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[ "How to remove 'old milk' odour from writing paper So the other day I bought about 1000 pages of drawing paper in A4 pad form, and there's a disting smell of yoghurt/old milk coming off them. How best should I deal with this? Will Febreze do the trick?", "How to remove 'old milk' odour from writing paper So the other day I bought about 1000 pages of drawing paper in A4 pad form, and there's a disting smell of yoghurt/old milk coming off them. How best should I deal with this? Will Febreze do the trick?" ]

[ "The floor that I work on in a lab always smells that way and I never knew why, you may have just solved my mystery. No idea how to get rid of it sadly", "I bet flipping the pages while sprinkling baby power or baking soda into them leaving a couple days and shaking out might work.\n\nFebreeze or anything liquid based you run risk of bubble/buckling your new paper." ]

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[ "How to deal with a break up after 3+ years of dating. Hi all. Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this, but I'm feeling pretty lost right now. My girlfriend of three and a half years broke up with me today. She seems happy with the decision and I'm glad that she is. But I feel, well, shitty. Lost, sad, you name it. I saw it coming for a week or so, but that didn't make this any easier. I would like some words of advice for these next few weeks, or months. Thanks.\n\n", "How to deal with a break up after 3+ years of dating. Hi all. Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this, but I'm feeling pretty lost right now. My girlfriend of three and a half years broke up with me today. She seems happy with the decision and I'm glad that she is. But I feel, well, shitty. Lost, sad, you name it. I saw it coming for a week or so, but that didn't make this any easier. I would like some words of advice for these next few weeks, or months. Thanks.\n\n", "How to deal with a break up after 3+ years of dating. Hi all. Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this, but I'm feeling pretty lost right now. My girlfriend of three and a half years broke up with me today. She seems happy with the decision and I'm glad that she is. But I feel, well, shitty. Lost, sad, you name it. I saw it coming for a week or so, but that didn't make this any easier. I would like some words of advice for these next few weeks, or months. Thanks.\n\n", "How to deal with a break up after 3+ years of dating. Hi all. Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this, but I'm feeling pretty lost right now. My girlfriend of three and a half years broke up with me today. She seems happy with the decision and I'm glad that she is. But I feel, well, shitty. Lost, sad, you name it. I saw it coming for a week or so, but that didn't make this any easier. I would like some words of advice for these next few weeks, or months. Thanks.\n\n", "How to deal with a break up after 3+ years of dating. Hi all. Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this, but I'm feeling pretty lost right now. My girlfriend of three and a half years broke up with me today. She seems happy with the decision and I'm glad that she is. But I feel, well, shitty. Lost, sad, you name it. I saw it coming for a week or so, but that didn't make this any easier. I would like some words of advice for these next few weeks, or months. Thanks.\n\n", "How to deal with a break up after 3+ years of dating. Hi all. Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this, but I'm feeling pretty lost right now. My girlfriend of three and a half years broke up with me today. She seems happy with the decision and I'm glad that she is. But I feel, well, shitty. Lost, sad, you name it. I saw it coming for a week or so, but that didn't make this any easier. I would like some words of advice for these next few weeks, or months. Thanks.\n\n", "How to deal with a break up after 3+ years of dating. Hi all. Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this, but I'm feeling pretty lost right now. My girlfriend of three and a half years broke up with me today. She seems happy with the decision and I'm glad that she is. But I feel, well, shitty. Lost, sad, you name it. I saw it coming for a week or so, but that didn't make this any easier. I would like some words of advice for these next few weeks, or months. Thanks.\n\n", "How to deal with a break up after 3+ years of dating. Hi all. Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this, but I'm feeling pretty lost right now. My girlfriend of three and a half years broke up with me today. She seems happy with the decision and I'm glad that she is. But I feel, well, shitty. Lost, sad, you name it. I saw it coming for a week or so, but that didn't make this any easier. I would like some words of advice for these next few weeks, or months. Thanks.\n\n", "How to deal with a break up after 3+ years of dating. Hi all. Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this, but I'm feeling pretty lost right now. My girlfriend of three and a half years broke up with me today. She seems happy with the decision and I'm glad that she is. But I feel, well, shitty. Lost, sad, you name it. I saw it coming for a week or so, but that didn't make this any easier. I would like some words of advice for these next few weeks, or months. Thanks.\n\n", "How to deal with a break up after 3+ years of dating. Hi all. Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this, but I'm feeling pretty lost right now. My girlfriend of three and a half years broke up with me today. She seems happy with the decision and I'm glad that she is. But I feel, well, shitty. Lost, sad, you name it. I saw it coming for a week or so, but that didn't make this any easier. I would like some words of advice for these next few weeks, or months. Thanks.\n\n", "How to deal with a break up after 3+ years of dating. Hi all. Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this, but I'm feeling pretty lost right now. My girlfriend of three and a half years broke up with me today. She seems happy with the decision and I'm glad that she is. But I feel, well, shitty. Lost, sad, you name it. I saw it coming for a week or so, but that didn't make this any easier. I would like some words of advice for these next few weeks, or months. Thanks.\n\n" ]

[ "Hey bro sorry to hear about the split...sucks but we've all been there.\n\nHere's a few things I did when I broke up with my first long term relationship.\n\n- Think about if things have actually been going well as of late. Like actually sit down and truly think about it. Usually, aside from a particular event like someone cheating, relationships fall apart when there is something critical missing. Try and pinpoint what those things are...when you do, it will help to put things in perspective and you may realize this actually is for the best\n- Spend as much time focused on specific goals. Gym, school, work, friends.....distract yourself for the first month or two...it will get easier after a few weeks I guarantee you\n- Meet another girl. I know this may sound \"cold\" and you may still have feelings for your girlfriend but man, just hooking up with a chick YOU LIKE will make you feel better. I stress \"girl you like\" because hooking up with someone you aren't attracted to or aren't in to wont really do anything...when you get intimate or go on a date with someone you DO like, it helps solidify the fact that your life will get better, you will find someone else and will help the healing process\n\nAnother thing to really stress:\nDon't contact your now ex. Don't try and call her to \"work things out\". Don't get drunk and show up at her place. Delete her number. If you truly cut contact, she WILL resurface. I guarantee you this. Girls who spend years with someone will always have a soft spot for an ex so long as they don't grow to hate him. By not contacting her you get a couple things: \n\n- You heal with time\n- You seem like you have your shit together and are a confident, complete person without her which dramatically increases the odds of her resurfacing. If she does resurface, you can then decide if you actually want to get back together\n\nAnd after a little time, and with newly gained perspective, you may realize it was for the best and meet someone new.\n\ngood luck!", "2 months ago I was in the same boat as you mate, but I promise that it does get easier. I still think about my ex every single day and sometimes wish she would just pop and tell me how much of a mistake it was - but that will never happen and to be honest we don't want to be clinging onto false hope.\n\n\nGo out and keep yourself occupied. I tried dating someone else but that didn't really work and ended up hurting someone in the process, so just go and enjoy yourself and keep yourself busy.\n\n\nDon't hesitate to PM me if you just want a chat to pass the time.", "Cry. Weep. Bawl. Be sad. Grieve. Hug pillows. Slobber all over yourself. Don't shower. Listen to emo songs. - Do any or all of these things as much as possible. \nThen one day, which could be a week or a month later (if this goes over 6 months then ask a friend to slap you out of it), when you think you are done, move on. To a hobby, fitness, deeper relationships with your family and friends, dating etc. ", "Spend some time alone..dont try to supress your feelings or thoughts..3 years is a long time and you cannot ignore that it needs time. Think through all the reasons for which you broke up and think about the daily until it registers in your mind as an unfortunate experience from where you are fortunate enough to get out of. Try to see how many different kinds of people are there and then think how you still can find love in one is those people who can offer you so much more than you could have ever received from your previous relationship just because there is always a limit to what someone can offer given their unique nature. Live yourself and prioritize your feelings over everything else. You will see the difference in yourself within 3 months. And whatever you do, do not consult anyone for their opinion or do not disclose your progress or depression to anyone but yourself so that you are not answerable to above else other than yourself when you have slips in the process. ", "Maybe reading this very short story will help you a bit. It certainly helped me.\n\nhttp://ohr.edu/ask_db/ask_main.php/335/Q1/", "I was once in the same boat as you, my friend. Number one thing I did that helped me grow as an individual, focus your new free time into a hobby that makes you happy. ", "I experienced the same thing, take me almost 3&½ years to finally feel free, it no longer bothers me today. I felt nothing anymore, before this every time I heard or see her I felt like my heart is being stabbed and I've always thought things won't get better. Back then in college she's the most beautiful person in my college that even some girls hated her for the attention she gets. Might explain why it took me so long to finally let go. She did however apologize for almost ruining my life 3 years later. I almost quit my studies because of her but luckily I didn't. A word of advice, it's ok to be sad after everything, just don't try to go for a new serious relationship if you don't feel like it otherwise you'll end up hurting somebody else because you couldn't commit. For the time being find a hobby to keep yourself busy, go hiking and travelling. Make your life interesting, and perhaps along the way you'll find someone else. Good luck, almost everyone have experienced it. Just embrace it, don't act tough and feel sorry later", "1: Pussy\n\n2: Money\n\n3: Weed\n\nSeriously though you just have to let it go. Everyone is different. In many cases cutting off contact helps a lot. If you want to be friends down the road let it happen down the road. Hang out with some old friends. Spend time out doors. Really, just do anything that keeps your mind off of her. It's going to be rough for a while but the saying \"time heals all things\" exists in our vernacular for a reason. When my girlfriend of 3 years and I broke up I hated life for a month. Then I moved to the best mountain in the country and snowboarder 4+ times a week for 5 months. Find something you love and do it. Life works itself out as long as you make an effort to move it along. Sorry you're going through this man.", "Speaking from experience; if you don't already, hit the gym. Nothing makes you forget about somebody else more than self improvement, and focusing on yourself. ", "Sometimes you have to make like an acrylic nail and press on...\n\nBut in all seriousness, there are already a lot of decent comments on here from other posters. Delete her from your social media(s), maybe find a new hobby or start exercising, and don't be afraid of either taking time off from dating to figure yourself out or to casually ask other girls out. It all depends on the person; in a long-term relationship it is easy to fall into an \"us\" identity and not your own entity. Don't feel bad/ashamed for being upset. Things will get better in time, OP. ", "Im getting divorced after having been married for five years and have two kids. The biggest tip I can give you is to keep putting one foot in front of the other. \n\nI still struggle some days, but that's normal." ]

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[ "How to maintain a decent relationship w/ someone you don't like or who makes you uncomfortable Someone you can't avoid, such as at work or in a tight community of sorts. This has happened to me twice recently and I notice that it has evoked similar responses on my behalf, ones that didn't have good results for me. \n\nRecently it is with someone who is a neighbor and also friends with people who live in my building, who happen to be my closest friends at the moment. He knows I am trying to avoid him and he does little things to force me to interact with him. It is very upsetting. He knows that he makes me uncomfortable and instead of backing off and heeding my cues, his solution is to do the opposite. I feel the need to maintain face because of political aspects of my living situation, to make a long story short. And he is taking advantage of this. \n\nIf this should be somewhere else, let me know. Interacting with him is very upsetting and in a nutshell, I find it creates a kind of cognitive dissonance where I find myself doing and saying things that show too much emotion, which I think makes him feel a sense of victory. Help. ", "How to maintain a decent relationship w/ someone you don't like or who makes you uncomfortable Someone you can't avoid, such as at work or in a tight community of sorts. This has happened to me twice recently and I notice that it has evoked similar responses on my behalf, ones that didn't have good results for me. \n\nRecently it is with someone who is a neighbor and also friends with people who live in my building, who happen to be my closest friends at the moment. He knows I am trying to avoid him and he does little things to force me to interact with him. It is very upsetting. He knows that he makes me uncomfortable and instead of backing off and heeding my cues, his solution is to do the opposite. I feel the need to maintain face because of political aspects of my living situation, to make a long story short. And he is taking advantage of this. \n\nIf this should be somewhere else, let me know. Interacting with him is very upsetting and in a nutshell, I find it creates a kind of cognitive dissonance where I find myself doing and saying things that show too much emotion, which I think makes him feel a sense of victory. Help. ", "How to maintain a decent relationship w/ someone you don't like or who makes you uncomfortable Someone you can't avoid, such as at work or in a tight community of sorts. This has happened to me twice recently and I notice that it has evoked similar responses on my behalf, ones that didn't have good results for me. \n\nRecently it is with someone who is a neighbor and also friends with people who live in my building, who happen to be my closest friends at the moment. He knows I am trying to avoid him and he does little things to force me to interact with him. It is very upsetting. He knows that he makes me uncomfortable and instead of backing off and heeding my cues, his solution is to do the opposite. I feel the need to maintain face because of political aspects of my living situation, to make a long story short. And he is taking advantage of this. \n\nIf this should be somewhere else, let me know. Interacting with him is very upsetting and in a nutshell, I find it creates a kind of cognitive dissonance where I find myself doing and saying things that show too much emotion, which I think makes him feel a sense of victory. Help. ", "How to maintain a decent relationship w/ someone you don't like or who makes you uncomfortable Someone you can't avoid, such as at work or in a tight community of sorts. This has happened to me twice recently and I notice that it has evoked similar responses on my behalf, ones that didn't have good results for me. \n\nRecently it is with someone who is a neighbor and also friends with people who live in my building, who happen to be my closest friends at the moment. He knows I am trying to avoid him and he does little things to force me to interact with him. It is very upsetting. He knows that he makes me uncomfortable and instead of backing off and heeding my cues, his solution is to do the opposite. I feel the need to maintain face because of political aspects of my living situation, to make a long story short. And he is taking advantage of this. \n\nIf this should be somewhere else, let me know. Interacting with him is very upsetting and in a nutshell, I find it creates a kind of cognitive dissonance where I find myself doing and saying things that show too much emotion, which I think makes him feel a sense of victory. Help. ", "How to maintain a decent relationship w/ someone you don't like or who makes you uncomfortable Someone you can't avoid, such as at work or in a tight community of sorts. This has happened to me twice recently and I notice that it has evoked similar responses on my behalf, ones that didn't have good results for me. \n\nRecently it is with someone who is a neighbor and also friends with people who live in my building, who happen to be my closest friends at the moment. He knows I am trying to avoid him and he does little things to force me to interact with him. It is very upsetting. He knows that he makes me uncomfortable and instead of backing off and heeding my cues, his solution is to do the opposite. I feel the need to maintain face because of political aspects of my living situation, to make a long story short. And he is taking advantage of this. \n\nIf this should be somewhere else, let me know. Interacting with him is very upsetting and in a nutshell, I find it creates a kind of cognitive dissonance where I find myself doing and saying things that show too much emotion, which I think makes him feel a sense of victory. Help. " ]

[ "Just be civil and do your best to avoid any sort of meaningful conversation with this person. For example, give short and closed off answers to their questions. They are obviously someone you don't like, but have to be around. It's going to be obvious to them too. The main thing is to remain civil but distant. It's difficult, but people find theirselves in these situations all the time. By being civil, you're indicating you don't want trouble. By being distant, you're indicating you don't want to be friends.", "My approach probably wouldn't work with everyone, but I have a few people in my life who I dislike and I've turned speaking with them into a sort-of game or project. Every time I talk with them, I make it my mission to find something we have in common or maybe to make them agree with something or (with the know-it-alls) to successfully call them out on an error. You could probably do the opposite too (i.e., see if you can make them swear at you or something). Regardless, you get a point every time you can achieve your stated goal. \n\nTurns out I actually like some people in the end. True story.", "I am also in this situation. And although I find no interest in speaking with the person I want to avoid, I still want to talk to my friends.. ", "A no-stress, not so rude way to deal with someone who typically gets you responding badly is to just kind of repeat what they say, rephrasing it so it is not obvious. This way you are courteously listening but do not have to stretch your mind into doing comebacks, defenses, etc. \n\nExamples:\n\nHe says: I hate elevators. \nYou say: Not your thing, elevators.\n\nOr:\nHe says: I wish you would tell me why you wore that dumb shirt today.\nYou say: You are full of curiosity today.\nHe says: You did not answer my question. Dumbass.\nYou say: You are not happy with me this morning.\n\nBasically, you are not being in your face rude, but you keep steering the discourse away from personal stuff said by you, so this limits escalation into argument.\n\nMy comments assume the person bothering you is a moronic tactless pest who just provokes the worst from you - as opposed to a deliberate bully. If the person is an actual bully targeting you then you may need some more tips from other redditors. Good luck.", "I have to remind myself that everyone is different and approaches life and work differently, including myself. This helps me to be more understanding and accepting of people. I'm not right just because I perform my job a certain way or act a certain way in social situations, neither am I wrong. The same applies to those around me." ]

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[ "Slouching Does anyone have any tips on not slouching. I have developed a slight slouch but am afraid it could get worse. I don't need anything extra scarring away the ladies, I do that fine on my own.", "Slouching Does anyone have any tips on not slouching. I have developed a slight slouch but am afraid it could get worse. I don't need anything extra scarring away the ladies, I do that fine on my own.", "Slouching Does anyone have any tips on not slouching. I have developed a slight slouch but am afraid it could get worse. I don't need anything extra scarring away the ladies, I do that fine on my own.", "Slouching Does anyone have any tips on not slouching. I have developed a slight slouch but am afraid it could get worse. I don't need anything extra scarring away the ladies, I do that fine on my own." ]

[ "Sit on an exercise ball rather than chairs. It makes you have good posture and it will strengthen your muscles so you don't slouch. ", "When you're in the car, sit up extra straight-then adjust the rear view mirror to that height. Now you can't slouch and drive.", "Ok so I just read all of your tips, thank you by the way, so what if I did all of these, I already work out my abs but not regularly. What if I got a yoga/exercise ball and a back brace?", "You could buy a flexible back brace, (medical device), that will prevent you from slouching. Or if you want to go the cheap route, buy a [**belly band**](http://www.usgalco.com/Catalog/large/UNDER_WRAP_SILO.jpg) for concealing a firearm. \n\nStand erect, and tighten the band so it is uncomfortable to slouch. Even if you aren't concealing a firearm, you can use these as posture correcting device. Just wear it a little bit higher, (in the position that you would if it were a back brace). It works. Wear it religiously for 45 days, and you will develop proper posture." ]

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[ "How to compose my frustrated thoughts and explain my situation without other parties thinking I'm an oaf. ", "How to compose my frustrated thoughts and explain my situation without other parties thinking I'm an oaf. " ]

[ "This may sound crazy but when you get home just pretend you are talking to your friend. You can picture their face and everything. Let it all out, swear and stumble, go back and say \"actually maybe I mean...\" I don't do this often but on days that really get me down and I don't want to poison the time I have with my friends, I will. I think the brain needs to process by saying things out loud, sometimes this leads to greater frustration if your words don't come out right or you feel unintelligent from not saying exactly what you mean in front if people. You can still tell your friend the \"second draft\" after processing and getting out those initial angry emotions that make it hard to think clearly. Good luck OP! ", "Stop dropping the F-bombs. Yeah, you are going to have to concentrate on it at first, but so what? I forget who it was, but someone once said that cursing was the way someone with a limited vocabulary tried to convey thoughts forcefully. Maybe improve your vocabulary, too. Less need for the \"blanket-blanks\"." ]

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[ "How to over come the disappointment of having to do an extra year in College? Seeing all my friends graduate and post pictures on FB has really gotten me depressed lately. My motivation has almost completely diminished. ", "How to over come the disappointment of having to do an extra year in College? Seeing all my friends graduate and post pictures on FB has really gotten me depressed lately. My motivation has almost completely diminished. ", "How to over come the disappointment of having to do an extra year in College? Seeing all my friends graduate and post pictures on FB has really gotten me depressed lately. My motivation has almost completely diminished. ", "How to over come the disappointment of having to do an extra year in College? Seeing all my friends graduate and post pictures on FB has really gotten me depressed lately. My motivation has almost completely diminished. ", "How to over come the disappointment of having to do an extra year in College? Seeing all my friends graduate and post pictures on FB has really gotten me depressed lately. My motivation has almost completely diminished. ", "How to over come the disappointment of having to do an extra year in College? Seeing all my friends graduate and post pictures on FB has really gotten me depressed lately. My motivation has almost completely diminished. ", "How to over come the disappointment of having to do an extra year in College? Seeing all my friends graduate and post pictures on FB has really gotten me depressed lately. My motivation has almost completely diminished. ", "How to over come the disappointment of having to do an extra year in College? Seeing all my friends graduate and post pictures on FB has really gotten me depressed lately. My motivation has almost completely diminished. ", "How to over come the disappointment of having to do an extra year in College? Seeing all my friends graduate and post pictures on FB has really gotten me depressed lately. My motivation has almost completely diminished. " ]

[ "Stop worrying about other people. I'm going into my fifth year as well, and I won't graduate for another year and a half. (Double major, two minors).\n\nI have be rest of my life to work, I want to take my time with school. Also, life isn't a straight line. 4 years high school, 4 college. Life sentence 9-5. Gross.\n\n\n\n", "See that's funny, because I graduated on time and now I get to sit at my boring-ass job and envy all my friends who still get to study something they're interested in, interact with people their own age on a daily basis, and work towards a clear goal (graduation). So, I guess the LPT is look at the silver lining? \n\nAlso, have a maximum number of lonely days that you're willing to tolerate (i.e., days when you don't hang out with anyone at all). A few of them here or there are obviously fine, but they can spiral out of control. If you are having trouble filling a week, your school will have clubs or Meetup.com has your back.", "Try to embrace it! You have another year to meet people, gain experience, and have fun. I did 5 years and I don't regret it one bit. ", "Realize that you have another year to enjoy before facing the disappointment of having a degree and not being able to get a job in your field, or any worthwhile job for that matter.", "Listen, success can't be measured on how fast you accomplish something. I dropped out of college when I was a senior because my father got sick and I needed to work and take care of him. It's been well over two years but I still plan on going back. What I can tell you is that when you do eventually finish you'll admire yourself because of the work you put in, no matter how long it takes. Don't let other people's success cloud your future ones. Hope that helps! ", "Enjoy the time! So many people I know who have graduated miss the collegiate atmosphere, so don't rush through it! ", "At least your in college, trying to do something positive with your life, u just took a detour while ur friends went down the same street, soon enough you'll b right back on track with tham", "[This](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IdTMDpizis8) is a little too much testosterone, but good advice nevertheless.", "Let your hate of yourself be your motivation. You know you want to pass college, you know you dislike not passing college, therefore work extra hard to pass college because that is your dream, and use the hate as energy to work extra hard." ]

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[ "What to do when someone says \"Don't talk back to me!\" When you're trying to get a valid point across? ", "What to do when someone says \"Don't talk back to me!\" When you're trying to get a valid point across? ", "What to do when someone says \"Don't talk back to me!\" When you're trying to get a valid point across? " ]

[ "Walk away. That's not a person you should engage with. There is nothing you can say to this person that they will hear, unless it aligns with their opinion.", "more info might be needed. Are you 18 or older? Are the adults related to you? Are they physically larger and stronger than you?", "It depends on how you talk to them. If you are being reasonable and polite about your point of view then they are wrong. If you are being disrespect then they have the right to be angry..." ]

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[ "Staying safe from animals in the wild Looking for tips to avoid getting attacked by different animals in the wild. I do a lot of hiking in Australia but will be traveling soon and have no idea what I'd do if I encountered certain dangerous animals. I've heard of people getting attacked by bees, bears and snakes", "Staying safe from animals in the wild Looking for tips to avoid getting attacked by different animals in the wild. I do a lot of hiking in Australia but will be traveling soon and have no idea what I'd do if I encountered certain dangerous animals. I've heard of people getting attacked by bees, bears and snakes", "Staying safe from animals in the wild Looking for tips to avoid getting attacked by different animals in the wild. I do a lot of hiking in Australia but will be traveling soon and have no idea what I'd do if I encountered certain dangerous animals. I've heard of people getting attacked by bees, bears and snakes", "Staying safe from animals in the wild Looking for tips to avoid getting attacked by different animals in the wild. I do a lot of hiking in Australia but will be traveling soon and have no idea what I'd do if I encountered certain dangerous animals. I've heard of people getting attacked by bees, bears and snakes", "Staying safe from animals in the wild Looking for tips to avoid getting attacked by different animals in the wild. I do a lot of hiking in Australia but will be traveling soon and have no idea what I'd do if I encountered certain dangerous animals. I've heard of people getting attacked by bees, bears and snakes", "Staying safe from animals in the wild Looking for tips to avoid getting attacked by different animals in the wild. I do a lot of hiking in Australia but will be traveling soon and have no idea what I'd do if I encountered certain dangerous animals. I've heard of people getting attacked by bees, bears and snakes", "Staying safe from animals in the wild Looking for tips to avoid getting attacked by different animals in the wild. I do a lot of hiking in Australia but will be traveling soon and have no idea what I'd do if I encountered certain dangerous animals. I've heard of people getting attacked by bees, bears and snakes", "Staying safe from animals in the wild Looking for tips to avoid getting attacked by different animals in the wild. I do a lot of hiking in Australia but will be traveling soon and have no idea what I'd do if I encountered certain dangerous animals. I've heard of people getting attacked by bees, bears and snakes" ]

[ "If you are used to hiking in australia, everywhere else will be a cake walk. . . Most animals just get scared of you and attack, those Aussie things just wanna see you bleed.\n\n", "Don't leave boots outside overnight (spiders/snakes). Check everything over if you're sleeping in a tent each night to make sure nothing got in with your clothes. \n\nTake walking poles with you in case you cross paths with anything - like snakes - and there's no other way around. \n\nFor larger animals, keep your distance, make noise. If you see a cute baby animal DO NOT GO UP TO IT as mummy is just around the corner.", "Black bears are not dangerous and only want your food, so if one approaches you or or site it's cause it picked up food scent. Storage for food should be hanging from a tree and as far away as possible from your site.\n\nFor on the move, hiking, black bears are curios but are afraid of you. They retreat if you happen to run into one, but if one is stalking you, tell it to screw off. Let it know you dont like him around by shouting, throwing your arms around, even throwing some rocks. Just being an annoyance in general.\n\nLet a bear know your around; if you surprise it, catch it off guard, it might not retreat and might try to attack. Ofc if it has cubs gtfo. Never run away from an animal but back off.\n\nYour main concern with wildlife vs you is ticks, tick check after hikes", "One important thing I forgot to add is TICKS! Be sure to cover your body well when hiking. Before you sleep check your body for ticks - every nook and cranny. Ticks are rampant in certain parts of the U.S. particularly on the trails. Lyme disease sucks.", "Aussie living in Japan. There's bears here, as well as wild boar. Some snake species will kill you too. \n \nBears? Carry a bear bell. If you are going to take bear spray, at least make sure you can easily whip it out. Good luck with that though. Bears have a lot of mass, claws that will disembowel you, and a bite that will crush your bones if they don't like you. Stay aware (bears might stalk or ambush you), make noise (with the bell or radio, etc), find out about beware from locals etc beforehand. And year, don't have anything around camp that might smell good to a bear. At least hang it up high. \n \nA lot of the above applies to other large animals. Always be very wary of water, just like back home too. Might be snakes, or something lying in wait, depending where in the world you are. \n\nBetter than nothing as rudimentary weapon, and all round useful tool - think about getting a short staff. My suggestion is a jo (杖). Look up Jodo on the web. They are about 4 foot, or 120 cm. Good ones are made from Japanese white oak, and they're lighter and stronger than cheaper red oak ones. You can probably get one from a local martial arts store, or failing that, online. If you're really into hiking, you'll already know how good a staff is for hiking in any case. Jo were used by travellers, pilgrims etc for hundreds of years. Won't break like a metal stock. And you can adjust the height just by sliding your hand(s) to the right position.", "When I'm going for a hike, I'll make sure I'm stomping and hit my walking stick hard on the ground. I've heard snakes will hear it from far and will move away. If you are within metres of a snake, walk away and keep an eye on it.", "Honestly this kind of advice even varies region to region. Like for instance snakes aren't really an issue in the Northeast of the US but would be in the Southwest ", "Bring weapons with you, you never know when you will need it. Pepper spray works but not as well.\n\nPro pro tip: Try to bring a fat or slow person with you when you hike." ]

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[ "How do I have lucid dreams Iv always thought that having a lucid dream would be cool. Please help me have one.", "How do I have lucid dreams Iv always thought that having a lucid dream would be cool. Please help me have one.", "How do I have lucid dreams Iv always thought that having a lucid dream would be cool. Please help me have one.", "How do I have lucid dreams Iv always thought that having a lucid dream would be cool. Please help me have one.", "How do I have lucid dreams Iv always thought that having a lucid dream would be cool. Please help me have one." ]

[ "please let us know how it goes, i have wondered whether learning how to lucid dream permanently messes your sleep ?", "people have all these fancy, complicated ways of doing it but you know what works for me?\n\nhold your nose. can you breathe? if you can, then ta-da! you are dreaming. do this in your life regularly and any time you are suspicious that you're dreaming. if that doesn't work, somehow--\n\nlook at a clock. is it hard to read? when you look away and look back, is the time drastically different? or--\n\nturn the lights on & off. it's notoriously difficult to change the light levels in your dreams.\n\nyou can increase your chances of lucid dreaming by sleeping on your back, taking naps, and even eating chocolate before bed. good luck.", "[This](http://www.dreamviews.com/attaining-lucidity/103264-how-mild-stephen-laberge.html) worked for many people on /r/luciddreaming. Also m", "You can lucid dream when you are conscious of being in a dream. Get into the habit of doing regular checks, things like \"how did I get here?\" often in dreams you appear somewhere without having travelled there.\n\nIt's also a lot of luck, so don't get upset if it takes you a while.", "Lucid dreaming is awakening your subconscious while sleeping what i did to start is reality checks. Write the letter \"A\" on your hand and every thirty minutes look at it and ask yourself if you are awake, hence the A. Another reality check is trying to push your finger through your hand, in a dream you will be able to do this. As a last resort reality check you can also shut your mouth and nose and try to breath, in a dream you will also be able to. It is very difficult and requires a lot of persistence. You might eventually get one and once you realize it you'll accidently wake yourself up. There are many methods to lucid dreaming and you should definitely check out /r/luciddreaming " ]

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[ "Staying warm in the cold but not burning hot inside. Maybe someone from the colder areas can help, but here is my situation:\n\nI am working in the Northeast of China, and the highest temp this week is 12 F and the low is -15 F. As I am not from cold climates as well as not having a lot of money for clothes, I have been layering to stay warm. This is fine when I am walking around town, but when I work in the schools, the heaters are on full blast and I am roasting.\n\nJust curious as to how I can stay cool indoors without having to start stripping in front of my students.", "Staying warm in the cold but not burning hot inside. Maybe someone from the colder areas can help, but here is my situation:\n\nI am working in the Northeast of China, and the highest temp this week is 12 F and the low is -15 F. As I am not from cold climates as well as not having a lot of money for clothes, I have been layering to stay warm. This is fine when I am walking around town, but when I work in the schools, the heaters are on full blast and I am roasting.\n\nJust curious as to how I can stay cool indoors without having to start stripping in front of my students.", "Staying warm in the cold but not burning hot inside. Maybe someone from the colder areas can help, but here is my situation:\n\nI am working in the Northeast of China, and the highest temp this week is 12 F and the low is -15 F. As I am not from cold climates as well as not having a lot of money for clothes, I have been layering to stay warm. This is fine when I am walking around town, but when I work in the schools, the heaters are on full blast and I am roasting.\n\nJust curious as to how I can stay cool indoors without having to start stripping in front of my students.", "Staying warm in the cold but not burning hot inside. Maybe someone from the colder areas can help, but here is my situation:\n\nI am working in the Northeast of China, and the highest temp this week is 12 F and the low is -15 F. As I am not from cold climates as well as not having a lot of money for clothes, I have been layering to stay warm. This is fine when I am walking around town, but when I work in the schools, the heaters are on full blast and I am roasting.\n\nJust curious as to how I can stay cool indoors without having to start stripping in front of my students.", "Staying warm in the cold but not burning hot inside. Maybe someone from the colder areas can help, but here is my situation:\n\nI am working in the Northeast of China, and the highest temp this week is 12 F and the low is -15 F. As I am not from cold climates as well as not having a lot of money for clothes, I have been layering to stay warm. This is fine when I am walking around town, but when I work in the schools, the heaters are on full blast and I am roasting.\n\nJust curious as to how I can stay cool indoors without having to start stripping in front of my students.", "Staying warm in the cold but not burning hot inside. Maybe someone from the colder areas can help, but here is my situation:\n\nI am working in the Northeast of China, and the highest temp this week is 12 F and the low is -15 F. As I am not from cold climates as well as not having a lot of money for clothes, I have been layering to stay warm. This is fine when I am walking around town, but when I work in the schools, the heaters are on full blast and I am roasting.\n\nJust curious as to how I can stay cool indoors without having to start stripping in front of my students.", "Staying warm in the cold but not burning hot inside. Maybe someone from the colder areas can help, but here is my situation:\n\nI am working in the Northeast of China, and the highest temp this week is 12 F and the low is -15 F. As I am not from cold climates as well as not having a lot of money for clothes, I have been layering to stay warm. This is fine when I am walking around town, but when I work in the schools, the heaters are on full blast and I am roasting.\n\nJust curious as to how I can stay cool indoors without having to start stripping in front of my students." ]

[ "Okay. \n\nWear thin wool as your first layer. And normal clothes as your second layers. Wool is one of the best fabrics you can get that is good at regulating heat and absorbing moist from your body. \n\nGet a big down-jacket that you can goes almost down to your knees, and your set. Take that big thing off when indoors, and the wool and normal clothes won't keep you too warm.", "don't layer undergarments or clothing, layer your jackets and outerwear. that way, all of the stuff that you are layering can be unzipped and taken off rather easily after you arrive at the school. to do this with pants, get some ski pants that unzip on the legs so that you can take them off over shoes. and bring a backpack if you're not doing so already so you can store all the stuff you're taking off without making a big mess.", "Walk faster then normal when you are outside. If you are exerting yourself then your body will produce enough heat to keep you warm even if it is quite cold. The trick is to make sure you have good gloves, hat and warm socks, since your body will tend to keep the core warm and steal heat from your extremities. Wool also works good here because it retains a lot of its insulating ability even when wet. If you start to sweat in all of your layers then they will not keep you warm, and will in fact act like a heat sink and cool you right down. ", "Long Underwear/Thermals are key. These keep my legs warm no problem. For my top, I never usually wear thermals, but you can if you want. I always wear a big heavy coat with a jacket underneath (a zip up hoody or something), and I get a nice big scarf. And that's about it aside from a hat and good gloves, and socks are a good idea, but I've never bothered (I'm from Wisconsin, so i guess I'm used to it).\n\nWhat you want to do is think about your layers. You definitely need to layer, so you can regulate heat by adding or taking away, but you don't want to have to take shirts off over your head if you don't have to. Think light jackets with zippers, shirts with buttons, cardigans, and the likes. I usually wear something with short sleeves as my base layer, and I build up from that.", "Do not layer, instead have a down jacket and under that a sweater that opens up completely. In this way you can just open up an let the warm air out on short stays indoors and take off the down jacket for longer stays indoors. Wear shoes with thick synthetic soles (sneaker like) one size too big. The sole will insulate you from the cold ground.\n\nThe outer sole should be fairly soft to not slip on ice and with a pattern that grips the snow well. Wear a cap that covers your ears and possibly also your cheeks. Think Andes style cap (Andes in South America).\n\nWear thin gloves and keep mittens as backup.", "Use a body oil on dry skin after your shower. It's subtle but it helps your skin retain heat. Think how much fat ducks and whales have to keep them warm in near freezing water. Also, I think I remember learning that up to about a hundred years ago, children would be covered in lard and wrapped in brown paper at the beginning of the winter. They would not remove this layer until spring. This would give them some insulation even if they couldn't afford adequate clothing. ", "Sleep well, eat more calories, move when you're in the cold outside to keep warm and get a good jacket." ]

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[ "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? ", "How to reduce eye strain I have a new job which involves me sitting and staring at my computer screen for large parts of the day. I've found that this has been making my eyes really itchy and causing small but frequent headaches. Any advice on how to reduce these problems and in general feel more energized after a long day on a computer? " ]

[ "This is all you need installed on your PC https://justgetflux.com/ Apart from that, try and reduce use of your phone late in bed if you do. If you feel you have no choice, just try installing any app searched under 'flux' to get similar type apps, whatever appstore it is, Google Play or iTunes.\n\nI also find that reading spreadsheets or just any bright white pages essay writing, or even coding can be specifically detrimental and accelerates the issue. Why? That is because your screen is at it's brightest and your eye needs to remain open for even longer than other visual tasks. Best solution for that is to also turn your PC to high contrast mode temporarily just while you are dealing with the white page reading issue. Even browsers have extensions to give you a one-click switch to deal with it https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/high-contrast/djcfdncoelnlbldjfhinnjlhdjlikmph?hl=en\n\nA lot of developer IDE applications also have a 'dark' theme setting to help.", "Close them for at least a minute every 15 minutes or so, or stare off into the distance, like through your screen. It allows your eyes to relax and reduces eye strain and the potential for developing near sightedness.\n\n", "1) The 20-20-20 Rule: Every 20 minutes take 20 seconds to look 20 feet away.\n2) Location of computer screen: optimally the screen should be 15-20 degrees (4-5 inches) below eye level and 20-28 inches away from the eyes.\n3) Minimize glare: monitor positioning or anti-glare screen if possible.\n4) Updated spectacle prescription: even a small amount of correction can make a big difference.\n5) Blue light blockers (lenses/filters): due to the way it focuses, blue light emitted by monitors can cause eyestrain and disrupt circadian rhythm.\n6) Blinking: blink rate heavily decreases when staring at a screen, make a conscious effort to blink. Artificial tears can be useful every few hours as well (this is more for dryness).\n\nSource: Optometrist (practicing in Silicon Valley)", "I don't think anyone else has asked this but do you wear glasses?\n\nI didn't, and for the first 2 years of working and I thought eye strain was just what happened. Got glasses 4 months ago and it makes a world of a difference. So my recommendation is get your eyes check on top of what everyone else has said about resting them. ", "Depending on the distance you sit from the computer, reading glasses might help. When I went to my last eye exam, the optometrist gave me a computer prescription along with my daily distance prescription. The lenses focus on the areas that are between 2 and 4 feet from your face so you can relax your eyes more. Even if you don't wear glasses normally, it might be worth it to talk with an optometrist about it.", "If your job doesn't allow you to install programs without administrator privileges or you just don't want to deal with that, you can use this site (which is what I use): http://www.protectyourvision.org/.\n\nIf you use Chrome you can enable notifications so you'll get a chime and a popup every 20 minutes and your screen will automatically go black for 20 seconds, forcing you to rest your eyes.", "If you don't need to see true colors you can shift the spectrum of the monitor more towards the red/yellow side. It's supposed to lessen eye strain.", "Amber-tinted glasses. Like these: http://www.gunnars.com/\n\nI sit in front of six big, mostly white monitors all day. I can tell a huge difference between wearing my normal glasses and my Gunnars all day. ", "Install a soft white light behind your monitor. I can't remember the science behind it, something about easing your pupil dilatations, but it works.", "Some of them look really silly, but check out glasses for playing video games. They're tinted a little bit, and they have the tiniest bit of magnification and it can really help with eye strain. Other people have said this as well, but definitely get your eyes checked even if you've never worn glasses before. Prescriptions can change over a lifetime especially as you age (between 35 and 40 are when most people start needing glasses for reading) so that could be causing your issues. Wearing a proper prescription, even if it's just for sitting at a computer, can really help with eye strain. Tell your eye doctor what distance you sit from the computer (take a measurement if you want to) so that he can dial in the prescription for the specific distance you'll use it at. Just make sure to get the anti-reflective coating if you do end up with glasses. It might seem like a gimmick, but it reduces glare through the lens material, and allows more light through the lens to give you sharper, clearer vision. Don't be cheap when it comes to glasses. I used to be an optician (someone certified to sell glasses) and I know that there's a big difference between glasses bought at super low end places (or online God forbid) and glasses bought at mid-range places. ", "What's worked for me over the years is making sure the light level behind my monitor was just about the same as the monitor itself. I sit a desk with a white wall behind my screen. I use two lamps to cast light on that wall that's roughly about 2/3rds as bright as the monitor I'm looking at. The lack of brightness contract between the monitor and my surroundings prevents all eye strain (for me). I use my computer ... too often, so if this works for me maybe it'll work for you.", "Make sure your monitor does not use [PWM](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pulse-width_modulation) dimming. Basically, it is one way that many screens dim, by flashing on and off rapidly, too fast to see. However, [some people get headaches and eye strain from it](http://www.flatpanelshd.com/focus.php?subaction=showfull&id=1362457985). **Many** monitors, especially cheaper ones, use it. You can check whether your monitor uses it with the instructions at that link.\n\nThere are two ways to deal with this: Either get a new monitor that doesn't use pwm dimming (often marketed as Flicker Free), or if you don't want to get a whole new monitor, the best you can do is max out the brightness of your screen using the physical buttons on it, then lower the brightness back to bearable levels using software such as [Dimmer](http://www.nelsonpires.com/software/dimmer).", "Keep well hydrated, increase the zoom so you can work leaning back, and if you have a window near you, take a moment to look outside every now and then.", "I get migraines triggered by bright light and eye strain. I recently got a new pair of glasses .. and had a 10% pink tint added to them. It has been life changing. Seriously. At first I was very self conscious about wearing pink glasses. But the fact that I went from at least 1 to 2 migraines per week to ZERO - yeah, I don't care what anyone thinks about my pink lenses any more.", "Get some computer glasses. They work wonders by filtering out blue (shorter) wavelengths of light that make your eyes hurt.\n\nGet the newer less goofy ones that don't have a yellow lens.\n\nSometimes I get too used to them and when I take them off I actually can feel my eyes struggling to deal with light.\n\nIf you have a prescription for lenses these shouldn't cost you more than 20 bucks for the coating.", "For anyone using Twillight on Android: You will be unable to manually install apps or accept/deny root permissions requests while the filter is on. This is a security feature of the app/system. \n\nTo do so, just disable the filter (pause) momentarily.\n\nSource: I tore my hair out for three hours one night trying to figure out why I was unable to install things manually.", "Cover your eyes with your hands, not allowing any light in but not touching your eyes. Look as far up down and sideways as you can to stretch the muscles, then leave them there for about a minute.\n\nIt helped me when I would write papers and stare at the screen, as well as with extended video gaming.", "What has worked for me is getting plenty of sleep. The more tired you are the more eye strain you will get.", "The 20-20-20 rule:\n\nEvery 20 minutes, focus on something 20+ ft away, for 20 seconds.\n\nIf you're working on a computer you *need* to have a reminder system to do this. You can try using the timer on your phone but if you're prone to forgetting to reset the timer every time it goes off, you might want to get a dedicated app. I see other recommendations on here, but I got the [EyeCare](https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/eyecare-save-your-vision/id388194171?mt=8) iPhone app - it costs $.99 but to me it was worth saving my vision.", "Start paying attention to your blinking patterns. When looking at LCD, we tend to blink less which means our eyes can dry out and become irritated. As a web dev, I find myself blinking intentionally to help with my eyes. I'd also recommend trying some eye drops and see how that goes.", "Sorry but flux cant be the (only) answer. Unless OP works the graveyard shift infront of a PC, other factors are more likely to cause his problems that are as followed:\n\n* Wrong Screen Resolution (it matters on TFT Screens)\n* Wrong Screen Frequency (59hz vs60Hz, some people react badly to 59)\n* Bad, wrong or no Lightening (behind, above, in front of) the screen (makes a ton of difference to have equal lumination around the screen)\n* Bad eyesight (get it checked, it degrades gradually so people usually dont notice it until they try to eat a bar of soap or mow down pedestrians in their car)\n* Screen too close, or too far away to see properly\n* Screen too small for the things it wants to display\n* writing too small putting strain on your eyes when reading\n* bad scaling of small text on a high resolution screen\n\nAll these, in combination as well can contribute to said problems you are having.", "Physiotherapist here... I often prescribe coloured filters to go over the monitor to reduce glare and eye strain. A cheap way to do this is go to the dollar store and get the transparent divider sheets in various colours. Try every colour to see which works best for you (blue and yellow work most often). Your headaches may also be caused by prolonged sitting with poor posture and head position, so request an ergonomic assessment of your work station or check [this] (http://solutions.3m.com.au/3MContentRetrievalAPI/BlobServlet?lmd=1345676680000&locale=en_WW&assetType=MMM_Image&assetId=1319235500860&blobAttribute=ImageFile) out. Also make sure to take frequent breaks from the screen and stand up, walk around and stretch often. To prevent carpal tunnel and peripheral nerve entrapments you can perform nerve flossing exercises shown [here] (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yZJ1MfKqByY) ", "Not sure if this has been posted, but aside from the downloadable programs that reduce the blue light your monitor emits and the eye exercises, there's a glasses company called '[Gunnar](https://gunnar.com/product-category/computer-eyewear/?_ga=1.22449019.1524799781.1463691955)' that makes eye glasses just for this problem. \n\n", "Most comprehensively answered by the Silicon Valley optometrist, but I'd add that for me a refresh rate of 60Hz on my LCD will induce fatigue. I switch to 75Hz. The numbers may vary, I'm in Europe, but the higher the better.\n\nAlso, the reason for positioning the screen below eye level is so that the eyelids cover more of the eyes, keeping them for drying out. So it may not be a problem if you blink a lot or have favorable humidity.", "Make sure the display is operating at the native resolution. Check the brightness options, too bright or too dim are not good. On the very narrow chance you are stuck using a CRT make sure the refresh rate is at least 85Hz.", "If you're using an office computer that doesn't give you admin rights (meaning can't install stuff) changing the colour \"temperature\" on the monitor to use less blue helped me a ton.\n\nWent from being unable to focus on anything on the drive home to being just fine all day. It will all depend on the monitor so hopefully you have some adjustment there. \n\nAlso remember to take some micro breaks when you can. Look out the window at something far away or across the office or something for a minute or two. Helps a bunch too.", "If you wear glasses, they have anti-blue reflective coatings you can get to reduce the strain on your eyes. I have a coating called recharge on my glasses that blocks the blue. You could try that. ", "If you are work open a new tab and go to http://www.protectyourvision.org/. It is a site that will notify you after a certain amount of time (you can choose to follow the 20-20-20 rule for example). It makes an audible sound that continues to play until you stop it so it is a great reminder. There is a small popup that appears as well but I don't notice it as much. \n\nWhere I work I cannot install something such as Flux, (which I recommend), so this works. Instead of following their 'eye exercises' however when taking a break, I just get up and stretch and not look at my computer for a couple of minutes since I set the timer to go off every 45 minutes.\n", "I'm an eye doctor that specializes in binocular garage and disorders. There are many things that can cause eyestrain and no two people are just alike. Besides giving your self a break from near work my looking 20 feet away for 20 seconds after 20 minutes of work, you may need further work up go see your eye doctor to make sure that you are and propria I wear as well as to look for any underline I alignment or focusing issues", "I used to work at a computer engineering firm. One of my coworkers suffered a sever concussion and had the same symptoms as you. They prescribed him computer glasses (tinted slightly yellow, and reduce glare). I am no doctor but if this continues or is a daily activity I would suggest making an appointment with your doctor and if there is no avail, amazon sells non-prescription gaming glasses.", "Hello Doc,\nLike many other people mentioned I'd recommend the use of Flux.\nThere's another software that you should look, it's called Eyeleo (provides some exercises at a specific amount of time)\nHope it helps.\n", "Entertain the idea of inverting the colors on your screen so it's white text on black background. Otherwise you're essentially staring into a semi bright light all day. The suitability of this depends on the software you're running.\n\nhttp://m.wikihow.com/Reduce-Computer-Eye-Strain-by-Switching-to-High-Contrast-(Windows-7)\n\nIf you're doing excel work and can't do this, I've found what works is fill the color of the cells to a light grey instead of the default white.", "20-20-20 rule did wonders for me. Every 20 mins look away at 20 metres for 20 seconds. It's easy to set up a timer in your browser: I have a tab with \"timer 20 minutes\" from Google permanently opened", "1. Install f.lux\n\n2. Install PangoBright (or other screen dimming alternative)\n\n3. Install bias lights behind monitor(s).\n\n4. Use a dark desktop background", "-Take microbreaks/do something else for 10 minutes after 2 hours of computerwork.\n-There are glasses specifically designed for computerwork. Go see your optician if this applies to your situation. Some employers will cover the cost of these glasses so discuss it with your boss also (after seeing the optician).", "Carrots make yours eyes stronger. Eat carrots! Just don't eat too many or your eyes will turn orange " ]

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[ "What are some things I should know when first moving out into an apartment I’m moving out for the first time around the beginning of next year, I know I’m bound to make mistakes but I wanted to know if anyone has some tips and tricks for moving out", "What are some things I should know when first moving out into an apartment I’m moving out for the first time around the beginning of next year, I know I’m bound to make mistakes but I wanted to know if anyone has some tips and tricks for moving out", "What are some things I should know when first moving out into an apartment I’m moving out for the first time around the beginning of next year, I know I’m bound to make mistakes but I wanted to know if anyone has some tips and tricks for moving out", "What are some things I should know when first moving out into an apartment I’m moving out for the first time around the beginning of next year, I know I’m bound to make mistakes but I wanted to know if anyone has some tips and tricks for moving out", "What are some things I should know when first moving out into an apartment I’m moving out for the first time around the beginning of next year, I know I’m bound to make mistakes but I wanted to know if anyone has some tips and tricks for moving out", "What are some things I should know when first moving out into an apartment I’m moving out for the first time around the beginning of next year, I know I’m bound to make mistakes but I wanted to know if anyone has some tips and tricks for moving out", "What are some things I should know when first moving out into an apartment I’m moving out for the first time around the beginning of next year, I know I’m bound to make mistakes but I wanted to know if anyone has some tips and tricks for moving out", "What are some things I should know when first moving out into an apartment I’m moving out for the first time around the beginning of next year, I know I’m bound to make mistakes but I wanted to know if anyone has some tips and tricks for moving out", "What are some things I should know when first moving out into an apartment I’m moving out for the first time around the beginning of next year, I know I’m bound to make mistakes but I wanted to know if anyone has some tips and tricks for moving out", "What are some things I should know when first moving out into an apartment I’m moving out for the first time around the beginning of next year, I know I’m bound to make mistakes but I wanted to know if anyone has some tips and tricks for moving out", "What are some things I should know when first moving out into an apartment I’m moving out for the first time around the beginning of next year, I know I’m bound to make mistakes but I wanted to know if anyone has some tips and tricks for moving out", "What are some things I should know when first moving out into an apartment I’m moving out for the first time around the beginning of next year, I know I’m bound to make mistakes but I wanted to know if anyone has some tips and tricks for moving out", "What are some things I should know when first moving out into an apartment I’m moving out for the first time around the beginning of next year, I know I’m bound to make mistakes but I wanted to know if anyone has some tips and tricks for moving out", "What are some things I should know when first moving out into an apartment I’m moving out for the first time around the beginning of next year, I know I’m bound to make mistakes but I wanted to know if anyone has some tips and tricks for moving out", "What are some things I should know when first moving out into an apartment I’m moving out for the first time around the beginning of next year, I know I’m bound to make mistakes but I wanted to know if anyone has some tips and tricks for moving out", "What are some things I should know when first moving out into an apartment I’m moving out for the first time around the beginning of next year, I know I’m bound to make mistakes but I wanted to know if anyone has some tips and tricks for moving out", "What are some things I should know when first moving out into an apartment I’m moving out for the first time around the beginning of next year, I know I’m bound to make mistakes but I wanted to know if anyone has some tips and tricks for moving out", "What are some things I should know when first moving out into an apartment I’m moving out for the first time around the beginning of next year, I know I’m bound to make mistakes but I wanted to know if anyone has some tips and tricks for moving out", "What are some things I should know when first moving out into an apartment I’m moving out for the first time around the beginning of next year, I know I’m bound to make mistakes but I wanted to know if anyone has some tips and tricks for moving out", "What are some things I should know when first moving out into an apartment I’m moving out for the first time around the beginning of next year, I know I’m bound to make mistakes but I wanted to know if anyone has some tips and tricks for moving out", "What are some things I should know when first moving out into an apartment I’m moving out for the first time around the beginning of next year, I know I’m bound to make mistakes but I wanted to know if anyone has some tips and tricks for moving out", "What are some things I should know when first moving out into an apartment I’m moving out for the first time around the beginning of next year, I know I’m bound to make mistakes but I wanted to know if anyone has some tips and tricks for moving out" ]

[ "Buy a plunger before you need it. Same goes for a fire extinguisher. NEVER use water on a grease fire.", "Know how to do these basic (but often forgotten-about) chores:\n- clean the lint trap in the dryer (EVERY USE!) \n- clean the dishwasher filter (usually in the bottom, super easy. Do this once a month). \n- put ice down the garbage disposal each month to clean it \n\nAlso, GET RENTERS INSURANCE. it’s MAYBE $15 a month and can save you THOUSANDS if you are robbed or a pipe bursts or something catches on fire. \n\nGet to know the tenant law and rights in your area. In most places in the US, a landlord cannot redeem your security deposit unless they provide receipts for the issues they used it to resolve. Ensure that legally-required amenities (like functioning heat, screens on windows, etc.) are in place and functional. Know your legal recourse if not. \n\nRead the lease thoroughly. Make sure you understand and are comfortable with the terms required to break the lease early, renew, paint the walls, or hang things up. \n\nUnderstand what utilities are coordinated through the apartment and which are your own responsibility. Often times water or heat will be included with your rent charge, but electricity and wifi will need to be set up on your own.", "Apart from the usual rent and pet policy.\n\n1. The surcharges on the rent.\n2. The portal to pay online.\n3. When it was built and if they have pest control\n4. Do they have a washer and dryer in the unit\n5. Speak to people in the apartment area and ask them how good is maintenance.", "Make a budget and stick to it as much as possible. Include an emergency fund in your budgeting. If you live fully paycheck to paycheck with no savings, needing a single new tire or something like that can really screw everything up. \n\nWhen you rent a new place take a detailed video and or pictures of everything before moving in so you have proof of how everything looked at time of rental to help you get your security deposit back. If there are any issues with anything, write it down on a paper and have your landlord sign it prior to move in, if they don't already do this.", "Keeping things neat actually makes you feel more calm and focused. Make a cleaning schedule. Do the dishes every night. Set a day of the week for picking things up, vacuuming and doing laundry. If you keep on top of things, it won't take long to put things in order. If you find your place is often cluttered, you have too much stuff. Donate the excess.", "Make sure you have WORKING smoke and carbon monoxide detectors. In some areas, landlords are responsible for these things, but it’s surprising in how many areas it’s the renters responsibility.\n\nIt’s a relatively cheap way to save your life and your neighbors and it’s surprising how often people die or are injured from ignoring these two cheap pieces of safety equipment.\n\nAlso, make sure you have at least 2 means of egress in every room (windows count). If windows are sealed and you live on an upper level, make sure you have a fire ladder and something to break a window.", "Drive around the apartment complex. \nTake a look at the dumpster area. Is it totally trashed or just trash day? \nWindows of the other units. If most of them are messed up, bad place. If they are a nice, better place. \nDo the people look friendly? Or do they keep their heads down? \nAre kids playing outside? That's usually a good sign.", "Lots of solid advice here, so I'll add make sure you have: \ntoilet paper! \na can opener \na shower curtain plus hooks to hang it if needed, and be prepared to set up a rod, if it's not already there \nget the numbers for maintenance for after hours emergencies and put them on the fridge \nask if they will give you an extra key (for you to leave with a friend in case you lose your keys). If they refuse, find a place that will let you make one (my backpack was stolen, keys in it. Apartment complex said it was my problem, but to make sure I gave them a key whenever I had a locksmith come replace the lock) \nif you have a window/s that gets lots of sun, get sun blocking window film! It'll keep your cooling bills down and it can be peeled off when you leave (or leave it for the next guy, if you did a good job putting it on) \nask about package delivery- if you get an Amazon box, is there a place for USPS to put it? What if the box comes Fedex or UPS, is there someone to take your box or will the driver leave it by the door outside your multi-apartment complex? (yeah, I'm bitter about that too, \"staffed front desk\" my ass)", "Your homeowner does not have the right to enter your apartment at anytime unless you guys plan together. \n\nMy 2nd homeowner came and went as he pleased, its illegal\n\nKnow your rights", "For getting on with room mates and having the \"upper hand\".\n\nBe the cleanest one there. Tidy up wash up clean the house.\n\nGood for the mind, free exercise and if anyone has an issue you can just quote the clean bathroom", "besides all of this great advice, i would think about your habits - if you like to stay up late, be loud by either music, tv, or yelling at video games, then make sure you don't have neighbors close by. Don't pour grease down the sink. Ask about getting reimbursed for doing any home improvements (if you are allowed to) such as repainting. Make sure you have a good parking situation- some places only let you park 1 car.", "Take pictures of everything the day you move in. File them away and if the landlord starts giving you shit about your security deposit you’ll have proof of condition.", "Take pictures of any damage already present on your move in day. Make sure they have a date stamp.\n\nEither buy Demon and a sprayer from the feed store to spray the perimeter of your place for bugs, or budget for an exterminator every few months. Roaches from gross neighbors or previous renters can definitely be a problem. \n\nAlso, shred ALL of your mail. Or at least tear up cr", "Read your lease and understand it thoroughly. No ambiguity or questions. What people say matters little, your tenancy is governed by the lease.", "If you’re living alone, have all the things you might need for when you’re sick. A puke bucket, a thermometer, pain meds, cough syrup, hydrating drinks, cooking packs etc\n\nThe first time you get sick living on your own is quite the eye opener and makes you realize how much you miss your family home and propel coming to being you things and take care of you", "If you don't already know the neighborhood, go there at different times of day and different days of the week. Mornings when people are leaving for work, when school lets out, and \\*especially\\* go late at night on weekends.\n\nAs soon as you decide on a place, add the police non-emergency and poison control numbers to your phone. If you have a pet, also add any late-hours emergency clinics.\n\nREAD AND UNDERSTAND EVERY WORD OF THE LEASE. You can assume your landlord already has and does, and if things to to court, the lease is what the court will go by. If you can afford it, have a lawyer read it before you sign it. Always keep your lease somewhere you can quickly find it. Make sure all important conversations are on paper, text, or email, and don't delete them.\n\nGet renter's insurance.\n\nIf you know you're going to be late with the rent, talk to your landlord as soon as you can. They can be surprisingly flexible, especially if it's just a person and not a company. Honesty goes a long way. (I've been a landlord for 15 years.)\n\nOn Day One take pictures of every inch of the place/property/appliances and anything else you might be liable for, like a yard, fence, driveway, etc.\n\nIf you're still gonna live close to your parents, don't move everything at once. You'll find there are some things you just don't need, and it gives you lots of opportunities to go back and visit with them.\n\nCan't say this one enough: read and understand every word of the lease.", "I already commented but in regards to furniture. Never buy a bed frame or mattress used (bed bugs) and exercise a TON of caution buying couches and upholstered chairs used because, again, bed bugs.\n\nIf you do buy used furniture, the end of the month is the best time to buy because a lot of people are ending their leases on the first of the month and getting rid of perfectly good furniture. Goodwill/thrift stores are great to get cheap knickknacks/kitchen ware for your place (definitely also check at the end of the month)", "Chew your food. Heimlich Maneuvering yourself is not something you want to have to do to avoid \"death from choking on a muffin or something.\"", "Budget , live within your means , you could make 50 million a year , and still end up like Wesley Snipes.", "Before you move in write down everything that's wrong with the apartment. Wall scuffs, broken fixtures, worn carpet, smells, ceiling dings, crooked cabinets, non closing doors, crusty faucets, dirty anything, and everything in between. I moved into a newly built apartment and lived there for years and got my whole deposit back.", "Bed bugs exist and they are a damn nightmare. Do research on how to check for them. Ctrl+F search your lease to look for clauses about pests.\n\nMy first apartment a decade ago had bed bugs and apparently a lot of tenants had them and there was a clause in my lease that we would have to pay for any insect pest control services because they likely knew a lot of their units had them. It was a nightmare. Anyways, none of my places since then have had trouble with pests and haven’t had any clauses about pests. So if you see mention of pests in the lease, immediately raise an eyebrow.", "Make a list of all the cool ideas you come up with about organising and cooking and what you're going to do with all your space. \n\nThrow that list out. \n\nStart with learning the basics of how to survive, how to take care of yourself, how to do your share of the house upkeep. Then see how much spare energy you have after that. If all you can manage is ramen? Sure that cook book your aunt gave you for your 18th has some really cool stuff in it but making fancy dinners is going to have to wait. Maybe once you have someone worth impressing you can give them a try. For now, know your limits." ]

