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[ "How can I best help myself to maintain good posture while sitting all day at work, to prevent back pain? My back has been bothering me lately, and I was fairly certain it was my chair. My boss was very understanding and told me to order myself any new chair I wanted. I went to an office supply store in person to try them out first, and my new one came in today. It is certainly more comfortable and supportive than my last one, but after sitting in it for a few hours, I still can feel that it's not quite \"right\". Office chairs aren't cheap. I can't keep buying new ones until I find the perfect one, and they don't exactly give you a trial period. What can I do to make it support me properly? I already have and use one of [these](http://www.travelonbags.com/media/catalog/product/cache/1/image/9df78eab33525d08d6e5fb8d27136e95/1/9/1918.4.black.jpg), but it doesn't really do much, because it just gives behind my body weight and pretty much is flush with the chair back when I'm sitting.\n\nLPT?", "How can I best help myself to maintain good posture while sitting all day at work, to prevent back pain? My back has been bothering me lately, and I was fairly certain it was my chair. My boss was very understanding and told me to order myself any new chair I wanted. I went to an office supply store in person to try them out first, and my new one came in today. It is certainly more comfortable and supportive than my last one, but after sitting in it for a few hours, I still can feel that it's not quite \"right\". Office chairs aren't cheap. I can't keep buying new ones until I find the perfect one, and they don't exactly give you a trial period. What can I do to make it support me properly? I already have and use one of [these](http://www.travelonbags.com/media/catalog/product/cache/1/image/9df78eab33525d08d6e5fb8d27136e95/1/9/1918.4.black.jpg), but it doesn't really do much, because it just gives behind my body weight and pretty much is flush with the chair back when I'm sitting.\n\nLPT?", "How can I best help myself to maintain good posture while sitting all day at work, to prevent back pain? My back has been bothering me lately, and I was fairly certain it was my chair. My boss was very understanding and told me to order myself any new chair I wanted. I went to an office supply store in person to try them out first, and my new one came in today. It is certainly more comfortable and supportive than my last one, but after sitting in it for a few hours, I still can feel that it's not quite \"right\". Office chairs aren't cheap. I can't keep buying new ones until I find the perfect one, and they don't exactly give you a trial period. What can I do to make it support me properly? I already have and use one of [these](http://www.travelonbags.com/media/catalog/product/cache/1/image/9df78eab33525d08d6e5fb8d27136e95/1/9/1918.4.black.jpg), but it doesn't really do much, because it just gives behind my body weight and pretty much is flush with the chair back when I'm sitting.\n\nLPT?", "How can I best help myself to maintain good posture while sitting all day at work, to prevent back pain? My back has been bothering me lately, and I was fairly certain it was my chair. My boss was very understanding and told me to order myself any new chair I wanted. I went to an office supply store in person to try them out first, and my new one came in today. It is certainly more comfortable and supportive than my last one, but after sitting in it for a few hours, I still can feel that it's not quite \"right\". Office chairs aren't cheap. I can't keep buying new ones until I find the perfect one, and they don't exactly give you a trial period. What can I do to make it support me properly? I already have and use one of [these](http://www.travelonbags.com/media/catalog/product/cache/1/image/9df78eab33525d08d6e5fb8d27136e95/1/9/1918.4.black.jpg), but it doesn't really do much, because it just gives behind my body weight and pretty much is flush with the chair back when I'm sitting.\n\nLPT?" ]	[ "Make sure your backside is all the way back in your chair, and that when doing this, you are able to have your knees at a 90 degree angle. Adjust your monitor so it's at eye level, which makes you less inclined to slouch. ", "Take a towel and roll it up into a tight roll. Put duct tape around it to hold it in place. Place the towel between your lumbar spine (low back curve area) and your seat back. This repositioning of your back will help you keep your shoulders back, and result in better head posture too!", "I find it best to get up and walk a bit at least once an hour. Also, regular exercise like some kind of weight lifting or kettle bell workout can do wonders to strengthen back, shoulder and arm muscles so they will not tire and get sore so easily. I was starting to have issues with Carpal Tunnel Syndrome, but working out with weights and kettle bells has eliminated that altogether.", "Depends upon the back pain. It might be a injury, your car seat, your mattress, couch or easy chair is too soft/hard.\n\nIt's a process of elimination to solve all those areas. Get to know your body, bones, muscles etc., and various yoga/stretching exercises.\n\n* [If your feeling tingling down one or both legs, it's a pinched nerve. aka Sciatica](http://www.webmd.com/back-pain/guide/sciatica-symptoms) See a doctor so they can pinpoint exactly where it is, don't fall for the pill mill routine or you'll be dependent on them forever.\n\n* If your feeling muscles spasms you might have bones out of alignment, just not as bad to produce a pinched nerve. A chiropractor followed by a good massage therapist and a few days rest works well to get the strained muscles to relax, but only if you don't cause the problem again. Back strengthening exercises after your healed works to keep things in place.\n\n* If just your buttocks is sore, your sitting too long and need a truckers gel seat pad [or one of those chairs you sit with your knees on. Make sure it has extra padding and wheels.](http://www.officestar-furniture-direct.com/pics/office-star/office-star-work-smart-espresso-wood-memory-foam-knee-chair.KCW778.24._raw.jpg)\n\nIbuprofen works both as a pain reducer and a swelling reducer, where other pain relievers are just that.\n\nDisclaimer: Not a doctor, not medical advice, just my personal experience which is likely wrong or incomplete." ]	[ 6, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Getting out ingrown chin hairs. I realized these weird pimples weren't healing so I picked the scab and under each one is a tight, thin hair that's like fused into my fucking face...I managed to dig one out with tweezers and a safety pin but I made a huge bloody mess like if someone walked in they'd think I'd lost my mind. I was about to try to singe them real quick with a lighter...but I asked here first.", "Getting out ingrown chin hairs. I realized these weird pimples weren't healing so I picked the scab and under each one is a tight, thin hair that's like fused into my fucking face...I managed to dig one out with tweezers and a safety pin but I made a huge bloody mess like if someone walked in they'd think I'd lost my mind. I was about to try to singe them real quick with a lighter...but I asked here first.", "Getting out ingrown chin hairs. I realized these weird pimples weren't healing so I picked the scab and under each one is a tight, thin hair that's like fused into my fucking face...I managed to dig one out with tweezers and a safety pin but I made a huge bloody mess like if someone walked in they'd think I'd lost my mind. I was about to try to singe them real quick with a lighter...but I asked here first.", "Getting out ingrown chin hairs. I realized these weird pimples weren't healing so I picked the scab and under each one is a tight, thin hair that's like fused into my fucking face...I managed to dig one out with tweezers and a safety pin but I made a huge bloody mess like if someone walked in they'd think I'd lost my mind. I was about to try to singe them real quick with a lighter...but I asked here first.", "Getting out ingrown chin hairs. I realized these weird pimples weren't healing so I picked the scab and under each one is a tight, thin hair that's like fused into my fucking face...I managed to dig one out with tweezers and a safety pin but I made a huge bloody mess like if someone walked in they'd think I'd lost my mind. I was about to try to singe them real quick with a lighter...but I asked here first." ]	[ "Had this problem in high school. Wait till it seems poppable, then pluck the hair. You’ll be left with scars if you dig with tweasers, which I also did. And I’m 32 now with scars from that. (I’m still gorgeous)", "Squeeze each one to expose the hair, the pluck it. You might have to wait a while for them to be squeezable. That’ll minimise skin damage.", "There are also ingrown hair tweezers you can purchase, they are sharper than a safety pin, and you can stick them right into the spot, squeeze to grab the hair and get it out.", "All you suggesters saying pull the hair.. leave the sucker there so the pore heals around the hair and the follicle channel develops correctly unless you just like getting ingrown hair after ingrown hair.\n\nExfoliate often and FFS don't shave against the grain untill you have been shaving for years.. even then avoid it", "No Singe - ingrown hairs happen and are a pain - I alway used sharp bladed cutters/Tweezers - might not be best but I’m impatient" ]	[ 14, 10, 6, 4, 2 ]	safe
[ "Should I exercise before work? Does anyone thinks that help? I drink coffee a lot and not even this way to being able to feel me energetic in the morning. Is it worth waking up a few minutes before to take the dog for a walk? Then there are two positive things, since I take it when I come back tired and not very good.\n\n", "Should I exercise before work? Does anyone thinks that help? I drink coffee a lot and not even this way to being able to feel me energetic in the morning. Is it worth waking up a few minutes before to take the dog for a walk? Then there are two positive things, since I take it when I come back tired and not very good.\n\n", "Should I exercise before work? Does anyone thinks that help? I drink coffee a lot and not even this way to being able to feel me energetic in the morning. Is it worth waking up a few minutes before to take the dog for a walk? Then there are two positive things, since I take it when I come back tired and not very good.\n\n" ]	[ "I do this. It sucks (I’m not a morning person) but when I started doing it I got a huge energy boost. \n\nI also am sleep deprived (toddlers - whaddya gonna do?) but on days I miss the gym run I feel it. I’ve just missed two days in the last 6 months (Christmas closed, and doc recommended no exercise first day of stitches). \n\nI hate it. But I vote yes. ", "Try a B 12 shot from the doctor. Also exercise could help, but so many questions. How’s your sleep schedule? How’s your diet? You anemic? ", "I swear by m" ]	[ 2, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "Am I clumsy and how can I change it? Hello everyone! \nFirst of all, sorry for my bad english.\n\nMy problem is clumsiness. And I'm talking about clumsy hands. I'm just not good with hands. You know, things like tying a knot, working with tools and all other handy things. \n\nI practically grew up witbout a father and I never played sports, so I wasn't doing much hand and physical work. Damn, first time I used a drill, I was like 18 years old. Probably that is the reason of my clumsiness, lack of discipline as a kid.\n\nI guess that bad eye-hand coordination could be a reason for this? Can I cure my clumsiness and become more skilled with hands? ", "Am I clumsy and how can I change it? Hello everyone! \nFirst of all, sorry for my bad english.\n\nMy problem is clumsiness. And I'm talking about clumsy hands. I'm just not good with hands. You know, things like tying a knot, working with tools and all other handy things. \n\nI practically grew up witbout a father and I never played sports, so I wasn't doing much hand and physical work. Damn, first time I used a drill, I was like 18 years old. Probably that is the reason of my clumsiness, lack of discipline as a kid.\n\nI guess that bad eye-hand coordination could be a reason for this? Can I cure my clumsiness and become more skilled with hands? ", "Am I clumsy and how can I change it? Hello everyone! \nFirst of all, sorry for my bad english.\n\nMy problem is clumsiness. And I'm talking about clumsy hands. I'm just not good with hands. You know, things like tying a knot, working with tools and all other handy things. \n\nI practically grew up witbout a father and I never played sports, so I wasn't doing much hand and physical work. Damn, first time I used a drill, I was like 18 years old. Probably that is the reason of my clumsiness, lack of discipline as a kid.\n\nI guess that bad eye-hand coordination could be a reason for this? Can I cure my clumsiness and become more skilled with hands? ", "Am I clumsy and how can I change it? Hello everyone! \nFirst of all, sorry for my bad english.\n\nMy problem is clumsiness. And I'm talking about clumsy hands. I'm just not good with hands. You know, things like tying a knot, working with tools and all other handy things. \n\nI practically grew up witbout a father and I never played sports, so I wasn't doing much hand and physical work. Damn, first time I used a drill, I was like 18 years old. Probably that is the reason of my clumsiness, lack of discipline as a kid.\n\nI guess that bad eye-hand coordination could be a reason for this? Can I cure my clumsiness and become more skilled with hands? " ]	[ "Start doing things that require coordination. Speed typing, playing videogames, sports, tying knots etc. Practice makes perfect and even if you're late to the game, you can easily catch up.", "Just start doing simple jobs , practice makes perfect. The more you use tools the better you will get and the more confidence you will gain. Utube is a good reference . Just be aware of safety and you will be fine. ", "A) look up tests to evaluate your BALANCE. If your balance is poor, you may need to get the fluid in your ears tested. Clumsiness is sometimes related to bad balance.\n\nB) find a series of hand exercises online. Exercises for anything! Violin players, typists or court transcriptionists, bomb defusers.... each specialty has a series of repeatable things to do. Also look up physical therapy exercises.\n\nC) spend $5 for a used hand exerciser. Strengthening muscles is always good. Tennis players and other sports people use spring loaded objects or squishy balls for those muscles.", "Yes you can change it! There was a time when Shakespeare didn't know his ABCs and Einstein couldn't count to ten. What I am trying to say is everyone starts at the same level and all you have to do is practice and not be afraid to fail. You are not weird. You just need more experience. Play some sports or take upon an activity in which you enjoy and that you think will improve your clumsiness. Good luck :)\n\n" ]	[ 2, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to fix bad sleeping patterns. My sleeping patterns are erratic and it's taking a toll on my productivity. Nothing I try works and despite cutting off caffeine altogether I still can't sleep until well after midnight. Anything I can try before I take the sleeping pill path?", "How to fix bad sleeping patterns. My sleeping patterns are erratic and it's taking a toll on my productivity. Nothing I try works and despite cutting off caffeine altogether I still can't sleep until well after midnight. Anything I can try before I take the sleeping pill path?", "How to fix bad sleeping patterns. My sleeping patterns are erratic and it's taking a toll on my productivity. Nothing I try works and despite cutting off caffeine altogether I still can't sleep until well after midnight. Anything I can try before I take the sleeping pill path?", "How to fix bad sleeping patterns. My sleeping patterns are erratic and it's taking a toll on my productivity. Nothing I try works and despite cutting off caffeine altogether I still can't sleep until well after midnight. Anything I can try before I take the sleeping pill path?", "How to fix bad sleeping patterns. My sleeping patterns are erratic and it's taking a toll on my productivity. Nothing I try works and despite cutting off caffeine altogether I still can't sleep until well after midnight. Anything I can try before I take the sleeping pill path?", "How to fix bad sleeping patterns. My sleeping patterns are erratic and it's taking a toll on my productivity. Nothing I try works and despite cutting off caffeine altogether I still can't sleep until well after midnight. Anything I can try before I take the sleeping pill path?" ]	[ "I used to have trouble sleeping and couldn't find a good medicine to help. Then it was recommended to me by a doctor to take the stress off going to sleep by stressing more when I woke up. Instead of setting a time I wanted to sleep, I would instead set a time that I would, no matter what, pull myself out of bed. I eventually decided to actually try it and it really worked (and has since) to correct my poor sleep. But I also set one or two frivolous alarms before the final alarm to have the satisfaction of \"ignoring\" them and feeling like I can sleep in longer. \n\nAnother supplement I started trying was to get a [sleep calculator](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.icechen1.sleepytime) that you can set what time you're going to bed and count the number of cycles I want. Or I can set up the time I want to wake up and it'll tell me when to get to bed to have the number of sleep cycles desired. The theory behind this app comes from the following example: have you ever woken up too early and felt really awake, only to fall back asleep and wake up later, feeling groggy? It's theorized that waking up during one of your \"sleep cycles\" can disrupt your restful sleep. So if your alarm disrupts a sleep cycle, ok to can be difficult. \n\nAlso, don't forget to just lay down in bed with the rest of your electronics off. Keep your phone or tablet for reading, but you might want an app that dims the screen for bed viewing so the images aren't as likely to wake you up. \n\nAnd practice good bed habits: make your bed every morning when you wake up and don't sit or lay on the bed until you're ready to sleep.\n\nAnd hey, if it helps great, because with bad sleep, you can use all the help you can get!\n\nHope I could help, OP. Good luck getting some sleep. It is quiet important. ", "I reset my bioclock with fasting. Basically you want to stop eating around 16 hours before you want to wake up.\n\nSo for example, I have my dinner at 3 in the afternoon and go to bed at 11 in the evening so I naturally wake up at 7 in the morning. \n\nFor me this has worked every time I (or unforeseen circumstances) mess up my sleep schedule. \n\nAnd a small LPT: dont play games or do interactive stuff (that stimulates the brain) before you go to bed. Instead of watching television for the last hour just put on some music or read a book.", "I recommend taking long walks. The exercise and fresh air will work together to tire you out significantly.", "https://medium.com/art-of-practicality/this-30-minute-evening-ritual-will-help-you-to-kick-life-in-the-ass-fb2c2625f757#.bqvuu6wmf", "This helped amongst other things people will no doubt suggest. Use a fit bit that tracks your sleep. After wearing it for a week or two, it will show you patterns you may not have realized. Typical times you fall asleep, how long it takes to fall asleep, exactly hour much sleep you get, etc. Then you can use this information to begin to take steps, incremental even, to put yourself on a pattern. Like no electronics after a certain time(30 min before bed for example) or take zquil at a certain time. Hope that helps.", "Do you work out? No one can stay awake if you're sufficiently tired. I use to have insomnia, but I now that I have a kid, getting outside and pushing his stroller I and walking around all day has a me beat by 7pm. On days where I am not, I try and do some sort of work out. \nThis with my toddler as well, tire him out and he's out like a light by 8pm until 8am the next morning.\n\nAlso, get in bed and turn off everything. Read something boring and calm yourself. If you already do this and it's not working, try m" ]	[ 4, 3, 2, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to write a proper business plan I have absolutely no \"business\" schooling whatsoever but have a good idea for my first business, what are some good places to go to to learn how to put together a proper business plan?", "How to write a proper business plan I have absolutely no \"business\" schooling whatsoever but have a good idea for my first business, what are some good places to go to to learn how to put together a proper business plan?" ]	[ "Find your local SBAC (small Buisness assistance corporation) they will often have recommendations, or volunteers who help with buisness plans. Also, get as many books as you can and read, read, read! Source: started my own buisness using the help of the SBAC ", "Go to business school.\n\nSomething as important as a proper business plan should not be sourced from \"tips\" from the internet." ]	[ 1, -3 ]	safe
[ "how to keep yourself from biting your nails? I just can't help it when I see my nails, I just start biting it!!!", "how to keep yourself from biting your nails? I just can't help it when I see my nails, I just start biting it!!!", "how to keep yourself from biting your nails? I just can't help it when I see my nails, I just start biting it!!!", "how to keep yourself from biting your nails? I just can't help it when I see my nails, I just start biting it!!!", "how to keep yourself from biting your nails? I just can't help it when I see my nails, I just start biting it!!!", "how to keep yourself from biting your nails? I just can't help it when I see my nails, I just start biting it!!!", "how to keep yourself from biting your nails? I just can't help it when I see my nails, I just start biting it!!!", "how to keep yourself from biting your nails? I just can't help it when I see my nails, I just start biting it!!!", "how to keep yourself from biting your nails? I just can't help it when I see my nails, I just start biting it!!!", "how to keep yourself from biting your nails? I just can't help it when I see my nails, I just start biting it!!!", "how to keep yourself from biting your nails? I just can't help it when I see my nails, I just start biting it!!!", "how to keep yourself from biting your nails? I just can't help it when I see my nails, I just start biting it!!!", "how to keep yourself from biting your nails? I just can't help it when I see my nails, I just start biting it!!!", "how to keep yourself from biting your nails? I just can't help it when I see my nails, I just start biting it!!!", "how to keep yourself from biting your nails? I just can't help it when I see my nails, I just start biting it!!!", "how to keep yourself from biting your nails? I just can't help it when I see my nails, I just start biting it!!!" ]	[ "Whenever I have the urge to bite, I snap a rubber band that's around my wrist. After a while, you associate the urge to bite with the pain of the rubber band snapping at your wrist. ", "I find that the temptation to bite my nails is worse whenever they are uneven or getting longer. I carry some nail clippers so I can just trim them instead.", "If you can get them to just long enough to cover most of your fingertips then have some fake nails glued on (short ones for guys) professionally. \n\nFake nails are so hard you can't bite them. After a while of having them you will lose the habit of biting your nails.", "I am on the way to ridding myself of this habit by painting my nails regularly with only a clear base coat. These kinds of clear nail polish are usually formulated to help protect and strengthen your nails, won't stain them like colour does, is wayyyy easier to paint on (no smudge worries etc, so no excuse that you have no time) and when I know there is some chemical on my nails, the urge to put them in my mouth totally evaporates.", "One of my professors in college struggled with this, then he started painting his nails, and he immediately stopped. I guess seeing a different color on his nails made him realize what he was doing.", "I quit when I was on Stratterra for A.D.D.\nDidn't help the A.D.D. but I had some really nice nails going during and for several weeks after I stopped.", "Tie a rubber band on your wrist. Every time you bite, pull the band so you hurt yourself a bit... if it hurts enough it might deter you?", "My mum used nail polish remover on mu nails tastes like ear wax its gross, also chew gum or a guitar pick that usually stops me allways keep your hands and mind busy then you wont feel an urge if ypu worl a desk job click your pen or practice spinning it on your hand thats not controlling the mouse. Hope these helped :) ", "I stopped a few months ago. Funny thing is, I wasn't trying to. \nWhat I did was reduce my overall levels of stress and unhappiness by making some major life changes and working intently on changing my outlook on life. Then one day I noticed that for the first time in almost forty years I had ten actual fingernails. It's taken awhile to learn how to trim and file them so they look good but I'm getting there. \n\n\n", "I like to keep nail clippers within reach of the toilet. Then I remember to clip them and don't have to bite.", "I had a music teacher in elementary school who saw a kid bit their nails once and told us how he used to when he was a kid, but his mom literally put dog shit under his nails to make him stop. So you could try that :P\n\nGross\n\nBut for me having nail polish on my nails stops me from biting. I'm three weeks into no biting right now myself. Colorful nail polish if you're a girl, clear would work if you're a guy.\n\nI had the No-Bite Nail Polish! when I was in college but it didn't work because it was very flaky and peeled off super easy.", "I bit mine until I was about 21. I started painting my nails and realized how much I loved the way it looks. It definitely helped to keep me from biting them. I've been bite free for over 3 years now. This may not help if you're a guy though :/", "Clear nail polish! I had to grow them for my sister's wedding, and I haven't bitten once because the polish tastes awful!", "As a male who works as a chef in a restaurant, I really would like to stop, but I can't really put anything on my nails... Anyone have advice?", " * Get the gel shelac nail polish in clear. It will cost you around 30 dollars so you won't want to just chew it off (though it is hard to peel off), it's a hard coat so even if you go to put your nails in your mouth the nail won't immediately break off, and it will last for around 3-4 weeks.. long enough to break the habit! \n * Find something else to do with your hands or your mouth. Whether it's tapping on your thigh or playing with a necklace, getting your hands away from your mouth when the urge is there is a good way to kick the habit!\n ", "Print a calendar. Work on a day to day basis... it's honestly just willpower. For everyday you don't bite, cross off a day... the idea is to not break the chain" ]	[ 10, 10, 8, 4, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to automate downloading statements from service websites (bank, cell phone company, credit card company, zipcar, etc.) *I want to download all my available statements for my bank, my cr", "How to automate downloading statements from service websites (bank, cell phone company, credit card company, zipcar, etc.) I want to download all my available statements for my bank, my cr", "How to automate downloading statements from service websites (bank, cell phone company, credit card company, zipcar, etc.) I want to download all my available statements for my bank, my cr", "How to automate downloading statements from service websites (bank, cell phone company, credit card company, zipcar, etc.) I want to download all my available statements for my bank, my cr", "How to automate downloading statements from service websites (bank, cell phone company, credit card company, zipcar, etc.) **I want to download all my available statements for my bank, my cr" ]	[ "There are many ways, of course. \n \nDISCLAIMER: I cannot recommend doing it for security reasons! Beware! \n \nHere's some of them: \n- good with scripting? You can write a (Python) script that does that in a matter of minutes. WARNING: Not secure! \n- there are browser plugins that allow you to automate tasks. It's WYSIWYG ", "It's not secure at all, but you could do it with python. Again, I would HIGHLY reccomend you don't do this.\n\nIf you want to learn how to do this with python you could get this humble bundle: https://www.humblebundle.com/books/python-book-bundle\n\nThe \"Automate the boring stuff with python\" book would help a lot. But seriously this is NOT SECURE. These are just ebooks so you would have to upload them to your device.", "What do you need the actual statements for? I look over my CC bill online, but there's no point in a paper copy. I use PersonalFinance and it consolidates all the transactions in one, but like you said, you don't want to use that for some reason.", "At Chase bank you can download entries between the dates you enter, but not sure on other sites/companies. ", "It depends on how each bank's website is coded to display your statement... but I guess some kind of mouse macro might sort of make it possible.\n\nJust make it a habit to download each month's statement when you log in to read it for the first time?\n\nAs for backlogged statements, guess you'll probably have to bite the bullet and spend some time downloading them all in one sitting." ]	[ 2, 2, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to deal with t-shirts that have had their collars stretched out? Yeah, I know I should just take them off less aggressively to begin with, but how do I remedy the ones that have stretched out a lot already? As of now they've just been repurposed as PJs. Is there a way to shrink or tighten it back up?", "How to deal with t-shirts that have had their collars stretched out? Yeah, I know I should just take them off less aggressively to begin with, but how do I remedy the ones that have stretched out a lot already? As of now they've just been repurposed as PJs. Is there a way to shrink or tighten it back up?" ]	[ "You could also cut the collar and sleeves off to give it an updated and summery look. Or cut much of it off to give a workout tank look. ", "Wash it in your washer on the highest of high heats. Dry it in your dryer with the highest of high heats. If neither go up 'jesus fucking christ that's hot\" with their temps, go to a laundromat. They get pretty scalding. Doing so will shrink its collar, to the original size. The shirt itself overall will probably shrink back too." ]	[ 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to talk less and listen more Being too quiet and reserved isn't desirable and so is talking too much and being annoying. I've actively tried to be less talkative but when I'm in a conversation, my talkative personality wants to say everything on my mind (sometimes offensive things I don't realize until I say it). I know it's off putting but I can't seem to be able to control it well.\n\nAre there any tips or methods to help practice an equal conversationalist?", "How to talk less and listen more Being too quiet and reserved isn't desirable and so is talking too much and being annoying. I've actively tried to be less talkative but when I'm in a conversation, my talkative personality wants to say everything on my mind (sometimes offensive things I don't realize until I say it). I know it's off putting but I can't seem to be able to control it well.\n\nAre there any tips or methods to help practice an equal conversationalist?", "How to talk less and listen more Being too quiet and reserved isn't desirable and so is talking too much and being annoying. I've actively tried to be less talkative but when I'm in a conversation, my talkative personality wants to say everything on my mind (sometimes offensive things I don't realize until I say it). I know it's off putting but I can't seem to be able to control it well.\n\nAre there any tips or methods to help practice an equal conversationalist?", "How to talk less and listen more Being too quiet and reserved isn't desirable and so is talking too much and being annoying. I've actively tried to be less talkative but when I'm in a conversation, my talkative personality wants to say everything on my mind (sometimes offensive things I don't realize until I say it). I know it's off putting but I can't seem to be able to control it well.\n\nAre there any tips or methods to help practice an equal conversationalist?" ]	[ "I feel you on this and am working on the same thing! I try to ask questions. Not only do I feel like I'm contributing to the conversation but I'm also practicing interactive-listening, it makes the other person feel good, and you learn stuff! Any time i feel like im talking too much, I ask a question. Its been pretty effective and has led to some great conversations. ", "Step 1: Talk less\n\nStep 2: Smile more.\n\nDon't let them know what you're against or what you're for.", "Sounds like you're talking to people who want to talk as much as you do.\n\nI recommend an exercise in talking at the same time while ascertaining what the other speaker is saying.\n\nIt sounds crazy on paper, but it's also crazy.", "I do this with girls, I'm so open to girls, that they notice this and open up to me also, but this advice can be put to girlfriends / boyfriends / friends / family, if you feel like you're too talkative.\n\n---\n\nI would say, if, the person you're talking to, is asking you a question, answer it the way you want, most likely they want details.\n\nIf, the person you're talking to, says just a statement. For example, they bring up something nice, \"I'm going to New York!\", don't talk about New York. ASK THEM A QUESTION about that NOUN.\n\n\"That's nice, where at in New York? Times Square?\"\n\n\"New York? I like that place for it's pizza, but what do you like about it?\n\n\"Do you have any family in New York?\"\n\n\"Why are you visiting New York?\"\n\nI call this, \"Nouning\". You just have to listen and usually they will keep talking. The most famous nouning is \"how is your day?\", especially to a girl because they can talk about their day for a WHILE and you just keeping using nouns they say, if they say \"School was tiring\", you say, \"What happened at school that made you tired?\" and they will keep talking and talking, and this technique may be what you want to use for these situations." ]	[ 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "need help trying not to be so upset over small things Hello everyone I have this thing were I get upset and down about small things. I think an expression for it is wearing my heart on my sleeve. Anyway it occurs the most with my girlfriend. An example would be I go in a for a kiss or try to hug or hold hands but she distances herself and it kinda hurts...not gunna lie...I mean I know she loves me and everything but I just want to be able to shrug off that hurt feeling instead of letting it hurt me cuz I deal with depression and anxiety so if I start thinking about the fact she shrugged me off I'll get really upset and just not care about anything anymore...I just need help getting over that if you guys have any advice. Thank you and sorry for long post.\n\nTl:Dr - need help getting over the \"wearing heart on my sleeve\" feeling", "need help trying not to be so upset over small things Hello everyone I have this thing were I get upset and down about small things. I think an expression for it is wearing my heart on my sleeve. Anyway it occurs the most with my girlfriend. An example would be I go in a for a kiss or try to hug or hold hands but she distances herself and it kinda hurts...not gunna lie...I mean I know she loves me and everything but I just want to be able to shrug off that hurt feeling instead of letting it hurt me cuz I deal with depression and anxiety so if I start thinking about the fact she shrugged me off I'll get really upset and just not care about anything anymore...I just need help getting over that if you guys have any advice. Thank you and sorry for long post.\n\nTl:Dr - need help getting over the \"wearing heart on my sleeve\" feeling", "need help trying not to be so upset over small things Hello everyone I have this thing were I get upset and down about small things. I think an expression for it is wearing my heart on my sleeve. Anyway it occurs the most with my girlfriend. An example would be I go in a for a kiss or try to hug or hold hands but she distances herself and it kinda hurts...not gunna lie...I mean I know she loves me and everything but I just want to be able to shrug off that hurt feeling instead of letting it hurt me cuz I deal with depression and anxiety so if I start thinking about the fact she shrugged me off I'll get really upset and just not care about anything anymore...I just need help getting over that if you guys have any advice. Thank you and sorry for long post.\n\nTl:Dr - need help getting over the \"wearing heart on my sleeve\" feeling", "need help trying not to be so upset over small things Hello everyone I have this thing were I get upset and down about small things. I think an expression for it is wearing my heart on my sleeve. Anyway it occurs the most with my girlfriend. An example would be I go in a for a kiss or try to hug or hold hands but she distances herself and it kinda hurts...not gunna lie...I mean I know she loves me and everything but I just want to be able to shrug off that hurt feeling instead of letting it hurt me cuz I deal with depression and anxiety so if I start thinking about the fact she shrugged me off I'll get really upset and just not care about anything anymore...I just need help getting over that if you guys have any advice. Thank you and sorry for long post.\n\nTl:Dr - need help getting over the \"wearing heart on my sleeve\" feeling", "need help trying not to be so upset over small things Hello everyone I have this thing were I get upset and down about small things. I think an expression for it is wearing my heart on my sleeve. Anyway it occurs the most with my girlfriend. An example would be I go in a for a kiss or try to hug or hold hands but she distances herself and it kinda hurts...not gunna lie...I mean I know she loves me and everything but I just want to be able to shrug off that hurt feeling instead of letting it hurt me cuz I deal with depression and anxiety so if I start thinking about the fact she shrugged me off I'll get really upset and just not care about anything anymore...I just need help getting over that if you guys have any advice. Thank you and sorry for long post.\n\nTl:Dr - need help getting over the \"wearing heart on my sleeve\" feeling", "need help trying not to be so upset over small things Hello everyone I have this thing were I get upset and down about small things. I think an expression for it is wearing my heart on my sleeve. Anyway it occurs the most with my girlfriend. An example would be I go in a for a kiss or try to hug or hold hands but she distances herself and it kinda hurts...not gunna lie...I mean I know she loves me and everything but I just want to be able to shrug off that hurt feeling instead of letting it hurt me cuz I deal with depression and anxiety so if I start thinking about the fact she shrugged me off I'll get really upset and just not care about anything anymore...I just need help getting over that if you guys have any advice. Thank you and sorry for long post.\n\nTl:Dr - need help getting over the \"wearing heart on my sleeve\" feeling", "need help trying not to be so upset over small things Hello everyone I have this thing were I get upset and down about small things. I think an expression for it is wearing my heart on my sleeve. Anyway it occurs the most with my girlfriend. An example would be I go in a for a kiss or try to hug or hold hands but she distances herself and it kinda hurts...not gunna lie...I mean I know she loves me and everything but I just want to be able to shrug off that hurt feeling instead of letting it hurt me cuz I deal with depression and anxiety so if I start thinking about the fact she shrugged me off I'll get really upset and just not care about anything anymore...I just need help getting over that if you guys have any advice. Thank you and sorry for long post.\n\nTl:Dr - need help getting over the \"wearing heart on my sleeve\" feeling" ]	[ "I totally feel you. I get a knot in my throat when I feel like my husband pushes me aside from a hug. \n\nI started taking counseling over some stress related factors recently and it helped me realize that my safe place of comfort is with my husband, and when I feel like the illusion is breaking it hurts. Maybe it's similar to what you feel. Sometimes our significant others have bad days and if we always expect perfection from them, we're only hurting ourselves. \n\nBest of luck.", "This will sound ridiculous, but before doing something with your girlfriend, go into a room alone and make yourself as big as possible and stay there for two minutes. [I know it works personnally, and there is more than one way to achieve the same effect](http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are)", "I do this as well. I have to stop thinking of things in terms of myself and question if my reaction is based in reality. Is it a legitimate reaction or am i making something out of nothing? Are they being distant or am i being clingy or trying too hard? ", "Hi FuzionBoost\n\nI can relate a little. Keep in mind that everyone is different and some people are as affectionate. I'm sure it has nothing to do for her feelings for you and more to do with she is not as comfortable with it as you are. ", "The real problem here is confidence. You need to work out the feelings of worthlessness or insufficiency. Then you won't see perfectly normal actions as some kind of judgement against you. \n\nAre you in therapy for your anxiety and depression? That's step 1.\n", "Pretend to be superior to all those around you and when they start to make you upset pitty them for trying.", "Build confidence by actually building something. Work out to create a fit body, get a hobby that creates works of art or function. Do chores, volunteer for community service, try to organise a family event. All these projects result in something and the confidence of doing something useful will give you confidence in being a person.\n\nWhen you're busy with bigger things, the small ones will slip away much easier. " ]	[ 5, 4, 4, 4, 3, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "Is there anyway to get temporary internet access at home for ~3 days Hey LPT coming at you from a McDonald's parking lot. I just moved into a new home and was supposed to have internet setup yesterday.\n\n\n To the surprise of absolutely no one they did not show up and I have now been rescheduled to have internet setup on Wednesday. The problem here is that I need internet access for work and while under normal circumstances I would simply go to the library however with world events the library and basically every other public WiFi spot is closed.\n\nSo I am reaching out to the internet to make get some advice on options available to me", "Is there anyway to get temporary internet access at home for ~3 days Hey LPT coming at you from a McDonald's parking lot. I just moved into a new home and was supposed to have internet setup yesterday.\n\n\n To the surprise of absolutely no one they did not show up and I have now been rescheduled to have internet setup on Wednesday. The problem here is that I need internet access for work and while under normal circumstances I would simply go to the library however with world events the library and basically every other public WiFi spot is closed.\n\nSo I am reaching out to the internet to make get some advice on options available to me", "Is there anyway to get temporary internet access at home for ~3 days Hey LPT coming at you from a McDonald's parking lot. I just moved into a new home and was supposed to have internet setup yesterday.\n\n\n To the surprise of absolutely no one they did not show up and I have now been rescheduled to have internet setup on Wednesday. The problem here is that I need internet access for work and while under normal circumstances I would simply go to the library however with world events the library and basically every other public WiFi spot is closed.\n\nSo I am reaching out to the internet to make get some advice on options available to me", "Is there anyway to get temporary internet access at home for ~3 days Hey LPT coming at you from a McDonald's parking lot. I just moved into a new home and was supposed to have internet setup yesterday.\n\n\n To the surprise of absolutely no one they did not show up and I have now been rescheduled to have internet setup on Wednesday. The problem here is that I need internet access for work and while under normal circumstances I would simply go to the library however with world events the library and basically every other public WiFi spot is closed.\n\nSo I am reaching out to the internet to make get some advice on options available to me", "Is there anyway to get temporary internet access at home for ~3 days Hey LPT coming at you from a McDonald's parking lot. I just moved into a new home and was supposed to have internet setup yesterday.\n\n\n To the surprise of absolutely no one they did not show up and I have now been rescheduled to have internet setup on Wednesday. The problem here is that I need internet access for work and while under normal circumstances I would simply go to the library however with world events the library and basically every other public WiFi spot is closed.\n\nSo I am reaching out to the internet to make get some advice on options available to me", "Is there anyway to get temporary internet access at home for ~3 days Hey LPT coming at you from a McDonald's parking lot. I just moved into a new home and was supposed to have internet setup yesterday.\n\n\n To the surprise of absolutely no one they did not show up and I have now been rescheduled to have internet setup on Wednesday. The problem here is that I need internet access for work and while under normal circumstances I would simply go to the library however with world events the library and basically every other public WiFi spot is closed.\n\nSo I am reaching out to the internet to make get some advice on options available to me" ]	[ "Try T-Mobile? They offer a hotspot device. You could probably return it after your WiFi gets setup. I just don’t know if the stores are open.", "Sounds like you found your solution already. Set up office in your car and park it somewhere that offers wifi!\n\nGreat for privacy, background music, and adjustable seats!", "I think I still have some of those old AOL free 1000 hours CDs laying around. Might be willing to trade for some toilet paper.\n/s\n\nThe cell phone hotspot is a good idea. Good luck", "Xfinity purportedly has opened the hot spots. Also, if you can access a local hotspot (this is a thing where you camp on your neighbors' routers unless they turned the feature off), you can get an xfinity membership (which you can cancel) to access that. But make sure you can get onto the hotspot.", "I have the Verizion Do More plan and have a hot stop with 20 gig of data (+15 during the pandemic) and 15 I can share off my phone. That’s helped me, as our home internet isn’t working well at all.", "Don't know where you live but lte wifi router with pre paid simcard is the quickest way to get internet at home short term." ]	[ 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Best tips for selling your home For example: I thought of leaving out different flavors of boxes of Girl Scout Cookies, and encouraging the folks checking out the house. I figure it will leave a good memory/feeling with them. I plan on leaving out both regular and gluten-free, just as a means to give them options. Looking for other suggestions in the same vein.\n\nPS to mods: I checked the rules before posting; hope this is valid. Not looking for a ban; I love this subreddit.", "Best tips for selling your home For example: I thought of leaving out different flavors of boxes of Girl Scout Cookies, and encouraging the folks checking out the house. I figure it will leave a good memory/feeling with them. I plan on leaving out both regular and gluten-free, just as a means to give them options. Looking for other suggestions in the same vein.\n\nPS to mods: I checked the rules before posting; hope this is valid. Not looking for a ban; I love this subreddit.", "Best tips for selling your home For example: I thought of leaving out different flavors of boxes of Girl Scout Cookies, and encouraging the folks checking out the house. I figure it will leave a good memory/feeling with them. I plan on leaving out both regular and gluten-free, just as a means to give them options. Looking for other suggestions in the same vein.\n\nPS to mods: I checked the rules before posting; hope this is valid. Not looking for a ban; I love this subreddit.", "Best tips for selling your home For example: I thought of leaving out different flavors of boxes of Girl Scout Cookies, and encouraging the folks checking out the house. I figure it will leave a good memory/feeling with them. I plan on leaving out both regular and gluten-free, just as a means to give them options. Looking for other suggestions in the same vein.\n\nPS to mods: I checked the rules before posting; hope this is valid. Not looking for a ban; I love this subreddit.", "Best tips for selling your home For example: I thought of leaving out different flavors of boxes of Girl Scout Cookies, and encouraging the folks checking out the house. I figure it will leave a good memory/feeling with them. I plan on leaving out both regular and gluten-free, just as a means to give them options. Looking for other suggestions in the same vein.\n\nPS to mods: I checked the rules before posting; hope this is valid. Not looking for a ban; I love this subreddit." ]	[ "Ok, none of that crap matters. I've worked in the industry for nearly a decade now. First and foremost, clean everything. Not just pick stuff up and tidy, but deep clean. People pick up on smells, stains, etc.\n\nYou still need to pickup, but do more than that and minimize and depersonalize. Take shit out of the house and take down your personal tastes. Make the house as generic as possible so people can imagine there stuff and them in the space. \n\nLastly, pay a pro for great photos. Granted I'm biased on this one as it is my job, but seriously, everyone starts looking online and photos are the first thing they see. It is huge. \n\nPS - Don't over price the house, no one cares what sentimental value you see in it. Just what the market supports. ", "We sold our home in the fall so I opened a window just a crack and lit a fall scented candle for about an hour before I left. I also bought those plug in wall flowers from bath and body works and plugged them in. Our house sold very quickly and our Realtor said that everyone mentioned how homey it smelt. \n\nWe also boxed up most of our taste and did a modern generic look that fit the build of our house. We repainted the walls with grey and light browns so that people could easily imagine their own colors. \n\nWe only had 6 showings before we sold. And we sold in just 2 months. ", "Price it right. Too many sellers ask way too much for their home, especially after hiring a realtor. List your house for 95% of the fair market value and watch the buyers come flocking in to bid on it.", "I just bought a house last month. I wouldn't give a shit about cookies. I care about a clean house, I care about it being in good condition, I care about a clean yard (my biggest complaint about the house we bought is the yard was full of kids toys I had to throw away, but the rest of the house was in good shape so whatever), I care about anything chipping on the outside being freshly painted, I care about stuff being new like the roof or furnace or hot water tank, I care about it coming with appliances (fridge, washer, dryer), I care about a low fair price. \n\nThe only \"off unique\" thing that left me with slightly higher/positive vibes with a house were the two I looked at that had friendly pets. One had a puppy and one had a super cool cat. Those houses were awesome and also actually distracted me from a couple of negatives because I was too busy playing with the animal. ", "Baking fresh cookies is smart. The kitchen will smell homey and delicious. Do not use fake sprays or candles. Several houses we looked at last weekend had this and it made me suspicious as to what they were trying to mask and also artificial scents are quite a turn off. Fragrances are also becoming passé with many schools, hospitals and office going scent-free. Put away any personal photos (de-personalize). \n\nSource: I went house hunting last weekend. " ]	[ 11, 2, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to pee with a \"shy\" bladder? So anytime I'm in public, no matter how bad I have to piss, I simply can't do it in a public bathroom. I can be completely alone but I still have to be in my own bathroom. I can feel myself needing to but it literally just won't come out. \n\nAs you can imagine this becomes quite the pain on roadtrips. I've got no clue how to fix this and I could really use some help", "How to pee with a \"shy\" bladder? So anytime I'm in public, no matter how bad I have to piss, I simply can't do it in a public bathroom. I can be completely alone but I still have to be in my own bathroom. I can feel myself needing to but it literally just won't come out. \n\nAs you can imagine this becomes quite the pain on roadtrips. I've got no clue how to fix this and I could really use some help", "How to pee with a \"shy\" bladder? So anytime I'm in public, no matter how bad I have to piss, I simply can't do it in a public bathroom. I can be completely alone but I still have to be in my own bathroom. I can feel myself needing to but it literally just won't come out. \n\nAs you can imagine this becomes quite the pain on roadtrips. I've got no clue how to fix this and I could really use some help", "How to pee with a \"shy\" bladder? So anytime I'm in public, no matter how bad I have to piss, I simply can't do it in a public bathroom. I can be completely alone but I still have to be in my own bathroom. I can feel myself needing to but it literally just won't come out. \n\nAs you can imagine this becomes quite the pain on roadtrips. I've got no clue how to fix this and I could really use some help", "How to pee with a \"shy\" bladder? So anytime I'm in public, no matter how bad I have to piss, I simply can't do it in a public bathroom. I can be completely alone but I still have to be in my own bathroom. I can feel myself needing to but it literally just won't come out. \n\nAs you can imagine this becomes quite the pain on roadtrips. I've got no clue how to fix this and I could really use some help", "How to pee with a \"shy\" bladder? So anytime I'm in public, no matter how bad I have to piss, I simply can't do it in a public bathroom. I can be completely alone but I still have to be in my own bathroom. I can feel myself needing to but it literally just won't come out. \n\nAs you can imagine this becomes quite the pain on roadtrips. I've got no clue how to fix this and I could really use some help", "How to pee with a \"shy\" bladder? So anytime I'm in public, no matter how bad I have to piss, I simply can't do it in a public bathroom. I can be completely alone but I still have to be in my own bathroom. I can feel myself needing to but it literally just won't come out. \n\nAs you can imagine this becomes quite the pain on roadtrips. I've got no clue how to fix this and I could really use some help", "How to pee with a \"shy\" bladder? So anytime I'm in public, no matter how bad I have to piss, I simply can't do it in a public bathroom. I can be completely alone but I still have to be in my own bathroom. I can feel myself needing to but it literally just won't come out. \n\nAs you can imagine this becomes quite the pain on roadtrips. I've got no clue how to fix this and I could really use some help" ]	[ "This is going to sound odd, but try doing complex math in your head. Like what is 73 divided by 13.\n\nWhile working it out, you will take your mind off the situation and relax. That is what helped me.", "Close your eyes\n\nBring your phone and ear plugs, put them on and play something loud\n\nIf you can't see or hear anyone else you can convince yourself you are alone", "Ffs, I've been trying to figure this out for ages. \nThe worst part is I'm in the military, and am required to take a random drug test every month. \nAnd in the military, the \"peeter peeper\" has to watch the urine go from your dick to the cup. \nAnxiety overload, sometimes it takes me 15 minutes to pretend he's not there. ", "What used to help me is I'd imagine I was peeing in the face of someone I disliked. For some reason humiliating them in my mind took some of the edge off.", "Try reading, everything is good. \nCould be messages on your phone or a writing on the wall. The parasympatic system allows you to focus on text and urinate, while the ortosympatic is what prevent you from peeing under stress", "If you have a smartphone, take it out and carefully read old or new emails, even junk mail. It will give you something to focus your attention on other than what's going on around you.", "I count down from 5 under my breath and narrow my focus with each count until, at \"blast off\", I'm in a near m", "Bite your tongue , your brain focuses on the biting and allows you to relax the lower end and piss , guaranteed " ]	[ 6, 5, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to buy gifts for people Don't see much of a point in gifts, because you tend to give as many as you receive, but they're a necessary evil. Moreover, I always feel like if someone really needed/wanted something, they'd buy it themselves instead of waiting for it to be gifted to them. I cringe when I need to find gifts for people, please help!", "How to buy gifts for people Don't see much of a point in gifts, because you tend to give as many as you receive, but they're a necessary evil. Moreover, I always feel like if someone really needed/wanted something, they'd buy it themselves instead of waiting for it to be gifted to them. I cringe when I need to find gifts for people, please help!", "How to buy gifts for people Don't see much of a point in gifts, because you tend to give as many as you receive, but they're a necessary evil. Moreover, I always feel like if someone really needed/wanted something, they'd buy it themselves instead of waiting for it to be gifted to them. I cringe when I need to find gifts for people, please help!", "How to buy gifts for people Don't see much of a point in gifts, because you tend to give as many as you receive, but they're a necessary evil. Moreover, I always feel like if someone really needed/wanted something, they'd buy it themselves instead of waiting for it to be gifted to them. I cringe when I need to find gifts for people, please help!", "How to buy gifts for people Don't see much of a point in gifts, because you tend to give as many as you receive, but they're a necessary evil. Moreover, I always feel like if someone really needed/wanted something, they'd buy it themselves instead of waiting for it to be gifted to them. I cringe when I need to find gifts for people, please help!" ]	[ "You should never feel like you \"need\" to buy a gift for someone. The best kind of gifts are those you give without a special occasion because you want to, not because society tells you to.", "I always go like this : \n\n* Find something that person you wish to gift finds interesting/cool but doesn't put it on high enough priority to get it on their own. \n\nExample : My friend always bragged that Shadow of Mordor looks like real fun game but every time I asked him about it he was like 'eh you know I'd rather spend money on X...maybe next time'\n\n* Add little token related to something they really like. \n\nExample : I know well my friend is huge fan of star wars. The star wars themed cup is not only usefull but hits his liking very much. \n\n* (optional) Add a card with wishes adequate to your relations, show them that you are great boyfriend/best friend/uncle/whatever and they are really lucky to have you. \n\nThat's what I do literally every time and it works wonders.", "My solution: I rarely buy gifts. I make things (for Christmas I gave out homemade chapstick and breath mints), and make dates to do things together. Adults can buy their own items, it's time with each other I want!", "I have a rule to only give gifts that are either unique or out of the recipients budget. Narrows down my search tremendously. I always thought that there was no point buying gifts because if someone really wanted something they would go out and buy it, like I do - unless I can't find it or afford it.", "Everybody has something they would want (or don't know that they want it, yet), however they don't really want to spend any money on that themselves. Scarves/ties/bowties/hats/etc. are classy, often not very expensive accessories, which you could always gift somebody." ]	[ 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Easy way to make a binder divider Just started school today. A lot of my classes are making me make binder dividers but I'm too cheap to go out and buy dividers. Is there an easy and efficient way to make my own dividers at home?", "Easy way to make a binder divider Just started school today. A lot of my classes are making me make binder dividers but I'm too cheap to go out and buy dividers. Is there an easy and efficient way to make my own dividers at home?" ]	[ "I got basic folders at target yesterday for 14 cents each. Might as well start stocking up on stuff that can be used many ways because the back to school prices only happen once per year ", "Cut a file folder in half and then hole-punch appropriately. The pre made dividers are flimsy and awful." ]	[ 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "When you are conversing with someone, do you just let the words come out of your mouth naturally or you think for a second/split second then talk? I feel like I am really bad at conversing with someone since I always have to think for a very short while before responding to construct my wording as well as build my thoughts,, to a point that I get mental blocked and not actually respond well.\n\nOn the other hand, I feel like if I just let out what my mind says at an instant, I will risk saying stupid stuff.\n\nWhat are some tips?\n\nEnglish isn't my first language btw.", "When you are conversing with someone, do you just let the words come out of your mouth naturally or you think for a second/split second then talk? I feel like I am really bad at conversing with someone since I always have to think for a very short while before responding to construct my wording as well as build my thoughts,, to a point that I get mental blocked and not actually respond well.\n\nOn the other hand, I feel like if I just let out what my mind says at an instant, I will risk saying stupid stuff.\n\nWhat are some tips?\n\nEnglish isn't my first language btw.", "When you are conversing with someone, do you just let the words come out of your mouth naturally or you think for a second/split second then talk? I feel like I am really bad at conversing with someone since I always have to think for a very short while before responding to construct my wording as well as build my thoughts,, to a point that I get mental blocked and not actually respond well.\n\nOn the other hand, I feel like if I just let out what my mind says at an instant, I will risk saying stupid stuff.\n\nWhat are some tips?\n\nEnglish isn't my first language btw.", "When you are conversing with someone, do you just let the words come out of your mouth naturally or you think for a second/split second then talk? I feel like I am really bad at conversing with someone since I always have to think for a very short while before responding to construct my wording as well as build my thoughts,, to a point that I get mental blocked and not actually respond well.\n\nOn the other hand, I feel like if I just let out what my mind says at an instant, I will risk saying stupid stuff.\n\nWhat are some tips?\n\nEnglish isn't my first language btw.", "When you are conversing with someone, do you just let the words come out of your mouth naturally or you think for a second/split second then talk? I feel like I am really bad at conversing with someone since I always have to think for a very short while before responding to construct my wording as well as build my thoughts,, to a point that I get mental blocked and not actually respond well.\n\nOn the other hand, I feel like if I just let out what my mind says at an instant, I will risk saying stupid stuff.\n\nWhat are some tips?\n\nEnglish isn't my first language btw.", "When you are conversing with someone, do you just let the words come out of your mouth naturally or you think for a second/split second then talk? I feel like I am really bad at conversing with someone since I always have to think for a very short while before responding to construct my wording as well as build my thoughts,, to a point that I get mental blocked and not actually respond well.\n\nOn the other hand, I feel like if I just let out what my mind says at an instant, I will risk saying stupid stuff.\n\nWhat are some tips?\n\nEnglish isn't my first language btw.", "When you are conversing with someone, do you just let the words come out of your mouth naturally or you think for a second/split second then talk? I feel like I am really bad at conversing with someone since I always have to think for a very short while before responding to construct my wording as well as build my thoughts,, to a point that I get mental blocked and not actually respond well.\n\nOn the other hand, I feel like if I just let out what my mind says at an instant, I will risk saying stupid stuff.\n\nWhat are some tips?\n\nEnglish isn't my first language btw.", "When you are conversing with someone, do you just let the words come out of your mouth naturally or you think for a second/split second then talk? I feel like I am really bad at conversing with someone since I always have to think for a very short while before responding to construct my wording as well as build my thoughts,, to a point that I get mental blocked and not actually respond well.\n\nOn the other hand, I feel like if I just let out what my mind says at an instant, I will risk saying stupid stuff.\n\nWhat are some tips?\n\nEnglish isn't my first language btw." ]	[ "Speaking from experience, you're probably going to feel stupid for some stuff you say no matter how much thought you give it. For me, it's split between the two. Sometimes I say something great without thinking, sometimes so dumb. Sometimes I have to stop and think for quite some time before I can form a response. Everyone is different, and not everyone is quick on their feet. I guess the best advice I could give you is practice, and practice means messing up. Conversation is a skill that requires lots of practice, but you can get there if you give yourself the opportunity and the patience to make mistakes and keep trying!", "It depends on who I'm talking to. If it's someone I'm close with, I typically just let the words come out as I know if I make a mistake they will let me fix it or won't care. I typically think of my words for new people or people who make me uncomfortable.", "The words come out faster than I can even realize. \n\nPro: I'm quick-witted, very funny\n\nCon: This 100% has gotten me in trouble in life, no cap", "The less you know a person and the more important the conversation you have, the more normal it is to take your time to construct your wording. Double that time for non native languages. If people don’t understand they’re likely not worth your time to begin with. As others mentioned, it takes practice to improve. Don’t feel bad about it, remember there are people out there that have extra struggles due to speech impediments and they get by as well.", "If I’m close with someone, I have no thought process. However with others I don’t trust myself with what I say so I have to think for a second aha", "If I'm trying to be funny I'll talk first and think second. Something always comes to me when the pressure's on.\n\nOther times require more consideration and listening. I'll respond when I have something of value to say.", "I don't have the kind of impulse control necessary to think before I speak. What comes out of my mouth is total contemporaneous stream of thought. That it sounds polished is accidental.\n\nYay /r/ADHD!", "I appreciate when people contemplate before responding. Usually means they are actually considering what you have said. I do the same." ]	[ 11, 6, 3, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Day to day makeup for men I am goddamn sick and tired of my girlfriend coming back from Sephora looking good as shit and taking couple selfies that make me look like Lyle Lovett by comparison. Hook me up with some tips.\n\n", "Day to day makeup for men I am goddamn sick and tired of my girlfriend coming back from Sephora looking good as shit and taking couple selfies that make me look like Lyle Lovett by comparison. Hook me up with some tips.\n\n", "Day to day makeup for men I am goddamn sick and tired of my girlfriend coming back from Sephora looking good as shit and taking couple selfies that make me look like Lyle Lovett by comparison. Hook me up with some tips.\n\n", "Day to day makeup for men I am goddamn sick and tired of my girlfriend coming back from Sephora looking good as shit and taking couple selfies that make me look like Lyle Lovett by comparison. Hook me up with some tips.\n\n", "Day to day makeup for men I am goddamn sick and tired of my girlfriend coming back from Sephora looking good as shit and taking couple selfies that make me look like Lyle Lovett by comparison. Hook me up with some tips.\n\n" ]	[ "If you want more \"flawless\" looking skin, it actually doesn't take many products to achieve that.\n\nYou'll want a primer to help your makeup stay better and spread more evenly first. You put the primer all over your face. A lot of people have been recommending the Nivea Post Shave Balm as a decent non-makeup company primer that's fairly affordable.\n\nNext, you want a concealer. This product covers dark under eye circles, red splotches, etc. There are a lot of pretty affordable drugstore concealers out there, like the Instant Age Rewind concealer by Maybelline. You blot them on in small circles and then blend them out into your skin by patting the area lightly with a brush or sponge.\n\nFinally, you can look into a BB cream or a foundation. BB creams are generally less coverage and blend pretty far into the skin, so I'd generally recommend them for men who don't want to look like they're wearing makeup at all while still getting the benefits of some coverage. Dr. Jart+ is a very popular BB cream brand, but there are a lot out there to choose from. A foundation tends to come in a wider range of colors, and it gives more coverage. Both a BB cream or a foundation would ideally be applied with a makeup sponge or a makeup brush.\n\nI have sensitive skin, and I don't have problems with makeup, contrary to the opinions of some of the people in this thread. It's just nice to not look tired all the time, and the routine I just described takes 5 minutes tops, so it's a small time investment for a huge improvement.\n\nIf you want more advice /r/MakeupAddiction is a fun subreddit, and they love it when dudes get into makeup. ", "Get a concealer, under eye brightener (YSL is best) & mascara. Apply with a light hand. It will make a subtle difference but most people won't be able to tell you're wearing makeup as long as you don't over do it. \n\nAlso, make sure you keep a good face routine and moisturise well. ", "Wayne Goss on youtube has a couple of videos out about makeup that does well with facial hair and how to keep it pretty subtle. His videos have gotten very clickbaity lately but its worth a watch. He's good at what he does despite it.", "What you probably really want is a good skincare routine. The better the foundation, the better any frills sitting on top it look, you know? \n\nIf you are on the paler end of things (Caucasian and/or Asian skin tones) you probably want a BB cream. They are easy to apply (you could just use your fingers) and you can get some with sunscreen in it that will help your skin long term, so photos with your girlfriend will continue to look good as y'all get older. Sephora carries some nicer BB creams, especially those from Korea/Asia, though they do tend to be more expensive products at that store. The make-up artists at Sephora would be happy to help you, so why not head over there next time your girlfriend does?", "Try a lightweight foundation like Mac F&B or Maybelline Fit Me. \n\nI don't know your price range but if you just walk in a mac store (or a similar brand) they will pick products that work for your skin and apply them for you. \nIf you're looking for inspiration check out some male beauty gurus. Can be tricky though, most seem to be going fordrag style makeup. " ]	[ 11, 5, 4, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "What to do when you witness the person serving or preparing your food does something unhygienic. For instance, you notice when ordering something over the counter, the person serving food touches it with his bare hands. Ask for a do over, walk away, or what? Added bonus for tips for when this is a very conveniently located place which you might want to come back to.", "What to do when you witness the person serving or preparing your food does something unhygienic. For instance, you notice when ordering something over the counter, the person serving food touches it with his bare hands. Ask for a do over, walk away, or what? Added bonus for tips for when this is a very conveniently located place which you might want to come back to.", "What to do when you witness the person serving or preparing your food does something unhygienic. For instance, you notice when ordering something over the counter, the person serving food touches it with his bare hands. Ask for a do over, walk away, or what? Added bonus for tips for when this is a very conveniently located place which you might want to come back to.", "What to do when you witness the person serving or preparing your food does something unhygienic. For instance, you notice when ordering something over the counter, the person serving food touches it with his bare hands. Ask for a do over, walk away, or what? Added bonus for tips for when this is a very conveniently located place which you might want to come back to.", "What to do when you witness the person serving or preparing your food does something unhygienic. For instance, you notice when ordering something over the counter, the person serving food touches it with his bare hands. Ask for a do over, walk away, or what? Added bonus for tips for when this is a very conveniently located place which you might want to come back to.", "What to do when you witness the person serving or preparing your food does something unhygienic. For instance, you notice when ordering something over the counter, the person serving food touches it with his bare hands. Ask for a do over, walk away, or what? Added bonus for tips for when this is a very conveniently located place which you might want to come back to.", "What to do when you witness the person serving or preparing your food does something unhygienic. For instance, you notice when ordering something over the counter, the person serving food touches it with his bare hands. Ask for a do over, walk away, or what? Added bonus for tips for when this is a very conveniently located place which you might want to come back to.", "What to do when you witness the person serving or preparing your food does something unhygienic. For instance, you notice when ordering something over the counter, the person serving food touches it with his bare hands. Ask for a do over, walk away, or what? Added bonus for tips for when this is a very conveniently located place which you might want to come back to.", "What to do when you witness the person serving or preparing your food does something unhygienic. For instance, you notice when ordering something over the counter, the person serving food touches it with his bare hands. Ask for a do over, walk away, or what? Added bonus for tips for when this is a very conveniently located place which you might want to come back to.", "What to do when you witness the person serving or preparing your food does something unhygienic. For instance, you notice when ordering something over the counter, the person serving food touches it with his bare hands. Ask for a do over, walk away, or what? Added bonus for tips for when this is a very conveniently located place which you might want to come back to." ]	[ "Are they washing their hands? We don't use gloves to touch food at any place I've worked, just hand washing.", "depends on what he did. if he just touched it bare handed i wouldn't care cause they usually wash them routinely at nicer places.\n\nif i seen him pick his nose or scratch his nether regions i would politely ask the waiter to see a manager. Let the manager know what i seen and just talk to him. more then likely he will offer a discount and to have the dish remade and talk to the cook or whoever it was. if its a major violation they may be fired but its not something that is unknown to people (health code violations) since they have to get a food handlers certificate.\n\nyou talking to the manager could save them a lawsuit down the line or people getting sick from unhygienic practices in the future or worse a full shutdown.", "It wasn't a food handling issue but I was once getting a meal from a vendor at work. I handed him my debit card and he SCRATCHED THE BACK OF HIS HEAD WITH IT. I was so disgusted but I didn't say anything and just cleaned and sanitized my card. I couldn't believe what I had seen and I don't know if he even realized what he was doing. I still shudder when I think about it.", "It really depends. If you see someone go straight from handling cash or emptying the trash, just to cite a few examples, without washing their hands that's a health code violation, and you would be in the right to ask for new food or your money back. If they are doing such things flagrantly, it's not an unfair conclusion that they could be doing even worse where you can't see. \n\nOn the other hand, in California, where I live and work at a high volume food service establishment, as long as you have washed your hands with soap you're legally allowed to touch food with bare hands. You must wash your hands frequently, and every time you touch something raw, or otherwise unsanitary. If the workers are observing good hand washing habits, you have little to worry about. ", "First, know that not every municipality requires cooks/food preparers to wear gloves. Many simply require a certain level of hand-washing and general cleanliness (such as, no handling cash and food in the same go, keeping your workspace/tools clean, not touching hair/face/clothes, etc.) Also, certain companies require food preparers in all of their locations, regardless of municipalities, to wear gloves. \n\nNow, if you frequent this place, then you probably know they should be wearing gloves. In that case, I would ask to speak with the manager on duty, and let them know what the situation is. You'll probably have your food re-made by someone else, and possibly comped. Calling out the individual probably isn't going to do you any good.\n", "A lady once got pissed off because I scooped out her potato salad with a long spoon...with my bare hands... *GASP!* I swear, lots of people take it too far. Did you know, the air in your home can be up to five times more unhealthy than outside? And you let that shit touch your food!? DISGUSTING! :P", "Saw a food service employee getting the garbage ready to go out. Set a full bag on top of a stack of menus on a counter while he emptied another container. I told the manager. I didn't expect anything beyond him telling his employee to never do that again.", "I'd tell them that they aren't handling the food correctly and I'be lost my appetite and never go there again ", "I would ask for a do-over. I mean what should I do? Walk away and throw it away? If you are disgusted by the action of touching it by the employee then if you just walked away would you eat it? As for going back to the place. Just say it politely and take your chances there isn't much else you can do.", "I watched a bar back lift a drain grate out of the floor with a corkscrew. Reported it to the manager but he was still there months later. Most recently, watched a server pick at her face (zits of something) and then handle plates of food. While she's probably not spreading anything, it is a little unsettling to witness. I told a manager and sounds like they're anxious to get rid of her for several reasons. " ]	[ 27, 10, 6, 3, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Ways to ask for someone's name that you forgot I'm in college and I always forget people's names. Even after asking someone for their name, I'll usually forget it after a few minutes and find myself needing to ask again without sounding rude and shallow. Are there any tips to go about getting their name again/actually remembering it?", "Ways to ask for someone's name that you forgot I'm in college and I always forget people's names. Even after asking someone for their name, I'll usually forget it after a few minutes and find myself needing to ask again without sounding rude and shallow. Are there any tips to go about getting their name again/actually remembering it?", "Ways to ask for someone's name that you forgot I'm in college and I always forget people's names. Even after asking someone for their name, I'll usually forget it after a few minutes and find myself needing to ask again without sounding rude and shallow. Are there any tips to go about getting their name again/actually remembering it?", "Ways to ask for someone's name that you forgot I'm in college and I always forget people's names. Even after asking someone for their name, I'll usually forget it after a few minutes and find myself needing to ask again without sounding rude and shallow. Are there any tips to go about getting their name again/actually remembering it?", "Ways to ask for someone's name that you forgot I'm in college and I always forget people's names. Even after asking someone for their name, I'll usually forget it after a few minutes and find myself needing to ask again without sounding rude and shallow. Are there any tips to go about getting their name again/actually remembering it?", "Ways to ask for someone's name that you forgot I'm in college and I always forget people's names. Even after asking someone for their name, I'll usually forget it after a few minutes and find myself needing to ask again without sounding rude and shallow. Are there any tips to go about getting their name again/actually remembering it?", "Ways to ask for someone's name that you forgot I'm in college and I always forget people's names. Even after asking someone for their name, I'll usually forget it after a few minutes and find myself needing to ask again without sounding rude and shallow. Are there any tips to go about getting their name again/actually remembering it?", "Ways to ask for someone's name that you forgot I'm in college and I always forget people's names. Even after asking someone for their name, I'll usually forget it after a few minutes and find myself needing to ask again without sounding rude and shallow. Are there any tips to go about getting their name again/actually remembering it?", "Ways to ask for someone's name that you forgot I'm in college and I always forget people's names. Even after asking someone for their name, I'll usually forget it after a few minutes and find myself needing to ask again without sounding rude and shallow. Are there any tips to go about getting their name again/actually remembering it?" ]	[ "Just say \"what's your name again?