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[ "How to forget something (like a phone number) The only phone numbers I remember these days are my own and close family/friends. I've deleted all of my ex-girlfriends contact info, but I still remember her phone number. Its been quite a while now, and I just want to forget it. Any tips?", "How to forget something (like a phone number) The only phone numbers I remember these days are my own and close family/friends. I've deleted all of my ex-girlfriends contact info, but I still remember her phone number. Its been quite a while now, and I just want to forget it. Any tips?" ]

[ "Drink heavily? That usually makes me forget things. Of course, the only real way to forget is to give it time and don't think about it.", "I think I have heard some studies about memory and repetitive actions. That people trying to be relived of more stressful memories (like post traumatic) would be given a distraction activity like a repetitive game (like the arrows in dance dance revolution or the blocks in tetris) so I'd say, engage your mind on other points and keep your focus off that and eventually with some luck and time, it will be lost to you :). (also if anybody knows knows the study I'm referencing feel free to cite or.... discr" ]

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[ "How to keep paper cuts from hurting so much. How do I keep paper cuts from hurting so much without access to antibiotic cream and the like?", "How to keep paper cuts from hurting so much. How do I keep paper cuts from hurting so much without access to antibiotic cream and the like?", "How to keep paper cuts from hurting so much. How do I keep paper cuts from hurting so much without access to antibiotic cream and the like?" ]

[ "Crazy glue it shut. Works amazingly well for really *small* cuts after bleeding stops. Works instantly for paper cuts. About 8-12 hours later the glue usually falls out and the wound is super clean. Glue it shut again and in about a day you're healed. Doctors have a medically approved version of it called \"liquid stitch.\" I've been using it for years. I think there's some kind of anti-biotic quality to it as well, but I know not what it is, only that it works.", "from personal experience, lemon juice neutralises all pain whithin 10-15 seconds for about 3 hours, then just put some more lemon juice on", "Work with your hands more and build callouses. Paper cuts have to go much deeper to hurt. Antibiotic creams don't do anything for pain unless they have a mild anesthetic. Speaking of which, if paper cuts bother you that much, maybe try an over the counter anesthetic like Anbesol that you would use for a toothache. " ]

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[ "Tips for managing clients I have recently been granted more responsibility at my job. I work in information security and I am now in charge of the project management side of things especially updating and contacting clients.\n\nI was wondering about any applications, tools, or tips you may have to offer to help manage clients.\n\nOne of the things I struggle with it task management. What I would like to do is have a system that will manage all the current projects and the ability to track when I contact them and add a note. It seems a lot of CRMs are too complex for something like this (a lot of them have to do with sales and have options for generating leads, etc.)\n\nIf possible, it'd be nice to be able to invite my superiors to it so that they can refer to it if they have any questions.\n\nI have been using Evernote but feel like it has no organization. I was considering Growly Notes (similar to OneNote but for Mac) but superiors can't really look at it and I'm afraid it is too similar to Evernote.\n\nI also was considering something like 37Signals' HighRise or Insightly but they may be overkill. I like HighRise, however, I don't really want to pay and there may be times there are more than 3 active projects going on.\n\nI am just wondering if any of you know of that \"hidden gem\" or have any tips you can provide of how you have things set up or a system that works for you...", "Tips for managing clients I have recently been granted more responsibility at my job. I work in information security and I am now in charge of the project management side of things especially updating and contacting clients.\n\nI was wondering about any applications, tools, or tips you may have to offer to help manage clients.\n\nOne of the things I struggle with it task management. What I would like to do is have a system that will manage all the current projects and the ability to track when I contact them and add a note. It seems a lot of CRMs are too complex for something like this (a lot of them have to do with sales and have options for generating leads, etc.)\n\nIf possible, it'd be nice to be able to invite my superiors to it so that they can refer to it if they have any questions.\n\nI have been using Evernote but feel like it has no organization. I was considering Growly Notes (similar to OneNote but for Mac) but superiors can't really look at it and I'm afraid it is too similar to Evernote.\n\nI also was considering something like 37Signals' HighRise or Insightly but they may be overkill. I like HighRise, however, I don't really want to pay and there may be times there are more than 3 active projects going on.\n\nI am just wondering if any of you know of that \"hidden gem\" or have any tips you can provide of how you have things set up or a system that works for you..." ]

[ "if i'm understanding your responsibilities correctly, you can use something simple like MS Project for task management. If you want a challenge use Excel", "You are probably stuck with a CRM to do this task properly. The other simple way is to revert back to using index cards in a little index card box, similar to a recipe box. This is what people used prior to CRM. Each client gets a card and all their information goes on it. Periodically, flip through the box and stay I touch with the clients. Works like a charm, is cheap, requires no training and you can easily load it all into a CRM system at a later date. I am a salesman and heavy CRM user, but used to be an engineer." ]

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[ "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n", "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n", "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n", "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n", "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n", "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n", "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n", "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n", "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n", "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n", "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n", "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n", "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n", "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n", "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n", "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n", "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n", "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n", "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n", "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n", "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n", "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n", "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n", "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n", "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n", "getting rid of dandruff I've always had a problem with dandruff, little flakes. When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again. Anyone know a more permanent, long-lasting way of getting ride of dandruff? \n\nTHANKS!\n\n" ]

[ "It's simple. Stop using shampoo. Period. Wash it thoroughly with water in the shower. Within 2 weeks it will be gone and your hair will look amazing.\n\nFor an optional nice scent you can rub in a little scented bath oil once a week (tops).\n\nNot trolling - this is exactly what worked for me.", "I do.\n\nGet tea tree oil, the real stuff. Get some help putting it all over your scalp. You may want to do this laying down and have someone help to make sure it doesn't get in your eyes cause if you do it burns like crazy. Let it sit for a little bit, it'll start to feel weird and hurt a little bit, but that's where the magic happens.\nAfter you let that sit on your scalp for 10 or so minutes, get some pure extra virgin coconut oil and rub that into your scalp to soothe the weird sensation the tea tree oil makes you feel. Wash it out.\n\nThe next few days, massive flakes of crap may fall out of your hair pretty consistently, so do this when you don't have much going on.\n\nI know it sounds weird but I used to have very bad dandruff and this solved it right away.", "apple cider vinegar!!!! My whole family swears by it. It also gives hair a nice luster. I'd add a link but im on my phone - so i just have to assure you If you look up dandruff and apple cider vinegar you'll find the method. \n\n", "When I was in high school I had really bad dandruff. It didn't help I have dark hair either. Every morning I would wake up and my hair greasy as all get out. I didn't understand it. \n\nWell after trying a dozen different products, the one that worked best for me was Nizoral. It is expensive, but damn worth it. It kicked my dandruffs ass! I still have greasy hair in the morning, but oh well. I do highly suggest Nizoral if other standard products are not working for you. ", "Salon owner here; tea tree oil suggestions are spot-on. Paul Mitchell makes a tea tree oil shampoo and conditioner that I swear by. Stay away from the dandruff control products, especially don't use them daily - they're meant to be used occasionally. You may have a scalp sensitivity to sulfates - try and find a \"sulfate free\" shampoo. Make sure you use conditioner and massage it into the scalp to help moisturize. PM me if you have more questions :)", "I used to have dandruff so severely on my head that my scalp looked extremely white in contrast to my short black hair. It was because the entire top layer of skin on my scalp was dry and dead, and it was basically a huge coating of dandruff sitting there. My problem is extremely dry skin everywhere, and this severe dryness was the cause of my dandruff problem. I didn't realise how bad it was until I managed to get rid of it.\n\nMy dermatologist suggested using moisturiser on my scalp. Not any moisturiser - a type which is unscented, no colours or anything untoward. I was prescribed Double Base: http://www.google.co.uk/products/catalog?cid=816163491214908908\n\nWithin a week of applying this to my scalp every morning and evening, my scalp had turned a beautiful pink colour for the first time in my life. It felt like my head was brought back to life - I could feel the temperature of the air on my scalp and I could actually feel when people touched my head! It was a similar feeling to having a plaster cast removed from a limb after weeks of wearing it.\n\nI'm not sure if this would work for many people - or even anyone else - but in cases where you have dry skin elsewhere on your body, you might try this for a few days (but please consult a doctor / dermatologist first just in case there are any risks).\n\nThe only side effect of applying cream to my scalp as I do is that it looks greasy! I get round this by having my hair cut reasonably short - but long enough to be styled in a way where the moisturising cream doubles up as a wet-look gel.\n\nI wash my hair in the shower without soap, dry it completely afterwards, then apply the cream like some people apply wax/gel/clay - while massaging it into my scalp. I make sure the hair is how I want it to stay for the rest of the day, then I let the hair cool down with the cream generously applied. It then dries and holds in the desired shape - and without dandruff or dryness for the rest of the day!\n\nSmashing.", "I had dreadlocks for a year. Since I'm white, my hair had a difficult time \"locking\". The lady who did my hair insisted that I don't ever get my hair wet until it locked up. I had to go literally 8 months without washing my hair with running water. I used [dry shampoo](http://www.amazon.com/Organic-Root-Stimulator-Cleanse-Latherless/dp/B000EGMBXY) (which oddly enough made my hair smell like marijuana, and convinced everyone I was a stoner). The shampoo managed to get rid of the funky smell, but still left my scalp dry, and very, very itchy. The dandruff got to the point where you could literally scrape it off in large clumps. It was like cradlecap times 10. The year after I got my dreads I decided they were hopeless, and had them combed out (which hurt like a bitch). Though my hair was then straightened, and the horrible shell of dead skin went away, I still had a brutally damaged scalp which itched constantly and left large flakes everywhere. \n\nI used all sorts of shampoos boasting dandruff control, for 2 months, and got nowhere. Then I got my hands on Head & Shoulders. I followed the directions on the bottle, and literally within 2 days of using this stuff my scalp stopped itching. I couldn't manage to shake a single flake from my head. I was skeptical before using H&S, I thought it would be like every other shampoo, but it held up its end perfectly.\n\nIf Head & Shoulders doesn't help you man, you may have to see a doctor.\n\n**", "Different dandruff shampoos use different chemicals that are effective against different kinds of dandruff. Selsun blue, for example, uses selenium sulfide, while most others use pyrithione zinc. Neutrogena T/gel uses tar, and and T/sal uses salicylic acid. Try them all, and see what works for you.", "My hair cutter told me this:\nWhen you shampoo your hair, THOROUGHLY massage your head. Don't scratch it with your nails, just run your fingertips through your hair thoroughly and sensually. Hit every part of your hair with those gorgeous fingertips and rub HARD. If you dig with your nails, it'll make your dandruff worse, but if you give yourself a good HARD massage with your fingertips over all your scalp, DANDRUFF-B-GONE", "I used to have bad dandruff--exactly like you see on commercials: dry, itchy scalp and snow all over my shoulders.\n\nThen I stopped using shampoo, turned down the water temperature when I shower, only wash my hair twice a week, and wash my hair with lemon juice. \n\nCan't say for sure which one of those things did it for me but now my scalp feels awesome.", "This worked for me - Shampoo less often, using gentler shampoos. \n\nI wash my hair (with water) every time I shower but only shampoo about once per week. Use baby shampoo or something like that to avoid stripping too much of your skin's natural oil (which is what makes your scalp freak out in the first place). My hair looks completely regular, not at all greasy. \n\n", "I have another question on a related note if any LPT'ers out there know the answer.\n\nI shampoo my hair almost daily, mostly to scrub my scalp and prevent it from smelling. If I go even a day without shampooing, or even scrubbing my scalp down well, the scalp area starts to give off odors. I usually don't smell it myself, but whenever I rest my head down on the pillow for a little while or (believe me) make a typical left turn while driving, the smell becomes very noticeable to me and I'm afraid that this is what everyone around me is smelling.\n\nHow does one effectively get rid of scalp odor?", "i have seboretti dermatitis, which is like dandruff except my scalp gets irritated and then scales(not just flakes) but scales the size of sunflower seeds flake off... scared the shit out of me the first time i saw it but now it isnt quite as bad... i use oatmeal soap bars. they work better than shampoo as long as you have short hair. tried medium length(1-3 inches) and it went to shit and the large flakes came back. personally i think its all dependant on your scalp. try different things\n\n\napple cider vinegar might help", "Stop using shampoo. Stop using conditioner. Wash your hair daily with water. No more itching. No more dandruff.\n\nYou will save money.\n\nNo one will ever know unless you tell them.\n\nTrust me. Do it.", "Make your own shampoo and conditioner. Baking soda diluted with water for shampoo; diluted apple cider vinegar for conditioner. Works wonders. I still have *slight* dandruff, but not nearly as bad as I used to. \n\nLook up the ratio and be amazed. \n\n", "For me, Selsun Blue never works. But...I think Denorex is pretty awesome. I only need to use it like once a year. Not sure why it's so effective for me. It burns when it goes on...which is also awesome.", "For me, I found neutrogena tgel to work well for several years, but the past few months i have started having an extremely itchy scalp and lots of dandruff. Havent found a solution yet.", "For many people dandruff is actually a fungus. It can only be treated with a topical shampoo such as H&S. It tends to flair up at different times of the year. Showering with cool water and using a good conditioner can help!", "Change active ingredient shampoos every couple of weeks or so.\n\nWash frequently.\n\nShave your head (if you aren't too attached to your hair).\n\nAll personal fixes for me, best of luck.", "Literally impossible. Nothing works. Tgel, nizoral, etc do nothing. I guess the next step would be to go to the dermatologist ", "If you have stress problems, or are a nervous person it would be harder than a trick.\n\nWhen I wash my hair I use very little shampoo, because the scalp could be irritated with the antidandruff shampoo.", "I've been using selsun blue for awhile and it works for me, what you have to do though to help(at least for me) is take a fine teeth comb and loosen up the dead skin in the hair, then wash your hair but dig into the scalp with your hands. ", "I shampoo with Nioxin every other day. I use to be embarrassed because of all the dandruff. Now I have zero flakes. This stuff cleans the scalp awesome.", "I have the same problems.\n\nI found Nizoral(Brand name) aka Ketoconazole (chemical name) Which is the same as the prescription stuff. Prescription is 2% and the Nizoral is 1%. It Works great. \n\nI alternate between Head and Shoulders (pyrithione zinc), and Nizoral. Since Nizoral is expensive, I use Head and shoulders more often. But like you, I have found using only one shampoo doesn't work. \n\nAlso if you go shopping, look at the active ingredient. Many dandruff shampoos use the same active ingredient, in that case you are just paying for different smells. ", "Apple cider vinegar works. So does white vinegar. Fill a spray bottle, mist your head, comb it through your hair, wait 10 minutes, feel the cleanse, jump in the shower and rinse it out. Your scalp will feel fantastic and your hair will be shiny and soft.", "> When I used Selsun Blue, the problem goes away for maybe a day, but then the dandruff comes back again.\n\nSo use Selsun Blue every day. If the regular Selsun Blue is too harsh their \"Naturals\" line is much gentler and should work just as well. As far as getting rid of dry scalp permanently... I have no idea. Change your diet? Shampoo less frequently? Take some pills?" ]

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[ "Basic guidelines for communication I stutter a lot, and I am prone to unexciting smalltalk. Many times I don't know what to talk about , so I bring up things I have done. I end up sounding cocky. How do I force myself to not one-up people's conversation points and how do you start a non conversation point in the first place? Also, how do I bring my self esteem high enough where I don't stutter but low enough where I'm not cocky. Thanks to anyone who can help!", "Basic guidelines for communication I stutter a lot, and I am prone to unexciting smalltalk. Many times I don't know what to talk about , so I bring up things I have done. I end up sounding cocky. How do I force myself to not one-up people's conversation points and how do you start a non conversation point in the first place? Also, how do I bring my self esteem high enough where I don't stutter but low enough where I'm not cocky. Thanks to anyone who can help!", "Basic guidelines for communication I stutter a lot, and I am prone to unexciting smalltalk. Many times I don't know what to talk about , so I bring up things I have done. I end up sounding cocky. How do I force myself to not one-up people's conversation points and how do you start a non conversation point in the first place? Also, how do I bring my self esteem high enough where I don't stutter but low enough where I'm not cocky. Thanks to anyone who can help!" ]

[ "Sonder\n\nn. the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own—populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness—an epic story that continues invisibly around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground, with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once, as an extra sipping coffee in the background, as a blur of traffic passing on the highway, as a lighted window at dusk.\n\n\nLol don't know if that helps or not. However just relax the best you can, and keep in mind everyone you meet and talk to are probably tripping out on some shit in their own head just like you are. Maybe looking at them as though they are on the exact same level as you will make you feel more comfortable speaking with them ", "People love talking about themselves figure out their hobbies and interests and keep them engaged with their passions.", "Ask people questions about things they talk about. That's it! They will love that you are interested in them and you will avoid the possibility of one-upsmanship. Never change the subject suddenly and turn it towards you. Big turn off." ]

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[ "How to become friends with someone you don't really know: Hello! The title basically says it all. In school there's this one girl in a few of my classes (don't know if I have a crush on her or not), who I want to become good friends with! I already know a few things about her, like where she's from, but I want to get to know her more. Any tips on talking to her, when she is talking to someone else, or just tips on how to not look creepy when talking?", "How to become friends with someone you don't really know: Hello! The title basically says it all. In school there's this one girl in a few of my classes (don't know if I have a crush on her or not), who I want to become good friends with! I already know a few things about her, like where she's from, but I want to get to know her more. Any tips on talking to her, when she is talking to someone else, or just tips on how to not look creepy when talking?", "How to become friends with someone you don't really know: Hello! The title basically says it all. In school there's this one girl in a few of my classes (don't know if I have a crush on her or not), who I want to become good friends with! I already know a few things about her, like where she's from, but I want to get to know her more. Any tips on talking to her, when she is talking to someone else, or just tips on how to not look creepy when talking?", "How to become friends with someone you don't really know: Hello! The title basically says it all. In school there's this one girl in a few of my classes (don't know if I have a crush on her or not), who I want to become good friends with! I already know a few things about her, like where she's from, but I want to get to know her more. Any tips on talking to her, when she is talking to someone else, or just tips on how to not look creepy when talking?", "How to become friends with someone you don't really know: Hello! The title basically says it all. In school there's this one girl in a few of my classes (don't know if I have a crush on her or not), who I want to become good friends with! I already know a few things about her, like where she's from, but I want to get to know her more. Any tips on talking to her, when she is talking to someone else, or just tips on how to not look creepy when talking?", "How to become friends with someone you don't really know: Hello! The title basically says it all. In school there's this one girl in a few of my classes (don't know if I have a crush on her or not), who I want to become good friends with! I already know a few things about her, like where she's from, but I want to get to know her more. Any tips on talking to her, when she is talking to someone else, or just tips on how to not look creepy when talking?" ]

[ "Ppl start to establish where thwy want to see in the next few weeks, sit near her, make eye contact, just start with a simple smile say hey. You do t have to have full blown out conversation he first time, juat a small wave and a hi. \nThen the next time you do it she\"ll remember you.\n\nIf you see her with food, a tasty sandwich, a latte, stay ooh where'd you get that? Then you can compare/mock shItty campus food.\n\n,jump at the opportunity if he teacher tells you there a a group project.", "If you know any of her interests, one way to break the ice is to ask for advice. Approach her cheerfully and say \"Hi, (her name)? I'm (your name). I heard that you were into/know a lot about calligraphy (or whatever). Mind if I ask for some tips on how to get started in it? I've been thinking of buying a few pens but don't want to waste my money on junk.\" Ideally, you'll find an interest she has that you want to know more about. If you don't know of one in common, better not to fake interest.\n\nAn alternative is to ask what her experience has been in (some interest). Same approach, followed by \"I heard that you were big into cheerleading. I recently heard someone say that people don't appreciate all the effort that goes into that. What do you think?\"\n\nMost people are very willing to share their opinions and give tips to newbies. Plus, it makes a connection, and gives you a reason to say \"hi\" after that. If you do actually pursue an interest she has, even if just to try it out, it gives a good reason to approach later with a follow-up question or show off some project.\n\nIf she is weirded out by that approach she is probably not very friendly. It's better to find that out early on.", "invite her to group activities. I have a pub quiz team that I invite pretty much everyone to. that's not weird. and then at the group activity you can become friends with people on a more individual basis", "Invite a group of people to do something (study, go get coffee, whatever) that includes her since that gives you a chance to get to know her with no pressure for either of you. Social organizers tend to acquire more friends and SOs than people who wait to be invited to things. Also, say hi casually and smile if you want to work up to this but do that with other people in the class as well. If you get a chance, do something helpful (if you notice she can't find a pen, offer her one. If she drops something, pick it up). Don't forget that if you want her to remember who you are, that it should be positive (wear good colors for you, good posture, brush your hair, etc. and smile). If you're good at cracking jokes, this is another thing that makes you known and liked.", "I can tell you how to introduce yourself, if she doesn't already know you. and it's going to be a cliche. \n\nJust do it. Don't think about how \"weird\" or out of place it is to do it. Just do it. It won't be awkward if you don't feel awkward. That's what confidence is. What no one really says is that most people who show confidence, do it blindly. They might not be confident about it, but they don't think about what goes wrong. Just walk up to here at a time you feel is right, hold out your hand and say, \"hi, my name is ____, you seem really (cool, nice, fun, or [other adjective you think is true]), but I'd like to ask (take this time to take what you know and come up with something you'd genuinely be curious to know. Usually a good rule to follow is that if she hasn't told you anything herself, you don't know it and it's not true. If you're still in grade school, this goes as a good thing to follow to avoid gossip. Or you can just preface it with \"I heard (you like ___, you're from ___,) then ask your question. \n\nIf she seems uncomfortable, let it go. Don't apologize or act like you regret introducing yourself. But if it doesn't seem like she wants to talk, most likely she'll answer the question, after she does, just say Thank you and express a reaction to what she said. Then make an exit. Say you're gonna go back to your desk to work or study for the test that day or something then do what you said you're going to do. But feel free to say that you'd like to keep in touch or talk more about what you asked at another time. This is also a nice opportunity to invite her to something you and your friends might be doing. If you have a movie you might be interested in, and you have friends that would like to join you, get it set up. Then invite her to it. If it's you and a bunch of other guys, add that you're looking for a few more people and say that she's free to bring some friends. This is a good time to have conversations and talk about the movie both in advance and after. Trying to make friends is tricky and this is a rigid way of explaining it. But the most important thing to remember is that if it doesn't work, don't blame her, and do not blame yourself. Sometimes things don't work out. If you don't get along, that just means it wasn't meant to work out, \"compatibility\" is a real unit of measure. This doesn't mean anything negative about her or about you as people. Respecting her decision or even lack of decision is key. Calling her names or being mean about is how \"creepy guys\" get the title. \n\nThink about this for a little bit if you're the socially awkward type. Rehearse it in a mirror a bit and play around with it in your head. Doing that isn't weird or awkward but it will feel like it. There are people who make 1000x more money than I do and talk to theaters full of thousands of people who speak into a mirror for hours a week. It's why they make so much money. \n\nOther people can probably add on here but I have to go to a college class myself in a bit here. \n\nGood luck! ", "MAKE HER LAUGH! \n \n I cannot express to you how easy a girl will let down her guard if you make her laugh...after that its fair game. You will feel more relaxed, she will feel more relaxed and then you can talk about anything! Keep in mind, if you're in high school, there will be an array of judgements to come--even if you don't know you're own feelings yet-- every one else will think they do. \n This means other kids will think you like her romantically, or worse they'll think you're already dating-- ('cas god forbid any 2 people of opposite genders can actually just be friends...) \n Also, she will probably think that you like her. Because that's initially what we all think when a male tries to befriend us. (IDK-- Maybe its a primal instinct?) \n \n But don't let that stand in the way, my best guy friends and my best boyfriends have been with guys who wouldn't give up. So you shouldn't either! " ]

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[ "Negotiating salary after receiving a job offer I interviewed for a job without knowing the exact salary - there was a bracket of £32,000-£35,000 noted on the job description though. \nThe interview went really well and my potential new boss emailed yesterday to let me know that they would love me to join the team and that HR will send me a formal offer in the next few days. I haven’t heard from them yet but fully anticipate them offering me the £32k. I genuinely believe that in this specific company’s case my skills and experience are worth £35k, maybe even a little more (however I currently earn a lot less so would still be happy to meet them in the middle at £33,500). \nHow should I respond to the email not to come across as greedy but to hopefully successfully negotiate more money? \nAny help would be much appreciated!!", "Negotiating salary after receiving a job offer I interviewed for a job without knowing the exact salary - there was a bracket of £32,000-£35,000 noted on the job description though. \nThe interview went really well and my potential new boss emailed yesterday to let me know that they would love me to join the team and that HR will send me a formal offer in the next few days. I haven’t heard from them yet but fully anticipate them offering me the £32k. I genuinely believe that in this specific company’s case my skills and experience are worth £35k, maybe even a little more (however I currently earn a lot less so would still be happy to meet them in the middle at £33,500). \nHow should I respond to the email not to come across as greedy but to hopefully successfully negotiate more money? \nAny help would be much appreciated!!", "Negotiating salary after receiving a job offer I interviewed for a job without knowing the exact salary - there was a bracket of £32,000-£35,000 noted on the job description though. \nThe interview went really well and my potential new boss emailed yesterday to let me know that they would love me to join the team and that HR will send me a formal offer in the next few days. I haven’t heard from them yet but fully anticipate them offering me the £32k. I genuinely believe that in this specific company’s case my skills and experience are worth £35k, maybe even a little more (however I currently earn a lot less so would still be happy to meet them in the middle at £33,500). \nHow should I respond to the email not to come across as greedy but to hopefully successfully negotiate more money? \nAny help would be much appreciated!!", "Negotiating salary after receiving a job offer I interviewed for a job without knowing the exact salary - there was a bracket of £32,000-£35,000 noted on the job description though. \nThe interview went really well and my potential new boss emailed yesterday to let me know that they would love me to join the team and that HR will send me a formal offer in the next few days. I haven’t heard from them yet but fully anticipate them offering me the £32k. I genuinely believe that in this specific company’s case my skills and experience are worth £35k, maybe even a little more (however I currently earn a lot less so would still be happy to meet them in the middle at £33,500). \nHow should I respond to the email not to come across as greedy but to hopefully successfully negotiate more money? \nAny help would be much appreciated!!", "Negotiating salary after receiving a job offer I interviewed for a job without knowing the exact salary - there was a bracket of £32,000-£35,000 noted on the job description though. \nThe interview went really well and my potential new boss emailed yesterday to let me know that they would love me to join the team and that HR will send me a formal offer in the next few days. I haven’t heard from them yet but fully anticipate them offering me the £32k. I genuinely believe that in this specific company’s case my skills and experience are worth £35k, maybe even a little more (however I currently earn a lot less so would still be happy to meet them in the middle at £33,500). \nHow should I respond to the email not to come across as greedy but to hopefully successfully negotiate more money? \nAny help would be much appreciated!!", "Negotiating salary after receiving a job offer I interviewed for a job without knowing the exact salary - there was a bracket of £32,000-£35,000 noted on the job description though. \nThe interview went really well and my potential new boss emailed yesterday to let me know that they would love me to join the team and that HR will send me a formal offer in the next few days. I haven’t heard from them yet but fully anticipate them offering me the £32k. I genuinely believe that in this specific company’s case my skills and experience are worth £35k, maybe even a little more (however I currently earn a lot less so would still be happy to meet them in the middle at £33,500). \nHow should I respond to the email not to come across as greedy but to hopefully successfully negotiate more money? \nAny help would be much appreciated!!" ]

[ "Politely ask. \"is there any way we can discuss the salary to better line up with my expectations?\" something to that effect. The answer is always no if you don't ask. And always be aware of how you ask", "I wouldn’t throw the first number out. Ever. For all you know they’re going to offer you $35K. Get the offer, and then evaluate.", "I always ask for 10% more than offered. In this job market, I think there is a lot of room for leverage. My skills increase the bottom line; I’m asking for a down payment of that additional revenue upfront. Only you know what you’re worth. Good luck and congratulations!", "“Thank you for your offer and I’m excited for the opportunity to join the team. I would respectfully ask for a starting salary of <insert number here> and I look forward to your response.”", "Get the offer. Assess the salary. If it is 35k you accept. If it is 32k and you want the role respond:\n\n\"I accept and want the role. When I saw the role initially I was looking towards the high end, 35k, and feel my skills and expertise would warrant that salary. Is there any way to get to that salary?\"\n\nA company would respect you and it wouldn't jeopardize the offer. If they are stuck on 32k I would build a 90 day plan that gave you accelerators to increase your rate in the first year to 35k.", "u/sosaudio has a good solution. However, I'll share what I do to avoid this scenario. When they ask what my expectations are, I state the salary I require to accept the position and simply say that if this isn'tsomething they're open to, then there is no longer a reason to continue the interview. I know this sounds obnoxious AF and generally is only for positions that are posted as \"salary negotiable based upon X\". Your case sounds as if this is the absolute bottom and top pay for the position offered. If you have sufficient experience to command the top end, then ask for it. Believe it or not most HR professionals respect someone who knows their value. If not, then you are applying for a dead-end job. Cheers!" ]

[ 8, 8, 6, 5, 5, 2 ]

[ "How to stop connecting to unprotected wifi networks that aren't mine (i.e. Belkin, Xinfinity, etc.) . Everytime I open my laptop and try to use my computer, I keep connecting to other wifi's that aren't mine because they aren't password protected and mine is. It's really annoying. \n\nThanks!", "How to stop connecting to unprotected wifi networks that aren't mine (i.e. Belkin, Xinfinity, etc.) . Everytime I open my laptop and try to use my computer, I keep connecting to other wifi's that aren't mine because they aren't password protected and mine is. It's really annoying. \n\nThanks!" ]

[ "Which version of windows? When you set up the PC it asked you if you want to connect to open hotspots (with a warning that not all networks are safe). You must've clicked yes.\n\nIf you're using windows 10 it should be in the wifi sense settings somewhere.", "Assuming you are using Windows 8+:\n\n1. Click on the wifi icon. This should bring up a list of networks nearby.\n2. Click on Network Settings.\n3. Click on Manage Wifi Settings.\n4. Disable \"Connect to suggest open hotspots\" and basically everything there that auto-connects to random hotspots.\n5. Scroll to the bottom to see the list of known networks. Click on each one you don't want to auto-connect to and click Forget.\n\nThat's it! :)" ]

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[ "How to tell if someone is flirting or just being friendly? I am kind of new to social interactions, and am 30 (this is a weird combination and would take a while to explain, but is true). I constantly am trying to figure out if people are flirting with me or not, and am also constantly worried that I am giving off that vibe when I don't mean to. So what should I look for?\n\nFor reference, I am a straight male, but as reddit readers are any gender or orientation, comments for both genders are appreciated.", "How to tell if someone is flirting or just being friendly? I am kind of new to social interactions, and am 30 (this is a weird combination and would take a while to explain, but is true). I constantly am trying to figure out if people are flirting with me or not, and am also constantly worried that I am giving off that vibe when I don't mean to. So what should I look for?\n\nFor reference, I am a straight male, but as reddit readers are any gender or orientation, comments for both genders are appreciated.", "How to tell if someone is flirting or just being friendly? I am kind of new to social interactions, and am 30 (this is a weird combination and would take a while to explain, but is true). I constantly am trying to figure out if people are flirting with me or not, and am also constantly worried that I am giving off that vibe when I don't mean to. So what should I look for?\n\nFor reference, I am a straight male, but as reddit readers are any gender or orientation, comments for both genders are appreciated.", "How to tell if someone is flirting or just being friendly? I am kind of new to social interactions, and am 30 (this is a weird combination and would take a while to explain, but is true). I constantly am trying to figure out if people are flirting with me or not, and am also constantly worried that I am giving off that vibe when I don't mean to. So what should I look for?\n\nFor reference, I am a straight male, but as reddit readers are any gender or orientation, comments for both genders are appreciated.", "How to tell if someone is flirting or just being friendly? I am kind of new to social interactions, and am 30 (this is a weird combination and would take a while to explain, but is true). I constantly am trying to figure out if people are flirting with me or not, and am also constantly worried that I am giving off that vibe when I don't mean to. So what should I look for?\n\nFor reference, I am a straight male, but as reddit readers are any gender or orientation, comments for both genders are appreciated." ]

[ "Doesn't matter. Just assume they're all friendly. It's better being the dense idiot than being the flirty dirty old man. The dense idiot has its own charm. ", "If they keep staring you at the eyes with their mouth semi-open while you speak they probably want more of you.", "some people just act very friendly and comes off as flirtly. Some people are flirty but you would never know it. It hard to tell but if you are around them long enough, you notice the difference.", "This is a skill that only comes with practice. I know so many girls who dont realise that a guy is pulling a slight mind f*uck on them... They think theyre just being friendly. Never is. Never is. ", "Crossed arms and lack of eye contact is guarding. If most of her body is facing away and she replies in short sentences then she is NOT interested." ]

[ 8, 3, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Street smarts What is some good advice for anyone that has to interact with people on the streets? \nTraveling for example", "Street smarts What is some good advice for anyone that has to interact with people on the streets? \nTraveling for example", "Street smarts What is some good advice for anyone that has to interact with people on the streets? \nTraveling for example", "Street smarts What is some good advice for anyone that has to interact with people on the streets? \nTraveling for example", "Street smarts What is some good advice for anyone that has to interact with people on the streets? \nTraveling for example", "Street smarts What is some good advice for anyone that has to interact with people on the streets? \nTraveling for example", "Street smarts What is some good advice for anyone that has to interact with people on the streets? \nTraveling for example", "Street smarts What is some good advice for anyone that has to interact with people on the streets? \nTraveling for example", "Street smarts What is some good advice for anyone that has to interact with people on the streets? \nTraveling for example" ]

[ "This is general advice for any situation but def for the streets; understand body language signs - they are universal but just slightly different per cultures.\n\nArms across the body, they probably aren’t going to give you travel advice.\n\nFolks enjoying their day traveling at a slow pace, can help you around town where to go. \n\nI’m sure there are YouTube videos but this knowledge comes from being in the streets for a while. \n\nThe only other thing could be quick wit but better to watch who you are talking with/to and same thing applies - body language to tell you what type of joke is okay or not.", "don’t be obvious (looking around in awe or appearing lost)\ndon’t let yourself get distracted, stupid stuff like “hey what time is it?” they know what time it is. don’t engage with that\nwallet should never go in back pocket\n\n\nI was visiting New Orleans ages ago, waiting for my date to get off work. on the sidewalk coming towards me two guys look at me and quickly split up. i pulled the wine bottle i was carrying out of the bag and held it by the neck (to start swinging it) and made sure my back was up close to the building. they took off. lesson there is awareness, if something appears off, act on it quickly.", "If you’re using a train, subway or trolley system, download the map onto your phone. Then it will appear you’re just looking at your phone instead of looking like a tourist staring at the transit map on the wall.", "Be aware, who is around you, is anyone paying you special attention. Is someone getting close for no reason?\n\nIt’s not rude to exert control over your boundaries. You don’t owe an explanation. \n\nSomeone tries to sell you something unsolicited, “No thanks”.\n\nSomeone offers to take you to a really cool place even though you just met them “No thanks”.\n\nSomeone getting closer than arms length “Back\nUp”\n\nProject confidence, know where you’re headed and even if you don’t, don’t show it. If your in a rough part of town or somewhere poor, don’t display wealth, this includes blingy jewellery, but also stuff like you’re phone, or air pods, etc…\n\nYour goal is to not draw unwanted attention, 90% of everyone else is going about their day, be like them. \n\nMost of all, avoid areas where you feel endangered. There’s a different mindset strolling through the hood at 3am than there is in the suburbs at noon, but the key thing is always awareness.", "Keep small denominations of money in your front pocket so you don’t have to take out your wallet to pay for something small, or donate to a homeless person.", "Don’t dress in expensive clothing if going to a poor country as it makes you a target and don’t try to befriend everyone you meet but that doesn’t by anyone means, be rude to strangers. Also buying strangers drinks, isn’t a smart thing to do unless they are your genuine friends. I don’t even buy random women drinks, as I always say if I have to buy you a drink as an ice breaker then I’ve already lost, as I should be able to talk you without doing so. I’ve even said to women in bars as you find out who only wants free drinks(drink your drink girls) and who general interested in you. My sister even used to ask guys why they wanted to buy her a drink in the first place.", "If someone tries to sell you something and they aren’t a store. Hard pass. I can get you this if you come with me. No thanks.", "Don't look anyone in the eyes, even when talking to them. But don't talk to anyone, and don't look nervous. They will smell your fear.", "Always looks like you know where your going and be aware of your surroundings at all times. \nTry to keep valuables in a zippered pocket. I enjoying wearing cargo pants while traveling for this reason.\nKeep a small sum of money in your shoe in case you get robbed.\nNever open your wallet on the street. I keep small groupings of money folded easily so I can grab it without displaying the contents of my wallet. \nDon’t let anyone talk to you. (Period) no one who approached randomly has anything you need.\nDon’t accept gifts/trinkets.\nWatch what others do." ]

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[ "How to Say No without causing any Hurt Feelings Sometimes saying no can be very awkward and disturb bonds between friends.\n\nI've been going out to eat lunch with a friend every week because he asked me to help him spend his meal plan money before it expires this summer. So why not... free food. However he started saying, I should start giving him money in cash, equal to whatever he's buying for me, so I'm basically giving him money and he'll pay for me using his meal plan. No more free food so I don't really want to go, I also don't want to start giving him cash for something he's inviting me to go to because then it feels like I'm paying him to take me to get food. \n\nTechnically speaking, the money is still the same as if I bought the food myself. I get a $5 sandwich, I lose $5, only difference is he is pocketing my $5, which doesn't feel right. I liked the free food. But I don't want to go and spend my money just to help him use up his meal plan. \n\nI've been making excuses but I can't keep doing it for the rest of the school year. I also don't want him to think I was freeloading off him, which I kind of was, but he did want the help and he did initially offer me free food. Is there a way to just reject his offers once and for all without ruining a friendship.", "How to Say No without causing any Hurt Feelings Sometimes saying no can be very awkward and disturb bonds between friends.\n\nI've been going out to eat lunch with a friend every week because he asked me to help him spend his meal plan money before it expires this summer. So why not... free food. However he started saying, I should start giving him money in cash, equal to whatever he's buying for me, so I'm basically giving him money and he'll pay for me using his meal plan. No more free food so I don't really want to go, I also don't want to start giving him cash for something he's inviting me to go to because then it feels like I'm paying him to take me to get food. \n\nTechnically speaking, the money is still the same as if I bought the food myself. I get a $5 sandwich, I lose $5, only difference is he is pocketing my $5, which doesn't feel right. I liked the free food. But I don't want to go and spend my money just to help him use up his meal plan. \n\nI've been making excuses but I can't keep doing it for the rest of the school year. I also don't want him to think I was freeloading off him, which I kind of was, but he did want the help and he did initially offer me free food. Is there a way to just reject his offers once and for all without ruining a friendship.", "How to Say No without causing any Hurt Feelings Sometimes saying no can be very awkward and disturb bonds between friends.\n\nI've been going out to eat lunch with a friend every week because he asked me to help him spend his meal plan money before it expires this summer. So why not... free food. However he started saying, I should start giving him money in cash, equal to whatever he's buying for me, so I'm basically giving him money and he'll pay for me using his meal plan. No more free food so I don't really want to go, I also don't want to start giving him cash for something he's inviting me to go to because then it feels like I'm paying him to take me to get food. \n\nTechnically speaking, the money is still the same as if I bought the food myself. I get a $5 sandwich, I lose $5, only difference is he is pocketing my $5, which doesn't feel right. I liked the free food. But I don't want to go and spend my money just to help him use up his meal plan. \n\nI've been making excuses but I can't keep doing it for the rest of the school year. I also don't want him to think I was freeloading off him, which I kind of was, but he did want the help and he did initially offer me free food. Is there a way to just reject his offers once and for all without ruining a friendship.", "How to Say No without causing any Hurt Feelings Sometimes saying no can be very awkward and disturb bonds between friends.\n\nI've been going out to eat lunch with a friend every week because he asked me to help him spend his meal plan money before it expires this summer. So why not... free food. However he started saying, I should start giving him money in cash, equal to whatever he's buying for me, so I'm basically giving him money and he'll pay for me using his meal plan. No more free food so I don't really want to go, I also don't want to start giving him cash for something he's inviting me to go to because then it feels like I'm paying him to take me to get food. \n\nTechnically speaking, the money is still the same as if I bought the food myself. I get a $5 sandwich, I lose $5, only difference is he is pocketing my $5, which doesn't feel right. I liked the free food. But I don't want to go and spend my money just to help him use up his meal plan. \n\nI've been making excuses but I can't keep doing it for the rest of the school year. I also don't want him to think I was freeloading off him, which I kind of was, but he did want the help and he did initially offer me free food. Is there a way to just reject his offers once and for all without ruining a friendship.", "How to Say No without causing any Hurt Feelings Sometimes saying no can be very awkward and disturb bonds between friends.\n\nI've been going out to eat lunch with a friend every week because he asked me to help him spend his meal plan money before it expires this summer. So why not... free food. However he started saying, I should start giving him money in cash, equal to whatever he's buying for me, so I'm basically giving him money and he'll pay for me using his meal plan. No more free food so I don't really want to go, I also don't want to start giving him cash for something he's inviting me to go to because then it feels like I'm paying him to take me to get food. \n\nTechnically speaking, the money is still the same as if I bought the food myself. I get a $5 sandwich, I lose $5, only difference is he is pocketing my $5, which doesn't feel right. I liked the free food. But I don't want to go and spend my money just to help him use up his meal plan. \n\nI've been making excuses but I can't keep doing it for the rest of the school year. I also don't want him to think I was freeloading off him, which I kind of was, but he did want the help and he did initially offer me free food. Is there a way to just reject his offers once and for all without ruining a friendship.", "How to Say No without causing any Hurt Feelings Sometimes saying no can be very awkward and disturb bonds between friends.\n\nI've been going out to eat lunch with a friend every week because he asked me to help him spend his meal plan money before it expires this summer. So why not... free food. However he started saying, I should start giving him money in cash, equal to whatever he's buying for me, so I'm basically giving him money and he'll pay for me using his meal plan. No more free food so I don't really want to go, I also don't want to start giving him cash for something he's inviting me to go to because then it feels like I'm paying him to take me to get food. \n\nTechnically speaking, the money is still the same as if I bought the food myself. I get a $5 sandwich, I lose $5, only difference is he is pocketing my $5, which doesn't feel right. I liked the free food. But I don't want to go and spend my money just to help him use up his meal plan. \n\nI've been making excuses but I can't keep doing it for the rest of the school year. I also don't want him to think I was freeloading off him, which I kind of was, but he did want the help and he did initially offer me free food. Is there a way to just reject his offers once and for all without ruining a friendship." ]

[ "Just tell him you don't want to pay him. He invited you to help him spend his card, not convert it into cash. ", "When I have to say no, I try to cushion it between two nice things.\n\nYou could say: i enjoy going to have lunch with you, but I don't feel comfortable with the way you are asking it to happen. I hope you understand, because I do enjoy your company. ", "Depends if you still wanna eat for free. I think there's a risk your friend might think you're just hanging with him for the freebies, but maybe try rerouting it into a plan to hang out elsewhere. Make it clear you're not paying him for a plan I assume he's not paying for either (?), but you still want to be friends.\n\n\"I really enjoy hanging out with you, but me paying you for the free food kind of defeats the point. I still want to chill, so let's hang out at (alternative) instead and we can get food later.\" \n\nBut if you don't want to go if the free food cuts off, maybe you should consider why you're associated with that person.", "So he gets the food for free but makes you pay? That's just unfair. I'd jokingly say that and just say you can't afford it if that's how it is. He's essentially taking your money for no good reason. Then say you're up for hanging another time. So he knows you wanna be friends.", "If you were going to eat there anyway, then give him the money. Don't worry about him pocketing it, who cares? I get your point, but it makes no difference in the end.\n\nIf you would have found a cheaper place to eat if you had to spend your own money, then just be upfront with him.\n\n\"I'm only going to eat with you because you're treating, otherwise I would have bought a cup of ramen for 50 cents. So thank you for your generosity, I appreciate it, but I'll have to pass.\"", "I'm not sure what a meal plan is but if it's always at the same place you could say you're just bored of the food there" ]

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[ "To the people in corporate who stammer, how do you handle calls I am 26 years old who has stuttered for as long as I can remember. I find it extremely difficult to run calls and I am ashamed of my stammer, I am looking for advice on how I can fix it or make it better.\n\nI was bullied a lot in school for my stutter and I feel my colleagues not saying anything just makes me scared that I’ll be fired. I work 2x or 3x harder than my peers but I am unable to back it up in calls. I’m extremely ashamed of myself and I feel my life is never going to get better\n\nPlease help", "To the people in corporate who stammer, how do you handle calls I am 26 years old who has stuttered for as long as I can remember. I find it extremely difficult to run calls and I am ashamed of my stammer, I am looking for advice on how I can fix it or make it better.\n\nI was bullied a lot in school for my stutter and I feel my colleagues not saying anything just makes me scared that I’ll be fired. I work 2x or 3x harder than my peers but I am unable to back it up in calls. I’m extremely ashamed of myself and I feel my life is never going to get better\n\nPlease help", "To the people in corporate who stammer, how do you handle calls I am 26 years old who has stuttered for as long as I can remember. I find it extremely difficult to run calls and I am ashamed of my stammer, I am looking for advice on how I can fix it or make it better.\n\nI was bullied a lot in school for my stutter and I feel my colleagues not saying anything just makes me scared that I’ll be fired. I work 2x or 3x harder than my peers but I am unable to back it up in calls. I’m extremely ashamed of myself and I feel my life is never going to get better\n\nPlease help" ]

[ "Great question! How to keep from stammering? For me I work on tonality and repetition! Put your finger in your ear when no one is Home! Join public speaking groups such as toastmasters! Practice makes better and don't beat yourself up! Also, when you are brave enough listen to a 3 good, 2 bad and one ugly call!", "[Paul Stamets has a great story about how he got over his severe stutter](https://amp.reddit.com/r/Stutter/comments/7bmdpy/paul_stamets_mycologist_talking_about_stuttering/)", "Dude, it's mind over matter in certain circumstances. If you've got the mind to put this on a worldwide platform, you've got the matter to overcome it." ]

[ 2, 1, 0 ]

[ "How to stop snoring I was at a sleepover with a few friends and they all said I snored very loud and it annoyed them. What can I do to reduce it or completely stop it", "How to stop snoring I was at a sleepover with a few friends and they all said I snored very loud and it annoyed them. What can I do to reduce it or completely stop it", "How to stop snoring I was at a sleepover with a few friends and they all said I snored very loud and it annoyed them. What can I do to reduce it or completely stop it", "How to stop snoring I was at a sleepover with a few friends and they all said I snored very loud and it annoyed them. What can I do to reduce it or completely stop it", "How to stop snoring I was at a sleepover with a few friends and they all said I snored very loud and it annoyed them. What can I do to reduce it or completely stop it", "How to stop snoring I was at a sleepover with a few friends and they all said I snored very loud and it annoyed them. What can I do to reduce it or completely stop it", "How to stop snoring I was at a sleepover with a few friends and they all said I snored very loud and it annoyed them. What can I do to reduce it or completely stop it", "How to stop snoring I was at a sleepover with a few friends and they all said I snored very loud and it annoyed them. What can I do to reduce it or completely stop it" ]

[ "See a sleep doctor to determine what is causing the snoring. It could be a lot of things, but only they can determine the underlying problem. Anything else could just hide a more serious problem. \n\nSource: Work with sleep medicine dentists. ", "Wore a CPAP for years, that helped. Thing that helped most was, it seemed, losing about forty pounds. ", "Try sleeping in different positions or use a CPAP if your doctor recommends it. Try sleeping with your chin tilted slightly up", "Try going without eating or drinking at least 2 hours before bed, especially alcohol. Snoring can be related to acid reflux. ", "Those Breathe-Right strips work pretty well.\n\nIf they noticed you holding your breath or gasping for breath while you snored, you need to tell your doctor. That's a good indicator of sleep apnea.\n", "My wife has started snoring as she progresses in her pregnancy. From the other side of the fence, if you need to sleep near someone who has intense snoring (she sustains 60 decibels and normally above 70 based on this Android app), I have found using a sound generator with headphones is the only way I can really sleep.\n\nYou can match brown or white or pink noise against the tonality of the snoring and increase slowly until all sound is obscured. \n\nA sound meter on your phone can give you an idea of what your dealing with, I normally take a reading to keep the overall volume as low as possible since I fall asleep with earbuds in. ", "-Losing weight because it is reducing the weight on your neck or throat.\n\n-Sleeping on your side to reduce pressure on your nose/throat.\n\n-The Z-quiet anti-snoring mouthpiece works but puts pressure on your jaw. Other than that, just make sure to use it.\n\n-Drinking Alcohol also makes it worse.\n\nThe CPAP is a great device to improving your sleep, so you wake up feeling great. Though it does not reduce or stop snoring, it only increase airflow to your mouth.", "Do a low-carb diet. Learn what it is, get comfortable and then actually follow it for 7 days. I guarantee you your snoring will stop completely.\n/R/keto is a good place to start." ]

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[ "How to help GF to be less self-consious about her body? I'm quite skinny, and my GF have a normal, beautyful body, somewhat larger than me. We have a fantastic relationship in almost every kind of way. The only thing is; she doesnt like to show her naked body, because she feels big. I think it's because she compares herself with me. We talk about it and its not really a problem for any of us. But I would be happier if I could manage to make her understand that her body is perfect just the way it is. I tell her all the time how beautyful and sexy she i. But i wonder if any of you have any other tips for me? ", "How to help GF to be less self-consious about her body? I'm quite skinny, and my GF have a normal, beautyful body, somewhat larger than me. We have a fantastic relationship in almost every kind of way. The only thing is; she doesnt like to show her naked body, because she feels big. I think it's because she compares herself with me. We talk about it and its not really a problem for any of us. But I would be happier if I could manage to make her understand that her body is perfect just the way it is. I tell her all the time how beautyful and sexy she i. But i wonder if any of you have any other tips for me? " ]

[ ">I tell her all the time how beautyful and sexy she i. \n\nMake it public. Let her accidentally overhear you telling others how gorgeous she is. Tell her she's beautiful in earshot of others. When out, hold her hand, kiss her, put your hand around her shoulder or in her back pocket, give her your hand when she gets out of the car, guide her through the restaurant with your hand on the small of her back, take her dancing, give her a playful spank on the butt.\n\nAlso make it personal. Show her in the way your breathing changes when she's around, in how you inhale her scent, stare in her eyes, caress her face, stroke her limbs. Take her hand and put it on you, telling her, \"*This* is what you do to me.\" Take every opportunity to explore and enjoy her body and to tangibly show her how good she makes you feel. \n\n", "Sounds like she's chubby in which case if she wants to feel better about her self she needs to hit the gym like an adult an not be told she's perfect like a child when she's clearly in bad shape. \n\nFeel free to downvote but I'm not a liberal 2nd grade teacher. I pride myself on truth and dealing with problems like a adult not a baby. " ]

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[ "How do I move a mattress? Reddit, Its moving day today and I'm trying to move a full-size mattress to my new apartment. I'm just 3 blocks away, so hiring movers seems stupid. Whats the best way to move my mattress? I own a Honda Civic, if that helps.", "How do I move a mattress? Reddit, Its moving day today and I'm trying to move a full-size mattress to my new apartment. I'm just 3 blocks away, so hiring movers seems stupid. Whats the best way to move my mattress? I own a Honda Civic, if that helps." ]

[ "You're three blocks away.\n\nPut it in the roof of your car and drive slowly with your flashers on.\n\nYou don't even need to tie it if you drive slowly enough.\n\n\n", "You can tie the mattress to the top of your car or just carry it the 3 blocks. They really arn't all that heavy, moreso they are just bulky. " ]

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[ "Preventing sound transmission through a shared wall. Sound travels right through me and my roommates shared wall and I want to try and do something about it. Most of the threads I've found on reddit discussing this are pretty old so I thought I'd ask again about what I can do. Maybe something newer came along or something became cheaper since then, also there was a lot of misinformation in most of them. \n\n&amp;nbsp;\n\nI already know about white noise machines so please skip that suggestion unless you have a specific one you'd recommend. Please give me some guidance on *elegant* solutions that work, if there are any, no egg cartons and stapling carpet to the wall lol.", "Preventing sound transmission through a shared wall. Sound travels right through me and my roommates shared wall and I want to try and do something about it. Most of the threads I've found on reddit discussing this are pretty old so I thought I'd ask again about what I can do. Maybe something newer came along or something became cheaper since then, also there was a lot of misinformation in most of them. \n\n&amp;nbsp;\n\nI already know about white noise machines so please skip that suggestion unless you have a specific one you'd recommend. Please give me some guidance on *elegant* solutions that work, if there are any, no egg cartons and stapling carpet to the wall lol.", "Preventing sound transmission through a shared wall. Sound travels right through me and my roommates shared wall and I want to try and do something about it. Most of the threads I've found on reddit discussing this are pretty old so I thought I'd ask again about what I can do. Maybe something newer came along or something became cheaper since then, also there was a lot of misinformation in most of them. \n\n&amp;nbsp;\n\nI already know about white noise machines so please skip that suggestion unless you have a specific one you'd recommend. Please give me some guidance on *elegant* solutions that work, if there are any, no egg cartons and stapling carpet to the wall lol." ]

[ "Short of rebuilding the wall go buy acoustic foam panels. They are readily available on amazon.\n\nYou will have to live with whatever shape they come in.\n\nWould probably work better if both of you put it on either side of the wall.", "I did a wall with mass loaded vinyl. It was about a quarter inch thick, has the density of lead, if very very heavy. \n\nI measured sheet rock to fit the size then glued the vinyl to it, let it dry, then did the same over the wall I was placing it on, using as few screws as possible to lessen sound transmission but still making it so it wouldn’t fall off. \n\nIt helped, but it’s a project.", "Honestly, it’s not really possible. You can get acoustic treatment all you want, it’s not dense enough to stop the sound passing through and it’s not meant to. The only thing that stops sound is mass, and how thick it is, is the main deciding factor." ]

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[ "How to effectively keep cockroaches out of an apartment unit. So the apartment that I live in is unfortunately a giant cockroach party. Although I've spent hundreds on roach motels and poison, I just can't keep them away. My own unit is very clean but unfortunately I have some seriously dirty apartment units bordering my own. Any advice on how to keep the pests away? ", "How to effectively keep cockroaches out of an apartment unit. So the apartment that I live in is unfortunately a giant cockroach party. Although I've spent hundreds on roach motels and poison, I just can't keep them away. My own unit is very clean but unfortunately I have some seriously dirty apartment units bordering my own. Any advice on how to keep the pests away? ", "How to effectively keep cockroaches out of an apartment unit. So the apartment that I live in is unfortunately a giant cockroach party. Although I've spent hundreds on roach motels and poison, I just can't keep them away. My own unit is very clean but unfortunately I have some seriously dirty apartment units bordering my own. Any advice on how to keep the pests away? ", "How to effectively keep cockroaches out of an apartment unit. So the apartment that I live in is unfortunately a giant cockroach party. Although I've spent hundreds on roach motels and poison, I just can't keep them away. My own unit is very clean but unfortunately I have some seriously dirty apartment units bordering my own. Any advice on how to keep the pests away? ", "How to effectively keep cockroaches out of an apartment unit. So the apartment that I live in is unfortunately a giant cockroach party. Although I've spent hundreds on roach motels and poison, I just can't keep them away. My own unit is very clean but unfortunately I have some seriously dirty apartment units bordering my own. Any advice on how to keep the pests away? ", "How to effectively keep cockroaches out of an apartment unit. So the apartment that I live in is unfortunately a giant cockroach party. Although I've spent hundreds on roach motels and poison, I just can't keep them away. My own unit is very clean but unfortunately I have some seriously dirty apartment units bordering my own. Any advice on how to keep the pests away? " ]

[ "Get yourself a box of 20 mule team borax, available at most supermarkets in the laundry section. Bugs hate this stuff. Spread it on your carpets and put it between your mattresses, under your couch cushions, and sprinkle it liberally inside your cabinets. it will turn your place into the least desirable place for a bug to want to be, and they will move on to other apartments rather than be in proximity to the stuff.", "Wintergreen oil repels roaches. I lived in an infested apartment (a living nightmare, like literally roaches crawling on me in my bed, so I understand), and it carved out some roach-free zones. Spray it around doors and air vents especially.", "If you can get to a hardware store, ask for diatomaceous earth. It's a powder that is perfectly safe to line your floorboards with (like Borax), as long as you don't have any pets, and it works incredibly well. When the DE gets on the roach's body, it slowly dries them out and kills them. ", "You won't be able to get rid of them until every single apartment in that building with cockroaches has also gotten rid of theirs....\n\nBut to limit their reproduction, try to always have your kitchen clean before you go to bed...the cockroaches often feed on small food/water droplets during the night ;).\n\nSource: YOLO research on the interwebz :3", "Put beer/soda bottles out in a corner/out of sight with an inch or two of sugary soda at the bottom. When sufficiently disgusting, throw away. Rince and repeat.\n\nI remember that glass worked, but plastic didn't. They apparently can't climb that angle on the inside.\n\nWhile this won't keep em away, it's a cheaper way to kill off then with roach motels. Though I haven't done this since I was a kid and in the Ukraine, so you may need to test out.", "Be infested with Argentine Ants. They will evict the roaches. They are bad-ass motherfuckers. \n\nThere are roaches all over outdoors where I live as soon as the sun goes down, but inside? Never seen a single one. Thanks, ants!" ]

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[ "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**", "Slicing bread loaves I've tried googling and not really found anything and I refuse to believe I'm the only person with this problem. Even so, whenever I attempt to slice a loaf of home baked bread I end up with a ripped, misshapen slice of awfulness. Even if I try and slice it thick I find that, with the crusty outer/soft inner type, the bread loaf kind of squishes in on itself in the process so it goes uneven.\n\nI'm tired of being mocked by my family and friends for my incapabilities. Please help me, reddit. There must be a way.\n\nRelevant: I use a large, serrated bread knife.\n\n**" ]

