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[ "What are things to look for when buying a older home? A lot of homes in my area are in the range of 70-100 years old. Most of the ones I've toured seem mostly updated. What are less obvious things I should be looking for?", "What are things to look for when buying a older home? A lot of homes in my area are in the range of 70-100 years old. Most of the ones I've toured seem mostly updated. What are less obvious things I should be looking for?", "What are things to look for when buying a older home? A lot of homes in my area are in the range of 70-100 years old. Most of the ones I've toured seem mostly updated. What are less obvious things I should be looking for?", "What are things to look for when buying a older home? A lot of homes in my area are in the range of 70-100 years old. Most of the ones I've toured seem mostly updated. What are less obvious things I should be looking for?", "What are things to look for when buying a older home? A lot of homes in my area are in the range of 70-100 years old. Most of the ones I've toured seem mostly updated. What are less obvious things I should be looking for?" ]

[ "Check the breakers, most aren't properly wired for modern electrical needs. See if the plumbing has been replaced.", "bit of a long read, but a while back I saved [this comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/75ooiy/lets_make_an_antibucket_list_what_is_something/do80f4e/) in a post. It's pretty much all the stuff you would walk to check, think about, and look at when buying a home. it's not tailored specifically to 70-100 year old homes, but some great tips in it.\n\nthat said, i'm sure a home inspector is the way to go.", "That's a young house in the UK, but on the off chance that similar standards are in play, check the walls for any large cracks or suspicious recent patches of filler and paint, make sure the roof is in good condition, and be wary of the wiring - standards change over time and the old stuff can range from fine but different wire colours to rust barely held together by decaying plastic (or, if very old, fabric) insulation. Check what the pipes are made of - pvc and copper good, other materials not so much. If you can, close the door to each room and see how drafty it is (a windy day will help with this).\n\nAll houses settle a bit, so be prepared for no corner to be perfectly square when you're looking at furniture. You will probably have odd noises as different parts of the house heat and cool. It will almost certainly have too few electric sockets so buy a load of adapters when you're moving (if you can check beforehand, you can get extra long ones for rooms with one socket inexplicably placed at the worst place in the room).\n\nOn the plus side, anything structural that can go wrong probably has long since been averted or fixed, and older houses tend to be more solidly built than new builds (important if you have neighbours with a shared wall).", "If you are looking at buying an older home, having old parts comes along with it. Old homes need maintenance more that newer homes, that is obvious, but many old homes were very well built and properly maintained can last for a very long time. Many people on here have mentioned electrical wiring and water piping as things to look for. I would look more at the condition of the foundation and the structural components first. Electrical and interior piping can be replaced and upgraded over time and with mostly just cosmetic fixes after the work is done. Structural and foundation problems can be extremely expensive and very difficult issues to resolve. Usually way beyond the abilities of most home owners. \n\nIf you are looking at houses that have been recently remodeled and you expect that have been bought to be flipped be extremely cautious. Where I live (Pacific NW) I have seen a lot of very shoddy and substandard work covered up with new drywall and pretty paint that will be problems for the new owners in a short period of time. Last thing, If it has a newly finished basement but not new plumbing and electrical be wary. Anybody that was interested in doing things properly would have done those upgrades before finishing the basement and covering up the ceiling.", "Basement. Check walls if freshly painted there may be a water issue. Stand back and check for any sagging in the roof line. " ]

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[ "A way to prevent a garbage disposal clogging/blades not moving? Whenever I come back from a long work trip or vacation, a kitchen sink garbage disposal always seems to get \"jammed\". When I turn it on, it seems like blades aren't spinning/stuck and eventually…it turns self off. (usually have to stick a metal bar and try to move blades back and forth).\n\nIn order to prevent this happening every time I leave for a trip, is there anything you recommend I should do BEFORE I leave? \n\nThanks in advance! ", "A way to prevent a garbage disposal clogging/blades not moving? Whenever I come back from a long work trip or vacation, a kitchen sink garbage disposal always seems to get \"jammed\". When I turn it on, it seems like blades aren't spinning/stuck and eventually…it turns self off. (usually have to stick a metal bar and try to move blades back and forth).\n\nIn order to prevent this happening every time I leave for a trip, is there anything you recommend I should do BEFORE I leave? \n\nThanks in advance! " ]

[ "It may need to be replaced. That shouldn't really happen. I wonder if there's something stuck in there? Otherwise it's probably rust or corrosion. Mix a cup of lemon juice and a few tablespoons of salt, pour it in the disposal, let it sit for 24 hours, then rinse it with cold water and run ice cubes through it.\n\nRegardless, to get it going again there is usually an allen wrench port on the side of it. You put an allen wrench in there (one should have come with your disposal but you can also buy them at a hardware store - I keep mine taped to the disposal itself) and turn it and it will move the blades for you. That way you don't have any danger of hurting yourself or the blades.", "Buy a stronger disposal. The bottom of the line is pretty week and will clog/get stuck/ run the motor down quick.\n\nAlso vinegar your disposal clean every week or so." ]

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[ "How do I avoid crying during an argument? I'm a teenager, female, and I struggle with crying during arguments. Even if I believe I am completely correct and I have several arguments to back it, the second somebody raises their voice I choke up and if I try to talk I start crying almost instantly. I do not have a past of abuse or anything that would cause me to be scared of people yelling, it's just always been like that. Sometimes, they don't even need to yell, just simply carry themselves well and talk evenly and I'll slip up. I also do not believe I have social anxiety.\n\nI've been told that I need to prepare for the argument beforehand, and I've tried that, but I either didn't have enough time or didn't have the option to step away and take deep breaths or let the tears out before the argument (which I honestly think may work, but I'm not sure). I see the same answers everywhere that are impossible under a time-constraint and/or the location. Also, you sometimes don't know when arguments are coming.\n\nI just want to be able to have an argument with someone without breaking down.", "How do I avoid crying during an argument? I'm a teenager, female, and I struggle with crying during arguments. Even if I believe I am completely correct and I have several arguments to back it, the second somebody raises their voice I choke up and if I try to talk I start crying almost instantly. I do not have a past of abuse or anything that would cause me to be scared of people yelling, it's just always been like that. Sometimes, they don't even need to yell, just simply carry themselves well and talk evenly and I'll slip up. I also do not believe I have social anxiety.\n\nI've been told that I need to prepare for the argument beforehand, and I've tried that, but I either didn't have enough time or didn't have the option to step away and take deep breaths or let the tears out before the argument (which I honestly think may work, but I'm not sure). I see the same answers everywhere that are impossible under a time-constraint and/or the location. Also, you sometimes don't know when arguments are coming.\n\nI just want to be able to have an argument with someone without breaking down.", "How do I avoid crying during an argument? I'm a teenager, female, and I struggle with crying during arguments. Even if I believe I am completely correct and I have several arguments to back it, the second somebody raises their voice I choke up and if I try to talk I start crying almost instantly. I do not have a past of abuse or anything that would cause me to be scared of people yelling, it's just always been like that. Sometimes, they don't even need to yell, just simply carry themselves well and talk evenly and I'll slip up. I also do not believe I have social anxiety.\n\nI've been told that I need to prepare for the argument beforehand, and I've tried that, but I either didn't have enough time or didn't have the option to step away and take deep breaths or let the tears out before the argument (which I honestly think may work, but I'm not sure). I see the same answers everywhere that are impossible under a time-constraint and/or the location. Also, you sometimes don't know when arguments are coming.\n\nI just want to be able to have an argument with someone without breaking down.", "How do I avoid crying during an argument? I'm a teenager, female, and I struggle with crying during arguments. Even if I believe I am completely correct and I have several arguments to back it, the second somebody raises their voice I choke up and if I try to talk I start crying almost instantly. I do not have a past of abuse or anything that would cause me to be scared of people yelling, it's just always been like that. Sometimes, they don't even need to yell, just simply carry themselves well and talk evenly and I'll slip up. I also do not believe I have social anxiety.\n\nI've been told that I need to prepare for the argument beforehand, and I've tried that, but I either didn't have enough time or didn't have the option to step away and take deep breaths or let the tears out before the argument (which I honestly think may work, but I'm not sure). I see the same answers everywhere that are impossible under a time-constraint and/or the location. Also, you sometimes don't know when arguments are coming.\n\nI just want to be able to have an argument with someone without breaking down.", "How do I avoid crying during an argument? I'm a teenager, female, and I struggle with crying during arguments. Even if I believe I am completely correct and I have several arguments to back it, the second somebody raises their voice I choke up and if I try to talk I start crying almost instantly. I do not have a past of abuse or anything that would cause me to be scared of people yelling, it's just always been like that. Sometimes, they don't even need to yell, just simply carry themselves well and talk evenly and I'll slip up. I also do not believe I have social anxiety.\n\nI've been told that I need to prepare for the argument beforehand, and I've tried that, but I either didn't have enough time or didn't have the option to step away and take deep breaths or let the tears out before the argument (which I honestly think may work, but I'm not sure). I see the same answers everywhere that are impossible under a time-constraint and/or the location. Also, you sometimes don't know when arguments are coming.\n\nI just want to be able to have an argument with someone without breaking down.", "How do I avoid crying during an argument? I'm a teenager, female, and I struggle with crying during arguments. Even if I believe I am completely correct and I have several arguments to back it, the second somebody raises their voice I choke up and if I try to talk I start crying almost instantly. I do not have a past of abuse or anything that would cause me to be scared of people yelling, it's just always been like that. Sometimes, they don't even need to yell, just simply carry themselves well and talk evenly and I'll slip up. I also do not believe I have social anxiety.\n\nI've been told that I need to prepare for the argument beforehand, and I've tried that, but I either didn't have enough time or didn't have the option to step away and take deep breaths or let the tears out before the argument (which I honestly think may work, but I'm not sure). I see the same answers everywhere that are impossible under a time-constraint and/or the location. Also, you sometimes don't know when arguments are coming.\n\nI just want to be able to have an argument with someone without breaking down.", "How do I avoid crying during an argument? I'm a teenager, female, and I struggle with crying during arguments. Even if I believe I am completely correct and I have several arguments to back it, the second somebody raises their voice I choke up and if I try to talk I start crying almost instantly. I do not have a past of abuse or anything that would cause me to be scared of people yelling, it's just always been like that. Sometimes, they don't even need to yell, just simply carry themselves well and talk evenly and I'll slip up. I also do not believe I have social anxiety.\n\nI've been told that I need to prepare for the argument beforehand, and I've tried that, but I either didn't have enough time or didn't have the option to step away and take deep breaths or let the tears out before the argument (which I honestly think may work, but I'm not sure). I see the same answers everywhere that are impossible under a time-constraint and/or the location. Also, you sometimes don't know when arguments are coming.\n\nI just want to be able to have an argument with someone without breaking down.", "How do I avoid crying during an argument? I'm a teenager, female, and I struggle with crying during arguments. Even if I believe I am completely correct and I have several arguments to back it, the second somebody raises their voice I choke up and if I try to talk I start crying almost instantly. I do not have a past of abuse or anything that would cause me to be scared of people yelling, it's just always been like that. Sometimes, they don't even need to yell, just simply carry themselves well and talk evenly and I'll slip up. I also do not believe I have social anxiety.\n\nI've been told that I need to prepare for the argument beforehand, and I've tried that, but I either didn't have enough time or didn't have the option to step away and take deep breaths or let the tears out before the argument (which I honestly think may work, but I'm not sure). I see the same answers everywhere that are impossible under a time-constraint and/or the location. Also, you sometimes don't know when arguments are coming.\n\nI just want to be able to have an argument with someone without breaking down.", "How do I avoid crying during an argument? I'm a teenager, female, and I struggle with crying during arguments. Even if I believe I am completely correct and I have several arguments to back it, the second somebody raises their voice I choke up and if I try to talk I start crying almost instantly. I do not have a past of abuse or anything that would cause me to be scared of people yelling, it's just always been like that. Sometimes, they don't even need to yell, just simply carry themselves well and talk evenly and I'll slip up. I also do not believe I have social anxiety.\n\nI've been told that I need to prepare for the argument beforehand, and I've tried that, but I either didn't have enough time or didn't have the option to step away and take deep breaths or let the tears out before the argument (which I honestly think may work, but I'm not sure). I see the same answers everywhere that are impossible under a time-constraint and/or the location. Also, you sometimes don't know when arguments are coming.\n\nI just want to be able to have an argument with someone without breaking down." ]

[ "emotions often are a coping mechanism when we operate outside of the \"guardrails\" that we are comfortable operating within. This can include your situation and others like anger or bad behavior from a child. One piece of advice I once received was to learn to expand your operating \"zone\" (or the width of the guardrails you can function within). You'd do so through \"manufacturing\" situations you initiate or similar, but controlled, situations. Hope that makes sense. In other words, strengthen those \"muscles\" in a controlled environment so that they're strong when you need them in the real world.", "Maybe practice with a friend, like role play. Practice losing arguments as well as winning them. Growing up is a learning process; don’t feel bad you’re not there on day one.", "The first is acknowledging it is a problem, so good job taking that first step and wanting to solve it. Hang in there and you’ll grow a tougher skin. \n\nThe way I think of it is people only raise their voice when you piss them off by making better points, or when they run out of good points themselves. I laugh to myself when they yell because I’ve already won and I’ve done it in a more civil manner.", "I have the same issue, but in my case it did come from abuse. The issue is with people of authority; parents, bosses, teachers, people older than me, even older siblings. My therapist and I worked it out and determined that as a kid, I was berated every time I showed emotions or dislike. I wasn't allowed to have my own thoughts and emotions. Because my brain then can't process those emotions, they build up and get released in the only way they can: convulsive crying. \n\nMaybe this applies to you to a lesser extent? Perhaps there's a situation where you feel you can't express emotions? For me, the solution was to learn to embrace my feelings, which is tough work and takes some time! But I find I only cry when I have intense anger now.", "Exp. The more fights you get into the more numb you will be. Not worth it. These losers always trying to get a piece. Fk them.", "Used to happen to me as well when I was your age, it went away by itself as I grew up. Maybe it's the hormones or something.", "OP, Thank you for sharing this post. While I do not have direct advice to contribute to this thread (due to being the polar opposite and having a difficult time relating), it does however re-enforces my belief that although we may be equal in importance, men and women are simply hard-wired differently.", "You don't have to respond when someone is yelling at you. That's on them for not being able to control their emotions. Instead of focusing on responding, just focus on maintaining your inner zen. Take deep breaths, close your eyes if that helps, walk away if you can. If they get made at you for not responding, say something like \"I'm not going to respond when you use that tone of voice on me.\" or \"We'll continue this when you can talk respectfully\". Repeat as necessary, don't engage further.", "Play sports. Work, volunteer. You live in a bubble being placated as a kid. Time to leave and see the real world so get out more, social clubs, volunteer at a preschool or hospital. Build yourself." ]

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[ "How do I prevent excessive sweating? Summer is right around the corner but I have a major issue that I sweat fucking loads. I know sweating is a natural process but I sweat much more than any of my friends so it's kind of embarrassing, and yes, I've tried anti-perspirant, it barely helps the matter at all. Any tips?\n", "How do I prevent excessive sweating? Summer is right around the corner but I have a major issue that I sweat fucking loads. I know sweating is a natural process but I sweat much more than any of my friends so it's kind of embarrassing, and yes, I've tried anti-perspirant, it barely helps the matter at all. Any tips?\n", "How do I prevent excessive sweating? Summer is right around the corner but I have a major issue that I sweat fucking loads. I know sweating is a natural process but I sweat much more than any of my friends so it's kind of embarrassing, and yes, I've tried anti-perspirant, it barely helps the matter at all. Any tips?\n" ]

[ "Amigo, I am in your shoes aswell. If the temperature goes above 17 degrees Celsius or 62 Fahrenheit, i will be sweating buckets within seconds of activity. People say it is due to weight, but i am 182 lbs at 6 foot and one of my neighbors of similar height but a bit heavier, will be the last to sweat when we each walk the same distance to the convenience store. I honestly don't know if genes play a part, but i am certain they do. If it helps, he's Scandinavian and I am East African. I have just accepted it, life is too short to be prioritising this lol.", "A lot of this could be attributed to nerves. I despise hot wewther, anything above 15 degrees celsius and I'm melting. I'm clinically underweight and don't wear layers. We all have our 'comfortable' temps. But for me, nerves is a big deal. \n\nI'm a bit socially reclusive, so just being around people makes me flustered and hot. Having to talk to random people too makes me sweat, typically my back.\n\nI had a conversation with a lovely person, it was uncomfortable or anything but then a slght bit of wind picked up and when it caught my back it felt as though someone poured a bucket of water down my back. \n\nSo, yeah. Try not to worry about it too much, you are likely exasperating it.", "I don't suffer from excessive sweating but I use this and it works so so well. I want people who have a sweat or odor issue to try this. It can be found at Amazon but some drug stores and Wal-Mart stores have it. It's inexpensive and lasts forever.\n http://www.amazon.com/Crystal-Body-Deodorant-Stick-4-25/dp/B000L978FU\nI would recommend using it before bedtime and also right after showering. For best results, your skin needs to be dampened or just put a little water on the top of it. You can put deodorant over it too. It will take a week or two to get full results." ]

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[ "How to make greetings and farewells less awkward? A lot of times when I am visiting friends or family, the greeting and farewell phase for me is extremely awkward. I never really know what to do or say, especially on farewells as I don't know the \"appropriate\" time to say you're ready to leave without seeming rude or just making it awkward in general.\n\nAny tips that can help?", "How to make greetings and farewells less awkward? A lot of times when I am visiting friends or family, the greeting and farewell phase for me is extremely awkward. I never really know what to do or say, especially on farewells as I don't know the \"appropriate\" time to say you're ready to leave without seeming rude or just making it awkward in general.\n\nAny tips that can help?", "How to make greetings and farewells less awkward? A lot of times when I am visiting friends or family, the greeting and farewell phase for me is extremely awkward. I never really know what to do or say, especially on farewells as I don't know the \"appropriate\" time to say you're ready to leave without seeming rude or just making it awkward in general.\n\nAny tips that can help?" ]

[ "Things are only awkward if you make them awkward. It's a state of mind. Nothing *has* to be awkward, it only is because you labeled it that.\n\n\"Hi\" is a good starter. Try this: \"Hi, how are you?\" and when leaving: \"It was really nice to see you, but I need to go now. Thank you so much for having me over, [*insert compliment here*], I'm looking forward to next time.\"\n\nSometimes there won't be a next time or the next time is going to be very far off, because you live far away or something. It's best not to make a white lie with something like: \"We'll stay in touch, or let's talk soon.\" Obviously you won't and it's pretty insulting if the other person mistakenly thought you were serious. So, just say \"it sucks we live so far apart, but I know the next time we see each other, it will be as if we never left, again thank you so much but we have to go [*or something like that*]. \n\nIf you probably won't see them again, then just thank them for the visit, be very polite, and wish them a good rest of the day, but don't feel the need to make up a story about why you won't see each other again. People are smart, they can figure these things out for themselves without having to be told. (Yeah, of course, people can be dumb too, but when it comes to social interactions, this stuff is instinctual, and people are generally on point.)\n\nGenerally, if you're thinking about leaving then the host is probably also thinking about when you should be leaving. For the most part, people are on the same page about that--again, people are smart. So it's not always rude to leave early, sometimes you're relieving the host of stress from having to host so many people, or allowing them to get to bed earlier. It's only rude if you were the special guest or are leaving the host alone with someone shady or they don't like.", "What I did was start saying hi to everyone, and asking how their days are going, to get myself used to arbitrarily making noises when nobody else is", "Hiddidly-ho neighbornino \nJust kidding say \n\"Hey how are ya\"\nOr \"what's up\"\nWhen your leaving just say \n\"Thanks for having me I gotta go though\" \n\"Alright thanks see ya\"" ]

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[ "Easy way to organize and manage my bookmarks and/or saved Reddit pages. I'm an internet hoarder. If I see a piece of cool, useful information, I save it. I have bookmark folders, but they still get messy. I also have a ton of saved Reddit pages. So many that I needed to make separate accounts for different things. Aside from not saving so many pages, is there a simple way to organize everything? Maybe even a way to store this information for offline viewing? Thanks!", "Easy way to organize and manage my bookmarks and/or saved Reddit pages. I'm an internet hoarder. If I see a piece of cool, useful information, I save it. I have bookmark folders, but they still get messy. I also have a ton of saved Reddit pages. So many that I needed to make separate accounts for different things. Aside from not saving so many pages, is there a simple way to organize everything? Maybe even a way to store this information for offline viewing? Thanks!" ]

[ "A few years ago, I had to format my hdd; I bitterly remember it as the 'Format of 2010'. Lot of other shit had been going around. But I had been smart with my data backing it up to a partitioned drive and having the OS on C:\\ drive. The only thing I lost in that format was all my bookmarks; which turned out to be pretty catastrophic. That's when I started using [Xmarks](http://my.xmarks.com/) Go ahead, explore and see how you can use it fully.\n\ntl;dr - [Xmarks](http://my.xmarks.com/)", "If you have a google account you can save bookmarks as a list of links in the documents section, and upload pictures to their drive and link to them that way. Depending on your web coding skills you can make the list a bit more dynamic too.\n\nRather than save a reddit page you could copy and paste the bit you want into a document and include a table of contents link at the top." ]

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[ "What to do in the event of a cramp? Just had an extremely painful cramp in my leg (right above my knee). Wouldn't go away for a solid 20 minutes. Cold, fearful, and lying naked on the floor, I had no choice but to endure until my body decided to release the vice grip it had on my leg.\n\n\nOther than staying well hydrated and stretching the muscle in the event of a cramp, what are some tips on how to prevent cramps and what to do to shorten the lifespan of a cramp in case they decide to persist?", "What to do in the event of a cramp? Just had an extremely painful cramp in my leg (right above my knee). Wouldn't go away for a solid 20 minutes. Cold, fearful, and lying naked on the floor, I had no choice but to endure until my body decided to release the vice grip it had on my leg.\n\n\nOther than staying well hydrated and stretching the muscle in the event of a cramp, what are some tips on how to prevent cramps and what to do to shorten the lifespan of a cramp in case they decide to persist?", "What to do in the event of a cramp? Just had an extremely painful cramp in my leg (right above my knee). Wouldn't go away for a solid 20 minutes. Cold, fearful, and lying naked on the floor, I had no choice but to endure until my body decided to release the vice grip it had on my leg.\n\n\nOther than staying well hydrated and stretching the muscle in the event of a cramp, what are some tips on how to prevent cramps and what to do to shorten the lifespan of a cramp in case they decide to persist?" ]

[ "Muscle cramp? When you feel it coming on, try to stretch the muscle instead of letting itself flex. As soon as you feel it coming on, stretch out the muscle for a while. ", "Eat bananas, because potassium. If you're having cramps all the time, it might be a sign of a problem with your thyroid.", "I tend to get cramps in my calves while I'm laying down. Insanely painful. I learned recently that if I make a fist and push Into the cramp firmly but carefully it will relax much sooner than waiting for it to go away by itself. Not sure if this works for other areas but I'm sure as hell glad it works for me at all." ]

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[ "What to do with my hands? My problem is, doesn't matter what situation, I can't keep my hands calm. \nIf I got something in my hand, I will play around with it. If I got nothing in my hand, I will get something or start playing around with something around me( tipping on desks, etc. ).\nAs some people around me tend to get really annoyed by this, I could really use LPTs on how to stop/lessen this behaviour, or as alternative LPTs on what's good to play with, i.e. not that obvious/annoying to others.", "What to do with my hands? My problem is, doesn't matter what situation, I can't keep my hands calm. \nIf I got something in my hand, I will play around with it. If I got nothing in my hand, I will get something or start playing around with something around me( tipping on desks, etc. ).\nAs some people around me tend to get really annoyed by this, I could really use LPTs on how to stop/lessen this behaviour, or as alternative LPTs on what's good to play with, i.e. not that obvious/annoying to others.", "What to do with my hands? My problem is, doesn't matter what situation, I can't keep my hands calm. \nIf I got something in my hand, I will play around with it. If I got nothing in my hand, I will get something or start playing around with something around me( tipping on desks, etc. ).\nAs some people around me tend to get really annoyed by this, I could really use LPTs on how to stop/lessen this behaviour, or as alternative LPTs on what's good to play with, i.e. not that obvious/annoying to others.", "What to do with my hands? My problem is, doesn't matter what situation, I can't keep my hands calm. \nIf I got something in my hand, I will play around with it. If I got nothing in my hand, I will get something or start playing around with something around me( tipping on desks, etc. ).\nAs some people around me tend to get really annoyed by this, I could really use LPTs on how to stop/lessen this behaviour, or as alternative LPTs on what's good to play with, i.e. not that obvious/annoying to others.", "What to do with my hands? My problem is, doesn't matter what situation, I can't keep my hands calm. \nIf I got something in my hand, I will play around with it. If I got nothing in my hand, I will get something or start playing around with something around me( tipping on desks, etc. ).\nAs some people around me tend to get really annoyed by this, I could really use LPTs on how to stop/lessen this behaviour, or as alternative LPTs on what's good to play with, i.e. not that obvious/annoying to others.", "What to do with my hands? My problem is, doesn't matter what situation, I can't keep my hands calm. \nIf I got something in my hand, I will play around with it. If I got nothing in my hand, I will get something or start playing around with something around me( tipping on desks, etc. ).\nAs some people around me tend to get really annoyed by this, I could really use LPTs on how to stop/lessen this behaviour, or as alternative LPTs on what's good to play with, i.e. not that obvious/annoying to others.", "What to do with my hands? My problem is, doesn't matter what situation, I can't keep my hands calm. \nIf I got something in my hand, I will play around with it. If I got nothing in my hand, I will get something or start playing around with something around me( tipping on desks, etc. ).\nAs some people around me tend to get really annoyed by this, I could really use LPTs on how to stop/lessen this behaviour, or as alternative LPTs on what's good to play with, i.e. not that obvious/annoying to others.", "What to do with my hands? My problem is, doesn't matter what situation, I can't keep my hands calm. \nIf I got something in my hand, I will play around with it. If I got nothing in my hand, I will get something or start playing around with something around me( tipping on desks, etc. ).\nAs some people around me tend to get really annoyed by this, I could really use LPTs on how to stop/lessen this behaviour, or as alternative LPTs on what's good to play with, i.e. not that obvious/annoying to others.", "What to do with my hands? My problem is, doesn't matter what situation, I can't keep my hands calm. \nIf I got something in my hand, I will play around with it. If I got nothing in my hand, I will get something or start playing around with something around me( tipping on desks, etc. ).\nAs some people around me tend to get really annoyed by this, I could really use LPTs on how to stop/lessen this behaviour, or as alternative LPTs on what's good to play with, i.e. not that obvious/annoying to others.", "What to do with my hands? My problem is, doesn't matter what situation, I can't keep my hands calm. \nIf I got something in my hand, I will play around with it. If I got nothing in my hand, I will get something or start playing around with something around me( tipping on desks, etc. ).\nAs some people around me tend to get really annoyed by this, I could really use LPTs on how to stop/lessen this behaviour, or as alternative LPTs on what's good to play with, i.e. not that obvious/annoying to others.", "What to do with my hands? My problem is, doesn't matter what situation, I can't keep my hands calm. \nIf I got something in my hand, I will play around with it. If I got nothing in my hand, I will get something or start playing around with something around me( tipping on desks, etc. ).\nAs some people around me tend to get really annoyed by this, I could really use LPTs on how to stop/lessen this behaviour, or as alternative LPTs on what's good to play with, i.e. not that obvious/annoying to others.", "What to do with my hands? My problem is, doesn't matter what situation, I can't keep my hands calm. \nIf I got something in my hand, I will play around with it. If I got nothing in my hand, I will get something or start playing around with something around me( tipping on desks, etc. ).\nAs some people around me tend to get really annoyed by this, I could really use LPTs on how to stop/lessen this behaviour, or as alternative LPTs on what's good to play with, i.e. not that obvious/annoying to others.", "What to do with my hands? My problem is, doesn't matter what situation, I can't keep my hands calm. \nIf I got something in my hand, I will play around with it. If I got nothing in my hand, I will get something or start playing around with something around me( tipping on desks, etc. ).\nAs some people around me tend to get really annoyed by this, I could really use LPTs on how to stop/lessen this behaviour, or as alternative LPTs on what's good to play with, i.e. not that obvious/annoying to others.", "What to do with my hands? My problem is, doesn't matter what situation, I can't keep my hands calm. \nIf I got something in my hand, I will play around with it. If I got nothing in my hand, I will get something or start playing around with something around me( tipping on desks, etc. ).\nAs some people around me tend to get really annoyed by this, I could really use LPTs on how to stop/lessen this behaviour, or as alternative LPTs on what's good to play with, i.e. not that obvious/annoying to others.", "What to do with my hands? My problem is, doesn't matter what situation, I can't keep my hands calm. \nIf I got something in my hand, I will play around with it. If I got nothing in my hand, I will get something or start playing around with something around me( tipping on desks, etc. ).\nAs some people around me tend to get really annoyed by this, I could really use LPTs on how to stop/lessen this behaviour, or as alternative LPTs on what's good to play with, i.e. not that obvious/annoying to others.", "What to do with my hands? My problem is, doesn't matter what situation, I can't keep my hands calm. \nIf I got something in my hand, I will play around with it. If I got nothing in my hand, I will get something or start playing around with something around me( tipping on desks, etc. ).\nAs some people around me tend to get really annoyed by this, I could really use LPTs on how to stop/lessen this behaviour, or as alternative LPTs on what's good to play with, i.e. not that obvious/annoying to others.", "What to do with my hands? My problem is, doesn't matter what situation, I can't keep my hands calm. \nIf I got something in my hand, I will play around with it. If I got nothing in my hand, I will get something or start playing around with something around me( tipping on desks, etc. ).\nAs some people around me tend to get really annoyed by this, I could really use LPTs on how to stop/lessen this behaviour, or as alternative LPTs on what's good to play with, i.e. not that obvious/annoying to others.", "What to do with my hands? My problem is, doesn't matter what situation, I can't keep my hands calm. \nIf I got something in my hand, I will play around with it. If I got nothing in my hand, I will get something or start playing around with something around me( tipping on desks, etc. ).\nAs some people around me tend to get really annoyed by this, I could really use LPTs on how to stop/lessen this behaviour, or as alternative LPTs on what's good to play with, i.e. not that obvious/annoying to others." ]

[ "I am the same way and had a ring that had a larger ring around it that you could spin. Its perfect. You always have it with you, its quiet, and it's very satisfying to play with. It looked cool too", "I'm the same. At work i have the ball from an old mouse (please tell me you know what i'm talking about so i don't feel old). \nit's small, so it doesn't stick out that much, heavy so you really feel there's something there and it has a nice texture. just don't try any fancy stuff, because if it falls down it'll make a lot of noise and you running after it is distracting as hell.", "I have some little \"koosh\" balls (balls that are all rubbery spikes) that are good for this. They're silent, and I can roll them around in my hands.", "i always have one or two elastics around my wrist so when i get fidgety i can play with them... tie them together and untie them, stretch them out, roll them up into a ball, etc", "You might want to get yourself some sort of [fidget](http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=fidgets&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Afidgets) to carry with you.\n\nMy boss has this issue, and his solution is to twist and un-twist his fancy pen. Unfortunately, this pen emits an ear-piercing squeak every time he twists it. I mean, it's *painful* to listen to all the time. I'm considering getting him one of these fidgets, but it seems like they might be specific to each person's tastes.\n\nCheers.", "This is a chance to learn a useless talent actually. Just read a couple magic techniques and then when you have nothing to do with your hands just grab a coin and work on the techniques. Then in time you'll get sorta good and you can do that one trick where you pull the coin from behind someone's ear. Or disappear it or something. ", "My habit is to disassemble any mechanical pen or pencil I can get my hands on.\n\nIs it the most discreet? Nope, but it does keep my hands busy, and it's probably cheaper than those newfangled \"fidget devices\"", "Try focusing on another part of your body. E.g. try to stretch your neck as far upwards as it can go (make yourself taller) while simultaneously pushing your shoulders downwards. This is a double pro tip as it is good posture+you look more confident. Hopefully doing this can get your attention away from your hands.", "I'm really confused. Why can't you just keep your hands still? Do you have some kind of issue I don't get it.", "i have one of [these](http://www.irishindeed.com/browse.cfm/connemara-marble-worry-stone/4,498.html?AFF=BASE&gclid=CPz6w5qMsb4CFchefgodtSUA0g). they are just rocks that feel really smooth and are shaped so you can rub your thumb in them. i found it at a little gift shop and just keep it in my pocket. small, not easily noticeable, and they feel cool. only thing is you might look like your thinking about money or something, rubbing your thumb against your fingers is something most people only do when talking about money. ", "[These work](http://www.fasttech.com/reviews/1555400/41524) or you could get a bunch of the little ones. They used to be called bucky balls. \n\nShipping is free but it takes like a month or so to get to you.\n\n\n*", "Remember that there's nothing wrong with feeling the need to be active at any age. Everyone has different needs.\n\nDefinitely find something(s) you enjoy that are silent and unobtrusive to play with when it acceptable.\n\nDo your best to relax in times where it's not acceptable to fidget at all; thankfully there shouldn't be many of those times.\n\nRemember there is no \"normal\" and be proud that you are aware that you may be annoying other people and are making an effort to not do so; if they are worth anything they'll appreciate that and who cares about the rest!\n\n/teacherrant\n\n\n", "May not work with everyone but tell them you've given up smoking and playing with something in your hands removes the temptation whilst simulating holding a cigarette. \n\nObviously this won't work for your close friends as they know you don't smoke but hopefully they're not the ones getting annoyed.\n\n", "Learn to walk a coin between your fingers! You can find how to's on the web or in beginner magician books. It's innocuous enough not to bother others like clicking a pen, but useful enough to show off with in a pub!\n\nSource: Part time magician and full time office drone on the phone.\n\nHuzzah! Video for those who want to see: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wbokdZh7_Gg", "In \"situations\"...Focus on your breathing. Breathe deeply from your nose in, hold for a second, then out.\n\nExercise ( I reccomend Yoga) to lower anxiety in general.", "I'm terrible with beer bottle labels, coasters, the plastic ring seals on pop bottles.... Anything, really", "I keep mini origami paper with me. When I'm bored, I pull out a piece and make something. You can buy it really cheap on ebay. :)", "How I don't know what I should do with my hands when I talk to you. How you don't know where you should look, so you look at my hands. " ]

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[ "How to make your sink/disposal smell better I've heard you can run the disposal with the water on and toss in a few ice cubes to clear debris off the blades. It still has somewhat of a foul odor though. Any tips would be appreciated!", "How to make your sink/disposal smell better I've heard you can run the disposal with the water on and toss in a few ice cubes to clear debris off the blades. It still has somewhat of a foul odor though. Any tips would be appreciated!", "How to make your sink/disposal smell better I've heard you can run the disposal with the water on and toss in a few ice cubes to clear debris off the blades. It still has somewhat of a foul odor though. Any tips would be appreciated!", "How to make your sink/disposal smell better I've heard you can run the disposal with the water on and toss in a few ice cubes to clear debris off the blades. It still has somewhat of a foul odor though. Any tips would be appreciated!", "How to make your sink/disposal smell better I've heard you can run the disposal with the water on and toss in a few ice cubes to clear debris off the blades. It still has somewhat of a foul odor though. Any tips would be appreciated!" ]

[ "I believe you are not supposed to put ice cubes down the disposal. For the smell you can put used lemons, limes, or even orange rinds in the disposal.", "Pull out the rubber guard thing and wash the nasty gunk off the bottom of it. Crazy how much *yuck* there is under there. I didn't even know you could pull it out til I read somewhere on the internet about cleaning your disposal. \n\nBleach is great for killing germs and rotten food-y odors. Walmart sells a cheap bleach-and-detergent cleaner in a spray bottle that works well for such projects. Once it's clean you can put citrus rinds down the disposal for a fresh scent. ", "After having to call in a plumber to clear a plugged disposal drain, I asked him what was actually safe to use the disposal for and he replied without hesitation, \"water\".\n\nYour disposal is not there to let you put endless crud down your drain. In fact, you would be better off to never use it at all and only use drain traps to catch the crud.\n\nHe noted that if you insist on using the disposal that occasionally dumping and grinding a small amount of used (read: still wet) coffee grounds down it will serve to both help sharpen the blades and negate odors.\n\nAlso, never, never use it for disposing of rice.", "I just throw a can of old spice body spray in the mix, flip the switch wait for the scent explosion and go on with my day. I'm going to use the citrus peel method from now on.", "An old trick of mine is to put about a quarter cup to half a cup of salt into the drain. Let it sit for five minutes or so, turn on the water, the run the disposal. For an added kick, you can always add more salt as it's running. \n\nAlso, check up on which foods you shouldn't put down the disposal (e.g., celery.) This will eliminate the likeliness of solids sticking around in your drain, and ultimately causing more smell." ]

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[ "how to make the most of high ceilings So I've moved to a flat with normal sized rooms but very high ceilings, and I want to try and use the height to my advantage (storage ofc but I'm not opposed to using it for other stuff too). Anybody with ideas greater than \"stack stuff\" will have surpassed me. \nThanks!", "how to make the most of high ceilings So I've moved to a flat with normal sized rooms but very high ceilings, and I want to try and use the height to my advantage (storage ofc but I'm not opposed to using it for other stuff too). Anybody with ideas greater than \"stack stuff\" will have surpassed me. \nThanks!" ]

[ "You know those fake plants, and how they're usually about seven feet tall? Think bigger. Make a jungle.", "Big, nontraditional art on your walls. I've seen people hang interesting rugs on the wall and it can look gorgeous, plus with the ceiling height you can go a little higher and really turn it into a centerpiece. Tall, statement floor lamps will also look amazing, something like [this](http://www.cb2.com/big-dipper-arc-floor-lamp/s126317) maybe?" ]

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[ "How to not choke(figuratively) during any situation where you're heavily depended on. Whether it's trivial situations(failing to score a completely easy goal in rocket league, dropping something fragile) or something important such as doing a speech properly, I seem to screw it up from time to time due to my inability to handle pressure. This probably goes back to when I was younger for when my parents would chide me greatly for screwing up things all the time, but that's another story.\n\nAny tips?", "How to not choke(figuratively) during any situation where you're heavily depended on. Whether it's trivial situations(failing to score a completely easy goal in rocket league, dropping something fragile) or something important such as doing a speech properly, I seem to screw it up from time to time due to my inability to handle pressure. This probably goes back to when I was younger for when my parents would chide me greatly for screwing up things all the time, but that's another story.\n\nAny tips?", "How to not choke(figuratively) during any situation where you're heavily depended on. Whether it's trivial situations(failing to score a completely easy goal in rocket league, dropping something fragile) or something important such as doing a speech properly, I seem to screw it up from time to time due to my inability to handle pressure. This probably goes back to when I was younger for when my parents would chide me greatly for screwing up things all the time, but that's another story.\n\nAny tips?", "How to not choke(figuratively) during any situation where you're heavily depended on. Whether it's trivial situations(failing to score a completely easy goal in rocket league, dropping something fragile) or something important such as doing a speech properly, I seem to screw it up from time to time due to my inability to handle pressure. This probably goes back to when I was younger for when my parents would chide me greatly for screwing up things all the time, but that's another story.\n\nAny tips?" ]

[ "You want to get to the point where you can do it on instinct, without thinking about it. You ever seen a pitcher snag a line drive coming back at his face, or a goalie make an amazing save on a point blank shot? That's all instinct. \n\nSpeeches are all about confidence. If you know the material inside and out, you can speak to it without trying to think during the speech. Again, instinct. \n\nTo quote the greatest movie ever, \"if you weren't thinking you wouldn't have thought that!\". ", "I learned something very helpful a number of years ago. I learn from every mistake that I make. If it is important that I don't do the mistake again, I devise a solution or tool to not make it again. Everyone makes mistakes. Very successful people weren't born into those positions. They progressed and learned as they went along. \n\nYou need to surround yourself with people who are judging you all of the time. People who are receptive to who you are. Find a job with good people like this. This will help your confidence.\n\nAccept criticism as a gift. Because that is what it is. \n\nAnd slow down. Live more in the moment and don't worry about it. When you speak, speak slower. Take your time to see if the listeners are understanding and following. When public speaking, pause for a few seconds occasionally for effect. Seems hard but it actually rather easy and empowering.\n\nDo you have a mentor? Ask someone you respect that is over 50. Old guys like to impart with their wisdom.", ">I seem to screw it up from time to time\n\nEveryone screw up from time to time. As Captain Picard so insightfully pointed out to Data, [that is not a weakness](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VDNNSKuRu6Y).\n\nWhat you need to do is to stop focusing on the clutch moment. Focus instead on everything else leading up to that moment. Focus on your training regime, your goal-setting, your form, your post-game analysis. Once all those things are done correctly, your ability to deliver in the clutch will simply come to you.", "Excitement and Fear feel the same. Mentally turn the anxiety feeling into excitement. No matter the reason for the high pressure situation you have to realize it's not by accident you got to that point." ]

[ 1, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "Girl went out of her way to talk to me earlier this year but I didn't reciprocate. I want to talk to her now but don't know how. 16 yo Sophomore in high school. A few months ago this girl who I kind of have a crush on went out of her way to try to befriend me during the school lunch period, but since she sat with so many people I didn't know I was too afraid to approach her again. Several months later I finally get the \"courage\" to start sitting with her again but I never know what kind of questions to ask her or other people there so everyone else talks amongst themselves and I feel like an outsider. She won't talk to me unless I talk to her first. ", "Girl went out of her way to talk to me earlier this year but I didn't reciprocate. I want to talk to her now but don't know how. 16 yo Sophomore in high school. A few months ago this girl who I kind of have a crush on went out of her way to try to befriend me during the school lunch period, but since she sat with so many people I didn't know I was too afraid to approach her again. Several months later I finally get the \"courage\" to start sitting with her again but I never know what kind of questions to ask her or other people there so everyone else talks amongst themselves and I feel like an outsider. She won't talk to me unless I talk to her first. ", "Girl went out of her way to talk to me earlier this year but I didn't reciprocate. I want to talk to her now but don't know how. 16 yo Sophomore in high school. A few months ago this girl who I kind of have a crush on went out of her way to try to befriend me during the school lunch period, but since she sat with so many people I didn't know I was too afraid to approach her again. Several months later I finally get the \"courage\" to start sitting with her again but I never know what kind of questions to ask her or other people there so everyone else talks amongst themselves and I feel like an outsider. She won't talk to me unless I talk to her first. ", "Girl went out of her way to talk to me earlier this year but I didn't reciprocate. I want to talk to her now but don't know how. 16 yo Sophomore in high school. A few months ago this girl who I kind of have a crush on went out of her way to try to befriend me during the school lunch period, but since she sat with so many people I didn't know I was too afraid to approach her again. Several months later I finally get the \"courage\" to start sitting with her again but I never know what kind of questions to ask her or other people there so everyone else talks amongst themselves and I feel like an outsider. She won't talk to me unless I talk to her first. " ]

[ "Take it slow: \n\n1) Just start saying hi to her for a few weeks until that's normal, and she smiles and says hi back when she sees you - to make basic interacting a normal thing. \n\n\n2) Then start making small talk (about once every 3 days) - one quick question about some recent school event that you two can exchange opinions on for 30 seconds (i.e. - Do you like the pizza buns in the cafeteria or the fries better?), (Are you going to see the school play?) (How do you find Ms.Chang as a physics teacher? etc. etc.). \n\n\n3) After a couple of weeks of this you can start asking her about more personal things like pets or music or movies and start having real conversations. \n\nJust give her a bit of time to think of you as a friend instead of a stranger, and if she brings up more personal topics sooner, just go with it. \n\n\nHave fun making a new friend! \n\n\nBonus tip: If you can share a small snack (skittles, gummy worms, chips, popcorn - something small and easily sharable that doesn't invoke the need for reciprocation) that will make a huge difference - humans bond over food. Do not do this with something like a whole sandwich or a doughnut- she will \"owe\" you and then it will be awkward. ", "Well. How about a 'hi' and a couple questions about what hobbies she has or what activities she enjoys.\nStriking conversation with someone can only be learnt with time and experience. The more you talk to people, the better you'll get at starting and holding conversations. No one can really teach you that.\n\nSo my tip would be - talk to her about whatever comes to mind and be yourself. Make her feel comfortable. And don't be judgemental. :)", "She may feel a little rejected, so on top of all of the existing advice I would find a way to apologise for not reciprocating in the first place. Just tell the truth that you were shy. It'll probably be very much appreciated, and even if not, it's still a good thing to do.", "The biggest LPT I can offer is... do NOT be afraid to fail. Don't build the moment up in your head so much that you're now fantasizing about your four beautiful future children with her. She may not be interested in you. And you know what? That's perfectly alright. Nothing you can say or do will change that, and it's not a big deal. Move on to the next girl that piques your interest. Even the most hardcore players will fail a majority of the time, but they also know that not taking the chance and talking has a 100% failure rate." ]

[ 10, 6, 3, 1 ]

[ "How to get stop cringing at old memories. I'm sure you all know the feeling of thinking of something stupid from your past and then just cringing really hard. Most of the time for me it's not even anything big or anything anyone remembers. Anyone have a tip for what to do when you remember one of these moments so you won't have to constantly cringe for the next 10 years when you think about it?", "How to get stop cringing at old memories. I'm sure you all know the feeling of thinking of something stupid from your past and then just cringing really hard. Most of the time for me it's not even anything big or anything anyone remembers. Anyone have a tip for what to do when you remember one of these moments so you won't have to constantly cringe for the next 10 years when you think about it?", "How to get stop cringing at old memories. I'm sure you all know the feeling of thinking of something stupid from your past and then just cringing really hard. Most of the time for me it's not even anything big or anything anyone remembers. Anyone have a tip for what to do when you remember one of these moments so you won't have to constantly cringe for the next 10 years when you think about it?", "How to get stop cringing at old memories. I'm sure you all know the feeling of thinking of something stupid from your past and then just cringing really hard. Most of the time for me it's not even anything big or anything anyone remembers. Anyone have a tip for what to do when you remember one of these moments so you won't have to constantly cringe for the next 10 years when you think about it?", "How to get stop cringing at old memories. I'm sure you all know the feeling of thinking of something stupid from your past and then just cringing really hard. Most of the time for me it's not even anything big or anything anyone remembers. Anyone have a tip for what to do when you remember one of these moments so you won't have to constantly cringe for the next 10 years when you think about it?", "How to get stop cringing at old memories. I'm sure you all know the feeling of thinking of something stupid from your past and then just cringing really hard. Most of the time for me it's not even anything big or anything anyone remembers. Anyone have a tip for what to do when you remember one of these moments so you won't have to constantly cringe for the next 10 years when you think about it?", "How to get stop cringing at old memories. I'm sure you all know the feeling of thinking of something stupid from your past and then just cringing really hard. Most of the time for me it's not even anything big or anything anyone remembers. Anyone have a tip for what to do when you remember one of these moments so you won't have to constantly cringe for the next 10 years when you think about it?" ]

[ "Embrace it. Bring it up and think hard about it. Then bring yourself back to reality and realize that it's all done and over with and what was once cringe worthy might not even be a memory to most people :)\nI've done this with a couple instances where I wanted to die. I just force myself to think about it rather than avoiding it because avoiding just makes the cringey(sp?)- ness even worse. Grab the bull by the horns! ", "Someone once suggested that you try to picture someone who was present at the time of your cringe-worthy moment. Now, try to remember something cringe-worthy that person has done. Odds are you can't, and it follows that they can't remember yours. Everyone's too caught up in their own shit to remember anything you did.\n\nUnless you diarrhea all over yourself in public. I don't think I'd ever forget something like that.", "Try this...\n\nMost people remember events as still images in their minds or as very short mental movies. Bring up the image and pretend you have ", "The answer was actually a top post.\n\n\"LPT: When you're cringing with humiliation at something you did years ago, stop and think of one of the people who saw it: can you think of something humiliating that happened to them? Probably not. Well, nobody remembers your moment, either.\"\n\nSource: http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/2dfa4k/lpt_when_youre_cringing_with_humiliation_at/", "One of the healthiest things anyone can do is to practice writing your life's narrative. This gets left out of the \"how to be happy\" lists because it's hard to conceptualize.\n\nTell yourself that your life is a story that's leading to something. Figure out where you want it to go. Then figure out how those memories from the past fit into the narrative. It's like a movie: the same scene can be filmed in countless ways. Decide on the story, and practice telling yourself and others. Make a photo album. Make a mix tape/CD. Make a video. \n\nThose memories are unpleasant because you're not in control of the narrative. Your \"character\" hasn't gone through enough of an arc. In any good story, all those embarrassing things serve a purpose in character development. Choose to see those things in your past like that and practice telling the story. (Having a story to tell also makes you more interesting to talk to.)", "I tried to follow the advice of think of someone elses goofs, but I actually remember some embarrassing things they've done =/", "I have had a huge problem with this my whole life, then I saw a post on LPT about how to deal with it and it's been working for me.\n\nThe post said something of the sort: close your eyes, take a deep breath, and breathe it out/let it go. The intentional exhale helps me release the bad memories as if i'm breathing them out. I know it sounds cheesy, but it helped me." ]

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[ "Getting horrible smells out of your car I let my sister borrow my car for a week, and she just happened to forget that she left raw chicken in it for a week after grocery shopping. For the sake of my sanity, how do i get this smell out?", "Getting horrible smells out of your car I let my sister borrow my car for a week, and she just happened to forget that she left raw chicken in it for a week after grocery shopping. For the sake of my sanity, how do i get this smell out?", "Getting horrible smells out of your car I let my sister borrow my car for a week, and she just happened to forget that she left raw chicken in it for a week after grocery shopping. For the sake of my sanity, how do i get this smell out?", "Getting horrible smells out of your car I let my sister borrow my car for a week, and she just happened to forget that she left raw chicken in it for a week after grocery shopping. For the sake of my sanity, how do i get this smell out?" ]

[ "1. Go to your local Walmart.\n2. Stroll over to the automotive section :o\n3. Find the air fresheners. \n4. You will find small cans called \"Ozium\" which is an industrial strength deodirizer used in hospitals and such. It's extremely powerful and is not to be inhaled. So, follow directions closely and you will prevail.", "This works pretty well...\n\nLoosely crush up a few charcoal brickettes (yeah the ones you burn on a BBQ) onto a plate/other open container.\nPut in the footwell of the car. There's no reason you couldn't use several plates (driver and passenger, front and back)\nLeave for a few days (with the windows closed), over the weekend for example.\nRemove plates & charcoal after a few days.\n\nThe charcoal obsorbs the smell. Has worked for me with all number of smells in a car.", "Roll down all the windows, open the doors. Spray the crap out of your car with Febreze or a similar product. Let it soak in for a minute or two, and then vacuum all interior surfaces, including under the seats, the place behind the rear seats over the trunk, and (depending on how smelly the car is,) the ceiling of the car. Use a normal vacuum with the hose attachment because those handheld vacuums aren't powerful enough to get rid of smells in these sorts of situations. Once you've Febreze'd and vacuumed, raise the windows and clean them all.", "Go get a pine tree branch with some pine needles still attached. Then leave it in your car for a few days. \n\nAfterwards, clean your car and open the windows and let it freshen up." ]

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[ "How to get your email under control from spam. Like the title says. Trying to figure out how to get my email under control from spam. I currently use 3 email accounts:\n\n* @att.net - A holdover from when I had ATT cell service. Most of my log-ins for things such as banking, bills, etc., are under this one. \n* @gmail.com - Because who doesn't use GMail these days? \n* @live.com - The account I made for 'spam'. It gets put in when I didn't want my mail email accounts on shady email lists.\n\nI've kind of abandoned all 3. The fight against spam seems unending and unwinnable. I currently have over 1800 unread (mostly spam) messages across all 3 accounts in the primary inboxes. Over 2000 unread messages in the automatic Spam\\Junk folders. \n\nOn my computer, I use Outlook 2013, and on my phone, I use the GMail app with exchange services. These manage all 3. On my computer through Outlook, I've tried setting up rules. I have over 50. I don't know if they're set up properly or not, but they don't seem to be working. \n\nPlease help. I would love to get this under control so I could use my email again. ", "How to get your email under control from spam. Like the title says. Trying to figure out how to get my email under control from spam. I currently use 3 email accounts:\n\n* @att.net - A holdover from when I had ATT cell service. Most of my log-ins for things such as banking, bills, etc., are under this one. \n* @gmail.com - Because who doesn't use GMail these days? \n* @live.com - The account I made for 'spam'. It gets put in when I didn't want my mail email accounts on shady email lists.\n\nI've kind of abandoned all 3. The fight against spam seems unending and unwinnable. I currently have over 1800 unread (mostly spam) messages across all 3 accounts in the primary inboxes. Over 2000 unread messages in the automatic Spam\\Junk folders. \n\nOn my computer, I use Outlook 2013, and on my phone, I use the GMail app with exchange services. These manage all 3. On my computer through Outlook, I've tried setting up rules. I have over 50. I don't know if they're set up properly or not, but they don't seem to be working. \n\nPlease help. I would love to get this under control so I could use my email again. ", "How to get your email under control from spam. Like the title says. Trying to figure out how to get my email under control from spam. I currently use 3 email accounts:\n\n* @att.net - A holdover from when I had ATT cell service. Most of my log-ins for things such as banking, bills, etc., are under this one. \n* @gmail.com - Because who doesn't use GMail these days? \n* @live.com - The account I made for 'spam'. It gets put in when I didn't want my mail email accounts on shady email lists.\n\nI've kind of abandoned all 3. The fight against spam seems unending and unwinnable. I currently have over 1800 unread (mostly spam) messages across all 3 accounts in the primary inboxes. Over 2000 unread messages in the automatic Spam\\Junk folders. \n\nOn my computer, I use Outlook 2013, and on my phone, I use the GMail app with exchange services. These manage all 3. On my computer through Outlook, I've tried setting up rules. I have over 50. I don't know if they're set up properly or not, but they don't seem to be working. \n\nPlease help. I would love to get this under control so I could use my email again. ", "How to get your email under control from spam. Like the title says. Trying to figure out how to get my email under control from spam. I currently use 3 email accounts:\n\n* @att.net - A holdover from when I had ATT cell service. Most of my log-ins for things such as banking, bills, etc., are under this one. \n* @gmail.com - Because who doesn't use GMail these days? \n* @live.com - The account I made for 'spam'. It gets put in when I didn't want my mail email accounts on shady email lists.\n\nI've kind of abandoned all 3. The fight against spam seems unending and unwinnable. I currently have over 1800 unread (mostly spam) messages across all 3 accounts in the primary inboxes. Over 2000 unread messages in the automatic Spam\\Junk folders. \n\nOn my computer, I use Outlook 2013, and on my phone, I use the GMail app with exchange services. These manage all 3. On my computer through Outlook, I've tried setting up rules. I have over 50. I don't know if they're set up properly or not, but they don't seem to be working. \n\nPlease help. I would love to get this under control so I could use my email again. " ]

