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"How to get rid of black mold I live in a fairly shitty apartment in Oregon. Due to the weird weather inversion, temperature differences and rain, we have developed a serious black mold problem in multiple places. What is the most efficient way to treat this plague? I don't want to just bleach it and paint over it if the mold will come back anyway. ",
"How to get rid of black mold I live in a fairly shitty apartment in Oregon. Due to the weird weather inversion, temperature differences and rain, we have developed a serious black mold problem in multiple places. What is the most efficient way to treat this plague? I don't want to just bleach it and paint over it if the mold will come back anyway. ",
"How to get rid of black mold I live in a fairly shitty apartment in Oregon. Due to the weird weather inversion, temperature differences and rain, we have developed a serious black mold problem in multiple places. What is the most efficient way to treat this plague? I don't want to just bleach it and paint over it if the mold will come back anyway. "
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"If you're in an apartment, there *should* be some sort of liability on the property owner to treat the issue. \n\nRemember mold is like an iceberg. What you see is only a small percentage of the actual growth. You will need to get behind the walls to assess the true extent.\n\nBut definitely contact the property owner/manager and make them aware of the situation. It can be a health hazard, and it's just not worth it in the long run.",
"Make sure you determine the moisture issue and solve it so the problem doesn't come back. \n\nremove everything effect by mold to the studs, bleach the studs, dry things out and install new finish.",
"Dehumidifier, air filter, and clean all what's visible. Be aware of you health. If you start getting allergies and skin problems you need to move before it gets worse. Mold ruined my health when my immune system was weak after major surgery. That stuff is evil. Take lots of vitamin C while you have to be exposed to it."
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"How to have warm coffee next to my bed in the morning? I like coffee, especially in the morning. Any LPTs? ",
"How to have warm coffee next to my bed in the morning? I like coffee, especially in the morning. Any LPTs? "
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"Get a keurig, put that bitch on the night stand, set the alarm on it to like two minutes before you wake up, there you go. ",
"Get a $19 coffee maker that has a timer option. Put grounds in the filter in the top before bed, fill resubmit with water, set time for desired caffeination, problem solved. I'll try to find the exact model I have and link it\n\n"
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"Find a lost phone So my dumb/drunk self left my phone inside of a cab and it would be nice if anyone could tell me if it is possible to find/track it. I don't have a tracker app on it so it kinda seems like I'm SOL\n",
"Find a lost phone So my dumb/drunk self left my phone inside of a cab and it would be nice if anyone could tell me if it is possible to find/track it. I don't have a tracker app on it so it kinda seems like I'm SOL\n"
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"Did you take a receipt?\n\nIf so. Maybe it has the cab number. Borrow a friend's phone or Skype and call to ask.\n\n",
"Call the cab company. They should have all left behind items.\n\nIf you don't remember which company, call a few. Unless you're in a gigantically huge city and there are 1000 companies."
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"How to improve the quality of your penmanship I've recently changed jobs to a role where my handwriting has the ability to become more visible to the entire office. My question is what sort of things should one concentrate on specifically to improve the overall quality. ",
"How to improve the quality of your penmanship I've recently changed jobs to a role where my handwriting has the ability to become more visible to the entire office. My question is what sort of things should one concentrate on specifically to improve the overall quality. ",
"How to improve the quality of your penmanship I've recently changed jobs to a role where my handwriting has the ability to become more visible to the entire office. My question is what sort of things should one concentrate on specifically to improve the overall quality. ",
"How to improve the quality of your penmanship I've recently changed jobs to a role where my handwriting has the ability to become more visible to the entire office. My question is what sort of things should one concentrate on specifically to improve the overall quality. ",
"How to improve the quality of your penmanship I've recently changed jobs to a role where my handwriting has the ability to become more visible to the entire office. My question is what sort of things should one concentrate on specifically to improve the overall quality. ",
"How to improve the quality of your penmanship I've recently changed jobs to a role where my handwriting has the ability to become more visible to the entire office. My question is what sort of things should one concentrate on specifically to improve the overall quality. ",
"How to improve the quality of your penmanship I've recently changed jobs to a role where my handwriting has the ability to become more visible to the entire office. My question is what sort of things should one concentrate on specifically to improve the overall quality. ",
"How to improve the quality of your penmanship I've recently changed jobs to a role where my handwriting has the ability to become more visible to the entire office. My question is what sort of things should one concentrate on specifically to improve the overall quality. "
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"I used to have pretty awful handwriting, but I started a job that required a moderate amount of writing, and it was important for it to be legible.\n\nFirst things first, slow down. Writing too fast will typically make your handwriting sloppy. Also, I learned that certain pens make my writing worse, for example any Bic rollerball pen I write with makes my writing look pretty bad. So I went to an art store and tried out every different type of pen I could and now I almost exclusively use Pilot Precise V5 pens, they are really fine and write really smooth.\n\nAfter you have slowed down and found a good pen, get a piece of lined paper out and write every letter in upper and lower case, all the usual punctuation (? ! & @ $ etc.) and number zero to 9. And then write out a sentence like \"the quick brown fox...\"\n\nPay attention to how you write them, and look at the messiest letters. Also try writing them with your wrist above the pen and below, note the differences. I learned that I write my lowercase t's better if I added a serif to the bottom (the little swoopy part) rather than just making two straight lines. Same thing with my 7's I would write them so messy they would just look like shitty 1's so now I draw a line through it like [this](https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/5/5c/Hand_Written_7.svg/2000px-Hand_Written_7.svg.png), analyzing each and every letter will help you find the areas that you struggle. And if you have to write quickly and concisely, just always use uppercase letters (a lot of construction workers will do this for the same reason), if you are writing longer texts that can't all be uppercase, use lined paper (put it behind letterhead if that is what you are using) and go slow.\n\nMostly you have to practice, you have to train the muscles in your hand to move in different ways than they are used to.\n\n",
"I came across this problem in high school in my attempt to study for the AP Biology test; I couldn't read more than two-thirds of what I had written/annotated in my notebooks and I found myself having to grind through the textbook.\n\nFor me, I found capital letters to be the easiest segway into cleaner penmanship. The short, straight lines made for a very symmetrical format, and it was almost effortless to write cleanly on unlined paper after a few months. Here were a few key things I recognized in the transformation of my handwriting:\n\n* **The Pen:** this is the most critical item in your endeavor to better your penmanship. Even today, if I don't use a select type of pen, my handwriting can appear skewed and/or untidy. My go-to pen is the *Pilot G-2 Ultra Fine, 0.38mm*. Of course, this is a particular fine point, and many people's styles are too violent (quite literally) to use the pen without damaging the nib. \nIf you find yourself pressing into the paper relatively hard, then another solid alternative is the *Uni-Ball Roller, Micro 0.5 mm*. This one's a little more forgiving and easily delivers the ink to the paper with accuracy while maintaining a sleek hold.\n\n\n* **The Size:** it matters. The size of your letters, that is. If you took a pencil/pen right now, and tried to draw a straight line 6-inches across, it's more than likely to be a little crooked, perhaps even a small arc. Now, make a 1-inch line. Much straighter, right? This scaling applies to handwriting, or so I'd like to think. While I was \"tuning up\" my penmanship, I noticed that my characters could be much sharper/cleaner/neater if I wrote smaller.\n\n\n* **The Font:** C A P I T A L S. Entirely your preference, and I must admit that this took the longest to get used to (~3 weeks). However, keying off the previous point of sizing and my straight-lines analogy, capital letters made the most sense to me. Here's a quick snapshot of my handwriting from a whiteboard @ work: \n\n[Example](http://i.imgur.com/t0tgLXr.jpg)\n\n\nI hope this helps!",
"You can study the Palmer Method of Penmanship. There are drills and practices. \n[Palmer](http://palmermethod.com/drills/)",
"I have no expertise in this, but practice. Identify letters that are particularly sloppy as well as strings of letters that have been customized and build muscle memory on how to write them more clearly.\n\n[Or this thing](http://www.makeuseof.com/tag/quickly-improve-handwriting-fantastic-resources/)\n\nWorking on this shows you care about coworkers, good on ya.\n",
"I find that if I slow down and apply less pressure to the pen/pencil my penmanship drastically improves. Not sure if this will help everyone but it generally works for me.",
"Great suggestions from everyone thus far. I would also suggest taking a critical look at the message your handwriting style (or aspiring handwriting style) conveys since you are concerned about how others will perceive you in the workplace. \n\nWe all know what a high school girl's handwriting looks like, so ask yourself what your handwriting style says to others if they did not already know you. Choose a style or font to emulate that conveys the right message. ",
"Ever hear of ELI5? Well WLI5... Write as if you're writing to a five year old, and they can only understand letters that are perfect, and exact like in those alphabet posters.",
"- Doodle random words and sentences whenever you have free time and experiment with styles\n- Look for fonts that look nice to you and are simple enough to copy, and try to copy it\n- As mentioned by others, I think cursive does help with neater writing\n- Good pen/pencil with a nice grip or maybe even change your grip"
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"My high school final exams are 16 days away but I just can’t study. I live in India and my high school final exams are literally what break or make my college for the most part. But I just can’t sit down and study anymore. The moment I look at my textbooks I wanna do something else and just can’t focus. \n\nPlease help, my revision is still incomplete.",
"My high school final exams are 16 days away but I just can’t study. I live in India and my high school final exams are literally what break or make my college for the most part. But I just can’t sit down and study anymore. The moment I look at my textbooks I wanna do something else and just can’t focus. \n\nPlease help, my revision is still incomplete.",
"My high school final exams are 16 days away but I just can’t study. I live in India and my high school final exams are literally what break or make my college for the most part. But I just can’t sit down and study anymore. The moment I look at my textbooks I wanna do something else and just can’t focus. \n\nPlease help, my revision is still incomplete.",
"My high school final exams are 16 days away but I just can’t study. I live in India and my high school final exams are literally what break or make my college for the most part. But I just can’t sit down and study anymore. The moment I look at my textbooks I wanna do something else and just can’t focus. \n\nPlease help, my revision is still incomplete.",
"My high school final exams are 16 days away but I just can’t study. I live in India and my high school final exams are literally what break or make my college for the most part. But I just can’t sit down and study anymore. The moment I look at my textbooks I wanna do something else and just can’t focus. \n\nPlease help, my revision is still incomplete.",
"My high school final exams are 16 days away but I just can’t study. I live in India and my high school final exams are literally what break or make my college for the most part. But I just can’t sit down and study anymore. The moment I look at my textbooks I wanna do something else and just can’t focus. \n\nPlease help, my revision is still incomplete."
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"Break it into chunks. Write yourself a schedule for your day of what you are going to study and when. Make sure to incorporate time to relax.",
"Sometimes it helps to have a study partner. You can encourage and test each other and keep each other focused. Also, if you study to background music, that can help as well.",
"You might have adhd, in which case, there is nothing ive ever been able to overcome this challenge other than take the proper medication.",
"Exercise or go for a walk, gets me motivated to study and focus better. Making a schedule of what to study when also helps.",
"Dude, get it together and suck it up. If you don’t do this you won’t have an opportunity to make it right. Get your head out of your ass and hit the books.",
"Bribe yourself:\n\n\"I will revise maths for half an hour, then I can watch two videos,\" or whatever you do to relax. \n\nBreak your revision into small short periods: it's more effective than long sessions anyway"
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"My hunger is distracting me from doing anything productive, even though I eat a few meals a day. How do I stay productive despite feeling hungry? ",
"My hunger is distracting me from doing anything productive, even though I eat a few meals a day. How do I stay productive despite feeling hungry? ",
"My hunger is distracting me from doing anything productive, even though I eat a few meals a day. How do I stay productive despite feeling hungry? ",
"My hunger is distracting me from doing anything productive, even though I eat a few meals a day. How do I stay productive despite feeling hungry? ",
"My hunger is distracting me from doing anything productive, even though I eat a few meals a day. How do I stay productive despite feeling hungry? ",
"My hunger is distracting me from doing anything productive, even though I eat a few meals a day. How do I stay productive despite feeling hungry? ",
"My hunger is distracting me from doing anything productive, even though I eat a few meals a day. How do I stay productive despite feeling hungry? ",
"My hunger is distracting me from doing anything productive, even though I eat a few meals a day. How do I stay productive despite feeling hungry? ",
"My hunger is distracting me from doing anything productive, even though I eat a few meals a day. How do I stay productive despite feeling hungry? ",
"My hunger is distracting me from doing anything productive, even though I eat a few meals a day. How do I stay productive despite feeling hungry? ",
"My hunger is distracting me from doing anything productive, even though I eat a few meals a day. How do I stay productive despite feeling hungry? ",
"My hunger is distracting me from doing anything productive, even though I eat a few meals a day. How do I stay productive despite feeling hungry? "
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"Why are you hungry? Are you eating fewer calories to lose weight? \n\nPerhaps more protein at your meals, and have cheese sticks or hard-boiled eggs for snacks. Drink water and chew gum, too.\n\nI'm sure other people will have better ideas, but I'd start there.",
"I recommend lemon water in the morning. Is curves your appetite and makes you feel natural energy. Take a little container of plain unsalted almonds too, they can make a huge difference in your feeling for hunger by only eating a couple. I think it's impossible to over eat plain almonds so they're perfect. ",
"You want high fat (natural), low sugar snacks. They'll keep you full, they're good for your organs (especially your brain) and skin. So stuff like nuts and berries (I know berries have sugar, but natural sugar is better than anything else), hummus and carrots/cucumber etc, avocado, cheese. Don't be preoccupied with calories, it's grains and sugars that will make prohibit weight loss, and stop you feeling fullest for longer. Make a trail mix without biscuits (chocolate is ok in small quantities and the darker the better), that has nuts, seeds, dark chocolate and cheese. It may not sound good. But it's goooooood.",
"I assume you're dieting, I eat several pounds of vegetables a day (spinach, brocolli, cauliflower, brussels sprouts, NOT peas, corn, carrots and NOT juice) with vinaigrette and no oil. Doesn't entirely substitute for real food but it helps a lot. Also drink a lot of water even when you're not thirsty.",
"How long has this problem persisted? I have ADHD and I often find myself distracted by food, regardless of how much I've eaten, when I hadn't taken my medication. Off of my medication I easily fall prey to impulsive behaviors with immediate gratification (eating and choking the chicken).\n\nIf this is a constant problem, especially when these actions are not appropriate, you should consider factors such as mine. ",
"You need a good mix of proteins and carbs and you need to eat more meals a day. Eat every 2 to 3 hours but eat lesser portions.",
"What worked for me was saying to myself \"later\" rather than \"no\". \n\nDan Ariely's Predictably Irrational mentions that people have a huge aversion to having options taken away. \nAs soon as you say \"no food until dinner\" you become more fixated on your hunger, conversely by saying \"I'll eat when I'm really hungry and not just bored\" the awareness of hunger subsides. \n\n\nSurprisingly, even when you are aware that you are lying to yourself you still feel less hungry. \n\n\nsource: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Predictably_Irrational#The_Effect_of_Expectations ",
"Perhaps it is not hunger that is distracting you. I often think I am hungry and reach for food when actually I am bored or depressed. Consider if your perception of hunger is accurate. Does your stomach growl?",
"High volume, low calorie meals might help with that. You can eat more frequently without gaining weight that way.",
"High protein, high fat, low carb meals will keep you fuller longer. Snack-wise, air popped popcorn is great. You can keep eating forever for a couple hundred calories.\n\n\nCelery sticks with peanut butter is a fatty snack that should keep you full- just watch the sugar content of the peanut butter so you don't get that crash in a little while. \n\nI prefer to focus on filling meals then go with low cal snacks since when I snack it's usually habit, boredom, or just that hand to mouth activity as opposed to actual hunger. \n\n\nDrinking a full glass of water when you're hungry between meals is helpful. If you're still hungry in 20 minutes, have a snack. You'll fill up faster and stay hydrated to boot. ",
"Get a big container of peanuts. But be mindful of the calories. It is high fat, high protein, low cost, and quick. ",
"Eat foods that satiate - foods with much protein, and fat. The only carbs you should eat are *slow digesting ones* like vegetables.\n\nEating processed food and shitty carbs like bread just spikes your blood sugar, and makes you tired when it crashes in an hour or two.\n\nAlso, try this for a quick hunger killing pick-me-up: Coffee with a tablespoon of either butter or coconut oil in it. Quality fat and caffine in one drink."
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"How to pick avocados with small seeds. I just cut open an avocado that was almost all seed with the thinnest layer of flesh around it...and sometimes it's mostly flesh. ",
"How to pick avocados with small seeds. I just cut open an avocado that was almost all seed with the thinnest layer of flesh around it...and sometimes it's mostly flesh. ",
"How to pick avocados with small seeds. I just cut open an avocado that was almost all seed with the thinnest layer of flesh around it...and sometimes it's mostly flesh. ",
"How to pick avocados with small seeds. I just cut open an avocado that was almost all seed with the thinnest layer of flesh around it...and sometimes it's mostly flesh. ",
"How to pick avocados with small seeds. I just cut open an avocado that was almost all seed with the thinnest layer of flesh around it...and sometimes it's mostly flesh. ",
"How to pick avocados with small seeds. I just cut open an avocado that was almost all seed with the thinnest layer of flesh around it...and sometimes it's mostly flesh. ",
"How to pick avocados with small seeds. I just cut open an avocado that was almost all seed with the thinnest layer of flesh around it...and sometimes it's mostly flesh. ",
"How to pick avocados with small seeds. I just cut open an avocado that was almost all seed with the thinnest layer of flesh around it...and sometimes it's mostly flesh. "
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"Narrower avocados tend to have smaller seeds I've found on average, and fatter avocados have larger seeds.",
"As a person who grew up on an avocado orchard (organic) there is no way. The bigger the fruit the bigger the seed but it's just a gamble",
"i second that request. also how to pick an avocado that won't go rotten or get all stringy before getting ripe.",
"fuck seed size... I've discovered the 1 LPT of Avocados. Buy the bags of smaller avocados. When I get the large Avos, 75% of them are half bad, or fully rotten to shit. When I get the bag of 7 or 8 smaller avocados for 5 bucks, there is rarely one that's a little damaged. And the seeds are half the size. Win win. ",
"Not sure if this will help but I always have better luck with the \"small\" Haas avocados. \nSeems that a good 85% of the ones I get have a pit that is roughly the size of a large grape; sometimes even smaller. \nThe ratio of flesh to pit seems better with the small ones. \nJust my experience, though. \nAlso, I like to pick avocados that have just the slightest amount of give when I gently squeeze them. Keeping them in the refrigerator helps keep them from ripening very quickly.",
"The only way I've used is to grab the \"heavier than they look\" ones. Learned that from a Good Eats episode about avocados and so far I feel I tend to get more meat vs seed.",
"Step 1) Don't buy your avocados from a store that brings in various shipments of avocados from many farms all over the world, each of which will have their own genetics and growth and harvest histories.\n\nStep 2) Tour fifty or so avocado farms, testing avocados from each of them.\n\nStep 3) Only buy avocados from the best farm you find.\n\nStep 4) Repeat steps 2 and 3 each season, as local weather conditions may change the seed to flesh ratios of the avocados from your top farm.\n\nAlternate option: Before buying avocados at the store, buy one avocado and cut it in half. Then, if the test avocado doesn't look good, don't buy any that week.\n\n",
"Squeeze it. You know that the seeds are solid, the flesh is squidgy and you know the avocado's diameter. You should be able to make a fairly educated guess knowing those three key variables. It might take some time to get calibrated; I suggest taking a guess before you cut the thing open, this will help you set your sights as it were."
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"I'm emotional and I'm quite easily agitated/upsetted for long periods of time. Is there any trick for me to use to calm myself down more effectively? Now that school is starting my patience is running even lower with my family and my girlfriend, and I feel extreme amounts of guilt when I go off on them. Is there anything I can do?",
"I'm emotional and I'm quite easily agitated/upsetted for long periods of time. Is there any trick for me to use to calm myself down more effectively? Now that school is starting my patience is running even lower with my family and my girlfriend, and I feel extreme amounts of guilt when I go off on them. Is there anything I can do?",
"I'm emotional and I'm quite easily agitated/upsetted for long periods of time. Is there any trick for me to use to calm myself down more effectively? Now that school is starting my patience is running even lower with my family and my girlfriend, and I feel extreme amounts of guilt when I go off on them. Is there anything I can do?",
"I'm emotional and I'm quite easily agitated/upsetted for long periods of time. Is there any trick for me to use to calm myself down more effectively? Now that school is starting my patience is running even lower with my family and my girlfriend, and I feel extreme amounts of guilt when I go off on them. Is there anything I can do?",
"I'm emotional and I'm quite easily agitated/upsetted for long periods of time. Is there any trick for me to use to calm myself down more effectively? Now that school is starting my patience is running even lower with my family and my girlfriend, and I feel extreme amounts of guilt when I go off on them. Is there anything I can do?",
"I'm emotional and I'm quite easily agitated/upsetted for long periods of time. Is there any trick for me to use to calm myself down more effectively? Now that school is starting my patience is running even lower with my family and my girlfriend, and I feel extreme amounts of guilt when I go off on them. Is there anything I can do?",
"I'm emotional and I'm quite easily agitated/upsetted for long periods of time. Is there any trick for me to use to calm myself down more effectively? Now that school is starting my patience is running even lower with my family and my girlfriend, and I feel extreme amounts of guilt when I go off on them. Is there anything I can do?",
"I'm emotional and I'm quite easily agitated/upsetted for long periods of time. Is there any trick for me to use to calm myself down more effectively? Now that school is starting my patience is running even lower with my family and my girlfriend, and I feel extreme amounts of guilt when I go off on them. Is there anything I can do?"
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"I just used the fact that I knew I was overreacting to help myself. \n\nYou should control your emotions, not the other way around. ",
"I spent years struggling to balance classes, friends and family without running out of energy or losing patience with people constantly, and it wasn't until I figured out that it's actually part of my personality - specifically I'm an extreme introvert - that I found a way to work with it. Like if Thursday is a really heavy class day, I say no to spending time with friends after class and make an effort to get better rest that night. It means saying no to people sometimes, but once they figure out that me saying no today means I'll be a lot more fun this weekend, they tend to be okay with it.\n\nGetting a handle on your capacity for people, and learning to work with that rather than trying to struggle through is an enormous help.",
"As it was happening to me not so many years ago, I can tell you that your guilt for your behaviour is the fuel that sets the next anger-bomb. You have to break the cycle: find out what upsets you (for example you can be feeling hurt or neglected, or you just hate to see behaviors that you cannot accept in yourself) and simply apologize if you overreact. \n\nIf you know yourself and apologize, you will find that you don't \"need\" to be upset...",
"- Count to 10 in your head like so: \"1 Here comes the sun, 2 la da dee doo, 3 climb a tree, 4 1234, five honey in a hive, 6 kinda sounds like sex, 7 the bread is leaven, 8 let go of hate, 9 i'm feeling fine, 10 there was no sin.\" Or you can make up your own. It is just meant to distract you before coming back to the issue at hand.\n- Close your eyes, breathe in through your nose, focus on filling your stomach first, then your lungs. Sigh it out. Repeat.",
"There are some vitamins at my GNC that are to assist in lessening anxiety. \nWhen I'm mad... They do wonders! \nIt's kinda like taking a Xanax! ",
"My patience level is extremely low. I often fly into a rage at the drop of a hat, my mom gave me some Ativan and it calmed me way down, my mood and my tolerance for stupidity were much better. I have since ran out...sucks.",
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"Dump your girlfriend, or dump school. You can't do both. If you're a man and emotional, you need to deal with that. You need to find a way to control your behaviour and your thoughts. M"
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"What do you do with your car keys while swimming at the beach? As I live in Australia I go to the beach a lot, and when we go to the beach, everyone swims. I understand you can leave your phone and wallet in the car but what do I do with the keys? Can't take them in the water as the electric ones will break and I have no pockets and I don't want to leave them in my bag because if they get stolen, the Thief can walk up and down the beach pressing the button till he sees lights flash. ",
"What do you do with your car keys while swimming at the beach? As I live in Australia I go to the beach a lot, and when we go to the beach, everyone swims. I understand you can leave your phone and wallet in the car but what do I do with the keys? Can't take them in the water as the electric ones will break and I have no pockets and I don't want to leave them in my bag because if they get stolen, the Thief can walk up and down the beach pressing the button till he sees lights flash. ",
"What do you do with your car keys while swimming at the beach? As I live in Australia I go to the beach a lot, and when we go to the beach, everyone swims. I understand you can leave your phone and wallet in the car but what do I do with the keys? Can't take them in the water as the electric ones will break and I have no pockets and I don't want to leave them in my bag because if they get stolen, the Thief can walk up and down the beach pressing the button till he sees lights flash. ",
"What do you do with your car keys while swimming at the beach? As I live in Australia I go to the beach a lot, and when we go to the beach, everyone swims. I understand you can leave your phone and wallet in the car but what do I do with the keys? Can't take them in the water as the electric ones will break and I have no pockets and I don't want to leave them in my bag because if they get stolen, the Thief can walk up and down the beach pressing the button till he sees lights flash. ",
"What do you do with your car keys while swimming at the beach? As I live in Australia I go to the beach a lot, and when we go to the beach, everyone swims. I understand you can leave your phone and wallet in the car but what do I do with the keys? Can't take them in the water as the electric ones will break and I have no pockets and I don't want to leave them in my bag because if they get stolen, the Thief can walk up and down the beach pressing the button till he sees lights flash. ",
"What do you do with your car keys while swimming at the beach? As I live in Australia I go to the beach a lot, and when we go to the beach, everyone swims. I understand you can leave your phone and wallet in the car but what do I do with the keys? Can't take them in the water as the electric ones will break and I have no pockets and I don't want to leave them in my bag because if they get stolen, the Thief can walk up and down the beach pressing the button till he sees lights flash. ",
"What do you do with your car keys while swimming at the beach? As I live in Australia I go to the beach a lot, and when we go to the beach, everyone swims. I understand you can leave your phone and wallet in the car but what do I do with the keys? Can't take them in the water as the electric ones will break and I have no pockets and I don't want to leave them in my bag because if they get stolen, the Thief can walk up and down the beach pressing the button till he sees lights flash. ",
"What do you do with your car keys while swimming at the beach? As I live in Australia I go to the beach a lot, and when we go to the beach, everyone swims. I understand you can leave your phone and wallet in the car but what do I do with the keys? Can't take them in the water as the electric ones will break and I have no pockets and I don't want to leave them in my bag because if they get stolen, the Thief can walk up and down the beach pressing the button till he sees lights flash. ",
"What do you do with your car keys while swimming at the beach? As I live in Australia I go to the beach a lot, and when we go to the beach, everyone swims. I understand you can leave your phone and wallet in the car but what do I do with the keys? Can't take them in the water as the electric ones will break and I have no pockets and I don't want to leave them in my bag because if they get stolen, the Thief can walk up and down the beach pressing the button till he sees lights flash. ",
"What do you do with your car keys while swimming at the beach? As I live in Australia I go to the beach a lot, and when we go to the beach, everyone swims. I understand you can leave your phone and wallet in the car but what do I do with the keys? Can't take them in the water as the electric ones will break and I have no pockets and I don't want to leave them in my bag because if they get stolen, the Thief can walk up and down the beach pressing the button till he sees lights flash. ",
"What do you do with your car keys while swimming at the beach? As I live in Australia I go to the beach a lot, and when we go to the beach, everyone swims. I understand you can leave your phone and wallet in the car but what do I do with the keys? Can't take them in the water as the electric ones will break and I have no pockets and I don't want to leave them in my bag because if they get stolen, the Thief can walk up and down the beach pressing the button till he sees lights flash. "
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"Take an empty sunscreen bottle, take the top off and hide your valuables in there. No thug is walking around the beach saying \"c'mon, c'mon, c'mon... Yes! Bingo! Sunscreen! Poor suckers gonna burn now! Haha!\"",
"Request a non electric key for your car from your dealer. Even some key shops will make you a copy. Then take that non-electric version with you to the beach. You'd have to manually open your car but you can take the key with you in the water or leave it with your bag (or make 2 and do both).\n",
"Buy one of these [surflocks](http://www.surflock.com.au/) I use mine all the time when surfing, I am in Sydney and have never had an issue with it",
"I hike a lot and usually hang the keys on the front brake line via carabiner. No need to take them with me and they are always there in case someone in the party needs back into the car ahead of time. ",
"I use a [dry box](http://www.scuba.com/scuba-gear-90/030131/Innovative-Waterproof-Dry-Box-1000.html) similar to this. Enough to carry my car keys, driver's license, ATM card, and a little cash.",
"I got a Real Estate lockbox, the kind they hang on the front door with a key in it. Loop the shackle around a bumper strut, or somewhere under the hood, and put the key in it. Some models have room for a couple cr",
"generally we put it under the wheelbase on top of the tire. It's kind of an open secret in surf culture.",
"I always put my key on top of the drivers side tire. Probably not the most efficient but I figure crooks are stupid and it always works for me. ",
"This entire thread is why I used to love my Ford. Having the keyless entry pa on the driver's side door meant I could go anywhere I wanted to with as much (or little) in my pockets as I desired. \n\nFor those of us that do not drive a Ford, I'm going to second the recommendation of the \"valet\" key. That's what we have for our cars in my house. ",
"Left them in my shorts pocket, then proceeded to take an hour long swim.\n\nThen later that night (while camping), at 3am, the key-fob starts working/going nuts and constantly sends the \"alarm\" signal to the car, waking up the entire camp-ground, and we had to disconnect the battery to get it to stop.",
"Google search 'magnetic key holder'. Will attach to your car, under your wheel well, or under carriage. Simple fix."
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"Solutions for broken zipper fly on jeans Almost every pair of jeans that I currently own has a zipper fly that will not stay up. I guess they are mostly just worn out and the zipper no longer catches at the top. Other than this, the jeans are still good. Does anybody have any tips for how to keep a zipper up?",
"Solutions for broken zipper fly on jeans Almost every pair of jeans that I currently own has a zipper fly that will not stay up. I guess they are mostly just worn out and the zipper no longer catches at the top. Other than this, the jeans are still good. Does anybody have any tips for how to keep a zipper up?",
"Solutions for broken zipper fly on jeans Almost every pair of jeans that I currently own has a zipper fly that will not stay up. I guess they are mostly just worn out and the zipper no longer catches at the top. Other than this, the jeans are still good. Does anybody have any tips for how to keep a zipper up?",
"Solutions for broken zipper fly on jeans Almost every pair of jeans that I currently own has a zipper fly that will not stay up. I guess they are mostly just worn out and the zipper no longer catches at the top. Other than this, the jeans are still good. Does anybody have any tips for how to keep a zipper up?",
"Solutions for broken zipper fly on jeans Almost every pair of jeans that I currently own has a zipper fly that will not stay up. I guess they are mostly just worn out and the zipper no longer catches at the top. Other than this, the jeans are still good. Does anybody have any tips for how to keep a zipper up?",
"Solutions for broken zipper fly on jeans Almost every pair of jeans that I currently own has a zipper fly that will not stay up. I guess they are mostly just worn out and the zipper no longer catches at the top. Other than this, the jeans are still good. Does anybody have any tips for how to keep a zipper up?"
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"Attache a [key ring](http://images.orgill.com/200x200/3435005.jpg) to the hole in your zipper, zip up and put loop around button, button up pants and you're good to go!\n",
"tie a string through the zipper pull and make a loop. slip the loop over the button on the jeans before you fasten it. ",
"Zippers are pretty hardy little things.. I've only ever had problems with one not staying up. You may be doing something wrong. Are you flipping the zipper down after you zip up? In the down position there's a little nub that catches to prevent the zipper from moving.",
"Usually I just spray hair spray on the zipper and it helps loose zippers stay up. You can give the zipper a light pinch with some pliers, but I've over squeezed a couple of times and have been unsuccessful at reversing it.",
"Immediate solution, safety pin.\n\nTemporary solutions involving hairspray or pliers might just sort you out.\n\nPermanent, replace them with buttons as mentioned below or take them to your local dressmaker, for a few bucks you'll get a nice new zipper.\n\n",
"Here is another solution from [lifehacker](http://lifehacker.com/5866892/convert-a-jean-zipper-into-a-button-fly). Just install buttons and remove the zipper. You can buy good looking replacement buttons I just did a google search for them and got tons of hits. \nIt's a more permanent solution and looks better."
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"how to make a slow day at work go by quickly? I have three hours left with no side work, nothing to clean, nothing to do.",
"how to make a slow day at work go by quickly? I have three hours left with no side work, nothing to clean, nothing to do.",
"how to make a slow day at work go by quickly? I have three hours left with no side work, nothing to clean, nothing to do.",
"how to make a slow day at work go by quickly? I have three hours left with no side work, nothing to clean, nothing to do."
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"Reddit, obviously. But honestly, I use it in my free time to read up on subjects I like to learn about. Aside from that, try and learn as much as you can about your job, your organization, your industry, and one day, you'll run that bitch.",
"If your work doesn't mind earphones I always pop in an audio book (down loaded to my phone). Otherwise I'd find something useful to do otherwise your manager will find something for you. I promise it won't be as fun as what ever you come up with .",
"My office mates and I have recently started doing very short exercises every hour. Something like 10 pushups, or hold a plank for 1 minute. #1 its fun when done in a group, #2 is breaks up the day nicely, #3 time will seem to go much faster, its amazing how fast time can go when you're faced with the prospect of having to work out AGAIN. #4 while not a perfect replacement for a normal workout, it has seemed to make us all feel better through the day, and certainly counteracts sitting all day.",
"Make a list of funny movie quotes, or overrated songs, or common sayings that you disagree with. Every time you think of one, just add it on. The process of trying to think of things was always engaging to me. I would make lists of what to talk about into the tape recorder when I got home. Now I have \"tape diaries\" going all the way back to 1992.\n\n"
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"How to make a convincing appeal letter to your university/college Whether this includes withdrawal from a late course or academic suspension. Besides the actual form a letter is required for universities, (at least the ones I checked). To people that have worked at college and university's/college's these things what would make a convincing appeal letter.",
"How to make a convincing appeal letter to your university/college Whether this includes withdrawal from a late course or academic suspension. Besides the actual form a letter is required for universities, (at least the ones I checked). To people that have worked at college and university's/college's these things what would make a convincing appeal letter."
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"I've worked as a university administrator for 11+ years and have reviewed academic suspension appeals. The most important element is to acknowledge your responsibility for the situation. Don't play the blame game. It's petty and indicates immaturity. Instead, humble yourself and admit your faults. If you missed the withdraw date because you forgot, admit it. If you had a bad semester because you partied too much and studied too little, admit it.\n\nThe second most important element is to include your plan for correcting the issue. If your grades are poor, include what you are going to do differently to be more successful in your courses.\n\nThose two elements are basically all that's needed in most cases. Keep is short, simple, and truthful. ",
"I think most times whenever you need to plead your case, try as hard as you can to do it in person. It shows that you really care and it is much harder for people to be unforgiving to a person's face.\n\nMake sure you claim your responsibility though."
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"How to not wake up because I have to pee during the night? The obvious answer would be \"drink less water\", but I'm thirsty and drink A LOT of water, both during the day and before bed. If I try not drinking water before going to bed, I'll have a hard time falling asleep because I'll be thirsty. \n(Also, I don't have diabetes, and I've actually measured how much \"content\" there is when I pee, and it's \"normal\"/average)",
"How to not wake up because I have to pee during the night? The obvious answer would be \"drink less water\", but I'm thirsty and drink A LOT of water, both during the day and before bed. If I try not drinking water before going to bed, I'll have a hard time falling asleep because I'll be thirsty. \n(Also, I don't have diabetes, and I've actually measured how much \"content\" there is when I pee, and it's \"normal\"/average)",
"How to not wake up because I have to pee during the night? The obvious answer would be \"drink less water\", but I'm thirsty and drink A LOT of water, both during the day and before bed. If I try not drinking water before going to bed, I'll have a hard time falling asleep because I'll be thirsty. \n(Also, I don't have diabetes, and I've actually measured how much \"content\" there is when I pee, and it's \"normal\"/average)"
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"drink more during the day, but set yourself a cut off, for example 9 o clock and don't drink more after that. you might have a little drink, but more to just wet your mouth. \nthen just before you get into bed go sit on the toilet for 5 or 10 mins. you'll pee a bit, but sit and relax, play with your phone or whatever, you'll probably go a bit more. \n",
"I think the only way you're gonna accomplish this is to wear a diaper to bed, and even then it will probably take a while because your body is trained not to wet the bed. \n\nBefore there were alarm clocks, drinking a lot of water before going to bed was a fairly common technique of waking up early. You're trying to fight nature. ",
"Your extreme thirst could be a symptom of underlying medical problems and your urine output is not a definitive way to determine a diabetes diagnosis. Have you checked with your doctor? Some meds/supplements/vitamins cause dry-mouth, and a dentist can help you find solutions to this and help you maintain your dental health, as well. Dry mouth (which you could be mistaking for thirst) is terrible for your teeth and gums and makes your breath bad, too. "
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"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?",
"Tips on smelling nice without perfume? So whenever I try to google ways to smell nice without perfume, I just get ways to combine oils to create your own perfume. But what are some other methods I could try?\n\nIn 'Eleanor & Park' by Rainbow Rowell, one of the characters' mother puts a drop of vanilla behind each ear. Is that a real thing?"
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"Bathe. Use deodorant. The rest will take care of itself.\n\nYou realize that perfume is basically scented alcohol so a drop of vanilla (vanilla extract in alcohol) is basically perfume.\n\nSo, find a perfume that is very lightly scented if you want one. I recommend rubbing a piece of smoked bacon behind each ear. Drives us men crazy.",
"There's a trick my friend told me recently that may be relevant here, when out and about if you spot lavender or some other fragrant flower growing, put a tiny bit in each pocket. That way every time you put your hands in your pockets they come out fragrant. Particularly good for smokers this. ",
"-Various hair products can help, sometimes a certain shampoo or pomade can offer up a slight hint of scent. -I've heard that applying a couple drops of essential oil to your hair dryer filter will infuse a subtle scent during use, but I haven't personally tried this.\n-Johnson & Johnson Baby oil and/or lotion. It's subtle enough that people will notice you smell good without being able to necessarily pinpoint as to why. Apply it in or after your shower.",
"I'm going to assume that you are a female. Even if not, most of this is the same both ways.\n\nBasically, for most men (whether they know it or not) the most attractive smell in the world is the natural smell of a clean healthy woman.\n\nMake sure that you wear clean clothes that have been hung in your room over night to let any residual dust, mildew, or perfumed detergent/fabric softener scent to dissipate.\n\nWash yourself completely. If you feel that you smell bad make sure that you wash once with soap, then rinse and wash again with soap in the problem areas (arm pits, butt crack, crotch, underboob, etc) then you can rinse and wash one more time with a body bar to restore your moisture. Make sure you wash your hair too. Women tend to have long hair and unless you use a strong shampoo sometimes oils and dirt can get trapped in there. Washing your hair 2 or 3 times in a row will usually work. When I had long hair I would wash once with a strong shampoo that would remove the oils then wash again with a moisturizing shampoo to make the hair look luxurious.\n\nYou can also consider waxing or shaving body hair in the armpits and crotch since they can trap perspiration and give a place for bacteria to grow and stink.\n\nYou don't need to put any additional scents on. If you're clean enough and he's close enough he'll smell your natural pheromones.\n\nThis could be a good or bad thing. There is some research that suggests that men and women can tell something about their genetic compatibility based on their pheromones.* Women are also attracted to the smell of a man who would be a good genetic match for procreation, and men are attracted by the scent of a woman on her fertile period.*\n\nSo, just your natural smells if you are healthy will be good enough if you are interested in getting close with someone. If you don't smell good, like fishy or bready smells coming from your crotch see a Gynecologist, you probably have an infection and should get it fixed.\n\nHowever, if you want to smell nice, but don't like the smells of most perfumes (I don't like the smell of 99% of perfumes out there) but you do like the smell of something like roses, or vanilla, or cocoa, then you can make your own \"perfumes\" by diluting vanilla extract, rose water, or cocoa oil in 91% isopropyl alcohol.\n\n\n*(Pregnant women, and those on the pill like the smell of pheromones of men who are closely related to them or smell like they are. Fertile women who are not pregnant like the smell of men genetically different from themselves. If I remember correctly the similar pheromones have something to do with safety, and the different pheromones have to do with obtaining a large array of genetic antibodies for the child through procreation. Further, from the male perspective we're just looking for a woman to impregnate, so men can smell your fertility, so you don't want to cover that up if you're looking for that kind of relationship.)\n\n",
"Drink lots of water, and eat lots of fruits and vegetables and lean meats. Avoid junk food, and bonus points if you workout. Honestly being healthy in general will make your body smell better. My girlfriend tells me I smell good even after I get home from the gym. Oddly enough...the days that I have forgotten to wear deoderant she mentions it more. When I told her that, she said that I never stink, but I have, \"a sexy musky smell\" and that its manley. Its not strong. Its way subtle. She always tells me I smell good when I'm not wearing any kind of scented anything. When I ask, she says, \"you just smell like you\", and buries her head in my chest. This all leads me to believe that a healthy lifestyle will lead to a healthier body in more areas than you think.",
"Fabric softener worked better than cologne in my personal experience. Girls were much more willing to get close to bounty than CK",
"Vanilla behind the ears was a real thing women did when they could not afford perfume. I recall my grandmother telling me they did that during the Great Depression.\n\n",
"Baby powder.\nL'ocitainne (the shop. Excuse spelling) sells stuff that doesnt have the chemical smell of perfume. ",
"I feel like if you don't already habitually incorporate shampoo/aftershave/bodylotions/shower gels into your bath-time routine, the easiest thing you can do is change your laundry soap. \n\nInstead of trying to change the way your hair or skin smells, try changing the way your clothes and bedroom smells. The incense idea -barring any incendiary mishaps, is actually a pretty good one. Changing the way your room smells will leave a lingering effect on you, your hair, and your clothes, plus it's been proven to make for a more relaxing environment for sleep.\n\nOr alternatively, you can change the laundry soap you use. That's pretty straightforward and inexpensive. If you want to take it up a notch, buy a fancy bar of soap you like (they say the quality ones are French, but that preconception can always be pretty easily exploited so just use your nose) and put it wherever you store your clothes (it works best with a drawer, I think) to make your wardrobe smell like a classy gentleman (assuming OP is male). \n\nIn any case, whatever you do, please please PLEASE do not resort to the horribly intense smells of AXE products. Or anything overwhelmingly strong, for that matter. ",
"Here are my top tips. \n\n1. Bathe. But more specifically, wash your armpits. Sometimes, soap or shower gell will not do. I've found that shampoo is best for cleaning the armpits. It's much better at getting rid of the oils.\n\n2. Use deodorant. You don't necessarily need anti-perspirant, but deodorant is a must.\n\n3. Wash your clothes and dry them promptly. If you let wet clothes linger in the washer, they will smell bad. I use vinegar in my wash to help kill odors.",
"As a male, I find the scents I am most attracted to in a woman are generally not perfumes at all, but rather lotions. Some women just naturally smell good, and this is a very attractive quality. Some women don't smell very good at all and would be better off with perfume.\n\nI am never sure of the right way to ask a woman what lotion she wears but I know of a few women who I am just dying to ask. Not to try to get in their pants, mind, if I wanted to do that I'd tell them that (Im generally worried they might think I was coming on to them if I asked about something personal like that), but just because they smell so damn *good*. Scent is a very attractive quality, one often overlooked by females in my opinion.",
"have good hygiene\n\npeople tell me i smell nice sometimes when i don't even wear deodorant. I am a dude, but I feel like being physically fit might have something to do with it\n\njust clean thoroughly when you shower and eat well and be fit and i can't see how you'd smell bad\n\n",
"[There's a song already written on the topic that tells you everything that you need to know](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2uceKqK7xYs)",
"When I use hair serum, I add a couple of drops of essential oils. I like lavendar as it's envigorating, as well as grapefruit and sandalwood or bergamot for relaxation.",
"Technically anything scented you add is basically a perfume--by selling nice do you mean not smelling bad, or do you mean using perfumes in different ways other than spraying something alcohol-based on your body? \n\n\nThe easiest thing is to have a nice-smelling hand cream on you, easy touch-up plus you moisturize your hands. IMO with scents less is ALWAYS more, so avoid places like Bath and Body Works because most of the fragrances (lotions, etc) are ridiculously overpowering and sickly sweet. I had coworkers who used B&BW lotions, you could smell them a mile away and it's not pleasant having to breathe it for the next hour. \n\n\nHonestly, a good smelling body lotion is your best bet. But again, something faint and pleasant. \n\nFragrant shampoos are great--a nice faint, distributed scent. I actually really liked B&BW signature shampoos, but I haven't seen them in store in ages. I lieuof that i sometimes give a quick spray of perfume to my hair, so I don't have to directly smell it, and I can put it away when my hair is up. \n\n\n",
"I generally don't like the smell of deodorants and hate the idea of putting chemicals under my armpits everyday. A few years ago my girlfriend turned me on to salt crystals to control body odor. There are two main types, rock salt that is the shape of a normal deodorant which you apply before drying your underarms when getting out of the shower, and a liquid salt solution that comes in the same packaging as roll-on deodorant. The salt solution inhibits the ability for the bacteria responsible for body odor to grow. It took a few days to change the ph under my arms enough to kill all the bacteria, so you may want to start using it over the weekend. I have been using only salt for a couple years now and smell fresh no matter how much I sweat.",
"Assuming you seriously mean \"no added scents at all\" then there is only:\n\n* Hygiene\n* Diet\n* Don't smoke\n\nBacteria lives on your skin and feeds on dead skin cells, sebum and dust and other stuff that sticks to your skin. Some of these bacteria cause bad BO. Make sure you're always squeaky clean and dry. Apply antibacterial deodorant or antiperspirant to extra damp places. Don't use too much soap and don't wash in very hot water, it strips the natural layer of oils on your skin and hair. This forces your sebaceous glands to produce more sebum to compensate, sometimes causing overproduction and oily skin with accompanying increased bacterial growth.\n\nYour diet affects your natural body odour, and not just your breath. Eat fresh and clean. Stay hydrated.",
"You can put oils behind the ears like suggested in the book just be very careful with some scents, such as peppermint and eucalyptus, which shouldnt be applied directly to skin(need to be diluted in water) or else it may burn your skin. \n\n\nOther simple ones is getting bodywash/shampoo with nice strong smells, or body mists, which are not as strong as perfumes, so they are very subtle.\n\n\nThe trick is not really to look for things to smell nice, but look for things to not smell bad, such as good deodorants, some ppl make their own, with baking soda and coconut oil(and something else but I forgot) others just dust baking soda directly on their armpits, but I suggest you research more about it before using it on yourself :D",
"I sometimes tend to use too much (men's fragrance). It makes me sneezy and stuffs my nose. I tend to use a light anti-perspirant now under the arms and then a few presses of a fragrance behind the neck and then gently rub it in. You can also use a fragrance on your elbow joints (between your bicep and forearm) - because you bend your arm continuously throughout the day, the aromas will continue to release throughout the day.\n\nOne thing you can do is get the stick deodorant anti-perspirant. These are much better IMO but run out quicker.",
"I have this organic cream that smells really nice of honey, chamomile and hazelnuts. \nI'll apply a little to my face, neck and arms whenever I really want to smell good. It smells so nice that I always get the munchies by having it on.\n",
"I enjoy using scented body lotion after showers. It's nice for your skin, and it smells good without being overpowering. Also, body sprays/mists are a nice, refreshing-- but again, not powerful scent. I usually lightly spray my hair with body mists rather than on my skin/clothes, though I can't quite articulate why I prefer doing that.",
"I don't use perfume or antiperspirants. I've been told in have a nice natural scent.\n\nI shower daily making sure underarms and crotch areas are cleaned properly. I don't care for really stinky body wash. Any basic soap will work. Rinse well especially around genital area, as soap can be irritating\n\nI also thing part of it is diet. I have one friend who has the worst bo. She smells like rancid chicken fat because her family eats massive amounts of chicken and fried foods -- and her body chemistry doesn't get rid of those compounds well. Fruits and veggies tend to give better body odor. I read somewhere that supposedly a lot of pineapple will make a woman's lady parts taste/smell better, but I can't say for sure as I've never gotten that close to another woman's vagina.\n\n The supplements or medications you take also affect your smell. I'm not suggesting you take a medication just to change your smell. But for example for the last two months I've been on a supplement called fenugreek which has a side effect of making one smell like pancakes (maple syrup). ",
"Honestly if you just bathe regularly and wear deodorant you'll be fine. I havent worn perfume or cologne a day in my life and often get complemented on my scent. ",
"Essential oil or real vanilla extract is great, it stays on your skin all day and sort of reactivates as your body warms up (when you get sweaty, hot, nervous, temp changes). It comes in a million scents and different prices. You can get your basics, or you can get organic, etc. Different scents are different prices--lavender is pretty cheap but lemongrass or sandalwood might be more suited to some. As you collect more scents, you can change it up by mixing scents. ",
"Depends if by perfume you mean all fragrance, or just perfume. If the former just be clean and lower your expectations of what a person should smell like. If the latter, again be clean, wear deodorant, scented moisturizers are nice, the Body Shop's body butters are nice and don't smell too strongly. ",
"Can I ask why? I mean technically everything you're going to put on that has a manufactured smell is like perfume. Sure, you can use a perfumed deodorant or a perfumed shampoo, but what's the point of avoiding perfume then? Even your vanilla trick is, in a way, a perfume - just not marketed/sold as such.\n\nI do understand there are reasons for which you might want to avoid perfumes - I'm allergic to many, for instance. But then, I'm also allergic to those perfumes if they're in shampoos or other products, so I just test all that stuff if I want to switch. ",
"Bathe with a body wash. Generally they seem to have scents that after some uses begin to stick on you.",
"Basic good hygiene is all you really need. \n\nDeodorant is helpful. If you are a particularly sweaty person some talc powder/baby powder in your sweatiest spots where a deodorant is impracticable should help as well. If you have bad body odors beyond that, even while showering and bathing regularly, brushing your teeth, etc. you should see a doctor, there are certain diseases that can cause bad body odor that you may want to talk to them about. ",
"Argan oil! It's wonderful for your hair, and smells amazing. I'm a big fan of organix brand. Makes it all sleek and shiny and literally mends split ends. I used to wear perfume but now I just spray my hair with that and I'm set!",
"My tip? Grab a dryer sheet (the kind you throw in to make your clothes smell fresh in the dryer). Add water and wipe your neck, arms, and cloths with it.\n\nYou will always smell like fresh laundry. Nobody hates the smell of fresh laundry. Perfumes/Colognes/Flower Scents/Food Scents are hit or miss on whether the oder is offensive or grand to the person smelling you. But NOBODY will be mad if is smell like you JUST washed your clothes and put them on.",
"Go to bath and body works and pick out a scent that you like and then buy the body wash, the lotion and the after shower splash. Use the all in succsesions and you'll smell like a dream",
"Girls have always told me I smell nice. Take daily showers, use strong/manly shower gel/shampoo, wear deodorant, use face wash in the shower, use strong liquid aftershave, use pomade/gel that smells nice, apply cologne to wrists+behind ears+neck.\n\nOh and if you smoke, you're a lost cause."
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"Thick nail polish, liquid latex, or citadel paints. Always plain solids or clear for all three. I've tried each with varying degrees of success. Try filing the metal first to give the stuff some scratches to stick to. Just brush it on, wait for it to dry, and you're good to go.",
"Same problem here. Takes FOR EVER to heal too. I wrapped mine in duct tape because clear nail polish flaked off. I finally found a plastic belt buckle with a canvas belt material. Not the classiest look but it kept my pants from falling down. "
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"Auto insurance I recently bought a new car, and although I did quite a bit of research on the purchase I didn’t realize the car has an reputation for being a little zippy. I’ve been looking at insurance options and everything is more than I’m able to pay at the moment. Anyone have any tips or thoughts on how to reduce my insurance payments?",
"Auto insurance I recently bought a new car, and although I did quite a bit of research on the purchase I didn’t realize the car has an reputation for being a little zippy. I’ve been looking at insurance options and everything is more than I’m able to pay at the moment. Anyone have any tips or thoughts on how to reduce my insurance payments?",
"Auto insurance I recently bought a new car, and although I did quite a bit of research on the purchase I didn’t realize the car has an reputation for being a little zippy. I’ve been looking at insurance options and everything is more than I’m able to pay at the moment. Anyone have any tips or thoughts on how to reduce my insurance payments?"
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"Please clarify the \"a little zippy\"? Also, how are you and how is your driving history? Those are the biggest factors",
"See if the company you with fit has benefits with an auto insurance company. Also see any home/renters insurance through your company as well. Many employers have benefits that they forget to tell you about.",
"Ask the insurance companies directly. There are many ways they can lower your rates. If you are a safe driver and need to have full coverage, raise your deductibles. Higher deductibles mean lower rates. There's also many discounts for various things that can lower your rate. Short work commute, college, employment are examples"
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"How to cut your fingernails without them bouncing all over the place Been around on this world a little over 20 years and I've still never figured out how to cut my nails without having to pick up some scraps from the ground afterwards",
"How to cut your fingernails without them bouncing all over the place Been around on this world a little over 20 years and I've still never figured out how to cut my nails without having to pick up some scraps from the ground afterwards",
"How to cut your fingernails without them bouncing all over the place Been around on this world a little over 20 years and I've still never figured out how to cut my nails without having to pick up some scraps from the ground afterwards",
"How to cut your fingernails without them bouncing all over the place Been around on this world a little over 20 years and I've still never figured out how to cut my nails without having to pick up some scraps from the ground afterwards",
"How to cut your fingernails without them bouncing all over the place Been around on this world a little over 20 years and I've still never figured out how to cut my nails without having to pick up some scraps from the ground afterwards"
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"They actually sell nail clippers that are encased in a soft plastic so when you clip they stay inside the clippers. You sometimes have to bang on them a bit to get all the old nails out but very rarely does a stray nail escape while clipping. \n\n",
"After a bath or shower. Cut the sideds to almost half way en then the middel part. The cut off will stay in the clipper and you can put it down. ",
"All you have to do is wet the fingernail clipper with water before using it then clip your nails. I guarantee that they won't fly across the room! I do this all the time and couldn't believe how easy it would have been had I known earlier!",
"I clip my nails inside a plastic grocery bag (the regular kind, nothing fancy). So I keep my hand/foot inside the bag and clip in the bag. Works perfectly!",
"Gain enough dexterity on the rest of your fingers to keep the nails there in the process so they can just be picked up. That's how I do it."