\"\nThen say \"no I meant last name sorry\"\nAnd something like \"i thought you might have been related to someone I know\" ", "Just ask. I'm suck at remembering names, so I ask a lot, and no one is ever offended. Trying to somehow fake it is usually transparent, and just makes you look douchey.", "You can ask them how they spell their name. Most names have enough variations that you can get away with it. Just hope you don't get something something like \"Jim\" or \"Bob\".", "Three answers for one!\n\nLPT1: Most people are kinda shitty with names, and don't take it as a personal insult that you forgot theirs. Often, especially at big gatherings, it relieves the tension and gives them a chance to ask yours again. \n\nLPT2: Most people appreciate honesty. You created the discomfort you are feeling right now based on your assumption about the other person. \n\nLPT3: The kind of people who flip a shit when you forget their name will tend not to be the kind of people whose name you will want/need to remember. ", "Introduce someone to them. Then hopefully the person will say his/her name to the person you just introduced them to. Although, this could go horribly wrong if he/she expects you to say his/her name....", "My job takes me to a lot of places and I see a lot of faces. I even have a more \"original\" name you could say.\n\nI honestly don't find it offensive at all when someone says, \"I'm sorry, I'm horrible with names. What was your name again?\" \n\nThen I always say, \"oh it's (name), just like (famous celebrity with the same name)\" \n\nThat always seems to do the trick. \n\nI know it's nice to know names right off the bat but you know what, sometimes you just can't. Don't be afraid to ask.", "I've gone most my life not even caring about names. With close friends, I obviously know they're names and I dont use them, seems kind of formal. I look at them and start talking. It's really no different with strangers. They're like \"Hi I'm _______.\" And in my mind I'm like, \"That's nice.\" Me remembering someone's name is something they earn by being more than an acquaintance. When in doubt, everyone is named Hey.\n\nMaybe not good business or dating advice, but I've never had any problems.", "I own an apartment building. One of my tenants has been there for nearly six years. I have a good relationship with the husband and wife but I don't know the wife's name. I always greet her 'hey hows it going' 'good morning how are you' etc and I would like to open my sentence with her name just like I do with the husband. I'm too embarrassed to ask and I looked at the lease application AND lease agreement to search her name but for some stupid fucking reason her name is not on there(unless they met after he moved in but i'm 100% positive I handed them both the keys). Anyways, I don't want to make anyone feel bad so I avoid asking them straight out.", "Facebook is a good one. Ask how they spell their name so you can find them on Facebook, as some people spell their names differently. Same goes for email at work as usually people have their names in their email addresses. " ]	[ 19, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "What household item do you know how to lengthen the lifespan of (so that I can save money by doing this with many items) ", "What household item do you know how to lengthen the lifespan of (so that I can save money by doing this with many items) ", "What household item do you know how to lengthen the lifespan of (so that I can save money by doing this with many items) ", "What household item do you know how to lengthen the lifespan of (so that I can save money by doing this with many items) " ]	[ "Use old T-shirts for rags\n\nTry use two different sponges instead of one and alternate using them as in do one set of dishes with one and do another set with the other. Helps with the odour and keeps them around a bit longer.\n\nGet some tape or something to cover the end of your phone charger to help stop it from ripping.\n\nUse a lighter on the tip of pens for a few seconds when you think it has run out.\n\nGet hand-wash refills instead of new bottles.\n\nRechargeable batteries are good long term so invest in this.\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n", "Vacuum out the air inlets of devices such as refrigerators, PCs and TVs. Change the filter in your air handler. Heat is the enemy of modern electronics and your appliances. Having clean air paths will reduce temperature in the devices and consequently will also reduce your cooling costs due to more efficient airflow.", "Oil/condition your leather! Shoes, handbags, wallets, upholstery, etc. all benefit from proper oiling. It amazes me how often I see people with good quality leather neglecting it until it gets all cracked and brittle. \n\nThis applies to good wood furniture as well. A bit of the right oil at the right time does wonders.\n\nI'm tempted not to share this advice because I've benefitted from people donating perfectly good stuff to thrift shops that only need a bit of tlc.", "Computers can be \"revived\" by buying/replacing the ram, and getting it a solid state drive for old computers. Much cheaper than buying a new laptop or computer " ]	[ 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I start getting in shape considering I've never been an active person? Hello. I am a 32 years old male that has never really exercised or played any sports for that matter. I work in IT so most of my days I sit 14 - 16 hours in a chair. Lately I've gained a lot of weight ( I'm 184 cm tall and weigh 92 KG ). I've also noticed lately that my pulse always sits between 90 - 106 for most of the day. In the morning when I wake up it's at 84 - 90 but as soon as I get moving it goes to 100. I'm also a smoker. I want to get in shape and take care of my health but I have no idea where to start. I've been talking to some people and they have recommended that I buy a rowing machine and start slow. I would love to hear some opinions as to where and how to start. I don't want to over do it as I've heard a lot of bad experiences. I hope this is the right place to ask this question and I know that this has probably been asked 1000 times but thank you all for taking the time to read this! Have a wonderful day!", "How do I start getting in shape considering I've never been an active person? Hello. I am a 32 years old male that has never really exercised or played any sports for that matter. I work in IT so most of my days I sit 14 - 16 hours in a chair. Lately I've gained a lot of weight ( I'm 184 cm tall and weigh 92 KG ). I've also noticed lately that my pulse always sits between 90 - 106 for most of the day. In the morning when I wake up it's at 84 - 90 but as soon as I get moving it goes to 100. I'm also a smoker. I want to get in shape and take care of my health but I have no idea where to start. I've been talking to some people and they have recommended that I buy a rowing machine and start slow. I would love to hear some opinions as to where and how to start. I don't want to over do it as I've heard a lot of bad experiences. I hope this is the right place to ask this question and I know that this has probably been asked 1000 times but thank you all for taking the time to read this! Have a wonderful day!", "How do I start getting in shape considering I've never been an active person? Hello. I am a 32 years old male that has never really exercised or played any sports for that matter. I work in IT so most of my days I sit 14 - 16 hours in a chair. Lately I've gained a lot of weight ( I'm 184 cm tall and weigh 92 KG ). I've also noticed lately that my pulse always sits between 90 - 106 for most of the day. In the morning when I wake up it's at 84 - 90 but as soon as I get moving it goes to 100. I'm also a smoker. I want to get in shape and take care of my health but I have no idea where to start. I've been talking to some people and they have recommended that I buy a rowing machine and start slow. I would love to hear some opinions as to where and how to start. I don't want to over do it as I've heard a lot of bad experiences. I hope this is the right place to ask this question and I know that this has probably been asked 1000 times but thank you all for taking the time to read this! Have a wonderful day!", "How do I start getting in shape considering I've never been an active person? Hello. I am a 32 years old male that has never really exercised or played any sports for that matter. I work in IT so most of my days I sit 14 - 16 hours in a chair. Lately I've gained a lot of weight ( I'm 184 cm tall and weigh 92 KG ). I've also noticed lately that my pulse always sits between 90 - 106 for most of the day. In the morning when I wake up it's at 84 - 90 but as soon as I get moving it goes to 100. I'm also a smoker. I want to get in shape and take care of my health but I have no idea where to start. I've been talking to some people and they have recommended that I buy a rowing machine and start slow. I would love to hear some opinions as to where and how to start. I don't want to over do it as I've heard a lot of bad experiences. I hope this is the right place to ask this question and I know that this has probably been asked 1000 times but thank you all for taking the time to read this! Have a wonderful day!", "How do I start getting in shape considering I've never been an active person? Hello. I am a 32 years old male that has never really exercised or played any sports for that matter. I work in IT so most of my days I sit 14 - 16 hours in a chair. Lately I've gained a lot of weight ( I'm 184 cm tall and weigh 92 KG ). I've also noticed lately that my pulse always sits between 90 - 106 for most of the day. In the morning when I wake up it's at 84 - 90 but as soon as I get moving it goes to 100. I'm also a smoker. I want to get in shape and take care of my health but I have no idea where to start. I've been talking to some people and they have recommended that I buy a rowing machine and start slow. I would love to hear some opinions as to where and how to start. I don't want to over do it as I've heard a lot of bad experiences. I hope this is the right place to ask this question and I know that this has probably been asked 1000 times but thank you all for taking the time to read this! Have a wonderful day!", "How do I start getting in shape considering I've never been an active person? Hello. I am a 32 years old male that has never really exercised or played any sports for that matter. I work in IT so most of my days I sit 14 - 16 hours in a chair. Lately I've gained a lot of weight ( I'm 184 cm tall and weigh 92 KG ). I've also noticed lately that my pulse always sits between 90 - 106 for most of the day. In the morning when I wake up it's at 84 - 90 but as soon as I get moving it goes to 100. I'm also a smoker. I want to get in shape and take care of my health but I have no idea where to start. I've been talking to some people and they have recommended that I buy a rowing machine and start slow. I would love to hear some opinions as to where and how to start. I don't want to over do it as I've heard a lot of bad experiences. I hope this is the right place to ask this question and I know that this has probably been asked 1000 times but thank you all for taking the time to read this! Have a wonderful day!", "How do I start getting in shape considering I've never been an active person? Hello. I am a 32 years old male that has never really exercised or played any sports for that matter. I work in IT so most of my days I sit 14 - 16 hours in a chair. Lately I've gained a lot of weight ( I'm 184 cm tall and weigh 92 KG ). I've also noticed lately that my pulse always sits between 90 - 106 for most of the day. In the morning when I wake up it's at 84 - 90 but as soon as I get moving it goes to 100. I'm also a smoker. I want to get in shape and take care of my health but I have no idea where to start. I've been talking to some people and they have recommended that I buy a rowing machine and start slow. I would love to hear some opinions as to where and how to start. I don't want to over do it as I've heard a lot of bad experiences. I hope this is the right place to ask this question and I know that this has probably been asked 1000 times but thank you all for taking the time to read this! Have a wonderful day!", "How do I start getting in shape considering I've never been an active person? Hello. I am a 32 years old male that has never really exercised or played any sports for that matter. I work in IT so most of my days I sit 14 - 16 hours in a chair. Lately I've gained a lot of weight ( I'm 184 cm tall and weigh 92 KG ). I've also noticed lately that my pulse always sits between 90 - 106 for most of the day. In the morning when I wake up it's at 84 - 90 but as soon as I get moving it goes to 100. I'm also a smoker. I want to get in shape and take care of my health but I have no idea where to start. I've been talking to some people and they have recommended that I buy a rowing machine and start slow. I would love to hear some opinions as to where and how to start. I don't want to over do it as I've heard a lot of bad experiences. I hope this is the right place to ask this question and I know that this has probably been asked 1000 times but thank you all for taking the time to read this! Have a wonderful day!", "How do I start getting in shape considering I've never been an active person? Hello. I am a 32 years old male that has never really exercised or played any sports for that matter. I work in IT so most of my days I sit 14 - 16 hours in a chair. Lately I've gained a lot of weight ( I'm 184 cm tall and weigh 92 KG ). I've also noticed lately that my pulse always sits between 90 - 106 for most of the day. In the morning when I wake up it's at 84 - 90 but as soon as I get moving it goes to 100. I'm also a smoker. I want to get in shape and take care of my health but I have no idea where to start. I've been talking to some people and they have recommended that I buy a rowing machine and start slow. I would love to hear some opinions as to where and how to start. I don't want to over do it as I've heard a lot of bad experiences. I hope this is the right place to ask this question and I know that this has probably been asked 1000 times but thank you all for taking the time to read this! Have a wonderful day!", "How do I start getting in shape considering I've never been an active person? Hello. I am a 32 years old male that has never really exercised or played any sports for that matter. I work in IT so most of my days I sit 14 - 16 hours in a chair. Lately I've gained a lot of weight ( I'm 184 cm tall and weigh 92 KG ). I've also noticed lately that my pulse always sits between 90 - 106 for most of the day. In the morning when I wake up it's at 84 - 90 but as soon as I get moving it goes to 100. I'm also a smoker. I want to get in shape and take care of my health but I have no idea where to start. I've been talking to some people and they have recommended that I buy a rowing machine and start slow. I would love to hear some opinions as to where and how to start. I don't want to over do it as I've heard a lot of bad experiences. I hope this is the right place to ask this question and I know that this has probably been asked 1000 times but thank you all for taking the time to read this! Have a wonderful day!", "How do I start getting in shape considering I've never been an active person? Hello. I am a 32 years old male that has never really exercised or played any sports for that matter. I work in IT so most of my days I sit 14 - 16 hours in a chair. Lately I've gained a lot of weight ( I'm 184 cm tall and weigh 92 KG ). I've also noticed lately that my pulse always sits between 90 - 106 for most of the day. In the morning when I wake up it's at 84 - 90 but as soon as I get moving it goes to 100. I'm also a smoker. I want to get in shape and take care of my health but I have no idea where to start. I've been talking to some people and they have recommended that I buy a rowing machine and start slow. I would love to hear some opinions as to where and how to start. I don't want to over do it as I've heard a lot of bad experiences. I hope this is the right place to ask this question and I know that this has probably been asked 1000 times but thank you all for taking the time to read this! Have a wonderful day!", "How do I start getting in shape considering I've never been an active person? Hello. I am a 32 years old male that has never really exercised or played any sports for that matter. I work in IT so most of my days I sit 14 - 16 hours in a chair. Lately I've gained a lot of weight ( I'm 184 cm tall and weigh 92 KG ). I've also noticed lately that my pulse always sits between 90 - 106 for most of the day. In the morning when I wake up it's at 84 - 90 but as soon as I get moving it goes to 100. I'm also a smoker. I want to get in shape and take care of my health but I have no idea where to start. I've been talking to some people and they have recommended that I buy a rowing machine and start slow. I would love to hear some opinions as to where and how to start. I don't want to over do it as I've heard a lot of bad experiences. I hope this is the right place to ask this question and I know that this has probably been asked 1000 times but thank you all for taking the time to read this! Have a wonderful day!", "How do I start getting in shape considering I've never been an active person? Hello. I am a 32 years old male that has never really exercised or played any sports for that matter. I work in IT so most of my days I sit 14 - 16 hours in a chair. Lately I've gained a lot of weight ( I'm 184 cm tall and weigh 92 KG ). I've also noticed lately that my pulse always sits between 90 - 106 for most of the day. In the morning when I wake up it's at 84 - 90 but as soon as I get moving it goes to 100. I'm also a smoker. I want to get in shape and take care of my health but I have no idea where to start. I've been talking to some people and they have recommended that I buy a rowing machine and start slow. I would love to hear some opinions as to where and how to start. I don't want to over do it as I've heard a lot of bad experiences. I hope this is the right place to ask this question and I know that this has probably been asked 1000 times but thank you all for taking the time to read this! Have a wonderful day!", "How do I start getting in shape considering I've never been an active person? Hello. I am a 32 years old male that has never really exercised or played any sports for that matter. I work in IT so most of my days I sit 14 - 16 hours in a chair. Lately I've gained a lot of weight ( I'm 184 cm tall and weigh 92 KG ). I've also noticed lately that my pulse always sits between 90 - 106 for most of the day. In the morning when I wake up it's at 84 - 90 but as soon as I get moving it goes to 100. I'm also a smoker. I want to get in shape and take care of my health but I have no idea where to start. I've been talking to some people and they have recommended that I buy a rowing machine and start slow. I would love to hear some opinions as to where and how to start. I don't want to over do it as I've heard a lot of bad experiences. I hope this is the right place to ask this question and I know that this has probably been asked 1000 times but thank you all for taking the time to read this! Have a wonderful day!", "How do I start getting in shape considering I've never been an active person? Hello. I am a 32 years old male that has never really exercised or played any sports for that matter. I work in IT so most of my days I sit 14 - 16 hours in a chair. Lately I've gained a lot of weight ( I'm 184 cm tall and weigh 92 KG ). I've also noticed lately that my pulse always sits between 90 - 106 for most of the day. In the morning when I wake up it's at 84 - 90 but as soon as I get moving it goes to 100. I'm also a smoker. I want to get in shape and take care of my health but I have no idea where to start. I've been talking to some people and they have recommended that I buy a rowing machine and start slow. I would love to hear some opinions as to where and how to start. I don't want to over do it as I've heard a lot of bad experiences. I hope this is the right place to ask this question and I know that this has probably been asked 1000 times but thank you all for taking the time to read this! Have a wonderful day!", "How do I start getting in shape considering I've never been an active person? Hello. I am a 32 years old male that has never really exercised or played any sports for that matter. I work in IT so most of my days I sit 14 - 16 hours in a chair. Lately I've gained a lot of weight ( I'm 184 cm tall and weigh 92 KG ). I've also noticed lately that my pulse always sits between 90 - 106 for most of the day. In the morning when I wake up it's at 84 - 90 but as soon as I get moving it goes to 100. I'm also a smoker. I want to get in shape and take care of my health but I have no idea where to start. I've been talking to some people and they have recommended that I buy a rowing machine and start slow. I would love to hear some opinions as to where and how to start. I don't want to over do it as I've heard a lot of bad experiences. I hope this is the right place to ask this question and I know that this has probably been asked 1000 times but thank you all for taking the time to read this! Have a wonderful day!", "How do I start getting in shape considering I've never been an active person? Hello. I am a 32 years old male that has never really exercised or played any sports for that matter. I work in IT so most of my days I sit 14 - 16 hours in a chair. Lately I've gained a lot of weight ( I'm 184 cm tall and weigh 92 KG ). I've also noticed lately that my pulse always sits between 90 - 106 for most of the day. In the morning when I wake up it's at 84 - 90 but as soon as I get moving it goes to 100. I'm also a smoker. I want to get in shape and take care of my health but I have no idea where to start. I've been talking to some people and they have recommended that I buy a rowing machine and start slow. I would love to hear some opinions as to where and how to start. I don't want to over do it as I've heard a lot of bad experiences. I hope this is the right place to ask this question and I know that this has probably been asked 1000 times but thank you all for taking the time to read this! Have a wonderful day!", "How do I start getting in shape considering I've never been an active person? Hello. I am a 32 years old male that has never really exercised or played any sports for that matter. I work in IT so most of my days I sit 14 - 16 hours in a chair. Lately I've gained a lot of weight ( I'm 184 cm tall and weigh 92 KG ). I've also noticed lately that my pulse always sits between 90 - 106 for most of the day. In the morning when I wake up it's at 84 - 90 but as soon as I get moving it goes to 100. I'm also a smoker. I want to get in shape and take care of my health but I have no idea where to start. I've been talking to some people and they have recommended that I buy a rowing machine and start slow. I would love to hear some opinions as to where and how to start. I don't want to over do it as I've heard a lot of bad experiences. I hope this is the right place to ask this question and I know that this has probably been asked 1000 times but thank you all for taking the time to read this! Have a wonderful day!", "How do I start getting in shape considering I've never been an active person? Hello. I am a 32 years old male that has never really exercised or played any sports for that matter. I work in IT so most of my days I sit 14 - 16 hours in a chair. Lately I've gained a lot of weight ( I'm 184 cm tall and weigh 92 KG ). I've also noticed lately that my pulse always sits between 90 - 106 for most of the day. In the morning when I wake up it's at 84 - 90 but as soon as I get moving it goes to 100. I'm also a smoker. I want to get in shape and take care of my health but I have no idea where to start. I've been talking to some people and they have recommended that I buy a rowing machine and start slow. I would love to hear some opinions as to where and how to start. I don't want to over do it as I've heard a lot of bad experiences. I hope this is the right place to ask this question and I know that this has probably been asked 1000 times but thank you all for taking the time to read this! Have a wonderful day!", "How do I start getting in shape considering I've never been an active person? Hello. I am a 32 years old male that has never really exercised or played any sports for that matter. I work in IT so most of my days I sit 14 - 16 hours in a chair. Lately I've gained a lot of weight ( I'm 184 cm tall and weigh 92 KG ). I've also noticed lately that my pulse always sits between 90 - 106 for most of the day. In the morning when I wake up it's at 84 - 90 but as soon as I get moving it goes to 100. I'm also a smoker. I want to get in shape and take care of my health but I have no idea where to start. I've been talking to some people and they have recommended that I buy a rowing machine and start slow. I would love to hear some opinions as to where and how to start. I don't want to over do it as I've heard a lot of bad experiences. I hope this is the right place to ask this question and I know that this has probably been asked 1000 times but thank you all for taking the time to read this! Have a wonderful day!", "How do I start getting in shape considering I've never been an active person? Hello. I am a 32 years old male that has never really exercised or played any sports for that matter. I work in IT so most of my days I sit 14 - 16 hours in a chair. Lately I've gained a lot of weight ( I'm 184 cm tall and weigh 92 KG ). I've also noticed lately that my pulse always sits between 90 - 106 for most of the day. In the morning when I wake up it's at 84 - 90 but as soon as I get moving it goes to 100. I'm also a smoker. I want to get in shape and take care of my health but I have no idea where to start. I've been talking to some people and they have recommended that I buy a rowing machine and start slow. I would love to hear some opinions as to where and how to start. I don't want to over do it as I've heard a lot of bad experiences. I hope this is the right place to ask this question and I know that this has probably been asked 1000 times but thank you all for taking the time to read this! Have a wonderful day!" ]	[ "QUIT SMOKING. NOW.\n\nI know it may not be what you want to hear, but the first step is to quit smoking cold turkey. Find something to replace it. Drinking water whenever you want to smoke helps with weight loss and quitting smoking. You’ll be taking out two birds with one stone. You’ll be surprised how much your health improves after you quit.", "Start slow. A rowing machine is a tough workout, so you’re only going to do it a minute or two before dropping out. Maybe start with walking. Increase your distance over time; increase your speed. Eventually start running, or go to the rowing machine then.", "If u are slightly overweight and have never been an active person, the first thing before starting to exercise is to have a good diet. Actually commit to eating healthy first. And by diet and eating healthy i mean, dont eat sugar, buy xylitol for coffee etc, dont eat fried things, dooooo nooooot driiiink anything fizzy. And dont overdo it with the bread/pasta/pizza. So the first 3 things you should really try to avoid, and the latter you should really consume in moderation. You do this for a month, and you will see that u will not be bloated anymore, and u will also notice that its easier to carry yourself etc. And then i start exercising, whatever exercise you chose, preferably light ones since u never exercised before. Whether its a sport or just exercises, start small, ur muscles will hurt at the beginning and u probably wont be able to last long, which is normal. But yeah, this is what i would recommend for any other person in ur situation, first clean ur eating so u actually clean ur body a little and then start exercise, diet is 80% responsible for weight anyway. Hope it helps.", "Alot of good tips on here.\n\n1) Start with diet, eating right. Look up some different types and see what works for you. M", "For me, i also sit all day long. I don't always just get up and start exercising. So what I started doing is just getting up and start stretching. This will get you in the \"mood\" of trying to get your mind to comply with starting a habit. Do this multiple times a day for 5 min. You don't have to start working out right away. Its like training a dog. After a while (month or longer), every time you get up to stretch, you mind will be like \"Alright, here we go.\" Start substituting some of those stretches for walks, or some kind of exercise for the same amount of time, 5 minutes. Do this for longer. After a while it won't be annoying, it will just be like taking out the garbage. After more months or weeks, start combining the stretches and exercises you do through out the day into one daily 20 min or 30 min exercise. While you do those, you should also still get up and stretch like 2-3 times for 2-3 minutes. Than just start adding on 5 minutes every week untill you get to a point you can just do anything. Remember, you can always go backward, thats is totally fine. You don't always have to push yourself all the time, that can be stressful and daunting. Your body will tell you, \"Hey, I still feel good, lets do another 5 min.\"", "\nTLDR Give yourself lots of positive reinforcement/positive self-talk for every little bit of exercise, and be kind to yourself when you slip up. \n\nHi! \n\nWhat I have to share is more on the mind side of the mind-body continuum, and comes from my perspective as a behaviorist who has worked with animals using positive reinforcement. And it is: use the heck out of positive reinforcement on yourself. Not so much with treats as a reward, but positive self-talk. Beware, you might feel like a tool at first, but the payoff is surprising:\n\n- Every single time you choose to put off having a cigarette, tell yourself “hell yeah dude.” Literally give yourself a fist bump.\n\n- Every time you go for a walk, congratulate yourself. For example, you could literally give yourself a hug when you’re out walking, and when get back in the door. \n\n- Have a meal that makes you feel nourished? Give yourself a goddamn high five. \n\n- When those last fifteen seconds of an exercise feel impossible, say out loud “go me, go me, go me!” \n\nDoing these things may make you feel like a stupid weirdo at first. But don’t let that stop you. \n\nThis technique has helped me stay exercising 3+ times per week even though I am stuck by myself in lockdown with literally zero external accountability. I do online high-intensity interval training where the coaches in the videos (not live sessions) are like “gimme a fist bump through the screen,” and “are you feel in’ it at home?! I can’t hear youuu!” Which just sounds so dumb. BUT I’m there fistbumping the camera and whooping it up like a doofus because I want to trick my brain into getting that reinforcement rush I would be getting if sessions were live. \n\nJust ignore that voice that’s like ‘this is dumb’, and I promise it will help you stay motivated and ultimately contribute to even better self-esteem, which will circle back around and motivate you to keep at it. \n\nOn the flip side of this, please don’t beat yourself up when you slip. Getting down on yourself is your brain’s attempt to shame you into getting back on the wagon. (Incidentally, this is why I think it feels so weird to give yourself positive self-talk, because that inner voice is so used to being critical.) The thing is, shame is not a good motivator — it just shuts you down. Instead, be kind to yourself. It doesn’t matter if you had literally no excuse not to exercise and still didn’t — don’t self-flagellate. Ask yourself what you’d say to a disappointed child? It’s ok, try again tomorrow. \n\nMaybe this all sounds like fluff that won’t matter to starting a fitness routine, but I have found that making my mind a nice place to spend time (where that voice is not constantly criticizing me) makes keeping up with exercise so much easier. \n\nThe saying goes “anima sana in corpore sano” (Latin for sound mind in a sound body), but I think it works the other way around too; corpus sanus in anima sana.", "What worked for me was getting a physically demanding part time job. I work in a liquor store and I'm in the best shape of my life from lifting cases of beer. This works for me because of accountability - I can't skip work, but I can skip workouts.", "Walk as much as you can, and always take the stairs. Track your calories. Think about why you are eating something. Drink only water.", "Start doing yoga and stretching every day. There are amazing video on YouTube Yoga with Adriene is my favorite. She really makes you feel like she cares about you. I’m on my 5th 30 day challenge of hers and it’s amazing. I’m stronger than I’ve ever been. And feel amazing.", "Sounds like you have a fitness tracker or app, try and accomplish one of the challenges a day walking, even if it’s not everyday. \n\nGood luck man!!", "It’s really a matter of making the decision and just starting. Then build from there. \n\nEverything is life is a decision. Make good ones.", "If you want to lose fat then I suggest that you watch what you eat, eat at a calorie deficit, and do a small amount of calisthenics each day. I would start of with squats, walk-in walk-out push-ups and leg scissors. Before you work out, make sure to warm up. My favorite warm up that I use every day is one made by the YouTuber \"jaxblade\", if you are sore or just don't feel like working out that day you can just do the warm up. he has made two of them on his channels so I would try both and see which one you like more. Best of luck to you, I lost over 30 pounds of fat and have never felt better after doing this.", "I'll tell you what worked for me.\n\nI quit smoking by switching to chewing tobacco and then transitioning to flavored tea pouches they sell on Amazon. Patches help the craving but not the habit. Those mini lozenges give you a nice little buzz, but when you can pop them all the time at your desk I tend to overdo it.\n\nI lost weight by using portion control and eating only semi-healthy. I set a limit of 500 calories for every meal, doesn't matter what I eat. It's way easier to eat only two slices of frozen pizza rather than make a healthy version from scratch with cauliflower crust that you can have 3 slices of. All that counting macros and carefully measuring ingredients can come later if you get really into it. After a few months my meals naturally got better because I started incorporating lots of veggies to make larger, more satisfying portions while staying in my calorie limit. \n\nI started working out more by self imposing \"screen time\" limitations for myself, as an adult. Turns out, if I'm not staring at the boob tube or a computer monitor, I tend to find more healthy activites like gardening, going on walks, playing catch with the kids, etc. I've had a little home gym forever, but found I never used it until I made screen time a reward for working out.\n\nI'm sure setting little rules like these sounds silly as an adult. But, the fact is that we didn't end up as overweight smokers by having great impulse control over our daily routines.", "I'd start with a trip to your doctor. Make sure you're good to start exercising. Then, fitness has three main components. Flexibility, muscle strength, and aerobic fitness. The walking is a great idea for aerobic. For flexibility and muscle strength, try a trainer to teach you. As a young guy, you can probably increase your weight lifted quickly, which should motivate you. And if you're competitive, get a Fitbit or something for steps. Consider a dog. :)", "I recently started [this wokout routine](https://www.reddit.com/r/bodyweightfitness/wiki/kb/recommended_routine) and it's actually pretty good. It's good how you can scale it to your level. [This routine](https://www.reddit.com/r/bodyweightfitness/wiki/minroutine) may be better if just starting out.", "I found swimming and cycling good exercise when I want to lose weight - you can start small with both and build them up over time as you get fitter. Appreciate swimming lengths maybe a bit dull but a few miles on a bike out in the countryside is never the same twice", "Find an active activity you enjoy. You’ll have so much more motivation to exercise if you’re enjoying yourself. It can be a sport or martial art, or even something like dancing. \n\nMake sure you do something active EVERY DAY. I can’t stress how important this is. Making a schedule and putting your exercise as part of your subconscious routine will help you be consistent. A lot of people try and start with only a couple of days a week, but it’s so much harder to build a routine that way. You don’t have to go hard every day at the beginning, but you have do something every day, even if it’s only a couple of minutes of exercise. Find ways to work exercise into your daily routine in small ways. When you get up from your chair, do a few pushups or jumping jacks. Try holding a plank while you have something in the microwave. Those little things add up.\n\nDiet is super important, but you have to figure out what works for you. In general though, eating less calories, less processed or fast food, cutting down on beer, and eating more vegetables will all help.", "Cut out snacks and sugary drinks. Calorie count. There is no better way to lose weight. Lots of water. You're probably thirsty. Not hungry.", "Buy a pair of shoes and walk around. Then gradually jog. Moving up from there. Sounds simple but When I was attempting to lose weight I was looking into workout equipment, gear, gyms, etc. my boss came up to me and said “buy a pair of sneakers and walk around. If you don’t do that eventually then you know you probably won’t use the gear or go to the gym.” It was amazing advice as I definitely have bought gym memberships and whatnot without using it. I recently bought a pair of running shoes and intend on starting small. If I’d like to go the extra distance and buy some equipment then I at least already have the shoes haha. Good luck!", "3 years ago I thought I would never hear me say this but running is so much fun. It hurts like a bitch in the beginning but you will start noticing results quickly if you are consistent. A big tip is to use a running app which tracks time and distance to help you see how you are improving. Oh, and one last thing. Don't cheap out on shoes. Doing so was the worst mistake of my life. Without proper dampening for my feet I messed my legs up for an entire summer.", "You are already on the right path by asking for help. \n\nI happen to have very similar stats and while my response is not a LPT per-se I wanted to share my experience so far as I understand your struggle\n\n\\- Smoking; I tried to quit 10,000 times and failed every time for about 8 years, then I started smoking weed to replace the cigarettes and before I knew it I was going by days without a smoke and now I toke up about 1/2 gram once a day to go to bed and hate cigarettes with a passion, seriously Weed is the best thing to quit cigarettes and after a few months you will smell a cig from a mile away.\n\nalso stop going to your smoking spot and change up your daily smoking routine, disrupt the habit and keep reminders everywhere that you are no longer a smoker, tell yourself in the mirror you are not a smoker and believe it.\n\nif weed is not available for you really consider professional help, I still had withdrawals months after quitting but after 6 months I forgot I smoked. \n\n\\- Exercise; Start slow, don't buy a rowing machine. Find an App you like that can help you track your workouts. your workouts should start at around 10 to 15 min a day 3 x week and gradually add more time and frequency depending on how you feel week over week. I read Atomic habits by James Clear and that helped me a lot in gradually working out and liking my work outs. I have lost weight, I can do serious hiking and mountain biking now. \n\nMost importantly COMMITMENT\n\nCommit to yourself and don't let yourself down. You know what your body is asking for and your body is signaling that you need to become fit and healthy so commit to it even if it is 5 min a day its better than 0 mins a day, toss the cigs out find a new hobby to take your mind off of them. \n\ngood luck!" ]	[ 19, 6, 6, 6, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, -1 ]	safe
[ "how to avoid getting sucked back into a toxic relationship. My girlfriend was a meth addict. She would steal from me, abuse me emotionally, and generally had no regard for the consequences of her actions. I tried to help her help herself and asked her many times to begin to consider how her actions affect those around her. I didn't hear from her for a few days so I packed all her stuff into a storage unit and gave her mother the keys. Now she's trying to contact me, blowing my phone up and getting her friends to text me. I've just about blocked all the numbers. She says she still loves me but I don't believe it. I can't let her manipulate me into taking her back. How can I prevent myself from letting her get to me? I'm afraid she'll show up on my doorstep soon.", "how to avoid getting sucked back into a toxic relationship. My girlfriend was a meth addict. She would steal from me, abuse me emotionally, and generally had no regard for the consequences of her actions. I tried to help her help herself and asked her many times to begin to consider how her actions affect those around her. I didn't hear from her for a few days so I packed all her stuff into a storage unit and gave her mother the keys. Now she's trying to contact me, blowing my phone up and getting her friends to text me. I've just about blocked all the numbers. She says she still loves me but I don't believe it. I can't let her manipulate me into taking her back. How can I prevent myself from letting her get to me? I'm afraid she'll show up on my doorstep soon.", "how to avoid getting sucked back into a toxic relationship. My girlfriend was a meth addict. She would steal from me, abuse me emotionally, and generally had no regard for the consequences of her actions. I tried to help her help herself and asked her many times to begin to consider how her actions affect those around her. I didn't hear from her for a few days so I packed all her stuff into a storage unit and gave her mother the keys. Now she's trying to contact me, blowing my phone up and getting her friends to text me. I've just about blocked all the numbers. She says she still loves me but I don't believe it. I can't let her manipulate me into taking her back. How can I prevent myself from letting her get to me? I'm afraid she'll show up on my doorstep soon.", "how to avoid getting sucked back into a toxic relationship. My girlfriend was a meth addict. She would steal from me, abuse me emotionally, and generally had no regard for the consequences of her actions. I tried to help her help herself and asked her many times to begin to consider how her actions affect those around her. I didn't hear from her for a few days so I packed all her stuff into a storage unit and gave her mother the keys. Now she's trying to contact me, blowing my phone up and getting her friends to text me. I've just about blocked all the numbers. She says she still loves me but I don't believe it. I can't let her manipulate me into taking her back. How can I prevent myself from letting her get to me? I'm afraid she'll show up on my doorstep soon.", "how to avoid getting sucked back into a toxic relationship. My girlfriend was a meth addict. She would steal from me, abuse me emotionally, and generally had no regard for the consequences of her actions. I tried to help her help herself and asked her many times to begin to consider how her actions affect those around her. I didn't hear from her for a few days so I packed all her stuff into a storage unit and gave her mother the keys. Now she's trying to contact me, blowing my phone up and getting her friends to text me. I've just about blocked all the numbers. She says she still loves me but I don't believe it. I can't let her manipulate me into taking her back. How can I prevent myself from letting her get to me? I'm afraid she'll show up on my doorstep soon.", "how to avoid getting sucked back into a toxic relationship. My girlfriend was a meth addict. She would steal from me, abuse me emotionally, and generally had no regard for the consequences of her actions. I tried to help her help herself and asked her many times to begin to consider how her actions affect those around her. I didn't hear from her for a few days so I packed all her stuff into a storage unit and gave her mother the keys. Now she's trying to contact me, blowing my phone up and getting her friends to text me. I've just about blocked all the numbers. She says she still loves me but I don't believe it. I can't let her manipulate me into taking her back. How can I prevent myself from letting her get to me? I'm afraid she'll show up on my doorstep soon.", "how to avoid getting sucked back into a toxic relationship. My girlfriend was a meth addict. She would steal from me, abuse me emotionally, and generally had no regard for the consequences of her actions. I tried to help her help herself and asked her many times to begin to consider how her actions affect those around her. I didn't hear from her for a few days so I packed all her stuff into a storage unit and gave her mother the keys. Now she's trying to contact me, blowing my phone up and getting her friends to text me. I've just about blocked all the numbers. She says she still loves me but I don't believe it. I can't let her manipulate me into taking her back. How can I prevent myself from letting her get to me? I'm afraid she'll show up on my doorstep soon.", "how to avoid getting sucked back into a toxic relationship. My girlfriend was a meth addict. She would steal from me, abuse me emotionally, and generally had no regard for the consequences of her actions. I tried to help her help herself and asked her many times to begin to consider how her actions affect those around her. I didn't hear from her for a few days so I packed all her stuff into a storage unit and gave her mother the keys. Now she's trying to contact me, blowing my phone up and getting her friends to text me. I've just about blocked all the numbers. She says she still loves me but I don't believe it. I can't let her manipulate me into taking her back. How can I prevent myself from letting her get to me? I'm afraid she'll show up on my doorstep soon.", "how to avoid getting sucked back into a toxic relationship. My girlfriend was a meth addict. She would steal from me, abuse me emotionally, and generally had no regard for the consequences of her actions. I tried to help her help herself and asked her many times to begin to consider how her actions affect those around her. I didn't hear from her for a few days so I packed all her stuff into a storage unit and gave her mother the keys. Now she's trying to contact me, blowing my phone up and getting her friends to text me. I've just about blocked all the numbers. She says she still loves me but I don't believe it. I can't let her manipulate me into taking her back. How can I prevent myself from letting her get to me? I'm afraid she'll show up on my doorstep soon.", "how to avoid getting sucked back into a toxic relationship. My girlfriend was a meth addict. She would steal from me, abuse me emotionally, and generally had no regard for the consequences of her actions. I tried to help her help herself and asked her many times to begin to consider how her actions affect those around her. I didn't hear from her for a few days so I packed all her stuff into a storage unit and gave her mother the keys. Now she's trying to contact me, blowing my phone up and getting her friends to text me. I've just about blocked all the numbers. She says she still loves me but I don't believe it. I can't let her manipulate me into taking her back. How can I prevent myself from letting her get to me? I'm afraid she'll show up on my doorstep soon." ]	[ "First I would get a new number from my cell carrier, change the locks to your house and then begin to seek a restraining order. She has already shown no regard for you or your feelings. Save yourself, run and hide. ", "I had one like this. I got sucked back in two times, so I was in a relationship with her three times. Each time was worse. The last time I figured out what would work. It was simple. Disappoint her. Say you'll meet her somewhere, text and say you're running late. Show up saying that you were with a friend and be vague. Let her think you're with someone else. If you can get her to hate you, she'll be done and you'll not have to worry. It's dirty, deceitful, and hateful but a little treachery could save you tons of trouble. ", "Get some guy friends and hang out with them. Learn how to lift weights and get physically stronger. These lead to emotional strength. Get some self respect. ", "LPT: Don't stick your dick in crazy. On a serious note though, speak with her mother about getting her into rehab.", "let her show up at your doorstep - you have the power and ability to just say \"good bye\". \n\nYou can do this...\nYou do not need her...\nYou will find someone else who will love, respect and treat you the way you need and deserve to be treated. \n\nGood Luck and remember, take some time for yourself - do not jump into a new relationship. \n\nIn order to love others, you must love yourself - do something nice for yourself only and appreciate that you are AWESOME! <3 ", "Well, she might indeed love you, but it seems like she loves meth more; the way you prevent her from getting to you is by noticing your thoughts, seeing when they creep around towards thinking that she might succeed in convincing you, and then taking control of those thoughts and using your ability to decide what you want to do: you want to not allow her back in, and you need to use those thoughts to counter the other ones when they come up. It's your mind/will, not hers, and you are fully capable of this!\n\nAlso, the more you sit around just thinking about it, the more turned around you can get about it; make sure you keep active and do things that will keep you from stagnating in worry. Find other people to hang with, find a hobby, whatever. Not to run away from the thoughts, cuz they will come and you can deal with them when they do, but just so it's not all you have to think about, cuz that's when stuff can get harder than it needs to.\n\n", "Get a new number. Inform everyone that she is not to get it.\n\nGet a restraining order and a no-contact order. ", "You are probably addicted to her in some way. There is a reason you were attracted to her drama and tried to save her for so long. It's time to ask yourself what you were getting from her that you need to give yourself. Find a friend who will act as a \"sponsor\" so that anytime you feel weak/aren't able to avoid her/start romantizing the past you can call them to talk you down. If she catches you in person, be extremely boring (called grey rock) and get away saying as little as possible. Keep busy and eventually it will start to hurt less. Remember, you don't really love her, you loved a potential sober version of her that doesn't actually exist.", "Prioritise yourself and your own well-being. \nI got sucked back into a horrible relationship twice because I was a softy and stupidly gullible.\nHave her actions destroyed any love you ever had? That was my rationale for finally being strong enough to end it. I realised I would rather have spent my life alone than in such a destructive, soul-destroying relationship. \nGood luck. ", "Maybe I don't understand your request here but I guess the LPT is listen to your brain?\n\nYou logically know this person is terrible, I don't understand why that isn't enough to tell you to stay away from them. \n\n(If they're actively stalking you, that's different, get a restraining order)" ]	[ 34, 5, 5, 4, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to become photogenic I somehow always blink when someone takes a photo. Most times when the flash is off. I instinctively know when they will take the photo and my natural reflex is to look as stupid as possible. Not by choice but by nerves. How can I flip this curse around?", "How to become photogenic I somehow always blink when someone takes a photo. Most times when the flash is off. I instinctively know when they will take the photo and my natural reflex is to look as stupid as possible. Not by choice but by nerves. How can I flip this curse around?", "How to become photogenic I somehow always blink when someone takes a photo. Most times when the flash is off. I instinctively know when they will take the photo and my natural reflex is to look as stupid as possible. Not by choice but by nerves. How can I flip this curse around?", "How to become photogenic I somehow always blink when someone takes a photo. Most times when the flash is off. I instinctively know when they will take the photo and my natural reflex is to look as stupid as possible. Not by choice but by nerves. How can I flip this curse around?", "How to become photogenic I somehow always blink when someone takes a photo. Most times when the flash is off. I instinctively know when they will take the photo and my natural reflex is to look as stupid as possible. Not by choice but by nerves. How can I flip this curse around?", "How to become photogenic I somehow always blink when someone takes a photo. Most times when the flash is off. I instinctively know when they will take the photo and my natural reflex is to look as stupid as possible. Not by choice but by nerves. How can I flip this curse around?" ]	[ "First win the lottery, then try to right the wrongs you've done to bring your karma from the negative to the positive. Bring your vaguely retarded brother along for support. Try to last more than 4 seasons. ", "you should do what i do, which is duck face while feigning distraction towards something off camera whilst stroking my chin, and making a phony gang sign.\n\nOh wait, no one takes pictures of me.", "Say \"uh\" like the second syllable of \"yoga\" while smiling. Move your head forward towards the camera, and it will improve your jawline. Take multiple pictures instead of just one. As for blinking, maybe just focus on keeping them open? I have no clue on that one.", "Take some selfies to practice all of the following:\n\nFigure out the right chin angle. If you lean your head back you'll look weak or weird. If you lean your head too far forward you'll look like a rapist. Find the happy middle ground.\n\nTurn your body 60-80 degrees from center and turn your head to face the camera. Repeat from the other side. Your face isn't symetrical, so use this to figure out your 'good side.' If possible (it usually isn't) try to stand on the side that lets you turn your good side\n\nThink of something that brings you quiet joy, or someone that makes you happy. Try to get lost in that moment, or feel what you feel when you look at that person. The smile will be genuine\n\nApart from those tips, wash your face frequently, use moisturizer if you're in a dry climate or if your skin gets ruddy, and just remember that the only thing people look at in group photos is themselves. No pressure.", "Practice.\n\nTakes lots of photos in different positions until you find one that suits you and memorize it. Models know how to look at the camera. ", "I find it can help looking just above the lense of the camera/phone as it can open your eyes that little bit more. Get compliments off the GF every now and again in photos when I do it " ]	[ 11, 5, 3, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--", "Dealing with cold feet in the winter So I guess I've got really bad circulation considering it's only 68 degrees and I've got Darn Tough Socks on plus a blanket while indoors. What else can I do? Putting a heater on seems a bit overkill when the rest of my body is fine. I'll even considered USB heated slippers if those are any good and get a good recommendation.\n\n--" ]	[ "If you're anything like me, once your feet are already cold no amount of socks will warm them back up. My advice is to take a hot shower. As soon as you get out of the shower and dry off, put on your nice thick socks and/or slippers. That way you'll be keeping your feet warm instead of trying to warm them back up. ", "I have the same problem and have made a miraculous discovery this winter, the old fashioned hot water bottle! If you are sitting in one place, just pop it under your feet and it radiates through your body, obviously warming your feet through first. It stays warm for about 4 hours if you use boiling water \n\nI literally can reduce my heating through the whole house, by a couple of degrees ", "Make sure your socks are the right size - not too tight. Tight socks can't create the insulating layer of warm air trapped next to your feet. Add silk sock liners - again, making sure that they aren't too tight. If outdoors, check your shoes, too; too-thick socks crammed into tight shoes will actually make your feet colder. Be sure to stand up and walk a few minutes every hour to increase circulation. Source: am farrier with naturally cold feet/hands, work outdoors all winter (to -10), feet are warm since figuring out how to sock correctly. ", "Compression socks help with circulation. As far as warmth, I've taken to wearing those moccasin slippers with socks- prevents sweaty feet", "I have to soak my feet in hot water every once in a while. I can wear all the socks I want, but eventually they're just holding the cold in. I've also been considering some footwarmers. ", "Put on a tight (ish) undershirt. Focus on keeping your organs warm and your extremities will fall in line. Source: Canadian whose feet are never cold.", "Research different types of wool socks. I have relatives with raynaud's disease and they swear by Alpaca Socks. \n\ncheck out Raynauds, it might be complicating the issue for you as well. http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/raynauds-disease/basics/definition/con-20022916\n\n", "I won't recommend anything I haven't tried myself.\n\nI've had cold feet since my early 20s. I started adding additional insulation, but it eventually became clear that that was not enough.\n\nI was once at a podiatrist and commented on my poor circulation. He indicated he could feel my pulse just fine in my feet and they didn't have poor circulation. So you may keep that in mind if suggestions such as the compression socks don't help.\n\nI used to actually run a tub of hot water and stick them in it. It was inconvenient, but felt great and allowed me to sleep (or get back to sleep).\n\nI stopped needing to do that when someone bought me a pair of \"FootEase\" ([link](http://bodysenseinc.com/Hands-and-Feet/)). They're basically a pair of soft slippers but with a bunch of rice in the bottom (plus some clove and cinnamon so they smell awesome). You microwave them for 3 minutes or so (for large at least) and they get nice and toasty. My feet sap the heat right up.\n\nThe bottoms aren't well insulated so I make sure to put down a throw that's been folded multiple times to insulate from the floor/foot rest. Then I put a throw on top - and may wrap it around my feet. \n\nIt may seem like overkill but I actually put a heating pad directly under them and that keeps everything warm a lot longer. Then when you like, if they cool down enough or you don't feel like heating them, you can just use the same setup but with the heating pad. \nI also have a heating pad at my feet to help me sleep better at night (along with the FootEase). I'm not trying to sell anything. If you're crafty, or know someone who is, you could make your own and probably save some cash. However their design and materials are nice and they've lasted me several years (shop around for better prices).\n\nFeel free to ask me questions.", "Good place to start: http://m.llbean.com/search.html#wicked%20good%20slippers\n\nPlus their return policies are the gold standard. ", "Ill jump in the shower and concentrate the hot water just on my feet for a couple minutes. Works a lot better if you have a wand. Dry off, then put socks on. Works for a while. \n\nWhen I am at work I sometimes use [these](http://www.walmart.com/ip/Heatmax-HH-2-Hand-Warmers-2-pack/40454059) but apparently they have them just for toes now lol", "I sit cross legged on my chair with my feet flat on the inside of my thighs. Works for a bit provided you can stretch like that and don't have a chair with restrictive arms. Tends to get my knees eventually, but usually I've warmed my feet up by then and can put them back into my shoes / slippers.\nOne of my colleagues has similar circulatory problems and has a heated foot mat - though I think they use quite a lot of electric.\nI've just done a little search and might be tempted to try these.\nhttp://www.amazon.co.uk/Dreamtime-Spa-Socks-Microwavable-unit/dp/B000R76QWM", "I have the same problem. It's a major pain in the ***. Try Toe Grabber adhesive foot warmers. That's what I use until there is a \"cure\" for perpetually cold toes. ", "I brought extra mats for kitchen where I stand he most and bathroom. Feet were not coping with the cold coming from under the house. Also rest my feet on a sheep skin rug while sitting on the sofa and wear possum and marino socks.", "Well, it may be your health. You may not be getting enough blood circulation to your feet.\n\n quit smoking\n* quit drinking\n* avoid coffee\n\nExercise might help as well. I was really out of shape a few years ago. After i started workig on my health, the cold feet went away. ", "Tiger balm. I used it when I was a being sea fisherman. Worked great many other deckhands started using it. ", "Supplement with iron and magnesium. Some people have a hard time getting iron from pills so supplement from food sources for both.\n\nAlso, a heating pad where your feet are is a wonderful feeling.", "Put on an extra sweater or vest. It might sound backwards but when you are cold, your body will reduce circulation in your extremities so that it can keep your torso and internal organs up to temperature. Even if the rest of your body feels warm, it might only be because your body is compensating by reducing the circulation in your feet.", "I know I'm late to the party, but I am in just utter disbelief that no one has mentioned this yet, because it's a pretty common and well-known thing. If you're feet are cold, put on a hat. It's that simple. \n\nNinja-", "I have a couple suggestions, as I deal with the same issue. If your feet stay cold while working at a desk, get a foot riser. Sure, you could use a stack of books but, [treat yourself right!](http://www.amazon.com/Kensington-SoleMassager-Exercising-Footrest-K56155US/dp/B0013F12YO/ref=pd_sim_sbs_229_2) Often times the front edge of office chairs will reduce circulation in your lower legs. By raising your feet, you will increase blood flow.\n\nAs for socks, you want something that breathes well and is also warm. Since I am a cyclist, once I tried cycling socks, I never went back. Cycling socks keep your feet dry and are FAR more comfortable than your standard sport socks. They make them in [thin wool](http://www.amazon.com/Defeet-WAC-DeFeet-Wooleator-Socks/dp/B004BA5FOQ) as well, which are fantastic in winter. Plus, they have many, many fun designs.\n\nCheck out [Sock Guy](http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=a9_sc_1?rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Asockguy&keywords=sockguy&ie=UTF8&qid=1447867253) for cool designs\n\ngood luck!", "How about hands? Especially in an office setting where I cant wear gloves because I need to type...... they dont make heated keyboards do they?", "[Maybe these under extreme circumstances, possibly when all other things have failed or it's really cold?](http://www.amazon.com/HotHands-Toe-Warmers/dp/B00SA6KMAE)", "Wintergreen or black pepper essential oil will help keep you warm and help improve circulation! Just be sure to use a carrier oil", "This sounds stupid, but do a lot of skating. ever since I started skating a lot, my feet are so much more vascularized they don't get cold anymore", "This might not be instant relief, but I've always been colder than everyone around me my whole life, and exercising helps my blood circulation and when I exercise consistently, I can tell my whole body stays warmer ", "There is a saying, \"If your feet are cold, warm your head. If your head is cold, warm your feet.\" I'm not sure what the efficacy is, but it's always seemed to work for me. ", "Sorel boots.\n\nFinally gave in and bought a pair last winter (they're a bit pricier and kind of ugly) but goddamn my feet can get so hot in those they start sweating", "One thing I have to watch out for is when I'm at work I have a heater aimed at my feet which actually makes them sweat. When I go outside they are instant frozen as my socks are a little damp. So obviously make sure your feet are not wet at all. \n\nAlso, exercise is a great way to increase circulation and raise your body temp. You'd be amazed at how much it can help. ", "My wife uses a wheat bag that she puts in the microwave and warms it up. Then lays it on here feet, once they are warm it lasts for a while. She also warms it before she goes to bed and puts it down by her feet. ", "My mother in law makes these things called cozies. Basically a bag of feed corn in a cloth bag. You heat them up in the microwave for 3 minutes. They stay warm for like 20 minutes. ", "Massage your feet to increase blood circulation. Grab a golf ball (or any ball of that size and hardness) and place one foot on top. Roll the ball and apply pressure to all areas of your foot.\n\nIf you don't have a ball, sit cross legged while placing a foot on top of your knee. Apply pressure with your elbow. \n\nHope this helps :)", "Keep your chest warmer. If your chest is warm it will pump blood to your hands and feet. If you chest is cold it draws in the heat to \"save itself\"", "Keep a crock pot of socks going. Grab a new, warm pair as needed.\n\nIf that grosses you out, get those crock pot liners.\n\nI just made this up!", "In addition to heavy socks, wear a beanie. It'll keep you from losing heat through the other end of your body and should help keep your body warm which can help your feet keep themselves warm.", "If it's only your extremities that get cold, even when the rest of you is warm, you might want to get checked out for renaulds syndrome. It's very very common and basically affects the circulation in your fingers and toes. \n\nAlso, do you use any tobacco products? Nicotine is a vasoconstrictor and can cause this in some people. ", "I'm sure everybody else in this thread means well, but there's really only one way to go here. It's a whole flight of steps above mere socks, no matter how good those socks are. Splurge a little and get yourself some of these: \n \n#http://hpsheepskin.com/slippers.html \n \nGenuine sheepskin, I swear by 'em. My SO got me these for Christmas a couple years ago and I never take them off in the house once the outdoor temp dips below 50 degrees F. They're well worth the price. After two full winters of constant wear, they still hold up much better than any other slippers or socks I've ever owned - not a hole or busted stitch to be seen yet - and my feet are never ever cold.", "I use a heating pad when I'm at my computer if it's really cold. Fold it in half, put it on low and put your toes into the fold of the pad. Word of warning, have your nice thermal socks on stand by, as soon as you get your feet out of the pad put the socks on.", "I haven't read through all the comments so sorry if someone's already said this, but I find wriggling my toes and keep blood flowing helps as well as double layer thick socks ", "I found if my feet get chilly and i go for a walk. once my feet warm up they stay warm for 4+ hours. \n\nthey do sell peddles to put under a desk so you can peddle lightly while sitting. i guess those are $200+ usually so maybe that is out of your price range. but i think your doctor would be really proud :) ", "I find doing leg exercises really helps. It gets the blood flowing and I feel like long term they have an easier time staying warm to. Squats, calf raises and lunges are my go tos.", "Have a blow drier? Insert the air blowing end inside your sock and turn it on for ~30 seconds. If your doing it right, your sock should inflate.", "Get yourself some proper \"Hüttenschuhe\". No idea what they are called in English. Here's what they should look like: https://de.wikipedia.org/wiki/H%C3%BCttenschuh", "Get a hot water bottle or one of those rice neck warmers. Get it hot. Put under your feet. Warm toes forever!", "Do not underestimate the importance of keeping your feet dry. If I wear leather shoes, even the normal amount of moisture evaporating from skin makes my socks damp by the end of the day. If you use wool (or similar wicking fabrics) and let your feet air out periodically, you will be much warmer.", "actually I was in a cave like place in Iraq when I was young a few of my dads buddies. I was wearing socks and my feet where cold I complained and asked for another pair of socks some old guy told me to take off my socks and I will feel better. didn't believe took off my socks...he was right...I guess something bout the the socks stop the blood from circulating correct. " ]	[ 55, 37, 23, 9, 8, 7, 5, 4, 4, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "What to spend my ' tired free-time ' at the end of my day without mindlessly scrolling down my phone, or playing video games? I'm someone that gets addicted to video games, and scrolling down social media, so these are things I'd really like to avoid. But it feels like at the end of my day after working hard I'm too tired to do anything that requires much energy or brain-power, and I don't really know how to spend that time without defaulting to those unhealthy habits. Anyone got any ideas for easy relaxing activities to do while I'm winding down at the end of the day?", "What to spend my ' tired free-time ' at the end of my day without mindlessly scrolling down my phone, or playing video games? I'm someone that gets addicted to video games, and scrolling down social media, so these are things I'd really like to avoid. But it feels like at the end of my day after working hard I'm too tired to do anything that requires much energy or brain-power, and I don't really know how to spend that time without defaulting to those unhealthy habits. Anyone got any ideas for easy relaxing activities to do while I'm winding down at the end of the day?", "What to spend my ' tired free-time ' at the end of my day without mindlessly scrolling down my phone, or playing video games? I'm someone that gets addicted to video games, and scrolling down social media, so these are things I'd really like to avoid. But it feels like at the end of my day after working hard I'm too tired to do anything that requires much energy or brain-power, and I don't really know how to spend that time without defaulting to those unhealthy habits. Anyone got any ideas for easy relaxing activities to do while I'm winding down at the end of the day?", "What to spend my ' tired free-time ' at the end of my day without mindlessly scrolling down my phone, or playing video games? I'm someone that gets addicted to video games, and scrolling down social media, so these are things I'd really like to avoid. But it feels like at the end of my day after working hard I'm too tired to do anything that requires much energy or brain-power, and I don't really know how to spend that time without defaulting to those unhealthy habits. Anyone got any ideas for easy relaxing activities to do while I'm winding down at the end of the day?", "What to spend my ' tired free-time ' at the end of my day without mindlessly scrolling down my phone, or playing video games? I'm someone that gets addicted to video games, and scrolling down social media, so these are things I'd really like to avoid. But it feels like at the end of my day after working hard I'm too tired to do anything that requires much energy or brain-power, and I don't really know how to spend that time without defaulting to those unhealthy habits. Anyone got any ideas for easy relaxing activities to do while I'm winding down at the end of the day?", "What to spend my ' tired free-time ' at the end of my day without mindlessly scrolling down my phone, or playing video games? I'm someone that gets addicted to video games, and scrolling down social media, so these are things I'd really like to avoid. But it feels like at the end of my day after working hard I'm too tired to do anything that requires much energy or brain-power, and I don't really know how to spend that time without defaulting to those unhealthy habits. 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But it feels like at the end of my day after working hard I'm too tired to do anything that requires much energy or brain-power, and I don't really know how to spend that time without defaulting to those unhealthy habits. Anyone got any ideas for easy relaxing activities to do while I'm winding down at the end of the day?", "What to spend my ' tired free-time ' at the end of my day without mindlessly scrolling down my phone, or playing video games? I'm someone that gets addicted to video games, and scrolling down social media, so these are things I'd really like to avoid. But it feels like at the end of my day after working hard I'm too tired to do anything that requires much energy or brain-power, and I don't really know how to spend that time without defaulting to those unhealthy habits. 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But it feels like at the end of my day after working hard I'm too tired to do anything that requires much energy or brain-power, and I don't really know how to spend that time without defaulting to those unhealthy habits. Anyone got any ideas for easy relaxing activities to do while I'm winding down at the end of the day?", "What to spend my ' tired free-time ' at the end of my day without mindlessly scrolling down my phone, or playing video games? I'm someone that gets addicted to video games, and scrolling down social media, so these are things I'd really like to avoid. But it feels like at the end of my day after working hard I'm too tired to do anything that requires much energy or brain-power, and I don't really know how to spend that time without defaulting to those unhealthy habits. Anyone got any ideas for easy relaxing activities to do while I'm winding down at the end of the day?", "What to spend my ' tired free-time ' at the end of my day without mindlessly scrolling down my phone, or playing video games? I'm someone that gets addicted to video games, and scrolling down social media, so these are things I'd really like to avoid. But it feels like at the end of my day after working hard I'm too tired to do anything that requires much energy or brain-power, and I don't really know how to spend that time without defaulting to those unhealthy habits. Anyone got any ideas for easy relaxing activities to do while I'm winding down at the end of the day?", "What to spend my ' tired free-time ' at the end of my day without mindlessly scrolling down my phone, or playing video games? I'm someone that gets addicted to video games, and scrolling down social media, so these are things I'd really like to avoid. But it feels like at the end of my day after working hard I'm too tired to do anything that requires much energy or brain-power, and I don't really know how to spend that time without defaulting to those unhealthy habits. Anyone got any ideas for easy relaxing activities to do while I'm winding down at the end of the day?", "What to spend my ' tired free-time ' at the end of my day without mindlessly scrolling down my phone, or playing video games? I'm someone that gets addicted to video games, and scrolling down social media, so these are things I'd really like to avoid. But it feels like at the end of my day after working hard I'm too tired to do anything that requires much energy or brain-power, and I don't really know how to spend that time without defaulting to those unhealthy habits. Anyone got any ideas for easy relaxing activities to do while I'm winding down at the end of the day?", "What to spend my ' tired free-time ' at the end of my day without mindlessly scrolling down my phone, or playing video games? I'm someone that gets addicted to video games, and scrolling down social media, so these are things I'd really like to avoid. But it feels like at the end of my day after working hard I'm too tired to do anything that requires much energy or brain-power, and I don't really know how to spend that time without defaulting to those unhealthy habits. Anyone got any ideas for easy relaxing activities to do while I'm winding down at the end of the day?", "What to spend my ' tired free-time ' at the end of my day without mindlessly scrolling down my phone, or playing video games? I'm someone that gets addicted to video games, and scrolling down social media, so these are things I'd really like to avoid. But it feels like at the end of my day after working hard I'm too tired to do anything that requires much energy or brain-power, and I don't really know how to spend that time without defaulting to those unhealthy habits. Anyone got any ideas for easy relaxing activities to do while I'm winding down at the end of the day?", "What to spend my ' tired free-time ' at the end of my day without mindlessly scrolling down my phone, or playing video games? I'm someone that gets addicted to video games, and scrolling down social media, so these are things I'd really like to avoid. But it feels like at the end of my day after working hard I'm too tired to do anything that requires much energy or brain-power, and I don't really know how to spend that time without defaulting to those unhealthy habits. Anyone got any ideas for easy relaxing activities to do while I'm winding down at the end of the day?", "What to spend my ' tired free-time ' at the end of my day without mindlessly scrolling down my phone, or playing video games? I'm someone that gets addicted to video games, and scrolling down social media, so these are things I'd really like to avoid. But it feels like at the end of my day after working hard I'm too tired to do anything that requires much energy or brain-power, and I don't really know how to spend that time without defaulting to those unhealthy habits. Anyone got any ideas for easy relaxing activities to do while I'm winding down at the end of the day?", "What to spend my ' tired free-time ' at the end of my day without mindlessly scrolling down my phone, or playing video games? I'm someone that gets addicted to video games, and scrolling down social media, so these are things I'd really like to avoid. But it feels like at the end of my day after working hard I'm too tired to do anything that requires much energy or brain-power, and I don't really know how to spend that time without defaulting to those unhealthy habits. Anyone got any ideas for easy relaxing activities to do while I'm winding down at the end of the day?", "What to spend my ' tired free-time ' at the end of my day without mindlessly scrolling down my phone, or playing video games? I'm someone that gets addicted to video games, and scrolling down social media, so these are things I'd really like to avoid. But it feels like at the end of my day after working hard I'm too tired to do anything that requires much energy or brain-power, and I don't really know how to spend that time without defaulting to those unhealthy habits. Anyone got any ideas for easy relaxing activities to do while I'm winding down at the end of the day?", "What to spend my ' tired free-time ' at the end of my day without mindlessly scrolling down my phone, or playing video games? I'm someone that gets addicted to video games, and scrolling down social media, so these are things I'd really like to avoid. But it feels like at the end of my day after working hard I'm too tired to do anything that requires much energy or brain-power, and I don't really know how to spend that time without defaulting to those unhealthy habits. Anyone got any ideas for easy relaxing activities to do while I'm winding down at the end of the day?", "What to spend my ' tired free-time ' at the end of my day without mindlessly scrolling down my phone, or playing video games? I'm someone that gets addicted to video games, and scrolling down social media, so these are things I'd really like to avoid. But it feels like at the end of my day after working hard I'm too tired to do anything that requires much energy or brain-power, and I don't really know how to spend that time without defaulting to those unhealthy habits. Anyone got any ideas for easy relaxing activities to do while I'm winding down at the end of the day?", "What to spend my ' tired free-time ' at the end of my day without mindlessly scrolling down my phone, or playing video games? I'm someone that gets addicted to video games, and scrolling down social media, so these are things I'd really like to avoid. But it feels like at the end of my day after working hard I'm too tired to do anything that requires much energy or brain-power, and I don't really know how to spend that time without defaulting to those unhealthy habits. Anyone got any ideas for easy relaxing activities to do while I'm winding down at the end of the day?", "What to spend my ' tired free-time ' at the end of my day without mindlessly scrolling down my phone, or playing video games? I'm someone that gets addicted to video games, and scrolling down social media, so these are things I'd really like to avoid. But it feels like at the end of my day after working hard I'm too tired to do anything that requires much energy or brain-power, and I don't really know how to spend that time without defaulting to those unhealthy habits. Anyone got any ideas for easy relaxing activities to do while I'm winding down at the end of the day?", "What to spend my ' tired free-time ' at the end of my day without mindlessly scrolling down my phone, or playing video games? I'm someone that gets addicted to video games, and scrolling down social media, so these are things I'd really like to avoid. But it feels like at the end of my day after working hard I'm too tired to do anything that requires much energy or brain-power, and I don't really know how to spend that time without defaulting to those unhealthy habits. Anyone got any ideas for easy relaxing activities to do while I'm winding down at the end of the day?" ]	[ "I rediscovered Legos as an adult. I don't really have the attention span for reading but I'll listen to audio books or podcasts sometimes while doing that. I'd suggest looking back at things you enjoyed as a child and see if you can bring it forward to the present.", "I'd suggest reading. Try one well-regarded book from each genre that may interest you. \n\nThen again, I'm also a proponent for spending your free-time however you like, if it's video games so be it - there's nothing wrong with some things being done solely for the sake of enjoyment assuming all other responsibilities are attended to.", "This isn't a solution for everyone but I found that if (during a consistent work schedule) I went to bed earlier and got up earlier, then I would be more productive with household activities and found I was more energized and focused in my hobbies since I was doing them before I was tired.", "I know this one is sometimes overrated, but having a puzzle on the coffee table really helped me. I usually read now instead, but I still keep one or two in the closet.", "I was in the same boat for several years. You're smarter than I was, in that you're actually seeking to do something better to unwind than stare at a slightly different screen! My top recommendations are:\n\n* a long walk around the neighborhood, ideally withOUT music or anything. Plus, it's interesting to watch the seasons change, if you do this with some regularity.