[ "Gmail has pretty good spam detection built in and it also has custom filters. I keep my inbox clean by either deleting or moving all newsletters into a dedicated category with the filters.", "I use two different emails. One for professional stuff and things that are important to me. The second one is basically a [email protected]. I use that when signing up for subscriptions I might want to look at once or twice a month. This throwawayemail is linked to my first email account that way when I log in on my mail I have easy access to my second email account.", "I started hitting the \"unsubscribe\" button on every junk email I recieved a while back, and it's helped a ton.", "I am pretty in love with unroll.me , it will combine all your subscription (likely junk, coupons, etc.) emails into a daily digest and you can unsubscribe in big batches." ]

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[ "How to prevent car GPS suction cup from constantly losing suction My GPS suction cup keeps falling off. It didn't used to to do this, so I'm not sure if it's getting old or there's some change in the weather (such as humidity or sun) that could be causing it, but it's getting very annoying. As far as I can tell the windshield is pretty clean where I'm sticking it.", "How to prevent car GPS suction cup from constantly losing suction My GPS suction cup keeps falling off. It didn't used to to do this, so I'm not sure if it's getting old or there's some change in the weather (such as humidity or sun) that could be causing it, but it's getting very annoying. As far as I can tell the windshield is pretty clean where I'm sticking it.", "How to prevent car GPS suction cup from constantly losing suction My GPS suction cup keeps falling off. It didn't used to to do this, so I'm not sure if it's getting old or there's some change in the weather (such as humidity or sun) that could be causing it, but it's getting very annoying. As far as I can tell the windshield is pretty clean where I'm sticking it.", "How to prevent car GPS suction cup from constantly losing suction My GPS suction cup keeps falling off. It didn't used to to do this, so I'm not sure if it's getting old or there's some change in the weather (such as humidity or sun) that could be causing it, but it's getting very annoying. As far as I can tell the windshield is pretty clean where I'm sticking it.", "How to prevent car GPS suction cup from constantly losing suction My GPS suction cup keeps falling off. It didn't used to to do this, so I'm not sure if it's getting old or there's some change in the weather (such as humidity or sun) that could be causing it, but it's getting very annoying. As far as I can tell the windshield is pretty clean where I'm sticking it.", "How to prevent car GPS suction cup from constantly losing suction My GPS suction cup keeps falling off. It didn't used to to do this, so I'm not sure if it's getting old or there's some change in the weather (such as humidity or sun) that could be causing it, but it's getting very annoying. As far as I can tell the windshield is pretty clean where I'm sticking it." ]

[ "Use a small bit of glycerine, it will not harm the rubber like oil, it is actually good for it and will add the moisture you need to help it stick. ", "I've always used spit.\n\n*shrug*\n\nMy suction cup has only fallen off once or twice over the past 2 years, and it was mostly from 'over-adjusting' or smacking it when I was trying to hit a bug, hah.", "I would just use a friction mount like this one:\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Garmin-Portable-Friction-Mount-Frustration/dp/B002OL2MU4/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1335474193&sr=8-1", "While you will have to wash your windshield when you want to dismount it ... rather than licking, oiling, or watering the suction cup, use sweet tea. Semi-permanent hold will be yours.", "The design of the suction cup makes a big difference. I've had a Garmin suction cup for about 11 months now and no problems yet. Usually, cheap suction cups get a little dust on them, and they don't form a good seal. This Garmin one is working great. \n\nAlso wash the inside of your window where you put the suction cup, once per week. See if that helps.", "I'm assuming you know that a little moisture helps it stick. Problem is, water evaporates fast. Use a vary minimal amount of oil instead to make auction cups stick longer. Problem is, I don't know what the oil might do to what it's sticking to. " ]

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[ "How to stay out of drama at work I work in an office with 6 other women and it feels very much like a middle school. Lots of talking behind other's backs, little alliances that are made and broken daily, and lots of talking about feelings. I've been there less than 6 months and have had so many awkward moments with the boss where she's telling me the details of drama and asking why no one likes her. I like her as a person, but it's not how I want to spend my work time. I just want to do my work and get home to my family. \n\nFrom experience, I know that I can get caught up in this drama and am capable of constant shit-talking and gossip. I don't want to go back to those habits. Other than just flat out saying 'I don't want to spend my work time talking about this', any way to cut myself out without making myself the new target of the venting sessions?", "How to stay out of drama at work I work in an office with 6 other women and it feels very much like a middle school. Lots of talking behind other's backs, little alliances that are made and broken daily, and lots of talking about feelings. I've been there less than 6 months and have had so many awkward moments with the boss where she's telling me the details of drama and asking why no one likes her. I like her as a person, but it's not how I want to spend my work time. I just want to do my work and get home to my family. \n\nFrom experience, I know that I can get caught up in this drama and am capable of constant shit-talking and gossip. I don't want to go back to those habits. Other than just flat out saying 'I don't want to spend my work time talking about this', any way to cut myself out without making myself the new target of the venting sessions?", "How to stay out of drama at work I work in an office with 6 other women and it feels very much like a middle school. Lots of talking behind other's backs, little alliances that are made and broken daily, and lots of talking about feelings. I've been there less than 6 months and have had so many awkward moments with the boss where she's telling me the details of drama and asking why no one likes her. I like her as a person, but it's not how I want to spend my work time. I just want to do my work and get home to my family. \n\nFrom experience, I know that I can get caught up in this drama and am capable of constant shit-talking and gossip. I don't want to go back to those habits. Other than just flat out saying 'I don't want to spend my work time talking about this', any way to cut myself out without making myself the new target of the venting sessions?", "How to stay out of drama at work I work in an office with 6 other women and it feels very much like a middle school. Lots of talking behind other's backs, little alliances that are made and broken daily, and lots of talking about feelings. I've been there less than 6 months and have had so many awkward moments with the boss where she's telling me the details of drama and asking why no one likes her. I like her as a person, but it's not how I want to spend my work time. I just want to do my work and get home to my family. \n\nFrom experience, I know that I can get caught up in this drama and am capable of constant shit-talking and gossip. I don't want to go back to those habits. Other than just flat out saying 'I don't want to spend my work time talking about this', any way to cut myself out without making myself the new target of the venting sessions?", "How to stay out of drama at work I work in an office with 6 other women and it feels very much like a middle school. Lots of talking behind other's backs, little alliances that are made and broken daily, and lots of talking about feelings. I've been there less than 6 months and have had so many awkward moments with the boss where she's telling me the details of drama and asking why no one likes her. I like her as a person, but it's not how I want to spend my work time. I just want to do my work and get home to my family. \n\nFrom experience, I know that I can get caught up in this drama and am capable of constant shit-talking and gossip. I don't want to go back to those habits. Other than just flat out saying 'I don't want to spend my work time talking about this', any way to cut myself out without making myself the new target of the venting sessions?", "How to stay out of drama at work I work in an office with 6 other women and it feels very much like a middle school. Lots of talking behind other's backs, little alliances that are made and broken daily, and lots of talking about feelings. I've been there less than 6 months and have had so many awkward moments with the boss where she's telling me the details of drama and asking why no one likes her. I like her as a person, but it's not how I want to spend my work time. I just want to do my work and get home to my family. \n\nFrom experience, I know that I can get caught up in this drama and am capable of constant shit-talking and gossip. I don't want to go back to those habits. Other than just flat out saying 'I don't want to spend my work time talking about this', any way to cut myself out without making myself the new target of the venting sessions?" ]

[ "\"I don't know anything about that\", and/or \"I don't think its any of my business\" works really well at my job. They stop telling you about it, and stop prying for information.", "If you have a habit of getting dragged into gossiping by others, you have to be conscious about it when it happens and then stop engaging in these sort of topics or talks.\n\nIt took me a bit, but I managed to do this myself and now I just do not engage during conversations, whenever the topic shifts to gossip or drama.\n\nOf course it may seem to others that you're distant, passive or not very talkative, but in my opinion it's way worth it.\n\n> ... any way to cut myself out without making myself the new target of the venting sessions?\n\nOh and about this. From my experience, most of the people that gossip, talk about drama or talk bad about others behind their backs, are very likely already talking about, when you're not around.\nNot everyone is like that, but most are. They will find something they do not like about you, doesn't matter if you're trying or not.", "You have to get corporate to enslave you, Sounds harsh but what I'm saying is you have get a no-nonsense policy in place and have everyone shaking in their boots. But you have to live with it too. So be mindful before you bring in the discipline.", "Play dumb. Tell them you're having a hard time concentrating on your work and need to focus. If that happens frequently enough, I don't believe they'll make a habit of bothering you.", "I would recommend to wear headphones (big ones) and listen to upbeat music or whatever makes you happy.", "When it is just other coworkers on your same level it is easier to avoid. When it's the boss asking you why others don't like her then you're getting into a bad situation with an insecure boss. Since you're new the boss maybe trying to pry for info from you. If she was a good leader she wouldn't do this. I'd be careful around the boss to always be professional with noncommittal statements or changing the subject to something directly related to work. Maybe that boss will leave or you'll find something better. Good luck!" ]

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[ "How to keep razor clean when shaving with olive oil I recently shaved my legs wth olive oil for the first time, and I am really happy with the result. However, when I was finished shaving, my razor was all clogged up with congealed oil (looks like grease and almost impossible to clean off completely). I used a disposable safety razor. Am I doing something wrong? How am I supposed to keep my razor from gettng so gross? Is there a special way to clean it?\n\nThanks!", "How to keep razor clean when shaving with olive oil I recently shaved my legs wth olive oil for the first time, and I am really happy with the result. However, when I was finished shaving, my razor was all clogged up with congealed oil (looks like grease and almost impossible to clean off completely). I used a disposable safety razor. Am I doing something wrong? How am I supposed to keep my razor from gettng so gross? Is there a special way to clean it?\n\nThanks!" ]

[ "Hot water and dish soap, which has degreaser. You can get [ecological](http://www.ecover.com/gb/en/Products/wash-up-liqd-grapefruit.html) variants that use plant extracts instead of industrial chemicals to be more gentle on your legs.", "Not sure if it would work, but maybe use a toothbrush or similar bristled tool and scrub along the blades under warm-hot water? \n\nAlso maybe putting the razor in the freezer for a bit first may make the grease harden, allowing it to scrape/flake off easier \n\n" ]

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[ "How to get the cheapest airfare I am planning to travel a lot in my life, but at this stage I don't have a lot of money, and will probably always want to save as much as possible. Does anyone have any tips on where, when, or how to get the cheapest airfare?", "How to get the cheapest airfare I am planning to travel a lot in my life, but at this stage I don't have a lot of money, and will probably always want to save as much as possible. Does anyone have any tips on where, when, or how to get the cheapest airfare?", "How to get the cheapest airfare I am planning to travel a lot in my life, but at this stage I don't have a lot of money, and will probably always want to save as much as possible. Does anyone have any tips on where, when, or how to get the cheapest airfare?", "How to get the cheapest airfare I am planning to travel a lot in my life, but at this stage I don't have a lot of money, and will probably always want to save as much as possible. Does anyone have any tips on where, when, or how to get the cheapest airfare?", "How to get the cheapest airfare I am planning to travel a lot in my life, but at this stage I don't have a lot of money, and will probably always want to save as much as possible. Does anyone have any tips on where, when, or how to get the cheapest airfare?", "How to get the cheapest airfare I am planning to travel a lot in my life, but at this stage I don't have a lot of money, and will probably always want to save as much as possible. Does anyone have any tips on where, when, or how to get the cheapest airfare?", "How to get the cheapest airfare I am planning to travel a lot in my life, but at this stage I don't have a lot of money, and will probably always want to save as much as possible. Does anyone have any tips on where, when, or how to get the cheapest airfare?", "How to get the cheapest airfare I am planning to travel a lot in my life, but at this stage I don't have a lot of money, and will probably always want to save as much as possible. Does anyone have any tips on where, when, or how to get the cheapest airfare?", "How to get the cheapest airfare I am planning to travel a lot in my life, but at this stage I don't have a lot of money, and will probably always want to save as much as possible. Does anyone have any tips on where, when, or how to get the cheapest airfare?", "How to get the cheapest airfare I am planning to travel a lot in my life, but at this stage I don't have a lot of money, and will probably always want to save as much as possible. Does anyone have any tips on where, when, or how to get the cheapest airfare?", "How to get the cheapest airfare I am planning to travel a lot in my life, but at this stage I don't have a lot of money, and will probably always want to save as much as possible. Does anyone have any tips on where, when, or how to get the cheapest airfare?", "How to get the cheapest airfare I am planning to travel a lot in my life, but at this stage I don't have a lot of money, and will probably always want to save as much as possible. Does anyone have any tips on where, when, or how to get the cheapest airfare?", "How to get the cheapest airfare I am planning to travel a lot in my life, but at this stage I don't have a lot of money, and will probably always want to save as much as possible. Does anyone have any tips on where, when, or how to get the cheapest airfare?", "How to get the cheapest airfare I am planning to travel a lot in my life, but at this stage I don't have a lot of money, and will probably always want to save as much as possible. Does anyone have any tips on where, when, or how to get the cheapest airfare?", "How to get the cheapest airfare I am planning to travel a lot in my life, but at this stage I don't have a lot of money, and will probably always want to save as much as possible. Does anyone have any tips on where, when, or how to get the cheapest airfare?", "How to get the cheapest airfare I am planning to travel a lot in my life, but at this stage I don't have a lot of money, and will probably always want to save as much as possible. Does anyone have any tips on where, when, or how to get the cheapest airfare?", "How to get the cheapest airfare I am planning to travel a lot in my life, but at this stage I don't have a lot of money, and will probably always want to save as much as possible. Does anyone have any tips on where, when, or how to get the cheapest airfare?", "How to get the cheapest airfare I am planning to travel a lot in my life, but at this stage I don't have a lot of money, and will probably always want to save as much as possible. Does anyone have any tips on where, when, or how to get the cheapest airfare?", "How to get the cheapest airfare I am planning to travel a lot in my life, but at this stage I don't have a lot of money, and will probably always want to save as much as possible. Does anyone have any tips on where, when, or how to get the cheapest airfare?" ]

[ "Book long in advance, make sure you are aware of charges and limits ect.. OR.. Turn up at the last minuet, and try to get a cancellation booking. \n\nYou CAN travel for next to nothing by taking packages in escrow... A **REPUTABLE** company will pay for most of your travel, if you give up your luggage allowance for there cargo.. These however go quick and are hard to get yourself one.. They are a very well kept secret in the backpacking community... ", "Frequent flier miles. I have an Alaska Airlines cr", "Pre-planning is half the battle, so be smart and think about your options. Set up a price alert for airfare on Kayak.com - tell it where you want to go and when, it will email you weekly with a summary of flights for weeks between that week and every week through your desired dates. This could work even if you wanted to travel in April but set up an alert through June. \n\nAlso, seasonality counts. Do some research on Lonely Planet's website to get the peak tourist seasons, and go +/- a month on either side of that.", "Google's new ITA app called 'On the fly' has so far found me the best results.\n\nBesides that, if you're a student, look at STA and student universe for deals.\n\nAlways call an travel agent to see what price they're offering, sometimes they have insider deals that can be cheaper than online fares.\n\nJanuary has been the best month for buying heap tickets in my experience. Planning a year ahead can help.", "Saw the [Frugal Travel Guy Blog](http://www.frugaltravelguy.com/) on MSNBC the other night... Haven't had a chance to read through the blog yet, but the piece they did on it made it sound very helpful.", "Personally I use cheaptickets.com way in advance, find the cheapest airliner on there then call that airliner directly.\n\nPlease remember that you get what you pay for. I took a round trip flight to Chicago and my flight was delayed both ways. A total of four hours were lost because of those guys.. Dont take Spirit Airlines. Ever.", "Planes are always booked in a tiered pricing scheme, (not just within the different classes) and the sooner you book the flight the cheaper the flight will be. As the seats start to fill up and they reach a certain number of passengers is when the price starts to increase.\n\nYou may get lucky now and then and find a cheap flight, but really the best thing you can do is know where you want to be like 6 months beforehand and start booking.\n\nIf you really want to travel the best way to do it is a 'round-the-world' ticket which will be an expensive ticket, but be much better value and let you visit multiple continents within a time period etc", "If you can swing it, generally flying from big city to big city will decrease your cost dramatically. I fly from Indianapolis to Las Vegas back and forth a lot even though I'm an hour away from both of those places, and it saves me a ton of money. If I went from the airports of the places I actually wanted to go, it would end up costing me double. This is including gas cost to and from the airports.\n\nAnother \"if you can swing it\" is flying during the work week - Tuesdays and Wednesdays seem to work best. Mid-morning and evening are pretty unpopular travel times, so look for those as well. I usually pick a day and reserve that day for travel and take a flight whenever it's cheapest.\n\nBooking in advance by at least a few weeks is also a huge advantage price-wise. Some companies do special deals for certain numbers of days booked in advance, but I've never taken advantage of any of these and don't know exactly how they work.\n\nSome companies still do standby passes, but they usually aren't that great anymore. I think AirTran has one for college-age students. Basically, a standby pass is where you show up to the airport way earlier than normal and if the flight isn't full, you can get on with your standby pass. If you see a deal on one of these and aren't horribly time-restricted it's not terribly risky, but otherwise probably not worth it. \n\nI usually spend an hour or so shopping around for the best flight deals, checking all of my regular websites, looking at different days I can travel, etc. Basically it's similar to finding good deals on other things, with more variables involved.\n\nAnother way to save money (though not on the fares themselves) is buying as little as possible in the airport or on the plane.\n\n", "I heard this on the radio one time: So if you are planning on flying to a big airport, chances are that the prices will be jacked up because big air companies control most of the terminals (a sort of \"name their own price\" monopoly... polyopoly?). What you want to do is only bring a carry-on bag and book a one-way flight for one airport PAST your desired destination. This fake destination is preferably a small airstrip because the prices to get to these are much lower. If you make sure you have a layover in your ACTUAL destination then you just stay there and don't board your last flight. \n\n**TL;DR** - Book one way past desired location while having a layover at your desired location. Then just don't board next plane. =cheaper", "[CheapoAir](http://www.cheapoair.com/) is good to look at in advance. And I mean well in advance. Try watching the price of one seat for a flight over the course of a month. 'Eg: search the same flight.' You'll see the price rise. I should bought tickets in February, but insisted on \"last minutes deals\". My deal was a ticket priced 150% the start of my price watching.\n\n[STA Travel](http://www.statravel.com/) has also given me some good deals. \n\nI've never booked my hotel or rented a car from the same place, though. Does it actually save money? Because I see those Priceline ads on tv and immediately think it's a ripoff.\n\n", "You can get email notifications for airfare price changes using [FareCompare](http://www.farecompare.com/).", "What they said, and also, try different days of the week for your flying days. Tuesdays and Saturdays tend to be pretty cheap, in my experience.", "This is the the question of my life! Priceline is a joke imo. \"Naming my own price\" has NEVER worked for me. \n\nI'm looking to take a trip to Peru in March and I'm hoping to find a RT flight around the $600 range. Hoping some of the suggestions in this thread will help me find that. Thanks to all who posted here!", "Sign up for cr", "My experience with Southwest airlines is that their prices fluctuate less than the other airliners. So when you need to get tickets for busy travel days (i.e., Thanksgiving) their prices will remain constant whereas others will jack their prices up. If I'm not mistaken, it has something to do with oil futures that they purchased. ", "If you're really serious about saving money, avoid flying over land. Buses aren't great, but they get you there and for much less. \n\nOtherwise, check out the [JetSuite](http://jetsuite.com/suitedeal) deals. Very limited places that they go -- only really helpful if you're on the west coast of America. \n\n\nAlways offer to get booted from flights if you can. If you have to wait, you'll often get money for accommodation or food. You can collect flight vouchers from the airline and use them in the future. \n\nLook into multi-stop flights -- due to near-monopolies on certain airports, flying directly to certain cities can be very expensive. If you fly to your destination under the premise it's a connection, you can just leave, provided you don't check your luggage. This can only be done during the return leg of your trip (the rest of the ticket will be canceled), and has dubious legality, but AFAIK it can work.\n\nIf you have a considerable amount of time on your hands, you can try a cr", "I worked for British Airways in their sales call centre about 10 years ago (so fairly recent post-9/11). I'm not sure how much has changed but if airpasses still exist, they were the shit (at least for countries big enough to use them in). They had to bought outside of the country of use but they provided a really cheap and very flexible way to take numerous flights within one country, the only caveat being that a single airline had to provide all the flights for the routes you were hoping for. They were a bit of a pain in the arse to look up, so most operators didn't try and suggest them to an unknowing public, but they were bargains and no mistake :) \n\nLast-minute flight discounts had disappeared post-9/11, though perhaps they made a comeback. I should clarify that actually: those discounts disappeared through the airlines themselves, though because travel agencies buy their seats in advance and in bulk, any seats they didn't sell would be an outright loss for them, so better to provide a discount to try and shift them. So if you're booking in advance, probably best to go directly through the airline for the best deal (though use the website above to get notifications when they've released their lower fares for the season), and if you're looking for a short-notice deal, book through an agency. If anyone here currently or recently worked for an airline or travel agency, please speak up because I'd love to know if things have changed. ", "For domestic travel in the US, even all these tips together can't compare to the average cost of a Southwest Airlines flight. They're not listed on search engines or anything because their prices are fairly miraculous. I flew from Texas to Arizona for $70 last year. ", "Go directly to the airline's website instead of places like kayak, priceline, hotwire,etc. Those companies are just middlemen; why would you expect to get the lowest fare? Going directly to an airline's website will sometimes give you deals you won't find on those other sites. " ]

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[ "How do I not sleep with my mouth open? It always causes nasal congestion and sore throats when I wake up (which go away later in the day).", "How do I not sleep with my mouth open? It always causes nasal congestion and sore throats when I wake up (which go away later in the day).", "How do I not sleep with my mouth open? It always causes nasal congestion and sore throats when I wake up (which go away later in the day).", "How do I not sleep with my mouth open? It always causes nasal congestion and sore throats when I wake up (which go away later in the day).", "How do I not sleep with my mouth open? It always causes nasal congestion and sore throats when I wake up (which go away later in the day).", "How do I not sleep with my mouth open? It always causes nasal congestion and sore throats when I wake up (which go away later in the day)." ]

[ "Do you have allergies? A clogged nose can result in breathing through the mouth. I had this problem until I got medication to control my allergies. I take a pill before sleeping and I'm golden.\n\nThe only other thing I can think of is to sleep on your side.\n", "it actually might be indicative of something else, but some people are mouth breathers when they sleep", "This is for snoring:\nhttp://mysnoringsolutions.info/snoring-chin-strap/\nbut should work.\nI didn't want to spend the money to try this, so I made one by cutting a 'ring' out of the leg of my wife's pantyhose. It kept my mouth closed, but that's when I found out I snored through my nose.", "If you sleep on your back, that might be the issue. I don't often sleep on my back because of sleep paralysis, but when I do I always catch myself with my mouth open. Blah. Make sure you can breathe clearly through your nose, not just in general, but in the positions you usually sleep in. If you feel a sort of pressure when you breathe through your nose in one position, it's likely going to make you breathe through your mouth once you're asleep. Keep yourself aware of your mouth as long as you can before falling asleep. And drink A TON of water all day erryday. Seriously, not keeping properly hydrated will make you a lot more dried out and sore. \n\nThat's all I got. Maybe try some things recommended for snorers? ", "I believe when your jaw muscles relax your mouth naturally opens slightly, so I'm not sure there's much you can do other than not let yourself fully relax while sleeping...? ", "You might have a deviated septum and/or sleep apnea, and if so then it will be virtually impossible to sleep without your mouth open without surgical intervention or completely altering your sleeping situation. Sleep apnea can be dangerous and can leave you extremely fatigued from abnormal sleep patterns. See a doc." ]

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[ "How to get a speeding ticket dismissed. I recently recieved a speeding ticket, for going 60 on a 35. police didnt have a radar, they approximated, and i know for a fact i wasnt going over 50 mph. how can i convince the judge that i was going 50 mph instead of 60mph? ", "How to get a speeding ticket dismissed. I recently recieved a speeding ticket, for going 60 on a 35. police didnt have a radar, they approximated, and i know for a fact i wasnt going over 50 mph. how can i convince the judge that i was going 50 mph instead of 60mph? ", "How to get a speeding ticket dismissed. I recently recieved a speeding ticket, for going 60 on a 35. police didnt have a radar, they approximated, and i know for a fact i wasnt going over 50 mph. how can i convince the judge that i was going 50 mph instead of 60mph? ", "How to get a speeding ticket dismissed. I recently recieved a speeding ticket, for going 60 on a 35. police didnt have a radar, they approximated, and i know for a fact i wasnt going over 50 mph. how can i convince the judge that i was going 50 mph instead of 60mph? ", "How to get a speeding ticket dismissed. I recently recieved a speeding ticket, for going 60 on a 35. police didnt have a radar, they approximated, and i know for a fact i wasnt going over 50 mph. how can i convince the judge that i was going 50 mph instead of 60mph? ", "How to get a speeding ticket dismissed. I recently recieved a speeding ticket, for going 60 on a 35. police didnt have a radar, they approximated, and i know for a fact i wasnt going over 50 mph. how can i convince the judge that i was going 50 mph instead of 60mph? ", "How to get a speeding ticket dismissed. I recently recieved a speeding ticket, for going 60 on a 35. police didnt have a radar, they approximated, and i know for a fact i wasnt going over 50 mph. how can i convince the judge that i was going 50 mph instead of 60mph? ", "How to get a speeding ticket dismissed. I recently recieved a speeding ticket, for going 60 on a 35. police didnt have a radar, they approximated, and i know for a fact i wasnt going over 50 mph. how can i convince the judge that i was going 50 mph instead of 60mph? ", "How to get a speeding ticket dismissed. I recently recieved a speeding ticket, for going 60 on a 35. police didnt have a radar, they approximated, and i know for a fact i wasnt going over 50 mph. how can i convince the judge that i was going 50 mph instead of 60mph? ", "How to get a speeding ticket dismissed. I recently recieved a speeding ticket, for going 60 on a 35. police didnt have a radar, they approximated, and i know for a fact i wasnt going over 50 mph. how can i convince the judge that i was going 50 mph instead of 60mph? " ]

[ "there's no guaranteed way. the best thing to do is go to court, acknowledge that you fucked up, and show remorse. don't say it was an accident or make excuses because you don't have an excuse, you knowingly broke the law, and you do in fact deserve the consequences.", "You don't need a lawyer or any of that other crap. No you can't prove or disprove anything from the cop. He says you were going 50+, that's it. BUT when you get to court, you'll have to speak to the prosecutor(or court officer in some cases) and they ask you what you want to do. Tell him you want to \"plea bargain\" a lesser charge and plead guilty. Your fine will be heavier but you won't have any points put on your license. Which is much better. ", "Same thing happened to me. I was set on cruise control at 85. Got pulled over from cop in front of me and said I was going 100+. Fuck the radar cops have in their head.", "Trial by written declaration. Google it. I was able to get out of ticket for running a stop sign and my brother got out of a ticket for speeding. Bonus for CA residents: http://thepiratebay.se/torrent/4697757/NOLO_Fight_your_ticket_..._and_win", "In Ohio at least, a police officer saying you're speeding is enough for a ticket. Because I got cited for it and it came up when I went to dispute it (I lost). I'm not sure though about saying that you were a certain number of mph over the limit though. What I imagine it comes down to is you have a law enforcement official with x number of years experience enforcing all kinds of laws, including tons of speeding no doubt, and nothing to gain by giving you a ticket...against you with no real experience in law/traffic enforcement and everything to gain by not getting a ticket. Advantage cop.\n\nFirst, I'd say get a lawyer. That changes the whole ball game. No cop/judge wants to get dragged into some case over 10mph where the lawyer's going to be a dick and drag it out for several months. A good lawyer can do that, and can let everyone know real fast what a pain in the ass he's gonna be by requesting a million documents/testimonies/etc that they legally have to turn over if you're going to trial (which of course you won't, but your lawyer can act as if you were) When you look at what you might pay in increased insurance over time. The lawyer's probably worth it. \n\nIf you go solo, I'd show up, be super respectful, say yes I was speeding but my speedometer said I was going \"whatever\" and with the lack of specific evidence to the contrary blah blah blah.", "I got a ticket going 59 in a 35 mph zone when I was in college. Cop was waiting at the bottom of a long downhill slope to catch people like me who were not paying attention. I was given a court date and I called to get that rescheduled. I did that twice. I was hoping the two changes would prevent the officer from showing up, but he did. The judge asked if I was guilty and I said \"yes\" and then he judge offered to reduce my fine from $361 to $160 + points. I told the judge that I was a poor college student and I could not afford to pay this fine if I expected to eat this month (which was somewhat true). I was dressed well (shirt/tie/clean pants/nice shoes) and I told the judge that this only happened because I was not paying attention while coasting downhill and that it was my first traffic offense and that I was sorry and I promised to be more careful in the future. I did add that I was a presidential scholar at my local college and an Eagle Scout (for effect, I threw up the Scout's honor salute) and the judge reduce my fine to $25 and did away with the points. ", "Talk to a lawyer, I'm sure you'll get a dozen offers in the mail this week. A lot of times, they can get it reduced to a non moving violation, you pay them to do that, but it's lots cheaper than paying higher insurance rates for a few years. ", "PLEAD NOT GUILTY. Be adamant that you were not going 60, say instead you were going 44, 45 tops. Every ticket I've ever had speeding or other violation has been reduced. As long as you're not a habitual offender they will almost always offer you a reduced penalty. For traffic violations usually one of the courts secretaries will go around going over what they are charged with and offering an alternative fine/violation, usually just dropping the points. For example, I once had a $200 speeding ticket which would give me 3 points. The lady came over and talked to me and offered to drop the points but keep the same $ penalty. I refused to accept the 200$ ticket and she then offered to change the violation to driving without a license and said the best she could possibly do was 175$, she seemed very serious about it being the best she could do. I told her I wouldn't pay anything over 150$ and she agreed... I honestly could of probably paid less. Courts will try to get as much money out of you as they possibly can, while attempting to pay as little as possible in court fees.\n\nOne thing about traffic violations is that the officer who gave you the ticket must be in court for his word to hold up. So, try working with the courthouse to change your court date to suit you. You'll want to try to have the court time whenever the officer didn't pull you over... so if he pulled you over in the early morning, request the court take place in the afternoon, while if it was at night, request as early in the morning as possible. Try to move your court date to a holiday or a likely time the police officer might be out of town.. this is mostly luck, though. \n\nSomething my friend did, that I haven't tried, was writing a letter to the police officer that arrested him, apologizing and asking if he could reduce the fine cause he couldn't afford it... the cop was one of the good ones and dropped the ticket.", "Don't go in and plead guilty. Don't do that at all. If you really want to do that, go in and plead guilty but ask the judge to withhold adjudication. If your driving record isnt horrible then they 9 times out of 10 will grant it so you don't get any points.\n\nReal answer, though? Lawyer up. Look for someone in your area that specializes in traffic tickets (In florida we have a huge chain called the \"Ticket Clinic.\" 9 times out of 10 the lawyer willget it dismissed. ", "Buy a LegalShield plan for $17/month. They will send an attorney to court on your behalf in any city/state you get a ticket, without you even being present in court in most cases. The plan offers lots of other perks, but I wouldn't be without it. I have had 4 tickets in the last 15 moths, no points on my driving record, and every time the fine was greatly reduced! I love LegalShield!" ]

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[ "How to talk about newly gained information/knowledge? I love to learn random things. I watch all sorts of educational youtube/tv, read articles, and just research random stuff. It is how I spend my free-time when I am not socializing.\n\nI want to share both my love of casual learning and the things I learn from it within normal conversation with family/friends, but I always come across differently.\n\nHow do I bring this kind of stuff to the table in a conversation without looking like a know-it-all, nerd, boring etc? It's getting to the point where I am affecting relationships by not being able to engage in conversation as well.\n\n", "How to talk about newly gained information/knowledge? I love to learn random things. I watch all sorts of educational youtube/tv, read articles, and just research random stuff. It is how I spend my free-time when I am not socializing.\n\nI want to share both my love of casual learning and the things I learn from it within normal conversation with family/friends, but I always come across differently.\n\nHow do I bring this kind of stuff to the table in a conversation without looking like a know-it-all, nerd, boring etc? It's getting to the point where I am affecting relationships by not being able to engage in conversation as well.\n\n", "How to talk about newly gained information/knowledge? I love to learn random things. I watch all sorts of educational youtube/tv, read articles, and just research random stuff. It is how I spend my free-time when I am not socializing.\n\nI want to share both my love of casual learning and the things I learn from it within normal conversation with family/friends, but I always come across differently.\n\nHow do I bring this kind of stuff to the table in a conversation without looking like a know-it-all, nerd, boring etc? It's getting to the point where I am affecting relationships by not being able to engage in conversation as well.\n\n", "How to talk about newly gained information/knowledge? I love to learn random things. I watch all sorts of educational youtube/tv, read articles, and just research random stuff. It is how I spend my free-time when I am not socializing.\n\nI want to share both my love of casual learning and the things I learn from it within normal conversation with family/friends, but I always come across differently.\n\nHow do I bring this kind of stuff to the table in a conversation without looking like a know-it-all, nerd, boring etc? It's getting to the point where I am affecting relationships by not being able to engage in conversation as well.\n\n", "How to talk about newly gained information/knowledge? I love to learn random things. I watch all sorts of educational youtube/tv, read articles, and just research random stuff. It is how I spend my free-time when I am not socializing.\n\nI want to share both my love of casual learning and the things I learn from it within normal conversation with family/friends, but I always come across differently.\n\nHow do I bring this kind of stuff to the table in a conversation without looking like a know-it-all, nerd, boring etc? It's getting to the point where I am affecting relationships by not being able to engage in conversation as well.\n\n", "How to talk about newly gained information/knowledge? I love to learn random things. I watch all sorts of educational youtube/tv, read articles, and just research random stuff. It is how I spend my free-time when I am not socializing.\n\nI want to share both my love of casual learning and the things I learn from it within normal conversation with family/friends, but I always come across differently.\n\nHow do I bring this kind of stuff to the table in a conversation without looking like a know-it-all, nerd, boring etc? It's getting to the point where I am affecting relationships by not being able to engage in conversation as well.\n\n", "How to talk about newly gained information/knowledge? I love to learn random things. I watch all sorts of educational youtube/tv, read articles, and just research random stuff. It is how I spend my free-time when I am not socializing.\n\nI want to share both my love of casual learning and the things I learn from it within normal conversation with family/friends, but I always come across differently.\n\nHow do I bring this kind of stuff to the table in a conversation without looking like a know-it-all, nerd, boring etc? It's getting to the point where I am affecting relationships by not being able to engage in conversation as well.\n\n" ]

[ "The first step is to understand that no one's cares what you have to say, just like you don't care what they have to say.\n\nAn actual conversation requires at least as much listening as talking. If you're sitting there thinking about how to interject with some random fact, then you aren't listening to what's being said. Either, A) wait for someone to mention something related to what you want to say, B) wait for a lull in conversation to tell them about whatever it is you learned, C) find someone who wants to talk about this stuff, or D) let it go/keep it to yourself.", "You should wait for a moment in conversation where your knowledge will relate. I have a friend at work who also learns a lot and read plenty of interesting books. He sometimes starts a topic out the blue, but more often then not, he has some interesting bit of information to other topics we have. ", "Delivery. It's all delivery. \n\nIf you inject new information, awkwardly attempting non-chalantly, into a conversation about something else, because you're \"reminded\" of it, you'll come off as an insufferable know-it-all.\n\nIf you bring up a topic ENTHUSIASTICALLY, your genuine curiosity and good-naturedness will shine through. \"HEY GUYS, I JUST LEARNED SOMETHING COOL ABOUT MAGNETS! IT'S DOPE AS FUCK! CHECK THIS SHIT OUT!!!\"\n\nThat's all. If your friends are put off by genuine, ego-free enthusiasm, then they're boring people and you need new friends.\n", "Someone once said that you keep your learning tucked away like a pocket watch, which no one can see unless they ask the time.\n\nAlways focus first on the person you're talking to, try to understand them and interact with them. Most of the time this means you keep all your trivia to yourself but if you simply try to understand and listen to the people around you you WILL find comfortable moments to spew trivia at people. \n\nAlso try to find people that love it when you share those things, and that you love sharing those things with. Never force this though. Try for it but be able to give it up. Others will want to hear it. ", "Mostly you don't. I have a lot of hobbies and like learning about a lot of random things. Usually, any weird subject only has really one or two facts that are interesting to a layman.\n\nIf you wanna talk at length about, say, brewing beer, then you should hang out with other people that brew beer. Ain't nobody at a party wanna hear about the benefits of fly sparging vs batch sparging or what a hopback does.", "I do this all the time. The only sincere way to do this is to be with your own kind. There are people out there who want to do this as well. Go find them..They are out there waiting for someone like you..\n\nYou can also wait for a conversation to go lull and go like...\"You know how irritating it is when someone flashes you in the eye?! (Let people nod) Imagine that being done from millions of light years away..Blazar is........\"\n\n", "\"Wow Lee, your dog is soooo funny! Speaking of your dog, I saw an ad on TV for pneumococcal pneumonia. Did you know the font Comic Sans is based on Dave Gibbons' lettering in the Watchmen comic books??\" \n\nIf you slip it in slowely and make it relate to Lee's pet and pneumococcal pneumonial, I'm sure you can fork your knowledge into a conversation with ease! " ]

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[ "best way to rejuvenate your battery life on your phone or computer ive heard letting it drain all the way, then recharging, just the usual, but i was wondering if there was a better way?", "best way to rejuvenate your battery life on your phone or computer ive heard letting it drain all the way, then recharging, just the usual, but i was wondering if there was a better way?", "best way to rejuvenate your battery life on your phone or computer ive heard letting it drain all the way, then recharging, just the usual, but i was wondering if there was a better way?", "best way to rejuvenate your battery life on your phone or computer ive heard letting it drain all the way, then recharging, just the usual, but i was wondering if there was a better way?", "best way to rejuvenate your battery life on your phone or computer ive heard letting it drain all the way, then recharging, just the usual, but i was wondering if there was a better way?", "best way to rejuvenate your battery life on your phone or computer ive heard letting it drain all the way, then recharging, just the usual, but i was wondering if there was a better way?", "best way to rejuvenate your battery life on your phone or computer ive heard letting it drain all the way, then recharging, just the usual, but i was wondering if there was a better way?", "best way to rejuvenate your battery life on your phone or computer ive heard letting it drain all the way, then recharging, just the usual, but i was wondering if there was a better way?" ]

[ "I don't know if there is such a thing as restoring the previous capacity of a battery, because of the chemical changes that occur in them with use and age. The strategy is more focused on optimizing the battery life.\n\nFor these devices, we're usually talking about lithium-based batteries. In that case, the general strategy is to avoid \"stressing\" the battery with quick charging and extremes. Slow charging (through USB connection rather than straight from transformer) helps lithium batteries preserve their chargeability. More frequent shallow charges of the device are better for the battery than always bringing the battery to 100% capacity and/or always discharging fully it to 0%. Extremes of temperature are also to be avoided.\n\n[Source](http://batteryuniversity.com/learn/article/how_to_prolong_lithium_based_batteries)\n\n", "There aren't any tips for modern lithium polymer batteries. Even doing a complete cycle like you describe is only useful for helping it calibrate the percentage readout in the future.\n\nDon't use them while they're hot. That can do a little more wear and tear than normal. Otherwise, they just work.", "Don't let it drain all the way and don't let it sit at 100% for too long, between 40 and 60% is around the best.\n\nSource: http://www.reddit.com/r/askscience/comments/xbbal/is_it_actually_good_for_your_phone_and_laptop/\n\nhttp://www.reddit.com/r/askscience/comments/vs4p7/im_reading_conflicting_statements_whats_best_for/", "For Lithium-ion batteries, letting it drain all the way then recharging it can work sometimes - but you're not actually restoring any capacity, you're just recalibrating the charge sensor which, over time, forgets where \"empty\" is on the charge scale. You only need to do this infrequently, though. Regular full discharges aren't great for lithium-ion batteries.\n\nFor Nickel-based batteries (NiMh, and especially NiCd), draining them all the way and then recharging them avoids [memory effect](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Memory_effect), but modern NiMh cells have greatly reduced memory effect anyway.", "[Battery University](http://batteryuniversity.com/learn/) has lots of information under the 'How to Prolong Battery Life' section of the page.\n\nTo cut a long story short, it depends on the type of battery.", "Not quite sure whether it's correct, but just letting it sit in a cool place for a few days seems to help me. I left my iPod in the glove box of my dad's car for about a month, battery was shit after that. I then stopped using it and left it in my drawer for a week and now it isn't as bad. I'm pretty sure when it comes to batteries is that heat is bad.", "For phones (android at least) you can wipe the cache associated with battery life to get a better/more accurate % left. No real way to 'rejuvenate' them though.", "If you think your battery is fucked, buy a new one. They are generally pretty cheap. Generally you should keep it in a cool place, never totally empty it and ideally you shouldn't actually completely fill it either. There was a thread on /r/android a week or so ago about it. " ]

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[ "Roomate Washing Dishes System I've lived with plenty of different roomates in various different apartments and the issue that always causes contention is the dishes. We always say, \"just wash the dish right after using it\" but that never happens and consequently we end up with a sink full of dishes that nobody wants to clean. Anybody know of a system that really works?", "Roomate Washing Dishes System I've lived with plenty of different roomates in various different apartments and the issue that always causes contention is the dishes. We always say, \"just wash the dish right after using it\" but that never happens and consequently we end up with a sink full of dishes that nobody wants to clean. Anybody know of a system that really works?", "Roomate Washing Dishes System I've lived with plenty of different roomates in various different apartments and the issue that always causes contention is the dishes. We always say, \"just wash the dish right after using it\" but that never happens and consequently we end up with a sink full of dishes that nobody wants to clean. Anybody know of a system that really works?", "Roomate Washing Dishes System I've lived with plenty of different roomates in various different apartments and the issue that always causes contention is the dishes. We always say, \"just wash the dish right after using it\" but that never happens and consequently we end up with a sink full of dishes that nobody wants to clean. Anybody know of a system that really works?", "Roomate Washing Dishes System I've lived with plenty of different roomates in various different apartments and the issue that always causes contention is the dishes. We always say, \"just wash the dish right after using it\" but that never happens and consequently we end up with a sink full of dishes that nobody wants to clean. Anybody know of a system that really works?", "Roomate Washing Dishes System I've lived with plenty of different roomates in various different apartments and the issue that always causes contention is the dishes. We always say, \"just wash the dish right after using it\" but that never happens and consequently we end up with a sink full of dishes that nobody wants to clean. Anybody know of a system that really works?", "Roomate Washing Dishes System I've lived with plenty of different roomates in various different apartments and the issue that always causes contention is the dishes. We always say, \"just wash the dish right after using it\" but that never happens and consequently we end up with a sink full of dishes that nobody wants to clean. Anybody know of a system that really works?", "Roomate Washing Dishes System I've lived with plenty of different roomates in various different apartments and the issue that always causes contention is the dishes. We always say, \"just wash the dish right after using it\" but that never happens and consequently we end up with a sink full of dishes that nobody wants to clean. Anybody know of a system that really works?", "Roomate Washing Dishes System I've lived with plenty of different roomates in various different apartments and the issue that always causes contention is the dishes. We always say, \"just wash the dish right after using it\" but that never happens and consequently we end up with a sink full of dishes that nobody wants to clean. Anybody know of a system that really works?", "Roomate Washing Dishes System I've lived with plenty of different roomates in various different apartments and the issue that always causes contention is the dishes. We always say, \"just wash the dish right after using it\" but that never happens and consequently we end up with a sink full of dishes that nobody wants to clean. Anybody know of a system that really works?", "Roomate Washing Dishes System I've lived with plenty of different roomates in various different apartments and the issue that always causes contention is the dishes. We always say, \"just wash the dish right after using it\" but that never happens and consequently we end up with a sink full of dishes that nobody wants to clean. Anybody know of a system that really works?", "Roomate Washing Dishes System I've lived with plenty of different roomates in various different apartments and the issue that always causes contention is the dishes. We always say, \"just wash the dish right after using it\" but that never happens and consequently we end up with a sink full of dishes that nobody wants to clean. Anybody know of a system that really works?", "Roomate Washing Dishes System I've lived with plenty of different roomates in various different apartments and the issue that always causes contention is the dishes. We always say, \"just wash the dish right after using it\" but that never happens and consequently we end up with a sink full of dishes that nobody wants to clean. Anybody know of a system that really works?", "Roomate Washing Dishes System I've lived with plenty of different roomates in various different apartments and the issue that always causes contention is the dishes. We always say, \"just wash the dish right after using it\" but that never happens and consequently we end up with a sink full of dishes that nobody wants to clean. Anybody know of a system that really works?", "Roomate Washing Dishes System I've lived with plenty of different roomates in various different apartments and the issue that always causes contention is the dishes. We always say, \"just wash the dish right after using it\" but that never happens and consequently we end up with a sink full of dishes that nobody wants to clean. Anybody know of a system that really works?" ]

[ "point system:\n\nyou get a point every time you wash the dishes. at an agreed upon time (e.g. 21:00) if the dishes haven't been done yet, the person with the lowest points needs to do them (and then gets the point).\n\nthis means that people can \"save up\" points (e.g. 'i'll do the dishes every day this week and not have to do them for another 2 weeks'), its flexible (not demanding people do dishes on days they're scheduled to be out) and can be applied to more than just doing the dishes (get two points for cleaning the bathroom, half a point for taking the trash out)\n", "We have three bigger trays set up in the kicthen - one for each one of us to store their own dirty dishes. This way everyone washes after himself, and in their own schedule. When we run out of clean spoons, we can either wash one from our own tray, or make the lazy-ass one who stores all of them to finally wash the dishes.", "If people are being little bitches about cleaning the kitchen, only one bowl, plate, knife, fork and spoon per person.", "I lived with four other guys in college and all but one would clean after cooking or eating. A strategically placed pot of rice in his comforter he had cooked earlier in the week got the message across. I assume you are looking for a different approach though.", "this worked like a charm at my college apartment (4 frat guys). keep a white board next to the sink with a list of everybody's name. if you wash everything in the sink, no matter how many dishes or how few, you get to cross your name off the list and its the next person's job to deal with whatever is in the sink. if its your turn and all thats in the sink, go wash it and cross off your name. we never had dishes build up with this method", "Me and my roommates had a pretty effective system for dishes but it takes two things for it to work:\n\n1. Roommates who actually respect everyone else.\n\n2. Honesty. \n\nWe had a system to which we had a jar next to the sink. For every dish that was left in the sink (be it a spoon, plate, bowl, pot or any other dish) it would cost the owner/user of said dish $1 for each night it was left in the sink.\n\nWhoever the last person who went to sleep was (usually me in our apartment) would write on the white board above the sink which dishes were still in the sink when that person (again usually me, try to keep up) is about to go to bed. \n\nIn the morning each person would get up and do the dishes they had left in the sink and put their money in the jar.\n\nNow here's where the honesty came into play. With an open jar of money basically sitting out in the open it would be easy for one of the roommates to steal said money, so if your roommate(s) are not trustworthy people then this probably won't work. \n\nObviously there are exceptions to leaving dishes in the sink (a la sickness, staying at a SO's place for the night and forgetting, pulling an all-nighter at the library and being beat when you come home) and in these situations it would be based on a vote whether or not said roommate would need to pay for leaving their dishes in the sink. Sometimes you can get out of it, sometimes you can't. \n\nWorks really well in apartment with four guys living in it who are all respectful of everyone else and generally good people. Usually we would use the dishes money (which we kept in a jar that the previous occupants of the apartment, all females, left in the place after they left that said \"Girl's Night Out Fund\") to order a couple of pizzas when we had enough or to do something fun between the four of us. That way everyone benefitted from someone not doing their dishes and the person who ended up having to put money in the jar didn't feel like they were really losing out too much on having to put their money in...\n\nHope this helps.", "had two roomates in a house with approx 4-5 full sets of dishes. this sucked. I eventually cleaned the kitchen, taking everything except 3 of each type dish, and packing it away under the ping pong table. This helped a lot, even if you had to wash dishes you didnt make, it could never be fore than a dozen things or so.", "We literally take turns at washing full loads of dishes. Doesn't matter if you used dishes that week or time period since the last full load of dishes. ", "The unofficial rule in my office was that you were allowed to put dirty flatware in the sink, but if you had an actual dish to wash, then you would wash all the dirty flatware (and everything else people had left, since this rule was unwritten) while you were at it. That might be more practical in an office than a home, though.", "In our house, we divided all the tableware (cups, mugs, plates, knifes, spoons, forks) (but not the cuttingware, pans, etc.). New roommates bring their own stuff.\nThis means there is no community plates, or cups.\n\nThen we put a crate outside in the garden. Whenever there is dirty dishes in the kitchen, we put it in the crate. Now, the idea is that you don't want your own stuff in the crate, because all the stuff that's already in there, is being rained upon, and old pieces of food are starting to mold.\n\nAlso, we do have a little problem, with pans and stuff like that, but we just wash it BEFORE we cook instead of AFTER\n\nIt's kind of draconian, but with a house of 13 ~20 year olds, we have to be.", "Hang up a little chart or name tags on the fridge, with a moving magnet for whose turn it is to do the dishes.\n\nRules: \n\n* \"Doing the dishes\" constitutes washing, drying, and putting away at least five dishes (silverware doesn't count). \n\n* Once you've done the dishes, move the magnet to the next person.\n\n* People can also wash their cereal bowl, glass, etc., right away if they prefer. \n\n* If someone makes cookies or a fancy dinner and dirties a million things, they have to wash those dishes.\n\n* If the apartment is out of clean somethings (spoons, it always seems to be spoons), roommates are allowed to hound whoever has the dish magnet through any means necessary. (Keeping their phone or laptop hostage is effective.)\n\nMake ammendments to this system, or say \"nah, fuck dat\" to it all. Good luck, my friend.", "Everyone has to agree to do 5 minutes of chores a day. On that list is dishes.\n\nYou can do a lot of dishes in 5 little minutes.", "Everyone has 1 bowl, 1 plate, 1 fork, 1 spoon, and 1 knife each. Then you can have a \"guest\" set.\n\nNo roommate is allowed to use anything other than what is theirs.", "Cleaning weeks. Everybody gets one week when they are responsible for cleaning and doing all the dishes. Usually sorts itself out as no one wants to be stuck with a whole weeks worth of dishes. ", "Alternate duties. Who doesn't mind doing dishes? Have them do the dishes but they never have to take out the trash or do their own laundry. Trade off once in awhile. That way everyone knows what their responsibility is. That or again have assigned duties but switch off every month. Obviously if someone has a bunch of friends over they should clean up after their guests. Other than that alternating works." ]

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[ "Way to make shower pressure softer. Every shower in my house is pretty abrasive. No matter how I turn the shower head knob, it still hurts my back. It doesn't matter how far or close I am to it. On the lightest setting it still hurts. I don't have particularly sensitive skin. I don't take hot showers either. When I shower at friends' houses, their showers feel amazing.\n\ntl;dr: Is their some sort of shower head that can solve this problem, or does it have to do with the pipes and plumbing in my house?", "Way to make shower pressure softer. Every shower in my house is pretty abrasive. No matter how I turn the shower head knob, it still hurts my back. It doesn't matter how far or close I am to it. On the lightest setting it still hurts. I don't have particularly sensitive skin. I don't take hot showers either. When I shower at friends' houses, their showers feel amazing.\n\ntl;dr: Is their some sort of shower head that can solve this problem, or does it have to do with the pipes and plumbing in my house?", "Way to make shower pressure softer. Every shower in my house is pretty abrasive. No matter how I turn the shower head knob, it still hurts my back. It doesn't matter how far or close I am to it. On the lightest setting it still hurts. I don't have particularly sensitive skin. I don't take hot showers either. When I shower at friends' houses, their showers feel amazing.\n\ntl;dr: Is their some sort of shower head that can solve this problem, or does it have to do with the pipes and plumbing in my house?", "Way to make shower pressure softer. Every shower in my house is pretty abrasive. No matter how I turn the shower head knob, it still hurts my back. It doesn't matter how far or close I am to it. On the lightest setting it still hurts. I don't have particularly sensitive skin. I don't take hot showers either. When I shower at friends' houses, their showers feel amazing.\n\ntl;dr: Is their some sort of shower head that can solve this problem, or does it have to do with the pipes and plumbing in my house?", "Way to make shower pressure softer. Every shower in my house is pretty abrasive. No matter how I turn the shower head knob, it still hurts my back. It doesn't matter how far or close I am to it. On the lightest setting it still hurts. I don't have particularly sensitive skin. I don't take hot showers either. When I shower at friends' houses, their showers feel amazing.\n\ntl;dr: Is their some sort of shower head that can solve this problem, or does it have to do with the pipes and plumbing in my house?" ]

[ "Get a new shower head with bigger holes. This will cause the water to move slower at a higher flow rate.", "You have the (enviable) problem of having high water pressure.\n\nYou have two options. Option one was suggested by RallyMech, that is to get a flow adjustment knob and install it before your shower head\n\nOption two is to get a different shower head. I would encourage you to give [this one](http://www.amazon.com/Waterpik-CF-201-Cascadia-8-Inch-Showerhead/dp/B000066PXL/) a try. The center part is a higher pressure spray with smaller diameter holes, while the outside nozzles are higher diameter for a gentle rainfall. It comes with a flow restrictor installed, if you have high pressure leave it in but you can remove it if you want more flow.\n\nI have one of these and I love it- the high pressure nozzle is good for rinsing shampoo out of hair, the low pressure mode is very relaxing and non-abrasive.", "If your shower head is squirting in crazy directions, you might want to try to clean it with CLR or a similar product that dissolves mineral deposits. Take it off and soak it in the solution, maybe even brush it with an old toothbrush if it's really bad.\n\nOr just buy a new shower head.", "Make a flow restrictor. Remove your shower head and cut a disk of plastic, like a milk jug or coffee can lid, that fits tightly inside the shower head where it screws onto the pipe. Cut/punch/melt a hole through the center of the disk. The larger the hole the higher the exit pressure. Start small and work up.", "Go into your basement and find the valves that lead to your shower. Turn them down. No cost to you, just savings from using less water in the shower! The only difficulty here is that if you take a bath, it will take longer for the tub to fill, or longer for the toilet to refill after being flushed if it is on the same line (which it shouldn't be)" ]

