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[ "Follow a passion with a chance of failure or a non-fufilling sound career Ever since I picked up an xbox controller when i was ten, I had felt a calling to pursue it as a career. However, I have pretty good grades, good enough to follow a career in economics or maybe even an MD. I've the drive to dedicate my life to esports and it will become ever more appealing as the industry grows, but i also have the drive to stay in school for 10+ years. My major fear is that ill dedicate myself to esports and I will end up just not good enough. I definitely not throw away being a student because my plan is to(Best case scenario) retire from esports early and pursue economics or try to become a psychiatrist (4 years med school, 4 year psychology degree, and 3-7 years intern). My 2nd biggest fear is that I cant get into a prestigious school because I haven't been to school in 5 or so years. This is my entire life so i really want a different perspective on hoe to proceed.", "Follow a passion with a chance of failure or a non-fufilling sound career Ever since I picked up an xbox controller when i was ten, I had felt a calling to pursue it as a career. However, I have pretty good grades, good enough to follow a career in economics or maybe even an MD. I've the drive to dedicate my life to esports and it will become ever more appealing as the industry grows, but i also have the drive to stay in school for 10+ years. My major fear is that ill dedicate myself to esports and I will end up just not good enough. I definitely not throw away being a student because my plan is to(Best case scenario) retire from esports early and pursue economics or try to become a psychiatrist (4 years med school, 4 year psychology degree, and 3-7 years intern). My 2nd biggest fear is that I cant get into a prestigious school because I haven't been to school in 5 or so years. This is my entire life so i really want a different perspective on hoe to proceed.", "Follow a passion with a chance of failure or a non-fufilling sound career Ever since I picked up an xbox controller when i was ten, I had felt a calling to pursue it as a career. However, I have pretty good grades, good enough to follow a career in economics or maybe even an MD. I've the drive to dedicate my life to esports and it will become ever more appealing as the industry grows, but i also have the drive to stay in school for 10+ years. My major fear is that ill dedicate myself to esports and I will end up just not good enough. I definitely not throw away being a student because my plan is to(Best case scenario) retire from esports early and pursue economics or try to become a psychiatrist (4 years med school, 4 year psychology degree, and 3-7 years intern). My 2nd biggest fear is that I cant get into a prestigious school because I haven't been to school in 5 or so years. This is my entire life so i really want a different perspective on hoe to proceed." ]

[ "What’s your age? How long have you been playing? And what level are you at right now? Do you end top 3 in all games you play for instance?", "I don't know esports or your particular game well enough to tell you what to do, but if I were in your position I'd look up what happened to the person who came in tenth in a similar game ten years ago. Also look at how good you have to be to be earning anything at all. \n\nDon't plan on being the best in the world. Find out what happened to someone who was just really good and see if you could live with that.", "Esports is a pipe dream that has a shit ton of negatives if you even manage to get to the world stage. Once you play a game professionally the flaws in it's design and repetitive nature become to much to bear and you want to quit. Just look at the collapse of CSGO or the mass exodus of Overwatch.\n\nThat's assuming you're even good enough to be one of the top 200 players in a game." ]

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[ "How to get dents out of a refrigerator? Recently we had some people over for a party of sorts in our new apartment and I guess the merriment got too much for one of my friends. He fell in the kitchen and to catch himself he threw his free hand out but ended up just punching the fridge and falling anyway. Now there are dents where his knuckles hit the side. Any ideas?", "How to get dents out of a refrigerator? Recently we had some people over for a party of sorts in our new apartment and I guess the merriment got too much for one of my friends. He fell in the kitchen and to catch himself he threw his free hand out but ended up just punching the fridge and falling anyway. Now there are dents where his knuckles hit the side. Any ideas?", "How to get dents out of a refrigerator? Recently we had some people over for a party of sorts in our new apartment and I guess the merriment got too much for one of my friends. He fell in the kitchen and to catch himself he threw his free hand out but ended up just punching the fridge and falling anyway. Now there are dents where his knuckles hit the side. Any ideas?" ]

[ "How bad are they? You could try taking a toilet plunger AT YOUR OWN RISK and try to use the suction to pull the material back out. I am assuming it is metal.", "The problem with a dent is that often the metal is stretched so it won't go back to flat unless you can shrink some of the excess out of the dent. Try holding a large piece of dry ice on the dent. This will shrink the metal a bit and perhaps remove the dent. ", "Maybe [this](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ILVWPzO_swY&feature=youtube_gdata_player) would work? Hot cold expansion. " ]

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[ "Keeping mosquitoes away! What do you guys use to keep mosquitoes away inside your house...\n\nI have no idea how they get in but I desperately need something to repel them since killing them one by one is too annoying...\n\nAnyone got anything that's worked for them?", "Keeping mosquitoes away! What do you guys use to keep mosquitoes away inside your house...\n\nI have no idea how they get in but I desperately need something to repel them since killing them one by one is too annoying...\n\nAnyone got anything that's worked for them?", "Keeping mosquitoes away! What do you guys use to keep mosquitoes away inside your house...\n\nI have no idea how they get in but I desperately need something to repel them since killing them one by one is too annoying...\n\nAnyone got anything that's worked for them?", "Keeping mosquitoes away! What do you guys use to keep mosquitoes away inside your house...\n\nI have no idea how they get in but I desperately need something to repel them since killing them one by one is too annoying...\n\nAnyone got anything that's worked for them?" ]

[ "Mythbusters has disproved the clear plastic bag filled w/ water and clear glass ball method. Just an old wives tale.\n\nhttp://mythbustersresults.com/bug-special", "Citronella plants or scented items, lavender possibly (works for spiders), clear glass balls hanging near windows will keep away most flies. If you get a bug zapper (which work great btw) hang them away from windows because they mainly attract them.", "First, stop them from getting in. Clear caulk around doors, windows, any kind of trim and moulding. I see alot less bugs in general after doing that myself.\n\nIf that doesnt fix it, rain unholy hellfire upon everything they know with a bottle of Cutter or two outside. Soak all your greenery with that and the place will be as habitable as chernobyl for your blood sucking winged parasitic fiends.\n\n\n", "Apple cider vinegar will keep the mosquitoes away. Either take it as a \npill or take a shot. The body odor will keep the mosquitoes away." ]

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[ "How to help a child who's being bullied My 11 year old nephew is the best child I know. He is handsome, hilarious and super intelligent. He is really into science and Astronomy. So naturally he stands out as a little different, which apparently gives kids 'valid' reasons to pick on him. This is the second time in a year that he has been singled out by these kids. Thankfully this time around it isn't so bad and it's a different bully involved, though it is still happening and he's rightfully really upset about it. My sister is such a wonderful mother to him and he told her what was going on last week and she went straight to the school principal to sort it out and thankfully they did. He'll be going into secondary school (high school) in a year or so, and I am so afraid that it will start all over again for him and maybe even be worse for him. What can our family do to help him not lose his self-esteem and maybe even develop some sort of self-assurance in himself so that he's not overly affected by these awful experiences? I should mention that thankfully he does have a little group of friends, but he alone is being singled out right now and my heart is broken over it. I'd greatly appreciate any tips on how to do my best to help him. Thank you! ", "How to help a child who's being bullied My 11 year old nephew is the best child I know. He is handsome, hilarious and super intelligent. He is really into science and Astronomy. So naturally he stands out as a little different, which apparently gives kids 'valid' reasons to pick on him. This is the second time in a year that he has been singled out by these kids. Thankfully this time around it isn't so bad and it's a different bully involved, though it is still happening and he's rightfully really upset about it. My sister is such a wonderful mother to him and he told her what was going on last week and she went straight to the school principal to sort it out and thankfully they did. He'll be going into secondary school (high school) in a year or so, and I am so afraid that it will start all over again for him and maybe even be worse for him. What can our family do to help him not lose his self-esteem and maybe even develop some sort of self-assurance in himself so that he's not overly affected by these awful experiences? I should mention that thankfully he does have a little group of friends, but he alone is being singled out right now and my heart is broken over it. I'd greatly appreciate any tips on how to do my best to help him. Thank you! ", "How to help a child who's being bullied My 11 year old nephew is the best child I know. He is handsome, hilarious and super intelligent. He is really into science and Astronomy. So naturally he stands out as a little different, which apparently gives kids 'valid' reasons to pick on him. This is the second time in a year that he has been singled out by these kids. Thankfully this time around it isn't so bad and it's a different bully involved, though it is still happening and he's rightfully really upset about it. My sister is such a wonderful mother to him and he told her what was going on last week and she went straight to the school principal to sort it out and thankfully they did. He'll be going into secondary school (high school) in a year or so, and I am so afraid that it will start all over again for him and maybe even be worse for him. What can our family do to help him not lose his self-esteem and maybe even develop some sort of self-assurance in himself so that he's not overly affected by these awful experiences? I should mention that thankfully he does have a little group of friends, but he alone is being singled out right now and my heart is broken over it. I'd greatly appreciate any tips on how to do my best to help him. Thank you! ", "How to help a child who's being bullied My 11 year old nephew is the best child I know. He is handsome, hilarious and super intelligent. He is really into science and Astronomy. So naturally he stands out as a little different, which apparently gives kids 'valid' reasons to pick on him. This is the second time in a year that he has been singled out by these kids. Thankfully this time around it isn't so bad and it's a different bully involved, though it is still happening and he's rightfully really upset about it. My sister is such a wonderful mother to him and he told her what was going on last week and she went straight to the school principal to sort it out and thankfully they did. He'll be going into secondary school (high school) in a year or so, and I am so afraid that it will start all over again for him and maybe even be worse for him. What can our family do to help him not lose his self-esteem and maybe even develop some sort of self-assurance in himself so that he's not overly affected by these awful experiences? I should mention that thankfully he does have a little group of friends, but he alone is being singled out right now and my heart is broken over it. I'd greatly appreciate any tips on how to do my best to help him. Thank you! ", "How to help a child who's being bullied My 11 year old nephew is the best child I know. He is handsome, hilarious and super intelligent. He is really into science and Astronomy. So naturally he stands out as a little different, which apparently gives kids 'valid' reasons to pick on him. This is the second time in a year that he has been singled out by these kids. Thankfully this time around it isn't so bad and it's a different bully involved, though it is still happening and he's rightfully really upset about it. My sister is such a wonderful mother to him and he told her what was going on last week and she went straight to the school principal to sort it out and thankfully they did. He'll be going into secondary school (high school) in a year or so, and I am so afraid that it will start all over again for him and maybe even be worse for him. What can our family do to help him not lose his self-esteem and maybe even develop some sort of self-assurance in himself so that he's not overly affected by these awful experiences? I should mention that thankfully he does have a little group of friends, but he alone is being singled out right now and my heart is broken over it. I'd greatly appreciate any tips on how to do my best to help him. Thank you! ", "How to help a child who's being bullied My 11 year old nephew is the best child I know. He is handsome, hilarious and super intelligent. He is really into science and Astronomy. So naturally he stands out as a little different, which apparently gives kids 'valid' reasons to pick on him. This is the second time in a year that he has been singled out by these kids. Thankfully this time around it isn't so bad and it's a different bully involved, though it is still happening and he's rightfully really upset about it. My sister is such a wonderful mother to him and he told her what was going on last week and she went straight to the school principal to sort it out and thankfully they did. He'll be going into secondary school (high school) in a year or so, and I am so afraid that it will start all over again for him and maybe even be worse for him. What can our family do to help him not lose his self-esteem and maybe even develop some sort of self-assurance in himself so that he's not overly affected by these awful experiences? I should mention that thankfully he does have a little group of friends, but he alone is being singled out right now and my heart is broken over it. I'd greatly appreciate any tips on how to do my best to help him. Thank you! ", "How to help a child who's being bullied My 11 year old nephew is the best child I know. He is handsome, hilarious and super intelligent. He is really into science and Astronomy. So naturally he stands out as a little different, which apparently gives kids 'valid' reasons to pick on him. This is the second time in a year that he has been singled out by these kids. Thankfully this time around it isn't so bad and it's a different bully involved, though it is still happening and he's rightfully really upset about it. My sister is such a wonderful mother to him and he told her what was going on last week and she went straight to the school principal to sort it out and thankfully they did. He'll be going into secondary school (high school) in a year or so, and I am so afraid that it will start all over again for him and maybe even be worse for him. What can our family do to help him not lose his self-esteem and maybe even develop some sort of self-assurance in himself so that he's not overly affected by these awful experiences? I should mention that thankfully he does have a little group of friends, but he alone is being singled out right now and my heart is broken over it. I'd greatly appreciate any tips on how to do my best to help him. Thank you! ", "How to help a child who's being bullied My 11 year old nephew is the best child I know. He is handsome, hilarious and super intelligent. He is really into science and Astronomy. So naturally he stands out as a little different, which apparently gives kids 'valid' reasons to pick on him. This is the second time in a year that he has been singled out by these kids. Thankfully this time around it isn't so bad and it's a different bully involved, though it is still happening and he's rightfully really upset about it. My sister is such a wonderful mother to him and he told her what was going on last week and she went straight to the school principal to sort it out and thankfully they did. He'll be going into secondary school (high school) in a year or so, and I am so afraid that it will start all over again for him and maybe even be worse for him. What can our family do to help him not lose his self-esteem and maybe even develop some sort of self-assurance in himself so that he's not overly affected by these awful experiences? I should mention that thankfully he does have a little group of friends, but he alone is being singled out right now and my heart is broken over it. I'd greatly appreciate any tips on how to do my best to help him. Thank you! ", "How to help a child who's being bullied My 11 year old nephew is the best child I know. He is handsome, hilarious and super intelligent. He is really into science and Astronomy. So naturally he stands out as a little different, which apparently gives kids 'valid' reasons to pick on him. This is the second time in a year that he has been singled out by these kids. Thankfully this time around it isn't so bad and it's a different bully involved, though it is still happening and he's rightfully really upset about it. My sister is such a wonderful mother to him and he told her what was going on last week and she went straight to the school principal to sort it out and thankfully they did. He'll be going into secondary school (high school) in a year or so, and I am so afraid that it will start all over again for him and maybe even be worse for him. What can our family do to help him not lose his self-esteem and maybe even develop some sort of self-assurance in himself so that he's not overly affected by these awful experiences? I should mention that thankfully he does have a little group of friends, but he alone is being singled out right now and my heart is broken over it. I'd greatly appreciate any tips on how to do my best to help him. Thank you! ", "How to help a child who's being bullied My 11 year old nephew is the best child I know. He is handsome, hilarious and super intelligent. He is really into science and Astronomy. So naturally he stands out as a little different, which apparently gives kids 'valid' reasons to pick on him. This is the second time in a year that he has been singled out by these kids. Thankfully this time around it isn't so bad and it's a different bully involved, though it is still happening and he's rightfully really upset about it. My sister is such a wonderful mother to him and he told her what was going on last week and she went straight to the school principal to sort it out and thankfully they did. He'll be going into secondary school (high school) in a year or so, and I am so afraid that it will start all over again for him and maybe even be worse for him. What can our family do to help him not lose his self-esteem and maybe even develop some sort of self-assurance in himself so that he's not overly affected by these awful experiences? I should mention that thankfully he does have a little group of friends, but he alone is being singled out right now and my heart is broken over it. I'd greatly appreciate any tips on how to do my best to help him. Thank you! ", "How to help a child who's being bullied My 11 year old nephew is the best child I know. He is handsome, hilarious and super intelligent. He is really into science and Astronomy. So naturally he stands out as a little different, which apparently gives kids 'valid' reasons to pick on him. This is the second time in a year that he has been singled out by these kids. Thankfully this time around it isn't so bad and it's a different bully involved, though it is still happening and he's rightfully really upset about it. My sister is such a wonderful mother to him and he told her what was going on last week and she went straight to the school principal to sort it out and thankfully they did. He'll be going into secondary school (high school) in a year or so, and I am so afraid that it will start all over again for him and maybe even be worse for him. What can our family do to help him not lose his self-esteem and maybe even develop some sort of self-assurance in himself so that he's not overly affected by these awful experiences? I should mention that thankfully he does have a little group of friends, but he alone is being singled out right now and my heart is broken over it. I'd greatly appreciate any tips on how to do my best to help him. Thank you! ", "How to help a child who's being bullied My 11 year old nephew is the best child I know. He is handsome, hilarious and super intelligent. He is really into science and Astronomy. So naturally he stands out as a little different, which apparently gives kids 'valid' reasons to pick on him. This is the second time in a year that he has been singled out by these kids. Thankfully this time around it isn't so bad and it's a different bully involved, though it is still happening and he's rightfully really upset about it. My sister is such a wonderful mother to him and he told her what was going on last week and she went straight to the school principal to sort it out and thankfully they did. He'll be going into secondary school (high school) in a year or so, and I am so afraid that it will start all over again for him and maybe even be worse for him. What can our family do to help him not lose his self-esteem and maybe even develop some sort of self-assurance in himself so that he's not overly affected by these awful experiences? I should mention that thankfully he does have a little group of friends, but he alone is being singled out right now and my heart is broken over it. I'd greatly appreciate any tips on how to do my best to help him. Thank you! ", "How to help a child who's being bullied My 11 year old nephew is the best child I know. He is handsome, hilarious and super intelligent. He is really into science and Astronomy. So naturally he stands out as a little different, which apparently gives kids 'valid' reasons to pick on him. This is the second time in a year that he has been singled out by these kids. Thankfully this time around it isn't so bad and it's a different bully involved, though it is still happening and he's rightfully really upset about it. My sister is such a wonderful mother to him and he told her what was going on last week and she went straight to the school principal to sort it out and thankfully they did. He'll be going into secondary school (high school) in a year or so, and I am so afraid that it will start all over again for him and maybe even be worse for him. What can our family do to help him not lose his self-esteem and maybe even develop some sort of self-assurance in himself so that he's not overly affected by these awful experiences? I should mention that thankfully he does have a little group of friends, but he alone is being singled out right now and my heart is broken over it. I'd greatly appreciate any tips on how to do my best to help him. Thank you! ", "How to help a child who's being bullied My 11 year old nephew is the best child I know. He is handsome, hilarious and super intelligent. He is really into science and Astronomy. So naturally he stands out as a little different, which apparently gives kids 'valid' reasons to pick on him. This is the second time in a year that he has been singled out by these kids. Thankfully this time around it isn't so bad and it's a different bully involved, though it is still happening and he's rightfully really upset about it. My sister is such a wonderful mother to him and he told her what was going on last week and she went straight to the school principal to sort it out and thankfully they did. He'll be going into secondary school (high school) in a year or so, and I am so afraid that it will start all over again for him and maybe even be worse for him. What can our family do to help him not lose his self-esteem and maybe even develop some sort of self-assurance in himself so that he's not overly affected by these awful experiences? I should mention that thankfully he does have a little group of friends, but he alone is being singled out right now and my heart is broken over it. I'd greatly appreciate any tips on how to do my best to help him. Thank you! ", "How to help a child who's being bullied My 11 year old nephew is the best child I know. He is handsome, hilarious and super intelligent. He is really into science and Astronomy. So naturally he stands out as a little different, which apparently gives kids 'valid' reasons to pick on him. This is the second time in a year that he has been singled out by these kids. Thankfully this time around it isn't so bad and it's a different bully involved, though it is still happening and he's rightfully really upset about it. My sister is such a wonderful mother to him and he told her what was going on last week and she went straight to the school principal to sort it out and thankfully they did. He'll be going into secondary school (high school) in a year or so, and I am so afraid that it will start all over again for him and maybe even be worse for him. What can our family do to help him not lose his self-esteem and maybe even develop some sort of self-assurance in himself so that he's not overly affected by these awful experiences? I should mention that thankfully he does have a little group of friends, but he alone is being singled out right now and my heart is broken over it. I'd greatly appreciate any tips on how to do my best to help him. Thank you! " ]

[ "I agree with the comments about Martial Arts. I began training with two of my kids 4 years ago. We all received our Black Belts a couple weeks ago. I've seen dramatic changes over the years in their confidence, focus, coordination, strength, stamina and more. It truly affects all parts of your life. Neither of them has had to use their training (13 yo girl, 11yo boy) but both have avoided confrontations. They both have actually stood up for friends that were being picked on... I suggest looking for a school near you and consider training with them and even inviting one of his friends to try it as well.", "He has to stand up for himself. Would be good if his friends supported him when he takes action against the bullies.\n\n\n\n\nGet him legit training in full contact martial arts - wrestling, BJJ, Boxing etc... not suggesting violence, but knowing how to physically handle yourself can be a big confidence boost.", "The most important thing to give him is independence. He'll hate it if you're constantly having meetings with the principal and counselor, it'll make him feel embarassed and will be a further source of bullying. Also, other people will stay away from him, even if they aren't bullies, because they'll be afraid of being told on.\n\nTry to let him have independence while still listening to his concerns, and if it gets a lot worse, then you should step in. I, personally, was relentlessly physically and emotionally bullied, and going to the principal only made it worse. Also, realize that many of the insecure bully tropes are made up so that parents can feel like something's being done. Most bullies at my schools were actually from rich families and got really good grades. They also were popular and had good social lives.\n\nAlso, the most important one is something I only realized once I got into High School. Part of the problem was me. The bullying wasn't justified, but I could've stopped it. I was really annoying, even though adults loved me. All I had to do was stop trying to approach those who bullied me, and just stick with my friends. When I did this, I was infinitely happier.", "First, be honest. 11 year olds can smell bullshit just as well as adults, and your nephew won't appreciate being pandered to or told that his situation doesn't suck a whole lot. Being bullied is incredibly painful, and its a good idea to start by acknowledging and validating that pain. \n\n Explain to him that the only reason anyone would WANT to pick on him for liking science is because they're too stupid to understand it themselves. Tell him that when kids are mean, it's because THEIR self-esteem is low, and they're just trying to drag everyone down to their level, and he can't let them. That when someone is being a dick, its always because of him and never because of you. Tell him that while this is the best time of these bullies' lives, he's going to be happy and successful and the bullies will be remembering the good old days when they got to pick on the smart kids instead of working for them. Tell him to keep all this in mind whenever they come after him, and if it gets out of hand to tell a teacher. \n\nIt also might be a good idea to teach him some coping mechanisms for dealing with distress. Martial Arts training is also a good idea because it builds self-esteem and will help him know how (and when) to defend himself if the situation ever gets out of hand. ", "Get him some dumbbells, and teach him a few exercises to get a near-full body workout going.\n\nIn me experience as a bullied kid, being able to punch the gits in the face, and not get torn to shreds, will take them down a peg.", "Everyone has already made most of the suggestions I would, but I would add that perhaps giving him real life heroes to look up to would go a long way towards building his confidence and helping to focus his energy outside of himself and the difficulties of being different. Especially in the sciences, there are many people that have experienced not being accepted by society or their peers, and the one that comes to mind that would be an excellent man to learn about is Neil DeGrasse Tyson. If your nephew likes to read and is perhaps more mature than his age, \"The Sky Is Not the Limit: Adventures of an Urban Astrophysicist\" would be a good suggestion for reading.", "Be there for him. Let him know he can come to you anytime about anything. Assure him that whatever you talk about can just be between you and him and won't make its way back to his mom or anyone else.\n\nAt least that's what would have helped me when I was in school.", "At 11, kids aren't strong enough to do much damage. Next time he is getting bullied, have him punch the bully right in the mouth. Spend some time practicing with him. This is good enough to get you started: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0PA2TDoPzVA", "im really sorry to hear this. he sounds brilliant. let him know he should never give up on his likes. its brilliant he has a group of friends though. have you ever thought about enrolling him in a martial art like jiu jitsu. it will give him more confidence and he might even make more friends.", "Thank you so much to everyone for your replies & advice. We greatly appreciate it. Thankfully all was good in school for him yesterday so hopefully that's it, at least for the moment anyway. He is such a great kid, I know he'll be fine. I talked to my sister about it & we're gonna look into Jiu Jitsu, even for him to make some friends outside of school. Thanks so much guys! ", "Sure martial arts and make him feel confident but everyone forgets to tell the kid that what the other kids say about him doesn't matter.\n\nTeach him the difference between an insult and criticism though.", "I hate to say it but this is the nature of the beast. I got picked on. So did many others. Martial may help his self esteem.... until he gets a severe beating.\n\nBack in the good ol' days we had to be innovative and stealth to avoid a whopping.\n\nHe's going to have to come up with a way to try and avoid it. Fighting back may help but may also get him wasted and then singled out by more.\n\nConcentrate on studies and stay inside the school around the library/near staff as much as possible.", "Having been the target for bullying up until high school, I can tell you violence doesn't solve it. Most schools have a \"zero tolerance policy\", which means if there is a fight, both students will get the same punishment. It doesn't matter who attacked who, or who was in the right. It gets even muddier when one kid gets seriously hurt, like in my situation. The last time I got in a fight I was in the 7th grade and this kid was bullying me, so naturally I said to myself,\"Fight him so he stops.\" End result was I had a cracked tooth and He came out with a nose broken to the point were he can barely breath out of it. I got charged with aggravated assault. The point is, violence makes things worse in every way. But yes, teach the kid to stand up for himself in a healthy and nonviolent way. Self confidence is a huge part of stopping yourself from being bullied. ", "Finding a proper group of friends for him. Get him into clubs of like minded individuals. Being bullied hurts the most when you have no close friends or allies to depend on or turn to. \n", "Awww this is so heart-breaking :(\n\nTo be honest, I've been a bully and bullied myself (in primary school and secondary school).\nI think you could tell him that bullies are people who suffer inside and they feel \"less\" (if you know what I mean).\nNot trying here to forgive the behavior of bullies, their actions are unacceptable but maybe that can give him a little more confidence: bullies are not people who are so cool, acting out in front of others, they actually feel inferior.\n\nTry to have your nephew engage in activities out of school with his friends (or other kids who like Astronomy and Science) like visiting an exhibition/museum, participating in workshops, going to a planetarium etc. The group activity will make him feel more confident and he will see he's being appreciated.\n\nAs to school, I know it's hard to confront the bullies but he should let teachers an other staff know about the behavior of some kids. You need to find the right balance between protecting him and not making him feel infantilized and unable to defend himself.\nHe should report to a teacher or to the principal everytime a bully annoys him and let him know he will do so. Also, he needs the support from others. His classmates and friends should not remain silent or laugh everytime is being bullied. If people joined forces, there would be much less bullying. \nMaybe a kid who's neutral and friend with the bully could talk to him into stopping his behavior?\n\nDo not spend too much time talking about the bullying. Doing so keeps your nephew focused on the negative in his life. Instead, help him see that there are other things in life to be happy about.\n\n\nI hope my message is not too confusing, English is not my mother tongue. :)\nGood luck and big hugs to you and your nephew. :)\n" ]

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[ "How to remove difficult stickers You know, the stickers that look like they were stuck with a bottle of school glue.", "How to remove difficult stickers You know, the stickers that look like they were stuck with a bottle of school glue.", "How to remove difficult stickers You know, the stickers that look like they were stuck with a bottle of school glue.", "How to remove difficult stickers You know, the stickers that look like they were stuck with a bottle of school glue.", "How to remove difficult stickers You know, the stickers that look like they were stuck with a bottle of school glue.", "How to remove difficult stickers You know, the stickers that look like they were stuck with a bottle of school glue.", "How to remove difficult stickers You know, the stickers that look like they were stuck with a bottle of school glue.", "How to remove difficult stickers You know, the stickers that look like they were stuck with a bottle of school glue.", "How to remove difficult stickers You know, the stickers that look like they were stuck with a bottle of school glue.", "How to remove difficult stickers You know, the stickers that look like they were stuck with a bottle of school glue.", "How to remove difficult stickers You know, the stickers that look like they were stuck with a bottle of school glue.", "How to remove difficult stickers You know, the stickers that look like they were stuck with a bottle of school glue.", "How to remove difficult stickers You know, the stickers that look like they were stuck with a bottle of school glue.", "How to remove difficult stickers You know, the stickers that look like they were stuck with a bottle of school glue." ]

[ "If you're not trying to put googone in a food container, try vegetable oil and coarse salt. The sticker's adhesive is often soluble in oil, and the salt acts as an abrasive.", "Just don't try them all at once... When I was 15 I worked at a supermarket and someone had broken open a bottle of baby oil on the linoleum floor. It had become comically slick to the point where you would fall and couldn't get back up. We were trying to clean it up, and eventually roped off the area, but everyone who walked by had a suggestion to clean it up: dish soap, Coca-Cola, flour, you name it. It seemed like nothing worked and after hours of frustration and too many cooks in the kitchen we had somehow made a dough of the above listed ingredients and who knows what else that was caked in our clothes and all over the aisle. I'll never forget slip-sliding around trying to clean that shit up, but at the end of my shift we had only managed to make a huge slippery mess and my unpleased boss told me to just go home. I have no idea how that hellish mess ever got cleaned up, I assume they just tore down the supermarket and built a new one.", "If it's a glass bottle, you can fill it with boiling or near boiling water and let it sit for a bit. That'll make the label easy to peel off. Works best if you avoid getting the label wet.", "Use a pocket knife or metal pick to scratch the surface of the sticker and put a liberal amount of WD40 on it - will soften it up and it'll come right off!", "The solvent depends on the surface you are cleaning. Use a solvent that won't damage the surface it's attached to.", "The other day I removed one off the mirror that had been stuck on for years. It was painful. \n\nFirst I applied a commercial grade glass and mirror cleaner to loosen it up. Then I got a hard plastic spade like thing to hack a lot of it off. Then I used rubbing alcohol to get rid of all the residue. If you use something to scrape it like I did, make sure it's not possible for that object to scratch whatever you're removing the sticker from", "Nail polish remover works wonders to remove the sticky residue left over by stickers. Used that trick when I used to work at a camera shop and had to remove stickers from the glass panels in photo frames.", "If possible, soak in hot water first but either way - this stuff works wonders.\n\nhttp://shop.coles.com.au/online/national/orange-power-spot-goo-dissolver\n\n", "I've used coconut oil. Rub it on the sticker and then scratch the sticker away, you'll need to wipe it clean of course!", "I've found that just slowly and delicately getting under them with just a razor blade will do the trick perfectly, but only on glass or metal surfaces. Always use a fresh blade. ", "I worked in a second hand book store when I was younger, and you'd be surprised at what we use to clean books. Normal dirt gets a diluted window cleaner, sticky messes get a furniture polish called \"Mr Min\", and the heavy duty marks like pen get a wood cleaner or zippo fluid.\n\nWith either case, you just leave it to soak into the stain for a few minutes, then wipe it clean. ", "I haven't seen anyone mention xylenes yet... We use 100% xylenes to remove labels in my lab. Wipe it on the sticky residue from a label... Then wipe the goo right off! \n\nXylol fuel additive is xylenes based and should work. Check the auto parts shop. \n\nWill definitely eat many types of plastics and paints. Best used on glass. But, I think this may be the least labor intensive solution. ", "A librarian told me she uses [this stuff](http://www.amazon.com/Scotch-Sticker-Marker-Remover-Pen/dp/B00009L1WF)", ">You know, the stickers that look like they were stuck with a bottle of school glue.\n.\n\nNot a very good description of the sticker or the item it's stuck on.\n\nI'm going to assume it's the adhesive kind going by what your saying.\n\n1. Determine if the sticker has a plastic coating or not, attempt to peel this layer off using the edge of a razor. If you can't, then attempt to score (put lines into) through it using the razor but not into the item it's adhered too.\n\n2. Next use adhesive remover (concentrated orange citrus oil) on a rag or sponge and damp it on so it soaks behind the plastic coating and into the paper backing, through that and attacks the adhesive. The kind of adhesive remover for stick on flooring works great.\n\n3. Use a sharp plastic scrapper or a plastic scrubby (light kind) to remove what will come off easily and dry, then repeat step #2 until clear. Remember to use a fresh section of cloth or wipe the scrapper off as the adhesive is only loosened and will stick again if you use the dirty part to wipe. So use a new clear section to wipe.\n\nThis method works on glass, metals and plastics for adhesive stickers.\n\nI used to make a pretty penny in our condo association as they were sticking large stickers on people's car windows that were violating various parking rules and such. Until they saw I could remove the letter sized stickers in about 5 minutes that is. :P\n\n" ]

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[ "How to avoid \"confirm navigation\" pop-ups 99% of the times these pop-ups are not beneficial to the user. Is there any way to disable them in the browser´s configuration? Would make my life easier.", "How to avoid \"confirm navigation\" pop-ups 99% of the times these pop-ups are not beneficial to the user. Is there any way to disable them in the browser´s configuration? Would make my life easier." ]

[ "What browser are you using? Is this on your PC or on mobile? Do you get these pop-ups on particular sites (news, online shopping, porn,..)?\n", "There is a way to do this, but I wouldn't recommend it as they are often there for good reason. For example in gmail you'll get one if there is an outstanding ajax request. i.e. your computer has sent information to the server but you've not receieved a response back to say it's been processed correctly.\n\nThere was even a request made by someone to remove it from firefox, and in that thread it was not a good idea: https://bugzilla.mozilla.org/show_bug.cgi?id=578828\n\nThese events look for an event called \"onbeforeunload\". You can use greasemonkey (a firefox addon) to apply a custom page script. This script can remove any events attached to the onbeforeunload event.\n\nSo for example you could write a script that runs after everything else which does the equivalent of \n\n window.onbeforeunload = null" ]

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[ "How to stop interrupting? I realized recently that I interrupt people a LOT. Mostly I try to finish their sentences (vs disagreeing). Also I say \"yeah\", \"mhmm\" and \"right\" to indicate that I'm listening, and this feels rude.\n\nIt's hard to just stop, because these habits have always felt like a way of reflecting my attention, the sense that I'm on the same page as someone, etc. I get distracted by my intention not to interrupt, which makes it hard to pay attention.\n\nTips please???? How to be an active listener and stop being rude?", "How to stop interrupting? I realized recently that I interrupt people a LOT. Mostly I try to finish their sentences (vs disagreeing). Also I say \"yeah\", \"mhmm\" and \"right\" to indicate that I'm listening, and this feels rude.\n\nIt's hard to just stop, because these habits have always felt like a way of reflecting my attention, the sense that I'm on the same page as someone, etc. I get distracted by my intention not to interrupt, which makes it hard to pay attention.\n\nTips please???? How to be an active listener and stop being rude?", "How to stop interrupting? I realized recently that I interrupt people a LOT. Mostly I try to finish their sentences (vs disagreeing). Also I say \"yeah\", \"mhmm\" and \"right\" to indicate that I'm listening, and this feels rude.\n\nIt's hard to just stop, because these habits have always felt like a way of reflecting my attention, the sense that I'm on the same page as someone, etc. I get distracted by my intention not to interrupt, which makes it hard to pay attention.\n\nTips please???? How to be an active listener and stop being rude?", "How to stop interrupting? I realized recently that I interrupt people a LOT. Mostly I try to finish their sentences (vs disagreeing). Also I say \"yeah\", \"mhmm\" and \"right\" to indicate that I'm listening, and this feels rude.\n\nIt's hard to just stop, because these habits have always felt like a way of reflecting my attention, the sense that I'm on the same page as someone, etc. I get distracted by my intention not to interrupt, which makes it hard to pay attention.\n\nTips please???? How to be an active listener and stop being rude?", "How to stop interrupting? I realized recently that I interrupt people a LOT. Mostly I try to finish their sentences (vs disagreeing). Also I say \"yeah\", \"mhmm\" and \"right\" to indicate that I'm listening, and this feels rude.\n\nIt's hard to just stop, because these habits have always felt like a way of reflecting my attention, the sense that I'm on the same page as someone, etc. I get distracted by my intention not to interrupt, which makes it hard to pay attention.\n\nTips please???? How to be an active listener and stop being rude?", "How to stop interrupting? I realized recently that I interrupt people a LOT. Mostly I try to finish their sentences (vs disagreeing). Also I say \"yeah\", \"mhmm\" and \"right\" to indicate that I'm listening, and this feels rude.\n\nIt's hard to just stop, because these habits have always felt like a way of reflecting my attention, the sense that I'm on the same page as someone, etc. I get distracted by my intention not to interrupt, which makes it hard to pay attention.\n\nTips please???? How to be an active listener and stop being rude?", "How to stop interrupting? I realized recently that I interrupt people a LOT. Mostly I try to finish their sentences (vs disagreeing). Also I say \"yeah\", \"mhmm\" and \"right\" to indicate that I'm listening, and this feels rude.\n\nIt's hard to just stop, because these habits have always felt like a way of reflecting my attention, the sense that I'm on the same page as someone, etc. I get distracted by my intention not to interrupt, which makes it hard to pay attention.\n\nTips please???? How to be an active listener and stop being rude?", "How to stop interrupting? I realized recently that I interrupt people a LOT. Mostly I try to finish their sentences (vs disagreeing). Also I say \"yeah\", \"mhmm\" and \"right\" to indicate that I'm listening, and this feels rude.\n\nIt's hard to just stop, because these habits have always felt like a way of reflecting my attention, the sense that I'm on the same page as someone, etc. I get distracted by my intention not to interrupt, which makes it hard to pay attention.\n\nTips please???? How to be an active listener and stop being rude?", "How to stop interrupting? I realized recently that I interrupt people a LOT. Mostly I try to finish their sentences (vs disagreeing). Also I say \"yeah\", \"mhmm\" and \"right\" to indicate that I'm listening, and this feels rude.\n\nIt's hard to just stop, because these habits have always felt like a way of reflecting my attention, the sense that I'm on the same page as someone, etc. I get distracted by my intention not to interrupt, which makes it hard to pay attention.\n\nTips please???? How to be an active listener and stop being rude?" ]

[ "It's annoying, but you gotta wait a few seconds to reply fully. I do the same, mostly because I talk faster than others. They take longer pauses than I would and they seem finished (especially if it's been like 3-5 seconds).\n\nI'm sure there are other ways, but that helps me some.", "May sound weird but I just keep eye contact and listen silently until people stop talking, I stopped the habit of right mmhmm and yeah a long time ago. It shows your listening. If you really take in what they say you won’t think about trying to fill in silence with small words. But eye contact can also distract me and make me space out in Peoples eyes. Like I find long held eye contact inherently intimate and It makes me uncomforable and I can feel my stare make others uncomfortable.\nStill trying to find the balance lol. That’s why I marvel at actors in interviews who seem to make all the right eye contact and social cues and gestures because they are just professional people lol ", "I used to work with a girl that finished people’s sentences. She was so sweet and enthusiastic. I think it was because English was not her first language and she was convinced her English wasn’t very good (it was amazing), so she would say the words as I would say them like she was following along. Maybe as a way to practice pronunciation or just a reassurance thing. \nWhat ever it was I found it hugely endearing and it made me want to help her with her English. \nI think it’s great you have self awareness, and want to improve things, but don’t forget to let your personality traits show through, after all, they are unique to you and I’m sure there are people that love that about you. ", "First: \"Yeah, mmmhmm, right\" are not rude. This is a part of Active Listening, its feedback that shows you are interested in what they are saying.\n\nWhen you say finishing their sentences, is this a constant, they start a sentence and you immediately finish it, or does it look like this:\n\nBarb \"My husband has been so lazy lately. I keep asking and asking him to do the dishes and other chores on his days off, but he refuses. I don't want to nag him, but its like talking to a wall. Especially when the t.v. is on. I can't seem to get him to listen to me. It's like...\"\n\nYou, \"It's like he's not even there. Or he's tuned you out?\"\n\nIf it's more like the above, this is another active listening skill called Paraphrasing.", "Actually, you shouldn't want to stop that habit completely because its a good way to allow a conversation to organically flow back and forth. You might however, need to change your tone when you say \"right\" tone plays a big part in communication and showing people you're listening", "I do this too. Its because I'm genuinely interested and want to contribute. Usually contributing to something is giving, but in a conversation you might be seen as taking (taking time, taking attention). I'm so bad at this is super hard to stop - great request, hope there are some useful tips for us.", "I completely empathise with you, and sadly have no idea how to get better at getting this balance either, other than practice! You can get better at this.\n\nI think it's a great sign you have such insight and awareness into the problem, but I know that doesn't always help. \n\nI hope this isn't too personal but dyou struggle in other ways due to anxiety or stress? ", ":) because I use to not retain stories from people and then I realized it’s because I was thinking about eye contact and body language and don’t stand with my arms folded that long and all that\nStuff lol. Instead of listening! Now I’m\nBetter but now I’m a wait to talker... which is so rude! And I’m\nTrying to stop ", "I don't know you, but possibly - especially the worry about how often you are interrupting or making the other person feel listened too! \n\nTry focusing on all the times it makes people feel great that you are really listening to them, and when you can try to pause before finishing their sentences. I would try not to worry about the mmm/yes/uh-hugs as much, I doubt that will be causing too many problems.\n\nIs it just something you have noticed or has it been brought to your attention by other people? " ]

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[ "Windshield fog Everyone's gotten into their car early one morning for school or work and had to deal with not being able to get that layer of Satan breath off their windshield. Not just limited to mornings, this fog is the bane of my existence. The automatic windshield fog clearing button doesn't do jack, and nothing I seem to change on the air conditioning does anything. Anyone have a fix for this??", "Windshield fog Everyone's gotten into their car early one morning for school or work and had to deal with not being able to get that layer of Satan breath off their windshield. Not just limited to mornings, this fog is the bane of my existence. The automatic windshield fog clearing button doesn't do jack, and nothing I seem to change on the air conditioning does anything. Anyone have a fix for this??", "Windshield fog Everyone's gotten into their car early one morning for school or work and had to deal with not being able to get that layer of Satan breath off their windshield. Not just limited to mornings, this fog is the bane of my existence. The automatic windshield fog clearing button doesn't do jack, and nothing I seem to change on the air conditioning does anything. Anyone have a fix for this??", "Windshield fog Everyone's gotten into their car early one morning for school or work and had to deal with not being able to get that layer of Satan breath off their windshield. Not just limited to mornings, this fog is the bane of my existence. The automatic windshield fog clearing button doesn't do jack, and nothing I seem to change on the air conditioning does anything. Anyone have a fix for this??", "Windshield fog Everyone's gotten into their car early one morning for school or work and had to deal with not being able to get that layer of Satan breath off their windshield. Not just limited to mornings, this fog is the bane of my existence. The automatic windshield fog clearing button doesn't do jack, and nothing I seem to change on the air conditioning does anything. Anyone have a fix for this??", "Windshield fog Everyone's gotten into their car early one morning for school or work and had to deal with not being able to get that layer of Satan breath off their windshield. Not just limited to mornings, this fog is the bane of my existence. The automatic windshield fog clearing button doesn't do jack, and nothing I seem to change on the air conditioning does anything. Anyone have a fix for this??" ]

[ "I've heard some using those small silica gel packets you find in shoe boxes . Put them in the corner of the windshield. ", "I've always had good luck with the car defrost setting on the fan. Is that what you're using? I generally have to run it for a minute before it clears up the fog. Normal AC (that blows towards you and away from the windshield) is not going to do the trick.", "A preventative measure would be to make sure the inside of the windshield is well cleaned, free from oils, dirt and debris. ", "You need to let the car air out. It has too much humidity trapped inside. Easy fixes: 1) don't use the interior recirculation feature. 2) roll down the windows a crack for the last 10 or so minutes of your drive. 3) when parked leave your windows rolled down a bit, if you can. These three things get fresh air in to your car and get the humidity out.\n\nIf you are still having issues, check to make sure the heater core doesn't have a crack in it. If it does it won't be able to properly dehumidify the air in the car and needs to be fixed.\n\nA fourth easy fix that isn't related to the functioning of your car is keeping the windshield and windows clean. Fingerprints, smudges, etc. attract fog like no other. Use [normal Rain-X](https://www.rainx.com/product/glass-water-repellents-cleaners/rainx-original-glass-treatment/#.Vv3OexMrKRs) on the exterior and [Rain-X anti-fog](https://www.rainx.com/product/glass-water-repellents-cleaners/rainx-anti-fog/#.Vv3NrBMrKRs) on the interior for maximum visibility and minimum fogginess. ", "Google Rain-x. It's cheap and you just put it on your windshield once and it prevents fogging up.\n\n", "Fog clearing button is usually only for the back window, you need to use the heating and vent it under the windshield.\n\nIf that's not the case or your heating is broken you can drive with both windows open for a while to circulate air, that will remove some of it and lower the humidity in your car.\n\nAlso put a dab of dishwashing soap on a cloth and wipe in on the inside of your windshield, rewipe with clean dry cloth. This will counter condensation." ]

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[ "Working 2-40 hour/week jobs. How do I stay sane? This is something that I plan on transitioning into within the next week.\n\n7-4; 4:30-11ish.\n\nHow do I ensure that I’ll be okay to do this? I intend to do this for as close to 12 months as I can get. I plan on saving up enough to move out of my current state, and buy a house in cash in a cheaper part of the country.\n\nI’m 19, cut off most of my friends from high school, so I’d say I don’t really have much of a social life to begin with.\n\nI’m just trying to grind hard for what I want! Any tips/suggestions for remaining healthy mentally and physically during this endeavor? Thanks!", "Working 2-40 hour/week jobs. How do I stay sane? This is something that I plan on transitioning into within the next week.\n\n7-4; 4:30-11ish.\n\nHow do I ensure that I’ll be okay to do this? I intend to do this for as close to 12 months as I can get. I plan on saving up enough to move out of my current state, and buy a house in cash in a cheaper part of the country.\n\nI’m 19, cut off most of my friends from high school, so I’d say I don’t really have much of a social life to begin with.\n\nI’m just trying to grind hard for what I want! Any tips/suggestions for remaining healthy mentally and physically during this endeavor? Thanks!", "Working 2-40 hour/week jobs. How do I stay sane? This is something that I plan on transitioning into within the next week.\n\n7-4; 4:30-11ish.\n\nHow do I ensure that I’ll be okay to do this? I intend to do this for as close to 12 months as I can get. I plan on saving up enough to move out of my current state, and buy a house in cash in a cheaper part of the country.\n\nI’m 19, cut off most of my friends from high school, so I’d say I don’t really have much of a social life to begin with.\n\nI’m just trying to grind hard for what I want! Any tips/suggestions for remaining healthy mentally and physically during this endeavor? Thanks!", "Working 2-40 hour/week jobs. How do I stay sane? This is something that I plan on transitioning into within the next week.\n\n7-4; 4:30-11ish.\n\nHow do I ensure that I’ll be okay to do this? I intend to do this for as close to 12 months as I can get. I plan on saving up enough to move out of my current state, and buy a house in cash in a cheaper part of the country.\n\nI’m 19, cut off most of my friends from high school, so I’d say I don’t really have much of a social life to begin with.\n\nI’m just trying to grind hard for what I want! Any tips/suggestions for remaining healthy mentally and physically during this endeavor? Thanks!", "Working 2-40 hour/week jobs. How do I stay sane? This is something that I plan on transitioning into within the next week.\n\n7-4; 4:30-11ish.\n\nHow do I ensure that I’ll be okay to do this? I intend to do this for as close to 12 months as I can get. I plan on saving up enough to move out of my current state, and buy a house in cash in a cheaper part of the country.\n\nI’m 19, cut off most of my friends from high school, so I’d say I don’t really have much of a social life to begin with.\n\nI’m just trying to grind hard for what I want! Any tips/suggestions for remaining healthy mentally and physically during this endeavor? Thanks!", "Working 2-40 hour/week jobs. How do I stay sane? This is something that I plan on transitioning into within the next week.\n\n7-4; 4:30-11ish.\n\nHow do I ensure that I’ll be okay to do this? I intend to do this for as close to 12 months as I can get. I plan on saving up enough to move out of my current state, and buy a house in cash in a cheaper part of the country.\n\nI’m 19, cut off most of my friends from high school, so I’d say I don’t really have much of a social life to begin with.\n\nI’m just trying to grind hard for what I want! Any tips/suggestions for remaining healthy mentally and physically during this endeavor? Thanks!", "Working 2-40 hour/week jobs. How do I stay sane? This is something that I plan on transitioning into within the next week.\n\n7-4; 4:30-11ish.\n\nHow do I ensure that I’ll be okay to do this? I intend to do this for as close to 12 months as I can get. I plan on saving up enough to move out of my current state, and buy a house in cash in a cheaper part of the country.\n\nI’m 19, cut off most of my friends from high school, so I’d say I don’t really have much of a social life to begin with.\n\nI’m just trying to grind hard for what I want! Any tips/suggestions for remaining healthy mentally and physically during this endeavor? Thanks!" ]

[ "You don't. That kind of work schedule will grind you down mentally, and if the jobs are strenuous, physically as well. You're not even giving yourself enough time to sleep/eat. Exercise more patience and consider switching one of the jobs to part time.", "You can do this. This is pretty much the schedule of someone thats working while going to school full time, or many new college grads in banking/finance. Knowing you're not the only person doing this, and knowing it will end after 12 months and you'll be in a better situation, is enough to keep your mind right. Physically, just try to eat right. You're 19 years young. What could happen in 12 months? Many people your age, go to college, eat like crap, drink a ton, don't sleep much, and don't exercise. They put on 15-20 pounds but still end up ok. If you eat right, you'll be ahead of the game.", "Will you have paid time off (PTO) from either job? If so, take advantage of that. Do a coupe of long weekends if you can. A week vacation (at least) from both jobs after 6 months will be so worth it. \n\nAre the jobs more physical or mental? High stress? Make sure to take care of yourself - if you start to feel burned, take a break. \n\nAre the jobs far from home? Assuming it takes you an hour to get ready and get to work, as well as home from work and you can fall asleep almost immediately - that's 6 hours of sleep a night, which is okay. Not the best, but I've had friends who have run fine on 5 hours of sleep- then myself who is dead if I don't get a full 8 hours 😂. \n\nKeep a visual representation for your goal somewhere you can see everyday. You're doing this to save money, so do one of those fundraising drawings that show how much you've saved. Or have your bank (if you do online banking) send you an alert from your savings account every week showing how much you've saved. Keeps you goal-oriented. \n\nAlso, have a place or a person outside of work to vent. No matter what job you have, something will frustrate you and it is important to have an outlet to unload so you can keep moving. \n\nIt's going to be tough, but it will feel so awesome when you succeed. \n\nCheers, and good luck!", "Please don't do this man. Not worth the mental and physical exhaustion. Not to mention you'll probably take a few years of your precious life.", "Its pretty hard especially if there's not a lot of downtime. Just a single issue will derail everything. You couldn't get sleep one night because your neighbor had a party, now you're screwed because you have no time to recoup.", "Ik I'm late but, \n\nMaybe keep a calendar for ticking off days so you can visually see yourself getting closer to your goal? \nAnd now is definitely the time to start good habits. Clean up directly after a mess, maybe start a small workout regimen on the days you have off? That way stuff doesn't build up and cause more unnecessary stress.", "60 would be good. Hey, you're young so you might as well do it now but don't burn yourself out so much that you don't want to work extra hours when you're older. But If you're going to work two jobs then you're going to have to work like Harden plays.. take some plays off by being extremely efficient and resting in bathrooms, etc" ]

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[ "How to help someone feel more confident in their ability to hit a certain goal So, there's this friend of mine who has been feeling torn apart because of not being able to achieve her goals, mainly when it comes to grades (we're in high school), and we have come to the conclusion that the reason she keeps underperforming is that she has little to no confidence in her ability to hit the higher end grades and anxiety just takes over when taking tests/exams. It kills me to see her almost give up and I would really like to hear any tips you have for her, or for me as a friend who will do anything to help her.\n\nTL;DR: Friend can't achieve her goals in school because of anxiety and I feel she's almost giving up, desperately looking for anything I can do to help her", "How to help someone feel more confident in their ability to hit a certain goal So, there's this friend of mine who has been feeling torn apart because of not being able to achieve her goals, mainly when it comes to grades (we're in high school), and we have come to the conclusion that the reason she keeps underperforming is that she has little to no confidence in her ability to hit the higher end grades and anxiety just takes over when taking tests/exams. It kills me to see her almost give up and I would really like to hear any tips you have for her, or for me as a friend who will do anything to help her.\n\nTL;DR: Friend can't achieve her goals in school because of anxiety and I feel she's almost giving up, desperately looking for anything I can do to help her" ]