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"Studying Well my exams are coming up, and tho I've always being able to get okay grades with just reading, I want to have a better grade this time.\nSo what's the best way to study?",
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"Studying Well my exams are coming up, and tho I've always being able to get okay grades with just reading, I want to have a better grade this time.\nSo what's the best way to study?",
"Studying Well my exams are coming up, and tho I've always being able to get okay grades with just reading, I want to have a better grade this time.\nSo what's the best way to study?",
"Studying Well my exams are coming up, and tho I've always being able to get okay grades with just reading, I want to have a better grade this time.\nSo what's the best way to study?",
"Studying Well my exams are coming up, and tho I've always being able to get okay grades with just reading, I want to have a better grade this time.\nSo what's the best way to study?",
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"Studying Well my exams are coming up, and tho I've always being able to get okay grades with just reading, I want to have a better grade this time.\nSo what's the best way to study?",
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"Get off the internet. Seriously, if you need your computer for music/notes/etc turn off your internet connection. \n\nOtherwise studying is really dependent on how you learn and what the subject is.\n\nI always studied by teaching so after reviewing my notes a few times I'd get together with some people in my class and lead a study session. If I could explain it to them and answer their questions then I knew I understood it. If I was being tripped up we'd talk about it together and then I'd review more later. The group benefited too by being able to review and ask questions.",
"The most important thing is to remain actively engaged with the material, rather than reading passively as you would with a novel. \n \nIt might sound obvious, but note-taking is possibly the best tool available to you that can help you to stay engaged. It's very easy to think that just reading something is good enough, or that writing down *everything* is the right thing to do. We've all fallen into both of those traps before, and our grades suffered for it. \n \nWhat I would recommend is to skim-read a short section (first and last sentences per paragraph), maybe a few paragraphs or pages, whatever seems appropriate for you and for the material, and then briefly summarise it in your own words. Then go back and read it properly, and write another summary, this time adding in any details that you think are important. \n \nThe idea is to only try to work with small chunks of material at a time, but to absorb them properly, reproducing the material in your own words while it's still fresh in your mind. It's likely to be more useful for arts and humanities subjects, but it can help get your head around scientific concepts as well. \n \nBut given that you're just coming up to your exams, you may not have time to go through all your material this way. It's probably best used as a way of learning something in the first place, so that when it comes to revision, your notes act as a more powerful memory jogger to help you recall the original material. \n \nEither way, I definitely recommend trying to write a brief summary after doing a little reading. If nothing else, it should focus you more on what you're reading.",
"Two general tips:\n\n1--Don't just turn off your internet connection/phone, get away from them. Leave your house or apartment and go find someplace quiet to study whether it is the library, a study room, coffee shop, etc. Unless you absolutely need any of them, don't bring any of your internet-connecting devices with you. Personally, I tried the \"just turn it off\" method with the internet when I studied and it just doesn't work because it's right there in front of me the instant I want a distraction. Leaving with only my study materials and going to a location where all I had was my work made it impossible to procrastinate because I had nothing with me that I could use as a distraction.\n\n2--I read below your comment that you have to learn every word exactly how they are written (definitions, I'm assuming). If flashcards don't work, or you just generally need to memorize something verbatim, this trick worked great for me in HS when I acted in plays: break up the material into manageable chunks (either a few paragraphs or a single page). This will vary based on whatever it is you are studying. Starting with the first 1-2 sentences of whatever you are memorizing, read them out loud (or mouth the words if you can't speak loudly wherever you are) a few times until you've got them down. Then, cover up the lines and say them 3-4 times from memory--if you mess up, correct yourself and start the 3-4 times over. Then, add the next sentence, reading it out loud a couple times until you've got it down. Cover up your paper again, and then repeat ALL of what you have memorized 2-3 times, starting from the beginning (so, at this point, you should be repeating the first 2-3 sentences). Keep doing this, adding one sentence at a time until you've gotten to the end of your first 'chunk'. Then repeat the entire first part from memory 2-3 times and start the process over with the next chunk. When you've completed the second (or third, fourth, etc.) parts, go back and repeat the entire thing over from memory...be sure to correct yourself and start over if you mess up.\n\nI have learned entire 8-10 minute speeches/monologues this way in just a few short hours. I find that both the constant repetition AND saying it out loud not only help me memorize things faster, but also make them easier to recall later on. Hope that helps!",
"Honestly, it's something you have to practice. Studying and being able to concentrate over a period of time is a habit you have to build up to. You can't go from being a slacker to a good study-er overnight. So start now! Don't wait till a few days before your exams. \n\nTry not to study with music, because your environment will be associated with the material. You won't be allowed to have music in the exam room, so you'll be missing that cue while writing the exam. Study in silence, as the exam room will be silent. \n\nGive yourself a hard deadline, whether it's hourly, daily or weekly. Take how much you have to cover in total, then divide it out by how much time you have, and don't forget to allot yourself some breaks as well. Covering a little at a time, and especially taking breaks, allows you to break down and digest it better. Think of it like eating - if you eat a little at a time, and take your time to chew it thoroughly, you're less likely to choke on your food. If you cram huge mouthfuls and barely chew, even if you don't choke, you'll still rather uncomfortably feel it going down your esophagus. ",
"Sit at the front of the class.\n\nLean forward in your seat. Don't fall asleep.\n\nPay attention to what the instructor says. After a bit of doing this, you will develop the ability to predict the questions on the test based on what the instructor says and how they say it. \n\nTurn off all distractions. Stay off the phone. Stay off the Internet. That coffee you like to drink...that's a distraction -- finish it before class and toss the cup. That extremely photogenic classmate...don't sit near them they are a distraction.\n\nTake detailed notes. On paper. With a pencil.\n\nMake sure to visit the instructor during their office hours at least once. Ask them a question about the course material, make it a good question - even if its one you already know the answer to. They are more likely to give the benefit of the doubt to students they recognize or are acquainted with. This is especially important if the class is a soft science or liberal art. \n\nThe night before the exam, transcribe your notes into a 'cheat' sheet. Limit yourself to one page front/back. Only put the important stuff on the sheet. Do this even if it is an open note test. Review the 'cheat' sheet before the test, then put it away. Don't cheat. You don't need to. You're prepared for the test.\n\nWhen testing, sit in the same seat you normally do. \n",
"As you read, write down key points. After you have finished a chapter of a book, review your notes. Depending on the subject, highlighting and post it note marking can be very valuable. ",
"Each person is different and you need to do a lot of self examination before you can improve.\n\nList:\n\nWhat are my bad habits? Do I ADD off on the internet? Frequently check phone/text? Do I see my gaming console TV and then go start playing? Etc etc.\n\nWhat are my good habits? If I hit my groove, I study well for 5 hours straight? I learn best when taught 1:1, so I frequent professors office hours? Etc etc.\n\nFor example, I am the type of person where if I am sitting at a computer, I will ADD off onto gaming/reddit. If I study near a bed, I will try to take a \"nap\" and sleep 4 hours. \n\nI am the type of person where I learn the material best 1:1, and I reinforce my material best when I try to teach the material to another person.\n\nTo accommodate everything, I now do not study in my room/at home. I try to get study groups together and I visit my TAs. I use school computers since they don't have games loaded, and because there are a lot of my peers around, I don't reddit as much because of pressure. I hit my groove right around 3pm - dinner and 10pm-2am, so I did most of my studying then.\n\nOnce you have self examined, you can plan accordingly.",
"Check out Anki. It's flashcards, but you study them at different intervals based on how well you know each individual one. It's great for languages, history, pretty much anything where there are a lot of facts to memorize. Free download [here](http://ankisrs.net/).",
"Condense all your notes down into as small a number of pages as you can. I managed for my Psychology to get one module down to two sides of A4. Once you've condensed all of this, record your notes. Record them and listen to them while your doing anything. While your walking to school or even browsing reddit. This works because of Dual Coding, your essentially twice as likely to remember it because you've encoded the information in two different ways\n\nDon't spend 12 hours studying. Do it in small bitesize chunks and reward yourself afterwards or do something else like watching tv for 5-10 minutes.",
"The human brain remembers colors better than simply black ink. \n\nWrite your notes in different colored pens or highlight each chapter in a different color. ",
"Relevant NPR!\n\nhttp://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=130728588&sc=fb&cc=fp\n\nAlso, don't forget to get a good night's sleep before an exam.",
"No one can tell you this answer, you have to figure it out. What kind of learner are you? Kinetic? Visual? Audio? Figure this out and take the proper steps to take advantage of your learning abilities. \n\n\nFor me, I'm a kinetic learner. I can't stare at a board or a book and read to memorize. Listening distracts me, so I have to actually do what I'm learning. I have to apply what I'm learning to something I'm doing. For me, writing actually helps. So I write notes off of whatever I'm reading.",
"My trick was to study at 4am. Set your alarm, make a pot of coffee. No one will bother you, internet distractions are minimized. If you study till 8am, you got a solid 4 hours in. Noon, 8 hours. Then you can still enjoy your afternoon while everyone else is cramming.",
"Mobile Phone turned off.\n\nOther tip is your memory is linked to your sense of smell, so if you need to remember dates or quotes, you will need sometime with a strong smell - lemon for example?\nRead them and sniff the lemon, then when you are in the exam, bring some lemon and smell it to help remember your dates/quotes.\n\nIt works in the same way you can smell something and it brings back childhood memories etc.\n\nI tried it and found it really helped, best of luck in the exams!",
"I always find I get better grades after I study while listening to orchestra music. Any classical music will do, personally, I enjoy listening to movie soundtracks. Hans Zimmer, John Williams. My favorite playlist to listen to while I study has both batman soundtracks, the inception soundtrack, the Tron soundtrack, and all of the star wars soundtracks.",
"Here's what I did the month before exams. Kinda risky, so keep that in mind:\n\nI made another account on my PC and used parental controls to limit the time I was allowed on the computer, so I wouldn't be staying up until 2am doing nothing on reddit. \n\nThen, to make sure I didn't cheat, I used wolfram|alpha to create a [random password](http://www.wolframalpha.com/input/?i=random+password) for the administrator account.\n\nFinally, I used http://www.futureme.org/ to email myself the password once exams were done.\n\nWARNINGS: make sure you backup your files as you wont have access to them once you change the password. Also, make sure you allow yourself to install programs or you'll be stuck with IE for a month (NOOOOOO!) ",
"From a memory encoding standpoint, make your study environment as close as possible to the testing environment. This means noise level (no music while you study), lighting (don't do it in the dark), even down to smells, mood, and drug levels in your system (if you want to get ridiculous). Its all about encoding the information into your brain in such a way that it will be easier to remember when it comes time for the exam. So, if you're eating a plate of chocolate chip cookies as you study, the smell of chocolate cookies (to a certain extent) will be linked with that information. This is why snacking while you study is a bad idea, because you can't recreate those associations during the exam. Also, medication/intoxication levels have the same effects, so try to regulate those.\nThat being said, simply rewriting your notes will do nothing. That is simply a visual encoding process, not a semantic (meanings) one. You want to work on expanding your understanding of the material, not just memorizing your notes. Try to lecture to yourself. Put away your notes, and try to explain the information to a mirror or whatever. Check your notes afterward to see how correct you were, and repeat. This helps you understand the connections between information so you can think about those during the exam. Think of it like a creating a web, you're more likely to hit something that will lead to the answer. Not studying this way makes it like searching for a single diamond in a mountain of dirt; you have nothing to help guide you to the answer.",
"Find someone who knows nothing about what you're studying and explain all of your study material to them out loud. If you can have a conversation about a topic, you can write an essay about it.",
"Don't learn to remember, for gods sake never learn to remember. Instead learn to understand, it works much better. ",
"my friend just told me this one: when studying for a final (a few weeks prior to the test), study the notes backwards by chapter. If you have to learn chapters 1-12, start at 10 (because it's a few weeks prior to to the test and you're not on chapter 12 yet, duh!), then do 9, 8, 7... 1. That way, the oldest material is at the forefront of your mind again as well as the newest material. :)\n\nif you're going to do flashcards, this really helped me for the SAT vocab: \n\n* separate your cards into three piles as you go through them: know, don't know, and kinda know. (a lot of people only have two piles, \"know\" and \"don't know\".)\n\nalso redo the hw, rewrite your notes, yada yada yada.",
"[Cal Newport's Study Hacks.](http://calnewport.com/blog/) Start reading at \"If you're new, start here\" (sidebar link).",
"When studying try to review the material the way you would think on a test. Think about what type of questions can be asked on the material you're studying.\n\nIntegrate the material you learn among h subjects. Randomly pick 2 or 3 topics and connect them or contrast them. It will help you master the subject.\n\nStudy with people that don't talk too much. Make sure sone are stupider and some are smarter than you. The stupider students will make you more confident and the smarter ones will keep you competiive.\n\n",
"When it comes to studying I have realized that you can not study every subject the same way, I'll try to explain briefly the various ways I studied for various subjects in college.\n\nSubjects dealing with reading comprehension and retention such as social science class(history, politics..): Not writing down every word the teacher says but writing down key points, this comes in handy when you go back through the textbook. I have found that teachers will usually cover the key points that they brought up in class on test, that means that they may not covered everything in the required reading but they like you prove that you did read. This saves you from reading things you may not have to know for a test. If you are in a time crunch for reading, reading the first and last sentence of each paragraph is meant to help you get a brief understanding of the topic, it may sound silly but it really does help.\nAlso, writing down key people and dates and a brief summery also helps. Since most of these test will be essay format I always try to think of potential essay questions and write out a brief essay. Usually if you are paying attention in class you can kind of figure out what might be covered and go from there.\n\nScience and Math: I pretty much use the same technique as when I do social science studying but add a few extra steps. These course usually require homework and labs. I always go back through the labs and redo them as if I have never done them. This allows me to further retain the information and to help show the areas that may need more studying. When it came to math I would even do problems that were not assigned but I knew the answer would be in the book because I have known teachers to throw problems into test that never seemed to be done in class. I have even used the internet to find old test or quizzes that teachers have put online and reworked them.\n\nThis may sound like crazy talk but actually saying out loud what you are working on seemed to have helped me. Sometimes it made sense in my head but once I actually said out loud a problem or what I was reading I realized I had no idea what was going on.\n\nI have never found note cards to work for me but I have found out that if I physically write down, not type, the word and the definitions a few times it really does help. I use to hate this when I was younger but I totally understand why teachers made you do it. I tried to study in a area that has no window and made sure my computer was put away. I would also set my phones alarm for 30min-1hr intervals so I knew to take a break.\n\n",
"Understand. Don't just read things, ask about it. Why does it work that way? What are other ways it works? What are real world applications for it? If you can't find one, think of a fantasy one that would (the crazier the better).\n\nWhen you understand it, it's easier to remember by fare. No more rote memorization.\n\n[Mine usually involve ponies](http://mylittlefacewhen.com/f/4956/)",
"To train myself to study for longer periods of time freshman year at my university, I would study for 30 minutes, break for 30, and increase the study time/decrease the break over time",
"This probably won't help much with finals but the only study habit that worked for me was to show up early for class to do readings or rereadings and stay after to do reading and homework. I can't do work at home. Too many distractions. I needed to get it all done at school. ",
"There are no tricks or shortcut alternatives to actually studying the subject matter. \n\nIf you want to put in the effort for a perfect grade, make hand written notes of the entire material. Then make shortened notes of those notes. By then, you'll know everything, or you'll be able to refresh your memory with just a glance at those notes. ",
"The first time you read a chapter, every time you run across an important point you want to study, make a fill-in-the-blank flashcard in this style:\n\n\n**Example:**\n\nSide 1: Data in ______ are not usually easy to use for decision making. It can be organized into ______ and ______.\n\nSide 2: Data in RAW FORM are not usually easy to use for decision making. It can be organized into TABLES and GRAPHS.\n\n\nTry to limit the flashcards you create to the important points in each chapter.\n\nKeep your flashcards organized by chapter and study each deck using the Leitner system (google it). It fucking works, man.\n\nNothing is better than flashcards for the kind of information absorbing you need to do in a quick amount of time in college.",
"The best way to memorize material is to test yourself. You need to try and retrieve the information to improve synaptic connections in the brain. Try using flashcards, quizzes provided by textbooks, etc. Also the type of test you have to take should influence the way you study. If it's one big essay question, think of the ones possible and try to make outlines or mind maps. If it's a multiple choice exam, try to find questions online, from the textbook or make up your own. Depending on your learning style and the type of material you may want to get together with another group of students and discuss the material if it's a more arts class...but be know your learning style. If you can't focus in a group or the group you get together with are a bunch of freeloaders you may be more effective on your own.\n\nTL;DR - Quiz yourself, anticipate the type of test, work in a group if they don't suck, good luck!",
"Rather than motivating yourself to go study for a couple of hours, motivate yourself to get up and go to a studying place (library, cafe, etc. Find the level of background that works). It's a lot easier to think about accomplishing a small task such as travel versus dreading sitting down. Once you're there, there's generally not much else to do except study.\n\nGo for a run before studying (and shower, of course). Your brain requires a surprising amount of blood to think and learn, and getting some activity can help blood flow start up. One usually goes on Facebook when they're bored and don't have energy, but not when they're really excited.\n\nWear comfortable clothes. Rather than sneakers, wear slip-ons. This will provide fewer distractions. Rather than pants with a belt, put on something with a waistband. Etc. You're not dressing to impress.\n\nPrint your materials ahead of time. Sure, this might get expensive, but if you are constantly distracted by the Internet, then it's probably best to not have it around. Plus, actively writing notes in paper helps you retain information better than reading only.\n\nFind places other people study. It shows that it's a nice venue to get focused, and people being quiet and focusing around you will help you focus, too.\n\nHave 2+ colors of highlighters. One for major topics, key words, and titles. The second for details and relations. This will force you to organize your notes as you go through the first time, and makes sure you understand. You can add post it's or a third color for more visual classification. Plus, it helps review.\n\nHave a clean study area. Clutter both distracts and discourages (\"oh man, I have so much more to study\"). Looking at only one textbook and notebook at a time keeps your focus.",
"Make sure you're comfortable, but in a structured environment - perhaps a library?\n\nMake sure your notes are organized before you sit down to study so you're not interrupting yourself.\n\nHave a timer counting down in a reasonably short interval like 30 min. Each time you get distracted, glance at the timer and you'll see how long your attention span is - and slowly it'll lengthen.\n\nLastly, don't stick hardcore to your scheduled breaks, it's usually better to ride momentum until it flags.",
"Just go to class. I found that going to class, paying attention and taking notes (not even reviewing them), is like 80% of being a student. Once I relied on this strategy and didn't even crack a book before the final, got a B+. sure it could have been an A, but who cares?",
"In college, I would recopy my notes every night, not wait until the test was coming up. That way you review the material every day and have a nice, clean set of notes from which to study when the test does come up. However, I knew that I learn best by writings things down, and I hate studying in groups because it always turned into a 'let's bitch about this class' party instead. ",
"I'm way more productive in the library. Go to a library and you'll feel more inclined to do work because of the environment you're in.",
"I'm not sure if this has any more than a placebo effect, but I don't think it ever *hurt* my performance. \n\nAccording to some studies, the olfactory sense is closely linked to memory, like if you smell a certain thing you remember something about the time you first/last smelled it. I took this concept to studying (well, cramming is all I ever did). \n\nI had a 'test-taking' shirt, which I smothered in some cologne (some sort of Galoot Cologna for Zappa fans). I'd wear that shirt when I crammed, and I'd wear it to the test, reeking up the place.\n\nI figured it might have given me a memory boost, perhaps to the detriment of other people taking the test. \n\nFor the sake of full disclosure, I graduated college with a 3.753 GPA and a BS in CS.",
"I typed out notes in every class and that actually became a core part of how I studied. I would review the notes later, but, once I started typing everything out on the fly, I stopped needing to cram. \n\nTyping helped me absorb it. If I could stay calm during the exam, I could recall better. So I typed during class. Re-read the notes a few times leading up to the exam. Then the night before the exam I relaxed and got to bed early. Then I graduated with honors.\n\nYour mileage and typing skills may vary. I could type about 80wpm for the duration of the class. I typed notes into a light weight note taking app I wrote that made it so there was a fast key combination for every kind of notation I needed.",
"Here are couple of my tips\n\n- Sleep is more important than reading, get proper sleep the nights before a test\n- eat healthy. Rather spend time preparing (or getting) proper food than reading.\n- study in alternative locations. Diversity works very well for me, don't know about others. I tend to switch between studying at home, at the library or at random café's.\n- Turn off internet if possible\n- work in short bursts if you are having problems studying. 10, 20 or 30 minute bursts is a good start.\n- Take breaks! Breaks are god damn important! Designate breaks over the time of the day and stick to them.\n- Reward yourself",
"Having spent nearly 20 years of my life in school I've developed a sure-fire way to consistently get good grades on your exams. Keep in mind that if you skipped all your classes and never did the readings this LPT is NOT FOR YOU. \nThe key is to knowing the content so well you're able to teach someone else it confidently. By helping teach others you get a better grasp on the material and concepts yourself and its a productive way of studying as it helps others also. Lead study groups, and by sharing your knowledge and rehearsing it to others the content will be ingrained into your mind more surely then just reading your notes over several times. The members of your study group will also help fill gaps in your knowledge and will further develop your understanding of the material. In certain areas you may be unsure of the right answers, its likely at least one of your study group members will have the answer or at the least a better understanding. Basically what I'm saying is don't study alone, why you ask?\n1) You'll end up going on reddit and not studying at all.\n2) All you will do is read over your notes, make some new notes, and then study those notes redundantly.\n3) Socializing while studying makes it a little more interesting, it helps if your with friends or acquaintances. \n4) The people you study with will benefit you in return by sharing their knowledge.\nPS: Stay the fuck off the internets. ",
"Don't just read, self-test. After every page, close the book and quiz yourself to make sure you remember what you've just learned.",
"Depends on what you're studying from. =)\n\nIf you have a textbook, I've had a lot of success with the following method. For each chapter:\n\n1) Copy out, by hand, the list of vocabulary words and their definitions.\n2) Copy out, by hand, the chapter summary.\n3) Read the chapter.\n\nHope this helps. =)\n\n",
"Crunchy foods. Carrots, pretzels, anything crunchy. Gum works for some people, but for me it's gotta crunch. \n\nTake breaks. Often. When you start to droop, you're not gonna remember anything, and you'll realize thirty minutes later you haven't learned anything. Get up and leave the room. Drink lots of water, it encourages you to take more breaks. \n\nAfter law school, I can't read without a highlighter. Learn what is important by comparing your highlights with what your teacher actually discusses. This will help your learn your teacher an what he or she thinks is important. Learning your teacher is more important than learning the material, at least as far as your grades are concerned. Try to read your teacher, realizing that teachers love to play devils advocate. Teachers usually give more points to a position they agree with, even if the opposite argument has good points an is well-written. ",
"Also, because I don't believe anyone has mentioned this, study hard and then don't study for a full day before the test. There was an experiment done (I can't remember the source so you'll have to trust me) where people were given a subject to study, and given an hour to study for it. One group was set to do the test directly after, one was set to do the test 12 hours after, and one a full day after. The marks got better in correlation with the time between studying and doing the test. However, leaving more than a day between studying and the test would likely be even worse than cramming right before it. ",
"Adderall. Seriously. I took one 30mg XR the day before my exam, studied like hell, took another the morning of the test, and was able to concentrate like hell and I remembered things I don't think I would have remembered without it. \n\nJust be safe about it. Don't take more than two. Don't mix with other drugs. Don't freak out.",
"Wow, the response to this thread has being amazing.\nI've found some really great tips, and studying is working great now!\nThank you all so much!\nUpvotes for everybody!",
"I actually found this [Pomodoro Technique](http://lifehacker.com/5377906/the-pomodoro-technique-fights-deadline-anxiety-with-a-timer) to work really well. Helps my short attention span mind divide up the work into small intervals. ",
"Don't. If you have to cram the course material into your brain in the days before an exam, just to pass the exam, you haven't learned the course material."
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"How to Soften Clothing Washed with Hard Water? The water in my city is hard, and my place has a salt-based water softener. I had to switch to free & clear detergent recently because I finally realized fragrance has been making me itch, but I find it hard to give up fabric softener because without it, the clothing and towels will be hard. I believe I've tried vinegar before, and I didn't feel a difference. I've seen people suggested using free & clear fabric softener or sheets, while others said to stay away from any sorts altogether. Some suggested dryer balls, while some have negative experiences with them. Please let me know your thoughts, and please let me know if this question is more suitable for another sub. Thank you!",
"How to Soften Clothing Washed with Hard Water? The water in my city is hard, and my place has a salt-based water softener. I had to switch to free & clear detergent recently because I finally realized fragrance has been making me itch, but I find it hard to give up fabric softener because without it, the clothing and towels will be hard. I believe I've tried vinegar before, and I didn't feel a difference. I've seen people suggested using free & clear fabric softener or sheets, while others said to stay away from any sorts altogether. Some suggested dryer balls, while some have negative experiences with them. Please let me know your thoughts, and please let me know if this question is more suitable for another sub. Thank you!",
"How to Soften Clothing Washed with Hard Water? The water in my city is hard, and my place has a salt-based water softener. I had to switch to free & clear detergent recently because I finally realized fragrance has been making me itch, but I find it hard to give up fabric softener because without it, the clothing and towels will be hard. I believe I've tried vinegar before, and I didn't feel a difference. I've seen people suggested using free & clear fabric softener or sheets, while others said to stay away from any sorts altogether. Some suggested dryer balls, while some have negative experiences with them. Please let me know your thoughts, and please let me know if this question is more suitable for another sub. Thank you!",
"How to Soften Clothing Washed with Hard Water? The water in my city is hard, and my place has a salt-based water softener. I had to switch to free & clear detergent recently because I finally realized fragrance has been making me itch, but I find it hard to give up fabric softener because without it, the clothing and towels will be hard. I believe I've tried vinegar before, and I didn't feel a difference. I've seen people suggested using free & clear fabric softener or sheets, while others said to stay away from any sorts altogether. Some suggested dryer balls, while some have negative experiences with them. Please let me know your thoughts, and please let me know if this question is more suitable for another sub. Thank you!"
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"You’re not actually supposed to use fabric softener on towels, it makes them less absorbent. Have you tried the plastic dryer balls that look like corona virus 🦠?",
"Use more detergent and hot water. (or warm, if you wash with cold normally)\n\nDon't use fabric softener on towels (or kids pajamas)\n\nLook into dryer balls.",
"I have super sensitive skin (like, insanely so) and i have never had an issue with the free and clear softener. \n\n\nI use the softener for my clothes, and then wash towels in hot water with dryer balls.",
"I have softened water because we are on a well with a lot of minerals. I have found washing soda to be a big help. Plus it makes everything smell really fresh too."
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"How to concentrate in a noisy environment? I live in a noisy neighbourhood and i often find myself cringing and getting irritated by the constant noises like people yelling, babies crying, dogs barking etc.\nI know it sounds a little common but i cant take it anymore.",
"How to concentrate in a noisy environment? I live in a noisy neighbourhood and i often find myself cringing and getting irritated by the constant noises like people yelling, babies crying, dogs barking etc.\nI know it sounds a little common but i cant take it anymore.",
"How to concentrate in a noisy environment? I live in a noisy neighbourhood and i often find myself cringing and getting irritated by the constant noises like people yelling, babies crying, dogs barking etc.\nI know it sounds a little common but i cant take it anymore.",
"How to concentrate in a noisy environment? I live in a noisy neighbourhood and i often find myself cringing and getting irritated by the constant noises like people yelling, babies crying, dogs barking etc.\nI know it sounds a little common but i cant take it anymore.",
"How to concentrate in a noisy environment? I live in a noisy neighbourhood and i often find myself cringing and getting irritated by the constant noises like people yelling, babies crying, dogs barking etc.\nI know it sounds a little common but i cant take it anymore.",
"How to concentrate in a noisy environment? I live in a noisy neighbourhood and i often find myself cringing and getting irritated by the constant noises like people yelling, babies crying, dogs barking etc.\nI know it sounds a little common but i cant take it anymore.",
"How to concentrate in a noisy environment? I live in a noisy neighbourhood and i often find myself cringing and getting irritated by the constant noises like people yelling, babies crying, dogs barking etc.\nI know it sounds a little common but i cant take it anymore.",
"How to concentrate in a noisy environment? I live in a noisy neighbourhood and i often find myself cringing and getting irritated by the constant noises like people yelling, babies crying, dogs barking etc.\nI know it sounds a little common but i cant take it anymore."
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"In that instance I would suggest a white noise machine. That could help. I use it to help myself sleep, but it could easy work to help tune out other noise.\n\nAlternatively soothing music or even a fan works wonders on my experience.\n\n",
"I have a pair of noise canceling headphones that work very well. I usually use them to listen to music without words, so I'm not distracted by the lyrics. ",
"When I was in grad school, I actually did my best studying when I went to a busy library and then drowned out the noise with some classical music in my headphones. Not sure why...something about being in that environment but not being distracted by the noise made me more productive. If I tried the same thing at home, I would eventually get bored and start playing a game on my phone or something. ",
"My personal response to this (based on my own experience) is to embrace the noise and accept it. Easier said than done! But it has enabled me to work (and even thrive, actually) in coffee shops, most campus locations, in my department at work, etc.\n\nMy process, as i recall, is to sit down, close my eyes, and listen. Listen to everything, every little sound. Learn which sounds to expect in each location, understand what's causing them and why they're occurring. After this, try to look around and now visually match the sounds to their sources, and recognize where everything is coming from. At this point I generally feel like i understand my location and the sound becomes less of a distraction and more like a soft rain on my back that i can ignore. \n\nOf course, different people have different kinds of minds. This trick may or may not with for you, but probably worth a shot! I used it, to my own surprise, to even tolerate my old housemate's very yippy dog that would drive me up the wall. ",
"http://asoftmurmur.com/\n\nThat and some of the 70's-style wrap-around headphones to help block ancillary noises.",
"If you're studying for a test I'd actually recommend you work through it. I did that while in grad school and studying for my CFP exam and it helped me quickly get over what would have been distracting sounds on the exam.",
"I use noise cancelling headphones or even noise muffling ones (those inner ear buds) and listen to something with a lot of rolling bass, this muffles out 99% of noise without adding distractions.",
"You might have a sensory processing disorder and/or ADHD. You might consult with a psychologist/psychiatrist.\n\nIs it possible to move to a quieter residence?\n\nIn the meantime, things like blankets and rugs absorb sound. Sound also bounces off walls so hang fabric tapestries and curtains. You could also put acoustic foam wedges on the walls like they do in recording studios. \n\nAnd I agree with the white noise machine - I've used one every night for years to help me sleep. "
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"wet car smell So it's been raining a lot here lately, and the umbrella has wet my car's carpets, and they smell terrible. Any DIY remedies for this? I don't live in the US so most likely I won't be able to find any product you may recommend",
"wet car smell So it's been raining a lot here lately, and the umbrella has wet my car's carpets, and they smell terrible. Any DIY remedies for this? I don't live in the US so most likely I won't be able to find any product you may recommend",
"wet car smell So it's been raining a lot here lately, and the umbrella has wet my car's carpets, and they smell terrible. Any DIY remedies for this? I don't live in the US so most likely I won't be able to find any product you may recommend"
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"Leave the windows cracked about an inch (when it's not raining, obviously) to allow to moisture to evaporate. My truck window is messed up so it's always down an inch. It constantly gets wet inside when it rains and I've never had to do anything more than air it out.",
"This stuff works pretty well. I used it when I left my windows down during a rain shower. \n\nhttp://www.damprid.com/product/disposable-moisture-absorber-with-activated-charcoal\n",
"Had a jeep and got caught topless many times. Close your windows and crank the A/C. No, I'm not trolling ... the A/C takes the moisture out of the air. Works much better than cranking the heat. "
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"getting rid of fruit flies my kitchen, particularly my sink area is infested with lots of fruit flies.\n\nSo far, I did the heated apple cider vinegar with a drop of dish soap hack. It killed a bunch but there are still so many after a few days. My sink is clean, no food left out on the counter also. I am starting to vacuum some of these bad boys up also. But it's been almost a week of doing this and they are still here.",
"getting rid of fruit flies my kitchen, particularly my sink area is infested with lots of fruit flies.\n\nSo far, I did the heated apple cider vinegar with a drop of dish soap hack. It killed a bunch but there are still so many after a few days. My sink is clean, no food left out on the counter also. I am starting to vacuum some of these bad boys up also. But it's been almost a week of doing this and they are still here.",
"getting rid of fruit flies my kitchen, particularly my sink area is infested with lots of fruit flies.\n\nSo far, I did the heated apple cider vinegar with a drop of dish soap hack. It killed a bunch but there are still so many after a few days. My sink is clean, no food left out on the counter also. I am starting to vacuum some of these bad boys up also. But it's been almost a week of doing this and they are still here.",
"getting rid of fruit flies my kitchen, particularly my sink area is infested with lots of fruit flies.\n\nSo far, I did the heated apple cider vinegar with a drop of dish soap hack. It killed a bunch but there are still so many after a few days. My sink is clean, no food left out on the counter also. I am starting to vacuum some of these bad boys up also. But it's been almost a week of doing this and they are still here.",
"getting rid of fruit flies my kitchen, particularly my sink area is infested with lots of fruit flies.\n\nSo far, I did the heated apple cider vinegar with a drop of dish soap hack. It killed a bunch but there are still so many after a few days. My sink is clean, no food left out on the counter also. I am starting to vacuum some of these bad boys up also. But it's been almost a week of doing this and they are still here."
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"I worked in a bar, that had them frequently....fill your sink up with ice...and pour bleach over the ice...it will slowly melt the ice throughout the night and help! Also put a fan by where they are hanging/flying around, they can’t fly with the current of the fan....slowly they should disappear....they lay so many eggs every 24 hrs it’s hard to get rid of them...but this should help a bit! ",
"Wash any fruit you buy, as soon as you brought them home. Keep them in the fridge until you got rid of your fruit fly problem.\n\nA good cleanup of your kitchen can also help by removing stains that contain eggs or sugary leftovers that can attract the little guys.\n\nTo actually kill the flies, using sweet alcoholic beverages (the kind younger people tend to buy) left open works wonder.",
"Make a cheap and easy fruit fly trap. All you need is an old jar, clingfilm, needle/pin, an elastic band and any old fruit.\n\nPut the old fruit (in pieces) into the jar and seal the opening with clingfilm.\n\nSecure the clingfilm with the elastic band, then pierce the clingfilm with a pin/needle.\n\nMake sure the holes are big enough for the flies to get in, but not out.\n\nAs the fruit rots, the flies will be attracted to it and get caught in the trap.\n\nRepeat until no more appears!\n\nAlso, if you have a lot of food waste, I recommend bagging it separately from your normal rubbish. Or if you have a compost heap, make a mini bin with a lid, to store current waste. Minimising another infestation.\n\n \n",
"I find hanging, fly paper traps to be quite effective. I've tried a lot of other concoctions and ideas, but I've not found anything better than hanging up a single fly paper trap.",
"Do you have any plants in your home? The flies will lay eggs in the soil. You can stop the cycle by topping all of your plants with a layer of sand. "
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"How to successfully pitch an idea in front of a panel of people I have a pitch in front of my lecture tomorrow and need some advice on how to make it go well and my idea get picked!\n\nSorry should have clarified - it is a media pitch for radio!",
"How to successfully pitch an idea in front of a panel of people I have a pitch in front of my lecture tomorrow and need some advice on how to make it go well and my idea get picked!\n\nSorry should have clarified - it is a media pitch for radio!",
"How to successfully pitch an idea in front of a panel of people I have a pitch in front of my lecture tomorrow and need some advice on how to make it go well and my idea get picked!\n\nSorry should have clarified - it is a media pitch for radio!"
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"You've left this very late! Ill try and give you what I find helpful. \n\nWhen I present I like to know what I'm saying a week in advance and know it word for word. That way you can look at your audience and communicate with them instead of looking down at paper. \n\nId say its also important to know your subject. Know what you're going to say but expect questions. Know more than you say would be my advice so that if more detail or clarification is needed you can provide it.\n\nDuring QA don't say \"I don't know\" for two reasons: First you should know. This is your specialty area! And, second sometimes (maybe more in interviews) the question isn't about what you know, its about how you answer a question when you don't know. Appear confident and talk clearly, even if what you're saying is rubbish, most people won't notice.\n\nHow you pitch depends greatly on who and what it is. If you're selling a product to customers think about what they want. Yes they may want features but go deeper than that... Why is it that they want these features. For example take an iPhone: It has an 8MP camera. Thats great. Im not going to buy it. Watch their adverts and you see the camera capturing sentimental memories, bringing people together. It gives the user what they want deep down. Thats what sells iPhones.\n\nIf you're talking to companies it will be totally different. Tune your pitch to what the audience want.\n\nDepending on your subject area figures/stats can be great. They can make a big impression and help cut through all the words your saying to clearly say what you mean. Its important however to know how you calculated what your presenting and what the source is. Remember not all figures are created equal in terms of presentation. In a presentation I gave recently we would save customers approximately 25% of a cost annually, but it sounded much more impressive to say \"Saving customers £1,200 annually.\" Likewise 1/4 sounds more than 25% and is much easier to say and for the audience to understand.\n\nI guess with anything its important to remember that its people you're communicating with. Numbers need to be in simple terms (taking apple again as example they never mention processor speed on the iPhone, instead its 24x faster than the original. Much easier for a layman to understand and much more tangible). I would say your key points are advantages of why your product / idea is great and to focus less on the technical. For example it's easy to show a client how great your work is by showing them all the internal workings of your product, but this is irrelevant to them, show them what it does and how well it does it instead.\n\nSomething I find that helps me is to remember: nobody is really good at anything... some people are just better at blagging it than others... so go for it and sound confident... no one will notice. \n\nI notice this whole post is a jumbled mess... I will try and clean it up later.",
"Not sure what type of pitch you're asking for, but usually when you want to appeal to people you want to either appeal to how it would benefit them or how it would adversely affect them. ",
"I saw further down in the comments that this is a media pitch. The important part here is to pitch the benefits to why the radio station should run your story. Less about the actual story and more about how it will benefit their listeners and generate buzz for them.\n\nAs per actual presentation skills, speak slowly, and engage the audience with your eyes (eye contact and smiles). Read their body language and if they seem disinterested, pull them back in. \n\nThis is very last minute and these suggestions are super vague and should be tailored more to what you're actual pitch is, who your audience is and what you're trying to achieve but hopefully this helps a bit. If the pitch is about procrastinating, you've got this in the bag"
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"Gratuity...How much do you tip, and to who? Exactly what it says. There's probably people that I've never topped that I probably should. From tattoo artists to airport shuttle drivers, how much do you tip/what's common?",
"Gratuity...How much do you tip, and to who? Exactly what it says. There's probably people that I've never topped that I probably should. From tattoo artists to airport shuttle drivers, how much do you tip/what's common?",
"Gratuity...How much do you tip, and to who? Exactly what it says. There's probably people that I've never topped that I probably should. From tattoo artists to airport shuttle drivers, how much do you tip/what's common?",
"Gratuity...How much do you tip, and to who? Exactly what it says. There's probably people that I've never topped that I probably should. From tattoo artists to airport shuttle drivers, how much do you tip/what's common?",
"Gratuity...How much do you tip, and to who? Exactly what it says. There's probably people that I've never topped that I probably should. From tattoo artists to airport shuttle drivers, how much do you tip/what's common?",
"Gratuity...How much do you tip, and to who? Exactly what it says. There's probably people that I've never topped that I probably should. From tattoo artists to airport shuttle drivers, how much do you tip/what's common?",
"Gratuity...How much do you tip, and to who? Exactly what it says. There's probably people that I've never topped that I probably should. From tattoo artists to airport shuttle drivers, how much do you tip/what's common?",
"Gratuity...How much do you tip, and to who? Exactly what it says. There's probably people that I've never topped that I probably should. From tattoo artists to airport shuttle drivers, how much do you tip/what's common?",
"Gratuity...How much do you tip, and to who? Exactly what it says. There's probably people that I've never topped that I probably should. From tattoo artists to airport shuttle drivers, how much do you tip/what's common?",
"Gratuity...How much do you tip, and to who? Exactly what it says. There's probably people that I've never topped that I probably should. From tattoo artists to airport shuttle drivers, how much do you tip/what's common?"
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"I tip anywhere from 15% and up for any personal service like tattoos, haircuts, table service and the like. If I'm paying cash at a coffee shop I frequent, I drop the change in the dish. For bars, I do a buck a drink from the bar. \n\nI tip more to students who are working weekends in restaurants. \n\n",
"Don't forget to tip your carhops. You'd be surprised to know how many people forget us. We make less than minimum wage same as waitstaff at restaurants. ",
"Wait staff I tip 15-20% with a $3 min. Bar tenders I tip $1 per drink if I'm paying cash for each drink, similar to wait staff if I'm running a tab. Food delivery I tip like wait staff.\n\nHotel maids I tip $1 per day for a normal stay. I'll tip the maid more if they go above and beyond or if I'm working nights and throwing off their schedule by day sleeping. Bell hops I tip $1 per bag when I check the bag and another $1 per bag when I retrieve it, more if they bring the bags to the room. I'll also tip a bell hop $1 for hailing cab or calling a car.\n\nI tip my barber the change from a $20, which is just under 20%. Things like massages I'll tip around 15%.\n\nWhen paying with a cr",
"I never tip unless I legally have to (like in the US). In japan giving tips is considered strange and sometimes not even allowed.",
"I never tip on TAX. Makes no 'cents' to me. I do tip 15-20% on the sub-total eating out. I also usually round up/down to the nearest fifty cents if paying by card.",
"You typically tip for quality of food, and service (not alcohol). I like to tip about 20% as standard. I tip extra if I've been impressed by service, and/or quality of my experience. Don't tip on alcohol just because your bill is really high from buying a bunch of drinks. Have you ever noticed how promptly your server encourages 'another drink'? Because it jacks up the bill, and they expect to get tipped on the final dollar amount. Tip the server for good bar service. Oh, and don't tip owner/proprietors. ",
"When going abroad read a lonely planet for your destination and they'll have a section describing how much to tip.",
"Tip my hair dresser 20% but it is custom not to tip if they own the shop. I had a few lean years where the tipping was light. It happens. ",
"I tip food delivery $2-$4, depending on distance, weather and size of the order. Hairdressers and waitstaff get 15% - 20% depending on service. Lawn care, pool care get an extra $10 or $15, again depending on time spent and condition of the yard or pool. Firewood delivery gets $25 for cutting, delivery and stacking. \n\nFor me it's a judgement call. I remember working for tips so I tend to be generous for good service - especially for students or anyone just doing a good job with a smile.",
"I always double the sales tax. Usually it's 8.25% so x 2 would be 16.5% tip. Sometimes I'll add in a lil more if they did an exceptional job. \nI DO NOT tip unless the job consists of carrying something heavy OR refilling my beverage. No tip for take-out orders, unless I request something additional that I forgot. "
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"Finance Books or Resources for young teens Hello...\n\nMy daughter has had a savings account for quite some time now with her Dad. She also has her own child \"debit card\" that she could use for spending/saving, tracks earning money through chores, etc. Today I went to open her a traditional bank account so she could start learning how to manage her finances and save with a traditional bank on her own. We were denied because of her age (She is 13) as these types of accounts cannot be opened until she is 14 years old. We ended up opening her her own savings account that she can add money to or take away as needed.\n\nHere is here I need help, we have about 8 months for her to learn as much as possible about banking, finances, saving, and budgeting. So do any of you know any books, websites, YouTube videos etc that would help her build a solid foundation before she has her own checking account?\n\nAny help would be greatly appreciated!",
"Finance Books or Resources for young teens Hello...\n\nMy daughter has had a savings account for quite some time now with her Dad. She also has her own child \"debit card\" that she could use for spending/saving, tracks earning money through chores, etc. Today I went to open her a traditional bank account so she could start learning how to manage her finances and save with a traditional bank on her own. We were denied because of her age (She is 13) as these types of accounts cannot be opened until she is 14 years old. We ended up opening her her own savings account that she can add money to or take away as needed.\n\nHere is here I need help, we have about 8 months for her to learn as much as possible about banking, finances, saving, and budgeting. So do any of you know any books, websites, YouTube videos etc that would help her build a solid foundation before she has her own checking account?\n\nAny help would be greatly appreciated!",
"Finance Books or Resources for young teens Hello...\n\nMy daughter has had a savings account for quite some time now with her Dad. She also has her own child \"debit card\" that she could use for spending/saving, tracks earning money through chores, etc. Today I went to open her a traditional bank account so she could start learning how to manage her finances and save with a traditional bank on her own. We were denied because of her age (She is 13) as these types of accounts cannot be opened until she is 14 years old. We ended up opening her her own savings account that she can add money to or take away as needed.\n\nHere is here I need help, we have about 8 months for her to learn as much as possible about banking, finances, saving, and budgeting. So do any of you know any books, websites, YouTube videos etc that would help her build a solid foundation before she has her own checking account?\n\nAny help would be greatly appreciated!"
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"There is a Spanish high street bank with a red logo which resembles a flame (can I post the name or is that not allowed?) which a 13 year old can hold an account with, both of my kids have one but I was already a customer, not sure if that could be an obstacle for you?\n\nAlso there was a course promoted by Money Saving Expert not long ago that helped with money management skills, I'll try find a link if I can.\n\nAlso interested in any other advice people give here, these skills are far to undersupported for kids these days!",
"If you're not familiar with Dave Ramsey, I recommend you check out all of his materials available across [books](https://www.audible.com/search?keywords=dave+ramsey&ref=a_hp_t1_header_search) and [youtube](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7eBNeDW1GQf2NJQ6G6gAxw) (most of his content is free)\n\nNow [Rachel Cruze](https://www.audible.com/author/Rachel-Cruze/B018UHEZ3C?ref=a_search_c3_lAuthor_1_3_2&pf_rd_p=83218cca-c308-412f-bfcf-90198b687a2f&pf_rd_r=C6S343KGDCSR7D79SV4D) (Dave's Daughter) focuses a bit more on younger age groups. Together Dave and Rachel created the \"[Smart Money Smart Kids](https://www.audible.com/pd/Smart-Money-Smart-Kids-Audiobook/B00JH1UUV2?qid=1609399336&sr=1-3&ref=a_search_c3_lProduct_1_3&pf_rd_p=83218cca-c308-412f-bfcf-90198b687a2f&pf_rd_r=C6S343KGDCSR7D79SV4D)\" Book. \n\nThese tools should get you guys ready and learning more and more about finances and where to start as far as general finances, saving, and budgeting.\n\nThe \"[Financial Peace University Workbook](https://www.amazon.com/Ramseys-Financial-Peace-University-Workbook/dp/1934629049/ref=sr_1_1?crid=162Y3K4ZO569&dchild=1&keywords=financial+peace+university+workbook&qid=1609399672&sprefix=Financial+Peace+%2Caps%2C349&sr=8-1)\" Helps with understanding the steps to budget and control your money. \n\nDave Ramsey has an awesome network of resources for financial education.\n\nLike; [The Financial literacy classes](https://www.daveramsey.com/blog/should-financial-literacy-be-taught-in-schools#:~:text=Financial%20literacy%20classes%20teach%20students,lead%20to%20lifelong%20money%20struggles) \\- \"that **teach students the basics of money management: budgeting, saving, debt, investing, and giving.** That knowledge lays a foundation for students to build strong money habits early on and avoid many of the mistakes that lead to lifelong money struggles.\"\n\nNow, as far as traditional banks and online bank accounts; and, learning about banking in general, there are often programs within your bank that can assist and offer advice and best practices for their clients. When I was 14 my mother enrolled me into the youth program at WF. They have a \"Student Impact\" Program you may want to look into.\n\nWF - \"[youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/c/wellsfargo/videos)\" offers some insightful videos, but you gotta know exactly what you're looking for, it's kind of messy.\n\n​\n\nBut there are countless vids and resources on the Youtubes.\n\nOther resources \nYT Vid, \"[Traditional Banking VS Online Banking](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4aWYYjBohVQ&ab_channel=EconomicLifestyleInvesting)\" \n\nYT Vid, \"[Financial Literacy: Banking 101](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LvEkWwYb-v4&ab_channel=CharmTVCitizens%27Hub)\"\n\nYT Vid, [\"How To Manage Your Money (50/30/20 Rule)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HQzoZfc3GwQ&ab_channel=Marko-WhiteBoardFinance)\"\n\n**Here's a list of topics that I think are essential when learning about money.**\n\nWhat Is Income and what are the different types of income?\n\nWhat are Expenses?\n\nWhat are Savings?\n\nWhat is an Emergency Fund?\n\nWhat are Taxes?\n\nWhat is APR?\n\nWhat is MSRP?\n\nWhat are Withholdings? \n\nWhat is a Check? How to write a check? How to use Online Checking.\n\nWhat is a Budget?\n\nWhat are \"Needs\"/ Necessities?\n\nWhat is considered a \"Want?\"\n\nWhat is Debt?\n\nWhat is Cr",
"I work with high school students, helping them explore college and career pathways. One of the common requests we get is the financial literacy aspect to this experience. We've always recommended high school students to consider themselves college students and how they would utilize their money in that environment. This way, when it comes time to make the big leap into the real world, the student already have an idea of what they need to do and which pitfalls they need to avoid. Your daughter may be too young to grasp some of the concepts, but a great start would be any of the apps listed out here: [https://www.nerdwallet.com/article/banking/9-budgeting-apps-college-students](https://www.nerdwallet.com/article/banking/9-budgeting-apps-college-students)\n\nIt's not necessarily about where to *spend* the money, but more to do with identifying where would be *smart to spend* the money. Lastly, if there's one thing you can do to help her financially prep for the future is get her to understand the reality of cr"
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"How am I suppose to open up the discussion of pay to my upper management. At my job, it recently came to my knowledge that the starting pay was raised due them wanting more people to come in and stay. But, wages weren’t raised for those of us who have been there for years, and are now barely making more then a new employee, granted everything a veteran employee brings to the table.",
"How am I suppose to open up the discussion of pay to my upper management. At my job, it recently came to my knowledge that the starting pay was raised due them wanting more people to come in and stay. But, wages weren’t raised for those of us who have been there for years, and are now barely making more then a new employee, granted everything a veteran employee brings to the table.",
"How am I suppose to open up the discussion of pay to my upper management. At my job, it recently came to my knowledge that the starting pay was raised due them wanting more people to come in and stay. But, wages weren’t raised for those of us who have been there for years, and are now barely making more then a new employee, granted everything a veteran employee brings to the table.",
"How am I suppose to open up the discussion of pay to my upper management. At my job, it recently came to my knowledge that the starting pay was raised due them wanting more people to come in and stay. But, wages weren’t raised for those of us who have been there for years, and are now barely making more then a new employee, granted everything a veteran employee brings to the table.",
"How am I suppose to open up the discussion of pay to my upper management. At my job, it recently came to my knowledge that the starting pay was raised due them wanting more people to come in and stay. But, wages weren’t raised for those of us who have been there for years, and are now barely making more then a new employee, granted everything a veteran employee brings to the table.",
"How am I suppose to open up the discussion of pay to my upper management. At my job, it recently came to my knowledge that the starting pay was raised due them wanting more people to come in and stay. But, wages weren’t raised for those of us who have been there for years, and are now barely making more then a new employee, granted everything a veteran employee brings to the table.",
"How am I suppose to open up the discussion of pay to my upper management. At my job, it recently came to my knowledge that the starting pay was raised due them wanting more people to come in and stay. But, wages weren’t raised for those of us who have been there for years, and are now barely making more then a new employee, granted everything a veteran employee brings to the table."
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"If your in the UK the only way to get a good payrise is to get a new job offer and see if your current company value you enough to make a counter offer",
"Hi, I’d like to renegotiate my salary as I’m completing x,y,z and bring this value to the company/team. Here is a sample of similar jobs with higher pay in the area. Can we discuss. Thanks",
"Research competitive salary, benefit and options for your position. I would even go as far as inquiring for a new job with other companies. When the company is out of sync with competition and your in the position to make a move up or laterally with a different company. You could wait for an annual review or just get on your bosses meeting schedule, when asked what for tell them is about your future employment within the company. Be honest, open and straightforward. If they're willing to risk losing Veteran employees over pay and benefits, it says what they think about you as an employee.",
"If you have some sort of data tracking at your job where you can show them numbers of money you save them or money you make them having data to make your case is super helpful. If you don’t have data you just need to figure out a way to prove your value. If you have a hard time figuring something out like that I would try to get another job offer and use that as leverage so if the conversation doesn’t go your way you have an out",
"In your next 1 on 1 with your manager just go. Hey I would like to discuss my pay. Have an open conversation about it. Its actually a really easy conversation, not sure why people are scared or treat it as taboo. If management doesn't approve of your conversation or blows you off just look for another job or apply for another job in the company with a lateral move. When you put in your 2 weeks notice I bet you they will offer a pay raise then.",
"Be direct but lower your expectations, they know the situation and have not done anything about it so I would not expect that to change, unfortunately most people in this situation have to leave. It's completely counter productive and illogical but I've seen this play out many times. Best of luck.",
"Apply for your job with the new starting pay. \nAlternatively get a few job interviews and let them call your current company for references and then tell them you would like a raise."
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"when visiting an in-network hospital, how do I avoid getting screwed over and prevent getting treated by out-of-network physicians? I underwent a scheduled surgical procedure as an outpatient with an in-network surgeon at an in-network hospital. A few months down the road I come to find out that an out-of-network assistant surgeon participated in my care. I was never made aware that an out-of-network provider would be part of my care. How is this shit even legal?",
"when visiting an in-network hospital, how do I avoid getting screwed over and prevent getting treated by out-of-network physicians? I underwent a scheduled surgical procedure as an outpatient with an in-network surgeon at an in-network hospital. A few months down the road I come to find out that an out-of-network assistant surgeon participated in my care. I was never made aware that an out-of-network provider would be part of my care. How is this shit even legal?",
"when visiting an in-network hospital, how do I avoid getting screwed over and prevent getting treated by out-of-network physicians? I underwent a scheduled surgical procedure as an outpatient with an in-network surgeon at an in-network hospital. A few months down the road I come to find out that an out-of-network assistant surgeon participated in my care. I was never made aware that an out-of-network provider would be part of my care. How is this shit even legal?"
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"I went down the same road last year with colon surgery. All my doctors were in network, except the anesthesiologist who showed up at the very last minute. \n\nI fought the bill (over 1300 bucks) for a couple months before the lady in charge of billing helped me out. \n\nMost of the time your insurance company will cover the bill if you didn't have a choice / weren't informed the doctor was out of network. \n\nThe trick is asking them to cover the bill in a very specific way. \n\nWith AETNA the phrase is \"held harmless\" \n\nSo I called AETNA and told them the story, that I was careful to make sure all my doctors were in network, and that I had one doctor changed on me seconds before I went under. I told them I wanted to be \"held harmless\" for the balance bill that I was sent. \n\nAs soon as I asked for them to cover it using the \"magical phrase\" they said they would. Until that point they just kept telling me to call the anesthesiologist and dispute the bill. \n\nWhat does that mean for everyone else.... Talk to the billing people at the doctors office who sent you the bill. Ask if they know the specific way you should ask your insurance company to cover the bill so you don't have to.",
"Anyone know this? I'd like to know too. I read sometime ago about how in-network doctors call their out-of-network buddies to attend to certain procedures.",
"We went to an urgent care and were told the arm sling were were given was covered by insurance. It was, but only for $125 of the $200 they charged for it.\n"
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"How to get rid of the funky smell from my central air when I turn on my air conditioning. Same thing with the AC in my car. ",
"How to get rid of the funky smell from my central air when I turn on my air conditioning. Same thing with the AC in my car. ",
"How to get rid of the funky smell from my central air when I turn on my air conditioning. Same thing with the AC in my car. ",
"How to get rid of the funky smell from my central air when I turn on my air conditioning. Same thing with the AC in my car. ",
"How to get rid of the funky smell from my central air when I turn on my air conditioning. Same thing with the AC in my car. ",
"How to get rid of the funky smell from my central air when I turn on my air conditioning. Same thing with the AC in my car. ",
"How to get rid of the funky smell from my central air when I turn on my air conditioning. Same thing with the AC in my car. ",
"How to get rid of the funky smell from my central air when I turn on my air conditioning. Same thing with the AC in my car. ",
"How to get rid of the funky smell from my central air when I turn on my air conditioning. Same thing with the AC in my car. ",
"How to get rid of the funky smell from my central air when I turn on my air conditioning. Same thing with the AC in my car. ",
"How to get rid of the funky smell from my central air when I turn on my air conditioning. Same thing with the AC in my car. ",
"How to get rid of the funky smell from my central air when I turn on my air conditioning. Same thing with the AC in my car. ",
"How to get rid of the funky smell from my central air when I turn on my air conditioning. Same thing with the AC in my car. ",
"How to get rid of the funky smell from my central air when I turn on my air conditioning. Same thing with the AC in my car. ",
"How to get rid of the funky smell from my central air when I turn on my air conditioning. Same thing with the AC in my car. ",
"How to get rid of the funky smell from my central air when I turn on my air conditioning. Same thing with the AC in my car. ",
"How to get rid of the funky smell from my central air when I turn on my air conditioning. Same thing with the AC in my car. ",
"How to get rid of the funky smell from my central air when I turn on my air conditioning. Same thing with the AC in my car. ",
"How to get rid of the funky smell from my central air when I turn on my air conditioning. Same thing with the AC in my car. ",
"How to get rid of the funky smell from my central air when I turn on my air conditioning. Same thing with the AC in my car. "
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"So for the car... I was always taught that you should shut off the AC five minutes before you arrive at your location, BUT do NOT shut off the fan. \n\nWhen an AC is doing its thing, especially in humid environments, the coils get really cold and collect condensation (like the water on a cold drink on a hot day). If you shut off the AC before you arrive at your destination, the coils will decompress and that water will have a chance to quickly evaporate as the still running fan blows fresh air across them. And your less likely to get that musky smell. \n\nNow, I am not a mechanic, and my dad gave me this advice years ago... So take it with a grain of salt, and if someone disagrees with me, by all means, bring us up to speed. ",
"HVAC tech here, look for \"no rinse evaporator coil cleaner\" it's an aerosol can which you can probably find on amazon, if that doesn't work you can try using a clothing steamer and steam the evaporator coil as the steam will kill most of the bacteria on the coil. \n\n",
"Step one, check the filters.\n\nStep two, spray Ozium (or equivalent) by the air intake (not on surfaces or plastics it might discolor). The air intake for your car is likely at the base of the windshield under the wipers.\n\nStep three, if still not resolved, consider a duct cleaning. \n",
"I've been told that leaving your AC running in your car for 10 minutes at least once a month (all year round) isn't a bad idea so it won't go moldy and smell funky.\n\nI can't really tell you how to get rid of the smell though.",
"This will sound strange, but it works. Buy some gel cat pellets for a catbox, some types are also scented if you prefer. Then fill an old gym sock half way full and tie it off. Put the sock under one of the front seats or if you have a suv the back near the vent exchange. It will draw off the moisture of the vehicle, will help stop the windows fogging up and will draw off any bad odor. It's like putting baking soda in the ice box.",
"Turn your ac off about a minute before you park your car. Leaving it engaged seems to create the funky smell. Letting outside air blow through for that last minute seems to do the trick.",
"I had a the same problem with AC funk and I had to deal with a mouse that built a nest inside my car's ventilation system. I would get this really bad mouse odour whenever I ran the fan.\n\nI found this car AC treatment spray from an automotive supply store designed to kill mold etc. in the AC and remove odours from carpets and interior fabrics. Instructions were to set AC on, fan high, and on recirculate (MAX AC setting on some cars). Start the spray going and leave it standing up on the floor and close the doors and windows and let it run. Instead of spraying into the vents this can had a locking tab so it would spray continuously. Took about 10-15 minutes for the fog to dissipate and it was done.\nNo more mouse smell and no more AC funky smell. [Here is an example of what I used](http://reviews.canadiantire.ca/9045/0390428P/emzone-odorstop-reviews/reviews.htm )\n\n",
"HVAC tech here....turn your A/C and car fan on hi, then spray Lysol into the intake vents on the outside of the car, near your windshield wipers. For the home, you may need to have a technician open the plenum to gain access to the \"A\" coil and apply either Lysol or in severe cases, remove the coil and wash with a coil cleaner. You can Google \"dirty socks syndrome\" as it's known in the trade.",
"My sister had mice in her garage. She put down some poison. A couple weeks later her air vents smelled funny.\n\nTurns out the mice had nested in her air filter for the AC. They died there, bled out from all the rat poison.\n\nI suggest cleaning out your air filters, and wear gloves for when you first reach in, just in case.",
"If the smell is in your car and house I would suggest change the filter in them. Also maybe call a professional for the house. If it is a mold smell in the house sooner is better than later. If they are functioning normally you need to change your funky ass life. It is affecting your house and car.",
"I also think that some condensation is left behind and doesn't completely dry out. Over time it gives that musky smell. So I try to run the air without the account on for a minute or so before I shut the car off. ",
"For your car, there is a company locally called Envirofix that can remove bad odors from your car by using an ozone machine to scrub the air (from what I heard). They are a vendor at a lot of the same dealerships I visit and are used quite often to remove the smell from a smoker's car.",
"For the house... Is your Central unit located in the basement by chance? My parents had the same issue and it ended up being moisture in the basement causing the smell. It wasn't a cheap fix I'd I remember and required some dirt work and such but it could be a simple fix for you. YMVV",
"For the car, change the cabin air filters, usually at the firewall. They can cause a foul odor when dirty.",
"For home AC make sure the drain line is clear. A wet/dry shop vac can suck out gunk and unclog line. I'm about to pour a cup of bleach in the line from the attic unit, done monthly during AC season. They also sell tablets that go in the drain pan - I don't know if this can mix with bleach. Use the $15 filters to keep stuff from coils. Service unit and have them clean your coils.",
"Check any drainage valves or collectors for the compressor. I had this happen with the mini fridge in my dorm in college. A pool of stale water had collected that was growing something in there. Made the whole room smell. ",
"A quick fix to central air is dryer sheets on the filter. Replace the filter and put dryer sheets on the outside. I do this even though my AC doesn't smell so that my home smells like Tropical Breeze when I run the air.",
"A lot of cars have a drain for the a/c and environmental controls. They get clogged with dirt, pine needles, and other stuff. This needs to be cleaned out as mold and bacteria form in the ducts. I heard this on Car Talk several years ago, but I got to work and turned off NPR before I heard how to do it. ",
"A friend of mine had her car serviced about a year ago and they found mold in the vents. It definitely smelt pretty funky before she knew of the problem. They fixed it for her (not sure on the finer details of fixing it) but it's possible you already have mold build up.",
"Fill a bottle with water and baking soda. With your car ac on, pour it down the vents located above your hood outside of the car. "
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"My best fiend says she hates me, how do I apologize so we can still be friends? So I'm 16, and my best friend(not at the moment) and I had a pretty big fight. She said she hates me, and I apologized a lot. Its been 3 days and I don't know about you, but not talking to the one person I talked to multiple times a day, and having that just stop kinda killed me inside. I really want to put the friendship back together sense I still like her, and pretty sure I'm in love with her and she knows it but she told me it wouldn't go anywhere. So if you have any tips to help with this, I would appreciate it. \n\n",
"My best fiend says she hates me, how do I apologize so we can still be friends? So I'm 16, and my best friend(not at the moment) and I had a pretty big fight. She said she hates me, and I apologized a lot. Its been 3 days and I don't know about you, but not talking to the one person I talked to multiple times a day, and having that just stop kinda killed me inside. I really want to put the friendship back together sense I still like her, and pretty sure I'm in love with her and she knows it but she told me it wouldn't go anywhere. So if you have any tips to help with this, I would appreciate it. \n\n",
"My best fiend says she hates me, how do I apologize so we can still be friends? So I'm 16, and my best friend(not at the moment) and I had a pretty big fight. She said she hates me, and I apologized a lot. Its been 3 days and I don't know about you, but not talking to the one person I talked to multiple times a day, and having that just stop kinda killed me inside. I really want to put the friendship back together sense I still like her, and pretty sure I'm in love with her and she knows it but she told me it wouldn't go anywhere. So if you have any tips to help with this, I would appreciate it. \n\n",
"My best fiend says she hates me, how do I apologize so we can still be friends? So I'm 16, and my best friend(not at the moment) and I had a pretty big fight. She said she hates me, and I apologized a lot. Its been 3 days and I don't know about you, but not talking to the one person I talked to multiple times a day, and having that just stop kinda killed me inside. I really want to put the friendship back together sense I still like her, and pretty sure I'm in love with her and she knows it but she told me it wouldn't go anywhere. So if you have any tips to help with this, I would appreciate it. \n\n",
"My best fiend says she hates me, how do I apologize so we can still be friends? So I'm 16, and my best friend(not at the moment) and I had a pretty big fight. She said she hates me, and I apologized a lot. Its been 3 days and I don't know about you, but not talking to the one person I talked to multiple times a day, and having that just stop kinda killed me inside. I really want to put the friendship back together sense I still like her, and pretty sure I'm in love with her and she knows it but she told me it wouldn't go anywhere. So if you have any tips to help with this, I would appreciate it. \n\n",
"My best fiend says she hates me, how do I apologize so we can still be friends? So I'm 16, and my best friend(not at the moment) and I had a pretty big fight. She said she hates me, and I apologized a lot. Its been 3 days and I don't know about you, but not talking to the one person I talked to multiple times a day, and having that just stop kinda killed me inside. I really want to put the friendship back together sense I still like her, and pretty sure I'm in love with her and she knows it but she told me it wouldn't go anywhere. So if you have any tips to help with this, I would appreciate it. \n\n",
"My best fiend says she hates me, how do I apologize so we can still be friends? So I'm 16, and my best friend(not at the moment) and I had a pretty big fight. She said she hates me, and I apologized a lot. Its been 3 days and I don't know about you, but not talking to the one person I talked to multiple times a day, and having that just stop kinda killed me inside. I really want to put the friendship back together sense I still like her, and pretty sure I'm in love with her and she knows it but she told me it wouldn't go anywhere. So if you have any tips to help with this, I would appreciate it. \n\n",
"My best fiend says she hates me, how do I apologize so we can still be friends? So I'm 16, and my best friend(not at the moment) and I had a pretty big fight. She said she hates me, and I apologized a lot. Its been 3 days and I don't know about you, but not talking to the one person I talked to multiple times a day, and having that just stop kinda killed me inside. I really want to put the friendship back together sense I still like her, and pretty sure I'm in love with her and she knows it but she told me it wouldn't go anywhere. So if you have any tips to help with this, I would appreciate it. \n\n",
"My best fiend says she hates me, how do I apologize so we can still be friends? So I'm 16, and my best friend(not at the moment) and I had a pretty big fight. She said she hates me, and I apologized a lot. Its been 3 days and I don't know about you, but not talking to the one person I talked to multiple times a day, and having that just stop kinda killed me inside. I really want to put the friendship back together sense I still like her, and pretty sure I'm in love with her and she knows it but she told me it wouldn't go anywhere. So if you have any tips to help with this, I would appreciate it. \n\n",
"My best fiend says she hates me, how do I apologize so we can still be friends? So I'm 16, and my best friend(not at the moment) and I had a pretty big fight. She said she hates me, and I apologized a lot. Its been 3 days and I don't know about you, but not talking to the one person I talked to multiple times a day, and having that just stop kinda killed me inside. I really want to put the friendship back together sense I still like her, and pretty sure I'm in love with her and she knows it but she told me it wouldn't go anywhere. So if you have any tips to help with this, I would appreciate it. \n\n"
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"She said it wouldn't go anywhere? You just gotta stop... If someone doesn't have mutual feelings for you, there is literally no other outcome other than you getting hurt. If she won't rekindle the friendship, you're just hurting yourself at that point. Sometime's you seriously just have to let go or not let it get to you, your only outcome is hurt feelings.",
"Dude hate to use the word but you are in what they call friendzone. If you go back she'll put a lot of terms and ultimately hurt you even more. She says it is going nowhere and she is probably right. Sit down and think about it. Are you willing to accept the fact that she'll never consider you anything more than friend? If yes, then try to fix it by apologizing, do it loudly(not literally) and it should work. If you are not okay with her dating other guys, let it go. You don't want her as friend. You just feel there will be an opportunity, which in truth will probably never come. You're 16. We've all been there. Just go to talk to the next girl you meet in your school and you'll be just fine",
"Are you sure you're upset over the end of the friendship or because she's told you in no uncertain terms that you and her are never going to be anything more?\n\nWhether you manage to fix your friendship or not I would hope that you will be mindful of a few things;\n\nConvincing yourself that you are ok to be friends just so you get to be near her is detrimental to you. You will not be able to move on to a more fulfilling relationship whilst still holding on to the hope that she will change her mind. Whether you are aware of it or not; that is what you're doing.\n\n\nDon't be sucked in to being her 'pet'. Being her fake boyfriend to tide her over when she doesn't have an actual boyfriend. Whether she does this intentionally or not; out of malice or not, this is what will happen.\n\nNow she knows how you feel it would be incredibly easy for her to manipulate this for her own ends. To pick you up and drop you as and when it suits her.\n\nPlease be respectful. If she has told you how she feels and is now choosing to distance herself from you (the argument may well have been an excuse to do that) then she is doing so for good reason.\n\n\nI'm not saying that boys and girls can't be best friends (I've always gotten in better with men than women) but it's highly unlikely that you will be able to maintain a positive relationship that is enriching and beneficial to you both whilst one of you is in love with the other.\n\nI've been where you are and I have a 16 year old son; this stuff isn't pretty and can feel very overwhelming. Talk as openly as you can with a trusted person and see this for what it is; your reaction to her rejection of your feelings.\n\n",
"You've done all you can. The ball is squarely in her court. You can either drive yourself crazy waiting to see if she'll return \"the ball\" to you and resenting each minute that it doesn't happen ...\n\n... or you can know that she'll get around to it when the time is right and since you want the time to be right (rather than wrong), you go off doing things that make you happy while trusting her process and the universe's timing.\n\nYour choice. But in each case, your feelings are 100% inside of your own control.",
"This happened to me a couple of months ago,very similar situation too. Life moves on and you'll find other friends. she said she(16,female) \"hated\" me (16, male) over really stupid shit and called me an asshole because I didnt text back over a span of like 3 days. she was the only person I really trusted/talked to out of all my friends. It was hard but I decided to cut our relationship as she would get mad over really dumb things. she didn't want to stop being friends neccesarily but it was what was best for me. I'm not telling you what to do all I'm saying is that if she got mad at you because of something that insignificant to the point to cut off your friendship with her she didn't value you as a friend like you valued her so my advice is that you should just leave things how they are right now and stop saying sorry because you didn't do anything. ",
"There's nothing worse than sitting next to the person you want most in the world and knowing you can't have them. Not sure who said that but it's true. This is going to suck but the best thing for you is to move on. At least you were braver than me and made your feelings known; I never did. Every day will suck for awhile but eventually it will get better. ",
"Out of interest, was booze involved? \n\nThis kinda thing is pretty common at that age, everyone's a bag of hormones.\n\nApologise (as you have), be nice to her, give it a few days gap. Avoid being don't be melodramatic with her or other people.\n\nCalling anything 'over' in the space of a week is BS tbh.",
"It hurts, it sucks, it's probably gonna happen again in your future. Just gonna have to pick up the pieces and move along. ",
"If she cant be a bigger person, why waster you time. I would just be honest and if that doesnt work, what is the point?",
"IMO, if you really like her, show that you do. Give her something special - preferably DIY because it shows your effort rather than just what you can get. \n\nP.S. to those who say it doesn't matter, gtfo. if he's committed, it will work.",
"From experience, forget her. If the feelings you have for her aren't matched by her it's only going to keep hurting and hurting. You're lying to yourself if you claim you love her but you're okay with being friends I'm sorry but that's the reality. So I say leave her behind and focus on your life. The right girl will come! If I didn't do this I probably wouldn't be with my current GF who is a million miles above the bitch I personally got stuck on, don't get stuck on her."