[ "I bake a lot of bread. I struggled with this issue for about a decade before coming on a solution, which will run contrary to common opinion. The fact that it runs contrary to common belief is why it took so damned long - I am convinced most people who perpetuate these ideas *don't bake their own bread* and are just parroting what their mother told them.\n\nYou're going to hear all kinds of things. Most of it is shitty advice.\n\n* serrated knives\n* special bread knives\n* cut from the bottom\n* cut from the side\n\nAll bullshit. \n\nSerrated and bread knives tear the shit out of the bread and just make a mess. They arent *meant* for soft fluffy bread - they're for hard crusty french bread. \n\nFlipping the bread only exacerbates the crushing.\n\nWhat you need is the longest, sharpest, thinnest *non*-serrated knife you can get your hands on. Let the bread fully cool - like two hours on the cooling rack - if its warm when cut, it will dry out faster. Leave the bread upright and cut from the top.\n\nThe hardest part is getting the cut to start through the crust without using a lot of pressure. I have found that the easiest way is to start with the knife on an angle, with the knife tip pointed down towards the counter behind the bread, so that the forces are focused on the weak 'corner' of the loaf. A few long light strokes usually penetrates the crust. If not, then a few more usually will.\n\nOnce the cut is started, use long smooth strokes while leveling out the knife. It will slice downward fairly easily from this point.\n\nThe key points about the knife:\n\n1. A long knife lets you make long strokes. \n1. The smooth blade prevents tearing. \n1. Thinness minimizes friction.\n1. Sharpness minimizes forces, and thus crushing.\n\nBest of luck.\n\nIf you happen to have a brilliant storage solution other than reusing bread bags, I'm all ears.", "I use two serrated knives (just crappy kitchen knives you use on cheap steaks)\n\nstick them side-by-side and it makes a gap about a perfect slice sized\n\n ____________\n / \\\n | bread |\n |____________|\n\n bread slice sized gap between blades\n V\n | |\n | |\n | |\n | |\n | | <--blades\n | |\n /k\\/k\\\n |n||n|\n |i||i| <- handles\n |f||f|\n |e||e|\n |_||_|\n ^^\n no gap between handles\n\nmake sure the bread isn't still warm (if you baked it yourself) and go nice and slow. Every other slice should come out perfect, but the ones between the outer blade and the edge of the bread can still get messed up", "I work at a place where it is our job to give away free slices of bread. I noticed slicing bread at home was harder than at work, and really the only difference is the knife. Get one like [this](http://www.cookingfor.us/catalog/images/Serrated%20Knives.jpg). You want serrated, but you dont want the huge serrated knives like [this](http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-oyrPd_bI1yk/TdVF1rKKqBI/AAAAAAAAD30/vMp6Sgjtr8Y/s1600/serrated-knife.JPG) because that's just going to tear up your bread.\n\nNow that you have the equipment, you can learn the technique. *Be gentle* with your bread. Take slow cuts that utilize the serrated blade, and whatever you do *don't press down* while you're doing this. The weight of the knife combined with the serrated cuts will be more than enough to make a slice. \n\nAnd, like everyone else has said, make sure the bread is completely cooled. Sometimes this takes three hours depending on how dense your bread is. Hold it in your hand: there should be zero heat coming off the bottom. If you're not sure, let it sit another 15 minutes.\n\nAlso, don't be discouraged if your slices are crooked, or thicker/thinner on the bottom. This comes with practice!", "Electric bread knife. Cost me like $12 and now I don't mutilate my home baked goodness. You don't have to use any pressure just let the blades do the work.", "I find a couple of things that really have helped. Normally I cut the bread right-side-up, but if it's tricky, I lay it on its side to get a wider cutting surface.\n\nThere are two things that have helped me: 1) Don't try to make the slices too thin, and 2) Go slowly.\n\nMaking slices too thin will result in slices that are of varying thickness, and will tear at the cut surface of the bread as you try to adjust your stroke. Start with thick slices first, and then move to thinner ones as you get better.\n\nGoing slowly means going for a full stroke of the knife every time, and *NOT* sawing at the bread. Go gently and easily, and you won't maul the bread when cutting it. \n\nThird, don't push DOWN with the knife, only push ACROSS. If you try to push down, you're exerting the force that will crumple the loaf. Start with a couple of light, soft strokes of the bread knife into the loaf so that your knife has a track to follow, and then watch carefully as the knife does the rest of the work to ensure that you've got a nice, straight slice. ", "get a good bread knife, [This](http://www.amazon.co.uk/Victorinox-47547-4-Inch-Fibrox-Handle/dp/B00093090Y/ref=sr_1_4?s=kitchen&ie=UTF8&qid=1370020935&sr=1-4&keywords=victorinox+bread+knife) one is my favourite and not too expensive.", "We stayed at a hostel in southern Chile a few years ago and the woman that ran the place made fresh bread for breakfast every morning. She used a meat slicer (similar to this http://www.amazon.com/Electric-Adjustable-Compact-Slicer-Fence/dp/B006ZB9GQW/ref=pd_sim_sbs_k_3) for slicing the bread. I don't think I would buy one for home solely for cutting bread, but it worked great and if you already own one, it would be worth a try maybe", "My advice, get a sharp knife good knife. I recently got one of the cutco knives (IDK how these are viewed around here), and it is AMAZING. \n\nIf you have a good enough knife, all you will need to do is hold the bread in place, and then do maybe a forward and backward motion and you get a clean slice. ", "I have a [bread bow] (http://www.amazon.com/Mountainwoods-Fiddle-Bread-Knife-Crumb/dp/B0002E6B3E) and love it. It's a good blade for bread and the structure helps you get nice even slices. \n\n", "[One of these](http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/41K4C4Ne2cL.jpg) and an electric knife. My mom didn't buy bread for a good 2 years in lieu of making her own - that combo was the way to go.\n\n[$20 for the slicing guide on Amazon](http://www.amazon.com/Norpro-370-Bread-Slicer-Catcher/dp/B00004UE6T/ref=sr_1_1?s=home-garden&ie=UTF8&qid=1370050279&sr=1-1&keywords=bread+slicing+guide)\n\n", "Think of it like sex, you use the tip of the knife to penetrate the outside. Than SLOWLY AND SOFTLY work the blade back and forth across the bread until you can push hard without breaking it! ", "The thing is to realize that you are cutting two different materials—crust and center. Cut along the surface of the crust without trying to press through it—like a plow, not a shovel. you can actually cut bread cleanly with some pretty crappy knives this way. Once you have cut the top and sides, the center is pretty easy. Just pull through gently (don't push) letting the blade fall through the loaf as it cuts.", "The key to slicing any bread is to not use much down force at all. You want all your motion to be back and forth. Back and forth, back and forth. It will cut clean.", "Put the loaf upside down! Its like magic. A good knife and verrry little downward pressure... Its the best thing since sliced bread.", "Let the bread cool fully in a well-ventilated area first. Hot and moist bread is prone to ripping like you described. Once it's cold it'll be more stable.", "I fully realize that this is a completely useless answer, but a [food slicer](http://www.amazon.com/Chefs-Choice-632-International-VariTilt/dp/B000065ENH) makes perfect bread slices every time. No fuss, no trouble, no knife skills. Technology.", "Here's how I slice my home-baked bread:\n1. Halfway down the loaf, make a horizontal slice an inch or two long, depending on how many slices you're cutting.\n2. Lightly pinch the top of the loaf with your left hand while you gently rock the serrated knife back and forth to cut vertically. Not too thin if the loaf is just baked.\nMost home loaves are tall, so this gives you half-slices that fit better into a toaster, or are fine for most sandwiches.", "Freeze the loaf. Cut. Done. \n\nSource: It was my job at a deli/bakery. Everything else smashed that shit to smithereens.", "Don't force the cut. End of story. Knife type makes little to no difference as long as you only cut as fast as the knife will allow.\n\nTake a knife and set it ontop of a loaf of bread. I think you'll notice the bread can support the weight of the knife. Ergo, it's your manhandling that is crushing it. ", "Depending on the grocery store you buy your bread at, most of the time the deli will happily slice your bread for you. ", " The French invented this apparatus for precisely your problem.\n\nhttp://www.pestfreegogreen.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/guillotines.jpg\n", "well despite whats been said in this thread i've never had a problem cutting bread with a serrated knife- don't expect much from cheap knives.", "sharp bread knife ... hold the loaf firmly, then you can apply almost no pressure to the end you're cutting, it is the back-and-forth that does the cutting - long strokes", "it's serrated for a reason. it cuts the bread for you.. like a saw cuts through wood. you dont PRESS down when you saw ..\n\nit's exactly the same with bread. take it easy and just.. go forward, backward.. over and over.\n\nat my job, we got a lot of bread, non pre-sliced.. nobody can do it properly except me.\ni was tought by a chef a handful of years ago..\n\nalso hold the blade vertially, so you dont slice sideways\n\nalso, practice.. practice practice practice.. :P", "http://www.pleasanthillgrain.com/fiddle_bow_bread_knife_fiddlebow_fiddle_back_bread_knives.aspx\n\nThis type of knife is very popular in the Maritime Provinces in Canada where I am from. Many local wood crafters make the handle and buy simple hacksaw blades to screw on them for slicing homemade bread.", "get a good knife. let the knife do the work. dont push super hard. and if you turn the bread on its side. so the bottom is facing you. it is a lot easier to cut. cause the bottom is crispy and will cut better from the side than trying to go at it when its face down. ", "[We used one of these when we used to make bread.](http://www.etsy.com/listing/87253846/handcrafted-wood-bread-slicer-slicing)", "[This knife](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000286Q62/ref=wms_ohs_product?ie=UTF8&psc=1) sounds stupid and like a made-for-tv piece of junk, but OMG, it works like a dream, and I love it. Best $10 knife ever. ", "You should not be pressing down *at all* while cutting bread. Make a sawing motion, the knife will cut the bread and move downwards on its own.", "Well guy it seems you already got your advice, but I used to work for subway back in the day and I had a lady teach me how to cut the bread without ripping it or squishing it.\n\nObviously it starts with the knife, I'm sure you got the one you need but I'm not going to re-read your above statement to make absolutely sure, so we're going to assume that you do have the correct bread slicing tool.\n\n2nd, don't try to cut warm, slightly warm, or hot bread, it squishes quickly. Make sure the bread has cooled completely. \n\n3rd, DO NOT press with the knife, if you're pressing, you're ripping your bread. \n\n4th, DO NOT Manhandle your bread, treat it like it's you would a very valuable antique, just gently hold it in place.\n\n5th, firmly hold your knife and slice back and forth in a saw motion, your blade will do all the work. \n\n6th show off your nicely cut bread to all your friends and family and mock them with your superiority.", "Um...maybe you are using the wrong type of serrated knife (maybe you need one with more teeth or teeth that are closer or further apart). Or maybe the one you are using is dull (yes, serrated knives dull over time.\n\nI'm a baker, and the different knives at work have different teeth. So just because you \"use a large, serrated bread knife\" doesn't mean you use a good one.", "Turn the bread on its side or upside down. The bottom is softer and easier to break through the crust with a bread knife.", "Turn it! You want the sharp edge to attack the least amount of surface area as possible, otherwise you'll just squish it.\n\nFor round boules, turn it on its side, split it in half and then cut slices with the crust up.\n\nFor rectangular loaves, start cutting at the corner to break in and slowly across the width of the bread to finish the job", "They make bread knives. Get one, make sure it's sharp, and let the horizontal motion do the work, meaning go easy on the downward pressure. ", "The first trick is to make sure you actually have a [bread knife](http://tooltime.texasdi.org/t_tooltime/image/breadknife.jpg). The large serration breaks through the hard crust (kind of like perforated paper I guess) and makes it easier to cut. (", "Small serrated blades work best. I want an easy life when I'm in the kitchen and I only use 2 knives, one of them being http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B0016MOO9Y/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1370030383&sr=8-1&pi=SL75, I've had mine for about 10 years now and It still cuts like it's brand new. I use it for pretty much everything and it works great on bread. ", "OP, Shun makes a GREAT bread knife. Its a bit pricey, and its sold at Williams Sonoma. It has never crushed my bread once. Love that thing.", "Knife thread!\n\nThis is the best knife you can have in a kitchen. The **Victorinox Pastry Knife**. Don't be fooled by the name it goes through bread, meat, your finger, anything like hot knife through butter. Check out the amazon reviews.\n\nhttp://www.victorinox.com/ch/product/Cutlery/Category/Household-knives/Standard-Models/Pastry-Knife/5.2933.26", "Jimmy John worker here. It's important to pinch the bread ever so slightly for it to keep its shape. Because of the pinch you can saw away with the bread knife. What I do (at home) to get an accurate slice is use the width of the blade for each slice. ", "If you bake a lot of your own bread, it would be a good investment to get a proper bread knife. They work like magic!", "If the first slice is crooked, make all of them crooked. Where I usually mess it up is trying to straighten out the second slice. I usually cut at a bit of an angle, and as long as I do them all with about the same angle, only the end slices come out crooked. Also, do the first few strokes in one direction like an old hand saw. Wait until there is a good groove going to saw back and forth.", "I've found that to get a good cut you have to treat the slicing process as if you were sawing a bit of wood. The key is standing over the knife, so that it's dead straight in front of you, and then maintaining this position throughout. If you're at an angle to the knife then you can't really get a good sense of straightness I don't think. ", "I'm very late to the party, and someone may have already told you my words of advise, but all I learned about slicing I got from Alton Brown, when he did a \"Good Eats\" episode that was simply about knives (he's also done one about salt, and one about water, because these culinary aspects are quite important and can have a huge effect on the outcome of your meal, and may be something you are never outright-taught about)\n\nThe secret to slicing with a knife (other than starting with a sharp knife) is to always be cutting in two directions at once (especially with a serrated knife). If you are chopping with an axe or a cleaver or a katana, you simply smash the blade down and through whatever you are cutting and rely on the sharpness of the blade to pierce through whatever you need chopped. When you are using ANY other type of knife (than an axe or a cleaver) you should be pushing away from yourself and pulling the knife back towards your body with as much force (or more force) than you are pushing down. This is EVEN MORE IMPORTANT for serrated knifes, and in reality, you should be putting all of your strength into a smooth back and forth motion and only use the weight of the knife to supply downwards pressure.\n\nTL;DR: Never push a serrated knife down through what you are cutting, push the knife back and forth and it's weight will do the rest.", "I use a very sharp non-serrated knife on our home-baked breads. It takes some practice, but I think it works.\n", "I started baking bread a few months ago and when I started, I had a similar problem. The bread came out delicious but it was super soft and very difficult to cut. It turns out that I wasn't baking the bread for long enough. I went from 25 minutes at 350 F to 35 minutes and it made a huge difference.", "I made all the bread I ate for years, I got one of these and it solves all of the bread size evenness problems. There is an adjustable spacer on the side that lets you dial in the desired bread width, much better than the other solutions I've seen.\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Ontel-DP-MC6-Deli-Pro-Slicing-Knife/dp/B000286Q62/ref=cm_cr_pr_pb_i", "I got [one of these](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0011EZ7AC/ref=oh_details_o02_s00_i00?ie=UTF8&psc=1) for my wife. She loves it!", "Get one of these : http://193.164.196.197/images/40/4008805514.jpg Don't know the english name but they make it quite easy. Adjustable width, and some models also cut things like cheese and meat. Not so expensive normally", "Get a fiddle bow. My girlfriend has one of these and she loves it.\n\nI had never heard about it until she told me about them. Here is a link to one but there are cheaper ones out there. Just google Fiddle bow knife and you are off!\n\n[Fiddle bow link](http://www.etsy.com/listing/126204399/tennessee-mountain-bow-knife?utm_source=google&utm_medium=product_listing_promoted&utm_campaign=housewares_low&gclid=COjjmaCHwbcCFbE-MgodzWoATg)", "Cutting bread: \n1) Very sharp, serrated knife\n2) Cut with long, shallow cuts, using slight pressure. If the bread looks like you're pressing into it, you ARE. Ease back.\n3) Hold the bread on the sides so that your fingers keep the bread from squashing.\n4) Use a knife with a thinkness guide if you want even slices and can't guide the knife by yourself. http://www.etsy.com/listing/21710303/world-class-fiddle-bow-bread-knife (sorry for commercial link, but this helps with visual on this one!)\n5) Use a slicing guide to take the guesswork out of slicing thickness. http://www.amazon.com/WEST-BEND-Bread-Slicing-Guide/dp/B000M6WG68\n6) Practice!\n\nHope this helps!", "Buy a offset serrated knife, it should do the trick. Also saw your bread, dont chop it, be gentle and let the knife do the work. ", "Believe it or not, there is a club in my college called Bread Slicers. The whole concept is that every time they meet, several people bring just baked loaves (by themselves) for others to cut. It is crazy. And magnificent. Everyone brings knives from all over the world and loaves baked to perfection.\n\nCollege, man.", "As mentioned by others:\n\nLet the knife do the work. Don't press down, rather saw back and forth with the knife.\n\nAnd, no, you are not the only one. I have watched many people mangle bread by pressing down with the knife. Most bread mutilators don't seem to care -- good on you that you want to figure out how to do a better job.", "Actually, I use a non-serrated, sharp knife, and it does the job wonderfully. As said elsewhere, make long, slow strokes.", "A good bread knife makes a big difference and never try to cut it when it is too hot. \n\nSource: I'm Italian. ", "*NOT ABOUT KNIVES*\nI like to butter before slicing so the fluffy bread doesn't crumble under the cold.butter :) ", "\"I\" bought a set of the one of many knives seen on those infomertials for my dad's birthday once. They actually work and we still have most of them. the whole NEVER NEEDS TO BE SHARPENED is kinda bs, but yea.", "cut at an angle and slow work towards a horizontal stroke. one does not need to press so hard and having the [right knife](http://carolepompei.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/12/Avant-Garde-AV40002-rw-12211-14251.jpeg) will definitely help", "Excuse the link to a product, but I sharpen mine with this: http://www.leevalley.com/en/garden/page.aspx?p=57182&cat=2,2160,40710", "Am I the *only* one who thought this was a facetious little joke inspired by some of the common-sense tips that have been posted in the LPT subreddit recently, until I actually scrolled down and started reading all the serious replies?", "My mother bought an electric knife just for slicing bread. I imagine it was probably for that reason.", "Just use a Cutco knife....Seriously...They are amazing. They aren't serrated...they use a different method of cutting system. " ]

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[ "How to create a professional PowerPoint for your company I'm a very low level manager and I've been tasked with creating a PowerPoint to pitch an idea to a director or group of directors for a rather large company. What stuff is important to include to make it look professional? Should I throw in logos or a company color scheme? What else? ", "How to create a professional PowerPoint for your company I'm a very low level manager and I've been tasked with creating a PowerPoint to pitch an idea to a director or group of directors for a rather large company. What stuff is important to include to make it look professional? Should I throw in logos or a company color scheme? What else? ", "How to create a professional PowerPoint for your company I'm a very low level manager and I've been tasked with creating a PowerPoint to pitch an idea to a director or group of directors for a rather large company. What stuff is important to include to make it look professional? Should I throw in logos or a company color scheme? What else? ", "How to create a professional PowerPoint for your company I'm a very low level manager and I've been tasked with creating a PowerPoint to pitch an idea to a director or group of directors for a rather large company. What stuff is important to include to make it look professional? Should I throw in logos or a company color scheme? What else? ", "How to create a professional PowerPoint for your company I'm a very low level manager and I've been tasked with creating a PowerPoint to pitch an idea to a director or group of directors for a rather large company. What stuff is important to include to make it look professional? Should I throw in logos or a company color scheme? What else? " ]

[ "Manager here who presents to clients all the time. A couple bland question-answering points first, then the important recommendation.\n\nFirst, contact your marketing team or look at your marketing website if there is one, or search for \"branding\" on your intranet. If you work for a larger company, they very very likely have templates that are all set for you to use. If not, ask the salesperson in your company that represents or is in charge of this possible client relationship if they've previously presented to this target client and get them to give you their presentation. Anything like this should have a salesperson involved.\n\nNow, go online and grab a decent logo from the target client if there's not already one in the template. Include it on the cover page and share it with your logo on the bottom of each page, client on the left, your company logo on the right.\n\n**But all of this is meaningless if you don't concentrate on THE CONTENT.** \n\nFocus on the audience and their roles and responsibilities. Ask the people that have worked or are familiar with them as to what will appeal to them. \n\nIf the top guy in the room loathes PowerPoint (many do), don't even bring it. Bring a printed pamphlet instead and ask for a whiteboard or use a couple posters. And make your content a discussion, not a presentation.\n\nMaybe anything more than ten slides causes them to lose attention. Maybe they would rather have a glossy handout take-away instead. Ask anyone that you can about what the decision-maker in the audience likes, and tune your presentation's content to that.\n\nGet the key messages in the content right, construct a discussion that's the right length, and unless you work for an art company, it really doesn't matter how \"pretty\" things are. They're almost always after your ideas or your product or a better relationship with your company, and almost never after a damn electronic presentation that has a pretty color-coordinated header bar in it. \n\nOh, and dry runs. Do dry runs first.\n\nFocus your attention on concepts and messages and client responsiveness, *not on appearances*, and good luck.", "I suggest a white background with maybe a strip of your companies color in the top or bottom as an accent. Logo is ok, but keep it small and off in one of the corners. ", "I always loved by the mantra to never read off the slide, have more than seven words per bullet point and no more than 5 bullets.", "Tips for a good presentation:\n\n- Don't put everything you are saying on the slides. If you are just going to read slides with a wall of text on them, save everybody the time and just send out the slides and cancel the meeting. This is *especially* important with business oriented people like directors. If they are looking at a wall of text they will zone out almost instantly. What's on the slide should be an extremely shortened version of what you are saying, or just a picture/chart/graph related to what you are saying if you are comfortable with that. With that being said be concise and to the point. Don't waste time with indirect language and unnecessary content. \n\n- Never stack a slide deck with too many slides. If you move through slides too fast nobody will catch the information on them.\n\n- Reach out to your marketing department and see if they have any PowerPoint themes that you are supposed to use. If there isn't one, just keep it simple. The first slide should have the name of the presentation, your name and position, and the date. Put your company logo in the bottom right of the slides and do a text that contrasts whatever background you pick. Unless you have a professional designer creating the images and stuff, keep it simple. ", "Does it have to be in PowerPoint, or are you open to using Google Slides as well? If you're open to using GS, then you can import custom templates into your presentation to make it look different as opposed to using the default themes provided. Of course, you can do something similar in PowerPoint, but GS makes this easier to accomplish. Inserting a watermark of your business' logo gives a more \"professional\" feel as well; this can be accomplished with GS and PowerPoint. Having a basic understanding of color theory helps too, this [website](http://www.colormatters.com/color-and-design/basic-color-theory) explains it well. That's what I'd recommend design-wise, hope that helps!\n" ]

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[ "How to stop constant armpit sweat I'm not really looking for a \"secret cure,\" but simply different ways that people have solved their perspiration problems. I usually use \"extra dry\" antiperspirants/deodorants and I still sweat a lot every day. Often times I have found that switching to a new deodorant will help to stop it but only for a few days. Does LPT have any tips or techniques that i can try?", "How to stop constant armpit sweat I'm not really looking for a \"secret cure,\" but simply different ways that people have solved their perspiration problems. I usually use \"extra dry\" antiperspirants/deodorants and I still sweat a lot every day. Often times I have found that switching to a new deodorant will help to stop it but only for a few days. Does LPT have any tips or techniques that i can try?", "How to stop constant armpit sweat I'm not really looking for a \"secret cure,\" but simply different ways that people have solved their perspiration problems. I usually use \"extra dry\" antiperspirants/deodorants and I still sweat a lot every day. Often times I have found that switching to a new deodorant will help to stop it but only for a few days. Does LPT have any tips or techniques that i can try?", "How to stop constant armpit sweat I'm not really looking for a \"secret cure,\" but simply different ways that people have solved their perspiration problems. I usually use \"extra dry\" antiperspirants/deodorants and I still sweat a lot every day. Often times I have found that switching to a new deodorant will help to stop it but only for a few days. Does LPT have any tips or techniques that i can try?" ]

[ "Go to a dermatologist. They can give you a prescription for something called xeracAC (aluminum chloride hexahydrate). I used it for a couple of months. Dab some on your pits when you're going to bed. Heads up, it'll tingle something fierce [read: burn]. It did wonders for me. I wish I would have done this back in middle/high school. I would sweat through any combination of shirts, and it really affected my self esteem. Now i'm at what I'd consider a \"normal\" level of armpit sweat, and haven't even used it in years.", "I got some Certain Dri roll-on from Target. It's AMAZING - way better than the so-called clinical strength deodorants.", "It's the aluminum in deodorant that is the antiperspirant. \n\nTalc? That usually helps when things get 'not slick' and is somewhat absorbent.", "Aluminium Chloride Hexahydrate is the answer to your problems. I had terribly sweaty armpits since I hit puberty and it worked wonders for me! I started using it about 4 years ago, every two days at first. As the excessive perpiration subsides, you use it more rarely. Nowadays once in two weeks is enough, but I apply regular deodorant to smell nice and fresh. The solution I used is called DRICLOR, maybe it's available in your country; I can buy it in mine without prescription. " ]

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[ "Any cheap way to print and decorate internet pictures so that I can mount them on the wall and not look awful? ", "Any cheap way to print and decorate internet pictures so that I can mount them on the wall and not look awful? ", "Any cheap way to print and decorate internet pictures so that I can mount them on the wall and not look awful? " ]

[ "I like canvas prints because they don't require a frame and they look classy. I was going to buy some from Walmart (cheapest by far) but they had something called a 'mounted photo/print' instead and it is kinda like canvas but cheaper! Still looks great and you just upload the pic you want in their photo website ", "Foam core, spray mount (outside and wear a respirator), then an appropriate frame.\n\nAlso you can have a print shop print to canvas if you like.", "Depending on how cheap you're wanting, [rasterbator.net](https://rasterbator.net) lets you print out any image to just about any size." ]

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[ "Help With Stomping Neighbors My upstairs neighbors have heavy footsteps and a small child that they allow to stay up until all hours. The kid is borderline obese and enjoys running from 1 end of their apartment to the other and jumping off the furniture.\n\nThe kid does that toddler stomp, not quite in control of its legs yet, run until easily 3am. The parents chase it around encouraging it.\n\nAnd I'm in my room trying desperately to sleep and failing.\n\nI have a white noise machine. They are significicantly louder than said white noise machine.\n\nI use ear plugs. \n\nI can hear the stomping through the ear plugs. I am a side sleeper so headphones don't stay on/in my ears.\n\nWhen I wear my earplugs I can't hear my white noise machine but I can still hear them stomping, to give you an idea of how loud they are.\n\nI have called the cops and complained to the landlord multiple times. The cops come, tell them to knock it off. 30 minutes later, the neighbors are right back at it.\n\nI have spoken to them politely, and showed them recorded video of what they sound like in my bedroom at 2 in the morning.\n\nI get half-assed apologies and nothing changes.\n\nOther than moving, or committing murder, what else can I do?", "Help With Stomping Neighbors My upstairs neighbors have heavy footsteps and a small child that they allow to stay up until all hours. The kid is borderline obese and enjoys running from 1 end of their apartment to the other and jumping off the furniture.\n\nThe kid does that toddler stomp, not quite in control of its legs yet, run until easily 3am. The parents chase it around encouraging it.\n\nAnd I'm in my room trying desperately to sleep and failing.\n\nI have a white noise machine. They are significicantly louder than said white noise machine.\n\nI use ear plugs. \n\nI can hear the stomping through the ear plugs. I am a side sleeper so headphones don't stay on/in my ears.\n\nWhen I wear my earplugs I can't hear my white noise machine but I can still hear them stomping, to give you an idea of how loud they are.\n\nI have called the cops and complained to the landlord multiple times. The cops come, tell them to knock it off. 30 minutes later, the neighbors are right back at it.\n\nI have spoken to them politely, and showed them recorded video of what they sound like in my bedroom at 2 in the morning.\n\nI get half-assed apologies and nothing changes.\n\nOther than moving, or committing murder, what else can I do?", "Help With Stomping Neighbors My upstairs neighbors have heavy footsteps and a small child that they allow to stay up until all hours. The kid is borderline obese and enjoys running from 1 end of their apartment to the other and jumping off the furniture.\n\nThe kid does that toddler stomp, not quite in control of its legs yet, run until easily 3am. The parents chase it around encouraging it.\n\nAnd I'm in my room trying desperately to sleep and failing.\n\nI have a white noise machine. They are significicantly louder than said white noise machine.\n\nI use ear plugs. \n\nI can hear the stomping through the ear plugs. I am a side sleeper so headphones don't stay on/in my ears.\n\nWhen I wear my earplugs I can't hear my white noise machine but I can still hear them stomping, to give you an idea of how loud they are.\n\nI have called the cops and complained to the landlord multiple times. The cops come, tell them to knock it off. 30 minutes later, the neighbors are right back at it.\n\nI have spoken to them politely, and showed them recorded video of what they sound like in my bedroom at 2 in the morning.\n\nI get half-assed apologies and nothing changes.\n\nOther than moving, or committing murder, what else can I do?", "Help With Stomping Neighbors My upstairs neighbors have heavy footsteps and a small child that they allow to stay up until all hours. The kid is borderline obese and enjoys running from 1 end of their apartment to the other and jumping off the furniture.\n\nThe kid does that toddler stomp, not quite in control of its legs yet, run until easily 3am. The parents chase it around encouraging it.\n\nAnd I'm in my room trying desperately to sleep and failing.\n\nI have a white noise machine. They are significicantly louder than said white noise machine.\n\nI use ear plugs. \n\nI can hear the stomping through the ear plugs. I am a side sleeper so headphones don't stay on/in my ears.\n\nWhen I wear my earplugs I can't hear my white noise machine but I can still hear them stomping, to give you an idea of how loud they are.\n\nI have called the cops and complained to the landlord multiple times. The cops come, tell them to knock it off. 30 minutes later, the neighbors are right back at it.\n\nI have spoken to them politely, and showed them recorded video of what they sound like in my bedroom at 2 in the morning.\n\nI get half-assed apologies and nothing changes.\n\nOther than moving, or committing murder, what else can I do?", "Help With Stomping Neighbors My upstairs neighbors have heavy footsteps and a small child that they allow to stay up until all hours. The kid is borderline obese and enjoys running from 1 end of their apartment to the other and jumping off the furniture.\n\nThe kid does that toddler stomp, not quite in control of its legs yet, run until easily 3am. The parents chase it around encouraging it.\n\nAnd I'm in my room trying desperately to sleep and failing.\n\nI have a white noise machine. They are significicantly louder than said white noise machine.\n\nI use ear plugs. \n\nI can hear the stomping through the ear plugs. I am a side sleeper so headphones don't stay on/in my ears.\n\nWhen I wear my earplugs I can't hear my white noise machine but I can still hear them stomping, to give you an idea of how loud they are.\n\nI have called the cops and complained to the landlord multiple times. The cops come, tell them to knock it off. 30 minutes later, the neighbors are right back at it.\n\nI have spoken to them politely, and showed them recorded video of what they sound like in my bedroom at 2 in the morning.\n\nI get half-assed apologies and nothing changes.\n\nOther than moving, or committing murder, what else can I do?", "Help With Stomping Neighbors My upstairs neighbors have heavy footsteps and a small child that they allow to stay up until all hours. The kid is borderline obese and enjoys running from 1 end of their apartment to the other and jumping off the furniture.\n\nThe kid does that toddler stomp, not quite in control of its legs yet, run until easily 3am. The parents chase it around encouraging it.\n\nAnd I'm in my room trying desperately to sleep and failing.\n\nI have a white noise machine. They are significicantly louder than said white noise machine.\n\nI use ear plugs. \n\nI can hear the stomping through the ear plugs. I am a side sleeper so headphones don't stay on/in my ears.\n\nWhen I wear my earplugs I can't hear my white noise machine but I can still hear them stomping, to give you an idea of how loud they are.\n\nI have called the cops and complained to the landlord multiple times. The cops come, tell them to knock it off. 30 minutes later, the neighbors are right back at it.\n\nI have spoken to them politely, and showed them recorded video of what they sound like in my bedroom at 2 in the morning.\n\nI get half-assed apologies and nothing changes.\n\nOther than moving, or committing murder, what else can I do?", "Help With Stomping Neighbors My upstairs neighbors have heavy footsteps and a small child that they allow to stay up until all hours. The kid is borderline obese and enjoys running from 1 end of their apartment to the other and jumping off the furniture.\n\nThe kid does that toddler stomp, not quite in control of its legs yet, run until easily 3am. The parents chase it around encouraging it.\n\nAnd I'm in my room trying desperately to sleep and failing.\n\nI have a white noise machine. They are significicantly louder than said white noise machine.\n\nI use ear plugs. \n\nI can hear the stomping through the ear plugs. I am a side sleeper so headphones don't stay on/in my ears.\n\nWhen I wear my earplugs I can't hear my white noise machine but I can still hear them stomping, to give you an idea of how loud they are.\n\nI have called the cops and complained to the landlord multiple times. The cops come, tell them to knock it off. 30 minutes later, the neighbors are right back at it.\n\nI have spoken to them politely, and showed them recorded video of what they sound like in my bedroom at 2 in the morning.\n\nI get half-assed apologies and nothing changes.\n\nOther than moving, or committing murder, what else can I do?", "Help With Stomping Neighbors My upstairs neighbors have heavy footsteps and a small child that they allow to stay up until all hours. The kid is borderline obese and enjoys running from 1 end of their apartment to the other and jumping off the furniture.\n\nThe kid does that toddler stomp, not quite in control of its legs yet, run until easily 3am. The parents chase it around encouraging it.\n\nAnd I'm in my room trying desperately to sleep and failing.\n\nI have a white noise machine. They are significicantly louder than said white noise machine.\n\nI use ear plugs. \n\nI can hear the stomping through the ear plugs. I am a side sleeper so headphones don't stay on/in my ears.\n\nWhen I wear my earplugs I can't hear my white noise machine but I can still hear them stomping, to give you an idea of how loud they are.\n\nI have called the cops and complained to the landlord multiple times. The cops come, tell them to knock it off. 30 minutes later, the neighbors are right back at it.\n\nI have spoken to them politely, and showed them recorded video of what they sound like in my bedroom at 2 in the morning.\n\nI get half-assed apologies and nothing changes.\n\nOther than moving, or committing murder, what else can I do?", "Help With Stomping Neighbors My upstairs neighbors have heavy footsteps and a small child that they allow to stay up until all hours. The kid is borderline obese and enjoys running from 1 end of their apartment to the other and jumping off the furniture.\n\nThe kid does that toddler stomp, not quite in control of its legs yet, run until easily 3am. The parents chase it around encouraging it.\n\nAnd I'm in my room trying desperately to sleep and failing.\n\nI have a white noise machine. They are significicantly louder than said white noise machine.\n\nI use ear plugs. \n\nI can hear the stomping through the ear plugs. I am a side sleeper so headphones don't stay on/in my ears.\n\nWhen I wear my earplugs I can't hear my white noise machine but I can still hear them stomping, to give you an idea of how loud they are.\n\nI have called the cops and complained to the landlord multiple times. The cops come, tell them to knock it off. 30 minutes later, the neighbors are right back at it.\n\nI have spoken to them politely, and showed them recorded video of what they sound like in my bedroom at 2 in the morning.\n\nI get half-assed apologies and nothing changes.\n\nOther than moving, or committing murder, what else can I do?", "Help With Stomping Neighbors My upstairs neighbors have heavy footsteps and a small child that they allow to stay up until all hours. The kid is borderline obese and enjoys running from 1 end of their apartment to the other and jumping off the furniture.\n\nThe kid does that toddler stomp, not quite in control of its legs yet, run until easily 3am. The parents chase it around encouraging it.\n\nAnd I'm in my room trying desperately to sleep and failing.\n\nI have a white noise machine. They are significicantly louder than said white noise machine.\n\nI use ear plugs. \n\nI can hear the stomping through the ear plugs. I am a side sleeper so headphones don't stay on/in my ears.\n\nWhen I wear my earplugs I can't hear my white noise machine but I can still hear them stomping, to give you an idea of how loud they are.\n\nI have called the cops and complained to the landlord multiple times. The cops come, tell them to knock it off. 30 minutes later, the neighbors are right back at it.\n\nI have spoken to them politely, and showed them recorded video of what they sound like in my bedroom at 2 in the morning.\n\nI get half-assed apologies and nothing changes.\n\nOther than moving, or committing murder, what else can I do?", "Help With Stomping Neighbors My upstairs neighbors have heavy footsteps and a small child that they allow to stay up until all hours. The kid is borderline obese and enjoys running from 1 end of their apartment to the other and jumping off the furniture.\n\nThe kid does that toddler stomp, not quite in control of its legs yet, run until easily 3am. The parents chase it around encouraging it.\n\nAnd I'm in my room trying desperately to sleep and failing.\n\nI have a white noise machine. They are significicantly louder than said white noise machine.\n\nI use ear plugs. \n\nI can hear the stomping through the ear plugs. I am a side sleeper so headphones don't stay on/in my ears.\n\nWhen I wear my earplugs I can't hear my white noise machine but I can still hear them stomping, to give you an idea of how loud they are.\n\nI have called the cops and complained to the landlord multiple times. The cops come, tell them to knock it off. 30 minutes later, the neighbors are right back at it.\n\nI have spoken to them politely, and showed them recorded video of what they sound like in my bedroom at 2 in the morning.\n\nI get half-assed apologies and nothing changes.\n\nOther than moving, or committing murder, what else can I do?", "Help With Stomping Neighbors My upstairs neighbors have heavy footsteps and a small child that they allow to stay up until all hours. The kid is borderline obese and enjoys running from 1 end of their apartment to the other and jumping off the furniture.\n\nThe kid does that toddler stomp, not quite in control of its legs yet, run until easily 3am. The parents chase it around encouraging it.\n\nAnd I'm in my room trying desperately to sleep and failing.\n\nI have a white noise machine. They are significicantly louder than said white noise machine.\n\nI use ear plugs. \n\nI can hear the stomping through the ear plugs. I am a side sleeper so headphones don't stay on/in my ears.\n\nWhen I wear my earplugs I can't hear my white noise machine but I can still hear them stomping, to give you an idea of how loud they are.\n\nI have called the cops and complained to the landlord multiple times. The cops come, tell them to knock it off. 30 minutes later, the neighbors are right back at it.\n\nI have spoken to them politely, and showed them recorded video of what they sound like in my bedroom at 2 in the morning.\n\nI get half-assed apologies and nothing changes.\n\nOther than moving, or committing murder, what else can I do?", "Help With Stomping Neighbors My upstairs neighbors have heavy footsteps and a small child that they allow to stay up until all hours. The kid is borderline obese and enjoys running from 1 end of their apartment to the other and jumping off the furniture.\n\nThe kid does that toddler stomp, not quite in control of its legs yet, run until easily 3am. The parents chase it around encouraging it.\n\nAnd I'm in my room trying desperately to sleep and failing.\n\nI have a white noise machine. They are significicantly louder than said white noise machine.\n\nI use ear plugs. \n\nI can hear the stomping through the ear plugs. I am a side sleeper so headphones don't stay on/in my ears.\n\nWhen I wear my earplugs I can't hear my white noise machine but I can still hear them stomping, to give you an idea of how loud they are.\n\nI have called the cops and complained to the landlord multiple times. The cops come, tell them to knock it off. 30 minutes later, the neighbors are right back at it.\n\nI have spoken to them politely, and showed them recorded video of what they sound like in my bedroom at 2 in the morning.\n\nI get half-assed apologies and nothing changes.\n\nOther than moving, or committing murder, what else can I do?", "Help With Stomping Neighbors My upstairs neighbors have heavy footsteps and a small child that they allow to stay up until all hours. The kid is borderline obese and enjoys running from 1 end of their apartment to the other and jumping off the furniture.\n\nThe kid does that toddler stomp, not quite in control of its legs yet, run until easily 3am. The parents chase it around encouraging it.\n\nAnd I'm in my room trying desperately to sleep and failing.\n\nI have a white noise machine. They are significicantly louder than said white noise machine.\n\nI use ear plugs. \n\nI can hear the stomping through the ear plugs. I am a side sleeper so headphones don't stay on/in my ears.\n\nWhen I wear my earplugs I can't hear my white noise machine but I can still hear them stomping, to give you an idea of how loud they are.\n\nI have called the cops and complained to the landlord multiple times. The cops come, tell them to knock it off. 30 minutes later, the neighbors are right back at it.\n\nI have spoken to them politely, and showed them recorded video of what they sound like in my bedroom at 2 in the morning.\n\nI get half-assed apologies and nothing changes.\n\nOther than moving, or committing murder, what else can I do?", "Help With Stomping Neighbors My upstairs neighbors have heavy footsteps and a small child that they allow to stay up until all hours. The kid is borderline obese and enjoys running from 1 end of their apartment to the other and jumping off the furniture.\n\nThe kid does that toddler stomp, not quite in control of its legs yet, run until easily 3am. The parents chase it around encouraging it.\n\nAnd I'm in my room trying desperately to sleep and failing.\n\nI have a white noise machine. They are significicantly louder than said white noise machine.\n\nI use ear plugs. \n\nI can hear the stomping through the ear plugs. I am a side sleeper so headphones don't stay on/in my ears.\n\nWhen I wear my earplugs I can't hear my white noise machine but I can still hear them stomping, to give you an idea of how loud they are.\n\nI have called the cops and complained to the landlord multiple times. The cops come, tell them to knock it off. 30 minutes later, the neighbors are right back at it.\n\nI have spoken to them politely, and showed them recorded video of what they sound like in my bedroom at 2 in the morning.\n\nI get half-assed apologies and nothing changes.\n\nOther than moving, or committing murder, what else can I do?", "Help With Stomping Neighbors My upstairs neighbors have heavy footsteps and a small child that they allow to stay up until all hours. The kid is borderline obese and enjoys running from 1 end of their apartment to the other and jumping off the furniture.\n\nThe kid does that toddler stomp, not quite in control of its legs yet, run until easily 3am. The parents chase it around encouraging it.\n\nAnd I'm in my room trying desperately to sleep and failing.\n\nI have a white noise machine. They are significicantly louder than said white noise machine.\n\nI use ear plugs. \n\nI can hear the stomping through the ear plugs. I am a side sleeper so headphones don't stay on/in my ears.\n\nWhen I wear my earplugs I can't hear my white noise machine but I can still hear them stomping, to give you an idea of how loud they are.\n\nI have called the cops and complained to the landlord multiple times. The cops come, tell them to knock it off. 30 minutes later, the neighbors are right back at it.\n\nI have spoken to them politely, and showed them recorded video of what they sound like in my bedroom at 2 in the morning.\n\nI get half-assed apologies and nothing changes.\n\nOther than moving, or committing murder, what else can I do?", "Help With Stomping Neighbors My upstairs neighbors have heavy footsteps and a small child that they allow to stay up until all hours. The kid is borderline obese and enjoys running from 1 end of their apartment to the other and jumping off the furniture.\n\nThe kid does that toddler stomp, not quite in control of its legs yet, run until easily 3am. The parents chase it around encouraging it.\n\nAnd I'm in my room trying desperately to sleep and failing.\n\nI have a white noise machine. They are significicantly louder than said white noise machine.\n\nI use ear plugs. \n\nI can hear the stomping through the ear plugs. I am a side sleeper so headphones don't stay on/in my ears.\n\nWhen I wear my earplugs I can't hear my white noise machine but I can still hear them stomping, to give you an idea of how loud they are.\n\nI have called the cops and complained to the landlord multiple times. The cops come, tell them to knock it off. 30 minutes later, the neighbors are right back at it.\n\nI have spoken to them politely, and showed them recorded video of what they sound like in my bedroom at 2 in the morning.\n\nI get half-assed apologies and nothing changes.\n\nOther than moving, or committing murder, what else can I do?", "Help With Stomping Neighbors My upstairs neighbors have heavy footsteps and a small child that they allow to stay up until all hours. The kid is borderline obese and enjoys running from 1 end of their apartment to the other and jumping off the furniture.\n\nThe kid does that toddler stomp, not quite in control of its legs yet, run until easily 3am. The parents chase it around encouraging it.\n\nAnd I'm in my room trying desperately to sleep and failing.\n\nI have a white noise machine. They are significicantly louder than said white noise machine.\n\nI use ear plugs. \n\nI can hear the stomping through the ear plugs. I am a side sleeper so headphones don't stay on/in my ears.\n\nWhen I wear my earplugs I can't hear my white noise machine but I can still hear them stomping, to give you an idea of how loud they are.\n\nI have called the cops and complained to the landlord multiple times. The cops come, tell them to knock it off. 30 minutes later, the neighbors are right back at it.\n\nI have spoken to them politely, and showed them recorded video of what they sound like in my bedroom at 2 in the morning.\n\nI get half-assed apologies and nothing changes.\n\nOther than moving, or committing murder, what else can I do?", "Help With Stomping Neighbors My upstairs neighbors have heavy footsteps and a small child that they allow to stay up until all hours. The kid is borderline obese and enjoys running from 1 end of their apartment to the other and jumping off the furniture.\n\nThe kid does that toddler stomp, not quite in control of its legs yet, run until easily 3am. The parents chase it around encouraging it.\n\nAnd I'm in my room trying desperately to sleep and failing.\n\nI have a white noise machine. They are significicantly louder than said white noise machine.\n\nI use ear plugs. \n\nI can hear the stomping through the ear plugs. I am a side sleeper so headphones don't stay on/in my ears.\n\nWhen I wear my earplugs I can't hear my white noise machine but I can still hear them stomping, to give you an idea of how loud they are.\n\nI have called the cops and complained to the landlord multiple times. The cops come, tell them to knock it off. 30 minutes later, the neighbors are right back at it.\n\nI have spoken to them politely, and showed them recorded video of what they sound like in my bedroom at 2 in the morning.\n\nI get half-assed apologies and nothing changes.\n\nOther than moving, or committing murder, what else can I do?" ]

[ "Call in a noise complaint every time they do that when it's during quiet hours. Cops come and tell them to knock it off and 30 minutes later they're back at it again? Call the cops again. I can guarantee that after 5 times in one night, the cops are going to at least issue a citation. Don't let up, keep calling the cops when they're stomping around. While you're at it, call the rental office and leave a message. \"It's 3am, this is my 5th call, they're still making excessive noise\" \"it's 3:30 am, this is my 6th call, they're still making excessive noise\"\n\nJust generally be a bigger nuisance then they are, but do it within the bounds of the law.\n\nThat's one thing I really like about one of the cities I have lived in, they did not mess around when it came to noise ordinances. All of the apartment leases I signed while living in that city had basically the same clause -- the cops get called twice for noise, that's your eviction notice, too.\n\n---------------------------------------\nPenalties\n\n1)Any person who violates this ordinance shall be guilty of a misdemeanor\nand, upon conviction thereof, shall be fined not less than $5.00 nor more\nthan $50.00.\n\n2)A person convicted of a second offense under this ordinance, and, upon\nconviction thereof, shall be fined not less than $25.00 nor more than\n$100.00.\n\n3)A person convicted of a third or subsequent offense under this ordinance,\nand, upon conviction thereof, shall be fined not less than $100.00 nor\nmore than $500.00 or imprisoned in the county jail not more than ninety\n(90) days or both fined and imprisoned.\n", "Set your radio alarm to go off at 4am (or whenever they typically go to sleep) and sleep at a friend's place for a week. Don't forget to turn the volume all the way up before you go.", "I've been in this situation. I actually slept under my dining room table multiple times because it was the only place in my apartment I couldn't hear them. Unfortunately, and I'm being honest here, your neighbors, landlord, and the cops just don't care. Moving is the only option. ", "Depending where you live, you can withhold your rent payments indefinitely. Check your tenant rights. This falls under \"reasonable enjoyment of the rental unit\". If you can't sleep there it's virtually uninhabitable for you, and you don't pay for something the landlord isn't delivering.", "Unfortunately shared living environments like apartments/duplexes/condos, means also putting up with your surrounding neighbors. Besides asking them nicely, and putting in earplugs like you have already tried, there is nothing you can do to stop them. And even if they do move, you may get someone who is 10x worse than they are, or maybe even someone who is 10x more sensitive to noises, and you become the problem. \n\nI suggest finding someone who has similar living habits as you and get a place that doesn't share any walls.\n\nIf none of that is an option, then maybe you can try sound proofing your entire apartment with whatever foam it is that bands use in garages. Not sure how good that stuff would work for this situation or if it would work with the loud footsteps from an obese toddler, but may be worth looking into. ", "absolute best earplugs I've tried\n\nhearos xtreme protection\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Hearos-Ear-Plugs-Xtreme-Protection/dp/B000NP79YM/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1421139714&sr=8-2&keywords=hearos\n\nput the hearos xtreme protection in and then put these earmuffs on\n\nabsolute best earmuffs I've tried\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/3M-Peltor-H10A-Optime-Earmuff/dp/B00009LI4K/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1421139881&sr=8-4&keywords=peltor\n\nit will be total silence\n\nI sleep with just the earplugs in.\n\nif I'm up and reading and want total silence I put the earplugs in and then put the earmuffs over, these earmuffs are extremely comfortable, also you put headphones (earbuds) (for music and movies) on and put the earmuffs over. I can't say enough great things about these earmuffs.\n\n Like someone else said on here your neighbors, landlord, and the cops just don't care. Moving is the only option.\nBest advice is to move and never move back into apartments again.", "Hey ask your landlord when the next available top floor is available and move there.\n\nI thought most apartments anyways had \"family\" apartments in one building and studios and one bed rooms in another.\n\nHonestly when I move in some place I need to be on top floor with a balcony.", "Try music, if that doesnt help start beating on the top of the cealing. Your anger will show and if they care they will stop. If not then one day just run up there, beat on their door and yell at them to control their kid. Your paying money to live in a house for your own personal comfort, such actions are a requirement, who cares if you come across as a complete asshole. Sleep is the center that revolves around how you feel for the next day.", "One time in college I had terrible downstairs neighbor who had absolutely no sense of how to live in close proximity to others. Noise, parties, music at all hours. It didn't help that the floors were so shitty that I could clearly hear him talk, snore, etc. One time I called the apartment's late night complaint line and, as the phone was ringing, the music downstairs suddenly stopped. I quickly realized that the person who answered was AT the party and had shushed everyone for a moment so she could pretend to do her job. The music resumed shortly afterward. \n\nAnyway, since no one was going to do anything about the guy downstairs, I decided the best course of action would be to get sweet revenge. I had one of [these](http://cdn3-www.thefashionspot.com/assets/uploads/gallery/ikea-dorm-room-essentials/fniss-wastepaper-basket.jpg) ikea trash bins which happened to amplify sound quite a bit if you put an ipod or something in it. I would put that face down on the hard floor with an ipod inside, and then I would put a blanket over the contraption just to ensure that my downstairs neighbor would be the only neighbor disturbed by the noise. Who knows if that was the best way to handle things but it was still satisfying. ", "If you cannot move and you cannot reason with them and you cannot block out the noise your only options are live with it or retaliation. Get creative... Alternatively keep calling the cops for noise violation. There is probably some ordinance, but you'd have to get an spl device. ", "Yo it's time to get nasty with these people. If the cops were called and management isn't helping you have to take things into your own hands. Start by going upstairs and knocking on their door every time it starts happening. Talk to them and if it happens 30 minutes later be right back up their again. Be nice at first and then continue to become more rude each time you go up. They'll get tired of you knocking on the door eventually. If that doesn't work I'd try giving them a dose of their own treatment. Grab a stick and start pounding on the roof at odd hours. I know it sounds petty but them being bothered by noise might show them how big the problem really is.\n\nI had a buddy who lived in an apartment complex and I'm over there watching TV with him and all of a sudden this loud ass music kicks up from the apartment above. It's rocking his roof and you could no longer hear the TV. I'm like are they serious? He explained he hates it but he doesn't want to cause problems so he just lets it go. I would have stomped up stairs and kick knocked their door, the whole time yelling at them about how you're in an apartment complex for Christ sakes.\n\nStand up for yourself and don't let people do things you don't like.", "I've lived in lot of places, at least a dozen, and have had bad neighbors only twice. One guy on the other side of a duplex liked to get drunk and blare country music 'til 2:00 a.m.. Sometimes he'd pass out and leave his stereo on all night. I went out to Best Buy and got a boom box with the biggest subwoofer I could find, it was an actual separate unit. I downloaded a bunch of rap music and MP3's like \"bouncy bass test\", burned a cd, set the subwoofer next to our adjoining wall, cut the stereo on wide open, pressed \"repeat\" and left for the evening. The next morning I returned home and cut the stereo off. He never played his music loud or late after that.\n\nAnother time a scary looking ex-con fresh from prison (yes he told me) moved in next to me and my girlfriend. He locked himself out of his apartment on Saturday night and beat on our door at 3:00 a.m.. He would not stop. After about five minutes I grabbed the 12 gauge pump shotgun out of the closet, stood on the other side of the door and racked a 00 Buck into the chamber. Apparently he recognized that distinctive sound because it became very quiet after that. I found a new apartment and moved the next day. Gave the landlord my thanks and told him to shove the security deposit up his ass.\n\nHonestly, if I were you, I'd find a new place and tell the landlord you moved because of the noisy neighbors.", "See if your apartment complex can move you to a different unit. That's what ended up happening with friends of mine that had the same problem.", "Maybe a dumb question, but have you tried using a broom or stick to pound upwards when the noise is bothering you? It'll make the protest more immediate.", "If the apartments have hardwood floors that can make the problem much worse perhaps talk to them about getting some area rugs? ", "I had to live with 3 kids between the ages of one and four for a couple months. They would scream throughout the night and it was absolutely miserable. When I finally had enough I picked up a 30 pack of foam earmuffs and used them under the earmuffs I use when I go shooting. After that, all I could hear was the sound of my own breathing. I use Browning hearing protection earmuffs but just about anything like that should work. By the way: I also sleep on my side, but the earmuffs are really tight so they didn't fall off during the night. As an added bonus, they keep the earplugs in! :) Hope this helps. ", "You've taken \"move\" (easily the best answer) off the table, so know now that everything else is inferior. You have what you think are asshole neighbors that will likely stay asshole neighbors forever. \n\nBut first, understand them. They have a toddler, and from the parenting you describe it's possible they have no exposure to or interest in proper parenting skills (although I wouldn't just assume that). \n\nIn either case, they are **never** going to chain that kid to the wall just because you want them to. Whatever you do, you may be simply asking them to do something that they consider is impossible. \n\nReconsider moving if you can.", "I threatened my above-me neighbour with a slap to the chops if he didn't stop playing shitty rap at all hours. I told him 10pm and the music goes off. The guy above him has already moved out because of him.\n\nCan you not give the woman a cunt-punt?", "If all their doing is normal living (and walking is normal living) then there's nothing to do.\n\nAnd who calls a child obese? What does that have to do with anything, since they still weigh less than an adult?\n\nYou sound like mean, narcissistic person and it's probably in your head. Some people should just live away from others, for everyone's sake." ]

[ 41, 13, 11, 6, 5, 4, 4, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, -3, -6 ]