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[ "Ways to study for exams When I got straight A's in HS, I normally kept a strict schedule and organized my days really well to make sure I studied for everything here and there. In college, a whole nother story consider every day has random shit (plus I have a gf, random times to meet).\n\nI've heard that studying for 30 minutes, taking a 15 minute break, studying for 30 minutes, 15 minute break, is the best way to study. I haven't really kept a strict schedule on it, but I find myself taking longer breaks than normal.\n\nCoffee certainly helps me, not sure why, but it does. What are your studying for exams/finals tips?", "Ways to study for exams When I got straight A's in HS, I normally kept a strict schedule and organized my days really well to make sure I studied for everything here and there. In college, a whole nother story consider every day has random shit (plus I have a gf, random times to meet).\n\nI've heard that studying for 30 minutes, taking a 15 minute break, studying for 30 minutes, 15 minute break, is the best way to study. I haven't really kept a strict schedule on it, but I find myself taking longer breaks than normal.\n\nCoffee certainly helps me, not sure why, but it does. What are your studying for exams/finals tips?", "Ways to study for exams When I got straight A's in HS, I normally kept a strict schedule and organized my days really well to make sure I studied for everything here and there. In college, a whole nother story consider every day has random shit (plus I have a gf, random times to meet).\n\nI've heard that studying for 30 minutes, taking a 15 minute break, studying for 30 minutes, 15 minute break, is the best way to study. I haven't really kept a strict schedule on it, but I find myself taking longer breaks than normal.\n\nCoffee certainly helps me, not sure why, but it does. What are your studying for exams/finals tips?", "Ways to study for exams When I got straight A's in HS, I normally kept a strict schedule and organized my days really well to make sure I studied for everything here and there. In college, a whole nother story consider every day has random shit (plus I have a gf, random times to meet).\n\nI've heard that studying for 30 minutes, taking a 15 minute break, studying for 30 minutes, 15 minute break, is the best way to study. I haven't really kept a strict schedule on it, but I find myself taking longer breaks than normal.\n\nCoffee certainly helps me, not sure why, but it does. What are your studying for exams/finals tips?", "Ways to study for exams When I got straight A's in HS, I normally kept a strict schedule and organized my days really well to make sure I studied for everything here and there. In college, a whole nother story consider every day has random shit (plus I have a gf, random times to meet).\n\nI've heard that studying for 30 minutes, taking a 15 minute break, studying for 30 minutes, 15 minute break, is the best way to study. I haven't really kept a strict schedule on it, but I find myself taking longer breaks than normal.\n\nCoffee certainly helps me, not sure why, but it does. What are your studying for exams/finals tips?", "Ways to study for exams When I got straight A's in HS, I normally kept a strict schedule and organized my days really well to make sure I studied for everything here and there. In college, a whole nother story consider every day has random shit (plus I have a gf, random times to meet).\n\nI've heard that studying for 30 minutes, taking a 15 minute break, studying for 30 minutes, 15 minute break, is the best way to study. I haven't really kept a strict schedule on it, but I find myself taking longer breaks than normal.\n\nCoffee certainly helps me, not sure why, but it does. What are your studying for exams/finals tips?", "Ways to study for exams When I got straight A's in HS, I normally kept a strict schedule and organized my days really well to make sure I studied for everything here and there. In college, a whole nother story consider every day has random shit (plus I have a gf, random times to meet).\n\nI've heard that studying for 30 minutes, taking a 15 minute break, studying for 30 minutes, 15 minute break, is the best way to study. I haven't really kept a strict schedule on it, but I find myself taking longer breaks than normal.\n\nCoffee certainly helps me, not sure why, but it does. What are your studying for exams/finals tips?" ]

[ "Having had shit grades through college, I have finally figured out what works for me. This may not be what works for you but perhaps you can glean something from it. As for my classes now, I'm taking a first year medical school curriculum and have nothing lower than an A-. \n \n1. Take notes by pen on printouts of power point slides (if your prof provides them before lecture) or take notes in a notebook. It takes a while to get fast but it helps to write it out versus just typing out your notes on your computer. I used to use OneNote exclusively but I realized that it was \"too easy\" to take notes and too easy to forget about them. \n\n1. Once you are done with your lecture notes, get a blank sheet of paper and rewrite and condense your notes. **This is the most important part**. You have all the time you need so just make sure it is organized, clean, and use no more than one 8 x 11in paper per lecture. This will force you to actually think about what you condense. Draw out concepts, use arrows for short hand, color code important concepts if you need to. You will use this sheet to study for exams. \n\n1. Mnemonics. Med school is all about memorizing a shit ton of information in a short time while trying to apply it on exams. I *need* to use mnemonics to memorize a large list. The more perverted and dirty they are, the more they stick in memory. \n\n1. Whiteboard and study groups. I found that studying in a small group that meets regularly (1-4 times a week, or everyday) works best. Use the whiteboard or chalkboard. This is probably the only way I am able to memorize long biochemical pathways. Writing it on paper never works for me. \n\n1. Minimize distractions. I never study at home anymore. I spend about 6 hours at the library each day and when I come home, I do not even touch my academic material. There are studies shown that our brains like to compartmentalize bits of knowledge and I consider my house a \"compartment\". I do not group my studying with places of sleep or play or eating. \n\n1. You mentioned caffeine. You might want to head over to [/r/nootropics](/r/nootropics) and look into drinking more green tea. Cognition [studies](http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/18006208) have shown that L-Theanine and Caffeine actually improve mood and cognition considerably when taken together. Caffeine will give you that slight edge and L-Theanine removes that awful crash. These compounds occur together in green tea. \n\n1. Podcast/Videocasts. I hope your school offers these because when it comes closer to exam time, all I do is review that condensed sheet of notes I made and re-listen to lectures. If you listen to them on 2.5x original speed, it should be a lot quicker. Again, this all depends on if your school offers them. \n\n1. Last bit of advice. Know yourself. If you aren't going to study, then don't force yourself to study. Realize that half-assed studying is a waste of time and could much rather be spent in the gym, sleeping, hanging out with your gf, or whatever. When you do study, however, make sure it is the only thing you are doing. ", "I use 30-on, 30-off patterns, sometimes 40-on, 20-off. Keeps my studying \"stamina\" up. Day before the exam, and up to one hour before the actual exam, make it slightly longer on, shorter off.\n\n\nSpeaking of which, my 30 minutes are up. ", "I always write down all the information I need to know so I can learn from the tip of my pencil to my brain I always seem to have a lot of success this way\n", "Get this book\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Memory-Book-Classic-Improving-School/dp/0345410025/ref=sr_1_7?ie=UTF8&qid=1322801875&sr=8-7\n\n\nAnd this book\n\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Breakthrough-Rapid-Reading-Peter-Kump/dp/073520019X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1322801891&sr=8-1\n\n\n\n\nStudy little, know a lot. Memorization techniques cut my study time in half, and because I could memorize instantly I only had to read something once, and very fast at that.", "find a friend and quiz each other on the content, walk around while answering, and don't be afraid to get emotional.", "Just do the homework whenever there's any and make sure that you review your notes whenever necessary and read the book to refresh your memory on things that you might have missed. Take the time to reread the material that you struggled with and make sure you have a good grasp on everything.", "I would suggest getting anki (it's a free flashcard based program) and taking a couple of minutes each day to add key things that you need to learn to it, it's worked really well for me" ]

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[ "Ways to feel less suffocated at and after work? I'm talking about physically feeling hard to breathe. I've been in this new position for a 2 months. The workload is a lot and I'm taking up things I'm not familiar with. I feel so overwhelmed and hard of breathing when there's ad hoc stuff coming up and multiple deadlines in a week. And keep ruminating what might go wrong and if I've made any mistakes at work.\n\nI know it'll get better when I'm more familiarized with my job scope. But for the time being, any advice on how to chill out and deal with this overwhelming sensation? \n\nThank you in advance!", "Ways to feel less suffocated at and after work? I'm talking about physically feeling hard to breathe. I've been in this new position for a 2 months. The workload is a lot and I'm taking up things I'm not familiar with. I feel so overwhelmed and hard of breathing when there's ad hoc stuff coming up and multiple deadlines in a week. And keep ruminating what might go wrong and if I've made any mistakes at work.\n\nI know it'll get better when I'm more familiarized with my job scope. But for the time being, any advice on how to chill out and deal with this overwhelming sensation? \n\nThank you in advance!", "Ways to feel less suffocated at and after work? I'm talking about physically feeling hard to breathe. I've been in this new position for a 2 months. The workload is a lot and I'm taking up things I'm not familiar with. I feel so overwhelmed and hard of breathing when there's ad hoc stuff coming up and multiple deadlines in a week. And keep ruminating what might go wrong and if I've made any mistakes at work.\n\nI know it'll get better when I'm more familiarized with my job scope. But for the time being, any advice on how to chill out and deal with this overwhelming sensation? \n\nThank you in advance!", "Ways to feel less suffocated at and after work? I'm talking about physically feeling hard to breathe. I've been in this new position for a 2 months. The workload is a lot and I'm taking up things I'm not familiar with. I feel so overwhelmed and hard of breathing when there's ad hoc stuff coming up and multiple deadlines in a week. And keep ruminating what might go wrong and if I've made any mistakes at work.\n\nI know it'll get better when I'm more familiarized with my job scope. But for the time being, any advice on how to chill out and deal with this overwhelming sensation? \n\nThank you in advance!", "Ways to feel less suffocated at and after work? I'm talking about physically feeling hard to breathe. I've been in this new position for a 2 months. The workload is a lot and I'm taking up things I'm not familiar with. I feel so overwhelmed and hard of breathing when there's ad hoc stuff coming up and multiple deadlines in a week. And keep ruminating what might go wrong and if I've made any mistakes at work.\n\nI know it'll get better when I'm more familiarized with my job scope. But for the time being, any advice on how to chill out and deal with this overwhelming sensation? \n\nThank you in advance!" ]

[ "Write down a running list of things to be done and deadlines coming up. Cross them off as you complete items and pass dates. The act of physically writing it down really helps me stay focused on one or two things at a time.", "Go for a mindful walk. It can be in the morning, or after work. Perhaps during a break, or all three. It can really help reframe your perspective. Balance is a terrific free for a year app if you think you'd like to listen to a guided program, and they have walking versions for cities, parks, and suburbs. Try it! 🍀", "One thing at a time. Take breaks for yoga breathing or just take a walk out of your area when you can. \n\nLeave work at work.", "Multitasking is a myth. As others commented, you can only do one thing at a time. Honestly it sounds like they really loaded you up, expecting waaay too much from one person. Take care of yourself in that environment and have *reasonable* expectations from yourself. You can only do what you can do. If it’s too much, that’s on them - not you.", "M" ]

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[ "How to keep my pillowcase from slowly coming off. Over the period of a few nights, my pillowcase will slowly but surely start coming off my pillow. I am not a restless sleeper so I'm not sure why or how this happens.", "How to keep my pillowcase from slowly coming off. Over the period of a few nights, my pillowcase will slowly but surely start coming off my pillow. I am not a restless sleeper so I'm not sure why or how this happens." ]

[ "Some pillow cases have zippers to zip the pillow inside . If you can't find any and can't find anyone to sew some zippers on for you snaps (like ones found on the side of some types of track pants) are very simple to put on. And if that doesn't work, as a last resort Velcro is super easy to apply.", "Just spray some hairspray on the pillow and while it is still wet slip the pillowcase over it and let it dry.\n" ]

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[ "How to embrace loneliness? I guess everyone hate me. I got blocked and unfriended by some old friends on Facebook for just no reason. I don't talk to new people. I find myself so weird and worry about how I present myself to others.\nI just deactivated my fb account. I just have another account for the pages I manage. Is it okay to be alone with no friends? It do hurts but how do I accept it and be happy? Can I make it to showbiz without any friends? Can I get successful without any friends?", "How to embrace loneliness? I guess everyone hate me. I got blocked and unfriended by some old friends on Facebook for just no reason. I don't talk to new people. I find myself so weird and worry about how I present myself to others.\nI just deactivated my fb account. I just have another account for the pages I manage. Is it okay to be alone with no friends? It do hurts but how do I accept it and be happy? Can I make it to showbiz without any friends? Can I get successful without any friends?", "How to embrace loneliness? I guess everyone hate me. I got blocked and unfriended by some old friends on Facebook for just no reason. I don't talk to new people. I find myself so weird and worry about how I present myself to others.\nI just deactivated my fb account. I just have another account for the pages I manage. Is it okay to be alone with no friends? It do hurts but how do I accept it and be happy? Can I make it to showbiz without any friends? Can I get successful without any friends?", "How to embrace loneliness? I guess everyone hate me. I got blocked and unfriended by some old friends on Facebook for just no reason. I don't talk to new people. I find myself so weird and worry about how I present myself to others.\nI just deactivated my fb account. I just have another account for the pages I manage. Is it okay to be alone with no friends? It do hurts but how do I accept it and be happy? Can I make it to showbiz without any friends? Can I get successful without any friends?", "How to embrace loneliness? I guess everyone hate me. I got blocked and unfriended by some old friends on Facebook for just no reason. I don't talk to new people. I find myself so weird and worry about how I present myself to others.\nI just deactivated my fb account. I just have another account for the pages I manage. Is it okay to be alone with no friends? It do hurts but how do I accept it and be happy? Can I make it to showbiz without any friends? Can I get successful without any friends?", "How to embrace loneliness? I guess everyone hate me. I got blocked and unfriended by some old friends on Facebook for just no reason. I don't talk to new people. I find myself so weird and worry about how I present myself to others.\nI just deactivated my fb account. I just have another account for the pages I manage. Is it okay to be alone with no friends? It do hurts but how do I accept it and be happy? Can I make it to showbiz without any friends? Can I get successful without any friends?" ]

[ "Don't embrace loneliness. Embrace solitude- they're two similar but very different concepts under the surface.\n\nI have always been told by my mum (of all people) that you come into this world alone, and you leave this world alone, so you have to be your friend when you're alone. \nYour post seems like a cry for help... How do you feel about being alone? Loneliness is a horrendous feeling, and can make you pull away from others, worsening the problem.\n\nRely on yourself and embrace solitude- but combat loneliness. Do it slowly, and totally at your pace. Reach out, and if someone doesn't respond, have the confidence to be your own best friend.\n\nI hope you don't find this rambly! ", "umm my 2 cents is read novels/watch stories to simulate social connection in a safe way. m", "Well first of all I don't advise embracing loneliness unless you are 100% prepared to do so. Also if your friends just blocked you for no reason I don't think they're worth being thought of as friends.\n\n\nAside from that you can realize the benefits of not having friends. You get to spend more time with yourself and not worry about making time for other people. It also gives you a chance to better yourself without worrying about other.\n\n\nOr alternatively you could just realize that your life is 80 years out of a billion. That's just a small speck in time. So why should it matter that you don't have friends.", "Just do whatever interests you. Find some clubs or groups that are into that same thing and go to a meeting. Youll make new friends in no time. I recently lost a lot of friends. Im into live music so i used the time i would usually spend with my friends going to more local shows and discovering the scene. In the process, i made loads of new friend who are a lot better than the ones i had before.", "I dealt with loneliness a lot a couple years ago. The key for me was to learn who I was what I liked. Be happy with who you are. If you aren't happy with who you are accept yourself and/or \"fix\" what can be \"fixed\". After all that, when you are happy with you, your outlook may change. Find people of similar interests. Be yourself. No matter how weird you are, or think you are, there are lots of people just as if not more weird. If you want to meet weird people go to a comic shop or tabletop game store and participate in the adventures and game nights. Even though you don't know people, and even if you are nervous, the game gives an excellent reason and excuse to talk with others without necessarily having to drive a conversation. In the last year I have made 7 or 8 new friends and dozens of acquaintances by playing in Dungeons and Dragons Adventurer's League. \n\nTL/DR accept yourself, find a mechanism that can ease you into meeting people. No matter what, make sure you figure out who you are and what makes you happy. Then pursue it and say hi to the people dong the same.", "Well embrace yourself first and get out and make some new friends. Gotta make expand your network and connections to make it into the world of showbiz." ]

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[ "Readjusting Car insurance will impact me in future? Young adult here. I pay nearly $300/month for my car insurance currently. I will be moving to ND for work for the next 3 months but will still commute home at least 12 days out of the month. I’m not bringing my car to ND because I will live 4 blocks from work and I don’t plan on driving when I am home.\n\nI read that canceling your car insurance will have a negative impact in reapplying for car insurance in the future. Is it okay for me to readjust my policy to basically it will cover nothing? Doing this will only cost me $13/month which will be a huge saving for me.", "Readjusting Car insurance will impact me in future? Young adult here. I pay nearly $300/month for my car insurance currently. I will be moving to ND for work for the next 3 months but will still commute home at least 12 days out of the month. I’m not bringing my car to ND because I will live 4 blocks from work and I don’t plan on driving when I am home.\n\nI read that canceling your car insurance will have a negative impact in reapplying for car insurance in the future. Is it okay for me to readjust my policy to basically it will cover nothing? Doing this will only cost me $13/month which will be a huge saving for me.", "Readjusting Car insurance will impact me in future? Young adult here. I pay nearly $300/month for my car insurance currently. I will be moving to ND for work for the next 3 months but will still commute home at least 12 days out of the month. I’m not bringing my car to ND because I will live 4 blocks from work and I don’t plan on driving when I am home.\n\nI read that canceling your car insurance will have a negative impact in reapplying for car insurance in the future. Is it okay for me to readjust my policy to basically it will cover nothing? Doing this will only cost me $13/month which will be a huge saving for me.", "Readjusting Car insurance will impact me in future? Young adult here. I pay nearly $300/month for my car insurance currently. I will be moving to ND for work for the next 3 months but will still commute home at least 12 days out of the month. I’m not bringing my car to ND because I will live 4 blocks from work and I don’t plan on driving when I am home.\n\nI read that canceling your car insurance will have a negative impact in reapplying for car insurance in the future. Is it okay for me to readjust my policy to basically it will cover nothing? Doing this will only cost me $13/month which will be a huge saving for me." ]

[ "There is a non-operating option as well that keeps it covered but not if you drive it and get hit or anything", "Call your insurance agent (or company, if you have no agent), explain the situation to them, and ask for options. All we can do is make guesses about what your insurer can offer (but everything I’ve read so far seems legit). You don’t want to mess with all the questions that will be asked if your vehicle goes to an uninsured status. ", "Ask your insurance company about a storage discount, otherwise it’s fine to just go down to your state liability minimums. The big thing is to carry at least your state minimums or you will get fees and penalties from the state.", "You could possibly look into insurance policies/ companies where you only pay based on the miles/ km you drive and just apply for the minimum. That way you're still insured if you do drive it a little but you're not paying for not using your car." ]

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[ "How to stay on task I tried fixing this problem with homework by staying after school in the library and it does work. But the library closes after 45 minutes and then I had to go home but whenever I try doing homework at home I get distracted by everything (phone, and such) but I never had this problem in the school library even when I have my phone on me, in fact there seems to be more distractions in the school library since my friends are usually there but I find myself getting more work done in school than at any other place. I tried fixing this problem by going to a local library to work or other places except home but the only place i seem to get work done is at school and at the school library where theres limited time to do things before they force you to go home, how do I fix this?", "How to stay on task I tried fixing this problem with homework by staying after school in the library and it does work. But the library closes after 45 minutes and then I had to go home but whenever I try doing homework at home I get distracted by everything (phone, and such) but I never had this problem in the school library even when I have my phone on me, in fact there seems to be more distractions in the school library since my friends are usually there but I find myself getting more work done in school than at any other place. I tried fixing this problem by going to a local library to work or other places except home but the only place i seem to get work done is at school and at the school library where theres limited time to do things before they force you to go home, how do I fix this?" ]

[ "You should m", "Is there any place like a library such as a study cafe? I'm not sure if this place is common. In my country, there are many places like a library, although it costs some money." ]

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[ "How to stop putting beautiful girls up on a pedestal even before meeting them My ex was beautiful, like a lot prettier than most girls in my school, and because of that I thought so highly of her even before we met. I always invisioned her being an amazing girlfriend and I remember thinking to myself that if I was ever lucky enough to have her I would be so grateful that I would never argue with her and that I would treat her as best as I could. We started seeing a year ago today, and we broke up a few months ago in september, she was a lot of hard work and although I loved her deeply it didn't work out. Anyway, because of her looks I put her up on this pedestal as if she was superior to me or anyone else and I want to know how I can stop doing this in future when I meet pretty women as I feel as though it's detrimental to building relationships and makes break ups harder.", "How to stop putting beautiful girls up on a pedestal even before meeting them My ex was beautiful, like a lot prettier than most girls in my school, and because of that I thought so highly of her even before we met. I always invisioned her being an amazing girlfriend and I remember thinking to myself that if I was ever lucky enough to have her I would be so grateful that I would never argue with her and that I would treat her as best as I could. We started seeing a year ago today, and we broke up a few months ago in september, she was a lot of hard work and although I loved her deeply it didn't work out. Anyway, because of her looks I put her up on this pedestal as if she was superior to me or anyone else and I want to know how I can stop doing this in future when I meet pretty women as I feel as though it's detrimental to building relationships and makes break ups harder.", "How to stop putting beautiful girls up on a pedestal even before meeting them My ex was beautiful, like a lot prettier than most girls in my school, and because of that I thought so highly of her even before we met. I always invisioned her being an amazing girlfriend and I remember thinking to myself that if I was ever lucky enough to have her I would be so grateful that I would never argue with her and that I would treat her as best as I could. We started seeing a year ago today, and we broke up a few months ago in september, she was a lot of hard work and although I loved her deeply it didn't work out. Anyway, because of her looks I put her up on this pedestal as if she was superior to me or anyone else and I want to know how I can stop doing this in future when I meet pretty women as I feel as though it's detrimental to building relationships and makes break ups harder.", "How to stop putting beautiful girls up on a pedestal even before meeting them My ex was beautiful, like a lot prettier than most girls in my school, and because of that I thought so highly of her even before we met. I always invisioned her being an amazing girlfriend and I remember thinking to myself that if I was ever lucky enough to have her I would be so grateful that I would never argue with her and that I would treat her as best as I could. We started seeing a year ago today, and we broke up a few months ago in september, she was a lot of hard work and although I loved her deeply it didn't work out. Anyway, because of her looks I put her up on this pedestal as if she was superior to me or anyone else and I want to know how I can stop doing this in future when I meet pretty women as I feel as though it's detrimental to building relationships and makes break ups harder.", "How to stop putting beautiful girls up on a pedestal even before meeting them My ex was beautiful, like a lot prettier than most girls in my school, and because of that I thought so highly of her even before we met. I always invisioned her being an amazing girlfriend and I remember thinking to myself that if I was ever lucky enough to have her I would be so grateful that I would never argue with her and that I would treat her as best as I could. We started seeing a year ago today, and we broke up a few months ago in september, she was a lot of hard work and although I loved her deeply it didn't work out. Anyway, because of her looks I put her up on this pedestal as if she was superior to me or anyone else and I want to know how I can stop doing this in future when I meet pretty women as I feel as though it's detrimental to building relationships and makes break ups harder.", "How to stop putting beautiful girls up on a pedestal even before meeting them My ex was beautiful, like a lot prettier than most girls in my school, and because of that I thought so highly of her even before we met. I always invisioned her being an amazing girlfriend and I remember thinking to myself that if I was ever lucky enough to have her I would be so grateful that I would never argue with her and that I would treat her as best as I could. We started seeing a year ago today, and we broke up a few months ago in september, she was a lot of hard work and although I loved her deeply it didn't work out. Anyway, because of her looks I put her up on this pedestal as if she was superior to me or anyone else and I want to know how I can stop doing this in future when I meet pretty women as I feel as though it's detrimental to building relationships and makes break ups harder.", "How to stop putting beautiful girls up on a pedestal even before meeting them My ex was beautiful, like a lot prettier than most girls in my school, and because of that I thought so highly of her even before we met. I always invisioned her being an amazing girlfriend and I remember thinking to myself that if I was ever lucky enough to have her I would be so grateful that I would never argue with her and that I would treat her as best as I could. We started seeing a year ago today, and we broke up a few months ago in september, she was a lot of hard work and although I loved her deeply it didn't work out. Anyway, because of her looks I put her up on this pedestal as if she was superior to me or anyone else and I want to know how I can stop doing this in future when I meet pretty women as I feel as though it's detrimental to building relationships and makes break ups harder.", "How to stop putting beautiful girls up on a pedestal even before meeting them My ex was beautiful, like a lot prettier than most girls in my school, and because of that I thought so highly of her even before we met. I always invisioned her being an amazing girlfriend and I remember thinking to myself that if I was ever lucky enough to have her I would be so grateful that I would never argue with her and that I would treat her as best as I could. We started seeing a year ago today, and we broke up a few months ago in september, she was a lot of hard work and although I loved her deeply it didn't work out. Anyway, because of her looks I put her up on this pedestal as if she was superior to me or anyone else and I want to know how I can stop doing this in future when I meet pretty women as I feel as though it's detrimental to building relationships and makes break ups harder.", "How to stop putting beautiful girls up on a pedestal even before meeting them My ex was beautiful, like a lot prettier than most girls in my school, and because of that I thought so highly of her even before we met. I always invisioned her being an amazing girlfriend and I remember thinking to myself that if I was ever lucky enough to have her I would be so grateful that I would never argue with her and that I would treat her as best as I could. We started seeing a year ago today, and we broke up a few months ago in september, she was a lot of hard work and although I loved her deeply it didn't work out. Anyway, because of her looks I put her up on this pedestal as if she was superior to me or anyone else and I want to know how I can stop doing this in future when I meet pretty women as I feel as though it's detrimental to building relationships and makes break ups harder.", "How to stop putting beautiful girls up on a pedestal even before meeting them My ex was beautiful, like a lot prettier than most girls in my school, and because of that I thought so highly of her even before we met. I always invisioned her being an amazing girlfriend and I remember thinking to myself that if I was ever lucky enough to have her I would be so grateful that I would never argue with her and that I would treat her as best as I could. We started seeing a year ago today, and we broke up a few months ago in september, she was a lot of hard work and although I loved her deeply it didn't work out. Anyway, because of her looks I put her up on this pedestal as if she was superior to me or anyone else and I want to know how I can stop doing this in future when I meet pretty women as I feel as though it's detrimental to building relationships and makes break ups harder.", "How to stop putting beautiful girls up on a pedestal even before meeting them My ex was beautiful, like a lot prettier than most girls in my school, and because of that I thought so highly of her even before we met. I always invisioned her being an amazing girlfriend and I remember thinking to myself that if I was ever lucky enough to have her I would be so grateful that I would never argue with her and that I would treat her as best as I could. We started seeing a year ago today, and we broke up a few months ago in september, she was a lot of hard work and although I loved her deeply it didn't work out. Anyway, because of her looks I put her up on this pedestal as if she was superior to me or anyone else and I want to know how I can stop doing this in future when I meet pretty women as I feel as though it's detrimental to building relationships and makes break ups harder." ]

[ "Keep them in a pit located in your basement for a couple months, takes their diva attitude down a bit.", "I used to have this problem like a lot, especially in school. It can be easy to view them as like a real life celebrity type thing, and you feel like they're unapproachable.\n\nKeep this in mind. She's a human being with real feelings, emotions, and struggles and you'd be surprised how many girls feel the same ways about guys. When you see a girl that leaves you stunned and stuttering, well, what I did is just took all my nervous bundled up excitement and went and told them just that. Most women are actually attracted to down to earth, normal guys who don't put on this front like they're overconfident. Just be assured that if she does reject your idle chitchat, or is rude or what have you, she wasn't the girl you wanted. \n\nDo it time and again, and the one girl who responds to you with the same nervous awkward excitement is the one you were looking for. She's equally as attracted. \n\nAND FINALLY-- Refrain from getting ahead of yourself. Dated less than a year-- you'll hate to hear this but you probably weren't in love with her. I heard that a lot growing up and it used to piss me off so bad. Looking back now, married with children(26yrs old) and truly in love I promise it's different. And why this matters is that you need to focus on your own growth and development, have fun with girls you date grow and all that, but never look at a new relationship as the one you'll be in forever. Wait to say the L word. You'll be less hurt when it ends, and it will mean more to you both if the time comes where you are ready and sure.\nBack in the day it was too soon to say the L word if you weren't proposing. Disney ruined all that, but since when does Disney set the standards for what love is.\n\n", "Piping up as I'm not seeing too many girls replying to this thread - and it might be helpful to have a girl's point of view here.\n\nObviously you're simplifying things a little bit for Reddit, but I'm still asking myself why you were with this girl? Not in a 'hey this chick sounds awful' way. I mean - from your thread it kinda looks like the main reason you were interested in her /stayed was because of her looks. I'm seeing few other positive attributes detailed here.\n\nAgain I could be wrong. But stay with me - because putting a girl on a pedestal because of her looks (which you freely admit to doing) isn't just damaging because it's 'encouraging spoilt behaviour' or what others have said. It can really make her feel insecure- more so than she may already feel (incidentally, what kind of 'secure' girlfriend looks through their boyfriend's phone? Sounds like she wasn't happy for whatever reason...)\n\nShe doesn't value her looks. Not like you think, trust me. Because 1. She's never gone without them, so she doesn't realise their value. And 2. She's been *taught* not to value them, by every narrative ever that says 'it's what's on the inside that counts' (not disputing this, btw!)\n\nAnd then, someone she's liked a lot - enough to go out with for several months - seems to value her looks above everything else.\nHer looks that she knows are actually worthless, really. \nSo that means the rest of her - her personality, her achievements - is that less than worthless?\n\nThe thing to remember is during this time you went out, SHE liked YOU. She clearly valued your opinion, wanted to spend time with you, fancied YOU. Even though you're not still together, that tells you that you need to adjust that pedestal. This girl sees you as an equal - at the very least! \n\nWhen you're on an equal footing, your pedestal may look more like pigeon-holing. \n\nI'm really sorry you and your girl broke up. That's tough. But you will find someone else- and you'll take the lessons you learned from this relationship to make your next one stronger. But if you can learn anything on Reddit right now, please learn that pretty girls do NOT want to be valued for being pretty. They want to be valued for everything else they achieve/do/are.\n\nFocus on her smarts, on what she does to make you laugh, have fun, how she makes you feel about yourself. \n\nVoila - the pedestal of pretty is removed. Now you're valuing her for something that both she and you can feel positive about. ", "Whenever I catch myself daydreaming about someone that I just met and how I'm essentially building some fantasy in my head, I remember that they most likely aren't doing the same thing, imagine what her face looks like when she has to push really hard for a dump, and remember that I have my own life to live. \n\n", "Just because their face is pretty doesn't mean their personality is. \n\nTinder will teach you this VERY quickly.", "Everyone eventually gets old and ugly. Everyone. Even the most gorgeous women in the world got wrinkles...pick your celebrity see if I'm not right. \n\nKeep that in mind when ever you meet someone. Old is coming. Beauty is only temporary. If the person is no fun to talk to, has nothing interesting going on in their life, can't take or make a joke, if they believe that other people are lower or less than them, or any of those other unpleasant things going on, there will be absolutely nothing to hang out with when they are old and grey. \n\nDo not saddle yourself with a difficult person just because they are beautiful. They will eventually be *ugly* and difficult.", "You're halfway there. You learned from that past relationship that attractiveness does not make someone a good relationship. There's a saying that helps with this, something along the lines of, \"No matter how pretty a woman is, there's someone out there sick of putting up with her shit.\" There's also a whole song about this called \"If You Wanna Be Happy\" by Jimmy Soul.\n\nOn the other hand, there's also a lot of beautiful women who have trouble with guys because the guys put them on pedestals and won't approach them.", "Okay, she's pretty. Is she kind? Is she funny? Is she interesting? Is she fun to be around? Does she contribute anything to your life? Why is *she* single?", "Ehm just don't do it man. Treat them like normal people, because they are normal people. They don't put themselves on a pedestal in their heads, so why should you? ", "There is also the choice test:\n\nA) Emotional Stability\nB) Good Looks\nC) Intelligence\n\nYou only get to pick two...", "I don't put them on a pedestal anymore, I used to do that but realized quickly they got spoiled. Now what I do is put them in the freezer, the meat stays fresh longer that way." ]

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[ "What would you have wanted to know as a student / young adult? I'm compiling a guide for people who are ( or will be ) living on their own, and I'm looking for general advice (ranging from tips and tricks for the kitchen to insights into adulthood and more). Therefore, what would you have wanted to know as a young person that you feel is important for others as well?", "What would you have wanted to know as a student / young adult? I'm compiling a guide for people who are ( or will be ) living on their own, and I'm looking for general advice (ranging from tips and tricks for the kitchen to insights into adulthood and more). Therefore, what would you have wanted to know as a young person that you feel is important for others as well?", "What would you have wanted to know as a student / young adult? I'm compiling a guide for people who are ( or will be ) living on their own, and I'm looking for general advice (ranging from tips and tricks for the kitchen to insights into adulthood and more). Therefore, what would you have wanted to know as a young person that you feel is important for others as well?", "What would you have wanted to know as a student / young adult? I'm compiling a guide for people who are ( or will be ) living on their own, and I'm looking for general advice (ranging from tips and tricks for the kitchen to insights into adulthood and more). Therefore, what would you have wanted to know as a young person that you feel is important for others as well?", "What would you have wanted to know as a student / young adult? I'm compiling a guide for people who are ( or will be ) living on their own, and I'm looking for general advice (ranging from tips and tricks for the kitchen to insights into adulthood and more). Therefore, what would you have wanted to know as a young person that you feel is important for others as well?", "What would you have wanted to know as a student / young adult? I'm compiling a guide for people who are ( or will be ) living on their own, and I'm looking for general advice (ranging from tips and tricks for the kitchen to insights into adulthood and more). Therefore, what would you have wanted to know as a young person that you feel is important for others as well?", "What would you have wanted to know as a student / young adult? I'm compiling a guide for people who are ( or will be ) living on their own, and I'm looking for general advice (ranging from tips and tricks for the kitchen to insights into adulthood and more). Therefore, what would you have wanted to know as a young person that you feel is important for others as well?", "What would you have wanted to know as a student / young adult? I'm compiling a guide for people who are ( or will be ) living on their own, and I'm looking for general advice (ranging from tips and tricks for the kitchen to insights into adulthood and more). Therefore, what would you have wanted to know as a young person that you feel is important for others as well?" ]

[ "If going to college: you need experience *and* the degree. Employers do not give a shit about degrees with no experience unless it is in very specific fields. \n\nIf not going to college: invest yourself in a trade. Trade schools are vital to the communities they serve, and I've yet to meet someone with a trade that has ever been out of work. \n\nIf renting: take photos the day you move in and the day you move out. This will save your deposit. Do not burn bridges, even with shit landlords. Pay your rent, even if you're leaving. It can hit your cr", "For rental living:\nTake detailed pictures before moving in and after moving out so you don’t get screwed out of your deposit\n\nFor general life:\nGet everything in writing. If you give someone cash, always get a receipt. If you’re entering into a contract and something changes, notate the changes and both parties need to initial. If you are chatting with someone about something important, shoot them an email or text about the subject so that there’s a paper trail that it has been discussed. Having everything in writing protects both parties, so there shouldn’t be a need for them to argue unless they’re up to no good. \n\nHave smoke detectors/carbon monoxide alarms and change the batteries when you change your clocks for time change, don’t wait for them to tell you that they need changed.", "Pay that cr", "The power of compound interest and to save whatever you can as early as possible (and invest it). \n\nFor example, if you start investing $200 a month at age 21, and only do that for 9 years (until you're 30) and let that money grow, you will have more money than someone who starts saving $200 a month at age 30 and does it every month until they are 67. \n\nThe person who saved for 9 years will have over a million dollars more than the person who saved for 37 years, when they are both 67. \n\nThat is absolute magic that most people really don't understand until it's too late.", "NEVER EVER unfreeze your freezer with chisel and hammer.\n\nJust pull the plug and let it unfreeze.\n\nPlease don't ask...and yes i was that stupid.", "I’d second cooking basic skills! As simple as what are the standard kitchen tools you need to make meals, or letting oil heat up in the pan first before putting food in to cook. I also wish someone had taught me about investment. 401ks. IRAS, stocks. If you don’t have someone in your family that is savvy, it feels like you’re just figuring everything out alone. Best of luck!", "How to set up own utilities, like calling electric company and water company. Also to NEVER sign up for a cr", "One thing I wish I’d known about is “one pot” cooking. You get a small burner or heating element, a pot usually on the larger side, and you’ve got an easy meal for days for yourself and the people around you. There are loads of recipes and it is CHEAP if you go the beans and rice route. A single pot also is means easy transport, cleanup, and storage. \n\n- In a new community? People are always a lot nicer when they’re fed. \n\n- Don’t have refrigeration? Go heavy on the salt and just dilute with water later. \n\n- Out in the wilderness? Put it over a fire. Spices are not heavy. \n\nIt’s also a great introduction to cooking. Start with small batches and then double or triple them. \n\n— \n\nFor dorms, I like inductive stoves as they are less of a fire hazard, but those require a specific kind of metal pot." ]

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[ "How to design a comfy bed Most online advice on the topic gives quite subjective advice: \"find item X that is right for you\", but I've never heard of someone going to a luxury hotel and finding the bed uncomfortable, so surely there must be some sort of consensus. \n\nSo:\n\n-What are the good brands and models of mattresses/ mattress toppers / sheets / pillows?\n\n-Is it OK to buy things online?\n\n-What combinations are good? (e.g. firm mattress with soft mattress topper)\n\nTLDR: Teach me how to make a Hilton quality bed on a budget\n", "How to design a comfy bed Most online advice on the topic gives quite subjective advice: \"find item X that is right for you\", but I've never heard of someone going to a luxury hotel and finding the bed uncomfortable, so surely there must be some sort of consensus. \n\nSo:\n\n-What are the good brands and models of mattresses/ mattress toppers / sheets / pillows?\n\n-Is it OK to buy things online?\n\n-What combinations are good? (e.g. firm mattress with soft mattress topper)\n\nTLDR: Teach me how to make a Hilton quality bed on a budget\n", "How to design a comfy bed Most online advice on the topic gives quite subjective advice: \"find item X that is right for you\", but I've never heard of someone going to a luxury hotel and finding the bed uncomfortable, so surely there must be some sort of consensus. \n\nSo:\n\n-What are the good brands and models of mattresses/ mattress toppers / sheets / pillows?\n\n-Is it OK to buy things online?\n\n-What combinations are good? (e.g. firm mattress with soft mattress topper)\n\nTLDR: Teach me how to make a Hilton quality bed on a budget\n", "How to design a comfy bed Most online advice on the topic gives quite subjective advice: \"find item X that is right for you\", but I've never heard of someone going to a luxury hotel and finding the bed uncomfortable, so surely there must be some sort of consensus. \n\nSo:\n\n-What are the good brands and models of mattresses/ mattress toppers / sheets / pillows?\n\n-Is it OK to buy things online?\n\n-What combinations are good? (e.g. firm mattress with soft mattress topper)\n\nTLDR: Teach me how to make a Hilton quality bed on a budget\n", "How to design a comfy bed Most online advice on the topic gives quite subjective advice: \"find item X that is right for you\", but I've never heard of someone going to a luxury hotel and finding the bed uncomfortable, so surely there must be some sort of consensus. \n\nSo:\n\n-What are the good brands and models of mattresses/ mattress toppers / sheets / pillows?\n\n-Is it OK to buy things online?\n\n-What combinations are good? (e.g. firm mattress with soft mattress topper)\n\nTLDR: Teach me how to make a Hilton quality bed on a budget\n", "How to design a comfy bed Most online advice on the topic gives quite subjective advice: \"find item X that is right for you\", but I've never heard of someone going to a luxury hotel and finding the bed uncomfortable, so surely there must be some sort of consensus. \n\nSo:\n\n-What are the good brands and models of mattresses/ mattress toppers / sheets / pillows?\n\n-Is it OK to buy things online?\n\n-What combinations are good? (e.g. firm mattress with soft mattress topper)\n\nTLDR: Teach me how to make a Hilton quality bed on a budget\n", "How to design a comfy bed Most online advice on the topic gives quite subjective advice: \"find item X that is right for you\", but I've never heard of someone going to a luxury hotel and finding the bed uncomfortable, so surely there must be some sort of consensus. \n\nSo:\n\n-What are the good brands and models of mattresses/ mattress toppers / sheets / pillows?\n\n-Is it OK to buy things online?\n\n-What combinations are good? (e.g. firm mattress with soft mattress topper)\n\nTLDR: Teach me how to make a Hilton quality bed on a budget\n", "How to design a comfy bed Most online advice on the topic gives quite subjective advice: \"find item X that is right for you\", but I've never heard of someone going to a luxury hotel and finding the bed uncomfortable, so surely there must be some sort of consensus. \n\nSo:\n\n-What are the good brands and models of mattresses/ mattress toppers / sheets / pillows?\n\n-Is it OK to buy things online?\n\n-What combinations are good? (e.g. firm mattress with soft mattress topper)\n\nTLDR: Teach me how to make a Hilton quality bed on a budget\n", "How to design a comfy bed Most online advice on the topic gives quite subjective advice: \"find item X that is right for you\", but I've never heard of someone going to a luxury hotel and finding the bed uncomfortable, so surely there must be some sort of consensus. \n\nSo:\n\n-What are the good brands and models of mattresses/ mattress toppers / sheets / pillows?\n\n-Is it OK to buy things online?\n\n-What combinations are good? (e.g. firm mattress with soft mattress topper)\n\nTLDR: Teach me how to make a Hilton quality bed on a budget\n", "How to design a comfy bed Most online advice on the topic gives quite subjective advice: \"find item X that is right for you\", but I've never heard of someone going to a luxury hotel and finding the bed uncomfortable, so surely there must be some sort of consensus. \n\nSo:\n\n-What are the good brands and models of mattresses/ mattress toppers / sheets / pillows?\n\n-Is it OK to buy things online?\n\n-What combinations are good? (e.g. firm mattress with soft mattress topper)\n\nTLDR: Teach me how to make a Hilton quality bed on a budget\n" ]

[ "Want a fluffy, cloud like bed, just like the ones in Hilton hotels? Just put a 2-3 inch pillowtop on top of your mattress. \n\nYes, their mattresses are heavy duty with extra edge support to stop sagging, but their supreme comfort comes from their fluffy pillowtop, and the fact that housekeeping literally fluffs it up for you every day.\n\nSource: I'm Hilton Hhonors Diamond (Platinum) and inquired into buying one of their beds.", "I want to preface my post by saying that I've worked in the mattress industry for 5 years, and learned from people who have worked in the industry for over 25 years.\n\n1. Good Brands: Sealy, Simmons, Serta, Tempurpedic and Restonic. Occasionally local manufacturers have good products.\n\n2. Mattress Toppers: These are a rip off. They don't last, and usually end up costing more than if you just got a slightly nicer mattress.\n\n3. Sheets: Personal preference. I like the silky kind of sheets because I like to sleep cool. Some prefer the warmer sheets. It's up to you. 800 thread count sheets... Mmmm.\n\n4. Pillows: Latex or Memory Foam. Don't get down pillows or any other cheap generic foam/cotton pillow. You'll need to replace them so often that you'll be paying the same as if you shelled out the money to get the nicer Latex or Memory Foam pillow in the first place. Latex and Memory Foam are going to contour your neck/head a lot better. Much better sleep.\n\n5. Online Buying: I'd say no, because then you don't have a brick and mortar store to go into and talk to someone if you have warranty issues and all that. Also, if a local store carries the same product as the online store, they will usually honor the price or be able to beat it.\n\n6. Combinations: There is no such thing as a single \"good combination\". There are so many different kinds of mattresses for a reason, and that's because everyone needs something different. You honestly have to lay down on a mattress to be able to tell if it's going to work for you. This is also why you shouldn't buy online. You can't lay down before buying.\n\n\nIf you want a good nights sleep for 10+ years, I wouldn't spend less than $700 on a mattress set. I know what's in them all. And I know I personally wouldn't sleep on the junk that they put into those <$700 mattresses.\n\nAlso, try to stay away from soft pillow tops. They make HUGE craters in your mattress and you'll find yourself not getting a good night's sleep after a year or so.\n\nPM me if you want more help :)", "Pillowtops are great. Buy it separate like others said so you can flip the mattress and replace them independently. The pillowtop will wear faster than the mattress.\n\nRegarding pillows, it's a matter of personal preference if you want foam or feather or whatever. Different people like different things. One big improvement though is to have more than one. 2-3 pillows (per person) makes for more luxury.\n\nBiggest thing is sheets. The sheet industry is very misleading. Thread count is really a measure of how durable the sheets are and not how comfortable. Higher thread count sheets actually tend to feel a bit stiff to me. Hotels use them because they wash them so frequently. For home use, the most important thing is the quality of the material. Look for sheets labelled pima or supima cotton. They tend to be much more expensive, but feel 10X better on your skin than regular cotton. They wick away moisture from your body. Use a fitted sheet over the bed and put the top sheet between you and your blanket.\n\nI have yet to achieve blanket nirvana, so I'm curious what others say about that one.", "I got my ideal bed by getting a pretty firm foam mattress (which can also be pretty cheap) and putting a super fluffy pillowtop on top of it (mine's synthetic down). I fluff the pillowtop and flip it around once a week to keep it fluffy. And, like some others have said, I think the key to pillows is to have lots, and a variety. I have 2 medium-firm pillows, 1 memory foam and one squishy synthetic down —that's just for me, my husband also has a variety of 3-4 pillows. In summer my sheets are cotton sateen and in winter a flannel-like cotton. On top I've got a lightweight synthetic down comforter. It's pretty hard to get up in the morning. \n\n(In case you're wondering why I specify synthetic down, it's usually cheaper, in my experience, and I try to avoid buy animal products for personal/spiritual reasons.)", "Pillowtops, mattress pads, fluffy duvets. \nA lot of hotel mattresses are made by manufacturers that make beds exclusively for hotels and other corporate clients.\nSome people swear by memory foam, but I have a regular mattress with springs that has about an inch or 2 of memory foam on top. Add a mattress pad and/or a pillowtop to that and It's like sleeping on a cloud. Best mattress I've still ever slept on was at the Shangri-La Hotel in Vancouver, BC.", "If you plan to go online with it remember you may get charged duties/taxes/import fees. As well as shipping costs.\n\nAlso go to a mattress store and test one out, then remember the model and look it up for the best price.\n\nOr just say fuck getting a bed and get a hammock", "firm beds are better for your back, and its easy to make a firm bed softer with things like mattress pads. I have a pretty firm bed with a wool pad on top. Memory foam mattresses can be good if you are into that sort of thing. They can be hard to get used to and if you live in a basement or sleep with your window open, they will get softer or firmer depending on the temp in your room. Other than that, get a two sided bed if you want it to last. (meaning you can flip it over and sleep on the other side)", "It all depends on you, and your body shape. You want to create a surface that will keep your spine as straight as possible when on your side. So, you need something that will be forgiving around your hips and shoulders and supportive in the rib/ small of your back area. Pillows can be just as important and can affect your body just as much. Look into the sleep number beds, and you will get a better idea of how to achieve proper support. I am not advocating buying one because they are pretty expensive, but they illustrate what you should be trying to accomplish. Then apply to your bed as best you can. In terms of materials, it all depends on what you have available and what you need for your body. You can get creative if on a very tight budget or removable pillow tops may be a solution but they can be almost as much as a bed. \n\nSheets are very important and I would follow tooties advice on thread count and material. ", "I recently purchased the cheapest bed I could find from a local factory store in Michigan. As a college student/ low wage worker that wakes up early and stays up late this bed was tough to sleep on before I found a very cheap, excellent solution.\nI had gone to a music festival and had no sleeping pad for my tent. I found a little vendor tent with a brightly colored set of impact-foam sleeping pads called 'Moon Mats'. Mine cost 30 dollars, and is no good for just sleeping on the floor, but perfect as a mattress topper, far better than my old foam mattress pads of the past which screwed with my back. If you look into them, make sure you get one with the right measurements, as mine is rather small. My girlfriend's parents spent a few hundred more on her bed and frame, but my bed which stands on a homemade frame of 2X4s is infinitely more comfortable.\nAlso soft foam pillows are great: One for the head medium softness, one for the legs medium or low softness (depending on hip breadth), and one for hugging (maximum fluff).\n-Sleep well, live well. \nCorrection: Unless you find them in a vendor tent somewhere they seem to be more expensive on their website.", "Best mattress I have ever slept on was at a Hilton in Fresno. I did not want to leave and I wish I could take it home." ]

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[ "How to deal with an ant infestation in an apartment I live on the upper floor of an apartment building so there is no way that I can find the actual ants' nest or even have access to it if I do find it. \n\nThey attack any food I have on my counter within minutes. Today they even attacked an onion. The ants vary from really tiny to average and are all black from what I can tell.\n\nP.S. I informed the landlord and he found a decent sized ants nest on the side of the building. But, he already cleaned and sprayed that one. These ants seem to be coming from the opposite side", "How to deal with an ant infestation in an apartment I live on the upper floor of an apartment building so there is no way that I can find the actual ants' nest or even have access to it if I do find it. \n\nThey attack any food I have on my counter within minutes. Today they even attacked an onion. The ants vary from really tiny to average and are all black from what I can tell.\n\nP.S. I informed the landlord and he found a decent sized ants nest on the side of the building. But, he already cleaned and sprayed that one. These ants seem to be coming from the opposite side", "How to deal with an ant infestation in an apartment I live on the upper floor of an apartment building so there is no way that I can find the actual ants' nest or even have access to it if I do find it. \n\nThey attack any food I have on my counter within minutes. Today they even attacked an onion. The ants vary from really tiny to average and are all black from what I can tell.\n\nP.S. I informed the landlord and he found a decent sized ants nest on the side of the building. But, he already cleaned and sprayed that one. These ants seem to be coming from the opposite side", "How to deal with an ant infestation in an apartment I live on the upper floor of an apartment building so there is no way that I can find the actual ants' nest or even have access to it if I do find it. \n\nThey attack any food I have on my counter within minutes. Today they even attacked an onion. The ants vary from really tiny to average and are all black from what I can tell.\n\nP.S. I informed the landlord and he found a decent sized ants nest on the side of the building. But, he already cleaned and sprayed that one. These ants seem to be coming from the opposite side", "How to deal with an ant infestation in an apartment I live on the upper floor of an apartment building so there is no way that I can find the actual ants' nest or even have access to it if I do find it. \n\nThey attack any food I have on my counter within minutes. Today they even attacked an onion. The ants vary from really tiny to average and are all black from what I can tell.\n\nP.S. I informed the landlord and he found a decent sized ants nest on the side of the building. But, he already cleaned and sprayed that one. These ants seem to be coming from the opposite side" ]

[ "Boraxo mixed with sugar diluted in water. Place in small dishes where they are likely to find it. They eat it, take it back to the next, and very quickly their numbers dwindle to zero. Boric Acid is better yet, but not in every grocery and dollar store. Exact proportions can be found via a quick search or you can buy a similar premixed product at the hardware store.", "There was a LPT earlier this year about this situation. I believe it said you simmer cinnamon on the stove and the ants will soon be gone", "The problem with an apartment building is you can only treat your own space. We ran into the issue with roaches. They just go from section to section avoiding active treatment. Getting all the residents to agree on bombing at the same time is fairly small.\nI'd use the ants to get out of the lease and find a new place to live.", "I use Avon skin So Soft. I keep it in a spray bottle and when I see the ants I'll spray them (which kills them right away) and along the path they took. I won't see ants again usually the rest of the summer. It makes my wife bonkers though because she hates the smell. ", "I have pets so I used grits. Its messy but it works. At night, I sprinkle it where I saw them. They eat it and it dries them out and makes them pop. I then clean up the grits the next day (or leave it cause I am lazy)." ]

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[ "Fixing broken keys on a laptop? My v, b, ', and space key stopped working this morning. What can be done to make up for the loss until I get a new keyboard? (I'm using on-screen-keyboard at the moment)", "Fixing broken keys on a laptop? My v, b, ', and space key stopped working this morning. What can be done to make up for the loss until I get a new keyboard? (I'm using on-screen-keyboard at the moment)" ]

[ "Take it apart and fix it. You can usually prise the whole keyboard off, depending on the laptop, with a small flat screwdriver. Usually you can see whether washing a few small parts is possible or if you need to fix it. Usually you can fix it but a few times I've found tiny worn out and broken parts that weren't salvageable.", "I feel your pain. My m, v, c, x, and ' have all been broken for the better part of a month now. I just copy & paste them whenever I need to use them. If you've already checked your drivers, then it's probably a hardware issue. In which case, the only quick solution I've been able to come up with is to get a usb keyboard. " ]

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[ "Hanging posters without messing up the wall I'm moving to a new apartment next month, and I have a bunch of posters up in my current room that I want to bring to the new place. I want to refrain from using sticky-tack poster-putty stuff because that sometimes stains the wall or the poster, and I want to avoid actual tacks because that'll put little holes in the wall and the poster.\n\nAnyone got any creative or obvious-but-I'm-stupid methods of putting posters up?", "Hanging posters without messing up the wall I'm moving to a new apartment next month, and I have a bunch of posters up in my current room that I want to bring to the new place. I want to refrain from using sticky-tack poster-putty stuff because that sometimes stains the wall or the poster, and I want to avoid actual tacks because that'll put little holes in the wall and the poster.\n\nAnyone got any creative or obvious-but-I'm-stupid methods of putting posters up?", "Hanging posters without messing up the wall I'm moving to a new apartment next month, and I have a bunch of posters up in my current room that I want to bring to the new place. I want to refrain from using sticky-tack poster-putty stuff because that sometimes stains the wall or the poster, and I want to avoid actual tacks because that'll put little holes in the wall and the poster.\n\nAnyone got any creative or obvious-but-I'm-stupid methods of putting posters up?", "Hanging posters without messing up the wall I'm moving to a new apartment next month, and I have a bunch of posters up in my current room that I want to bring to the new place. I want to refrain from using sticky-tack poster-putty stuff because that sometimes stains the wall or the poster, and I want to avoid actual tacks because that'll put little holes in the wall and the poster.\n\nAnyone got any creative or obvious-but-I'm-stupid methods of putting posters up?" ]

[ "Toothpaste. Nope, not joking. \n\n\nRegular ol' white stuff (not the gel kind) will work. Dab a little bit in each corner of your poster and around the borders where it needs extra hold. Posters will stick to walls for fucking YEARS and will easily peel off when the time comes with minimal damage done to the back of poster. Also wipes off of walls easily with a warm cloth. \n\nBeen doing this since I was like 14. 14 years and multiple apartments later, still haven't used thumbtacks/poster putty. If you're a skeptic, test it out with a postcard or something first. Leave it on for a few days though, the secret to not damaging your posters is letting the toothpaste dry completely. \n\nCongrats on the new place, btw.", "The toothpaste suggestion is intriguing, but I swear by command strips. The little hooks are great too for organization.", "Folding a piece of scotch tape over on itself with the sticky side out usually works for me, however i have had posters come down from the wind of my ceiling fan", "3M command strips are one option, though pricey. Particularly the ones with the velcro stuff. Stick as many as you need to mount the poster velcro-sides together. Pull off the protective film of one side on as many as you need (as few as one, but as many as four if you wanted them in every corner of the poster) and stick them to the poster. Once they are on, pull off the protective film on the other strip and stick those to the wall." ]

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[ "How would you stop a car that suddenly starts gaining speed uncontrollably and the brakes quit working? While this has never happened to me thank God, it has happened to some people. I have heard horror stories and in an effort to maybe prevent it from happening to anyone else reading this or anyone who hears this advice... what do you do in that situation?\n\nI saw some YouTube videos that showed throwing it in neutral/park/reverse may not always work, especially not on a newer car. I thought if you shoot out your own tires it may work, but I don't know if it would and not everyone carries a gun.\n\nIs there anything that could be done in a scary situation like this other than calling 911 and hoping for the best??", "How would you stop a car that suddenly starts gaining speed uncontrollably and the brakes quit working? While this has never happened to me thank God, it has happened to some people. I have heard horror stories and in an effort to maybe prevent it from happening to anyone else reading this or anyone who hears this advice... what do you do in that situation?\n\nI saw some YouTube videos that showed throwing it in neutral/park/reverse may not always work, especially not on a newer car. I thought if you shoot out your own tires it may work, but I don't know if it would and not everyone carries a gun.\n\nIs there anything that could be done in a scary situation like this other than calling 911 and hoping for the best??", "How would you stop a car that suddenly starts gaining speed uncontrollably and the brakes quit working? While this has never happened to me thank God, it has happened to some people. I have heard horror stories and in an effort to maybe prevent it from happening to anyone else reading this or anyone who hears this advice... what do you do in that situation?\n\nI saw some YouTube videos that showed throwing it in neutral/park/reverse may not always work, especially not on a newer car. I thought if you shoot out your own tires it may work, but I don't know if it would and not everyone carries a gun.\n\nIs there anything that could be done in a scary situation like this other than calling 911 and hoping for the best??", "How would you stop a car that suddenly starts gaining speed uncontrollably and the brakes quit working? While this has never happened to me thank God, it has happened to some people. I have heard horror stories and in an effort to maybe prevent it from happening to anyone else reading this or anyone who hears this advice... what do you do in that situation?\n\nI saw some YouTube videos that showed throwing it in neutral/park/reverse may not always work, especially not on a newer car. I thought if you shoot out your own tires it may work, but I don't know if it would and not everyone carries a gun.\n\nIs there anything that could be done in a scary situation like this other than calling 911 and hoping for the best??", "How would you stop a car that suddenly starts gaining speed uncontrollably and the brakes quit working? While this has never happened to me thank God, it has happened to some people. I have heard horror stories and in an effort to maybe prevent it from happening to anyone else reading this or anyone who hears this advice... what do you do in that situation?\n\nI saw some YouTube videos that showed throwing it in neutral/park/reverse may not always work, especially not on a newer car. I thought if you shoot out your own tires it may work, but I don't know if it would and not everyone carries a gun.\n\nIs there anything that could be done in a scary situation like this other than calling 911 and hoping for the best??", "How would you stop a car that suddenly starts gaining speed uncontrollably and the brakes quit working? While this has never happened to me thank God, it has happened to some people. I have heard horror stories and in an effort to maybe prevent it from happening to anyone else reading this or anyone who hears this advice... what do you do in that situation?\n\nI saw some YouTube videos that showed throwing it in neutral/park/reverse may not always work, especially not on a newer car. I thought if you shoot out your own tires it may work, but I don't know if it would and not everyone carries a gun.\n\nIs there anything that could be done in a scary situation like this other than calling 911 and hoping for the best??", "How would you stop a car that suddenly starts gaining speed uncontrollably and the brakes quit working? While this has never happened to me thank God, it has happened to some people. I have heard horror stories and in an effort to maybe prevent it from happening to anyone else reading this or anyone who hears this advice... what do you do in that situation?\n\nI saw some YouTube videos that showed throwing it in neutral/park/reverse may not always work, especially not on a newer car. I thought if you shoot out your own tires it may work, but I don't know if it would and not everyone carries a gun.\n\nIs there anything that could be done in a scary situation like this other than calling 911 and hoping for the best??", "How would you stop a car that suddenly starts gaining speed uncontrollably and the brakes quit working? While this has never happened to me thank God, it has happened to some people. I have heard horror stories and in an effort to maybe prevent it from happening to anyone else reading this or anyone who hears this advice... what do you do in that situation?\n\nI saw some YouTube videos that showed throwing it in neutral/park/reverse may not always work, especially not on a newer car. I thought if you shoot out your own tires it may work, but I don't know if it would and not everyone carries a gun.\n\nIs there anything that could be done in a scary situation like this other than calling 911 and hoping for the best??", "How would you stop a car that suddenly starts gaining speed uncontrollably and the brakes quit working? While this has never happened to me thank God, it has happened to some people. I have heard horror stories and in an effort to maybe prevent it from happening to anyone else reading this or anyone who hears this advice... what do you do in that situation?\n\nI saw some YouTube videos that showed throwing it in neutral/park/reverse may not always work, especially not on a newer car. I thought if you shoot out your own tires it may work, but I don't know if it would and not everyone carries a gun.\n\nIs there anything that could be done in a scary situation like this other than calling 911 and hoping for the best??", "How would you stop a car that suddenly starts gaining speed uncontrollably and the brakes quit working? While this has never happened to me thank God, it has happened to some people. I have heard horror stories and in an effort to maybe prevent it from happening to anyone else reading this or anyone who hears this advice... what do you do in that situation?\n\nI saw some YouTube videos that showed throwing it in neutral/park/reverse may not always work, especially not on a newer car. I thought if you shoot out your own tires it may work, but I don't know if it would and not everyone carries a gun.\n\nIs there anything that could be done in a scary situation like this other than calling 911 and hoping for the best??", "How would you stop a car that suddenly starts gaining speed uncontrollably and the brakes quit working? While this has never happened to me thank God, it has happened to some people. I have heard horror stories and in an effort to maybe prevent it from happening to anyone else reading this or anyone who hears this advice... what do you do in that situation?\n\nI saw some YouTube videos that showed throwing it in neutral/park/reverse may not always work, especially not on a newer car. I thought if you shoot out your own tires it may work, but I don't know if it would and not everyone carries a gun.\n\nIs there anything that could be done in a scary situation like this other than calling 911 and hoping for the best??" ]