\n* Get one of those acupressure mats and lie down on it for 10-15 minutes (without your phone). It feels REALLY good after a few minutes. A nice little ritual to utterly clear your mind for a spell.", "Lay in the middle of the living room floor and listen to ambient music for 10 minutes. That usually refreshes me enough that I can make better, non -screen decisions with the rest of my evening (source: am an accountant with a toddler. I haven't been not- tired in years)", "I taught myself how to crochet, just easy stuff that I can do with low-level concentration once I get into a rhythm, because if it's too complex then I get frustrated and then it's the opposite of relaxing.. I'll do that while I listen to music or an audiobook. I don't do anything complex, throw blankets and scarves for everyone, all the gifts! At the beginning of the pandemic lockdown, my husband lost his job and we decided that he would stay home with our kid, he learned how to \"crochet the pain away\" for the same reason. Cross-stitch and embroidery are good, too. This seems like some real grandma-level girlie stuff but I've made some obscene and hilarious things with stitching - Etsy is a treasure trove of patterns of all sorts. I find that the finished products make fun gifts, too.. especially because this stuff can seem a little unexpected coming from someone like me, I guess, since I don't really have a crafty vibe at all.", "The bookstore has adult mandala coloring books that you color with pencils. Its cheap, easy and totally therapeutic :)", "Hey, to me is a new skill. Any skill really. Get a free online course and comit yourself to a challenge that will demand some skill, and then set a routine! I highly recommend learning music (pick up a guitar, bass, singing or an harmonica) and new languages.", "I find listening to music with my wifi turned off while dancing, reading a book, baking, cooking a wholesome meal,painting or playing with make up is thoroughly relaxing. Basically anything that doesn’t involve interfacing with a screen", "Try jigsaw puzzles! I love them because I can do something while watching tv or listening to podcasts/audiobooks. It’s a great way to spend an evening without looking at a screen. Plus lots of people did them over the height of the pandemic so you’ll likely be able to do puzzle swaps", "Listen to podcasts or audiobooks! Entertaining, easy, but minimal screens. Was a game changer for me.\n\nIf your hands need to be busy you could draw or clean too!\n\n\nBorrowbox and Libby are great for free audiobooks via the library in the UK, US might have something similar.", "Go to bed, fucking skip that time— seriously.\n\nWake the fuck up EARLY. 4am. Now your ‘free time’ is at the beginning of the day when you have the most energy. You can exercise. You can m", "Cooking is good way to wind down for me. Even simple dishes. Mac and cheese and some music while you're cooking it is delightful and doesn't take much brain power. Also I hate chores but you have to do them so this is a good time to slowly power down. Do 1 load of laundry or empty the dishwasher. Doesn't take much effort but you give your body something to so while giving your brain time to just run out the clock.", "My friend - I'm 49. During my late 20s I started playing Star Wars Galaxies and Lord of the Rings Online. I loved playing them, but they became jobs almost and it cost time from my family. I wish I had all that time back. I really do. SWG closed its servers so hundreds of hours were gone in an instant. LOTRO became a grind. Best thing I ever did was to stop playing them. I would just go outside and hike or workout. I missed it, but I broke that cycle of addiction. I found my rewards in the real world, not in a virtual one.", "If it relaxes you, don't be so hard on yourself. Balance is important. Set a timer after work for an hour or 2 of just winding down and relaxing in any way that works and when the timer goes off go and get a shower or cook your meal or just get up and do some housework etc. I was stressing recently about how much i was scrolling after work, but then i realised that i don't use my phone all day at work and i scroll instead of watching tv and it helps me to unwind, so i do it but try not to over-do it.", "Watch a documentary. Something to do passively and depending on the type, you might learn something new.", "3d printing has been a fun hobby. You can spend hours at a time on it, especially if you enjoy bigger projects. I ended up getting a resin printer and print out minis and busts to paint. Can really zen out with some music/youtube while painting some minis. (Caution, it ain't a cheap hobby)", "Not sure your reason for not playing video games, but I'm a huge gamer. I understand the stigma of \"lazy gamer\" but over my years of gaming I've been through countless tough stories that make me think critically about life, and I feel like nowadays I can usually take a greater meaning from any story based game. Of course something like overwatch is just rinse and repeat. But hey, if you enjoy gaming, don't let society stop you!", "My suggestion would be yoga. Can find videos on youtube and follow along. And the longer you do it the more you can progress. But afterwards I usually feel more energized and willing to do other activities.", "So many good ideas in this thread . Reading is a great one. Just read anything don't worry about reading great literature. My mother probably read a thousand harlequin romance novels, probably because they were great end of the day escapes from stress. I read everything from pulpy fantasy to in depth histories. Find a type of book you like and just read.\n\nLearning to play an instrument is one of my favourites. I taught myself to play guitar in my mid 20s and have been playing for almost 20 years now. I'll never be a professional guitar player and my audience is usually my dogs but I have fun. Pick up a cheap used guitar and go to ultimate-guitar.com or search YouTube for tutorials to get started.\n\nAnother thing to try is m", "So set a time for video games say an hour or so to decompress. Then alternate between audio book and music on different days while making dinner. And learn how to make things yourself rather than a lot of processed food.", "Jump down the rabbit hole of YouTube videos that are guides for whatever \"adulting\" tasks you are responsible for. Like video on draining a hot water heater, how to properly load a dishwasher, how to reduce heat-loss from your home, how to fold t-shirts. Those kinds of videos are so tedious to watch when you're wide awake, but simple enough to learn from even when you're tired.", "This is funny to me because I'm trying to stop playing with my phone and play games at night instead lol. I even bought a Steam Deck to help with that. I work all day and have issues relaxing at night, so I'm hoping that'll help. It probably helps that my jobs are related to games, but still. \n\n\nBut also yeah reading seems like a good fit for you", "Look for some simple volunteer work. The structure of having a set time to be somewhere will keep you from sitting down procrastinating with a video game and a lot of volunteer work is pretty easy stuff, like serving food to homeless.", "Enroll in an evening adult Ed class. Like painting, photography, wood Working, knitting. Paying for the class will motivate you and then at least one evening a week will not be spent dungeon-crawling and doom-scrolling. \n\nTry baking as well, I like to bake in the evenings. I know some people will suggest calisthenics or the gym, but honestly, exercise sucks. \n\nTry reading, but since you’re at home, don’t think you should read the classics, or something impressive, grab some YA novels (the Percy Jackson ones are easy reads), or a graphic novel (the sandman is incredible) and settle in for an hour. If you get tired, just stop, you’re an adult, you don’t have to read.", "Same problem, specially now that I am retired.\nSome ideas:\n- walk 30 min several times a week\n- go to a gym class. It's better than doing the gym alone because you know the class happens only at certain days and times, and also because you will often meet the same people\n- find a board game club/group in your area, or create one. You can use Meetup for that.", "One thing I was suggest is (once you gather enough suggestions from this thread) that you type or write them out and post them somewhere where you can look at them. I've been faced with this problem now and again, and I look at a list and remind myself of all the other things that could be doing. It works to stop me in my tracks and shift gears to a more positive way of spending my time.", "I love YouTube documentaries. There are so many channels now with long-form content that's engaging and educational.", "I like to get outside for a half hour, quick bike ride, walk, hike, run. Usually wakes me up a bit. After that, reading a good book with a beverage", "I like doing a puzzle with a movie or series on in the background. It gives you something do do with your hands without thinking too hard so you can also enjoy whatever you're watching too.", "Here are a few of MY personal free-time activities maybe they will remind you of ones you've utilized in the past and if not can't hurt to try everyone's suggestion at least once. You HAVE to now cause I said it. It's out there. \n\nFree-ired time options: art: stick figures to photo realism; drawing, painting, photography, ceramics; hell even just some Play-Doh can be very satisfying. music: play an instrument, learn to play an instrument, dance (sorry I know you're tired), or just put in some headphones and vibe out. You can also learn a language on Duolingo, brush up on your math skills on Khan Academy, experiment with Transcendental M", "Whatever you decide to do, it needs to be easier than playing video games. Hide the controllers, or unplug some cables, just make it more effort than say the coloring book on the coffee table.\nAn example is hiding the TV remote in a drawer in another room and putting your guitar on a guitar stand in the lounge. You'll sit on the couch and the easiest thing to do is pick up the guitar. Just a little psychological trick to get you to adopt the new behavior.", "To prevent the doom scroll, I set a timer on my social media apps so I’m not allowed to spend more than 1.5 hours during the week and 3 hours during the weekend on any one app. I’ve only ever hit the timer twice in almost two years! I did this through the app settings on my iPhone and it has DRASTICALLY improved my mental health.", "Reading books.\n\nIf you're not a book person, what about playing an instrument, writing letters, cuddling with the cat, watering the plants, prepping for the day ahead?", "Read. Just for fun. Start with books you know you'll like, even if it's considered \"low brow\" or even \"trash\" cause in the end who the fuck cares.", "Play a different type of video game. Metroidvania and puzzle platformers are quite fulfilling for me. Then when you're done, you're done. On to the next one.", "One thing I like to do is write down things I want to work towards in the future. I can be a very spur of the moment kinda guy, going with the flow and not planning too far ahead.\n\nI use the notes app in my phone to write down things I want to improve on, like trying to go to the gym more often, reminding myself to brush before bed, and spend less time doing things that aren’t adding to my life.\n\nMaking a habit of this will improve your life in a lot of ways and I’d 100% recommend it.", "I love to read. Try the Stormlight archive if you’re interested in a large series with lots of world building and secrets", "I like to stop at the park near my house after work and either stretch, take a walk or shoot a few hoops. Also like to sit on my porch and just drink a tea and do nothing. Play an instrument or draw a little. Take a bike ride around the neighborhood and maybe listen to a podcast. Play with the cat. Just try putting the computer away and see what your brain comes up with. Sometimes it's not what you do, it's what you don't do.", "Get some legos and leave them out and find a podcast you like and listen to it while you fuck around with legos", "Clean up your emails, photos. Check your bank account, maybe schedule things you want to remember to do in the future.", "A gentle low-impact yoga routine.\nMake sure a yoga mat and exercise clothes are easily accessible + have enough peace + your laptop/ TV with a YouTube app. \n\nYou basically just follow what the instructor says and it’s not gonna leave you dead at the end, but instead more calm and maybe more energetic. \n\nI like this guy, try looking for one you like: \n\nhttps://youtu.be/wCUI1bwlJqA", "origami is nice, especially if you know how to make things already. Keeps you off a screen, just make roses and ninja stars until you fall asleep", "You may benefit from slowly changing your routine. Under CBT, using Behavioural Activation (BA) you can put a bit of time aside to do something you'd like to/have to do. Bit by bit you can totally change habits.\n\nFor instance, make is easier to do the thing you want to do, or make it harder to do the things you default to doing. For instance, put the gaming controller somewhere hard to reach, but put a book right on the sofa for when you get home.", "Writing helps. If you can buy a cheap instrument, that helps too. If you live in a laxy countryside, taking a slow walk absolutely helps. I don't know about gardening, it seems to help the older ones in my family.\nWhat you could do, you could buy those old lcd 7 segment gaming consoles and play them.\nReading books, spending that tired, free time with someone else also works.", "Walk, run, ride a bike. Or create something, even if it's not amazing. Buy a set of paints and a watercolor pad and just mess around. Make it fun, splash some colors around. It's pretty cool.", "Walk, do errands, surf your phone at a park, anything to break your cycle. Walk around homedepot and get project ideas.", "Usually I'd just do my home chores like cleaning up the house, washing clothes. Or just go on an hour long walk around your place. Good for your health too", "Turn on an audio book and try out some new arts and crafts type hobby: knitting, stitching, origami, woodcarving. Or maybe some very light calisthenics, food prepping or just messing around with some fun snack recipes. No pressure, no serious projects or goals at first, just occupying your mind and hands and seeing where it goes from there. Give different hobbies a try to diversify your interest and find out what's the most fun to you, that doesn't require a screen.", "To quote Matthew McConaghuey, ”Gotta pump those numbers up. Those are rookie numbers in this racket. I myself, I jerk off at least twice a day.”\n\nBut in all seriousness, have you tried breathing exercises? Great thing to do when you wake up and before you go to sleep. There’s a great book called Breath by Nestor that goes through breathing exercises and the benefits", "The gym for one hour. If you don't go or never been it will be daunting at first but just going a couple times a week will be life changing. It's not about getting six pack abs it's about getting your heart pumping. Otherwise buy a bike and go to the woods.", "Something I’ve found relaxing that doesn’t involve electronics is doing jigsaw puzzles. They can be frustrating, but it’s damn addicting, and the time just flies by.", "Sodoku or Crossword puzzle. Once you haven't made any progress for a few minutes, it's time to go to bed.", "So this may be a bit out there, but I'm learning to play piano. I still struggle with scrolling through my phone or mindlessly playing video games in the evening, but I'm finding more and more that I just want to play piano instead. Listening to chill music is great but being able to play your own chill music feels like a whole different level of relaxing. Very satisfying.", "Reading. For a time i did clay figures for my gf, but that's not for everyone. While you find something different try relaxing games, like Stardew Valley.", "Reading really is great for this. I think a lot of people got the wrong idea about reading when they got forced into doing boring books for school.\n\nYou can find books about ANYTHING. Whatever your interests are, someone wrote about it.\n\n\nI’d suggest heading to your local library and seeing if anything piques your interest. It doesn’t have to be some deep dive about psychology or morality or science. You can read whatever you want.\n\nJust open it up and read the first few pages to get an idea of the brain power needed to pay attention to it. \n\nA lot libraries even have comics if the pictures will help.", "Read... There is a sci-fi forum called HFY that I would recommend as they do short stories and chapter at a time active stories I am currently reading \"nature of Predators by a guy using the name paladin(##). I will ", "Painting canvas panels. It's a rather inexpensive hobby, the supplies are easy to find (big box stores and even discount stores have supplies), and can be a relaxing process. You don't even have to have any prior experience in art.\n\nAlthough, any creative endeavor is going to enrich your life. Humans have been making art since like.... the cavemen.", "One possible mediation of the issue is to do an activity in the morning. Get up a few monutes earlier, and do it then! Ten to fifteen minutes of exercise, for example, clears your mind and gets the day rolling in the right direction. Who knows, you might even find then some energy after returning home from work to practice your instrument or write your book or do your artwork or whatever. Not evangelizing here, just talking from experience and from observation. Try it, and if it doesn’t work for you feel free to drop it and try something else", "Maybe throw on documentaries to watch. You'll be learning something new passively, which can help increase your mood and lessen that \"oh crap, I just wasted time doing nothing\" feeling.", "Make sure you're staying hydrated and that you don't have any deficiencies, as someone who doesn't get a lot of sunlight, vitamin D supplements helped me a lot.", "Make something. Anything that didn’t exist before. Sewing. Woodworking. Puzzles. Crochet. Drawing. The feeling of having made something with your own hands that didn’t exist before is truly something else.", "Look into small, useful skills that could help you better your day, or something that you could pass on to others.\n\nMy favorite is tea making. Explore the countless flavors of tea and tea-making processes across the world. It's something that starts off simple, and you expand on as you learn. You'll also be immersing yourself in and learning about other people and cultures in the process. What starts off as learning to properly make a simple cup of green tea, turns into spicing it up with new herbs and spices, and that turns into trying new techniques and learning as you go. Afterwards, you get to wind down with a nice cup, some cookies/snacks, what have you. That idea expands to other things too, like food.\n\nBut, not everyone enjoys tea or cooking, so try to learn other things too. Learn to sew, like mending clothes or sewing buttons. Maybe knit, crochet, or embroider. Do yoga; there are tons of 10 minute exercises you can follow on youtube. Try reading, or studying a language; you'll be amazed at what progress 30 minutes a day can get you.\n\nWhatever you do, do something that can expand your skills or your knowledge of the world.\n\nWas that cheesy? It felt cheesy. But it's true and I try to live by it.", "Knitting, painting or something similar... You could do it with tv, music or audiobooks in the background... I knit else I fall asleep at 18:00", "I’ve been doing embroidery lately! It’s easy to do mindlessly once you’ve practiced a couple times and I just zone out while listening to music.", "I’ll like to put on music or a movie or show I’ve seen a hundred times for background noise and colour. There’s some awesome adult colouring books out there.", "In order from good to bad\n\n* Read (it could get costly if you really make it a habit - unless you start reading free webnovels that are sometimes just as good if not better as \"proffesionally published\" ones. Personally I usually hang on RoyalRoadLegends). You can even do it on your phone, if you are ok with scrolling down your phone ;)\n* Watch stuff on your phone (no scrolling involved!)\n* Finish/continue one of the dozens of projects you got bored of before\n* Do stuff with friends (I guess that might be fun once every couple weeks... Scheduling's a mess tho)\n* Make your own games (Though it would be hard to playtest since you banned playing said games..)\n* Pick up a hobby! (Isn't this a tautology?)\n* Start working out and stay healthy (heh, as if)\n* But you can at least start m", "If you want to get into reading (cause there are many great books) but can‘t cause you need the dopamine fix from your phone, try making it a habit. Start slow, read slow, read just a few pages. You‘ll get used to it. Speaking of habits, you should read the book „atomic habits“ it‘s pretty good.", "I'm a gamer, could spend the whole day on it, but I'll say to myself \"ok, 30 mins of gaming, then a bit of exercise (weights, press ups, stuff round the house), then back to my game and repeat\". Seems to do me ok without ever setting foot in a gym. And feel less \"guilty\" about gaming all day.", "I'm ADD. I have multiple projects available at all times. Something to knit, something to crochet, a puzzle, Diamond Dots,... Then I am able to engage in different levels of concentration. I also like to cook and bake to de-stress.", "I was having this exact problem! There's an adult colouring book called Querkels I got from Amazon, you don't know what you're colouring. Sounds strange but it's so satisfying and relaxing, and you feel also feel a sense of accomplishment once the picture emerges. Stopped my doomscrolling and I sleep better\n\nhttps://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1781573549?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share", "I was brain tired today and decided to chop vegetables for meal prepping. Cooking is too much thinking so I just prepped everything to cook with tomorrow", "I struggled with this a few months ago, decided to look for a hobby that didn't require much time investment. Brewing fit the bill for me, come on by r/mead and learn :)", "I replaced my game time with work on the phone that’s productive. Online licensing. Helping start a nonprofit. Opening a business online. Learning an activity. I can knapp a rudimentary stone knife if I had to. Lol.", "I often listen to fantasy audiobooks, it allows me to get that dopamine and allows me to do minor tasks like baking or taking care of my houseplants, drawing...", "I just got into edX. It is online college courses. They don't give you cr", "I don’t know how good of advice this is, but I was having the same problem and subscribed to master class. It’s just entertaining enough to keep me engaged, but I also take away some learnings. That’s the one I subscribed to, but I’m sure there are other platforms that accomplish the same thing.", "I also struggle with this, I find that hobbies help. Like knitting (great for watching tv and keeping yourself off your phone), drawing (I use my iPad and Apple pen), crafting is a great way to distract the mind but isn’t mentally/emotionally exhausting \n\nAlso journaling 😊", "House projects: paint a room, build nice shelves in a closet, change up that room that feels tired, improve the lighting.\n\nThere are so many ideas here\n\nAnother idea I’ve never done: fan fiction. I know someone else who does and it sounds really interesting and creative", "Go to the library and read an easy-to-eat book, either there or back at home. Stephen King, Dan Brown, something like that. I just got back into it and it's great.", "Go for a walk! Your brain may be tired, but your body probably is not. Dress for the weather and get out there.", "Does crying alone in the dark count? No? Then how about destroying the oppressive system built on our backs and rebuilding society!?!?!?", "Do you stand a lot? Putting your legs up after a long day really helps circulation in your legs. Maybe choose an audio book and just chill?", "Crochet! Regardless of gender. Such a simple task and your mind just goes quiet. Also helps with anxiety and adhd, speaking from experience.", "Buy a jigsaw puzzle! 😂. I know that it sounds crazy and childish, but if you spread all the pieces out and keep the picture on the box near it, you can work on it at your leisure. It's actually kinda fun, too. Whenever you have some free time or can't sleep, it's a great distraction. (Just don't get a 1000 piece puzzle!)", "Build and paint some Warhammer stuff if you have the cash. You can make it look super cool and even sell them online if you want to. \n\nAs for video games, look into a Quest. You can play video games and get a decent workout in, or just go fishing on the couch to decompress.", "A few years back, we got my daughter a keyboard and she started taking piano lessons. I had always been interested and started learning to play on my own. It is pretty relaxing and rewarding as my skills have advanced. My daughter moved on to other things and a couple years ago my wife bought me a real piano for my birthday (though I think it was also that the piano looks a lot nicer with our decor than the keyboard).", "A few things\n\n1) If I feel like I need to vent out pent up energy, I dance for about 20-30 min either following youtube videos or just dance on switch, followed by 10-15 min of slow yoga. Usually makes me feel better\n\n2) If I am too tired to move, I paint/draw or sometimes just fill in my home made adult colouring book\n\n3) Aggressively scrubbing/cleaning, usually when I am too angry about something to dance/yoga it off. I choose a small area and aggressively wash, scrub and rub as if that is the face of the person who has pissed me off. \n\n4) If I have 5-10 min to kill and I don't want to be bothered, I play a little video game. 15 min nowaday is enough to bore me. Just one quest and I am content. \n\n5) Gardening, lego, etc...", "Find a new hobby that you can obsess about. \nSet a daily calendar event for one hour with that new hobby.", "Determine if you’re sleepy or tired. If you’re sleepy, but you can’t sleep due to obligations try to get more sleep in the future, but do something relatively active. If you’re tired, go with some of the great tips here like engaging in a hobby.", "Any board game areas nearby? Art stuff, learn instrument, read, write, etc. \n\nWhat else do you do with your free time?\n\nMaybe I'm stereotyping, but I'm guessing most of the people suggesting knitting were absolutely never into video games. \n\nOP needs something brain engaging. Not mindlessly making low quality scarves, lol" ]	[ 412, 365, 266, 165, 106, 77, 76, 55, 45, 41, 15, 14, 13, 11, 10, 10, 8, 8, 7, 7, 6, 5, 5, 4, 4, 4, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to get someone's attention or let them know you are waiting for their attention when they are talking to someone else? What's the most polite way to let your boss know you are waiting to talk to them about something when they are already talking to someone else?", "How to get someone's attention or let them know you are waiting for their attention when they are talking to someone else? What's the most polite way to let your boss know you are waiting to talk to them about something when they are already talking to someone else?", "How to get someone's attention or let them know you are waiting for their attention when they are talking to someone else? What's the most polite way to let your boss know you are waiting to talk to them about something when they are already talking to someone else?", "How to get someone's attention or let them know you are waiting for their attention when they are talking to someone else? What's the most polite way to let your boss know you are waiting to talk to them about something when they are already talking to someone else?" ]	[ "I'm a waiter, so this may or may not apply to your situation, but I do have to talk to people who are in conversation regularly.\n\nMy go-to is usually making eye-contact with at least 2/3 people on the table. Just make it a quick flash, so they know you are waiting for them. By this point in time, I can roughly estimate how to proceed. This has to do with bodylanguage and people skills though.\n\nIf they are clearly not in a situation to speak with you, nod and walk away. Check back in a few minutes\n\nIf I can go for a short interruption, depending on how busy the place is, I'll either say \"excuse me\", or make continuous eye contact with the speaker who will usually divert everybodies' attention to me.\n\nMy summarized protip applicable to most situations would be: be patient, polite and pay attention to the people you want to interrupt. A silent approach is -always- better than brutally interrupting people with your voice. If you can't get to them right now, make sure somebody of the group knows you were there or leave a note if applicable.\n\nHope this helps!", "I make eye contact and go do something else. They tend to come find me when they are not busy, and if they don't, I wait a while and check back. \nI hate to interrupt, it puts people into the wrong mood.", "I blink for a little longer than normal (just a second) and skin my head just a little bit. Do this at the same time when I get an eye contact. \nI do that every time I want to take somebody at work to go out and talk to him. I can't recall any moment it didn't work ;) ", "A moderate, I'm-still-here-don't ignore me throat clearing does wonders sometimes, all the while maintaining eye contact with the person you intend to speak to. It might seem a little aggressive depending on what type of person you are. But I use this often when in conversation with my coworkers who are all much older than me and is sometimes the only way to get a word in edgewise. It may or may not work for you. Just my 2 cents." ]	[ 5, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "DIY Fly Repellent I'm going to be outside all day tomorrow and there's a lot of flies about right now. Does anyone know an easy DIY fly repellent that I can have on or near me to keep them away?", "DIY Fly Repellent I'm going to be outside all day tomorrow and there's a lot of flies about right now. Does anyone know an easy DIY fly repellent that I can have on or near me to keep them away?" ]	[ "Whenever I visit tropical Asian/African countries and I am staying in the bush, there is a stinky oil called Neem Oil that you can slather on your exposed skin surfaces. That shit will keep everything away from you.\n\nIt contains Azadirachtin, so don't use it if you have a weak immune system or if you are pregnant. It is not carcinogenic, but when faced with that or Malaria or Trypanosoma, neem oil works well.\n\nYou can buy it at most online hippie-dippy stores and you can dilute it heavily. We used direct neem oil on our skin to keep everything away, but you can dilute it down to 2-3% by volume and it still works to keep the less aggressive flying insects away.\n\nGood luck.", "I once heard keeping one of those dryer sheets in your pocket kinda where the top part is sticking out of your pants pocket keeps flys and bugs away. " ]	[ 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to deal with an old family member that is about to die? My grandpa is old and he's sick. I'm afraid that he might die randomly. I can't really talk to him as he knows that he doesn't have much time left, so he's really teary and pessimistic. I don't know how to deal with this.", "How to deal with an old family member that is about to die? My grandpa is old and he's sick. I'm afraid that he might die randomly. I can't really talk to him as he knows that he doesn't have much time left, so he's really teary and pessimistic. I don't know how to deal with this.", "How to deal with an old family member that is about to die? My grandpa is old and he's sick. I'm afraid that he might die randomly. I can't really talk to him as he knows that he doesn't have much time left, so he's really teary and pessimistic. I don't know how to deal with this.", "How to deal with an old family member that is about to die? My grandpa is old and he's sick. I'm afraid that he might die randomly. I can't really talk to him as he knows that he doesn't have much time left, so he's really teary and pessimistic. I don't know how to deal with this.", "How to deal with an old family member that is about to die? My grandpa is old and he's sick. I'm afraid that he might die randomly. I can't really talk to him as he knows that he doesn't have much time left, so he's really teary and pessimistic. I don't know how to deal with this.", "How to deal with an old family member that is about to die? My grandpa is old and he's sick. I'm afraid that he might die randomly. I can't really talk to him as he knows that he doesn't have much time left, so he's really teary and pessimistic. I don't know how to deal with this." ]	[ "I think you just have to be as gently real with him about it as you can. Don't avoid him because the situation is awkward and difficult - you'll always regret it if you do that. (I think one of the most important \"growing up\" tasks we have to accomplish is figuring out how to be with people who are dying - trust me when I say this is not the last time you'll need to deal with this situation.)\n\nVisit your grandpa, listen to him, reassure him, make sure he knows you love him. Talk about chatty things - your own memories of stuff you did together, or ask him stuff about when he was younger. Make sure he's comfortable, and try to be brave about things going on with his body that are yucky or awkward to you (tubes, diapers, etc.). You will be so much better a person if you can teach yourself to get comfortable with all these aspects of life. Pay it forward. Your day will someday come. ", "You don't have to talk about him dying. Talk to him about him living, or rather, his life. My grandpa is at the same place, but his mind has been starting to go for a long time, and I wish I had gotten to know so much more about his life before know. Ask him about his accomplishments, the best things he did, what life used to be like. Learn as much as you can from him before he goes.", "You don't have to deal with this, he has to. \n\nBe there for him, help me get out these emotions and feelings, and maybe there'll be a chance of a change in topic and feelings before the end, or maybe not, but you'll feel better in the long run, and he'll feel better for whatever is left. ", "Be teary and sad with him. And be happy with him. Be whatever he needs. We come into this world alone and we die alone. But if we are lucky we have someone to just be with us as we learn to deal with this. You can be the person that helps him move to the next stage. Your grandpa doesn't expect you to fix this or to be able to make him feel better about it. He just wants people to be with him. Ask him about happier times; maybe even get him involved in a project like a talking book for your own future kids where he talks about how things were when he was growing up. He's a wealth of information. He wants to process this part of his life. Let him. Maybe he will move towards acceptance or some other stage with a little time and your just being there.", "There are some really smart people on here giving you advice. I wish I had been stronger when my mother was dying (mostly to have stayed with her myself instead of bowing to the wishes of other family members,) and I hope you find the strength to put aside your discomfort and to be with your grandfather when he needs your company. And, make no mistake, all you can give him now is your company. Perhaps you are the only one he feels will not turn away from him. Or maybe he feels a strong connection to you and you will be the one he misses the most. Whatever the reason, he wants your company and it will be a great comfort to him now as well as to yourself later on.\n I hope you understand that he is clearly afraid of dying, and the weakness of being human means that not all of us reach old age with the knowledge of how to leave this earth gracefully, just as being human also means not knowing how to deal with someone else dying. Don't forget that while you may need to be a little bit strong for him, you can ask for help from others too, especially as you process your grief both now and after he passes. Bless you both...", "Don't treat them like they are about to die because that will either spiral them into a depression or cause them to act out. Just set with a routine and act like its a normal hospital visit. If you need to have documents signed like bank accounts, last minute will, chaplain services bring it up when the lawyer or priest is right there, explain it like you're teaching a twenty year old how to invest then after that matter is accomplished don't bring it up again. " ]	[ 8, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to regain focus and understand a paragraph when my brain has read it several times without even registering what was read? Or optionally, how to focus on quality reading for academic texts, already printed? I start studying, then suddenly I'm reading without focusing on the book, thinking about trivial things. And I'd rather be able to stay on my pc, since I use Evernote to summarize and quote parts of the texts.\n\n", "How to regain focus and understand a paragraph when my brain has read it several times without even registering what was read? Or optionally, how to focus on quality reading for academic texts, already printed? I start studying, then suddenly I'm reading without focusing on the book, thinking about trivial things. And I'd rather be able to stay on my pc, since I use Evernote to summarize and quote parts of the texts.\n\n", "How to regain focus and understand a paragraph when my brain has read it several times without even registering what was read? Or optionally, how to focus on quality reading for academic texts, already printed? I start studying, then suddenly I'm reading without focusing on the book, thinking about trivial things. And I'd rather be able to stay on my pc, since I use Evernote to summarize and quote parts of the texts.\n\n", "How to regain focus and understand a paragraph when my brain has read it several times without even registering what was read? Or optionally, how to focus on quality reading for academic texts, already printed? I start studying, then suddenly I'm reading without focusing on the book, thinking about trivial things. And I'd rather be able to stay on my pc, since I use Evernote to summarize and quote parts of the texts.\n\n", "How to regain focus and understand a paragraph when my brain has read it several times without even registering what was read? Or optionally, how to focus on quality reading for academic texts, already printed? I start studying, then suddenly I'm reading without focusing on the book, thinking about trivial things. And I'd rather be able to stay on my pc, since I use Evernote to summarize and quote parts of the texts.\n\n", "How to regain focus and understand a paragraph when my brain has read it several times without even registering what was read? Or optionally, how to focus on quality reading for academic texts, already printed? I start studying, then suddenly I'm reading without focusing on the book, thinking about trivial things. And I'd rather be able to stay on my pc, since I use Evernote to summarize and quote parts of the texts.\n\n", "How to regain focus and understand a paragraph when my brain has read it several times without even registering what was read? Or optionally, how to focus on quality reading for academic texts, already printed? I start studying, then suddenly I'm reading without focusing on the book, thinking about trivial things. And I'd rather be able to stay on my pc, since I use Evernote to summarize and quote parts of the texts.\n\n" ]	[ "When you hit that point, get up and move around, and go do something completely different. Not read on the computer or play games. But something physical. For about 15 mins typically.\n\nNow come back and start again.", "* If you own, annotate the text, if the school owns. . . don't. Either way using a pencil and paper, write out notes this has been shown to help things stick a lot better than typing.\n* Explore alternative note taking methods. Pictorial and slash (mindmap) style notes often help create relationships as you build them where traditional outlines and dash style note taking do not.\n* Read the section then write out what you remember.\n* Form questions that you want answered based off the section headings. \n", "In addition to what /u/konijntjesbroek recommends...\nAs you annotate the text, keep this rule in mind. Any time you highlight a word or phrase you must* write a short word or comment in reflection as to why you highlighted. In my classroom, I call this \"Highlight and Write.\"\nAlternative note taking techniques should include [thinking maps](http://www.dvusd.org/cms/lib011/AZ01901092/Centricity/Domain/1535/what-are-thinking-maps.pdf) and [cornell notes.](https://www.google.com/webhp?sourceid=chrome-instant&ion=1&espv=2&ie=UTF-8#q=cornell%20notes%20template) Cornell notes incorporates two of /u/konijntjesbroek 's suggestions; read a section, then take notes and ask questions. These two ideas are good ways to learn because they 'chunk' the information. You are fed small portions of the info you need with each lesson or section. And asking questions is building the \"metacognition\" skill and will help keep your brain engaged.\nA final suggestion is to act out your readings. Getting up and active will help to stimulate your brain and body plus you have the added benefit of making up mnemonics for new information that is more abstract.\n\nGood luck and let us know if these help! ", "This used to happen to me, I would take a few seconds to breathe and maybe eat something and just clear my mind... Then I would proceed to read the question as if to UNDERSTAND what is being asked, instead of just reading it for the sake of reading ", "L Ron Hubbard addresses this in his books. Most often the cause is a single word the mind does not fully comprehend. Find that word, look it up, think about it and reading comprehension will resume. ", "Yeah I'd also suggest taking a short break with a little physical activity, and of course taking notes helps you learn a lot better, but if you don't have time for that or just want to get your reading done, I'd say read it out loud to yourself. It works for me because I can read the same two sentences over and over in my head, but when I read it out loud, I cover all of it.", "In addition to the good advice you've received I'll add - use a non-transparent ruler or a piece of paper to cover the lines of text beneath and just go line by line. Helps to focus the eyes when you're struggling." ]	[ 9, 4, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do you fix squeaky floors? I am at ground floor (the floor is made out of wood, cant go under,cant remove the tiles )and the floor keeps squeaking and thus rendering me unable to do any nighttime activities ", "How do you fix squeaky floors? I am at ground floor (the floor is made out of wood, cant go under,cant remove the tiles )and the floor keeps squeaking and thus rendering me unable to do any nighttime activities " ]	[ "You may struggle if you don't have access.\n\nThe squeak is likely due to a loose floorboard or insufficient support. The chances are that the floorboards have been nailed down and they've worked loose over years of use.\n\nIf you had access to the actual boards, you could simple screw them down tighter, but without removing the tiles or getting access underneath, I'm afraid you have few options!", "Not sure how well this applies to older houses, but when I moved into my house it was less than a year old, and when they did the walkthrough for the one year warranty, the contractor basically said to bang the hell out of it with a hammer. Obviously that won't work well if you don't have carpet, though." ]	[ 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "Dry off a paperback book? All the pages are soaked, but not all the way through. Most of it is on the bottom corner around the spine. I don't have a hairdryer, unfortunately.", "Dry off a paperback book? All the pages are soaked, but not all the way through. Most of it is on the bottom corner around the spine. I don't have a hairdryer, unfortunately." ]	[ "The only way I've found is just layering paper towels every couple of pages and switching out with fresh towels. I've also tried putting the book outside and fanning the pages open, then letting it air out. I imagine that wouldn't work very well in the summer's humidity. ", "Microwave it. Put some paper towels between the pages. Cook it for a minute, then open the door and let the humidity out for a while. Repeat as needed." ]	[ 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "how can I slice tomatoes without mashing them? I have a good knife and I keep it very sharp, but I still mash them up whenever I try to dice tomatoes. ", "how can I slice tomatoes without mashing them? I have a good knife and I keep it very sharp, but I still mash them up whenever I try to dice tomatoes. ", "how can I slice tomatoes without mashing them? I have a good knife and I keep it very sharp, but I still mash them up whenever I try to dice tomatoes. ", "how can I slice tomatoes without mashing them? I have a good knife and I keep it very sharp, but I still mash them up whenever I try to dice tomatoes. ", "how can I slice tomatoes without mashing them? I have a good knife and I keep it very sharp, but I still mash them up whenever I try to dice tomatoes. ", "how can I slice tomatoes without mashing them? I have a good knife and I keep it very sharp, but I still mash them up whenever I try to dice tomatoes. ", "how can I slice tomatoes without mashing them? I have a good knife and I keep it very sharp, but I still mash them up whenever I try to dice tomatoes. ", "how can I slice tomatoes without mashing them? I have a good knife and I keep it very sharp, but I still mash them up whenever I try to dice tomatoes. ", "how can I slice tomatoes without mashing them? I have a good knife and I keep it very sharp, but I still mash them up whenever I try to dice tomatoes. ", "how can I slice tomatoes without mashing them? I have a good knife and I keep it very sharp, but I still mash them up whenever I try to dice tomatoes. ", "how can I slice tomatoes without mashing them? I have a good knife and I keep it very sharp, but I still mash them up whenever I try to dice tomatoes. " ]	[ "A thin, sharp, serrated knife and quick sawing (push down and away from you, then pull back upwards) motions.", "Instead of trying to push through them try just dragging the blade across them on an agle, kind of like a saw. Let the blade do the work, not the pressure.", "One of the biggest mistakes most people make when cutting food is to press down. Press down very gently and let the weight of the knife pull it down. Focus on the horizontal movement, which is the actual cutting motion. Try doing very small and gentle back and forth movements at first to get through the skin; after that, try and cut the tomato in as few motions as possible. If you can do it in one pull, awesome. \n\nDon't use a serrated knife - they rip more than they cut. Serrated knives aren't meant to be used for delicate work. \n\nhttp://kitchen-myths.com/2011/03/31/you-must-use-a-serrated-knife-to-slice-ripe-tomatoes/\n", "What I do when I don't have a serrated edged knife is to piece the skin with the point of the knife, then starting with the opening the tip left, I can cut each slice that way fairly well with practice. ", "get a knife sharpener and sharpen three draws immediately before cutting. it's a good habit to get into any time you use a knife, as a dull one could slip of your intended cutting surface and cut into your hand", "To add to the others, make sure the serrations are small, so not a steak knife or anything, and make sure the knife is as sharp as possible.\n\nOnce the skin of the tomato is broken, try to use as little pressure as possible, and draw the length of the knife in the sawing motion that iamyourbunny mentioned.", "The trick is to pierce the skin. I use the pointy edge of the knife to do it and prod it with a sawing motion. The harder tommies are easy, the juicier ones cry a lot, no mashed up stuff though", "Restaurant chefs use a simple cutting technique that keeps the entire tomato (or any other round fruit/vegetable) in one big piece. You have to cut it 95% of the way for the first cuts, then for the final cut go all the way through. This makes it easier to dice without mashing since everything is held together.\n\n[This video breaks it down pretty well at 7:45](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=12issg3EdA8&feature=player_detailpage#t=464s). The chef in the video is cutting an onion but this process works for a tomato as well.\n\n[at 5:50 in the video](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=12issg3EdA8&feature=player_detailpage#t=351s) he talks about honing the blade with a honing steel, your knife may be sharp but the blade may be out of alignment. Honing it fixes the direction the blade is pointing so that it cuts properly.", "Push down, on an angle with a sharp knife, This'll take off the strain on the tomato skin and thus not completely mash it on the inside. Works every time! :)", "Cold tomatoes. Get them really cold in the fridge, not the freezer. It'll help a lot. I think the rest has been said already.", "You said slice, but later said dice. If you want to dice tomatoes, you should cut away at the watery flesh and only use the hull. Seems like a waste, but it will prevent goopy salads or tacos. So it depends on what you're trying to make. " ]	[ 8, 7, 5, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "how can I make use of old CRT tv's that work? I know I can recycle them at certain places, but are there any creative ways I can use them rather than chucking them? I've got like four.", "how can I make use of old CRT tv's that work? I know I can recycle them at certain places, but are there any creative ways I can use them rather than chucking them? I've got like four.", "how can I make use of old CRT tv's that work? I know I can recycle them at certain places, but are there any creative ways I can use them rather than chucking them? I've got like four.", "how can I make use of old CRT tv's that work? I know I can recycle them at certain places, but are there any creative ways I can use them rather than chucking them? I've got like four.", "how can I make use of old CRT tv's that work? I know I can recycle them at certain places, but are there any creative ways I can use them rather than chucking them? I've got like four.", "how can I make use of old CRT tv's that work? I know I can recycle them at certain places, but are there any creative ways I can use them rather than chucking them? I've got like four." ]	[ "You could try posting an ad on Craigslist. Your local Smash Bros scene would love you forever, since finding a working CRT nowadays is like striking gold.\n\n(Source: Bought a CRT off craigslist for smash)", "I never thought I would seriously recommend these guys, but, hey, here you go: /r/GloriousCRTMasterRace is the place for you", "Dude, I still use my CRT ... I just attach a raspberry pi/game system to the hdmi to rca converter ($15 USD) and I have a tv that works much more loudly than my flatscreen. I installed Kodi and used the theme maximinimallist, changed the font.xml to anything over size 30 and I now have a bomb a$$ tv! They work just fine except if you're playing really graphic intensive games (I tend not to play graphic intensive games on my CRT)", "get multiple video cards for your computer that have the coax output.\n\nmultiple monitors :) get a tv tuning card. now you got a nice PVR! ", "Save one for PS2/Xbox and earlier gaming systems... any games that require twitch skill are unplayable on modern flatscreens due to the input lag.", "I run a vintage 1976 TV in the garage because nobody will steal it, except someone with a fetish for fake wood grain." ]	[ 8, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "how to ensure privacy while browsing the inter-webs So I was looking up something random last night and my wife just got an on-topic ad. Definitely not a coincidence. How can I make our browsing more private? I don’t like the idea of some algorithm knowing my or my wife’s search habits and monetizing us by selling our history and preferences. This is beyond the typical “amazon thinks I’m collecting dishwashers” type stuff and I am not a fan...", "how to ensure privacy while browsing the inter-webs So I was looking up something random last night and my wife just got an on-topic ad. Definitely not a coincidence. How can I make our browsing more private? I don’t like the idea of some algorithm knowing my or my wife’s search habits and monetizing us by selling our history and preferences. This is beyond the typical “amazon thinks I’m collecting dishwashers” type stuff and I am not a fan...", "how to ensure privacy while browsing the inter-webs So I was looking up something random last night and my wife just got an on-topic ad. Definitely not a coincidence. How can I make our browsing more private? I don’t like the idea of some algorithm knowing my or my wife’s search habits and monetizing us by selling our history and preferences. This is beyond the typical “amazon thinks I’m collecting dishwashers” type stuff and I am not a fan..." ]	[ "I dont think there is really a way to 'ensure' privacy but you can do somethings to reduce how much your tracked.\n\nUse the incognito/private browser mode.\nClear cookies \nConsider a browser like duck duck go\nCheck your privacy settings, enable do not track\nUse an ad blocker \nUse a VPN\n\nYou dont have to use all the options all the time but some of them most of the time will help.", "If you’re extra interested, sign up for a Remote Desktop service such as AWS workspaces and you can have a full pc in a data center you can delete any time.\n\nYou’re also pretty close to 100% safe from any malicious content on the sites you’re visiting", "FireFox with uBlock Origin and Privacy Badger. If you want to get extreme with the cookie and tracking blocking then you can [make that kind of stuff blocked by your DNS server](https://pi-hole.net/) (not as hard as you might think). Use good, non-big tech e2e messengers such as Signal and email providers such as ProtonMail to bring your communications activities away from data sink monoliths that have advertising revenue as a big part of the way they make money." ]	[ 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I stop caring about opinions of others about my Community/Religion/Country? I don't care about what people say about me or any personal attack on me but whenever someone target my Community/religion/country using racist terms and spread misinformation about it to thousands of people I get really depressed, I constantly think about it. A single racist/xenophobic\ntweet/comment targeting my Community easily gets undre my skin. I have engaged these people who target us many times countering their lies, but it's overwhelming and mentally exhausting and I've realized that I can't control opinions of others on social media. it has affected my sleep schedule, studies and daily routine, I have stopped using social media but still my mind revolves around those unpleasant encounters I had with said people. this mental pain is unbearable now. I just want to forget about it all and go back to simple peaceful days I had when I wasn't on social media.", "How do I stop caring about opinions of others about my Community/Religion/Country? I don't care about what people say about me or any personal attack on me but whenever someone target my Community/religion/country using racist terms and spread misinformation about it to thousands of people I get really depressed, I constantly think about it. A single racist/xenophobic\ntweet/comment targeting my Community easily gets undre my skin. I have engaged these people who target us many times countering their lies, but it's overwhelming and mentally exhausting and I've realized that I can't control opinions of others on social media. it has affected my sleep schedule, studies and daily routine, I have stopped using social media but still my mind revolves around those unpleasant encounters I had with said people. this mental pain is unbearable now. I just want to forget about it all and go back to simple peaceful days I had when I wasn't on social media.", "How do I stop caring about opinions of others about my Community/Religion/Country? I don't care about what people say about me or any personal attack on me but whenever someone target my Community/religion/country using racist terms and spread misinformation about it to thousands of people I get really depressed, I constantly think about it. A single racist/xenophobic\ntweet/comment targeting my Community easily gets undre my skin. I have engaged these people who target us many times countering their lies, but it's overwhelming and mentally exhausting and I've realized that I can't control opinions of others on social media. it has affected my sleep schedule, studies and daily routine, I have stopped using social media but still my mind revolves around those unpleasant encounters I had with said people. this mental pain is unbearable now. I just want to forget about it all and go back to simple peaceful days I had when I wasn't on social media.", "How do I stop caring about opinions of others about my Community/Religion/Country? I don't care about what people say about me or any personal attack on me but whenever someone target my Community/religion/country using racist terms and spread misinformation about it to thousands of people I get really depressed, I constantly think about it. A single racist/xenophobic\ntweet/comment targeting my Community easily gets undre my skin. I have engaged these people who target us many times countering their lies, but it's overwhelming and mentally exhausting and I've realized that I can't control opinions of others on social media. it has affected my sleep schedule, studies and daily routine, I have stopped using social media but still my mind revolves around those unpleasant encounters I had with said people. this mental pain is unbearable now. I just want to forget about it all and go back to simple peaceful days I had when I wasn't on social media." ]	[ "Take a social media break. Unfollow people or accounts that are stressors. \n\nI had to quit Twitter because the hateful right-wing racists were too much for me. Life is too short focus on people you can help irl.", "Do not answer a fool according to his folly,\nOr you will also be like him.\nAnswer a fool as his folly deserves,\nThat he not be wise in his own eyes.", "In social media just do not answer, choose not to engage. Block them immediately. \n\nGet a supplemental account with a common Anglo name so droolers can not focus on your social community and make racist attacks. \n\nJuan gets racially baited. John does not.", "Reframe the situation. The reason why this gets under your skin is because you care. You care about your community/religion/country, and are protective of them.\n\nYou probably already do this, but find away to healthy express your love to your brethren. Something small like preserving a special dish, or learning a traditional handy craft. Or by helping your fellow people, volunteer at a food kitchen.\n\nAlso get off the internet. It’s a cesspool of hate where miserable people go to wallow.❤️" ]	[ 7, 5, 4, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to get blood out of a white down comforter After a drunk night my now ex-boyfriend smashed his face and got blood all over my brand new white down comforter. The blood bled through the black duvet cover, so its quite a bit of blood. I was not there so I came home the next morning to his crap attempt at cleaning it. It's definitely \"set\" and I'm struggling with fully cleaning it as it's not only on the outside but the inside (I'm sure). Any advice? I'm a poor college student so purchasing a new one is out of the question and I really don't want to have to throw it away.", "How to get blood out of a white down comforter After a drunk night my now ex-boyfriend smashed his face and got blood all over my brand new white down comforter. The blood bled through the black duvet cover, so its quite a bit of blood. I was not there so I came home the next morning to his crap attempt at cleaning it. It's definitely \"set\" and I'm struggling with fully cleaning it as it's not only on the outside but the inside (I'm sure). Any advice? I'm a poor college student so purchasing a new one is out of the question and I really don't want to have to throw it away.", "How to get blood out of a white down comforter After a drunk night my now ex-boyfriend smashed his face and got blood all over my brand new white down comforter. The blood bled through the black duvet cover, so its quite a bit of blood. I was not there so I came home the next morning to his crap attempt at cleaning it. It's definitely \"set\" and I'm struggling with fully cleaning it as it's not only on the outside but the inside (I'm sure). Any advice? I'm a poor college student so purchasing a new one is out of the question and I really don't want to have to throw it away.", "How to get blood out of a white down comforter After a drunk night my now ex-boyfriend smashed his face and got blood all over my brand new white down comforter. The blood bled through the black duvet cover, so its quite a bit of blood. I was not there so I came home the next morning to his crap attempt at cleaning it. It's definitely \"set\" and I'm struggling with fully cleaning it as it's not only on the outside but the inside (I'm sure). Any advice? I'm a poor college student so purchasing a new one is out of the question and I really don't want to have to throw it away.", "How to get blood out of a white down comforter After a drunk night my now ex-boyfriend smashed his face and got blood all over my brand new white down comforter. The blood bled through the black duvet cover, so its quite a bit of blood. I was not there so I came home the next morning to his crap attempt at cleaning it. It's definitely \"set\" and I'm struggling with fully cleaning it as it's not only on the outside but the inside (I'm sure). Any advice? I'm a poor college student so purchasing a new one is out of the question and I really don't want to have to throw it away.", "How to get blood out of a white down comforter After a drunk night my now ex-boyfriend smashed his face and got blood all over my brand new white down comforter. The blood bled through the black duvet cover, so its quite a bit of blood. I was not there so I came home the next morning to his crap attempt at cleaning it. It's definitely \"set\" and I'm struggling with fully cleaning it as it's not only on the outside but the inside (I'm sure). Any advice? I'm a poor college student so purchasing a new one is out of the question and I really don't want to have to throw it away.", "How to get blood out of a white down comforter After a drunk night my now ex-boyfriend smashed his face and got blood all over my brand new white down comforter. The blood bled through the black duvet cover, so its quite a bit of blood. I was not there so I came home the next morning to his crap attempt at cleaning it. It's definitely \"set\" and I'm struggling with fully cleaning it as it's not only on the outside but the inside (I'm sure). Any advice? I'm a poor college student so purchasing a new one is out of the question and I really don't want to have to throw it away.", "How to get blood out of a white down comforter After a drunk night my now ex-boyfriend smashed his face and got blood all over my brand new white down comforter. The blood bled through the black duvet cover, so its quite a bit of blood. I was not there so I came home the next morning to his crap attempt at cleaning it. It's definitely \"set\" and I'm struggling with fully cleaning it as it's not only on the outside but the inside (I'm sure). Any advice? I'm a poor college student so purchasing a new one is out of the question and I really don't want to have to throw it away." ]	[ "Hydrogen peroxide. Soak it, put a thick towel on it and set something heavy on it. Dab only, never scrub. Repeat til the stain is lighter, then wash. ", "I've taken an expensive comforter that I did not want to throw out to a good dry cleaner, and they were able to get blood out.\n\nIt was a decent amount, and it wasn't cheap, but they were able to get it completely clean. Call some established dry cleaners, and inquire. ", "You won't be able to get the blood out without ruining the down comforter because anything you do to get rid of the blood will also get rid of the oil in the feathers that keep the down comforter effective. Get another duvet cover and forget about it.", "This is odd, but try spit as a pretreatment. Our saliva contains enzymes that quickly break down red blood cells.", "Ammonia works really well on blood stains. I cut my hands a lot and get blood stains on my white towels. I throw them in the wash with ammonia and they come out spotless. I don't know how effective it will be on a \"set\" blood stain, but Ammonia is inexpensive and could be worth a try.\n\nAmmonia creates a poison gas if combined with bleach, so be careful. And don't use it on anything with latex. It's pretty safe otherwise. You should find it at most big box stores and big box hardwear stores.", "There's a product called Stain Devils that makes one specifically directed at blood and other protein based compounds http://carbona.com/products/staindevils/stain-devils-number-4/", "White vinegar. Soak and let sit, then scrub lightly with a rag its of toothbrush. It should start to lighten. Do this a couple times and wash", "From the book \"How to clean practically anything\" page 26-27.\n\n>Blood (set in) = try ammonia + cold water mix.\n\nLikely have to let the affected portion sit in it." ]	[ 11, 4, 3, 2, 2, 1, 0, 0 ]	safe
[ "How do I get foot smell out of neoprene sandals? Soap and water work for about a day, then it's back or worse. Please for the love of your sweaty heathen gods, please tell me someone knows a way.", "How do I get foot smell out of neoprene sandals? Soap and water work for about a day, then it's back or worse. Please for the love of your sweaty heathen gods, please tell me someone knows a way." ]	[ "Take it to the beach. Fill and bury it in dry hot sand for about 10 minutes, also walk/prance around barefoot for about a similar amount of time without blistering up. This problem goes away completely. I think something to do with sand, salt, and heat does the trick.", "Denture tablets work reasonably well for my five fingers, but anything that kills bacteria is your friend." ]	[ 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "I have a friend in a bad rut health and mentally, what is the best path from couch to working and functional? ", "I have a friend in a bad rut health and mentally, what is the best path from couch to working and functional? ", "I have a friend in a bad rut health and mentally, what is the best path from couch to working and functional? ", "I have a friend in a bad rut health and mentally, what is the best path from couch to working and functional? ", "I have a friend in a bad rut health and mentally, what is the best path from couch to working and functional? " ]	[ "Ask your friend to develop a daily routine they stick to. It can be an\\* hour-by-hour daily plan or a list of tasks to complete not on a specific time table each day. Time outside, exercise, practicing a foreign language or skill, tracking food and water intake, breathing exercises, etc. As they work to keep up with these things, they will hopefully reach a place where they can function in a more healthy way.\n\n\\", "When all this virus stuff started shutting the country down I found myself in a rut. I ate unhealthy, was mentally wrecked, and drank way too much. I decided I needed to find a way out and get a routine. The biggest hurdle from not working was losing the routine. We spend way too much time nowadays basing our worth on our jobs instead of who we are. \n\nI went online and printed out a 4 week workout plan. That already gave me 4 days with a couple hours designated to something, about an hour lifting and an hour walking. Resistance bands are cheap and a decent starting point, given the state of things, and there are a lot of great body weight workouts. \n\nDuolingo is free and a good way to slowly start learning a new language. \n\nCleaning and organizing. Each day they could dedicate an hour to cleaning and organizing a room. Go through clothes and donate things they haven’t worn in a year. Organize drawers, pantries, etc.. \n\nIf they like a certain desert, then once they get through a weeks routine, they get to eat it. Maybe they get their favorite food joint delivered. \n\nIs there a hobby they used to enjoy that they haven’t done in a while? They can pick that back up. I started practicing guitar again. Fender has, I think it’s still running, three months of their fender play program for free. That’s three months of guitar/bass/ukulele lessons in multiple styles. If they’ve wanted to learn they have some cheap bundles available as well. \n\nNo matter what, the best thing is to get into a routine. Both a mental routine and a physical routine. It’s not going to be good for anyone to sit around all day because they don’t think there’s anything else to do. \n\nMaybe jump on a video call, FaceBook room, or whatever video chat you decide and workout with them, chat with them, whatever. They may just need a pat on the butt to get up and having a daily workout on video with you may help motivate them. \n\nThere’s also a lot of m", "I use mental gymnastics because I've got a medical condition. But something like dangling a carrot after a 2mile walk* I'll eat that chocolate I've been eyeing off. Also the other poster petty much summed it up.", "Was your friend working previously, and what are their prospects for working in the future? \n\nWe are more than our jobs, but your friends work history and prospects are going to inform this question a lot.", "Nothing. It has to come from within him.\n\nYou're getting a lot of \"works on paper\" advice here. Ignore it." ]	[ 4, 2, 2, 1, -2 ]	safe
[ "Decision making Very often I struggle between 2 options and totally cannot decide. Pro/contra doesnt work for me neither does the coin flip as I am afraid the other option was actually the better one. Mostly its because both options have some bad sides I dont like. And a 3rd option is difficult to get.", "Decision making Very often I struggle between 2 options and totally cannot decide. Pro/contra doesnt work for me neither does the coin flip as I am afraid the other option was actually the better one. Mostly its because both options have some bad sides I dont like. And a 3rd option is difficult to get." ]	[ "Build up a set of ordered \"tiebreaker\" questions. Mine looks something like this:\n\nWhich one have I done most recently? Don't choose that one.\n\nWhich one is closer? Don't choose that one.\n\nWhich one did I say/think first? Choose that one.\n\nWhich one furthers a personal goal? Choose that one.\n\nWhich one furthers a professional goal? Choose that one.\n\nOf course, they are prioritized so I never ask more than one of these questions. The first one in this ordered list which applies is the ONE which makes the decision. My list also, as you can see, prioritizes personal benefit over professional benefit; you may not feel the same. The first item is the one I use when choosing a restaurant. It really helps.", "youre overthinking it, if they both are good and bad then youll get the same satisfaction from one or the other or both,just say fuck it and pick one and dont give a shit cause youll choose the other option tomorrow \n" ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I organize my jobs on my resume? Long story short:\n- I worked in Job A as a secretary from January 2020 to September 2020\n- I worked in Job B from April 2020 to September 2020.\n- I worked Job A as a supervisor from September 2020 to January 2021.\n\nI don't wanna look like I jump around jobs, because I really worked Job A through the whole year, I just picked up another job along the way and quit when Job A promoted me and gave me 12 hr shifts.\n\nHow do I format this on my resume? The difference of work roles since my promo in Job A are way different.", "How do I organize my jobs on my resume? Long story short:\n- I worked in Job A as a secretary from January 2020 to September 2020\n- I worked in Job B from April 2020 to September 2020.\n- I worked Job A as a supervisor from September 2020 to January 2021.\n\nI don't wanna look like I jump around jobs, because I really worked Job A through the whole year, I just picked up another job along the way and quit when Job A promoted me and gave me 12 hr shifts.\n\nHow do I format this on my resume? The difference of work roles since my promo in Job A are way different.", "How do I organize my jobs on my resume? Long story short:\n- I worked in Job A as a secretary from January 2020 to September 2020\n- I worked in Job B from April 2020 to September 2020.\n- I worked Job A as a supervisor from September 2020 to January 2021.\n\nI don't wanna look like I jump around jobs, because I really worked Job A through the whole year, I just picked up another job along the way and quit when Job A promoted me and gave me 12 hr shifts.\n\nHow do I format this on my resume? The difference of work roles since my promo in Job A are way different.", "How do I organize my jobs on my resume? Long story short:\n- I worked in Job A as a secretary from January 2020 to September 2020\n- I worked in Job B from April 2020 to September 2020.\n- I worked Job A as a supervisor from September 2020 to January 2021.\n\nI don't wanna look like I jump around jobs, because I really worked Job A through the whole year, I just picked up another job along the way and quit when Job A promoted me and gave me 12 hr shifts.\n\nHow do I format this on my resume? The difference of work roles since my promo in Job A are way different.", "How do I organize my jobs on my resume? Long story short:\n- I worked in Job A as a secretary from January 2020 to September 2020\n- I worked in Job B from April 2020 to September 2020.\n- I worked Job A as a supervisor from September 2020 to January 2021.\n\nI don't wanna look like I jump around jobs, because I really worked Job A through the whole year, I just picked up another job along the way and quit when Job A promoted me and gave me 12 hr shifts.\n\nHow do I format this on my resume? The difference of work roles since my promo in Job A are way different.", "How do I organize my jobs on my resume? Long story short:\n- I worked in Job A as a secretary from January 2020 to September 2020\n- I worked in Job B from April 2020 to September 2020.\n- I worked Job A as a supervisor from September 2020 to January 2021.\n\nI don't wanna look like I jump around jobs, because I really worked Job A through the whole year, I just picked up another job along the way and quit when Job A promoted me and gave me 12 hr shifts.\n\nHow do I format this on my resume? The difference of work roles since my promo in Job A are way different." ]	[ "# Job A \n_Supervisor (Sept 2020 - Jan 2021)_ \n-Performed Duty 1 \n-Performed Duty 2 \n-etc \n\n_Secretary (Jan 2020 - Sept 2020)_ \n-Performed Duty 1 \n-Performed Duty 2 \n-etc \n\n# Job B \n_Position Name (April 2020 - Sept 2020, concurrent to Job A)_ \n-Performed Duty 1 \n-Performed Duty 2 \n-etc\n\n---\nDon't explain if not asked. If asked, then be ready with a decent explanation. (Left Job B when Job A offered Supervisor position).\n\n_If your resume is an online copy (eg: docx, pdf), perhaps hyperlink Job A in Job B description to jump to Job A._", "I’d only put the years on the resume, that’s how I have mine formatted now. I think it works better for overlap like that.", "Bullet lists are good and easy to read :\n\n- Company X - title x - Jan 2021 to Present\n- Company A - Supervisor - September 2020 — Jan 2021\n- company A - secretary - Jan 2020 to September 2020\n- Company B - title B - April 2020 to September 2020\n\nYou can include a comment in your personal statement thta following a promotion at company A due to additional responsibilities maintaining a second job was unrealistic et. Etc.", "I put years only, no months. \nOr you could do eg 2020, 6 months.\nRather than showing the actual months", "* ~~I worked in Job A as a secretary from January 2020 to September 2020~~\n* I worked in Job B from April 2020 to September 2020.\n* I worked Job A as a supervisor from September 2020 to January 2021.\n\nAssuming you are applying for a job other than secretary. Resumés are meant to be concise and relevant to the position you are applying for.\n\nWhat have you been doing since Jan. 2021? This is important to convey to HR or your employer, and they will most likely ask you in an interview.", " I would suggest that you find someone who does up resumes as a service. It will look so much better than it will if you do it yourself. If you you can afford it, it will definitely improve your chances of getting noticed." ]	[ 6, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to train a dog to not step/stand on your foot (note: dog in question belongs to roommate) Happens often while patting the dog and in various other interactions. I have no idea how one would go about isolating the behaviour so that the dog accurately understands what is desired.", "How to train a dog to not step/stand on your foot (note: dog in question belongs to roommate) Happens often while patting the dog and in various other interactions. I have no idea how one would go about isolating the behaviour so that the dog accurately understands what is desired." ]	[ "Your reactions have to be immediate. Move. Force the dog to stumble. Make it absolutely clear that that is your space and you will not allow it to do that. ", "What I always did to keep my dogs from treading on me was if they decided to step on me then I would raise my feet. Just pick your foot up with the dog standing on it. It negates them a stable place to stand. It takes a while because it's subliminal. \nIt may help if you gave an appropriate amount of discipline such as a gentle push backward and a word of disapproval. Dogs are smart and can figure it out if you are consistent that you do not like your feet being stepped on. " ]	[ 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to covertly ask someone if they need you to call the police? So I work in a shop with a post office. The other day, an old lady came in to withdraw a large amount of money from her own account and my colleague noticed she was very nervous and thought nothing of it.\n\nToday the police came to the store and told us a crime had been reported and it turns out the old lady was being forced by some con men to give them all the money in her account. They dropped her off outside and sent her in on her own.\n\nSo my tip request is what should you say to someone that is being forced to do something against their will and needs help? I feel so sad for the woman as she could have been safe in the shop with us while we rang the police if we knew something dodgy was going on.\n\nWhat's the best thing to say to make sure they know they are safe and we can help?", "How to covertly ask someone if they need you to call the police? So I work in a shop with a post office. The other day, an old lady came in to withdraw a large amount of money from her own account and my colleague noticed she was very nervous and thought nothing of it.\n\nToday the police came to the store and told us a crime had been reported and it turns out the old lady was being forced by some con men to give them all the money in her account. They dropped her off outside and sent her in on her own.\n\nSo my tip request is what should you say to someone that is being forced to do something against their will and needs help? I feel so sad for the woman as she could have been safe in the shop with us while we rang the police if we knew something dodgy was going on.\n\nWhat's the best thing to say to make sure they know they are safe and we can help?", "How to covertly ask someone if they need you to call the police? So I work in a shop with a post office. The other day, an old lady came in to withdraw a large amount of money from her own account and my colleague noticed she was very nervous and thought nothing of it.\n\nToday the police came to the store and told us a crime had been reported and it turns out the old lady was being forced by some con men to give them all the money in her account. They dropped her off outside and sent her in on her own.\n\nSo my tip request is what should you say to someone that is being forced to do something against their will and needs help? I feel so sad for the woman as she could have been safe in the shop with us while we rang the police if we knew something dodgy was going on.\n\nWhat's the best thing to say to make sure they know they are safe and we can help?", "How to covertly ask someone if they need you to call the police? So I work in a shop with a post office. The other day, an old lady came in to withdraw a large amount of money from her own account and my colleague noticed she was very nervous and thought nothing of it.\n\nToday the police came to the store and told us a crime had been reported and it turns out the old lady was being forced by some con men to give them all the money in her account. They dropped her off outside and sent her in on her own.\n\nSo my tip request is what should you say to someone that is being forced to do something against their will and needs help? I feel so sad for the woman as she could have been safe in the shop with us while we rang the police if we knew something dodgy was going on.\n\nWhat's the best thing to say to make sure they know they are safe and we can help?", "How to covertly ask someone if they need you to call the police? So I work in a shop with a post office. The other day, an old lady came in to withdraw a large amount of money from her own account and my colleague noticed she was very nervous and thought nothing of it.\n\nToday the police came to the store and told us a crime had been reported and it turns out the old lady was being forced by some con men to give them all the money in her account. They dropped her off outside and sent her in on her own.\n\nSo my tip request is what should you say to someone that is being forced to do something against their will and needs help? I feel so sad for the woman as she could have been safe in the shop with us while we rang the police if we knew something dodgy was going on.\n\nWhat's the best thing to say to make sure they know they are safe and we can help?", "How to covertly ask someone if they need you to call the police? So I work in a shop with a post office. The other day, an old lady came in to withdraw a large amount of money from her own account and my colleague noticed she was very nervous and thought nothing of it.\n\nToday the police came to the store and told us a crime had been reported and it turns out the old lady was being forced by some con men to give them all the money in her account. They dropped her off outside and sent her in on her own.\n\nSo my tip request is what should you say to someone that is being forced to do something against their will and needs help? I feel so sad for the woman as she could have been safe in the shop with us while we rang the police if we knew something dodgy was going on.\n\nWhat's the best thing to say to make sure they know they are safe and we can help?", "How to covertly ask someone if they need you to call the police? So I work in a shop with a post office. The other day, an old lady came in to withdraw a large amount of money from her own account and my colleague noticed she was very nervous and thought nothing of it.\n\nToday the police came to the store and told us a crime had been reported and it turns out the old lady was being forced by some con men to give them all the money in her account. They dropped her off outside and sent her in on her own.\n\nSo my tip request is what should you say to someone that is being forced to do something against their will and needs help? I feel so sad for the woman as she could have been safe in the shop with us while we rang the police if we knew something dodgy was going on.\n\nWhat's the best thing to say to make sure they know they are safe and we can help?" ]	[ "In this instance, why not just ask \"is everything OK ma'am?\"\n\nIf you suspect she's bugged somehow, slide her a pen and a piece of paper and don't say anything, just give her a meaningful look.", "write up a receipt that she has to \"sign\" and on the paper ask \"blink 3 times if you need me to call 911 discretely\" or \"write help on this paper if you need me to call 911 discretely\" or something like that.", "You are supposed to call if you think anything is wrong. Lots of money, old woman, and she is nervous. That is a good time to let the cops know. So the official answer is anything out of the ordinary is a good time to involve the police. \n\nAlso, you could have asked your manager to delay her, so she didn't know the police were coming.\n\nBut pobody & doomrah have some good ideas too that are more discrete but less by the book. ", "Did you see 'Panic Room'? The victim usually won't co-operate in obtaining help, out of fear. \n\nIf your suspicion is strong, you can stall her, tell her due to terrorists (or whatever) she needs to have her passport. If she really wants her money she'll demand to have it, otherwise she might become more confused and scared, which means she's under an abnormal amount of stress.", "Honestly? Don't even ask. If you suspect someone is under duress, call the cops. Often enough, victims are too scared or brainwashed to say anything, or you will just be giving the perps a headsup. Best to just call and let the police sort it out. They will know how to handle something like this better than you can.", "There is also an elderly abuse hotline you can call to report the incident. I worked at a bank and had to call sometimes. Basically the same situation as your lady", "They dropped her off out front and she went in by herself. She was perfectly capable of telling everyone within earshot that she needed help or she could have asked to borrow your phone and called the police herself. There was a reason she didn't and it wasn't because you didn't 'blink 3 times' or whatever. " ]	[ 53, 36, 27, 16, 3, 2, -3 ]	safe