[ "How to stop sweating and smelling I have a big problem with sweating and smelling. And because of that I have avoided people in my new school for almost a year, and this have made me socially awkward which I didnt was before I started at the new school. Now I always sits alone because I do not know a lot of people since I have been avoiding them. Now I really want to fix this untill second semester starts so I can start making new friends. \n\nI have tried aluminium chlorid for a few weeks but it doesn't seem to help\nI shower everyday in the morning\nI use deodorant after shower\nI have to take with me a second t-shirt and my deodorant everyday at school\nI also have problem with sweating hands, which I really really do not want. \nI instantly sweat when I drink coffee, ice tea and soda. So I try to not drink when im around people.\nI workout around 4-5 times a week and shower the next day in the morning\nI sweat often because I am thinking about people around me, abd this makes me nervous if I smell bad. This often makes me more nervous and makes me more sweat \nI am a 16 year old boy\n\nPlease give me some advice, I really want to fix this.", "How to stop sweating and smelling I have a big problem with sweating and smelling. And because of that I have avoided people in my new school for almost a year, and this have made me socially awkward which I didnt was before I started at the new school. Now I always sits alone because I do not know a lot of people since I have been avoiding them. Now I really want to fix this untill second semester starts so I can start making new friends. \n\nI have tried aluminium chlorid for a few weeks but it doesn't seem to help\nI shower everyday in the morning\nI use deodorant after shower\nI have to take with me a second t-shirt and my deodorant everyday at school\nI also have problem with sweating hands, which I really really do not want. \nI instantly sweat when I drink coffee, ice tea and soda. So I try to not drink when im around people.\nI workout around 4-5 times a week and shower the next day in the morning\nI sweat often because I am thinking about people around me, abd this makes me nervous if I smell bad. This often makes me more nervous and makes me more sweat \nI am a 16 year old boy\n\nPlease give me some advice, I really want to fix this.", "How to stop sweating and smelling I have a big problem with sweating and smelling. And because of that I have avoided people in my new school for almost a year, and this have made me socially awkward which I didnt was before I started at the new school. Now I always sits alone because I do not know a lot of people since I have been avoiding them. Now I really want to fix this untill second semester starts so I can start making new friends. \n\nI have tried aluminium chlorid for a few weeks but it doesn't seem to help\nI shower everyday in the morning\nI use deodorant after shower\nI have to take with me a second t-shirt and my deodorant everyday at school\nI also have problem with sweating hands, which I really really do not want. \nI instantly sweat when I drink coffee, ice tea and soda. So I try to not drink when im around people.\nI workout around 4-5 times a week and shower the next day in the morning\nI sweat often because I am thinking about people around me, abd this makes me nervous if I smell bad. This often makes me more nervous and makes me more sweat \nI am a 16 year old boy\n\nPlease give me some advice, I really want to fix this.", "How to stop sweating and smelling I have a big problem with sweating and smelling. And because of that I have avoided people in my new school for almost a year, and this have made me socially awkward which I didnt was before I started at the new school. Now I always sits alone because I do not know a lot of people since I have been avoiding them. Now I really want to fix this untill second semester starts so I can start making new friends. \n\nI have tried aluminium chlorid for a few weeks but it doesn't seem to help\nI shower everyday in the morning\nI use deodorant after shower\nI have to take with me a second t-shirt and my deodorant everyday at school\nI also have problem with sweating hands, which I really really do not want. \nI instantly sweat when I drink coffee, ice tea and soda. So I try to not drink when im around people.\nI workout around 4-5 times a week and shower the next day in the morning\nI sweat often because I am thinking about people around me, abd this makes me nervous if I smell bad. This often makes me more nervous and makes me more sweat \nI am a 16 year old boy\n\nPlease give me some advice, I really want to fix this.", "How to stop sweating and smelling I have a big problem with sweating and smelling. And because of that I have avoided people in my new school for almost a year, and this have made me socially awkward which I didnt was before I started at the new school. Now I always sits alone because I do not know a lot of people since I have been avoiding them. Now I really want to fix this untill second semester starts so I can start making new friends. \n\nI have tried aluminium chlorid for a few weeks but it doesn't seem to help\nI shower everyday in the morning\nI use deodorant after shower\nI have to take with me a second t-shirt and my deodorant everyday at school\nI also have problem with sweating hands, which I really really do not want. \nI instantly sweat when I drink coffee, ice tea and soda. So I try to not drink when im around people.\nI workout around 4-5 times a week and shower the next day in the morning\nI sweat often because I am thinking about people around me, abd this makes me nervous if I smell bad. This often makes me more nervous and makes me more sweat \nI am a 16 year old boy\n\nPlease give me some advice, I really want to fix this.", "How to stop sweating and smelling I have a big problem with sweating and smelling. And because of that I have avoided people in my new school for almost a year, and this have made me socially awkward which I didnt was before I started at the new school. Now I always sits alone because I do not know a lot of people since I have been avoiding them. Now I really want to fix this untill second semester starts so I can start making new friends. \n\nI have tried aluminium chlorid for a few weeks but it doesn't seem to help\nI shower everyday in the morning\nI use deodorant after shower\nI have to take with me a second t-shirt and my deodorant everyday at school\nI also have problem with sweating hands, which I really really do not want. \nI instantly sweat when I drink coffee, ice tea and soda. So I try to not drink when im around people.\nI workout around 4-5 times a week and shower the next day in the morning\nI sweat often because I am thinking about people around me, abd this makes me nervous if I smell bad. This often makes me more nervous and makes me more sweat \nI am a 16 year old boy\n\nPlease give me some advice, I really want to fix this.", "How to stop sweating and smelling I have a big problem with sweating and smelling. And because of that I have avoided people in my new school for almost a year, and this have made me socially awkward which I didnt was before I started at the new school. Now I always sits alone because I do not know a lot of people since I have been avoiding them. Now I really want to fix this untill second semester starts so I can start making new friends. \n\nI have tried aluminium chlorid for a few weeks but it doesn't seem to help\nI shower everyday in the morning\nI use deodorant after shower\nI have to take with me a second t-shirt and my deodorant everyday at school\nI also have problem with sweating hands, which I really really do not want. \nI instantly sweat when I drink coffee, ice tea and soda. So I try to not drink when im around people.\nI workout around 4-5 times a week and shower the next day in the morning\nI sweat often because I am thinking about people around me, abd this makes me nervous if I smell bad. This often makes me more nervous and makes me more sweat \nI am a 16 year old boy\n\nPlease give me some advice, I really want to fix this.", "How to stop sweating and smelling I have a big problem with sweating and smelling. And because of that I have avoided people in my new school for almost a year, and this have made me socially awkward which I didnt was before I started at the new school. Now I always sits alone because I do not know a lot of people since I have been avoiding them. Now I really want to fix this untill second semester starts so I can start making new friends. \n\nI have tried aluminium chlorid for a few weeks but it doesn't seem to help\nI shower everyday in the morning\nI use deodorant after shower\nI have to take with me a second t-shirt and my deodorant everyday at school\nI also have problem with sweating hands, which I really really do not want. \nI instantly sweat when I drink coffee, ice tea and soda. So I try to not drink when im around people.\nI workout around 4-5 times a week and shower the next day in the morning\nI sweat often because I am thinking about people around me, abd this makes me nervous if I smell bad. This often makes me more nervous and makes me more sweat \nI am a 16 year old boy\n\nPlease give me some advice, I really want to fix this." ]

[ "Man, dont give a fuck. Stop avoiding people. I bet you dont stink anything like what you think you do. Regardless, it just doesn't fucking matter. We're all dirty animals. Stop worrying about their noses and start worrying about your own enjoyment. I know it's hard to find self-love at 16. Hang in there", "A side note- be sure to use specific shirts for working out. I have workout shirts that I've tried to \"deodorize\" in every way under the sun, yet as soon as I start sweating in them, the stink \"reanimates\".", "[Trimethylaminuria](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trimethylaminuria) can be a source of persistent (horrible) body odor that you can somewhat control by diet. Pretty sure I knew a guy with this, as he could shower, change into new clothes and be foul shortly thereafter.\n\nFoot odor can sometimes be controlled by soaking feet in black tea. So maybe a tea bath for full body odor?\n\nBotox has been used to control excessive sweating.\n\nGood luck.", "Try putting the aluminium chloride on at night time just before bed, your armpits should be less active then compared to the morning.", "It sounds like you may have Hyperhidrosis. I'd recommend setting up an appointment with a dermatologist and explain your symptoms. There are prescription strength antiperspirants, pills, Botox (the only thing that works for my underarms), and if you're looking for a permanent solution you could speak to your doctor about a microwave option where they essentially destroy the sweat glands. I hope this helps!", "I like to use lotion when I'm feeling.. debatable lol. It's a pleasant smell that doesn't appear to be an attempt to cover something up. But I'm a girl so it may be different.", "Have you tried showering, drying, out km deodorant, make sure deodorant is dry i.e. use a hair dryer, i had a similar issue but less than yours. Drying the deodorant worked... hope this helps...", "Bamboo tshirt / pants / socks!\n\nYou're still going to sweat but it just doesn't stink like sweaty cotton" ]

[ 7, 4, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to keep your face warm when it's cold outside without wearing a ski mask? I don't think I'm the only one out there struggling with the cold weather. I know how to keep my body warm, but I always feel like my face is frozen as soon as I'm outside. I don't want to wear a ski mask because that will scare people and probably will get me in trouble. Also, I have no facial hair which maybe could have helped. Does anyone know how to keep my face warm?", "How to keep your face warm when it's cold outside without wearing a ski mask? I don't think I'm the only one out there struggling with the cold weather. I know how to keep my body warm, but I always feel like my face is frozen as soon as I'm outside. I don't want to wear a ski mask because that will scare people and probably will get me in trouble. Also, I have no facial hair which maybe could have helped. Does anyone know how to keep my face warm?", "How to keep your face warm when it's cold outside without wearing a ski mask? I don't think I'm the only one out there struggling with the cold weather. I know how to keep my body warm, but I always feel like my face is frozen as soon as I'm outside. I don't want to wear a ski mask because that will scare people and probably will get me in trouble. Also, I have no facial hair which maybe could have helped. Does anyone know how to keep my face warm?", "How to keep your face warm when it's cold outside without wearing a ski mask? I don't think I'm the only one out there struggling with the cold weather. I know how to keep my body warm, but I always feel like my face is frozen as soon as I'm outside. I don't want to wear a ski mask because that will scare people and probably will get me in trouble. Also, I have no facial hair which maybe could have helped. Does anyone know how to keep my face warm?", "How to keep your face warm when it's cold outside without wearing a ski mask? I don't think I'm the only one out there struggling with the cold weather. I know how to keep my body warm, but I always feel like my face is frozen as soon as I'm outside. I don't want to wear a ski mask because that will scare people and probably will get me in trouble. Also, I have no facial hair which maybe could have helped. Does anyone know how to keep my face warm?", "How to keep your face warm when it's cold outside without wearing a ski mask? I don't think I'm the only one out there struggling with the cold weather. I know how to keep my body warm, but I always feel like my face is frozen as soon as I'm outside. I don't want to wear a ski mask because that will scare people and probably will get me in trouble. Also, I have no facial hair which maybe could have helped. Does anyone know how to keep my face warm?", "How to keep your face warm when it's cold outside without wearing a ski mask? I don't think I'm the only one out there struggling with the cold weather. I know how to keep my body warm, but I always feel like my face is frozen as soon as I'm outside. I don't want to wear a ski mask because that will scare people and probably will get me in trouble. Also, I have no facial hair which maybe could have helped. Does anyone know how to keep my face warm?" ]

[ "You can get bottles of \"liquid glove.\" It is basically a hand cream that blocks evaporation from the skin. It works well on faces.", "How would wearing a mask get you in trouble? How it that any different from people wearing a scarf that covers much of their face? \n\nAs long as you take it off when you go inside places, I think most people will understand you're wearing it because it's cold out. ", "Get a scarf and wrap it around your face. With that and a warm hat you'll get the same effect without scaring folks.", "I'd go with a balaclava. You can find ones that don't make you look like a terrorist from farm equipment stores or military surplus stores.", "Korean/ asian cotton face mask, or a neck warmer. \n\nAnd all those saying scarves, scarves do not protect the face very well and fall down easily. ", "Im always cold, without covering the face, get a wool hat with a fleece lining ear flap hat that covers the cheeks. \n\nI don't go anywhere without it.", "A thick trapper hat which covers the ears and a large scarf (like a shemagh - depends if you think that will scare people...) pulled up quite high over the mouth and nose will do it. " ]

[ 9, 6, 6, 4, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to be more approachable I find it hard to get people to want to talk to me, like initiate a conversation, i need tips!", "How to be more approachable I find it hard to get people to want to talk to me, like initiate a conversation, i need tips!", "How to be more approachable I find it hard to get people to want to talk to me, like initiate a conversation, i need tips!", "How to be more approachable I find it hard to get people to want to talk to me, like initiate a conversation, i need tips!", "How to be more approachable I find it hard to get people to want to talk to me, like initiate a conversation, i need tips!", "How to be more approachable I find it hard to get people to want to talk to me, like initiate a conversation, i need tips!" ]

[ "Dogs never have a problem with this. Why, because they're always happy to see you and are genuinely interested in your existence...and the potential pets they may get from this new friend.\n\nDon't wait for others to approach or initiate. Be progressive. Walk up and introduce yourself. Talk about your mutual existence in the shared place. \"What brings you to...?\" \"I see we are both interested in...\" You two automatically have common ground just being in the same place, likely for the same reason. Listen to them and be genuinely interested. Straight up ask them what they like to do, what interests them, or what's their favorite hobby. People love to talk about things they personally enjoy and love, and you can often see a more candid and natural side of them if you can get them excited about something.\n\nIf you want to evaluate what works, think of the coolest person you know, the one who seems most approachable, friends with everybody, and just seems to be able to chat with every stranger and make new friends like it was nothing. Watch that person. Study what they do. This is a learned skill, and some learn these skills pretty young. Others gain them later in life. Watch and learn from those more skilled than yourself. Realize it's not you the person that's the problem. It's just the social skill set you lack.", "Smile, introduce yourself, make eye contact, ask questions and actually listen to their answers. Everybody likes talking but nobody likes listening. Be genuine. ", "Be one of the first to arrive to gatherings. If you find you prefer talking to people one-on-one at events, this will start you with a small pool of conversants that grows over time. This is especially helpful at seated events like group dinners because you can ensure you get a seat in the middle of the action. ", "I would start with having a smile on your face. Also, be the first to greet somebody and ask them about whatever their interests/hobbies are.", "I agree that being proactive and engaging other people first is a good strategy, but also! I've found that carrying something interesting, such as a guitar, makes it much more likely that people will talk to me. Because maybe they play the guitar too, or maybe they've always wanted to. So the \"carry something interesting\" approach might be the ticket if you're feeling too shy to talk first.", "Don't look to be more approachable, look to be more engaging. Everyone loves the person who approaches them first and initiates the conversation. You should aim to be that person. Most people (including you) are concerned about how awkward they look or how bored they are or how people aren't approaching them for conversation. You should aim to make these people more comfortable--like a party host. Be confident and act like you're running the show: be polite and initiate the conversation, truly listening and showing genuine interest. If another person seems like they want to join in on the fun, be welcoming and be the first one to move over to give them space to enter your \"circle\" or verbally invite them over (remember, you're the host). The other simple tips are to smile, have open body language (smile, palms showing, no crossed arms, body facing the person, light physical contact), show interest, laugh, and smile (yes, again)." ]

[ 7, 5, 3, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "Clean the inside of a waterbottle How do I clean the caked on residue inside of a water bottle that was filled with a smoothie?", "Clean the inside of a waterbottle How do I clean the caked on residue inside of a water bottle that was filled with a smoothie?", "Clean the inside of a waterbottle How do I clean the caked on residue inside of a water bottle that was filled with a smoothie?", "Clean the inside of a waterbottle How do I clean the caked on residue inside of a water bottle that was filled with a smoothie?" ]

[ "Use a bottle brush. They cost $1.\n\nNever mind the rice and denture tab ideas. Why would you want to be so wasteful when a bottle brush is a one-time cost, permanent solution?", "I use a little bag of sand/gravel from the pet store. Well, actually this was to get rid of the layer of green algae which always grows in the big cat waterbottle with the tiny narrow neck. Go outside by the hose and shake it up good with a bit of water, dump it out *not* in a sink drain or toilet.\n", "I'd recommend adding some bleach in the bottle with some water. Cap it up and shake it around. Rinse thoroughly after. That's how I clean out my array of metal drinking bottles.", "A good trick (so long as it's not a metal water bottle) is to put some water inside and microwave it for a minute or so. That usually gets enough hot water and steam to loosen up the grime inside." ]

[ 10, 2, 1, 0 ]

[ " I have my hair temporarily dyed for a musical, and it looks terrible, any way to get it out faster than the 28 washes?", " I have my hair temporarily dyed for a musical, and it looks terrible, any way to get it out faster than the 28 washes?", " I have my hair temporarily dyed for a musical, and it looks terrible, any way to get it out faster than the 28 washes?", " I have my hair temporarily dyed for a musical, and it looks terrible, any way to get it out faster than the 28 washes?", " I have my hair temporarily dyed for a musical, and it looks terrible, any way to get it out faster than the 28 washes?", " I have my hair temporarily dyed for a musical, and it looks terrible, any way to get it out faster than the 28 washes?", " I have my hair temporarily dyed for a musical, and it looks terrible, any way to get it out faster than the 28 washes?", " I have my hair temporarily dyed for a musical, and it looks terrible, any way to get it out faster than the 28 washes?", " I have my hair temporarily dyed for a musical, and it looks terrible, any way to get it out faster than the 28 washes?", " I have my hair temporarily dyed for a musical, and it looks terrible, any way to get it out faster than the 28 washes?", " I have my hair temporarily dyed for a musical, and it looks terrible, any way to get it out faster than the 28 washes?" ]

[ "Clothing detergent. Will strip your hair to all hell but should remove most of the color. Be sure to deep condition after. \nSource: cosmetologist, 8yrs", "Most drugstores will carry \"Haircolor Remover\" It costs about $10-$13 and it's in the same place as all the boxes of hair dye. Look for a box with [people who have different colored hair](http://www.walmart.com/ip/L-Oreal-Paris-Colorist-Secrets-Haircolor-Remover-ICT/13263644) (e.i; not showing off one color)\n\nIt'll be one use and will be more than sufficient to remove a temporary haircolor without having to dye over it or destroy your hair with dish soap.", "Use a Vitamin C mask. [Here](http://www.haircrazy.com/articles/beginner-guides/conditioning-vitamin-c-hair-mask/)'s a tutorial.\n\nOtherwise, use either Head & Shoulders or dishwashing detergent instead of shampoo. You'll need a good conditioner with the latter.\n\nI used to dye my blonde hair bright colours, and those were my go-to fading techniques when I wanted to change colour.", "In the industry we use half vodka half shampoo, this will strip your hair rapidly. This is a peek behind the curtain.", "I have found that body wash/shower gel works well. Particularly men's brands. (obligatory moisturize afterwards)", "I had this same problem when I went to an Indian Holi festival and the blonde in my hair was dyed by the colored pigments we threw. The best trick for me (which took everything out after two tries) was Vitamin C tablets (from the grocery store supplement aisle) crushed up and mixed into a paste with shampoo. You can see the paste absorb the color, even after you washed it a bunch like I had. I crushed probably six tabs into a fine powder in a couple tablespoons of shampoo. Massage into hair for a few min and rinse out. You'll be surprised how much color runs down the drain. Found the trick online. ", "ColorOops or ColourB4 are good options. You want a colour remover not a colour stripper (colour strippers will bleach your natural hair, whereas colour removers mentioned above just enable the artificial colour to wash out more easily without affecting your natural hair colour). Follow the instructions carefully and ensure you wash your hair several times after use. Expect to smell like a bad egg for a few days afterwards.", "You can use a hair colour remover which are fairly cheap these days. Otherwise just shampoo your hair a lot using something like head and shoulders or a clarifying shampoo. You can also mix bicarb or lemon juice to your shampoo for better results. ", "Mix some peroxide with shampoo and \" bleach bath \" it. It will rip most of the colour out and isn't too harsh \n\nOf I find washing up liquid as shampoo couple of times then lots of conditioner helps pull the colour out ", "As someone who has removed a lot of dye from my hair over the last decade, anti dandruff shampoo especially the hardcore stuff like selsun is the way to go, \n\nAnd keep on shampooing and rinsing, you might have to do it ten times in a day, but you have to keep on doing it, and because it's wet you won't know how much dye is gone until your hair is dry, \n\nIt won't happen overnight. But it will happen.\n\n\nOr shave your head.\n", "1dollar solution\n\nAre you ready for this?\n\nHere we go:\n\n**Wear a Hat.**\n\nTie your hair into a bun.\n\nPut a hat over the bun.\n\nPut a hood over the hat." ]

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[ "How do I keep myself from overcommitting? I feel like I regularly find myself in a situation where I’ve promised to do far more than I’m actually capable of time wise when it comes to friends and work and events. I know I can just say no, but all the things I have to do feel important enough to me that I just don’t want to.", "How do I keep myself from overcommitting? I feel like I regularly find myself in a situation where I’ve promised to do far more than I’m actually capable of time wise when it comes to friends and work and events. I know I can just say no, but all the things I have to do feel important enough to me that I just don’t want to.", "How do I keep myself from overcommitting? I feel like I regularly find myself in a situation where I’ve promised to do far more than I’m actually capable of time wise when it comes to friends and work and events. I know I can just say no, but all the things I have to do feel important enough to me that I just don’t want to.", "How do I keep myself from overcommitting? I feel like I regularly find myself in a situation where I’ve promised to do far more than I’m actually capable of time wise when it comes to friends and work and events. I know I can just say no, but all the things I have to do feel important enough to me that I just don’t want to.", "How do I keep myself from overcommitting? I feel like I regularly find myself in a situation where I’ve promised to do far more than I’m actually capable of time wise when it comes to friends and work and events. I know I can just say no, but all the things I have to do feel important enough to me that I just don’t want to.", "How do I keep myself from overcommitting? I feel like I regularly find myself in a situation where I’ve promised to do far more than I’m actually capable of time wise when it comes to friends and work and events. I know I can just say no, but all the things I have to do feel important enough to me that I just don’t want to.", "How do I keep myself from overcommitting? I feel like I regularly find myself in a situation where I’ve promised to do far more than I’m actually capable of time wise when it comes to friends and work and events. I know I can just say no, but all the things I have to do feel important enough to me that I just don’t want to." ]

[ "It's natural. Adults realize that life is hard and that themselves and others often have too much on their plate to do everything that they want to do/say they will do. Learn to expect reasonable sympathy from others and honestly explain yourself if you need to.", "I love saying Yes to things which has frequently led to ovetcommitting in the past. What's worked for me is asking \"If I say Yes to this, what am I saying No to?\" Saying Yes to this new thing likely means I'm now saying No to a previous commitment - and I don't know which one in the moment unless I stop and think it through. \n\nPersonally, I HATE not following through on commitments and knowing I'd have to back out of something is enough motivation to stop me from saying Yes to the new thing.\n\nEither way, be intentional about where you spend your time and energy.", "Following because I always fill empty spaces in conversation with me offering to do things I don't want to do.", "\"Can't be all things to all people.\" Words of advice from an old mentor. It's one of those things you gotta practice by saying NO first. Prioritizing.", "You have to protect yourself or you are no good for the things you are passionate about. Protect your physical and mental well-being because no one else will. Planning down time is important and if someone needs help, say, \"Sorry but I have something planned.\" Because you do. Just because you could change it doesn't mean you should. It gets easier the more you prioritize yourself. \"No\" doesn't need any more words or an explanation.", "I struggle with the same thing. What has worked for me (and it's a practice) is in the moment of being asked to do something, I pause and respond with a scripted, \"I'm going to think about this\", or \"I'm not sure, I'll get back to you\". And slowly, my \"yes\" impulse has chilled out, and I'm far less likely to find myself overcommitted/overworked/overwhelmed.", "Best I know is to take two extra seconds before committing to anything. \n\nThe time it takes for one deep breath gives you space to remember what else you have going on, assess your priorities (No, not everything can be a priority), gage what it would take to accomplish this new thing, etc.\n\nIf you don't want to say No, talk thru the possibilities with someone. Like, \"I feel like I should do X, but if I give X the time & attention it actually takes to do it well, then Y and Z are going to suffer setbacks. Does X warrant that sacrifice? Can I delegate Y or Z to someone else?\"" ]

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[ "Stop rambling. So, I ramble a lot. Whenever I tell someone to do something, a story, ask a question or whatever, I need to explain why. \n\nIt feels like I need to say my reasoning or give a backstory on something so the person understands what I mean or see's from my POV rather then thinking I'm just being unreasonable or something.\n\nSo, I stopped myself from rambling there, but you get what I mean. Any tips on how I can stop doing that all the time?", "Stop rambling. So, I ramble a lot. Whenever I tell someone to do something, a story, ask a question or whatever, I need to explain why. \n\nIt feels like I need to say my reasoning or give a backstory on something so the person understands what I mean or see's from my POV rather then thinking I'm just being unreasonable or something.\n\nSo, I stopped myself from rambling there, but you get what I mean. Any tips on how I can stop doing that all the time?", "Stop rambling. So, I ramble a lot. Whenever I tell someone to do something, a story, ask a question or whatever, I need to explain why. \n\nIt feels like I need to say my reasoning or give a backstory on something so the person understands what I mean or see's from my POV rather then thinking I'm just being unreasonable or something.\n\nSo, I stopped myself from rambling there, but you get what I mean. Any tips on how I can stop doing that all the time?", "Stop rambling. So, I ramble a lot. Whenever I tell someone to do something, a story, ask a question or whatever, I need to explain why. \n\nIt feels like I need to say my reasoning or give a backstory on something so the person understands what I mean or see's from my POV rather then thinking I'm just being unreasonable or something.\n\nSo, I stopped myself from rambling there, but you get what I mean. Any tips on how I can stop doing that all the time?" ]

[ "When you feel yourself about to ramble or over explain, take a moment to remember the other person is probably smart and can fill in most small details. No one is going to assume you're a horrible person for being slightly \"incorrect\" in how you phrase something. I once had a friend with a similar problem, she eventually got over it but it took quite some reminding that people tend to be good at figuring out what you mean through what you explicitly say. If they can't, they're usually assholes who nitpick anyway haha. ", "My husband and I have actually practiced summarizing things and picking out key info when re telling it. We'll tell each other the same story 3-4 times in a row trying to make it more concise and to the point each time. I think it's helped train our brains to identify important info more quickly and think better on our feet. It definitely takes practice.", "I recommend telling yourself any story you tell will not be over 20 seconds long, or some short amount of time. Set a limit and try to stick to it.", "A good way is to actively have those around you point it out when they see it happening. It's very hard to stop something that you're not aware of. If you have friends which you talk to a lot then they should help make you aware of when you start rambling." ]

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[ "How to be there for a friend who's lost a loved one without becoming annoying Hi,\n\nSo a couple weeks ago, one of my friends' fathers passed away. We are definitely friends, we hang out once a month or so, but I'm not in that person's circle of 'close friends' I don't think.\n\nI've been reading up on a lot of the advice here on reddit about how to help people that are bereaved, but I feel if I did some of the stuff suggested (like basically forcing them to come with you on activities so they can feel a normal routine again), I'd be very annoying and I don't want to be overstepping my friend's boundary of privacy.\n\nHow do I help them and be there for them without imposing myself on them?\n\nThank you.", "How to be there for a friend who's lost a loved one without becoming annoying Hi,\n\nSo a couple weeks ago, one of my friends' fathers passed away. We are definitely friends, we hang out once a month or so, but I'm not in that person's circle of 'close friends' I don't think.\n\nI've been reading up on a lot of the advice here on reddit about how to help people that are bereaved, but I feel if I did some of the stuff suggested (like basically forcing them to come with you on activities so they can feel a normal routine again), I'd be very annoying and I don't want to be overstepping my friend's boundary of privacy.\n\nHow do I help them and be there for them without imposing myself on them?\n\nThank you.", "How to be there for a friend who's lost a loved one without becoming annoying Hi,\n\nSo a couple weeks ago, one of my friends' fathers passed away. We are definitely friends, we hang out once a month or so, but I'm not in that person's circle of 'close friends' I don't think.\n\nI've been reading up on a lot of the advice here on reddit about how to help people that are bereaved, but I feel if I did some of the stuff suggested (like basically forcing them to come with you on activities so they can feel a normal routine again), I'd be very annoying and I don't want to be overstepping my friend's boundary of privacy.\n\nHow do I help them and be there for them without imposing myself on them?\n\nThank you.", "How to be there for a friend who's lost a loved one without becoming annoying Hi,\n\nSo a couple weeks ago, one of my friends' fathers passed away. We are definitely friends, we hang out once a month or so, but I'm not in that person's circle of 'close friends' I don't think.\n\nI've been reading up on a lot of the advice here on reddit about how to help people that are bereaved, but I feel if I did some of the stuff suggested (like basically forcing them to come with you on activities so they can feel a normal routine again), I'd be very annoying and I don't want to be overstepping my friend's boundary of privacy.\n\nHow do I help them and be there for them without imposing myself on them?\n\nThank you.", "How to be there for a friend who's lost a loved one without becoming annoying Hi,\n\nSo a couple weeks ago, one of my friends' fathers passed away. We are definitely friends, we hang out once a month or so, but I'm not in that person's circle of 'close friends' I don't think.\n\nI've been reading up on a lot of the advice here on reddit about how to help people that are bereaved, but I feel if I did some of the stuff suggested (like basically forcing them to come with you on activities so they can feel a normal routine again), I'd be very annoying and I don't want to be overstepping my friend's boundary of privacy.\n\nHow do I help them and be there for them without imposing myself on them?\n\nThank you.", "How to be there for a friend who's lost a loved one without becoming annoying Hi,\n\nSo a couple weeks ago, one of my friends' fathers passed away. We are definitely friends, we hang out once a month or so, but I'm not in that person's circle of 'close friends' I don't think.\n\nI've been reading up on a lot of the advice here on reddit about how to help people that are bereaved, but I feel if I did some of the stuff suggested (like basically forcing them to come with you on activities so they can feel a normal routine again), I'd be very annoying and I don't want to be overstepping my friend's boundary of privacy.\n\nHow do I help them and be there for them without imposing myself on them?\n\nThank you." ]

[ "Part of what worked for me was when my friends made sure to keep up with the normal routine and frequency of inviting me out. I'd pass here and there but I also said yes more often than I used to. It felt good to be connecting to other folks, even if it was just a beer and bitching about whatever dumb tv show was on. It also felt good to be able to say no and have a quiet night in but knowing the offer was still there. The other part could be to send a check in text if you find they aren't coming out and ask in what ways you could support them (food/ movies/ hobbies). The hardest thing is not accidentally making them into a pariah with all of the well-intentioned attention. It's a new sense of normalcy that gets established, so just keep that in mind as you do what you're already doing.", "Don't force them into things. Just be there. Don't even have to talk. Just watch TV with them or relax at their house and let them talk about shit if they want to.", "A good friend recently lost her mother, she's doing ok now but was obviously a mess at the time, I gave her lots of space as I know she wanted to just be alone but I messaged her every day for a chat, telling her I was thinking of her, that I was there for her day and night if she needed me. Told her that feeling devastated, weak, broken and lost was perfectly natural and that she will eventually find strength from her pain. I just made sure to make her feel like she always knew a friend that was there for her. She didn't call me once or ask to hangout etc but recently she gave me lift and told me that out of all her friends I helped more than anyone by making her feel supported, by not telling her to stop being down, that I made her sadness and pain feel justified. She's back at work now and doing fine. ", "so my ex had 2 people die that were close to her, so i guess i have experience with this. she lost her cousin who she was close friends with, and her father, in the same 3 year span. \n\nbasically i never forced anything on her, i was just \"there\". if she wanted to hang, i was on call, if she needed help with anything, i was on call, i let her basically tell what she wanted or needed at any time. i also just checked in, to see if she was ok. obviously listened to her express her pain and feelings about it all. \n\nshe had mood swings at even the best of times and had a bit of a temper, this was obviously worse when she was going through tragedy. however i tried to give her a free pass through all of that, but wasn't perfect, and i still got upset with her sometimes, which i regret. so i guess the last thing is just understand, that they will have shitty moods, don't take anger, or them avoiding you personally.\n\nalso i would throw in, don't treat them different or constantly act like you know something is \"wrong\". joke like you normally joke, do things you normally do. i feel like me acting like this helped her take her mind off it alot of the time.", "Sometimes just coming over for little things is the best. After my mother lost her battle with cancer, my friends would come over to just hang out, and do little things, like watch TV shows or for doggie play dates etc. They found little reasons to get me out of my house, like telling me to come do my laundry at their house (I don't have a washer/dryer) or invite me for dinner or table games at their houses.\n\nOnce I started back to work, they helped me back into my normal routine like going to the gym and other hobbies.\n\nI think the best idea is to try to avoid high cost places, heavy drinking, and anything that may trigger strong memories of their loved one. ", "Each person is different.\nMy father died 8 years ago. Couple of weeks ago a friend of mine losr his father to cancer. So i huged him and said our fathers must be having fun togather.\nThere was this another time i had to talk about different stuff to friend so he can take his mind off of his loss." ]

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[ "How to stop spam calls? Been getting calls from a fake automotive agency about my 2015 Ford Mustang...I've never owned a mustang. I used a mustang as an example on this website for a class project I was working on (6 months ago or more) and I was running late on the project so I put my phone number onto the website just to make it faster. I have been getting calls almost daily from them. First couple were \"ok this isn't annoying.\" about 3 months in I was telling them I had various different vehicles, like a P-45 Mustang, P-51 Mustang, oh and different kinds of tanks just for the fun of it. Then yesterday I wasn't have the best day and they called me, I cussed them out saying like \"you fuckers have been calling me for months over something I don't own\" blah blah blah stuff like that. Any help on how to stop these?\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\n (if this isn't the right subreddit please don't hesitate to tell me) ", "How to stop spam calls? Been getting calls from a fake automotive agency about my 2015 Ford Mustang...I've never owned a mustang. I used a mustang as an example on this website for a class project I was working on (6 months ago or more) and I was running late on the project so I put my phone number onto the website just to make it faster. I have been getting calls almost daily from them. First couple were \"ok this isn't annoying.\" about 3 months in I was telling them I had various different vehicles, like a P-45 Mustang, P-51 Mustang, oh and different kinds of tanks just for the fun of it. Then yesterday I wasn't have the best day and they called me, I cussed them out saying like \"you fuckers have been calling me for months over something I don't own\" blah blah blah stuff like that. Any help on how to stop these?\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\n (if this isn't the right subreddit please don't hesitate to tell me) ", "How to stop spam calls? Been getting calls from a fake automotive agency about my 2015 Ford Mustang...I've never owned a mustang. I used a mustang as an example on this website for a class project I was working on (6 months ago or more) and I was running late on the project so I put my phone number onto the website just to make it faster. I have been getting calls almost daily from them. First couple were \"ok this isn't annoying.\" about 3 months in I was telling them I had various different vehicles, like a P-45 Mustang, P-51 Mustang, oh and different kinds of tanks just for the fun of it. Then yesterday I wasn't have the best day and they called me, I cussed them out saying like \"you fuckers have been calling me for months over something I don't own\" blah blah blah stuff like that. Any help on how to stop these?\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\n (if this isn't the right subreddit please don't hesitate to tell me) ", "How to stop spam calls? Been getting calls from a fake automotive agency about my 2015 Ford Mustang...I've never owned a mustang. I used a mustang as an example on this website for a class project I was working on (6 months ago or more) and I was running late on the project so I put my phone number onto the website just to make it faster. I have been getting calls almost daily from them. First couple were \"ok this isn't annoying.\" about 3 months in I was telling them I had various different vehicles, like a P-45 Mustang, P-51 Mustang, oh and different kinds of tanks just for the fun of it. Then yesterday I wasn't have the best day and they called me, I cussed them out saying like \"you fuckers have been calling me for months over something I don't own\" blah blah blah stuff like that. Any help on how to stop these?\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\n (if this isn't the right subreddit please don't hesitate to tell me) ", "How to stop spam calls? Been getting calls from a fake automotive agency about my 2015 Ford Mustang...I've never owned a mustang. I used a mustang as an example on this website for a class project I was working on (6 months ago or more) and I was running late on the project so I put my phone number onto the website just to make it faster. I have been getting calls almost daily from them. First couple were \"ok this isn't annoying.\" about 3 months in I was telling them I had various different vehicles, like a P-45 Mustang, P-51 Mustang, oh and different kinds of tanks just for the fun of it. Then yesterday I wasn't have the best day and they called me, I cussed them out saying like \"you fuckers have been calling me for months over something I don't own\" blah blah blah stuff like that. Any help on how to stop these?\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\n (if this isn't the right subreddit please don't hesitate to tell me) ", "How to stop spam calls? Been getting calls from a fake automotive agency about my 2015 Ford Mustang...I've never owned a mustang. I used a mustang as an example on this website for a class project I was working on (6 months ago or more) and I was running late on the project so I put my phone number onto the website just to make it faster. I have been getting calls almost daily from them. First couple were \"ok this isn't annoying.\" about 3 months in I was telling them I had various different vehicles, like a P-45 Mustang, P-51 Mustang, oh and different kinds of tanks just for the fun of it. Then yesterday I wasn't have the best day and they called me, I cussed them out saying like \"you fuckers have been calling me for months over something I don't own\" blah blah blah stuff like that. Any help on how to stop these?\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\n (if this isn't the right subreddit please don't hesitate to tell me) ", "How to stop spam calls? Been getting calls from a fake automotive agency about my 2015 Ford Mustang...I've never owned a mustang. I used a mustang as an example on this website for a class project I was working on (6 months ago or more) and I was running late on the project so I put my phone number onto the website just to make it faster. I have been getting calls almost daily from them. First couple were \"ok this isn't annoying.\" about 3 months in I was telling them I had various different vehicles, like a P-45 Mustang, P-51 Mustang, oh and different kinds of tanks just for the fun of it. Then yesterday I wasn't have the best day and they called me, I cussed them out saying like \"you fuckers have been calling me for months over something I don't own\" blah blah blah stuff like that. Any help on how to stop these?\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\n (if this isn't the right subreddit please don't hesitate to tell me) " ]

[ "When they ring get through to a human (if it isn’t one already) and then open a tone generator on your computer/laptop and play a high pitched tone loudly down the line. They soon get the picture.", "Tell them “he totaled that car and died” or “We sold it and I have a chauffeur now” they will basically never stop calling. And there’s no such thing as the do not call list, so you mine as well just rip the phone out of the wall and get it over with.", "\"Please take my number off your list\" repeat with all spam calls sometimes it does take a few attempts but lying or yelling at them won't do anything. \n\nI also tell them I don't have a car, cr", "what coyntry are you in? in US you can report if you are or even if you are not on the do not call list (especially for robo calls)", "Open the recent calls and highlight the spam callers number. Then press the screenlock key so the display turns off. Then place the phone into your trash can and take the bag out to the bin. This is the only way I've figured out to stop the spam callers.", "May I ask,do the numbers have a pattern? If so youmail has a database of scam callers and they'll get a fake line is not in service message. Plus as a bonus it serves as a alternative to your carrier voicemail and gives 10 free speech to text transcriptions of voicemails they get. All because of conditional call forward", "Calls like these are the bane of my existence. If it is the same number, I would block it and then report them to the FTC ([https://www.donotcall.gov/](https://www.donotcall.gov/)). It is super frustrating. I'm so sorry they're harassing you! " ]

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[ "What is the best way to get in shape (with and without gym access)? I'm a 6 foot male and weigh about 250 pounds. I am looking to lose a lot of weight and just be more fit in general. I am considering joining a gym near me, but I am also a poor community college student and would like some tips on getting fit both with and without gym access.", "What is the best way to get in shape (with and without gym access)? I'm a 6 foot male and weigh about 250 pounds. I am looking to lose a lot of weight and just be more fit in general. I am considering joining a gym near me, but I am also a poor community college student and would like some tips on getting fit both with and without gym access.", "What is the best way to get in shape (with and without gym access)? I'm a 6 foot male and weigh about 250 pounds. I am looking to lose a lot of weight and just be more fit in general. I am considering joining a gym near me, but I am also a poor community college student and would like some tips on getting fit both with and without gym access.", "What is the best way to get in shape (with and without gym access)? I'm a 6 foot male and weigh about 250 pounds. I am looking to lose a lot of weight and just be more fit in general. I am considering joining a gym near me, but I am also a poor community college student and would like some tips on getting fit both with and without gym access.", "What is the best way to get in shape (with and without gym access)? I'm a 6 foot male and weigh about 250 pounds. I am looking to lose a lot of weight and just be more fit in general. I am considering joining a gym near me, but I am also a poor community college student and would like some tips on getting fit both with and without gym access.", "What is the best way to get in shape (with and without gym access)? I'm a 6 foot male and weigh about 250 pounds. I am looking to lose a lot of weight and just be more fit in general. I am considering joining a gym near me, but I am also a poor community college student and would like some tips on getting fit both with and without gym access.", "What is the best way to get in shape (with and without gym access)? I'm a 6 foot male and weigh about 250 pounds. I am looking to lose a lot of weight and just be more fit in general. I am considering joining a gym near me, but I am also a poor community college student and would like some tips on getting fit both with and without gym access.", "What is the best way to get in shape (with and without gym access)? I'm a 6 foot male and weigh about 250 pounds. I am looking to lose a lot of weight and just be more fit in general. I am considering joining a gym near me, but I am also a poor community college student and would like some tips on getting fit both with and without gym access.", "What is the best way to get in shape (with and without gym access)? I'm a 6 foot male and weigh about 250 pounds. I am looking to lose a lot of weight and just be more fit in general. I am considering joining a gym near me, but I am also a poor community college student and would like some tips on getting fit both with and without gym access." ]

[ "Rule of thumb: eat less move more.\n\nI just started losing Weight by just living a healthier life. it all started about 1 Year ago. I was never fat but I lived extremely unhealthy. This is what I did so far:\n\n* Quitted Smoking. It took me about 3-4 tries to actually succeed, but in the end it worked out. This one is HUGE if you actually realize how big of a step it is. You save money, do something for your health now and in the future, you don't smell and you avoid Stress. It's all obvious, but actually *feeling* the difference is a whole different Beast than only knowing about the benefits. you never knew how air tastes like if you are smoking. you never knew how a medium cooked steak taste like when you smoked. you never knew how deep you could inhale and exhale fresh air on top of a mountain. quit smoking.\n\n* Started to eat less. Right now the only thing I don't like about my eating habits is that I tend to get hungry after 11 pm and then I get some sort of Snack. Fighting through that will be my next step. What does eating less mean? I just stopped eating when I didn't feel hungry anymore. Not feeling hungry anymore isn't the same feeling than not being hungry anymore. If you aren't used to feel Hunger throughout the day, this is a hard step. I read a post on /R/Fitness once that asked how to fight it. top comment: \"don't let a feeling as pathetic as Hunger be able to control your day\". This became my Mantra. I started eating way more healthy (helps that I can cook and know what actually is healthy and what isn't) - rule of thumb: carbs make you fat, not fat. So try to. avoid things with a lot of sugar in them. Things with a lot of carbs you might not be aware of: rolls/white bread and generic noodles. Avoid those if possible. also avoid a lot of animal fat (meat with a lot of fat). \n\n* Started to drink water ONLY throughout the day. This one is also huge. I was the typical guy who would always buy expensive bottles of Coke or Ice Tea. Fuck do they have a lot of carbs in them. But they Taste so good you say? I know EXACTLY where you are coming from but... Well fuck me, since I actually started to enjoy the taste of water, i started to dislike the sugary stuff. I mean how awesome is that? If I'm thirsty i'm not like \"ughh no Coke at home... guess I'll have to buy one\" anymore. I don't have that Problem anymore. I just go to the tap and the job is done! Also: the more you drink, the less hungry you'll feel throughout the day. I drink about 2,5 l a day now at least.\n\n* Started avoiding escalators and elevators. I don't know about you, but I travel a lot by taking the underground/Subway. I just started avoiding being lazy when I'm out. I don't take elevators etc anymore, i take the fucking stairs. Makes no difference you say? Well throughout a day it might not. But have you ever heard of sth along the lines of \"the small stuff adds up\"? It is true. If you constantly use stairs instead of being lazy, you will lose a lot of calories throughout the months. Also, you won't have to get yourself into Stress by having a big Crowd in front of the escalator after exiting the subway since the stairs will always be free ;) I live in a building with 5+ floors - yes we have an elevator, but I don't use it anymore. I go over 100 steps up AND down every single day by just doing that.\n\n* Started running. It is cheap, healthy, makes your lungs better, challenges yourself and you get to know your City better and experience a lot of random stuff. I just started doing it recently. I always felt like I fucking hate running but you know.. i never did it because I wanted to. Now I feel bad if I don't go running every 2nd day. Note that the gear is important on this one!! I recommend VERY light shoes like Nike freeruns or sth similar. They make a HUGE difference in your running experience since you won't feel them as much as normal shoes. Also get yourself a running backpack. take 2 water bottles with you.. you never know. Don't drink too much and too fast in One drag, otherwise running won't feel good in your chest (my experience). Listen to music while running. It has to be energetic. How long? I started by running for 1-2 weeks by just running with a correct posture for as long as I could with a pace i could hold up throughout the whole time I was running. I could run for like 25 minutes before something started to not feel good anymore or I didn't like it anymore. I called it a day after that. But 2 days later i did the fucking same. Consistency is key! As I said I was a Smoker, and I felt like my lungs were too fucked because of my Smoking habit in the past. Well yesterday I ran for 45 mins Straight and I actually Start to like doing it. I sweat out a fucking Pacific Ocean and felt immensely used after it. I wanted to sit into the Tram and just travel back home because I was just DONE (i always run 1 direction then travel back by subway/Tram etc because I don't like seeing the same stuff twice by running back e.g.) and then it FUCKING Hit me: euphoria! I don't know where it came from but it just started. Me sitting there in the Tram, feeling dirty af, thinking everybody looks at me because I smell like cow shit but here I was smiling because I felt like I achieved beating the Elite 4 on my gamboy when I was 6 years old.\n\nHere I am now. I feel like I can actually get the body i Desire, it just takes small and consistent steps, that is all. I give myself about 2 years to actually achive it and I WILL have it. I will start going to my local swim Club regularly in a few months and will pick up cycling regularly next Summer. I will be starting calories by then. 1 Year after doing that I will start to hit the bars and start to do Street Workout. When the results aren't enough for my likes with this program, i will eventually be starting to lift weights.\n\nSo you see: it takes a big fucking step to lose weight. what is easier than a big fucjing step? You guessed right: a whole fucking lot of babysteps are.\n\nIt might Sound hard to achieve getting fit, but in reality it's just a battle against your own self. When it comes to hard decisions you yourself are the biggest enemy. And it is the enemy we have the most respect from, because we like to think that we know how we are. I should know best about me right? NO. Don't talk yourself into that. If you always think like this, you'll never widen your Horizon. So if you already know you wanna do something about you... good. Now Start fucking fighting against you!\n\n\n~~~~~\n\nok your question was about *affording* gym (getting fit).\n\n\nthis is how i can do it now:\n\n* quitting smoking: 3 packs a week -> 5$ each = 15$ * 4 (per month) = 60$ saved every month\n\n* eating less: hard to evaluate maybe like 2-3$ a day? -> 14$ a week * 4 = 56 $ saved every month\n\n* drinking only water: 2(?)$ everyday -> 56 $ saved every month\n\ndid that for about 8 months - i saved 170$ every month * 8 = 1360 $\n\nstarted running - bought running shoes for 150$, running backpack for 50 $, clothing for running for about 100 $ -> 300 $\n\nstill have 1000$ left after just 8 fucking months.\n\nThese were all exaggerated prices. i rounded down where i saved money and rounded up where i spent money so far. you can't tell me you don't have enough money for the gym. how much is the gym per month? 40$. christ you don't even need the gym in the beginning. just live healthy, get the fuck up and start saving money. it's not as hard as it sound, it comes naturally with the new lifestyle.", "I can recommend finding a sport buddy. Yesterday i ran 7 km with a friend and it was beautiful. I still have aching knees but it felt so good and rewarding. Check out the kids playground. Sometimes there are exercise machines ( like in Spain or Italy) that you can use. Or be creative and use a block to do steps on ( quickly step on with one foot, then step on with the second foot and then jump off and start over). ", "Some may like it some may not,\n\nRunning (If close enough you could run to classes or work)\n\n\nHelping Elderly (yard work/etc) [Good way to gain muscle, Helps with work ethic, wins you good friends, and sometimes you get paid]\n\n\n*Also,\nDancing & Martial Arts\n\nBoth, once you learn can be a routine at home, which, if not known, are good things to know just in case also a lot cheaper than gym (or in long run if you end up taking classes that of course will cost money) ", "People will probably say the usual \"diet, burn more calories than you consume\" etc. But something I'd highly recommend - find a gym/fitness buddy. Unless you are very determined, it is so easy to just stop going. Once I started at gym I found I got addicted to it to the point I hate it when I have to skip gym day for something else. But I've been going with a friend. We use it kind of like a competition so we're pushing each other - see who gets the most gains over an 8wk program.\n\nYou don't need a gym, you could start with body exercises (pushups, pullups, star jumps, skipping etc) or you could even join fitness classes. The most important thing is that once you start, you DON'T stop. Don't think to yourself \"I ran 10km today, I can skip gym for a week and eat anything I want\". Your only reward should be stepping up to the next level \"Now that I've run 10km, I can try for 15km\"", "I am fit and ripped and about your size minus the weight (muscles probably stick out as much as your fat, jk)\n\nHere is what will help you the most immediately:\n\nDiet: Most important thing. Eat veggies and fruits in the morning only. Do it until noon. The alkalinity flushes your system and cleanses it of toxins from the day before. Thinking of fat clinging to shitty food. The shittier you eat, the fatter you get. The healthier you eat, the more of a jet engine you become.\n\n2nd: It is not necessarily eat less, it is eat better. That being said, if you are eating a lot, make sure you match that with energy output.\n\nI personally like to hit full body workouts (or some variation) every time I am in the gym. (I am not a body builder, I lift to be fit). I also like to pretend I am on the cell block and have 25 to Life so I hit the weights hard AF.\n\nLast, drink gallon a day minimum. (alcohol obvi. Once you get swoll you will be GTLing in no time my friend) Work hard and enjoy the good life.\n\nTL;DR Stop half-assing shit, and just go hard in the paint.", "For me it was all about doing nothing drastic, just eating less and exercising more. It had to be something I would stick to, the main one was walking everywhere I could. I would think nothing of an hour long walk during my lunch break or going on a long hike on the weekends. You get to see a lot of your town or surrounding areas doing this too. You can do that every day without wearing yourself out like sports of going to the gym, you don't get sweaty or need any kind of real motivation. Eating less was about adjusting what I ate to cut back on the calories. Portion sizes got smaller, I cut down lunches a lot but would have a normal dinner. You might seem hungry to start with but you really get used to it.\n\nI dropped around 3 stone (whatever that is in American - multiply by 14) over the course of a year. I have kept it off too.", "Find a field and do sprints. People say run distance, but that's only good for losing weight and it requires you to have a decent amount of endurance and fair cardiovascular health. Sprinting 50m as fast as you can then taking a 30s break before turning around and doing it again is the best way to work every muscle in your body without having to have endurance and cardio.\n\nSwimming is also excellent, but a field is free, community pools often have some kind of charge to use.\n\nPS: compare a distance runner's body to that of a sprinter. Distance runners are often twiggy and sprinters are often lean and covered in toned muscle.", "/u/paintvein is of great advice here.\r\n\r\nLosing weight is half lifestyle half working out. You cant eat shit even if you spend 80€ a month on gym...\r\n\r\nHardest thing is to stop eating everything sweet, cause the brain is addicted : Sodas, fastfood, sweets, chocolate...\r\nYou'll need a strong mental for that.\r\n\r\nGood luck!", "* Proper diet begins **at the store**. Keep unhealthy items out of your house (or in very limited quantities) to begin with. Don't make it convenient for yourself to eat unhealthy foods.\n\n* Limit eating packaged foods or meals at restaurants. Prepare your meals. This will also save you a lot of money\n\n* Portion control. I've seen it phrased this way before: \"don't eat until you are full, eat until you are no longer hungry\"\n\n* Regarding exercise: don't pick the best workout or the most efficient exercise. Pick an exercise that you enjoy and can make a permanent habit. If you hate running (for example) and make yourself do it, you'll run for a few months and then give up on it after a while\n\n* If you don't have a gym to go to, can't afford one, or just don't enjoy going (see previous point), figure out another way to get exercise into your daily routine. If you have physically active hobbies, make them a bigger part of your life. If you watch a lot of TV/movies or play a lot of video games, using a walking treadmill, exercise bike, or [mini-elliptical](https://www.amazon.com/Stamina-55-1610-InMotion-Elliptical-Trainer/dp/B000VICRO8/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1473171404&sr=8-2&keywords=mini+elliptical) can add exercise to your day without taking any time out of your day. I have lost a lot of weight by turning my /r/battlestations into an exercise station as well.\n\n* Whatever changes you make to lose weight need to be permanent. It doesn't do you much good to lose a bunch of weight only to gain it all back. Don't go *on a diet*, make a permanent change *to your diet*. Same goes for an exercise routine. Slow, but permanent, weight-loss is better than quick weight-loss that you can't keep off." ]

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[ "How to stay more aware? Sometimes I just completely zone out, especially in Social settings and seem to act completely on instinct. It's affecting my social life and I've been losing friendships with people because I act so weird and act so socially unaware because I totally zone out.", "How to stay more aware? Sometimes I just completely zone out, especially in Social settings and seem to act completely on instinct. It's affecting my social life and I've been losing friendships with people because I act so weird and act so socially unaware because I totally zone out.", "How to stay more aware? Sometimes I just completely zone out, especially in Social settings and seem to act completely on instinct. It's affecting my social life and I've been losing friendships with people because I act so weird and act so socially unaware because I totally zone out.", "How to stay more aware? Sometimes I just completely zone out, especially in Social settings and seem to act completely on instinct. It's affecting my social life and I've been losing friendships with people because I act so weird and act so socially unaware because I totally zone out." ]

[ "Well, important question: *why* are you zoning out. Typically we do this when something either makes us anxious, or bored. \"Zoning out\" is something a lot of people with social anxiety disorder do; they're literally 'retreating' into themselves and away from the stress of the situation. \n\n\nIf this is the case, see a therapist. Do it now. They'll give you some sessions, try out a few medications, and chances are it will turn things around for you. I know many high-powered individuals who you would be shocked to realize take SSRIs or other medication for social anxiety. They found it hard to focus in board meetings or other important situations, got on medication, and found their lives got ten times easier. For your own sake, don't waste your life not taking a relatively harmless medication that could make your life so much better for you.\n\n\nOn the other hand, it could be as simple as social situations are boring to you. This happens a lot to me, because I really dislike casual conversations. This is different some social anxiety; the situation doesn't make me anxious, but I find it hard to give my attention to conversations that aren't stimulating. \n\n\nSo figure out, firstly, why this is happening to you. Are there social situations where you *don't* zone out? When talking to a friend about a subject you're very passionate about (if this is something you do), are you zoned out? Or are actually engaged for these conversations? This is a telling indication you simply can't find yourself stimulated by small talk. It is a classic hallmark of an introvert. \n\n\n\nThis is something I personally deal with, and after a long many years have developed methods of dealing with it. I *loathe* small talk. I love people, but I can't keep focused for more than ten seconds on small talk before looking for my phone. This had people think I'm grumpy or giving them the cold shoulder, when in reality its an instinctual reaction where my brain shuts off to stimuli it subconsciously has determined is irrelevant. \n\n\n\nI had an ex who was a classic social butterfly. The woman was amazing. She'd walk into a room and somehow instantly engage with everyone in it. This obviously made social situations difficult for me, the introvert, as we would be at dinner with ten of her friends, and she would effortlessly trade banter and small talk with them, while I would sit and stare, hoping she threw me a que so I could jump in, because I lacked her ability to just instantly engage with a table of strangers I knew very little about.\n\n\n\nHowever, I excel at one-on-one or small gathering conversations about topics I'm passionate about. So, to compensate, when I knew she was going to bring me out to dinner, I'd ask her about everyone who would be there. I made a dossier on them. Their likes, dislikes. What were they *interested* in. Then, at dinner, I could easily say, \"So, Hank, Marie tells me you're literary buff!\" And I could pick off certain dinner guests to have more intimate conversations with, and when conversation faded with one person, I could just wait to pick up the thread with someone else. I'd ask her who had good senses of humor, so I could make some small jokes at their expense, and so on. \n\n\n\nLikewise, for you, figure out who you're going to meet the next day at night before you go to bed. Chances are you have a pretty good idea; you know what friends you'll see, what coworkers will be at work. Draw up a list. I'm not even joking. Figure out what stimulates those people. Where do your interests align. There's very few people on earth you wouldn't have *something* to share with. Maybe they have a hobby you know nothing about, but are interested to learn? Ask them about it! People love to talk about themselves and their hobbies. And this way, you can zone out while letting them talk about their hobby; they'll probably think you're an excellent listener, and you'll have made their day by seeming interested in something they're passionate about. \n\n\nIt takes some work, but if you live in America, we're a gregarious society. Extroversion is the norm; even though introverts are slightly more common, everyone is generally expected to be extroverted. So you just need to learn the tricks of the trade. If small talk isn't your thing, delve right into the heavy stuff. Get passionate, find ways to make the conversation interesting to you.\n", "As someone hypervigilant who can't relax in social situations, I kind of see this state of \"flow\" as being desirable. But not to the point you're not even concentrating obviously. If I'm trying to avoid zoning out, then I'll try to keep looking around at things and noticing things about the environment I hadn't seen before.", "Had this problem for years, solution was being outside more. Hikes in forest, and general physical activity promotes healthy-alert mind for myself. ", "This happens to me when am driving like I would completely zone out for like 15 seconds and would just snap back like how the fuck did I not kill anyone LOL Scary part(I am a new driver). I guess I need to relax more and do some m" ]

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[ " Tips for making a cross country move. I'm going to be moving from Virginia to California in a few months and I could use some tips to minimize expenses during the move. I'm planning on driving my Jeep Cherokee and camping along the way. My car's really not that big though and I'm sure I can't fit all my belongings into it. I looked into POD's but it's way out of my budget.\nAny advice?\n\n", " Tips for making a cross country move. I'm going to be moving from Virginia to California in a few months and I could use some tips to minimize expenses during the move. I'm planning on driving my Jeep Cherokee and camping along the way. My car's really not that big though and I'm sure I can't fit all my belongings into it. I looked into POD's but it's way out of my budget.\nAny advice?\n\n", " Tips for making a cross country move. I'm going to be moving from Virginia to California in a few months and I could use some tips to minimize expenses during the move. I'm planning on driving my Jeep Cherokee and camping along the way. My car's really not that big though and I'm sure I can't fit all my belongings into it. I looked into POD's but it's way out of my budget.\nAny advice?\n\n", " Tips for making a cross country move. I'm going to be moving from Virginia to California in a few months and I could use some tips to minimize expenses during the move. I'm planning on driving my Jeep Cherokee and camping along the way. My car's really not that big though and I'm sure I can't fit all my belongings into it. I looked into POD's but it's way out of my budget.\nAny advice?\n\n", " Tips for making a cross country move. I'm going to be moving from Virginia to California in a few months and I could use some tips to minimize expenses during the move. I'm planning on driving my Jeep Cherokee and camping along the way. My car's really not that big though and I'm sure I can't fit all my belongings into it. I looked into POD's but it's way out of my budget.\nAny advice?\n\n", " Tips for making a cross country move. I'm going to be moving from Virginia to California in a few months and I could use some tips to minimize expenses during the move. I'm planning on driving my Jeep Cherokee and camping along the way. My car's really not that big though and I'm sure I can't fit all my belongings into it. I looked into POD's but it's way out of my budget.\nAny advice?\n\n", " Tips for making a cross country move. I'm going to be moving from Virginia to California in a few months and I could use some tips to minimize expenses during the move. I'm planning on driving my Jeep Cherokee and camping along the way. My car's really not that big though and I'm sure I can't fit all my belongings into it. I looked into POD's but it's way out of my budget.\nAny advice?\n\n", " Tips for making a cross country move. I'm going to be moving from Virginia to California in a few months and I could use some tips to minimize expenses during the move. I'm planning on driving my Jeep Cherokee and camping along the way. My car's really not that big though and I'm sure I can't fit all my belongings into it. I looked into POD's but it's way out of my budget.\nAny advice?\n\n" ]