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"How to erase burnt images of scary things in your brain? Well two nights ago I went to see Woman in Black, and it was scary as fuck. Now I have the image of her face burnt into my head and I can't sleep at night because I always think about it now and I am seriously rattled by the movie. I always imagine her in the corner of the room staring at me and I have trouble sleeping at night now. Help me!",
"How to erase burnt images of scary things in your brain? Well two nights ago I went to see Woman in Black, and it was scary as fuck. Now I have the image of her face burnt into my head and I can't sleep at night because I always think about it now and I am seriously rattled by the movie. I always imagine her in the corner of the room staring at me and I have trouble sleeping at night now. Help me!",
"How to erase burnt images of scary things in your brain? Well two nights ago I went to see Woman in Black, and it was scary as fuck. Now I have the image of her face burnt into my head and I can't sleep at night because I always think about it now and I am seriously rattled by the movie. I always imagine her in the corner of the room staring at me and I have trouble sleeping at night now. Help me!",
"How to erase burnt images of scary things in your brain? Well two nights ago I went to see Woman in Black, and it was scary as fuck. Now I have the image of her face burnt into my head and I can't sleep at night because I always think about it now and I am seriously rattled by the movie. I always imagine her in the corner of the room staring at me and I have trouble sleeping at night now. Help me!",
"How to erase burnt images of scary things in your brain? Well two nights ago I went to see Woman in Black, and it was scary as fuck. Now I have the image of her face burnt into my head and I can't sleep at night because I always think about it now and I am seriously rattled by the movie. I always imagine her in the corner of the room staring at me and I have trouble sleeping at night now. Help me!",
"How to erase burnt images of scary things in your brain? Well two nights ago I went to see Woman in Black, and it was scary as fuck. Now I have the image of her face burnt into my head and I can't sleep at night because I always think about it now and I am seriously rattled by the movie. I always imagine her in the corner of the room staring at me and I have trouble sleeping at night now. Help me!",
"How to erase burnt images of scary things in your brain? Well two nights ago I went to see Woman in Black, and it was scary as fuck. Now I have the image of her face burnt into my head and I can't sleep at night because I always think about it now and I am seriously rattled by the movie. I always imagine her in the corner of the room staring at me and I have trouble sleeping at night now. Help me!",
"How to erase burnt images of scary things in your brain? Well two nights ago I went to see Woman in Black, and it was scary as fuck. Now I have the image of her face burnt into my head and I can't sleep at night because I always think about it now and I am seriously rattled by the movie. I always imagine her in the corner of the room staring at me and I have trouble sleeping at night now. Help me!",
"How to erase burnt images of scary things in your brain? Well two nights ago I went to see Woman in Black, and it was scary as fuck. Now I have the image of her face burnt into my head and I can't sleep at night because I always think about it now and I am seriously rattled by the movie. I always imagine her in the corner of the room staring at me and I have trouble sleeping at night now. Help me!",
"How to erase burnt images of scary things in your brain? Well two nights ago I went to see Woman in Black, and it was scary as fuck. Now I have the image of her face burnt into my head and I can't sleep at night because I always think about it now and I am seriously rattled by the movie. I always imagine her in the corner of the room staring at me and I have trouble sleeping at night now. Help me!",
"How to erase burnt images of scary things in your brain? Well two nights ago I went to see Woman in Black, and it was scary as fuck. Now I have the image of her face burnt into my head and I can't sleep at night because I always think about it now and I am seriously rattled by the movie. I always imagine her in the corner of the room staring at me and I have trouble sleeping at night now. Help me!",
"How to erase burnt images of scary things in your brain? Well two nights ago I went to see Woman in Black, and it was scary as fuck. Now I have the image of her face burnt into my head and I can't sleep at night because I always think about it now and I am seriously rattled by the movie. I always imagine her in the corner of the room staring at me and I have trouble sleeping at night now. Help me!",
"How to erase burnt images of scary things in your brain? Well two nights ago I went to see Woman in Black, and it was scary as fuck. Now I have the image of her face burnt into my head and I can't sleep at night because I always think about it now and I am seriously rattled by the movie. I always imagine her in the corner of the room staring at me and I have trouble sleeping at night now. Help me!",
"How to erase burnt images of scary things in your brain? Well two nights ago I went to see Woman in Black, and it was scary as fuck. Now I have the image of her face burnt into my head and I can't sleep at night because I always think about it now and I am seriously rattled by the movie. I always imagine her in the corner of the room staring at me and I have trouble sleeping at night now. Help me!"
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"Picture her doing something extremely mundane, like going grocery shopping, picking up fruit and choosing yogurt. Now imagine it in fast-forward and set to Looney Tunes or Benny Hill music. After a while, add something new to the story to keep it fresh: oh no, she missed the bus and she's chasing after it with shopping bags in her hands.\n\nThis is a form of propaganda and it is extremely effective. (You can also use it to deal with embarrassing memories from high school.)",
"NLP, NeuroLinguistic Programming <--\n\nBasically what you do is, close your eyes and relax and feel comfortable, then bring up her face in your mind and try to see it as a picture infront of you. Next you put a frame (of your favorite colour) to the picture, then you start changing the things you dislike in this picture, from size of the woman to the colours and backgrounds, things, etc.. until you're completely comfortable with the picture. Then what you do is anchor this picture in your brain by making it smaller and smaller until it disappears, then make it larger and larger until it's there again (of course the picture you're comfy with) and do this for 5 times, then last time it's large you open your eyes! \n\nThis replaces the scary image in your subconscious with the new image you're comfy with. If you try it, let me know what happens next.",
"Try to find some \"making of\" or other behind the scenes photos or clips from the film. Helps to remind your brain that everything was just a fiction filmed in front of tons of staff and producers.",
"after a really shocking event (death of a loved one, brutality, rape etc) it can help to occupy your mind the next few days with simple repetitive video games like tetris or something similar. reduces the risk of a real long trauma or at least the severity of the trauma significantly. next time when a movie scares the shit out of you you know what to do that night :)",
"I talked to a psychologist when I was a kid. It was just a conversation decades ago, not any type of therapy. He told me to look up at an empty space, visualize that image, and then physically reach my finger out and X out that image. Seems silly but it has worked every time for me. (Especially in the teenage years when I had a lot of improper thoughts...)",
"Try looking online for \"making of\" and \"behind the scenes\" videos, it might help break the immersion by explicitly showing you that it's not real.",
"My grandmother always told me when she saw scary movies, she would just imagine what they did after the movie. She would always imagine them all grabbing a soda and chit chatting. Try thinking of her doing that, with the main character or you for instance :]",
"memories cannot be erased, unless by disease.\nMemory is built upon itself, if u wanna \"erase\" something, you may mean that you are just upset by the memory, in that case psychotherapy is the way to go",
"You have to change the context of the image. Next time you see her face, imagine her putting on makeup or doing something normal people do. Try a pie to her face to make it humorous.",
"Play Tetris, your brain will be to busy concentrating on the game to convert the image to long term memory.",
"I can't stay in a bathroom with the light off for more than five seconds because that stupid thing I can't even remember when I was a kid about some evil thing in the mirror. Any tips?",
"Every time you encounter the image count to 17 or 20.\n\nTry this with any negative thought. You'll forget what you were ruminating about 20 seconds ago. :D\n\nI'm guessing that is why moms count to ten when it comes to parenting. Kids forget the bad behavior they were engaging in, in ten seconds or less.\n",
"Decades of drinking haven't seemed to help... so don't waste your time there. Perhaps prescription narcotics or hypnosis!",
"How about you remind yourself that it was just a stupid movie and ghosts aren't real. Seriously, are you a 12 year old girl? Spend a few hours watching actual horrific stuff of LiveLeak and then you can come back to us claiming you need to erase scary images from your brain."
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"Honestly, just tell them. I went through a rough patch a long time ago and leaned on my best friend more than I should have. Luckily she told me and I’m a lot more mindful of it now.",
"We're lacking a lot of context here. Do you work with them? How close are you? How long have you been friends?",
"I was the emotionally draining friend. I didn't know it until my friend told me. I was really hurt because I didn't know that it had been hard to be my friend, and I wished they would've said something sooner so I could correct myself. I really care about this friend. Our moms were pregnant with us at the same time. We've literally known each other since birth. So I took a few steps back. Looked at myself and what was hard about me for her. Turns out, I can't change the parts of me that are upsetting (I have a personality disorder, which I learned decades after she told me), but I can change how I interact with that person. So I did. Here we are at age 47, still very close friends.\n\nTalking to your friend is the only way to go. It will be hard & uncomfortable, but you have to protect yourself. You can't control how your friend will react to this news, but hopefully they are self aware enough to be able to adjust how they are with you. Good luck!",
"You need to not worry about their feelings! They obviously don’t care about yours. You need to be honest. This is what grown ups do. Hey, buddy, all this dumping of negativity is really getting to me. I’m hoping we can talk about positive things, but if that can’t happen, I need to protect my own mental health. Every time they trap you with negativity, you walk away. Go to the bathroom. Walk outside, whatever you need to do. Life is way too short for this shit. You owe them nothing.",
"Sorry, I’ve been feeling down lately. I don’t want to talk about anything negative. (Repeat the second sentence whenever she complains about something.)\n\nSorry, I’ve got to study/do some reading. I haven’t got time to chat. \n\nYou need to talk to someone about that. But not me.",
"You have to slowly limit your time or exposure to this individual. Have plans already made or at least made-up plans if they ask to spend time with you. Over time they’ll get the hint.",
"One of the things I consistently have to teach myself in life is that some moments of awkwardness are totally worth it when it makes literally everything else better.",
"Consider that they might have mental illness/depression and ignore all these toxic and immature suggestions. \n\njust be a human and have an honest heart to heart with them. If they handle it poorly then they will leave you alone on their own accord. This gives them autonomy and clarity to reflect and change things. \n\nSeriously, dodging, ignoring or being passive aggressive to someone who is obviously going through some stuff is shitty and only prolongs the issue if not makes it worse. Confrontation doesn’t mean you have to argue or belittle, it just means to approach and engage. How you choose to approach is what determines the tone and outcome. \n\nEven if it’s not your responsibility to fix them i think the world would be a much better place if people came from a place of understanding.\nWe are not going to be fun and energetic when we are struggling immensely, and even if the struggle can’t be immediately fixed, honesty and genuineness can go along way to putting things in to perspective for everyone involved.",
"Make sure that you reward any positive or even neutral comments, with enthusiasm and approval. If they start making negative comments make minimal replies or or even refuse acknowledgement. It’ll be a long haul, but eventually they should get the message from all the subliminal training you’re giving them. \n\nGood luck OP, you’re a very nice person but remember it’s okay to just say “no” sometimes.",
"I knew a woman who used to regularly report to me the latest occurrence of abuse by her boyfriend. I eventually realized she was using me as a kind of dumping ground for her traumas and I told her that I cared about her and that it hurt me to hear these stories and she would have to find someone else for this purpose and that I hoped it would not affect our friendship but I just couldn’t take it anymore. I told her if she got serious about leaving him I would be there for her but it didn’t seem she was ready to take that step. We stayed friends and she eventually left him, and I do think she just hadn’t thought about the effect her complaining had on other people.",
"Honesty. Be honest. Brutally honest. They may thank you some day. Probably not, but you won't have to listen to their crap anymore.\n\nSurround yourself with people who increase your positive energies. Avoid those who drain your positive energies.",
"You may be dealing with a covert/vulnerable narcissist.\n\nHere is my collection of resources around dealing with narcissists:\n\n\"[Never Split the Difference](https://youtu.be/r28-YVUib10)\" by Chris Voss. He was the lead FBI hostage negotiator and his tactics work well on setting boundaries with difficult people.\n\n[7 options when you can't go no contact](https://youtu.be/MsZGacsLxgg)\n\n[10 rules for surviving life with a narcissist](https://youtu.be/Emrkqt13Z0M)\n\n[10 things to never do with narcissists](https://youtu.be/k2pdCdRqFlI)\n\n[5 mistakes we make when dealing with a narcissist](https://youtu.be/PjMEli66s5M)\n\n[5 ways to avoid being used](https://youtu.be/C2B26jdy178)\n\n[How to set and keep boundaries with a narcissist](https://youtu.be/UHlcX-vUBZg)\n\n[10 ways to set boundaries with a narcissist](https://youtu.be/Qcod_oNOPvI)\n\n[Why setting boundaries with a narcissist is so hard](https://youtu.be/rOw-niCUp-U)\n\n[Soul Distancing to protect yourself from narcissists](https://youtu.be/NU9P41Vifec)\n\nYouTube channels on narcissism and abuse tactics:\n\n[Dr. Ramani](https://youtube.com/c/DoctorRamani) - amazing resource on narcissistic behaviors\n\n[TheraminTrees](https://youtube.com/c/TheraminTrees) - great resource on abuse tactics\n\n[Rebecca Zung](https://youtube.com/c/RebeccaZungEsq) - a lawyer that got fed up with dealing with narcissists in her practice, so she started teaching others how to negotiate with them. I find her motivational.\n \n[Jay Reid](https://youtube.com/c/JayReid_narcissistic_abuse_recovery) - lots of great videos to help understand the narcissistic perspective. Plus ways to \"fight back\" and act from your values.\n\n[Danish Bashir](https://youtube.com/c/DanishBashir) - has a very good understanding of narcissistic mindset\n\n[Surviving Narcissism (Dr. Carter)](https://youtube.com/c/SurvivingNarcissism) - I like his acronym of DR.C Dignity, Respect, and Civility, and his message of peace. And I think he sometimes misses how the toxic person can twist things around on you.",
"Every time she brings stuff up, suggest a therapist.\n\n\"That sounds rough, have you thought of talking to a therapist?\"\n\n\"It sounds like you're dealing with a lot. Did you look into a therapist yet? They can be really helpful.\"\n\n\"Geez... this seems beyond me, you'd be better off with a professional.\"\n\nFriend: I don't want to get a therapist, I just need a friend to listen.\n\n\"You have a lot to talk about, and it's beyond what you should expect from a friendship, not that I don't want to help. The occasional shoulder to cry on is one thing, but you have stuff you need to address, and that's just above my paygrade. It's not healthy for you or our relationship, either. Want me to help you find one?\"",
"Become stronger, help them become stronger, develop hobbies you can do with or without them, and try changing your perspective.",
"Learning to set personal boundaries and navigate relationships efficiently should really be a mandatory college class. \n\nFigure out the best way to make your friend understand that their continuous venting is causing you stress. It’s called dumping, and it should always be prefaced with something like “can I vent to you for a minute?” Asking consent allows you to decide whether you have the bandwidth to take on their stress, or not - “sorry but I’m pretty stressed myself and I just don’t have the mental energy/bandwidth right now, but I hope it gets better for you.”\n\nHaving the social awareness that they’re not just getting something off their chest, but also laying it on your shoulders, is a priceless life lesson. You owe it to yourself and the rest of civil society to teach that lesson.",
"life is too short to deal with people that don’t bring you joy or safe space. be upfront and transparent about how they make you feel, because more than likely they aren’t aware. and if they are aware and don’t care, then you need to distance yourself, no matter how complicated it’ll be. it’s ok to prioritize yourself.",
"You have to be real, both with yourself, and with this friend. Check yourself for why is this person draining you. Check with your self if this relationship is even good for you. Share your findings with them in a honest but gentle manner.\n\nEither this friend will realize something they never did, or the friendship will end. In any case, it is a win for you.",
"Train them like a dog. Every time they start talking about something that's draining, tell them you have to go do something, and leave the conversation. Go to the library. Go to the dining hall. Go for a walk. If they're as immature as you say, conditioning like this may work fairly quickly.",
"Set boundaries and limits. 'i won't talk about x or y'\nIf they don't care about you, why are you friends. Legit answer the question.",
"Boundaries. “I see you want xyz, honestly I’m feeling emotionally drained, I can’t give you that validation today.” \n\nOr “when you do this, or that, I feel blank. In the future I’d rather you didn’t do that around me.",
"Start talking about yourself nonstop. One up them as often as you can. Always make the convo about you. \"Study\" for hours on end. Pretend to be at work all the time. Eventually they'll start to enjoy speaking to you less and less and fade away to find another victim. \n\nYou don't owe them anything, least of all your time.",
"Just talk to them about it. \n\nLet them know that you’re not in a place where you have the headspace for this, and be specific about what’s draining for you. \nTry to be thoughtful in how you phrase it, make a lot of “I feel x way when you do this action” sort of statements. It helps keep blame off of them in the dialogue (which is helpful because it can reduce defensiveness) because you’re not telling them “you make me feel this” and is instead you telling them that their action is having an effect they didn’t intend. \n\n\nif they give a fuck, they’ll try to be mindful of it. \n\nIf they don’t, and aren’t, then you 100% have a good reason for just being extremely business-like with them.",
"It might be a little bit brutal, but next time they start over sharing don’t respond. Simple “mmhm” and/or changing the topic will do. You can always just abruptly walk away. \nI think the baseline is not to engage in the conversation. Just to clarify; don’t be rude, but send a strong message that you don’t want to talk about their problems at this time. \nThey should quickly notice that you are not willing to participate. \nI’m sorry you have to deal with that. Setting up boundaries are important for every person, and you should take this as an opportunity to learn/practice how to do it properly. \nGood luck!",
"I think if you don’t want to confront them directly about it, just become a little difficult. \nStart using phrases like “you’ll be fine” or “people have it worse.” Stuff you wouldn’t want to hear if you are complaining. Or if they’re complaining about someone say “I don’t know, I can definitely see where they are coming from..”",
"Drop them motherfuckers out of your life and work on yourself. NO reason to let them drag you down with them. It ain't your damn duty to fix them. \n\n\nSTAY HARD",
"Communicate how you feel. Commmmunnnnication is key. If they don’t respond well, then you don’t need narcissist friends.",
"By saying completely cutting them off is absolutely not an option, I’m inclined to believe that they have some control over you that you’re not admitting to",
"A great quote I once read: “The success you have in life will largely be determined by the amount of uncomfortable conversations you’re willing to have.”",
"my girlfriend is afflicted with narcissistic victim abuse syndrome. her daughter forged a quit claim deed, stuck this senior woman with a 40 year mortgage, both daughters abandoned & isolated her after a massive smear campaign. reported her to adult protective services as demented & me as a gigolo that drugs her. they tried to get guardianship over her finances, both son-in-laws have threatened me physically & vandalized my truck. she finally engaged a lawyer but it's questionable if she will actually take action against her daughter. I've been dealing with her trauma bond for iver a year. a couple counselors trued to help her get through but this pathology is thick & deep. feels like I've been paddling a life boat & she keeps jumping back in the shark infested water.",
"my friend felt like one due to extreme mental illness but after five years of therapy i realized i was the drain by doing shadow work. we took summer off while she dated and i found another job to avoid getting laid off. I lack an SO but will find a therapist despite not wanting to",
"it’s interesting to hear this from the other side. in the last two years my life has had profound upheaval - divorce, immigrating, supporting a parent through dementia and now through cancer - i sometimes wonder if being sad about any of it is reasonable. my instinct was to never talk about it to anyone and to mask and be doing great cheers bc i had a feeling no one would give a shit. it’s funny bc the advice on the other side is ‘lean on your friends! that’s what they are there for!. looks like my instinct to keep my feelings and grief to myself were spot on, ha",
"firm communication about your boundaries and acceptance that it's gonna get hella more uncomfortable before it gets better.\n\ni found an approach that works, especially if the conversations or vibes might entail a lot of venting or wasteful negative exchanges is asking them before they run-off: \n\nAre you looking for comfort or solutions?: as in (your boundary), i don't have the emotional energy to hear your bitching kinda thing lol, but if you want to have a healthy conservation, we can work on solutions together.",
"cut them off completely.\n\nif it's absolutely not an option to cut someone off, you should have cut them off long ago.",
"[Grey Rock](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/toxic-relationships/201911/the-price-and-payoff-gray-rock-strategy?amp)",
"You should look up the \"gray rock\" technique.\nBasically you behave like a rock; very short answers, no input and validation whatsoever. Works like a charm.",
"You can either help them resolve their issues so they shut up or tell them to practice silent moody. If they are radiating silent moody I suggest taking the opportunity to become a sturdy pillar of chill.",
"You can always Muffassa the shit out of her, like deers and all and you say \"Long live the king\" and then she falls.",
"Yawn when they talk of stuff you dislike.\n\nOr get up and go for a glass of water, or a fake toilet break. \n\nOr tell them you don't like to discuss these issues.\n\nOr change the subject.\n\nThey will get a hint if you don't engage, comment or show interest....",
"Why is it not an option?\nI would have a talk with them though. Make sure you are kind but honest and I think it will be okay. Most people I find really like an honest friend who is willing to go into stuff like this, even if it is difficult.",
"What about if you can't tell them?\n\nMy best friend has PTSD and severe depression and alcoholism after a work accident..\n\nHis family/life is falling apart and it's horrible to watch..\n\nSpending time with him is painful AF but I feel obligated as he has no one else other than me and one other of the boys",
"Try not to meet them in the earlier part of your day. By the time you meet them, make sure you have taken care of your top 3s or at least the top 2s. \n\nThat’s a decent strategy. It applies to any adverse situation that you dread in your day.",
"There’s a difference between confrontation and setting boundaries. A lot of the presentation is the approach.",
"Tell them? If they can’t accept it, then you probably shouldn’t be friendly enough for them to lean on.",
"Start slowly building respectful [boundaries.](https://psychcentral.com/lib/10-way-to-build-and-preserve-better-boundaries#types)",
"Start being busy. \"Sorry, I got to do ____ and I don't have time\". \"Not right now, I got to go, maybe later\".",
"Set boundaries-either through a conversation with them or noting in your mind what you personally, are willing to tolerate. And manage your expectations of them.",
"Set boundaries, and verbalize them. I know things have been hard for you lately, and I know you need to vent but I need to limit there amount of time I listen. Then give them 10 minutes to vent. Or change the dynamic, I hear you are struggling right now, what can I actually do to help? Do you need a safe place to vent or help with solutions? I can hold space for you but I need to keep myself healthy",
"Set a time boundary at the beginning of the conversation. “I’d love to talk but I’ve got 10 minutes. “\n\nThat way you have an out and an end.",
"People treat us how we allow them to.\n\nI’ve learned as a person who has both been silent and dissociative, and later after lots of therapy, the more open blabber monster.\n\nTypically the blabber stems from a search for connection, and with some particular people, they may feel uncomfortable in silence due to many possible reasons. \n\nA very close friend of mine once, after a shift of work together, on the drive home, said “I’m exhausted, I’m not going to waste my time with people who drain my energy any more”. \nThat cruelty really hurt, I apologized immediately and descended into rumination. I asked her to make her needs known and set boundaries as I am not a great interpreter of “hints”. \nShe cried the next day and apologized and said that she had been tired, and values our friendship. \nWe are still good friends and I’ll tell you one very important thing:\nKindness without honesty is manipulation \nAnd\nHonesty without kindness is just cruelty\n\nLastly, while I hear a lot of people saying to say “what are you gonna do about it?” \nNothing could possibly feel more disconnecting than that if you feel powerless to a stressor. I’d go with instead using validation and encourage that person to accept the struggle, and move forward anyway. Not because it will get easier, but because it’s okay for things to be bad, and there aren’t easy solutions, speak from your own experience.\n\nIf you don’t care to have a connection with that person, there’s no justification you need to set a boundary, that’s your side of the street.",
"Match what they say with a happy awesome thing that’s happening to you- every single time- they will start talking to you less quick -Remember EVERY TIME",
"Lol wtf stop hanging out with people like that how is that not an option. So you're gonna sacrifice your own health for the betterment of theirs?",
"Just be honest. next time they start up tell them you don't want to hear about no drama and you're trying to have a positive day. If you don't set boundaries, there will be none",
"It’s mean to say but if talking to them doesn’t work (even if they are immature about it, sometimes they clue in later), sometimes you just need to tune them out if you can. Half-listen and give yourself the mental space you need.",
"It could be entertaining to think about, “what would George Costanza do, if this was an episode of Seinfeld?” Or “what would Larry David do if this was an episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm?”",
"If you are a “sounding board” you could try being a bad one. Instead of offering sympathy or criticism, try just not reacting at all. \n\nJust say oh. Not yes, not no, just a non-reaction. \n\nMy boyfriend is an asshole,\n**That must be awful**\nIt is… let me tell you all about it. \n\nMy boyfriend is an asshole\n**Maybe you should leave him**\nBut I love him…let me tell you why \n\nMy boyfriend is an asshole\n**Oh**\nHe did this to me\n**Oh**\nI love him\n**Oh**\nWhat should I do?\n**I don’t have anything to say**",
"If they are a good friend why not sit down and talk this out with them? If they are really a friend, they would want to hear what you think their shortcomings are. \n\nAnyone who drains you emotionally needs to hear this from you, because they are doing it to others too.",
"I was in a similar situation and I’d just always be focused on something around them. Or I’d wear headphones a lot. That’s a “leave me alone” singnal. Idk just look too busy to engage. It won’t always work but maybe half the time",
"I told my roommate/friend after 2 o3 months of hime crying and rehashing all of his life trauma that he needs to book an appointment with a psychologist. They are better at listening and deal with daily psychic pain. Nothing really bad, just common bad family dynamics. He never went but has stopped because he knows that I will tell him the same thing every time.",
"Give them advices. Straightforward. So you stayed with him knowing from the beginning he’s abusive? Aren’t there other men around or is he the only one there. I mean inmates don’t have much choices. But you act like one. \nI promise you this works like a charm",
"Find a corner of time and space where you can be you and do you things while they are not around.\n\nPeople are emotionally exhausting, so you need to replenish what makes you you and what you enjoy, or they will drain you dry. Which isn't good for either person.",
"Excommunicado is the only solution. You don't need vampires in your lives, they are not your friends.",
"Do some research on setting boundaries. You’re going to need this skill throughout your life and this sounds like a good person to practice on.",
"Distance yourself as much as possible, giving uninterested responses, dry conversation. When they ask what’s wrong, express that you’ve gotten very busy and you’re tired. I have successfully done this with friends that I never thought I could do this to. Trust the process",
"Chances are they know they are using you as an emotional tampon. Most people won't entertain their bs, and they will use you as an emotional dumping ground \n\nI would just tell them to seek counseling as you have better things to do and don't want to be dragged down by their negativity. \n\nThis is how my dad was with me. I used to try and listen and give advice, but he never did take the advice and only ruined my mindset. My other siblings are more nefarious than me and would use that information against, criticize him or even turn the tables and start unloading on him. The only thing that put a stop to that was having firm boundaries and cutting him out of my life for not respecting those boundaries.",
"Can you do an activity while being with them? Like walking around a mall and shop, riding a stationary bike, miniature golf, walk in the park/around a neighborhood etc. to take the pressure of some of the focused energy? I fully realize that the stuff I mentioned may not be up your ally but I’m just introducing some options. Besides, perhaps participating in an activity may give them an outlet for what they’re feeling.",
"Are you buying food for each other? Are you dependent in any way that is not a friendship courtesy? If all the words and conversations dissipated, is there any benefit that you will miss? Are you learning from this person because they are \"bringing something to the table\" or are you learning to have a smaller table?",
"Are they someone that really needs your responses? I'm the kind of person that just kind of texts my thoughts to a feq of friends and don't really need responses. Honestly it's more of a thing they can take if they want or not. Just pulls of information, might help them might be something to ignore, doesn't matter, doesn't affect my relationships.",
"Think of your friend as an exercise in developing more patience. Try to see the humor in her/his conversation whenever you can. Take good breaths and try not to buy into whatever rhetoric is being said. Stay emotionally detached while employing a few rehearsed phrases that lets your friend know that you are hearing the words. Try to redirect the conversation frequently to something positive and unrelated. The above list works for me knowing that I can’t change the person, but don’t want to be rude. I look at the situation as an opportunity to better myself through patience, calmness and humor.",
"The lady in the office next me at work is a chronic talker. When she's out sick, people (myself included) say it's quiet because she's not there. As an introvert, I do find her rather draining. If I have a story / problem, she's had it worse. And she won't hesitate to tell you how she dealt with it and move onto what's going on in her life.\n\nI let her ramble for as long as I can take it. And then \"I've got to get some work done.\" At first I had to pointedly turn towards my computer and ignore her. She's now responding better and will leave my office before I have to get rude.\n\nPlus I've gotten to know her better and can tolerate her better. : )\n\nNow my actual real friend who has hated her jobs for the last 15-20 years but won't change her life? I just let her ramble on about how she hates her job, she hasn't ever had a pay raise, and her boss sticks her with all the bad jobs just because she's late every day. Yeah... \n\nNothing I can do to fix that! But she is my friend so continue to let her ramble... Yes, I have tried suggestions and questions. She knows she needs to update her resume and look for jobs. But she doesn't do it. Not much I can do for her other than let her talk.\n\n\nAnyway, my suggestions for you are put up with your person for a little bit or just let them ramble as needed. If your person is truly a friend you really want to keep, maybe you put up with a little more. If your person is just somebody you don't want to piss off, maybe put up with a little less. : )"
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"How to mark files as \"watched\" in Windows 7 So, just as the title says. I have lots of TV shows and movies on my computer, several terabytes worth. It's hard to keep track of which episode I'm on currently in a particular series, and when there's nothing good on TV I go back to old series and watch them again.\n\nSo, I'm looking for a simple way to just mark a file as \"watched\" so I know which episode I'm currently at for several TV shows at any given time. I use VLC over a network for several computers depending on where in my house I'm watching from, so something that works in explorer would be ideal but I can't seem to find ANY solutions.\n\nAnyone got any recommendations?",
"How to mark files as \"watched\" in Windows 7 So, just as the title says. I have lots of TV shows and movies on my computer, several terabytes worth. It's hard to keep track of which episode I'm on currently in a particular series, and when there's nothing good on TV I go back to old series and watch them again.\n\nSo, I'm looking for a simple way to just mark a file as \"watched\" so I know which episode I'm currently at for several TV shows at any given time. I use VLC over a network for several computers depending on where in my house I'm watching from, so something that works in explorer would be ideal but I can't seem to find ANY solutions.\n\nAnyone got any recommendations?",
"How to mark files as \"watched\" in Windows 7 So, just as the title says. I have lots of TV shows and movies on my computer, several terabytes worth. It's hard to keep track of which episode I'm on currently in a particular series, and when there's nothing good on TV I go back to old series and watch them again.\n\nSo, I'm looking for a simple way to just mark a file as \"watched\" so I know which episode I'm currently at for several TV shows at any given time. I use VLC over a network for several computers depending on where in my house I'm watching from, so something that works in explorer would be ideal but I can't seem to find ANY solutions.\n\nAnyone got any recommendations?",
"How to mark files as \"watched\" in Windows 7 So, just as the title says. I have lots of TV shows and movies on my computer, several terabytes worth. It's hard to keep track of which episode I'm on currently in a particular series, and when there's nothing good on TV I go back to old series and watch them again.\n\nSo, I'm looking for a simple way to just mark a file as \"watched\" so I know which episode I'm currently at for several TV shows at any given time. I use VLC over a network for several computers depending on where in my house I'm watching from, so something that works in explorer would be ideal but I can't seem to find ANY solutions.\n\nAnyone got any recommendations?"
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"We create a new folder called 'seen' in the folder that we have the series episodes in, and after we watch an episode we drag it into the seen folder. Makes it nice and simple to work out which one we're on. ",
"Get XBMC. I put my movies in one folder, tv shows in another folder. Add both folders as \"sources\" in xbmc. Now you use XBMC as your mediaplayer because its got a much nicer interface. Have it scan your folders, let it refresh its library and then \"mark as watched\" everything youve watched so far. Now your library is caught up with your past activities. From now on, when you finish something, it gets marked as watched automatically. And since you are using real codecs to watch your videos, your cpu doesnt heat up so much (vlc uses the cpu for everything), your fans dont spin as fast and loud, your computer uses a bit less power. Look at you all fancy. People will start asking you what software that is.\n\nYou can even hook up a remote to your computer, and get an hdmi cable to display everything on the tv nearby.\n\nother things: i believe other computers running xbmc can use that xbmc library so everything can be centralized in the house. If you watch one video on another computer, every computer knows its been watched. \n\nXbmc also keeps track of things you havent finished. A little pie chart icon with your percentage of the video appears next to entries. It also prompts you to start from beginning or resume if you start up a video you didnt finish last time.",
"There's a ratings option to add to your toolbar in Windows Explorer, stars 1-5. An easy solution is 0=unwatched. 5=watched.",
"If you're anything like me your files a meticulously named and organized. When I download something new I always put \"~\" before the name. This way it keeps it right at the start of all the files and once I'm done watching it I delete the ~"
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"How to Move Out Hello Life Pro's of Reddit! \n\nI'm in a bit of a pickle here and I'm hoping you guys can give me some tips for getting out on my own and on my feet. \n\nCurrently, my gf and I live at my parents' house. The home is a duplex, but the kitchen and living room are at the bottom of the house, or our half. When she first moved in, the others barely ever came downstairs, but after getting comfortable they have began to come downstairs invading our privacy and waking us up from naps (we both work constantly changing schedules and are both in school) so we sleep whenever we can. \n\nWhile these people have been annoying me for 20 years, they don't bother me much but I can see the disappointment in my gf's eyes. She sometimes mentions it would be nice to have our own place, and at a time that was our plan before my Father offered us a place for free. \n\nShe barely ever says anything, but I can tell she wants us to get our own place. What are your tips for two 20-year old college students working part time and looking to get their own place? \n\nThanks in advance!!",
"How to Move Out Hello Life Pro's of Reddit! \n\nI'm in a bit of a pickle here and I'm hoping you guys can give me some tips for getting out on my own and on my feet. \n\nCurrently, my gf and I live at my parents' house. The home is a duplex, but the kitchen and living room are at the bottom of the house, or our half. When she first moved in, the others barely ever came downstairs, but after getting comfortable they have began to come downstairs invading our privacy and waking us up from naps (we both work constantly changing schedules and are both in school) so we sleep whenever we can. \n\nWhile these people have been annoying me for 20 years, they don't bother me much but I can see the disappointment in my gf's eyes. She sometimes mentions it would be nice to have our own place, and at a time that was our plan before my Father offered us a place for free. \n\nShe barely ever says anything, but I can tell she wants us to get our own place. What are your tips for two 20-year old college students working part time and looking to get their own place? \n\nThanks in advance!!",
"How to Move Out Hello Life Pro's of Reddit! \n\nI'm in a bit of a pickle here and I'm hoping you guys can give me some tips for getting out on my own and on my feet. \n\nCurrently, my gf and I live at my parents' house. The home is a duplex, but the kitchen and living room are at the bottom of the house, or our half. When she first moved in, the others barely ever came downstairs, but after getting comfortable they have began to come downstairs invading our privacy and waking us up from naps (we both work constantly changing schedules and are both in school) so we sleep whenever we can. \n\nWhile these people have been annoying me for 20 years, they don't bother me much but I can see the disappointment in my gf's eyes. She sometimes mentions it would be nice to have our own place, and at a time that was our plan before my Father offered us a place for free. \n\nShe barely ever says anything, but I can tell she wants us to get our own place. What are your tips for two 20-year old college students working part time and looking to get their own place? \n\nThanks in advance!!",
"How to Move Out Hello Life Pro's of Reddit! \n\nI'm in a bit of a pickle here and I'm hoping you guys can give me some tips for getting out on my own and on my feet. \n\nCurrently, my gf and I live at my parents' house. The home is a duplex, but the kitchen and living room are at the bottom of the house, or our half. When she first moved in, the others barely ever came downstairs, but after getting comfortable they have began to come downstairs invading our privacy and waking us up from naps (we both work constantly changing schedules and are both in school) so we sleep whenever we can. \n\nWhile these people have been annoying me for 20 years, they don't bother me much but I can see the disappointment in my gf's eyes. She sometimes mentions it would be nice to have our own place, and at a time that was our plan before my Father offered us a place for free. \n\nShe barely ever says anything, but I can tell she wants us to get our own place. What are your tips for two 20-year old college students working part time and looking to get their own place? \n\nThanks in advance!!",
"How to Move Out Hello Life Pro's of Reddit! \n\nI'm in a bit of a pickle here and I'm hoping you guys can give me some tips for getting out on my own and on my feet. \n\nCurrently, my gf and I live at my parents' house. The home is a duplex, but the kitchen and living room are at the bottom of the house, or our half. When she first moved in, the others barely ever came downstairs, but after getting comfortable they have began to come downstairs invading our privacy and waking us up from naps (we both work constantly changing schedules and are both in school) so we sleep whenever we can. \n\nWhile these people have been annoying me for 20 years, they don't bother me much but I can see the disappointment in my gf's eyes. She sometimes mentions it would be nice to have our own place, and at a time that was our plan before my Father offered us a place for free. \n\nShe barely ever says anything, but I can tell she wants us to get our own place. What are your tips for two 20-year old college students working part time and looking to get their own place? \n\nThanks in advance!!"
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"If they are willing to let you stay. Definitely stay until you finish school. \n\nYou will have a lot more responsibilities to worry about than school.\n\nYou need to save every cent you can.\n\nWhy throw away 800 on apartment, plus insurance, electricity, water.... When you have your parents helping you.\n\nIt may be hard, but it gets harder on your own.\n\n\n\n",
"If you need to get out, find a two bedroom with roommates and split the rent. Save as much as you can whenever you can. This is a lifelong suggestion. \n\nIf you can, you mentioned your that your dad offered you a place. Maybe have a talk with him about privacy if it was his idea. ",
"I am about your parents age. Speaking from experience, they will understand if you want to move out. They may not understand it when you break it to them, but they will later on. This is very normal.\n\nYou have the right to tell them that you need more privacy. If they don't \"get it\", then move out. As the other guys said, stay as long as you can. But don't stay so long that you can't forgive them.\n\nI get that this is difficult. As we get older, we get more opinionated. \n\nWhen you want to move out, setup a meeting time. Explain to them that you appreciate the free rent. That it is getting increasingly difficult to live in the house due to the lack of privacy. You value your relationship with them and you don't want to strain it. Explain it is a natural part of \"growing up\" to move out and be more independent.\n",
"You can search for a place and start paying or you can talk to your family. Tell them you and your gf are stressed out, very tired, and need to have your privacy and space respected. Tell them that you're all for hanging out, but you need to get some rest and have your own space.\n\nYour family will understand. If they don't then just continue your plan to move out.",
"Do this first: Save the equivalent of rent, don't touch it, for three months. After the three months, ask yourselves, \"Is the lack of privacy we experience here in our free rent home better or worse that the impact of coming up with rent EVERY MONTH?\"\n\nI recommend you get a large free standing screen to block visuals to your sleeping space when viewed from the kitchen."
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"Playing horror games if you're a wimp when it comes to that stuff? A friend of mine gave me a Steam code for a game called Husk. I watched the trailer and it looks terrifying but it looks fun and I'd like to play. Can anyone drop me some tips on playing without pissing myself?",
"Playing horror games if you're a wimp when it comes to that stuff? A friend of mine gave me a Steam code for a game called Husk. I watched the trailer and it looks terrifying but it looks fun and I'd like to play. Can anyone drop me some tips on playing without pissing myself?"
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"Watch some of the \"making of\" footage. Seeing developers create the characters/monsters will make it feel less real and therefore less scary.",
"Quite often there are cues you begin to notice, just like in films, when the big bad scary things are about to come out, so you can prepare yourself."
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"How do I manage all these hobbies with all these priorities? So I work more than full time, raising a 3 year old and a dog and also supporting my wife. These are my top priorities, obviously.\n\nBut I also spin fire (poi), DM for dungeons and dragons homebrew campaign, play guitar, write, hang with friends, crafting miniature terrain models, make hemp necklaces, try to play video games once a month if possible, and grow a garden.\n\nI don't want to give up on any of these skills, I've worked hard on all of them and have seen vast improvement what with some going back 5 years or more, but I'm burning out. \n\nHow can I manage all this stuff or even get time to do each at a regular pace so I don't feel I'm neglecting something?",
"How do I manage all these hobbies with all these priorities? So I work more than full time, raising a 3 year old and a dog and also supporting my wife. These are my top priorities, obviously.\n\nBut I also spin fire (poi), DM for dungeons and dragons homebrew campaign, play guitar, write, hang with friends, crafting miniature terrain models, make hemp necklaces, try to play video games once a month if possible, and grow a garden.\n\nI don't want to give up on any of these skills, I've worked hard on all of them and have seen vast improvement what with some going back 5 years or more, but I'm burning out. \n\nHow can I manage all this stuff or even get time to do each at a regular pace so I don't feel I'm neglecting something?",
"How do I manage all these hobbies with all these priorities? So I work more than full time, raising a 3 year old and a dog and also supporting my wife. These are my top priorities, obviously.\n\nBut I also spin fire (poi), DM for dungeons and dragons homebrew campaign, play guitar, write, hang with friends, crafting miniature terrain models, make hemp necklaces, try to play video games once a month if possible, and grow a garden.\n\nI don't want to give up on any of these skills, I've worked hard on all of them and have seen vast improvement what with some going back 5 years or more, but I'm burning out. \n\nHow can I manage all this stuff or even get time to do each at a regular pace so I don't feel I'm neglecting something?",
"How do I manage all these hobbies with all these priorities? So I work more than full time, raising a 3 year old and a dog and also supporting my wife. These are my top priorities, obviously.\n\nBut I also spin fire (poi), DM for dungeons and dragons homebrew campaign, play guitar, write, hang with friends, crafting miniature terrain models, make hemp necklaces, try to play video games once a month if possible, and grow a garden.\n\nI don't want to give up on any of these skills, I've worked hard on all of them and have seen vast improvement what with some going back 5 years or more, but I'm burning out. \n\nHow can I manage all this stuff or even get time to do each at a regular pace so I don't feel I'm neglecting something?"
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"This has been a real problem for us, too. The best thing we have been able to do is to integrate one hobby/responsability into another. For example, my 4 year old helped me in the garden. It is a great way to spend time together and offers a metric butt ton of learning opportunities for him. *Note: I try to not be upset if his participation damages plants. The more we are out there, the more he learns what plants can and can't handle.\n\nMy husband spends almost all of his time with friends working on miniature models (they have painting parties), playing games or video games. They don't just hang around and swap stories, they are engaged in an activity related to their hobbies. Warning! This is a really good way to identify friends you have that share no real common interests or life goals and you may wonder why you are friends with that guy who only wants to talk about disk golf.\n\nI could go on, but you get the gist. Combine your loves together using your relationships as opportunities to teach, learn and broaden your hobbies. Use your hobbies to enhance your relationships. Combine talents together as possible (perhaps writing about poi - instruct beginners, review products, write fiction where the art is a main theme). ",
"Well, you could set yourself a strict schedule, but I'm sure there's something you'd forget... like time just for yourself, for example.\n\nTruth is, you're starting to feel the stress of having too much on your plate. Don't feel bad about setting aside a hobby that you've worked hard at - you are better off for having learned that skill, even if you never use it again, and if you really miss it that much, you'll end up reincorporating it into your life anyway.\n\nLet yourself spend your free time any way that you want. Don't consider what else you could be doing at the time, just leave your past favorite activities available to yourself. Better yet, start doing new hobbies - in 5 years you'll probably be better off for having learned and improved a new skill than putting 5 more years stressing yourself out to do something you won't be any happier doing.\n\nAnd I'm serious about that time for yourself bit. Go and take a walk, no agenda, no anyone else, just yourself, alone, in the woods or something. Let your mind wander for a bit.",
"Be happy you don't collect anime figures or firearms, I speak as a shooter for 15 years and an otaku.",
"You must realize that none of your hobbies represent anything meaningful but at least you're making sure you never ruin the human gene pool."
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"How can I make the knobs on my toaster oven/airfryer (that you turn by grabbling the sides) less slippery when my hands are dirty? Basically title. My toaster oven (I'm getting a cheap airfryer too that people are having the same problem with) has circular knobs that stick out, so you turn by the sides. \n\nThe problem is that theres no indents or rubber grip of any kind for me to hold on, so my hand and the knobs have to be mostly dry in order for me to easily turn it. It's fine most of the time but it's annoys me too much sometimes.\n\nAny suggestions?"
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"you could apply superglue in a stripe pattern perpendicular to the direction you turn it. plenty of grip",
"We had exactly this problem with a toaster oven with chromed knobs.\n\nI found silicone grip bands meant for tennis rackets on amazon that did the trick. I tried rubber bands at first but they were kinda cheap looking while the silicone bands look mostly like they are part of the knob since they are black like the knob trim."
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"How to cheaply insulate an apartment for sound? I have a youtube channel where I review electronics. Part of shooting my videos involves sitting in my studio apartment alone and talking to/yelling at the camera. Problem is that my apartment walls are paper thin. I can hear the neighbors on all sides of my apartment doing everyfuckingthing. \n\nThe un",
"How to cheaply insulate an apartment for sound? I have a youtube channel where I review electronics. Part of shooting my videos involves sitting in my studio apartment alone and talking to/yelling at the camera. Problem is that my apartment walls are paper thin. I can hear the neighbors on all sides of my apartment doing everyfuckingthing. \n\nThe un",
"How to cheaply insulate an apartment for sound? I have a youtube channel where I review electronics. Part of shooting my videos involves sitting in my studio apartment alone and talking to/yelling at the camera. Problem is that my apartment walls are paper thin. I can hear the neighbors on all sides of my apartment doing everyfuckingthing. \n\nThe un",
"How to cheaply insulate an apartment for sound? I have a youtube channel where I review electronics. Part of shooting my videos involves sitting in my studio apartment alone and talking to/yelling at the camera. Problem is that my apartment walls are paper thin. I can hear the neighbors on all sides of my apartment doing everyfuckingthing. \n\nThe un",
"How to cheaply insulate an apartment for sound? I have a youtube channel where I review electronics. Part of shooting my videos involves sitting in my studio apartment alone and talking to/yelling at the camera. Problem is that my apartment walls are paper thin. I can hear the neighbors on all sides of my apartment doing everyfuckingthing. \n\nThe un",
"How to cheaply insulate an apartment for sound? I have a youtube channel where I review electronics. Part of shooting my videos involves sitting in my studio apartment alone and talking to/yelling at the camera. Problem is that my apartment walls are paper thin. I can hear the neighbors on all sides of my apartment doing everyfuckingthing. \n\nThe un",
"How to cheaply insulate an apartment for sound? I have a youtube channel where I review electronics. Part of shooting my videos involves sitting in my studio apartment alone and talking to/yelling at the camera. Problem is that my apartment walls are paper thin. I can hear the neighbors on all sides of my apartment doing everyfuckingthing. \n\nThe un",
"How to cheaply insulate an apartment for sound? I have a youtube channel where I review electronics. Part of shooting my videos involves sitting in my studio apartment alone and talking to/yelling at the camera. Problem is that my apartment walls are paper thin. I can hear the neighbors on all sides of my apartment doing everyfuckingthing. \n\nThe un"
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"I hung moving blankets on my walls and layered my floor with them, I also closed heat/air registers and put a draft stopper on the door. I think it was like $60 for a dozen blankets, and paid like $5 for the draft stopper. My neighbors immediately stopped complaining about the loud music. \n\nAlso I know it isn't aesthetically pleasing but maybe you can do something that looks nicer behind you, or you could even do a green screen.",
"Instead of failing at sound proofing the entire apartment or room, you should considering a small cubicle inside the apartment with high walls designed to reduce noise in a crowded office setting. In addition, try some white noise outside of the cubicle while you're filming/recording.\n\nYou may be able to get this sort of thing cheaply from an auction of a recent office closure.\n",
"As cheesy as they are, egg cartons really do work. If you have any local, non-chain supermarkets, sometimes you can talk to a manager and they will give you a few hundred. \n\nDepending on the mic set-up you are using, i.e USB or interface, you could buy a semi-circle mic baffle that attaches to your mic stand. Then do the egg cartons on the wall behind where you record. If you have a little bit of a budget, you can find some great DIY baffle kits on here. Then just create a baffle box and do your recordings inside of it. \n\nThe draft stopper NissanBake mentioned is a good idea too if you have a decent sized gap under your door. \n\nSource: Audio Engineer",
"Don't insulate whole room. Try putting your camera/microphone inside insulated box with only front opened to record you. Never tried this but I saw some youtuber do this and it's worth a shot. Especially because it's the cheapiest way I can imagine and it might reduce echo.",
"What about getting a lavalier mic (the little mic you pin to your shirt) and finely tuning the sound so that it only picks up your mouth (closest source)?\n\nThen it doesn't matter what ambient noise there is because the mic isn't recording that broadly.",
"Heavy curtains hung to fall with pleats \nCardboard eggboxes stuck to the wall with bumpy bits facing into the room \n",
"Adding padding or egg crates will definitely reduce the sound within your room, but it will do very little for sound coming from other rooms or reduce the sound your neighbors hear coming from your room. There is really nothing easy you can do to reduce outside noise, particularly if you don't own the place. (Source; I'm an architect)\n\n",
"Might sound silly but the littlest things help log rugs on the floor etc , you could go old school and use egg cartons "
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"First time vacation without parents - what do I need to know? I and three other friends have decided to spent three days in another city on our own. We will be going in a few days. We planned ahead what we wanted to do there. We booked tickets, a nice hostel and everything. I already packed my stuff, got it checked by my mum and everything.\n\nBut all this responsibility is making me nervous as heck. What if we miss the train back? What if a pickpocket steals my phone (where i keep my perso and insurance card)? What if we get lost? Im super excitied about the trip itself, but Im also really worried something could go wrong as I have never done this.\n\nI dont think fear is a bad thing. It just tells me that this is something out of my comfort zone, hence I have to be careful. That being said, I would appreciate some tips about how to, well, do it right to make myself more comfortable with a strange situation and ease the nervousness",
"First time vacation without parents - what do I need to know? I and three other friends have decided to spent three days in another city on our own. We will be going in a few days. We planned ahead what we wanted to do there. We booked tickets, a nice hostel and everything. I already packed my stuff, got it checked by my mum and everything.\n\nBut all this responsibility is making me nervous as heck. What if we miss the train back? What if a pickpocket steals my phone (where i keep my perso and insurance card)? What if we get lost? Im super excitied about the trip itself, but Im also really worried something could go wrong as I have never done this.\n\nI dont think fear is a bad thing. It just tells me that this is something out of my comfort zone, hence I have to be careful. That being said, I would appreciate some tips about how to, well, do it right to make myself more comfortable with a strange situation and ease the nervousness",
"First time vacation without parents - what do I need to know? I and three other friends have decided to spent three days in another city on our own. We will be going in a few days. We planned ahead what we wanted to do there. We booked tickets, a nice hostel and everything. I already packed my stuff, got it checked by my mum and everything.\n\nBut all this responsibility is making me nervous as heck. What if we miss the train back? What if a pickpocket steals my phone (where i keep my perso and insurance card)? What if we get lost? Im super excitied about the trip itself, but Im also really worried something could go wrong as I have never done this.\n\nI dont think fear is a bad thing. It just tells me that this is something out of my comfort zone, hence I have to be careful. That being said, I would appreciate some tips about how to, well, do it right to make myself more comfortable with a strange situation and ease the nervousness",
"First time vacation without parents - what do I need to know? I and three other friends have decided to spent three days in another city on our own. We will be going in a few days. We planned ahead what we wanted to do there. We booked tickets, a nice hostel and everything. I already packed my stuff, got it checked by my mum and everything.\n\nBut all this responsibility is making me nervous as heck. What if we miss the train back? What if a pickpocket steals my phone (where i keep my perso and insurance card)? What if we get lost? Im super excitied about the trip itself, but Im also really worried something could go wrong as I have never done this.\n\nI dont think fear is a bad thing. It just tells me that this is something out of my comfort zone, hence I have to be careful. That being said, I would appreciate some tips about how to, well, do it right to make myself more comfortable with a strange situation and ease the nervousness",
"First time vacation without parents - what do I need to know? I and three other friends have decided to spent three days in another city on our own. We will be going in a few days. We planned ahead what we wanted to do there. We booked tickets, a nice hostel and everything. I already packed my stuff, got it checked by my mum and everything.\n\nBut all this responsibility is making me nervous as heck. What if we miss the train back? What if a pickpocket steals my phone (where i keep my perso and insurance card)? What if we get lost? Im super excitied about the trip itself, but Im also really worried something could go wrong as I have never done this.\n\nI dont think fear is a bad thing. It just tells me that this is something out of my comfort zone, hence I have to be careful. That being said, I would appreciate some tips about how to, well, do it right to make myself more comfortable with a strange situation and ease the nervousness",
"First time vacation without parents - what do I need to know? I and three other friends have decided to spent three days in another city on our own. We will be going in a few days. We planned ahead what we wanted to do there. We booked tickets, a nice hostel and everything. I already packed my stuff, got it checked by my mum and everything.\n\nBut all this responsibility is making me nervous as heck. What if we miss the train back? What if a pickpocket steals my phone (where i keep my perso and insurance card)? What if we get lost? Im super excitied about the trip itself, but Im also really worried something could go wrong as I have never done this.\n\nI dont think fear is a bad thing. It just tells me that this is something out of my comfort zone, hence I have to be careful. That being said, I would appreciate some tips about how to, well, do it right to make myself more comfortable with a strange situation and ease the nervousness"
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" Don't look nervous, hide your anxiety as it can make you a victim of crime. Look at a map before you go so if you have phone issues, you'll have a basic concept how to navigate the city. Take smaller cash bills in case power goes out or a place is cash only (as they won't want to break a large bill). Bring water. Pay attention to your surroundings verifying it's really your Uber you're getting into, etc., Verify you don't leave anything in an Uber. Don't put your glass down in a bar ever (if you're going to drink, have one of you not getting drunk to stay alert). Have a \"code\" word between your friends and family that indicates you're uncomfortable or in trouble (you're in a bar, you know something your friends don't and discretely need to alert them, \"the Toyota is out front\" Toyota being the code word). Don't leave your luggage in your car (if in San Francisco, not even for a few minutes to run in quick). Check ratings of a hotel and look at street view before you book it - don't go cheap on hotels. Verify you have a spare tire that fits and your oil is changed (can you change your tire or know who to call for towing?). Check that your smoke alarm in a hotel room is operable. Keep your suitcase zipped in a hotel room to avoid bedbug exposure. Have a meeting spot in case you get separated and your phone doesn't work. Take a few cr",
"Don't keep all your important documents in something that might get lost. Make copies of everything and keep one on you, and one on a cloud drive, and any digital devices you're taking along.",
"Wear perfume or cologne while on vacation so that scent can always remind you of your vacation spot.\n\nWake up early to take advantage of each hour.\n\nWrite down what you did and visit each day.\n\nLock all doors, don't keep valuables in plain view. \n\nFind out where the nearest Walmart/grocery store is for stuff you forgot and stuff to cook can potentially save money from eating out.",
"I don't know where you are going, but your phone and google maps will be the most useful tool for a trip. Also, find a way to track your phone if it ever gets lost, like a burner laptop with icloud or google account.",
"Lots of good advice here! All I want to add is to not freak out when things go wrong! Something always goes wrong and unless you're in danger, it can become an adventure and improve your experience. Obviously stay safe, the other commenters have covered that, but if you find yourself in an unintended situation, try to make the best of it. If you miss the 11:00 train, no need to panic about your day being thrown off, go to a cafe (or other local attraction) and get the next one!",
"For peace of mind, plan for your worst case scenarios. They won't happen, but you'll be less anxious if you have a plan. So, make sure you have all your important info in your email, which you can access from any computer. Keep your cash divided up and in multiple locations. Carry less cash and use cr"
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"Stanky Shoes Accidentally wore my shoes without socks once while going biking, now they have a lingering smell that im trying to get rid of\nany tips?",
"Stanky Shoes Accidentally wore my shoes without socks once while going biking, now they have a lingering smell that im trying to get rid of\nany tips?",
"Stanky Shoes Accidentally wore my shoes without socks once while going biking, now they have a lingering smell that im trying to get rid of\nany tips?",
"Stanky Shoes Accidentally wore my shoes without socks once while going biking, now they have a lingering smell that im trying to get rid of\nany tips?",
"Stanky Shoes Accidentally wore my shoes without socks once while going biking, now they have a lingering smell that im trying to get rid of\nany tips?",
"Stanky Shoes Accidentally wore my shoes without socks once while going biking, now they have a lingering smell that im trying to get rid of\nany tips?",
"Stanky Shoes Accidentally wore my shoes without socks once while going biking, now they have a lingering smell that im trying to get rid of\nany tips?",
"Stanky Shoes Accidentally wore my shoes without socks once while going biking, now they have a lingering smell that im trying to get rid of\nany tips?",
"Stanky Shoes Accidentally wore my shoes without socks once while going biking, now they have a lingering smell that im trying to get rid of\nany tips?",
"Stanky Shoes Accidentally wore my shoes without socks once while going biking, now they have a lingering smell that im trying to get rid of\nany tips?",
"Stanky Shoes Accidentally wore my shoes without socks once while going biking, now they have a lingering smell that im trying to get rid of\nany tips?",
"Stanky Shoes Accidentally wore my shoes without socks once while going biking, now they have a lingering smell that im trying to get rid of\nany tips?"
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"Put them in the freezer for at least 24 hours while they are dry and not sweaty. The freezing kills bacteria and should come out without a scent. Also baking soda is a odor neutralizer or at a far stretch soak them in rubbing alcohol overnight",
"Lysol. Not Fabreeze. Lysol. Spray the insides throughly, let sit for a day or so. Repeat if needed.",
"Try this: Take a bit of baking soda and corn starch and combine them. Add several (5-10) drops of an essential scent oil such as Lavender. Stir well, then either sprinkle directly into shoes and shake shoe to spread the powder thoroughly, or put the powder into two women's kneehigh stockings, tie them off, and insert one in each shoe.\n\nAllow to sit overnight.",
"There are SO many comments all saying different things! Good thing I have multiple pairs of stinky shoes to try it out with! ",
"Jesus there are some crazy and stupid recommendations in here.\n\nJust use a dang cedar shoe tree, thats what its for! ",
"Wash your feet really well. It's preventative, but my shoes eventually stopped stinking once I started scrubbing between my toes. ",
"Skip all of these tips and get more shoes, allowing each pair to go a full day or more between uses and really dry out. ",
"I keep the ends of my old sticks of deodorant after they become difficult to use on my armpits and use them on the bottom of my feet before putting on socks/shoes. I do this every time I put them on. \n\nYou can use an antiperspirant + deodorant but I prefer just the deodorant. Keeps my shoes from -ever- smelling.",
"I can't believe this isn't here yet: Put them in the sun for a couple days. I have saved multiple pairs of hiking boots from an early demise. ",
"How is it that simply spray shoe deodorant has not been recommended yet? I have a similar problem with my leather shoes as they do not breath and normal shoe deodorant works very well. The smell will come back eventually but that is the cost of living with bacteria on everything. Just go to a shoe store or amazon and pick some up, it works surprisingly well. But be forewarned to spray them outside as the spray makes a fog.",
"Do you have a dryer with the shoe rack? If you put them on that cotton (high heat) cycle for like 70 minutes, it should kill the bacteria. \n\nSame method to kill bed bugs. ",
"Boric Acid is your fix.\n\nIt's a chemical that used to be used to disinfect wounds (you can still find it in pharmacies in countries outside of the USA)\n\nIf you are in the US, you can find it in the insect extermination section of a drugstore or hardware store. It happens to be that it also works as an insect repellent but again, don't be too frightened because it is also used as a disinfectant with humans.\n\nThis stuff kills all of the bacteria by making to acidic of an environment for them to love in. Apply a good amount (a tsp or two) to your shoes before putting them on for a couple of weeks and the smell should be gone. Guaranteed. \n"
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"How to stop a laptop from overheating frequently. I am not great with computers so there might even be something simple that I do not know. Thank you in advance. ",
"How to stop a laptop from overheating frequently. I am not great with computers so there might even be something simple that I do not know. Thank you in advance. ",
"How to stop a laptop from overheating frequently. I am not great with computers so there might even be something simple that I do not know. Thank you in advance. ",
"How to stop a laptop from overheating frequently. I am not great with computers so there might even be something simple that I do not know. Thank you in advance. ",
"How to stop a laptop from overheating frequently. I am not great with computers so there might even be something simple that I do not know. Thank you in advance. ",
"How to stop a laptop from overheating frequently. I am not great with computers so there might even be something simple that I do not know. Thank you in advance. ",
"How to stop a laptop from overheating frequently. I am not great with computers so there might even be something simple that I do not know. Thank you in advance. ",
"How to stop a laptop from overheating frequently. I am not great with computers so there might even be something simple that I do not know. Thank you in advance. ",
"How to stop a laptop from overheating frequently. I am not great with computers so there might even be something simple that I do not know. Thank you in advance. ",
"How to stop a laptop from overheating frequently. I am not great with computers so there might even be something simple that I do not know. Thank you in advance. ",
"How to stop a laptop from overheating frequently. I am not great with computers so there might even be something simple that I do not know. Thank you in advance. "
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"Get a bottle of \"canned air\" (available at Best Buy and other electronics stores). Use it to blow the dust out of the vents. Over time, dust gathers on the chips in there which insulates them causing the laptop to overheat.",
"Don't use it on beds\\soft furnishing where the fan outlet gets blocked (usually located on the side\\back). Also pop the keyboard off (few screws at base) and give it a blast with compressed air, then a quick vacuum.",
"I agree with keeping your vents clean as the primary thing to prolong laptop longevity BUT I personally recommend that you vacuum them out instead of using canned/compressed air. Compressed air could push dust in further into the vent/heatsink and possibly get stuck and create a pillow plug of dust. Source: I used to do basic laptop repair in college and had to take apart many of them for various reasons. Would occasionally see this happen and ask if they used compressed air, answer was always yes.",
"Dont set it flush on stuff. Ie if sitting it on a table, only have part of the surface area touching the table so u have more air flow on bottom of laptop.",
"Run a virus check and a malware check. That stopped my husband's laptop from overheating. \n\nIf it's overheating because you're overtaxing the system with the programs you're running, then get an external cooling device, and an adapter to plug it into a power bar rather than a USB port. Then if you need still more cooling, point another fan at the base of the laptop. Oh, and as I keep telling my son, stop trying to run those particular games on your underpowered laptop.",
"Make sure your CPU's cooler/radiator isn't caked in dust. I had a laptop once that overheated every ten minutes unless I had a fan on under it, I finally took it apart and there was a half inch think cake of dust on the cooler (metal sectioned piece that pulls heat from it) trapping the heat in.",
"Laptop cooling, like pretty much anything with a processor is about airflow. Many laptops take in air from the bottom and exhaust I out the side, so aside from keeping those areas clean, make sure neither is obstructed by something else. If keeping the vents clean and clear don't fix it, the problem might be be a process that I using too much of your processor and it might be worth checking out any virus scanners or other resource intensive processes. ",
"If it's old, taking the heat syncs off and reapplying thermal paste is a good thing to do. After 3-4 years the original paste will be solid like a rock and old.",
"Clean out any fans, keep it cool and propped up on something to allow air to circulate. Have a clear out of background processes that might be hogging resources too. Reboot and leave off to let it cool down regularly.",
"Agree with other posters that you can use canned air to clean dust out your fan vent. \n\nIf you are frequently overheating your battery might be going bad. \n\nThere are [USB-powered laptop fans](http://www.amazon.com/Antec-Notebook-Cooler-USB-Powered/dp/B0000BVYTV) that you can buy to keep your lap cool. Also, if you are desperate, a ziplock bag full of ice under your laptop (not kidding!) will tide you over until you find a real solution. Just make sure the ziplock is tightly sealed (obvi!)\n\n\nGood Luck!",
"I'm of the school of thought of buying a quality laptop in the first place so that this isn't a problem. I find it unacceptable for a laptop to require some sort of delicate care in order for it to function without overheating. That said even then, I would recommend opening up the laptop, and cleaning out the dust via compressed air at least every other year imo. Don't just blow air back In. Through the vents."