[ "How to forget something you really wish you had not seen/read This request came out of a recent front page r/AskReddit thread about the best and worst things people have seen on Reddit. There has been one story out of the whole thread just burnt into my brain for the 2-3 days since, and I just cannot manage to get it out. Literally 4-5 times a day, I remember and feel like I am going to vomit.\n\nFor anyone familiar, I am trying to forget the Jolly Rancher story. For anyone not familiar, I am not fucking linking it. This is not out of laziness; this is out of compassion. You might think now you want to read it, but you could be very, very wrong. I am sure someone will link it below, but it won't be on my conscience. You have been warned.\n\nPlease, fellow Redditors, help me regain what little sanity I had left before this absolute mindrape. There's not enough r/eyebleach in the world that can erase this.", "How to forget something you really wish you had not seen/read This request came out of a recent front page r/AskReddit thread about the best and worst things people have seen on Reddit. There has been one story out of the whole thread just burnt into my brain for the 2-3 days since, and I just cannot manage to get it out. Literally 4-5 times a day, I remember and feel like I am going to vomit.\n\nFor anyone familiar, I am trying to forget the Jolly Rancher story. For anyone not familiar, I am not fucking linking it. This is not out of laziness; this is out of compassion. You might think now you want to read it, but you could be very, very wrong. I am sure someone will link it below, but it won't be on my conscience. You have been warned.\n\nPlease, fellow Redditors, help me regain what little sanity I had left before this absolute mindrape. There's not enough r/eyebleach in the world that can erase this.", "How to forget something you really wish you had not seen/read This request came out of a recent front page r/AskReddit thread about the best and worst things people have seen on Reddit. There has been one story out of the whole thread just burnt into my brain for the 2-3 days since, and I just cannot manage to get it out. Literally 4-5 times a day, I remember and feel like I am going to vomit.\n\nFor anyone familiar, I am trying to forget the Jolly Rancher story. For anyone not familiar, I am not fucking linking it. This is not out of laziness; this is out of compassion. You might think now you want to read it, but you could be very, very wrong. I am sure someone will link it below, but it won't be on my conscience. You have been warned.\n\nPlease, fellow Redditors, help me regain what little sanity I had left before this absolute mindrape. There's not enough r/eyebleach in the world that can erase this." ]	[ "Yeah, there's really no way to do that. Nothing but time. I still dry heave when I smell old trash, and it's been a decade since I cut open a bag of dead puppies in the middle of a lake of sewage. ", "Do anything besides internetting for awhile. Read physical books that are very interesting. You could try talking about it face to face with someone. Talking about it might help you process it and lay it to rest. Find other people who have read it and talk about it with them.", "You can't forget things like that, you can only diminish their power through rationalisation. For instance, what are the odds of you being subjected to your fears? Is your fear any more rational than worrying about your daughter being abducted by Boko Haram, your son falling into a gorilla enclosure, or you winning the lottery? You need to gain the ability, through carrying your fears through to their rational conclusion, to realise just how unlikely it is for your fears to be realised. Once you gain this ability, you will see that it is nothing more than arrogance that makes you believe you are so special that rare events are likely to happen to you." ]	[ 6, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to avoid being 'the douche that always says \"actually...\"' when trying to help correct someones misinformation? I know it would be best to hold ones tongue in a lot of cases, but sometimes you just have information that can add to a conversation.", "How to avoid being 'the douche that always says \"actually...\"' when trying to help correct someones misinformation? I know it would be best to hold ones tongue in a lot of cases, but sometimes you just have information that can add to a conversation.", "How to avoid being 'the douche that always says \"actually...\"' when trying to help correct someones misinformation? I know it would be best to hold ones tongue in a lot of cases, but sometimes you just have information that can add to a conversation." ]	[ "Don't correct the insignificant stuff.\n\nIf you think it's worth correcting, you can run with a puzzled \"I thought <correct info>?\", which gives less of an impression of trying to correct them, and more of an impression of potentially correcting your own false knowledge (even if it's insincere).", "something which was recommended and works out in real life is something Dale Carnegie said to do when correcting someone's information. Always ask them or request to say I'm not too sure about that and lets check the facts. This way you are both coming to a conclusion about a topic and not talking someone down. Its a win win as you build more rapport and connection with the other individual(s) and everyone becomes empowered.\n\nBottom of page 67 and into 68 explains it all.\nDale Carnogie - How to win friends and influence people\n\nhttps://hubbs.spps.org/uploads/how-to-win-friends-and-influence-people-136pages.pdf", "Just bite your tongue and dont say anything. Change the topic and move on. In situations like that, its better to be accepted by the group than be right.\n\nWhen you're talking with the person who was wrong a few days later in private you can tell em you wanted more info about their topic so you googled it/asked someone else and found some contradictory info they might want to know about." ]	[ 7, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "Summer's coming, how do I keep down on sweat, specifically ass and back while working. I throw on some talcum powder to the leg crotch region before heading out, any other suggestions? I know this question is a bit crude, but hey it's part of life.", "Summer's coming, how do I keep down on sweat, specifically ass and back while working. I throw on some talcum powder to the leg crotch region before heading out, any other suggestions? I know this question is a bit crude, but hey it's part of life." ]	[ "Wish I could tell ya there was an easier way, but I haven't found one. On a side note for those of us that are endowed with extra sweaty glands: another LPT that saved my life recently is I learned that Anti dandruff shampoo (Zinc Pyrithione) i.e. Head & shoulders... Is a great treatment for athlete's foot, and jock itch.. I was a sufferer of chronic jock itch for nearly a decade. Doctors kept telling me to use Lotrimin, etc, all to no avail. Since starting to use H&S I've been itch free for two weeks solid. ", "Might be harmful, but just regular antiperspirant works. Perspirex and Drysol are the last resort if you absolutely cannot have sweat. " ]	[ 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "how to remove stains from t shirt armpits I have some stained t-shirts because I used to use an antiperspirant with aluminium. Some of them have yellow stains, some have a hardened spot. Now, I know that people use Oxi clean to remove them, but that product is not available in my country. What other options do I have?\n", "how to remove stains from t shirt armpits I have some stained t-shirts because I used to use an antiperspirant with aluminium. Some of them have yellow stains, some have a hardened spot. Now, I know that people use Oxi clean to remove them, but that product is not available in my country. What other options do I have?\n" ]	[ "I've removed antiperspirant stains from my dress shirts with a simple ironing. Assuming the shirt is cotton, put the iron on high and give the stain a very quick pass. The steam from the iron will be hotter than the water in the washing machine, and will drastically reduce the visibility of the stain.", "I've used a mixture of equal parts dish soap and hydrogen peroxide. It worked ok. Definitely did not completely eliminate the more drastic stains." ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "When to give a gift or a gesture of good faith to someone. This kinda happens in fiction. A guy asks a favor from a friend. Has a gift prepared. If you give the gift at the start it's a bribe, but if you give the gift at the end it seems like a gesture of good faith.\n\nI also figure if things turn sour and the friend never does the favor you want him to do, then you can choose not to give a gift at all.\n\nSo I come to LPT to see what these well socially adjusted guys would do. \n\nWhen I give gifts at all, most of the time I believe people don't feel like they owe me anything. But I rather do it more smoothly and judge a person's personality correctly rather than befriending the type of people who just want to use me.", "When to give a gift or a gesture of good faith to someone. This kinda happens in fiction. A guy asks a favor from a friend. Has a gift prepared. If you give the gift at the start it's a bribe, but if you give the gift at the end it seems like a gesture of good faith.\n\nI also figure if things turn sour and the friend never does the favor you want him to do, then you can choose not to give a gift at all.\n\nSo I come to LPT to see what these well socially adjusted guys would do. \n\nWhen I give gifts at all, most of the time I believe people don't feel like they owe me anything. But I rather do it more smoothly and judge a person's personality correctly rather than befriending the type of people who just want to use me." ]	[ "\"So it's haircut time again, and I'm thinking of that great job you did last month when I realised - shit! I didn't even tip you. Here's something to show my appreciation, and if you're available, I'll pay this time.\"", "If you want to thank her for the free haircut, say \"hey, I wanted to thank you so I got you this.\" It sounds like you already tipped her a month later so, ya, that ship has sailed.\n\nI have no clue what anything in your second and third paragraphs mean. What are you talking about \"if things don't go your way\", or \"judge a person based on the type of person they are rather than people thinking 'I can get free money out of it'\". Aren't you just thanking her for the haircut? You already got something out of it. If you want another hair cut, offer to pay her, or bring some food or drink or something to share.\n\nI don't know. Am I missing something? Like I said, I don't understand half of what you wrote." ]	[ 5, 1 ]	safe
[ "how to stop yourself from crying/getting teary-eyed when becoming overwhelmed I have a tendency to cry or to at least become teary-eyed when I become overwhelmed (e.g. during a serious conversation, during stressful decisions like buying a car). How can I overcome this as to not look weak or upset when having an important conversation with another person?", "how to stop yourself from crying/getting teary-eyed when becoming overwhelmed I have a tendency to cry or to at least become teary-eyed when I become overwhelmed (e.g. during a serious conversation, during stressful decisions like buying a car). How can I overcome this as to not look weak or upset when having an important conversation with another person?", "how to stop yourself from crying/getting teary-eyed when becoming overwhelmed I have a tendency to cry or to at least become teary-eyed when I become overwhelmed (e.g. during a serious conversation, during stressful decisions like buying a car). How can I overcome this as to not look weak or upset when having an important conversation with another person?", "how to stop yourself from crying/getting teary-eyed when becoming overwhelmed I have a tendency to cry or to at least become teary-eyed when I become overwhelmed (e.g. during a serious conversation, during stressful decisions like buying a car). How can I overcome this as to not look weak or upset when having an important conversation with another person?", "how to stop yourself from crying/getting teary-eyed when becoming overwhelmed I have a tendency to cry or to at least become teary-eyed when I become overwhelmed (e.g. during a serious conversation, during stressful decisions like buying a car). How can I overcome this as to not look weak or upset when having an important conversation with another person?", "how to stop yourself from crying/getting teary-eyed when becoming overwhelmed I have a tendency to cry or to at least become teary-eyed when I become overwhelmed (e.g. during a serious conversation, during stressful decisions like buying a car). How can I overcome this as to not look weak or upset when having an important conversation with another person?", "how to stop yourself from crying/getting teary-eyed when becoming overwhelmed I have a tendency to cry or to at least become teary-eyed when I become overwhelmed (e.g. during a serious conversation, during stressful decisions like buying a car). 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How can I overcome this as to not look weak or upset when having an important conversation with another person?", "how to stop yourself from crying/getting teary-eyed when becoming overwhelmed I have a tendency to cry or to at least become teary-eyed when I become overwhelmed (e.g. during a serious conversation, during stressful decisions like buying a car). How can I overcome this as to not look weak or upset when having an important conversation with another person?", "how to stop yourself from crying/getting teary-eyed when becoming overwhelmed I have a tendency to cry or to at least become teary-eyed when I become overwhelmed (e.g. during a serious conversation, during stressful decisions like buying a car). How can I overcome this as to not look weak or upset when having an important conversation with another person?", "how to stop yourself from crying/getting teary-eyed when becoming overwhelmed I have a tendency to cry or to at least become teary-eyed when I become overwhelmed (e.g. during a serious conversation, during stressful decisions like buying a car). How can I overcome this as to not look weak or upset when having an important conversation with another person?", "how to stop yourself from crying/getting teary-eyed when becoming overwhelmed I have a tendency to cry or to at least become teary-eyed when I become overwhelmed (e.g. during a serious conversation, during stressful decisions like buying a car). 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How can I overcome this as to not look weak or upset when having an important conversation with another person?", "how to stop yourself from crying/getting teary-eyed when becoming overwhelmed I have a tendency to cry or to at least become teary-eyed when I become overwhelmed (e.g. during a serious conversation, during stressful decisions like buying a car). How can I overcome this as to not look weak or upset when having an important conversation with another person?", "how to stop yourself from crying/getting teary-eyed when becoming overwhelmed I have a tendency to cry or to at least become teary-eyed when I become overwhelmed (e.g. during a serious conversation, during stressful decisions like buying a car). 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How can I overcome this as to not look weak or upset when having an important conversation with another person?", "how to stop yourself from crying/getting teary-eyed when becoming overwhelmed I have a tendency to cry or to at least become teary-eyed when I become overwhelmed (e.g. during a serious conversation, during stressful decisions like buying a car). How can I overcome this as to not look weak or upset when having an important conversation with another person?", "how to stop yourself from crying/getting teary-eyed when becoming overwhelmed I have a tendency to cry or to at least become teary-eyed when I become overwhelmed (e.g. during a serious conversation, during stressful decisions like buying a car). How can I overcome this as to not look weak or upset when having an important conversation with another person?", "how to stop yourself from crying/getting teary-eyed when becoming overwhelmed I have a tendency to cry or to at least become teary-eyed when I become overwhelmed (e.g. during a serious conversation, during stressful decisions like buying a car). How can I overcome this as to not look weak or upset when having an important conversation with another person?", "how to stop yourself from crying/getting teary-eyed when becoming overwhelmed I have a tendency to cry or to at least become teary-eyed when I become overwhelmed (e.g. during a serious conversation, during stressful decisions like buying a car). How can I overcome this as to not look weak or upset when having an important conversation with another person?", "how to stop yourself from crying/getting teary-eyed when becoming overwhelmed I have a tendency to cry or to at least become teary-eyed when I become overwhelmed (e.g. during a serious conversation, during stressful decisions like buying a car). How can I overcome this as to not look weak or upset when having an important conversation with another person?", "how to stop yourself from crying/getting teary-eyed when becoming overwhelmed I have a tendency to cry or to at least become teary-eyed when I become overwhelmed (e.g. during a serious conversation, during stressful decisions like buying a car). How can I overcome this as to not look weak or upset when having an important conversation with another person?", "how to stop yourself from crying/getting teary-eyed when becoming overwhelmed I have a tendency to cry or to at least become teary-eyed when I become overwhelmed (e.g. during a serious conversation, during stressful decisions like buying a car). How can I overcome this as to not look weak or upset when having an important conversation with another person?", "how to stop yourself from crying/getting teary-eyed when becoming overwhelmed I have a tendency to cry or to at least become teary-eyed when I become overwhelmed (e.g. during a serious conversation, during stressful decisions like buying a car). How can I overcome this as to not look weak or upset when having an important conversation with another person?", "how to stop yourself from crying/getting teary-eyed when becoming overwhelmed I have a tendency to cry or to at least become teary-eyed when I become overwhelmed (e.g. during a serious conversation, during stressful decisions like buying a car). How can I overcome this as to not look weak or upset when having an important conversation with another person?", "how to stop yourself from crying/getting teary-eyed when becoming overwhelmed I have a tendency to cry or to at least become teary-eyed when I become overwhelmed (e.g. during a serious conversation, during stressful decisions like buying a car). How can I overcome this as to not look weak or upset when having an important conversation with another person?" ]	[ "I think a lot of the time when I cry in difficult situations it's misdirected anger. I'm furious about something - often something that's putting me in a really unfair position - but I don't have any good ways of being angry, so I end up crying instead. Which makes me angry at my self, which etc etc. \n\nSince I realized that, I'm trying to handle those situations differently. When I feel myself starting to get teary, I think 'wait, I am actually angry? Am I justified in being angry? Then it's ok to BE ANGRY'. And then I pick a fictional character (or a real person) who handles their anger well and try to channel them. Current top pick is Commander Adama from BSG. \n\nI don't think I've nailed it yet, but it makes me feel a lot better to know I have a plan...\n\n(also gratz on the killer username)", "There was a post like this a month ago, and /u/maddking had a fantastic reply that can be found [here](http://www.reddit.com/r/lifeprotips/comments/4nc4af/_/d42soiz)\n\n> Actor here. You're clenching. Basically you're creating an unending loop of the emotion you're trying not to have. Sort of like saying, \"don't think of pink elephants.\" You create the problem you're trying to stop. There are acting exercises to teach people to do this so they can sustain an emotion over a scene.\n\n> I would make a few bets based on how you describe this. One I would bet it comes out of frustration most of the time more than direct anger. I would also bet that it happens when it is so important to get out your point and you feel you are not getting heard. \n\n> How to stop it:\n\n> It has a physical trigger. So rather than smothering the impulse the next couple times just pay attention to it. Do you clench your teeth? Do you wring your hands? Do you tense your abs? Find out what your physical trigger is and do something else. \n\n> The emotional trigger. Make sure your partner is heard and then make your statement/question. \"You said this and this and I hear you, but when you do this and this it makes me feel like this and I would appreciate it if you would do this instead\" if you go in with this framework for everything it will go a long way towards clearing up the \"everything at once\" thing your brain is doing. Hope it helps. \n\nBasically, you get emotional and frustrated because you can't express all the emotions you are feeling at the moment. If you're interested in this method, look into Dr. Rosenberg's 'nonviolent conversation'. It's a fantastic conversation method that will help you learn more about your emotions and solve problems with other people.\n\n", "Have you considered Nihilism? It takes time, and you have to work at it, but once you become jaded and bitter enough all these seemingly important moments just recede into a dull, throbbing ache. Problems that once sent you into tears are swatted aside with a baleful, withering glance and you are free to continue pondering the vast desert in which you find yourself.", "Deep breaths and taking a sip of water tend to help in the moment. Water helps your voice stay even when you feel teary-eyed (or get \"choked up\").\n\nUnfortunately I don't know how to cure this in the long run...but I hope this helps :)", "Chewing something (like gum or candy) or drinking something helps me sometimes. Eating/drinking are priority functions for the autosomal nervous system so it redirects your body from \"must to respond to emotional distress\" to \"don't choke\" or \"yay, nutrients.\" It's also common to get emotional when you're low blood sugar, even if you don't feel hungry. A little glucose can go a long way regarding mood.\n\nAnother trick is to smile or even just relax your mouth/brows (not getting frowny/sad faced) when you feel emotional. Scientific studies show your brain \"believes\" what your body's doing and puts your emotions in sync. It won't cancel out strong emotions but could be enough to short-circuit tears when you're just a little upset. If right now you smile (mouth and eyes, like a real smile) you'll notice you actually feel a little better for no real reason. It makes your brain go \"oh, we're smiling now? We only do that when we're happy so I guess we must be happy.\" YMMV.\n\nAnd there's always the good old standby of \"sorry, my allergies are acting up\" or \"you guys must clean with X in here. It always irritates my eyes for some reason.\" ", "Really interested in what people say here. I get emotional easily when there is anger or whatever directed at me - I take things quite personally, and then when the tears start I hyperventilate and it takes a long time to get myself back on an even keel. Nothing I've tried has really worked yet - and with my career path I'm starting I'm going to have to get used to people yelling awful things at me!", "Breathing deeply in through your nose and exhaling slowly through your mouth just three times changes the chemistry of of your brain, calming you down.", "Your body releases stress hormones during confrontations. These take time to move through you (say, 20 minutes or more), and you'll continue to be reactive during the confrontation and afterward. \nSo the best thing would be to suggest a break in the discussion so you can cool down. \nA shortcut is to submerge your face in cold water. Fill a sink and float your face on the surface of the water for a minute.\nLike pegstrom brought up, recognizing and labeling the emotional reactions as they occur is a great practice and helps bring control back to your conscious mind. ", "Try clearing your throat when you get this feeling. My family relations teacher taught me that and it has worked for me. best of luck", "This might sound overly simple, but try looking in an upwards direction. I've done no research on the matter, but I think it squeezes on your tear ducts. It tends to help me out even when cutting onions. I hope this helps!", "The way I stop it is by counting doubles. Pick a number at random and double it. Then double that. Then double that one too. After 5 or 6 doublings the emotion in me has calmed down and I'm able to move forward in whatever situation I'm in.\n\nPro tip. Start with something small or you'll pretty quickly be thinking \"um, is that right? Fuck, I screwed up.\" Something 1-10 is usually where I start :)", "I know this might sound crazy, but when I'm about to lose my mind at work and I'm on the verge of tears, I turn my desk fan directly on my face. For some reason, it always helps me quite literally cool down. If that doesn't help, I talk a quick walk outside to walk the overwhelming emotion off. And I highly recommend taking 5-HTP. It's available OTC by the vitamin section. Within 20 minutes, you will be nice and chilled out. ", "I do math problems in my head when this happens to me. Nothing crazy, just adding large numbers. Even if it means I miss a bit of what the other person is saying, it often distracts me enough that I can focus on what I'm talking about or trying to accomplish.", "I actually cry quite a bit because I have fibromyalgia, and I read that tears are your body’s release valve for stress, sadness, grief, anxiety, and frustration and you eliminate stress hormones by literally crying them out. Apparently it's more healthy than holding it back.\n\n Additional studies also suggest that crying stimulates the production of endorphins, our body’s natural pain killer and “feel-good” hormones.”", "When I get overwhelmed I tend to always get caught up looking at the big picture and thinking about what could go wrong. It helps me to just focus on what I can control, because that's the best that I can do. So if I mess up, I'll do everything I can to fix it but I won't dwell too much on mistake itself past making sure that it doesn't happen again. It's an interesting way of thinking about a problem, and it's helped me a lot!", "Try 7-11 breathing. Take a full 7 seconds to inhale, a full 11 seconds to exhale. It slows your breathing down and calms you. \n\nAlso change your gaze. Fixate at something in the room to get your mind off the topic that is upsetting you. For example look up at all the blue items in the room. \n\nTrick yourself to change what your brain is focused on. ", "Tell yourself \"Don't react!\" Not in an internal, comforting sort of way, but in the way you'd say \"stop!\" to a child holding a piece of broken glass. Practice it in situations that normally jack up your heart rate (eg, someone cutting you off in a car--whatever riles you in a mild way). It'll soon become natural.", "Rehearse and write things down to keep a more factual approach than emotional. If feeling emotional in the moment, excuse yourself to the restroom and splash cold water on your face with a self pep talk. If you can take a break and resume the conversation later, get some sort of exercise to release tension then write it down. There's nothing wrong with giving yourself the time you need to regroup.", "Let the first tears arise, and from there focus on something else. It's a virtue to express your sadness...but you can control it by allowing it to arise, and then figuring out what to do from there. The first step is to accept it.", "Just get a job in Corp America and wait for it to crush your spirit and soul. After that you won't have feelings anymore until you run out of bourbon. ", "Having an emotionally abusive dad growing up I am the same way, I cry easily. I definitely have gotten better since moving out, but I know it bugs my husband from time to time. Water helps, or sometimes I just have to walk away. ", "For me personally I break this and anger down into three steps\n1. Close my eyes and focus on my breath. Slow deep breaths, in through nose and out through your mouth.\n2. Think about what is causing the stress and try and determine why you are reacting the way you are\n3. After 2 and 3 any extra emotions I shove down and store. Each weekend I do a day hike or any monotonous task that is enjoyable. Release your extra emotions then venting it into whatever you are doing \n\nThis has worked for me for the last 7 years of college and career. For me venting the extra emotions while working out seems to act like an energy boost too", "Don't worry about it. Your body needs to do this to self regulate. Concentrate on outcome. I think it is bad ass when people do this but keep their shit together and accomplish their task. When working with people like this I notice that afterward I feel run down and sickly and they are ready to move on. \n\n\nOwn it and kick ass. Become untouchable. ", "When I am put into situations such as this, I tend to go into an auto-pilot kind of mind set. Block out as much of the emotions as you can and think only logically/rationally. Do what you have to do to get yourself out of the situation with the best possible outcome. Focus on the desired results and maneuver yourself/the conversation to get there. Once you're out of the woods the emotions that come back aren't as overwhelming since it's after the fact. You're then able to reflect on them and over time be able to manage them a bit better during the event so you come off as less mechanical in the moment.", "Take a deep breath, hold for ten seconds and exhale. Repeat this six times, if you feel it hasn't helped try again.", "Take a deep breath through your nose and fill your lungs. Hold it for a second and release through your mouth. Do not focus on how you 'feel' at the moment, but rather center on the task at hand. What needs to be accomplished? What is the objective of your conversation? Personally I think crying can be cathartic. But I understand having to keep it together sometimes. ", "Push everything deep down until you can't feel anything anymore. Voila, no more tears. Cant say this method is ideal though.", "I find this thread very interesting.\n\n\nMy first reaction was to commiserate. I get overwhelmed myself. But then I read the responses and found that others were experiencing something totally different than what I experience. I get teary when I am being extremely honest or appreciative or grateful.\n\n\nIt appears, however, that most posters are overwhelmed by anger or fear. I assumed, probably falsely, that most were men. Then I read the lower posts that suggested most of the posters are female (be a man, not a chick).\n\n\nI don't really get tears of anger other than when totally exasperated. Too much adrenaline, or something.", "I also have this problem. I know that if I'm at all hungry, it's worse. So I try to be sure to have a snack before a confrontational situation if at all possible. \nSometimes just the awareness that I'm doing this because I haven't eaten is enough to stop it for the time being. I think that's because I now mentally have a cause for my reaction and it's no longer uncontrollable.", "For an immediate solution, start mentally listing unrelated random nouns and imagining them in detail. This puts some mental distance between your thoughts and the actual problem and buys you body some time to calm down. My mind naturally thinks of food I like, probably a comfort thing. ", "I am forrest gump type and compensate for it with aggression and fever at work.. I made my coworker upset when i wasn't trying to. Is there a sentence that would help in this space. I am deft to polite or emotions. But i see post crying lady and don't know how fix it. Or even make it less worse.", "Become emotionless entirely. Bottle everything, allow yourself to feel no joy or sadness at any point.\n\nHaven't hanged myself yet so I'd say it has worked for me", "Assuming you're a women, this seems to me like a hormone thing (or rather lack of testosterone). I don't mean to generalize and say that all women are like this and that men don't ever suffer from this, but think about it.\nMost women are simply more emotional.\n\nWhen my brother used to be a kid, he'd get teary from anger whilst fighting with me. Now he's 19 and testosterone basically killed that trigger.\nSame goes for me, after puberty I barely ever get teary. Men don't cry, they say.\n\nPerhaps it's not something you can help. All you can do is learn how to deal with it, but I don't think you can completely stop it." ]	[ 103, 98, 40, 31, 18, 4, 4, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, -1, -5 ]	safe
[ "Dorm Pro Tips Im going to be living in a dorm for the first time soon. Its small and unairconditioned, so lets hear your best Dorm pro tips!", "Dorm Pro Tips Im going to be living in a dorm for the first time soon. Its small and unairconditioned, so lets hear your best Dorm pro tips!", "Dorm Pro Tips Im going to be living in a dorm for the first time soon. Its small and unairconditioned, so lets hear your best Dorm pro tips!", "Dorm Pro Tips Im going to be living in a dorm for the first time soon. Its small and unairconditioned, so lets hear your best Dorm pro tips!", "Dorm Pro Tips Im going to be living in a dorm for the first time soon. Its small and unairconditioned, so lets hear your best Dorm pro tips!", "Dorm Pro Tips Im going to be living in a dorm for the first time soon. Its small and unairconditioned, so lets hear your best Dorm pro tips!", "Dorm Pro Tips Im going to be living in a dorm for the first time soon. Its small and unairconditioned, so lets hear your best Dorm pro tips!", "Dorm Pro Tips Im going to be living in a dorm for the first time soon. Its small and unairconditioned, so lets hear your best Dorm pro tips!", "Dorm Pro Tips Im going to be living in a dorm for the first time soon. Its small and unairconditioned, so lets hear your best Dorm pro tips!", "Dorm Pro Tips Im going to be living in a dorm for the first time soon. Its small and unairconditioned, so lets hear your best Dorm pro tips!", "Dorm Pro Tips Im going to be living in a dorm for the first time soon. Its small and unairconditioned, so lets hear your best Dorm pro tips!", "Dorm Pro Tips Im going to be living in a dorm for the first time soon. Its small and unairconditioned, so lets hear your best Dorm pro tips!", "Dorm Pro Tips Im going to be living in a dorm for the first time soon. Its small and unairconditioned, so lets hear your best Dorm pro tips!", "Dorm Pro Tips Im going to be living in a dorm for the first time soon. Its small and unairconditioned, so lets hear your best Dorm pro tips!", "Dorm Pro Tips Im going to be living in a dorm for the first time soon. Its small and unairconditioned, so lets hear your best Dorm pro tips!", "Dorm Pro Tips Im going to be living in a dorm for the first time soon. Its small and unairconditioned, so lets hear your best Dorm pro tips!", "Dorm Pro Tips Im going to be living in a dorm for the first time soon. Its small and unairconditioned, so lets hear your best Dorm pro tips!", "Dorm Pro Tips Im going to be living in a dorm for the first time soon. Its small and unairconditioned, so lets hear your best Dorm pro tips!", "Dorm Pro Tips Im going to be living in a dorm for the first time soon. Its small and unairconditioned, so lets hear your best Dorm pro tips!" ]	[ "a couple random things that come to mind\n\n1) mini fridge(s) are nice, but dont put crap food in them\n\n2) for like the first 2-3 weeks, leave your dorm room door open so you can meet new people (also leave and go meet people, especially surrounding rooms)\n\n3) you can buy crappy plastic box fans, but if you look online and get a metal fan they tend to work a lot better and last longer\n\n4) If you have a wireless router, dont give the password out to everyone, people may download porn or other crap on YOUR wifi\n\nif i think of any more i might come back and ", "SHOWER SHOES. Get some cheap flip flops and wear them when you shower. It feels weird at first, but you'll get used to it- public showers can be less than sanitary.", "Only real LPT: Cross breeze always. Open your window AND your door to get a way better breeze.\n\nGo to ALL THE THINGS the first couple weeks. You will not meet anyone with your door shut browsing reddit. Join clubs.\n\nMake sure you don't get locked out of your room when you take a shower. I bought an ID holder (not a necklace one) that I attached my keys and ID to and brought them with me to shower, dining halls, etc, all 3 years I lived on campus in a dorm room.\n\nAnd obviously chegg.com to rent your books instead of buy. Move in as early as you can, get to know your RA.\n\nBring decorations, posters, pictures. It's a big white box. REARRANGE THE ROOM! It's not very efficient as is. We saved tons of room by putting our beds in an L shape and lofting our beds.\n\nOh and buy a hot pot. Late night mac and cheese and ramen. We couldn't have microwaves in our dorms, but we hid one in a closet. Nobody cared. Memories <3", "When you go to sleep and when you're gone, LOCK YOUR DOOR. You're friends might pull a prank or someone might be malicious. I had someone prank me while I was sleeping and my roommate didn't lock the door. It was a \"joke\" but I did not enjoy it. Also, we later had some theft from someone \"tailgating\" into the building. He stole from someones unlocked room, everyone with a locked door was fine. In this case we suspect it was someone who knew a resident in the floor since they went right for my friends room who had a faulty lock that the uni was in the process of fixing. \n\nSomeone emptied my shampoo and filled it with maple syrup. I thought it was funny, since I caught it, but watch yourself. Pranks are all fun until its you with maple syrup in your hair.", "speakers. if you're tryna jam out with friends, or even the occaisional late night visitor. you'll want them. trust me.", "Some of these might have already been said.\n\n* Keep your door locked when asleep or away from the room. Even if it's just a trip to the bathroom right down the hall. All anyone needs is a minute or two when the room's unlocked to rush in and take the small things. No one looks twice at someone carrying a laptop around on a college campus. \n\n* open your door and window. Not only will you meet new people, but it will also allow air to circulate, which will make your room feel a bit cooler. It'll also make the room seem bigger. \n* Get a small metal fan that you can clip to your desk or bed. The concentrated \"blast\" will cool you down rather than be wasted on the rest of the space. \n* Use plastic tote boxes, not cardboard. 1. It's actually easier to transport the plastic boxes, because you wont have to worry about over packing the boxes and the bottoms giving way. 2. If you move in/out during the rain, your items are still protected. 3. They are easier to keep as storage devices throughout your time in the dorm. 4. They'll last all 4 or so years that you are in college. Cardboard usually breaks down after two or three moves, and then you have to get new ones. 5. The glue and \"cell\" structure of cardboard has been found in some cases to provide excellent little homes for unwanted guests like cockroaches. \n* Have a small fridge - size dependent on dorm rules and prices. Keep drinks and small snacks for the late night studying and entertainment. Vending machines on campuses are always ridiculously overpriced, and the dining areas on campus generally close earlier than most people want/need them too. This is also very helpful on days of bad weather. 1. It means you wont have to be in the bad weather as often. 2. Campuses are required to make sure all of their staff are as safe as possible and that there is no reason for students to be wandering during bad weather. As such, during severe thunderstorm warnings and especially during storms capable of tornadoes, and during snow fall, it's likely that they will close campus. Meaning that all of the dining places and little shops are closed. \n* Get a pair of flip flops to wear in the shower. At the start of every winter and summer break, throw them away and get a new pair. Athlete's foot is a very common disease in communal showers, and will not always respond to the common, easy, and less expensive treatments. \n* Always wear shoes, socks, or sandals when walking anywhere in your dorm. Especially the bathrooms and trash rooms. The janitorial staff will try, but they simply cannot keep the dorms clean enough. I would recommend including your dorm room to this list unless you bring in a carpet cleaner or mop. \n* Use hand sanitizer and wash your hands regularly. With a large number of people living in a small space, diseases spread very quickly. Hands are ultimately the number one way of transference of germs, picking things up everywhere and passing it to your face and food. \n* Do laundry frequently. Even if you have enough clothes to last another few weeks, you don't know how busy the machines are going to be. \n* In the first few weeks, pass by the laundry room frequently to see what are going to be the busy days, and try to find a time that there isn't as much traffic. You don't want to have to wait around with baskets of wet clothes for hours before the dryers are available. \n* Look for any individual who seems to take a lot of their laundry down at once, or separates into a large number of loads. They generally take all of the washers and dryers and will slow down the rotation. \n* If there are upperclassmen who have lived in the dorm previously, look at what machines they are using. These are generally the dryers that work the best. They count on freshmen using the worn out dryers that take multiple runs to dry. \n* Keep 20 dollars in 5s or such stored away for random pizza or other food out nights. It's easier to split the cost of the food when everyone has cash and especially when there are smaller bills available. \n* If there's a kitchen available for use, try to know at least a little about kitchen appliances and cooking before trying anything. If you're not sure about how to make something, ask someone for help first. Smoke detectors in dorms are usually highly sensitive and you do not want to be the person responsible for the evacuation of several hundred people at 2 o'clock in the morning and certainly not in late November. \n* Do not smoke in the dorm room. See bullet above for explanation about the smoke detectors and the rest of your dorm hating you...\n* Do not smoke or loiter about in front of the doors leading into and out of the residence hall. No one wants to have to walk through the smoke or push through people in order to get somewhere.\n* Spend the first few days after move in (There's usually a period of time to orient new students to the campus) and figure out how long it takes you to walk from your campus to each of your classes. If your first class or an intermediate class is canceled, you don't want to be guessing how long it will take you to get to the one after your break. \n* Get a sturdy plastic hamper, preferably with wheels and comfortable handles. The pop up hampers and laundry bags will tear apart before your first semester is over. \n* Have an extra blanket. Heating in dorms is hit and miss, and it isn't that hard to trow a blanket on the bed or around yourself when it's cold. \n* Talk to and be nice to the janitorial and maintenance staff. Not only is it good manners, but when something does need to be fixed or cleaned, they do a better and quicker job for someone who they recognize. \n* Extra Long twin sheets are easier to find online than in stores. Stores usually only carry them around the beginning of August with the rest of the \"back to school\" stuff. \n* \"Back to school\" sales are always crowded and sometimes can be over priced. Bring only the essentials and pick the rest up bit by bit as you find you need them. \n* Recycle and reuse. Partially used notebooks can be used for another class. Use the bigger, 3 or 5 subject notebooks for multiple semester classes like Chemistry and Physics. You'll have the first part to reference back to, and these are the only subjects I've found so far where you actually use much more than the 70 paged 1 subject ones. \n* Bring a surge protected power strip. There are never enough plugs in dorm rooms, and some, like the one I was in last year, were not designed for 3 pronged devices. \n* Bring a small lamp. It allows you to study if your roommate is asleep. It also comes in handy if, for some unknown reason, they've decided that the tiny little ceiling light needs to have a very cloudy cover. Bad lighting will put you to sleep a lot quicker than you'll get your studying done.\n* Check your mail frequently. You never know when something exciting will show up. \n\n-------------------------------------------------------------\nIt's a bit long, but hopefully some of these you'll find helpful. \n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n", "Lots of small cans of food, when you come home drunk and hungry a cold can of beans then bed is so much more awesome than a midnight cooking fiasco.\n\nGet a water bottle or a pack of small bottled waters you can refil and grab on the way out to lectures and stuff. It'll save lots of money in the long term and its good for the environment.\n\nUni campuses are actively on the look out for p2p and usenet activity. If you like to get your content that way then get an anonymizer/proxy solution such as btguard, you may get looked at for bandwidth usage if you go crazy but nobody will be able to see what you're downloading. You'll be a handy person to know. Also, campuses seem like the perfect place for an offline file sharing device like a [piratebox](http://wiki.daviddarts.com/PirateBox) if you want a little project.\n\nif you're self catering, get one good chef's knife and a steel, keep it to yourself and anything you cook will be far easier.\n\nAs people said, leave your door open. the corridors are often used as common rooms, if you can hear something going on you can join in. Also if people peek in and see your face every time they walk past, they'll know to say hi when they see you elsewhere on campus.\n\nJoin every club you find even vaguely interesting, go one or twice to them all, stick with 2 or 3 you like and you'll have a premade social network for the rest of your time at uni.\n\nIf you're tight on space, something like a [wowee](http://www.woweeone.com/index.php/us/) will give you speakers you can take with you without the bulk and weight and they're pretty effective for the volumes you'll reasonable be able to use.\n\nkeep spare toiletaries including spare TP, soap, antisthamines, condoms, etc. Get a multi pack of cheap toothbrushes, when you have people over to stay or if you or room mate get laid, they'll be able to wake up and brush their teeth!!(people appreciate that SOOO much)\n\nLeave your cum box at home.", "buy a flag for your common room and have everyone in your floor / stairwell (Brock Decew campus) sign it. It will be filled up with a fuck ton of names by the end of the year and you will look back at it in a few decades and smile. ", "Some of the most useful things I had while living in a dorm:\n\n* Fan\n* One cup coffee maker\n* Recycling bins in my room\n* Privacy curtain around my bed\n* Small desktop mirror for applying makeup, etc.\n* A small vacuum that you can store in the corner\n* A rug\n* Multiple lamps. One for your desk, one for by your bed.\n* A [\"husband\" pillow](http://husbandpillows.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/boyfriend3.jpg) so you can sit up in your bed.\n* Paper towels, dish soap, a sponge, and wet wipes for cleaning up spills and dishes.", "Ceramic dishes. Plastic absorbs flavors, good or bad.\nDish soap in an open bowl of wine. No more fruit flies\n\nPassive air freshener. $1 at Ralphs/Wal-Mart. More women will stay\n\nHangers. Hang long-sleeves. Hang pants.\n\nHotplate. Easy to heat up some coffee or some ramen without going to the communal kitchen.", "A couple things last year that really helped:\n\n1) Get there first during the move in. I got in the room second and he chose the better side of the room. It was by the window and all the outlets were on his side, and none on mine. Took a few extension cords to make it work for me. \n\n2) Do laundry every week - every 10 days at the most. If you get behind on your laundry, it's gonna suck when you spend 4 hours doing 8 loads.\n\n3) Get to know your RAs. All of them. You are much more likely to get away with something if they like you. Also, you can get good advice from them, learn what you can and can't do on campus, and they can be great friends.\n\n4) You will be shocked by how quickly food goes bad. Don't buy too many perishable things at once. \n\n5) Spend some time in the lobby, even if you're just watching tv or browsing reddit. Someone will come up and talk to you eventually.\n\n6) if you have a suite-style dorm where you share a bathroom with the room next door, make sure you always have toilet paper. You will go through that fast.\n\n7) And it sounds cliche, but join a club! ", "If you have a laptop that you like brining to class, then get a splitter to turn one outlet into several - that way, you can resolve any plug-in wars, while assuring yourself an outlet spot.", "Here are my tips:\n\n1.Don't buy stuff you don't realistically see yourself using. I bought a shoe organizer that folded under my bed and didn't use it once (seeing as I'm a guy.). \n\n2.Most \"dorm\" marketed stuff is garbage, these things suck:http://www.amazon.com/Honey-Can-Do-HMP-01127-Pop-Up-Spiral-Hamper/dp/B001F51A8U/ref=sr_1_16?ie=UTF8&qid=1344448495&sr=8-16&keywords=laundry+basket\nbuy a real laundry basket like this: http://www.amazon.com/Sterilite-12158006-Laundry-Titanium-Handles/dp/B001E4XEW2/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1344448703&sr=8-3&keywords=laundry+basket\n\n3. Headphone GODDAMNIT HEADPHONES! Nobody wants to hear your music and you dont want to hear theirs, I've had these for two years and they are amazing:http://www.amazon.com/Sony-MDR-XB500-Diaphragm-Driver-Headphones/dp/B001RB24S2/ref=sr_1_4?s=electronics&ie=UTF8&qid=1344448786&sr=1-4&keywords=sony+mdx\n\n4.If you have communal bathrooms, buy and bring your own toilet paper, its a gift from the heavens.\n\n5.Crock pot: Get one and learn its magic. No cafeteria food is still good after a month and I've never heard of a dorm not allowing crock pots.\n\n6.Full-size comforters are fine on the weird \"xtra-long twin\" beds, but the sheets must be correct.\n\n7.You might have to put some things on hold for awhile, your life will not be the same. I love shooting and hunting, but I had to learn to do without my first year. Don't sit around and mope about it, find something new to do. Don't replace old hobbies, just try new things you also enjoy.", "Get yourself these items:\nCooler\nBrass, PEX, or aluminum tubing\nAquarium Pump\nIce\nFan\nZip Ties\n\nRun the tubing in a loop in the cooler, cut out holes for it to enter and exit the cooler. Run the tubing in another loop forming consecutive circles behind the fan blades on the fan grill.\n\nIf your dorms are like mine, the ice was always free and I always had an air conditioned room!\n\n\nOr you can do something like this! http://www.instructables.com/id/Ice-box-air-conditioner/", "Get bins to store stuff under your bed. A lot of times the residence halls won't have enough space for all the items and clothes you bring. Not only that, the bins make it easier to transport and pack all your belongings.", "Look in to non-perisable food, like cambels microwave soup lunches and dity moore dinners. They can store for more than a year without being refrigerated, only need a microwave to cook, and if you find them on sale they can be reasonably cheap.", "Laundry detergent pods instead of a bottle of detergent. So much easier to carry to the laundry room!", "Get a cheap desk lamp from target, mine was around 7$ and was INSANELY bright. Then take command strips (the non-marking glue pads) and put 7-10 of them on the bottom of the lamp and stick it on the wall above your desk. Now you have a lamp that can light your whole room, and you can articulate the neck any way you want.\nheres the lamp by BTW\n:http://www.target.com/p/room-essentials-desk-lamp-blue/-/A-12227116", "1. save boxes that stuff like speakers, books, etc. came in and break em down so you can smuggle beer and other things into the dorm past the security guys.\n2. with no ac you can take a gallon ziploc bag and fill it with ice and lay it under your pillow for an hour before you go to bed, that helped me out when the ac was down at my spot on campus.\n3. buy your own soft toilet paper and hide it, dont let your pals know you have soft TP, they will steal it when they find that the one ply stuff that is in there will make you have a raw, itchy, sore butt. \n4. shaving cream, cheap crappy shaving cream, works good for pranks and prank retaliation. \n*" ]	[ 24, 20, 12, 9, 8, 8, 8, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Tips on interviewing for a position in another country All in the title - first interview for an international position. Any tips would be super helpful!", "Tips on interviewing for a position in another country All in the title - first interview for an international position. Any tips would be super helpful!", "Tips on interviewing for a position in another country All in the title - first interview for an international position. Any tips would be super helpful!" ]	[ "Learn the language. You don’t have to be an expert, but it’s good to know basic words to communicate with others.", "I recommend doing lots of online research on that country so you don’t commit any cultural faux paus. \n\nThis may also help you think of some potential appropriate questions you could ask them. \n\nPlus if you get to demonstrate any of the knowledge you pick up (organically, don’t force it) it will make you look good to the interviewer.", "Look up pictures of their top political people. See how they smile. Americans smile big, toothy grins, full of excitement, and they do it a LOT. Other countries smile a lot less, and a lot smaller, and view big smilers as fools or sometimes as pompous people, reaching above their station. It's complicated, and varies by country. Unless, of course, you want to emphasize your American heritage (OK to do so, so long as you show clear respect to their culture, as well), you should strive to fit their cultural expectations.\n\nThe reason I suggest looking at the top political people is that studies have shown they vary their smiles based on the cultural expectations of their people. They're doing it right, so copy them.\n\nAlso, go to Amazon and search for \"Kiss Bow or Shake Hands,\" and buy the book that will fit your country. I was just going to send you the direct link, but found too many choices (even with varying authors) to choose just one. If you do that simple search, yourself, you'll be able to find the one specifically for your needs. It's all about cultural expectations for doing business in a variety of countries." ]	[ 4, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. ", "Ways to end work emails that aren't variations of \"Let me know\" I'm a new engineer and I find myself using \"let me know\" on way too many of my emails. For example I'll do some analysis, makes some charts etc. then send it off to the various people on my project asking them to look it over. I usually end it with \"let me know if you have any questions\" or, \"if you think this is good let me know\", \"let me know if you find any mistakes.\" etc. \n\nI can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take. " ]	[ "Be very specific with you requests. For example:\n\n> Dear all,\n\n>I made this analysis. The conclusion I'm reaching from this analysis is xyz. \n\n>Bob, please tell me if you agree with my conclusion no later than EOB Friday. If anyone else has input, please also give it by EOB Friday.\n> \n> Best regards,\n> \n> 991\n\nBy giving specific actions with specific deadlines, everyone is very clear of responsibilities. Also, I frequently use the bold for names and deadlines to make them jump out to the email skimmers. When they see their name and a date jump out they will reread the entire message.", "We do audit consulting so I send like twenty of these a day...\n\nAny word?\nLet me know!\nGot an update?\nAny assistance is appreciated.\nCould you follow up and drop me a line?\nLook forward to closing this out!\nAny idea?\nGot any thoughts on this?\nCould you provide any documentation?\n\nThat's a few I've ended on lately. :)", "\nI do a few things. The first one, is I'll have a sentence that starts with, \"To answer your question,\" Yes, it's cliche, BUT, it forces me to actually answer what the client wants. (Otherwise, I can ramble or go off on a tangent.)\n\nSecond, I'll list bullet points, 1, 2 and 3. It makes it easier for a client refer to my list.\n\nFinally, I'll end with The Next Step. Even if my email is skimmed, they'll always know The Next Step. If possible, put in either a time deadline, or a time when you'll follow up. Natural instinct is to delay until the last second. This way, they have a last second.\n\n\n\"To answer your question, the two things that need to happen are:\n1. This (explanation) \n2 That. (explanation)\n\nFor the next step, I need Bob to do This and Mary to do That. I'll check back with both on Friday.\"\n\nFor something where input is required, limit the choices as best as you can.\n\n\"Bob, you'll need to decide between This or That, and I have to have a decision by Friday, before the lunch meeting in order to make the deadline.\"\n\n", "This one asshole I work with ends with \"carry on\", and it really irritates me because he doesn't outrank me. Don't end with anything that sounds like a command in these situations.", "Please advise. \n\nAny issues, get in touch.\n \nThat sound right to you? \n\nJust wanted to bounce the ideas of of you before I ship/print... \n\nAre we good to go ahead? \n\nIf this works for you, I'd love to hear about it. \n\nDo say something if you can see any issues with this. \n\nI'd appreciate it if you would give this a once-over. \n\nI think this is good, but I'd like your input. \n\nAlternatively, if you're speaking with other engineers, just slap a read receipt on your messages or perhaps even vote buttons (assuming outlook? Really easy there) assume any read receipts with no comments are \"yes, that's fine\" \n\nAll my emails have a sig \"any problems, don't hesitate to call\" \n\nMaybe you could try that? \"call me if you see anything wrong\" \n\nThis is just what I could come up with. ", "I didn't see it in here, but I work in Shipping and have to throw multiple options for my Customer Service Rep to pick from. Usually it is a 'how do you want this shipped?' email and I end with please advise. But I like the comments of direct questions with time frames that other are mentioning. Keep being awesome!", "The one that has been irritating me lately is \"please reach out\". \n\nI don't time to play phone tag with your phone tree system. Either phone me or say what you gotta say in the email. \n\n\n/rant\n\nBut good in ya OP for making the effort to not sound like a broken record. ", "I use:\n\n>Please provide comments or concurrence by date\n\nPutting the date turns the request into something with a deadline that is more likely to get worked on than something with no date. Asking for comments or concurrence gets a response from people who looked at it and had no comments. That way you know if they looked and had no comments or if they haven't looked yet.", "Depends on who it is! \n\nWhen I email someone that I have to communicate with every day, I make it more personal (but still keep it professional), things like \"by the way your wife came in last yesterday with the baby, she's adorable!\" or \"P.S. I saw your new car, it looks great!\"\n\nthings like that will build rapport with your team, which is always a good thing for you, you want and need people on your side in the office. \n\nFor people I'm less familiar with I keep it light but still professional. I'm an architectural technologist so an example may be:\n\n\"Dan, \n\nplease find attached the structural drawings requested yesterday, they should be up to par with the updates you wanted. If I'm missing anything give me a call and I'll send it over. \n\nEnjoy your weekend, (or some other light casual statement that makes you look friendly)\n\n-Chris (Or your name, you can use mine if you want but that might confuse people)\n\n(professional company signature here)\"\n\n\n\nGood luck OP! Remember that people aren't strict and super professional like college/uni taught you, they're people with likes and interests, play off that and you'll be well liked. ", "You are asking the wrong question, as you have misdiagnosed the problem. You stated, \"I can tell usually everyone probably looks it over and doesn't respond, as they don't feel responsible or there is no definitive action to take.\" \n\nMy experience has shown that if you need action taken, you need to state that in the first sentence, or even better, in the subject. Posing the request for action at the end of the email almost guarantees you will not get a response.\n\nPeople get more email than they can productively deal with, Thus they perform triage based on the subject or (if you are lucky) the first sentence. The recipients never even made it to your final sentence, because they deduced from the absence of a request in the subject or opening sentence that no action was required from them.\n\nTake this post as a good example for yourself. The subject stated what you needed.\n\nAs others have stated, you also need to give a deadline. If urgent, put that in the subject. If you can wait a week, the first or second sentence needs to say so. If you are merely giving them the opportunity to respond and are not counting on them for a response, you can state \"I will be finalizing this on Friday, so please give me your feedback by end of day on Thursday. Thanks.\"", "Please advise/revise accordingly.\n\nLet me know if there are any questions or concerns. \n\nHey fuck you answer me.\n\nPlease assist!\n\n", "I'll often go with...\n\n \"Thank you for your time and I look forward to your response in the near future.\n\nRespectfully, \nScottiesetsfire\"", "Honestly, I like \"Let me know if you have any questions\" and its variations as a part of ending my emails. I only use it when I've already made whatever points, delivered whatever information, and declared whatever action items needed to take place in the body of the email. I feel like \"Let me know if you have any questions\" just reminds people that we're/I'm open to further dialogue. It's probably superflous, I can just as easily just give my salutation and end the email without it, but I don't think it's hurting anything either.", "You need to tell people how they will be (or likely will be) impacted by the information in your note. Put that information first, before any descriptive data or analysis analysis of that data. \n\nNumber 1 reason your emails aren't getting the response you'd like - you're not providing value to your audience. Giving data and even your interpretation of data via email is almost categorically ineffective. People's attention is at a premium - specifically when it comes to their inbox, if what you're saying isn't immediately important to them, they will skip it. Additionally, presenting complex ideas, then asking for feedback is an exceptional request to your colleagues. What you're asking for should probably be requested in person or at least via phone. ", "UNODIR\n\nhttp://books.google.com/books?id=qd6qYemrvYsC&pg=PA38&lpg=PA38&dq=marcinko+unodir&source=bl&ots=HAEOxDjjmP&sig=VOU0tzjL5BDIr54dw3ZkgsKzW8k&hl=en&sa=X&ei=ZndVVKb_ApHViAKeiYHgAQ&ved=0CCAQ6AEwAA#v=onepage&q=marcinko%20unodir&f=false\n\n", "There is a cheat sheet out of there with like 10 tips on how to correctly word phrases in a work environment. For you are asking I recommend just saying something like \"if you have any questions or comments, feel free to email or call me directly.\" The best enteral advice is to remain succinct but not too blunt. Rather than say \"please let know so I can finish this by Friday.\" Say, \"please send your comment by Thursday, etc.\"", "The most important part of any call to action (which \"let me know\" is) is including a deadline. It can either be a deadline of \"if I don't hear from you by X date, I'm going to do Y\" or \"if I don't hear from you by X date, I will be contacting you again, most likely in real time (aka phone call, dropping in their office) for a decision\".\n\nWithout a deadline, people just tend to drop it lower and lower on their To Do list until it disappears.", "Thank you, in advance, for your time and attention to this matter.\n\nMany thanks in advance.\n\nIf there are no objections or suggestions, I intend to move forward with this by ____________.\n\nAlso, with regards to getting email responses, emails to an individual are far more likely to get a response than emails to a group. Your subject line is the best tool at your disposal for getting attention, so make your subject something that says, \"I'm relevant; read me!\" You can also put \"Please respond\" in the subject line.\n", "Specific is best, but I will usually ask if they can have the answer by a certain date. Someone demanding a date will get ignored. I LOVE \"please advise\" and always end my emails with Thanks (whether I mean it or not).\n\nIf I need something by a specific date, I call the person on the phone. Scandalous, I know. ", "Quite often when responding to an email where someone has asked me a question, I like to finish with the salutation: \n\nHope that helps,\nMy Name", "Put \"Response Required: (whatever your subject really is)\" or some variation of this in your subject line of your email. This is very direct to the recipients of the email that they need to send feedback.", "Just say that you are available to discuss concerns or field questions. Also, sometimes i think it's implied.\n\nSometimes if i was unsure if the info i was sending was what somebody wanted I'd simply tell them to confirm. Obviously if they had questions they'd contact me.", "It is an engineering firm. Be direct. I tell my boss, client or other engineers something along the lines of \"I did X, you need to do Y, so I can do Z.\" If I'm under a lot of pressure to get it done I'll pass that pressure along usually with a phone call if I havent heard back in a reasonable amount of time. Emails are easy to ignore.", "If you need them to look it over and respond I would suggest trying a variation of the \"let me know\" which is \"please advise of any issues you find...\" or \"I would appreciate if you could look over this chart\" If your biggest issue is getting people to actually give a damn, you might do better sending an individual email to each person and addressing them by name by giving them a sense of personal responsibility.", "If possible, include a read receipt, that way you have proof that they received and acknowledged the email.", "I tend to finish a lot of my request emails with \"Please let me know if I can be of any assistance in the matter\"", "I end just about every work email with a variation of \"please advise.\" Please advise. Could you please advise? Etc.", "I can see a problem where you're new so you say something and feel like you need to end it as a question. \n\nYou don't. It comes off as if you're not sure of what you're saying. Be declarative, if you feel it's necessary include any questions, but otherwise this is a statement. Believe me, if they have questions or input you'll know. ", "Follow these directions: http://unlessiheardifferently.com/\n\nJust add an \"Unless I hear differently, on Monday I am going to begin project X.\"\n\nThat way, they can interject if needed, and if no one follows up, you don't have to chase anyone for permission.\n\nI use it at my job (been here ~5months) and everyone loves it.", "* Share your thoughts\n\n* Look forward to hearing your opinion\n\n* Take care and talk soon\n\nTons of variations really. The key is to letting the person know you expect a response in the body of your message.", "\"Looking forward to your prompt feedback\" or \"Any questions or clarifications can be directed at: (contact info)\n\nPhrasing it this way implies to them you already count on them/expect contact to do something.", "\"If you should have any problems, questions, or concerns, please don't hesitate to reach out to me at your earliest convenience.\n\nWarm Regards,\n\nDarthScary.\n\nSignature Soup....\"\n\nThis is how I end all my e-mails and it works great because it puts the ball back into their court. Now you also have a paper trail if they forget something and try to turn it back on you.", "If you really need someone to let you know or respond in any way, send the email and call them.\n\n\nMore times than not, they didn't actually read the email. When you call them you'll end up going through the email with them on the phone once in a while, and then they'll let you know directly, or you can agree to get the feedback you're needing by a specific time.\n\n\nFrom experience, most emails are useless. If you really need something, talk in person or on the phone." ]	[ 302, 47, 20, 13, 11, 4, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to find friends I grew up in a church and to this day most of my friends are from this church. I would like to expand my circle of friends, but I have never learned to make friends. Any tips?", "How to find friends I grew up in a church and to this day most of my friends are from this church. I would like to expand my circle of friends, but I have never learned to make friends. Any tips?", "How to find friends I grew up in a church and to this day most of my friends are from this church. I would like to expand my circle of friends, but I have never learned to make friends. Any tips?", "How to find friends I grew up in a church and to this day most of my friends are from this church. I would like to expand my circle of friends, but I have never learned to make friends. Any tips?", "How to find friends I grew up in a church and to this day most of my friends are from this church. I would like to expand my circle of friends, but I have never learned to make friends. Any tips?" ]	[ "Read the book How to Win Friends and Influence People. Then, put its principles into practice. It's great for personal relationships and business relationships. I'm about halfway through it myself and have already seen some improvements in my own friendships. The hard part for me is actually going through with it and meeting new people.\n\nBasically:\n\n* Ask people about themselves\n\n* Be genuinely interested in them and actively listen\n\n* Smile\n\n* Avoid the negative, accentuate the positives\n\n* Avoid trying to make yourself look or sound important; the other person is the one of interest, make them feel amazing", "This will sound like common sense but join things. Workout groups with interaction like kickboxing, poetry clubs, painting, cooking classes ect.\nVolunteer \nYou need to put yourself out there. If you are shy or have other reasons you are having trouble maybe attend conversation clubs to practice or counselling for confidence ect", "get to know your self first\nfigure out what you have a passion for or something you always wanted to do but your current friends might not be interested in then do that - \nchase your passions - not friends\n\nfriends will be discovered in that process\n\n", "Join a school activity, or maybe look at stuff you enjoy in the library, people feel more comfortable around people with similar interests and will be more likely to walk up to you and start a conversation.", "It really depends on what kind of friends are you looking for, gamers, D&D, Billiards, Drinking Buddies, card sharks, or just a friend in general. That last one is the hardest one to find, if you're looking for gamers you can go to a lan Center and meet new people there just by talking about the game they're playing and so-on. If you're looking for a friend a buddy a BFF that's a strong relationship you have to build overtime.\n\nSo think about what kind of friends you want because that's the most important part, you wouldn't want to hang around with people that you do not share the same interests in." ]	[ 11, 5, 3, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to evaluate choices when making a life decision? Is there a best framework or methodology to evaluate different choices when their benefits and drawbacks are comparable?", "How to evaluate choices when making a life decision? Is there a best framework or methodology to evaluate different choices when their benefits and drawbacks are comparable?", "How to evaluate choices when making a life decision? Is there a best framework or methodology to evaluate different choices when their benefits and drawbacks are comparable?", "How to evaluate choices when making a life decision? Is there a best framework or methodology to evaluate different choices when their benefits and drawbacks are comparable?" ]	[ "Well, put the pros and cons in a list on a paper. That way you see them all and don't have to remember them when thinking about it.", "If you are facing a decision with multiple steps consider making a design matrix to come up with several possible decisions you could make, then weigh each in a decision matrix weighting the outcome you will get. The end result should be that one option has a higher value than the others and that is your clear choice. \n\nP.S. this is the engineering way of doing things, so be warned...", "I always use pro/con analysis (several times). Basically you just list all the pros and the cons of your decision then put score beside it (I usually based the score on its importance 1-10). Sum it all up and see the result. \n\nIf you still not sure. Toss the paper away and write again. It might take several times, but it will \"lead\" you to what your heart actually want. ", "It's not really a framework but think longer term. Two options may be equal for the immediate future but one of them probably puts you in a better or worse position for achieving your life goals. " ]	[ 3, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "Who to call, what to do if you're being plagued by telemarketers/ phishing calls? So I get the occasional telemarketing call and am generally polite, say I'm not interested, asked not to be called back again and hang up. That usually works and I have few problems generally. \n\nThroughout the last 3-4 years though I have been plagued by what I believe is a phishing scam for cr", "Who to call, what to do if you're being plagued by telemarketers/ phishing calls? So I get the occasional telemarketing call and am generally polite, say I'm not interested, asked not to be called back again and hang up. That usually works and I have few problems generally. \n\nThroughout the last 3-4 years though I have been plagued by what I believe is a phishing scam for cr", "Who to call, what to do if you're being plagued by telemarketers/ phishing calls? So I get the occasional telemarketing call and am generally polite, say I'm not interested, asked not to be called back again and hang up. That usually works and I have few problems generally. \n\nThroughout the last 3-4 years though I have been plagued by what I believe is a phishing scam for cr", "Who to call, what to do if you're being plagued by telemarketers/ phishing calls? So I get the occasional telemarketing call and am generally polite, say I'm not interested, asked not to be called back again and hang up. That usually works and I have few problems generally. \n\nThroughout the last 3-4 years though I have been plagued by what I believe is a phishing scam for cr", "Who to call, what to do if you're being plagued by telemarketers/ phishing calls? So I get the occasional telemarketing call and am generally polite, say I'm not interested, asked not to be called back again and hang up. That usually works and I have few problems generally. \n\nThroughout the last 3-4 years though I have been plagued by what I believe is a phishing scam for cr", "Who to call, what to do if you're being plagued by telemarketers/ phishing calls? So I get the occasional telemarketing call and am generally polite, say I'm not interested, asked not to be called back again and hang up. That usually works and I have few problems generally. \n\nThroughout the last 3-4 years though I have been plagued by what I believe is a phishing scam for cr" ]	[ "There is a US do not call list as well. I've solved this with a few steps of my own. (Cellular) Every call I get is run through an app called \"Should I Answer?\" with an octopus logo. If its a known crap call, it will tell you. If it misses a call and you answer, you can report the number as shoddy. Similarly, I've saved all numbers that are junk under \"Do Not Answer\" (DNA) and set my phone to not ring, end the call and so not send to voice-mail. I use the Galaxy S7 so it was a standard feature but there are apps as well.", "I see! Fortunately, my set up seems to be working pretty well in those areas too. I'm not sure how, so I won't try to speculate, but my husband gets a bunch of random/spoofed \"local\" calls and I just don't. \n\nI forgot to mention that I use a Reverse Lookup as well, and it helps me to identify calls actually meant for me as opposed to calls that could be for any potential customer (not me lol) After our Accident last year, I get regular calls from the attorney, doctors, insurance company, spine Dr, etc so I know that I'm still getting pertinent calls. It takes a bit of maintenance, but over time my call log is so well manicured that the only or of line call I've received in the last month was a political cold call. Handing up on a recording from a future president was a treat, really, so I didn't mind it. Good luck! ", "I had pretty good success asking what company they work for, and what their address was. Basically, \"where will the FCC be going to fine your ass.\"\n", "Don't know if this would work for everybody, but after I moved from California I got like 20 calls from locations around monterey, all trying to get me onto finishing some survey and all calling too damn early or too damn late. I eventually solved this when I realized that their calls were being recorded.\n\nThe first time the young woman heard an angry dude arguing with her in Japanese was the last time she called.", "Add your phone to the no call list just by searching the number for the no call list on Google and calling it. This will make you unlisted. ", "A big YouTuber recently made a video on what he is doing to prevent this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3oEvxPsTmRE\n\nA tl;dr is basically set your answerphone to the sound a router might make or have that sound saved on your phone and then if you get a call, don't say anything until the other person speaks and if it is a telemarketer, then the theory is that you should be listed as not a real number." ]	[ 5, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Remove odors from vehicle seats, upholstery I just got a new job driving for a trucking company, and I got a nearly new truck to drive, but whoever had this truck before me has clearly never heard of bathing - the truck reeks of body odor. It's absolutely rank. The first time I opened the door it was like a sweaty fat guy tackled me. I got a new mattress immediately, but I believe the odor is in the seat and (fabric) curtains. Any tips I can try myself, before I go to a professional detailing shop?", "Remove odors from vehicle seats, upholstery I just got a new job driving for a trucking company, and I got a nearly new truck to drive, but whoever had this truck before me has clearly never heard of bathing - the truck reeks of body odor. It's absolutely rank. The first time I opened the door it was like a sweaty fat guy tackled me. I got a new mattress immediately, but I believe the odor is in the seat and (fabric) curtains. Any tips I can try myself, before I go to a professional detailing shop?", "Remove odors from vehicle seats, upholstery I just got a new job driving for a trucking company, and I got a nearly new truck to drive, but whoever had this truck before me has clearly never heard of bathing - the truck reeks of body odor. It's absolutely rank. The first time I opened the door it was like a sweaty fat guy tackled me. I got a new mattress immediately, but I believe the odor is in the seat and (fabric) curtains. Any tips I can try myself, before I go to a professional detailing shop?", "Remove odors from vehicle seats, upholstery I just got a new job driving for a trucking company, and I got a nearly new truck to drive, but whoever had this truck before me has clearly never heard of bathing - the truck reeks of body odor. It's absolutely rank. The first time I opened the door it was like a sweaty fat guy tackled me. I got a new mattress immediately, but I believe the odor is in the seat and (fabric) curtains. Any tips I can try myself, before I go to a professional detailing shop?", "Remove odors from vehicle seats, upholstery I just got a new job driving for a trucking company, and I got a nearly new truck to drive, but whoever had this truck before me has clearly never heard of bathing - the truck reeks of body odor. It's absolutely rank. The first time I opened the door it was like a sweaty fat guy tackled me. I got a new mattress immediately, but I believe the odor is in the seat and (fabric) curtains. Any tips I can try myself, before I go to a professional detailing shop?", "Remove odors from vehicle seats, upholstery I just got a new job driving for a trucking company, and I got a nearly new truck to drive, but whoever had this truck before me has clearly never heard of bathing - the truck reeks of body odor. It's absolutely rank. The first time I opened the door it was like a sweaty fat guy tackled me. I got a new mattress immediately, but I believe the odor is in the seat and (fabric) curtains. Any tips I can try myself, before I go to a professional detailing shop?" ]	[ "Ozium\n\nYou can get it at Walmart in the automotive section (blue and white aerosol bottle) It's not expensive and it works really well. Spray it on everything, especially the carpets, and let it sit overnight. By morning the odor should be gone.