[ "Space saver bags. You know the ones that you stuff blankets and clothes and vacuum out all of the air? Yeah, get those, unless you need something large to be protected from scratching or whatever then use a quilt to tape in on.", "A long move across the country is a great adventure! There's a lot of options to look at, so let's go down the list. \nYou can store it all in Virginia and come back for it later when you have more money OR pack and move it. If there's a chance you'll return and/or you have a big record/book/rock collection that you can't replace, it might be worth it to store it. On the other hand, if you're young and don't have The Hoarding Gene, it may all be just stuff that can be easily replaced. That's a call you'll have to make, but traveling very light has a lot of advantages, not the least of which is being able to relax and enjoy the trip rather than being on guard against theft the entire way. If everything you own is in a trailer behind you, you're not gonna sleep well. You could get a rooftop pod and lock,but those can be spendy; try craigslist for a used one. If I was doing it, I\"d find a way to ship most of it. \nGo through your stuff and pare down as much as you can. Is your heart really attached to that radio? you can pick up another one at any thrift store for ten bucks. When was the last time you wore that shirt? If you can't remember the last time you used it/wore it/who gave it to you, get rid of it. \nStart making two piles: KEEP and TOSS. Be merciless. If you don't LOVE it, put it in the toss pile. You'll be amazed what you can live without. You've got all those CD's in your ipod, so give the originals to your friends as a going away present. See if you can get the KEEP pile down to a small box or two and a duffel bag full of clothes. Housewares, office supplies and furniture can all be easily and cheaply replaced. Photos, jewlery and things your first-ever-girlfriend gave you are harder to come by. Unless it's really expensive, give away your bed. Buy an inflatable airbed in Cali and sleep on that for a month until you can get a real bed. You will find out who you really are when you live a stripped down life and abandon luxuries you thought you needed. \n If the KEEP pile is still pretty big, consider having shipped by freight truck. Get a quote from a shipping company, take it all down to the terminal, put it on a pallet and shrinkwrap it and pick it up in Cali. The terminal might have the boxes/shrinkwrap available but if they sell it, make sure you're not paying a huge markup for it. Buying boxes from U-haul is expensive! Getting them from the liquor store is free.) Also make sure you put the delivery address on ALL FOUR sides of the pallet in large block letters with your cell phone number. Make sure its insured and for pete's sake, don't sign for it at the pickup terminal until after you've looked at it and inspected it. Take pictures Before and After shipping!! \nThe alternative would be to divide it into smaller boxes and ship via postal service. Don't fall for those \"if it fits it ships\" boxes. They're priority mail and you'll pay a priority price. Go whatever cheapest and if you can fill a box with books/hard drives/cds, you might be able to ship it Media Rate. Its super cheap, but the downsides are that it has to be only media and it can take 2+ weeks to get there. Also, some Post Offices are very strict about what is considered media, and some won't even allow for packing materials. Use your clothes/towels as packing materials for everything. When you run out, use wadded up newspaper. Insure fragile/irreplaceable stuff and take pictures!\nAs far as travelling, you can either meticulously plan your route or just wing it. In either case, stop by triple a and get maps or a road atlas and a premier package. For a hundred bucks, its cheap insurance in case you get two flat tires on the same day or need a tow (which can run into serious money). If you have space, take an extra spare tire and make sure you have a good working jack and lug wrench. If you've never done it, practice changing a tire before you go. A can of Fix-a-Flat is a good idea, too. \nMake two copies of your drivers licence and hardcopy of all your phone numbers/addresses. Carry one in your wallet and one in your sock in case you lose your wallet or get robbed. \n Enjoy the trip. Buy two packages of US stamps and send postcards to friends and family as you head west (and don't agonize over what to say. a scrawled Doing Fine, Miss Ya! is great.) Take a camera and notebook. Once the memory card is filled up, draw in the notebook, it will become more important than the camera and something you will cherish later. The less time you spend on the internet during the trip, the more you'll remember it. Don't drive when you're sleepy. Drink as little coffee as possible; you'll have to stop less for potty breaks. Drink lots of water or gatorade. Change the radio station frequently and try to find a station you don't like; the dislike will keep you alert. Keep track of your gas mileage and check your oil and water in the morning BEFORE you start the car. Do this religiously and you won't ruin your engine by running it out of water. \n Above all, enjoy the experience. Not many people get the chance to drive across the best country in the world. \n ", "http://www.upack.com/\n\nABF freight will drop off a \"pup\" trailer at the time you want. You load it, secure it, call them and tell them pick it up....you pay by the foot so prepare to stack your stuff all the way to the ceiling. It is the cheapest way to move across the US that I know of.", "Re-evaluate your possessions. If you haven't used something in a year, you probably won't miss it next year. Try and eBay what you can, have a yard sale for the stuff you can't eBay, and donate the stuff that didn't sell at the yard sale to the Salvation Army. Often, it's cheaper to sell what you've got and buy another one at the destination instead of trying to move it across the country.", "You could possibly rent a trailer or severely pair down on your belongings. I did a move out west from wisconsin and had to use u-hual pods. We used about 9 and that was pretty expensive (4-5k). Good idea on the camping. Unfortunatly long huals are just destined to be pricey. It is just a one time thing though. Maybe rent a u-hual truck and tow your vehicle?", "Please whatever you do stay away from U-Haul.\n\nThey are as unsafe as you can get and will lie to you to make a sale, your life is only worth the sale of the trailer.\n\nhttp://www.uhaulsafetyalert.org/UHaul_problems.htm\n\nI have personally experienced this, after the almost death of my entire family their lawyer sent me a 2700 dollar check and tried to write it off with \"full and final compensation\" while we were still in litigation.\n\nThey are not safe at any speed.\n\nAs for moving cross country.\n\nGet rid of as much as you can. \nCamp all you want, but enjoy a hotel once in a while, it is nice to air out. \nEat fast food rather than little local diners etc. While you miss the \"local quality\" you also limit the chances of food borne illness. Plus you know exactly what you are getting.\n\nLet people know where you are, tweet or something, at each stop let people know where you are, if you go missing they know your last position and the direction you were heading.\n\nIf you get tired, sleep, do not tey to push, driving while tired will kill you, especially on those nice long cross country highway stretches.\n\nIf you take the northern route then watch out for Medicine Bow national forest, up at the top you get random storms, sometimes freezing rain, be careful, heed the warning and spend an extra day in the hotel.\n\nFinally, you may not do this often, take the time to see some sites, there is so much you will enjoy and so many pictures you can take, be a tourist and have fun with it!", "I'm planning a cross-country move too (Ottawa to Vancouver), my plan is to sell as much as I can, I'll probably temporarily store most my books at my parents' house. After that it might be two duffle bags worth of stuff.", "Hey, I'm moving soon too (but to VA actually!). I looked into UHaul and thought it was too expensive to rent a truck, but if you have a hitch, they rent trailers for like 15$ a day in some places! (Plus a few stupid taxes) But overall it was going to be under 100$ for me to have one for 4 days. Super cheap and a good amount of space, if you have a hitch. Also, shipping things might make it easier, but I'm sure that will be pricey :/ good luck! :) Cali will be great after those VA winters.\n" ]

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[ "what is some dating, career, or general life advice you wish you’d received when you were a young(er) adult? ", "what is some dating, career, or general life advice you wish you’d received when you were a young(er) adult? ", "what is some dating, career, or general life advice you wish you’d received when you were a young(er) adult? ", "what is some dating, career, or general life advice you wish you’d received when you were a young(er) adult? ", "what is some dating, career, or general life advice you wish you’d received when you were a young(er) adult? ", "what is some dating, career, or general life advice you wish you’d received when you were a young(er) adult? ", "what is some dating, career, or general life advice you wish you’d received when you were a young(er) adult? " ]

[ "Put down the technology, look in their eyes, ask questions, listen to answers, be present, be honest. \n\nDating? Career? Life? .... it applies to all of it.", "Being a competent responsible adult is the most difficult challenge you'll face, not being one is even more difficult.", "They will SHOW and TELL you who they are. You NEED to watch and listen. You cannot change a person's core. Decide if you can live with these flaws.", "It’s ok to say no- to friends, to family, in dating, and in life. If you’re not interested, can’t afford or in general not in the mood don’t be afraid to say no and stick to your guns about your decision. \n\nAlso just because you invested X amount of time into a person, relationship, or job does not mean you should continue on if it is detrimental for you physically, emotionally or mentally. Something about the Sunken Cost Theory, regardless of how much time you’ve put in something don’t be afraid to walk away if it’s not beneficial for you.", "Dating: Every first date should be at a coffee shop (or similar venue). This way, you can sit and actually chat with the person and discover a lot in a short timeframe while spending very little cash. The reality is you might really dislike this person 5 minutes into your date, or vice versa, and you'll both be able to end things quickly instead of an awkward and expensive meal/movie etc. On the other hand, if things go well you can continue the date or plan another right then and there. Less pressure for everyone", "This is technically off topic, but here’s a piece of career advice I did receive as a young adult that I still use to this day. \n\nHere’s a good rule of thumb for prioritizing tasks at work:\n1. The customer always comes first. \n2. Complete any time sensitive tasks second.\n3. Third, complete everything else in a logical order.", "Teach your children more than the wifi password. Limit screen time, teach them manners and how to do things around the house so that they may not have to pay to get it done." ]

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[ "Group editing id3 tags. I recently reinstalled iTunes. One thing that frustrates me is that it groups compilations albums as separate artists when in \"Artists\" view. Is there a way to go into the album folder, and ", "Group editing id3 tags. I recently reinstalled iTunes. One thing that frustrates me is that it groups compilations albums as separate artists when in \"Artists\" view. Is there a way to go into the album folder, and ", "Group editing id3 tags. I recently reinstalled iTunes. One thing that frustrates me is that it groups compilations albums as separate artists when in \"Artists\" view. Is there a way to go into the album folder, and " ]

[ "Install MP3tag: www.mp3tag.de\n\nRight click folder, select open with MP3tag.\n\nHighlight all the files you want to ", "I'm a little confused. You can just select multiple songs in iTunes, right-click, choose \"get info\", and then fill in the fields you want to ", "I use a combination of MP3tag, suggested by tecneeq, and ID3-TagIT (http://download.cnet.com/ID3-TagIT/3000-2169_4-10544467.html). Both are amazing!" ]

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[ "What's a better alternative than screaming and corporal punishment (smacking)? I haven't done those things, but I also don't want to do nothing.", "What's a better alternative than screaming and corporal punishment (smacking)? I haven't done those things, but I also don't want to do nothing.", "What's a better alternative than screaming and corporal punishment (smacking)? I haven't done those things, but I also don't want to do nothing.", "What's a better alternative than screaming and corporal punishment (smacking)? I haven't done those things, but I also don't want to do nothing.", "What's a better alternative than screaming and corporal punishment (smacking)? I haven't done those things, but I also don't want to do nothing." ]

[ "You have to be stern and set boundaries. When you say you're going to do something or not do something STICK TO IT.\n\nMaybe provide some examples of what the kids are doing and your response so we can be a little more specific with the advice.", "First, how old is your child? Second, what are they doing to misbehave? More details can help us get an idea of what is going on.\n\nOur daughter responds well to time outs, but sometimes a firm talking to in a stern voice telling her why she should not do something works well by itself. If you need to, remove the child from the situation entirely (put them in another room) so they stop misbehaving or to calm down if they are throwing a tantrum. ", "Sit down with them and discuss what the issue is.\n\nCorporal punishment does a lot worse than you think. There's been studies, but I don't have the links, unfortunately.", "Ban them from using any charger of any kind, boom, they now havr to struggle and use their battery wisely. And if you wanna be \"merciful\" but still have power, let them charge their phone for one minute under your supervision. ", "Ban them from using any charger of any kind, boom, they now havr to struggle and use their battery wisely. And if you wanna be \"merciful\" but still have power, let them charge their phone for one minute under your supervision. " ]

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[ "Creating a time schedule. Hi,\n\nI've been trying hard to make myself a time schedule, and by time schedule I mean specific dates that I must get up, eat breakfast, go to school, exercise, do HW etc..\nAre there any tips I should follow? The reason for this is because my Study and School life is messy I don't know what I'm doing when I'm doing it and how it just happens, I want to be a more organized student. It's my last year in High school.\nI use my iPad as a my to go device so an app recommendation would be nice too.\n\nThanks in advance.", "Creating a time schedule. Hi,\n\nI've been trying hard to make myself a time schedule, and by time schedule I mean specific dates that I must get up, eat breakfast, go to school, exercise, do HW etc..\nAre there any tips I should follow? The reason for this is because my Study and School life is messy I don't know what I'm doing when I'm doing it and how it just happens, I want to be a more organized student. It's my last year in High school.\nI use my iPad as a my to go device so an app recommendation would be nice too.\n\nThanks in advance.", "Creating a time schedule. Hi,\n\nI've been trying hard to make myself a time schedule, and by time schedule I mean specific dates that I must get up, eat breakfast, go to school, exercise, do HW etc..\nAre there any tips I should follow? The reason for this is because my Study and School life is messy I don't know what I'm doing when I'm doing it and how it just happens, I want to be a more organized student. It's my last year in High school.\nI use my iPad as a my to go device so an app recommendation would be nice too.\n\nThanks in advance.", "Creating a time schedule. Hi,\n\nI've been trying hard to make myself a time schedule, and by time schedule I mean specific dates that I must get up, eat breakfast, go to school, exercise, do HW etc..\nAre there any tips I should follow? The reason for this is because my Study and School life is messy I don't know what I'm doing when I'm doing it and how it just happens, I want to be a more organized student. It's my last year in High school.\nI use my iPad as a my to go device so an app recommendation would be nice too.\n\nThanks in advance.", "Creating a time schedule. Hi,\n\nI've been trying hard to make myself a time schedule, and by time schedule I mean specific dates that I must get up, eat breakfast, go to school, exercise, do HW etc..\nAre there any tips I should follow? The reason for this is because my Study and School life is messy I don't know what I'm doing when I'm doing it and how it just happens, I want to be a more organized student. It's my last year in High school.\nI use my iPad as a my to go device so an app recommendation would be nice too.\n\nThanks in advance.", "Creating a time schedule. Hi,\n\nI've been trying hard to make myself a time schedule, and by time schedule I mean specific dates that I must get up, eat breakfast, go to school, exercise, do HW etc..\nAre there any tips I should follow? The reason for this is because my Study and School life is messy I don't know what I'm doing when I'm doing it and how it just happens, I want to be a more organized student. It's my last year in High school.\nI use my iPad as a my to go device so an app recommendation would be nice too.\n\nThanks in advance." ]

[ "Your phone will have an alarm clock; use the repeat alarm function and set it on the same time for each day (excepting sundays - really, don't set your alarm on sundays if you don't have to).\n\nKeep about an hour for waking up, hitting the shower, make yourself presentable (or however much time you need for that) and about half an hour for eating breakfast and just going over the things you will do that day.\n\nMost people who suck at planning start their day with rushing, which really is counter productive; you'll start forgetting things and planning will become messier during the day. That's why the half hour for breakfast and just taking your time to think about your schedule are important. Feel absolutely free to adjust your schedule and timing for that particular day because things just popped up. This is the best time to prepare for those kinds of things and be ready for it.\n\nWhy no alarm on sundays? If you're anything like me you'll crave a non-scheduled day once a week to do whatever you please whenever you please. If you have obligations on sundays, pick another day to not plan. That's recreation. Literally: Re-Creation. You need that time to re-create; to piece yourself together again, because planning is easy, following up on a plan is hard.\n\nExtra tip: I really used to fuck up by wasting a lot of time in the evenings with doing nothing; this led to me not getting up in the morning. Really, take the 8 hours of sleep if you can, because that really is the key to pulling through.\n", "When creating a schedule, it's really important to leave some unscheduled time slots. Something always comes up that you didn't expect, or you get sidetracked, or you misjudge and allocate a two hour job to a one hour slot, and find yourself overrunning.\n\nA nice way to do this is to give yourself 30 minutes of \"free periods\" a couple of times a day- I Usually you can use these to read, reddit, or whatever but if you overrun, you use these periods to finish up.", "One thing I've found over the years is that the time you go to bed and wake up make a huge difference to the rest of your day. My tip would be to go to bed and wake up at the same time every day. This will also give you a standard time to start and end your schedule.", "Timeriffic is a great app for turning your cell phone ringtone between vibrate and loud at set times. You can set the times at which it will automatically switch to vibrate depending on your class schedule. For example, mine was set to switch to vibrate 5 minutes before class started and returned to loud when class ended. You can also do so if you have set study hours.", "I have a BS in Mech Eng and I was a business manager for thirty five years. I was often asked how I managed my time so well. My answer always was that I just did what my Dad told me to do when I asked him this same question. Have a to-do or task list for what to do today, one for tomorrow, one for next week, one for next month, and one for next year,.... Nothing wrong with carrying one over into the next list as long as it doesn't become a tool for procrastination. The lists make up your personal time management organizer. It usually took less than couple minutes to update the lists every day but it always seemed to keep me ahead of the curve. I have been retired for five years but still maintain my task lists, even though some days there are no entries! Win!", "+1 Daily Routine on iOS, and +1 Daily Deeds on iOS.\n\nInstead of setting a schedule, I suggest writing a checklist of the habits you want to foster, and keeping those habits in sequence on the list." ]

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[ "Im 23 and going back to school. How do I make friends when I feel so out of place? So I'm 23 and took two year off school. Now I'm going back, into a new program, but second year courses. Everyone in my classes is about 18-19, and already formed in friend groups. I also live 40 minutes away from school, so I can't really go out with people there. Finally, I have long breaks between classes and don't want to spend another year just hanging out in the library by myself. ", "Im 23 and going back to school. How do I make friends when I feel so out of place? So I'm 23 and took two year off school. Now I'm going back, into a new program, but second year courses. Everyone in my classes is about 18-19, and already formed in friend groups. I also live 40 minutes away from school, so I can't really go out with people there. Finally, I have long breaks between classes and don't want to spend another year just hanging out in the library by myself. ", "Im 23 and going back to school. How do I make friends when I feel so out of place? So I'm 23 and took two year off school. Now I'm going back, into a new program, but second year courses. Everyone in my classes is about 18-19, and already formed in friend groups. I also live 40 minutes away from school, so I can't really go out with people there. Finally, I have long breaks between classes and don't want to spend another year just hanging out in the library by myself. ", "Im 23 and going back to school. How do I make friends when I feel so out of place? So I'm 23 and took two year off school. Now I'm going back, into a new program, but second year courses. Everyone in my classes is about 18-19, and already formed in friend groups. I also live 40 minutes away from school, so I can't really go out with people there. Finally, I have long breaks between classes and don't want to spend another year just hanging out in the library by myself. ", "Im 23 and going back to school. How do I make friends when I feel so out of place? So I'm 23 and took two year off school. Now I'm going back, into a new program, but second year courses. Everyone in my classes is about 18-19, and already formed in friend groups. I also live 40 minutes away from school, so I can't really go out with people there. Finally, I have long breaks between classes and don't want to spend another year just hanging out in the library by myself. ", "Im 23 and going back to school. How do I make friends when I feel so out of place? So I'm 23 and took two year off school. Now I'm going back, into a new program, but second year courses. Everyone in my classes is about 18-19, and already formed in friend groups. I also live 40 minutes away from school, so I can't really go out with people there. Finally, I have long breaks between classes and don't want to spend another year just hanging out in the library by myself. ", "Im 23 and going back to school. How do I make friends when I feel so out of place? So I'm 23 and took two year off school. Now I'm going back, into a new program, but second year courses. Everyone in my classes is about 18-19, and already formed in friend groups. I also live 40 minutes away from school, so I can't really go out with people there. Finally, I have long breaks between classes and don't want to spend another year just hanging out in the library by myself. ", "Im 23 and going back to school. How do I make friends when I feel so out of place? So I'm 23 and took two year off school. Now I'm going back, into a new program, but second year courses. Everyone in my classes is about 18-19, and already formed in friend groups. I also live 40 minutes away from school, so I can't really go out with people there. Finally, I have long breaks between classes and don't want to spend another year just hanging out in the library by myself. " ]

[ "Try joining a club of your interest. Also try not to worry about hanging with people your age. Sometimes you won't know how old someone is until they tell you.", "Unless you look old for 23, you'll visually look the similar age. Don't volunteer your age. I was older in college and most people don't ask how old you are until you become better friends, or a situation arises (i.e. you mention going to a bar). Contact your student union, too. There's typically groups for older students or grad students. ", "The library is a place where people expect to keep to themselves. Do you have anywhere on campus where you can spend your free time? My school has a dining area separate from the dining halls, so freshmen and sophomores with meal plans are a lot less likely to be there than upperclassmen. Not sure how many other schools have something similar, but this is a much more social place to hang out.", "Maybe look into a job on campus that you could do during your long breaks between classes? Often times campus jobs are very accommodating to student schedules. In grad school I got a job at the library, they let me work between classes and a few hours after. I made friends with co-workers (mostly fellow students) and met some professors I would never have classes with but were/are big names in my field.\n\nPS: awesome for you going back to school.", "Let them talk asking questions, then follow up on that even if you are not super interested. Don't try to impress anybody with what you know just because you are a little older. Use the same apps they use.", "I've taught at the college level, as well as taken classes in my 20s. 1) there will likely be other people your age who are returning to college and 2) you're not much older than many of the students - they will likely notice your age if you don't mention it. \n\nAs far as what to do, once class is in swing there will likely be a study area for your department (like usually there are tutors there). You will likely be able to meet some people there without trying to force anything. ", "I went back to school at 23 as well. I first found people in my program who had similar interests then started hanging out with them. The older crowd is good because you feel you'll connect better with them but at the end of the day it's the ones closer to your age that you have the best experiences with. My roommate actually graduated with me and is 4 years younger than I am. Don't be so quick to count out the freshman. ", "At my school the gym is always packed with freshmen lifting almost no weight. If you have a long break you could go in there and just try to talk to people and after a bit you'll be huge. It's a win win" ]

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[ "I need tips on how to take shorter showers I have this really bad habit of taking really long showers. I am often unaware of how quick time flies as I don't have a clock or timer in the bathroom. Any tips on how I can take shorter showers?", "I need tips on how to take shorter showers I have this really bad habit of taking really long showers. I am often unaware of how quick time flies as I don't have a clock or timer in the bathroom. Any tips on how I can take shorter showers?", "I need tips on how to take shorter showers I have this really bad habit of taking really long showers. I am often unaware of how quick time flies as I don't have a clock or timer in the bathroom. Any tips on how I can take shorter showers?", "I need tips on how to take shorter showers I have this really bad habit of taking really long showers. I am often unaware of how quick time flies as I don't have a clock or timer in the bathroom. Any tips on how I can take shorter showers?", "I need tips on how to take shorter showers I have this really bad habit of taking really long showers. I am often unaware of how quick time flies as I don't have a clock or timer in the bathroom. Any tips on how I can take shorter showers?", "I need tips on how to take shorter showers I have this really bad habit of taking really long showers. I am often unaware of how quick time flies as I don't have a clock or timer in the bathroom. Any tips on how I can take shorter showers?", "I need tips on how to take shorter showers I have this really bad habit of taking really long showers. I am often unaware of how quick time flies as I don't have a clock or timer in the bathroom. Any tips on how I can take shorter showers?", "I need tips on how to take shorter showers I have this really bad habit of taking really long showers. I am often unaware of how quick time flies as I don't have a clock or timer in the bathroom. Any tips on how I can take shorter showers?", "I need tips on how to take shorter showers I have this really bad habit of taking really long showers. I am often unaware of how quick time flies as I don't have a clock or timer in the bathroom. Any tips on how I can take shorter showers?", "I need tips on how to take shorter showers I have this really bad habit of taking really long showers. I am often unaware of how quick time flies as I don't have a clock or timer in the bathroom. Any tips on how I can take shorter showers?", "I need tips on how to take shorter showers I have this really bad habit of taking really long showers. I am often unaware of how quick time flies as I don't have a clock or timer in the bathroom. Any tips on how I can take shorter showers?" ]

[ "This might sound like a terrible suggestion, but try taking a cold shower. It's really not that bad after a few seconds, and it's an interesting experience.", "this is what I do.\n-Prewarm the water (so I'm not standing in there letting time pass while it warms up)\n-Immediately get wet head to toe\n-Immediately wash hair and rinse\n-Immediately soap all body parts, including face, and rinse\n-Shut off shower.\n\nMy showers take under 3 minutes. A person only has so much body to wash, if you waste time just standing around you are wasting time and water. Its as much a mental game as anything else, but if you note I said \"Immediately\" for everything. doing it back to back to back gets you out quick, no dawdling", "You had the answer in your post. Put a timer in tbe bathroom for whatever you think is a reasonable amount of time. Maybe a cheap egg timer from the dollar store or just use your phone. ", "Shampoo first, then rinse. Then conditioner. While the conditioner is on your hair that's when you wash your body. When you're done, rinse out the conditioner. Then you're done with your shower.\n\nBut maybe you need to make other time for yourself - are you spending more time in there because you are thinking about things? If you come up with anything good post to /r/showerthoughts", "I feel like you should give us more info on your showering procedures. Then we can give better advice. ", "Here’s what I do. When I’m in the shower and washing my hair, I rinse, lather and washing the shampoo out. I avoid repeating. Again, DO NOT REPEAT. Once that’s complete I use the same principle when washing my body. I rinse, lather and wash the body wash off. DO NOT REPEAT!! ", "take \"military showers\"\n\nsoak yourself, turn water off and soap up head to toe\n\nTurn water back on, soak / rinse \n\nTurn shower off", "Take a long hot bath 8-10 hours before you'd normally take a shower. As long as you're not sleeping in filth, you'll be good to go the next day.", "I’ll soap up my hair. While that’s sitting for a sec I’ll lather up my body head to toe. Finally, I scrub my face with face wash and do a complete rinse. ", "Get wet, turn the water off. Wash yourself with the water off. Turn it back on to rinse. I do this because well it saves water. But keeps your shower short. ", "Buy a cheap watch on ebay for about 8$ and put it close to where you are showering and check the time during your shower. I like to shower 18-20 min and I checkn he time" ]

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[ "How to prepare fridge for power outage? Hey guys,\n\n\nI have a scheduled power outage this coming Monday from 8.30am to 4pm (7.5 hours). This is my first since moving in, so I'm not quite sure how stringent they are (starting/finishing late/early).\n\n\nWith a fridge and freezer full of food, how should I prepare to altogether avoid food spoilage?\n\n\nThank you", "How to prepare fridge for power outage? Hey guys,\n\n\nI have a scheduled power outage this coming Monday from 8.30am to 4pm (7.5 hours). This is my first since moving in, so I'm not quite sure how stringent they are (starting/finishing late/early).\n\n\nWith a fridge and freezer full of food, how should I prepare to altogether avoid food spoilage?\n\n\nThank you", "How to prepare fridge for power outage? Hey guys,\n\n\nI have a scheduled power outage this coming Monday from 8.30am to 4pm (7.5 hours). This is my first since moving in, so I'm not quite sure how stringent they are (starting/finishing late/early).\n\n\nWith a fridge and freezer full of food, how should I prepare to altogether avoid food spoilage?\n\n\nThank you" ]

[ "I'd freeze or use any meats or anything easily spoilable. Then fill the empty space in your freezer with frozen water jugs or ziplocs with ice. The more packed in, the better. Dry ice is an option, but you need to use a lot of caution with it. Also, keep the doors of the fridge closed.", "Freeze a bunch of containers of water beforehand, 2 litre pop bottles work well for this. Set up a picnic cooler with ice and put the things you will be using that day in it so you don't have to open your fridge and freezer. You could also pick up some dry ice and put it in the freezer for a bit of added insurance. ", "Also a small tip: don't open the fridge. Or at least minimize it as much as possible. The less it is open, the more the cold stays in." ]

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[ "How to not appear condescending when making explanations? Sometimes I get the impression that people are ill-informed on matters, I try to share those informations with them. But whenever I do so, I come off as condescending and my message is lost.\n\nI understand not everyone wants to hear one's two cents but how do I inform people and not come off as such?", "How to not appear condescending when making explanations? Sometimes I get the impression that people are ill-informed on matters, I try to share those informations with them. But whenever I do so, I come off as condescending and my message is lost.\n\nI understand not everyone wants to hear one's two cents but how do I inform people and not come off as such?", "How to not appear condescending when making explanations? Sometimes I get the impression that people are ill-informed on matters, I try to share those informations with them. But whenever I do so, I come off as condescending and my message is lost.\n\nI understand not everyone wants to hear one's two cents but how do I inform people and not come off as such?", "How to not appear condescending when making explanations? Sometimes I get the impression that people are ill-informed on matters, I try to share those informations with them. But whenever I do so, I come off as condescending and my message is lost.\n\nI understand not everyone wants to hear one's two cents but how do I inform people and not come off as such?", "How to not appear condescending when making explanations? Sometimes I get the impression that people are ill-informed on matters, I try to share those informations with them. But whenever I do so, I come off as condescending and my message is lost.\n\nI understand not everyone wants to hear one's two cents but how do I inform people and not come off as such?", "How to not appear condescending when making explanations? Sometimes I get the impression that people are ill-informed on matters, I try to share those informations with them. But whenever I do so, I come off as condescending and my message is lost.\n\nI understand not everyone wants to hear one's two cents but how do I inform people and not come off as such?", "How to not appear condescending when making explanations? Sometimes I get the impression that people are ill-informed on matters, I try to share those informations with them. But whenever I do so, I come off as condescending and my message is lost.\n\nI understand not everyone wants to hear one's two cents but how do I inform people and not come off as such?", "How to not appear condescending when making explanations? Sometimes I get the impression that people are ill-informed on matters, I try to share those informations with them. But whenever I do so, I come off as condescending and my message is lost.\n\nI understand not everyone wants to hear one's two cents but how do I inform people and not come off as such?", "How to not appear condescending when making explanations? Sometimes I get the impression that people are ill-informed on matters, I try to share those informations with them. But whenever I do so, I come off as condescending and my message is lost.\n\nI understand not everyone wants to hear one's two cents but how do I inform people and not come off as such?", "How to not appear condescending when making explanations? Sometimes I get the impression that people are ill-informed on matters, I try to share those informations with them. But whenever I do so, I come off as condescending and my message is lost.\n\nI understand not everyone wants to hear one's two cents but how do I inform people and not come off as such?" ]

[ "Depends on the audience. If it's one on one and they seem genuinely interested then make no assumptions and be encouraging. If it's a group and they've had a beer they probably don't give a fuck so don't waste the energy.", "Overall, think of it like trimming meat: marbling is fine, but the big lump of fat on the side/top can generally go. Identify the specific area where they *require* correction, as people do not generally appreciate being corrected on the whole (which is where it gets condescending on your part). If you can't identify one specific area (the metaphorical lumpy bit of fat on the side) that a correction is required, then you don't actually need to make commentary: they either have a sufficient amount of knowledge (the meat is lean and does not require trimming) that they'll figure it out on their own, or will ask for help when they can't; or they simply lack the required knowledge (meat is marbled and trying to cut all the fat out will ruin the meal, so to speak) to do the task and will ask you to do it for them if they suspect you know what you're on about.\n\nFor general purposes, human beings are disastrously stubborn as a species, so until we convince *ourselves* we're wrong, we'll usually get pretty belligerent if someone tries to convince us against our will. It's often better when you're both on otherwise equal footing to simply let them do whatever they're doing wrong until they get fed up with it or figure it out. \n\nFor closer and/or work associations, tact is ideal, as you want the person to know \"hey, this is an area in which I have some training/foreknowledge and I can help if you need it.\" Any sort of relationship where you can be regarded as a senior/mentor is inherently more welcoming of ad hoc instruction when something is not working out or a fellow needs a clue they were obviously missing prior to making a final decision. Know your audience, of course, but at this level, leaving the person alone in most cases will result in them getting snappy about your *not* helping. Again, target the advice, and try to avoid over-extending into a lecture.\n\nFor management/engineering/legal purposes, however, you can't fiscally afford for people to be wrong. Hurt their feelings, sort them out, and get them trained properly. If they don't want to sit through a full-length or targeted lecture, they need to be doing the job correctly in the first place. Source: older sibling works in power industry on control systems; you do not mess around or bullshit your way through a multibillion dollar project. You either do it right or you cost your site $10-20m a day that the plant is down... more depending on service area. Also generally applies to HR and OSHA areas.\n\nUltimately, the best thing is to train yourself to can the rest of the lecture and only address the specific issue(s). This has the distinct advantage that if they don't actually know the topic, they'll have you backtrack on their own until they get it, as a lot of folks are also indoctrinated into a \"fake it 'til you make it\" mentality, and want to maintain the facade until it is obvious (to them) that you are one of the people who is not faking it and can actually call them on the bullshit. The student listens better when they're the one asking the questions.", "My partner often comes off condescending when explaining or informing. I told him to ask questions and don't make assumptions. Invite them into learning about the topic instead of forcing/throwing info at them. \n\nFrom the other side, often times what is to be shared is great info just some people are too insecure to admit they truly \"don't know\" or \"understand\". So invite them in! \n\nThen you can say fuck em if they throw shade.\n\nGL!", "First, be extremely self-conscious about the limits of your own knowledge and how confident you can/should be about said knowledge. For example, if you're talking about some piece of current events, be aware that the ACTUAL FACTS of the issue are most often unknown to you directly (i.e. you read them in the newspaper). So it's helpful to preface your statements with \"I read in the Peoria Standard yesterday that...\" or \"I read in the paper this morning that...\". When you are voicing your OPINION of the issue, you can be more forceful, but still you should be aware and make clear that what you are saying is your opinion, not fact. People who voice their opinion as fact without context come across as boorish, combative, and/or stuck-up.\n\nSecond, the force and immediacy of your language should track with the context and content of your conversation. For example, if someone's immediate safety is at risk, being as direct as possible is appropriate. If no one is going to be personally affected by the outcome of your discussion, it's okay to couch your ideas in language that highlights your uncertainty about an issue rather than your certainty.\n\nI'm not sure if that helps you, but if you give an example, perhaps I can make it more clear. \n\n", "First separate the issues, your desire to teach wont necessarily result in their desire to learn or listen. One of the hardest skills I had to learn was to not automatically correct people all the time. if its someone im comfortable with I will, cause I know if they will listen or not. but with a new acquaintance I will take it easy. \n\nSecond if you aboslutly must correct everyone all the time(an annoying trait in a person so you should work on that) then the best way is to ask guiding questions. So rather then say \"Gravity is real, they proved it blah blah blah\" you could say, \"well how do you think an apple falls to the ground from a tree?\" This makes you seem like a good listener. When they answer questions wrong or don't get it, you reform the question until they arrive at the answer. This will make them more interested and is actually more convincing, because people are more likely to believe their own ideas. Just try not to be to obvious or patronizing with your questions.", "In some situations you can ask \"Did I explain that clearly enough\" instead of \"Did you understand that\".", "I do this often too. But more often when I talk to peers about work. Even coming from the same background I'll try to explain to them how I got my current job. Etc. \nlater my bf will tell me that I came off as condescending. Asshat never stops me from my rant. ", "Another option is to assume they have knowledge about the thing you're talking about. 'So you probably read xxx, then-' which gives them the option to say yes or no, and establishes a baseline of shared knowledge. Although this might be intimidating and could cause less informed people to lie about what information they have to look smarter, but that's they're right. \n\nANOTHER BETTER OPTION THAT I JUST CAME UP WITH :: Start the conversation with an article or book or theory related to to the topic that YOU don't know very well, and admit your lack of understanding, asking for their help. Then you get to model the very behavior that less-informed people should be using all the time. And then you get to learn together. Eh? Pretty good huh? LPT. Boom.", "You think people are ill-informed on matters...so you believe you are more informed than others. This itself is extremely condescending and you need to end this thought process. People are not below you because you think you know more, they are at different stages of their own lives. If you understand people don't want to hear your two cents then respect them enough to stop. Otherwise they will not respect your opinions and yes- opinions.", "Explain away, don't give a fuck, if he they think you're condescending then it means they're ignorant and still stupid. You win for being informed." ]

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[ "How to re-attach felt lettering to polyester soccer jersey? I bought an old soccer jersey from 1990, 100% polyester. The sponsor lettering on the front seems to be made of felt but it is peeling off a bit. This is the jersey: http://i61.tinypic.com/2qwdlif.jpg\n\nJust ironing it hasn't helped and I heard about fabric glues/ fabric tapes but I have no idea if they would work on this &amp; I am worried about possible discolouration. I really would appreciate some advice on this- it is a rare shirt and I wouldn't be able to buy a replacement if it got messed up. Thanks.", "How to re-attach felt lettering to polyester soccer jersey? I bought an old soccer jersey from 1990, 100% polyester. The sponsor lettering on the front seems to be made of felt but it is peeling off a bit. This is the jersey: http://i61.tinypic.com/2qwdlif.jpg\n\nJust ironing it hasn't helped and I heard about fabric glues/ fabric tapes but I have no idea if they would work on this &amp; I am worried about possible discolouration. I really would appreciate some advice on this- it is a rare shirt and I wouldn't be able to buy a replacement if it got messed up. Thanks." ]

[ "Take it to someone who does embroidery. They can outline all the letters with an embroidery stitch, and they'll back it with a strong fabric if requested. This should help them stay on and would look really nice with the right color thread. It might not be the cheapest but will be the best way to preserve the lettering and keep it looking nice if it's special to you. Good luck! :)", "Do a test on a hidden area, but latex adhesive (copydex and the like) is great for non-similar fabrics. Apply thinly to both surfaces, enough to wet the surface and get into the fabric, but not a pool of the stuff. Let it dry out as the ammonia evaporates, it goes from white to transparent. Then press the surfaces strongly together. Really good bond, washing machine proof." ]

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[ "How do I get 'gel' stains out of my clothes? So I've had these shorts for a while, and after some time I started noticing these [odd stains](http://imgur.com/fCsjaki) appearing on the surface. I Have tried washing, rinsing with cold water, using dish soap, wipes, and hand sanitizer, but none of the methods seemed to work, and the stains are very unattractive and resemble something quite disgusting. \n\nI eventually found the source of the stains to be [this hairbrush](http://imgur.com/JLLl3QF). Apparently when you squeezed the grip too hard some kind of [gel-like substance](http://imgur.com/bRu5Mov) would ooze out and drip onto the clothing, causing these un-washable stains. These are one of my favorite pairs of shorts and I cannot return them, can anyone help me with this problem? (Sorry in advance for picture resolution, taken from phone). ", "How do I get 'gel' stains out of my clothes? So I've had these shorts for a while, and after some time I started noticing these [odd stains](http://imgur.com/fCsjaki) appearing on the surface. I Have tried washing, rinsing with cold water, using dish soap, wipes, and hand sanitizer, but none of the methods seemed to work, and the stains are very unattractive and resemble something quite disgusting. \n\nI eventually found the source of the stains to be [this hairbrush](http://imgur.com/JLLl3QF). Apparently when you squeezed the grip too hard some kind of [gel-like substance](http://imgur.com/bRu5Mov) would ooze out and drip onto the clothing, causing these un-washable stains. These are one of my favorite pairs of shorts and I cannot return them, can anyone help me with this problem? (Sorry in advance for picture resolution, taken from phone). ", "How do I get 'gel' stains out of my clothes? So I've had these shorts for a while, and after some time I started noticing these [odd stains](http://imgur.com/fCsjaki) appearing on the surface. I Have tried washing, rinsing with cold water, using dish soap, wipes, and hand sanitizer, but none of the methods seemed to work, and the stains are very unattractive and resemble something quite disgusting. \n\nI eventually found the source of the stains to be [this hairbrush](http://imgur.com/JLLl3QF). Apparently when you squeezed the grip too hard some kind of [gel-like substance](http://imgur.com/bRu5Mov) would ooze out and drip onto the clothing, causing these un-washable stains. These are one of my favorite pairs of shorts and I cannot return them, can anyone help me with this problem? (Sorry in advance for picture resolution, taken from phone). ", "How do I get 'gel' stains out of my clothes? So I've had these shorts for a while, and after some time I started noticing these [odd stains](http://imgur.com/fCsjaki) appearing on the surface. I Have tried washing, rinsing with cold water, using dish soap, wipes, and hand sanitizer, but none of the methods seemed to work, and the stains are very unattractive and resemble something quite disgusting. \n\nI eventually found the source of the stains to be [this hairbrush](http://imgur.com/JLLl3QF). Apparently when you squeezed the grip too hard some kind of [gel-like substance](http://imgur.com/bRu5Mov) would ooze out and drip onto the clothing, causing these un-washable stains. These are one of my favorite pairs of shorts and I cannot return them, can anyone help me with this problem? (Sorry in advance for picture resolution, taken from phone). ", "How do I get 'gel' stains out of my clothes? So I've had these shorts for a while, and after some time I started noticing these [odd stains](http://imgur.com/fCsjaki) appearing on the surface. I Have tried washing, rinsing with cold water, using dish soap, wipes, and hand sanitizer, but none of the methods seemed to work, and the stains are very unattractive and resemble something quite disgusting. \n\nI eventually found the source of the stains to be [this hairbrush](http://imgur.com/JLLl3QF). Apparently when you squeezed the grip too hard some kind of [gel-like substance](http://imgur.com/bRu5Mov) would ooze out and drip onto the clothing, causing these un-washable stains. These are one of my favorite pairs of shorts and I cannot return them, can anyone help me with this problem? (Sorry in advance for picture resolution, taken from phone). ", "How do I get 'gel' stains out of my clothes? So I've had these shorts for a while, and after some time I started noticing these [odd stains](http://imgur.com/fCsjaki) appearing on the surface. I Have tried washing, rinsing with cold water, using dish soap, wipes, and hand sanitizer, but none of the methods seemed to work, and the stains are very unattractive and resemble something quite disgusting. \n\nI eventually found the source of the stains to be [this hairbrush](http://imgur.com/JLLl3QF). Apparently when you squeezed the grip too hard some kind of [gel-like substance](http://imgur.com/bRu5Mov) would ooze out and drip onto the clothing, causing these un-washable stains. These are one of my favorite pairs of shorts and I cannot return them, can anyone help me with this problem? (Sorry in advance for picture resolution, taken from phone). " ]

[ "The hair brush contains a silicone gel for a soft, squishy grip. It looks like the stain is set. My Google-Fu found a variety of cleaning methods for silicone and I even ventured into condomdepot.com that tells how to clean lube stains.\n\nThe common denominator is a solvent like Greased Lightning, Goo-Gone, or other Xylene based cleaners, and soaking. [One link](http://www.ehow.com/how_6452671_remove-silicone-stains.html) says to reapply the silicone to the stain to \"reactivate\" it, then mix equal parts dish soap and solvent, then treat the whole new stain. ", "If it is silicon-based, rubbing alcohol might help. I suggest this based on the fact that rubbing alcohol saved my kid's ass when it got (silicone-based) Silly Putty out of my living room carpet. ", "I have the exact same situation with the exact goddamn same hairbrush. My straightener melted the handle and now I've ruined all the shirts and pants that were packed with it.", "I got the gel all over my clothes. If anyone has any idea what to do, please let me know. This is an old post but it's the only place I found any discussion regarding the silicone squirting all over my pants.", "Got a brush like that once, saw the nastiness. I held a hair dryer over the handle till all the gel stuff melted away, haha.", "Came here to say that I feel your pain!\nI used to have a brush like that and I used to have that same problem with the stains...\n\nWish I knew, I just ended up trashing all my clothes that had them :/" ]

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[ "Please help my new curtains STINK. I do Airbnb and I bought brand new block out curtains for the room.\n\nI noticed they smelt awful straight away so I washed them all in the machine with biological detergent.\n\nNo joy.\n\nThey have been hung for at least a month and they still REEK.\n\nI have sprayed them with white vinegar, febreeze and Glen 20 (which is supposed to kill germs)\n\nWTF else can I do?\n\nThey still smell as bad as the very first day and they cost me $500. \n\nThis is a nightmare, please help.\n\n", "Please help my new curtains STINK. I do Airbnb and I bought brand new block out curtains for the room.\n\nI noticed they smelt awful straight away so I washed them all in the machine with biological detergent.\n\nNo joy.\n\nThey have been hung for at least a month and they still REEK.\n\nI have sprayed them with white vinegar, febreeze and Glen 20 (which is supposed to kill germs)\n\nWTF else can I do?\n\nThey still smell as bad as the very first day and they cost me $500. \n\nThis is a nightmare, please help.\n\n", "Please help my new curtains STINK. I do Airbnb and I bought brand new block out curtains for the room.\n\nI noticed they smelt awful straight away so I washed them all in the machine with biological detergent.\n\nNo joy.\n\nThey have been hung for at least a month and they still REEK.\n\nI have sprayed them with white vinegar, febreeze and Glen 20 (which is supposed to kill germs)\n\nWTF else can I do?\n\nThey still smell as bad as the very first day and they cost me $500. \n\nThis is a nightmare, please help.\n\n" ]

[ "When I first read the link and clicked on it, before I read your story, I was just going to suggest you fart on them a lot.", "Leave them in the sun. The uv rays will get rid off bacteria also good for pillows and doonas. Makes them all fluffy and new feeling again. \n\n", "Try washing them a few times with a cup or two of Borax in the water. I used to use it with cloth diapers and they came out odor-free.\n\nAlso, if possible, hang the curtains out in the sun to dry. " ]

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[ "What financial measures to take as a teenager to to prepare for a secure future. My parents moved to the states and don't know much about how to prepare for a secure future here in the US, any advice? ", "What financial measures to take as a teenager to to prepare for a secure future. My parents moved to the states and don't know much about how to prepare for a secure future here in the US, any advice? ", "What financial measures to take as a teenager to to prepare for a secure future. My parents moved to the states and don't know much about how to prepare for a secure future here in the US, any advice? ", "What financial measures to take as a teenager to to prepare for a secure future. My parents moved to the states and don't know much about how to prepare for a secure future here in the US, any advice? ", "What financial measures to take as a teenager to to prepare for a secure future. My parents moved to the states and don't know much about how to prepare for a secure future here in the US, any advice? ", "What financial measures to take as a teenager to to prepare for a secure future. My parents moved to the states and don't know much about how to prepare for a secure future here in the US, any advice? ", "What financial measures to take as a teenager to to prepare for a secure future. My parents moved to the states and don't know much about how to prepare for a secure future here in the US, any advice? ", "What financial measures to take as a teenager to to prepare for a secure future. My parents moved to the states and don't know much about how to prepare for a secure future here in the US, any advice? ", "What financial measures to take as a teenager to to prepare for a secure future. My parents moved to the states and don't know much about how to prepare for a secure future here in the US, any advice? " ]

[ "The same as anywhere else. Never spend more than 90% of what you make and save the other 10%. In time, that will ensure the security. \n\nForm that one habit, and you will be fine. Unfortunately it is a unpleasant habit, and more unpleasant the closer to poverty you are, but like all habits once acquired it will be easier to do, than not do. \n\nThat is the secret, I think, to live. Habits. We are merely animals, and like all animals we can be trained. The only difference with us is we are both the trainer, and trainee. I heard it once said that you will either consciously form good habits, or you will unconsciously form bad ones. \n\nSadly most of us chose the later, and by the time we want to change for whatever reason, we now have 10,20,30 or more years of a habit to break, which is insanely hard. \n", "Get a job as soon as you can. I don't care what it is, what you have to do to get it, get a job and save up the money. If you plan on going to college the couple thousand won't do shit for tuition but it does allow you to pay for food, and small stuff on your own.", "Start saving young, it's called compound interest. You get interest paid on a regular basis, and after that you get interest on that interest payment. Starting early, even with small amounts, gives you more time to gain interest on your interest (and more interest to gain interest on). Also, if your company offers to match contributions - that's free money.\n\nHere's a simple chart that shows the difference between starting at ages 25 and 35 investing 5k per year. The longer you wait, the more you have to play catchup.\n\nhttps://guidance.fidelity.com/static/dcle/Guidance/images/SO_infographic-invest-early.GIF", "A little late, but I think everyone should develop some skill during their teenage years, like mechanic, programmer, or even basic construction, carpentry, gardening, farming etc.\n\nThat kind of thing makes college seem like a breeze because you already know what real toil feels like, it may help you understand what you want to do later in life for a career, and it's a sort of back-up skill you can rely on if you need a job during college or you can't find a place to work in your chosen field after college. ", "When I was about 18 or 19, I bought a CD from my insurance company with some money I knew that I could part with. I was unable to touch it for 5 years, so the impulses to use the money on something were quickly muted. When it came time to renew or cash in the deposit, the money wasn't even really missed due to the long period. \n\nCDs may not be for everybody, though. Try paying for everything in green cash; I've found out that it's much harder to part with tangible currency when compared to a card or check.", "Read [Your Money or Your Life](http://books.google.ca/books/about/Your_Money_Or_Your_Life.html?id=AxxD2jUMB0MC&redir_esc=y). ", "On top of all the other great advice here:\n\nIf you're thinking about college/uni, consider how much it is going to cost and who will be fronting the money (your parents? loans?). Work a plan to start saving now. Find summer jobs that will help reduce/negate that. Consider the costs & benefits of the price of schools you wind up considering.\n\nThis builds on other skills listed in here: good work ethic; saving up; thinking about debt; planning for the future.", "Never buy things on cr", "If you have a job, get a 401k ASAP, the earlier you start the more money you'll have when you retire due to the miracle that is compound interest, it's something you don't really have to think about and it's comforting to know that it'll be there when you're 65" ]

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[ "How to start a conversation with strangers as someone who isn´t the most extrovert, this is quite hard for me. how can you start a conversation with a group of strangers who you just met, say at a festival?", "How to start a conversation with strangers as someone who isn´t the most extrovert, this is quite hard for me. how can you start a conversation with a group of strangers who you just met, say at a festival?", "How to start a conversation with strangers as someone who isn´t the most extrovert, this is quite hard for me. how can you start a conversation with a group of strangers who you just met, say at a festival?", "How to start a conversation with strangers as someone who isn´t the most extrovert, this is quite hard for me. how can you start a conversation with a group of strangers who you just met, say at a festival?", "How to start a conversation with strangers as someone who isn´t the most extrovert, this is quite hard for me. how can you start a conversation with a group of strangers who you just met, say at a festival?", "How to start a conversation with strangers as someone who isn´t the most extrovert, this is quite hard for me. how can you start a conversation with a group of strangers who you just met, say at a festival?", "How to start a conversation with strangers as someone who isn´t the most extrovert, this is quite hard for me. how can you start a conversation with a group of strangers who you just met, say at a festival?", "How to start a conversation with strangers as someone who isn´t the most extrovert, this is quite hard for me. how can you start a conversation with a group of strangers who you just met, say at a festival?", "How to start a conversation with strangers as someone who isn´t the most extrovert, this is quite hard for me. how can you start a conversation with a group of strangers who you just met, say at a festival?" ]

[ "Whenever you meet a new person talk to them like you have always known them. Be comfortable open and relaxed. It will make them feel the same way toward you.", "Hello......\n\nmaybe even a Hi ?\n\nIMO start with a compliment, \"hey dude, nice shirt!\" \"wheres that accent from?\" ", "Start with simple statement they can agree to. Examples might be about the weather, that it is finally Friday afternoon, that you really like this music. Short and simple, with no demand for a reply. If they want to talk, they will offer a similar thought. You go very slow at first with no neediness that might make them uneasy. ", "When you talk to strangers, remember this. If you hit it off with them, you'll get to see them any time you want! If you don't like them/do something stupid, you never have to see them again. So in the end, you can only gain something", "After the usual, \"How's it going,\" bring up some type of common ground. I'm a guy, so I know other guys will know about recent games or sporting events 90% of the time. Even if they don't, they can usually say, \"Actually, I don't follow baseball, I'm more into basketball.\" Then, you can talk about that. Once you've talked about that for a while, it's easy to switch to something a little more personal. \nAlso, an easy opener right now is, \"have you been watching the olympics?\"", "something that really worked for me is watching comedians a lot\ni've watched a lot of kevin gabriel iglesias etc. it has really helped me with small talk\nthey have such a good skill in talking you'll pick up from it", "When I meet a new dude (or sometimes dudette) for the first time, I usually say something about having gas or taking a poop right off the bat. It may seem a bit childish but after you can laugh for a few seconds then there's no barriers and any shyness on both parties is gone.", "Just walk up and say something. Anything. Festivals are for people to socialize. You can go to a city and approach random strangers. Say 2 sentences, elicit a response, then move on. Do that 100 times a day for 3 days and you won't have any fear. Just say stupid things like \"hey, that sign is blue. Isn't that odd?\"\n\nIt works for most people. At first it is scary. But in a city, in public, you are almost completely safe. Barring some psycho or something unpredictable", "Buy a camera and a flash and become and event photographer - especially a party one. The camera gives you a massive front and somewhat a protection from others and you can have lots of small and quick little chats with people and when you get too shy or nervous you can move on when you want as you have others to photograph. It's a great exit tool for when you become nervous and whatnot and is also a great starter when you get a dash of confidence as you can compliment people on how they look or they'll want to see the photo after you take it and you have a valid reason to get names other than starting a conversation. \n\nBut if you're too shy to even do that I'd say try and start with meeting friends of friends where your friend has given you some info on them beforehand so you know good topics to talk about. That will help build confidence. " ]

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[ "How to protect/ repair leather furniture from cats Fiancé just won a sweet new leather recliner, it's so awesome. Problem is we have 2 cats, and after a week I've already noticed a few marks. Is there a product anyone would recommend to keep the cats away? Also to repair the damage done if possible?", "How to protect/ repair leather furniture from cats Fiancé just won a sweet new leather recliner, it's so awesome. Problem is we have 2 cats, and after a week I've already noticed a few marks. Is there a product anyone would recommend to keep the cats away? Also to repair the damage done if possible?", "How to protect/ repair leather furniture from cats Fiancé just won a sweet new leather recliner, it's so awesome. Problem is we have 2 cats, and after a week I've already noticed a few marks. Is there a product anyone would recommend to keep the cats away? Also to repair the damage done if possible?" ]

[ "Put a scratching post near the recliner. I had the same problem with my cat and that took care of it. ", "I did something pretty elaborate: I went to ikea and bought a cheap quilt -it's fairly heavy duty fabric. I watched a YouTube video on how to put grommets in fabric, and I bought what I needed. I took the cushions off and dug down with my fingers until I could feel the wood frame. I screwed some eye-hooks into the wood frame. I use plastic zip ties to attach the the blanket to the eye-hooks, through the grommets. Put the cushions back on, and the blanket comes out between the cushions behind your back and under your butt, and covers the chair. Now you have a cat-proof blanket that won't slide off the leather chair!\nAlso, for the arms, I got a long runner rug/bath rug thing with a rubberized back from ikea. I cut it to fit over the arms and go all the way to the back of the chair, under the back cushions. It stays by itself because of the backing.\nIt was a lot of work, but I really wanted to by the sofa, and it was starting to get trashed by our 3 cats. I hope this helps!", "There are little claw caps you can buy to put over your cats claws so they can't scratch things up.\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Soft-Nail-Control-Adhesive-Light/dp/B00CHGV0MW/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1465088763&sr=8-2&keywords=cat+claws+caps" ]

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[ "How do i stop myself from ruining the mood for everyone? depression hit me towards fall of 2020 and it seems to be coming off as me being in a bad mood all the time. as much as i try to hold back, i feel like people can tell im not being genuine when im smiling or asking about them, and im constantly on edge and irritable. \n\nim trying to be more social in an attempt to \"snap out of it\" by hanging out with friends more and ive joined a drama class but im. so. fucking. snippy. and even when i dont say anything, i think it shows in my face that im annoyed.\n\nits funny cause i never used to be that way? i used to be always positive and light and what people would describe as funny but i dont remember how to be that way again and everytime i try to fake it, it comes off as really not genuine, and it feels not genuine, and i can tell people really dislike me for it. \n\nare there any social tips you have?", "How do i stop myself from ruining the mood for everyone? depression hit me towards fall of 2020 and it seems to be coming off as me being in a bad mood all the time. as much as i try to hold back, i feel like people can tell im not being genuine when im smiling or asking about them, and im constantly on edge and irritable. \n\nim trying to be more social in an attempt to \"snap out of it\" by hanging out with friends more and ive joined a drama class but im. so. fucking. snippy. and even when i dont say anything, i think it shows in my face that im annoyed.\n\nits funny cause i never used to be that way? i used to be always positive and light and what people would describe as funny but i dont remember how to be that way again and everytime i try to fake it, it comes off as really not genuine, and it feels not genuine, and i can tell people really dislike me for it. \n\nare there any social tips you have?", "How do i stop myself from ruining the mood for everyone? depression hit me towards fall of 2020 and it seems to be coming off as me being in a bad mood all the time. as much as i try to hold back, i feel like people can tell im not being genuine when im smiling or asking about them, and im constantly on edge and irritable. \n\nim trying to be more social in an attempt to \"snap out of it\" by hanging out with friends more and ive joined a drama class but im. so. fucking. snippy. and even when i dont say anything, i think it shows in my face that im annoyed.\n\nits funny cause i never used to be that way? i used to be always positive and light and what people would describe as funny but i dont remember how to be that way again and everytime i try to fake it, it comes off as really not genuine, and it feels not genuine, and i can tell people really dislike me for it. \n\nare there any social tips you have?", "How do i stop myself from ruining the mood for everyone? depression hit me towards fall of 2020 and it seems to be coming off as me being in a bad mood all the time. as much as i try to hold back, i feel like people can tell im not being genuine when im smiling or asking about them, and im constantly on edge and irritable. \n\nim trying to be more social in an attempt to \"snap out of it\" by hanging out with friends more and ive joined a drama class but im. so. fucking. snippy. and even when i dont say anything, i think it shows in my face that im annoyed.\n\nits funny cause i never used to be that way? i used to be always positive and light and what people would describe as funny but i dont remember how to be that way again and everytime i try to fake it, it comes off as really not genuine, and it feels not genuine, and i can tell people really dislike me for it. \n\nare there any social tips you have?", "How do i stop myself from ruining the mood for everyone? depression hit me towards fall of 2020 and it seems to be coming off as me being in a bad mood all the time. as much as i try to hold back, i feel like people can tell im not being genuine when im smiling or asking about them, and im constantly on edge and irritable. \n\nim trying to be more social in an attempt to \"snap out of it\" by hanging out with friends more and ive joined a drama class but im. so. fucking. snippy. and even when i dont say anything, i think it shows in my face that im annoyed.\n\nits funny cause i never used to be that way? i used to be always positive and light and what people would describe as funny but i dont remember how to be that way again and everytime i try to fake it, it comes off as really not genuine, and it feels not genuine, and i can tell people really dislike me for it. \n\nare there any social tips you have?" ]