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[ "How not to have expectations from people Simple as the title says.. I feel like if I have very less expectations my life will be so much better. Any advices?", "How not to have expectations from people Simple as the title says.. I feel like if I have very less expectations my life will be so much better. Any advices?" ]

[ "OP... you are referring to something very deep. It is captured well in many philosophical and religious traditions, but I think particularly well in the second noble truth of Buddhism. In short, your hunch that expectations make you miserable borders on fact.\n\nNon-judgement is best practiced on the self before it is easily practiced with others. If you are able to observe your own thoughts, feelings, pains, and joys without labeling them as good or bad, you will also learn to observe the actions of others in a similar way.\n\nI encourage you to continue this line of inquiry by taking a crack at m", "Expect much from the few you call friends. If anything raise your expectations and if suckas don't meet them then drop those suckas. " ]

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[ "Does anyone have any tips to avoid being overwhelmed or imposter syndrome when starting a new job? After 4 months, 147 applications, 23 skill tests, 12 interviews, and 2 offers I have finally landed a job in the career sector (government, administrative) that I've always wanted. It has been a long road but I am overjoyed with finally landing something that pays adequately. I have prior applicable experience but nothing on my resume that is comparable to this position. I have already met my manager, taken a tour of the office and met many of the department heads that I'll be supporting. I start next week and I want to do my very best to prepare myself mentally so that I can start strong.", "Does anyone have any tips to avoid being overwhelmed or imposter syndrome when starting a new job? After 4 months, 147 applications, 23 skill tests, 12 interviews, and 2 offers I have finally landed a job in the career sector (government, administrative) that I've always wanted. It has been a long road but I am overjoyed with finally landing something that pays adequately. I have prior applicable experience but nothing on my resume that is comparable to this position. I have already met my manager, taken a tour of the office and met many of the department heads that I'll be supporting. I start next week and I want to do my very best to prepare myself mentally so that I can start strong.", "Does anyone have any tips to avoid being overwhelmed or imposter syndrome when starting a new job? After 4 months, 147 applications, 23 skill tests, 12 interviews, and 2 offers I have finally landed a job in the career sector (government, administrative) that I've always wanted. It has been a long road but I am overjoyed with finally landing something that pays adequately. I have prior applicable experience but nothing on my resume that is comparable to this position. I have already met my manager, taken a tour of the office and met many of the department heads that I'll be supporting. I start next week and I want to do my very best to prepare myself mentally so that I can start strong.", "Does anyone have any tips to avoid being overwhelmed or imposter syndrome when starting a new job? After 4 months, 147 applications, 23 skill tests, 12 interviews, and 2 offers I have finally landed a job in the career sector (government, administrative) that I've always wanted. It has been a long road but I am overjoyed with finally landing something that pays adequately. I have prior applicable experience but nothing on my resume that is comparable to this position. I have already met my manager, taken a tour of the office and met many of the department heads that I'll be supporting. I start next week and I want to do my very best to prepare myself mentally so that I can start strong.", "Does anyone have any tips to avoid being overwhelmed or imposter syndrome when starting a new job? After 4 months, 147 applications, 23 skill tests, 12 interviews, and 2 offers I have finally landed a job in the career sector (government, administrative) that I've always wanted. It has been a long road but I am overjoyed with finally landing something that pays adequately. I have prior applicable experience but nothing on my resume that is comparable to this position. I have already met my manager, taken a tour of the office and met many of the department heads that I'll be supporting. I start next week and I want to do my very best to prepare myself mentally so that I can start strong.", "Does anyone have any tips to avoid being overwhelmed or imposter syndrome when starting a new job? After 4 months, 147 applications, 23 skill tests, 12 interviews, and 2 offers I have finally landed a job in the career sector (government, administrative) that I've always wanted. It has been a long road but I am overjoyed with finally landing something that pays adequately. I have prior applicable experience but nothing on my resume that is comparable to this position. I have already met my manager, taken a tour of the office and met many of the department heads that I'll be supporting. I start next week and I want to do my very best to prepare myself mentally so that I can start strong." ]

[ "If you've ever heard the phrase \"fake it until you make it\" there's a lot of weight to that statement. You might not know everything you need to know for the job right now, but you can learn it while on the job. Don't know how to convert a file? Can't figure out how to reconcile expenses on a balance sheet? Usually asking for assistance at that job shows you're taking the initiative to be a better employee. Not everyone has the answers when they clock in for work either. It's how we grow. Don't let the thoughts that you'll be found out get to you, because everyone else could be feeling the same way too. Good luck.", "Ride the rollercoaster. First week / month nobody is really expecting anything from you other than to be always paying attention and always taking notes.\n\nBy the end of the first month, you'll know yourself if it's for you or not.", "This is gonna sound really stupid, and less a tip more a trick I found works. Every time I feel a case of imposter syndrome coming along I like to lean into it, and find a way of complimenting myself on how well I wrangled the position, for example...\n\n Yes I'm the youngest person who's still learning how to do the job and I'm presenting to people who've forgotten more than I've learnt BUT wow am I a good fraudster, look at how charismatic I am, so deceptive fooling all these people into listening to me. Is this Catch me if you Can because I am Leonardo DiCaprio, con artist extraordinaire.", "I've taken on new roles few times within government and the best advice I got was to ask \"what does success look like in the first 6 months of this position?\" partially because our contracts include a 6 month trial service. The answer lets you know what to work towards. Remember that no one you work with was born with the skills for their job, they had to learn them. You can learn it too and with the right attitude your job will be a breeze and you'll look back and laugh. You got this!", "Fake it til you make it like other people have said, but I take it a step further and combat imposter syndrome with infiltrator syndrome. Nothing quite like pretending you're _pretending_ to be a teacher at a teacher meeting that you were invited to attend by the school that pays you to be a teacher. \"Hohoho_ho_ these chocolates are meant for _teachers_ not _me_ but I have them _anyway!!!_ delightful!!!!\"", "You've always wanted to be a government worker drone? Weird, but congrats! \n\nThe only relief from imposter syndrome that I've found for myself is to just be aware of it when I feel it." ]

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[ "Remove dried blood stain I managed to get a couple drops of blood onto a white tee and a pink oxford shirt. I've tried washing it like normal but it didn't come out. \n\nDoes anyone know if theres anything I can do to try and get rid of the stains? ", "Remove dried blood stain I managed to get a couple drops of blood onto a white tee and a pink oxford shirt. I've tried washing it like normal but it didn't come out. \n\nDoes anyone know if theres anything I can do to try and get rid of the stains? ", "Remove dried blood stain I managed to get a couple drops of blood onto a white tee and a pink oxford shirt. I've tried washing it like normal but it didn't come out. \n\nDoes anyone know if theres anything I can do to try and get rid of the stains? ", "Remove dried blood stain I managed to get a couple drops of blood onto a white tee and a pink oxford shirt. I've tried washing it like normal but it didn't come out. \n\nDoes anyone know if theres anything I can do to try and get rid of the stains? ", "Remove dried blood stain I managed to get a couple drops of blood onto a white tee and a pink oxford shirt. I've tried washing it like normal but it didn't come out. \n\nDoes anyone know if theres anything I can do to try and get rid of the stains? ", "Remove dried blood stain I managed to get a couple drops of blood onto a white tee and a pink oxford shirt. I've tried washing it like normal but it didn't come out. \n\nDoes anyone know if theres anything I can do to try and get rid of the stains? ", "Remove dried blood stain I managed to get a couple drops of blood onto a white tee and a pink oxford shirt. I've tried washing it like normal but it didn't come out. \n\nDoes anyone know if theres anything I can do to try and get rid of the stains? " ]

[ "First soak it in cold water for a while and DO NOT TOUCH IT. Then after the water has turned sufficiently bloody (30 min) you can then squeeze out the water, and scrub at it with hot water and soap until it comes out. I've been doing this almost monthly since the age of 10, and my mother taught me this method and it always works and it's really great since you don't need to buy anything fancy.", "Never put hot water on your clothes if it has blood stains, I read somewhere the hot water makes the proteins \"cooked\" or whatever it's called into the clothes. Making it almost impossible to take out. ", "I'm probably a bit late to the party, but I clipped my dog's claws too short and he bled on the carpet. Cold salt water got the stain out for me.", "Vanish carpet cleaner always works well for me. Spray some on the stain before putting it in the wash ", "I've washed and dried things with blood on them, and went back and scrubbed it with cold water and dawn dish soap. No problems, gets it out real quick!", "Hydrogen peroxide reacts with the iron in the blood to break it down into easy to clean particles though it doesn't work on blood stains that were heated before hand as the stain will be too deep set from the heat breaking down the blood into harder to clean particles.", "Hydrogen Peroxide takes blood out typically, but I don't think it works too well after it's been washed and dried a few times." ]

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[ "How do I get over the girl I love after we mutually break up because of distance? I live in Florida by a city called Ft. Lauderdale and she lives down by a city near Miami. The drive already is 45min. In January I will be transferring to UCF in Orlando and she'll be staying down in Miami. The drive will be roughly 3 hours and 45min between us. We're both very much upset and spent days crying our eyes out and spilling our hearts for each other but both agree that long distance can't work for us. So how do I move on after such a heart break? Delete pictures? Social media? Do I keep her phone number saved on my phone? We both want to be good friends after but this break up is going to hurt so much.", "How do I get over the girl I love after we mutually break up because of distance? I live in Florida by a city called Ft. Lauderdale and she lives down by a city near Miami. The drive already is 45min. In January I will be transferring to UCF in Orlando and she'll be staying down in Miami. The drive will be roughly 3 hours and 45min between us. We're both very much upset and spent days crying our eyes out and spilling our hearts for each other but both agree that long distance can't work for us. So how do I move on after such a heart break? Delete pictures? Social media? Do I keep her phone number saved on my phone? We both want to be good friends after but this break up is going to hurt so much.", "How do I get over the girl I love after we mutually break up because of distance? I live in Florida by a city called Ft. Lauderdale and she lives down by a city near Miami. The drive already is 45min. In January I will be transferring to UCF in Orlando and she'll be staying down in Miami. The drive will be roughly 3 hours and 45min between us. We're both very much upset and spent days crying our eyes out and spilling our hearts for each other but both agree that long distance can't work for us. So how do I move on after such a heart break? Delete pictures? Social media? Do I keep her phone number saved on my phone? We both want to be good friends after but this break up is going to hurt so much.", "How do I get over the girl I love after we mutually break up because of distance? I live in Florida by a city called Ft. Lauderdale and she lives down by a city near Miami. The drive already is 45min. In January I will be transferring to UCF in Orlando and she'll be staying down in Miami. The drive will be roughly 3 hours and 45min between us. We're both very much upset and spent days crying our eyes out and spilling our hearts for each other but both agree that long distance can't work for us. So how do I move on after such a heart break? Delete pictures? Social media? Do I keep her phone number saved on my phone? We both want to be good friends after but this break up is going to hurt so much.", "How do I get over the girl I love after we mutually break up because of distance? I live in Florida by a city called Ft. Lauderdale and she lives down by a city near Miami. The drive already is 45min. In January I will be transferring to UCF in Orlando and she'll be staying down in Miami. The drive will be roughly 3 hours and 45min between us. We're both very much upset and spent days crying our eyes out and spilling our hearts for each other but both agree that long distance can't work for us. So how do I move on after such a heart break? Delete pictures? Social media? Do I keep her phone number saved on my phone? We both want to be good friends after but this break up is going to hurt so much." ]

[ "I was in a similar predicament. I deleted her from social media, deleted her phone number(Had it written down elsewhere), and deleted all of the pics I had of/ with her. It helped, but it still hurt.", "I'm not quite in the same boat, as we lived together for a while before breaking up, but it was mutual (Neither of us wanted to breakup, but we didn't think it would work long term), and we remained friends, even now, 3 years down the line, she's someone I know I can talk to.\n\nThe first few months will suck. If you try to stay in contact, it feels weird as you get used to new boundaries that come from not being together. Get through that though, it's incredibly helpful to have someone who's detached from a situation, but still understands you and is on your side. You never know when either of you will need that.\n\nSecond, it's not a race to recover. My ex jumped into a new relationship, new job and new hobbies like a duck to water, while nerves and fear kept me from progressing. That's fine. The distractions of those things can be great for dealing with loneliness and boredom, but if you're not ready, don't push yourself more than you have to. \n\nAs for the actual process? I don't think there's any \"silver bullet\" to it. You just need time and to forge new memories. My memory for moments isn't great, so my ex made me a calendar with important events from our time together. I only threw it away last month, and it was still a difficult decision. \n\nI don't believe that erasing someone completely is the right thing to do, especially if you've spent a long time with them, the effects you've had on each other can go too deep. But, at some point, it feels okay to get rid of some things and just keep the memories in your head.\n\nTl;dr: don't try and do it all at once. If you want to stay friends, make the effort.\n\nHope all this makes some kind of sense, and best of luck to you, however it goes.", "you know those stages, denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance?\n\nthey're true as hell, so the sooner you accept it to be the way it is, then faster you'll get over it.\n\npractical advice: find another girl to talk to, or at the very least pursue. that's the only thing that's ever worked for me to get over a girl.", "You two seem like the relationship is all good other than this moving apart thing, so my vote would be to not give up.\n\nMy wife and I made it through 2 years of being in totally different countries during our courtship years, if the two of you are good together this isn't going to be a show stopper.\n\nNot sure why you both agree that long distance can't work for you two, video calling whenever you miss each other + a 4 hour drive to meet once a week or so doesn't seem like that bad of a thing to do for someone you claim to love.\n\nIt helped that we viewed it in a long-term perspective: If we're really going to be spending the rest of our lives together, what's a few years apart? Is it worth it to lose each other over maybe 3% (assuming 60 more years of life left, 2 years is ~3.33%) of the total time we'd be spending together in our lifetime?", "It kinda depends on how you are.\n\nMe personally, I'm basically hung up on a person until I meet the next one. Which sucks for me because I'm very particular with love interests so it's a very long process of moving on. " ]

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[ "A way to set a follow-up reminder for sent emails. I send a lot of emails at work, often on behalf of other people. My problem is that once I send them, I immediately forget about it and so I don’t think about it again until someone asks me, “Did we ever hear back from ‘X’?”\n\nIt would be nice if you had the option to “Remind me in [choose number of hours/days]” when sending an email. \n\nI’m using Outlook. \n\nIf there is no way to do this in Outlook, what other ways do you remind yourself?", "A way to set a follow-up reminder for sent emails. I send a lot of emails at work, often on behalf of other people. My problem is that once I send them, I immediately forget about it and so I don’t think about it again until someone asks me, “Did we ever hear back from ‘X’?”\n\nIt would be nice if you had the option to “Remind me in [choose number of hours/days]” when sending an email. \n\nI’m using Outlook. \n\nIf there is no way to do this in Outlook, what other ways do you remind yourself?", "A way to set a follow-up reminder for sent emails. I send a lot of emails at work, often on behalf of other people. My problem is that once I send them, I immediately forget about it and so I don’t think about it again until someone asks me, “Did we ever hear back from ‘X’?”\n\nIt would be nice if you had the option to “Remind me in [choose number of hours/days]” when sending an email. \n\nI’m using Outlook. \n\nIf there is no way to do this in Outlook, what other ways do you remind yourself?", "A way to set a follow-up reminder for sent emails. I send a lot of emails at work, often on behalf of other people. My problem is that once I send them, I immediately forget about it and so I don’t think about it again until someone asks me, “Did we ever hear back from ‘X’?”\n\nIt would be nice if you had the option to “Remind me in [choose number of hours/days]” when sending an email. \n\nI’m using Outlook. \n\nIf there is no way to do this in Outlook, what other ways do you remind yourself?" ]

[ "You can flag them as follow up when you’re creating them. You could also create a group and code it to that group.", "If you cannot find a follow option when sending the email, just create a separate folder for emails you're waiting to hear back on and send emails there. Drop them in them in their respective spot once you have the reply you need.", "Not sure about Outlook, but I use the “Snooze” feature in Gmail ALL.THE.TIME at work and it is magical. It essentially does exactly what you’ve described and helps me stay on top of all the things. Don’t know what I’d do without it.", "*Note: This does not work in web* but *the reminders* do *show up in the web version.*\n\nIn Outlook 2010 and 2016, and beyond, you should have a menu option with the Flag icon to \"Follow up.\"\n\nSelecting that from a message, the menu that dropdown will have the option to set a reminder. \n\n​\n\nYou can change the time and date the alert pops up.\n\nYou can also manually set these by selecting \"New items\" -> \"Task\", and select the option for \"Reminder\" that's just above the text entry box.\n\nYou can see all your available \"reminders\" under Tasks.\n\n​\n\nA step ahead:\n\nWhen creating a new task, if you set under 'Follow up' with \"No Date\", this will stay in your Task items until manually removed. Good place for policy/procedure, key info, etc." ]

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[ "Being okay with being alone Just moved to a small town- incredibly hard to make friends here. I live alone and am not dating anyone, and I'm finding myself stir crazy and feel as though I'm wasting time when I'm not actively trying to build relationships. \n\nHow do you convince yourself being alone is okay?", "Being okay with being alone Just moved to a small town- incredibly hard to make friends here. I live alone and am not dating anyone, and I'm finding myself stir crazy and feel as though I'm wasting time when I'm not actively trying to build relationships. \n\nHow do you convince yourself being alone is okay?", "Being okay with being alone Just moved to a small town- incredibly hard to make friends here. I live alone and am not dating anyone, and I'm finding myself stir crazy and feel as though I'm wasting time when I'm not actively trying to build relationships. \n\nHow do you convince yourself being alone is okay?", "Being okay with being alone Just moved to a small town- incredibly hard to make friends here. I live alone and am not dating anyone, and I'm finding myself stir crazy and feel as though I'm wasting time when I'm not actively trying to build relationships. \n\nHow do you convince yourself being alone is okay?", "Being okay with being alone Just moved to a small town- incredibly hard to make friends here. I live alone and am not dating anyone, and I'm finding myself stir crazy and feel as though I'm wasting time when I'm not actively trying to build relationships. \n\nHow do you convince yourself being alone is okay?", "Being okay with being alone Just moved to a small town- incredibly hard to make friends here. I live alone and am not dating anyone, and I'm finding myself stir crazy and feel as though I'm wasting time when I'm not actively trying to build relationships. \n\nHow do you convince yourself being alone is okay?", "Being okay with being alone Just moved to a small town- incredibly hard to make friends here. I live alone and am not dating anyone, and I'm finding myself stir crazy and feel as though I'm wasting time when I'm not actively trying to build relationships. \n\nHow do you convince yourself being alone is okay?", "Being okay with being alone Just moved to a small town- incredibly hard to make friends here. I live alone and am not dating anyone, and I'm finding myself stir crazy and feel as though I'm wasting time when I'm not actively trying to build relationships. \n\nHow do you convince yourself being alone is okay?", "Being okay with being alone Just moved to a small town- incredibly hard to make friends here. I live alone and am not dating anyone, and I'm finding myself stir crazy and feel as though I'm wasting time when I'm not actively trying to build relationships. \n\nHow do you convince yourself being alone is okay?", "Being okay with being alone Just moved to a small town- incredibly hard to make friends here. I live alone and am not dating anyone, and I'm finding myself stir crazy and feel as though I'm wasting time when I'm not actively trying to build relationships. \n\nHow do you convince yourself being alone is okay?" ]

[ "A few questions (some with comments and suggestions).\n\n- How close is the nearest larger town? Is it within easy travel distance?\n\n- Confirming work is the reason you moved to the small town? If so, what size is your place-of-work and are there interaction capabilities while you're there?\n\n- Do you have hobbies or pastimes? Are there hobbies or pastimes that you feel you might be interested in or could take up, or ones that are dormant but could be revitalized? (If so, google them plus the names of your current and nearby communities to see if there might be meetings or events coming up.)\n\n- Do you have easy access to transportation? Can you drive to other communitiies to see the local attractions like farmer's markets?\n\n- Do you have any interest in volunteering? (It's a fantastic opportunity to meet others, and get you out of the house.)\n\n- Have you googled for local functions like church dinners, club meetings, and so forth? Again, another excuse to get out of the house.\n\nAn alternative to acceptance - and a better option for your social health - is deliberate change.", "You can only convince yourself once you have spent time alone. Spend more time by yourself and do your own thing, and gradually you'll become okay with being alone and will eventually 'convince' yourself that being alone is okay. ", "Oh boy, are you me?\n\nLast year I came back from a deployment and changed duty locations from a major metropolitan city in Oregon to a just-big-enough-to-be-called-city city in Virginia. \n\nDespite being a city, there's pretty much nothing aimed towards twenty-somethings aside for what passes for bars in the commonwealth. Despite being a college town, I still haven't found the college-girl hangouts after 15 months. \n\nFor about 6 months i was still running a deployment lifestyle (gym,w ork, video games, sleep, repeat), largely for lack of things to do. What fixed it was volunteering. \n\nYep, getting involved in the community. \n\nHabitat 4 Humanity is almost always my first go-to volunteer thing in a new place but the one here isn't too active. Next was the animal shelter, and while getting all the time you want with the shelter animals is awesome, there wasn't anyone else there in their mid twenties. So I tried the volunteer fire station, and stayed more because I wanted to do that instead of looking for a social-life booster. Fast forward 7 months and others my age join, we play cards against humanity and joking hazard on Friday nights, and I found my current gf as well. All through that one activity. \n\nSo yeah, my advice to you: get involved in something. Try the volunteer causes, if that doesn't work look for meet ups online, then pick up sports, my next try was going to be local government. Just go find something that gives you a common cause with others and keep at it. \n\nAlso, this is a really great time to better yourself. I know I'm in a much better place personally than I was last year. That's important to me. Read, learn, develop yourself, go skydiving. \n\nJust. Get. Out. There.\n\n:)", "find something to do with this time, there are social groups everywhere for anything you like or want to do. meetup is one of them and if you actually like meeting people, start with that and you should make some connections soon enough. prioritize what is fun for you, try learning something new you always wanted to do. ", "It's not OK, at least as a long term strategy. Humans are social creatures. As a short term thing though, it's your reality and it's fine. You just moved. It would be unusual if all of a sudden they made you Mayor of Whoville.", "Skype people you know who you haven't seen in a long time that will give you something satisfying to confirm a while.\n\nIf you can find a way to casually run into or meet people. Its hard to just walk into a bar alone and start talking to people. Maybe get a dog if you can. Walking a dog gives you an opportunity to walk around your community and just casually run into and meet people. If you try to walk at the same time everyday you will keep running into the same people. After a while you will get to know your neighbours. It feels so much less intimidating to talk to someone when you aren't alone and you don't have anywhere specific you have to be. Also its a friendly face to see when you get home. ", "Maybe you should start playing some computer games, its a great way to make friends and socialize with them. Once your close enough you can probably even start skyping or w/e while also helping each other in tough times. ", "I have been alone for a long time and it is okay to not be okay with it. What you don't want to happen is for the loneliness to consume you. Keep yourself occupied. Find things that, when you do them, you don't even think about it. I found cycling. When I am on my bike, nothing else matters. I also read, go to events around town.\n\nYou don't have to accept being alone, but you can't let it define who you are. Find things that interest you and work on them.", "Go spend some time in public. It'll give you a great appreciation for how much you cherish your own company. ", "We feel separation from others because we don't perceive with our senses the fact that all things are indivisible in the Oneness of the absolute. \nSometimes we are alone and sometimes we are with others. however things are at the moment, it is up to us to either accept reality and find joy in the moment of being, or to reject reality which creates cognitive dissonance and causes us to be unhappy and stressed out. \nbut know that things are always exactly the way they are supposed to be. And God is always with you." ]

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[ "How to make the outside show what's being felt on the inside? Whenever someone is sharing good / bad/ sad news with me, I feel good/ bad/ sad on the inside for them. Empathy and whatnot. But I have a natural poker face. So in the past I've tried to emulate the good / bad/ sad with purposeful facial expressions to match how I feel inside. But I've been told multiple times that my expression looks fake, that I'm trying too hard, that it looks insincere, Zuckerberg-like, etc. \n\nAny tips on how to make the outside show what's being felt on the inside?", "How to make the outside show what's being felt on the inside? Whenever someone is sharing good / bad/ sad news with me, I feel good/ bad/ sad on the inside for them. Empathy and whatnot. But I have a natural poker face. So in the past I've tried to emulate the good / bad/ sad with purposeful facial expressions to match how I feel inside. But I've been told multiple times that my expression looks fake, that I'm trying too hard, that it looks insincere, Zuckerberg-like, etc. \n\nAny tips on how to make the outside show what's being felt on the inside?", "How to make the outside show what's being felt on the inside? Whenever someone is sharing good / bad/ sad news with me, I feel good/ bad/ sad on the inside for them. Empathy and whatnot. But I have a natural poker face. So in the past I've tried to emulate the good / bad/ sad with purposeful facial expressions to match how I feel inside. But I've been told multiple times that my expression looks fake, that I'm trying too hard, that it looks insincere, Zuckerberg-like, etc. \n\nAny tips on how to make the outside show what's being felt on the inside?" ]

[ "By any chance, do you suffer from anxiety or insecurity? If so, is it possible that insecurity is preventing you from displaying your instinctual emotional response? I ask because in the past that has kept me from being honest with people about feeling anguish or sadness, and I have used a poker face to avoid being vulnerable. Over the years, I have learned to open myself up, and found that people rarely judge when you are honest.\n\nThere's nothing wrong with saying in the moment, \"People always tell me that I don't show my emotions, but on the inside I am hurting for you.\" I think more than making the outside show what's being felt on the inside, using language to communicate the truth of what you are feeling is the most important. And of course, true strength is when you can let yourself cry in front of others.", "maybe take a look at using linguistics to convey yourself. I've always heard that the eyes are the windows into the soul & that's true for me; but I have blue eyes, I can't hide even a contact buzz. I also have dominant eyebrows, which make me look angry. I have developed my linguistics & adopted a looking-up posture that puts me in a vulnerable state that people tend to respond to.", "How people think you feel doesn’t change that you felt a specific way. When I’m laughing hysterically at terrible news, it’s my coping mechanism. I tell people that I’m not happy or laughing at it, It’s just that I cope with hard topics by laughing.\n\nBe honest with people, that’s what they want. You don’t have to show you feel sad if it’s not who you are. If you would like to get more in touch with your emotions I personally suggest acting courses, might take time, but they’ll open your gooey human core up eventually." ]

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[ "How to deal with toxic? Lately I just walk out on conversations that I assess as toxic or something that would disturb my inner... something. Can't say it's peace because peace is what I'm still looking for. It does the trick for now but I don't think it'll last.\nAll signs are there, but I'm patient. However, my short fuse plays its part sometimes. \nAnyway, I could use some tips because foolishly I believe anyone can change. Is there any way to avoid having the toxic weigh on me? Considering the place I'm in, I can't really afford any more damage to my emotional and mental state.\n(TL;DR I need to know how to not care at all)\nThanks guys!\n\n[", "How to deal with toxic? Lately I just walk out on conversations that I assess as toxic or something that would disturb my inner... something. Can't say it's peace because peace is what I'm still looking for. It does the trick for now but I don't think it'll last.\nAll signs are there, but I'm patient. However, my short fuse plays its part sometimes. \nAnyway, I could use some tips because foolishly I believe anyone can change. Is there any way to avoid having the toxic weigh on me? Considering the place I'm in, I can't really afford any more damage to my emotional and mental state.\n(TL;DR I need to know how to not care at all)\nThanks guys!\n\n[" ]

[ "Toxic people are those who cause you to take on bad behaviors. Find the opposite, healthy people, and spend time with them, taking on good behaviors. The best thing you can get is a support system of healthy people, then you will see the toxic people as hurting people who need help, and they will have a healthy person in their life to show them good behaviors.", "Go check out /r/raisedbynarcissists and learn the signs. Manipulation, conceit, fake concern, overblown ego, stirring shit, love of drama...ugh!\n\nJust stay away from these people. Try to stay under their radar. They have MUCH more stamina to play games than normal people. They are *motivated* to come out looking good and unless you're also a narcissist, you probably can't compete. \n\n They can't change. They don't want to change. They will suck your life force out of you and leave you limp while the go onto the next victim. You can't talk them into understanding themselves; they will only use logic against you. " ]

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[ "How best to answer someones question that didn't ask you? (in the office) In the office setting you hear someone ask someone else how to do something. If you personally know the answer, what is the best way to get in the conversation and provide an answer without sounding rude or like a know-it-all?", "How best to answer someones question that didn't ask you? (in the office) In the office setting you hear someone ask someone else how to do something. If you personally know the answer, what is the best way to get in the conversation and provide an answer without sounding rude or like a know-it-all?", "How best to answer someones question that didn't ask you? (in the office) In the office setting you hear someone ask someone else how to do something. If you personally know the answer, what is the best way to get in the conversation and provide an answer without sounding rude or like a know-it-all?" ]

[ "\"Excuse me, couldn't help but overhear that you were having trouble with *problem*. I don't mind helping you if you need it.\"\n\nDon't be scared to be friendly. ", "They asked that other person for a reason (expertise or relationship, usually). Give that person a chance to answer without butting in. If you see them struggling for a minute, go with a polite interjection like the first commenter suggested. Offer your advice for whatever it's worth. ", "Ask the inquirer, “How important is it to you that your answer come from Becky? Because I’m guessing that accuracy of the answer is of more relevance than from whom the information came?”\n<Important do do this privately>\nIt’s a dog eat Becky world." ]

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[ "How do I keep my keys from smacking into the steering column when going over uneven terrain? I've fantasized about a solution to this at many a stoplight but I've failed to think of one that would work well. I'm looking for a clever way to minimize the sway of the keys that sudden movements might cause. Any ideas?", "How do I keep my keys from smacking into the steering column when going over uneven terrain? I've fantasized about a solution to this at many a stoplight but I've failed to think of one that would work well. I'm looking for a clever way to minimize the sway of the keys that sudden movements might cause. Any ideas?" ]

[ "Attach ONLY the car key to a smallish grappling hook, then use the hook to attach the other keys to the car key. When you are driving unhook the others and have only the car key in the ignition. (This also helps avoid to much weight/pressure on the ignition which is a BITCH to have replaced)", "[One of these](http://www.amazon.com/KEY-BAK-Release-Accessory-Rectangular-Quality/dp/B0088MPXNQ/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1411361210&sr=8-1&keywords=separating+keychain)\n\nIf you're going over uneven shit, just unhook the rest of your keys. \n\nYou also just unhook your car key for valets, tire service, etc. Don't let the tire guy at Wal-Mart make a copy of your house key right after giving him your address. " ]

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[ "How to grow beard without the expensive products? Hello,\n\nFirst off, I don't have a patchy beard. However, when I try to grow it, after 4-5 months or so it starts getting hard/messy and non-maintainable, I try to comb it but it almost always gets stuck. I tried using the same shampoo I use on my hair, but it introduces dandruff instead, and hair oil is of no use too.\n\nCan you suggest any sustainable way to keep beard healthy without use of any products?\n\nThank you.", "How to grow beard without the expensive products? Hello,\n\nFirst off, I don't have a patchy beard. However, when I try to grow it, after 4-5 months or so it starts getting hard/messy and non-maintainable, I try to comb it but it almost always gets stuck. I tried using the same shampoo I use on my hair, but it introduces dandruff instead, and hair oil is of no use too.\n\nCan you suggest any sustainable way to keep beard healthy without use of any products?\n\nThank you.", "How to grow beard without the expensive products? Hello,\n\nFirst off, I don't have a patchy beard. However, when I try to grow it, after 4-5 months or so it starts getting hard/messy and non-maintainable, I try to comb it but it almost always gets stuck. I tried using the same shampoo I use on my hair, but it introduces dandruff instead, and hair oil is of no use too.\n\nCan you suggest any sustainable way to keep beard healthy without use of any products?\n\nThank you.", "How to grow beard without the expensive products? Hello,\n\nFirst off, I don't have a patchy beard. However, when I try to grow it, after 4-5 months or so it starts getting hard/messy and non-maintainable, I try to comb it but it almost always gets stuck. I tried using the same shampoo I use on my hair, but it introduces dandruff instead, and hair oil is of no use too.\n\nCan you suggest any sustainable way to keep beard healthy without use of any products?\n\nThank you." ]

[ "You should goto a barber to trim it up. When you can reliably put a comb through it, comb it daily, or a few times each day. Avoid using your hand to touch it as oils will not be good for it.\n\nGet head and shoulders for your beard, that will prevent any dandruff. Wash beard with shampoo only 2-4 times a week. Just rinse with water otherwise. \n\nComb your beard in the shower. It will go though the beard easier when its wet. ", "I know you said hair oil doesn't work but try some Argan oil ($5 at the pharmacy) and a Boar-hair brush ($3 at a beauty supply) instead of a comb.", "Beard hair is different to the hair that grows on the top of the head, therefore using regular shampoo can damage it/not have the wanted results. Thats partly the reason why all these beard grooming products have sprung up recently, as it allows people to use products specifically tailored to caring for beard hair in particular.\n\nI know that you said you didn't want to go for the expensive products, so I would stick to combing it regularly every morning with your normal morning wash routine. If you do want to use a product, I would use conditioner instead of shampoo. \n\nAlso 4-5 months of growth is a lot, so in that time you should regularly trim/shape it so it doesn't just grow into a massive clump of hair on your jawline, choose a particular style or shape. There are plenty of videos and tutorials on how to do this kind of stuff given the current beard trend.", "4-5 months? How long are you keeping it trimmed? \n\n4-5 months of growth is going to look like grizzlyman beard. Sounds like your upset it does. I'd just keep it shorter. " ]

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[ "How to stop swearing Now that I'm getting a bit older and am about to start a career, I want to stop using cursing so much. I usually don't even realize when I've cursed so I don't know how to cut it down..", "How to stop swearing Now that I'm getting a bit older and am about to start a career, I want to stop using cursing so much. I usually don't even realize when I've cursed so I don't know how to cut it down..", "How to stop swearing Now that I'm getting a bit older and am about to start a career, I want to stop using cursing so much. I usually don't even realize when I've cursed so I don't know how to cut it down..", "How to stop swearing Now that I'm getting a bit older and am about to start a career, I want to stop using cursing so much. I usually don't even realize when I've cursed so I don't know how to cut it down.." ]

[ "Just train yourself to use different phrases that better suit / define your personality. Get creative! Standard profanities are just a default fallback to people who never thought about it. \n\nA good way to find replacements for cussing is by watching a show or movie and picking up character quotes that you like. \n\nAlso, remember that if you never cuss, you can save the heavy words for when you really want to turn heads and have people pay attention to you. It really works. I drop an F bomb perhaps once a year, and when I do, people know that something is serous. ", "Wear a girl's hair bobble on your wrist. Every time you swear, stretch it out and let it whack your wrist. Worked for me anyway. ", "If you find your self saying fuck. simply add \"rying out loud after it.\"\n\nsoon you will be saying Fu crying out loud", "I find quoting Anchorman to be a socially acceptable way to reduce cursing\n\n\"Son of a beesting\",\n\"Great Odin's raven\",\n\"By the knights of Columbus\", etc." ]

[ 4, 3, 2, 1 ]

[ "How do I block all \"like if you...\" things on my Facebook newsfeed? They're driving me crazy. Some of them are funny but most of the time I've already seen them on Reddit. How do I block just those things?", "How do I block all \"like if you...\" things on my Facebook newsfeed? They're driving me crazy. Some of them are funny but most of the time I've already seen them on Reddit. How do I block just those things?", "How do I block all \"like if you...\" things on my Facebook newsfeed? They're driving me crazy. Some of them are funny but most of the time I've already seen them on Reddit. How do I block just those things?" ]

[ "I'm not aware of content filters for Facebook, but you could try clicking the drop down arrow on the right side of those posts and select \"only important updates\" from chronic offenders. I don't know if that will work or not. Or just defriend them.", "You can unsubscribe from people. In my experience, people who post things like that usually don't post anything else of real value. If you unsubscribe from them, you won't see any posts by them on your news feed, however they're not alerted to it or anything (say like unadding them from your friends).\n\nTo unsubscribe, click the little downward pointing arrow off to the right of the post.", "All of the other stuff I've read here works, but if you want something that gives you a bit more control over the specific 'Like if you' bullshit then you can try [Social Fixer.](http://socialfixer.com/) Gives you filters you can set up to hide those specific posts and nothing else, as well as a whole bunch of other stuff if you want it." ]

[ 3, 1, 1 ]

[ "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!", "What is the best way to close luggage with zipper broken and make sure it stays closed? So, zipper slider on my luggage bag broke and I cannot replace it - I don't have a replacement slider. At this point I don't want to buy a new bag and I need this bag one last time for trip home. I can buy duck tape and I have some superglue. \nI don't care how it would look like, I just need it not to fall apart for a day. \nThank you!" ]

[ "Regular old kitchen plastic wrap. Tie the start of it to the handle of the bag, wrap around and around until you use up the roll, the tie the tall to the handle. Way easier to undo than duct tape. ", "You're taking a bus. Nobody cares what your bags look like. Empty that entire roll of duct tape on that fucker! ", "Toss the luggage in the dumpster, get a cardboard box and some tape, mail the box to your destination. Way cheaper than paying baggage fees on an airline.\n\nSame applies even if you want your stuff to stay with you. \"Cardboard box\" is the official luggage of nearly every international traveler from a 2nd world country. Go hang out at the baggage carousel in the LAX international terminal if you don't believe me.", "I can't say I've ever tried this, but I have pondered it, so there is that. What about sewing the zipper in place? Since you only need it one more time, pack it, sew it, and cut the threads at your destination.", "Duck tape or rope. If you're flying, try rope. The TSA is gonna be pissed if you give them a bag that's duck taped shut.", "Saran Wrap / cling wrap - seriously. It'll hold if you do it enough. \n\nOr buy ratchet tie-downs from large chain hardware store (like a Home Depot in the States) that's also available where you are headed. Keep the packaging & receipt. Then Saran Wrap the whole thing. Lastly return the tie-downs once you arrive?", "It doesnt matter if your zipper is broken or not or if it is locked.... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tbpKhHwwtiY&feature=youtube_gdata_player", "sounds like you already solved it if you bought duct tape. just wrap something tightly around it many times, duct tape, packing tape, string, rope, plastic wrap, maybe encase it in a huge wax seal.", "You can use cable ties. Punch holes right next to the zipper (between the plastic and stitching) on either side every few inches, insert cable ties and tighten. Cheap, easy and not very messy.\n", "Whenever I take a vacation, I never leave without 20m of paracord, a roll of 100mph tape, and my Leatherman. You can fix anything with those three items. Just poke enough holes in your bag with the awl from the leatherman and then thread enough paracord through the holes like stitches, or laces. Seal the stitches with the tape. Works on luggage, shoes, you can combat-strap your pack strapping as well.", "The real LPT should be: buy decent luggage!\nNo, your average Samsonite is not decent (aside from the top lines). Even if it hurts, shell out the money for a Tumi, Rimowa (aluminum! Their customer service is second to none, but their polycarbonate hard shells aren't any better, either) or sometimes a Titan. \n\nThink hard shell (no zipper!), cusomer service and spare parts. Once you start going through a suitcase every 6-12 months, 500$+ isn't that much money anymore...", "So, you pack everything as you normally would, close the lid as best you can. Next you load the suitcase into a larger suitcase with a working zipper. ", "I was going to suggest using Tie Wraps to pull the two sides closed, but that wouldn't make the TSA happy", "Guessing you're a non-native speaker, but fyi...\n\n>I don't care how it would look ~~like~~, I just need it not to fall apart for a day.\n\nThis is correct. Like is a comparison word. You can say \"I don't care what it would look like\" because the \"like\" compares with the noun \"what\". \n\nWhen you say how, it's an adverb. You don't need to make a comparison, \"how\" is directly modifying \"it looks\".\n\nI think as native speakers most people just know it by hearing it over and over, because it doesn't seem very intuitive for non-native speakers.", "poke some holes along the zipper both sides and use cable ties, clip them to make it look better, but the strength of the zipper should not make the cable ties rip the bag. do a line along the zipper a few inches apart. ", "or this > https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vdfq9xYklJo\n\nsaw this in milan, italy a year ago. there is another video in the side bar that shows them wrapping a bicycle. \n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7jXmUChymWw", "When you look into a new luggage carrier, look into pelican cases... They are a little pricey, but are easily the best carriers on the markey", "What airport are you flying from? I've seen plastic wrap machines in airport lobbies (do you call it a lobby?) where you can have a case wrapped for not too many Rials or dinar... It mostly depends on whether people use luggage where you are.", "Use a belt and loop it around the luggage. And use Kitchen wrap to bundle up the whole thing in order to secure the corners so that it doesn't flap open. Go for as many layers as you can so that the whole thing stays closed", "Tuck tape or packaging tape could be just as good as Duct tape. I find Tuck tape sticks a lot better than the Duct tape.\n\n", "Try the local resale shop. I got my current suitcase at Goodwill. It still had the tag on it with a price of $52, and I got it for $8. $8 isn't much more expensive than a roll of duct tape or plastic wrap. Otherwise, I'd duct tape it. Superglue is likely going to pop the first time the baggage handlers toss it at a cart. I'd also suggest you bag your belongings in something like some of those big ziploc baggies to keep them clean in case it opens.", "This is probably too late, and I probably haven't read all the comments...but have you tried using pliers to \"squish\" the zipper? I've used that for several hoodies that come apart (zipping it up, and only the zipper moves).\n\nIt's worked every time for me, but I've had to do it more than once for older jackets.", "These suggestions are all great but what the fuck happens when the TSA decides they need to open and search it, and they can't zip it shut again? You think they're gonna wrap it back up for you? ", "Re-feed the zipper head back through! As long as you mesh the teeth up properly and start from the bottom you can usually do it. Sometimes you need a screwdriver and a pair of pliers to pry apart/bend back the head to get it on the zipper again and stay there.", "Luggage strap.\n\nBoth of the latches on my hard case Samsonite eventually stopped catching, so I had to use the locks, which made it a pain to quickly get in and out of the case for something. I was also nervous that if the latches were broken, would the locks stop catching as well. \n\nPretty much any place that sells luggage will have them - I got mine from a Walmart. Extended the life of my suitcase, which I later took to Hawaii stuffed with snorkling, fishing & hiking equipment along with way too many clothes (seriously, even for a week you barely need anything). ", "Is it just one zipper that broke or two? You could remove the broken one and work the seams so that it could be shut by one zipper only (did this for a backpack that broke). Then, you can zip tie the zipper to the bag handle to keep it shut.", "If you've just lost the Pull off of the Slide, just put a zip-tie or small split key ring in the hole of the slide and zip away!", "Heat gun glue. It will stay close. \n\nBut if you're worried about ever opening it again, I wouldn't go that route.\n\nSeriously, wrapping around the outside with duct tape would do the job. Then just slice the duct tape when you get there. You would probably need to tape along the zipper and then tape around the whole luggage a few times in nearly evey direction. ", "You can buy long tapes of velcro which you can go around your bag with and keep the bag all together. Two or three of these will secure the other fixes you do until you are home. Another good fixative is the Typar tape used on Typar sheeting when doing house construction. Good Luck.", "I'm a researcher who specializes in aquatic animals pertaining to the anatidae family. I'd greatly appreciate If you could post a link or otherwise direct me to a location or organisation who handles 'duck tape'. It would facilitate many of my ongoing project. Thank you beforehand!", "If you have a big dick, make sure it doesnt get in the way of the zippers. I have had my dick sliced off then reattached multiple times becaus I would always be packing whilst naked. If you are a woman, make sure you dont have a strapon on. Cheers", "Try cutting one end of the thread loose from the zipper. Slide the \"puller\" for a lack of a better word, back onto the \"teeth\". Then resew it back together. Somebody gimme some gold. Can I get a witness?" ]

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[ "Best cold remedies I'm sick as a dog, but I need at least feel well enough to function and socialize at a party tonight. What are the best cold remedies/products that not only relieve cold symptoms, but reduce time convalescing?\n\nThanks!", "Best cold remedies I'm sick as a dog, but I need at least feel well enough to function and socialize at a party tonight. What are the best cold remedies/products that not only relieve cold symptoms, but reduce time convalescing?\n\nThanks!", "Best cold remedies I'm sick as a dog, but I need at least feel well enough to function and socialize at a party tonight. What are the best cold remedies/products that not only relieve cold symptoms, but reduce time convalescing?\n\nThanks!", "Best cold remedies I'm sick as a dog, but I need at least feel well enough to function and socialize at a party tonight. What are the best cold remedies/products that not only relieve cold symptoms, but reduce time convalescing?\n\nThanks!" ]

[ "Consider not attending party. You're probably gonna spread your cold to lots of other people. \n\nRemember, it's exactly what the cold germs want you to do! ", "Best when you feel like you're getting sick: pour hydrogen peroxide in each ear (one at a time) and let sit for about 5 minutes. It feels weird, but I swear it works! I haven't been sick in more than a year since doing this. It's based on a theory that germs get in through our ears, not just mouth and nose. \n\nAnother remedy for pre-sick feeling: put about 1-2 tbsp of apple cider vinegar in a glass of water, drink it throughout the day. Doesn't taste as gross as it sounds.\n\nFor sore throat: gargle with salt water. Also, gargle with 1 tsp of Tabasco in a glass of warm water. The capsaicin in the cayenne pepper is a pain reliever. You can also add 1 tsp of cayenne pepper to OJ with pulp, that way when you drink it, the pain relief is reaching the back of your throat. \n\nFor general sickness relief: hot water, honey, lemon juice (add some cayenne if your throat hurts). Tastes great, feels great, keeps you hydrated, and the lemon and honey do good things!\n\nFor when your are totally sick: stick to the BRAT diet - broth, rice, applesauce, toast. When you're super sick your body needs to focus on healing, don't overwhelm it with lots of food. Keep it simple.\n", "I always have Vit C with zinc on hand, won't make you feel better but I have read that zinc speeds up recovery time. I have noticed that when I get a cold I have been getting better quicker since using it. ", "Literally hundreds of clinical tests have been performed. The only positive result, aside from obvious things like staying hydrated and getting plenty of sleep, is zinc: slightly higher levels of zinc intake may reduce the length of colds slightly (although in some people it has no effect, and sometimes works the opposite way).\n\nEverything else is superstition, bias confirmation, and bullshit folklore. If there were a cold cure, or even just something that reduced the infection time, every cold-symptom product on the market would quickly include it as an ingredient." ]

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[ "How do I know that it's high time I changed my disposable shaver? Seriously, I have been using the same Bic (supposedly?)disposable shaver for months and it still shaves my beard like a charm. When do I know I'm supposed to dispose of it?", "How do I know that it's high time I changed my disposable shaver? Seriously, I have been using the same Bic (supposedly?)disposable shaver for months and it still shaves my beard like a charm. When do I know I'm supposed to dispose of it?", "How do I know that it's high time I changed my disposable shaver? Seriously, I have been using the same Bic (supposedly?)disposable shaver for months and it still shaves my beard like a charm. When do I know I'm supposed to dispose of it?", "How do I know that it's high time I changed my disposable shaver? Seriously, I have been using the same Bic (supposedly?)disposable shaver for months and it still shaves my beard like a charm. When do I know I'm supposed to dispose of it?", "How do I know that it's high time I changed my disposable shaver? Seriously, I have been using the same Bic (supposedly?)disposable shaver for months and it still shaves my beard like a charm. When do I know I'm supposed to dispose of it?", "How do I know that it's high time I changed my disposable shaver? Seriously, I have been using the same Bic (supposedly?)disposable shaver for months and it still shaves my beard like a charm. When do I know I'm supposed to dispose of it?", "How do I know that it's high time I changed my disposable shaver? Seriously, I have been using the same Bic (supposedly?)disposable shaver for months and it still shaves my beard like a charm. When do I know I'm supposed to dispose of it?" ]

[ "When it stops shaving your beard like a charm. Seriously.\n\nI have coarse beard hair and I get maybe 3-4 full shaves from a Bic before it starts pulling instead of cutting. I've also lived in more humid climates where rust was a factor; disposables embrace oxidation like a grade school chum.", "If it keeps shaving well, then there's no need to change it. Personally, mine tend to last for quite a while, but you need to rinse and then dry them well afterwards.\n\nAlso, Google around about using a pair of jeans to strop the blade and keep it going even longer.", "Oxidation, not use, is what dulls them. Store the blade head in isopropyl alcohol and it will last for ages.", "You could always do [this technique.](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B3Kxiom83Js) I've used it a many times and you definitely get a half-dozen extra shaves out of a razor easily but it does have an upper limit...you can't just keep taking the burr off the edge with a a pair of jeans forever although [these things](http://www.getbladebuddy.com/) seem to get a lot of praise.\n\n**", "Try to slide them on a pair of jeans, it'll sharpen them-might make the blades last another 2 or 3 months. Otherwise, when you feel like you have to tug a little harder or go back to get other spots on your face, you probably need a new head. ", "my mach3 last for ~10 shaves. Everyone is different though. Some last 2 months before I need to replace, some last 5 shaves. I measure it based on the pull factor. If it starts pull out hair then I get a new razor head.", "It's ALWAYS time to make the switch to a double edged blade. You should at least consider it. Especially since after the initial investment (admittedly somewhat high), the replacements blades cost a few cents each and give you a closer, more comfortable shave than any disposable or cartridge razor ever will." ]

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[ "What degrees would you say are worth getting? If not degrees, certifications and or online courses? Hi guys! I studied business, but recently, I’ve decided I just want to learn for fun. What’s something I should take up?", "What degrees would you say are worth getting? If not degrees, certifications and or online courses? Hi guys! I studied business, but recently, I’ve decided I just want to learn for fun. What’s something I should take up?", "What degrees would you say are worth getting? If not degrees, certifications and or online courses? Hi guys! I studied business, but recently, I’ve decided I just want to learn for fun. What’s something I should take up?", "What degrees would you say are worth getting? If not degrees, certifications and or online courses? Hi guys! I studied business, but recently, I’ve decided I just want to learn for fun. What’s something I should take up?", "What degrees would you say are worth getting? If not degrees, certifications and or online courses? Hi guys! I studied business, but recently, I’ve decided I just want to learn for fun. What’s something I should take up?", "What degrees would you say are worth getting? If not degrees, certifications and or online courses? Hi guys! I studied business, but recently, I’ve decided I just want to learn for fun. What’s something I should take up?", "What degrees would you say are worth getting? If not degrees, certifications and or online courses? Hi guys! I studied business, but recently, I’ve decided I just want to learn for fun. What’s something I should take up?", "What degrees would you say are worth getting? If not degrees, certifications and or online courses? Hi guys! I studied business, but recently, I’ve decided I just want to learn for fun. What’s something I should take up?" ]

[ "Just do what Michael Reeves does (Youtuber) he finds classes he's interested in and just takes them. You can sit in any university class for free - fees pay for diploma and tests not the actual learning part", "This is going to be a super boring answer, but you rarely see out of work Accountants. Even if you don’t go so far to get a CPA, it’s still a very stable and relatively in-demand career.", "My first enrichment certification I did (after my working degree in business) was through a local Junior College-- I did the work to be a master gardener. I enjoyed every moment of it and still do.\n\nIn my late 30s I attended SJU and got a BFA - Art History. Two things I have always loved.\n\nThese things had nothing to do with my careers but the knowledge I got from being more well rounded has served me every day.", "Degrees needed for a career you want to work in. Like if you want to work for children and family services, get your MSW, as without it, you'll never get the highest jobs and promotions. That's a good template.", "Oh, also my granddaughter got her BA in Economics last year. She was grabbed up by one of the BIG companies and her starting salary was $90+. \nThe subject seems dull as dirt to me but my granddaughter started talking about being an economist when she was 12! \nDo what gives you joy.", "If you’re interested in healthcare, Perfusion. You can work on staff, work part time, travel, similar to a nurse but you work in surgeries, mainly heart but also liver transplants, lung transplants, ECMO (like a long-term heart-lung bypass) in the ICU, kidneys, cancers, etc. I’ve been doing it for 6 years, it pays well. The drawback is you spend a lot of time being on call where they can call you in at any time and you have to show up within 30 min, but most weeks I don’t work more than 4 days. You just need a bachelors degree to get in, maybe some healthcare related elective courses.", "One of the most useful things you can do is to learn to write well. Public speaking is also great. These skills will be useful to you long after the latest technology has faded from memory. The best way to learn both of these is practice / rehearsal + feedback. As a bonus, learning them can be fun because you can practice by writing or speaking about things that interest you.", "Data analytics and programming are in demand currently. In a couple decades with improved AI, who knows?" ]

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[ "Effectively unclogging ears during and after an airplane flight I've tried the typical forcing myself to yawn and chewing gum but those techniques don't typically work too often. What do you guys usually do that works?", "Effectively unclogging ears during and after an airplane flight I've tried the typical forcing myself to yawn and chewing gum but those techniques don't typically work too often. What do you guys usually do that works?", "Effectively unclogging ears during and after an airplane flight I've tried the typical forcing myself to yawn and chewing gum but those techniques don't typically work too often. What do you guys usually do that works?" ]

[ "Med student here. Two good options if the standard gum-chewing and yawning plans do not work: pinch your nose with two fingers, close your mouth and blow (placing air pressure into your nose with your chest) until you feel your ears pop. If that does not work, you may have an inner ear blockage (frequently caused by sinus and ear infections); ask your primary care doctor for ear-numbing drops before your trip. Put the drops in your ears five minutes before takeoff. Also, place them in the ears of young children who cannot pop their ears. ", "The best thing is to prevent the clogging to begin with. Take a strong decongestant and an anti-inflammatory a few hours before the flight and you won't have to put up with nonsense about chewing gum or trying to increase pressure in your head like the med student suggests (and which actually makes it worse).", "Buy some cheap EarPlanes, earplugs made to prevent this problem. Put them in an hour before you land or right before you take off.\n \n^^This ^^message ^^brought ^^to ^^you ^^by ^^the ^^makers ^^of ^^Earplanes" ]