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"How to pour something out of a cup that doesn't have a spout or lip without it getting all over the sides of the cup. ",
"How to pour something out of a cup that doesn't have a spout or lip without it getting all over the sides of the cup. ",
"How to pour something out of a cup that doesn't have a spout or lip without it getting all over the sides of the cup. ",
"How to pour something out of a cup that doesn't have a spout or lip without it getting all over the sides of the cup. ",
"How to pour something out of a cup that doesn't have a spout or lip without it getting all over the sides of the cup. ",
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"Do it with confidence. Get that angle early on. Don't dribble it over the edge, project it over. The only reason you dribble is that the surface tension of the liquid overpowers the lateral velocity component, and so the liquid adheres to the edge of the container. If you give it enough velocity to overcome surface tension, it'll flow dribble-free.",
"Pouring slowly or small volumes: use a clean chopstick (incredibly useful for several other LPTs), liquid sticks to it easily and flows wherever you want. This can be also be used to pour liquids in those hard to get narrow holes.\n\nOtherwise just do it as fast as you can, like you are throwing it on the ground",
"Lay a spoon or knife handle across the lip and use it as a spout. The liquid will follow the utensil and not flow back along the cup.\n",
"Dump it fast. \n\nThe slower you pour, the more momentum the fluid loses. When you lose momentum, you gain static friction which is what causes the fluid to cling to the cup rather than flow off.",
"Pour quickly, deliberately and lightly twist your wrist at the end. Go watch some sommelier videos on YouTube, the technique works for everything from wine and thick syrupy honey to paint cans and cough syrup. ",
"Lay your index finger, spoon, etc. over the side of the cup. The liquid will follow that path of least resistance. ",
"3, 2, 1 POUR. A deliberate and quick action is needed. Doing it slowly and carefully just makes it dribble down the edge of the cup. "
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"How to tell a joke properly. If I'm telling someone a joke, I always muck up the actual delivery of a joke. I'm bad at keeping people's attention for story type jokes and when the punchline rolls around, the joke always falls flat.\n\nI don't suck at talking to people. I've the same social skills as everyone else. \nHowever, I *do* suck at telling jokes or stories!\n\n\n**There's got to be a better way!**",
"How to tell a joke properly. If I'm telling someone a joke, I always muck up the actual delivery of a joke. I'm bad at keeping people's attention for story type jokes and when the punchline rolls around, the joke always falls flat.\n\nI don't suck at talking to people. I've the same social skills as everyone else. \nHowever, I *do* suck at telling jokes or stories!\n\n\n**There's got to be a better way!**",
"How to tell a joke properly. If I'm telling someone a joke, I always muck up the actual delivery of a joke. I'm bad at keeping people's attention for story type jokes and when the punchline rolls around, the joke always falls flat.\n\nI don't suck at talking to people. I've the same social skills as everyone else. \nHowever, I *do* suck at telling jokes or stories!\n\n\n**There's got to be a better way!**",
"How to tell a joke properly. If I'm telling someone a joke, I always muck up the actual delivery of a joke. I'm bad at keeping people's attention for story type jokes and when the punchline rolls around, the joke always falls flat.\n\nI don't suck at talking to people. I've the same social skills as everyone else. \nHowever, I *do* suck at telling jokes or stories!\n\n\n**There's got to be a better way!**",
"How to tell a joke properly. If I'm telling someone a joke, I always muck up the actual delivery of a joke. I'm bad at keeping people's attention for story type jokes and when the punchline rolls around, the joke always falls flat.\n\nI don't suck at talking to people. I've the same social skills as everyone else. \nHowever, I *do* suck at telling jokes or stories!\n\n\n**There's got to be a better way!**",
"How to tell a joke properly. If I'm telling someone a joke, I always muck up the actual delivery of a joke. I'm bad at keeping people's attention for story type jokes and when the punchline rolls around, the joke always falls flat.\n\nI don't suck at talking to people. I've the same social skills as everyone else. \nHowever, I *do* suck at telling jokes or stories!\n\n\n**There's got to be a better way!**",
"How to tell a joke properly. If I'm telling someone a joke, I always muck up the actual delivery of a joke. I'm bad at keeping people's attention for story type jokes and when the punchline rolls around, the joke always falls flat.\n\nI don't suck at talking to people. I've the same social skills as everyone else. \nHowever, I *do* suck at telling jokes or stories!\n\n\n**There's got to be a better way!**",
"How to tell a joke properly. If I'm telling someone a joke, I always muck up the actual delivery of a joke. I'm bad at keeping people's attention for story type jokes and when the punchline rolls around, the joke always falls flat.\n\nI don't suck at talking to people. I've the same social skills as everyone else. \nHowever, I *do* suck at telling jokes or stories!\n\n\n**There's got to be a better way!**",
"How to tell a joke properly. If I'm telling someone a joke, I always muck up the actual delivery of a joke. I'm bad at keeping people's attention for story type jokes and when the punchline rolls around, the joke always falls flat.\n\nI don't suck at talking to people. I've the same social skills as everyone else. \nHowever, I *do* suck at telling jokes or stories!\n\n\n**There's got to be a better way!**",
"How to tell a joke properly. If I'm telling someone a joke, I always muck up the actual delivery of a joke. I'm bad at keeping people's attention for story type jokes and when the punchline rolls around, the joke always falls flat.\n\nI don't suck at talking to people. I've the same social skills as everyone else. \nHowever, I *do* suck at telling jokes or stories!\n\n\n**There's got to be a better way!**",
"How to tell a joke properly. If I'm telling someone a joke, I always muck up the actual delivery of a joke. I'm bad at keeping people's attention for story type jokes and when the punchline rolls around, the joke always falls flat.\n\nI don't suck at talking to people. I've the same social skills as everyone else. \nHowever, I *do* suck at telling jokes or stories!\n\n\n**There's got to be a better way!**",
"How to tell a joke properly. If I'm telling someone a joke, I always muck up the actual delivery of a joke. I'm bad at keeping people's attention for story type jokes and when the punchline rolls around, the joke always falls flat.\n\nI don't suck at talking to people. I've the same social skills as everyone else. \nHowever, I *do* suck at telling jokes or stories!\n\n\n**There's got to be a better way!**"
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"Firstly, it's important to be sure your joke/story/social fluff is interesting. Ask yourself: would I want to hear this if someone else were saying it? When it comes to the actual delivery part, there are a few things you can do to keep it interesting.\n\n1. **Vary your speaking pattern.** You don't want to sound monotone. Alternatively, don't use the exact same pattern every time you say something. (If you're gonna go up in pitch for emphasis or something, don't go up to the exact same pitch two seconds later for emphasis again.) \n\n2. **Practice.** When you're alone, talk to yourself. Read something out loud or something to kind of analyze what exactly your voice does in regards to pitch fluctuation, breath placement, etc. Once you notice little things like that, you can change them to make your storytelling better.\n\n3. **Build the suspense!** Pretty self-explanatory. Make whatever you say exciting/worth the time.\n\nGood luck!",
"Use the present tense. I think it gives the joke more presence:\n\n*A rabbi, a priest and a horse walked into a bar.* Sounds remote, abstract and matter-of-fact.\n\n*A rabbi, a priest and a horse walk into a bar.* Sounds better somehow.",
"Say this straight and simple: A fish runs into a wall and yells dam. \n\nThen move on to the next subject. It's fun to see them react as it processes. ",
"http://truba.com/video/243769/\n\nGo to 10:30, a lesson in inflexion and timing. A joke might be really funny, but if your expression is all wrong no one will know when a punchline has come along.\n\nIF you just read what Louis CK says, it is only about 1/4 as funny as when he says it on stage, because he has a fantastic voice and gets the expression perfect every time.\n\nThis does take practise, spend some time on your own trying to make the joke sound funnier.",
"People won't be excited to listen to it if you're not excited telling it. If you're telling the joke just to tell a joke, forget it.",
"I took a class on joke telling but I dropped it after the lesson on set ups. The teacher was so old...",
"I love jokes, both good and bad, and I grew up on stand up comedy. \n\nSome general tips about good joke rhythm: \n\n* Things in threes are funnier than pairs or groups of four or five.\n* Know your joke well enough to work out the timing. Rushing through one part of another will fuck you up. Many comedians could be funnier if they had better timing.\n* Know your audience. Not all jokes will fly in all situations. \n* Know your own joke is funny! \n\nI'll disagree a little with /u/shamfullyoptimistic on deadpan delivery. It can work well, depending on the joke and your audience. My deadpan joke of today went like this (on a discussion of what food is genuinely American and not imported): \n\n\"A turducken might be real American food. Although I can't think of anywhere that would serve it. (pause) Well, maybe if it dressed up and wore a nice tie.\" \n\nGot a laugh, and very deadpan delivery. Sometimes a shitty pun will be helped out by a serious delivery.\n\nOn a final note, when most comedians talk about what propelled them from hacks to actual comedy stars, it comes back to honesty, and in general I agree with that. Basic knock knock jokes and puns are a good practice starting point, but comedy gold also cuts close to the bone in many cases. ",
"I hate it when I'm trying to tell a funny story and my fiance rushes right in with the punchline. I'll be building up some backstory, providing details as to why the punchline is funny and she comes in and wrecks everything. It's infuriating. \n\nAnyway, just tell the joke to yourself out loud. Practice making it funny. Put yourself in the position of the listener and provide them the information they need to appreciate the punchline. ",
"For once I read all the comments before contributing. As a weirdo who has had some luck in delivering stand-up jokes at parties where I didn't know what else to say, I hope this helps...\n\n1. Know your fucking joke!\nThis is important because you are the conductor of this joke train, and if some rowdy passenger wants to butt in and ask questions or otherwise try to derail you, you must be confident in your joke to bring it on home.\nWhat I mean is, don't tell a joke you half remember hoping the punchline will come to you. It won't. Or worse, it will, but not in time for you to time it correctly.\n\n2. Rhythm.\nThe things we enjoy about jokes tend to be puzzles in words, a pun here, an unclear pronoun there. You need to think about why your joke is funny and build on that. I have a favorite joke that is basically a name-game, built in three acts. The more elaborate it is, gestures, accents, etc, the bigger the surprise from the punchline.\n\n3. Practice...\nI don't have a huge joke stockpile, but I've found some gems here on reddit and I've tested them. First you read a joke and find it funny. Now find a friend and tell it to them, like its your joke. Did it work? Did you screw up the timing? Was there something in the way you read it that made it funny or does your friend lack wit? If all went well, tell it again to someone else. The words fit in your mouth differently... They start to just roll off the tongue... Soon you're adding details that weren't there before because your audience is giddy with anticipation and you can tell that making the protagonist a pirate this time is gonna kill!\n\nAnd the punchline comes and they get it or they don't. Don't sweat it, kid, you'll knock em dead next week...",
"Biggest failure I see with joke delivery is rushing it, especially long jokes. Slow down, make use of dramatic pauses when possible. Some jokes require you to process things in your head when listening, don't rush it or the listener will lose focus. You may also accidentally skip over or mess up important details which are the key structure to a good delivery.",
"A lot of the \"jokes\" I tell are generally stories that have happened. I feel I'm a pretty good story teller, and (obviously) enjoy re-telling them to people who haven't heard.\n\nSo I guess it comes with practice and how well you know the joke/story. I've experienced and re-told some stories so many times I have them down to routine.",
"LPT: Don't tell jokes, they're not funny and it's painfully embarrassing when people try to tell them."
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"How to stop stumbling over words while talking I don't have any speech impediments, except maybe very mild stuttering, but I seem to stumble over words.\n\nI'm in my teenage years and if it helps I have a mild [tongue tie](http://www.tongue-tied.com/images/before-after/tongue-tie-before-3a.jpg) which my parents refuse to get rid of. I'm looking for ideas other than a speech therapist or something similar, like exercises I can do at home.\n\nThanks in advance :)\n\n",
"How to stop stumbling over words while talking I don't have any speech impediments, except maybe very mild stuttering, but I seem to stumble over words.\n\nI'm in my teenage years and if it helps I have a mild [tongue tie](http://www.tongue-tied.com/images/before-after/tongue-tie-before-3a.jpg) which my parents refuse to get rid of. I'm looking for ideas other than a speech therapist or something similar, like exercises I can do at home.\n\nThanks in advance :)\n\n",
"How to stop stumbling over words while talking I don't have any speech impediments, except maybe very mild stuttering, but I seem to stumble over words.\n\nI'm in my teenage years and if it helps I have a mild [tongue tie](http://www.tongue-tied.com/images/before-after/tongue-tie-before-3a.jpg) which my parents refuse to get rid of. I'm looking for ideas other than a speech therapist or something similar, like exercises I can do at home.\n\nThanks in advance :)\n\n",
"How to stop stumbling over words while talking I don't have any speech impediments, except maybe very mild stuttering, but I seem to stumble over words.\n\nI'm in my teenage years and if it helps I have a mild [tongue tie](http://www.tongue-tied.com/images/before-after/tongue-tie-before-3a.jpg) which my parents refuse to get rid of. I'm looking for ideas other than a speech therapist or something similar, like exercises I can do at home.\n\nThanks in advance :)\n\n",
"How to stop stumbling over words while talking I don't have any speech impediments, except maybe very mild stuttering, but I seem to stumble over words.\n\nI'm in my teenage years and if it helps I have a mild [tongue tie](http://www.tongue-tied.com/images/before-after/tongue-tie-before-3a.jpg) which my parents refuse to get rid of. I'm looking for ideas other than a speech therapist or something similar, like exercises I can do at home.\n\nThanks in advance :)\n\n",
"How to stop stumbling over words while talking I don't have any speech impediments, except maybe very mild stuttering, but I seem to stumble over words.\n\nI'm in my teenage years and if it helps I have a mild [tongue tie](http://www.tongue-tied.com/images/before-after/tongue-tie-before-3a.jpg) which my parents refuse to get rid of. I'm looking for ideas other than a speech therapist or something similar, like exercises I can do at home.\n\nThanks in advance :)\n\n",
"How to stop stumbling over words while talking I don't have any speech impediments, except maybe very mild stuttering, but I seem to stumble over words.\n\nI'm in my teenage years and if it helps I have a mild [tongue tie](http://www.tongue-tied.com/images/before-after/tongue-tie-before-3a.jpg) which my parents refuse to get rid of. I'm looking for ideas other than a speech therapist or something similar, like exercises I can do at home.\n\nThanks in advance :)\n\n",
"How to stop stumbling over words while talking I don't have any speech impediments, except maybe very mild stuttering, but I seem to stumble over words.\n\nI'm in my teenage years and if it helps I have a mild [tongue tie](http://www.tongue-tied.com/images/before-after/tongue-tie-before-3a.jpg) which my parents refuse to get rid of. I'm looking for ideas other than a speech therapist or something similar, like exercises I can do at home.\n\nThanks in advance :)\n\n",
"How to stop stumbling over words while talking I don't have any speech impediments, except maybe very mild stuttering, but I seem to stumble over words.\n\nI'm in my teenage years and if it helps I have a mild [tongue tie](http://www.tongue-tied.com/images/before-after/tongue-tie-before-3a.jpg) which my parents refuse to get rid of. I'm looking for ideas other than a speech therapist or something similar, like exercises I can do at home.\n\nThanks in advance :)\n\n"
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"You're like me, you think faster than you speak, and kinda unconsciously change what you wanna say in between saying it, or you know what you wanna say but your brain is thinking more of the concept and not the specific wording of it.\n\nBasically talk slower, and try to focus more on what you're saying while you're saying it instead of what you wanna say next or instead while you're saying it.",
"From experience, practice talking slower. A lot of the times I speak way too quickly and I stumble over myself and then my ideas don't seem as clear to others. When you slow down, you give yourself time to think and your mouth has time to make the movements necessary to verbalize the correct words and not two or three at a time. \n\nI don't think I could help from a medical or therapeutic standpoint regarding the tongue tie, but the above is just my two cents. Not sure if it helps, but better than nothing I think. :) ",
"Try practising tongue twisters for different types of sound:\n1 Theotolis thistlethwaite the thistle sifter sat and sifted thirty thousand thistles through his thistle sifters sieve.\n2 Peter piper the pickled pepper picker picked a peck of pickled peppers\n3 I want a proper cup Of coffee in a copper coffee cup\n4 Long-legged Italy kicked little Sicily\n\nDo 4 renditions of each early in the day, in the shower, in the car, Be sure to focus on clarity, not speed and if you can't do them after 10 attempts try again tomorrow, you won't get them straight away but eventually you will. Look for some more on any letter you may be tripping over I couldn't think of any for m, t or d but have a look online\n",
"I used to suffer from extreme shyness, and when I did make an effort to speak would often start to stumble over my words, making me more self-conscious so I would just get worse. I found from experience that if I was stumbling over a word the best thing was to stop, take a breath, and start again (while saying to myself it's much more obvious to me than anyone else). If I stopped just for a moment I could usually continue without a problem.",
"Slow down. Your tongue doesn't have anything to do physically with how you process the words mentally. If you're trying to ad-lib in fancy words mid sentence, stop. If you need a second to come up with the word, put your hands in front of you and lift them up or roll your hand like you're searching for the word to signal to others to wait for you.",
"I don't talk properly when I'm tired. I occasionally stutter a tiny bit, and more often, I forget words. It can get a little embarrassing (\"I want to eat some ice cream but we don't have any clean... um....shit, what's the word.... shiny metal ice cream eating implements...\" \"You mean spoons?\" \"Yes, yes I do.\") but it is what it is. Slow down, think about what you're saying before you're saying, and if it get's bad, just make a joke about it. Otherwise, don't make a bit deal about it, and if anyone else has a problem with the way you talk, it's their problem.",
"For me, as with the first few others here, it was mostly just slowing down that helped, but I'd add to not get too stressed or embarrassed if and when you do stumble a bit. Just realize that (mature) people are probably more sympathetic to you than anything else (i.e., they aren't thinking \"Gee, what a buffoon.\"), pause, and speak correctly. It's the content of what you have to say that matters most.\n\nPeople can sometimes even be too smooth, and come across as glib or 'selling something'. \n\nIf you have a presentation to make, by all means, practice out loud.\n\n ",
"Only occasionally do I stumble over words, but I have figured out that when I do, I have been focusing on my subject (or my audience) so fiercely that I have been holding my breath a little. Slowing down a bit to take a good solid breath or two helps a lot, gets the blood flowing back to the brain so it can operate my mouth better, I suppose!",
"Take an acting class at a community college. When you read lines, you are stuffing someone else's words into your brain and are forced to say them in a convincing manner. It's a real mind blower and you may pick up some tricks to make speaking less awkward.",
"If you have a fluency disorder you should see a speech therapist. If you don't want to see a speech therapist, you should consider reading a few textbooks and scholarly articles on fluency disorders (essentially becoming your own speech therapist)."
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"Mice issue at home, HELP. There is recent sight of some mice in the townhouse, I tried the so call Ultrasonic Pest Repeller from amazon, don't work at all. So I try to do the traps.\n\nI got one of those Tomcat-Single-Catch-Live-Mouse trap and a pair of Humane Smart Mouse Trap.\n\nI setup the traps on tuesday around area i discover mice dropping and set it up with peanut butter as the instruction said but catch zero mouse yet. Added some chocolate today as well Any advice?",
"Mice issue at home, HELP. There is recent sight of some mice in the townhouse, I tried the so call Ultrasonic Pest Repeller from amazon, don't work at all. So I try to do the traps.\n\nI got one of those Tomcat-Single-Catch-Live-Mouse trap and a pair of Humane Smart Mouse Trap.\n\nI setup the traps on tuesday around area i discover mice dropping and set it up with peanut butter as the instruction said but catch zero mouse yet. Added some chocolate today as well Any advice?",
"Mice issue at home, HELP. There is recent sight of some mice in the townhouse, I tried the so call Ultrasonic Pest Repeller from amazon, don't work at all. So I try to do the traps.\n\nI got one of those Tomcat-Single-Catch-Live-Mouse trap and a pair of Humane Smart Mouse Trap.\n\nI setup the traps on tuesday around area i discover mice dropping and set it up with peanut butter as the instruction said but catch zero mouse yet. Added some chocolate today as well Any advice?",
"Mice issue at home, HELP. There is recent sight of some mice in the townhouse, I tried the so call Ultrasonic Pest Repeller from amazon, don't work at all. So I try to do the traps.\n\nI got one of those Tomcat-Single-Catch-Live-Mouse trap and a pair of Humane Smart Mouse Trap.\n\nI setup the traps on tuesday around area i discover mice dropping and set it up with peanut butter as the instruction said but catch zero mouse yet. Added some chocolate today as well Any advice?",
"Mice issue at home, HELP. There is recent sight of some mice in the townhouse, I tried the so call Ultrasonic Pest Repeller from amazon, don't work at all. So I try to do the traps.\n\nI got one of those Tomcat-Single-Catch-Live-Mouse trap and a pair of Humane Smart Mouse Trap.\n\nI setup the traps on tuesday around area i discover mice dropping and set it up with peanut butter as the instruction said but catch zero mouse yet. Added some chocolate today as well Any advice?",
"Mice issue at home, HELP. There is recent sight of some mice in the townhouse, I tried the so call Ultrasonic Pest Repeller from amazon, don't work at all. So I try to do the traps.\n\nI got one of those Tomcat-Single-Catch-Live-Mouse trap and a pair of Humane Smart Mouse Trap.\n\nI setup the traps on tuesday around area i discover mice dropping and set it up with peanut butter as the instruction said but catch zero mouse yet. Added some chocolate today as well Any advice?",
"Mice issue at home, HELP. There is recent sight of some mice in the townhouse, I tried the so call Ultrasonic Pest Repeller from amazon, don't work at all. So I try to do the traps.\n\nI got one of those Tomcat-Single-Catch-Live-Mouse trap and a pair of Humane Smart Mouse Trap.\n\nI setup the traps on tuesday around area i discover mice dropping and set it up with peanut butter as the instruction said but catch zero mouse yet. Added some chocolate today as well Any advice?",
"Mice issue at home, HELP. There is recent sight of some mice in the townhouse, I tried the so call Ultrasonic Pest Repeller from amazon, don't work at all. So I try to do the traps.\n\nI got one of those Tomcat-Single-Catch-Live-Mouse trap and a pair of Humane Smart Mouse Trap.\n\nI setup the traps on tuesday around area i discover mice dropping and set it up with peanut butter as the instruction said but catch zero mouse yet. Added some chocolate today as well Any advice?",
"Mice issue at home, HELP. There is recent sight of some mice in the townhouse, I tried the so call Ultrasonic Pest Repeller from amazon, don't work at all. So I try to do the traps.\n\nI got one of those Tomcat-Single-Catch-Live-Mouse trap and a pair of Humane Smart Mouse Trap.\n\nI setup the traps on tuesday around area i discover mice dropping and set it up with peanut butter as the instruction said but catch zero mouse yet. Added some chocolate today as well Any advice?",
"Mice issue at home, HELP. There is recent sight of some mice in the townhouse, I tried the so call Ultrasonic Pest Repeller from amazon, don't work at all. So I try to do the traps.\n\nI got one of those Tomcat-Single-Catch-Live-Mouse trap and a pair of Humane Smart Mouse Trap.\n\nI setup the traps on tuesday around area i discover mice dropping and set it up with peanut butter as the instruction said but catch zero mouse yet. Added some chocolate today as well Any advice?",
"Mice issue at home, HELP. There is recent sight of some mice in the townhouse, I tried the so call Ultrasonic Pest Repeller from amazon, don't work at all. So I try to do the traps.\n\nI got one of those Tomcat-Single-Catch-Live-Mouse trap and a pair of Humane Smart Mouse Trap.\n\nI setup the traps on tuesday around area i discover mice dropping and set it up with peanut butter as the instruction said but catch zero mouse yet. Added some chocolate today as well Any advice?",
"Mice issue at home, HELP. There is recent sight of some mice in the townhouse, I tried the so call Ultrasonic Pest Repeller from amazon, don't work at all. So I try to do the traps.\n\nI got one of those Tomcat-Single-Catch-Live-Mouse trap and a pair of Humane Smart Mouse Trap.\n\nI setup the traps on tuesday around area i discover mice dropping and set it up with peanut butter as the instruction said but catch zero mouse yet. Added some chocolate today as well Any advice?"
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"Your can't be humane with mice. If there's one, then there's actually 20. They reproduce faster than you can trap and release. This is why my neighbor has mice still, he won't kill them. You have to poison them. They have child/pet safe poison boxes that the mice have to go inside of to reach the poison. Get those.",
"Just buy regular mouse traps. Stop with that humane bullshit, that's why they're in your house still.",
"Whatever you do don’t use poison, they will die in your walls and in appliances and stink to high heaven. Regular mouse traps work fine...that’s why the expression “ don’t try and reinvent the mouse trap” is a thing.",
"Make sure you place them along the wall (literally touching the baseboards) where you see droppings. We had this issue years ago. Placed them as specified above. Turned out the lights to go to sleep and before my head hit the pillow SNAP! Got one. The others soon followed in quick succession. ",
"I suggest checking out the YouTube channel Shawn Woods, he explores many ways of trapping mice (both lethal and non lethal) as well as checking legitimacy of different traps currently available.",
"There's a roller mouse trap on Amazon that's supposed to be the best. It goes on a bucket and when the mouse tries to run across it, it rolls and dumps them into water in the bucket",
"The humane traps really don't work. \n\nSadly, you need to use poison or other lethal traps. \n\nI've personally found glue traps to be the most effective, but also the least humane. You end up having to kill the mouse yourself.\n\nAlso, cats help.",
"The answer is cats. I have 4. I've lived in my house for almost a decade and in that time, we have had 1 mouse, which one of the cats took care of for me. Cats is your answer.",
"Old fashion small traps along the baseboard, near garbage and under sink work well, cat works better. If you can't get a cat because of the landlord, get them to deal with it. ",
"I had a mice problem as well, until my kids saw a stray cat outside and gave it food. Dumb cat has not left since. I don’t really like the cat but i will defend the hell out of it and feed him because since he set up shop outside my house i have not had one single mouse inside my house. ",
"Check out the Tomcat spin trap for mice... it's a little black plastic trap, that once its caught (kills it) but no mess, best part you do not have to see the dead mice, blood or notta... it's super easy to use as well. I use them often as my house backs up to farm land. ",
"Can someone explain why the catch and release trap won't work? Should i just return the one i just got from amazon and get kill trap? what kill kill trap more effective? Then agaih i am having issue with mouse not gettign itno the trap"
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"How to stay cool during hot summer nights? For the past month I have been falling asleep at about 3am or 4am because it's just so damn hot I can't sleep. I have to get up at 9am, so for the past few weeks I've been surviving off of 5-6 hours of sleep for a few weeks now, when I'm usually used to 9-10 hours. I'm going insane, and am becoming emotionally unstable as I look and feel dead during the day and get angry and cry to myself at night at not being able to fall asleep. I'M SO GOD DAMN TIRED I WANT TO SLEEP BUT IM SO GOD DAMN HOT I CAN'T SLEEP.\n\nI have tried taking cold showers. Sleeping with a fan (all it does is blow warm air on me), holding onto ice packs. Is there really anything that can be done without purchasing an Air conditioning unit?\n\nPlease, Reddit. How do I stay cool?",
"How to stay cool during hot summer nights? For the past month I have been falling asleep at about 3am or 4am because it's just so damn hot I can't sleep. I have to get up at 9am, so for the past few weeks I've been surviving off of 5-6 hours of sleep for a few weeks now, when I'm usually used to 9-10 hours. I'm going insane, and am becoming emotionally unstable as I look and feel dead during the day and get angry and cry to myself at night at not being able to fall asleep. I'M SO GOD DAMN TIRED I WANT TO SLEEP BUT IM SO GOD DAMN HOT I CAN'T SLEEP.\n\nI have tried taking cold showers. Sleeping with a fan (all it does is blow warm air on me), holding onto ice packs. Is there really anything that can be done without purchasing an Air conditioning unit?\n\nPlease, Reddit. How do I stay cool?",
"How to stay cool during hot summer nights? For the past month I have been falling asleep at about 3am or 4am because it's just so damn hot I can't sleep. I have to get up at 9am, so for the past few weeks I've been surviving off of 5-6 hours of sleep for a few weeks now, when I'm usually used to 9-10 hours. I'm going insane, and am becoming emotionally unstable as I look and feel dead during the day and get angry and cry to myself at night at not being able to fall asleep. I'M SO GOD DAMN TIRED I WANT TO SLEEP BUT IM SO GOD DAMN HOT I CAN'T SLEEP.\n\nI have tried taking cold showers. Sleeping with a fan (all it does is blow warm air on me), holding onto ice packs. Is there really anything that can be done without purchasing an Air conditioning unit?\n\nPlease, Reddit. How do I stay cool?",
"How to stay cool during hot summer nights? For the past month I have been falling asleep at about 3am or 4am because it's just so damn hot I can't sleep. I have to get up at 9am, so for the past few weeks I've been surviving off of 5-6 hours of sleep for a few weeks now, when I'm usually used to 9-10 hours. I'm going insane, and am becoming emotionally unstable as I look and feel dead during the day and get angry and cry to myself at night at not being able to fall asleep. I'M SO GOD DAMN TIRED I WANT TO SLEEP BUT IM SO GOD DAMN HOT I CAN'T SLEEP.\n\nI have tried taking cold showers. Sleeping with a fan (all it does is blow warm air on me), holding onto ice packs. Is there really anything that can be done without purchasing an Air conditioning unit?\n\nPlease, Reddit. How do I stay cool?",
"How to stay cool during hot summer nights? For the past month I have been falling asleep at about 3am or 4am because it's just so damn hot I can't sleep. I have to get up at 9am, so for the past few weeks I've been surviving off of 5-6 hours of sleep for a few weeks now, when I'm usually used to 9-10 hours. I'm going insane, and am becoming emotionally unstable as I look and feel dead during the day and get angry and cry to myself at night at not being able to fall asleep. I'M SO GOD DAMN TIRED I WANT TO SLEEP BUT IM SO GOD DAMN HOT I CAN'T SLEEP.\n\nI have tried taking cold showers. Sleeping with a fan (all it does is blow warm air on me), holding onto ice packs. Is there really anything that can be done without purchasing an Air conditioning unit?\n\nPlease, Reddit. How do I stay cool?",
"How to stay cool during hot summer nights? For the past month I have been falling asleep at about 3am or 4am because it's just so damn hot I can't sleep. I have to get up at 9am, so for the past few weeks I've been surviving off of 5-6 hours of sleep for a few weeks now, when I'm usually used to 9-10 hours. I'm going insane, and am becoming emotionally unstable as I look and feel dead during the day and get angry and cry to myself at night at not being able to fall asleep. I'M SO GOD DAMN TIRED I WANT TO SLEEP BUT IM SO GOD DAMN HOT I CAN'T SLEEP.\n\nI have tried taking cold showers. Sleeping with a fan (all it does is blow warm air on me), holding onto ice packs. Is there really anything that can be done without purchasing an Air conditioning unit?\n\nPlease, Reddit. How do I stay cool?",
"How to stay cool during hot summer nights? For the past month I have been falling asleep at about 3am or 4am because it's just so damn hot I can't sleep. I have to get up at 9am, so for the past few weeks I've been surviving off of 5-6 hours of sleep for a few weeks now, when I'm usually used to 9-10 hours. I'm going insane, and am becoming emotionally unstable as I look and feel dead during the day and get angry and cry to myself at night at not being able to fall asleep. I'M SO GOD DAMN TIRED I WANT TO SLEEP BUT IM SO GOD DAMN HOT I CAN'T SLEEP.\n\nI have tried taking cold showers. Sleeping with a fan (all it does is blow warm air on me), holding onto ice packs. Is there really anything that can be done without purchasing an Air conditioning unit?\n\nPlease, Reddit. How do I stay cool?",
"How to stay cool during hot summer nights? For the past month I have been falling asleep at about 3am or 4am because it's just so damn hot I can't sleep. I have to get up at 9am, so for the past few weeks I've been surviving off of 5-6 hours of sleep for a few weeks now, when I'm usually used to 9-10 hours. I'm going insane, and am becoming emotionally unstable as I look and feel dead during the day and get angry and cry to myself at night at not being able to fall asleep. I'M SO GOD DAMN TIRED I WANT TO SLEEP BUT IM SO GOD DAMN HOT I CAN'T SLEEP.\n\nI have tried taking cold showers. Sleeping with a fan (all it does is blow warm air on me), holding onto ice packs. Is there really anything that can be done without purchasing an Air conditioning unit?\n\nPlease, Reddit. How do I stay cool?",
"How to stay cool during hot summer nights? For the past month I have been falling asleep at about 3am or 4am because it's just so damn hot I can't sleep. I have to get up at 9am, so for the past few weeks I've been surviving off of 5-6 hours of sleep for a few weeks now, when I'm usually used to 9-10 hours. I'm going insane, and am becoming emotionally unstable as I look and feel dead during the day and get angry and cry to myself at night at not being able to fall asleep. I'M SO GOD DAMN TIRED I WANT TO SLEEP BUT IM SO GOD DAMN HOT I CAN'T SLEEP.\n\nI have tried taking cold showers. Sleeping with a fan (all it does is blow warm air on me), holding onto ice packs. Is there really anything that can be done without purchasing an Air conditioning unit?\n\nPlease, Reddit. How do I stay cool?",
"How to stay cool during hot summer nights? For the past month I have been falling asleep at about 3am or 4am because it's just so damn hot I can't sleep. I have to get up at 9am, so for the past few weeks I've been surviving off of 5-6 hours of sleep for a few weeks now, when I'm usually used to 9-10 hours. I'm going insane, and am becoming emotionally unstable as I look and feel dead during the day and get angry and cry to myself at night at not being able to fall asleep. I'M SO GOD DAMN TIRED I WANT TO SLEEP BUT IM SO GOD DAMN HOT I CAN'T SLEEP.\n\nI have tried taking cold showers. Sleeping with a fan (all it does is blow warm air on me), holding onto ice packs. Is there really anything that can be done without purchasing an Air conditioning unit?\n\nPlease, Reddit. How do I stay cool?",
"How to stay cool during hot summer nights? For the past month I have been falling asleep at about 3am or 4am because it's just so damn hot I can't sleep. I have to get up at 9am, so for the past few weeks I've been surviving off of 5-6 hours of sleep for a few weeks now, when I'm usually used to 9-10 hours. I'm going insane, and am becoming emotionally unstable as I look and feel dead during the day and get angry and cry to myself at night at not being able to fall asleep. I'M SO GOD DAMN TIRED I WANT TO SLEEP BUT IM SO GOD DAMN HOT I CAN'T SLEEP.\n\nI have tried taking cold showers. Sleeping with a fan (all it does is blow warm air on me), holding onto ice packs. Is there really anything that can be done without purchasing an Air conditioning unit?\n\nPlease, Reddit. How do I stay cool?",
"How to stay cool during hot summer nights? For the past month I have been falling asleep at about 3am or 4am because it's just so damn hot I can't sleep. I have to get up at 9am, so for the past few weeks I've been surviving off of 5-6 hours of sleep for a few weeks now, when I'm usually used to 9-10 hours. I'm going insane, and am becoming emotionally unstable as I look and feel dead during the day and get angry and cry to myself at night at not being able to fall asleep. I'M SO GOD DAMN TIRED I WANT TO SLEEP BUT IM SO GOD DAMN HOT I CAN'T SLEEP.\n\nI have tried taking cold showers. Sleeping with a fan (all it does is blow warm air on me), holding onto ice packs. Is there really anything that can be done without purchasing an Air conditioning unit?\n\nPlease, Reddit. How do I stay cool?",
"How to stay cool during hot summer nights? For the past month I have been falling asleep at about 3am or 4am because it's just so damn hot I can't sleep. I have to get up at 9am, so for the past few weeks I've been surviving off of 5-6 hours of sleep for a few weeks now, when I'm usually used to 9-10 hours. I'm going insane, and am becoming emotionally unstable as I look and feel dead during the day and get angry and cry to myself at night at not being able to fall asleep. I'M SO GOD DAMN TIRED I WANT TO SLEEP BUT IM SO GOD DAMN HOT I CAN'T SLEEP.\n\nI have tried taking cold showers. Sleeping with a fan (all it does is blow warm air on me), holding onto ice packs. Is there really anything that can be done without purchasing an Air conditioning unit?\n\nPlease, Reddit. How do I stay cool?"
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"Sleep with just a sheet. And take that sheet, soak it in water and wring it out really good until it's just damp and have the fan blow on you.",
"This may sound silly or obvious, but try to sleep on only cotton sheets. Flannel, silk, satin - all make me hotter.",
"I usually use a small towel (or bigger one folded in half) soaked in cold water and squeezed quite well. Then I put it on my back just like an additional sweated skin. That's the idea. Cold water not only cools you but also evaporates like a sweat. It always helps me during hot summer nights. Never ever set a fan to blow on you with the towel on your body or you might get really cold when you fall asleep. You can put the towel on your chest and belly too if you don't like to sleep on your front, I can't see a problem.",
"Roll down or fixed external shadecloth really works. They can block most of the sun from hitting your windows and walls reducing heat gain by nearly a thousand Watts per square yard while allowing air circulation. Fans can increase comfort by helping to evaporate and move heat from your body. I live in an arid area so evaporate cooling really works dropping the temperature by about 20 degrees. They also reduce dust and add needed humidity. I have a portable unit in the bedtoom that only costs a penny an hour to run. It was 100 outside and I used a blanket to avoid chilling. Made a solar powered one for the greatroom that uses two hundred watt panels.\nIf your in a humid area evaporative cooling probably won't help. The portable air conditioner with an exhaust vent hose should provide effective zone cooling but the exhaust air is hot so make sure it is aimed away from your room. Many window air units might not be that efficient and produce hot zone around your home. The best air conditioning are the ductless minisplit systems. They can have variable speeds, can be located on a roof or outside with the exhaust directed away from the structure. They also don't have ceiling or roof ducts that waste energy and add heat. Mini split systems are often available with heat pump option for more efficient winter heating.\nAs other said stay hydrated and ventilated. A hammock might be useful for maximized air circulation.",
"try drinking a hot drink like tea or decaf coffee (obv not extremely hot but warmer than room temp). sounds counter intuitive but it warms your body temp so it can adjust to the room temp by cooling down",
"Staying cool in Houston is tough, even with ac. If you don't want to purchase an ac unit, you might look into an evaporative cooling system, or a \"swamp fan\" as I've heard it called. As others said, however, ice is the key. \n\nI've seen a setup that consisted of a cooler filled with ice, an inlet vent hose connected to a fan on one end, an outlet vent hose blowing out the cold air. This method requires nightly maintenance, swapping the water for ice before you go to bed. This setup also makes for a pretty sick fog machine for parties.",
"Sleep in a cool tent. \n\nStay with me here.\n\nBuy a small tent, put about 8 ice packs in front of a fan inside said tent. It'll feel like a seriously AC'd room. Assuming you don't need to leave your tent a lot during the night its a viable solution. So long as you have freezer space for 8 iice packs",
"If you put ice behind a fan it will blow cool air.. I had a small personal fan at my workstation and when it got superhot i would put a cup of ice behind it. \nyou could do the same with a larger fan and a bucket. fill some large Ziplock freezer bags with ice put them in the bucket at night. in the morning put the melted bags back in freezer. repeat. :D",
"This quick trick works for me when I'm boiling:\nImmediately before you go to sleep, run your wrists and ankles under cold water. Because your feet (and maybe hands) have a large influence on overall body temperature, your body should be cooled.",
"These are all sound strategies. But I can't help wondering where you live. It's only June--if it's already too hot to sleep where you are, it's only going to get worse in July and August. Do you have a window in your bedroom that could support an AC unit? Even if you just cool down the bedroom at night, it's likely worth it for your sanity. \n\nFor context, I'm in Michigan and it's still temperate enough that opening the windows in the morning and letting in fresh, cool air keeps the house pleasant all day. We don't have AC but there are only a handful of nights a year that are miserably hot. \n\nIf sleeping with a wet sheet every night doesn't appeal, I know there are portable rolling AC units that you don't have to install in a window or a wall. ",
"Make sure your fan is blowing downward, check the little black switch. I forgot to switch it back from sucking air upward for the winter, and it made a world of difference. Also, try running cool water over your wrists and behind your knees. These spots have veins very close to the skin, so if you cool the skin down there, it should spread to your whole body. Drink a whole lot of water, and drop the comforter.",
"Living in Australia, our summer days can get to around or above 40 degrees Celsius (around 104 Fahrenheit). I have a small electric fan in my room, makes minimal noise and a hell of a difference. Also damp, cold washers around neck or forehead help.\n\nA method I discovered this past summer (Winter now in Australia) was to keep blinds shut for the majority of the day and then at the end of the day once it's cooled a bit open up my window and blinds to let heat out and bring the somewhat cooler air back in. ",
"Instead of holding onto ice packs (or frozen bottles), wrap them in a paper towel and place them inside areas where your large arteries run-- arm pit, elbow area, in between thighs, behind knees. This will help cooled blood CIRCULATE. \n\n\nYou'll be asleep before you know it and the mediums should warm before any frostbite risk sets in.",
"I can buy a window A/C for less than 120.00,good for one 120 sq. ft. room If you are going insane,this a cheap price to pay for you to remain a productive citizen of our fragile planet.Stay cool man!\n"
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"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw.",
"How to deal with good friends turning into stoners? Hi Reddit, recently my all my friends have started to smoke weed and I don't know what to do. I feel like they kind of changed when they started because now they mostly just talk trash about other people and act like they don't care about their lives at all. Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them? I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me and other people's faults and just general trash talk everyday. What should I do? I'm a 10th grader btw."
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"I don't think the weed is the problem here, buddy. Seems like your friends have just become assholes - the drugs are a symptom if anything. ",
"Honestly, if they're the types of people that smoke to the point that they're content with being completely negative and boring, they don't sound like they're worth your time. Don't try to fit in with them. Go be happy and go outside and stuff. ",
">Should I start distancing myself and find new friends or just stick with them?\n\n\n>I'm really fed up with all them just talking about me\n\nYou just answered your own question.\n\nGeneral rule : If your friends suck, find other friends that don't suck :)\n",
"Cut it off.\n\nI speak from personal experience. \n\nMy friends all started to become stoners, and I was noticing exactly what you were noticing; a change in their personalities. I started to distance myself but didn't want to be a buzzkill so I went ahead and got involved. I ended up in some pretty wacky situations ([See here](http://www.reddit.com/r/LetsNotMeet/comments/28moc9/michael/)). Thing is, the change was not for the better. People started turning up and being around all the time, but when there was no more weed left those people weren't friends anymore. Life starts to become about weed. And they became stupid. My friends became real stupid.\n\nThis won't happen from weed but one of the guys we hung with also died from a heroin overdose which was kind of a shock to the system. I cut it off and met people that weren't assholes and it was like having actual human contact again.",
"Don't make them into enemies but you should start spreading your wings and meeting new people. Life is essentially a growth processes and sometimes people grow in incompatible ways. \n\nI think you're very smart to see constant trash talk as a negative thing. It's hard to be close with people who are constantly in a state of disgust with everything around them.\n ",
"Bail. Once people start letting weed shape their identity, it's pretty much impossible to convince them it's a bad idea.\n\nSource: Ex-stoner who felt substantially cooler than people who didn't smoke.",
"All I can say is that if that's the kind of person they are when they smoke, that's the kind of person they were anyway. Pot doesn't change people, just softens their filters.\n",
"There are two roads you can follow, my young friend.\n\n1) You can have a little more of what they're smoking. Then you won't feel as uptight about the whole thing. :)\n\nOr:\n\n2) You can realize that this is a life test, rise to the challenge, and be the better because of it.\n\nPart of growing up is learning to make your own path in life and to follow it according to your own sense of right and wrong. Do your current friends help you in your travels through life, or do they hinder you? Does associating with them keep you from meeting even better friends who are traveling in the same direction in life that you want to go?\n\nYour current friends are doing you a great favor: They're shining a light down one of life's roads. Do you like what you see? No? Then thank them for the lesson and move on.\n\nGrowing up is tough. But it has to be done. Get to it. \n\n",
"Like others said, it's not the weed that's the problem. \n\nI used to smoke it and stopped, I still have friends that blaze all the time. The ones who didn't wanna chill if I wasn't smoking with them aren't my friends anymore. No big deal.",
"Exact same thing happened to me the first year of high school. My old friends started smoking weed and i was still in the \"drugs are bad fuck that shit\" part of my life (has changed significantly since then). They all because assholes and i cut it off after they all ditched me for some reason i was fed up.\n\nAlso the earlier you start smoking pot the more likely you're going to become a burnout and go no where with their life. Which is where a bunch of my old friends are right now.\n\nI would say ditch these friends, find better ones, and don't blame the weed its a beautiful plant. Just get into it when you have you're shit together.",
"Coming from a former smoker,and someone who has been through exactly this, it is very common for people to do that, especially in High school. You have a few options, IMO:\n1) if your the only one not smoking and ALL of them are assholes you could find some new people\n2)is there's some who smoke and are still fine hang out with just them\n3) smoke (now that's not a pro tip, but I know that maybe it'll be more bearable if your in the same state of mind as you. I'm neither promoting or denoting it. Pretty soon you'll be on your own and making your own choices, start with, not good ones, but smart ones. If you think you can handle smoking and being productive and not an ass then more power to you). \n4) since men aren't socialized to be open about this (most are, there are exceptions), talking to them about it may come across as you sounding over sensitive/condescending /ect. If you and your friends are open enough to hear each others concerns/ideas about smoking then go for it, if not it might be best to avoid it (that I'm certain on). \n5)If they are talking trash ABOUT YOU then you have grounds to openly discuss it with them, and by it I mean the trash talk. That comes across less confrontational as apposed to asking them \"wtf\" as far as smoking goes\n\n6) DONT BURN BRIDGES! EVER! Who knows, some day your stoner friend may be hiring at your dream job. You can either be the guy who gave him shit for smoking (as he saw it) or his buddy from High School he hasn't seen in a while. ",
"You are the average of the company you keep. Decide if you're ok with that or if you need to improve your chances in this world.",
"I had a group of friends just like yours in High School. Except I smoked with them. I got in trouble and decided to do some growing up, quit smoking for 2+ years and got my act together. One of the people from that group is still my best friend. We smoke weed now, but I feel like we are mature enough to not let it take over our lives. We used to only hang out when there was weed to smoke. Now we hang out regardless and go rock climbing or long boarding or something that isn't just sitting in my room smoking weed and staring at a television.\n\nI don't think it's the weed making them assholes, I personally just don't think they are old enough to start smoking yet.",
"I had a few friends in high school go that way. I distanced and ultimately abanonded them. Over ten years later, some have come around but they lost a decade of their lives and I'm now a decade further on in life. Staying to run with the negs is a poor choice.",
"Don't push yourself into anything. If you're not ok with such things, you'll simply eventually start spending less time together, as it's not so much fun as it used to be. Whatever you do don't try to blend in by being someone you're not.\n",
"As they are like brothers to you and things seem to be turning for the worse, isolate them and honestly tell them that you feel like you are drifting and such starting with the friend you feel the closest. If you are considering leaving them you got nothing to lose",
"Your in the tenth grade, they talk shit cause they have nothing better to do.\n\nDo you really care about them? How long have you know them?\n\nI went through something like this when i was in high school... years ago. I didn't care much for the group that was doing and slowly they started to distance themselves from me, who wanted to hang out with the non-stoner (Not reason to smoke!)?. \n\nIn the end, some were suspended, expelled because they were stupid about what and how they were doing it.\n\nThey might snicker, crack jokes, even make fun of you now, but tell them this is something your not into. This is high school. LIFE IS LONG!",
"They don't sound like friends at all. Even if you don't consider them friends, they're just not even nice people.\n\nSmoking in itself is fine, but you'll find that you and your friends will have different interests at some point. You'll find them to be slow and boring. Even worse, you might wind up getting arrested for just being with them in the wrong place at the wrong time (like when you're the only one sober enough to drive and they have pot in your car. Do NOT let them smoke or carry weed in your car!). Most likely you will wind up being the only one who didn't waste all of your money on weed, so they'll expect you to pay for things like gas and munchies. Expect to hear things like, \"Come on, bro. We're all broke.\" Don't spend one cent on anyone but yourself or your girlfriend.\n\nDefinitely distance yourself from them.",
"Questions for OP, have you ever smoked with them? When did you notice the behavior change? Is smoking cannabis a bad thing in your eyes?",
"Literally was in the exact same situation when I was your age. Find new friends! Trust me you'll look back and thank god that you didn't waste your Friday nights sitting on the couch. My word of advice is join a sport. That's how I did it!",
"I'm going to guess your teenagers. It's pretty normal to act like a douche(act like you don't care about anything, make fun of everything) at that age. Weed might not be helping the situation, but I doubt if they stopped smoking it they'd 'revert' back to their carefree days of pixie sticks and the yu-gi-ohs.",
"I was in a similar place when I was in middle school, so a bit younger than you. All the kids that had been my friends just suddenly and inexplicably weren't anymore. Some of them turned into assholes and some of them just kinda faded away.\n\nAfter a while, some of them came back, but I also made other friends. It is hard and it sucks, but you'll get through it. I don't think it has much or anything to do with the drug use. I wouldn't suggest being rude or anything back, but if they aren't acting like friends anymore, don't treat them like friends anymore.",
"Find new friends. \n\nA wise man once told me that there are two ways to gain respect in this world. The first way is to try to make everyone else look bad so that you feel better about yourself. The second way is to try to make everyone else look really good then everyone will want you around. \n\nIt appears that your friends are pursuing the first route. They don't have much going on for themselves so they need to criticize and belittle others. If you choose to join them they will drag you down to their level. What happens next is that no one wants anything to do with them so they turn on each other in the form of psychic cannibalism. It never ends well.\n\nYou are still young and your best years are ahead of you. Don't let these monkeys hold you down. \n\n As for the drug use. As an exaddict my advice is to stay away from drugs altogether. I know, everyone says its not a problem but believe me when I say that no one is immune from addiction and death. I've lost too many friends both young and old who all said the same thing. Its no problem. It can't happen to me. Yet it does happen. I've seen enough of it to know. This year alone I've watched too many parents bury their children. \n\n\n\n",
"Everybody always thinks that the friends they have were destined in some way. That they should try to fit in with them and make it work, no matter what.\n\nI mean, sure, maybe a little bit but, remember, you will, for sure, find new friends if you \"break it off\" with your old ones. You may even find the friends you were \"meant\" to find in the first place (if you need to cling to the whole \"destiny\" thing).\n\nLong story short, if your friends are no good, leave them. You'll make new, better friends.",
"Do what you do. Pot and other drugs will come and go, as will friends. You can still have them as friends, just don't be bothered by peer pressure...easier said than done. You're a young adult be cognizant of what's going on, plan ahead, never put yourself in a situation you can't get out of. Responsibility shifts when you get older. And it ain't always easy to do the \"responsible\" thing, especially with friends. There more than likely will be some arrests coming in the future. One kid will get popped and narc to save their ass. Actually happened to two friends of mine in college. They went out walking the campus at night. They asked if I wanted to go, I knew they were gonna smoke a little. They got to get expelled. \n\nJust make wise choices, you know what they are. They generally aren't easy either, but you must know that if you are asking here. Good Luck.",
"Been in your exact situation buddy. A few years later I found myself trying it and enjoying it, and now do it regularly, but I thank god I didn't start when my friends did. The honest truth that your friends don't want to hear is that they obviously aren't mature enough to handle it. Not saying that because they're young as I knew plenty of 10th graders who probably were mature enough, but going off your description it sounds like they're not. My friends wouldn't do ANYTHING that didn't involve smoking, felt apathetic about life in general, and had no concerns for their future. These type of people, smokers or not, should always be avoided because they hinder your ability to be happy, and slow down your progress to attain happiness.\ntl;dr you're better off without them",
"An 11th grader here. I have friends who have been smoking, and I have smoked my share of weed. Your friends are just turning into dicks. Weed doesn't make you an asshole, some of the nicest girls and guys I know smoke weed. Just call them out for being dicks, say something. If you have a problem with them smoking, say it! If they are actually your friends they won't talk about it around you. ",
"Also, I started hanging out with new people. I usually chilled with these guys that fiend for weed, like every hour they smoked a blunt or something. They would get mad if I didn't throw in 10$. They Just chilled and did nothing. Now, I chill with my neighbors and coworkers, we have fun. We drive around, smoke weed sometimes, and make memories. Just meet some new people, its awesome.",
"Along with what most are commenting, I would move on and find new friends. Even if you do it slowly. If friends you are surrounded by are giving you a uneasy feeling, it might not be a bad idea to communicate that in a polite way. A true friend/group of friends should be willing to hear another friend out. If they get aggressive or put you down for voicing your concerns in a friendly way, then they are most likely not worth your time.",
"A similar situation happened to me in 10th grade. My friends started smoking every day multiple times a day. They stopped going to school regularly. I brought it up then to voice my concern. It started getting worse. Then they stopped going to the mountains with me. They sat around jonesing for ganja and smokes.\n\nOne day I went over to their hangout spot (Tyler's backyard) after school to see if they wanted to go hike. Again they told me no because they want to get some weed. They asked me to buy it b/c they know I had money from my job. I said no and said we should go hiking anyway. Again they said now. I looked around and saw their sad situation so clearly.\n\nThey had killed parts of the lawn from smoking in the same spots. A 5-gal bucket was 1/3 full with cig butts and chew spit. They all complained they didn't have anything to do (all they wanted was to get high). Some of them had worn the same clothes and not showered for over a week. So sad. And they didn't give a shit.\n\nI stood up; told them I was hiking and if anyone wanted to go I was leaving. Some said nothing and others shook their head. I walked away and none of us spoke to each other for several years after that event. I never called them and I didn't talk to them on the phone if they called.\n\nIf they are not willing to see their ways and become better people, you have to ask yourself if it is worth your time and energy to be friends.",
"A lot of potheads end up making it a way of life instead of just something to casually do. They end up talking shit about non potheads, peer pressure people into doing it and then make up excuses why everyone should do it or it makes them \"better at everything.\" You will end up not being in their \"clique\" and will become not as important as their main pothead friends. They will spend their time getting high, looking for weed, bitch about not having weed, playing video games, being paranoid that [people will know](http://youtu.be/TDpt9iicEow?t=2m36s) they are high. Of course I had friends who were not potheads but we did a lot less together because of it. Plus you do not want to surround yourself in something that is illegal because you could get into trouble. We all know a lot of the time it isn't \"just weed\" that people are doing.\n\nSource: Was a pothead for a little bit short of a decade.",
"That's a hard situation and it sucks for you. Distance yourself. It will feel lonely at first, but you will find others in your same boat. It's pot now, but could turn into worse stuff. You are not alone, this happens to lots of high-school kids. Some of your friends will continue to use and try harder stuff, a few of them will see what is happening and quit.\n"
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"How to easily select text to copy Following this post to /r/mildlyinfuriating http://www.reddit.com/r/mildlyinfuriating/comments/260vz4/when_you_have_trouble_selecting_text_to_copy/ I have realised that I also have this issue. Does anyone know of a way to copy text easily without all the hassle that will work every time?",
"How to easily select text to copy Following this post to /r/mildlyinfuriating http://www.reddit.com/r/mildlyinfuriating/comments/260vz4/when_you_have_trouble_selecting_text_to_copy/ I have realised that I also have this issue. Does anyone know of a way to copy text easily without all the hassle that will work every time?"
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"If you want to copy a small portion of text, click next to it. No blinking cursor will appear in most cases, but you have still set a focus point like you would have done in word. You can then select the text by keeping shift pressed and using the arrow keys to make a selection. This also works to modify an initial selection you made with the mouse cursor.\n\nThis doesn't always help, but often.",
"Depends on where you're selecting from, but usually you can double click a word to select the whole thing and then drag.\n\nSometimes it will snap the selection to each word if you do this, but be a little finicky with spaces and punctuation. Adjust with shift + left/right arrow keys.\n\nAlso, using keyboard shortcuts like shift+end to select the rest of the line, or shift+control+left/right arrow key to select / de-select a word is useful too."
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"How to get rid of the smell of smoke? I recently moved into a condo as a tenant. We didn't have any issues for the first couple months, but about a month ago we noticed a strong smell of cigarette smoke that seems to be coming in from another condo in the building. \n\nThe smell is only present along one set of walls (though it runs through several different rooms) that are shared with another condo. We have bought odor eliminators to put in each affected room and have also placed insulation in all the outlets and light-switches in the rooms. The rooms affected are the bathroom, dining room, kitchen, and laundry room. The worst areas are the bathroom (in the cabinets and medicine cabinet), and behind the appliances in the kitchen and laundry room. I do not believe our air ducts are shared, but I do seem to notice it more when the A/C is on.\n\nIs there anything else we can do on our end to solve this issue? I really don't want to complain to our landlord or the condo association about the issue because I don't know what they can do about it, nor do I want to go to our neighbor because I am not 100% sure they are causing it. ",
"How to get rid of the smell of smoke? I recently moved into a condo as a tenant. We didn't have any issues for the first couple months, but about a month ago we noticed a strong smell of cigarette smoke that seems to be coming in from another condo in the building. \n\nThe smell is only present along one set of walls (though it runs through several different rooms) that are shared with another condo. We have bought odor eliminators to put in each affected room and have also placed insulation in all the outlets and light-switches in the rooms. The rooms affected are the bathroom, dining room, kitchen, and laundry room. The worst areas are the bathroom (in the cabinets and medicine cabinet), and behind the appliances in the kitchen and laundry room. I do not believe our air ducts are shared, but I do seem to notice it more when the A/C is on.\n\nIs there anything else we can do on our end to solve this issue? I really don't want to complain to our landlord or the condo association about the issue because I don't know what they can do about it, nor do I want to go to our neighbor because I am not 100% sure they are causing it. ",
"How to get rid of the smell of smoke? I recently moved into a condo as a tenant. We didn't have any issues for the first couple months, but about a month ago we noticed a strong smell of cigarette smoke that seems to be coming in from another condo in the building. \n\nThe smell is only present along one set of walls (though it runs through several different rooms) that are shared with another condo. We have bought odor eliminators to put in each affected room and have also placed insulation in all the outlets and light-switches in the rooms. The rooms affected are the bathroom, dining room, kitchen, and laundry room. The worst areas are the bathroom (in the cabinets and medicine cabinet), and behind the appliances in the kitchen and laundry room. I do not believe our air ducts are shared, but I do seem to notice it more when the A/C is on.\n\nIs there anything else we can do on our end to solve this issue? I really don't want to complain to our landlord or the condo association about the issue because I don't know what they can do about it, nor do I want to go to our neighbor because I am not 100% sure they are causing it. ",
"How to get rid of the smell of smoke? I recently moved into a condo as a tenant. We didn't have any issues for the first couple months, but about a month ago we noticed a strong smell of cigarette smoke that seems to be coming in from another condo in the building. \n\nThe smell is only present along one set of walls (though it runs through several different rooms) that are shared with another condo. We have bought odor eliminators to put in each affected room and have also placed insulation in all the outlets and light-switches in the rooms. The rooms affected are the bathroom, dining room, kitchen, and laundry room. The worst areas are the bathroom (in the cabinets and medicine cabinet), and behind the appliances in the kitchen and laundry room. I do not believe our air ducts are shared, but I do seem to notice it more when the A/C is on.\n\nIs there anything else we can do on our end to solve this issue? I really don't want to complain to our landlord or the condo association about the issue because I don't know what they can do about it, nor do I want to go to our neighbor because I am not 100% sure they are causing it. ",
"How to get rid of the smell of smoke? I recently moved into a condo as a tenant. We didn't have any issues for the first couple months, but about a month ago we noticed a strong smell of cigarette smoke that seems to be coming in from another condo in the building. \n\nThe smell is only present along one set of walls (though it runs through several different rooms) that are shared with another condo. We have bought odor eliminators to put in each affected room and have also placed insulation in all the outlets and light-switches in the rooms. The rooms affected are the bathroom, dining room, kitchen, and laundry room. The worst areas are the bathroom (in the cabinets and medicine cabinet), and behind the appliances in the kitchen and laundry room. I do not believe our air ducts are shared, but I do seem to notice it more when the A/C is on.\n\nIs there anything else we can do on our end to solve this issue? I really don't want to complain to our landlord or the condo association about the issue because I don't know what they can do about it, nor do I want to go to our neighbor because I am not 100% sure they are causing it. ",
"How to get rid of the smell of smoke? I recently moved into a condo as a tenant. We didn't have any issues for the first couple months, but about a month ago we noticed a strong smell of cigarette smoke that seems to be coming in from another condo in the building. \n\nThe smell is only present along one set of walls (though it runs through several different rooms) that are shared with another condo. We have bought odor eliminators to put in each affected room and have also placed insulation in all the outlets and light-switches in the rooms. The rooms affected are the bathroom, dining room, kitchen, and laundry room. The worst areas are the bathroom (in the cabinets and medicine cabinet), and behind the appliances in the kitchen and laundry room. I do not believe our air ducts are shared, but I do seem to notice it more when the A/C is on.\n\nIs there anything else we can do on our end to solve this issue? I really don't want to complain to our landlord or the condo association about the issue because I don't know what they can do about it, nor do I want to go to our neighbor because I am not 100% sure they are causing it. ",
"How to get rid of the smell of smoke? I recently moved into a condo as a tenant. We didn't have any issues for the first couple months, but about a month ago we noticed a strong smell of cigarette smoke that seems to be coming in from another condo in the building. \n\nThe smell is only present along one set of walls (though it runs through several different rooms) that are shared with another condo. We have bought odor eliminators to put in each affected room and have also placed insulation in all the outlets and light-switches in the rooms. The rooms affected are the bathroom, dining room, kitchen, and laundry room. The worst areas are the bathroom (in the cabinets and medicine cabinet), and behind the appliances in the kitchen and laundry room. I do not believe our air ducts are shared, but I do seem to notice it more when the A/C is on.\n\nIs there anything else we can do on our end to solve this issue? I really don't want to complain to our landlord or the condo association about the issue because I don't know what they can do about it, nor do I want to go to our neighbor because I am not 100% sure they are causing it. ",
"How to get rid of the smell of smoke? I recently moved into a condo as a tenant. We didn't have any issues for the first couple months, but about a month ago we noticed a strong smell of cigarette smoke that seems to be coming in from another condo in the building. \n\nThe smell is only present along one set of walls (though it runs through several different rooms) that are shared with another condo. We have bought odor eliminators to put in each affected room and have also placed insulation in all the outlets and light-switches in the rooms. The rooms affected are the bathroom, dining room, kitchen, and laundry room. The worst areas are the bathroom (in the cabinets and medicine cabinet), and behind the appliances in the kitchen and laundry room. I do not believe our air ducts are shared, but I do seem to notice it more when the A/C is on.\n\nIs there anything else we can do on our end to solve this issue? I really don't want to complain to our landlord or the condo association about the issue because I don't know what they can do about it, nor do I want to go to our neighbor because I am not 100% sure they are causing it. "
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"Create positive air pressure in your condo. Running bath or kitchen fans exhausts air from your rooms, resulting in negative pressure and sucking smokey air in from your neighbor's place; see if you can rig a fan to push air into your rooms from the outside.",
"I could use similar advice. I bought a house in December and the previous owner smoked in the garage frequently... and there is a bedroom directly above that garage that now smells of smoke. I thought it would slowly go away, especially now that its warmer and I've frequently have the window open letting fresh air in... but no dice. \n\nDo I have to rent one of those badass carpet cleaners to try to get the smell out (assuming the smell is actually located in the floor...)?\n\nThe garage itself also still reeks of it, and I'm not sure what to do about that.",
"For the latter solution, (going to landlord/neighbor), it really depends on where you are at, what the situation is, and what your landlords feelings are on smoking... but from my (very limited) understanding of the law, there is very little they can actually do about it, unless its in the rental agreement states that its a non-smoking unit... and even then, its usually something along the lines, of the tenant just losing their deposit, which they probably don't care about anyway if they are smoking the place up. I would say definitely bring it up to your landlord though, so you don't lose your deposit too because they think you smoked when it was really your neighbor, and it seeped through the walls. Inform them in writing, and make sure you keep a copy...",
"I'm not sure about condos, but my friend bought a car from a smoker, and in order to get that stagnant smoke smell out, she left a sliced green apple in a cup, in the car for a day. It was a really hot summer day. Then she rode around with the windows down and the smell seemed to go away. \n\n",
"Go buy a big thing of activated carbon/charcoal. You can find it in the fish/aquarium section of walmart. Make a pouch out of some cheese cloth or an old cut up t-shirt and put a handful of the activated carbon in, tie it up and hang anywhere you have odors. Activated carbon is supposed to absorb odors. ",
"Air can come right down furnace and bathroom vents on really windy days filing your house with dust and/or smoke. Is it more noticeable when windy? If the wind is blowing in the right direction the smoke could be jumping from their vent directly into your stacks. A/C just spreads contaminants all around. See if leaving the bath vent fan on windy days lessens. If so, you might consider a partial close-off or air re-director around the roof-top bath-vent. Do not rig or modify other roof vents, as safety could be compromised.",
"Insulation around all switch boxes and outlets is a good start. Remember to seal the openings with tape before replacing the covers to help stop the negative pressure draw.",
"Burn Incents. \n\n\nWhen I was 16 I had a house party while my mom was gone. I invited 15 people over to get shitty, ended up being close to 50. Nearly everyone was smoking in the house, cigs,pot, one guy lit up some meth.\n\nWe ran out of Febreeze and in a last ditch effort we lighted about 6 fruity smelling incents. Cleared the whole house out of any funky smells. Downside, the house smelled like John Lennons dirty laundry."