[ "In all honesty, I don’t think you need to look for ways to convince people you are feeling better, and are not depressed, you need to look for help with the depression. Pretending it’s not there isn’t going to help you. I’d suggest you seek some form of professional help, in order to assess the causes of the unhappiness. \nEarly-mid 2020 I realised I was having this issue, and it turns out that many people had seen it before I did. Those that care about you want you to be genuinely happy, not pretending for their benefit. I ended up with CBT sessions, to help me find ways to get out of the low mood, which was leading to days, weeks of depression centred time. You will struggle to break the low mood without the correct tools to do it.", "The approach your taking isn't 'snapping out of it' but something that needs to be practiced over a long period of time. The basic idea is that generally as people become more depressed, they stop doing things they previously enjoyed. Often they see themselves, others and the world in general in a negative light.\n\nMy advice would be to pay attention to the thoughts going through your mind before, during and after going out. It's difficult to tell from your brief description but sounds like you're having thoughts about having to put on a face or being worried about being truthful about how your feel. It's important to challenge these thoughts, for example being able to tell yourself \"I am out the house today and that's a great step towards helping myself\" or \"others will understand if I'm not smiley All the time whilst being out\".\n\nAre you quite anxious in a lot of social situations? It seems like there's a lot of 'self focus' which can generally involve spending a lot of time focusing on yourself. Perhaps try to focus outwardly more on what's going on around you when you notice this happening\n\n", "I’d start focusing on making yourself feel good first. Regular physical exercise and eating better can do a number on depression. Has anything changed that has triggered more depression? I think it’s hard to fake energy, people can feel it regardless of what is said. That being said, for social tips, actually being interested in what other people have to say and asking genuine questions about others is a great way to make others feel good around you. Sometimes we need to just get out of our head and truly connect with others. Also there is scientific data saying that actually just smiling even if you aren’t happy creates feel good chemicals to match the smile. Cheers and wishing you all the best!", "If you're not happy pretending to be won't help, talking to someone will help, whether you choose to speak to a professional or maybe a parent or other mentor figure in your life can give you advice, perspective and words of comfort.", "Clinical depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain that requires medication. Have you been diagnosed? Because the answer is that the medication will stop you from ruining the mood for everyone." ]

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[ "Alternate things to do during dinner besides get on the internet If you're a bachelor like me, and a child of the Millennium like me, then you probably sit in front of your computer during dinnertime. For me, this is a problem, for if I have something I intend to do in the evening, be it work on my writing or just dedicate time to goofing off, the internet totally kills it. I'll either spend a disproportionate amount of time online, or even if I succeed in limiting my time, my brain feels conditioned and it's a struggle to get into work mode.\n\nThere's always reading, of course. Or staring at the wall. But I figured I'd see how creative people would get.", "Alternate things to do during dinner besides get on the internet If you're a bachelor like me, and a child of the Millennium like me, then you probably sit in front of your computer during dinnertime. For me, this is a problem, for if I have something I intend to do in the evening, be it work on my writing or just dedicate time to goofing off, the internet totally kills it. I'll either spend a disproportionate amount of time online, or even if I succeed in limiting my time, my brain feels conditioned and it's a struggle to get into work mode.\n\nThere's always reading, of course. Or staring at the wall. But I figured I'd see how creative people would get.", "Alternate things to do during dinner besides get on the internet If you're a bachelor like me, and a child of the Millennium like me, then you probably sit in front of your computer during dinnertime. For me, this is a problem, for if I have something I intend to do in the evening, be it work on my writing or just dedicate time to goofing off, the internet totally kills it. I'll either spend a disproportionate amount of time online, or even if I succeed in limiting my time, my brain feels conditioned and it's a struggle to get into work mode.\n\nThere's always reading, of course. Or staring at the wall. But I figured I'd see how creative people would get.", "Alternate things to do during dinner besides get on the internet If you're a bachelor like me, and a child of the Millennium like me, then you probably sit in front of your computer during dinnertime. For me, this is a problem, for if I have something I intend to do in the evening, be it work on my writing or just dedicate time to goofing off, the internet totally kills it. I'll either spend a disproportionate amount of time online, or even if I succeed in limiting my time, my brain feels conditioned and it's a struggle to get into work mode.\n\nThere's always reading, of course. Or staring at the wall. But I figured I'd see how creative people would get.", "Alternate things to do during dinner besides get on the internet If you're a bachelor like me, and a child of the Millennium like me, then you probably sit in front of your computer during dinnertime. For me, this is a problem, for if I have something I intend to do in the evening, be it work on my writing or just dedicate time to goofing off, the internet totally kills it. I'll either spend a disproportionate amount of time online, or even if I succeed in limiting my time, my brain feels conditioned and it's a struggle to get into work mode.\n\nThere's always reading, of course. Or staring at the wall. But I figured I'd see how creative people would get.", "Alternate things to do during dinner besides get on the internet If you're a bachelor like me, and a child of the Millennium like me, then you probably sit in front of your computer during dinnertime. For me, this is a problem, for if I have something I intend to do in the evening, be it work on my writing or just dedicate time to goofing off, the internet totally kills it. I'll either spend a disproportionate amount of time online, or even if I succeed in limiting my time, my brain feels conditioned and it's a struggle to get into work mode.\n\nThere's always reading, of course. Or staring at the wall. But I figured I'd see how creative people would get.", "Alternate things to do during dinner besides get on the internet If you're a bachelor like me, and a child of the Millennium like me, then you probably sit in front of your computer during dinnertime. For me, this is a problem, for if I have something I intend to do in the evening, be it work on my writing or just dedicate time to goofing off, the internet totally kills it. I'll either spend a disproportionate amount of time online, or even if I succeed in limiting my time, my brain feels conditioned and it's a struggle to get into work mode.\n\nThere's always reading, of course. Or staring at the wall. But I figured I'd see how creative people would get.", "Alternate things to do during dinner besides get on the internet If you're a bachelor like me, and a child of the Millennium like me, then you probably sit in front of your computer during dinnertime. For me, this is a problem, for if I have something I intend to do in the evening, be it work on my writing or just dedicate time to goofing off, the internet totally kills it. I'll either spend a disproportionate amount of time online, or even if I succeed in limiting my time, my brain feels conditioned and it's a struggle to get into work mode.\n\nThere's always reading, of course. Or staring at the wall. But I figured I'd see how creative people would get.", "Alternate things to do during dinner besides get on the internet If you're a bachelor like me, and a child of the Millennium like me, then you probably sit in front of your computer during dinnertime. For me, this is a problem, for if I have something I intend to do in the evening, be it work on my writing or just dedicate time to goofing off, the internet totally kills it. I'll either spend a disproportionate amount of time online, or even if I succeed in limiting my time, my brain feels conditioned and it's a struggle to get into work mode.\n\nThere's always reading, of course. Or staring at the wall. But I figured I'd see how creative people would get.", "Alternate things to do during dinner besides get on the internet If you're a bachelor like me, and a child of the Millennium like me, then you probably sit in front of your computer during dinnertime. For me, this is a problem, for if I have something I intend to do in the evening, be it work on my writing or just dedicate time to goofing off, the internet totally kills it. I'll either spend a disproportionate amount of time online, or even if I succeed in limiting my time, my brain feels conditioned and it's a struggle to get into work mode.\n\nThere's always reading, of course. Or staring at the wall. But I figured I'd see how creative people would get.", "Alternate things to do during dinner besides get on the internet If you're a bachelor like me, and a child of the Millennium like me, then you probably sit in front of your computer during dinnertime. For me, this is a problem, for if I have something I intend to do in the evening, be it work on my writing or just dedicate time to goofing off, the internet totally kills it. I'll either spend a disproportionate amount of time online, or even if I succeed in limiting my time, my brain feels conditioned and it's a struggle to get into work mode.\n\nThere's always reading, of course. Or staring at the wall. But I figured I'd see how creative people would get." ]

[ "Eat better food. Enjoy it. Take more time preparing it. Be thankful for it. If food bores you, then either you're not hungry enough or the food isn't very good.", "Assuming you eat alone, how about listening to a podcast or talk radio? If you're eating with others, of course, regular conversation is tried and true. ", "As a fellow bachelor, there was a time (I've since had to modify my schedule) where I'd sit down and play a game of solitaire with a real deck of cards at my kitchen table while I was cooking/eating dinner.\n\nPersonally, I find the tactile nature of playing a game with real cards to be much more appealing than on some device and another bonus is that you probably won't spend a disproportionate amount of time doing it.", "Make an effort to share meals with other people. Invite a friend or neighbor to join you. Host an impromptu dinner party. Pack a meal and take it to a park. Your cooking skills and eating habits will improve.", "If you are looking for something to do during dinner time besides watching tv, being on your computer or phone and don't want to stare at a blank wall. Some of the things I recommend to you are. Getting some paper or a journal and write down your feelings, what you did that day, current problems whether it be work or personal, goals you want to achieve etc it doesn't matter which one you do but that will help you mentally and relief a lot of stress and anxiety. You can also take some paper and do some brainstorming for projects or ideas. You could get a cheap dart board and some darts and play darts sitting down while you eat. You could read like you said, if you like to read. You might think it's crazy but you could do some small-medium workouts while cooking dinner or before dinner so this way you get the blood flowing and will feel at least 2x better, then if you didn't workout and since you have the blood flowing and feel better, you will think more and have more concentration on the tasks you need to do after eating. ", "If I'm eating alone I have to be looking at something, which usually results in some kind of TV show. If I'm not in the middle of a series, I throw on Family Guy or some other mindless show. I know you said internet-free entertainment, but YouTube has great longer video content to enjoy. Also, documentaries are good. \n\nI don't know, man. Think about life. Or plan out to-do lists. Sometimes just sitting and enjoying your meal is good too. ", "I'm not really a writer but I like to have a pen/pad to just jot down notes. Not quite like a journal but more like when you use a white board to get an idea down in front of you, you know? Usually eating is just long enough to really flesh out something that's bothering you or that you've been putting off thinking about.", "I try to eat as \"properly\" as I can, sitting at a dinner table for meals. I feel like eating at a desk or in the lounge room in front of the TV is just a bad habit. That's just my opinion.\n\nSo when you think about it, when you're eating, what do you have free? Your ears. Favourite radio shows and podcasts are great for eating.\n\nI used to put a tablet on the table and watch it, but I avoid that now, as the whole reason I am at the table is to get away from a screen.", "I live on a busy street so I have something to watch mindlessly while eating and going over my day. When the weather is nice I sit on the front porch for dinner and breakfast. It lets me sort of zone out and m", "I know you said no internet, but YouTube can be good for mealtimes. You just need to find a handful of video series that are both enjoyable and of a duration that helps keep you from losing track of time.\n\nFor instance, I'm trying to learn more about cars, so I've been watching two or three videos from Engineering Explained during breakfast some days. Each video is only a few minutes, so it's not the same time commitment as watching an episode of a TV show. If I want something funny, Last Week Tonight is good for filling time while I eat.\n\n", "Get f.lux if you don't already have it.\n\nIt helps \"set the mood\" for relaxation by lowering the whiteness of the screen and removing lots of blue and also a good bit of green.\n\nIt will help you relax if anything, so your brain isn't so stimulated by the screen. Things on your computer will look more like your plate of food - the colors will match a lot better.\n\nAlso on one of the MOST privacy invading websites ever created (assuming if you give it that information) f.lux has a great page called \"f.lux\" just search for it, and you'll learn all about how brighter bluer light keeps you awake and how more yellow, dim light will relax you." ]

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[ "DUI - To Blow or Not To Blow (Illinois) Hello there, I'm trying to settle an argument by reaching out to LPT's knowledgeable users. If you're pull over and suspected of a DUI, and asked to blow, I've always heard that you should never blow and you have the right to refuse any tests. Is this true? I've also heard after you refuse this, obviously it's a 1 year automatic license suspension and you have to fight the DUI. Along with this we've heard they take you to the station and they may ask you to blow again or take a blood test, but you have the right to refuse this as well, which may help more with a lawyer if you hire one. \n\nWhat is the correct recourse in this situation? ", "DUI - To Blow or Not To Blow (Illinois) Hello there, I'm trying to settle an argument by reaching out to LPT's knowledgeable users. If you're pull over and suspected of a DUI, and asked to blow, I've always heard that you should never blow and you have the right to refuse any tests. Is this true? I've also heard after you refuse this, obviously it's a 1 year automatic license suspension and you have to fight the DUI. Along with this we've heard they take you to the station and they may ask you to blow again or take a blood test, but you have the right to refuse this as well, which may help more with a lawyer if you hire one. \n\nWhat is the correct recourse in this situation? ", "DUI - To Blow or Not To Blow (Illinois) Hello there, I'm trying to settle an argument by reaching out to LPT's knowledgeable users. If you're pull over and suspected of a DUI, and asked to blow, I've always heard that you should never blow and you have the right to refuse any tests. Is this true? I've also heard after you refuse this, obviously it's a 1 year automatic license suspension and you have to fight the DUI. Along with this we've heard they take you to the station and they may ask you to blow again or take a blood test, but you have the right to refuse this as well, which may help more with a lawyer if you hire one. \n\nWhat is the correct recourse in this situation? ", "DUI - To Blow or Not To Blow (Illinois) Hello there, I'm trying to settle an argument by reaching out to LPT's knowledgeable users. If you're pull over and suspected of a DUI, and asked to blow, I've always heard that you should never blow and you have the right to refuse any tests. Is this true? I've also heard after you refuse this, obviously it's a 1 year automatic license suspension and you have to fight the DUI. Along with this we've heard they take you to the station and they may ask you to blow again or take a blood test, but you have the right to refuse this as well, which may help more with a lawyer if you hire one. \n\nWhat is the correct recourse in this situation? ", "DUI - To Blow or Not To Blow (Illinois) Hello there, I'm trying to settle an argument by reaching out to LPT's knowledgeable users. If you're pull over and suspected of a DUI, and asked to blow, I've always heard that you should never blow and you have the right to refuse any tests. Is this true? I've also heard after you refuse this, obviously it's a 1 year automatic license suspension and you have to fight the DUI. Along with this we've heard they take you to the station and they may ask you to blow again or take a blood test, but you have the right to refuse this as well, which may help more with a lawyer if you hire one. \n\nWhat is the correct recourse in this situation? " ]

[ "The correct course of action is to NOT DRINK AND DRIVE and just blow on the damn tube. Otherwise you're either endangering lives, including your own, or just wasting everyone's time and tax dollars, including your own.", "Tell the cops that you will blow but you want your lawyer there to witness the test. By the time the lawyer actually gets there you're sober. ", "The law is not completely settled on this, and where the alleged DUI occurs (the specific jurisdiction) will play a big role.\n\nStates generally distinguish refusing a preliminary breath test/PBT (also known as the \"roadside test\") from the actual breath (Breathalyzer), blood, or urine test (known as the \"chemical test\") after you've been arrested for suspicion of DUI. In general, the punishment for refusing the PBT would be little to none; refusing the chemical test at the station, though, can carry *serious* consequences, such as revocation of your license, fines, and jail time. See [this chart](http://dui.drivinglaws.org/resources/dui-refusal-blood-breath-urine-test.htm) for a general overview of the informed consent laws in your state.\n\nOne interesting issue is whether states are constitutionally allowed to punish someone for failing to take the test. [*Bernard v. Minnesota*](http://www.scotusblog.com/case-files/cases/bernard-v-minnesota/), an appeal from a decision by the Minnesota Supreme Court, is currently being decided by the U.S. Supreme Court.\n\nIn *Bernard*, the Court will decide whether a state can punish someone for not taking a Breathalyzer test (the chemical test) if the state doesn't have a search warrant. The plaintiffs in the case sued the state of Minnesota, arguing that this violates the Fourth Amendment's prohibition on unreasonable search and seizure. Minnesota, like the vast majority (if not all) of the states, have long relied on the \"exigent circumstances\" exception to the warrant requirement, saying that the evidence of alcohol would be destroyed/dissipated if the police had to get a warrant for every test. If the laws are struck down, it's going to have a significant effect on DUI offenses. (You can read more about *Bernard* [here](http://www.scotusblog.com/2016/04/argument-analysis-criminal-penalties-for-refusal-to-take-a-breathalyzer-test-in-jeopardy/).)", "A good attorney will be able to fight the suspension (from not taking the test) by using the self incrimination argument. Therefore you have not committed any crime save to refuse to incriminate yourself. If your attorney is not comfortable with making this argument, it is time to retain a better attorney, else take the test in the first place and try for a pretrial diversion...", "You can refuse to blow and demand a blood test. If you do this you will be arrested and processed on suspicion of DUI, if you pass the blood test you will be released and charges will be dropped. Since the processing takes a couple hours you may buy yourself the time to metabolize from the barely a DUI point to the not a DUI point. This once saved my ass from what would have been a lame DUI when I was not impaired but had one cocktail fairly fresh on my breath. Also, don't drink and drive, it's not worth the numerous risks." ]

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[ "How to make weekday evenings more enjoyable/fulfilling I get in around 6:30 most evenings and the routine seems to be pretty much the same, get changed from work clothes, do some stretching/exercise, make some dinner and finish up with some TV and bed.\n\nIt's starting to get very repetitive and I'm not really feeling any enjoyment.\n\nCurrently having physio for some injuries so gym is pretty much out the window until I get those sorted.\n\nI have a few friends near where I work but if I meet them it normally ends up drinking alot in various bars, feels like a waste of money and I feel pretty terrible the next day.\n\nHow do you all spend your evenings? Any suggestions on breaking up the monotony of work, home repeat would be appreciated.\n\n", "How to make weekday evenings more enjoyable/fulfilling I get in around 6:30 most evenings and the routine seems to be pretty much the same, get changed from work clothes, do some stretching/exercise, make some dinner and finish up with some TV and bed.\n\nIt's starting to get very repetitive and I'm not really feeling any enjoyment.\n\nCurrently having physio for some injuries so gym is pretty much out the window until I get those sorted.\n\nI have a few friends near where I work but if I meet them it normally ends up drinking alot in various bars, feels like a waste of money and I feel pretty terrible the next day.\n\nHow do you all spend your evenings? Any suggestions on breaking up the monotony of work, home repeat would be appreciated.\n\n", "How to make weekday evenings more enjoyable/fulfilling I get in around 6:30 most evenings and the routine seems to be pretty much the same, get changed from work clothes, do some stretching/exercise, make some dinner and finish up with some TV and bed.\n\nIt's starting to get very repetitive and I'm not really feeling any enjoyment.\n\nCurrently having physio for some injuries so gym is pretty much out the window until I get those sorted.\n\nI have a few friends near where I work but if I meet them it normally ends up drinking alot in various bars, feels like a waste of money and I feel pretty terrible the next day.\n\nHow do you all spend your evenings? Any suggestions on breaking up the monotony of work, home repeat would be appreciated.\n\n", "How to make weekday evenings more enjoyable/fulfilling I get in around 6:30 most evenings and the routine seems to be pretty much the same, get changed from work clothes, do some stretching/exercise, make some dinner and finish up with some TV and bed.\n\nIt's starting to get very repetitive and I'm not really feeling any enjoyment.\n\nCurrently having physio for some injuries so gym is pretty much out the window until I get those sorted.\n\nI have a few friends near where I work but if I meet them it normally ends up drinking alot in various bars, feels like a waste of money and I feel pretty terrible the next day.\n\nHow do you all spend your evenings? Any suggestions on breaking up the monotony of work, home repeat would be appreciated.\n\n", "How to make weekday evenings more enjoyable/fulfilling I get in around 6:30 most evenings and the routine seems to be pretty much the same, get changed from work clothes, do some stretching/exercise, make some dinner and finish up with some TV and bed.\n\nIt's starting to get very repetitive and I'm not really feeling any enjoyment.\n\nCurrently having physio for some injuries so gym is pretty much out the window until I get those sorted.\n\nI have a few friends near where I work but if I meet them it normally ends up drinking alot in various bars, feels like a waste of money and I feel pretty terrible the next day.\n\nHow do you all spend your evenings? Any suggestions on breaking up the monotony of work, home repeat would be appreciated.\n\n", "How to make weekday evenings more enjoyable/fulfilling I get in around 6:30 most evenings and the routine seems to be pretty much the same, get changed from work clothes, do some stretching/exercise, make some dinner and finish up with some TV and bed.\n\nIt's starting to get very repetitive and I'm not really feeling any enjoyment.\n\nCurrently having physio for some injuries so gym is pretty much out the window until I get those sorted.\n\nI have a few friends near where I work but if I meet them it normally ends up drinking alot in various bars, feels like a waste of money and I feel pretty terrible the next day.\n\nHow do you all spend your evenings? Any suggestions on breaking up the monotony of work, home repeat would be appreciated.\n\n", "How to make weekday evenings more enjoyable/fulfilling I get in around 6:30 most evenings and the routine seems to be pretty much the same, get changed from work clothes, do some stretching/exercise, make some dinner and finish up with some TV and bed.\n\nIt's starting to get very repetitive and I'm not really feeling any enjoyment.\n\nCurrently having physio for some injuries so gym is pretty much out the window until I get those sorted.\n\nI have a few friends near where I work but if I meet them it normally ends up drinking alot in various bars, feels like a waste of money and I feel pretty terrible the next day.\n\nHow do you all spend your evenings? Any suggestions on breaking up the monotony of work, home repeat would be appreciated.\n\n" ]

[ "Turn off the tv. Pick up a new hobby. Teach yourself guitar. Learn something crafty, like [needlepoint](https://blog.laurelandwolf.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/Aint_nobody_needlepoint_pillow.jpg). Maybe find a local arts center and pick up a class after work. Volunteer one or two days a week.", "I used to be the same way. Miserable and bored of life itself until I started doing DND. It helps having people over every other week just to mess around and play a game for a few hours.\n\nAs said before, pick up a hobby that is different and new.", "Turn off the TV is key to making life more enjoyable.\nPick up a hobby.\nI recently got into playing boardgames that i Can play solo but also include friends in who i now invite over once a month for boardgame night. ", "I like posting up in a coffee shop to get some reading done :-) Oftentimes I will make a friend with someone there with similar reading tastes. \n \n \n \nI agree with previous commenters, picking up a new hobby is a great way to break up your routine!", "Start suggesting different things to do with friends:\n\nBoard games, group meals at home, cards, sports league, new hobby, \n\nPick a self-improvement activity besides exercising to commit one day a week towards: \n\nwriting, reading, volunteering, worshiping (if you have a faith), dating (start putting yourself out there more), night-school, exploring (new businesses/scenery, also good with friends).\n\nPlan something big, like a major party or weekend trip, for every month or so based on finances. It'll give you something to look forward to and work towards. For me, I like things like tubing, the beach, 3-5 hour road trips for the weekend, and themed house-parties. Doing it every month shakes things up just enough to appreciate my routine.", "Here's what to do. \n\nTurn off the TV. Think of something you want to be good at in 6 months. Now what would you have to do to get to that point? \n\nWrite it down. \n\nBreak down the steps into more manageable weekly/daily chunks. \n\nEach night, set aside 30 minutes to focus on that ultimate goal and you will feel much more fulfilled than by watching TV. \n\nFor me it is video production/", "Grab a simple board game (backgammon or checkers etc), go to a coffee shop, set up and play anyone who walks up." ]

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[ "Looking for an app or program to help keep my wife and I organized with eachothers schedules. Preferably mobile, and if possible works with an android. I'm also open to a website that would allow us to achieve the same results.\n\n", "Looking for an app or program to help keep my wife and I organized with eachothers schedules. Preferably mobile, and if possible works with an android. I'm also open to a website that would allow us to achieve the same results.\n\n", "Looking for an app or program to help keep my wife and I organized with eachothers schedules. Preferably mobile, and if possible works with an android. I'm also open to a website that would allow us to achieve the same results.\n\n", "Looking for an app or program to help keep my wife and I organized with eachothers schedules. Preferably mobile, and if possible works with an android. I'm also open to a website that would allow us to achieve the same results.\n\n" ]

[ "My wife and I use Cozi. They have an Android app and a website (both access the same data). Shared shopping lists, to do lists, calendars, etc. Each person's calendar items are color coded. We find it extremely helpful.", "I apologize in advance for my obsessive compulsion to make this grammar ", "I would go with wunderlist, it's a microsoft app, and basically it's purpose is for list creation and sharing between multiple parties.", "If anyone knows of one that also will overlay both our schedules together that would be awesome. Although that would seem likely for what I'm looking for." ]

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[ "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n", "Beard dandruff. What can I do? I typically shave once a week, or maybe after 10 days. I get these dry patches in the van-dyke zone year round. \n\nI live in Florida, so I should have humidity on my side. In general, no moisture-type cream I have found helps. Tips??\n\n" ]

[ "I had the same problem for years. Tried creams and lotions and dandruff shampoos and all that stuff. Some worked somewhat, but nothing got rid of the problem completely.\n\nUntil I got myself a [shower scubby](http://yousoapia.com/images/Scrubby_web.jpg) and started scrubbing my face with my morning shower. By rubbing vigorously you exfoliate your face, getting rid of all the dead flecks of skin *before* they can dry up and flake off.\n\nSince then I have literally never had beard dandruff again. No more creams, and I don't even have to bother with dandruff shampoo anymore (I also scrub my scalp).", "I used to get it often. Now I use coconut oil on my face, that seems to help me. I really work it into my beard and let it sit for a bit, then in the shower I wet my face (I dont' wash the oil out completely, just rub excess off with water) and my face feels smooth all week long without flakes.\n\nI also use the coconut oil on my neck before the shower, and after I shave, to prevent razor irritation. That worked wonders for me as well.", "What you have described really sounds like Seborrheic Dermatitis. Try keeping a clean shave for a bit and apply hydrocortisone regularly for a few days. ", "I have/had exactly what you describe, technically it was seborrheic dermatitis. I tried many of the remedies described here, but they are fixes for the symptom, not the root cause.\n\nTurns out it was being caused by food allergies. Through a process of elimination I discovered it was being triggered by wheat and/or milk products. I would suggest seeing if you have similar food sensitivities or allergies. \n\nThe two most common culprits of food allergies are wheat and dairy, so I'd start with those two. Eliminate one for a week, see if the skin condition goes away. If not, go back to eating the one and eliminate the other for a week and see if it goes away. If not, eliminate both for a week and see. \n\nSince I eliminated wheat and milk products from my diet, no more problems. But any time I have anything that contains either of those, sure enough the patches and dandruff come roaring back.", "Try a good (normal hair) conditioner. Don't wash your face more than you need to. Itchy dandruff comes usually from dry skin. Dry skin comes from over washing with harsh chemicals and over drying too.\n\nThe other thing I do is after every time I wash my hands I wipe down my face with a moist paper towel, leaving it very slightly damp.", "+1 for Seborrheic Dermatitis. I solved the problem by using shampoo and soap with Ketoconazole.\n*Topical ketoconazole is also used as a treatment for dandruff (seborrheic dermatitis of the scalp) and for seborrheic dermatitis on other areas of the body* (Wikipedia)", "Beard Oil. I battled beard dandruff for years before I discovered this miraculous concoction. Daily shampoo and conditioning, followed by some oil application while the beard is still a little damp from the shower. You can buy legit *beard* oil, but getting hair oil for people with coarse hair works just as well and is a ton cheaper. Also, I've only been able to find beard oil online, whereas the hair oil is available in any regular big box store in the \"Ethnic Hair\" section. ", "As a researcher currently investigating the etiology of seborrheic dermatitis, I can tell you that I'm fairly close to a solution, but it's certainly not going to be an overnight fix.\n\nIn the meantime, I use a self-created lotion post shaving and in the two or three days following. I apply it twice a day and leave it on for about thirty minutes before exfoliating with a terry cloth. This has been the only, non-irritating, inexpensive solution that I have found. I also use a variation of the lotion in an alcohol and water mixture for my hair, which, when combined with intermittent washing using anti-dandruff shampoo, works very well.\n\nRegardless, the problem is not 100% taken care of. I'm currently investigating additional methods and have a few months left before these can be said to work or not.\n\nSome of the things I've tried:\n\n * Dermify lotion. Very expensive but effective.\n * Anti-dandruff shampoo + low percentage cortisol steroid(hydrocortisone ointment). Cheap but very irritating, increases sebum production and increases susceptibility to infection in applied areas, i.e. acne.\n * Phototherapy. Otherwise known as getting rays. Ineffective.\n * Abstaining from washing. Good in theory, considering the degree of epidermal dysfunction caused by water. Still bad.\n * Coconut-oil-based lotion. Not as effective as currently used lotion.\n * Coconut oil. Poor outcome.\n * Wheat germ oil. Moderate outcome, but still ineffective.\n\nThe dietary changes I have utilized far outnumber the above. The lotion, in combination with a \"current best outcome\" diet, produces glowing skin and few areas of irritation, but again, not 100 percent. Sebborheic dermatitis, its related epidermal barrier dysfunction, and IBS-related abdominal pain are the last issues to solve before I spread the results of my research.", "Apple cider vinegar...use a cotton ball to apply every other day or as needed. No face dandruff! Get the real shit too", "In addition to exfoliating, you can try switching to a product like cerave instead of using harsh soap on your face. It gets your skin clean without drying it out.", "Does this count as beard yeast? If it is, I read online about a guy who used his beard yeast to make beer. So you could do that.", "wash your face with Head & Shoulders. I do this with or without a beard. I even shave with it in the shower. It does the trick. ", "When I have a thick beard in the winter I wash my face as normal, wash my beard with conditioner 1-2x week and scrub really good. Rinse with pressure on the shower if available. Comb it daily of so just to get air circulating thru it.", "Wash your beard with baking soda, and then apple cider vinegar. I do this for my head and beard dandruff, works great for me.", "Try this:\n\nhttps://whollyhemp.com/shop/4oz-moisturizer-raw\n\nthis is by far the most effective skin health product I've found. It's oily, so you have to find a time to use it when you have 20 or 30 minutes afterwards when you don't care your skin looks a bit oily. I use it about once a week on face, hands, shoulders, elbows usually after I shower after working out in the evening - on any place skin gets out of balance, dry or problematic. So far after 6 months, I'm only 1/4 way through my first jar.\n\nI've tried lots of different moisturizers, creams - all kinds. The reason I like this one is that after you use it, it actually frscking works, it makes your skin more moist and it stays that way for days and days after you've used it.", "To everyone who says \"Shave\"... this applies to you:\n\nhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-CxnGMcz5os\n\n", "The wave brushes that black guys use. I use a double sided one that my best friend told me to get. He uses the same one to brush his hair. I found that when my beard is short (1-4 inches) the \"soft side works well and any longer the \"hard\" side works ok. It's great for scraping away at that dry skin without irritating your face and neck. I got mine for 2 dollars at a beauty/grooming. I'm also white, fair skinned, and have dry skin under my beard even when I condition/moisturize. ", "Mix 1 cup water, 1 cup non-comedogenic oil, 1 cup listerine. After you wet your beard, get that mess in there and leave it for 15 mins. Rinse, and done. Works for scalp dandruff and eczema too.", "Make sure to THOROUGHLY dry your beard. It's just as important, if not more so. Never let your beard air dry, all that will do is leave residue on your skin and cause it to flake.\n\nThis might do the trick itself, if not, try some head and shoulders. Every now and then I like to condition with main and tale, keeps it calm and under control", "If Head & Shoulders doesn't work, both psoriasis and seborrheic dermatitis respond well to [salicylic acid shampoo](http://www.walgreens.com/store/c/walgreens-therapeutic-t%2Bplus-salicylic-acid-shampoo/ID=prod894246-product) or [coal-tar shampoo](http://www.neutrogena.com/category/hair/t-gel-.do).\n\nCheck with a dermatologist, though.", "I've read some good things about tea tree oil and using it to treat dandruff on the scalp so I'd assume looking onto that might be worth your time. Plus it smells great and is a wonderful alternative to harsher chemical treatments. Best of luck!", "I used to have the same issue as you. Prevention for me is 3 fold. 1) Every Man Jack , clinique, dove, nivea all make a men's face scrub that exfoliates your skin. 2) Dandruff shampoo once a week...I use Clear for Men. 3) When shaving make sure to use a moisturizing balm afterwards.", "I use the green aloe soap and the bay lime oil from here: http://beardcareproducts.com/beardconditioner.html\n\nMy beard/face feel like heaven.", "I started using [this](http://www.amazon.com/Bluebeards-Original-Beard-Wash-oz/dp/B00158MYUA/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1375883590&sr=8-1&keywords=beard+wash) Beard Wash. Haven't had a flake since.", "I never had any success with dandruff shampoo until i tried Selsun Blue. Try that stuff, it works wonders.", "I have the same issue (even with my eyebrows). Doctor called it a seborrheic dermatitis so you might have the same thing.\n\nPlenty of people suggested different forms of skin exfoliation, and I can confirm that these help, but only as a temporary measure. Your skin is going to keep producing these faster than you can exfoliate.\n\nThere are other things you can do to manage it, but it's all prescription medication. There's a particular type of dermatological mild antibiotic that I can't remember the name of (will update when I get back home) that definitely helps. It's also used in treating certain cases of acne. Alternatively there are steroid-based shampoos and solutions (Clobex is amazing) that really really really work well but you can't use them on a daily basis.\n\nMight be worth seeing a doctor either way. If it really is what I have, then the solution isn't as simple as exfoliating.", "I had beard dandruff and tried a few shampoos and scrubs. Bluebeards Original helped me out. http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00158MYUA", "I found out that I was getting beard dandruff by going to a strip club that had black lights and I was wearing a black shirt...It's a crazy world we live in", "Had the same problem with my beard when I started it. I used a dandruff shampoo and combed it while it was lathered up. Press hard, it breaks up the dry skin and washes it out. ", "Follow up on the dermatitis road, because it might not be dandruff. But why not buy some Burt's Bees peppermint lip balm and use it for your face instead of lips. Soothing.", "Exfoliation, conditioner and tea tree oil. You can use a gentle facial scrub, the best use small pieces of rice so that is removes dead skin without taking too much off. Conditioner will keep you skin moisturized and the hair smooth so any dead skin won't stick. Tea tree oil clams skin irritation which may contribute to dandruff ", "Beard oil. I used to have horrible beard dandruff until I started using it. I make and sell my own using grape seed and jojoba oil lightly scented with various essential oils. PM me if you want more details on how to make or purchase.", "As others have mentioned, [dandruff](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dandruff) and [skin flaking] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dandruff#Seborrhoeic_dermatitis) in general is often caused by fungus - not by dry skin.\n\nThis is why it's important to use products that specifically target dandruff or skin flaking as opposed to moisturizers.\n\nIf you can identify red patches of skin, I would recommend trying out an athlete's foot (anti-fungal) cream. These can be very cheap and easy to try before going more expensive routes.\n\nThe recommendations for exfoliating and keeping the area dry whenever possible will help also.", "A good moisturizing conditioner while in the shower and a stiff hair brush after. This will keep you nice and smooth and looking good. \n\nSource: I have a beard. ", "A chick-friend of mine years ago had a similar condition (*sans* the shaving aspect) - turned out hers was an allergy-type reaction to smoking cannabis." ]

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[ "What to do with headphone cable that is too long? I have my [Astro A40s](http://www.astrogaming.co.uk/a40) and the cable is far too long (probably 3 meters), I only need 1 meter.\n \nIs there any way I can make the cable shorter easily (preferably free)?\n\n**", "What to do with headphone cable that is too long? I have my [Astro A40s](http://www.astrogaming.co.uk/a40) and the cable is far too long (probably 3 meters), I only need 1 meter.\n \nIs there any way I can make the cable shorter easily (preferably free)?\n\n**", "What to do with headphone cable that is too long? I have my [Astro A40s](http://www.astrogaming.co.uk/a40) and the cable is far too long (probably 3 meters), I only need 1 meter.\n \nIs there any way I can make the cable shorter easily (preferably free)?\n\n**", "What to do with headphone cable that is too long? I have my [Astro A40s](http://www.astrogaming.co.uk/a40) and the cable is far too long (probably 3 meters), I only need 1 meter.\n \nIs there any way I can make the cable shorter easily (preferably free)?\n\n**" ]

[ "Fold it into thirds so it is a meter long and 3 strands of wire thick and then just wrap the 3 strands together with electrical tape so you just have a thick meter long wire", "Yes. You'll want to cut the cable to the length you want and then put a new headphone jack on it. Requires a pretty minimal amount of know-how. Here's the basic process to do it. You can also just google \"putting a new jack on headphones\". http://m.instructables.com/id/Replacing-the-jack-on-a-pair-of-headphones/?ALLSTEPS\n\nJacks are cheap and can be picked up at radioshack, or ordered from amazon or monoprice. ", "I spin the headphone jack like 15-30 times or so so the wire starts to twist so much that it'll actually cause the wire to coil around itself. The nice part is that it shortens the wire but also allows for expansion when you pull it. When you stop pulling, it coils back up and shortens again.\n\nI usually spin it a bunch and then grab the wire about in the middle and then kind of fold the wire in half and because of the twist, it'll start to coil automatically on itself. It's kind of hard to explain. The best I can find to an explanation is this: http://www.wikihow.com/Make-Homemade-Rope\n\nI use this on cheap music headphones so I don't know how well it'll work on those but it works like a charm for mine.", "I have a similar problem, so I weave my cable into the mic stand. That way, if I jerk away with the headphones on, I won't pull the jack out." ]

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[ "How to stop chewing the inside of my cheeks/lips. I do this subconsciously all day every day. Not only am I always making weird faces because of it, but it also puts you at risk for mouth cancer.\n\nIf I'm focusing on not doing it it's not a problem. But it's impossible to focus on my mouth's actions at all times.\n\nAny ideas?", "How to stop chewing the inside of my cheeks/lips. I do this subconsciously all day every day. Not only am I always making weird faces because of it, but it also puts you at risk for mouth cancer.\n\nIf I'm focusing on not doing it it's not a problem. But it's impossible to focus on my mouth's actions at all times.\n\nAny ideas?" ]

[ "Same problem here. I just quit biting my nails recently, (three year process, not biting for months now) and it seems to have gotten worse. Inside of my cheeks are beat to hell.", "I go through cheek biting bouts that will last for months. Lessened as I've gotten older. I push my tongue against cheeks so it stretches out to satisfy the urge. Brush cheeks when doing teeth along with a good rinse of mouthwash before sleep so it can heal overnight also tends to undermine the compulsion." ]

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[ "How can I get over my Steam voice chat stage fright? Whenever I solo queue for a CS:GO game I freeze up and end up not using my mic because of my slightly high pitched voice. I have a good headset and I speak clearly, but I always end up disabling the mic for myself. Any tips on how to get over my Steam voice chat stage fright?", "How can I get over my Steam voice chat stage fright? Whenever I solo queue for a CS:GO game I freeze up and end up not using my mic because of my slightly high pitched voice. I have a good headset and I speak clearly, but I always end up disabling the mic for myself. Any tips on how to get over my Steam voice chat stage fright?", "How can I get over my Steam voice chat stage fright? Whenever I solo queue for a CS:GO game I freeze up and end up not using my mic because of my slightly high pitched voice. I have a good headset and I speak clearly, but I always end up disabling the mic for myself. Any tips on how to get over my Steam voice chat stage fright?", "How can I get over my Steam voice chat stage fright? Whenever I solo queue for a CS:GO game I freeze up and end up not using my mic because of my slightly high pitched voice. I have a good headset and I speak clearly, but I always end up disabling the mic for myself. Any tips on how to get over my Steam voice chat stage fright?", "How can I get over my Steam voice chat stage fright? Whenever I solo queue for a CS:GO game I freeze up and end up not using my mic because of my slightly high pitched voice. I have a good headset and I speak clearly, but I always end up disabling the mic for myself. Any tips on how to get over my Steam voice chat stage fright?", "How can I get over my Steam voice chat stage fright? Whenever I solo queue for a CS:GO game I freeze up and end up not using my mic because of my slightly high pitched voice. I have a good headset and I speak clearly, but I always end up disabling the mic for myself. Any tips on how to get over my Steam voice chat stage fright?", "How can I get over my Steam voice chat stage fright? Whenever I solo queue for a CS:GO game I freeze up and end up not using my mic because of my slightly high pitched voice. I have a good headset and I speak clearly, but I always end up disabling the mic for myself. Any tips on how to get over my Steam voice chat stage fright?", "How can I get over my Steam voice chat stage fright? Whenever I solo queue for a CS:GO game I freeze up and end up not using my mic because of my slightly high pitched voice. I have a good headset and I speak clearly, but I always end up disabling the mic for myself. Any tips on how to get over my Steam voice chat stage fright?", "How can I get over my Steam voice chat stage fright? Whenever I solo queue for a CS:GO game I freeze up and end up not using my mic because of my slightly high pitched voice. I have a good headset and I speak clearly, but I always end up disabling the mic for myself. Any tips on how to get over my Steam voice chat stage fright?", "How can I get over my Steam voice chat stage fright? Whenever I solo queue for a CS:GO game I freeze up and end up not using my mic because of my slightly high pitched voice. I have a good headset and I speak clearly, but I always end up disabling the mic for myself. Any tips on how to get over my Steam voice chat stage fright?" ]

[ "Do a funny accent. Then you don't have to worry about sounding ridiculous because you're doing it on purpose.\n\nBeer also helps.", "I used to have the same issue I feel like playing with people you know first and getting used to talking to them in game chat while the random are there too makes it easier to travel siting to talking to solely randoms really you don't have anything to worry about if someone give you issues just mute em ", "I used to be the same way when I started out. It's all about getting used to said game, and focusing on making correct callouts to help the game flow into victory. (SMFC Here) Getting comfortable with the game allows flows of conversation wether it be callouts in the game, or just normal talking. The more you play the more you will feel eased into talking with people, and getting wins. \nAdding people that you find friendly also really helps, as well as asking questions to them and getting to know them.\nTLDR : Get comfortable with the game, Add people you find friendly, ask questions AND PLEASE MOST OF ALL make sure you're enjoying the game stress = tension = hard conversations", "no one in csgo matchmaking will judge you for having a high voice unless you really act annoying instead of being helpful", "You will never, ever see those persons in real life. I have a high pitched voice, and I have a huge stutter. Doesn't stop me from calling 't-t-t-t-theres t-t-t-two b'", "Turn it on, but don't worry about saying anything until there comes a time when you suddenly feel like saying something and just blurt it out. ", "The hardest thing is to start :) For example, I always start off a match with \"everyone has a mic?\" This basically Kickstarts your conversation.\nIMHO, having a person on mute is worse than having a toxic shouting player on my team. It's mainly because that toxic guy will usually do callouts. Not everyone reads the chat during their time alive. \ntl;dr - start the conversation, if there is a toxic player, mute :)", "I used to have the same problem. All I did was just talk when necessary (ex: when asked a question), and then I just kinda opened up after talking with a person for a while.", "Don't be those memey kids. Be respectful, people will respect you back.if not just mute those guys are idiots anyways", "Realize that you will almost certainly never meet any of the other players in real life. The only thing that they care about is your performance in game and the accuracy of your calls in chat. " ]

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[ "How to not get distracted and procrastinate. I am currently in a very important stage of school with lots of exams coming up. I am targeted to do very well but I feel that if I continue the way I am, I won't. I can't seem to get things such as homework and revision done, I always seem to make excuses and leave it till the last minute, meaning I am wrecked for school in the mornings. Any and all help is appreciated.", "How to not get distracted and procrastinate. I am currently in a very important stage of school with lots of exams coming up. I am targeted to do very well but I feel that if I continue the way I am, I won't. I can't seem to get things such as homework and revision done, I always seem to make excuses and leave it till the last minute, meaning I am wrecked for school in the mornings. Any and all help is appreciated.", "How to not get distracted and procrastinate. I am currently in a very important stage of school with lots of exams coming up. I am targeted to do very well but I feel that if I continue the way I am, I won't. I can't seem to get things such as homework and revision done, I always seem to make excuses and leave it till the last minute, meaning I am wrecked for school in the mornings. Any and all help is appreciated.", "How to not get distracted and procrastinate. I am currently in a very important stage of school with lots of exams coming up. I am targeted to do very well but I feel that if I continue the way I am, I won't. I can't seem to get things such as homework and revision done, I always seem to make excuses and leave it till the last minute, meaning I am wrecked for school in the mornings. Any and all help is appreciated." ]

[ "do everything as soon as it's assigned and if you're not in class or at work or something, don't do anything besides eat and sleep until it's done. ", "Log off of reddit. \n\n\njk... I usually put on an annoying ring or bracelet and tell myself I can't take it off till I've done ______. ", "I found a good article about procrastination recently.\nhttp://waitbutwhy.com/2013/10/why-procrastinators-procrastinate.html -here it is.\n\nAlso available as TED-talk http://youtube.com/watch?v=E6fqfn4sOJQ", "Get into a habit. Try studying for 2 minutes. Take a short break. Then 5 minutes and take another short break. Repeat until you can study for long periods of time, such as 2 hours, with 15 minute breaks." ]

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[ "How to keep your pencil case from getting dirty from the pencils inside I have a pencil case with pencils in it, and the graphite from the pencils usually rubs off on everything like the inside of the case as well as other pencils, makes my erasers blackened, and so on.\nIs there a good way to prevent this from happening?", "How to keep your pencil case from getting dirty from the pencils inside I have a pencil case with pencils in it, and the graphite from the pencils usually rubs off on everything like the inside of the case as well as other pencils, makes my erasers blackened, and so on.\nIs there a good way to prevent this from happening?", "How to keep your pencil case from getting dirty from the pencils inside I have a pencil case with pencils in it, and the graphite from the pencils usually rubs off on everything like the inside of the case as well as other pencils, makes my erasers blackened, and so on.\nIs there a good way to prevent this from happening?" ]

[ "Put pencil erasers on the tip. You'll have extra erasers, a clean pencil case and it keeps the lead from breaking.", "Can you tuck a section of paper towel into each end of the case, and then change it once in awhile? (I do this for make-up brushes when I travel, and it keeps the color and powder from transferring all over everything.)", "Next time you get something that has that comes wrapped in thin foam keep the foam and use it so the pencils don't roll around. Or you might try cutting up an un-used insole liner for a shoe." ]

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[ "How to discuss Politics wiithout losing a friend? The friend has another opinion that conflicts with yours. How to discuss it maintaining the friendship?", "How to discuss Politics wiithout losing a friend? The friend has another opinion that conflicts with yours. How to discuss it maintaining the friendship?", "How to discuss Politics wiithout losing a friend? The friend has another opinion that conflicts with yours. How to discuss it maintaining the friendship?", "How to discuss Politics wiithout losing a friend? The friend has another opinion that conflicts with yours. How to discuss it maintaining the friendship?", "How to discuss Politics wiithout losing a friend? The friend has another opinion that conflicts with yours. How to discuss it maintaining the friendship?", "How to discuss Politics wiithout losing a friend? The friend has another opinion that conflicts with yours. How to discuss it maintaining the friendship?", "How to discuss Politics wiithout losing a friend? The friend has another opinion that conflicts with yours. How to discuss it maintaining the friendship?", "How to discuss Politics wiithout losing a friend? The friend has another opinion that conflicts with yours. How to discuss it maintaining the friendship?", "How to discuss Politics wiithout losing a friend? The friend has another opinion that conflicts with yours. How to discuss it maintaining the friendship?" ]

[ "LPT: Avoid discussing Politics and Religion unless you know your audience VERY WELL. You really don't need to tell your friend anything about your views or theirs unless they've asked for friendly debate. It's generally NOT WORTH IT. Good luck to you, brave OP.", "\"I adore your company and love spending time with you, but I honestly don't want to talk about politics/religion/whatever with you because I don't feel the conversations are productive for either of us. Can we agree to leave that topic off the table? Thanks, buddy!\"", "Don't talk about why their believes are wrong, talk about what in your life has made you believe what you do (specific experiences). Don't ever attack their character, make assumptions further than the exact things they state. Most of the conversation should be asking for clarifications if not taking about your own experiences. \n\nIt's more of an art than a science. Eventually theoretically you'll be able to \"win\" a discussion by revealing flaws in their thought process through the Socratic method. Of course you won't have actually won, because there is no winning in discussion. For ever point you proved them wrong, you'll also realize you're wrong. And in the end you'll probably realize you believed in the same things, you just saw different ways to get there, and that ever disagreement was really a misunderstand. ", "Don't demonize the other side. They have their reasons, reasons you might think are stupid, but no one wants to listen to someone telling them why they're wrong. Talk about why you disagree, but make it clear that is just your opinion, and it doesn't not mean you are telling them wrong. If you want to try and change their mind you won't. But what you can do is give your facts and reasoning, have a little back and forth, but at some point, you have to step back and let them make their own mind up. \n\nAlso, make sure, perhaps overly sure, that when you make a generalization, let them know you are not including them (unless you are). I've found if you exclude them, it both helps them not getting their feelings hurt, but also can allow them to see it from your side better. ", "Don't be condescending, don't be demeaning, don't be insulting to them or anyone they support. Just keep a civil argument, and discuss facts and highlights/negatives. Shouldn't be too hard if they're your friend", "My boyfriend, best friend and his entire family are strong republicans. Obama is the devil, Hilary is the anti Christ, etc. I am a democratic in almost every way. It's hard sometimes but I have to remember how they were raised. \n\nAnytime politics get brought up I will not open my mouth unless I can quickly pull up facts to back what I am saying. If they refuse to believe what I'm saying even after I show them proof, I will just say the classic line \"we will agree to disagree\". \n\nI do the same if it's with a \"stranger\" or a friend that I am not close to. \n\nI like to process why they can think the way they do before I speak as well. This will outline how I will respond. \n\nI'm gay so I'm not a huge fan of republicans but I do have a lot of conservative views. Also my boyfriend is in the army... If that explains the entire gay republican thing. ", "Let them finish their response fully, articulate the things you agree with first, and provide a calm, rational, and \"respectfully\" disagree rebuttal if you are talking about something that can piss off your friend. \nBut in all honesty, depending on how close to the friend you are, you shouldn't lose them over politics. If you do, then it was only a matter of time. ", "Unless you know they are the type of person that is open to hearing new opinions, you can't.\n\nUnfortunately, 90% of people just cannot fathom that something they think is fact may be incorrect. It's ridiculous. Do not discuss controversial topics with these people.", "The reason politics is a touchy subject is because you are revealing what you are willing to use violence against the other to accomplish. Unless you are of like ideals, the discussion tends to come across like this:\n\n• \"l think it's good if you are kidnapped for smoking a certain kind of plant.\" \n\n• \"I want to steal more of the money you make and give it to people that make less than you\"\n\n• \"I want to make sure you or your doctor are fined or imprisoned if you have certain medical procedures done.\"\n\nIf you are interested in turning the violent machinery of the government against your fellow man, do not expect them to be happy about it. " ]

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[ "Understanding thick accents I work in a very multinational team of computer engineers and find I have a hard time understanding what some people say. Any tips on how to improve my ability to understand what they say?", "Understanding thick accents I work in a very multinational team of computer engineers and find I have a hard time understanding what some people say. Any tips on how to improve my ability to understand what they say?", "Understanding thick accents I work in a very multinational team of computer engineers and find I have a hard time understanding what some people say. Any tips on how to improve my ability to understand what they say?", "Understanding thick accents I work in a very multinational team of computer engineers and find I have a hard time understanding what some people say. Any tips on how to improve my ability to understand what they say?", "Understanding thick accents I work in a very multinational team of computer engineers and find I have a hard time understanding what some people say. Any tips on how to improve my ability to understand what they say?" ]

[ "Certain languages tend to focus on consonants (e.g. Arabic), whereas some focus on vowel sounds (e.g. English).\n\nRegarding the latter, try saying some words while minimizing the consonant sounds. \"I love you\" can become \"I luh oo\", and you still get the meaning because of what we tend to focus on.\n\nRegarding Australian and kiwi accents, then tend to pronounce the vowel sounds differently than Americans do. Because vowels are important in our language, it can make them difficult for some Americans to understand. Figure out the replacement sounds (e.g. a short \"e\" can sound like a short \"u\" in Wellington, NZ), and you're golden.\n\nFor Arabs and others with consonant-rich native languages, focus on their consonant sounds. It can be difficult to train your ear to do, hwvr y cn prbbly rd ths wtht ny vwls. \n\nPractice with words you know theyll say. If somebody says \"hello\" every morning, try to figure out if they're actually pronouncing \"hello\" or saying \"hillo\" or \"hullo\". From there, it will get easier one you start recognizing pronunciation trends.\n\n I believe in you.", "Well.. I'm Australian and Americans appear to have a tough time of understanding Australians. The couple of times I've been there, I quickly cottoned onto what they don't understand and I would just say these things with an American accent and then they'd always understand me. Maybe you could light-heartedly reverse-engineer this. Get a good rapport with them and then ask them to talk in an [your accent] accent", "Auditory neuroscientist here. My advice is to try learning a new language, or actively listening to a wide variety of musical styles. By actively listening, I mean pay attention to the music itself - listen to it with your eyes closed and giving it your full attention. Exposing the brain to these auditory stimuli on a regular basis (even for only 20-30 minutes per day) will make it easier for you to detect subtle differences in pitch, timbre and rhythm of speech sounds. Secondly, do not look at the person's mouth while they are talking - this could mislead you. Instead, pay attention to their voice and use logic (or simply ask them to repeat) to fill in the parts that you can't quite understand. Lastly, with practice you will get better at this! ", "Oh man I deal with this every day. My whole team at work is chinese, indian, or russian, and just moved here last month. My wife is Japanese is has a thick accent too.\n\nThe most effective thing is to learn the phonetics of the native language of the speaker, and learn to ignore the articles \"a\" and \"the\" and other meaningless parts of english. Also if you speak in the other person's accent it makes it way easier for them to understand you because it takes way less effort for them to hear those phonemes.\n\nLearning Japanese phonetics is easy, there's only about 50 sounds and has a very predicable way that english words are transliterated. l and r map to the same sound, v and b map to the same sound, many ending consonants are pronounced with an extra vowel sound such as t -> to. Learn to speak english with a japanese accent and japanese speakers with thick accents immediately make sense.\n\nRussian is a bit harder, having a lot of patterns that I'm still getting to know, but luckily russians, belarusians, and ukrainians who speak english are already pretty easy to understand for some reason. Their grammar is the main difference.\n\nChinese is just a mind-fuck. learning to speak english with a chinese accent is much harder thanks to the intonations. English tonality indicates progress through sentence clauses (roughly) and chinese tonality encodes distinct phonemes and therefore affects the meanings of words. the main thing you can do to understand chinese english (besides learning chinese phonemes) is to learn to ignore sentence-progress tonality. In other words, don't be misled when it sounds like they ended the sentence, and don't take improbable interpretations that are based on tonality. \n\nUnfortunately, It takes your full attention, so you will definitely not be able to think about something else while waiting for cues to tune in when they get to the point.", "I've worked with international teams that span the globe. Here's what you need to do:\n\n* Make a list in Excel of the people that you have the hardest time understanding. Add what language they have next to their name, and things that you notice about the way they speak. For example, if they speak too fast or too slow, if the accent is really thick, if they always have trouble with certain words, etc.\n\n* When you talk with them next, try and have it on a one-on-one call instead of in a large group meeting. Even if it's something innocuous like \"Hey I just want to clear things up.\" This will get you used to their voice.\n\n* Don't be afraid to ask them to repeat things. Over time, you'll get used to hearing *how* they say certain words, and then your brain will start to assign what they say to what you think they said. It'll make conversation easier over time.\n\n* Send recap emails after meetings with Action Items. This will take anxiety off of you, since if you heard something wrong they'll be able to easily correct you.\n\n* If necessary, tell them that it's a bit hard to understand them, but you're really trying to get their accent down. Most people will understand and they'll talk slower." ]

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[ "Common posture problems I see in myself and other are an Hunched Back and Shoulders Leaning Forward. Is there a method to fix these? Oh, and neck leaning forward as well. ", "Common posture problems I see in myself and other are an Hunched Back and Shoulders Leaning Forward. Is there a method to fix these? Oh, and neck leaning forward as well. ", "Common posture problems I see in myself and other are an Hunched Back and Shoulders Leaning Forward. Is there a method to fix these? Oh, and neck leaning forward as well. ", "Common posture problems I see in myself and other are an Hunched Back and Shoulders Leaning Forward. Is there a method to fix these? Oh, and neck leaning forward as well. " ]

[ "First I would suggest you see an eye doctor - you may be leaning in because you aren't seeing well. Next up - something like [this] (https://smile.amazon.com/Posture-Corrector-Clavicle-Support-Improved/dp/B071JB3BV3/ref=sr_1_6_s_it?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1503076879&sr=1-6&keywords=posture+corrector+for+men) - I broke my collar bone in elementary school - it wasn't compound so they just put a brace on me and pulled my shoulders back. I had fantastic posture for years afterward. What they put me in is similar to what is linked above.\n\nThe eyesight thing though - that's pretty important. I realized I was old enough for readers because my neck kept hurting. I started paying attention to when I was doing the weird thing with my neck and it was when I was working and/or gaming, I was jutting my head forward because I was having a hard time seeing detail on the monitor. Yay glasses! =)", "Kettlebell training classes 2-3x a week or some intense martial arts thaiboxing/bjj/boxing. Boxing fixed my nerd posture instantly in like three months.", "Invest in Pilates classes on the Reformer. It'll fix that, a slew of other things, up your energy + make you a better everything ... biker, runner, skier, golfer, etc.", "Basically strengthening your back through exercises is the first thing to do. Takes some work, though! :-D" ]

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[ "Liquid laundry detergent uses (besides the obvious)\n I have a couple of gallons of detergent that doesn't work to well. I want to know if anyone has any practical/fun uses for it.", "Liquid laundry detergent uses (besides the obvious)\n I have a couple of gallons of detergent that doesn't work to well. I want to know if anyone has any practical/fun uses for it." ]