[ "Exercise routine by myself has been integral to achieving goals. It is a time you relieve stress, and if you run get that tunnel vision \"you world\" going on. I always start a run by thinking of things I want to accomplish, reflect as long as I can during my run. When I am done I feel energized, I have a pat on the back moment when I noticed I already achieved something in a workout, and I set my mind to accomplish a new task. If she doesn't run, a brisk walk always helps too. Blood flow to brain and increased oxygen lower depression and increase focus. ", "Is it anxiety or does she need to learn a better method for studying? Anxiety you can see a Dr and get meds for. But if you don't really know the material that won't make you succeed" ]

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[ "Where to find sheet music online Whenever I want to print sheet music off the web I can never find it, or it is a bad version of the song. What is a good website for free sheet music?", "Where to find sheet music online Whenever I want to print sheet music off the web I can never find it, or it is a bad version of the song. What is a good website for free sheet music?" ]

[ "do a little reading on scorch player.\n\nhttp://www.sibelius.com/products/scorch/index.html\n\nI also find there are lots of torrentz of sheet music\n\nhttp://torrentz.eu/search?q=sheet+music", "whenever I'm looking for piano music I usually search the name of the song and/or artist and put \"scribd sheet music\" at the end\n\nWorks better with more modern songs, but I usually have the most luck with that. I also used to use pianolicious.blogspot.com, which is still a great site if you can get through all the pesky ads" ]

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[ "How to stop from my face getting so red Whenever I talk to someone and something minor happens (such as a slip up with my words, whenever I can't do a problem in class, etc.) my face gets really red. It can sometimes cause awkward situations and can be annoying / embarrassing. So how can I \"keep my cool\" and keep from getting my face all red. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to stop from my face getting so red Whenever I talk to someone and something minor happens (such as a slip up with my words, whenever I can't do a problem in class, etc.) my face gets really red. It can sometimes cause awkward situations and can be annoying / embarrassing. So how can I \"keep my cool\" and keep from getting my face all red. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to stop from my face getting so red Whenever I talk to someone and something minor happens (such as a slip up with my words, whenever I can't do a problem in class, etc.) my face gets really red. It can sometimes cause awkward situations and can be annoying / embarrassing. So how can I \"keep my cool\" and keep from getting my face all red. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to stop from my face getting so red Whenever I talk to someone and something minor happens (such as a slip up with my words, whenever I can't do a problem in class, etc.) my face gets really red. It can sometimes cause awkward situations and can be annoying / embarrassing. So how can I \"keep my cool\" and keep from getting my face all red. Thanks in advance.\n\n" ]

[ "Something similar happens to me when I am in high stress situations like job interviews. My best trick is to draw my own attention away from the situation. I generally pinch one hand with the other or something slightly painful so my mind has something else to focus on which usually helps with blushing and other nervous responses. ", "In my experience, one of the best things to do when your face goes red (or when you screw up something in general) is to immediately own up to it. You can't do this in all situations, but if you recognize an error and make sure everyone knows that you think it's no big deal, everyone (including you) is put at ease. For example, I was once giving a speech, talking too fast, and instead of saying \"clock,\" it came out \"cock.\" My face bloomed bright red, and instead of ignoring it and having everyone feel bad for me, I said, \"Well, I guess my mouth and my face are determined to sabotage this speech.\" Everyone laughed, I felt more at ease, and my face faded to pink quickly. \n\nTLDR: Recognize the shameful burn aloud, joke about it, then move along.", "Fight or flight response.. it's your blood rushing to your muscles, and apparently face, to help you get out of the situation. I have the same thing, though it doesn't happen all that often anymore.. I'm afraid the only way to stop it is to get more comfortable in those situations.. try getting outside of your comfort zone.. like saying things that you would normally be embarrassed of.. we're all people, so you'd be surprised how not embarrassing some of that stuff is.", "I am a redhead, I have the same annoying problem. I could be in casual conversation and mispronounced word, or a simple thought will run through my head and then in turn make me blush. I found that pinching a finger or when I bite my lip that it seems to help! " ]

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[ "what are some websites where i can read educational articles ? examples like nasa.gov, business insider, etc \n", "what are some websites where i can read educational articles ? examples like nasa.gov, business insider, etc \n" ]

[ "MIT is part of a large multi-college collaboration where they have a large number of their courses (and all materials/books) online available for the public to take for FREE, and you can earn full cr", "Check out the inventors of The Internet, The Grid, and the Large Hydron Collider at: \nhttp://home.cern/about\n" ]

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[ "How do I know if my company is tracking my productivity / program use with software? There's a lot of news since the pandemic regarding companies using tracking software to monitor performance, online browsing, etc. Does anyone have effective tips for knowing if my company is tracking me?", "How do I know if my company is tracking my productivity / program use with software? There's a lot of news since the pandemic regarding companies using tracking software to monitor performance, online browsing, etc. Does anyone have effective tips for knowing if my company is tracking me?", "How do I know if my company is tracking my productivity / program use with software? There's a lot of news since the pandemic regarding companies using tracking software to monitor performance, online browsing, etc. Does anyone have effective tips for knowing if my company is tracking me?", "How do I know if my company is tracking my productivity / program use with software? There's a lot of news since the pandemic regarding companies using tracking software to monitor performance, online browsing, etc. Does anyone have effective tips for knowing if my company is tracking me?", "How do I know if my company is tracking my productivity / program use with software? There's a lot of news since the pandemic regarding companies using tracking software to monitor performance, online browsing, etc. Does anyone have effective tips for knowing if my company is tracking me?", "How do I know if my company is tracking my productivity / program use with software? There's a lot of news since the pandemic regarding companies using tracking software to monitor performance, online browsing, etc. Does anyone have effective tips for knowing if my company is tracking me?", "How do I know if my company is tracking my productivity / program use with software? There's a lot of news since the pandemic regarding companies using tracking software to monitor performance, online browsing, etc. Does anyone have effective tips for knowing if my company is tracking me?" ]

[ "just use your personal comp if you feel like screwing off for a while. If it's remote work; no one knows and you just move your mouse on the company comp here and there or copy a file. If they question the activity level; whoops, you had wifi problems at home and had to move to using your own laptop and transfer later. If it's on-site then you're just bringing in work you did at home and syncing up. \n\nBut fact is; if they're looking at your activity that deep they're just looking for reasons to do layoffs and they can make up a reason without knowing your keystrokes.", "You can assume they are in one way or another. Unless it is a small business you can assume they can look up every site you visit if they want to. My company knows every file that goes on or off of my computer. I sent my wife an attachment, no wait I replied to an email she sent me that had an attachment. Five minutes later myself and my manager got notified that my email was a breach. Why? Because my wife works for a competitor. Good news is they are only going to use it if they are out to get you. If your manager sucks he\\she might use it to try and make themselves look better. Although I'm guessing that info it isn't easily accessible to your manager.", "Every company computer is tracking what you do. They likely won’t actually pay attention to it until there’s a reason for them to do so but it’s still tracking every keystroke. They know what websites you visit. They can read emails and Teams messages. \n\nIf you want to browse the internet for fun or say something you don’t want your bosses to know, use your personal phone or computer.", "You mean working from home using your personal computer, working in office... You need to specify some more details. No one can tell you shit without some more info.", "Open the Run Window by either pressing Windows + R or typing Run in the Start Menu of Windows and type cmd\n\nnetstat (network statistics) is a command-line tool that displays network connections (both incoming and outgoing), routing tables, and a number of network interface (network interface controller or software-defined network interface) and network protocol statistics. \n\\-a –> Displays all the network connections along with all the TCP and UDP ports on which your computer is listening \n\\-n –> Displays active TCP connections, however, addresses and port numbers are expressed numerically and no attempt is made to determine names. \n\\-o –> Displays active TCP connections and includes the process ID (PID) for each connection. You can find the application based on the PID on the Processes tab in Windows Task Manager. This parameter can be combined with -a, -n, and -p. \n(Source – Wikipedia)", "Ask your supervisor. Ideally, this information is transparent and easily accessible. You usually learn this info during training and then you're given an employee handbook or some type of job aid. \n\nWhen I WFH, my hours were measured from the time I clock in by logging into a company website to the time I clocked out. We used a call manager Five9, my productivity is measure in how many outgoing calls I made, how long I was on the phone, and how many customer accounts I actioned into the next step. \n\nMy company doesn't track browsing history or require you sit in front of a webcam to prove you are working. Your productivity speaks for itself. \n\nI've actually considered that my company might be an exception. Alot of companies require you have your webcam on to see if you're really working. They do listen to your calls occasionally and then do some coaching later.", "Browsing history is always stored. Not only on your local computer, but there are logs what goes where. This can be used to discover issues in the network. But it may happen that they notice someone going to CuteKitties.com or worse. \n\nYou can scan or find it out, but this is happeninbg long before covid. Most employers are not active on this. But if they want they can scan the log files. And deleting your files locally won't save you." ]

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[ "How to get rid of back acne? I have back acne for almost 5 years now nd just want to get rid of it. Please help me.\n\n", "How to get rid of back acne? I have back acne for almost 5 years now nd just want to get rid of it. Please help me.\n\n", "How to get rid of back acne? I have back acne for almost 5 years now nd just want to get rid of it. Please help me.\n\n", "How to get rid of back acne? I have back acne for almost 5 years now nd just want to get rid of it. Please help me.\n\n", "How to get rid of back acne? I have back acne for almost 5 years now nd just want to get rid of it. Please help me.\n\n", "How to get rid of back acne? I have back acne for almost 5 years now nd just want to get rid of it. Please help me.\n\n", "How to get rid of back acne? I have back acne for almost 5 years now nd just want to get rid of it. Please help me.\n\n" ]

[ "Same problem here. Came with puberty and hasn't left these past 15 years. I hate summer for this reason. I'm an adult. I shouldn't have this problem!\n\nI rarely sweat and do not take steroids (or any other medications). I have tried washing and not washing. Tried wearing my hair up/short but the only affect is my embarrassment and high-collared shirts. I can not reach the whole of the affected area as to apply anything to it properly. \n\nI've heard some positive stories about accutane shots, but not enough to warrant the negative side effects.", "/r/SkincareAddiction is the place to go! Read the sidebar first, you'll likely get most of your questions answered there.", "lay on a fresh towel every night - put one on your pillow and back area (or 2 if you wish). Change sheets frequently, but towel for SURE every night. \n\nThe gentle exfoliation, oil absorption, and clean contact (read not blanketed with your bacteria) should help. \n\nAlso, try tanning (naturally or otherwise) your back. The sun does an amazing job sending the bacteria scattering.\n\nEat healthy, get sleep (immune boost).", "http://www.neutrogena.com/product/body+clear-+body+wash+-+pink+grapefruit.do\n\nThat helped me clear back acne. ", "Stridex red box, benzoyl peroxide after shower. Don't wear dark clothing or dark sheets, it will bleach them.", "If you have the money, most spas have a skin care procedure that's basically like a facial for the skin on your back. You can usually call and set up a free consultation before committing to anything. \n\nThe aesthetician will know which procedures to use, and the chemicals used are much less drastic than what a dermatologist may use as a starting point.\n\nIt is also possible the aesthetician will look at your back and send you straight to a dermatologist. A professional knows when a problem is out of their realm of expertise.\n\n", "Are you using a noncomedogenic astringent from time to time? Many will make use of salicylic acid. Neutragena makes a good one.\n\nIf this fails, it's probably time to see a dermotologist. " ]

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[ "How can I stop being too wordy? Hello, i'm 21M and I know through family and friends I talk too much. \nSometimes I even take too long to answer a simple yes or no question and this is ruining some relashionships.\nI'd really apretiate some tips, thanks.\n\n", "How can I stop being too wordy? Hello, i'm 21M and I know through family and friends I talk too much. \nSometimes I even take too long to answer a simple yes or no question and this is ruining some relashionships.\nI'd really apretiate some tips, thanks.\n\n", "How can I stop being too wordy? Hello, i'm 21M and I know through family and friends I talk too much. \nSometimes I even take too long to answer a simple yes or no question and this is ruining some relashionships.\nI'd really apretiate some tips, thanks.\n\n", "How can I stop being too wordy? Hello, i'm 21M and I know through family and friends I talk too much. \nSometimes I even take too long to answer a simple yes or no question and this is ruining some relashionships.\nI'd really apretiate some tips, thanks.\n\n", "How can I stop being too wordy? Hello, i'm 21M and I know through family and friends I talk too much. \nSometimes I even take too long to answer a simple yes or no question and this is ruining some relashionships.\nI'd really apretiate some tips, thanks.\n\n", "How can I stop being too wordy? Hello, i'm 21M and I know through family and friends I talk too much. \nSometimes I even take too long to answer a simple yes or no question and this is ruining some relashionships.\nI'd really apretiate some tips, thanks.\n\n", "How can I stop being too wordy? Hello, i'm 21M and I know through family and friends I talk too much. \nSometimes I even take too long to answer a simple yes or no question and this is ruining some relashionships.\nI'd really apretiate some tips, thanks.\n\n", "How can I stop being too wordy? Hello, i'm 21M and I know through family and friends I talk too much. \nSometimes I even take too long to answer a simple yes or no question and this is ruining some relashionships.\nI'd really apretiate some tips, thanks.\n\n" ]

[ "Succinct...be it.\nThink about your answers before speaking. If you're a talker, you'll have to teach yourself to ween out unnecessary jargon. It takes practice.\nPick a friend or family member that has given you feedback before, and ask them to cut you off when you're doing it. Then look for ways you could shorten what you were talking about.", "Try listening more than speaking, asking questions more than answering or jabbering on. There is a reason people say \"Silence is Golden\". Nothing worse annoying than someone who continually rambles on about nothing and won't. STFU. I have let go of more than one boyfriend because he couldn't keep his damn mouth shut. One of them used to sing along with the music on the radio and he could not carry a tune. I told him he had to shut up immediately or he'd have to walk home, that guy couldn't even hum on tune. Seriously though, At least you recognize the problem, and that's the first step. If the relationship you want to save is worth it, let that person know that you apologize in advance and want to change, so work out a clue or signal word that it's time for you to shut up and just stop talking. My favorite signal is \"tick a lock\", like you're locking your lips shut with a key ala ", "I've noticed with friends and family that it isn't so much about being to wordy, it's about wanting to converse when the other person doesn't. It pays to learn more about people's cues and what their habits are. I can talk all day with people who want to talk about video games and beer, but I can't talk about those things with my dad. But if I mention politics I can't shut him up. \n\nThe key is to know whether those people want to engage, and what they engage about. If you find people like to converse about the topics you're interested in but they *still* don't want to talk with you, then it could be something superficial. Maybe they find you condescending (in which case, maybe you are too wordy and need to keep answers concise and to the point), maybe they are condescending to you, maybe they aren't as enthused about a topic or maybe you argue too much. \"You talk too much\" is something that people might say to someone to try and silence them, my family has done it to me, but usually it's not so much as \"how much\" as it is \"how\". ", "I struggle with this. Especially when it's something interesting. So here what I *try* to do.\n\n1) Don't give background unless they ask for it. Like if you were going to share something that happened in a restaurant, no one needs to know: name of restaurant, what day or time you went, how got there, what you wore, your mood, etc. Just tell the important bits. Let the other person ask probing questions if they want more.\n\n2) Hand over the speaking stick. If I've told a story or had my turn, I make sure to ask open ended questions to give others a chance. Keep a tally in your head or how much 'air time' you've used. Try to make sure the others get their fair share.\n\n3) Eliminate filler words: um, like, really, very, do you get me, right?, as I was saying,\n\n ", "Learn to write a 5 paragraph essay so your brain organizes info and you stop doing it out loud. \n\nIf you suck at writing, there is your answer", "I try to make the main points and, when I catch myself erring on verbosity or starting to think out loud, end with a variant of \" ... and the rest I'm sure you can extrapolate.\"", "I have no solution but I feel your pain.. I'm so wordy I come off as condescending. It's really off putting to someone who is slow.", "> Sometimes I even take too long to answer a simple yes or no question.\n\nWell you already know the problem. Most of the time when people ask these type of things they don't care, so pick anything:\n\n>What should we do now?\n\n>coffee/dessert/park/movie (most people don't care, but they don't want the responsibility of choosing).\n\n> Sometimes I even take too long to answer a simple yes or no question and this is ruining some relashionships.\n\nSometimes questions aren't questions for example, what would you say to:\n\n>I have a big problem (explains problems), I'm stressed, I'm stuck, what should I do?\n\nIf you think (offer a solution) is the answer, well you are wrong 9/10 times. The proper response is to explain their feelings by saying \"you are feeling overwhelmed by the possibilities, and unsure what to do next\"." ]

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[ "When cooking multiple dishes for a group, how do you keep everything hot for serving? I’ve always struggled bring everything together at once when cooking so I always feel like some dishes are lukewarm to cold when serving.", "When cooking multiple dishes for a group, how do you keep everything hot for serving? I’ve always struggled bring everything together at once when cooking so I always feel like some dishes are lukewarm to cold when serving.", "When cooking multiple dishes for a group, how do you keep everything hot for serving? I’ve always struggled bring everything together at once when cooking so I always feel like some dishes are lukewarm to cold when serving.", "When cooking multiple dishes for a group, how do you keep everything hot for serving? I’ve always struggled bring everything together at once when cooking so I always feel like some dishes are lukewarm to cold when serving.", "When cooking multiple dishes for a group, how do you keep everything hot for serving? I’ve always struggled bring everything together at once when cooking so I always feel like some dishes are lukewarm to cold when serving.", "When cooking multiple dishes for a group, how do you keep everything hot for serving? I’ve always struggled bring everything together at once when cooking so I always feel like some dishes are lukewarm to cold when serving." ]

[ "Prep every thing first so you don’t have to stop to dice an onion because you forgot it. Set the items in bowls or plates like they do on tv shows. Means more washing but better for cooking efficiency. \n\nLearn how long it takes to cook the various things and coordinate your timing. Know when you want to have everything ready and work time backwards. Keep in mind some foods cool off faster than others and factor that into the equation. \n\nStart what takes longest and then start the second longest then third etc. \n\nSome items like meats stay hot longer than other things so if stove or element space is needed or you need the pan for other things cook the meat, transfer it to a dish, or in the pot if you can spare it, cover it with foil then a couple of towels on top of that to keep the heat in. If it’s goin in the oven to stay warm just cover it with foil. \n\nJust about anything can go in the oven in a non-flammable container at a very low heat like 200F to stay warm for 20 minutes or so without drying out. \n\nIf you can, since you’ve prepared ahead and most things need a few minutes before you stir you can wash your dishes you’ve used or rinse them and load the dishwasher as you go. \n\nWash any pots or pans you no longer need as well. That way when all the cooking is done all you have left to clean are the dishes from the meal and a few pots and pans. \n\nIt’s a learned skill that not everyone has gotten so practice your dishes, check your timing as you’re learning and you’ll be working your multiple meals like a pro.\n\nForgot to add that the bigger something is the longer it takes to cook like potatoes or carrots. Big chunks set to boil can take up to 45 minutes, diced small or cut in 1/4” slices can cook anywhere from 20-30 minutes instead. Depending on what you’re making sizing can matter for timing", "I put all my food in chaffing pans when cooking multiple dishes. Then I heat my burners up, turn them off and place them covered on the warm burners.", "Try to stack up your cooking so that the items that need to rest, like beef, will be doing so while you're finishing off the rest of your meal.", "I always do a detailed timeline on paper of what needs to be done & at what time to keep me on schedule. I prepare most the prior day & reheat. Some things taste better the next day.) Most veggie side dishes can stay warm at +/- 200°oven -- And there are some that taste better if served at room temperature. Most roasts and meats need to rest a bit so that gives me a chance to cook a fast cooking item such as broccoli or green beans. \nI will ask someone to pour water and another to put salad on the salad plates 15-20 min before calling everyone to the dining room. Have others help me put on buffet so it is all out at the same time.\nI cook rolls or biscuits last putting them in oven just prior to calling everyone to dining table. By the time the blessing is said, everyone is seated and served,* the bread is ready. It usually works out ok. \nOh yes, warm serving spoons and bowls with HOT water. Why use a cold spoon in a hot dish? (If oven space is scarce, tent foods with alum.foil.)\n( * We say grace before sitting down and prior to buffet line. When last person is left in buffet line I pull bread from oven, put it in basket and serve before I sit down. )", "There is a thing like a round iron wire and in the middle is a candle, the flame keeps the dishes placed on top of the round wire hot.", "Cook the longest things first, then the quickest things last, then everything when ready should be around the same temp (: heated plates help too (microwave them if theyre safe to microwave)" ]

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[ "Buying my first apartment I'm buying an apartment in a complex downtown in a biggish city, and the main thing I know is to buy a plunger before I need one.\n\nI've gone through the home inspection, the appraisal, all the initial check-up stuff.\n\nWhat are some things you wish you knew when you were in my position? \n\nWhat things should I know and prepare for?", "Buying my first apartment I'm buying an apartment in a complex downtown in a biggish city, and the main thing I know is to buy a plunger before I need one.\n\nI've gone through the home inspection, the appraisal, all the initial check-up stuff.\n\nWhat are some things you wish you knew when you were in my position? \n\nWhat things should I know and prepare for?", "Buying my first apartment I'm buying an apartment in a complex downtown in a biggish city, and the main thing I know is to buy a plunger before I need one.\n\nI've gone through the home inspection, the appraisal, all the initial check-up stuff.\n\nWhat are some things you wish you knew when you were in my position? \n\nWhat things should I know and prepare for?", "Buying my first apartment I'm buying an apartment in a complex downtown in a biggish city, and the main thing I know is to buy a plunger before I need one.\n\nI've gone through the home inspection, the appraisal, all the initial check-up stuff.\n\nWhat are some things you wish you knew when you were in my position? \n\nWhat things should I know and prepare for?", "Buying my first apartment I'm buying an apartment in a complex downtown in a biggish city, and the main thing I know is to buy a plunger before I need one.\n\nI've gone through the home inspection, the appraisal, all the initial check-up stuff.\n\nWhat are some things you wish you knew when you were in my position? \n\nWhat things should I know and prepare for?" ]

[ "If you're actually buying (you said apartment so I'm just confirming), parking spaces. When I bought my condo, I wish I paid the extra $5k for a second parking spot.", "Make sure you you check out the HOA! Not just the covenants, but budget, reserves, law suits, possible future assessments. Boring maybe, but essential before purchasing a condo which is NOT just an apartment. Are you prepared to pay out a mandatory assessment for new roofs, paint, elevators? Do your homework.", "Hammer, screwdrivers (I'd even get a multi fastener set, that includes different sizes, but also types, like the torq, etc), small socket w/ ratchet set, wall hanging stuff. \nSomething handy for bugs. \nFlashlights.\nTrash bags (I feel like they get overlooked sometimes)\nBattery Asst\nLight bulbs\nIf you have balcony, do you have outlets etc, if not get one of the light sockets that adds an outlet. And if you have one, a chair for out there.\nPower bank\nBroom (and dustpan if you're feeling fancy)\nSurge protectors\nRug for entry to wipe feet on (either in/out, both is better)\n\nJust some random things I though of. Hope it helps.", "1. Map out the outlets. Which switch controls which socket. \n\n2. Get a can of raid. Even if you don’t think you need it, a bug may come along.\n\n3. If you don’t have a deadbolt on the door, that’s inaccessible from the outside, get a couple door stops to put on the inside for extra protection. \n\n4. Write down the types of light bulbs you need for every light. My complex changes them for me but, old one didn’t.\n\n5. Run the dishwasher, washer, and disposal to make sure they work properly.", "Hmmmm...is it in Miami and face the ocean?\n\nSeriously, how much will you be on the hook for major issues with the building?" ]

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[ "Throwing a house party and need tips on cost-effective foods (and clean-up ideas if you've got them!) My husband and I bought our first house a few months ago, and we're throwing our first party. Expecting 40 to 60 people. \n\nWe've always lived in apartments with roommates/had much smaller spaces, so this is more or less our first party as hosts. We have a grill, but we were thinking pulled pork in the slow cooker plus a bunch of apps (grill is on the first floor, party mostly on 4th floor roof deck). We'll have cans of beer but also a keg or two. \n\nLPT on throwing a party? Cost-effective food options? ", "Throwing a house party and need tips on cost-effective foods (and clean-up ideas if you've got them!) My husband and I bought our first house a few months ago, and we're throwing our first party. Expecting 40 to 60 people. \n\nWe've always lived in apartments with roommates/had much smaller spaces, so this is more or less our first party as hosts. We have a grill, but we were thinking pulled pork in the slow cooker plus a bunch of apps (grill is on the first floor, party mostly on 4th floor roof deck). We'll have cans of beer but also a keg or two. \n\nLPT on throwing a party? Cost-effective food options? ", "Throwing a house party and need tips on cost-effective foods (and clean-up ideas if you've got them!) My husband and I bought our first house a few months ago, and we're throwing our first party. Expecting 40 to 60 people. \n\nWe've always lived in apartments with roommates/had much smaller spaces, so this is more or less our first party as hosts. We have a grill, but we were thinking pulled pork in the slow cooker plus a bunch of apps (grill is on the first floor, party mostly on 4th floor roof deck). We'll have cans of beer but also a keg or two. \n\nLPT on throwing a party? Cost-effective food options? ", "Throwing a house party and need tips on cost-effective foods (and clean-up ideas if you've got them!) My husband and I bought our first house a few months ago, and we're throwing our first party. Expecting 40 to 60 people. \n\nWe've always lived in apartments with roommates/had much smaller spaces, so this is more or less our first party as hosts. We have a grill, but we were thinking pulled pork in the slow cooker plus a bunch of apps (grill is on the first floor, party mostly on 4th floor roof deck). We'll have cans of beer but also a keg or two. \n\nLPT on throwing a party? Cost-effective food options? " ]

[ "Tex mex is cheap and hard to mess up...buy ground turkey instead of beef to save money, rice and beans are super inexpensive and a head of iceberg lettuce is under a dollar usually. Google simple recipes or just do nachos.", "Add some rolls and condiments for that pulled pork and sandwiches will fill people up (meaning less $ spent on apps)\n\nDon't buy prepared veggie or fruit trays, do the work yourself (it's just washing and cutting) and you'll save a ton. \n\nHeavy dips - (ex. sausage/cream cheese/Rotel in a crockpot cost a few bucks, but gets scraped clean)\n\nCostco/Sams/wholesale clubs offer party size sides at great prices. \n", "I think a lot of it depends on the type of people coming. If they are like late teenagers/young 20s, they will be stoked with like off brand chips and cheap bbq sausages for example", "Dice pimento-stuffed olives into a container of neufchatel or cream cheese. Spread on tortillas. Cover with sandwich pepperoni, add fresh parsley or cilantro if you have some growing in a pot somewhere. Roll up. Cut into wheels. \n\nCheap, filling, yummy, and more fancy than mini wieners on a toothpick. " ]

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[ "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. ", "Severely sore throat. Gargling salt water (twice), chloraseptic spray (three times), Halls throat drops haven't worked. " ]

[ "If those things haven't helped, you may have to go to the doctor. Especially if it is getting worse or if you can't drink enough to keep hydrated. ", "A) Go to a doctor.\n\nB) Go to a doctor.\n\nC) Go to a doctor.\n\nD) They call \"pain killers\" that for a reason.\n\nE through Z) Go to a doctor.", "Ibuprofen or something does help eventually.\n\nAlso, honey. Like literally a spoonful in your mouth and let it melt on your tongue and run down your throat...as often as needed. ", "You may have strep throst mate, or could even be a nasty mould infection. Please seek out a doctor mate, you could do some real damage if you ignore it.", "If your sore throat is worse after you wake up, it's probably a sinus infection or cold causing mucus to run down your throat and irritate it. If you aren't treating that then the sore throat won't get any better.", "Go to a doctor. If you are describing it as \"hell\" then it's time to hit a GP, urgent care or nurse practitioner. Alternately, if you have one available, call a nurses line for medical advice.", "Honey works because it is 80% glycerine. Glycerine tends to coat things and really stick (for instance, glycerine in your toothpaste doesn't come off your teeth for about 24 hours, which prevents your saliva from remineralizing your teeth, which isn't a good thing in that context), and it is a humectant, which means it tends to draw moisture to itself, keeping your throat moist.", "A sore throat that lasts longer than 3 days becomes a source of concern. \n\nYou might have mono or strep, both of which needs a doctor's care. Here is an overview.\n\nhttp://www.webmd.com/cold-and-flu/tc/sore-throat-topic-overview", "whatever you do, do not try those internet cures of cayenne pepper, lemon, cider vinegar or anything acidic. I have done these and then gone to the doctor. She advised me NOT to drink anything spicy or acidic as it will only irrritate your raw throat. Steam will not help with throat irritation either. These things MAY help with congestion, but for a sore throat they are the worst thing you can do. One thing I have found that does work is tea with lots of honey(no sugar). It will coat your throat for a while, as long as you don't eat or drink anything afterwards. This was the only thing that actually allowed me to get some sleep. Getting lots of rest speeds up recovery significantly. Like everyone else here has said(well, the smart ones) GO SEE YOUR DOCTOR!!!!", "old family remedy in my family is to warm up some apple cider vinegar, like a shot or 2, and stir in an equal amount of honey. sip down half of it then shoot the rest. i swear to god, it works wonders. and i think it's kinda delicious.", "Um, I've used pulpy OJ mixed with a little cayenne pepper to relieve a sore throat, but you might have an infection. Home remedies aren't going to help.", "Steam! Boil the kettle, get a big bowl or pan, put the whole kettle of boiling water in there.\nThen quickly put a towel over your head, put your head over the bowl and breathe in the steam. Be careful at first (hot) but then just keep going for about 5-10 mins. Do this whenever you can, you can't over steam and it will soothe your throat and loosen any crap you have clogging you up. Just water though, adding anything to it like olbas oil can dry you out.", "Sounds weird but, if you have any, you could try adding a few slices of chopped chilli to a cup of hot honey and lemon. Let it steep for a bit then take out the chilli if you prefer before drinking. Found this randomly on the interweb a while ago and it really made a difference to my suicide-level sore throat. Gargling with salt water is my other go-to. Oh, and whisky... Hope you feel better soon, it really is the most appalling pain :( \n", "Some formulae of Chloraseptic are anaesthetics, they should work on any normal sore throat. A failure of anaesthetic to numb the pain could mean something somewhat more severe than a normal sore throat, like potentially dangerous infection or throat cancer, you should go to a doctor.", "LPT : Look up rheumatic heart disease then promptly go get some penicillin. Seriously look after yourself.", "If you are having trouble swallowing you should see a doctor. Not sure if you are having trouble or just pain.\n\nA spoonful of honey is suppose to be helpful", "Grab a flashlight and a mirror and check out your tonsils. If you have got white things on them you more than likely have strep throat. This can be treated with antibiotics. Also, if you are suffering with throat pain along with fever or swollen glands, go to the doctor. If it is just a sore throat just wait it out. If it doesn't improve within 5 or so days, go to the doctor. I'm not a doctor, but I have had strep 5+ times a year since childhood. I find avoiding milk products and drinking slurpees or tea help with pain a bit. ", "First i would clear some things up:\nDoes it hurt when you eat? Or only if you swallow without anything else? How long since you had the first symtoms? \nSadly none of the methods you tried (and nearly all of the householdmethods and family remidies desribed here) are working. If they worked it was because of the placebo effect, sorry to break it to you. \nFact is: You are sick, you should act like it. Go to bed, keep warm, drink a lot of water (water water waaaater!!!!) and relax. If it hurts so much that you cannot think of anything else obviously you should get your sick ass to the nearest doctor. Oh and try not to speak at all (except with the doctor)\nSorry there is no miracle cure :) Get better soon!\n\nRemember everybody who reads this: If your throat is sore and/or your voice is hoarse for more than two weeks it is of utmost importance to see a doctor, for it could be cancer. ", "keep a spit cup with you at home so you don't have to swallow your saliva. i wouldnt bring it with you anywhere else tho", "cut a lemon into quarters and bite into one of them and swallow the juice, it hurts but then it'll feel better. i'm guessing the acid burns out the crap in your throat.\n\nget your tonsils out, life gets much better after that.", "You should go to a doctor. But I do have a homemade cure all I sometimes use for colds and things... Put crushed Garlic, lemon juice, honey, grated ginger in hot water. Ginger is amazing for sore throats, honey coats the throat to provide comfort, lemon juice for flavour and Garlic\nIs good for the immune system. And it doesn't taste that bad either! ", "You can try gargling with apple cider vinegar. You will cough up the meatiest phlegm of your life. Be aware though, ACV has one of the most pungent odors you will ever smell. ", "Whiskey with a little honey in it. Not only does it help with the sore throat, but it will help you get to sleep too", "When you first get a sore throat gargle hydrogen peroxide 30 seconds sometimes it will go away. If not do this up to three times a day makes it feel a lot better. Also apple cider vinegar you have to get the organic stuff. Of course tea and ice pops. If it's a crazy bad one there just isn't much you can do. ", "Ricola original drops are the best in my opinion, and I always make cup of noodles and put a lot of extra salt in there, and drink it up! The heat and salt seem to help me a lot. ", "I started to get these kind of sore throats a few years ago. Strep was ruled out, but it felt like KNIVES every time I swallowed. Hell doesn't begun to cover it.\n\nYou might try mixing one part liquid Benadryl with one part maalox. Gargle with it.\n\nOtherwise live on Popsicles like I did until it improved. Also keep a towel handy to spit saliva into so you swallow less.\n\n", "I am the only one who will post this.\n\nThere is a tea called \"Throat Coat\" it is the best sore throat remedy I have ever used. It will literally coat your throat on the inside with the tea and make it feel nice and smooth. It's super legit.", "Get a flashlight and look down your throat in a mirror. You might have blisters or something down there.", "Gargle with a shot of hard liquor and swallow it. It will suck extra fluids out of swollen tissues and kill surface germs. Also a drop or two of vinegar based hot sauce seems to help sometimes." ]

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[ "How do you move on from the mistakes and awkward situations you get into? Everyone has stupid moments they wish they could go back and change. I try to learn from embarrassing incidents and stupid times but all I seem to do is dwell on them. Even things from years ago that are now totally irrelevant.\n\nHow do you clear these things out of your mind and move on?", "How do you move on from the mistakes and awkward situations you get into? Everyone has stupid moments they wish they could go back and change. I try to learn from embarrassing incidents and stupid times but all I seem to do is dwell on them. Even things from years ago that are now totally irrelevant.\n\nHow do you clear these things out of your mind and move on?", "How do you move on from the mistakes and awkward situations you get into? Everyone has stupid moments they wish they could go back and change. I try to learn from embarrassing incidents and stupid times but all I seem to do is dwell on them. Even things from years ago that are now totally irrelevant.\n\nHow do you clear these things out of your mind and move on?", "How do you move on from the mistakes and awkward situations you get into? Everyone has stupid moments they wish they could go back and change. I try to learn from embarrassing incidents and stupid times but all I seem to do is dwell on them. Even things from years ago that are now totally irrelevant.\n\nHow do you clear these things out of your mind and move on?", "How do you move on from the mistakes and awkward situations you get into? Everyone has stupid moments they wish they could go back and change. I try to learn from embarrassing incidents and stupid times but all I seem to do is dwell on them. Even things from years ago that are now totally irrelevant.\n\nHow do you clear these things out of your mind and move on?", "How do you move on from the mistakes and awkward situations you get into? Everyone has stupid moments they wish they could go back and change. I try to learn from embarrassing incidents and stupid times but all I seem to do is dwell on them. Even things from years ago that are now totally irrelevant.\n\nHow do you clear these things out of your mind and move on?", "How do you move on from the mistakes and awkward situations you get into? Everyone has stupid moments they wish they could go back and change. I try to learn from embarrassing incidents and stupid times but all I seem to do is dwell on them. Even things from years ago that are now totally irrelevant.\n\nHow do you clear these things out of your mind and move on?" ]

[ "People would worry a lot less if they realized how seldom others think of them. I can named a thousand stupid things I've done over my lifetime but honestly can't recall any embarrassing moments of other people.", "[I always look at this](https://www.lucidchart.com/documents/thumb/4e3feb70-4808-4bd8-b232-2d700a7f017e/0/33157/NULL/690/NULL/Dont-Worry.png)", "This is a really good question and I can relate as well. This is a minor situation but once I was asked to provide music for my best friends birthday party. I'm not a DJ, so I thought I would just create a playlist on itunes and let it run throughout the night. I procrastinated until the last minute and as I'm trying to put together a playlist my computer crashes...I went to the party very little music, and the music I did have was my own personal favorites and not for parties at all. People were upset and kept asking me to change the music. I was embarrassed for myself and felt bad for my friend. That has been on my mind almost daily for a year. The worst part for me is the procrastination. It taught me a valuable lesson about getting things done right away. Since then I've always made sure to remind myself of how I never want to be in that situation in any other aspects of my life. Sometimes dwelling on it helps you prevent it from happening again, but that only works if you take the correct steps NOT to allow it to happen again. ", "Accept that you're human and make mistakes. Be happy that you had the experience for its own sake and so that you could grow from it. Know that you will change (hopefully for the better) if you are able to learn from the past. Enjoy!", "You don't. You think about them and re-do the situation over and over in your head when trying to fall asleep, brushing your teeth, or taking a shower. It's just important to not do it out loud when other people are around...like at the urinal. You're bound to laugh at one of your more successful \"alternative outcomes\" while you're looking at your penis and they'll only guess at what you're laughing about. Then you've just added another item to the list.\n\ntl;dr: Don't laugh at your inner monologue while you're at the urinal.", "I've learned that I eventually forget about or learn to laugh at my previous mistakes and embarrassments. So I just tell myself that: \"In time I'll forget about this.\" The difficult part is just making it through the initial moments when the memory is still fresh.", "I used to be the same way until I read something like this, Try to remember a time one some else did something awkward or made a stupid mistake. At least for me I really can't remember any of the top of my head. It's like this for everyone, so when you do something dumb you keep obsessing over it but everyone else probably forgot about it 5 minutes after it happened." ]

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[ "How to manage the power cord while vacuuming? Seriously. What is the best way to manage the power cord while I vacuum? I usually end up with a few loops wrapped around my neck, a few loops in my hand and I still run over the damn thing. There has got to be an easier way.", "How to manage the power cord while vacuuming? Seriously. What is the best way to manage the power cord while I vacuum? I usually end up with a few loops wrapped around my neck, a few loops in my hand and I still run over the damn thing. There has got to be an easier way." ]

[ "I hold the cord with my left hand, then with my right I hold the vacuum handle with the cord I between the handle and my hand. Hope you can understand. ", "Not sure if serious but here goes.\n\nUnwind all the cord. Plug it in and loop the excess. Hold the loop of extra cable in one hand while directing the vacuum with the other. The farther way you get from the plug just drop a bit of the loop. Work from the inside out. If it come to a place where you have to run over the cord just whip it. As the cord flips about it should flop out of your way." ]

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[ "Sitting next to a messy person in an open desk office arrangement My office moved to a smaller location. Consequently, we have smaller desks. I was placed next to a person who has too much clutter on her desk, insofar that her junk spills over onto my space and takes up a third of it. I've asked her a few times to mind her stuff, which she does, for about an hour. \n\nWhat should I do? Keep asking until she gets it? Learn to tolerate I will only have 2/3rds a desk? As for moving seats, I was already denied this request.", "Sitting next to a messy person in an open desk office arrangement My office moved to a smaller location. Consequently, we have smaller desks. I was placed next to a person who has too much clutter on her desk, insofar that her junk spills over onto my space and takes up a third of it. I've asked her a few times to mind her stuff, which she does, for about an hour. \n\nWhat should I do? Keep asking until she gets it? Learn to tolerate I will only have 2/3rds a desk? As for moving seats, I was already denied this request.", "Sitting next to a messy person in an open desk office arrangement My office moved to a smaller location. Consequently, we have smaller desks. I was placed next to a person who has too much clutter on her desk, insofar that her junk spills over onto my space and takes up a third of it. I've asked her a few times to mind her stuff, which she does, for about an hour. \n\nWhat should I do? Keep asking until she gets it? Learn to tolerate I will only have 2/3rds a desk? As for moving seats, I was already denied this request.", "Sitting next to a messy person in an open desk office arrangement My office moved to a smaller location. Consequently, we have smaller desks. I was placed next to a person who has too much clutter on her desk, insofar that her junk spills over onto my space and takes up a third of it. I've asked her a few times to mind her stuff, which she does, for about an hour. \n\nWhat should I do? Keep asking until she gets it? Learn to tolerate I will only have 2/3rds a desk? As for moving seats, I was already denied this request.", "Sitting next to a messy person in an open desk office arrangement My office moved to a smaller location. Consequently, we have smaller desks. I was placed next to a person who has too much clutter on her desk, insofar that her junk spills over onto my space and takes up a third of it. I've asked her a few times to mind her stuff, which she does, for about an hour. \n\nWhat should I do? Keep asking until she gets it? Learn to tolerate I will only have 2/3rds a desk? As for moving seats, I was already denied this request." ]

[ "When she's sitting next to you at your desks, take your arm and just sideswipe all of her shit back to her desk or the floor. It should only take a couple times before she gets the point ", "You have a right to defend your borders . Move company stuff to the storage location or above file cabinets ", "Swipe it across, or put something a bit gross near your \"border\" like a used tissue or an old coffee cup. ", "I would bring in some desk item that would create a physical barrier: a couple plants, a shelf, a bunch of books and book ends, paper trays, bins, etc. ", "Do you share the same large desk? If not you could talk to management about her taking over your workspace, if you do talk to management be sure to emphasise on how much it affects your work flow and efficiency. If you share a very large desk and you are allowed to personalise it then buy a sheet of corrugated plastic the size of your desk, make a fold about 2 inches up from the bottom, cut the longest part so it's about 6 inches high then get some blue tac and tac that baby down. Management shouldn't have an issue with this if you justify it being an aid to your work and it's under a foot high so it won't stick out like teletubby at a death metal concert." ]

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[ "How to get out of a conversation with a long-winded individual? I often get trapped in conversations with people that love to hear themselves talk while I'm at work (usually our contracted security guards) or other places. I'm very nice and will not leave or let on that I don't have time to listen to them talk. The conversation is very one-sided. I usually just smile and nod and throw in an occasional \"oh yeah, mmmhmm.\" And some of these guys can go on for 30 minutes or more.\n\nHow do I stop this from happening without being rude?\n\n", "How to get out of a conversation with a long-winded individual? I often get trapped in conversations with people that love to hear themselves talk while I'm at work (usually our contracted security guards) or other places. I'm very nice and will not leave or let on that I don't have time to listen to them talk. The conversation is very one-sided. I usually just smile and nod and throw in an occasional \"oh yeah, mmmhmm.\" And some of these guys can go on for 30 minutes or more.\n\nHow do I stop this from happening without being rude?\n\n", "How to get out of a conversation with a long-winded individual? I often get trapped in conversations with people that love to hear themselves talk while I'm at work (usually our contracted security guards) or other places. I'm very nice and will not leave or let on that I don't have time to listen to them talk. The conversation is very one-sided. I usually just smile and nod and throw in an occasional \"oh yeah, mmmhmm.\" And some of these guys can go on for 30 minutes or more.\n\nHow do I stop this from happening without being rude?\n\n", "How to get out of a conversation with a long-winded individual? I often get trapped in conversations with people that love to hear themselves talk while I'm at work (usually our contracted security guards) or other places. I'm very nice and will not leave or let on that I don't have time to listen to them talk. The conversation is very one-sided. I usually just smile and nod and throw in an occasional \"oh yeah, mmmhmm.\" And some of these guys can go on for 30 minutes or more.\n\nHow do I stop this from happening without being rude?\n\n", "How to get out of a conversation with a long-winded individual? I often get trapped in conversations with people that love to hear themselves talk while I'm at work (usually our contracted security guards) or other places. I'm very nice and will not leave or let on that I don't have time to listen to them talk. The conversation is very one-sided. I usually just smile and nod and throw in an occasional \"oh yeah, mmmhmm.\" And some of these guys can go on for 30 minutes or more.\n\nHow do I stop this from happening without being rude?\n\n", "How to get out of a conversation with a long-winded individual? I often get trapped in conversations with people that love to hear themselves talk while I'm at work (usually our contracted security guards) or other places. I'm very nice and will not leave or let on that I don't have time to listen to them talk. The conversation is very one-sided. I usually just smile and nod and throw in an occasional \"oh yeah, mmmhmm.\" And some of these guys can go on for 30 minutes or more.\n\nHow do I stop this from happening without being rude?\n\n", "How to get out of a conversation with a long-winded individual? I often get trapped in conversations with people that love to hear themselves talk while I'm at work (usually our contracted security guards) or other places. I'm very nice and will not leave or let on that I don't have time to listen to them talk. The conversation is very one-sided. I usually just smile and nod and throw in an occasional \"oh yeah, mmmhmm.\" And some of these guys can go on for 30 minutes or more.\n\nHow do I stop this from happening without being rude?\n\n" ]

[ "Have a contingency option locked and loaded for these exact situations. Example:\n\nLoquacious Larry: And then my podiatrist wanted to do some extra testing.\n\nYou: Shit! What time is it?\n\nLoquacious Larry: 9:45am, why?\n\nYou: Damn, I forgot to call (prearranged friend)! I'm sorry man, I need to make this call. Can I talk to you later?\n\nThen you just pick up the phone and start going through the motions until Larry leaves. If he happens to walk back in after a few mins and catches you off the phone, you just say \"No answer. I'm going to try again in a few.\" \n\nNext week, you have a different contingency ready (say, a bathroom emergency or something). When Larry comes for a visit, you interrupt and grab your stomach and say \"Oh man, I need to get to the bathroom.\"\n\nThe key is having something ready.", "Get a far-off look in your face and then yell, \"narp!\"\n\nAs soon as they recover and start again, \"NAAAARP!\" \n\nWhen they ask you what's wrong point at them and \"NAAAAARRRRRRPPPPPP! NARP NARP!!!\"\n\nThen just leave.", "Look surprised as though your phone just vibrated, look at the screen, say \"Oh, just got an urgent email! I have to answer this! See you!\" and hurry away, pretending to read said imaginary email.", "If you know it's going to happen set an alarm on your phone for 5-10 minutes and when it goes off pretend it's a phone call.\n\nIf you don't see it coming excuse yourself to go to the bathroom\nIf they follow you set your alarm while you're in the bathroom", "I usually just space out and let them rant. It happens to me that at work I usually have to sit with those people for +4 hours at a time in a small room with no choice to leave, so it becomes quite annoying when a customer spends +4 hours talking about something you don't give a fuck about. So I just focus on my job and if they say something like \"you're not listening\" I'll say \"sorry I was focused on my working\" which is the best for them. Most of the time they don't even notice though.", "Go talk to them at quarter to the hour. At five to the hour say, \"Sorry, I have to get to a meeting.\"", "\"Sorry, i'm in a hurry to do X\" usually works. Make it something that doesn't sound like you could choose to miss it. \"Sorry, i'm in a hurry to catch the next bus\" is my go to one. Simple, and displays a sense of urgency. Leaving out details like \"why\" only makes it seem more urgent, so nobody will be offended. Obviously, you would have to come up with something that is appropriate in the context you're in." ]

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[ "I have savings for the first time in my life. What should I do with them? Hello!\n\nJust as the title suggests, I have savings for the first time in my life and am currently in a situation where they will continue to accumulate. Coming from a very poor background, this almost seems overwhelming. The idea of money just sitting there in my account kind of bewilders and puzzles me. What can I do with these funds to make them useful?\n\nPS: I'm sorry if there has been a similar post before, I wasn't able to find any.", "I have savings for the first time in my life. What should I do with them? Hello!\n\nJust as the title suggests, I have savings for the first time in my life and am currently in a situation where they will continue to accumulate. Coming from a very poor background, this almost seems overwhelming. The idea of money just sitting there in my account kind of bewilders and puzzles me. What can I do with these funds to make them useful?\n\nPS: I'm sorry if there has been a similar post before, I wasn't able to find any.", "I have savings for the first time in my life. What should I do with them? Hello!\n\nJust as the title suggests, I have savings for the first time in my life and am currently in a situation where they will continue to accumulate. Coming from a very poor background, this almost seems overwhelming. The idea of money just sitting there in my account kind of bewilders and puzzles me. What can I do with these funds to make them useful?\n\nPS: I'm sorry if there has been a similar post before, I wasn't able to find any.", "I have savings for the first time in my life. What should I do with them? Hello!\n\nJust as the title suggests, I have savings for the first time in my life and am currently in a situation where they will continue to accumulate. Coming from a very poor background, this almost seems overwhelming. The idea of money just sitting there in my account kind of bewilders and puzzles me. What can I do with these funds to make them useful?\n\nPS: I'm sorry if there has been a similar post before, I wasn't able to find any." ]

[ "Build up enough to pay your bills for 6 months, then you can start looking at investments or other such things if you wish to delve into that area", "Recently retired after a life of poverty and prosperity. \n\n1 Do not get into debt for non-productive things. It’s OK to go into debt to get something that is going to make you richer, like a house (although we may be at the top of a bubble now) or a tool or similar things. Not a education that will not be monetizable. Remember that the real cost of a college education is five years of loss salary plus whatever direct costs are involved. So the thing better increase your lifetime earnings beyond that and do so with a five year shorter career than you would otherwise have. A car will not make you richer and in fact is a huge money pet so the trick there is to go as cheap as you can while being reliable.\n\n2 Have six months worth of expenses in the bank. That can take a while to build up.\n\n3 Use some of the money as a reserve account to pounce on things that you need that are on sale. That way you avoid having to pay too much. Examples are appliances.\n\n4 Check out thrift stores and garage sales in expensive neighborhoods. Dining room sets with tables and chairs in very good condition are crazy cheap on craigslist and other places. Furniture is like cars, it is a money pit and you will never get anything like the purchase price when you put it up for sale if you buy new.", "If you can, get it out of the bank, and invest it. Your savings account is most likely earning less than inflation.", "Aside from building up a safety net or consider investments, be discrete about your savings. If you have family, friends, or acquaintances that also struggle financially, they may coerce you to lend money away and you will not see it again." ]

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[ "How to strengthen your short attention span I've been described as having the attention span of a goldfish, and I tend to agree. But, i'm getting older, and tired of the negative effects of it. \n\nIn all honesty, I have a million great ideas, and I cr", "How to strengthen your short attention span I've been described as having the attention span of a goldfish, and I tend to agree. But, i'm getting older, and tired of the negative effects of it. \n\nIn all honesty, I have a million great ideas, and I cr", "How to strengthen your short attention span I've been described as having the attention span of a goldfish, and I tend to agree. But, i'm getting older, and tired of the negative effects of it. \n\nIn all honesty, I have a million great ideas, and I cr" ]

[ "I also used to have a problem focusing. I wanted to learn the guitar for years as well as other things, I have excellent hand-eye coordination and I am actually quite proficient at it now that I've gotten older. Some things that helped me considerably were m", "m", "Some say m" ]

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[ "Road trip from OC to Seattle Can you guys help me with the best way to save money when renting a car and hotel rooms. Also what's the best route to take and places to visit ", "Road trip from OC to Seattle Can you guys help me with the best way to save money when renting a car and hotel rooms. Also what's the best route to take and places to visit ", "Road trip from OC to Seattle Can you guys help me with the best way to save money when renting a car and hotel rooms. Also what's the best route to take and places to visit ", "Road trip from OC to Seattle Can you guys help me with the best way to save money when renting a car and hotel rooms. Also what's the best route to take and places to visit " ]