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[ "Is there a way I can fix these wrinkles / creases on my dress shirt? I don't exactly know how, but some form of small wrinkles / creases appeared locally on my dress shirt (please see images attached) and they are unironable. Is there a way I can get rid of them? The shirt is 20% polyester and 80% cotton.\n\n[Imgur](http://i.imgur.com/STOrCCU.jpg)\n\n[Imgur](http://i.imgur.com/uOHRcgF.jpg)\n\n[Imgur](http://i.imgur.com/O3nXoWZ.jpg)\n", "Is there a way I can fix these wrinkles / creases on my dress shirt? I don't exactly know how, but some form of small wrinkles / creases appeared locally on my dress shirt (please see images attached) and they are unironable. Is there a way I can get rid of them? The shirt is 20% polyester and 80% cotton.\n\n[Imgur](http://i.imgur.com/STOrCCU.jpg)\n\n[Imgur](http://i.imgur.com/uOHRcgF.jpg)\n\n[Imgur](http://i.imgur.com/O3nXoWZ.jpg)\n", "Is there a way I can fix these wrinkles / creases on my dress shirt? I don't exactly know how, but some form of small wrinkles / creases appeared locally on my dress shirt (please see images attached) and they are unironable. Is there a way I can get rid of them? The shirt is 20% polyester and 80% cotton.\n\n[Imgur](http://i.imgur.com/STOrCCU.jpg)\n\n[Imgur](http://i.imgur.com/uOHRcgF.jpg)\n\n[Imgur](http://i.imgur.com/O3nXoWZ.jpg)\n", "Is there a way I can fix these wrinkles / creases on my dress shirt? I don't exactly know how, but some form of small wrinkles / creases appeared locally on my dress shirt (please see images attached) and they are unironable. Is there a way I can get rid of them? The shirt is 20% polyester and 80% cotton.\n\n[Imgur](http://i.imgur.com/STOrCCU.jpg)\n\n[Imgur](http://i.imgur.com/uOHRcgF.jpg)\n\n[Imgur](http://i.imgur.com/O3nXoWZ.jpg)\n", "Is there a way I can fix these wrinkles / creases on my dress shirt? I don't exactly know how, but some form of small wrinkles / creases appeared locally on my dress shirt (please see images attached) and they are unironable. Is there a way I can get rid of them? The shirt is 20% polyester and 80% cotton.\n\n[Imgur](http://i.imgur.com/STOrCCU.jpg)\n\n[Imgur](http://i.imgur.com/uOHRcgF.jpg)\n\n[Imgur](http://i.imgur.com/O3nXoWZ.jpg)\n" ]

[ "It looks like those areas got too hot either from ironing or from the dryer. The polyester \"melted\" and contracted to cause the puckering you see. There's no way to fix it and continuing to iron it probably just made it worse. I think there's no saving this shirt.\n\nI own a business where we iron delicate fabrics daily.\n", "Spray starch has always worked for me. I've had shirts come out of the wash looking like crumpled up tissue paper, but after a good starching and ironing you'd never know.", "Run a super hot shower with the shirt hanging in the room. Steam should help get rid of the wrinkles.", "downy wrinkle releaser, look for it in your washing detergent isle. It's basically bottled starch that you spray on and then tug your cloths straight, I keep a bottle on me all the time, best for traveling!", "I bought a steamer ($25 usd) recently and it works great on all types of fabrics. It should make short work of that wrinkle as it looks similar to some curtains I had hanging which came out nice and pressed after some steaming. The steamer shoots a constant stream of steam instead of short bursts that irons shoot. " ]

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[ "How to stop being scared of horror stories and movies. So I've always had the urge to watch horror movies or read creepypastas but I get scared so easily and get afraid of every small thing. My father suggested that I keep reading/watching them over and over until they don't feel scary anymore, I thought it made sense so I did. And it only made it worse and I'm frightened of being alone for a second. Any tips would be greatly appreciated.", "How to stop being scared of horror stories and movies. So I've always had the urge to watch horror movies or read creepypastas but I get scared so easily and get afraid of every small thing. My father suggested that I keep reading/watching them over and over until they don't feel scary anymore, I thought it made sense so I did. And it only made it worse and I'm frightened of being alone for a second. Any tips would be greatly appreciated.", "How to stop being scared of horror stories and movies. So I've always had the urge to watch horror movies or read creepypastas but I get scared so easily and get afraid of every small thing. My father suggested that I keep reading/watching them over and over until they don't feel scary anymore, I thought it made sense so I did. And it only made it worse and I'm frightened of being alone for a second. Any tips would be greatly appreciated.", "How to stop being scared of horror stories and movies. So I've always had the urge to watch horror movies or read creepypastas but I get scared so easily and get afraid of every small thing. My father suggested that I keep reading/watching them over and over until they don't feel scary anymore, I thought it made sense so I did. And it only made it worse and I'm frightened of being alone for a second. Any tips would be greatly appreciated.", "How to stop being scared of horror stories and movies. So I've always had the urge to watch horror movies or read creepypastas but I get scared so easily and get afraid of every small thing. My father suggested that I keep reading/watching them over and over until they don't feel scary anymore, I thought it made sense so I did. And it only made it worse and I'm frightened of being alone for a second. Any tips would be greatly appreciated.", "How to stop being scared of horror stories and movies. So I've always had the urge to watch horror movies or read creepypastas but I get scared so easily and get afraid of every small thing. My father suggested that I keep reading/watching them over and over until they don't feel scary anymore, I thought it made sense so I did. And it only made it worse and I'm frightened of being alone for a second. Any tips would be greatly appreciated.", "How to stop being scared of horror stories and movies. So I've always had the urge to watch horror movies or read creepypastas but I get scared so easily and get afraid of every small thing. My father suggested that I keep reading/watching them over and over until they don't feel scary anymore, I thought it made sense so I did. And it only made it worse and I'm frightened of being alone for a second. Any tips would be greatly appreciated.", "How to stop being scared of horror stories and movies. So I've always had the urge to watch horror movies or read creepypastas but I get scared so easily and get afraid of every small thing. My father suggested that I keep reading/watching them over and over until they don't feel scary anymore, I thought it made sense so I did. And it only made it worse and I'm frightened of being alone for a second. Any tips would be greatly appreciated.", "How to stop being scared of horror stories and movies. So I've always had the urge to watch horror movies or read creepypastas but I get scared so easily and get afraid of every small thing. My father suggested that I keep reading/watching them over and over until they don't feel scary anymore, I thought it made sense so I did. And it only made it worse and I'm frightened of being alone for a second. Any tips would be greatly appreciated.", "How to stop being scared of horror stories and movies. So I've always had the urge to watch horror movies or read creepypastas but I get scared so easily and get afraid of every small thing. My father suggested that I keep reading/watching them over and over until they don't feel scary anymore, I thought it made sense so I did. And it only made it worse and I'm frightened of being alone for a second. Any tips would be greatly appreciated.", "How to stop being scared of horror stories and movies. So I've always had the urge to watch horror movies or read creepypastas but I get scared so easily and get afraid of every small thing. My father suggested that I keep reading/watching them over and over until they don't feel scary anymore, I thought it made sense so I did. And it only made it worse and I'm frightened of being alone for a second. Any tips would be greatly appreciated." ]

[ "earplugs + subtitles help, at least for American horror movies. the majority revolve around sudden, loud noises to scare you, whereas japanese/korean horror movies go for the psychological mindfuck", "Hi! I actually had the same exact problem, I'm easily scared but I'm compelled to watch horror/read creepypastas! \n\nI'm better at handling horror now than I was probably 6 months ago, majorly! So I'll list everything I did that I think helped! \n\nI started off with horror let's plays- Let's Plays are videos on YouTube where someone is playing a video game and making commentary. I would watch Markiplier and Jacksepticeye as my favorites, and Crit1tlal had a very funny video about Five Nights at Freddy's too that I recommend. Watching these grown men act silly and just as frightened or more than I was gave me courage. (also imagined Crit1tlal with me at night when I would hallucinate scary things in the dark and what he would say... I felt safer!) \n\nFor horror film, I would recommend watching behind the scenes footage and making of videos. By seeing how the \"monster\" is made, is a strong reminder that it's not real and can't get you. \n\nI also watch YouTube to deal with various creepypastas and things. I watch SomeOrdinaryGamer read and critique creepypastas as at the end when he reviews what he read, it's very reassuring how fake he points out it is. I also watch ScareTheater as they have a lot of explanation and debunking videos that put my mind at ease. \n\nI hope that helps! ", "When I see scary things with my kids, we try to dissect them. We talk about how the zombie makeup is made, and how the clothes were made to look old...or how silly [whatever] is. Taking it out of context and looking at it seems to take the scary out of it for them. \n", "Watch/consume lots and lots of them. Start with one that are of poorer quality. Or start at the beginning of the talkie era, working toward the modern era (the shift in what is considered frightening may change gradually enough to inoculate you- you probably won't actually start having issues until the mid-60's with Night of the Living Dead or the films of Hershal Gordon Lewis) ", "Stay alone for a night, just sit in the dark, staying awake and experiencing everything around. You will realize that nothing bad is happening.", "I usually watch the movie and then play something like marioKart for a hour, or watch something silly...just to get the heebiejeebies out.\nAlso, watching horror movies in a group and commenting:\ntakes the edge off,\nmakes very scary horrors less scary,\nmakes very bad horrors hilarious.\n\nWhen it gets really intense I use some psychological tricks...such as finding a distinguishing characteristic that makes the protagonist and me very different, and then thinking \"see? it happened to him because he did X\"\nSo you trick yourself into thinking that if you don't do X (something that you will not likely do) you'll be safe.", "Eat while watching. Eat fruits and healthy stuff or drink coffee..? \nGet a blanket along with a lot of pillows and enjoy whatever you are eating/drinking.\nMy advice is to get coffee/hot chocolate with bananas, strawberries and grapes.", "Well it depends on what your definition of scary is (gore, sudden noises aka jump scares, plot lines, or visuals aka setting/monsters/etc.). \n\nThe only thing that I find scary are plots and settings, no way I could find to get over it as it scares me in person as well in movies.", "Well it depends on what your definition of scary is (gore, sudden noises aka jump scares, plot lines, or visuals aka setting/monsters/etc.). \n\nThe only thing that I find scary are plots and settings, no way I could find to get over it as it scares me in person as well in movies.", "I'm a scaredy cat but also really into horror and stuff so what I do is I just play a lot of music after reading or watching a horror film. Sing out loud if needed. Takes the tension and the feeling of being watched. 😊", "I listen to my creepypastas while doing chores , eventually I got so used to listening to them that I doze off at night with them playing. So try listening while you're doing another activity like running, cooking, or playing video games ." ]

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[ "how do I lose the fear of the unexpected when I go outside? I fear something happening to me outside. I usually avoid eye contact with certain people because I am afriad of them wanting to fight me or rob me. I was robbed for money around 2012.\n\nI fear the unexpected when I go outside and I want to overcome this.\n\nAny tips?\n\nI repost just to make it slower for you guys because I'm super nice : )\n", "how do I lose the fear of the unexpected when I go outside? I fear something happening to me outside. I usually avoid eye contact with certain people because I am afriad of them wanting to fight me or rob me. I was robbed for money around 2012.\n\nI fear the unexpected when I go outside and I want to overcome this.\n\nAny tips?\n\nI repost just to make it slower for you guys because I'm super nice : )\n", "how do I lose the fear of the unexpected when I go outside? I fear something happening to me outside. I usually avoid eye contact with certain people because I am afriad of them wanting to fight me or rob me. I was robbed for money around 2012.\n\nI fear the unexpected when I go outside and I want to overcome this.\n\nAny tips?\n\nI repost just to make it slower for you guys because I'm super nice : )\n", "how do I lose the fear of the unexpected when I go outside? I fear something happening to me outside. I usually avoid eye contact with certain people because I am afriad of them wanting to fight me or rob me. I was robbed for money around 2012.\n\nI fear the unexpected when I go outside and I want to overcome this.\n\nAny tips?\n\nI repost just to make it slower for you guys because I'm super nice : )\n", "how do I lose the fear of the unexpected when I go outside? I fear something happening to me outside. I usually avoid eye contact with certain people because I am afriad of them wanting to fight me or rob me. I was robbed for money around 2012.\n\nI fear the unexpected when I go outside and I want to overcome this.\n\nAny tips?\n\nI repost just to make it slower for you guys because I'm super nice : )\n" ]

[ "M", "How do you cope with unexpected events inside the house such as sudden rainstorm when windows are wide open, or pipe burst or the dinner catches on fire, or light bulb suddenly going out, etc.? Robbery can happen while you're home as well, not limited to being outside. If you have an irrational fear of the unexpected, you might need to speak to a specialist/psychiatrist.", "go sit on a porch every day for a little while to start.\n get used the bigger world in your immediate vicinity.\n\nthen work on expanding that world.", "Man that sucks\n\nI’ve been mugged too and it’s no fun \n\nHonest though... outside is awesome! The best place to be is everywhere! Take joy in everything, trees, birds, architecture. Eventually you’ll forget what was stressing you out in the first place. \n\n\n\n", "Hit the gym. My friend was mugged in NYC once. Since then he's been in the army and works out daily. He's huge now" ]

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[ "Keeping a bedroom cool in the summer. It's starting to get hot out and my room faces west on the second floor with a huge window that the sun constantly beats on which heats my room up pretty hot. I've tried leaving my blinds closed with an oscillating fan on all day but that doesn't help at all. \n\nMy mom has suggested putting tint on the window but I don't know how effective that would be. \n\nAny tips to keep my room cooler besides just turning on the A/C? (my parents don't like to use the A/C too much because it gets pretty expensive)\n", "Keeping a bedroom cool in the summer. It's starting to get hot out and my room faces west on the second floor with a huge window that the sun constantly beats on which heats my room up pretty hot. I've tried leaving my blinds closed with an oscillating fan on all day but that doesn't help at all. \n\nMy mom has suggested putting tint on the window but I don't know how effective that would be. \n\nAny tips to keep my room cooler besides just turning on the A/C? (my parents don't like to use the A/C too much because it gets pretty expensive)\n", "Keeping a bedroom cool in the summer. It's starting to get hot out and my room faces west on the second floor with a huge window that the sun constantly beats on which heats my room up pretty hot. I've tried leaving my blinds closed with an oscillating fan on all day but that doesn't help at all. \n\nMy mom has suggested putting tint on the window but I don't know how effective that would be. \n\nAny tips to keep my room cooler besides just turning on the A/C? (my parents don't like to use the A/C too much because it gets pretty expensive)\n", "Keeping a bedroom cool in the summer. It's starting to get hot out and my room faces west on the second floor with a huge window that the sun constantly beats on which heats my room up pretty hot. I've tried leaving my blinds closed with an oscillating fan on all day but that doesn't help at all. \n\nMy mom has suggested putting tint on the window but I don't know how effective that would be. \n\nAny tips to keep my room cooler besides just turning on the A/C? (my parents don't like to use the A/C too much because it gets pretty expensive)\n", "Keeping a bedroom cool in the summer. It's starting to get hot out and my room faces west on the second floor with a huge window that the sun constantly beats on which heats my room up pretty hot. I've tried leaving my blinds closed with an oscillating fan on all day but that doesn't help at all. \n\nMy mom has suggested putting tint on the window but I don't know how effective that would be. \n\nAny tips to keep my room cooler besides just turning on the A/C? (my parents don't like to use the A/C too much because it gets pretty expensive)\n", "Keeping a bedroom cool in the summer. It's starting to get hot out and my room faces west on the second floor with a huge window that the sun constantly beats on which heats my room up pretty hot. I've tried leaving my blinds closed with an oscillating fan on all day but that doesn't help at all. \n\nMy mom has suggested putting tint on the window but I don't know how effective that would be. \n\nAny tips to keep my room cooler besides just turning on the A/C? (my parents don't like to use the A/C too much because it gets pretty expensive)\n", "Keeping a bedroom cool in the summer. It's starting to get hot out and my room faces west on the second floor with a huge window that the sun constantly beats on which heats my room up pretty hot. I've tried leaving my blinds closed with an oscillating fan on all day but that doesn't help at all. \n\nMy mom has suggested putting tint on the window but I don't know how effective that would be. \n\nAny tips to keep my room cooler besides just turning on the A/C? (my parents don't like to use the A/C too much because it gets pretty expensive)\n", "Keeping a bedroom cool in the summer. It's starting to get hot out and my room faces west on the second floor with a huge window that the sun constantly beats on which heats my room up pretty hot. I've tried leaving my blinds closed with an oscillating fan on all day but that doesn't help at all. \n\nMy mom has suggested putting tint on the window but I don't know how effective that would be. \n\nAny tips to keep my room cooler besides just turning on the A/C? (my parents don't like to use the A/C too much because it gets pretty expensive)\n", "Keeping a bedroom cool in the summer. It's starting to get hot out and my room faces west on the second floor with a huge window that the sun constantly beats on which heats my room up pretty hot. I've tried leaving my blinds closed with an oscillating fan on all day but that doesn't help at all. \n\nMy mom has suggested putting tint on the window but I don't know how effective that would be. \n\nAny tips to keep my room cooler besides just turning on the A/C? (my parents don't like to use the A/C too much because it gets pretty expensive)\n", "Keeping a bedroom cool in the summer. It's starting to get hot out and my room faces west on the second floor with a huge window that the sun constantly beats on which heats my room up pretty hot. I've tried leaving my blinds closed with an oscillating fan on all day but that doesn't help at all. \n\nMy mom has suggested putting tint on the window but I don't know how effective that would be. \n\nAny tips to keep my room cooler besides just turning on the A/C? (my parents don't like to use the A/C too much because it gets pretty expensive)\n" ]

[ "Black out curtains for the day and fans at night. The trick is to keep the cool night air trapped in the room. \n\n", "Taping aluminum foil to the window will reflect the heat, but it looks ugly as sin from inside and out.", "I have the same problem. Like you, my window faces west. I also have an attic above me, an attic on my north wall, and an un-insulated garage below me. Because of all those, my room would get up to 30*C (86*F) in the summer.\n\n\nFirst off: Tell your parents that constantly turning the A/C on and off is bad. Air conditioners, are designed to bring the house to a desired temperature, and cycle just enough to keep it there. By turning the A/C on and off all the time, you're making it work that much harder because it's always having to bring the house back down to the desired temp. Keep doing that, and you'll burn your A/C out prematurely, and you'll end up having to buy a new one. Turn it on, set it to your desired temp, set it to auto, let it cycle and do it's thing and leave it alone. If the house is at or below the temp you want, it won't wont turn on. The less the A/C has to work, the better it will be.\n\n\nNow that that's out of the way, Here's how we combated my hot room problem....\n\n\n*1: Get your ducts cleaned to make sure there's no blockages in the ducting system leading to your room.\n\n*2: Block/close all of the ducting vents in every room in the house except for those on the top floor. Doing this will force the cool A/C air to the top floor and let it fall to the lower floors. We used saran wrap to block our vents.\n\n*3: As mentioned above turn your A/C on and set it to your temperature, set it to auto cycle, and leave it alone.\n\n*4: Install a ceiling fan in your room, and have it blow the air down on the fastest speed.\n\n*5: Keep all your windows, blinds and curtains closed.\n\nDoing these has helped me a lot. My room still gets a tad warm, but it's not as bad as it used to be, and is al ot more bearable now.\n\nHope this helps.\n\n", "Black out curtains are a must. Room will still get hot but not as bad. Also, you can buy cooling mats (like http://www.ebay.com.au/itm/XL-Summer-Cool-Mat-Bed-Non-Toxic-Cooling-Pad-Cushion-for-HOT-SUMMER-USE-/171197937685) and use it when falling asleep. My house mate used one during summer and found it worked while falling asleep but they don't last too long.\n\nYou can also buy ice packs, freeze during the day and use them. Due to condensation they will cause your sheets to get a bit wet, but worth it.", "I agree with a previous comment about keeping the AC at a constant temp. My bill went down significantly when I started doing this. It means the unit doesnt have to work to bring the home back to temp over and over again. Also, yes, blocking the sun in the first place will do wonders.", "Put plants in the room. Aloe vera works really well for me. Added bonus : The gel from the leaves cools the skin when ingested and applied topically.", "My boyfriend tried this DIY AC thing, using a bucket, ice, salt and a tool to drill holes in the bucket. You can look up 'DIY AC' on YouTube. It lasts for around 4-6 hours and is very effective.", "If you can put something on the outside of the window to block the heat, do it! The less gets through the glass, the less gets trapped. If you can't put outside blinds/shutters/whatever on the outside, and you can open the window, open the window as much as you can and close the blinds, keep the sun out. If you tint the window, get a decent tint, to block out as much as you can, crappy tint will do fuck all apart from reduce visible light, which isn't your goal, you want to block EVERYTHING. At night, get the cooler night air in to your room, cool down the structure, then thermal inercia will help during the day, but not if the sun is beating into your room, keep that sun out! AC is great to set on auto, unless the sun is coming in and heating up your house. There are fancy rich houses in my area that are crap because of all the glass, the AC can't keep the house cool in the day and is always working. That's why it gets expensive, because there's a huge heat source coming in! Blocking the sun before it hits the glass will save you soooo much hassle. ", "I haven't got a window unit in my bedroom yet (my house doesn't have central heat and air unfortunately). Best solution I've come up with is putting a cool, wet rag on my forehead. It cools down enough during the night so that I don't need it all night or anything. ", "**Tip 1:**\n\nDarken your room OUTSIDE. \n\nIt's a huge difference if the sun gets blocked before it passes through your window or after.\n\nAlso, do you know rescue-blankets? they reflect heat one-way. Tape them to your curtains/blinds (looks ugly, but works fine and is cheap)\n\n**Tip 2:**\n\nThere are some DIY AC-Tutorials on Youtube which actually work. Downside is that you have to refill them with ice or re-freeze the cool packs.\n\nIf you have the money - there are mobile AC-Systems\n\n\n**Tip 3:**\n\nWhen it gets cold outside (or - colder than your room temp), air your room (maybe with a fan that sucks the outside air into your room)" ]

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[ "How to deal with someone who complains about everything all the time? This is a grown adult between the age of 45 and 60. All they do is complain and talk shit about everyone and everything. It is unneeded negative energy around the house hold. I can't stand it anymore. Any advice is very much appreciated. I can provide more details if needed. ", "How to deal with someone who complains about everything all the time? This is a grown adult between the age of 45 and 60. All they do is complain and talk shit about everyone and everything. It is unneeded negative energy around the house hold. I can't stand it anymore. Any advice is very much appreciated. I can provide more details if needed. ", "How to deal with someone who complains about everything all the time? This is a grown adult between the age of 45 and 60. All they do is complain and talk shit about everyone and everything. It is unneeded negative energy around the house hold. I can't stand it anymore. Any advice is very much appreciated. I can provide more details if needed. ", "How to deal with someone who complains about everything all the time? This is a grown adult between the age of 45 and 60. All they do is complain and talk shit about everyone and everything. It is unneeded negative energy around the house hold. I can't stand it anymore. Any advice is very much appreciated. I can provide more details if needed. " ]

[ "Been working in IT support and dealing with complainers for over 30 years and learned a little trick.\n\nWhen they complain just listen to them, hear them out and sincerely ask them \"What are you going to do about it?\", you really have to be sincere, don't come off nonchalant.\n\nThen they are left with 2 options, they say nothing and stop complaining, or they have an idea on how to deal with it and are forced to do so.\n\nIt doesn't work the first or second time, but after a few interactions they will slowly stop complaining. Remember we can only control 10% of what happens in our day at best, by doing what I suggest you ground them in reality and make them realize that they can't change the things that they complain about, they just need to let it go.\n\nHope it helps.", "It might be a nutritional deficiency. My mom turned into a nasty lady around age 57. Always negative and complaining and nitpicking everything. Take her to the docs and find out her b12 and a few other vitamin levels were so low, it was changing her brain and body chemistry. Got her on balance and now she is a happy person again after 2 months of treatment. Woot. Not sure this applies, but thought I would toss it out there.", "**TL;DR: Warn them in a serious talk that you're going to leave the conversation after one warning if they keep being negative, and then do it every single time, consistently, until they learn to stop.**\n\nHere's how I handled this with my mom when she started drifting toward that. You can fill in her implied responses.\n\n\"Can I ask you to listen to me for a minute?\" \n\n\"I'm going to point out something to you that I think is important.\"\n\n\"You're complaining. Again.\" \n\n\"No, no you are actually complaining. What you're saying is negative and you're criticising stuff and pointing out what's bad or wrong about everything. You are not being fair. And it's upsetting me because I don't like to be negative, and it's hard not to be negative when you are so critical all the time.\" \n\n\"So here's what I'm going to do. When I feel that you're complaining unfairly, I'll tell you once. And the second time, I'll leave the conversation. Either I'll leave the room, or I'll not respond to you.\"\n\n\"Why? Because it really, really bothers me and honestly I'm so sick of it that I don't want to be around you when you're like this.\"\n\n\"Maybe 'that's just the way you are' and 'you can't help it'. Maybe that's true. But really hating it when you're so negative is something I can't help too. So I'm just going to quietly leave or not answer you when you're doing this, okay?\"\n\n=-=-=-=-=-\n\nNow with me it was a bit easier because most of my interactions were over the phone, so I could threaten to hang up.\n\nAnd I did. \"Okay mom, I warned you, but you're still being really negative about this and I'm going to say good bye now and hang up. I'll call you again on another day.\"\n\nThe first dozen or so times she'd angrily call right back. I'd answer with \"Are we changing the subject, now? Yes? Okay\" or if she was just mad at the 'rudeness', I'd say 'Yeah, and I'm sorry I had to hang up, but you weren't listening and you were being negative. Again. Goodbye mom, talk to you again soon.\"\n\nAnd, after saying goodbye and hanging up **A LOT**, things got better.\n\nGood luck.", "Another good tactic about negativity is to not engage it. Someone told me recently that instead of asking someone to change, create the environment for them to change themselves. \n\nThe example I will use is one from work. I work in customer service and we all get into the habit of botching about the shifty customers we get. One person took it too far though. She was just constantly negative and ended up getting angry at pretty much every customer she had for asking her to do things that were her job. \n\nWe decided as a group to stop botching about customers about her, I even went so far as to say in front of her \"I'm trying to be more positive about my customers because I'm finding myself having bad days when I am\nNegative\". Whenever this person would start talking Smack about a customer we just would either ignore it or try to rationalise why that customer might have been annoying. \n\nIt worked. About 1 month after we started doing it I noticed that this girl was a lot less negative about customers and was actually having much better days at work because of it. \n\nI don't know your relationship with this person but it might be worth a shot. \n\nEncourage good behaviour while not feeding bad behaviour works better than calling out bad behaviours and doing nothing about the good ones. " ]

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[ "How to spend less time getting ready in the morning It always takes me an unreasonably long time to get out of the house in the morning, even when I skip breakfast. I just move so slowly. Any tips for getting up and and out of the house more efficiently? Thanks! ", "How to spend less time getting ready in the morning It always takes me an unreasonably long time to get out of the house in the morning, even when I skip breakfast. I just move so slowly. Any tips for getting up and and out of the house more efficiently? Thanks! ", "How to spend less time getting ready in the morning It always takes me an unreasonably long time to get out of the house in the morning, even when I skip breakfast. I just move so slowly. Any tips for getting up and and out of the house more efficiently? Thanks! ", "How to spend less time getting ready in the morning It always takes me an unreasonably long time to get out of the house in the morning, even when I skip breakfast. I just move so slowly. Any tips for getting up and and out of the house more efficiently? Thanks! ", "How to spend less time getting ready in the morning It always takes me an unreasonably long time to get out of the house in the morning, even when I skip breakfast. I just move so slowly. Any tips for getting up and and out of the house more efficiently? Thanks! " ]

[ "I have the same problem and my solution is to go the sleep earlier, wake up earlier and accept that in the morning I move slower than a new born sloth. I've actually allotted myself time to just sit there looking at my coffee trying to figure out my next move.", "Only own white dress shirts. Any good looking tie matches a white shirt. I actually do this I'm not joking.", "Sleep with an open window so your room gets cold. Cold makes awake. Have an aggressive alarm tune. Don't have your alarm clock in reach, Jump out of bed, gey dressed asap cause you are hungry and breakfast is tasty.", "I find that using a sleep cycle calculator like Sleepytime helps me wake up at a point that I feel refreshed and ready to take on the day. ", "Every night before bed:\nLay out your clothes, including undergarments, shoes, and accessories. Fill a bowl with dry cereal and cover it with a plate, and put a spoon on the table, so you just have to pour milk. Set up the coffee maker and get out a mug; if it has a timer, use it. Make sure your keys are where you need them. Fill your pet's food & water bowls." ]

[ 9, 6, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?" ]

[ "When I did this, I moved into a shitty month-to-month apt for one month, and used that time to scope out neighborhoods and found a great place", "When I moved 3000 miles away I found an apartment that did a month by month lease. Once I got into town I scoped out the area and other apartments.", "I will be in the same situation myself very shortly and some ideas I've gotten from friends are:\n\n1) padmapper.com\n\n2) Craigslist for a roommate and skype the guy/girl beforehand, make them give you a tour with their webcam\n\n3) airbnb.com - stay lengths can vary based on your needs and what you establish with the person you stay with, there are reviews of hosts and host ID verification\n\n4) couchsurfing.com - similar to AirBnB but typically with shorter stays and (I believe) a bigger user base", "I used to work as an apartment locator. Required me to get my Real Estate license with the state.\n\nLook into that, I'm sure there are people out there whose sole job is to help others find an apartment.\n\nDon't use one who asks for a fee from you, or a fee up front, any fee. More or less, they should be free, and get paid a referal fee from the place they locate you to. That being said, don't forget to put their name on ANY paperwork, even the basic, initial paperwork you get from walking in to just view the place. Places follow the paper trail for referals, so put them down asap.\n\nIf they do ask for a fee, they are (probably) only going to offer you a list of apartments which you already have.", "It isn't too tough if you're willing to move into a larger apartment complex. Those folks are very used to renting sight unseen to remote people and everything can be done via phone/email. I've done this 3 times. In the places I rented I could see a layout of the apartment online (because, again, it is a large complex with hundreds of standard size apartments) and pictures of what they generally look like. I could ask additional questions over the phone and pick a place. \n\nIf you're looking for a privately owned type apartment or something in a small building or whatever I don't see how you do this unless you find a real estate agent or similar serving as a relocator (and they will charge you a fee) to do the legwork for you and make sure the place is as explained.", "My husband and I moved states and here is a quick rundown of what we did:\n\nWent and stayed in an extended stay hotel for a week. He worked that week too, so we weren't doing this without any income coming in.\n\nDid a ton of research before had so we knew 10 to 12 apartments we wanted to look at that had everything we needed. Also stopped at a few that had signs for move in specials that we just passed.\n\nFound apartment, got all the necessities done and moved in that weekend. \n", "I did this once. I got on google street view and \"walked\" around areas I wanted to live in, would look for a property manager sign outside and then google from there. ", "I moved twice in the last year due to my job. Once was around 600 miles and the last time was clear from one US coast to the other.\n\nYou know what you want, that's very good. You have a budget and know where you work. Go to google.com/maps, where you can create a custom map. Drop a colored pin at the office. Pick another color and use it for potential housing spots. You can add details to every pin, like the website for the apartment complex, the amenities, and the rent.\n\nYou need to find someone local to call and *talk* to about your destination city. Ask how to get around, about different neighborhoods, where people go to eat/party/whatever interests you.\n\nBoth of my cities are infamous for their road traffic, so I confined my own searches to places near subway stations. I gave extra marks to locations nearer to highways. \n\nIf possible, visit once before moving. Narrow your options to 3 apartments, 4 tops. You can tour that many in one day. After the leasing office gives you a tour and you tell them you'll be in touch, find someone that's a regular resident in the parking lot. Ask them how they like the apartment and the area. Are there roaches here? Do they respond to maintenance requests? Is the freeway noisy at night? People like complaining, so get the real story.\n\nDon't be afraid to get a really short lease. It's okay to live somewhere less than perfect while you feel the city out. Pay attention to where you spend your time. You will do more than go from home to work and back. Find out where people buy their groceries.\n\nSubreddits are really a lot less useful than people here are letting on.", "Had a friend who hooked up with a large community church group online and people in the group provided tips and suggestions as to which areas of that town were good for his circumstances and desires.", "Craigslist has a housing section. I don't think I'd use it for roommates due to it being, well, Craigslist, but to find a home where you'll be the only tenant should work.\n\nMy SO and I were in a similar situation.. but he moved to our new location and his company paid for 2 weeks at an extended stay hotel while he looked. Pretty sure he found his current place on Craigslist, but they only allowed cats so I stayed back here.We found a sublease that will take our two cats and a dog and I'm joining him next month with our brood.", "Really depends on the city you're moving to. I moved to Boston with my girlfriend and the market here is super competitive so being out of state got us no responses what so ever. Not to mention renting an apartment sight-unseen is a huge gamble that more often than not will bite you in the ass. We took a three month sublet (moved here over the summer) and caught onto the big moving time of September 1. I'd recommend biting the bone and doing a sublet for a month or two to just get to the place then find somewhere to settle while you live there. Again, my only experience is Boston.", "Moved to a new city a few months ago. I simply put up an ad in the local newspaper, and had about 5-6 places to choose from. ", "I would probably try to talk to a realtor in the area. Explain your situation, and try and figure out what parts of town are nice and within your budget. Maybe they'll be reluctant to help you, but maybe they can forward you to someone else. ", "when i moved across the country i asked the land lord to email me pictures of the apartment not just the ones posted on the rental website.\n\na good landlord is very involved with getting to know their tenants and not just wanting to fill the space. well in my experience so far. ", "so firstly .. shared housing is the go, find the biggest house with the most bedrooms you can .. then put a notice up in the universities in your city .. you will get in general thinking interesting people to live with and they are studying/have life goals .. and the afore mentioned big house in a good suburb should have quality features .. but you are dividing the rent by 4 or 5 so its usually something you can handle", "honestly move in to a motel for the first month and socialize with the people your working with enough for them to recommend a place to you! chances are that you'll get a place to live and friends in that area!", "You can also try sites like zillow.com and look up statistics by zip code using zipskinny.com, citydata.com and others to see population, income and crime data.\n\nGood luck!", "Why can't you travel? I took a weekend about a month before I graduated and flew 1000 miles to find a place.", "When I got the job offer here it was short notice. I found there was a youth hostel a couple blocks from my new work. Very confortable, reasonable price, breakfast included. I used craigslist and looked at apartments after work. Got a place after 2 weeks. Worked out pretty well. Really glad I didn't take a lot of this places sight-unseen that looked perfect in the ad. ", "Start reading your new city's subreddit, and maybe look for a couple of discussion boards related to one of your hobbies in your new city. Lurking and reading the chatter on discussion boards dominated by locals will start to give you a feel for what the neighborhoods are like.\n\nLook for an area where people complain about little stuff. Some people just like to complain, and if they're complaining about something little it means that they don't have anything big to complain about.", "Send people a link to your LinkedIn profile. If you've got a decent job and some connections people will have a lot more confidence in renting to you. This helped me a lot in finding a place before I moved to San Francisco. ", "Research?\n\nGoogle Citydata forums + the name of the city you're moving to. Sort by top replies, and most of them will name the part of the city that's a ghetto you want to avoid.", "Really? Suggesting looking for a subreddit is considered the *best* advice in this thread? Either talk to a tenants union and ask for advice or get a short stay while you pick. Alternatively, contact a real estate agency directly, but this will be the most expensive and regrettable option if they pick wrong. ", "Reading online reviews is an art form. First, some places will have had new management since the reviews, so check the dates. Second, not all negative reviews are created equally. People complaining about neighbors or rent hike in a recently improved area are NBD. Bug complaints are what I worry about. \n\nYou should check the college's off campus housing finder, or look at the commuter bus routes. This might give you an idea of where the students are living and you can look elsewhere.", "In my experience, having moved both short and long term to foreign countries, your best bet is to take the initial hit in cash and find somewhere short term (a hotel/motel/hostel/room share, etc) even if it's expensive, and then take a week or two to find someplace permanent.\n\nThere is no substitute for actually walking around and seeing a property. There are a million ways that an apartment can be misrepresented online, by a realtor, by a landlord etc. that are just not worth the hassle.\n\nIt will be worth the money spent on the hotel to know that you've found some place good, but I would never commit to a housing contract without seeing it.\n\n**tl;dr** rent a hotel for a week, go physically see the properties. Networking to find options, as others have suggested, is obviously a good idea.", "In most cities there are apartment locator services that can be really useful. In my city one is called Apartment Hunters. Try them, they usually know the best spots and the best deals.", "If the selection really is overwhelming (ie. there's not a super-tight rental market where you're moving), spend as much time as you can, online (as others have mentioned, padmapper is good) , narrowing down to a few that you might want, and set up viewings for the day you arrive or right after. Then stay in a cheap motel for the first couple nights until you can decide which place is best for you.\n\nAlso, if you really have to sign a lease on a place sight-unseen, go for as short a lease as possible. It will give you time to get to know the city, and find a proper place a few months down the road.", "I would avoid getting something permanent until you get there. I'd rent an airbnb or a temporary space and then look when you get there. ", "I work at an apartment community and we get this all the time! I've had tons of move ins with people who have never even been to the property. We've also had tons of people move to other communities only to find out the terrible conditions and misleading online photos. My best advice would be to narrow it down to the town and price range, call all of those properties and speak to the ONSITE staff (leasing centers are really common and very uneducated). If they're rude and you get a bad vibe, run away! It's always hard choosing without seeing it personally but trust me, it can work out great. Reading reviews helps too, BUT keep in mind that some people are just assholes too. If you see consistent issues in various times, it's probably true. Hope this helps! And if you're moving to Houston PM me! ", "I was in your position at the beginning of this year. I would highly recommend getting an apartment with an established, larger scale landlord, as opposed to the cheap listings you find on places like Craigslist. Way less risky when you're sending large amounts of money to rent an apartment thousands of miles away.", "I used a subreddit and a free Realtor to help me with my decisions. Also had a few friends as well in the area, and they had some suggestions.", "I literally did this exact same thing last year moving from the East Coast to California. I took a leap of faith and ended up someplace nice.\n\nTry contacting the apartment and letting them know your renting without inspecting the facilities first, and want one month as a trial.", "I just moved to Queens from Madison, WI. I flew out to NYC to check out some apartments. I called a broker and basically got a short list of the apartments that I wanted to check out and my broker set up showings crammed together during the 2 days that I was visiting. It was nice having only 2-3 choices, so I just picked the one I liked best. I couldn't have done it without the broker! Been in Sunnyside, Queens since July, and I love it here!", "I hit up the Edmonton sub reddit when moving from Windsor, Ontario. Found an immaculate place for a great deal within a week. Also, the landlord was a redditor and a super nice guy , so everything was chill. ", "I didn't see it mentioned here at a glance: Ask your contacts at your new job. When I accepted my job offer out of college, HR actually asked me if I wanted help with placement and sent me a bunch of information that they collected. Since the employee was local, they also gave me advice on where to live/not live.", "I am doing something that my age 72 years old that I have tried before. To move to another city and state. That is why I am seeking help.", "Google search the zipcode + apartments. Check the reviews, look at all the pictures, talk with someone on the phone, and make sure everything is 100% ready to go before you get there.\n\nI moved to Austin in July and I lived 12 hours away with no time to go apt hunting. The Google search pulled up tons of options and I found an apt I really like. \n\nYou can also sign a six month lease if you're not totally sold. ", "Google Earth everything around the place of interest and be on the lookout for squatters and random shopping carts.", "Get a temporary place at first, or if you have friends/family there ask to crash at theirs for a week, and then you can get a feel for the city yourself, talk to co-workers and people you meet about where they live, what they like about it, what areas of the city are fun, boring, safe, risky, loud, quiet, etc.\n\nYou won't ever really know for sure until you see it yourself.", "Find out of the property is fee managed or owned. Fee managed companies do not own their properties and are paid based on their numbers. By that logic they are more likely to allow residents that should not be approved... \n\nAsk if they screen for evictions/criminal history. \n\nCriminal reports for areas are available for free online usually. \n\nTake online reviews with a grain of salt... (sadly) The majority of people who take the time to go online are people who are pissed off not happy. That being said, check to see if the management company takes time to respond to online reviews. \n", "Find a sublet first. Something short for a couple months. Then use that time to look for a permanent apartment. ", "Find a local Long Term Stay hotel and book a room for a month while you look. No commitment and they clean your room for you.\n\nYou can also ask your future employer about temporary employee housing. Most major companies offer this as part of a relocation package.\n\nStore your stuff in a rental unit until you're ready to move in. ", "Do what I did when you first get there: stay in a hostel for a bit.\n\nSearch for apartments during the day.\n\nParty at night.\n\nIt worked out great for me!\n\n", "Craigslist everyday. Move to the city and find a cheap hostel to stay in for a while. Drive around and call every reality company and explain your situation and what you are looking for. \n\nSource: Just moved from Eastern NC to Memphis for a job. ", "Check your alumni connections. When I moved to DC in 03, a professor set me up with someone with a spare room for a couple of months while I got on my feet. The only thing we had in common at first was that we graduated from the same school. to months later, i had a place. \n\nIt was a great way to get a feel for the area. \n\nHope this helps. ", "Ask around to everyone you know who may even be remotely related to the area you're moving to for suggestions of areas to live. They'll know where the hidden sketchy places are, or at least, someone who may know. I do a lot of last minute relocating and this has been my best way to find places to move so far.\n\nAlso, rang ahead. Anyone who suggests Criagslist as their one and only suggestion deserves to be smacked with a fish.\n\nI just went through this a little while ago. I asked every person I knew that may have even been remotely related to the city for contact info. I scoured Craigslist for hours. Most of the time, when someone heard about my problem, they asked, \"Have you checked Craigslist?\" No, clearly I've just been sitting on google maps finding the comfiest park bench. Everyone has tried this and failed, or they wouldn't still be looking. I got so sick of hearing this as a suggestion as if they think I hadn't heard of it before and it's some magical cure all. It's not. It sucks. I have yet to find anything remotely helpful. [/rant]", "city-data.com for demographics. call the local pizza places, find out if there are any places they wont deliver to at all or after dark. Should rule out some. ", "Check out the app CrimeRrports. Gives you block by block derails of all crime. This is what I used to move to Chicago. Good luck!!" ]

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[ "How do I get FMLA/disability from work for a mental health issue? I work for a major healthcare system in NYC in a supportive role. Work has been miserable lately and I just need a break from it. I want to make an appointment with someone and get it on the books how the job is affecting me.\n\nIs there a way to take it further and get some time off (1 month) due to mental health? I don't need to get paid for the time off but I would need to maintain my health insurance and I don't want my job to be at risk. Should I see a psychiatrist or another kind of mental health specialist? Are there any magic words I can say that would inspire them to sign off on FMLA/disability without getting committed?", "How do I get FMLA/disability from work for a mental health issue? I work for a major healthcare system in NYC in a supportive role. Work has been miserable lately and I just need a break from it. I want to make an appointment with someone and get it on the books how the job is affecting me.\n\nIs there a way to take it further and get some time off (1 month) due to mental health? I don't need to get paid for the time off but I would need to maintain my health insurance and I don't want my job to be at risk. Should I see a psychiatrist or another kind of mental health specialist? Are there any magic words I can say that would inspire them to sign off on FMLA/disability without getting committed?", "How do I get FMLA/disability from work for a mental health issue? I work for a major healthcare system in NYC in a supportive role. Work has been miserable lately and I just need a break from it. I want to make an appointment with someone and get it on the books how the job is affecting me.\n\nIs there a way to take it further and get some time off (1 month) due to mental health? I don't need to get paid for the time off but I would need to maintain my health insurance and I don't want my job to be at risk. Should I see a psychiatrist or another kind of mental health specialist? Are there any magic words I can say that would inspire them to sign off on FMLA/disability without getting committed?", "How do I get FMLA/disability from work for a mental health issue? I work for a major healthcare system in NYC in a supportive role. Work has been miserable lately and I just need a break from it. I want to make an appointment with someone and get it on the books how the job is affecting me.\n\nIs there a way to take it further and get some time off (1 month) due to mental health? I don't need to get paid for the time off but I would need to maintain my health insurance and I don't want my job to be at risk. Should I see a psychiatrist or another kind of mental health specialist? Are there any magic words I can say that would inspire them to sign off on FMLA/disability without getting committed?", "How do I get FMLA/disability from work for a mental health issue? I work for a major healthcare system in NYC in a supportive role. Work has been miserable lately and I just need a break from it. I want to make an appointment with someone and get it on the books how the job is affecting me.\n\nIs there a way to take it further and get some time off (1 month) due to mental health? I don't need to get paid for the time off but I would need to maintain my health insurance and I don't want my job to be at risk. Should I see a psychiatrist or another kind of mental health specialist? Are there any magic words I can say that would inspire them to sign off on FMLA/disability without getting committed?" ]

[ "Speak to your doctor about filing one out, your HR Dept for the forms, doctor..forms..back to HR done", "my HR refused my doctors submission. had him resubmit and they refused it a second time. i work for the government. hr is not your friend.", "I would not go to your manager or HR with the reasons you need time off. See your primary doctor or a psychiatrist. Tell them why you need time off and what's going on at work. They should not commit you unless you pose a threat to yourself or someone else. I have done this and found a new and better job while I was off work for stress related to my first job. Good luck.", "Also keep in mind fmla only protects you from losing your job and is unpaid. Your company may reassign you to what they feel is an acceptable alternate job when you return though.", "I have FMLA. I believe you are eligible if it’s an ADA recognized disability. You should look into that. You can take it intermittently also. For example: I qualify for 12 weeks but I can take time here and there. Just have to submit it when I use it. My company’s policy however is that I’m required to be out 3 days at least otherwise they use my sick time from what I understand. Also, the state I work in (NY) offers 2 weeks to care for immediate family including myself. To date, I haven’t used a single hour." ]

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[ "How to not eat food whenever it's in front of you and you're not hungry. I'm a 19 female, and I just eat all the time. Even when I'm not hungry. I'll order too much food at restaurants, but I still eat ALL of it. And I don't know how to stop. I need to before it's too late.", "How to not eat food whenever it's in front of you and you're not hungry. I'm a 19 female, and I just eat all the time. Even when I'm not hungry. I'll order too much food at restaurants, but I still eat ALL of it. And I don't know how to stop. I need to before it's too late.", "How to not eat food whenever it's in front of you and you're not hungry. I'm a 19 female, and I just eat all the time. Even when I'm not hungry. I'll order too much food at restaurants, but I still eat ALL of it. And I don't know how to stop. I need to before it's too late.", "How to not eat food whenever it's in front of you and you're not hungry. I'm a 19 female, and I just eat all the time. Even when I'm not hungry. I'll order too much food at restaurants, but I still eat ALL of it. And I don't know how to stop. I need to before it's too late.", "How to not eat food whenever it's in front of you and you're not hungry. I'm a 19 female, and I just eat all the time. Even when I'm not hungry. I'll order too much food at restaurants, but I still eat ALL of it. And I don't know how to stop. I need to before it's too late.", "How to not eat food whenever it's in front of you and you're not hungry. I'm a 19 female, and I just eat all the time. Even when I'm not hungry. I'll order too much food at restaurants, but I still eat ALL of it. And I don't know how to stop. I need to before it's too late.", "How to not eat food whenever it's in front of you and you're not hungry. I'm a 19 female, and I just eat all the time. Even when I'm not hungry. I'll order too much food at restaurants, but I still eat ALL of it. And I don't know how to stop. I need to before it's too late.", "How to not eat food whenever it's in front of you and you're not hungry. I'm a 19 female, and I just eat all the time. Even when I'm not hungry. I'll order too much food at restaurants, but I still eat ALL of it. And I don't know how to stop. I need to before it's too late.", "How to not eat food whenever it's in front of you and you're not hungry. I'm a 19 female, and I just eat all the time. Even when I'm not hungry. I'll order too much food at restaurants, but I still eat ALL of it. And I don't know how to stop. I need to before it's too late.", "How to not eat food whenever it's in front of you and you're not hungry. I'm a 19 female, and I just eat all the time. Even when I'm not hungry. I'll order too much food at restaurants, but I still eat ALL of it. And I don't know how to stop. I need to before it's too late.", "How to not eat food whenever it's in front of you and you're not hungry. I'm a 19 female, and I just eat all the time. Even when I'm not hungry. I'll order too much food at restaurants, but I still eat ALL of it. And I don't know how to stop. I need to before it's too late.", "How to not eat food whenever it's in front of you and you're not hungry. I'm a 19 female, and I just eat all the time. Even when I'm not hungry. I'll order too much food at restaurants, but I still eat ALL of it. And I don't know how to stop. I need to before it's too late.", "How to not eat food whenever it's in front of you and you're not hungry. I'm a 19 female, and I just eat all the time. Even when I'm not hungry. I'll order too much food at restaurants, but I still eat ALL of it. And I don't know how to stop. I need to before it's too late.", "How to not eat food whenever it's in front of you and you're not hungry. I'm a 19 female, and I just eat all the time. Even when I'm not hungry. I'll order too much food at restaurants, but I still eat ALL of it. And I don't know how to stop. I need to before it's too late.", "How to not eat food whenever it's in front of you and you're not hungry. I'm a 19 female, and I just eat all the time. Even when I'm not hungry. I'll order too much food at restaurants, but I still eat ALL of it. And I don't know how to stop. I need to before it's too late.", "How to not eat food whenever it's in front of you and you're not hungry. I'm a 19 female, and I just eat all the time. Even when I'm not hungry. I'll order too much food at restaurants, but I still eat ALL of it. And I don't know how to stop. I need to before it's too late.", "How to not eat food whenever it's in front of you and you're not hungry. I'm a 19 female, and I just eat all the time. Even when I'm not hungry. I'll order too much food at restaurants, but I still eat ALL of it. And I don't know how to stop. I need to before it's too late." ]

[ "1. Order foods that are not calorie dense. A one-pound bag of snap-peas is like 80 calories. That's the same as one fun-size Snickers.\n2. Drink a glass of water before you eat. This will help take up some space in your stomach.\n3. When you think you're hungry, drink a glass of water first and wait 10 minutes. If you're feeling disconnected from your body, thirst feels a lot like hunger.\n4. Find an aerobic exercise you enjoy, or at least tolerate well enough to do it consistently. I've noticed that on days that I run my hunger is suppressed.\n5. Find something to distract yourself that isn't food.\n6. Go low carb. It gives you an outside excuse as to why you're not eating half the food on your plate. \"Oh, I don't eat bread/pasta/donuts/etc.\"\n7. Figure out what's *actually* missing in your life that you're satisfying with the comfort of eating. Food is a physical comfort, so my assumption is it's something physical. Are you comfortable in your own body? Do you get enough physical contact from other people?", "Ask for a to go box and put half the food in it.\n\nI also find that I eat really quickly. This results in me eating everything before I realize how full I am. When I'm at work and being constantly interrupted during lunch, I tend to eat less. So try to slow down when you eat.", "I find myself doing this occasionally because I didn't have that much when I was younger and I've been taught from a young age to eat absolutely everything off of my plate, no buts or whys.\n\nTrain yourself to not feel panicked and anxious to still see food on your plate when you feel full. Get little measuring cups and measure out correct portion size. Make a lot at once and put the rest away in the fridge. One thing that personally helped me was to physically see the excess food, and not eat it because I've already measured out the correct portion and I know not to eat more.", "Wear a really tight belt so you physically can't eat a lot of food. Same strategy as bariatric surgery. ", "Destroy it before you can even consider it. \n\nSeparate your portions, put what you dont want/need on a different plate, pour too much salt on it, pour some of your drink in it, mash napkins into it, add wayyyyy too much sauce. Just make it so you cant eat it. \n\nNow order less, and cook at home more. ", "I'm hoping you're not nursing an ED. If you're having chats with Annie and Mia go see a counsellor. Urgently.\n\nBut my personal strategy is to understand your own body. Know when you're full and when you're hungry. Don't eat with the aim to finish food or please other people etc", "This is typically a sign of deeper psychological disorders and you are using food as a coping mechanism. ", "Step 1: sleep more. \nStep 2: workout more. \nStep 3: have less junk food in your house. \n\nSleeping helps restore your body. Working out helps correct bad habits and burn calories so that when you do eat you aren't adding as many calories to your daily balance sheet. Finally, if you are on a \"see-food\" diet, then the fastest way to help yourself is change the food you see. Get freezer bags of vegetables, make rice, have oatmeal and eggs, stock apples and oranges around the house. ", "Order less to begin with. Many places will serve half-portions if you ask, or will even put half in a to-go box for you. Ask for a kid's meal if you have to.\n\nFinally learn to cook from home. Making a recipe can be a lot of fun, and you can divide it up into portions before you serve it. You can even invite friends over for a dinner party, that way you won't end up with leftovers! ", "I had to try gluten free living because of gut issues. After 3 days, I noted my compulsively to eat all the time just went away. My IBS symptoms diminished too. Seriously, I had sort of given up and accepted I would end up being overweight and diabetic eventually. 3 months in, I'm 11 lbs down and I can wait 4 to 5 hours between meals. This is miraculous to me.", "As has already been mentioned, here's easy things you HAVE to do EVERY time you eat (#3 is hard so I have to admit I only do it for bfast and dinner). I'm not going over portion control etc as that wasn't your question. \n\nTo avoid overeating / eating past feeling of fullness:\n\n1) **20 min before you know you'll eat a meal**: drink a glass of water. Cold, warm, whatever feels better for you. Some people say drinking cold water helps burn calories as your body brings it down to temp. I say for the extra 5 calories I'll avoid brain freezes and not make me hate drinking water even more.\n\nThis takes up space that would otherwise be filled with food.\n\n2) When you think you've eaten a proper portion , have another glass / half glass of water. Guesstimate. Right now you're modifying behaviour... calorie count later when you have this routine down. Then:\n\nIf you're with others and finish eating before they do but are stuck waiting at the table: Once you've drunk the water, wait another 10 min. for the \"I'm Full!\" message to get from your stomach to your brain. Push your food away or ask to put it in a box. Just put it far from you.\n\nOnly eat a little more (not the rest of it, just some) if, after 10 min you're still hungry. \n\nIf you're alone, drink the water but also put all food and dishes away so there's no temptation.\n\n3) This is the hardest to do during the day, but is super effective. Start doing it after dinner to get in the habit and your body adjusts:\n\nBrush your teeth. The fresh mint tastes horrible with other sugar foods and it is also a subtle cue for your body that no more food is coming the rest of the night. If you end up eating something, repeat: drink water and brush your teeth.\n\nMaybe you'll hate brushing enough that eating will not be worth it.\n\n\nDon't overwhelm yourself with too many changes. You want this to be a permanent behaviour change. \n\nIt usually takes three weeks for a new behaviour to become habit, so just stUick with it and it'll be fine!\n\nAlso, when you start looking around for food, ask yourself if you're hungry or just bored. That's also a self-check not everyone asks themself.\n\nHopefully over time you'll re-learn the difference between \"hungry\" vs \"bored\" eating signals.\n\nGood luck!\n\n", "Restrict the time you are allowed to eat. Don't sit at a restaurant long enough to eat the entirety of a huge meal. And slow down eating by taking smaller bites and by burning some time between bites with conversation, or with some reading, or getting a suduko or crossword clue answered.\n\nThe best thing is to 1) feel satiated and 2) don't be hungry. Different people have different ways of achieving that, and it can often depend on the types of food they are eating. ", "Keep a daily diary or log of everything you eat - it will make you more conscious of what you are eating so you don't end up eating reflexively. \n\nTry the MyFitnessPal app on your phone to keep the diary. ", "If you are eating and you are not hungry, you are eating for a different reason than hunger. Investigate and figure out THAT reason and deal with it. I did this and the other reasons turned out to be two main things. 1) Emotions - there were many things I was trying to avoid saying and doing with my hands (hitting), so I was keeping my mouth and hands busy to avoid doing things I didn't want to do with them even more than eating (gaining MORE weight). 2) I wasn't actually eating all the time. I was not eating at all for long stretches of time, then gorging when I felt hungry. For years my body was in artificially imposed famine mode, eating for \"survival\". I schedule 5 small meals a day now that are 2/3 to 3/4 vegetables and make myself eat them on time. It has really cut down on my gorging and I have lost 40 pounds in two years (I am severely obese and definitely have the excess weight I can afford to lose) even though that was not my intent or goal. I just watched this TED talk and wanted to start eating healthy. http://www.ted.com/talks/sandra_aamodt_why_dieting_doesn_t_usually_work?language=en\n ", "I was 360lbs November of last year. What helped me was drinking a lot of water through the day (close to a gallon.) I stopped drinking most liquids except for water and this helped a ton. I am now 242 and still consume that much water a day. Also I don't work out, this made the realization of what I was doing is working.", "I always try to eat veggies with every meal and I only drink water with the once in a while coffee. What I always have done is drink one glass of water before I eat and one glass while I'm eating. Also it's better to snack throughout the day vs 3 big meals. Snacking thought the day keeps your metabolism going so think of it as keeping the engine filled with gas. It's costs more to fill a gas tank to full from empty( eating more food) then to keep adding a little gas here little gas there (food) ", "You already know exactly what you have to do. Why are you asking people? I bet you could make a list of tactics all by yourself, but what you really want is a cheat, and there isn't one. Life doesn't have cheat codes. Pull up your big girl pants and get some self control. You *do have it*, despite what the fat enablers say. " ]