[ "Emergency brake/parking brake. Put transmission in neutral. Turn off key/shut off engine but keep in on position so you still have steering", "Start by engine braking: almost all cars have an option to limit the transmission to lower gear ratios, slowly shift them down, which should substantially lower the speed. Next, pump the breaks, it might be a bubble in the break lines, by pumping the break peddle you can get it out. If that doesn't work, turn the engine off, but leave the key in the on position to keep steering. Finally, slowly engage the emergency break. Move to the side of the road as relevant", "After throwing it in neutral you should try turning off the engine and it should eventually slow to a stop if the brakes aren't working. Also try the emergency/parking brake.", "Power brakes are usually \"powered\" by engine vacuum that is only present when the throttle is closed (engine at low power output). After a couple presses of the brake you will deplete what assistance was stored in the booster.\n\nIn a case where the throttle is stuck open (eg: floor mat or other mechanical malfunction), it's easy to press the brakes a couple times, depleting your assistance, while the engine trying to speed the car up and now you won't be able to overcome the engine.\n\nIn this case the best advice is to shift into neutral. I haven't heard of runaway cars that this doesn't work. In modern cars the engine won't over-rev (unless there is a different failure, but that's the least of your concerns). Leaving the engine running will keep power to power steering, and whatever assistance you might get from the brake booster.\n\nYou will have little power brake assistance, but shift your weight onto the brake pedal, and STAND on it to slow down. If that doesn't work you can try the parking brake, but be careful of lockup, and electronic parking brakes probably won't engage.\n\nIf shifting to neutral doesn't work, shut the ignition off. Don't turn it all the way to off. Cars with push-button start you may have to hold the button in (like a frozen computer) for a few seconds to shut off if the car is in gear.", "It depends on what is happening. If the car is gaining speed because the accelerator is stuck, try prying the pedal up with your foot. If that doesn’t work, throw the transmission in neutral and try the brakes again. If the brakes still don’t work, try the emergency brake or “parking brake”. In newer cars this might be harder to find. It could be a small button. If the car is speeding up because you’re going down hill and the brakes got so hot they “gave out”, try the emergency brake. DO NOT put the transmission in neutral because you’ll only speed up more and won’t easily get back into gear again (unless you’re in a completely manual / standard transmission car which you probably aren’t). Since you’re going downhill, start looking for any turn off that goes uphill, is gravel, or is at least level like a field or long driveway. It WILL NOT be good for your car but this is better than speeding to your death. Try giving your brakes time to cool and use them sparingly, just enough to get into a lower gear if you can. If there is no choice, create a “controlled crash” by easing your car so it scrapes against a mountainside. Obviously, that’s a last ditch effort but better than the alternative.", "Some while ago this happened to me from stationary while doing a three point turn outside a school. I found myself accelerating towards the school gate which though closed did not offer much resistance. Next stop a playground full of kids!! So choosing the least bad I spun the wheel and slammed into the school building which did stop me. The head teacher (principal) later thanked me for my decision, although apparently I had hit the staff break room and several teachers felt the earth move.", "Shift to neutral. Even at the risk of dropping the tranny by accidentally slipping in reverse for automatics, then in neutral shut off vehicle to accessort amd begin down shifting to slow thyself.", "Put it in neutral, turn it off but keep the key in the ignition so you still have steering, try the emergency brake, and if none if that works, aim for something that won't take damage from the car.", "I’m glad I still drive a manual transmission. In this case, put the car to neutral and then into the first gear. Engine brake automatically applied when shifting to lowest gear. When the car comes down to the a constant speed, put the car into the highest gear. This should immediately stop the car. If not, repeat. This method stops the car within ten seconds. \n\nHand brakes/parking brakes can cause the vehicle to drift and topple.", "It happened to me the day I got my license with this geo prism (?) my (step) dad kindly fixed up for me.\nI’m not entirely sure what happened with the car, mechanics/understanding of them wasn’t something I ever got into.\nStory goes, car wouldn’t stop and I was on a busy road named Hall. \nBrakes just decided it was break time. \nFortunately, I couldn’t accelerate either. This allowed me to coast along the outward lanes until my car slowed down enough for me to pull down a side street. \nI purposely bumped a curb as the car slowed itself so I could stop it before having to inconvenience anyone with what I know would soon be my broken, beaten, car in front of their house.\nThen I was a little sad. \nIt’s a lot of situational thinking. Just have to hazard it up, know you’re in control of the situation, and do what you can to safely stop without endangering those around you.\nNever a need to call police if this occurs, unless there’s something in you that truly feels they’ll make the situation any better.\nOnce your cars stopped and you call a friend or family member to come to the rescue, gather all important things, then have the car towed somewhere (house/mechanics) if you can or choose to. \nThat’s all", "First choice: brake snd parking brake. \n\nSecond, turning off the car.\n\nPutting the car in park or neutral always slows the car — may destroy the transmission but I assume you’re thinking of an emergency situation.\n\nNeutral doesn’t slow cars with continuously variable transmissions. Like many newer cars." ]

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[ "Need advice on how to be self confident I'm a girl. 23 years old. Ever since i was young i've been a very shy and quiet person. No self confidence at all because of how i look. I hated my nose and everything else on my face. I got bullied because of how i look that it made me super self conscious and insecure. I was an honour student back in grade school to first year college but ever since i got bullied of how i look it led me to not pay attention to my studies anymore, I stopped college because i decided to have plastic surgery (nose reduction) I was very happy with the result 'cause my face really changed drastically. BUT the big problem is how i feel about myself and how others view me. I know i look better now but still couldn't seem to have self confidence. Everytime someone speaks to me i get very shy 'cause the first thing that comes in to my mind is how they think i look or if they think of me as an unattractive human being. 😑 I just want to have someone tell me how to improve this mentality i have. It's really interfering with my everyday life and even my lovelife. 😫😫😫", "Need advice on how to be self confident I'm a girl. 23 years old. Ever since i was young i've been a very shy and quiet person. No self confidence at all because of how i look. I hated my nose and everything else on my face. I got bullied because of how i look that it made me super self conscious and insecure. I was an honour student back in grade school to first year college but ever since i got bullied of how i look it led me to not pay attention to my studies anymore, I stopped college because i decided to have plastic surgery (nose reduction) I was very happy with the result 'cause my face really changed drastically. BUT the big problem is how i feel about myself and how others view me. I know i look better now but still couldn't seem to have self confidence. Everytime someone speaks to me i get very shy 'cause the first thing that comes in to my mind is how they think i look or if they think of me as an unattractive human being. 😑 I just want to have someone tell me how to improve this mentality i have. It's really interfering with my everyday life and even my lovelife. 😫😫😫", "Need advice on how to be self confident I'm a girl. 23 years old. Ever since i was young i've been a very shy and quiet person. No self confidence at all because of how i look. I hated my nose and everything else on my face. I got bullied because of how i look that it made me super self conscious and insecure. I was an honour student back in grade school to first year college but ever since i got bullied of how i look it led me to not pay attention to my studies anymore, I stopped college because i decided to have plastic surgery (nose reduction) I was very happy with the result 'cause my face really changed drastically. BUT the big problem is how i feel about myself and how others view me. I know i look better now but still couldn't seem to have self confidence. Everytime someone speaks to me i get very shy 'cause the first thing that comes in to my mind is how they think i look or if they think of me as an unattractive human being. 😑 I just want to have someone tell me how to improve this mentality i have. It's really interfering with my everyday life and even my lovelife. 😫😫😫", "Need advice on how to be self confident I'm a girl. 23 years old. Ever since i was young i've been a very shy and quiet person. No self confidence at all because of how i look. I hated my nose and everything else on my face. I got bullied because of how i look that it made me super self conscious and insecure. I was an honour student back in grade school to first year college but ever since i got bullied of how i look it led me to not pay attention to my studies anymore, I stopped college because i decided to have plastic surgery (nose reduction) I was very happy with the result 'cause my face really changed drastically. BUT the big problem is how i feel about myself and how others view me. I know i look better now but still couldn't seem to have self confidence. Everytime someone speaks to me i get very shy 'cause the first thing that comes in to my mind is how they think i look or if they think of me as an unattractive human being. 😑 I just want to have someone tell me how to improve this mentality i have. It's really interfering with my everyday life and even my lovelife. 😫😫😫" ]

[ "You probably won't like my answer, but here is how I did it: Fake it till you make it.\nMy story is a bit different than yours. But also lacked in confidence and hated life. I even had suicidal thoughts for a couple of months. Someday I woke up and said to myself its enough. I didn't want to live like I did. And I started \"enjoying\" life. At first it's pretty hard because it feels like lying to yourself. But eventually fake confidence will become real confidence. Fake love for life will become real love for life. For me it took about 4 months. What also helped me a lot was a trip to Scotland we did in school (I'm from central Europe). A foreign country, only one week, speaking a different language. It said to myself fuck everything. I hated strangers and was very shy. But in this one week I talked as much to strangers as I could. I hugged a dude I have known for 3 seconds. In short: I had great fun. And after that week I never wanted to go back to my life in sadness. So I didn't.", "If you do not exercise/work out, maybe give that a try. Exercising forces you to put energy and effort into yourself. After a while it will drill into you that you are worth your time and effort, and then it will reflect how you view yourself, and others will notice too.\n\nBut if someone has a problem with your appearance, that's their problem, not yours. Try not to spend time worrying about what other people think. ", "Work out, find a hobby or multiple ones and invest time into them, become exceptional at them. Talk to strangers, work on your social skills. Start small, maybe talk to people in line with you at a grocery store first and work you way up to approaching people and practice small talk. ", "Try to get away from this \"judging looks\" thinking. I had this when I was young, the only way to stop was to stop thinking on judging people by looks. Whenever I passed anyone I did thought things like: ugly, pretty, fat, slim, &c\nSo I changed that with an exercise a friend did teach me: imagine 2 good things of that stranger (you can create by yourself) like \"a family-person\" or \"this person puts effort into everything\".\n\nThat helped me change this mental game I was so inserted, and made my life more relaxing :)\n" ]

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[ "Help with cable management? http://i.imgur.com/tX1zK.jpg\n\nHello guys and gals, I am moving house next week and it gives me a chance to reconnect all my cables. Any tips on how to stop what they are like in the photo? \n\nCheers people. ", "Help with cable management? http://i.imgur.com/tX1zK.jpg\n\nHello guys and gals, I am moving house next week and it gives me a chance to reconnect all my cables. Any tips on how to stop what they are like in the photo? \n\nCheers people. ", "Help with cable management? http://i.imgur.com/tX1zK.jpg\n\nHello guys and gals, I am moving house next week and it gives me a chance to reconnect all my cables. Any tips on how to stop what they are like in the photo? \n\nCheers people. ", "Help with cable management? http://i.imgur.com/tX1zK.jpg\n\nHello guys and gals, I am moving house next week and it gives me a chance to reconnect all my cables. Any tips on how to stop what they are like in the photo? \n\nCheers people. ", "Help with cable management? http://i.imgur.com/tX1zK.jpg\n\nHello guys and gals, I am moving house next week and it gives me a chance to reconnect all my cables. Any tips on how to stop what they are like in the photo? \n\nCheers people. ", "Help with cable management? http://i.imgur.com/tX1zK.jpg\n\nHello guys and gals, I am moving house next week and it gives me a chance to reconnect all my cables. Any tips on how to stop what they are like in the photo? \n\nCheers people. ", "Help with cable management? http://i.imgur.com/tX1zK.jpg\n\nHello guys and gals, I am moving house next week and it gives me a chance to reconnect all my cables. Any tips on how to stop what they are like in the photo? \n\nCheers people. ", "Help with cable management? http://i.imgur.com/tX1zK.jpg\n\nHello guys and gals, I am moving house next week and it gives me a chance to reconnect all my cables. Any tips on how to stop what they are like in the photo? \n\nCheers people. " ]

[ "If want to run the cables along a wall or the side or back of a shelf, you can thread the zip ties through a cable mount. Like [THIS](http://www.amazon.com/Startech-HC102-Adhesive-Cable-Mounts/dp/B00008VFBE) There are lots of varieties with adhesive or screw mounts... or both! I even cut some velcro into narrow strips to use instead of zip ties on the back of my TV because I tend to move wires a lot back there. Works really well. ", "As an A/V tech, I'd recommend velcro ties over zip ties. One, becuase you can reuse them and they don't hurt the cables. hdmi and other data cables are very prone to damage from overly tightened zip ties or being bent at too much of an angle. When you coil data cables make sure it's not in too tight of a loop. Power cables don't have to be coiled. You can fold them over, back and forth to take up any excess and zip tie the shit out of them at the ends. Say NO TO BOWTIES.", "To avoid rats nest at the power strip, coil your cable at the device and run only what you need to the next device. Coil the power cable at the tv, coil the hdmi at the cable box ect. Use Velcro or zip ties to keep perfect circles and will keep the integrity of the cable longer than the tight flattened loop.", "There's no easy way to say this:\n\nUnplug EVERYTHING and start again. Absolutely everything.\n\n**1)** First, start by plugging back the items that are going to stay put.\n\n**2)** Get a pack of cable ties/zip ties/tie wraps/sellotape?/anything that ties up wires. Make the wires as short as possible, wrapping the cable at the end closest to the item or the plug socket - *your call*.\n\n**3)** When you have a few wires in, tie them together wherever possible.\n\n**4)** Finally, start plugging in the removables (and if needed, shorten the wires as much as possible to these devices.\n\nFollow this advice and your wire problems shall be no more friend!\n\n", "Good'ol bag of zipties. Hook up your devices one at a time and try to keep the cables sorted. Bunch the power cords going to the power strip together and separate from other cables that are connecting devices to the tv or whatever. ", "[Use this](http://www.amazon.com/Cblwhl-Velcro-Cable-Tie-Roll/dp/B000I97FJ2/ref=pd_sbs_hg_3) to solve your problems permanently.", "You can also use wire loom, such as that found in automobiles. The plastic wire loom has a split along its length, so you could easily pull a single cable back through if you need it for something else. If you like your arrangement, you can use some zip ties or electric tape (or just about any tape) to make it more semi-permanent, but that really isn't necessary. I've linked some in this comment, but you can do a search and find it in different sizes and cheaper, or even different colors if you want.\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Install-Split-Loom-Inch-Foot/dp/B005V9UU1O/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1352131318&sr=8-1&keywords=wire+loom", "I would try a tie rack (http://www.amazon.com/ClosetMaid-Belt-Rack-White-8051/dp/B000GPVDLE/ref=pd_bxgy_hg_img_z) with twist ties." ]

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[ "how to stop people from talking over you or interrupting you. Happens to me in almost every walks of life and I'm not sure what to do.", "how to stop people from talking over you or interrupting you. Happens to me in almost every walks of life and I'm not sure what to do.", "how to stop people from talking over you or interrupting you. Happens to me in almost every walks of life and I'm not sure what to do.", "how to stop people from talking over you or interrupting you. Happens to me in almost every walks of life and I'm not sure what to do.", "how to stop people from talking over you or interrupting you. Happens to me in almost every walks of life and I'm not sure what to do.", "how to stop people from talking over you or interrupting you. Happens to me in almost every walks of life and I'm not sure what to do.", "how to stop people from talking over you or interrupting you. Happens to me in almost every walks of life and I'm not sure what to do.", "how to stop people from talking over you or interrupting you. Happens to me in almost every walks of life and I'm not sure what to do.", "how to stop people from talking over you or interrupting you. Happens to me in almost every walks of life and I'm not sure what to do.", "how to stop people from talking over you or interrupting you. Happens to me in almost every walks of life and I'm not sure what to do.", "how to stop people from talking over you or interrupting you. Happens to me in almost every walks of life and I'm not sure what to do.", "how to stop people from talking over you or interrupting you. Happens to me in almost every walks of life and I'm not sure what to do.", "how to stop people from talking over you or interrupting you. Happens to me in almost every walks of life and I'm not sure what to do.", "how to stop people from talking over you or interrupting you. Happens to me in almost every walks of life and I'm not sure what to do.", "how to stop people from talking over you or interrupting you. Happens to me in almost every walks of life and I'm not sure what to do.", "how to stop people from talking over you or interrupting you. Happens to me in almost every walks of life and I'm not sure what to do.", "how to stop people from talking over you or interrupting you. Happens to me in almost every walks of life and I'm not sure what to do.", "how to stop people from talking over you or interrupting you. Happens to me in almost every walks of life and I'm not sure what to do.", "how to stop people from talking over you or interrupting you. Happens to me in almost every walks of life and I'm not sure what to do.", "how to stop people from talking over you or interrupting you. Happens to me in almost every walks of life and I'm not sure what to do.", "how to stop people from talking over you or interrupting you. Happens to me in almost every walks of life and I'm not sure what to do.", "how to stop people from talking over you or interrupting you. Happens to me in almost every walks of life and I'm not sure what to do.", "how to stop people from talking over you or interrupting you. Happens to me in almost every walks of life and I'm not sure what to do.", "how to stop people from talking over you or interrupting you. Happens to me in almost every walks of life and I'm not sure what to do.", "how to stop people from talking over you or interrupting you. Happens to me in almost every walks of life and I'm not sure what to do." ]

[ "Most people who speak over you are expecting to hear both your voice and theirs when they interrupt you. They'll increase volume, or do something else relatively obnoxious to steal the stage.\n\nSo I just abruptly stop speaking (bonus points for staring at them intently in the eyes simultaneously). Usually the person will be left yelling on their own, and they'll feel out of place for yelling for no reason. Even if they adjust quickly, by stopping and looking them in the eye, and persisting even after they finish speaking, they'll get self served negative enforcement without you having to say anything directly.", "\"Excuse me, did the middle of my conversation interrupt the beginning of yours?\"\n\nMugs them right off.", "This depends. Are you allowing the other person the ability to talk or are they having to force themselves into the conversation?\n\nThis is an important consideration. ", "When they do, point it out. Say \"excuse me? I was talking\" and then continue your point. If you let people tslk over you, they will.", "I don't think any of the answers are that great. I've worked in management for a long time and there are a few tips we learn when dealing with people such as this. \n\nNever be taller. Get down to their level. Being taller makes you seem more authorative which can make them more rebellious.\n\nGonna need to gain control. Ask questions. This gives you control of the conversation. \n\nGive them your name and use their name. People respond to their name. \n\nYou will need to speak softer than them. People generally mimic in conversations. Speaking softer will force them to speak softer as well and if they're loud, they'll need to stop talking to hear you. \n\nUp your game by nodding and shaking your head accordingly. Want them to agree with you, nod your head while asking a question. \n\n", "Interrupt them back - \"excuse me\" - and politely ask for them to give you some more time - \"if I may have one more minute of your time... I wasn't finished\".\n\nAfter that, don't give them a chance to refuse. Just make sure you only take a minute or so, and afterwards, leave the conversation for a while. This is not the type of thing you can do more than once or twice in a conversation, and using it in every single one of them will not make you any friends either. Stay quiet when you're done, or perhaps even ask the person who interrupted you if he or she wants to continue where you stopped him.", "In a way it's kind of rude.. But I usually ignore or briefly listen or let them speak and then proceed with \"but like I was saying...\" And just continue on lol ", "If it's one person who repeatedly interrupts, I think it's important so say something politely, like \"please let me finish.\"\n\nHowever, it sounds like this is a regular occurrence for you, there may something you're doing that you could change. Are you speaking with confidence? Are you talking for a long time, or getting to the ends of thoughts and not stopping for a response? Take note of how people are reacting when you're speaking. Do they look disinterested? \n\nMake sure you're speaking with a strong voice, maintaining eye contact when you speak, being concise, and leaving space for a back-and-forth in conversation. ", "I'm finding a lot of confrontation out fighting your way back into the conversation in this thread. Personally, I find when two people are doing this in a conversation in a group, I just want out of the conversation. I would like to suggest a different approach.\n\nIf this keeps happening, figure out why. When you start talking, are you clear? Do you have presence? Speak clearly, loudly without yelling, maintain eye contact with who you are speaking to. Make sure that there is ample opportunity for people to speak up, and give them the floor when they do. Unless they are an abnormally aggressive person, they will return the courtesy. Make sure when you soak it's a conversation and not a lecture, unless they ask for it.", "Just go \"no that's fine you go ahead\" passive aggressively. Then when they finish the statement, don't respond for a few seconds and after they look confused say \"sorry I wasn't sure if you were done talking, sometimes you take pauses and pick up your sentence right in the middle of my own so I wasn't sure.\" \n", "If there's a person you know well who is doing it regularly, try just sitting down and talking about them. About a year ago, my husband was getting into a really bad habit of interrupting me all the time. I think it started after we had kids because sometimes interruptions are necessary there. \"So, we were going to the park, and-\" \"<Daughter>, DO NOT PUT THAT IN YOUR MOUTH\" and so on. The problem we had was that he sort of got in the habit of interrupting me for many other things as well. \n\nSo, one day I just said something along the lines of \"Hey, I noticed that you've been interrupting me a lot lately when I'm trying to say something. I know sometimes it's necessary with the kids, but if you're just talking over me to talk about something else, can you not?\" \n\nAnd he said \"I didn't realize I was doing that. I'll work on it. Remind me if I slip up.\" \n\nAnd then it was fine. There were a couple times that I did need to remind him, or he caught himself mid-interruption and apologized, but just bringing it to his attention was enough. \n\nI wouldn't try that with someone I didn't know well, but if it's a person that you're having regular conversations with who is regularly interrupting you, try just talking to them about it. ", "You talk too slow.\n\nI know, because I also talk too slow.\n\nThere's an unspoken cadence to a conversation, if you pause too long, because you're being thoughtful of what you're saying or whatever, someone else will jump in.\n\nYou can either yield the floor, or pick up where you left off, with a slightly louder, annoyed voice. Either they'll shut their damn mouth, or you'll both be talking at the same time. If the latter, you already know what you wanted to say, so when someone inevitably asks \"what?\", immediately start talking again, or, lose the floor.\n\n", "So I'm pretty bad about this (interrupting others, not being interrupted), and have been working on it for a long time. Maybe you can take my perspective into account, along with all the other ones that seem to want you to pick a fight about it or be passive aggressive. \n\nMost importantly, there's not usually malice behind interrupting. My childhood involved a lot of time in my grandparent's basement with a dozen or so family members, drinking beer and arguing loudly over nonsense. I wasn't raised to speak my two lines, signal clearly that I was finished, and then sit patiently while the other person speaks theirs. I was raised with the understanding that humans can speak and listen simultaneously. While one uncle is telling a story, the other one is rattling off some other details, then an aunt will call someone's bullshit... all at once. \n\nBecause of this, it's very disconcerting for me when people immediately cease speaking and look at me when I interject. It's even more frustrating when a coworker has made it clear they're super concerned with conversational etiquette, so I have to wait until they've closed their mouth and folded their hands or something. I seriously have to sit here and let you say every single word, even though I have a relevant point or new information that precludes/contradicts your remaining points? Oh my god even typing it annoys me.\n\nSo keep this in mind - the person is possibly not trying to talk OVER you, but rather talk WITH you, in the way they're used to. It's for this reason that I'd suggest you try mimicry (and not in some aggressive way like others are suggesting). \n\nYou let the person communicate in their way, and you'll probably feel a lot more friendly toward them than if you a) wait your turn quietly, or b) call them out on it (because they probably already know they do it).\n\n\"So we were going down to blah blah and did the blah, when ---\"\n\n\"Yeah, but instead it's like that blah blah, which, they always say, is even more blah---\"\n\n\"Right? The blahs in this blah blah were the same! So blah...\"", "If they interrupt or talk over you more than once during a conversation, then they probably don't care for what you have to say.\n\nTry to talk to people in smaller groups if you're interrupted a lot, or continue to talk while being interrupted.", "just say \" im sorry for talking while you were interrupting.\" that or just talk progressively louder until they get the point", "Once had a friend who made remarks about everything so anytime he was with a group he did about 60-75% of the talking. He would ramble for what felt like hours bouncing topic to topic. If you tried to say anything that consisted of more then 5 words he would often just talk louder to express yet another opinion. ", "Maybe you're not speaking clearly and loud enough, especially if this happens in groups. They may not even realize that you're talking.", "LPT: If you talk louder than everyone else, not only will all eyes be on you, but no one will be able to interrupt you! If anyone tries, talk even louder. They won't be able to get a word in edgewise! ", "Just ask them in the middle of their rant \"Let me see if I understand what you are saying?\"\n\nOr you can say something like \"Let me be sure I understand what you are saying.\"\n\nThen follow with \"So you're feeling _______ because of ____?\"\n\nThen you summarize what they say back to you in your own words. \n\nRemember to respond to the meaning, but not the words. \n\nThere is a great book called Verbal Judo that you should check out... \n\nYoutube link below. \n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=btBw70HAys4\n\nAlso, what I described above is part of L.E.A.P. ; There is a whole process of getting the other person to comply, but there are a lot of other tactical things you need to look for before deciding the correct course of action. \n\n\n\n\n\n\n", "It's less about talking and more about social dominance. \n\nIf you are lower on the pecking order, higher members of the social group will talk over you because from a social order perspective your opinion and feelings matter less. \n\nYou aren't respected. That's why people feel comfortable with talking over you or interrupting you. \n\nTo resolve this you need to focus on gaining more social authority/respect. \n\n\n\n", "If this happens all the time to you, I think it's something you're doing. Do you insert a lot of 'um's, 'err's, or other sentence fillers? Do you tell really long winded stories? \n\nHonestly, calling them out on it is not going to help you. If it's an accident, now they're embarrassed and awkward the rest of the time. If it's not, well, they probably don't like being called out.", "I say ( in a jokey/sarcastic way).. If your not interested in hearing the rest of my sentence...just butt in.. And then smile...don't forget to smile ;)", "Cut them off loudly and obviously by resuming what you were saying before they finish what they were trying to interrupt with. Strong eye contact in this situation also helps to get the point across.\n\n\nAnother idea is to not stop talking when they cut you off. Just keep talking like they never said anything. Or aggressively hold a finger up to their face in a \"shushing\" manner if they can't wait their turn. But I'm petty like that", "Become totally silent while they speak, no reactions, verbal or physical. And bore holes in them with your eyes. Just totally glare. If they ask you a question or leave you time for a responsre, mumble back. One word answer. Just seem generally disinterested and distracted in whatever it is theyre talking about.\n\nThere's a 99% chance they won't notice fuck all. They wont pick up in the slightest that you have shut yourself down to them. People are way too self absorbed. Makes it easy to separate 99 out from the 100 assholes not worth wasting your hard earned experience, intellect, and opinions on.\n\nUnless you absolutely need to drive a point into their head. Like they're interrupting you, and you're trying to tell them their pants are on fire or something.\n\n\nIn that case, write down what you have to say, tape it to a stake and drive the point into them. Elbow grease may be required. Driving directly into the head is not necessary but a much more effective method of communication.\n\n\n", "Lol my boyfriend and I talk over each other all the time. We've had conversations where we both talk " ]

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[ "What to write in a CV (Resume) with very little skills and job history? I'm trying to write a CV and i have no job history. I also have little skills. Any tips on properly writing one?", "What to write in a CV (Resume) with very little skills and job history? I'm trying to write a CV and i have no job history. I also have little skills. Any tips on properly writing one?", "What to write in a CV (Resume) with very little skills and job history? I'm trying to write a CV and i have no job history. I also have little skills. Any tips on properly writing one?", "What to write in a CV (Resume) with very little skills and job history? I'm trying to write a CV and i have no job history. I also have little skills. Any tips on properly writing one?", "What to write in a CV (Resume) with very little skills and job history? I'm trying to write a CV and i have no job history. I also have little skills. Any tips on properly writing one?", "What to write in a CV (Resume) with very little skills and job history? I'm trying to write a CV and i have no job history. I also have little skills. Any tips on properly writing one?" ]

[ "- Education history \n- References from teachers / upstanding community members\n- Events you've participated in\n- Awards won\n- Hobbies / interests\n- Any skills or minor employment history. You might be overlooking something\n\nMaybe put an emphasis on designing it nicely. You can download well designed resume templates. That might help out.\n\nWorst case scenario, just lie a little (if you think you can get away with it). I know it's bad but when I was really desperate I lied about minor things like awards I'd won. I don't need to do that anymore but it can help until you gain initial experience.", "It's also a good idea to explain what you learned from the few jobs, and what skills it gave you that could benefit your new employee.", "If you have no paid work, do you have any volunteer positions? Don't overdo the hobbies list - I've been on the receiving end of those and they come across as the person isn't really interested in work, but just wants to play. I passed on that applicant. Even if your only job experience is a McJob, put that on. It shows that you can show up on time. That's more than some folks can do.", "Honestly, I've been on the recruiting side of things.\nWe look for what skills you have that are useful to that role.\n\nLook for what the job is asking for then tell them how you have those skills. Relevant experience doesn't always come from a similar role.\n\nEg, Any public service role ever:=\nHow do you help others\nHow do you deal with difficult situation or confrontation?\nHow are you with communicating?\nHow are you with learning new systems and skills?\n\n ", "Add what your short and/or long term (career) goals are. The employer will see that you actually thought about why you apply, what the job actually is and what they will gain from hiring you once you get the lacking skills to your desired level.\nDepending on what you're applying to, it might even make you seem overqualified or too enthousiastic for the low level job.", "Lie, buddy. Fake your way through it if you can. My good friend, asshole that he his...lied his way into making 350k as a medical rep. No degree. What are you applying for?? " ]

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[ "How to defrost a freezer that has so much ice buildup it's turned into Hoth. As the title states, I have a freezer-fridge combo (the type where the freezer section sits on top of the fridge section but are connected and cannot be separated). The freezer has accumulated snow, ice and frost buildup over time and now it's capacity is about 1/2 what it was. As far as I can tell, my options are:\n\n1. Remove all food, unplug the fridge, let the ice melt into a puddle on my floor. Not ideal for obvious reasons, both food spoilage and water damage. Like I said, there's a LOT of buildup.\n\n2. Hammer/chisel/pickaxe my way through the ice buildup. Also not ideal as the fridge is quite deep and I won't be able to get at all the parts I need to with enough leverage to break ice. I also don't want to damage the fridge (I rent an apartment).\n\n3. Pour boiling water on the icy parts. Not ideal because of all the reasons of #1 with added risk of burns. \n\nI live in a major city in an apartment that doesn't have a yard, so moving it out of the apartment isn't really an option. Any tips would be appreciated - thanks!", "How to defrost a freezer that has so much ice buildup it's turned into Hoth. As the title states, I have a freezer-fridge combo (the type where the freezer section sits on top of the fridge section but are connected and cannot be separated). The freezer has accumulated snow, ice and frost buildup over time and now it's capacity is about 1/2 what it was. As far as I can tell, my options are:\n\n1. Remove all food, unplug the fridge, let the ice melt into a puddle on my floor. Not ideal for obvious reasons, both food spoilage and water damage. Like I said, there's a LOT of buildup.\n\n2. Hammer/chisel/pickaxe my way through the ice buildup. Also not ideal as the fridge is quite deep and I won't be able to get at all the parts I need to with enough leverage to break ice. I also don't want to damage the fridge (I rent an apartment).\n\n3. Pour boiling water on the icy parts. Not ideal because of all the reasons of #1 with added risk of burns. \n\nI live in a major city in an apartment that doesn't have a yard, so moving it out of the apartment isn't really an option. Any tips would be appreciated - thanks!", "How to defrost a freezer that has so much ice buildup it's turned into Hoth. As the title states, I have a freezer-fridge combo (the type where the freezer section sits on top of the fridge section but are connected and cannot be separated). The freezer has accumulated snow, ice and frost buildup over time and now it's capacity is about 1/2 what it was. As far as I can tell, my options are:\n\n1. Remove all food, unplug the fridge, let the ice melt into a puddle on my floor. Not ideal for obvious reasons, both food spoilage and water damage. Like I said, there's a LOT of buildup.\n\n2. Hammer/chisel/pickaxe my way through the ice buildup. Also not ideal as the fridge is quite deep and I won't be able to get at all the parts I need to with enough leverage to break ice. I also don't want to damage the fridge (I rent an apartment).\n\n3. Pour boiling water on the icy parts. Not ideal because of all the reasons of #1 with added risk of burns. \n\nI live in a major city in an apartment that doesn't have a yard, so moving it out of the apartment isn't really an option. Any tips would be appreciated - thanks!", "How to defrost a freezer that has so much ice buildup it's turned into Hoth. As the title states, I have a freezer-fridge combo (the type where the freezer section sits on top of the fridge section but are connected and cannot be separated). The freezer has accumulated snow, ice and frost buildup over time and now it's capacity is about 1/2 what it was. As far as I can tell, my options are:\n\n1. Remove all food, unplug the fridge, let the ice melt into a puddle on my floor. Not ideal for obvious reasons, both food spoilage and water damage. Like I said, there's a LOT of buildup.\n\n2. Hammer/chisel/pickaxe my way through the ice buildup. Also not ideal as the fridge is quite deep and I won't be able to get at all the parts I need to with enough leverage to break ice. I also don't want to damage the fridge (I rent an apartment).\n\n3. Pour boiling water on the icy parts. Not ideal because of all the reasons of #1 with added risk of burns. \n\nI live in a major city in an apartment that doesn't have a yard, so moving it out of the apartment isn't really an option. Any tips would be appreciated - thanks!", "How to defrost a freezer that has so much ice buildup it's turned into Hoth. As the title states, I have a freezer-fridge combo (the type where the freezer section sits on top of the fridge section but are connected and cannot be separated). The freezer has accumulated snow, ice and frost buildup over time and now it's capacity is about 1/2 what it was. As far as I can tell, my options are:\n\n1. Remove all food, unplug the fridge, let the ice melt into a puddle on my floor. Not ideal for obvious reasons, both food spoilage and water damage. Like I said, there's a LOT of buildup.\n\n2. Hammer/chisel/pickaxe my way through the ice buildup. Also not ideal as the fridge is quite deep and I won't be able to get at all the parts I need to with enough leverage to break ice. I also don't want to damage the fridge (I rent an apartment).\n\n3. Pour boiling water on the icy parts. Not ideal because of all the reasons of #1 with added risk of burns. \n\nI live in a major city in an apartment that doesn't have a yard, so moving it out of the apartment isn't really an option. Any tips would be appreciated - thanks!" ]

[ "How big is it, you mention you can't take it outside so I assume it can be moved.\n\nIf that's the case think bathroom and shower or tub. Create something to catch the water and direct it into the tub while it's melting or depending on the size will it fit in a stand up show stall if available? \n\nMy mind is thinking get it to the bathroom, butt it up against the tub and somehow tape a trash bag to it so that it creates a path to the tub. Could maybe prop the back up a bit and have it lean over the tub enough so it flows out easier.\n\nTape it to the bottom/underneathe the freezer and partially up the sides, you've created an area where the water can only go into the bag. Any that doesn't is going to be minimal. Tape the bag to a broom handle down to the corner with a hole\n\nDuct, tape, trash bag, hole in the bottom of a corner of the trash bag that you can direct into the tub. Use hair dryer or just let sit for a while. Once it starts to melt you could probably just give it a few good pops with your fist and it will start to break up in chunks. You could then put those in the tub to melt. \n\n[Crude mock-up.](http://i.imgur.com/xQwsUho.jpg)", "First, you're gonna need at least one large cooler with a decent size or you're not going to be successful. So borrow one or two from a friend for a day (and wash them out in your tub or shower with a little bit of lemon-scented detergent and rinse/dry them before returning). One cooler gets the frozen food, the other gets the stuff from the fridge bottom.\n\nThen unplug the fridge or turn its breaker off, and pour or splash enough hot tap water onto the icy buildup to make a little runoff, and watch where it goes verify that at least REASONABLE amounts of meltwater will stay IN the fridge and not leak out its front when the door is partly closed. And if you happen to have a vinyl storage tote that fits in your fridge bottom, use that to catch at least part of the drops.\n\nThe solution for that water is to use a shopvac, vacuuming up the melt water while it stays in the fridge and as it happens. Towels don't work NEARLY as well, only use those to catch any excess that gets out of the fridge onto the floor if that happens. \n\nThen defrost it slowly by pouring in warm or hot water from your tap or kettle, even squirting it if you have a squirty-bottle, leaving a bowl of really hot water in there and refreshing it every time it cools, or using a hair dryer (not recommended, you ARE playing near water!)... and handle all the runoff with the shopvac as it occurs.", "Do not use #2! Turn it off and get a hair dryer and several large bath towels. Start in one area and concentrate the hot air on there. No don't just wave it around, work one area at a time. As the heat moves into the wall behind the ice, you will be able to break off chunks of ice. Keep wringing the towels out into the sink. Dedicate an afternoon and be patient. It took years to get that way, you aren't going to defrost it in an hour.", "Do NOT use a chisel, omg!\n\nDo you have a blow dryer? Use that to melt it slowly and have a towel ready to soak up the water. Be careful not to melt any plastic parts.", "A shop vac to vacuum up the water as it melts and a hair dryer. That's all I have ever used and it's done within the hour." ]

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[ "How to fill out a job application after you've been fired I got fired from my most recent job. I was overwhelmed by the work load and couldn't keep up. I was also dealing with some untreated medical issues (my health insurance didn't kick until about six weeks before I was fired) which also contributed to my poor performance.\n\nWhat do I put for \"Reason for Leaving\"? The application I am currently filling out has a drop down menu, so I can't fill in my own answer, although one of the options is \"Not Specified.\" Should I choose that one?\n\nWhat about for \"May We Contact This Supervisor?\" for my most recent supervisor? Yes or no?", "How to fill out a job application after you've been fired I got fired from my most recent job. I was overwhelmed by the work load and couldn't keep up. I was also dealing with some untreated medical issues (my health insurance didn't kick until about six weeks before I was fired) which also contributed to my poor performance.\n\nWhat do I put for \"Reason for Leaving\"? The application I am currently filling out has a drop down menu, so I can't fill in my own answer, although one of the options is \"Not Specified.\" Should I choose that one?\n\nWhat about for \"May We Contact This Supervisor?\" for my most recent supervisor? Yes or no?", "How to fill out a job application after you've been fired I got fired from my most recent job. I was overwhelmed by the work load and couldn't keep up. I was also dealing with some untreated medical issues (my health insurance didn't kick until about six weeks before I was fired) which also contributed to my poor performance.\n\nWhat do I put for \"Reason for Leaving\"? The application I am currently filling out has a drop down menu, so I can't fill in my own answer, although one of the options is \"Not Specified.\" Should I choose that one?\n\nWhat about for \"May We Contact This Supervisor?\" for my most recent supervisor? Yes or no?", "How to fill out a job application after you've been fired I got fired from my most recent job. I was overwhelmed by the work load and couldn't keep up. I was also dealing with some untreated medical issues (my health insurance didn't kick until about six weeks before I was fired) which also contributed to my poor performance.\n\nWhat do I put for \"Reason for Leaving\"? The application I am currently filling out has a drop down menu, so I can't fill in my own answer, although one of the options is \"Not Specified.\" Should I choose that one?\n\nWhat about for \"May We Contact This Supervisor?\" for my most recent supervisor? Yes or no?" ]

[ "In most states in USA, companies will only provide basic info about your position and dates of employment. They usually do not provide a reason for employee leaving their company and do not allow anyone to negative feedback due the risk of lawsuits.\n\nSo just say you left because of some vague reason such as lengthy commute or wanting better opportunities.\n\nIn extreme cases, give the name of a friendly coworker or relative as a supervisor reference but make sure you coach them first. Is it dishonest.....yes... But when it comes to you and your families survival....you got to do what you have to do.", "Always be truthful. \n\nCall your last boss and ask if you can use them on an application. If you left on a good note (meaning you were a good worker and pleasant to be around, you just couldn't handle the work load at the time) they will be beneficial to list. \n\n", "I work in Michigan. I've always been told by my employer that the only info we can offer to someone calling for a reference (for a former employee who was terminated) is: confirming or denying dates of employment & job function/responsibilities. Even a guy we had on film stealing, we did not press charges so I could not tell his prospective employer about it. Since it was unproven, it could be considered slander to pass on. \n\nOur standard has been to respond with some sideways crap like: \"yes, Bobby worked here from 9-10-14 to 10-10-14; and I wish you the best of luck hiring him/working with him. I have no comment on his job performance, skill set, or attitude.\"", "I believe that most states like California have fairly strict laws about what a previous employer can say when checking references. Mainly limited to dates of employment and eligibility for re-hire. After that it becomes a tricky law issue that can be slander. A good reason for leaving is that the employee is moving up in position. As far as contacting a supervisor if your previous employer is a chain then always give the corporate HR number and never the local number. For what it's worth, work history with no or little time gaps and relevant experience are more important than references. References help to expose BS job titles and experience. Hope that helps. " ]

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[ "old, dried in deep grease stain removal - is it possible? a touch of back story.\nmy wife and i have a bud of ours rooming with us, because it turns out his ex wife was a psychotic bitch.\n\nhe got a job at a local burger chain - one of the ones with the gas fired broilers - as the over nights scrubby everything clean up guy.\n\nin their infinite wisdom, the franchise owners decided that a fw of those little throwaway pretend towel things are plenty good enough for burger grease that's been baked and burnt in at 450 degrees for 16 hours. so, our bud, was clever and liberated about 3 dozen of the terry towels they were getting rid of. that was about 2 years ago. he brings the towels home once a week and uses the washer and dryer to clean them for the next week. \n\nhere's the problem: this causes a 'ring o grease' on the top of the washer tub, and if the next person doesn't notice it, boom, hardcore grease has been washed INTO the clothing. then thrown into the dryer and dried in. \n\nwe've noticed this a could of times, but it wasn't on anything important.. and we only just realizeed what the funky black streaky stains were from. we were thinking maybe ink form a pen or some such. today i finally put two and two together. the long term solution is easy - clean the washer drum after each load of grease towels..\n\nbut in the mean time, i have that grease stain from hell on a pair of my wifes scrubs ( she's in nursing) and also now on one of her white sports bras.\n\ni've tried goop. i've tried baking soda and vinegar and ammonia and even laquer thinner and gasoline. i've even tried washing up liquid.\n\nthey didn't budge. \n\nhere, finally, is the question - do any of you LPT peoples think there is a possible solution, or are we looking at new scrubs and a new sports bra? \n\nnote: i've not tried lestoil. i've not heard of it until here. should i bother? or just chuck it all?\n\nthanks. sorry the post was too long.", "old, dried in deep grease stain removal - is it possible? a touch of back story.\nmy wife and i have a bud of ours rooming with us, because it turns out his ex wife was a psychotic bitch.\n\nhe got a job at a local burger chain - one of the ones with the gas fired broilers - as the over nights scrubby everything clean up guy.\n\nin their infinite wisdom, the franchise owners decided that a fw of those little throwaway pretend towel things are plenty good enough for burger grease that's been baked and burnt in at 450 degrees for 16 hours. so, our bud, was clever and liberated about 3 dozen of the terry towels they were getting rid of. that was about 2 years ago. he brings the towels home once a week and uses the washer and dryer to clean them for the next week. \n\nhere's the problem: this causes a 'ring o grease' on the top of the washer tub, and if the next person doesn't notice it, boom, hardcore grease has been washed INTO the clothing. then thrown into the dryer and dried in. \n\nwe've noticed this a could of times, but it wasn't on anything important.. and we only just realizeed what the funky black streaky stains were from. we were thinking maybe ink form a pen or some such. today i finally put two and two together. the long term solution is easy - clean the washer drum after each load of grease towels..\n\nbut in the mean time, i have that grease stain from hell on a pair of my wifes scrubs ( she's in nursing) and also now on one of her white sports bras.\n\ni've tried goop. i've tried baking soda and vinegar and ammonia and even laquer thinner and gasoline. i've even tried washing up liquid.\n\nthey didn't budge. \n\nhere, finally, is the question - do any of you LPT peoples think there is a possible solution, or are we looking at new scrubs and a new sports bra? \n\nnote: i've not tried lestoil. i've not heard of it until here. should i bother? or just chuck it all?\n\nthanks. sorry the post was too long.", "old, dried in deep grease stain removal - is it possible? a touch of back story.\nmy wife and i have a bud of ours rooming with us, because it turns out his ex wife was a psychotic bitch.\n\nhe got a job at a local burger chain - one of the ones with the gas fired broilers - as the over nights scrubby everything clean up guy.\n\nin their infinite wisdom, the franchise owners decided that a fw of those little throwaway pretend towel things are plenty good enough for burger grease that's been baked and burnt in at 450 degrees for 16 hours. so, our bud, was clever and liberated about 3 dozen of the terry towels they were getting rid of. that was about 2 years ago. he brings the towels home once a week and uses the washer and dryer to clean them for the next week. \n\nhere's the problem: this causes a 'ring o grease' on the top of the washer tub, and if the next person doesn't notice it, boom, hardcore grease has been washed INTO the clothing. then thrown into the dryer and dried in. \n\nwe've noticed this a could of times, but it wasn't on anything important.. and we only just realizeed what the funky black streaky stains were from. we were thinking maybe ink form a pen or some such. today i finally put two and two together. the long term solution is easy - clean the washer drum after each load of grease towels..\n\nbut in the mean time, i have that grease stain from hell on a pair of my wifes scrubs ( she's in nursing) and also now on one of her white sports bras.\n\ni've tried goop. i've tried baking soda and vinegar and ammonia and even laquer thinner and gasoline. i've even tried washing up liquid.\n\nthey didn't budge. \n\nhere, finally, is the question - do any of you LPT peoples think there is a possible solution, or are we looking at new scrubs and a new sports bra? \n\nnote: i've not tried lestoil. i've not heard of it until here. should i bother? or just chuck it all?\n\nthanks. sorry the post was too long." ]

[ "When it comes to hard core stains, you have to catch them before you put them in the dryer.\n\nLestoil is the best for stains. Soak it in and let it set. \n\nIf you didn't catch the stain and you put it in the dryer, it's not easy to get them out. \n\nLestoil is an old school cleaner that is simply amazing. If you find it, buy it up.", "They toss those rags out for a reason. my father has been in landscaping forever and grease really doesn't come off. It dyes the clothing as it soaks in. They are given work clothing shoes and socks because it ruins anything it touches. Either dye it black or just accept it as is. ", "I would try pouring some hot/boiling water on the stain first. I've done this with some success. Put a degreaser like goop on the stain and let it soak in a bit. Then put some detergent or washing up liquid on it and then position the garment it over an upside down colander in the sink. Then pour a stream of very hot water on the stain. You want to flush the stain out. If you haven't tried a long soak in oxiclean, that might work too. " ]

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[ "How to stay tidy. Yes, I'm adult. I'm a 25 year-old professional and I've been untidy my whole life. My room has always been a disaster - the floor is covered in clothes, CDs, shoes, books, old water glasses, etcs. I rarely have people over any more because my place is always so gross. I go through periods where my room is neat, but after a few weeks I'm right back to being incredible untidy and gross.\n\nI've been embarrassed by this since I was a kid, and now I'm an adult and it just seems to be getting worse. Why am I still so messy? How do I keep things clean for longer than a few weeks at a time?\n\n", "How to stay tidy. Yes, I'm adult. I'm a 25 year-old professional and I've been untidy my whole life. My room has always been a disaster - the floor is covered in clothes, CDs, shoes, books, old water glasses, etcs. I rarely have people over any more because my place is always so gross. I go through periods where my room is neat, but after a few weeks I'm right back to being incredible untidy and gross.\n\nI've been embarrassed by this since I was a kid, and now I'm an adult and it just seems to be getting worse. Why am I still so messy? How do I keep things clean for longer than a few weeks at a time?\n\n", "How to stay tidy. Yes, I'm adult. I'm a 25 year-old professional and I've been untidy my whole life. My room has always been a disaster - the floor is covered in clothes, CDs, shoes, books, old water glasses, etcs. I rarely have people over any more because my place is always so gross. I go through periods where my room is neat, but after a few weeks I'm right back to being incredible untidy and gross.\n\nI've been embarrassed by this since I was a kid, and now I'm an adult and it just seems to be getting worse. Why am I still so messy? How do I keep things clean for longer than a few weeks at a time?\n\n", "How to stay tidy. Yes, I'm adult. I'm a 25 year-old professional and I've been untidy my whole life. My room has always been a disaster - the floor is covered in clothes, CDs, shoes, books, old water glasses, etcs. I rarely have people over any more because my place is always so gross. I go through periods where my room is neat, but after a few weeks I'm right back to being incredible untidy and gross.\n\nI've been embarrassed by this since I was a kid, and now I'm an adult and it just seems to be getting worse. Why am I still so messy? How do I keep things clean for longer than a few weeks at a time?\n\n", "How to stay tidy. Yes, I'm adult. I'm a 25 year-old professional and I've been untidy my whole life. My room has always been a disaster - the floor is covered in clothes, CDs, shoes, books, old water glasses, etcs. I rarely have people over any more because my place is always so gross. I go through periods where my room is neat, but after a few weeks I'm right back to being incredible untidy and gross.\n\nI've been embarrassed by this since I was a kid, and now I'm an adult and it just seems to be getting worse. Why am I still so messy? How do I keep things clean for longer than a few weeks at a time?\n\n", "How to stay tidy. Yes, I'm adult. I'm a 25 year-old professional and I've been untidy my whole life. My room has always been a disaster - the floor is covered in clothes, CDs, shoes, books, old water glasses, etcs. I rarely have people over any more because my place is always so gross. I go through periods where my room is neat, but after a few weeks I'm right back to being incredible untidy and gross.\n\nI've been embarrassed by this since I was a kid, and now I'm an adult and it just seems to be getting worse. Why am I still so messy? How do I keep things clean for longer than a few weeks at a time?\n\n", "How to stay tidy. Yes, I'm adult. I'm a 25 year-old professional and I've been untidy my whole life. My room has always been a disaster - the floor is covered in clothes, CDs, shoes, books, old water glasses, etcs. I rarely have people over any more because my place is always so gross. I go through periods where my room is neat, but after a few weeks I'm right back to being incredible untidy and gross.\n\nI've been embarrassed by this since I was a kid, and now I'm an adult and it just seems to be getting worse. Why am I still so messy? How do I keep things clean for longer than a few weeks at a time?\n\n", "How to stay tidy. Yes, I'm adult. I'm a 25 year-old professional and I've been untidy my whole life. My room has always been a disaster - the floor is covered in clothes, CDs, shoes, books, old water glasses, etcs. I rarely have people over any more because my place is always so gross. I go through periods where my room is neat, but after a few weeks I'm right back to being incredible untidy and gross.\n\nI've been embarrassed by this since I was a kid, and now I'm an adult and it just seems to be getting worse. Why am I still so messy? How do I keep things clean for longer than a few weeks at a time?\n\n", "How to stay tidy. Yes, I'm adult. I'm a 25 year-old professional and I've been untidy my whole life. My room has always been a disaster - the floor is covered in clothes, CDs, shoes, books, old water glasses, etcs. I rarely have people over any more because my place is always so gross. I go through periods where my room is neat, but after a few weeks I'm right back to being incredible untidy and gross.\n\nI've been embarrassed by this since I was a kid, and now I'm an adult and it just seems to be getting worse. Why am I still so messy? How do I keep things clean for longer than a few weeks at a time?\n\n", "How to stay tidy. Yes, I'm adult. I'm a 25 year-old professional and I've been untidy my whole life. My room has always been a disaster - the floor is covered in clothes, CDs, shoes, books, old water glasses, etcs. I rarely have people over any more because my place is always so gross. I go through periods where my room is neat, but after a few weeks I'm right back to being incredible untidy and gross.\n\nI've been embarrassed by this since I was a kid, and now I'm an adult and it just seems to be getting worse. Why am I still so messy? How do I keep things clean for longer than a few weeks at a time?\n\n", "How to stay tidy. Yes, I'm adult. I'm a 25 year-old professional and I've been untidy my whole life. My room has always been a disaster - the floor is covered in clothes, CDs, shoes, books, old water glasses, etcs. I rarely have people over any more because my place is always so gross. I go through periods where my room is neat, but after a few weeks I'm right back to being incredible untidy and gross.\n\nI've been embarrassed by this since I was a kid, and now I'm an adult and it just seems to be getting worse. Why am I still so messy? How do I keep things clean for longer than a few weeks at a time?\n\n" ]

[ "When I had morning sickness and was researching ways to alleviate it, I came across a life-changing tip. As a confirmed slob (my husband used to refer to the top of our dresser as \"clothes mountain\") who had to have at least a day's notice before having guests, it was huge for me to make a change. \n1. (from the morning-sickness website) Even if you are tired or sick, just take 45 seconds to pick up a little .Not even a minute. You can do 45 seconds, and you will be shocked at how much you can tidy in that time. Often I'll count 45 seconds in my head and will be so motivated by the end of it that I'll just keep going. If I'm watching a show with commercials, I take that opportunity to tidy or fold laundry or whatever. \n2. From a buddhist magazine: \"the state of your bed is the state of your head\". Make your bed every day. If you can't handle corners, just toss the bedspread and sheet relatively straight and fluff your pillows. Even if your bed is the only island of sanity in your messy mess room, it's a start. \n3. [this website](http://www.flylady.net/) which was started by 2 high-powered professional ladies who chose to stay at home with their kids and were shocked at what useless slobs they were. Don't be put off by that stupid overweight fairy logo. They have great ideas for getting started and staying on top of your tsunami of crap. They suggest starting with your kitchen sink, even if the rest of the kitchen is CPS-worthy. Don't go to bed with stuff in the sink. Clean the stuff, put it away, rinse and dry your sink. It creates an island of hope. \nGood luck! I've been \"clean\" a year! Like AA, take it one day at a time. ", "Best thing? Own less. Learned it back in college. Had piecemail place settings for 12 in the house, and never a clean dish. 4 of us, had a place setting for 4. cleanup became easy and neccisary.\n\nIf it's on your floor, and hasn't been used or put away in a while, you probably don'e need it. Theres a time and place for building up your anal retentive neatness, but you have to start small, only own what you can clean, and build when you can handle it.\n\nLaundry is the other big one, if you haven't worn it in a fe wmonths, toss it, laundry is only as much a hassle as it is more than one load", "Here's what I do. This doesn't count dishes or vacuuming or anything like that, because I do those often and they're not really a problem for me. If they are for you, then include them for yourself. But for me, what I sometimes have a problem with is general clutter. It starts in one spot, grows legs, and suddenly my whole room is covered. \n\nSo what I do is, say I'm in the middle of redditing or watching a movie and need a break, I'll stand up and tell myself, \"5 minutes\". Seriously. The hardest thing about those five minutes is actually standing up. But once you stand up, you put on a clock and say \"I am going to do this for 5 minutes\". If you do, then one of two things is going to happen. Either you are going to clean for 5 minutes, which is actually a lot when it's just general tidying up, or you're going to say \"I'm gonna keep going\" and clean more. Limit yourself to 15 though. Because you don't want to go overboard. More than 15 and you're likely be destracted by something, and then you lose a lot of the \"yay I did it for today!\" euphoria. So keep it small. But every single day, just 5 little minutes. Those 5 minutes cannot be made up later by doing 10 minutes tomorrow. They cannot be done all at once for the week. Every day, just 5 tiny minutes. ", "1. Mind tricks and changing your mentality about cleanliness help. Think to yourself \"If I saw someone else's room like this, I'd be pretty disgusted\" or \"Imagine if someone saw the state I'm living in now, I'd doubt they'd want to know me\". Slightly exaggerated but it gets you into the habit of thinking that the way you're living is just not acceptable. In some cases, it's not. \n\n2. Start small. Usually if you say, \"Okay I'll just pile all my dirty washing into the corner for now\" and do just that you'll either realise that the room wasn't as messy as you thought it was (my room is only ever really messy due to the abundance of clothes) or you'll think \"I can't stop there!\" and get stuck into it. *I hope*\n\n3. In the extreme cases of cutlery and crockery hoarding (I'm guilty of this) if things get too much. Limit yourself to one glass, fork, spoon, knife etc therefore you will HAVE to remove the dishes from your room in order to eat again just later in the day. They may lay around for a few hours yes, but it's better than a few days.\n\n4. Get a wash basket, if you already have one, USE IT. I am the Mayor of Lazytown sometimes but I can't warrant anyone not using a perfectly empty wash basket. Unless you're drunk at 4am and are stumbling to take your clothes off before bed, then you're exempt.\n\n5. Invite people round. This related to the first point, ever since I went to university and it's friendly to keep your door open, I constantly clean my room because I don't want people to judge me for being messy. Plus I wanted people to come into my room without being uncomfortable if it were a filthy place because I know I sure would be.\n\n6. Love the room you're in. If you think that your clean room actually is a bit hideous with the dingy wallpaper and the wardrobe with the door hanging off, change it! It doesn't have to be expensive but you're not going to love the room whether it's tidy or not so do something about that.\n\n7. Buy things to make the room more homely. In this sense I mean candles, nice decorations etc. There's no point buying that nice picture frame so it can sit on your desk amongst the leftover pizza boxes. This is something you can't do ALL the time, I mean hey, we're in a recession but it's nice in times of need (or when you want to treat yourself).\n\nI think that's all I have for now. As someone who has been quite messy their whole life, I feel for you but that's just it, pure laziness. So get to it! :)", "You might want to check out [The Fly Lady](http://www.flylady.net/) . Start with the baby steps and work your way up to the daily routines. The daily routines take about 15 minutes a day and each day is a different area within the week's zone. It's not complicated and you can sign up for a daily email that details what you should do for that day.\n\nMy wife and I have been following this for about nine months now and our house is pretty presentable at all times now. While our home was never a pig pen, we didn't like folks to drop in unannounced and had cleaning marathons if we were hosting a birthday party for the kids. It worked out well for us. Give it a look.", "I am similar to you. My big thing was leaving more time for myself. \n\nWhen you wake up at 6:30am and have to get to work/class by 7, you have no time to do the dishes after breakfast or put clothes away. Waking up at 6, although terrible, will give you enough time to clean up. Similarly, don't stretch your day out and stay out late. Come home and give yourself time to get ready for bed (including putting away your clothes). Hope this helps! ", "My parents have been enforcing tidiness around the house since I can remember. Whenever you're walking to different places around the house, always look around to see if you can clean up a mess along the way ex. pick up books off the floor on the way to the kitchen. You'll definitely see a difference after a few trips. It's become a habit to observe my surroundings and less time consuming when it comes to actually cleaning my room.", "For me, it all breaks down to one thing: **start small.**\n\nStarting small gives you momentum by providing quick and visible results. When you see what you've done and how quickly you've done it, you'll be motivated to get more results by moving onto the bigger tasks.\n\nI've actually incorporated this idea into a routine that I execute whenever I think the house needs a pickup. In my case, my son's bedroom is typically the easiest way to start and I can get the room looking tidy in less than 5 minutes.\n\nI then move on to the other bedrooms, then the kitchen (which is more difficult, but manageable) then the living room (which tends to be the biggest disaster and takes the longest). Within each room, I have a specific order of tasks. For example, starting the kitchen by putting away clean dishes from the dishwasher allows me to fill it with dirty dishes,which allows me to clean the counters and sink, etc, to create an orderly flow that I can execute nearly automatically.", "Every time you leave one room to go to another, pick up something and take it with you. This gets your clothes out of your living room, dirty dishes out of your bed room, and towels out of the kitchen.\n\nThen... occasionally use the five-minute trick. Just pick one thing and clean for five minutes.", "I had the same problem in my early twenties as well. I beat it by doing the following:\n1) Keep dirty clothes in a basket.\n2) Rinse dishes when you finish with them so I takes no time to do dishes.\n3) Don't collect stuff. If you haven't used it in one year, you don't need it. Use ebay or amazon to sell excess stuff, even if you think you will want it later. So the less stuff you have, the better.\n4) Sleep less. A person does not need more than 8 hours a day. I only sleep 6. Those two extra hours add up.\n5) And the worst/best advise: drink some booze while you clean. You will be surprised when the living spaces are spotless.\n", ">My room has always been a disaster - the floor is covered in clothes, CDs, shoes, books, old water glasses, etcs\n\nIt sounds like the root of your problem is not putting things away when you're finished with them. Every item in your home needs to have a designated place where it is kept. CDs go on a rack, books on a shelf, shoes neatly in the closet, etc. As soon as you are done with something, you must put it back where it came from. \n\nGet into a routine. When you undress, put your clothes immediately into the laundry basket, and not on the floor. Also, pick a designated day to do laundry. I do laundry on Wednesday every week. This keeps the laundry basket from overflowing, and a week's worth of clothes for me is about one load in the washer. Make sure that you have time to fold these clothes and put them away on laundry day.\n\nAnother good rule is that you can't let today's mess become tomorrow's mess! Dishes used today get done today. When you mess carries on to the next day, things can build up quickly." ]

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[ "How to make someone feel that you are there with them when you are not Currently in a semi-long distance relationship and I can't be in contact with her 24/7. How can I keep her reminded that I'm still with her even when I can't be with her in person or by phone/text? ", "How to make someone feel that you are there with them when you are not Currently in a semi-long distance relationship and I can't be in contact with her 24/7. How can I keep her reminded that I'm still with her even when I can't be with her in person or by phone/text? ", "How to make someone feel that you are there with them when you are not Currently in a semi-long distance relationship and I can't be in contact with her 24/7. How can I keep her reminded that I'm still with her even when I can't be with her in person or by phone/text? ", "How to make someone feel that you are there with them when you are not Currently in a semi-long distance relationship and I can't be in contact with her 24/7. How can I keep her reminded that I'm still with her even when I can't be with her in person or by phone/text? " ]

[ "For about 3 months I was in a semi—long distance relationship. We lived an hour and a half apart and I didn't have a car at the time. So we went 3 or 4 weeks sometimes without seeing each other. He said he loved the fact that I would live text him things. What I'm watching, where I'm going, what I'm eating, honestly just those tiny insignificant things that made him feel included in my everyday life. We also always called good night. Even if it was only a 5 second call because the one was exhausted and just got home and wanted to pass out. Even if the other planned to stay up for 3 more hours. Whoever was ready to go to sleep would call and no matter what we answered. It was that extra effort that we put out for each other which made it work. Now 1 year later we live together so we get to say good night every night in person. ", "You're probably aware of r/LongDistance, they can be very helpful with this kind of question. One common strategy is to leave videochat on and do casual things \"together\" like watch the same movie or just work on you homework.", "My now husband and I had a semi long distance relationship for several years before we got engaged and moved in together. \n\nWe made it work by dedicating time every day to connect (usually on the phone). We tried to spend one day on the weekend together as well. \n\nWe supplemented with writing each other little notes we'd mail or email (this was before texting, otherwise we'd have used that). We'd also leave little surprises for each other. For instance a sweet note in the pocket of a jacket hanging in the closet. Or their favorite candy bar hidden in a mixing bowl in the kitchen with a heart drawn on it. Or we'd make a CD of songs (this was when CDs were still relevant) and sneak it into their car stereo so it played the next time they turned it on. We also have this tiny plastic walrus (this could be anything) that we take turns hiding in the most random places for each other to find. It makes us smile and laugh and think of each other. \n\nEven now that we're married, we still do random little things for each other. Life gets busy with work and kids, and finding time to connect and show you care can be hard even when you live together. Never stop making an effort though, no matter how big or small.", "Little gifts and tokens say a lot too. Even of it's only something small, girls appreciate the fact that you're thinking of them. Currently in a long distance relationship and everytime I go on a hike I pick up a few rocks that my girlfriend will like (were heady like that breh) just to let her know I'm always thinking of her" ]