[ "Don't rent a car for a road trip, rent a car when you get there. Flying or taking the bus will be cheaper. There's really not shit to do if you're following I-5 up the coast anyways.", "Use Expedia or similar service to book a hotel or motel in advance. Never walk in to a place, the rates are higher. Also this way your can stay in smaller towns with cheaper hotels. Still you'll need about 60 to 80 per night. Anything less and it's a shitty hotel. Also check for amenities like breakfast and swimming pools.\n\nBreakfast can be lunch if you need and swimming is free. \n\nDon't eat fast food it's greasy and will make you hate yourself. Consider skipping a meal for a protein bar and dining at a local place (use yelp) for the other.", "Take I5 the whole way for the quickest route. If you can take 101 up the coastline from Napa valley to Portland. When you get to Portland stop at voodoo donuts!", "Maybe give us some more information about your trip. How many people are going? Ages? How many days are you traveling? Is this a one way trip or are you doing a loop to return to your starting point? I did a 3 week summertime road trip with 2 friends, and we picked up 2 other people we knew for parts of the journey. We did a combination of camping ($10-30/night total, or free on designated federal land) or stayed with friends , or friends of friends (price was a bottle or 12 pack of good alcohol as a hosting gift). We could set up or tear down the campsite in 10 focused minutes. Each person had a job (food, campfire, sleep set up). Sometimes one of us slept in the van overnight. I prefer to make coffee in the evening stored in a thermos inside the car overnight for tomorrow morning's breakfast. Hot coffee in 1 minute! Faster than a hotel. We did quite a bit of advance planning, and we had a great trip! Nowadays I rent a van or SUV with unlimited mileage for long trips. Read ALL of the fine print on the contract. Best wishes for your journey! " ]

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[ "Mildly addictive behaviors that have the same benefits as smoking. Smoking is definitely bad for your health. Even though it is bad overall, there were a few benefits to smoking that I miss and have never been able to replicate since I quit almost 10 years ago. I'm wondering if there is a different addictive habit that would help to provide the same benefits without also killing me and costing tons of money.\n\nThe benefits I am looking to replace are:\n\n1. Reminds me to take breaks during the day\n2. Is an excuse to socialize with others\n3. Gets me outside rather than trapped indoors all day\n\nFeatures of smoking that help with this:\n\n1. It is addictive so it interrupts my hyper focus on what I am doing and gets me to take 2-4 short breaks during a normal work day. I have a big problem with hyper focus. Most days I don't even eat at all until dinner because I never notice I am hungry at work.\n2. It has built-in end points, so you don't fall down into a rabbit hole and lose all productivity\n\nThings I have tried that have not worked:\n\n1. Games on my phone. Doesn't get me outside (too bright to see the screen) and doesn't typically have a clear built-in end point\n2. Water cooler. I just don't get thirsty often and it doesn't get me outside.\n3. Gum and candy. Not addictive enough to break my focus. Doesn't get me outside.\n4. Coffee. Takes too long before I can drink it for a quick break.\n\nI could use some suggestions.", "Mildly addictive behaviors that have the same benefits as smoking. Smoking is definitely bad for your health. Even though it is bad overall, there were a few benefits to smoking that I miss and have never been able to replicate since I quit almost 10 years ago. I'm wondering if there is a different addictive habit that would help to provide the same benefits without also killing me and costing tons of money.\n\nThe benefits I am looking to replace are:\n\n1. Reminds me to take breaks during the day\n2. Is an excuse to socialize with others\n3. Gets me outside rather than trapped indoors all day\n\nFeatures of smoking that help with this:\n\n1. It is addictive so it interrupts my hyper focus on what I am doing and gets me to take 2-4 short breaks during a normal work day. I have a big problem with hyper focus. Most days I don't even eat at all until dinner because I never notice I am hungry at work.\n2. It has built-in end points, so you don't fall down into a rabbit hole and lose all productivity\n\nThings I have tried that have not worked:\n\n1. Games on my phone. Doesn't get me outside (too bright to see the screen) and doesn't typically have a clear built-in end point\n2. Water cooler. I just don't get thirsty often and it doesn't get me outside.\n3. Gum and candy. Not addictive enough to break my focus. Doesn't get me outside.\n4. Coffee. Takes too long before I can drink it for a quick break.\n\nI could use some suggestions.", "Mildly addictive behaviors that have the same benefits as smoking. Smoking is definitely bad for your health. Even though it is bad overall, there were a few benefits to smoking that I miss and have never been able to replicate since I quit almost 10 years ago. I'm wondering if there is a different addictive habit that would help to provide the same benefits without also killing me and costing tons of money.\n\nThe benefits I am looking to replace are:\n\n1. Reminds me to take breaks during the day\n2. Is an excuse to socialize with others\n3. Gets me outside rather than trapped indoors all day\n\nFeatures of smoking that help with this:\n\n1. It is addictive so it interrupts my hyper focus on what I am doing and gets me to take 2-4 short breaks during a normal work day. I have a big problem with hyper focus. Most days I don't even eat at all until dinner because I never notice I am hungry at work.\n2. It has built-in end points, so you don't fall down into a rabbit hole and lose all productivity\n\nThings I have tried that have not worked:\n\n1. Games on my phone. Doesn't get me outside (too bright to see the screen) and doesn't typically have a clear built-in end point\n2. Water cooler. I just don't get thirsty often and it doesn't get me outside.\n3. Gum and candy. Not addictive enough to break my focus. Doesn't get me outside.\n4. Coffee. Takes too long before I can drink it for a quick break.\n\nI could use some suggestions.", "Mildly addictive behaviors that have the same benefits as smoking. Smoking is definitely bad for your health. Even though it is bad overall, there were a few benefits to smoking that I miss and have never been able to replicate since I quit almost 10 years ago. I'm wondering if there is a different addictive habit that would help to provide the same benefits without also killing me and costing tons of money.\n\nThe benefits I am looking to replace are:\n\n1. Reminds me to take breaks during the day\n2. Is an excuse to socialize with others\n3. Gets me outside rather than trapped indoors all day\n\nFeatures of smoking that help with this:\n\n1. It is addictive so it interrupts my hyper focus on what I am doing and gets me to take 2-4 short breaks during a normal work day. I have a big problem with hyper focus. Most days I don't even eat at all until dinner because I never notice I am hungry at work.\n2. It has built-in end points, so you don't fall down into a rabbit hole and lose all productivity\n\nThings I have tried that have not worked:\n\n1. Games on my phone. Doesn't get me outside (too bright to see the screen) and doesn't typically have a clear built-in end point\n2. Water cooler. I just don't get thirsty often and it doesn't get me outside.\n3. Gum and candy. Not addictive enough to break my focus. Doesn't get me outside.\n4. Coffee. Takes too long before I can drink it for a quick break.\n\nI could use some suggestions.", "Mildly addictive behaviors that have the same benefits as smoking. Smoking is definitely bad for your health. Even though it is bad overall, there were a few benefits to smoking that I miss and have never been able to replicate since I quit almost 10 years ago. I'm wondering if there is a different addictive habit that would help to provide the same benefits without also killing me and costing tons of money.\n\nThe benefits I am looking to replace are:\n\n1. Reminds me to take breaks during the day\n2. Is an excuse to socialize with others\n3. Gets me outside rather than trapped indoors all day\n\nFeatures of smoking that help with this:\n\n1. It is addictive so it interrupts my hyper focus on what I am doing and gets me to take 2-4 short breaks during a normal work day. I have a big problem with hyper focus. Most days I don't even eat at all until dinner because I never notice I am hungry at work.\n2. It has built-in end points, so you don't fall down into a rabbit hole and lose all productivity\n\nThings I have tried that have not worked:\n\n1. Games on my phone. Doesn't get me outside (too bright to see the screen) and doesn't typically have a clear built-in end point\n2. Water cooler. I just don't get thirsty often and it doesn't get me outside.\n3. Gum and candy. Not addictive enough to break my focus. Doesn't get me outside.\n4. Coffee. Takes too long before I can drink it for a quick break.\n\nI could use some suggestions.", "Mildly addictive behaviors that have the same benefits as smoking. Smoking is definitely bad for your health. Even though it is bad overall, there were a few benefits to smoking that I miss and have never been able to replicate since I quit almost 10 years ago. I'm wondering if there is a different addictive habit that would help to provide the same benefits without also killing me and costing tons of money.\n\nThe benefits I am looking to replace are:\n\n1. Reminds me to take breaks during the day\n2. Is an excuse to socialize with others\n3. Gets me outside rather than trapped indoors all day\n\nFeatures of smoking that help with this:\n\n1. It is addictive so it interrupts my hyper focus on what I am doing and gets me to take 2-4 short breaks during a normal work day. I have a big problem with hyper focus. Most days I don't even eat at all until dinner because I never notice I am hungry at work.\n2. It has built-in end points, so you don't fall down into a rabbit hole and lose all productivity\n\nThings I have tried that have not worked:\n\n1. Games on my phone. Doesn't get me outside (too bright to see the screen) and doesn't typically have a clear built-in end point\n2. Water cooler. I just don't get thirsty often and it doesn't get me outside.\n3. Gum and candy. Not addictive enough to break my focus. Doesn't get me outside.\n4. Coffee. Takes too long before I can drink it for a quick break.\n\nI could use some suggestions.", "Mildly addictive behaviors that have the same benefits as smoking. Smoking is definitely bad for your health. Even though it is bad overall, there were a few benefits to smoking that I miss and have never been able to replicate since I quit almost 10 years ago. I'm wondering if there is a different addictive habit that would help to provide the same benefits without also killing me and costing tons of money.\n\nThe benefits I am looking to replace are:\n\n1. Reminds me to take breaks during the day\n2. Is an excuse to socialize with others\n3. Gets me outside rather than trapped indoors all day\n\nFeatures of smoking that help with this:\n\n1. It is addictive so it interrupts my hyper focus on what I am doing and gets me to take 2-4 short breaks during a normal work day. I have a big problem with hyper focus. Most days I don't even eat at all until dinner because I never notice I am hungry at work.\n2. It has built-in end points, so you don't fall down into a rabbit hole and lose all productivity\n\nThings I have tried that have not worked:\n\n1. Games on my phone. Doesn't get me outside (too bright to see the screen) and doesn't typically have a clear built-in end point\n2. Water cooler. I just don't get thirsty often and it doesn't get me outside.\n3. Gum and candy. Not addictive enough to break my focus. Doesn't get me outside.\n4. Coffee. Takes too long before I can drink it for a quick break.\n\nI could use some suggestions.", "Mildly addictive behaviors that have the same benefits as smoking. Smoking is definitely bad for your health. Even though it is bad overall, there were a few benefits to smoking that I miss and have never been able to replicate since I quit almost 10 years ago. I'm wondering if there is a different addictive habit that would help to provide the same benefits without also killing me and costing tons of money.\n\nThe benefits I am looking to replace are:\n\n1. Reminds me to take breaks during the day\n2. Is an excuse to socialize with others\n3. Gets me outside rather than trapped indoors all day\n\nFeatures of smoking that help with this:\n\n1. It is addictive so it interrupts my hyper focus on what I am doing and gets me to take 2-4 short breaks during a normal work day. I have a big problem with hyper focus. Most days I don't even eat at all until dinner because I never notice I am hungry at work.\n2. It has built-in end points, so you don't fall down into a rabbit hole and lose all productivity\n\nThings I have tried that have not worked:\n\n1. Games on my phone. Doesn't get me outside (too bright to see the screen) and doesn't typically have a clear built-in end point\n2. Water cooler. I just don't get thirsty often and it doesn't get me outside.\n3. Gum and candy. Not addictive enough to break my focus. Doesn't get me outside.\n4. Coffee. Takes too long before I can drink it for a quick break.\n\nI could use some suggestions.", "Mildly addictive behaviors that have the same benefits as smoking. Smoking is definitely bad for your health. Even though it is bad overall, there were a few benefits to smoking that I miss and have never been able to replicate since I quit almost 10 years ago. I'm wondering if there is a different addictive habit that would help to provide the same benefits without also killing me and costing tons of money.\n\nThe benefits I am looking to replace are:\n\n1. Reminds me to take breaks during the day\n2. Is an excuse to socialize with others\n3. Gets me outside rather than trapped indoors all day\n\nFeatures of smoking that help with this:\n\n1. It is addictive so it interrupts my hyper focus on what I am doing and gets me to take 2-4 short breaks during a normal work day. I have a big problem with hyper focus. Most days I don't even eat at all until dinner because I never notice I am hungry at work.\n2. It has built-in end points, so you don't fall down into a rabbit hole and lose all productivity\n\nThings I have tried that have not worked:\n\n1. Games on my phone. Doesn't get me outside (too bright to see the screen) and doesn't typically have a clear built-in end point\n2. Water cooler. I just don't get thirsty often and it doesn't get me outside.\n3. Gum and candy. Not addictive enough to break my focus. Doesn't get me outside.\n4. Coffee. Takes too long before I can drink it for a quick break.\n\nI could use some suggestions.", "Mildly addictive behaviors that have the same benefits as smoking. Smoking is definitely bad for your health. Even though it is bad overall, there were a few benefits to smoking that I miss and have never been able to replicate since I quit almost 10 years ago. I'm wondering if there is a different addictive habit that would help to provide the same benefits without also killing me and costing tons of money.\n\nThe benefits I am looking to replace are:\n\n1. Reminds me to take breaks during the day\n2. Is an excuse to socialize with others\n3. Gets me outside rather than trapped indoors all day\n\nFeatures of smoking that help with this:\n\n1. It is addictive so it interrupts my hyper focus on what I am doing and gets me to take 2-4 short breaks during a normal work day. I have a big problem with hyper focus. Most days I don't even eat at all until dinner because I never notice I am hungry at work.\n2. It has built-in end points, so you don't fall down into a rabbit hole and lose all productivity\n\nThings I have tried that have not worked:\n\n1. Games on my phone. Doesn't get me outside (too bright to see the screen) and doesn't typically have a clear built-in end point\n2. Water cooler. I just don't get thirsty often and it doesn't get me outside.\n3. Gum and candy. Not addictive enough to break my focus. Doesn't get me outside.\n4. Coffee. Takes too long before I can drink it for a quick break.\n\nI could use some suggestions.", "Mildly addictive behaviors that have the same benefits as smoking. Smoking is definitely bad for your health. Even though it is bad overall, there were a few benefits to smoking that I miss and have never been able to replicate since I quit almost 10 years ago. I'm wondering if there is a different addictive habit that would help to provide the same benefits without also killing me and costing tons of money.\n\nThe benefits I am looking to replace are:\n\n1. Reminds me to take breaks during the day\n2. Is an excuse to socialize with others\n3. Gets me outside rather than trapped indoors all day\n\nFeatures of smoking that help with this:\n\n1. It is addictive so it interrupts my hyper focus on what I am doing and gets me to take 2-4 short breaks during a normal work day. I have a big problem with hyper focus. Most days I don't even eat at all until dinner because I never notice I am hungry at work.\n2. It has built-in end points, so you don't fall down into a rabbit hole and lose all productivity\n\nThings I have tried that have not worked:\n\n1. Games on my phone. Doesn't get me outside (too bright to see the screen) and doesn't typically have a clear built-in end point\n2. Water cooler. I just don't get thirsty often and it doesn't get me outside.\n3. Gum and candy. Not addictive enough to break my focus. Doesn't get me outside.\n4. Coffee. Takes too long before I can drink it for a quick break.\n\nI could use some suggestions." ]

[ "OP has already quit. Needs new vice. \n\nAlarm on your phone to remind you to do five-minute yoga/stretches (perhaps in fresh air). \n\nDrink more green iced tea. When I can't smoke, simply having a drink in my hand and a straw in my mouth helps me greatly. Easy to socialize inside and outside over a non-alcoholic drink. Green tea makes you pee like crazy so you'll be getting up more often to use the bathroom. \n\nDon't get into vaping, that shit is gross and you don't want to go back to nicotine. Try something silly like SnapChat. Remind yourself to go outside twice during daylight and take a picture of something interesting. Like a photo-journal. You'll, hopefully, get into a routine of taking breaks and you can wean yourself off taking pictures. \n\nBest of luck, hope you find a new, healthy habit. \n\n\n", "How about just setting a reminder on your phone for every few hours and going outside when it alarms?", "Going out side was always seen as a major inconvenience. That will not be replaced.\n\nYou need to socialize on your own. I would choose healthy snacks and bring them to someone's office and sit down and chat with them for 5 minutes while I share some baby carrots, or peanuts or something.\n\nThe bit of humor was enough to make it enjoyable, and people like healthy snacks.", "Suckers/lolipops\n\nA character in tower of god named Ha jinsung was an avid smoker until another character suggested he switch to lolipops. Taste is a different kind of high, and I love the taste of cherry tootsie pops :)", "Doesn't meet all your criteria, but I found shelling/eating sunflower seeds helped me quit. Good luck!", "Why not get a dog? You get to be outside, a break from work (walking it) and you can socialize with other dog owners. Seems like it could fit your criteria. And like smoking when you're stressed out, a little play time will be good for you. ", "Honestly get a bicycle. When I stopped drinking I'd get on my bike, put some music in and stroll around the area. It's very relaxing and gets the blood flowing", "Have you tried vaping? It's pretty much identical to smoking, undoubtedly much healthier and costs only a fraction of what smoking costs. Some vaporisers out there even have a feature to turn off after a certain number of puffs, so those types have a built in end point.", "Exercise. Some classes like crossfit and other without programs can do well for people with addictive type personalities ", "Do you have a source for this fact? I went from smoking to vaping and noticed a huge difference whilst exercising, sleeping, and breathing in general. ", "As long as you put benefits and smoking in the same sentence in your mind, you are at risk of relapse. Not only are there no benefits to smoking, there are an entire slate of negative benefits, most of them not immediately evident or intuitive." ]

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[ "Tips for using scissors with a mild hand tremor I have a mild tremor in both hands, and I have the hardest time keeping the item I'm holding and the scissors stable enough to cut in a straight line. Cutting paper is especially difficult.", "Tips for using scissors with a mild hand tremor I have a mild tremor in both hands, and I have the hardest time keeping the item I'm holding and the scissors stable enough to cut in a straight line. Cutting paper is especially difficult.", "Tips for using scissors with a mild hand tremor I have a mild tremor in both hands, and I have the hardest time keeping the item I'm holding and the scissors stable enough to cut in a straight line. Cutting paper is especially difficult." ]

[ "Get a [guillotine](https://www.amazon.co.uk/AmazonBasics-Rotary-Paper-Trimmer-A4/dp/B07NJ8LZQR/ref=asc_df_B07NJ8LZQR/?tag=googshopuk-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=375387769851&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=11289429040848292155&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9046544&hvtargid=pla-813186030190&psc=1&th=1&psc=1&tag=&ref=&adgrpid=79623069511&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvadid=375387769851&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=11289429040848292155&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9046544&hvtargid=pla-813186030190). No steady hands required if you just need to do straight lines.", "Would placing a finger down help. \n\nLike if you put your pinky from both hands down on the table while using the rest of your hand to hold the thing and the scissors. \n\nWould that maybe help \"stabilize\" the tremors a little?", "How about powered scissors? My dad gave me his old one, it’s handheld and the scissors move by a battery that’s rechargeable!" ]

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[ "how to get small bits of tasks done without letting the daunting entirety of its size deter you from starting. I always think of the whole of the thing that needs to be done and that itself prevents me from working on it at all. For example, needing to get a scholarship application done, I think, OK, so I need two references, I need to write a research proposal, I need to create a CV, etc. Then I normally think, Ok, I don't have time for.that right now. Instead of just doing one piece and calling it good for that day. How so you find a way around this mental deterrent? It gets me everytime.", "how to get small bits of tasks done without letting the daunting entirety of its size deter you from starting. I always think of the whole of the thing that needs to be done and that itself prevents me from working on it at all. For example, needing to get a scholarship application done, I think, OK, so I need two references, I need to write a research proposal, I need to create a CV, etc. Then I normally think, Ok, I don't have time for.that right now. Instead of just doing one piece and calling it good for that day. How so you find a way around this mental deterrent? It gets me everytime.", "how to get small bits of tasks done without letting the daunting entirety of its size deter you from starting. I always think of the whole of the thing that needs to be done and that itself prevents me from working on it at all. For example, needing to get a scholarship application done, I think, OK, so I need two references, I need to write a research proposal, I need to create a CV, etc. Then I normally think, Ok, I don't have time for.that right now. Instead of just doing one piece and calling it good for that day. How so you find a way around this mental deterrent? It gets me everytime.", "how to get small bits of tasks done without letting the daunting entirety of its size deter you from starting. I always think of the whole of the thing that needs to be done and that itself prevents me from working on it at all. For example, needing to get a scholarship application done, I think, OK, so I need two references, I need to write a research proposal, I need to create a CV, etc. Then I normally think, Ok, I don't have time for.that right now. Instead of just doing one piece and calling it good for that day. How so you find a way around this mental deterrent? It gets me everytime.", "how to get small bits of tasks done without letting the daunting entirety of its size deter you from starting. I always think of the whole of the thing that needs to be done and that itself prevents me from working on it at all. For example, needing to get a scholarship application done, I think, OK, so I need two references, I need to write a research proposal, I need to create a CV, etc. Then I normally think, Ok, I don't have time for.that right now. Instead of just doing one piece and calling it good for that day. How so you find a way around this mental deterrent? It gets me everytime.", "how to get small bits of tasks done without letting the daunting entirety of its size deter you from starting. I always think of the whole of the thing that needs to be done and that itself prevents me from working on it at all. For example, needing to get a scholarship application done, I think, OK, so I need two references, I need to write a research proposal, I need to create a CV, etc. Then I normally think, Ok, I don't have time for.that right now. Instead of just doing one piece and calling it good for that day. How so you find a way around this mental deterrent? It gets me everytime.", "how to get small bits of tasks done without letting the daunting entirety of its size deter you from starting. I always think of the whole of the thing that needs to be done and that itself prevents me from working on it at all. For example, needing to get a scholarship application done, I think, OK, so I need two references, I need to write a research proposal, I need to create a CV, etc. Then I normally think, Ok, I don't have time for.that right now. Instead of just doing one piece and calling it good for that day. How so you find a way around this mental deterrent? It gets me everytime." ]

[ "I would break it down, so each day have a goal in mind to complete a section, weather that be in its entirety or just a section of it. Plan it over a set time period so you know you'll get it done prior to the deadline and have time to spare, in case any emergency pops up.", "http://blog.casual.pm/post/114499949915/time-management-techniques-salami-pomodoro\n\nPersonally I like the Swiss cheese method.", "Try not to multitask too much. If you get, like, 20 % of ten things done, you don't feel nearly as accomplished as when you complete two things. It really affects your motivation.", "Make a habit of making lists of reasonable short term goals for the project and always end with the time you intend to be finished each day, include breaks in the list. Make the list before bed, you'll solve some of tomorrow's problems in your sleep and have access to that information the next day like. Whatever isn't done today gets put on tonight's list.\n\nThis takes practice and making it a habit. Start your list today.", "I find that once I've started a daunting task it's a lot easier to make progress on it. So I ask myself what is the bare minimum, I mean the absolute tiniest, amount of work you can do that goes towards the goal. Only commit to that.\n\n\nHere are some examples from my recent life:\n\n\nHave to vacuum the house. Minimum thing to do is take the vacuum out of the closet. That's all I commit to for the entire day. Next day maybe plug it in if you still haven't completed the task.\n\n\nI had to build a book shelf. Took three days. Day one was move the box into the room I wanted the shelf. Day two was open the box. Day three was set out all the parts and get the proper tools, and once I got that far I was able to finish it off.\n\n\nHad to pay a bunch of medical bills and such. Was going to be many phone calls which I hate doing. The only thing I committed to doing was opening up all the envelopes and setting them out on the table.\n\n\nDon't even think about the whole task that needs to be done. Only think about and only commit to the tiniest piece. If after that piece is started you are feeling better then you'll make more progress and might even finish the task. If not, then whatever, you've done what you committed to, you made a little progress, better luck tomorrow.", "I figure out how much needs to be done. Imagine moving 1000 pounds of bricks. When I've moved 100 pounds I figure \"Great - 10% done\". This lets me break a large task into smaller bits and I feel good that I have done 10%, 20%, etc.", "As others said here, knowing the amount of work your task needs and breaking it down into parts is a great start. I do some other things to get the shit done (heavy procrastinator here)\n\n- follow the schedule: if you told yourself writing the first part of your CV would take you 30 mins, try to spend no more than 30 minutes doing it. Having a starting time and an ending time to your work is way more stimulating than not having a precise schedule. \n\n-have a ritual when doing stuff. It can be various kinds of things, such as lighting a candle, listening to music, m" ]

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[ "How to stop the buzzing of unplugged audio input cables? I've got a stereo set with a male to male mini-pin cord plugged in the back so I can input my ipod or computer, etc. When it's plugged in the back of the stereo and the other end is open the speakers buzz.\n\nOther than unplugging or dropping the stereo volume does anyone know any good tips to avoid this? Any that don't involve buying new things are preferred.\n\nAddendum: why does this buzz happen, anyway?", "How to stop the buzzing of unplugged audio input cables? I've got a stereo set with a male to male mini-pin cord plugged in the back so I can input my ipod or computer, etc. When it's plugged in the back of the stereo and the other end is open the speakers buzz.\n\nOther than unplugging or dropping the stereo volume does anyone know any good tips to avoid this? Any that don't involve buying new things are preferred.\n\nAddendum: why does this buzz happen, anyway?", "How to stop the buzzing of unplugged audio input cables? I've got a stereo set with a male to male mini-pin cord plugged in the back so I can input my ipod or computer, etc. When it's plugged in the back of the stereo and the other end is open the speakers buzz.\n\nOther than unplugging or dropping the stereo volume does anyone know any good tips to avoid this? Any that don't involve buying new things are preferred.\n\nAddendum: why does this buzz happen, anyway?" ]

[ "The magnetic field in the room is inducing a voltage in the wire which acts as an antenna. This voltage is then amplified by your stereo. The largest source of such interference is usually the alternating current being pumped through your house, which is why there is a characteristic 60 hz buzz.\n\nInsulated cables might be less susceptible to this. But I don't actually know how much of a difference it would make; Reddit often bashes Monster Cables for not actually making a difference. I doubt there is anything you can do short of buying something.", "Okay,\nStep 1. Turn your amp OFF before disconecting any audio cables\nStep 2. No more noise, No more loud POP when you (un)plug something\n\nThat pop can destroy speakers, The buzz you hear, Simply your system trying to pickup the input you are telling it to pickup still. If you touch it it buzzes more since you are conductive,\n\nSource? I work in Audio.", "In a physics class there was a demonstration where a radio was placed under some chicken wire fencing and did not get any signal. I think when people say \"insulate\" it should be explained that a wire mesh of some sort is a good electromagnetic insulator because there are many types of insulation the OP could think of." ]

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[ "Live in an upstairs downstairs apartment. I'm the lower apartment and I'm demented with the running footsteps of their kid... I know the landlord, have spoken with him a couple of times but the issue hasn't been addressed. I can just about bear it until 9pm when I normally go to sleep but it continues until around 10:30pm to 11pm. \n\nTheir kid is only about 3 so I understand the kid needs to play but I also need to wind down after work. It's starting to stress me out. \n\nWhat can be done? (I live in the UK by the way)", "Live in an upstairs downstairs apartment. I'm the lower apartment and I'm demented with the running footsteps of their kid... I know the landlord, have spoken with him a couple of times but the issue hasn't been addressed. I can just about bear it until 9pm when I normally go to sleep but it continues until around 10:30pm to 11pm. \n\nTheir kid is only about 3 so I understand the kid needs to play but I also need to wind down after work. It's starting to stress me out. \n\nWhat can be done? (I live in the UK by the way)", "Live in an upstairs downstairs apartment. I'm the lower apartment and I'm demented with the running footsteps of their kid... I know the landlord, have spoken with him a couple of times but the issue hasn't been addressed. I can just about bear it until 9pm when I normally go to sleep but it continues until around 10:30pm to 11pm. \n\nTheir kid is only about 3 so I understand the kid needs to play but I also need to wind down after work. It's starting to stress me out. \n\nWhat can be done? (I live in the UK by the way)", "Live in an upstairs downstairs apartment. I'm the lower apartment and I'm demented with the running footsteps of their kid... I know the landlord, have spoken with him a couple of times but the issue hasn't been addressed. I can just about bear it until 9pm when I normally go to sleep but it continues until around 10:30pm to 11pm. \n\nTheir kid is only about 3 so I understand the kid needs to play but I also need to wind down after work. It's starting to stress me out. \n\nWhat can be done? (I live in the UK by the way)", "Live in an upstairs downstairs apartment. I'm the lower apartment and I'm demented with the running footsteps of their kid... I know the landlord, have spoken with him a couple of times but the issue hasn't been addressed. I can just about bear it until 9pm when I normally go to sleep but it continues until around 10:30pm to 11pm. \n\nTheir kid is only about 3 so I understand the kid needs to play but I also need to wind down after work. It's starting to stress me out. \n\nWhat can be done? (I live in the UK by the way)" ]

[ "The buddhists say that if you consider the sound as \"part of nature\" you will stop giving energy to your resentment. My grandfather during the world war was pressed into coal mining for the steel industry and slept on the deck of a steam shovel between shifts while it was operating 6 days a week 24 hours a day with only Sunday off when he could go home, bath and go to church.", "Had this exact problem at my old place. Around 5:30 AM the kid would start doing sprints up and down the house right above my head. \n\nIf they won't address it, the only thing I can recommend is ear plugs. The foam conical ones are very good but weren't comfortable for me. The silicone ones are not quite as good but very comfortable.", "You could always try talking to the parents directly and just asking if they could wind things down around 9.", "If you live in an apartment neighboring noise is part of the living arrangement. I do not think your upstairs neighbor should have to make any life adjustment. Sorry but bitter upstairs neighbor here who hated my downstairs neighbor because she complained that I walked in my condo at normal hours. \n\nMy husband snores and that is an accepted part of my marriage and it's annoying. If it annoyed me that much then I suppose I could have not gotten married. I adjusted by downloading podcasts each night to fall asleep to. This might be a way you can adjust to your neighboring noise. \n\n", "knock and tell them its a big problem for you. Other than that, well, dont get headphones. no. well a really good pair might work, but the sound of kids running (probably with shoes) will still be there. Get nice big speakers, 10\"-12\", old ones can be found for really cheap. a nice 2.1 amp, and really get into some rap or even better dubstep / hardcore / metal / punk. turn the music loud enough so you cant hear the kid anymore. some idiots will say this is passive aggresssive, but it isnt really. do this if talking to them doesnt work. then all that signals is that you can do what the fuck you want, since they can do what the fuck they want, no?\n\n\nAlso have parties :) This isnt directed at the neighbors - its simply not considering them at all. like they arent there. like they consider you." ]

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[ "How to host a weekend party and still enjoy yourself. Im having a party for the long weekend at my place up north and am having ~15 come over to enjoy themselves. We're all mid twenties, so we do like to party (just not as recklessly as we would have when we were younger). Looking for tips on how to host well, prepare meals together so we can eat at the same time, keep things clean and be able to handle all the drunken escapades and still have a good time with all my guests.\n\n", "How to host a weekend party and still enjoy yourself. Im having a party for the long weekend at my place up north and am having ~15 come over to enjoy themselves. We're all mid twenties, so we do like to party (just not as recklessly as we would have when we were younger). Looking for tips on how to host well, prepare meals together so we can eat at the same time, keep things clean and be able to handle all the drunken escapades and still have a good time with all my guests.\n\n", "How to host a weekend party and still enjoy yourself. Im having a party for the long weekend at my place up north and am having ~15 come over to enjoy themselves. We're all mid twenties, so we do like to party (just not as recklessly as we would have when we were younger). Looking for tips on how to host well, prepare meals together so we can eat at the same time, keep things clean and be able to handle all the drunken escapades and still have a good time with all my guests.\n\n", "How to host a weekend party and still enjoy yourself. Im having a party for the long weekend at my place up north and am having ~15 come over to enjoy themselves. We're all mid twenties, so we do like to party (just not as recklessly as we would have when we were younger). Looking for tips on how to host well, prepare meals together so we can eat at the same time, keep things clean and be able to handle all the drunken escapades and still have a good time with all my guests.\n\n" ]

[ "I bring 10 - 15 friends up to my parents cabin a few times throughout the year, and everyone including myself always has a great time. heres a few tips:\n\n1.) keep the main party outside if possible. Clean up will be much easier, and people can smoke/spill as many drinks as they want, without you having to worry.\n\n2.) coordinate meals before hand. We always do steaks the first night and burgers the second. People will know what to bring, and after a few drinks theres never any trouble finding volunteers to cook. \n\n3.) Massive packs of paper towels and paper plates will be a life saver.\n\n4.) Leave garbage bags all around, if people can see them they normally use them.\n\n5.) Be careful with the invites. As long as your familiar with all the guests, theres not really a need to worry.\n\n6.) Don't feel the need to actually be a \"host.\" Just answer questions when people have them, and party as hard as everyone else.\n\nThats all I got for now. Hope the party goes well.", "DO NOT HAVE CAKE.\n\nI cannot stress this enough, whenever I've seen an actual cake at a party (with alcohol) it gets demolished as soon as you say it can be eaten. No one uses a plate, forks go flying, all sense of human decency is lost as people realize that there isn't enough cake for everyone. They develop a raging chocolate lust for the delicious cake and fight through the crowd and in the end mangle the cake and each other. I actually lost a dining room chair at a New Years party because we had a cake.\n\nTL;DR: NO CAKE AT PARTIES", "Best way to have a good time at a party you are hosting:\n\n* Accept the house will NOT be tidy thoughout the party\n* Leave bin bags everywhere so people can put rubbish straight in the bin\n* Have a bunch of cheap towels to keep for spillages\n* If it's getting out of hand, have the balls to kick people out.", "What I did to keep a place clean for whenever I hosted a party was take pictures of every corner of the room, then move the expensive vulnerable items to another room, and lock it. \n\nDon't have food available to a bunch of drunks that need preparation. You want food that is ready now. It will be a big mess. I had a friend make a pizza after I passed out. Woke up with tomato sauce all over the fridge, stove and oven.\n\nHave a trash bag for the cans and put it in a very noticeable spot. I always put it right under the beer pong table. " ]

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[ "How can I prevent myself from being added to sites like truepeoplesearch? I have a former stalker who is about to be released from prison and has been trying to contact me recently. He’s in for attempting to murder his ex girlfriend. I’ve tried to make myself as unsearchable as possible. That site has my address and phone number history. I’ve requested that I be removed in the past, and they did actually remove me. But I just saw that they added me back. How do I make myself disappear for good?\n\n", "How can I prevent myself from being added to sites like truepeoplesearch? I have a former stalker who is about to be released from prison and has been trying to contact me recently. He’s in for attempting to murder his ex girlfriend. I’ve tried to make myself as unsearchable as possible. That site has my address and phone number history. I’ve requested that I be removed in the past, and they did actually remove me. But I just saw that they added me back. How do I make myself disappear for good?\n\n", "How can I prevent myself from being added to sites like truepeoplesearch? I have a former stalker who is about to be released from prison and has been trying to contact me recently. He’s in for attempting to murder his ex girlfriend. I’ve tried to make myself as unsearchable as possible. That site has my address and phone number history. I’ve requested that I be removed in the past, and they did actually remove me. But I just saw that they added me back. How do I make myself disappear for good?\n\n", "How can I prevent myself from being added to sites like truepeoplesearch? I have a former stalker who is about to be released from prison and has been trying to contact me recently. He’s in for attempting to murder his ex girlfriend. I’ve tried to make myself as unsearchable as possible. That site has my address and phone number history. I’ve requested that I be removed in the past, and they did actually remove me. But I just saw that they added me back. How do I make myself disappear for good?\n\n", "How can I prevent myself from being added to sites like truepeoplesearch? I have a former stalker who is about to be released from prison and has been trying to contact me recently. He’s in for attempting to murder his ex girlfriend. I’ve tried to make myself as unsearchable as possible. That site has my address and phone number history. I’ve requested that I be removed in the past, and they did actually remove me. But I just saw that they added me back. How do I make myself disappear for good?\n\n" ]

[ "This article may help\n\nhttps://www.nbcnews.com/technolog/how-disappear-internet-forever-1c6983976\n\nThe other option is to \"flood the zone\". Register a dozen or so domain names. Fill the sites your name and completely nonsensical information. Use business phone numbers and address from all over the country. The goal is to get all that bad info higher ranked in the Google results.\nhttps://www.wordstream.com/blog/ws/2020/08/19/get-on-first-page-google", "Not related to those website, but a professional recommendation for other ways they can search you.\n\nTalk to the GA secretary of state’s office about blocking certain public filings. Things like voter registration, etc, can be pulled upon request but if you have a legit legal reason (which it sounds like you have) they can block that for you.", "Keep requesting to be removed. I was added to these kinds of sites aswell but after a bit they finally stopped adding me again. I think I also found a site that I registered to that kept companies from contacting me (I live in europe so most likely it is a lot different in the us).\n\nAlso get a burner phone just to be sure.", "You have a right to be forgotten. Send them an email stating your name and an identifiable detail and that you are using that right (can't remember the law it's under you'll have to look it up).\n\nAdd on that further issues regarding your personal details would result in legal action and they will back off", "I'm sorry, I don't have any valuable information to add to the discussion but I want to thank you for posting because I had no idea that this site existed. I am completely disgusted. They never asked my permission but all of my personal information is published." ]

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[ "Best jobs to work to learn an array of real-world skills? The job I’m working right now has few skills outside of the industry it’s in. Looking to travel and be somewhat useful to someone everywhere I go.", "Best jobs to work to learn an array of real-world skills? The job I’m working right now has few skills outside of the industry it’s in. Looking to travel and be somewhat useful to someone everywhere I go.", "Best jobs to work to learn an array of real-world skills? The job I’m working right now has few skills outside of the industry it’s in. Looking to travel and be somewhat useful to someone everywhere I go." ]

[ "Accountant.\n\nYou learn business inside and out.\n\nSales, presentation, generating and reading data, analysis, entrepreneurship, technical and formal writing, financial literacy and budgeting all yours.", "Flight attendant, railroad conductor, bus driver...beer truck driver. Most pay well. I'm not sure what your initial skill set is, but if you want to travel and love people, here you go.", "Consulting. You travel around using your skill with various clients. Management consulting in particular has you learning the ins and outs of many industries, but even if your skill is in a particular industry, unless the industry is extremely concentrated in one location, finding a way to do your current job (or a slightly broader version) as a consultant would be a good way to get the experience you want.\n\nK-12 teaching is also good. There is a shortage right now, so there are a lot of flexible programs to help career changers enter teaching. In particular, sometimes there are programs for people to bring their work experience in to do vocational/ technical / career teaching. People who hire former teachers often say they do it because teachers have done such a variety of things (planning, communication, creativity, a lot of legal compliance, and also their subject matter)." ]

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[ "how to get rid of a blocked nose in the morning this has just been pissing me off lately, i know i could probably get something from the chemist but does anyone know of any household remedies for this? \nthanks in advance", "how to get rid of a blocked nose in the morning this has just been pissing me off lately, i know i could probably get something from the chemist but does anyone know of any household remedies for this? \nthanks in advance", "how to get rid of a blocked nose in the morning this has just been pissing me off lately, i know i could probably get something from the chemist but does anyone know of any household remedies for this? \nthanks in advance", "how to get rid of a blocked nose in the morning this has just been pissing me off lately, i know i could probably get something from the chemist but does anyone know of any household remedies for this? \nthanks in advance", "how to get rid of a blocked nose in the morning this has just been pissing me off lately, i know i could probably get something from the chemist but does anyone know of any household remedies for this? \nthanks in advance", "how to get rid of a blocked nose in the morning this has just been pissing me off lately, i know i could probably get something from the chemist but does anyone know of any household remedies for this? \nthanks in advance", "how to get rid of a blocked nose in the morning this has just been pissing me off lately, i know i could probably get something from the chemist but does anyone know of any household remedies for this? \nthanks in advance", "how to get rid of a blocked nose in the morning this has just been pissing me off lately, i know i could probably get something from the chemist but does anyone know of any household remedies for this? \nthanks in advance", "how to get rid of a blocked nose in the morning this has just been pissing me off lately, i know i could probably get something from the chemist but does anyone know of any household remedies for this? \nthanks in advance", "how to get rid of a blocked nose in the morning this has just been pissing me off lately, i know i could probably get something from the chemist but does anyone know of any household remedies for this? \nthanks in advance" ]

[ "To be brand-specific, I like the Nielmed sinus-rinse bottles. Instead of the netti-pot type where you pour water just using gravity, the squeeze bottle lets you get more pressure. You can pick them up pretty much anywhere in the US, but considering you called the pharmacist a \"chemist\" I suspect this is not the case, so your luck in finding it may vary. ", "Have a humidifier running in your bedroom all night. Set it on high. Your nose is blocked because your room is too dry.", "When you take a hot shower in the morning, breathe in the humid hot air. Then blow your nose near the end of your shower. ", "Check your room: Do you have a new pet that's sleeping with you? Have you changed bedding, pillows, or laundry detergent? When's the last time you've made a thorough cleaning of your room? Anything else new in your room since you've had such an uncomfortable condition?\n\nYour blocked nose may be an allergic reaction.\n", "Usually when I'm sick, boiling a pot of water and holding my face over the vapor helps. I'd imagine it would work in the mornings too. ", "Try blowing your nose in the shower. The steam loosens the mucus up and you are able to free it with a good breath.", "Put Vicks in a cup mixed with hot water then just smell it... It kinda hurts but it clears you up pretty quick. It's similar to using a steam room. I used to always use that combo before any sports games to make sure I was all cleared up", "If you don't live somewhere that's super humid outside, as soon as you wake up, crack open your window and stick your nose out to sniff as much fresh morning air as possible. Assuming you can move a tiny bit of air thought your nose, the cold air will clear up your stuffy nose in a second! Easiest procedure imaginable!", "I've actually found that doing certain yoga poses help clear my nose. I did a lot of yoga when my seasonal allergies were acting up, and it helped so much. You can easily just Google \"yoga poses\" or \"yoga poses for allergies\".", "Dust your house more often, wash your pillows, and use a humidifier with a clean filter and a bacteriostatic additive." ]

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[ "[TMI Alert] I don't know how to remove dried menstrual blood from underwear. Is it possible to revive my undies? I have a light to regular but I have ruined too many underwear. Are there any women who have revived their underwear from the blood stains? I don't want to that a man can't answer my question so are there any fathers who know any tips? Anybody who knows how to fix problem, please comment your experience and solution.", "[TMI Alert] I don't know how to remove dried menstrual blood from underwear. Is it possible to revive my undies? I have a light to regular but I have ruined too many underwear. Are there any women who have revived their underwear from the blood stains? I don't want to that a man can't answer my question so are there any fathers who know any tips? Anybody who knows how to fix problem, please comment your experience and solution.", "[TMI Alert] I don't know how to remove dried menstrual blood from underwear. Is it possible to revive my undies? I have a light to regular but I have ruined too many underwear. Are there any women who have revived their underwear from the blood stains? I don't want to that a man can't answer my question so are there any fathers who know any tips? Anybody who knows how to fix problem, please comment your experience and solution.", "[TMI Alert] I don't know how to remove dried menstrual blood from underwear. Is it possible to revive my undies? I have a light to regular but I have ruined too many underwear. Are there any women who have revived their underwear from the blood stains? I don't want to that a man can't answer my question so are there any fathers who know any tips? Anybody who knows how to fix problem, please comment your experience and solution." ]

[ "Pour hydrogen peroxide on the blood stain. Be careful though, as it lifts the blood, the spot will spread. Wash as usual.", "If you’ve already dried your undies it’s harder to get it out. You could do an oxyclean soak. Dissolve some oxyclean in hot water and soak undies for up to 6 hours. You can then scrub it with a toothbrush and then wash normally (but put some oxyclean in there too). I’ve saved many an item with the oxyclean soak!\n\nIn the future, if you rinse a newly stained pair with cold water, it’s easier to wash the blood out later. ", "Hi, father and husband here who is the primary laundryperson in our household. \n\nTried and true for blood of all origins: mix together 1 part dish soap with 2 part hydrogen peroxide. Pour it on the stain and then sprinkle baking soda over it. You should get some white foamy action, which is mildly entertaining. Scrub with an old toothbrush or something similar and let it sit for half an hour or so. Then wash it with the rest of your dirty clothes.\n\nWorks like a charm, especially if you catch the bloodstain while it's still pretty new. If it's old, set, and already run through the dryer, it may take a couple of applications and scrubbings.", "I don’t bleed so I can’t vouch for it...but Clorox just came out with a product called Totally Spot-less that’s designed just to remove period stains. " ]

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[ "How to deal with overly emotional drunks without hurting their feelings. What's a good way to deal with overly emotional drunks when you don't feel like dealing with them? I don't drink much (maybe three, four beers once every two weeks in a night if I'm feeling \"wild\") but a lot of my friends do. Unfortunately two of these people tend to be emotional drunks and while I love being there for my friends sometimes I just want to extricate myself from the situation or talk about something a little less intense. Easier said than done though when someone is pretty wasted.", "How to deal with overly emotional drunks without hurting their feelings. What's a good way to deal with overly emotional drunks when you don't feel like dealing with them? I don't drink much (maybe three, four beers once every two weeks in a night if I'm feeling \"wild\") but a lot of my friends do. Unfortunately two of these people tend to be emotional drunks and while I love being there for my friends sometimes I just want to extricate myself from the situation or talk about something a little less intense. Easier said than done though when someone is pretty wasted." ]

[ "Don't give advice. Be super calm and if that doesn't work The \"woah what was that?! Did you see that?!\" While looking behind them and make up some random crazy thing they just missed and change the subject to something light hearted and say you're exhausted and need to go to bed. ", "I learned a long time ago from some training that drunk people don't actually process their emotions, so you really can't do them much good. That's why a drunk can get something off his chest one week, and go into the very same sob story the next week. Still, if it's a friend you have to listen, say sympathetic things, and gradually steer the conversation to something more cheerful. " ]

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[ "I am an extreme introvert with social anxiety, and have been loving my telework status over the last year! What advice can you give me about requesting telework even after vaccine distribution? ", "I am an extreme introvert with social anxiety, and have been loving my telework status over the last year! What advice can you give me about requesting telework even after vaccine distribution? ", "I am an extreme introvert with social anxiety, and have been loving my telework status over the last year! What advice can you give me about requesting telework even after vaccine distribution? ", "I am an extreme introvert with social anxiety, and have been loving my telework status over the last year! What advice can you give me about requesting telework even after vaccine distribution? ", "I am an extreme introvert with social anxiety, and have been loving my telework status over the last year! What advice can you give me about requesting telework even after vaccine distribution? ", "I am an extreme introvert with social anxiety, and have been loving my telework status over the last year! What advice can you give me about requesting telework even after vaccine distribution? ", "I am an extreme introvert with social anxiety, and have been loving my telework status over the last year! What advice can you give me about requesting telework even after vaccine distribution? ", "I am an extreme introvert with social anxiety, and have been loving my telework status over the last year! What advice can you give me about requesting telework even after vaccine distribution? " ]

[ "I would take these steps: First, if you have a psychiatrist or psychologist talk to then about getting some letters of support recommending continued WFH. Next, find out if HR has a special accommodations person that you can share both your letters and your thoughts on WFH (but hold off on going to them.) Third, collect data. Are you more productive? Prove it. Are you still available when needed? Prove it. Are you able to fulfill every aspect of your position, even if things go totally back to normal? Prove it. When you are fully armed with this info, talk to your supervisor. The data may be all that's needed to convince them. If they are reluctant, offer compromise, like: I would be willing to come in once a week for meetings/check ins etc. If they are completely unwilling, then start a dialogue with HR. With your data and medical professional support plus HR on your side, your supervisor may be convinced. I personally would be open with my boss about my issues, and why it's healthier for me to WFH...but not everyone has a relationship like that with the boss.", "Prove that you are reliable in fulfilling your duties and tasks on time without direct supervision, and that you are equally effective remote as local.\n\nIf that doesn't work, try to get a psychiatrist note that you perform better without personal interaction and try to claim it as a disability which requires you to work remote to be able to perform.", "Use a medical request via your diagnosing dr. Your disability support includes teleworking. Use HR to process this.", "It's all about your productivity whilst teleworking. Make yourself valuable to the company without your physical presence.", "If teleworking fits you better, then make a point to take advantage of this opportunity. You WILL need to speak up to your boss(es) about it. Do it sooner rather than later so they can take it into consideration. \n\nIf for whatever reason your current job says no, then find a new one that will. Don't feel trapped by any one job.", "Depending on where you work your company may also like telework because it’s that much less office space they have to manage. So that might be an angle.", "As someone who suffered crippling social anxiety in the past my advice is to avoid teleworking at all costs. You don't get over your fears by avoiding the thing you're afraid of. Continued teleworking is likely to be detrimental to your health and well being.", "As I understand it, many companies are reconsidering their standard policy, realizing that maintaining an office building is a big expense and that if people can work at home effectively, it will save them money on everything from rent to toilet paper. So it may be easier than you expect, if your company is one of those that is thinking that way. And if not it may be possible to find a company that is thinking that way." ]

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[ "Flirting 101 So I found this(Some post about what not to do when trying to flirt) today, and I thought it was interesting and helpful, but now I feel like I want to learn more. \nShow me what you know Reddit? \n\n", "Flirting 101 So I found this(Some post about what not to do when trying to flirt) today, and I thought it was interesting and helpful, but now I feel like I want to learn more. \nShow me what you know Reddit? \n\n", "Flirting 101 So I found this(Some post about what not to do when trying to flirt) today, and I thought it was interesting and helpful, but now I feel like I want to learn more. \nShow me what you know Reddit? \n\n", "Flirting 101 So I found this(Some post about what not to do when trying to flirt) today, and I thought it was interesting and helpful, but now I feel like I want to learn more. \nShow me what you know Reddit? \n\n", "Flirting 101 So I found this(Some post about what not to do when trying to flirt) today, and I thought it was interesting and helpful, but now I feel like I want to learn more. \nShow me what you know Reddit? \n\n" ]

[ "1. Watch Hitch. That shit actually applies.\n\n2. Always tell a woman that you're 10 years older than your real age. Then they think you're the fountain of youth and they just want to drink from your holy grail! Lol.", "There's exceptions to all of these. But in my experience they have all held pretty true. \n\n1) Don't force it, genuine interest goes a long way. Get through the small talk ASAP, avoid it entirely if possible. Find out what THEY want to talk about and listen, chances are they can offer a cool perspective. \n\n2) Have fun, relax and enjoy yourself. The first step is to achieve a certain level of comfort.\n\n3) Be sure to smile and make lots eye contact....but not too much. Just enough to communicate that you enjoy their company and like looking at their face. \n\n4) If you just want to hook up and have no intention of getting to know the other person, you don't deserve either. \n\n5) Early on, be subtle. Don't make your intentions too obvious from the start. Think of it as a dance, even leading requires participation. \n\n6) PICK UP LINES DONT WORK (unless you are incredibly hot in which case you wouldn't need this) . It's super lame and unoriginal. \n\n7) Don't take yourself too seriously. Make fun of yourself, tell an embarrassing story. Trusting her/him will often lead to them trusting you as well. Which is key. \n\n8) LIGHT physical contact during conversation goes a long way. But don't get crazy. \n\n9) treat them as if you have known them for years. This is a hard one to explain, obviously don't pretend to know them. Just speak and act with the level of comfort you would around an old friend, this mindset always helped me feel confident. \n\n10) Know when to quit. Seriously. \n\n11) if he/she is with friends, DO NOT APPROACH unless it is mixed company. \n\n12) Never go out with the intention of hooking up or creating a romantic connection. Go out to be with friends and make new ones. The emphasis should always be on having a good time and the rest will fall into place. \n\nThat's all I can think of, again this is just what has worked for me. But honestly, best advice is also the most cliche: just be yourself man :) nothing more attractive than loving who you are. ", "First you need to learn to rap. Watch Tupac and Eminem videos. Next, get gold teeth and several gold chains. The final step is to get your car fitted with at least 24\" rims. The chicks will flock to you. (Lol, just having fun) ", "\nJust listen to people and they will like you. Like really listen to what they are saying, try to understand them. Ask questions about what they were just talking about.\n\nAfter you have really listened and understood them - explain in a thoughtful way why you find that part of the discussion so refreshing / amazing.\n", "Hello [alonsosfera](/u/alonsosfera), thank you for your submission! Unfortunately, your submission has been removed for the following reason(s):\n\nDue to the subject matter that you are linking to, there is a chance that the thread will become extremely heated and a nasty place to be. If you will remove any mention of that link, I will approve.\n\n\n\nIf you would like to appeal this decision [please feel free to contact the moderators here](http://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=/r/LifeProTips). Alternatively you can resubmit using [this link](http://www.reddit.com/r/lifeprotips/submit?resubmit=true). Make sure you [read the rules](/r/lifeprotips/about/sidebar) before submitting. Thank you!" ]