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[ "Three tips: (my ex husband was military and we moved ALOT)\n\n1) Set beds up and make them first thing. You won't want to mess with that after being tired from moving all day\n\n2) Color code and label boxes. Each room should have a color assigned to it (write color on a paper or add a piece of tape on the door). Any box that goes in that room should have a strip of colored tape on it- could be washi, could be duct tape. Makes it simpler when you have friends helping since they won't have to ask \"where do you want this?\" and can just take the blue box to the blue room. \n\n3) Have a \"Day 1\" box. This is all the things you will need immediately and won't want to look for immediately so you can get through the first day without having to rip open every box: some cutlery, some dishes (can be paper plates), snacks, drinks, pet food/supplies of you have pets, toilet paper, phone/tablet chargers, paper towels, a box cutter/scissors, trash bags, bedsheets, a set of clothes for everyone, some toiletries for the first night, etc. \n\nBonus for the really organized folks: number every box and list the contents in a notebook.", "Moving LPT: Don't wait until you have less than 24 hours to move to start looking for advice on moving.", "Hire movers, and if you rented your current place, take pictures of EVERYTHING when you finally are done with the place as evidence", "Use your luggage to pack everything you will need for the first week.\n\nThen you can unpack when you're not in a hurry.", "More boxes, not heavier boxes. Unless you are severely constrained on space in the vehicle you are using to move, you and everyone else will appreciate not having a single box that is a struggle to lift.\n\nDisassemble furniture where possible, put the hardware (screws, bolts, nuts, brackets, etc) in a ziplock baggie and tape it to a large piece of the disassembled furniture.\n\nGood luck, and I hope you enjoy your new place!", "First thing when you get there set up your bedroom and make the bed. You don’t want to get exhausted unpacking and then feel like falling into bed only to remember the sheets are still in one of these boxes.", "Find a take out place in the area now so you don't have to think about dinner. If the cable/internet isn't hooked up yet, download a movie or some shows to watch too.", "Put some water bottles in the fridge now/have em in the car. Nothing worse than having to drink water out of the sink with your hands while moving shit", "Record the final walk-through. Specifically ask if there is anything that would stop you from getting back your security deposit. If they say yes. Ask what it is and say \"would you let me fix that so I can get my deposit back?\" \n\n\nI was renting between houses. I recorded the walk-through without the landlord knowing (1 party consent state). He said everything looked great but i forgot to clean the inside of the oven which was barely used because i lived there only 2 months in the summer and didnt cook much. A few pizza crumbs, etc. I asked if i could clean it out quick because I didnt want to jeopardize my security deposit. He said not to worry about it, its not too bad and he hired a cleaning lady inbetween every renter anyway. Que 2 weeks later when i get a letter in the mail with a check for 1/4 of my deposit. Citing some things he didnt tell me and 16 hours of a cleaning lady and carpet cleaning (illegal to charge for in my state). We went back and forth and then i emailed him the video i took. I never heard from him again and 3 days later i had a check for the rest of my security deposit.", "Place boxes into the FAR corner of the room. Don't let people stack things where they impede access to the room", "Kennel your animals early. Once you start moving stuff around they'll know something's up and go to ground, especially cats. You may have trouble finding them amid the chaos.", "Not sure where you are from\n\nBut if you are brittish or irish. Pack the kettle tea cups and milk in a separate box so you can get a brew on early after you move in", "Clearly label boxes (and loose items) by where they GO, not what they ARE. Colored tape is great for this. You don't want to make decisions on the fly, and the people helping you don't want to have to keep asking.", "Never fill boxes with books. They get really heavy. Half books, half clothing is the way to go. And lift with the knees.", "3 bags: \n\nMake 1 bag at the start with everything you will need in your new place to survive a day: clothes, chargers, food, toiletries etc. That'll take a lot of stress from the unpacking.\n\nPack your current bedding as it is into 1 bin bag. unpack and use on the other side when you have built up your bed.\n\nTowards the end, when you only have a few random things left. Put them in a bin bag which you can empty at your point of arrival.", "My strategy is to setup a \" base \" camp at the new place. But the reply with the numbered bullet points? Print that out.", "If you're moving to an apartment building that faces a busy street, park a car or two in a advance where the moving truck will need to go tomorrow in order to save the spot.", "If friends helping...do your pre work today(.packing ) \nFriends helping load and unload boxes... not box & bag up all your belongings.", "Hire people to move the furniture!! A back injury from something as simple as moving a dresser can follow you the rest of your life", "Boxes into the truck first. Then, furniture. Move the furniture in & place it. Bring boxes around the furniture, not the other way around. \n\nPack that truck like it's 3D Tetris. Movement means things can break especially, if you're traveling far. Section off the truck with straps to further secure your stuff. \n\nIf you haven't touched it in 2yrs, throw it out. You don't really need it.", "One box containing: \n\nPajamas, remote control, toothbrush and toothpaste, favorite movie, popcorn maker, and popcorn. \n\nLabel it \"done for the day\".", "Label boxes & use books as the foundation for boxes of light things. Books add a ton of weight sneaky fast, and you'll curse yourself for putting all of them in one or two boxes.", "Stay hydrated and fed. You need the energy. When you move into a new place or out of an old ... Document everything. If you are lazy to take pictures then take a video walk through. Show all ceilings, inside cabinets, baseboards etc.", "Take photos of every single thing in the apt before you leave..zip and send to landlord via email with subject..leaving everything in good order..as a lawyer..I've had to defend many tenants who left appts and subsequent damage has been attributed to them. Also ensur all utilities are moved over immediately you vacate and all post is redirected..many times identify theft occurs when this is not done properly..a bank statement and power bill in your name could get a stranger a cr", "Load cleaning supplies and a vacuum into the moving truck last. I’ve moved many times and have never walked into a new place without having to immediately clean something. It also make things more comfortable knowing your stuff is going into a clean house. You’ll likely see how this works as the last thing you notice exiting your current place is that you didn’t have enough time to clean as well as you wanted before leaving.", "Give love to the people who help you. Really appreciate them. Thats where strong bongs come from. Also wrap all your breakables in clothing. Don't spend money on unreachable plastic wrap", "Marry a man who tells you to stay out of the way on moving day (since he knows moving stresses you out) so he can handle everything for you.", "If you are packing your own boxes invest in a tape gun (or two); they are less than $15 bucks and make taping boxes so much easier. And have one designated place that it always gets put back to. \n\nIf you are taking things apart put all the screws etc. in a ziplock bag and tape that to the item. (Same with things like cords for TVs). \n\nIf you are packing somewhat misc boxes, label them by where the things came from in your current place. It will help if you need to find things to think: oh, that was in the north corner of my bedroom. \n\nPack a bag/suitcase for yourself like you are going on a trip with outfits and toiletries for the next few days (and a bag of towels, sheets, etc. and stuff for coffee the next morning).", "HAVE YOUR SHIT PACKED, BOXED AND READY TO GO before your loyal friends show up to help. Have a cooler Full of beer and drinks (not the fridge, that should be empty) and cash in your wallet for pizza when it's time to eat. Friends are the best ally to get this monumental job done.", "1. Keep your car keys in your pocket!\n2. Passing stuff 'Fire Brigade' is always the easiest way, particularly on stairs.", "move all the stuff you care about the most yourself. In your car.\n\nExpect anything THEY pack and ship to break. Get yourself mentally prepared now so that you are not shocked and disappointed later.", "Wet naps for your nads. Especially if you're going up stairs again and again. Just have some ready for the end of the day to coddle your cobblers when you're wanting to head to sleep. Just go to bed with one or two nuzzling your niblets. Carrying stuff makes you sweat and chafe and you probably have to go back to work or moving more stuff the next day. Might as well give the giblets a spa night while you rest.", "Pack a suitcase with everything you’d need for a one week trip — clothes, toiletries, phone charger. That gives you time to organize both your bedroom closet and bathroom at the new place. \n\nAlso, cannot emphasize enough what lots of commenters are saying about setting up your bed. I pack a bigger suitcase with clean bedding, towels and washcloths, and whatever pillows I can smash down into it, then a labelled box or garbage bag with blanket/comforter.", "If you have pets, make sure they are somewhere safe and away from the new or old site, or otherwise secured. If they are loose, they can get disoriented and bad things can happen. I've seen it happen.", "I want to preface this answer with the notion that I’m wildly neurotic and a massive planner. \n\nThat being said, this is how I move. And then how I learned to move more efficiently.\n\nGenerally, I start with art. I take everything off the walls and pack it up. That allows me the emotional time to ‘break up’ with the space. I usually use wine boxes (I work in restaurants), because fuck paying for boxes. If you don’t, stop by a liquor store and ask when they receive deliveries. Most are happy to pass off boxes.\n\nThen I pack up nicknacks, the kitchen (non essentials), then clothes (out of season), then books/albums/cd’s, then the bathroom etc.\n\nI always moved myself. One thing in particular that I found helpful was having a plan. Rent the truck way before you need it (date wise) and always add more time than you need. Also prep snacks, food, and bring music/podcasts that will help you make it through the day. \n\nIf you don’t know how to drive a larger truck, ASK A FRIEND. I cannot stress this enough. If you aren’t comfortable driving a truck with your stuff, which will likely shift during driving, please don’t get on the road. Please. Please. To be honest, I live in a big city and moving trucks give me massive anxiety with traffic. Do not be me. \n\nIf you can manage the money, hire the best movers you can find. I’ve spent decades moving myself and friends and I’ve never spent better money than when I hired movers to move me and my boyfriend into a 3 story walk up. Your back is worth it. I promise. This is also the moment when Uline will become your best friend. (Please don’t attack me about supporting this business. I know their politics.) if you need things cheap and fast, they are your friend. Also, when movers show up, don’t forget to pack a single thing. You’re paying them, don’t leave a single thing out of a box. (Unless of course it’s wildly expensive/family heirloom etc)\n\nNever forget to do a walk through (both on move in and move out). Mark EVERYTHING when you move in down to paint scratches so when you move out your landlords can’t put that on you. \n\nBe patient. Moving sucks. Everyone is hoarder in their own right. It sucks. Be patient with yourself, be patient with your friends who are helping, be patient with the person you’re moving in with.\n\nFOOD. again. Food. Snacks. Coffee. \n\nI hope moving day goes well for you!", "Hire movers if you can afford them. I was a fit and quite strong guy, but at the day of moving I litteraly couldn't life a box. Stress wore me out. We hired movers for that day luckily, moving went smooth. These guys do this day in day out. You don't have to explain them shit. They haul every heavy item without a sweat. They have the gear and knowledge how to handle heavy or fragile stuff. Yes, expensive. But worth every penny.\n\nOr a lot of friends if your tight on a budget. Explain them you will coordinate where all the stuff goes. And fix them lunch and drinks. \nI did this with the hired movers as well. They brought their own lunch, but having something nice fixed up made them appreciate you a bit more.\n\nAlso unpack the essential stuff first; setup your bed(s). And make sure you can eat breakfast/dinner.", "Don't forget to update your address with any place that you need to get mail from. Especially important for any place that will send you end of year documents that you need for taxes, like current and former employers (if the former employer is going to send such documents this year).\n\nIf you're in the US the USPS can do an address change and they will automatically forward your mail from your old address to your new. They only do this for a limited time so you'll probably still have to update your address with whoever sent it, but at least you'll get the mail in the meantime.", "Do not lazy load and try to carry several boxes at a time. This will only make you more tired. Set a pace of your walk and stick with it, carrying a reasonable load at a time. Sing a tune to make sure the pace is the same. It sounds corny but it’s true.\n\nAlso, it’s probably too late now but, don’t purchase boxes from Home Depot/Lowes. They are crap - the handles rip. U-haul sells quality boxes.\n\nAnd to add on to the other tips, make a spreadsheet on your phone or tablet with the contents of each numbered box. That way you can search for the listed item you are looking for. It makes a HUGE difference.\n\nGood luck and have FUN!", "Wear some work gloves while moving. It makes a massive difference in hand fatigue over the days of heavy lifting.", "Take pictures of the energy and water meters on the day you leave your old place and those of your new place.", "Label all the boxes with a brief (or specific if you so choose) summary of the contents within. \n\nEx. \"Baubbles from all bed room window sills, wall decor from guest room, night lights, misc. items from upstairs linen closet \"\n\nWill save you so many head aches of scrambling through boxes for a single desired item. \n\nAlso, inevitably you will have some boxes that never get unpacked and eventually land in storage somewhere. Will be *extremely* helpful then.\n\nSource: I have moved our entire house hold, family of 6 numerous times in the last 15 years. I still have boxes that are 7-8 years old, with summary of contents in storage and have periodically gone looking for \"the thing\" and quickly found it thanks to labeling.", "I always gather my hanging clothes in bundles, put a rubber band around the hangers and cover with a big trash bag. This way I can just take them strait into the new closet and hang a bag up then remove the bag and rubber band. Keeps clothes together and clean, much better than folding and rehanging them", "Closet clothes - take a trash bag and fit as many as you can in on their hangers. Just brings them in piles to the new place and hang them right back up", "1. Pay someone else to do it. 🤩\n\n1.a. Do not, under any circumstances, leave your keys on the countertop when it’s time for them to pack up the kitchen. 😬", "place your internet router so that it's in view. don't hide it inside a closet or seperate room. your isp technician will thank you and you'll have better internet since the signal isn't getting blocked by your walls", "keep your bathroom supplies SEPARATE and easy to find. Or set up your bathroom in the new place before the movers even get there if you have the keys. Shower curtain. Toilet paper. Soap. Shampoo. Towel. cleaning products. I usually toss all this stuff in the hamper instead of a box so as not to be confused with everything else. \n\n\nAlso, bed linens, pillows and comforter, everything you need to make your bed in the new place in a separate and easy-to-identify box. Because on moving day, you will be exhausted, and all the boxes/crates will look the same and you won't be able to find ANYTHING. But all you need is a shower, your bed and sleep. Tomorrow you can clean and unpack the rest at your own pace.", "Write what's in the box on the outside of every box.\n\nDrink a smoothie because you probably won't have time to cook or eat real food.", "Write what's in all the boxes on the outside.\n\nMake sure essentials are all in one box (meds, toilet paper, etc.)", "Whoever helps you, feed them well -- lunch and snacks -- and make sure they have as much water as they need. Take their lunch order when they first show up. If they are paid pros, ask when they plan to break for lunch (they should know what is the best time and place for it).", "When it comes to unloading into your new place, don't chock the bedroom full. Leave room to set the bed up. After moving, being able to immediately set the bed up and sleep and rest is something you'll definitely be glad you thought ahead for. 👍🏼", "Use blankets to lay in the moving truck/trailer for your furniture or other items that could be dinged or scraped. Also Not a bad idea to wrap the items before even moving em if you may damage your stuff on the way out.", "Unboxed everything first day. It will be exhausting and it will take all day. But the next day you will be all done. Don't be that person who two years later still has unopened moving boxes.", "Throw or give away anything you're not using in your current house and don't think you'll need in your new house. Don't carry crap from house to house!", "This is something i read, make a 3-4 days worth of clothes in a bag that you can have easy access to, so even if you didn’t unpack right away you are good to go.\n\nIf not easily distracted setup tv/récréative installation so you can relax at the end of the day,m if easily distracted don’t you will spend your day’s on that and get nothing done \n\nGo see the new house empty so you can have an idea where to put things when moving put the boxes directly there, prevents multiple movement of boxes and going back and forth \n\nIf friends help you move you must buy pizza and beverages (usually beer but if you don’t drink soda is good) don’t cook", "Take enough breaks in between. I was constantly doing something and was completely broken and exhausted afterwards (also couldn't sleep because of hole in the wall with my neighbour roommate who had friends until 5am and were smoking a lot of weed)", "Put your hanged clothes in trash bags. Like with the hangers still on the clothes . It helps reduce boxes of clothes and gives you trash bags for cleaning ready to use.", "Probably a bit late if you're moving tomorrow, but put stuff in boxes. \n\nI've moved a bunch of times myself and helped dozens of people move. \n\nPacking up each room and putting everything in boxes with approximate inventories on each one (or at least a room designator; kitchen, bedroom, etc) will make things go that much faster. \n\nRegardless if you're moving yourself or having folks help you, packing up a bunch of square boxes so 100x easier than loads of random crap.", "Pay someone to do it. If you’re done that make it your job to coordinate and make everything else easy. Direct the flow of work (politely) and don’t get involved with the heavy lifting.", "Pay for the complete packing service.\n\nI've never had a breakage and it does away with the angst of \"where do I start\".\n\nBest money I've ever spent 👍😁👍", "Pack one bag like you're leaving for vacation for a few days. It will come in handy while you're unpacking the first few days after the move. Oh, and a ice chest full of gatorade.", "Pack everything into small and medium boxes. It seems easier to toss everything into large ones. But it's heavier, harder to organize the contents, and harder to \"tetris\" into a moving truck.\nI like to label the boxes on the side so I know what's inside. That way you can distribute each box by room and prioritize what you unpack.", "Pack a suitcase for each person with a few days of clothes, pjs, toiletries, medication, chargers, a toilet roll etc and take it with you in the car.", "Pack a day bag. This should have everything that you would need immediately or at least for the next day. Like I don't think it'll be fun to have to open up 20 boxes to find one roll of toilet paper or having to run out to go shopping midway through unpacking because you can't remember which box you kept your clean underwear in.\n\nI recommend things like toilet paper, toiletries, some pajamas, a fresh change of clothes, some cleaning rags, soap, some snacks, any medication, some pens, boxcutters, first aid, and of course anything else you think you might need right away.\n\nYou can use a backpack or a small luggage, basically anything that you can keep beside you throughout the move. In case you're using a moving company and they get delayed to the destination, at least you have some basic supplies to last you until they arrive and you're not just standing around with only the clothes on your back.", "Organization. Of course, if you are moving today, it's too late to do a lot of the things I would suggest, but load the first things you will need last, and the last things you will need in your new place first.", "Not sure if relevant to the moving process per se, but would be useful to make a list of services that use your old home address (as shipping/billing etc address) and spend some time to change it to your new one.", "Mix heavier items with lighter items when you pack. For example, don't put only books in a box. Fill it up part with with books, then add some lighter stuff like blankets. That way instead of having some very light boxes and some very heavy boxes, you'll have medium weight boxes.", "Mark the boxes well of contents inside. \n\nPay to move things you don't/can't move.\n\nUse this as a chance to purge things you don't really use or need.", "Make boxes for and LABEL a week's worth of clothes including pants, underwear, shirts. \n\nAlso store all chargers you would need for laptops, phones, etc.", "Last thing you pack/first thing you unpack should be a tool box. \n\nThis will allow you to always have access to tools during the moving process Incase there is anything you need to take apart. \n\nThen you can make your bed…", "Large clear plastic recycling bags for soft goods like bedding/pillows is a safe bet versus black garbage bags. Have had more than one friend get stuff left behind or thrown out since it was assumed to be garbage.", "Label boxes well. If moving to a home with a garage put the boxes all in the garage. \n\nOver the next year bring items in as you need them. You will bring a lot in the first week. Then less and less. At the end of a year anything you didn't unpack you don't need. Sell or donate.", "Just buy ready meals for the never week. Wouldn’t even try cooking and unpacking things you need for it", "I’ve moved lots of times. I like putting the small stuff in the truck first and the big stuff in the back. If you pack right, things won’t get crushed. Then, you can offload the big stuff and have the furniture set up before you start bringing in the small boxes. \n\nIf you’re the head of household and you have several people helping you, you SHOULD NOT be carrying boxes or furniture. Your helpers don’t want to have to keep asking “where does this go?” When I help people move, I know I’m just there to be muscle, I want the host to stay in the house and direct every single thing that comes in. Stand there and tell everyone where to put the thing they’re carrying. Don’t try to help carry stuff, just be in charge.\n\nAlso, assign 2 people to start setting up your bedroom first, before they start carrying more stuff in. If it gets late and everyone gets tired and leaves, you don’t want to be stranded without a bed to sleep in at your new place and having to take extra time to build it yourself", "It’s been soda here but it needs to be repeated as much as possible. Hire movers. Your friends and family do not want to move your shit.", "In the 15 times or more i have moved myself and family, the one thing that i remember the most and my wife agrees, is..... NEVER count on anyone to help. Always allow enough time to do this alone.. dont be cut short. This has happened to us on almost every time we moved. After the first couple of times i learned some ingenious ways to move big objects. If your renting a truck for instance and you get it for a day thinking your buddy is going to help and end up taking 2 days doing alone because buddy came up with something. It will cost you money you didnt plan to spend.... and more time doing it.", "If you're moving out of a rental, and can afford it, don't bother going over the top on cleaning. Every place scams you and says they need to do more work than they really do, so you might as well not kill yourself trying to detail everything. If they're going to charge you anyway, make them do the hard work.", "If you're decorating, do it before you move the majority of stuff out of boxes. I'm still \"decorating\" 6 months in because I can't be arsed to move the sofa.", "If you need boxes for packing don’t buy any. Head to your nearest liquor store and ask for their boxes. They will have tons of them and will be happy to get rid of them. The boxes are very sturdy and often have removable dividers you can use for keeping things separated. The only downside is your new neighbors will think you’re a raging alcoholic when they see you moving in.", "If you move and the inspection of your previous apartment found that there are some damages and they billed you excessive then ask for an itemized receipt for each thing which they billed and paid the handy man or cleaning person for. This is a tactic which apartment complexes use to not give your security deposit.", "If you have friends helping you move, ask that they not leave until your bed is set up. Someone I know once had their mattress taken into their new apartment first because it was large and easy. It was placed up against the living room wall and then every box was placed up against it. Sounds stupid in retrospect, but at they time the group was just trying to get many cars emptied into the apartment. The boxes were placed in the living room in a condensed/stacked way to make space for as many boxes as possible.\n\nThey thanked everyone and were left alone before they realized that their bed was inaccessible. They ended up sleeping on the floor or couch (I forget which, just that it was very uncomfortable) and spent the next day just trying to move things to get at their bed and then drag it up stairs by themselves.\n\nI've helped friends move since then. This person will always make a point to assemble the bed and even put pillows and sheets on it while others are working on other things. They say that the friend who is moving is going to appreciate it when they're ready to collapse from exhaustion in a few hours.", "If people are helping you move, have boxes ready to move. I don't want to watch you pack, or pack for you. Also I want food when we are done haha", "I'm also moving into a camper tomorrow to live full time in it! Any suggestions from campers would be greatly appreciated!!!", "I posted flyers in college with my buddy, we would meet older parents who needed help moving a daughter generally, and load up whatever truck they rented and meet them wherever and unload.\nFrom their house/apartment into their new one. I’m now the go to friend or relative people ask for help. Few tips i have to make it easier, and less stress free.\n\n1. Plan and pack in advance. What needs to be moved first, do you have boxes for clothes and small stuff.\n\n2. Heavy and big stuff first. You will feel more accomplished too.\n\n3. Take control if you have someone to help. I am not afraid to take charge and do it on my own, but as it’s typically not my stuff, I’d rather the other person be assertive and tell me where and how they want stuff placed. It makes no difference to me and this way you are happy and not stressed. \n\n4. Get blankets and straps. Blankets will help with any scratching of woods during the moving process, place them under and on your delicate furniture. They can also act as small\nShock absorbers. Straps are a bit tougher if you’ve never used them, but WAY more useful. They hold your stuff exactly in place.\n\n5. Some simple stuff, but a case of water put half at each spot, and have plastic bag with soap toilet paper etc you can bring back and forth to use. Clean the place you are moving to before it able, it will be harder after. Also pizza, it has magical moving properties.", "I get all the hanging clothes, lie them on a clean sheet (still on hangers) and roll them up. Unroll sheet and place back in wardrobe ✅*fits nicely across the back seat of the car if unimpeded by car seats", "Honestly if you can afford it\n\nOn uhaul hire laborers to move stuff in and out..well worth it for me and I was moved in in 2 hours", "Hire people for am hour or 2 to move the heavy stuff. Usually reasonably priced on things like taskrabbit.", "Hire movers. Pack your shit up. Pay them to move it all while you do anything else. They're pros, super quick, you don't have to waste the day or bother friends to help who are useless... Hit it. It's money very well spent.", "Hire movers. It's some of the best money you can spend. That said, have everything packed and disassembled before they arrive to save money", "Hire movers. I am 35 - relatively healthy and fit male. In my teens and early twenties I helped so many of my friends move - for the classic beers and pizza payment. After hours and hours of fitting furniture through doorways, up and down stairs and in and out of vans/trucks. Some minor injuries like pulled muscles, strains and tweaks happened enough that I chose to hire movers for a solo move in my late twenties. \n\nI will never go back.", "Hire good movers and pack well before they get there. I've moved 11 times in the past 14 years and the only factors that contributed to it being a good move or a bad move was if I had movers or not. 8 of them - I begged friends and family. Disaster. 3 of them I hired professional movers and made sure I was packed before they got there. Night and day. Went from being the most stressful days of my life to being an absolute breeze.", "Have your \"unpack first box\" and know where it is at all times. This box will contain all the things you'll need for the 1st 3-5 days if the rest of your stuff gets delayed or something happens at the new place that prevents an unpack.", "Great tips here which might really help with the move. Mine is a bit different, especially for people who get attached to things.\n\nIf you've spent quite some time where you've lived and have made memories, I suggest setting aside an hour to \"break up\" with the place. Whichever way you like.\n\nLast place I left was one where both my parents had died- so I kept my phone away, soaked up the sun while having a drink and reminisced of all the great times we had in that house. It was a bitter sweet closure but it makes me smile to this day :-)", "Don't be married to my husband he invited my Mother anf Father in Law to stay thinking 'they can help' with a combined age of 152 and dementia that didn't pan out well. I had a burst bicep tendon and did all i could before my op but was wearing a box sling so needed a lot of help.He fucked off for a day pre move to suddenly collect said parents and he didn't tidy his side of the loft, his shed or office resulting in a two hour delay and £200 extra charge. We laugh about it now.", "Depends how far you're moving but personally...\n\nPack a box of things you'll need that day and possibly the next. I call it my \"Zero Day\" box. Plastic cups, squash, 2x changes of clothes, towels, soap, bin bags, bog roll, disposable plates, cups and cutlery, spare lightbulbs, powerful torch, wind up radio etc.\n\nWhen I moved, a day before I got my duvet, pillows, bedsheets and a blanket all made up, folded down and vac pack bagged.\n\nMy bed box and mattress was the first big things off the van, followed by fold out chairs, the zero day box and my small toolkit.\n\nEverything was moved in that morning in its boxes in tbe appropriate rooms. Bedroom was set up first, followed by the kitchen, then the lounge/common area. We were sat eating chinese takeaway off of paper plates & drinking beer/soda by 6pm ontop of the empty cardboard boxes because I didn't have a table by then.", "Buy/ get planks with wheels… its insane how easily you can move furniture and how much energy you save by not carrying them on horizontal surfaces.", "Be organized and label everything. On the boxes, state the room they will be opened in (ex: box of pillows, bedroom #1).", "Agree with most that has been said about clearly labelling boxes and to have the luggage ready with your immediate needs (clothes for the next few days, etc)\n\nAlso: Don't feel like you need to have everything unpacked and arranged in a day or 2. Seen way too many people go apesh!t about this and stressing themselves unnecessarily.", "After you moved in do everything you want or planned do do with the place.\nPeople get complacent over time. For me it’s the lightbulb hanging in my kitchen without a lampshade.", "* Pack a suitcase/box that has a couple days of clothes, and the sheets, blankets etc needed to make your bed and mark it so you can find it easily in box mountain. \n* If you drink coffee or tea, have plan for how you will find the supplies easily. Don't be going through box mountain at 11pm trying to find the coffee maker cause the box labeled 'Coffee' has everything except the coffee maker. That is in the box labeled Living room...", "Start packing a box or two each night the month before you move, naturally start on the things you'll need least to keep living for that month. Little by little. I live in day tight compartments, whatever I can do today to make tomorrow easier is worth doing. It beats being panicked the weekend of moving", "If you're moving out of your parents house, remember that you don't need to take everything with you. Leaving stuff behind that you don't need will save you time and effort.", "Hire people to pack your stuff, and unpack your stuff when you move in. Its so luxurious and saves you so much stress. It’s so worth the expense when you consider most people move only a couple times a decade if that.", "Bags - the standard size reusable grocery bags - are better than boxes and easier to move.\n\nAlso, don’t pack your hanging clothes, tie up the hangers in bunches and put them in large plastic bags.\n\nBags\n\nBags \n\nBags", "1. Have everything boxed, wrapped and ready to be walked out that door.\n\n2. Hand the keys and your new address to a professional moving company that you’ve vetted. \n\n3. Pass out $20 bills to all the crew and make them understand that there is more if they take care of your things.\n\n4. Leave. Go to a movie or for a hike. Spend the day shopping and having lunch. I always go play golf.\n\n5. Arrive at new address. Check things over. Pass out more cash.\n\n6. Unpack.\n\nMy point is to NOT be there at all for the move. It’s a million percent less stressful." ]

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[ "How to stop yourself from overeating or eating out of boredom. I've been trying to lose weight and this is the worst problem I face, I get bored and just eat. So if anyone has some sort of tip to distract myself or something, then that will be really helpful.", "How to stop yourself from overeating or eating out of boredom. I've been trying to lose weight and this is the worst problem I face, I get bored and just eat. So if anyone has some sort of tip to distract myself or something, then that will be really helpful.", "How to stop yourself from overeating or eating out of boredom. I've been trying to lose weight and this is the worst problem I face, I get bored and just eat. So if anyone has some sort of tip to distract myself or something, then that will be really helpful." ]

[ "Ask yourself if you want a specific, healthy food when hungry. If so, slowly find less and less tasty foods and see if you want to eat them. If you find that you do, you probably are hungry.\n\nE.g. \"Do I want to eat an apple?\" \n Yes --> You're probably hungry; Rinse and repeat with something like spinach\n No--> It's probably stemming from boredom.\n\nIf that doesn't work, try getting a large glass of water first. That'll fill your stomach and you'll also gain some necessary hydration, which is always a good thing.", "When you start to feel munchy, just pop a piece of gum. Works for me all the time. I stick with fruity gums over minty, since they taste a bit more like \"food\".\n\nAlso, I usually brew a cup of tea when I'm feeling bored and hungry. I have to sip it slow, since it's hot, and a lot of the time our bodies confuse hunger and thirst.", "Learn a hobby that uses your hands. Crochet/knitting are good ones that require very little start up cost." ]

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[ "How to make scars from stitches fade away I have a few scars from getting moles removed and would like to know a way to make them fade.", "How to make scars from stitches fade away I have a few scars from getting moles removed and would like to know a way to make them fade.", "How to make scars from stitches fade away I have a few scars from getting moles removed and would like to know a way to make them fade.", "How to make scars from stitches fade away I have a few scars from getting moles removed and would like to know a way to make them fade.", "How to make scars from stitches fade away I have a few scars from getting moles removed and would like to know a way to make them fade.", "How to make scars from stitches fade away I have a few scars from getting moles removed and would like to know a way to make them fade." ]

[ "Massages are great at breaking down scar tissue. You can use a bit of oil like vitamin e oil or massage oil to help lubricate your fingers as you massage your scar, but the choice of oil won't make as big of a difference as the motion of the massage.", "Had a scar about three inches from a surgery. Had a super allergic reaction to Mederma. Started to use cocoa butter, can barely see the scar now. Cocoa butter is the tits.", "There is a generic version of Mederma (which my friend recommended for healing her surgical scars) available at CVS...it's the same exact ingredients but it just has a generic name like \"scar gel\". \n\nMy dermatologist said the tip to reducing scars is keeping the area moist as much as possible. Keep slathering it with scar gel or at least something like vaseline or aquaphor. ", "There are several different topical gels/solutions you can rub into the scars which will help. Most of them have the same ingredients (vitamin E and/or onion root extract). I'm assuming your scars are small, otherwise I would highly recommend Dr. Blaine's ScarCare Gel Pad. However, if you want to put in extra effort, it's $16 and extremely effective. If not, then a cheap solution/gel with one or both of the two ingredients stated above. Also, Mederma is pretty effective, but again a little bit more money. If you want a super wallet friendly scar treatment, rub some onion on it twice daily :)\n\nSource: I had two ulnar osteotomies, one per arm; I used a lot of different solutions for the scars (two were 4-inches).", "Study after study after study have shown that vitamin e and onion root extract (main ingredient in Maderma and almost all topical scar treatments) is very ineffective. One of the few products I've found that doesn't have vitamin e and onion root extract is from a company called Biodermis. This is what worked the best for me with my post operation scars after knee surgery. I used the gel sheets but I think they have a topical cream too.", "So after some research (I wanted to know whether mass market drugs were clinically backed. Spoiler: They aren't. At all), I've come to the conclusion that there are only two proven and feasible means of scar reduction. \n\nIf the problem is only minor discoloration, Vitamin C and some of it's esters have been shown to fade dark pigmentation.\n\n Farris PK. Topical vitamin C: a useful agent for treating photoaging and other dermatologic conditions. Dermatol Surg 2005;31:814-818.\n\nOtherwise, if the scarring is actual scar tissue (a hard whitish form of skin lacking in pores and follicles), see a dermatologist and ask about chemical peels." ]

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[ "What to do when two friends get into a heated argument right in front of you? This has happened to me a couple of times. Any advice on how to easily defuse the situation? Whenever this happens I want to help calm everyone down, but I don't know what I should say. I end up sitting there silently and awkwardly while things get worse and worse until the night is eventually ruined.\n\nTo be clear, I'm talking about the type of arguments that stem from trivial topics that seem ridiculous to argue about in hindsight. The kind of arguments that rapidly cascade out of control.", "What to do when two friends get into a heated argument right in front of you? This has happened to me a couple of times. Any advice on how to easily defuse the situation? Whenever this happens I want to help calm everyone down, but I don't know what I should say. I end up sitting there silently and awkwardly while things get worse and worse until the night is eventually ruined.\n\nTo be clear, I'm talking about the type of arguments that stem from trivial topics that seem ridiculous to argue about in hindsight. The kind of arguments that rapidly cascade out of control.", "What to do when two friends get into a heated argument right in front of you? This has happened to me a couple of times. Any advice on how to easily defuse the situation? Whenever this happens I want to help calm everyone down, but I don't know what I should say. I end up sitting there silently and awkwardly while things get worse and worse until the night is eventually ruined.\n\nTo be clear, I'm talking about the type of arguments that stem from trivial topics that seem ridiculous to argue about in hindsight. The kind of arguments that rapidly cascade out of control.", "What to do when two friends get into a heated argument right in front of you? This has happened to me a couple of times. Any advice on how to easily defuse the situation? Whenever this happens I want to help calm everyone down, but I don't know what I should say. I end up sitting there silently and awkwardly while things get worse and worse until the night is eventually ruined.\n\nTo be clear, I'm talking about the type of arguments that stem from trivial topics that seem ridiculous to argue about in hindsight. The kind of arguments that rapidly cascade out of control.", "What to do when two friends get into a heated argument right in front of you? This has happened to me a couple of times. Any advice on how to easily defuse the situation? Whenever this happens I want to help calm everyone down, but I don't know what I should say. I end up sitting there silently and awkwardly while things get worse and worse until the night is eventually ruined.\n\nTo be clear, I'm talking about the type of arguments that stem from trivial topics that seem ridiculous to argue about in hindsight. The kind of arguments that rapidly cascade out of control.", "What to do when two friends get into a heated argument right in front of you? This has happened to me a couple of times. Any advice on how to easily defuse the situation? Whenever this happens I want to help calm everyone down, but I don't know what I should say. I end up sitting there silently and awkwardly while things get worse and worse until the night is eventually ruined.\n\nTo be clear, I'm talking about the type of arguments that stem from trivial topics that seem ridiculous to argue about in hindsight. The kind of arguments that rapidly cascade out of control." ]

[ "Leave\n\nNot your business and both of them are being rude for having a fight over trivial shit in front of someone else", "One trick I find works is to say something that they both either agree or disagree with...get them on the same side, then you can diffuse the argument. Other than that, try to change the subject, make a joke...if they still won't stop then tell them to give it a rest, nothing wrong in being direct. ", "Be the arbiter. Listen to both sides and take the pros and cons of both and then, in the nicest way possible, kindly tell both of them to shut up. ", "Take up a third opposing point of view and yell louder.\n\nOr get less shitty friends. If you feel the need to be arbitrator, or deal with someone else problems on a regular basis, your friends are drama queens, and you'd be happier with new friends.", "Start laughing hysterically and when they ask wtf is wrong with you, tell them a funny joke and/or memory you have where they were both present. It's really hard to continue some serious rage when someone's joking around beside you.", "Depends how necessary they are to what I'm doing? Going somewhere or stuck together? Tell them to shut the fuck up and fight on their own time.\n\nWe're at a bar or something? Walk away and talk to someone else." ]

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[ "Dealing with Stink Bugs We always have a problem with Stink Bugs finding their way into our house. Normally we just catch them and flush them down the toilet or something but this gets really old. Any methods to get rid of them or set some sort of trap?\n\n", "Dealing with Stink Bugs We always have a problem with Stink Bugs finding their way into our house. Normally we just catch them and flush them down the toilet or something but this gets really old. Any methods to get rid of them or set some sort of trap?\n\n", "Dealing with Stink Bugs We always have a problem with Stink Bugs finding their way into our house. Normally we just catch them and flush them down the toilet or something but this gets really old. Any methods to get rid of them or set some sort of trap?\n\n", "Dealing with Stink Bugs We always have a problem with Stink Bugs finding their way into our house. Normally we just catch them and flush them down the toilet or something but this gets really old. Any methods to get rid of them or set some sort of trap?\n\n", "Dealing with Stink Bugs We always have a problem with Stink Bugs finding their way into our house. Normally we just catch them and flush them down the toilet or something but this gets really old. Any methods to get rid of them or set some sort of trap?\n\n", "Dealing with Stink Bugs We always have a problem with Stink Bugs finding their way into our house. Normally we just catch them and flush them down the toilet or something but this gets really old. Any methods to get rid of them or set some sort of trap?\n\n", "Dealing with Stink Bugs We always have a problem with Stink Bugs finding their way into our house. Normally we just catch them and flush them down the toilet or something but this gets really old. Any methods to get rid of them or set some sort of trap?\n\n", "Dealing with Stink Bugs We always have a problem with Stink Bugs finding their way into our house. Normally we just catch them and flush them down the toilet or something but this gets really old. Any methods to get rid of them or set some sort of trap?\n\n", "Dealing with Stink Bugs We always have a problem with Stink Bugs finding their way into our house. Normally we just catch them and flush them down the toilet or something but this gets really old. Any methods to get rid of them or set some sort of trap?\n\n", "Dealing with Stink Bugs We always have a problem with Stink Bugs finding their way into our house. Normally we just catch them and flush them down the toilet or something but this gets really old. Any methods to get rid of them or set some sort of trap?\n\n", "Dealing with Stink Bugs We always have a problem with Stink Bugs finding their way into our house. Normally we just catch them and flush them down the toilet or something but this gets really old. Any methods to get rid of them or set some sort of trap?\n\n", "Dealing with Stink Bugs We always have a problem with Stink Bugs finding their way into our house. Normally we just catch them and flush them down the toilet or something but this gets really old. Any methods to get rid of them or set some sort of trap?\n\n" ]

[ "http://www.npr.org/2014/05/02/309040286/how-a-pan-a-lamp-and-a-little-bit-of-water-can-trap-a-stink-bug", "I read that if you use dish soap and water it kills them when sprayed after about half an hour. (This is better for the ones outside your house on doors windows the porch ect.) \n\nI decided to go bigger, and used striaght rubbing alcohol and soap (it said it destroys their outer protective coating or something like that) and I sprayed every one I saw on the outside of my house, after 3 days all the stink bugs were dead and I havent had any in about 8 monthes. I think they got the message. Fucking stink bugs.", "We keep strips of 2\" wide masking tape in each room of the house. When we see one, we just :touch: it with the sticky side and fold him in. No stink, no mess. If you dispose of them stinklessly, their buddies are less likely to come in looking for the party.", "pretty much same idea as that of shouldsback's post but less spread out on the web page:\n\nhttp://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/capital-weather-gang/wp/2014/05/09/spring-awakening-stink-bugs-you-can-build-a-better-trap/", "Have tried all these little tips and tricks. They will always, um, find a way. Don't forget to empty your vacuum bag after sucking up the little bastards as they will escape and breed. Make sure your windows and doors are sealed properly, use that rubber seal strips if needed. They are also attracted to fake plants I've found-had dozens in my plastic pine tree. This actually made it easier to catch and destroy them. ", "I have jars of death which I put them in. No poison, nothing, just bodies many many bodies, they either kill each other or starve. Sometimes I watch, sometimes I throw out the bottle once half full or so.", "This tip comes from researchers at VA Tech. Fill a large pan with soapy water(such as Dawn dish soap) and shine a light over it during the night. The light attracts the bugs and then they drown in the soapy water solution. This solution is for inside your house. They don't have one for outside your house. Their primary research at the moment is how to eradicate them from crop areas.", "Rutgers University would actually love to have your stinkbugs: \nhttp://njaes.rutgers.edu/stinkbug/faq.asp#sending\n", "Incense sticks. Burn lots of them. Its late and I don't feel like typing out the science to it, not that anyone cares, but it works amazing. Near 100% for me in and everyone I tell it too. My mom, babysitter, coworkers everything. Must be incense sticks with the smoke, not scented candles.", "I would use the traps someone else suggested indoors but outdoors, I would use a good barrier spray.\n\nI really like [Demand CS](http://www.domyownpestcontrol.com/demand-cs-p-46.html) but there are a wide variety of sprays available. I've been using Demand about once a month for years and rarely get any bugs in the house.\n\nYou want to put 12ml in a 1 gallon sprayer with water and then go around the whole outside of your house's foundation and mist on a coating. Go out from the foundation a couple of feet, and hit all the window sills and door frames.\n\nYou'll find the number of insects getting into or on your house will go down dramatically.\n\nAround here in the summer it's Boxelder bugs that are a problem and they stink when crushed. I find Demand CS does a great job keeping them from swarming on or around my house.", "I forgot about those things! We used to just laugh at them sticking their asses in the air. Never got old.", "If you have a stinkbug problem, try grabbing with your arm rapped around your back leg. that will help you improve your form and not look like a total kook." ]

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[ "How to give my all in a job. (Not a Procrastination issue) This is NOT me asking how stop procrastinating. This is entirely different. I've begun my first job a few weeks ago (it is a small busy store.) and I find that while the job is demanding and there is always something to do(Clean, refill missing items, help wandering buyers, etc.), I generally don't do it.\n\nI keep telling myself I can be a great worker and I will find satisfaction in work if I give my all to it, but what generally happens is as soon as I'm in uniform and clocked in, I just turn off. I go into autopilot mode and do whatever I am told if I am told, while otherwise being very apathetic and lost in my own thoughts. I'm an average worker, but I want to be a good worker, one that honestly cares about their work. But I just don't. \n\nOther workers describe me as rude and careless, and I am trying to understand why because all of my friends tell me I'm the least rude person they know. I think it is just me being apathetic comes off that way.\n\nSo my question is how do I stop this, how I do allow myself to put my all in? Is it just the job being dull, is my approach wrong?", "How to give my all in a job. (Not a Procrastination issue) This is NOT me asking how stop procrastinating. This is entirely different. I've begun my first job a few weeks ago (it is a small busy store.) and I find that while the job is demanding and there is always something to do(Clean, refill missing items, help wandering buyers, etc.), I generally don't do it.\n\nI keep telling myself I can be a great worker and I will find satisfaction in work if I give my all to it, but what generally happens is as soon as I'm in uniform and clocked in, I just turn off. I go into autopilot mode and do whatever I am told if I am told, while otherwise being very apathetic and lost in my own thoughts. I'm an average worker, but I want to be a good worker, one that honestly cares about their work. But I just don't. \n\nOther workers describe me as rude and careless, and I am trying to understand why because all of my friends tell me I'm the least rude person they know. I think it is just me being apathetic comes off that way.\n\nSo my question is how do I stop this, how I do allow myself to put my all in? Is it just the job being dull, is my approach wrong?", "How to give my all in a job. (Not a Procrastination issue) This is NOT me asking how stop procrastinating. This is entirely different. I've begun my first job a few weeks ago (it is a small busy store.) and I find that while the job is demanding and there is always something to do(Clean, refill missing items, help wandering buyers, etc.), I generally don't do it.\n\nI keep telling myself I can be a great worker and I will find satisfaction in work if I give my all to it, but what generally happens is as soon as I'm in uniform and clocked in, I just turn off. I go into autopilot mode and do whatever I am told if I am told, while otherwise being very apathetic and lost in my own thoughts. I'm an average worker, but I want to be a good worker, one that honestly cares about their work. But I just don't. \n\nOther workers describe me as rude and careless, and I am trying to understand why because all of my friends tell me I'm the least rude person they know. I think it is just me being apathetic comes off that way.\n\nSo my question is how do I stop this, how I do allow myself to put my all in? Is it just the job being dull, is my approach wrong?", "How to give my all in a job. (Not a Procrastination issue) This is NOT me asking how stop procrastinating. This is entirely different. I've begun my first job a few weeks ago (it is a small busy store.) and I find that while the job is demanding and there is always something to do(Clean, refill missing items, help wandering buyers, etc.), I generally don't do it.\n\nI keep telling myself I can be a great worker and I will find satisfaction in work if I give my all to it, but what generally happens is as soon as I'm in uniform and clocked in, I just turn off. I go into autopilot mode and do whatever I am told if I am told, while otherwise being very apathetic and lost in my own thoughts. I'm an average worker, but I want to be a good worker, one that honestly cares about their work. But I just don't. \n\nOther workers describe me as rude and careless, and I am trying to understand why because all of my friends tell me I'm the least rude person they know. I think it is just me being apathetic comes off that way.\n\nSo my question is how do I stop this, how I do allow myself to put my all in? Is it just the job being dull, is my approach wrong?", "How to give my all in a job. (Not a Procrastination issue) This is NOT me asking how stop procrastinating. This is entirely different. I've begun my first job a few weeks ago (it is a small busy store.) and I find that while the job is demanding and there is always something to do(Clean, refill missing items, help wandering buyers, etc.), I generally don't do it.\n\nI keep telling myself I can be a great worker and I will find satisfaction in work if I give my all to it, but what generally happens is as soon as I'm in uniform and clocked in, I just turn off. I go into autopilot mode and do whatever I am told if I am told, while otherwise being very apathetic and lost in my own thoughts. I'm an average worker, but I want to be a good worker, one that honestly cares about their work. But I just don't. \n\nOther workers describe me as rude and careless, and I am trying to understand why because all of my friends tell me I'm the least rude person they know. I think it is just me being apathetic comes off that way.\n\nSo my question is how do I stop this, how I do allow myself to put my all in? Is it just the job being dull, is my approach wrong?" ]

[ "As a supervisor in a similar environment, here are a few tips that would give me a positive impression of a newer employee's work ethic:\n\n1. Ask questions. People often mistakenly feel like they shouldn't ask a lot of questions because it will make them look incompetent. The opposite is true. Asking questions shows me that you're making an effort. As you ask more intricate questions, it shows that you are learning and taking initiative. \n\n2. Have a positive attitude. Remind yourself to smile. Be nice to customers, and go the extra mile to do so. Look like you want to be there. Ask other people how they're doing. Form positive relationships with coworkers. \n\n3. Offer to come in early/stay late/cover a shift every once in a while. Trust me, you'll eventually return on that favor. Try not to ask others to do so for you very often. \n\n4. This is most important. Have a sense of urgency! It doesn't matter if you're actually working hard or not. You HAVE to look like you are. Walk a little faster. Always be focused on a task. Even if it's an unimportant task. If you look busy always, you will be perceived as a hard worker. ", "look at the more difficult tasks people around you are doing and try to figure out their method of approach.\n\nIt could also be your job if you're not feeling challenged its easy to slip into routine and not notice things you can improve.", "Why don't you just try starting? Don't think of all the work, just pick a task and just start. You can always stop.\n\nBy telling myself this, I usually am more apt to start and once started, I realize it's not so bad and I end up finishing rather than stopping. \n\nJust try that. You can always stop (but you probably won't). ", "The job has to become what's in your thoughts at work. Days when I get caught up in my own mental inner life are the days I'm not working my hardest. If you practice doing those little jobs, looking for more to do, thinking about how things could work better, it keeps your mind focused where it should be. Regarding customers....don't treat them like you treat your friends, treat them like you would a grandparent or your friends' parents. Also, smile. A lot. Smiling and being friendly will change a negative mindset quickly. Kudos to you for recognizing a problem and seeking change...I've always moved up quickly at jobs based mostly on being the person who does all the piddly jobs with a smile and without being asked.", "Get the hardest, least desirable thing to do first if you can. Sets you up to coast through the rest of the day.\n\nAlways be on the edge of your comfort zone, the day you can breeze through work using minimal effort means you need a bigger challenge, a challenge you can achieve.\n\nHave a good breakfast too !" ]

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[ "What tips would you give to a 18 yo who is going away from his parents, to another city, for college, for the first time in his life? ", "What tips would you give to a 18 yo who is going away from his parents, to another city, for college, for the first time in his life? ", "What tips would you give to a 18 yo who is going away from his parents, to another city, for college, for the first time in his life? ", "What tips would you give to a 18 yo who is going away from his parents, to another city, for college, for the first time in his life? ", "What tips would you give to a 18 yo who is going away from his parents, to another city, for college, for the first time in his life? ", "What tips would you give to a 18 yo who is going away from his parents, to another city, for college, for the first time in his life? " ]

[ "Go to class and do the work. Yes, you should make new friends, go to parties, and have fun, but your main job is school. It's too easy to get caught up in the freedom of living on your own, but if you flunk out, you're back home, your parents are mad, and you've wasted a ton of money.", "Pay all your bills on time. \n\nDon’t take part in wicked schemes. \n\nEat all your leftovers. \n\nTrust but verify. \n\nIf it sounds too good to be true, it is. Always. \n\nCheck your engine oil on every fill up. \n\nCall your parents every Sunday evening.", "Don't look back. You'll learn from your mistakes, don't fear about making them (just don't be a criminal).", "Trust everyone but cut the cards.\n It is REAL EASY to lose focus. There are, in fact, people out there who will expend an enormous amount of effort to help you dis-focus, for fairly obscure reasons that are ALL not in your best interests. Not that the World Is Big And Bad but it is…pretty big. And there’s an unkind amount of bad. But your heart will steer you right, just listen to it!\n Enough morality tale. Watch your money, student loans often come in mouthwatering lumps that can lead you astray. Dammit, THAT’s the last of the morality tales.\n College is not like HS AT ALL. No one is gonna ride your butt to make sure you’re dotting all your bases and tagging all your ‘T’s. Schiesse. More morality tale. I give up. You’re a smart lad*, just remember that body has to last you another 60 years!", "Everything in baby steps.\n\nThinking about all the new things you are expected to do with classes, cooking, cleaning, travel, and people, can seem overwhelming. For now, keep your sights short. Get through one day, with a plan for just that, then tomorrow. After a few days, plan the week. As you do this over and over, it'll become 2nd nature and you can allow your mind to work on the other \"problems\" like laundry, and personal relationships. Watch what your peers are doing and learn from them, they don't have to be people you know but you can watch what they are doing and decide if you are comfortable imitating. If you're not comfortable, DON\"T DO IT! Everyone grows at their own pace, you do what you feel is right.", "Duck drugs, Dip into extracuriculars, Dodge bad relationships, Dive into the work, and Duck stds. Go to class, all of them." ]

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[ "How to be more energetic I'm always tired, regardless of how much I sleep. If I don't have a coffee or an energy drink when I wake up, I become a living zombie. I hate this, because it makes me lose motivation for doing anything productive.", "How to be more energetic I'm always tired, regardless of how much I sleep. If I don't have a coffee or an energy drink when I wake up, I become a living zombie. I hate this, because it makes me lose motivation for doing anything productive.", "How to be more energetic I'm always tired, regardless of how much I sleep. If I don't have a coffee or an energy drink when I wake up, I become a living zombie. I hate this, because it makes me lose motivation for doing anything productive.", "How to be more energetic I'm always tired, regardless of how much I sleep. If I don't have a coffee or an energy drink when I wake up, I become a living zombie. I hate this, because it makes me lose motivation for doing anything productive.", "How to be more energetic I'm always tired, regardless of how much I sleep. If I don't have a coffee or an energy drink when I wake up, I become a living zombie. I hate this, because it makes me lose motivation for doing anything productive.", "How to be more energetic I'm always tired, regardless of how much I sleep. If I don't have a coffee or an energy drink when I wake up, I become a living zombie. I hate this, because it makes me lose motivation for doing anything productive." ]