[ 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to minimise blisters in new shoes I have recently got some new pair of leather Oxfords and after wearing them for the day yesterday I have huge blisters. My whole heel has almost no skin my big toe, little toe and ankle all have blisters as well. I had not worn them in before so they were extremely hard. So a how do I minimise blisters next time? Also how do I treat my current blisters best? And finally how do I break In shoes quickly?", "How to minimise blisters in new shoes I have recently got some new pair of leather Oxfords and after wearing them for the day yesterday I have huge blisters. My whole heel has almost no skin my big toe, little toe and ankle all have blisters as well. I had not worn them in before so they were extremely hard. So a how do I minimise blisters next time? Also how do I treat my current blisters best? And finally how do I break In shoes quickly?", "How to minimise blisters in new shoes I have recently got some new pair of leather Oxfords and after wearing them for the day yesterday I have huge blisters. My whole heel has almost no skin my big toe, little toe and ankle all have blisters as well. I had not worn them in before so they were extremely hard. So a how do I minimise blisters next time? Also how do I treat my current blisters best? And finally how do I break In shoes quickly?", "How to minimise blisters in new shoes I have recently got some new pair of leather Oxfords and after wearing them for the day yesterday I have huge blisters. My whole heel has almost no skin my big toe, little toe and ankle all have blisters as well. I had not worn them in before so they were extremely hard. So a how do I minimise blisters next time? Also how do I treat my current blisters best? And finally how do I break In shoes quickly?" ]

[ "\"Wearing them for the day\" was your problem.\n\nWhen breaking in new shoes, you need to start with very short spans of time (just minutes at first) and increase the use very slowly.", "The secret is to double your socks. Dress socks on first, then wool socks on top. The two pair of socks will isolate the friction to just between the socks, thus sparing your skin.", "What works for me with leather shoes - I already know where my skin will get hurt, so I slap a bit of sticking plaster on that spot (the one without gauze or cushions, you dont need that and actually its better if the glue is on the full length). Just be sure that you place it in such way that it stays there for the full day and it doesnt get curled as you walk (especiall normal on heels if it is too small and the edge on your heel gets under the edge of shoe at some point). This way you will have a bit sore feet, but no blisters or lost skin.\n\nOf yourse, do this only if you HAVE TO wear them all day long. If you dont, wear them just for a while and switch them for something else for a while, as EMarkM_DM suggested.", "If the shoe is giving you blisters, it probably doesn't fit. You should exchange for a different size.\n\nIf it's the best fit and/or is too late to return, then maybe try having them stretched. Better shoe stores will do this for you, free of charge. You tell them where it's rubbing and they insert a wooden form to stretch the shoe. They also apply an agent to the leather to allow it to stretch. This saved me from having to ditch one of my favorite pairs of dress shoes." ]

[ 6, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "Steak Seasoning and Cooking How can I make London broil taste as good and as tender as a restaurant steak?", "Steak Seasoning and Cooking How can I make London broil taste as good and as tender as a restaurant steak?", "Steak Seasoning and Cooking How can I make London broil taste as good and as tender as a restaurant steak?", "Steak Seasoning and Cooking How can I make London broil taste as good and as tender as a restaurant steak?" ]

[ "Steak is easy, yet so many get it wrong. A perfect steak has a crunchy, golden exterior and a soft, perfectly cooked interior. If your steak has a grey, soggy outer surface you are failing at cooking steak.\n\nFirstly, let the steak come to room temp. Pat dry with some paper towel. Preheat your pan (Preferably cast iron) until it starts to smoke. Pour in a decent amount of oil so the pan is completely covered. Use an oil with a high smoke point. Place steak into the pan, now the key here is to let the oil caramelise the outside of the steak giving it a beautiful crunch that contrasts with the soft, juicy interior. As the steak cooks lift it occasionally and press it back down, this allows the hot oil to do its magic on the surface. Flip the steak and repeat until desired doneness. Do not cook past medium, ever. \nImmediately transfer your steak to some foil, season with a good amount of salt + pepper and add a knob of good butter then wrap up and let rest for at least 5 minutes in a warm place. Enjoy.", "Poke like crazy with a fork, hit it with [Worcheshire](http://i.imgur.com/SLaN4.jpg) and [Tony's](http://i.imgur.com/2WEOo.jpg) then cook on a charcoal grill. A London broil will never compete with a great cut of beef but this technique will give it some good flavor. ", "I'm on my phone so this will be fast, but these comments all miss the point so entirely it makes me a bit angry.\n\nThis is not a fine ribeye you're dealing with. It's London Broil. It's a way to take a tough cut like flank or skirt and make it incredibly tasty.\n\nYou want to tenderize the cut and impart some flavor from other ingredients. This means using vinegar, a salt source, spices, and a sugar to tenderize and flavor the meat. \n\nMy base for the marinade is salt, balsamic vinegar, minced garlic, black pepper, and honey. Sometimes I switch it up with soy sauce as the salt source and brown sugar instead of honey. You can add other herbs or spices to taste.\n\nNext you want to put that marinade along with your cut of meat into a large ziplock bag. Suck the air out so the meat is immersed. Then refrigerate anywhere from an hour to overnight.\n\nWhen I cook it I wait until it comes up to room temperature before putting on the grill over medium heat. You can also get good results broiling it in an oven (go figure). I dunno how conventional this is, but I've gotten tasty results basting the meat in some of the marinade while it's cooking. I usually cook it until it's medium rare to medium well depending on the.preferences of the people I'm making it for.\n\nFinally, let the steak rest for five minutes and then slice it thinly accross the grain to serve. This is an absolutely essential step. Again: you're not cooking a slab of porterhouse to be served whole. Slicing London Broil is necessary.\n\nCheers. ", "What's London broil? If you want good steak use an outdoor grill or a George Forman type grill and wait for the coals to get white or he grill to heat up fully. Then cook the meat till it looks right on the outside, wait a little if you want it more than rare, and cut it open to see if it looks good inside. A good cut of meat is important. I like leaner NYstrip.\n\n" ]

[ 2, 1, 1, -4 ]

[ "How to be more fluid in conversations Many times while in conversation with a stranger, I find myself having a \"brain-crash\". For instance, if I help someone out and they say \"I appreciate you\" My brain will freeze up and think \"Do I say thank you? Do I say I appreciate them too? Do I say You're Welcome?\" and by the time I've thought about this my brain says \"Woah it's been too long you need to respond!\" and I'll end up half saying something like \"Well I apprec-\" and then mumble at the end. How can I make it to where I'll just say something quickly and confidently?", "How to be more fluid in conversations Many times while in conversation with a stranger, I find myself having a \"brain-crash\". For instance, if I help someone out and they say \"I appreciate you\" My brain will freeze up and think \"Do I say thank you? Do I say I appreciate them too? Do I say You're Welcome?\" and by the time I've thought about this my brain says \"Woah it's been too long you need to respond!\" and I'll end up half saying something like \"Well I apprec-\" and then mumble at the end. How can I make it to where I'll just say something quickly and confidently?", "How to be more fluid in conversations Many times while in conversation with a stranger, I find myself having a \"brain-crash\". For instance, if I help someone out and they say \"I appreciate you\" My brain will freeze up and think \"Do I say thank you? Do I say I appreciate them too? Do I say You're Welcome?\" and by the time I've thought about this my brain says \"Woah it's been too long you need to respond!\" and I'll end up half saying something like \"Well I apprec-\" and then mumble at the end. How can I make it to where I'll just say something quickly and confidently?" ]

[ "One way is to find someone shy and lonely, who loves to listen to you talk. Right now, you need the freedom to fail. And as you help them out of their shell, you'll be helping yourself as well. \n\nOnce you've mastered the basics, you can up the difficulty for yourself by meeting up with people who already know how to handle themselves. Charities always need a helping hand. Hobbyists like to meet up. Sports are a great way to meet people too.\n\nAt least, that's what worked for me. Warning: Don't attempt if you're a misanthrope - this is an approach that requires as much patience for people, as they'll be required to have for you. ", "Don't worry about being quick and confident. If it takes you a short while to think of something to say, take a short while. If you're good at pulling a thoughtful look while you think, that's helpful, but not necessary.", "Drink heavily before every conversation.\nIf drinking does not work, drink more.\nIf this does not work, try absinthe." ]

[ 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "how do I get over my fear of rejection and meet some girls my age. Male 20 here. (never had a girlfriend in my life, unless you count like junior high) ", "how do I get over my fear of rejection and meet some girls my age. Male 20 here. (never had a girlfriend in my life, unless you count like junior high) ", "how do I get over my fear of rejection and meet some girls my age. Male 20 here. (never had a girlfriend in my life, unless you count like junior high) ", "how do I get over my fear of rejection and meet some girls my age. Male 20 here. (never had a girlfriend in my life, unless you count like junior high) ", "how do I get over my fear of rejection and meet some girls my age. Male 20 here. (never had a girlfriend in my life, unless you count like junior high) ", "how do I get over my fear of rejection and meet some girls my age. Male 20 here. (never had a girlfriend in my life, unless you count like junior high) " ]

[ "Get out there and practice getting rejected.\n\nThat's right. Practice losing. \n\nJust talk to literally every woman you meet and just get accustomed to the fact that most of them will reject you. It hones your game and prepares you for the reality of the dating scene - that most of your attempts will end in failure. \n\nEventually, you will learn the ultimate truth - that their rejection does not matter because they are unimportant to you until they commit to you.", "Man up. Even when you've got everything going for you, you still get rejected, and for reasons that may have nothing to do with you. \n\n[Nothing ventured, nothing gained.](https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/346218-nothing-ventured-nothing-gained)", "Make friends with girls your age. Don't expect anything romantic from the friendships. Forget you've ever even heard of the concept of \"friend zone.\" Respect them as fellow humans. Those friends will help you understand girls, give you advice about girls, and they also know other girls to introduce you to. ", "Look in the mirror. You need to love what you see (no, not in a Trump-kinda' way ;-). But you know what I mean? You need to realize that you probably aren't perfect but that you're a great person, great personality, caring, etc..and you need to believe it, brother. \nWhen you really like what's staring back at you, you will find the woman that loves that guy as well.\n\nGood luck, man. ", "Just accept the fact that you will get rejected from time to time and stop giving a shit. Happens to everyone.", "How get over a fear of rejection: Get rejected. A lot. Admitting you have a fear is the best start. Dig deeper to understand why you have that fear. Figure out what it is you're worried about. My life experience has taught me that a fear of rejection is typically due to seeing rejection as a truth about who you are. \"This woman called me a creep, am I a creep?\"\n\nThe truth is, for the person you are right now, there will be women who will hate your core and women who want in. Rejection is the time saving method to meeting the women who want in.\n\n\"You have to dig through the trash to get to the cash.\"" ]

[ 3, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Something in my bag keeps ticking off store security systems Literally have no idea what to do. Demagnetized everything and still nothing changed.", "Something in my bag keeps ticking off store security systems Literally have no idea what to do. Demagnetized everything and still nothing changed.", "Something in my bag keeps ticking off store security systems Literally have no idea what to do. Demagnetized everything and still nothing changed.", "Something in my bag keeps ticking off store security systems Literally have no idea what to do. Demagnetized everything and still nothing changed.", "Something in my bag keeps ticking off store security systems Literally have no idea what to do. Demagnetized everything and still nothing changed.", "Something in my bag keeps ticking off store security systems Literally have no idea what to do. Demagnetized everything and still nothing changed.", "Something in my bag keeps ticking off store security systems Literally have no idea what to do. Demagnetized everything and still nothing changed.", "Something in my bag keeps ticking off store security systems Literally have no idea what to do. Demagnetized everything and still nothing changed.", "Something in my bag keeps ticking off store security systems Literally have no idea what to do. Demagnetized everything and still nothing changed.", "Something in my bag keeps ticking off store security systems Literally have no idea what to do. Demagnetized everything and still nothing changed.", "Something in my bag keeps ticking off store security systems Literally have no idea what to do. Demagnetized everything and still nothing changed.", "Something in my bag keeps ticking off store security systems Literally have no idea what to do. Demagnetized everything and still nothing changed.", "Something in my bag keeps ticking off store security systems Literally have no idea what to do. Demagnetized everything and still nothing changed.", "Something in my bag keeps ticking off store security systems Literally have no idea what to do. Demagnetized everything and still nothing changed.", "Something in my bag keeps ticking off store security systems Literally have no idea what to do. Demagnetized everything and still nothing changed.", "Something in my bag keeps ticking off store security systems Literally have no idea what to do. Demagnetized everything and still nothing changed." ]

[ "I had a box of OTC meds in my bag, and it had a sensor *inside* the box. The alarm went off when I left CVS, but they looked at my purchases and let me go even though it triggered again when I left. It happened everywhere for months until the box broke open from getting jostled around so much and I found it. Good luck!", "If you know of a certain store it happens at, go ask them if you can spend a couple of minutes testing the bag", "My drill case had the strip in it when I got it at work and it tripped sensors in every store I’d walk into to do work. I learned quickly how much those alarms are ignored. One day I was in an area that was high theft and noticed the alarm didn’t go off. I mentioned something to the manager that I was surprised. “Oh, those haven’t worked in over a year!”", "You have to heavily line the inside of your bag with aluminum foil. It will block the the door censors from detecting anything you shoplift", "I have a certain pair of pants this happens with.\n\nI can’t for the life of me figure out why. No metal on it or anything. Emptied all pockets, still happening.\n\nSo annoying.", "That once happened over and over to me and I later realized a security tag was sewn into one of my button-down shirts. I just went into a store over and over with less articles of clothing on ‘til I found the culprit.", "I had a belt that did this. There was a tag from the store I bought the belt for that kept ringing bells. I removed the tag and fixed the problem", "Only way to know is to go through everything in your bag. You may have a \"hilarious\" friend who dropped a thin tag in there one day....", "My little one had a baby grow and in the tag was a security tag where the washing care label was that when purchased I needed to cut off. I didn’t and every time we went shopping it would set the barriers off. \nTook me ages to find it", "Something you carry with you sets it off. Back in the day when JCrew would see their security tags in their clothes, it would set off lots of other security systems. You might have something with rfid tag or something.", "My daughter had a backpack from Journey's. We never did find the RFID strip but it did die after awhile. We should get it replaced under the warrantee, but I can't do the beeping again", "My badge for work does this for some of the door alarms. To be safe/avoid embarrassment I always just flash my badge as I’m walking out if it starts beeping and make eye contact with an employee where I then say it’s my work badge, always makes these sensors go off. Saves a lot of embarrassment and other customers evil eyeing me", "You should magnetize it. Not demagnetize. Some of the systems works detecting the gap between to plates of metal. If they are magnetized they're pulled together, and no detectable gap anymore. \n\nTakes a quite strong magnet. Remove electronics first", "Might a friend messing with you. In College, I put a magnetic strip from a library book into my buddy’s book bag (slipped it in a small opening in the lining). We’d go to the library together, and he’d get pulled over and bag searched every time. Went on a couple years. Good times.", "Likely some fun store person has put a soft tag in the lining of you bag somewhere. Feel around the lining of your bag and see if you can feel something plastic.", "Try taking the things you picked up from the store out of your bag before leaving and see if that fixes the problem." ]

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[ "Easiest way to remove myself from Google search Over the years I've made accounts/post stuff on various websites. Is there an easy way I can find where I'm not active in, and remove my accounts so it doesn't pop up on Google searches of my name. ", "Easiest way to remove myself from Google search Over the years I've made accounts/post stuff on various websites. Is there an easy way I can find where I'm not active in, and remove my accounts so it doesn't pop up on Google searches of my name. " ]

[ "Do you really need this spelled out for you?\n\n\"When I search my name on Google I find stupid shit I posted. If only there was a way to search for stupid shit I posted!\"\n\nLike... you answered your own question!\n", "There's actually a website to remove your accounts from plenty of sites. Can't remember the name tho..\n\n" ]

[ 7, 3 ]

[ "How to remove the smell of burnt chocolate from a microwave So, my brother (read \"room-mate\" because I deny relation to someone this stupid on principal) thought that you could turn a chocolate bar into a brownie by microwaving it. Of course, he was incorrect as to the accuracy of that assumption and now my microwave smells like the litter-box of a cat who gorged itself on godiva. I've tried cleaning it several times to no avail. All of my food has this really subtle but still noticeable taste of burnt chocolate to it and it's getting a bit annoying. Any suggestions on how to correct this problem? Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to remove the smell of burnt chocolate from a microwave So, my brother (read \"room-mate\" because I deny relation to someone this stupid on principal) thought that you could turn a chocolate bar into a brownie by microwaving it. Of course, he was incorrect as to the accuracy of that assumption and now my microwave smells like the litter-box of a cat who gorged itself on godiva. I've tried cleaning it several times to no avail. All of my food has this really subtle but still noticeable taste of burnt chocolate to it and it's getting a bit annoying. Any suggestions on how to correct this problem? Thanks in advance.\n\n" ]

[ "I was stupid and I thought I could melt chocolate (I only had chocolate chips and I wanted chocolate sauce) and obviously, I burnt the chocolate. My mom fixed it by microwaving a bowl of lemon juice. It's not completely gone but it's much better!", "Fill a bowl with half vinegar and half water and put it in the microwave till it starts boiling, it should make cleaning the microwave easy and remove the odour" ]

[ 2, 1 ]

[ "How Do I Commit to a schedule? In one of my earlier posts here, I figured out how to get my hobbies done by making a schedule. Question is, what is the best method to commit myself to that schedule? I would show you my Google Calendar schedule but there is no image posting here.", "How Do I Commit to a schedule? In one of my earlier posts here, I figured out how to get my hobbies done by making a schedule. Question is, what is the best method to commit myself to that schedule? I would show you my Google Calendar schedule but there is no image posting here.", "How Do I Commit to a schedule? In one of my earlier posts here, I figured out how to get my hobbies done by making a schedule. Question is, what is the best method to commit myself to that schedule? I would show you my Google Calendar schedule but there is no image posting here.", "How Do I Commit to a schedule? In one of my earlier posts here, I figured out how to get my hobbies done by making a schedule. Question is, what is the best method to commit myself to that schedule? I would show you my Google Calendar schedule but there is no image posting here.", "How Do I Commit to a schedule? In one of my earlier posts here, I figured out how to get my hobbies done by making a schedule. Question is, what is the best method to commit myself to that schedule? I would show you my Google Calendar schedule but there is no image posting here.", "How Do I Commit to a schedule? In one of my earlier posts here, I figured out how to get my hobbies done by making a schedule. Question is, what is the best method to commit myself to that schedule? I would show you my Google Calendar schedule but there is no image posting here." ]

[ "Give yourself a reward when you stick to the schedule for a set period. \n\n3 day streak? Little prize!\n\nMissed only 1 day this week, Little prize!", "\\- Try Punishing yourself if you don't follow the schedule Ex) No dinner that day, 100 push ups whatever that can bother you \n\n\\- Make a doable schedule. if you're not following some schedule that YOU MADE... that means it's just too hard for you and that can be something that you actually dont have to follow \n\n\\- Brainwash yourself like \"i'm going to do it only for 10 mins\" < it's pretty good method becuz once you start it you are just gonna finsh it", "Just do it. Or change your schedule, or don't worry about it. I struggle with procrastination and motivation at times. I learned not to beat myself up over a personal deadlines", "If you’re struggling to start something in your schedule or keep on track, just tell yourself that you’ll do it for 2 minutes and then quit afterwards if it’s a pain. Most of the time, once you’ve started something, it’s easy to stay on track and finish it. Also, award yourself when you follow the schedule for a series of days. Make it into a habit.", "If you commit to your schedules or lists, you definitely feel a sense of accomplishment. And it'll become another motivation that you can do your next thing. Just do it.", "Why do you need a trick for every thing? What value has a schedule if you don't adhere to it?\n\nJust do it already. Christ." ]

[ 7, 3, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "How can I switch off the inner doubts in my head at a basketball game and focus more? When I'm practicing by myself I literally hit all the shots and controll the ball fine but when I play a competitive game, I am not the same person, I feel unsecure, lack ball control and my shooting style and accuracy become unfamiliar to me. ", "How can I switch off the inner doubts in my head at a basketball game and focus more? When I'm practicing by myself I literally hit all the shots and controll the ball fine but when I play a competitive game, I am not the same person, I feel unsecure, lack ball control and my shooting style and accuracy become unfamiliar to me. ", "How can I switch off the inner doubts in my head at a basketball game and focus more? When I'm practicing by myself I literally hit all the shots and controll the ball fine but when I play a competitive game, I am not the same person, I feel unsecure, lack ball control and my shooting style and accuracy become unfamiliar to me. " ]

[ "As someone who competes in competitive sports, be aware that your *worst* in practice will be where you're *best* in the actual game is... most people think they should be as good in the game as they are in practice, this is never the case. A lot of time it comes down to pressure, so create situation in practice that unsettle you and put pressure on. Time a loud buzzer to go off and challenge yourself to perform much quicker what you usually do well without time pressure. Wear a weight belt in your practice, or use a less-than-ideal ball or equiptment; when you get good enough to compensate for things being less than ideal, you'll do much better when things are the way they should be. Try to think of ways to replicate game play, whether it be doing mock games with a friend or finding ways to put yourself on edge so you can learn to cope. Maybe learn a complicated poem you challenge yourself to recite while also practicing a difficult skill; that simple excersize can show the holes in your skill or focus. Do a bit of m", "Ideally you have to learn to shove everything out of your mind and let muscle memory do the work. But it's not just in basketball - you have to learn to do it in everyday life. I'd suggest trying simple m", "NBA players are similar. You watch them at practice, and they sink almost every shot. Even so-so three point shooters make at least like 2/3 of their shots behind the arc. But during the season the best 3-point shooters only shoot around 45%. \n\nShooting by yourself you have the benefit of always squaring yourself and making sure your form and follow through are good. When you have defenders in your face in a game, you don't have those luxuries, so of course your shot can't be the same.\n\nSo when you're practicing, ideally you'd have someone you could play some defense on you so that you could at least practice getting your shot off quicker. But if you can't get someone else, just pretend you're under duress and get off quicker shots with good form." ]

[ 9, 4, 3 ]

[ "Tips for first time renter's? So I'm currently in the process of renting my first apartment. I've already applied. There won't be any guarantor, just me myself and I. The property manager and I are fairly certain I'm going to get it but I wanted to reach out to r/LifeProTips and see if there's any thing I should be aware of. \n\nI'm mainly looking for tips on what I need to get/buy, moving day tips, just things to make the process easier in general. Thanks in advance!", "Tips for first time renter's? So I'm currently in the process of renting my first apartment. I've already applied. There won't be any guarantor, just me myself and I. The property manager and I are fairly certain I'm going to get it but I wanted to reach out to r/LifeProTips and see if there's any thing I should be aware of. \n\nI'm mainly looking for tips on what I need to get/buy, moving day tips, just things to make the process easier in general. Thanks in advance!", "Tips for first time renter's? So I'm currently in the process of renting my first apartment. I've already applied. There won't be any guarantor, just me myself and I. The property manager and I are fairly certain I'm going to get it but I wanted to reach out to r/LifeProTips and see if there's any thing I should be aware of. \n\nI'm mainly looking for tips on what I need to get/buy, moving day tips, just things to make the process easier in general. Thanks in advance!", "Tips for first time renter's? So I'm currently in the process of renting my first apartment. I've already applied. There won't be any guarantor, just me myself and I. The property manager and I are fairly certain I'm going to get it but I wanted to reach out to r/LifeProTips and see if there's any thing I should be aware of. \n\nI'm mainly looking for tips on what I need to get/buy, moving day tips, just things to make the process easier in general. Thanks in advance!", "Tips for first time renter's? So I'm currently in the process of renting my first apartment. I've already applied. There won't be any guarantor, just me myself and I. The property manager and I are fairly certain I'm going to get it but I wanted to reach out to r/LifeProTips and see if there's any thing I should be aware of. \n\nI'm mainly looking for tips on what I need to get/buy, moving day tips, just things to make the process easier in general. Thanks in advance!", "Tips for first time renter's? So I'm currently in the process of renting my first apartment. I've already applied. There won't be any guarantor, just me myself and I. The property manager and I are fairly certain I'm going to get it but I wanted to reach out to r/LifeProTips and see if there's any thing I should be aware of. \n\nI'm mainly looking for tips on what I need to get/buy, moving day tips, just things to make the process easier in general. Thanks in advance!", "Tips for first time renter's? So I'm currently in the process of renting my first apartment. I've already applied. There won't be any guarantor, just me myself and I. The property manager and I are fairly certain I'm going to get it but I wanted to reach out to r/LifeProTips and see if there's any thing I should be aware of. \n\nI'm mainly looking for tips on what I need to get/buy, moving day tips, just things to make the process easier in general. Thanks in advance!", "Tips for first time renter's? So I'm currently in the process of renting my first apartment. I've already applied. There won't be any guarantor, just me myself and I. The property manager and I are fairly certain I'm going to get it but I wanted to reach out to r/LifeProTips and see if there's any thing I should be aware of. \n\nI'm mainly looking for tips on what I need to get/buy, moving day tips, just things to make the process easier in general. Thanks in advance!", "Tips for first time renter's? So I'm currently in the process of renting my first apartment. I've already applied. There won't be any guarantor, just me myself and I. The property manager and I are fairly certain I'm going to get it but I wanted to reach out to r/LifeProTips and see if there's any thing I should be aware of. \n\nI'm mainly looking for tips on what I need to get/buy, moving day tips, just things to make the process easier in general. Thanks in advance!", "Tips for first time renter's? So I'm currently in the process of renting my first apartment. I've already applied. There won't be any guarantor, just me myself and I. The property manager and I are fairly certain I'm going to get it but I wanted to reach out to r/LifeProTips and see if there's any thing I should be aware of. \n\nI'm mainly looking for tips on what I need to get/buy, moving day tips, just things to make the process easier in general. Thanks in advance!", "Tips for first time renter's? So I'm currently in the process of renting my first apartment. I've already applied. There won't be any guarantor, just me myself and I. The property manager and I are fairly certain I'm going to get it but I wanted to reach out to r/LifeProTips and see if there's any thing I should be aware of. \n\nI'm mainly looking for tips on what I need to get/buy, moving day tips, just things to make the process easier in general. Thanks in advance!" ]

[ "Just look for imperfections around the apartment such as stains or anything that the owner could fine you for. Take some pics when you get there and in case something goes wrong you can prove that it wasn't you who damaged the place. It saved me many times, i even pointed it out when i first walked in", "So from a just general maintenance and upkeep of your place, if you have a stove with regular burners (as opposed to a cook top), wrap the inserts under the burners with foil. Those things are shockingly expensive. This will keep them clean, and as your foil gets dirty, just replace that, making it super easy when you move out. \n\nRain X/Fog X on your mirrors every month or so. This will help not only from having your mirrors fog up when showering, but also have any water droplets just run right down to the bottom if you end up splashing. The stuff also works great on glass shower doors. \n\nIf you've got shower curtains, running them through the wash with bleach is a great way to keep them clean. Every month is probably sufficient (or whenever it starts looking gross). \n\nAlso if you're like me and hate scrubbing toilets, Kaboom makes this great stuff that (while they say it lasts six months, it only last a solid two, which to me is still great) will keep your toilet bowls clean. Kaboom Scrub Free Continuous Clean it's called. \n\nOther than that, I will tell you that when it comes to moving, hand trucks are life savers. It's infinitely easier to cart 5-6 boxes at a time as opposed to maybe 1-2 tops depending on size. Spring the extra couple bucks and grab one with your moving truck (even better would be if you can spring for movers, but that may or may not be out of your reach). \n\nI would also pack a bag with all the important stuff that will get you through the first couple days. Think toiletries, clothes, sheets, towels, shower curtain (if needed), a roll of toilet paper, medications, and anything else that you'll need to tide you over until you're totally unpacked. Invariably something will get misplaced while you're moving and the box you thought you packed something in may not actually be the box where you packed it. So keep this bag in your car until you've brought everything in. \n\nTake this opportunity while you're packing to get rid of anything you don't want any more. No sense in moving trash, or stuff that can be donated if you can avoid it. One of the things I always do with my boxes is grab some index cards and jot down the big stuff that's in the box, as well as what room it belongs in (kitchen, bedroom, living room, etc). I make two copies of the card and then tape one on the top of the box, as well as one of the sides in the corner. This way I can easily determine what does where. \n\nAnyway, I hope those help. Good luck on the new place! I remember what that was like the first time I did it!", "Sounds dumb, but when you get close to your move-out date, either plan a whole day just for cleaning or else hire a cleaner if you can afford it. It's amazing what some landlords/companies will try to charge you for: dust, crumbs, condensation from hard water on bathroom mirrors, etc. Plus planning ahead for a full cleanup will make sure you don't miss anything.", "Make sure everything is listed clearly in the lease agreement...who is responsible for each of the utilities (list them out separately- gas, electric, water, sewer, etc), snow removal, lawn maintenance, what appliances are included, what exactly (if anything) you’re required to maintain, what, specifically, your security deposit can/ will be used for, and how much warning is required (by either party) once the original lease term ends.\n\nThe more explicit the lease is at the beginning, the less surprises there will be when it’s time to move out.", "Visit local thrift shops with an eye toward furnishing your place on the cheap, at least initially.\n\nYou can save enormous amounts of money this way.\nI can't emphasize this enough. You should have a comfortable chair. I found a Laz-e-Boy recliner in good condition for twenty bucks.\n\nYou can get real Oriental, hand knotted rugs for short money.\n\nYou can get the basics for your kitchen for almost nothing. I bought four excellent quality saucepans and pits for seventeen dollars, and an All Clad frying pan for five bucks.\n\nDo get a couple of good quality kitchen knifes and a sharpener though.\n\nThen when you get more settled and have a better idea of how you want the place to look, you can upgrade. \n\nIf things work out differently than you expected and you don't need everything ( maybe moving in with someone or deciding you hate the neighborhood, or whatever reason) you won't be stuck with a bunch of stuff you no longer need or want. You can give it away, donate the stuff back, or put 8r on the sidewalk a couple of days before trash pickup and post a curb alert in Facebook.\n\nInexpensive doesn't have to mean cheap. I've gotten excellent quality furniture for practically nothing.", "Take photos and videos of the entire apartment before you move in, especially of things that appear worn out or broken. Definitely photograph and video the carpet in every room. Preserve the timestamps. Invite friends and family along to also take photos and preserve the timestamps. This way, when the landlord alleges that you broke or damaged something, you can show the judge that it was that way before you moved in.\n\nLandlords love to keep your deposit. Don't let them! Fight them if you have to, your deposit is your money and you deserve to get 100% of it back (plus interest in many states) unless you punched holes in the walls and completely trashed the place.", "Someone mentioned using a hand truck(2 wheeled dolly), these are great. If you can borrow or rent one definitely do so. If you would be buying one, take into consideration the cost, and space needed to store it. You may just want to get 1-2 four wheel dollies. The low profile ones, (just a couple of 2x4's, 4 wheels, a little carpet on top) are great for moving furniture, and plenty of other stuff. And you can turn them wheels-up and hide them under the bed or couch. (harbor freight has them for ~$10-15)", "Might want to take pictures of the entire place before you move in to document any damage you might end up having to replace when you move out.\n\nAlso replace/check batteries in smoke detectors and check that fire extingusiher is present/not expired/used.\n\nNot sure how it works in your country, but in Norway you can get a deoosit account/service from your bank, to put deposit in, which kind of guarantees that you will get it back when you move out. Its a bit safer than direct transfer to landlord as you never know how difficult they can end up being. Might wanna use a service like that to avoid problems.", "If it has carpet, get some runner rugs for the high traffic areas. You’ll greatly reduce the wear on the carpet and save yourself a new carpet fee when you leave.", "Don't think it's been said yet - congratulations on your first apartment!\n\nI generally agree with everony else and so nothing to add.", "Ask some friends (ask many and probably only 1 or 2 will show) to help you move in exchange for pizza. You might not think you have a lot but it's more than you would think. Believe me you WANT help moving the matress and box spring\n\nBest cleaning hack for microwaves: put a glass of water and vinegar (or lemon juice) in your microwave for 1 minute let it set for a couple of minutes. Take out the cup, dampen a rag with the solution use it to wipe out your microwave.\n\nAsk what heats their water. If it runs off electricity you better like quick showers or high electric bills.\n\nIf you have pets or want them make sure to ask about the particular guidelines in the building. It's pretty common to have a pet deposit or for big dogs not to be allowed." ]

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[ "How to force myself to go poop before I go to school? I absolutely **cannot** take a shit at school. Any time I get the urge I end up having to force myself to hold it in all day.\n\nSo. What can I do? I wake up at 6am and leave between 6:50 and 7:00.\n\nI don't want to have to go through this again.", "How to force myself to go poop before I go to school? I absolutely **cannot** take a shit at school. Any time I get the urge I end up having to force myself to hold it in all day.\n\nSo. What can I do? I wake up at 6am and leave between 6:50 and 7:00.\n\nI don't want to have to go through this again.", "How to force myself to go poop before I go to school? I absolutely **cannot** take a shit at school. Any time I get the urge I end up having to force myself to hold it in all day.\n\nSo. What can I do? I wake up at 6am and leave between 6:50 and 7:00.\n\nI don't want to have to go through this again.", "How to force myself to go poop before I go to school? I absolutely **cannot** take a shit at school. Any time I get the urge I end up having to force myself to hold it in all day.\n\nSo. What can I do? I wake up at 6am and leave between 6:50 and 7:00.\n\nI don't want to have to go through this again.", "How to force myself to go poop before I go to school? I absolutely **cannot** take a shit at school. Any time I get the urge I end up having to force myself to hold it in all day.\n\nSo. What can I do? I wake up at 6am and leave between 6:50 and 7:00.\n\nI don't want to have to go through this again.", "How to force myself to go poop before I go to school? I absolutely **cannot** take a shit at school. Any time I get the urge I end up having to force myself to hold it in all day.\n\nSo. What can I do? I wake up at 6am and leave between 6:50 and 7:00.\n\nI don't want to have to go through this again.", "How to force myself to go poop before I go to school? I absolutely **cannot** take a shit at school. Any time I get the urge I end up having to force myself to hold it in all day.\n\nSo. What can I do? I wake up at 6am and leave between 6:50 and 7:00.\n\nI don't want to have to go through this again.", "How to force myself to go poop before I go to school? I absolutely **cannot** take a shit at school. Any time I get the urge I end up having to force myself to hold it in all day.\n\nSo. What can I do? I wake up at 6am and leave between 6:50 and 7:00.\n\nI don't want to have to go through this again.", "How to force myself to go poop before I go to school? I absolutely **cannot** take a shit at school. Any time I get the urge I end up having to force myself to hold it in all day.\n\nSo. What can I do? I wake up at 6am and leave between 6:50 and 7:00.\n\nI don't want to have to go through this again.", "How to force myself to go poop before I go to school? I absolutely **cannot** take a shit at school. Any time I get the urge I end up having to force myself to hold it in all day.\n\nSo. What can I do? I wake up at 6am and leave between 6:50 and 7:00.\n\nI don't want to have to go through this again.", "How to force myself to go poop before I go to school? I absolutely **cannot** take a shit at school. Any time I get the urge I end up having to force myself to hold it in all day.\n\nSo. What can I do? I wake up at 6am and leave between 6:50 and 7:00.\n\nI don't want to have to go through this again.", "How to force myself to go poop before I go to school? I absolutely **cannot** take a shit at school. Any time I get the urge I end up having to force myself to hold it in all day.\n\nSo. What can I do? I wake up at 6am and leave between 6:50 and 7:00.\n\nI don't want to have to go through this again.", "How to force myself to go poop before I go to school? I absolutely **cannot** take a shit at school. Any time I get the urge I end up having to force myself to hold it in all day.\n\nSo. What can I do? I wake up at 6am and leave between 6:50 and 7:00.\n\nI don't want to have to go through this again.", "How to force myself to go poop before I go to school? I absolutely **cannot** take a shit at school. Any time I get the urge I end up having to force myself to hold it in all day.\n\nSo. What can I do? I wake up at 6am and leave between 6:50 and 7:00.\n\nI don't want to have to go through this again.", "How to force myself to go poop before I go to school? I absolutely **cannot** take a shit at school. Any time I get the urge I end up having to force myself to hold it in all day.\n\nSo. What can I do? I wake up at 6am and leave between 6:50 and 7:00.\n\nI don't want to have to go through this again.", "How to force myself to go poop before I go to school? I absolutely **cannot** take a shit at school. Any time I get the urge I end up having to force myself to hold it in all day.\n\nSo. What can I do? I wake up at 6am and leave between 6:50 and 7:00.\n\nI don't want to have to go through this again.", "How to force myself to go poop before I go to school? I absolutely **cannot** take a shit at school. Any time I get the urge I end up having to force myself to hold it in all day.\n\nSo. What can I do? I wake up at 6am and leave between 6:50 and 7:00.\n\nI don't want to have to go through this again.", "How to force myself to go poop before I go to school? I absolutely **cannot** take a shit at school. Any time I get the urge I end up having to force myself to hold it in all day.\n\nSo. What can I do? I wake up at 6am and leave between 6:50 and 7:00.\n\nI don't want to have to go through this again.", "How to force myself to go poop before I go to school? I absolutely **cannot** take a shit at school. Any time I get the urge I end up having to force myself to hold it in all day.\n\nSo. What can I do? I wake up at 6am and leave between 6:50 and 7:00.\n\nI don't want to have to go through this again." ]

[ "Just bite the bullet and poop at school. Everybody poops, and no one will know. You will feel better being able to poop with confidence in any situation.", "Probably not what you want to hear but: A consistent healthy diet with lots of fiber. Once you understand how your body processes food, you can adjust accordingly to make your bowel movements happen on your schedule. \n\ntldr: trial and error with what/when you eat.", "find a low traffic bathroom at school tucked away in a corner of a staff building or something and learn how to poop at school. start there and move up to the more convenient high traffic bathrooms if you need to. overcome your fear! you can do it! \n\nalso, take fiber supplements like metamucil every day. this will help with ease of passing. this along with a coffee in the morning will help you poo at home before leaving if you need to.", "just poop at school when you find a clean bathroom. put paper towels on the water to prevent splashing and lay toilet paper on the seat to make sure you dont get piss on your ass", "[Squat](http://www.slate.com/articles/health_and_science/science/2010/08/dont_just_sit_there.html). Quote : \"Sikirov found that, when squatting, subjects averaged a mere 51 seconds to move their bowels, versus 130 seconds when sitting on a high toilet. And as they moved from a sit to a squat, subjects were more likely to rate the experience as easier. \"", "Learn to accept the fact that everybody poops, and if someone gives you a dirty look for shitting in a bathroom at school, they need to get over themselves.\n\nOr drink coffee when you first wake up and hope that your body will want to take a shit before you leave in the morning.", "Just drink a glass of water within 15min of walking up. It sets off a cascade of hormones in your body resulting in a bowel movement. ", "Introduce more fiber into your diet, it will make you much more regular. You can get fiber capsules at the store for a few bucks, start taking them once or twice a day everyday and your body will begin to set up a natural rhythm. With time you should be able to alter the time of that rhythm.", "I take a dump in school daily after I suffered through my freshman year trying to hold it. Just do it.", "Coffee and cigarettes.....but you're 15......soooo....I don't know try squating on the seat of the toilet? I also assume you eat a steady diet of hot pockets and mt dew like most 15 year olds on reddit...so maybe try changing your diet up, red meat causes constipation, as does dairy.", "Problem with healthy diet and exercise: you will shit all day. I wrestled and hardly ate anything. I shit between every class. Twas amazing. ", "If you want to give some Chinese remedies a try (acupressure), there is a point 3 finger widths below your belly button that can trigger bowel movements. Just apply pressure with one or two fingers to this spot and within 10 minutes you'll feel it coming. \n", "I found learning to poop in a public bathroom to be the most crucial indicator that I had finally grown up. Nothing is more liberating than walking out of a bathroom afterward.", "I feel you OP. Here's what I usually do.\n\nI have trained my body to go at specific times during the day. Take Probiotics. Also, I wouldn't suggest something too heavy fir Breakfast. i usually eat a K bar, then skip lunch and eat when I get home.\n\nAlso Stress is bad. Try to relax and don't think about it too much.", "Get a bidet attachment for your toilet, use the stream of (warm if possible) water immediately. This will make you have to poop. It is easy and very effective, and there's also the bonus of using the same water to clean up/save tons of TP. It's awesome!", "Eat more fiber, wake up a little earlier to give your body time to wake up and register that it's gotta go. Eat raisin bran or something. Don't get hooked on coffee, it makes you poop the first few mornings and then after that it's all back to the way it was before.", "Drink water and exercise. Even if it's a small amount of exercise it will help get things moving. \nThis is much healthier than coffee and you will not crash later in class.\nBTW, to fight the afternoon sleepiness drink water.", "Drink coffee, smoke a cigarette, or a joint. Or do all three. They will help you let loose.\n\nOr just poop at school. Take a paper towel, wet it, put soap on it from the dispenser and wash the seat. Dry it with TP, then sit.", "put your feet up on a small stool of some sort and lean forward. it relaxes your rectum and makes it easier to get out." ]

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[ "Must have items in a car Napkins in the glove compartment, tire pressure gauge, ice scraper, etc. Anything else? \n\n", "Must have items in a car Napkins in the glove compartment, tire pressure gauge, ice scraper, etc. Anything else? \n\n", "Must have items in a car Napkins in the glove compartment, tire pressure gauge, ice scraper, etc. Anything else? \n\n", "Must have items in a car Napkins in the glove compartment, tire pressure gauge, ice scraper, etc. Anything else? \n\n", "Must have items in a car Napkins in the glove compartment, tire pressure gauge, ice scraper, etc. Anything else? \n\n", "Must have items in a car Napkins in the glove compartment, tire pressure gauge, ice scraper, etc. Anything else? \n\n", "Must have items in a car Napkins in the glove compartment, tire pressure gauge, ice scraper, etc. Anything else? \n\n", "Must have items in a car Napkins in the glove compartment, tire pressure gauge, ice scraper, etc. Anything else? \n\n" ]

[ "Pen & paper, spare fuses/bulbs, multi-bit screwdriver, multitool with pliers, road flares, reflective vest, disposable gloves, quart of oil, jug of washer fluid, jumper cables\nIf winter: small shovel, blanket, candle. ", "jumper cables. and then extra set of clothes for the weather. winters can be tough so keep extra blankets gloves hats and boots handy. ", "Window punch\nSeatbelt cutter\nFirst aid/emergency kit\nChange of clothes and good shoes/boots\nI also keep spare glasses and contacts because I'm blind without them\nLighter", "Umbrella, air pump (they make electric ones that plug into your cig lighter), cash (for when you forget your wallet) ", "In a plastic box I have:\ngranola bars, \njumper cables, \nbottled water, \nflares, \nsnow pants, \nblankie, \nmitties, \ntoque, \nboots, \nmatches, \na candle and \norange tape. \n\nWhen it comes to be spring time I just keep it stored in my garage. ", "Ice melt spray. You can pick it up at gas stations and stores all winter. A map of your state. Bottled water and cliff bars. ", "I keep a towel in my car, along with what was already mentioned. Sometimes you just aren't prepared for rain and a drive home soaking wet isn't pleasant. \n\nAlso, I keep a small first aid kit. ", "Duct Tape and WD40. They can be used to quickly bodge stuff back into working order in a pinch. Also, I carry around a handful of coins, since they can come in useful when you least expect it. An air compressor can be useful, as can jumper cables. The last thing of note that I carry is wet wipes. Really useful for removing stuff from your windshield etc that simply won't bugger off even after repeated use of the wipers and spray." ]

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[ "how to speed my android back up? I'd like to keep using it, but it's getting hard to deal with the lagging", "how to speed my android back up? I'd like to keep using it, but it's getting hard to deal with the lagging" ]

[ "Uninstall all your apps, save your contacts and documents to your online google account, and then do a hard reset, then reinstall them. It will eliminate all the detritus that accumulates with them over time. You also have to go and stop all the nonsensical notifications that you don't need; pretty much every app automatically installs itself with notifications AND location services active, which eats up you phone's battery, speed, and data usage, too. This can make an old phone run much faster. I've done this numerous times over the past ten years or so, and I'm currently using: 1. a Moto x4, and 2. a Moto E5 play (which I transferred my landline to, as I am bicoastal), both of which are still operating quickly. Yes, it's a bit of work to get things to do what you want them to, but considering how much you can save by not having to buy a new phone, and not paying the extra bucks to the phone companies, it's worth it. \n\nAs another example, reformatting and reinstalling an OS can make computers last much longer too, my home systems are still lightning quick, despite running Sandybridge processors from 12 years ago, all thanks to periodic wiping the whole thing and reinstalling the OS and applications.", "First go through your phone and remove aps you dont use or those you have not used alot. connect your phone to a pc and transfer all photos and videos to pc . then delete all traces from phone . Get a small little phone book like people carried a while ago go through your contacts keeping only the ones you call alot or those that are very important the rest get copied into the little book you can carryin a pocket or purse delete them once they are written down. do not leave social media apps running constantly. do this every 3-6 months and your phone will run great." ]

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[ "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit ", "how to deal with being a \"morning problem eater\" aka the thought of food in the morning making you want to vomit " ]

[ "I found it that drinking a lot of water as you wake up tends to ease that feeling for me.\n\nI also don't have that feeling if I eat something very salty like bacon or eggs", "Is there a reason you need to eat in the morning? If you're not having blood sugar problems and don't need to eat with medication first thing in the morning... just don't eat. That whole 'breakfast is the most important meal of the day' thing is a myth.", "If you're not hungry in the morning, simply don't eat. 'Breakfast is the most important meal of the day' is bullshit propaganda started by Big Cereal. ", "The same thing happens to me. I mentioned it to my family friend who is a doctor and she recommend driving a cup of oj in the morning because my blood sugar is low from fasting during the night. Works for me now, but everybody is different. ", "I make sure I don't go to bed hungry, and I keep a full glass of water beside my bed. When I wake up, I make myself drink the whole glass of water before going back to bed until the alarm goes off (I have a light-up alarm clock, so I wake up to the light belle the alarm time, and then it makes noise at the alarm time). Then I get ready for the day: take care of the cats, empty the dishwasher, grab a shower. THEN I have breakfast.\n\nI've found that giving myself time between waking up and eating helps. Drinking water helps. I also found that I'm lactose intolerant, so the milk I'd put in my morning cereal was a big factor in making me nauseated.\n\nIf I wake up with nausea from an empty stomach, I force myself to eat at least a handful of dry, plain Cheerios, but preferably as much as I can stomach. They are bland enough to not trigger anything (most of the time) and can be enough substance to calm my stomach until I can stomach eating something else. As a gross bonus, if they do come back up, they still taste like Cheerios and help neutralize the acid burning of vomit. I keep a box of Cheerios on hand for just this reason: even stale Cheerios are better than nothing.", "Try drinking plenty of water at hit the gym for an hour (or whatever you have time to give, really)? It works very well for me. I come back home ready to devour.\n", "My wife is like this and we discovered that the smell of food sets her off the most. If I make something for her, she is ok as long as she isn't in the kitchen\n\nUsually she does a cheap bean burrito for breakfast \n\nOur son eats a piece of toast and then his appetite comes a hour later", "Have you tried having a smoothie instead of breakfast? When I used to have trouble eating in the morning, I could usually stomach a smoothie.", "Have a nice cup of coffee in the morning! With cream or some sort of fat. I either have cream or bulletproof (coconut oil and grass-fed butter). You don't have to eat in the mornings, most important meal of the day is not a real thing. I don't think bulletproof coffee has magical properties or anything, but the fat does keep you full and coffee is easier than eating food. Plus it will make your stomach shut up. ", "Do you eat late at night before you go to bed? Whats your diet consist of? Have you tried intermittent fasting? \nIf you MUST have something in the morning, try a tea like someone else suggested with Heavy Cream or coconut oil for the energy.", " I have a similar problem, try a spoon of yogurt in the morning? I usually drink 12-16 oz of water and occasionally smoke in the mornings, but downing that little bit of yogurt even on the worst days helps start up my appetite a little bit at least", "This plagued me all through highschool. Now I usually just drink a big pot of coffee and have a breakfast sandwich in a baggie to eat on my way to work. Here's why I think the coffee works. The coffee is a diuretic and makes you have to poop, moving the poop further from your stomach, applying less pressure to your stomach and making it feel more empty. The taste of the coffee and drinking the liquid makes food palatable after 20-30 minutes. Eating will make you have to poo even more so make sure you clock in before running to the bathroom at work.", "Something small yet nutritionally dense breakfast food. I usually have a Zone Perfect bar with some peanut butter.", "My saving grace is an Up&Go Sanitarium chocolate milk - keeps me going until I can eat at brunch. The feeling is caused by low blood sugar. Your body technically \"uses it all up\" at night, so drinking a small shake (e.g chocolate milk and sustagen/ Up&Go) or a glass of orange juice and sitting in bed for 30 minutes will both wake you up and get your body going. ", "Just don't eat in the morning. Recently read some research showing that the 16-hr daily fast is actually improving health for people.\nDisclaimer - do your own research before listening to me though. ", "I'm the same. For the past decade or so, I have carnation instant breakfast first thing, then a solid snack 2-3 hours later. The carnation is enough to take away the hunger and hold me over until my stomach cooperates. ", "I was this way pretty bad in high school and the start of college\nAs a kid I always had breakfast but fell out of the habit as I got older until I couldn’t eat in the morning\nYou might just need to reacclimate yourself to it by starting off easy (I would have a glass of milk or orange juice, something that’s definitely a drink but substantial) and then work your way up until you can eat normally (after I got used to the morning milk I would add a piece of fruit, usually apples were easier on my stomach because they are very juicy and bananas were harder because of how heavy they are in comparison)", "I managed to get feed using Joylent/Jimmy-whatever is called now: a smoothie mean to substitute a whole meal. There are several brands of these not-sport oriented powder foods around, That's one from Europe that started copying EEUU's Soylent brand. \n\n\nI've never been able to deal with a proper meal just after sleeping and for some kinds of work or schedules, specially in cold weather, that's a nightmare. The body just doesn't work properly while fastening. \n\n\nThe liquid breakfast eases it a lot for me. It has been for example quite convenient for some long motorbike trips, when starting the ride even before dawn requires calories to stay alive. ", "I literally don't eat till about an hour or so after I get done with my morning routine. Even then it's usually just a granola bar and some water. \n\nTakes a while to get used to buy eventually the body adapts, kinda like fasting.", "I just hit a protein shake in a mix of water and almond milk and that always fixes me up. Seems like you're more sensitive than me, though. I like to keep it cold, simple, and sweet first thing in the morning.", "I have a glass of milk, or chocolate milk. It doesn't have to be a lot, but I seems to help coat my stomach and I can usually at least eat a piece of toast or something after a bit.", "I have a fruit and juice breakfast smoothie in the morning with some good protein power/multi vitamin. I can keep it down, it’s easy and fast and usually sparks my appetite in a couple hours for something more substantial. Good luck!!", "I hate eating unless I've been awake for a few hours at least. I find a smoothie in the morning is easy to get down.", "I can't eat in the morning either, but if you bring a pop tart with you, eat that as breakfast when you need it. I bring them to class and then eat them when I feel hungry", "Can you keep coffee down? I generally drink coffee in the morning with just a bit of sugar. That suppresses my hunger til I eat an early lunch around 10:30ish.", "As someone with Crohn’s I did not know this was a “normal people” problem. \n\nI don’t generally eat breakfast anymore but what worked for me back when I still tried was the product Soylent. It now comes in bottled form premixed so I’m thinking of trying it again. Basically just sip it very slowly throughout the morning. It wont engage your nausea to any serious degree and you’ll get all the nutrients you need. I only eat 1.5-2 meals a day so everything I eat has to be either nutrient dense or calorie dense. Haven’t found many things outside of pediasure that is both.\n\nOh... pediasure would probably work if you don’t want to go trough the hassle of ordering Soylent and you aren’t concerned about potential weight gain.", "Skip it. I’ve skipped breakfast for the entire 32 years I’ve been alive. I’m 6’2 and 180lbs. All my friends are overweight...", "Blend two raw eggs with about 1 and 1/2 cups whole milk and a dash of honey. Tastes like a vanilla milkshake (swear to god not trolling). Good to go. ", "Eat a bite in the morning. Watch tmrrow when u wake up u will start feeling hungry. Gotta trick ur body", "I’m guessing you don’t smoke weed. You may not have access where you are, but CBD would probably work. It’s the non-hallucinogenic element in weed. They have it in pill form, you would t even feel any effects from it." ]

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[ " How to remove fingernail glue. I myself have never used fake fingernails (I'm a guy), but my girlfriend puts them on every now and then and she has trouble getting it off her nails. I just tell her to use a knife to scrape it off, but she won't.\n\n", " How to remove fingernail glue. I myself have never used fake fingernails (I'm a guy), but my girlfriend puts them on every now and then and she has trouble getting it off her nails. I just tell her to use a knife to scrape it off, but she won't.\n\n", " How to remove fingernail glue. I myself have never used fake fingernails (I'm a guy), but my girlfriend puts them on every now and then and she has trouble getting it off her nails. I just tell her to use a knife to scrape it off, but she won't.\n\n", " How to remove fingernail glue. I myself have never used fake fingernails (I'm a guy), but my girlfriend puts them on every now and then and she has trouble getting it off her nails. I just tell her to use a knife to scrape it off, but she won't.\n\n", " How to remove fingernail glue. I myself have never used fake fingernails (I'm a guy), but my girlfriend puts them on every now and then and she has trouble getting it off her nails. I just tell her to use a knife to scrape it off, but she won't.\n\n", " How to remove fingernail glue. I myself have never used fake fingernails (I'm a guy), but my girlfriend puts them on every now and then and she has trouble getting it off her nails. I just tell her to use a knife to scrape it off, but she won't.\n\n" ]

[ "Assuming you're talking about acrylic salon nails, and not the kind you buy at the drug store. Salon nails are much more firmly attached. It's usually best to have them removed at the salon if you don't want your nails to look raggedy. Of course, the salon is expensive, and you can remove them at home if you must, with a lot of acetone and patience. \n\nMy favorite trick is to use cotton balls soaked in acetone, wrapped around your nail with foil. You have to keep it there for at least a half hour, a full hour if possible. After you remove the cotton, part of the acrylic will have dissolved into a sort of jelly. scrape that off, and the fake nail that's still there will be loosened enough to remove it. Gently work an orange stick in between your nail and the fake. It may take some effort to pry it off, it will take a layer off your nails and it might hurt a bit. ", "The manicurist will use a fake nail to pry it off. It rips off a few layers of your nails. Your nails are sore for a few days after. Its awful. Ive tried soaking them in pure acetone for hours - does not work.\n\nI just let it grow out. I cut them short, and then buff it down with a file so you cant see the transition from real nail to fake nail. Then I put on polish.\n\nPolish stays on acrylic forever. So it is actually kind of nice to let it grow out because the polish doesnt chip the way it does on natural nails.", "Not sure if this will work, but try spraying a little bit of deodorant on them. It worked when I managed to superglue my fingers together.\n\n", "would diesel or paint thinner work? just curious I'm a guy too but i feel like something as strong as that would eat through the glue", "Nail polish remover. Just soak the nail until it comes off easily. Don't tug just let it soak until it comes off with little effort.", "I put one on a week or so ago for a laugh then realised it might not have been the wisest decision - I just bathed my finger in hot water and lemon juice for ages and was eventually able to pry the fake nail off. It did feel a little like I was about to tear my own nail off as well but that didn't happen." ]

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[ "Ways to be in social media without risking too much searchability or exposure? I know you'll never be too safe but for example, you can turn off certain private features on facebook such as your photos.\n\nWhat I want is that when they search up my name, people will only see what I hopefully want them to see. I've deleted my address for example but somehow, it shows on some database website and I've heard that you can contact them to have it removed.\n\nMy issue also comes from a close friend of mine who has experienced a \"stalker\". He was able to send her a message on her Instagram even when it was private and even know where she works... It's a scary thing, she doesn't mind but she minds if she can at least control what's out there\n\nI want to stick to social media because it's part of today's world but I also don't want to be an instantly searchable query. Is it too late? Will deleting my facebook profile not help? What if I make duplicates and just bloat information here and there, we're not truly safe are we?", "Ways to be in social media without risking too much searchability or exposure? I know you'll never be too safe but for example, you can turn off certain private features on facebook such as your photos.\n\nWhat I want is that when they search up my name, people will only see what I hopefully want them to see. I've deleted my address for example but somehow, it shows on some database website and I've heard that you can contact them to have it removed.\n\nMy issue also comes from a close friend of mine who has experienced a \"stalker\". He was able to send her a message on her Instagram even when it was private and even know where she works... It's a scary thing, she doesn't mind but she minds if she can at least control what's out there\n\nI want to stick to social media because it's part of today's world but I also don't want to be an instantly searchable query. Is it too late? Will deleting my facebook profile not help? What if I make duplicates and just bloat information here and there, we're not truly safe are we?", "Ways to be in social media without risking too much searchability or exposure? I know you'll never be too safe but for example, you can turn off certain private features on facebook such as your photos.\n\nWhat I want is that when they search up my name, people will only see what I hopefully want them to see. I've deleted my address for example but somehow, it shows on some database website and I've heard that you can contact them to have it removed.\n\nMy issue also comes from a close friend of mine who has experienced a \"stalker\". He was able to send her a message on her Instagram even when it was private and even know where she works... It's a scary thing, she doesn't mind but she minds if she can at least control what's out there\n\nI want to stick to social media because it's part of today's world but I also don't want to be an instantly searchable query. Is it too late? Will deleting my facebook profile not help? What if I make duplicates and just bloat information here and there, we're not truly safe are we?", "Ways to be in social media without risking too much searchability or exposure? I know you'll never be too safe but for example, you can turn off certain private features on facebook such as your photos.\n\nWhat I want is that when they search up my name, people will only see what I hopefully want them to see. I've deleted my address for example but somehow, it shows on some database website and I've heard that you can contact them to have it removed.\n\nMy issue also comes from a close friend of mine who has experienced a \"stalker\". He was able to send her a message on her Instagram even when it was private and even know where she works... It's a scary thing, she doesn't mind but she minds if she can at least control what's out there\n\nI want to stick to social media because it's part of today's world but I also don't want to be an instantly searchable query. Is it too late? Will deleting my facebook profile not help? What if I make duplicates and just bloat information here and there, we're not truly safe are we?" ]

[ "Anyone with a few dollars and the most basic information about you (name and state) can find things like legal address and telephone number. Those things aren't considered private information and are regularly sold. You'll never fully be able to control what appears when someone searches for you. Don't overthink it or you'll want to live off the grid.", "If you want to keep your info off the internet, don’t buy property, have bills in your name, register a vehicle in your name, register to vote, etc. Social media is the least if your worries.", "My mom has this problem, and I have trouble getting it. I have flamed certain individuals to the point that there was probably a 10% chance of them knocking on my door and blasting me in the face, but I like to think I don’t give a shit. Stalkers are certainly no bueno, but I’m not afraid of them and kind of assume I wouldn’t genuinely have to deal with them on faith. I also assume it’d be a very different situation if I was a woman and/or lived in certain areas with certain circumstances. Is a push for this kind of confidence hopeless as possible advice?", "Its pretty simple to hide personal info from random people unless they are hackers. Google knows you better than anybody though if you use it, and I am not sure there is anything that can be done about it." ]

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[ "Making a good impression when meeting your supervisor for the first time for a full time position. Extra details here. I am an undergrad meeting my supervisor whose laboratory I will be working in full time over the summer for a tour of the facility and explanation of the project. I feel grossly underprepared for the technical aspects of it. What can I do up front to show I am motivated and excited to contribute to this project?", "Making a good impression when meeting your supervisor for the first time for a full time position. Extra details here. I am an undergrad meeting my supervisor whose laboratory I will be working in full time over the summer for a tour of the facility and explanation of the project. I feel grossly underprepared for the technical aspects of it. What can I do up front to show I am motivated and excited to contribute to this project?" ]

[ "Appear interested, dress decently, be respectful, and pay attention. It's not Disneyland, so don't overact like it is. Be normal, but ready and learn the facility.", "You can always read some of the labs published work, but you might not be working on a similar effort. I'm a lab coordinator and I always think it's best to just come on with a questioning attitude and be ready to learn. Don't worry about memorizing all of the details of your future work or reading protocols before you start. You're taking the position to learn and they will teach you what you need to know! Have a great time!" ]