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[ "how to prevent my clothes from losing softness and getting all scratchy? Pretty much all my favorite clothes lose their softness and feel “scratchy” to me after I run them through the wash a few times. What can I do to prevent this, and, if possible, restore the softness?\n\nIn general, for my laundry routine, I:\n\n* run all my clothes in cold water so I can run my whites and colors together, because I’m lazy\n* use fabric softener and dryer sheets when available, though this doesn’t seem to make a difference \n* run the dryer on low or extra low when possible, my thought process here is that higher heat is burning off the fabric, but that’s just a guess.", "how to prevent my clothes from losing softness and getting all scratchy? Pretty much all my favorite clothes lose their softness and feel “scratchy” to me after I run them through the wash a few times. What can I do to prevent this, and, if possible, restore the softness?\n\nIn general, for my laundry routine, I:\n\n* run all my clothes in cold water so I can run my whites and colors together, because I’m lazy\n* use fabric softener and dryer sheets when available, though this doesn’t seem to make a difference \n* run the dryer on low or extra low when possible, my thought process here is that higher heat is burning off the fabric, but that’s just a guess." ]

[ "Use Tide detergent and Downy fabric softener. Add fabric softener to the wash cycle and just let your clothes soak. It works well for me. I have to have soft clothing. Buy quality garments, or go to a thrift store, because the natural fabrics are less irritating. When you buy something, your sense of touch is very important.", "Don't buy cheap detergent for one. Use fabric softners very sparingly and use the liquid. Dryer sheets dont do shit but add fragrance." ]

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[ "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume.", "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume.", "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume." ]

[ "Sounds like you already sold yourself. Just write them a decent email highlighting your interaction and send a cover letter with resume as a pdf attachment.", "Don’t wait for him to ask for a resume. Send him one that is VERY visually appealing and easy to read, and ideally only one page attached to the email. Make the email short and just remind him who you are, where/how you met, and reiterate that you want to work there. Short, sweet, straight to the point.", "Well it may happpen to one of us. You should make a resume for your job or post. It can depends from company to company. In my personal experience for any job try to build up a good and professional resume form a professional resume writer. You can find many of them on fiverr and upwork. Few years back for my first job i took help from this guy https://fvrr.co/3MMm9OO on fiverr. He wrote it very professionally and nicely that almost every company complemented me at that time. Try to include all your strength, skills and experience while building it. Try to convince them why you are a better candidate thn others. If you are able to do this then you will very easily find good job. Best of luck" ]

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[ "Getting a someone to understand your time should be respected. So I'll caution this with at least one allegory beforehand.\n\nThis happened once before, a friend spent all day leading on or just not responding to plans that were previously made between them and a few friends (Including myself). Finally when they gave a firm negative the entire plan had been ruined and the day wasted.\n\nWe were all upset, tired, and frustrated with them and I wrote out a long explanation of why I was upset and why I was feeling disrespected. They apologized and changed for a few years.\n\nJust a little while ago they did the same thing. Well it was worse this time because they didn't even respond the entire day. The plans did have a setup clause of (If we don't hear from you then we're doing it anyways without you.) I still tried to include them, tried to get an affirmation or negative, but got nothing. \n\nI just want them to get that when you make a plan with someone you should respect them enough to at least say \"Hey not gonna make it.\" Radio silence just feels like a slap in the face and like my time isn't valuable to them when it's a resource to use elsewhere.\n\nI don't really want to approach it in the same manner as before, but may have to. Anyone else deal with this? Am I overreacting? Or am I looking at the wrong side of this problem?", "Getting a someone to understand your time should be respected. So I'll caution this with at least one allegory beforehand.\n\nThis happened once before, a friend spent all day leading on or just not responding to plans that were previously made between them and a few friends (Including myself). Finally when they gave a firm negative the entire plan had been ruined and the day wasted.\n\nWe were all upset, tired, and frustrated with them and I wrote out a long explanation of why I was upset and why I was feeling disrespected. They apologized and changed for a few years.\n\nJust a little while ago they did the same thing. Well it was worse this time because they didn't even respond the entire day. The plans did have a setup clause of (If we don't hear from you then we're doing it anyways without you.) I still tried to include them, tried to get an affirmation or negative, but got nothing. \n\nI just want them to get that when you make a plan with someone you should respect them enough to at least say \"Hey not gonna make it.\" Radio silence just feels like a slap in the face and like my time isn't valuable to them when it's a resource to use elsewhere.\n\nI don't really want to approach it in the same manner as before, but may have to. Anyone else deal with this? Am I overreacting? Or am I looking at the wrong side of this problem?", "Getting a someone to understand your time should be respected. So I'll caution this with at least one allegory beforehand.\n\nThis happened once before, a friend spent all day leading on or just not responding to plans that were previously made between them and a few friends (Including myself). Finally when they gave a firm negative the entire plan had been ruined and the day wasted.\n\nWe were all upset, tired, and frustrated with them and I wrote out a long explanation of why I was upset and why I was feeling disrespected. They apologized and changed for a few years.\n\nJust a little while ago they did the same thing. Well it was worse this time because they didn't even respond the entire day. The plans did have a setup clause of (If we don't hear from you then we're doing it anyways without you.) I still tried to include them, tried to get an affirmation or negative, but got nothing. \n\nI just want them to get that when you make a plan with someone you should respect them enough to at least say \"Hey not gonna make it.\" Radio silence just feels like a slap in the face and like my time isn't valuable to them when it's a resource to use elsewhere.\n\nI don't really want to approach it in the same manner as before, but may have to. Anyone else deal with this? Am I overreacting? Or am I looking at the wrong side of this problem?", "Getting a someone to understand your time should be respected. So I'll caution this with at least one allegory beforehand.\n\nThis happened once before, a friend spent all day leading on or just not responding to plans that were previously made between them and a few friends (Including myself). Finally when they gave a firm negative the entire plan had been ruined and the day wasted.\n\nWe were all upset, tired, and frustrated with them and I wrote out a long explanation of why I was upset and why I was feeling disrespected. They apologized and changed for a few years.\n\nJust a little while ago they did the same thing. Well it was worse this time because they didn't even respond the entire day. The plans did have a setup clause of (If we don't hear from you then we're doing it anyways without you.) I still tried to include them, tried to get an affirmation or negative, but got nothing. \n\nI just want them to get that when you make a plan with someone you should respect them enough to at least say \"Hey not gonna make it.\" Radio silence just feels like a slap in the face and like my time isn't valuable to them when it's a resource to use elsewhere.\n\nI don't really want to approach it in the same manner as before, but may have to. Anyone else deal with this? Am I overreacting? Or am I looking at the wrong side of this problem?" ]

[ "Your friend may be depressed. Your friend may be overextended. They may have not really want to agree in the first place. Or they could just be an jerk. Lots of reasons that they bailed. People who don't respect others time aren't usually going to change- it's not on you to make them change. \n\nIt's nice you want to include them. Invite them to stuff but don't hold your breath. Make the plans, give them the time you're leaving. Maybe call them 10 minutes before they should be leaving their house if you're feeling nice. But after that, let it go. Dont spend any more time in your day thinking about it or getting pissed off. This works for jerks, overextended people, and people who can't manage to get to places on time. \n\nIf they're depressed then you can try and get them help, but again, it's not on you to make them change. You can let them know you support them. Realize that they may have agreed to plans but don't have the ability to get out of bed. ", "When making plans, set up a date you need a response by (either morning of, day before, etc.). Send out a reminder text/call the day before you need an answer, with a friendly little \"If I don't hear from you, we'll have to count you out.\" If you don't hear from them, don't worry about them. You've given them plenty of time to consider and respond, including a day-before reminder. At that point, there's no reason to continue to waste your time worrying about their ability to complete tasks when you've got a fun adventure to plan.", "You want to change them. People can't change unless they want to. The only thing you can change is yourself. Trying to change other people to fit within your life easier is arrogant and manipulative. ", "Depending on their job, it can sometimes be hard to commit to things. \n\nPersonally I work two jobs, my schedule is all over the place from week to week. Asking me about something for next week is nearly impossible for me to say yes or no, because there's just no way of knowing that far in advance. But usually I'll tell my friends that straight up, I just don't know yet but I'll let you know when I figure it out. \n\nTry talking to the person, in person not over text. Explain that it's hard to make plans without knowing if he's coming or not. \n\nOtherwise, just make plans without him. You can include him in the group texts or whatever so he knows what's happening if he's able to come, but don't base your plans on him. " ]

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[ "How to make friends when you don't know anyone? Hey, it is just one day left till friday and it looks like I will stay at home alone. I wan't to make friends, but I really don't know where to start when you don't know anyone. I'm 22 and everyone in this age has like 100 friends, which is making it a lot harder to be interesting.\nAlso, I am not very good with talking to people. But I am willing to learn it somehow.\nMaybe someone can help and share his tips?", "How to make friends when you don't know anyone? Hey, it is just one day left till friday and it looks like I will stay at home alone. I wan't to make friends, but I really don't know where to start when you don't know anyone. I'm 22 and everyone in this age has like 100 friends, which is making it a lot harder to be interesting.\nAlso, I am not very good with talking to people. But I am willing to learn it somehow.\nMaybe someone can help and share his tips?", "How to make friends when you don't know anyone? Hey, it is just one day left till friday and it looks like I will stay at home alone. I wan't to make friends, but I really don't know where to start when you don't know anyone. I'm 22 and everyone in this age has like 100 friends, which is making it a lot harder to be interesting.\nAlso, I am not very good with talking to people. But I am willing to learn it somehow.\nMaybe someone can help and share his tips?", "How to make friends when you don't know anyone? Hey, it is just one day left till friday and it looks like I will stay at home alone. I wan't to make friends, but I really don't know where to start when you don't know anyone. I'm 22 and everyone in this age has like 100 friends, which is making it a lot harder to be interesting.\nAlso, I am not very good with talking to people. But I am willing to learn it somehow.\nMaybe someone can help and share his tips?", "How to make friends when you don't know anyone? Hey, it is just one day left till friday and it looks like I will stay at home alone. I wan't to make friends, but I really don't know where to start when you don't know anyone. I'm 22 and everyone in this age has like 100 friends, which is making it a lot harder to be interesting.\nAlso, I am not very good with talking to people. But I am willing to learn it somehow.\nMaybe someone can help and share his tips?", "How to make friends when you don't know anyone? Hey, it is just one day left till friday and it looks like I will stay at home alone. I wan't to make friends, but I really don't know where to start when you don't know anyone. I'm 22 and everyone in this age has like 100 friends, which is making it a lot harder to be interesting.\nAlso, I am not very good with talking to people. But I am willing to learn it somehow.\nMaybe someone can help and share his tips?", "How to make friends when you don't know anyone? Hey, it is just one day left till friday and it looks like I will stay at home alone. I wan't to make friends, but I really don't know where to start when you don't know anyone. I'm 22 and everyone in this age has like 100 friends, which is making it a lot harder to be interesting.\nAlso, I am not very good with talking to people. But I am willing to learn it somehow.\nMaybe someone can help and share his tips?", "How to make friends when you don't know anyone? Hey, it is just one day left till friday and it looks like I will stay at home alone. I wan't to make friends, but I really don't know where to start when you don't know anyone. I'm 22 and everyone in this age has like 100 friends, which is making it a lot harder to be interesting.\nAlso, I am not very good with talking to people. But I am willing to learn it somehow.\nMaybe someone can help and share his tips?", "How to make friends when you don't know anyone? Hey, it is just one day left till friday and it looks like I will stay at home alone. I wan't to make friends, but I really don't know where to start when you don't know anyone. I'm 22 and everyone in this age has like 100 friends, which is making it a lot harder to be interesting.\nAlso, I am not very good with talking to people. But I am willing to learn it somehow.\nMaybe someone can help and share his tips?" ]

[ "Those people with 100 friends are liars. Those relationships aren't real. \n\nYou're at a great age to make friends. Find \"nerd nights\". Join church groups if you'd like. Make 1 friend then go to a singles bar with them. I'll try to think of more if you remind me. \n\nSo try dating sites. Make a friend there. They will have friends and maybe someone you could date. ", "Try local trivia, comedy and karaoke nights, makes it easier to strike up conversation. The more people you talk to, the more likely you'll make a friend.", "Find an interest or a hobby and then find a group that also is interested and go to a meeting or event.", "The very best thing you can do is introduce yourself, then ask people questions about their interests. When they tell you about themselves, be attentive, try not to interrupt, and also try and remember some of the key points. People want others to relate to them, so if you feel differently about subjects, keep it to yourself. After you have done this with several people, try and reconnect with the people you share interests with. Hope this helps, it is what i do.\n", "Running groups, yoga classes, small crossfit gyms, adult sports leagues (you'll see the same people regularly and have a reason to talk and there will be a lot in 20s). ", "Not sure what area you're in. But I suggest finding a singles outing group. We have them near Atlanta that arrange events and meet ups for the group. Had a friend of mine do it and he really enjoyed it. \n\nAlternatively I'd suggest a hobby that could lead you to some. A gym perhaps or a church. ", "I'm going to echo what others have said because they're absolutely true. \n\n1) Adult sports leagues (VAVI is a big one in my area. Don't have to be athletic; you can find beginner teams where they mostly just drink beer and have fun. Also, these are typically cheaper than taking a professional class). \n\n2) Volunteering (animal shelters, food drives, big brother/sister groups, etc. even tutoring!) \n\n3) Get a dog or borrow a friend's dog (I've unintentionally made so many friends at dog parks, dog beaches, and pet stores). \n\n4) Waiter/Waitress/Bartending job (easiest way is pick up a part time job at a service outsourcing company, just look up ones in your area). ", "If there are only two meetups in your area, making friends (in general and meeting people you rouge consider good friends) would be much easier on a new location. You should move.", "Best place is always your job or school - you will find a lot of people there with similar education and age and many of them will wonder too where they could make friends. Just ask them to hang out with you after work." ]

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[ "How to get rid of congestion easily I have been having a lot of congestion lately. Is there any way to remove it really easily. Medicines aren't really working.", "How to get rid of congestion easily I have been having a lot of congestion lately. Is there any way to remove it really easily. Medicines aren't really working.", "How to get rid of congestion easily I have been having a lot of congestion lately. Is there any way to remove it really easily. Medicines aren't really working." ]

[ "As someone who had chronic sinus infections, I would tell you that saline spray and neti pots are fantastic at clearing out congestion. Make sure to read all the instructions because you can damage the membranes in your nose if you use neti pots improperly.", "The easiest way to get rid of Sinusitis, assuming it isn't an infection, is to use a warm, wet towel or steam on your face to reduce the swelling. You can also take NSAID (Nonsteroidal Anti-Inflammatory Drugs) like ibuprofen.", "Saline spray and a cool mist humidifier in your bedroom at night might help. I have this issue a lot and when I ask the doctor it's always \"ANTIBIOTICS! TAKE THEM ALL!\"\n\nAlso, the neti pots are usually helpful and worth a try. Hard to get used to the feeling of pouring water into my nostrils, though. Also, I'm almost 30 and I still hold my nose to go underwater in a swimming pool...but whatever." ]

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[ "Dating your intellectual equal. I know that there are better subs for this, but I've always had great advice come from my smart friends here in LPT. Also it's really long, but I would **really** appreciate it if you would read the whole thing and give me your opinions and examples. Please no belligerence. \n\nMy girlfriend and I have been dating for just over two years now and are very serious about each other. Only recently I've been having some troubling thoughts about our compatability as partners. I love her more than I've ever loved another human in my life and I truly want things to work between us, but I continue to put off things like an engagement. proposal or moving in together I remind myself that even though the good times are great, the bad times are *really* bad. \n\nFor starters I feel like my girlfriend is not on my level intellectually. I enjoy spending my free time doing research about things that pique my interest or have sat on my mind for a while, while she would rather talk about how rude her co workers are or how shes afraid that certain people don't like her. I constantly find myself using longer sentences full of filler words in place of the ones I'd like to use, simply to avoid her not understanding and then getting upset at what she *thinks* I've said. In almost all cases she can't see what's just or socially correct. because she's more concerned about getting what she wants, which leads me to my next point. \n\nI don't feel like my girlfriend is my emotional equal. I feel very much more mature than she is a lot of the time. She thinks she's doing the right thing when she's really doing more harm. She believes herself to be ready for lots of adult things that I don't believe she has really studies or prepared for (She's only 19 years old and I'm 21, and while I won't pretend to know everything, she will.) Things like marriage or making major purchases. I mean for fucks sake this girl literally almost bought a dog because she *thought* we would have an apartment together soon and that I'd simply be okay with getting a dog. She's not diagnosed ADD but she shows a lot of signs so I wouldn't be surprised. She's intolerably stubborn, she ends all arguments with \"because I said so\" or, \"just shut up\" because she cannot admit shes wrong. \n\nI love her for a lot of reasons and if possible I would love to help her see things in the ways that I know come from more logic and reasoning than she uses, but am I lying to myself when I think she can truly change? In my own research of this problem I came across an article that said that love is about bridging the gaps between you and your partner, and that a lot of people just find intellectual fulfillment from their peers while accepting fulfillment that your partner can offer. Am I wrong for wanting her to \"get on my level\" (Don't take that too literally.) \n\nGod I wish I could have said this in fewer words. \n\nTl:Dr I'm afraid my SO is *too* far beneath me in some ways to be happy marrying her.", "Dating your intellectual equal. I know that there are better subs for this, but I've always had great advice come from my smart friends here in LPT. Also it's really long, but I would **really** appreciate it if you would read the whole thing and give me your opinions and examples. Please no belligerence. \n\nMy girlfriend and I have been dating for just over two years now and are very serious about each other. Only recently I've been having some troubling thoughts about our compatability as partners. I love her more than I've ever loved another human in my life and I truly want things to work between us, but I continue to put off things like an engagement. proposal or moving in together I remind myself that even though the good times are great, the bad times are *really* bad. \n\nFor starters I feel like my girlfriend is not on my level intellectually. I enjoy spending my free time doing research about things that pique my interest or have sat on my mind for a while, while she would rather talk about how rude her co workers are or how shes afraid that certain people don't like her. I constantly find myself using longer sentences full of filler words in place of the ones I'd like to use, simply to avoid her not understanding and then getting upset at what she *thinks* I've said. In almost all cases she can't see what's just or socially correct. because she's more concerned about getting what she wants, which leads me to my next point. \n\nI don't feel like my girlfriend is my emotional equal. I feel very much more mature than she is a lot of the time. She thinks she's doing the right thing when she's really doing more harm. She believes herself to be ready for lots of adult things that I don't believe she has really studies or prepared for (She's only 19 years old and I'm 21, and while I won't pretend to know everything, she will.) Things like marriage or making major purchases. I mean for fucks sake this girl literally almost bought a dog because she *thought* we would have an apartment together soon and that I'd simply be okay with getting a dog. She's not diagnosed ADD but she shows a lot of signs so I wouldn't be surprised. She's intolerably stubborn, she ends all arguments with \"because I said so\" or, \"just shut up\" because she cannot admit shes wrong. \n\nI love her for a lot of reasons and if possible I would love to help her see things in the ways that I know come from more logic and reasoning than she uses, but am I lying to myself when I think she can truly change? In my own research of this problem I came across an article that said that love is about bridging the gaps between you and your partner, and that a lot of people just find intellectual fulfillment from their peers while accepting fulfillment that your partner can offer. Am I wrong for wanting her to \"get on my level\" (Don't take that too literally.) \n\nGod I wish I could have said this in fewer words. \n\nTl:Dr I'm afraid my SO is *too* far beneath me in some ways to be happy marrying her.", "Dating your intellectual equal. I know that there are better subs for this, but I've always had great advice come from my smart friends here in LPT. Also it's really long, but I would **really** appreciate it if you would read the whole thing and give me your opinions and examples. Please no belligerence. \n\nMy girlfriend and I have been dating for just over two years now and are very serious about each other. Only recently I've been having some troubling thoughts about our compatability as partners. I love her more than I've ever loved another human in my life and I truly want things to work between us, but I continue to put off things like an engagement. proposal or moving in together I remind myself that even though the good times are great, the bad times are *really* bad. \n\nFor starters I feel like my girlfriend is not on my level intellectually. I enjoy spending my free time doing research about things that pique my interest or have sat on my mind for a while, while she would rather talk about how rude her co workers are or how shes afraid that certain people don't like her. I constantly find myself using longer sentences full of filler words in place of the ones I'd like to use, simply to avoid her not understanding and then getting upset at what she *thinks* I've said. In almost all cases she can't see what's just or socially correct. because she's more concerned about getting what she wants, which leads me to my next point. \n\nI don't feel like my girlfriend is my emotional equal. I feel very much more mature than she is a lot of the time. She thinks she's doing the right thing when she's really doing more harm. She believes herself to be ready for lots of adult things that I don't believe she has really studies or prepared for (She's only 19 years old and I'm 21, and while I won't pretend to know everything, she will.) Things like marriage or making major purchases. I mean for fucks sake this girl literally almost bought a dog because she *thought* we would have an apartment together soon and that I'd simply be okay with getting a dog. She's not diagnosed ADD but she shows a lot of signs so I wouldn't be surprised. She's intolerably stubborn, she ends all arguments with \"because I said so\" or, \"just shut up\" because she cannot admit shes wrong. \n\nI love her for a lot of reasons and if possible I would love to help her see things in the ways that I know come from more logic and reasoning than she uses, but am I lying to myself when I think she can truly change? In my own research of this problem I came across an article that said that love is about bridging the gaps between you and your partner, and that a lot of people just find intellectual fulfillment from their peers while accepting fulfillment that your partner can offer. Am I wrong for wanting her to \"get on my level\" (Don't take that too literally.) \n\nGod I wish I could have said this in fewer words. \n\nTl:Dr I'm afraid my SO is *too* far beneath me in some ways to be happy marrying her.", "Dating your intellectual equal. I know that there are better subs for this, but I've always had great advice come from my smart friends here in LPT. Also it's really long, but I would **really** appreciate it if you would read the whole thing and give me your opinions and examples. Please no belligerence. \n\nMy girlfriend and I have been dating for just over two years now and are very serious about each other. Only recently I've been having some troubling thoughts about our compatability as partners. I love her more than I've ever loved another human in my life and I truly want things to work between us, but I continue to put off things like an engagement. proposal or moving in together I remind myself that even though the good times are great, the bad times are *really* bad. \n\nFor starters I feel like my girlfriend is not on my level intellectually. I enjoy spending my free time doing research about things that pique my interest or have sat on my mind for a while, while she would rather talk about how rude her co workers are or how shes afraid that certain people don't like her. I constantly find myself using longer sentences full of filler words in place of the ones I'd like to use, simply to avoid her not understanding and then getting upset at what she *thinks* I've said. In almost all cases she can't see what's just or socially correct. because she's more concerned about getting what she wants, which leads me to my next point. \n\nI don't feel like my girlfriend is my emotional equal. I feel very much more mature than she is a lot of the time. She thinks she's doing the right thing when she's really doing more harm. She believes herself to be ready for lots of adult things that I don't believe she has really studies or prepared for (She's only 19 years old and I'm 21, and while I won't pretend to know everything, she will.) Things like marriage or making major purchases. I mean for fucks sake this girl literally almost bought a dog because she *thought* we would have an apartment together soon and that I'd simply be okay with getting a dog. She's not diagnosed ADD but she shows a lot of signs so I wouldn't be surprised. She's intolerably stubborn, she ends all arguments with \"because I said so\" or, \"just shut up\" because she cannot admit shes wrong. \n\nI love her for a lot of reasons and if possible I would love to help her see things in the ways that I know come from more logic and reasoning than she uses, but am I lying to myself when I think she can truly change? In my own research of this problem I came across an article that said that love is about bridging the gaps between you and your partner, and that a lot of people just find intellectual fulfillment from their peers while accepting fulfillment that your partner can offer. Am I wrong for wanting her to \"get on my level\" (Don't take that too literally.) \n\nGod I wish I could have said this in fewer words. \n\nTl:Dr I'm afraid my SO is *too* far beneath me in some ways to be happy marrying her.", "Dating your intellectual equal. I know that there are better subs for this, but I've always had great advice come from my smart friends here in LPT. Also it's really long, but I would **really** appreciate it if you would read the whole thing and give me your opinions and examples. Please no belligerence. \n\nMy girlfriend and I have been dating for just over two years now and are very serious about each other. Only recently I've been having some troubling thoughts about our compatability as partners. I love her more than I've ever loved another human in my life and I truly want things to work between us, but I continue to put off things like an engagement. proposal or moving in together I remind myself that even though the good times are great, the bad times are *really* bad. \n\nFor starters I feel like my girlfriend is not on my level intellectually. I enjoy spending my free time doing research about things that pique my interest or have sat on my mind for a while, while she would rather talk about how rude her co workers are or how shes afraid that certain people don't like her. I constantly find myself using longer sentences full of filler words in place of the ones I'd like to use, simply to avoid her not understanding and then getting upset at what she *thinks* I've said. In almost all cases she can't see what's just or socially correct. because she's more concerned about getting what she wants, which leads me to my next point. \n\nI don't feel like my girlfriend is my emotional equal. I feel very much more mature than she is a lot of the time. She thinks she's doing the right thing when she's really doing more harm. She believes herself to be ready for lots of adult things that I don't believe she has really studies or prepared for (She's only 19 years old and I'm 21, and while I won't pretend to know everything, she will.) Things like marriage or making major purchases. I mean for fucks sake this girl literally almost bought a dog because she *thought* we would have an apartment together soon and that I'd simply be okay with getting a dog. She's not diagnosed ADD but she shows a lot of signs so I wouldn't be surprised. She's intolerably stubborn, she ends all arguments with \"because I said so\" or, \"just shut up\" because she cannot admit shes wrong. \n\nI love her for a lot of reasons and if possible I would love to help her see things in the ways that I know come from more logic and reasoning than she uses, but am I lying to myself when I think she can truly change? In my own research of this problem I came across an article that said that love is about bridging the gaps between you and your partner, and that a lot of people just find intellectual fulfillment from their peers while accepting fulfillment that your partner can offer. Am I wrong for wanting her to \"get on my level\" (Don't take that too literally.) \n\nGod I wish I could have said this in fewer words. \n\nTl:Dr I'm afraid my SO is *too* far beneath me in some ways to be happy marrying her.", "Dating your intellectual equal. I know that there are better subs for this, but I've always had great advice come from my smart friends here in LPT. Also it's really long, but I would **really** appreciate it if you would read the whole thing and give me your opinions and examples. Please no belligerence. \n\nMy girlfriend and I have been dating for just over two years now and are very serious about each other. Only recently I've been having some troubling thoughts about our compatability as partners. I love her more than I've ever loved another human in my life and I truly want things to work between us, but I continue to put off things like an engagement. proposal or moving in together I remind myself that even though the good times are great, the bad times are *really* bad. \n\nFor starters I feel like my girlfriend is not on my level intellectually. I enjoy spending my free time doing research about things that pique my interest or have sat on my mind for a while, while she would rather talk about how rude her co workers are or how shes afraid that certain people don't like her. I constantly find myself using longer sentences full of filler words in place of the ones I'd like to use, simply to avoid her not understanding and then getting upset at what she *thinks* I've said. In almost all cases she can't see what's just or socially correct. because she's more concerned about getting what she wants, which leads me to my next point. \n\nI don't feel like my girlfriend is my emotional equal. I feel very much more mature than she is a lot of the time. She thinks she's doing the right thing when she's really doing more harm. She believes herself to be ready for lots of adult things that I don't believe she has really studies or prepared for (She's only 19 years old and I'm 21, and while I won't pretend to know everything, she will.) Things like marriage or making major purchases. I mean for fucks sake this girl literally almost bought a dog because she *thought* we would have an apartment together soon and that I'd simply be okay with getting a dog. She's not diagnosed ADD but she shows a lot of signs so I wouldn't be surprised. She's intolerably stubborn, she ends all arguments with \"because I said so\" or, \"just shut up\" because she cannot admit shes wrong. \n\nI love her for a lot of reasons and if possible I would love to help her see things in the ways that I know come from more logic and reasoning than she uses, but am I lying to myself when I think she can truly change? In my own research of this problem I came across an article that said that love is about bridging the gaps between you and your partner, and that a lot of people just find intellectual fulfillment from their peers while accepting fulfillment that your partner can offer. Am I wrong for wanting her to \"get on my level\" (Don't take that too literally.) \n\nGod I wish I could have said this in fewer words. \n\nTl:Dr I'm afraid my SO is *too* far beneath me in some ways to be happy marrying her.", "Dating your intellectual equal. I know that there are better subs for this, but I've always had great advice come from my smart friends here in LPT. Also it's really long, but I would **really** appreciate it if you would read the whole thing and give me your opinions and examples. Please no belligerence. \n\nMy girlfriend and I have been dating for just over two years now and are very serious about each other. Only recently I've been having some troubling thoughts about our compatability as partners. I love her more than I've ever loved another human in my life and I truly want things to work between us, but I continue to put off things like an engagement. proposal or moving in together I remind myself that even though the good times are great, the bad times are *really* bad. \n\nFor starters I feel like my girlfriend is not on my level intellectually. I enjoy spending my free time doing research about things that pique my interest or have sat on my mind for a while, while she would rather talk about how rude her co workers are or how shes afraid that certain people don't like her. I constantly find myself using longer sentences full of filler words in place of the ones I'd like to use, simply to avoid her not understanding and then getting upset at what she *thinks* I've said. In almost all cases she can't see what's just or socially correct. because she's more concerned about getting what she wants, which leads me to my next point. \n\nI don't feel like my girlfriend is my emotional equal. I feel very much more mature than she is a lot of the time. She thinks she's doing the right thing when she's really doing more harm. She believes herself to be ready for lots of adult things that I don't believe she has really studies or prepared for (She's only 19 years old and I'm 21, and while I won't pretend to know everything, she will.) Things like marriage or making major purchases. I mean for fucks sake this girl literally almost bought a dog because she *thought* we would have an apartment together soon and that I'd simply be okay with getting a dog. She's not diagnosed ADD but she shows a lot of signs so I wouldn't be surprised. She's intolerably stubborn, she ends all arguments with \"because I said so\" or, \"just shut up\" because she cannot admit shes wrong. \n\nI love her for a lot of reasons and if possible I would love to help her see things in the ways that I know come from more logic and reasoning than she uses, but am I lying to myself when I think she can truly change? In my own research of this problem I came across an article that said that love is about bridging the gaps between you and your partner, and that a lot of people just find intellectual fulfillment from their peers while accepting fulfillment that your partner can offer. Am I wrong for wanting her to \"get on my level\" (Don't take that too literally.) \n\nGod I wish I could have said this in fewer words. \n\nTl:Dr I'm afraid my SO is *too* far beneath me in some ways to be happy marrying her.", "Dating your intellectual equal. I know that there are better subs for this, but I've always had great advice come from my smart friends here in LPT. Also it's really long, but I would **really** appreciate it if you would read the whole thing and give me your opinions and examples. Please no belligerence. \n\nMy girlfriend and I have been dating for just over two years now and are very serious about each other. Only recently I've been having some troubling thoughts about our compatability as partners. I love her more than I've ever loved another human in my life and I truly want things to work between us, but I continue to put off things like an engagement. proposal or moving in together I remind myself that even though the good times are great, the bad times are *really* bad. \n\nFor starters I feel like my girlfriend is not on my level intellectually. I enjoy spending my free time doing research about things that pique my interest or have sat on my mind for a while, while she would rather talk about how rude her co workers are or how shes afraid that certain people don't like her. I constantly find myself using longer sentences full of filler words in place of the ones I'd like to use, simply to avoid her not understanding and then getting upset at what she *thinks* I've said. In almost all cases she can't see what's just or socially correct. because she's more concerned about getting what she wants, which leads me to my next point. \n\nI don't feel like my girlfriend is my emotional equal. I feel very much more mature than she is a lot of the time. She thinks she's doing the right thing when she's really doing more harm. She believes herself to be ready for lots of adult things that I don't believe she has really studies or prepared for (She's only 19 years old and I'm 21, and while I won't pretend to know everything, she will.) Things like marriage or making major purchases. I mean for fucks sake this girl literally almost bought a dog because she *thought* we would have an apartment together soon and that I'd simply be okay with getting a dog. She's not diagnosed ADD but she shows a lot of signs so I wouldn't be surprised. She's intolerably stubborn, she ends all arguments with \"because I said so\" or, \"just shut up\" because she cannot admit shes wrong. \n\nI love her for a lot of reasons and if possible I would love to help her see things in the ways that I know come from more logic and reasoning than she uses, but am I lying to myself when I think she can truly change? In my own research of this problem I came across an article that said that love is about bridging the gaps between you and your partner, and that a lot of people just find intellectual fulfillment from their peers while accepting fulfillment that your partner can offer. Am I wrong for wanting her to \"get on my level\" (Don't take that too literally.) \n\nGod I wish I could have said this in fewer words. \n\nTl:Dr I'm afraid my SO is *too* far beneath me in some ways to be happy marrying her.", "Dating your intellectual equal. I know that there are better subs for this, but I've always had great advice come from my smart friends here in LPT. Also it's really long, but I would **really** appreciate it if you would read the whole thing and give me your opinions and examples. Please no belligerence. \n\nMy girlfriend and I have been dating for just over two years now and are very serious about each other. Only recently I've been having some troubling thoughts about our compatability as partners. I love her more than I've ever loved another human in my life and I truly want things to work between us, but I continue to put off things like an engagement. proposal or moving in together I remind myself that even though the good times are great, the bad times are *really* bad. \n\nFor starters I feel like my girlfriend is not on my level intellectually. I enjoy spending my free time doing research about things that pique my interest or have sat on my mind for a while, while she would rather talk about how rude her co workers are or how shes afraid that certain people don't like her. I constantly find myself using longer sentences full of filler words in place of the ones I'd like to use, simply to avoid her not understanding and then getting upset at what she *thinks* I've said. In almost all cases she can't see what's just or socially correct. because she's more concerned about getting what she wants, which leads me to my next point. \n\nI don't feel like my girlfriend is my emotional equal. I feel very much more mature than she is a lot of the time. She thinks she's doing the right thing when she's really doing more harm. She believes herself to be ready for lots of adult things that I don't believe she has really studies or prepared for (She's only 19 years old and I'm 21, and while I won't pretend to know everything, she will.) Things like marriage or making major purchases. I mean for fucks sake this girl literally almost bought a dog because she *thought* we would have an apartment together soon and that I'd simply be okay with getting a dog. She's not diagnosed ADD but she shows a lot of signs so I wouldn't be surprised. She's intolerably stubborn, she ends all arguments with \"because I said so\" or, \"just shut up\" because she cannot admit shes wrong. \n\nI love her for a lot of reasons and if possible I would love to help her see things in the ways that I know come from more logic and reasoning than she uses, but am I lying to myself when I think she can truly change? In my own research of this problem I came across an article that said that love is about bridging the gaps between you and your partner, and that a lot of people just find intellectual fulfillment from their peers while accepting fulfillment that your partner can offer. Am I wrong for wanting her to \"get on my level\" (Don't take that too literally.) \n\nGod I wish I could have said this in fewer words. \n\nTl:Dr I'm afraid my SO is *too* far beneath me in some ways to be happy marrying her.", "Dating your intellectual equal. I know that there are better subs for this, but I've always had great advice come from my smart friends here in LPT. Also it's really long, but I would **really** appreciate it if you would read the whole thing and give me your opinions and examples. Please no belligerence. \n\nMy girlfriend and I have been dating for just over two years now and are very serious about each other. Only recently I've been having some troubling thoughts about our compatability as partners. I love her more than I've ever loved another human in my life and I truly want things to work between us, but I continue to put off things like an engagement. proposal or moving in together I remind myself that even though the good times are great, the bad times are *really* bad. \n\nFor starters I feel like my girlfriend is not on my level intellectually. I enjoy spending my free time doing research about things that pique my interest or have sat on my mind for a while, while she would rather talk about how rude her co workers are or how shes afraid that certain people don't like her. I constantly find myself using longer sentences full of filler words in place of the ones I'd like to use, simply to avoid her not understanding and then getting upset at what she *thinks* I've said. In almost all cases she can't see what's just or socially correct. because she's more concerned about getting what she wants, which leads me to my next point. \n\nI don't feel like my girlfriend is my emotional equal. I feel very much more mature than she is a lot of the time. She thinks she's doing the right thing when she's really doing more harm. She believes herself to be ready for lots of adult things that I don't believe she has really studies or prepared for (She's only 19 years old and I'm 21, and while I won't pretend to know everything, she will.) Things like marriage or making major purchases. I mean for fucks sake this girl literally almost bought a dog because she *thought* we would have an apartment together soon and that I'd simply be okay with getting a dog. She's not diagnosed ADD but she shows a lot of signs so I wouldn't be surprised. She's intolerably stubborn, she ends all arguments with \"because I said so\" or, \"just shut up\" because she cannot admit shes wrong. \n\nI love her for a lot of reasons and if possible I would love to help her see things in the ways that I know come from more logic and reasoning than she uses, but am I lying to myself when I think she can truly change? In my own research of this problem I came across an article that said that love is about bridging the gaps between you and your partner, and that a lot of people just find intellectual fulfillment from their peers while accepting fulfillment that your partner can offer. Am I wrong for wanting her to \"get on my level\" (Don't take that too literally.) \n\nGod I wish I could have said this in fewer words. \n\nTl:Dr I'm afraid my SO is *too* far beneath me in some ways to be happy marrying her.", "Dating your intellectual equal. I know that there are better subs for this, but I've always had great advice come from my smart friends here in LPT. Also it's really long, but I would **really** appreciate it if you would read the whole thing and give me your opinions and examples. Please no belligerence. \n\nMy girlfriend and I have been dating for just over two years now and are very serious about each other. Only recently I've been having some troubling thoughts about our compatability as partners. I love her more than I've ever loved another human in my life and I truly want things to work between us, but I continue to put off things like an engagement. proposal or moving in together I remind myself that even though the good times are great, the bad times are *really* bad. \n\nFor starters I feel like my girlfriend is not on my level intellectually. I enjoy spending my free time doing research about things that pique my interest or have sat on my mind for a while, while she would rather talk about how rude her co workers are or how shes afraid that certain people don't like her. I constantly find myself using longer sentences full of filler words in place of the ones I'd like to use, simply to avoid her not understanding and then getting upset at what she *thinks* I've said. In almost all cases she can't see what's just or socially correct. because she's more concerned about getting what she wants, which leads me to my next point. \n\nI don't feel like my girlfriend is my emotional equal. I feel very much more mature than she is a lot of the time. She thinks she's doing the right thing when she's really doing more harm. She believes herself to be ready for lots of adult things that I don't believe she has really studies or prepared for (She's only 19 years old and I'm 21, and while I won't pretend to know everything, she will.) Things like marriage or making major purchases. I mean for fucks sake this girl literally almost bought a dog because she *thought* we would have an apartment together soon and that I'd simply be okay with getting a dog. She's not diagnosed ADD but she shows a lot of signs so I wouldn't be surprised. She's intolerably stubborn, she ends all arguments with \"because I said so\" or, \"just shut up\" because she cannot admit shes wrong. \n\nI love her for a lot of reasons and if possible I would love to help her see things in the ways that I know come from more logic and reasoning than she uses, but am I lying to myself when I think she can truly change? In my own research of this problem I came across an article that said that love is about bridging the gaps between you and your partner, and that a lot of people just find intellectual fulfillment from their peers while accepting fulfillment that your partner can offer. Am I wrong for wanting her to \"get on my level\" (Don't take that too literally.) \n\nGod I wish I could have said this in fewer words. \n\nTl:Dr I'm afraid my SO is *too* far beneath me in some ways to be happy marrying her.", "Dating your intellectual equal. I know that there are better subs for this, but I've always had great advice come from my smart friends here in LPT. Also it's really long, but I would **really** appreciate it if you would read the whole thing and give me your opinions and examples. Please no belligerence. \n\nMy girlfriend and I have been dating for just over two years now and are very serious about each other. Only recently I've been having some troubling thoughts about our compatability as partners. I love her more than I've ever loved another human in my life and I truly want things to work between us, but I continue to put off things like an engagement. proposal or moving in together I remind myself that even though the good times are great, the bad times are *really* bad. \n\nFor starters I feel like my girlfriend is not on my level intellectually. I enjoy spending my free time doing research about things that pique my interest or have sat on my mind for a while, while she would rather talk about how rude her co workers are or how shes afraid that certain people don't like her. I constantly find myself using longer sentences full of filler words in place of the ones I'd like to use, simply to avoid her not understanding and then getting upset at what she *thinks* I've said. In almost all cases she can't see what's just or socially correct. because she's more concerned about getting what she wants, which leads me to my next point. \n\nI don't feel like my girlfriend is my emotional equal. I feel very much more mature than she is a lot of the time. She thinks she's doing the right thing when she's really doing more harm. She believes herself to be ready for lots of adult things that I don't believe she has really studies or prepared for (She's only 19 years old and I'm 21, and while I won't pretend to know everything, she will.) Things like marriage or making major purchases. I mean for fucks sake this girl literally almost bought a dog because she *thought* we would have an apartment together soon and that I'd simply be okay with getting a dog. She's not diagnosed ADD but she shows a lot of signs so I wouldn't be surprised. She's intolerably stubborn, she ends all arguments with \"because I said so\" or, \"just shut up\" because she cannot admit shes wrong. \n\nI love her for a lot of reasons and if possible I would love to help her see things in the ways that I know come from more logic and reasoning than she uses, but am I lying to myself when I think she can truly change? In my own research of this problem I came across an article that said that love is about bridging the gaps between you and your partner, and that a lot of people just find intellectual fulfillment from their peers while accepting fulfillment that your partner can offer. Am I wrong for wanting her to \"get on my level\" (Don't take that too literally.) \n\nGod I wish I could have said this in fewer words. \n\nTl:Dr I'm afraid my SO is *too* far beneath me in some ways to be happy marrying her.", "Dating your intellectual equal. I know that there are better subs for this, but I've always had great advice come from my smart friends here in LPT. Also it's really long, but I would **really** appreciate it if you would read the whole thing and give me your opinions and examples. Please no belligerence. \n\nMy girlfriend and I have been dating for just over two years now and are very serious about each other. Only recently I've been having some troubling thoughts about our compatability as partners. I love her more than I've ever loved another human in my life and I truly want things to work between us, but I continue to put off things like an engagement. proposal or moving in together I remind myself that even though the good times are great, the bad times are *really* bad. \n\nFor starters I feel like my girlfriend is not on my level intellectually. I enjoy spending my free time doing research about things that pique my interest or have sat on my mind for a while, while she would rather talk about how rude her co workers are or how shes afraid that certain people don't like her. I constantly find myself using longer sentences full of filler words in place of the ones I'd like to use, simply to avoid her not understanding and then getting upset at what she *thinks* I've said. In almost all cases she can't see what's just or socially correct. because she's more concerned about getting what she wants, which leads me to my next point. \n\nI don't feel like my girlfriend is my emotional equal. I feel very much more mature than she is a lot of the time. She thinks she's doing the right thing when she's really doing more harm. She believes herself to be ready for lots of adult things that I don't believe she has really studies or prepared for (She's only 19 years old and I'm 21, and while I won't pretend to know everything, she will.) Things like marriage or making major purchases. I mean for fucks sake this girl literally almost bought a dog because she *thought* we would have an apartment together soon and that I'd simply be okay with getting a dog. She's not diagnosed ADD but she shows a lot of signs so I wouldn't be surprised. She's intolerably stubborn, she ends all arguments with \"because I said so\" or, \"just shut up\" because she cannot admit shes wrong. \n\nI love her for a lot of reasons and if possible I would love to help her see things in the ways that I know come from more logic and reasoning than she uses, but am I lying to myself when I think she can truly change? In my own research of this problem I came across an article that said that love is about bridging the gaps between you and your partner, and that a lot of people just find intellectual fulfillment from their peers while accepting fulfillment that your partner can offer. Am I wrong for wanting her to \"get on my level\" (Don't take that too literally.) \n\nGod I wish I could have said this in fewer words. \n\nTl:Dr I'm afraid my SO is *too* far beneath me in some ways to be happy marrying her.", "Dating your intellectual equal. I know that there are better subs for this, but I've always had great advice come from my smart friends here in LPT. Also it's really long, but I would **really** appreciate it if you would read the whole thing and give me your opinions and examples. Please no belligerence. \n\nMy girlfriend and I have been dating for just over two years now and are very serious about each other. Only recently I've been having some troubling thoughts about our compatability as partners. I love her more than I've ever loved another human in my life and I truly want things to work between us, but I continue to put off things like an engagement. proposal or moving in together I remind myself that even though the good times are great, the bad times are *really* bad. \n\nFor starters I feel like my girlfriend is not on my level intellectually. I enjoy spending my free time doing research about things that pique my interest or have sat on my mind for a while, while she would rather talk about how rude her co workers are or how shes afraid that certain people don't like her. I constantly find myself using longer sentences full of filler words in place of the ones I'd like to use, simply to avoid her not understanding and then getting upset at what she *thinks* I've said. In almost all cases she can't see what's just or socially correct. because she's more concerned about getting what she wants, which leads me to my next point. \n\nI don't feel like my girlfriend is my emotional equal. I feel very much more mature than she is a lot of the time. She thinks she's doing the right thing when she's really doing more harm. She believes herself to be ready for lots of adult things that I don't believe she has really studies or prepared for (She's only 19 years old and I'm 21, and while I won't pretend to know everything, she will.) Things like marriage or making major purchases. I mean for fucks sake this girl literally almost bought a dog because she *thought* we would have an apartment together soon and that I'd simply be okay with getting a dog. She's not diagnosed ADD but she shows a lot of signs so I wouldn't be surprised. She's intolerably stubborn, she ends all arguments with \"because I said so\" or, \"just shut up\" because she cannot admit shes wrong. \n\nI love her for a lot of reasons and if possible I would love to help her see things in the ways that I know come from more logic and reasoning than she uses, but am I lying to myself when I think she can truly change? In my own research of this problem I came across an article that said that love is about bridging the gaps between you and your partner, and that a lot of people just find intellectual fulfillment from their peers while accepting fulfillment that your partner can offer. Am I wrong for wanting her to \"get on my level\" (Don't take that too literally.) \n\nGod I wish I could have said this in fewer words. \n\nTl:Dr I'm afraid my SO is *too* far beneath me in some ways to be happy marrying her." ]

[ "Seriously dude, at 21 you're still basically an infant. Don't get married now. If you're lucky you'll grow out of this phase and look back on it with embarrassment and regret and maybe be a suitable marriage partner for someone. Give it like 10 years, you've got a lot of growing up to do.\n\nThat's my Life Pro Tip: you should DEFINITELY not marry this girl, but probably not for the reasons you think.\n", "You have matured and she hasn't reached your level of maturity. She might never but its more likely that as she ages she will look back on herself now and cringe a bit. She will change and so will you. These changes might mean the two of you go separate ways or it might mean you learn to communicate better.\r\rShe sounds like a more social than intellectual person which isn't bad just different than you. If you really want this to work in the future, start engaging her in the things you research and find fascinating. Use big words and if she doesn't get them, explain them. If you are enthusiastic about what you are sharing with her, the enthusiasm could transfer. Also, when she messes up in a social way by meddling or whatever she does, make helpful suggestions for what she could do instead without attacking her methods and then let it play out. Dont hound her about it. If it goes to shit, gently bring up why you had suggested what you did. Don't say I was right and you were wrong, instead say your method was a little rough, maybe next time try x. \r\rAlso engage with her about her interests even if it bores you. If you don't like her complaining about coworkers, start playing devils advocate, putting her in their shoes etc. Tell her when you think what she is saying is mean or shallow and why you think that. Listen to her responses and try to understand where she comes from if she disagrees.\r\rLet her make mistakes and grow up. Y'all are both still young.", "You seem to be getting really defensive but you two are too young to get married, you have shown how immature you are by replying to some hard truths people are telling you in this thread. \n\nYou also sound like a twat tbh", "I've been where you are, and it's not a fun place to be. 6 years ago I broke up with my partner of 2 years for many of the reasons you mention here: needing to dumb down my speech, lack of common interests, a gap in intelligence, etc. I loved him fiercely, but I wasn't happy, and I realized I wasn't going to be happy so long as I was with him It was one of the best decisions I'd ever made. I'm now deliriously happy with my husband, who matches me on almost every level.\n\nIf you are putting off big steps like moving in together, that's not a good sign. In my opinion, it's time to break things off. ", " You're not wrong for wanting to be compatible and happy with your partner. This doesn't sound like a good relationship. She definitely needs to mature, to learn to communicate and to be more compromising.", "Wow it's crazy how similar this is to my situation. It's basically exactly what you said... I just felt she wasn't on my level and still isn't, but I still love her. I broke up with her about a year ago (we dated for a year), but i still think about her and we still talk occasionally. We still both love each other but I can't bring myself to be with her, due to the same issues you are having. But recently I've been thinking pretty much what CrayonDNA said about engaging her in things I research and that sort of stuff. I think it's possible for people to change. I mean I know I sure have changed a lot the past several years personality-wise. I would even say she has changed since I met her on day 1, just like many young people over years. 19-21 isn't very old so it leaves a lot of room for maturity and changes to occur. I'd say follow what Crayon said and things could turn out pretty good. You mentioned that the \"bad times\" are really bad; I'm not entirely sure, but aren't bad experiences supposed to leave more of an impression on you? They are supposed to stand out I think because our brains evolved so that we can learn from the things that hurt us so we can avoid them in the future. ", "So, the \"inequality\" between you and her, emotionally or intellectually, matters *if it matters to you*. It sounds like it matters to you. But only you can know that.\n\nBasically you have to decide if you are happy or not, and if you want to continue in the relationship. That's pretty much how all relationships work i think, and virtually everyone goes through these situations.\n", "Not uncommon to want to fuck them but not be much interested in what they have to say. Long term though taking a superior and arrogant position towards any of your\nspouses' traits is a recipe for divorce when the fucking becomes routine. Hope you can\nallow yourself another 10 years to grow up before choosing a life partner. ", "I'm the same way as you. I want someone I can have intellectual conversations with, someone that is willing to learn new things. If they're not up to par with my level of intelligence, they more often than not annoy me.", "I think this a female, male thing, not a personal thing. I find that men usually like to pursue their interests, and have more \"intellectual\" interests than women do, but that DOES NOT mean that men are smarter, it just means they do different things int heir spare time. Some of the smartest girls at my school enjoy watching Gossip Girl, and some of the dumbest guys research military weaponry all day. ", "Bill Nye said it best: \"Everyone you will ever meet knows something you don't.\"\n\nThat aside, if you're questioning whether you'll be happy, you won't be unless either you or your situation changes. A good relationship feels natural. The longer you're together, the closer you feel and the deeper your love grows. Yes it's about bridging gaps, but you have to be able to see what the gaps are first. And sometimes, people just aren't compatible. Before you break anything off though, I'd suggest reading *Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus*. It's a book that everyone who wants to understand the dynamics of relationship ups and downs should read.", "Too much thought for a young puppy love relationship. Enjoy life man. Don't move in together. What the hell is a matter with u. Wait till she ages out at least. So young! Man. How about using your brains and landing a bitching job and see how she reacts then. Until then. .. ENJOY LIFE for crying out loud. \n\nIt seems like there are so many young people wanting to have life right then and there and I'm at home like. ... \n\nCheers have a beer and give her a capree sun http://i.imgur.com/9xmIYXJ.jpg ", "Imagine that you used the ages 15 and 17 instead to describe your situation in a high school romance. Then read your message with that in mind. Imagine what another 4 years might do, when you're 25 and you both graduate and have jobs. ", "Definitely don't marry someone you think is beneath you. You've said that she doesn't recognise what she's doing a lot of the time, but didn't writing that out immediately make you realise the extent of what you just said?\n\nThe fact that this is all phrased not just as 'my girlfriend does this' but 'my girlfriend does this, and so she's not on my intellectual or emotional level' indicates to me not only do you need to break up with her (for her sake because being in a relationship with someone who looks down on you isn't good for anyone) but you need to do some serious self-evaluation about how you categorise people as 'beneath you' in the first place.\n\nThat's not a common thing to do. Most people don't do that. People will look at someone and think they're stupid, or boring, or lazy, but they won't decide that they're beneath them. That's fucked up.\n\n" ]