[ "I'm curious as to why it doesn't work well. You mean for laundry?\n\nYou can mix it with an equal part of white distilled vinegar and scrub into stains on carpets and rugs, then after about 30 minutes, wipe it up with a clean wet sponge. It cleans really well.", "It's watery and has a low grade detergent agent. I got it on sale and its just sitting on the shelf. It works good for slip and sliding but leaves a nasty rash :)" ]

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[ "how to bring a conversation to a close without being too abrupt When I'm chatting with someone but have other stuff to do, and want to make an exit, I usually wait for a suitable pause and then say, \"Anyway...\" and kind of leave it hanging as I walk away. I've noticed this is a bit of a habit, and was wondering if there's a smoother/more polite way of ending a chat.", "how to bring a conversation to a close without being too abrupt When I'm chatting with someone but have other stuff to do, and want to make an exit, I usually wait for a suitable pause and then say, \"Anyway...\" and kind of leave it hanging as I walk away. I've noticed this is a bit of a habit, and was wondering if there's a smoother/more polite way of ending a chat.", "how to bring a conversation to a close without being too abrupt When I'm chatting with someone but have other stuff to do, and want to make an exit, I usually wait for a suitable pause and then say, \"Anyway...\" and kind of leave it hanging as I walk away. I've noticed this is a bit of a habit, and was wondering if there's a smoother/more polite way of ending a chat.", "how to bring a conversation to a close without being too abrupt When I'm chatting with someone but have other stuff to do, and want to make an exit, I usually wait for a suitable pause and then say, \"Anyway...\" and kind of leave it hanging as I walk away. I've noticed this is a bit of a habit, and was wondering if there's a smoother/more polite way of ending a chat.", "how to bring a conversation to a close without being too abrupt When I'm chatting with someone but have other stuff to do, and want to make an exit, I usually wait for a suitable pause and then say, \"Anyway...\" and kind of leave it hanging as I walk away. I've noticed this is a bit of a habit, and was wondering if there's a smoother/more polite way of ending a chat.", "how to bring a conversation to a close without being too abrupt When I'm chatting with someone but have other stuff to do, and want to make an exit, I usually wait for a suitable pause and then say, \"Anyway...\" and kind of leave it hanging as I walk away. I've noticed this is a bit of a habit, and was wondering if there's a smoother/more polite way of ending a chat." ]

[ "\"One more thing before I go...\" will let the person know that you wish to end the conversation soon without abruptly cutting it off right then. ", "Mid conversation: \"OH MY GOD! Is that the time already?!! I'm so sorry I must leave immediately! I completely forgot that you bore the shit out of me.\" ", "\"ok, well I actually have to <whatever you actually have to do> so I need to get going, but... <show appreciation conversation>\" \n\nFor the end there it depends on the context. It might be \"but... it was great catching up! \" or \"but... yeah, I'll send you a text/email with details!\" or \"but.. yeah, that was really helpful, thanks!\" or \"but... yeah, that sounds cool, text/email me the details and we'll talk more later!\" \n", "If it's someone I'm close enough to have exchanged numbers with before, I just say \"well I'll text/call you and let you know of when we should hang out again!\" or if it's more of a stranger something along the lines of \"that's great.. It was nice meeting with you and we'll definitely be in touch!\" *follow up optional ", "I think the reason it's challenging for us in today's culture is because we feel like we always need to have a reason for things.", "For me, the most natural way to end a conversation is by bringing back the subject you started talking about. It naturally sounds like a \"wrap up\". \n" ]

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[ "How can I fix three hole prong outlets when the landlord has painted over them and plugs won't fit anymore? ", "How can I fix three hole prong outlets when the landlord has painted over them and plugs won't fit anymore? ", "How can I fix three hole prong outlets when the landlord has painted over them and plugs won't fit anymore? ", "How can I fix three hole prong outlets when the landlord has painted over them and plugs won't fit anymore? " ]

[ "Replace the socket and go to your landlord with the receipts to get refunded, or get them to fix it and they'll probably end up getting an electrician to do it for 10 times the price.\n\nYou choose depending if you like your landlord or not (also basic electrics is all that's needed to change outlets)", "If it's just painted over, you should be able to just push the plug into the outlet. A coat or two of paint won't stop it.\n\nIf you don't want to do that, you can pick up a grounding adapter at Home Depot for around 99 cents.\n", "grounding adapter or 3 prong plug, but sharpen it with a file, even a nail file, helps to cut through the paint!", "New outlets cost under a dollar at most big box home centers, if you're proficient with handling electricity.\n\nIf not, whine to the landlord.\n\nThough it's possible if this is just the grounding prong, you can drill/clean it out with something. It shouldn't have a charge unless it's mis-wired... though to know that, you need to be proficient with handling electricity." ]

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[ "How to get better at hand writing My handwriting is awful. I always go to fast, making my hand writing sloppy. If i slow down I end up pushing to hard on the pencil and it looks sloppy again. How can I get better at handwriting things?\n\n\n\n", "How to get better at hand writing My handwriting is awful. I always go to fast, making my hand writing sloppy. If i slow down I end up pushing to hard on the pencil and it looks sloppy again. How can I get better at handwriting things?\n\n\n\n", "How to get better at hand writing My handwriting is awful. I always go to fast, making my hand writing sloppy. If i slow down I end up pushing to hard on the pencil and it looks sloppy again. How can I get better at handwriting things?\n\n\n\n", "How to get better at hand writing My handwriting is awful. I always go to fast, making my hand writing sloppy. If i slow down I end up pushing to hard on the pencil and it looks sloppy again. How can I get better at handwriting things?\n\n\n\n" ]

[ "I had really bad handwriting, as well. I improved mine through practice. Write how you want your letters, numbers, etc. to look, even if it is really slow, and keep practicing. You have to create new muscle memory. As you practice, and muscle memory is created, you'll naturally speed up.", "A couple things you could try:\n\n-Try copying random pages of literature, you'll have to go slower, and will perfect your form\n\n-Try different types of pencils/pens/lead. I prefer rollerball pens for cursive, and those green thick bottom click mechanical pencils for writing in print.\n\n-You may need to try different leads, and can buy them online. 2H is standard I believe, I prefer 4B, it's soft enough to where I don't need to push hard and it shows up dark. Here's an article, and the lead in the header image (yellow one) is my all time favorite.\n\n-Grab some ideas from https://m.reddit.com/r/PenmanshipPorn\n\n-Practice makes perfect\n\n", "My son is in the french education system and they only learn cursive handwriting. All their work is hand writing based and it is just practice, practice, practice. They start with loops, curves and shapes then onto letters, words then sentences. This is all done on french lined paper and you can see examples [here](http://www.momes.net/Apprendre/Francais/Ecriture) They are 7 and 10 now and my youngest son writes really well and it looks great. \n(On a side note my 10 year old son's handwriting is like a spider's scrawl and the teacher thinks he might have dysgraphia.)", "I had to alter my handwriting to look \"fancy\" when writing on cakes and stuff, so here's what I did: I made a sort of index, how to form each letter in my own personal way. Every capital letter, lowercase letter, even numbers. If you have a plan for how you want it to look and just keep practicing, it will eventually become natural! I've done this in normal handwriting with a couple of individual letters, it's difficult to remember the change you're trying to make at first, but it gets easier and becomes second nature. " ]

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[ "Ways to avoid straining your back while studying/sitting at a desk a lot. I'm studying a lot for exams at the moment and just feel like whichever way I sit is bad for my back and neck. I guess it would be good to get an ergonomic chair and desk, but haven't been able to afford it (usually I sit at our dining room table or the library but it's not much better there).\n\nI try to take a 5 min walk every hour or so and somestimes I put the paper im reading on books to raise it on one end, so I am less hunched over my table, but it doesn't do much.\n\nDoes anyone have any tricks? :)", "Ways to avoid straining your back while studying/sitting at a desk a lot. I'm studying a lot for exams at the moment and just feel like whichever way I sit is bad for my back and neck. I guess it would be good to get an ergonomic chair and desk, but haven't been able to afford it (usually I sit at our dining room table or the library but it's not much better there).\n\nI try to take a 5 min walk every hour or so and somestimes I put the paper im reading on books to raise it on one end, so I am less hunched over my table, but it doesn't do much.\n\nDoes anyone have any tricks? :)", "Ways to avoid straining your back while studying/sitting at a desk a lot. I'm studying a lot for exams at the moment and just feel like whichever way I sit is bad for my back and neck. I guess it would be good to get an ergonomic chair and desk, but haven't been able to afford it (usually I sit at our dining room table or the library but it's not much better there).\n\nI try to take a 5 min walk every hour or so and somestimes I put the paper im reading on books to raise it on one end, so I am less hunched over my table, but it doesn't do much.\n\nDoes anyone have any tricks? :)", "Ways to avoid straining your back while studying/sitting at a desk a lot. I'm studying a lot for exams at the moment and just feel like whichever way I sit is bad for my back and neck. I guess it would be good to get an ergonomic chair and desk, but haven't been able to afford it (usually I sit at our dining room table or the library but it's not much better there).\n\nI try to take a 5 min walk every hour or so and somestimes I put the paper im reading on books to raise it on one end, so I am less hunched over my table, but it doesn't do much.\n\nDoes anyone have any tricks? :)", "Ways to avoid straining your back while studying/sitting at a desk a lot. I'm studying a lot for exams at the moment and just feel like whichever way I sit is bad for my back and neck. I guess it would be good to get an ergonomic chair and desk, but haven't been able to afford it (usually I sit at our dining room table or the library but it's not much better there).\n\nI try to take a 5 min walk every hour or so and somestimes I put the paper im reading on books to raise it on one end, so I am less hunched over my table, but it doesn't do much.\n\nDoes anyone have any tricks? :)", "Ways to avoid straining your back while studying/sitting at a desk a lot. I'm studying a lot for exams at the moment and just feel like whichever way I sit is bad for my back and neck. I guess it would be good to get an ergonomic chair and desk, but haven't been able to afford it (usually I sit at our dining room table or the library but it's not much better there).\n\nI try to take a 5 min walk every hour or so and somestimes I put the paper im reading on books to raise it on one end, so I am less hunched over my table, but it doesn't do much.\n\nDoes anyone have any tricks? :)" ]

[ "Every hour might not be enough, make it 30 minutes or less. Just get up and walk around for a bit.\n\nApart from that, exercise regularly. Everyone can do a 7 minute workout daily (google it, there are apps available for all devices) and albeit it's a small thing it helps.", "Hell, every fifteen minutes.\n\nAlso, instead of bending in the middle of your back to bend over your books, tilt your pelvis forward and hinge from there, keeping your back straight.\n\n[Also, the cheapest form of ergonomic \"chair\" is also one of the best.](http://media2.onsugar.com/files/2011/11/48/2/192/1922729/0d5e60d96d9586eb_stabilityball.preview.jp) I'm using one right now.", "When my back starts to hurt I realize I was slightly hunched forward.\n\nI just straighten by back up against the back of the chair and I feel fine.\n\nSlowly over time I will go back to the hunching and I repeat the cycle.", "I used to work a desk job and always felt the 25 and 5 rule helped a lot. Sit for 25 minutes, stand for 5. Doesn't have to be exact but it helps. Gets you 10 minutes of not sitting an hour, and for an 8 hour job that equals 80 minutes, not including lunch/breaks/etc. Definitely helped me feel better at work, could easily apply to studying/gaming/etc without breaking the flow too much for quality time with whatever you're doing.\n\nAlso, hydration makes a surprising difference, if you haven't thought about it already try to drink more water.", "Getting a book or laptop stand made a world of difference for me. Having my laptop at eye level made my hunched-over posture better AND made my headaches go away.", "Make sure your shoulders are as low as possible. Lower the height of your arm rests so that they aren't raising your shoulders at all. " ]

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[ "how to avoid the bad smell in a plastic bottle ? I'm using a plastic bottle quite often, and they all start to smell bad after several days. What can I do against it ?", "how to avoid the bad smell in a plastic bottle ? I'm using a plastic bottle quite often, and they all start to smell bad after several days. What can I do against it ?", "how to avoid the bad smell in a plastic bottle ? I'm using a plastic bottle quite often, and they all start to smell bad after several days. What can I do against it ?", "how to avoid the bad smell in a plastic bottle ? I'm using a plastic bottle quite often, and they all start to smell bad after several days. What can I do against it ?", "how to avoid the bad smell in a plastic bottle ? I'm using a plastic bottle quite often, and they all start to smell bad after several days. What can I do against it ?", "how to avoid the bad smell in a plastic bottle ? I'm using a plastic bottle quite often, and they all start to smell bad after several days. What can I do against it ?" ]

[ "Not sure if you are doing this already, but store the bottle and lid separately. Storing the bottle with the lid on will cause it to smell if it isn't completely dry.", "Honestly you're not meant to reuse plastic bottles for very long. That smell is bacteria and you should get rid of the bottle as soon as it smells. This is assuming you're talking about the 6-pack bottles of water/coke/etc you buy at a supermarket, not a sports bottle.", "Put in a small splash of bleach. Fill about 1/3 with water. Shake well. Let sit for 15 min or so, shaking occasionally. Rise.", "If they are disposable bottles, pour the liquid into your mouth instead of putting your lips on the rim. If you're using one of those thick reusable bottles, only fill it with the amount you intend to consume and don't let it sit for more than 24 hours. A nice glass container would be best as no funky tastes will leach into your beverage", "I would assume lemon juice would help with the smell. Or a little bit of white distilled vinegar with water. Shake it up and rinse. \n\n", "I workout alot. So I reuse bottles for protein. Wretched smell if not washed asap after use. I bought a $2 bottle brush and clean mine with dish soap (Dawn), water, and the brush. Rinse thoroughly and store upside down WITHOUT THE CAP. Never store with cap unless completely, 115% dry. Haven't had a bottle stink in years. Also, if using gatorade bottles, for example, I throw them out and replacement them once a month." ]

[ 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Where to find college info without giving out your info online. As someone that never went to college, and isn't very good at Googling things, I find it difficult to find info about costs and understanding the basics of what's required and what to expect at these places. Comparing places and understanding the best unbiased options available is difficult when all the info comes from the colleges websites directly and only after you give a lot of your info out. \n\n", "Where to find college info without giving out your info online. As someone that never went to college, and isn't very good at Googling things, I find it difficult to find info about costs and understanding the basics of what's required and what to expect at these places. Comparing places and understanding the best unbiased options available is difficult when all the info comes from the colleges websites directly and only after you give a lot of your info out. \n\n", "Where to find college info without giving out your info online. As someone that never went to college, and isn't very good at Googling things, I find it difficult to find info about costs and understanding the basics of what's required and what to expect at these places. Comparing places and understanding the best unbiased options available is difficult when all the info comes from the colleges websites directly and only after you give a lot of your info out. \n\n", "Where to find college info without giving out your info online. As someone that never went to college, and isn't very good at Googling things, I find it difficult to find info about costs and understanding the basics of what's required and what to expect at these places. Comparing places and understanding the best unbiased options available is difficult when all the info comes from the colleges websites directly and only after you give a lot of your info out. \n\n", "Where to find college info without giving out your info online. As someone that never went to college, and isn't very good at Googling things, I find it difficult to find info about costs and understanding the basics of what's required and what to expect at these places. Comparing places and understanding the best unbiased options available is difficult when all the info comes from the colleges websites directly and only after you give a lot of your info out. \n\n" ]

[ "Try checking here https://collegescorecard.ed.gov/. \n\nThis gives general info like cost, percentage of graduates, average financial aid (grants), average loans taken out etc. Great for doing research on any universities you are interested in, and for you to weed out the shady universities. \n\nGood luck!!", "Try making an appointment with a local community college advisor. A lot of times they'll talk over options with you, and explain everything. If you have a state college nearby that may work too. \n\nAs for signing up and being barraged with emails and calls - I slightly misspell my name on purpose. That way when I see it misspelled in any mailings or emails, I know I didn't want to hear from them in the first place. It's also interesting to see who sells you info :)", "I'm sorry to hear about your outcome from FAFSA... :( I don't know your personal situation or finance situation, but I wish you the very best. ", "I would do a search specific to what you want to earn a degree in. It would help you narrow down which colleges to look at and keep you focused on where you will live, the costs of living in that area, job prospects , and check out some other venues such as community colleges. You can earn cr", "For Chicagoland area http://ccc.edu has some info. The best way to learn about college however is actually meeting with counselor - while it will not give you unbiased opinion it will tell you any details about studying there." ]

[ 4, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "What is best way to go about getting an exception for a cat when trying to rent a place that doesn't allow cats? ", "What is best way to go about getting an exception for a cat when trying to rent a place that doesn't allow cats? " ]

[ "Talk to your landlord and explain the situation. I am a landlord and do not allow pets in the building. But a tenant asked if he could bring his old cat, and said he keeps her area very clean. I saw no reason to say no to that. \nMost landlords don't allow dogs because tenants tend to not clean up after them in the yard, and sometimes they are very loud. But cats are usually not as big of an issue. \nGood luck!", "Instead of being disingenuous and trying to get it registered as a support animal, ask the landlord if they'd consider letting you have the cat for a small upcharge in rent (known as pet rent) or a one time non-refundable pet fee. There's a good chance they'll agree." ]

[ 3, 3 ]

[ "I have been breathing through my nose at night but when I wake up my throat is always extremely dry I have been breathing through my nose at night but when I wake up my throat is always extremely dry aswell as the back part of my mouth but it goes away completely within half an hour after waking up. I also know I am not dehydrated or anything, anyone know whats happening?", "I have been breathing through my nose at night but when I wake up my throat is always extremely dry I have been breathing through my nose at night but when I wake up my throat is always extremely dry aswell as the back part of my mouth but it goes away completely within half an hour after waking up. I also know I am not dehydrated or anything, anyone know whats happening?" ]

[ "How do you know that your breathing through your nose? I thought the same for a long time. Guess what! I didn't...", "Fill a wide bowl with water and put it on your heater. It will get rid of the dry feeling and put less strain to your throat." ]

[ 2, 1 ]

[ "What simple hobbies or activities can make my 84yo grandma feel less bored? At her age she doesn't consider making new friends and quite rarely calls the few ones she's still in touch with. \nShe lives pretty far away from me (3 hours ride) but her apt is equipped with high speed internet, smart TV, android tablet and vinyl record player. \nIf any of you, internet people, know any simple activities that do not require much attention or physical endurance, I'd be happy to try them.", "What simple hobbies or activities can make my 84yo grandma feel less bored? At her age she doesn't consider making new friends and quite rarely calls the few ones she's still in touch with. \nShe lives pretty far away from me (3 hours ride) but her apt is equipped with high speed internet, smart TV, android tablet and vinyl record player. \nIf any of you, internet people, know any simple activities that do not require much attention or physical endurance, I'd be happy to try them.", "What simple hobbies or activities can make my 84yo grandma feel less bored? At her age she doesn't consider making new friends and quite rarely calls the few ones she's still in touch with. \nShe lives pretty far away from me (3 hours ride) but her apt is equipped with high speed internet, smart TV, android tablet and vinyl record player. \nIf any of you, internet people, know any simple activities that do not require much attention or physical endurance, I'd be happy to try them.", "What simple hobbies or activities can make my 84yo grandma feel less bored? At her age she doesn't consider making new friends and quite rarely calls the few ones she's still in touch with. \nShe lives pretty far away from me (3 hours ride) but her apt is equipped with high speed internet, smart TV, android tablet and vinyl record player. \nIf any of you, internet people, know any simple activities that do not require much attention or physical endurance, I'd be happy to try them.", "What simple hobbies or activities can make my 84yo grandma feel less bored? At her age she doesn't consider making new friends and quite rarely calls the few ones she's still in touch with. \nShe lives pretty far away from me (3 hours ride) but her apt is equipped with high speed internet, smart TV, android tablet and vinyl record player. \nIf any of you, internet people, know any simple activities that do not require much attention or physical endurance, I'd be happy to try them.", "What simple hobbies or activities can make my 84yo grandma feel less bored? At her age she doesn't consider making new friends and quite rarely calls the few ones she's still in touch with. \nShe lives pretty far away from me (3 hours ride) but her apt is equipped with high speed internet, smart TV, android tablet and vinyl record player. \nIf any of you, internet people, know any simple activities that do not require much attention or physical endurance, I'd be happy to try them.", "What simple hobbies or activities can make my 84yo grandma feel less bored? At her age she doesn't consider making new friends and quite rarely calls the few ones she's still in touch with. \nShe lives pretty far away from me (3 hours ride) but her apt is equipped with high speed internet, smart TV, android tablet and vinyl record player. \nIf any of you, internet people, know any simple activities that do not require much attention or physical endurance, I'd be happy to try them." ]

[ "My granny loved cross word puzzles until she got Alzheimer's (they come in large print). Solitaire (online or with actual cards) is one of my elderly mother's favorite past times. Maybe she would like to take up painting. With bad eyesight maybe she could paint big pictures. Books on tape are big with the elderly population at my library.\n\n(You are very sweet to think of your grandmother's happiness.)", "ancestry search. historical authentication searches. playing on the internet looking for relatives. look up things that happened during her life. indoor gardening. musical instrument maybe she would like a small keyboard", "Depends on how sharp she is mentally, and how open minded she is to begin with. I'd start with providing her with a weekly movie or doco to watch, but the more important aspect is following up and seeing what she thought, and engaging meaningfully. Help her rediscover love for music?\nOld people like stories. I think audiobooks and/or podcasts would be an appealing medium, the key is making sure they're set up and know how to use it or periodically going around with a hard drive of good shit.", "If there are neighbors about, my older relatives have a card game night (in their case bridge) but any game would do. Make some decaf coffee, buy a coffee cake, play for hours. Lots of fun and great for keeping connected with other people.", "Show her relavent stoof on the Youtube. My grandma cant get enough preachers and and scary stories that they would never get to hear or see on regular television. If not show her reddit lol 😆\n\n\n", "How about learning / playing some chess? Even just solving puzzles can be super fun and keep you sharp", "Consider purchasing (or making!) a “my life story” journal. They have prompts to get things started, questions to answer, and space for keeping memories. Set aside time to go over the answers, as this can spark so many stories and conversations! Hopefully your grandparent has an activity to keep them meaningfully occupied as well as capturing family history for future generations (including you)." ]

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[ "Please list any kind of tip you have for throwing up below besides the basic “just get it over with” ", "Please list any kind of tip you have for throwing up below besides the basic “just get it over with” ", "Please list any kind of tip you have for throwing up below besides the basic “just get it over with” ", "Please list any kind of tip you have for throwing up below besides the basic “just get it over with” ", "Please list any kind of tip you have for throwing up below besides the basic “just get it over with” ", "Please list any kind of tip you have for throwing up below besides the basic “just get it over with” ", "Please list any kind of tip you have for throwing up below besides the basic “just get it over with” ", "Please list any kind of tip you have for throwing up below besides the basic “just get it over with” ", "Please list any kind of tip you have for throwing up below besides the basic “just get it over with” ", "Please list any kind of tip you have for throwing up below besides the basic “just get it over with” " ]

[ "I'm cautious on giving tips like that, for all I know you could have a major eating disorder and I'd feel pretty shit if I found out I was helping someone with that", "Vernors ginger ale, the medicine of most, if not all, Michigander's. \n\nIf you don't live in Michigan or surrounding states, order some for the future. \n\nSame if you live outside the US.", "If your mouth begins watering it means that you are getting close to actually throwing up. Swallow this spit, it will help protect your throat from the stomach acid that is about to come through.\n\nIf you feel like you need to throw up but just can't quite get there, lay down on your right side. This will make it so that your stomach contents are at the base of the esophagus and have an easier time moving up it. (reverse this tip if you have issues with acid reflux, lay on your left side to put your stomach contents and the esophagus as far from each other as possible.)", "When you're bent over double with the tell-tale stomach cramps, moments before actually throwing up, try and tilt your head upwards a couple of degrees. I find it stops me getting bad headaches doing it and minimises the amount going up the nose.\n\nAlso I find it easier and over quicker if I stand by the toilet and bend over double - why fight gravity?", "Well if you are feeling sick drink a glass or two of orange juice. Even if the thought is repulsive it can make you feel a lot better. Has to be enough though so don’t think a sip will do. Though I can’t claim for sure I think it is likely to do with PH in the stomach and making what is called a buffer solution. This won’t help if you are puking from drinking too much but can help if you are just feeling really shit for example the flu. It doesn’t work every time but more often than not. I didn’t buy it at first but I swear by it and got my entire friend group to admit it works.", "TL;DR Throw up at the evening, not in the morning. \n\nIf your reason for throwing up is too much alcohol, it is far better to do it before you go to sleep. If you throw up in the evening, then calm down, maybe eat something, drink a glass of water and go to sleep. Next morning will be a lot better. \n\nAnytime when you are approaching home and you know you are way too drunk, find some quiet place and put your fingers in your throat and empty your stomach. It'll make the morning much more enjoyable.", "Lots of water. If you’re sick and you know vomiting is inevitable, you’ll be happier with water flushing you out than heaving up bile", "I spent a about 6 months puking once to twice a week, I also grew up around drunks (the two are unrelated.) The best thing is having a glass of water, and a wet wash rag. After that, dont let it go out your nose. \n\n\nDo not brush your teeth afterwards, just swish some water around up in there. If youre really vomiting often, try water with some baking soda, it will save your teeth from being eaten.", "Have cancer\n\nI had six months of chemo when I was 19, threw up hundreds of times\n\nPlus side, I haven't vomited in 15 years (even when I'm hungover and really want to)", "Ez. If it is not yet screwed up with your basic reflexes, stick two fingers to the throat and press down.\nTo aim, try to mix it with a spitting movement and some little headbang in the direction where you want to hit." ]

[ 11, 5, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Odor on Clothes Even After Washing I'm a 24 year old guy who works out fairly regularly. I use arm and hammer detergent with oxi-clean odor fighters. For whatever reason, my clothes can sometimes retain a bit of some kind of odor even after washing. Especially if they sit in the washer for a few hours before drying, or lay in the hamper for a while before being put away, or sit in my wooden clothing drawers for a while (that last one makes them smell kind of sharp/slightly sour). It could be something to do with my sweat/BO (not sure why, must be hormonal because I eat fairly healthy and take care of myself), or something else. \n\nSo my question is, how do I keep my clothes smelling fresh, or just odor free, for days or weeks on end?", "Odor on Clothes Even After Washing I'm a 24 year old guy who works out fairly regularly. I use arm and hammer detergent with oxi-clean odor fighters. For whatever reason, my clothes can sometimes retain a bit of some kind of odor even after washing. Especially if they sit in the washer for a few hours before drying, or lay in the hamper for a while before being put away, or sit in my wooden clothing drawers for a while (that last one makes them smell kind of sharp/slightly sour). It could be something to do with my sweat/BO (not sure why, must be hormonal because I eat fairly healthy and take care of myself), or something else. \n\nSo my question is, how do I keep my clothes smelling fresh, or just odor free, for days or weeks on end?", "Odor on Clothes Even After Washing I'm a 24 year old guy who works out fairly regularly. I use arm and hammer detergent with oxi-clean odor fighters. For whatever reason, my clothes can sometimes retain a bit of some kind of odor even after washing. Especially if they sit in the washer for a few hours before drying, or lay in the hamper for a while before being put away, or sit in my wooden clothing drawers for a while (that last one makes them smell kind of sharp/slightly sour). It could be something to do with my sweat/BO (not sure why, must be hormonal because I eat fairly healthy and take care of myself), or something else. \n\nSo my question is, how do I keep my clothes smelling fresh, or just odor free, for days or weeks on end?", "Odor on Clothes Even After Washing I'm a 24 year old guy who works out fairly regularly. I use arm and hammer detergent with oxi-clean odor fighters. For whatever reason, my clothes can sometimes retain a bit of some kind of odor even after washing. Especially if they sit in the washer for a few hours before drying, or lay in the hamper for a while before being put away, or sit in my wooden clothing drawers for a while (that last one makes them smell kind of sharp/slightly sour). It could be something to do with my sweat/BO (not sure why, must be hormonal because I eat fairly healthy and take care of myself), or something else. \n\nSo my question is, how do I keep my clothes smelling fresh, or just odor free, for days or weeks on end?", "Odor on Clothes Even After Washing I'm a 24 year old guy who works out fairly regularly. I use arm and hammer detergent with oxi-clean odor fighters. For whatever reason, my clothes can sometimes retain a bit of some kind of odor even after washing. Especially if they sit in the washer for a few hours before drying, or lay in the hamper for a while before being put away, or sit in my wooden clothing drawers for a while (that last one makes them smell kind of sharp/slightly sour). It could be something to do with my sweat/BO (not sure why, must be hormonal because I eat fairly healthy and take care of myself), or something else. \n\nSo my question is, how do I keep my clothes smelling fresh, or just odor free, for days or weeks on end?", "Odor on Clothes Even After Washing I'm a 24 year old guy who works out fairly regularly. I use arm and hammer detergent with oxi-clean odor fighters. For whatever reason, my clothes can sometimes retain a bit of some kind of odor even after washing. Especially if they sit in the washer for a few hours before drying, or lay in the hamper for a while before being put away, or sit in my wooden clothing drawers for a while (that last one makes them smell kind of sharp/slightly sour). It could be something to do with my sweat/BO (not sure why, must be hormonal because I eat fairly healthy and take care of myself), or something else. \n\nSo my question is, how do I keep my clothes smelling fresh, or just odor free, for days or weeks on end?", "Odor on Clothes Even After Washing I'm a 24 year old guy who works out fairly regularly. I use arm and hammer detergent with oxi-clean odor fighters. For whatever reason, my clothes can sometimes retain a bit of some kind of odor even after washing. Especially if they sit in the washer for a few hours before drying, or lay in the hamper for a while before being put away, or sit in my wooden clothing drawers for a while (that last one makes them smell kind of sharp/slightly sour). It could be something to do with my sweat/BO (not sure why, must be hormonal because I eat fairly healthy and take care of myself), or something else. \n\nSo my question is, how do I keep my clothes smelling fresh, or just odor free, for days or weeks on end?", "Odor on Clothes Even After Washing I'm a 24 year old guy who works out fairly regularly. I use arm and hammer detergent with oxi-clean odor fighters. For whatever reason, my clothes can sometimes retain a bit of some kind of odor even after washing. Especially if they sit in the washer for a few hours before drying, or lay in the hamper for a while before being put away, or sit in my wooden clothing drawers for a while (that last one makes them smell kind of sharp/slightly sour). It could be something to do with my sweat/BO (not sure why, must be hormonal because I eat fairly healthy and take care of myself), or something else. \n\nSo my question is, how do I keep my clothes smelling fresh, or just odor free, for days or weeks on end?", "Odor on Clothes Even After Washing I'm a 24 year old guy who works out fairly regularly. I use arm and hammer detergent with oxi-clean odor fighters. For whatever reason, my clothes can sometimes retain a bit of some kind of odor even after washing. Especially if they sit in the washer for a few hours before drying, or lay in the hamper for a while before being put away, or sit in my wooden clothing drawers for a while (that last one makes them smell kind of sharp/slightly sour). It could be something to do with my sweat/BO (not sure why, must be hormonal because I eat fairly healthy and take care of myself), or something else. \n\nSo my question is, how do I keep my clothes smelling fresh, or just odor free, for days or weeks on end?", "Odor on Clothes Even After Washing I'm a 24 year old guy who works out fairly regularly. I use arm and hammer detergent with oxi-clean odor fighters. For whatever reason, my clothes can sometimes retain a bit of some kind of odor even after washing. Especially if they sit in the washer for a few hours before drying, or lay in the hamper for a while before being put away, or sit in my wooden clothing drawers for a while (that last one makes them smell kind of sharp/slightly sour). It could be something to do with my sweat/BO (not sure why, must be hormonal because I eat fairly healthy and take care of myself), or something else. \n\nSo my question is, how do I keep my clothes smelling fresh, or just odor free, for days or weeks on end?", "Odor on Clothes Even After Washing I'm a 24 year old guy who works out fairly regularly. I use arm and hammer detergent with oxi-clean odor fighters. For whatever reason, my clothes can sometimes retain a bit of some kind of odor even after washing. Especially if they sit in the washer for a few hours before drying, or lay in the hamper for a while before being put away, or sit in my wooden clothing drawers for a while (that last one makes them smell kind of sharp/slightly sour). It could be something to do with my sweat/BO (not sure why, must be hormonal because I eat fairly healthy and take care of myself), or something else. \n\nSo my question is, how do I keep my clothes smelling fresh, or just odor free, for days or weeks on end?", "Odor on Clothes Even After Washing I'm a 24 year old guy who works out fairly regularly. I use arm and hammer detergent with oxi-clean odor fighters. For whatever reason, my clothes can sometimes retain a bit of some kind of odor even after washing. Especially if they sit in the washer for a few hours before drying, or lay in the hamper for a while before being put away, or sit in my wooden clothing drawers for a while (that last one makes them smell kind of sharp/slightly sour). It could be something to do with my sweat/BO (not sure why, must be hormonal because I eat fairly healthy and take care of myself), or something else. \n\nSo my question is, how do I keep my clothes smelling fresh, or just odor free, for days or weeks on end?", "Odor on Clothes Even After Washing I'm a 24 year old guy who works out fairly regularly. I use arm and hammer detergent with oxi-clean odor fighters. For whatever reason, my clothes can sometimes retain a bit of some kind of odor even after washing. Especially if they sit in the washer for a few hours before drying, or lay in the hamper for a while before being put away, or sit in my wooden clothing drawers for a while (that last one makes them smell kind of sharp/slightly sour). It could be something to do with my sweat/BO (not sure why, must be hormonal because I eat fairly healthy and take care of myself), or something else. \n\nSo my question is, how do I keep my clothes smelling fresh, or just odor free, for days or weeks on end?", "Odor on Clothes Even After Washing I'm a 24 year old guy who works out fairly regularly. I use arm and hammer detergent with oxi-clean odor fighters. For whatever reason, my clothes can sometimes retain a bit of some kind of odor even after washing. Especially if they sit in the washer for a few hours before drying, or lay in the hamper for a while before being put away, or sit in my wooden clothing drawers for a while (that last one makes them smell kind of sharp/slightly sour). It could be something to do with my sweat/BO (not sure why, must be hormonal because I eat fairly healthy and take care of myself), or something else. \n\nSo my question is, how do I keep my clothes smelling fresh, or just odor free, for days or weeks on end?", "Odor on Clothes Even After Washing I'm a 24 year old guy who works out fairly regularly. I use arm and hammer detergent with oxi-clean odor fighters. For whatever reason, my clothes can sometimes retain a bit of some kind of odor even after washing. Especially if they sit in the washer for a few hours before drying, or lay in the hamper for a while before being put away, or sit in my wooden clothing drawers for a while (that last one makes them smell kind of sharp/slightly sour). It could be something to do with my sweat/BO (not sure why, must be hormonal because I eat fairly healthy and take care of myself), or something else. \n\nSo my question is, how do I keep my clothes smelling fresh, or just odor free, for days or weeks on end?", "Odor on Clothes Even After Washing I'm a 24 year old guy who works out fairly regularly. I use arm and hammer detergent with oxi-clean odor fighters. For whatever reason, my clothes can sometimes retain a bit of some kind of odor even after washing. Especially if they sit in the washer for a few hours before drying, or lay in the hamper for a while before being put away, or sit in my wooden clothing drawers for a while (that last one makes them smell kind of sharp/slightly sour). It could be something to do with my sweat/BO (not sure why, must be hormonal because I eat fairly healthy and take care of myself), or something else. \n\nSo my question is, how do I keep my clothes smelling fresh, or just odor free, for days or weeks on end?", "Odor on Clothes Even After Washing I'm a 24 year old guy who works out fairly regularly. I use arm and hammer detergent with oxi-clean odor fighters. For whatever reason, my clothes can sometimes retain a bit of some kind of odor even after washing. Especially if they sit in the washer for a few hours before drying, or lay in the hamper for a while before being put away, or sit in my wooden clothing drawers for a while (that last one makes them smell kind of sharp/slightly sour). It could be something to do with my sweat/BO (not sure why, must be hormonal because I eat fairly healthy and take care of myself), or something else. \n\nSo my question is, how do I keep my clothes smelling fresh, or just odor free, for days or weeks on end?", "Odor on Clothes Even After Washing I'm a 24 year old guy who works out fairly regularly. I use arm and hammer detergent with oxi-clean odor fighters. For whatever reason, my clothes can sometimes retain a bit of some kind of odor even after washing. Especially if they sit in the washer for a few hours before drying, or lay in the hamper for a while before being put away, or sit in my wooden clothing drawers for a while (that last one makes them smell kind of sharp/slightly sour). It could be something to do with my sweat/BO (not sure why, must be hormonal because I eat fairly healthy and take care of myself), or something else. \n\nSo my question is, how do I keep my clothes smelling fresh, or just odor free, for days or weeks on end?", "Odor on Clothes Even After Washing I'm a 24 year old guy who works out fairly regularly. I use arm and hammer detergent with oxi-clean odor fighters. For whatever reason, my clothes can sometimes retain a bit of some kind of odor even after washing. Especially if they sit in the washer for a few hours before drying, or lay in the hamper for a while before being put away, or sit in my wooden clothing drawers for a while (that last one makes them smell kind of sharp/slightly sour). It could be something to do with my sweat/BO (not sure why, must be hormonal because I eat fairly healthy and take care of myself), or something else. \n\nSo my question is, how do I keep my clothes smelling fresh, or just odor free, for days or weeks on end?", "Odor on Clothes Even After Washing I'm a 24 year old guy who works out fairly regularly. I use arm and hammer detergent with oxi-clean odor fighters. For whatever reason, my clothes can sometimes retain a bit of some kind of odor even after washing. Especially if they sit in the washer for a few hours before drying, or lay in the hamper for a while before being put away, or sit in my wooden clothing drawers for a while (that last one makes them smell kind of sharp/slightly sour). It could be something to do with my sweat/BO (not sure why, must be hormonal because I eat fairly healthy and take care of myself), or something else. \n\nSo my question is, how do I keep my clothes smelling fresh, or just odor free, for days or weeks on end?" ]

[ "Don’t let your clothes sit in the washer once they’re done. I don’t think the problem is the product your using, it’s more so how you’re doing it.", "Use white vinegar in place of fabric softener (whether in the dispenser in your washing machine or in a dispensing ball), clean your washing machine on a regular basis (there are tutorials for how to do this with various models), and leave the door of the washing machine open between uses. Also, consider an herb sachet (lavender, sage, etc.) or cedar chunks in your dresser drawers -- they both help keep bugs from gnawing on your clothes and help keep it smelling nice (choose a scent you like, obvs).", "I’m not sure but be sure you are washing your washing machine on a regular basis. Never leave wet clothes in the washer. If you can, leave the door of your washer open in between uses.", "Laundry striping.\n\n", "Leaving wet clothes in a washer to sit can sometimes cause an odor, but it's usually a fairly long time. If you notice an odor directly out of the dryer, I would recommend not leaving them in the washer for so long.\n\nAlso, if your drawers make your clothes smell, you may want to wipe the drawers down with a disinfectant to see if that helps. You could buy something to keep in your drawers as well to absorb odor, but if you only have clean clothes in them, then there really shouldn't be an odor.", "Have you cleaned your washing machine lately? Emptied the lint traps in it? Cleaned the soap dispenser area if it has one?", "Alright. There are 3 things here.\n\n1. Wet clothes mold. Quickly. Move them to the dryer immediately. And be sure they're fully dry from the dryer.\n\n2. You're over-filling your washing machine. They need room for the soap and water to wash them. They ain't clean.\n\n3. Assuming you own the washer/dryer, add an extra rinse cycle.\n\n^(4. YMMV. Get Bounce or a cheaper fabric softener/smelly sheet for the dryer.)", "It might be mold. Someone else said not to leave wet clothes in the washer already, but have you ever washed the washing machine? Weird concept, I know, but the machine gets dirty when water is trapped inside with the door closed. Mold grows. Then you’re just washing your clothes in mold.\n\nThere are commercial cleaning tabs available or you can use the vinegar mix mentioned below by others and a really hot water cycle. The important part is to leave the washer door open to let the inside dry out and prevent mold from reforming", "Is there a particular fabric that gets smellier than the others? Polyesters are notorious for retaining body odors.", "I will put bleach in the washer with every load for a bit until the smell subsides. Like a tiny amount. A cap from a water bottle amount mixed with 12 ounces or so of water and then poured in the load of laundry. Not enough to actually bleach the clothes. It helps a lot. I’ll do all loads for a week or two, stop and then resume if the smells come back.", "I recently got so fed up with the iffy smell on my clean clothes and towels that I researched the crap out of this too.\n\nIf you have a HE/front-loading washing machine, black mold and mildew can build up in the rubber seal AND elsewhere in the machine. \n\nWhat I did:\n- wiped the black mold from the rubber seal (wearing gloves and a mask)\n- made sure the drain hole in gasket wasn't plugged (it was, a nasty slime of mold held together with hair)\n- spray rubber seal with bleach, sit 10-15min, wipe, run cycle on HOT / tub clean. Wiped mold off after bleach cycle loosens it. Repeated at least twice.\n- used washing machine cleaner, twice.\n\nResults: \nNO MORE FUNKY TOWELS!! Never knew I could get the smell out holy hell this was a worthwhile endeavor! \n\nWhat I could have done but didn't (yet):\n- replace the rubber gasket completely ($50ish to replace)\n- dismantle the rest of the washing machine (videos on youtube) and clean the detergent drawer\n\nMaintenance from here on out:\n- wipe the rubber seal dry after the last wash of the day\n- spray a leave-on enzyme/\n- leave the door open (I hang the wiping rag on the door and just wash/dry it in the next load)\n- use powder detergent not liquid (less residue builds up in machine for mold to grow on, I suspect)\n- use enzyme washing machine cleaner (Affresh or similar) monthly\n- run a hot wash / tub clean cycle weekly, ideally with bleach or borax (but not both)\n\nWhat works for getting rid of the smell in clothes even after all this:\n- enzyme cleaner!!! I used baking soda and borax but the smell was still there esp in athletic wear. Can't remember the brand I got but the active ingredient is enzymes to kill the odor-causing bacteria and/or the oils stuck in the fibers that they feed on. \n- Dry clothes in sunlight to sanitize, too", "I have this issue also. I usually use arm and hammer too... but i started using tide pods w odor defense and i think its helping. Its a fresh scent right out of the dryer and stays for days", "I had a similar problem.\n\nMy solution is to add a Milton sterilising tablet to the wash. (Milton tablets are normally used to sterilise babies' bottles). That completely eliminates the smell.", "How do you dry your gear, air dry or a tumble dryer?\nI find with air drying stuff can sometimes smell if it didn't dry fully/quickly enough\nMaybe get some drawer liners if the wood smell is going into your clothes?", "Few thoughts in no specific order:\n\n-\tCould be you need to clean your machine\n-\tDon’t let clothes sit wet, that includes taking off clothes that are excessively sweaty (like after a work out)\n-\tWhat settings are you using on the machine? What detergent are you using, how much?\n-\tDetergent boosters like OxyClean really help clean clothes, and while somewhat expensive, the “flavor crystal” things like Downy Scentsations (I think that’s what they’re called) can really help when you’re one of the people that just has smellier sweat.", "Are your smelly clothes made up of synthetics or synthetic blends? If so, you will never get rid of the smell they retain. Look into clothing made of natural fibers.", "Ammonia breaks down grease and oils extremely well and is safe to wash clothes with. Occasionally washing a soiled load should greatly reduce odor. Clean the washer basin by running an empty extra large load with ammonia as well. Washing machine cleaner is basically Oxy Clean so go to the Dollar Tree and grab a box of powder oxygen cleaner every couple months. Just be sure no to mix a bunch of cleaners, this isn’t a chemistry set.", "Add white vinegar to the load, or use a few drops of zero odor laundry odor eliminator with your detergent. I think you have to get the zero odor online, although walgreens does sell the household spray.", "- always leave the washer lid open when not in use otherwise mildew and whatnot multiplies. \n- if no one else is using the machine, try doing your laundry overnight. let it fill with hot water and detergent then stop the machine. add clothes, let them soak overnight then set the wash in the morning. soaking makes all the difference ime.", "I get sweat stains and the smell too man. You gotta have designated workout shirts. They can be nice ones but only used to workout. That’s what I do anyways. But tight tank tops seem to be immune for me so I go that route now that it’s warmer" ]

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[ "Getting rid of stubborn warts I've used treatments like Dr. Scholl's Freeze Away to no avail. I've probably had these small warts for a year or two now. Any suggestions?", "Getting rid of stubborn warts I've used treatments like Dr. Scholl's Freeze Away to no avail. I've probably had these small warts for a year or two now. Any suggestions?", "Getting rid of stubborn warts I've used treatments like Dr. Scholl's Freeze Away to no avail. I've probably had these small warts for a year or two now. Any suggestions?", "Getting rid of stubborn warts I've used treatments like Dr. Scholl's Freeze Away to no avail. I've probably had these small warts for a year or two now. Any suggestions?", "Getting rid of stubborn warts I've used treatments like Dr. Scholl's Freeze Away to no avail. I've probably had these small warts for a year or two now. Any suggestions?", "Getting rid of stubborn warts I've used treatments like Dr. Scholl's Freeze Away to no avail. I've probably had these small warts for a year or two now. Any suggestions?", "Getting rid of stubborn warts I've used treatments like Dr. Scholl's Freeze Away to no avail. I've probably had these small warts for a year or two now. Any suggestions?", "Getting rid of stubborn warts I've used treatments like Dr. Scholl's Freeze Away to no avail. I've probably had these small warts for a year or two now. Any suggestions?", "Getting rid of stubborn warts I've used treatments like Dr. Scholl's Freeze Away to no avail. I've probably had these small warts for a year or two now. Any suggestions?", "Getting rid of stubborn warts I've used treatments like Dr. Scholl's Freeze Away to no avail. I've probably had these small warts for a year or two now. Any suggestions?", "Getting rid of stubborn warts I've used treatments like Dr. Scholl's Freeze Away to no avail. I've probably had these small warts for a year or two now. Any suggestions?", "Getting rid of stubborn warts I've used treatments like Dr. Scholl's Freeze Away to no avail. I've probably had these small warts for a year or two now. Any suggestions?", "Getting rid of stubborn warts I've used treatments like Dr. Scholl's Freeze Away to no avail. I've probably had these small warts for a year or two now. Any suggestions?", "Getting rid of stubborn warts I've used treatments like Dr. Scholl's Freeze Away to no avail. I've probably had these small warts for a year or two now. Any suggestions?", "Getting rid of stubborn warts I've used treatments like Dr. Scholl's Freeze Away to no avail. I've probably had these small warts for a year or two now. Any suggestions?", "Getting rid of stubborn warts I've used treatments like Dr. Scholl's Freeze Away to no avail. I've probably had these small warts for a year or two now. Any suggestions?" ]

[ "Freezing them is the fastest way to kill them, but warts have a root that grows into you. To kill the wart completely you have to kill the root. A cheap (really cheap) alternative to a doctor's trip is to go to the grocery store and buy some dry ice (1/2 lb = 75 cents), it is relatively as cold as the liquid nitrogen the docs use. Using a hammer, break off a small sliver about the size of a iPod headphone stereo jack. The important part is to get the tip to be exactly the same size as your wart so you don't damage good skin, but completely get the wart. Using a pair of tweezers--hold the sliver on the wart for 20-30 seconds (important). The scab should take a couple days to fall out, but it should will the wart. I did this to one on my knuckle and it hasn't come back in 15 years.", "Make sure whatever you're using on them has enough Salicylic Acid in it, at least 20%, I used bazuka extra strength in the UK, which is 26%.\n\nFile the wart down like crazy, and even if it starts to bleed put on the salicyic acid. Then 12 hours later peel off the hard stuff, then soak it and file it down, and put more salicylic acid on, if you're doing it right this will sting like crazy for 30 seconds or so, then it stops. Cover it in a loose plaster if its under clothes or you want to hide it.\n\nYou can't let it recover between applications, you've got to keep on pounding it with the acid. Do this every day for a week or two, it'll be gone. Just make sure you keep it clean, or things could get messy. By soaking it first you'll be able to tell the difference between the warty tissue and your skin, so you can file away at the warty stuff. \n\nBut if you don't put the acid on for a day or so, you're basically starting back from day 1.\n\nThe other option is to go to the doc and get them to freeze it off, but that isn't actually as good as the way I described , as its still likely to come back. It doesn't hurt much though.", "I've heard duct tape works well, but it did nothing for my warts =/ might be better for you! BTW, only cover the area of the wart; if you cover up anymore it will fuck up your skin for a couple of weeks.", "I used to have one on my foot. I read about icing it for 30 min, then soaking it in warm water for 10 min. and repeat.\nThe cold causes the white blood cells to attack it, then the heat causes the red to race up and heal it.\nI may be off on the scientific part....but my wart has been gone for 10 years.\nI used an upside down bottle of canned air to freeze the shit out of one on my hand, then pealed the blister and callous. wart was gone for a while, but it's back now.\nI haven't tried the Hot/Cold method on it yet.", "Someone else's [LPT: Get rid of plantar's warts](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/pd1fh/lpt_get_rid_of_plantars_wartseasily/), in case you haven't seen it yet.", "I present to you the DIY Wart Gun 3000. I've used this method several times and it works. [here](http://www.instructables.com/id/The-Wart-Freezing-Gun/)\n", "I have also had this problem. People have recommended going to the doctor to get it frozen off; although I haven't been yet, it seems logical. ", "I got rid of my plantar wart by using Tinactin spray. Shake it really good and spray it on. It should leave a thick white powder. Leave it on and let it do its job. It got rid of my wart in 24 hours. Good shit. Can get it at Walmart.", "Apple Cider Vinegar, soak a cotton ball into it, and tape it to your foot with medical tape. Change nightly, remove in the morning. the acid in the vinegar kills the warts. use a ped egg or a pumice stone to gently sand them away (know what I'm sayin') once a week.\n\nworked like a charm for me.", "I used tea tree oil to get rid of them. Applying twice a day with cotton wool ear buds to the warts until the bottle was gone. I had little warts all over my hands and had no idea how to get rid of them, I've used freezing and gaffer for bigger ones but impossible for so many little ones. Tea tree oil is a miracle", "For me and my mother both, freezing & acid didn't work. So instead, the doctor prescribed some sort of stomach medicine or something with the side effect of making the warts go away. You might try talking to your doctor about something like that!", "i had warts on my fingers for years.. unfortunately I can't be of much help as they went away soon after I graduated Uni and the stress was gone.. to be replaced by other stresses", "Just go to a doctor to get it frozen off. I had a horrible plantar's wart and I tried the at home freezing things a few times and it did no good. I went to a dermatologist twice for freezing treatments and when you get it done properly you realize why the at home ones are no good for serious warts. It was a lot faster.", "I have scars from freezing them and it doesn’t look any better than the wart itself. Careful not to go overboard with it", "Freezing works most of the time, however it can be expensive or mean a trip to the doctor. A better option is duct tape. I have removed several small warts with it in the past. The best method for using it was to scrape the wart down first with some sand paper then wrapping the area with tape. Another option which i would not recommend unless as a last resort is to cut the wart off then tape it. For planter warts place tip of a knife in the center and rotate it removing some of the skin, then tape.", "Duct tape done the trick for me. I made another comment about this a while back. I had one on the middle section of one of my fingers, so I just wrapped small strips of tape around it, eventually it just went. Probably took 6 weeks or so. It was only small to begin with though, so that might have helped." ]

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[ "How to survive without a refrigerator So my flatmates are moving out next week, and they are taking their fridge with them. I need to know how I can survive for the next 2 weeks before I move out, currently in the fridge I have: Carrots, broccoli, capsicum,lettuce, bok choi, margarine and mayo. The daily temperature here (New Zealand) is around 25C / 77F. My weekly food budget (1 person) is around $20, as my income is practically non-existent.", "How to survive without a refrigerator So my flatmates are moving out next week, and they are taking their fridge with them. I need to know how I can survive for the next 2 weeks before I move out, currently in the fridge I have: Carrots, broccoli, capsicum,lettuce, bok choi, margarine and mayo. The daily temperature here (New Zealand) is around 25C / 77F. My weekly food budget (1 person) is around $20, as my income is practically non-existent.", "How to survive without a refrigerator So my flatmates are moving out next week, and they are taking their fridge with them. I need to know how I can survive for the next 2 weeks before I move out, currently in the fridge I have: Carrots, broccoli, capsicum,lettuce, bok choi, margarine and mayo. The daily temperature here (New Zealand) is around 25C / 77F. My weekly food budget (1 person) is around $20, as my income is practically non-existent." ]

[ ">currently in the fridge I have: Carrots, broccoli, capsicum,lettuce, bok choi, margarine and mayo. \n\nThe mayo is the only thing that *needs* to be refrigerated. Everything else in your fridge is fine at room temperature for a few days; the fridge lets them keep longer but they're not unsafe at room temperature. I mean it's not like you bought the broccoli out of a fridge dealie like how milk is sold, right?\n\nI don't really understand what you expect from a \"life pro tip\" here. I mean aside from \"LPT: Don't buy perishable food if you have no fridge\", it sounds like you have plenty of time to eat your perishables, and more than enough money for basic poverty food like pasta, peanut butter sandwiches, instant oatmeal, canned whatever, and onions/tomatos. \n\nJust don't prepare so much food that you'll have leftovers and you're good.\n\nIt sounds like /r/frugal might be up your ally.", "Buy a cheap cooler if you don't already have one, or borrow one. In the US, I see styrofoam ones for a couple dollars. Buy a bag of ice every couple days, or if you have a neighbor with a freezer, see if you can bum some ice off of them every once in a while.", "I didn't have power for a month one time due to a really bad hurricane (no not that one...another one). Ice was hard to come by so doing the cooler thing wasn't an option. I ended up going to the grocery store much more, but thankfully it was on my way home. I bought meat that was going to expire soon (usually marked down to pennies on the dollar). Ask your meat man at the grocery what they have for 'daily sales'. I also loaded up on canned goods that were fine to eat right outta the can or could be heated on a camp stove.\n\nCereal and milk in the mornings. Just make sure you buy a small enough container of milk that you can drink it all in a day or two. I did margarine, lettuce, cooked deli slices on bread for lunch. Dinner was the meat or a canned soup. Anything I could cook on a camp stove really." ]

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[ "Data Entry and office ergonomics. I started my first office job today doing data entry. Being in a cubicle for 8 hours doing nothing but typing, I want to make sure I'm doing what I can to stay comfortable and efficient. Not looking for generic office pro tips, mainly looking for tips on how to stay at my best physically and mentally. I can have drink and snacks at my desk, and can pretty much wear whatever I want, so I'm told. What are the best snacks and drinks I should be bringing with me? I don't want to chug soda's all day long or eat a bunch of empty and unhealthy snacks. So far I'm looking at fruit smoothies and trail mix. ", "Data Entry and office ergonomics. I started my first office job today doing data entry. Being in a cubicle for 8 hours doing nothing but typing, I want to make sure I'm doing what I can to stay comfortable and efficient. Not looking for generic office pro tips, mainly looking for tips on how to stay at my best physically and mentally. I can have drink and snacks at my desk, and can pretty much wear whatever I want, so I'm told. What are the best snacks and drinks I should be bringing with me? I don't want to chug soda's all day long or eat a bunch of empty and unhealthy snacks. So far I'm looking at fruit smoothies and trail mix. ", "Data Entry and office ergonomics. I started my first office job today doing data entry. Being in a cubicle for 8 hours doing nothing but typing, I want to make sure I'm doing what I can to stay comfortable and efficient. Not looking for generic office pro tips, mainly looking for tips on how to stay at my best physically and mentally. I can have drink and snacks at my desk, and can pretty much wear whatever I want, so I'm told. What are the best snacks and drinks I should be bringing with me? I don't want to chug soda's all day long or eat a bunch of empty and unhealthy snacks. So far I'm looking at fruit smoothies and trail mix. ", "Data Entry and office ergonomics. I started my first office job today doing data entry. Being in a cubicle for 8 hours doing nothing but typing, I want to make sure I'm doing what I can to stay comfortable and efficient. Not looking for generic office pro tips, mainly looking for tips on how to stay at my best physically and mentally. I can have drink and snacks at my desk, and can pretty much wear whatever I want, so I'm told. What are the best snacks and drinks I should be bringing with me? I don't want to chug soda's all day long or eat a bunch of empty and unhealthy snacks. So far I'm looking at fruit smoothies and trail mix. ", "Data Entry and office ergonomics. I started my first office job today doing data entry. Being in a cubicle for 8 hours doing nothing but typing, I want to make sure I'm doing what I can to stay comfortable and efficient. Not looking for generic office pro tips, mainly looking for tips on how to stay at my best physically and mentally. I can have drink and snacks at my desk, and can pretty much wear whatever I want, so I'm told. What are the best snacks and drinks I should be bringing with me? I don't want to chug soda's all day long or eat a bunch of empty and unhealthy snacks. So far I'm looking at fruit smoothies and trail mix. ", "Data Entry and office ergonomics. I started my first office job today doing data entry. Being in a cubicle for 8 hours doing nothing but typing, I want to make sure I'm doing what I can to stay comfortable and efficient. Not looking for generic office pro tips, mainly looking for tips on how to stay at my best physically and mentally. I can have drink and snacks at my desk, and can pretty much wear whatever I want, so I'm told. What are the best snacks and drinks I should be bringing with me? I don't want to chug soda's all day long or eat a bunch of empty and unhealthy snacks. So far I'm looking at fruit smoothies and trail mix. ", "Data Entry and office ergonomics. I started my first office job today doing data entry. Being in a cubicle for 8 hours doing nothing but typing, I want to make sure I'm doing what I can to stay comfortable and efficient. Not looking for generic office pro tips, mainly looking for tips on how to stay at my best physically and mentally. I can have drink and snacks at my desk, and can pretty much wear whatever I want, so I'm told. What are the best snacks and drinks I should be bringing with me? I don't want to chug soda's all day long or eat a bunch of empty and unhealthy snacks. So far I'm looking at fruit smoothies and trail mix. " ]