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[ "How do I disassociate a song with someone? I apologize in advance if it's the incorrect word.\n\nSometimes if I'm listening to a song, I'll have a person in my head at that time and suddenly my mind makes the connection. I *cannot* listen to that song without picturing that person in my head, even if that person has nothing to do with the song (song wasn't shared with them, lyrics aren't relevant to them, etc), and it's extremely distracting. I can't enjoy the song (it usually happens to songs I really enjoy too) because images and thoughts of that person are so overpowering in my head, it's distracting and I can't enjoy the song because my mind is *so focused* on that person. I don't know how the fuck to unlink the two but I'd really love to know because it has ruined more than one song.\n\nFor example, I was listening to an album and someone I didn't know was being a dick. Even though I wasn't thinking about them, my mind decided to make the link and I can't listen to the album because my mind automatically thinks of this person\n\nThere are a few that make me think of people because we have discussed and have a mutual like of the song, but it's not distracting because I can listen to the song and \"gently\" think about them in a positive, adjacent way, not like a mental roadblock.", "How do I disassociate a song with someone? I apologize in advance if it's the incorrect word.\n\nSometimes if I'm listening to a song, I'll have a person in my head at that time and suddenly my mind makes the connection. I *cannot* listen to that song without picturing that person in my head, even if that person has nothing to do with the song (song wasn't shared with them, lyrics aren't relevant to them, etc), and it's extremely distracting. I can't enjoy the song (it usually happens to songs I really enjoy too) because images and thoughts of that person are so overpowering in my head, it's distracting and I can't enjoy the song because my mind is *so focused* on that person. I don't know how the fuck to unlink the two but I'd really love to know because it has ruined more than one song.\n\nFor example, I was listening to an album and someone I didn't know was being a dick. Even though I wasn't thinking about them, my mind decided to make the link and I can't listen to the album because my mind automatically thinks of this person\n\nThere are a few that make me think of people because we have discussed and have a mutual like of the song, but it's not distracting because I can listen to the song and \"gently\" think about them in a positive, adjacent way, not like a mental roadblock.", "How do I disassociate a song with someone? I apologize in advance if it's the incorrect word.\n\nSometimes if I'm listening to a song, I'll have a person in my head at that time and suddenly my mind makes the connection. I *cannot* listen to that song without picturing that person in my head, even if that person has nothing to do with the song (song wasn't shared with them, lyrics aren't relevant to them, etc), and it's extremely distracting. I can't enjoy the song (it usually happens to songs I really enjoy too) because images and thoughts of that person are so overpowering in my head, it's distracting and I can't enjoy the song because my mind is *so focused* on that person. I don't know how the fuck to unlink the two but I'd really love to know because it has ruined more than one song.\n\nFor example, I was listening to an album and someone I didn't know was being a dick. Even though I wasn't thinking about them, my mind decided to make the link and I can't listen to the album because my mind automatically thinks of this person\n\nThere are a few that make me think of people because we have discussed and have a mutual like of the song, but it's not distracting because I can listen to the song and \"gently\" think about them in a positive, adjacent way, not like a mental roadblock." ]

[ "This used to happen to me a lot. My favorite song in the world became linked with my high school boyfriend for a long time. After a long time, it became disconnected from my memories of him. \n\nA close listen to the lyrics and really thinking about what the songwriter was saying, and to who, might help. Then you can replace the story/connection your head created with what the true meaning of the song is. \n\n\nMy husband links childhood memories to songs all the time. But they have nothing to do with the song itself. It just happened to be the same year. I can't get him to stop.", "Actively work to make new connections to those songs. You are going to have to consciously undo the old associations in favor of different ones. I ate cereal and walked my dog listening to a certain album I love, but came to despise after it became correlated to my abusive ex. I reclaimed my music from his memories and In Flames is now associated with Cinnamon Toast Crunch and playing with my labrador.", "Try reconnecting it to a new memory. Do something you enjoy while listening to the album. You'll have to power through the negative memory to keep going but eventually it will be replaced by the good memory. Example: listen to it every time you go hiking, walk the beach, garden, or walk the dog....whatever pleasant activity you can do on repeat. Listen to only this album with only this activity until you see results." ]

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[ "How to open an aluminum can quietly. Unless reddit's search function flat out doesn't work, there's no advice on how to do this. \n\nHere I am, sitting here opening a can of Ale 8, wondering for the hundredth time if there's actually a way to do it without my wife waking up and realizing I'm still up playing games at 3 AM. \n\nThis time I remembered to post. Anyone have any tips?\n", "How to open an aluminum can quietly. Unless reddit's search function flat out doesn't work, there's no advice on how to do this. \n\nHere I am, sitting here opening a can of Ale 8, wondering for the hundredth time if there's actually a way to do it without my wife waking up and realizing I'm still up playing games at 3 AM. \n\nThis time I remembered to post. Anyone have any tips?\n", "How to open an aluminum can quietly. Unless reddit's search function flat out doesn't work, there's no advice on how to do this. \n\nHere I am, sitting here opening a can of Ale 8, wondering for the hundredth time if there's actually a way to do it without my wife waking up and realizing I'm still up playing games at 3 AM. \n\nThis time I remembered to post. Anyone have any tips?\n", "How to open an aluminum can quietly. Unless reddit's search function flat out doesn't work, there's no advice on how to do this. \n\nHere I am, sitting here opening a can of Ale 8, wondering for the hundredth time if there's actually a way to do it without my wife waking up and realizing I'm still up playing games at 3 AM. \n\nThis time I remembered to post. Anyone have any tips?\n", "How to open an aluminum can quietly. Unless reddit's search function flat out doesn't work, there's no advice on how to do this. \n\nHere I am, sitting here opening a can of Ale 8, wondering for the hundredth time if there's actually a way to do it without my wife waking up and realizing I'm still up playing games at 3 AM. \n\nThis time I remembered to post. Anyone have any tips?\n", "How to open an aluminum can quietly. Unless reddit's search function flat out doesn't work, there's no advice on how to do this. \n\nHere I am, sitting here opening a can of Ale 8, wondering for the hundredth time if there's actually a way to do it without my wife waking up and realizing I'm still up playing games at 3 AM. \n\nThis time I remembered to post. Anyone have any tips?\n", "How to open an aluminum can quietly. Unless reddit's search function flat out doesn't work, there's no advice on how to do this. \n\nHere I am, sitting here opening a can of Ale 8, wondering for the hundredth time if there's actually a way to do it without my wife waking up and realizing I'm still up playing games at 3 AM. \n\nThis time I remembered to post. Anyone have any tips?\n", "How to open an aluminum can quietly. Unless reddit's search function flat out doesn't work, there's no advice on how to do this. \n\nHere I am, sitting here opening a can of Ale 8, wondering for the hundredth time if there's actually a way to do it without my wife waking up and realizing I'm still up playing games at 3 AM. \n\nThis time I remembered to post. Anyone have any tips?\n", "How to open an aluminum can quietly. Unless reddit's search function flat out doesn't work, there's no advice on how to do this. \n\nHere I am, sitting here opening a can of Ale 8, wondering for the hundredth time if there's actually a way to do it without my wife waking up and realizing I'm still up playing games at 3 AM. \n\nThis time I remembered to post. Anyone have any tips?\n", "How to open an aluminum can quietly. Unless reddit's search function flat out doesn't work, there's no advice on how to do this. \n\nHere I am, sitting here opening a can of Ale 8, wondering for the hundredth time if there's actually a way to do it without my wife waking up and realizing I'm still up playing games at 3 AM. \n\nThis time I remembered to post. Anyone have any tips?\n", "How to open an aluminum can quietly. Unless reddit's search function flat out doesn't work, there's no advice on how to do this. \n\nHere I am, sitting here opening a can of Ale 8, wondering for the hundredth time if there's actually a way to do it without my wife waking up and realizing I'm still up playing games at 3 AM. \n\nThis time I remembered to post. Anyone have any tips?\n", "How to open an aluminum can quietly. Unless reddit's search function flat out doesn't work, there's no advice on how to do this. \n\nHere I am, sitting here opening a can of Ale 8, wondering for the hundredth time if there's actually a way to do it without my wife waking up and realizing I'm still up playing games at 3 AM. \n\nThis time I remembered to post. Anyone have any tips?\n", "How to open an aluminum can quietly. Unless reddit's search function flat out doesn't work, there's no advice on how to do this. \n\nHere I am, sitting here opening a can of Ale 8, wondering for the hundredth time if there's actually a way to do it without my wife waking up and realizing I'm still up playing games at 3 AM. \n\nThis time I remembered to post. Anyone have any tips?\n", "How to open an aluminum can quietly. Unless reddit's search function flat out doesn't work, there's no advice on how to do this. \n\nHere I am, sitting here opening a can of Ale 8, wondering for the hundredth time if there's actually a way to do it without my wife waking up and realizing I'm still up playing games at 3 AM. \n\nThis time I remembered to post. Anyone have any tips?\n" ]

[ "First, ensure you're going for the coldest can if there's any choice to what's in your fridge, as it'll have the least carbonation in it.\n\nThen, get a towel, fluffier the better. If you have carpet, put the can on that rather than on your desk or table so there's no \"soundbox\" under it. Set the can on a corner of the towel to capture any possible spills.\n\nHalf-pile/half-wrap the rest of the towel loosely around the top of the can to create a \"muffler\", then reach in under and pop the top slowly. \n\nOnce the top is cracked, most of the noise is done, but you can still put your finger through the ring in the top and rewrap the towel around it to muffle that pulling-off sound too. ", "Ale 8 One tastes better in glass bottles. Stop using cans and you won't have to worry about this issue. ", "Stab it as if you were going to shotgun the beer, and pour it into a glass. Slicing a hole in the can will make much less noise than popping the tab. ", "push your palm into the mouth part while peeling cracking it open lol...used to do this as a kid to sneak sodas", "Your best bet is similar to how you'd prepare to shotgun the beer.\n\nYou will need a short sharp knife, a glass with a wide mouth and maybe some paper towels.\n\n* Hold the can over the glass. \n* Stab a hole in the bottom of the can (or into the side near the bottom) and direct the flow into the glass. You may want to do this in the sink.\n* To exp", "Use an awe(?) or screw driver to puncture a small hole in it. Then slowly open the can, in stages if necessary rather than one fell swoop. ", "Slowly lift the tab until it starts to hiss.\n\nThen, make the hiss shorter, lift a bit more, then relax.\n\nNow, use your thumb, to press the opening flap down, starting where the lift tab cracked the seal, to slowly tear the flap open, while muffling the tearing sound with your thumb.. Adjust thumb and pressure point as needed along the opening edge.\n\nIf done correctly, you will just hear a short hiss when you break the seal.\n\nOpen a can normally, but very slowly, to see what I mean about tearing the opening. Smooth, slow, silent.\n\n-Home ninja professional est. 1983", "Make sure it's as cold as possible. Open slowly and hold a towel or blanket down on the top of it to muffle most of the sound ", "In order to achieve a softer sound, you must do one of two things. Increase the area of the orifice, or decrease the pressure.\n\nSince the area of the orifice on can is constant you must decrease the pressure in the can.\n\nIn order to the decrease the pressure in the can you must do one of three things: either increase the volume of the container, decrease the volume of the gas, or decrease the temperature of the system.\n\nBecause the volume of the container is constant, and the mass of carbon dioxide is constant, your only option is to decrease the temperature of the system. \n\nDecreasing the temperature of the soda can will reduce the pressure of the gas inside the can. Also, the solubility of a gas increases as temperature decreases so the carbon dioxide gas in the gas will dissolve at a lower temperature meaning there will be less volume of CO2 in the can, further decreasing the pressure.\n\nTL;DR cool the soda can, it decreases the pressure in the can, reducing the loud noise.\n\nYou can also just muffle the sound with a cloth or your shirt.", "If that's what she's waking up to, the sound of the can opening, instead of anything else from you playing games, the only logical option isn't to try to hide it, just open two, then bring her one. She'll take a sip or whatever and go back to sleep, no issues.", "I'm in this situation nightly. I cover the opening with the heel of my hand while I pop the top. Works a treat!", "Cover the part that opens (can't think of the name?) And press down as you open it. Used to open countless sodas while the parents were asleep in the next room over.", "Find a police officer. Yell \"Look a non-white unarmed man, over there!\". Wait 3 seconds. Open can during the gunfire...\n", "1- Get a tank \n\n2- Ask arnold shwarznegger to come and help you with the tank \n\n3-Open the can as slowly as possible\n\n4-right before it opens shout fire to arnold \n\n5-listen to arnold commenting/shouting whislt firing from the tank aiming everywhere. \n(FIyaaa! The tank is BACK! I will Opèn this fLidge and Get*dda* CAAAN* \n\n6- Done\n\n" ]

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[ "Tools or techniques to help keep myself on track to rebuild healthy routines when I live alone? Hit a rough patch a few years ago and pretty much lost a handle on most of my established healthy routines (showering, morning routine, bedtime routine, grocery shopping regularly, making meals for myself, etc.) It has been a continuous struggle trying to build those routines back since then and I haven't made much progress at all. \n\nI live alone and so don't have anyone right here that I can ask to help keep me accountable in any way. I've written a starting routine on paper and taped it on my mirror, tried to start small with just one tiny task, set phone reminders, I've made a Google calendar with a daily schedule, etc. Often I can stay on track for a few days, but then something will happen that throws off my day (travelling, staying up later than usual, etc.) and it all falls apart. I'm getting super frustrated with myself. What I think I need is to start with a general consistent structure to my day to have some stability in my life and then I can build from there(?). Or maybe I'm seriously overthinking this -- that could also be the case.\n\nAny tips regarding tools or strategies that might help me with that general structure? Thank you for your time.", "Tools or techniques to help keep myself on track to rebuild healthy routines when I live alone? Hit a rough patch a few years ago and pretty much lost a handle on most of my established healthy routines (showering, morning routine, bedtime routine, grocery shopping regularly, making meals for myself, etc.) It has been a continuous struggle trying to build those routines back since then and I haven't made much progress at all. \n\nI live alone and so don't have anyone right here that I can ask to help keep me accountable in any way. I've written a starting routine on paper and taped it on my mirror, tried to start small with just one tiny task, set phone reminders, I've made a Google calendar with a daily schedule, etc. Often I can stay on track for a few days, but then something will happen that throws off my day (travelling, staying up later than usual, etc.) and it all falls apart. I'm getting super frustrated with myself. What I think I need is to start with a general consistent structure to my day to have some stability in my life and then I can build from there(?). Or maybe I'm seriously overthinking this -- that could also be the case.\n\nAny tips regarding tools or strategies that might help me with that general structure? Thank you for your time.", "Tools or techniques to help keep myself on track to rebuild healthy routines when I live alone? Hit a rough patch a few years ago and pretty much lost a handle on most of my established healthy routines (showering, morning routine, bedtime routine, grocery shopping regularly, making meals for myself, etc.) It has been a continuous struggle trying to build those routines back since then and I haven't made much progress at all. \n\nI live alone and so don't have anyone right here that I can ask to help keep me accountable in any way. I've written a starting routine on paper and taped it on my mirror, tried to start small with just one tiny task, set phone reminders, I've made a Google calendar with a daily schedule, etc. Often I can stay on track for a few days, but then something will happen that throws off my day (travelling, staying up later than usual, etc.) and it all falls apart. I'm getting super frustrated with myself. What I think I need is to start with a general consistent structure to my day to have some stability in my life and then I can build from there(?). Or maybe I'm seriously overthinking this -- that could also be the case.\n\nAny tips regarding tools or strategies that might help me with that general structure? Thank you for your time.", "Tools or techniques to help keep myself on track to rebuild healthy routines when I live alone? Hit a rough patch a few years ago and pretty much lost a handle on most of my established healthy routines (showering, morning routine, bedtime routine, grocery shopping regularly, making meals for myself, etc.) It has been a continuous struggle trying to build those routines back since then and I haven't made much progress at all. \n\nI live alone and so don't have anyone right here that I can ask to help keep me accountable in any way. I've written a starting routine on paper and taped it on my mirror, tried to start small with just one tiny task, set phone reminders, I've made a Google calendar with a daily schedule, etc. Often I can stay on track for a few days, but then something will happen that throws off my day (travelling, staying up later than usual, etc.) and it all falls apart. I'm getting super frustrated with myself. What I think I need is to start with a general consistent structure to my day to have some stability in my life and then I can build from there(?). Or maybe I'm seriously overthinking this -- that could also be the case.\n\nAny tips regarding tools or strategies that might help me with that general structure? Thank you for your time.", "Tools or techniques to help keep myself on track to rebuild healthy routines when I live alone? Hit a rough patch a few years ago and pretty much lost a handle on most of my established healthy routines (showering, morning routine, bedtime routine, grocery shopping regularly, making meals for myself, etc.) It has been a continuous struggle trying to build those routines back since then and I haven't made much progress at all. \n\nI live alone and so don't have anyone right here that I can ask to help keep me accountable in any way. I've written a starting routine on paper and taped it on my mirror, tried to start small with just one tiny task, set phone reminders, I've made a Google calendar with a daily schedule, etc. Often I can stay on track for a few days, but then something will happen that throws off my day (travelling, staying up later than usual, etc.) and it all falls apart. I'm getting super frustrated with myself. What I think I need is to start with a general consistent structure to my day to have some stability in my life and then I can build from there(?). Or maybe I'm seriously overthinking this -- that could also be the case.\n\nAny tips regarding tools or strategies that might help me with that general structure? Thank you for your time.", "Tools or techniques to help keep myself on track to rebuild healthy routines when I live alone? Hit a rough patch a few years ago and pretty much lost a handle on most of my established healthy routines (showering, morning routine, bedtime routine, grocery shopping regularly, making meals for myself, etc.) It has been a continuous struggle trying to build those routines back since then and I haven't made much progress at all. \n\nI live alone and so don't have anyone right here that I can ask to help keep me accountable in any way. I've written a starting routine on paper and taped it on my mirror, tried to start small with just one tiny task, set phone reminders, I've made a Google calendar with a daily schedule, etc. Often I can stay on track for a few days, but then something will happen that throws off my day (travelling, staying up later than usual, etc.) and it all falls apart. I'm getting super frustrated with myself. What I think I need is to start with a general consistent structure to my day to have some stability in my life and then I can build from there(?). Or maybe I'm seriously overthinking this -- that could also be the case.\n\nAny tips regarding tools or strategies that might help me with that general structure? Thank you for your time.", "Tools or techniques to help keep myself on track to rebuild healthy routines when I live alone? Hit a rough patch a few years ago and pretty much lost a handle on most of my established healthy routines (showering, morning routine, bedtime routine, grocery shopping regularly, making meals for myself, etc.) It has been a continuous struggle trying to build those routines back since then and I haven't made much progress at all. \n\nI live alone and so don't have anyone right here that I can ask to help keep me accountable in any way. I've written a starting routine on paper and taped it on my mirror, tried to start small with just one tiny task, set phone reminders, I've made a Google calendar with a daily schedule, etc. Often I can stay on track for a few days, but then something will happen that throws off my day (travelling, staying up later than usual, etc.) and it all falls apart. I'm getting super frustrated with myself. What I think I need is to start with a general consistent structure to my day to have some stability in my life and then I can build from there(?). Or maybe I'm seriously overthinking this -- that could also be the case.\n\nAny tips regarding tools or strategies that might help me with that general structure? Thank you for your time.", "Tools or techniques to help keep myself on track to rebuild healthy routines when I live alone? Hit a rough patch a few years ago and pretty much lost a handle on most of my established healthy routines (showering, morning routine, bedtime routine, grocery shopping regularly, making meals for myself, etc.) It has been a continuous struggle trying to build those routines back since then and I haven't made much progress at all. \n\nI live alone and so don't have anyone right here that I can ask to help keep me accountable in any way. I've written a starting routine on paper and taped it on my mirror, tried to start small with just one tiny task, set phone reminders, I've made a Google calendar with a daily schedule, etc. Often I can stay on track for a few days, but then something will happen that throws off my day (travelling, staying up later than usual, etc.) and it all falls apart. I'm getting super frustrated with myself. What I think I need is to start with a general consistent structure to my day to have some stability in my life and then I can build from there(?). Or maybe I'm seriously overthinking this -- that could also be the case.\n\nAny tips regarding tools or strategies that might help me with that general structure? Thank you for your time.", "Tools or techniques to help keep myself on track to rebuild healthy routines when I live alone? Hit a rough patch a few years ago and pretty much lost a handle on most of my established healthy routines (showering, morning routine, bedtime routine, grocery shopping regularly, making meals for myself, etc.) It has been a continuous struggle trying to build those routines back since then and I haven't made much progress at all. \n\nI live alone and so don't have anyone right here that I can ask to help keep me accountable in any way. I've written a starting routine on paper and taped it on my mirror, tried to start small with just one tiny task, set phone reminders, I've made a Google calendar with a daily schedule, etc. Often I can stay on track for a few days, but then something will happen that throws off my day (travelling, staying up later than usual, etc.) and it all falls apart. I'm getting super frustrated with myself. What I think I need is to start with a general consistent structure to my day to have some stability in my life and then I can build from there(?). Or maybe I'm seriously overthinking this -- that could also be the case.\n\nAny tips regarding tools or strategies that might help me with that general structure? Thank you for your time." ]

[ "Self discipline through a split personality.\n\nThere is not one of you inside your head, there are at least two.\n\nYou have inner debates whenever a decision needs to be made.\n\nDo it for the other guy.", " Make your self a chart so you can go line by line. In the bathroom put the bathroom list on the mirror so you can go from shower to brushing teeth, shaving. Put a list on the inside of the front door keys, wallet, mask, etc. Set alarms throughout the day on your phone like drink water, stretch, snack etc. Making the lists might seem dumb and you might not always use them but they will force you to think about what's coming up and the things you have already accomplished that day. Start keeping a journal by your bed and give yourself a set 30 min to write all the really annoying you that day. You don't have to use the whole time but get it out of your head and on paper. Write out your checklists for that day if you can't think of anything to write.", "Hey! I've been there a few times. One of the best things I ever did was get a dog. Built in routine for house training.\n\nI would say start small on your days off. One of the best ones I did is on Sunday at 14:00 I call my parents. Also way back then, Sunday was my cleaning day. I'd put on Chess and then vacuum, sweep, mop, clean the toilets, etc. \n\nStuff like that was just what I expected of myself at those times. I guess in my brain it was like scheduling an important meeting. No one could schedule something else for me during that meeting.\n\nI wish you luck. It sucks when you find yourself in that hole. My wife is there currently. Big plans that constantly get pushed to \"tomorrow\"...her favorite word lately.", "Habit stacking! I try to add one habit per day and do it for one week. Then add another one the next week, until you’ve built up your routine. Example: get up, make coffee. Next week: get up, make coffee, shower. Get up, make coffee, shower, walk dog, etc… \n\nIt’s very hard to do ALL of the things EVERY day staring from 0. It’s a lot to ask from yourself, so give yourself grace and also give yourself time. I went through a break up and had to move out of their place and find my own place. All of my routine was gone. It took me over 6 months to rebuild a lot of the healthy routines I had in the past. \n\nGive yourself grave and build slowly. Good luck!", "Doing the same thing every day is key. If you want to do more A then do A every day at the same time and build it into your routine (even if it’s only 15 minutes or whatever). Don’t give yourself a day to take off because that can turn into two and so on. You got this!!", "Mine might be a simple one..Holiday has the sip and save deal which I get every month and at least I go get my slurpee daily. Then I get rolling after that", "I’ve lived alone for about 5 years (by choice, chill out!) and had the exact same problem. The two things that helped me the most were Atomic Habits which you’ve probably heard of, and realising that no one else is going to hold me accountable if I don’t keep up with things. You’re not getting away with being lazy, you’re letting yourself down.\n\nThe most effective Atomic Habit was chaining tasks together. I also use a Kanban style command centre template for Notion that helps spread out tasks throughout the week and stops them becoming overwhelming, that’s made a huge difference.", "It doesn't matter how much you make, it only matters how much you spend. You will find your life much easier if you're always in the habit of spending less than you make.", "I use a website/app called Habitica. It is a way to gamify habit formation. You get a little avatar with a health bar and such and then you add dailies and to-dos and habits and you either gain experience or lose health depending on what dailies you do. \n\nIt is great, in my opinion. You can miss a few things and still be incentivized to do the rest on your list so your avatar doesn't lose all its health. Start off small with some basic dailies and slowly add more as you build the habits. \n\nI would also recommend doing things in batches. Meal plan and prep on the weekend so you have food ready all week in case you miss a few days. That sort of thing." ]

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[ "how to increase short term memory I feel like I have the worst memory in the world, I can’t remember what happened in an episode of The Office, and when I read I can’t recall what I read 5 pages ago... all the time", "how to increase short term memory I feel like I have the worst memory in the world, I can’t remember what happened in an episode of The Office, and when I read I can’t recall what I read 5 pages ago... all the time" ]

[ "I also have very short term memory. While I think you can improve it with forced awareness and concentration, lack of memory is largely a genetic thing I suspect.\n\nI have friends who can recall precise dates on events years ago or name the year of a movie that came out a long time ago. They seem to be born with such gifts.", "Walk/run for at least 10mins immediately BEFORE learning something you want to remember short term.\n\nWalk/run for at least 10mins immediately AFTER learning something to commit it to long term memory. " ]

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[ "Setting up and using a home kitchen Square cabinets and irregularly shaped cookware, appliances, utensils and foodstuffs don't always work well together. I almost always 'lose' food and have precariously balanced pots and pans rammed into a cupboard.\n\nHow can you set up a domestic kitchen to have 'a place for everything and everything in its place'? What tips and tricks do you have for making a kitchen more like an organized workshop, whilst still keeping it kitchen-like?", "Setting up and using a home kitchen Square cabinets and irregularly shaped cookware, appliances, utensils and foodstuffs don't always work well together. I almost always 'lose' food and have precariously balanced pots and pans rammed into a cupboard.\n\nHow can you set up a domestic kitchen to have 'a place for everything and everything in its place'? What tips and tricks do you have for making a kitchen more like an organized workshop, whilst still keeping it kitchen-like?", "Setting up and using a home kitchen Square cabinets and irregularly shaped cookware, appliances, utensils and foodstuffs don't always work well together. I almost always 'lose' food and have precariously balanced pots and pans rammed into a cupboard.\n\nHow can you set up a domestic kitchen to have 'a place for everything and everything in its place'? What tips and tricks do you have for making a kitchen more like an organized workshop, whilst still keeping it kitchen-like?", "Setting up and using a home kitchen Square cabinets and irregularly shaped cookware, appliances, utensils and foodstuffs don't always work well together. I almost always 'lose' food and have precariously balanced pots and pans rammed into a cupboard.\n\nHow can you set up a domestic kitchen to have 'a place for everything and everything in its place'? What tips and tricks do you have for making a kitchen more like an organized workshop, whilst still keeping it kitchen-like?" ]

[ "I **love** having a \"pan tree\" hanging over the stove. Just make sure all your pans have a loop at least somewhere on them, and hang 'em from the ceiling (cookie sheets and muffin tinsusually fit really well in the drawer under the stove, so don't need a loop).\n\nAs for small appliances like blenders and such - I typically follow the rule that if I can't fit them on the counter, I don't need them readily available in the kitchen. So, the vacuum-sealer lives in a bin in the garage, and twice a year I haul it out to use, then put it back.", "Put stuff close to where you'll naturally be using them. Cookware near the stove, glasses and plates closer to the table (where you'll be setting up before eating), leftover storage containers close to the fridge, that type of thing. Every kitchen is a bit different, but generally this is most practical to me. \n\n", "Idk, if this is what you are exactly looking for, but anyway. If you have a window in your kitchen, facing west/east make sure you don't have the work table/place facing the window, so you don't have to look into the sun while cooking in the morning/evening. Hope this helps.", "Don't acquire too many gadgets. That way you won't have so many things to find room for.\nHang, rather than stack - mugs on hooks on the wall, knives on a magnetic rack, etc." ]

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[ "Best way to clean finger grease from laptop keyboard keys? Title of post should be pretty self explanatory.", "Best way to clean finger grease from laptop keyboard keys? Title of post should be pretty self explanatory." ]

[ "I have a spray bottle of isopropyl alcohol and a microfiber cloth that I use to clean my whole laptop. Just don't get the cloth sopping wet (go with damp). It dries quickly and cuts through about anything. Haven't noticed any wear on laptop key labels, either.", "The 'shiny' stuff on some keys, or rather on most newer laptop keyboards, is actually wear on the plastic. There's not much that you can really do about it. If, however, there is grease on the keyboard, I would suggest using an anhydrous solvent like 100% ethanol (wood alcohol) or 100% ethanol (corn alcohol). You will need an ID if you plan on purchasing pure ethanol, but it can be found mixed with methanol for free purchase (this is often referred to as denatured alcohol). Methanol can be purchased freely online, at some larger construction stores, and at virtually any chemical depot." ]

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[ "Getting a bunch of cleaning done Long Story Short: 3 months of deep depression has lead to a bunch of cleaning that needs to be done.", "Getting a bunch of cleaning done Long Story Short: 3 months of deep depression has lead to a bunch of cleaning that needs to be done." ]

[ "Heres what I do when I have a big cluttered mess.\n\nFirst, turn on some music, or a tv if you can see it from where you are cleaning.\n\nSecond, get a garbage bag, and a box. The box will be for donations or storage, the garbage bag for garbage of course.\n\nPick a corner of the room. Anything in your reach is the only thing you care about. Garbage, donates or storage, and then stack, within your reach anything that is good, but just needs to be put away.\n\nAfter this space is done, take a break. I usually go smoke or something, but whatever works for you.\n\nThen, pick a spot next to your old spot and do the exact same thing. \n\nBy focusing on just whats in your reach your mind doesn't trail off into where everything needs to eventually go, and you don't get overwhelmed by the massive amount of work to do.\n\nOnce you got all your piles to be put away, and the room is free of clutter, then decide where the piled stuff needs to go. Put them away, vaccuum the floor, and move on to the next room. No rush, just little by little.", "I like Chickens_and_Gardens answer, but if anything just listen to music and do it. Once it's done you'll feel better, keep reminding yourself that. If no ones around sing along m8!" ]

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[ "How to prevent your apple charger cord from fraying? Mine already started, and while ideally I would have been able to prevent that, does anyone have a good way to keep it from 'de-sheathing' and fraying even more? On my old macbook charger I wrapped electrical tape, but it didn't help much, just crumbled further down the cable.", "How to prevent your apple charger cord from fraying? Mine already started, and while ideally I would have been able to prevent that, does anyone have a good way to keep it from 'de-sheathing' and fraying even more? On my old macbook charger I wrapped electrical tape, but it didn't help much, just crumbled further down the cable.", "How to prevent your apple charger cord from fraying? Mine already started, and while ideally I would have been able to prevent that, does anyone have a good way to keep it from 'de-sheathing' and fraying even more? On my old macbook charger I wrapped electrical tape, but it didn't help much, just crumbled further down the cable.", "How to prevent your apple charger cord from fraying? Mine already started, and while ideally I would have been able to prevent that, does anyone have a good way to keep it from 'de-sheathing' and fraying even more? On my old macbook charger I wrapped electrical tape, but it didn't help much, just crumbled further down the cable." ]

[ "Try putting a little spring from an old pen around the frayed part and then wrap that in electrical tape. The spring will stabilize that section of cord so it won't wear as much.", "The cables just suck because of friction between the outer rubber and wire shielding materials they use. I have a large 2.5 inch spring for tension relief on mine and it worked for a while, but I can feel the same problem starting immediately after the spring ends. The cables simply can't handle repeated bending. ", "If the apple product is less then 1 year old, apple will replace the usb cable or charger if the wire is fraying for free. You have to put a deposit down, and apple will send you a brand new cable. When apple receives the damaged cable, your deposit will be refunded. https://getsupport.apple.com/", "Heat Shrink. It will not shrink all the way to the cable but twisting it while it is warm should do the trick. Just wear gloves or use a cloth to not burn your fingers. \n\nhttp://imgur.com/r/lifehacks/5wtYGqu" ]

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[ "On average I think we waste about 5+ minutes for every meeting fiddling around with the projectors in our office conference rooms, whats a good way we could reduce this? This is a problem that I believe should be easy to solve, but its been almost impossible for our office to deal with and I'll outline some of the reasons it continues to be an issue below:\n\n* Our office has a mix of (very roughly) 50/50 macs and pcs which means different connectors and steps to you need to take to get projectors working.\n* There are numerous brands of projectors used, so knowledge of how to set one up doesn't transfer to another.\n* Projectors are placed on the table, free to be fiddled around with by anyone.\n* Though there *should* be one projector for each and every conference room, for one reason or another they get moved around a lot.\n* Each room has its cables and projectors labeled for that room (i.e. Room A has cables with a ribbon on each that says \"Room A\" on it), yet cables still get moved around or even disappear.\n\nThe biggest problem though, is that the time between plugging your computer into the projector and getting it to a usable state for the meeting always takes a couple minutes of fiddling and I'm wondering if anyone's figured out a sure-fire way to eliminate that.", "On average I think we waste about 5+ minutes for every meeting fiddling around with the projectors in our office conference rooms, whats a good way we could reduce this? This is a problem that I believe should be easy to solve, but its been almost impossible for our office to deal with and I'll outline some of the reasons it continues to be an issue below:\n\n* Our office has a mix of (very roughly) 50/50 macs and pcs which means different connectors and steps to you need to take to get projectors working.\n* There are numerous brands of projectors used, so knowledge of how to set one up doesn't transfer to another.\n* Projectors are placed on the table, free to be fiddled around with by anyone.\n* Though there *should* be one projector for each and every conference room, for one reason or another they get moved around a lot.\n* Each room has its cables and projectors labeled for that room (i.e. Room A has cables with a ribbon on each that says \"Room A\" on it), yet cables still get moved around or even disappear.\n\nThe biggest problem though, is that the time between plugging your computer into the projector and getting it to a usable state for the meeting always takes a couple minutes of fiddling and I'm wondering if anyone's figured out a sure-fire way to eliminate that.", "On average I think we waste about 5+ minutes for every meeting fiddling around with the projectors in our office conference rooms, whats a good way we could reduce this? This is a problem that I believe should be easy to solve, but its been almost impossible for our office to deal with and I'll outline some of the reasons it continues to be an issue below:\n\n* Our office has a mix of (very roughly) 50/50 macs and pcs which means different connectors and steps to you need to take to get projectors working.\n* There are numerous brands of projectors used, so knowledge of how to set one up doesn't transfer to another.\n* Projectors are placed on the table, free to be fiddled around with by anyone.\n* Though there *should* be one projector for each and every conference room, for one reason or another they get moved around a lot.\n* Each room has its cables and projectors labeled for that room (i.e. Room A has cables with a ribbon on each that says \"Room A\" on it), yet cables still get moved around or even disappear.\n\nThe biggest problem though, is that the time between plugging your computer into the projector and getting it to a usable state for the meeting always takes a couple minutes of fiddling and I'm wondering if anyone's figured out a sure-fire way to eliminate that.", "On average I think we waste about 5+ minutes for every meeting fiddling around with the projectors in our office conference rooms, whats a good way we could reduce this? This is a problem that I believe should be easy to solve, but its been almost impossible for our office to deal with and I'll outline some of the reasons it continues to be an issue below:\n\n* Our office has a mix of (very roughly) 50/50 macs and pcs which means different connectors and steps to you need to take to get projectors working.\n* There are numerous brands of projectors used, so knowledge of how to set one up doesn't transfer to another.\n* Projectors are placed on the table, free to be fiddled around with by anyone.\n* Though there *should* be one projector for each and every conference room, for one reason or another they get moved around a lot.\n* Each room has its cables and projectors labeled for that room (i.e. Room A has cables with a ribbon on each that says \"Room A\" on it), yet cables still get moved around or even disappear.\n\nThe biggest problem though, is that the time between plugging your computer into the projector and getting it to a usable state for the meeting always takes a couple minutes of fiddling and I'm wondering if anyone's figured out a sure-fire way to eliminate that." ]

[ "The most obvious solution (which involves treating the symptom [the need for 5+ minutes of fiddling] and not the cause [inconsistent technology use]) would be simply to show up to where your meeting will take place early so you are prepared to host.", "Install 'permanent' projectors with a computer for each, with a public drop box. Save presentation material to the drop box beforehand.", "I do this on a daily basis working in audio visuals! I have a couple tips.\n\nRemember where the projector should be placed each time with a mark or mental image.\n\nOnly use powerpoint. No keynote. (Unless you use a PC and mac in the following configuration) Use a computer dedicated to uploading presentations to and be sure every now uses the same aspect ratio(4:3 or 16:9). Organize them all in a folder, using a simple labeling method. Cue up all the presentations and minimize the ones you aren't showing, click PowerPoint in the task bar and switch over to the next one.\n\nWhen setting up multiple computers, ensure the ratio of the presentation matches everyone else's (for ease of transition). I use 4:3 aspect ration, and 1024x768 resolution. It's a universal resolution for all laptops and I've encountered the least amount of issues using it.\n\nIf you want more detailed info on switching equipment, logo storage, and such, message me.", "We have a conference room at work with everything set up just the way you need it. The computer is connected to LAN so pulling up files and starting a presentation is a couple of second work. \n\nYou should call a meeting ( a 2 minute one) and tell everyone that projectors, their cables etc... not to be moved?" ]

[ 7, 5, 2, 1 ]

[ "Preventing Hoodies from shrinking Hey LPT, I was wondering if anyone had any advice on how to prevent hoodies from shrinking when washing them, specifically the fabric around the zipper (causing the zipper to become all wavy). As it stands the only course of action I have is to hang my hoodies to allow them to dry, and also to physically stretch the fabric of the arms and beside the zipper when the hoodie is fresh out of the washer. I also only wash on cold.\nAnyways, any other advice would be greatly appreciated! &lt;3", "Preventing Hoodies from shrinking Hey LPT, I was wondering if anyone had any advice on how to prevent hoodies from shrinking when washing them, specifically the fabric around the zipper (causing the zipper to become all wavy). As it stands the only course of action I have is to hang my hoodies to allow them to dry, and also to physically stretch the fabric of the arms and beside the zipper when the hoodie is fresh out of the washer. I also only wash on cold.\nAnyways, any other advice would be greatly appreciated! &lt;3", "Preventing Hoodies from shrinking Hey LPT, I was wondering if anyone had any advice on how to prevent hoodies from shrinking when washing them, specifically the fabric around the zipper (causing the zipper to become all wavy). As it stands the only course of action I have is to hang my hoodies to allow them to dry, and also to physically stretch the fabric of the arms and beside the zipper when the hoodie is fresh out of the washer. I also only wash on cold.\nAnyways, any other advice would be greatly appreciated! &lt;3", "Preventing Hoodies from shrinking Hey LPT, I was wondering if anyone had any advice on how to prevent hoodies from shrinking when washing them, specifically the fabric around the zipper (causing the zipper to become all wavy). As it stands the only course of action I have is to hang my hoodies to allow them to dry, and also to physically stretch the fabric of the arms and beside the zipper when the hoodie is fresh out of the washer. I also only wash on cold.\nAnyways, any other advice would be greatly appreciated! &lt;3", "Preventing Hoodies from shrinking Hey LPT, I was wondering if anyone had any advice on how to prevent hoodies from shrinking when washing them, specifically the fabric around the zipper (causing the zipper to become all wavy). As it stands the only course of action I have is to hang my hoodies to allow them to dry, and also to physically stretch the fabric of the arms and beside the zipper when the hoodie is fresh out of the washer. I also only wash on cold.\nAnyways, any other advice would be greatly appreciated! &lt;3", "Preventing Hoodies from shrinking Hey LPT, I was wondering if anyone had any advice on how to prevent hoodies from shrinking when washing them, specifically the fabric around the zipper (causing the zipper to become all wavy). As it stands the only course of action I have is to hang my hoodies to allow them to dry, and also to physically stretch the fabric of the arms and beside the zipper when the hoodie is fresh out of the washer. I also only wash on cold.\nAnyways, any other advice would be greatly appreciated! &lt;3" ]

[ "Wash in cold, then dry them on \"air dry,\" not a heated dry. Usually this cycle is either called \"air dry\" or \"trumble dry low\" or something like that.\n\nIt takes longer, but mine never shrink. This works for all purely cotton/shrink-prone clothes I've tried it with.", "I think it was Whirlpool who proved it isn't the heat that shrinks cotton, it's the tumbling action, of both washing and drying.\n\nI say wash it by hand in the sink or a tub, wring it out, but don't be brutal, and lay it flat to air dry. If you were impatient, you can blow it dry with a hair drier.", "just do what every college student does, don't wash them ever, and when they are too funky and falling apart toss em\n", "Wash your hoodie. If you've washed it by hand, it will be wetter than if you've washed in a machine (spin cycle)...so to make sure that you don't stretch it out when you hang it to dry,\n1. get a large towel and lay it flat on the floor\n2. put the wet sweater on top\n3. roll it, like a burrito\n4. leave it there for about 10-15 minutes, then hang it (gently, like theslowwonder says)", "Simply don't dry them. Drying them shrinks the fabric and that causes the zipper line to buckle like that. Hang over a rack or by the hood from a door to avoid dents in the shoulders that result from the weight of a damp hoodie on a clothes hanger. \n\nOr if you must, tumble dry on low (or NO heat if your dryer has that option).", "Buy better hoodies. The thicker and better made hoodies I own have been washed weekly and do not shrink." ]

[ 20, 4, 2, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "How to approach a salary negotiation in six months? I am being paid way below the market average for my field; real estate management. \n\nIn 6 months, I’ll be 2 years with the company. During that time, I will ask my boss for my salary to be raised so that it will be within the average. \n\nI have handled a lot of responsibilities that weren’t on my job description when I started. \n\nI got a raise on my 6th month. No more raises after that. \n\nI have two ways on how I plan to have this conversation with my boss and wanted to ask what you guys think is the better approach 🙏\n\n\nAPPROACH 1\nDo a lot of work, accomplish tasks, be proactive and initiate helping the boss more. In 6 months, I’ll tell my boss all the extra things I’ve done and use those as leverage when asking for the raise. This is like, “Here are all the things I’ve accomplished and all the additional work I’ve done even without asking for anything extra. These accomplishments contributed a lot to the growth of the company and now I wanted to have my salary raised so as to reflect the work and accomplishments I’ve done for the company.\n\n*Personally this is the approach I’m leaning towards because it has the element of surprise. I can do all the work in the background and theatrically present this to my boss. This way he’ll be like “Woah yes you’ve done and contributed a lot. You deserve to get what you’re asking”.\n\n\nAPPROACH 2\nHave the conversation with my boss now, enumerate all the things and initiatives I plan to accomplish in 6 months and tell my boss that if I accomplish them in 6 months, he’ll have to raise my salary then.\n\n*This approach for me will put a lot of pressure. Making sure my promises are met on top of doing the existing work I have. \n\n————\n\nLooking forward to hearing your thoughts!", "How to approach a salary negotiation in six months? I am being paid way below the market average for my field; real estate management. \n\nIn 6 months, I’ll be 2 years with the company. During that time, I will ask my boss for my salary to be raised so that it will be within the average. \n\nI have handled a lot of responsibilities that weren’t on my job description when I started. \n\nI got a raise on my 6th month. No more raises after that. \n\nI have two ways on how I plan to have this conversation with my boss and wanted to ask what you guys think is the better approach 🙏\n\n\nAPPROACH 1\nDo a lot of work, accomplish tasks, be proactive and initiate helping the boss more. In 6 months, I’ll tell my boss all the extra things I’ve done and use those as leverage when asking for the raise. This is like, “Here are all the things I’ve accomplished and all the additional work I’ve done even without asking for anything extra. These accomplishments contributed a lot to the growth of the company and now I wanted to have my salary raised so as to reflect the work and accomplishments I’ve done for the company.\n\n*Personally this is the approach I’m leaning towards because it has the element of surprise. I can do all the work in the background and theatrically present this to my boss. This way he’ll be like “Woah yes you’ve done and contributed a lot. You deserve to get what you’re asking”.\n\n\nAPPROACH 2\nHave the conversation with my boss now, enumerate all the things and initiatives I plan to accomplish in 6 months and tell my boss that if I accomplish them in 6 months, he’ll have to raise my salary then.\n\n*This approach for me will put a lot of pressure. Making sure my promises are met on top of doing the existing work I have. \n\n————\n\nLooking forward to hearing your thoughts!", "How to approach a salary negotiation in six months? I am being paid way below the market average for my field; real estate management. \n\nIn 6 months, I’ll be 2 years with the company. During that time, I will ask my boss for my salary to be raised so that it will be within the average. \n\nI have handled a lot of responsibilities that weren’t on my job description when I started. \n\nI got a raise on my 6th month. No more raises after that. \n\nI have two ways on how I plan to have this conversation with my boss and wanted to ask what you guys think is the better approach 🙏\n\n\nAPPROACH 1\nDo a lot of work, accomplish tasks, be proactive and initiate helping the boss more. In 6 months, I’ll tell my boss all the extra things I’ve done and use those as leverage when asking for the raise. This is like, “Here are all the things I’ve accomplished and all the additional work I’ve done even without asking for anything extra. These accomplishments contributed a lot to the growth of the company and now I wanted to have my salary raised so as to reflect the work and accomplishments I’ve done for the company.\n\n*Personally this is the approach I’m leaning towards because it has the element of surprise. I can do all the work in the background and theatrically present this to my boss. This way he’ll be like “Woah yes you’ve done and contributed a lot. You deserve to get what you’re asking”.\n\n\nAPPROACH 2\nHave the conversation with my boss now, enumerate all the things and initiatives I plan to accomplish in 6 months and tell my boss that if I accomplish them in 6 months, he’ll have to raise my salary then.\n\n*This approach for me will put a lot of pressure. Making sure my promises are met on top of doing the existing work I have. \n\n————\n\nLooking forward to hearing your thoughts!", "How to approach a salary negotiation in six months? I am being paid way below the market average for my field; real estate management. \n\nIn 6 months, I’ll be 2 years with the company. During that time, I will ask my boss for my salary to be raised so that it will be within the average. \n\nI have handled a lot of responsibilities that weren’t on my job description when I started. \n\nI got a raise on my 6th month. No more raises after that. \n\nI have two ways on how I plan to have this conversation with my boss and wanted to ask what you guys think is the better approach 🙏\n\n\nAPPROACH 1\nDo a lot of work, accomplish tasks, be proactive and initiate helping the boss more. In 6 months, I’ll tell my boss all the extra things I’ve done and use those as leverage when asking for the raise. This is like, “Here are all the things I’ve accomplished and all the additional work I’ve done even without asking for anything extra. These accomplishments contributed a lot to the growth of the company and now I wanted to have my salary raised so as to reflect the work and accomplishments I’ve done for the company.\n\n*Personally this is the approach I’m leaning towards because it has the element of surprise. I can do all the work in the background and theatrically present this to my boss. This way he’ll be like “Woah yes you’ve done and contributed a lot. You deserve to get what you’re asking”.\n\n\nAPPROACH 2\nHave the conversation with my boss now, enumerate all the things and initiatives I plan to accomplish in 6 months and tell my boss that if I accomplish them in 6 months, he’ll have to raise my salary then.\n\n*This approach for me will put a lot of pressure. Making sure my promises are met on top of doing the existing work I have. \n\n————\n\nLooking forward to hearing your thoughts!", "How to approach a salary negotiation in six months? I am being paid way below the market average for my field; real estate management. \n\nIn 6 months, I’ll be 2 years with the company. During that time, I will ask my boss for my salary to be raised so that it will be within the average. \n\nI have handled a lot of responsibilities that weren’t on my job description when I started. \n\nI got a raise on my 6th month. No more raises after that. \n\nI have two ways on how I plan to have this conversation with my boss and wanted to ask what you guys think is the better approach 🙏\n\n\nAPPROACH 1\nDo a lot of work, accomplish tasks, be proactive and initiate helping the boss more. In 6 months, I’ll tell my boss all the extra things I’ve done and use those as leverage when asking for the raise. This is like, “Here are all the things I’ve accomplished and all the additional work I’ve done even without asking for anything extra. These accomplishments contributed a lot to the growth of the company and now I wanted to have my salary raised so as to reflect the work and accomplishments I’ve done for the company.\n\n*Personally this is the approach I’m leaning towards because it has the element of surprise. I can do all the work in the background and theatrically present this to my boss. This way he’ll be like “Woah yes you’ve done and contributed a lot. You deserve to get what you’re asking”.\n\n\nAPPROACH 2\nHave the conversation with my boss now, enumerate all the things and initiatives I plan to accomplish in 6 months and tell my boss that if I accomplish them in 6 months, he’ll have to raise my salary then.\n\n*This approach for me will put a lot of pressure. Making sure my promises are met on top of doing the existing work I have. \n\n————\n\nLooking forward to hearing your thoughts!" ]

[ "If you've truly been doing quality work, and have actually taken on more responsibility, then do the following:\n1. Research market rates for pay for your current job at other companies, for your level of experience.\n2. If the market rate is higher, make note of this as a number to have in mind to negotiate towards.\n3. Ask your boss for a raise, now, rather than 6 months from now. Gage what your boss' response is like.\n4. If your boss gives you a raise, great!\n5. If your boss gives you a promise for a raise at a certain point in the future, get it in writing.\n6. If your boss waffles/doesn't give you a raise/is non-commital, and the market rate for your job is higher than what you're currently getting, start applying for the same job elsewhere.\n\nLife is too short to be taking on more responsibility without actual increase in pay.", "Both method have you doing unpaid overtime. Neither benefit you. Only your boss.\n\nTell him you want market rate or you have a new position lined up. \n\nIn this market changing jobs is the only way to get a dramatic pay increase. \n\nIf you boss does bump your wages it will be by small ammounts. Probably only just inline or just above inflation.", "Sounds like you’re under appreciated as it is. Do you think doing more work for competitive pay is the best outcome?", "I'd use the 6 months to get the experience and pad my resume. Going above and beyond is up to you. At the review, if you feel the raise offer is unacceptable, you have every right to counter and give evidence why you deserve more. If they don't give it, start sending out that resume. Don't threaten, just do it. If you like where you are at and you get a job offer, let your supervisor know you got the offer and give them the option of beating the offer's salary. If they do, great. If not, take the job offer. If you don't like where you're at, just take the new job.", "#1 pays your boss out and uses up your time and life with nothing coming from your boss saying youd get a raise. Id try to find a way to get some commission, or bonuses of some sort to go above and beyond at minimum." ]

[ 4, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "what are some good ways/places to find decent but relatively cheap paintings or photos to put up in and decorate my house? Not wanting family photos. ", "what are some good ways/places to find decent but relatively cheap paintings or photos to put up in and decorate my house? Not wanting family photos. ", "what are some good ways/places to find decent but relatively cheap paintings or photos to put up in and decorate my house? Not wanting family photos. ", "what are some good ways/places to find decent but relatively cheap paintings or photos to put up in and decorate my house? Not wanting family photos. ", "what are some good ways/places to find decent but relatively cheap paintings or photos to put up in and decorate my house? Not wanting family photos. ", "what are some good ways/places to find decent but relatively cheap paintings or photos to put up in and decorate my house? Not wanting family photos. " ]

[ "Go online. A thrift shop might have a few. Find artist and request a piece to be made for a reasonable price.", "Really depends on what your looking for. If your just looking for general art, thrift shops often have a number of pieces. but are often more on the dated or abstract side. \n\nNow if your a bit artistic, in painting or photography, hanging your own artwork is nice. You don't need overly large frames and again frames can be found at thrift shops for less than $5. And printing a photo can done for around $5-$10 depending on size. \n\nAnother selection if you have geeky interest, would be to get art at conventions. Most media style conventions (anime, comics, movies) have some type of artist alley, and there are tons of artist who have great art and often at reasonable prices ($15-$45) that you can take home and frame. \n\nIf your less than geeky but enjoy sports or cars, you can often find prints of things like race tracks and football stadiums in decent sizes online. These are done by professional photographers for prices based on size (ranging from $30-$200+) that can be mounted by a frame shop if they are large canvas prints. Smaller pieces you can find frames for easily.\n\nAnother avenue would be eBay, there are tons of unmounted canvas and other art knock offs that are sold for less than $100. you could buy a frame for them or have them mounted at a frame shop.", "You can print whatever at photo centers (CVS, Walmart, etc.) whatever you want. Technically you're not allowed to print licensed things but I imagine you could. Or make prints of landscapes and non-people pictures from your phone. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nBuy cheap canvas boards or canvases when they're on sale at craft stores and cover with cheap patterned fabric or paper or google some DIY's for non-painters. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nIf you're crafty, you can usually hammer or hot glue hanging equipment to anything (old book cover, CD albums, etc. that you like. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nBuy cheap thin PVC or a light dowel rod, 2 of the same size, and get a shower curtain online or at a store; a lot of them look like art now a days. Boom, big mural. Alternately, you could do this with any type of fabric by the yard, rugs, tapestries, etc.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nConsider mirrors, fake or real plants, etc. to spruce things up. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nTapestries in general.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nBuy frames. If glass backing, can spray paint or mirror spray paint. If card board, get some card stock or other paper and cut out each size. Press flowers, leaves, other parts of plants in-between. Or book pages or book covers or concert tickets or play programs or whatever you have laying around. Or get a cheap photobox and fill it with memories or other stuff you like or find at a thrift store/garage sale.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nThe clearance section at Earthbound Trading Co often has cheap big/small wall art. It's not elegant, but some are cool.", "There's a lot of people on reddit. Look up some art commission reddits, there will be people who reach out to you and you get whatever you want!", "Offer up & Craigslist. Garage sales are really the best. My whole house is done with GORGEOUS stuff that I have bought for nearly nothing over the years. \n\nMy son and I go to garage sales every Saturday and Sunday morning, it’s fun. Sometimes we score, sometimes we don’t. Either way we had fun together.", "Dollar General and Family Dollar. It’s hit or miss but I have seen large abstract canvas art for $10 that looks as good as what the interior designer hangs in my upscale workplace. And they always have cheap frames and accent pieces that taken by themselves and used creatively look more expensive. If you have a Fred’s in your area that is a decorating on the cheap goldmine." ]

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[ "What to tell family/friends after a serious breakup I recall a LPT someone posted on here awhile ago, basically to the effect \"after a breakup with an S.O., don't speak ill of them to family and friends, just in case you get back together later\". And that makes sense... but what **are** you supposed to say then? Where do you draw the line between explaining and being too harsh?", "What to tell family/friends after a serious breakup I recall a LPT someone posted on here awhile ago, basically to the effect \"after a breakup with an S.O., don't speak ill of them to family and friends, just in case you get back together later\". And that makes sense... but what **are** you supposed to say then? Where do you draw the line between explaining and being too harsh?", "What to tell family/friends after a serious breakup I recall a LPT someone posted on here awhile ago, basically to the effect \"after a breakup with an S.O., don't speak ill of them to family and friends, just in case you get back together later\". And that makes sense... but what **are** you supposed to say then? Where do you draw the line between explaining and being too harsh?", "What to tell family/friends after a serious breakup I recall a LPT someone posted on here awhile ago, basically to the effect \"after a breakup with an S.O., don't speak ill of them to family and friends, just in case you get back together later\". And that makes sense... but what **are** you supposed to say then? Where do you draw the line between explaining and being too harsh?", "What to tell family/friends after a serious breakup I recall a LPT someone posted on here awhile ago, basically to the effect \"after a breakup with an S.O., don't speak ill of them to family and friends, just in case you get back together later\". And that makes sense... but what **are** you supposed to say then? Where do you draw the line between explaining and being too harsh?", "What to tell family/friends after a serious breakup I recall a LPT someone posted on here awhile ago, basically to the effect \"after a breakup with an S.O., don't speak ill of them to family and friends, just in case you get back together later\". And that makes sense... but what **are** you supposed to say then? Where do you draw the line between explaining and being too harsh?", "What to tell family/friends after a serious breakup I recall a LPT someone posted on here awhile ago, basically to the effect \"after a breakup with an S.O., don't speak ill of them to family and friends, just in case you get back together later\". And that makes sense... but what **are** you supposed to say then? Where do you draw the line between explaining and being too harsh?", "What to tell family/friends after a serious breakup I recall a LPT someone posted on here awhile ago, basically to the effect \"after a breakup with an S.O., don't speak ill of them to family and friends, just in case you get back together later\". And that makes sense... but what **are** you supposed to say then? Where do you draw the line between explaining and being too harsh?" ]

[ "I guess you can tell them \"it didn't work out, and can't see myself with her in a relationship, it's not her fault tho, she's a great girl, but we're just not for each other\"\nSomething as the above^", "Be as casual as possible, the worse you make it out to be the worse it will be in the long run. If you draw it out and make it more emotional than it has to be it can change what others think about your ex.", "Q. Why did you guys break up? \n\nA. Well, after spending x amount of time together we feel we both expect different things from life. There have been compromises made on a few aspects in the past, but it just doesn't seem it would work out to each other's benefit in the long run.", "I don't get into those details with anyone unless necessary (one of those \"don't give ex any information about me if they contact you\" type things). I just keep it to, \"Ex and I are no longer together.\" and if asked from there, \"We've agreed to keep that between us.\" I'd possibly include some vague reassurance and whether or not ex and I are at the point of being in social situations together if the person is a mutual friend and worried about being pushed to take sides or making us uncomfortable by inviting us to the same event.\n\nIt's not even really an in case you get back together thing and more drama minimization. Breakups can be bad enough without people gathering dirt to turn to mud. ", "\"Getting to know someone is a process that takes time. We got to know each other well enough to realize that a permanent relationship between us was not going to work. Our priorities/values/interests/plans/etc just don't line up well.\" Then if you do get back together, you can say that you both came to some realizations and did some problem solving and are going to see where it leads.", "Speak about the break up in facts, without any negative value judgements, you can also talk about what worked with you and your partner as reminder, i think this way your listeners will get a full picture of your past relationship, not just the negative aspects. ", "My sister and her ex broke up after a 12-year relationship. She sent out a mass email to close family members explaining what happened and saying that she was happy and just wanted to move on. I actually thought it was a good way of handling it. I think she wanted to avoid showing up at a family gathering and having to field a lot of questions.", "Tell them that you understand it hurts. That it fucking sucks. But it will get better, even if it's not right now. And in the meantime you're there if they need someone to talk to." ]

[ 12, 6, 5, 2, 2, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "What to do when you feel like you are generally failing? For example I've just had my first few exams which determine my university/college course, and I'm pretty sad that I screwed up. I know it's not the end of the world, but how do I overcome these horrible feelings? \nP.S Not just for this situation, but also in general. ", "What to do when you feel like you are generally failing? For example I've just had my first few exams which determine my university/college course, and I'm pretty sad that I screwed up. I know it's not the end of the world, but how do I overcome these horrible feelings? \nP.S Not just for this situation, but also in general. ", "What to do when you feel like you are generally failing? For example I've just had my first few exams which determine my university/college course, and I'm pretty sad that I screwed up. I know it's not the end of the world, but how do I overcome these horrible feelings? \nP.S Not just for this situation, but also in general. ", "What to do when you feel like you are generally failing? For example I've just had my first few exams which determine my university/college course, and I'm pretty sad that I screwed up. I know it's not the end of the world, but how do I overcome these horrible feelings? \nP.S Not just for this situation, but also in general. ", "What to do when you feel like you are generally failing? For example I've just had my first few exams which determine my university/college course, and I'm pretty sad that I screwed up. I know it's not the end of the world, but how do I overcome these horrible feelings? \nP.S Not just for this situation, but also in general. ", "What to do when you feel like you are generally failing? For example I've just had my first few exams which determine my university/college course, and I'm pretty sad that I screwed up. I know it's not the end of the world, but how do I overcome these horrible feelings? \nP.S Not just for this situation, but also in general. ", "What to do when you feel like you are generally failing? For example I've just had my first few exams which determine my university/college course, and I'm pretty sad that I screwed up. I know it's not the end of the world, but how do I overcome these horrible feelings? \nP.S Not just for this situation, but also in general. ", "What to do when you feel like you are generally failing? For example I've just had my first few exams which determine my university/college course, and I'm pretty sad that I screwed up. I know it's not the end of the world, but how do I overcome these horrible feelings? \nP.S Not just for this situation, but also in general. ", "What to do when you feel like you are generally failing? For example I've just had my first few exams which determine my university/college course, and I'm pretty sad that I screwed up. I know it's not the end of the world, but how do I overcome these horrible feelings? \nP.S Not just for this situation, but also in general. ", "What to do when you feel like you are generally failing? For example I've just had my first few exams which determine my university/college course, and I'm pretty sad that I screwed up. I know it's not the end of the world, but how do I overcome these horrible feelings? \nP.S Not just for this situation, but also in general. " ]