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"How to let your friends know that they're not good friends? I just realised that most of the people that I've called my best friends over the past 8 or so years aren't really that good of friends anymore. I constantly reach out to them and ask how they're doing, try to make plans, let them know that I appreciate them, etc. and it doesn't seem like they care at all about me or our friendship. "
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"I recently purged my my mobile contacts and deleted everyone who I hadn't heard from in at least 6 months."
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"How to be a better listener I have just found lately that I can sometimes listen to someone talk for 5 minutes and hardly retain any of it. So much of what I hear goes in one ear and out the other. It's not that I'm completely uninterested, just more of a bad habit. Any tips?",
"How to be a better listener I have just found lately that I can sometimes listen to someone talk for 5 minutes and hardly retain any of it. So much of what I hear goes in one ear and out the other. It's not that I'm completely uninterested, just more of a bad habit. Any tips?",
"How to be a better listener I have just found lately that I can sometimes listen to someone talk for 5 minutes and hardly retain any of it. So much of what I hear goes in one ear and out the other. It's not that I'm completely uninterested, just more of a bad habit. Any tips?",
"How to be a better listener I have just found lately that I can sometimes listen to someone talk for 5 minutes and hardly retain any of it. So much of what I hear goes in one ear and out the other. It's not that I'm completely uninterested, just more of a bad habit. Any tips?",
"How to be a better listener I have just found lately that I can sometimes listen to someone talk for 5 minutes and hardly retain any of it. So much of what I hear goes in one ear and out the other. It's not that I'm completely uninterested, just more of a bad habit. Any tips?",
"How to be a better listener I have just found lately that I can sometimes listen to someone talk for 5 minutes and hardly retain any of it. So much of what I hear goes in one ear and out the other. It's not that I'm completely uninterested, just more of a bad habit. Any tips?",
"How to be a better listener I have just found lately that I can sometimes listen to someone talk for 5 minutes and hardly retain any of it. So much of what I hear goes in one ear and out the other. It's not that I'm completely uninterested, just more of a bad habit. Any tips?",
"How to be a better listener I have just found lately that I can sometimes listen to someone talk for 5 minutes and hardly retain any of it. So much of what I hear goes in one ear and out the other. It's not that I'm completely uninterested, just more of a bad habit. Any tips?"
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"Try \"active listening.\" Basically, this is repeating in your own words what you think the person is saying. \"Oh, so what you're telling me is...\"\n\nIt has multiple benefits. For one, it forces you to focus on that they're saying so you can digest it enough to repeat it. For another, the person you're talking with gets a validation that they've been understood. Finally, in cases where you missed their point, that gets identified early so communication is improved.",
"if its only recently there might be something in your life causing you to always be thinking about something else - i.e. a stressful time like exams, stressful relationships, etc. ? ",
"[lots of good tips here...](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/search?q=better+listener&sort=top&restrict_sr=on&t=all)",
"Well it is hard to pay attention when someone is boring you, but....look the person in the eye, and it is not just about listening, but about hearing what the person said. You have to try on purpose to pay attention to people.",
"Try to do the active listening thing, of saying \"so your saying xyz\" but in your head after every sentence they say.",
"Personally I wind the best way to listen is to watch. If I'm looking at the thing doing the talking, I find my mind wanders a lot less and I'm able to better retain information. Also- information tends to be easier to read/recognize when there are visuals alongside it. \n\nAnother trick is to just repeat what they're saying in your head as you listen... but that can go awry if you're listening to really long strings of information.... ",
"Only speak in natural pauses and say affirmative things such as \"yeah I get it\" or \"please continue\" google Actively Listening make eye contact, ask questions etc.",
"Shut your mouth and let them talk. Try to inderstand what thier saying, and why thier saying it to u. People call me a social butterfly, but i listen more than i talk"
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"Maintaining eye contact I think of myself as a very shy and awkward person. Sometimes, even with friends. I feel very uncomfortable with long periods of eye contact. I feel that it is too intimate. Any help?",
"Maintaining eye contact I think of myself as a very shy and awkward person. Sometimes, even with friends. I feel very uncomfortable with long periods of eye contact. I feel that it is too intimate. Any help?",
"Maintaining eye contact I think of myself as a very shy and awkward person. Sometimes, even with friends. I feel very uncomfortable with long periods of eye contact. I feel that it is too intimate. Any help?",
"Maintaining eye contact I think of myself as a very shy and awkward person. Sometimes, even with friends. I feel very uncomfortable with long periods of eye contact. I feel that it is too intimate. Any help?",
"Maintaining eye contact I think of myself as a very shy and awkward person. Sometimes, even with friends. I feel very uncomfortable with long periods of eye contact. I feel that it is too intimate. Any help?",
"Maintaining eye contact I think of myself as a very shy and awkward person. Sometimes, even with friends. I feel very uncomfortable with long periods of eye contact. I feel that it is too intimate. Any help?",
"Maintaining eye contact I think of myself as a very shy and awkward person. Sometimes, even with friends. I feel very uncomfortable with long periods of eye contact. I feel that it is too intimate. Any help?",
"Maintaining eye contact I think of myself as a very shy and awkward person. Sometimes, even with friends. I feel very uncomfortable with long periods of eye contact. I feel that it is too intimate. Any help?",
"Maintaining eye contact I think of myself as a very shy and awkward person. Sometimes, even with friends. I feel very uncomfortable with long periods of eye contact. I feel that it is too intimate. Any help?",
"Maintaining eye contact I think of myself as a very shy and awkward person. Sometimes, even with friends. I feel very uncomfortable with long periods of eye contact. I feel that it is too intimate. Any help?",
"Maintaining eye contact I think of myself as a very shy and awkward person. Sometimes, even with friends. I feel very uncomfortable with long periods of eye contact. I feel that it is too intimate. Any help?",
"Maintaining eye contact I think of myself as a very shy and awkward person. Sometimes, even with friends. I feel very uncomfortable with long periods of eye contact. I feel that it is too intimate. Any help?",
"Maintaining eye contact I think of myself as a very shy and awkward person. Sometimes, even with friends. I feel very uncomfortable with long periods of eye contact. I feel that it is too intimate. Any help?"
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"It's really not necessary to stare into their eyes for a long time. Just long enough to know you're listening and when it starts to get weird look around at your environment for a second then meet their eyes again ",
"You don't have to be constantly looking at someone you're talking to. For me, it's hard to hear what they say, and form thoughts if I'm staring at their eyes.\n",
"I also had a problem with this. I then realized what matters more is your body language, looking receptive. Noding you head, saying yes and other way to let them know youre listening or understand.",
"as another user mentioned, don't bother just looking directly at their eyes. it's not exactly natural and concentrating on what to look at takes away from your ability to listen properly. Your body will naturally angle towards what your focus is on even if your face isn't (e.g.: the direction your torso, or legs are oriented). Although, of course, don't avoid looking at their face; the habit will form over time.",
"When dealing with people, you want to try to match their body language to build rapport. \n\nEye contact is a matter of confidence. Some people can be intimidated by continuous, strong eye contact, as it can be seen as a dominant behavior. Eye contact is a matter of confidence, knowing that even if you're not really in charge, you know your place and are in your place, and those around you are either also in their place or somehow out *of* place.\n\nPractice public speaking, and (yes, sounds funny) staring contests with your friends. Building confidence can help you withstand the gaze of other people, and having the ability to stare someone down will give you the tools you need in order to have the right amount of eye contact with other people.\n\nI used to have the habit of maintaining constant eye contact with everyone, now I intentionally look away in order to be more casual around other people who don't hold as much eye contact as I do. Better for everyone.",
"Maintaining eye contact for a long period is sometimes interpreted as an attempt to intimidate the other person. ",
"Look at the bridge of their nose. It looks to them like you're maintaining eye contact, but you don't have to.",
"Look at the bridge of their nose instead of their eyes. It's impossible to tell the difference and it's much easier to maintain 'eye' contact.",
"Just at least look at their face from time to time. Extended eye contact comes off as creepy.\n\nI often find myself spending conversations looking at other things besides a person's eyes because its just too much. Still have friends and as long as you're looking in the general direction of their face, no one seems to notice. Look at their hair, their nose(or the bridge), their forehead, but staring is creepy and can be overdone.",
"I used to have the same problem, what I did was I got a retail job so I was forced to maintain eye contact and interact with customers. It was pretty hard at first but now I can't even imagine talking to someone without looking them in the eye. Basically you just have to do it until you get comfortable, but if you still find that difficult just look at their nose between their eyes they won't be able to tell the difference ",
"I look at their noses or eyebrows. People consider me very outgoing but it takes me a long time to remember faces because of my habit. You can always glance away as long as you come back if you need a break.",
"For me it helped to start thinking of eye contact as respectful and not intimate. It took awhile but once I built a new perception of what eye contact meant to me it became so much easier to actually maintain eye contact.\n\nIt's a skill like anything else. Make yourself uncomfortable in small doses while you're learning it and eventually it won't be as uncomfortable.",
"Just a guess, but you might have undiagnosed Asperger's, which has recently been recategorized as autistic spectrum disorder. One of the hallmark symptoms is problems with eye contact. There are several good therapy techniques that could help you improve both the shyness and eye contact issues. Talk to a psychologist, preferably one with experience in treating adult Asperger's."
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"How do I deal with my noisy upstairs neighbors? They stomp around when walking. They are really loud to the point that I'm not sure if they understand that they have hardwood floors. I wake up to them every morning at 7am. Several times a day it sounds like they are moving furniture and at least 3 times a week it sounds like that there are two people on the ground fist fighting. \n\n\n\n\n\n\n\nAt night time I can hear their TV and can hear the vibrations of it through my walls.\n\n\n\nAlso I am starting to wonder if one of them is bouncing a ball sometimes. \n\n\n\nI live alone. I do lift weights in my apartment but I'm not loud when doing so I also have thick carpeting, I don't drop weights or bang them on every rep. If they do bang it's maybe 4 times throughout the hour that I lift. I also play music during this time but not loud, I have the bass as low as it can go and the music's volume is the level that the average person would have their tv as. For everything else I use headphones which are noise canceling and can still hear their tv at night.\n\n\n\n\nShould I complain directly to my landlord? I've lived here nearly 2 years and have had 2 different neighbors before this. Both were as quiet as a mouse. I thought about waiting it out as for some reason my upstairs neighbors all end up moving out after a few months. \n\n\n\n\nI thought about complaining to them but I used to live in another building of this apartment when I was a kid (11yr old up until 16. Am 22 now). The neighbors I had back then were loud as fuck. Twice what these neighbors are and they cursed my family out when we complained to them.\n\n\n\n\nI'm not sure if I should try to do the friendly thing and ask since if I do I don't know how they will respond to it and if they act like they will quiet down and I go complain to the landlord when they don't quiet down they will know specifically which person below them complained. Also they might argue about my one hour of weight lifting even though the noise if any is very brief and I do it at lunch time. \n\n\n\nI've never complained about anything before though. \n\n\n\n\nHow do I deal with this situation?\n\n\n\n\n\n",
"How do I deal with my noisy upstairs neighbors? They stomp around when walking. They are really loud to the point that I'm not sure if they understand that they have hardwood floors. I wake up to them every morning at 7am. Several times a day it sounds like they are moving furniture and at least 3 times a week it sounds like that there are two people on the ground fist fighting. \n\n\n\n\n\n\n\nAt night time I can hear their TV and can hear the vibrations of it through my walls.\n\n\n\nAlso I am starting to wonder if one of them is bouncing a ball sometimes. \n\n\n\nI live alone. I do lift weights in my apartment but I'm not loud when doing so I also have thick carpeting, I don't drop weights or bang them on every rep. If they do bang it's maybe 4 times throughout the hour that I lift. I also play music during this time but not loud, I have the bass as low as it can go and the music's volume is the level that the average person would have their tv as. For everything else I use headphones which are noise canceling and can still hear their tv at night.\n\n\n\n\nShould I complain directly to my landlord? I've lived here nearly 2 years and have had 2 different neighbors before this. Both were as quiet as a mouse. I thought about waiting it out as for some reason my upstairs neighbors all end up moving out after a few months. \n\n\n\n\nI thought about complaining to them but I used to live in another building of this apartment when I was a kid (11yr old up until 16. Am 22 now). The neighbors I had back then were loud as fuck. Twice what these neighbors are and they cursed my family out when we complained to them.\n\n\n\n\nI'm not sure if I should try to do the friendly thing and ask since if I do I don't know how they will respond to it and if they act like they will quiet down and I go complain to the landlord when they don't quiet down they will know specifically which person below them complained. Also they might argue about my one hour of weight lifting even though the noise if any is very brief and I do it at lunch time. \n\n\n\nI've never complained about anything before though. \n\n\n\n\nHow do I deal with this situation?\n\n\n\n\n\n",
"How do I deal with my noisy upstairs neighbors? They stomp around when walking. They are really loud to the point that I'm not sure if they understand that they have hardwood floors. I wake up to them every morning at 7am. Several times a day it sounds like they are moving furniture and at least 3 times a week it sounds like that there are two people on the ground fist fighting. \n\n\n\n\n\n\n\nAt night time I can hear their TV and can hear the vibrations of it through my walls.\n\n\n\nAlso I am starting to wonder if one of them is bouncing a ball sometimes. \n\n\n\nI live alone. I do lift weights in my apartment but I'm not loud when doing so I also have thick carpeting, I don't drop weights or bang them on every rep. If they do bang it's maybe 4 times throughout the hour that I lift. I also play music during this time but not loud, I have the bass as low as it can go and the music's volume is the level that the average person would have their tv as. For everything else I use headphones which are noise canceling and can still hear their tv at night.\n\n\n\n\nShould I complain directly to my landlord? I've lived here nearly 2 years and have had 2 different neighbors before this. Both were as quiet as a mouse. I thought about waiting it out as for some reason my upstairs neighbors all end up moving out after a few months. \n\n\n\n\nI thought about complaining to them but I used to live in another building of this apartment when I was a kid (11yr old up until 16. Am 22 now). The neighbors I had back then were loud as fuck. Twice what these neighbors are and they cursed my family out when we complained to them.\n\n\n\n\nI'm not sure if I should try to do the friendly thing and ask since if I do I don't know how they will respond to it and if they act like they will quiet down and I go complain to the landlord when they don't quiet down they will know specifically which person below them complained. Also they might argue about my one hour of weight lifting even though the noise if any is very brief and I do it at lunch time. \n\n\n\nI've never complained about anything before though. \n\n\n\n\nHow do I deal with this situation?\n\n\n\n\n\n",
"How do I deal with my noisy upstairs neighbors? They stomp around when walking. They are really loud to the point that I'm not sure if they understand that they have hardwood floors. I wake up to them every morning at 7am. Several times a day it sounds like they are moving furniture and at least 3 times a week it sounds like that there are two people on the ground fist fighting. \n\n\n\n\n\n\n\nAt night time I can hear their TV and can hear the vibrations of it through my walls.\n\n\n\nAlso I am starting to wonder if one of them is bouncing a ball sometimes. \n\n\n\nI live alone. I do lift weights in my apartment but I'm not loud when doing so I also have thick carpeting, I don't drop weights or bang them on every rep. If they do bang it's maybe 4 times throughout the hour that I lift. I also play music during this time but not loud, I have the bass as low as it can go and the music's volume is the level that the average person would have their tv as. For everything else I use headphones which are noise canceling and can still hear their tv at night.\n\n\n\n\nShould I complain directly to my landlord? I've lived here nearly 2 years and have had 2 different neighbors before this. Both were as quiet as a mouse. I thought about waiting it out as for some reason my upstairs neighbors all end up moving out after a few months. \n\n\n\n\nI thought about complaining to them but I used to live in another building of this apartment when I was a kid (11yr old up until 16. Am 22 now). The neighbors I had back then were loud as fuck. Twice what these neighbors are and they cursed my family out when we complained to them.\n\n\n\n\nI'm not sure if I should try to do the friendly thing and ask since if I do I don't know how they will respond to it and if they act like they will quiet down and I go complain to the landlord when they don't quiet down they will know specifically which person below them complained. Also they might argue about my one hour of weight lifting even though the noise if any is very brief and I do it at lunch time. \n\n\n\nI've never complained about anything before though. \n\n\n\n\nHow do I deal with this situation?\n\n\n\n\n\n"
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"Have you tried, I don't know, **talking to them**?\n\nJust because your family had one bad experience with a family doesn't mean you will. Just because they **might** be confrontational doesn't mean they will be.\n\nAnd if they are, so fucking what? Just walk away and contact your landlord.",
"You chose to live under people now you have to deal with the consequences. As long as they're not making noise at ridiculous hours there's nothing you can really do",
"I had terrible neighbors like that. They didn't care that they were loud. I documented their noise sent that to my land lord, talked to them, I even had the condo board send them noise warning letters. The condo board warning letters worked for a week or so but eventually I moved because of noisy neighbours. To start, talk to them and then tell your landlord you talked to them about noise. Your landlord is your ally in this so be sure to keep them in the loop. ",
"I had the same problem in my apartment and one day I just bought a six pack and kept it outside the door of my upstairs neighbor with a note sayin \"it really gets very noisy sometimes when you're watching late night tv\" \nIt's been way better since .. all the Best"
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"How to avoid sweaty hands. With these warm months ahead of us, many of us have difficulty with this. It is uncomfortable and hard to avoid. Any tips on how to stop it?",
"How to avoid sweaty hands. With these warm months ahead of us, many of us have difficulty with this. It is uncomfortable and hard to avoid. Any tips on how to stop it?",
"How to avoid sweaty hands. With these warm months ahead of us, many of us have difficulty with this. It is uncomfortable and hard to avoid. Any tips on how to stop it?",
"How to avoid sweaty hands. With these warm months ahead of us, many of us have difficulty with this. It is uncomfortable and hard to avoid. Any tips on how to stop it?",
"How to avoid sweaty hands. With these warm months ahead of us, many of us have difficulty with this. It is uncomfortable and hard to avoid. Any tips on how to stop it?",
"How to avoid sweaty hands. With these warm months ahead of us, many of us have difficulty with this. It is uncomfortable and hard to avoid. Any tips on how to stop it?",
"How to avoid sweaty hands. With these warm months ahead of us, many of us have difficulty with this. It is uncomfortable and hard to avoid. Any tips on how to stop it?",
"How to avoid sweaty hands. With these warm months ahead of us, many of us have difficulty with this. It is uncomfortable and hard to avoid. Any tips on how to stop it?",
"How to avoid sweaty hands. With these warm months ahead of us, many of us have difficulty with this. It is uncomfortable and hard to avoid. Any tips on how to stop it?",
"How to avoid sweaty hands. With these warm months ahead of us, many of us have difficulty with this. It is uncomfortable and hard to avoid. Any tips on how to stop it?",
"How to avoid sweaty hands. With these warm months ahead of us, many of us have difficulty with this. It is uncomfortable and hard to avoid. Any tips on how to stop it?",
"How to avoid sweaty hands. With these warm months ahead of us, many of us have difficulty with this. It is uncomfortable and hard to avoid. Any tips on how to stop it?",
"How to avoid sweaty hands. With these warm months ahead of us, many of us have difficulty with this. It is uncomfortable and hard to avoid. Any tips on how to stop it?"
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"Don't think there's just a permanent solution that doesn't involve removing the sweat glands in your palms.\n\nAt school, there's hand sanitizers everywhere so I use a bunch of it and it keeps my hands pretty dry.",
"I found that simply washing my hands solves this problem. It isn't permanent but it'll at least help you finish whatever you're doing. Not exactly a pro tip but it works.",
"The most effective but cheapest way is to build your own iontopheris machine. You put your hands in water for about 20 minutes with a small current in the water and it helps to reduce sweating. It takes 2-6 weeks to really start working, and you have to continue doing it or the effects wear off. If you show no signs of improvement after 2 weeks, I would suggest using more batteries, it is suggested to use anywhere from 12-24 volts(2-4 6 volt batteries). Here is a video - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0_wdHKRWZI4\n\nThere are natural things like kava kava that will help reduce anxiety and could help reduce sweating. It could be helped with doctor prescribed anti anxiety medicine. \n\nYou can get botox shots in your hands, I hear they work pretty well. But kind of painful and kind of expensive(some insurance companies cover the cost).",
"I've always had really hot hands, but if i wash with cold water i buy myself a few hours of reason-ability and dryness ",
"When I was little I had problems with that. I used to soak them in salvia which is supposed to help. I am not sure if it did or if it was something else, but my palms don't sweat anymore. \n\nAlso for temporary help - buy those refreshing towels and have some with you. Wash them in cold water and don't dry them completely when you don't have to.",
"What about talc or some sort of baby powder type product? If you apply it lightly it may help, I just wonder how visible it would be. ",
"Rub some anti-perspirant on your hands. I've done this a few times. You can also rub it on your feet, especially in places where you have a tendency to get blisters. ",
"I was on a pill called Robinol. Though I did get headaches and dry mouth, my dripping wet hands stayed dry for hours. It was kinda trippy to not have hyperhidrosis for a while. My hands drip & my feet sweat through my shoes. Other than that I tried the machine which didn't help. ",
"I struggled with this for years and it was very frustrating. I started to eliminate stuff out if my diet to narrow down what or if it was something I was eating. Definitely a positive correlation between caffeine intake and sweaty hands / feet! Good luck! ",
"I am a pole dancer and a trapeze artist, and most of the people I know that have sweaty hands use a product called Dry Hands. I'm not sure what the active ingredient is that's in it, I've never had to use it. But it works. Also, a less invasive alternative to surgery would be botox, not permanent, but lasts a few months.",
"Before you leave the house in the morning, wipe down your palms with a cotton ball soaked in rubbing alcohol.",
"In this vein, how the fuck do I stop my damn forehead fop sweat? I feel like Tod from Scrubs, even in the middle of fucking winter.\n\nPlz help; am 2 embarrass",
"Fold an A4 sheet of paper and hold onto it in your pocket. This will increase your hand's exposed surface area and have same paper to soak any thing up."
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"Tips on how to get better at logic/math? (sorta x-post from r/advice) Is it true confidence makes learning math easier? For those of you who are good at logic, what goes through your mind when dealing with a logical puzzle or when you are learning a concept for the first time?\n\nI’m currently a student in HS struggling in my math/coding classes, and for some reason, I think my brain just isn’t “wired” that way. But there must be some sort of thinking process in learning things like that? What is the difference in attitude or problem processing between my friend who gets higher grades than me in precalc despite not trying, versus me?\n\nI’d appreciate any advice, thanks!",
"Tips on how to get better at logic/math? (sorta x-post from r/advice) Is it true confidence makes learning math easier? For those of you who are good at logic, what goes through your mind when dealing with a logical puzzle or when you are learning a concept for the first time?\n\nI’m currently a student in HS struggling in my math/coding classes, and for some reason, I think my brain just isn’t “wired” that way. But there must be some sort of thinking process in learning things like that? What is the difference in attitude or problem processing between my friend who gets higher grades than me in precalc despite not trying, versus me?\n\nI’d appreciate any advice, thanks!",
"Tips on how to get better at logic/math? (sorta x-post from r/advice) Is it true confidence makes learning math easier? For those of you who are good at logic, what goes through your mind when dealing with a logical puzzle or when you are learning a concept for the first time?\n\nI’m currently a student in HS struggling in my math/coding classes, and for some reason, I think my brain just isn’t “wired” that way. But there must be some sort of thinking process in learning things like that? What is the difference in attitude or problem processing between my friend who gets higher grades than me in precalc despite not trying, versus me?\n\nI’d appreciate any advice, thanks!",
"Tips on how to get better at logic/math? (sorta x-post from r/advice) Is it true confidence makes learning math easier? For those of you who are good at logic, what goes through your mind when dealing with a logical puzzle or when you are learning a concept for the first time?\n\nI’m currently a student in HS struggling in my math/coding classes, and for some reason, I think my brain just isn’t “wired” that way. But there must be some sort of thinking process in learning things like that? What is the difference in attitude or problem processing between my friend who gets higher grades than me in precalc despite not trying, versus me?\n\nI’d appreciate any advice, thanks!"
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"I feel that past experience has a lot to do with it. Critical thinking and problem solving when your are young makes it easier. However don't give up, our brains are plastic, meaning that work and time establish new connections. Keep working at it, get some logic puzzle books. Also when you think about prices at the store, try thinking about it backwards, like this... i have $25 and have 13.50 in my basket, how much can i still spend? I have $25 and want to but these $5 things, how many can i buy? This is that start... good luck! You can do it!",
"I'd recommend practicing a few problems a day. Seek out challenges (some YouTube channels post mathematics problems, or look into SAT/ACT prep or mathematics competition practice problems and question pools) as these will cause you to look beyond what you currently know. Best is when you have multiple solved problems to practice so you can see how to do the problems and then practice a different, similar problem without looking at the solution.\n\nAlternatively, just pretend you know what's going on until you get to a master's level mathematics of engineering course, where everything finally makes sense. Then congratulate yourself for not understanding anything and still making it to that advanced a level with a respectably high GPA, weeks of missed sleep, and a deep-seated hatred of learning in general. (I tried this approach. I still have to look up how to do most problems, since I never learned the process, but I can do the steps easily enough. 3/10 would not recommend.) (",
"I have an alarm clock on my phone that makes me solve a specified number of math problems (you can set the difficulty) to turn it off. That made me get better at math reeeeaaaaal fast.",
"Hmu if there is something you need help with. \n\nI am also in HS and am pretty good at math and logic so i would love to help ;)"
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"I keep removing my mouthguard in my sleep at night; any ideas how to prevent this? I've googled it and no success. I am thinking there probably isn't anything I can really do about this.\n\nI sleep with a mouthguard as I tend to grind my teeth at night. It's becoming a big deal when I find myself waking up in pain and/or my mouthguard is on my bed digging into my arm/back. I am either taking it out of my mouth half-asleep and unaware or its falling out.\n\nAny tips? Anyone experience something similar that helped them fix this problem? I have a killer headache from it happening again last night. :(\n\n**",
"I keep removing my mouthguard in my sleep at night; any ideas how to prevent this? I've googled it and no success. I am thinking there probably isn't anything I can really do about this.\n\nI sleep with a mouthguard as I tend to grind my teeth at night. It's becoming a big deal when I find myself waking up in pain and/or my mouthguard is on my bed digging into my arm/back. I am either taking it out of my mouth half-asleep and unaware or its falling out.\n\nAny tips? Anyone experience something similar that helped them fix this problem? I have a killer headache from it happening again last night. :(\n\n**",
"I keep removing my mouthguard in my sleep at night; any ideas how to prevent this? I've googled it and no success. I am thinking there probably isn't anything I can really do about this.\n\nI sleep with a mouthguard as I tend to grind my teeth at night. It's becoming a big deal when I find myself waking up in pain and/or my mouthguard is on my bed digging into my arm/back. I am either taking it out of my mouth half-asleep and unaware or its falling out.\n\nAny tips? Anyone experience something similar that helped them fix this problem? I have a killer headache from it happening again last night. :(\n\n**",
"I keep removing my mouthguard in my sleep at night; any ideas how to prevent this? I've googled it and no success. I am thinking there probably isn't anything I can really do about this.\n\nI sleep with a mouthguard as I tend to grind my teeth at night. It's becoming a big deal when I find myself waking up in pain and/or my mouthguard is on my bed digging into my arm/back. I am either taking it out of my mouth half-asleep and unaware or its falling out.\n\nAny tips? Anyone experience something similar that helped them fix this problem? I have a killer headache from it happening again last night. :(\n\n**",
"I keep removing my mouthguard in my sleep at night; any ideas how to prevent this? I've googled it and no success. I am thinking there probably isn't anything I can really do about this.\n\nI sleep with a mouthguard as I tend to grind my teeth at night. It's becoming a big deal when I find myself waking up in pain and/or my mouthguard is on my bed digging into my arm/back. I am either taking it out of my mouth half-asleep and unaware or its falling out.\n\nAny tips? Anyone experience something similar that helped them fix this problem? I have a killer headache from it happening again last night. :(\n\n**",
"I keep removing my mouthguard in my sleep at night; any ideas how to prevent this? I've googled it and no success. I am thinking there probably isn't anything I can really do about this.\n\nI sleep with a mouthguard as I tend to grind my teeth at night. It's becoming a big deal when I find myself waking up in pain and/or my mouthguard is on my bed digging into my arm/back. I am either taking it out of my mouth half-asleep and unaware or its falling out.\n\nAny tips? Anyone experience something similar that helped them fix this problem? I have a killer headache from it happening again last night. :(\n\n**",
"I keep removing my mouthguard in my sleep at night; any ideas how to prevent this? I've googled it and no success. I am thinking there probably isn't anything I can really do about this.\n\nI sleep with a mouthguard as I tend to grind my teeth at night. It's becoming a big deal when I find myself waking up in pain and/or my mouthguard is on my bed digging into my arm/back. I am either taking it out of my mouth half-asleep and unaware or its falling out.\n\nAny tips? Anyone experience something similar that helped them fix this problem? I have a killer headache from it happening again last night. :(\n\n**",
"I keep removing my mouthguard in my sleep at night; any ideas how to prevent this? I've googled it and no success. I am thinking there probably isn't anything I can really do about this.\n\nI sleep with a mouthguard as I tend to grind my teeth at night. It's becoming a big deal when I find myself waking up in pain and/or my mouthguard is on my bed digging into my arm/back. I am either taking it out of my mouth half-asleep and unaware or its falling out.\n\nAny tips? Anyone experience something similar that helped them fix this problem? I have a killer headache from it happening again last night. :(\n\n**",
"I keep removing my mouthguard in my sleep at night; any ideas how to prevent this? I've googled it and no success. I am thinking there probably isn't anything I can really do about this.\n\nI sleep with a mouthguard as I tend to grind my teeth at night. It's becoming a big deal when I find myself waking up in pain and/or my mouthguard is on my bed digging into my arm/back. I am either taking it out of my mouth half-asleep and unaware or its falling out.\n\nAny tips? Anyone experience something similar that helped them fix this problem? I have a killer headache from it happening again last night. :(\n\n**",
"I keep removing my mouthguard in my sleep at night; any ideas how to prevent this? I've googled it and no success. I am thinking there probably isn't anything I can really do about this.\n\nI sleep with a mouthguard as I tend to grind my teeth at night. It's becoming a big deal when I find myself waking up in pain and/or my mouthguard is on my bed digging into my arm/back. I am either taking it out of my mouth half-asleep and unaware or its falling out.\n\nAny tips? Anyone experience something similar that helped them fix this problem? I have a killer headache from it happening again last night. :(\n\n**"
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"Just heard an answer to this from a dentist yesterday: wear it during the day for some time to get used to it. It doesn't need to be out and about, but while you're awake and puttering around the house, wear it and it will become less foreign.",
"Have you tried supplementing Magnesium? You may be deficient, which would cause muscle tension and lead to you grinding your teeth. ",
"I'm a teeth grinder as well. I find that I remove mine in the middle of the night because it's uncomfortable. Your best bet is talking to your dentist about it. Or go to the drugstore and get on over the count that you fit yourself. \n\nThe $600 one I got through my dentist lasted less than six months before I chewed through it (thanks insurance for not covering it) so I opted to get it from the drugstore instead. There's a learning curve to get it fit properly. Try a couple to see what works for you!",
"How long have you been using it for? When I first got my nightguard, I would remove it every night. I ended up giving up on after a few days or week or something. The one I had couldn't just be spit out either - you needed at least one thumb to pop it out. \n\n\nOver a year later, the headaches were worse, so I found it and tried it again. Must have taken the better part of a month, but eventually I guess I got used to it. Haven't woken up without it in years now.\n\n\nDon't have any easy trick, but for me it just took time.... Your mileage may vary of course, but good luck. Once you are able to make it work, it's some of the best money I've ever spent.",
"Has it been fitted properly or is it off the shelf. A good fitting mouth guard should almost vacuum fit on so only comes out if you physically try...",
"You might try using a cheap elastic band, attached to the outside of the mouth guard and going around the back of your head. \n\nIt wouldn't have to be very tight; just enough that it wouldn't accidentally fall out, and you couldn't unconsciously take it out. ",
"We have some stuff in the UK called 'No More Nails'... a quick squirt of that into your mouthguard and it should stay in all night.",
"I would ask your dentist, my retainer fitted so tightly it wouldn't fall out, I assume this is a similar thing? It may be the wrong shape for you.",
"I don't have it on me but I got a newer retainer recently. It hooks onto my second molars (wisdom teeth removed). It gets on so tightly I've never had an issue.",
"First of all, I wish I had worn a night guard a lot earlier in my life. Ground down like a third of my smile. I tried the over the counter Doctor's Night Guard which are almost thirty bucks. Those would only last a few months. I've tried many different types of sports mouth guards and the best ones I've found so far are 98 cents at WalMart. Get a few of the clear ones and cut them down to as small as you think will work. Then boil it in water for like 30 seconds or more, plunge it in ice very quickly and bite down and press it hard with your fingers to get a good fit. By cutting it down, it does not feel like you have a hockey puck in your mouth, and the tight fit will create suction and you will hardly feel it and will not want to spit it out. I had one a doctor made and I swear I'd have to go looking for it across the room in the morning. If you cut too much or boil too long, just get out another and try it again until you get a good fit. At one buck, you can afford to experiment. Good luck. \n\n"
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"How to accept gifts Every Christmas, my friends and family get my wife and I gifts and I always thank them and say, \"You didn't have to\" or something to that extent. My wife continually tells me to just be grateful and not say, \"You didn't have to\" or \"You shouldn't have\".\n\nHow should I accept gifts? Does just a simple, \"thank you\" suffice?",
"How to accept gifts Every Christmas, my friends and family get my wife and I gifts and I always thank them and say, \"You didn't have to\" or something to that extent. My wife continually tells me to just be grateful and not say, \"You didn't have to\" or \"You shouldn't have\".\n\nHow should I accept gifts? Does just a simple, \"thank you\" suffice?",
"How to accept gifts Every Christmas, my friends and family get my wife and I gifts and I always thank them and say, \"You didn't have to\" or something to that extent. My wife continually tells me to just be grateful and not say, \"You didn't have to\" or \"You shouldn't have\".\n\nHow should I accept gifts? Does just a simple, \"thank you\" suffice?"
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"Say, \"thank you\" and remain silent. With practice you will be more confident in the delivery. When I switched to thank you from being self deprecating or deferring my gratitude came across so much better. Of course, don't forget you can do more. I've picked up grown men in man embraces before in gratitude. Just keep it to your enthusiasm level. \n\nPractice through out your day when you get random feedback or compliments. Just a thank you with out explanation works so well. ",
"I have a hard time saying thank you on its own; I always say something about the gift to make it look like im being more gracious:\n\nSocks: \"Thanks! I'm due a few new pairs\"\n\nChocolate: \"Thanks, I'll start my diet tomorrow.. ;) \"\n\nVideo Game: \"Thanks! I'll call my friend and see if he wants to play online\".\n\nBook: \"Great, That will give me something to do when I have to take that trip next week\".\n\nIt sounds stupid but it just feels more sincere to me; like it isnt some rehearsed meaningless token: \"Thanks\".",
"(Most) people don't give gifts specifically to elicit a very emotional gratefulness response from the the receiver.\n\nAs long as you are not rude and follow the normal tradition of saying something of gratitude, pretty much any reply will suffice. "
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"How to clean the inside of knife guards I have some knives guards that look quite dirty on the inside and I want to clean them out. Anyone done this before?",
"How to clean the inside of knife guards I have some knives guards that look quite dirty on the inside and I want to clean them out. Anyone done this before?"
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"As long as it is a nonporous material you could put them in water and drop some denture cleaning tabs in there. Effervescence ftw. ",
"I've heard that knife blocks are often the dirtiest thing in the kitchen. Apparently a lot of people use a knife and put it back without properly washing it. All of that ends up building up over time because people don't wash the knife block either. \nGood post."
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"How to stop overthinking in math??? I just had a pretty big test and completely f\\*\\*\\*\\*ed up the thinking section due to overthinking. The question in its self is super simple once I asked my classmates but during the test, I literally questioned my entire understanding of the math concepts. How do I stop this? I'm seriously disappointed and angry at myself because I studied hours and hours, went through all the material and did all the questions. My friend, who hasn't studied a single bit and plays video-games all day in class (and isn't known for being good at math either), breezed through the question. Why am I so f\\*\\*\\*ing stupid??",
"How to stop overthinking in math??? I just had a pretty big test and completely f\\*\\*\\*\\*ed up the thinking section due to overthinking. The question in its self is super simple once I asked my classmates but during the test, I literally questioned my entire understanding of the math concepts. How do I stop this? I'm seriously disappointed and angry at myself because I studied hours and hours, went through all the material and did all the questions. My friend, who hasn't studied a single bit and plays video-games all day in class (and isn't known for being good at math either), breezed through the question. Why am I so f\\*\\*\\*ing stupid??"
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"You may need a tutor to work through these concepts with you to be sure that you are understanding them in the way that you think you are. Doing things to de-stress may also help you.",
"Don't read the question. Look at the numbers then work it out. Your first answer is the right answer."
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"Shaky hands, how to stop them I don't drink alcohol, I don't drink caffeine, but I have such a shaky hands. It's not even from stress, they shake even when I'm at home all by myself and I always have to tell my friends I'm not stressed, my hands are just shaky. Is there any cure for that?",
"Shaky hands, how to stop them I don't drink alcohol, I don't drink caffeine, but I have such a shaky hands. It's not even from stress, they shake even when I'm at home all by myself and I always have to tell my friends I'm not stressed, my hands are just shaky. Is there any cure for that?",
"Shaky hands, how to stop them I don't drink alcohol, I don't drink caffeine, but I have such a shaky hands. It's not even from stress, they shake even when I'm at home all by myself and I always have to tell my friends I'm not stressed, my hands are just shaky. Is there any cure for that?",
"Shaky hands, how to stop them I don't drink alcohol, I don't drink caffeine, but I have such a shaky hands. It's not even from stress, they shake even when I'm at home all by myself and I always have to tell my friends I'm not stressed, my hands are just shaky. Is there any cure for that?",
"Shaky hands, how to stop them I don't drink alcohol, I don't drink caffeine, but I have such a shaky hands. It's not even from stress, they shake even when I'm at home all by myself and I always have to tell my friends I'm not stressed, my hands are just shaky. Is there any cure for that?",
"Shaky hands, how to stop them I don't drink alcohol, I don't drink caffeine, but I have such a shaky hands. It's not even from stress, they shake even when I'm at home all by myself and I always have to tell my friends I'm not stressed, my hands are just shaky. Is there any cure for that?"
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"There are so many things this can be it boggles the mind. You need a professional that can differentiate shaking due to hypoglycemia vs thyroid problems vs genetics etc.",
"Not a doctor but from personal experience: Could be low potassium levels. I have issues with vitamin/nourishment absorption and when my potassium levels are low my hands and knees shake. Again not a doctor, but if you have a shakey moment try eating a banana or some beans and see if it starts to quell the shakes. Consider asking a doctor if they have any recommendations. A blood test would definitely help pinpoint if its based on deficiency.",
"I’m not sure if it’s a cure... but listening to the Shaky Hand String band sounds like a solid way to enjoy that",
"Have you seen a doctor? There are a lot of nerve-related disorders relating to shaky hands. Might be nothing, but worth getting checked.",
"I have really badly shaky hands. My doctor gave me propranolol for them and that helps keep them steady for a period of time. As an added bonus they’re beta blockers so they easy sudden anxiety attacks as well.",
"A friend of mine has had Essential Tremor for a number of years. He's in his 60's. He said that it is worsened quite a bit of he hasn't slept well or if he has too many carbohydrates.\n\nThat said, he got his diagnosis from a physician, and I would highly recommend that to you as well"
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"Moving in with partner My partner and I are likely going to move in together. I am about to graduate college with a job lined up, and they have a little time left. We intend to rent a two bedroom and each have our own. \n\nWhat questions should we be asking each other? What discussions do we need to have as we are looking for a place? How do we divide paying for things like groceries? Thanks in advance-- we do not really have familial guidance on this so anything is helpful.",
"Moving in with partner My partner and I are likely going to move in together. I am about to graduate college with a job lined up, and they have a little time left. We intend to rent a two bedroom and each have our own. \n\nWhat questions should we be asking each other? What discussions do we need to have as we are looking for a place? How do we divide paying for things like groceries? Thanks in advance-- we do not really have familial guidance on this so anything is helpful.",
"Moving in with partner My partner and I are likely going to move in together. I am about to graduate college with a job lined up, and they have a little time left. We intend to rent a two bedroom and each have our own. \n\nWhat questions should we be asking each other? What discussions do we need to have as we are looking for a place? How do we divide paying for things like groceries? Thanks in advance-- we do not really have familial guidance on this so anything is helpful.",
"Moving in with partner My partner and I are likely going to move in together. I am about to graduate college with a job lined up, and they have a little time left. We intend to rent a two bedroom and each have our own. \n\nWhat questions should we be asking each other? What discussions do we need to have as we are looking for a place? How do we divide paying for things like groceries? Thanks in advance-- we do not really have familial guidance on this so anything is helpful.",
"Moving in with partner My partner and I are likely going to move in together. I am about to graduate college with a job lined up, and they have a little time left. We intend to rent a two bedroom and each have our own. \n\nWhat questions should we be asking each other? What discussions do we need to have as we are looking for a place? How do we divide paying for things like groceries? Thanks in advance-- we do not really have familial guidance on this so anything is helpful.",
"Moving in with partner My partner and I are likely going to move in together. I am about to graduate college with a job lined up, and they have a little time left. We intend to rent a two bedroom and each have our own. \n\nWhat questions should we be asking each other? What discussions do we need to have as we are looking for a place? How do we divide paying for things like groceries? Thanks in advance-- we do not really have familial guidance on this so anything is helpful."
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"- Talk about your finances and if possible, open a joint account to pay bills that are for both of you. Like rent, electricity, food, etc. \n\n- if you haven't already, talk about your opinions/interests that affect your ways of living. For example if one of you is a vegetarian, if you smoke where/when to smoke, and so on\n\n- unpopular, but imo very important: talk about what happens in case you break up. Who gets what furniture, who stays, who leaves\n\n- since you guys have your own bedrooms: when to leave the other alone. Define \"safe time\"/\"alone time\"\n\nJust out of curiosity: why do you each use a separate room and not one master bedroom + living room",
"Personally, I have found money to be the root of most 'couple/roommate/shared space' issues... I'd establish UPFRONT a shared/central HOUSEHOLD SPECIFIC account and each of you deposit DIVIDED/agreed upon amounts (half rent, half estimated utils,,grocery budget... etc) directly and pay all shared household items from it...that way you have your money...they have their money...then the household is covered.any 'extra money' in this account goes for household/shared upgrades, updates, decor....etc...or could be divided up each month after expenses as 'bonuses.' for each of you. Could be chaotic in beginning...but will save major dispute headaches later...and possibly your relationship...lays a great foundation.",
"Cleaning habits and expectations, sleeping schedules and wake up schedule. Financial responsibility, groceries, toiletries, furniture. Bills. Views on pets and how loud you find acceptable for things like music and tv. \n\nTry to think about your own habits and how you would feel if someone you lived with had opposite habits. Anything that would drive you crazy needs to be asked, it can be pretty annoying if you always rinse your dishes but the person you move in with doesn't mind filling the sink. Small things can pile up and cause you to become resentful.",
"Know what's really nice? Once in a while hire a professional to deep clean your place. It's not that expensive when you split it down the middle. Makes it a lot easier to keep up with the regular cleaning and gives you a little break.",
"Division of utilities, and what others have stated. I’ve been living with my partner for about 10 years now and we still have these discussions. So, know that y’all must keep dialogue open all the time and be honest when you just want to be alone.",
"Do either of you want kids in the future? If you two end up together for longer, you need to know this sooner, rather than later.\n\nDo either of you want to move away from where you're currently living?\n\nHow to handle chores. How to handle who gets groceries, how to handle who pays for the bills, etc.\n\nWhat do both of you know, in terms of maintenance and similar fixing?\n\nPet Peeves, Habits the both of you might have, etc.\n\nLetting each other be your own person (as in, you don't need to be with each other 100% of the time). Trust is very important in a relationship."
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"How can I get over my fear of needles? I have to get my blood tested every 3 months for the rest of my life 😭 In order to maintain my prescription for PrEP, an anti-HIV medication, I need to get poked by a needle every 3 months. I nearly pass out every time. How can I get over this? I get light headed every time I think about my blood getting drawn. Any help? :(",
"How can I get over my fear of needles? I have to get my blood tested every 3 months for the rest of my life 😭 In order to maintain my prescription for PrEP, an anti-HIV medication, I need to get poked by a needle every 3 months. I nearly pass out every time. How can I get over this? I get light headed every time I think about my blood getting drawn. Any help? :(",
"How can I get over my fear of needles? I have to get my blood tested every 3 months for the rest of my life 😭 In order to maintain my prescription for PrEP, an anti-HIV medication, I need to get poked by a needle every 3 months. I nearly pass out every time. How can I get over this? I get light headed every time I think about my blood getting drawn. Any help? :(",
"How can I get over my fear of needles? I have to get my blood tested every 3 months for the rest of my life 😭 In order to maintain my prescription for PrEP, an anti-HIV medication, I need to get poked by a needle every 3 months. I nearly pass out every time. How can I get over this? I get light headed every time I think about my blood getting drawn. Any help? :(",
"How can I get over my fear of needles? I have to get my blood tested every 3 months for the rest of my life 😭 In order to maintain my prescription for PrEP, an anti-HIV medication, I need to get poked by a needle every 3 months. I nearly pass out every time. How can I get over this? I get light headed every time I think about my blood getting drawn. Any help? :(",
"How can I get over my fear of needles? I have to get my blood tested every 3 months for the rest of my life 😭 In order to maintain my prescription for PrEP, an anti-HIV medication, I need to get poked by a needle every 3 months. I nearly pass out every time. How can I get over this? I get light headed every time I think about my blood getting drawn. Any help? :(",
"How can I get over my fear of needles? I have to get my blood tested every 3 months for the rest of my life 😭 In order to maintain my prescription for PrEP, an anti-HIV medication, I need to get poked by a needle every 3 months. I nearly pass out every time. How can I get over this? I get light headed every time I think about my blood getting drawn. Any help? :(",
"How can I get over my fear of needles? I have to get my blood tested every 3 months for the rest of my life 😭 In order to maintain my prescription for PrEP, an anti-HIV medication, I need to get poked by a needle every 3 months. I nearly pass out every time. How can I get over this? I get light headed every time I think about my blood getting drawn. Any help? :(",
"How can I get over my fear of needles? I have to get my blood tested every 3 months for the rest of my life 😭 In order to maintain my prescription for PrEP, an anti-HIV medication, I need to get poked by a needle every 3 months. I nearly pass out every time. How can I get over this? I get light headed every time I think about my blood getting drawn. Any help? :(",
"How can I get over my fear of needles? I have to get my blood tested every 3 months for the rest of my life 😭 In order to maintain my prescription for PrEP, an anti-HIV medication, I need to get poked by a needle every 3 months. I nearly pass out every time. How can I get over this? I get light headed every time I think about my blood getting drawn. Any help? :(",
"How can I get over my fear of needles? I have to get my blood tested every 3 months for the rest of my life 😭 In order to maintain my prescription for PrEP, an anti-HIV medication, I need to get poked by a needle every 3 months. I nearly pass out every time. How can I get over this? I get light headed every time I think about my blood getting drawn. Any help? :(",
"How can I get over my fear of needles? I have to get my blood tested every 3 months for the rest of my life 😭 In order to maintain my prescription for PrEP, an anti-HIV medication, I need to get poked by a needle every 3 months. I nearly pass out every time. How can I get over this? I get light headed every time I think about my blood getting drawn. Any help? :("
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"1. dont look at it no matter how curious you are\n2. if you can, try to schedule these things last minute so you have less time to think about it or plan something big that day so your mind has to focus on the event that comes before. also try and get there at the last minute too so you have less time to sit and ruminate in the waiting room\n3. speaking as a girl, i try to visualize it not as a medical procedure, but a beauty treatment. sometimes its just the association of medical stuff= pain. like getting my eyebrows waxed hurts like hell but id much rather do that even though it hurts just about as much\n4. CHUG WATER. it doesnt help your anxiety much but it sure makes it quicker for the nurses to draw your blood. one time i didnt drink at all in the morning and the nurse literally couldnt get the blood out of me so i had to come in AGAIN the next day",
"If I ever need to have something medical done (e.g dentist/ injection) I just tell myself it’s gonna be over in a few seconds and that the benefits of it outweigh a slight pain for a few seconds. People are different of course but just staying cool as a cucumber normally helps me :)",
"What did it for me was when the nurse tried using a tiny needle, I think it was similar to a butterfly needle but she called it the baby needle.\n\nBefore, I would feel the needle digging around and they could never catch a vein properly and this skyrocketed my anxiety and the pain/sensation of it all meaning I would pass out. \n\nNow though they just get on with it and I focus on the breathing and talking shit with the nurse.",
"The act of having it done so frequently should do the trick - but in the meantime, distraction works. My mom used to pinch me right before I got a shot, I was more concerned with why the heck she was pinching me than the needle sticking me. Reciting a poem to yourself or doing math in your head may help if you don't have someone to come along and pinch you.",
"Tell the worker in advance. I've had blood drawn where I had to lay down while they're drawing it(they were running so many tests it was actually policy that I HAD to lay down for it), so they should have a setup for that. Then what I usually do is close my eyes and focus on breathing in and out. ",
"So I started out with no issues. I gave blood at 16 with no issues. Later in life I tried to give blood and had some problems. But with vaccines it was never really an issue only based on time. Keep telling yourself about the short period of time that an injection takes. It's nothing, it's nothing, etc. You might get queasy or dizzy, but at the end of it you can keep reminding yourself that it will end. I've always found that helpful. ",
"Not looking works for me, but I lived with someone who had full blown PTSD triggered by medical procedures. He finally went to a psychologist trained in CBT techniques. Over several sessions, the shrink coached my friend to become aware of small thoughts quickly and quash them, and then took him on field trips to a hospital. First they just sat in the parking lot, then the waiting room, next week the doctor's office. It culminated in a trip to the colonoscopy room. Every time, there would be a panic reaction, but they'd work through it. Then they'd return to the same place a few days later and their would be much less reaction. \n\nIt was hard work, but fascinating to watch a pro desensitize my friend to something that had become life threatening because he needed his procedures too.\n\nYou may need less help than that, but there are people trained in this and they'd love to help you.",
"It helps me to just not look at the needles. If they are going to stick my left arm, I just casually look to the right, and read the posters on the wall or something. ",
"I heard about a way to cure arachnophobics, showing them pics that look like spiders, starting with stools, then simplified spider art, and in the end, actual spiders.\nIt might also exist with syringes.",
"Get familiar with sharp things. Handle thumb tacks, push pins, pins, needles. Look at them touch them, poke yourself lightly with them. Once you get comfortable with this, sterilize the skin and the pointy thing (needles work best for this next step) and poke holes in yourself.\n\n​\n\nThis won't get you to the level of liking it, but may help.\n\n​\n\nAnother thing: Reward yourself after: Some fancy pastry, or treat. Ideally this should be portable so that you can reward yourself right after.\n\n​\n\nFinally: If you diet, eat something first. Needle pokes on an empty stomach and low blood sugar are un-fun. If you are anxious, you will produce a surge of adrenaline, and the resulting blood sugar drop after will make you feel dizzy and light headed.",
"Don’t look, maintain smooth, deep breathing, & lift an arm over your head to keep the extra blood down. Once you get the breathing part down you can stop with the arm part.",
"Ask if they can do a finger stick instead of a draw from a vein. You won’t have to see the needle and there’s significantly less blood taken. "
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"How do you maximize your chances of getting just a warning when pulled over? Obviously the best plan to avoid getting a ticket would be not to get pulled over, but sometimes it happens. Any tips to get out of the encounter with just a warning?",
"How do you maximize your chances of getting just a warning when pulled over? Obviously the best plan to avoid getting a ticket would be not to get pulled over, but sometimes it happens. Any tips to get out of the encounter with just a warning?",
"How do you maximize your chances of getting just a warning when pulled over? Obviously the best plan to avoid getting a ticket would be not to get pulled over, but sometimes it happens. Any tips to get out of the encounter with just a warning?",
"How do you maximize your chances of getting just a warning when pulled over? Obviously the best plan to avoid getting a ticket would be not to get pulled over, but sometimes it happens. Any tips to get out of the encounter with just a warning?",
"How do you maximize your chances of getting just a warning when pulled over? Obviously the best plan to avoid getting a ticket would be not to get pulled over, but sometimes it happens. Any tips to get out of the encounter with just a warning?",
"How do you maximize your chances of getting just a warning when pulled over? Obviously the best plan to avoid getting a ticket would be not to get pulled over, but sometimes it happens. Any tips to get out of the encounter with just a warning?"
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"Mod of /r/ProtectAndServe here\n\n1. Be polite\n\n2. Don't have prior or recent tickets\n\n3. Don't force the officers hand by doing something above and beyond i.e. 20 MPH over the limit\n\nSometimes you're just going to get a ticket anyway, it all depends. But those are some factors to consider. And do feel free to ask this over on our sub if you'd like!",
"1.) get off the road; many times I have had a cop flip on his lights while I am on a freeway, I will always exit at the next ramp and pull into a parking lot. If the cop asks why you didn't pull over immediately (which they almost never do) you can say \"I wanted to make sure that I was in an area that was safe for you\". If you absolutely have to pull over on a busy road, ask the officer if you are pulled over far enough.\n\n2.) Roll down your windows a little more than 1/2 way. Turn on your hazard lights, and your dome lights.\n\n3.) keep both hands on the steering wheel and face forward\n\n4.)Have your license, insurance and registration all ready to go when he/she walks up\n\n5.) If they ask why you think they stopped you (which they likely won't if you have done all of the above, unless they are just a dick) it is best to just say \"I'm not sure officer\"\n\n6.) when they do tell you why the pulled you over, do not make an excuse or blame another driver. Unless you were doing something really stupid (speeding in a school zone, tailgating or other dangerous things) it is best to just say \"I understand, my apologies\"\n\nThe point is, the more you do to make the traffic stop a stress-free and easy situation for the cop, the more likely they are to just write you a warning. Just be nice and courteous, and don't drive like an asshole.",
"1. Be WHITE.\n\n\n2. Be an attractive FEMALE.\n\n\n3. Do NOT, under any circumstances, get angry, show aggression, make sudden movements, or admit to anything. Obey ALL lawful commands the officer(s) give, no matter how wronged you may feel to be in that situation. (you ALWAYS have the option of fighting the ticket later in court, but that wont help you much if you do something stupid and get arrested, tased, beat, or shot at).\n\n\n4. If possible, have your cellphone record audio and/or video from your center console, lens pointed towards the driver side window. If things do get crazy, the evidence will be there for later (see #3 above).",
"When I know I'm caught I just pull over immediately, face it, we know most of the time the second they hit the lights we're busted. You're going to stop anyway, don't make them chase you down.\n\nI'm stopped before they can even turn around some times. A cop said, \"why did you pull over\" to which I responded, \"ehh, you got me\". Don't play 'what me? I wasn't doing anything wrong\"\n\nI've done this 4 times and got 3 warnings. One time was also because the cop found my response to a question funny but that's another story. I was cordial and followed the other suggestions, hands on the wheel and the like. \n\nOnly do this if you are sure it's you they got, don't want to get a ticket meant for someone else! \n\nIt also helped that I have a clean driving record I'm sure\n\n",
"When I'm stopped on my bike, I turn off the engine. Take off my helmet and continue sitting on the bike. I make myself as non-threatening as possible. I've not been stopped in a car for a very long time but did not see anyone here say to turn off the engine. I would take the keys out and put them on the dashboard too. My current car has dark rear windows so I'd probably roll them down so the officer can see who or what is in the back seat. The intention is to be as non-threatening as possible.",
"Unless you're a hot chick, the cop if going to whatever he wants to do and that depends more on his mood than what you do.\n\nJust do everything you can to not escalate and make it worse than a ticket. Keep your hands on the wheel unless otherwise instructed even when he goes back to his car. Be polite/don't be a smartass. Ask for permission to reach for your wallet. Don't look nervous."
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"What is an interesting way of ending an email that isn't \"looking forward to hearing from you!\" or \"All the best...\" ",
"What is an interesting way of ending an email that isn't \"looking forward to hearing from you!\" or \"All the best...\" ",
"What is an interesting way of ending an email that isn't \"looking forward to hearing from you!\" or \"All the best...\" ",
"What is an interesting way of ending an email that isn't \"looking forward to hearing from you!\" or \"All the best...\" ",
"What is an interesting way of ending an email that isn't \"looking forward to hearing from you!\" or \"All the best...\" ",
"What is an interesting way of ending an email that isn't \"looking forward to hearing from you!\" or \"All the best...\" ",
"What is an interesting way of ending an email that isn't \"looking forward to hearing from you!\" or \"All the best...\" "
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"I write hundreds of emails a day, trust me when i say nobody reads a sign off. A generic 'kind regards' is all you need, youll waste time and valuable brainpower stressing and concerning yourself with unique finishes",
"If your email includes a request, ending it with “Thank you” is [recommended ](https://blog.boomerangapp.com/2017/01/how-to-end-an-email-email-sign-offs/).",
"Non native speaker here. I use \" in advance, thanks for your time and support\".\nThat is for work related when I am requesting something (feedback, a document, answers to questions).",
"All the best,\nBest,\nBest regards,\nBest wishes,\nFond regards,\nKind regards,\nLooking forward to hearing from you,\nRegards,\nSincerely,\nSincerely yours,\nThank you,\nThanks again,\nWith appreciation,\nWith gratitude,\nYours sincerely,",
"My personal go-to is \"Looking forward to hearing back from you!\" Or \"Thank you in advance!\"\n\nAssuming these are emails in which correspondence is happening. Or you are requesting something from the party you have emailed.\n\nGood luck!",
"I would love to hear feedback on this as well.\nI’ve used kindest regards, very respectfully and safe travels. None of which are all that great. “Cheers” seems so trendy/douchey to me but something casual if that nature could be cool. Have a great weekend of Friday emails makes it feel a bit more personal.",
"I sign my emails with Best, Regards or Thanks in advance (if I’m asking for something). No one reads the sign off. So don’t worry about it. \n\nIn my professional days (I’m an archery coach now) I had an auto signature that’s said \nBest,\nMy Name\nHelp Desk Manager - Company \nContact info\n\nIt was easy and if someone needed to call me my info was right in their face."
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"Do I really need to keep my receipts from card payments at places like bars, restaurants, etc.? I usually keep a wad of them somewhere on my desk and then throw them away periodically when they've accumulated too much. I've never run into a situation where having a receipt has actually mattered. Of course, fraud does exist and people are capable of giving themselves a little *extra* tip from what you specified. I guess that maybe I've been lucky and I just don't know how prevalent this is?",
"Do I really need to keep my receipts from card payments at places like bars, restaurants, etc.? I usually keep a wad of them somewhere on my desk and then throw them away periodically when they've accumulated too much. I've never run into a situation where having a receipt has actually mattered. Of course, fraud does exist and people are capable of giving themselves a little *extra* tip from what you specified. I guess that maybe I've been lucky and I just don't know how prevalent this is?",
"Do I really need to keep my receipts from card payments at places like bars, restaurants, etc.? I usually keep a wad of them somewhere on my desk and then throw them away periodically when they've accumulated too much. I've never run into a situation where having a receipt has actually mattered. Of course, fraud does exist and people are capable of giving themselves a little *extra* tip from what you specified. I guess that maybe I've been lucky and I just don't know how prevalent this is?",
"Do I really need to keep my receipts from card payments at places like bars, restaurants, etc.? I usually keep a wad of them somewhere on my desk and then throw them away periodically when they've accumulated too much. I've never run into a situation where having a receipt has actually mattered. Of course, fraud does exist and people are capable of giving themselves a little *extra* tip from what you specified. I guess that maybe I've been lucky and I just don't know how prevalent this is?",
"Do I really need to keep my receipts from card payments at places like bars, restaurants, etc.? I usually keep a wad of them somewhere on my desk and then throw them away periodically when they've accumulated too much. I've never run into a situation where having a receipt has actually mattered. Of course, fraud does exist and people are capable of giving themselves a little *extra* tip from what you specified. I guess that maybe I've been lucky and I just don't know how prevalent this is?",
"Do I really need to keep my receipts from card payments at places like bars, restaurants, etc.? I usually keep a wad of them somewhere on my desk and then throw them away periodically when they've accumulated too much. I've never run into a situation where having a receipt has actually mattered. Of course, fraud does exist and people are capable of giving themselves a little *extra* tip from what you specified. I guess that maybe I've been lucky and I just don't know how prevalent this is?"