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[ "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?", "Alarm clock doesn't wake up husband. What will? Every morning at 5 am, my husband's alarm goes off and it wakes the whole house except for him, even though it's 2 feet from his head. He currently has it set to extremely loud sports talk radio, but he's tried music and beeping and nothing has worked.\n\nI told him about the Sleep Cycle App that I hear is good, but he has a blackberry and he also doesn't like to sleep with his phone near him because the alerts keep him awake.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for a better way to wake him up in the morning?" ]

[ "As soon as the alarm goes off, snap him hard with a rubber band. Eventually his subconscious should be conditioned to anticipate the rubber band with the alarm and will pump adrenaline and wake him the hell up. If not, you've at least had the satisfaction of snapping him with the rubber band.", "Can't believe no one has mentioned it yet,but maybe you guys should consider having him tested for a sleeping disorder like sleep apnea. If he's not getting good sleep his body may be trying to make up for it by sleepng longer. Does he snore or have any other difficultly breathing at night? If so this might be an avenue worth checking out. ", "Rig up a big Rube Goldberg machine a la Peewee Herman, but instead of cooking breakfast, it ends with a boot dropping on his dick. \n\nDanny Elfman alarm tone is required. ", "You should look for an alarm clock like [this one.](https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/unique-water-spray-alarm-clock-guaranteed-to-wake-anybody-up-on-time#/) It sprays you with water when it goes off. \n\nI had a friend that had a similar idea, he used the old bell/hammer alarm clocks, with a string around the winding key that would pull a cup of water off of the shelf above his bed onto his head if he let it ring too long. \n\nThe whole thing looked very \"Wile E. Coyote\", but it was very effective.", "firecrackers in a coffee can and playing the trumpet always worked when my dad couldn't get my brother to wake up. they can both be done from downstairs too as he slept in the only room upstairs.", "What your husband needs to do is to practice getting up and out of bed when his alarm sounds. It sounds like a strange idea, but it really worked well for me.\n\nRecreate how the room will be when he wakes up, so make it dark with all lights off, have him lie down in bed wearing what he normally wears to sleep, and have him close his eyes and relax, and have the alarm set for 5 minutes time. Then when the alarm goes off, he should get out of bed, switch the alarm off, walk to the bathroom etc, and repeat what he needs to do for the first minute of each day. Do this 5 - 6 times. When he has practised it a few times then it will start to become a response.\n\nAlso it might work better with the same alarm sound, which will be more disturbing to other people, but it will help if it is always the same sound, and something quite harsh. Otherwise with the radio, it is possible that it switches on during a quiet spot in the show. It's not that he doesn't hear the current alarm, he has just got good at ignoring it. Unless he really has problems with his hearing.", "The obvious answer is to fix his sleep habits. Generally, people who have trouble waking up either don't sleep enough, or they have an irregular pattern of sleeping and waking up at different times, or they have a long history of using a snooze alarm which is the same as training your brain to ignore an alarm. But, as a quick fix, you might try recording an alarm for him that tells him by name to wake up. When I was younger, i found that I could sleep through music and alarms, but someone softly saying my name woke me up. The music and alarms I would incorporate into my dreams and keep sleeping, but someone telling me to wake up brought me back to consciousness.", "My wife and I recently had a discussion about this. The only thing guaranteed to make a person get up out of bed is the need to go to the bathroom. Maybe make him drink a bunch of water before bed? ", "Clearly louder noises are not going to do it.\n\nDo you turn the lights on when you wake up? Leave them on, it will simulate dawn and assist in dragging him out of that darkness induced sleepy state.\n\nInvest in a full-spectrum \"Happy\" Light, the kind used to treat Seasonal effective disorder. It simulates the sun streaming in through a window.\n\nInvest in a 24 hour light timer... you know the ones your grandparents used to have to turn the lights on to make it look like someone is home while they're away? Rig that to the Happy Light and set it for 15 minutes before you get up.", "For the sleep cycle thing, go to http://sleepyti.me and hit the zzz button right before bed. Then set the alarm for one of those times. I do this every night...", "probably used to the noise and his brain ignores it. Change the sound and the volume. Flipping the lights on is helpful too.", "I was experiencing the same problems with not being able to wake up with \"noise\" alarms, but as a soon as my girl friend shook me gently I'd be wide awake in a heart beat and turn off the alarm and get out of bed. Well we learned that gentle \"movements/vibrations\" wake me up, so for my birthday she bought me the FitBit Charge which has a settable alarm clock which gently vibrates the wrist. I no longer have a noisy alarm waking her up and it gets the job done of getting me out of bed. Hope this helps! ", "I had the same problem.\n\nI had to change my alarm to https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Yw5jkAHgME on repeat. Wakes you up pretty quick", "I am Hard of Hearing. I have an alarm clock with a vibration thingy that sits under the mattress. 10/10 for this issue. Would highly recommend.", "Get a cat and teach it to get up at 5 am. Or, if you get up before your husband, put the cat in the same room as your husband and lock the door. Tadaaa!", "[A sunrise alarm clock.](http://www.amazon.com/Philips-HF3500-60-Wake-Up-Light/dp/B00F0W1RIW/ref=sr_1_2?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1445364223&sr=1-2&keywords=wake+up+light) I had this problem in college and it was the only thing that could wake me up. I was a broke college kid so I just used an app, but if he doesn't like his phone near him, a dedicated alarm clock would be the way to go. ", "Vibrating watch will work wonders on him without disturbing anyone else. Unless he screams like a little girl.", "Try setting the lights in the room on a timer to turn on at 5am. There are some alarm clocks that illuminate and begin to slowly become brighter to simulate sunrise. But, timers are like $5 each", "Try setting it to his phone's ring tone. I don't always wake up to alarms, but when my phone rings, I bolt up.", "Make his alarm a baby crying or a dog barking, always works for me and my dad. Annoying as fuck though, honestly.", "I have my bedside lamp timed to turn on about 15 minutes before my alarm goes off. The light helps me wake up easier when my alarm goes off. ", "Have him drink a large volume of water before sleeping. The former president of Toshiba did this when he had to get into the habit of getting up earlier for his duties.", "Get a spotlight and have it shine on him until he wakes up. (there are alarm clocks that have a light to wake people up with)\n\nAlternatively, smash the alarm with a sledgehammer, and if that doesn't wake him, give him the old purple nurple. \n\nBut seriously, that is really grossly fucking inconsiderate, especially at that hour. He's gonna have to just suck it up and use the blackberry. If he can't figure out how to turn off alerts (spoilers: pretty much every phone has a way to do that) then he should just suck it up. \n\n", "Download the app called \"I can't wake up\". It forces you to do simple math or logic puzzles to set in stop mode. \n\nIt won't sound while he's doing the puzzle but will of he doesn't complete it. \n\nYou can also set consecutive ones almost like a snooze but I guarantee it'll work. ", "you need an old school alarm, with the bells on top and the hammer that moves back and forth to make the ringing sound. Tie a string to the hammer, and the other end to a ladder with a cup of water on top, making sure to remove all slack out of string. Now, at the bottom of the ladder, you need to place a sleeping cat, and this part is important, the cat must be able to sleep through the alarm but not through the splash of water when the cup is pulled off of the ladder by the ringing alarm hammer. Maybe use a paper cup to avoid injury to the cat. The cat needs balloon filled with helium tied to his or her tail, female cats work best for this by the way. Now, once the alarm rings and the *plastic/paper* cup filled with water is pulled off of the ladder, splashing the soundly sleeping cat, causing the cat(remember to use a female cat, they work best) to run out of the room with the helium filled balloon tied to her tail, you shoot the balloon with a small caliber rifle preferably with a silencer(that's how you keep the police away), and the popping noise should definitely wake up the husband.", "if he is more likely to be woken up by something physical try a vibrating watch alarm. that's what i use my fitbit for ;p", "http://www.hammacher.com/Product/81186 sonic boom clock, i use a sunrise clock though, it wakes me up with light.", "http://www.amazon.com/Philips-HF3500-60-Wake-Up-Light/dp/B00F0W1RIW/ref=pd_sbs_hpc_4?tag=gizmodoamzn-20&ascsubtag=[t|mod-button[p|1535668863[a|B00F0W1RIW[au|1136306622 This light up alarm changed my life", "[loud alarm clock](http://www.hdhearing.com/alertdevices/sonicboomclock.htm)\n\nMy parents used to have an alarm clock with an outlet that they plugged a vacuum cleaner in to. there was no missing that alarm", "Years ago when I had a horrible time waking up to any alarm, I had my roommate record himself calling my name and telling me to wake up repeatedly for 5 minutes. He spoke in an insistent way - not loud. I rigged the tape recorder to a timer and it worked like a charm. I guess today you could do it with his phone.", "When I have trouble waking up in the morning, I drink a bunch of water, and usually having to pee will wake me up. Not necessarily the perfect answer, but it might help?", "What time do you get up? He might need to start waking up at the same time you do and sacrifice his schedule for the rest of the house. ", "What about changing alarm ringtone? If you can randomize it, it may wake him up. Also there are apps which monitor your sleep by movements and the alarm will go off when you're at the lightest moment of sleep ", "Use the back of your hand to smack his balls. If that doesn't do it nothing will. Do that for a week and I bet he snaps awake when the alarm goes off. ", "Try using an alarm that gradually gets louder. That totally worked for me . When I was in college my loud, obnoxious alarm would wake up everyone in the house . For some reason it didn't wake me . Maybe because my brain got used to it ?The funny thing was , when I got the alarm that got louder gradually, I was up within seconds of it going off and it wasn't even loud. This was of course before smart phones , so maybe your phone has a similar setting ? Also , another thing to try is a Fitbit or maybe something similar . My husband and I have different schedules , so I have to wake up before him. Fitbit has a nice function where it vibrates as the alarm. That woke me up in an instant! The only thing is, is that he has to wear it on his arm when he goes to bed . Good luck!", "Try the vibrating alarm clocks designed for individuals who are hard of hearing, usually placed under the pillow! ", "Try putting the radio on static. That worked for me when in college and I'd just bring the talking into my dream. If that makes sense. ", "Try one of those [natural light alarm clocks](http://www.amazon.com/Philips-HF3520-Wake-Up-Colored-Simulation/dp/B0093162RM/ref=pd_sim_121_1?ie=UTF8&refRID=1V4D8B19DME91MNY8QCN&dpID=317ZTp2qkQL&dpSrc=sims&preST=_AC_UL160_SR113%2C160_) - might work better for him AND it won't rattle the house apart. ", "Try a vibrating alarm\nhttp://www.amazon.com/s/?ie=UTF8&keywords=alarm+clock+vibration+for+deaf&tag=googhydr-20&index=aps&hvadid=52260807715&hvpos=1t2&hvexid=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=937005248841855243&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=b&hvdev=c&ref=pd_sl_2zz8jii7v5_b", "Try a light alarm clock. And don't use a subtle setting where it slowly brightens - make sure it turns on to full intensity instantly.", "This might be a bit late! \n \nI studied sleep conditions a while ago. Try changing the alarm to a 'door knock'. \n \nThe repetitive similar sounding knock proved to wake the biggest percentage of people. Also make sure the alarm is set to go off at the end of the sleep cycle. One sleep cycle is about 90 minutes. ", "This confirms my suspicion that there is no time before 6AM. There is whatever time you go to bed, and then there is 6AM and forward. Your husband is unable to rise because until 6, the universe does not exist.", "There's an alarm that makes a tweet that says that if someone retweets the tweet, the account owner has to pay money to them\n\nThis guy explains it better:\n\nhttp://collegeinfogeek.com/early-wake-up-system/", "There is an alarm clock for deaf people that vibrates the bed. You stick it under the mattress. I was dating a deaf girl a while back and she had one. It scared the crap out of me! ", "The body goes through 90 minute sleep cycles, known as your circadian rhythm. \n\n\nIf woken up in he middle of the cycle the person will be groggy and irritable and will have difficulty waking up \n\n\nIf woken up in between those cycles, the person can wake up easily. \n\n\nCalculate when to go to bed / wake up with this:\n\nhttp://sleepyti.me", "The alerts keep him awake? Yet the alarm clock won't wake him up? Sounds like he just doesn't want to get up", "Put marbles in the freezer overnight. Then, when his alarm goes off, slip them under the covers. No matter where he rolls, gravity will bring them to him. Bonus wake up points if he sleeps in the nude.", "Perhaps a vibrating alarm? I use my smartwatch as an alarm clock and when something vibrates directly against my skin it wakes me up almost without fail. It also won't wake up the entire house.", "Not sure I believe your story. You claim he has a Blackberry, and I'm pretty positive no one has had a Blackberry in years. If he actually does have a Blackberry in 2015, you are clearly a terrible judge of character, or at least you're enabling his shitty life choices. ", "My roommate had this problem in college. I realized she never woke up to her alarm, but a vibration from her text got her up. So she changed her alarm to vibrate and all was well. You might have to try some different techniques (maybe a light stimuli or slow escalation alarm) and observe their effectiveness.", "Keep a hand-full of marbles or ball bearings in your freezer. When his alarm goes off, simply drop the ice-cold marbles next to him in the bed. When he rolls away from the marbles, they will follow his every movement. After a few days of this, he should be conditioned to wake up before he gets the marble treatment again.", "It sounds like he is connected with his phone enough to wake up to it. Use his ringtone. I used to sleep through the eeh eeh eeh eeh and then I changed it to my (now) wife's specialized tone and it woke me every time. I was worried I'd miss out on her call or something and bam eyes popped open.", "Is he a veteran? Gunshots. Is he a civilian? Firecrackers. Do you live in an urban area? Yell \"FIRE\" as loud as possible. Live in a secluded area? Gunshots and firecrackers. Makes you look like a redneck which=Freedom. Enjoy.", "If youre willing to buy him something, purchase him a fitbit or any fitness tracker with the vibrating alarm. My girlfriend has one of these and these alarms will wake you up better than anything I've tried", "If you haven't tried it yet, consider maybe a fitbit or similar wearable device with a vibrating alarm? Mine has a silent vibrating alarm that never fails to wake me up.", "If you have the cash, the Phillips light alarm clocks work wonders for me. They slowly get brighter before going off, simulating a sunrise. I wake up on time or even before the noise portion of the alarm goes off, and I wake up ready to go off and start the day, minimal drowsiness. Unfortunately they are super over priced. \n\nPhilips HF3500/60 Wake-Up Light https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00F0W1RIW/ref=cm_sw_r_other_awd_peWjwbCXQ6BFJ", "If someone didn't already recommend it, I used to use a very powerful vibrating alarm clock intended for deaf people. It's intended to be put under the mattress to shake the mattress, but I am a hard sleeper so I instead put it in my pillowcase under my pillow. ", "If he's sleeping through a loud alarm next to his head, he almost certainly has a diagnosable sleep disorder, and likely has significant physical issues due to it. You wouldn't ignore nightly bleeding from the ears, why would you ignore this?\n\nIf he's repeatedly hitting a snooze, then that's a behavior issue that can be corrected with training.. ", "I've always wondered if [these](http://www.amazon.com/Nanda-Clocky-Alarm-Wheels-Chrome/dp/B001989WIS) ever worked.", "I'd suggest a George Foreman grill, pre-loaded every night with bacon. That way he can wake up in the morning to the smell of freshly cooked bacon.\n\nThis option can be hard on the feet though.", "I usually go for menthol scent to wake up myself (have my brothers do it) and my brothers. It's a good antisomnin. Also it's kinda safe. \n\nI just have them open that small tub of vapor rub and waft it under my nose.", "I use my phone on vibrate under my pillow. I feel it before I hear it. I can usually get wake up silently.", "I recently got a smart watch and the vibrating alarm on my wrist wakes me up way better than any other alarm ever has. They also have watches for deaf people that also have vibrating alarms.", "I highly recommend this: http://m.costco.ca/Philips%C2%AE-HF351060-Wake-up-Light.product.100003219.html it did wonders for me waking me up in the cold Canadian mornings at this time of the year. ", "I have the same problem where i just dont wake up. My girlfriend on occasion will pretty much motor boat my face which gets me to open my eyes and start processing whats happening.", "I have the same problem as your husband. An alarm clock app that makes the phone vibrate, and do some math before turning off, works for me. \n\n\nI assume that he can turn the phone to vibrate to avoid the alerts...?", "I have the same issue. I found an alarm clock online for the hearing impaired. It has a vibrating pad that you put under your pillow instead of using an alarm. It worked for a while for me until my body got used to it. ", "I have automated lights in my room. The Wink Hub and GE Link lightbulbs. They're bright LED WiFi connected bulbs that you can set on a timer, dim, and activate with your phone. Helps me in the morning", "I had this problem and solved it with two alarm clocks: one very close to my head that went off 15 minutes before I woke up playing talk radio softly, and a second at the designated time beeping loudly. The first eases you out of sleep, the second jars you awake.", "I had an issue like this myself. I change my alarm tone weekly and use music that I absolutely hate. Nothing wakes me up like something I don't want to listen to.", "Honestly this was me before. What helped was that my SO started to get up as soon as the alarm went off and went about her day. Lights on food cooking. Dogs getting up with her. Eventually my body started waking up with her and now I wake up without an alarm clock. ", "Hire a midget to slap him every morning til he wakes up, soon he will wake up just to beat the shit out of the midget. \nProblem solved. ", "Here is the thing, he doesn't get up because he doesn't want to. There is no trick to getting up in the morning other than to actually get up! If you know you have to, and really mean you **have to** get up you wont. Call it self discipline, call it being an adult, being a man. Whatever get it though to him. If he doesn't get his ass out of bed on time he loses his job. Unless he has some medical condition, Man up, and get his shit together.", "He knows when the alarm goes off. he also knows he doesn't have to get up until you come back up to get him up. let him be late, and he will figure something else out.", "Have you considered trying a [computer-controlled, air compressor-powered](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kQ-l5PlDa-k) model?", "Has he seen a doctor about having a sleep study done? I used to often oversleep because the quality of my sleep was so poor.", "Had a friend that could never wake up. They hooked 500w halogen work light (on a stand) up to a wall timer 3 feet from the bed pointing at them...", "Growing up, my dad kept a bowl of marbles in the freezer. If I refused to get out of bed, he would dump them in the bed. It was pretty effective...Until I started wrapping myself in blankets like a burrito.", "Go to bed earlier. Make sure it's at **least** 8-9 hours beforehand. Eventually he'll start catching up on all the sleep he's missing and wake up at the time naturally.", "Get your smart phone and set this on the max volume as the alarm. Put it under his pillow.\n\nhttp://youtu.be/wuDx6_PLIVk", "Get to sleep earlier. No caffeine after 5 pm, and cut way down during the day. Don't use energy drinks.", "Get him a smart watch! It vibrates on your wrist and at least for me does a much better job than any alarm. Plus you can set it to not alert you of notifications, only your alarm. I have a moto 360 but any smart watch should work. Also, on the topic of sleep cycles there are a number of apps that will use the watch to monitor your sleep cycles and wake you up at the right time. ", "Get an alarm that you can record a personalized message on.\n\nRecord the message : \"Let me just check your browser history\"", "Get a fitbit (or other wearable with vibrate alarm functionality) and see if that works. Sounds like he is a deep sleeper so a more touch centric approach might help rather than sound.", "From a guy whos wife was in the same situation, stop waking him up. Sleep in another room if you have to. You shouldn't feel responsible for waking up a grown man. \n\nAfter he oversleeps a few times, he will see a doctor and do the sleep study. ", "Buy a screaming meanie alarm. It's so loud that my roommate thought i I bought a new louder smoke detector. \nThe neighbors will hate you. Husband will thank you. ", "Buy a dawn simulator. Alarms clocks that get gradually lighter before they are due to go off. It tricks the brain (which still recognises light levels through the eyelids) into resetting your circadian rhythm to wake up naturally.\n\nEven if you wake up fine to your current alarm clock still get one of these. Remember those days when you wake up groggy and feel like crap? Yeah I don't.\n\nDon't waste money on an expensive one. They just load it with gadgets to increase the price. The basic cheap ones are fine as long as the light is bright.", "Alarms for the deaf and hearing impaired use a silent but heavily vibrating pad in the bed to wake the person, perhaps that would be a good option?", " http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000JGDLLU?keywords=screaming%20meanie&qid=1445357556&ref_=sr_1_2&sr=8-2\n\nIf he isn't deaf I can pretty much guarantee this thing will wake him up. It'll DEFINITELY wake up the whole house though. Possibly the neighbors too. It has three loudness settings, it starts at loud, and goes up from there. The 120dB setting may possibly also damage his/your hearing. No really, it is fucking LOUD. I used one as an alarm in high school because nothing would wake me up. I HATED it, but it definitely woke me up. The controls on it are pretty terrible, and you have to set the alarm every night, but it will definitely wake up anyone, including the dead.\n\nIf you don't want the loudest, most annoying alarm ever made, try a vibrating alarm. If he is sensitive to light there are also alarms that will turn on lights.", "Water used to help me wake up. Or a wet towel.\n\nIf you can afford to wake up early, maybe the smell of coffee making or breakfast cooking might help.\n\nAnd when all else fails, I guess you could try waking him up, you know, with some personal time. (Wink wink).\n\nGood luck :-)", "There's a bacon alarm clock that makes a bacon smell. \n\nIf you're already up just give yourself an alarm to go get him up. It would solve the problem though it's more work for you. ", "Squirt gun with really cold water. This gives you some distance and you can relentlessly attack until he gets up." ]

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[ "How to tell someone you're going to hang out with no when they ask to bring a friend. You have plans with a good friend. At the last minute they ask if they can bring along an acquaintance of theirs. Not someone you even really know. You don't really want to deal with it and would prefer it just be you and your friend. How do you tell them no without coming off as a selfish asshole?", "How to tell someone you're going to hang out with no when they ask to bring a friend. You have plans with a good friend. At the last minute they ask if they can bring along an acquaintance of theirs. Not someone you even really know. You don't really want to deal with it and would prefer it just be you and your friend. How do you tell them no without coming off as a selfish asshole?", "How to tell someone you're going to hang out with no when they ask to bring a friend. You have plans with a good friend. At the last minute they ask if they can bring along an acquaintance of theirs. Not someone you even really know. You don't really want to deal with it and would prefer it just be you and your friend. How do you tell them no without coming off as a selfish asshole?" ]

[ "\"I'd love to meet your friend sometime, but I was kind of looking forward to some me-and-you time. Can we rain check the group hang outs until I'm feeling more social?\"", "Speak truth to power.\n\nTell them politely what you really want as simply as possible.\n\ntl;dr: Simply, politely tell them your desire.", "I don't allow strangers in my home. It is a known rule among my friends. So I always tell them this if they want to bring other people. Using this rule means it isn't being made personal and they don't feel singled out because I tell everyone the same thing. If this is something you feel you might want to go by in the future it is a great excuse for this. " ]

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[ "How do i communicate w/ family whom have very different World/Political views as me? I am just old enough to start having intelligent conversations w/ family about my political/world views. Any tips to not end the conversations in screaming?", "How do i communicate w/ family whom have very different World/Political views as me? I am just old enough to start having intelligent conversations w/ family about my political/world views. Any tips to not end the conversations in screaming?", "How do i communicate w/ family whom have very different World/Political views as me? I am just old enough to start having intelligent conversations w/ family about my political/world views. Any tips to not end the conversations in screaming?" ]

[ "Intelligent politics is an oxymoron. \n\nArgue to understand another person's point of view. DO NOT argue to be right or persuasive. \n\nEveryone has their own opinion, and their own reason for getting there. Be more about understanding the person than their outlook. \n\n\n", "Listen to their point of view, and try to empathize with it, regardless of how you actually think. Who knows, they may be actually right. \n\nAfter you've done your homework and have legitimate sources for your argument, maybe revisit it another time. ", "If they seem upset or to be fighting you on it at a personal level, drop the topic and bring something else up, try to get away from arguing, even if you have to swallow your pride and let them have a \"win\" you have to realize they are family and sometimes you can't win.\n\nAlso if they come again trying to pick another argument about it just deflect it outright. if they are simply calling you out on it and trying to demonize you for it, just nod and move on, if you don't engage they will just look belligerent to anyone around you. " ]

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[ "Dealing with cockroaches and house flies. WTF. i see a cockroach every once in a while in my garage and even though i'm a guy i freak out so hard. how the fck can i deal with those cockroaches?!\n\nalso, there are a lot of house flies (NOT fruit flies) in my kitchen's airspace; what can i build to get rid of these fuckers instead of chasing them around the house?", "Dealing with cockroaches and house flies. WTF. i see a cockroach every once in a while in my garage and even though i'm a guy i freak out so hard. how the fck can i deal with those cockroaches?!\n\nalso, there are a lot of house flies (NOT fruit flies) in my kitchen's airspace; what can i build to get rid of these fuckers instead of chasing them around the house?", "Dealing with cockroaches and house flies. WTF. i see a cockroach every once in a while in my garage and even though i'm a guy i freak out so hard. how the fck can i deal with those cockroaches?!\n\nalso, there are a lot of house flies (NOT fruit flies) in my kitchen's airspace; what can i build to get rid of these fuckers instead of chasing them around the house?", "Dealing with cockroaches and house flies. WTF. i see a cockroach every once in a while in my garage and even though i'm a guy i freak out so hard. how the fck can i deal with those cockroaches?!\n\nalso, there are a lot of house flies (NOT fruit flies) in my kitchen's airspace; what can i build to get rid of these fuckers instead of chasing them around the house?" ]

[ "Around the outside, plant lots of catnip. Inside the garage spread foodgrade diatomaceous earth on ledges, corners etc. Get a turkeybaster style powder spreader to get the earth back in the cracks.\n\nMothballs inside the garage may help too.", "redditor boshe posted [this](http://www.reddit.com/r/lifehacks/comments/udxbr/24_survival_tips_for_living_alone/), and #18 is \"Put bay leaves in nooks and crannies to keep roaches away.\"\n\nAs for house flies, I thought [this](http://www.instructables.com/id/Fly-Trap/) was a great instructable, and personally would start with that. Funnel traps are extremely effective (if you can bait them) and are used to catch all kinds of critters.", "One very effective tool against cockroaches will be boric acid.\n\nI put a teaspoon of that stuff in half a spray bottle (I'm guessing 100ml) and spray it along corners and edges where cockroaches are known to walk.\n\nIf I don't do it for a few weeks and resume...BAM! Cockroach death fest.\n\nBest of all, its pet safe.", "I hear if you put cornflour down the cockroaches eat it and it swells un inside and kills them. Or something like that." ]

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[ "Career change at 36 Heya Redditers. \n\nI am stuck and need some advice or just your thoughts on my issue. \n\nMy background.\n\nI have been in the same industry for 10 years as a sales consultant. I started studying for my BSC in IT a year ago because I wanted to change and felt stagnant. \n\nI have recently been promoted in my company to assistant manager and have found new vigor or purpose, and I am enjoing my new position. \n\n\nMy current circumstances.\n\nI am a 32 year old white male. Who will graduate in 2020. Then have to start at the bottom and work my way up again in the IT field, if I find work at the age of 36. \n\nHowever \n\nAt current place of work I could receive another promotion to manager in less than 2 years, and my goal would be to become a regional manager in 5 years. \n\nMy dilemma. \n\nDo I drop my IT bachelor degree in favor of something in the management field? \n\nOr do i press on because im in the \"honeymoon phase\"?\n\nThoughts, opinions?", "Career change at 36 Heya Redditers. \n\nI am stuck and need some advice or just your thoughts on my issue. \n\nMy background.\n\nI have been in the same industry for 10 years as a sales consultant. I started studying for my BSC in IT a year ago because I wanted to change and felt stagnant. \n\nI have recently been promoted in my company to assistant manager and have found new vigor or purpose, and I am enjoing my new position. \n\n\nMy current circumstances.\n\nI am a 32 year old white male. Who will graduate in 2020. Then have to start at the bottom and work my way up again in the IT field, if I find work at the age of 36. \n\nHowever \n\nAt current place of work I could receive another promotion to manager in less than 2 years, and my goal would be to become a regional manager in 5 years. \n\nMy dilemma. \n\nDo I drop my IT bachelor degree in favor of something in the management field? \n\nOr do i press on because im in the \"honeymoon phase\"?\n\nThoughts, opinions?", "Career change at 36 Heya Redditers. \n\nI am stuck and need some advice or just your thoughts on my issue. \n\nMy background.\n\nI have been in the same industry for 10 years as a sales consultant. I started studying for my BSC in IT a year ago because I wanted to change and felt stagnant. \n\nI have recently been promoted in my company to assistant manager and have found new vigor or purpose, and I am enjoing my new position. \n\n\nMy current circumstances.\n\nI am a 32 year old white male. Who will graduate in 2020. Then have to start at the bottom and work my way up again in the IT field, if I find work at the age of 36. \n\nHowever \n\nAt current place of work I could receive another promotion to manager in less than 2 years, and my goal would be to become a regional manager in 5 years. \n\nMy dilemma. \n\nDo I drop my IT bachelor degree in favor of something in the management field? \n\nOr do i press on because im in the \"honeymoon phase\"?\n\nThoughts, opinions?", "Career change at 36 Heya Redditers. \n\nI am stuck and need some advice or just your thoughts on my issue. \n\nMy background.\n\nI have been in the same industry for 10 years as a sales consultant. I started studying for my BSC in IT a year ago because I wanted to change and felt stagnant. \n\nI have recently been promoted in my company to assistant manager and have found new vigor or purpose, and I am enjoing my new position. \n\n\nMy current circumstances.\n\nI am a 32 year old white male. Who will graduate in 2020. Then have to start at the bottom and work my way up again in the IT field, if I find work at the age of 36. \n\nHowever \n\nAt current place of work I could receive another promotion to manager in less than 2 years, and my goal would be to become a regional manager in 5 years. \n\nMy dilemma. \n\nDo I drop my IT bachelor degree in favor of something in the management field? \n\nOr do i press on because im in the \"honeymoon phase\"?\n\nThoughts, opinions?", "Career change at 36 Heya Redditers. \n\nI am stuck and need some advice or just your thoughts on my issue. \n\nMy background.\n\nI have been in the same industry for 10 years as a sales consultant. I started studying for my BSC in IT a year ago because I wanted to change and felt stagnant. \n\nI have recently been promoted in my company to assistant manager and have found new vigor or purpose, and I am enjoing my new position. \n\n\nMy current circumstances.\n\nI am a 32 year old white male. Who will graduate in 2020. Then have to start at the bottom and work my way up again in the IT field, if I find work at the age of 36. \n\nHowever \n\nAt current place of work I could receive another promotion to manager in less than 2 years, and my goal would be to become a regional manager in 5 years. \n\nMy dilemma. \n\nDo I drop my IT bachelor degree in favor of something in the management field? \n\nOr do i press on because im in the \"honeymoon phase\"?\n\nThoughts, opinions?", "Career change at 36 Heya Redditers. \n\nI am stuck and need some advice or just your thoughts on my issue. \n\nMy background.\n\nI have been in the same industry for 10 years as a sales consultant. I started studying for my BSC in IT a year ago because I wanted to change and felt stagnant. \n\nI have recently been promoted in my company to assistant manager and have found new vigor or purpose, and I am enjoing my new position. \n\n\nMy current circumstances.\n\nI am a 32 year old white male. Who will graduate in 2020. Then have to start at the bottom and work my way up again in the IT field, if I find work at the age of 36. \n\nHowever \n\nAt current place of work I could receive another promotion to manager in less than 2 years, and my goal would be to become a regional manager in 5 years. \n\nMy dilemma. \n\nDo I drop my IT bachelor degree in favor of something in the management field? \n\nOr do i press on because im in the \"honeymoon phase\"?\n\nThoughts, opinions?", "Career change at 36 Heya Redditers. \n\nI am stuck and need some advice or just your thoughts on my issue. \n\nMy background.\n\nI have been in the same industry for 10 years as a sales consultant. I started studying for my BSC in IT a year ago because I wanted to change and felt stagnant. \n\nI have recently been promoted in my company to assistant manager and have found new vigor or purpose, and I am enjoing my new position. \n\n\nMy current circumstances.\n\nI am a 32 year old white male. Who will graduate in 2020. Then have to start at the bottom and work my way up again in the IT field, if I find work at the age of 36. \n\nHowever \n\nAt current place of work I could receive another promotion to manager in less than 2 years, and my goal would be to become a regional manager in 5 years. \n\nMy dilemma. \n\nDo I drop my IT bachelor degree in favor of something in the management field? \n\nOr do i press on because im in the \"honeymoon phase\"?\n\nThoughts, opinions?" ]

[ "keep your options open, meaning don't drop your studies just yet. grind it out in your job and see where it takes you, maybe it's a perfect position for you and you don't know it ...yet\n\nremember: it's not always about formal education, but what you bring to the table as a whole.\n\nin the end no one can make the decision for you. weight the options carefully and don't dismiss the gut feeling. ", "Okay, manager here. Time to use some of those skills you're picking up in management. Put your \"think like a manager\" hat on.\n\nIf you are thinking of doing job X for reason Y at a cost of four years and thousands of dollars in tuition, and other-job-to-do Z falls in your lap and ALSO gives you reason Y but allows you to save (if not earn) a lot of money, why in the fuck would you keep doing X?\n\nX is your BSC IT program. It's a job, don't think it isn't, and you pay into it rather than get money out of it.\n\nY, the reason, is vigor and purpose. \n\nZ is your recent assistant manager job.\n\nUnless IT is an absolute dream of yours or something, this seems completely cut and dried to me. I'd drop the IT stuff immediately. Only thing I'd do maybe is move over to an MBA program immediately if the thought is that it'll help with the regional management program.", "Just want to say, thanks for letting me talk it out with you all. It has really helped me make sense of mu current state. ", "What exactly do you want to do in IT? Be very specific because if it's some sort of app development you can entrepreneur that in your spare time while you are regional manager in sales. \n\nIn fact, the sales experience would be a huge asset to the sale of the app after development. Damn, you are in a good spot if you wanted to develop an app. Think on it. ", "I left a decent management position to pursue something I was interested in. I thought my so and I had saved enough and planned well for our mortgage etc. I was wrong. \n\nDay to day I am indeed happier. However financially I am much more stressed and it does affect me. I was a bit impulsive and brash. Plan to need two times as much as you think you will need at least. I screwed up.\n\nI think I will make it out of the tunnel but I wish I had spent more time preparing and saving. \n\nBest of luck no matter what you decide, life is kinda scary isn't it?!", "Do a SIMA test, or something similar. Find out what you really want, what's underneath IT (developing apps) or management. \n\nhttp://simainternational.com/powered-by-sima/\n\nMaybe it's more about creating things than programming. Why not get a degree in management? ", "As somebody who was forced to change careers at 34 all I can say is expect to struggle, especially financially. \n\n" ]

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[ "Tips on how can i move to europe? \n\nI'm 25 years and I'm from a 3rd world country where nothing works for me plus i really don't feel like i fit in the community , i have a bachelor's degree in mass communication plus i have enough experience in many fields related to Media .\nI wanna move to a different country but i really don't know how or from where to start whether it's job offer or studying course so can anyone please tell what's the best way to start Searching or how i should do it ?", "Tips on how can i move to europe? \n\nI'm 25 years and I'm from a 3rd world country where nothing works for me plus i really don't feel like i fit in the community , i have a bachelor's degree in mass communication plus i have enough experience in many fields related to Media .\nI wanna move to a different country but i really don't know how or from where to start whether it's job offer or studying course so can anyone please tell what's the best way to start Searching or how i should do it ?", "Tips on how can i move to europe? \n\nI'm 25 years and I'm from a 3rd world country where nothing works for me plus i really don't feel like i fit in the community , i have a bachelor's degree in mass communication plus i have enough experience in many fields related to Media .\nI wanna move to a different country but i really don't know how or from where to start whether it's job offer or studying course so can anyone please tell what's the best way to start Searching or how i should do it ?", "Tips on how can i move to europe? \n\nI'm 25 years and I'm from a 3rd world country where nothing works for me plus i really don't feel like i fit in the community , i have a bachelor's degree in mass communication plus i have enough experience in many fields related to Media .\nI wanna move to a different country but i really don't know how or from where to start whether it's job offer or studying course so can anyone please tell what's the best way to start Searching or how i should do it ?" ]

[ "I would think you'd want to visit country first before moving. Why not visit staying at hostels and talk to people there. Find out ahead of time what's involved in getting work visas and citizenship. Find out if there is work to be had.", "Former digital nomad here. You can live anywhere in the world you want.\n\nThe first thing you’ll want is a remote job. Secondly, a reliable laptop. If it’s possible to secure the laptop first, great.\n\nWork that job for 3 months before moving, save as much money as you possibly can, purchase a passport & buy a plane ticket to the country of your choosing.\n\nYou will want to book an AirBnB on a month-to-month basis until you find an apartment of your own. You may have to switch AirBnBs monthly, hopefully not.\n\nThere are details you’ll have to work out. The first issue that comes to mind is securing a visa. That could be a challenge, but it’s possible.\n\nThis is all general advice, I don’t know your personal situation. Wish you the best.", "If you’re a citizen of a country colonized by Spain you qualify for exp", "If you're from a third world country, one of the best migration paths is to study abroad. Look up masters degrees with scholarships in your field, make sure you meet the requirements and apply. It gives you the opportunity to study in the country of your choice and figure out if it's a place you'd want to live and work." ]

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[ "Get rid of the feeling after throwing up Anyone know a way to get rid of that sickly feeling in your tummy after throwing up/almost throwing up?", "Get rid of the feeling after throwing up Anyone know a way to get rid of that sickly feeling in your tummy after throwing up/almost throwing up?", "Get rid of the feeling after throwing up Anyone know a way to get rid of that sickly feeling in your tummy after throwing up/almost throwing up?", "Get rid of the feeling after throwing up Anyone know a way to get rid of that sickly feeling in your tummy after throwing up/almost throwing up?", "Get rid of the feeling after throwing up Anyone know a way to get rid of that sickly feeling in your tummy after throwing up/almost throwing up?", "Get rid of the feeling after throwing up Anyone know a way to get rid of that sickly feeling in your tummy after throwing up/almost throwing up?" ]

[ "First off if you're gonna go for it, finish the job. If you're hucking up because something disagreed with you, then getting it all out is going to bring you serious relief.", "Before you throw up, drink a glass of water with 1/2tsp or so of baking soda.\n\nAll the acid in your stomach will be gone. If/when you do throw up, it's all water (and chunks of whatever), no burning throat, no burning nostrils.\n\nAfter you're finished throwing up, drink another glass with baking soda in it. Your stomach will be quiet.\n\n**Note:** Do not eat 30 min before or after drinking this...there's no acid in your stomach to digest anything. Fluids only.", "I tend to drink juice or smoothies, slowly, if I must. Tea with honey helps too. That's just my experience. ", "Chew gum, it keeps your tongue busy and doesn't allow your gag reflex to respond. My girlfriend taught me that one when we were cleaning her drunk roommates puke.", "Brushing your teeth might help. Of course if you throw up you should always brush your teeth, but mint is good for an upset stomach. Sometimes when I have motion sickness, I pull out the little toothbrush and travel toothpaste I keep in my purse and do a quick brush. Or I chew on mint gum (that's not super sweet) and spit it out after a couple minutes. ", "As someone who used to suffer regularly from reflex and throws up regularly because my body hates me, I personally chose to use the hooker mouthwash/gargle method (when possible). Depending on why your throwing up, adjust the recipe.\n\nThrowing up from flu/cold-like illness (and have a sore throat): Honey, Lemon and vodka.\n\nThrowing up just because: Straight vodka, or if you're feeling fancy, a minty schnaps. \n\nThe spit or swallow is up to your discretion. I recommend the first rinse to spit. " ]

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[ "How to fix my apartment internet I just moved into an apartment that provides free \"internet\" as part of their rent package. Only problem is, the speed sucks and the reliability is abysmal. The network has been down for 6 hours now with no end in sight. Supposedly they use Verizon, but when I called Verizon to see if I can get a personal connection installed, they said that high-speed internet isn't available at my address!\n\nI am an avid gamer, so obviously this is a huge issue for me because I can't play games online. I would also prefer an extremely high download speed. For these reasons I don't really see satellite or anything as a viable solution. Any tips?", "How to fix my apartment internet I just moved into an apartment that provides free \"internet\" as part of their rent package. Only problem is, the speed sucks and the reliability is abysmal. The network has been down for 6 hours now with no end in sight. Supposedly they use Verizon, but when I called Verizon to see if I can get a personal connection installed, they said that high-speed internet isn't available at my address!\n\nI am an avid gamer, so obviously this is a huge issue for me because I can't play games online. I would also prefer an extremely high download speed. For these reasons I don't really see satellite or anything as a viable solution. Any tips?", "How to fix my apartment internet I just moved into an apartment that provides free \"internet\" as part of their rent package. Only problem is, the speed sucks and the reliability is abysmal. The network has been down for 6 hours now with no end in sight. Supposedly they use Verizon, but when I called Verizon to see if I can get a personal connection installed, they said that high-speed internet isn't available at my address!\n\nI am an avid gamer, so obviously this is a huge issue for me because I can't play games online. I would also prefer an extremely high download speed. For these reasons I don't really see satellite or anything as a viable solution. Any tips?" ]

[ "so without access to the router or modem, there isn't much you can do without the help/access of the apartment's IT guy... best bet is to find if its possible to get your own setup through an alternative ISP at this point", "I'm not sure if this is legit, but I saw it a while back:\n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lG5cEik2ABY\n\nI'm not guaranteeing it will work and I personally doubt it, but it might be worth a shot. Aside from this, you'll just have to wait the lease out and find somewhere with better internet. Patience is key here. I am an avid gamer too but due to having to move elsewhere for studies my internet is now capped and at a slow speed. I haven't played regularly since 2013. You become used to things eventually. Might even pick up a new hobby. As for download speed, why not see if your network of friends/colleagues can allow you to copy their shows/movies/etc? Where I live everyone copies from everyone else and few people actually download things themselves.", "I take it everyone has their own split off the single trunk coming into the building, and then a router off that?\n\nIf possible, I would run a wired connection from your Ethernet jack to your computer and check speeds. If it is ok that way, either resign yourself to wired, or pick up a new router. \n\nAny chance it could have to do with the frequency on your router? We had issues in our old apt building with our own connection due to frequency issues from our surrounding neighbors' routers. \n\nBottom line, though....if it is a single trunk, with too many splits, there isn't much you can do unless you can afford a connection through a cell provider....which if you could, would make me wonder why you rent.... Lol" ]

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[ "How to get your money back when a friend you lent it to, refuse to return? So i gave money to one of my friends (not anymore) when he said he need it for medical bill for his family member. He promised to return it, but now he has refused to pay it back. Later i got to know that there was no medical bill whatsoever and my money was spent on a new phone. \n\nThere is no proof that i lent him the money as i gave in cash. So legally i cant prove this transaction. What can i do to get my money back ?", "How to get your money back when a friend you lent it to, refuse to return? So i gave money to one of my friends (not anymore) when he said he need it for medical bill for his family member. He promised to return it, but now he has refused to pay it back. Later i got to know that there was no medical bill whatsoever and my money was spent on a new phone. \n\nThere is no proof that i lent him the money as i gave in cash. So legally i cant prove this transaction. What can i do to get my money back ?", "How to get your money back when a friend you lent it to, refuse to return? So i gave money to one of my friends (not anymore) when he said he need it for medical bill for his family member. He promised to return it, but now he has refused to pay it back. Later i got to know that there was no medical bill whatsoever and my money was spent on a new phone. \n\nThere is no proof that i lent him the money as i gave in cash. So legally i cant prove this transaction. What can i do to get my money back ?", "How to get your money back when a friend you lent it to, refuse to return? So i gave money to one of my friends (not anymore) when he said he need it for medical bill for his family member. He promised to return it, but now he has refused to pay it back. Later i got to know that there was no medical bill whatsoever and my money was spent on a new phone. \n\nThere is no proof that i lent him the money as i gave in cash. So legally i cant prove this transaction. What can i do to get my money back ?", "How to get your money back when a friend you lent it to, refuse to return? So i gave money to one of my friends (not anymore) when he said he need it for medical bill for his family member. He promised to return it, but now he has refused to pay it back. Later i got to know that there was no medical bill whatsoever and my money was spent on a new phone. \n\nThere is no proof that i lent him the money as i gave in cash. So legally i cant prove this transaction. What can i do to get my money back ?", "How to get your money back when a friend you lent it to, refuse to return? So i gave money to one of my friends (not anymore) when he said he need it for medical bill for his family member. He promised to return it, but now he has refused to pay it back. Later i got to know that there was no medical bill whatsoever and my money was spent on a new phone. \n\nThere is no proof that i lent him the money as i gave in cash. So legally i cant prove this transaction. What can i do to get my money back ?", "How to get your money back when a friend you lent it to, refuse to return? So i gave money to one of my friends (not anymore) when he said he need it for medical bill for his family member. He promised to return it, but now he has refused to pay it back. Later i got to know that there was no medical bill whatsoever and my money was spent on a new phone. \n\nThere is no proof that i lent him the money as i gave in cash. So legally i cant prove this transaction. What can i do to get my money back ?", "How to get your money back when a friend you lent it to, refuse to return? So i gave money to one of my friends (not anymore) when he said he need it for medical bill for his family member. He promised to return it, but now he has refused to pay it back. Later i got to know that there was no medical bill whatsoever and my money was spent on a new phone. \n\nThere is no proof that i lent him the money as i gave in cash. So legally i cant prove this transaction. What can i do to get my money back ?", "How to get your money back when a friend you lent it to, refuse to return? So i gave money to one of my friends (not anymore) when he said he need it for medical bill for his family member. He promised to return it, but now he has refused to pay it back. Later i got to know that there was no medical bill whatsoever and my money was spent on a new phone. \n\nThere is no proof that i lent him the money as i gave in cash. So legally i cant prove this transaction. What can i do to get my money back ?", "How to get your money back when a friend you lent it to, refuse to return? So i gave money to one of my friends (not anymore) when he said he need it for medical bill for his family member. He promised to return it, but now he has refused to pay it back. Later i got to know that there was no medical bill whatsoever and my money was spent on a new phone. \n\nThere is no proof that i lent him the money as i gave in cash. So legally i cant prove this transaction. What can i do to get my money back ?", "How to get your money back when a friend you lent it to, refuse to return? So i gave money to one of my friends (not anymore) when he said he need it for medical bill for his family member. He promised to return it, but now he has refused to pay it back. Later i got to know that there was no medical bill whatsoever and my money was spent on a new phone. \n\nThere is no proof that i lent him the money as i gave in cash. So legally i cant prove this transaction. What can i do to get my money back ?", "How to get your money back when a friend you lent it to, refuse to return? So i gave money to one of my friends (not anymore) when he said he need it for medical bill for his family member. He promised to return it, but now he has refused to pay it back. Later i got to know that there was no medical bill whatsoever and my money was spent on a new phone. \n\nThere is no proof that i lent him the money as i gave in cash. So legally i cant prove this transaction. What can i do to get my money back ?", "How to get your money back when a friend you lent it to, refuse to return? So i gave money to one of my friends (not anymore) when he said he need it for medical bill for his family member. He promised to return it, but now he has refused to pay it back. Later i got to know that there was no medical bill whatsoever and my money was spent on a new phone. \n\nThere is no proof that i lent him the money as i gave in cash. So legally i cant prove this transaction. What can i do to get my money back ?", "How to get your money back when a friend you lent it to, refuse to return? So i gave money to one of my friends (not anymore) when he said he need it for medical bill for his family member. He promised to return it, but now he has refused to pay it back. Later i got to know that there was no medical bill whatsoever and my money was spent on a new phone. \n\nThere is no proof that i lent him the money as i gave in cash. So legally i cant prove this transaction. What can i do to get my money back ?", "How to get your money back when a friend you lent it to, refuse to return? So i gave money to one of my friends (not anymore) when he said he need it for medical bill for his family member. He promised to return it, but now he has refused to pay it back. Later i got to know that there was no medical bill whatsoever and my money was spent on a new phone. \n\nThere is no proof that i lent him the money as i gave in cash. So legally i cant prove this transaction. What can i do to get my money back ?", "How to get your money back when a friend you lent it to, refuse to return? So i gave money to one of my friends (not anymore) when he said he need it for medical bill for his family member. He promised to return it, but now he has refused to pay it back. Later i got to know that there was no medical bill whatsoever and my money was spent on a new phone. \n\nThere is no proof that i lent him the money as i gave in cash. So legally i cant prove this transaction. What can i do to get my money back ?", "How to get your money back when a friend you lent it to, refuse to return? So i gave money to one of my friends (not anymore) when he said he need it for medical bill for his family member. He promised to return it, but now he has refused to pay it back. Later i got to know that there was no medical bill whatsoever and my money was spent on a new phone. \n\nThere is no proof that i lent him the money as i gave in cash. So legally i cant prove this transaction. What can i do to get my money back ?" ]

[ "Some lessons in life are more expensive than others. Never mix friendship/family with money. No good ever comes of it.", "[\"Look at it this way, it cost you $20 to get rid of him.\"](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hAuSTQUa3tM) -Sonny", "Make sure if it's a larger amount of capital to always have them write a contract saying they'll return their loan from you. It makes them responsible for paying you back otherwise you have evidence in small claims court. If they need it, are a friend, there should be no problem then. It's your money, not theirs, and you willing to aid them they should be understanding of such a request. ", "Sounds like you learned a valuable life lesson about lending money. Maybe you can still salvage the friendship, but don't lend money to that person again. ", "I found the best way is to arrange to stay over and repo/borrow something out of his house without him finding out immediately a laptop or touchpad.", "A good rule of thumb is don't lend money you aren't comfortable with never getting back. Most people are decent and will pay you back, but you need to be okay with the possibility of that not happening before you do.", "What I would do is threaten with legal action. Even if you don't intend to, sometimes it is enough. Also, never give money without leaving a trail. Tell them you don't want to, but if you have to you will take this to court. They're essentially stealing your money and it's not right. ", "LPT: If your friend needs to pay for something and asks you to borrow the money from you pay for that thing yourself.", "Don't be a pussy. Turn him out. If he's got a mouth for talking on his new phone he's got a mouth for sucking dick at truck stops. Keep the pimp hand strong.", "you'll never see that money again. stop seeing the friend, as (A) it will help keep you from getting bitter and (B) you know now that he's not worthy of your friendship. (C) tell everyone about him.", "There's a thing called a baseball bat and a thing called Italians.\n\nBoth go well together and are designed for situations like these.", "My 3 rules for loaning money:\n1) don't loan money to family.\n2) don't loan money to anyone who doesn't know your middle name.\n3) don't loan money if losing that same amount of money would cause you great distress.\n", "Let it go man because it's gone.\n\nNo proof means you don't even have legal recourse.\n\nConsider it a good life lesson.", "If it's enough money, you can always file a lawsuit and take him to small claims court. \n\nThat, or call Judge Judy.", "I have a policy: I don't lend money, I give money. If I make it a gift, I feel much better about being able to help them with no strings attached. Also, if I can't afford to give them money (i.e., I need to be paid back because I am short on funds), then I decide against it. Better to preserve the friendship by not letting money come between you.", "I don't remember the exact phrase, but it goes something along the lines of \"It's worth $200 dollars to learn how trusting a friend is\"", "Before anything, I would have played the friend card, and look genuinely disappointed that your friend used it on a phone and lied to you. That might have increased my chances. Then, tell the closest family member or friend. They probably know that he couldn't afford the phone, so they might be wondering why he has it." ]