[ "Bring a water bottle, fill it up with water as soon as it is empty... You should be peeing every 1-2 hours or else you are dehydrated to a small extent...being hydrated keeps you happy and you work more efficiently... Water is the key to keeping energized and healthy ;) \n\n**TL;DR Water is the shit, drink up**", "You might want to looking into getting an ergonomic keyboard. I prefer the split key one myself. it'll make a big difference to your hands and forearms in the long run.", "Make sure that you take pictures of your loved ones. Something for you to take a peek at every once in a while, it will help when you are feeling like you are trapped in an Itty bitty box. ", "I recently installed [Drive Software](http://drive-software.com/)'s [Atomic Alarm Clock](http://drive-software.com/atomicalarmclock.html) on my computer and have it set to go off every twenty minutes, reminding me to get up and do a handfull of exercises (squats, arm curls, push-ups, etc.). I'm pretty sure that it's bad to sit on my butt all day long, so I like to keep my body working throughout the day. ", "Get up as much as you can. Obviously if you're doing data entry and only data entry, you do stay pretty glued to your seat. But, when you take bathroom breaks, go to a bathroom a bit further away than the main ones (assuming there's more than one bathroom). When taking your 10-15 minute breaks, go for a little walk. Nothing strenuous (unless you want to!), but walk. Make sure you always take your breaks. Don't abuse it, but don't ever take your break/lunch at your desk. Don't let people bother you with work things while you're on your break. Take that time for you. Even if it means you're in the can for 10 whole minutes browsing reddit. \n\nSnack-wise - raisins; granola or granola bars; pretzels and hummus or peanut butter; fresh chopped up veggies like carrots, celery, broccoli, cauliflower, or even olives or pickles; if you like junk food, portion it out. Buy a bag of Cheetos and only pack one serving in a ziploc bag and take that to work, so that's all you eat (versus the whole bag); if you like Oreos, only take two. That way you can work some 'fun' variety into your snack time. Again, assuming you like junk food. \n\nWater is the best way to go. Add some lemon or lime slices, or berries, or something to 'infuse' a different flavor. I've done data entry almost all my life and I gotta tell you, water gets boring. Even the little liquid water additives (Mio, Dasani, etc) are a nice change. Not great to drink a whole bunch of, but if you like diversity in the liquid that goes in your mouth, flavored water is a good way to go.\n\nMake sure you keep good posture. Even if you're tired, don't allow yourself to slouch or become lazy when it comes to sitting and typing. If you're unsure of the 'proper' way to sit at a keyboard, Google it. The last thing you want to do is be sore in the wrists, lower back, etc. Give yourself \"eye breaks\". Don't stare at the computer screen unblinking for hours on end. Look away and focus on other objects in your cubicle for a minute or two. \n\nIf you want to make the cubicle feel less stark and overwhelming as the place you're stuck for 8 hours a day, as someone else mentioned, pictures of loved ones. Photos of places you've been to (or would like to go) that make you feel happy, or if you've got kids (or nephews/nieces), drawings from them. Anything that makes you smile the moment you walk into your cubicle is a good thing to have. Might very well set the pace/mood for the rest of your day. The last time I worked in a cubicle, I brought in a bunch of bright, cheery postcards of cities in Spain I had been to 4 months prior. It wasn't a lot, but it was enough.", "During breaks and lunch, at the very least, stand up. Walk around. Move! Get the blood pumping. Don't get content to say \"break time. Time sit still and get out my lunchbox\". Avoiding driving someplace to get lunch, as this increases your time sitting down. ", "After work, go for a walk or do some kind of physical activity. Try to stay active and don't just sit in front of your computer or TV for another 8 hours." ]

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[ "Trying to find that card online that allows you to pay for subscriptions without giving your actual card number. ", "Trying to find that card online that allows you to pay for subscriptions without giving your actual card number. ", "Trying to find that card online that allows you to pay for subscriptions without giving your actual card number. " ]

[ "Revolut offers virtual cr", "Canada post has one, I know the pay day lenders have them but the fees are not ideal. I think rx sell a reloadable one. It's yellow, I have tonstop by mine today I will look what it's called", "Hello [UbePhaeri](/u/UbePhaeri), thank you for your submission! Unfortunately, it has been removed for the following reason:\n\nYour post is not a life pro tip. Advice is any guidance or recommendation concerning prudent future action. An aphorism is a short clever saying that is intended to express a general truth or a concise statement of a principle.Try r/YouShouldKnow.\n\nIf you would like to appeal this decision [please feel free to contact the moderators here](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FLifeProTips&subject=about%20my%20removed%20submission&message=I%27m%20writing%20to%20you%20about%20the%20following%20submission:%20https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/okk4gc/lpt_request_trying_to_find_that_card_online_that/.%20%0D%0D). Do not repost without explicit permission from the moderators. Make sure you [read the rules](/r/lifeprotips/about/sidebar) before submitting. Thank you!" ]

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[ "Get the campfire smoke smell out of jackets I went camping last weekend and my fleece reeked of campfire smoke. I washed it and let it hang dry, but it still smells. Suggestions?", "Get the campfire smoke smell out of jackets I went camping last weekend and my fleece reeked of campfire smoke. I washed it and let it hang dry, but it still smells. Suggestions?" ]

[ "But dude, that's one of the best smells ever! The smell of campfire smoke imbued in a jacket is seriously satisfying on so many comfy levels.", "I'm not sure how well it works on jackets but if I ever have clothes that reek (smoke included) I hang them out side and let the fresh air/breeze clean em. It shouldn't take longer than a half hour depending on how windy it is. Wind = Happy jlaaj" ]

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[ "Alternatives to using plastic trash bags The whole point of using one is avoiding kitchen waste from smearing or leaking. \n\nSince concerns about marine life impact translated to trash bags made of easily disintegrating material, using them feels pointless now. They leak most of the time anyway.\n\nWhich is why I am looking for alternatives.", "Alternatives to using plastic trash bags The whole point of using one is avoiding kitchen waste from smearing or leaking. \n\nSince concerns about marine life impact translated to trash bags made of easily disintegrating material, using them feels pointless now. They leak most of the time anyway.\n\nWhich is why I am looking for alternatives.", "Alternatives to using plastic trash bags The whole point of using one is avoiding kitchen waste from smearing or leaking. \n\nSince concerns about marine life impact translated to trash bags made of easily disintegrating material, using them feels pointless now. They leak most of the time anyway.\n\nWhich is why I am looking for alternatives.", "Alternatives to using plastic trash bags The whole point of using one is avoiding kitchen waste from smearing or leaking. \n\nSince concerns about marine life impact translated to trash bags made of easily disintegrating material, using them feels pointless now. They leak most of the time anyway.\n\nWhich is why I am looking for alternatives." ]

[ "Use the plastic bags for trash. You don’t really have an alternative other than: Reduce, Reuse, Recycle. Seriously, the best you can do is minimize the waste. The plastic bags shouldn’t be a problem if they are disposed of properly through the waste collection. I reuse the plastic shopping bags for waste. And still have more than I need. The COVID has put a stop on reusable bags at the stores. You can do composting in an apartment. I’m sure there are subreddits for it. Recycling takes care of most of the non-organic stuff, although the markets have suffered due to our inability to keep it clean and separated. \nSome cities have compost collection services.", "Use paper bags to line the trash. Then use newsprint/junk mail to wrap the messy trash. Fun fact: People used to call the newspaper \"fishwrap.\" See, you learned something. But then again my method puts recyclable paper into the landfill.", "Maybe you could make your own some how? Like using wax treated butcher paper? I'm not sure how it would work out, but maybe something out there could work.", "Could you get a small compost bin to put kitchen waste in and empty it frequently into a larger compost?" ]

[ 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Preventing Moisture in bathroom My bathroom is in a old apartment. Not much space and has no fan in it. I've tried putting a fan in it but that doesn't work it still smells musky always. I've heard of hanging charcoal in a bag would that really work? Also I need to be able to keep the door closed because my cat like to pee in there and I don't like that. I really don't want to buy a dehumidifier.\n\n", "Preventing Moisture in bathroom My bathroom is in a old apartment. Not much space and has no fan in it. I've tried putting a fan in it but that doesn't work it still smells musky always. I've heard of hanging charcoal in a bag would that really work? Also I need to be able to keep the door closed because my cat like to pee in there and I don't like that. I really don't want to buy a dehumidifier.\n\n", "Preventing Moisture in bathroom My bathroom is in a old apartment. Not much space and has no fan in it. I've tried putting a fan in it but that doesn't work it still smells musky always. I've heard of hanging charcoal in a bag would that really work? Also I need to be able to keep the door closed because my cat like to pee in there and I don't like that. I really don't want to buy a dehumidifier.\n\n" ]

[ "If you're staying in the apt for a long time the dehumidifier is probably worth it. You can even get some that you can hook a hose to and just have it drain into the floor grate.", "Get a reusable moisture absorber like MoistureSorb. Get the biggest one you can because there will be a lot of moisture for it to take up when you first put it in there.", "I use drying rods. They look like narrow pvc tubes with a plug you put in the wall. They heat up a bit raise the temp of enclosed spaces (closets, bathrooms) but a little bit. " ]

[ 7, 5, 1 ]

[ "How to stay motivated and maintain focus. Hi. :)\n\nSo the reason why I'm asking this, is because I have a wild tendency to go between goals, and never stay on with them. Gain muscle, eat healthier, make music, stay in touch with friends etc... But after two days, sometimes less, I loose all drive and just sorta give up. Ive tried lists, timers, withholding comforts till i achieve goals, to no luck. It ends up feeling like a huge burden, no matter how menial the task.\nI think I need to work on my self discipline, but i have no idea how to go about it. Its affecting my mental health quite a bit, and is just making me feel down since i seem to be not making any progress in my day to day life and not fulfilling what I want to do.", "How to stay motivated and maintain focus. Hi. :)\n\nSo the reason why I'm asking this, is because I have a wild tendency to go between goals, and never stay on with them. Gain muscle, eat healthier, make music, stay in touch with friends etc... But after two days, sometimes less, I loose all drive and just sorta give up. Ive tried lists, timers, withholding comforts till i achieve goals, to no luck. It ends up feeling like a huge burden, no matter how menial the task.\nI think I need to work on my self discipline, but i have no idea how to go about it. Its affecting my mental health quite a bit, and is just making me feel down since i seem to be not making any progress in my day to day life and not fulfilling what I want to do.", "How to stay motivated and maintain focus. Hi. :)\n\nSo the reason why I'm asking this, is because I have a wild tendency to go between goals, and never stay on with them. Gain muscle, eat healthier, make music, stay in touch with friends etc... But after two days, sometimes less, I loose all drive and just sorta give up. Ive tried lists, timers, withholding comforts till i achieve goals, to no luck. It ends up feeling like a huge burden, no matter how menial the task.\nI think I need to work on my self discipline, but i have no idea how to go about it. Its affecting my mental health quite a bit, and is just making me feel down since i seem to be not making any progress in my day to day life and not fulfilling what I want to do.", "How to stay motivated and maintain focus. Hi. :)\n\nSo the reason why I'm asking this, is because I have a wild tendency to go between goals, and never stay on with them. Gain muscle, eat healthier, make music, stay in touch with friends etc... But after two days, sometimes less, I loose all drive and just sorta give up. Ive tried lists, timers, withholding comforts till i achieve goals, to no luck. It ends up feeling like a huge burden, no matter how menial the task.\nI think I need to work on my self discipline, but i have no idea how to go about it. Its affecting my mental health quite a bit, and is just making me feel down since i seem to be not making any progress in my day to day life and not fulfilling what I want to do." ]

[ "I think you need to have smaller more achievable daily goals. I think the reason you feel bad is because you're looking at your goals in a macro sense. Break it down to its micro constituent parts and on a daily level with things that are achievable and you wont feel like you failed because its not AS hard/daunting to accomplish when taken in smaller chunks. I had the SAME issue. Hang in there!", "Reward yourself instead of withholding things. Reward the smallest things, almost to the point of obscurity. Eventually it will just become a habit, and the need to reward yourself will go down. Aim small and build up to large goals, and most importantly don't allow excuse to rule the day.", "Make sure you really care about the goal. Make a goal about something you are passionate about where this goal is a requirement. I want to pick up hot chicks which means I'll have to be in shape. Imagine the end result regularly. Don't say I have to sit down and write today. Imagine your name on a record or you playing your songs in front of a cheering audience. \n\nIf you imagine the end result and it makes you anxious you might be experiencing limiting beliefs from your past. Figure those out and fix them. ", " I would suggest starting with smaller goals. For example, if you're trying to lose 20 pounds, lose 5 first, then continue. Remember to reward yourself even for small progress, that way it feels like you are achieving something, because you are. Staying on track is about recognizing that you need to take time to achieve larger goals, while staying motivated through rewarding smaller ones. Best of luck! " ]

[ 5, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Are there helpful books out there for someone who has been sheltered their whole life? So, I'm supposed to be graduating High school in two months and well I don't feel very prepared because, well, growing up I've always been very sheltered. I haven't really learned many valuable skills throughout my teen years such as cooking, handling money, doing my laundry, being independent, knowing how to converse well with people, asking the right questions and so on. These are things I'm pretty sure I should already know how to do. School doesn't help either. So are there any books, preferably free that I can read and that will help me. They don't have to just be books, even videos can help. Thanks.", "Are there helpful books out there for someone who has been sheltered their whole life? So, I'm supposed to be graduating High school in two months and well I don't feel very prepared because, well, growing up I've always been very sheltered. I haven't really learned many valuable skills throughout my teen years such as cooking, handling money, doing my laundry, being independent, knowing how to converse well with people, asking the right questions and so on. These are things I'm pretty sure I should already know how to do. School doesn't help either. So are there any books, preferably free that I can read and that will help me. They don't have to just be books, even videos can help. Thanks.", "Are there helpful books out there for someone who has been sheltered their whole life? So, I'm supposed to be graduating High school in two months and well I don't feel very prepared because, well, growing up I've always been very sheltered. I haven't really learned many valuable skills throughout my teen years such as cooking, handling money, doing my laundry, being independent, knowing how to converse well with people, asking the right questions and so on. These are things I'm pretty sure I should already know how to do. School doesn't help either. So are there any books, preferably free that I can read and that will help me. They don't have to just be books, even videos can help. Thanks.", "Are there helpful books out there for someone who has been sheltered their whole life? So, I'm supposed to be graduating High school in two months and well I don't feel very prepared because, well, growing up I've always been very sheltered. I haven't really learned many valuable skills throughout my teen years such as cooking, handling money, doing my laundry, being independent, knowing how to converse well with people, asking the right questions and so on. These are things I'm pretty sure I should already know how to do. School doesn't help either. So are there any books, preferably free that I can read and that will help me. They don't have to just be books, even videos can help. Thanks.", "Are there helpful books out there for someone who has been sheltered their whole life? So, I'm supposed to be graduating High school in two months and well I don't feel very prepared because, well, growing up I've always been very sheltered. I haven't really learned many valuable skills throughout my teen years such as cooking, handling money, doing my laundry, being independent, knowing how to converse well with people, asking the right questions and so on. These are things I'm pretty sure I should already know how to do. School doesn't help either. So are there any books, preferably free that I can read and that will help me. They don't have to just be books, even videos can help. Thanks.", "Are there helpful books out there for someone who has been sheltered their whole life? So, I'm supposed to be graduating High school in two months and well I don't feel very prepared because, well, growing up I've always been very sheltered. I haven't really learned many valuable skills throughout my teen years such as cooking, handling money, doing my laundry, being independent, knowing how to converse well with people, asking the right questions and so on. These are things I'm pretty sure I should already know how to do. School doesn't help either. So are there any books, preferably free that I can read and that will help me. They don't have to just be books, even videos can help. Thanks.", "Are there helpful books out there for someone who has been sheltered their whole life? So, I'm supposed to be graduating High school in two months and well I don't feel very prepared because, well, growing up I've always been very sheltered. I haven't really learned many valuable skills throughout my teen years such as cooking, handling money, doing my laundry, being independent, knowing how to converse well with people, asking the right questions and so on. These are things I'm pretty sure I should already know how to do. School doesn't help either. So are there any books, preferably free that I can read and that will help me. They don't have to just be books, even videos can help. Thanks.", "Are there helpful books out there for someone who has been sheltered their whole life? So, I'm supposed to be graduating High school in two months and well I don't feel very prepared because, well, growing up I've always been very sheltered. I haven't really learned many valuable skills throughout my teen years such as cooking, handling money, doing my laundry, being independent, knowing how to converse well with people, asking the right questions and so on. These are things I'm pretty sure I should already know how to do. School doesn't help either. So are there any books, preferably free that I can read and that will help me. They don't have to just be books, even videos can help. Thanks." ]

[ "I was in a very similar situation when I graduated high school, I understand the confusion and overwhelming sense of unpreparedness. I have spent the last 14 years teaching myself basics (proper/frequent hygiene, finances, not ignoring debts, healthy relationships, mental health, etc). Please feel free to reach out if you want, I'll be more than happy to offer advice!\n\nAs far as books or other resources, something I found really helpful starting off was Mint. It's a site that monitors your bank account(s), and can assist with saving and even notifying you if you've overspent in certain categories. There's probably more sites like this, but Mint.com is what I used.\n\nFor cooking, I would definitely encourage watching Chef John videos on you tube (another redditor recommended him as well). \n\nFor car stuff (if anything, just to understand the basics), watch Chris Fixx.\n\nMy one piece of advice is DO NOT GIVE UP. You'll inevitably hit some rough spots and find things frustrating. But you're intelligent enough to recognize and admit you don't know everything and have already begun asking questions. Keep asking questions and keep an open mind.", "I really enjoy Chef Jon and all his videos. They’re funny and simple enough for me to follow. I was where you are when I graduated high school and I muddled through. It’s good you’re aware that you need to learn these things, got a head start. Ask your parents, teachers, friends parents, anybody you like for tips. Ask what their fav easy recipe is. Have somebody show you how to change a tire. How to find and flip breakers in your house, same with the water main. These will all make you way more independent right off the bat.", "How to Win Friends and Influence Others by Dave Carnegie. Book really helps and it’s simple and easy to apply to daily life, you can see a major difference in time when using tips from this book. It deals with communication and how to be a leader in later chapters.", "you don't learn life from a book. you just gotta get out of your comfort zone, cook, get a job, do laundry at home, change tires and oil etc.\n\nyou often gotta ask to learn something, so if you see something you want to know how to do, go up and ask questions, be interested.", "check out - r/financialindependence for financial intelligence\n\nBooks, check out your local library. They usually have a free e-library you can access on your electronic devices.\n\nHere are my book recommendations:\n\nThe Bible - how to treat people, handle money etc. Ecclesiastes is my favorite book\n\nTools of Titans and Tribe of Mentors by Tim Ferris - a lot of great advice here from amazing people from chefs to angel investors etc. Fave chapter is how to say no politely and professionally.\n\nKitchen Confidential by Anthony Bourdain - it got me into cooking and reading more\n\nFight Club by Chuck Palahniuk - how to be a minimalist\n\nyoutube tedtalks\n\nYour Money or Your Life for financial intelligence\n\nThe Art of War or 40 Rules of Power for negotiating or skills when you enter the workforce\n\n1000 places to see before you die - for the travel bug\n\nWorld War Z or the Zombie Survival Guide - how to survive a pandemic", "I wouldn’t worry too much about it. These are not difficult things to learn and you will learn them as you have to do them. That’s how most people learn them, I would think.", "Not free, but the best cook book for beginners. literally tells you how to boil an egg, and everything else.\n\nhttps://www.thriftbooks.com/w/betty-crockers-cookbook_betty-crocker/250202/#isbn=0764560794&idiq=3865835\n\nLearning to do laundry takes five minutes, Make your parent show you today.", "Join the military, that will bring you up to speed pretty quick. You get more out of that than any audiobook or bullshit job or College" ]

[ 6, 5, 4, 3, 1, 1, 0, 0 ]

[ "So the high school i'm in doesn't allow phones, They search whole classes every now then, Thoroughly looking in the backpacks and the students. Where can i hide my phone? PS Other than Underwear cuz phone's too big. ", "So the high school i'm in doesn't allow phones, They search whole classes every now then, Thoroughly looking in the backpacks and the students. Where can i hide my phone? PS Other than Underwear cuz phone's too big. ", "So the high school i'm in doesn't allow phones, They search whole classes every now then, Thoroughly looking in the backpacks and the students. Where can i hide my phone? PS Other than Underwear cuz phone's too big. ", "So the high school i'm in doesn't allow phones, They search whole classes every now then, Thoroughly looking in the backpacks and the students. Where can i hide my phone? PS Other than Underwear cuz phone's too big. " ]

[ "Some thoughts:\n\n1) this is a really weird concept, I’m amazed this actually happens.\n\n2) buy a traveller bag with a hidden pocket, often in the base or back panel of a rucksack.\n\n3) adhere to the rules you can order Uber via your laptop (dull)\n\n4) buy a second hand iPhone 5 and use that for this purpose as plenty small enough to hide in clothes.\n\n", "Reason with your parents they have higher powers than the higher ups. Get them to complain about safety.", "If you are a girl: stash a collection of HUGE maxipads (you know, for periods) in a separate bag in your bag and hide it in there. Most males will not rummage trough those and even with females you have a higer chance of not getting caught. \n\nIf you are a boy you might want to look into medical tools that someone with an allergy might need, such as an EpiPen or asthma inhaler and hide it in the box with it. \n", "Hello [Namoor3](/u/Namoor3), thank you for your submission! Unfortunately, your submission has been removed for the following reason(s):\n\n* Your post is not exactly suited to r/LifeProTips, it would be better in r/unethicallifeprotips \n\n\n\nIf you would like to appeal this decision [please feel free to contact the moderators here](http://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=/r/LifeProTips). Do not repost without explicit permission from the moderators. Make sure you [read the rules](/r/lifeprotips/about/sidebar) before submitting. Thank you!" ]

[ 4, 3, 3, 1 ]

[ "How to prevent snow balls/dreads on your dogs in the winter weather. My shihtzu keeps getting these snow dreads, or snow balls getting all stuck in her foot fur, Today it was really bad, is there anything I can do other than keeping her out of the snow? ", "How to prevent snow balls/dreads on your dogs in the winter weather. My shihtzu keeps getting these snow dreads, or snow balls getting all stuck in her foot fur, Today it was really bad, is there anything I can do other than keeping her out of the snow? ", "How to prevent snow balls/dreads on your dogs in the winter weather. My shihtzu keeps getting these snow dreads, or snow balls getting all stuck in her foot fur, Today it was really bad, is there anything I can do other than keeping her out of the snow? " ]

[ "Get some snow boots and start doing positive association training with them. Put them on the floor, and give her a treat every time she goes up to them. Put one boot on and give her treats then move on to two. Eventually she will have all four boots on with no problem. Finally, start treating when she begins to walk in the boots. This will be a month long process but worth it.", "Trimming her feet down will help a ton. They also make a product called Mushers Balm which is this greasy stuff for dog feet that helps ", "This sounds fairly crazy, but my aunt and I actually made a snowsuit for my dog. On nasty days, he wear is and doggie boots (the kind that are just rubber, they look like small balloons). If he still gets the snowballs, I just melt them with a hair dryer. I can upload a picture of the snowsuit if you'd like." ]

[ 6, 2, 1 ]

[ "Is it ever a good idea to be completely honest when getting rid of a toxic friend? Where do I start? I've been friends with her 4 years. I noticed early on that she deals with a lot of shit in her life, she always seemed to have an absolutely life-ruining problem weighing her down. It took me about 2 years to realize she didn't have a positive impact on my life, but I kept the peace for the other 2 years because I do care about her, but I knew that if/when we drifted apart after college, I would have no desire to reconnect or hang on to her.\n\n**A LOT OF DETAIL THAT DOESN'T REALLY MATTER**\nShe is flakey. She can't accept responsibility when she hurts people. She hurts people often by letting them down consistently. She never apologises to anyone. She puts up walls. She tells me I'm her best friend yet keeps me in the dark about her life while confiding in others (I don't mind if I'm not her confidante, but she has explicitly told me that I'm always the first to know everything in her life, yet I have found out about all the major things in her life by accidentally walking in on conversations with people she insists \"aren't best friends like you\". I don't care if she doesn't want to tell me, but her need to assure me and lie to me insisting the opposite irks me). \n\nShe also has opinions which I find offensive - she says trans* people are \"freaks\" and she says bisexuality doesn't exist. I am bisexual, she doesn't know because she gets so angry and so awful when she talks about it. This goes on to another point, she hears what she wants to hear. A friend of ours knows I'm bi, and wanted to see how she felt about it so he said \"I have a friend who is bi, what do you think of that\" and she argued saying it doesn't exist. A few days later she brought the topic up with me, ranting without giving me a chance to have an input. When I finally spoke, I said something like \"I disagree. People are what they are. Just because you don't understand it doesn't mean it isn't out there\" and she had this expression on like she was thinking more about what to rant about next rather than listening to me, and she continued her rant by saying \"I KNOW! Being bi is not a thing. He just doesn't get it...\"\n\nI was like, this girl thinks I agreed with her just now.\n\n**NON ESSENTIAL PART OVER**\n\nAnyway, rant over. The main thing that I can't deal with anymore is that she is consistently letting me down, I brought it up one time and she deflected all responsibility off herself, and then gave me an \"i'm sorry you feel that way but you're wrong because [excuse]\" apology. If she lets you down, you can't complain because then you're causing drama, and you should let it go. But if you let her down, she will never accept an apology or even an attempt at correcting the offense. I always knew she was like this, because of how she deals with other people, but something happened recently where I let her down without even realizing, and I apologized and tried to fix it and she got aggressive and is not talking to me (she doesn't have to, I agree). I don't think it's worth talking to her about our issues because she will simply turn it around on me. She always says how people always leave her and she would love to know why. But our friend (the one who knows I'm bi) has also grown sick of her and tried to explain to her how she was hurting the friendship, and she responded by cutting him out and saying she's \"not dealing with BS anymore\".\n\nShe's not a bad person. But she's bad for me. She doesn't respect me or value me at all, I'm always there for her but she never is for me.\n\nSince we recently fought, I have 2 options. I could simply not reach out to her and politely avoid her attempts to connect with me. OR I could seize this opportunity to tell her (politely, and non-accusingly) how she has really made me feel. I don't think it would get through to her but it would be a weight off my shoulders. Should i? I'd love to say how I feel, and end it with \"by the way, I'm BI\". But I realize she would get a LOT of criticism all at once which would be hard, and I also don't want to regret it.", "Is it ever a good idea to be completely honest when getting rid of a toxic friend? Where do I start? I've been friends with her 4 years. I noticed early on that she deals with a lot of shit in her life, she always seemed to have an absolutely life-ruining problem weighing her down. It took me about 2 years to realize she didn't have a positive impact on my life, but I kept the peace for the other 2 years because I do care about her, but I knew that if/when we drifted apart after college, I would have no desire to reconnect or hang on to her.\n\n**A LOT OF DETAIL THAT DOESN'T REALLY MATTER**\nShe is flakey. She can't accept responsibility when she hurts people. She hurts people often by letting them down consistently. She never apologises to anyone. She puts up walls. She tells me I'm her best friend yet keeps me in the dark about her life while confiding in others (I don't mind if I'm not her confidante, but she has explicitly told me that I'm always the first to know everything in her life, yet I have found out about all the major things in her life by accidentally walking in on conversations with people she insists \"aren't best friends like you\". I don't care if she doesn't want to tell me, but her need to assure me and lie to me insisting the opposite irks me). \n\nShe also has opinions which I find offensive - she says trans* people are \"freaks\" and she says bisexuality doesn't exist. I am bisexual, she doesn't know because she gets so angry and so awful when she talks about it. This goes on to another point, she hears what she wants to hear. A friend of ours knows I'm bi, and wanted to see how she felt about it so he said \"I have a friend who is bi, what do you think of that\" and she argued saying it doesn't exist. A few days later she brought the topic up with me, ranting without giving me a chance to have an input. When I finally spoke, I said something like \"I disagree. People are what they are. Just because you don't understand it doesn't mean it isn't out there\" and she had this expression on like she was thinking more about what to rant about next rather than listening to me, and she continued her rant by saying \"I KNOW! Being bi is not a thing. He just doesn't get it...\"\n\nI was like, this girl thinks I agreed with her just now.\n\n**NON ESSENTIAL PART OVER**\n\nAnyway, rant over. The main thing that I can't deal with anymore is that she is consistently letting me down, I brought it up one time and she deflected all responsibility off herself, and then gave me an \"i'm sorry you feel that way but you're wrong because [excuse]\" apology. If she lets you down, you can't complain because then you're causing drama, and you should let it go. But if you let her down, she will never accept an apology or even an attempt at correcting the offense. I always knew she was like this, because of how she deals with other people, but something happened recently where I let her down without even realizing, and I apologized and tried to fix it and she got aggressive and is not talking to me (she doesn't have to, I agree). I don't think it's worth talking to her about our issues because she will simply turn it around on me. She always says how people always leave her and she would love to know why. But our friend (the one who knows I'm bi) has also grown sick of her and tried to explain to her how she was hurting the friendship, and she responded by cutting him out and saying she's \"not dealing with BS anymore\".\n\nShe's not a bad person. But she's bad for me. She doesn't respect me or value me at all, I'm always there for her but she never is for me.\n\nSince we recently fought, I have 2 options. I could simply not reach out to her and politely avoid her attempts to connect with me. OR I could seize this opportunity to tell her (politely, and non-accusingly) how she has really made me feel. I don't think it would get through to her but it would be a weight off my shoulders. Should i? I'd love to say how I feel, and end it with \"by the way, I'm BI\". But I realize she would get a LOT of criticism all at once which would be hard, and I also don't want to regret it.", "Is it ever a good idea to be completely honest when getting rid of a toxic friend? Where do I start? I've been friends with her 4 years. I noticed early on that she deals with a lot of shit in her life, she always seemed to have an absolutely life-ruining problem weighing her down. It took me about 2 years to realize she didn't have a positive impact on my life, but I kept the peace for the other 2 years because I do care about her, but I knew that if/when we drifted apart after college, I would have no desire to reconnect or hang on to her.\n\n**A LOT OF DETAIL THAT DOESN'T REALLY MATTER**\nShe is flakey. She can't accept responsibility when she hurts people. She hurts people often by letting them down consistently. She never apologises to anyone. She puts up walls. She tells me I'm her best friend yet keeps me in the dark about her life while confiding in others (I don't mind if I'm not her confidante, but she has explicitly told me that I'm always the first to know everything in her life, yet I have found out about all the major things in her life by accidentally walking in on conversations with people she insists \"aren't best friends like you\". I don't care if she doesn't want to tell me, but her need to assure me and lie to me insisting the opposite irks me). \n\nShe also has opinions which I find offensive - she says trans* people are \"freaks\" and she says bisexuality doesn't exist. I am bisexual, she doesn't know because she gets so angry and so awful when she talks about it. This goes on to another point, she hears what she wants to hear. A friend of ours knows I'm bi, and wanted to see how she felt about it so he said \"I have a friend who is bi, what do you think of that\" and she argued saying it doesn't exist. A few days later she brought the topic up with me, ranting without giving me a chance to have an input. When I finally spoke, I said something like \"I disagree. People are what they are. Just because you don't understand it doesn't mean it isn't out there\" and she had this expression on like she was thinking more about what to rant about next rather than listening to me, and she continued her rant by saying \"I KNOW! Being bi is not a thing. He just doesn't get it...\"\n\nI was like, this girl thinks I agreed with her just now.\n\n**NON ESSENTIAL PART OVER**\n\nAnyway, rant over. The main thing that I can't deal with anymore is that she is consistently letting me down, I brought it up one time and she deflected all responsibility off herself, and then gave me an \"i'm sorry you feel that way but you're wrong because [excuse]\" apology. If she lets you down, you can't complain because then you're causing drama, and you should let it go. But if you let her down, she will never accept an apology or even an attempt at correcting the offense. I always knew she was like this, because of how she deals with other people, but something happened recently where I let her down without even realizing, and I apologized and tried to fix it and she got aggressive and is not talking to me (she doesn't have to, I agree). I don't think it's worth talking to her about our issues because she will simply turn it around on me. She always says how people always leave her and she would love to know why. But our friend (the one who knows I'm bi) has also grown sick of her and tried to explain to her how she was hurting the friendship, and she responded by cutting him out and saying she's \"not dealing with BS anymore\".\n\nShe's not a bad person. But she's bad for me. She doesn't respect me or value me at all, I'm always there for her but she never is for me.\n\nSince we recently fought, I have 2 options. I could simply not reach out to her and politely avoid her attempts to connect with me. OR I could seize this opportunity to tell her (politely, and non-accusingly) how she has really made me feel. I don't think it would get through to her but it would be a weight off my shoulders. Should i? I'd love to say how I feel, and end it with \"by the way, I'm BI\". But I realize she would get a LOT of criticism all at once which would be hard, and I also don't want to regret it.", "Is it ever a good idea to be completely honest when getting rid of a toxic friend? Where do I start? I've been friends with her 4 years. I noticed early on that she deals with a lot of shit in her life, she always seemed to have an absolutely life-ruining problem weighing her down. It took me about 2 years to realize she didn't have a positive impact on my life, but I kept the peace for the other 2 years because I do care about her, but I knew that if/when we drifted apart after college, I would have no desire to reconnect or hang on to her.\n\n**A LOT OF DETAIL THAT DOESN'T REALLY MATTER**\nShe is flakey. She can't accept responsibility when she hurts people. She hurts people often by letting them down consistently. She never apologises to anyone. She puts up walls. She tells me I'm her best friend yet keeps me in the dark about her life while confiding in others (I don't mind if I'm not her confidante, but she has explicitly told me that I'm always the first to know everything in her life, yet I have found out about all the major things in her life by accidentally walking in on conversations with people she insists \"aren't best friends like you\". I don't care if she doesn't want to tell me, but her need to assure me and lie to me insisting the opposite irks me). \n\nShe also has opinions which I find offensive - she says trans* people are \"freaks\" and she says bisexuality doesn't exist. I am bisexual, she doesn't know because she gets so angry and so awful when she talks about it. This goes on to another point, she hears what she wants to hear. A friend of ours knows I'm bi, and wanted to see how she felt about it so he said \"I have a friend who is bi, what do you think of that\" and she argued saying it doesn't exist. A few days later she brought the topic up with me, ranting without giving me a chance to have an input. When I finally spoke, I said something like \"I disagree. People are what they are. Just because you don't understand it doesn't mean it isn't out there\" and she had this expression on like she was thinking more about what to rant about next rather than listening to me, and she continued her rant by saying \"I KNOW! Being bi is not a thing. He just doesn't get it...\"\n\nI was like, this girl thinks I agreed with her just now.\n\n**NON ESSENTIAL PART OVER**\n\nAnyway, rant over. The main thing that I can't deal with anymore is that she is consistently letting me down, I brought it up one time and she deflected all responsibility off herself, and then gave me an \"i'm sorry you feel that way but you're wrong because [excuse]\" apology. If she lets you down, you can't complain because then you're causing drama, and you should let it go. But if you let her down, she will never accept an apology or even an attempt at correcting the offense. I always knew she was like this, because of how she deals with other people, but something happened recently where I let her down without even realizing, and I apologized and tried to fix it and she got aggressive and is not talking to me (she doesn't have to, I agree). I don't think it's worth talking to her about our issues because she will simply turn it around on me. She always says how people always leave her and she would love to know why. But our friend (the one who knows I'm bi) has also grown sick of her and tried to explain to her how she was hurting the friendship, and she responded by cutting him out and saying she's \"not dealing with BS anymore\".\n\nShe's not a bad person. But she's bad for me. She doesn't respect me or value me at all, I'm always there for her but she never is for me.\n\nSince we recently fought, I have 2 options. I could simply not reach out to her and politely avoid her attempts to connect with me. OR I could seize this opportunity to tell her (politely, and non-accusingly) how she has really made me feel. I don't think it would get through to her but it would be a weight off my shoulders. Should i? I'd love to say how I feel, and end it with \"by the way, I'm BI\". But I realize she would get a LOT of criticism all at once which would be hard, and I also don't want to regret it.", "Is it ever a good idea to be completely honest when getting rid of a toxic friend? Where do I start? I've been friends with her 4 years. I noticed early on that she deals with a lot of shit in her life, she always seemed to have an absolutely life-ruining problem weighing her down. It took me about 2 years to realize she didn't have a positive impact on my life, but I kept the peace for the other 2 years because I do care about her, but I knew that if/when we drifted apart after college, I would have no desire to reconnect or hang on to her.\n\n**A LOT OF DETAIL THAT DOESN'T REALLY MATTER**\nShe is flakey. She can't accept responsibility when she hurts people. She hurts people often by letting them down consistently. She never apologises to anyone. She puts up walls. She tells me I'm her best friend yet keeps me in the dark about her life while confiding in others (I don't mind if I'm not her confidante, but she has explicitly told me that I'm always the first to know everything in her life, yet I have found out about all the major things in her life by accidentally walking in on conversations with people she insists \"aren't best friends like you\". I don't care if she doesn't want to tell me, but her need to assure me and lie to me insisting the opposite irks me). \n\nShe also has opinions which I find offensive - she says trans* people are \"freaks\" and she says bisexuality doesn't exist. I am bisexual, she doesn't know because she gets so angry and so awful when she talks about it. This goes on to another point, she hears what she wants to hear. A friend of ours knows I'm bi, and wanted to see how she felt about it so he said \"I have a friend who is bi, what do you think of that\" and she argued saying it doesn't exist. A few days later she brought the topic up with me, ranting without giving me a chance to have an input. When I finally spoke, I said something like \"I disagree. People are what they are. Just because you don't understand it doesn't mean it isn't out there\" and she had this expression on like she was thinking more about what to rant about next rather than listening to me, and she continued her rant by saying \"I KNOW! Being bi is not a thing. He just doesn't get it...\"\n\nI was like, this girl thinks I agreed with her just now.\n\n**NON ESSENTIAL PART OVER**\n\nAnyway, rant over. The main thing that I can't deal with anymore is that she is consistently letting me down, I brought it up one time and she deflected all responsibility off herself, and then gave me an \"i'm sorry you feel that way but you're wrong because [excuse]\" apology. If she lets you down, you can't complain because then you're causing drama, and you should let it go. But if you let her down, she will never accept an apology or even an attempt at correcting the offense. I always knew she was like this, because of how she deals with other people, but something happened recently where I let her down without even realizing, and I apologized and tried to fix it and she got aggressive and is not talking to me (she doesn't have to, I agree). I don't think it's worth talking to her about our issues because she will simply turn it around on me. She always says how people always leave her and she would love to know why. But our friend (the one who knows I'm bi) has also grown sick of her and tried to explain to her how she was hurting the friendship, and she responded by cutting him out and saying she's \"not dealing with BS anymore\".\n\nShe's not a bad person. But she's bad for me. She doesn't respect me or value me at all, I'm always there for her but she never is for me.\n\nSince we recently fought, I have 2 options. I could simply not reach out to her and politely avoid her attempts to connect with me. OR I could seize this opportunity to tell her (politely, and non-accusingly) how she has really made me feel. I don't think it would get through to her but it would be a weight off my shoulders. Should i? I'd love to say how I feel, and end it with \"by the way, I'm BI\". But I realize she would get a LOT of criticism all at once which would be hard, and I also don't want to regret it.", "Is it ever a good idea to be completely honest when getting rid of a toxic friend? Where do I start? I've been friends with her 4 years. I noticed early on that she deals with a lot of shit in her life, she always seemed to have an absolutely life-ruining problem weighing her down. It took me about 2 years to realize she didn't have a positive impact on my life, but I kept the peace for the other 2 years because I do care about her, but I knew that if/when we drifted apart after college, I would have no desire to reconnect or hang on to her.\n\n**A LOT OF DETAIL THAT DOESN'T REALLY MATTER**\nShe is flakey. She can't accept responsibility when she hurts people. She hurts people often by letting them down consistently. She never apologises to anyone. She puts up walls. She tells me I'm her best friend yet keeps me in the dark about her life while confiding in others (I don't mind if I'm not her confidante, but she has explicitly told me that I'm always the first to know everything in her life, yet I have found out about all the major things in her life by accidentally walking in on conversations with people she insists \"aren't best friends like you\". I don't care if she doesn't want to tell me, but her need to assure me and lie to me insisting the opposite irks me). \n\nShe also has opinions which I find offensive - she says trans* people are \"freaks\" and she says bisexuality doesn't exist. I am bisexual, she doesn't know because she gets so angry and so awful when she talks about it. This goes on to another point, she hears what she wants to hear. A friend of ours knows I'm bi, and wanted to see how she felt about it so he said \"I have a friend who is bi, what do you think of that\" and she argued saying it doesn't exist. A few days later she brought the topic up with me, ranting without giving me a chance to have an input. When I finally spoke, I said something like \"I disagree. People are what they are. Just because you don't understand it doesn't mean it isn't out there\" and she had this expression on like she was thinking more about what to rant about next rather than listening to me, and she continued her rant by saying \"I KNOW! Being bi is not a thing. He just doesn't get it...\"\n\nI was like, this girl thinks I agreed with her just now.\n\n**NON ESSENTIAL PART OVER**\n\nAnyway, rant over. The main thing that I can't deal with anymore is that she is consistently letting me down, I brought it up one time and she deflected all responsibility off herself, and then gave me an \"i'm sorry you feel that way but you're wrong because [excuse]\" apology. If she lets you down, you can't complain because then you're causing drama, and you should let it go. But if you let her down, she will never accept an apology or even an attempt at correcting the offense. I always knew she was like this, because of how she deals with other people, but something happened recently where I let her down without even realizing, and I apologized and tried to fix it and she got aggressive and is not talking to me (she doesn't have to, I agree). I don't think it's worth talking to her about our issues because she will simply turn it around on me. She always says how people always leave her and she would love to know why. But our friend (the one who knows I'm bi) has also grown sick of her and tried to explain to her how she was hurting the friendship, and she responded by cutting him out and saying she's \"not dealing with BS anymore\".\n\nShe's not a bad person. But she's bad for me. She doesn't respect me or value me at all, I'm always there for her but she never is for me.\n\nSince we recently fought, I have 2 options. I could simply not reach out to her and politely avoid her attempts to connect with me. OR I could seize this opportunity to tell her (politely, and non-accusingly) how she has really made me feel. I don't think it would get through to her but it would be a weight off my shoulders. Should i? I'd love to say how I feel, and end it with \"by the way, I'm BI\". But I realize she would get a LOT of criticism all at once which would be hard, and I also don't want to regret it.", "Is it ever a good idea to be completely honest when getting rid of a toxic friend? Where do I start? I've been friends with her 4 years. I noticed early on that she deals with a lot of shit in her life, she always seemed to have an absolutely life-ruining problem weighing her down. It took me about 2 years to realize she didn't have a positive impact on my life, but I kept the peace for the other 2 years because I do care about her, but I knew that if/when we drifted apart after college, I would have no desire to reconnect or hang on to her.\n\n**A LOT OF DETAIL THAT DOESN'T REALLY MATTER**\nShe is flakey. She can't accept responsibility when she hurts people. She hurts people often by letting them down consistently. She never apologises to anyone. She puts up walls. She tells me I'm her best friend yet keeps me in the dark about her life while confiding in others (I don't mind if I'm not her confidante, but she has explicitly told me that I'm always the first to know everything in her life, yet I have found out about all the major things in her life by accidentally walking in on conversations with people she insists \"aren't best friends like you\". I don't care if she doesn't want to tell me, but her need to assure me and lie to me insisting the opposite irks me). \n\nShe also has opinions which I find offensive - she says trans* people are \"freaks\" and she says bisexuality doesn't exist. I am bisexual, she doesn't know because she gets so angry and so awful when she talks about it. This goes on to another point, she hears what she wants to hear. A friend of ours knows I'm bi, and wanted to see how she felt about it so he said \"I have a friend who is bi, what do you think of that\" and she argued saying it doesn't exist. A few days later she brought the topic up with me, ranting without giving me a chance to have an input. When I finally spoke, I said something like \"I disagree. People are what they are. Just because you don't understand it doesn't mean it isn't out there\" and she had this expression on like she was thinking more about what to rant about next rather than listening to me, and she continued her rant by saying \"I KNOW! Being bi is not a thing. He just doesn't get it...\"\n\nI was like, this girl thinks I agreed with her just now.\n\n**NON ESSENTIAL PART OVER**\n\nAnyway, rant over. The main thing that I can't deal with anymore is that she is consistently letting me down, I brought it up one time and she deflected all responsibility off herself, and then gave me an \"i'm sorry you feel that way but you're wrong because [excuse]\" apology. If she lets you down, you can't complain because then you're causing drama, and you should let it go. But if you let her down, she will never accept an apology or even an attempt at correcting the offense. I always knew she was like this, because of how she deals with other people, but something happened recently where I let her down without even realizing, and I apologized and tried to fix it and she got aggressive and is not talking to me (she doesn't have to, I agree). I don't think it's worth talking to her about our issues because she will simply turn it around on me. She always says how people always leave her and she would love to know why. But our friend (the one who knows I'm bi) has also grown sick of her and tried to explain to her how she was hurting the friendship, and she responded by cutting him out and saying she's \"not dealing with BS anymore\".\n\nShe's not a bad person. But she's bad for me. She doesn't respect me or value me at all, I'm always there for her but she never is for me.\n\nSince we recently fought, I have 2 options. I could simply not reach out to her and politely avoid her attempts to connect with me. OR I could seize this opportunity to tell her (politely, and non-accusingly) how she has really made me feel. I don't think it would get through to her but it would be a weight off my shoulders. Should i? I'd love to say how I feel, and end it with \"by the way, I'm BI\". But I realize she would get a LOT of criticism all at once which would be hard, and I also don't want to regret it.", "Is it ever a good idea to be completely honest when getting rid of a toxic friend? Where do I start? I've been friends with her 4 years. I noticed early on that she deals with a lot of shit in her life, she always seemed to have an absolutely life-ruining problem weighing her down. It took me about 2 years to realize she didn't have a positive impact on my life, but I kept the peace for the other 2 years because I do care about her, but I knew that if/when we drifted apart after college, I would have no desire to reconnect or hang on to her.\n\n**A LOT OF DETAIL THAT DOESN'T REALLY MATTER**\nShe is flakey. She can't accept responsibility when she hurts people. She hurts people often by letting them down consistently. She never apologises to anyone. She puts up walls. She tells me I'm her best friend yet keeps me in the dark about her life while confiding in others (I don't mind if I'm not her confidante, but she has explicitly told me that I'm always the first to know everything in her life, yet I have found out about all the major things in her life by accidentally walking in on conversations with people she insists \"aren't best friends like you\". I don't care if she doesn't want to tell me, but her need to assure me and lie to me insisting the opposite irks me). \n\nShe also has opinions which I find offensive - she says trans* people are \"freaks\" and she says bisexuality doesn't exist. I am bisexual, she doesn't know because she gets so angry and so awful when she talks about it. This goes on to another point, she hears what she wants to hear. A friend of ours knows I'm bi, and wanted to see how she felt about it so he said \"I have a friend who is bi, what do you think of that\" and she argued saying it doesn't exist. A few days later she brought the topic up with me, ranting without giving me a chance to have an input. When I finally spoke, I said something like \"I disagree. People are what they are. Just because you don't understand it doesn't mean it isn't out there\" and she had this expression on like she was thinking more about what to rant about next rather than listening to me, and she continued her rant by saying \"I KNOW! Being bi is not a thing. He just doesn't get it...\"\n\nI was like, this girl thinks I agreed with her just now.\n\n**NON ESSENTIAL PART OVER**\n\nAnyway, rant over. The main thing that I can't deal with anymore is that she is consistently letting me down, I brought it up one time and she deflected all responsibility off herself, and then gave me an \"i'm sorry you feel that way but you're wrong because [excuse]\" apology. If she lets you down, you can't complain because then you're causing drama, and you should let it go. But if you let her down, she will never accept an apology or even an attempt at correcting the offense. I always knew she was like this, because of how she deals with other people, but something happened recently where I let her down without even realizing, and I apologized and tried to fix it and she got aggressive and is not talking to me (she doesn't have to, I agree). I don't think it's worth talking to her about our issues because she will simply turn it around on me. She always says how people always leave her and she would love to know why. But our friend (the one who knows I'm bi) has also grown sick of her and tried to explain to her how she was hurting the friendship, and she responded by cutting him out and saying she's \"not dealing with BS anymore\".\n\nShe's not a bad person. But she's bad for me. She doesn't respect me or value me at all, I'm always there for her but she never is for me.\n\nSince we recently fought, I have 2 options. I could simply not reach out to her and politely avoid her attempts to connect with me. OR I could seize this opportunity to tell her (politely, and non-accusingly) how she has really made me feel. I don't think it would get through to her but it would be a weight off my shoulders. Should i? I'd love to say how I feel, and end it with \"by the way, I'm BI\". But I realize she would get a LOT of criticism all at once which would be hard, and I also don't want to regret it.", "Is it ever a good idea to be completely honest when getting rid of a toxic friend? Where do I start? I've been friends with her 4 years. I noticed early on that she deals with a lot of shit in her life, she always seemed to have an absolutely life-ruining problem weighing her down. It took me about 2 years to realize she didn't have a positive impact on my life, but I kept the peace for the other 2 years because I do care about her, but I knew that if/when we drifted apart after college, I would have no desire to reconnect or hang on to her.\n\n**A LOT OF DETAIL THAT DOESN'T REALLY MATTER**\nShe is flakey. She can't accept responsibility when she hurts people. She hurts people often by letting them down consistently. She never apologises to anyone. She puts up walls. She tells me I'm her best friend yet keeps me in the dark about her life while confiding in others (I don't mind if I'm not her confidante, but she has explicitly told me that I'm always the first to know everything in her life, yet I have found out about all the major things in her life by accidentally walking in on conversations with people she insists \"aren't best friends like you\". I don't care if she doesn't want to tell me, but her need to assure me and lie to me insisting the opposite irks me). \n\nShe also has opinions which I find offensive - she says trans* people are \"freaks\" and she says bisexuality doesn't exist. I am bisexual, she doesn't know because she gets so angry and so awful when she talks about it. This goes on to another point, she hears what she wants to hear. A friend of ours knows I'm bi, and wanted to see how she felt about it so he said \"I have a friend who is bi, what do you think of that\" and she argued saying it doesn't exist. A few days later she brought the topic up with me, ranting without giving me a chance to have an input. When I finally spoke, I said something like \"I disagree. People are what they are. Just because you don't understand it doesn't mean it isn't out there\" and she had this expression on like she was thinking more about what to rant about next rather than listening to me, and she continued her rant by saying \"I KNOW! Being bi is not a thing. He just doesn't get it...\"\n\nI was like, this girl thinks I agreed with her just now.\n\n**NON ESSENTIAL PART OVER**\n\nAnyway, rant over. The main thing that I can't deal with anymore is that she is consistently letting me down, I brought it up one time and she deflected all responsibility off herself, and then gave me an \"i'm sorry you feel that way but you're wrong because [excuse]\" apology. If she lets you down, you can't complain because then you're causing drama, and you should let it go. But if you let her down, she will never accept an apology or even an attempt at correcting the offense. I always knew she was like this, because of how she deals with other people, but something happened recently where I let her down without even realizing, and I apologized and tried to fix it and she got aggressive and is not talking to me (she doesn't have to, I agree). I don't think it's worth talking to her about our issues because she will simply turn it around on me. She always says how people always leave her and she would love to know why. But our friend (the one who knows I'm bi) has also grown sick of her and tried to explain to her how she was hurting the friendship, and she responded by cutting him out and saying she's \"not dealing with BS anymore\".\n\nShe's not a bad person. But she's bad for me. She doesn't respect me or value me at all, I'm always there for her but she never is for me.\n\nSince we recently fought, I have 2 options. I could simply not reach out to her and politely avoid her attempts to connect with me. OR I could seize this opportunity to tell her (politely, and non-accusingly) how she has really made me feel. I don't think it would get through to her but it would be a weight off my shoulders. Should i? I'd love to say how I feel, and end it with \"by the way, I'm BI\". But I realize she would get a LOT of criticism all at once which would be hard, and I also don't want to regret it." ]

[ "I had a frenemy in my life who was toxic and a gossip. He'd talk about anybody who wasn't around, which means he talk about me when I wasn't around, as I heard from mutual friends. So I slowly withdrew from him over several months then stopped responding to his texts. I occasionally see him when I'm out drinking, but we just say hi, talk sports, then I move on. Even then, I don't tell him anything personal and don't text him.", "She should be aware enough about how her actions have consequences.. you ain't got time for that, nor should you bear the responsibility of teaching her. \n\nSlow fade and be done with her.", "The question I would ask yourself is this - *what is there to gain from this honesty?* You've already decided to cut this person out of your life, and from your description of them I highly doubt they're going to take any criticisms your offer on board, so what would be the goal of giving the criticisms in the first place? What are you trying to achieve?\n\nIf you don't have an answer for that question, or your answer is something based in emotion like \"it would feel good\", then perhaps there is nothing really to gain from it. Doing it just because it will feel good to tell her what you think of her, knowing it is unlikely to affect change, is really just lashing out.", "I'm no relationship counselor or something so just do what you thinks best. \n\nIf she really does not make your life in anyway enjoyable and is a drag down (as it sounds) you should let her go. Even if there are small upsides, and finding a new best friend will be hard (if you considered her that), I think you'll be better off in the long run.\n\nBe tactfully honest. Keep out the responsibility flaking if you so wish, because hearing that when you're used to dumping blame only closes up your ears and makes you want to dump the blame even more (therefore making the rest of your \"speech\" unheard). \n\nTell her about the bi part, and that you don't intend to change her ways, but it isn't pleasant to be around. About that time you let her down, say that you're sorry and that you honestly need chances to be actually forgiven, because that's what best friends do. It's covering each other basically. Mention the time you called her out. Say that that's only *your* opinion, but that she should listen to it. She doesn't have to take the advice, but just listen. If she makes a big deal about inclusion in conversation like \"why didn't anyone tell me about this\", tell her that that's how you feel, and that you just didn't feel she was really all in to your uhh \"best friendship. \n\nFinish it out by telling her that this isn't a personal attack against her, but that you've just been kind of hurt when being around her. If she says \"then why didn't you tell me\", then mention the times you did mention it to her (such as the time you called her out). Let her down gently. It's gonna suck for her to hear this from you, and it's best if you don't say *everything* on your mind, as telling her everything will only make you feel amazing, and her like shit. Complete shit. Be tactful, and don't create resentment. But do be clear that you want her out of her life. Sorry this is kinda a jumble ahaha :I. Also, please for the love of god do this in person. \n\nTLDR: let her down gently. Give clear cut examples (not opinion able ones) and don't scold her on the responsibility flaking. That only creates more resentment. Don't say every little thing you have against her, because that only makes her feel like utter shit and possibly resent you. Say it in person.", "Just never contact the bitch again. Most people forget you exist after a while or at least stop contacting you. Sounds like if you tell her she won't understand anyway.", "I know that friend who can never take responsibility. The problem with them is if you are their friend and never bring it up, they learn in their head \"Oh I can be irresponsible and still maintain this friendship, this must be good behavior\". I'm biased toward the subtle approach. \n\nYou simply stop calling, texting them. Wait for them to want your company, then tell them what's been bothering you in a bite size chunk. Something that they can work on. If they improve, then go from there. If not, then you just again subtly stop doing things with them more and more. \n\nIf you bring up all the shit at once in a real serious 'we need to talk right now' fashion, she'll put her walls up and it may blow up. ", "You've already tried to be rational with her before, and she won't hear it. Trying to be open and honest with her about why you're leaving the friendship will fall on deaf ears too.\n\nSave yourself the time and energy and block her in every way, shape, and form. Get started on your \"new\" life! If she's ever really sorry and ready to change, she'll reach out to you.\n\nMy so called best friend in high school was like that. She'd cycle through all her friends one by one until there was nobody left, and she turned on me for the most trivial things. And then she'd use our \"feud\" to reconnect with her excommunicated friends. I cut ties with her when I saw it unfold that second time when we were in college (over 10 years ago) and I don't miss or regret any of it. Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.\n\nShe messaged me on FB about 5 years ago saying she wasn't mad and we could be friends again (like she did nothing wrong, and she was letting me out of the dog house). I explained how she acted with everyone, and how I could see it coming when it was \"my turn\"; that we're both to old for that kind of teenage melodrama, and her message was worded like she hadn't changed a bit, which I'm not going through that BS ever again. I told her I'd gotten over it long ago, so no hard feelings; we'd be friendly, since we still have several mutual friends and we'd probably run into each other eventually, but we'll never be friends again. She responded and said she understood my point of view, but I somehow doubt it.", "I really like the advice orr250mph, Peakini's, HE_SAY_U_BRADERUNNER and some others provided. I went through a very similar situation. I started distancing myself and she kept pulling me in. Then I ended up calling the person selfish and gave a load of examples and the reply I received was \"I disagree\" with no explanation. We tried to make it work and felt like it could work because I finally let it out, but everything the person said and just made me feel even more mad and proved my point. I distanced myself again and the person became a total jerk (engaged then flaked or made back handed comments). I ended up exploding on the person and told them they had poor character along with some other truths that had not so much to do with our friendship. I could tell I really hurt her feelings and regret doing that since she was going through a hard time with something else of her own doing. I wish I had just told her something nicely and just exited in a clean break. ", "Honestly your friend sounds like I used to be like almost scary the same except for a few things. I had a friend who probably thought the exact same (btw didn't read the whole thing sorry lol so idk if she did anything like bad on purpose) \n\nAnd the way you think sounds like the friend i lost who in my eyes was also toxic because... anyway look i don't think abandoning her is the way to go.\n\nI know you're only looking out for yourself but rather then be a dick say everything you wrote here to her and explain yourself. If you just up and go find an excuse to make her buzz off it will devastate her i assure you.\n\n" ]