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"You should keep them till your bill has come in, so that you can compare the receipt you have with what your cr",
"I only hold on to receipts for high ticket purchases. Besides that, I'd recommend an app called mint. They have a site you can check out (https://www.mint.com/). I've used it for years to check my statements only a day or two after I make a purchase.",
"I'm not sure but I have a neat.com scanner and I just scan everything. I have a business so of course business receipts go into the business folder but nonetheless I scan every personal receipt, just a habit I suppose. The number of times scanning my receipt has saved me many times for things like returning merchandise, or can't figure out what that transaction was on my cr",
"I throw 'em all in a basket on my desk. If I need one, I can dig it out. If the pile gets too big, I just toss the ones at the bottom of the pile. ",
"Keep your receipts and some of them you can file for expenses on your tax statements and get a nice tax return. ",
"It really depends on how you plan to file your taxes.\n\nIf you just do an EZ filing or something similar without itemizing, then no you do not need to worry about keeping receipts for every little thing. \n\nIf you do itemize, yes you should keep receipts for what you think you may want to deduct later. \n\nPersonally, I also hold on to receipts for anything over $100 that is non-perishable (clothes, electronics, furniture, etc.) anything that you would not want to repurchase if it breaks. \n\nUsually Bars/restaurants/grocery stores/etc are not a deductible expense on your taxes unless you are there for business"
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"How to act appropriately at the death of a family member So I know both of my grandparents on my Dad's side are going to be gone soon. I'm trying to spend as much time as I can with them (have to drive a state over to see them so not easy) before they go. Here's the problem, I don't get upset about death. My grandparents on my Mom's side died and I didn't cry or get upset, I just kind of went \"ok\" and continued on with what I was doing when I found out.\n\nI feel like this is really insensitive and would hurt my Dad's feelings but I don't really cry over death, any LPTs on how to act appropriately when this happens so I don't look like an asshole?",
"How to act appropriately at the death of a family member So I know both of my grandparents on my Dad's side are going to be gone soon. I'm trying to spend as much time as I can with them (have to drive a state over to see them so not easy) before they go. Here's the problem, I don't get upset about death. My grandparents on my Mom's side died and I didn't cry or get upset, I just kind of went \"ok\" and continued on with what I was doing when I found out.\n\nI feel like this is really insensitive and would hurt my Dad's feelings but I don't really cry over death, any LPTs on how to act appropriately when this happens so I don't look like an asshole?",
"How to act appropriately at the death of a family member So I know both of my grandparents on my Dad's side are going to be gone soon. I'm trying to spend as much time as I can with them (have to drive a state over to see them so not easy) before they go. Here's the problem, I don't get upset about death. My grandparents on my Mom's side died and I didn't cry or get upset, I just kind of went \"ok\" and continued on with what I was doing when I found out.\n\nI feel like this is really insensitive and would hurt my Dad's feelings but I don't really cry over death, any LPTs on how to act appropriately when this happens so I don't look like an asshole?"
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"You dont have to cry to mourn, just make sure you dont go around listening to music or anything, just offer your dad coffee and spend time with him to show you're there for him and dont make jokes.",
"I cope with things by trying to make jokes and laugh about them remembering the good times. Do not do this at the funeral. It can come across as very rude and inconsiderate. ",
"Everyone approaches death differently. Each person's feelings are valid. Allow people to experience death the way they need to. Allow yourself to experience the way you need to."
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"Motivation Okay, so I basically have no motivation to do... Well, anything. \n\nFor example: I'll wake up in the morning feeling really well rested, but just not have the motivation to stay awake and go back to sleep(which leads to me being more tired eventually). \n\nBasically anything I try to do I either have no motivation for, or I lose it way too quickly. Job searches, diets, simply being around people I enjoy. Is there anything I can do to help with this?",
"Motivation Okay, so I basically have no motivation to do... Well, anything. \n\nFor example: I'll wake up in the morning feeling really well rested, but just not have the motivation to stay awake and go back to sleep(which leads to me being more tired eventually). \n\nBasically anything I try to do I either have no motivation for, or I lose it way too quickly. Job searches, diets, simply being around people I enjoy. Is there anything I can do to help with this?",
"Motivation Okay, so I basically have no motivation to do... Well, anything. \n\nFor example: I'll wake up in the morning feeling really well rested, but just not have the motivation to stay awake and go back to sleep(which leads to me being more tired eventually). \n\nBasically anything I try to do I either have no motivation for, or I lose it way too quickly. Job searches, diets, simply being around people I enjoy. Is there anything I can do to help with this?",
"Motivation Okay, so I basically have no motivation to do... Well, anything. \n\nFor example: I'll wake up in the morning feeling really well rested, but just not have the motivation to stay awake and go back to sleep(which leads to me being more tired eventually). \n\nBasically anything I try to do I either have no motivation for, or I lose it way too quickly. Job searches, diets, simply being around people I enjoy. Is there anything I can do to help with this?"
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"When you wake up stretch, then go eat an apple in the sun. This will motivate u to do stuff through the day, and before long you'll have to get up because now that yoive been motivated for a while you've got commitments. Before long after that this will all come naturally to you as a habit",
"Best thing I've found is habit. Even if you start off doing something for a very short time, if you do it every single day without fail, it'll become habit and will be harder to stop doing than to continue, in a way. Then once you're at that point you can increase the amount of time, so if you want to exercise everyday, start off with 5 minutes a day, and only eventually increase it. It seems like nothing, but the point is that life is a marathon not a sprint, and so just do 5 minutes a day for 3 or 4 weeks and then start to increase it gradually to half an hour a day or whatever. I don't know if there is science to back me up but I find it's the actual setting aside time, getting changed, and doing the thing that is hard to do, not the length of time you do it, and so 5 minutes is easy enough to do every day but still has that mental change and commitment. Then yeah after the first 3 or 4 weeks, increase the time gradually until you reach the amount you want.\n\nAlso buy a calender with big spaces under each day, and use a thick marker and cross out each day that you complete the 5 minute task. The visual thing is a great motivator. I learned that from a post on reddit, and apparently it's something Jerry Seinfeld came up with (he makes sure to write for a period of time every single day). \n\nAlso, /r/motivation ",
"i always found that writing 3 thing im going to do tomorrow on a piece of paper. I can not do the other things before i did thing done the first one. for example\n\n1) Search for jobs\n2) ably for a job\n3) watch breaking bad\n\nor something like that. I always find it really satisfying when i cross something off my list. \n\nI do the same for months as well, for example again:\n\n1) Buy a new suit\n2) get a job interview\n3) buy gift for friends birthday.",
"Prozac. You sound like you might be depressed.\n\nIf not, sometimes you just have to force yourself to do things that you don't want to do."
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"An easier way to open up a black trash bag I have two options when it comes to trash bags where I live: buy a roll of black garbage bags for pretty cheap or pay 3x the normal price for a box of glad bags that easily pull apart. Each time I tera off a new bag from the roll it's a struggle that can go on for minutes trying to separate one part of the bag from the other so I can open it.\nAs dumb as this request sounds, if there is anyway to open the bags more efficiently, I would really, really appreciate it. These bags have become the bane of my existence. ",
"An easier way to open up a black trash bag I have two options when it comes to trash bags where I live: buy a roll of black garbage bags for pretty cheap or pay 3x the normal price for a box of glad bags that easily pull apart. Each time I tera off a new bag from the roll it's a struggle that can go on for minutes trying to separate one part of the bag from the other so I can open it.\nAs dumb as this request sounds, if there is anyway to open the bags more efficiently, I would really, really appreciate it. These bags have become the bane of my existence. ",
"An easier way to open up a black trash bag I have two options when it comes to trash bags where I live: buy a roll of black garbage bags for pretty cheap or pay 3x the normal price for a box of glad bags that easily pull apart. Each time I tera off a new bag from the roll it's a struggle that can go on for minutes trying to separate one part of the bag from the other so I can open it.\nAs dumb as this request sounds, if there is anyway to open the bags more efficiently, I would really, really appreciate it. These bags have become the bane of my existence. "
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"Wet your thumb and forefinger, then slowly snap your fingers with the bag between them. The moisture should allow the skin to stick to the plastic, opening the bag.",
"You have to snap it. Find the opening, slightly peel apart, grab the sides and pretend you're slamming a chair against somebody's head. Air will fill the bag and open it up nicely. Repeat until desired affects are achieved.",
"Worked right away, brilliant tactics. I can’t believe it took longer to look this up online then the failed attempts to open the bag in the first case."
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"Resource to look at skills and determine previously unexplored career options? So the position I'm in is a decent one. But I feel like it may be approaching time for me to try to advance or move on to bigger and better things. However, when I try career seeking, I always wonder if I might be a bit myopic in my searches (my current position, for example, I never would have thought of going for had a friend not recognized that my skillset was exactly what he needed). Does anyone know of a resource to sort of check off a list of a ton of skills that could then indicate a particular area I might look into? Thanks in advance!",
"Resource to look at skills and determine previously unexplored career options? So the position I'm in is a decent one. But I feel like it may be approaching time for me to try to advance or move on to bigger and better things. However, when I try career seeking, I always wonder if I might be a bit myopic in my searches (my current position, for example, I never would have thought of going for had a friend not recognized that my skillset was exactly what he needed). Does anyone know of a resource to sort of check off a list of a ton of skills that could then indicate a particular area I might look into? Thanks in advance!"
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"Here's a free version of the high school job placement test if that helps.\n\nhttp://www.yourfreecareertest.com/",
"Kinda like those personality/job placements tests they gave us in high school? Google a little I bet you can find exactly what you want fairly easily. "
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"I was at a family friends house and I accidentally broke their chandelier. Their daughter, whose about my age was relatively cool with it, but I don't know how to break the news to the parents.",
"I was at a family friends house and I accidentally broke their chandelier. Their daughter, whose about my age was relatively cool with it, but I don't know how to break the news to the parents."
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"If sitcoms have taught me anything, you need to go find a chandelier that looks almost the same except for one distinguishing characteristic and then replace it while they're all out at dinner and get caught in a comedic way.",
"Offer immediately to pay for it. It will likely be many hundereds to thousands of dollars but you broke it so it's kinda your responsibility to pay for it."
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"What to do if you break something at a friend's house? Background: so I was hanging out a friend's house yesterday and I accidentally broke one of his expensive wine glasses. I immediately told him and I felt horrible but I didn't really know what else to say... He seemed to brush it off but I still feel kinda bad. \n\nSo my question is: how would you suggest I act in this kind of situation next time? What should I say and what should I NOT say? Finally, should I buy him a new wine glass? ",
"What to do if you break something at a friend's house? Background: so I was hanging out a friend's house yesterday and I accidentally broke one of his expensive wine glasses. I immediately told him and I felt horrible but I didn't really know what else to say... He seemed to brush it off but I still feel kinda bad. \n\nSo my question is: how would you suggest I act in this kind of situation next time? What should I say and what should I NOT say? Finally, should I buy him a new wine glass? ",
"What to do if you break something at a friend's house? Background: so I was hanging out a friend's house yesterday and I accidentally broke one of his expensive wine glasses. I immediately told him and I felt horrible but I didn't really know what else to say... He seemed to brush it off but I still feel kinda bad. \n\nSo my question is: how would you suggest I act in this kind of situation next time? What should I say and what should I NOT say? Finally, should I buy him a new wine glass? ",
"What to do if you break something at a friend's house? Background: so I was hanging out a friend's house yesterday and I accidentally broke one of his expensive wine glasses. I immediately told him and I felt horrible but I didn't really know what else to say... He seemed to brush it off but I still feel kinda bad. \n\nSo my question is: how would you suggest I act in this kind of situation next time? What should I say and what should I NOT say? Finally, should I buy him a new wine glass? ",
"What to do if you break something at a friend's house? Background: so I was hanging out a friend's house yesterday and I accidentally broke one of his expensive wine glasses. I immediately told him and I felt horrible but I didn't really know what else to say... He seemed to brush it off but I still feel kinda bad. \n\nSo my question is: how would you suggest I act in this kind of situation next time? What should I say and what should I NOT say? Finally, should I buy him a new wine glass? ",
"What to do if you break something at a friend's house? Background: so I was hanging out a friend's house yesterday and I accidentally broke one of his expensive wine glasses. I immediately told him and I felt horrible but I didn't really know what else to say... He seemed to brush it off but I still feel kinda bad. \n\nSo my question is: how would you suggest I act in this kind of situation next time? What should I say and what should I NOT say? Finally, should I buy him a new wine glass? ",
"What to do if you break something at a friend's house? Background: so I was hanging out a friend's house yesterday and I accidentally broke one of his expensive wine glasses. I immediately told him and I felt horrible but I didn't really know what else to say... He seemed to brush it off but I still feel kinda bad. \n\nSo my question is: how would you suggest I act in this kind of situation next time? What should I say and what should I NOT say? Finally, should I buy him a new wine glass? ",
"What to do if you break something at a friend's house? Background: so I was hanging out a friend's house yesterday and I accidentally broke one of his expensive wine glasses. I immediately told him and I felt horrible but I didn't really know what else to say... He seemed to brush it off but I still feel kinda bad. \n\nSo my question is: how would you suggest I act in this kind of situation next time? What should I say and what should I NOT say? Finally, should I buy him a new wine glass? ",
"What to do if you break something at a friend's house? Background: so I was hanging out a friend's house yesterday and I accidentally broke one of his expensive wine glasses. I immediately told him and I felt horrible but I didn't really know what else to say... He seemed to brush it off but I still feel kinda bad. \n\nSo my question is: how would you suggest I act in this kind of situation next time? What should I say and what should I NOT say? Finally, should I buy him a new wine glass? ",
"What to do if you break something at a friend's house? Background: so I was hanging out a friend's house yesterday and I accidentally broke one of his expensive wine glasses. I immediately told him and I felt horrible but I didn't really know what else to say... He seemed to brush it off but I still feel kinda bad. \n\nSo my question is: how would you suggest I act in this kind of situation next time? What should I say and what should I NOT say? Finally, should I buy him a new wine glass? ",
"What to do if you break something at a friend's house? Background: so I was hanging out a friend's house yesterday and I accidentally broke one of his expensive wine glasses. I immediately told him and I felt horrible but I didn't really know what else to say... He seemed to brush it off but I still feel kinda bad. \n\nSo my question is: how would you suggest I act in this kind of situation next time? What should I say and what should I NOT say? Finally, should I buy him a new wine glass? ",
"What to do if you break something at a friend's house? Background: so I was hanging out a friend's house yesterday and I accidentally broke one of his expensive wine glasses. I immediately told him and I felt horrible but I didn't really know what else to say... He seemed to brush it off but I still feel kinda bad. \n\nSo my question is: how would you suggest I act in this kind of situation next time? What should I say and what should I NOT say? Finally, should I buy him a new wine glass? ",
"What to do if you break something at a friend's house? Background: so I was hanging out a friend's house yesterday and I accidentally broke one of his expensive wine glasses. I immediately told him and I felt horrible but I didn't really know what else to say... He seemed to brush it off but I still feel kinda bad. \n\nSo my question is: how would you suggest I act in this kind of situation next time? What should I say and what should I NOT say? Finally, should I buy him a new wine glass? ",
"What to do if you break something at a friend's house? Background: so I was hanging out a friend's house yesterday and I accidentally broke one of his expensive wine glasses. I immediately told him and I felt horrible but I didn't really know what else to say... He seemed to brush it off but I still feel kinda bad. \n\nSo my question is: how would you suggest I act in this kind of situation next time? What should I say and what should I NOT say? Finally, should I buy him a new wine glass? ",
"What to do if you break something at a friend's house? Background: so I was hanging out a friend's house yesterday and I accidentally broke one of his expensive wine glasses. I immediately told him and I felt horrible but I didn't really know what else to say... He seemed to brush it off but I still feel kinda bad. \n\nSo my question is: how would you suggest I act in this kind of situation next time? What should I say and what should I NOT say? Finally, should I buy him a new wine glass? ",
"What to do if you break something at a friend's house? Background: so I was hanging out a friend's house yesterday and I accidentally broke one of his expensive wine glasses. I immediately told him and I felt horrible but I didn't really know what else to say... He seemed to brush it off but I still feel kinda bad. \n\nSo my question is: how would you suggest I act in this kind of situation next time? What should I say and what should I NOT say? Finally, should I buy him a new wine glass? ",
"What to do if you break something at a friend's house? Background: so I was hanging out a friend's house yesterday and I accidentally broke one of his expensive wine glasses. I immediately told him and I felt horrible but I didn't really know what else to say... He seemed to brush it off but I still feel kinda bad. \n\nSo my question is: how would you suggest I act in this kind of situation next time? What should I say and what should I NOT say? Finally, should I buy him a new wine glass? ",
"What to do if you break something at a friend's house? Background: so I was hanging out a friend's house yesterday and I accidentally broke one of his expensive wine glasses. I immediately told him and I felt horrible but I didn't really know what else to say... He seemed to brush it off but I still feel kinda bad. \n\nSo my question is: how would you suggest I act in this kind of situation next time? What should I say and what should I NOT say? Finally, should I buy him a new wine glass? "
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"Obviously you just put the item back in such a way that it appears intact and the next person who touches it will think that they broke it",
"Break the rest of them so your friend doesnt have an incomplete set and no longer has a reminder that you broke one his glasses. ",
"My friend broke two of the wine glasses while playing with my dog. He felt really bad, I could have cared less. He bought me a whole new set of 4 wine glasses... Even though I told him not to. I think that it helped make him feel better.\n\nFunniest part is, my dog did the classic drop the rope during tug of war which made him fall into the rack in the first place.\n",
"Hmm...wine glasses get broken, it's just a fact of life. You might be over-thinking this. \n\nIn future, you should apologise and offer to replace the item, but if they brush it off then you need to accept that it's not that big a deal to them.",
"Definitely offer to replace the glass. He might tell you not to worry about it, or he might say that he really appreciates it. Either way, it makes you look a lot less like a dick. \n\nYou really don't need to say more than, \"Dude, i'm sorry! I totally didn't mean to do that. I'd be glad to replace it if you tell me where you got it.\" \n\nDon't say anything like, \"Hey, things break all the time.\" \n\nAlso, don't repeatedly apologize for it. Once or twice is enough, it's a wine glass, not a baby. ",
"Whenever you break a friends/anyones item you go out and not only replace it, but you buy a SET of higher quality.\n\nI know it sucks, but this is what you do. The person will not only forgive you, but THANK you.\n\nYou broke someones screw driver? Here is a set of the next tier. Problem solved.\n\nI drove your car and now you have a flat, I bought you two new front tires.\n\nI used your phone and broke it, I got you the next model up.\n\nThis is the responsibility you assume when you use another persons items.",
"Say you're sorry.\nBuying him a new one would be a good idea, but I'd rather give him the money. He might be a collector or something, and you don't want to buy him a \"wrong\" glass",
"If you could find the exact same glass I would say replace it.\n\nIf you can't replace it buy them some nice wine as a way of saying sorry.",
"Sincerely apologize once, and replace it. The thing with offering to replace it, is the offer will almost always be rejected. \n\n",
"Funny, I did the exact same thing yesterday! I went online while still at their house and ordered a new set to be shipped to them ASAP. If they broke something of yours, you'd want it to be replaced.",
"As you have already been apologetic and your friend brushed it off, then accept it is ok.\n\nKeep tabs with that friend, should they post a rally call for help (moving, painting, landscaping) be the first to jump in with a yes and a can do attitude. This will not only resolve your guilt toward breaking the glass but also make your friend feel awesome for having such a great person in their life.\n\nNot going to lie, I'm moving currently and all the friends I have lent money to, helped move, stepped up and pet sit for, gave jumps to cars even if it was out of my way; are all coming out the woodwork and pitching in toward our new home. I started painting rooms and have actually had to shuffle folks into different days we have so many people wanting to help.",
"Apologize, simply. \"I am sorry, it was an accident.\"\n\nOffer to replace item. \"I feel badly about breaking that. Can I replace it for you?\"\n\nIf offer is not accepted, offer one more time. \"Are you sure? It's the least I could do.\"\n\nIf second offer is not accepted, let it go and move on.\n\nFor any relatively low value items, this is a pretty safe route to follow. Offer, follow up, move on. For a high value item (you smashed someone's flat screen, etc...), you might push a bit harder to \"make it right\".\n\nGlass breaks. Unless you intentionally threw it at a wall or something crazy like that, accidents are just that: accidents.\n",
"You should probably, if you can't. Just give him something in return of the favor. Even if they they say they aren't mad, it's never bad to do.",
"Whenever you break something of someone's offer to replace it. If they shrug it off, basically like your friend did, then your done. You offered to fix the \"problem\" and if they don't want you to then don't. If they want you to then buy a new one.",
"Seems like he's fine with it so it's not a problem, in the future, if you break expensive stuff by accident, you should check if your homeowners or renters policy covers that kind of stuff. ",
"Put yourself in his shoes and do what you'd want him to do if he broke one of your expensive \"insert item here\". \n\nFor next time, just be more careful and if you do happen to break something, just start printing out dinner vouchers and give it to him. For every time you break something, you have to take him out to an expensive restaurant. ",
"I would always immediately tell them what I did and how it happened, and always offer to pay them back or buy a replacement. 9/10 times a good person would go \"No, it's alright, don't bother\" or something like that. If they do that, I'd probably get them something that shows I'm sorry anyway, say a bottle of wine, or a small a voucher or cr",
"Hell yes replace the glass. It's the social convention to act like it's no big deal when someone breaks something of yours, but accident or not they're still out a glass through no fault of their own other than trusting you."
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"How to stay warm in bed without using electricity? Winters coming up and I'm unlucky enough to have a room without a working radiator. It means nights can get very cold and crawling into bed is always intimidating. Are there any tricks you can do with your body to expel more heat and generally warm yourself up?",
"How to stay warm in bed without using electricity? Winters coming up and I'm unlucky enough to have a room without a working radiator. It means nights can get very cold and crawling into bed is always intimidating. Are there any tricks you can do with your body to expel more heat and generally warm yourself up?",
"How to stay warm in bed without using electricity? Winters coming up and I'm unlucky enough to have a room without a working radiator. It means nights can get very cold and crawling into bed is always intimidating. Are there any tricks you can do with your body to expel more heat and generally warm yourself up?",
"How to stay warm in bed without using electricity? Winters coming up and I'm unlucky enough to have a room without a working radiator. It means nights can get very cold and crawling into bed is always intimidating. Are there any tricks you can do with your body to expel more heat and generally warm yourself up?",
"How to stay warm in bed without using electricity? Winters coming up and I'm unlucky enough to have a room without a working radiator. It means nights can get very cold and crawling into bed is always intimidating. Are there any tricks you can do with your body to expel more heat and generally warm yourself up?",
"How to stay warm in bed without using electricity? Winters coming up and I'm unlucky enough to have a room without a working radiator. It means nights can get very cold and crawling into bed is always intimidating. Are there any tricks you can do with your body to expel more heat and generally warm yourself up?",
"How to stay warm in bed without using electricity? Winters coming up and I'm unlucky enough to have a room without a working radiator. It means nights can get very cold and crawling into bed is always intimidating. Are there any tricks you can do with your body to expel more heat and generally warm yourself up?",
"How to stay warm in bed without using electricity? Winters coming up and I'm unlucky enough to have a room without a working radiator. It means nights can get very cold and crawling into bed is always intimidating. Are there any tricks you can do with your body to expel more heat and generally warm yourself up?",
"How to stay warm in bed without using electricity? Winters coming up and I'm unlucky enough to have a room without a working radiator. It means nights can get very cold and crawling into bed is always intimidating. Are there any tricks you can do with your body to expel more heat and generally warm yourself up?",
"How to stay warm in bed without using electricity? Winters coming up and I'm unlucky enough to have a room without a working radiator. It means nights can get very cold and crawling into bed is always intimidating. Are there any tricks you can do with your body to expel more heat and generally warm yourself up?",
"How to stay warm in bed without using electricity? Winters coming up and I'm unlucky enough to have a room without a working radiator. It means nights can get very cold and crawling into bed is always intimidating. Are there any tricks you can do with your body to expel more heat and generally warm yourself up?",
"How to stay warm in bed without using electricity? Winters coming up and I'm unlucky enough to have a room without a working radiator. It means nights can get very cold and crawling into bed is always intimidating. Are there any tricks you can do with your body to expel more heat and generally warm yourself up?",
"How to stay warm in bed without using electricity? Winters coming up and I'm unlucky enough to have a room without a working radiator. It means nights can get very cold and crawling into bed is always intimidating. Are there any tricks you can do with your body to expel more heat and generally warm yourself up?",
"How to stay warm in bed without using electricity? Winters coming up and I'm unlucky enough to have a room without a working radiator. It means nights can get very cold and crawling into bed is always intimidating. Are there any tricks you can do with your body to expel more heat and generally warm yourself up?",
"How to stay warm in bed without using electricity? Winters coming up and I'm unlucky enough to have a room without a working radiator. It means nights can get very cold and crawling into bed is always intimidating. Are there any tricks you can do with your body to expel more heat and generally warm yourself up?",
"How to stay warm in bed without using electricity? Winters coming up and I'm unlucky enough to have a room without a working radiator. It means nights can get very cold and crawling into bed is always intimidating. Are there any tricks you can do with your body to expel more heat and generally warm yourself up?",
"How to stay warm in bed without using electricity? Winters coming up and I'm unlucky enough to have a room without a working radiator. It means nights can get very cold and crawling into bed is always intimidating. Are there any tricks you can do with your body to expel more heat and generally warm yourself up?"
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"Wear clothing to bed.\n\nUse multiple layers of bedding.\n\nInvest in a hot-water bottle and pre-warm your bed with it.",
"Ignore the tips about wearing clothing to bed. It might work, but it's better to go naked. If you wear clothing to bed, the clothing will insulate your body heat, meaning it will take a lot longer for you body to heat up the bed. Ie you'll freeze for a longer period of time. \nSecond tip, find a wool blanket and put it underneat your sheets, so that you lie on it. Wool generates heat quite well and the matress won't feel as cold. \n\nAnd another one, two blankets. A thinner one closes to your body, and a thicker one on top of that. The thinner one will heat up faster, the the thicker on will keep the heat. \n\nOther then that: ordinary coke bottle full of warm water. One by your feet, two in the middle",
"Fill a nalgene or other completely sealable bottle with very hot water. Put bottle into thick insulating sock, and put it in your bed. This got me through nearly three months in the frozen desert of central Oregon.",
"Take uncooked rice and put it in a long sock. Tie it shut and slightly dampen it (just sprinkle water over it from the sink). Microwave for about two minutes. It is nice and warm and will stay that way for about an hour, maybe longer if you're under the blankets. You can buy premade ones from stores, but the sock works just fine. ",
"Do push-ups, enough to make you tired or hot, before getting into bed.\n\nIt warms you up and you get exercise each night",
"I tried this last year based on a reddit tip. Take a couple two-liter soda bottles. fill them with hot water, seal tightly, and place near your feet. I also wear a long-sleeved T-shirt, knit cap, and sweatpants with socks.\n\nIt may be hard to get used to if you prefer sleeping in just underwear, but it helps.\n\nI like the oil-filled room electric radiators. Placed on \"low\", they draw very little electricity, and coupled with a ceiling fan, the room will be very comfortable after it has some time to warm the room.\n\nLots of heat escapes through the glass of the window, cover the glass with clear bubble-wrap. This is not a joke, it works. Remove the bubble-wrap when spring comes around. Also, roll a towel and place at the foot of the door to prevent cold breeze from stealing your room-heat.",
"i have always slept with multiple layers of blankets. invest in some sweet ass fleece sheets or just two fleece blankets, nestle yourself in between those,fleece is light weight and warms up quick, next you should really consider a feather blanket it has great insulation, then i follow it up with a large quilt like blanket, thin but helps keep everything in its place. i did this when i lived in a cinder block house with no heat and it worked well, sometimes i would get so hot i would be sweating in the morning.",
"I've noticed that having a micro fleece blanket as the first blanket on you in bed helps warm you up faster and keep you warm throughout the night. (As opposed to a sheet and then the micro fleece).",
"Don't forget to put a blanket under the bottom sheet. Stops body heat being lost into the mattress and makes a surprising difference.\n\nAnd from other comments, don't you have hotwater bottles in the US?",
"A bit of an easy trick, just lay onto of your thinnest sheet and read for a bit, then crawl under your covers, and contrary to popular belief, wearing clothes in the sack is counter productive since your body heat will heat up your clothes before your blanket to create that warm pocket of happiness",
"Wrap yourself in some micro-fiber blankets beforehand and then once you're adequately warm, transfer to the bed. ",
"Use blankets made of synthetic material. It allows less heat to escape and allows your body to self regulate the temperature.",
"These are all great tricks, but it's much easier to just recycle your own body heat! Make sure you're all snug and tucked in, then simply stick your head under the covers and breathe out of your mouth slowly. The warm air will heat up the small space quickly, and, at least for me, stays warm long enough for me to fall asleep. \n\nStill cold? Pull your blanket over your head and breathe normally under the covers until it's warm. If the air starts running thin, just stick your nose out, and exhale the fresh air under the covers. \n\nHope this helps!",
"Sleep on top of a fleece/wool blanket; usually, a good rule is two blankets under you for every one over you.",
"I tend to put the blanket over my head and do my best not to leave any gaps between the blanket and the mattress. This traps my body heat and lets me stay warm all night without so much as a radiator... the downside is that now I have a hard time sleeping without the blanket over my head lol",
"I know you said without electricity, but for those of you who don't know- they make heated mattress pads. They work OMG so much better than electric blankets because so much of the heat is trapped between the blanket and the matress, rather than being dissipated above the blanket",
"Breath under the blanket/duvet for a bit. In a minute or two you will warm the air under the blanket. "
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"How to stop excessive underarm perspiration I'm honestly not to sure where to make this thread, figured this might work.\n\nUp until recently I never had this problem, but suddenly my deodorant I was using started giving me a rash and I had to change it up, and I went through almost all the major brands of deodorant, and none have really worked at stopping excessive perspiration, visbile on all shirts except black shirts. Certain-Dri even failed\n\nAny LPT's?",
"How to stop excessive underarm perspiration I'm honestly not to sure where to make this thread, figured this might work.\n\nUp until recently I never had this problem, but suddenly my deodorant I was using started giving me a rash and I had to change it up, and I went through almost all the major brands of deodorant, and none have really worked at stopping excessive perspiration, visbile on all shirts except black shirts. Certain-Dri even failed\n\nAny LPT's?",
"How to stop excessive underarm perspiration I'm honestly not to sure where to make this thread, figured this might work.\n\nUp until recently I never had this problem, but suddenly my deodorant I was using started giving me a rash and I had to change it up, and I went through almost all the major brands of deodorant, and none have really worked at stopping excessive perspiration, visbile on all shirts except black shirts. Certain-Dri even failed\n\nAny LPT's?",
"How to stop excessive underarm perspiration I'm honestly not to sure where to make this thread, figured this might work.\n\nUp until recently I never had this problem, but suddenly my deodorant I was using started giving me a rash and I had to change it up, and I went through almost all the major brands of deodorant, and none have really worked at stopping excessive perspiration, visbile on all shirts except black shirts. Certain-Dri even failed\n\nAny LPT's?",
"How to stop excessive underarm perspiration I'm honestly not to sure where to make this thread, figured this might work.\n\nUp until recently I never had this problem, but suddenly my deodorant I was using started giving me a rash and I had to change it up, and I went through almost all the major brands of deodorant, and none have really worked at stopping excessive perspiration, visbile on all shirts except black shirts. Certain-Dri even failed\n\nAny LPT's?",
"How to stop excessive underarm perspiration I'm honestly not to sure where to make this thread, figured this might work.\n\nUp until recently I never had this problem, but suddenly my deodorant I was using started giving me a rash and I had to change it up, and I went through almost all the major brands of deodorant, and none have really worked at stopping excessive perspiration, visbile on all shirts except black shirts. Certain-Dri even failed\n\nAny LPT's?",
"How to stop excessive underarm perspiration I'm honestly not to sure where to make this thread, figured this might work.\n\nUp until recently I never had this problem, but suddenly my deodorant I was using started giving me a rash and I had to change it up, and I went through almost all the major brands of deodorant, and none have really worked at stopping excessive perspiration, visbile on all shirts except black shirts. Certain-Dri even failed\n\nAny LPT's?"
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"Could chop off your arms.\n\nOr see a doctor... if certain-dri failed you, it's likely a condition (hyperhidrosis) that they can prescribe something for, or even recommend you for surgery. ",
"trim the hair under your armpits and you will notice a big difference. dont shave it all off, but make it shorter",
"[Mitchum Clinical Performance](http://www.amazon.com/Mitchum-Clinical-Performance-Unscented-2-5-Ounce/dp/B001EWEP9A/ref=sr_1_2?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1343242033&sr=1-2&keywords=mitchum) contains 20% Aluminum Zirconium Tetrachlorohydrex Gly (the most common compound used as an anti-perspirant) which is the highest you can get without a prescription. It looks like Certain-Dri is only 12%. ",
"I use a product called driclor. Stops sweating from the pits just makes them a bit itchy the night you put it on.",
"One of the LPT's on here said that, in a pinch, you can use hand santizer as the alcohol will kill any odour producing bacteria.",
"I would suggest talking to a doctor, seeing as \"up until recently\" you didn't have this problem. Just in case. I'm sure nothing's wrong but it never hurts to check. ",
"Were you using deodorant or anti-perspirant? They are not necessarily the same. The aluminum chloride in anti-perspirant is what prevents the sweating, but can also cause irritation. Deodorant does nothing for sweat, it simply neutralizes or masks odor. You can get prescription anti-perspirants but they just contain more aluminum compound than the OTC stuff so that might just cause more irritation. But here are some tips to combat irritation:\n\n1. Don't apply right after a shower when your pores are open.\n2. Apply only to cool, dry skin. \n3. Do not apply to a freshly shaved area. \n\nAnd some general tips on staying dry:\n\n1. Wear loose clother rather than tight. \n2. Wear natural/breathable materials rather than synthetic. \n3. Keep airflow to the area. \n4. Avoid caffeine, alcohol, spicy foods and onions/garlic. \n5. Stay well-hydrated / drink cool water. \n6. Apply talcum powder or similar product to absorb moisture (could be messy)\n7. Try applying lime to the area. Some people swear by this. "
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"I could really use some advice. Please... I do NOT want to live anymore, My future is black and there is no light down the road. All that stops me is Fear for what I know I've earned or the fear of non-existence. Both of which I fear but also wish and feel I deserve, all I know is im tired of feeling alone and rejected. I found my real family but wish in my heart that I hadn't. I discovered so much I would rather have left to dreams and wishful thinking. I hate myself who I am and where I come from and my very existence. I can't figure out how to come to terms and accept myself not only for what others have done but mostly for my own actions. I just want to disappear and be left alone. :( I want to forget the entire world because I don't feel the world wants me. but I have no one I can openly talk too about it, and even though im afraid to die all I want is to die. I just wait for the right combination of drugs alcohol or whatever to help me overcome my fear and just let me be free. I just want someone to tell me something that will maybe see everything better. I feel completely vile and worthless and genuinely think that I would be doing more good dead than alive. I never used to drink smoke or use any sort of drug but in the last year, its all changed. All I want is the perfect escape from me and my life but I do and don't want to exist or ie die. I just want to go away and be in a world that makes me feel loved. Sadly in the last week, I found a place that makes me feel loved, but it's not a good or right way to get it so I can never do it but I do want too. The Hospital. For the first time in my life, I had an actual life-threatening emergency. They made me feel more love than I have EVER felt in my life. I really wish I felt that more. I feel really alone. I was seeing a psych to help me and I was taking medications to help with the sucidle feelings and depression but I can't afford them anymore. I need to talk but have nobody that wants to listen. I feel so sad and I feel like such a bad person but I just want to be seen as a loveable and good person. :( I want to feel loved and IDK how to earn it anymore.",
"I could really use some advice. Please... I do NOT want to live anymore, My future is black and there is no light down the road. All that stops me is Fear for what I know I've earned or the fear of non-existence. Both of which I fear but also wish and feel I deserve, all I know is im tired of feeling alone and rejected. I found my real family but wish in my heart that I hadn't. I discovered so much I would rather have left to dreams and wishful thinking. I hate myself who I am and where I come from and my very existence. I can't figure out how to come to terms and accept myself not only for what others have done but mostly for my own actions. I just want to disappear and be left alone. :( I want to forget the entire world because I don't feel the world wants me. but I have no one I can openly talk too about it, and even though im afraid to die all I want is to die. I just wait for the right combination of drugs alcohol or whatever to help me overcome my fear and just let me be free. I just want someone to tell me something that will maybe see everything better. I feel completely vile and worthless and genuinely think that I would be doing more good dead than alive. I never used to drink smoke or use any sort of drug but in the last year, its all changed. All I want is the perfect escape from me and my life but I do and don't want to exist or ie die. I just want to go away and be in a world that makes me feel loved. Sadly in the last week, I found a place that makes me feel loved, but it's not a good or right way to get it so I can never do it but I do want too. The Hospital. For the first time in my life, I had an actual life-threatening emergency. They made me feel more love than I have EVER felt in my life. I really wish I felt that more. I feel really alone. I was seeing a psych to help me and I was taking medications to help with the sucidle feelings and depression but I can't afford them anymore. I need to talk but have nobody that wants to listen. I feel so sad and I feel like such a bad person but I just want to be seen as a loveable and good person. :( I want to feel loved and IDK how to earn it anymore.",
"I could really use some advice. Please... I do NOT want to live anymore, My future is black and there is no light down the road. All that stops me is Fear for what I know I've earned or the fear of non-existence. Both of which I fear but also wish and feel I deserve, all I know is im tired of feeling alone and rejected. I found my real family but wish in my heart that I hadn't. I discovered so much I would rather have left to dreams and wishful thinking. I hate myself who I am and where I come from and my very existence. I can't figure out how to come to terms and accept myself not only for what others have done but mostly for my own actions. I just want to disappear and be left alone. :( I want to forget the entire world because I don't feel the world wants me. but I have no one I can openly talk too about it, and even though im afraid to die all I want is to die. I just wait for the right combination of drugs alcohol or whatever to help me overcome my fear and just let me be free. I just want someone to tell me something that will maybe see everything better. I feel completely vile and worthless and genuinely think that I would be doing more good dead than alive. I never used to drink smoke or use any sort of drug but in the last year, its all changed. All I want is the perfect escape from me and my life but I do and don't want to exist or ie die. I just want to go away and be in a world that makes me feel loved. Sadly in the last week, I found a place that makes me feel loved, but it's not a good or right way to get it so I can never do it but I do want too. The Hospital. For the first time in my life, I had an actual life-threatening emergency. They made me feel more love than I have EVER felt in my life. I really wish I felt that more. I feel really alone. I was seeing a psych to help me and I was taking medications to help with the sucidle feelings and depression but I can't afford them anymore. I need to talk but have nobody that wants to listen. I feel so sad and I feel like such a bad person but I just want to be seen as a loveable and good person. :( I want to feel loved and IDK how to earn it anymore.",
"I could really use some advice. Please... I do NOT want to live anymore, My future is black and there is no light down the road. All that stops me is Fear for what I know I've earned or the fear of non-existence. Both of which I fear but also wish and feel I deserve, all I know is im tired of feeling alone and rejected. I found my real family but wish in my heart that I hadn't. I discovered so much I would rather have left to dreams and wishful thinking. I hate myself who I am and where I come from and my very existence. I can't figure out how to come to terms and accept myself not only for what others have done but mostly for my own actions. I just want to disappear and be left alone. :( I want to forget the entire world because I don't feel the world wants me. but I have no one I can openly talk too about it, and even though im afraid to die all I want is to die. I just wait for the right combination of drugs alcohol or whatever to help me overcome my fear and just let me be free. I just want someone to tell me something that will maybe see everything better. I feel completely vile and worthless and genuinely think that I would be doing more good dead than alive. I never used to drink smoke or use any sort of drug but in the last year, its all changed. All I want is the perfect escape from me and my life but I do and don't want to exist or ie die. I just want to go away and be in a world that makes me feel loved. Sadly in the last week, I found a place that makes me feel loved, but it's not a good or right way to get it so I can never do it but I do want too. The Hospital. For the first time in my life, I had an actual life-threatening emergency. They made me feel more love than I have EVER felt in my life. I really wish I felt that more. I feel really alone. I was seeing a psych to help me and I was taking medications to help with the sucidle feelings and depression but I can't afford them anymore. I need to talk but have nobody that wants to listen. I feel so sad and I feel like such a bad person but I just want to be seen as a loveable and good person. :( I want to feel loved and IDK how to earn it anymore.",
"I could really use some advice. Please... I do NOT want to live anymore, My future is black and there is no light down the road. All that stops me is Fear for what I know I've earned or the fear of non-existence. Both of which I fear but also wish and feel I deserve, all I know is im tired of feeling alone and rejected. I found my real family but wish in my heart that I hadn't. I discovered so much I would rather have left to dreams and wishful thinking. I hate myself who I am and where I come from and my very existence. I can't figure out how to come to terms and accept myself not only for what others have done but mostly for my own actions. I just want to disappear and be left alone. :( I want to forget the entire world because I don't feel the world wants me. but I have no one I can openly talk too about it, and even though im afraid to die all I want is to die. I just wait for the right combination of drugs alcohol or whatever to help me overcome my fear and just let me be free. I just want someone to tell me something that will maybe see everything better. I feel completely vile and worthless and genuinely think that I would be doing more good dead than alive. I never used to drink smoke or use any sort of drug but in the last year, its all changed. All I want is the perfect escape from me and my life but I do and don't want to exist or ie die. I just want to go away and be in a world that makes me feel loved. Sadly in the last week, I found a place that makes me feel loved, but it's not a good or right way to get it so I can never do it but I do want too. The Hospital. For the first time in my life, I had an actual life-threatening emergency. They made me feel more love than I have EVER felt in my life. I really wish I felt that more. I feel really alone. I was seeing a psych to help me and I was taking medications to help with the sucidle feelings and depression but I can't afford them anymore. I need to talk but have nobody that wants to listen. I feel so sad and I feel like such a bad person but I just want to be seen as a loveable and good person. :( I want to feel loved and IDK how to earn it anymore.",
"I could really use some advice. Please... I do NOT want to live anymore, My future is black and there is no light down the road. All that stops me is Fear for what I know I've earned or the fear of non-existence. Both of which I fear but also wish and feel I deserve, all I know is im tired of feeling alone and rejected. I found my real family but wish in my heart that I hadn't. I discovered so much I would rather have left to dreams and wishful thinking. I hate myself who I am and where I come from and my very existence. I can't figure out how to come to terms and accept myself not only for what others have done but mostly for my own actions. I just want to disappear and be left alone. :( I want to forget the entire world because I don't feel the world wants me. but I have no one I can openly talk too about it, and even though im afraid to die all I want is to die. I just wait for the right combination of drugs alcohol or whatever to help me overcome my fear and just let me be free. I just want someone to tell me something that will maybe see everything better. I feel completely vile and worthless and genuinely think that I would be doing more good dead than alive. I never used to drink smoke or use any sort of drug but in the last year, its all changed. All I want is the perfect escape from me and my life but I do and don't want to exist or ie die. I just want to go away and be in a world that makes me feel loved. Sadly in the last week, I found a place that makes me feel loved, but it's not a good or right way to get it so I can never do it but I do want too. The Hospital. For the first time in my life, I had an actual life-threatening emergency. They made me feel more love than I have EVER felt in my life. I really wish I felt that more. I feel really alone. I was seeing a psych to help me and I was taking medications to help with the sucidle feelings and depression but I can't afford them anymore. I need to talk but have nobody that wants to listen. I feel so sad and I feel like such a bad person but I just want to be seen as a loveable and good person. :( I want to feel loved and IDK how to earn it anymore.",
"I could really use some advice. Please... I do NOT want to live anymore, My future is black and there is no light down the road. All that stops me is Fear for what I know I've earned or the fear of non-existence. Both of which I fear but also wish and feel I deserve, all I know is im tired of feeling alone and rejected. I found my real family but wish in my heart that I hadn't. I discovered so much I would rather have left to dreams and wishful thinking. I hate myself who I am and where I come from and my very existence. I can't figure out how to come to terms and accept myself not only for what others have done but mostly for my own actions. I just want to disappear and be left alone. :( I want to forget the entire world because I don't feel the world wants me. but I have no one I can openly talk too about it, and even though im afraid to die all I want is to die. I just wait for the right combination of drugs alcohol or whatever to help me overcome my fear and just let me be free. I just want someone to tell me something that will maybe see everything better. I feel completely vile and worthless and genuinely think that I would be doing more good dead than alive. I never used to drink smoke or use any sort of drug but in the last year, its all changed. All I want is the perfect escape from me and my life but I do and don't want to exist or ie die. I just want to go away and be in a world that makes me feel loved. Sadly in the last week, I found a place that makes me feel loved, but it's not a good or right way to get it so I can never do it but I do want too. The Hospital. For the first time in my life, I had an actual life-threatening emergency. They made me feel more love than I have EVER felt in my life. I really wish I felt that more. I feel really alone. I was seeing a psych to help me and I was taking medications to help with the sucidle feelings and depression but I can't afford them anymore. I need to talk but have nobody that wants to listen. I feel so sad and I feel like such a bad person but I just want to be seen as a loveable and good person. :( I want to feel loved and IDK how to earn it anymore.",
"I could really use some advice. Please... I do NOT want to live anymore, My future is black and there is no light down the road. All that stops me is Fear for what I know I've earned or the fear of non-existence. Both of which I fear but also wish and feel I deserve, all I know is im tired of feeling alone and rejected. I found my real family but wish in my heart that I hadn't. I discovered so much I would rather have left to dreams and wishful thinking. I hate myself who I am and where I come from and my very existence. I can't figure out how to come to terms and accept myself not only for what others have done but mostly for my own actions. I just want to disappear and be left alone. :( I want to forget the entire world because I don't feel the world wants me. but I have no one I can openly talk too about it, and even though im afraid to die all I want is to die. I just wait for the right combination of drugs alcohol or whatever to help me overcome my fear and just let me be free. I just want someone to tell me something that will maybe see everything better. I feel completely vile and worthless and genuinely think that I would be doing more good dead than alive. I never used to drink smoke or use any sort of drug but in the last year, its all changed. All I want is the perfect escape from me and my life but I do and don't want to exist or ie die. I just want to go away and be in a world that makes me feel loved. Sadly in the last week, I found a place that makes me feel loved, but it's not a good or right way to get it so I can never do it but I do want too. The Hospital. For the first time in my life, I had an actual life-threatening emergency. They made me feel more love than I have EVER felt in my life. I really wish I felt that more. I feel really alone. I was seeing a psych to help me and I was taking medications to help with the sucidle feelings and depression but I can't afford them anymore. I need to talk but have nobody that wants to listen. I feel so sad and I feel like such a bad person but I just want to be seen as a loveable and good person. :( I want to feel loved and IDK how to earn it anymore.",
"I could really use some advice. Please... I do NOT want to live anymore, My future is black and there is no light down the road. All that stops me is Fear for what I know I've earned or the fear of non-existence. Both of which I fear but also wish and feel I deserve, all I know is im tired of feeling alone and rejected. I found my real family but wish in my heart that I hadn't. I discovered so much I would rather have left to dreams and wishful thinking. I hate myself who I am and where I come from and my very existence. I can't figure out how to come to terms and accept myself not only for what others have done but mostly for my own actions. I just want to disappear and be left alone. :( I want to forget the entire world because I don't feel the world wants me. but I have no one I can openly talk too about it, and even though im afraid to die all I want is to die. I just wait for the right combination of drugs alcohol or whatever to help me overcome my fear and just let me be free. I just want someone to tell me something that will maybe see everything better. I feel completely vile and worthless and genuinely think that I would be doing more good dead than alive. I never used to drink smoke or use any sort of drug but in the last year, its all changed. All I want is the perfect escape from me and my life but I do and don't want to exist or ie die. I just want to go away and be in a world that makes me feel loved. Sadly in the last week, I found a place that makes me feel loved, but it's not a good or right way to get it so I can never do it but I do want too. The Hospital. For the first time in my life, I had an actual life-threatening emergency. They made me feel more love than I have EVER felt in my life. I really wish I felt that more. I feel really alone. I was seeing a psych to help me and I was taking medications to help with the sucidle feelings and depression but I can't afford them anymore. I need to talk but have nobody that wants to listen. I feel so sad and I feel like such a bad person but I just want to be seen as a loveable and good person. :( I want to feel loved and IDK how to earn it anymore.",
"I could really use some advice. Please... I do NOT want to live anymore, My future is black and there is no light down the road. All that stops me is Fear for what I know I've earned or the fear of non-existence. Both of which I fear but also wish and feel I deserve, all I know is im tired of feeling alone and rejected. I found my real family but wish in my heart that I hadn't. I discovered so much I would rather have left to dreams and wishful thinking. I hate myself who I am and where I come from and my very existence. I can't figure out how to come to terms and accept myself not only for what others have done but mostly for my own actions. I just want to disappear and be left alone. :( I want to forget the entire world because I don't feel the world wants me. but I have no one I can openly talk too about it, and even though im afraid to die all I want is to die. I just wait for the right combination of drugs alcohol or whatever to help me overcome my fear and just let me be free. I just want someone to tell me something that will maybe see everything better. I feel completely vile and worthless and genuinely think that I would be doing more good dead than alive. I never used to drink smoke or use any sort of drug but in the last year, its all changed. All I want is the perfect escape from me and my life but I do and don't want to exist or ie die. I just want to go away and be in a world that makes me feel loved. Sadly in the last week, I found a place that makes me feel loved, but it's not a good or right way to get it so I can never do it but I do want too. The Hospital. For the first time in my life, I had an actual life-threatening emergency. They made me feel more love than I have EVER felt in my life. I really wish I felt that more. I feel really alone. I was seeing a psych to help me and I was taking medications to help with the sucidle feelings and depression but I can't afford them anymore. I need to talk but have nobody that wants to listen. I feel so sad and I feel like such a bad person but I just want to be seen as a loveable and good person. :( I want to feel loved and IDK how to earn it anymore.",
"I could really use some advice. Please... I do NOT want to live anymore, My future is black and there is no light down the road. All that stops me is Fear for what I know I've earned or the fear of non-existence. Both of which I fear but also wish and feel I deserve, all I know is im tired of feeling alone and rejected. I found my real family but wish in my heart that I hadn't. I discovered so much I would rather have left to dreams and wishful thinking. I hate myself who I am and where I come from and my very existence. I can't figure out how to come to terms and accept myself not only for what others have done but mostly for my own actions. I just want to disappear and be left alone. :( I want to forget the entire world because I don't feel the world wants me. but I have no one I can openly talk too about it, and even though im afraid to die all I want is to die. I just wait for the right combination of drugs alcohol or whatever to help me overcome my fear and just let me be free. I just want someone to tell me something that will maybe see everything better. I feel completely vile and worthless and genuinely think that I would be doing more good dead than alive. I never used to drink smoke or use any sort of drug but in the last year, its all changed. All I want is the perfect escape from me and my life but I do and don't want to exist or ie die. I just want to go away and be in a world that makes me feel loved. Sadly in the last week, I found a place that makes me feel loved, but it's not a good or right way to get it so I can never do it but I do want too. The Hospital. For the first time in my life, I had an actual life-threatening emergency. They made me feel more love than I have EVER felt in my life. I really wish I felt that more. I feel really alone. I was seeing a psych to help me and I was taking medications to help with the sucidle feelings and depression but I can't afford them anymore. I need to talk but have nobody that wants to listen. I feel so sad and I feel like such a bad person but I just want to be seen as a loveable and good person. :( I want to feel loved and IDK how to earn it anymore.",
"I could really use some advice. Please... I do NOT want to live anymore, My future is black and there is no light down the road. All that stops me is Fear for what I know I've earned or the fear of non-existence. Both of which I fear but also wish and feel I deserve, all I know is im tired of feeling alone and rejected. I found my real family but wish in my heart that I hadn't. I discovered so much I would rather have left to dreams and wishful thinking. I hate myself who I am and where I come from and my very existence. I can't figure out how to come to terms and accept myself not only for what others have done but mostly for my own actions. I just want to disappear and be left alone. :( I want to forget the entire world because I don't feel the world wants me. but I have no one I can openly talk too about it, and even though im afraid to die all I want is to die. I just wait for the right combination of drugs alcohol or whatever to help me overcome my fear and just let me be free. I just want someone to tell me something that will maybe see everything better. I feel completely vile and worthless and genuinely think that I would be doing more good dead than alive. I never used to drink smoke or use any sort of drug but in the last year, its all changed. All I want is the perfect escape from me and my life but I do and don't want to exist or ie die. I just want to go away and be in a world that makes me feel loved. Sadly in the last week, I found a place that makes me feel loved, but it's not a good or right way to get it so I can never do it but I do want too. The Hospital. For the first time in my life, I had an actual life-threatening emergency. They made me feel more love than I have EVER felt in my life. I really wish I felt that more. I feel really alone. I was seeing a psych to help me and I was taking medications to help with the sucidle feelings and depression but I can't afford them anymore. I need to talk but have nobody that wants to listen. I feel so sad and I feel like such a bad person but I just want to be seen as a loveable and good person. :( I want to feel loved and IDK how to earn it anymore.",
"I could really use some advice. Please... I do NOT want to live anymore, My future is black and there is no light down the road. All that stops me is Fear for what I know I've earned or the fear of non-existence. Both of which I fear but also wish and feel I deserve, all I know is im tired of feeling alone and rejected. I found my real family but wish in my heart that I hadn't. I discovered so much I would rather have left to dreams and wishful thinking. I hate myself who I am and where I come from and my very existence. I can't figure out how to come to terms and accept myself not only for what others have done but mostly for my own actions. I just want to disappear and be left alone. :( I want to forget the entire world because I don't feel the world wants me. but I have no one I can openly talk too about it, and even though im afraid to die all I want is to die. I just wait for the right combination of drugs alcohol or whatever to help me overcome my fear and just let me be free. I just want someone to tell me something that will maybe see everything better. I feel completely vile and worthless and genuinely think that I would be doing more good dead than alive. I never used to drink smoke or use any sort of drug but in the last year, its all changed. All I want is the perfect escape from me and my life but I do and don't want to exist or ie die. I just want to go away and be in a world that makes me feel loved. Sadly in the last week, I found a place that makes me feel loved, but it's not a good or right way to get it so I can never do it but I do want too. The Hospital. For the first time in my life, I had an actual life-threatening emergency. They made me feel more love than I have EVER felt in my life. I really wish I felt that more. I feel really alone. I was seeing a psych to help me and I was taking medications to help with the sucidle feelings and depression but I can't afford them anymore. I need to talk but have nobody that wants to listen. I feel so sad and I feel like such a bad person but I just want to be seen as a loveable and good person. :( I want to feel loved and IDK how to earn it anymore.",
"I could really use some advice. Please... I do NOT want to live anymore, My future is black and there is no light down the road. All that stops me is Fear for what I know I've earned or the fear of non-existence. Both of which I fear but also wish and feel I deserve, all I know is im tired of feeling alone and rejected. I found my real family but wish in my heart that I hadn't. I discovered so much I would rather have left to dreams and wishful thinking. I hate myself who I am and where I come from and my very existence. I can't figure out how to come to terms and accept myself not only for what others have done but mostly for my own actions. I just want to disappear and be left alone. :( I want to forget the entire world because I don't feel the world wants me. but I have no one I can openly talk too about it, and even though im afraid to die all I want is to die. I just wait for the right combination of drugs alcohol or whatever to help me overcome my fear and just let me be free. I just want someone to tell me something that will maybe see everything better. I feel completely vile and worthless and genuinely think that I would be doing more good dead than alive. I never used to drink smoke or use any sort of drug but in the last year, its all changed. All I want is the perfect escape from me and my life but I do and don't want to exist or ie die. I just want to go away and be in a world that makes me feel loved. Sadly in the last week, I found a place that makes me feel loved, but it's not a good or right way to get it so I can never do it but I do want too. The Hospital. For the first time in my life, I had an actual life-threatening emergency. They made me feel more love than I have EVER felt in my life. I really wish I felt that more. I feel really alone. I was seeing a psych to help me and I was taking medications to help with the sucidle feelings and depression but I can't afford them anymore. I need to talk but have nobody that wants to listen. I feel so sad and I feel like such a bad person but I just want to be seen as a loveable and good person. :( I want to feel loved and IDK how to earn it anymore."
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"It might be smart to call a suicide hotline tonight. Just to talk and get your feelings out a bit more. If you have any colleges near you, call them tomorrow to see if they have a sliding fee scale counseling service for the public. Almost every college has one if they have a graduate program in counseling. They will see you sometimes for 15 or 20 an hour... whatever you can afford. Even free at times. It is actually run by the grad students, however they are highly highly supervised and we have had amazing luck with them in our family in the past. Super cheap. Super kind people who are just starting out their counseling career And have to see a certain number of people while being supervised before opening their own office. You can ask for someone that is younger, older, male, female, etc. Someone that you think will help and listen. And if they don’t? You asked for someone else the next time.\nI wish I had some magic words to tell you tonight. I can tell you that suicide is a permanent solution to a fairly temporary problem. But I know that sometimes the depression has gone on for so long that you feel it will never end.\nI am so sorry about your family and what you found out. You know, we don’t get to choose our family. But, you can “make your own family” by finding good people to be around. It is hard at first, but if you join a club or a church or some kind of special interest group you will be surprised how many people have been depressed and are fighting things very similar to you. \n\nEven just getting out in the sunshine tomorrow for about 20 minutes will make a difference. In addition to everything else that’s going on, you could easily have low vitamin D, etc. And it absolutely causes / worsens depression.\nIf you think you might be addicted to substances, AA is an amazing free program- Not just for alcohol but for anything like drugs as well. I know so many people who are in the program, and they are a loving kind group for the most part. You find a sponsor and this person is someone you can talk to - whenever you need. They become a very close friend.\nI will be thinking of you tonight and tomorrow. I think you will be surprised at how many people care for you, if you could just get over this very very rough patch. Please think about it. It was very brave of you to write tonight. If it is night where you are, try to get some sleep. Get some good breakfast in the morning. Then start making a plan for how to dig out of this nightmare. You can do it. And You are totally worth it.",
"I don’t know how helpful I can be except I can assure you that what state you’re in now is temporary. You will feel sad again in the future but before then you will also feel Iove.",
"this might not be the right subreddit, but i want to help.\nmaybe you're not religious but this life is a blessing. we're put here on earth because each of us have our own unique roles. i dont want this to sound negative but i think you are currently on a phase. this too shall pass.\n\nthink about all the good things you have done. maybe picked up a stick from the middle of the road or even smiled to a depressed or suicidal stranger at a subway (you may have saved their life just by that smile giving them hope to go on). you did so many great things unnoticed. maybe you havent met the kind of people that really understands you. \n\nhey, why dont we talk and maybe i can help you in some way? the least i can do is lend my ears for you to tell me what has been buried inside. i'll be waiting for your pm.\n\n❤",
"What’s something you want to do before you die? Whatever it is, do it every day. Before long, you’ll find that it is a reason to keep going; a reason to get up in the morning. Once you start feeling bored of doing that, take the time to teach someone else how to do it; then teach more people how to do it. You can be strong and important and loved and worthy of the air you breathe. If you can’t find a reason to live, find a reason for others and let them know it.",
"https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org\n\nFirst and foremost you matter. There are online counselors and as much as Reddit cares, there are others who have the experience and ability to help you now.",
"Write down everything you’re feeling. Anger? Scribble or rip the paper up. Sadness? Write down whatever makes you feel sad, ball it up and throw it away. Just get it all out and out of your head.",
"Well, you talked about the kind of dad you wanted to be, and I believed you. Still do.\n\nDon't give up yet.",
"Im sorry for the post but I don't honestly know who to ask for help from anymore. So I just want advice. I know we all suffer pain and depression so I know someone must have some great advice and the only way I can know it is by asking.",
"You're not alone and it gets better. \n\nThe constant internal thoughts nagging away, the self loathing, the isolation, it will get better. \n\nI felt the way you do. \n\nThings that help: a regular routine.\n\n-Waking up in the morning and getting out of bed. \n-Eating consistently. \n-Shaving/showering. \n-Writing down one thing, just one, even if it is small, and then doing it. Once it's done, crossing it off the list. Write down everything you manage to accomplish and cross them off. \n-Incremental progress. Understand life may be difficult right now, but it won't always be. It may be hard 99% of the time, but for 1%, when you're using the bathroom, when you're asleep, when you remember to eat, when you can stand, when you can do even simple little things, that's still time life isn't wrong. And it may not be immediate, but maybe in a week it's only 98% of the time. And then in a month 97%. 2 months? 90%. 3? 75%. The more time you're able to focus on the positive, the easier it will become to feel.\n\nLife shines. Goodness. \nIf I had one chance to talk to myself in my difficult moments, it would be to let him know it gets better, people care (especially ones you may never realize), and you matter. You're not alone. \n\nAdmitting out loud that you hurt and need help is brave. Really, really brave. \n\nPlease find comfort in knowing you matter to me, and that every centimeter, every inch of progress is a step forward to a brighter tomorrow.",
"Would it be possible to put yourself in inpatient so you can get through the worst of this crisis? \nAnd i agree with someone else i read, what's something you want to do before you die? Do it daily, weekly, or if its huge start taking steps toward it so you have something to look forward to and a purpose, maybe make it an annual i survived event?",
"My goodness, how could I possibly know what is best for you. I'll echo some of the others:\n\n\\- Talk to someone. Many do this kind of work pro-bono. Perhaps your doctor might have some suggestions.\n\n\\- If it's a chemical imbalance, get back on medication. What if that is what is causing you to feel this way?\n\nSome things that have worked for me:\n\n\\- Start a gratitude journal. Each day write down three things for which you are grateful. Simple stuff. Sunshine, a smile from a stranger, a roof over your head.\n\n\\- Exercise. A 30 minute run will release wonderful endorphins. From that perspective life will seem much different.\n\n\\- Volunteer. It seems like you are so focused on your situation and how bad it seems. That's a choice and if you get involved helping others, it will take your mind off your situation and involved in something bigger. It's very satisfying.\n\nThat's all I've got. I hope it helps. \n\nAll the best to you. Here's hug and a wish that it gets better.",
"I’m sorry you feel this way. Maybe getting an easy-to-care-for pet, like a fish, would help? It would give you something to talk to and something to feel responsible for it’s livelihood.",
"I have been suicidal before. I get your feelings. If you'd like a shoulder, I'm happy to listen, not judge nor offer advice (unless you want some). It took a lot of strength to type out your post. I admire you.",
"Hey OP.\nLook, I know this is hard, especially after suffering from such great pain over many years. I know many people suffering from suicidal thoughts.\n\nI don't want to pressure you into anything. If you need someone to talk to, just hit me up. I've had contacts with many suffering people over the last few years, and for a while I even experienced it myself.\n\nMy Discord is Cubuzz#6729. And I'm here for everyone, 24/7.\n\nAnd last but not least: I'm proud of you for coming out and talking to us fellow redditors about this issue. It's a huge step and I wish you the best of luck fighting against your depression.\n\nMay the odds be in your favor."