[ "Good diet, regular cardio. If I go without working out for any length of time, I feel like shit, sluggish and weary. When I work out, eat well and sleep well, I feel invincible. ", "Exercise and healthy diet. Healthy Diet includes eliminating or reducing refined sugar from your diet and drinking alot of water. Also take a Vitamin D supplement.", "Exersise. It's really counter intuitive but the moment when you think you are really tired is exactly when a Run/Brisk Walk will be the most help.", "Tell your doctor. Many conditions (anemia, hypothyroidism, diabetes, etc) can cause tiredness and lack of energy like you're describing. Even if you get a clean bill of health, some simple blood tests will at least rule out what it isn't.", "I used to have this problem. I'd sleep 12 hours and still need a 3 hour nap in the middle of the day. It was horrible! Turns out I had a potassium deficiency. I started a low carb diet and took a good multivitamin, omega 3 fish oil, vitamin D, and Vitamin B Complex. I'm a freaking machine now! I have no desire whatsoever for naps and I have a ton of energy. ", "I can vouch for hypothyroidism sucking your will and energy. Quite often also your memory as well. I guess technically it doesnt suck your energy, it just doesn't allow you to generate it properly." ]

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[ "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**", "How to ask your boss for a raise? I know there is plenty of information about the subject on the interwebs, but its hard to filter through the crap. So in your personal opinion and through your personal experiences, how should you ask for a raise, how should you prepare for it etc.\n\n**" ]

[ "I've tried asking for raises a number of times. I've tried the friendly approach, I've tried the math approach... (i.e. walking in and saying, I worked out a chance to our process that saves the company $30k a month, while improving customer satisfaction, how about a raise?)\n\nNone of them ever really work well.\n\nFor nearly a decade I tried every way I possibly could to get a raise in at a company. I'd get some, but never much.\n\nPut in my resignation, and all of a sudden $45k extra a year was available to retain me. I quit anyways, under the idea that if they didn't value me enough to give me the raises when I asked for them, then clearly they didn't value me enough at all.\n\nMy take away: If you want a small raise, asking for it, with the other methods suggested in this thread will work. If you want a big promotion, find another company to work for. It's sad, but I've found it to be the only way.", "\"I am enjoying my job and think I've mastered a lot of the skills involved. I also really like the direction this company is headed. What can I do to grow myself here?\"\n\n\nBeing super positive is never a bad thing at work. Also, if you straight up ask for a raise, and it truly cannot be done, your employer is going to worry that you will be jumping ship for more money elsewhere.", "At the end of the day, salary negotiation comes down to leverage and value perception.\n\nAsk yourself this question: If I were my boss would I want to pay me more money? Aside for the grammatical butcher shop that the question may be, it forces you to assess what value you represent beyond your everyday responsibilities. \n\nAfter all, the fastest path to greater income is promotion, within your organization or (quite often) outside of it. Salary increase in position is harder to achieve but very impactful on your career, though, as higher pay now means even higher pay @ promotion.\n\nNow, leverage is a variable and one you can affect. Here's the catch, though; you need time. If you just found out that you need more money and you haven't been planning this conversation with your boss for the past 3 months the you're likely up the creek. That said, the best way to consistently increase your income during performance reviews and salary negotiations (particularly if you are the initiator of the conversation) is consistently documented successes on your part.\n\nWhat mean here is that you should be documenting EXHAUSTIVELY the details of anything you do in which you performed above expectations or above your role, especially if you were acting as a leader. Use Timetoast.com or any cloud-based document suite to immediately access and record your successes, who you worked with/for, what numbers you were responsible for RIGHT AFTER THEY HAPPEN because guess what? No one will do this for you. \n\nThe second aspect of salary negotiation is awareness of your market value as a workforce commodity. Use glassdoor.com or any other anonymous salary aggregation site that can tell you what your position is paid in your area. After all, if you inadvertently show your boss that you're OVERpaid you could be totally undermining your own goal! \n\nSo let's say that you did your research, you're a ways off from promotion, you've documented 6 months of high-level performance and you're someone that the business would greatly suffer from losing. This would be the time to schedule a 1 hour meeting with your boss and formally present her/him with your case. \"Here are my accomplishments for the past 2 quarters. Here is the average pay for my position in this area. I would like to talk about elevating my compensation and I'd like to know what you think would be a fair number.\"\n\nBy letting your boss make the first numerical statement you set yourself up for a strong negotiating position. Your boss will likely say that they need to partner with HR or their own boss or review documents. This is to be expected. Simply say that you understand and would like to schedule a follow-up meeting one week from that day. This makes the resolution a timely one and creates urgency on the part of your boss.\n\nSide benefit: Deepened respect from your boss and your boss' boss.\n\nAs always, these are tips and are no secret. Most of this could probably be distilled from the first page of a search for \"how to get a raise\", but these tactics have been very successful for me in the past and could very well be effective for my fellow Redditors (provided they are executed with tact and savvy).", "It depends on the job, what kind of relationship you have with your boss and the company, etc.\n\nFor me, the last time I asked for a raise, I made myself the most valuable person on the team first. Then I stepped into my bosses office, closed the door, and said: \"Ya know John, I'm doing a lotta work around here, but I ain't gettin' paid a lotta money.\" He filled out the paperwork for my raise right there in front of me. We were very casual with each other, so that approach worked for me, it might, and probably, won't work for everyone.\n\nThe main point I guess would be that you have to be firm, but respectful. And before you ask your boss for a raise, ask yourself if you honestly think you deserve one, because if you're not performing above expectations, you shouldn't even ask.\n\n", "Always be leveraging your skills in the organization. Be someone they cannot operate without. Then once you are comfortable you will find asking for a raise not only prudent but fairly easy to do in an environment where both parties feel comfortable. ", "I am making 30% more this year than I made last year and I know that if I had never asked, I would have only received the standard 2%-3% annual raise for above average performance. It took some time, but in every performance review I would bring it up. I showed them documentation demonstrating that I was doing a job several levels above my job grade while still exceeding expectations, I kept emotion out of it, and kept a good attitude in general. In the end my bosses had to go outside of the annual compensation budget to get special approval for my raise due to the way compensation approvals are structured, but patience and persistence eventually paid off. ", "The basics are:\n\n* Don't negotiate against yourself. This means, don't offer new duties or hours in exchange for money if you believe you already deserve more for what you're doing. \n* Following that, put some numbers together for what you're doing. Do you do the duties of more than one person? Can you concretely say, \"Steve makes $65k to do shipping and Alice makes $40k handling the sales ordering. I'm already doing both, plus tracking inventory. Just by walking in the door, I save your department $20k a year.\" Or have you increased output, consolidated other expenses, etc?\n* Read closely, this is not contradictory to the above. DO NOT compare another person doing your same job's salary. If you have the same duties as John, but he makes another $5k a year, don't use that as justification for your raise. You might be 100% right, but it sounds like whining.\n* Do the math. COL/annual automatic raises tend to range between 2 and 3 percent. Figure out how much money this is for you, and how much you're trying to get. e.g., if you're at $32k, you're probably entitled to $33k anyways. If you're trying to get up to $35k, negotiate starting from your salary plus the standard increase. Ask for $4,000, which can then be negotiated down to $3,000, and it feels like your boss got a bargain.\n* The ultimate rule, in all negotiations: Have a competing offer. At least have a competing place to go, and be ready to walk. The good news is, your current boss can't know for sure what's really on the table across the street, so there's some room for salesmanship. The competition is offering you another $5,000? Tell your boss it's $6,000, if you're confident they'll want to keep you. Want to be a \"sweetheart saver?\" Tell your boss they're offering $7,000, but you'll stay for $5,000; because you prefer the stability/opportunity for advancement you have in place.\n\n", "If you can, wait for the moment when:\n\n* You make that big sale.\n\n* You land that big client.\n\n* Three people in your department screw up and you're the exception.\n\n* He/She gives you a big compliment about something.\n\nAfter moments like these, be prepared with a scripted remark like \"Hey, I'd like to talk about a few things with you regarding my job, would tomorrow morning be okay?\" You don't have to say it's about a raise. \n\nGetting a raise is not about what you need. Don't ask for or expect a raise because your rent went up or you bought a new car. ", "I just want to say, there is a lot of good advice in this thread, so here's another one\n\nRemember always: People are always interested in money first, company wellbeing second, they don't care about your personal life, so never use that.\n\nAlways schedule a meeting with your boss, preferably a few days before, and never over lunch or anything, this is important.\n\nI found two ways to start a raise conversation\n\nThe i'm fucking good at my job one:\n\"So, i've been working here for a while now, and i think i'm getting pretty good at my job. I want both, to help this company grow, and to myself to grow as a professional in this company. I want to set myself some goals to help the company, and i want your help with it, and, if i manage to achieve those goals, i would like to discuss a compensation.\"\n\n- If you already know what to do to help the company, just suggest it.\n- Make clear goals, even as far as setting numerical values, if need be.\n- Schedule a review for that goal in a reasonable time frame. It's better to have a big time frame than to not do the goal.\n- Constantly remind you boss of what's happening, and how the company is benefiting from it.\n- If you walk on the review meeting for your goal, and not everybody in the room KNOWS you deserve a raise, you're doing it wrong.\n\nThe i'm getting underpayed one:\n\"In these last few months, i feel that i have returned more to the company than it had for me. I want to help this company even more, so what i would like to discuss is a better compensation now, and what can i do to help the company and grow even more\" - Feel free to have conversation number 1 after this.\n\nTL;DR: Don't ask for a raise, ask for more work and a more correct compensation", "Only did a quick search though and didn't see this, so I thought I'd add..\n\n3-4 months BEFORE your annual review (or, just every so often), walk into your boss' office and say something to the effect of \"I really want a raise next time I get review, what do I have to do between now and then to get one?\"\n\nSit down with him/her and get some concrete goals ON PAPER. Make sure they're objectively measurable (i.e. numbers, not just \"better attitude\")\n\nThen, meet all the goals and bring it in come review time. If you've checked off everything on the list, it's really hard for him/her to say no.", "I start by sending an email to express I would like to talk about Career advancement and compensation. Walk into their office with cause and affect. Let them know how you have helped the organization in the last year (or since your last raise). As I strategically applied X we have had Y results. Since I improved X process we have seen Y improve by Z amount. I have taken on X extra responsibility and still performed all my duties. Express which direction you want to take in the organization. End the conversation with \"I would like to discuss an increase in compensation\". \nI do not think it matters what relationship you have with your boss, it is best to keep these kind of conversations on a professional level. \n", "I recently got a raise 'cos I had an offer from another company on the table. I was fortunate in that my boss valued me enough to want to keep me around.", "Take a pear and put it on your bosses desk then proceed to say \"my wife told me I needed to grow this and ask for a raise...\"", "Make sure you go in prepared with reasons why you deserve the raise: either you have been with the company a long time (a weak one), your duties/responsibilities have changed, how you are more important now, how you helped push with that last project, you should be paid more to be in line with the industry, etc.\n\nAlso it is good to have a reason you need the raise: I need a new car, thinking of buying a home, just got married, have a kid on the way, etc. \n\nAnother thing is to know how much you are going to ask for before you go in there. If your boss is the negotiating type, aim a little high, because you know you will have to work back down to it.\n\nI would make a list of these things beforehand, probably better not to just go in an wing it. ", "The primary way to get a raise is by switching companies. Other than that, you really can't expect more than a tiny annual raise. \n\nI'm young so I haven't had much opportunity to ask for raises, although I did get a couple $1/hr raises at my first post-college job after about 3 months and 6 months, that was primarily due to my boss really liking me and knowing that I could easily make more money somewhere else (I still left, because he was right about that). I started a new job making $3/hr more, briefly, then found one that paid $4/hr more than that. That's an $8k/year effective raise, basically, even if I do a phenomenal job in my current position I can't expect them to give me that kind of raise. ", "The one thing I can add to all this (albeit a little late) is that you are never entitled to a raise. Just because you go to work and do your job as it fits the description does not mean that you should get a raise after six months. You need to do something above and beyond what your job description is in order to even approach this subject. If you sit at the computer all day and get your reports in on time, why should the company give you a raise. They are already paying you 'x' amount of dollars to get that done anyways. \n\nNow since you have been working there for a while there is some merit to asking for a raise based on your tenure, but realistically you should expect to have to prove why you deserve a raise. ", "In my experience the best (monetary results wise) is to interview at other companies, get an high offer and tell the boss you want to quit because of said high offer. Say you need the extra money for whatever (the reason isn't really important, it's just important to have a reason, i.e. \"I really need to exit my shithole apartment\") to let him know it's about the money + not seeming overly greedy. A matching dance will ensue with you having the upper hand.", "I'm in a somewhat similar situation. I've been working for a rather small company with only a few other employees, and still haven't received a raise after 2.5 years. I've nabbed us a few clients and put out great work, and my boss tells me that I deserve a raise, but it never comes. \n\nWe're a little bit strapped for cash around here, and it sounds very bigheaded, but if I walked out the door, the company would most likely fold. \n\nPeople have told me that if you're not ready to walk, you have nobody to blame but yourself if you want a raise and don't get one.", "I wouldn't play mind games with it. Just tell your boss straight what rise you are looking for, and why you feel your current pay is not enough for the job you're doing. \n\nBut you need to have a good reason, and not just 'I want more money' or 'Ive been here 6 years now'.\n\nIf you think you'll be handing your notice in if you dont get the rise you want, then just tell him so he knows whats at stake, but keep it amicable too. \n\nDepending on the type of job, ultimately it might come down to departmental budgets. \nSo get this talk in early before the budgets have been agreed, otherwise your boss might be powerless to give you what you want anyway.\n\nThis is how I handled it, and effectively demanded a £7k rise (going from being underpaid to comfortably over market rate). It worked well for me", "I was quite fortunate. At my first and so far only job I have a wonderful boss. We had a strong friendly work relationship. We had open communication and I could pretty much come to him for anything work related or even personal. After working for 2-3 years I asked for a promotion with salary increase. I was upfront and honest sharing how I had worked for quite a while and while I had gotten incremental pay increases I felt I had earned a slight promotion. I didn't like being at the same level as fresh hires. I felt that not only had I proven myself a worthy employee, but that the job experience I had acquired should set me apart from the pack. Surprisingly he heard me out and promised to review my personnel file and look into it. Well he not only found out that I was overdue for a small pay increase but he advocated a promotion as well. It was a small jump but I was/am more than appreciative.\n\nMy situation is quite unique however. I have a wonderful job and boss which leaves me a bit spoiled. You need to have good communication with your boss if you expect him/her to go to bat for you.", "I think it largely depends on the type of company you work for. I've only worked in the startup world as a developer and my experience has been vastly different. Once you've proven value, startups want to keep you around and are usually happy compensate you.\n\nIf I had to take a guess at asking for a raise in the corporate world, I'd make it a 3-step process:\n\n1) Make friends with the guy who decides if you get a raise.\n\n2) Be a problem solver.\n\n3) Don't not be a problem solver.", "I still maintain my RSS feeds for jobs, even though I have a good job. I look at most of them, and therefore I have a pretty good idea of what the market is currently offering, adjusting for duties, location (i.e. cost of living), education and experience. ", "I remember [this](http://www.reddit.com/r/AskEngineers/comments/ih926/advice_for_negotiating_salary/c242jzn) being a good read.", "I found out that I was being paid considerably less than some of my peers doing the same job, so I literally set up a meeting and asked why that was, and what I could do to rectify it. It turned out that my boss didn't actually realize that that was the case, and corrected it almost immediately. Even gave me a tiny bit more to make up for the discrepancy over several months. \n\nGranted, if you're NOT in a position to have that kind of mismatch working for you, then I'm not sure what a better way would be to approach it, but in this case, I had a good opening line. ", "Get a unionized job that has scheduled performance reviews and pay-step increases, in addition to an inflation-linked pay-scale. The formal process makes it much easier to discuss your value to the company. Usually the default option is a one-step increase and there is an option for a two-step increase for exceptional work in all aspects of the role. I don't know why working-class people bash organized labour. ", "Georges Perec (a french writer) mastered this. \n[There you go](http://www.amazon.com/Art-Asking-Your-Boss-Raise/dp/1844674193/ref=la_B000APSLFG_1_12?ie=UTF8&qid=1355165755&sr=1-12)", "Apply for other jobs. Get another offer on the table for the amount you think you're worth. Tell your boss about said offer and then just wait for him to reply.\n\nI've done this a couple of times. It doesn't always work, but you do know that if it doesn't work, they wouldn't have given you a raise anyway. So it's probably time to leave or simply face the fact that you're not going to get a raise.\n\n", "After reading your ", "This type of political/corporate drama is the reason I went into something I love that can be done outside a corporate atmosphere. Some people might like it, but reading through some of these things just reminds me what I hate about corporate America. ", "My boss wanted to bum a cigarette at the Christmas party. So I dangled it in front of his face and said \"Want it bad enough to give me a raise?\" Then he explained I deserve it and he is working on it but can't do anything till the 1st of the year.\n\nWhat I'm saying is find a funny way to let them know it's on your mind to remind them.", "Depends on the boss. If you're friendly with them be open about the fact. If you're not make sure you're a valuable asset. Either way be confident and just ask. If they refuse to give you a raise another company will if you have valuable skills.", "Tender your resignation.\n\nIf he/she makes no effort to make an offer to keep you, then you never had much of a respectable future there, and you sure as well weren't ever going to get a pay raise.\n\n" ]

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[ "due to a water leak I’m likely stuck without a kitchen floor for a month or two and just have my plywood sub floor. What can I temporarily cover it with that won’t cost an arm and a leg? ", "due to a water leak I’m likely stuck without a kitchen floor for a month or two and just have my plywood sub floor. What can I temporarily cover it with that won’t cost an arm and a leg? ", "due to a water leak I’m likely stuck without a kitchen floor for a month or two and just have my plywood sub floor. What can I temporarily cover it with that won’t cost an arm and a leg? " ]

[ "Go to a carpet store, or installer, and ask if they have any extra carpet you can buy on the cheap. Cut it to fit and toss it when you’re new floor is ready.", "Porch and Floor paint. Latex based, dries quick, cheap, easy to apply, doesn’t add thickness and you can apply the eventual new floor right over it.", "If you don't mind putting in some legwork, call around to apartment complexes. Ask if they have any apartments that are about to be renovated and if so, if they would mind if you take the carpet.\n\nThis stuff typically just gets tossed in landfills regardless.\n\nWhile it won't be great, it will be rolls large enough to cover most rooms and it'll be free." ]

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[ "How can i find motivation ? I never really learned discipline and i usually get bored and give up on most stuff like gym, studying and frustrating problems in general. How can i change my attitude and discipline myself in order to keep my schedule and obligations in order ?", "How can i find motivation ? I never really learned discipline and i usually get bored and give up on most stuff like gym, studying and frustrating problems in general. How can i change my attitude and discipline myself in order to keep my schedule and obligations in order ?", "How can i find motivation ? I never really learned discipline and i usually get bored and give up on most stuff like gym, studying and frustrating problems in general. How can i change my attitude and discipline myself in order to keep my schedule and obligations in order ?", "How can i find motivation ? I never really learned discipline and i usually get bored and give up on most stuff like gym, studying and frustrating problems in general. How can i change my attitude and discipline myself in order to keep my schedule and obligations in order ?" ]

[ "Gamify things. With achievements and rewards. Or turn it into a roll playing thing such as the zombie app to motivate people to run. \n\nUse a bullet journal or spreadsheets if you a compulsive type you will do it just to fill it in.", "Requesting you to visit /r/GetMotivated and /r/getdisciplined . Good subs, and helpful people there. ", "You have to create your motivation. How do you do that? You do that by creating goals you want to achieve. If you're going to the gym just to go to the gym it won't last long. If you go to the gym because you want to get muscular or bench/squat/deadlift a certain amount of weight, it'll last longer because you have a temporary end goal in sight. When you're about to complete that end goal, you evaluate, reflect and make a new goal.", "Think about death a lot, and how you're absolutely gonna die at some point regardless of whether you're motivated or not. Could be in 90 years, or could be tomorrow afternoon. Might as well do awesome things while you're still able to." ]

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[ "Getting ready to commute to a job on my bicycle but I can't find where the puncture wound on the tire is. I need reliability and efficiency for finding the hole.\nAre there any easy ways to locate it?", "Getting ready to commute to a job on my bicycle but I can't find where the puncture wound on the tire is. I need reliability and efficiency for finding the hole.\nAre there any easy ways to locate it?", "Getting ready to commute to a job on my bicycle but I can't find where the puncture wound on the tire is. I need reliability and efficiency for finding the hole.\nAre there any easy ways to locate it?" ]

[ "Fill the tube up with air and place it under water. Look for any bubbles that may be coming out. Bam, found your hole!", "If you don't have access to a tub to dunk the tube in, fill the tube with air and wipe soapy water over it. Bubbles will form at the hole where the air is escaping.", "Top tank on your toilet works for water. Make sure the tube is dry before you patch it, and make sure you remove whatever caused the flat from the tire by checking the inside and outside of the tire. If the underside of the tube has been punctured, look closely as there may be two holes side by side from a pinch flat. " ]

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[ "How to permanently whiten pale yellow teeth without the use of chemically harsh solutions that erode the teeth enamel ? ", "How to permanently whiten pale yellow teeth without the use of chemically harsh solutions that erode the teeth enamel ? ", "How to permanently whiten pale yellow teeth without the use of chemically harsh solutions that erode the teeth enamel ? ", "How to permanently whiten pale yellow teeth without the use of chemically harsh solutions that erode the teeth enamel ? ", "How to permanently whiten pale yellow teeth without the use of chemically harsh solutions that erode the teeth enamel ? ", "How to permanently whiten pale yellow teeth without the use of chemically harsh solutions that erode the teeth enamel ? ", "How to permanently whiten pale yellow teeth without the use of chemically harsh solutions that erode the teeth enamel ? " ]

[ "I'm not surprised this is being asked as it's pretty complicated. You find a dentist and ask them about options to whiten your teeth, none of which will erode teeth enamel. In fact, if you're worried about your teeth enamel they can help with that too.", "You may have suffered the same fate as me. I had severe allergies as a child, and the medicine I took regularly (I've been told by a dentist) gave my adult teeth a similar stain. The color is IN my teeth, not on them.\n\nIt's permanent.", "So is that gel stuff they make you use with a mouthguard and a blacklight a waste of time? or just really dangerous? I've noticed limited results, but you cant skip a day though, otherwise you're wasting your time.", "I smoked and drank coffee over last coop, but i still got compliments about how white my teeth were when I went back to school.\n\nI recommend:\n\n-get a good toothbrush, i prefer medium firmness in the bristles. I usually spend about 8 bucks CDN on a two pack. Change this every month or two. I prefer the ones with rubber bristles on the side.\n\n-Use mouthwash and floss with brushing. It make's a huge difference. Use good mouthwash too. I prefer the purple Listerine stuff. \n\n-I drank coffee when I got to work after brushing. To combat this I would delay brushing until after coffee at work or I would rinse with water after I finished the coffee and then chew on gum that was advertised to whiten teeth. I chew a piece of gum for usually 5 hours at time...I don't know how much difference this made but something to consider.\n\n-Do not brush or use any tooth care post meals. Wait at least twenty minutes. Drink water in the meantime. Naturally occurring acids in your food/drink like lactic acid will make your teeth sensitive and more prone to enamel removal.\n\nGood luck with a whiter smile!\n\nI still don't smile in pictures with white teeth tho haha\n\nAlso about your wife, a lot of that is probably genetics and if you've been brushing shortly after meals that could be a contributing factor.\n\nI struggled with yellowish teeth growing up because I was sick a lot as a child due to night terrors and ear complications. This led to me taking a lot of antibiotics and medicine in liquid form as kids don't take pills I guess. Anyway that damaged my teeth quite a bit so I try to take better care of them now. Point is there are a lot of factors to consider when trying to determine the cause of teeth yellowing.", "in México was very common to use the dust of burned corn tortilla and brush your teeth with it, and it really works. However, too much makes the teeth very sensitive.", "Try AOT(Advanced Oxygen Therapy) from Bodyelectrician.com. You can visit the site and even call and talk to Dr. Wil Spencer to ask him any questions about the product. Good luck!", "Try [oil pulling](http://fashionista.com/2014/03/oil-pulling)! I thought it sounded like a huge hassle until I tried it. Basically you take a spoonful of oil (I use coconut oil) and swish it around in your mouth for about 20 minutes then spit it out into the trash. Do try to have an empty stomach, because otherwise it can make you nauseous for some reason.\n\nApparently the fat in the oil sticks to single cell bacteria so when you spit out the oil you're also getting rid of a lot of plaque (which is just bacteria build up on your teeth). I read that a study found it to be almost as effective as prescription mouthwash but without ingredients that are bad for your body.\n\nMy teeth always look noticeably whiter afterwards and as a bonus it gets rid of bad tastes in your mouth!" ]

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[ "How to become more fearless. Basically I just wanna not be so cautious about not hurting myself. After a couple bad falls/nearly getting hit by a car longboarding I'm not as fearless on it as I was. Same thing happened when riding a bike as a kid, fell, broke an arm, never rode bike again. Any way to get over this? Like fear of hurting myself, I guess?", "How to become more fearless. Basically I just wanna not be so cautious about not hurting myself. After a couple bad falls/nearly getting hit by a car longboarding I'm not as fearless on it as I was. Same thing happened when riding a bike as a kid, fell, broke an arm, never rode bike again. Any way to get over this? Like fear of hurting myself, I guess?" ]

[ " Actually it sounds like you're a normal healthy person. But the resolution to fear is not the idiotic \"no fear\" bullshit you read on beverage cans or hear about from pseudo brave athletes.\n\n No, you need to accept the fear, dig into it, roll it around a bit, taste it, give it a lick and tickle then realize that FEAR is a valuable friend, and a good ally. Fear is nature's pause button, telling you \"hold up, think about this for a second\". Once you come to accept and understand that it's nature's way of telling you WHOA THIS COULD BE BAD it's much easier to work through fear, train the fear out of your reactions, and move on. That's the key really, acknowledge the fear, understand that it's doing it's job, then working with and through the fear using your hopefully big brain. \n\n Training is all about learning to react appropriately to events while under stress and experiencing fear. This is why we train across the board. Military, Firemen, Law Enforcement, Motocross, etc. It's where courage comes from, (Not just military) but anyone who accepts and feels the fear and moves forward anyway. You train and train accepting the fear until it's little more than that subtle twinge, a reminder to be alert this could be dangerous. It's how you can be getting shot at and not panic, how a fireman can run INTO the burning building, how the Jet pilot flies at the edge, and how an X-Games Sociopath can be 3 stories in the air and land with clean britches. :-) \n\n It's all about practice, training, and exposure. The more you do a thing the more you expose yourself to the fear and make it your friend, the less you will be paralyzed by fear, react poorly to it, and ultimately fail due to fear, which is WAY WAY more common than you'd think. There's a reason that \"Get back on that horse\" is a thing, cause if you put it off, Fear which should be your friend, becomes that fire breathing nightmare you just cannot work around.\n\n So driving over 100 was exciting when I was 16. Then a few track days later and lots of exposure, that fear is gone. I know what that is and the bar moves forward to 160 or so before the edge shows up and it gets pushed back some more. Training, practice, exposure, and repetition all push fear further out, it's still there, better be anyway, but instead of yelling and shouting, it quietly reminds you to focus and pay attention. \n\n You will reach a point where what you're doing looks like madness (russians in high places anyone) to most people, but is pretty basic day to day stuff to you. ", "I think that's a healthy fear. Keeps you alive longer. That said, if you're concerned about \"fear of failure\", that is a different thing than being safe. Give yourself permission to \" fail\" (not get hit by a car). \n\n.... I may be presumptuous in thinking that you're OK with wearing protective gear and practicing in a safe context. Once you're skilled enough, you can graduate to other contexts. " ]

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[ "How to talk less Hey there :)\nI'm a 17 years old girl and I LOOOVE to talk. I hate awkward silence in talkings so I always try to fill it. I can't \"get on the point\", which means I need superlong to explain things etc.\nThis really annoys me and I appreciate every single tip you can give me on how I can stop my nonstop-talking. Thanks! :)", "How to talk less Hey there :)\nI'm a 17 years old girl and I LOOOVE to talk. I hate awkward silence in talkings so I always try to fill it. I can't \"get on the point\", which means I need superlong to explain things etc.\nThis really annoys me and I appreciate every single tip you can give me on how I can stop my nonstop-talking. Thanks! :)", "How to talk less Hey there :)\nI'm a 17 years old girl and I LOOOVE to talk. I hate awkward silence in talkings so I always try to fill it. I can't \"get on the point\", which means I need superlong to explain things etc.\nThis really annoys me and I appreciate every single tip you can give me on how I can stop my nonstop-talking. Thanks! :)", "How to talk less Hey there :)\nI'm a 17 years old girl and I LOOOVE to talk. I hate awkward silence in talkings so I always try to fill it. I can't \"get on the point\", which means I need superlong to explain things etc.\nThis really annoys me and I appreciate every single tip you can give me on how I can stop my nonstop-talking. Thanks! :)", "How to talk less Hey there :)\nI'm a 17 years old girl and I LOOOVE to talk. I hate awkward silence in talkings so I always try to fill it. I can't \"get on the point\", which means I need superlong to explain things etc.\nThis really annoys me and I appreciate every single tip you can give me on how I can stop my nonstop-talking. Thanks! :)", "How to talk less Hey there :)\nI'm a 17 years old girl and I LOOOVE to talk. I hate awkward silence in talkings so I always try to fill it. I can't \"get on the point\", which means I need superlong to explain things etc.\nThis really annoys me and I appreciate every single tip you can give me on how I can stop my nonstop-talking. Thanks! :)" ]

[ " >I hate awkward silence in talkings\n\nThe word is *conversations*. You dislike awkward silence in *conversations*...\n\nWhy is that? \n\nYou could try to listen more and when you do, think about what the other person is saying. Who is talking, what are they talking about (subject), where are they talking or where are they talking about, when is the story about (past, present, or future), and why are they talking to you about it? While they are talking, think about a question you would like to ask them, like \"How did you become interested in that?\" or \"How do you feel about what happened?\" \n\nNow when you speak, think about what you want to say before you say it. Engage your brain before your mouth says the words. Ask those same questions to yourself, (who/what/when/where/why/how) and try to get it together in a sentence or two instead of a run-on paragraph. Pretend you have to write what you say instead of just saying it. That should cut down a lot of your excess verbiage (words). You also might try recording yourself when you speak and if you notice you repeat yourself, or say a lot of filler words like \"um, ah, like\" make it a point to delete them from your conversations.\n\nI hope that helps. Good for you to address this issue now, before it turns into a very bad habit. Communication and how you present yourself is so important in life. Truth is that a lot of people form their first impressions of you by how you look and what you say when you first meet them. \n\n", "Ask questions. \n\nKnow that silence is OK. \n\nAlso, I'm in the middle of the book 48 Laws of Power, and you might like [No. 4](http://48laws-of-power.blogspot.com/2011/05/law-4-always-say-less-than-necessary.html). ", "Zazen.\n\n\"Zazen is the generic term for seated m", "Read more. It will build your vocabulary so you can express yourself in fewer words, and more productively fill those long periods of silence.", "A handy way is to concentrate on your breathing. Deep breaths fill your stomach and roll to you chest and then slowly exhale. (Not so its visible)\n\nThis hopefully stops you getting excited and eager to fill in silences. Basically its a calming technique. Also very usefull in stressfull situations. \n\nSecond listen to the person, read between the lines. Often people will mean different things than they say without even meaning to. \n\nUse stalling sentences where required to give you time to make your point without waffling. I.e.\n\n\"Thats a good point, in that situation i would...\"\n\"What other way can you see that happening\"\n\"Looking at it from my point of view it seems like\"\n\nOk bad examples i know but even a split second in a normal conversation gives you time to form your response. \n\nLearn to say no, often people talk a lot to hide insecurities. Learning this at your age is a very valuable skill. \n\nLastly\n\nWhen you are replying to someone give it a couple of seconds if you can. They will often feel the need to fill the silence which means you are not the one doing it. \n\nRemember, slow calm and even works wonders. \n", "You only need super glue and duck tape \n\nBegin to put super glue as lipstick then proceed to put duck tape on your mouth make sure it fits correctly or it may fall of \n\nIf you have a beard or a moustache it will be better because you won't pull the tape of because it hurts" ]

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[ "What life events are easily prepare-able for, happen to most people, but are mostly caught by surprise? ", "What life events are easily prepare-able for, happen to most people, but are mostly caught by surprise? ", "What life events are easily prepare-able for, happen to most people, but are mostly caught by surprise? ", "What life events are easily prepare-able for, happen to most people, but are mostly caught by surprise? ", "What life events are easily prepare-able for, happen to most people, but are mostly caught by surprise? ", "What life events are easily prepare-able for, happen to most people, but are mostly caught by surprise? ", "What life events are easily prepare-able for, happen to most people, but are mostly caught by surprise? ", "What life events are easily prepare-able for, happen to most people, but are mostly caught by surprise? ", "What life events are easily prepare-able for, happen to most people, but are mostly caught by surprise? ", "What life events are easily prepare-able for, happen to most people, but are mostly caught by surprise? ", "What life events are easily prepare-able for, happen to most people, but are mostly caught by surprise? " ]

[ "Death: lots of people don’t make it wills and it become complicated for loved ones to sort through belongings. It can cause family strife and stress in an already shitty sad situation", "Anything that requires a lot of money with short notice: car breaks down, water heater needs to be replaced, broken bone, etc.\n\nEveryone knows that you should have an emergency fund, but almost no one actually saves money to create one.", "Home repairs. I mostly sympathize with the meme you always see about “the bank says even though I have been paying $1200 a month in rent for three years, but they say I can’t afford a $900 mortgage.” \n\nBut they forget, if your HVAC breaks in an apartment, you don’t have to find thousands to fix it.", "The legal process after a car accident, if lawyers get involved (this may not be up to you if your insurance company wants to take things to court, all situations are different).\n\nIf there's litigation, then during the discovery process, you will be sat down with a lawyer you've never met before for a deposition. This can happen years after the actual accident. During a deposition, nobody can help jog your memory, you have to do it on your own. Your lawyer can help prevent you from incriminating yourself (in some cases) but they cannot help you by reminding you of facts that they know that you've forgotten. You will also be under oath just like you would in court. \n\nThey might ask for a list of everywhere you've lived for the past 10 years, your work history, and whether you have any relatives in the county (in case it goes to trial, for jury selection) and what their names are. They'll ask if you're part of a church or organization (again, for potential jury trial). They will want to know ALL of your medical history. ALL of it. They want to know what you're allergic to, if you've ever broken any bones, if you've ever been to a chiropractor, everything. They will possibly subpoena your medical records (like all of them, so you need to tell them where you've gotten care, you can't legal withhold that information) and quiz you on them. \n\nThey will also want you to describe the accident in as much detail as humanly possible. If it's years after the accident happened, this can be difficult. \n\nThe tip:\n\n1) If you get into a car accident (even a fender bender), after you're safe and have some time, make notes. What was traffic like? The weather? Road conditions? What did you notice, if anything, before the accident? What happened? What parts of your body made contact with the vehicle and when? What hurt immediately after, and how much? What started to hurt later? Who did you talk to at the scene, and what exactly was said? \n\n2) Keep a running list of all medical providers you've seen and what for, even if it's just \"Dr. Mary Smith at St. John's Hospital for knee, Dec 2012.\"", "Unexpected medical episodes requiring hospitalisation. \n\nAlways keep a physical and digital list of diagnoses, treatments, and other relevant information. \n\nI have these lists on my phone, in my wallet, and by my front door.", "Flat tire.\n\nA depressing amount of the population is more or less helpless if they get caught with a flat. Know where your tools are and how to jack your vehicle up.\n\nOr get good insurance with roadside assistance, just know they might take hours to show up...", "Power outages. \n\nHave a good stock of non-perishables, lighting, backup power (power banks, generator if able to), water, and contact with a neighbour or family member in case outages last longer than expected.", "Looking for a place to rent? You'll likely need a history of where you've lived, the dates you've lived there, and how much you paid in rent. Keep track of these things in a Google doc or something similar otherwise the details will be hard to remember after awhile.\n\nApplying for a job? You'll need to know your work history. Again you can store this information for easier access at a later time.", "Start putting money away for retirement from the first day you start working. Many don't realize until it's too late that they have to continue working for more years than they wanted to.", "Finding out there is no toilet paper after you finished your business.\n\nIt's ridiculously easy to prevent - just keep two rolls of paper there. When one runs out, start another and put new one back. When you run out of spares, you still have one roll to keep you rolling until you visit the store.", "Getting locked out of your home. It can happen if your keys are lost or stolen (purse snatching). A lockbox can be a lifesaver. You can also keep a copy of your house key at your workplace." ]

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[ "How to be more articulate I have a tough time with mumbling my words and speaking in a low tone. Are there any types of exercises or fixes that could help me speak with better diction and volume?", "How to be more articulate I have a tough time with mumbling my words and speaking in a low tone. Are there any types of exercises or fixes that could help me speak with better diction and volume?", "How to be more articulate I have a tough time with mumbling my words and speaking in a low tone. Are there any types of exercises or fixes that could help me speak with better diction and volume?", "How to be more articulate I have a tough time with mumbling my words and speaking in a low tone. Are there any types of exercises or fixes that could help me speak with better diction and volume?", "How to be more articulate I have a tough time with mumbling my words and speaking in a low tone. Are there any types of exercises or fixes that could help me speak with better diction and volume?", "How to be more articulate I have a tough time with mumbling my words and speaking in a low tone. Are there any types of exercises or fixes that could help me speak with better diction and volume?" ]

[ "Try reading books aloud to yourself while recording, and listen to it afterwards. It's gonna suck the first couple of times, but if you do it at least twice a week, eventually you'll fully understand your weaknesses and learn to avoid them.", "Take a page out of [Robin Williams'](https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/c3/d4/f4/c3d4f4c351e5b540041a068013bca7ad.jpg) playbook.\n", "Voice actors in audiobooks have one goal: be articulate as possible and engage their audience thoroughly and for hours. Listening to audiobooks from Audible has upped my vocabulary, diction, tone variation. \n\nJust download a book from any genre you think will keep your attention. When you hear the reader say something that really caught your attention, pause and repeat it. It'll get you on the path to sounding more like the person you would like to talk to.", "Neurofeedback. It seemed to have remediated all my speaking issues and not being able to get my words out. I'm going to also guess you may have some anxiety related to your articulation issues. Also other things that can help are nootropics, which can increase your verbal fluency and word finding abilities, and m", "Language is a form of expression humans use to create and share. Language is an art, it should be mastered to better connect with each other. Broken/weak language can misinterpret and limit our imagination. Unfortunately for me, my lungs are weak and constricted so I am physically unable to be clear with my voice :/ raising my voice creates a higher pitch, it really sucks especially as a male.", "Have you tried some regular vocal warm-ups? They are really good for improving your vocal range, but also just an awareness of what your voice can do. Also, when I was doing a voice class at drama school, we memorised a poem or monologue each week and recited it back to the class and took feedback. Perhaps you could memorise stuff, and record yourself reciting it. Think about how it sounds to you, and see how you could improve. " ]

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[ "How to save money on college textbooks? I'm an engineering major, in my 3rd year. Most engineering books are extremely expensive and drain my bank account. Also, I have to buy most books (instead of renting) because we use them in the future for reference or labs. Is there an easy way to save money or an alternate way to finding cheap books?", "How to save money on college textbooks? I'm an engineering major, in my 3rd year. Most engineering books are extremely expensive and drain my bank account. Also, I have to buy most books (instead of renting) because we use them in the future for reference or labs. Is there an easy way to save money or an alternate way to finding cheap books?", "How to save money on college textbooks? I'm an engineering major, in my 3rd year. Most engineering books are extremely expensive and drain my bank account. Also, I have to buy most books (instead of renting) because we use them in the future for reference or labs. Is there an easy way to save money or an alternate way to finding cheap books?" ]

[ "For the general college/high school student, free alternative textbooks are provided by some sites online e.g. Openstax \n\nHowever, this doesn't work if you're looking for a specific textbook or a very specific subject matter. Hence if you really need the textbook, try buying from your seniors who are graduating. They may not need it (or may no see the need for it, unlike you). \n\nA less ethical solution would be to Google (textbook name).pdf . If you do so, do buy the book after you start working. It's only fair to the writers and publishers that you do so. ", "Engineering grad student here. I feel you. \n\nThe best thing I've done is getting the international ", "If the syllabus requires an updated " ]

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[ "How to stop flinching. I flinch at everything, any loud noise makes me jump - I don't get scared by them, my body just involuntarily reacts. Whether its an obvious jump scare on the TV or on a film, or someone dropping something in the office, or a bus' air brakes on the street. Im tired of looking like I'm on edge all the time when I'm actually really chilled! ", "How to stop flinching. I flinch at everything, any loud noise makes me jump - I don't get scared by them, my body just involuntarily reacts. Whether its an obvious jump scare on the TV or on a film, or someone dropping something in the office, or a bus' air brakes on the street. Im tired of looking like I'm on edge all the time when I'm actually really chilled! ", "How to stop flinching. I flinch at everything, any loud noise makes me jump - I don't get scared by them, my body just involuntarily reacts. Whether its an obvious jump scare on the TV or on a film, or someone dropping something in the office, or a bus' air brakes on the street. Im tired of looking like I'm on edge all the time when I'm actually really chilled! " ]

[ "M", "Do you have tinnitus? There's a related condition called [Hyperacusis](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hyperacusis) which I'm pretty convinced I have, where certain ranges of frequencies will almost make me involuntarily shudder, even if I know the noise is coming and am prepared for it. Train whistles, certain truck engines/exhaust noises, certain pitches of a child yelling, etc. It only began happening more frequently very recently. I've been a musician most my life, played in puck bands, djed at clubs, been to many loud rock concerts, so I've done some damage to my ears which appears to have been the culprit. But I only found out about it recently, [on reddit no less.](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/5tqj0t/lpt_your_hearing_is_not_invincible_please_lower/)", "Biofeedback for relaxation should help tremendously, and Buddhist mindfulness training will help you intercept the fight-flight impulse before you jump as well." ]

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[ "Can't Get into Management I've been in logistics for years. I started when I joined the Army when I was 17.5 years old and I'm currently almost 35. My resume has been reviewed by several of my professional friends as well as taking a couple of courses on how to build your resume. I only have an Associate's degree, so this might be my problem, but want another opinion.\n\nI can't get into management positions even though I'm more than qualified for what the job requires (I don't apply for jobs that I'm not qualified for.) Every time I interview, it goes really well and they seem very interested, but I constantly get turned town. Is there something else I can do? Do I need to get a Bachelor's? Take more certification courses? What am I not doing correctly?", "Can't Get into Management I've been in logistics for years. I started when I joined the Army when I was 17.5 years old and I'm currently almost 35. My resume has been reviewed by several of my professional friends as well as taking a couple of courses on how to build your resume. I only have an Associate's degree, so this might be my problem, but want another opinion.\n\nI can't get into management positions even though I'm more than qualified for what the job requires (I don't apply for jobs that I'm not qualified for.) Every time I interview, it goes really well and they seem very interested, but I constantly get turned town. Is there something else I can do? Do I need to get a Bachelor's? Take more certification courses? What am I not doing correctly?", "Can't Get into Management I've been in logistics for years. I started when I joined the Army when I was 17.5 years old and I'm currently almost 35. My resume has been reviewed by several of my professional friends as well as taking a couple of courses on how to build your resume. I only have an Associate's degree, so this might be my problem, but want another opinion.\n\nI can't get into management positions even though I'm more than qualified for what the job requires (I don't apply for jobs that I'm not qualified for.) Every time I interview, it goes really well and they seem very interested, but I constantly get turned town. Is there something else I can do? Do I need to get a Bachelor's? Take more certification courses? What am I not doing correctly?", "Can't Get into Management I've been in logistics for years. I started when I joined the Army when I was 17.5 years old and I'm currently almost 35. My resume has been reviewed by several of my professional friends as well as taking a couple of courses on how to build your resume. I only have an Associate's degree, so this might be my problem, but want another opinion.\n\nI can't get into management positions even though I'm more than qualified for what the job requires (I don't apply for jobs that I'm not qualified for.) Every time I interview, it goes really well and they seem very interested, but I constantly get turned town. Is there something else I can do? Do I need to get a Bachelor's? Take more certification courses? What am I not doing correctly?", "Can't Get into Management I've been in logistics for years. I started when I joined the Army when I was 17.5 years old and I'm currently almost 35. My resume has been reviewed by several of my professional friends as well as taking a couple of courses on how to build your resume. I only have an Associate's degree, so this might be my problem, but want another opinion.\n\nI can't get into management positions even though I'm more than qualified for what the job requires (I don't apply for jobs that I'm not qualified for.) Every time I interview, it goes really well and they seem very interested, but I constantly get turned town. Is there something else I can do? Do I need to get a Bachelor's? Take more certification courses? What am I not doing correctly?", "Can't Get into Management I've been in logistics for years. I started when I joined the Army when I was 17.5 years old and I'm currently almost 35. My resume has been reviewed by several of my professional friends as well as taking a couple of courses on how to build your resume. I only have an Associate's degree, so this might be my problem, but want another opinion.\n\nI can't get into management positions even though I'm more than qualified for what the job requires (I don't apply for jobs that I'm not qualified for.) Every time I interview, it goes really well and they seem very interested, but I constantly get turned town. Is there something else I can do? Do I need to get a Bachelor's? Take more certification courses? What am I not doing correctly?" ]

[ "Certs should not have an impact on whether or not you can get a management job (unless it is a absolute must have, but those are specific cases). Management is less about being capable at a job and more about being able to put a team together and make them better at what they are already good at.\n\nI don't know your background, and I certainly wasn't in on your interview, but I can give you a few generic bits of advice.\n\n&#x200B;\n\n1. Leadership. As I said before, management is about making people better at what they do. Give your team an environment where they can grow into better versions of themselves and advance within the company.\n2. Responsibility. You need to demonstrate that you are capable of being responsible for a team. You can do this by involving yourself in higher level functions within your company. If there are projects you can join to show your value, join them. If there are practices that are inefficient and in need of improvement, put a plan together to optimize those processes.\n3. You say that your interviews go well, but you never get the job. This could be because of a number of reasons, but don't get discouraged. Think of each as a learning opportunity. \n4. You mentioned education. Continuing your education is never a bad idea. If there are degree programs out there that you are interested in, and you think are relevant to your 5/10/30 year path, go for it. I'll take someone that is eager to learn and demonstrates this by using their personal time for career development and fold them into my team any day.", "Do you have any sort of leadership experience? Problem solving? Even volunteering in those areas can be helpful. \n\nMost people assume that being good at their job means they should move into management, when that is not necessarily the case. While that can help, managing people requires a different/additional skillsets. If you are relying on your work experience and cannot demonstrate that, it could be your issue.", "In my experience it's much easier to get a management job when you have management experience on your resume. The best way to get into management without that experience is to get promoted so you might try and find a smaller place with good room for advancement.", "From what I’ve seen in my career, it’s not the person who knows everything that gets into management, but the person that can build a team that knows everything. Are you willing to delegate tasks but still take responsibility for the outcome? Are you willing to “let go” of responsibilities you’ve taken on to let others grow? It’s hard to shift from “doer” to “facilitator”, but it is vital to career growth if you want to step into management.", "What are you missing for a bachelors? If you take one night class a semester you can honestly say you are actively working towards a bachelors. It is one more thing to get you closer. IMO the real advantage to more classes is the chance to further network.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nGood Luckto you", "Bend the truth or prop up info and inflate what you've done. \n\nAny problems you’ve solved.\nAny people you’ve ever managed. \nLeadership things didn't you do anything of substance\n\nAlso this is huge.reword your experiences. Lets say you have a job picking up trash. Dont say u picked up trash. Say “i managed the organizational efforts at my company” its basically same thing but not interpreted as such. Dont say you handled logistics say “i supervised the logistic operations that included 20 trucks a day or movement of 50,000 pounds of good a day” sure you may have done a small part of that but attach yourself to the entire operation to leech strength by association to the thing that is greater than you.\n\nLastly, your inability to get a position after trying so much is your fault no one else's. You are doing something wrong. You probably need to network better. Work strategically not harder. You need to negotiate and not come across as begging or over desirous of a role. Companies that have manager positions open want to hire somebody, you are just not emitting strength. Figure out a problem the company may be trying to solve and bring that up in the interview. Learn about their industry and think of a valuable comment to impress someone, show them you are a leader." ]

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[ "How to Argue More Effectively/Less Emotionally How do I argue effectively with someone who twists my words and experiences against me? I can walk into a \"discussion\" feeling confident that my reasons are rooted in sensible logic. But I get emotional when what I've said has been taken out of context and used to attack my character, intentions or intelligence. When I get emotional I feel like I can't think logically and my arguements become quick quips and comebacks against the other person or for my own defense. The quips don't add anything of value to the discussion at hand, and just starts more arguements on unrelated topics. I want to be able to hold my own in an arguement more effectively and with less emotion.", "How to Argue More Effectively/Less Emotionally How do I argue effectively with someone who twists my words and experiences against me? I can walk into a \"discussion\" feeling confident that my reasons are rooted in sensible logic. But I get emotional when what I've said has been taken out of context and used to attack my character, intentions or intelligence. When I get emotional I feel like I can't think logically and my arguements become quick quips and comebacks against the other person or for my own defense. The quips don't add anything of value to the discussion at hand, and just starts more arguements on unrelated topics. I want to be able to hold my own in an arguement more effectively and with less emotion.", "How to Argue More Effectively/Less Emotionally How do I argue effectively with someone who twists my words and experiences against me? I can walk into a \"discussion\" feeling confident that my reasons are rooted in sensible logic. But I get emotional when what I've said has been taken out of context and used to attack my character, intentions or intelligence. When I get emotional I feel like I can't think logically and my arguements become quick quips and comebacks against the other person or for my own defense. The quips don't add anything of value to the discussion at hand, and just starts more arguements on unrelated topics. I want to be able to hold my own in an arguement more effectively and with less emotion.", "How to Argue More Effectively/Less Emotionally How do I argue effectively with someone who twists my words and experiences against me? I can walk into a \"discussion\" feeling confident that my reasons are rooted in sensible logic. But I get emotional when what I've said has been taken out of context and used to attack my character, intentions or intelligence. When I get emotional I feel like I can't think logically and my arguements become quick quips and comebacks against the other person or for my own defense. The quips don't add anything of value to the discussion at hand, and just starts more arguements on unrelated topics. I want to be able to hold my own in an arguement more effectively and with less emotion.", "How to Argue More Effectively/Less Emotionally How do I argue effectively with someone who twists my words and experiences against me? I can walk into a \"discussion\" feeling confident that my reasons are rooted in sensible logic. But I get emotional when what I've said has been taken out of context and used to attack my character, intentions or intelligence. When I get emotional I feel like I can't think logically and my arguements become quick quips and comebacks against the other person or for my own defense. The quips don't add anything of value to the discussion at hand, and just starts more arguements on unrelated topics. I want to be able to hold my own in an arguement more effectively and with less emotion.", "How to Argue More Effectively/Less Emotionally How do I argue effectively with someone who twists my words and experiences against me? I can walk into a \"discussion\" feeling confident that my reasons are rooted in sensible logic. But I get emotional when what I've said has been taken out of context and used to attack my character, intentions or intelligence. When I get emotional I feel like I can't think logically and my arguements become quick quips and comebacks against the other person or for my own defense. The quips don't add anything of value to the discussion at hand, and just starts more arguements on unrelated topics. I want to be able to hold my own in an arguement more effectively and with less emotion.", "How to Argue More Effectively/Less Emotionally How do I argue effectively with someone who twists my words and experiences against me? I can walk into a \"discussion\" feeling confident that my reasons are rooted in sensible logic. But I get emotional when what I've said has been taken out of context and used to attack my character, intentions or intelligence. When I get emotional I feel like I can't think logically and my arguements become quick quips and comebacks against the other person or for my own defense. The quips don't add anything of value to the discussion at hand, and just starts more arguements on unrelated topics. I want to be able to hold my own in an arguement more effectively and with less emotion.", "How to Argue More Effectively/Less Emotionally How do I argue effectively with someone who twists my words and experiences against me? I can walk into a \"discussion\" feeling confident that my reasons are rooted in sensible logic. But I get emotional when what I've said has been taken out of context and used to attack my character, intentions or intelligence. When I get emotional I feel like I can't think logically and my arguements become quick quips and comebacks against the other person or for my own defense. The quips don't add anything of value to the discussion at hand, and just starts more arguements on unrelated topics. I want to be able to hold my own in an arguement more effectively and with less emotion.", "How to Argue More Effectively/Less Emotionally How do I argue effectively with someone who twists my words and experiences against me? I can walk into a \"discussion\" feeling confident that my reasons are rooted in sensible logic. But I get emotional when what I've said has been taken out of context and used to attack my character, intentions or intelligence. When I get emotional I feel like I can't think logically and my arguements become quick quips and comebacks against the other person or for my own defense. The quips don't add anything of value to the discussion at hand, and just starts more arguements on unrelated topics. I want to be able to hold my own in an arguement more effectively and with less emotion." ]