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[ "If you knew you were getting offered a promotion tomorrow, how would you prepare? While it's certainly not guaranteed, I definitely want to be as prepared as possible should my hypothesis be correct.\n\nWhat I mainly want to be armed with is a salary figure in-mind to negotiate with...Any advice?", "If you knew you were getting offered a promotion tomorrow, how would you prepare? While it's certainly not guaranteed, I definitely want to be as prepared as possible should my hypothesis be correct.\n\nWhat I mainly want to be armed with is a salary figure in-mind to negotiate with...Any advice?" ]

[ "Dress well. I'm assuming that you already do but even so, make sure your outfit is picked out, pressed, and flawless. Go in humble but ready to work. Have your notebook ready to take notes on the new resoonsibilities, compensation, and report date. Showing up prepared lets them know that you are a risk worth taking and that you are ready for promotion. Research what others have earned in that position and pick a comparable number based on your skills. Do not aim low as you cannot negotiate up from that point. Start fair based on market research. Let us know how it goes. ", "I guess look up what others make for similar work from glass door if its a common job...\n\nThe days of negotiations seem to be fading though. In todays equality world, companies are safest setting salaries and merit raises according to very rigid rules. Negotiation is dangerous, ex. god help them if your a white male that negotiates a salary higher than a minority.\n\nif its a smaller company, YMMV." ]

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[ "how to make a bland room feel more like a home. I recently started renting a room out and it has very bland beige paint, a large window, and only one open wall that's about 10ft wide. Any suggestions on how I can make it feel less bland and more \"warm\" feeling.", "how to make a bland room feel more like a home. I recently started renting a room out and it has very bland beige paint, a large window, and only one open wall that's about 10ft wide. Any suggestions on how I can make it feel less bland and more \"warm\" feeling.", "how to make a bland room feel more like a home. I recently started renting a room out and it has very bland beige paint, a large window, and only one open wall that's about 10ft wide. Any suggestions on how I can make it feel less bland and more \"warm\" feeling.", "how to make a bland room feel more like a home. I recently started renting a room out and it has very bland beige paint, a large window, and only one open wall that's about 10ft wide. Any suggestions on how I can make it feel less bland and more \"warm\" feeling.", "how to make a bland room feel more like a home. I recently started renting a room out and it has very bland beige paint, a large window, and only one open wall that's about 10ft wide. Any suggestions on how I can make it feel less bland and more \"warm\" feeling.", "how to make a bland room feel more like a home. I recently started renting a room out and it has very bland beige paint, a large window, and only one open wall that's about 10ft wide. Any suggestions on how I can make it feel less bland and more \"warm\" feeling.", "how to make a bland room feel more like a home. I recently started renting a room out and it has very bland beige paint, a large window, and only one open wall that's about 10ft wide. Any suggestions on how I can make it feel less bland and more \"warm\" feeling.", "how to make a bland room feel more like a home. I recently started renting a room out and it has very bland beige paint, a large window, and only one open wall that's about 10ft wide. Any suggestions on how I can make it feel less bland and more \"warm\" feeling.", "how to make a bland room feel more like a home. I recently started renting a room out and it has very bland beige paint, a large window, and only one open wall that's about 10ft wide. Any suggestions on how I can make it feel less bland and more \"warm\" feeling.", "how to make a bland room feel more like a home. I recently started renting a room out and it has very bland beige paint, a large window, and only one open wall that's about 10ft wide. Any suggestions on how I can make it feel less bland and more \"warm\" feeling.", "how to make a bland room feel more like a home. I recently started renting a room out and it has very bland beige paint, a large window, and only one open wall that's about 10ft wide. Any suggestions on how I can make it feel less bland and more \"warm\" feeling.", "how to make a bland room feel more like a home. I recently started renting a room out and it has very bland beige paint, a large window, and only one open wall that's about 10ft wide. Any suggestions on how I can make it feel less bland and more \"warm\" feeling.", "how to make a bland room feel more like a home. I recently started renting a room out and it has very bland beige paint, a large window, and only one open wall that's about 10ft wide. Any suggestions on how I can make it feel less bland and more \"warm\" feeling.", "how to make a bland room feel more like a home. I recently started renting a room out and it has very bland beige paint, a large window, and only one open wall that's about 10ft wide. Any suggestions on how I can make it feel less bland and more \"warm\" feeling.", "how to make a bland room feel more like a home. I recently started renting a room out and it has very bland beige paint, a large window, and only one open wall that's about 10ft wide. Any suggestions on how I can make it feel less bland and more \"warm\" feeling.", "how to make a bland room feel more like a home. I recently started renting a room out and it has very bland beige paint, a large window, and only one open wall that's about 10ft wide. Any suggestions on how I can make it feel less bland and more \"warm\" feeling.", "how to make a bland room feel more like a home. I recently started renting a room out and it has very bland beige paint, a large window, and only one open wall that's about 10ft wide. Any suggestions on how I can make it feel less bland and more \"warm\" feeling.", "how to make a bland room feel more like a home. I recently started renting a room out and it has very bland beige paint, a large window, and only one open wall that's about 10ft wide. Any suggestions on how I can make it feel less bland and more \"warm\" feeling.", "how to make a bland room feel more like a home. I recently started renting a room out and it has very bland beige paint, a large window, and only one open wall that's about 10ft wide. Any suggestions on how I can make it feel less bland and more \"warm\" feeling.", "how to make a bland room feel more like a home. I recently started renting a room out and it has very bland beige paint, a large window, and only one open wall that's about 10ft wide. Any suggestions on how I can make it feel less bland and more \"warm\" feeling." ]

[ "Bro, \n\nHit up thrift stores like Goodwill and Salvation Army. Don't go looking for anything specific, just go. Random purchases look awesome as decor.", "Lamps. They make everything cosier. Maybe some nice fairy lights (I like the ones with different coloured balls) if that's your thing. ", "I think it depends on your personal style, but I have tapestries framed with fairy lights and I think it's very cozy!", "See if your landlord will allow you to paint the room. If it is allowed, choose a shade that is a warm neutral tone, but not beige, like a nice grey-green. Better still, find a duvet cover and sheets in an interesting patterned fabric with a color scheme that you really, really like. This will give you a range of colors to pull from to choose all your other soft furnishings and your paint color. A good patterned fabric should feature one relatively neutral tone that isn't too dark. That should become your wall color. Remember, the wall color should never be the star of the show, it is the stage. \n\nLimit your color palette. One thing you can do to unify a room is to decide which colors you don't want to include. I don't use red, blue or purple anywhere in my home, for instance, but yellow, green, orange, white, brown and black are featured throughout. A color that is used sparingly in one room can be used more liberally in another. In a one-room situation, obviously this is not a consideration, but it is something to keep in mind. If you just keep your color story relatively tight, it will give the design more focus based on that attribute alone. \n\nPaint your furniture if you don't like the color. Painted furniture is a good way to add pops of unexpected color. If you love robin's-egg blue but don't want to feature it on a wall, then paint a side table a nice bright shade of it. Make sure you add a few other touches of the color elsewhere in the room, so it doesn't look like a random inclusion. If you love a color, use it pretty often, but make sure you put it where you want the eye to fall—these objects are your stars, and they should take center stage.\n\nYour feature colors should come in objects that are meaningful, impactful, personal, or simply pleasing to you. Anything functional that has to be in the room should be cleverly interpreted in some way to turn it into a feature, or to minimize it so that it doesn't detract from everything else. Also, make sure that you have adequate storage, and make sure that storage doesn't look \"temporary\"—no cinder blocks and planks for shelves. \n\nGo to furniture stores and look at their tableaux. Steal ideas that you like, there are no design cops. You'll end up putting your own spin on it anyhow. ", "Posters/pictures/rugs and if youre a sorority girl line the area between your wall and your ceiling with christmas lights", "Lamps to soften the lighting, an old fashioned blanket, a couple of cushions in a complementary colour, stuff to make it look like you've been there a while and accumulated stuff. End tables for your lamps and bookshelves for all sorts of stuff.\n\nYou can get large canvas prints really cheap online, if you want to brighten up the place and they can be put up easily with sticky strips.", "If you want a classier home look search thrift stores/craigslist for large wall mirrors or a nice big wall clock. They can be pricey, but they really work as a neutral decor. \n\nIf you like to drink, consider getting a stand and place some decanters and glasses on them. The best part about this is, nobody can tell what type you're drinking (it can be a $10 bottle and still look classy as fuck).\n\nLamps are a great way to brighten up a room. If you're looking for cheap, dollar general has a few table lamps that look alright. Also, craigslist is always good.\n\nGet neutral colored throw pillows and blankets to put on your couch. It really just makes it comfy to sit down and binge watch Netflix. \n\nCandles are awesome too, I'd stay away from inscents because they tend to smell like a frat house.\n\nIf you're into reading, maybe place a few of your favorites in plan sight. \n\nAlso, I'd highly recommend buying some storage containers/bins for under your sinks. No matter how careful you are, that bleach will spill or the bug spray can will rust. Seeing as you're renting, you could be liable to replace the cabinet. Plus, organized cabinets are the best cabinets. \n\nRemember that you don't need to buy this stuff all at onces, pick it up as you see it!", "If you have a desk, you can arrange some other furniture around it to make it feel cozier, like a cubicle but homely. Also, put furniture near the window that you'll use often (chair, couch, desk) to have natural light. Works like a charm for me", "Buy a basket, put folded throw blanket in it. \n\nBuy a bamboo defuser. \n\nHang some art. \n\nBuy a rug. \n\nFurniture, lamps, etc", "Are you allowed to use blu tack, pins or sellotape on the walls?\nIf yes: my top is that you should buy things you like the look of and put them up! For example, I saw some lovely postcards in a bookshop for 1€ each and I have them up. I also put up tickets from films and things that I do, so after time your room becomes a reminder and reflection of your life. \n\nI also have bought from Paperchase (I guess you could get them from another place that sells them) some large sheets of wrapping paper, not in a roll but just one sheet. I bought 4, 2 of each design, and put them up on the wall which looks simple and elegant, but is also cheap. I'd add a picture because it's hard to describe, but reddit ¯\\_(ツ)_/¯\n\nIf you're not able to put things up using conventional means, that doesn't mean you can't decorate. \n\nFor example, in my room in halls in first year of uni, I hung a scarf over the frame of the mirror, because I couldn't do anything that would leave a mark. Also, if that is the policy, you can still sellotape or blutack things to wooden/ plastic/ metal furniture, such as the doors of your wardrobe. \n\nI've also seen people hanging fairy lights, or you could tie a rope or piece of string between two points (bookshelf and curtain rail?) and then have some photos, postcards, or other things you like pegged onto it. \n\nAnother nice thing to do is to have out, for example on a desk, a nice candle or incense or those scent diffuser things or potpourri, something that makes your place smell nice when you come home, and you can associate that scent with being at home.\n\nAlso make sure you have either a nice duvet cover and pillow set - a nice pattern, pretty colours, an elegant monochrome - or a throw blanket, or some nice cushions with pictures, quotes etc. A blanket is really cosy and useful for many situations, cushions are great for when you have friends over, and in general it makes your bed look like a cosy place to be, and the bed is the focal point of the bedroom :) \n\nSomething else that looks cool is, if you have a high shelf you won't use for much or whatever, you can put a collection of washed out bottles up there. I think it looks cool, like bottles with interesting shapes or markings. \n\nPlants too! Plants liven up a room :)\n\nAnd no matter what, it's ALWAYS a good idea to shelve your books beautifully. (unless you don't have any...which I guess...might be possible?)", "What's your budget? If you shop clean dance racks (I typically don't have patience for thrift stores, but those are an option as well) you can get a nice look for under $100. $150 is better if you have it. \n\nI'd go for a pair of curtains, a rug (try Rugs USA online) a lamp and a piece of art or something for over your bed. You can add more things or better furniture as time goes on. \n\nStart by choosing your color palette or a style you like. Want to stick with whites? Or blues? Scandinavian, modern or traditional? This something you need to know before you begin shopping. \n\nI have a few clients that are interior designers, so I spend way too much time writing advice columns on interiors. Try looking at apartment therapy for design inspiration as well. ", "Think about sounds and scents. A small water fountain, white noise. Candles, incense, air freshener. Lamp with a dimmer switch. ", "See if you can decoratie anything. Ask if you can take, or buy a replica of, a piece of furniture from where you used to live. (Just a chair or desk can work wonders). In small rooms, posters or maps look great. Mount a chalkboard on the door (functional and fun). Paint a wall. Filled bookshelves look awesome - if you can't nail some shelves to the walls, use a structure that resembles a basketball goalpost (dunno what it's called). It's easy to make and you can set it up behind a bed or desk without trouble. Just use your imagination. :/", "Large heart shaped bed on lazy susan platter. Tape reflective mylar to the cieling over the bed. Giant hi-fi that reveals itself as a bar at the push of a button. Have a disco ball and music system that operates with a clapper switch. Marvin Gaye works.", "I print off pictures at work on A3 paper that I find on Reddit, and stick them on the walls with Blutac.", "Figure out your colour scheme for the room - pick like 2-3 colours, nothing too crazy flamboyant. Neutral colours pretty much work with everything (within reason), so if you have a beige wall, figure out 1 or 2 other colours that more or less match it and try to keep your decorations within that colour scheme. The main room in my last apartment was light grey, the kitchen was burnt orange (not the bets colour, but I picked it to detract from my ugly-ass tile) and bathroom/bedroom were both blue. Larger items were darker greys and black/browns (combo of items I already had and a couch I had bought afterwards), and orange was the accent (cushions, a candle, my mom went a little overboard with orange stuff as gifts).\n\nIf the window doesn't have one, get a covering. I had a pull-down sheer blind in my last place that dulled the light (basically just so it wouldn't shine on my tv), but still left the room fairly bright and open. A coloured or patterned valance or curtains also dresses up the window, and can usually be put on with out without a blind.\n\nEveryone in the comments is shouting \"POSTERS PUT UP POSTERS.\" If you pin up movie and band posters with thumbtacks or tape, you'll look like you're a teenager living with your parents. Get a couple interesting-looking posters and put them in frames (I used to have [this Bullett poster](http://i.imgur.com/uMxuH15.jpg), and a classic Godzilla poster with a similar colour scheme framed and up on the wall, looked great). Ikea sells simple black poster frames for next to nothing. \n\nMirrors also help make a room look a bit larger, and bounce light around a bit to brighten them up. If you're planning on having girls over ever, get a larger mirror to hang on the wall so they can see their entire outfit.\n", "As far as I understand you are letting this room? Please don't go overboard with decorating. I once rented a room that was filled with figurines and votive candles and whatnots on every surface. No space for me to put up my own stuff. Not nice.\n\nNice room features:\n\nCurtains, bed spread and possibly a rug that are fairly colour coordinated. At least not wildly clashing.\nA bedside lamp and maybe one more free standing lamp so you can change the lightning of the room a bit.\nGood storage for clothes.", "A few plants.\n\nA rug (warm colors.)\nA lamp (don't use overhead lights, they are harsh.)\n\nCandles n' shit like that if you're into that (i totally am.)\n\nA framed picture for the wall.\n", "Curtains, paintings, rug. This isn't a very hard question and I bet if you thought for five seconds you could have come up with the exact answer everyone is going to give you... Seriously though, have you thought about seeking therapy, or contacting the authorities? I think you need to start thinking about getting out.", "http://lmgtfy.com/?q=make+a+room+more+cozy\n\nseriously, man, do you need reddit to make all your decisions for you? " ]

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[ "Need advice for my future career path. Hello, im in college with a history major and linguistics minor and am going to be taking cyber security classes on the side. I love history and linguistics but i cant seem to find any jobs that are actually worth doing due to how poorly they pay, because of that decided to take cybersecurity classes on the side so i can have a higher paying job. The only issue is idrk if it is sometime i would truly want to do, as well as im planning to move to Germany and idk the wage differences and how in demand each are between the two paths in the EU, and I would also be ok with a lower wage job but i want to travel a lot for fun and i cant travel much if i don't have that good of a wage. Not saying i don't want to but i just don't know since i haven't started yet. What is something i could do with a history major and linguistics minor that pays well that you know of and do you think it would be smart to do a cybersecurity class or should i just drop it?", "Need advice for my future career path. Hello, im in college with a history major and linguistics minor and am going to be taking cyber security classes on the side. I love history and linguistics but i cant seem to find any jobs that are actually worth doing due to how poorly they pay, because of that decided to take cybersecurity classes on the side so i can have a higher paying job. The only issue is idrk if it is sometime i would truly want to do, as well as im planning to move to Germany and idk the wage differences and how in demand each are between the two paths in the EU, and I would also be ok with a lower wage job but i want to travel a lot for fun and i cant travel much if i don't have that good of a wage. Not saying i don't want to but i just don't know since i haven't started yet. What is something i could do with a history major and linguistics minor that pays well that you know of and do you think it would be smart to do a cybersecurity class or should i just drop it?", "Need advice for my future career path. Hello, im in college with a history major and linguistics minor and am going to be taking cyber security classes on the side. I love history and linguistics but i cant seem to find any jobs that are actually worth doing due to how poorly they pay, because of that decided to take cybersecurity classes on the side so i can have a higher paying job. The only issue is idrk if it is sometime i would truly want to do, as well as im planning to move to Germany and idk the wage differences and how in demand each are between the two paths in the EU, and I would also be ok with a lower wage job but i want to travel a lot for fun and i cant travel much if i don't have that good of a wage. Not saying i don't want to but i just don't know since i haven't started yet. What is something i could do with a history major and linguistics minor that pays well that you know of and do you think it would be smart to do a cybersecurity class or should i just drop it?" ]

[ "You’re at the “lost in a sea of choices” stage of life. Pick something you have aptitude in, you enjoy, and can get paid for. 2/3 is good enough. Get some experience and commit to a career for a while. Nothing wrong with changing partway through and in many cases prior experiences will make you even more valuable in a new field.\n\nBe a GOAT and Quack like a duck and just do something, anything.", "You could go into intelligence. Going the military route, you could navigate your career from there, and you could have a good chance of being stationed in Germany in requesting for that initial duty station.", "Tech will always be easier to get a job and have a good pay. Don't fall for how people try and romanticize the idea of \"seek your dream job\", at the end of the day you're selling time for money, and you'll never work on something you really want, just doing what you're told. As long as it's something you're ok doing, go for the easy route. You'll be a lot happier if you're not worried about not finding a job and getting good compensation, because to a certain point, money does buy happiness, don't let anyone fool you otherwise. Best of luck!" ]

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[ "How to make 200$ on a Sunday Long story short, this student hasn't been able to get all his rent money together, is currently a week overdue, and needs to get 200$ to make the difference by tomorrow (Sunday) night, or else I'm on the street.\n\nI have nothing to sell, I can't find any local odd jobs, this is a cash-for-a-room setup, so I don't have any legal recourse to piss off my landlord with (any more than they already are, at least). I'm not currently employed, so I can't even get a payday loan. Family's not an option.\n\nIn Ottawa, Canada, and feeling pretty desperate.", "How to make 200$ on a Sunday Long story short, this student hasn't been able to get all his rent money together, is currently a week overdue, and needs to get 200$ to make the difference by tomorrow (Sunday) night, or else I'm on the street.\n\nI have nothing to sell, I can't find any local odd jobs, this is a cash-for-a-room setup, so I don't have any legal recourse to piss off my landlord with (any more than they already are, at least). I'm not currently employed, so I can't even get a payday loan. Family's not an option.\n\nIn Ottawa, Canada, and feeling pretty desperate.", "How to make 200$ on a Sunday Long story short, this student hasn't been able to get all his rent money together, is currently a week overdue, and needs to get 200$ to make the difference by tomorrow (Sunday) night, or else I'm on the street.\n\nI have nothing to sell, I can't find any local odd jobs, this is a cash-for-a-room setup, so I don't have any legal recourse to piss off my landlord with (any more than they already are, at least). I'm not currently employed, so I can't even get a payday loan. Family's not an option.\n\nIn Ottawa, Canada, and feeling pretty desperate.", "How to make 200$ on a Sunday Long story short, this student hasn't been able to get all his rent money together, is currently a week overdue, and needs to get 200$ to make the difference by tomorrow (Sunday) night, or else I'm on the street.\n\nI have nothing to sell, I can't find any local odd jobs, this is a cash-for-a-room setup, so I don't have any legal recourse to piss off my landlord with (any more than they already are, at least). I'm not currently employed, so I can't even get a payday loan. Family's not an option.\n\nIn Ottawa, Canada, and feeling pretty desperate.", "How to make 200$ on a Sunday Long story short, this student hasn't been able to get all his rent money together, is currently a week overdue, and needs to get 200$ to make the difference by tomorrow (Sunday) night, or else I'm on the street.\n\nI have nothing to sell, I can't find any local odd jobs, this is a cash-for-a-room setup, so I don't have any legal recourse to piss off my landlord with (any more than they already are, at least). I'm not currently employed, so I can't even get a payday loan. Family's not an option.\n\nIn Ottawa, Canada, and feeling pretty desperate." ]

[ "Your landlord will put you on the street for that? Are you sure? I'm not familiar with Canadian law, but here there are protections in place to keep renters from suddenly becoming homeless.\n\nYou might try paying what you do have, reaching out to let him know you're not trying to skip out on rent, and are genuinely having a tough time. Maybe he'll understand.", "Start looking for Day labor companies. They usually require you to get there early in the morning and the assign jobs for the day. Labor Ready is a popular chain here in the US. Look up day labor gigs. ", "Get on Craigslist tonight and look at all the odd jobs, also dog walking, seriously, could be an option. Post your situation too, maybe someone needs help with moving. Good luck to you!", "Yeah, sounds like the best thing would be to try to sell things on Craigslist or garage sale and sell plasma. \n\nIf you have a cr", "Start looking for a roommate asap. Short gigs are only a quick fix. Roommate is a long term solution." ]

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[ "tips for unexpected death of family members when you're a head of household THREE middle aged spouses of friends passed unexpectedly in the last 2 years (2 accidents, 1 heart attack). I can't imagine trying to navigate all that is necessary when you are so crushed by sudden grief that you can't even eat or sleep. What are some (non-coping/self-care) tips to make this time easier? One was told by a funeral director to order 10 death certificates right away. Sounds like a good funeral director is a valuable resource.", "tips for unexpected death of family members when you're a head of household THREE middle aged spouses of friends passed unexpectedly in the last 2 years (2 accidents, 1 heart attack). I can't imagine trying to navigate all that is necessary when you are so crushed by sudden grief that you can't even eat or sleep. What are some (non-coping/self-care) tips to make this time easier? One was told by a funeral director to order 10 death certificates right away. Sounds like a good funeral director is a valuable resource.", "tips for unexpected death of family members when you're a head of household THREE middle aged spouses of friends passed unexpectedly in the last 2 years (2 accidents, 1 heart attack). I can't imagine trying to navigate all that is necessary when you are so crushed by sudden grief that you can't even eat or sleep. What are some (non-coping/self-care) tips to make this time easier? One was told by a funeral director to order 10 death certificates right away. Sounds like a good funeral director is a valuable resource.", "tips for unexpected death of family members when you're a head of household THREE middle aged spouses of friends passed unexpectedly in the last 2 years (2 accidents, 1 heart attack). I can't imagine trying to navigate all that is necessary when you are so crushed by sudden grief that you can't even eat or sleep. What are some (non-coping/self-care) tips to make this time easier? One was told by a funeral director to order 10 death certificates right away. Sounds like a good funeral director is a valuable resource.", "tips for unexpected death of family members when you're a head of household THREE middle aged spouses of friends passed unexpectedly in the last 2 years (2 accidents, 1 heart attack). I can't imagine trying to navigate all that is necessary when you are so crushed by sudden grief that you can't even eat or sleep. What are some (non-coping/self-care) tips to make this time easier? One was told by a funeral director to order 10 death certificates right away. Sounds like a good funeral director is a valuable resource.", "tips for unexpected death of family members when you're a head of household THREE middle aged spouses of friends passed unexpectedly in the last 2 years (2 accidents, 1 heart attack). I can't imagine trying to navigate all that is necessary when you are so crushed by sudden grief that you can't even eat or sleep. What are some (non-coping/self-care) tips to make this time easier? One was told by a funeral director to order 10 death certificates right away. Sounds like a good funeral director is a valuable resource.", "tips for unexpected death of family members when you're a head of household THREE middle aged spouses of friends passed unexpectedly in the last 2 years (2 accidents, 1 heart attack). I can't imagine trying to navigate all that is necessary when you are so crushed by sudden grief that you can't even eat or sleep. What are some (non-coping/self-care) tips to make this time easier? One was told by a funeral director to order 10 death certificates right away. Sounds like a good funeral director is a valuable resource.", "tips for unexpected death of family members when you're a head of household THREE middle aged spouses of friends passed unexpectedly in the last 2 years (2 accidents, 1 heart attack). I can't imagine trying to navigate all that is necessary when you are so crushed by sudden grief that you can't even eat or sleep. What are some (non-coping/self-care) tips to make this time easier? One was told by a funeral director to order 10 death certificates right away. Sounds like a good funeral director is a valuable resource." ]

[ "Pre-plan, and pre-pay, your funeral. \n\nYou don't want your loved ones having to choose cremation versus burial, buy a urn, or coffin and plot, and all that a funeral entails while they are grieving.", "The biggest thing is: get your wills done by a lawyer before you need them.\n\nThe “by a lawyer” bit is important, because depending on how things are worded, stuff might happen quickly and automatically once the executor kicks off the process, or it could get tied up in government paperwork indefinitely, with the government taking a large cut to sort things out.\n\nThe will doesn’t have to be complicated, but it should be done by a lawyer, notarized, and officially filed. This means that presentation of a death certificate to the filing office will automate the legal changes of ownership.\n\nThink of the accounts that only you or your spouse has signing authority over. If one of you dies, what happens? Same for joint accounts.\n\nBut it all starts with the death certificates. Striking up a relationship with a funeral director or religious director beforehand is also a good idea.", "SO MUCH of the stuff/services they'll try to sell you at a funeral home is optional! If it doesn't comfort the living or wasn't a request of the deceased, you can skip it without guilt.\n\nCollect all the mail, and read every bit of it. Go through wallets/purses and check for cr", "Know where everyone's will is located. Know what their wishes are beforehand (cremation, funeral, burial, etc). If they have a DNR, keep it somewhere readily available incase you need it. If you can't find it, it doesn't exist.\n\nIf you're getting a headstone in spring, be prepared to wait. It's a busy time of the year for that industry.\n\nSaving money after a loved ones death doesn't mean you loved them less. Death is expensive, save where you can. For example, don't buy an urn from the funeral home, they're 10x the cost.", "If you're married with kids (especially if your spouse is your kids' step parent) and you own a home, check the deed to the house. If you want your spouse to have the house outright when you die, the deed type should be \"joint tenants with rights to survivorship.\"\n\nIf you want to avoid probate as much as possible, have beneficiaries/pay on death beneficiaries for all of your bank accounts, life insurance, and investments.\n\nIf you do anything super weird with your will, like leaving everything to your church for example, handwrite your reasoning for that and keep it with the will.\" Sign the letter and have it notarized.\n\nI was a probate lawyer for a year and those three things would have prevented a lot of litigation.", "Don't pay anything right away with the spouses name on it. Call the bill immediately and tell them to send final bill to the estate of, care of... \n\nSelf care stuff? Deal with one thing at a time. One goal, one step.", "My friend’s younger brother passed away about 2 years ago. Adult, but still relatively young. Anyway, what struck me was that his family basically had a plan for who contacts who. Probably pretty useful in case of a medical emergency as well “Brian is in the hospital and might not make it” scenario. So the parents and kids called a couple people in the family and basically directed those people to let further flung relatives know, so they could use the time to concentrate on more immediate things.", "Don't make big decisions regarding your life or large purchases after your loved one passes, for a year, give yourself time to grieve and really think about what you want. Your brain isn't thinking clearly, and you can be unduly influenced. \n\nGo to a weekly grief group meeting, they can be really comforting!" ]

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[ "How to become a better salesman I was recently hired at a resort and it is my job to try and sell vacation packages to random people, both cold and hot calling, but I was wondering what are some good tips or books to read to become a better salesman? \nI am already reading some books on NLP so that is a start I guess", "How to become a better salesman I was recently hired at a resort and it is my job to try and sell vacation packages to random people, both cold and hot calling, but I was wondering what are some good tips or books to read to become a better salesman? \nI am already reading some books on NLP so that is a start I guess", "How to become a better salesman I was recently hired at a resort and it is my job to try and sell vacation packages to random people, both cold and hot calling, but I was wondering what are some good tips or books to read to become a better salesman? \nI am already reading some books on NLP so that is a start I guess", "How to become a better salesman I was recently hired at a resort and it is my job to try and sell vacation packages to random people, both cold and hot calling, but I was wondering what are some good tips or books to read to become a better salesman? \nI am already reading some books on NLP so that is a start I guess", "How to become a better salesman I was recently hired at a resort and it is my job to try and sell vacation packages to random people, both cold and hot calling, but I was wondering what are some good tips or books to read to become a better salesman? \nI am already reading some books on NLP so that is a start I guess", "How to become a better salesman I was recently hired at a resort and it is my job to try and sell vacation packages to random people, both cold and hot calling, but I was wondering what are some good tips or books to read to become a better salesman? \nI am already reading some books on NLP so that is a start I guess", "How to become a better salesman I was recently hired at a resort and it is my job to try and sell vacation packages to random people, both cold and hot calling, but I was wondering what are some good tips or books to read to become a better salesman? \nI am already reading some books on NLP so that is a start I guess", "How to become a better salesman I was recently hired at a resort and it is my job to try and sell vacation packages to random people, both cold and hot calling, but I was wondering what are some good tips or books to read to become a better salesman? \nI am already reading some books on NLP so that is a start I guess", "How to become a better salesman I was recently hired at a resort and it is my job to try and sell vacation packages to random people, both cold and hot calling, but I was wondering what are some good tips or books to read to become a better salesman? \nI am already reading some books on NLP so that is a start I guess", "How to become a better salesman I was recently hired at a resort and it is my job to try and sell vacation packages to random people, both cold and hot calling, but I was wondering what are some good tips or books to read to become a better salesman? \nI am already reading some books on NLP so that is a start I guess" ]

[ "Make the buyer feel important, like you actually want to help him, and not sign some commission check. Even if you aren't, make sure you seem extremely genuine when you are building rapport. You would be very surprised how far you can get when you just take interest in a person. Also, people really do love to tell their story-- Let em talk! ", "Repetition is the most important thing. # of times you make your pitch is the most important thing.\n\nOnce you can handle making that pitch day in day out and are numb to rejection (numb is also part of having been rejected countless times)....you can tape yourself and watch it. You will see things that you know you can change. Or show the tape to a mentor for objective guidance.\n\nDale Carnegie, NLP, etc....is all just (great) theory. If you spend your time reading theory you won't be pitching. If you're not pitching you're not selling. Period. It's VERY easy getting stuck in paralysis by analysis. \n\nHow do you get good good at baseball? Play baseball. How do you get good at selling? Sell.", "It helps to really believe in what you are trying to sell. And be genuine. Don't fakely overuse the person's name (this was in another thread). Know your product very very well.\n\nSource - owner of and instructor at small aerobic/dance center, in the black since 2000. ", "Communication is what the listener does. Don't try to sell to yourself, don't try to use buzzwords, find out in detail where your customer is starting from and draw a direct line for them in words they understand to your product.", "Awesome reaching out, that means that you are willing to get yourself to a higher level and be better at sales \n\nLook at changing how to sell to people. Instead of \"try and sell to random people.\" It could be beneficial to have the mindset of providing the highest service to someone interesting for what they are committed to the most.\n\nIf you say try, your subconscious thinks in a half ass sort of way. \nExpect to meet the person's highest needs.\nYou'll do well, I know because you are already getting yourself better. \n-Chaz", "Yes, how to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie, and Think & Grow Rich by Napolean Hill. \n", "There are different shoppers- red, green, yellow, and blue. Red shoppers are amazed at things stop, ask questions, and but things depending on the attractive qualities (display and presentation). Green are go go go just want to get out of there. With the product. Yellow stop and think about the product, check prices but are not prepared and knowledgeable customers like Blue. Blue customers are prepared with coupons or saved webpages about other products just as good or better.\nSource: my uncles 30 yrs in marketing and my training in customer service at grocery store and lingerie store. Sorry can't find source online.", "Just keep doing your job. Consistency is key. You'll eventually get better if you're recognizing and addressing mistakes. Make sure you've got your rebuttals ready to fire. Also, follow the script, it's being used for a reason. I have three years of face-to-face sales experience and one year of telemarketing experience. Too bad you're not doing face-to-face sales. I'd LOVE to give you some pointers on that. Remember: Sales is peaks and valleys and don't ever get discouraged. You'll be fine.", "Don't be discouraged easily.\n\nCold Calling can really bring you down, try to enjoy the 1-2% of calls that are successful.\n\nThe better you know the product that you are selling, the more easily the job will come to you.\n\nHave a personal experience that you can regularly use to relate to other people as an ice breaker - weekend activities, weather, cars are typically good.\n\nDon't be afraid to ask for help or additional training\n\nThe most important:\nSales should not feel like you are imposing on others- **try to go about it like you are there to help educate and enable your client to have a great vacation. Answer questions and suggest improvements.** You should feel personally rewarded and better about yourself for helping these people find a good deal and a great opportunity.", "Awesome reaching out, that means that you are willing to get yoyrself to a higher level and be better at sales \n\nLook at changing how to sell to people. Instead of \"try and sell to random people.\" It could be beneficial to have the mindset of providing the highest service to someone interesting for what they are committed to the most.\n\nIf you say try, your subconscious thinks in a half ass sort of way. \nExpect to meet the person's highest needs.\nYou'll do well, I know because you are already getting yourself better. \n-Chaz" ]

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[ "Can you get an entry level IT job in most places in the US (especially Maryland, New York City, Silicon Valley) with skills and certifications without a degree? Which certifications are helpful to get? How easy or difficult is it to get a hard if you're in this situation? ", "Can you get an entry level IT job in most places in the US (especially Maryland, New York City, Silicon Valley) with skills and certifications without a degree? Which certifications are helpful to get? How easy or difficult is it to get a hard if you're in this situation? ", "Can you get an entry level IT job in most places in the US (especially Maryland, New York City, Silicon Valley) with skills and certifications without a degree? Which certifications are helpful to get? How easy or difficult is it to get a hard if you're in this situation? ", "Can you get an entry level IT job in most places in the US (especially Maryland, New York City, Silicon Valley) with skills and certifications without a degree? Which certifications are helpful to get? How easy or difficult is it to get a hard if you're in this situation? ", "Can you get an entry level IT job in most places in the US (especially Maryland, New York City, Silicon Valley) with skills and certifications without a degree? Which certifications are helpful to get? How easy or difficult is it to get a hard if you're in this situation? " ]

[ "You can get entry level IT jobs without a degree. With that said, it could be difficult if you do not have experience or certifications. Depending on where you want to start in IT will dictate what kind of certifications you will want to obtain. For networking, obtaining a CISCO certification is beneficial and you can never go wrong with getting your A+ certification (Entry level well-rounded knowledge). The more you can show that you’re dedicated to the field the better you will look to a company.", "Yes it is possible. Take some courses at a local community college to get you started and get contacts in the field (usually the professor knows what’s happening in the industry, plus they should also have contacts). Unfortunately most job postings ask for experience. It’s a Catch 22 for most who just have classroom experience (which most don’t count) \n\nStory time: Oldest son thought he could be self taught only because he began programming in middle school. While he was learning a lot on his own, he still needed a degree to get the job in the industry/pay he wanted. He is currently working for a startup making about $75k.\n\nPart of what comes with a degree that some employers look for include: follow through/initiative/commitment/contacts.", "Put your resume up on monster and make sure it’s openly visible. Also fill out job history. Recruiters tend to pull experience if no certified individuals are available.", "In my area, in Canada, I got my A+, Network+, plus self taught a bunch of things over the years, was working on getting my Security+ certification (ended up not bothering with it). No one cared to look at me because I had 0 experience in the workplace or they had rediculously long list of specialized software that you needed to have 5+ years experiance with using. Needless to say I never got into that field as I needed a job.", "Contract/Project work is how many people get started without a degree. It's very unstable and hard to break away from, but you learn a lot very quickly." ]

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[ "How to stay focused when in pain or heavily distracted I would really love to know. I have lots of trouble staying focused. ", "How to stay focused when in pain or heavily distracted I would really love to know. I have lots of trouble staying focused. ", "How to stay focused when in pain or heavily distracted I would really love to know. I have lots of trouble staying focused. ", "How to stay focused when in pain or heavily distracted I would really love to know. I have lots of trouble staying focused. " ]

[ "I live with Crohn's disease. I'm in between medication right now so extreme stabbing stomach cramps and an anus so inflamed it hurts to sit down is part of my daily life for the foreseeable future. \n\nI've learned to divide life into short obtainable goals, very short. For example, right now I'm in the bathroom. My goal right now is to return and finish dinner. After that I can reward myself with a hot bean bag on my stomach and 30 minutes of YouTube. Then after that I have to do dishes. \n\nSmall chores with small rewards. \n\nSame goes for when I'm at work. I have to file expenses and invoices. Ok. I'll finish these two, then take a quick walk to grab a water and toilet. (I see lots of toilets in my daily routine). \n\nThat's what has helped me maintain some semblance of productivity. \n\nIt would help to know what your ailment is. \n\nFeel better! Also, hot tea never hurt anyone :) ", "For the past two months I've been struggling with some severe knee pain from a surgery that went wrong. Besides mitigating my feelings that the better life I recently had is basically over, I'm also trying to get through graduate school. I can't offer much, as I'm new to this life, but here is what helps me:\n\nBrisk shower in the morning.\n20 minutes of breathing exercises (m", "When I'm in pain, my trick is to focus directly on the center of the pain, which actually makes it less distracting.", "I can't suggest anything from experience for severe pain, but I injured my back about 6-7 years ago and terrible posture hasn't helped me get better (or lack of good exercise for that matter).\nI'd generally give my back pain a 2-4 most days. The only advice I have is to focus on something else as best you can throughout the day. \nOn the topic of more intense pain, the only thing I've had experience with is a tattoo. I personally don't have a problem with this pain, mostly because I understand why it hurts, and that it will end soon. \nMy back pain on the other hand, I've been to the doctor multiple times, have had X-rays and all that stuff with no determining reason explained to me. I think that knowing in the back of my mind that it might never go away is the hardest part for me, and if I learn how to deal with that, I'll let you know." ]

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[ "Job applications So I was reading the comments for [this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/mildlyinfuriating/comments/6a3ejw/the_worst_part_about_job_applications/) in r/mildlyinfuriating and it brought to light some things that I've never really understood about the job application process. I've never had much success with online applications and now I know why. Can anyone point me to a website or other resource that applies to the current job market (not one 5-10-20yrs ago) and explains how to game these online applications (since they are apparently utter garbage)? I will be trying to change careers in the next few months and want to go through the minimum amount of BS as possible.", "Job applications So I was reading the comments for [this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/mildlyinfuriating/comments/6a3ejw/the_worst_part_about_job_applications/) in r/mildlyinfuriating and it brought to light some things that I've never really understood about the job application process. I've never had much success with online applications and now I know why. Can anyone point me to a website or other resource that applies to the current job market (not one 5-10-20yrs ago) and explains how to game these online applications (since they are apparently utter garbage)? I will be trying to change careers in the next few months and want to go through the minimum amount of BS as possible.", "Job applications So I was reading the comments for [this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/mildlyinfuriating/comments/6a3ejw/the_worst_part_about_job_applications/) in r/mildlyinfuriating and it brought to light some things that I've never really understood about the job application process. I've never had much success with online applications and now I know why. Can anyone point me to a website or other resource that applies to the current job market (not one 5-10-20yrs ago) and explains how to game these online applications (since they are apparently utter garbage)? I will be trying to change careers in the next few months and want to go through the minimum amount of BS as possible." ]

[ "A cover letter gets you the job, and yes, you will have to fill out everything again. But seriously, a cover letter gets yu the job, any job you are under or over qualified for. Learn how to write one, and write one every time. Because you never know. It is how the company warrants who you are, the only place personality exists on a job application. Don't be the one who attached a CV/resume and moves on. Write your cover letter.\n\nDid I stress that enough? Write a cover letter.", "Come visit us over at /r/jobsearchhacks.\n\nI'd say use Indeeds easy apply feature so you don't have to fill out all that garbage over and over again. I'd also say to read about 5 or 10 jobs in the industry you want to get in to, for the position you want. Pay attention to what they all have in common, and write your resume about that. If none of them mention organization, but you are good at organization , DO NOT mention organization. Only talk about your strengths as they relate to the job.", ">explains how to game these online applications (since they are apparently utter garbage)\n\nI've gotten my past 3 jobs in R&D of the healthcare industry here's how I got them. Find the job you like on the company's website, update your resume to make sure your background is relevant, and apply. Wait for a week expecting no response, search on LinkedIn for the HR contact for that company, and mention about your interest and your need to submit a cover letter via InMail. You must be able to submit your cover letter at any given point. If your background is relevant, the hiring manager should contact you.\n\n\nIn this day in age, no one is going to create a job just for you unless you know someone higher up. Even then, it's a disaster on Day 1 since everyone at your new workplace would label you as a brown-noser. I had this on my first job out of college during the worst job-market in modern history (spring 2009) and the reputation stuck with me for my 2 years at the company. Regardless, I would never regret it since I literally had no other job without this connection.\n\n\nJobs posted online are at least jobs that they have a need of hiring. If there's no job posting, there's probably no job. Even if some senior VP tells you that you're \"hired\" by e-mail, they still want you to apply online to the job posting. \n\n*" ]

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[ "How to staff a startup. I have a startup concept that I've been trying to get off the ground. I haven't had any trouble raising seed funding (so far only for patent work) or getting office space or finding interns or building interest, but the whole business plan so far is still only a framework that lacks any technical expertise. \n\nI need engineers to develop an appliance so it can be mass produced, programmers for app and website development, and people who actually know what they're doing when it comes to the business and finance sides of things.\n\nHow do I find these people? What should I be wary of? How much am I likely to spend, and would these be long-term employees or short-term?\n\n ", "How to staff a startup. I have a startup concept that I've been trying to get off the ground. I haven't had any trouble raising seed funding (so far only for patent work) or getting office space or finding interns or building interest, but the whole business plan so far is still only a framework that lacks any technical expertise. \n\nI need engineers to develop an appliance so it can be mass produced, programmers for app and website development, and people who actually know what they're doing when it comes to the business and finance sides of things.\n\nHow do I find these people? What should I be wary of? How much am I likely to spend, and would these be long-term employees or short-term?\n\n ", "How to staff a startup. I have a startup concept that I've been trying to get off the ground. I haven't had any trouble raising seed funding (so far only for patent work) or getting office space or finding interns or building interest, but the whole business plan so far is still only a framework that lacks any technical expertise. \n\nI need engineers to develop an appliance so it can be mass produced, programmers for app and website development, and people who actually know what they're doing when it comes to the business and finance sides of things.\n\nHow do I find these people? What should I be wary of? How much am I likely to spend, and would these be long-term employees or short-term?\n\n ", "How to staff a startup. I have a startup concept that I've been trying to get off the ground. I haven't had any trouble raising seed funding (so far only for patent work) or getting office space or finding interns or building interest, but the whole business plan so far is still only a framework that lacks any technical expertise. \n\nI need engineers to develop an appliance so it can be mass produced, programmers for app and website development, and people who actually know what they're doing when it comes to the business and finance sides of things.\n\nHow do I find these people? What should I be wary of? How much am I likely to spend, and would these be long-term employees or short-term?\n\n " ]

[ "hire a recruiter\\HR rep with experience on small companies first. He or she will take care of finding good people.The tech industry is pretty hard to hire for and hiring someone that is a poor fit is a lot more expensive than people realize, think about their wages, the time you took to train them, the time and advertising money that went into offering the the job in the first place etc.", "Sounds like you've put the cart before the horse. I'm a technical person not a business person, but I'd be really reluctant to be the first tech hire with your startup, and question if you even know the feasibility of your proposed product. (Keep in mind I don't know what type of product you're trying to provide. Maybe it's obvious that it would work fine, maybe it's not.)\n\nThe way I see it, there's really only two ways you can make yourself appealing to tech hires: develop your business plan into something that will inspire confidence in your potential hires, or be prepared to pay them enough not to care. Then hire a consulting firm to find them for you.", "If you worrying about salary of your first employee then you do not have enough funding. Engineers and developers also cost quite a bit.\n\nIP rights can also cost A LOT and more that many expect.", "I don't mean to sound pessimistic but you have a long road ahead of you. It's not enough to have a great product. You need good marketing a good business plan, good employees a lot of luck and more.\n\nYou can search online for how to create a business plan. It's the first step. Once you have a clear idea of how your business will run, all the costs involved and whatnot then you can move onto the other stuff. \n\nMass production involves going to China to meet with the manufacturers, but I wouldn't worry about that until you're ready. Also, there's plenty of meh junior developers that are probably willing to work fora start up but nobody likes to work for a company who doesn't know what they're doing.\n\nIf I were you I would find someone you trust, ask friends/family who has a masters degree in business development or a good amount of experience and make them done kind of partner, maybe 10%. Let them figure out the business side." ]

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[ "how to make a cheap refrigerator work better Hi LPT, my refrigerator runs too much and uses too much electricity. I rent so I'm not gonna buy the energy-saving fridge I'd love to have if I owned this place. It seems to be on a lot and the landlord I think bought a cheap replacement for the last one that crapped out.\n\nI need some life pro tips for making a cheap-ass not energy-saving fridge more efficient, thanks! Besides not opening it much which I do rarely and only for short periods of time, thanks in advance LPT!", "how to make a cheap refrigerator work better Hi LPT, my refrigerator runs too much and uses too much electricity. I rent so I'm not gonna buy the energy-saving fridge I'd love to have if I owned this place. It seems to be on a lot and the landlord I think bought a cheap replacement for the last one that crapped out.\n\nI need some life pro tips for making a cheap-ass not energy-saving fridge more efficient, thanks! Besides not opening it much which I do rarely and only for short periods of time, thanks in advance LPT!", "how to make a cheap refrigerator work better Hi LPT, my refrigerator runs too much and uses too much electricity. I rent so I'm not gonna buy the energy-saving fridge I'd love to have if I owned this place. It seems to be on a lot and the landlord I think bought a cheap replacement for the last one that crapped out.\n\nI need some life pro tips for making a cheap-ass not energy-saving fridge more efficient, thanks! Besides not opening it much which I do rarely and only for short periods of time, thanks in advance LPT!", "how to make a cheap refrigerator work better Hi LPT, my refrigerator runs too much and uses too much electricity. I rent so I'm not gonna buy the energy-saving fridge I'd love to have if I owned this place. It seems to be on a lot and the landlord I think bought a cheap replacement for the last one that crapped out.\n\nI need some life pro tips for making a cheap-ass not energy-saving fridge more efficient, thanks! Besides not opening it much which I do rarely and only for short periods of time, thanks in advance LPT!" ]

[ "Keep the insulation strips on the door/s clean and flexible. Make sure there is no loose spots or cracks. An old test for this was taking a dollar bill - close the door on the bill, and see how easily the bill can be pulled out while the strip is pressing on it. Too easy = leak. If you find the stripping is broken or less-flexible, ask the owner to repair it. \n\nKeep a little space in front of fans inside for air flow, and allow some air flow on each shelf while trying to occupy as much space as possible inside the 'fridge & freezer. Filling containers with water and putting them inside as place holders can work as a 'thermal sink'; the cold water or ice will help keep the temperature from changing much around it. Space that is empty will warm up and require a lot more re-cooling; space occupied by food or water needs less frequent re-chilling. \n\nMake sure that any fans, trays and radiator tubes/fins are clean. Clean & dust under and behind - along the entire back of the fridge frequently ( once/month or so), and check underneath for a drip tray or filter - also keep that clean. ", "Move the fridge out from the wall and clean all its coils with a brush, removing dust and debris as this interferes with cooling and makes your fridge run much more. Get underneath and clean everything you can get to, same reason. Get a piece of paper and open the fridge door and close the door on the paper. See if you can pull the paper out anywhere. If you can pull the paper out of the closed door, the gasket is worn and cold air is leaking out. (yes, warm air leaking in.) You can rub vaseline on the gasket to help seal it. If it still doesn't seal well, you can pull the gasket out of the door a little bit and push in some weather stripping to help support it till it makes a good seal.\n\nCleaning your fridge's coils can make all the difference. \n\nKeep it full. If you don't keep much in the fridge or freezer, fill milk jugs or containers with water and put inside. They'll retain cold longer than a half-empty fridge or freezer. Make sure inside vents are not blocked by food. Get a fridge thermometer and see how cold it is; you can set your fridge to 40 degrees. This way if its lower than 40 you can raise it to 40 and save electricity that way.", "If you have a lot of empty space in the fridge, it uses a bunch of energy keeping the air cool. Fill that empty space with gallon milk jugs filled with water. They will retain the cold better and the fridge should run less. ", "I use an STC-1000 temperature controller on a spare fridge i have in the house. I put the probe in a glass of water and set the fridge to 4 degrees with a variable of -/+ 1 degree. It turns the fridge off when it reaches 4 and on when the temperature reaches 5. " ]

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[ "How to hear better in noisy environments. After working behind a bar for a few months the main issue I'm having is that when someone is ordering it's difficult to hear them. It doesn't help that some drinks have similar names. \n\nOther than the usual things like getting closer to them and cupping your hands around your ears are there any other things I can do?", "How to hear better in noisy environments. After working behind a bar for a few months the main issue I'm having is that when someone is ordering it's difficult to hear them. It doesn't help that some drinks have similar names. \n\nOther than the usual things like getting closer to them and cupping your hands around your ears are there any other things I can do?", "How to hear better in noisy environments. After working behind a bar for a few months the main issue I'm having is that when someone is ordering it's difficult to hear them. It doesn't help that some drinks have similar names. \n\nOther than the usual things like getting closer to them and cupping your hands around your ears are there any other things I can do?", "How to hear better in noisy environments. After working behind a bar for a few months the main issue I'm having is that when someone is ordering it's difficult to hear them. It doesn't help that some drinks have similar names. \n\nOther than the usual things like getting closer to them and cupping your hands around your ears are there any other things I can do?", "How to hear better in noisy environments. After working behind a bar for a few months the main issue I'm having is that when someone is ordering it's difficult to hear them. It doesn't help that some drinks have similar names. \n\nOther than the usual things like getting closer to them and cupping your hands around your ears are there any other things I can do?" ]

[ "Hold a finger in one ear and listen with that side. The plug will help reduce background noise allowing you to focus on the words spoken. Although, I don't know I want my barman with a finger in his ear all night...", "I found that if you put the tip of your index finger at the base of the entrance to the ear canal and push down, you can hear speech a lot clearer. ", "Ask them to speak softer. It seems counterintuitive but for science reasons I don't know, you can hear better when they're not shouting. Tried and tested at many concerts ", "Practice selective hearing. You could train yourself by simulation. Set up a noisy enviroment (radio turned up), then play a youtube video on your phone where someone is talking. Change variables, turning volume down on phone in increments, until you are really good at hearing just enough clips to fill in the missing data visually by interpreting their lips. ", "Talk more quietly back to them (so they will have trouble hearing you). This gives the person the impression the background noise is louder than it is and they will speak up." ]

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[ "A way to allow mouth cuts to heal faster. The other night I bit into my lip far FAR too hard whilst eating too quickly.\nI've mostly been chewing on the other side of my mouth to avoid irritating it further with friction/getting food in it, but it doesn't seem to have progressed in healing.\n\n\nIs there any sort of natural remedy and/or a bandage type thing that I could put over it to protect it?", "A way to allow mouth cuts to heal faster. The other night I bit into my lip far FAR too hard whilst eating too quickly.\nI've mostly been chewing on the other side of my mouth to avoid irritating it further with friction/getting food in it, but it doesn't seem to have progressed in healing.\n\n\nIs there any sort of natural remedy and/or a bandage type thing that I could put over it to protect it?", "A way to allow mouth cuts to heal faster. The other night I bit into my lip far FAR too hard whilst eating too quickly.\nI've mostly been chewing on the other side of my mouth to avoid irritating it further with friction/getting food in it, but it doesn't seem to have progressed in healing.\n\n\nIs there any sort of natural remedy and/or a bandage type thing that I could put over it to protect it?", "A way to allow mouth cuts to heal faster. The other night I bit into my lip far FAR too hard whilst eating too quickly.\nI've mostly been chewing on the other side of my mouth to avoid irritating it further with friction/getting food in it, but it doesn't seem to have progressed in healing.\n\n\nIs there any sort of natural remedy and/or a bandage type thing that I could put over it to protect it?", "A way to allow mouth cuts to heal faster. The other night I bit into my lip far FAR too hard whilst eating too quickly.\nI've mostly been chewing on the other side of my mouth to avoid irritating it further with friction/getting food in it, but it doesn't seem to have progressed in healing.\n\n\nIs there any sort of natural remedy and/or a bandage type thing that I could put over it to protect it?", "A way to allow mouth cuts to heal faster. The other night I bit into my lip far FAR too hard whilst eating too quickly.\nI've mostly been chewing on the other side of my mouth to avoid irritating it further with friction/getting food in it, but it doesn't seem to have progressed in healing.\n\n\nIs there any sort of natural remedy and/or a bandage type thing that I could put over it to protect it?" ]

[ "Rinse/gargle several times a day with warm salt water. This also helps with the pain. You can also apply hydrogen peroxide directly onto the cut with a q-tip until it starts bubbling. Make sure to rinse thoroughly after. \nSource: I was in the same situation a few weeks ago. ", "outlandish if you don't garden, but effective- calendula tincture. take flowers off the plant and add them to a high proof alcohol and let them sit for a week or two. strain the flowers out and drop or dab that on sores. ", "eating pineapple helps heal sores in your mouth as well. It stings a bit but it helps it heal quickly! ", "Rinse your mouth with hydrogen peroxide. It won't hurt a speck and it just tastes like water. If you do it several times a day your mouth will feel better really fast. Just don't swallow it.", "One part hydrogen peroxide and one part water. Swish around in mouth but don't swallow. Worked for me", "Does it have to be non pharmaceutical? Using kanka or some other benzocaine substance might alleviate your pain more effectively. Healing rate of soft tissues is mostly dependent on cell division rates. It takes two weeks for your mouth / lip cells to replace. Just dont prolong the process - avoid excessively hot or spicy foods, and chew on the oter side, as you have been doing" ]

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[ "what is the most cost-effective way of auto-body repair? I recently was cornered by a large truck in a small parking garage. I missed the truck but scrapped the bumper of another car. The other car barely had any damage, but my two right side doors took a beating and have a large dent and some paint scratched off. \n\nI'm worried that if I turn it into my insurance it would cost me more in the long run. Anyone have any experience with this? \n\nIf I don't do anything, could the missing paint end up further damaging my new car?", "what is the most cost-effective way of auto-body repair? I recently was cornered by a large truck in a small parking garage. I missed the truck but scrapped the bumper of another car. The other car barely had any damage, but my two right side doors took a beating and have a large dent and some paint scratched off. \n\nI'm worried that if I turn it into my insurance it would cost me more in the long run. Anyone have any experience with this? \n\nIf I don't do anything, could the missing paint end up further damaging my new car?", "what is the most cost-effective way of auto-body repair? I recently was cornered by a large truck in a small parking garage. I missed the truck but scrapped the bumper of another car. The other car barely had any damage, but my two right side doors took a beating and have a large dent and some paint scratched off. \n\nI'm worried that if I turn it into my insurance it would cost me more in the long run. Anyone have any experience with this? \n\nIf I don't do anything, could the missing paint end up further damaging my new car?", "what is the most cost-effective way of auto-body repair? I recently was cornered by a large truck in a small parking garage. I missed the truck but scrapped the bumper of another car. The other car barely had any damage, but my two right side doors took a beating and have a large dent and some paint scratched off. \n\nI'm worried that if I turn it into my insurance it would cost me more in the long run. Anyone have any experience with this? \n\nIf I don't do anything, could the missing paint end up further damaging my new car?", "what is the most cost-effective way of auto-body repair? I recently was cornered by a large truck in a small parking garage. I missed the truck but scrapped the bumper of another car. The other car barely had any damage, but my two right side doors took a beating and have a large dent and some paint scratched off. \n\nI'm worried that if I turn it into my insurance it would cost me more in the long run. Anyone have any experience with this? \n\nIf I don't do anything, could the missing paint end up further damaging my new car?" ]

[ "Go around to local body shops and get estimates, they are free. Without going thru an insurance claim, you can just pay them privately. If you feel that it's too much money (painting 2 doors plus bodywork can reach $1000 here), consider making a claim. You'll have to pay your deductible... But it should be less than that (average is around 300). Depending on your insurance provider, your rates shouldn't go up for a comprehensive claim... But it depends, I suggest calling them and asking.\n\nAn alternative is to pick up some touch up paint and brush the bare metal before it starts rusting. Won't look pretty, and lowers the value of your car, but it will stop it from getting worse.", "Find someone with good reviews to do a paintless dent removal, that is the cheapest way other than doing it yourself. Lost paint will rust, so at least get touch up paint to cover it or have a small spot repair done.", "If you are going to delay repairs takes some fine grain sand paper and smooth off the damaged areas then spray some clear lacquer. It will not look different but for $5 you can prevent rust and further paint chipping. ", "If it's a newer car just go through insurance. If it's older try to find a wrecked model of your car in the same colour at either a scrapper or on Gumtree or whatever the equivalent to Gumtree is in your country. You should be able to buy two replacement doors for quite cheap if you haggle well and replacing them is a sinch.", "If it's a new, newer or otherwise in good shape. Why wouldn't you have it professionally repaired. That just makes no sense. With a dented or damaged car, you will take less pride of ownership and start a snowball effect of skipping or skimping on repairs. Ultimately reducing the life of the vehicle, costing you more in the end. A clean aesthetically nice vehicle draws much less scrutiny. " ]

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