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"Title if you paid it off (car, rv etc)\nWarranty/receipt for large purchases (tv, sofa, gun etc)\nTax returns and paystubs (to prove income/expense)\n\n",
"Proof of residence/ utility accounts from all former addresses have been very useful to me in the past. \n\nFormer employment contracts. \n\n",
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"How to perfectly flip a grilled cheese sandwich every time I don't mean grilled cheese with just one slice and light , I mean ones that I've added ham and extra cheese to , most of the time when I try to flip them they don't land good and it's all sloppy and the top peice of bread isn't matching the bottom and its just a mess",
"How to perfectly flip a grilled cheese sandwich every time I don't mean grilled cheese with just one slice and light , I mean ones that I've added ham and extra cheese to , most of the time when I try to flip them they don't land good and it's all sloppy and the top peice of bread isn't matching the bottom and its just a mess",
"How to perfectly flip a grilled cheese sandwich every time I don't mean grilled cheese with just one slice and light , I mean ones that I've added ham and extra cheese to , most of the time when I try to flip them they don't land good and it's all sloppy and the top peice of bread isn't matching the bottom and its just a mess",
"How to perfectly flip a grilled cheese sandwich every time I don't mean grilled cheese with just one slice and light , I mean ones that I've added ham and extra cheese to , most of the time when I try to flip them they don't land good and it's all sloppy and the top peice of bread isn't matching the bottom and its just a mess",
"How to perfectly flip a grilled cheese sandwich every time I don't mean grilled cheese with just one slice and light , I mean ones that I've added ham and extra cheese to , most of the time when I try to flip them they don't land good and it's all sloppy and the top peice of bread isn't matching the bottom and its just a mess",
"How to perfectly flip a grilled cheese sandwich every time I don't mean grilled cheese with just one slice and light , I mean ones that I've added ham and extra cheese to , most of the time when I try to flip them they don't land good and it's all sloppy and the top peice of bread isn't matching the bottom and its just a mess",
"How to perfectly flip a grilled cheese sandwich every time I don't mean grilled cheese with just one slice and light , I mean ones that I've added ham and extra cheese to , most of the time when I try to flip them they don't land good and it's all sloppy and the top peice of bread isn't matching the bottom and its just a mess",
"How to perfectly flip a grilled cheese sandwich every time I don't mean grilled cheese with just one slice and light , I mean ones that I've added ham and extra cheese to , most of the time when I try to flip them they don't land good and it's all sloppy and the top peice of bread isn't matching the bottom and its just a mess",
"How to perfectly flip a grilled cheese sandwich every time I don't mean grilled cheese with just one slice and light , I mean ones that I've added ham and extra cheese to , most of the time when I try to flip them they don't land good and it's all sloppy and the top peice of bread isn't matching the bottom and its just a mess",
"How to perfectly flip a grilled cheese sandwich every time I don't mean grilled cheese with just one slice and light , I mean ones that I've added ham and extra cheese to , most of the time when I try to flip them they don't land good and it's all sloppy and the top peice of bread isn't matching the bottom and its just a mess"
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"Cook it slow and low. You need to give the cheese time to melt so it holds the sandwich together as you flip it.",
"use Spatula to take the sandwich off of the pan. You are now holding the sandwich on the spatula cooked side down. Take the pan and pick it up with your other hand (BY THE HANDLE YOU FOOL!!!). Flip the pan over so that it is upside down and place it over the sandwich, so that the uncooked side is pressed against the cooking surface of the upside down pan. Now, since you are pressing the sandwich, it won't move, and just smoothly and quickly spin the whole... situation... over (this will result in your crossing your arm holding the spatula over the arm holding the pan - this is okay, because once the sandwich is in place, it is already flipped and does not need to be held in place any longer).\n\nDo this with small and medium sized pans. Do NOT do this with huge pans or woks, you will burn the SHIT out of yourself.",
"Why use a pan? Use a foreman grill, you will get a much less oily sandwich that is evenly toasted all over.",
"simple dude. spatula on bottom use your other hand on top to stabilize/hold together the sandwich while flipping. flip it quick and finesse it back onto the pan all in one motion. you cant be scared of burning yourself and jerk around all nervous like or the massive awesomeness will shift and get all fuckered up. get your fingers down close to the pan and slide them out as one side of the sandwich touches the pan. i should make a vid of this ..... check back in a while i may have one linked.",
"What if you get a fish spatula? They're longer, wide at the end and you've got less of a handle to head ratio so it makes it more stable when you lift. ",
"You should grill the slices separately. Then put them together just before serving that's how they do it in restaurants. ",
"What I do is when the grilled cheese is ready to flip, I carefully put my hand on the sandwich and turn the skillet over while holding the sandwich. Then replace the skillet back on the stove and simply lay the sandwich back in the skillet. ",
"Practice. At IHOP they teach you to flip by putting the top part of a hamburger bun in the pan, then you flip between sides. I try to describe it as start with your arm level, then pull your elbow down quickly, before shoving forward in a C-shaped motion. Practice a lot. You can also try with more of a grille pan, with shallower edges. That's probably where it goes wrong, the bread hits the sides on the upswing...\n\nThis isn't easy to teach over the internet...",
"Practice flipping one piece of bread in a cold pan. I saw a Youtube video about this; it's how to practice for flipping omelets. Practice with the bread, then you'll get a feel for the whole sandwich. ",
"Always cover it. This will melt the cheese a lot faster which will help the sandwich stick together! "
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"How to introduce yourself to your friends' SO's I will be meeting a lot of my old friends in about a month, and many of them have gotten girl- or boyfriends they are taking with them. I have always had a hard time introducing myself, but I have found it especially hard meeting SO's. This is how the conversation usually goes: \n\nMe: \"Hey [insert name of good friend here]!\" \n*I hug my friend sincerely* \nMe to SO: \"And you must be [insert name of SO here]. Nice to meet you!\" \nSO: \"Hi\" \n*Akward handshake* \nA few seconds pass. \nMe: \"Well, this is a bit akward..\" \n*I look at my friend's face and decide to leave*\n\nBtw I'm already a bit socially akward, and situations like these tend to happen to me a lot. Thanks!\n\n",
"How to introduce yourself to your friends' SO's I will be meeting a lot of my old friends in about a month, and many of them have gotten girl- or boyfriends they are taking with them. I have always had a hard time introducing myself, but I have found it especially hard meeting SO's. This is how the conversation usually goes: \n\nMe: \"Hey [insert name of good friend here]!\" \n*I hug my friend sincerely* \nMe to SO: \"And you must be [insert name of SO here]. Nice to meet you!\" \nSO: \"Hi\" \n*Akward handshake* \nA few seconds pass. \nMe: \"Well, this is a bit akward..\" \n*I look at my friend's face and decide to leave*\n\nBtw I'm already a bit socially akward, and situations like these tend to happen to me a lot. Thanks!\n\n",
"How to introduce yourself to your friends' SO's I will be meeting a lot of my old friends in about a month, and many of them have gotten girl- or boyfriends they are taking with them. I have always had a hard time introducing myself, but I have found it especially hard meeting SO's. This is how the conversation usually goes: \n\nMe: \"Hey [insert name of good friend here]!\" \n*I hug my friend sincerely* \nMe to SO: \"And you must be [insert name of SO here]. Nice to meet you!\" \nSO: \"Hi\" \n*Akward handshake* \nA few seconds pass. \nMe: \"Well, this is a bit akward..\" \n*I look at my friend's face and decide to leave*\n\nBtw I'm already a bit socially akward, and situations like these tend to happen to me a lot. Thanks!\n\n",
"How to introduce yourself to your friends' SO's I will be meeting a lot of my old friends in about a month, and many of them have gotten girl- or boyfriends they are taking with them. I have always had a hard time introducing myself, but I have found it especially hard meeting SO's. This is how the conversation usually goes: \n\nMe: \"Hey [insert name of good friend here]!\" \n*I hug my friend sincerely* \nMe to SO: \"And you must be [insert name of SO here]. Nice to meet you!\" \nSO: \"Hi\" \n*Akward handshake* \nA few seconds pass. \nMe: \"Well, this is a bit akward..\" \n*I look at my friend's face and decide to leave*\n\nBtw I'm already a bit socially akward, and situations like these tend to happen to me a lot. Thanks!\n\n"
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"Just treat them like you're meeting anyone else, and don't specifically call attention to any awkwardness in the situation. It will only make it all more awkward.",
"If its a special friend I make an effort to know who their SO is, by asking my friend, and then proceed to ask them something they are interested in and am genuinely curious about.\n\nSo, if for example, my friend's SO is a social media expert, I would ask them about how Facebook makes money, or something even more simple, but which gets them talking with me and we have a small but meaningful conversation",
"I always start with \"It's so nice to finally meet you (friend) talks about you all the time, he/she said/so you're the one that (insert something they like)\"\n\nFor this to work you actually need to know something about them before but it's easy enough to ask your friends about their SO.",
"Try this: \nMe: \"Hey [insert name of good friend here]!\"\nI hug my friend sincerely\nMe to SO: \"Hi, my name is ______\" Give a genuine smile.\n\nNext: Make an upbeat comment about the evening plans.\nOR: Ask a question about that person such as where they're from, it doesn't really matter.\n\nJust say something that allows the other to be involved in the conversation or even easier ask a question that isn't a yes/no question.\n\nOR: ake a comment about their nice [whatever]... be it shoes, hair, nice handshake, whattnot. It doesn't really matter.\n\nRemember... nobody really cares, intros are intros, just introduce yourself, smile, and move on with life."
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"For those of us taking the AP English exam tomorrow, how to keep one's hand from cramping while writing essays? The title pretty much says it all. The exam involves 3 essays (~2.5 pages each, sometimes longer) in 2 hours, and it's killer on my hand - I always cramp up and get uncomfortable from writing that long. Any tips?",
"For those of us taking the AP English exam tomorrow, how to keep one's hand from cramping while writing essays? The title pretty much says it all. The exam involves 3 essays (~2.5 pages each, sometimes longer) in 2 hours, and it's killer on my hand - I always cramp up and get uncomfortable from writing that long. Any tips?",
"For those of us taking the AP English exam tomorrow, how to keep one's hand from cramping while writing essays? The title pretty much says it all. The exam involves 3 essays (~2.5 pages each, sometimes longer) in 2 hours, and it's killer on my hand - I always cramp up and get uncomfortable from writing that long. Any tips?",
"For those of us taking the AP English exam tomorrow, how to keep one's hand from cramping while writing essays? The title pretty much says it all. The exam involves 3 essays (~2.5 pages each, sometimes longer) in 2 hours, and it's killer on my hand - I always cramp up and get uncomfortable from writing that long. Any tips?",
"For those of us taking the AP English exam tomorrow, how to keep one's hand from cramping while writing essays? The title pretty much says it all. The exam involves 3 essays (~2.5 pages each, sometimes longer) in 2 hours, and it's killer on my hand - I always cramp up and get uncomfortable from writing that long. Any tips?",
"For those of us taking the AP English exam tomorrow, how to keep one's hand from cramping while writing essays? The title pretty much says it all. The exam involves 3 essays (~2.5 pages each, sometimes longer) in 2 hours, and it's killer on my hand - I always cramp up and get uncomfortable from writing that long. Any tips?",
"For those of us taking the AP English exam tomorrow, how to keep one's hand from cramping while writing essays? The title pretty much says it all. The exam involves 3 essays (~2.5 pages each, sometimes longer) in 2 hours, and it's killer on my hand - I always cramp up and get uncomfortable from writing that long. Any tips?"
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"Fountain pens, man. They glide without any force and you can write for days without cramping. If you're tight on time and can't order one online, they often sell the Pilot Varsity (~$3) in most office supply stores.",
"You can also change it up by holding your pencil with just the pad of your thumb and pointer finger while letting it rest in the webbing of your thumb and pointer finger for stability. \n\nAlso take a mental note of how hard you are gripping the pencil, and lighten up!",
"If your hand starts to hurt, put you arm by your side and wave it back and forth. It gets the blood flowing again. I learned about it while playing violin, it's really helpful.",
"To add to these, get a comfortable pen that writes easy, the ink shouldn't take much force to be applied.\n\n I took the AP calculus exam today, and the paper they provide is soft and makes you press harder- really annoying. ",
"Try writing in cursive instead of print. Cursive doesn't involve picking the pen up as much as writing in print, so it makes the hand cramp up less. One of my instructors said he got through his doctorate program that way.\nI know it's probably too late for most high schoolers for tomorrow (if they even teach cursive anymore), but it may be worth a try if you can still write legibly in cursive.",
"To come at this from a physiological angle: take supplements the day before and the day of.\n\nYou need to include potassium, magnesium, calcium and zinc.\n\nThe latter three can easily be obtained in supplement form and each pill commonly contains 33% of the USRDA. Keep in mind that this is what is necessary, so if you take a couple of extra pills, you will not have any negative side effects.\n\nAs far as potassium, you will notice most supplements contain 3% of the USRDA which is laughable. Eat a couple of bananas or find and drink some coconut water. This contains potassium that is several times higher than products like Gatorade.\n\nThese tips are also advisable if you work outside and get dehydrated or before and after consuming large amounts of alcohol or even if you get cramps at night or if you are a woman with a case of monthly cramps.\n\nHope this helps!\n\n",
"Swing your arms hard and in wide arcs. This forces blood into your fingers and gives you a rest. And really, if you use every second you probably wrote too much."
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"Donating Clothing Living in the US, did some closet cleaning and have a bunch of clothes to get rid of. Some pretty nice clothes, some designer stuff, etc. Local thrift shop couldn't take a lot of it though, as it's too old. No worries, happy to donate it for free, but here is my concern -- if I'm giving the clothing away for free, I want the eventual recipient (presumably a person in need) to *get* the clothing for free. At GoodWill, I give the clothing for free, but then someone has to pay for them. It doesn't seem right! It's one thing if someone is basically paying me for my clothes, but if I want to do something charitable and truly give them away, surely there must be a way that the people in need don't have to pay to receive them. Even those drop-off bins apparently tend to auction the clothes off as a lot by weight.\n\nWhere can I donate my clothes so that the eventual recipients will truly get them free?",
"Donating Clothing Living in the US, did some closet cleaning and have a bunch of clothes to get rid of. Some pretty nice clothes, some designer stuff, etc. Local thrift shop couldn't take a lot of it though, as it's too old. No worries, happy to donate it for free, but here is my concern -- if I'm giving the clothing away for free, I want the eventual recipient (presumably a person in need) to *get* the clothing for free. At GoodWill, I give the clothing for free, but then someone has to pay for them. It doesn't seem right! It's one thing if someone is basically paying me for my clothes, but if I want to do something charitable and truly give them away, surely there must be a way that the people in need don't have to pay to receive them. Even those drop-off bins apparently tend to auction the clothes off as a lot by weight.\n\nWhere can I donate my clothes so that the eventual recipients will truly get them free?",
"Donating Clothing Living in the US, did some closet cleaning and have a bunch of clothes to get rid of. Some pretty nice clothes, some designer stuff, etc. Local thrift shop couldn't take a lot of it though, as it's too old. No worries, happy to donate it for free, but here is my concern -- if I'm giving the clothing away for free, I want the eventual recipient (presumably a person in need) to *get* the clothing for free. At GoodWill, I give the clothing for free, but then someone has to pay for them. It doesn't seem right! It's one thing if someone is basically paying me for my clothes, but if I want to do something charitable and truly give them away, surely there must be a way that the people in need don't have to pay to receive them. Even those drop-off bins apparently tend to auction the clothes off as a lot by weight.\n\nWhere can I donate my clothes so that the eventual recipients will truly get them free?",
"Donating Clothing Living in the US, did some closet cleaning and have a bunch of clothes to get rid of. Some pretty nice clothes, some designer stuff, etc. Local thrift shop couldn't take a lot of it though, as it's too old. No worries, happy to donate it for free, but here is my concern -- if I'm giving the clothing away for free, I want the eventual recipient (presumably a person in need) to *get* the clothing for free. At GoodWill, I give the clothing for free, but then someone has to pay for them. It doesn't seem right! It's one thing if someone is basically paying me for my clothes, but if I want to do something charitable and truly give them away, surely there must be a way that the people in need don't have to pay to receive them. Even those drop-off bins apparently tend to auction the clothes off as a lot by weight.\n\nWhere can I donate my clothes so that the eventual recipients will truly get them free?",
"Donating Clothing Living in the US, did some closet cleaning and have a bunch of clothes to get rid of. Some pretty nice clothes, some designer stuff, etc. Local thrift shop couldn't take a lot of it though, as it's too old. No worries, happy to donate it for free, but here is my concern -- if I'm giving the clothing away for free, I want the eventual recipient (presumably a person in need) to *get* the clothing for free. At GoodWill, I give the clothing for free, but then someone has to pay for them. It doesn't seem right! It's one thing if someone is basically paying me for my clothes, but if I want to do something charitable and truly give them away, surely there must be a way that the people in need don't have to pay to receive them. Even those drop-off bins apparently tend to auction the clothes off as a lot by weight.\n\nWhere can I donate my clothes so that the eventual recipients will truly get them free?",
"Donating Clothing Living in the US, did some closet cleaning and have a bunch of clothes to get rid of. Some pretty nice clothes, some designer stuff, etc. Local thrift shop couldn't take a lot of it though, as it's too old. No worries, happy to donate it for free, but here is my concern -- if I'm giving the clothing away for free, I want the eventual recipient (presumably a person in need) to *get* the clothing for free. At GoodWill, I give the clothing for free, but then someone has to pay for them. It doesn't seem right! It's one thing if someone is basically paying me for my clothes, but if I want to do something charitable and truly give them away, surely there must be a way that the people in need don't have to pay to receive them. Even those drop-off bins apparently tend to auction the clothes off as a lot by weight.\n\nWhere can I donate my clothes so that the eventual recipients will truly get them free?",
"Donating Clothing Living in the US, did some closet cleaning and have a bunch of clothes to get rid of. Some pretty nice clothes, some designer stuff, etc. Local thrift shop couldn't take a lot of it though, as it's too old. No worries, happy to donate it for free, but here is my concern -- if I'm giving the clothing away for free, I want the eventual recipient (presumably a person in need) to *get* the clothing for free. At GoodWill, I give the clothing for free, but then someone has to pay for them. It doesn't seem right! It's one thing if someone is basically paying me for my clothes, but if I want to do something charitable and truly give them away, surely there must be a way that the people in need don't have to pay to receive them. Even those drop-off bins apparently tend to auction the clothes off as a lot by weight.\n\nWhere can I donate my clothes so that the eventual recipients will truly get them free?",
"Donating Clothing Living in the US, did some closet cleaning and have a bunch of clothes to get rid of. Some pretty nice clothes, some designer stuff, etc. Local thrift shop couldn't take a lot of it though, as it's too old. No worries, happy to donate it for free, but here is my concern -- if I'm giving the clothing away for free, I want the eventual recipient (presumably a person in need) to *get* the clothing for free. At GoodWill, I give the clothing for free, but then someone has to pay for them. It doesn't seem right! It's one thing if someone is basically paying me for my clothes, but if I want to do something charitable and truly give them away, surely there must be a way that the people in need don't have to pay to receive them. Even those drop-off bins apparently tend to auction the clothes off as a lot by weight.\n\nWhere can I donate my clothes so that the eventual recipients will truly get them free?",
"Donating Clothing Living in the US, did some closet cleaning and have a bunch of clothes to get rid of. Some pretty nice clothes, some designer stuff, etc. Local thrift shop couldn't take a lot of it though, as it's too old. No worries, happy to donate it for free, but here is my concern -- if I'm giving the clothing away for free, I want the eventual recipient (presumably a person in need) to *get* the clothing for free. At GoodWill, I give the clothing for free, but then someone has to pay for them. It doesn't seem right! It's one thing if someone is basically paying me for my clothes, but if I want to do something charitable and truly give them away, surely there must be a way that the people in need don't have to pay to receive them. Even those drop-off bins apparently tend to auction the clothes off as a lot by weight.\n\nWhere can I donate my clothes so that the eventual recipients will truly get them free?",
"Donating Clothing Living in the US, did some closet cleaning and have a bunch of clothes to get rid of. Some pretty nice clothes, some designer stuff, etc. Local thrift shop couldn't take a lot of it though, as it's too old. No worries, happy to donate it for free, but here is my concern -- if I'm giving the clothing away for free, I want the eventual recipient (presumably a person in need) to *get* the clothing for free. At GoodWill, I give the clothing for free, but then someone has to pay for them. It doesn't seem right! It's one thing if someone is basically paying me for my clothes, but if I want to do something charitable and truly give them away, surely there must be a way that the people in need don't have to pay to receive them. Even those drop-off bins apparently tend to auction the clothes off as a lot by weight.\n\nWhere can I donate my clothes so that the eventual recipients will truly get them free?"
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"Domestic violence shelters or programs that give work clothes to at risk youth (usually over 16 years old or new high school grads, etc.) is a good place to start looking. In my area there is a housing program for domestic violence survivors. They get taught life skills and have a \"free store\" for things like clothes and household items while they're getting back on their feet.",
"Yes Goodwill and The Salvation Army charge a small price for clothing, however they also contribute to the local economy by hiring/paying workers/staff. The psychological benefit of having a job is huge. That’s my reward for donating. If you need more than that, you can get a receipt for a tax deduction. \n\nBut to answer your question, check the local religious organizations like churches and homeless shelters. You can also donate items to the local animal shelter. If the clothes can’t be worn, they can still be used as bedding.\n\nFor nicer name brand items, check shelters for battered women. They often need clothes for getting back into the workforce.\n\n[link](https://pocketsense.com/donate-clothing-womens-shelter-6902.html) \n\nGood luck! And thanks for donating!!!",
"I think the point of goodwill and Salvation Army isn’t necessarily to give those clothes to the homeless but to use the money they get from selling the clothes to help them.",
"Did you consider putting the designer stuff on eBay? I've bought and sold used clothing on eBay many times. The downside is you aren't getting rid of it quickly, so it will take up space until it sells.",
"other option: if you use facebook, join or start a local “buy nothing” group. i discovered my local one this year and it’s fantastic. you can give and ask for anything, and it’s simply amazing in every way. the purpose is a gift economy (and meeting people in your community, albeit briefly). i gave away a kindle and some nice italian leather boots. i’ve gotten a wonderful pink bike with baskets, adjusted for my exact height (and pink is my favorite color to boot) and a wonderful glass blender. best group i’ve ever seen.",
"i simply put them in a box and leave it on the bench of a covered bus stop. people riding the bus generally can use a break on essentials.",
"There is a mission and a homeless camp in my area. I just use small grocery bags and scatter them around. There is also a bus stop that the homeless frequent. I also drop off shampoos etc there. Literally just put them on the bench. My favorite thing is to do a drop and watch their faces as they see what's inside.",
"Mental hospitals take clothing donations. Many people are brought there with just what they are wearing and it is greatly appreciated.",
"Free cycle is a way to give/receive items. You can list what you have and/or request what you need. Also, research your community for an organization that accepts quality clothing etc for women getting back into the workforce.",
"Call the administrator at your local Salvation Army Adult Rehabilitation Center and ask for a tour of the operations there. This will allow you to make an educated decision on how your donations help those in need. Find a location at SAtruck.org. If you have any issues PM me and I’ll help you set something up."
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"What secondary skill should everyone be training? e.g bjj, coding Some skills need a lot of years to perfect but end up being very valuable. I made the mistake of not starting my BJJ (Brazilian Jiujitsu) journey earlier. The time I spent wasting on movies could instead have meant learning a valuable self defence and fitness skill.\n\nCoding is something similar in my opinion that I have been meaning to start. I sense that if I know some basics, it might be a valuable to me one day even outside of a career.\n\nWhat are you training that you think everyone else should as well?",
"What secondary skill should everyone be training? e.g bjj, coding Some skills need a lot of years to perfect but end up being very valuable. I made the mistake of not starting my BJJ (Brazilian Jiujitsu) journey earlier. The time I spent wasting on movies could instead have meant learning a valuable self defence and fitness skill.\n\nCoding is something similar in my opinion that I have been meaning to start. I sense that if I know some basics, it might be a valuable to me one day even outside of a career.\n\nWhat are you training that you think everyone else should as well?",
"What secondary skill should everyone be training? e.g bjj, coding Some skills need a lot of years to perfect but end up being very valuable. I made the mistake of not starting my BJJ (Brazilian Jiujitsu) journey earlier. The time I spent wasting on movies could instead have meant learning a valuable self defence and fitness skill.\n\nCoding is something similar in my opinion that I have been meaning to start. I sense that if I know some basics, it might be a valuable to me one day even outside of a career.\n\nWhat are you training that you think everyone else should as well?",
"What secondary skill should everyone be training? e.g bjj, coding Some skills need a lot of years to perfect but end up being very valuable. I made the mistake of not starting my BJJ (Brazilian Jiujitsu) journey earlier. The time I spent wasting on movies could instead have meant learning a valuable self defence and fitness skill.\n\nCoding is something similar in my opinion that I have been meaning to start. I sense that if I know some basics, it might be a valuable to me one day even outside of a career.\n\nWhat are you training that you think everyone else should as well?",
"What secondary skill should everyone be training? e.g bjj, coding Some skills need a lot of years to perfect but end up being very valuable. I made the mistake of not starting my BJJ (Brazilian Jiujitsu) journey earlier. The time I spent wasting on movies could instead have meant learning a valuable self defence and fitness skill.\n\nCoding is something similar in my opinion that I have been meaning to start. I sense that if I know some basics, it might be a valuable to me one day even outside of a career.\n\nWhat are you training that you think everyone else should as well?"
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"Basic automobile knowledge. How to change a tire, battery, headlight. Check your oil. Do minor maintenance/repairs.",
"Some of these are re-stated from others posts:\n\nCooking, growing food, first aid, simple sewing, minor car repair, proper budgeting, how 401k and retirement works, how cr",
"First Aid and Cooking. I was thinking about World of Warcraft but that works in real life. Fishing, not so much. ",
"Anything that you find purposeful and depending where you are in your life. But i would recommend personal finances including taxes, cooking and first aid.",
"Not necessarily more important than some already suggested (personal finances, CPR etc), but under-rated skill anyone can learn: *Sales*.\n\nEvery business is a sales business - so if you want to work for yourself, you need to understand sales.\n\nAnd even if you're happy on a career path, you'll still achieve your goals sooner if you know how to promote ('sell') yourself, your team, your project, your business in a comfortable manner.\n\nUnfortunately, most of us only notice 'sales' when we're being 'sold to' by pushy, crappy salespeople; as a result, we equate all sales with that kind of obnoxious and inauthentic BS. Most selling is nothing like that, and I don't recommend copying those styles."
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"Thoughts / Help Advice \n\nHello, I want to start this off by saying that I am 20 years old. I have set goals for myself, and know where I want to be in 10-20 years from now. However I have a hard time executing my goals. My goals consist of,\n\nOwning a house\n\nStarting a family\n\nBecoming a good software engineer\n\nHaving over $1,000,000 in an investment portfolio\n\nHaving a stable job that I can chose to work at home when I want and have flexible hours\n\nFirst year out of highschool:\n\nRight out of highschool I went from working 35 hours to 60 hours between two jobs, One was a assistant management position in a small pizzeria that I eventually quit, because I didn't get along with the new manager that was hired shortly after. In order to become the manager, I would of had to quit my other job that I was working, which I liked the people that worked there, up until I switched to full time. During this time of working, I learned about investing into the stock market from a microeconomics class that I took during highschool. During this time, I didn't know what I wanted to go to college for or what I wanted to do. I made sure to be cautious about my career because I have a lot of family / older friends who hate their careers. I would stay up and play league of legends and nerd out on my freetime. I ended up getting addicted to the game, and only worked 40 hours a week while focusing on playing games and hanging out with my EX girlfriend who ended up cheating on me. I know that I am smart and I find learning things to be easy as long as I put in the effort. During highschool I was taking college general classes. My parents make me pay a $300 rent fee. This is already on top of my phone and insurance bill which I had to pay when I was 16 which is around $200. With this, I wanted to build my cr",
"Thoughts / Help Advice \n\nHello, I want to start this off by saying that I am 20 years old. I have set goals for myself, and know where I want to be in 10-20 years from now. However I have a hard time executing my goals. My goals consist of,\n\nOwning a house\n\nStarting a family\n\nBecoming a good software engineer\n\nHaving over $1,000,000 in an investment portfolio\n\nHaving a stable job that I can chose to work at home when I want and have flexible hours\n\nFirst year out of highschool:\n\nRight out of highschool I went from working 35 hours to 60 hours between two jobs, One was a assistant management position in a small pizzeria that I eventually quit, because I didn't get along with the new manager that was hired shortly after. In order to become the manager, I would of had to quit my other job that I was working, which I liked the people that worked there, up until I switched to full time. During this time of working, I learned about investing into the stock market from a microeconomics class that I took during highschool. During this time, I didn't know what I wanted to go to college for or what I wanted to do. I made sure to be cautious about my career because I have a lot of family / older friends who hate their careers. I would stay up and play league of legends and nerd out on my freetime. I ended up getting addicted to the game, and only worked 40 hours a week while focusing on playing games and hanging out with my EX girlfriend who ended up cheating on me. I know that I am smart and I find learning things to be easy as long as I put in the effort. During highschool I was taking college general classes. My parents make me pay a $300 rent fee. This is already on top of my phone and insurance bill which I had to pay when I was 16 which is around $200. With this, I wanted to build my cr"
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"Ts good to have goals and to set them early. But don't plan your life based on others. Moving for your gf and planning to buy a house just cause gf, might get you in trouble. First marriage is work, need to find a person that wants to put as much work as you do and that is compatible with you. Then a house ties you down considerably I'd put that for later in life just to have more flexibility while young.\nInvestment research is good, gets you some leeway in managing your money and you get ahead of inflation.\nGo online, do some courses and start programming! As was said before it is not for everyone. Learn what you like first before setting up the job you want cause money. Seen people get in really bad places (burnout, depression, substance abuse) because of work incompatibility.\n\nLPT: Get a career not a job. Get it in a field that you believe in and that makes you feel good with yourself.",
"Hey OP, you have a lot going on in your life. When there’s a lot of choices, sometimes what you need to do is look at the next upcoming choice and make the best choice there. Prioritize!\n\nThe next upcoming choice for you seems to be going to the national guard or not. This is a big decision!\n\nThe few thousand dollars you have in the market shouldn’t drive anything. You could save that in a year with a software degree. However, and this is a big point: if you haven’t done any coding yet, you might not even like it. It’s not for everyone.\n\nDon’t even think about marrying someone unless you’ve spent 1000 hours, in person, with them. It’s hard to know if you’ll be compatible with someone for the rest of your life long distance.\n\nYou have a lot of figuring out to do. If the national guard will help with your goals, go for it. If they won’t, what is your plan to achieve the next goal you have? Prioritize!"
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"How to stop eating so damn much I always eat way too much and am in pain 5 minutes afterwards. I get so full it feels like I will explode. I always tell myself it will never be that bad again but the next day I do the same thing. ",
"How to stop eating so damn much I always eat way too much and am in pain 5 minutes afterwards. I get so full it feels like I will explode. I always tell myself it will never be that bad again but the next day I do the same thing. ",
"How to stop eating so damn much I always eat way too much and am in pain 5 minutes afterwards. I get so full it feels like I will explode. I always tell myself it will never be that bad again but the next day I do the same thing. ",
"How to stop eating so damn much I always eat way too much and am in pain 5 minutes afterwards. I get so full it feels like I will explode. I always tell myself it will never be that bad again but the next day I do the same thing. ",
"How to stop eating so damn much I always eat way too much and am in pain 5 minutes afterwards. I get so full it feels like I will explode. I always tell myself it will never be that bad again but the next day I do the same thing. ",
"How to stop eating so damn much I always eat way too much and am in pain 5 minutes afterwards. I get so full it feels like I will explode. I always tell myself it will never be that bad again but the next day I do the same thing. ",
"How to stop eating so damn much I always eat way too much and am in pain 5 minutes afterwards. I get so full it feels like I will explode. I always tell myself it will never be that bad again but the next day I do the same thing. ",
"How to stop eating so damn much I always eat way too much and am in pain 5 minutes afterwards. I get so full it feels like I will explode. I always tell myself it will never be that bad again but the next day I do the same thing. ",
"How to stop eating so damn much I always eat way too much and am in pain 5 minutes afterwards. I get so full it feels like I will explode. I always tell myself it will never be that bad again but the next day I do the same thing. ",
"How to stop eating so damn much I always eat way too much and am in pain 5 minutes afterwards. I get so full it feels like I will explode. I always tell myself it will never be that bad again but the next day I do the same thing. ",
"How to stop eating so damn much I always eat way too much and am in pain 5 minutes afterwards. I get so full it feels like I will explode. I always tell myself it will never be that bad again but the next day I do the same thing. ",
"How to stop eating so damn much I always eat way too much and am in pain 5 minutes afterwards. I get so full it feels like I will explode. I always tell myself it will never be that bad again but the next day I do the same thing. ",
"How to stop eating so damn much I always eat way too much and am in pain 5 minutes afterwards. I get so full it feels like I will explode. I always tell myself it will never be that bad again but the next day I do the same thing. ",
"How to stop eating so damn much I always eat way too much and am in pain 5 minutes afterwards. I get so full it feels like I will explode. I always tell myself it will never be that bad again but the next day I do the same thing. ",
"How to stop eating so damn much I always eat way too much and am in pain 5 minutes afterwards. I get so full it feels like I will explode. I always tell myself it will never be that bad again but the next day I do the same thing. ",
"How to stop eating so damn much I always eat way too much and am in pain 5 minutes afterwards. I get so full it feels like I will explode. I always tell myself it will never be that bad again but the next day I do the same thing. "
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"In a restaurant, ask for a takeout box at the beginning of the meal, and put half of the food into it before you start eating. \nAt home, serve slightly less than you think you will eat. \nWhen eating, put your fork down between bites, to help yourself slow your eating pace.",
"Because it can take up to 20 minutes for the \"full\" signal from the stomach to reach our brains (stupid leftover survival genes), it is so easy to overeat! \nTry any or all or any combination of the following (in no particular order):\n1. Chew your food 30 times before swallowing. This adds more saliva which aids digestion AND slows you down so you can enjoy the taste and flavors.\n2. Put your utensils/food down between bites, put your hands in your lap, and sit back.\n3. Drink plenty of water before and during your meal. This helps you feel full and aids in digestion. Also, try drinking water when you think you are hungry. Humans have THE WORST thirst indicators!\n4. Use smaller plates/bowls. Put everything away after preparing your plate/bowl so it is more effort to go back and dish out seconds. Also, NEVER eat out of the container!\n5. Follow portion controls. Eat the one portion slowly. Drink water. Wait five minutes. Still hungry? Then go back for another 1/2 portion.\n6. Be mindful of your meal. ONLY EAT and enjoy the food (texture, color, flavors, etc.). Do not watch tv, work, use the computer/tablet/phone, etc. Conversation with others is fine if you are dining together but only if your mouth is not full.\n",
"put less on the plate(maybe even one spoon, so you have to keep getting up and going back), eat slower, drink more water during, stop when you're not hungry - not when you're full",
"Few tips: \n\n- increase number of times you eat. In particular avoid eating big meals when you are too hungry.\n\n- drink lot of water before you eat a big meal. \n\n- fix your portions. Do not go for seconds. \n\n- eat food with lots of fiber and stuff that required you to chew more. Avoid stuff that can be easily gobbled.\n\n- while eating focus on the food. Avoid other distracting activity like watching TV. \n\n",
"Drink 8-12 Oz of water before every meal. You stay hydrated and feel fuller before you eat. Also, eat until your satisfied. Not until your stuffed. ",
"Reduce how much carbs you eat. Start your day with proteins and fat, such as eggs and bacon. Try skipping bread and sweets and track how considerably less hungry you will feel.\n\nResearch it a bit, its absolutely amazing. \nAnd btw, read this: http://mobile.nytimes.com/2016/09/13/well/eat/how-the-sugar-industry-shifted-blame-to-fat.html",
"Measure your food. Get a food scale (they are wicked cheap) and start measuring out smaller portions. Eat just that portion then wait 20 min. ",
"Step 1: Get poor\n\nStep 2: become plant\n\nStep 3: photosynthesise instead of eating \n\nStep 4: skeleton mode. \n\n\n\nWorks like a charm for me. ",
"I've added what's called protein fluff. It's basically whipped cream made from milk and protein powder. It's filled me enough throughout the day that I've significantly cut down on how much I munch on ",
"At home, eat meals off of salad plates (which are smaller), instead of dinner plates (which are larger). This will cause you to eat less.\n\n\nBasically, when a typical person puts food on his or her plate, the person will generally fill the plate regardless of the plate's size (within reason). If people are given smaller plates, they'll simply eat less.\n\nThere was an experiment done on dieticians. Some were given a bigger bowl and some were given a smaller bowl to self-serve ice cream. Naturally, the ones with the big bowl took more ice cream. And this was done to dieticians, who are experts in this sort of thing. https://sparq.stanford.edu/sites/default/files/wansink_van_ittersum_painter_2006.pdf\n\nFrom a more quantitative measure, Macy's has [this dinning set]( http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/hotel-collection-dinnerware-bone-china-4-piece-place-setting?ID=399148&CategoryID=53630&tdp=cm_app~zundefined~xcm_zone~zPDP_ZONE_B~xcm_choiceId~zcidM06RRM-1bc93696-0063-4948-bd37-819ffcef4a69%40H8%40customers%2Balso%2Bloved%2453629%24399148~xcm_pos~zPos12) with a smaller salad plate and a larger dinner plate. Assuming someone doesn't put food on the rim of the plates, the salad plate holds about 25% less food than the dinner plate. Someone using a salad plate instead of a dinner plate would tend to take less food, and eat less food over the course of many years. Sure someone can get seconds or thirds, but the general benefit over time will be a reduction in food consumption. \n",
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"You need to chew your food about 30 times before you swallow. Chewing your food well will not only help with digestion but it will also make you full on a smaller portion of food than the portion you would normally have. Try it and see for yourself! http://goo.gl/7vJ4fg",
"What worked best for me was eating half a meal and sitting back for a while. Gie it some time and finish the other half. The big idea is to slow down eating so you don't feel hungry when you're done.\n\nNow (literally a few weeks later) I'll eat a little bit as fast as a I want, understanding that in 20 minutes I'll no longer feel hungry.",
"Use common sense, and don't pretend you need a professional tip on how to stop putting food into your mouth. Do you really struggle with understanding that putting less food into your face is going to keep you from feeling like shit afterward, or are you just looking for someone to verbally smack you upside the hide and tell you to wake up? Sorry if the response is rude, but fuck-- come on dude.",
"Two big glasses of water before your meal. Big salad next. Put fork down between bites and do not take another bite until you have chewed and swallowed the previous one.\n\nBasically, letting satiation catch up to intake, and filling up on things that will not leave you so uncomfortable for so long afterward.",
"Think of food as fuel. If I'm hungry, I eat 400 calories worth of anything, and move on with my day. "
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"How how handle your car when you are hydroplaning or slipping on ice My natural instinct is to just jam on the breaks but I believe that only makes things worse by locking up the tires. Any tips?",
"How how handle your car when you are hydroplaning or slipping on ice My natural instinct is to just jam on the breaks but I believe that only makes things worse by locking up the tires. Any tips?",
"How how handle your car when you are hydroplaning or slipping on ice My natural instinct is to just jam on the breaks but I believe that only makes things worse by locking up the tires. Any tips?",
"How how handle your car when you are hydroplaning or slipping on ice My natural instinct is to just jam on the breaks but I believe that only makes things worse by locking up the tires. Any tips?",
"How how handle your car when you are hydroplaning or slipping on ice My natural instinct is to just jam on the breaks but I believe that only makes things worse by locking up the tires. Any tips?",
"How how handle your car when you are hydroplaning or slipping on ice My natural instinct is to just jam on the breaks but I believe that only makes things worse by locking up the tires. Any tips?",
"How how handle your car when you are hydroplaning or slipping on ice My natural instinct is to just jam on the breaks but I believe that only makes things worse by locking up the tires. Any tips?",
"How how handle your car when you are hydroplaning or slipping on ice My natural instinct is to just jam on the breaks but I believe that only makes things worse by locking up the tires. Any tips?",
"How how handle your car when you are hydroplaning or slipping on ice My natural instinct is to just jam on the breaks but I believe that only makes things worse by locking up the tires. Any tips?",
"How how handle your car when you are hydroplaning or slipping on ice My natural instinct is to just jam on the breaks but I believe that only makes things worse by locking up the tires. Any tips?",
"How how handle your car when you are hydroplaning or slipping on ice My natural instinct is to just jam on the breaks but I believe that only makes things worse by locking up the tires. Any tips?",
"How how handle your car when you are hydroplaning or slipping on ice My natural instinct is to just jam on the breaks but I believe that only makes things worse by locking up the tires. Any tips?"
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"Don't do anything. Keep going straight at the same speed (or slowly decelerate) until you regain traction. Also, I highly recommend taking your car out to an empty parking lot when it gets icy and driving around for a bit. It's good practice, and quite fun. I actually do this first chance when I get a new vehicle, as they all handle a little bit differently.",
"I was the driver of a vehicle that lost control when it slipped on snow/ice at highway speed. I'm pretty damn lucky to be alive... rolled my vehicle over several times pretty violently into a ditch.\n\nMy biggest takeaway is this: no amount of reading about how to recover an out of control vehicle is going to help you. The reality is that when the shit hits the fan, your instincts are what takes over. You can read Life Pro Tips all day long about how you *should* regain control of a vehicle, but until you actually *physically train* for it with *practice*, you're most likely going to end up doing things wrong or panic like I did. I knew I shouldn't over-correct, but I did it anyway. It's one thing to read that you shouldn't do it. It's another thing to be traveling at 65MPH and suddenly be going in a direction you know you shouldn't be going and fearing that this is going to be the last moment of your life.\n\nAs they say, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. In other words, avoid putting yourself in the position where your vehicle might lose control in the first place. Don't drive when the roads are shitty if you absolutely don't have to. If you absolutely do have to, drive well below the speed limit. Who gives a shit what your buddy in the car thinks. Who gives a shit if other drivers are going faster than you. It's worth driving a safe speed so you don't have a fucked up neck for the rest of your life like I do.\n\nInvest in snow tires. Make sure they are properly inflated. Drive a modern vehicle with traction control. 4WD really doesn't matter for snow and ice like people think it does. Never use cruise control on a potentially icy road. And always wear your seat belt in case of the unavoidable crash.\n\nIf I had the money I'd like to one day go to a race car driving school where they actually train you how to recover a vehicle that loses control, where you're strapped into a special car with a roll cage and have an instructor along side you. It's the only way I'll ever tackle my constant fear of losing control of the vehicle every time I drive now. Practice is the only way.",
"FWD:\n\nTurn into the skid, regain rolling traction, then recover.\n\nRWD: \n\nLet off on the gas, countersteer.\n\nAWD: \n\nTurn into the skid.\n\nIN ALL CASES, let off on the gas and brake (don't touch the damn pedals) until you've regained rolling traction. Once that's regained, in FWD cars, hit the gas lightly. \n\nAlso, learn how to threshold brake and learn the benefits/drawbacks of ABS.\n\nTake your car into an empty parking lot that hasn't been plowed and spend at least 20 minutes dicking around",
"If you don't have ABS: when your tires lock up and you are skidding down the ice/wet road, release the brake pedal and reapply the brakes. In other words, you will be your own anti brakes lock system. The car is designed to go straight when the brakes lock (pressure to the front brakes is higher than the rear). If rear brakes locked up, you will most likely spin out of control. We want the front brakes to lock up for 2 reasons, 1) you still see where you are going. 2) you still have some sort of control. Again, practice in a parking lot on how to be the ABS. Also, if you have ABS, even if it kicks in, press down on the brake pedal real hard,; their is more traction. And if you need to steer during a skid, foot off the brakes. You may or may not be able to steer. Won't hurt to try. The fact that you asked this question, I don't recommend that you pull the hand brake to induce steer ; that is for more advanced. Rotate your tires on schedule and get yourself good all season Tires. Good luck \n",
"When I was in driving school, my instructor told me that if I ever hydroplane, to just let off the gas and coast. The car will slowly decelerate and settle into the water. For god sakes NEVER Press on you're brakes",
"Learn to slow down in dangerous conditions. Also, drive like your car doesn't have power anything. Turn slowly, brake slowly. Keep a good distance between yourself and other vehicles. Turn your lights on.\n\nDon't be in a hurry.\n\nIf you start to slide, let your foot off the gas and turn into the direction of the skid. Once you regrip, straighten back out. If you're driving more slowly, you shouldn't slide for very long.",
"For me it really depends on the situation. \n\nUsually I will lift off the accelerator and maybe gently brake, and make small steering corrections to keep the car pointed in the direction I want to do. I've never completely spun out. I think if you find yourself in that situation, where you are in an uncontrollable spin, there isn't much you can do. \n\nIf you are hydroplaning you are going too fast. \n\nThe best tip I think is in icy conditions, drive slower, and keep a greater distance between you and car in front of you. If cars are stopped ahead of you, don't wait until the last moment to slow down. Start slowing down further back. ",
"First, if you're in a manual transmission, clutch in. Take your engine and tire speed out of the equation.\n\n* With ABS: Brake hard\n\n* Without ABS: Threshold braking (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Threshold_braking): basically, apply the brakes slowly until you feel the wheels lock up, then back off a little. Try and apply as much pressure as you can without locking up the wheels\n\nAside from that steer into the turn and look where you want to go. Do not stare at things you are trying to avoid.",
"Do what I did, buy a Jeep!\n\nkidding aside, I used to drive a neon so I understand ice is a bit scary. You can gear down to slow yourself without brakes, If the car slides right (turning the nose left) turn into it, when you gain traction turn back to the desire direction. You can pump the brakes but never bear down on them. I have had some success pumping the gas pedal a few times, mostly you just get spinning tires, but sometimes they catch something enough to get a bit of traction back. ",
"When it's cold and icy, and you know it's dangerously icy, it's better to use engine braking than regular brakes. Your tires won't lock, but you'll still slow down. ",
"NEUTRAL! When you slip the car into neutral it becomes a dead four-wheel drive, which provides amazing traction. At that point try to coast your way out of danger. Avoid braking as the uninhibited movement of your wheels is all that is keeping you gripped. If you slide, turn INTO the spin and spin yourself out.",
"If you have antilock brakes, you should hit the brakes as hard as you need to. The ABS will take care of the wheels locking up.\n\nIf not, you have to pump the brakes. Apply pressure until you feel it lock up, then remove pressure, repeat. As fast as possible.\n\nSteering - in a skid, pick a point you want the car to head toward. Turn the wheel *full* in the direction of that point (i.e. if the point is left of you, turn full left). When the point slides the other way, spin the wheel back in that direction. Continue until you are out of the skid."
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"How to calm down a wild toddler after causing said wildness. I have a 2.5 yr old nephew that I don't get to see often, when I do it is usually in the evening like an hour or two before his bed time. He always gets excited to see me because I'm the only one that'll chase him around and rough house with him so to speak. My sister always lets me get him all crazy because she knows he loves it but then after he is impossible to calm down and cries when it's time for bed (otherwise he never has a problem with bed).\n\nAny tips or tricks for getting him to calm down as fast as I can get him screaming and running around the room banging his head into furniture? Or should I just stop playing with him like that?",
"How to calm down a wild toddler after causing said wildness. I have a 2.5 yr old nephew that I don't get to see often, when I do it is usually in the evening like an hour or two before his bed time. He always gets excited to see me because I'm the only one that'll chase him around and rough house with him so to speak. My sister always lets me get him all crazy because she knows he loves it but then after he is impossible to calm down and cries when it's time for bed (otherwise he never has a problem with bed).\n\nAny tips or tricks for getting him to calm down as fast as I can get him screaming and running around the room banging his head into furniture? Or should I just stop playing with him like that?",
"How to calm down a wild toddler after causing said wildness. I have a 2.5 yr old nephew that I don't get to see often, when I do it is usually in the evening like an hour or two before his bed time. He always gets excited to see me because I'm the only one that'll chase him around and rough house with him so to speak. My sister always lets me get him all crazy because she knows he loves it but then after he is impossible to calm down and cries when it's time for bed (otherwise he never has a problem with bed).\n\nAny tips or tricks for getting him to calm down as fast as I can get him screaming and running around the room banging his head into furniture? Or should I just stop playing with him like that?"
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"Introduce into the routine that you read him a bedtime story and help him get ready for sleep (and sing lullabies too if you like singing). It will give you both some beautiful memories and it is really cool to read kids stories and sing to them. ",
"Your nephew needs a routine that he learns to know what that is when he is with you. Be sure to include some tasks that he knows he must accomplish and be your \"helper\" when he's with you.",
"He's a toddler. Toddlers cry. This is like asking if you can make a dog stop barking or if you can make a cat stop meowing. You can, but it's gonna involve force, and you don't want to. Just deal with it. "
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"How to prevent your legs from falling asleep when sitting on the toilet for too long. We all know it happens.",
"How to prevent your legs from falling asleep when sitting on the toilet for too long. We all know it happens.",
"How to prevent your legs from falling asleep when sitting on the toilet for too long. We all know it happens."
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"Crossing your legs at the ankles will prevent this, but will hinder your maximum shitting capabilities. It is up to the fecal excretor to decide what is more important: poop flow or blood flow. I'm terrible at making these decisions so I just stand up and scoop it out with a soup spoon.",
"The seat should be comfortable and distribute your weight evenly over a large surface area so your circulation does not get cut off. ",
"If nothing's happening get up and take a break. Doing some exercise could move those bowel movements so you're not sitting there for ages waiting. \n\nIf you've got diarrhea or something and you're legs begin to go numb... well... shouldn't that be the least of your problems? "
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"How to with attraction towards co-workers. I recently joined my first job, I'm 22. It's a very niche field I work in, so most co-workers are more like-minded than most people I meet. Add to that, they're all about the same age, and attraction is hard to prevent. We've also had a few drunken nights where things nearly escalated. \n\nI think hooking up with a co-worker is just a bad idea, and I want to do something to diffuse any kind of tension that can be caused.",
"How to with attraction towards co-workers. I recently joined my first job, I'm 22. It's a very niche field I work in, so most co-workers are more like-minded than most people I meet. Add to that, they're all about the same age, and attraction is hard to prevent. We've also had a few drunken nights where things nearly escalated. \n\nI think hooking up with a co-worker is just a bad idea, and I want to do something to diffuse any kind of tension that can be caused.",
"How to with attraction towards co-workers. I recently joined my first job, I'm 22. It's a very niche field I work in, so most co-workers are more like-minded than most people I meet. Add to that, they're all about the same age, and attraction is hard to prevent. We've also had a few drunken nights where things nearly escalated. \n\nI think hooking up with a co-worker is just a bad idea, and I want to do something to diffuse any kind of tension that can be caused."
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"Just remember that the sooner you learn to deal with it, the better it will be for your career. You will likely have other situations to deal with (calling on a customer who just found out they lost a significant other, flipping off a guy in a car passing you only to find out that is who you are headed to a meeting with, and so on), and how you deal with all of these issues collectively will define you as a person. At work, just shut it off- put it in a box and shut it down. Outside of work, just remember flirtation can be a slippery slope.",
"As yourself if 20 minutes is worth a career. Seriously. We fired a paralegal and lawyer who were having an affair and it came to light because the paralegal had some lawyer jizz on her coat when she came back in after lunch. That lawyer had spent 4 years here and is in that awkward situation where he probably does not want to list us as a reference.",
"Alcohol and co-workers don't mix. Also, you're at the age of raging hormones. Try to make friends and lovers outside of work. Don't deny your needs, just find other avenues than the ones you have now. "
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"Melted Plastic On Stovetop I have one of those flat stovetops and last week, I turned one of the burners without realizing that I turned on the wrong one that had a plastic tupperware container sitting on top of it.\n\nAs you can imagine, that melted the plastic and now I have cold, hardened plastic all over one of my tops.\n\nIs this one of those gaffs that's going to cost me one of my burners? Is there a fix?",
"Melted Plastic On Stovetop I have one of those flat stovetops and last week, I turned one of the burners without realizing that I turned on the wrong one that had a plastic tupperware container sitting on top of it.\n\nAs you can imagine, that melted the plastic and now I have cold, hardened plastic all over one of my tops.\n\nIs this one of those gaffs that's going to cost me one of my burners? Is there a fix?"
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"My friend did this once. here's what we did:\n\n\n* First, make sure the burner and plastic have cooled completely. \n\n\n* Get a butter knife and gently scrap away as much plastic as you can without damaging the cook top. \n\n* Then spray some WD-40 on what's left and let it sit for a few minutes. \n\n* Use a razor blade and gently scrap off what you can without damaging the cook top. Do this with the razor blade as flat as possible. Using it in a [scraper blade holder](http://www.homedepot.com/p/Stanley-1-3-16-in-High-Visibility-Mini-Razor-Blade-Scraper-28-100/203743502) helps. Be careful because WD-40 can make it slippery to work on.\n\n* When there is nothing left for the blade to scrap (the last layer, may be filmy) put some acetone containing liquid on it like paint thinner or nail polish remover. Make sure it has acetone in it.Some nail polish removers don't. You will have to soak the area and keep it moist so you likely will have to keep reapplying it because acetone evaporates quickly. \n\n* After it's been able to soak for a few minutes, use a plastic scrubber that is glass safe to scrub in a circular motion.\n\n* Once you have all the plastic off, you MUST wash remaining chemical residue off with soap and water. Especially the WD-40. Or next time you cook, you might be calling the fire department. ",
"I once removed melted plastic from a glass surface by using cinnamon oil. \nPlastics hate cinnamon oil."
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"Is there an automated way of keeping emails organized? I'm talking specifically about Gmail. I used to do such a good job of keeping everything organized. Now it's a mess."
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"To go against the grain a bit: I'd say that organizing your inbox in Gmail is not really necessary and possibly a waste of time. Everything can already be sorted by date, sender, etc and the search feature is good enough that you can easily find anything if you even vaguely remember what it was about.\n\nIf you just want a couple of easily recognisable categories, use the labels feature.",
"There are filters in Gmail that you can use. Any and all emails can be tagged based on criteria that you set up, including straight to the trash can so you never see it."
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"How do i not let my pet peeves bother me too much? I find these little things that people do very irritating and this has resulted in me making very few friends in college. How do I look past these minute annoyances and just get along with people?",
"How do i not let my pet peeves bother me too much? I find these little things that people do very irritating and this has resulted in me making very few friends in college. How do I look past these minute annoyances and just get along with people?",
"How do i not let my pet peeves bother me too much? I find these little things that people do very irritating and this has resulted in me making very few friends in college. How do I look past these minute annoyances and just get along with people?",
"How do i not let my pet peeves bother me too much? I find these little things that people do very irritating and this has resulted in me making very few friends in college. How do I look past these minute annoyances and just get along with people?",
"How do i not let my pet peeves bother me too much? I find these little things that people do very irritating and this has resulted in me making very few friends in college. How do I look past these minute annoyances and just get along with people?",
"How do i not let my pet peeves bother me too much? I find these little things that people do very irritating and this has resulted in me making very few friends in college. How do I look past these minute annoyances and just get along with people?",
"How do i not let my pet peeves bother me too much? I find these little things that people do very irritating and this has resulted in me making very few friends in college. How do I look past these minute annoyances and just get along with people?",
"How do i not let my pet peeves bother me too much? I find these little things that people do very irritating and this has resulted in me making very few friends in college. How do I look past these minute annoyances and just get along with people?",
"How do i not let my pet peeves bother me too much? I find these little things that people do very irritating and this has resulted in me making very few friends in college. How do I look past these minute annoyances and just get along with people?"
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"Put things into perspective? \n\nWill this matter in 5 years - if not let it go. \nRealise the only person it bothers is you. So stop doing it to yourself! ",
"Recently on a trip to the beach while abroad i found that the Sand was rather inconvenient. When you stop and think about it there are a lot of things that can annoy the crap out of you at the beach. However i stopped my self. Sat down and admired the beauty of the beach i had travelled over 6,000 miles to see and i suddenly realised that if i let go of all the parts about the beach that annoyed me (Hot sand, Wind, Salt water) and focused on how amazing it was to be on this beach while everyone else i knew was still in rainly England and how hard i had worked to get there it was easy to ignore the annoyances and enjoy this amazing place and time. That's the real secret. Just focus on the good things and you won't have time to dwell on the bad. Hope this helps. ",
"I'm guessing you don't partake in regular physical exercise? Build a routine and stick to it. It'll change your life in ways you never imagined. Do it for you, do it for your social life.\n",
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"I find that engaging myself with that person and kind of redirecting how you interact is the best way to overcome this because it still leaves an open heart to the situation but allowing you to choose how. Say, do or ask things to this person based on only what you like and/or are passionate about. After a little time a common ground can be found, and like many have mentioned before it's important understanding and caring for those around us. Once you have found a hobby, favorite tv series, sport or anything of shared interest, it can be easier to enjoy time with that person, or at least coast through, by bringing the conversation or activity or whatever it may be, back to that similarity.\nStory: In school this one girl annoyed the piss out of me. From the way she spouted to the teacher with her nasaly voice, to her constant talk of anime, to her smell, she drove me crazy. AND! I had almost every class with her. After time though I forced myself through those barriers of judgement and realized we loved some of the same books and food and had similar home lives. I was able to let go of some of my annoyances while figuring how to have more of the enjoyable moments.",
"Hello there!\n\nTry not to worry about the small things by looking at the bigger picture. Try to not care about the thing itself, but rather the concept *around* the thing. The place it's coming from.\n\nLet's say that someone is hanging out with you and is at the same time on their cellphone looking at facebook. It isn't a serious conversation- just chilling, hanging out. But still, it's annoying that they aren't focusing on you 100%, granted. Maybe you don't know the person too well and thus don't feel you should call them out on it. So instead of getting mad internally, try to look at the bigger picture that they are coming from. At least they may be the kind of people that's very social, so they can also talk about everything. They wouldn't be the kind of person that has a lot of awkward silences, they know what to say all the time because they're always texting. Their second nature is being social! And that's cool! They would know how to have your back if you were insulted because of your choice of clothes for example, because they are very \"in\" about society in general and thus fashion. It may be that the detail itself that the person checks their phone a lot of times is annoying, granted, but the general place that it comes from it cool. \n\nAnother example: If someone is talking to you and says: \"President bush is the greatest president ever!\". You may be annoyed at it. But imagine again you don't know the person too well and the situation doesn't call for a debate, for some reason. So let them keep talking without getting mad. Think that the person is into politics, they care about the news and like discussing the state the world is in, our problems and challanges as a race, our future. The specific detail that they think Bush is the best president ever itself may be annoying to you, but the general idea that it's a part of is cool. At least they're focusing on and talking about important things.\n\nI hope that helps. Thanks all for reading. Great day to all who read this.",
"to paraphrase marcus aurelius, when angry, consider how short life is. and, when vexed by something, think not \"this is misfortune,\" but rather, \"to bear this well is good fortune.\"",
"Try studying Buddhism.\n\nIt's the practice of realizing that everyone has desires and because of those desires they are always suffering. When you eliminate desires or your perception of your own suffering, you become more at peace with yourself and those around you. You recognize that everyone is just acting in a way to avoid suffering.\n\nBasically, don't try to change your world, change the way you perceive people and yourself. Empathize with people and connect rather than seeing them as foreign entities. We're all in this together. \n\nGood luck! ",
"It depends on what exactly they are doing to irritate you. You may need to look at a different group of people that find the same things irritating. "
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"How to promote yourself without seeming boastful. I'm a photographer and often when meeting new potential clients I'm hesitant to name drop clients for fear of appearing boastful. I realize that in my industry this is a shorthand means of establishing your credibility but it irks me to do so. I'm looking for a either a way to establish my credibility without appearing boastful or a more eloquent way to name drop.",
"How to promote yourself without seeming boastful. I'm a photographer and often when meeting new potential clients I'm hesitant to name drop clients for fear of appearing boastful. I realize that in my industry this is a shorthand means of establishing your credibility but it irks me to do so. I'm looking for a either a way to establish my credibility without appearing boastful or a more eloquent way to name drop.",
"How to promote yourself without seeming boastful. I'm a photographer and often when meeting new potential clients I'm hesitant to name drop clients for fear of appearing boastful. I realize that in my industry this is a shorthand means of establishing your credibility but it irks me to do so. I'm looking for a either a way to establish my credibility without appearing boastful or a more eloquent way to name drop."
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"i believe it is all in the delivery. i am not a sales person but have successfully promoted my business to others in person / online. Maybe you can focus on how long you have been doing photography. the equipment you have. the software you use. and your portfolio.\n\nif you have a website i would be willing to take a look at it. I have been in the advertising business for about 20 years. I own my own ad agency and have hired many photographers and sub contractors. let me know",
"There isn't an eloquent way to name drop, unless you can get them to straight up ask you \"who've you worked with.\" \n\nGet them to want to hear it first, then say it. ",
"Don't describe them as past clients, call them references.\n \nThis is just off the top of my head, but if I was doubting someone and they provided me with references who just happened to be part clients, I'd probably be a lot more confident in them.\n \nBasically, the information itself isn't what creates an impression, it's the way you present that information. If you just go up to a potential client and say, \"This guys liked my shit, you will too.\" You probably wouldn't get far. But if you said, \"I have a history of satisfied customers, if you want to look into my works I have a few references I can provide.\" Then they'll probably feel more comfortable.\n \nTL;DR professional manner, big words and not being specific/stretching the truth a tiny bit."
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"Getting out/covering up COMPLETELY SET IN Sharpie stains from a white garment I've searched for this everywhere, is there fabric spray that will just cover up these stains like white paint or something?\n\nI just want to start anew with it, and the stains are completely bonded...",
"Getting out/covering up COMPLETELY SET IN Sharpie stains from a white garment I've searched for this everywhere, is there fabric spray that will just cover up these stains like white paint or something?\n\nI just want to start anew with it, and the stains are completely bonded..."
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"Hmmm... Sounds like a tough one. I guess the ole trick of going over it with a whiteboard marker won't help either. Good luck!",
"Hair spray. As stupid as it sounds, the propellants and solvents in hair spray are EXCELLENT at getting out inks. And the hair spray itself will rinse away w/o damaging the object. I have successfully used this on t-shirts and dress shirts to hard drive caddies and it has yet to fail me. Just soak the area, let it sit, and rinse it out. Repeat as necessary. I may update with pics later once I get off my butt and walk to the PC. "
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"Sprayed leather jacket with leather protector now has white marks I bought a nice leather jacket on sale last night and the lady also sold me a water resistant spray to go with it. On the directions it says just spray lightly and from 6inches away. I let it dry and after an hour it has white marks all around. How can I remove these white marks from it?",
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"You can also try spraying a bit of the spray onto the cloth. Immediately buff the white spots. The damp product often picks up the excess. ",
"The pros use a piece of lambs wool, a buffer, to rub the excess dried spray. It looks like the stuff inside a pair of ugg boots."