[ "By being humble. Look at arguing as working together to find truth, not to prove to your opponent that you are right. If you go in with that mindset, counterpoints will feel helpful rather than like an attack", "Don’t have difficult discussions when you are feeling upset. If you notice that you are upset, stop arguing. Take a break from the argument. Go for a walk. Write down what you want to say. Then come back and start the discussion over when you are in a calm and collected frame of mind.", "When you argue back about something in disagreement, start your sentences with \"I understand that you ....\" It will 1) make you genuinely think and try to understand the other person's point of view and 2) make the other person feel recognised and listened to. \n\nTackle discussions as \"teamwork\" and try to find a way to come to an agreement together rather than a confrontation or a battle, regardless of what the other persons attitude is.\n\nIf you need to excuse yourself to calm down just communicate that as calmly as you can.", "Try to clearly see the other person's viewpoint. Take a breath and count to 3 before saying anything when you feel your emotions boiling over.", "Practice makes perfect.\n\nFocus on the twisting of words. Meaning slam on the breaks as soon as the first word is twisted and don't relieve pressure unless and until they acknowledge what you actually said. Don't budge one inch on anything until you have the words you actually used back in play.", "I'd say to take a break before replying. Commenting out of spite might turn out well if you're namecalling someone that an entire sub is out for, but it'll just tilt the argument towards losing its constructive capacity.\n\nHave a list - even if in your mind only, but preferably written down too - about the points you made, the points the other person made and their relationship to each other.\n\nYou can repeat your points they didn't adress, you can highlight their points you've already refuted *with facts* (hearsay or such is understandable if they ignore), and also reflect on the points you haven't adressed yet. It's best if you don't have a definitely-disagreeing reflex, they might be right on some points. Conceding occasionally can also strengthen your position as you aren't blindly disagreeing with everything just because they are the one saying it.\n\n(again: People take time to answer, especially on Reddit. Don't feel pressured to argue in \"real\" time.)", "Don't argue. Think of it as a normal conversation and if they start twisting your words, don't even bother wasting your time. \n\nSomeone once said (sorry can't remember who), it's hard to win an argument with a smart person. It's impossible to win an argument with a stupid person.\n\nIf they attack and use your words out of context it usually shows a lack of intelligence on their part. They must be unable to formulate their own argument.", "Create a new habit by starting small. When in an adversarial situation, count to 3 before answering. The quips and snapping window vanishes and you begin to own the conversation through sensible and intelligent banter.\nWhen you've mastered that, work this tactic into your arguments: always acknowledge your adversaries comments before lobbing your verbal weaponry. Often, your adversary isn't arguing because he thinks he's right, he wants to have validation and feel valuable. I mean, you shot his misinformed answered down 12 times already with your newly mastered sensible and intelligent banter. Be a good sport and stop running up the score on an issue that was probably resolved in the first 3 minutes. Relieve his need to feel relevant through acknowledgement. Here are a couple examples:\nScenario 1,Him: The craters you see on the moon is from where the astronauts landed.\nYou: one.. two.. three...I can see why you say that. That's a clever interpretation of what you see. However.....\nScenario B, him \"The Bangles are the best band ever! Such lyrics and their song writing shows how talented they are.\"\nYou : one.... two..... three....\"you're absolutely right, they are talented. Did you know that every one of the 4 band members studied how to play a musical instrument?\":::::0", "If you have a lot of built up toxicity and baggage with a particular person, its easy to fall into patterns. Remain uwaveringly focused on the issue at PRESENT, try not to get baited and side tracked into irrelevant matters. Use \"I\" statements and speak to your own needs and how you feel, and ask if they are willing to do the same for themselves, rather than aiming criticisms. If you feel the need to make a quip against the other person, try to figure out what the pain is underneath that and speak to that instead - like \"I'm feeling really angry right now\" or \"I'm confused and I need time to process what you just said\". Avoid sarcasm at all costs. Be clear about your needs, the facts of the situation, and most importantly set boundaries against any form of disrespect or abuse. Be willing to honor the boundaries by calmly ending the conversation immediately. Remember that you cannot change them or control their behavior, you can only control you." ]

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[ "360 Controller Holder Whats a cheap and easy way to keep 360 controllers in one place. I have a problem of them constantly falling / crashing onto the floor", "360 Controller Holder Whats a cheap and easy way to keep 360 controllers in one place. I have a problem of them constantly falling / crashing onto the floor" ]

[ "It depends on your current setup of the Xbox 360 and tv. If its on a dresser like I do, I just put it in the drawers underneath it. If its in a living room, I could see putting Velcro on the battery pack (If wireless) and the other side on the table or whatever the Xbox 360 is on (As long as the surface is flat).", "I've built controller stands with K'nex and Lego bricks before. Not specifically for the 360, but they worked pretty well. Didn't really look that good in the entertainment center, but it was very functional.\n\nAnd it was a nice project to spend a couple of hours on. I was also 12." ]

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[ "Any great high school studying tips except for the obvious flashcards and Quizlet or no-cellphone-rule Finals is coming up. Yes, yes, we are all panicking.\n\nI'm panicking, because I spent four days studying for this one easy quiz in AP Chemistry, and I freaking failed (as always). This has ALWAYS happened for EVERY single chapter test -- I don't study, I get a 50%, I study my @ss off, I get a 50%. Oh, and same in my other \"hard classes\".\n\nAny tips for studying? I need to pull off a literal *100%* on the final to raise my grade to a B or a B+. \n\nThanks!\n\n", "Any great high school studying tips except for the obvious flashcards and Quizlet or no-cellphone-rule Finals is coming up. Yes, yes, we are all panicking.\n\nI'm panicking, because I spent four days studying for this one easy quiz in AP Chemistry, and I freaking failed (as always). This has ALWAYS happened for EVERY single chapter test -- I don't study, I get a 50%, I study my @ss off, I get a 50%. Oh, and same in my other \"hard classes\".\n\nAny tips for studying? I need to pull off a literal *100%* on the final to raise my grade to a B or a B+. \n\nThanks!\n\n", "Any great high school studying tips except for the obvious flashcards and Quizlet or no-cellphone-rule Finals is coming up. Yes, yes, we are all panicking.\n\nI'm panicking, because I spent four days studying for this one easy quiz in AP Chemistry, and I freaking failed (as always). This has ALWAYS happened for EVERY single chapter test -- I don't study, I get a 50%, I study my @ss off, I get a 50%. Oh, and same in my other \"hard classes\".\n\nAny tips for studying? I need to pull off a literal *100%* on the final to raise my grade to a B or a B+. \n\nThanks!\n\n", "Any great high school studying tips except for the obvious flashcards and Quizlet or no-cellphone-rule Finals is coming up. Yes, yes, we are all panicking.\n\nI'm panicking, because I spent four days studying for this one easy quiz in AP Chemistry, and I freaking failed (as always). This has ALWAYS happened for EVERY single chapter test -- I don't study, I get a 50%, I study my @ss off, I get a 50%. Oh, and same in my other \"hard classes\".\n\nAny tips for studying? I need to pull off a literal *100%* on the final to raise my grade to a B or a B+. \n\nThanks!\n\n", "Any great high school studying tips except for the obvious flashcards and Quizlet or no-cellphone-rule Finals is coming up. Yes, yes, we are all panicking.\n\nI'm panicking, because I spent four days studying for this one easy quiz in AP Chemistry, and I freaking failed (as always). This has ALWAYS happened for EVERY single chapter test -- I don't study, I get a 50%, I study my @ss off, I get a 50%. Oh, and same in my other \"hard classes\".\n\nAny tips for studying? I need to pull off a literal *100%* on the final to raise my grade to a B or a B+. \n\nThanks!\n\n", "Any great high school studying tips except for the obvious flashcards and Quizlet or no-cellphone-rule Finals is coming up. Yes, yes, we are all panicking.\n\nI'm panicking, because I spent four days studying for this one easy quiz in AP Chemistry, and I freaking failed (as always). This has ALWAYS happened for EVERY single chapter test -- I don't study, I get a 50%, I study my @ss off, I get a 50%. Oh, and same in my other \"hard classes\".\n\nAny tips for studying? I need to pull off a literal *100%* on the final to raise my grade to a B or a B+. \n\nThanks!\n\n", "Any great high school studying tips except for the obvious flashcards and Quizlet or no-cellphone-rule Finals is coming up. Yes, yes, we are all panicking.\n\nI'm panicking, because I spent four days studying for this one easy quiz in AP Chemistry, and I freaking failed (as always). This has ALWAYS happened for EVERY single chapter test -- I don't study, I get a 50%, I study my @ss off, I get a 50%. Oh, and same in my other \"hard classes\".\n\nAny tips for studying? I need to pull off a literal *100%* on the final to raise my grade to a B or a B+. \n\nThanks!\n\n", "Any great high school studying tips except for the obvious flashcards and Quizlet or no-cellphone-rule Finals is coming up. Yes, yes, we are all panicking.\n\nI'm panicking, because I spent four days studying for this one easy quiz in AP Chemistry, and I freaking failed (as always). This has ALWAYS happened for EVERY single chapter test -- I don't study, I get a 50%, I study my @ss off, I get a 50%. Oh, and same in my other \"hard classes\".\n\nAny tips for studying? I need to pull off a literal *100%* on the final to raise my grade to a B or a B+. \n\nThanks!\n\n", "Any great high school studying tips except for the obvious flashcards and Quizlet or no-cellphone-rule Finals is coming up. Yes, yes, we are all panicking.\n\nI'm panicking, because I spent four days studying for this one easy quiz in AP Chemistry, and I freaking failed (as always). This has ALWAYS happened for EVERY single chapter test -- I don't study, I get a 50%, I study my @ss off, I get a 50%. Oh, and same in my other \"hard classes\".\n\nAny tips for studying? I need to pull off a literal *100%* on the final to raise my grade to a B or a B+. \n\nThanks!\n\n" ]

[ "There is evidence that the act of physically writing things down helps learning. So - take a lot of notes by hand while studying. Try to get decent rest. And study in an environment that is as similar (light,noise,position) tot he test environment as possible.", "If allowed you can chew gum while you are studying and while taking the test (or a quiz) chew the same kind of gum. A lot of high schools may not allow this but if your teacher is cool with it he/she may allow an exception; ask before you start though!", "write what you need to memorize down....then keep rewriting it removing the memorized parts on each rewrite until you dont need to rewrite", "Try to explain what you learnt to a family member. The better you understand something, the easier it will be to explain. This work best for concepts rather than facts. Also, lots of practice questions.", "Teach someone else what you're studying. Your siblings, or pets. If you can walk someone else through it, correctly, that will help it stick in your head better.", "Read/ study - write( without seeing books then match if you want to and correct if needed) - explain to friends - repeat.\n\nExplaining to friend = revision plus better understanding.\n\nRevision = key to memorize", "One time I was giving my Exams and I made AN AWESOME PLAN TO GET FULL 100% MARKS, Basically I got a wireless Bluetooth earpiece and put it in my ear, pulled a cap over it and told the teacher I had a cold so I'll be wearing this cap during the exam, now obviously I couldn't talk with the silence in the room so my brother just spoke the chapter name and I coughed at the one from where the question was, he would understand he would continue to tell me all the points and examples and I sneezed if I wanted to move to the next chapter... IT WAS BASICALLY AWESOME", "In a fresh notebook draw a vertical line down the middle of the page. On the left side of the page write down all the questions you think may come up on the test, especially material that the instructor has repeated, or has asked as a question during lecture. On the right side of the page write down the answers. Give yourself plenty of room, you have a whole notebook to use. When studying take a sheet of paper and cover the right hand column so you are just looking at the questions. If you can easily answer the question, put a star next to it so you can skip it and study only the questions that you are having difficulty with. When all the questions have a star next to them, go through the whole notebook to make sure you have retained all the information, and you're ready to ace your exams.", "Find out how you memorize things best.\nVisually? Mindmaps, videos of the topic. \nWhen writing by hand? Write yourself a cheat sheet. (that's what works best for me, while I passionately hate mind maps or videos) \nVia audio? Try reading out loud to your self or watch videos.\nDo you learn better while moving? Get up and walk around while studying. \nBecause what you describe sounds like a failure of method, not of your general skill. \n\nExplain things out loud to an imaginary audience (or if you have friends/family/other victims, to them). If you can explain a concept, you've understood it and most likely memorized it. \n\nSet yourself a timer (for me, pomodoro style) for a set amount of time. NO distractions. No peeing, no getting a glass of water, no talking to anyone except to say \"ill talk to you in x minutes\". After your interval is over (I'd recommend a relatively short one, honestly), take a break for a few minutes (timed, too) where you get something to drink, go to the toilet etc. After a few iterations, take a longer (still timed) break. That way you don't burn out while studying. \n\nAnd above all - prioritise sleep. Honestly. No studying in the world will save you if you're exhausted during the exam. You need to sleep and rest to transfer information from short term memory to long term. Enough sleep, cold room, proper bedtimes. \n\nAnd, if possible, some fresh air every now and then while studying to clear your kind.\n\n" ]

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[ "First year of community college, how to stay motivated? Looking to stay motivated, not overwhelm or stress too much. What should I invest in? (pls don't say friends because I can't make those)", "First year of community college, how to stay motivated? Looking to stay motivated, not overwhelm or stress too much. What should I invest in? (pls don't say friends because I can't make those)", "First year of community college, how to stay motivated? Looking to stay motivated, not overwhelm or stress too much. What should I invest in? (pls don't say friends because I can't make those)", "First year of community college, how to stay motivated? Looking to stay motivated, not overwhelm or stress too much. What should I invest in? (pls don't say friends because I can't make those)", "First year of community college, how to stay motivated? Looking to stay motivated, not overwhelm or stress too much. What should I invest in? (pls don't say friends because I can't make those)", "First year of community college, how to stay motivated? Looking to stay motivated, not overwhelm or stress too much. What should I invest in? (pls don't say friends because I can't make those)", "First year of community college, how to stay motivated? Looking to stay motivated, not overwhelm or stress too much. What should I invest in? (pls don't say friends because I can't make those)", "First year of community college, how to stay motivated? Looking to stay motivated, not overwhelm or stress too much. What should I invest in? (pls don't say friends because I can't make those)", "First year of community college, how to stay motivated? Looking to stay motivated, not overwhelm or stress too much. What should I invest in? (pls don't say friends because I can't make those)" ]

[ "Join a study group with a diverse bunch of wacky people and join in their crazy adventures. You might need to brush up on your paintball skills.", "Talk to other students, especially those who are non-traditional-age (i.e., not in the 18-22 age group that most full-time college students belong to). Find out why they are taking CC classes now and how they're approaching it. Often these are people for whom college didn't work when they were 18-22, or who couldn't afford it then, or who made different choices. When these people come back to college in their late 20s or 30s or 40s (or 70s!) they often have new clarity about what they're doing and why they're doing it. Their time is limited -- they have families, children, jobs that they have to work around -- so the successful ones have come up with ways to manage their time and effort for maximum productivity. And they're going after this because they want it, not because it's what they're expected to do or a way to pass the time. They can be really good models for you. Plus, they'll also tell you what *didn't* work for them, which is just as handy. \n\n", "Just realize in the end you are putting money and even more importantly time into what your future can hold. I myself have fucked around two years in college and I'm paying for it. While the tuition hurts my wallet, the fact I wasted my time hurts so much more. If you have a problem striving for high grades, set rewards for yourself. That keeps a lot of people going :) good luck", "Print your tuition receipt. When it feels like it'd be easy to give up, remind yourself of the commitment your wallet made. It's not \"feel good\" but it certainly can help get over a \"why bother\" hump...", "Major in something you're passionate about or at least enjoy. Stress is unavoidable, but if you enjoy your field, motivation will be easier to come by. Might take you a little bit to discover what you want to major in in the first place, but that's alright. Look at everything as an opportunity.", "I always just figured that was what I did. Went to school, worked. Didn't really feel the need to be motivated, because it just _was_. Hard to put it a different way. It's just what you do and you get on with it. Take shit that is interesting while knocking out the pre-req's.", "Do your homework as soon as humanly possible. Read or watch a Youtube vid on the subject you are going over in class that day. Can't tell you how much less stressful my 2nd semester at community college has been doing this! \nThis decrease in stress = more motivation to continue.\n\n", "make a list of stuff you want to learn and don't know about. go through the lists and answer every question every single day. while you are answering the questions (as of which are related to your course) new qyestions will arise and pique your curiosity. Don't force yourself to do shit you don't like. make it so that you want to know every single thing, every little quintessential quirk about the subject. make yourself wonder aboit it. (if you have trouble, get a notebook and write the questions you come up with and at the end of the day check em off. if they aren't all checked, become motivated to answer them next morning.)\n\nthen again its community college so you can get freakin wasted and party once in a while.", "1. Never take classes before noon unless absolutely necessary.\n2. Take great notes, record audio of the lecture if permitted.\n3. Do homework immediately after class, it's much easier when it's fresh in your mind.\n4. Take classes at the small satellite campuses (if there are any), they are much more laid back and the professors are much happier with the smaller classes. \n5. Avoid all beer and keg parties.\n6. Remain celibate. One night stands are strictly forbidden.\n7. Make a giant poster listing the average salaries for graduates in your chosen field. Post it on the wall directly opposite the foot of your bed so it is the first thing you see every morning when you wake up. That will keep your eye on the prize at the end of the journey.\n8. Delete your Facebook account.\n9. Join study groups, not kickball teams.\n10. Always meet with the professor during office hours at least a couple times per semester, when they get to know you personally and they remember your name, they will treat you better when grade time comes if you are on the fence gradewise. But don't be a teachers pet who sits in the front row of class and tries to answer every question. That will backfire on you." ]

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[ "Waking up with better hair Everytime I wake up in the morning to go to school, I end up with this immovable tuft of hair that sticks up in the back of my head no matter how much water I put on it. I end up having to go to school with it and it annoys me.", "Waking up with better hair Everytime I wake up in the morning to go to school, I end up with this immovable tuft of hair that sticks up in the back of my head no matter how much water I put on it. I end up having to go to school with it and it annoys me.", "Waking up with better hair Everytime I wake up in the morning to go to school, I end up with this immovable tuft of hair that sticks up in the back of my head no matter how much water I put on it. I end up having to go to school with it and it annoys me.", "Waking up with better hair Everytime I wake up in the morning to go to school, I end up with this immovable tuft of hair that sticks up in the back of my head no matter how much water I put on it. I end up having to go to school with it and it annoys me.", "Waking up with better hair Everytime I wake up in the morning to go to school, I end up with this immovable tuft of hair that sticks up in the back of my head no matter how much water I put on it. I end up having to go to school with it and it annoys me.", "Waking up with better hair Everytime I wake up in the morning to go to school, I end up with this immovable tuft of hair that sticks up in the back of my head no matter how much water I put on it. I end up having to go to school with it and it annoys me.", "Waking up with better hair Everytime I wake up in the morning to go to school, I end up with this immovable tuft of hair that sticks up in the back of my head no matter how much water I put on it. I end up having to go to school with it and it annoys me.", "Waking up with better hair Everytime I wake up in the morning to go to school, I end up with this immovable tuft of hair that sticks up in the back of my head no matter how much water I put on it. I end up having to go to school with it and it annoys me.", "Waking up with better hair Everytime I wake up in the morning to go to school, I end up with this immovable tuft of hair that sticks up in the back of my head no matter how much water I put on it. I end up having to go to school with it and it annoys me.", "Waking up with better hair Everytime I wake up in the morning to go to school, I end up with this immovable tuft of hair that sticks up in the back of my head no matter how much water I put on it. I end up having to go to school with it and it annoys me.", "Waking up with better hair Everytime I wake up in the morning to go to school, I end up with this immovable tuft of hair that sticks up in the back of my head no matter how much water I put on it. I end up having to go to school with it and it annoys me.", "Waking up with better hair Everytime I wake up in the morning to go to school, I end up with this immovable tuft of hair that sticks up in the back of my head no matter how much water I put on it. I end up having to go to school with it and it annoys me." ]

[ "You could try sleeping on a silk or satin pillowcase. The friction caused by cotton percale and the like can mess up your hair, but silk won't catch the hair like that, it'll sort of glide instead.", "When I'm rubbing in my conditioner while showering, I brush through my hair completely until there are no more knots. When I get out of the shower I wrap my hair up in a towel for five minutes and then let it air dry. No tangles. :)", "I get this too, but the shower soon fixes it. I think the increased water pressure over just using a bit of water at the sink makes the difference.", "in my case, i wake up with intense dragon ball z hair, but as the day goes on, my hair flattens and becomes epic. a good trick is to put on a tuque as soon as you wake up", "What I do is shower in the evening and towel dry my hair as best as possible. Afterwards I wear a stocking cap or beanie whatever you want to call it, and wear this for a couple hours after while it dries. With it tight against the head, the hair has nowhere to go and forms to the cap. If you sleep in it, it can sometimes make your hair a mess depending on how much you roll around, but I take my chances.", "Two tips I have used. If you wear a bandana with wet hair, however your hair is set is how it will stay even when sleeping, want the hair to curve over your forehead like a breaking wave so it doesn't touch? Push a bandana under your bangs and have them lay on your bandana, mine never touch my forehead that way. Other is baby oil or whatever its called, comb a small amount through your hair and it will be more pliable.", "Try taking a blow-dryer to it; the heat should help make the hair more pliable (this is probably why showers work better, too).", "Take a shower before bed. Then dry with towel but leave it damp. Use your hand to comb through and get rid of knots. Shape it how you would want it in the morning and put a snug fitting beanie on. Hit the sack and wake up with perfectly soft and stylish hair. I do this all the time when I care about what I look like. works wonders.", "It sounds like you are sleeping with it in that position. My hair does this, and it's especially crazy if I sleep on it while it's still wet. Just make sure you are sleeping with your hair in the downward position, or else wear a hat or something to bed. Or maybe get a tiny rubberband and tie it in a tiny ponytail that goes in the direction you want.", "I'll be honest, I always had that problem, and then I buzzed my hair off. Gratuitous, perhaps, but problem solved.\n\nA more likely solution would be to try out some light hold pomade or something - just go to Walgreens or CVS and get some something to rub in your hair if it's an issue.", "I have heard - though not tried - that going to sleep with a damp head of hair and a bandana tied around your hair to hold it in the position you want it to be in when you wake up trains your hair not to be cowlick-y.", "Spray your brush with WD40 to instantly detangle knots, smooth out unruly hairs and give a glossy sheen\n\n[Disclaimer for US denizens](http://www.toolbank.com/cossh/0494.PDF)" ]

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[ "If you know a car is about to plow into the back of yours while you are stopped at a red light, what should you do to brace yourself physically? ", "If you know a car is about to plow into the back of yours while you are stopped at a red light, what should you do to brace yourself physically? ", "If you know a car is about to plow into the back of yours while you are stopped at a red light, what should you do to brace yourself physically? ", "If you know a car is about to plow into the back of yours while you are stopped at a red light, what should you do to brace yourself physically? ", "If you know a car is about to plow into the back of yours while you are stopped at a red light, what should you do to brace yourself physically? ", "If you know a car is about to plow into the back of yours while you are stopped at a red light, what should you do to brace yourself physically? ", "If you know a car is about to plow into the back of yours while you are stopped at a red light, what should you do to brace yourself physically? ", "If you know a car is about to plow into the back of yours while you are stopped at a red light, what should you do to brace yourself physically? ", "If you know a car is about to plow into the back of yours while you are stopped at a red light, what should you do to brace yourself physically? ", "If you know a car is about to plow into the back of yours while you are stopped at a red light, what should you do to brace yourself physically? ", "If you know a car is about to plow into the back of yours while you are stopped at a red light, what should you do to brace yourself physically? ", "If you know a car is about to plow into the back of yours while you are stopped at a red light, what should you do to brace yourself physically? ", "If you know a car is about to plow into the back of yours while you are stopped at a red light, what should you do to brace yourself physically? ", "If you know a car is about to plow into the back of yours while you are stopped at a red light, what should you do to brace yourself physically? ", "If you know a car is about to plow into the back of yours while you are stopped at a red light, what should you do to brace yourself physically? ", "If you know a car is about to plow into the back of yours while you are stopped at a red light, what should you do to brace yourself physically? ", "If you know a car is about to plow into the back of yours while you are stopped at a red light, what should you do to brace yourself physically? ", "If you know a car is about to plow into the back of yours while you are stopped at a red light, what should you do to brace yourself physically? ", "If you know a car is about to plow into the back of yours while you are stopped at a red light, what should you do to brace yourself physically? ", "If you know a car is about to plow into the back of yours while you are stopped at a red light, what should you do to brace yourself physically? ", "If you know a car is about to plow into the back of yours while you are stopped at a red light, what should you do to brace yourself physically? " ]

[ "When I saw a truck coming full speed toward me (I had stopped to turn left, he hadn't noticed) I had just enough time to look forward, take my foot off the brake, and breathe out to relax as much as I could. The breathing out was either instinctual or just lucky, I'm sure I wasn't thinking that clearly.\n\nMy car was totalled, his truck was totalled. I still had some neck pain for a few days, but nothing lasting. Nobody hurt. No idea if anything at all I did made the slightest bit of difference.", "Assuming you have an airbag, the best thing to do is drop your arms and relax into the crash with your head on the headrest. The head rest and airbag will protect you, mostly and relaxed people actually do better in car crashes than tense people. Hence, whey drunks will oftentimes walk away from a head-on accident where they kill someone in the other car.", "\"Relax and let it go\" will get you killed; don't listen to these jackasses. \n\nTensing up will cause more damage to your muscles and ligaments, but if you relax to the point you're a rag doll you'll hurt yourself even more.\n\nIf you let your car go on neutral and just roll off, you may be pushed into oncoming traffic and cause yet another crash. Don't leave your foot on the brakes because of even harder whiplash; press your free foot to the ground so you push yourself back onto your seat; and be sure to stop your car as soon as possible. Turning the car off protects you in case of fuel leaks that may cause a fire, if there are any sparks.\n\nIf you're the first car and you will be bumped into an intersection, be ready to steer out of someone's way to avoid another impact. It may be counter intuitive but you may benefit from letting your car swerve onto the curb/isle if nobody's there, because it will help stop your car, but be sure you won't end up falling on the opposite lane.\n\nKeeping your hands on the wheel also lets you brace yourself and not be thrown forward. Seatbelts keep you in place but the inertia will hurt you, bracing yourself also helps diminishing the whiplash to your head.\n\nMost airbags will only deploy in hard head-on collisions, and if you think it will be your 1st line of defense, you will be sorry.\n\nSource: Multiple cases of personal experience", "Relax as much as possible. Being limp has proven to be the best way to minimize injury. A quick google search will confirm this. It's why sleeping/drunk people suffer less injuries in crashes. ", "It's happened to me twice where I couldn't get out of the way at an intersection. Pull the parking brake, stand on the brake and put it in gear (I drive a manual). The rear end will get messed up but you don't want to be pushed into cross traffic. Then you watch their face in the rearview mirror as they look up too late. It's kind of funny.\n\nNot sure if it is the best advice, it's just what I did.", "Engine off, Put you car in neutral, pull your handbrake, and relax as best you can. Bracing tears muscles and breaks bones since the human body never evolved to withstand umpteen thousands of newtons thrashing it around like a cat in a hurricane.", "What the fuck this thread is Full of contradictory advice. There's literally an opposite message to every comment ", "If you have time to do anything at all and you think that the person behind you about to hit you is a conscious human being, lay on the horn and flash your brake lights as much as you can. The best thing you can do is make them reduce their speed. Even if they still hit you, hitting you at 40mph instead of 60mph is a lot better.\n\nIf you don't have time to do that, you don't have time to brace yourself anyways.", "I've been t boned on the driver side and I was completely relaxed because I was not aware it was about to happen, someone ran a stop sign and a tree covered me seeing their car. By the time my parapheral caught it I was already being hit. I had no injuries but both cars were totaled. If you looked at the car you would've thought the driver died but I was completly fine. A week after the accident I still had glass in my scalp/hair from my window which shattered. My air bag also went off, I distinctly remember my face stinging for a few hours. I didn't even pass out. I was wearing a baseball cap though that was about a block away because of the impact. I opened my eyes and all the smoke from the air bag was in my face, I thought I was in heaven even though I don't believe in heaven. I was kinda like oh wow it does exist as my first initial reaction and then the smoke disappated and there were strangers screaming at me to get out of my car because they thought it was going to explode. It was a Saab which I feel like I should mention Bc they are regarded as safe. I only went to the hospital as a formality and went home in a couple of hours. Didn't even have a concussion. So yeah I think those saying to be relaxed are actually right. Tensing up is what causes breaks. Anything outside of just a break no matter what you do you are fucked. Wear a seatbelt to avoid getting thrown, that's about it. They since cut down that tree that blocked the view for both drivers, a major oversight prior though...", "I had this happen to me...I took my foot off the brake. There was enough distance between me and the person in front of me that I didn't hit them (it was a little bit uphill). It wasn't a high speed collision...maybe 20-25 mph but I wasn't even sore afterwards.", "leave plenty of room between you and the car (or stop line) ahead of you. (except if you need to go over a sensor to activate the light).\nRun the red light if you can do it safely or switching lanes if possible.\nDon't press on the breaks too hard, you will be absorbing more energy that way which is not good.\nSomeone else mentioned honking. I think that's something that might help. A small reduction in speed equals to a much bigger reduction in energy that will need to be absorbed.", "When it happened to me, I just took my foot off the break, kinda aimed the car into a clear zone and gave it a little gas. It definitely helped, and there wasn't that much damage, but.... I kinda just did it and didn't think. It happens sooo fast there is just no way that you're gonna execute some kind of pre-conceived plan. Good luck! ", "This is of course situationally dependent, but it seems to me that accelerating would help lesson the force from the rear end collision.", "The best way to prepare for a rear end hit is to leave enough room to escape from the situation before it happens.\n\nI nearly got rear ended once. Luckily I was smart enough to leave space between me and the car in front. As I was watching the car behind barrel down on me, the instant I realized he was going to hit me, I punched the gas and noped the fuck out of the way, around the car in front, and into the shoulder.", "Take deep breath, Hold tight on the steering wheel and Lock yourself in close to the seat so when the car hits you. you move Least amount of space.", "In the documentary \"The Punisher\", Tom Jane acclerated and performed a turn as the assailant was gaining on him which minimized the impact, at a cost of pinning him on the drawbridge. Luckily, he was able to use his custom window shutters to defend against his attacker's shotgun attacks, ultimately finishing him off with his surprise spring loaded switchblade. You can bring a knife to a gunfight, Harry Heck.", "Besides locking your butt checks together, place your head against your head rest to reduce whiplash.\n", "Before a car slammed into the side of me I took a deep sigh, mostly because I was pissed off that it was about to happen & there wasn't anything I could do to stop it... but relaxing your body as best as you can is the best thing to do ", "From personal experience, brace against the wheel with your arms and press yourself into your seat. Unless you're going to hit a car in front of you, your airbags won't even go off so don't depend on them. You honestly don't want to go full force into an airbag, so try to stay back away from it if you can. Sore shoulders are better than a broken face.", "Cross your arms across your chest, and cross your legs over each other.\n\nSource: watching rally races, this is how they brace.", "Generally you don't want to brace or tense. You should lean back against your head rest and relax, let your airbag do it's job. " ]

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[ "Best way to handle co-workers talking behind back? Hello,\n\nI'm very bad at confronting people when I hear things said about me that I don't agree with, especially in the work place, because I think that would make it hostile and *I* have to work with this person everyday so I don't want things to be uncomfortable.\n\nHowever, this turns into bottling up everything and feeling sad, depressed, upset, angry, etc. for however long it may take to unwind. \n\nI'm really bad at it, that even when people come to me and talk shit about others, I can't tell them \"You shouldn't say that,\" or \"Why does that matter?\" Instead, I want to be on everyone's good side and I join in and agree with them, or say something mean about the person as well..\n\nHow is the best way to handle this? Bring up the subject of talking behind people's back in a group setting? \n\nI have a lead that is the same way as everyone else.. talks shit, won't confront the team members about the subjects, etc. (Some of the shit-talking involves poor work performance, which also isn't addressed by the lead, and the poor work performance continues)\n\nI have also confronted my manager about things like this and nothing has been resolved in about a year or so. I realized I was one who joins in on shit-talking and no longer wish to be involved in that stuff. It's so bad in my workplace that I am looking for a new job simply to get away from it.\n\nSorry for the walls of text, just wanting opinions on similar situations, how it was handled, etc.\n\nThanks!", "Best way to handle co-workers talking behind back? Hello,\n\nI'm very bad at confronting people when I hear things said about me that I don't agree with, especially in the work place, because I think that would make it hostile and *I* have to work with this person everyday so I don't want things to be uncomfortable.\n\nHowever, this turns into bottling up everything and feeling sad, depressed, upset, angry, etc. for however long it may take to unwind. \n\nI'm really bad at it, that even when people come to me and talk shit about others, I can't tell them \"You shouldn't say that,\" or \"Why does that matter?\" Instead, I want to be on everyone's good side and I join in and agree with them, or say something mean about the person as well..\n\nHow is the best way to handle this? Bring up the subject of talking behind people's back in a group setting? \n\nI have a lead that is the same way as everyone else.. talks shit, won't confront the team members about the subjects, etc. (Some of the shit-talking involves poor work performance, which also isn't addressed by the lead, and the poor work performance continues)\n\nI have also confronted my manager about things like this and nothing has been resolved in about a year or so. I realized I was one who joins in on shit-talking and no longer wish to be involved in that stuff. It's so bad in my workplace that I am looking for a new job simply to get away from it.\n\nSorry for the walls of text, just wanting opinions on similar situations, how it was handled, etc.\n\nThanks!", "Best way to handle co-workers talking behind back? Hello,\n\nI'm very bad at confronting people when I hear things said about me that I don't agree with, especially in the work place, because I think that would make it hostile and *I* have to work with this person everyday so I don't want things to be uncomfortable.\n\nHowever, this turns into bottling up everything and feeling sad, depressed, upset, angry, etc. for however long it may take to unwind. \n\nI'm really bad at it, that even when people come to me and talk shit about others, I can't tell them \"You shouldn't say that,\" or \"Why does that matter?\" Instead, I want to be on everyone's good side and I join in and agree with them, or say something mean about the person as well..\n\nHow is the best way to handle this? Bring up the subject of talking behind people's back in a group setting? \n\nI have a lead that is the same way as everyone else.. talks shit, won't confront the team members about the subjects, etc. (Some of the shit-talking involves poor work performance, which also isn't addressed by the lead, and the poor work performance continues)\n\nI have also confronted my manager about things like this and nothing has been resolved in about a year or so. I realized I was one who joins in on shit-talking and no longer wish to be involved in that stuff. It's so bad in my workplace that I am looking for a new job simply to get away from it.\n\nSorry for the walls of text, just wanting opinions on similar situations, how it was handled, etc.\n\nThanks!", "Best way to handle co-workers talking behind back? Hello,\n\nI'm very bad at confronting people when I hear things said about me that I don't agree with, especially in the work place, because I think that would make it hostile and *I* have to work with this person everyday so I don't want things to be uncomfortable.\n\nHowever, this turns into bottling up everything and feeling sad, depressed, upset, angry, etc. for however long it may take to unwind. \n\nI'm really bad at it, that even when people come to me and talk shit about others, I can't tell them \"You shouldn't say that,\" or \"Why does that matter?\" Instead, I want to be on everyone's good side and I join in and agree with them, or say something mean about the person as well..\n\nHow is the best way to handle this? Bring up the subject of talking behind people's back in a group setting? \n\nI have a lead that is the same way as everyone else.. talks shit, won't confront the team members about the subjects, etc. (Some of the shit-talking involves poor work performance, which also isn't addressed by the lead, and the poor work performance continues)\n\nI have also confronted my manager about things like this and nothing has been resolved in about a year or so. I realized I was one who joins in on shit-talking and no longer wish to be involved in that stuff. It's so bad in my workplace that I am looking for a new job simply to get away from it.\n\nSorry for the walls of text, just wanting opinions on similar situations, how it was handled, etc.\n\nThanks!", "Best way to handle co-workers talking behind back? Hello,\n\nI'm very bad at confronting people when I hear things said about me that I don't agree with, especially in the work place, because I think that would make it hostile and *I* have to work with this person everyday so I don't want things to be uncomfortable.\n\nHowever, this turns into bottling up everything and feeling sad, depressed, upset, angry, etc. for however long it may take to unwind. \n\nI'm really bad at it, that even when people come to me and talk shit about others, I can't tell them \"You shouldn't say that,\" or \"Why does that matter?\" Instead, I want to be on everyone's good side and I join in and agree with them, or say something mean about the person as well..\n\nHow is the best way to handle this? Bring up the subject of talking behind people's back in a group setting? \n\nI have a lead that is the same way as everyone else.. talks shit, won't confront the team members about the subjects, etc. (Some of the shit-talking involves poor work performance, which also isn't addressed by the lead, and the poor work performance continues)\n\nI have also confronted my manager about things like this and nothing has been resolved in about a year or so. I realized I was one who joins in on shit-talking and no longer wish to be involved in that stuff. It's so bad in my workplace that I am looking for a new job simply to get away from it.\n\nSorry for the walls of text, just wanting opinions on similar situations, how it was handled, etc.\n\nThanks!", "Best way to handle co-workers talking behind back? Hello,\n\nI'm very bad at confronting people when I hear things said about me that I don't agree with, especially in the work place, because I think that would make it hostile and *I* have to work with this person everyday so I don't want things to be uncomfortable.\n\nHowever, this turns into bottling up everything and feeling sad, depressed, upset, angry, etc. for however long it may take to unwind. \n\nI'm really bad at it, that even when people come to me and talk shit about others, I can't tell them \"You shouldn't say that,\" or \"Why does that matter?\" Instead, I want to be on everyone's good side and I join in and agree with them, or say something mean about the person as well..\n\nHow is the best way to handle this? Bring up the subject of talking behind people's back in a group setting? \n\nI have a lead that is the same way as everyone else.. talks shit, won't confront the team members about the subjects, etc. (Some of the shit-talking involves poor work performance, which also isn't addressed by the lead, and the poor work performance continues)\n\nI have also confronted my manager about things like this and nothing has been resolved in about a year or so. I realized I was one who joins in on shit-talking and no longer wish to be involved in that stuff. It's so bad in my workplace that I am looking for a new job simply to get away from it.\n\nSorry for the walls of text, just wanting opinions on similar situations, how it was handled, etc.\n\nThanks!" ]

[ "The best way to fight rumors is to not spread them about anyone. If you make it clear that you do not participate in gossip, people are less likely to gossip about you behind your back.", "When you stay negative and angry you're feeding the negative energy that comes with gossip... Stay positive and vibrant when around the said coworkers and they'll either leave you alone or start taking more positive things about you...", "i don't suggest this, but at my workplace we have one main culprit. he whines to anyone who will listen. he's one of the highest billing employees so the bosses won't do anything about it.\n\nive worked with him for many years so i can say things. if hes whining in a public setting i say things like \"you're pretty catty for a dude\". \n\ni bought him a tiara as a kris kringle present one year.\n\n", "My tip is to always find an excuse for the person who is being shit talked. Just be a wet blanket, I'm serious. For one, people will stop coming to you to talk shit because you think everyone's got an excuse for their behavior (which they usually do). Secondly, you will feel better being the bigger person and you'll start to disregard their opinions of you in the process. Then you run in to situations like this \"Jim's always late and when he gets here he just chills out and barely does anything\", and then you say, \"that's true, maybe he's depressed\" and then the shit talker is unhappy with your response and probably doesn't want to keep probing for agreement. Ta-da! Rain on everyone's parade because their opinions are none of your business anyway.", "I like to turn the conversation to myself. If they say \"she wears so much makeup\", I like saying \"haha it's funny, my sister said the same thing about me the other day, but I just love red lipstick on the weekends....have you been to Sephora lately?\" Or \"he's always late\" I say \"ahhh I know how he feels, it's so hard to wake up in the morning, I have to snooze 50 times....sometimes I wish we didn't start until 11! Wouldn't that be nice?\" ", "When people around you start talking shit about others, simply get up and leave the room. It's not your job to confront others and you risk ostracizing yourselfm You don't need to make it dramatic; simply getting up to go to the bathroom, make a phone call etc.\n\nIf you overhear something negative said about you, realize it has *nothing* to do with you and everything to do with the insecurity of the person talking. Again it's not your job to confront them, but I enjoy giving the person who's trash talking a direct eye contact and a knowing smile. That will un-nerve them far more than any words ever will." ]

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[ "How to treat sunburns and mosquito bites. I'm allergic to the mosquito bites so they are quite large.", "How to treat sunburns and mosquito bites. I'm allergic to the mosquito bites so they are quite large.", "How to treat sunburns and mosquito bites. I'm allergic to the mosquito bites so they are quite large.", "How to treat sunburns and mosquito bites. I'm allergic to the mosquito bites so they are quite large.", "How to treat sunburns and mosquito bites. I'm allergic to the mosquito bites so they are quite large." ]

[ "I can't entirely vouch for the validity of this one, but I have heard that pressing a heated spoon to a insect bite can stop the irritation, as it denatures the enzymes that the insect has left. ", "i hear (about 12 times a month) on reddit that rubbing dryer sheets on the affected area will fix this.", "One thing I do for sunburn is put bags of Earl Grey Tea on the affected areas, just put the tea bag in cold water and put the tea onto the sunburn area allowing it to dry.", "I am also allergic and have found that none of the usual home remedies for bites work for me. Benadryl works well, or if you don't mind having it on you mud stops the itch fast.", "After I get really sunburned, I put baby oil on my skin. It helps it stay moisturized so your skin won't tighten up when it starts to dry out" ]

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[ "How do you keep business and personal expenses separate? Especially when your business has you do reimbursements rather than give you a corporate credit card. ", "How do you keep business and personal expenses separate? Especially when your business has you do reimbursements rather than give you a corporate credit card. " ]

[ "I have a separate checking account with a debit card that I use almost exclusively for work related purchases. It's simple but effective ", "Yea I guess as an alternative you could use or acquire the best rewards cr" ]

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[ "What to do if you're in a falling elevator? It's a phobia of mine, and I'd like to know what I can do to lessen injuries.", "What to do if you're in a falling elevator? It's a phobia of mine, and I'd like to know what I can do to lessen injuries.", "What to do if you're in a falling elevator? It's a phobia of mine, and I'd like to know what I can do to lessen injuries.", "What to do if you're in a falling elevator? It's a phobia of mine, and I'd like to know what I can do to lessen injuries." ]

[ "As scary as it seems to have an elevator in freefall, it's very unlikely to happen due to the many failsafes. Note that this has been taken into account since the first designs of the elevator, safety had to be ensured for anyone using it. Since then, safety measures and standards have only been improved. \n\nFirst off an elevator has multiple cables of woven steel, it's combined strength meeting a more than adequate safety factor (being able to carry x times the mass of a fully loaded car). It's rare for all cables to fail at the same time. \n\nSecondly, a chain of safety checks is performed before each descend/ascend, anything out of order will cut power to the motor and apply the brakes. These brakes only release when connected to a power supply. \n\nThirdly, there are brakes underneath the car that set off if electronics detect downwards overspeed. Friction brings the car to a relatively comfortable stop. \n\nLastly, the counterweights on elevators will make the car ascend in case of uncontrolled descending. This continues until the car reaches top cushioning, an uncomfortable but survivable stop. \n\nSource: http://articles.washingtonpost.com/2013-06-10/national/39864653_1_passenger-elevator-elevator-system-otis-elevator", "It is similar to what you are instructed to do in the event of an airline crash:\n\nStep one: place your head between your legs;\nStep two: kiss your ass goodbye.", "If you are falling in an elevator you wont have time to lie down or think, But I remember reading or watching this on some television show (maybe mythbusters? I'm not sure) that your odds greatly increase if you back yourself against a corner. Not sure if it works, not willing to find out either. ", "Lie on your back on the elevator with your limbs spread out. Therefore, pressure is distributed equally and you are guaranteed to take impact on a flat surface. However, keep in mind that you're safer in an elevator than while driving or even crossing the street." ]

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[ "What do you say in an email when someone answers only one of your questions, you respond based on that information, and then they give you the answer to the other question as if you never asked it and it was obvious information? How do you keep it professional? Example:\n\n\"Hey, I have two questions. Will we be meeting this Wednesday or next, and what will I need to input for the spreadsheet? Thanks! Z.\"\n\n\"Yes, input Wednesdays for the spreadsheet. Y.\"\n\n\"Oh, awesome! Is there any specific date I should put in? I can't find the block for this Wednesday. Thanks! Z.\"\n\n\"I know, that's because we are not meeting this week. Y.\"\n\nHow can you keep it professional but also tell them you asked the question and they didn't even answer it? Or should you just be super positive about it and make them feel like the a-hole? If they even realize it.", "What do you say in an email when someone answers only one of your questions, you respond based on that information, and then they give you the answer to the other question as if you never asked it and it was obvious information? How do you keep it professional? Example:\n\n\"Hey, I have two questions. Will we be meeting this Wednesday or next, and what will I need to input for the spreadsheet? Thanks! Z.\"\n\n\"Yes, input Wednesdays for the spreadsheet. Y.\"\n\n\"Oh, awesome! Is there any specific date I should put in? I can't find the block for this Wednesday. Thanks! Z.\"\n\n\"I know, that's because we are not meeting this week. Y.\"\n\nHow can you keep it professional but also tell them you asked the question and they didn't even answer it? Or should you just be super positive about it and make them feel like the a-hole? If they even realize it." ]

[ "I would avoid the problem by numbering my questions in a numbered list. People skim email and need help spotting parts.", "> Example:\n\n> \"Hey, I have two questions. Will we be meeting this Wednesday or next, and what will I need to input for the spreadsheet? Thanks! Z.\"\n\n> \"Yes, input Wednesdays for the spreadsheet. Y.\"\n\n> (Here’s the change)\n\n> “You didn’t say, this Wednesday or next?”\n\nLet them know they didn’t answer the question. Keep it simple and straightforward." ]

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[ "How to get the sour milk smell out of a travel mug? I left some milk in a travel mug and forgot about it and now it smells really bad. I've cleaned it thoroughly with soap and hot water but it still smells really bad. What can I do to remove the smell of old milk?", "How to get the sour milk smell out of a travel mug? I left some milk in a travel mug and forgot about it and now it smells really bad. I've cleaned it thoroughly with soap and hot water but it still smells really bad. What can I do to remove the smell of old milk?", "How to get the sour milk smell out of a travel mug? I left some milk in a travel mug and forgot about it and now it smells really bad. I've cleaned it thoroughly with soap and hot water but it still smells really bad. What can I do to remove the smell of old milk?", "How to get the sour milk smell out of a travel mug? I left some milk in a travel mug and forgot about it and now it smells really bad. I've cleaned it thoroughly with soap and hot water but it still smells really bad. What can I do to remove the smell of old milk?", "How to get the sour milk smell out of a travel mug? I left some milk in a travel mug and forgot about it and now it smells really bad. I've cleaned it thoroughly with soap and hot water but it still smells really bad. What can I do to remove the smell of old milk?", "How to get the sour milk smell out of a travel mug? I left some milk in a travel mug and forgot about it and now it smells really bad. I've cleaned it thoroughly with soap and hot water but it still smells really bad. What can I do to remove the smell of old milk?", "How to get the sour milk smell out of a travel mug? I left some milk in a travel mug and forgot about it and now it smells really bad. I've cleaned it thoroughly with soap and hot water but it still smells really bad. What can I do to remove the smell of old milk?", "How to get the sour milk smell out of a travel mug? I left some milk in a travel mug and forgot about it and now it smells really bad. I've cleaned it thoroughly with soap and hot water but it still smells really bad. What can I do to remove the smell of old milk?", "How to get the sour milk smell out of a travel mug? I left some milk in a travel mug and forgot about it and now it smells really bad. I've cleaned it thoroughly with soap and hot water but it still smells really bad. What can I do to remove the smell of old milk?", "How to get the sour milk smell out of a travel mug? I left some milk in a travel mug and forgot about it and now it smells really bad. I've cleaned it thoroughly with soap and hot water but it still smells really bad. What can I do to remove the smell of old milk?" ]

[ "If your mug is made of stainless steel then one of these remedies might work. If it's made of plastic, nothing will so throw it out and call it a lesson learned. ", "You can use a strong solution of Oxyclean and hot water. Let it sit overnight, and the smell should be gone. I used this on a few of my son's sippy cups that had been hidden for a while and stank to high heaven, even after a cycle in the dishwasher! ", "Sterilize using a few drops of Clorox bleach and water. Let it sit for an hour or two.\n\nRinse throughly. Open air dry.", "I've done this lots - with the Contigo brand travel mugs (stainless steel mug, plastic and rubber lid). I'll buy a coffee at Timmies, and forget to take my mug home from work. I soak mine in either water and bleach or water and vinegar. So far it has worked every time. ", "As a frequent nalgene user I've found denture cleaning tablets do a rather nice job followed by a trip through the dishwasher.", "Once you know for sure it's clean, make a strong coffee in it WITHOUT MILK and let it sit for a couple of hours. Back to normal once it's washed again!", "Just plain bleach. Put a capful into the mug and then fill with hot water and leave overnight. In the morning it will look and smell like new.", "Dishwasher soap works well on just about every dish or utensil. Use hot water and a couple tablespoons of Cascade and shake the fuck out of it. Let it soak, repeat if necessary. Works great for water bottles that get all nasty too. . .\n", "I've also had success with boiling water and baking soda. Let soak for 24 hours (or more!) and rinse with more boiling water.", "I had that problem, I put hand sanitizer in it and scrub the whole mug. I tried vinegar and it just smelled like vinegar instead after. " ]

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[ "How can I find out what motivates me? I want to be able to motivate myself to do things, but I don't know how. Where do I start? What motivates you?", "How can I find out what motivates me? I want to be able to motivate myself to do things, but I don't know how. Where do I start? What motivates you?", "How can I find out what motivates me? I want to be able to motivate myself to do things, but I don't know how. Where do I start? What motivates you?", "How can I find out what motivates me? I want to be able to motivate myself to do things, but I don't know how. Where do I start? What motivates you?", "How can I find out what motivates me? I want to be able to motivate myself to do things, but I don't know how. Where do I start? What motivates you?", "How can I find out what motivates me? I want to be able to motivate myself to do things, but I don't know how. Where do I start? What motivates you?", "How can I find out what motivates me? I want to be able to motivate myself to do things, but I don't know how. Where do I start? What motivates you?", "How can I find out what motivates me? I want to be able to motivate myself to do things, but I don't know how. Where do I start? What motivates you?" ]

[ "I apologize for not having a more scientific answer but almost any goal that you have and want to achieve can be a motivation. You want to bang more girls? Boom motivation. You want to drive a faster car? A nicer apartment? Pectoral cleavage? All of these things can be the rewards you reap for the hard work you put in. At some point, your long term goals will definitely take some time to figure out - what sort of career do you want for the rest of your life? This is a pretty tough question for a lot of people, but you need not start there - start with something smaller and more realistic and build up from there. \n\nThat said, the biggest problem that most people have - me included - is not motivation, but discipline. You have goals, but unless your only goal is to lounge away for the rest of your life, chances are you'll have to put in continual work. In order to become disciplined you really have to find a system that works for you. A lot of people have tried writing down concrete small steps as benchmarks towards bigger goals. Others reward themselves in small ways for reaching certain checkpoints - for example, they'll buy themselves that shiny new phone for getting the promotion that they've been gunning for the last 12 months. \n\nPersonally, the biggest issue I've had was waiting until I felt like doing something. This is a great way to get yourself stuck - why? Because chances are YOU WILL NEVER 'FEEL LIKE IT.' You want to lose twenty pounds? Well guess what? You suddenly feel hungry, your arms get heavy so you don't feel like working out, and you feel kind of bogged down today so maybe you won't go on that run. You want to teach yourself how do code? Well guess what? There's a new season of Rick and Morty. You'll start after you finish that season. Oh no wait - Fallout 4 just came out. It'll only take what? One to two hundred hours to complete right? I can start learning then. You see that cute girl in the club? Oh no! What if she turns you down? It's okay - you'll likely find someone else in another outing soon. Six weeks later you're still on square one stroking yourself to completion when that cute girl could've been giving you a hand if you only had the balls to ask. \n\nNow I don't know what's going to work for you but for me it's just the simple reminder that whenever I don't feel like doing something that I know is productive, that's my body RESISTING my improvement. It's my body being a huge lazy asshole - sort of like an drug-addicted roommate who tells you to quit your job so you can snort cocaine. Fuck that impulse - you have a list of shit that you WILL get done today even if you don't feel like it. \n\nIt's sort of like what the baboon says at the end Season 2 of Bojack Horseman: It gets easier, but you have to do it everyday. ", "This is from my own learning and experience: don't believe in the idea of motivation. \n\nOur culture is under the impression that motivation comes *before* the action. It doesn't. Motivation FOLLOWS action. Motivation is only triggered when you are moving forward in your decision. \n\nYou start any goal through habits. Habit training:\n1. Is shit easy\n2. Doesn't require motivation \n3. After time will shift into your automation and will take no energy to do, leaving you free to pursue your next goal with the focus it needs, while you continue to habitualize your first. \n\nYou start with tiny habits. Google BJ Fogg for an awesome talk he does about it. Basically cut down your goal into a piece so perfect in size it is a significant daily action that requires almost no energy for you to do, so that you can never have an excuse not to do it. \n\nE.g.: My goal is was to lose weight. \nInstead of throwing myself 100% into the gym and losing steam after a week I went for a walk around my house. That's it. Same time every day. \nTHEN the motivation kicks in because it is something I can safely achieve and maintain. \n\nThe habit does the rest. I've lost 80lbs/40 kgs and I go to the gym every day, kick ass, and have completely cut sugar from my life. \n\ntl;dr habits are the shit. Habits make stuff happen. ", "Try thinking about times that you've accomplished things in the past. Why did you accomplish those things? Those are the things that motivate you.", "I find this helpful when I struggle with laziness or a general lack of motivation.\n[What Motivates You?](http://learnthingsdaily.com/2014/01/31/free-thinking-friday-what-motivates-you/)\n\nYou might also find this useful [Autonomy, Mastery, and Purpose: The Motivators of Inspiration](http://learnthingsdaily.com/2015/09/10/autonomy-mastery-and-purpose-the-motivators-of-inspiration/)", "Sounds quaint, but start with baby steps.\n\nImagine something you want to do, and figure out what the easiest part of that thing is that you can do and do it. Then move on to the next part. \n\nI struggle with this myself and this was really the only thing i could find that actually did me any good.", "I am a tutor and my students in Psych 101 are taking a test on motivation today! Check out this video about what tends to motivate people https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u6XAPnuFjJc . Or else if you'd rather read my summary here it is: People are motivated by autonomy, mastery, & purpose. Autonomy is the ability to choose what you work on, essentially having independence will motivated people to be creative, have new ideas, and basically just work harder. Mastery is all about doing something to get better at it. Playing music & sports are great examples of people being motivated simply by wanting to get better. The final point of this video is that purpose will increase motivation. Framing your task in a way that allows you to see the usefulness of a task will motivate you to complete the task. Beyond these three parts of Dan Pink's theory there are other theorists that you could look up if you are interested in some more research. Check out McClelland's Need Theory, Grit, & Lewin's Field Theory. \nAlso, our definition of motivation has three components: motivation initiates, directs, and sustains behavior. That is to say, people who are highly motivated should also be very disciplined. These two things are very connected.", "In my experience its reward. \nExample A::\ndon't try to convince yourself by telling your self youll be happy with a six pack.\nBut go to the gym, eat right, Rest well, and as you notice the fruits of your labour the good feelings start showing up and eventually it all sticks together.\n(You will always have days where you fall off but the habits/associations/Willpower will bring you back. You bring u back on track and it all kicks in again)\n\nApply that rule with anything stop promising and start showing facts to your brain. Stick it out for a month but let your self off if your too tired or it feels to much.\n\nExample B: I always go to the gym and stretch and start lifting but if my mind is to resistant to the process I just go home after 2 or so exercises. I set a smaller goal to reach and give my self points for reaching it. \n\nTrying to keep it short lol\nlast few points \nI see motivation as a gift that shows up after you've payed a certain amount of dedication. To the craft or habit. But never a replacement for the dedicatation. \n\nCya hope that helps.", "I live without motivation, i just do what i feel like to, so, your heart is your motivation. Do what it said, no matter how bullshit it is, it must for a reason, always believe it must for a reason. \n#JUST DO IT !" ]