\n\nI've used it multiple times to erase vehicle odors and it has worked every time. ", "Do you have a steam cleaner? I've had good luck getting rid of odours with steam. There's the kind that clean by spraying steam and there are steam mops. Or you could rent a machine.", "White vinegar. Put some in a spray bottle maybe with some vodka or witch hazel, then spray it everywhere and let it air out.", "Odoban is the best! Walmart, Sams Club, and Home Depot have it. Home Depot is the only place you can get different scents. The stuff really works wonders!", "Family Friend of mine was a taxi Driver. To remove the smell of bad odors, he would sprinkle ground Coffee Beans on the carpets and seats and leave them in overnight. In the morning, he would vacuum them out leaving a nice fresh smell of coffee.", "Ferbreze is the best. I'm not big on strong smells, so I get the Ferbreze \"Free Nature\" (unscented) spray from Target (though I'm sure it's available other places)." ]	[ 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to decline someone's invitation (especially when they're excited to have you). My older brother is asking me to go camping for his friend's bachelor party. I really just, you know, don't want to go. I already told him I work that day and I wanted to see my dad and watch football the next day, but he pointed out it would be at night and I could leave before the game starts.\n\nWhat's the easiest way to let him know? Just tell him I am not that interested, especially cause they're his friends? Also, this helps for me in the future because sometimes I want to decline other people but I am always left struggling thinking of an excuse or reason why I don't want to go.\n\n(Disclaimer: I am not anti-social, I just don't fucking want to go camping, lol)", "How to decline someone's invitation (especially when they're excited to have you). My older brother is asking me to go camping for his friend's bachelor party. I really just, you know, don't want to go. I already told him I work that day and I wanted to see my dad and watch football the next day, but he pointed out it would be at night and I could leave before the game starts.\n\nWhat's the easiest way to let him know? Just tell him I am not that interested, especially cause they're his friends? Also, this helps for me in the future because sometimes I want to decline other people but I am always left struggling thinking of an excuse or reason why I don't want to go.\n\n(Disclaimer: I am not anti-social, I just don't fucking want to go camping, lol)", "How to decline someone's invitation (especially when they're excited to have you). My older brother is asking me to go camping for his friend's bachelor party. I really just, you know, don't want to go. I already told him I work that day and I wanted to see my dad and watch football the next day, but he pointed out it would be at night and I could leave before the game starts.\n\nWhat's the easiest way to let him know? Just tell him I am not that interested, especially cause they're his friends? Also, this helps for me in the future because sometimes I want to decline other people but I am always left struggling thinking of an excuse or reason why I don't want to go.\n\n(Disclaimer: I am not anti-social, I just don't fucking want to go camping, lol)" ]	[ "Be honest and schedule another get together. \"I'm not gonna make it this time. Camping's just not for me. But we should totally hang out together sometime soon. Wanna come over and grill some burgers and watch the game next Monday night?\" \n\n That eliminates any hurt feelings from them accidentally thinking you didn't want to hang out with them. You're not ducking them if you're making plans to do something else fun together soon instead. And if they have a hard time scheduling the replacement activity, it helps reinforce the idea that everyone's busy and it's tough to fit everything in and nobody can say yes to everything all the time. \n\nPlus, it gets you out of having to decline for the same kind of activity all of the time. If you say don't want to come this time because you are doing something else, next time camping comes up, you'll still get asked. If you are open about it that you're not a camper, next time he's inviting folks camping, he will know to count you out automatically. ", "If you've done the camping thing before and have a good reason that you didn't enjoy it, then it becomes much more valid.\n\nIf you haven't then you are much more at risk of pressure from the 'Well you've never tried it, come on, you'll love it !!!' brigade.\n\n(Based on my experience with skiers - I thought I would hate it, and I did.)\n\nGood luck!", "I decline a lot of requests due to the same reason - not interested. I've learned that only saying \"No.\" incites more pressure to attend. So I give a brief reason as to why, which you have done. There are times where I don't have a reason and for those I have a few fallback answers at the ready. For less pressing events and lower ranked social acquaintances eg \"I've got a busy family schedule at the moment I'll have to get back with you\" works amazingly well, you could substitute work or school for family. People who value their time will stop pursuing your attendance. For someone like a friend or brother I just simply don't budge from not wanting to attend, they will soon learn to respect your response." ]	[ 6, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "What to do when attacked by a dog? I just saw this [/r/WTF post](http://redd.it/25jjfi).\n\nAnd I thought to myself.. what would I do when I was attacked like that and no cat to defend me?\n\nOr let's say you're jogging through your neighbourhood and suddenly you hear growling and running behind you. It's an angry dog and it bites your leg, arm, even neck?!?\n\nWhat should I do when a dog has a hold on me??\n\nWhat should I do to prevent this attack when I see an angry dog?\n\nWhat if there are multiple dogs?\n\nWhat should one do after a successful ending or deflection of the attack? Visit to a doctor and wound care of course.. But what about the dog? What about if there is no owner? Do dogs come back to the victim?\n\nThanks.", "What to do when attacked by a dog? I just saw this [/r/WTF post](http://redd.it/25jjfi).\n\nAnd I thought to myself.. what would I do when I was attacked like that and no cat to defend me?\n\nOr let's say you're jogging through your neighbourhood and suddenly you hear growling and running behind you. It's an angry dog and it bites your leg, arm, even neck?!?\n\nWhat should I do when a dog has a hold on me??\n\nWhat should I do to prevent this attack when I see an angry dog?\n\nWhat if there are multiple dogs?\n\nWhat should one do after a successful ending or deflection of the attack? Visit to a doctor and wound care of course.. But what about the dog? What about if there is no owner? Do dogs come back to the victim?\n\nThanks.", "What to do when attacked by a dog? I just saw this [/r/WTF post](http://redd.it/25jjfi).\n\nAnd I thought to myself.. what would I do when I was attacked like that and no cat to defend me?\n\nOr let's say you're jogging through your neighbourhood and suddenly you hear growling and running behind you. It's an angry dog and it bites your leg, arm, even neck?!?\n\nWhat should I do when a dog has a hold on me??\n\nWhat should I do to prevent this attack when I see an angry dog?\n\nWhat if there are multiple dogs?\n\nWhat should one do after a successful ending or deflection of the attack? Visit to a doctor and wound care of course.. But what about the dog? What about if there is no owner? Do dogs come back to the victim?\n\nThanks.", "What to do when attacked by a dog? I just saw this [/r/WTF post](http://redd.it/25jjfi).\n\nAnd I thought to myself.. what would I do when I was attacked like that and no cat to defend me?\n\nOr let's say you're jogging through your neighbourhood and suddenly you hear growling and running behind you. It's an angry dog and it bites your leg, arm, even neck?!?\n\nWhat should I do when a dog has a hold on me??\n\nWhat should I do to prevent this attack when I see an angry dog?\n\nWhat if there are multiple dogs?\n\nWhat should one do after a successful ending or deflection of the attack? Visit to a doctor and wound care of course.. But what about the dog? What about if there is no owner? Do dogs come back to the victim?\n\nThanks.", "What to do when attacked by a dog? I just saw this [/r/WTF post](http://redd.it/25jjfi).\n\nAnd I thought to myself.. what would I do when I was attacked like that and no cat to defend me?\n\nOr let's say you're jogging through your neighbourhood and suddenly you hear growling and running behind you. It's an angry dog and it bites your leg, arm, even neck?!?\n\nWhat should I do when a dog has a hold on me??\n\nWhat should I do to prevent this attack when I see an angry dog?\n\nWhat if there are multiple dogs?\n\nWhat should one do after a successful ending or deflection of the attack? Visit to a doctor and wound care of course.. But what about the dog? What about if there is no owner? Do dogs come back to the victim?\n\nThanks.", "What to do when attacked by a dog? I just saw this [/r/WTF post](http://redd.it/25jjfi).\n\nAnd I thought to myself.. what would I do when I was attacked like that and no cat to defend me?\n\nOr let's say you're jogging through your neighbourhood and suddenly you hear growling and running behind you. It's an angry dog and it bites your leg, arm, even neck?!?\n\nWhat should I do when a dog has a hold on me??\n\nWhat should I do to prevent this attack when I see an angry dog?\n\nWhat if there are multiple dogs?\n\nWhat should one do after a successful ending or deflection of the attack? Visit to a doctor and wound care of course.. But what about the dog? What about if there is no owner? Do dogs come back to the victim?\n\nThanks.", "What to do when attacked by a dog? I just saw this [/r/WTF post](http://redd.it/25jjfi).\n\nAnd I thought to myself.. what would I do when I was attacked like that and no cat to defend me?\n\nOr let's say you're jogging through your neighbourhood and suddenly you hear growling and running behind you. It's an angry dog and it bites your leg, arm, even neck?!?\n\nWhat should I do when a dog has a hold on me??\n\nWhat should I do to prevent this attack when I see an angry dog?\n\nWhat if there are multiple dogs?\n\nWhat should one do after a successful ending or deflection of the attack? Visit to a doctor and wound care of course.. But what about the dog? What about if there is no owner? Do dogs come back to the victim?\n\nThanks.", "What to do when attacked by a dog? I just saw this [/r/WTF post](http://redd.it/25jjfi).\n\nAnd I thought to myself.. what would I do when I was attacked like that and no cat to defend me?\n\nOr let's say you're jogging through your neighbourhood and suddenly you hear growling and running behind you. It's an angry dog and it bites your leg, arm, even neck?!?\n\nWhat should I do when a dog has a hold on me??\n\nWhat should I do to prevent this attack when I see an angry dog?\n\nWhat if there are multiple dogs?\n\nWhat should one do after a successful ending or deflection of the attack? Visit to a doctor and wound care of course.. But what about the dog? What about if there is no owner? Do dogs come back to the victim?\n\nThanks.", "What to do when attacked by a dog? I just saw this [/r/WTF post](http://redd.it/25jjfi).\n\nAnd I thought to myself.. what would I do when I was attacked like that and no cat to defend me?\n\nOr let's say you're jogging through your neighbourhood and suddenly you hear growling and running behind you. It's an angry dog and it bites your leg, arm, even neck?!?\n\nWhat should I do when a dog has a hold on me??\n\nWhat should I do to prevent this attack when I see an angry dog?\n\nWhat if there are multiple dogs?\n\nWhat should one do after a successful ending or deflection of the attack? Visit to a doctor and wound care of course.. But what about the dog? What about if there is no owner? Do dogs come back to the victim?\n\nThanks.", "What to do when attacked by a dog? I just saw this [/r/WTF post](http://redd.it/25jjfi).\n\nAnd I thought to myself.. what would I do when I was attacked like that and no cat to defend me?\n\nOr let's say you're jogging through your neighbourhood and suddenly you hear growling and running behind you. It's an angry dog and it bites your leg, arm, even neck?!?\n\nWhat should I do when a dog has a hold on me??\n\nWhat should I do to prevent this attack when I see an angry dog?\n\nWhat if there are multiple dogs?\n\nWhat should one do after a successful ending or deflection of the attack? Visit to a doctor and wound care of course.. But what about the dog? What about if there is no owner? Do dogs come back to the victim?\n\nThanks.", "What to do when attacked by a dog? I just saw this [/r/WTF post](http://redd.it/25jjfi).\n\nAnd I thought to myself.. what would I do when I was attacked like that and no cat to defend me?\n\nOr let's say you're jogging through your neighbourhood and suddenly you hear growling and running behind you. It's an angry dog and it bites your leg, arm, even neck?!?\n\nWhat should I do when a dog has a hold on me??\n\nWhat should I do to prevent this attack when I see an angry dog?\n\nWhat if there are multiple dogs?\n\nWhat should one do after a successful ending or deflection of the attack? Visit to a doctor and wound care of course.. But what about the dog? What about if there is no owner? Do dogs come back to the victim?\n\nThanks.", "What to do when attacked by a dog? I just saw this [/r/WTF post](http://redd.it/25jjfi).\n\nAnd I thought to myself.. what would I do when I was attacked like that and no cat to defend me?\n\nOr let's say you're jogging through your neighbourhood and suddenly you hear growling and running behind you. It's an angry dog and it bites your leg, arm, even neck?!?\n\nWhat should I do when a dog has a hold on me??\n\nWhat should I do to prevent this attack when I see an angry dog?\n\nWhat if there are multiple dogs?\n\nWhat should one do after a successful ending or deflection of the attack? Visit to a doctor and wound care of course.. But what about the dog? What about if there is no owner? Do dogs come back to the victim?\n\nThanks.", "What to do when attacked by a dog? I just saw this [/r/WTF post](http://redd.it/25jjfi).\n\nAnd I thought to myself.. what would I do when I was attacked like that and no cat to defend me?\n\nOr let's say you're jogging through your neighbourhood and suddenly you hear growling and running behind you. It's an angry dog and it bites your leg, arm, even neck?!?\n\nWhat should I do when a dog has a hold on me??\n\nWhat should I do to prevent this attack when I see an angry dog?\n\nWhat if there are multiple dogs?\n\nWhat should one do after a successful ending or deflection of the attack? Visit to a doctor and wound care of course.. But what about the dog? What about if there is no owner? Do dogs come back to the victim?\n\nThanks.", "What to do when attacked by a dog? I just saw this [/r/WTF post](http://redd.it/25jjfi).\n\nAnd I thought to myself.. what would I do when I was attacked like that and no cat to defend me?\n\nOr let's say you're jogging through your neighbourhood and suddenly you hear growling and running behind you. It's an angry dog and it bites your leg, arm, even neck?!?\n\nWhat should I do when a dog has a hold on me??\n\nWhat should I do to prevent this attack when I see an angry dog?\n\nWhat if there are multiple dogs?\n\nWhat should one do after a successful ending or deflection of the attack? Visit to a doctor and wound care of course.. But what about the dog? What about if there is no owner? Do dogs come back to the victim?\n\nThanks.", "What to do when attacked by a dog? I just saw this [/r/WTF post](http://redd.it/25jjfi).\n\nAnd I thought to myself.. what would I do when I was attacked like that and no cat to defend me?\n\nOr let's say you're jogging through your neighbourhood and suddenly you hear growling and running behind you. It's an angry dog and it bites your leg, arm, even neck?!?\n\nWhat should I do when a dog has a hold on me??\n\nWhat should I do to prevent this attack when I see an angry dog?\n\nWhat if there are multiple dogs?\n\nWhat should one do after a successful ending or deflection of the attack? Visit to a doctor and wound care of course.. But what about the dog? What about if there is no owner? Do dogs come back to the victim?\n\nThanks.", "What to do when attacked by a dog? I just saw this [/r/WTF post](http://redd.it/25jjfi).\n\nAnd I thought to myself.. what would I do when I was attacked like that and no cat to defend me?\n\nOr let's say you're jogging through your neighbourhood and suddenly you hear growling and running behind you. It's an angry dog and it bites your leg, arm, even neck?!?\n\nWhat should I do when a dog has a hold on me??\n\nWhat should I do to prevent this attack when I see an angry dog?\n\nWhat if there are multiple dogs?\n\nWhat should one do after a successful ending or deflection of the attack? Visit to a doctor and wound care of course.. But what about the dog? What about if there is no owner? Do dogs come back to the victim?\n\nThanks.", "What to do when attacked by a dog? I just saw this [/r/WTF post](http://redd.it/25jjfi).\n\nAnd I thought to myself.. what would I do when I was attacked like that and no cat to defend me?\n\nOr let's say you're jogging through your neighbourhood and suddenly you hear growling and running behind you. It's an angry dog and it bites your leg, arm, even neck?!?\n\nWhat should I do when a dog has a hold on me??\n\nWhat should I do to prevent this attack when I see an angry dog?\n\nWhat if there are multiple dogs?\n\nWhat should one do after a successful ending or deflection of the attack? Visit to a doctor and wound care of course.. But what about the dog? What about if there is no owner? Do dogs come back to the victim?\n\nThanks.", "What to do when attacked by a dog? I just saw this [/r/WTF post](http://redd.it/25jjfi).\n\nAnd I thought to myself.. what would I do when I was attacked like that and no cat to defend me?\n\nOr let's say you're jogging through your neighbourhood and suddenly you hear growling and running behind you. It's an angry dog and it bites your leg, arm, even neck?!?\n\nWhat should I do when a dog has a hold on me??\n\nWhat should I do to prevent this attack when I see an angry dog?\n\nWhat if there are multiple dogs?\n\nWhat should one do after a successful ending or deflection of the attack? Visit to a doctor and wound care of course.. But what about the dog? What about if there is no owner? Do dogs come back to the victim?\n\nThanks.", "What to do when attacked by a dog? I just saw this [/r/WTF post](http://redd.it/25jjfi).\n\nAnd I thought to myself.. what would I do when I was attacked like that and no cat to defend me?\n\nOr let's say you're jogging through your neighbourhood and suddenly you hear growling and running behind you. It's an angry dog and it bites your leg, arm, even neck?!?\n\nWhat should I do when a dog has a hold on me??\n\nWhat should I do to prevent this attack when I see an angry dog?\n\nWhat if there are multiple dogs?\n\nWhat should one do after a successful ending or deflection of the attack? Visit to a doctor and wound care of course.. But what about the dog? What about if there is no owner? Do dogs come back to the victim?\n\nThanks.", "What to do when attacked by a dog? I just saw this [/r/WTF post](http://redd.it/25jjfi).\n\nAnd I thought to myself.. what would I do when I was attacked like that and no cat to defend me?\n\nOr let's say you're jogging through your neighbourhood and suddenly you hear growling and running behind you. It's an angry dog and it bites your leg, arm, even neck?!?\n\nWhat should I do when a dog has a hold on me??\n\nWhat should I do to prevent this attack when I see an angry dog?\n\nWhat if there are multiple dogs?\n\nWhat should one do after a successful ending or deflection of the attack? Visit to a doctor and wound care of course.. But what about the dog? What about if there is no owner? Do dogs come back to the victim?\n\nThanks.", "What to do when attacked by a dog? I just saw this [/r/WTF post](http://redd.it/25jjfi).\n\nAnd I thought to myself.. what would I do when I was attacked like that and no cat to defend me?\n\nOr let's say you're jogging through your neighbourhood and suddenly you hear growling and running behind you. It's an angry dog and it bites your leg, arm, even neck?!?\n\nWhat should I do when a dog has a hold on me??\n\nWhat should I do to prevent this attack when I see an angry dog?\n\nWhat if there are multiple dogs?\n\nWhat should one do after a successful ending or deflection of the attack? Visit to a doctor and wound care of course.. But what about the dog? What about if there is no owner? Do dogs come back to the victim?\n\nThanks.", "What to do when attacked by a dog? I just saw this [/r/WTF post](http://redd.it/25jjfi).\n\nAnd I thought to myself.. what would I do when I was attacked like that and no cat to defend me?\n\nOr let's say you're jogging through your neighbourhood and suddenly you hear growling and running behind you. It's an angry dog and it bites your leg, arm, even neck?!?\n\nWhat should I do when a dog has a hold on me??\n\nWhat should I do to prevent this attack when I see an angry dog?\n\nWhat if there are multiple dogs?\n\nWhat should one do after a successful ending or deflection of the attack? Visit to a doctor and wound care of course.. But what about the dog? What about if there is no owner? Do dogs come back to the victim?\n\nThanks." ]	[ "Well, assuming they are attack dog breeds, or any large breed, know that you cannot outrun them. \n\nIf they are far enough away and you can get on top of something, like a car or tree, or on the other side of a gate, that is obviously the best thing. \n\nI would recommend carrying a handgun (laws permitting), or a tazer, or pepper spray. There are also noise bombs that generate loud screeching noises that will (in theory) scare off dogs. \n\nIf you cannot get away, know that you will get bit. With that, offer the dog your weak arm by holding it out in front of you parallel to your torso and brace yourself for the impact. When the dog bites onto your arm, it will hurt, but the dog will likely hang onto that arm. \n\nWith your free arm, grab the dog's esophagus and squeeze as hard as you can. That'll put the dog out like a light in mere seconds. \n\nOther alternatives are to intimidate the dog. Make yourself big. Wave your arms and tell at it. Throw rocks if you can. Get a big stick if one is available. Do not retreat. Depending on the dog and your size, this could intimidate the dog into backing down. \n\nAs for multiple dogs... You're in big trouble if you do not have a weapon or cannot get away. \n\nHopefully that helps. \n\n", "I knew this wiry, tough guy who used to walk to work. Someone on the road had a Doberman and would unleash it on him day after day as he walked by. One day it finally attacked him. He shoved his arm down its throat, lifted it up, snapped its neck with a quick downward/upward jerking motion, dropped it on the road in a pile, continued walking. Epic. I am not condoning animal violence in any way. It is truly the retarded owner's fault. ", "If you are faced with an aggressive dog but have not been attacked, do NOT look the dog in the eyes. Staring down a dog is a sign of aggression, and will likely provoke the dog. Instead, turn your head slowly and slightly away and keep an eye on the dog with your peripheral vision. Stand still if possible. Walk backwards and slowly if you can. \n\nIf it approaches you, or lunges at you, kick it in the jaw as hard as you can.\n\nIf you are being attacked, give it an arm or leg and avoid being pulled down. You do NOT want to let it get your throat!\n\nIf you can get it to clamp on, go for the eyes first. Pole them out with fingers or keys/knife/whatever you have in your pockets. If you can, jam your fist or other hand down the dogs throat to gag it. \n\nAlthough this will be unlikely to happen, if you can reach the rear side of the dog, stick your finger up it's asshole. (Yeah, I know, crazy fucking BS, right? Yeah, anyway...) However, an attacking dog almost always protects it's hind legs.\n\nIf you see someone being attacked, grab both of it's back legs at the top of the leg, nearest he hips and pull the dog backwards. PAY ATTENTION! The dog CAN turn to get your hands, so you will need to quickly let go with ONE HAND when it goes for you, and then grab back on when it switches to the other side. Avoid lifting it's legs off the ground, as then it will most likely be able to twist and bit your legs. With large dogs you can't do that, obviously.\n\nIf you are on a bike, stop riding and get off, and place your bike between you and the dog.\n\nIf there are multiple dogs, and they want to attack you, curl up and protect your neck.", "If you are really that worried, I would think pepper spray or mace would be a very effective deterrent.", "As the cat shows you stand your ground and act like you can kick the dogs ass. Yell, advance towards the dog.... whatever it takes. Most dogs are genetically conditioned to avoid the strong and attack the weak. This cat, which this dog could dispose of so easily bluffs this dog into retreating.", "An animal trainer doing a speaking event mentioned this. In the case of one dog approaching anyway.\n\nBasically, a dog will go for whatever is closet to their mouth first. You kick, it'll probably get your foot. Try to hit it with a hand or fist, it's probably going to latch on. So, either carry a small, sturdy stick/branch or sacrifice whatever might be in your pocket. Phone, wallet, anything. The idea being you \"give\" the dog that item, hopefully it keeps their attention while you get to a safer location. Good luck!", "Protect your soft parts. If necessary present your non dominant forearm as a shield. If absolutely necessary defend yourself with kicks. Go to a doctor. Get the dog tested for rabies and other communicable disease, have animal control locate and detain the dog.", "If you are lucky enough to see the dog running towards you, get your self ready to kick it like a football.", "It is like defending against a shark attack: push your fingers in his eyes, punch his ears with your flathand and punch his nose. \nEither of this should work.", "If it's a single dog protect your neck and face. To fight it off, kicking and punching might work. Try gouging the eyes. If you're able to get around it's neck you can at least control where its head (and teeth) goes. ", "I live in an area that has no leash law and LOTS of dogs running around.\nI have been walking my dog for years before I got married and never had an issue with any of the dogs, but my wife gets really nervous around dogs she doesn't know. \n\nI have a concealed carry permit and could carry a gun, but realistically I'm not going to shoot a dog unless it has already attacked us. \n\nAfter doing research on stun guns I found some people saying they work well at deterring dogs. They don't work well, they work GREAT! \n\nWhenever a dog is approaching us, I turn the stun gun on and wait. If it responds to verbal commands to go away then no issue, but if it makes an aggressive move I simply fire the gun into the air making the \"cracking sound\". The dog instantly stops in it's tracks and runs the other direction. \n\nFiring a stun gun into the air is not good for it and you want to minimize the amount of time. One second is usually good enough to get the dog away and shouldn't hurt the equipment. \n\nYou can get a decent stun gun for $50 online. \n\nMy wife has no fear walking the dog around the block now :) \n\n ", "If the dog has bit you and has your hand in its mouth, jam your hand down the dogs mouth, as far as it will go, should let go.\nIf the dog is on top of you and there's nothing you can do, spread the front legs of the dog and it should do some shit and stop it attacking you.", "I can't imagine a normal unarmed person will be a match for a trained attack dog, or even a rabid untrained one for that matter. Having said that if you can see it coming, use something to hold the dog at bay with a sweeping motion while side stepping and circling until you can reach cover. As long as you can get it afraid of attacking you before it lunges for your throat, you should be alright.", "After the moment when the dog bites your weak arm, push it further into it's mouth, past the sharper front teeth. It'll have a harder time clamping down, leaving you with more room to grab it's neck and subdue it. ", "never show fear. Don't get surrounded. Stay on your feet. You can't out run them so stand your ground. Slowly walk away but never let them get behind you if you can. If one has ahold you work the eyes and ears but don't let go just because the dog lets go. Let and make the dog cry because it might be able to get louder than you and someone will come looking along with if you let go, it might continue the attack and you might not be so lucky the second time.", "Often you can scare it away by yelling, \"BAD dog! Back off!\" in a loud deep voice. Don't be an easy victim: he may have been looking for fun like kids who torture frogs, rather than seriously wanting to kill you. Sometimes dogs get so excited chasing a bike or a jogger that they get carried away and bite you; this heads them off. \n\nFor a real serious attack, I know of nothing that works reliably without training, except prevention (poison) or a gun. Carry pepper spray (or spray paint if pepper spray is illegal in your state) if you have to walk past a house where bad dogs are likely to live. But bad dogs are often owned by bad people, who are a much bigger threat.", "If a dog is charging at you, instead of running around, turn away. Take a firm stance, limbs out (making yourself seem as big as possible), and make a loud noise. Whether it be a loud \"NO\" or just even a syllable, you must assert dominance, thus making the dog cower away. Works 99 percent of the time. ", "I've encountered stray dogs a few times while jogging. Here's my tips.\nStop running or jogging, it's much faster then you. However if you stand and make yourself look big it may just back off, then you continue on your way. Most dogs will not confront someone looking for a fight. If your a kid on your way to school get your backpack or binder between you and it and prepare to Kick, shoes are hard and armored. Your arm is not.\n\nKick it as hard as you can and guard your crotch. They are about at that level. So you want to use your superior height and reach. IF you have a dog or a puppy you can kind of see the options available to it. A dog's only weapon is it's teeth. \n\nIf it continues to come at you remember you do NOT want to be pulled to the ground, If it does get you to the grab cover your neck/face with your weak arm and kick or punch at it with your strong arm. Or grab for your knife at that point. I always carry a 4 inch blade on me because its not only a weapon but a tool.\n\n\n\nI've been attacked by a dog as a child. It was my friends german shepard and it mauled my hand pretty bad. I had a pretty big fear of dogs all my life until abut six years ago when I decided I did not want to be afraid anymore. I've always loved dogs but strange dogs scared me. I adopted one from the pound and trained it. Helped me really develop an understanding from them.", "I was attacked brutally by a dog once. If you are not worried about hurting it, which you shouldn't, dogs legs break very easily. Just try to put you weight on their legs.", "For me it was always look for a car and jump on top of it. this worked for me once and the dog eventually loses interest", "First of all, be a full-grown man. I read some statistics many months ago that most dog fatalities are from children and women. Deaths to males are extremely rare, usually happens if the guy is gimpy or unathletic. So if any women or children are around, push them towards the dog. This is the best bet.\n\nOn my several occasions with dogs, I have been able to grab their rear legs and then using centrifugal force, I spin the dog around and smash the head against tree or concrete.\n\n[Oh, here it is](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fatal_dog_attacks_in_the_United_States). All chicks and kids - kids, shit, they are fucking Kibble and Bits to dogs - make sure you keep a pit bull and brag on how much it loves your 3 year old. Because it will, baby, it will. Old people. The occasional guy, yeah. But bottom line is that if you're a guy, fuck it, don't worry about it, other than a healthy respect for dogs.\n\nOK, for dog packs - I recommend inviting them to your home to play poker. Dogs fucking love poker. [Look at all these motherfucking power playing dogs](https://www.google.com/search?q=dogs+playing+poker&client=firefox-a&hs=ivk&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&channel=sb&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ei=QgV0U5mmIJbZoAShh4BY&ved=0CAgQ_AUoAQ) You'll have some beers, check out the bitches in Doggiestyle pornmag.\n\n", "I heard this as a kid, still don't know if it is successful.\n\nStick your finger/thumb in its asshole and it will release its bite! " ]	[ 25, 19, 18, 13, 11, 10, 5, 5, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, -1, -6 ]	safe
[ "how to drink in a sports game Hey guys,\nI've always had problems with drinking water in sports games. Either I drink too much (so that I can't play properly) or I feel like I didn't drink enough. (I play basketball)", "how to drink in a sports game Hey guys,\nI've always had problems with drinking water in sports games. Either I drink too much (so that I can't play properly) or I feel like I didn't drink enough. (I play basketball)" ]	[ "The best hydration comes prior to actually playing. If you drink too much during, the only thing I can think of is that you're dehydrated to begin with, so by the time you ''feel'' the need to drink, you've actually already had the feeling for a long time and your body then overcompensates. Then again, I'm not physiologists, or sports doctor, so take this with a grain of salt. Good think is that I only suggested that you drink more water prior, so even if i'm wrong, it isn't like you'll die, as a result.", "This happens to me sometimes when I work out-- if I drink a ton right before I feel like puking but if I don't drink enough my muscles will start to cramp up. If I know I'll be doing something particularly strenuous, I'll drink a ton of water in the morning and then keep drinking regularly throughout the day. About two hours before the game, down a full water bottle. Fill it back up, and make that one bottle last for the next two hours til your game. If you're an athlete, the key is to keep a water bottle with you at all times. Just stick it in your backpack and drink it throughout the day every day. " ]	[ 7, 1 ]	safe
[ "What to do when a friend has a family member who has cancer. What to do and say? I don't know, does anyone have any good tips? I've just tried to be there for them in this very trying time.", "What to do when a friend has a family member who has cancer. What to do and say? I don't know, does anyone have any good tips? I've just tried to be there for them in this very trying time.", "What to do when a friend has a family member who has cancer. What to do and say? I don't know, does anyone have any good tips? I've just tried to be there for them in this very trying time.", "What to do when a friend has a family member who has cancer. What to do and say? I don't know, does anyone have any good tips? I've just tried to be there for them in this very trying time.", "What to do when a friend has a family member who has cancer. What to do and say? I don't know, does anyone have any good tips? I've just tried to be there for them in this very trying time.", "What to do when a friend has a family member who has cancer. What to do and say? I don't know, does anyone have any good tips? I've just tried to be there for them in this very trying time.", "What to do when a friend has a family member who has cancer. What to do and say? I don't know, does anyone have any good tips? I've just tried to be there for them in this very trying time.", "What to do when a friend has a family member who has cancer. What to do and say? I don't know, does anyone have any good tips? I've just tried to be there for them in this very trying time.", "What to do when a friend has a family member who has cancer. What to do and say? I don't know, does anyone have any good tips? I've just tried to be there for them in this very trying time.", "What to do when a friend has a family member who has cancer. What to do and say? I don't know, does anyone have any good tips? I've just tried to be there for them in this very trying time." ]	[ "Just be there. Call or text every once in a while. Ask if they need anything. Offer to do things. You can't do anything to make it better. All you can do is let that person know he or she is not alone.", "Diggy got it right. Take dinner over some night. Just be there. And don't say, \"I know how you feel.\" I had cancer at one time: the devastating part? Nobody came to visit me at the hospital. People think its contagious. No... really they don't want to be around bad news, but that IS life. ", "just 4 months ago my wife beat cancer for the third time. the best thing you can do is call and offer to run errands for them or offer to cook meals or just come hang out and watch a movie or play a board game. call with a funny joke or just to say \"hi.\" encourage their friends to do the same. being surrounded by supportive, loving people makes a world of difference from the isolating world of cancer treatment.", "My son is 4 and has beaten cancer twice. I would first and foremost not ever discount a persons feelings or emotional state. Let them be angry or sad or whatever they need. Also, offer specific help. That way if they are scared of bothering you at least they have an idea what you are up for. A general offer of help can be hard to take someone up on. Visit them in the hospital if possible. The days can get long and tiresome. ", "My husband of 19 years just died of liver cancer, he had a heart attack and the cancer was found while in the hospital. The type of cancer he had was not curable unless he had a transplant, he was not eligible for a transplant because of his age and heart condition. He chose to die peacefully instead of going through Chemo.\n\nWe had a lot of support and well wishers who had to tell of their father's brother's cousin's second wives stepdaughter that beat cancer, all we had to do was get chia seeds, or peach pits, or brussel sprouts only picked on Tuesdays. It was depressing to have to say over and over again there was no hope.\n\nFor our friends who were there, I love you still.\n\nMy advice, go to visit with another person. If you don't feel well it is nice to lay there and listen to a conversation without the burden of holding up your end. You get all the news and gossip without effort.\n\n Offer practical help, a friend of his took both our cars and had the oil changed and the fluids checked. I hadn't thought of that. His brothers took him on a little vacation to where they grew up. While they were gone my brother and sister helped us move to a new house so he came back to a peaceful place with everything put away.\n\nSome friends just listened when I needed to cry. when it seems that there is too much company-- depend on hallmark. I will buy cards 20 and 30 at a time, not sad ones, funny ones, encouraging ones. I'll spend a day addressing and stamping them then leave them in my car. Every other day or so I'll drop them in the mailbox, so easy when they are all ready. I have been told many times how they looked forward to getting them. \n\nAbove all do not expect or ask them to comfort you!", "Organize a meal calendar. When my sister was diagnosed with cancer, or my dad was in ICU for 3 weeks. ...it kept us going, a family of 5... People dropped off meals each night, sometimes with paper plates so we wouldn't have to worry about dishes, sometimes they brought groceries. ...my mom, all of us, we're so greatful that we could spend our time at the hospital and not worry about dinner/groceries/dishes. \n\nIf it's a long term, or if their out of the hospital etc try to do normal things with them, go for a walk or a movie. ..nobody wants to feel pittied, accommodate activities for their restrictions if they have any.\n\nIf they have a dog offer to take it to your house for week, or walk it during the day while they are at the hospital.\n\nJust be there for them, if they want to talk about it, be there to listen...If they don't, be there for them in other ways", "Offer to be an emergency contact, to pick up or drop off their kids if there are any schedule disruptions. Meals help, and general help tidying up. Perhaps get a group to pitch in for weekly home cleaning service. \n\n\nSource: my wife. Who had to work, care for the family and care for me. ", "My girlfriend's mother died earlier this year after a two-year bout with pancreatic cancer. I had only been dating the girl for about six weeks when it happened. She didn't tell me about her mother's condition until she was at the end of the road and her aunt called the family home to say goodbye. I literally met her family at the funeral.\n\nThat situation is a little different than when the family member is still battling, but there's really not a whole lot you can say. Just let them know you're there if they need someone to talk to. Call and text as Diggy said, but they need time and space to process everything, so don't overdo it. Bring meals, invite them over, take them to shows/games/whatever you're interested in.\n\nBasically, show them you care, give them a chance to get their mind off things, listen when they want to talk, but let them have their space when they need it.", "Cancer has greatly affected my direct and indirect family. \nWith my 80+ year old grandmother who's (magically?) still kickin' after 5 years in and out of chemo, we can be flat with her and say 'How's it going?' and she'll lie and say she's fine, or she'll have energy and we will all know she's actually doing fine.\n\nI also had a friend of mine in his early 20's taken from me. He was incredibly mentally strong, but the physical decline of his strength from chemo brought him down. He was joking until the end.\n\n(TL;DR) I guess what I mean to say is, your conversation with the person should reflect how they'd want to be treated if they weren't sick.", "Be their, if their having chemo it can be very draining for them and they will appriciate help. If they are not on chemo, they could be in some pain and will appreciate the distraction. A big part of the fight is in the mind, help them remember what they are fighting for." ]	[ 10, 8, 4, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "What to do at a job fair? There is a job fair for recent graduates coming up and I've never been to a job fair before. What should I do to prepare? And, what should I do when I'm there?", "What to do at a job fair? There is a job fair for recent graduates coming up and I've never been to a job fair before. What should I do to prepare? And, what should I do when I'm there?", "What to do at a job fair? There is a job fair for recent graduates coming up and I've never been to a job fair before. What should I do to prepare? And, what should I do when I'm there?", "What to do at a job fair? There is a job fair for recent graduates coming up and I've never been to a job fair before. What should I do to prepare? And, what should I do when I'm there?" ]	[ "Here's my pro tip:\n\nPut your resume on a USB flash drive. Most of the recruiters have a computer with them, and find it much more convenient to be able to download your resume straight to their computer. That way you know it's getting where it needs to go, and you save some trees.", "1. Research what companies will be there, and what type of jobs they have that you're interested in. This step is important.\n\n2. Update your resume -- triple check for typos\n\n3. Dress nicely\n\n4. Talk to the various recruiters for the companies and inquire about the type of jobs that you've already researched.\n\n5. Good luck!", "In addition to what everyone has already said, ask the people who you speak with for their business cards at the end of the conversation. Immediately after the conversation, write on the back of the business card briefly what you spoke about. \n\nFollow up with them via email shortly after the job fair. Remind them who you are by referencing a topic you spoke about. Ask to chat about their experiences or, in the case of a recruiter, if they can connect you with some business people. It's a great way to build your network!", "Do talk to recruiters and put your resume out there, but be brief. \n\nThe fair isn't an interview and people there are shaking hundreds of hands that day. View it as information gathering as to what your options are, but don't stress about it, it typically won't make or break you unless something spectacular happens." ]	[ 5, 3, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "how to manage competing priorities in personal projects? As the title says, I always have a bunch of personal projects I would like to take care. These are clearly not urgent and no one is going to judge me whether I do them or not (just for my self improvement in a way). Let's say I currently have these projects - learning music, garage re-org, painting project, setup drip system in my garden. When I start one, I tend to drift towards other unfinished tasks or I get distracted with other stuff (procrastination, life, family, unplanned stuff etc etc). So, I end up getting frustrated that things are not moving. But at the same time, the procrastinator in me comes and assures that these are not so important to be worried about as it no way impacts my work/earning. I wouldn't even call these tasks as passion but I do get a lot of gratification if I finish them. So I end up veering between these extremes with some days being really fulfilling and others basically spending time binging Netflix and regretting later.\n\nI thought hard about these and decided to track time efficiently by installing Clockify and divide them into 30 minute chunks for a given task. It seems to be work a bit and I need to be a little more disciplined. Do you guys have any tips or things that work for you in this matter? TIA.", "how to manage competing priorities in personal projects? As the title says, I always have a bunch of personal projects I would like to take care. These are clearly not urgent and no one is going to judge me whether I do them or not (just for my self improvement in a way). Let's say I currently have these projects - learning music, garage re-org, painting project, setup drip system in my garden. When I start one, I tend to drift towards other unfinished tasks or I get distracted with other stuff (procrastination, life, family, unplanned stuff etc etc). So, I end up getting frustrated that things are not moving. But at the same time, the procrastinator in me comes and assures that these are not so important to be worried about as it no way impacts my work/earning. I wouldn't even call these tasks as passion but I do get a lot of gratification if I finish them. So I end up veering between these extremes with some days being really fulfilling and others basically spending time binging Netflix and regretting later.\n\nI thought hard about these and decided to track time efficiently by installing Clockify and divide them into 30 minute chunks for a given task. It seems to be work a bit and I need to be a little more disciplined. Do you guys have any tips or things that work for you in this matter? TIA." ]	[ "It can be challenging to manage competing priorities, especially when it comes to personal projects that may not have the same level of urgency or external pressure as work or other responsibilities. Here are a few strategies you might try to help you focus and make progress on your personal projects:\n\nSet specific goals and deadlines: Having clear goals and deadlines can help you stay motivated and focused on your personal projects. Try setting deadlines for each project and breaking them down into smaller, more manageable tasks. This can help you make progress and feel a sense of accomplishment as you complete each step.\n\nMake time for your projects: It's important to make time for your personal projects in your schedule. This might mean setting aside a specific time each day or week to work on your projects, or finding blocks of time where you can focus on a particular task.\n\nTrack your progress: Keeping track of your progress can help you stay motivated and see the progress you're making. This might involve making a to-do list or using a project management tool to track your tasks and deadlines.\n\nFind accountability: Having someone to hold you accountable can be helpful in staying on track with your personal projects. This might be a friend or family member who can check in with you and encourage you to stay focused.\nTake breaks and practice self-care: It's important to take breaks and practice self-care to prevent burnout. Make sure to take breaks and give yourself time to rest and recharge so you can come back to your projects with renewed energy and focus.\n\n\nOverall, it's important to find a balance between working on your personal projects and taking care of yourself. Remember that it's okay to take breaks and that it's normal to have competing priorities. By setting goals, making time for your projects, tracking your progress, and finding accountability, you can make progress and find fulfillment in your personal projects.", "> When I start one, I tend to drift towards other unfinished tasks\n\nClear your sheet, pick one task. Finish it. Then pick another one." ]	[ 4, 2 ]	safe
[ "moving [apartments as a young adult] tips. Moving is one of the most earthshakingly stressful things for me, and rent has gone up so it's that time again. It should be no big deal, but if I can prepare even more, maybe I'll feel better. ", "moving [apartments as a young adult] tips. Moving is one of the most earthshakingly stressful things for me, and rent has gone up so it's that time again. It should be no big deal, but if I can prepare even more, maybe I'll feel better. ", "moving [apartments as a young adult] tips. Moving is one of the most earthshakingly stressful things for me, and rent has gone up so it's that time again. It should be no big deal, but if I can prepare even more, maybe I'll feel better. ", "moving [apartments as a young adult] tips. Moving is one of the most earthshakingly stressful things for me, and rent has gone up so it's that time again. It should be no big deal, but if I can prepare even more, maybe I'll feel better. ", "moving [apartments as a young adult] tips. Moving is one of the most earthshakingly stressful things for me, and rent has gone up so it's that time again. It should be no big deal, but if I can prepare even more, maybe I'll feel better. ", "moving [apartments as a young adult] tips. Moving is one of the most earthshakingly stressful things for me, and rent has gone up so it's that time again. It should be no big deal, but if I can prepare even more, maybe I'll feel better. ", "moving [apartments as a young adult] tips. Moving is one of the most earthshakingly stressful things for me, and rent has gone up so it's that time again. It should be no big deal, but if I can prepare even more, maybe I'll feel better. ", "moving [apartments as a young adult] tips. Moving is one of the most earthshakingly stressful things for me, and rent has gone up so it's that time again. It should be no big deal, but if I can prepare even more, maybe I'll feel better. " ]	[ "Pack a bag, just like you would if you were traveling for the equivalent number of days. So, clothes, medications, toothbrush, etc... Keep it separate from your move, like in your car. This way, you can survive out of this bag for the day or two that the move takes, and you wont have to keep disturbing your moving boxes and organization in order to function. I find it also gives me perspective on what is actually essential for me in my life. ", "Don't make it more stressful than it needs to be. I will make you a promise, the day your lease ends, you will be out of your current apartment. Guaranteed. So, trust that you will get there between now and the. \n\nA few specific tips:\n\n1. Copy paper boxes are the best free boxes. So if there is a print shop close to you (or obviously a staples or Office Depot) make a habit of swinging by daily and getting what they gave available. \n\n2. Pack a bit each day and LABEL each box with what room it goes into. Don't label it with contents. \n\n3. It's easier to throw items away than move them. So purge that crap you have in your closets that u are no longer using. \n\n4. If you have a lot of stuff to move, and no friends, you can rent a UHaul and contact a service like Labor Ready and get movers at 1/5th the price of a service. Sure you have to drive the truck but so what? You can also rent a hand cart (dolly) to move the boxes. I moved this way in both out of pocket moves I've made. \n\n5. And again, relax. Nothing to get stressed about. ", "Have a box that you mark \"open first\" on.\n\nIn it have toilet paper, cleaning supplies and basic toiletries. Maybe even a clean tshirt and underwear. \n\nWrite numbers on your boxes and write what rooms they should go it.\n\nNote the number of the boxes with key items on your phone, not on the box itself due to potential theft.\n\nMake sure to have a box with a set of sheets, towels, and kitchen linens for the first night. ", "Cr", "Purge before you move. \nBrutally purge...\n\nThen overlap the leases by several days so you have time to clean the new place, move the boxes, clean the old place, then - at your leisure unpack the boxes. \n\nPut items from only one location in each box. \nLabel each box with location/room and brief contents list. (Bathroom, linen closet & Living Room, south end table)\nUse your towels, sheets, and blankets as packing material. \nThe last boxes packed should be the first boxes you need to unpack.\nNo, your friend with the pickup does not want to help you move. Rent a pickup or van from Home Depot or uHaul. ", "Make notes of any damages or small scratches on any surface.\n\nEither inform your landlord to fix it or save photos for when you move out to prove you were not responsible for damaging the house.", "If you have the ability cross over days for your move. I would talk with my old complex and see if I could get 3 to 5 days prorated so I had the new one on the first and didn't have to leave the old until the 3rd/5th. Moved over those few days.\n\nI would move most of my \"stuff\", leaving some cooking things and big furniture. On the real moving day I'd hire a moving company to get that. Since it was only things I couldn't move myself the cost wasn't very high.\n\nDon't know your locations so this may not work or be a viable cost option. \n\nMuch easier if you don't have to try and do everything in one day.", "I literally just moved last weekend. It was stressful.\n\nPACK EVERYTHING INTO BOXES. Don't make tons of small trips. If you can afford to hire movers, DO IT. If you cannot, rent a truck and enlist some friends. The more the merrier. Everything should be easy to move if it's boxed up. Big furniture aside.\n\nHave a suitcase full of things you may need for your first night into the next couple of days, basic clothes, toiletries, bedsheets, towels, some food, scissors, trash bags, etc. \n\nI would label the box with the room AND what's in it roughly - then it may help you with what to unpack first.\n\nPersonally I'd aim to get it done in ONE day and not over multiple days. That could turn into, \"Well, I don't HAVE to have this packed yet...\" Everyone is different though.\n\n" ]	[ 5, 4, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "I want to write an email asking for a document in a professional way. I don't want to make th email sound like a follow up mail. LPT Request:\n\n&#x200B;\n\nI am writing email to a guy from other team. I am asking for a document. We have met once and now I need to get some documents from him that i asked for during the call. I don't want to make it sound like a remainder call or follow up call because that might sound rude.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nasking for a document. We have met once and now I need to get some documents from him that i asked for during the call. I don't want to make it sound like a remainder call or follow up call because that might sound rude.asking for a document. We have met once and now I need to get some documents from him that i asked for during the call. I don't want to make it sound like a remainder call or follow up call because that might sound rude.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nWill this work?\n\n&#x200B;\n\n\"Hi \\[Name\\],\n\n&#x200B;\n\nHope you had a great weekend.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nIf you could share the \\[document\\] presented during the call , that would be wonderful/helpful/great \\[Please suggest something professional here\\].\n\n&#x200B;\n\nAppreciate your help on this.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nRegards,\n\n&#x200B;\n\n\\[Name\\]", "I want to write an email asking for a document in a professional way. I don't want to make th email sound like a follow up mail. LPT Request:\n\n&#x200B;\n\nI am writing email to a guy from other team. I am asking for a document. We have met once and now I need to get some documents from him that i asked for during the call. I don't want to make it sound like a remainder call or follow up call because that might sound rude.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nasking for a document. We have met once and now I need to get some documents from him that i asked for during the call. I don't want to make it sound like a remainder call or follow up call because that might sound rude.asking for a document. We have met once and now I need to get some documents from him that i asked for during the call. I don't want to make it sound like a remainder call or follow up call because that might sound rude.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nWill this work?\n\n&#x200B;\n\n\"Hi \\[Name\\],\n\n&#x200B;\n\nHope you had a great weekend.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nIf you could share the \\[document\\] presented during the call , that would be wonderful/helpful/great \\[Please suggest something professional here\\].\n\n&#x200B;\n\nAppreciate your help on this.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nRegards,\n\n&#x200B;\n\n\\[Name\\]", "I want to write an email asking for a document in a professional way. I don't want to make th email sound like a follow up mail. LPT Request:\n\n&#x200B;\n\nI am writing email to a guy from other team. I am asking for a document. We have met once and now I need to get some documents from him that i asked for during the call. I don't want to make it sound like a remainder call or follow up call because that might sound rude.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nasking for a document. We have met once and now I need to get some documents from him that i asked for during the call. I don't want to make it sound like a remainder call or follow up call because that might sound rude.asking for a document. We have met once and now I need to get some documents from him that i asked for during the call. I don't want to make it sound like a remainder call or follow up call because that might sound rude.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nWill this work?\n\n&#x200B;\n\n\"Hi \\[Name\\],\n\n&#x200B;\n\nHope you had a great weekend.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nIf you could share the \\[document\\] presented during the call , that would be wonderful/helpful/great \\[Please suggest something professional here\\].\n\n&#x200B;\n\nAppreciate your help on this.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nRegards,\n\n&#x200B;\n\n\\[Name\\]", "I want to write an email asking for a document in a professional way. I don't want to make th email sound like a follow up mail. LPT Request:\n\n&#x200B;\n\nI am writing email to a guy from other team. I am asking for a document. We have met once and now I need to get some documents from him that i asked for during the call. I don't want to make it sound like a remainder call or follow up call because that might sound rude.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nasking for a document. We have met once and now I need to get some documents from him that i asked for during the call. I don't want to make it sound like a remainder call or follow up call because that might sound rude.asking for a document. We have met once and now I need to get some documents from him that i asked for during the call. I don't want to make it sound like a remainder call or follow up call because that might sound rude.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nWill this work?\n\n&#x200B;\n\n\"Hi \\[Name\\],\n\n&#x200B;\n\nHope you had a great weekend.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nIf you could share the \\[document\\] presented during the call , that would be wonderful/helpful/great \\[Please suggest something professional here\\].\n\n&#x200B;\n\nAppreciate your help on this.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nRegards,\n\n&#x200B;\n\n\\[Name\\]" ]	[ "\"Hi [name]\n\nGlad to be working with you.\n\nPlease send me the [document] that was presented during the call/meeting on [day or date].\n\nAppreciate your help on this!\n\nRegards.\"\n\nIt's already good, but sounded hesitant.", "if you do not know how to politely request documents over email, text, or the phone you are failing at life.", "Just give the guy a call. Clearly you did not get the message across how urgent/important that document was.", "In my professional experience the smoothest way to remind someone that they owe you a document is 2 to amend the request.\n\nHey joe. I hope I've caught you in time I'm to put a copy of of last week's memo so in with that document you are sending me. I think I've missed placed mine. Thanks and let me know if it's ok" ]	[ 9, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "What does \"stepping out of comfort zone\" actually mean? I've been reading this idea/advice all over self-help books and sites and the thing is I find no practical sense of it.\n\nIf there is ever an event, activity that I find no pleasure in, have no interest in, see no \"riches\" on the other side of it then I will simply not do it.\n\nIn fact, every time I have to go to work at 7 AM in the morning and have to walk through ice and frost (because it's WINTER here and the roads are frozen) I permit the chance that one of my bones (or even my spine) will break (have seen it and know it's just a blink of an eye) present myself at work and listen to my idiot boss commanding me around while resisting the urge to injure (what a soft-spoken word) him, getting the job done as best as I can and knowing that getting another job would be difficult in my area (moving out of where I am would be too)\n\nI AM\n\n(in what I just described to you) STEPPING OUT OF MY COMFORT ZONE in EVERY WORKING DAY!\n\nWhat more should I be doing considering this?", "What does \"stepping out of comfort zone\" actually mean? I've been reading this idea/advice all over self-help books and sites and the thing is I find no practical sense of it.\n\nIf there is ever an event, activity that I find no pleasure in, have no interest in, see no \"riches\" on the other side of it then I will simply not do it.\n\nIn fact, every time I have to go to work at 7 AM in the morning and have to walk through ice and frost (because it's WINTER here and the roads are frozen) I permit the chance that one of my bones (or even my spine) will break (have seen it and know it's just a blink of an eye) present myself at work and listen to my idiot boss commanding me around while resisting the urge to injure (what a soft-spoken word) him, getting the job done as best as I can and knowing that getting another job would be difficult in my area (moving out of where I am would be too)\n\nI AM\n\n(in what I just described to you) STEPPING OUT OF MY COMFORT ZONE in EVERY WORKING DAY!\n\nWhat more should I be doing considering this?", "What does \"stepping out of comfort zone\" actually mean? I've been reading this idea/advice all over self-help books and sites and the thing is I find no practical sense of it.\n\nIf there is ever an event, activity that I find no pleasure in, have no interest in, see no \"riches\" on the other side of it then I will simply not do it.\n\nIn fact, every time I have to go to work at 7 AM in the morning and have to walk through ice and frost (because it's WINTER here and the roads are frozen) I permit the chance that one of my bones (or even my spine) will break (have seen it and know it's just a blink of an eye) present myself at work and listen to my idiot boss commanding me around while resisting the urge to injure (what a soft-spoken word) him, getting the job done as best as I can and knowing that getting another job would be difficult in my area (moving out of where I am would be too)\n\nI AM\n\n(in what I just described to you) STEPPING OUT OF MY COMFORT ZONE in EVERY WORKING DAY!\n\nWhat more should I be doing considering this?", "What does \"stepping out of comfort zone\" actually mean? I've been reading this idea/advice all over self-help books and sites and the thing is I find no practical sense of it.\n\nIf there is ever an event, activity that I find no pleasure in, have no interest in, see no \"riches\" on the other side of it then I will simply not do it.\n\nIn fact, every time I have to go to work at 7 AM in the morning and have to walk through ice and frost (because it's WINTER here and the roads are frozen) I permit the chance that one of my bones (or even my spine) will break (have seen it and know it's just a blink of an eye) present myself at work and listen to my idiot boss commanding me around while resisting the urge to injure (what a soft-spoken word) him, getting the job done as best as I can and knowing that getting another job would be difficult in my area (moving out of where I am would be too)\n\nI AM\n\n(in what I just described to you) STEPPING OUT OF MY COMFORT ZONE in EVERY WORKING DAY!\n\nWhat more should I be doing considering this?", "What does \"stepping out of comfort zone\" actually mean? I've been reading this idea/advice all over self-help books and sites and the thing is I find no practical sense of it.\n\nIf there is ever an event, activity that I find no pleasure in, have no interest in, see no \"riches\" on the other side of it then I will simply not do it.\n\nIn fact, every time I have to go to work at 7 AM in the morning and have to walk through ice and frost (because it's WINTER here and the roads are frozen) I permit the chance that one of my bones (or even my spine) will break (have seen it and know it's just a blink of an eye) present myself at work and listen to my idiot boss commanding me around while resisting the urge to injure (what a soft-spoken word) him, getting the job done as best as I can and knowing that getting another job would be difficult in my area (moving out of where I am would be too)\n\nI AM\n\n(in what I just described to you) STEPPING OUT OF MY COMFORT ZONE in EVERY WORKING DAY!\n\nWhat more should I be doing considering this?", "What does \"stepping out of comfort zone\" actually mean? I've been reading this idea/advice all over self-help books and sites and the thing is I find no practical sense of it.\n\nIf there is ever an event, activity that I find no pleasure in, have no interest in, see no \"riches\" on the other side of it then I will simply not do it.\n\nIn fact, every time I have to go to work at 7 AM in the morning and have to walk through ice and frost (because it's WINTER here and the roads are frozen) I permit the chance that one of my bones (or even my spine) will break (have seen it and know it's just a blink of an eye) present myself at work and listen to my idiot boss commanding me around while resisting the urge to injure (what a soft-spoken word) him, getting the job done as best as I can and knowing that getting another job would be difficult in my area (moving out of where I am would be too)\n\nI AM\n\n(in what I just described to you) STEPPING OUT OF MY COMFORT ZONE in EVERY WORKING DAY!\n\nWhat more should I be doing considering this?" ]	[ "Do things that actually scare you. While walking on ice or talking with an idiot may make you uncomfortable, it's the wrong kind of uncomfortable. The comfort zone marks the the boundaries of safe everyday life. In the comfort zone, life stagnates and becomes dull and familiar. What you described is in the comfort zone because it is familiar and expected, there is nothing about it that you are nervous or afraid of.\n\nTo step out of the comfort zone is to try something beyond the ordinary. It might be a skydive, it might be asking out the hot chick from marketing, hell it might even be a new haircut.... just anything out of the ordinary to remind you that change can be a good thing, that without risk there is no reward.", "When you work out you damage your muscles and they adapt and become stronger.\n\nSimilarly, when you put yourself under the right amount of any kind of stress you adapt and become stronger.\n\nIf you remain 'in your comfort zone' you give yourself no opportunity to adapt and become stronger, so when it's advised to go out of your comfort zone it means to do something that you're not currently adapted to and allow yourself to adapt to it, thus becoming more than you currently are.\n\nIt's a simple enough concept and it's absolutely true.\n\nThe other part I would stress is that it doesn't matter so much what you do, only that you do it, as becoming stronger in one way has an effect in other areas, hence people overcoming depression by lifting weights or making friends by taking up a new hobby. In the latter example it wouldn't necessarily be the case that you'd make friends through your hobby, but just engaging in this new hobby could improve your ability to make friends elsewhere.", "Ruts become comfortable. I'm not talking about the mating habits of deer. I'm talking about the Standard Operating Procedures of your life. Be advised: 'comfort zone' is a more effective metaphor in a business decision context than in a personal or career context. Comfort is always relative.\n\nGetting a different job in your area would be stepping outside of your Standard Operating Procedure because you don't know if your next boss will be Satan incarnate and your current boss is just unpleasant by comparison. You feel restless, somewhat violent, but perhaps more stuck than anything else. You've capitulated. That is your comfort zone.\n\nFor you, stepping out of your comfort zone may be emotionally impossible; small kids in school, sick family elders to help care for that won't be around much longer, an SO in school that you just know you will lose if you move far away. \n\nA better metaphor for you would be the Status Quo, rather than the comfort zone. You can manage the status quo and change it as you wish. Comfort Zone is too abstract for your personal challenges.\n\nComfort zone can work well on a personal level. If you are uncomfortable talking to strangers, deliberately walking up to and talking with strangers is stepping out of your comfort zone. Comfort is always relative.", "It means to try new things that you aren't fully comfortable with. For example I studied Music and stepping out of my comfort zone was playing new instruments on stage, playing in different genres, singing music that I never really tried before or music that's extremely hard to play/sing", "It means doing things that will make you uncomfortable, but ultimately enrich your life after it's done. People dig themselves into niches that don't do anything to help them, or make them happy. This is especially true today, with the all the placebos to real life the internet offers. The things that make you feel alive and happy are the ones that involve real risk, either emotionally or physically. But too many people today don't do them, because it would make them uncomfortable. But to become a better well rounded person you have to do the things that make you uncomfortable. Once you do then you learn to cope with whatever it is on a daily basis until its no big deal. ", "Doing something that is a pain in the ass is not the same as what the aphorism \"step outside your comfort zone\" means.\n\nIt means trying something different, new or scary that you don't know if you'll succeed at. For example, I do tech support on PCs. If a project came up that involved mostly doing network work, that would be outside my comfort zone. I might suck at it, I might do great but since I don't know it that well it is \"stepping outside my comfort zone\"." ]	[ 3, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "help me look and walk with confidence Help me with my confidence issue\n\nHey, I have a issue when I go outside.i have a hard time staying relaxed, I am usually nervous and try my best not to make eye contact with people.I feel that making eye contact with people is going to offend them so I avoid doing so.So I either look to my sides or stare down.\n\n\nWhen I am walking in the streets, it becomes uncomfortable having people in my line of sight because It feels like my body just doesn't know what to do.Do I look at them quickly or look at the things around them, or look at them a bit? It becomes super stressful and I feel like I am not behaving my natural way.\n\n\nOne other thing I notice is that when I am walking, I do not feel confident at all.I have to focus on my legs or else I just start walking strange and start bumping in to things.\n\nIt gets annoying because people would look at me thinking I am on drugs or something but I am not, its just my body loses any type of confidence when I am outside.In my house I walk just fine and feel confident, I also like what I see in the mirror but, when I go outside, all of that goes out the window and I am scared and nervous.\n\nAnything I can do? I tried m", "help me look and walk with confidence Help me with my confidence issue\n\nHey, I have a issue when I go outside.i have a hard time staying relaxed, I am usually nervous and try my best not to make eye contact with people.I feel that making eye contact with people is going to offend them so I avoid doing so.So I either look to my sides or stare down.\n\n\nWhen I am walking in the streets, it becomes uncomfortable having people in my line of sight because It feels like my body just doesn't know what to do.Do I look at them quickly or look at the things around them, or look at them a bit? It becomes super stressful and I feel like I am not behaving my natural way.\n\n\nOne other thing I notice is that when I am walking, I do not feel confident at all.I have to focus on my legs or else I just start walking strange and start bumping in to things.\n\nIt gets annoying because people would look at me thinking I am on drugs or something but I am not, its just my body loses any type of confidence when I am outside.In my house I walk just fine and feel confident, I also like what I see in the mirror but, when I go outside, all of that goes out the window and I am scared and nervous.\n\nAnything I can do? I tried m", "help me look and walk with confidence Help me with my confidence issue\n\nHey, I have a issue when I go outside.i have a hard time staying relaxed, I am usually nervous and try my best not to make eye contact with people.I feel that making eye contact with people is going to offend them so I avoid doing so.So I either look to my sides or stare down.\n\n\nWhen I am walking in the streets, it becomes uncomfortable having people in my line of sight because It feels like my body just doesn't know what to do.Do I look at them quickly or look at the things around them, or look at them a bit? It becomes super stressful and I feel like I am not behaving my natural way.\n\n\nOne other thing I notice is that when I am walking, I do not feel confident at all.I have to focus on my legs or else I just start walking strange and start bumping in to things.\n\nIt gets annoying because people would look at me thinking I am on drugs or something but I am not, its just my body loses any type of confidence when I am outside.In my house I walk just fine and feel confident, I also like what I see in the mirror but, when I go outside, all of that goes out the window and I am scared and nervous.\n\nAnything I can do? I tried m", "help me look and walk with confidence Help me with my confidence issue\n\nHey, I have a issue when I go outside.i have a hard time staying relaxed, I am usually nervous and try my best not to make eye contact with people.I feel that making eye contact with people is going to offend them so I avoid doing so.So I either look to my sides or stare down.\n\n\nWhen I am walking in the streets, it becomes uncomfortable having people in my line of sight because It feels like my body just doesn't know what to do.Do I look at them quickly or look at the things around them, or look at them a bit? It becomes super stressful and I feel like I am not behaving my natural way.\n\n\nOne other thing I notice is that when I am walking, I do not feel confident at all.I have to focus on my legs or else I just start walking strange and start bumping in to things.\n\nIt gets annoying because people would look at me thinking I am on drugs or something but I am not, its just my body loses any type of confidence when I am outside.In my house I walk just fine and feel confident, I also like what I see in the mirror but, when I go outside, all of that goes out the window and I am scared and nervous.\n\nAnything I can do? I tried m", "help me look and walk with confidence Help me with my confidence issue\n\nHey, I have a issue when I go outside.i have a hard time staying relaxed, I am usually nervous and try my best not to make eye contact with people.I feel that making eye contact with people is going to offend them so I avoid doing so.So I either look to my sides or stare down.\n\n\nWhen I am walking in the streets, it becomes uncomfortable having people in my line of sight because It feels like my body just doesn't know what to do.Do I look at them quickly or look at the things around them, or look at them a bit? It becomes super stressful and I feel like I am not behaving my natural way.\n\n\nOne other thing I notice is that when I am walking, I do not feel confident at all.I have to focus on my legs or else I just start walking strange and start bumping in to things.\n\nIt gets annoying because people would look at me thinking I am on drugs or something but I am not, its just my body loses any type of confidence when I am outside.In my house I walk just fine and feel confident, I also like what I see in the mirror but, when I go outside, all of that goes out the window and I am scared and nervous.\n\nAnything I can do? I tried m" ]	[ "listen to musi and get lost in that. that's what I do.. music that puts you in a good mood and just concentrate on that ", "try to maintain eye contact with yourself in a mirror, if you're struggling with that, practice it first before practicing making contact with friends and then strangers. \n\nWhen walking look the road ahead of you (some 3 meters ahead), you don't want to walk blindly and you don't want to look at your shoes.\n\nTo look and feel confident while walking, stand straight, shoulders back, don't rush your steps, find a rhythm that suits you, also look to the sides to check up a beautiful car, a new restaurant or shop you never saw before, take time to enjoy things along your way, that makes you look very confident! \n\nWhen you're confident enough make eye contact with people in your LOS and smile if you feel like it (to a girl you like maybe?).", "The best thing I ever heard for helping look confident is to pretend there is a string tied to the front of your belt and is gently tugging you forward.\n\nThis causes you to walk a little faster, it brings your hips into better position, makes you straighten you back and after all that your shoulders tend to fall into place. Now just keep your chin up and eyes forward. Thinking of those things individually can be harder, it feels like you are trying to do multiple things at once. By thinking of it as a single thing \"my belt is being tugged forward\" it makes it easier.\n\nAlso, don't give up on m", "I feel like this often.. but have found a few tricks that help. \n\nWear sunglasses that are dark enough people can't see your eyes. It'll help you not over think the eye contact thing. \n\nStretch or do yoga before leaving the house, feeling more in tune with your body will help lessen the awkward feeling as sometimes I think this just comes from getting used to moving around again.\n\nMusic and audiobooks could help you focus on something outside of what's in front of you which may help train your brain to ease up on analyzing things around you as much, making walking more fun!\n\nI hope this helps, anxiety sucks but there are ways to lessen it, you just have to find them :)", "Back straight, head straight, look at people in the eyes when you talk to one, else keep your head straight.\nI'm an extremely introvert and social awkward dude, but practice makes perfect\nWork with your posture, walk as if you are walking on your wedding day. \nSeriously. The can't emphasize enough on getting your posture right. It's literally 75% of the job." ]	[ 4, 3, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Dealing with Internet Bandwidth Caps If you have a broadband plan with a Fair Usage Policy (FUP), how do you go about staying within the limit and enjoying the high speed especially if there are multiple users of internet?", "Dealing with Internet Bandwidth Caps If you have a broadband plan with a Fair Usage Policy (FUP), how do you go about staying within the limit and enjoying the high speed especially if there are multiple users of internet?" ]	[ "Stick with 480p on YouTube, even 360 for music. Sound quality is still good. Adblocker. Low resolution on Netflix too. You're better off downloading albums instead of streaming them. Try restraining your consomption (good luck). And consider increasing your limit a bit if it still persists.. Yes it costs more but its cheaper than the cost of each extra GB ! ", "Netflix is a big consumer of bandwidth and I know this first hand! If you log onto your Netflix account on a browser you can select to have Netflix stream to that account in a lower resolution.... A tip that may not apply to you but I'm sure it will apply to many!" ]	[ 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I get rid of Senioridous, and stop Procrastinating? I am half way through my senior year, but now I have 0 motivation to do any school work. ", "How do I get rid of Senioridous, and stop Procrastinating? I am half way through my senior year, but now I have 0 motivation to do any school work. ", "How do I get rid of Senioridous, and stop Procrastinating? I am half way through my senior year, but now I have 0 motivation to do any school work. ", "How do I get rid of Senioridous, and stop Procrastinating? I am half way through my senior year, but now I have 0 motivation to do any school work. " ]	[ "Weigh out your future happiness against your current happiness. If you want years of happiness in the future, bust your ass. If you want the next half a year of hapiness, sit back and enjoy it.", "First you have to figure out why you're procrastinating. What is getting in the way from you completing your work? Distractions, perfectionism, lack of drive all together? \n\nIf it's too overwhelming or you don't know where to start, write down everything that needs to get done and break it down to bite size chunks. (It's easier for me to focus on task completion, everyone is different)\n\nWhen you're tempted to pickup your phone and do anything other than your work, realize that you're doing it and change your behavior. You have work HARDER to get past bad habits.