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"How do you prevent stress from making you an unpleasant person? I am an anxious, sensitive person. A busy day, an unexpected commitment, or a moment of disappointment can send me into panic. I want to be a composed, lovely person, but I wear my heart on my sleeve. How can I ensure that I am pleasant despite my stress?",
"How do you prevent stress from making you an unpleasant person? I am an anxious, sensitive person. A busy day, an unexpected commitment, or a moment of disappointment can send me into panic. I want to be a composed, lovely person, but I wear my heart on my sleeve. How can I ensure that I am pleasant despite my stress?",
"How do you prevent stress from making you an unpleasant person? I am an anxious, sensitive person. A busy day, an unexpected commitment, or a moment of disappointment can send me into panic. I want to be a composed, lovely person, but I wear my heart on my sleeve. How can I ensure that I am pleasant despite my stress?",
"How do you prevent stress from making you an unpleasant person? I am an anxious, sensitive person. A busy day, an unexpected commitment, or a moment of disappointment can send me into panic. I want to be a composed, lovely person, but I wear my heart on my sleeve. How can I ensure that I am pleasant despite my stress?",
"How do you prevent stress from making you an unpleasant person? I am an anxious, sensitive person. A busy day, an unexpected commitment, or a moment of disappointment can send me into panic. I want to be a composed, lovely person, but I wear my heart on my sleeve. How can I ensure that I am pleasant despite my stress?",
"How do you prevent stress from making you an unpleasant person? I am an anxious, sensitive person. A busy day, an unexpected commitment, or a moment of disappointment can send me into panic. I want to be a composed, lovely person, but I wear my heart on my sleeve. How can I ensure that I am pleasant despite my stress?"
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"I think having an outlet and knowing how to separate yourself from others is the simple answer. The tough part is mastering that",
"You need to practice and learn to not worry so much about everything, learning from stoic philosophy and approach problems practically instead of stressing about them.",
"If you tell people you are stressed then they will interpret your behaviour differently to how they would if you just act stressed.",
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"I analyze the cause of stress by asking what exactly does it effect. For example: I got pickpocketed the other day, it was $20. That could of spun me out for a few hours so I analyze it. First what is stressing me? IE. Put a story behind it..This can be the hardest part but in this case it's easy I know it's the pickpocket. Then what does it effect? Well it effects my sense of security, effects my emotions (I felt foolish) effects my pocket book -$20....then I decide if it's worth it to be stressed about? Well I can address the security by putting it in a button pocket, -$20 in pocket book is x hour work so I've lost that, feeling foolish is real but it's quantifiable to x hours work. (It's not a solution but allows me to quantify things and once the stress is quantified it has it's limits and I feel I have a grip on it)",
"Elaborated more on this concept of an \"unexpected commitment\"...\n\nHow could you possibly wind up committed to something by surprise? Commitment is something you choose, it can't be foisted upon you without your consent."
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"Would love some tips for us Texans that have been without power - some of us for 60+ hours. We know this winter storm may not seem that bad to those from cold states, but our cities aren’t built to handle this kind of weather. Any LPTs are appreciated.",
"Would love some tips for us Texans that have been without power - some of us for 60+ hours. We know this winter storm may not seem that bad to those from cold states, but our cities aren’t built to handle this kind of weather. Any LPTs are appreciated.",
"Would love some tips for us Texans that have been without power - some of us for 60+ hours. We know this winter storm may not seem that bad to those from cold states, but our cities aren’t built to handle this kind of weather. Any LPTs are appreciated.",
"Would love some tips for us Texans that have been without power - some of us for 60+ hours. We know this winter storm may not seem that bad to those from cold states, but our cities aren’t built to handle this kind of weather. Any LPTs are appreciated.",
"Would love some tips for us Texans that have been without power - some of us for 60+ hours. We know this winter storm may not seem that bad to those from cold states, but our cities aren’t built to handle this kind of weather. Any LPTs are appreciated.",
"Would love some tips for us Texans that have been without power - some of us for 60+ hours. We know this winter storm may not seem that bad to those from cold states, but our cities aren’t built to handle this kind of weather. Any LPTs are appreciated."
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"Take photos of your spoiled refrigerator food before throwing it away. Most home owners policies will pay for the replacement with proof",
"When dealing with frostbite, be sure to slowly reheat the affected area. Reheating too quickly can cause more damage.",
"Keep plenty of water on hand. Water systems rely on power as well. Just bundle up and enjoy the frontier life. Cherish the experience. Be appreciative of power when you get it back. I’m in Texas and been through this a few times.",
"You can insulate windows by putting plastic wrap over them with tape, you want to create an air pocket between the window and the plastic wrap. Cheap way to keep more heat in your home. Smaller rooms are easier to keep warm than big ones so maybe try to stay in a smaller part of the house and keep that warm instead of the whole house.",
"Leave Texas. \n\nBut really, keep in mind that ice will melt and possibly freeze over during the night, so shovel walkways if you can.",
"vote out the idiots who caused this mess in 2022. the gop in tx has been actively resisting regulations in exchange for higher profits, and we are seeing the results of this now. \n\nwhen you need to flush the toilet with no water working, don't try to fill the back, pour about a half gallon in the bowl. it uses far less water, maybe a gallon, i forgot the minimum."
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"An alternative to punching something. It started a little over 11 years ago. I'm 26 now.\nAnytime I get frustrated to the point of blowing up or when someone or something starts to anger me, it always ends up with me punching a wall, or table or whatever type of inanimate object is in front of me.\nThe fact that I punch something hard that receives a type of feedback such as pain is the key i noticed that gives me a release and I can't keep doing this. For my child's sake( she's one years old right now and I'd hate for her to grow up in a household with an angry dad that might influence her to doing it one day) and for the sake of my hand( when I was 17, I got a boxer's fraction from, you guessed it, punching walls) so to save my self any more pain that i'll regret as I got any older, I'd really like to find another alternative to punching things.\n\nDoes anyone else have or have had this type of release? And did you find yourself finding another way out? \n\nAny feedback helps! ",
"An alternative to punching something. It started a little over 11 years ago. I'm 26 now.\nAnytime I get frustrated to the point of blowing up or when someone or something starts to anger me, it always ends up with me punching a wall, or table or whatever type of inanimate object is in front of me.\nThe fact that I punch something hard that receives a type of feedback such as pain is the key i noticed that gives me a release and I can't keep doing this. For my child's sake( she's one years old right now and I'd hate for her to grow up in a household with an angry dad that might influence her to doing it one day) and for the sake of my hand( when I was 17, I got a boxer's fraction from, you guessed it, punching walls) so to save my self any more pain that i'll regret as I got any older, I'd really like to find another alternative to punching things.\n\nDoes anyone else have or have had this type of release? And did you find yourself finding another way out? \n\nAny feedback helps! ",
"An alternative to punching something. It started a little over 11 years ago. I'm 26 now.\nAnytime I get frustrated to the point of blowing up or when someone or something starts to anger me, it always ends up with me punching a wall, or table or whatever type of inanimate object is in front of me.\nThe fact that I punch something hard that receives a type of feedback such as pain is the key i noticed that gives me a release and I can't keep doing this. For my child's sake( she's one years old right now and I'd hate for her to grow up in a household with an angry dad that might influence her to doing it one day) and for the sake of my hand( when I was 17, I got a boxer's fraction from, you guessed it, punching walls) so to save my self any more pain that i'll regret as I got any older, I'd really like to find another alternative to punching things.\n\nDoes anyone else have or have had this type of release? And did you find yourself finding another way out? \n\nAny feedback helps! ",
"An alternative to punching something. It started a little over 11 years ago. I'm 26 now.\nAnytime I get frustrated to the point of blowing up or when someone or something starts to anger me, it always ends up with me punching a wall, or table or whatever type of inanimate object is in front of me.\nThe fact that I punch something hard that receives a type of feedback such as pain is the key i noticed that gives me a release and I can't keep doing this. For my child's sake( she's one years old right now and I'd hate for her to grow up in a household with an angry dad that might influence her to doing it one day) and for the sake of my hand( when I was 17, I got a boxer's fraction from, you guessed it, punching walls) so to save my self any more pain that i'll regret as I got any older, I'd really like to find another alternative to punching things.\n\nDoes anyone else have or have had this type of release? And did you find yourself finding another way out? \n\nAny feedback helps! ",
"An alternative to punching something. It started a little over 11 years ago. I'm 26 now.\nAnytime I get frustrated to the point of blowing up or when someone or something starts to anger me, it always ends up with me punching a wall, or table or whatever type of inanimate object is in front of me.\nThe fact that I punch something hard that receives a type of feedback such as pain is the key i noticed that gives me a release and I can't keep doing this. For my child's sake( she's one years old right now and I'd hate for her to grow up in a household with an angry dad that might influence her to doing it one day) and for the sake of my hand( when I was 17, I got a boxer's fraction from, you guessed it, punching walls) so to save my self any more pain that i'll regret as I got any older, I'd really like to find another alternative to punching things.\n\nDoes anyone else have or have had this type of release? And did you find yourself finding another way out? \n\nAny feedback helps! ",
"An alternative to punching something. It started a little over 11 years ago. I'm 26 now.\nAnytime I get frustrated to the point of blowing up or when someone or something starts to anger me, it always ends up with me punching a wall, or table or whatever type of inanimate object is in front of me.\nThe fact that I punch something hard that receives a type of feedback such as pain is the key i noticed that gives me a release and I can't keep doing this. For my child's sake( she's one years old right now and I'd hate for her to grow up in a household with an angry dad that might influence her to doing it one day) and for the sake of my hand( when I was 17, I got a boxer's fraction from, you guessed it, punching walls) so to save my self any more pain that i'll regret as I got any older, I'd really like to find another alternative to punching things.\n\nDoes anyone else have or have had this type of release? And did you find yourself finding another way out? \n\nAny feedback helps! ",
"An alternative to punching something. It started a little over 11 years ago. I'm 26 now.\nAnytime I get frustrated to the point of blowing up or when someone or something starts to anger me, it always ends up with me punching a wall, or table or whatever type of inanimate object is in front of me.\nThe fact that I punch something hard that receives a type of feedback such as pain is the key i noticed that gives me a release and I can't keep doing this. For my child's sake( she's one years old right now and I'd hate for her to grow up in a household with an angry dad that might influence her to doing it one day) and for the sake of my hand( when I was 17, I got a boxer's fraction from, you guessed it, punching walls) so to save my self any more pain that i'll regret as I got any older, I'd really like to find another alternative to punching things.\n\nDoes anyone else have or have had this type of release? And did you find yourself finding another way out? \n\nAny feedback helps! ",
"An alternative to punching something. It started a little over 11 years ago. I'm 26 now.\nAnytime I get frustrated to the point of blowing up or when someone or something starts to anger me, it always ends up with me punching a wall, or table or whatever type of inanimate object is in front of me.\nThe fact that I punch something hard that receives a type of feedback such as pain is the key i noticed that gives me a release and I can't keep doing this. For my child's sake( she's one years old right now and I'd hate for her to grow up in a household with an angry dad that might influence her to doing it one day) and for the sake of my hand( when I was 17, I got a boxer's fraction from, you guessed it, punching walls) so to save my self any more pain that i'll regret as I got any older, I'd really like to find another alternative to punching things.\n\nDoes anyone else have or have had this type of release? And did you find yourself finding another way out? \n\nAny feedback helps! ",
"An alternative to punching something. It started a little over 11 years ago. I'm 26 now.\nAnytime I get frustrated to the point of blowing up or when someone or something starts to anger me, it always ends up with me punching a wall, or table or whatever type of inanimate object is in front of me.\nThe fact that I punch something hard that receives a type of feedback such as pain is the key i noticed that gives me a release and I can't keep doing this. For my child's sake( she's one years old right now and I'd hate for her to grow up in a household with an angry dad that might influence her to doing it one day) and for the sake of my hand( when I was 17, I got a boxer's fraction from, you guessed it, punching walls) so to save my self any more pain that i'll regret as I got any older, I'd really like to find another alternative to punching things.\n\nDoes anyone else have or have had this type of release? And did you find yourself finding another way out? \n\nAny feedback helps! ",
"An alternative to punching something. It started a little over 11 years ago. I'm 26 now.\nAnytime I get frustrated to the point of blowing up or when someone or something starts to anger me, it always ends up with me punching a wall, or table or whatever type of inanimate object is in front of me.\nThe fact that I punch something hard that receives a type of feedback such as pain is the key i noticed that gives me a release and I can't keep doing this. For my child's sake( she's one years old right now and I'd hate for her to grow up in a household with an angry dad that might influence her to doing it one day) and for the sake of my hand( when I was 17, I got a boxer's fraction from, you guessed it, punching walls) so to save my self any more pain that i'll regret as I got any older, I'd really like to find another alternative to punching things.\n\nDoes anyone else have or have had this type of release? And did you find yourself finding another way out? \n\nAny feedback helps! ",
"An alternative to punching something. It started a little over 11 years ago. I'm 26 now.\nAnytime I get frustrated to the point of blowing up or when someone or something starts to anger me, it always ends up with me punching a wall, or table or whatever type of inanimate object is in front of me.\nThe fact that I punch something hard that receives a type of feedback such as pain is the key i noticed that gives me a release and I can't keep doing this. For my child's sake( she's one years old right now and I'd hate for her to grow up in a household with an angry dad that might influence her to doing it one day) and for the sake of my hand( when I was 17, I got a boxer's fraction from, you guessed it, punching walls) so to save my self any more pain that i'll regret as I got any older, I'd really like to find another alternative to punching things.\n\nDoes anyone else have or have had this type of release? And did you find yourself finding another way out? \n\nAny feedback helps! ",
"An alternative to punching something. It started a little over 11 years ago. I'm 26 now.\nAnytime I get frustrated to the point of blowing up or when someone or something starts to anger me, it always ends up with me punching a wall, or table or whatever type of inanimate object is in front of me.\nThe fact that I punch something hard that receives a type of feedback such as pain is the key i noticed that gives me a release and I can't keep doing this. For my child's sake( she's one years old right now and I'd hate for her to grow up in a household with an angry dad that might influence her to doing it one day) and for the sake of my hand( when I was 17, I got a boxer's fraction from, you guessed it, punching walls) so to save my self any more pain that i'll regret as I got any older, I'd really like to find another alternative to punching things.\n\nDoes anyone else have or have had this type of release? And did you find yourself finding another way out? \n\nAny feedback helps! ",
"An alternative to punching something. It started a little over 11 years ago. I'm 26 now.\nAnytime I get frustrated to the point of blowing up or when someone or something starts to anger me, it always ends up with me punching a wall, or table or whatever type of inanimate object is in front of me.\nThe fact that I punch something hard that receives a type of feedback such as pain is the key i noticed that gives me a release and I can't keep doing this. For my child's sake( she's one years old right now and I'd hate for her to grow up in a household with an angry dad that might influence her to doing it one day) and for the sake of my hand( when I was 17, I got a boxer's fraction from, you guessed it, punching walls) so to save my self any more pain that i'll regret as I got any older, I'd really like to find another alternative to punching things.\n\nDoes anyone else have or have had this type of release? And did you find yourself finding another way out? \n\nAny feedback helps! ",
"An alternative to punching something. It started a little over 11 years ago. I'm 26 now.\nAnytime I get frustrated to the point of blowing up or when someone or something starts to anger me, it always ends up with me punching a wall, or table or whatever type of inanimate object is in front of me.\nThe fact that I punch something hard that receives a type of feedback such as pain is the key i noticed that gives me a release and I can't keep doing this. For my child's sake( she's one years old right now and I'd hate for her to grow up in a household with an angry dad that might influence her to doing it one day) and for the sake of my hand( when I was 17, I got a boxer's fraction from, you guessed it, punching walls) so to save my self any more pain that i'll regret as I got any older, I'd really like to find another alternative to punching things.\n\nDoes anyone else have or have had this type of release? And did you find yourself finding another way out? \n\nAny feedback helps! ",
"An alternative to punching something. It started a little over 11 years ago. I'm 26 now.\nAnytime I get frustrated to the point of blowing up or when someone or something starts to anger me, it always ends up with me punching a wall, or table or whatever type of inanimate object is in front of me.\nThe fact that I punch something hard that receives a type of feedback such as pain is the key i noticed that gives me a release and I can't keep doing this. For my child's sake( she's one years old right now and I'd hate for her to grow up in a household with an angry dad that might influence her to doing it one day) and for the sake of my hand( when I was 17, I got a boxer's fraction from, you guessed it, punching walls) so to save my self any more pain that i'll regret as I got any older, I'd really like to find another alternative to punching things.\n\nDoes anyone else have or have had this type of release? And did you find yourself finding another way out? \n\nAny feedback helps! ",
"An alternative to punching something. It started a little over 11 years ago. I'm 26 now.\nAnytime I get frustrated to the point of blowing up or when someone or something starts to anger me, it always ends up with me punching a wall, or table or whatever type of inanimate object is in front of me.\nThe fact that I punch something hard that receives a type of feedback such as pain is the key i noticed that gives me a release and I can't keep doing this. For my child's sake( she's one years old right now and I'd hate for her to grow up in a household with an angry dad that might influence her to doing it one day) and for the sake of my hand( when I was 17, I got a boxer's fraction from, you guessed it, punching walls) so to save my self any more pain that i'll regret as I got any older, I'd really like to find another alternative to punching things.\n\nDoes anyone else have or have had this type of release? And did you find yourself finding another way out? \n\nAny feedback helps! "
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"Hi man. Not to be blunt but the problem you have isn't finding an alternative to punching something, the problem you have is your anger getting to the point where punching something feels like the only option. Once you're at that point there really isn't a \"healthy\" release, at best you're going to leave the room in a huff and get away from whatever the problem is and even that is damaging to relationships if its frequent.\n\nI would recommend talking to a therapist honestly, but I know that isn't an option for some people or an easy choice for others. Barring that, work on recognizing your anger earlier in the process. The earlier you recognize your anger the easier it will be to deal with. Just a bit before punching is walking away. A bit before that is taking long deep breaths. A bit before that is having open conversation about the problem causing the anger, which is how things actually get fixed.",
"Behavioral studies have shown that punching something, even an inanimate object, does not truly relieve anger. What you need is therapy for anger management so that you learn how to deal with your anger in ways that don't involve punching things. This is even more important now that you're supposed to be a role model for your daughter.",
"You need to figure out WHY you are getting angry.\n\nMy dad was an angry asshole (apparently... I don't remember much, only what my mum told me so it may be a bit one sided) and I vowed to try to never get angry. I do quite well.\nI think \"mindfulness\" is the term for how I deal with shit. I think of how I look from outside, how my actions could be taken and how I could do it better.\nAnger isn't going to help with anything. Calm, rational thought about what is making you angry WILL help. Then you can change what is making you angry.\nIt's the same with stress. I really try not to get stressed.\nThere are 2 things that people stress about. Things you can change and things you can't.\nFor the things you can change, stop stressing about it and get off your ass and CHANGE IT! It may not be easy, but stressing about it isn't going to help.\nFor things you can't change, stop stressing about it. You can't do anything to change it. Why worry. It's like worrying about the earth being hit by a meteor. It may happen, but you can't change it. If you can change it, see above! Again, it's not easy, but stressing about it won't help.",
"Tearing up paper. Just buy a newspaper everyday and leave one or two about and tear them up when you're mad. Also rolling them up and smacking a table might also be good. It'll save your hands and furniture.",
"Maybe get a hand trainer With a high weight resistance so you can relieve Some of the stress. Go for a run and run the stress away.",
"I used to be like that too. I put a ton of effort into m",
"I have had major issues with this in the past. Listen to or read Pema Chodron's Don't Bite the Hook over and over. You begin to replace the action with self control and the anger subsides more quickly without action. Saved my walls and my skin. ",
"aside from anger help, punch softer things - like a pillow or even buy a boxing bag to hang in the garage, then you can use that",
"Write. Like write whatever you want about whoever you want. Cuss anyone out as much as you want. Then burn the page. \n\nIts quite cathartic.",
"Instead of punching something, pull something. \n\nUse your aggression, take it to the gym and work it out. You'll end up looking good, and feeling relieved. Doing that helped me lose almost 100 lbs in the past.",
"I've taken up hissing. Instead of punch thing, channel all that energy into a hiss. Hisssss...\n\nYes, it makes me look like a weirdo, but I'd rather look like a weirdo than a violent lunatic.",
"I used to punch the tree in my yard since I could do it multiple times and wouldnt make a loud bang like a wall or desk. My girlfriend really helped me get rid of that anger. Sometimes if something is repetitive it gets to the point where I think about hitting something. But after the damage I did as a kid, I always know I'll regret it if I do actually hit something.",
"I used to do that, now I honestly just let it go, or remove myself from the situation. But, if I were you I would work out until the burn is too much to handle. It would be a great example for your daughter (Less angry, physically fit father) to remind her that she shouldn't get upset to that point that if she has something that's pissing her the fuck off, she'll remember you and how you kept your anger under control for her and did everything you could to make it a happy household.",
"I suggest you pick up a sport, exercise is a great way to be more relaxed. martial arts gym are great, don't think that you cant join one because you're an adult. we're a super friendly and welcoming community.",
"Buy a 2x4, a hammer and some nails. When you get angry, go hammer in some nails. Better yet, teach yourself woodworking and use your aggression to make something. \n\nI did the reverse. I took apart a fence during my teenage angst years. ",
"A blacksmith from r/blacksmithing makes [Rage Flowers](http://imgur.com/4MU5Ip7).\n\nBlacksmithing can be very cathartic."
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"How to control short bursts of anger, for example getting mad at a video game after dying or failing a lot. I have broken 3 game controllers, none passed the point of being unusable , but I am tired of risking crossing that point anymore and I just don't have the money to replace Xbox controllers left and right. I want to still be able to play games and enjoy them without getting so mad.",
"How to control short bursts of anger, for example getting mad at a video game after dying or failing a lot. I have broken 3 game controllers, none passed the point of being unusable , but I am tired of risking crossing that point anymore and I just don't have the money to replace Xbox controllers left and right. I want to still be able to play games and enjoy them without getting so mad.",
"How to control short bursts of anger, for example getting mad at a video game after dying or failing a lot. I have broken 3 game controllers, none passed the point of being unusable , but I am tired of risking crossing that point anymore and I just don't have the money to replace Xbox controllers left and right. I want to still be able to play games and enjoy them without getting so mad.",
"How to control short bursts of anger, for example getting mad at a video game after dying or failing a lot. I have broken 3 game controllers, none passed the point of being unusable , but I am tired of risking crossing that point anymore and I just don't have the money to replace Xbox controllers left and right. I want to still be able to play games and enjoy them without getting so mad.",
"How to control short bursts of anger, for example getting mad at a video game after dying or failing a lot. I have broken 3 game controllers, none passed the point of being unusable , but I am tired of risking crossing that point anymore and I just don't have the money to replace Xbox controllers left and right. I want to still be able to play games and enjoy them without getting so mad.",
"How to control short bursts of anger, for example getting mad at a video game after dying or failing a lot. I have broken 3 game controllers, none passed the point of being unusable , but I am tired of risking crossing that point anymore and I just don't have the money to replace Xbox controllers left and right. I want to still be able to play games and enjoy them without getting so mad.",
"How to control short bursts of anger, for example getting mad at a video game after dying or failing a lot. I have broken 3 game controllers, none passed the point of being unusable , but I am tired of risking crossing that point anymore and I just don't have the money to replace Xbox controllers left and right. I want to still be able to play games and enjoy them without getting so mad.",
"How to control short bursts of anger, for example getting mad at a video game after dying or failing a lot. I have broken 3 game controllers, none passed the point of being unusable , but I am tired of risking crossing that point anymore and I just don't have the money to replace Xbox controllers left and right. I want to still be able to play games and enjoy them without getting so mad."
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"Just remind yourself that it's just a game. None of it actually matters. It doesn't matter whatsoever if you die or not. It's just a game, and it's there to entertain you, it's for your enjoyment.",
"It's cliché but whenever you get that urge, try taking a deep breath and counting to 10 before doing anything.",
"Step away from whatever is angering you. I know it's annoying and you just want to get past a certain point/do better, but take a while to cool off. Turn off the game and go do something for a few hours. Read a book, watch TV, work on homework or something... just step away to cool off for a while and come back later. ",
"Self control takes practice. Practice on occasion doing things that make you angry with the focus on how you handle the anger. Right now is just nature and instinct to convert that energy into something physical. Learn that you have control and can make decisions on how you want to channel your anger. Easier said than done. It takes time and practice. But wanting to change your behavior is a good sign that your on the right track. ",
"Racket or tennis balls help a lot: they work as squeezey stress balls and you can throw them at a wall till your calm without really hurting anything, and they bounce right back so you can keep going.",
"I used to have this problem too. I think it may be a result of other general stresses in your life, and you take it out in this way. For example, you are at stress level 9 and a small thing brings you to the melting point. Also, I found that antidepressant medication helped me. (I do have clinical depression.) Of course that may not at all be the case, or be helpful for you.",
"Threw the laptop at the wall once when I had aces beaten by kings. Luckily it only broke the power cord at it was still attached and landed on the sofa. Had to replace that before the wife noticed. Lost £200.00 on that hand plus 15 Quid on a new cable.",
"This exact problem is what pushed me to up and quit video games. The fleeting comfort games gave me were ultimately not worth the anger."
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"What to talk about with a group of people you just met in order to come across as charming/memorable. Going on my first press trip as a journalist and will be meeting many other writers and PR people, not sure what to bring up that's not awkward or generic/boring.",
"What to talk about with a group of people you just met in order to come across as charming/memorable. Going on my first press trip as a journalist and will be meeting many other writers and PR people, not sure what to bring up that's not awkward or generic/boring.",
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"Just a small tip, but tends to work wonders. Don't talk much, ask a lot and don't be afraid to make benign joking remarks. This sets you up as a pleasant person.\n\n\nBut if you really want to make an impression, talk about something you are *really* passionate about. This always shows, you'll more than likely be more versed in the subject than others and (if it is not something creepy, this needs to be stated on Reddit) they will definitely remember you as the fellow who was really into that thing. This creates an impression of a positive, passionate person actively pursuing a goal. \n\nSource: About 12 years of first hand experience in first contact social situations with total strangers.",
"I'm in journalism. Trust me, ask questions about what they do and listen to its awesomeness. People want to talk about themselves (for the most part, but especially if they have something to say.). Listen to what they have to say, ask follow-up questions, and be in awe or, at least, supportive in what they have to share. GL!",
"In my social psychology course earlier this year we learned of something called the effort justification effect (or something like that) and the idea of it is that people need to justify why they do somethings so if you ask them to do a favor of something for you their justification for the effort they put into that favor might be that they like you and want to be your friend or like you more."
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"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help.",
"How do I keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode while flying? Every time I fly, the ascent and descent kill me. Especially the descent. My ears have the constant feeling that they need to pop. There's a ton of pressure behind my ear drums and it hurts.\n\nAll of this magnifies if I am even slightly stuffy.\n\nPlease help."
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"My eardrum ruptured on a flight about ten years ago. I fly regularly and always had pain. The ENT gave me advice which has helped since. \n\n1. Starting the day before flying, regularly use a nasal decongestant according to instructions, through to landing. I'm in the UK and use Otrivine (Xylometazoline hydrochloride)\n\n2. When pressure builds, pinch your nose and try to blow air out it. It takes a little effort and feels like I'm going to send my eyes flying out of my head, then there's a little pop of pain followed by glorious relief. I usually only have to do it once or twice. My left ear pops first, then my right a few seconds later. \n\nI also suck on Halls or other menthol drops to open everything up. ",
"Look into EarPlanes. They are disposable earplug-like things that use filters to make the pressure change more gradual and easier to adjust to. ",
"I got this. You can thank me later. \"Ear planes\". About $10 in the USA. I don't fly without them. I would not fly at all if I had not learned about them. Seriously, that important",
"Close you mouth and squeeze your nose shut. Then try to blow air out of your nose. Since its sealed shut you should be able to feel your eardrum push out. ",
"Hey I am a flight engineer and fly all the time. The military teaches us to 'valsava' or pop your ears. You can do this many ways and this is why people say to chew gum or whatever, they are trying to induce this ear popping effect.\n\nYou can do it pretty easily by holding your nose and forcing air out of your ears. This will equalize the pressure and head exploding feeling will be gone. You may have to do this a couple of times on decent. ",
"In addition to the suggestions about how to pop your ears: [Guaifenesin](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Guaifenesin) is your friend. ",
"I have the same problem, and I cannot pop my ears. I use pseudoephedrine, which I have to get through my doctor now (used to be available on the shelf), and have used it for this problem for over 10 years.\n\nIt works like a charm. I take 60mg 30-60 minutes before flying and I haven't had a problem once. Hope that helps.",
"I flew once from PA to Alaska with a minor cold. I was a little sniffly but that was about it.\nDuring the descent I couldn't get my ears to pop. By the time we landed I was in tears from the pain. I also couldn't hear properly out of my right ear when we landed. Yeah, it sucked big time.\n\nThat was eight years ago and I still struggle with flying. I also scuba dive and I've started having trouble with my descents as well.\n\nThis is what works for me:\n\n1. Take a decongestant for a few days leading up to the flight. I do this even if I don't have a cold. I know over medicating and blah blah blah but it helps.\nAlso don't use qtips for a couple days leading up to the flight. Your ears need some ear wax.\n\n2. Buy gum, a drink (preferably bubbly to help you burp), tissues, and ear plugs to take on the plane with you.\n\n3. Put the ear plugs in BEFORE the plane is pressurized. If you wait until you're in the air they won't work. Keep the ear plugs in for the whole flight.\n\n4. If you still have problems equalizing the pressure try sipping your drink, gently blowing your nose, yawning, or chewing gum. \n\nSomething that works for me both flying and diving is to gently pinch my nose. The way to do this is to put your fore fingers on either side of your nostrils an squeeze your nose close. At the same time keep your elbows up and out. They should be up parallel to your shoulders. Don't hunch your neck, sit up straight. This position helps me pop my ears. Just remember to blow very gently out the nose when you're doing this. Don't blow too hard.\n\n\nGood luck!\n",
"While I haven't had as much experience as others on flying, what usually helps me is keeping my mouth open during the ascent and descent of the plane. Basically what I do during that time is keep my mouth open like I'm about to yawn. Whenever you feel like there's been a significant change in the air pressure, just make yourself yawn (which will get easier as you practice). You'll feel your inner ear kind of open up and that adjusts the pressure within your ear. As you keep doing this, you'll ebentually realize that opening your mouth big enough will adjust the pressure. \n\nSo keep your mouth open during ascent and descent and yawn a lot. Practice will teach you how to adjust your ear pressure. And it's free.",
"Strangely enough, for me it's keeping my mouth open an inch or two while the plane is taking off or landing. It doesn't completely remove the feeling, but it feels a lot better. I honestly have no idea why it works for me, but it does! Hope this helps in some way.",
"One thing I learnt the hard way. Never ever fly when you have flu. It's like you're being tortured for the whole duration of the flight. That is why pilots are strictly prohibited to operate if they caught flu. ",
"To elaborate on the pinch nose/blow out technique:\n\nWhen scuba diving, every 10 feet one goes down, the pressure needs to be equalized in the ears. This is achieved by pinching closed both nostrils, and gently attempting to blow air through the closed nostrils, which equalizes the pressure on the ears. This can keep being done the deeper one goes but MUST BE DONE. \n\nWorks same way on airplanes. As you begin to land, the further you go down, the more you have to equalize the ears. Pinch closed both nostrils, and GENTLY attempt to blow air through the closed nostrils, and it will instantly equalize the pressure on your ears. Yawning and stretching the back of the jaw and throat also helps as some have suggested. \n\nIt is very important to not blow too hard when doing this or you can damage your ears. You start off vey gently and slowly build pressure till you feel the release. If you find yourself blowing too hard, turning red, eyes about to burst out of your head - stop immediately as something isn't being done right.\n\nAlso if you're sick or congested this may not help and you may blow too hard in vein thinking something isn't working so be mindful of that. \n\nYou can practice in the deep end of a swimming pool. Go to bottom of pool and you'll feel the pressure in your ears. Pinch and blow - and you'll feel them equalize. Just remember - be very gentle. \n\nMaster this technique, and you'll own that shit. \n\nTL;DR - Pinch nostrils, attempt to blow outward through nose very gently, and pressure will equalize in ears. (Scuba diving technique). Be very gentle or will damage ear drums. ",
"This won't help with the pressure but it helps with the carsick feeling I get. Aim the air vent above you at your face. The cool air helps me relax",
"The pressure is due to the fact the internal air pressure in your ear is not the same as the external environment. There is a cavity filled with air behind the ear drum. The pressure of the air in this area is regulated by a tube (auditory tube) that leads from the middle ear into the pharynx. This opens when there is a large pressure difference so the air can equilibrate. \n\nThis tube can also be opened by certain voluntary actions such as yawning, chewing, swallowing, etc. and is the reason why those methods work to pop your ears. You are just equalizing the pressure difference. If those actions do not work and it still remains painful (not natural) this might be something better brought up to your physician or an ENT.",
"The motion you make when yawning helps me equalize the pressure. But its sometimes not possible if I have a cold.",
"Ive suffered with problems with my ears all my life and this used to be a major problem for me, to the point where I dreaded flying. I tried sipping water to relieve the pressure but what finally worked was to chew gum for the entire ascent or descent. It manipulates your eustachian tubes and allows an the pressure to equalize easier.",
"I've had similar problems and recently tried EarPlanes for a flight to Australia. They're a bit uncomfortable but significantly reduced the pain I usually experience during the descent. My ears didn't feel \"clogged\" after the flight either. Definitely worth a try for ~$8. ",
"I used to do sessions in a hyperbaric oxygen tank, and they recommended trying to yawn (difficult, I know) and swallowing hard. Both have helped me while flying.",
"I use a combination of several ideas from this thread. First is use of a decongestant combined with guaifenesin. My preferred decongestent is pseudephedrine, sold as Sudafed, and guaifenesin is sold as Mucinex. The two together will open up the most plugged sinuses and eustachian tubes. \n\nAdd in chewing gum during ascent and descent, and you are golden.\n\nGum almost always works like a charm on crying children, too. If you fly with little kids, it's a good idea to prep them with this formula before the flight and a little while before the descent, if it's a long flight.",
"I start chewing gum as soon as I sit right before takeoff and until you reach full altitude. I either keep the gum if its a short flight, or start to chew another piece as soon as they announce we are starting to decent and I continue to chew until landed. Helps tremendously!",
"I have the same problem. I just flew recently after years of being afraid to, and my ENT just told me to do two things. One, take Sudafed a couple hours before your flight and take them all day as detailed on the box. I took two every four hours until my last plane landed. Two, take Afrin nasal spray when you take the first dose of Sudafed. For the first time in my life, flying was easy. I had some gum but didn't even need it, ears just didn't need to pop. Hope you can find a solution that works for you!",
"I have a lot of experience flying. The key is to work your jaw a lot. Chew gum, yawn over and over again (my preferred method), or just open and close your mouth repeatedly (make sure you open your mouth as widely as possible - I have TMJ so this method isn't viable for me personally). I believe this works because when you open your jaw it allows air to move through your sinuses allow the pressure behind your eardrums to equalize. Don't quote me on that, though. I'm not a scientist, just a frequent traveler!",
"I had some water stuck in my ear once for months. Turns out that for me tugging outwardly (not up or down) on my earlobe will expose some of the chambers. Oh, the relief",
"I fly rather frequently, and I have found the best method for me is to yawn. Once, when flying to South Africa, I got barotrauma in my ears, and yawning didn't work anymore. I just couldn't hear for a few days. I hate it too! I'll have to try these Earplanes people are talking about!",
"I always use Afrin a really strong nasal decongestant spray before I fly. It helps clear my sinuses out and makes the flight more bearable.",
"Do you know how if you hold your nose and mouth shut when you sneeze, all the pressure goes to your ears?\n\nBasically, do that, but in a controlled manner so that you don't blow out your eardrums.",
"Chew gum. It will trigger your swallowing reflex, which pops your eardrums and equalizes the pressure.\n\nOn the way down, you can also pinch your nose and blow out through it to pop them.",
"Whenever that happens to me on a plane, I try and swallow as much as I can. Weirdly enough, it works for me. ",
"Get your ears syringed. This solved the problem for me and you can hear EVERYTHING as an added bonus. Feels nice too. "
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"How can I make reading easy? I used to read a lot as a child, but now my mental health/memory problems make reading feel impossible! the title is quite explanatory! i used to like to read but since i’ve gotten older and developed mental health problems i’ve had lots of issues with concentration, motivation, and just general functioning; a side effect of my medication has also been memory loss. when i read i feel like i have to read the passage five times over sometimes and that nothing goes in, i have so many books at home that i want to read but i don’t even know how to start considering each time i try i struggle! \n\nwhether it’s playing certain music, using a kindle, listening to audio books, or anything else random that helps you - i would really like to hear about it! i don’t know if i have the money for an audio book subscription or anything like that really, but i am happy to consider anything :)",
"How can I make reading easy? I used to read a lot as a child, but now my mental health/memory problems make reading feel impossible! the title is quite explanatory! i used to like to read but since i’ve gotten older and developed mental health problems i’ve had lots of issues with concentration, motivation, and just general functioning; a side effect of my medication has also been memory loss. when i read i feel like i have to read the passage five times over sometimes and that nothing goes in, i have so many books at home that i want to read but i don’t even know how to start considering each time i try i struggle! \n\nwhether it’s playing certain music, using a kindle, listening to audio books, or anything else random that helps you - i would really like to hear about it! i don’t know if i have the money for an audio book subscription or anything like that really, but i am happy to consider anything :)",
"How can I make reading easy? I used to read a lot as a child, but now my mental health/memory problems make reading feel impossible! the title is quite explanatory! i used to like to read but since i’ve gotten older and developed mental health problems i’ve had lots of issues with concentration, motivation, and just general functioning; a side effect of my medication has also been memory loss. when i read i feel like i have to read the passage five times over sometimes and that nothing goes in, i have so many books at home that i want to read but i don’t even know how to start considering each time i try i struggle! \n\nwhether it’s playing certain music, using a kindle, listening to audio books, or anything else random that helps you - i would really like to hear about it! i don’t know if i have the money for an audio book subscription or anything like that really, but i am happy to consider anything :)",
"How can I make reading easy? I used to read a lot as a child, but now my mental health/memory problems make reading feel impossible! the title is quite explanatory! i used to like to read but since i’ve gotten older and developed mental health problems i’ve had lots of issues with concentration, motivation, and just general functioning; a side effect of my medication has also been memory loss. when i read i feel like i have to read the passage five times over sometimes and that nothing goes in, i have so many books at home that i want to read but i don’t even know how to start considering each time i try i struggle! \n\nwhether it’s playing certain music, using a kindle, listening to audio books, or anything else random that helps you - i would really like to hear about it! i don’t know if i have the money for an audio book subscription or anything like that really, but i am happy to consider anything :)",
"How can I make reading easy? I used to read a lot as a child, but now my mental health/memory problems make reading feel impossible! the title is quite explanatory! i used to like to read but since i’ve gotten older and developed mental health problems i’ve had lots of issues with concentration, motivation, and just general functioning; a side effect of my medication has also been memory loss. when i read i feel like i have to read the passage five times over sometimes and that nothing goes in, i have so many books at home that i want to read but i don’t even know how to start considering each time i try i struggle! \n\nwhether it’s playing certain music, using a kindle, listening to audio books, or anything else random that helps you - i would really like to hear about it! i don’t know if i have the money for an audio book subscription or anything like that really, but i am happy to consider anything :)",
"How can I make reading easy? I used to read a lot as a child, but now my mental health/memory problems make reading feel impossible! the title is quite explanatory! i used to like to read but since i’ve gotten older and developed mental health problems i’ve had lots of issues with concentration, motivation, and just general functioning; a side effect of my medication has also been memory loss. when i read i feel like i have to read the passage five times over sometimes and that nothing goes in, i have so many books at home that i want to read but i don’t even know how to start considering each time i try i struggle! \n\nwhether it’s playing certain music, using a kindle, listening to audio books, or anything else random that helps you - i would really like to hear about it! i don’t know if i have the money for an audio book subscription or anything like that really, but i am happy to consider anything :)",
"How can I make reading easy? I used to read a lot as a child, but now my mental health/memory problems make reading feel impossible! the title is quite explanatory! i used to like to read but since i’ve gotten older and developed mental health problems i’ve had lots of issues with concentration, motivation, and just general functioning; a side effect of my medication has also been memory loss. when i read i feel like i have to read the passage five times over sometimes and that nothing goes in, i have so many books at home that i want to read but i don’t even know how to start considering each time i try i struggle! \n\nwhether it’s playing certain music, using a kindle, listening to audio books, or anything else random that helps you - i would really like to hear about it! i don’t know if i have the money for an audio book subscription or anything like that really, but i am happy to consider anything :)",
"How can I make reading easy? I used to read a lot as a child, but now my mental health/memory problems make reading feel impossible! the title is quite explanatory! i used to like to read but since i’ve gotten older and developed mental health problems i’ve had lots of issues with concentration, motivation, and just general functioning; a side effect of my medication has also been memory loss. when i read i feel like i have to read the passage five times over sometimes and that nothing goes in, i have so many books at home that i want to read but i don’t even know how to start considering each time i try i struggle! \n\nwhether it’s playing certain music, using a kindle, listening to audio books, or anything else random that helps you - i would really like to hear about it! i don’t know if i have the money for an audio book subscription or anything like that really, but i am happy to consider anything :)"
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"You could listen to an audiobook while reading along.\n\nThat way you get double reinforcement when full focus and when yiu zone out atleast the audiobook keeps going.\n\nI personally go full audiobook all the time unless it's a non-fiction subject I'm particularly interested in",
"After my son was born (10 years ago), I went from being a pretty avid reader to completely giving it up. On occasion, I would buy a book, start reading the first few pages and then never pick it up again. I really wanted to read but lots of excuses came in the way - anxiety, no time, can’t focus etc. Anyhow, I got a subscription with one of the library’s on Libby and did a TON of research on which book to read first. I picked a subject that interested me which is crime fiction and found a book that was highly rated. I promised myself that I would read it cover to cover. I actually did it! I read it with the iPad which I found amazing because if you don’t understand a word, you can just highlight it and it gives you a definition. I also would read on my back deck during the summer which was also a great help. After the first book, it became easier and easier to finish books. Now I read all the time again. I hope this helps",
"Maybe you could try books for kids? I know it may sound boring for an adult, but in fact there are plenty of interesting reading for the age 6 to 10 - I know for sure because I read a lot to my daughter. Or maybe you can think of a particularly interesting book you remember from your childhood? \n\nI'm not a healthcare worker, but it seems to me that some easy reading would help your brain get used to it once again. Good luck, and also I want you to know that I like your persistence very much ^^",
"Maybe find someone to read with/to. And read books you enjoyed before. I used to get in trouble for staying up reading instead of sleeping, but now reading is almost a chore. Needless to say . I don't really read much anymore, but these are the things that helped me.",
"If you want to make reading easy you should make than an habit. Do it everyday.\nSomething you can try is reading with a friend who likes reading. They can recommend to you what to read and you can read the same book. That’ll make things much more fun because you can talk with them about the book. This is what I’ve been trying to do with my boyfriend, each day we both read a chapter or two. I hope this can help.",
"I use to have the issue where I’d have to re-read the same passage multiple times. Years ago, I was listening to a podcast that gave tips for how to become a better reader and with practice, they definitely helped me. \n\nUse your finger to underline each word as you’re reading it and don’t read a book you’re not enjoying it. \n\nThose two tips helped me so much and with practice, I was able to start reading a book a week. \n\nAlso, listening to some lofi beats or something calming helps me too.",
"I completely understand what you mean. People so often talk about reading as being relaxing, but some people can't read unless they are relaxed. Which is never for many. I spend hours trying to find a book, and still can't seem to find exactly what I'd like. \n\nHowever, I've decided that I WILL read this year. I set up a Goodreads account because it adds an element of peer pressure. \n\nMaybe try some young adult fiction? I recommend Neil Gaiman's YA books. Engaging, easy to follow, not very long. Shorter books build up the rewarding sense of accomplishment for me.\n\nVery best of luck!",
"A lot of other people have suggested these, but it doesn't hurt to repeat them.\n\nStart small. Even children's books with pictures or short chapters. I read some classic Goosebumps books.\n\nTry other media. Audiobooks, graphic novels, manga, comic collections.\n\nBorrow e-books from your local library. I'm going through a few things that were on my back burner. \n\nWhat really got my student interested was one-on-one guided reading. She didn't like reading as a high school student because she was slow. I loaned her a book, based on previous interests, and when she had questions about what was going on, I could answer them. Sometimes I'd read with the voices and expression, then pause and explain things that weren't obvious to her. (Sandry's Book, Circle of Magic series, Tamora Pierce - very heavy world building.)\n\nShe ended up aceing a book report with it, and took my suggestion for another series - Dealing with Dragons, The Enchanted Forest series, Patricia Wrede. If you're into fairy tales, I highly recommend it. It's a very tongue-in-cheek take on traditional fairy tales.\n\nSo if you've got a friend, consider asking them to read to/with you. Pretty sure there are volunteer organizations out there too."
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"for new contact lenses wearer I just got contacts after wearing glasses for over 10 years.\n\nIt isn't uncomfortable, but I definitely notice them in my eyes when I blink, and I am blinking a lot more than usual. Is this normal?\n\nAny tips for adjusting to contacts and staying hygienic? Should I use rewetting drops liberally?\n\nWhat solutions are recommended for Acuvue Oasys?",
"for new contact lenses wearer I just got contacts after wearing glasses for over 10 years.\n\nIt isn't uncomfortable, but I definitely notice them in my eyes when I blink, and I am blinking a lot more than usual. Is this normal?\n\nAny tips for adjusting to contacts and staying hygienic? Should I use rewetting drops liberally?\n\nWhat solutions are recommended for Acuvue Oasys?",
"for new contact lenses wearer I just got contacts after wearing glasses for over 10 years.\n\nIt isn't uncomfortable, but I definitely notice them in my eyes when I blink, and I am blinking a lot more than usual. Is this normal?\n\nAny tips for adjusting to contacts and staying hygienic? Should I use rewetting drops liberally?\n\nWhat solutions are recommended for Acuvue Oasys?",
"for new contact lenses wearer I just got contacts after wearing glasses for over 10 years.\n\nIt isn't uncomfortable, but I definitely notice them in my eyes when I blink, and I am blinking a lot more than usual. Is this normal?\n\nAny tips for adjusting to contacts and staying hygienic? Should I use rewetting drops liberally?\n\nWhat solutions are recommended for Acuvue Oasys?",
"for new contact lenses wearer I just got contacts after wearing glasses for over 10 years.\n\nIt isn't uncomfortable, but I definitely notice them in my eyes when I blink, and I am blinking a lot more than usual. Is this normal?\n\nAny tips for adjusting to contacts and staying hygienic? Should I use rewetting drops liberally?\n\nWhat solutions are recommended for Acuvue Oasys?",
"for new contact lenses wearer I just got contacts after wearing glasses for over 10 years.\n\nIt isn't uncomfortable, but I definitely notice them in my eyes when I blink, and I am blinking a lot more than usual. Is this normal?\n\nAny tips for adjusting to contacts and staying hygienic? Should I use rewetting drops liberally?\n\nWhat solutions are recommended for Acuvue Oasys?",
"for new contact lenses wearer I just got contacts after wearing glasses for over 10 years.\n\nIt isn't uncomfortable, but I definitely notice them in my eyes when I blink, and I am blinking a lot more than usual. Is this normal?\n\nAny tips for adjusting to contacts and staying hygienic? Should I use rewetting drops liberally?\n\nWhat solutions are recommended for Acuvue Oasys?",
"for new contact lenses wearer I just got contacts after wearing glasses for over 10 years.\n\nIt isn't uncomfortable, but I definitely notice them in my eyes when I blink, and I am blinking a lot more than usual. Is this normal?\n\nAny tips for adjusting to contacts and staying hygienic? Should I use rewetting drops liberally?\n\nWhat solutions are recommended for Acuvue Oasys?",
"for new contact lenses wearer I just got contacts after wearing glasses for over 10 years.\n\nIt isn't uncomfortable, but I definitely notice them in my eyes when I blink, and I am blinking a lot more than usual. Is this normal?\n\nAny tips for adjusting to contacts and staying hygienic? Should I use rewetting drops liberally?\n\nWhat solutions are recommended for Acuvue Oasys?",
"for new contact lenses wearer I just got contacts after wearing glasses for over 10 years.\n\nIt isn't uncomfortable, but I definitely notice them in my eyes when I blink, and I am blinking a lot more than usual. Is this normal?\n\nAny tips for adjusting to contacts and staying hygienic? Should I use rewetting drops liberally?\n\nWhat solutions are recommended for Acuvue Oasys?",
"for new contact lenses wearer I just got contacts after wearing glasses for over 10 years.\n\nIt isn't uncomfortable, but I definitely notice them in my eyes when I blink, and I am blinking a lot more than usual. Is this normal?\n\nAny tips for adjusting to contacts and staying hygienic? Should I use rewetting drops liberally?\n\nWhat solutions are recommended for Acuvue Oasys?",
"for new contact lenses wearer I just got contacts after wearing glasses for over 10 years.\n\nIt isn't uncomfortable, but I definitely notice them in my eyes when I blink, and I am blinking a lot more than usual. Is this normal?\n\nAny tips for adjusting to contacts and staying hygienic? Should I use rewetting drops liberally?\n\nWhat solutions are recommended for Acuvue Oasys?",
"for new contact lenses wearer I just got contacts after wearing glasses for over 10 years.\n\nIt isn't uncomfortable, but I definitely notice them in my eyes when I blink, and I am blinking a lot more than usual. Is this normal?\n\nAny tips for adjusting to contacts and staying hygienic? Should I use rewetting drops liberally?\n\nWhat solutions are recommended for Acuvue Oasys?",
"for new contact lenses wearer I just got contacts after wearing glasses for over 10 years.\n\nIt isn't uncomfortable, but I definitely notice them in my eyes when I blink, and I am blinking a lot more than usual. Is this normal?\n\nAny tips for adjusting to contacts and staying hygienic? Should I use rewetting drops liberally?\n\nWhat solutions are recommended for Acuvue Oasys?",
"for new contact lenses wearer I just got contacts after wearing glasses for over 10 years.\n\nIt isn't uncomfortable, but I definitely notice them in my eyes when I blink, and I am blinking a lot more than usual. Is this normal?\n\nAny tips for adjusting to contacts and staying hygienic? Should I use rewetting drops liberally?\n\nWhat solutions are recommended for Acuvue Oasys?",
"for new contact lenses wearer I just got contacts after wearing glasses for over 10 years.\n\nIt isn't uncomfortable, but I definitely notice them in my eyes when I blink, and I am blinking a lot more than usual. Is this normal?\n\nAny tips for adjusting to contacts and staying hygienic? Should I use rewetting drops liberally?\n\nWhat solutions are recommended for Acuvue Oasys?"
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"Couple of tips that I'm sure are also echoed in the comments:\n\n* Always wash your hands before touching the contacts, even just to adjust them. If you can't do this for whatever reason, then either a) adjust them with your eyelid closed, but VERY GENTLY (see below about rubbing hard) or b) rinse your fingertips with solution first. LPT: get a small bottle of solution you can carry in your pocket like eye drops and consider it an essential item just like your phone or keys.\n\n* If you drop one on the floor or whatever and it takes you more than a minute or two to find it, just use a new one. Once they've dried out even just a little bit they tend to warp and become very uncomfortable.\n\n* When you put them in, hold your eye open with the hand on the same side of your body, put the contact on the very tip of your opposite finger, and hold it up to your eye so it's right in front of your pupil. Then look just to the side of the contact so you don't directly touch your pupil putting it in. When you get it in contact with your eye, rub it back and forth one or two times to make sure it's properly seated, then close your eye halfway before pulling your finger away so it doesn't stay stuck to your finger. You also want your fingers to be dry, including the one you have the contact on. Try to keep the solution off of the finger you're using, because it will make the contact want to stick to your finger.\n\n* Don't rub your eyes hard, can confirm that you will get one stuck to your eyelid and it might potentially get \"lost\" in there. It's extremely uncomfortable and potentially painful. This applies especially in the morning when your eyes are puffy and dry. Following along with this, try not to sleep with them in. The Oasys are so comfortable that it's very easy to just say \"fuck it\" and sleep with them in. Don't do that for more than one or two nights in a row. I was stupid and kept mine in for several MONTHS straight and when I did finally take them out, there was a visible ring around my iris where the veins in my sclera seemed to \"stop.\" I stopped wearing them after that because I didn't want to cause permanent damage.\n\n* When taking them out, it was easiest for me to gently lay the tip of my finger on the contact, then simultaneously hold the contact in place, look to the side while holding the contact in place with that finger, and gently pinch the contact with my thumb and pull it out. Put the contact in the cupped palm of your opposite hand and squirt solution onto it and rub it for a few seconds before storing it in the case. \n\n* Only put the contacts into the case once you've rubbed them with solution to clean them; don't store them \"dirty.\"\n\n* Don't use regular eye drops, get eye drops intended for use with contacts. The formulas are different and yes, it does matter.\n\n* Don't cheap out on solution. Do a little research and get the good stuff.\n\n",
"Use Clear Care instead of multipurpose solution. It's much better for cleaning and you will feel more comfortable wearing them.",
"You'll get used to them over time. If your dry eyes persist then you should talk to your opthamologist.",
"I've worn contact lenses for about 25 years and can't re-iterate enough the other comments about making sure you wash your hands before touching them. \n\n999/1000 times its not a problem but a couple of the infections I've had were so bad even the light outside on a moonless night was agonizing. I literally had to stay in a pitch black room for a couple of days.\n\nYou noticing them should go away. It even gets to the point that its a problem as you don't know if you have them on or not sometimes. \n\nif you can afford it I'd recommend going for single use lenses at some stage - the convenience of not having to store lenses overnight is definitely worth it.",
"It's absolutely normal that you feel them right now, your eyes will adjust soon.\n\nTips: avoid rubbing your eyes if you can, you may get infection on the lens. Also avoid rubbing them with your eyelids closed (like when you're sleepy - you can dislocate the lens and it will fall out or fold, that'll be really uncomfortable). Squint when the wind is blowing in your face - it causes your eyes to water more than usual and might literally wash the lens out. \n\nEven though Oasys allows 6day prolonged wear, don't. Don't be lazy, take them off before sleep. For why - take a look at [this comment](http://www.reddit.com/r/explainlikeimfive/comments/2ksck6/eli5_what_are_the_consequences_of_sleeping_with/) (a guy just asked a similar question in ELI5)\n\nCarry the container with the contact cleaner solution with you everywhere. If your lens gets dislocated - don't just out it in, wash it in the container first.\n\nALWAYS wash your hands before doing anything with the lens.\n\nIf it feels particularly uncomfortable - take it out immediately, usually this means you either put it in incorrectly (it got reversed) or something got underneath, like dust or an eyelash.\n\nAs for solution - there's not much difference between them, I always used Alcon. Just pay attention not to mistake **cleaning** solution with a disinfecting/protein removing one, the latter are chemically active and might hurt the eye.\n\n[",
"I wouldn't recommend using tons of rewetting drops (AKA more contact solution) after having the contacts in for a while as it usually helps in the short term, but over the next x hours your eyes will get way drier. If you have an issue with dry eyes, like a diagnosable issue, then that sucks and is a whole different beast.\n\nAs for adjusting contacts, if you are relatively good about washing your hands and not touching filthy fucking door handles/knobs or money, then just directly manipulate the contact on your eye with a knuckle. I have needed to adjust contacts in some pretty crappy situations, like while handling wild birds, and the most medial knuckle is typically going to be the furthest removed from germs and crap. I've not got an infection so far, so of course that makes this method gospel.\n\nAlso, to address feeling the contact on your eyeball, I only experience this when 1) the contact is flipped inside out, 2) there is dirt/dust in the contact, 3) there is a hole or rip in the contact. Aaaand occasionally there is nothing you can do about it. However to prevent dirt/dust and to flush your eye at the same time. Put the contact on your finger, sitting like a bowl, and put a drop or two of contact solution in it. Proceed by leaning over your finger to put the contact, now filled with solution, into your eye. It feels really nice and flushes your eye at the same time.\n\nand when you go to take them out, don't be a wimp, just take the damn things out unless it feels like they are gonna rip your iris out, in which case just wet them, move them around then take them out.",
"I actually get the opposite, I blink a lot less wearing them. I have the dailies, and they make driving a hell of a lot easier because if you need to, you really don't need to close your eyes for a few minutes at a time. \n\n(This is a dangerous game to play though, because if you aren't careful you'll dry them out and upon your next blink they will be pushed outta your eye.. which can be disastrous while driving. )",
"It's very natural to blink a lot more than normal. The contacts absorb a lot of the natural saline in your eyes so it makes you blink a lot more to produce more tears. I personally try to not use rewetting drops more than twice/day. Some people use them all the time.\n\nThe biggest thing about adjusting to contacts is don't wear them more than 2 hours more than you did the previous day. I remember the first day my doctor said to keep them in for ~2 hours, then 4, than 6, than 8, etc. This helps your eyes get used to them quicker.\n\nI was a runner throughout high school and college and I know one thing that was really annoying was that my eyes got a lot dryer during runs and so I would wear sunglasses a lot to block some of the wind coming directly into my face. Worked wonders.",
"I've had an issue with eye dryness for quite a bit. My eyes don't produce enough tears to keep my eyes moist enough for my contacts to be comfortable and sharp and if I use re-wetting drops, its a few times an hour to keep them optimal. \n\nI recently bought one of these to do warm eye compresses and hopefully I'll notice the changes soon. http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000FHZNQE/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_dp_ss_1?pf_rd_p=1944687462&pf_rd_s=lpo-top-stripe-1&pf_rd_t=201&pf_rd_i=B004385RPS&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_r=0XGBCXJ8792FGQ3XNJBR\n\nApparently by doing this daily, it helps your eye release the tears that are \"hiding\" in there",
"I've been wearing contacts for 15 years and from day one I didn't really notice they were in. As others have said it sounds like your eyes may not produce enough tears top keep them moist. If you use rewetting drops and it is only temporary that's a good indicator and you need to talk to your eye doctor. I also prefer bio true for my solution. ",
"I wore biweekly Acuvue Oasys with Hydroclear or something like that for many years. My eye doctor asked me if I wanted to try dailies. They weren't that much more expensive but I can't even feel them. In fact at times I can wear them for 3 without even taking them off and they feel like day 1. Plus they're dailies, you don't store them. You throw them out and you have a *fresh* pair in the morning. No more solution, no more storing, no more degrading vision every 2 weeks. They don't dry up, I can fucking win staring contests again! I love them so much, next time you visit your eye doctor ask to try a sample. A reputable obstetrician will usually buy off and of your old contacts at full price if you decide to switch brands. ",
"I use the Acuvue Oasys's (Oasisi?) \nThe solution i use is called Pure moist, very satisfied with it.\n\nWhen i got my lenses they bothered me periodically, there are two things that you can do to fix it.\n\n* When you take your lenses out of the case, put them them in your hand, one at a time, put some solution on them and gently rub them.\n\n* After you dry your hands, be it a cloth or paper towel, you'll always get these tiny little threads, almost invisible to the human eye, after you rub down your contact thoroughly, pinch it in between your two fingers and hold it up to the light to make sure they're not there.\n\n* They may have a scratch on them, or be damaged in some way. I seldom have this, but it's not unheard of, but you'd usually notice. \n\nOtherwise, if they're still bothering go to the doctor.\n\n",
"Honestly, you get used to it. I had the same issue when I first got contacts after 9 years but I don't even notice them anymore. ",
"tip on buying: when your doctor writes a script, do not buy them from the optometrist, unless absolutely necessary. at my optometrist, they tried to charge me 80 for 6 lenses. said no thanks and just got them to fill out the script, and got the same ones for 20 on walgreens and they come in 2 days. saves a lot of money. sometimes, you might have to get special contacts for astigmatism and other stuff, but most can be bought online for way less.",
"You will get used to them. I would also advise not to sleep in them if at all possible. Once I slept in the same pair for about 5 nights straight and ended up with a nasty stye that didn't go away for 2 months.",
"What kind of contacts are they (daililes, weekly, monthly)? That might affect how dry your eyes feel. I personally use monthly ones even though I wear them about four times a week for about 6 hours each time. I definitely notice my eyes feeling drier by the end of the month.",
"Just along with what everyone is saying, you'll get used to them eventually. It was about the 3 month mark that I didn't even notice them anymore. One thing I would advise against is going to bed with them in. I've had so many times that I've woken up and my eyes were bloodshot. A LPT for that would be to put your contact case on your bed so you won't forget about them when you get home from a long day.\n http://www.granvilleoptical.ca/contact_lenses.html "
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"How can I keep promotions/deals with internet service providers when there's only 2 in the city and they monopolize & have high prices? ",
"How can I keep promotions/deals with internet service providers when there's only 2 in the city and they monopolize & have high prices? ",
"How can I keep promotions/deals with internet service providers when there's only 2 in the city and they monopolize & have high prices? "
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"I do this every 12 months when my deal expires. Call and explain that you would like the promotional rate offered for you to be extended as courtesy for being a valued and on time paying customer. If the initial rep doesn't help, kindly ask to be transferred to a Customer Retention Specialist. Worked for me recently with TWC. Lowered my internet down to $35/month for 30/5mb service.",
"I usually call when the promo ends, and say I don't want full price I'm leaving for (other company). They'll try to sweeten something to keep you there",
"Hey I have 101mbps internet after my promo period ended for $30 a month. Note that I also pay $30 for home phone (free international calls) and another $30 for TV (showtime, starz, Encore included, no HBO though).\n\nChances are you're making a mistake negotiating before you even talk to a representative. When you're promoted to press 1, 2 or 3 for different departments, ALWAYS choose \"Cancel services\" option. If you choose anything else, you're playing into their hand. When you choose Cancel services, be serious about it and I know for a fact that they'll give you promo offers before you hang up the phone. This is my routine:\n\nPress 3 for cancel services\nA rep is on the phone. I tell the, \"I'm being offered (insert your desires here) from company XYZ for (enter your price here) so I'd like to cancel your services. You're too expensive and unreliable.\"\n\nAlso be prepared to actually go through with the cancellation if he/she calls your bluff. You've got nothing to lose. Make sure he/she breaks and say things like \"my friends have your services and are paying alot less for more services than I am so its not fair, hence I'm switching to XYZ since they're giving me (restate your made up offer from the other company here and price here)\".\n\nGuaranteed better offer. Also if they offer you a promo, make sure you have them extend their promo time for you. So if they say internet 90 for $30 for 3 months, get back and say make it a year and you got a deal.",
"Do you live alone? If you live with someone, cancel your service and have them sign up as a new customer. For all they know, you moved out and new guy moved in. \n\nUsually after 6-12 months you become a \"new\" customer again and will be eligible to take advantage of any promos that are out. \n\n\nThis is what my boyfriend and I do, and it hasn't been a problem. We have internet only though so it's easy when you tell them you already have a router and would like to \"self-install.\" This might be more inconvenient if DVRs are involved. "
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