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[ "how do I switch majors if I choose one I don’t like later on? Sorry I don’t know where to ask this question. So I’m a Junior in high school and my biggest fear is choosing a major or career I don’t like. I want to go into business or sales. To me it seems you go with your major in college and get into that field of work. However what if I change my mind? I will need to go back to school and relearn something and that is expensive. Any tips for this? I know it hasn’t happened but I want to be prepared.", "how do I switch majors if I choose one I don’t like later on? Sorry I don’t know where to ask this question. So I’m a Junior in high school and my biggest fear is choosing a major or career I don’t like. I want to go into business or sales. To me it seems you go with your major in college and get into that field of work. However what if I change my mind? I will need to go back to school and relearn something and that is expensive. Any tips for this? I know it hasn’t happened but I want to be prepared.", "how do I switch majors if I choose one I don’t like later on? Sorry I don’t know where to ask this question. So I’m a Junior in high school and my biggest fear is choosing a major or career I don’t like. I want to go into business or sales. To me it seems you go with your major in college and get into that field of work. However what if I change my mind? I will need to go back to school and relearn something and that is expensive. Any tips for this? I know it hasn’t happened but I want to be prepared.", "how do I switch majors if I choose one I don’t like later on? Sorry I don’t know where to ask this question. So I’m a Junior in high school and my biggest fear is choosing a major or career I don’t like. I want to go into business or sales. To me it seems you go with your major in college and get into that field of work. However what if I change my mind? I will need to go back to school and relearn something and that is expensive. Any tips for this? I know it hasn’t happened but I want to be prepared.", "how do I switch majors if I choose one I don’t like later on? Sorry I don’t know where to ask this question. So I’m a Junior in high school and my biggest fear is choosing a major or career I don’t like. I want to go into business or sales. To me it seems you go with your major in college and get into that field of work. However what if I change my mind? I will need to go back to school and relearn something and that is expensive. Any tips for this? I know it hasn’t happened but I want to be prepared.", "how do I switch majors if I choose one I don’t like later on? Sorry I don’t know where to ask this question. So I’m a Junior in high school and my biggest fear is choosing a major or career I don’t like. I want to go into business or sales. To me it seems you go with your major in college and get into that field of work. However what if I change my mind? I will need to go back to school and relearn something and that is expensive. Any tips for this? I know it hasn’t happened but I want to be prepared." ]

[ "Adult secrets, not meant for you:\n\n* College isn't a big deal if you aren't going into a field with mandatory credentials. Usually, HR wants to see candidates with a degree because it creates regulatory options for the company, but none of those laws or policies have any provision for the degree being in a relevant area. Hiring managers will usually be more concerned with finding the best person for the job.\n* If you get yourself into a decent career (sorry, man, but that's just not a guarantee for college grads these days), you'll never stop learning. It's usually not that hard to bend some of that training towards the new career you want to be in, because...\n* Many office jobs are basically interchangeable with some informal training. Yeah, sales can't go off and do network architecture, but sales could probably do contract reviews, purchasing, accounts receivable, things like that.\n\nWith all of that said, something that's not a secret at all: unless you're really passionate about business, pick a better fucking major than fucking business. At least go for accounting or something like that so you can have a skilled profession to fall back on. It won't lock you out of the general business jobs.", "You don't always have to go back to school if you are going from one type of job in a field to another.....If you change fields completely, you may not need to get a whole new degree..,.Don't sweat it too much. I went to school for a career, couldn't find a job and spent 10 years in a job I liked but didn't love and had no advancement.... I went back to school and now have work I like.....It has been a long road but it's ok\n\n\nWhat we don't tell you is that most people change careers 2-3 times in their life and it is rarely too big of an issue. \n\nYou are young and have tons of life to live :-) try things and have lots of jobs. When you find one you like, stay until you don't.\n\nI went from theater to teaching to pharmacy to chemistry back to teaching. I'm only 37 ", "The first 2 years of college is just general education requirements. It’s only until after sophomore year you should choose your major so in that time you can explore what you like and don’t like", "Rather than focusing on your major classes right away, make it a point to get pre-requisites and general ed classes finished right away. You can transfer institutions and majors no problem if you already meet their requirements for admission, and you won't have wasted any time with specific stuff you no longer like.\n\nMost importantly though, go to an Education Counselor (usually found in the Admissions building) and explain that you just aren't into your current major anymore and want to switch. They'll give you great and practical advice along with all the paperwork to make it happen.", "Don't declare a major the moment you go into school. No one does anyway, till their junior year of college. During the first 2 years, you'll be taking Gen Ed courses and not a lot of it will be relevant to a particular major at all. The courses are more like a compilation of different aspects of different things. Being exposed to some of those Gen Ed courses may expose you to some new ideas and may help you decide what sort of major you'd want to go into. \nAnother idea is that you could get a major that's not so specific and has a ton of jobs to it. Like maybe business or something. In my case, the criminology major can get you all sorts of jobs, such as that in law enforcement or security, or take it a notch further into analytics, linguistics, foreign language specialty, or even stuff like FBI agents and stuff. So a major with a ton of jobs out there, as opposed to something more select (like journalism or something) gives you a wider range of options for jobs, in case you don't like one.", "A good idea is, if you're serious about business, leave it as a general business major your first year or two. Most colleges don't force you to declare a major until later years. Take some diverse classes and find out what really interests you. Then go to a favorite prof of yours from that area and ask their advice. " ]

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[ "How do I get wrinkles out of a silk polyester jacket? I let it hang while taking a hot shower and it removed some of the wrinkles but there is still one deep wrinkle that is not going away with this method. Any other tips that I can use without damaging the fibres of the clothing?", "How do I get wrinkles out of a silk polyester jacket? I let it hang while taking a hot shower and it removed some of the wrinkles but there is still one deep wrinkle that is not going away with this method. Any other tips that I can use without damaging the fibres of the clothing?" ]

[ "For delicate materials you can iron them with a towel inbetween. The towel works to limit how much heat/water interacts with the more delicate material underneath.", "Silk can be carefully ironed. Polyester generally cannot. So it depends. Find out the actual composition and read up on methods. Some polyester will spot and melt easily. Your best bet is either an actual steamer machine or taking it to a dry cleaners or seamstress that you trust." ]

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[ "How to calm down fast? I’m looking for ways to calm down fast after something upsets you greatly, especially when out in public.", "How to calm down fast? I’m looking for ways to calm down fast after something upsets you greatly, especially when out in public.", "How to calm down fast? I’m looking for ways to calm down fast after something upsets you greatly, especially when out in public.", "How to calm down fast? I’m looking for ways to calm down fast after something upsets you greatly, especially when out in public.", "How to calm down fast? I’m looking for ways to calm down fast after something upsets you greatly, especially when out in public." ]

[ "Focusing on my breathing always works. I also say “purple pink elephants” if I get mad and it makes me feel better since it’s so silly", "Recognize that the action was not in your control, but your reaction is. Don't ask 'why?' (Someone did it, or it happened, etc.), it happened. You understanding won't change that. And that's what matters in the moment. Two hours, two days later you can dissect why.", "Will this situation and your reaction matter in 5 minutes…in 5 days…in 5 years from now?\nNo? Just let it go and move one", "Be aware of when you're getting upset, observe the emotion you're feeling acknowledge it and then choose to leave it behind. \nIt takes practice but eventually you'll do it without even trying", "Take a deep breath, hold it for a few seconds, and let it our slowly.\n\nTense your muscles (make a fist, clench your jaw, close your eyes, pucker you butthole, curl your toes), hold it, and then relax.\n\nThink of another way to respond (ala WWJD) or something else all together (count down from 10)\n\nAnd, all this time, hold you tongue. Words coming from anger are rarely kind or constructive." ]

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[ "How to keep a closet/clothes smelling fresh My clean clothes are smelling musty in my closet and I don't know how to fix it. The house is not old, there's no water damage, I keep my clean clothes separate from dirty, use scented detergent and dryer sheets, don't let pets in my closet, don't put clothes away damp. I have a LOT of clothes items that are packed tightly and smell musty. What else can I do? ", "How to keep a closet/clothes smelling fresh My clean clothes are smelling musty in my closet and I don't know how to fix it. The house is not old, there's no water damage, I keep my clean clothes separate from dirty, use scented detergent and dryer sheets, don't let pets in my closet, don't put clothes away damp. I have a LOT of clothes items that are packed tightly and smell musty. What else can I do? ", "How to keep a closet/clothes smelling fresh My clean clothes are smelling musty in my closet and I don't know how to fix it. The house is not old, there's no water damage, I keep my clean clothes separate from dirty, use scented detergent and dryer sheets, don't let pets in my closet, don't put clothes away damp. I have a LOT of clothes items that are packed tightly and smell musty. What else can I do? " ]

[ "dry the clothes more thoroughly. check the lint trap on dryer.\nmaybe your water quality is poor, and you need to filter sulphur or magnesium with a carbon filter, and cotton filter. maybe the wood framing of the closet behind plaster/drywall is rotting, due to a leak in the shingles.\ncedar wood, mothballs, orange peels. there a a lot of different ways to cover scent, but first , identify why that scent is in there to begin with.\ndid someone wash or dry a load of funky/rotted clothes in your machines?\n\n", "Try some Damp Rid. Buy it on Amazon. Just put it in your closet, if there is any dampness, the product absorbs it, and that way you will know whether or not if that is the cause. \n\n", "One cap-full of eucalyptus oil in the wash with your powder/detergent keeps them smelling fresh for quite some time as well. Can buy a big bottle really cheap in Aus (not sure where you're from). " ]

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[ "Get people to stop touching me. I've met people who casually touch others (head, shoulders) a lot, to the point where other people talk about how creepy their touching is. I have trouble recognizing the signs that they're a casual toucher off the bat, so it usually takes a few times before I realize. \n\nWhat's the best way to get them to stop? ", "Get people to stop touching me. I've met people who casually touch others (head, shoulders) a lot, to the point where other people talk about how creepy their touching is. I have trouble recognizing the signs that they're a casual toucher off the bat, so it usually takes a few times before I realize. \n\nWhat's the best way to get them to stop? ", "Get people to stop touching me. I've met people who casually touch others (head, shoulders) a lot, to the point where other people talk about how creepy their touching is. I have trouble recognizing the signs that they're a casual toucher off the bat, so it usually takes a few times before I realize. \n\nWhat's the best way to get them to stop? " ]

[ "I had this problem\n\n\"Hey I know you mean well but I have a thing with personal space and being touched\"\n\n\nWorked!", "I think casual touchers talk a lot with their hands. I am one, and I do this. I'm a decent human being, though, so if people ask me to stop, I'll stop. If it makes you uncomfortable, people should understand. If they don't, they're assholes. If they're assholes, backhand them the next time they do it and blame reflexes.\n\n", "Shout at them \"STOP DON'T TOUCH ME THERE, THIS IS MY PRIVATE SQUARE\" but then use your hands to draw a square around your entire body. It may also be useful to include a buffer when drawing your square.\n\nBut seriously, everyone has it spot on. Ask them to stop, and if they're decent people, they will." ]

[ 3, 2, 1 ]

[ "how to protect my charger cable from tearing I just got my third charger cable for my iPhone this year. I don't do anything weird with them, don't really fold them or anything like that, but they just tend to tear really quick. So I was wondering what great tips reddit has to protect my cable and make it live longer than just a few months.", "how to protect my charger cable from tearing I just got my third charger cable for my iPhone this year. I don't do anything weird with them, don't really fold them or anything like that, but they just tend to tear really quick. So I was wondering what great tips reddit has to protect my cable and make it live longer than just a few months.", "how to protect my charger cable from tearing I just got my third charger cable for my iPhone this year. I don't do anything weird with them, don't really fold them or anything like that, but they just tend to tear really quick. So I was wondering what great tips reddit has to protect my cable and make it live longer than just a few months.", "how to protect my charger cable from tearing I just got my third charger cable for my iPhone this year. I don't do anything weird with them, don't really fold them or anything like that, but they just tend to tear really quick. So I was wondering what great tips reddit has to protect my cable and make it live longer than just a few months." ]

[ "You've probably heard of this before but it has worked really well for me. I took a spring out of an old pen and wrapped it around the wire, clamping it down slightly on the ends. Lasted at least a lear so far with no signs of breaking.", "/u/rjalaskan is close to what I'd use. Sugru. Youtube will do a better job explaining it than I can. Last time I bought some I got it from amazon. Works perfectly for this kind of thing and if your careful it won't look to bad.", "Learn to coil a cable, then just keep in in an ø shape in your bag. \n\nWorked for all of my chargers and cables.\n\n[Video](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pEd7ru24Vx0)", "For a preventative measure, if the tear usually happens near the plug just get yourself some sealant (glass, plastic, whatever) and apply it around the base of the plug where it comes in contact with the wire." ]

[ 3, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to stop procrastinating Today i have procrastinated doing my uni work even now i am writing this rather than doing, please help. I'm incredibly lazy and want to get motivated again. Thanks.", "How to stop procrastinating Today i have procrastinated doing my uni work even now i am writing this rather than doing, please help. I'm incredibly lazy and want to get motivated again. Thanks.", "How to stop procrastinating Today i have procrastinated doing my uni work even now i am writing this rather than doing, please help. I'm incredibly lazy and want to get motivated again. Thanks." ]

[ "If your units are easy now, they will get harder, but with that motivation it gets harder for you to get back to it. You see the new stuff that is build on the old stuff and you will tell yourself:\"I can look that up later.\" Believe me, later will be to late. How you stop it, depends on you. What is distracting you, games, reddit, social media?\n\nLimit yourself those disctraction. Motivation comes sometimes only if you force yourself to do so. Video games? Only on the weekends or every second day, internet browsing? 1 hour only.\n\nStart with something small that needs to be done. If you look at a task that requieres a whole weekend of work, bye bye motivation, you will probably not start it or finish it, if you have no motivation for it before the start. But if you finish something that you started not long ago and you just need maybe an hour to finish, you will boost your motivation for the weekend work and tell yourself, yeah I can finish that aswell.", "https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/57iur9/lpt_request_what_are_some_good_ways_to_stop/d8sbs0p", "You know that crippling debt either you or your parents are in because of Uni ? Don't let it go to waste. That should be motivational." ]

[ 3, 2, 2 ]

[ "How to read more? I've purchased at least 10 books in the last year and finished reading exactly Zero of them. I don't know if I get bored to quickly, or distracted too easily or what. The last book I can remember finishing was Outliers back in 2015 only because I was flying a lot and was on planes that didn't have in flight movies. \n\nI really wanted to read an Elvis biography and bought a nice hardback copy of Last Train to Memphis. I didn't even get through the first chapter before all the details about record executives I've never heard of got so boring I had to put it down. \n\nBut I really want to read these books! If I could have any superpower it would be the book absorption power from [Meteor Man](https://youtu.be/DDsRngAZCk4?t=121). \n\nPart of the problem I think Is my poor eyesight, but I'm on reddit all day and reading here doesnt bother me.\n\nAny advice? Please help.", "How to read more? I've purchased at least 10 books in the last year and finished reading exactly Zero of them. I don't know if I get bored to quickly, or distracted too easily or what. The last book I can remember finishing was Outliers back in 2015 only because I was flying a lot and was on planes that didn't have in flight movies. \n\nI really wanted to read an Elvis biography and bought a nice hardback copy of Last Train to Memphis. I didn't even get through the first chapter before all the details about record executives I've never heard of got so boring I had to put it down. \n\nBut I really want to read these books! If I could have any superpower it would be the book absorption power from [Meteor Man](https://youtu.be/DDsRngAZCk4?t=121). \n\nPart of the problem I think Is my poor eyesight, but I'm on reddit all day and reading here doesnt bother me.\n\nAny advice? Please help.", "How to read more? I've purchased at least 10 books in the last year and finished reading exactly Zero of them. I don't know if I get bored to quickly, or distracted too easily or what. The last book I can remember finishing was Outliers back in 2015 only because I was flying a lot and was on planes that didn't have in flight movies. \n\nI really wanted to read an Elvis biography and bought a nice hardback copy of Last Train to Memphis. I didn't even get through the first chapter before all the details about record executives I've never heard of got so boring I had to put it down. \n\nBut I really want to read these books! If I could have any superpower it would be the book absorption power from [Meteor Man](https://youtu.be/DDsRngAZCk4?t=121). \n\nPart of the problem I think Is my poor eyesight, but I'm on reddit all day and reading here doesnt bother me.\n\nAny advice? Please help.", "How to read more? I've purchased at least 10 books in the last year and finished reading exactly Zero of them. I don't know if I get bored to quickly, or distracted too easily or what. The last book I can remember finishing was Outliers back in 2015 only because I was flying a lot and was on planes that didn't have in flight movies. \n\nI really wanted to read an Elvis biography and bought a nice hardback copy of Last Train to Memphis. I didn't even get through the first chapter before all the details about record executives I've never heard of got so boring I had to put it down. \n\nBut I really want to read these books! If I could have any superpower it would be the book absorption power from [Meteor Man](https://youtu.be/DDsRngAZCk4?t=121). \n\nPart of the problem I think Is my poor eyesight, but I'm on reddit all day and reading here doesnt bother me.\n\nAny advice? Please help." ]

[ "You are claiming that you \"really want to read these books!\" but you also said several times you get bored of them when you try to read. So... do you want to read these books in particular or not?\n\nPerhaps try finding books that you actually DO want to read. Perhaps the books you think you want to read -- or think you want to read right now -- aren't interesting at the moment. This is one of my reasons for having several books I haven't read on hand at any time, so I can put one down and pick up another depending on the mood I am in, and just in case I get bored with current sections/chapters of one book and don't want to suffer through a rut in the book at that instant.\n\nIt also could be that you are not reading them at times that are conducive for appreciating an activity like reading, such as first thing in the morning before the day's stresses and obligations kick it, or during your lunch break at work, or on a park bench for 15 minutes when you take a rest from a bike/run, or in bed for 15 minutes to wind down before falling asleep.\n\nI doubt it is your poor eyesight. Sounds more like a psychological barrier to get over with some tips and experience.", "Read for only 5 to 10 minutes just before bed each night. That's what I do. It relaxes you and makes it easier to fall asleep. Eventually you finish the book.\n\nIf you don't like reading due to eye strain, switch to audiobooks. Some audiobooks have great voice actors.", "> I've purchased at least 10 books in the last year and finished reading exactly Zero of them.\n\nPurchase one at a time next time.\n\nWhen you said in another comment how you want the information from the book without the delivery system of reading it, it's kind of like buying an exercise equipment or gym membership, but never using it. You want the benefits of it without working for it, which can't happen. \n\nJust take one book at a time and read one page at a time.", " Whiskey and a hot bath. Most relaxing thing you'll ever do and with zero distractions its easy to get lost in a book." ]

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[ "How do you negotitate on secondhand items that are close to NEW prices Hello from downunder.\n\nMany secondhand items are listed across multipe platforms at just STUPID high prices. Cars, laptops, everything. Often SH asking prices are higher than current new prices.\n\nWhat's you recommendations for negotitating on these prices when any offer at a reasonable price seems like Low Balling?", "How do you negotitate on secondhand items that are close to NEW prices Hello from downunder.\n\nMany secondhand items are listed across multipe platforms at just STUPID high prices. Cars, laptops, everything. Often SH asking prices are higher than current new prices.\n\nWhat's you recommendations for negotitating on these prices when any offer at a reasonable price seems like Low Balling?", "How do you negotitate on secondhand items that are close to NEW prices Hello from downunder.\n\nMany secondhand items are listed across multipe platforms at just STUPID high prices. Cars, laptops, everything. Often SH asking prices are higher than current new prices.\n\nWhat's you recommendations for negotitating on these prices when any offer at a reasonable price seems like Low Balling?" ]

[ "The market for EVERYTHING is just bananas now. I remember being a kid (BACK IN MY DAY, shouts the old man), and just assuming everything you took possession of lost half its value the moment it became yours. I’ve been guitar window shopping, and people/shops are asking 2600 bucks for guitars that sold for 2800 new.", "Something is only worth as much as someone is going to pay for it. This may or may not work in favour of the seller…. That’s their gamble.", "Vinnies and Salvos go one better, they will take a men's t-shirt that sells for $4.99 at Kmart, Big W or Lowes etc, and sell it for $10 second hand. In that case the remedy is to show the store manager the new item and the price that the item sells for new." ]

[ 3, 3, 2 ]

[ "What is the best way to store a small/medium box over uni student summer holidays? I'm a uni student in London, UK and I'm wondering what the best way to store one small or maybe medium box of *ahem* adult non-illegal stuff *ahem* I don't have space to hide when I have to move back to my parents over summer? I'm in halls so just leaving it there isn't an option sadly.", "What is the best way to store a small/medium box over uni student summer holidays? I'm a uni student in London, UK and I'm wondering what the best way to store one small or maybe medium box of *ahem* adult non-illegal stuff *ahem* I don't have space to hide when I have to move back to my parents over summer? I'm in halls so just leaving it there isn't an option sadly.", "What is the best way to store a small/medium box over uni student summer holidays? I'm a uni student in London, UK and I'm wondering what the best way to store one small or maybe medium box of *ahem* adult non-illegal stuff *ahem* I don't have space to hide when I have to move back to my parents over summer? I'm in halls so just leaving it there isn't an option sadly.", "What is the best way to store a small/medium box over uni student summer holidays? I'm a uni student in London, UK and I'm wondering what the best way to store one small or maybe medium box of *ahem* adult non-illegal stuff *ahem* I don't have space to hide when I have to move back to my parents over summer? I'm in halls so just leaving it there isn't an option sadly.", "What is the best way to store a small/medium box over uni student summer holidays? I'm a uni student in London, UK and I'm wondering what the best way to store one small or maybe medium box of *ahem* adult non-illegal stuff *ahem* I don't have space to hide when I have to move back to my parents over summer? I'm in halls so just leaving it there isn't an option sadly.", "What is the best way to store a small/medium box over uni student summer holidays? I'm a uni student in London, UK and I'm wondering what the best way to store one small or maybe medium box of *ahem* adult non-illegal stuff *ahem* I don't have space to hide when I have to move back to my parents over summer? I'm in halls so just leaving it there isn't an option sadly.", "What is the best way to store a small/medium box over uni student summer holidays? I'm a uni student in London, UK and I'm wondering what the best way to store one small or maybe medium box of *ahem* adult non-illegal stuff *ahem* I don't have space to hide when I have to move back to my parents over summer? I'm in halls so just leaving it there isn't an option sadly." ]

[ "If you can't find a friend willing to hold onto your sex toys or drug paraphernalia, I'd probably toss em.", "If you're an adult, perhaps its time to talk to your parents about being an adult and having adult things.", "Cover it it wrapping paper with a tag on for a friend whose birthday it is just after you move back out.", "Put it in a regular box. Tape it up. Write on it the name of a random girl your parent don't know (e.g. \"Anna's Stuff\"). When your nosey parents ask what it is, tell them it's Anna's sex toys that she's too embarrassed to take home for the summer.", "What's the smallest box the items could fit inside of? \n\nGet a lockable box, cashbox perhaps and either give it to a friend to hold or bring it home and tell your parents it's personal items, you're an adult now and you deserve a modicum of privacy. \n\nCheck the prices of bank deposit boxes, they aren't expensive. And they are offered in a variety of sizes.", "Do you have banks with those deposit boxes or whatever? I'll try to be more specific when I can look it up.", "Are you going back to uni? To the same hall? If so, would the staff hold a package there if something arrived for a student in the mail? Maybe you could mail them to yourself the day before you leave for your parents." ]

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[ "Tips for maximum cooling in a house using window A/C units. I have a small house (~750 sq ft) with window A/C units in 2 rooms on opposite sides of the house. I get no circulation of cool air in the house at all. Just walking out of the bedroom with the A/C into the hall way, you can feel the wall of warm air. We have ceiling fans in almost every room, they don't seem to help at all.\n\nWhen building a pc, you put a lot of thought in to the case and fans. You have some fans blowing out and some blowing in to get a good circulation going. Would the same thing work for a small house? Any tips?\n\n", "Tips for maximum cooling in a house using window A/C units. I have a small house (~750 sq ft) with window A/C units in 2 rooms on opposite sides of the house. I get no circulation of cool air in the house at all. Just walking out of the bedroom with the A/C into the hall way, you can feel the wall of warm air. We have ceiling fans in almost every room, they don't seem to help at all.\n\nWhen building a pc, you put a lot of thought in to the case and fans. You have some fans blowing out and some blowing in to get a good circulation going. Would the same thing work for a small house? Any tips?\n\n" ]

[ "The two rooms are they opened rooms like living room/dining room and such? Or are they closed rooms like an office or bedroom? The best would to be in a hall way or open room that way it can move from room to room, remember heat rises so the fans have a summer/winter switch on them. If its in a room but not a clear path to another room get. Box fan and point it down a hall way or in the direction you want for cold air to go. Also make sure you keep the filters clean on the window units, if there's a lot of dust and build up it can reduce the output. If its in your budget and assuming house is not too old to do so, think about getting central air, less hassle everyroom same temp. (source:worked with my father who's been in hv/ac for 30+yrs) although knowledge on window units not as good as central, but talking mostly air flow not the unit.", "Make sure your AC is NOT on recirculate (bringing in fresh air) so it creates positive pressure inside the rooms with the AC, forcing air out of the room. Supplement this with box fans blowing the air where you want it to go, and ceiling fans. Even so, you'll never get completely proper cooling all over, in my experience, but just keep trying to blow the cool air where you want it to be, and it will make a significant difference, plus the ceiling fans make rooms feel SIGNIFICANTLY cooler." ]

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[ "Tips for staying concentrated I'm horrible at doing essays and reading anything more than a paragraph. Are there any non-supplement ways to keep myself from zoning out?", "Tips for staying concentrated I'm horrible at doing essays and reading anything more than a paragraph. Are there any non-supplement ways to keep myself from zoning out?", "Tips for staying concentrated I'm horrible at doing essays and reading anything more than a paragraph. Are there any non-supplement ways to keep myself from zoning out?" ]

[ "I'm a patent attorney with ADHD, and much of my job involves reading research papers, patent applications, licensing contracts, and the occasional case. Here are some tips that I've picked up:\n\n1) At least half the information in a paragraph can be found in the first sentence. \n\n2) When reading a paragraph, underline key words, rather than sentences. Aim to only underline ten or so key words per paragraph, though depending on what subject you're doing, you may need more. You should be able to summarize the paragraph using those key words. Underlining is more active than just reading. \n\n3) For most people, 20 minutes is about the most time you can concentrate without actually doing something. So reading 15-20 minutes straight, then summarizing what you've read, can help quite a bit. \n\n4) Get stuff down on paper, but don't worry about the wording too much. It can help just to write things down as if you're having a conversation with someone about the topic. A lot of times, your verbal summary of what the topic is about will make a pretty good outline for your paper.\n\n5) I'm a visual person, so I draw pictures. Granted, much of a patent application involves drafting pictures and describing them, but I wonder how well diagrams would have worked in high school or college for non-technical subjects. I would think a good diagram or two would be appreciated by a teacher who has to read dozens of essays. It maybe isn't worth the risk of being in the final draft, but at the very least it could help you mix things up.\n\n6) Usually, the best way to think about essays is hierarchically, rather than chronologically. If you can write a one paragraph summary, then break each sentence of that summary into its own paragraph, then break each of those sentences into its own paragraph (so, 25 - 30 paragraphs), that will probably be enough. I mean, it'll take ", "Best cure I've found is to just do it at your school's library. I focus 110% on my work when I'm there studying.", "I suffer from ADD and this works fairly well for me! \n\n25 minutes of focused work (no phone etc.) and then 5 mins of doing whatever then 25 min again and after 2 hours you take a longer break (~ 30 min) and start over!\n\nThis is called Pomodoro and there's an app for it! " ]

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[ "what are some ways that I could smell better? Preferably in a natural way, but I'm open to getting cologne, if it has to come to it... My ex used to say I smelled weird, and even after I took a shower! Maybe it was my shirts, but who knows?", "what are some ways that I could smell better? Preferably in a natural way, but I'm open to getting cologne, if it has to come to it... My ex used to say I smelled weird, and even after I took a shower! Maybe it was my shirts, but who knows?", "what are some ways that I could smell better? Preferably in a natural way, but I'm open to getting cologne, if it has to come to it... My ex used to say I smelled weird, and even after I took a shower! Maybe it was my shirts, but who knows?", "what are some ways that I could smell better? Preferably in a natural way, but I'm open to getting cologne, if it has to come to it... My ex used to say I smelled weird, and even after I took a shower! Maybe it was my shirts, but who knows?", "what are some ways that I could smell better? Preferably in a natural way, but I'm open to getting cologne, if it has to come to it... My ex used to say I smelled weird, and even after I took a shower! Maybe it was my shirts, but who knows?", "what are some ways that I could smell better? Preferably in a natural way, but I'm open to getting cologne, if it has to come to it... My ex used to say I smelled weird, and even after I took a shower! Maybe it was my shirts, but who knows?", "what are some ways that I could smell better? Preferably in a natural way, but I'm open to getting cologne, if it has to come to it... My ex used to say I smelled weird, and even after I took a shower! Maybe it was my shirts, but who knows?", "what are some ways that I could smell better? Preferably in a natural way, but I'm open to getting cologne, if it has to come to it... My ex used to say I smelled weird, and even after I took a shower! Maybe it was my shirts, but who knows?", "what are some ways that I could smell better? Preferably in a natural way, but I'm open to getting cologne, if it has to come to it... My ex used to say I smelled weird, and even after I took a shower! Maybe it was my shirts, but who knows?", "what are some ways that I could smell better? Preferably in a natural way, but I'm open to getting cologne, if it has to come to it... My ex used to say I smelled weird, and even after I took a shower! Maybe it was my shirts, but who knows?", "what are some ways that I could smell better? Preferably in a natural way, but I'm open to getting cologne, if it has to come to it... My ex used to say I smelled weird, and even after I took a shower! Maybe it was my shirts, but who knows?" ]

[ "Check your diet. Including certain types of spices in meals can cause body odor. Of course, increasing the amount of spices tends to increase the amount of body odor. ", "don't let your clothes sit in the washer after the cycle is done for too long. Open the door for the washer machine also so it can dry out so mold doesn't grow...don't let your clothes sit for very long if wet. wash them on warm/hot cycle or the heavy duty cycle. be sure to use floss along with brush your teeth since food stuck in your mouth can make your breath bad and throw off your sense of smell. wash your blankets monthly.", "Double the amount of water you're drinking every day.\n\nAlso, are you sure your ex wasn't just being mean?", "* Antibacterial soap on you\n* Loofah or exfoliating scrub to really get any stink off of you\n* Don't forget your feet\n* Brush teeth thoroughly\n* Consider modifications to diet that may address your body odor\n* Clean your clothes and perhaps modify dryer sheet smells\n* Minimize hair products that have strong smells\n* Wash your sheets and pillowcases\n* Disinfect your hamper\n* Wash jackets, sweaters, coats\n* Check if your car has any funky odors that may be wafting on you & clean it up\n", "Place a box of bar soap in your armoire / clothes cabinet (might work in drawers too). The soap smell will permeate your clothes, thus smelling more fresh.", "There was a thread on /r/askreddit about home remedies a few weeks ago. Someone mentioned using apple cider vinegar to combat body odor.\n\nMaybe try that.", "Shit, i wish I knew how to reply to someone directly! \n\nI'm already drinking a shit ton of water, so maybe I'm getting better? Also, I grew up eating spicy foods, so that's gotta stop too... Too much farting going on over here. \n\nAnd yeah, my ex and I JUST broke up, and that was her parting words... It was most definitely bitterness on her part. ", "Juice celery dude. Trust me. Also, eat fresh foods, less animal products. Drink more water, and take some fiber. Exfoliate almost every part of your body. Buy some Creed Irish Tweed.", "If you use a scented moisturiser, especially after you shower, I find the scent stays on my skin a lot longer than perfume. I'd still use perfume if I'm going out, especially if it matches the lotion as it maximises the scent and staying power of the perfume. Otherwise, any nice smelling lotion will do. .", "Diet is actually a big deal. Your perspiration is a form of waste disposal so try not to eat a lot of strong, pungent foods like onions/spices.", "Chew Dentyne Ice! The intensity of the mint flavor will immediately open up clogged nasal passages, allowing you to both breath easier, smell better, and smell better! " ]

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[ "[21 M] Feeling lost in life. Hi everyone, I [M21] am a 3rd year undergrad and constantly have this feeling of not knowing my passion or purpose in life. While I see folks around me what they like and working on it everyday to get better at their craft , I feel like I don’t even know what is the one thing I truly like and work on it beside the other things in life , everyday , knowing what my passion is , making progress each day. What is the one thing that I can call as “My craft”. I totally feel like a generalist, knowing many things and not being the master of any one particular thing.\n\nRecently I have realised that you can’t make progress and be great in 6 different things simultaneously. One has to choose his priorities and zoom down on one-two thing that he loves the most , while keeping all others going on but , narrowing the focus, to be great at that particular thing.\n\nIt may sound self loathing but I know I am born to be great, but recently I have came down to the conclusion that one can’t be great in everything he does, instead he has to zoom down and find his craft.\n\nAnd I am having a great difficulty doing this, and seeing people around me on the one thing they love everyday and keep getting better is also making me feel left out and very very bad. \n\nYour valuable opinions will help me.", "[21 M] Feeling lost in life. Hi everyone, I [M21] am a 3rd year undergrad and constantly have this feeling of not knowing my passion or purpose in life. While I see folks around me what they like and working on it everyday to get better at their craft , I feel like I don’t even know what is the one thing I truly like and work on it beside the other things in life , everyday , knowing what my passion is , making progress each day. What is the one thing that I can call as “My craft”. I totally feel like a generalist, knowing many things and not being the master of any one particular thing.\n\nRecently I have realised that you can’t make progress and be great in 6 different things simultaneously. One has to choose his priorities and zoom down on one-two thing that he loves the most , while keeping all others going on but , narrowing the focus, to be great at that particular thing.\n\nIt may sound self loathing but I know I am born to be great, but recently I have came down to the conclusion that one can’t be great in everything he does, instead he has to zoom down and find his craft.\n\nAnd I am having a great difficulty doing this, and seeing people around me on the one thing they love everyday and keep getting better is also making me feel left out and very very bad. \n\nYour valuable opinions will help me.", "[21 M] Feeling lost in life. Hi everyone, I [M21] am a 3rd year undergrad and constantly have this feeling of not knowing my passion or purpose in life. While I see folks around me what they like and working on it everyday to get better at their craft , I feel like I don’t even know what is the one thing I truly like and work on it beside the other things in life , everyday , knowing what my passion is , making progress each day. What is the one thing that I can call as “My craft”. I totally feel like a generalist, knowing many things and not being the master of any one particular thing.\n\nRecently I have realised that you can’t make progress and be great in 6 different things simultaneously. One has to choose his priorities and zoom down on one-two thing that he loves the most , while keeping all others going on but , narrowing the focus, to be great at that particular thing.\n\nIt may sound self loathing but I know I am born to be great, but recently I have came down to the conclusion that one can’t be great in everything he does, instead he has to zoom down and find his craft.\n\nAnd I am having a great difficulty doing this, and seeing people around me on the one thing they love everyday and keep getting better is also making me feel left out and very very bad. \n\nYour valuable opinions will help me.", "[21 M] Feeling lost in life. Hi everyone, I [M21] am a 3rd year undergrad and constantly have this feeling of not knowing my passion or purpose in life. While I see folks around me what they like and working on it everyday to get better at their craft , I feel like I don’t even know what is the one thing I truly like and work on it beside the other things in life , everyday , knowing what my passion is , making progress each day. What is the one thing that I can call as “My craft”. I totally feel like a generalist, knowing many things and not being the master of any one particular thing.\n\nRecently I have realised that you can’t make progress and be great in 6 different things simultaneously. One has to choose his priorities and zoom down on one-two thing that he loves the most , while keeping all others going on but , narrowing the focus, to be great at that particular thing.\n\nIt may sound self loathing but I know I am born to be great, but recently I have came down to the conclusion that one can’t be great in everything he does, instead he has to zoom down and find his craft.\n\nAnd I am having a great difficulty doing this, and seeing people around me on the one thing they love everyday and keep getting better is also making me feel left out and very very bad. \n\nYour valuable opinions will help me.", "[21 M] Feeling lost in life. Hi everyone, I [M21] am a 3rd year undergrad and constantly have this feeling of not knowing my passion or purpose in life. While I see folks around me what they like and working on it everyday to get better at their craft , I feel like I don’t even know what is the one thing I truly like and work on it beside the other things in life , everyday , knowing what my passion is , making progress each day. What is the one thing that I can call as “My craft”. I totally feel like a generalist, knowing many things and not being the master of any one particular thing.\n\nRecently I have realised that you can’t make progress and be great in 6 different things simultaneously. One has to choose his priorities and zoom down on one-two thing that he loves the most , while keeping all others going on but , narrowing the focus, to be great at that particular thing.\n\nIt may sound self loathing but I know I am born to be great, but recently I have came down to the conclusion that one can’t be great in everything he does, instead he has to zoom down and find his craft.\n\nAnd I am having a great difficulty doing this, and seeing people around me on the one thing they love everyday and keep getting better is also making me feel left out and very very bad. \n\nYour valuable opinions will help me.", "[21 M] Feeling lost in life. Hi everyone, I [M21] am a 3rd year undergrad and constantly have this feeling of not knowing my passion or purpose in life. While I see folks around me what they like and working on it everyday to get better at their craft , I feel like I don’t even know what is the one thing I truly like and work on it beside the other things in life , everyday , knowing what my passion is , making progress each day. What is the one thing that I can call as “My craft”. I totally feel like a generalist, knowing many things and not being the master of any one particular thing.\n\nRecently I have realised that you can’t make progress and be great in 6 different things simultaneously. One has to choose his priorities and zoom down on one-two thing that he loves the most , while keeping all others going on but , narrowing the focus, to be great at that particular thing.\n\nIt may sound self loathing but I know I am born to be great, but recently I have came down to the conclusion that one can’t be great in everything he does, instead he has to zoom down and find his craft.\n\nAnd I am having a great difficulty doing this, and seeing people around me on the one thing they love everyday and keep getting better is also making me feel left out and very very bad. \n\nYour valuable opinions will help me.", "[21 M] Feeling lost in life. Hi everyone, I [M21] am a 3rd year undergrad and constantly have this feeling of not knowing my passion or purpose in life. While I see folks around me what they like and working on it everyday to get better at their craft , I feel like I don’t even know what is the one thing I truly like and work on it beside the other things in life , everyday , knowing what my passion is , making progress each day. What is the one thing that I can call as “My craft”. I totally feel like a generalist, knowing many things and not being the master of any one particular thing.\n\nRecently I have realised that you can’t make progress and be great in 6 different things simultaneously. One has to choose his priorities and zoom down on one-two thing that he loves the most , while keeping all others going on but , narrowing the focus, to be great at that particular thing.\n\nIt may sound self loathing but I know I am born to be great, but recently I have came down to the conclusion that one can’t be great in everything he does, instead he has to zoom down and find his craft.\n\nAnd I am having a great difficulty doing this, and seeing people around me on the one thing they love everyday and keep getting better is also making me feel left out and very very bad. \n\nYour valuable opinions will help me.", "[21 M] Feeling lost in life. Hi everyone, I [M21] am a 3rd year undergrad and constantly have this feeling of not knowing my passion or purpose in life. While I see folks around me what they like and working on it everyday to get better at their craft , I feel like I don’t even know what is the one thing I truly like and work on it beside the other things in life , everyday , knowing what my passion is , making progress each day. What is the one thing that I can call as “My craft”. I totally feel like a generalist, knowing many things and not being the master of any one particular thing.\n\nRecently I have realised that you can’t make progress and be great in 6 different things simultaneously. One has to choose his priorities and zoom down on one-two thing that he loves the most , while keeping all others going on but , narrowing the focus, to be great at that particular thing.\n\nIt may sound self loathing but I know I am born to be great, but recently I have came down to the conclusion that one can’t be great in everything he does, instead he has to zoom down and find his craft.\n\nAnd I am having a great difficulty doing this, and seeing people around me on the one thing they love everyday and keep getting better is also making me feel left out and very very bad. \n\nYour valuable opinions will help me.", "[21 M] Feeling lost in life. Hi everyone, I [M21] am a 3rd year undergrad and constantly have this feeling of not knowing my passion or purpose in life. While I see folks around me what they like and working on it everyday to get better at their craft , I feel like I don’t even know what is the one thing I truly like and work on it beside the other things in life , everyday , knowing what my passion is , making progress each day. What is the one thing that I can call as “My craft”. I totally feel like a generalist, knowing many things and not being the master of any one particular thing.\n\nRecently I have realised that you can’t make progress and be great in 6 different things simultaneously. One has to choose his priorities and zoom down on one-two thing that he loves the most , while keeping all others going on but , narrowing the focus, to be great at that particular thing.\n\nIt may sound self loathing but I know I am born to be great, but recently I have came down to the conclusion that one can’t be great in everything he does, instead he has to zoom down and find his craft.\n\nAnd I am having a great difficulty doing this, and seeing people around me on the one thing they love everyday and keep getting better is also making me feel left out and very very bad. \n\nYour valuable opinions will help me.", "[21 M] Feeling lost in life. Hi everyone, I [M21] am a 3rd year undergrad and constantly have this feeling of not knowing my passion or purpose in life. While I see folks around me what they like and working on it everyday to get better at their craft , I feel like I don’t even know what is the one thing I truly like and work on it beside the other things in life , everyday , knowing what my passion is , making progress each day. What is the one thing that I can call as “My craft”. I totally feel like a generalist, knowing many things and not being the master of any one particular thing.\n\nRecently I have realised that you can’t make progress and be great in 6 different things simultaneously. One has to choose his priorities and zoom down on one-two thing that he loves the most , while keeping all others going on but , narrowing the focus, to be great at that particular thing.\n\nIt may sound self loathing but I know I am born to be great, but recently I have came down to the conclusion that one can’t be great in everything he does, instead he has to zoom down and find his craft.\n\nAnd I am having a great difficulty doing this, and seeing people around me on the one thing they love everyday and keep getting better is also making me feel left out and very very bad. \n\nYour valuable opinions will help me.", "[21 M] Feeling lost in life. Hi everyone, I [M21] am a 3rd year undergrad and constantly have this feeling of not knowing my passion or purpose in life. While I see folks around me what they like and working on it everyday to get better at their craft , I feel like I don’t even know what is the one thing I truly like and work on it beside the other things in life , everyday , knowing what my passion is , making progress each day. What is the one thing that I can call as “My craft”. I totally feel like a generalist, knowing many things and not being the master of any one particular thing.\n\nRecently I have realised that you can’t make progress and be great in 6 different things simultaneously. One has to choose his priorities and zoom down on one-two thing that he loves the most , while keeping all others going on but , narrowing the focus, to be great at that particular thing.\n\nIt may sound self loathing but I know I am born to be great, but recently I have came down to the conclusion that one can’t be great in everything he does, instead he has to zoom down and find his craft.\n\nAnd I am having a great difficulty doing this, and seeing people around me on the one thing they love everyday and keep getting better is also making me feel left out and very very bad. \n\nYour valuable opinions will help me.", "[21 M] Feeling lost in life. Hi everyone, I [M21] am a 3rd year undergrad and constantly have this feeling of not knowing my passion or purpose in life. While I see folks around me what they like and working on it everyday to get better at their craft , I feel like I don’t even know what is the one thing I truly like and work on it beside the other things in life , everyday , knowing what my passion is , making progress each day. What is the one thing that I can call as “My craft”. I totally feel like a generalist, knowing many things and not being the master of any one particular thing.\n\nRecently I have realised that you can’t make progress and be great in 6 different things simultaneously. One has to choose his priorities and zoom down on one-two thing that he loves the most , while keeping all others going on but , narrowing the focus, to be great at that particular thing.\n\nIt may sound self loathing but I know I am born to be great, but recently I have came down to the conclusion that one can’t be great in everything he does, instead he has to zoom down and find his craft.\n\nAnd I am having a great difficulty doing this, and seeing people around me on the one thing they love everyday and keep getting better is also making me feel left out and very very bad. \n\nYour valuable opinions will help me.", "[21 M] Feeling lost in life. Hi everyone, I [M21] am a 3rd year undergrad and constantly have this feeling of not knowing my passion or purpose in life. While I see folks around me what they like and working on it everyday to get better at their craft , I feel like I don’t even know what is the one thing I truly like and work on it beside the other things in life , everyday , knowing what my passion is , making progress each day. What is the one thing that I can call as “My craft”. I totally feel like a generalist, knowing many things and not being the master of any one particular thing.\n\nRecently I have realised that you can’t make progress and be great in 6 different things simultaneously. One has to choose his priorities and zoom down on one-two thing that he loves the most , while keeping all others going on but , narrowing the focus, to be great at that particular thing.\n\nIt may sound self loathing but I know I am born to be great, but recently I have came down to the conclusion that one can’t be great in everything he does, instead he has to zoom down and find his craft.\n\nAnd I am having a great difficulty doing this, and seeing people around me on the one thing they love everyday and keep getting better is also making me feel left out and very very bad. \n\nYour valuable opinions will help me." ]

[ ">I totally feel like a generalist, knowing many things and not being the master of any one particular thing.\n\nthere's nothing wrong with that. 🤷‍♂️\n\n>It may sound self loathing but I know I am born to be great, but recently I have came down to the conclusion that one can’t be great in everything he does, instead he has to zoom down and find his craft.\n\nthat's not self loathing. i'd put that in the delusions of grandeur bucket. you're not \"born to be\" *anything*, you're just born. what you do with it is what you do with it. \n\nall you can do is go about your life getting a little better at whatever day to day. always try and make future you happy. \n\nthis weird combo of self pity and ego you have is not going to help future you. do away with that immediately. particularly because *any* career you have, you're going to need *soft skills*, and you absolutely cannot be saying things out loud like \"i know i was born to be great\". that's next level arrogant. people hate that. 😂\n\nall that said; find what peaks your interests naturally. you don't have to be great at tons of things. the things you're going to be great at are generally things that *naturally* peak your interest. people that are really good at things, do not force doing them. they *want* to be doing them. that's how they got so good at it.", "You don’t know what will make you truly happy in 10-20-30-40 years, you only have a general idea of it. Figure out what brings you the most interest and joy in the short term, 1-3 years. As you gain more life experiences, many things will change and you’ll likely end up shifting your focus until you feel really comfortable and locking that “craft” in long term. Not to say this will stick forever, there’s a chance you may shift again much later in life.", "Trust me dude, I am 34 and I am still lost. My dad just retired from a bank at the age of 60 and although it seems he is still lost in someway. And believe me I have felt exactly same when I was in college. I was always trying to do many thing everyday. When someone used to come up with new idea or a hobby, I would get charged up and try things.\nAfter awhile I learned that the reason why all that was happening because I was not looking at my own hobby. M y hobby has always been about programming and I was student of the Mechanical engineering. And programming and mechanical engineering was two different things in those days.\n\nSo, after I graduated, thought I went ahead and started working in the mechanical field , I have always spare out some time to code every now and then. I am not saying I am great coder, but at least I am working on it. It keeps me happy. \n\nOther thing is, friends will keep moving ahead no matter what. You will feel they are more focused, but if you look closely - in life they will be out of focus in many areas. You have very limited amount of energy - so try to focus on one thing at a time. That might help you. Initially it may feel that you are dragging but eventually it will be alright. \n\nYou feel like you were born to be great - being great is about focusing on one thing. Focusing on one work at a time. Learn this art as soon as possible. It will be helpful. And if you are bad,good or great let people decide you do your job about ‘Focusing’.", "There is a self assessment called Strengthsfinders that measures your strengths across a number of categories. This was very helpful to me as I was beginning grad school and when I started looking for jobs after grad school. It includes specific career recommendations for each strength, so it is more specific than many other assessments. Not a slam dunk, but something to consider.", "My suggestion is to read \"So good they can't ignore You\". Great book and very interesting perspective on life passions", "Look up Sahil Bloom on Twitter or elsewhere. Has a lot of good thought processes and such I think many can find helpful. Hope this helps you on your journey", "Just work on something and know you are not committed to that for life. Nowadays people will have many different jobs, not just one. Just prove yourself in school that you are capable, then you are able to prove yourself in interviews for jobs. You will not be locked down to one job your whole life. Many college kids get freaked out by this, but it’s not reality. It is a waste of stress and can even cause people to even drop out over it. Just work on something you know you can complete.", "I've also felt this way. Trust me many of your colleagues also are unsure what to do it may just seem on the outside that they are so sure.", "I do not believe a person has certain \"passions\" you are born with. I do believe however that finding something you can be passionate about is what you are looking for. \n\nI would suggest getting out and trying different stuff. What are things you enjoy doing / are passionate about?", "Honey, it’s totally ok not to know that when you are 21. The majority of people are absolutely lost in this age and have no idea about their true desires. They can improve skills in smth and then switch to another field, it’s a veeery normal thing.\n\nSo it’s not a very-important-lifelong choice. Luckily, it doesn’t take decades to become good in something, so relax your butt a bit. But I understand you very well, so I’ll tell you the best I learned about the topic. \n\nHow to choose now:\n• Notice what you do for fun/rest. The activity you do voluntarily even when you are tired would be the most natural for you. \n• Look where your natural curiosity goes. If you’re expending your knowledge in something even without an intention to do so, it’s a good thing to study seriously. \n• Think about everyday life and routines which every activity you consider implies. What do you like the most? What seems to be the most comfortable for you?\n\nIt’s easy to build mastery in smth matching said criteria even if you have no talent. Mastery leads to money, social status, etc, so consider them after.\n\nAh, and btw you can become good in 2 or more fields simultaneously. You can choose one for job, another one for hobby. It’s good to switch activities sometimes.\n\nMy example: I had style and dressing as hobby. Then I became a personal stylist. I enjoy my job a lot. At the same time I study tarot for fun, and I’m progressing. I also have degrees in physics and management, but they revealed to be not my things. Ah, and English is not my first language, I didn’t dedicate myself to it, but somehow I’m fluent (even if not perfect). \n\nAnd one more very important note: dedicating all you to one thing is the straightest way to burnout ;) \n\nIf you have absolutely no idea: go to IT, they have money", "Explore and don't worry about it. Try to enjoy it, when your older you'll wish you were lost. Be well", "A long time ago, an author named Robert Greene made a habit of writing critiques of his fellow authors, playwrights, poets, etc. He wrote the famous line \"Jack of all trades\" in a criticism of this actor-turned-playwright that was coming out on the scene. The implication being, as we are well aware, that to be a jack of all trades is apparently to be a master of none. \n\nThe playwright he was criticizing? William Shakespeare. \n\nNow, I don't know about you, but I didn't know the name \"Robert Greene\" before this. If \"great\" is what you want to be, then you haven't got anything to fear from being a jack of all trades. Don't pigeonhole yourself into being an actor - being a playwright might pan out one day.", "4 things I have to constantly remind myself of: \nYou don't need to be good at something to enjoy it. You don't need to enjoy everything you do.\nYou don't need to be good at everything.\nYou don't need to enjoy the things you are good at." ]

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[ "Hands shake uncontrollably during exams I start shaking. In my mind I’m stable, I’m not nervous or anything, but I just can’t control the shaking. This uncontrollable shaking is preventing my control over the pencil. Next week I have a very important test. What should I do?", "Hands shake uncontrollably during exams I start shaking. In my mind I’m stable, I’m not nervous or anything, but I just can’t control the shaking. This uncontrollable shaking is preventing my control over the pencil. Next week I have a very important test. What should I do?", "Hands shake uncontrollably during exams I start shaking. In my mind I’m stable, I’m not nervous or anything, but I just can’t control the shaking. This uncontrollable shaking is preventing my control over the pencil. Next week I have a very important test. What should I do?", "Hands shake uncontrollably during exams I start shaking. In my mind I’m stable, I’m not nervous or anything, but I just can’t control the shaking. This uncontrollable shaking is preventing my control over the pencil. Next week I have a very important test. What should I do?", "Hands shake uncontrollably during exams I start shaking. In my mind I’m stable, I’m not nervous or anything, but I just can’t control the shaking. This uncontrollable shaking is preventing my control over the pencil. Next week I have a very important test. What should I do?", "Hands shake uncontrollably during exams I start shaking. In my mind I’m stable, I’m not nervous or anything, but I just can’t control the shaking. This uncontrollable shaking is preventing my control over the pencil. Next week I have a very important test. What should I do?" ]

[ "If you can see a doctor, ask for a prescription for a beta blocker. It basically blocks adrenaline. Lots of people use them for short term performance issues like stage fright.", "While studying for this very important test have you been sleeping well, eating well? Have you been consuming more sugar/caffeine? If not at least get it checked out", "That's adrenaline or mild anxiety. Breathe through it. You don't need drugs, you need to breathe. Count your breaths. And drink water. It's all good.", "Sounds like exam anxiety which can cause high blood pressure and in turn cause you to shake. \nWhile studying for your exam practice breathing techniques like Box breathing. Inhale through your nose for 4 seconds, hold your breath for 4 seconds, and exhale completely via your mouth emptying your lungs. Do the same while taking your exam. Stay away from caffeine. You got this.", "I saw a teacher fix this for a student and I've used it since - it works like magic: shake your hands, wrists and arms as hard as you can for a few seconds on purpose. It will release the tension and stop the involuntary shaking. Instantly. And you can repeat anytime it comes back.", "The there is a point between your lip and nose a little bit closer to the nose than to the lip.. \nPush it really hard.. yes it hurts.. its a pressure point that helps some people with anxiety.. \nIt's not much but it's the best I can give you right now" ]

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