\n\nIf you're just being lazy, get over it. Life and opportunity will swallow up a procrastinator and pass you by to the next person who is willing and ready to work for it.", "1. It's spelled \"Senioritis.\"\n\n2. Use techniques like the [Pomodoro Technique](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pomodoro_Technique) when you do work.", "Get a pen. Write down all the advantages and disadvantages from procrastinating. Then, write down the advantages and disadvantages from NOT procrastinating. Once u see it on paper its much easier to accept and think logically." ]	[ 4, 3, 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "Just about any tips for airports and airplanes. I'm about to go through a 4 hour flight, then wait a few hours to get on another flight in the airport, then fly for 8 more hours. If anyone knows anything that will make this easier I would be grateful. It should be known that I will be flying with my sister.", "Just about any tips for airports and airplanes. I'm about to go through a 4 hour flight, then wait a few hours to get on another flight in the airport, then fly for 8 more hours. If anyone knows anything that will make this easier I would be grateful. It should be known that I will be flying with my sister.", "Just about any tips for airports and airplanes. I'm about to go through a 4 hour flight, then wait a few hours to get on another flight in the airport, then fly for 8 more hours. If anyone knows anything that will make this easier I would be grateful. It should be known that I will be flying with my sister.", "Just about any tips for airports and airplanes. I'm about to go through a 4 hour flight, then wait a few hours to get on another flight in the airport, then fly for 8 more hours. If anyone knows anything that will make this easier I would be grateful. It should be known that I will be flying with my sister.", "Just about any tips for airports and airplanes. I'm about to go through a 4 hour flight, then wait a few hours to get on another flight in the airport, then fly for 8 more hours. If anyone knows anything that will make this easier I would be grateful. It should be known that I will be flying with my sister.", "Just about any tips for airports and airplanes. I'm about to go through a 4 hour flight, then wait a few hours to get on another flight in the airport, then fly for 8 more hours. If anyone knows anything that will make this easier I would be grateful. It should be known that I will be flying with my sister." ]	[ "Bring an empty water bottle as there is filling stations and that will save you some cash. Also bring snacks for on plane, everything at the airport is expensive and in flight stuff is minimal these days. \n\nPacking light is usually beneficial.\n\nPut a change of clothes and some essentials in your carry on as with multiple flights the chance of your \"checked\" bag getting lost/delayed is a bit higher.\n\nWear easy to take off shoes as you need to take them off at security.\n\nBring a book or something to pass time as flights are sometimes delayed (especially in today's world).", "1. Have more entertainment than you think you will need. If it is electronic, an external battery is nice as well, not all planes have charging ports.\n2. Drink plenty of water. You do get dehydrated easier. \n3. If you have trouble popping your ears, chew gum.\n4. Look at a map of the second airport a head of time to get a feel for where you will be going, especially if it is a short connection.", "1) Consider buying a day pass at the airport lounge on your carrier, if you don't already belong to the club. During these pandemic times it has been much less stressful to be amongst fewer people in the lounge, to be able to leave my luggage a few feet away from me without the possibility of theft, etc. The bathrooms are nicer, etc. At $50, I think this is a good value if you have a long wait.\n\n(And most super frequent fliers get a few passes a year they can give to friends or family, so if you know someone, ask now...)\n\n2) When I have long flights, I give myself a project to accomplish to make me feel the flight wasn't just a waste of time. Either starting on taxes or finishing a chapter of a book (that I'm writing) or 50 pages of a book that I normally wouldn't read (but haven't yet had the time to read...) Bring a slim notebook and pen.\n\n3) Days before your flight(s), download the airline's app so that you get all the updated info on your flight, gate changes, etc.\n\n4) Upgrade to business or first class, if possible (if you haven't already). \n\n5) Explain to your doc that you'll be on a long flight and that you really just need something to allow you to rest wearing a mask for a long time. Ask what she/he recommends they can prescribe you.\n\n6) Get any boosters you need well in advance.\n\n7) Pack extra masks in your on-board bag. I found I went through them more frequently while traveling. \n\n8) Plan out COVID contingencies BEFORE you travel...what happens if you get it at your destination? If one of you gets it and the other doesn't? Just thinking an planning according to your own rules for safety will keep you from having to think on the fly...(no pun intended ;-)", "Neck pillow and entertainment. Books are best, but bring battery backup and chargers for electronic entertainment. A deck of cards can be handy if you happen to know your seat mate or make friends on the flight. A good neck pillow is always good, though even if you have no intention of sleeping in flight.", "Buy a pack of Earplanes to prevent a migrane. You can find them at any convenience counter. They literally go by that name. You can Google what they look like. You stick then in your ears before takeoff, and it'll prevent your head from feeling like it's gonna explode. Best airplane travel invention ever.", " I usually take a screenshot of my digital boarding pass in case for some reason service is slow or the app is not working correctly I can just open photos and pass through easily." ]	[ 6, 4, 3, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Best way to consume liquids when you're nauseous I've heard ginger ale, I've heard tea, I've heard plain old water but in tiny sips, but which way won't make me more nauseous, and how do you know?", "Best way to consume liquids when you're nauseous I've heard ginger ale, I've heard tea, I've heard plain old water but in tiny sips, but which way won't make me more nauseous, and how do you know?", "Best way to consume liquids when you're nauseous I've heard ginger ale, I've heard tea, I've heard plain old water but in tiny sips, but which way won't make me more nauseous, and how do you know?", "Best way to consume liquids when you're nauseous I've heard ginger ale, I've heard tea, I've heard plain old water but in tiny sips, but which way won't make me more nauseous, and how do you know?", "Best way to consume liquids when you're nauseous I've heard ginger ale, I've heard tea, I've heard plain old water but in tiny sips, but which way won't make me more nauseous, and how do you know?", "Best way to consume liquids when you're nauseous I've heard ginger ale, I've heard tea, I've heard plain old water but in tiny sips, but which way won't make me more nauseous, and how do you know?" ]	[ "Ginger ale is too sugary, and often the \"flavor\" is artificial. Real ginger is good for the stomach and quelling nausea though. Slice about 2\" of ginger root thin and simmer for 10 min. Regular tea has caffeine . Caffeine is NOT good for treating nausea. Also melon juice can often be kept down when nothing else can. ", "If I'm inevitably going to throw up (like from alcohol), I chug a ton of water so that it hurts less and feels less acidic to throw it up. Especially, if I haven't eaten much so that I don't just keep dry heaving.\n\nOtherwise, I drink Seagram's Ginger Ale or water in small sips. It seems to help. ", "It doesnt sound like it would work, and its a bit of a pain to make, but hot whiskey.\n\nPut some honey, cloves, and whiskey in a glass. Top it off with hot water, mix the honey in, and then pour in some lemon. You have to mix in the honey before the lemon or it wont dissolve. \n\nI dont know what it is about it, maybe the cloves, but it will calm your stomach.", "Hot ginger water. Ginger is a natural anti vomiting tool. Hot water makes the tummy feel good. Put it together and it's magic for me . I will admit sometimes the ginger is a taste I would rather not taste but after slowly sipping away I feel better. I use hot ginger water when I feel a cold coming , when I get stomach cramps, and when I'm\nhung over . It's not medicine but it's worth a try. If you can't stand ginger at all then use a de-Cafe flavoured tea as well as the real ginger chunks. ", "For me it helps to drink something that's not sweet. I normally don't like ginger ale or tea, so I know that's not going to make me less nauseous. I often drink small sips of water or soup/broth. The 1st is easiest go get your hands on, 2nd is warm and helps with your salt intake", "Try a few sips of baking soda in luke warm water first. It neutralises the acid and helps settle the stomach." ]	[ 6, 2, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to be more productive when you have nothing to do So, my university lessons are over, and of course I have to study for exams, but most of my time I'm in my room doing absolutely nothing, or playing videogames, and at the end of the day I always feel like I wasted my day. \nDo you have any tips to be productive and feel less like wasting my time?", "How to be more productive when you have nothing to do So, my university lessons are over, and of course I have to study for exams, but most of my time I'm in my room doing absolutely nothing, or playing videogames, and at the end of the day I always feel like I wasted my day. \nDo you have any tips to be productive and feel less like wasting my time?", "How to be more productive when you have nothing to do So, my university lessons are over, and of course I have to study for exams, but most of my time I'm in my room doing absolutely nothing, or playing videogames, and at the end of the day I always feel like I wasted my day. \nDo you have any tips to be productive and feel less like wasting my time?" ]	[ "I'm in the same boat, & I've been reading lots of self help books. I know it sounds cheesy, but some of the tips actually work. Especially Better Than Before by Gretchen Rubin. As I'm forced to envision myself in the far future doing what I would really like to be doing, I'm also forced to compare my now to it. I learned that guilt & obligation motivate me. \n\nFor example, I want to run 10 miles in 1.5hours. The more times I remind myself of that goal, the more I realize that sitting on my couch eating Oreos isn't going to help me get there. I instantly start feeling guilty, & feel I owe it to my future self to do better. So I switch to triscuits or drink some water instead. \n\nWhat helps me...\n\n1. Clear & personal goals! Not what your parents want you to do, but goals you're actually passionate about. I could make a lot of goals my parents would be proud of, but I have NO motivation toward them. \n\n2. Time 2x a day to visualize those goals. Even if it's only 5 minutes while you're taking a crap, by forcing yourself to think of a long term reward, it motivates you to work hard NOW to get there. \n\n3. Be accountable for your time. I set timers all the time for things I'm gonna do. If I want to watch YouTube, I set a timer for 20 minutes. When it rings I instantly feel the guilt, so I slink off to do something else. Or, I'll set 2 hours for a huge task & finish early, which makes me feel boss AF. \n\n4. Plan fun things & productive things. My daily outlook sucks a lot less when I plan both the stuff I have to do AND the stuff I love to do. \n\nI'm still on my way, but doing some of these things has significantly increased the amount I get done in a day. Best of luck to you in your post grad drift! We can do this 💪🏾 ", "This is only a suggestion for one thing to do, but you should get out and exercise when you feel unproductive. Lifting weights does wonders for your health and can help make you feel accomplished (yeah, I lifted that!). Also, I love to plug in an informative podcast and just walk around. Great way to kill time and learn some stuff meanwhile.", "I'm in a similar situation as my MBA program has a one month break from the time that the spring semester ends to when the summer one begins.\n\nI intend to spend the time\n* cleaning/reorganizing my apartment\n* seeing old friends I haven't had the time for\n* getting back in shape\n* watching videos that stacked up in my YouTube que\n* Finally reading at least one book by Kurt Vonnegut" ]	[ 4, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "My new shoes are a little tight Hello. So I got a new pair of hiking shoes and they are just a little tight near my toes. Returning them is not an option right now. Is there any way to make them a little more comfortable?\nThanks. ", "My new shoes are a little tight Hello. So I got a new pair of hiking shoes and they are just a little tight near my toes. Returning them is not an option right now. Is there any way to make them a little more comfortable?\nThanks. ", "My new shoes are a little tight Hello. So I got a new pair of hiking shoes and they are just a little tight near my toes. Returning them is not an option right now. Is there any way to make them a little more comfortable?\nThanks. ", "My new shoes are a little tight Hello. So I got a new pair of hiking shoes and they are just a little tight near my toes. Returning them is not an option right now. Is there any way to make them a little more comfortable?\nThanks. ", "My new shoes are a little tight Hello. So I got a new pair of hiking shoes and they are just a little tight near my toes. Returning them is not an option right now. Is there any way to make them a little more comfortable?\nThanks. ", "My new shoes are a little tight Hello. So I got a new pair of hiking shoes and they are just a little tight near my toes. Returning them is not an option right now. Is there any way to make them a little more comfortable?\nThanks. " ]	[ "Get a zip lock bag of water, put them in your shoes and then into the freezer. The bags will expand and stretch them out. ", "If they are leather, put on thick socks and put on shoes, then warm the leather gently with a hairdryer. This will stretch them out.", "http://naturalselectionblog.com/2012/08/21/big-foot-files-stretching-your-shoes-in-the-oven/\n\nWet them in Vinegar, then bake the shoes at a low temperature in the oven. My nephews got an extra month or two out of their kid shoes doing this. \n\nIF you can try to fill bottles up with water and cram them into the shoes to stretch them out. You can use propper tools for this but they are expensive \n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Pack-Shoe-Expander-Shaper-Stretcher/dp/B00D9RVPH8\n\nThe Microwave/Toaster/Panini press are not good substitutes for an oven. \n\nEnjoy, Good luck", "My mom used to soak newspaper, sqeeze out excess water then cram it into the toes of the shoe(s). She would then place a stick or chopstickin the shoe against the paper but from the heel so it was pushing that paper in. Leave it to dry and its stretched!", "Can I ask why returning them is not an option? If they are unworn and undamaged I think you should be able to go into a store that sells them and exchange them for a size up no questions asked...", "* Cut the front 1/3 off of both. \n* Just remove the part where the ball of your foot touches, and the whole front bit where your toes go.\n* voila! They now fit comfortably.\n* For added security, put on 3 layers of socks." ]	[ 10, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Waterproofing a Camera I have a basic point and shoot camera-- and I would like to take some underwater video with it. I am trying to make a case out of easy-to-find materials that will be watertight.\n\nLooking for a few tips! I tried a ziplock bag last time, and I am lucky that the camera lived to see another day. I hope you guys can help me out!\n\nI will not need button access. I would just need to be able to turn the camera to a video setting and it can remain on in the case while submerged. ", "Waterproofing a Camera I have a basic point and shoot camera-- and I would like to take some underwater video with it. I am trying to make a case out of easy-to-find materials that will be watertight.\n\nLooking for a few tips! I tried a ziplock bag last time, and I am lucky that the camera lived to see another day. I hope you guys can help me out!\n\nI will not need button access. I would just need to be able to turn the camera to a video setting and it can remain on in the case while submerged. " ]	[ "[this worked great for me in Hawaii](http://www.amazon.com/DicaPac-WP410-10-5x16-0cm-Waterproof-Digital/dp/B001C20816/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1388259355&sr=8-1&keywords=underwater+camera+bag)\n\n", "Go buy a cheap aquarium or goldfish bowl on Craigslist. Flip it upside down. Install camera. Don't go too deep because you'll have to deal with the buoyancy." ]	[ 3, 3 ]	safe
[ "How to reduce / suppress traffic noise flooding my room at early morning? I've recently rented a room in a house. The window of my room faces a busy road, which gets considerable amount of traffic The noise of the traffic wakes me up very early in the morning. The window is ~ 5x3, has a very basic glass pane and then (wooden?) blinds.\n\nAny tips on how to reduce or suppress this noise so that I don't wake up because of it?", "How to reduce / suppress traffic noise flooding my room at early morning? I've recently rented a room in a house. The window of my room faces a busy road, which gets considerable amount of traffic The noise of the traffic wakes me up very early in the morning. The window is ~ 5x3, has a very basic glass pane and then (wooden?) blinds.\n\nAny tips on how to reduce or suppress this noise so that I don't wake up because of it?", "How to reduce / suppress traffic noise flooding my room at early morning? I've recently rented a room in a house. The window of my room faces a busy road, which gets considerable amount of traffic The noise of the traffic wakes me up very early in the morning. The window is ~ 5x3, has a very basic glass pane and then (wooden?) blinds.\n\nAny tips on how to reduce or suppress this noise so that I don't wake up because of it?", "How to reduce / suppress traffic noise flooding my room at early morning? I've recently rented a room in a house. The window of my room faces a busy road, which gets considerable amount of traffic The noise of the traffic wakes me up very early in the morning. The window is ~ 5x3, has a very basic glass pane and then (wooden?) blinds.\n\nAny tips on how to reduce or suppress this noise so that I don't wake up because of it?", "How to reduce / suppress traffic noise flooding my room at early morning? I've recently rented a room in a house. The window of my room faces a busy road, which gets considerable amount of traffic The noise of the traffic wakes me up very early in the morning. The window is ~ 5x3, has a very basic glass pane and then (wooden?) blinds.\n\nAny tips on how to reduce or suppress this noise so that I don't wake up because of it?", "How to reduce / suppress traffic noise flooding my room at early morning? I've recently rented a room in a house. The window of my room faces a busy road, which gets considerable amount of traffic The noise of the traffic wakes me up very early in the morning. The window is ~ 5x3, has a very basic glass pane and then (wooden?) blinds.\n\nAny tips on how to reduce or suppress this noise so that I don't wake up because of it?", "How to reduce / suppress traffic noise flooding my room at early morning? I've recently rented a room in a house. The window of my room faces a busy road, which gets considerable amount of traffic The noise of the traffic wakes me up very early in the morning. The window is ~ 5x3, has a very basic glass pane and then (wooden?) blinds.\n\nAny tips on how to reduce or suppress this noise so that I don't wake up because of it?", "How to reduce / suppress traffic noise flooding my room at early morning? I've recently rented a room in a house. The window of my room faces a busy road, which gets considerable amount of traffic The noise of the traffic wakes me up very early in the morning. The window is ~ 5x3, has a very basic glass pane and then (wooden?) blinds.\n\nAny tips on how to reduce or suppress this noise so that I don't wake up because of it?", "How to reduce / suppress traffic noise flooding my room at early morning? I've recently rented a room in a house. The window of my room faces a busy road, which gets considerable amount of traffic The noise of the traffic wakes me up very early in the morning. The window is ~ 5x3, has a very basic glass pane and then (wooden?) blinds.\n\nAny tips on how to reduce or suppress this noise so that I don't wake up because of it?" ]	[ "Try running a fan overnight. Most often it's the transition between \"no noise\" and \"noise\" that wakes you up. By having a constant source of low noise you are not as aware of the change when the traffic starts.", "You can use ear plugs of course, but I've found that after a week or two you get used to it and in fact start to need the noise. Another option is some sort of white noise to drown out the traffic. ", "My neighbor parks his motorcycle right under my window and revs it up every morning at 5am. I wish I knew how to ask him to stop doing that...", "I really love stand alone white noise generators. I used to live in the middle of the bar district in downtown Austin, and picked [this](http://www.amazon.com/Marpac-Dohm-DS-Speed-Sound-Conditioner/dp/B000KUHFGM/ref=sr_1_1?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1396241923&sr=1-1&keywords=white+noise+machine) up. Also available as a cheaper single speed [here](http://www.amazon.com/Dohm-SS-Conditioner-Marpac-formerly-Sleepmate/dp/B000LQI2S0/ref=sr_1_7?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1396241923&sr=1-7&keywords=white+noise+machine) - the single speed is the higher speed on the dual according to reviews.\n\nIt's some of the best money I've ever spent on sleep.", "You can create an egg carton hanger that is between you and the window but not flush with the window. This will reflect the sound back outside and still allow airflow inside.\n\nIf you can block the window with black out drapes that is an easy item to buy and install.", "I would try the white noise/fan suggestions but also rest assured that it will get better over time since you will get used to the noise and not wake up as easily.", "Update - I've been trying the white-noise idea since last 2-3 days. It seems to be working. I keep waking up around the same time, but am able to fall back asleep for another hour or so. Guess that's a win.\n\nThanks to everyone who replied.", "I sleep with soft silicone ear plugs ( the kind that don't go inside of your ear but stick over the actual hear hole. I think they use them for swimming.) because I hear every thing all night long. They are comfortable and yes I can hear my alarm just fine.\n", "Devil's advocate here for a different mode of thinking, just something to think about: maybe think about becoming a morning person?\n\nJust an idea. Whatever you decide, good luck! " ]	[ 13, 4, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How To Not Feel So Tired After Work I am two months in to my first out of college job, an office job, no physical labor, 8 hrs a day, no over time. But every day once I’m done with work, I’m too tired to do anything. Any LPTs for not being so tired?", "How To Not Feel So Tired After Work I am two months in to my first out of college job, an office job, no physical labor, 8 hrs a day, no over time. But every day once I’m done with work, I’m too tired to do anything. Any LPTs for not being so tired?", "How To Not Feel So Tired After Work I am two months in to my first out of college job, an office job, no physical labor, 8 hrs a day, no over time. But every day once I’m done with work, I’m too tired to do anything. Any LPTs for not being so tired?", "How To Not Feel So Tired After Work I am two months in to my first out of college job, an office job, no physical labor, 8 hrs a day, no over time. But every day once I’m done with work, I’m too tired to do anything. Any LPTs for not being so tired?", "How To Not Feel So Tired After Work I am two months in to my first out of college job, an office job, no physical labor, 8 hrs a day, no over time. But every day once I’m done with work, I’m too tired to do anything. Any LPTs for not being so tired?", "How To Not Feel So Tired After Work I am two months in to my first out of college job, an office job, no physical labor, 8 hrs a day, no over time. But every day once I’m done with work, I’m too tired to do anything. Any LPTs for not being so tired?", "How To Not Feel So Tired After Work I am two months in to my first out of college job, an office job, no physical labor, 8 hrs a day, no over time. But every day once I’m done with work, I’m too tired to do anything. Any LPTs for not being so tired?", "How To Not Feel So Tired After Work I am two months in to my first out of college job, an office job, no physical labor, 8 hrs a day, no over time. But every day once I’m done with work, I’m too tired to do anything. Any LPTs for not being so tired?", "How To Not Feel So Tired After Work I am two months in to my first out of college job, an office job, no physical labor, 8 hrs a day, no over time. But every day once I’m done with work, I’m too tired to do anything. Any LPTs for not being so tired?", "How To Not Feel So Tired After Work I am two months in to my first out of college job, an office job, no physical labor, 8 hrs a day, no over time. But every day once I’m done with work, I’m too tired to do anything. Any LPTs for not being so tired?", "How To Not Feel So Tired After Work I am two months in to my first out of college job, an office job, no physical labor, 8 hrs a day, no over time. But every day once I’m done with work, I’m too tired to do anything. Any LPTs for not being so tired?", "How To Not Feel So Tired After Work I am two months in to my first out of college job, an office job, no physical labor, 8 hrs a day, no over time. But every day once I’m done with work, I’m too tired to do anything. Any LPTs for not being so tired?", "How To Not Feel So Tired After Work I am two months in to my first out of college job, an office job, no physical labor, 8 hrs a day, no over time. But every day once I’m done with work, I’m too tired to do anything. Any LPTs for not being so tired?", "How To Not Feel So Tired After Work I am two months in to my first out of college job, an office job, no physical labor, 8 hrs a day, no over time. But every day once I’m done with work, I’m too tired to do anything. Any LPTs for not being so tired?" ]	[ "Prioritize sleep and exercise. There's really no way around it. You have to decide that adequate sleep and exercise are important to you and plan accordingly", "Counterintuitively, exercise helps with this. You don't need to become a CrossFit bro, but a good routine generally will start to boost your energy level after a couple weeks. When you are at work, try not to multitask and stress so much, use breaks and move around and take the time to decompress. If you have a little garden or outdoor area you can go to, it can be helpful. Just a couple of breaks each in the mornings and afternoons can go a long way to reducing that mental load so that when you get home it isn't all crashing down on you at once.", "Get up and move during the day - I always tried to get a desk far from the entrance & bathroom. At lunch I'd at least walk around the block. Stretch at your desk. If you don't move during the day, you're just collapsing in on yourself like a black hole - where all joy and light goes to die.", "You are probably mentally drained. After work do something/anything physical or just plain non mental. Take a walk, jog, chat with friends at a coffee shop. It’s amazing just how a change of scenery and focus can fix this. Do NOT park yourself in front of a computer because you’re probably already doing that at work.", "Office worker here. I've done physical labor and a lot of office jobs are harder. I have a couple of things you can try! 1. Try to work so hard in the afternoon that you're super g'd up by the time you get off. Then don't slow down until like 9pm so you don't have time to get tired and lazy. 2: get healthier. Exercise outside, drink mostly water, eat healthy, and sleep 7.5 hours per night. That'll give you more energy on the daily, but you'll have less time to do stuff because you'll be too busy exercising.", "Mind and body are key! Just because you are not doing manual labour doesn't mean you won't be tired. The mental aspect is huge! Exercise is your friend here, even if it's just a short walk each day it makes a big difference. Would suggest the gym and a routine that works for you though either pre or post work.", "I think it gets easier. I am a pro at the work I do and long days at my desk are easy as I stay busy and make alot of decisions.\n\nTake those breaks and walk at least a mile at lunch. Try to work out in the mornings or at lunch.\n\nEat well. I am using Samsung Health to track activity and my carbs, protein and fats. Set goals and achieve them!\n\nI have alot of friends from shooting pool and because of this always have something to do or some place to be. Go do something!", "First: Congratulations on graduating college and landing your full time job. I hope it's in your field of interest. \nSecond: it takes time to adjust to a new level of responsibility, be patient and look for ways you can spend some of your evenings doing something that interests you. \nFinally: Consider getting a pet, there is no better exercise than walking a dog when you get home, plus they are always glad to see you and will keep you company when you do sit down.", "STANDING DESK. You’re probably getting sleepy from sitting so much / not being active. Try getting a standing desk. If your work won’t pay for one, you can improvise one using boxes or books. Or if that’s not feasible either, get up and walk around when you start feeling tired. Go to a bathroom on a different floor, for example. \n\nAs soon as you get home, even if you feel tired, do something active. Cook dinner, clean up the house, play with pets, exercise, etc. Don’t watch TV or anything until you get over the sleepiness hump. Avoid napping after work so you can fall asleep fast at bedtime.", "Plan things a couple evenings a week to look forward to. You may dread it the day of even on a hard exhausting day but when you get to it you will have a great time and it will rejuvenate you. \n\nAlso keep your drinking on work nights controlled. Nothing wrecks your energy more than spending a day at work while in recovery from the night before.", "My mom has a yaya sister club with fellow female neighbors, where they exercise together a few times a week, including yoga and walking.", "It may sound counterintuitive but what works for me is going to the gym to train for 1h after work. I come home tired but it's like a good kind of tiredness and helps me sleep well. Used to have insomnia problema before I started working out.. gym was instafix for that.", "I would strongly suggest you talk to a doctor. One of the first stages of depression is being overly tired. I hope this is not the case for you but better to find sooner than later.\n\nExercise and Diet have huge impacts on how you feel, Each person is different so you're going to have to learn what works best for you.", "Don't worry, it'll get easier. You're still in the very beginning of your career and you're learning a ton every day. Hold on for two more months and you'll see how more things become second nature. Also follow the tips on exercise to make it in the long run." ]	[ 33, 15, 9, 7, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\r\rHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?" ]	[ "Volunteer. Join a club. If you really want to make a lot of friends in Salt Lake City, become a mormon. Then you can make posts on reddit telling us what really goes on there.", "Learn to enjoy being single and alone.\n\nLearn to love being lonely.\n\nOnce you do, someone will come to ruin this for you.", "Find a lower key sport that has some rec leagues that are more about socializing than competition. It's fun, you meet new people each match, and you even get a little exercise. I started playing in a beach volleyball league years ago, and have made a ton of friends there. A handful of those friends have had volleyball friendships turn into serious relationships. \n\nVolleyball is great, but there are definitely alternatives that can work . Softball, bowling, stuff like that. Slower paced with lots of breaks in the action. Playing soccer or flag football is fun, but I find that all that running leaves people too tired/winded to relax and chat, plus the leagues tend to be more competitive. \n\nI have no idea what specifically is available in your location. ", "Hobbies. Find local groups that do what you like to do and join up. Example: Last year I joined a local shooting club, and a few years before that, my local hackspace. ", "That good old stalwart -- evening classes! Pick a subject that is likely to have a good proportion of people of the gender you would like to see more of. Meeting up with the same group regularly makes it easier to progress a friendship.\n\nVolunteer somewhere. Volunteers tend to be friendly. You could build or strengthen a skill for your resume at the same time.\n\nJoin a choir? Drama clubs need all sorts of backroom people as well as actors. Find a sport to play?\n\n", "I totally have this same problem but the only difference is I'm disabled. How do you meet people when you can't do social things like sports, drink, or even talk normal? \n ", "Sportsclub, preferably martial arts. I have been a member of a couple of Ju-jutsu clubs and a BJJ club. If you go regularly, talk to people and generally being open and positive, you will soon get to know the regulars.", "Get into running 5k races. It's one of the best ways to make friends or find dates. It's a non-threatening environment where everyone's in it together. \"How'd you do?\" Or \"good job!\" Is all you need to start a conversation and it's very natural. There are often parties afterwards or everyone goes to a certain bar, restaurant. You see the same people at registration, the start, on the course, at the finish, getting snacks, and then again later at the bar. Say hey each time and by the end of the day you're old acquaintances and you can ask for a date or number or name to add on FB, whatever. It's an easy in. \n\nMy cousin used to have a whole system for meeting women at marathons! Haha but that's a story for another day. ", "Really all you have to do is find an activity that interests you and then find a group that does it. Let's go with the example of how I like snow boarding. In the winter there are tons of bus trips out of different ski shops to take a day trip to a mountain. There are a ton of people who will go on a bus trip and pretty much all you have to do is strike up a conversation with anyone and BAM!, your getting to know a new person. \n\nNow its just not as easy as this. Based on your personality and level of being social is how you win people over. Some people really like me and will want to hang out again, buy me a drink, whatever. Then there are some people who think I'm a weird fuck or want nothing to do with me. They key is not to give a shit about what other people think about you, because your you. I used to read a shit ton of books on being social and normal in interactions. I used to be extremely socially awkward to the point it hurt. Learn to communicate with any one any where at any time and you will never have a problem meeting new people ever again.", "Join the local gym and take some fitness classes. I joined my gym and go to zumba and b kickboxing twice a week. Not only have I met great people, but I've gotten fit too!", "In addition to all of the excellent suggestions in this thread, I'd like to throw out that if you have an Android device you may want to try joining Ingress. It's a bit of a geeky community, but it's at least comprised of geeks that like to get off their butts and go do things.\n\n\nI moved to another country about seven months ago. The first friends I made were through the Ingress community, which was fantastically open and welcoming. I have since made other friends in other circles, but it was a starting point that netted immediate results and did introduce me to a few really neat people that have become close friends.", "Get into rock climbing. Get a membership, go twice a week and after a month you'll have new friends and a lady to be interested in, plus you'll get in shape", "Try posting in /r/SaltLakeCity. I live in SLC, but I am not really connected to the social scene here. ", "When I was 20 years old my late husband got stationed in Virginia. My mother gave me the best advice. Find your local public library. They have Flyers up with social programs, they have good books. And there are people. It kept me sane for 2 years.", "meetup.com it's a website made for people looking to meet other people with similar likes. There are groups for everything from sports, food, and language learning. This would be perfect for what you're looking for!\n", "This might sound odd but I met a lot of people through gaming.\nPlayed Battlefield/Team fortress - joined a clan. Which led to talking to other people from other teams. Then met up for clan-parties. \nSome where from the same town so joined them, and eventually met a friend of one of those - and now I'm married to her :)", "Into books? Go to some readings and/or conventions (SLC comicon, etc.), or join a book club.\n\nOther SF stuff like movies? There might be a local Meetup.com 'geek outing' club, many large cities have them.\n\nSubreddit! There's got to be a SLC subreddit.", "I'm pretty sure in Salt Lake City there are a bunch of people that would really like to talk to you - about where YOU will spend the afterlife.", "Go to a pet store. Seriously! You may find a furry friend there too, but animal lovers are by and large friendly and empathetic people. ", "Get a membership at a rock climbing gym. It's super fun, the people who go there are generally pretty chill (and in shape since you're maybe looking for a relationship) and often open to talk and friendly. If you go just a couple times a week you'll start to get in shape and see some regulars who you can get to know. Additionally, since spring is now here groups are gonna be planning trips outside, which can lead to more time spent hanging out. If you're apprehensive at all, most gyms will give you a free visit to see how you like it, so you've got nothing to lose. Good luck and happy climbing!", "Bars. Just go to the first decent-looking bar you come across, find someone who's alone (or a party of two) introduce yourself, be humble, and try your best to show off your good sides. You're bound to find people to hang with, as long as you try, man. \n\nGood luck!", "You first need to figure out what it is you like to do, if anything. Any hobby you can imagine has groups out there with other like-minded people. Then it's easy from there. Join websites like Meetup.com or search online for groups/events near you and JUST GO.\n\nIf you're up for it I strongly recommend some form of partner dancing. Not only is it fun and gets you exercise but it forces you to interact with lots of people, specifically the opposite sex. Let me know if you want to know more and I'll steer you in the right direction.", "My best tip is following^\n\nThe need of meeting people is great, but mustn't be approached directly. Don't allow yourself to be desperate for attention of others and use direct approach. Instead choose an acivity near your residence. It could be literally anything from free classes to seminars or sports. You don't have to be too demanding, as you remember your aim is to meet people, not to learn fencing. \n\nSo, you got yourself a action, than start thinking on how you can improve in it and the best way to do it thorugh communication with those around you. For them, you are a blank sheet, you can put very little effort in behaving and acting the way you've long felt like acting, but your past actions and your perception of others expectations of you constantly interfered.\n\nThere are very deep foundation under this, in my opinion. Check out Erich Fromm if you really want to change some perspective on things. For example http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Art_of_Loving\n\nA profound work on emotions and it has many interesting insights on the nature of reality, past epxirience, religion etc. \n\nGood luck, bro. The saddest thing to do is to deny the ability to improve and develop as a human being.", "Hey! I live in Salt Lake too! \n\nlike what /u/shawnaroo said, try some Real Salt Lake games (assuming you're into sports). Even if you cant afford good seats, the nosebleed sections still have a lot of fun people to be around.\n\nGoing to a regular amount of game you can build friendships with the guys around you, even join a rec league as many others have said. \n\nOther than that, SLC has some decent arts and music festivals (for free or well priced). Check out the [KUER's PSAs](http://www.publicbroadcasting.net/kuer/events.eventsmain), [Visit Salt Lake](http://www.visitsaltlake.com/). Try volunteering at some places like the Tracey Aviary, or some local marathons/runs, as these venues typically are what the average redditor demographic would be interested in.", "Double whammy answer\n\nBar none, the best place to make new friends is waiting tables. Get a job as a server. Instant friends, not to mention it can be pretty good money.\n\nIf you don't have serving experience, go find an Applebee's or some other chain, and lie about your references. Seriously. They almost never check. Once you get hired, they'll show you the computer system and give you a few days training anyway. If you're halfway intelligent, you'll pick it up within a couple weeks. \n\nIf you don't like the people where you start, every subsequent serving job will be easier and easier to get with your experience and contacts. Eventually, if you like it enough you can start working at high end restaurants and really rake in the dough. $200+ a night.\n\nNow you're employed and have friends. Win.", "volunteer! things like Food Not Bombs, animal shelters, Planned Parenthood, etc are great places to meet decent people who are likely going to be good for conversation! When I moved to a new place by myself a while ago, that's how I made it work. \n\nMaybe a local book club (if you like reading), or finding an open mic night or poetry slam or art walks! Also a lot of cool people in attendance and a more lower key sort of \"nightlife\". \n\nYou're going to do great!", "You can always join a dating site (such as OKCupid) and set your profile to 'just looking for friends'...I met a few friends a few years ago while I was looking for a girlfriend. I found her too!", "The best advice I can give is that you need to talk to people more. No matter where you go. \n \nSure you can join a gym or find a hobby. But they're just things that you should be doing anyway. \n\nWhen you grab a coffee, get groceries, go to clothes shops or walking down the street just say hi to someone. Make small talk. If you're not a big talker like me it can be difficult to begin with. Literally just talk to anyone whether it be an old lady, a dude your own age or a cute girl. Just ask people questions if you don't know what to say. \n\nLook for a job in retail. You'll get to talk to plenty of new people. \n\nAlso, when it comes time to make a move, give them your number. It leaves the choice up to them if they contact you. And people will be more willing to take a number than to give one out. \n\nAlso, get a hair cut, groom, work out, smell nice, eat healthy, and there's always [Tinder](http://www.gotinder.com/)", "Start volunteering at a cause you're passionate about. Meet loads of people and feel good about making the world a little bit better!", "One thing you might be able to find is a sort of wood shop gym. Essentially it's a warehouse type space where you can go and use all the equipment you had in shop class to build whatever you want. This gives you a project to do, and it's in a public space where you can meet new people. ", "Many good suggestions.\n\nI don't have any suggestions, but I just wanted to let you know that your problem is common among people moving to a new city, so don't feel discouraged.", "Join a gym or find a hobby. It all depends on what you like to do. What ever you like to do, go out and do it. You will find other similar minded people doing the same thing. \n\nIf you like sports then go to sporting events. If you like knitting join a knitting club. [irrelevant pic]( http://i.imgur.com/XAqzVDh.jpg)", "Find things that interest you, and find a club, group, volunteer, or whatever involving that. It will help you meet people with similar interests and gives you a built in automatic ice breaker. ", "Check out Meetup.com. I found a fun active nerd group in San Diego, and have met 2 genuine friends. Find groups that fit your interests and give them a real shot.", "Best recommendation I can give is what most people are already saying. Volunteering, joining a club, joining a gym or martial arts, going to meet ups, going to conventions.\n\nI actually made a very close friend going to a convention, it's a great place for like-minded people who are into the same hobby to get to know each other.\n\nI also made many friends when I joined a BJJ dojo. In fact, I became good friends with a person that was exactly in your predicament. He had moved here from out of state and didn't know anyone. He invited me to hang out at his apartment after class and we had a good time (no homo).", "A sport or hobby is great for meeting people, especially co-ed adult leagues. SLC is big enough that you should be able to find something. I recently moved to southwest Wyoming and even in the middle of no where they have co-ed hockey, co-ed basketball, co-ed softball and Friday night magic the gathering.", "A lot of great suggestions here like joining a sport and/or volunteering. \nI'd like to add one more, which is simply going out during the day. Specifically restaurants, coffee shops, bookstores, parks, malls, whatever appeals to you. Bring your work, bring a book, bring something to do. Talk to people while you are out. WAY different experience from a bar or club where people are guarded or you become a drinking buddy. During the day most people enjoy the small, random break in their usual routine. A little small talk here an there and maybe a conversation will emerge. Get their number and BOOM you have a friend. \nOr if it is someone you are romantically interested in, set a date to do something! \nThis may not be the easiest or quickest way to make friends, but being able to comfortably talk to strangers is a fantastic skill to develop. \nAlso the best way to meet new people is through other people. Once you make one friend, it opens the door to their circle of friends. Good luck to you!", "identify what you enjoy doing, then go do that with local groups. When you interact with people that share your interests, then friendships will naturally grow from those interactions.\n\nAlso, say yes to any invites. Even if you don't particularly gel with the person/people asking you, they will expose you to more people with whom you might.", "You happen to live in an amazing amazing amazing place for things like rock climbing, mountain biking, skiing/snowboarding, and hiking. Entering One of these communities would be great. The people are down to earth and the sports will keep you fit and probably happy,", "Volunteering is great because it increases the odds that you'll meet interesting, selfless individuals. Also, even if you don't end up meeting anyone you'd like to see again, you still have the satisfaction of having helped others in some way.", "The thing about Salt Lake is it's basically a 2 party culture. You're either mormon and do mormon things or you aren't and you do the nightlife thing. You don't have to love going out but you have to go out to meet people. A lot of people are in the same boat. So the key is to find the moderates among the extremes. ", "The Coffee Break in downtown is a great place to meet people who are in their mid 20s. There are comfy couches, interesting people, lots of groups of people playing cards and whatnot. I loved that place when I lived in SLC", "Snowboard or Ski? Mountain bike or Road bike? Motocross or Desert Runner? ATV or Side-by-side? Bullet bike or Cruiser? 4-wheel or Quarter Mile? Hike or Run?\n\nThese are the questions you need to ask yourself. There are SO many things to do here, you will find many like minds and idiots. Once you move to Utah you are assigned a good job, a book of Mormon, as many wives as you prefer, and a plethora of retarded activities. BYOB!", "No job. There's lots of people to meet at the unemployment office. Then go make some friends at your local chamber of commerce just to get job leads, and get you up in the morning. Then I would suggest you meet people who like the same things you do. If you like gaming, see if there's a gaming organization around . . you kinda get the hint there you'll be more comfortable talking about something you are passionate about versus just going and meeting people in a new location in which you have no idea if you have anything in common. Good luck.\n", "My buddy lived there recently, so I'll get at you with his input. My experience dictates that location is irrelevant. Obviously, the demographic of certain locations is pertinent, but meeting people isn't based so much on where. It's about initiating contact. You can find meaningful connections anywhere. Talk to everyone. Be yourself. You're the shit, but no one knows that, yet. Just say, \"Hi!\" Start small and flow. You'll find that you're the one deciding who is worth your time, as opposed to others judging you. It's scary, I know, so pm me and I'll give you my number. Call me if you feel like you need an ego boost. I don't know you, but I got you! Best of luck, I'll hit you up when my buddy gets back. Be well!", "Meetup.com look for a group that has your interests or volunteering is also a great way to meet people. ", "Join a club of some sort. It takes me a while to get to know people so I need to see the same people regularly. I joined a roller derby league as a volunteer and met a ton of people. It's also how I met my wife, so bonus there. ", "I've lived in SLC for many years, but broke up with gf, have no non-work friends. I'm in my mid-30's so it's a bit harder. But, I've heard good things about the hiking club on meetup. I've actually met two married couples who met that way. In both instances, all four moved in from out-of-state.", "I grew up in SLC, went to the Univ. of Utah and left in the '90s for an out of state job and haven't lived there since. That said...\n\nSalt Lake City is about 50% LDS, so there are a lot of people and TONS of things to do as far as rec leagues, etc. The culture there is very activity oriented, even for non Mormons. Join a group or club that does something regularly that you like to participate in.\n\nAs for the LDS thing, sometimes LDS are aggressive in over-sharing in an awkward and uncomfortable way. Think \"Sam-I-Am\" from Green Eggs and Ham. Like Sam, LDS can be very persistent but are quite sincere. A simple \"Thanks for sharing... I value our relationship... I don't have an interest in religion right now\" kind of thing will suffice without much grief.\n\nNorth or South of SLC, you will be lonely if you aren't LDS as you'll be outnumbered 10:1. Please realize your neighbors are a part of a \"Ward\" i.e.: congregation of around that magical Dunbar's number of 150. There won't be a lot of interest in picking up a new friend like you because everybody already has a community where they are \"maxed out\" as far as social connections go. It's not personal, trust me.From personal experience, when I move to a new ward it will always take time to break in, and I'm as \"Insider\" as you'll find.", "Hey, I live in SLC. I'm not a very good friend though, I prefer to keep to myself.\n\nYou should sign up for classes at SLCC though. Comparatively cheap, you'll meet people your age, and maybe learn something too. \n\nYou could try volunteering too. Here's a couple places that always need help:\n\nBest Friends Animal Sanctuary\n\nThe Road Home\n\nThe Community Co-Op\n\nWasatch Community Gardens\n\nYou could also get a bike and start going to the SLC Bicycle Collective. Some pretty cool people show up and help you fix your bike. You could volunteer there too, if you know anything about bikes.\n\nIf you're into swimming or water polo, and homosexuality doesn't make you uncomfortable, you could try going to QUAC - Queer Utah Aquatic Club. \n\nAnd here's a list of KUER (local public radio) events: \n\nkuer.org/kuer-events\n\nMost of these cater to my own hipster-esque lifestyle, but I only know what I know. Hopefully that helps out. :)\n\n\n\n", "Go Outside !!!\nJoin a sports team ( dodgeball, axe throwing, kickball , etc ). go learn some martial art / yoga. Anyplace where you go and have a common experience together which gives you an in for conversation.\n\nAnd make it a daily goal to ask at least one person of each gender a queston or quick compliment ( what is the time?, how to get to? I like your (blank) ) so you get used to talking with people.\n\ndo these things and you'll make new friends for sure. Might not be the people you did all this practice stuff with, but definitely with someone awesome", "Depends on the people you'd like to meet. I had a cousin that wanted to marry a lawyer. So she started doing all her homework at the law library in town. Bam. Bagged her a lawyer. ", "Crossfit has been great for me. Most boxes have a free class once a week. Other ideas... Volunteer, part time classes, adult sports leagues, I've heard meetup.com is good. If you are in a metro area look for a publication that lists \"what's happening\" seek out events that interest you.", "Bars, esp at hotels and lounges. people LOVE to talk when they are travelling and drinking. Also if you're younger, check out the bar at the local backpackers hostel.", "http://www.meetup.com . I'm a member of two groups that use this site and new people show up relatively frequently. You can just skim by your interests and location :)", "go to yoga. my yoga studio is a really friendly place and seems like a good place to make friends. if the first studio you try isn't a good fit, don't give up! try a few more. ", "church is great place to meet people. contrary to popular beleif, you dont have to be religious to hang out with nice people at church. you dont have to give them money, donate to anything, or even pay attention if you dont want to. ", "buy a dog and play an instrument. Between that and Reddit I'm never bored, assuming you have a job too.", "any class of your interest. learning something together with people is already one similarity with which you can connect.", "a nice gym (where not everywhere is head-phoned), an exercise or sport class where people must interact), or a drink or two a few times a week at the same bar\n", "You might want to check out meetups.com . There are many groups in most cities. Find a group that does what you like to do, or are interested in doing, and start from there.", "You gotta go to other places. You gotta go to a spin class, a farmers' market.....pumpkin patch, given the time of year.\nJust some where social, non-threatening.", "Yikes, I was just in SLC recently (Park City to be exact), I remember thinking about how it seems like a difficult place to meet people. Extremely religious (mormon) people in the city, and basically visitors to ski. I feel your pain. Reading the answers below seem to be on the right track, try to find a city rec centre that has different recreational sports, they aren't competitive in nature, rather to have fun.", "Www.meetup.com website that allows people to host clubs or get together based on interests or hobbies.", "Work I'm a bar/restauarant. It is a great way to make friends, and feel invested in a city. And $$$ while you're not employed! ", "When I was between eighteen & twenty two, I was serving at a steakhouse. I met my nearest & dearest friends during those years, the crew became a huge family, & it's really fast easy money. I even dated one of the chefs for a good while followed by a year or so later a fellow server who became my first great love. I'm twenty eight now & still have all of the friends I made during that job & keep in touch with my ex's who are having kids now. So, I would say get a part time serving job ", "What do you like to do? If you like to run, find a running club. If you like playing board games, find some board game groups. I think you're catching my drift. A mutual interest immediately gives you something to talk about. You won't like everyone you meet, but having something to talk about makes that determination much easier.\n\nAlso, subscribe to your city's subbreddit--you will learn more about your new city, and maybe find some fun things to do where you can meet people. E.g., [reddit.com/r/SaltLakeCity](http://reddit.com/r/SaltLakeCity)", "What do you like to do in your free time? I enjoy table top and board games and have met a few people at game night at my local comic shop. Now that your an adult you have to actively try and find people instead of just randomly bumping into them while in school. ", "What do you enjoy doing? Painting? Riding bikes? Eating interesting foods? Playing video games?\n\nFind a [your answer] club. Go to said club.", "Well this all depends on what you like to do.\n\nSports? Find recreational leagues in your area.\n\nVideo games? Start hanging out in the mom 'n' pop shops, game bars, ect. Hit online communities for your area that people might get together on. Also: Local cons!\n\nBoardgames, PnP RPGs, card games, ect? (and to a degree video games) find your local gaming store and hang out there. They often have events for the public to play together.\n\nEct. You need to figure out where the community for what you like to do congregate over and at. This really depends on what you like doing!", "Weird suggestion: sign up for Ingress. \n\nIf you have a GPS equipped smartphone, it's like a giant, real-world capture the flag game.\n\nThere are only two teams (Red and Blue), and I wound up bumping in to a lot of players on my team (and the other as well). Got invited to some get-togethers as well but didn't go, and stopped playing because school started up again-- I'm part time in college and work 40+ hours/week at a career job. I could play more but I'd have to give up part of my social life.", "Volunteering is a great idea. Food banks, AmeriCorps, Boy Scouts of America, YMCA, Boys and Girls Club. There are lots of options out there, and don't be intimidated to work with children! ", "Ultimate frisbee is the way to go, you'll have friends in Salt Lake and anywhere you decide to move afterwards. The community is amazingly friendly!\n", "Try helping with Habitat for Humanities. You meet people who can mentor you, you help,others out less fortunate than you, you learn something, and you will feel accomplished for being productive. There are several retirees that have seen harder times than what you are dealing with, and might be able to help you get through it. Who knows, someone may be able to point you to a job.", "Try Couchsurfing. Even if you don't host or surf anyone's couch, they usually have weekly meet ups for members and friends, anyone can join. They are especially friendly towards those new in town. ", "This thread has been linked to from elsewhere on reddit.\n\n\n - [/r/tampacirclejerk] [OK, which one of you glorious bastards posted this?](http://np.reddit.com/r/tampacirclejerk/comments/211tqk/ok_which_one_of_you_glorious_bastards_posted_this/)\n\n\n^I ^am ^a ^bot. ^Comments? ^Complaints? [^Send ^them ^to ^my ^inbox!](http://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=totes_meta_bot)\n\n", "This doesn't really give concrete answers, but it does give hints on why it is more difficult to make friends as an adult and from that you might be able to start making things happen. Good luck. \n\nhttp://www.nytimes.com/2012/07/15/fashion/the-challenge-of-making-friends-as-an-adult.html", "The easiest way to make friends is through locality repetition:\n\nFind a place that seems to have the people you'd like to meet and start going to those same spots at regular intervals (i.e. go to the ABC Coffee Shop every Tue and Thurs @ 7pm, eat at ZYX Deli at noon on Mon, Wed, Fri, workout at 123 Gym every night).\n\nPeople are creatures of habit, and as people become familiar with another's presence, it feels unnatural for them not to initiate and maintain engagement. The familiar face already feels part of their social group.\n\nClub, sports, and hobby groups are great; if you have the availability/motivation join one. If you don't, given time and a friendly persona, locality repetition will erode the social separate between strangers.\n", "The biggest thing you need to ask yourself is what do you enjoy doing? What activities did you and your friends enjoy doing back home?\n\nOnce you have that try and find a group, community group you can join for those activities. You will find people you have something in common with, and will start doing the activities you did at home more.", "Talk to people and listen. Try to be interesting but don't try to monopolize the conversation. Now go and try new things. You'll want to look for a new job because that's a great place to find out about small gatherings that are going on. Maybe just engage people in conversation around where you live, in your apartment or say hi to a neighbor and get the ball rolling like that.\n\nMy best personal experience with something like this was right after I went to college where I knew no one. I just took a book and went down to read it where the smoker's hung out. Smokers tend to be chatty people. I made a lot of life long friends there. I also started smoking so watch out for that.", "Take up salsa dancing. 98% of the people that go there are so easy going and regulars. I've made quite a few friends this way. Plus you get to learn a dance different than just awkwardly grinding. Hope this helps!", "Swing Dancing! I know SLC has a swing dance scene, though I have never partaken in it there.\n\nCan't dance for your life? Neither could I when I started. All the more reason to go! People are generally very friendly and enthusiastic to teach newcomers.\n\nBut in general... find a hobby, join a club.", "Start swing dancing. The dancers will become your family and you wont be able to imagine life without them. Check out swingmap.com for a scene near you. Or check out subreddit swingdancing to see if you'd be interested.", "Stand-up comedy open mics are a good way to meet lots of new people - even if you don't want to do it/or are rubbish. You'll start with other people who are new and there is a real sense of commaradarie plus they take place in bars usually, and you have ready made stuff to talk about - just tell a person you like their set. If you don't want to do it yourself just go to some open mics and watch and mingle you'll see you'll make lots of friends really quickly. Just google comedy open mics in your area. ", "Sorry about your job loss. I'm going through similiar circumstances and realize its difficult to do things but getting out of the house is crucial. Getting motivated to get out is hard enough let alone meeting people. I am working on getting in shape and taking some college classes. The classes are low cost through pell grant and community college. Maybe some classes will help you, getting in shape and spending as much time out of the house. GL ", "Sign up for a gym, or any learning activity - new languages, new skills - you will meet new people, who also share your interests and the activity is a geat ice breaker.... ", "Shawnaroo is right on. Ive experiences a lot of welcoming people at an indoor rock climbing gym ive been going too. I have a bunch of friends i go with and this hasnt been an issue i struggle with however, i have met a lot of new people at the gym and I wasnt trying. Sometimes i ask for advice and that leads to me meeting new people there. I think its worth giving a shot. ", "Salt Lake is amazing if you're into outdoor adventuring. I'd suggest getting into climbing because it's not that expensive (in the beginning) and you can meet a bunch of cool outdoorsy people. Buy some climbing shoes and get a membership to Momentum climbing gym (harness and atc is included w/membership). They have bulletins for new climbers to meet climbing partners or just go up the the boulder room and just start climbing. Make some friends in there and they'll take you outside eventually and you can use their gear/experience. This will allow you to get into what Utah is really about: gorgeous outdoors. \n\nSource: lived in Utah for 28 years, Salt Lake for 5. ", "SWING DANCING. I picked it up over a year ago and it is now my main source of social life. You'll find so many people who are really easygoing and fun to be with. And the girls, man. Do yourself a favor and give it a try. ", "SLC actually has a pretty vivid night life downtown where you can meet people. Also meetups.com - tons of hiking groups, foodie groups, music groups, etc. That's how I met a lot of people when I lived there. I also did some volunteering with the Utah Arts Festival, the film festival, the Discovery museum, whatever I could to get out and meet people. \n\nYou also have KSL you can use to meet people and see what is going on. It's a great tool. \n\nThere is a lot to do there - hop on KSL, find an event, and go meet some new people! \n\n", "Reddit has 2 subreddits for the city I live in - /r/Boston and /r/Bostonsocialclub - Boston Social Club is where things like trivia nights, board game get togethers, etc... are announced. Does Salt Lake City have a similar subreddit?\n\n\n\nAlso, I've made some cool friends through rock climbing, it's a really fun sport and the people who are into it generally tend to be fairly cool.\n\n\n", "Pick an activity and get involved in it. It doesn't have to be expensive -- a book club, a bible study, a chess club, an ultimate frisbee club. Take line dancing lessons. Find an outdoors group. Just go to meetup.com and find something that sounds like fun.\n\nThere's this unfortunate view that says the only way to meet people is at work or at a bar. NOT TRUE!", "Online dating really helps with this as well. My close friend has done this and has had good results. It takes a little while and a few dates before you find someone you click with, but it is a nice way to find others that are looking as well.", "One of the best ways to meet people is to volunteer on a political campaign. Especially a state/local campaign. You've already got something in common with everybody there (support for the candidate/issue), so you've got something to talk about. You'll find that knocking on doors and putting up signs leads to \"let's grab coffee\" before we volunteer tomorrow, leads to \"let's grab a beer after\" leads to \"come over for dinner tomorrow\" leads to \"let's be facebook friends\" leads to IRL friends. \n\n\nSome of my best friends in my town I met by volunteering for a Mayor's campaign when I first moved (back) here all alone. Volunteering for a political campaign is a fantastic way to meet people, and in most places (USA) there's an election of some kind or another every Fall, which means every summer is a campaign season.\n", "One of the best things you can do is when you meet someone new be sure to tell them that you're looking for friends, that you're new and that you don't have anyone to hang out with. People have a lot of sympathy and will do what they can to include you.", "My advice, without judgment, is to take a break from the games and then choose one of the activities people listed, or find your own, out in the world. ", "Meetup.com -- I moved to Dallas a while ago and met a lot of cool people out of this site. It's got groups for ANYTHING you can think of, and if there isn't a group that fits you, start one.", "Maybe your school has an alumni association? Or try joining a gym. You are going to have to be more outgoing if you're not already. It will be awkward, but worth it in the end. ", "Look up events tailored toward your interests. Whatever you like, whether it be gaming or lion taming, there are gatherings of like-minded individuals in or close enough to your area. Attend these events. Since you know up front that the people there like the same thing as you, it's really easy to spark a conversation.", "Look up a swing dancing club in your area! Social dancing is really fun and active and everyone is always friendly and dances with everyone else. You'll meet a lot of people :)", "Look into area conventions in a area of interest of yours. Easiest way to meet people with like-minded interests, and gives you a framework for breaking the ice. ", "Just get out of the house. Spend your day walking around or even just in a coffee shop. Surround yourself with the outer world and you're bound to make some connections.", "Join a club, take a class in a college, go to a church, get a job in retail. You will forget names, trust me.", "Join Meetup.com You can filter and choose any event you wanna go to and participate. I've made good friends using the site, doing what I love doing the best - playing soccer. ", "It's surprisingly simple : To find people with shared interests, find groups of people that do the things that interest you. And when you are together doing the interest you share, make sure you talk to them. \n\nYou like cooking? Find a cooking class. Like comics? Hang around in the comics store. Like drinking? Go to the pub. Buy a few people drinks and talk to them (tell them you brew your own beer and invite them over for a taste). Join a robotics club. Fantasy football league. Whatever. \n\nJust make sure you go to places where everybody there has an interest they share with you. And then get chatty. \n", "In Malcom Gladwells book The Tipping point it mentions how people think that they are friends with the people they are friends with because they share similar values but when examined, outside of any childhood friends, people are friends with people they do things with. If you like rock climbing go rock climbing and you'll eventually meet other rock climbers, if you like art go to gallerias and eventually you'll meet other art lovers. So just do stuff you like to do alone and then hopefully you can start doing stuff you like with other people. ", "In Boston there's something called \"Social Boston Sports\". It's a bunch of 20 somethings getting together, drinking, and playing games like kickball, dodgeball, Innertube Water Polo, Volleyball, Cornhole. All sorts of stuff. You can sign up to a Free Agents team with like-minded strangers. It's very easy to make friends naturally at these things. Source: I'm a referee. Maybe SLC has something similar.", "Improv classes. Most medium to big cities have a place that offers them and nothing gets you closer to open-minded and outgoing people like screwing around and playing make-believe. Checkout /r/improv to see if there might be a place near you. Even if you don't find one at first, the improv community is pretty tight so they can probably nudge you in the right direction.", "If you're interested in a fun game and have sufficient money, try picking up Magic: The Gathering. It's a trading card game that has a mostly great community, and there are events every week. If you google it, there should be a store locator. ", "If you like edm/techno/dance music at all, these fans are some of the most welcoming people in the world. Almost every city has a facebook group for planning shows and trips to festivals. I found this one for Salt Lake City for you:\n\nhttps://www.facebook.com/groups/484426241670837/\n\nI'm pretty old for these sort of things, but not only does it make me feel young, no one cares. It's pretty much some of the happiest people there are.", "If you have special interest go to www.meetup.com and find a club with your interest (like online gaming community) or choose one you like with many people and meetings. It is not a dating site but a place where you can meet people with similar interest. As a personal example I joined gardening, tai-chi and prepping when I moved to a new town. It was fun and many people I met there, were lifelong locals so got some useful tips on how to blend in. Join the local GYM or sport club. If you can afford to have a dog he will make you get out and meet people in your community.", "If you have or ever get a dog I suggest the dog park. My dog makes friends and then their owners befriend me. Basically my dog does all the hard work. Also, people at dog parks are consistent so you're likely to run into the same people again. ", "I've always found that the coolest people to meet are in the parks. Just go and hang out, take a book hang out, but talk to whoever looks interesting. ", "I'd suggest going to a place/activity that attracts the type of people you'd like to be around. You're not a nightlife guy, so don't go to bars and clubs. \nIf you like conscientious people, try volunteering in a city cleanup or soup kitchen. If you're a person of faith, try attending a local church/synagogue/mosque/etc. If you're into a sport, join a recreational league.", "I would highly suggest starting to workout in a gym. It's a good way to meet people and also stay in shape! Along with that, Okcupid, while being a dating site, also has the option for solely friendship. A lot of those dating apps do. Id look into some of those. ", "I was in the same boat as you. Made good friends via a Meetup group. Visited three or four groups before I found one that \"felt\" right.", "I volunteer dr breweries and festivals, since I like beer.\n\nDog parks, the grocery store, your local gaming/comic book store. These are just places I've met people after college.", "I read somewhere that if you want to do something and none of your friends want to (for example, go to a rock concert) just go alone. You'll meet new friends there and you already know you've got something in common. ", "I met most of my friends through events organized on the Couchsurfing website - there's a weekly meetup in my city, and from there we organized hikes and other outdoor activities, which led to all of us being friends. You could check it out and see if there are any CS meetups in your area, and if you host, it has the added benefit of giving you \"temporary friends\" for a short period, which kind of fills the gap until you find friends.\n\nMeetup is another good one, allows you to find people who share your hobbies. Take up rock climbing and meet people at the gym, take up board games and meet people at the local game shop.. basically, find a hobby, meet people through it.\n\nAnd (importantly) follow up and see if they want to do other stuff too. \"Hey, do you want to grab a beer Thursday night? I heard there's a really good bar down the street.\" or \"I'm thinking about getting some people together for a BBQ at my place Saturday afternoon, you interested?\" Enjoying hobbies with other people is great, but it often won't turn into a solid friendship unless you expand past that.", "I know, I know!\n\nMeetup.com - their hiking groups are great.\n\nHiking groups are great because everyone is healthy, or trying very hard to get there. People who go hiking get the endorphins going and are super friendly. You can do other activities in the group, too - bike riding, going to pubs, etc. I swear, hikers are the friendliest people I've ever met in my \"longer than your\" life. It is so easy. Hikers accept you as you are. You could be a nerd geek, overweight, emo-goth-hipster. I swear to you, hiking groups are the best, if there's enough people.\n\nYou heard it here. \n\n\n[Here is the info.](http://www.meetup.com/find/?allMeetups=false&keywords=hiking&radius=5&userFreeform=salt+lake+city&gcResults=Salt+Lake+City%2C+UT%2C+USA%3AUS%3AUtah%3ASalt+Lake+County%3ASalt+Lake+City%3Anull%3Anull%3A40.7607793%3A-111.89104739999999&sort=default)\n\nI'd go to all of the groups a bunch of times and see which you like best. They all have a different flavor. Pick one if it fits, because the more you meet with people, the more friends you'll meet. If you like none of the hiking groups, start your own.\n\nLotsa luck.", "I know people might disagree, and I know where you stand, but going to some sort of religious service can be an easy way to meet people.", "I just moved and as a mega-introvert I thought I would struggle. Get on meet up (website /app) and see if there's things out there you're interested in. ", "I hear the Mormon Temple is a good place to start in Salt Lake City, UT hahaha. But realistically I use meetup.com to find events that fit into my interests. ", "I have to agree with /u/shawnaroo \n\nLow key sports with breaks in between, such as Darts. My buddies back at home joined a league and they get free beers and food each match. It is really laid back and casual.\n\nWho doesn't like casual competition and free beer?", "I got a dog recently, and I noticed that about 95% of people will automatically say \"hello!\" Or \"he's cute! What breed is he?\" (Provided you aren't in a questionable neighborhood and your dog isn't scary looking). I've met a couple people just from walking my dog around where I live.", "I got a dog , it helps , you also meet people on walking paths and you can set up play dates for the dogs (it important to socialize a dog but meeting nice people is also a plus)", "I feel like the most friendly people are those who actually go or to try to meet people. Go to clubs, bars, events, just anything with hundreds of people there. You're bound to find some friends.", "I did community theatre. Whether you're on stage or off, you can do something part of a team for about 2 or 3 months. From there, you can meet other folks, continue to be involved, or know it's only a short term until completion.", "Hey, I live in slc too! Game night games has game night. Random people show up with a board game and hang out. definately check out /r/SaltLakeCity. they have events from time to time.", "Head over to meetup.com and find groups going on with similar interests as you. I've made more than a couple of friends that way. Good luck!", "Have you thought about joining a meet-up group? My fiancé was in one, and I got to meet them at a restaurant once. It was a really diverse group of people, and I found it really cool. No one was judgmental, though a few seemed to be there just to try to get dates. I was the new guy, and they really went out of their way to make me feel accepted and comfortable.", "Go take BLS classes (Basic Life Support). Your instructor will probably be a local Paramedic or Firefighter, and many of your fellow students will be in training for one or the other as well. Even if you have no interest in working in a field like these, you'll learn important skills which you can put on your resume in the future and you'll meet people who are way more \"plugged-in\" to the local scene than you are. \n\nIf you like music, but aren't a huge fan of the club scene, then try to find a couple of open-mic nights. Some of the people who will perform are in a similar situation that you are in: they want to meet new people, to hang put with new people, to make new friends, to have good times, etc. \n\nA lot of other people have suggested volunteering in some capacity, and it's a solid recommendation. Just be careful that you know and fully understand what you're getting yourself in to before you commit to anything over the long term. ", "Go swing dancing. Seriously it's one of the easiest ways to meet new people. Looks like they have a pretty active scene. http://www.swingutah.com/", "Go out be the kind of person that you'd want to meet. Do neat stuff. Actively care about people. Open your mind.", "Go eat Mole at the Red Iguana. That's what I'd do. My best memory of SLC. Do they have Disc Golf there? I'd do that first to get all hungry.", "Get into Music. \nGo to shows. \n\nIf you like the band(s) on the show, you've already got something in common with everyone there. ", "Get a hobby that involved interacting with people\n\nFind something of interest on meetup.com and start going", "Follow your interests. Find groups and classes in these interests and you will be amused and edified, while being in the company of people you have things in common with. Eventually, you will meet someone you like. ", "Find something you like, google where people who like that meet. Go. Or just start talking to anyone who seems interesting to you", "Find something you like to do and do it... clubs, teams, going to school, whatever. \n \nThen, even if you don't make any new friends, you are still doing something you like doing.", "Find an activity you like on Meetup.com.. and go. Work and school are the only easy ways to make friends because you are committed to going to the same place regularly and meet the same people over a long period of time. Centuries ago everyone had fewer common interests so making friends was far, far easier. For instance, EVERYONE went to church or mosque or temple, and had that one common interest you couldn't help not bonding over. The best way to replicate this is to find something you're religiously passionate about, find a bunch of people who are as interested in it, and start meeting up and doing something about it. I wonder if this makes sense.\n\nThe other option is to go to pubs or karaoke bars or nightclubs (whatever you have there) regularly. I know people who started going to the same club/cafe every Friday night when they moved to a new city, and ended up befriending a diverse bunch of people.\n\n", "Everytime I see these threads and read the ideas I come to the conclusion that the UK has been built from the ground up to stop any of us from making friends :(", "Everyone is posting about joining a climbing gym. You should check out Momentum in Sandy tonight. They have a late night climb today for about ~$15; gear rental included. It runs from 10pm - 2am. If you're interested PM me and we can meet up.", "Depends what you enjoy. Pubs are a great place to meet people, but only if you like pubs and the sort of people who go to them. I don't tend to, they're too loud and smelly and boisterous (the pubs rather than the people). I'd go to the woods. Great place to meet people walking dogs, and a friendly dog is a great introduction. Be interesting and people will come to you. I can sit and paint and get people coming up to say hello to see what I'm doing, instant shared interest. What do you like?", "Define your interests.\n\nFind a club, society, group or volunteering opportunity which matches them.\n\nTalk to people.\n\nProfit.", "Checkout this website/app called meetup.com there's a little bit of everything for people who want to meet others with the same hobbies/age group. Definitely found a lot of people that enjoyed hiking and usually these groups are huge. A great way to find locals around the area.", "Check to see if there is a local reddit group meet up (or post in your local reddit and ask this question again).\n", "Break your online gaming console, and attend events that are happening in your city for things that interest you. Your gaming console is a crutch which allowed this to happen in the first place, I'm not saying that gaming is bad I'm a pretty big gamer (Xbox one>anything else) but at the same time I don't allow it to stop me form seeing the outside world which I'm assuming based on your post could have happened to you. ", "Been there, my friend. And there are tons of things to do:\n\n* Take classes at a community college, or adult education at a 4-year school.