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[ "Making an ugly apartment feel cozy and homely I am a student living off campus for the last year. I've always felt like my apartment felt really dead and boring and it sometimes really messes with my ability to study or relax. In about a week, I will be moving to a new apartment which is much cheaper quality and looks even more depressing. Is there any cheap way to improve the living conditions of an ugly apartment?", "Making an ugly apartment feel cozy and homely I am a student living off campus for the last year. I've always felt like my apartment felt really dead and boring and it sometimes really messes with my ability to study or relax. In about a week, I will be moving to a new apartment which is much cheaper quality and looks even more depressing. Is there any cheap way to improve the living conditions of an ugly apartment?", "Making an ugly apartment feel cozy and homely I am a student living off campus for the last year. I've always felt like my apartment felt really dead and boring and it sometimes really messes with my ability to study or relax. In about a week, I will be moving to a new apartment which is much cheaper quality and looks even more depressing. Is there any cheap way to improve the living conditions of an ugly apartment?", "Making an ugly apartment feel cozy and homely I am a student living off campus for the last year. I've always felt like my apartment felt really dead and boring and it sometimes really messes with my ability to study or relax. In about a week, I will be moving to a new apartment which is much cheaper quality and looks even more depressing. Is there any cheap way to improve the living conditions of an ugly apartment?", "Making an ugly apartment feel cozy and homely I am a student living off campus for the last year. I've always felt like my apartment felt really dead and boring and it sometimes really messes with my ability to study or relax. In about a week, I will be moving to a new apartment which is much cheaper quality and looks even more depressing. Is there any cheap way to improve the living conditions of an ugly apartment?", "Making an ugly apartment feel cozy and homely I am a student living off campus for the last year. I've always felt like my apartment felt really dead and boring and it sometimes really messes with my ability to study or relax. In about a week, I will be moving to a new apartment which is much cheaper quality and looks even more depressing. Is there any cheap way to improve the living conditions of an ugly apartment?" ]

[ "Get a plant or two. There are plenty of nearly indestructible houseplants that require very little care, improve your air quality and generally make any room more comfortable.", "-Actual lamps instead of overhead lighting. \n-Curtains. \n-Art on the walls that isn't posters. \n- If you're allowed to paint and are planning on being there for a while, consider painting the room you use the most.\n- Clean the inevitable plastic blinds. If there are none, consider the temporary paper ones. They actual look better than the plastic ones!\n\nHope that helps!", "Curtains and rugs will greatly warm up a place. Go to a discount store like Ross, TJ Maxx, or Marshalls to get these items if you're short on cash. ", "Buy as little as possible...all the home stuff you accumulate during college is junk. It also makes each move to a new apartment that much more difficult. Keep it simple and clean, that's all you need. Then spend that money outside of the apartment studying at a nice coffee shop, hang out at a friends place or even on campus.\n\nIf you're home watching TV, just dim the lights. That makes any room look better! ", "Light some candles or scentsy burners, makes a nice light and adds a calming scent to study or relax.", "I hate to break it to you, but the widely used definition of homely is actually \"ugly\". So you are in essence asking how to make your ugly apartment feel cozy and more ugly. Lol sorry OP." ]

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[ "Got a new puppy. 3 months old. Any and all advice is welcome. I had one dog before but I was too little when it was a puppy to remember anything. My girlfriend has trained dogs before and knows a lot. I am not really worried about training exactly, but I am always welcome for more advice or tips. \n\nIf you have any \"secret\" tip that helped you big time with your dog, I'd love to hear it. ", "Got a new puppy. 3 months old. Any and all advice is welcome. I had one dog before but I was too little when it was a puppy to remember anything. My girlfriend has trained dogs before and knows a lot. I am not really worried about training exactly, but I am always welcome for more advice or tips. \n\nIf you have any \"secret\" tip that helped you big time with your dog, I'd love to hear it. ", "Got a new puppy. 3 months old. Any and all advice is welcome. I had one dog before but I was too little when it was a puppy to remember anything. My girlfriend has trained dogs before and knows a lot. I am not really worried about training exactly, but I am always welcome for more advice or tips. \n\nIf you have any \"secret\" tip that helped you big time with your dog, I'd love to hear it. ", "Got a new puppy. 3 months old. Any and all advice is welcome. I had one dog before but I was too little when it was a puppy to remember anything. My girlfriend has trained dogs before and knows a lot. I am not really worried about training exactly, but I am always welcome for more advice or tips. \n\nIf you have any \"secret\" tip that helped you big time with your dog, I'd love to hear it. ", "Got a new puppy. 3 months old. Any and all advice is welcome. I had one dog before but I was too little when it was a puppy to remember anything. My girlfriend has trained dogs before and knows a lot. I am not really worried about training exactly, but I am always welcome for more advice or tips. \n\nIf you have any \"secret\" tip that helped you big time with your dog, I'd love to hear it. ", "Got a new puppy. 3 months old. Any and all advice is welcome. I had one dog before but I was too little when it was a puppy to remember anything. My girlfriend has trained dogs before and knows a lot. I am not really worried about training exactly, but I am always welcome for more advice or tips. \n\nIf you have any \"secret\" tip that helped you big time with your dog, I'd love to hear it. " ]

[ "My biggest tip is to get it microchipped asap and make sure to get it registered with a database.\n\n\nIf it ever goes missing and gets found they will be able to scan it and reunite you", "congratulations and welcome to the wonderful world of pokemon training! ...err I mean animal companionship training! I will just spit out things that I feel are the most important/enjoyable of training .\n\n1. Use a command word for going outside ( I use Parktime) that you only use in conjunction with going bathroom outside \n\n2. Praise and positive reinforcement- I feel using a mix of treats and jelly belly ( what I call giving my dog belly rubs and extra pets and positive words and tone, make a world of difference and not only lay the frame work down for what you are teaching them now, but also to let them know when you are teaching them something new since you have acted this way before\n\n3. Hand signals and wait- I started using hand signals in conjunction with verbal commands ( sit, stay, wait, down, return) not really sure if it helps them learn faster but it is kinda awesome to be setting out dinner for them and just using hand signals and seeing your dog being a good doggo out the corner of your eye.\n\n4. Leash control- Depending on breed , you may end up with a rocket ship on a rope if not properly trained , get them used to it and get them used to walking with you, you are taking them for a walk, not the other way around!\n\nthose are just some of my personal favorite things I prefer to focus on when getting a new dog, best of luck and may they always drop the ball at your feet ! ", "Stern voice \"NOooo\" when reprimanding. \nLove all of the time. \nDo not spoil them. \nFeed them well. \nCLEAN them. Often. \nTalk to them like you would a friend. They understand you more you talk to them. \nWhen friends visit, tell them the 3 things you're working on with the dog and how to react properly to the dog. \"Good dog\" / \"NOooo\". \nCONSISTENCY \nWhen they're crying, whining, barking - ask them what it is you can do?\nTell them you love them all of the time and thank them for companionship. When it's time for them to go, remember how much happiness and love you have shared. They won't forget. \nChoose your battles. They are going to do a lot of things wrong in the beginning. Don't be upset all of the time - if you are. Maybe dog not good. Get a dumb cat. \nWalk. WALK. Run. Bring them out. Socialize them. \nHave a nice vet. If you don't like the vet, go to new one. Again consistency. \nFigure out what toys they like and if after a couple weeks they still like it, get extras and change it up. ", "Re-direction is key when they do something wrong. Say \"No\" firmly and direct their attention elsewhere. Remember dwelling on anything won't help, the dog doesn't understand. Always better to underdicipline than over. If you are constantly nagging your dog for every little thing they may learn to ignore you. Again, I usually choose redirection but if I want my dog to really know I'm not happy, I will just put my back to her and ignore. Do this for only 20-30 seconds. Accidents happen. If you find one later in the day do not dicipline at all. Unless you correct behavior in 20 seconds of it happening, it has no affect. Gl!", "Make sure everything is put away and up high. If you leave your shoes out, they will be destroyed. Don't leave the remote on the coffee table. Basically, if the pup can reach it, it will.", "I've heard that new puppies will often bite when they are teething. Also, find a quality brand of treats your dog likes." ]

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[ "How to keep books open on the desk while you study without having to hold them down manually, without damaging the book and without taking much space? The way I do it is placing a weight (normally a bigger book) at the corner that insists on folding back, but this often takes a lot of useful space. I figured out the people from the internet could have a good idea on how to fix this.\n\nThis is the way I'm currently doing it: http://i.imgur.com/wUoKa.jpg", "How to keep books open on the desk while you study without having to hold them down manually, without damaging the book and without taking much space? The way I do it is placing a weight (normally a bigger book) at the corner that insists on folding back, but this often takes a lot of useful space. I figured out the people from the internet could have a good idea on how to fix this.\n\nThis is the way I'm currently doing it: http://i.imgur.com/wUoKa.jpg", "How to keep books open on the desk while you study without having to hold them down manually, without damaging the book and without taking much space? The way I do it is placing a weight (normally a bigger book) at the corner that insists on folding back, but this often takes a lot of useful space. I figured out the people from the internet could have a good idea on how to fix this.\n\nThis is the way I'm currently doing it: http://i.imgur.com/wUoKa.jpg" ]

[ "[Book weights can be pretty useful. Totally not a loophole way to sell/carry blackjacks legally.](http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B000Y4WWZ8)", "Search \"transparent book stand\" on Amazon, if you have about $20. I love mine...it's the best money I've ever spent on Amazon. In addition to keeping textbook pages open, it holds the book upright so I'm not hunched over the desk. You could also search for cookbook stands.", "Pyrex baking dish? Pita for page turns, but heavy and transparent. Also stops you spilling stuff on your book.." ]

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[ "Insulate a window against the cold My room is too damn cold.\n\nSo, the window is tall (3' off the floor, all the way up to the ceiling). It's drafty, single-pane, and I hate it. I rent the room, and the landlord caulked around the frame, but there's still a decent draft coming in. She's pretty awful about doing maintenance stuff, so I'm ready to DIY this sucker.\n\nWhat are some low-cost, low-damage (i.e. renter-friendly) options I have? What has worked in the past?\n\nThanks!", "Insulate a window against the cold My room is too damn cold.\n\nSo, the window is tall (3' off the floor, all the way up to the ceiling). It's drafty, single-pane, and I hate it. I rent the room, and the landlord caulked around the frame, but there's still a decent draft coming in. She's pretty awful about doing maintenance stuff, so I'm ready to DIY this sucker.\n\nWhat are some low-cost, low-damage (i.e. renter-friendly) options I have? What has worked in the past?\n\nThanks!", "Insulate a window against the cold My room is too damn cold.\n\nSo, the window is tall (3' off the floor, all the way up to the ceiling). It's drafty, single-pane, and I hate it. I rent the room, and the landlord caulked around the frame, but there's still a decent draft coming in. She's pretty awful about doing maintenance stuff, so I'm ready to DIY this sucker.\n\nWhat are some low-cost, low-damage (i.e. renter-friendly) options I have? What has worked in the past?\n\nThanks!", "Insulate a window against the cold My room is too damn cold.\n\nSo, the window is tall (3' off the floor, all the way up to the ceiling). It's drafty, single-pane, and I hate it. I rent the room, and the landlord caulked around the frame, but there's still a decent draft coming in. She's pretty awful about doing maintenance stuff, so I'm ready to DIY this sucker.\n\nWhat are some low-cost, low-damage (i.e. renter-friendly) options I have? What has worked in the past?\n\nThanks!", "Insulate a window against the cold My room is too damn cold.\n\nSo, the window is tall (3' off the floor, all the way up to the ceiling). It's drafty, single-pane, and I hate it. I rent the room, and the landlord caulked around the frame, but there's still a decent draft coming in. She's pretty awful about doing maintenance stuff, so I'm ready to DIY this sucker.\n\nWhat are some low-cost, low-damage (i.e. renter-friendly) options I have? What has worked in the past?\n\nThanks!", "Insulate a window against the cold My room is too damn cold.\n\nSo, the window is tall (3' off the floor, all the way up to the ceiling). It's drafty, single-pane, and I hate it. I rent the room, and the landlord caulked around the frame, but there's still a decent draft coming in. She's pretty awful about doing maintenance stuff, so I'm ready to DIY this sucker.\n\nWhat are some low-cost, low-damage (i.e. renter-friendly) options I have? What has worked in the past?\n\nThanks!" ]

[ "in the window recessed in the wall at all? \n\npressure mount some batons to hold some plastic sheeting over the window, leaving an inch or two between the sheet and the window. ", "Yeah that plastic film is great. Cut a piece about 1 inch larger than the opening. Then clean the galas and the surrounding wall. Apply the double sided tape to all sides of the surrounding wall or window far,e. Apply the plastic film as neatly as possible. Try and get it on without too many wrinkles and fairly tight. Don't worry too much though since the last step is to use a hair dryer to shrink the film. This will remove most wrinkles and make the film tight. Make sure to put the hair dryer on the highest setting and hold it about 2 inches from the film. Makes sure to cover the edges first. ", "any home depot or hardware store will have plastic window insulation kits.. they work great.. about $15 and it comes with everything you need.. and a very clear plastic.. if you applied it to paint, come springtime when it's ready to remove it, just peel the tape off verrrry carefully or it will pull paint off.", "While bubble wrap will work for one pane glass, top insulate the entire window frame you need this:\nhttp://i.imgur.com/BeQAl.jpg\nIts window insulation wrap, you use a hair dryer to shrink it. I used outdoor duct tape it make it stick to the brick wall otherwise it comes with its own tape.\n\nMost air leaks come from gaps and holes around the window frame, while a uninsulated glass will loose heat a leaky window frame will cause more heat loss. \n\nTo test for leaks, take a lighter and move it slowly around all the gaps and frames, if the flame starts jumping you got a leak around that area. Depends on how much time you got you can just will those gaps with some white silicone. But covering entire windows with plastic film like that is the best solution. Besides fixing large air leaks.", "Here is an idea that _juuust_ might work: \n \nGo out into the wilderness. Find a wild bear. Kill the bear with your bare hands. Skin the bear. Cut the bear hide into pieces that are 1 inch wider than your windows, both vertically and horizontally. Hammer the hide over your windows. ", "There's also window insulators you can buy at walmart for ten bucks. Takes a blowdryer and a bit of your time." ]

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[ "How do I stop feeling so tired all the time? I work as a teacher and every day I am battling being tired at work. Yawning in front of my students is not a good look. I always sleep somewhere between 6-8 hours, and try as often as possible to turn off all electronic screens an hour or so before bed and read until I fall asleep.\n\nSometimes I wake up in the middle of the night, but usually get back to sleep a few minutes later. But still, I wake up tired, go to work tired, come home tired, and then don't get any house chores/revision (I'm learning Japanese) done. Even playing games becomes a chore when I'm tired, so sometimes I just sit on my phone all evening. I don't want that to be the norm.\n\nSo, what can I do to give myself a better night's sleep and be more awake during the day? I'm spending way too much money on coffee.", "How do I stop feeling so tired all the time? I work as a teacher and every day I am battling being tired at work. Yawning in front of my students is not a good look. I always sleep somewhere between 6-8 hours, and try as often as possible to turn off all electronic screens an hour or so before bed and read until I fall asleep.\n\nSometimes I wake up in the middle of the night, but usually get back to sleep a few minutes later. But still, I wake up tired, go to work tired, come home tired, and then don't get any house chores/revision (I'm learning Japanese) done. Even playing games becomes a chore when I'm tired, so sometimes I just sit on my phone all evening. I don't want that to be the norm.\n\nSo, what can I do to give myself a better night's sleep and be more awake during the day? I'm spending way too much money on coffee.", "How do I stop feeling so tired all the time? I work as a teacher and every day I am battling being tired at work. Yawning in front of my students is not a good look. I always sleep somewhere between 6-8 hours, and try as often as possible to turn off all electronic screens an hour or so before bed and read until I fall asleep.\n\nSometimes I wake up in the middle of the night, but usually get back to sleep a few minutes later. But still, I wake up tired, go to work tired, come home tired, and then don't get any house chores/revision (I'm learning Japanese) done. Even playing games becomes a chore when I'm tired, so sometimes I just sit on my phone all evening. I don't want that to be the norm.\n\nSo, what can I do to give myself a better night's sleep and be more awake during the day? I'm spending way too much money on coffee.", "How do I stop feeling so tired all the time? I work as a teacher and every day I am battling being tired at work. Yawning in front of my students is not a good look. I always sleep somewhere between 6-8 hours, and try as often as possible to turn off all electronic screens an hour or so before bed and read until I fall asleep.\n\nSometimes I wake up in the middle of the night, but usually get back to sleep a few minutes later. But still, I wake up tired, go to work tired, come home tired, and then don't get any house chores/revision (I'm learning Japanese) done. Even playing games becomes a chore when I'm tired, so sometimes I just sit on my phone all evening. I don't want that to be the norm.\n\nSo, what can I do to give myself a better night's sleep and be more awake during the day? I'm spending way too much money on coffee.", "How do I stop feeling so tired all the time? I work as a teacher and every day I am battling being tired at work. Yawning in front of my students is not a good look. I always sleep somewhere between 6-8 hours, and try as often as possible to turn off all electronic screens an hour or so before bed and read until I fall asleep.\n\nSometimes I wake up in the middle of the night, but usually get back to sleep a few minutes later. But still, I wake up tired, go to work tired, come home tired, and then don't get any house chores/revision (I'm learning Japanese) done. Even playing games becomes a chore when I'm tired, so sometimes I just sit on my phone all evening. I don't want that to be the norm.\n\nSo, what can I do to give myself a better night's sleep and be more awake during the day? I'm spending way too much money on coffee.", "How do I stop feeling so tired all the time? I work as a teacher and every day I am battling being tired at work. Yawning in front of my students is not a good look. I always sleep somewhere between 6-8 hours, and try as often as possible to turn off all electronic screens an hour or so before bed and read until I fall asleep.\n\nSometimes I wake up in the middle of the night, but usually get back to sleep a few minutes later. But still, I wake up tired, go to work tired, come home tired, and then don't get any house chores/revision (I'm learning Japanese) done. Even playing games becomes a chore when I'm tired, so sometimes I just sit on my phone all evening. I don't want that to be the norm.\n\nSo, what can I do to give myself a better night's sleep and be more awake during the day? I'm spending way too much money on coffee.", "How do I stop feeling so tired all the time? I work as a teacher and every day I am battling being tired at work. Yawning in front of my students is not a good look. I always sleep somewhere between 6-8 hours, and try as often as possible to turn off all electronic screens an hour or so before bed and read until I fall asleep.\n\nSometimes I wake up in the middle of the night, but usually get back to sleep a few minutes later. But still, I wake up tired, go to work tired, come home tired, and then don't get any house chores/revision (I'm learning Japanese) done. Even playing games becomes a chore when I'm tired, so sometimes I just sit on my phone all evening. I don't want that to be the norm.\n\nSo, what can I do to give myself a better night's sleep and be more awake during the day? I'm spending way too much money on coffee." ]

[ "This may sound counterintuitive, but do some rigorous exercise every day. If you hate the idea of doing cardio, remember exercise can be just fast walking an hour or so outside. The tiring out of your body in the waking hours will help you sleep more soundly and restfully at night, which will invigorate your days. ", "I am not sure in regards to quality personally as I too am a pretty poor sleeper, but in my experience caffeine pills are much cheaper than coffee. Also closer to calorie free, if you are a person who loads coffee with cream, sugar and syrups. \n\nAdd: have you been tested for sleep apnea? Do you get a little exercise every day? Depression, anxiety or thyroid issues?", "Too much caffeine can easily cause a cycle. You drink caffeine to feel awake but too much keeps you up at night, which makes you more tired the next day so you add more caffeine... etc.\n\nTry cutting out all caffeine after 12pm. You'll get the morning boost you need to get going but also have enough time to work the caffeine out of your system before bedtime.", "If your male have a doctor check your testosterone! How long have you had your mattress? There are many things that could be causing you to be tired. It took me sometime to get used too but I wake up with my first alarm and I would feel better than If I hit the snooze. ", "If I may summarize some of the opinions and my opinions thereof:\n\n1.) It sounds like you are in Japan. I'm guessing it's not SAD. Or a lack of vitamin D because it's summer and Japan gets plenty at this time of year.\n\n2.) You sound like a structured guy, so I'm sure it's not a routine thing, nor would I wager on coffee, as I'm sure that's the first thing you tried.\n\n3.) Iron deficiency is a real thing. Beef is crazy expensive there and people rarely cook, which can rule out iron from leafy green vegetables. If this sounds like you, check out \n\n4.) Exercise is a big factor too. I'm a pretty active person, but I feel downright sluggish if I have been sitting in front of a computer all day.\n\n5.) Sleep problems like apnea or other disorders may be a problem, but if you see a sleep doctor, they will just likely recommend the exact same things as what my other fine friends have posted here.\n\n6.) Determine if you are you actually sleepy or tired or bored? I'm a teacher too and I yawn plenty when having to teach really dreadfully boring students (which there are plenty at my school in Taiwan). \n\n7.) Cut down on coffee, make sure you are eating enough. Often people mistake caffeine in coffee as energy. Energy comes from food, so a decent meal in the morning will get you further than a cup of coffee. Caffeine makes you feel alert by blocking the receptors that melatonin (the sleep hormone) would otherwise be making your feel sleepy. You actually don't really need a cup of coffee after the first one, but if you suffer from withdrawal, water it down like crazy so you still get the taste, but less concentration of it. ", "Could be an iron imbalance, have yourself checked out and blood tests done.\n\nNext check to see if you suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder, you need to regulate the amount of full spectrum light (like sunlight) so it's more like a normal day. They have lights for SAD, need to have it very dark at night and no coffee after 3 pm.\n\nA nightcap works, so does a couple of Danish butter cookies (fat) and a glass of warm milk before bed. Avoid only carbs for dinner, like only pasta as it makes you sleep at first and then your mind wakes you up in the night. So you need something to go with it that provides fat to help you sleep like sausage.\n\n>sometimes I just sit on my phone all evening\n\nNo bright lights in the eyes after 6 pm (mimics the sun and keeps you awake), no computers, cell phones or tablets. Dim the TV/ lights and start the night like it's supposed too be done naturally. Some read a book instead.", "I would suggest a sleep study and asking your doctor for a vitamin panel. Lapck of vit. d and the Bs will make you tired." ]

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[ "I find that whenever I get jealous/distrustful/suspicious, my mental image of what's happening isn't really in line with the personality of my girlfriend. I just stop and remember she loves me and all the ways she's proved it, and all the things she must have been thinking all the times she's went out of her way for me even when I would've never known. Once I actually think about that, and what makes her HER, it just doesn't seem like the same person as the one in my jealous fever dreams. ", "You have to think your way through it. Assuming you're not in a relationship with someone who is still interested in playing the field, then examine the ways things are between you.\n\nIf all is going well, ask *yourself* if you're looking for someone else. Examine the reasons that you aren't. Wouldn't those reasons apply to your partner? Why or why not?\n\nAnd LPT: jealousy can drive someone away when they may not have gone otherwise. Don't make your partner feel like s/he's in prison or having to limit their growth and experiences by being with you.", "A helpful tip that I read elsewhere on reddit:\n\nYou and your SO are each experiencing different wonderful things in life, sometimes those wonderful things overlap. Your SO is their own person and they are working to develop their own wonderful human connections. I have been jealous many times before of my boyfriend's female friends, but I have found that interacting with them and getting to know them has helped ease some of my irrationality. My boyfriend is attractive, kind, and funny. I recognize these attractive qualities bring other attractive, kind, and funny people near him, male or female (hopefully myself included). \n\nI have shifted my perspective from feeling insecure and jealous watching him interact with his female friends to trusting him and working to develop my own positive human interactions. It feels much more healthy to recognize that each person in life is trying to live a happy, positive life. \n\nAlso, it's attractive to others (friends or SO's) when you're confident, positive, and one of the happiest in the room. Try to focus on your own human interactions and not worry so much about how your SO looks/reacts talking to someone else. You're robbing yourself of developing your own positive connection with someone else. ", "As someone who can also get quite jealous, the secret is trust. Even confronting your partner can be tricky as the jealousy can make you think you want to hear something that you 'know' is going on, but actually isn't, so when they tell the truth, that nothing is going on, you still feel lied to. \n\nI think it's important to express that you think communication is important in a relationship and that you hope if your partner thinks things aren't heading on the right track, that they talk to you about it and together you can work to get it back on track. Give them the opportunity to speak to you. \n\nTrust, communication and compromises are all two-way streets.. ", "Whatever you do, ultimately you have to attack the problem at its source and not cover it up with band-aids.\n\nJealousy stems from both scarcity and insecurity.\n\nMost of the time I find jealousy comes from insecurity or not a sufficient level of self esteem. Everytime you aren't with your partner, those thoughts creep up because you don't feel valuable enoguh and may be worried she is 'looking for better'. Compare that to a person who does know what he brings to the table and knows he is a great person. That aura exudes. So does the insecure aura. when the insecurity aura comes out, girls sense it (they sense everything) and it becomes a negative spiral.\nHow can you improve on insecurity? Build self esteem. Google 6 pillars of self esteem for a quick summary\n\nScarcity is when you do not have an abundance of something, so you start acting 'weird' around it. Can be with relationships, money, food, etc.\nWhen someone is poor, they tend to manage their money differentlky. When somemone is more well off, they *tend* to be more sharing. When I wasn't making much money, I never really shared our bought gifts for people. I am doing better now so I often buy things for free for my friends, take people to dinners, etc. Complete mindset change when you move away from scarcity.\n\nFor partners, it is a little different. Scarcity in 'relationships' is more just the idea of you dont feel like you can find another person 'like her' despite there being more than a billion options. When you stop talking to other people, when you don't really have a way to meet new people, you fall into scarcity. She is the only one you have and you will start acting oddly since the scarcity will start exuding out of your aura. \n\nHope that made sense\n\n-a person who overcame 98% of his jealousy and can not think of a life of going back", "When you feel yourself starting to get jealous about a situation, stop and analyze what is happening. Don't let jealousy take over. \n\nOnce you have given the situation some logical thought, and you are still feeling jealous, talk with your partner about it in a rational way. Don't accuse them of anything because they probably haven't done anything, you feel how you do because of internal factors. \n\nFinally, trust your partner. You are together for a reason and they should get the benefit of the doubt. As your relationship strengthens you will find that jealousy starts to fade away.", "I was an insanely jealous boyfriend, which coupled with my computer skills to lead to me tracking every move, text, email, and phone call, to the point that I was driving myself insane by watching her every minutiae. In the end, I think it was 50% brain development (apparently at 25 we gain the ability to legitimately empathize with a fellow human) and 50% for my own sanity that I finally just dropped it all. Told my wife to go change all her passwords, I had cracked them all. Yes, even the email address you made and hid because you thought I was snooping. I told her that I had finally realized that if I distrusted her that much, that we probably didn't need to be together, but that I loved her and wanted to be with her, so I was going to stop analyzing her every move. Just sort of let her go and do her own thing, and I did my own thing, and realized that if a problem was big enough to threaten our relationship, it would surface eventually, and when that happened, I would deal with it; I had been in serious, long-term relationships multiple times and, though it sucks, the terminus was not fatal, so even if everything went to shit, I would still be ok.\n\nSince then, things have been...well...almost euphoric. I'll never forget though, when I told my friend about stopping my surveillance (he was genuinely in awe of it, and wanted me to teach him so he could spy on his girlfriend), he replied, \n\n\"But Mike! What if she cheats on you and you never find out?\"\n\nAnd all I could say in response was,\n\n\"Well ____, to be honest, if I never find out, then who did it hurt?\"\n\nYou just have to realize that you literally cannot control every aspect of their life, and if you try, you'll hate you, they'll hate you, and you'll go bananas.\n\nTL; DR - Just chill, man. It ain't that crucial. Even if it is, it ain't.\n\n", "I think the best way to tackle jealousy, or any other negative emotion towards another person for that matter, is to understand that each individual person has a life as complex and intricate as your own. Everyone experiences a plethora of different emotions, many of which cannot be controlled. How we act upon our emotions however, determines who we are as individuals. As long as your significant-other displays explicit interest in you, give them the benefit of the doubt and trust them. ", "Jealousy is a symptom of a much larger issue, which is at its core your insecurity. But, what causes that insecurity can be any number of reasons, and how it impedes you can result in various circumstances.\n\nI have had that issue for a lot of my relationships. I had to see a therapist for years because I didn't want to feel as I had been. At its core, my jealousy was driven by an abusive past, which I never dealt with. How it manifested was terrible. Everyone was out to get me. I always put distance in my relationships so I would be indifferent rather than jealous - a poor strategy for happiness. And I ended up objectifying people, rather than seeing them for who they are and embracing, or rejecting, their character. Mostly with women in romantic relationships. \n\n I've gotten to a place where I can see someone for who they are and love them or not love them for it. The result is no jealousy, and feeling secure enough that if a girl cheats on me, fuck it. Just another opportunity for me to find a better one, or the right one, for me. Because really, anything else is noise and a distraction in my life. A girl who cheats... that's on her and really has nothing to do with me. It would be her problem. So I'd say bye bye, and move on with MY life. How? Realizing that the relationships I have with anyone do not define who I am. I define me with self respect and the things I enjoy. Then I share those with others. None of that goes away when someone cheats or is an asshole. THEY go away and my life goes on, I go on.\n\nI have great relationships with people now. I've had to shed a few toxic friends, but I've made even better friends, and finally fell truly in love with the woman of my dreams. And if she cheats, oh well. I move on. \n\nLook within, my friend. All the answers are there!\n\n", "I had a jealous outburst before I married my wife one time. I realized it really made me look like an immature idiot. When ever I feel that coming on again, I think of how embarrassed I felt back then. It's been 16+ years since that day, and I've learned to calm down, 'let it be' and trust her as much as she trusts me. It's also easy when you're with the right person. I know I'm full of clichés, but it's the only way I can explain my experience with it. Hope this helps!", "I will give a piece of advice from a somewhat different perspective...\n\nAs an athlete, it's easy to look at other people who seem to be more \"in-line\" with their goals or their performance and embody where we want to be ourselves.\n\nIt happens all the time: in business, in relationships and in life. In all those cases it takes a moment of truth to identify why you feel jealous, where the problem may be coming from, and forming a plan to fix it. It usually helps to write it down. \n\n... and in most cases, if you have a friend or an alibi that you trust, confiding and talking to that person before you change how you feel can be a good next step. In sports, this is usually a teammate or a manager. In relationships, it can be a family member, friend, or other non-influencer of the bigger issue to help manage the feeling before it becomes too big to solve. \n\nTL;DR, Figure out why it bothers you, write it down or come up with ways that will help you fix it, speak to a safe reliable source before you act on it, and proceed with clearer mind. ", "Jealousy is an insecurity about yourself and a lack of trust in others. The first thing you should ask yourself is \"Why am I feeling this way?\" Has your partner given you a reason to distrust him/her? Is this on a regular occurrence or are you rationalizing? \n\nThe hardest part is admitting this. I struggled with it and eventually lost the battle. Now I'm alone but it's something I've had to analyze thoroughly. If it requires you to seek counseling, do it. The cliche statement: in order to respect and love someone else is to have the mutual feeling for yourself. In this circumstance, the reality is simply that. ", "I think 2 things are crucial, regarding jealousy. Firstly jealousy is actually never created by your partner, rather it is always our own feelings of not being worthy to be loved. We should totally accept these feelings, because they are real, eventually deriving from frustrating childhood memories. It is an injury in our soul's core, which is definitely hard to heal. But our partner has nothing to do with it. Imo. To have these feelings is totally fine, but the way we display it is crucial. To express what makes us suffer is important, but blaming our so is destructive and unfair. Secondly, my dad had very good approach to love in general :treat everything we get in a relationship as a gift, demands start playing no role anymore :) \n", "Self-confidence.\n\nHave more confidence in yourself. You will eventually start to worry less if that person leaves you because you know that you're worthy of something better.\n\nBut don't be blind. Realize that no matter how open you are or how much you trust someone, they may cheat and lie anyway. Reddit likes to claim everyone just needs trust and communication. But people are complicated and make mistakes. Don't ever believe one person will NEVER cheat, because that is what EVERYONE says before it happens. Your relationship isn't different and it isn't special.\n\nRealize that, plus some confidence, and you'll be alright.", "I was watching the show white collar and in the episode Niel (main character) is deliberately getting psychoanalyzed by some psychiatrist they are investigating and she says \"say the first word that comes to mind after I say a word\" (or something like that) and she says jealousy and without blinking or any hesitation he says \"weak\". \n\nFor some reason ever since I saw that scene every time I feel a small pang of jealousy rising in my stomach my brain just shouts it down \"weak! That's a weak emotion! You have no use for this!\" And the jealousy dies just as quickly as it came. Not saying this will work for everyone but for some reason it stuck with me and I've not felt sincere jealousy since I saw it! Hope this helps lol", "To quote Homer Simpson: \"Jealousy is when you worry someone will take what you have. [...]\"\n\nThinking that you own your girlfriend/boyfriend like possession is not what love is about. Where there is power/dominance, love cannot exist. So stop thinking that you own/possess your love. He or she are allowed to do what they want, if they truly love you, then you have nothing to worry about. And if they leave you, then it was never meant to be.\n\nHeard of the quote: \"If you love someone, set them free!\"? That's what it's all about. I know it could be hard to understand, but when you do it feels pretty natural! ", "Spy on your SO's communications, follow everywhere, be vigilant. It is the only way to be sure. If he or she has nothing to hide, it shouldn't be an issue. This is a matter of personal security. Institute rules that allow your espionage activities without warrant. Suspend due process when you have reasonable suspicion of wrongdoing. Run a tap on your cable modem, and run the cable to your pantry. Label the door Room 641A, and deny it exists. Set up \"black sites\" in your neighbors' bathrooms where you can waterboard your SO and perform extrajudicial activities, if necessary. Treat anyone he or she meets as a non-enemy combatant. Once you find the primary target, use silent helicopters to storm the compound, kill everyone, capture the target, identify them, then execute them and dispose of the body at sea. Spend trillions of dollars doing it, and then wonder why everyone in your home is unemployed. It is the only way to be sure.", "My jealousy used to be insanely bad. Every time I would get rejected or a girlfriend would hang out with male friends I would get stupid amounts of up in arms. In the long run, the problem turned out to be me. My insecurity led me to feel jealous of 5ge most tiny things. Now with that being said I was in some horribly toxic relationships and was letting myself get walked on constantly. It was not easy, I got hurt a lot and I pissed a lot of people off but after trying to become content with being alone and finally being able to (didn't happen for a VERY long time) I realized that the most easy way to deal with jealousy is to just talk about it openly. It's a terrible emotion, but it happens. Just communicate. The only thing stopping you from speaking with the person you are jealous is yourself. ", "Sorry for being blatant, but here you go:\n\n1 Let it go like water off of a ducks ass.\n\n\n2 Talk to a reliable friend before ANY accusations!\n\n\n3 Don't be a whining and insecure person on the outside. You can be it on the inside and deal with it yourself. If you dump that shit on someone else, they will haul ass in the other direction. Control it.\n\n\n4 If it is really that bad then calmly talk about it. Let them know. Above all, stick to the facts instead of feelings.\n\n", "Now this is a tip I use even more often as I get older, but hey, never forget the casual bit of existentialism to put things in perspective. If I'm ever jealous of something, I imagine at the end of the day (ackem, life) we'll all end up in the same ground, just a pile of bones, and will it really have mattered to humanity as a whole if I got that promotion/hot s.o./car/etc...? No. Just enjoy things as they come, and work towards what you can achieve without too much luck, and be grateful for anything else as a bonus in life. ", "Night and day difference in my then-fiancée, now-wife's jealousy when she stopped taking birth control.\n\n\"Women who use hormonal contraceptives have been shown to report higher levels of jealousy than women who are regularly cycling. Here, we extend these findings by examining if self reported levels of jealousy vary with the dose of synthetic estrogen and progestin found in combined oral contraceptives in a sample of 275 women.\"\n\nhttp://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0191886910004551\n\nSmall sample size, but there's more studies out there with the same results. This one was just on the top of the pile.", "Never be scared to reach for outside help. As a man who was a very jealous person, I started speaking with a therapist and it really helped me figure out my own insecurities. Jealous urges arise but I have my own way of taming the inner beast. ", "My fiancee used to be really jealous, to the point i had to give her an ultimatum where i told her that i love her, i chose her, not those other people, and if she didn't learn to trust me, i'd have no choice but to leave. Imagine that she's fed up, and giving you this ultimatum, and try to act accordingly. Being on the receiving end of that jealousy sucks. It hurts. It shows you think so little of them that you just can' t trust them, and trust is the most important part of a relationship. I know it still happens, and she feels jealous sometimes, but where she used to make angry comments, she bites her tongue and trusts me. If you don't at least try to fix your jealousy, they WILL leave. I promise. ", "Managing jealousy becomes tremendously easier once you become happy with yourself. Look inside first. ", "Jealousy only ever makes situations worse is the best thing I can tell you. You want things to be better right, so the tone jealousy puts on all of your interactions is the complete opposite of making things better, in fact it just poisons everything. ", "I've been there\nHonestly, if you're jealous, you're in the wrong relationship.\n\nAs a side note: after I learned this lesson, I decided I would allow my SOs to have an 'open relationship.'\nEveryone wants to fuck someone else, you might as well have a threesome instead of cheating.\n\nMMF and MFF are both equally amazing (from a male's perspective).", "I don't think I experience jealousy in a relationship so I might be the wrong person to offer advice. But I think the people who've talked about letting yourself be vulnerable are onto something. For me, being in a relationship is in some ways similar to taking a physical risk -- cliff diving, for example. You commit yourself to it and then, from that point on, thinking about what could go wrong just makes it more likely you'll screw up and get hurt. You have to focus on enjoying it and making it go right. If you don't want to risk being hurt, don't jump in the first place.", "Explain things and communicate your thoughts in a way that don't come off as insecure. The other person will understand you much better that way. ", "Your first step is always to actually find out if the jealousy is misplaced or not. I run a mental talk with myself when I have uncomfortable feelings.\n\nIf I'm jealous of a friend hanging out with another friend, if they aren't a terrible person in disguise I'll think \"Man I'm jealous of such and such spending so much time with MY friend. But my friend is pretty cool, so it only makes sense other people would want to chill with them.\n\nIf that script seems fake, there's a problem. If they(friend, SO, whoever) are actively avoiding you for someone else and your jealousy started when that became a pattern, it might be time for a talk or even a break-up.\n\nOne ex I had started spending a lot of time with girls. Many of which I was friends with. I was cool at first until plans I had with him were canceled to hang with girl X all the time. Turns out he had a crush on girl X but didn't want to break up with me either. Things got pretty messy for unrelated reasons afterwards.", "Ugh. And to all those people saying something about a girlfriend...\nI want to know any LPT on how to deal with it when you see someone with a great, big, loving, functional family... ", "There are certain things you can do to control your body. I used to be practically consumed by jealousy. If you need to, you can take medication. Exercising daily in the morning will help. If possible, try splashing cold water on your wrists or face during the moment of jealousy to cool off. If necessary you can remove yourself from the situation and take a 5 minute breather or walk. Also a daily 10 minute m", "There are 3 causes of jealousy:\n\n1. You're insecure\n2. Your partner is not trustworthy\n3. Combination of 1 and 2 above.\n\nIf it's #2, leave. Dating is about 2 people getting to know each other and see if there's enough compatibility, and in this case you're not compatible.\n\nIf it's #1 you need to work on yourself, because your insecurities come out now only in romantic relationships but also at work, friends, family, and many other aspects of your life. Until you address your insecurities you might not be ready for a relationship, it would not be fair to the other person.\n\nIf it's #3, you're heading for disaster, end the relationship at one for everyone's sake, and work on yourself.\n\nTaking care of insecurities is about gaining confidence, there are many self-help resources, and a therapist might be useful as well.", "The current situation you may have is not defined by past bad experience. Separate experience from reality.", "Remember that people don't belong to people. You will never be able to control your partner, it wouldn't be healthy and any relationship that is based on control lacks trust. \n\nInstead, focus on what you can control - your thoughts and your emotions. Jealousy can be normal but it doesn't have to consume you. Remember, you deserve happiness. Work towards it. ", "Realize that none of it is worth worrying about. The only thing that matters is mutual respect and trying to help each other through life. They don't owe you anything and you don't owe them. Stop keeping score and try having fun. If you can't have fun together then stay respectful. If you can't stay respectful, move on.", "One bit of advice is to know yourself. Know your triggers and either avoid them, or think of ways you can work with them if it's something you want (which I'm assuming no.)\n\nIf something doesn't make me better, makes me happy, or helps me profit, it's not worth my time or energy. :)\n\nAnd this is true for any aspect of life, life pro tips!", "Not everyone is what they seem and being in a relationship especially leaves you reason to be wary since emotions are involved... but go too far down that road and the mistrust can poison you, make you sour, and hated. Walk a middle course , let them earn your trust with leal relations, but when they are trustful be generous and openhearted ...\n P.S. got this from \"A dance with Dragons\" ... it seemed relevant, but figured I should give cr", "Just gotta have faith in the fact nothing will happen, if something does, it sucks a lot, but you're way better off figuring out now then down the road when you're married/have kids. ", "Jealousy is most often a huge over reaction.\n\nAnd then you find out she fucked him when you weren't feeling jealous.\n\nBy then it's too late to be jealous.", "It's all about perspective. Let me give you an example from my life. Both my wife and I have been pretty jealous of her sisters. One gets significant financial help from dad and grandma. The other married a guy that was given a house and goes on multiple overseas vacations each year. Compare that to us that are massively in debt from college with no help from anyone. \n\nIf that is all you look at its easy to be jealous. \n\nTo change your perspective you can look at the fact that is a loveless marriage, held together by money. Would we trade our relationship for financial stability? Hell no! \n\nAlways remember, people show their best in public even close family and friends. You don't know the demons they struggle with behind closed doors. \n\n* researchers estimate that 8 to 10 percent of the population is taking an antidepressant\n\n* It is estimated that 3.7% of the U.S. population (8.3 million people) had thoughts of suicide in the past year\n\n* 1 in 4 women report experiencing domestic violence in their lifetimes", "It seems most people are giving you tips on how to manage the jealousy, but I'm gonna go ahead and touch on the talking to your partner and when it *IS* something to worry about.\n\nWhen it comes to talking to your partner about anything, upfront honesty smoothly done is generally the best method. **It's never good to act jealous, and it's especially not good to get defensive in that jealousy, but, having a small conversation with your partner can often ease your concerns.** If there's nothing going on, generally your partner is going to let you know, and if you know them well, you should be able to read the sincerity in their voice.\n\nThat being said, if you come to your partner honestly to try and discuss your jealousy, and their initial reaction is to bash on you, or to get frustrated as if you've done something wrong, or offensive, *\"WHAT YOU DON'T TRUST ME?\"*... That's generally a sign of something more than misplaced jealousy.\n\nIn order to get an honest response however, you have to provide an honest dialectic to begin with. Don't be whiny and don't be aggressive, just be legit, be straight, *\"I've noticed you spending a lot of time with XXXX and I find myself feeling a bit uncomfortable at times with it. I'm not trying to have any impact on what you do, but maybe you could tell me a bit more about that relationship, or we could spend some time together with them so I can get a better feel for them and relax a bit.\"*\n\nThe major other thing to check yourself with is the connection of your jealousy to the situation. Are you specifically jealous of a person? Or are you jealous of every good looking possibility that communicates with your partner. **If you're finding yourself to be jealous about a lot of different people, then either your partner is a giant flirt trying to make you jealous, or you have some major insecurities that need dealing with on your own...** ***(DO NOT TALK TO YOUR PARTNER ABOUT THIS).*** If you are struggling with insecurities, the best thing you can do is analyze why, question your positives, your negatives, what causes you to feel inadequate. Ask yourself why your partner is with you in the first place and maybe talk to some good friends honestly to get a better feel.\n\nIt's important to understand where your Jealousy comes from before addressing it - Inadequate behavior from your Partner? A specifically close and uncomfortable relationship? Or personal insecurities.", "If you need him/her for validation, then you really need to figure out why you would be expendable...and then work on that.\n \nNew hobbies, old hobbies...we all need New information and New experiences. Routine is antithema.\n", "I used to be really bad. Most of my relationships went to shit because of my jealousy. I realized and concluded that if they want to cheat on you they will no matter what. So there are two things. Be a jealous raging asshole and destroy your relationship or just relax, trust him/her, just enjoy the ride and I guarantee you will have a much higher chance of success with your SO. ", "I think that the best answer was the top one atm, which is to really look at your SO character traits.\n\nHere is the best example I can give, and I have actually been wanting to post an \"ask reddit\" for some time now, but anyway, my closest friend passed away 5 yrs ago, and at the time he was engaged goin on 6 yr relationship. It was sudden and unexpected, and as I was close with her as well, I offered her a place to stay as I knew she had nowhere to go, and her life was in ruins, also we were close as well due to the fact the 3 of us did alot together. Over the next couple of months we hecame intimate. At first things were good. As time peogressed, I started to feel like I couldnt breath and felt like i couldnt keep my head above water. Too much to explain and not relevant. I was afraid to talk to her about certain things and she did what a lot of women do, imo, and tried to send signals to which i did not pick up. Mind you, I am still grieving heavily at the time. Long story short is that she left me for another dude, and I mean one night slept at my house, next night, had moved on. Absolutely crushed me even more than I already was from best friends death.\nNow going back to how my friend and I had met her, she was a newly married unhappy girl, who left her husband for my buddy, and then when he left, used me, and lept to another guy, and has since moved to another guy. I was stupid not to realize who she was in the first place, and especially having intimate knowledge of who she was from my friend confiding in me about her. However, when we were together, I never in a million years would have thought she would have left me, especially after I wasted my savings taking care of her and giving her a place to stay, food to eat, and show my love by doing all those things, but i think she just really wanted to know that someone else was going to marry and take care of her, of which i was in no place to do considering how soon it was after my friend passed before she told me she was falling in love with me. I treated her like him, cuz I knew he would never take advantage of someone, and I also would never have expected her to do this as I could never be that cold hearted, but the truth is, there are people out there that are fucking broken, have shitty examples in life, or have been taught that other shit is whats important in life.\nSo just look at SO character, history, morals, ethics, and above all, if you can't speak to SO about the things that are bothering you, then it is no good anyway. And if SO blows your concerns off thats no good either.\nMy buddy and I, were just friends, although if he pissed me off and I was not being available or short with him, he would call me on it immediately, and I would do the same with him. Its hard for people to understand how two hetrosexual men could be such close great friends, but there is great comfort knowing that there is literally someone out there that has your back through anything, who would die for you and someone that you would do the same for as well. If I could have given my life for my friend I would have, and it pains me to this day, over 5 yrs later that I couldn't.\nI'll end it on that, but trust and communication are everything in a relationship, regardless if it's plutonic or romantic.", "I suffered from jealousy when I was younger and it took me a while to feel confident and love myself more than my partner. So I think that. Focus on being a better you and don't worry about others. If they do end up leaving you or cheating, their fuckin loss. You're awesome and you're doing your own thing! There will never be another like you, so be the best you.\n\nBeing jealous is ultimately a sign of low self confidence. I just worry about my own happiness and focus on good and so far it's working out. I just cut out people who deliberately try to make me jealous. I'm over that stage of my life and looking forward to the next lessons.", "I struggle with jealously and I often remind myself that my fears of losing someone/having someone less are predicated on a false idea that I own them or their time in some way. If I truly respect the object of my jealously, it's important that I respect their decisions about where I fall in their life. If what I want isn't what works for them, it definitely sucks. But it's even more unattractive to focus on what I want *over* what they want instead of communicating to find the closest mutually respectful and agreeable place. It's not easy, but it's the healthiest thing, and much nicer than potentially pushing them even further with the ugliness of jealousy. \n\nUp communication if that helps. Find the most effective way to say clearly what you feel and need. Trust that if they love you or care about you they will talk to you too. \n\nAnd most importantly, VALUE YOURSELF!! Most of my jealous feelings ultimately boil down to not valuing myself enough to allow the people around me autonomy.", "I just wanted to say that after ten years I have never \" gotten over\" the jealousy. \n\nHowever, it did fade to the background with time. I think that after several years of proving ourselves to each other, neither of us are really jealous anymore. \n\nNow the only thing that makes me really jealous is who gets the last cup of wine or piece of pizza.\n\n\n", "I find it best to approach my SO immediately about anything that seems a little off, I calm down enough to not be aggressive and give him the benefit of the doubt but it's so much better to just ask right away instead of letting something bother me and create unnecessary anger inside of me. Because once you let things get to your head there isn't really any going back from there.", "I agree with the previous posts where they suggested that it stems from a lack of self confidence, and insecurity. Once you address that, it's easier.\n\nAlso I've been cheated on previously, and that made me realise that if they're cheated on me, then they don't deserve me. If the fear is being cheated on, just realise that you don't want to be with a cheater anyways and there are nicer people out there for you to meet.", "Do not try to fight your mind, you will always lose, and will just be miserable bottling up those issues. You need to accept that fact that there is nothing you can do to prevent the future, and that if something happens the truth will come out. If you stress about it before anything happens, you are just making life difficult for yourself. Time always gives answers. Try and use that energy of self doubt or anger and turn it into something positive. Treat your partner. Do something creative, be spontaneous. ", "Agreed on thinking your way through it - or attitude.\n\nOnce you've lost something or someone .. it's easier. You don't own anyone nor do they owe you a thing. Anyone could walk away at any time and find someone else, etc.\n\nJust live day by day and try not to worry. If someone you're with finds another person then it just wasn't meant to be. I always said that - hey if you find someone better, just let me know first! lol\n\nIf you're jealous of material things ... everything comes down in price ... just gotta wait it out! lol", "If you really love someone you wish that (in this case) she will be happy, and you can only hope that it's with you. If she starts liking someone else it's because she'd be better off with them. So jealousy doesn't make too much sense. Like anything in a relationship, you can only be the best you can be and hope things go well" ]

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[ "What To Do When Waiting My Turn For A Group Presentation I will be giving a couple big group presentations this semester and am curious what is the best thing to do when I am awaiting my turn.\nArms crossed? hands in pocket?\nThank You.", "What To Do When Waiting My Turn For A Group Presentation I will be giving a couple big group presentations this semester and am curious what is the best thing to do when I am awaiting my turn.\nArms crossed? hands in pocket?\nThank You.", "What To Do When Waiting My Turn For A Group Presentation I will be giving a couple big group presentations this semester and am curious what is the best thing to do when I am awaiting my turn.\nArms crossed? hands in pocket?\nThank You.", "What To Do When Waiting My Turn For A Group Presentation I will be giving a couple big group presentations this semester and am curious what is the best thing to do when I am awaiting my turn.\nArms crossed? hands in pocket?\nThank You.", "What To Do When Waiting My Turn For A Group Presentation I will be giving a couple big group presentations this semester and am curious what is the best thing to do when I am awaiting my turn.\nArms crossed? hands in pocket?\nThank You." ]