[ "I look at failure like this: I just found a way something doesnt work. SO in turn I learned something. Always a forward movement.", "School can quickly shatter your confidence, and one of the big reasons for it is that we often let school define our entire lives. Yes, it takes up a lot of time. Yes, it feels like everything. And when you hit a rough patch at school, it feels like your life is a series of failures.\n\nDo something for you. Take a couple hours out of every week to take care of yourself. When I was in undergrad, I took 18-23 cr", "Smoke too much, cry, threaten to kill myself, eat a whole lot, get some sleep, and then deal with the problem by breaking it down into smaller acheivable goals I can tackle one at a time. I clean my room and take a shower to feel better, maybe buy myself something nice, look at challenges as opportunities and failures as lessons learned. ", "The feeling you have now , all come from the thoughts inside you. If you can orchestrate the thoughts then you control how you feel.\n\nThoughts of failure are very common with everyone. This thought is like a music tent at a festival inside your head, a lot of noise and distracting feelings come from it. Your mission is collapse the tent and stop this feeling of failure.\n\nHow do you do it, start to live in the now. Try to live in what I'm calling \"the super now\". Only care about the next word after this one is!. If anything attacks your mind listen to your breathing. \n\n", "I like to think of it as chances are it won't matter anyway and nothing is really that big of a deal in the long run. You gave it a shot and it didn't work. Like the others have said now you know what you did wrong/what didn't work", "Drink beer and play video games. Also don't do that; go to the library every day after class to study and do the practice questions in the book, use khan academy and the like, start exercising, eat heathily, and above all else ensure proper sleep health. Also smoke weed on weekends.", "Let it be. It's temporary. :)\nWhen forgot about this, I often listen to this guy: http://youtu.be/Ze0-vGa-MQ8 or this guy: http://youtu.be/6y6TEox6ZE0\nGood luck my friend. ", "It feels bad doesn't it? You feel like shit. Maybe I'm not that smart? Maybe I'm just too lazy? I thought I worked hard, why didn't this situation go my way?\n\nTake these shitty feelings. Take all the times you question your self worth and work HARD to never feel like that again. You need to take a look at why this didn't work out. What you did wrong, what you could have done better and DO IT.\n\nFailure will happen again, but if you push yourself, it will be few and far between and you will relish the opportunity to fuck it all up and take those steps to better yourself and learn from failure.\n\nLife sucks but what we do after the fact determines if it will continue to suck.", "It always hurts the most straightaway. You need to get your mind off it for a little while, so whatever might distract you, do that. Reading, doing sport, playing video games - I try things that really consume my attention. After that, talking with someone about it usually helps me, as long as it's someone who tends to be optimistic.", "In the end our biggest failures usually just end up being one small drop in the bucket of life. Yeah, you did badly on the tests, it doesn't look great, but there will be many many many more tests and things will even out eventually. \n\nAlso I watch the vlogbrothers on youtube, get drunk, and sing to my cats." ]

[ 19, 7, 4, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to keep headphones from being pulled out of the device during activities. I work at UPS and I like to listen to music on my phone while I work, but during the few hour shift I have, the headphones are ripped out of my phone multiple times. I would like to just be able to put my phone in my pocket with headphones plugged in and work without having to worry about pulling them out. I don't want to use tape or anything like that because it'll ruin my phone.", "How to keep headphones from being pulled out of the device during activities. I work at UPS and I like to listen to music on my phone while I work, but during the few hour shift I have, the headphones are ripped out of my phone multiple times. I would like to just be able to put my phone in my pocket with headphones plugged in and work without having to worry about pulling them out. I don't want to use tape or anything like that because it'll ruin my phone.", "How to keep headphones from being pulled out of the device during activities. I work at UPS and I like to listen to music on my phone while I work, but during the few hour shift I have, the headphones are ripped out of my phone multiple times. I would like to just be able to put my phone in my pocket with headphones plugged in and work without having to worry about pulling them out. I don't want to use tape or anything like that because it'll ruin my phone.", "How to keep headphones from being pulled out of the device during activities. I work at UPS and I like to listen to music on my phone while I work, but during the few hour shift I have, the headphones are ripped out of my phone multiple times. I would like to just be able to put my phone in my pocket with headphones plugged in and work without having to worry about pulling them out. I don't want to use tape or anything like that because it'll ruin my phone." ]

[ "Get bluetooth headphones. I made the switch years ago. Never went back. No more headphone snagging, and I can charge my phone if needed without having to stop listening.", "Plug in the headphones, grab a small section right above the connection and put it under a rubber band lengthwise over your phone.", "http://www.southee.com/Knots/SlipKnot.jpg\n\n\nWorks well tie that you will pull the knot out before the headphones and be aware that you forgot to take them off", "I don't know of a way to accomplish this without either imparting higher-than-usual wear on the plug of the headphones/earbuds, or using some sort of external thing, like tape, or a case/armband.\n\nIf you put the phone into your pocket with the headphone jack pointing down into the pocket. This way the cord makes an immediate u-turn, and when you do accidentally yank it a little bit it will be trying to pull your phone out of your pocket, which will be massively more difficult than pulling the headphones out of their socket. However, it will be constantly bending the end of the cord, which might accelerate wear on the cord.\n\nThe only other suggestions I have are something adhesive." ]

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[ "How to stop eating sugar. I have always had a sugar tooth and lately its got the best of me such as staying up too late, not having the cleanest teeth, acne, and not a good diet. Every time I get offered it, it is extremely hard to refuse. Is there a good way to stop eating candy/soda without getting tempted? Thank You! ", "How to stop eating sugar. I have always had a sugar tooth and lately its got the best of me such as staying up too late, not having the cleanest teeth, acne, and not a good diet. Every time I get offered it, it is extremely hard to refuse. Is there a good way to stop eating candy/soda without getting tempted? Thank You! ", "How to stop eating sugar. I have always had a sugar tooth and lately its got the best of me such as staying up too late, not having the cleanest teeth, acne, and not a good diet. Every time I get offered it, it is extremely hard to refuse. Is there a good way to stop eating candy/soda without getting tempted? Thank You! ", "How to stop eating sugar. I have always had a sugar tooth and lately its got the best of me such as staying up too late, not having the cleanest teeth, acne, and not a good diet. Every time I get offered it, it is extremely hard to refuse. Is there a good way to stop eating candy/soda without getting tempted? Thank You! ", "How to stop eating sugar. I have always had a sugar tooth and lately its got the best of me such as staying up too late, not having the cleanest teeth, acne, and not a good diet. Every time I get offered it, it is extremely hard to refuse. Is there a good way to stop eating candy/soda without getting tempted? Thank You! ", "How to stop eating sugar. I have always had a sugar tooth and lately its got the best of me such as staying up too late, not having the cleanest teeth, acne, and not a good diet. Every time I get offered it, it is extremely hard to refuse. Is there a good way to stop eating candy/soda without getting tempted? Thank You! ", "How to stop eating sugar. I have always had a sugar tooth and lately its got the best of me such as staying up too late, not having the cleanest teeth, acne, and not a good diet. Every time I get offered it, it is extremely hard to refuse. Is there a good way to stop eating candy/soda without getting tempted? Thank You! ", "How to stop eating sugar. I have always had a sugar tooth and lately its got the best of me such as staying up too late, not having the cleanest teeth, acne, and not a good diet. Every time I get offered it, it is extremely hard to refuse. Is there a good way to stop eating candy/soda without getting tempted? Thank You! ", "How to stop eating sugar. I have always had a sugar tooth and lately its got the best of me such as staying up too late, not having the cleanest teeth, acne, and not a good diet. Every time I get offered it, it is extremely hard to refuse. Is there a good way to stop eating candy/soda without getting tempted? Thank You! " ]

[ "Yes! \n\nThis is a great question.\n\nFirst start by not eating unnecessary sugar. So the yogurt you are eating might have an ass load of sugar. Switch to all natural sugar and add jelly preserves.\n\nNo more soda. You can drink carbonated water.\n\nGo through everything in your diet and don't let anyone add sugar but you.\n\nOnce you are the only one putting sugar in your diet, you can have as much as you want! \n\n:D", "Try eating low carb...like Atkins diet or Keto. For a lot of people, it is easier to cut most carbs and all sugar than it is to just cut sugar. All carbohydrates break down to sugar in your body and your bloodstream doesn't see the difference, but if you can control the sugar-insulin response, it might help control cravings.", "It's a pretty subjective battle. \nFor me personally ditching energy drinks was a huge leap forward. Replacing that with black coffee really brought out what made me so groggy from the drinks in the first place, and that was sugar. Sugar is not a source of energy by any means and the drinks play a huuuge role in the intake. I gradually dropped 10 pounds just from doing that alone. Soda / energy drinks already contain multiple times the recommended daily sugar intake from consuming just 1 serving. For candy you can at least keep track of it a little easier. I stick with soft things like starbursts. This way you can have cold water with it to add to the chewiness and make it feel like you're getting more. It's weird but I love it. ", "Choose something positive to replace it with. Every time you are tempted to have something sweet, force yourself to do 10 push-ups. In the beginning, it will definitely suck. Over a little bit of time, you will form a different habit...a positive one. You may help your health from both ends.", "Try cinnamon with chromium, from the herbal section. It's great for reducing cravings and regulating blood sugar.", "Take vitamins. Sugar cravings are sometimes caused by a lack of vitamins. Try eating fresh fruit, too, your body may actually be craving that.", "Quit drinking soda, candy, coffee, etc. They all have crazy amounts of added sugar. Slowly you will stop craving for sweet foods. In fact, if you eat or drink something with too much sugar in it you're gonna feel like shit.\n\nBasically, force yourself until it becomes a habit. ", "Try fruits. While it does have fructose (different from high fructose) it also contains sucrose, which balances digestion.", "Aside from some other tips like going low carb/keto\n\ntry [stevia](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stevia) it is a natural sweetener that is incredible far sweeter than sugar, while having virtually no calories\n\nI use it in my coffee and have cut out every other source of carbs" ]

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[ "The fan ports on the top my PC case make me nervous. How can I protect against drink spillage without sacrificing airflow? It's right next to my desk and there isn't really a better place for it. My roommate can be kind of clumsy.", "The fan ports on the top my PC case make me nervous. How can I protect against drink spillage without sacrificing airflow? It's right next to my desk and there isn't really a better place for it. My roommate can be kind of clumsy.", "The fan ports on the top my PC case make me nervous. How can I protect against drink spillage without sacrificing airflow? It's right next to my desk and there isn't really a better place for it. My roommate can be kind of clumsy." ]

[ "Some possibilities:\n\n* Lay down the PC sideways.\n* Move PC under your desk, with very minimal exposure to liquids.\n* Ban liquids near PC :-)", "Make a little roof out of a small piece of plexiglass and a few 1 inch dowels. The dowels still allow ample air flow.", "Are your fans in those fan ports or on the back of the PC? If you don't have any on top, then I would suggest covering it up. My Corsair 500r has ports on both sides, but if the top isn't covered (assuming there is no fan) then the fans in the back are just pulling air from the empty ports on top instead of ventilating the box. Closing it off (possibly underneath the mesh) will both benefit airflow and decrease risk of spillage." ]

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[ " I go to an all guys highschool and wanna meet some girls. Not for dating or anything, although that'd be nice, but just friends, some variety would be nice. \n\nHow does a guy approach girls @ a party or in any random place to just be friends? \nWhat's ok/not ok to say to girls? \netc\n \n", " I go to an all guys highschool and wanna meet some girls. Not for dating or anything, although that'd be nice, but just friends, some variety would be nice. \n\nHow does a guy approach girls @ a party or in any random place to just be friends? \nWhat's ok/not ok to say to girls? \netc\n \n", " I go to an all guys highschool and wanna meet some girls. Not for dating or anything, although that'd be nice, but just friends, some variety would be nice. \n\nHow does a guy approach girls @ a party or in any random place to just be friends? \nWhat's ok/not ok to say to girls? \netc\n \n", " I go to an all guys highschool and wanna meet some girls. Not for dating or anything, although that'd be nice, but just friends, some variety would be nice. \n\nHow does a guy approach girls @ a party or in any random place to just be friends? \nWhat's ok/not ok to say to girls? \netc\n \n" ]

[ ">What's ok/not ok to say to girls?\n\n*Hey bby gurl, want some fuk?* \n\nEasiest thing would obviously be to have friends who are friends with girls and/or are pretty outgoing and they'll do all the work to get you acquainted", "I feel your pain homie. I went to an AGHS is Ohio, then moved to Texas and got sent to another, while the twin was allowed to go co-Ed. Gwaybz has it right mate, use your wingmen. \n\nNow when it comes to talking to women, trying to pull that Rico Suavé shit will only label you as the weird looser. What you need to do is \"play to your strengths.\" What are YOU interested in? Work that into a conversation. Now remember, these are high school girls we are talking about, the succubusses of manipulation. You know the \"hot/crazy matrix?\" (YouTube it if you don't). It didn't apply because, until puberty ends, they all be crazy. Quite honestly, not worth your time EXCEPT to work out all the kinks of your nervousness before you graduate and move on to college/the world of work.\n\nDo you have a job? Great way to meet dames. Just don't dip your pen in the company ink. \n\nSo, this is written everywhere on Reddit, and I hinted at it earlier, but you gotta be yourself, mate. Girls are just people too, just with a bunch more wiring. \n\nSo how to approach them? Well, as seen in real life and hinted at in the Harry Potter Series, they always travel in groups. If you are going to approach, you need back up (so you can talk to your intended target and your mate can talk to her friend). This is crucial, especially if you are a bit nervous as instead of talking to one hottie, you'll be talking to two, and you aren't ready for that much attention yet. So, what to talk about? Well, like some of the animal kingdom, women are all about appearance, and love their effort being recognized. FOR THE LOVE OF EVERYTHING HOLY, don't call her pretty. Stellar, intoxicating, tantalizing etc (go watch Dead Poets Society, robin Williams has a great bit about this). Ask her what she's interested in, what she likes to do in her spare time, but don't make it an interview. You need to be R-E-L-A-X-E-D. It's like a 7th sense they have, they can pick up on your nerves. Just strike up a conversation. And DONT be afraid to leave. If she's not that interesting, if it's going sour, excuse yourself, \"it was lovely chatting with you, but I hear the Macarena playing and that's my JAM\". Or ask her to teach you how to \"wobble\". They love teaching guys how to dance.\n\nIf that doesn't work, idk bake her a cake or something.", "I am a girl, and I would feel safe if a guy approached me randomly and give me a compliment that does not have to do with my body, or anything that just gives off the vibe that he wad already checking me out. So an example would be, \"hey, I like your shoes\" ", "You want to immediately make eye contact, don't smile as its a sign of weakness. Wait for her to be about to say something and then cut her off by simply saying \"I'm huge.\" If you declare your intentions from the get go, and she stays, it was fate; but if you huge and she leaves, it was never meant to be.\n\nAlso wad some toilet paper into your butthole to prevent icky farts." ]

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[ "How to not feel queasy around the sight of blood. Also why does this happen? The thought of blood/guts does not bother me at all, it fascinates me. I have no problem seeing blood on tv or even my own blood; it's strictly when I see someone else's. Why does this happen and what can I do to make it stop?", "How to not feel queasy around the sight of blood. Also why does this happen? The thought of blood/guts does not bother me at all, it fascinates me. I have no problem seeing blood on tv or even my own blood; it's strictly when I see someone else's. Why does this happen and what can I do to make it stop?" ]

[ "Start hunting. After he first couple of times you are up to your elbows with blood an entrails, you should be over it. ", "I had a really hard time in school during anatomy classes seeing pictures and diagrams of things without feeling weak. At some point my teacher would always say \"don't worry its just fake!\" even if it wasn't for some reason that completely made my weakness for that stuff go away. Now when I see something bad I just tell my self its just fake and I'm pretty good. \n\nNot sure if it will help others or not." ]

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[ "How do I move to a new city by myself with no friends or relatives living there? I'm almost done college and I always wanted to find a job and pretty much start anew in a different city once I graduate, but how do I find a job at a city on the other side of the country? I think most employers only hire people that is local. \nHow do i find a place to live and get the basic furniture etc?\nWhat are some other stuff I should know about before I do this?\n\nI know there are a lot of people that have done this successfully and they made it sound so easy but is definitely easier said than done. ", "How do I move to a new city by myself with no friends or relatives living there? I'm almost done college and I always wanted to find a job and pretty much start anew in a different city once I graduate, but how do I find a job at a city on the other side of the country? I think most employers only hire people that is local. \nHow do i find a place to live and get the basic furniture etc?\nWhat are some other stuff I should know about before I do this?\n\nI know there are a lot of people that have done this successfully and they made it sound so easy but is definitely easier said than done. ", "How do I move to a new city by myself with no friends or relatives living there? I'm almost done college and I always wanted to find a job and pretty much start anew in a different city once I graduate, but how do I find a job at a city on the other side of the country? I think most employers only hire people that is local. \nHow do i find a place to live and get the basic furniture etc?\nWhat are some other stuff I should know about before I do this?\n\nI know there are a lot of people that have done this successfully and they made it sound so easy but is definitely easier said than done. ", "How do I move to a new city by myself with no friends or relatives living there? I'm almost done college and I always wanted to find a job and pretty much start anew in a different city once I graduate, but how do I find a job at a city on the other side of the country? I think most employers only hire people that is local. \nHow do i find a place to live and get the basic furniture etc?\nWhat are some other stuff I should know about before I do this?\n\nI know there are a lot of people that have done this successfully and they made it sound so easy but is definitely easier said than done. ", "How do I move to a new city by myself with no friends or relatives living there? I'm almost done college and I always wanted to find a job and pretty much start anew in a different city once I graduate, but how do I find a job at a city on the other side of the country? I think most employers only hire people that is local. \nHow do i find a place to live and get the basic furniture etc?\nWhat are some other stuff I should know about before I do this?\n\nI know there are a lot of people that have done this successfully and they made it sound so easy but is definitely easier said than done. ", "How do I move to a new city by myself with no friends or relatives living there? I'm almost done college and I always wanted to find a job and pretty much start anew in a different city once I graduate, but how do I find a job at a city on the other side of the country? I think most employers only hire people that is local. \nHow do i find a place to live and get the basic furniture etc?\nWhat are some other stuff I should know about before I do this?\n\nI know there are a lot of people that have done this successfully and they made it sound so easy but is definitely easier said than done. ", "How do I move to a new city by myself with no friends or relatives living there? I'm almost done college and I always wanted to find a job and pretty much start anew in a different city once I graduate, but how do I find a job at a city on the other side of the country? I think most employers only hire people that is local. \nHow do i find a place to live and get the basic furniture etc?\nWhat are some other stuff I should know about before I do this?\n\nI know there are a lot of people that have done this successfully and they made it sound so easy but is definitely easier said than done. ", "How do I move to a new city by myself with no friends or relatives living there? I'm almost done college and I always wanted to find a job and pretty much start anew in a different city once I graduate, but how do I find a job at a city on the other side of the country? I think most employers only hire people that is local. \nHow do i find a place to live and get the basic furniture etc?\nWhat are some other stuff I should know about before I do this?\n\nI know there are a lot of people that have done this successfully and they made it sound so easy but is definitely easier said than done. ", "How do I move to a new city by myself with no friends or relatives living there? I'm almost done college and I always wanted to find a job and pretty much start anew in a different city once I graduate, but how do I find a job at a city on the other side of the country? I think most employers only hire people that is local. \nHow do i find a place to live and get the basic furniture etc?\nWhat are some other stuff I should know about before I do this?\n\nI know there are a lot of people that have done this successfully and they made it sound so easy but is definitely easier said than done. ", "How do I move to a new city by myself with no friends or relatives living there? I'm almost done college and I always wanted to find a job and pretty much start anew in a different city once I graduate, but how do I find a job at a city on the other side of the country? I think most employers only hire people that is local. \nHow do i find a place to live and get the basic furniture etc?\nWhat are some other stuff I should know about before I do this?\n\nI know there are a lot of people that have done this successfully and they made it sound so easy but is definitely easier said than done. ", "How do I move to a new city by myself with no friends or relatives living there? I'm almost done college and I always wanted to find a job and pretty much start anew in a different city once I graduate, but how do I find a job at a city on the other side of the country? I think most employers only hire people that is local. \nHow do i find a place to live and get the basic furniture etc?\nWhat are some other stuff I should know about before I do this?\n\nI know there are a lot of people that have done this successfully and they made it sound so easy but is definitely easier said than done. ", "How do I move to a new city by myself with no friends or relatives living there? I'm almost done college and I always wanted to find a job and pretty much start anew in a different city once I graduate, but how do I find a job at a city on the other side of the country? I think most employers only hire people that is local. \nHow do i find a place to live and get the basic furniture etc?\nWhat are some other stuff I should know about before I do this?\n\nI know there are a lot of people that have done this successfully and they made it sound so easy but is definitely easier said than done. ", "How do I move to a new city by myself with no friends or relatives living there? I'm almost done college and I always wanted to find a job and pretty much start anew in a different city once I graduate, but how do I find a job at a city on the other side of the country? I think most employers only hire people that is local. \nHow do i find a place to live and get the basic furniture etc?\nWhat are some other stuff I should know about before I do this?\n\nI know there are a lot of people that have done this successfully and they made it sound so easy but is definitely easier said than done. ", "How do I move to a new city by myself with no friends or relatives living there? I'm almost done college and I always wanted to find a job and pretty much start anew in a different city once I graduate, but how do I find a job at a city on the other side of the country? I think most employers only hire people that is local. \nHow do i find a place to live and get the basic furniture etc?\nWhat are some other stuff I should know about before I do this?\n\nI know there are a lot of people that have done this successfully and they made it sound so easy but is definitely easier said than done. ", "How do I move to a new city by myself with no friends or relatives living there? I'm almost done college and I always wanted to find a job and pretty much start anew in a different city once I graduate, but how do I find a job at a city on the other side of the country? I think most employers only hire people that is local. \nHow do i find a place to live and get the basic furniture etc?\nWhat are some other stuff I should know about before I do this?\n\nI know there are a lot of people that have done this successfully and they made it sound so easy but is definitely easier said than done. ", "How do I move to a new city by myself with no friends or relatives living there? I'm almost done college and I always wanted to find a job and pretty much start anew in a different city once I graduate, but how do I find a job at a city on the other side of the country? I think most employers only hire people that is local. \nHow do i find a place to live and get the basic furniture etc?\nWhat are some other stuff I should know about before I do this?\n\nI know there are a lot of people that have done this successfully and they made it sound so easy but is definitely easier said than done. ", "How do I move to a new city by myself with no friends or relatives living there? I'm almost done college and I always wanted to find a job and pretty much start anew in a different city once I graduate, but how do I find a job at a city on the other side of the country? I think most employers only hire people that is local. \nHow do i find a place to live and get the basic furniture etc?\nWhat are some other stuff I should know about before I do this?\n\nI know there are a lot of people that have done this successfully and they made it sound so easy but is definitely easier said than done. ", "How do I move to a new city by myself with no friends or relatives living there? I'm almost done college and I always wanted to find a job and pretty much start anew in a different city once I graduate, but how do I find a job at a city on the other side of the country? I think most employers only hire people that is local. \nHow do i find a place to live and get the basic furniture etc?\nWhat are some other stuff I should know about before I do this?\n\nI know there are a lot of people that have done this successfully and they made it sound so easy but is definitely easier said than done. ", "How do I move to a new city by myself with no friends or relatives living there? I'm almost done college and I always wanted to find a job and pretty much start anew in a different city once I graduate, but how do I find a job at a city on the other side of the country? I think most employers only hire people that is local. \nHow do i find a place to live and get the basic furniture etc?\nWhat are some other stuff I should know about before I do this?\n\nI know there are a lot of people that have done this successfully and they made it sound so easy but is definitely easier said than done. " ]

[ "First off, in this glorious age of the internet, start by researching the hell out of your target destination. You can also set up an apartment share, find a job, etc. online, or at least set up interviews for same. Read the digital version of the local papers, see what's happening there. Google good neighborhoods, help wanted ads, local culture, get your mind moved there first.\n\nYou'll probably want a temporary gig, if possible. Uber driving, pizza tossing, retail, anything to get some flow going on arrival. Also, jobs are a great way to meet people in your income bracket (usually penniless at this stage in life) and get a sense of how they get by. Like you need somebody to explain how the public transportation works, for example. No website conveys the street-level knowledge needed for that.\n\nThe temp gig also works for job interviews and so on, because they're usually part-time. But go into a field you don't mind getting stuck with for two or three years. It can take a really long time to score the kind of job you really want. Trust me. I was in my starter job for 20 years.\n\nAs for the move itself, start small! Bring as little stuff as you need to survive. That makes a huge difference. You can move from place to place, couch surf, even rough it if you have to. I lived in my Ford Escort at one point. Minimal possessions were a big advantage.\n\nAnd like I said above, look online for the basics. You can set up ten apartment viewings over a weekend and be moving in within days. Some places come furnished. \n\nI strongly recommend starting out with a flat share/ house share. You'll get to know your roommates, and their friends, and where they work, shop, party, etc. which is a huge advantage to know early on. \n\nAnd what you give up in privacy you gain from convenience. They're almost always furnished rooms, you don't have to pay all the bills alone, there are house rules so it's easier not to just fall to pieces, etc. and you get instant social scene. Just go for a short-term deal so if you don't like some aspect of the situation you can leave without penalty.\n\nAnother great start is to look right here on R", "I'll be doing the same thing here pretty soon and just got a transfer to another location in a new state through a pretty large company. I plan on acquiring furniture at thrift stores and whatnot. I'll be living cheaply and on my own, but that's half the adventure. Just know there are others in your shoes with the same plans!", "I live in an RV trailer. Being that RV living is very inexpensive, if you play it right and are lucky and knowledgeable enough to avoid major repairs, it is much less difficult to save several months worth of living expenses vs renting an apartment. My last RV spot was on 2.5 acres with full hookups for $300 a month. Of course, I'm around 25 miles away from a major city and 10 miles from the closest town. \nMy plan was to tow my house somewhere, have the money to cover living for a few months until I could find my job. I'm going to continue trailering it until I've found where I want to be and buy property and build a house. Of course, you could also find your place, get a job, rent an apartment or house, and sell the RV for the extra cash. Or keep it for travel. \nRV life isn't for everyone. To keep it inexpensive, you must do your own repairs. You have to deal with emptying and cleaning holding tanks. You have to keep an eye on your propane level so your stove and oven work. Even more so if you are running propane for furnace, water heater, and fridge. You have to be comfortable in a small space, because even the largest of trailers are still smaller than most of the smallest apartments. It's a whole different world than living in a structure where you don't worry about water, sewer, and power. It can be a great adventure or a horrible nightmare. Thankfully, mine is a great adventure. Plus, I live in a state with legal weed and trailers HotBox real quick.\n", "I just want to say that this can be a really emotionally hard process, especially feeling isolated away from your social network. Friendships will hopefully come with time, but in the meantime know that:\n1) it's totally normal to feel lonely in this scenario and\n2) your friends and family who haven't made a similar transition in their lives might not really be able to empathize with how hard it can be", "6 months ago I moved from New England to Texas for a job offer my girlfriend got down here. She got the job through good networking at her college, I would highly recommend using any job placement system your college has and tell any of the faculty you know well that you are looking to relocate. You will be surprised how many have friends in other cities that might be able to help you out. Don't feel like you're bothering people asking them this stuff either, people enjoy it because it makes them feel important. And feel free to start applying for jobs now, many employers are fine with doing Skype interviews and will hire people who need to relocate, some will even help you move! ", "You want to use a good roommate finding website. You'll end up finding great friends that way and kickstart your social life. \n", "Save money for a while, until you don't have to worry about anything and put that towards your move. After that, well, you get some boxes, and some duct tape. Put your possessions into said boxes, and close them using the duct tape. Label said boxes using a sharpie, then distribute them into your car in a well organized manner. Say to yourself: \"ok, all packed.\" Get in your car, put your foot down, and drive until you get to the new city. At that point, you'll be local. Change your resume, and then start applying for jobs. That's how I did it! Easy peasy.", "Research your destination. Coffee shops are how I get to know my town - ultimately you end up making friends in the places you are most comfortable. Have a place to live before you get there, and have financial padding (especially if you're moving cross-country and -especially- if you're without other financial help). Having a job lined up before you get there, though difficult, is a valuable thing. Have enough saved back to leave and go back home, just in case it becomes necessary. Pack light.\n\nTake the pessimistic view when planning for big things like this - what can happen, will happen, and you'll need a plan. As someone who moved 2,500 miles away from home to a city with no connections at 19, have a contingency for everything. It's an exciting prospect, definitely, but also a serious undertaking that should not be taken for granted. It can become very sink or swim, and you're going to want life vests.\n\nI cannot emphasize the importance of preparation and planning enough. Have a plan for literally anything that you see being a problem, as well as the things you don't. Everything you do now to prepare makes it that much easier to transition once you arrive. This is usually going to involve resources (i.e. having enough saved back for a month's rent in case you don't find a job soon, having enough for a plane ticket back, etc.).\n\nNot to discourage, though - some of the best experiences I ever had were because of this decision. I also learned a lot, and became much more independent. It's a valuable experience, just take precautions. It's easy to end up homeless if you make the wrong mistakes. \n\n", "My first suggestions relates to your resume. \nWhen I was preparing to graduate from college I was sending my resume to companies in Colorado and Texas. I found that removing my address from my resume helped a lot with getting my foot in the door. \nSeconds if you're in a fraternity/sorority they have national groups on facebook/linkedin where you can post looking for a roommate etc. \nWhen you travel for an interview take a little bit longer to visit apartments in the area that you've found through research prior to traveling for the interview. That way if you get the job you can move forward quickly. \nIf you have student loans or debt I highly suggest staying with family until you find a job (if you're able to) and then doing your best to find a roommate. \nLastly, join a gym! I have found crossfit gyms to have a good inclusive environment, including some yoga studios, and barre, gyms. But CF has definitely been the most friendly of the gyms I have frequented. \n\nGood luck!", "Make friends with local natives. They will know a lot of people for socializing and networking, and they will know what's what. It will make you feel at-home quick.", "Just go. I moved 1700 miles from any friends family or a job. Just go and see what happens. It's ok to be scared.", "It sounds simple, but if you start with your end goal, then work backwards, it will make the process seem less daunting. Like say \"I want to move to X-city\" \n1- need apartment \n1a - get on the internet (craigslist, kijiji etc) Maybe a roommate would be good, they will know lots of locals and they will probably have furniture and dishes \n2b - ikea ships everywhere. \n\n2 -need job\n2a - how is my resume? whats the job market in my field?\n\n3 - need friends \n3a - join a sports team, like a fun volleyball or chess club or whatever sport/game interests you. \n3b - is there a local, new comers meet up? sometimes at a pub or library they have these events. Check local papers and event boards online. \n\nThen have sub lists on where you are in the process. Keep a note book with everything. Go old school, dont make lists on the computer, use a notebook, you will feel more accomplished as you cross things off. \n\nI have done this type of move a couple of times..... the experience will make you a stronger person and the challenge will make you more confidant in yourself :) ", "It depends on what kind of job you'll be looking for, but in this day and age, it's almost easier to find something that is not local to you. \n\nWhen I got my college degree, I lived in New York. My first job was in a small town in Pennsylvania. I was there for two years, and then moved for another job to Los Angeles. I'm currently in the process to San Francisco Bay Area for yet another job.\n\nI actually wish I could stay in one place for longer, but I have to go where the opportunities are. \n\nIf you don't have a preference of where to go, and this is your first job, I would recommend going to either a big city where you could live with a roommate and save money, or go somewhere where it's cheap to live. This way you can build up some savings over time. No matter what, don't move to places that are unsafe. Research violent crime statistics before you go. \n\nAlso, don't settle down too quickly. I got married to a woman who knows we need to follow our opportunities to wherever they may be, but I did this consciously. Had I been with someone who didn't want to leave their home town, my life right now would be shit. ", "It depends a bit where you are as well and what you want to do as well.\n\nI've moved from Paris (France) to London (UK) about 4 and a half years ago. It is the best decision in my life.\n\n\nMy Situation :\n\nMy situation is probably easier than yours. I graduated in 2011 in an Engineering school in France. I've took a week off in London with the money I've saved during my internship. After 4 days, I've found that I would be better in London than Paris (job/salary wise). I've put my CV on a job searching website. Got an interview the next day. Got the job the day after. Went back to France to have holidays with my Friends (and saying goodbye). Went back to London and survived the first month eating pasta. I'm now an senior developer in another company.\n\nLPT : \n\n- From the 3 companies I've done (one in an marketing agency, one in a big company, now in an startup), people don't care if you're local or not, I want skills and passion. We hired mored foreigners that proved us that they love what they do than \"local\" people that were unskilled/non-passionnate. Explain correctly why you want to move on the other side of the country on the first interview if asked to. Be prepared to come with a good reason. \n\n- Save, Save, Save : Before going to London I had 5k Euros in savings from working during my uni. You will need to survive a month without an income (rent + food). \n\n- Like /u/yobsmezn said : the things to secure first are Money, Food and Shelter. The best thing to do is to pay bills the day after you got paid. This way you can budget better. \n\n- Nothing will go according to plan. Plan this in your head : How can you survive if everything fucks up? Can you easily find a job (if you got fired) to pay for food and rent ? What can I do if the other tenants are horrendous? Always have money to buy a ticket back to your parents. \n\n- You can rent a place unfurnished or furnished. The later is better for your first time moving out but be prepared that not everything is included. For me bedding, cooking stuff were not included\n\n- Bring some TP with you, It might save your life.\n\n- Go out of your comfort zone.\n\n- Don't slack on Reddit during work time, especially if you are a Junior. \n\n- Free stuff is always better. Saw a ok-ish couch on the street that is being trashed? You now own a couch. People moving out will often give/sell big items for a small fee. I bought a IKEA table for 5 pounds which I'm still using.\n\n- Your future partner can work as the same place as yours (I've met mine on my second job here). Know the limit between professional and personal life (often at the office doors). ", "I always moved to new places BECAUSE of the job. Apply for the jobs you want that are a good fit wherever they happen to be. This allows you to be ambitious and play the field, really narrow your search to the jobs that are looking specifically for your skillset. Once you've got the job lined up, it's easier to get everything else sorted out because (1) you know how much money you'll be making and (2) you'll have a starter network of work buddies. Basic camping equipment works well in just about any situation until you can start populating your new place with furniture and proper cookware. Although I can afford nice new furniture now, I still have the habit of prowling craigslist for the free furniture and picking up good looking stuff from the curbs of fancy neighborhoods (it helps to have a car/truck with some trunk space if you care about furniture) whenever I moved to a new place but to each their own.", "Check craigslist for temporary sublets because that's probably the most affordable short term solution while you are looking for a more permanent place. \n\nUse google maps to familiarise yourself with the general geography of the city and the public transport system (unless you know you'll definitely be taking a car with you). \n\nDeprioritise decorating your place and buying furniture until you've got a job. The most important thing is to get documentation of proof of residence. Your boss is not going to come round to dinner on your first day. \n\nBefore you depart, identify the locations of the businesses you are likely to be applying to, and try to target a location that is flexibly convenient for a number of options (as well as being fairly safe). \n\nDo you have a cr", "For moving to LA just take the greyhound bus. When you arrive a guy with a mustache will say he can make you a movie star, get in his van.", "Did that 5 years ago, but on the other side of the world.\n\nI had a passport for my destination, so booked a ticket and just went.\n\nYou'll find yourself quite resourceful when you need to be.", "Easy. You hire somebody to help you love since nobody is going to help you. Once you're there, get a good gaming computer and go to work to home to your computer and die. " ]

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[ "How to stop your shoes from farting. Just got two new pairs of shoes and they both squeak every time I take a step. I've been wearing them for 2 weeks now and both are still squeaking.", "How to stop your shoes from farting. Just got two new pairs of shoes and they both squeak every time I take a step. I've been wearing them for 2 weeks now and both are still squeaking.", "How to stop your shoes from farting. Just got two new pairs of shoes and they both squeak every time I take a step. I've been wearing them for 2 weeks now and both are still squeaking.", "How to stop your shoes from farting. Just got two new pairs of shoes and they both squeak every time I take a step. I've been wearing them for 2 weeks now and both are still squeaking.", "How to stop your shoes from farting. Just got two new pairs of shoes and they both squeak every time I take a step. I've been wearing them for 2 weeks now and both are still squeaking." ]

[ "I just got a pair of Clark's originals, they weren't cheap and a week into wearing them my left foot was trumping away down the echoey corridors at work, which I only ever walk down to go to the restroom so I wasn't appreciating it. Thankfully a week later (after wearing them daily) their footular flatulence has subsided. My advice is to wear your shoes a lot (preferably in noisy places) and whatever slight rubbing is causing the squeak will hopefully do one.", "The superstition for that is that you haven't paid for them, and they'll continue to squeak until you have. So pay your cr", "Walk in them. I bought a pair of dress shoes that were particularly bad - more on the left than right. About 2miles per day of walks for 10 days broke them in. ", "Stop feeding your shoes beans and dairy. Most are lactose intolerant and beans don't help. Shoes do love chili but it makes them fart so much.", "If leather, warm in a 125-150 degree oven for 20 minutes, take out and put right on your feet and wear around for 1-2 hours straight. " ]

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[ "Negotiating a salary for a first job straight out of a university Whether it's with a new company or one that is offering a position after an internship. How can I do my best to make sure that I don't get low-balled and don't seem out of line by asking for a huge amount of money?", "Negotiating a salary for a first job straight out of a university Whether it's with a new company or one that is offering a position after an internship. How can I do my best to make sure that I don't get low-balled and don't seem out of line by asking for a huge amount of money?", "Negotiating a salary for a first job straight out of a university Whether it's with a new company or one that is offering a position after an internship. How can I do my best to make sure that I don't get low-balled and don't seem out of line by asking for a huge amount of money?", "Negotiating a salary for a first job straight out of a university Whether it's with a new company or one that is offering a position after an internship. How can I do my best to make sure that I don't get low-balled and don't seem out of line by asking for a huge amount of money?", "Negotiating a salary for a first job straight out of a university Whether it's with a new company or one that is offering a position after an internship. How can I do my best to make sure that I don't get low-balled and don't seem out of line by asking for a huge amount of money?", "Negotiating a salary for a first job straight out of a university Whether it's with a new company or one that is offering a position after an internship. How can I do my best to make sure that I don't get low-balled and don't seem out of line by asking for a huge amount of money?" ]

[ "Know your value before you are put into a position to 'name your number'.\n\nYou will get told stuff like 'never be the first to say a number' or 'say way more than you think' which just isn't always good practical advice. It's great if the other side can start things off so you don't underestimate your worth, but it doesn't always work that way. The best way to not end up working for less than you are worth is to estimate how much you are worth to a company ahead of time, and understand this is an uncertain process on both sides with a range of reasonable answers. Naturally you want to be on the higher end of that range.\n\nYou can figure this out a number of ways, none of which are particularly accurate, so try a few. Other current job offers for similar work in the same area are by far the most valuable - these are 'hard' comparable as they can be explicitly relayed to HR/hiring managers and generally carry the most weight. Beyond that you start getting fuzzier - employment statistics by your career's professional body, knowledge of other people in similar situations at the company you are negotiating with, etc. Websites like glassdoor can also be helpful, provided you recognize these are largely internet polls and are not necessarily accurate. It is generally not advised to relay numbers from glassdoor as a hard comparable.\n\nOnce you get a number out there, it's also good to have a concise list of points as to why you are worth that value in the event you need to defend it. Immediately out of school this is going to be difficult as you almost certainly don't have any hard professional results that are relevant, so focus on soft qualifications (fast learner demonstrated by ..., hard worker ..., etc). ", "I had this exact same dilemma a few months back. The company I work for offered me an internship with a possible position. \n\nAfter the internship I got a job offer that required me to relocate to another city within the same state. I did my research on my offered position by talking to 3-4 others that worked with my company to get a sense of what kind of salary range they start at. The internship helped me connecting with them. Afterwards I checked online to see what the salary range was within my area and the new area I would be moving to. I decided to ask for a little over what I wanted and luckily ended up getting only 1k below my asking. \n\nHope this info helps and good luck. ", "In addition to what others have said, a good phrase for when they ask you how much you think you're worth is, \"I think you're in a better position to tell me what you think I'm worth to the company\". IME helps to get the interviewer to give the first figure so you don't run the risk of lowballing yourself.", "Similar to other advice here, allow them to make the offer. By any means don't allow yourself to be cornered into giving a figure for a first job. If they really press you for a desired salary, say you are negotiable and can discuss salary if a job is offered. This shows that you're more focused on he interview as opposed to chasing a desired salary as someone new to the workforce. \n\nWhen you get the offer, no matter how you feel, ask how they calculated that figure. \n\nYou may be told it's a standard entry-level salary, which then you can ask about any relevant experience you have and if that exceeds their typical entry level employee. They may also give a list of criteria to calculate an offer and you can present counter points to their evaluation if needed. \n\nBut like others here have said, a previous offer in your pocket is leverage. You can be bold and risk them rescinding the job offer entirely, or use it to show another company is able to pay more and see if they have the same evaluation of your talent, especially if it's a competitor.\n\nBest advice I can give: be humble but firm. A lot of recent grads in the last few years want lots of cash for no work experience. Internships are great, but are more of an extra-curricular in some respects. It just shows scholastic aptitude and the ability to show up to work even if you're not compensated. But it does show interest in your career, which does carry weight for an entry level job. \n\nGood luck!\n\nSource: Former HR that did salary level offers and current manager delivering the offer. ", "I'm a manager that has interviewed and hired a good amount of people. If someone straight out of college tried negotiating with me (we offer a competitive starting salary), I would most likely be turned off, unless I really liked the person, and would consider pulling the offer all together.", "I don't think you get any negotiating power with an internship. Anyways the idea of an internship is to get your foot in the door, give you practical experience, and open some connections, all in a brief period of time (3-6 months). You don't negotiate there unless they're offering minimum wage in which case you might be bothered to ask for slightly more. But just remember that you're more than expendable at that point." ]

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[ "Preventing sore feet and lower back when at an amusement park on your feet for 6+ hours. Having endured a 6+ hour trip to Universal Studios Halloween Horror Nights. Standing in line, repeated start/ stop walking and uncomfortable walkways definitely took it's toll (and i'm not overweight).\n\nI was just wondering if there were any posture tips or recommendations for shoes/ insoles or something to have for next time.", "Preventing sore feet and lower back when at an amusement park on your feet for 6+ hours. Having endured a 6+ hour trip to Universal Studios Halloween Horror Nights. Standing in line, repeated start/ stop walking and uncomfortable walkways definitely took it's toll (and i'm not overweight).\n\nI was just wondering if there were any posture tips or recommendations for shoes/ insoles or something to have for next time.", "Preventing sore feet and lower back when at an amusement park on your feet for 6+ hours. Having endured a 6+ hour trip to Universal Studios Halloween Horror Nights. Standing in line, repeated start/ stop walking and uncomfortable walkways definitely took it's toll (and i'm not overweight).\n\nI was just wondering if there were any posture tips or recommendations for shoes/ insoles or something to have for next time.", "Preventing sore feet and lower back when at an amusement park on your feet for 6+ hours. Having endured a 6+ hour trip to Universal Studios Halloween Horror Nights. Standing in line, repeated start/ stop walking and uncomfortable walkways definitely took it's toll (and i'm not overweight).\n\nI was just wondering if there were any posture tips or recommendations for shoes/ insoles or something to have for next time.", "Preventing sore feet and lower back when at an amusement park on your feet for 6+ hours. Having endured a 6+ hour trip to Universal Studios Halloween Horror Nights. Standing in line, repeated start/ stop walking and uncomfortable walkways definitely took it's toll (and i'm not overweight).\n\nI was just wondering if there were any posture tips or recommendations for shoes/ insoles or something to have for next time.", "Preventing sore feet and lower back when at an amusement park on your feet for 6+ hours. Having endured a 6+ hour trip to Universal Studios Halloween Horror Nights. Standing in line, repeated start/ stop walking and uncomfortable walkways definitely took it's toll (and i'm not overweight).\n\nI was just wondering if there were any posture tips or recommendations for shoes/ insoles or something to have for next time." ]

[ "I recommend that you get out and exercise more often. Take long walks to strengthen your legs and feet. Also, pain relievers during your long day of \"fun\" at the amusement park will work wonders.", "My wife and I are frequent visitors to theme parks & zoos. Here are some tricks we've developed.\n\n1) Good shoes. Insoles help if you need them. Remember, shoes don't last forever, no matter what anyone tells you, and most people wear them far too long. Runners wear theirs for about 500~ miles and then swap them out. That equates to about 1 'season.' For a normal person, that's about a year in the same set. Basically, don't wear old shoes.\n\n2) Don't have too much crap on your back. Backpacks/purses, etc. The more you have on, the more it stresses you. The more you carry, etc. A light backpack that you can swap between you, which you can wear on both shoulders and is evenly centered down the spine is a godsend. Someplace to store your gear.\n\n3) Take breaks. Every couple hours. Doesn't have to be long, just get off your feet. Whether it's the ride itself or to grab a drink/food or whatever. Just something. Wife and I always make sure to do something between rides. Finish a ride, grab a drink, hit the bathroom, sit and talk for a minute, whatever. Take an extended break about halfway through for a meal break if you can. Get some 'fuud' in you. Walking around burns a lot of energy, and the food helps. I've found alternating between sodas and water helps as well.", "I'm not sure about the back pain, but when I was in college I took a trip to Boston with my friends. I walked for hours each day in a pair of Converse. I didn't realize until that week how much arch support is essential to preventing sore feet. Get some shoes with great arch support OR buy some Dr. Scholl's (pads?) for your shoes. I chose the latter, and I found INSTANT relief.", "I'm a waitress, I work 2 or 3 shifts of 14 hours, plus a few other 6-7 hour shifts each week. What works for me is wearing MBT shoes. Those are the ones they call \"rocker\" shoes, but not just any brand will do. The MBT's are incredibly well cushioned. However, you need to be already used to wearing them before you do this, because they are designed to exercise your legs, and your muscles will be sore until you get used to them. \nMy other tip is to avoid foods that cause inflammation for a few days beforehand, and the day of your visit. No processed grains, sugar, etc. Basically, eat Paleo for a few days before. ", "I'm late to this thread but we just survived a week at Disney pushing 2 preschoolers in a beast of a double stroller. My husband is overweight and out of shape (sorry hon!) and has plantar fasciitis. And we both wore Crocs flip flops the entire time and felt awesome. Their flip flops are way less God awful than their clogs. Our plan was to alternate our Crocs with well broken-in sneakers halfway through the day but I never wore my sneakers once. The men's version we bought is the Modi (? I think) and the women's are called Capri. Plus if it rains or you go on a water ride, they dry out super quick. Hth!", "I started wearing \"barefoot\" minimalist shoes (no, not the ones with toes) all the time. And I got a standing desk. My foot arches are incredibly strong and I can stand for close to eight hours at a time with minimal breaks. I actually get antsy when I have sit for an extended period of time after work.\n\nTL;DR: Training.\n" ]

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[ "How do you tell the difference between an expensive product because the name and an expensive product because of the quality? There are some things worth buying the more expensive version of because they last longer. For example, from my experience buying IKEA furniture ends up costing me more in the end because of the poor quality. I just end up replacing it with nicer furniture that lasts way longer. However, I don't to spend 4x to 5x as much just for a brand.\n\nTL:DR - I want to only purchase the more expense version of a product if it's better quality. How do I tell when looking at expensive things? ", "How do you tell the difference between an expensive product because the name and an expensive product because of the quality? There are some things worth buying the more expensive version of because they last longer. For example, from my experience buying IKEA furniture ends up costing me more in the end because of the poor quality. I just end up replacing it with nicer furniture that lasts way longer. However, I don't to spend 4x to 5x as much just for a brand.\n\nTL:DR - I want to only purchase the more expense version of a product if it's better quality. How do I tell when looking at expensive things? ", "How do you tell the difference between an expensive product because the name and an expensive product because of the quality? There are some things worth buying the more expensive version of because they last longer. For example, from my experience buying IKEA furniture ends up costing me more in the end because of the poor quality. I just end up replacing it with nicer furniture that lasts way longer. However, I don't to spend 4x to 5x as much just for a brand.\n\nTL:DR - I want to only purchase the more expense version of a product if it's better quality. How do I tell when looking at expensive things? ", "How do you tell the difference between an expensive product because the name and an expensive product because of the quality? There are some things worth buying the more expensive version of because they last longer. For example, from my experience buying IKEA furniture ends up costing me more in the end because of the poor quality. I just end up replacing it with nicer furniture that lasts way longer. However, I don't to spend 4x to 5x as much just for a brand.\n\nTL:DR - I want to only purchase the more expense version of a product if it's better quality. How do I tell when looking at expensive things? ", "How do you tell the difference between an expensive product because the name and an expensive product because of the quality? There are some things worth buying the more expensive version of because they last longer. For example, from my experience buying IKEA furniture ends up costing me more in the end because of the poor quality. I just end up replacing it with nicer furniture that lasts way longer. However, I don't to spend 4x to 5x as much just for a brand.\n\nTL:DR - I want to only purchase the more expense version of a product if it's better quality. How do I tell when looking at expensive things? " ]

[ "The short answer: experience\n\nThe longer answer: find someone who works with or has a lot of experience with said products\n\nWant to know kitchen cookware? Go ask someone who spends hours in the kitchen each day. Car tires? Talk to your mechanic. Dishwashers? Talk to your local (non-chain) appliance company. Find experts who have experience and pick their brains. \n\nOne of the most helpful things is being able to compare like products. If you've never shopped for or owned a couch before, you have no basis from which to begin. But, if you've had five different couches, you begin to see what's good / bad from each one. And the more you see, (theoretically) the more you're aware of the pros/cons of each one.\n\nOnline shopping can be tricky, but in-store shopping used to be the best way to go: experts could tell you the ins/outs of products. Now, it's often a nobody who's running the \"tools\" section at your neighborhood big-box store and has no idea what they're talking about.\n\nTo more directly answer your question, a lot comes down to build quality and design. Additionally, recognize that economics plays a role in prices. Beats headphones? They're $200 because you're willing to pay for it, not because it costs $180 to manufacture. But they've also got a lot more engineering than the $2 ebay ones do.", "Best advice I can give is: just do your research before making a decision. Reading reviews from different sources is typically where I start, and sometimes end.", "Depends on the product, but in the case of furniture, handmade often beats manufactured. If a product gets advertised, you pay for the cost of the advertisement. Avoid stuff made in China or third world factory. Look for antiques, stuff were often made sturdier back then. I have a 1930 flip toaster that still work and toast faster then today's ones. ", "You might try the Consumer Reports Buying Guide at the library. I used it to look at different vacuums. It will rate a number of different factors relative to the categorical item.", "For stuff like pot and pans, look for a life long free guarantee and avoid anything with plastic handles (one of my friend discovered that the pan was guaranteed but not the plastic handle, weird). " ]

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[ "How do you approach your boss with required structural changes / project implementations that take away from short term revenue / growth but ultimately are better for the company long term? ", "How do you approach your boss with required structural changes / project implementations that take away from short term revenue / growth but ultimately are better for the company long term? ", "How do you approach your boss with required structural changes / project implementations that take away from short term revenue / growth but ultimately are better for the company long term? ", "How do you approach your boss with required structural changes / project implementations that take away from short term revenue / growth but ultimately are better for the company long term? ", "How do you approach your boss with required structural changes / project implementations that take away from short term revenue / growth but ultimately are better for the company long term? " ]

[ "You have to make a business use case showing an ROI. If they take the short term hit, how long until your changes realize their potential? Remember cash flow is of utmost importance to most businesses. ", "I manage a $25 million a year budget, your office also probably has a business manager/ finance officer like me. Find that person and explain to them the situation, they can always call a meeting and pitch it like they stumbled upon this and worked with you to put together the information if you are worried about any sort of reprisals or something. The finance people will usually favor long term savings over band aid solutions.", "Tell your boss straight up.\n\nIt's inevitable that companies must make short term sacrifices to prosper in the long term. Just make sure you add emphasis to explaining the potential future benefits.", "I just heard a fantastic podcast about this. The podcast is \"the Jordan Harbinger show\" and it's the episode titled \"The Power of Moments and how to Create them\"", "Hi Boss, I have some ideas that may take away from short term revenue growth, but I believe they're ultimately better for the company long term." ]

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[ "How to keep a room cool in the summer heat. I have a room that unfortunately receives no type of beneficial ventilation. I could open the windows, but ultimately it does no justice. I do have a couple of fans but I do not own an AC. Reason being because here in Puerto Rico, electricity bills are through the roof. Anyone out there has a tip to make my room cooler?", "How to keep a room cool in the summer heat. I have a room that unfortunately receives no type of beneficial ventilation. I could open the windows, but ultimately it does no justice. I do have a couple of fans but I do not own an AC. Reason being because here in Puerto Rico, electricity bills are through the roof. Anyone out there has a tip to make my room cooler?", "How to keep a room cool in the summer heat. I have a room that unfortunately receives no type of beneficial ventilation. I could open the windows, but ultimately it does no justice. I do have a couple of fans but I do not own an AC. Reason being because here in Puerto Rico, electricity bills are through the roof. Anyone out there has a tip to make my room cooler?", "How to keep a room cool in the summer heat. I have a room that unfortunately receives no type of beneficial ventilation. I could open the windows, but ultimately it does no justice. I do have a couple of fans but I do not own an AC. Reason being because here in Puerto Rico, electricity bills are through the roof. Anyone out there has a tip to make my room cooler?", "How to keep a room cool in the summer heat. I have a room that unfortunately receives no type of beneficial ventilation. I could open the windows, but ultimately it does no justice. I do have a couple of fans but I do not own an AC. Reason being because here in Puerto Rico, electricity bills are through the roof. Anyone out there has a tip to make my room cooler?" ]

[ "Open windows, but keep shades closed. Also a simple box fan costs an extremely little amount of electricity per hour. I think 1-2 cents. Circulating air feels better. Also, constantly drinking ice cold water and going to the bathroom will keep your body as cool as possible.\n\nLet me explain what I mean by \"ice cold water\". I don't mean cold water with some ice cubes in it. Fill a glass with water, almost to the very top. Put the glass in your freezer. Wait 15 minutes. Look at the water. If you see ice forming on the top of the water, pull it out of the freezer. If you don't see that yet, keep it in an additional 15 minutes. Eventually, your water will be extremely cold but not yet frozen. It's quite a treat, and I know no one that does the same as I do. It's quite good.", "Open two windows, preferably on opposite walls. Put a box fan in each window, one blowing air out and one blowing air in. Try to keep the gaps between the fans and the windows/window frames as air tight as possible to get the best efficiency out of this system. This will constantly circulate the air and make it feel cooler. If there are a lot of pollutants or allergens in your immediate area, try placing some cheese cloth or other thinly woven fabric around the fan blowing air in; it will act as an air filter. This setup will also work for windows on adjacent walls, rather than windows directly across from one another, but not quite as effectively. You can also use this method for multiple rooms by opening all the doors and using multiple fans on either side of an apartment or floor of a house to increase circulation.\n\nIf you have a predictable breeze in your area, use that to your advantage. You may not even need to use fans if you can open windows and take advantage of the breeze.\n\nI don't know much about Puerto Rico, but if you have any Walmart style stores, many of them have \"No Questions Asked\" return policies. During college in PA, where almost none of the established housing areas had AC, people would go buy a programmable AC unit, set it to turn on an hour before they go home in the evening (to save on electricity), enjoy the benefits of the cool air, return the unit within the Walmart return/exchange guidelines, have a different roommate purchase another one, and repeat the process all summer long. I'm not certain how legal this type of plan is, but I know many people went 4 years with free AC thanks to Walmart's return policy.", "I don't know if this will help much, but you could always try putting a bed sheet over the window so it isn't as sunny in there, which may potentially cool it down a tad.", "Fashion a funnel out of cardboard and/or aluminum foil and duct tape that will fit over the front of your fan. Buy some cheap flexible tubing (that is wide enough for a good amount of air to get through) and attach this to the funnel, and attach the funnel to the fan. Then get a bucket and add ice, salt, and water- the salt will make the ice water cooler. Run the tube through the bucket getting as much of the tube submerged as you can, while still keeping water outside of the tube and keeping the mouth of the tube in the air. You will need to use some sort of weight to keep it submerged. When you're done, turn the fan on. Boom, cheap AC.", "Block the sunlight coming in, and close all the windows in the morning (open them at night for the cooler air). If you leave the windows open, you're just letting all the hot air from outside in. My room is easy 10-15^0 cooler when I get home.\n\nA ceiling fan works well, otherwise any fan will do. Moving air will increase evaporation on your skin, cooling you off. Drink lots of ice water. \n\nWear swimming trunks and river sandals and just step in the cold shower every now and then. \n\nDehumidifier, if you have one, is a big help.\n\nProper insulation keeps the heat out in the summer and the heat in in the winter." ]

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[ "How to communicate with someone who doesn't speak your language (and you don't speak theirs) For instance, if you're lost in a foreign country, or you encounter someone in your own country who appears to be lost.\n\nI'd also love to hear suggestions for how to communicate abstract ideas (pain, love, help, etc.) as well as concrete ones, and how to express things as being in the past or the future, not just the present.\n\n", "How to communicate with someone who doesn't speak your language (and you don't speak theirs) For instance, if you're lost in a foreign country, or you encounter someone in your own country who appears to be lost.\n\nI'd also love to hear suggestions for how to communicate abstract ideas (pain, love, help, etc.) as well as concrete ones, and how to express things as being in the past or the future, not just the present.\n\n", "How to communicate with someone who doesn't speak your language (and you don't speak theirs) For instance, if you're lost in a foreign country, or you encounter someone in your own country who appears to be lost.\n\nI'd also love to hear suggestions for how to communicate abstract ideas (pain, love, help, etc.) as well as concrete ones, and how to express things as being in the past or the future, not just the present.\n\n", "How to communicate with someone who doesn't speak your language (and you don't speak theirs) For instance, if you're lost in a foreign country, or you encounter someone in your own country who appears to be lost.\n\nI'd also love to hear suggestions for how to communicate abstract ideas (pain, love, help, etc.) as well as concrete ones, and how to express things as being in the past or the future, not just the present.\n\n", "How to communicate with someone who doesn't speak your language (and you don't speak theirs) For instance, if you're lost in a foreign country, or you encounter someone in your own country who appears to be lost.\n\nI'd also love to hear suggestions for how to communicate abstract ideas (pain, love, help, etc.) as well as concrete ones, and how to express things as being in the past or the future, not just the present.\n\n", "How to communicate with someone who doesn't speak your language (and you don't speak theirs) For instance, if you're lost in a foreign country, or you encounter someone in your own country who appears to be lost.\n\nI'd also love to hear suggestions for how to communicate abstract ideas (pain, love, help, etc.) as well as concrete ones, and how to express things as being in the past or the future, not just the present.\n\n" ]

[ "I spent time in Tokyo with almost no Japanese. I navigated the subways, dining, hotels, and shopping with mostly gesturing and humor.\n\nI found one Japanese lady that spoke decent English and asked her how to say, \"Hi, how are you- you are sooooo beautiful\". I used that on everyone and people smiled, laughed at my bad Japanese, and were very kind (as far as I know).\n\nIt's simple enough to point to a map, or to your stomach, or to bounce up and down because you have to pee. More abstract ideas require language and the longer I was there, the more I learned of theirs and the more they learned of mine (the people I was visiting). So I probably can't help much with the last part- sorry. But traveling anywhere just takes confidence, no fear of looking stupid, and a basic knowledge of maps.\n\nHere I am in [Shibuya](http://i.imgur.com/GFCEtY3.jpg).", "The overarching thing comes down to two rules:\n \n * Be patient\n * Be flexible and adapt.\n\nLet me provide some examples.\n\nIf you are in a foreign country where you do not speak the language, try to listen to people and figure things out.\n\nAs an example, in 1998, I was sent to Poland on business. I don't speak a word of Polish. English, obviously, French, Latin, and a smattering of Spanish and Esperanto, but no Polish.\n\nGood first part: Polish uses the same alphabet. It looks intimidating until you realize that it is mostly because of the sounds being mapped kind of differently.\n\nI tried to figure out as many words as I could; mostly what Polish vocabulary I now have is very random and sporadic, but it is based on what I saw and heard there: komputery (computers - the reason for my trip), dziekuje (thank you), dobra (good, also short for good day or good night, as far as I could see), wentylator (fan - it was labelled in the hotel elevator), piwo (beer . . . imortant), wodka (vodka . . . also important), toaleta (toilet - really important after the other two), etc.\n\nWhen trying to communicate something, I started by trying to find a common language. I would step through my languages, asking if they spoke each (I used English, French and Esperanto on that trip). You never know what *other* languages may be spoken besides the obvious . . . unless you ask (most of my friends don't even know that I speak French, never mind the rest of that lot).\n\nPay attention to people's gestures. Even before they know you don't speak the language, they may communicate what they're saying to you visually. In one instance, someone stopped me on the street. I didn't understand the words she used, but she pointed at her left wrist with her right hand. I held out my watch for her to see the time, and that met the need. \n\nNow, let's flip it around. Let's say you are in a place where you are comfortable with the language and need to communicate an idea to someone else. \n\nI ran into this on a bus one evening on my way home from work. There was a fellow on the bus who was freaking out because he realized he was on the wrong one, but didn't know how to ask for the right one, or where to get it.\n\nI asked him slowly, \"where are you going?\" He was able to recite an address, so I told him to calm down, I would help. This has to be conveyed in tone as much as in words, because they may not understand the words.\n\nI took out a pen and grabbed a piece of scrap paper from my bag. I wrote down the number of the bus we were on (57) and another one that has a similar route (55X) as well as the one he wanted (55). I then drew a \"no\" symbol over the first two and circled the third. \n\nI said \"next stop\", hoping he would understand, then gestured to the left of the bus, \"That side.\" I pulled the cord for him, and when the bus came to a stop, he got off. I saw him start to cross the road behind us, so I gather he got the idea.\n\n", "I work security in a casino on the Vegas Strip. I deal with this all the time. Google Translate works fairly well for basic communication.\n\nDHS also put out a handy poster for helping to identify the language someone knows (it does assume they're old enough to read and understand what they're supposed to do).\n\nhttp://www.dhs.gov/sites/default/files/publications/secretary/bc-i-speak-poster2.pdf", "Problems with apps that help out is you need WiFi or an unlocked phone to get a Sim card. Let's say you can't get any of those. I travel lots and I've used gestures, and even drawing . carry a note pad and pen with you will help out lots. What ive done is before id leave my country or when i was able to get wifi id write down basic phrases 'how do i get to' 'where is the washroom' in their language to show people what i needed. Also on google has it so you can hear what those questions sound like so ive written them down how they sound like to me if i wanted to try and speak the language", "If you are in a place that does not have great service to use one of these apps, may I suggest that you go old school and buy a Moleskin notebook. \nIf you are staying in a hotel or hostel that has bilingual staff- ask them to write down the name and address of where you are staying- you write the translation below it and you can communicate with people on a very basic level.\nYou can also ask them to write down destinations that you are seeking to visit as well.\n\nThis was very helpful to me in a trip to Tai Pei and afterwards was a nice memento of the trip- I drew pictures and made journal entries on the facing bank pages, taped receipts etc as well.\n", "I travel abroad frequently and taking pictures with my phone of where you are staying or finding pictures of where you want to go is the most useful way I have managed to travel around. Pictures are pretty universal for places, food, and emotion." ]