\n* Check out Meetup.com\n* Look for -- and join -- a group that interests you: gardening, beekeeping, choir singing, whatever.\n* As others have mentioned, volunteer for something. \n\nAnd look at bulletin boards wherever you go. Really look.\n\nGood luck!", "Ballroom dancing. Group lessons are [super cheap](http://ballroomutah.com/Group_Classes.html) and there are always places that offer [variety on a regular schedule](http://www.utahballroomdance.com/beginning-ballroom.html).", "As someone who moved to a new city recently and didn't know anyone, here are a few that worked for me and others in the same situation: take improv comedy classes. Join a climbing gym. Take a dance class. Participate in meetup.com and couchsurfing.com social events. My social life and that of other people in the same situation went from 0 to 60 pretty quickly with these.", "As others have said, definitely start with any hobbies you can do in a group. Hobbies will often find you close friends - because well you both like to do the same thing for fun!\n\nCheck out your local reddit site: /r/SaltLakeCity watch for events that they do and join them.", "As a student, a great place I have discovered for picking up quality people is in the library. Smart people normally have things (hopefully interesting) to talk about. ", "Any place new. Literally any place outside the circles you are comfortable in and you'll meet new people.", "A) you need a job. Don't worry about friends until you have a job. Not being mean, this comes from experience. It's always socially awkward when you meet new people and you tell them you are unemployed. So focus on the job.\nB)What do you want from these new people you want to meet? Do you want friends to hang out with? Do you want to me a SO? Do you want drinking buddies? Do you want sports/athletic buddies? Think about it. Just like a business, you should target who you want to go after.", "A lot of people have mentioned physical activities, and all are great suggestions. But the best one hasn't been mentioned!\n\nBALLROOM DANCING\n\nSeriously. It's super fun for both genders, it's physically and mentally challenging, and usually people who do it are pretty intelligent and reasonably fit.", "A lot of people have given great answers, but for many people none of the answers I've seen solve the problem. No matter how many places you go or websites you visit, invariably the problem for some people is saying hello to a stranger and doing your best to become well-acquainted with them in a short span of time. It's scary, messy, and uncomfortable.\n\n...Except that it's not, if you stop thinking of it like that. Every time you say hello to a random person, you're essentially knocking on a door to a world that you likely have yet to experience, and maybe can't even imagine.\n\nSo no matter how you try to get out there, just keep being friendly. It's tough to move past all the fear and anxiety, but once you do the results are incredible.\n\nDon't get me wrong, I'm still a sissy. I've just occasionally manned up and even though I am nowhere near a 100% success rate with it, what few times I am successful have significantly improved my life, and what few times I'm not successful, I forget about it by the end of the week, or even by the end of the day.", "A great way of meeting all different kinds of people is through boardgames. Sure you'll gett a few very odd people, but most of the time, they tend to like to use their brain and tend to be of the more friendly kind (except elitists, but you get those in every genre/activity).\n\n It is an extremely relaxed atmosphere to get to know people better, because the focus is on the game and the interaction just comes along naturally, not like in a club, where the interaction is the main thing. A lot of rather shy people come out of their shell at boardgame evenings. The boardgame community tends to be well organized and public events are fairly common in bigger cities, where you usually also get a game shop that tends to be the village well for gamers and is quite often also used to host public events. Check out the legendarily hard to navigate site \"[Boardgamegeek.com](http://boardgamegeek.com/)\", which will be confusing at first but is a genious resource, like imdb.com is for movies. There you should be able to research for gaming groups in SLC, but as always, uncle google will help, too.\n\nIf you are new to boardgames, just let people know, they will be more than likely to be helpful and inviting. Boardgamers love people who give their passion a shot.", "1. What are your interests?\n2. Find groups of people that regularly hang out to do that.\n3. If you're having trouble finding those people, find a group on Meetup.\n4. A good alternative is to look at bulletin boards in book stores and coffee shops.", "- Meetup.com has events based on various topics\n\n- your local /r/couchsurfing group probably has events\n\n- volunteer somewhere\n\n- there are probably different adult sport leagues too\n\n\n\nIf you check out the side bar of /r/seduction they have really good info on how to gain confidence when talking to strangers (it's a subreddit built for picking up girls, but there is some really great confidence building material too). ", " I unexpectedly made a bunch of new friends recently by volunteering with food not bombs in my town. \n\nthe specific analogy is go find food not bombs in your town, pitch in, and meet people. the more general point is get involved in a cause and meet like-minded people. it's the doing of a shared activity that creates the bonding." ]	[ 875, 397, 288, 134, 65, 33, 32, 30, 23, 21, 12, 12, 10, 7, 6, 6, 6, 6, 6, 6, 6, 4, 4, 4, 4, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to stop yourself from shaking out of nervousness Some people's voices crack when they are nervous, or they go white or become lost for words. I can completely maintain my composure mentally. Unfortunately, I start to shake as though I am in the cold or in some horrible state of shock. \n\nA girl I was casually seeing said she wanted to end things. I thought \"right, get up and play this cool and dignified\". Of course, I began jittering like a Parkinson's patient the moment I went to gather my stuff, and I am sure that freaked her out. \n\nLast week I had to give a class presentation. Shook like crazy.\n\nAny tips to stop this? It is something people immediately notice and it totally betrays my emotions when, at times, I would rather keep them hidden. \n\nThanks.", "How to stop yourself from shaking out of nervousness Some people's voices crack when they are nervous, or they go white or become lost for words. I can completely maintain my composure mentally. Unfortunately, I start to shake as though I am in the cold or in some horrible state of shock. \n\nA girl I was casually seeing said she wanted to end things. I thought \"right, get up and play this cool and dignified\". Of course, I began jittering like a Parkinson's patient the moment I went to gather my stuff, and I am sure that freaked her out. \n\nLast week I had to give a class presentation. Shook like crazy.\n\nAny tips to stop this? It is something people immediately notice and it totally betrays my emotions when, at times, I would rather keep them hidden. \n\nThanks.", "How to stop yourself from shaking out of nervousness Some people's voices crack when they are nervous, or they go white or become lost for words. I can completely maintain my composure mentally. Unfortunately, I start to shake as though I am in the cold or in some horrible state of shock. \n\nA girl I was casually seeing said she wanted to end things. I thought \"right, get up and play this cool and dignified\". Of course, I began jittering like a Parkinson's patient the moment I went to gather my stuff, and I am sure that freaked her out. \n\nLast week I had to give a class presentation. Shook like crazy.\n\nAny tips to stop this? It is something people immediately notice and it totally betrays my emotions when, at times, I would rather keep them hidden. \n\nThanks.", "How to stop yourself from shaking out of nervousness Some people's voices crack when they are nervous, or they go white or become lost for words. I can completely maintain my composure mentally. Unfortunately, I start to shake as though I am in the cold or in some horrible state of shock. \n\nA girl I was casually seeing said she wanted to end things. I thought \"right, get up and play this cool and dignified\". Of course, I began jittering like a Parkinson's patient the moment I went to gather my stuff, and I am sure that freaked her out. \n\nLast week I had to give a class presentation. Shook like crazy.\n\nAny tips to stop this? It is something people immediately notice and it totally betrays my emotions when, at times, I would rather keep them hidden. \n\nThanks.", "How to stop yourself from shaking out of nervousness Some people's voices crack when they are nervous, or they go white or become lost for words. I can completely maintain my composure mentally. Unfortunately, I start to shake as though I am in the cold or in some horrible state of shock. \n\nA girl I was casually seeing said she wanted to end things. I thought \"right, get up and play this cool and dignified\". Of course, I began jittering like a Parkinson's patient the moment I went to gather my stuff, and I am sure that freaked her out. \n\nLast week I had to give a class presentation. Shook like crazy.\n\nAny tips to stop this? It is something people immediately notice and it totally betrays my emotions when, at times, I would rather keep them hidden. \n\nThanks.", "How to stop yourself from shaking out of nervousness Some people's voices crack when they are nervous, or they go white or become lost for words. I can completely maintain my composure mentally. Unfortunately, I start to shake as though I am in the cold or in some horrible state of shock. \n\nA girl I was casually seeing said she wanted to end things. I thought \"right, get up and play this cool and dignified\". Of course, I began jittering like a Parkinson's patient the moment I went to gather my stuff, and I am sure that freaked her out. \n\nLast week I had to give a class presentation. Shook like crazy.\n\nAny tips to stop this? It is something people immediately notice and it totally betrays my emotions when, at times, I would rather keep them hidden. \n\nThanks.", "How to stop yourself from shaking out of nervousness Some people's voices crack when they are nervous, or they go white or become lost for words. I can completely maintain my composure mentally. Unfortunately, I start to shake as though I am in the cold or in some horrible state of shock. \n\nA girl I was casually seeing said she wanted to end things. I thought \"right, get up and play this cool and dignified\". Of course, I began jittering like a Parkinson's patient the moment I went to gather my stuff, and I am sure that freaked her out. \n\nLast week I had to give a class presentation. Shook like crazy.\n\nAny tips to stop this? It is something people immediately notice and it totally betrays my emotions when, at times, I would rather keep them hidden. \n\nThanks.", "How to stop yourself from shaking out of nervousness Some people's voices crack when they are nervous, or they go white or become lost for words. I can completely maintain my composure mentally. Unfortunately, I start to shake as though I am in the cold or in some horrible state of shock. \n\nA girl I was casually seeing said she wanted to end things. I thought \"right, get up and play this cool and dignified\". Of course, I began jittering like a Parkinson's patient the moment I went to gather my stuff, and I am sure that freaked her out. \n\nLast week I had to give a class presentation. Shook like crazy.\n\nAny tips to stop this? It is something people immediately notice and it totally betrays my emotions when, at times, I would rather keep them hidden. \n\nThanks.", "How to stop yourself from shaking out of nervousness Some people's voices crack when they are nervous, or they go white or become lost for words. I can completely maintain my composure mentally. Unfortunately, I start to shake as though I am in the cold or in some horrible state of shock. \n\nA girl I was casually seeing said she wanted to end things. I thought \"right, get up and play this cool and dignified\". Of course, I began jittering like a Parkinson's patient the moment I went to gather my stuff, and I am sure that freaked her out. \n\nLast week I had to give a class presentation. Shook like crazy.\n\nAny tips to stop this? It is something people immediately notice and it totally betrays my emotions when, at times, I would rather keep them hidden. \n\nThanks.", "How to stop yourself from shaking out of nervousness Some people's voices crack when they are nervous, or they go white or become lost for words. I can completely maintain my composure mentally. Unfortunately, I start to shake as though I am in the cold or in some horrible state of shock. \n\nA girl I was casually seeing said she wanted to end things. I thought \"right, get up and play this cool and dignified\". Of course, I began jittering like a Parkinson's patient the moment I went to gather my stuff, and I am sure that freaked her out. \n\nLast week I had to give a class presentation. Shook like crazy.\n\nAny tips to stop this? It is something people immediately notice and it totally betrays my emotions when, at times, I would rather keep them hidden. \n\nThanks.", "How to stop yourself from shaking out of nervousness Some people's voices crack when they are nervous, or they go white or become lost for words. I can completely maintain my composure mentally. Unfortunately, I start to shake as though I am in the cold or in some horrible state of shock. \n\nA girl I was casually seeing said she wanted to end things. I thought \"right, get up and play this cool and dignified\". Of course, I began jittering like a Parkinson's patient the moment I went to gather my stuff, and I am sure that freaked her out. \n\nLast week I had to give a class presentation. Shook like crazy.\n\nAny tips to stop this? It is something people immediately notice and it totally betrays my emotions when, at times, I would rather keep them hidden. \n\nThanks." ]	[ "Two things to try. 1. Chew gum. Your body is reacting to a fight or flight (like a tiger is after you) situation so you are being flooded with adrenalin. If you are chewing something your body realizes there can't be a tiger chasing you if you are eating and you will calm down. 2. Graded exposure. Make a list of ten things 1 being easy and 10 being the most difficult. Then expose yourself to a 1 until you are comfortable, then a 2 and so one. Eventually your body will become accustomed to the situation and you won't shake.", "If you're shaking because of tons of nervous energy (aka pre presentation), a technique I use is literally shaking it out. It sounds ridiculous but I have to do a lot of investor presentations, and I get so nervous and I swear I feel like I'm vibrating, I'm shaking that much. My extremities go EXTREMELY cold when this happens too. So if I'm in my office I excuse myself to the bathroom (for a final \"hair check\"), and jump around on my toes, shake my arms, and stretch my back. (Don't flail so much that you run out of breath though. Enough to just loosen your tight muscles up).\n\nIf this is totally not possible, a seated stretch of the back, chest and neck helps, as well clenching and unclenching my hands. \n\nI find that with these methods I'm usually able to transfer at least some of my nervous energy into psych-up energy.", "This sounds completely counter-intuitive, because if you're anxious and shaking, your body is going to want you to tense up / lock up. But give it a try.\n\nPush your shoulders down and out. That will make you breathe differently, and that's okay - go with it. Slow and steady. It'll help, I promise.", "Former violinist here - I used to shake like a mofo during performances. But, like you, mentally, I was totally fine, knowing I just had to take on a challenge but my body wasn't cooperating. A lot of musicians turn to beta-blockers - http://www.thestrad.com/cpt-latests/is-popping-pills-the-sure-way-to-beat-performance-nerves/. I got a prescription for them easily. Might be worth checking out.", "One technique you may like to try is called 'padding'. When you begin to feel the nerves, and the shakes are starting to kick in, gently but firmly pad your feet, which is to move them up and down, left up, left down, right up, right down, and so on, as though you're walking on the spot. It can help fool the brain into thinking that you're walking away from that stressful situation. It works well when you're sitting down.\n\nI'm also a fan of breathing exercises - make sure to practice a good time before hand, maybe including visualisation. It could be worth while reading up on hypnosis and m", "Whenever my hand shakes, I will put down everything I'm holding and shove my hands into my pockets or just put them behind where no one will be able to see them. If I hold something, the shaking will be very obvious. \n\nIf it's my whole body, I will just move around. Though I make sure my movements are relevant like I walk across from one side to another to take a whiteboard marker or walk in front to an audience to ask a question related to the presentation. \n\nThose are my ways of handling it. When I walk around or move, my nervousness level decrease. By engaging with audience and getting feedback, I also know that my audience are paying attention and not bored which release the tension a bit. \n\nEye contact is also important to show confidence. I don't actually look at my audience in the eye but I look past them. It seems like I'm looking straight at them but most of the time I'm looking at something behind them. \n\nI also make jokes sometimes to ease the tension. Besides, if I do shake like crazy, I'll just smile and say something funny like, \"Damn, I'm so nervous.\" or \"I think I'm having parkinsons now. NO OFFENCE TO PARKINSONS PATIENTS!\" It'll make audience laugh and ease my tension. Just learn to relax and don't be afraid to make fun of yourself. ", "It's just fear bro. Charge on. The more you put yourself out there in uncomfortable situations the more you'll see there is nothing to be nervous about. Niels Bohr said \"An expert is a man who has made all the mistakes which can be made, in a narrow field\". I used to shake when installs went badly at a client's, but not since I gained some experience and perspective on the what I perceived as 'pressure'. ", "http://youtu.be/4fogu_zWRXU?list=LLGxyInFcUX6_t7ZmKLevUUQ\n1-taking huge deep breaths will help you relax.\n2 have an exit plan or calm verbal reaction ready to get yourself out of the situations.\n ie \"I don't like how this situation is going down ex gf so I'm gonna take my stuff a leave\"", "I used to be exactly like you until I started jogging 3 times a week for 20-30 minutes. It reduces anxiety immensely, and I still notice anxiety coming back if I don't run for a week or so.\n\nGetting exercise is not only healthy, but most of the time you can avoid taking drugs with possible side effects and you'll feel better about life in general.\n\nAnyway, the shaking is just your body reacting naturally to the situation. When your woman broke up with you, you were scared or angry or something, but you tried to hold it back. If you just let it out instead, the shaking wouldn't happen because the shaking is from trying to hold it back.\n\nSame thing goes for if you're giving a speech and your voice is shaky. Your body wants you to talk louder or more energetically. If you talk louder and more forcefully, the shaking will subside.", "I had this problem too. for some reason being SUPER warm helped. like wear a sweater under a sweatshirt. you might sweat but its helps the shakes", "Being nervous sucks, failure can't be much worse. So just stop caring about the outcome and try to enjoy the moment. I find that shifting your mindset this way helps a lot. " ]	[ 23, 11, 6, 6, 5, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "what do you all do for lunch on work days? I am tired of eating out every day, plus it gets really expensive. ", "what do you all do for lunch on work days? I am tired of eating out every day, plus it gets really expensive. ", "what do you all do for lunch on work days? I am tired of eating out every day, plus it gets really expensive. ", "what do you all do for lunch on work days? I am tired of eating out every day, plus it gets really expensive. ", "what do you all do for lunch on work days? I am tired of eating out every day, plus it gets really expensive. ", "what do you all do for lunch on work days? I am tired of eating out every day, plus it gets really expensive. ", "what do you all do for lunch on work days? I am tired of eating out every day, plus it gets really expensive. ", "what do you all do for lunch on work days? I am tired of eating out every day, plus it gets really expensive. ", "what do you all do for lunch on work days? I am tired of eating out every day, plus it gets really expensive. ", "what do you all do for lunch on work days? I am tired of eating out every day, plus it gets really expensive. ", "what do you all do for lunch on work days? I am tired of eating out every day, plus it gets really expensive. ", "what do you all do for lunch on work days? I am tired of eating out every day, plus it gets really expensive. ", "what do you all do for lunch on work days? I am tired of eating out every day, plus it gets really expensive. ", "what do you all do for lunch on work days? I am tired of eating out every day, plus it gets really expensive. ", "what do you all do for lunch on work days? I am tired of eating out every day, plus it gets really expensive. ", "what do you all do for lunch on work days? I am tired of eating out every day, plus it gets really expensive. ", "what do you all do for lunch on work days? I am tired of eating out every day, plus it gets really expensive. ", "what do you all do for lunch on work days? I am tired of eating out every day, plus it gets really expensive. ", "what do you all do for lunch on work days? I am tired of eating out every day, plus it gets really expensive. ", "what do you all do for lunch on work days? I am tired of eating out every day, plus it gets really expensive. ", "what do you all do for lunch on work days? I am tired of eating out every day, plus it gets really expensive. ", "what do you all do for lunch on work days? I am tired of eating out every day, plus it gets really expensive. ", "what do you all do for lunch on work days? I am tired of eating out every day, plus it gets really expensive. " ]	[ "Make lunch! Buy yourself a lunchbox and some decent food containers and start bringing things with you. It will take some prep work, but salads are super easy to prepare ahead of time and are really great ways to get a good lunch without having to heat something up. Make massive sandwiches. Start bringing leftovers or cook meals that are easy if you have a microwave handy.\n\nYou can pack snacks in there too. Granola, a little cup of hummus and carrots or pita, beef jerky, really whatever you want!\n\nI think it's kind of fun to go grocery shopping specifically for work. There are a lot of to-go options once you start looking and it's pretty convenient to always have something to eat.", "Leftovers, or better yet set out a large crockpot, put it on low, and make a large amount of food for the entire week only for lunches. I personally make my lunch for work while I’m making dinner the night before. I work a very physical job, so I eat a heavy lunch(as big as dinner, sometimes larger than my dinner). If you sit in an office, you can just make a few peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, and bring some fruit and nuts to snack on.", "If you aren’t into cooking or prepping your meal, try getting a pack of subs from the grocery store. Wrap them individually and take one a day. My local grocery sells a family pack of 4 subs for cheap. Bonus is you can add any extra ingredients you like, such as hot peppers, or extra dressing for very little extra cost. Meals for 4 days and eat out 1 day a week. Works for me.", "What I have is a wheat bun, frozen chicken patty, a slice of cheese, and some ketchup. I will change the flavor up occasionally by adding a random spice from the cabinets. This makes buying in bulk easier and they are tasty. Only issue is that it requires a microwave.\n\n", "Shamefully most of the time. Microwave meals. But i do love to make some pb and j and bring a banana with some Caprisuns and a soda and lots of water. Occasionally some orange or apple juice. Cut the banana up and put it on my sandwich. Make meals at the end of the week and freeze them. Lots of things. But it depends on what your willing to deal with.", "Lots of hot food can be brought in a good thermos if a microwave isn't readily available. Get a set of extra long forks or spoons, and fill it up with soup/stew/meatballs and rice/spaghetti/curry/etc. \n\nPro tip: fill it with boiling water before you dump the food in. Pour the water out then fill it. It'll be hot inside so the metal won't absorb some of the heat of the food and cool it off.", "I pack meals. Usually I just make a giant pot of rice, season it however I want and put in a container along with some frozen vegetables. Then I microwave the whole thing when I'm on lunch break.", "Don’t be afraid to buy a really nice and expensive lunch container system - you’ll recoup the cost in one week, two tops. Whatever works so that you can prepare and take food to work.", "r/mealprepsunday has some very creative ideas. They take time (like a half day of cooking) but the results are pretty great. Usually each post also has a recipe.", "i try to keep the following at the office at all times\n\nbreakfast\noatmeal\ncereal(milk in vendo's downstairs)\nOvaltine\n\n\n\nlunch/fuk i'm stuck here all night again\nflavored tuna/chicken packets(spicy thai chili tuna/buffy chicken are my favorites)\npeanut butter/honey(real raw honey)/jelly(in the little individual packets)\npretzels/chex mix/chrisp\nsoups(various from chili's,tortilla,tomato bisque)\ncrackers(see chicken/tuna packets)\nrice cakes(see PBJ stuff)\nnutz (multiple kinds)\nnormally a few nukable insta meals (so compleats/mac and cheese,pasta,ect)\ngood dried ramen (so like the yakasoba's you get at the thia market, that i throw a chicken packet into)\nsnacks(jerky/beefsticks/cheese crackers/granola/popcorn/fig bars)\ngood dark chocolate, and some reese's cause their my bosses favorite and its hard to be pissed at someone you just nicked a peanut butter cup from\nDrinks\nhot tea(many flavored types along with strong breakfast tea's)\nMIO squash drink mixers (lemon,cherry,strawberry,orange,grape)\n*nescafe's 3-1's and hot chocos \n\nwhen we went back to the office (part time) after restrictions were lifted i had to throw away like a small pantry's worth of food :(", "Well Monday I am having Leftover Kielbasa and Perogis. Tomorrow I am debating on taking a TV dinner or baking a frozen Eggplant Parm dinner. I usually eat that for a few days. My all time favorite lunch of all time is (believe it or not) Peanut butter and Fluff.", "Sometimes instead of going to a restaurant for takeout I'd stop in at the grocery store and and buy something pre-made (sandwich, premade salad bowl, something from the hot bar, etc) or a quick microwavable meal for cheaper. Still didn't require any prep work since I wasn't packing it but requires your work be near a store. Not as cost effective as prepping yourself but it's a step in the right direction.\n\nOtherwise if you're packing food, I'd add the canned soup, tuna, easy mac, and eggs to the list others made. Hard boiled are great for not microwaving. If you prefer a hot lunch, a $5 microwave omlette maker would allow you to just pack a carton of eggs, pack of deli ham and sliced cheese for the week to make in the moment.", "Michelina's or Stouffers frozen meals. Even a pot pie will do. I used to hit the grocery salad bar occasionally for two days worth of lunch.", "I’m kind of a snacker so I ate a few of those protein packs from Starbucks and collected the boxes. Ima make my own ones sort of like a meal prep thang", "It sounds like maybe you need to work on making it a habit as well. It'll take some discipline the first few days but after about a week or two it'll be much easier.", "In addition to all the other suggestions for packing lunches, there are frozen entrees designed to be microwaved. Like frozen lasagna, Chinese food, burritos, hot pockets and many other things in the frozen foods section of your grocery store.\n\nIf you have a freezer at work (and nobody will steal your food), you could even bring in several days or a week's worth. By themselves, not the most complete lunch you'll ever have, but you can bring in other things like fruit or yogurt or what have you.", "If you have access to a microwave or freezer, get some TV dinners. Pick a healthy brand though. They can have a lot of salt.", "I'm super lucky and only live a few blocks from work, so I go home and eat leftovers from last night's supper.", "I'm pretty lazy about making food so I like to keep it simple and do my grocery shopping on the weekend for the week and usually eat the same thing for lunch every day. Typically I rotate between sandwiches, salads or wraps (meaning I would eat the same sandwich for a week then the same salad the next week, etc). Occasionally I just buy random things and eat them as a meal - like an orange, nuts, cheese stick and a hard boiled egg (easy to buy enough for the week).", "I make a ham and cheese sandwich or some other sandwich when i run out of ham or cheese. If there are leftovers i will take those also", "I grill a ton of chicken breasts on the the weekend. Then I have a nice meal and toss the rest in the fridge. The next day I slice it up pretty thin. I use this lean protein to make myself a great lunch like a spinach filled wrap, a low calorie chicken and broccoli Alfredo (no pasta), a burrito and I usually just eat the chicken as is. I like to buy the Ziplock bag and steamer bags and buy tons of broccoli. It's easy.", "I always forget to bring my lunch too. Sometimes I just get a loaf of bread, lunch meat, pack of cheese, and mayo and leave it in a bag in the fridge at work. Depending on how much storage space you have you can also do the same for chips, snacks, and drinks. I usually just bring enough for the week since our break room is cleaned out once a week.", "First- Do you even have access to a microwave? If not, that eliminates a lot of things you could bring. How much time do you have- if it takes 12 minutes to microwave leftovers, will you have still have time to eat them?\n\nSecond- How about a fridge? Is it worth fighting for fridge space? Do you have fridge thieves? If you want to skip the whole public use fridge questions, do you have a place to store a lunchbag with ice packs, and if yes, can you remember to put the icepacks/ half filled water bottle into the freezer at home every night?\n\n \nThird- how much energy do you have- Its best to visit your locker or use the restroom (wash your hands!) so you're doing things while your food cooks, but if those are far away you'll spend all your time walking back and forth and not get a restful break.\n\nYou can skip a lot of the above if you focus on foods that are shelf stable and taste good without extra heat, or things that only need minor cold- a couple cans of soda or a waterbottle (refilled and stored overnight in the fridge, we're saving money here!) in an insulated lunchbag will keep most stuff chill for a few hours. Any combination of sandwiches, chips, veggies and hummus or dip, antipasta, pickled things, hardboiled eggs (leave the shell on until ready to eat), cheese and crackers, pastries, bagel, nuts, fruit (whole or packaged). Hell, you can have cereal and shelf-stable milk if that's your jive. LOTS of options exist. Walk up and down the isles at the store and look for things you like to eat then consider what it would take to put that in a lunch.\n\nPacking a lunch isn't more work than going out and getting something and it IS a whole lot cheaper! Pack enough to make it filling and cover your calorie needs.\n\nPersonally, I worked in a warehouse and went the insulated bag, low chill route with a can of soda and a frozen water bottle as my 'icepacks'. Lunch might include any mix of peanut butter and apples or carrots; pickles or olives with peperoni slices & sliced cheese; bagel with cream cheese; pastries/pop-tarts; chips/crackers; tomato and motz with balsamic vinegar (that needs fork or chopsticks, which I can wipe clean and leave in my bag), summer sausage or other cured/ shelf stable meat." ]	[ 8, 8, 7, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How long to keep important documents? I have a file cabinet full of documents, I am wondering how long I should hold on to things like pay stubs, utility bills and tax information; one year, five years, forever? I searched several subreddits but did not find any relevant posts. Thank you!", "How long to keep important documents? I have a file cabinet full of documents, I am wondering how long I should hold on to things like pay stubs, utility bills and tax information; one year, five years, forever? I searched several subreddits but did not find any relevant posts. Thank you!", "How long to keep important documents? I have a file cabinet full of documents, I am wondering how long I should hold on to things like pay stubs, utility bills and tax information; one year, five years, forever? I searched several subreddits but did not find any relevant posts. Thank you!", "How long to keep important documents? I have a file cabinet full of documents, I am wondering how long I should hold on to things like pay stubs, utility bills and tax information; one year, five years, forever? I searched several subreddits but did not find any relevant posts. Thank you!" ]	[ "Taxes: I'm no cpa, but I keep last 7 years. In a separate 'archives' box. Have scanned copies of all though... So probably overkill to keep original.\r\rFor my physical files I try to question anything over 2 years old and toss if haven't used. Any maybes I'll scan then toss. File cabinet overcrowding is what keeps it from being useful.\r\rI scan all receipts now, stores will accept printed copies. So they are text searchable. I used to use a receipt file with a tab for every month and put anything that MAY need to be returned there. So you put that shirt receipt in 'march'. Next march rolls around and when you go to plop a march 2014 receipt in you see the shirt from 12 months ago. Toss it then. \r\rBills and stuff. Since everything is online you need to imagine a scenario where you'd NEED that physical copy AND you couldn't print at that time... Before filing anything, imagine getting that paper later.... If you can't imagine why....toss it now!\r\rSome might say 'but what about using bills for taxes'. If you even suspect something is a tax write off then you should be filing it in '2013 taxes' now instead of next April.\r\rIf you think you want a full physical record of every utility bill and pay stub then consider moving them to 'archive' boxes once a year away from your 'living' files. At least them occupying a tiny corner of your basement will minimize the cost of having them in your life.", "rent a scanner and convert them to electronic copies, you could probably boil everything down to only a couple flash drives.\n\ni did that when helping my neighbor move after she was forclosed on.\n\nshe had 247 boxes of papers from when she was a morgage consultant that she was obligated to keep, but she didnt have the room for.\n\nwe got 6 scanners and organised the whole thing on flash drives by year, month, date, file and name.", "Suze Orman has a [great guide](http://apps.suzeorman.com/igsbase/igstemplate.cfm?SRC=MD012&SRCN=aoedetails&GnavID=84&SnavID=20&TnavID&AreasofExpertiseID=17) on this topic. :)", "Here is my filing system: \n\nDrawer 1: Permanent records including taxes, passport, mortgage, auto title and maintenance receipts, insurance, investments, etc. I don't go into this drawer very often. I have 15 years of tax records, which I probably don't need, but there's room so I keep them. At the back are the longer-term folders, like mortgage and divorce settlement. At the front are more current folders I may need to access, such as insurance docs and a folder with passports and birth certificates. When I get yearly statements, I file these away in this drawer too.\n\nDrawer 2: Monthly statements, bills and receipts. I have 12 folders, one per month, and file everything that way. If I need to find an old bill or receipt or statement, it's not too difficult to find it by month. When a new month starts, I trash all the items from the previous year for that month, because my assumption is I no longer need it. If it's a receipt I need for taxes, that goes in a separate folder, so it's all together when tax time comes around. \n\nI used to file everything by category \"utilities\" \"cr" ]	[ 4, 3, 3, 3 ]	safe
[ "Avoiding tiny mistakes I just started working for a brand new company, and I feel like I keep making tiny mistakes. One after another after another. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips on how to teach yourself to catch these mistakes? My eyes just naturally skim through everything because I think I typed one thing and ", "Avoiding tiny mistakes I just started working for a brand new company, and I feel like I keep making tiny mistakes. One after another after another. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips on how to teach yourself to catch these mistakes? My eyes just naturally skim through everything because I think I typed one thing and ", "Avoiding tiny mistakes I just started working for a brand new company, and I feel like I keep making tiny mistakes. One after another after another. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips on how to teach yourself to catch these mistakes? My eyes just naturally skim through everything because I think I typed one thing and ", "Avoiding tiny mistakes I just started working for a brand new company, and I feel like I keep making tiny mistakes. One after another after another. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips on how to teach yourself to catch these mistakes? My eyes just naturally skim through everything because I think I typed one thing and " ]	[ "Take a break between writing and ", "Pretend you are reading it to someone, like trying to teach the subject to a beginner. It helps with homework too. ", "Print what you're proofreading. It doesn't matter how many times I read something on screen, when I look at a print out I'll catch something new. Also make dedicated passes for things to tend to make mistakes on. For example, if you tend to forget punctuation, make a pass where you only look at punctuation and don't even read all of the words.", "Like cpuetz says, print it out. Then physically check it word by word or number by number, literally move your finger under each word as you go, comparing it to the original or what you were intending. \n\nTune in to the idea of 'drafts'. That first print out is 'checkprint 1'. Maybe you go back and fix things, then do a checkprint 2. Don't call it 'final' til it's really been checked. \n\nIf you have a buddy in the office, swap and proof each other's stuff because sometimes that is much more thorough, unless the other person can't spell or is distracted. " ]	[ 3, 3, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to not sound groggy on the phone when you've just woken up Nothing irritates me more when I'm having a nap or someone calls me in the morning and the first thing they say to me on the phone is, \"Sorry, were you sleeping?\" Is there any little trick to do so that your voice doesn't have that sound as if you were just sleeping. This happens to me sometimes even if I've been awake for a couple hours but haven't spoken to anyone yet so I still have that raspyness in my voice. ", "How to not sound groggy on the phone when you've just woken up Nothing irritates me more when I'm having a nap or someone calls me in the morning and the first thing they say to me on the phone is, \"Sorry, were you sleeping?\" Is there any little trick to do so that your voice doesn't have that sound as if you were just sleeping. This happens to me sometimes even if I've been awake for a couple hours but haven't spoken to anyone yet so I still have that raspyness in my voice. ", "How to not sound groggy on the phone when you've just woken up Nothing irritates me more when I'm having a nap or someone calls me in the morning and the first thing they say to me on the phone is, \"Sorry, were you sleeping?\" Is there any little trick to do so that your voice doesn't have that sound as if you were just sleeping. This happens to me sometimes even if I've been awake for a couple hours but haven't spoken to anyone yet so I still have that raspyness in my voice. " ]	[ "Smile.\n\nWhen you smile before talking it comes thru on the other end. When answering the phones at work we are taught to smile before picking up the phone and continuing to smile while we are talking. It works. Don't ask me how tho.", "Wait about 5 seconds before picking up, talking to yourself the whole time.. (good morning Memefather, why are these people calling you so early?) Even if you've gotta call back, you won't sound like you just woke up. \n", "I find raising the pitch of my voice works, but if you are a guy, your voice might just crack instead. " ]	[ 7, 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to deal with group social anxiety. I can't deal with being around over 5 people at once. I just shut up and freeze. any protips?", "How to deal with group social anxiety. I can't deal with being around over 5 people at once. I just shut up and freeze. any protips?", "How to deal with group social anxiety. I can't deal with being around over 5 people at once. I just shut up and freeze. any protips?", "How to deal with group social anxiety. I can't deal with being around over 5 people at once. I just shut up and freeze. any protips?", "How to deal with group social anxiety. I can't deal with being around over 5 people at once. I just shut up and freeze. any protips?" ]	[ "When I mess up in social situations or look like an idiot (or think I do) I try to remember how self centered I am being. Really though, the other people I'm around don't care about me as much as I think they do. I think about how much I am thinking about myself and then remember that they are most likely just as self centered as I am and that they probably just don't care. \n\nYou know that thing you did that time and everyone laughed at you and you obsessed about it for the rest of the night and went home feeling like a dick, maybe you even left wherever it was early? You are the only one who remembers it, no one else cares. They were continuing on with their conversations and thoughts and lives within seconds and simply have other things to worry about. Some of them suffer from the same feelings you do except they have learned to over come them. The first step is recognizing it, then talking about it, then you have to do something about it. \n\nI left my hometown for 8 years and went off to live life. Sure I came back to visit and tried to keep in touch with a few of the old friends. Now I am back in my hometown and most of my friends are still here. Some left though, some got married, there are new friends in the group that I don't know. Some people do different things now and some do the same old same, they all kept on living after I left, they didn't miss a beat. They may have missed me, as I missed them but we had separate lives. The point is that you are probably not as important as you think you are. Your expectations for yourself are probably too high and your ego is way out of wack (yes even egomaniacs can have inferiority complexes).\n\nTalk to a counselor you are not alone and you are not unique, I know what it is like to have crippling social anxiety, there is help available. or you could just get drunk.", "You're most likely an introvert and can't openly express yourself. If you're in a big group and want to socialize just try to pick someone out of the bunch and start a personal conversation with them away from the crowd. A little rude, yes, but if you're loud enough everyone will hear you two and no one will care.", "I used to be like that. I decided to choose to be in a crowd and chose to feel awkward. It became a game for me where I observed my own behavior and reaction. That choice to no longer avoid crowds got me over it. ", "I read a really great book that has helped my social anxiety immensely. It's called [How to Talk to Anyone](http://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Anyone-Success-Relationships/dp/007141858X/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1323963174&sr=1-1) by Leil Lowndes. It gives you really simple tips that improve your social skills... And thinking about these tips will give you something to think about other than how awkward you are, which also helps.", "Yea if you are that awkward, then I suggest you do shut the fuck up. Seriously, if you still haven't developed a personality and social skills to talk in a group, then I feel sorry for you. I sound like a dick, but seriously... seriously.. come on." ]	[ 21, 6, 6, 6, -6 ]	safe
[ "How to tell a business/professional they have a nervous tick? People often have nervous ticks during presentations and whatnot; some worse than others. A classmate of mine makes a loud click sound with his mouth when he is giving a presentation or is asking a question. He doesn't do it often, but when he does it's an obvious \"tick\" and he could easily avoid it.\n\nI know I would want to know If I had a tick that came off as unprofessional, so what is the easiest way to tell him without offending him? Thanks!\n\n", "How to tell a business/professional they have a nervous tick? People often have nervous ticks during presentations and whatnot; some worse than others. A classmate of mine makes a loud click sound with his mouth when he is giving a presentation or is asking a question. He doesn't do it often, but when he does it's an obvious \"tick\" and he could easily avoid it.\n\nI know I would want to know If I had a tick that came off as unprofessional, so what is the easiest way to tell him without offending him? Thanks!\n\n", "How to tell a business/professional they have a nervous tick? People often have nervous ticks during presentations and whatnot; some worse than others. A classmate of mine makes a loud click sound with his mouth when he is giving a presentation or is asking a question. He doesn't do it often, but when he does it's an obvious \"tick\" and he could easily avoid it.\n\nI know I would want to know If I had a tick that came off as unprofessional, so what is the easiest way to tell him without offending him? Thanks!\n\n", "How to tell a business/professional they have a nervous tick? People often have nervous ticks during presentations and whatnot; some worse than others. A classmate of mine makes a loud click sound with his mouth when he is giving a presentation or is asking a question. He doesn't do it often, but when he does it's an obvious \"tick\" and he could easily avoid it.\n\nI know I would want to know If I had a tick that came off as unprofessional, so what is the easiest way to tell him without offending him? Thanks!\n\n", "How to tell a business/professional they have a nervous tick? People often have nervous ticks during presentations and whatnot; some worse than others. A classmate of mine makes a loud click sound with his mouth when he is giving a presentation or is asking a question. He doesn't do it often, but when he does it's an obvious \"tick\" and he could easily avoid it.\n\nI know I would want to know If I had a tick that came off as unprofessional, so what is the easiest way to tell him without offending him? Thanks!\n\n", "How to tell a business/professional they have a nervous tick? People often have nervous ticks during presentations and whatnot; some worse than others. A classmate of mine makes a loud click sound with his mouth when he is giving a presentation or is asking a question. He doesn't do it often, but when he does it's an obvious \"tick\" and he could easily avoid it.\n\nI know I would want to know If I had a tick that came off as unprofessional, so what is the easiest way to tell him without offending him? Thanks!\n\n", "How to tell a business/professional they have a nervous tick? People often have nervous ticks during presentations and whatnot; some worse than others. A classmate of mine makes a loud click sound with his mouth when he is giving a presentation or is asking a question. He doesn't do it often, but when he does it's an obvious \"tick\" and he could easily avoid it.\n\nI know I would want to know If I had a tick that came off as unprofessional, so what is the easiest way to tell him without offending him? Thanks!\n\n", "How to tell a business/professional they have a nervous tick? People often have nervous ticks during presentations and whatnot; some worse than others. A classmate of mine makes a loud click sound with his mouth when he is giving a presentation or is asking a question. He doesn't do it often, but when he does it's an obvious \"tick\" and he could easily avoid it.\n\nI know I would want to know If I had a tick that came off as unprofessional, so what is the easiest way to tell him without offending him? Thanks!\n\n" ]	[ "As a mental health professional, I can tell you that this involuntary behaviour of your coworker should not be viewed as \"unprofessional\" as you put it. He's not doing this because he doesn't know any better, he's doing it because he has no control over it.\n\nMy suggestion is to not mention it to him, as I am sure he is already painfully aware of its presence. To do so would likely cause him extreme embarrassment. ", "He's probably already aware. Sometimes towards the end of a long day at work when I'm exhausted / a little stressed out my right eyebrow will start to twitch a little, or the muscles tighten up some. I know about it and I try and control it but I don't like when people bring it up.", "Before I even do a presentation, I let my audience know that I do have a mild speech impediment and somewhat of a tick. This is based of previous feedback from my audience. Im pretty sure this person does know. ", "What would be unprofessional is bringing it up. The fact they have a tick is not unprofessional. This is something you just get used to when you enter the working world. It's really not that big of a deal. \n\nIt's not like they smell or are dressed inappropriately. This would be the equivalent of saying a stutter is unprofessional. ", "I used to crack my knuckles when I got nervous while presenting. Also overused the word \"so\" as a filler leading into sentences while collecting my thoughts.\n\nUsually a group member or my boss would just pull me aside for regular feedback and mention it, saying \"stop doing that; it's distracting.\" That never bothered me because I knew that to progress and excel I needed to fix it.\n\nWhen practicing, I'd have someone watch and asked them to clap loudly every time I used a filler word or they observed any nervous behavior. After a while, while stressful at the time, I improved quite a bit and kicked those habits.\n\n", "Suggest they record themselves as practice...\n\nThen they will see it for themselves and be able to practicing on losing it.", "I have a minor tick. \n\nBelieve me. I know exactly when I do it. \n\nHe is nervous or anxious and can't really help it all that much. \n", "A tongue click like that sounds like something they are aware of, but can't control. It's a common tick in people with tourettes. They are often aware and very self conscious about it. " ]	[ 42, 6, 5, 4, 4, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "What are the best ways to react if you see that you are about to be in a car accident but cannot escape the situation? For example, you are stopped at a red light and can see that someone is about to run into the back of your car, but you cannot move your car? Or another example would be if you see a car coming at you but you are not able to move out of the way? How would you position yourself to sustain less injuries?", "What are the best ways to react if you see that you are about to be in a car accident but cannot escape the situation? For example, you are stopped at a red light and can see that someone is about to run into the back of your car, but you cannot move your car? Or another example would be if you see a car coming at you but you are not able to move out of the way? How would you position yourself to sustain less injuries?", "What are the best ways to react if you see that you are about to be in a car accident but cannot escape the situation? For example, you are stopped at a red light and can see that someone is about to run into the back of your car, but you cannot move your car? Or another example would be if you see a car coming at you but you are not able to move out of the way? How would you position yourself to sustain less injuries?", "What are the best ways to react if you see that you are about to be in a car accident but cannot escape the situation? For example, you are stopped at a red light and can see that someone is about to run into the back of your car, but you cannot move your car? Or another example would be if you see a car coming at you but you are not able to move out of the way? How would you position yourself to sustain less injuries?", "What are the best ways to react if you see that you are about to be in a car accident but cannot escape the situation? For example, you are stopped at a red light and can see that someone is about to run into the back of your car, but you cannot move your car? Or another example would be if you see a car coming at you but you are not able to move out of the way? How would you position yourself to sustain less injuries?", "What are the best ways to react if you see that you are about to be in a car accident but cannot escape the situation? For example, you are stopped at a red light and can see that someone is about to run into the back of your car, but you cannot move your car? Or another example would be if you see a car coming at you but you are not able to move out of the way? How would you position yourself to sustain less injuries?", "What are the best ways to react if you see that you are about to be in a car accident but cannot escape the situation? For example, you are stopped at a red light and can see that someone is about to run into the back of your car, but you cannot move your car? Or another example would be if you see a car coming at you but you are not able to move out of the way? How would you position yourself to sustain less injuries?", "What are the best ways to react if you see that you are about to be in a car accident but cannot escape the situation? For example, you are stopped at a red light and can see that someone is about to run into the back of your car, but you cannot move your car? Or another example would be if you see a car coming at you but you are not able to move out of the way? How would you position yourself to sustain less injuries?", "What are the best ways to react if you see that you are about to be in a car accident but cannot escape the situation? For example, you are stopped at a red light and can see that someone is about to run into the back of your car, but you cannot move your car? Or another example would be if you see a car coming at you but you are not able to move out of the way? How would you position yourself to sustain less injuries?", "What are the best ways to react if you see that you are about to be in a car accident but cannot escape the situation? For example, you are stopped at a red light and can see that someone is about to run into the back of your car, but you cannot move your car? Or another example would be if you see a car coming at you but you are not able to move out of the way? How would you position yourself to sustain less injuries?", "What are the best ways to react if you see that you are about to be in a car accident but cannot escape the situation? For example, you are stopped at a red light and can see that someone is about to run into the back of your car, but you cannot move your car? Or another example would be if you see a car coming at you but you are not able to move out of the way? How would you position yourself to sustain less injuries?", "What are the best ways to react if you see that you are about to be in a car accident but cannot escape the situation? For example, you are stopped at a red light and can see that someone is about to run into the back of your car, but you cannot move your car? Or another example would be if you see a car coming at you but you are not able to move out of the way? How would you position yourself to sustain less injuries?", "What are the best ways to react if you see that you are about to be in a car accident but cannot escape the situation? For example, you are stopped at a red light and can see that someone is about to run into the back of your car, but you cannot move your car? Or another example would be if you see a car coming at you but you are not able to move out of the way? How would you position yourself to sustain less injuries?", "What are the best ways to react if you see that you are about to be in a car accident but cannot escape the situation? For example, you are stopped at a red light and can see that someone is about to run into the back of your car, but you cannot move your car? Or another example would be if you see a car coming at you but you are not able to move out of the way? How would you position yourself to sustain less injuries?" ]	[ "Get as relaxed as a drunk blowing .10 plus. They seem to almost always survive the crashes they're in.", "Former EMT here that saw many car wrecks, tensing/ bracing up is the worst thing you can do. I've seen broken hips from people locking their body up for a small crash. A clean car is also good, everything goes flying when you crash.", "If you are in the back, cross your arms on the seat of front of you and duck your head. I survived a car crash that killed two people because if that. (It's what they tell you to do on airplanes.)", "You can help yourself BEFORE the crash: loose and heavy items in your car can hurt you. Put stuff in your trunk when possible.", "If you honk, you might be able to get the accident causer's attention so they try to avoid the impact. They will probably hit you, but will have less velocity if they applied the brakes.", "These are both scenarios where there isn't anything to do but relax. In other inescapable situations when your still in motion there are other considerations to make. Where do you want to take the hit on your car for example. If you're going to be T-boned or take a corner shot you can try to lead with crumple zones, or take the hit on a or c pillar by slowing down or speeding up, depending on who's in the car with you. In any in motion accident you can immediately start looking for that soft landing pad. So you can avoid taking a hit and then steering into a school or a gas station or off a drop like an overpass. Theres also other things to consider, many \"inescapable\" situations are actually a matter of picking your devil. You might avoid taking a head on, but you'd have to rear end someone. That choice could be the difference between high insurance premiums and a wheelchair, or a coffin. Ultimately you want to be hyper aware when driving. Turn off your fucking phone and keep the radio reasonable, maintain a mental awareness of alternate routes in real time, open lanes, fast and slow traffic, shoulder activity and so on. Last but not least the one piece of advice that has always server me well; Do not do the unexpected. If you fuck and you're going to run a red, fucking run it. Don't half stop or slow in intersection, that shit will kill you. Change lanes in an intersection?, were halfway into the exit lane on the freeway before you realized its not your exit? Deal with it. Most accidents I've seen, and I drove Tow for AAA, CHP and SBPD, were caused by someone making a minor, insignificant, probably entirely unnoticeable mistake and than over correcting because of panic or because they can't be bothered with whatever inconvenience they had created for themselves so they start making shit up as they go and pretty soon there flipping a u-turn where they shouldn't or turning from the wrong lane or whatever. ", "Glad this came up, I was rear ended while stopped 2 weeks ago. This also happened to me in 1995 and the collision jammed both doors and I had to wait until the fire department could get me out. I could have broken a window or the windshield, but I was in no danger and saw no sense in making the damage worse. \n\nI didn't panic, I just cracked my door open a bit right before she hit me, I could see her on the cell phone, dumb bitch. Her airbags went off, burned her face and shoved her cell phone up her nose, she was bleeding like crazy. My door would not shut after I got out, so I presume it would have jammed if it had been closed. \n\n", "Pull your feet back as far as you can to the seat so they don't get trapped in the footwell if the front end is crushed", "I've found saying \"oh shit\" is the most effective thing I can do.\n\nUntil after the accident. Then, I replay it again and again in my mind and I could have jumped through the window, or jumped in the back seat, or thrown a knife through the eye of the other driver, or put it in gear and accelerated across the front lawn of the police station, etc etc etc", "1) Be aware of your situation and surroundings. Quickly assess what is the danger level. Car speeds, car sizes, pedestrians, fellow passengers, objects in your car, cross traffic, dividers, and shoulders all become things that need consideration.\n\n2) React appropriately. Will yelling help? Do I take my foot of my brakes? Do I stand on my brake? Do I turn my steering wheel. These all actions that you can take before the collision occcurs.\n\n3) Relax. Breath deeply.\n\n4) Let the collision occur and then let it play out. You can't stop it from happening, so just let it happen.\n\n5) Be prepared to react after words. If you are still in danger, is it possible to get out of danger. React as necessary. Don't risk additional injury.\n\nAfter the collision, repeat the steps above and first and foremost get out of the danger zone. If you are on the freeway and you can safely get off the freeway do that. If not, stay in your car and wait for emergency services to arrive. Once the situation is safe, then go back and start trading insurance information. Do not try to place or accept blame. Let the insurance companies do that. Just exchange information.\n\n", "As soon as you notice what's about to happen a simple thought of \"well... this is gonna suck\" and accepting what's about to happen. Helps you relax.", "> How would you position yourself to sustain less injuries?\n\nCars are designed around the driver, so there's nothing much for you to do.", "Spontaneous human combustion.\n\nOr try and relax. No lies, go limp; a nurse once told me that the reason drunk people survive a lot of vehicular accidents is because they have no control over their bodies, thus relax, and survive (however, lack of control typically causes the accidents in the first place, so.....)", "Brake to the floor is usually good. Try to take off as much speed as possible. Most people think they're braking as hard as possible, but they actually aren't. Put the fucking pedal on the floor." ]	[ 42, 15, 14, 8, 8, 7, 5, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to be more attentive I'm a very inattentive person. I have troubles searching a specific item out of list of 20, I constantly fail to see mistakes in adresses or phone numbers and filling in forms is a torture for me. On the other hand I'm okay with keeping attention on specific activity like reading or learning. The problem is only with these minor things.\n\nReddit, I really need help with it. Do you have any tips that can help me?", "How to be more attentive I'm a very inattentive person. I have troubles searching a specific item out of list of 20, I constantly fail to see mistakes in adresses or phone numbers and filling in forms is a torture for me. On the other hand I'm okay with keeping attention on specific activity like reading or learning. The problem is only with these minor things.\n\nReddit, I really need help with it. Do you have any tips that can help me?", "How to be more attentive I'm a very inattentive person. I have troubles searching a specific item out of list of 20, I constantly fail to see mistakes in adresses or phone numbers and filling in forms is a torture for me. On the other hand I'm okay with keeping attention on specific activity like reading or learning. The problem is only with these minor things.\n\nReddit, I really need help with it. Do you have any tips that can help me?" ]	[ "I read somewhere once that when ", "Try [practicing m", "Are you inattentive, or are you in too much of a rush? People tend to rush through things they feel they are bad at, or are afraid of, or are bored with. Maybe you just need to try a slow down, like a breath between every item on a list or every entry on a form. I'm sure you're smart enough to do these things correctly as you're attentive enough for a classroom." ]	[ 7, 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "Getting rid of a Greasy Face Okay, so my deal is: Day or night, right out of the shower or after a day of work, hot or cold; my face has a constant insufferable glisten. I've tried alcohol-based products, and even straight up alcohol on a cotton-ball. Any tips?", "Getting rid of a Greasy Face Okay, so my deal is: Day or night, right out of the shower or after a day of work, hot or cold; my face has a constant insufferable glisten. I've tried alcohol-based products, and even straight up alcohol on a cotton-ball. Any tips?", "Getting rid of a Greasy Face Okay, so my deal is: Day or night, right out of the shower or after a day of work, hot or cold; my face has a constant insufferable glisten. I've tried alcohol-based products, and even straight up alcohol on a cotton-ball. Any tips?", "Getting rid of a Greasy Face Okay, so my deal is: Day or night, right out of the shower or after a day of work, hot or cold; my face has a constant insufferable glisten. I've tried alcohol-based products, and even straight up alcohol on a cotton-ball. Any tips?", "Getting rid of a Greasy Face Okay, so my deal is: Day or night, right out of the shower or after a day of work, hot or cold; my face has a constant insufferable glisten. I've tried alcohol-based products, and even straight up alcohol on a cotton-ball. Any tips?", "Getting rid of a Greasy Face Okay, so my deal is: Day or night, right out of the shower or after a day of work, hot or cold; my face has a constant insufferable glisten. I've tried alcohol-based products, and even straight up alcohol on a cotton-ball. Any tips?", "Getting rid of a Greasy Face Okay, so my deal is: Day or night, right out of the shower or after a day of work, hot or cold; my face has a constant insufferable glisten. I've tried alcohol-based products, and even straight up alcohol on a cotton-ball. Any tips?", "Getting rid of a Greasy Face Okay, so my deal is: Day or night, right out of the shower or after a day of work, hot or cold; my face has a constant insufferable glisten. I've tried alcohol-based products, and even straight up alcohol on a cotton-ball. Any tips?", "Getting rid of a Greasy Face Okay, so my deal is: Day or night, right out of the shower or after a day of work, hot or cold; my face has a constant insufferable glisten. I've tried alcohol-based products, and even straight up alcohol on a cotton-ball. Any tips?", "Getting rid of a Greasy Face Okay, so my deal is: Day or night, right out of the shower or after a day of work, hot or cold; my face has a constant insufferable glisten. I've tried alcohol-based products, and even straight up alcohol on a cotton-ball. Any tips?", "Getting rid of a Greasy Face Okay, so my deal is: Day or night, right out of the shower or after a day of work, hot or cold; my face has a constant insufferable glisten. I've tried alcohol-based products, and even straight up alcohol on a cotton-ball. Any tips?" ]	[ "facial blotting paper. \n\neither that or wash your face every morning and then right afterwards put on a gentle moisturizer on your skin. this keeps your face from producing more oil to replace what you washed away. ", "I'm super oily myself, and the first thing I'll tell you is...stop it with the alcohol! You should avoid skin products with alcohol because it's a skin irritant. Also avoid menthol, and many other skin irritants...your skin will thank you with less oil production.\n\nYou should still moisturize, per the suggestions of other users, but I recommend a gel moisturizer because lotions are too heavy for oily faces like ours. I really like Paula's Choice products, because she offers products based on your level of oiliness...many of her products come in gel or liquid forms for us oily folk. And I love her \"Shine Stopper\" mattifying gel. Feels kind of like lotion/sunscreen, but you only need a little, just once a day, and it'll really stop the oil in it's tracks. Doesn't feel heavy either.\n\nI promise, I'm not some Paula's Choice rep, just a big fan of her products.", "nerdscallmegeek has it right. I know this sounds counter intuitive, but moisturize. I have the same problem and using alcohol or any other astringent will make the problem worse by over drying your skin. \n\nThe tricky part is finding the right moisturizer. You want to look for something that is designed for oily skin. If you don't have any facial blotting papers, a tissue, toilet paper or the toilet seat cover paper works really well.", "milk of magnesia will close those pores right up. also visit a dermatologist for tetracyclein or hormones for a long term fix", "When you go to bed put a towel over your pillow. Sleep on said towel. Then, the next morning, flip it over to the other side, and sleep on that side that night. Replace with a clean towel the next day. The idea behind this is to keep the excess oils that build up while you're sleeping from gathering where you lay your head every night. This with regular washing and other methods you may see here should help.", "Try a Tea Tree Oil based product that you would leave on your face all day. [This](http://www.lushusa.com/Tea-Tree-Water/9999900405,en_US,pd.html?start=1&q=tea%20tree%20water) is a good toner for all over care or [this](http://www.lushusa.com/Grease-Lightning/02896,en_US,pd.html?start=4&cgid=cleansers) is good for difficult spots.", "My skin sucks. I switched to Dove, and stopped using other chemicals and alcohols and moisturisers and everything. It has helped immensely. No more reflections on my nose :)", "Instead of buying facial blotting paper, use toilet seat covers from public restrooms... (or buy them online somewhere if that creeps you out?) It's the same type of paper.", "Two things that helped me out. Work out vigorously is in more running, this makes you have less oily skin. Also the Fasting Diet. I can confirm within 2 weeks you will have less oily skin.", "Like others have said, avoid products with alcohol.\n\nOne tip that I read somewhere in the interwebs a couple of years ago is to use a non-alcoholic base toner. I've been using Neutrogena's alcohol free toner [link](http://www.neutrogena.com/product/alcohol-free+toner.do)\n\nOR\n\nI've also heard that witch hazel or willow bark is pretty good for the skin and I've tried [this](http://www.burtsbees.com/natural-products/face-care-facial-exfoliants-toners/natural-acne-solutions-clarifying-toner.html)\n\nThey've worked pretty well for me.\n\nI buy jumbo cotton balls and squirt some of the toner stuff onto it and then dab/wipe my face after washing my face. It acts like a moisturizer and also removes the dirt that clung on after washing my face. So it's a win win.\n\nOh yeah. Also, I've been using Cetaphil since High School and it's the best thing ever. [link](http://www.cetaphil.com/products/gentle-skin-cleanser)\n\n", "I have combination skin, it gets more oily in the warmer months. This is what I've found works for me. I wash my face at night using a face wash like Biore or Clean n Clear. Then I use a toner (L'Oreal Hyrdafresh Alcohol-free) after I'm done I ALWAYS moisturize with L'Oreal Future. Which is for normal to dry skin, but it's super light.\n\nI am blessed to have pretty good skin. But ever since doing this my skin has looked so much better. Get rid of the alcohol based products, they are doing you no favors. Sorry for the wall of text.\n\nShut up about facial products " ]	[ 10, 6, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to yell loudly I work as a coach, and sometimes feel like im just talking loudly, instead of yelling loudly and clearly. I feel like im straining my voice in an awkward way. Also, how do I yell like Dave Grool?", "How to yell loudly I work as a coach, and sometimes feel like im just talking loudly, instead of yelling loudly and clearly. I feel like im straining my voice in an awkward way. Also, how do I yell like Dave Grool?", "How to yell loudly I work as a coach, and sometimes feel like im just talking loudly, instead of yelling loudly and clearly. I feel like im straining my voice in an awkward way. Also, how do I yell like Dave Grool?", "How to yell loudly I work as a coach, and sometimes feel like im just talking loudly, instead of yelling loudly and clearly. I feel like im straining my voice in an awkward way. Also, how do I yell like Dave Grool?", "How to yell loudly I work as a coach, and sometimes feel like im just talking loudly, instead of yelling loudly and clearly. I feel like im straining my voice in an awkward way. Also, how do I yell like Dave Grool?", "How to yell loudly I work as a coach, and sometimes feel like im just talking loudly, instead of yelling loudly and clearly. I feel like im straining my voice in an awkward way. Also, how do I yell like Dave Grool?" ]	[ "Go see the music teacher and get them to show you how to get volume by supporting your voice with breath control. Basically you get a lungful of air ready before you start yelling.\n\n", "Yell from deep down in the belly, not from the throat. Put a hand on your belly. When you feel the muscles there working, you are doing it right.", "Hahaha! Oh my gosh! My wife, whole family and all of my friends wish that I could take this talent and transfer it to you.\n\nI have small ear canals and allergies. So I am like Austin Powers in that I have no idea how loud I am speaking at any given moment.\n\nYou need to break it up. \n\n1) You need water so that you don't get a sore throat.\n\n2) You need a whistle, you can't rely on your vocal cords to do all the work.\n\n3) You may need an air horn, depending on the sport you may or may not be allowed to use it. But you can use it during practice.\n\n4) You need the huddle, bring everyone in, then yell at them.\n\n5) Use the locker room. It's like an echo chamber. You go in there yelling like crazy and nobody will forget it. Don't forget to use profanity and say things that will embarrass the kids. Like, \"HEY Are you guys playing with your dicks in there?\" Or if it's a girls team, \"HEY, are you doing your nails in there? You are either showing up to practice or you aren't.\"\n\nI had a boys swim team with girls on it. I had to use both. Actually, I highly recommend you do the same. The competition between boys and girls goes through the roof. The complications are worth it. \n\n6) The threat, \"Don't make me raise my voice\". Just by saying that, makes your team think you can yell at the volume of the locker room echo-ness even when you are outside. Just keep saying that.\n\n7) Occasionally drop the bomb. It has to be from the bottom of your chest. You might need to take a few classes in Tai Chi in order to get it right. It comes from the abdomen. You need to practice. Your neighbors should worry. ", "https://youtu.be/u2a0g6ag-2w?t=8m38s\n\nUse your diaphragm.\n\nSource: Shouted a lot in the military. Also Pagan Min.", "From my experience as a singer, from drama in high school, and from my time in the military, I agree with everyone else here. The best way is to get some training from someone else, otherwise you'll end up straining your voice and it could cause some problems. ", "Ahh, others have said it. But yes, use your DIAPHRAGM.\nYou're most likely straining your voice now because you're projecting from your throat. Breathe deeply into your belly, and project your voice as you exhale your air/breath (you'll feel your stomach contract). Good luck!" ]	[ 6, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Things to download on my phone before going on a long flight. Hey guys I’m going to be going on a flight back to Ireland from Toronto and the flight is extremely long. I do not fare well on long flights because of my ADD and having to be constantly distracted, I can never sleep on flights or any sort of transport. \n\nWhat are some apps or shows or just anything I can download on my phone to be able to use in the air when I don’t have WiFi or anything?\n\nIt’s also a cheap flight so no tablets on the back of the seats that have movies and shit.\nAny other ways to entertain myself would be great also.", "Things to download on my phone before going on a long flight. Hey guys I’m going to be going on a flight back to Ireland from Toronto and the flight is extremely long. I do not fare well on long flights because of my ADD and having to be constantly distracted, I can never sleep on flights or any sort of transport. \n\nWhat are some apps or shows or just anything I can download on my phone to be able to use in the air when I don’t have WiFi or anything?\n\nIt’s also a cheap flight so no tablets on the back of the seats that have movies and shit.\nAny other ways to entertain myself would be great also.", "Things to download on my phone before going on a long flight. Hey guys I’m going to be going on a flight back to Ireland from Toronto and the flight is extremely long. I do not fare well on long flights because of my ADD and having to be constantly distracted, I can never sleep on flights or any sort of transport. \n\nWhat are some apps or shows or just anything I can download on my phone to be able to use in the air when I don’t have WiFi or anything?\n\nIt’s also a cheap flight so no tablets on the back of the seats that have movies and shit.\nAny other ways to entertain myself would be great also.", "Things to download on my phone before going on a long flight. Hey guys I’m going to be going on a flight back to Ireland from Toronto and the flight is extremely long. I do not fare well on long flights because of my ADD and having to be constantly distracted, I can never sleep on flights or any sort of transport. \n\nWhat are some apps or shows or just anything I can download on my phone to be able to use in the air when I don’t have WiFi or anything?\n\nIt’s also a cheap flight so no tablets on the back of the seats that have movies and shit.\nAny other ways to entertain myself would be great also.", "Things to download on my phone before going on a long flight. Hey guys I’m going to be going on a flight back to Ireland from Toronto and the flight is extremely long. I do not fare well on long flights because of my ADD and having to be constantly distracted, I can never sleep on flights or any sort of transport. \n\nWhat are some apps or shows or just anything I can download on my phone to be able to use in the air when I don’t have WiFi or anything?\n\nIt’s also a cheap flight so no tablets on the back of the seats that have movies and shit.\nAny other ways to entertain myself would be great also.", "Things to download on my phone before going on a long flight. Hey guys I’m going to be going on a flight back to Ireland from Toronto and the flight is extremely long. I do not fare well on long flights because of my ADD and having to be constantly distracted, I can never sleep on flights or any sort of transport. \n\nWhat are some apps or shows or just anything I can download on my phone to be able to use in the air when I don’t have WiFi or anything?\n\nIt’s also a cheap flight so no tablets on the back of the seats that have movies and shit.\nAny other ways to entertain myself would be great also.", "Things to download on my phone before going on a long flight. Hey guys I’m going to be going on a flight back to Ireland from Toronto and the flight is extremely long. I do not fare well on long flights because of my ADD and having to be constantly distracted, I can never sleep on flights or any sort of transport. \n\nWhat are some apps or shows or just anything I can download on my phone to be able to use in the air when I don’t have WiFi or anything?\n\nIt’s also a cheap flight so no tablets on the back of the seats that have movies and shit.\nAny other ways to entertain myself would be great also." ]	[ "If you have Netflix the mobile app will let you download movies and stuff. Perfect for flights with no wifi", "Got to your favorite subreddit and scroll down and down. This will save the feed in you cache and you can enjoy reading the subreddit later.", "If you have a local library card you ABSOLUTELY must check out their eResources including access to the following apps listed below....\n\nYour local library may allow you to download & watch offline TONS OF CONTENT from comics, audiobooks, books, movies, tv shows, latest magazines, local and national newspapers. So much more...\n\nMy local library offers acess to over 100 different apps and their content for FREE:\n\n1. Rosetta stone access \n\n2. Hoopla subscription free (great selection of the latest comics and latest music albums)\n\n\n3. Acorn subscription (british tv) \n\n\n4. RB digital subscription \n\n\n5. Kanopy subscription \n\n\n6. Libby subscription\n\n\nBeyond that they may have access to many other apps and subscriptions however that's all I had time for.", "There's this really cool podcast we listen to while we travel called, \"Disgraceland.\" It's about music stars and all the crazy, depraved, illegal shit they do. The Tina Turner one is good, and the Rick James one too. There was one about this punk rock guy (can't remember his name) but it was crazy!", "Doodle Jump\n\nA magazine reader app\n\nNetflix with some episodes downloaded\n\nBloons\n\nPlants vs Zombies\n\nAn ereader with some books.", "ADD here. I like to have an audiobook plus either a game on my phone, sudoku from the in-flight magazine, or a newspaper crossword puzzle.", "Travel to Thailand every couple of years from the US.\nI stay busy with a chess game and crossword puzzle game.\nI also download seasons of tv shows at a time. It helps me to deal with those bullies who nag about \"Have you been watching.... Blah blah?\"\nI get caught up with those basic douches." ]	[ 16, 11, 4, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to get out of a rut? Sometimes in life you get stuck in your routine. Try everything to break out of it but life sucks you back in.", "How to get out of a rut? Sometimes in life you get stuck in your routine. Try everything to break out of it but life sucks you back in.", "How to get out of a rut? Sometimes in life you get stuck in your routine. Try everything to break out of it but life sucks you back in.", "How to get out of a rut? Sometimes in life you get stuck in your routine. Try everything to break out of it but life sucks you back in.", "How to get out of a rut? Sometimes in life you get stuck in your routine. Try everything to break out of it but life sucks you back in.", "How to get out of a rut? Sometimes in life you get stuck in your routine. Try everything to break out of it but life sucks you back in.", "How to get out of a rut? Sometimes in life you get stuck in your routine. Try everything to break out of it but life sucks you back in.", "How to get out of a rut? Sometimes in life you get stuck in your routine. Try everything to break out of it but life sucks you back in.", "How to get out of a rut? Sometimes in life you get stuck in your routine. Try everything to break out of it but life sucks you back in.", "How to get out of a rut? Sometimes in life you get stuck in your routine. Try everything to break out of it but life sucks you back in." ]	[ "Good request. I find listening to music that really gets you pumped and using the positive vibes to encourage you to try something new helps. \n\nDoing anything small, but to completion will also help give you a boost of confidence and pride since you got stuff done! Just tell yourself today (it has to be today to start with) I will make a paper airplane or draw a piggy or any kind of tangible, offline activity. Get it done, and feelsgood.png bruh!