[ "Those who are not speaking are there to support the speaker. Therefore, they need to blend into the background. Things that will distract the audience: yawns, bored looks, shifting, looking directly at audience members (they will look at you if you do).\n\nSmile (of course), and either look towards the current presenter, or look generally athe the audience, but not at individuals and not with blank eyes.\n\nFor your hands, find a comfortable pose that is neutral in tone. I recommend, if standing, to choose between hands behind your back, loosely, at your side, or in front of you one hand over the other. Chose teh one that you can likely do for longest comfortably. You can change between them but try to do so infrequently.\n\nIf you want to review your notes, do so, but organize it so that your crib notes are on a single, top page, so there is no shuffling of pages, and that you glance at them then think as opposed to head-down-reading.\n\nIf you can, go to a local Toastmasters Club (google--they are everywhere) and they can even help you rehearse your part, as well as posture and standing techniques.", "Make sure you have your presentation down, recite it in your head. Think of any questions and answers. Work out the kinks. ", "I've seen a lot of people scowling or frowning -- they are probably just concentrating. keep a neutral expression on your face, politely interested. make sure your eyebrows are drawn together, and tilt the corners of your mouth upwards. Kind of a \"Mona Lisa\" smile.\n\nDon't jingle your change in your pocket or any type of repetitive motion. ", "Change between looking at the person speaking, behind you at the powerpoint, and into the audience (no jerking movements though, \"blend\", as said by others). Nod lightly in agreement every so often when group members say their key points and look attentive while doing it!!! \n\nThe ONE THING that looks terrible though, and I've only seen this once (thank god), is when a group member says something incorrect and another person in the group gives them a wtf?! look. You are a team and giving another team member a wtf?! look while presenting makes the mess-up look twice as bad. Just go with it and continue on.", "Are you going to be standing with the group, or seated waiting?\n\nIf you have to stand, find a posture you'll be comfortable holding for a long time. Arms crossed probably won't be that comfortable, but hands in pockets, or behind your back in \"parade rest\" would probably be good. You don't want your hands to be fidgeting." ]

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[ "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!", "company rescinded their job offer after I countered twice. What did I do wrong? The company gave me an offer. I countered 25% above their ask, which then they responded with 5.8% increase and salary reevaluation in October. \n\nI then said “salary reevaluation sounds good if we’re able to agree to (10% from original offer) starting salary. If so, I can start within two weeks after accepting the offer. \nLet me know what you think!”\n\nThey responded with \n“Thank you so much for your interest in our company. We appreciate you taking the time to interview with our team. While we were impressed with your skill set, we cannot meet your asking salary. Again, we appreciate your time, and we wish you the best of luck in your career endeavors.”\n\nWhat did I do wrong here? How should I do my negotiation better in the future?\n\nThanks!" ]

[ "They could have had another candidate that was willing to accept the lower starting pay and you asking for more than their second offer was the last straw for them. Unless you’re a highly specialized skill set with years or decades of experience, there’s usually going to be other similarly qualified people willing to work for less. \n\nI don’t think it was necessarily anything wrong with your negotiating, but more likely just the wrong company for it. Some companies have much higher budget ranges for hiring while others have incredibly small wiggle room. Seems like you just found a company with only a little wiggle room. Negotiating salaries is a bit of a risk reward assessment. Even if the offer was good enough for you, you can ask for more but that might be enough for them to lose interest in you or it might work and you get more money for the same work.", "Somebody else said yes without countering. Personally I only counter offer a job if I have something better already lined up. \n\nLPT: If you need the work, don't counter twice.", "You didn't do anything wrong. You just cost more than what they wanted to pay.\n\nKind of like when you go purchase an item and choose the one that costs less.", "Well, you asked them, \"Let me know what they think\", and they did. I don't think you did anything wrong, though.", "if they are sensible, they offered you before turning down other candidates. you countered, they made an offer (possibly lower) to their next choice, and that person bit. \n\nunfortunately, it’s a two sided game and the ball is not always in your court.", "We can only speculate, but I’m guessing that they countered with the highest number they could offer. You then asked for a higher number, and they advised you that they could not meet that. \n\nIf you really were willing to work there for the 5.8% increase, you could try responding “after further consideration, I would be willing to accept the offer of ___. If this is still possible, I’d love to join the team” or something similar.", "Their first offer was probably what they were comfortable with. If that didn’t work out for them, they probably had another candidate that was next in line for either the same rate as the fist counter offer or less.", "If you wanted the job, why did you feel the need to push for a higher pay?\nEither walk away and find another job that pays what you want or deal with the pay that you get.\n\nI don't support this sort of counter-offer tango unless you have another job lined up or you're on the fence about the job and the counter-offer is what you need to decide.", "Never negotiate by email. Get on the damn phone. It’s easy to be hard with people by email. Very hard to do so face to face or by phone.", "Nobody did anything wrong here, they just couldn’t meet your offers. If you want that job, lower your pay expectations. If not, try to find another.", "Fuck them. If you know your worth and they weren’t willing to meet your counter, you’re better than them. \n\nIgnore all the comments here that are saying, “if you need the money you should take it”, clearly they have no idea of self worth. I’ve done this too many times, and it took almost a decade to learn from my mistakes. \n\nYou got this, something better will come up. Don’t give up. But, remember.. you’re worth as much as you ask.", "You should really always counter if you’re not at the number you want to be at, but, that doesn’t mean it’s without risk. Sounds like they were already at the top of their pay range and couldn’t be bothered to go higher than that 5.8%.\n\nThey should have just said no, and 5.8% is as high as they can go, but… they also put themselves at risk by having you start, knowing that you already feel under paid. They don’t want to put resources into training someone who is going to leave in 2 years for a higher paycheck.\n\nDon’t sweat it! They weren’t going to pay you what you felt you should be paid. I hope you find somewhere that fits the salary range you’re looking for!", "They wanted to hire you but had other candidates: when you countered twice they just moved in because they were unable or unwilling to meet your salary. Countering once is standard. Countering twice is playing hardball, which is fine but risky.", "You didn’t read the room. You asked for much more than they were offering and doubled down. You gambled and lost.\nMaybe next time go online and see what the pay range for that position is in that area.", "Someone out there was willing to work for less. They probably shouldn’t, but they are stupid. Also, maybe that company is crap and they don’t really care about skill and qualifications and would rather save money.", "I had a job offer me $13 an hour (requiring a bachelor's degree). I told them politely that I couldn't accept any offer under $20 and I appologized for the miscommunication (it was in a screening process that I told them I wouldn't accept under 20).\nThey seemed rather desperate because they immediately offered me the counter of $20. Now with job shortages (due to covid) everywhere (including our company) they are offering 20+ for starting and removed the bachelor's degree requirement. Needless to say I've started looking elsewhere, I've always kind of felt this job was below me anyhow.", "Generally speaking, companies will give a new candidate only one counter offer. Sometimes even a single counter offer is enough to knock you out of the hiring process because, unfortunately, there is always someone out there that has your same skills but is willing to do the job for far less.", "A tactic I'm planning to use in my upcoming job search is to ask, \"what's the budget for this position?\" Two Reasons:\n\n1) it places the onus on the company to \"show their cards first.\"\n\n2) helps me understand the company's transperency practices.", "It depends what kind of job it was and also have to remember, most people just take the offer they get given and I don't think anyone I know has ever countered, I have and it worked out but I was a shoe in for this position and I was already an employee. I think this should be done more often because employers feel like they can get another candidate no matter what that will accept their offer even if they are less qualified than you. Alot of places just care about their bottom line, not high quality workers and generally never counter offer unless its a very high prestigious person to fill a specific role. I'm honestly surprised this company countered at all.", "Here's the thing with negotiations If you wanted it to work out you shouldn't have counter offered. You should have accepted.\n\nThe whole key in negotiations is being able to walk away and not care if you don't get it. If you care whether or not you get it then you're going to lowball yourself.\n\nIf you want a good outcome you have to be willing to lose some of the offers. And be willing to walk away. \n\nSo my life pro tip would be if you messed up figure out why you messed up but if you didn't mess up figure out how to be more okay with walking away.", "Doesn’t sound like what you did was wrong. They had a number they were willing to pay, and that number was lower than what you were willing to take", "Did you do your thorough homework on the company? Normally, you look up the past on how it started, the present in how they are currently doing, and the future in what your can bring to the table and your views with the company. To big a huge asset they are willing to pay more, you have to offer someone that most cannot but also someone that the company can afford. If the company is barely getting by, you seem on how you can make a difference for the company's future. Instead of going really high, take their first counter with a a stipulation that says after an agreed amount of time they will take your original counter offer because you have zero doubt in your mind your original counter is a bargain. Accepting their counter is a trail phase. If they like your performance, the agreement is to continue with your original offer. On average, 6 months to 1 year is the grace period for them to decide if you are with every bit you countered with.", "As someone that hires, budgets, and negotiates salaries, I honestly have very little wiggle room in the figures. If a candidate doesn’t accept our initial or first counter offer, I have to quit wasting my time a find a candidate that will. Unfortunately, not every business, especially small businesses, can compete with the salary amounts some of these huge companies can offer.", "Accept their offer. It’s business. Nowhere in that statement does it state they are rescinding their offer.", "You didn’t do anything wrong. If that’s what you felt you were worth and they couldn’t provide they. That’s a Win for you. They made it easy for you.", "I overheard the SVP of my department say something along these lines:\nIf it’s a small team, or if the company isn’t made of money, then someone countering/negotiating a bunch might appear selfish or indicative of not being a team player. Or it might make it seem like they aren’t going to be invested in the workplace (team building, handling internal politics, embracing the company values, starting meaningful projects) other than $", "I don't think you did anything wrong, and i further think you may have dodged a bullet. Their response to your salary request sounded like they might be very exploitative. 5.8! Pshaw." ]

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[ "How to deal with laundry (Sorting, temps, colors etc) I'm looking for an easier way to deal with laundry.\n\nis there no \"trick\"?\n\nBecause i've been recommended to wash some things in different ways. (temps in celcius)\n\nsome things at 30 degrees\n\nother things at 40 degrees\n\nsome things at 60 degrees\n\na few things at 90 degrees\n\nand on top of that, sort it all by different colors (dark, lighter and white) and preferably, types of fabric as well.\n\nis there no way around this?\n\nThe best solution i've heard so far, is to just have dark clothes only, coz that really minimizes it all.", "How to deal with laundry (Sorting, temps, colors etc) I'm looking for an easier way to deal with laundry.\n\nis there no \"trick\"?\n\nBecause i've been recommended to wash some things in different ways. (temps in celcius)\n\nsome things at 30 degrees\n\nother things at 40 degrees\n\nsome things at 60 degrees\n\na few things at 90 degrees\n\nand on top of that, sort it all by different colors (dark, lighter and white) and preferably, types of fabric as well.\n\nis there no way around this?\n\nThe best solution i've heard so far, is to just have dark clothes only, coz that really minimizes it all.", "How to deal with laundry (Sorting, temps, colors etc) I'm looking for an easier way to deal with laundry.\n\nis there no \"trick\"?\n\nBecause i've been recommended to wash some things in different ways. (temps in celcius)\n\nsome things at 30 degrees\n\nother things at 40 degrees\n\nsome things at 60 degrees\n\na few things at 90 degrees\n\nand on top of that, sort it all by different colors (dark, lighter and white) and preferably, types of fabric as well.\n\nis there no way around this?\n\nThe best solution i've heard so far, is to just have dark clothes only, coz that really minimizes it all.", "How to deal with laundry (Sorting, temps, colors etc) I'm looking for an easier way to deal with laundry.\n\nis there no \"trick\"?\n\nBecause i've been recommended to wash some things in different ways. (temps in celcius)\n\nsome things at 30 degrees\n\nother things at 40 degrees\n\nsome things at 60 degrees\n\na few things at 90 degrees\n\nand on top of that, sort it all by different colors (dark, lighter and white) and preferably, types of fabric as well.\n\nis there no way around this?\n\nThe best solution i've heard so far, is to just have dark clothes only, coz that really minimizes it all." ]

[ "Right so I got a helpful list from my mum when i moved out 7 years ago..... made it super easy. Its not the 100% perfect settings, but ive never manged to mess up a wash and it keeps everything clean and fresh.\n\nBut, essentially, just sort your clothes into colours - \n\nwhites (cotton) - go in at 90 degrees\n\nAnything white that isnt cotton - 60 degrees\n\nLighter colours - throw them in at 40 \n\nand darker colours can get away with 40, but if you want to play it super safe and not ruin anything then go down to 30.\n\nOh.... and anything thats new and hasnt been tried in the washing machine, throw in the dark wash a couple of times first, (just in case theres a tiny amount of colour leeching). \n\nBasically, the temperature settings are there too achieve a balance of washing them well but not ruining the clothes. If you put coloured fabrics (say a red t-shirt) in at 90, it will essentially wash some of the colouring out of the material - this is then in the washing machine with your other clothes and will mix with whatever is in the wash. So the temp settings are made to get the best clean but to avoid damaging your clothes.", "You could likely just not sort at all, wash in cold or lukewarm, and not use bleach and you'd be fine. \n\nJust hang things that might shrink or melt in dryer.", "Theres research done showing cold water is just as effective as warm and hot water. Modern detergents and machines are just as effective at lower temperatures. Not to mention youll save money on heating the water and your clothes will last longer. Expect shrinkage, dye loss and worn clothes at hot temperature settings. \n\nWhat gets your clothes clean is the type of surfactants (laundry detergent), oxidizers (bleach) and water softeners (borax). \n\nAlso, separate whites from dyed clothing as the dye will transfer causing your whites to look dingy.", "Don't bother with the hot cycle unless you're trying to de-funk some towels. And if you're doing that, throw them in with vinegar instead of detergent for one cycle and baking soda instead of detergent for the next.\n\nBare minimum, sort lights and darks. The darks will come out fine but the lights will eventually get darker. If you have a substantial amount of white clothing wash it all together instead of mixing it in with the lights or it will start to change color too.\n\nWhen in doubt, hang dry. Everything can be hung, but not everything can go in the dryer." ]

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[ "How to do math in your head quickly and easily. I play a lot of online poker but eventually am going to make the switch to live poker in a casino, where you have to do all the math in your head that is automatically done in online poker. This includes a lot of counting and adding the size of the pot throughout the hand, and doing a lot of multiplying and dividing to calculate things such as pot odds, drawing outs etc...\n\nI have trouble with this, usually taking a long time to do math in my head which ends up consuming all my mental energy and making me lose focus in the actual hand. How can you speed up this process while still being accurate? Are there any tips or tricks? Or what about exercises you can do to help?", "How to do math in your head quickly and easily. I play a lot of online poker but eventually am going to make the switch to live poker in a casino, where you have to do all the math in your head that is automatically done in online poker. This includes a lot of counting and adding the size of the pot throughout the hand, and doing a lot of multiplying and dividing to calculate things such as pot odds, drawing outs etc...\n\nI have trouble with this, usually taking a long time to do math in my head which ends up consuming all my mental energy and making me lose focus in the actual hand. How can you speed up this process while still being accurate? Are there any tips or tricks? Or what about exercises you can do to help?", "How to do math in your head quickly and easily. I play a lot of online poker but eventually am going to make the switch to live poker in a casino, where you have to do all the math in your head that is automatically done in online poker. This includes a lot of counting and adding the size of the pot throughout the hand, and doing a lot of multiplying and dividing to calculate things such as pot odds, drawing outs etc...\n\nI have trouble with this, usually taking a long time to do math in my head which ends up consuming all my mental energy and making me lose focus in the actual hand. How can you speed up this process while still being accurate? Are there any tips or tricks? Or what about exercises you can do to help?", "How to do math in your head quickly and easily. I play a lot of online poker but eventually am going to make the switch to live poker in a casino, where you have to do all the math in your head that is automatically done in online poker. This includes a lot of counting and adding the size of the pot throughout the hand, and doing a lot of multiplying and dividing to calculate things such as pot odds, drawing outs etc...\n\nI have trouble with this, usually taking a long time to do math in my head which ends up consuming all my mental energy and making me lose focus in the actual hand. How can you speed up this process while still being accurate? Are there any tips or tricks? Or what about exercises you can do to help?" ]

[ "It's just practice and more practice. \n\nTry to double every number you see on your life (car plates, adresses, dates, etc), then triple. Then divide by 2. When you see an offer of x% off, try to calculate what the final result is (and check with a calculator). \n\nAfter some time you'll start finding patterns that will help you be faster (eg, if you have to calculate the 20% of something, divide it by 5, or by 10 and then multiply by 2)", "It may help to think about computing initially in whole numbers to make calculating easier. \n\nRandom example: if you need to subtract 7 from 186 quickly, think about subtracting 10 (=176) and then adding 3 (=179) in case that is faster than immediately subtracting 7 in your head. Just a thought. Good luck!", "Some tricks that work for me:\n\n* x * 5 is the same as (x / 2) * 10. I find it pretty easy to figure out half of something in my head.\n\n* Similarly, x * 25 is the same as (x / 2 / 2) * 100. Just take half twice and multiply by 100. I remember one time a guy was pulling out a calculator to figure out 25 * 17, and I said almost immediately, ~~625~~ 425. He looked at me and said oh, you're one of *those* people. :-D\n\n* If you know squares, you can use (a - b)(a + b) = a^2 - b^2. For example, 17 * 23 = (20 - 3)(20 + 3) = 400 - 9 = 391. This one really only works if the difference is even, though.\n", ">Adding is generally the easiest but if you want to add 2 large numbers e.g 1489 + 1707. Round them up / down depending on which is closer.\n\nSo then you get (1500-11) + (1700+7) = 3200 - 4 = 3196\n\n>Subtracting is a bit tricker but here are a few tricks. If you want to take away something from 10,100,1000.\n\nLet's say 10000-2981 \n\nTake each digit of 2981 away from 9 except for the last one which you take away from 10.\n\nAs in 10000-2981:\n\n\n9-2=7\n\n\n9-9=0\n\n\n9-8=1\n\n\n10-1=9\n\nSo 7019\n\n> Multiplying\n\nIf you want to multiply by 9,99,999....\n\nLet's say 81*999\n\nMultiply it buy the next number and take away 81\n\nAs in 81 * 999=81 * 1000 - 81 = 80919\n\nDoubling and tripling take practice and there aren't any shortcuts I can think of. \n\n> Dividing / percentages\n\nFor any multiple of 10% a divide by 10 and multiply by 'n' where n is the multiplier of 10%.\n\n30%= 3 *10% so our 'n' value is 3. \n\nLet's say 30% of 50 \n\n50/10= 5\n\n3*5=15 \n\nSo 30% of 50 is 15.\n\n50%= halve the number\n\n25%= halve the number twice. \n\nTo divide by 3 split the add up its digits 1+7+ 3= 11. The find the smallest number less than 11 that is a multiple of 3 in this case it's 9.\n\nSince 9 and 11 have a difference of 2 split the number into 171 + 2 \n\nSplit it further such that you get a multiple 3 that ends with a 0 in this case 150.\n\nSo 173=150 + 21 + 2\n\nDivide each individual bit by 3\n\nSo we get 50+ 7 + 2/3. So then it's 57 + 2/3 or 57.67\n\n\n\n\n\n" ]

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[ "Getting your foot in the door even though there is not job posting... **If this is the wrong board, sorry, this is the first time I've posted here**\n\nI'm trying to figure out how to I make myself sound like a valuable candidate even if jobs aren't posted. I know how to approach someone if they have a position available, but I've never approached someone I could see myself working for in the future. I know some places I'd like to work when I graduate, but I don't know how to contact them without sounding like I'm looking for a job.\n\nIs there a professional way to just show you're resume/exprience to someone who isn't looking to hire?", "Getting your foot in the door even though there is not job posting... **If this is the wrong board, sorry, this is the first time I've posted here**\n\nI'm trying to figure out how to I make myself sound like a valuable candidate even if jobs aren't posted. I know how to approach someone if they have a position available, but I've never approached someone I could see myself working for in the future. I know some places I'd like to work when I graduate, but I don't know how to contact them without sounding like I'm looking for a job.\n\nIs there a professional way to just show you're resume/exprience to someone who isn't looking to hire?", "Getting your foot in the door even though there is not job posting... **If this is the wrong board, sorry, this is the first time I've posted here**\n\nI'm trying to figure out how to I make myself sound like a valuable candidate even if jobs aren't posted. I know how to approach someone if they have a position available, but I've never approached someone I could see myself working for in the future. I know some places I'd like to work when I graduate, but I don't know how to contact them without sounding like I'm looking for a job.\n\nIs there a professional way to just show you're resume/exprience to someone who isn't looking to hire?", "Getting your foot in the door even though there is not job posting... **If this is the wrong board, sorry, this is the first time I've posted here**\n\nI'm trying to figure out how to I make myself sound like a valuable candidate even if jobs aren't posted. I know how to approach someone if they have a position available, but I've never approached someone I could see myself working for in the future. I know some places I'd like to work when I graduate, but I don't know how to contact them without sounding like I'm looking for a job.\n\nIs there a professional way to just show you're resume/exprience to someone who isn't looking to hire?" ]

[ "I got my job by scheduling a 'informational interview' with the program manager. She liked my interpersonal process and knowledge base so much, she made a position to offer me.", "If you're not desperately seeking a job right now, this is a very smart practice; it'll make the job hunt so much easier when there comes a time that you do need a job. My best advice would be to use a little nonchalant confidence. Walk in with your resume and ask to speak to the hiring manager (you'll get bonus points if you've done your homework and already know who that is). \n\nHand them your resume and say something like \"Hello, my name is _____\". I'm not really sure if you're looking to hire a new (job title) at the moment, but I've been researching businesses in this market and I really like your company's mission/product. I've been working at ABC company for the past __ years doing XYZ and think I'd be a great addition to your team. My contact information is on my resume; please let me know if you're ever looking to hire someone. I'd love the opportunity to come back in and speak with you about it\".", "I receive a lot of unsolicited faxes that I keep in a file should something come up. You may want to try that. Just call first and find out to who's attention it should be sent.", "There is not one specific method of doing this correctly. It depends on your specific situation. It all begins with networking and relationships that may aid you building the right connection. Here is one thing that helped me in the past: While working on various projects I was working on developing pieces that I wanted certain parties to see. I had employed open source work and appearances at specific events and conferences to get me the right kind of spotlight. It worked out in the end, but it was a long road that took years. You have to devise serious plans and work a lot to get this done." ]

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[ "How to tell the person interviewing me why I am looking to leave my current job as a cook without sounding like an asshole. ", "How to tell the person interviewing me why I am looking to leave my current job as a cook without sounding like an asshole. ", "How to tell the person interviewing me why I am looking to leave my current job as a cook without sounding like an asshole. ", "How to tell the person interviewing me why I am looking to leave my current job as a cook without sounding like an asshole. ", "How to tell the person interviewing me why I am looking to leave my current job as a cook without sounding like an asshole. ", "How to tell the person interviewing me why I am looking to leave my current job as a cook without sounding like an asshole. " ]

[ "If it's closer to home then tell them that, I would also say something to the effect of there being no room to grow within your current role if that is what you are after.\n\nWhat position are you interviewing for?\n", "I would start by explaining that since you blew your ACL, you needed to find work where you weren't on your feet so much. Talk about whatever you liked about your old job, so it doesn't sound like you're running away from it. \n\nMention how good it would be if you were able to find interesting work at a company closer to your home, and then talk about what you believe you would like about the new job. \n\nBy talking positively about both jobs, you're showing that you keep a positive attitude, which is a good thing. Have handy a few anecdotes about times at the old job where you did exceptional work, in case you get asked. \n\nAlso, when they ask you if you have any questions, you need to have questions, and they need to NOT be about salary or benefits. You might try questions about how the company was founded, what their next major milestone is, how they bring in new business, what kind of training you'll be going through, stuff like that. If conversation lags, try asking about any times they can remember where they had to go the extra mile for a customer, and what happened. (Their answer to this can be very telling.)\n\nDon't forget that you are interviewing them, too. Is this company a place that you are going to be comfortable working? Is your boss going to be supportive if you have further problems with your ACL? Politely, you need to get the answers to these questions, even if only indirectly.", "When they ask this they are mostly wanting to know:\n\nAre you quitting for no real reason;\n\nAre you leaving your last job because you were fired/left on a bad note.", "You are interested in branching out beyond the restaurant business. You enjoy X part of your current job and believe that skill will translate well into new job because Y. You also are looking forward to a shorter commute. Don't mention your injury, especially if they offer health insurance benefits-as that makes you a less desirable hire. ", "I have always been told by my managers (we are close friends) that when I apply for a job and they ask why, that I tell them I want to advance in the new company. I have tried this on 3 different interviews (all for the same job) and have always been called back. It shows that you are not just looking for a filler job and are a long term investment. Also dress nice, have a firm handshake, show up early, smile and be friendly and always thank them for the opportunity for the job. ", "A great thing to say about leaving any job is: \"I needed a change of pace.\" Hopefully the vagueness isn't questioned." ]

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[ "How to deal with a girlfriend who is out of the state/country frequently? My girlfriend and her family travel a lot out of the country and state and I was wondering if anyone knew of some good ways to not get lonely or how to stay in touch and feel better even when she is hundreds of miles away.", "How to deal with a girlfriend who is out of the state/country frequently? My girlfriend and her family travel a lot out of the country and state and I was wondering if anyone knew of some good ways to not get lonely or how to stay in touch and feel better even when she is hundreds of miles away.", "How to deal with a girlfriend who is out of the state/country frequently? My girlfriend and her family travel a lot out of the country and state and I was wondering if anyone knew of some good ways to not get lonely or how to stay in touch and feel better even when she is hundreds of miles away." ]

[ "So.. super stupid and lame sounding, I'm sure but back when I was doing that, she gave me her favorite stuffed animal, along with a bunch of artwork she did, the stuffed animal was sprayed with her perfume.. its a poor substitute, but does really help when you get lonely.", "The internet should make it fairly easy to get ahold of her if she's not going for a rainforest exp", "There are lots of things out can do, depending on your situation.\n\n1) Use this time to work on hobbies and focus on your other relationships (family, friends, etc). People in committed romantic relationships often neglect other relationships in their lives. Plus, having a hobby instantly gives you something to talk about in the \"how was your day?\" talk.\n\n2) Depending on where she is, Skype/Facetime/other video chat apps are great for keeping in touch. My husband and I would use Facetime almost constantly and it didn't matter what we were doing: watching TV, cooking dinner, housework: prop a laptop or tablet up so you can chat, and since you're doing something else at the same time, no awkward silences.\n\n3) Speaking of TV: If she's in a position to do so, consider watching TV and movies together. We would do a 3-2-1 countdown to start a movie or tv episode together on Netflix. It gave us something to talk about, and was a nice simulation of \"doing stuff together\" even though we weren't in the same room.\n\n4) Text. A lot. Using either regular text messages or your favourite IM app. Share memes and funny pictures, jokes and articles.\n\n5) Plan for when her vacations are over. What kind of dates do you guys want to go on when you're together again?\n\nI could go on, but consider googling \"Long Distance relationship survival\" instead.\n\nWhen my husband and I first got married, I was living on the opposite side of the world. 16-18 hour time zone difference depending on the time of the year. We were like this for approximately the first 18 months of our marriage, and sporadically for months at a time while we were dating.\n\n" ]

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[ "My car door is frozen open I have class in an hour and I dont have any WD40 (something I heard works). It froze shut last night and now that it's open it just keeps bouncing open when I try to shut it. I have it bungee'd shut but it'll still fly open (it's the driver side back door) and I worry it might hit another car. Any tips?\n\n", "My car door is frozen open I have class in an hour and I dont have any WD40 (something I heard works). It froze shut last night and now that it's open it just keeps bouncing open when I try to shut it. I have it bungee'd shut but it'll still fly open (it's the driver side back door) and I worry it might hit another car. Any tips?\n\n", "My car door is frozen open I have class in an hour and I dont have any WD40 (something I heard works). It froze shut last night and now that it's open it just keeps bouncing open when I try to shut it. I have it bungee'd shut but it'll still fly open (it's the driver side back door) and I worry it might hit another car. Any tips?\n\n" ]

[ "Even though it's too late, I've usually used water to un-freeze things like this. Try pouring room temp water into the door latch/ handle/ lock and see if it un-freezes whatever is stuck...", "What do you mean \"Frozen open\"? Whats frozen on it that keeps it open?\n\nOr do you mean the door latch wont lock? If it doesn't lock get a screw driver, its probably locked in the \"closed (how it should be if the door is closed) position\". Get a screwdriver pry it back to the \"open\" position so the door can latch onto the frame.", "Is it a sunfire or a cavalier? My old sunfire had this problem on cold days, I had to use a screwdriver to pry open the latch the would hold the door shut when you closed it. If it's happened once it will keep happening now, best to keep a screwdriver in your backpack." ]

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[ "Backing up your data i haven't really been backing up my data in an organized fashion and i think it's time to change that. what solution do you guys use to regularly back-up your data? i am mainly interested in work data, email, pictures, MP3 and videos.\n\ni have:\n\n- a work laptop which contains my \"current\" data (pictures, MP3 etc)\n- an old laptop that i use as a home computer\n- a 120gb portable drive that i use to periodically backup my stuff\n- a few >1TB drives at home that i should be using to back up my data but don't since i have to manually do it.\n\nany simple, plug and play solution where i can automatically back up my stuff across multiple drives?", "Backing up your data i haven't really been backing up my data in an organized fashion and i think it's time to change that. what solution do you guys use to regularly back-up your data? i am mainly interested in work data, email, pictures, MP3 and videos.\n\ni have:\n\n- a work laptop which contains my \"current\" data (pictures, MP3 etc)\n- an old laptop that i use as a home computer\n- a 120gb portable drive that i use to periodically backup my stuff\n- a few >1TB drives at home that i should be using to back up my data but don't since i have to manually do it.\n\nany simple, plug and play solution where i can automatically back up my stuff across multiple drives?", "Backing up your data i haven't really been backing up my data in an organized fashion and i think it's time to change that. what solution do you guys use to regularly back-up your data? i am mainly interested in work data, email, pictures, MP3 and videos.\n\ni have:\n\n- a work laptop which contains my \"current\" data (pictures, MP3 etc)\n- an old laptop that i use as a home computer\n- a 120gb portable drive that i use to periodically backup my stuff\n- a few >1TB drives at home that i should be using to back up my data but don't since i have to manually do it.\n\nany simple, plug and play solution where i can automatically back up my stuff across multiple drives?", "Backing up your data i haven't really been backing up my data in an organized fashion and i think it's time to change that. what solution do you guys use to regularly back-up your data? i am mainly interested in work data, email, pictures, MP3 and videos.\n\ni have:\n\n- a work laptop which contains my \"current\" data (pictures, MP3 etc)\n- an old laptop that i use as a home computer\n- a 120gb portable drive that i use to periodically backup my stuff\n- a few >1TB drives at home that i should be using to back up my data but don't since i have to manually do it.\n\nany simple, plug and play solution where i can automatically back up my stuff across multiple drives?", "Backing up your data i haven't really been backing up my data in an organized fashion and i think it's time to change that. what solution do you guys use to regularly back-up your data? i am mainly interested in work data, email, pictures, MP3 and videos.\n\ni have:\n\n- a work laptop which contains my \"current\" data (pictures, MP3 etc)\n- an old laptop that i use as a home computer\n- a 120gb portable drive that i use to periodically backup my stuff\n- a few >1TB drives at home that i should be using to back up my data but don't since i have to manually do it.\n\nany simple, plug and play solution where i can automatically back up my stuff across multiple drives?" ]

[ "Since you already have so much storage...\n\nWindows backup is actually fairly decent now (Windows 7 and above) and works automatically on a schedule.\n\nOn Mac, it's as easy as plugging in a drive and saying yes to Time Machine.", "I use github to store coding projects I'm working on and configuration files. It functions as a backup for that and also keeps multiple computers in sync. \n\nI use Dropbox exclusively for documents that I'm working on or that are relevant to current projects…receipts/tickets for upcoming events, etc.. It doesn't hold anything particularly long term or anything that doesn't see activity. It also keeps my computers in sync with regards to those files. \n\nI use rsync (in scripts) to backup my home folders and my media drives to my archive drive. I should really automate it, but updating the archives \"whenever I think about it\" seems to work well too……and I don't want it to happen when I'm doing things like working on music, and that happens at random times. So I can't properly automate it. \n\nAnd I have a second \"archive\" drive that lives somewhere else. About once a week, I'll go get it…use a different script to update it from my local archive, and then move it back off-site. \n\nIt works well for what I do, though it doesn't save multiple versions of files……just whatever was current when I last ran the appropriate script. My computer exploding would mean losing work since the last backup script……and my apartment burning down could mean up to a week of lost data. I'd like to move to something that would prevent that, but……cloud storage is kind of too expensive for me at this point. And packages like Time Machine won't capture everything (I'm on OS X and Linux in VMs) and leads to some serious headaches. \n\nIf I had an unlimited budget, I'd replace my local archive with a Drobo full of SSDs and my off-site backup with something like an Amazon S3 share. But I'm happy with the software. ", "I use alwayssynch and a Zyxel NAS with mirrored drives. I don't have it running for real time synch, but I don't do that much that I need it constantly synched. I let it run once a week overnight and haven't had any issues. It's bi-directional, so both computers and the NAS have the same data.\n\nThe hard part was organizing everything so I can always find it.", "Google Music is a site where you can upload up to 20,000 songs for free then easily download it to another computer or just listen to it via the internet! ANd it will auto-detect and upload new content. I got tired of loosing music so I'm using this, it's really great and free. \n\nGoogle has a lot of other great products too, including Picasa for pictures, but you get limited space. ", "Dropbox is great for documents and stuff. You don't really need to backup email, unless you have pst files in outlook. \nWestern Digital's Smartware works ok for backing up to an external wd drive.\nGoogle Play Music backs up your mp3’s and let's you play them from anywhere." ]

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[ "Becoming a less light sleeper I can't sleep if there's the slightest noise or movement. Light usually isn't a big issue but it contributes sometimes. I can pass out if there's noise in the background sometimes, but it's usually pretty poor sleep (wake up with a headache and whatnot).\n\nIt's a problem because I'm living in shared housing - if someone so much as opens a door somewhere nearby, I'm awake, just like that.\n\nAnyone know anything that can help? (\"Stay up for like 72 hours then sleep\" isn't a real solution.)", "Becoming a less light sleeper I can't sleep if there's the slightest noise or movement. Light usually isn't a big issue but it contributes sometimes. I can pass out if there's noise in the background sometimes, but it's usually pretty poor sleep (wake up with a headache and whatnot).\n\nIt's a problem because I'm living in shared housing - if someone so much as opens a door somewhere nearby, I'm awake, just like that.\n\nAnyone know anything that can help? (\"Stay up for like 72 hours then sleep\" isn't a real solution.)" ]

[ "Staying up for too long is a tough one to sustain. I recommend good earplugs as mitigation and extra exercise to lower your sensitivity. \n\nI believe you can adapt over time. I chose quiet situations for housing because I like silent sleeping environments... When that doesn't work, or come the earplugs. ", "I use earplugs and I have a white noise machine that blocks out most other noise. Can you sleep with something like a fan in the background? sometimes the constant amount of noise is helpful." ]

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[ "How Do You Stop Getting Repeat Scam Calls? I recently picked up the phone only to realise it was a scam call, so I hung up. Next day, I get 5 scam calls from slightly different numbers in one day. This has been going on for at least a month, and I don't know how to stop it or remove myself from the call list. I work over night and sleep during the day, so I can't leave the ringer on, even if I'm expecting an important call. They call every hour or so, so if I do leave the ringer on I don't get any sleep. It's become a really big nuisance. Any tips on how to fix this?", "How Do You Stop Getting Repeat Scam Calls? I recently picked up the phone only to realise it was a scam call, so I hung up. Next day, I get 5 scam calls from slightly different numbers in one day. This has been going on for at least a month, and I don't know how to stop it or remove myself from the call list. I work over night and sleep during the day, so I can't leave the ringer on, even if I'm expecting an important call. They call every hour or so, so if I do leave the ringer on I don't get any sleep. It's become a really big nuisance. Any tips on how to fix this?", "How Do You Stop Getting Repeat Scam Calls? I recently picked up the phone only to realise it was a scam call, so I hung up. Next day, I get 5 scam calls from slightly different numbers in one day. This has been going on for at least a month, and I don't know how to stop it or remove myself from the call list. I work over night and sleep during the day, so I can't leave the ringer on, even if I'm expecting an important call. They call every hour or so, so if I do leave the ringer on I don't get any sleep. It's become a really big nuisance. Any tips on how to fix this?", "How Do You Stop Getting Repeat Scam Calls? I recently picked up the phone only to realise it was a scam call, so I hung up. Next day, I get 5 scam calls from slightly different numbers in one day. This has been going on for at least a month, and I don't know how to stop it or remove myself from the call list. I work over night and sleep during the day, so I can't leave the ringer on, even if I'm expecting an important call. They call every hour or so, so if I do leave the ringer on I don't get any sleep. It's become a really big nuisance. Any tips on how to fix this?", "How Do You Stop Getting Repeat Scam Calls? I recently picked up the phone only to realise it was a scam call, so I hung up. Next day, I get 5 scam calls from slightly different numbers in one day. This has been going on for at least a month, and I don't know how to stop it or remove myself from the call list. I work over night and sleep during the day, so I can't leave the ringer on, even if I'm expecting an important call. They call every hour or so, so if I do leave the ringer on I don't get any sleep. It's become a really big nuisance. Any tips on how to fix this?", "How Do You Stop Getting Repeat Scam Calls? I recently picked up the phone only to realise it was a scam call, so I hung up. Next day, I get 5 scam calls from slightly different numbers in one day. This has been going on for at least a month, and I don't know how to stop it or remove myself from the call list. I work over night and sleep during the day, so I can't leave the ringer on, even if I'm expecting an important call. They call every hour or so, so if I do leave the ringer on I don't get any sleep. It's become a really big nuisance. Any tips on how to fix this?", "How Do You Stop Getting Repeat Scam Calls? I recently picked up the phone only to realise it was a scam call, so I hung up. Next day, I get 5 scam calls from slightly different numbers in one day. This has been going on for at least a month, and I don't know how to stop it or remove myself from the call list. I work over night and sleep during the day, so I can't leave the ringer on, even if I'm expecting an important call. They call every hour or so, so if I do leave the ringer on I don't get any sleep. It's become a really big nuisance. Any tips on how to fix this?" ]

[ "I've read 2 suggestions which I've tried with varying amounts of success.\n\nOne is to answer the phone without speaking, and immediately mute the line. Whether it's an auto-dialer or a person, they will assume the number isn't for voice calls and flag the number. This can take some time to see results as spam calls can come from different sources.\n\nThe other possible solution is to answer the call as if you are a business, like Domino's Pizza. The expectation is they will flag the number as a commercial phone number and stop calling.", "Biggest thing you can do is to NOT use your real number for signing up for things.\n\n95% of the time when you sign up for something and they REQUIRE a phone number they are going to sell your number to a call list provider or they will use your number for their own robocall campaigns.\n\nGet a Google Voice number (they are free) and whenever you need to sign up for something use the Google Voice number instead. Google Voice also accepts texts so when they text you to verify your account you can answer via Google Voice. \n\nDo NOT download Google voice on your phone, you can access google voice through your email account with Google (also free) by typing [voice.google.com](https://voice.google.com) in the URL. And when robocalls or scammers call your google voice number your phone will not ring.\n\nLastly, for calls to your phone, if you don't recognize the number hit the option on your phone that says \"decline call\" and then when the list of reasons pop up just select \"can't talk, text me\".\n\nRobocallers and scammers never text back and legit people will text you. Over time, this drastically reduces calls since robocallers will list your phone as \"does not answer\" and then they'll move on.", "If you have an Iphone, look for “silence unknown callers” in the settings. If the number isn’t associated with a contact, it won’t ring and if you are waiting for a call just ask, what’s the call back number so I can add it to my phone or turn it off for the hour/day.", "I've had relative success pressing the buttons to get a person to pick up then actually telling them, \"Hey, look, I know this is a scam. As in I know for a fact this is a scam. You're never going to get money or information off of me so can you please take me off your call list?\"\n\nTook a bit of time but the number of \"potential spam\" calls i got actually did decrease. They don't like wasting their time either, even if they are piece of shit scammers.", "1. Block the number. After a while you have a massive block list but scam calls stop.\n\n2. Buy an air horn. Press the button to talk to a person but don't say anything. When they come one, blast the air horn into your mic until they hang up.", "You get all of your friends to help call the FCC everyday until they fucking get off their lazy asses and fix the fucking problem.", "Not much as it isn’t on a list per say. It’s just a program shuffling random numbers together then ringing them." ]

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[ "How to clean a grater without destroying your sponge Everytime i clean my grater i wreck my sponge or wire wool is there a better way?", "How to clean a grater without destroying your sponge Everytime i clean my grater i wreck my sponge or wire wool is there a better way?", "How to clean a grater without destroying your sponge Everytime i clean my grater i wreck my sponge or wire wool is there a better way?", "How to clean a grater without destroying your sponge Everytime i clean my grater i wreck my sponge or wire wool is there a better way?", "How to clean a grater without destroying your sponge Everytime i clean my grater i wreck my sponge or wire wool is there a better way?", "How to clean a grater without destroying your sponge Everytime i clean my grater i wreck my sponge or wire wool is there a better way?", "How to clean a grater without destroying your sponge Everytime i clean my grater i wreck my sponge or wire wool is there a better way?" ]

[ "You can clean the grater with the green, coarse side of a kitchen sponge. Wipe under running water in the opposite direction you would go to grate something. This ain't rocket science.", "Old toothbrush, scrub from the inside to push materials out. \n\nWhen scrubbing the outside, go with the grain, so it doesn't cut it up more. \n\nWorks for me with some water pressure from the hose also. ", "I keep a colony of voracious insects in my kitchen and just put dirty dishes in their enclosure until they eat all the crud away. Well, ok... So I don't actually do that, but the real answers had already been given, so I made up something I hope you get a chuckle out of.", "[Oil the grater](http://m.wikihow.com/Clean-a-Kitchen-Grater) before you use it. It makes cleaning a ton easier.", "Simpler: Either clean it right away, or let it soak in warm water then use a RAG not a sponge. The rag gets into the grates much better (go with the grates). Takes like 5 sec to clean. ", "Rub with the grate with a soapy sponge. Then follow up with a brush to really make sure you get everything. ", "I bought a miniature toilet brush from Dollar Tree and I use it to clean all sorts of stuff. Just not the toilet. " ]

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[ "I work at a movie theater. How do I get butter stains out of my shirt? Yeah. Laundry machine doesn't do it. I need something industrial. Something toxic.", "I work at a movie theater. How do I get butter stains out of my shirt? Yeah. Laundry machine doesn't do it. I need something industrial. Something toxic.", "I work at a movie theater. How do I get butter stains out of my shirt? Yeah. Laundry machine doesn't do it. I need something industrial. Something toxic.", "I work at a movie theater. How do I get butter stains out of my shirt? Yeah. Laundry machine doesn't do it. I need something industrial. Something toxic." ]

[ "Spray the stains with WD-40. I know this is very much counter-intuitive, as it's a lubricant. But it takes out grease stains of all kinds, and leaves no stain (nor that nasty scent) behind. It's never left a stain of its own.", "i've read about putting some dish-washer soap - the gel kind - onto the stains before throwing the shirts into the washing machines. I've done this before with corn oil stains and it works like a charm, the stuff's sole purpose is to remove oil and grease from plates so it's pretty powerful. Give it a try", "Pre-treat with Dawn dish soap. You know what they say, \"Dawn takes grease out of your way!\" I've tried other brands of dish soap and they don't work.", "Follow these procedures for non-washable fabrics, testing all removers first on an inconspicuous area of the article. For washable fabrics, the same methods may be used for localized stain removal before\nlaundering.\n\n1. Place clean absorbent material under the stain. With ABSORBENT PAD apply drycleaning solvent. Cover the stain with a pad moistened with solvent. Change pad as it picks up stain.\n\n2. With ABSORBENT PAD apply dry spotter. For stronger fabrics, remove pad ever 5 minutes and TAMP stain with brush or spoon. Continue alternating soaking and tamping until stain is removed.\n\nAn alternate method is to LUBRICATE with lard or mineral oil. TAMP with brush or spoon. FLUSH with drycleaning solvent. Continue alternating lubrication and flushing. Allow to dry.\n\nhttp://www.human.cornell.edu/fsad/outreach/upload/removingstains.pdf" ]

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[ "How can I cover up odors temporarily? What is something good to keep in your car to help cover odors that may be on you or your clothes?\n\nExample: I go straight from work to school, no time to shower, but would like something temporary but not whore-bath like.\n", "How can I cover up odors temporarily? What is something good to keep in your car to help cover odors that may be on you or your clothes?\n\nExample: I go straight from work to school, no time to shower, but would like something temporary but not whore-bath like.\n" ]

[ "You can always bring a change of clothes with you and change somewhere in between school and work just in case your clothes end up stinky at the first place you are at.", "I've seen a cinnamon broom cover up the smell of cat/dog piss/crap so that should work. I later read that cinnamon can kill bacteria in the air. And if your clothes have a stench that doesn't wash out, add a cup of baking soda to the load the first time. I found that out after a gaming marathon involving garlic, onions, etc and going unwashed for days." ]

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[ "How to Make Small Talk I've never been much of a small talker. I've got two theories as to why: 1) it's a waste of time chit chatting about the weather or what you did this weekend and 2) the weather and what you did this weekend bores me. Sure, I can feign interest, but the more intuitive folks can tell I'm being disingenuous.\n\nMost people recognize this as one of my many quirks, but I was recently promoted to a management role over a department full of people that don't know me. \n\nNow I've got two reasons to exterminate this little quirk of mine: 1) my staff find me to be unsociable because I don't engage them in personal conversation and 2) I'm rubbing elbows with senior leadership now and small talk is a BIG part of their interpersonal communications.\n\nI think I'm looking for more of a philosophy or new perspective on the art of small talk as opposed to tips and tricks because if I can change the way I perceive chit chat, I think it'll solve my insincerity problem.", "How to Make Small Talk I've never been much of a small talker. I've got two theories as to why: 1) it's a waste of time chit chatting about the weather or what you did this weekend and 2) the weather and what you did this weekend bores me. Sure, I can feign interest, but the more intuitive folks can tell I'm being disingenuous.\n\nMost people recognize this as one of my many quirks, but I was recently promoted to a management role over a department full of people that don't know me. \n\nNow I've got two reasons to exterminate this little quirk of mine: 1) my staff find me to be unsociable because I don't engage them in personal conversation and 2) I'm rubbing elbows with senior leadership now and small talk is a BIG part of their interpersonal communications.\n\nI think I'm looking for more of a philosophy or new perspective on the art of small talk as opposed to tips and tricks because if I can change the way I perceive chit chat, I think it'll solve my insincerity problem.", "How to Make Small Talk I've never been much of a small talker. I've got two theories as to why: 1) it's a waste of time chit chatting about the weather or what you did this weekend and 2) the weather and what you did this weekend bores me. Sure, I can feign interest, but the more intuitive folks can tell I'm being disingenuous.\n\nMost people recognize this as one of my many quirks, but I was recently promoted to a management role over a department full of people that don't know me. \n\nNow I've got two reasons to exterminate this little quirk of mine: 1) my staff find me to be unsociable because I don't engage them in personal conversation and 2) I'm rubbing elbows with senior leadership now and small talk is a BIG part of their interpersonal communications.\n\nI think I'm looking for more of a philosophy or new perspective on the art of small talk as opposed to tips and tricks because if I can change the way I perceive chit chat, I think it'll solve my insincerity problem.", "How to Make Small Talk I've never been much of a small talker. I've got two theories as to why: 1) it's a waste of time chit chatting about the weather or what you did this weekend and 2) the weather and what you did this weekend bores me. Sure, I can feign interest, but the more intuitive folks can tell I'm being disingenuous.\n\nMost people recognize this as one of my many quirks, but I was recently promoted to a management role over a department full of people that don't know me. \n\nNow I've got two reasons to exterminate this little quirk of mine: 1) my staff find me to be unsociable because I don't engage them in personal conversation and 2) I'm rubbing elbows with senior leadership now and small talk is a BIG part of their interpersonal communications.\n\nI think I'm looking for more of a philosophy or new perspective on the art of small talk as opposed to tips and tricks because if I can change the way I perceive chit chat, I think it'll solve my insincerity problem.", "How to Make Small Talk I've never been much of a small talker. I've got two theories as to why: 1) it's a waste of time chit chatting about the weather or what you did this weekend and 2) the weather and what you did this weekend bores me. Sure, I can feign interest, but the more intuitive folks can tell I'm being disingenuous.\n\nMost people recognize this as one of my many quirks, but I was recently promoted to a management role over a department full of people that don't know me. \n\nNow I've got two reasons to exterminate this little quirk of mine: 1) my staff find me to be unsociable because I don't engage them in personal conversation and 2) I'm rubbing elbows with senior leadership now and small talk is a BIG part of their interpersonal communications.\n\nI think I'm looking for more of a philosophy or new perspective on the art of small talk as opposed to tips and tricks because if I can change the way I perceive chit chat, I think it'll solve my insincerity problem.", "How to Make Small Talk I've never been much of a small talker. I've got two theories as to why: 1) it's a waste of time chit chatting about the weather or what you did this weekend and 2) the weather and what you did this weekend bores me. Sure, I can feign interest, but the more intuitive folks can tell I'm being disingenuous.\n\nMost people recognize this as one of my many quirks, but I was recently promoted to a management role over a department full of people that don't know me. \n\nNow I've got two reasons to exterminate this little quirk of mine: 1) my staff find me to be unsociable because I don't engage them in personal conversation and 2) I'm rubbing elbows with senior leadership now and small talk is a BIG part of their interpersonal communications.\n\nI think I'm looking for more of a philosophy or new perspective on the art of small talk as opposed to tips and tricks because if I can change the way I perceive chit chat, I think it'll solve my insincerity problem.", "How to Make Small Talk I've never been much of a small talker. I've got two theories as to why: 1) it's a waste of time chit chatting about the weather or what you did this weekend and 2) the weather and what you did this weekend bores me. Sure, I can feign interest, but the more intuitive folks can tell I'm being disingenuous.\n\nMost people recognize this as one of my many quirks, but I was recently promoted to a management role over a department full of people that don't know me. \n\nNow I've got two reasons to exterminate this little quirk of mine: 1) my staff find me to be unsociable because I don't engage them in personal conversation and 2) I'm rubbing elbows with senior leadership now and small talk is a BIG part of their interpersonal communications.\n\nI think I'm looking for more of a philosophy or new perspective on the art of small talk as opposed to tips and tricks because if I can change the way I perceive chit chat, I think it'll solve my insincerity problem.", "How to Make Small Talk I've never been much of a small talker. I've got two theories as to why: 1) it's a waste of time chit chatting about the weather or what you did this weekend and 2) the weather and what you did this weekend bores me. Sure, I can feign interest, but the more intuitive folks can tell I'm being disingenuous.\n\nMost people recognize this as one of my many quirks, but I was recently promoted to a management role over a department full of people that don't know me. \n\nNow I've got two reasons to exterminate this little quirk of mine: 1) my staff find me to be unsociable because I don't engage them in personal conversation and 2) I'm rubbing elbows with senior leadership now and small talk is a BIG part of their interpersonal communications.\n\nI think I'm looking for more of a philosophy or new perspective on the art of small talk as opposed to tips and tricks because if I can change the way I perceive chit chat, I think it'll solve my insincerity problem." ]