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[ "How to keep fridge dry/keep moisture away? Hi!\n\nMy problem is that my fairly old fridge is damp most of the time which of course doesn't help the food inside it to remain fresh as much as they could.\n\nIt gets opened a lot which I think is the root cause, but ... that I can't help. I doubt the sealing is damaged, but I will recheck it sometime again, to make sure.\n\nI did find some result after searching for machines/methods/materials/substance, but nothing too convincing. I only found machines to dry room air, but they are expensive and wouldn't fit in the fridge. \nThen I found some saying salt, calcium-chloride is good to dehumidify air, which is close to my original idea of putting something that dries air into the fridge.\n\nSo now I ask you, maybe you have some cool way of getting rid of that extra water from the air of your fridge. Or just good habits to keep it from getting like that altogether. Like ^^... ^^^pro ^^^^tips. ^^^^^For ^^^^^^life.\n\ntl;dr: Fridge too damp/humid, how to dry its air?\n\nThanks!", "How to keep fridge dry/keep moisture away? Hi!\n\nMy problem is that my fairly old fridge is damp most of the time which of course doesn't help the food inside it to remain fresh as much as they could.\n\nIt gets opened a lot which I think is the root cause, but ... that I can't help. I doubt the sealing is damaged, but I will recheck it sometime again, to make sure.\n\nI did find some result after searching for machines/methods/materials/substance, but nothing too convincing. I only found machines to dry room air, but they are expensive and wouldn't fit in the fridge. \nThen I found some saying salt, calcium-chloride is good to dehumidify air, which is close to my original idea of putting something that dries air into the fridge.\n\nSo now I ask you, maybe you have some cool way of getting rid of that extra water from the air of your fridge. Or just good habits to keep it from getting like that altogether. Like ^^... ^^^pro ^^^^tips. ^^^^^For ^^^^^^life.\n\ntl;dr: Fridge too damp/humid, how to dry its air?\n\nThanks!" ]

[ "You should check that the fridge is functioning correctly and that the seals are good. Ensure that the drain is clear and stuff inside like fan, damper, and coils are not iced over.", "I use baking soda in my fridge to reduce bad smells. It works great for keeping the air smelling fresh. I never thought about whether it also helps to control moisture and humidity. " ]

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[ "What are strategies do you have for arranging time-limited visits with acquaintances? These are the people you must see but don't necessarily want to spend time with. ", "What are strategies do you have for arranging time-limited visits with acquaintances? These are the people you must see but don't necessarily want to spend time with. " ]

[ "Always meet them for some timeboxed event; the best is if you know their schedule. Then you can arrange to meet a set time before you know they have something else to do.", "Make up an appointment for an specific time, bring it up in a casual way before hand and then pretend the conversation was so good you forgot about it and then rush out." ]

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[ "Improving studying habits. I type this in the middle of making a presentation for a class. I am in dire need of new study habits/tips. ", "Improving studying habits. I type this in the middle of making a presentation for a class. I am in dire need of new study habits/tips. ", "Improving studying habits. I type this in the middle of making a presentation for a class. I am in dire need of new study habits/tips. ", "Improving studying habits. I type this in the middle of making a presentation for a class. I am in dire need of new study habits/tips. ", "Improving studying habits. I type this in the middle of making a presentation for a class. I am in dire need of new study habits/tips. ", "Improving studying habits. I type this in the middle of making a presentation for a class. I am in dire need of new study habits/tips. " ]

[ "In my opinion: some helpful tips would be:\n\n* Don't stay at one single place, after every 20 to 30 minutes, walk around, take your mind off studying and relax for 5 minutes.\n* Brush your teeth so you'd feel fresh\n* Listen to music you know that would invigorate you.\n* Make a habit of studying in a set time every day (5pm to 7pm)\n* Sleep well so you'd pay more attention in class.\n* Keep energetics and coffee out of your system. The last thing you want is to get dependent on caffeine.\n* Don't browse reddit. (Check the google chrome extension \"StayFocused\", and Windows app SelfRestraint).\n* Force yourself to study, even if you don't want to.\n* Feel that you'd have enough space to study.\n* Make sure you enjoy what you're studying.\n* If you don't get the subject, start from block 1 and work your way up until you understand the current topic/unit/chapter/lesson. Even if you fail the subject, you would understand it, which is good.\n* Drink tons of water.\n\nThat's what i can offer. And that's what i do.\n\n", "Something that really helped me get into study mode is a routine I developed. I think of going through this routine as shutting off excess noise and distracting thoughts. \n\nFirst, I put on the kettle and make a cup of tea, something I find calming. While the water heats, I turn on Leech block or Chrome Nanny, and don't give myself the option of screwing around on Reddit which is a huge issue for me. \n\nThen, I find a playlist of either jazz or m", "train the state of flow. You know what that feels like ... you forget where you are, what is around you and get swept away with what ever you are doing. People discount this feeling because it is something they love and don't associate that feeling with work.\n\nEvery time you come out of a state of flow, anchor that feeling in every sense and be conscious of how it feels and how to get back there. The more you do this, the easier the state of flow becomes. \n\nWhen you study in a flow state, for 5 minutes or 90 minutes, the information \"sticks\" better. ", "Get a program called Cold Turkey. It'll block some websites that are distracting and you can choose for how long. It helps me out.", "Scott Young's [Study Hacks](http://calnewport.com/blog/2012/10/26/mastering-linear-algebra-in-10-days-astounding-experiments-in-ultra-learning/) are a great set of tips. He has more on [his website](http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/), but those are a good start.", "I just want to add a \"yes please!\" to this topic!\n\nIn high school I NEVER studied and passed classes fine, graduated with honors, blah blah blah. \n\nNow in college I feel like an idiot, I do not know how to study and college is completely different than high school. Also I had about 8 years between high school and college so I'm older and feel like my brain isn't as... powerful (?) as it once was.\n\nI like the personal ritual from *hello_anyang* (as well as the awesome username!)" ]

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[ "As a thirteen year old, how do I fit into an adult setting? How do i engage into a conversation that isnt overly awkward for both of us? ", "As a thirteen year old, how do I fit into an adult setting? How do i engage into a conversation that isnt overly awkward for both of us? ", "As a thirteen year old, how do I fit into an adult setting? How do i engage into a conversation that isnt overly awkward for both of us? ", "As a thirteen year old, how do I fit into an adult setting? How do i engage into a conversation that isnt overly awkward for both of us? ", "As a thirteen year old, how do I fit into an adult setting? How do i engage into a conversation that isnt overly awkward for both of us? ", "As a thirteen year old, how do I fit into an adult setting? How do i engage into a conversation that isnt overly awkward for both of us? ", "As a thirteen year old, how do I fit into an adult setting? How do i engage into a conversation that isnt overly awkward for both of us? ", "As a thirteen year old, how do I fit into an adult setting? How do i engage into a conversation that isnt overly awkward for both of us? ", "As a thirteen year old, how do I fit into an adult setting? How do i engage into a conversation that isnt overly awkward for both of us? ", "As a thirteen year old, how do I fit into an adult setting? How do i engage into a conversation that isnt overly awkward for both of us? ", "As a thirteen year old, how do I fit into an adult setting? How do i engage into a conversation that isnt overly awkward for both of us? ", "As a thirteen year old, how do I fit into an adult setting? How do i engage into a conversation that isnt overly awkward for both of us? ", "As a thirteen year old, how do I fit into an adult setting? How do i engage into a conversation that isnt overly awkward for both of us? " ]

[ "Give no opinions. Ask questions infrequently. Listen. Take note of how other people in the group are listening, mimic them. If someone asks you a question be very short in your reply and do not give a 15 minute explanation of the latest Pixar film or how kids aren't actually putting vodka into their eyes to get drunk.\n\n ", "Haha, what a question. How precocious. But really, you'll probably have a hard time unless you like hearing old (e.g. over 21) people reminisce.\n\nThat said, though, probably not as hard you think. Adults worry about stuff like bills and work that kids/young people don't have to, but you could try engaging on things like music and movies (especially if they're, say, a decade old or more). Food is a good topic too. ", "It is the same at any age. Ask questions about them. Don't be shy to voice up about positive things, which are best kept very simple.\n\nExample: ' cool shoes! Are you into fashion?'\n\nListen a little and see what things pop up in your head in response!\n\nPro tip. Many adults are really bad at talking to kids of any age. They often feel like they will say the wrong thing, maybe inappropriate, and parents or onlookers would shame them... Don't take it personally if some adults just suck at talking", "I definitely agree with the previously mentioned comments. Just try and be aware of your surroundings and be open to learning. I (now 26) grew up in a house of four adults (mom, aunt, grandparents) and I grew up kinda fast on accident. Don't let your dreams of fitting in with adults ruin your childhood. I miss being 13! I also double the food/movies/music topics. ", "Ask questions. Contribute where you can but don't \"act like you know\" absorb all the knowledge you can. Older people have tons of wisdom (most of the time)", "Have you read the Enders Game? or the Shadow series (follows enders game)? \n\nIt is about gifted young children who have a absurd amount of responsibility because of an impending dangerous situation. The author does a good job of relating what it is like being young and intelligent then being waved off by adults because they assume you're young. he also explains how to handle many life situations though the telling of the story. I HIGHLY suggest taking a weekend and reading through Enders Game. While I was in the Military it was on the Recommended reading list, for good reason.", "Simple fact is that you won't fit in, no matter how hard you try. You're not an adult, and they're not teenagers. If you want to \"fit in\" around adults, then simply be yourself; be respectful, polite, and most of all, don't posture yourself as knowing more than adults: 99/100, you don't. ", "It's an interesting question. I've always found that home schooled kids do this much better than other kids. I am guessing it is because the majority of their conversations are with adults. Like, I would rather talk to the 13 year old across the street than her parents. Mostly because she loves dogs as much as I do. So we have something in common.\n\nThat said, this is what I think the difference is. You want to talk to other people about things they are interested in and find a common ground. You don't want to talk about how Sarah at school is such a bitch, or Jason puked on the bus.\n\nJust sort of listen to the conversation and if you have an interesting story or success, share it. Say the adults are talking about the Olympics you might throw in that you swim competitively or have started gymnastics or something.\n\nThink of it as commenting on reddit. You want to respond in a way that encourages others to share more about themselves.\n\nDoes that make sense? Hope it helps some.", "You want to be 30 at 13? I think that since your life experience cannot match up with the adults, the best subject matter would be things that don't rely on your experience. Mostly superficial subjects like movies, music etc. Can't go too deep unless you have profound insight or empathy otherwise you will come off as smug or arrogant. Listen more when these subjects come up I guess.", "The easiest way is trying to talk about something you both enjoy/can relate to.\n\n Videogames, movies and/or tv shows, books or sports.\n\nThere should be something to talk about in these four issues.\n\n\n If you start talking about the weather, you're pass the lvl 9000 of awkwardness.", "Some of the 'wisdom' you'll be offered will be bollocks, or recycled nostalgia, but listen nontheless - there's often nuggets of brilliance and inspiration in the mundanity...\n\nA friend, back at that kind of age, was working in a hotel and remembers hearing one of the guests say \"It reminds me of the time I was in Bahrain\". He told me about it second-hand at school, and for some reason it stuck with me. Our school was in the middle of nowhere in deepest Wales, cities were exotic, London impossibly so, and as for overseas... But it stuck with me, and now I've worked in many places around the world (but only visited Bahrain!), and the impossible exoticness of some random guy's throwaway comment 30 years earlier played a tiny part in that. There may be similar gems you hear, and nobody but you will ever realise.\n\nOtherwise just listen to people if they offer an opinion or advice - some will be good, some will be bad, you will have to work out for yourself which youi choose to accept to fit with your evolving sense of who you want to become. ", "Focus mostly on listening, and ask questions. People LOVE to talk about themselves, generally. Ask things like \"So how did you end up with your job?\" or \"What was (insert life experience here) like?\". Try to come across as someone who wants to learn from their life experience, since you're young they'll probably be happy to give their perspective/advice because it makes them feel more \"respected\" in society, being adults and knowing what life si all about and whatnot. Even if you disagree with their worldviews or would never actually care about what their job is, just nod and smile and take interest in what they're saying.\n\n", "Ask someone to teach you something, for a while I had trouble bonding with my dad and I really wanted to spend time with him. I also wanted to learn how to be a man and fix a car, we found common ground in that aspect.\n\nLook at what he does for a living, does he work? Wait for his day off AFTER he has taken a nap, try to read if he has any free time. Look for something both of you can work on and have fun doing it, school project maybe." ]

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[ "How to pay attention to what you are thinking. Most of the times when I'm spacing out, letting my mind wander off, I'm usually thinking about something but when someones asks me the \"What are you thinking about?\" question , I can't seem to have any recollection whatsoever of what the hell I was thinking about. Is there any way for me to remember what I even think about when that happens?", "How to pay attention to what you are thinking. Most of the times when I'm spacing out, letting my mind wander off, I'm usually thinking about something but when someones asks me the \"What are you thinking about?\" question , I can't seem to have any recollection whatsoever of what the hell I was thinking about. Is there any way for me to remember what I even think about when that happens?" ]

[ "I would also suggest the practice of mindfulness m", "what I do: (im 29) when ever I think of something interesting, I write it down. then later when I want to get back to it and I cant remember what it was... I have the security of the written paper, but I dont look at it... and I try to recall what it was. if I fail I let it go for a while... then a few hours later it always comes to me (out of nowhere) without forcing it... \n \nI dont know if it is age or something else... anyway there was a minor surgery 5years ago they did to me, and they put me into Anesthesia. when I woke up I had no idea in which galaxy I am. and ever since that day my memory was slightly worse. I could be wrong maybe its age... I was training my memory, trying to use it more often and it is back to my good memory. " ]

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[ "Deciding to move (for a year) to Eugene Oregon or staying in suburban New Jersey (Hoboken area) Hey there all, I'll keep this as brief as I can while providing all the essential details.\n\nI moved back to my hometown in North NJ when the pandemic started. It was an opportunity to save on rent and be with my family. I've been in NJ since April 2020. What is rounding out to be a year now, I am finishing my online masters and want to take a gap year before pursuing my masters. This gap year I have two options.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\n1. Move to Eugene Oregon for work (for just the year until law school)\n2. Stay in New Jersey and help my family with their business &amp; wait around locally (until law school)\n\nWhether its in Eugene or in New Jersey, there are a few common factors here.\n\n1. Both places I will have my rent/ food covered (whether it be by my company or living at home)\n2. Both places are workable for me to survive in. I am adaptable.\n3. Both places have alot of promise whether I decide to stay or go. Both will likely only be for a duration of a year not more (unless I decide to go to a law school in Oregon or the Tri- State Area)\n\nDifferences:\n\n1. I grew up in New Jersey, I've visited Eugene once. I am still young enough to go out and do shit so I suppose the night life will be good and the opportunities will present themselves. I don't know my way around in Eugene the same way I do in NJ/NY\n2. I know quite a few people in the tri-state area. I don't know anyone in Eugene. I am acclimated to the Northeast lifestyle as well as that laid back west coast life style (did undergrad at ASU)\n3. I know what to expect from New Jersey. I am uncertain about how Eugene will go. Though I do like the outdoors and did a lot of outdoor recreational activities when I lived in Arizona, I am not sure what to anticipate from Eugene. \n\nUltimately, I am a 25 year old Caucasian male trying to decide if I should stay in New Jersey for the year or go to Eugene for the year. \n\n\\-Where I go will have a pretty large effect on where I go to law school/ continue with the path of my life. \n\n\\-Side note: the love of my life is in New Jersey but we have been rocky lately and have been broken up. Since the break up I've been feeling this urge to leave but also am not sure if I should leave so haphazardly (I didn't plan to leave before our breakup but now the opportunity has presented itself). \n\nTLDR: 25M deciding whether to move to Oregon or stay in New Jersey for a year, with all expenses covered, before heading to law school and steering the course for my miserably fruitful 9-5", "Deciding to move (for a year) to Eugene Oregon or staying in suburban New Jersey (Hoboken area) Hey there all, I'll keep this as brief as I can while providing all the essential details.\n\nI moved back to my hometown in North NJ when the pandemic started. It was an opportunity to save on rent and be with my family. I've been in NJ since April 2020. What is rounding out to be a year now, I am finishing my online masters and want to take a gap year before pursuing my masters. This gap year I have two options.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\n1. Move to Eugene Oregon for work (for just the year until law school)\n2. Stay in New Jersey and help my family with their business &amp; wait around locally (until law school)\n\nWhether its in Eugene or in New Jersey, there are a few common factors here.\n\n1. Both places I will have my rent/ food covered (whether it be by my company or living at home)\n2. Both places are workable for me to survive in. I am adaptable.\n3. Both places have alot of promise whether I decide to stay or go. Both will likely only be for a duration of a year not more (unless I decide to go to a law school in Oregon or the Tri- State Area)\n\nDifferences:\n\n1. I grew up in New Jersey, I've visited Eugene once. I am still young enough to go out and do shit so I suppose the night life will be good and the opportunities will present themselves. I don't know my way around in Eugene the same way I do in NJ/NY\n2. I know quite a few people in the tri-state area. I don't know anyone in Eugene. I am acclimated to the Northeast lifestyle as well as that laid back west coast life style (did undergrad at ASU)\n3. I know what to expect from New Jersey. I am uncertain about how Eugene will go. Though I do like the outdoors and did a lot of outdoor recreational activities when I lived in Arizona, I am not sure what to anticipate from Eugene. \n\nUltimately, I am a 25 year old Caucasian male trying to decide if I should stay in New Jersey for the year or go to Eugene for the year. \n\n\\-Where I go will have a pretty large effect on where I go to law school/ continue with the path of my life. \n\n\\-Side note: the love of my life is in New Jersey but we have been rocky lately and have been broken up. Since the break up I've been feeling this urge to leave but also am not sure if I should leave so haphazardly (I didn't plan to leave before our breakup but now the opportunity has presented itself). \n\nTLDR: 25M deciding whether to move to Oregon or stay in New Jersey for a year, with all expenses covered, before heading to law school and steering the course for my miserably fruitful 9-5", "Deciding to move (for a year) to Eugene Oregon or staying in suburban New Jersey (Hoboken area) Hey there all, I'll keep this as brief as I can while providing all the essential details.\n\nI moved back to my hometown in North NJ when the pandemic started. It was an opportunity to save on rent and be with my family. I've been in NJ since April 2020. What is rounding out to be a year now, I am finishing my online masters and want to take a gap year before pursuing my masters. This gap year I have two options.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\n1. Move to Eugene Oregon for work (for just the year until law school)\n2. Stay in New Jersey and help my family with their business &amp; wait around locally (until law school)\n\nWhether its in Eugene or in New Jersey, there are a few common factors here.\n\n1. Both places I will have my rent/ food covered (whether it be by my company or living at home)\n2. Both places are workable for me to survive in. I am adaptable.\n3. Both places have alot of promise whether I decide to stay or go. Both will likely only be for a duration of a year not more (unless I decide to go to a law school in Oregon or the Tri- State Area)\n\nDifferences:\n\n1. I grew up in New Jersey, I've visited Eugene once. I am still young enough to go out and do shit so I suppose the night life will be good and the opportunities will present themselves. I don't know my way around in Eugene the same way I do in NJ/NY\n2. I know quite a few people in the tri-state area. I don't know anyone in Eugene. I am acclimated to the Northeast lifestyle as well as that laid back west coast life style (did undergrad at ASU)\n3. I know what to expect from New Jersey. I am uncertain about how Eugene will go. Though I do like the outdoors and did a lot of outdoor recreational activities when I lived in Arizona, I am not sure what to anticipate from Eugene. \n\nUltimately, I am a 25 year old Caucasian male trying to decide if I should stay in New Jersey for the year or go to Eugene for the year. \n\n\\-Where I go will have a pretty large effect on where I go to law school/ continue with the path of my life. \n\n\\-Side note: the love of my life is in New Jersey but we have been rocky lately and have been broken up. Since the break up I've been feeling this urge to leave but also am not sure if I should leave so haphazardly (I didn't plan to leave before our breakup but now the opportunity has presented itself). \n\nTLDR: 25M deciding whether to move to Oregon or stay in New Jersey for a year, with all expenses covered, before heading to law school and steering the course for my miserably fruitful 9-5", "Deciding to move (for a year) to Eugene Oregon or staying in suburban New Jersey (Hoboken area) Hey there all, I'll keep this as brief as I can while providing all the essential details.\n\nI moved back to my hometown in North NJ when the pandemic started. It was an opportunity to save on rent and be with my family. I've been in NJ since April 2020. What is rounding out to be a year now, I am finishing my online masters and want to take a gap year before pursuing my masters. This gap year I have two options.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\n1. Move to Eugene Oregon for work (for just the year until law school)\n2. Stay in New Jersey and help my family with their business &amp; wait around locally (until law school)\n\nWhether its in Eugene or in New Jersey, there are a few common factors here.\n\n1. Both places I will have my rent/ food covered (whether it be by my company or living at home)\n2. Both places are workable for me to survive in. I am adaptable.\n3. Both places have alot of promise whether I decide to stay or go. Both will likely only be for a duration of a year not more (unless I decide to go to a law school in Oregon or the Tri- State Area)\n\nDifferences:\n\n1. I grew up in New Jersey, I've visited Eugene once. I am still young enough to go out and do shit so I suppose the night life will be good and the opportunities will present themselves. I don't know my way around in Eugene the same way I do in NJ/NY\n2. I know quite a few people in the tri-state area. I don't know anyone in Eugene. I am acclimated to the Northeast lifestyle as well as that laid back west coast life style (did undergrad at ASU)\n3. I know what to expect from New Jersey. I am uncertain about how Eugene will go. Though I do like the outdoors and did a lot of outdoor recreational activities when I lived in Arizona, I am not sure what to anticipate from Eugene. \n\nUltimately, I am a 25 year old Caucasian male trying to decide if I should stay in New Jersey for the year or go to Eugene for the year. \n\n\\-Where I go will have a pretty large effect on where I go to law school/ continue with the path of my life. \n\n\\-Side note: the love of my life is in New Jersey but we have been rocky lately and have been broken up. Since the break up I've been feeling this urge to leave but also am not sure if I should leave so haphazardly (I didn't plan to leave before our breakup but now the opportunity has presented itself). \n\nTLDR: 25M deciding whether to move to Oregon or stay in New Jersey for a year, with all expenses covered, before heading to law school and steering the course for my miserably fruitful 9-5" ]

[ "Oregon is beautiful. If you truly have all your ducks in a row, and you're sure you won't be shooting yourself in the foot by making the move, do it. If I could go there or to Portland, I would.\n\n[Here's a song about escaping from New Jersey](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IxuThNgl3YA)", "i mean the only thing i see as a bonus to being in nj is that you have access to more acclaimed law schools, but thats not gonna matter a whole lot. my vote is go to oregon. also youve got your family if stuff goes that wrong. i dont see a downside to moving west", "I say go to Eugene! You're young and free, go experience life somewhere new! If you hate it, you can always go back to NJ!", "I wouldn’t move just for one year . It takes time to make friends , to know your coworkers etc . You basically will be alone in a small city , learning how to navigate and leave there , not having fun , establishing a new routine . Plus you need to get ready for LSAT and pass LSAT on a top of working . \nIt seems like wasting time for a minimal stay with a lot of efforts and not so much fun ." ]

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[ "How to make a 10 hour shift go faster? About to start doing a 10 hour shift at a supermarket in bakery and cashier, any tips to pass the time faster?", "How to make a 10 hour shift go faster? About to start doing a 10 hour shift at a supermarket in bakery and cashier, any tips to pass the time faster?", "How to make a 10 hour shift go faster? About to start doing a 10 hour shift at a supermarket in bakery and cashier, any tips to pass the time faster?", "How to make a 10 hour shift go faster? About to start doing a 10 hour shift at a supermarket in bakery and cashier, any tips to pass the time faster?", "How to make a 10 hour shift go faster? About to start doing a 10 hour shift at a supermarket in bakery and cashier, any tips to pass the time faster?" ]

[ "Stay as busy as possible, anything to avoid watching that clock. Clean, organize, learn something new about your job, clean again, Prep stuff for the next day, help out elsewhere if possible. ", "The best way to pass the time is to not focus on it. If you maintain a constant workload you won't notice the time until it is time to go. Usually if there are no jobs to do I invent a job to do that is normally not noticed or simply not done, as a way to improve the surroundings and my motivation and stuff.\n\nSource: I work many long shifts during off-peak time at a restaurant.", "Smoke weed beforehand. It will make it seem longer but it will become much more bearable and your high ass smile will make everyone's day better.", "I like to listen to books on tape. I know in some jobs you won't be able to do this but it really helps the time fly when your able to listen to a good storyteller. (using different voice for characters, talking softly at intense parts or nearly shouting or bellowing in the middle of some sort of battle.) \n\nIf you are looking for an app I'd suggest Overdrive. It's free and all you need is your local library card to sign up. ", "Besides staying busy with work, which will always make the day fly by, come up with games to play with your coworkers. At our shop we like to play daughter, girlfriend, escort. When we see a older guy come in with a younger woman we try and guess which one it is. It makes the time go by and doesn't interrupt your normal work. " ]

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[ "Please help me with my alcohol problem I don't want to drink at my work anymore. I am sick of it. I have a lot of pressure from my coworkers, and I have a slight problem with alcohol. I sometimes slip and drink too much and I consider it very unprofessional and also dangerous for my work status.\n\nI live in somewhat backwards European country where alcohol is very important social factor and it's very hard to refuse it during some occasions.\n\nPlease give me advice what method or excuse can I use to refuse drinking without anybody bothering me with \"common, just this one\" or \"it's my birthday, please drink one for me\".\n\nThank you in advance.", "Please help me with my alcohol problem I don't want to drink at my work anymore. I am sick of it. I have a lot of pressure from my coworkers, and I have a slight problem with alcohol. I sometimes slip and drink too much and I consider it very unprofessional and also dangerous for my work status.\n\nI live in somewhat backwards European country where alcohol is very important social factor and it's very hard to refuse it during some occasions.\n\nPlease give me advice what method or excuse can I use to refuse drinking without anybody bothering me with \"common, just this one\" or \"it's my birthday, please drink one for me\".\n\nThank you in advance.", "Please help me with my alcohol problem I don't want to drink at my work anymore. I am sick of it. I have a lot of pressure from my coworkers, and I have a slight problem with alcohol. I sometimes slip and drink too much and I consider it very unprofessional and also dangerous for my work status.\n\nI live in somewhat backwards European country where alcohol is very important social factor and it's very hard to refuse it during some occasions.\n\nPlease give me advice what method or excuse can I use to refuse drinking without anybody bothering me with \"common, just this one\" or \"it's my birthday, please drink one for me\".\n\nThank you in advance.", "Please help me with my alcohol problem I don't want to drink at my work anymore. I am sick of it. I have a lot of pressure from my coworkers, and I have a slight problem with alcohol. I sometimes slip and drink too much and I consider it very unprofessional and also dangerous for my work status.\n\nI live in somewhat backwards European country where alcohol is very important social factor and it's very hard to refuse it during some occasions.\n\nPlease give me advice what method or excuse can I use to refuse drinking without anybody bothering me with \"common, just this one\" or \"it's my birthday, please drink one for me\".\n\nThank you in advance.", "Please help me with my alcohol problem I don't want to drink at my work anymore. I am sick of it. I have a lot of pressure from my coworkers, and I have a slight problem with alcohol. I sometimes slip and drink too much and I consider it very unprofessional and also dangerous for my work status.\n\nI live in somewhat backwards European country where alcohol is very important social factor and it's very hard to refuse it during some occasions.\n\nPlease give me advice what method or excuse can I use to refuse drinking without anybody bothering me with \"common, just this one\" or \"it's my birthday, please drink one for me\".\n\nThank you in advance.", "Please help me with my alcohol problem I don't want to drink at my work anymore. I am sick of it. I have a lot of pressure from my coworkers, and I have a slight problem with alcohol. I sometimes slip and drink too much and I consider it very unprofessional and also dangerous for my work status.\n\nI live in somewhat backwards European country where alcohol is very important social factor and it's very hard to refuse it during some occasions.\n\nPlease give me advice what method or excuse can I use to refuse drinking without anybody bothering me with \"common, just this one\" or \"it's my birthday, please drink one for me\".\n\nThank you in advance.", "Please help me with my alcohol problem I don't want to drink at my work anymore. I am sick of it. I have a lot of pressure from my coworkers, and I have a slight problem with alcohol. I sometimes slip and drink too much and I consider it very unprofessional and also dangerous for my work status.\n\nI live in somewhat backwards European country where alcohol is very important social factor and it's very hard to refuse it during some occasions.\n\nPlease give me advice what method or excuse can I use to refuse drinking without anybody bothering me with \"common, just this one\" or \"it's my birthday, please drink one for me\".\n\nThank you in advance.", "Please help me with my alcohol problem I don't want to drink at my work anymore. I am sick of it. I have a lot of pressure from my coworkers, and I have a slight problem with alcohol. I sometimes slip and drink too much and I consider it very unprofessional and also dangerous for my work status.\n\nI live in somewhat backwards European country where alcohol is very important social factor and it's very hard to refuse it during some occasions.\n\nPlease give me advice what method or excuse can I use to refuse drinking without anybody bothering me with \"common, just this one\" or \"it's my birthday, please drink one for me\".\n\nThank you in advance.", "Please help me with my alcohol problem I don't want to drink at my work anymore. I am sick of it. I have a lot of pressure from my coworkers, and I have a slight problem with alcohol. I sometimes slip and drink too much and I consider it very unprofessional and also dangerous for my work status.\n\nI live in somewhat backwards European country where alcohol is very important social factor and it's very hard to refuse it during some occasions.\n\nPlease give me advice what method or excuse can I use to refuse drinking without anybody bothering me with \"common, just this one\" or \"it's my birthday, please drink one for me\".\n\nThank you in advance.", "Please help me with my alcohol problem I don't want to drink at my work anymore. I am sick of it. I have a lot of pressure from my coworkers, and I have a slight problem with alcohol. I sometimes slip and drink too much and I consider it very unprofessional and also dangerous for my work status.\n\nI live in somewhat backwards European country where alcohol is very important social factor and it's very hard to refuse it during some occasions.\n\nPlease give me advice what method or excuse can I use to refuse drinking without anybody bothering me with \"common, just this one\" or \"it's my birthday, please drink one for me\".\n\nThank you in advance." ]

[ "I mean, if you are a grown adult, (and I have to assume you are) just say no thanks. \n\nAnd leave it there.\n\nYou don’t owe anyone any justifications for not drinking. This will be good practice in asserting yourself. It’s a skill that takes some practice, but the quicker you learn, the easier your life will be.\n\nJust look whoever it is directly in their eyes and say, “thanks but no thanks”, with *that look* and that should end things. If they keep pressing, just tell them it’s none of their business. That should really end things.\n\nGood luck!", "It's kind of an unpopular opinion, but you can just be honest. \n\nSay you want to take a break, or be slightly dishonest and say, like, your liver hurts, or you've got a headache that'll get worse with drinking.\n\nI had the same problem, I was just very firm about whether or not I thought drinking was a good idea.", "Ex bartender here. If you are drinking at a bar go up to the bartender and tell that to make a drink that looks alcoholic but is not. If they put it in a short glass lets say sprite with lime on the rim could be mistaken for vodka tonic, gin and tonic, etc. A simple coke with lime wedge on it could be mistaken for a Cuba Libre. Just make sure the fruit is on there to make it look like a real drink. Then when they ask you to drink you can say you already have one.", "I’m sober 45 days now and my best excuse is telling people that I’m “training”. Blame your fitness quest on not drinking.", "Say “no, I’m working on stopping drinking. However I will take a non alcoholic drink. Thanks for supporting my decision” \n\nAnd move on. \n\nYou just simply can’t be weak to peer pressure. I promise you won’t lose good friends and family over this. \n\nIf someone simply stops talking to you over that? They didn’t care about you In the first place.", "Check out r/dryalcoholics. Some people say “no thanks, I’m recovering.” Others have to avoid situations where alcohol is present. If you’ve already cut down, then you’re like me. Most weeks I can limit to two days a week. I still admitted myself to hospital a couple weeks ago because I have underlying anxiety and depression that needs to be treated that I self medicate with alcohol. Talk therapy might help you determine what triggers your symptoms that make you need relief with alcohol.", "Just say you have a medical co diction which has been recently diagnosed and you have to lay off alcohol for a while - this will give you a break, and if you choose to quit altogether, blame the medical condition. As an aside, would recommend CBD if you’re trying to quit alcohol :)", "I can't tell you what is best for you, but I had a similar problem and am able to resolve it by spending time weekly with other alcoholics and learn from their trials, tribulations , and wisdom. No matter what country you are in there are similar groups nearby - google Alcoholics Anonymous and check out their website.", "\"I'm trying to cut back\" is an easy alternative to \"I'm trying to quit drinking\". You'll get less idiotic replies.", "R/stopdrinking was super helpful for me. I’d suggest reposting this over there. Its a super supportive community and folks there have loads of good strategies to help you stop and stay quit if that’s what you’re looking to do." ]

[ 9, 8, 8, 7, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to really clean a hairbrush. You know those little annoying circles of lint/hair/skin particles/who knows what else that form around the stems on a hairbrush? Yeah, you know the ones I mean. Only way I've found to get them off is to pick at them with something sharp until you manage to rip them. Is there an easier way? ", "How to really clean a hairbrush. You know those little annoying circles of lint/hair/skin particles/who knows what else that form around the stems on a hairbrush? Yeah, you know the ones I mean. Only way I've found to get them off is to pick at them with something sharp until you manage to rip them. Is there an easier way? " ]

[ "Hot water and shampoo. Soak it and then take a barber comb and run it through the bristles to remove the buildup of lint. After it's clean rinse it really well, then press it dry with a towel and leave it upside down to air dry.\n\nThanks for reminding me mine is getting gross.", "My mother is a hairdresser and always has let her brushes soak in bleach (enough to cover the parts that need cleaning) for about 1/2 hour. Then just rinse. It dissolves the lint/gunk enough to release it from the brush.\n" ]

[ 8, 4 ]

[ "how to get people to stop talking over you How can I get my friends and family to stop talking over me? Admittedly I am a soft talker. Progressively aggressive, but not passive aggressive advice welcome. I have brought it up with each offender separately, but not in the moment - I struggle with confrontation. Help me!", "how to get people to stop talking over you How can I get my friends and family to stop talking over me? Admittedly I am a soft talker. Progressively aggressive, but not passive aggressive advice welcome. I have brought it up with each offender separately, but not in the moment - I struggle with confrontation. Help me!", "how to get people to stop talking over you How can I get my friends and family to stop talking over me? Admittedly I am a soft talker. Progressively aggressive, but not passive aggressive advice welcome. I have brought it up with each offender separately, but not in the moment - I struggle with confrontation. Help me!", "how to get people to stop talking over you How can I get my friends and family to stop talking over me? Admittedly I am a soft talker. Progressively aggressive, but not passive aggressive advice welcome. I have brought it up with each offender separately, but not in the moment - I struggle with confrontation. Help me!", "how to get people to stop talking over you How can I get my friends and family to stop talking over me? Admittedly I am a soft talker. Progressively aggressive, but not passive aggressive advice welcome. I have brought it up with each offender separately, but not in the moment - I struggle with confrontation. Help me!", "how to get people to stop talking over you How can I get my friends and family to stop talking over me? Admittedly I am a soft talker. Progressively aggressive, but not passive aggressive advice welcome. I have brought it up with each offender separately, but not in the moment - I struggle with confrontation. Help me!" ]

[ "As someone else has said, you can stop them. Or..just keep talking. Seriously. Just keep talking. And when you're done talking, if they ask you to repeat yourself say no.", "I interrupt them “nah I was done talking go ahead” and immediately pickup where I left off. \n\nIt is inherently passive aggressive but I do it to ease tension and there’s a lighthearted chuckle involved.", "I'm a soft talker too. My husband's family is a lot louder than I am and talk over me all the time. I too have mentioned it to several of them but didn't get any results. \n\nNow, I just stop talking... mid-sentance if need be, and stare at the interruptor.", "Confrontation may not work, because they probably are doing it subconsciously. \n\nOne trick is to not respond to the interruption, and reply, \"As I was saying...\" and then go back to your train of thought. Then ask them \"What do you think?\" at the end. If there's any hope, you can train them to be more patient.", "I stop talking and give no verbal or nonverbal cues that indicate I am entertaining their interruption. And when they notice I say, “may I continue?”", "Clearly and with conviction ask them point blank \"why did you interrupt me\" and before they have a chance to respond say \"that was extremely RUDE\"." ]

[ 25, 11, 7, 6, 4, 3 ]

[ "lengthening the lifespan of audio equipment. Title says it all, audio cords, audio ports of mp3/ipods, headphones, speakers, amps. I finally got some good quality equipment, and I'm looking to see it last a long time. Besides the obvious, don't treat it like crap, throw it around, etc., Sorry if this is a stupid question I just want to see if there is anything I don't know.", "lengthening the lifespan of audio equipment. Title says it all, audio cords, audio ports of mp3/ipods, headphones, speakers, amps. I finally got some good quality equipment, and I'm looking to see it last a long time. Besides the obvious, don't treat it like crap, throw it around, etc., Sorry if this is a stupid question I just want to see if there is anything I don't know.", "lengthening the lifespan of audio equipment. Title says it all, audio cords, audio ports of mp3/ipods, headphones, speakers, amps. I finally got some good quality equipment, and I'm looking to see it last a long time. Besides the obvious, don't treat it like crap, throw it around, etc., Sorry if this is a stupid question I just want to see if there is anything I don't know.", "lengthening the lifespan of audio equipment. Title says it all, audio cords, audio ports of mp3/ipods, headphones, speakers, amps. I finally got some good quality equipment, and I'm looking to see it last a long time. Besides the obvious, don't treat it like crap, throw it around, etc., Sorry if this is a stupid question I just want to see if there is anything I don't know.", "lengthening the lifespan of audio equipment. Title says it all, audio cords, audio ports of mp3/ipods, headphones, speakers, amps. I finally got some good quality equipment, and I'm looking to see it last a long time. Besides the obvious, don't treat it like crap, throw it around, etc., Sorry if this is a stupid question I just want to see if there is anything I don't know." ]

[ "For cords pay particular attention to the bend/strain\n\nfor everything, this one may be non obvious to some people but make sure that they are located in an area out of the sun. Don't put anything close enough to the window that it will get direct sunlight.\n\nalso generally, don't forget about adequate ventilation and dust them. Overheating is a primary cause of failure of electronics.", "Get nylon cables(braided). They tend to last longer. But I agree never wrap cables around device while plugged in like how we stored game controllers back in the day. Just wrap them in a loop with both ends free.", "Great advice from previous posters! Keeping things clean and dust free is a big step. Most component stereos have components inside that build up dust due to static electricity. A can of spray duster works wonders. For moving parts like volume knobs or eq sliders and input jacks, electrical contact cleaner will keep them working nicely. Also use a good surge protector to prevent damage from lightning strikes.", "For home electronics low voltage can actually do more damage than high voltage (not counting a large surge). Use a UPS to supply uninterrupted power to your receiver, TV, etc. This will supply constant voltage (or voltage range) to your devices during black outs and brownouts.\n\nIf you want to go all out, you could get a line conditioner for your equipment as well. All these power devices usually insure your equipment should failure occur.", "When wrapping up cables, don't use your elbow and palm, its retarded and keeps the kinks in them.\n\nInstead, simply grab one end in your right (for reference) fingers, and make a circle as if you start wrapping with your left, when you feel a kink coming, twist with your left hand inwards towards you, and loop again, etc.\n\nno kinks or stress on the cables." ]

[ 4, 3, 2, 2, 0 ]

[ "How to tell my boss that I'm leaving country for 1 week Friend of mine made me a gift, a ticket to Amsterdam for 1 week for my Birthday. I'm all hyped and stuff but I'm having hard time telling my boss about it. \n\nI'm new at my job and since that I can't ask for a vacation. Even if he says NO, I might quit because I don't travel much in my life. But It would be better If I didn't quit xD \n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nMy boss is kinda bossy and friendly at the same time. Thing is my state is not that important for Company, I mean If I don't appear there for some little period of time my company does not loose anything. But he won't appreciate my news anyway coz leaving work because of HAVING FUN is not cool, from my boss's perspective. \n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI want to ask for an advice, like how to tell him, what to tell him or what Should I do at least.\n\n Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.\n\nSorry for my bad English.\n\nP.S. Lying is not an option. ", "How to tell my boss that I'm leaving country for 1 week Friend of mine made me a gift, a ticket to Amsterdam for 1 week for my Birthday. I'm all hyped and stuff but I'm having hard time telling my boss about it. \n\nI'm new at my job and since that I can't ask for a vacation. Even if he says NO, I might quit because I don't travel much in my life. But It would be better If I didn't quit xD \n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nMy boss is kinda bossy and friendly at the same time. Thing is my state is not that important for Company, I mean If I don't appear there for some little period of time my company does not loose anything. But he won't appreciate my news anyway coz leaving work because of HAVING FUN is not cool, from my boss's perspective. \n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI want to ask for an advice, like how to tell him, what to tell him or what Should I do at least.\n\n Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.\n\nSorry for my bad English.\n\nP.S. Lying is not an option. ", "How to tell my boss that I'm leaving country for 1 week Friend of mine made me a gift, a ticket to Amsterdam for 1 week for my Birthday. I'm all hyped and stuff but I'm having hard time telling my boss about it. \n\nI'm new at my job and since that I can't ask for a vacation. Even if he says NO, I might quit because I don't travel much in my life. But It would be better If I didn't quit xD \n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nMy boss is kinda bossy and friendly at the same time. Thing is my state is not that important for Company, I mean If I don't appear there for some little period of time my company does not loose anything. But he won't appreciate my news anyway coz leaving work because of HAVING FUN is not cool, from my boss's perspective. \n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI want to ask for an advice, like how to tell him, what to tell him or what Should I do at least.\n\n Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.\n\nSorry for my bad English.\n\nP.S. Lying is not an option. ", "How to tell my boss that I'm leaving country for 1 week Friend of mine made me a gift, a ticket to Amsterdam for 1 week for my Birthday. I'm all hyped and stuff but I'm having hard time telling my boss about it. \n\nI'm new at my job and since that I can't ask for a vacation. Even if he says NO, I might quit because I don't travel much in my life. But It would be better If I didn't quit xD \n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nMy boss is kinda bossy and friendly at the same time. Thing is my state is not that important for Company, I mean If I don't appear there for some little period of time my company does not loose anything. But he won't appreciate my news anyway coz leaving work because of HAVING FUN is not cool, from my boss's perspective. \n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI want to ask for an advice, like how to tell him, what to tell him or what Should I do at least.\n\n Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.\n\nSorry for my bad English.\n\nP.S. Lying is not an option. " ]

[ "Just tell him the situation. Your friend surprised you with a gift vacation and you were hoping he could grant you the time off. Maybe even throw it out there that you're willing to take the time off unpaid.", "Ask first. Explain it like you did here, that a friend gave you this ticket for the trip and it’s something you’re looking forward to doing. \n\nThey may let you take the time off, unpaid most likely. \n\nIf they say no, then you have to decide if taking a vacation is more important than a job. ", "I work at a part time heating and plumbing store and since my college and work some times clash i tell my boss that ive unexpected work come up and i have to take time off and then usually when im free i work to make up those hours how ever it might be a different situation depending on your role and even hours you work. If you work at a place where they have multiple staff to cover then you should be fine however i work for a relatively small business so a-lot of its making up hours you have missed.", "\"Yo Bossy Boss, I'm leaving the country for one week, It's nothing to do with dead hookers or that suitcase full of money and cocaine, I SWEAR.\"" ]

[ 12, 4, 1, 0 ]

[ "How to make a crick in the neck go away It’s 5am and i haven’t been able to move my neck forward or get out of bed since 1am. It started when i was sleeping and moved my head from one side to the other. Is there anything I can do to get out of bed or help with the pain?", "How to make a crick in the neck go away It’s 5am and i haven’t been able to move my neck forward or get out of bed since 1am. It started when i was sleeping and moved my head from one side to the other. Is there anything I can do to get out of bed or help with the pain?", "How to make a crick in the neck go away It’s 5am and i haven’t been able to move my neck forward or get out of bed since 1am. It started when i was sleeping and moved my head from one side to the other. Is there anything I can do to get out of bed or help with the pain?", "How to make a crick in the neck go away It’s 5am and i haven’t been able to move my neck forward or get out of bed since 1am. It started when i was sleeping and moved my head from one side to the other. Is there anything I can do to get out of bed or help with the pain?" ]

[ "I like to use Epsom salt, make a paste sort of with water and apply it to the area. Don't stretch it, you want to relax it.", "I can tell you from experience, you're going to want to see a doctor for this one. Short term, muscle relaxants will help with the pain.\n\nLonger term you're going to want to see a chiropractor, if you can find a good one, or an osteopath if you prefer. They'll be able to gradually improve the range of motion in your neck and help you get your neck back into better health.", "Go to doc, get images asap. It could be a clot or something abutting spinal cord. Don’t take any chances w this area (and do not let anyone dismiss you). Speaking from experience. Good luck & best wishes to you.", "A muscle relaxer or a steroid will help but which depends on what’s actually wrong. It could be several things from benign to dangerous.\n\nIf you have access I’d do a Doctor on Demand vid call.\nNot being able to move… you might need an ambulance to come, stabilize your neck, and take you into the hospital on a board." ]

[ 2, 0, 0, 0 ]

[ "How to make my money make me money I have a little bit in savings... not much... and all its doing is sitting in my bank account. That feels wrong to me. \n\nI'd like to find a way to take about $1000 and do something to increase it little by little while making my money back. For example, turn $1000 invested into $1100 to $1200 or more after a month or so. After a while maybe ramp it up a bit and diversify.\n\nWhile I'd honestly like to profit more, I'm trying to be realistic... \n\nI'm physically disabled (I have an incredibly painful bone marrow issue where it turns into tumors, my bones are really weak, etc) so I don't have a lot of stamina. My background in is IT (masters level) and I can only really sit up and be productive physically about an hour a day. So if there isn't a physical element about this LPT then it would be a gigantic bonus.", "How to make my money make me money I have a little bit in savings... not much... and all its doing is sitting in my bank account. That feels wrong to me. \n\nI'd like to find a way to take about $1000 and do something to increase it little by little while making my money back. For example, turn $1000 invested into $1100 to $1200 or more after a month or so. After a while maybe ramp it up a bit and diversify.\n\nWhile I'd honestly like to profit more, I'm trying to be realistic... \n\nI'm physically disabled (I have an incredibly painful bone marrow issue where it turns into tumors, my bones are really weak, etc) so I don't have a lot of stamina. My background in is IT (masters level) and I can only really sit up and be productive physically about an hour a day. So if there isn't a physical element about this LPT then it would be a gigantic bonus.", "How to make my money make me money I have a little bit in savings... not much... and all its doing is sitting in my bank account. That feels wrong to me. \n\nI'd like to find a way to take about $1000 and do something to increase it little by little while making my money back. For example, turn $1000 invested into $1100 to $1200 or more after a month or so. After a while maybe ramp it up a bit and diversify.\n\nWhile I'd honestly like to profit more, I'm trying to be realistic... \n\nI'm physically disabled (I have an incredibly painful bone marrow issue where it turns into tumors, my bones are really weak, etc) so I don't have a lot of stamina. My background in is IT (masters level) and I can only really sit up and be productive physically about an hour a day. So if there isn't a physical element about this LPT then it would be a gigantic bonus.", "How to make my money make me money I have a little bit in savings... not much... and all its doing is sitting in my bank account. That feels wrong to me. \n\nI'd like to find a way to take about $1000 and do something to increase it little by little while making my money back. For example, turn $1000 invested into $1100 to $1200 or more after a month or so. After a while maybe ramp it up a bit and diversify.\n\nWhile I'd honestly like to profit more, I'm trying to be realistic... \n\nI'm physically disabled (I have an incredibly painful bone marrow issue where it turns into tumors, my bones are really weak, etc) so I don't have a lot of stamina. My background in is IT (masters level) and I can only really sit up and be productive physically about an hour a day. So if there isn't a physical element about this LPT then it would be a gigantic bonus.", "How to make my money make me money I have a little bit in savings... not much... and all its doing is sitting in my bank account. That feels wrong to me. \n\nI'd like to find a way to take about $1000 and do something to increase it little by little while making my money back. For example, turn $1000 invested into $1100 to $1200 or more after a month or so. After a while maybe ramp it up a bit and diversify.\n\nWhile I'd honestly like to profit more, I'm trying to be realistic... \n\nI'm physically disabled (I have an incredibly painful bone marrow issue where it turns into tumors, my bones are really weak, etc) so I don't have a lot of stamina. My background in is IT (masters level) and I can only really sit up and be productive physically about an hour a day. So if there isn't a physical element about this LPT then it would be a gigantic bonus.", "How to make my money make me money I have a little bit in savings... not much... and all its doing is sitting in my bank account. That feels wrong to me. \n\nI'd like to find a way to take about $1000 and do something to increase it little by little while making my money back. For example, turn $1000 invested into $1100 to $1200 or more after a month or so. After a while maybe ramp it up a bit and diversify.\n\nWhile I'd honestly like to profit more, I'm trying to be realistic... \n\nI'm physically disabled (I have an incredibly painful bone marrow issue where it turns into tumors, my bones are really weak, etc) so I don't have a lot of stamina. My background in is IT (masters level) and I can only really sit up and be productive physically about an hour a day. So if there isn't a physical element about this LPT then it would be a gigantic bonus." ]

[ "It’s extremely difficult to make 10% per month and the only way to do that is with an immense amount of risk. 10% per year would be more realistic", "Consider investing in REITs. It's like real estate investments without putting a down on the investment.", "Only way to make your money make money is to invest it. Investments come with risk. The bank interest is called risk-free interest and anything with a greater possible reward also comes with a risk.\n\nFigure out what level is an acceptable risk for you. Probably not shares. Maybe real estate? But you may lack the funds to buy into real estate. Hedgefunds probably, but even hedgefunds can be volatile and vary +/-10% in a year. Check the morningstar ratings to help you pick a hedgefund.", "If you have ever concidered the stock Market then maybe concider the cryptocurrency market. It fluctuates enough that you can potentially make some cash back fairly quickly. My favorite trader is philakone on YouTube. Check out some of his videos and get a feel of what is involved in successful trading. He has a series on how to trade somewhere in his videos. ", "Are you employed or do you work freelance? Do you live alone? Either way if you haven't done so I suggest posting to a finance sub with high activity and give this info. \n\nI would also highly suggest looking at IHSS. If your money can't work for you as quickly as you'd like perhaps this could help increase your productivity. \n\nChecking the frugal subs may help. \n\nI wish you all the best. Your condition sounds very painful. \n", "Buy prperty. People will always need somewere to live. Buy an appartment, rent it, save some of the money for repairs and stuff like that." ]

[ 5, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "how to remove a lingering odor of marijuana in a home. I live in a house with 2 other people on the 2nd floor. One roommate smokes weed all the time and when he's not home the smell lingers around even with windows open. \nAs a preemptive attack on the trollers, no I can't kick him out, nor will I rat him out to the landlord or police.... Or kill him or whatever else you will troll. ", "how to remove a lingering odor of marijuana in a home. I live in a house with 2 other people on the 2nd floor. One roommate smokes weed all the time and when he's not home the smell lingers around even with windows open. \nAs a preemptive attack on the trollers, no I can't kick him out, nor will I rat him out to the landlord or police.... Or kill him or whatever else you will troll. ", "how to remove a lingering odor of marijuana in a home. I live in a house with 2 other people on the 2nd floor. One roommate smokes weed all the time and when he's not home the smell lingers around even with windows open. \nAs a preemptive attack on the trollers, no I can't kick him out, nor will I rat him out to the landlord or police.... Or kill him or whatever else you will troll. ", "how to remove a lingering odor of marijuana in a home. I live in a house with 2 other people on the 2nd floor. One roommate smokes weed all the time and when he's not home the smell lingers around even with windows open. \nAs a preemptive attack on the trollers, no I can't kick him out, nor will I rat him out to the landlord or police.... Or kill him or whatever else you will troll. ", "how to remove a lingering odor of marijuana in a home. I live in a house with 2 other people on the 2nd floor. One roommate smokes weed all the time and when he's not home the smell lingers around even with windows open. \nAs a preemptive attack on the trollers, no I can't kick him out, nor will I rat him out to the landlord or police.... Or kill him or whatever else you will troll. ", "how to remove a lingering odor of marijuana in a home. I live in a house with 2 other people on the 2nd floor. One roommate smokes weed all the time and when he's not home the smell lingers around even with windows open. \nAs a preemptive attack on the trollers, no I can't kick him out, nor will I rat him out to the landlord or police.... Or kill him or whatever else you will troll. ", "how to remove a lingering odor of marijuana in a home. I live in a house with 2 other people on the 2nd floor. One roommate smokes weed all the time and when he's not home the smell lingers around even with windows open. \nAs a preemptive attack on the trollers, no I can't kick him out, nor will I rat him out to the landlord or police.... Or kill him or whatever else you will troll. ", "how to remove a lingering odor of marijuana in a home. I live in a house with 2 other people on the 2nd floor. One roommate smokes weed all the time and when he's not home the smell lingers around even with windows open. \nAs a preemptive attack on the trollers, no I can't kick him out, nor will I rat him out to the landlord or police.... Or kill him or whatever else you will troll. ", "how to remove a lingering odor of marijuana in a home. I live in a house with 2 other people on the 2nd floor. One roommate smokes weed all the time and when he's not home the smell lingers around even with windows open. \nAs a preemptive attack on the trollers, no I can't kick him out, nor will I rat him out to the landlord or police.... Or kill him or whatever else you will troll. ", "how to remove a lingering odor of marijuana in a home. I live in a house with 2 other people on the 2nd floor. One roommate smokes weed all the time and when he's not home the smell lingers around even with windows open. \nAs a preemptive attack on the trollers, no I can't kick him out, nor will I rat him out to the landlord or police.... Or kill him or whatever else you will troll. " ]

[ "Yeah try Ozium, its found in most stores that sell other air fresheners. Also talk to that roommate into trying to cut back the smell", "Ozium original or vanilla. If it stinks like burned weed you should ask him to either spoof it or smoke in the bathroom w the fan on... Etc. In my experience, opening a window just blows the smoke back in and makes the room positive in relation to the ambient pressure of the hallway thus \"pushing\" smells further around the house. If it stinks like fresh buds that aren't burned, buy him a mason jar w a latch for a new stash jar. If he buys really dank nugs, he may have to double bag his shit inside the mason jar. \nI used to live w a business pro non smoker who would entertain coworkers at the house, I had to be stealth. \n\nThe best non vented indoor antismoke setup I had was a dustbuster modified with a mouth piece, stuffed w a few dryer sheets, fins to direct exhaust vents into a manifold I made for a multitech indoor air purifier/smoke eater. The dustbuster was just duct taped to the air purifier. Worked really well and was a fun little project. ", "Ozium works wonders, however I read below you were willing to spend money for the problem to stop all together. You can buy herbal vaporizers only for 30 to 50 bucks online for a cheapie. It doesnt stop the smell all together but it's a different smell and if you didn't know it was weed you would know (smell doesn't linger or get stuck in fabrics). he'll save money on weed too. Suggest it to him before hand and if he isn't keen ask if he'd go halvies with you.", "Ozium http://www.amazon.com/OZIUM-SANITIZER-OZM-1-ORIGINAL-SCENT/dp/B000CSWCAG\n\nEliminates odors rather than just masking them. Works great for smoke. Usually found in the Auto/Car section.", "OK here is the compromise you strike: only in your room and only with a towel on the floor to block the crack on the bottom of the closed door. Because of its thick sticky smoke, you can't get rid of the lingering as the particles stick to everything. You can only cover it up or isolate it. \n\nIsolating it to the room does wonders, using a bong or pipe (smoke can be blown out window instead of billowing into air) and a fan / air freshened system complete the perfect setup. ", "My land lord actually taught me this... Burn ramen noodles to get any smell out.. It'll smell bad for a few hours but once the burnt smell is gone there is no smoke odors ", "Jeeze. I'm legal and own my own home but I do the courtesy of smoking outside. Ozium works but don't hot box the room with it. Open a window after the majority of the smell has left. \n\nDude should take a bong rip off two and blow it through a bounce tube as well. Sounds extremely inconsiderate. I smoke weed all day and no scent lingers anywhere. It's just not cool for those who smoke. I love the smell, but a clean house smells better", "Burnt toast. It doesn't smell like incense. Just smells like you are a bad cook. It obliterates all odors. I guarantee it.", "Exhaling into a toilet paper roll stuffed with dryer sheets works well to prevent the smell, as well as vaping rather than smoking (preferably with a volcano). Anything with bleach will help mask the smell.", "Advice: Don't smoke anything indoors. If you absolutely have to, put a box fan in a window to draw out smoke asap. Don't let it linger." ]

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[ "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! 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", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! 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", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! 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", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! 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", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! 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", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! 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", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! 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", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! 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", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! 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", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! 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", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! 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", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! 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", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! ", "How to handle group conversations which you are completely locked out of? I recently held a BBQ with a few mates and at one point the conversation turned to the intricacies of composing music... something they were all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! The conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject they were all very passionate about so always reverted back to them all talking between themselves and me just sitting in silence. They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. It was a small group and was literally the only one who was not talking.\n\nHow should someone handle this sort of situation? I don't want to have to actually say \"please change the subject\" but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject! " ]