\n", "You'd be surprised how quickly monotony can catch up to you. I was working an amazingly high stress job where I was literally holding together a 60 million project by the power of my will, yet even at the peak, the constant crisis began to feel like a routine.\n\nMy best suggestion for you is to pick a new interest that sits outside your comfort zone and you feel would materially improve your life in some way. It could be reading more, writing, refurbishing old cars, or (as in my case) fitness. \n\nTry and stick to it and make sure you find a way to incorporate a social dimension (it'll motivate you to keep going) as increased socialisation is really what your inner angst secretly desires.\n\nYour new found interest will eventually collapse into routine with time and you may have to expand to another interest. This is the cycle of life. Eventually you'll die and over time people will forget you ever lived.", "Someone once told me if you are stuck in a \"rut\" or you need to change your routine, and are struggling to do so, change your hair style. You need to figure out exactly what it is that you need to change first, make a plan that is realistic, don't try to change your whole life, write it down, and think on it a lot for a week or so. When you are ready to commit, go get a different hair-do. The feeling of change with your new hair cut will cause you to feel different without trying, and make it easier to have other changes in your life.", "Ok, the problem with a rut is your routine. You do the same thing every day. From that point it is very hard to change. I do not believe in the change a little bit, and then you will change some more. What you need is something external to push you. To find inner motivation is extremely hard, especially when the change you need is big, considered huge. \n\nHow do you find an external motivator to get you going? It will not just come your way, you need to do something for it. But that step, to start the external motivator process can be extremely small. I am going to give you an example. You want to start going to the gym, you want to get fit. What you do is not just to browse fitness, you need the external motivator. What you do is that you send one, simple email to a competition, may it be Toughest or something similar. You sign up, and all of a sudden you have an external motivator, a pressure from other people to go to the gym and get fit. And you do not want to let people down, do you? So you HAVE to go to the gym. And that is what you do. Because people are counting on you. The responsibility is on you. \n\nJust by sending that one simple email you create a chain-reaction. You create your external motivator. And no matter how depressed you are in your rut, you can always send that one email.", "Change your routine, but you have to stick with it. You will often here it takes \"xx\" days to create a habit. \n\n[Decent Forbes article on the subject.](http://www.forbes.com/sites/jasonselk/2013/04/15/habit-formation-the-21-day-myth/)\n", "something that helps me when I can't seem to \"self activate\" and pull myself out of a rut, is to think of your future self as the one in the rut and do all the nice things for them you wish someone would do for you. Write yourself letters, pick out tomorrow's clothes and pack a lunch... that \"disconnect\" seems to make it easier for me to do these things, and then later I get the nice surprise of having some extra time thanks to those favors!", "seriously watch this couple minute video. if this doesnt get you out of a rut then i dont know what will.\n\nhttp://m.youtube.com/watch?v=YTuElM6T50w", "Sometimes it is as simple as making a small change in your routine. Choose a different path to work. Change up what you make for lunch or dinner. Sit in a different seat in your house from your norm. Frequently a small change like that can be the catalyst to seeing things differently.\n\nAnother thing I have done is to schedule time with a friend I haven't seen in a while. Schedule it at a place that is unusual for the two of you. \n\n", "Oh....and here is another idea. Infuse yourself with ENTHUSIASM! Get yourself excited about something. It can be something in your daily routine that is otherwise boring, or it can be something new. Pump yourself up, even if you have to \"fake it until you make it\" with the enthusiasm. ", "As simple as it is, write a list. \n\nI have a... let's call it a \"unique\" job. I have about 15 minutes of work to do in an 8 hour day, so I spend a lot of time alone in my office. This, of course, can be a blessing or a curse. I can spend all day every day browsing reddit, playing videogames or watching Netflix and generally wasting away into nothingness, or I can do something productive for me. So every single day, first thing I do when I clock into work is write down what I want to do that day. From the mundane things to the important ones, write down every single little thing. I even have taking my vitamin and getting a class of water on there. \n\nGetting used to writing down exactly what you want to accomplish for the day and crossing it off keeps you from rutting. If the end of your day comes and you notice that you haven't done one of the things you want to do, you put it first on your next day's list. \n\nI've done this for about two years now. I taught myself to play the banjo, I run up 20 flights of stairs (with asthma!) and lift weights every day now, and taught myself some very rudimentary woodworking skills. All because of keeping a list. \n" ]	[ 6, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "What can you use instead of coffee filters? Due to complications, I can't get my hands on any coffee filters, what can I use instead?", "What can you use instead of coffee filters? Due to complications, I can't get my hands on any coffee filters, what can I use instead?" ]	[ "Well...I put warm water in a pot, put in 4 ounces of coffee, let it soak overnight and then heat it in the morning. The grounds sink overnight for the most part. Any grounds that do stay afloat might be good for me, don't know, don't care. I get an insane cup of coffee, high yield and don't have to mess with presses, filters. I have read paper towels will work in a machine that makes drip coffee.\n", "A durable paper towel that won't dissolve when saturated with boiling water. Probably a few of them, or just one doubled over a few times." ]	[ 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to stop stage fright? I'm a fairly confident person, and yet every time I get up in front of the class to speak, my knees start knocking and my breathing becomes irregular, making it extremely hard to speak confidently. Any tips, please?", "How to stop stage fright? I'm a fairly confident person, and yet every time I get up in front of the class to speak, my knees start knocking and my breathing becomes irregular, making it extremely hard to speak confidently. Any tips, please?", "How to stop stage fright? I'm a fairly confident person, and yet every time I get up in front of the class to speak, my knees start knocking and my breathing becomes irregular, making it extremely hard to speak confidently. Any tips, please?", "How to stop stage fright? I'm a fairly confident person, and yet every time I get up in front of the class to speak, my knees start knocking and my breathing becomes irregular, making it extremely hard to speak confidently. Any tips, please?" ]	[ "don't think of it as stage fright. it's all about your perception. instead, picture it as your body getting excited because you're about to do something awesome. you have all this pent up energy that you're about to use to wow everyone with your awesomeness.", "This is the kind of thing that gets easier the more you do it, so one solution is to do it a lot, and you can get a lot of opportunities to present in front of a crowd by joining your local Toastmasters club.", "Speaking as a person who performs live in front of hundreds (and sometimes thousands of people) in a musical kind of way; all I have to say to you is have some water ready and be yourself. Be an extreme version of yourself. In the sense that you disbelieve it was you up on that stage. Don't 'fake it' just imagine how ridiculous you are when you are confident and make that ridiculousness familiar; bring yourself to alignment with it. \n\nBe ridiculous because people love it. Be yourself and expect people to love it. Class is a great way to teach YOURSELF how to be a good public speaker; because they are people you see often. Leave a good impression on them by being memorable; but make sure you know what the devil you're talking about otherwise you look like a butthead. \n\n\nTrust yourself and just do it. Nobody can teach you how to. Just find out what way makes you comfortable being uncomfortable, or being put into those uncomfortable situations.", "One thing that I find helps about just general nervousness about other people is to take note when other people are doing the same thing that you're nervous about. When Jenny is up speaking to the class, are you judging her? are you looking at her flaws? are you holding it against her when she stumbles on a word? No! You're just treating her like a normal person and listening to what she is saying. That is how other people react when you do the exact same thing. \nThe best tip is to just be determined, and keep getting up there, and eventually the confidence will come. " ]	[ 6, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "How do you keep your mind from looking for issues? My brain has this thing it does whenever life is going well, or if I'm just trying to relax:\n\nIt starts looking for issues. And inevitably it finds one. It might not be a real issue, but it's something that feels like an issue. A problem that needs to be solved.\n\nSo, the real issue seems to be that the brain is scanning for issues when it doesn't need to. How can I keep it from falling into this pattern and just accepting that things are fine?", "How do you keep your mind from looking for issues? My brain has this thing it does whenever life is going well, or if I'm just trying to relax:\n\nIt starts looking for issues. And inevitably it finds one. It might not be a real issue, but it's something that feels like an issue. A problem that needs to be solved.\n\nSo, the real issue seems to be that the brain is scanning for issues when it doesn't need to. How can I keep it from falling into this pattern and just accepting that things are fine?", "How do you keep your mind from looking for issues? My brain has this thing it does whenever life is going well, or if I'm just trying to relax:\n\nIt starts looking for issues. And inevitably it finds one. It might not be a real issue, but it's something that feels like an issue. A problem that needs to be solved.\n\nSo, the real issue seems to be that the brain is scanning for issues when it doesn't need to. How can I keep it from falling into this pattern and just accepting that things are fine?", "How do you keep your mind from looking for issues? My brain has this thing it does whenever life is going well, or if I'm just trying to relax:\n\nIt starts looking for issues. And inevitably it finds one. It might not be a real issue, but it's something that feels like an issue. A problem that needs to be solved.\n\nSo, the real issue seems to be that the brain is scanning for issues when it doesn't need to. How can I keep it from falling into this pattern and just accepting that things are fine?", "How do you keep your mind from looking for issues? My brain has this thing it does whenever life is going well, or if I'm just trying to relax:\n\nIt starts looking for issues. And inevitably it finds one. It might not be a real issue, but it's something that feels like an issue. A problem that needs to be solved.\n\nSo, the real issue seems to be that the brain is scanning for issues when it doesn't need to. How can I keep it from falling into this pattern and just accepting that things are fine?" ]	[ "I hope I dont come across like i'm saying \"Just stop\" or something but.\n\nYou realize that you are doing it, So thats a perfect start to diminish these thoughts.\n\nStart with recognizing the pattern in your brain that you are starting to scan for problems and do what you can to stop the pattern before it goes all the way or try to stop thinking, Try m", "My mind does this with chores & tasks. Relaxing is very hard for me to do. I have to actively catch myself before I start a chore or else I’ll need to finish it 😂. I don’t know what the answer is, but I hope someone finds a solution.", "Same problem. What I do is I keep my brain occupied by either playing games, watching movies, or reading something like an article. However, if you think playing games are a waste of time. Maybe learn a new skill, watch webinars, listen to interesting podcasts, and many more. If you really don't want to do anything, practice some m", "Look into [Cognative Behavioral Therapy](https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline/patients-and-families/cognitive-behavioral). It's basically a way to retrain you to think and look at situations differently.", "I think thats just how humans work to some extent. youre not happy when the bus arrives on time, youre irritated when it does not. You dont feel satisfied with 3 boring meals in a day, but if you dont eat at all you will be irritated and low functioning. \n\nwe are never satisfied and always looks for improvement. you cant accept that things are fine if they are not. you need accept that you are not satisfied and learn to live with that." ]	[ 6, 3, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I have the courage to take risks? I’m 19, Most of my life I’ve always had my mother or brother make decisions for me, when I make make decisions myself they always failed. Now I don’t have a car, nor an apartment, and I’m currently in school. Even my brother helped me pick school I should go to.\n\nI want to have some kind of freedom, but I don’t know how I can handle taking risks. If I fail I don’t know what I’d do. Like I said before, I always failed one way or another, and it led to me feeling horrible. When I did make my decisions like choosing a place to eat on campus, I felt a slight joy. I’m not sure what I should do to feel that sense of pride when I have a hard time actually succeeding.\n\nWhat steps should I take to take risks actually succeeding in them? Thank you and stay safe.( Sorry for the typos if there any).", "How do I have the courage to take risks? I’m 19, Most of my life I’ve always had my mother or brother make decisions for me, when I make make decisions myself they always failed. Now I don’t have a car, nor an apartment, and I’m currently in school. Even my brother helped me pick school I should go to.\n\nI want to have some kind of freedom, but I don’t know how I can handle taking risks. If I fail I don’t know what I’d do. Like I said before, I always failed one way or another, and it led to me feeling horrible. When I did make my decisions like choosing a place to eat on campus, I felt a slight joy. I’m not sure what I should do to feel that sense of pride when I have a hard time actually succeeding.\n\nWhat steps should I take to take risks actually succeeding in them? Thank you and stay safe.( Sorry for the typos if there any).", "How do I have the courage to take risks? I’m 19, Most of my life I’ve always had my mother or brother make decisions for me, when I make make decisions myself they always failed. Now I don’t have a car, nor an apartment, and I’m currently in school. Even my brother helped me pick school I should go to.\n\nI want to have some kind of freedom, but I don’t know how I can handle taking risks. If I fail I don’t know what I’d do. Like I said before, I always failed one way or another, and it led to me feeling horrible. When I did make my decisions like choosing a place to eat on campus, I felt a slight joy. I’m not sure what I should do to feel that sense of pride when I have a hard time actually succeeding.\n\nWhat steps should I take to take risks actually succeeding in them? Thank you and stay safe.( Sorry for the typos if there any).", "How do I have the courage to take risks? I’m 19, Most of my life I’ve always had my mother or brother make decisions for me, when I make make decisions myself they always failed. Now I don’t have a car, nor an apartment, and I’m currently in school. Even my brother helped me pick school I should go to.\n\nI want to have some kind of freedom, but I don’t know how I can handle taking risks. If I fail I don’t know what I’d do. Like I said before, I always failed one way or another, and it led to me feeling horrible. When I did make my decisions like choosing a place to eat on campus, I felt a slight joy. I’m not sure what I should do to feel that sense of pride when I have a hard time actually succeeding.\n\nWhat steps should I take to take risks actually succeeding in them? Thank you and stay safe.( Sorry for the typos if there any).", "How do I have the courage to take risks? I’m 19, Most of my life I’ve always had my mother or brother make decisions for me, when I make make decisions myself they always failed. Now I don’t have a car, nor an apartment, and I’m currently in school. Even my brother helped me pick school I should go to.\n\nI want to have some kind of freedom, but I don’t know how I can handle taking risks. If I fail I don’t know what I’d do. Like I said before, I always failed one way or another, and it led to me feeling horrible. When I did make my decisions like choosing a place to eat on campus, I felt a slight joy. I’m not sure what I should do to feel that sense of pride when I have a hard time actually succeeding.\n\nWhat steps should I take to take risks actually succeeding in them? Thank you and stay safe.( Sorry for the typos if there any)." ]	[ "Have any of these “failures” of yours had a major impact on your happiness or safety in life? Or have you decided to be incredibly uncomfortable with failing because you think it is horrible? \nThere is nothing wrong with failure. Failure needs to be embraced. It’s how we learn. \nFailure helps us know how to redirect our attention.", "Become a Lobster.🦞\n\nBut really.\n\n‘Confront the dragon in its lair before it grows strong enough to come to your village’\n\nIf you currently have shelter, Get yourself a job. Don’t worry about a car for now. Idk what your local laws are, mine say if you have a car on the road you are mandated to have auto insurance, or your license becomes suspended. This means to own a car, even one that’s broken in your driveway, is going to cost 100-200 /month. If you don’t have the funds, not only fined a late fee by insurance and your license is suspended for x time and you have to pay a registration suspension fee. Worry about having enough money for rent. Don’t jump into an apartment just to do it. Have as much saved up as possible. You’d be surprised how fast you can run through a couple grand unintentionally. Worry about necessities, the things you need to live. If that’s taken care of, worry about the things you need to live comfortably. Though that will always change and never be enough. Plan for the future. Fuck if people think you’re a loser for saving your money if it means you’re not selling an only fans for rent money in 4 months 🤷‍♂️. \nNobody is perfect.\nWe’re all just crash test dummies on a rock hurdling through a vacuum. \nThere is no right, no wrong. \nOnly what is socially morally accepted and socially morally un accepted. Canabalism in one village is dinner in the next. \nI’ll let you in on the world’s biggest secret.\nWe’re all just old little kids trying to survive.", "Take it to heart that failure is learning what not to do.\n\nHaving the courage to ask this question means you're prepared to begin.", "I’m a bit unclear if you’re living away at Uni, or still live at home - if the latter, you need to move out of the nest and start learning to stand on your own two feet. For me that was moving into halls of residence at my Uni, equipped with a hotch-potch of kitchen utensils and my gear, plus a little money. After that you gradually start to get exposed to life, like having to open a bank account (this was decades ago, so you probably have one already) - anyway, you get a job to pay the bills and gradually things start to take shape. You sound similar to me in that you’ve not been read numerous chapters from the rule book of life by thoughtful parents, so you need to pick up a lot of this yourself, or ask friends/Reddit for advice. If you hang around/ live with clever friends, a lot of this rubs off on you - just don’t pick dumb ones. I’d say I only felt like I was a fully formed adult by about 27, so don’t feel you need to know all this overnight! One step at a time - get a job so you can get an apartment, or a house share, and move on from there.", "For real though, if you try now and fail you have a safety cushion. Family dies eventually, sometimes sooner than you think. Then it’s just you out there." ]	[ 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How can I keep T-shirts from changing shape in the wash? I'm a tall (6'2\"/188cm) and skinny (170lb/12st. 2lb./77kg) guy. When I buy a T-shirt, I try it on and will only buy it if it fits well. It seems that over time, my shirts get shorter and wider to the point of being unwearable. \n\nHere's an idea of how an average T-shirt from my wardrobe fits: When standing, the hem will fall no lower than the middle of my belt. When sitting, shirts don't cover my lower back. \n\n\nWhen washing my shirts, I use cold water, a small amount of detergent, and then dry them on the low heat cycle. \n\nStretching my shirts back to a good fit doesn't work -- they just spring back to the wrong shape.\n\n\nBuying one size larger just ends up with a shirt that is both uncomfortably short and comically wide. \n\n\nAny suggestions are appreciated!", "How can I keep T-shirts from changing shape in the wash? I'm a tall (6'2\"/188cm) and skinny (170lb/12st. 2lb./77kg) guy. When I buy a T-shirt, I try it on and will only buy it if it fits well. It seems that over time, my shirts get shorter and wider to the point of being unwearable. \n\nHere's an idea of how an average T-shirt from my wardrobe fits: When standing, the hem will fall no lower than the middle of my belt. When sitting, shirts don't cover my lower back. \n\n\nWhen washing my shirts, I use cold water, a small amount of detergent, and then dry them on the low heat cycle. \n\nStretching my shirts back to a good fit doesn't work -- they just spring back to the wrong shape.\n\n\nBuying one size larger just ends up with a shirt that is both uncomfortably short and comically wide. \n\n\nAny suggestions are appreciated!", "How can I keep T-shirts from changing shape in the wash? I'm a tall (6'2\"/188cm) and skinny (170lb/12st. 2lb./77kg) guy. When I buy a T-shirt, I try it on and will only buy it if it fits well. It seems that over time, my shirts get shorter and wider to the point of being unwearable. \n\nHere's an idea of how an average T-shirt from my wardrobe fits: When standing, the hem will fall no lower than the middle of my belt. When sitting, shirts don't cover my lower back. \n\n\nWhen washing my shirts, I use cold water, a small amount of detergent, and then dry them on the low heat cycle. \n\nStretching my shirts back to a good fit doesn't work -- they just spring back to the wrong shape.\n\n\nBuying one size larger just ends up with a shirt that is both uncomfortably short and comically wide. \n\n\nAny suggestions are appreciated!", "How can I keep T-shirts from changing shape in the wash? I'm a tall (6'2\"/188cm) and skinny (170lb/12st. 2lb./77kg) guy. When I buy a T-shirt, I try it on and will only buy it if it fits well. It seems that over time, my shirts get shorter and wider to the point of being unwearable. \n\nHere's an idea of how an average T-shirt from my wardrobe fits: When standing, the hem will fall no lower than the middle of my belt. When sitting, shirts don't cover my lower back. \n\n\nWhen washing my shirts, I use cold water, a small amount of detergent, and then dry them on the low heat cycle. \n\nStretching my shirts back to a good fit doesn't work -- they just spring back to the wrong shape.\n\n\nBuying one size larger just ends up with a shirt that is both uncomfortably short and comically wide. \n\n\nAny suggestions are appreciated!", "How can I keep T-shirts from changing shape in the wash? I'm a tall (6'2\"/188cm) and skinny (170lb/12st. 2lb./77kg) guy. When I buy a T-shirt, I try it on and will only buy it if it fits well. It seems that over time, my shirts get shorter and wider to the point of being unwearable. \n\nHere's an idea of how an average T-shirt from my wardrobe fits: When standing, the hem will fall no lower than the middle of my belt. When sitting, shirts don't cover my lower back. \n\n\nWhen washing my shirts, I use cold water, a small amount of detergent, and then dry them on the low heat cycle. \n\nStretching my shirts back to a good fit doesn't work -- they just spring back to the wrong shape.\n\n\nBuying one size larger just ends up with a shirt that is both uncomfortably short and comically wide. \n\n\nAny suggestions are appreciated!" ]	[ "I hope someone comes up with a real answer. The only shirts that still fit me (6'5\") are my Long Tail Tees from Duluth. They only fit like a normal shirt though, but still not long enough. I'm also all torso (only a 32\" inseam) so it makes everything worse. ", "I have this same problem(6'4\"). I heard that line-drying them helps, but I don't usually do my own laundry so I couldn't tell you if it works... usually I start my day by trying to stretch my shirt to be long enough...", "Hang them till they are 95% dry, then toss them in the dryer on low with a bounce sheet for a few minutes.\n\n", "Look for ring spun t-shirts with dense fabric. If you look closely on the fabric and the seams, you'll quickly learn what t-shirts to avoid. Some good advice can be found here: http://ohioline.osu.edu/ccues/tshirt.html ", "Cotton shrinks, it's inevitable, but cheap brands (Gap, I'm talking to you) buy cheap fabric that shrinks a lot. Look for \"preshrunk\" clothing, try different brands, and look for polyester (gasp) blends. American Apparel makes a nice blended tee that doesn't shrink, and their stuff tends to run on the slim side. Try Lands End, they carry clothing in Tall sizes." ]	[ 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "What should I expect from apartment utilities in the U.S.? As an adult, I've only lived in university housing, so aspects of my apartment are heavily controlled. There are no options for wifi, electricity, etc. You get what they have. Everyone is charged for the same percentage of the power that everyone uses.\n\nI'll be moving off-campus upon graduation and I'm starting to learn that I may have to locate my own internet, electric company, and maybe even sewage..I barely know what I'm talking about. Utilities will likely be in my hands moving forward and I know it varies a bit complex to complex.\n\nI'd like to do my homework before the time comes. What should I expect? Is there a way for me to see the options available in my area and the services/prices they offer?\n\nI'm in Texas, if that matters.", "What should I expect from apartment utilities in the U.S.? As an adult, I've only lived in university housing, so aspects of my apartment are heavily controlled. There are no options for wifi, electricity, etc. You get what they have. Everyone is charged for the same percentage of the power that everyone uses.\n\nI'll be moving off-campus upon graduation and I'm starting to learn that I may have to locate my own internet, electric company, and maybe even sewage..I barely know what I'm talking about. Utilities will likely be in my hands moving forward and I know it varies a bit complex to complex.\n\nI'd like to do my homework before the time comes. What should I expect? Is there a way for me to see the options available in my area and the services/prices they offer?\n\nI'm in Texas, if that matters.", "What should I expect from apartment utilities in the U.S.? As an adult, I've only lived in university housing, so aspects of my apartment are heavily controlled. There are no options for wifi, electricity, etc. You get what they have. Everyone is charged for the same percentage of the power that everyone uses.\n\nI'll be moving off-campus upon graduation and I'm starting to learn that I may have to locate my own internet, electric company, and maybe even sewage..I barely know what I'm talking about. Utilities will likely be in my hands moving forward and I know it varies a bit complex to complex.\n\nI'd like to do my homework before the time comes. What should I expect? Is there a way for me to see the options available in my area and the services/prices they offer?\n\nI'm in Texas, if that matters.", "What should I expect from apartment utilities in the U.S.? As an adult, I've only lived in university housing, so aspects of my apartment are heavily controlled. There are no options for wifi, electricity, etc. You get what they have. Everyone is charged for the same percentage of the power that everyone uses.\n\nI'll be moving off-campus upon graduation and I'm starting to learn that I may have to locate my own internet, electric company, and maybe even sewage..I barely know what I'm talking about. Utilities will likely be in my hands moving forward and I know it varies a bit complex to complex.\n\nI'd like to do my homework before the time comes. What should I expect? Is there a way for me to see the options available in my area and the services/prices they offer?\n\nI'm in Texas, if that matters." ]	[ "Expect that there is an illusion of a free market but, n reality the power company, internet etc is a monopoly and you will have to pay what they demand. In TX you can go totally “free market” but if you do, an ice storm could cost you $10,000 for electricity plus plus.", "Some apartments also include utilities such as electric or water. Less likely when renting from a company (apartment complex) but is more likely if you rent a house/apartment from a private person.", "Depends where you’ll be living.\n\nIf you’ll be renting ask the rental company for information on utility payments at their property. Gas, electric, water, and garbage all tend to be single company monopolies. \n\nBut some apartments pay some to get rates for their buildings... usually calling the company gets you nowhere bc the bills are private to the account holder - so they won’t give you anything... you can ask a current resident for their average bill, if you know someone.\n\nCell phone you’ll probably know your plan.\n\nCable/wifi/ internet are often limited monopolies so check your area (ask local FB groups for companies in the area they like?) and then you can call and get the best package for your needs.", "Whichever apartment you move into will be under specific power and water providers. Your landlord will have the info for you to call those companies and set up an account in your name so you can start the service to that address. They may or may not include garbage in your rent, if not they will be able to tell you who to call to set up that service too. Wifi you have a few more options, google around and see what plans you like, read reviews for the service quality of whatever company you're looking at (likely comcast :/)\n\nAlso, when looking at potential rentals make sure to check your cell service and make sure you get a strong signal inside. It sucks to move in to a place and always be struggling with your connection." ]	[ 4, 3, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How To Stay and See a City Cheaply I haven't seen a post have quite what I'm looking for yet, but the cheap flights one reminded me of it. I know a few like bringing oatmeal for breakfast and doing some grocery shopping. Also, some airbnbs can be a good deal, but couchsurfing is free if you feel safe. Hostels are also an option if you can sleep in that setting. Thanks for any suggestions.", "How To Stay and See a City Cheaply I haven't seen a post have quite what I'm looking for yet, but the cheap flights one reminded me of it. I know a few like bringing oatmeal for breakfast and doing some grocery shopping. Also, some airbnbs can be a good deal, but couchsurfing is free if you feel safe. Hostels are also an option if you can sleep in that setting. Thanks for any suggestions.", "How To Stay and See a City Cheaply I haven't seen a post have quite what I'm looking for yet, but the cheap flights one reminded me of it. I know a few like bringing oatmeal for breakfast and doing some grocery shopping. Also, some airbnbs can be a good deal, but couchsurfing is free if you feel safe. Hostels are also an option if you can sleep in that setting. Thanks for any suggestions.", "How To Stay and See a City Cheaply I haven't seen a post have quite what I'm looking for yet, but the cheap flights one reminded me of it. I know a few like bringing oatmeal for breakfast and doing some grocery shopping. Also, some airbnbs can be a good deal, but couchsurfing is free if you feel safe. Hostels are also an option if you can sleep in that setting. Thanks for any suggestions." ]	[ "Whatever accommodation you choose, make sure there is a kitchen/kitchenette that you can use. Obviously part of traveling is eating the wonderful local food, but even eating one meal a day at home can save you a lot, depending where you are. You can alternate what meal it is so you can still enjoy what each meal eaten out has to offer where you are. Somewhere that offers tea and coffee too if you drink it - it all adds up! Personally I find air bnb best because even though it might be a couple dollars more than a hostel, I find I make that back by following their recommendations (as well as by drinking their coffee and using their kitchen haha).\n\nDefinitely research the place first. Many cities have free or cheap access to museums on certain days or times. Some cities have passes you can buy that gain you access to many tourist sights and sometimes even include public transport. If you like to visit all the museums, climb to the top of the tall buildings, etc they can definitely be worth the price. \n\nIf you are willing and able, walk. Sounds simple, but just walk and walk. You will see so much, and it will take you a lot longer than using a taxi, public transport or even cycling. You will discover things along the way that take your attention, things you would have missed if you took alternative means. It's free and it's good for you. Helps to burn off all the yummy food too!\n\nAlong the same lines, \"free\" walking tours. I usually do one of the ones in the central part of the city on the first day. You get a whole of info on different places; historical and otherwise, and it helps you get your bearings in the city. From there I usually decide which sites I want to revisit or maybe pay entry too (going inside places is generally not part of the tour). You obviously should tip, but a very reasonable amount is fine - obviously varies depending on the city. If in doubt, just ask. They tend not to be money grabbers and will give you an honest answer if you ask what most people give. Or just watch what others give and give the same!\n\nIf you are traveling between cities using transport it's usually a good idea to book in advance online, rather than just show up. For example, I recently went from London to Brighton and bought online for about 10 quid, my friend who bought it at the station we left from paid 24!\n\nIn a lot of places, and dependent on weather, it is common to get food and drink (including alcohol in some places) and take it to a city square or other areas where people gather. It's not only cheap but a great way to experience the culture like a local.\n\n\n", "One thing that I've found is that renting a car can be a terrible way to see a city. You end up staring at streets and traffic, and never having a chance to really look around and see the environments you're driving through. One thing you can do if you have cheap air tickets is to just fly in early in the morning and fly out late at night, and take a tour bus or public transportation downtown... and just hang out, and get the feeling for how it feels to breathe in the air of the social atmosphere of that town.\n\nThat way, you don't even have to spend the night. \n\nHostels are probably the cheapest way to go, if you DO want to spend time.", "One part would be to try couchsurfing. You will meet new people and they can give you inside were to get cheep but great food.", "Buy a tent, find campgrounds and parks around the area you want to explore. You will need other camp supplies as well but they are re usable so a good investment!\n\n" ]	[ 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n", "How to admit that you're wrong. I have a lot of trouble with this, partially because of my ego and partially because of my reputation for being right 99% of the time... which leads to the ego issues.\n\nThe one thing I don't have problems with is being corrected or criticized (e.g. \"you misspelled _____ it's actually spelled with a z :)\") when it comes from a good place rather than mocking, I'm happy with just saying \"thanks! I didn't notice that!\"\n\nHow can I admit that I'm wrong, made a wrong decision, or gave a false piece of information without losing credibility, looking like an ass, or making excuses? Everything I've tried so far feels empty or wrong and I inevitably end up making an excuse.\n\nFinally, what can I do in situations where the person with the correct answer won't stop? I feel like everybody has been in a similar situation at least once where they admit that they are wrong, but the other person will continue to point it out or flesh out their answer. How do I put a stop to this branch of the conversation? (especially in situations where the main conversation needs to be continued, but the side conversation needs to be stopped without hurting anyone)\n\nSorry for writing so much,\n\nTL;DR How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\n" ]	[ "Swallow your pride and just say \"I hadn't thought of that\" or whatever's appropriate for the situation. You'll only make an ass of yourself trying to protect your ego. Everybody makes mistakes.\n\nAs for stopping someone who's waffling on, I find \"alright alright, I get it, let's move on\" helps.", "\"You're right, I was wrong.\" \nIf you try to make up reasons as to why you were wrong you just look like an ass. \nIt's way more respectable to admit when you're wrong than to always be right. No one likes a know it all. \nIf other people brag when they are right that's their issue, you can't control what they say, just how you react. ", "I try and be as affirmative as possible. \"You know what? You're 100% correct.\" No need for anyone to focus on it when you've conceded that you've unquestionably made a mistake. \n\nI think the bigger issue is your ego. It sounds like you've got some problems even from the short post. You're right 99% of the time? Pump the brakes a bit. You don't need to impress us internet strangers.", ">my reputation for being right 99% of the time\n\nWell, here's the first part of your problem. \n\n>How do I admit that I'm wrong in a civil way in any situation without losing credibility or looking like an ass?\n\nAnd here's the second part of your problem.\n\nI know a few people who think that they have the \"I'm almost always right\" reputation, and they usually look like asses on the regular. The ones who's opinions I respect the most never feel the need to make light of the fact they were correct the entire time. I doubt it even crosses their mind.\n\nSaying \"I was wrong about that\" in no way makes you look like an ass to anyone, unless you've set yourself by potraying the fact that, in your mind only I assure you, you are never wrong. \n\nGet rid of the first part, and second part will fall into place without any issues, and people will secretly respect you much more. Once you get used to saying it, it starts becoming truly graceful.\n\nbtw, the only people who feel like they are wrong more than right have terrible self esteem issues, or simply play up the part to avoid being relied on. ", "I usually go with something like \"Oh now that you are saying it must have been wrong/mistaken\". Works in most situations and ends almost every discussion with the other person by admitting they were right. \n\nAlso in my experience you do not loose credibility or respect but rather gain it. \n\nAdmitting that your are wrong is something desperately needed for healthy social interaction. Sadly a lot of people just aren't capable of doing so. ", "I work in IT/Programming (read as: IT'S MY JOB TO BE WRONG ALL THE TIME, right up until I'm right) \n\nwhen someone tells me \"that's not how it works, it works like this...\"\n\nI say something along the lines of, \"huh, I guess I was wrong... thanks! Good to learn something new!\"\n\nthe key I think is to actually be genuine that you're happy to be corrected, takes some getting used to, but IMO this life is too short to be stuck up in who was wrong, or to assume that you know more than someone else.", "Simple, realize that inability to accept new information and admit you were ignorant about something is exponentially more damaging to your \"credibility\" than owning up to your mistakes. Also note, people like you are absolutely the most annoying people to deal with. Thankfully youre trying to change though.", "It seems being seen to be right has become and end in itself. Other people control your reputation. It's something to let go of. Normally our own psychology radically distorts the sense data regarding how people really think of us so it matches our psychological need. This is especially true up to the age of 25 (for males). And the same thing happens when they look at us. What they see is a product of their own psychology, and other necessities. Maybe they play up to that 'always right' reputation because consciously or unconsciously they see that it's something they need to do to communicate with you. \n\nOne tip. Don't think in terms of 'being right'. It's an example of black and white thinking, which bends the world to our psychology, rather than allowing our thinking to pick out the nuances and differing views of the world. Whilst 'being right' holds some currency in particular areas, there are many more where there is no 'being right'. You are talking about being accurate, or relevant, on a particular (and objectively knowable) issue. More often than not, it's just as important to be fully informed and reasonable, as it is to be 'accurate'. And none of this makes you 'right' ethically, or 'in the right'. Start breaking down these concepts. \n\nReroute your ego desire, into the super-ego. You want to be right because it works, because it's helpful. Because that's what you want to be. When someone points something out to you, your ego is not important. Getting the communication done and dusted in a way that suits all parties, is. Their emotions and psychology might not be strictly in proportion to the matter at hand. Maybe things are going badly for them in some other way, and you bear the brunt of it. Maybe you've annoyed them indirectly... maybe they experience a dissonance between the psychological pressure to maintain your reputation, the human pressure to not hurt someone's ego or feelings....and the need to communicate information as honestly and accurately as possible (You see how that reputation, which might once have served a purpose, in the long term doesn't really help you or them?). If you can see the reputation as a diversion from what you really care about, which is, getting things done right in a way that suits people where possible... then it will become clear that your ego is not fragile, and it becomes less stressful for them to communicate. It all becomes neutral. They are then more likely to realise that any feelings they have brought into this, are their own. You don't have to fix them, you just have to be respectful, mindful of them - because if we set aside factual information, your communication has to be guided towards developing and maintaining your relationship. Always keep in mind what you know about the person you're speaking to. \n\nApologies serve a purpose - to release the other from being in a confrontational mind-set. There's no battle. It's just information. Everyone is incorrect at some-point or another. Everyone has to point out someone else's mistake at some-point or another. Making this as un-stressful and effective as possible for both parties is just another skill to master - a deeper, more satisfying way of being right. And whilst this is satisfying, it's not something to be proud of because it's something we're all expected to work at. And you're only judging yourself by your criteria you've set. We'd sound pretty stupid if we gloated about winning a game we had devised.", "It depends on the context. In the business world, all that matters are the dollars. If you are wrong it is not necessarily the end of the world: what matters more than the fact that you made a mistake is how did you react? And what were the consequences?\n\nIf you react by harping on the person that pointed out the mistake, you lose. No one will remember the person giving you a hard time for being wrong if it was a big mistake. They will remember who made the mistake and who fixed the problem.\n\nFor example, you made a mistake that caused a customer to have a service outage and now they are demanding cr", "Why do you need to have credibility and why is it so important that you don't look like an ass and that you have to make excuses? Who are you trying to impress that these things matter so much?\n\nOdds are people already think you're an ass because you claim to be right 99% of the time. No one is right 99% of the time, and no one likes to hang around people who insist and pride themselves on being \"right\". \n\nSwallow your pride and stop taking yourself so seriously.", "When you are wrong just think of it as a learning opportunity. If you say \"yeah I was wrong\" people will respect you more than someone who tries to be a weasel.", "There's a saying about this... \n\n\"Would you rather be right, or happy?\"\n\nIn short, being right all the time is probably possible, but is an exhausting waste of time. Ego only gets you so far buddy. \n\nI think of it like money or women. People chase money, and women, and status, prestige, ego, and happiness, because they think it will bring them what they really want - peace of mind. No one needs to be happy all the time, but being okay with being sad, being okay with being bored, simply being content? That's what most people really want. ", "There's a few ways out, if you know from the start that you might be wrong then consider your phrasing, rather than 'omg you are so wrong', try 'from my experience that isn't true, can you clarify?'.\n\nIf you realise at some point that you might be wrong then question yourself, 'I always thought that was true, is it not?\"\n\nIf you've gone all out and 100% argued a false idea then it's way harder, but similarly, question yourself with defence. For example, \"wait, I've always believed X because of this study and also this evidence, where is your viewpoint from?', you can then elicit evidence from them and go \"hm, that is something I've not considered, I'll research that a bit\". In this way you aren't admitting defeat, but rather admitting concession, like you take what they say, and will consider it.", "Sometimes it takes me a moment, and thats okay, you dont have to instantly puke up \"Im an idiot I guess\". I personally need a moment to come back from the utter shock and shame of being wrong...and I think to myself, \"Ill be a lot more impressive by acknowledging this mistake instead of kicking it around or making excuses.\"...Then ill puke up whatever is required for the situation, \"Turns out you are right, it is blah blah\"...", "Once you become aware of how often you are wrong... At first it's totally overwhelming. Imagine that you're right 95% of the time. You're making hundreds of micro and macro judgments all the time. So you're making 10 - 50 mistakes a day. Even if you are in the mythical '1% most best at knowing things' you're going to be making mistakes everyday. Though stressful, once you really fully internalize that, you might find it easier to admit to your errors.", "Just say: I'm sorry. I was wrong. I won't do it again.\n\nand refuse to address it beyond that if you can. If they keep going just say \"I said I was sorry and have realized my mistake, please drop the subject\".\n\nI've struggled with a similar problem in the past and what you need to realize is that being wrong, realizing that wrong, and amending it, either by saying sorry or other things, doesn't make you look stupid, unreliable, or bad. It makes you look GOOD. because a mature intelligent person knows how to take their mistakes in stride. You knock them down and they get right back up again. That is credibility.", "Just own up to it. \"Yes, I effed up there, your way would have been much smarter.\"\n\nNo one is always right, people undersand that mistakes happen. The trick is to show that you know it and care to fix it. If you just defend yourself, you'll come out of it not just looking wrong, but looking untrustworthy and not like you've learned anything.\n\nI once learned a valuable lesson:\n\nWe released a product far too early, when it was still buggy as hell. We developers spent most of the times answering support call from customers (we were a small company, so we were all pretty much \"multi-role\"). Nothing worked as it should.\n\nLater, when we started to get the situation under control, we hired a company to do a customer survey, just to get a feeling for how serious the damage was.\n\nWhen the survey came back, not only had almost everyone answered, they were overwhelmingly positive. Their answers were along the lines of \"Yeah, there are a lot of problems, but we see that you are working hard to fix them and to help us get around them. We trust you, you'll sort it out.\".\n\nSo, people accept that mistakes happen. The important thing is how you handle them. Correctly handled, you can come out of it stronger than if there hadn't been a mistake. However, trying to hide it is not the correct way.", "In my opinion you gain credibility when you admit you were wrong about something.\n\nI've met too many people who are unwilling to back down even when they know they are wrong, which makes them look stupid.\n", "If you make a big deal about being right all the time and protecting your ego, when you inevitably fail, people will notice more and make a bigger deal about it.\n\nWhen you become open minded and willing to learn, it creates a more conducive atmosphere. Instead of people butting heads trying to prove who is right and who is wrong, people listen to each other, and consider new ideas and inputs. It no longer becomes a competition and battle of the egos. Instead, you are solutioning together. And that is what teamwork is all about.\n\nAsking for input from others is a great way to start. People around you do tend to have some good ideas or knowledge that you might not be taking advantage of due to your want of being seen as authoritative. Also not seeking feedback and challenging yourself to see other viewpoints creates stagnation. Overall, input and feedback is great! Don't be scared to challenge feedback, but always take the time to appreciate input from others, even if you don't agree. \"Huh, never thought of it like that. Definitely something I will have to think about more. Thanks for taking the time in discussing this with me! I value your input.\" You turn from the egotistic guy who has to be right all the time, into a teammate who is working together for the good of the business, marriage, friendship, whatever. And people generally find an active and thoughtful teammate more favorable. When you are wrong, instead of the other person thinking, \"Ha! Finally Mr. Know-it-all is wrong.\" the sentiment turns into \"Wow, we were able to find a solution together. That's great!\"\n\nIf you are wrong, you just say, \"Oh wow. That's a great point. I never thought of it that way. I'll definitely make that change.\" By complimenting the other person for their input, and acknowledging next steps for implementing their input, the other person feels validated. It will decrease the need for the person go rub it in your face.\n\nHowever, if the person does rub it into your face, just smile and say, \"Yep, we are all wrong sometimes! Glad I have a great team who can help me out. Now we need to do X, Y, Z next.\" Basically you are acknowledging (1.) Being wrong is a natural thing that happens. No one is right 100% of the time. (2.) Validating the person's contribution to the team, but also shifting the conversation from who is individually right and wrong, and putting the focus instead on what is right for the team. It doesn't matter that you were wrong, what is important is that your team as a whole was able to catch a mistake a remedy it. (3.) Changing the conversation. \n\nRemember, change your mindset from \"I need to be right\" to \"What is best for my team, how can I find the best answer, what resources are there that can give me a better result?\" So when you are wrong, it isn't a big deal. You used your team and resources to find the best solution possible, and that is much more awesome than being right all the time.", "If these people are subordinates, they are looking for validation. It is important to validate those around you when they are right because it fosters good will.\n\n\nInversely if you don't validate them, and you make excuses for being wrong, they don't want to be part of that conversation either. Not to mention it places distance between you and them.", "IMO by far the best thing to do is not just to admit that you're wrong, but showing interest in learning from the person. \"Wow, really? Is that how it is?\" followed by asking them to explain more about it or where you can get more info about whatever you're talking about.\n\nThere is absolutely nothing embarrassing in not knowing something or misunderstanding something. What matters is that you try to learn from your mistakes and just to learn new things in general. People will respect you much more for that than for being right all the time (which is impossible in the first place).", "I'm right the majority of the time at work but I also will freely admit that there are things I don't know or am simply incorrect about. My honesty about it leads to a lot of respect from other people; If you are sincere then you don't need much else.\n\nMy usual go to is \n\"Well...I stand corrected, you're right. X is true.\"* \nMost people will just be happy that noted that they were right and move on. If a person keeps pinging you about it \n\"Hah! Remember that time I was right!!\" \nThen just smile and know that everyone else has or will notice it too because you are not the only one this person is doing that too.", "I was probably ~19 when I realized everyone i wanted to work with was smarter than me at something. All my friends and everyone in between, someone is always going to be \"more right\" then someone else. My technique is over the top, but it allows me to save face and be goofy when I'm wrong. So I find out I'm wrong, and I say \"you were right, I was wrong, you're the best, I'm the worst\" and it usually gets me cool points anyway. Also I don't challenge people's knowledge too often, maybe avoid that too lol", "I think it's great that you acknowledge it because most people don't. I think that's the first step. The ego is a tough thing, it in some ways protects you, but in others it inhibits you. Being confident in yourself is a great quality, but being arrogant isn't. Realizing that at times your ego can hinder/ \"deceive\" you can lead the way for some change and I guess it all depends on what you're ok with being wrong about. That and realizing that we are human, we make mistakes, assumptions, have character flaws, are wrong at times, but also that we can learn, make ourselves more compassionate, understanding, empathetic, and try to make ourselves better. We aren't perfect and it's perfectly ok to make mistakes or to be wrong, frankly that's how we learn. IMO it's not ok to repeat the same behavior and expect different results", "I think it's a matter of changing your attitude. Intellectual intelligence is handy, but ultimately it's not as important as we can make it seem when we place a lot of value on it. Learn to laugh at yourself. Learn to look at your shortcoming that triggers that feeling of a loss of pride or a feeling of shame as \"interesting behavior.\" I.e. \"oh hah, hey, that was dumb of me, interesting that I would say that in that situation. I wonder why.\"\n\nIf someone judges you or truly cares about you comitting an error, or of you being convinced of something that isn't true mistakenly, or some other kind of a social faux pas: just remember that's a reflection of them, not of you. And don't assume that others really do care even if they react awkwardly to it: you might just be projecting your own judgment onto them.\n\nWhen you take on that attitude, it becomes natural and easy to own up to your \"wrongness.\" It's less awkward, and the shame trigger disappears.\n\nRead \"Zen and the Art of Archery.\"", "I think a large portion of Reddit has this same problem, so this is a really good question OP. One thing that's important in communicating with others is to consider things from alternative perspectives, whether you think you're right or not. This is one thing that annoyed the hell out of my ex when she wanted to complain about people, but I always try to consider the situation or idea from their point of view. If they have the evidence to support it and prove you wrong the best response is to admit your mistake or to thank them for clearing up something you were misinformed about. If you're polite about it they typically won't run it in your face or be a dick about it. Try to keep arguments level headed and don't insult them before the discussion has come to a conclusion, because you'll end up looking like an ass if you're wrong, and still looking like a jerk if you're right. ", "I leverage my huge ego by refusing to the on the wrong side of \"right\" for any longer than is necessary. This approach makes it easy for me to admit being wrong, because as soon as I admit it, I am now \"right\".\n\nI know this doesn't help with the delivery (I think you have some great replies to that end) but maybe the mental adjustment will help. In fact, I tell people that \"I have such a big ego, I refuse to defend a position which is wrong. Feel free to challenge me.\" in meetings, as I am also a \"think out loud\" person which often means I have an occasional shitty idea floating out there.", "Here's the thing: tone matters just as much as words, and some would argue more. The words being provided by others don't mean a thing if you aren't sincere about it. \n\nForm statements like the ones being provided work once. You say them over and over, it comes off as insincere or even dismissive. It's not about situations, it's about people.\n\nYou're only thinking about yourself, think about the person receiving the apology. Do they want just the apology, do they want the reason, do they want the corrective action you'll take in the future to prevent it from reoccurring? What are they looking for in your apology?\n\nYou were wrong, maybe there's a valid excuse, maybe there isn't. Suck it up, own up to it in the manner appropriate for the person or persons wronged, and above all be sincere.", "For 3 months say \"I don't know\" to stuff and break yourself out of this need to be smart and correct. Whenever there is a discussion participate but if it goes deep, or if someone asks you specifically, say \"I don't know.\" It might just break you free of the burden of being a know it all. \n\n\nAs an aside, when I have a client like this it is usually because they are super smart but feel inadequate, so they are compensating with their known strength. Totally fine to do but it can put people in a cage, and get in the way of social things. Always good to see what it's like without it. ", "Admitting that you were wrong is so uncommon and productive, it's practically impossible to fuck it up. We humans have this pathological need to protect our self-image, though.", "\"huh, learn something new everyday- thanks for that.\"\n\nEven if you knew it- you sound humble and open.", "\"So, I have to come clean. I thought X but it turns out that Y was correct. Thanks to Z for pointing it out to me. I've now made [these changes] in light of Y. Please feel free to point out anything else I might miss. I'm always open to learning.\"\n\nand mic drop\n\nYou look boss as fuck. Because credibility is built on self-awareness." ]	[ 33, 27, 21, 19, 6, 5, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "What is something I can listen to at work that is educational? Both my hands are occupied with boring, monotonous conveyor belt work, but we're allowed earbuds. Learned the basics of Ukrainian language, but I can't exactly watch a video of sign language, get it?", "What is something I can listen to at work that is educational? Both my hands are occupied with boring, monotonous conveyor belt work, but we're allowed earbuds. Learned the basics of Ukrainian language, but I can't exactly watch a video of sign language, get it?", "What is something I can listen to at work that is educational? Both my hands are occupied with boring, monotonous conveyor belt work, but we're allowed earbuds. Learned the basics of Ukrainian language, but I can't exactly watch a video of sign language, get it?", "What is something I can listen to at work that is educational? Both my hands are occupied with boring, monotonous conveyor belt work, but we're allowed earbuds. Learned the basics of Ukrainian language, but I can't exactly watch a video of sign language, get it?", "What is something I can listen to at work that is educational? Both my hands are occupied with boring, monotonous conveyor belt work, but we're allowed earbuds. Learned the basics of Ukrainian language, but I can't exactly watch a video of sign language, get it?", "What is something I can listen to at work that is educational? Both my hands are occupied with boring, monotonous conveyor belt work, but we're allowed earbuds. Learned the basics of Ukrainian language, but I can't exactly watch a video of sign language, get it?", "What is something I can listen to at work that is educational? Both my hands are occupied with boring, monotonous conveyor belt work, but we're allowed earbuds. Learned the basics of Ukrainian language, but I can't exactly watch a video of sign language, get it?" ]	[ "Aren't there like an infinity number of podcasts in literally every subject area ever on the internet?", "[99 Percent Invisible. ](https://99percentinvisible.org/) A sound-rich, narrative podcast hosted by Roman Mars about all the thought that goes into the things we don’t think about — the unnoticed architecture and design that shape our world.\n\nAvailable on most podcast platforms.", "Your local library most likely uses Libby. There's a TON of audiobooks that are available. Just sort for Nonfiction. I love selfhelp, inspirational, memoirs, nutritional/health, and classic literature.", "PBS has a podcast on different topics like the universe, geology and all sorts of fascinating stuff about how everything came to be.\n\nBut if that’s not your thing, they also have educational ones about a lot of different topics.", "Listen to podcasts about basic finance and wealth creation.\n\nAt least build upon your knowledge base to aid for your future growth.", "Freakonomics podcasts. Available most platforms. \n\nThey just had one within the Nike CEO or CFO who was a jail valedictorian...", "It depends on what you hope to achieve. Do you want anything that is educational, or should it tailored to your career aspirations?" ]	[ 4, 3, 3, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "I have perpetually sweaty hands. Can I fix this/is there a good way to cover this up? Regardless of whether I'm nervous, happy, or neutral, I seem to always have clammy, sweaty hands. It makes shaking hands awkward, something that in my line of work is pretty common to do. Is there any way to stop my hands from being so sweaty? I usually keep them open and by my sides when I'm not using my hands.", "I have perpetually sweaty hands. Can I fix this/is there a good way to cover this up? Regardless of whether I'm nervous, happy, or neutral, I seem to always have clammy, sweaty hands. It makes shaking hands awkward, something that in my line of work is pretty common to do. Is there any way to stop my hands from being so sweaty? I usually keep them open and by my sides when I'm not using my hands.", "I have perpetually sweaty hands. Can I fix this/is there a good way to cover this up? Regardless of whether I'm nervous, happy, or neutral, I seem to always have clammy, sweaty hands. It makes shaking hands awkward, something that in my line of work is pretty common to do. Is there any way to stop my hands from being so sweaty? I usually keep them open and by my sides when I'm not using my hands.", "I have perpetually sweaty hands. Can I fix this/is there a good way to cover this up? Regardless of whether I'm nervous, happy, or neutral, I seem to always have clammy, sweaty hands. It makes shaking hands awkward, something that in my line of work is pretty common to do. Is there any way to stop my hands from being so sweaty? I usually keep them open and by my sides when I'm not using my hands.", "I have perpetually sweaty hands. Can I fix this/is there a good way to cover this up? Regardless of whether I'm nervous, happy, or neutral, I seem to always have clammy, sweaty hands. It makes shaking hands awkward, something that in my line of work is pretty common to do. Is there any way to stop my hands from being so sweaty? I usually keep them open and by my sides when I'm not using my hands.", "I have perpetually sweaty hands. Can I fix this/is there a good way to cover this up? Regardless of whether I'm nervous, happy, or neutral, I seem to always have clammy, sweaty hands. It makes shaking hands awkward, something that in my line of work is pretty common to do. Is there any way to stop my hands from being so sweaty? I usually keep them open and by my sides when I'm not using my hands.", "I have perpetually sweaty hands. Can I fix this/is there a good way to cover this up? Regardless of whether I'm nervous, happy, or neutral, I seem to always have clammy, sweaty hands. It makes shaking hands awkward, something that in my line of work is pretty common to do. Is there any way to stop my hands from being so sweaty? I usually keep them open and by my sides when I'm not using my hands.", "I have perpetually sweaty hands. Can I fix this/is there a good way to cover this up? Regardless of whether I'm nervous, happy, or neutral, I seem to always have clammy, sweaty hands. It makes shaking hands awkward, something that in my line of work is pretty common to do. Is there any way to stop my hands from being so sweaty? I usually keep them open and by my sides when I'm not using my hands.", "I have perpetually sweaty hands. Can I fix this/is there a good way to cover this up? Regardless of whether I'm nervous, happy, or neutral, I seem to always have clammy, sweaty hands. It makes shaking hands awkward, something that in my line of work is pretty common to do. Is there any way to stop my hands from being so sweaty? I usually keep them open and by my sides when I'm not using my hands." ]	[ "Yo op, you most likely have Primary Palmar Hyperhidrosis. By the sound of it you may have primary (not secondary caused by drug, surgery, hormone imbalance, etc). Get your Thyroid checked out at a doctor to rule that out. You can read below if that's cool.\n\nIf it persists in your hands year round, there a few methods to treat it. The hands are tricky to treat because the skin is thicker and you constantly wash them / eat with them.\n\nThe best method IMO that worked for me is taking Glycopyrrolate / Robinul. Glycopyrrolate is the generic name. It is a anticolinergic that reduces sweating dramatically. It has many other uses like reducing saliva and other body fluids for surgery.\n\nSide Effects include:\n\nDrowsiness, dizziness, blurred vision, dry mouth, stuffy nose, or constipation.\n\nI'd like to point out the dry mouth is almost guaranteed. Personally, I didn't experience it bad at all, no problems. It lasted 1 or 2 days. Other users had to stop taking the drug completely because the dry mouth was unbearable.\n\nIf you end up choosing this method. Ramp yourself up. Start at a small dose such as 1mg on an empty stomach, wait at least 1-2 hrs before eating or drinking. You can take another dosage of 1mg 4 hours later.\n\nFinding your dose is key. The drug is sold in 0.5 mg to 2.0 mg. You should not go over 8 mg a day.\n\nMy experience with Glycopyrrolate:\n\nIt worked on the first day for me. 50% less sweating with the first pill at 2.0 mg. 95% less sweating in my hands by the second dosage. I took 2.0 mg doses right away because I'm about that life.\n\nI took it during a heatwave and I didn't sweat at all. It's not a miracle cure, take it when you need it. There's a small ramp up time before you see the effects so try to take it 24-48 hours before you need if you aren't taking it regularly.\n\nPersonally, I kind of felt like I didn't need to always take it. I could skip a day or two without any dramatic loss of effectiveness.\n\nFinal Note:\n\nI'm not taking Glycopyrrolate atm. I'm not even sweating from my hands that much anymore. And when I do I don't give a shit about it tbh. Also, stay away from shit like porn or masturbation, it dramatically helps you overall. Anything that over stimulates you will cause you to sweat. But mind over matter helps a bit. Just stop thinking about your hands and don't over stimulate yourself with coffee, sugar, porn, etc. Drink water, eat well, and get some sleep. All helps to reduce the sweating a lot.\n\nThe combination of not giving a shit, being busy with life, and living life to the fullest reduced my sweating dramatically.\n\nGlycopyrrolate is a way to take control for events such as a job interview, weddings, etc. I recommend you experiment with it and find your dose. Once you do, don't even take it. The fact you got a fix for when you need it will empower you and make you stop caring.\n\nOther methods:\n\n- You can try Drysol or CertainDri (solid bar) on your hands before you sleep. Clean your hands, put on the product, and wear gloves to sleep. This didn't do shit for me.\n\n- You can use an iontophoresis machine. The concept is put your hand in a pool of water that is treated with a low charge of electricity for 30-40 minutes a session. You start off using it more frequently but overtime once or twice a week depending on how well you respond to it. I never tried this, I hear it's a good safe option though.\n\n- ETS Surgery, this is probably the dumbest step possible and should only be used as a last resort. It's just not worth it considering the potential WORSE side effects. Basic concept is clamping or clipping your nerves which control sweating through surgery. Side effects include not sweating from your chest up (LOL), auxiliary compensation sweating, meaning you'll sweat else where possible way more to compensate. Not worth it.\n\n\nYou'll find more details for all of the methods I summarized above at:\n\nwww.sweathelp.org", "Its called hyperhidrosis. There is a prescription drysol that might help, it didn't really help me though. I just live the issue, one my friends gave me the nickname swamp palm in college. \n\nAlso there is botox procedure (not permanent) and a surgery that could be options. I've investigated, but it doesn't bother me enough to try either of these options at this point.", "I have this problem, but only when the weather gets cooler and I start wearing long sleeves. No idea why. I've only ever used this one product, [Sweatblock](http://www.amazon.com/SweatBlock-Antiperspirant-Clinical-antiperspirant-towelettes/dp/B002PQ8BQM/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1448809857&sr=8-1&keywords=sweatblock), but it works pretty well for me. I use it once a week, if I remember. ", "Go see a dermatologist, I had a similar problem under my arms. No matter my body temperature, outside temperature, or any other factors, I was sweating profusely under my arms. i would soak the under arm area of my shirts and it was embarrassing. It was oderless but I had to wear black or white to keep it from being obvious and ridiculous looking. I tried the prescription deodorant I got from my personal doctor, it did no good. He referred me to a dermatologist. There were two options of treatment, surgery to remove sweat glands or botox injections. My insurance wouldn't cover either so I chose the cheaper method, which was botox injections. When I came back for the treatment it was pretty simple and quick. The doctor drew a circle around my armpit area with a magic marker and spaced out twelve dots under each arm and said I would get an injection in every dot. It was painful but the injection is not very deep, it took thirty minutes or so and it was done. I can't remember the exact price but I know it was less than $1,000. I'm thinking it was between $800 and $900. It was about seven years ago. It worked great for about two years and began to be less effective, eventually I was back to where I started. You may want to consider that, maybe the procedure has gotten cheaper by now. Best of luck.", "Also, ask your doctor on your next visit. Botox has been used to effectively reduce sweat gland production.", "this is the sort of thing i find acupuncture very good at treating. ask around for recommendations for a good local practitioner.", "Oh man, sometimes my hands sweat to the point that I've developed dishydrotic excema. (Inflammatory skin response to too much moisture.)\nI find using cornstarch as a powder helpful in some situations (like if my hands are too sweaty to get a good grip on small/round objects)\nIf I know I'm going to be in some sort of social situations where handshakes are likely then I'll use some antiperspirant on the palms of my hands.", "I also tend to have sweaty hands, a lot of the time. I have noticed that it is highly correlated with my level of stress and nervosity, and after having read about the parasympathic system, I've learned that it's a natural, uncontrollable response to a situation of stress.\n\nWhen I realize I don't sweat from my hands, I'm afraid of starting to sweat, I get nervous, and I sweat. It's a vicious circle.\n\nAt first, I thought it happened all the time, whether I was nervous or not, but I realized that I had been nervous for my whole life, and that I could hardly distinguish whether I was relaxed or stressed. I could be happy and stressed at the same time, sad and stressed, or \"neutral\" as you'd say.\n\nSo my not-so-LPT request would be to identify if you don't have a hidden nervosity issue, and if yes, treat it by learning how to get self-confidence.\n\nDoes it happen when you're enibriated too ? It doesn't for me, as I lose self-awareness and gain self-confidence.\n\nPS: Also, I highly recommend not to pursue any sort of chirurgical option, as they can have non-desirable side effects that can outbalance the issue caused by sweating.", "Smear them in antiperspirant before shaking someone's hand. They'll appreciate the considerate gesture." ]	[ 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How do I stay cold in bed at night? So I sleep in a bunk bed on the second floor and sleeping during the summer is just brutal. I tried using ice but it's really uncomfortable. Anyone know how to cool it down in bed?", "How do I stay cold in bed at night? So I sleep in a bunk bed on the second floor and sleeping during the summer is just brutal. I tried using ice but it's really uncomfortable. Anyone know how to cool it down in bed?", "How do I stay cold in bed at night? So I sleep in a bunk bed on the second floor and sleeping during the summer is just brutal. I tried using ice but it's really uncomfortable. Anyone know how to cool it down in bed?", "How do I stay cold in bed at night? So I sleep in a bunk bed on the second floor and sleeping during the summer is just brutal. I tried using ice but it's really uncomfortable. Anyone know how to cool it down in bed?", "How do I stay cold in bed at night? So I sleep in a bunk bed on the second floor and sleeping during the summer is just brutal. I tried using ice but it's really uncomfortable. Anyone know how to cool it down in bed?", "How do I stay cold in bed at night? So I sleep in a bunk bed on the second floor and sleeping during the summer is just brutal. I tried using ice but it's really uncomfortable. Anyone know how to cool it down in bed?", "How do I stay cold in bed at night? So I sleep in a bunk bed on the second floor and sleeping during the summer is just brutal. I tried using ice but it's really uncomfortable. Anyone know how to cool it down in bed?", "How do I stay cold in bed at night? So I sleep in a bunk bed on the second floor and sleeping during the summer is just brutal. I tried using ice but it's really uncomfortable. Anyone know how to cool it down in bed?", "How do I stay cold in bed at night? So I sleep in a bunk bed on the second floor and sleeping during the summer is just brutal. I tried using ice but it's really uncomfortable. Anyone know how to cool it down in bed?", "How do I stay cold in bed at night? So I sleep in a bunk bed on the second floor and sleeping during the summer is just brutal. I tried using ice but it's really uncomfortable. Anyone know how to cool it down in bed?", "How do I stay cold in bed at night? So I sleep in a bunk bed on the second floor and sleeping during the summer is just brutal. I tried using ice but it's really uncomfortable. Anyone know how to cool it down in bed?", "How do I stay cold in bed at night? So I sleep in a bunk bed on the second floor and sleeping during the summer is just brutal. I tried using ice but it's really uncomfortable. Anyone know how to cool it down in bed?", "How do I stay cold in bed at night? So I sleep in a bunk bed on the second floor and sleeping during the summer is just brutal. I tried using ice but it's really uncomfortable. Anyone know how to cool it down in bed?", "How do I stay cold in bed at night? So I sleep in a bunk bed on the second floor and sleeping during the summer is just brutal. I tried using ice but it's really uncomfortable. Anyone know how to cool it down in bed?", "How do I stay cold in bed at night? So I sleep in a bunk bed on the second floor and sleeping during the summer is just brutal. I tried using ice but it's really uncomfortable. Anyone know how to cool it down in bed?", "How do I stay cold in bed at night? So I sleep in a bunk bed on the second floor and sleeping during the summer is just brutal. I tried using ice but it's really uncomfortable. Anyone know how to cool it down in bed?", "How do I stay cold in bed at night? So I sleep in a bunk bed on the second floor and sleeping during the summer is just brutal. I tried using ice but it's really uncomfortable. Anyone know how to cool it down in bed?", "How do I stay cold in bed at night? So I sleep in a bunk bed on the second floor and sleeping during the summer is just brutal. I tried using ice but it's really uncomfortable. Anyone know how to cool it down in bed?" ]	[ "Get a small fan that clips to your bed post.\n\nAlso, do a \"cold shot\" if you shower before bed. I crank the water a cold as I can stand for a few seconds. My favorite summertime trick.", "Your best bet is to get a small fan and a some more pillows that you can either cuddle with or use. Basically what will happen is the pillows you are not using will be \"cool\" because of the fan blowing on them. So when you get hot you can change pillows. ", "Something that has always helped me and is low tech as possible is a damp wash cloth and a fan combo. Wet it with cold water and put it on your chest when you have the fan pointed at you. Repeat as necessary. ", "Open all the windows to your house while the outside temperature is lower than the inside temperature. Keep them closed the rest of the day. Repeat.\nYou will need an outdoors/indoors thermometer.", "I was in the same situation. As odd as it sounds, I suggest not using blankets for a while, or at least one light one if it bothers you.\n\nWhen I didn't use blankets, and instead just wore long cotton pants and a baggy t-shirt, I slept much better.\n\nFans are great, too.", "First of all, there is a machine that will circulate air under your blanket to cool you down. Second, you could buy an AC. Third, drink ice water....it's much easier to cool down your whole body if you're drinking cold liquid. Fourth, get a good mattress that doesn't retain heat (test them out at the store, ask questions). Fifth, tell your girlfriend to stop touching you while you're trying to sleep. You can use the money you save from breaking up with her to fund the first four options.", "Another thing that could help supplement all this is to keep windows in the house open, and have fans pointing outside. Houses tend to be hotter on the second floor because of the hot air rising, and figuring out a way to vent it helps a lot. ", "I've seen people get mattress toppers that are a thin layer of gel, like what is inside a freezer pak. Also sheets made of underarmor. I've also heard of beds that use your body heat for making electricity for your house FYI. Also for chairs and sofas. ", "Get a bed fan and some wicking sheets. Not sure how the bed fan would work on a bunk bed, but it tucks into your mattress and blows air under your top sheet. Check amazon. Get a portable AC.", "You could try sticking your pillow sheet into the freezer, I have a big freezer myself, so stick the entire pillow in there", "The Climsom cooling (or, when you prefer, warming) mattress topper works well for me. It's basically a chiller for your mattress. The unit isn't massively cheap but it should be a lot cheaper to run than AC.\n\n(It's an actual chiller, not just one of those gel things.)", "I would try a fan below your bunk. Distort the rise of that air so it moves out a window and doesn't seep through to your body.", "I bought a Chillow™ and found that it was too cold for most nights (at least for me). An astonishing amount of your blood passes very close to the surface of your body in the head and neck area, cool this and the rest of you will be cool(er) as well. This is why the chillow™ worked so well(too well) for me. ", "Have you tried baga of frozen vegetables? Not quite as clunky as ice bags, they kinds of mold to your sjape?.", "Fill a couple of bottles with cold water and put them under the covers. Opposite works great for warming up too.", "Commenting so I can get ideas as well. I have nothing to add, as I already sleep in as little as possible, have my fan on high, the ac on, and cover up with nothing but a sheet, and still wake up horribly overheated at least twice a night. ", "Ahah the fuck kind of question is this? Use a fan or if you're at home, an AC unit. The gentle white noise of a fan also makes it easier to fall asleep and stay asleep if a little bit of noise is going on outside your room at night or in the morning ", "* Get naked/wear thin PJs.\n\n* Turn over the pillow and blanket often, the other side is cooler.\n\n* Get a thin blanket, or don't use one." ]	[ 27, 10, 4, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe

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