a man with long hair who has just started doing a top knot. I find it maddeningly impossible to get all the hairs in, and some make it or don't make it every time.\n\nAnyone have a LPT for the perfect pony tail with relatively short hair?",
"Easy Pony Tail This might sound ridiculous, but I'm a man with long hair who has just started doing a top knot. I find it maddeningly impossible to get all the hairs in, and some make it or don't make it every time.\n\nAnyone have a LPT for the perfect pony tail with relatively short hair?",
"Easy Pony Tail This might sound ridiculous, but I'm a man with long hair who has just started doing a top knot. I find it maddeningly impossible to get all the hairs in, and some make it or don't make it every time.\n\nAnyone have a LPT for the perfect pony tail with relatively short hair?",
"Easy Pony Tail This might sound ridiculous, but I'm a man with long hair who has just started doing a top knot. I find it maddeningly impossible to get all the hairs in, and some make it or don't make it every time.\n\nAnyone have a LPT for the perfect pony tail with relatively short hair?",
"Easy Pony Tail This might sound ridiculous, but I'm a man with long hair who has just started doing a top knot. I find it maddeningly impossible to get all the hairs in, and some make it or don't make it every time.\n\nAnyone have a LPT for the perfect pony tail with relatively short hair?"
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"Go see a hair stylist. Pay them to cut your hair, but ask them for tips. They will love you, and you will get the most accurate information possible.",
"Are you married to a top knot? Because with short hair it's unlikely that you'll be able to keep all the hair in properly (and I assume you're opposed to bobby pins?)\n\nIf you keep the ponytail lower you should be able to get a most of your hair in. ",
"i wear my hair in a top knot all the time because i live in thailand and it's the coolest way to have my hair and i wont cut it. i use a couple of squirts of coconut oil and lean forward brushing all my hair forward into my left hand when i have got hold of it al i tie it up with the hairband that's already on my right wrist.",
"have you seen the vaccum trick? you put a hair band on the knozzle. Vaccum up all your hair. and pull the hair band down off the knozzle. Pull vaccum away, BAM!\n\nGoogle it. \n\nIts a funny viral video dads do to their daughter's hair.",
"Start from the top of your head first. Pull hair from the top up in your hand (it will look like kind of a half-ponytail) and then pull hair from the bottom to add to it. This should catch the hair at the front (which can tend to be shorter) and the hair closest to your neck, which can fall out of a ponytail. "
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"Advice on waking up earlier Hey everyone so I've been having trouble waking up early. I have a job that usually allowing me to get into bed by 12-1am but can't wake up before 9am to save my life. Any advice on what some of you do to get up early? , besides going to bed earlier? ",
"Advice on waking up earlier Hey everyone so I've been having trouble waking up early. I have a job that usually allowing me to get into bed by 12-1am but can't wake up before 9am to save my life. Any advice on what some of you do to get up early? , besides going to bed earlier? ",
"Advice on waking up earlier Hey everyone so I've been having trouble waking up early. I have a job that usually allowing me to get into bed by 12-1am but can't wake up before 9am to save my life. Any advice on what some of you do to get up early? , besides going to bed earlier? ",
"Advice on waking up earlier Hey everyone so I've been having trouble waking up early. I have a job that usually allowing me to get into bed by 12-1am but can't wake up before 9am to save my life. Any advice on what some of you do to get up early? , besides going to bed earlier? "
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"Well, you might not want to hear it, but going to bed earlier is pretty much the only answer, lol You need a certain amount of sleep, which for you, seems to be around 8 hours. Do the math. Some people need more sleep than others, and some people can perform quite well on 5 or 6 hours sleep, whilst others need 8... I function pretty well on 10 (untreated sleep apnea + zombifying meds). \n \nI'll say this though. Taking naps during the day can make you have insomnia. The fatigue that hits you in the middle of the day will pass given time.",
"[One of my favorite articles covers this](http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/04/how-to-get-up-right-away-when-your-alarm-goes-off)\n\nI was actually doing that before my brain injury in 2010 and it was working. Currently I have more health problems and am doing important things before bed but it's an unusual situation. Can you at least set an alarm *for* bed?",
"Set your alarm earlier. Plug it into a wall across your bedroom. Getting up to turn it off will wake your ass up.",
"A few things I've read that you can try. I've read that not eating a certain amount of hours before you want to wake up. I've read everything from 8 hours to 12 hours. So you want to wake up at 8am stop all eating at 8pm. Also just forcing yourself to get up everyday. When I got a new job it required me to work from 8-5 everyday. So the first few weeks I was taking naps because my sleep cycle was off. Eventually after a month or two I was on a perfect cycle. "
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