[ "Don't be afraid to leave the conversation. Just start doing something at your house, getting new snacks, cleaning up, checking on your pets, etc. And let them realize whats happening and re-engage you. Lets you save face.\n\n", "Step 1: Listen. Feel free to nod and follow some keywords. Act as if you are interested on the subject.\nStep 2: Compliment or ask questions using some keywords you heard.\nStep 3: Profit. ", "All good advice. In the end, if they're really enjoying their conversation and there's no reasonable way for you to be part of it, just excuse yourself and leave. Not angrily, you're not trying to make them feel bad or \"get back\" at them in any way, but it's not working for you so time to go. Treat your time and presence like it's worth something, and you'll be happier in the long run.", "My boyfriend and many of his friends are in the Navy so this happens to me often. I don't understand the terms they use and they are allowed to give me details about many things so I sit in silence and normally just zone out. Then later the boyfriend will point out that I was quiet or didn't talk much. Duh, being a civilian means I have absolutely nothing to say about anything they talk about. ", "If there's someone away from the group or who also isn't in the discussion you can go over and try to talk to them. If there's someone in the group you already know who seems less engaged, see if you can get next to them and ask a question they're more interested in or to elaborate on something they said in the conversation, like \"Hey Fred, you said yesterday you were going to tell me more about the vacation you're planning?\" or \"Sally, can you tell me more about that new composition you were just telling everyone about?\" Try to engage an individual, not the group, and if they don't seem receptive don't push it.\n\nIf none of that applies you're best to just listen and take in what you can or go off on your own for a while in the least awkward way possible. Trying to repeatedly interject yourself into a conversation where everyone's way above your level is a bigger social faux pas and makes you look worse than just being quiet for that particular conversation. If they're that engaged they probably won't even notice you're not talking. Remember you don't have to be vital to every interaction or conversation to still be well regarded. If anyone asks why you're quiet just say \"I'm enjoying listening. It's really interesting to hear you guys talk about something you're passionate about and know so well.\"", "Smile. \n\nNod. \n\nRoll your eyes completely into your skull.\n\nEnjoy a vivid dream about eating your favorite pizza.\n\nLaugh at random intervals to avoid suspicion. ", "Hey, I can relate to this a lot. All my friends are interested in the medical field, trying to be EMT's, doctors, and physician's assistants. I really don't share that interest and I get shut out of convo's all the time when we go out and spend time together. Most of them actually work together at the same EMT squad and minute clinics so they always have something to talk about. I used to try to ask questions and be a part of the convo but I was really not welcome. \n\nReally don't have any solutions to this problem. In my case they've deemed me not interesting enough to maintain a friendship with, so I essentially have no friends anymore. If you don't want to end up like me, make sure there are at least other things you have in common that you can bond over. ", "When this happens to me I just don't say anything at all or leave to do something else (even if it's just answering emails on my phone). \n\nFor what it's worth, they're the ones committing a social faux pas, not you. It's not polite to have an extended conversation that excludes one person.", "This happens all the time when my friends start talking about sports. I'm intrigued at the statistical details some people can rattle off the top of their head about players even though they aren't known to me as a big sports fanatic. Best thing I've learned to do is ask a few questions here and there, don't pretend like you know something about it that you don't, and just listen. You'll probably learn something you didn't know before, and best case maybe it's the beginning of a new interest or hobby for you. Providing value in a conversation like that is near impossible, but if you can deal with your own silence for a bit, your quiet presence amongst friends isn't going to hinder their conversation or make you look uninteresting. Maybe later in a more personal setting you can mention the topic to get your friend(s) talking with you one on one about it enough for you to ask questions that will get a good conversation started about it. But when people who are passionate about something start engaging in intricate and high-level details of a subject together, it's probably not a good time to ask questions. Sometimes you've got to give them time to run out of steam before you can start a more relatable conversation. ", "Throw in a quote from an old Simpsons episode out of left field to put a wobble in. Did you know there's a direct correlation between the decline of Spirograph and the rise in gang activity?", "There's actually nothing you can do about that. You just have to hope you have friends smart enough to realize they've blatantly excluded someone based on the topic of conversation chosen. Some people are smart enough to realize this, others are not. If they're not, that's basically it.\n\nAs another commentor has said about being the drunkest, that's what I usually do. If my mouth isn't talking, it starts drinking, so I end up drunker than everyone else.", "Find new friends that share your interest. No point in pretending to be interested in something just so you can kinda-sorta be part of their conversations. ", "Sometimes if I'm not knowledgeable in a subject but still interested I ask them to explain some things they think would 'blow my mind' in an ELI5 type of way. This allows them to all explain different aspects they feel would better help you understand.", "sounds like your friends are rude. I skate as do many of my friends, if we are hanging out with a nonskater and the conversation ends up going towards skateboarding, we make an effort to include the friend. If they really dont seem into it, we ask, if they arent we change the topic. \n\nI feel like you should be honest and say something like \"I dont know alot about composing music, but am curious about it. Although, when i try to join in the conversation by asking a question, i get dismissed. I would appreciate being included.\" See how they respond and act accordingly.", "Exert your dominance. Spread your legs far apart. Change the subject to what YOU want to talk about. Gain rapport. ", "Let the group know you like sniffing pencils that have been on the oven, then you will become the centre of attention for the group.", "I'd say the 'smile and nod' and try to ask a relevant question thing works to a point, but I don't think anybody should be expected to sit through a long conversation that's essentially non-inclusive (through nobody's fault). If at somebody else's house, try to get with other groups or visit the food table, if not available and there's nothing of interest outside (looking at gardens is something I like, and am quite content to do it alone), go inside and stay in the public areas, but watch tv, or read a magazine, or something of interest.\n\nAlternately, sometimes watching people can be very entertaining. Try to figure out their body language, get to know their nuances, like a silent movie--tune them out and watch the fun. But, whatever you do, don't get pissed because they're passionate about something you're not. That's just how life is.\n ", "This happens to all of us in some form or fashion. During a wedding reception last weekend my husband and I were seated between two couples that both have young children, we're childless by choice. Multiple times during the evening they were chatting exclusively about their children, comparing experiences etc. and we were just left out of the conversation. All we could do was smile and nod, laughing along when they did about whatever inane aspect of their infant and toddler's development amused them. ", "There is absolutely *nothing* wrong with sitting in silence and listening and learning. Whenever I am in this kind of situation, I take advantage and listen and learn. \n\nYou don't have to *know* everything all the time. Practicing silence is something we do less and less, embrace it. \n\nMake fun of it, if you will! prepare yourself with a couple music jokes, quote Nickelback or Taylor Swift, make light of the situation. \n\nOr, get new friends, fuck em if they are being dismissive. I am a musician and made fun of people when I was 10-18. I'm 40 now and wouldn't do that now. If they make fun of you, get new friends, for sure, but you have to promise me you *won't feel bad* about it. ", "Well, I would normally just leave. But, seeing as how this was at a BBQ (I assume at your house) -- you were kinda stuck. But, I would not invite any of these dorks back to my house again.", "There is a saying in Germany: if you don't know, shut up!\nYou don't have to be involved in everything.", "Just keep repeating the point you want to get across over and over, gradually getting louder as you do so. Eventually a point in the conversation will occur where everyone stops talking and will focus attention on you if you do this correctly!", "Hey guys, we're playing BURGER ROULETTE....\n\nI've done something rather disgusting and possibly illegal in some states to one of these 10 burgers...who's hungry?\n", "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", "Why should they change the subject for you if they're enjoying themselves? A good LPT is its ok not to be involved in everything. ", "Listen and learn. It's fine if the conversation doesn't always involve you.\n\nIf it never involves you, time for new friends. This doesn't sound like that.", "If this happens frequently, you should try to expand your social circles. Find a group of people that share your passions. Took me a while to realize that with the group of friends I grew up with because of geography. We are still friends, but I've found another group that shares more of the things I enjoy. ", "I heard this great trick; you wait for a lull in the conversation, then you say some variation of this:\n\nHey, sounds weird, but that totally just reminded me of something that happened to me a few days ago. I... (tell a good story)\n\nHave a few good stories prepared. It's ok to reuse the same good story over again as long as it's a new audience. Usually once your story is finished people will naturally want to start telling their own story or will naturally change the subject.\n\n\nOne thing I've also learned is that it's really hard to have an equal conversation with 4 or more people. If you aren't interested in the conversation and can't get them to change the subject, start having your own conversation with someone else.\n\nChances are there are other people in the group who aren't interested in the current topic either.", "Get up and walk around. Cook some food. Have a glass of water. Find something more interesting to occupy your time.", "Can you just... Listen and learn? That's what I would personally do in this situation anyway. Ask questions.", "After a bit, you could speak up and say, \"Hey guys, I'm not following the conversation. Could you explain it to me? I feel a little silly not understanding what's going on\". If they're cool, they'll start including you in the conversation. If they're dicks, well now you know. ", "You sound pretty egotistical. If they're talking about something they're into, just let it roll. If your friends come to your place and have a good time, you win. You do not need to be a big part of every conversation. \n\nBut, if it goes on forever, try gently poking fun at them for being music nerds. That's something most musicians are accustomed to, and might get a bit of lighthearted banter going. If not, your friends are lame.", "You are the host. This is the situation you are supposed to create. Congratulate yourself and either join another group of guests or go do something in the kitchen.", "What you're describing sounds like a unique situation. It's okay for a deep engrossing conversation to revolve around you once in a while.\n\nWas there not anyone else to talk to while they were talking shop?\n\nIf this is happening to you or with a particular group on a regular basis, you may want to bring it up to one you feel closest to after the fact and tell them how it makes you feel.", "Time to pick up Pokemon Go and catch caterpies off your friends' faces.\n\nHonestly, from your other replies, I feel that, in the long run, you need to find some other friends. If they don't have any other strong interests in common with you, then it might be in your best interest to realize that they aren't going to remain close for too long. If they can talk for hours on end about composing music without any desire to include you or change subjects you should inform them of how it makes you feel: try to invoke empathy and perhaps they will understand. They can talk about those things extensively when you aren't around or have other worthwhile tasks you can tend to.\n\nGood luck, Serious! I've had many friends drop out of existence and it still hurts for me to recall that they are no longer a part of my life, but now I have a couple amazing friends that I love. It may take some time to find amazing friends but don't give up!", "This may not be the answer you're looking for, but when people get that invested in a conversation focused on a topic that you know pretty much nothing about, maybe you should you let them have their conversation and find someone else to speak to if you can.", "This is more about social queues. You realize you're not part of the conversation/they don't recognize your opinions as valid. Just leave it alone, don't force it", "Playing board games or video games are your friend. People can still be talking about whatever but no matter what everyone gets to participate in socializing through the game. It brings common ground to any situation. \n\nI remember being at a party once where everyone was in the same social circle but me. So they would all be gossiping and talking about inside stuff while I just sat there on the sidelines. When they broke out the games though I was able to engage with everyone without being intrusive. ", "One conversation at a BBQ concerning a subject you don't know enough about to input with your mates and you are wanting a tip so you don't feel excluded.\n\nDo this... quit thinking about yourself long enough to be able to sit and listen to something your friends are involved in the doesn't include you and allow them to enjoy their commonality.\n\nTwo things will happen. You might gain enough knowledge in the long run to be able to participate or at the very least ask interesting enough questions that they are welcome. The second thing is you will have successfully demonstrated to your friends that *they* are allowed to be themselves while around you.\n\nBelieve it or not they have the same feelings as you. People want to be around people that make them feel welcome and this isn't always something to be received. Sometimes you have to give it.\n\nThat's a fact of life. Another is simply if you are not interested and you never feel like you have something in common find a different group to hang with but be careful about trying to change a group just to accommodate yourself.", "One cannot learn something new when their ears are closed and their mouth is open. When we speak, we are regurgitating what we already know. When we listen, we learn something new. \n\nIf they stop and ask why you aren't speaking, just tell them you are listening. I entertain guests all the time that speak of things I have no interest in, like sports, but I still listen and can respect the fact that I most definitely do not know everything.", "Maybe you could hang out with one of them at a time instead of as a group? Like, have lunch together. You might also consider inviting a different mix of people with different interests. If you invite a whole group of people to a party who have the same interest, don't be surprised when they delve deeply into it.", "Kinda sounds like they're assholes and had no problem boxing you out. I wouldn't worry about it. You gave it a good effort.", "Just wanted to let you know that you aint alone with that situation. It happens to me once in a while with my friends because they listen to alot of hip hop/rap and it's the same as you are descriping where it's hard to get in on the conversation without the knowledge. \n\nI usualy do something else like rolling a joint and listen in on the conversation but properly not a solution for you. \n\nHope it gets better for you and that this post will help you ", "It might be awkward to quietly say 'Please change the topic.' \n\nThat is why I use the method of yelling, 'Holy Shit! How boring can you be! Didn't make you food to be ignored! Is there anything else we can talk about?'\n\n\nHumor always wins. ", "Interrupt. I like to break in with 'so anyway, I was fucking this vicar'. Works great at ending the conversation you're not a part of. ", "If there's nothing to add, then there's nothing to add. Usually what I do in these situations, is that I suck it up and ignore the awkward(which is actually overemphasized and not really awkward at all) while just giving praise or complimenting whenever or just leave and do something else for the time being.", "I'd probably go for one of two approaches: (a) screw it all and find something else to do like some others have said... Not in a spiteful way, but if nobody's going to make an effort to include you in the conversation then in a sense they're not entirely respecting your hospitality, so it's not so antisocial if your focus shifts to something else... or (b) treat it as an opportunity to learn a bit about your friends' shared interest... Ask a few basic questions each time, just enough to vaguely follow what's going on... Give it a couple of sessions of this and you'll find your questions are a bit less basic and your understanding is slightly less vague already. Win win. I'm sure your friends will appreciate your trying to understand them better, probably laugh at some of the questions if they seem really simple to them, but that's fun too.", "I sometimes experience this when hanging out with my partner and his friends who are all studying for PHDs in various scientific fields.\n\nMy best solution is to allow the conversation to go on for a reasonable time. Then be polite but direct about communicating your desire to participate. That way you respect their need to discuss subjects of interests but also make them aware that you are being excluded. Allots of times when ppl are really into a subject they may not even be aware that they are shutting you out. I also find directly pointing out ,in a humorous way, your outsider status to be a good way to get an introduction into a technical discussion. \n\nWhile there's nothing wrong with having a passionate conversation about a very specific interests it's also courtesy to include others at mixed social function. This is doubly true if that person is the host of the party and has invited everyone to their home.\n\n", "I love learning new things, so in situations like these, I thoroughly enjoy sitting back and list listening to the conversation.\n\nThis doesn't have to be a \"Negative\" though, unless you feel socially awkward. Usually I will just sit and listen, and someone will eventually turn to me and say \"sorry, this conversation...\" at which time I interrupt them and say \"no worries, keep going, this is interesting even if most of it is over my head!\" then they keep on.\n\nAll the while, what I am doing, is taking notes on certain key points that people make. Later in the evening I will use those points to start up new conversations with people from the group that I don't know. \"I heard you earlier talking about \"half tones\" what did you mean by that?\" \n\nIt's a great way to engage people who you usually don't talk to, all while learning a lot of interesting stuff!\n\nThe payoff later is worth the akward silence, but I actually enjoy socially uncomfortable situations, for some odd reason (probably cause I'm a Soc major, we're odd like that)", "I JUST experienced this! It was my roommate's family's cookout and we're close but I immediately realized the difference between being a girlfriend and being a friend. As a friend he's not obligated to introduce me to anyone or make sure I'm included in too much. Now he knows I can get along with just about anyone but I never realized how difficult I found it to just speak up in a group of people my own age (23). I had no input on their topic of conversation nor did anyone ask if I had any. It honestly got to the point where I thought to myself.. Do I just leave? And that's never me at all. I panicked and talked to his older family all day. Plus side: grandma loves me now. ", "Happens every time my friends talk about anime. Never bothers me because I usually get to sit there and make jokes, laugh at them, and call them weebs. I give zero fucks about anime for the most part. \n\n", "Don't ask the whole group questions, single out someone who is on the edge of the group, next to you. \"What first got you into music?\" \"What piece of music did you enjoy making the most?\" \"How many of your friends and family have heard your music? Is there any way I could listen to some of your work?\" \n\nIf any of these get them enthusiastically telling you about their life, they will eventually say something you can relate to.", "Ask questions instead of offering information? Maybe you could learn a thing or two.\n\n\"Who is your favorite movie composer?\" etc.", "A lot of advice here is to politely leave until there's a topic you can contribute to, but if this isn't a viable option I'd recommend just sitting quietly and looking engaged, you don't even have to ask questions, just follow the conversation attentively and look interested in it. You might learn something you can use another time! ", "\"Ha, I don't understand any of this! I'm gonna take a shot every ten minutes that you guys talk music!\"\n\nSelf deprecating, but then you can draw attention back to it often. WHATS THIS? SHOT NUMBER NINE. SURE HAS BEEN A WHILE HUH MUFGGAS..", "walk away.. it seems that you didn't hold a bbq .. it seems more like you funded their get together.. you know thats fine.. an hour is a long time though depending on how long your party was.. they came over talked to each other and ate your food.. just shut down the shop and go do something else...\n\nNOW WITH THAT SAID.. you don't always need to be the center of conversation all of the time even at your own party.. but.. kinda rude in my opinion.. I am sure they had a great time but it seems you felt left out in your own house.. \n\nI am sure there is a more appropriate way to handle this but i don't really care", "sounds to me like your friends don't give a shit about you. i wouldnt say find new friends since that's quite hard but keep that in mind the next time you are asked for help. if you have to sacrifice anything of value, don't. that's all. they are ALL aware that you are not part of the convo and that you're sitting there like an idiot. they just don't care. they're doing it at your own party so you can't even leave. that's just ridiculous.", "mrcanor's advice is great. Listening will help because it will allow you to empathize and to ask them about things they are interested in. You said \"I tried to get involved by asking questions,\" which is good. People love to talk about themselves. Try to key in on things that interest them, rather than what you'd like to know. It's always fun to get someone fired up about something they feel really strongly about. If you listen well and truly engage in conversation, there's good odds that other speaker will recall their conversation with you as pleasurable, and associate you with those nice feelings.\n\nSomething else you wrote concerns me though. You said \"They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed.\" Behaviors like this should set off your warning bells. First off, it's common sense that when you are a guest in someone's home, you will treat them with respect and kindness. And there's more to it than just that. When you invited your friends to your barbecue, you were telling them \"I value you as a friend, So much so, that I'd like to share a meal and my free time with you.\" By coming to your BBQ, your guests are implicitly acknowledging that, and indicating they value you as a friend too. Friends don't purposefully exclude other friends from conversations, belittle them, or ignore them.\n\nSince I wasn't there, I can't know the whole story. I suggest you re-examine the situation with a trusted confidant. Your description of the situation makes me think you may feel used or taken advantage of. I'd try to talk those feeling out with someone. It's important to learn if these feelings stem from your perception of the situation, or if people are really mistreating you.\n", "go make yourself busy manning the bbq or preparing drinks then interject when the conversation wines out with drinks or food or something ", "ask them if they feel fuxian counterpoint still has a place in modern music...then ask each one of them individually which mode of the melodic minor scale they prefer (you prefer lydian augmented). who wants to talk about fugues? (not really anybody!) \n...hopefully this will stun and confuse them, moving the conversation to new territory ;) ", "You've actually answered your question. Simply point out that you can't add or engage in the conversation, and unless they don't mind that you are left out... please change the subject. Life is short. Express what you want outloud. Ditch the subterfuge and presumed politenesses. You'll be surprised at the results.", "You don't always have to be talking in a conversation. I often have things to contribute to conversations I came across while being silent in other conversations. ", "You could try to understand the subject matter in a fun way, for instance I was at a gathering where a few friends were playing poker. I have no idea how to play so I asked a friend to teach me, I wasn't really understanding the rules so I asked him to teach it to me as if it were Street Fighter. Now this was over a decade ago so I don't exactly remember how my friend did it or even if it was a good analogy for poker but just him trying to explain that way was pretty fun for both of us and other people started to vet involved with the premise as well and it didn't hurt that alcohol was involved.", "You can give them like 15 minutes of this as a courtesy, nod/smile/listen/etc. after this you just have to mock them until they change the subject. I doubt any of those people are super sucessful musicians so just tool on them for a bit and itll change up. \"When does your next album drop\". \"What label did you sign with again\" etc.\n\nYeah ur the dick for 10 seconds but theyll forget and its worth it in exchange for 45 minutes of ur time. Theyre the dicks for excluding you as the host anyway. Its like being at a fantasy football draft for a league ur not in. Fuck that noise", "You are the reason these people with a similar focus are together. Deliver periodic breaks with rewards that lead toward your goals.", "While other responses are accurate for this, remember that it is polite to pull someone into a conversation that they're excluded from and that good friends should do this.", "Well usually people who are knowledgeable in something love yapping about it and teaching others. If it were one on one I could easily have someone spend an hour talking about their passion. Usually in group convos I'll try to steer the convo to something I know about by mentioning a news report or football game I saw or such if it's appropriate and the last topic's dying down some. Otherwise I'll just walk away and find other people to talk to, what's the point otherwise of being involved in a conversation they're pretty much excluding you from?", "Turn on the TV, semi-low volume, put in a gripping, suspense movie until they change the subject or get engrossed in whatever's on the tube. \n*sorry if this seems rude, but it's all I could think of. I have no use for people, friends or otherwise, that leave me out of their circle. When they start that shit I just do my own thang...*", "This may sound counter intuitive and perhaps a terrible idea, but you should get up and leave the premise. Sounds like your \"friends\" don't care much about your welfare as you think. When I'm with my friends, although we share different backgrounds, I try to involve them as much as possible. Alternatively find a hobby or 'thing' that you're truly passionate about; don't feel like you need to adopt your friend's lifestyle, just so you can be a \"good\" friend.", "This has literally never been an issue in my entire life. Not that this situation does not happen to me but I usually do not care enough to want to be in a conversation that badly lol.", "This comment will most likely be on the bottom, but I think it was pretty brave and awesome that you had a BBQ and invited people over. If they were being rude, that's on them because it sounds like you were a good host. ", "Think about this: Would you dismiss the opinion of a special needs person on the grounds they know less than you? Of course not. So why are your \"friends\" dismissing the insights of a layman? They should welcome your silly little comments and questions as a pleasant distraction and it maybe you have some valuable insight theyve overlooked, albeit unlikely. It sounds like theyre the ones who need social advice, not you.", "There's no such thing as \"I know absolutely nothing about that\", it's \"I haven't had enough drinks to know that yet\"", "There's a reason you feel locked out. Only you can find it.\n\nAs for getting into conversation you know jack shit about, if it's interesting, listen and learn. If it's boring, vamoose.\n\nDon't shit on somebody else's convention.\n\nSimple.", "The most important thing is to just listen. Then the next time a conversation like that happens you'll have some knowledge going in.", "Take every reply you've gotten on Reddit here, and go through that list. Eventually you'll find something. ", "Start composing music! It's easy and fun! Here's a short text piece composition: \"Play a high note, play a low note, then play a note somewhere in the middle. Set your instrument down and then drink a beer.\" Now you try!\n\n", "Sometimes the best life pro tips are to tell the parties exactly what you ask, here, on Reddit. Often we answer our own questions by voicing our concerns to uninvolved parties, because we are too timid or uncertain to make the same comments to the involved parties.\n\nHere's your original post, with very few words changed:\n\nHey musician buddies...I hosted a BBQ and you guys were so passionate about music composition that I was completely locked out of the conversation. It's something you are all extremely passionate about and I know absolutely nothing whatsoever! Your conversation lasted at least an hour and although I tried to get involved by asking questions it was a subject you guys kept reverting back to talking between yourselves and me just sitting in silence. I actually felt quite intrusive in my own house, at my own BBQ, when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so you could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about. \n\nMy BBQ was a small group and I was literally the only one who was not talking. How should I handle this sort of situation if I have you guys over again? I don't want to shut you down, or say \"please change the subject\" because you guys are having a great conversation, but I don't want to sit in silence for an hour feeling like some kind of reject when you guys get going.\n\n\n*And then wait for the response.* ", "Sit and listen. You may have no idea what is going on, but you'd be surprised what you can learn from it. For example, i once learned that a boss I had was terrified of snakes. This is useful, because I couldn't stand her at the time and started constructing ways to mess with her using snakes. Although I never went through with it, it was certainly more entertaining than her droning on about whatever she was talking about.", "Sigh, I find this happens to me a lot too. I try and think of questions to ask but then think \"well... That seems obvious...I could work that out\"... but I ask anyway and look really interested... Sometimes you can use this as an in to finding something in common... Otherwise try and pick up on other details to get them to elaborate on ", "Realize that life's not all about you and let them enjoy their fucking conversation. Or take up music. ", "Perhaps you could gently push them towards another subject with a composers-related lead-in like, \"I dont know much about composing but i loved the music on the Inception soundtrack. That was a great movie, though. Do you think that could ever happen (manipulating dreams like that)?/What did you guys think of that movie?\"\n\nHonestly, though, there's nothing wrong with just listening. You might learn something and if you're actively listening you are participating still. If you get too bored just browse your phone and I'm sure they'll get the hint. ", "Not for this specific situation maybe, but more in general. Read: \"Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking\" by Susan Cain.\nShe also has a very interesting TED Talk, which led me to purchase and read her book. It's not real self-help book in the traditional way, but it helped me understand my own strengths (I'm very introverted) in conversations and day to day life (e.g. Work). \nHope it helps! If you don't like or have the time to read I'd atleast recommand watching the TED Talk! \nGoodluck! ", "Make a joke off of some comment. Use that break as a means of steering the conversation back to something relevant to you. Maybe it's similar to something that happened to you recently. If it's not too abrasive it can be a good transition into something you can be part of again. Jokes always help. Toss in a pun or two, even if it's stupid. Humor can be very commanding if used wisely.", "Lots of good advice here. Buut if you're a bit of a shitkicker and uncomfortable feeling ignored/a wallflower, here's my trick:\n\nIf you really must say something, you can always drop a conversational grenade by asking \"what's something most people (newbies) don't know/get wrong about activity X?\" Or \"is there any ongoing debate or scandal in the field of X?\" \n\nThen just sit back and watch the conversation reroute under your control. Pepper in more questions as necessary, kind of acting as mediator between the two (hopefully) now debating sides of the argument. ", "LPT: Don't hang around with douchebag musicians. I play/make music, and even if you know what you are talking about there will be someone else that \"knows\" more or is \"better\" at it. I've heard albums recorded on a fuzzy four track that are better than albums made with modern recording equipment. Music is subjective.\n\nSource: I am a douchebag musician. ", "Just look for the other guy who looks like the conversation is shit, and talk to him/her about something else. ", "Just listen to the conversation. You may be on the outside but ask questions as they converse shows you are interested and they tend to give you more details to clue you in on what's going on. Don't interrupt to much but show you are genuinely interested.", "Just leave and don't hang out with them if they're going to be total dicks like that often. That's seriously shitty to just go on like that and just leave someone you supposedly want to have out with to just listen and feel like some kind of ass.", "It wouldn't be so bad. Just say,\n\n\"Hey guys can we change the subject? I know nothing about composing.\"\n\nIf you'd rather sound like an asshole than sensitive you could trash talk it like \"I'm gonna kill myself if I have to hear another thing about ______.\" But that might not go so well.", "It seems quite rude that the guests you've invited over would overtly ignore you like that. Why are you friends with these guys if you don't share interest in a topic that's that important to them? ", "It depends on how comfortable you are with the group obviously. \n\nSubtle hints should be enough to get them to realize you're uncomfortable with not being included. ( restlessness, sighs of boredom etc)\n\nIf you're not close, I'd say the best option is to be blunt. I understand they're passionate, but they're there to socialize just like you, not colab on an album. \n\nIf it was me I'd jokingly say something like \" alright boys, enough about that. Someone help me get this meat going and let's hear some of this infamous music.\" \n\nThere's a time and place for in depth conversation but that's not one of them. Keep it light while still getting the point across. \n\nThe key is to get a sincere point across while not putting a damper on the party. ", "In your case, you were just out of your element; not much to do in that case. If your friends weren't patient enough to accomodate your level of specialized knowledge, that's a case of poor chemistry between you and them. Not to be a dick about it or anything; this shit happens when you have a diverse pool of acquaintances—interests and knowledge don't always line up.", "In this scenario, I'd try finding tangents related to music that interest me and might also interest them:\n\nI know next to nothing about music composition but I was/am a huge fan of the TV series Hannibal. The show featured music that music enthusiasts probably appreciate, and diverting the topic to music in television might somehow bring the conversation at least more in line with my own interests. \n\nMusic in <topic of your interest> is probably a good way to get involved, at least with this group of people. Just find a good point to bring it up. Original scores for movies you loved and why (Duel of the Fates from Star Wars Episode 1 might be something I bring up). \n\nIf slightly diverting the topic away from technical aspects of music to music appreciation don't work, I don't know how I would get involved. Personally, when I'm not part of a conversation (generally any topic related to sports), I'll just find the most comfortable spot to sit and relax, and sort of m", "Imogen Lloyd Webber - The Intelligent Conversationalist: 31 Cheat Sheets That Will Show You How to Talk to Anyone About Anything, Anytime. ", "If these are close friends then don't feel the need to include yourself. Showing independence by excusing yourself for a moment to make a phone call or compose an email goes a long way. When It happens to me, I don't bother concerning myself with whether they care if I pay attention or not. I'll just entertain myself and jump in to the conversation when appropriate. I still laugh at jokes and stuff, but their conversation isn't my main focus.", "ITT: If people won't talk to you, walk away from them to passively advertise you've been left out. Alternatively, be more interesting. Lastly, stop having shitty friends.\n\nThis advice brought to you by socially stunted individuals like me.", "I'd just leave them to it. The fact that they were happy to cut you out of the conversation shows how little regard they had for you (at that time) so it looks like you need better friends, or at least a better mix of friends with varying interests.\n\nIn this case, go chat to the girlfriends/boyfriends who are also probably feeling segregated.\n\nIf you really want to drive the point home, just lock up the house, leave the back gate open take off and leave them to it. Go find something fun to do. It sounds like they probably wouldn't notice you'd gone.", "I would either just sit there on reddit or try and change the subject. But me and my friends all have the same interests. And if we don't I just ask stupid questions so they feel the need to educate me thus I have now learned about their interest and can now participate in conversations about it. But I wouldn't feel bad about not talking you always have your Internet friends!!", "I usually interject with a humorous gross misunderstanding of the subject matter. Striking the perfect balance of self deprecation and ego can do wonders. Just don't mock their interests or become too annoying or a downer. Being the fool of the conversation is something that you can really just turn on every minute or so, like the rest of the real conversation is the build up to a punchline. Once you've hit 3 or 4 nicely timed comedic reliefs, you can use their laughter as a segue to pretty much any other topic because they'll be pretty suggestible at that point.", "I think you just gotta listen and occasionally ask questions. Just because you don't know anything about the subject doesn't mean you have to be left out of it. Though definitely don't try to take over the conversation. ", "I meet up with friends regularly, about half a dozen of us, and when they start talking about sports I just switch off (zone out, grab some drinks for everyone, play with the phone). They know I'm not interested, and I know they don't have so much free time that they meet up without me along that often. So I let them chat they keep it a reasonable length of time. We never needed to actually articulate this deal, it just evolved. There are other subjects where other people are less involved. \n\nAnyway my suggestion: try talking to these people I would do so one by one and just be honest, say you're feeling excluded. These are your friends you know how to communicate with them better than I do, but keep it friendly keep it honest, and just ask them not to exclude you for so long or at all or whatever suits really. I would avoid making it accusatory, don't call them rude or insensitive, just talk about the problem without blame. They're being keen friendly enthusiastic and social, just on a subject that excludes you which sucks, but I never expect to share every interest of my friends.", "I have had similar issues. If you're good friends with these people, its best to be direct. I usually would say something along the lines of \"Hey, we're not all composers here!\" That would usually get them to wrap up their conversation and move on", "I had musician friends. I know this. But I offered to write text for their music. So we had to work together. But in yr place I wd never again invite all of them together. Or start learning piano and ssk them stuff", "I feel like it's always my job to make sure people aren't left out, but it's never my job to include myself. Conversations are best when they're natural and free-flowing, to try to shape it away from its natural path is usually a bad idea. If no one's making an effort to include you, that sucks, but it would only make things worse for everyone if you derailed the thing entirely. ", "I either extricate myself subtly (going to get a drink and never returning to that group) or more obviously, by saying \"You guys seem pretty engrossed so I'm gonna leave you to it\" non-judgemental, just like have fun, I'm out.\n\nOther times, particularly if it's the only available group, I'll push wrote hard to not change the topic, but to make it relevant to my level of understanding. This often happens in music conversations because I don't care much for music in general, so never have anything interesting to say on it. How a composer gets their inspiration, or deals with writer's block, or is able to hear what something written will sound like, that does interest me. This way they tend to stay interested, and become keen to explain their creative process, and I understand not about the world and don't feel left out.", "I dunno what your personalty is like (I'm very direct) but when the convo has gone on for long enough just cut in and asked if they want to play cards, go to the pub or talk about something else. I'm all for natural conversation but sometimes things need to be redirected to respect everyone's time. Chances are they will drop the subject if you say, \"Hey, do you guys want to play cards or something?\" Or if they want too, at least you have something to do. \n\nI know you are hosting in this situation but I wouldn't become a waiter/maid like a lot of these comments are suggesting. ", "Honestly, there is not a whole lot you can do. You could try and jump in with some ignorant questions, or just sit and listen and try to follow along. It is on them to hopefully realize they are being rude and talk about something else after a while.\n\nI have been in similar situations but with friends who I was comfortable enough with to say straight out, can we talk about something else because I have no fucking clue what you are on about. If that does not work than I just find something else to do for a while and let them ramble on. ", "Honestly, if they were your friends, they would involve you in the conversation. \n\nIf you are in a social situation where you only know couple of people then your best bet is to just excuse yourself and mingle with others.", "Good advice on here! Im usually interested in the conversation but stand there awkwardly trying to understand what they are talking about and i dont want to interrupt thier conversation.", "Go on your phone, either just browse the internet to pass the time, or find some info/questions about composing music.", "For funsies, you should join us over at /r/musictheory and try to educate yourself for next time. I know it sounds like they're speaking another language, but once you learn some basic terms and what they more or less mean (tonic, dominant, ii, IV, assorted modes, etc.), you can figure out a lot from context.\n\nPlus it's cool to learn new things!", "First of all, you need to be able to identify the person \"leading\" the conversation. That person's going to be the one talking the loudest / the most, and usually the one bringing up new topics for discussion. Quietly study the flow of the conversation for a minute or two from the side to identify that person. Once you identified him / her, stab them in the neck with some sort of sharp implement, whatever you can find lying around; or in some other appropriate way neutralize them, to establish dominance of the conversation. Then, simply gently nudge the conversation toward a topic you are more comfortable / familiar with.\n\n\n\n\"...I was considering using the harmonic minor scalAAUGH\"\n\n**STAB STAB STAB**\n\n*gurgling*\n\n\"So guys, anyone else here play Pokemon GO?\"", "Don't you have a smartphone and headphones? All else fails time to go into smartphone world. Sounds like your friends are rude and inappropriate for that behavior. ", "Don't fake interest. Just sit there with a blank expression. Get up and putter around in the kitchen. Watch videos on your phone. I think they were being a little rude. A little is ok but am hour is excessive.", "Depending on how good friends you are and how often this happens, talking with them about the issue can be a way to go. Sometimes people are so into what they are discussing that they don't realize that somebody is left out. \n\nIn a nice way though, focus on *you* and not them. Not \"*You* are talking boring stuff and being inconsiderate\" but \"I do not burn for this issue, and Im also not so familiar with the terminology and all so maybe we could focus on something else?\". And maybe say this later, not in the moment when your friend is in the middle of a cool story about the matter, but later say \"Hey, lately we have often.. blah blah\". \n\nIf it's just one BBQ, I would just listen and let them talk. If often, say something/find another circle of friends. Or then go do something (say sports) instead of just hanging out, so that it's not all about talking.", "Can't tell you how to get out of it once it happens, but I can say that if it does it's always a good opportunity to be exposed to something new. ", "Better you admit that you don't know about it, if you ask the question about the subject, they'll show their interest in your side, and everyone will explain and tell about those things... ", "Ask them if they have any of there music with them, if they do play it and comment on their music playing. That's a easy way to get you involved", "Ask questions. Simple enough. Then they're able to continue the conversation and include you at the same time.", "Ask questions silly. Example:\nFriend: In the fourth measure the woodwinds become more contrapunctive.\n\nYou: what does contrapunctive mean?\n\nFriend: *Explains Contrapunctive*\n\nYou: Oh interesting, is there a piece of music we can listen to so I can here what you mean?\n\nFriend: Sure, put on famous old guys eighth symphony.\n\nAll: *Enjoying while friend points out the contrapunctive woodwinds*\n\nYou: That's very interesting. \n\nAll these people telling you to leave the conversation or ask to change the subject are holding you back. You should use it as an opportunity to learn something and appreciate what your friends do and know, not shy away. You aren't going to know something about every topic so ask!. Sheesh.\n\n", "Are you hanging with the right crowd? Are you learning or interested in the things that they do or talk about? Is it generally the same trend? You are supposed to have fun with your friends, as well as share knowledge, opinions etc. If this is a common thing that is happening, whilst you don't need to ditch these friends, you should make some friends who has the same hobbies. Who enjoys talking about similar things. Next time, let them come, if they keep doing what they doing, go do your own thing. Don't sulk, don't be angry, just go do your own thing. They will get it sooner or later, and if they being douches about it, well you learnt something. ", "Already a lot of good advice but a huge one for me is this: Make small lighthearted jokes about the situation, for example:\n\"Guest 1: Oh indeed! I would have to agree with you Mr. Pretentious; the third suite of Bach's last concerto had way too much counterpoint.\"\n\"Guest 2: (sips wine and frowns a distasteful face at the 300$ merlot bottle) And such a shame, being his last composition, his last \"great\" work. Like... like a block of aged cheese that obtains perfection, but then ages beyond perfection and turns to molsd\"\nYou: (completely pulling this out of your ass). \"No, you see, you guys have it all wrong. Bach knew exactly what he was doing; the discordant notes of said piece were intentional, its us that lack adequate growth and knowledge to appreciate the song. It's like back to the future, you know? Marty plays the rock and roll decades before people its popular and the crowd wallows in their confusion and stupidity. So all wee need is a flux capacitor, as thus that should in fact be thy primary goal for us all. If we can just find enough uranium and an old scientist with crazy hair then we will finally have a shot at advancing in time to the era when Bach's last piece will be understood and appreciated- in 2 years or so. Its all pretty simple really.\n\nOkay nvm about that joke that was wayy to long and serious, use that as an example of what not to say. Instead say something like:\n\n\"Oh cool, I think... hey I know some of those words!'\nOR\n\"Well i'm glad I know so much about music... just think how bored I'd be if I had to pretend this was an interesting topic!\"\n\nokay those were both pretty bad too, but you get the idea. The key is lightheartedness! Make them laugh and they'll subconsiously be more inclined to change the subject as well as consciously with your subtle request to change the subject", "All my old mates spoke about was cars 24/7. I tried contributing and learning but it's just not something I'm passionate about, so I stopped talking to them and did my own thing when I was around them. Eventually stopped talking to them altogether but that was over them always festering in drama. Car talk still contributed a bit though. It did end up putting me off cars (JDM especially, it's all one spoke about, and he was very cocky about it too).", "Adult attention span is about an hour right? So you can sit through that just like a work meeting that you don't give a shit about. At least there are beers at your bbq, right?\n\nIf they're still gabbing, go start a fire in the fire pit, fire up the hookah and turn on the tunes. At least you got tunes, yah?\n\nHost a good party, and if you're guests are boring, you've still got hosting duties. Make some brownies. Go get more beers. Hey, it's time for specialty cocktails!", "> They made me feel quite intrusive when I tried to get involved and I was always quickly dismissed so they could talk more about this subject I knew nothing about\n\nWhen we're in a group going somewhere and I start talking to one of the guys about something only him and I are interested, I'm aware that I'm bringing the subject up and I don't want to make the other feels left out but sometimes I really want to talk about it. If the others show interest about the subject and ask questions about it, I try to fully answer them and try to bring them in, even if I find their question to be degrees behind of knowledge about the conversation I was having with the other dude. Is this not what happens with you? When you ask a question, do they not try to give you a full comprehensible answer? Are they able to or do they feel it's too complex to explain?" ]

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[ "Eating a sandwich on firm bread (like dutch crunch or baguette) without smushing the contents of the sandwich out the opposite end. I don't understand why sandwich places even offer these breads when eating them is such a pain. Clearly I need some pro-tips for my sandwich eating life.", "Eating a sandwich on firm bread (like dutch crunch or baguette) without smushing the contents of the sandwich out the opposite end. I don't understand why sandwich places even offer these breads when eating them is such a pain. Clearly I need some pro-tips for my sandwich eating life.", "Eating a sandwich on firm bread (like dutch crunch or baguette) without smushing the contents of the sandwich out the opposite end. I don't understand why sandwich places even offer these breads when eating them is such a pain. Clearly I need some pro-tips for my sandwich eating life.", "Eating a sandwich on firm bread (like dutch crunch or baguette) without smushing the contents of the sandwich out the opposite end. I don't understand why sandwich places even offer these breads when eating them is such a pain. Clearly I need some pro-tips for my sandwich eating life.", "Eating a sandwich on firm bread (like dutch crunch or baguette) without smushing the contents of the sandwich out the opposite end. I don't understand why sandwich places even offer these breads when eating them is such a pain. Clearly I need some pro-tips for my sandwich eating life.", "Eating a sandwich on firm bread (like dutch crunch or baguette) without smushing the contents of the sandwich out the opposite end. I don't understand why sandwich places even offer these breads when eating them is such a pain. Clearly I need some pro-tips for my sandwich eating life.", "Eating a sandwich on firm bread (like dutch crunch or baguette) without smushing the contents of the sandwich out the opposite end. I don't understand why sandwich places even offer these breads when eating them is such a pain. Clearly I need some pro-tips for my sandwich eating life.", "Eating a sandwich on firm bread (like dutch crunch or baguette) without smushing the contents of the sandwich out the opposite end. I don't understand why sandwich places even offer these breads when eating them is such a pain. Clearly I need some pro-tips for my sandwich eating life.", "Eating a sandwich on firm bread (like dutch crunch or baguette) without smushing the contents of the sandwich out the opposite end. I don't understand why sandwich places even offer these breads when eating them is such a pain. Clearly I need some pro-tips for my sandwich eating life.", "Eating a sandwich on firm bread (like dutch crunch or baguette) without smushing the contents of the sandwich out the opposite end. I don't understand why sandwich places even offer these breads when eating them is such a pain. Clearly I need some pro-tips for my sandwich eating life." ]

[ "This problem results from improper sandwich construction.\n\nThe key is layering…the order in which you stack the various components of your sandwich. Don't put slippery stuff like tomatoes and avocados between two smooth layers, like cheese and lettuce. Anything gooey goes next to the bread.", "Best thing I have found is to alternate ends when biting. That way the things get smooshed back and forth instead of all out one side. It's not ideal so here's hoping someone has thought of something better...", "Well when you make a sandwich on baguette you can hollow out the bread inside and make a sandwich canoe of sorts to hold all of your smush inside. . Use the extra bread to make panzanella or Romesco! ", "So, no one here has ever used toothpicks to hold their sandwiches together? I feel so brave mentioning it..", "This might sound crazy, but I carry a kitchen knife almost everywhere. Cutting a goopy sandwich into smaller pieces would almost certainly do the trick. I mean you can always have those assholes cut it for you. I use these little 4 or 5 inch santoku's with a plastic sheath. I think Kuhn Rikon makes them. They're pretty awesome but don't forget its in your backpack when you go through TSA. ", "The simple solution is to just put less smushy stuff on your sandwich and keep it towards the center.\n\nIf you have the need for such smushiness then I recommend when you pick up the sandwich grab it from the back and smash it down there, as you eat anything trying to eject from the sandwich will go towards your mouth.", "Just take the wrapper (or a paper towel if its homemade) and wrap it around the sides you aren't eating. Then fold it back as you go!", "It's kinda lame but I recently started cutting my sandwiches like this into smaller sections, kinda like how catered sub trays but I do it even smaller like 1 inch widths, it kinda defeats the purpose of the sandwich in terms of handheld/convenience etc but it lets me enjoy the subs I get from the old school Italian delis without losing my meat", "Open faced sandwich - it's healthier, too, since with bread like that you usually don't need two pieces unless you work out a lot and have a high metabolism.", "Are you seriously asking for advice on how to eat? As stupid as this thread is, I think I can help you. I know exactly what you're talking about as I just had Jimmy John's over the weekend and their bread is really chewy/tough. \n\nEat it like a hot dog with the bread opening pointing up. It's not perfect, you'll have to smush the goodies inside back into place every now and then, but it's not nearly as messy as trying to eat it like a traditional sandwich where your top and bottom teeth are each trying to get through one bread side of the sandwich. " ]

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[ "How to stop the urge to pick at my pimples? I've been reading some tips on this subreddit about how to remove acne and many of them have emphasized the fact that you need to stop touching your face, but sometimes I just find my hands picking at my face without even realizing it, anything I could do to help this urge stop? ", "How to stop the urge to pick at my pimples? I've been reading some tips on this subreddit about how to remove acne and many of them have emphasized the fact that you need to stop touching your face, but sometimes I just find my hands picking at my face without even realizing it, anything I could do to help this urge stop? ", "How to stop the urge to pick at my pimples? I've been reading some tips on this subreddit about how to remove acne and many of them have emphasized the fact that you need to stop touching your face, but sometimes I just find my hands picking at my face without even realizing it, anything I could do to help this urge stop? ", "How to stop the urge to pick at my pimples? I've been reading some tips on this subreddit about how to remove acne and many of them have emphasized the fact that you need to stop touching your face, but sometimes I just find my hands picking at my face without even realizing it, anything I could do to help this urge stop? ", "How to stop the urge to pick at my pimples? I've been reading some tips on this subreddit about how to remove acne and many of them have emphasized the fact that you need to stop touching your face, but sometimes I just find my hands picking at my face without even realizing it, anything I could do to help this urge stop? ", "How to stop the urge to pick at my pimples? I've been reading some tips on this subreddit about how to remove acne and many of them have emphasized the fact that you need to stop touching your face, but sometimes I just find my hands picking at my face without even realizing it, anything I could do to help this urge stop? ", "How to stop the urge to pick at my pimples? I've been reading some tips on this subreddit about how to remove acne and many of them have emphasized the fact that you need to stop touching your face, but sometimes I just find my hands picking at my face without even realizing it, anything I could do to help this urge stop? ", "How to stop the urge to pick at my pimples? I've been reading some tips on this subreddit about how to remove acne and many of them have emphasized the fact that you need to stop touching your face, but sometimes I just find my hands picking at my face without even realizing it, anything I could do to help this urge stop? " ]

[ "are you picking with your nails? if so, trim your nails really really short. like to the point you cant even satisfyingly scratch an itch. if not your nails, try to get into the mindset you have stuff on your face and if you touch it, you ruin it(like makeup, but im not sure of your gender). \n\nnot sure how well this one will work as far as laziness goes, but every. single. time. you catch yourself touching your face, go wash your hands. if you are really serious about stopping, you'll do it. if you are touching your face this much, you'll get annoyed with the fact you have to keep getting up to wash your hands and eventually you'll be saying 'if i touch, i have to go wash my hands and i really dont want to get up again'. i would say wash your face everytime too but i dont want you to dry your face out or anything. i, fortunately, have been lucky enough to never have acne growing up/puberty so i wouldnt know advice on how to care for it on that level.", "Just stop. I just spent FOUR hours in the ER because I picked at a small pimple on my back. My tiny bump turned into cellulitis. A serious skin infection. Right now , I'm on two antibiotics and some serious pain killers. I may have to go back for IV antibiotics if it's not improved in 24 hours. Believe me, you don't want this!", "Cut your nails so short that you notice yourself scratching really hard to get a good pick. I pick too, and I've discovered cutting my nails as short as I can get them really helps, also, when i notice myself doing it, I swat the back of my hand really hard. I know the second part sounds weird, but it's really works, for me at least.", "Say 'no' and distract. Whenever you find yourself picking at your face, acknowledge that you've been picking, tell yourself to stop, and then distract your hands somehow. Mindfulness is really key in stopping little habits like this. It's not enough to just take your hands off your face when you find them there: you really have to go through the mental effort of becoming aware of what you're doing, mindfully stopping the activity, and telling yourself not to do this. It won't make you stop overnight, but it will start happening less and less over time. ", "I tell my clients to keep hand sanitizer on them at all times... (Car, work, bedroom, purse etc.) picking causes a lot of bacteria to penetrate into your skin to cause more break outs. Cleaner hands.. Less breakouts. It's a super tough habit to break but in the meantime keep them hands clean!", "Try getting rid of the zits. Rub your face with a soft wet cloth every night and get prescribed a cream or antibiotic. The 2 antibiotics they usually give you are doxycycline and minocycline a.k.a. \"Minocin\". They both work very well. ", "I had a similar problem when I was younger, the key methods for me were to try and be more aware of the picking and attempt to stop. Which is easier said than done. The other method is to occupy your hands with something. I was a feverish pen clicker, but I had to stop that because it drove everyone else mad. But what ay work is just to find a rubber band or too and keep them on your wrists so anytime you need to occupy your hands you just slide the band to your fingers and start flexing.", "I bought something called Docacne on a chines site try to find it! It really works agains blackheads and acne ( it's green and have chines symbols on it) " ]

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[ "How to not get scammed on eBay when selling an item? I have never sold an item on eBay before but I have seen people talk about getting scammed out of their money when the buyer claims that they never received the item &amp; requests a refund. I also read that eBay usually sides with the buyer in this case and sellers are usually SOL. Any way to avoid this? Thank you", "How to not get scammed on eBay when selling an item? I have never sold an item on eBay before but I have seen people talk about getting scammed out of their money when the buyer claims that they never received the item &amp; requests a refund. I also read that eBay usually sides with the buyer in this case and sellers are usually SOL. Any way to avoid this? Thank you", "How to not get scammed on eBay when selling an item? I have never sold an item on eBay before but I have seen people talk about getting scammed out of their money when the buyer claims that they never received the item &amp; requests a refund. I also read that eBay usually sides with the buyer in this case and sellers are usually SOL. Any way to avoid this? Thank you", "How to not get scammed on eBay when selling an item? I have never sold an item on eBay before but I have seen people talk about getting scammed out of their money when the buyer claims that they never received the item &amp; requests a refund. I also read that eBay usually sides with the buyer in this case and sellers are usually SOL. Any way to avoid this? Thank you", "How to not get scammed on eBay when selling an item? I have never sold an item on eBay before but I have seen people talk about getting scammed out of their money when the buyer claims that they never received the item &amp; requests a refund. I also read that eBay usually sides with the buyer in this case and sellers are usually SOL. Any way to avoid this? Thank you" ]

[ "It's true Ebay sides with the buyer. I've had this happen. The only people I've seen this not happen to filmed themselves packing and mailing. If it's a high value item, I'd recommend doing that too.", "Here's a few things that I feel can help:\n\n(1) if it's a new account or they have less than 10 feedback, that's a warning sign. I usually message them to make sure they are legit before sending. If no reply, cancel the transaction and block the bidder.\n\n(2) Do a reverse address search to confirm the buyer name matches the address.\n\n(3) Cancel the sale if it's a forwarding address that accepts mail to forward to other countries.\n\n(4) Require signature confirmation for anything worth it to you. For me, it's about 100.\n\n(5) Use USPS Priority mail if possible because $50 insurance is usually included automatically.\n\n(6) If the buyer seems suspicious, just cancel the transaction.", "Don’t sell anything that is high volume, like iPhones/game systems/collectibles/etc. if you know it’s something you can easily find a buyer for, just Craigslist or Facebook marketplace instead.", ">Any way to avoid this?\n\nNot really but you can check their rating to see how it looks. Of course, if it's auction, you won't know until the end of the auction.", "Get tracking and you should be ok! If it's a high ticket item, have signature required. \n\nI only have had this happen with stamped items.\n\nGood luck!" ]

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[ "How to find out if a neighborhood is a good or bad neighborhood before you move in. I'd like to relocate in the near future and found a quaint little house, nice and cheap. I'm just hoping it's not full of crack heads or anything. Also, this will be the first time living without the assitance of any others, so it's all new to me.\n\nWould the police department be a good place to stop by? Would they have information on crime rates in a specific location they could give me?\n\nI think it's a given that it's generally good to avoid anywhere with the front yard surrounded in a chain link fence, but what other ways can you find out if you're moving in to a 'good neighborhood' or not?", "How to find out if a neighborhood is a good or bad neighborhood before you move in. I'd like to relocate in the near future and found a quaint little house, nice and cheap. I'm just hoping it's not full of crack heads or anything. Also, this will be the first time living without the assitance of any others, so it's all new to me.\n\nWould the police department be a good place to stop by? Would they have information on crime rates in a specific location they could give me?\n\nI think it's a given that it's generally good to avoid anywhere with the front yard surrounded in a chain link fence, but what other ways can you find out if you're moving in to a 'good neighborhood' or not?", "How to find out if a neighborhood is a good or bad neighborhood before you move in. I'd like to relocate in the near future and found a quaint little house, nice and cheap. I'm just hoping it's not full of crack heads or anything. Also, this will be the first time living without the assitance of any others, so it's all new to me.\n\nWould the police department be a good place to stop by? Would they have information on crime rates in a specific location they could give me?\n\nI think it's a given that it's generally good to avoid anywhere with the front yard surrounded in a chain link fence, but what other ways can you find out if you're moving in to a 'good neighborhood' or not?", "How to find out if a neighborhood is a good or bad neighborhood before you move in. I'd like to relocate in the near future and found a quaint little house, nice and cheap. I'm just hoping it's not full of crack heads or anything. Also, this will be the first time living without the assitance of any others, so it's all new to me.\n\nWould the police department be a good place to stop by? Would they have information on crime rates in a specific location they could give me?\n\nI think it's a given that it's generally good to avoid anywhere with the front yard surrounded in a chain link fence, but what other ways can you find out if you're moving in to a 'good neighborhood' or not?", "How to find out if a neighborhood is a good or bad neighborhood before you move in. I'd like to relocate in the near future and found a quaint little house, nice and cheap. I'm just hoping it's not full of crack heads or anything. Also, this will be the first time living without the assitance of any others, so it's all new to me.\n\nWould the police department be a good place to stop by? Would they have information on crime rates in a specific location they could give me?\n\nI think it's a given that it's generally good to avoid anywhere with the front yard surrounded in a chain link fence, but what other ways can you find out if you're moving in to a 'good neighborhood' or not?", "How to find out if a neighborhood is a good or bad neighborhood before you move in. I'd like to relocate in the near future and found a quaint little house, nice and cheap. I'm just hoping it's not full of crack heads or anything. Also, this will be the first time living without the assitance of any others, so it's all new to me.\n\nWould the police department be a good place to stop by? Would they have information on crime rates in a specific location they could give me?\n\nI think it's a given that it's generally good to avoid anywhere with the front yard surrounded in a chain link fence, but what other ways can you find out if you're moving in to a 'good neighborhood' or not?", "How to find out if a neighborhood is a good or bad neighborhood before you move in. I'd like to relocate in the near future and found a quaint little house, nice and cheap. I'm just hoping it's not full of crack heads or anything. Also, this will be the first time living without the assitance of any others, so it's all new to me.\n\nWould the police department be a good place to stop by? Would they have information on crime rates in a specific location they could give me?\n\nI think it's a given that it's generally good to avoid anywhere with the front yard surrounded in a chain link fence, but what other ways can you find out if you're moving in to a 'good neighborhood' or not?" ]

[ "Former realtor here. You can almost always tell the quality of a neighborhood by paying close attention to landscaping.. Even in poor neighborhoods, the safe ones have tenants/owners that care for their lawn even if just edging, cutting the grass, and a few small features. This by no coincidence coincides with people that spend productive time outside and thus the neighborhood has more involved people that keep an eye out. \n\n", "Crime rates should be available online. \n\nI've never had luck judging from a distance. I've always found a hotel when I get to town and look from there.", "I moved from New York to Kentucky. Before I came to Ky, I called the local police and told them I needed an affordable but safe apartment. Lucky for me I connected with a good chatty police woman who steered me to the right apartment complex where I lived with my son safely for four years. I was able to rent an apartment long distance and had a place ready and waiting to move in when we arrived. The apartment office even helped me find some men to unload the U-Haul for me.", "You might be able to look up the GIS map for the area you're looking at. I typically find it through the county property appraiser's website. \n\nThe amount of info may vary from state to state, but many will have police and fire statistic layers.\n\nYou might also ask at /r/RealEstate \n\n", "Use Google maps and check tree density. I remember seeing an article stating that the number of trees in an area correlates to crime, IE more trees are in nicer neighborhoods. An easy factor to look for, but not a complete answer. Plus, shade.", "Check the housing area. Someone brought up landscaping; also check porches. If people are afraid of crime, they're likely to have bars on the windows or extra layers of entry people will have to get through (think gated porch).\n\nIf you don't see a lot of people walking places alone, that's another sign. People afraid to walk places by themselves is an indication of the general crime rate of the area.", "Ask a utility worker. I.E. Cable or Phone. I've worked for a cable company for about 10 years. My wife and I have been looking to move recently within the same area. She'll just say an address and I'll know whether it's a good location. \n\nThe number of cars parked on the street is a good indicator at times. I live in a decent neighborhood. Handful of cars park on the street. It's not bad at all. \n\nTry to find something on a cul-de-sac. If you have kids, then it will calm your nerves a great deal knowing that people won't haul ass down your street. " ]

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[ "Remove poison ivy from jewelry I have a ring with small diamonds embedded in it. Apparently this ring still has poison ivy oils on it, because every time I wear it, I get poison ivy on that finger a few days later. Every time, I wash it with a new remedy I've read online, but I cannot get it off!\n\nI've tried:\n\n* boiling water\n\n* dish soap\n\n* rubbing alcohol\n\nBut all to no avail. Anyone have any proven remedies?", "Remove poison ivy from jewelry I have a ring with small diamonds embedded in it. Apparently this ring still has poison ivy oils on it, because every time I wear it, I get poison ivy on that finger a few days later. Every time, I wash it with a new remedy I've read online, but I cannot get it off!\n\nI've tried:\n\n* boiling water\n\n* dish soap\n\n* rubbing alcohol\n\nBut all to no avail. Anyone have any proven remedies?", "Remove poison ivy from jewelry I have a ring with small diamonds embedded in it. Apparently this ring still has poison ivy oils on it, because every time I wear it, I get poison ivy on that finger a few days later. Every time, I wash it with a new remedy I've read online, but I cannot get it off!\n\nI've tried:\n\n* boiling water\n\n* dish soap\n\n* rubbing alcohol\n\nBut all to no avail. Anyone have any proven remedies?", "Remove poison ivy from jewelry I have a ring with small diamonds embedded in it. Apparently this ring still has poison ivy oils on it, because every time I wear it, I get poison ivy on that finger a few days later. Every time, I wash it with a new remedy I've read online, but I cannot get it off!\n\nI've tried:\n\n* boiling water\n\n* dish soap\n\n* rubbing alcohol\n\nBut all to no avail. Anyone have any proven remedies?", "Remove poison ivy from jewelry I have a ring with small diamonds embedded in it. Apparently this ring still has poison ivy oils on it, because every time I wear it, I get poison ivy on that finger a few days later. Every time, I wash it with a new remedy I've read online, but I cannot get it off!\n\nI've tried:\n\n* boiling water\n\n* dish soap\n\n* rubbing alcohol\n\nBut all to no avail. Anyone have any proven remedies?" ]

[ "Are you sure it's poison ivy? It is possible you are allergic to the material the ring is made of and this is causing a contact dermatitis that looks like poison ivy. Nickel allergies are surprisingly common.\n\nhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jewelry_Allergy_(Nickel_Allergy)#Jewelery_Allergy", "The thing that causes the rash is an oil, so soap should emulsify it. Try leaving it sitting in dish soap overnight and wash it with isopropyl upon removal. If these aren't fixing it, you may have developed an allergy to the metal. See a dermatologist if it persists", "So, on a positive note, you have discovered one of the real-life Indiana Jones-esque \"booby traps\" that ancient civilizations would put on their artifacts. The oil stays effective for a time that all practical purposes and intents can call, \"Forever.\" It is the origin of the phrase, \"Being caught red handed,\" because of the reaction you'd get to touching the oil.\n\nThat said, it is oil. And all oil can be removed with a combination of oil cutters (dish soap and rubbing alcohol are on the right track) and mechanical scrubbing. It sounds like the oil is hiding out in a crevice you cannot easily reach with your scrubbing method.\n\nPersonally, I'd pop on some gloves and pack the offending jewelry up in a baggie and take it to a jewelry store for some ultrasonic cleaning in a solution designed to remove stubborn oils. Either that or call an anthropology department at a university and ask what they'd use.\n\nPS: Boiling water won't work because oil and water don't mix.", "Tecnu is an old soap originally intended to remove fallout. It also works quite well for removing poison ivy oils. Use a toothbrush and tecnu. Obviously do your scrubbing in a hidden spot and check for damage, and wear gloves.", "I have an allergy to urushiol (the poison ivy oil) and by far the best way to get rid of it has been using Zanfel (though it's a bit expensive, it's worth it if you have a serious allergy). It supposedly bonds with the urushiol so you can wash the oil off. I wonder if this would work for your ring as well as it works for skin?" ]

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[ "What are some of your favorite reasons to stay alive? (Not sure if it is relevant on this sub. If not, would anyone suggest a sub to post this? I am thinking to create a vast list of reasons to stay alive. Comical ones appreciated) ", "What are some of your favorite reasons to stay alive? (Not sure if it is relevant on this sub. If not, would anyone suggest a sub to post this? I am thinking to create a vast list of reasons to stay alive. Comical ones appreciated) ", "What are some of your favorite reasons to stay alive? (Not sure if it is relevant on this sub. If not, would anyone suggest a sub to post this? I am thinking to create a vast list of reasons to stay alive. Comical ones appreciated) ", "What are some of your favorite reasons to stay alive? (Not sure if it is relevant on this sub. If not, would anyone suggest a sub to post this? I am thinking to create a vast list of reasons to stay alive. Comical ones appreciated) ", "What are some of your favorite reasons to stay alive? (Not sure if it is relevant on this sub. If not, would anyone suggest a sub to post this? I am thinking to create a vast list of reasons to stay alive. Comical ones appreciated) ", "What are some of your favorite reasons to stay alive? (Not sure if it is relevant on this sub. If not, would anyone suggest a sub to post this? I am thinking to create a vast list of reasons to stay alive. Comical ones appreciated) " ]

[ "music, and enjoying live music with groups of people.\n\npetting animals and being their friends\n\nbabies smiles\n\nfun colors are nice and i like to keep experiencing them. \n\nhelping someone out and making their life slightly better", "Because being dead is too boring. I was dead for at least 4 billion years before I was born, nothing fun happened and it was a completely unmemorable experience, I don't not recommend. ", "There is so much to experience. So many places to visit, cultures to learn about, music to listen to, books to read, potential careers and workplaces to try. Enough content to span a million lifetimes.", "Well I like the sensation of ejaculating at orgasm. If that was taken from me I would blow out the back of my skull with a .45 ", "I'm still so young (24) and I have so much time left. I want to see who I meet and what I do in the coming years that I have no idea about right now, and I want to witness how much the world changes in my lifetime.", "Honestly the reason I'm still alive is because of all the cool video games that exist in the world. \n\nI was bullied and treated like trash both at school and home as a kid. Video games kept me happy and made me not care about anything, because I knew after whatever happens, I'll just go play some more zelda.\n\nWell after the bullying stopped, I grew up, and was no longer treated like trash by my family, I started looking in depth as to why and how video games saved me from everything. I think it's all the details you can miss on one play through, but find on the 3rd or 4th. \n\nNow video games have insane graphics and all that, which makes the sight seeing even greater. Online games let you meet new people constantly. As long as you ignore the assholes, it's amazing.\n\nNow if only games costed 20$ like back in the day. Now it's 80$ plus the season pass and the 3 mandatory dlc's that are 20$ each..." ]

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