[ "I find that it's listening rather than talking that makes it. Just a little set up like \"how was your weekend?\" Then just expand.\nEg\n\"How was your weekend?\"\n\n\"Good thanks, I spent most of it in the garden/ fishing/ camping/ playing golf?\"\n\n\"Oh nice. What kind of garden is it/ catch much/ where did you go/ what's your handicap?\"\n\n\nThen just let them tell you about it while you feed the odd question.\nIt's fine not to know much about the subject as you can ask them.\n\nIt makes people feel like your interested in them and you don't have to keep thinking of stuff to say.\n ", "Pretend you're Barbara Walters. Ask simple question then build on it like you are a journalist conducting an interview. \n\nQ: How was you're weekend? \nA: stayed home watched Netflix \n\nQ: do you prefer to binge watch or skip around? \nA: I binge. \n\nQ: what do you watch? Is this how you spend most time? \n\nIf they are interested in a conversation they'll probably keep talking and introduce other potential topics. Just keep going. \n\n", "It's definitely something you have to be proactive at, so kudos to you for your initiative to get better. It doesn't just happen for many of us, so you definitely have to practice. \nLike other have suggested, listening is a great start, and that will be your main weapon since you yourself don't enjoy talking.\nI would add to it though and once you've given them the reigns of the conversation, it never hurts to throw a small related anecdote in there - that way you start building up familiarity and comfort. The way to stop really painful small talking is getting to know the people you have to small talk with most. Then you can actually have some productive conversations. \nI think it can be boring, no doubt, but view it as a game with yourself on how you can use that time they're talking to think up new questions and keep the conversation going. ", "I'm good at small talk (a combination of being raised in the south and small talk being an integral part of my profession, I think). Here's my tip: Once I've made small talk with someone once or twice, the next time I see them I try to follow up on something that we talked about the last time, e.g., \"Oh your son's birthday party was last weekend. How did it go?\" That gives you a jumping-off point, plus it gives you something to talk about that's probably actually at least semi-interesting. It's a loop that you can repeat forever as long as they give you new info each time you see them. As a bonus, the person you're talking to is usually touched that you listened the last time you spoke and that you remembered. ", "Listen to podcasts about things in which you and your employees may be mutually interested. I like Freakonomics radio. It gives me conversation topics and makes me sound smarter than I am. ", "I get a LOT of ppl telling me stuff, am a sales pro too BTW\n\na) ask about something they're wearing or the weather or a local sports team...make a comment and ask them how they feel\n\nb) show enthusiasm about something\n\nc) stay positive..no matter what they have on say \"i LOVE it!!!\"\n\nd) ask how they handle the heat/cold/Christmas...ask for advice\n\ne) ask for help: directions, how to fix something on your phone/PC a recipe", "Be observant about who you're making small talk with. Acknowledge their favorite sports team, their clothes, their alma mater, something that piques their interest. Compliments are the easiest way to get people talking about things they like, and even if you're not interested in what you're complimenting, they'll be sure to ask a question or give you a compliment in return. People love talking about themselves, and giving them an opportunity too can give you better grasp on their character and what they consider \"small talk.\"\n\nI worked for a few local campaigns, one political and the rest issue-based, and trudging through small-talk is often how donations or votes are earned. It may not interest you to talk about the weather, but it may be good to think about it as a momentary break from your work to talk about something inane. \n\nStaying current with the news helps too. You always sound informed, it's a great way to constructively spend free time, and when you have nothing to say in small talk, you can always reference something in the news. You may want to avoid being political, depending on who you're talking to, but sometimes small talk about the news can become a fairly nuanced debate if you remain polite and open minded.", "Watch some bloggers on YouTube.\nThis may sound silly, but after seeing many blogs, I think I've got the gist of how to make small talk \n\nAnd emulate them!" ]

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[ "How best to answer someones question that didn't ask you? (in the office) In the office setting you hear someone ask someone else how to do something. If you personally know the answer, what is the best way to get in the conversation and provide an answer without sounding rude or like a know-it-all?", "How best to answer someones question that didn't ask you? (in the office) In the office setting you hear someone ask someone else how to do something. If you personally know the answer, what is the best way to get in the conversation and provide an answer without sounding rude or like a know-it-all?", "How best to answer someones question that didn't ask you? (in the office) In the office setting you hear someone ask someone else how to do something. If you personally know the answer, what is the best way to get in the conversation and provide an answer without sounding rude or like a know-it-all?" ]

[ "\"Excuse me, couldn't help but overhear that you were having trouble with *problem*. I don't mind helping you if you need it.\"\n\nDon't be scared to be friendly. ", "They asked that other person for a reason (expertise or relationship, usually). Give that person a chance to answer without butting in. If you see them struggling for a minute, go with a polite interjection like the first commenter suggested. Offer your advice for whatever it's worth. ", "Ask the inquirer, “How important is it to you that your answer come from Becky? Because I’m guessing that accuracy of the answer is of more relevance than from whom the information came?”\n<Important do do this privately>\nIt’s a dog eat Becky world." ]

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[ "How to get dried in sweat stains out of clothes Hello.\n\nI work in construction normally outside in the heat and the hours can be quite long and I also happen to sweat a lot. As a result almost every shirt I own gets these stains in the armpit and chest area, the stains are both visible and can be smelled within a reasonable distance. Are there anyways to avoid this in the future or how to get the stains out? I've been told to wash the clothes the same day once I get home but the only chance I have to go to the laundromat is on weekends.", "How to get dried in sweat stains out of clothes Hello.\n\nI work in construction normally outside in the heat and the hours can be quite long and I also happen to sweat a lot. As a result almost every shirt I own gets these stains in the armpit and chest area, the stains are both visible and can be smelled within a reasonable distance. Are there anyways to avoid this in the future or how to get the stains out? I've been told to wash the clothes the same day once I get home but the only chance I have to go to the laundromat is on weekends.", "How to get dried in sweat stains out of clothes Hello.\n\nI work in construction normally outside in the heat and the hours can be quite long and I also happen to sweat a lot. As a result almost every shirt I own gets these stains in the armpit and chest area, the stains are both visible and can be smelled within a reasonable distance. Are there anyways to avoid this in the future or how to get the stains out? I've been told to wash the clothes the same day once I get home but the only chance I have to go to the laundromat is on weekends." ]

[ "I wear a cap that over time gets really dirty. The red brim gets dirty finger marks and looks terrible. Recently I got some Dollar Tree equivalent to Woolite for a dollar of course. I soaked the cap in cold water and the cleaner works really well. I may have added a bit of their Awesome Cleaner. Anyway I was surprised at how clean it is with no scrubbing. ", "Once I was told to try crushing aspirin with water to make a paste and smearing it on the stain, letting it for several minutes and then washing normally. It didn't take all the stain, but it helped. ", "I bought a nurse outfit at a good will once for my Kill Bill costume to my dismay it had terrible pit stains I didn't see till in the light at home. I soaked them in a bucket of hot water and oxy clean for an hour that cleaned it perfectly. \n\nAlso there are deodorants on the market that will prevent the yellow staining. I think speed stick has one. " ]

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[ "My roommate leaves the front door unlocked AND leaves the oven on Any tips to help her remember to lock the door and to turn the oven off??? I don't wanna die... (-_-)", "My roommate leaves the front door unlocked AND leaves the oven on Any tips to help her remember to lock the door and to turn the oven off??? I don't wanna die... (-_-)", "My roommate leaves the front door unlocked AND leaves the oven on Any tips to help her remember to lock the door and to turn the oven off??? I don't wanna die... (-_-)", "My roommate leaves the front door unlocked AND leaves the oven on Any tips to help her remember to lock the door and to turn the oven off??? I don't wanna die... (-_-)", "My roommate leaves the front door unlocked AND leaves the oven on Any tips to help her remember to lock the door and to turn the oven off??? I don't wanna die... (-_-)", "My roommate leaves the front door unlocked AND leaves the oven on Any tips to help her remember to lock the door and to turn the oven off??? I don't wanna die... (-_-)", "My roommate leaves the front door unlocked AND leaves the oven on Any tips to help her remember to lock the door and to turn the oven off??? I don't wanna die... (-_-)", "My roommate leaves the front door unlocked AND leaves the oven on Any tips to help her remember to lock the door and to turn the oven off??? I don't wanna die... (-_-)", "My roommate leaves the front door unlocked AND leaves the oven on Any tips to help her remember to lock the door and to turn the oven off??? I don't wanna die... (-_-)", "My roommate leaves the front door unlocked AND leaves the oven on Any tips to help her remember to lock the door and to turn the oven off??? I don't wanna die... (-_-)" ]

[ "It's a deathtrap for thieves. If the thief breaks in, the oven will burn down the house. It's a win-win-lose.", "I had a roommate that did shit like this; e.g., leaving doors unlocked (within a week of an apartment on our block being burglarized), leaving a burner on beneath a tea kettle and leaving the house, and didn't think it was a problem. Taped notes were too passive-aggressive for her. The problem came down to she and I having different ideas on what the minimum requirements for prudent urban apartment stewardship were, and she was too stubborn/lazy/oblivious to change her behavior in order to protect our shit.\n\nYou can't rely on making someone change their behavior. Make sure you have renter's insurance. It's cheap, especially if you already have auto insurance from the same company. Also see what it takes to get locks installed on your parts of the apartment. While you're talking to the landlord about the locks, see what it takes for you to get out of your lease. Living with crazies sucks.", "[Get one of these.](http://www.gokeyless.com/category/19/1/19/Mechanical-Keyless-Door-Knob-Locks) Not only wil this lock automatically, you don't have to worry about keys", "Unless you want your roomie to hate you, don't put up post-it notes. Instead, rationally talk to her about it. If she comes up with this idea and hangs sticky notes herself she won't be irritated by them. \n\nAs a suggestion - My old roommate used to have trouble with turning off the oven. The solution that wound up working was setting a second timer for 10-minutes after whatever was cooking would be done. She said she always thought she would remember when turning the oven on, but when the first timer went off she was too preoccupied with the food being done to remember to turn the oven off. But the second timer always reminded her.\n\nFor the front door being locked--- I used to forget to do this and I only remembered when I hung up a key rack right next to the door. Grabbing the key while leaving would remind me to lock it.", "You'd be surprised by what a punch to the face (or near-face region...anywhere on the head, really) can do for a person's memory. Just be sure to yell the lesson within 10 seconds. They'll never forget it.", "I lived with my boyfriend for 5 years, he did this, it drove me crazy, he never changed and got mad when I brought it up...sometimes you just gotta move on from stubborn/stupid people. Roommates are easy to change.\n\n", "Front door LPT: \n\nMy friend did this with maximal success. On a day where your roommate leaves the door unlocked, move all of the valuables into your room when they are away. When they get back they will think they were robbed - you can also send them a text or something playing dumb. When they return (after letting them sweat for a bit) you say, \"Well actually, all of the expensive stuff is in my room - but wouldn't it have sucked if we got robbed because you left the door unlocked again?\"\n\nOven POSSIBLE LPT: tape some sort of brightly-colored arrow or item to each of the knobs that will point straight up when off. This might help, but it also might not.\n\nAdditionally, buy renter's insurance. It's dirt cheap and sounds like it'd be worth it in this scenario.", "Put a combination lock on the front door so they can't leave without you.\nWhen they call you for the combo, tell them to turn off the oven and lock the door behind them.", "Post-it notes... as long as she won't be offended... if you think she will sit down and have a talk with her. Or the other option is to put post-it notes up and say \"They are to help me remember\".", "I have the same problem as your roomate.\n\nThe front-door thing gets better after a few weeks of living in the place.\n\nAs for the stove, I still make that error. I've learned that my element makes a certain creaking sound, and that helps me remember. It definitely helps to cook with nobody else in the kitchen." ]

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[ "how to make a good first impression even when you're sick/tired/sad/on period And let's say you can't just postpone it to some time that you're feeling more yourself.", "how to make a good first impression even when you're sick/tired/sad/on period And let's say you can't just postpone it to some time that you're feeling more yourself.", "how to make a good first impression even when you're sick/tired/sad/on period And let's say you can't just postpone it to some time that you're feeling more yourself.", "how to make a good first impression even when you're sick/tired/sad/on period And let's say you can't just postpone it to some time that you're feeling more yourself." ]

[ "A 3 minute phone call with a friend/parents/grandparents someone who cares about and you care about, will calm you even in sickness/etc. \n\nBut most of the time suck it up. ", "Take time for yourself if possible to prepare for the thought of \"brain drains\" aka unsympathetic/oblivious people. That and I like to pretend that the people I meet with are relatives or loved ones that I haven't seen in years. ", "Think about things logically. If your in a bad mood over nothing get over it. If your bad mood is justified try and put on a facáde, if you are asked why you are in a bad mood explain the situation (if your comfortable)most people will understand ", "Don’t allow your emotions or feelings to control how you interact to people. Only people who have emotionally invested relationships with you give a shit when you are sick, sad, tired, or on your period." ]

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[ "How to break the habit of being a picky eater (as an adult). As a child, I was a very picky eater. I've grown to eat a lot of different things that I had never tried before (chilli, mustard), but I am by no means a 'normal adult' so far as that goes.\n\n\nI love pizza, and eat pizza for a good deal of my meals throughout the week. Other than that, I like hamburgers, spaghetti, tacos, italian subs, (sometimes) chicken, chilli, mac n cheese, general tso's.... and I'm already running out of stuff that I like. \n\nSo, how do I break the bad habit? If I try to eat something I don't like, it just doesn't taste very good and I don't have a good time, I usually don't finish it. I'd like to eat healthier, or if I can't stomach that right this moment, at least eat with more variety. ", "How to break the habit of being a picky eater (as an adult). As a child, I was a very picky eater. I've grown to eat a lot of different things that I had never tried before (chilli, mustard), but I am by no means a 'normal adult' so far as that goes.\n\n\nI love pizza, and eat pizza for a good deal of my meals throughout the week. Other than that, I like hamburgers, spaghetti, tacos, italian subs, (sometimes) chicken, chilli, mac n cheese, general tso's.... and I'm already running out of stuff that I like. \n\nSo, how do I break the bad habit? If I try to eat something I don't like, it just doesn't taste very good and I don't have a good time, I usually don't finish it. I'd like to eat healthier, or if I can't stomach that right this moment, at least eat with more variety. ", "How to break the habit of being a picky eater (as an adult). As a child, I was a very picky eater. I've grown to eat a lot of different things that I had never tried before (chilli, mustard), but I am by no means a 'normal adult' so far as that goes.\n\n\nI love pizza, and eat pizza for a good deal of my meals throughout the week. Other than that, I like hamburgers, spaghetti, tacos, italian subs, (sometimes) chicken, chilli, mac n cheese, general tso's.... and I'm already running out of stuff that I like. \n\nSo, how do I break the bad habit? If I try to eat something I don't like, it just doesn't taste very good and I don't have a good time, I usually don't finish it. I'd like to eat healthier, or if I can't stomach that right this moment, at least eat with more variety. ", "How to break the habit of being a picky eater (as an adult). As a child, I was a very picky eater. I've grown to eat a lot of different things that I had never tried before (chilli, mustard), but I am by no means a 'normal adult' so far as that goes.\n\n\nI love pizza, and eat pizza for a good deal of my meals throughout the week. Other than that, I like hamburgers, spaghetti, tacos, italian subs, (sometimes) chicken, chilli, mac n cheese, general tso's.... and I'm already running out of stuff that I like. \n\nSo, how do I break the bad habit? If I try to eat something I don't like, it just doesn't taste very good and I don't have a good time, I usually don't finish it. I'd like to eat healthier, or if I can't stomach that right this moment, at least eat with more variety. ", "How to break the habit of being a picky eater (as an adult). As a child, I was a very picky eater. I've grown to eat a lot of different things that I had never tried before (chilli, mustard), but I am by no means a 'normal adult' so far as that goes.\n\n\nI love pizza, and eat pizza for a good deal of my meals throughout the week. Other than that, I like hamburgers, spaghetti, tacos, italian subs, (sometimes) chicken, chilli, mac n cheese, general tso's.... and I'm already running out of stuff that I like. \n\nSo, how do I break the bad habit? If I try to eat something I don't like, it just doesn't taste very good and I don't have a good time, I usually don't finish it. I'd like to eat healthier, or if I can't stomach that right this moment, at least eat with more variety. ", "How to break the habit of being a picky eater (as an adult). As a child, I was a very picky eater. I've grown to eat a lot of different things that I had never tried before (chilli, mustard), but I am by no means a 'normal adult' so far as that goes.\n\n\nI love pizza, and eat pizza for a good deal of my meals throughout the week. Other than that, I like hamburgers, spaghetti, tacos, italian subs, (sometimes) chicken, chilli, mac n cheese, general tso's.... and I'm already running out of stuff that I like. \n\nSo, how do I break the bad habit? If I try to eat something I don't like, it just doesn't taste very good and I don't have a good time, I usually don't finish it. I'd like to eat healthier, or if I can't stomach that right this moment, at least eat with more variety. ", "How to break the habit of being a picky eater (as an adult). As a child, I was a very picky eater. I've grown to eat a lot of different things that I had never tried before (chilli, mustard), but I am by no means a 'normal adult' so far as that goes.\n\n\nI love pizza, and eat pizza for a good deal of my meals throughout the week. Other than that, I like hamburgers, spaghetti, tacos, italian subs, (sometimes) chicken, chilli, mac n cheese, general tso's.... and I'm already running out of stuff that I like. \n\nSo, how do I break the bad habit? If I try to eat something I don't like, it just doesn't taste very good and I don't have a good time, I usually don't finish it. I'd like to eat healthier, or if I can't stomach that right this moment, at least eat with more variety. ", "How to break the habit of being a picky eater (as an adult). As a child, I was a very picky eater. I've grown to eat a lot of different things that I had never tried before (chilli, mustard), but I am by no means a 'normal adult' so far as that goes.\n\n\nI love pizza, and eat pizza for a good deal of my meals throughout the week. Other than that, I like hamburgers, spaghetti, tacos, italian subs, (sometimes) chicken, chilli, mac n cheese, general tso's.... and I'm already running out of stuff that I like. \n\nSo, how do I break the bad habit? If I try to eat something I don't like, it just doesn't taste very good and I don't have a good time, I usually don't finish it. I'd like to eat healthier, or if I can't stomach that right this moment, at least eat with more variety. ", "How to break the habit of being a picky eater (as an adult). As a child, I was a very picky eater. I've grown to eat a lot of different things that I had never tried before (chilli, mustard), but I am by no means a 'normal adult' so far as that goes.\n\n\nI love pizza, and eat pizza for a good deal of my meals throughout the week. Other than that, I like hamburgers, spaghetti, tacos, italian subs, (sometimes) chicken, chilli, mac n cheese, general tso's.... and I'm already running out of stuff that I like. \n\nSo, how do I break the bad habit? If I try to eat something I don't like, it just doesn't taste very good and I don't have a good time, I usually don't finish it. I'd like to eat healthier, or if I can't stomach that right this moment, at least eat with more variety. ", "How to break the habit of being a picky eater (as an adult). As a child, I was a very picky eater. I've grown to eat a lot of different things that I had never tried before (chilli, mustard), but I am by no means a 'normal adult' so far as that goes.\n\n\nI love pizza, and eat pizza for a good deal of my meals throughout the week. Other than that, I like hamburgers, spaghetti, tacos, italian subs, (sometimes) chicken, chilli, mac n cheese, general tso's.... and I'm already running out of stuff that I like. \n\nSo, how do I break the bad habit? If I try to eat something I don't like, it just doesn't taste very good and I don't have a good time, I usually don't finish it. I'd like to eat healthier, or if I can't stomach that right this moment, at least eat with more variety. ", "How to break the habit of being a picky eater (as an adult). As a child, I was a very picky eater. I've grown to eat a lot of different things that I had never tried before (chilli, mustard), but I am by no means a 'normal adult' so far as that goes.\n\n\nI love pizza, and eat pizza for a good deal of my meals throughout the week. Other than that, I like hamburgers, spaghetti, tacos, italian subs, (sometimes) chicken, chilli, mac n cheese, general tso's.... and I'm already running out of stuff that I like. \n\nSo, how do I break the bad habit? If I try to eat something I don't like, it just doesn't taste very good and I don't have a good time, I usually don't finish it. I'd like to eat healthier, or if I can't stomach that right this moment, at least eat with more variety. ", "How to break the habit of being a picky eater (as an adult). As a child, I was a very picky eater. I've grown to eat a lot of different things that I had never tried before (chilli, mustard), but I am by no means a 'normal adult' so far as that goes.\n\n\nI love pizza, and eat pizza for a good deal of my meals throughout the week. Other than that, I like hamburgers, spaghetti, tacos, italian subs, (sometimes) chicken, chilli, mac n cheese, general tso's.... and I'm already running out of stuff that I like. \n\nSo, how do I break the bad habit? If I try to eat something I don't like, it just doesn't taste very good and I don't have a good time, I usually don't finish it. I'd like to eat healthier, or if I can't stomach that right this moment, at least eat with more variety. ", "How to break the habit of being a picky eater (as an adult). As a child, I was a very picky eater. I've grown to eat a lot of different things that I had never tried before (chilli, mustard), but I am by no means a 'normal adult' so far as that goes.\n\n\nI love pizza, and eat pizza for a good deal of my meals throughout the week. Other than that, I like hamburgers, spaghetti, tacos, italian subs, (sometimes) chicken, chilli, mac n cheese, general tso's.... and I'm already running out of stuff that I like. \n\nSo, how do I break the bad habit? If I try to eat something I don't like, it just doesn't taste very good and I don't have a good time, I usually don't finish it. I'd like to eat healthier, or if I can't stomach that right this moment, at least eat with more variety. ", "How to break the habit of being a picky eater (as an adult). As a child, I was a very picky eater. I've grown to eat a lot of different things that I had never tried before (chilli, mustard), but I am by no means a 'normal adult' so far as that goes.\n\n\nI love pizza, and eat pizza for a good deal of my meals throughout the week. Other than that, I like hamburgers, spaghetti, tacos, italian subs, (sometimes) chicken, chilli, mac n cheese, general tso's.... and I'm already running out of stuff that I like. \n\nSo, how do I break the bad habit? If I try to eat something I don't like, it just doesn't taste very good and I don't have a good time, I usually don't finish it. I'd like to eat healthier, or if I can't stomach that right this moment, at least eat with more variety. ", "How to break the habit of being a picky eater (as an adult). As a child, I was a very picky eater. I've grown to eat a lot of different things that I had never tried before (chilli, mustard), but I am by no means a 'normal adult' so far as that goes.\n\n\nI love pizza, and eat pizza for a good deal of my meals throughout the week. Other than that, I like hamburgers, spaghetti, tacos, italian subs, (sometimes) chicken, chilli, mac n cheese, general tso's.... and I'm already running out of stuff that I like. \n\nSo, how do I break the bad habit? If I try to eat something I don't like, it just doesn't taste very good and I don't have a good time, I usually don't finish it. I'd like to eat healthier, or if I can't stomach that right this moment, at least eat with more variety. ", "How to break the habit of being a picky eater (as an adult). As a child, I was a very picky eater. I've grown to eat a lot of different things that I had never tried before (chilli, mustard), but I am by no means a 'normal adult' so far as that goes.\n\n\nI love pizza, and eat pizza for a good deal of my meals throughout the week. Other than that, I like hamburgers, spaghetti, tacos, italian subs, (sometimes) chicken, chilli, mac n cheese, general tso's.... and I'm already running out of stuff that I like. \n\nSo, how do I break the bad habit? If I try to eat something I don't like, it just doesn't taste very good and I don't have a good time, I usually don't finish it. I'd like to eat healthier, or if I can't stomach that right this moment, at least eat with more variety. ", "How to break the habit of being a picky eater (as an adult). As a child, I was a very picky eater. I've grown to eat a lot of different things that I had never tried before (chilli, mustard), but I am by no means a 'normal adult' so far as that goes.\n\n\nI love pizza, and eat pizza for a good deal of my meals throughout the week. Other than that, I like hamburgers, spaghetti, tacos, italian subs, (sometimes) chicken, chilli, mac n cheese, general tso's.... and I'm already running out of stuff that I like. \n\nSo, how do I break the bad habit? If I try to eat something I don't like, it just doesn't taste very good and I don't have a good time, I usually don't finish it. I'd like to eat healthier, or if I can't stomach that right this moment, at least eat with more variety. ", "How to break the habit of being a picky eater (as an adult). As a child, I was a very picky eater. I've grown to eat a lot of different things that I had never tried before (chilli, mustard), but I am by no means a 'normal adult' so far as that goes.\n\n\nI love pizza, and eat pizza for a good deal of my meals throughout the week. Other than that, I like hamburgers, spaghetti, tacos, italian subs, (sometimes) chicken, chilli, mac n cheese, general tso's.... and I'm already running out of stuff that I like. \n\nSo, how do I break the bad habit? If I try to eat something I don't like, it just doesn't taste very good and I don't have a good time, I usually don't finish it. I'd like to eat healthier, or if I can't stomach that right this moment, at least eat with more variety. ", "How to break the habit of being a picky eater (as an adult). As a child, I was a very picky eater. I've grown to eat a lot of different things that I had never tried before (chilli, mustard), but I am by no means a 'normal adult' so far as that goes.\n\n\nI love pizza, and eat pizza for a good deal of my meals throughout the week. Other than that, I like hamburgers, spaghetti, tacos, italian subs, (sometimes) chicken, chilli, mac n cheese, general tso's.... and I'm already running out of stuff that I like. \n\nSo, how do I break the bad habit? If I try to eat something I don't like, it just doesn't taste very good and I don't have a good time, I usually don't finish it. I'd like to eat healthier, or if I can't stomach that right this moment, at least eat with more variety. ", "How to break the habit of being a picky eater (as an adult). As a child, I was a very picky eater. I've grown to eat a lot of different things that I had never tried before (chilli, mustard), but I am by no means a 'normal adult' so far as that goes.\n\n\nI love pizza, and eat pizza for a good deal of my meals throughout the week. Other than that, I like hamburgers, spaghetti, tacos, italian subs, (sometimes) chicken, chilli, mac n cheese, general tso's.... and I'm already running out of stuff that I like. \n\nSo, how do I break the bad habit? If I try to eat something I don't like, it just doesn't taste very good and I don't have a good time, I usually don't finish it. I'd like to eat healthier, or if I can't stomach that right this moment, at least eat with more variety. ", "How to break the habit of being a picky eater (as an adult). As a child, I was a very picky eater. I've grown to eat a lot of different things that I had never tried before (chilli, mustard), but I am by no means a 'normal adult' so far as that goes.\n\n\nI love pizza, and eat pizza for a good deal of my meals throughout the week. Other than that, I like hamburgers, spaghetti, tacos, italian subs, (sometimes) chicken, chilli, mac n cheese, general tso's.... and I'm already running out of stuff that I like. \n\nSo, how do I break the bad habit? If I try to eat something I don't like, it just doesn't taste very good and I don't have a good time, I usually don't finish it. I'd like to eat healthier, or if I can't stomach that right this moment, at least eat with more variety. " ]

[ "I would suggest learning to cook and learning to analyse flavour. Think about what you are eating and how it tastes and how you can use other flavours to mask or compliment the flavour of the food you don't like.\n\nFor instance a lot of people don't like brussel sprouts, a common reason for this is people over cook them by cooking them whole. I have turned many sprout haters around by either cutting them into quarters or pulling off each leaf individually and stir frying them with onion, garlic and bacon. \n\nTLDR; Cook everything with bacon.", "Jesus Christ you sound just like my roommate. I used to be a semi-picky eater, so I'll share my experience. \n\nA lot of people will want you to try food that may be out of your comfort zone, and you may not like it simply because of that fact, even if you taste it. One of the things that helped me personally was learning about different cuisines, watching cooking shows, and knowing what to expect when certain flavors are combined. \n\nThe other thing I kept telling myself was 'there's a reason this is on the menu, it must taste good to *somebody*' \n\nNow I can eat, and enjoy, almost anything; uni, caviar, raw fish, tomatoes, onions you name it ", "A thing I have noticed about fussy eaters is how they approach a new foodstuff. They seem geared up for it to be horrible, they screw their face up and take a tiny bite then spit it out. If you did the same thing with a pizza you might have the same reaction. Just approach it in a curious fashion. If you don't like it, you don't like it, but there is always *something* interesting. I didn't like olives but there was something about the tang of them that kept me going back for more, now I love them. ", "Try going to a legitimately good restaurant and ordering something vaguely similar to what you already like. Force yourself to try new things, including whatever vegetables are in the dish. I was a verrrry picky eater as a kid (basically grew up on pizza and plain noodles). It wasn't until college that I really started to branch out, and that was only because I was dependent on the dining hall and had to get a little creative. I'm 26 now and am so glad I've gotten to experience new foods! Thai, Indian, Japanese, Italian, Ethiopian, etc. I used to think I didn't like vegetables, and then I tried veggies that were actually cooked well and now love a lot of them. Maybe start small, like chicken parm instead of an Italian sub. Or steak instead of a hamburger. You'll soon realize you've been missing out. ", "I once heard a podcast on taste, claiming that when you have tasted something 20 times, you'll like it. Maybe we should set up a study to test the hypothesis? ", "Go to to a buffet for dinner. Try a little bit of everything (one teaspoon or so per dish) to experiment with new foods. That way if you will not waste a whole serving of food just to experiment with new tastes and flavors.", "Honestly the best solution is to literally deprive yourself of all foods and then re-introduce the foods you want to learn to eat first. \n\nEat only when you are hungry. Eat really only a bite or two, just enough to stomach something. After a while you will notice your body craves those flavors and then bam you are cured.", "You have to just be adventurous and eat different foods. Not rocket science. \n\nWhen ordering chinese, go with the mixed vegetable chow mein for example instead of the chicken. \n\nStart eating thai food and more rice based foods like indian dishes. They tend to have more vegetables. \n\nCut down on pizza, have pizza no more than once a week. Try to only eat every type of meal only once a week. \n\nWhen eating say chips and some chicken fingers from the supermarket, buy a side salad and eat the salad with the chicken and chips. ", "You could try preparing the stuff you do like in different ways.. Buy ready made pizza dough and top it with vegetables and not much cheese. All the stuff you list has extreme flavor... Your tastebuds are kind of numbed by it, if you get what im trying to say. ", "Well I was in the same position some months ago and I couldn't keep with this bad habit. So instead of buying junk food, I bought a bag of carrots. I still eat between 2 meals but I eat healthier, which is in my opinion, a lot better.\n\nWhat I'm trying to express here is that you should find an healthier aliment you like, and progressively replace junk food with it.\n\nHope my comment will help you!", "Watch cooking shows, and learn how to cook food and you will be more likely to enjoy it. \n\nThere's plenty of meals you can cook for a decent price, I advise you to watch Gordon Ramsay's Youtube.\n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIEv3lZ_tNXHzL3ox-_uUGQ", "Two tips helped a friend of mine.\n\nFirst, think of eating new food as training. Many things are acquired tastes. (Ask people who like beer or coffee if they remember the first time they had it - chances are they remember and it wasn't good.) So work on a new food or two, and treat it like training. Try a little of it at a time, on your own, until it becomes something a little more normal for you. Just like you were doing pushups and trying to improve. Try one bite of broccoli today. Then two bites in a few days, then three bites a few days later. You'll get two improvements: your taste buds will adjust, and the more you eat, the more your body will adjust and even later crave that type of food. And seeing it as training gives you positive feedback, since you give yourself a mental high five for doing it (rather than just thinking \"yuck, that was gross\"), just like you would have for going on a run or whatever.\n\nAnd second... Try some time only having some of the \"better\" food in your house. Get rid of all the normal food you eat, and leave only the healthier alternatives. When you're hungry at 9 pm for a snack, and only carrots are around, you'll end up settling for carrots. And if you do that enough, it will work it's way into your normal diet.\n\n", "Olives hold much of my spite. I will gag and heave on those devils eyes. I will not nibble, lick, nor smell those little balls sent from hell. You cannot hide them in my food. If you are the person that hides olives under cheese in a pizza, I will kill you. Toppings go on top, they are not called middlings. Say it's in my head, I dare you. So are my nose, tongue, and brain that process the flavors I cannot savor. I love olives not.", "I'd suggest adding the ingredients your afraid to eat in foods that you already enjoy. Add small amounts at first so you can stomach it and over time increase those portions while decreasing the portion of your usual preferred food. I never liked eating Frozen veg so I would only eat the cooked veggies with butter and bacon then over time i would reduce the bacon and butter.\n ", "I went vegetarian to break my picky eating habit and to eat healthier. It wasn't until going vegetarian that I expanded my limited range of fruits and vegetables. Before going vegetarian, I also had never tried other things like mushrooms, beans, and lentils, and now I love them. I am not vegetarian anymore (after almost 2.5 years, plus about 5 months of transitioning beforehand), but I don't regret it, and it definitely helped me learn how to eat healthier and be less picky. \n\nRight now, it looks like your diet is primarily meat, dairy, and grains. Adding more fruits, vegetables, and legumes would make your diet healthier and add variety. Going full on vegetarian might not be for you, but maybe trying to do a vegetarian day once or twice a week, while also not just adding dairy and grains to make up for lacking meat, could work for you.\n\nAnother option is just buying one new vegetable or vegetable mix this week and add it to things you already like. Or you could look up recipes for healthier alternatives to foods you like and try that. Also try learning to cook foods you like in different ways or with different spices.\n\nThere are a lot of other things you can do, so I'll just wish you best of luck and hope you find a way that works for you.", "I was formerly a very picky eater as well. I used to gag when I would try sushi, not sure why, it was all mental. Then for some reason I decided that I wanted to try high end sushi. It was after reading Bourdain's Kitchen Confidential. The way he spoke of eating at Sushi Yasuda...I simply had to try it. I knew that the fish would be top notch and that seemed to take the mental stigma of \"raw\" fish/sushi away for me. We went to Yasuda an did omakase. It blew me away. There were so many different flavors and textures, it was amazing. That single meal transformed the way that I eat other foods. I now seek out new flavors and foods b/c I realized that there is a whole 'nother world out there of amazing flavors. Having a piece of toro melt in my mouth was a revelation...it is so good in a way that is hard to describe. While I love my pizza, burgers and other foods that you mentioned...they just don't give me that elated feeling like other foods can do. For me, there is a time and a place. Food for sustenance and then food for enjoyment. very different things. ", "For vegetables, you could try adding them to mac & cheese. The ones that will work well for most people are broccoli, carrots, green peas, and cauliflower. For spinach, zucchini, mushrooms, or eggplant, you can add those to spaghetti sauce or lasagna.\n\nAlso I would recommend that you keep a food journal and when you try something new that you don't like, try to describe why you didn't like it. For example, note the texture, the color, whether it is salty, sweet, bitter, or sour, level of spiciness, temperature of the food, etc. Over time you may notice patterns that will allow you to select recipes that you will like. For example, cole slaw, egg rolls, boiled cabbage, cabbage rolls, sauerkraut, and kimchi are all mostly cabbage but they are very different flavors and textures. \n\n\n", "Do you have a high sugar diet?\n\nThis trends to push us towards high flavor (artificially high flavor) foods since we are so desensitized to real flavor.\n\nCut out all sugar for a week or so, it will really suck. Your coffee will be bitter, you will miss pop, etc...\n\nAfter that time though, all high sugar food will taste cloyingly sweet. Coke will taste like syrup, coffee with sugar will taste like a word children's cereal, etc... You'll have lost your sweet tooth and begin to appreciate subtle flavors again. ", "You are a carbohydrate addict! Read Wheatbelly about what these things can cause ;)\nNot sure how to get you of them. Maybe just start with one day a week to go max on vegetables and a bit of meat. (real food...)\nGood luck, it isn't easy :)", "If other people can eat it, it means you likely won't die from it. Stuff it in, chew and swallow.\n\nThe answer to your question is the Nike slogan.\n\n\n", "Stop being such a pussy and realize food is for survival, although what you're eating if more food for the long-term suicidal.\n\nStick it in your mouth, chew with your mouth open to avoid the taste, swallow whatever\nyou're eating, rinse and repeat.\n\n\n\ntl:dr (wo)man the fuck up." ]

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[ "How to wake up not stuffy in an incredibly dusty old house? So my parents are renting and we live in an older house so I would want to know if there is anyway to wake up not stuffed up? I always wake up with a stuffy nose(probably from the dust) \n\nI'm trying to sleep in the basement that's why.\nIs there anything I can do to keep that from happening. Any advice is appreciated. ", "How to wake up not stuffy in an incredibly dusty old house? So my parents are renting and we live in an older house so I would want to know if there is anyway to wake up not stuffed up? I always wake up with a stuffy nose(probably from the dust) \n\nI'm trying to sleep in the basement that's why.\nIs there anything I can do to keep that from happening. Any advice is appreciated. ", "How to wake up not stuffy in an incredibly dusty old house? So my parents are renting and we live in an older house so I would want to know if there is anyway to wake up not stuffed up? I always wake up with a stuffy nose(probably from the dust) \n\nI'm trying to sleep in the basement that's why.\nIs there anything I can do to keep that from happening. Any advice is appreciated. " ]

[ "Get a HEPA air cleaner like [this](https://www.walmart.com/ip/Honeywell-True-HEPA-Compact-Tower-Allergen-Remover-HPA060-Black/24673606?wmlspartner=wlpa&selectedSellerId=0&adid=22222222227019591253&wl0=&wl1=g&wl2=c&wl3=40871770112&wl4=pla-78764635832&wl5=9007021&wl6=&wl7=&wl8=&wl9=pla&wl10=8175035&wl11=online&wl12=24673606&wl13=&veh=sem). ", "Clean the house, launder the draperies, beat the rugs, have the upholstery and carpets steam cleaned, then open the windows.", "Get allergen blocking bed sheets and pillow covers as well as a humidifier and/or a HEPA filter. Combined with the allergen-specific fabreze and you'll definitely find some relief!\n\nTake your allergy meds before bed too.\n\nI had some really weird stuffy runny nose symptoms when I was rearranging my home and following those steps above, cost me little to nothing and brought a world of relief. " ]

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[ "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that.", "How to make your room smell nice Hey, my room smells weird and I kinda want it not to smell weird. I'm not a huge fan of things like Febreze, but if they are the best option long term then I'll just do that." ]

[ "the simplest way: every day, open your windows wide for about 5-10 minutes, after you wake up. It sounds very simple but not doing it at all leads do strong smells, and doing it will improve the smell easily and rapidly.", "Ozium is a pretty decent air freshener, without an overpowering scent. I particularly like the orange scent.\n\n", "My friend left an opened box of drier sheets in his dorm room and it perpetually smelled like clean laundry, even though it was full of dirty clothes. Buy a box of drier sheets, or take the ones you already have, and put them in your room. My friend kept it in his wardrobe. ", "The two main sources of smells are: \n1) food \n2) sweat\n\nMake sure that things making direct contact with either of these things aren't in your room very long. This means changing your sheets at least once a week and clearing dishes and food trash daily. Keep your laundry basket in another room if you can, and don't leave used clothing around. \n\nIf getting enough airflow is a problem, use a fan for 10min a few times a day and keep the door open whenever possible.\n\n(Note: it's possible that you've got mold or mildew if your room smells like old paper or is unusually humid; this is a bigger problem that you probably won't be able to fix on your own.)", "If you have carpet, make sure it's clean. Vacuum and shampoo regularly. Even better if you can get rid of the carpet.", "I always try to bury my bodies within 2-3 weeks. They get pretty rancid after that and I find them less attractive. ", "What helps for a couple of hours to days is to put one of this little candles with metal around them in a glass filles with coffee beans and light it.", "make sure you're keeping it clean, for starters. fresh air daily is a must. be very careful using incense and candles, things can happen quickly. potpourri or those sticks that stick from a jar of scented oil thingies are good.", "I read in a 'fun fact' kind of book that **filling a couple of saucers (plates) with vinegar and evenly distributing them throughout a room [or house] eliminates odors**", "Sharp FP-P40CX\n\nIt automatically scrubs the air when it detects a fart. I just tested that feature again. This thing will clean the shit out of your stinky ass room for sure. You can literally smoke weed with your mom in the room next to you and she won't even come looking for a hoot. \n\n", "make popcorn and eat it fresh in your room. some people dont like how overpowering incense can be, but im a big fan of incense oils. get a burner where you use a tea lite candle underneath an oil receptacle and after a few minutes your room will smell really good. tea lite candle+hot incense oil, yummy smelling goodness.", "Incense. Smells so good, and it induces a relaxing feeling. Should get rid of any odor, too. If that's too strong, scented candles are also sooo good. \n\nTrust me, I've been living with gross people in college.", "Im allergic to just about everything and find most perfumes, candles and. Leakers nauseatingly artificial and overpowering so I stick with natural products. I make my own 'Febreze' by filling a spray bottle with two parts water, one part rubbing alcohol and one part white vinegar. Sometimes I'll add a few drops of peppermint, vanilla or lemon extract for a nice scent. \n\nSpray it on whatever needs freshening up, like curtains, furniture cushions or carpet and allow it to dry. It generally takes about fifteen minutes to dry. The alcohol helps the water to evaporate quickly and disinfects your fabric while the vinegar deodorizes the fabric. At first you'll smell the vinegar but within half an hour all you'll smell is whatever scent you added. This is a fairly good all purpose cleaner for most hard surfaces as well like counter tops and toilets. \n\nIf your carpet is the problem, sprinkle baking soda all over it liberally and let it sit for 24 hours before vacuuming it up. Then gently sprinkle cinnamon all over the carpet, let it sit for a few minutes and then vacuum it up as well. If your room is musty or damp invest in a dehumidifier or several containers of damp rid. When you get up in the morning don't make your bed. Bacteria like warm moist dark environments, like a made up bed you spent all night sweating in. Let it air out to kill the bacteria. \n\nFor a general funk, place a few small bowls of any (or all, but not in the same bowl) of the following items around the room for a few days:\nUnused coffee grounds\nBaking soda\nVinegar\nActivated charcoal (pet stores in the fish department)\nCinnamon\nCedar chips\n\nAnd it goes without saying, keep your room and clothes clean and the area well ventilated. \n", "A good quick fix for just about every strange or stinky smell that I've come across is a vanilla candle. It neutralizes most odors and if you're looking to add a nice scent to your room, get a vanilla combo candle. My personal favorite is Vanilla Sandalwood, which I can only find at Bath & Body. It leaves a nice clean earthy scent behind. ", "clean it.\n\nIf it's carpet get a thing of table salt and give the carpet a light coating. wait 5 minutes then vacuum.\n\nWash the walls. you would be shocked how filthy the vertical walls are.\n\ncontain old laundry in a hamper with a lid. The collective funk worn clothes can be ridiculous.\n\nlid on garbage can\n\nAlso make sure you have a small little green plant \n\nother than that yeah get the Sharp FP-P40CX or ozium or simply burn incense", "Sometimes I get a fan and some deodorant and I just tape it to the fan and let it freshen up the place.", "Open windows and aerate during the day. Particularly in small rooms, linen and bedding infuses smells, and also carries a musky, old kind of smell. So chuck them on the sun or just remove them from the room sometimes. I sometimes light incense, but open windows after otherwise your room will be far smokey.", "Next time you go out of town, empty several boxes of baking soda, and one box of pet odor removal powder, and let sit for a few days. Vacuum up and that should do the trick. Keeping it clean, and airing out out when it's child outcold outside will help.", "In what way does your room smell weird? Telling us about it might help us suggest possible reasons for why it smells that way, and ways to get rid of the smell. Also, tell us some other info about your room, such as how old the house is, how long you've been in the room, do you rent or own it, what theories you have on what it could be, what kind of floor you have, what the conditions in your room are like. \n\nFor instance, a weird-smelling room could have to do with everything from bug infestations of various kinds (termites, cockroaches, bed bugs, or others), to old/stained carpeting, to the paint on your walls, to mold/mildew, to food residues, to certain kinds of wood used in your bed or furniture, etc. \n\nObviously, getting rid of the source of the smell is ideal, but sometimes it's not really practical and your best bet is to frequently air out your room and use some Febreze. You might also try getting a good air purifier, but I've never tried that so I don't know if it works.", "Walmart, buy $5 candle warmer and a smell good candle. Install and keep on until candle is gone. This will take a long ass time and make your place smell nice all the time.", "Regularly wash and change your sheets on your bed, keep your laundry in a closed basket/hamper and wash it regularly. Don't leave wet towels lying around. If this doesn't improve the smell on it's own, change your washing powder and add in some nice smelling fabric conditioner. Open the windows. Don't leave food/plates lying around. Hoover/sweep. \n\nI've got this plug in ioniser (de-ioniser?) thing that I leave plugged in, it's supposed to make smells go away, that seems to help, but also makes an annoying hissing sound.\n\nI've found that Febreeze just covers up the smell like most air fresheners, rather than getting rid of it. You gotta wash the smells out.\nGood luck :-)", "My mom always took a piece of white bread, put it in a dish, and soaked it with excess vinegar. Your room will smell like vinegar for a bit, but the stench will slowly be absorbed away.", "Incense. Put some rice or sand in a cup, stick some incense in and light it up. \n\nAlternatively, open your door and turn on a fan inside your room.\n\nIf all else fails, clean your room and get rid of or wash anything that might smell bad.", "I've read about leaving your mattress out in the sun during the hottest part of the day. I haven't tried it yet. Has anyone else?", "I would start with cleaning - as others have recommended. Vaccum, laundry, wash your sheets/curtains/etc.\n\nFor cleaning windows and counters I mix water and white vinegar in a spray bottle. There are certain ratios that some people recommend - I just eyeball it, I probably do 1 part vinegar and 5 parts water. Then use this to clean all non porous surfaces, even spritz it on fabric if you like. It certainly will smell like vinegar for a while, but the smell will dissipate. If you don't like the smell of vinegar - do it before you leave home for the day, leave the windows cracked, by the time you return it will have diminished. \n\nThen find some smell good things. Buy some potpourri, incense, whatever. I like the smell of coffee so I like to buy cheap beans from the store and pour them into a bowl and set them out. Coffee has some sort of odor fighting properties, but it will only work for a week or so, then they need to be replaced.", "Hands down best thing to do:\n\nPut a few cups of water on the stove to boil, throw in a cinnamon stick and allow the entire thing to boil until the water is all gone, add more water as you please. ", "Get 6-8 snake plants in the bedroom; you will literally grow your own fresh air. Watch this:\n http://www.ted.com/talks/kamal_meattle_on_how_to_grow_your_own_fresh_air.html\n\n", "A bowl or shallow dish of vinegar helps take cig and weed smoke away if that's what your problem is...", "1. Air out your room daily\n2. Sprinkle Sodium Bicarbonate on smelly carpets/fabrics (rub it in and leave for at least a day before vacuuming), failing that rub a weak vinegar/water solution into trouble spots\n3. Put some Sodium Bicarb in a sock and leave it in enclosed spaces (closets/draws)\n4. Leave a half-bowl of malt vinegar in the room for 24 hours with all windows and doors closed.\n\nFailing that... Fire?\n\nBut I've never needed past step 4", "1) reduce clutter : keep as much off surfaces, no messy desks, no piles of clothes or books. Less clutter makes things easy to clean.\n\n2) fabrics hold smells: wash clothes, go through your closet and do a load of backpacks/gym bags, LARP gear, anything, regular bedsheet and pillow case washing \n\n3) Good ventilation : simple\n\n4) Rethink the source, maybe it's not dirty clothes, old dishes, or rotten hockey gear... maybe you smell. Shower before bed, if you sleep naked wear some pjs and less blankets (easier to wash)\n\n5) Carpet: sprinkle baking soda (not powder) generously on a carpet after vacuuming- leave to sit for 30 minutes- then vacuum everything thoroughly", "1) Allow fresh air to circulate into your room for at least 15 minutes a day, or whenever it starts to smell. If your room doesn't have window access, then at least leave your door open. Use a fan to suck the fresh air in.\n\n2) you could invest in an item like [an enviromental air sponge](http://www.inspiredliving.com/odor-control/index.html), and just put it somewhere in your room. If you buy a large one, it lasts a long time and completely eats every odor in your room. It'll cost you, but not too much.\n\n3) after your room has been de-stinkified, add an accent scent. Something like an air freshener, or maybe incense. Just make sure not to overdue it; a little goes a long way." ]

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[ "How should I store phone numbers of businesses and non-person contacts on my phone? What's the best way to save phone numbers of non-person contacts on the phone? I've just been only using the first name field for them, but they still get sorted and mixed in with all my normal contacts. I figured I could make a group for them (using the iPhone) and then exclude that group to make them disappear, but I'm wondering if there's a better way.", "How should I store phone numbers of businesses and non-person contacts on my phone? What's the best way to save phone numbers of non-person contacts on the phone? I've just been only using the first name field for them, but they still get sorted and mixed in with all my normal contacts. I figured I could make a group for them (using the iPhone) and then exclude that group to make them disappear, but I'm wondering if there's a better way.", "How should I store phone numbers of businesses and non-person contacts on my phone? What's the best way to save phone numbers of non-person contacts on the phone? I've just been only using the first name field for them, but they still get sorted and mixed in with all my normal contacts. I figured I could make a group for them (using the iPhone) and then exclude that group to make them disappear, but I'm wondering if there's a better way.", "How should I store phone numbers of businesses and non-person contacts on my phone? What's the best way to save phone numbers of non-person contacts on the phone? I've just been only using the first name field for them, but they still get sorted and mixed in with all my normal contacts. I figured I could make a group for them (using the iPhone) and then exclude that group to make them disappear, but I'm wondering if there's a better way.", "How should I store phone numbers of businesses and non-person contacts on my phone? What's the best way to save phone numbers of non-person contacts on the phone? I've just been only using the first name field for them, but they still get sorted and mixed in with all my normal contacts. I figured I could make a group for them (using the iPhone) and then exclude that group to make them disappear, but I'm wondering if there's a better way." ]

[ "If you want them sorted together, why not add a letter or character Before the business name? The | character sorts after letter generally, or you could add a z.\n\nSo for example 'Apple Store' Would become '|Apple Store' or 'zApple Store'\n\n", "I think on the iPhone you can add more field to the contact and one of them is company. I don't know if that'll work for you.", "Two of my co-workers are named Steve and Andy. Now I made all my work names start with a W, such as Wsteve and Wandy.\n\nIf I ever get a friend that starts with W (William?), I'll figure out something different for him.", "I always never just put their name - if they're important.\nSince I move a lot - most of my contacts are named things like:\n\nBob AA MT Brunette\n\nMom AR Home\n\nSean Mechanic WA\n\nTodd Cactus Raver CA\n\nWayne Coworker Brunette CA\n\n\n", "Groups could work, you can also just make a note with the numbers, then they will be clickable links. " ]

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[ "How do I make room less staticky? With the addition of winter’s dry atmosphere, my game room has become extremely staticky. Especially with a metal desk, every time I stand up from my chair, or simply just move around the room, I could hear static “pop” sounds from my speakers, and I am constantly getting shocked from touching almost everything in that room. Anyone have any LPT? It’s just the game room that’s extra staticky, which I’m assuming is from all the monitors and tv screen?\n\n", "How do I make room less staticky? With the addition of winter’s dry atmosphere, my game room has become extremely staticky. Especially with a metal desk, every time I stand up from my chair, or simply just move around the room, I could hear static “pop” sounds from my speakers, and I am constantly getting shocked from touching almost everything in that room. Anyone have any LPT? It’s just the game room that’s extra staticky, which I’m assuming is from all the monitors and tv screen?\n\n" ]

[ "Ground yourself. Avoid socks. Tap your feet against your desk or wall rather than just walking on the carpet. Make sure to discharge on things around as consistently as you can.\n\nIf you have a desk fan, you also have a humidifier. Get a cup and a bowl set the cup in the bowl upside down and drape a cloth over it. Paper towels work too. Have the fan blow over the cloth. If you can manage to get the fan's current under and over the cloth, it's that much better. That's all a humidifier does. It blows air over a wick to knock water into the air via evaporation.", "Assuming the room is carpeted, vacuum, or buy those plastic computer/deck mats that u can place under ur chair nd desk…. Carpet is known for static shocks hence “never build a pc or have a pc on carpet.” Some simple rubber/plastic mats elevating metals off the carpet will suffice. And keep it vacuumed. Worst case scenario buy one of the anti shock wrist bands they sell for pc building and ground urself before touching metal. \n\nA lite humidifier also can help so google says ive never tried that tho" ]

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[ "What is the most effective way to destroy a roach infestation without having to deal with dead bodies all over the floor? ", "What is the most effective way to destroy a roach infestation without having to deal with dead bodies all over the floor? ", "What is the most effective way to destroy a roach infestation without having to deal with dead bodies all over the floor? ", "What is the most effective way to destroy a roach infestation without having to deal with dead bodies all over the floor? ", "What is the most effective way to destroy a roach infestation without having to deal with dead bodies all over the floor? ", "What is the most effective way to destroy a roach infestation without having to deal with dead bodies all over the floor? " ]

[ "Buy 30 or 40 (or more!) Combat Roach Killing Bait thingies (those little black squares). Put them all over the house: inside every cupboard, under cabinets; everywhere you've ever seen them and everywhere like those places even if you haven't. Put them right in the paths they are likely to travel, so they can't get past without going through. Corners of drawers in the kitchen. Under the sink. Etc. \n\nOf course at the same time put steel wool or caulking everywhere there are holes in the walls to let pipes through. Seal off all entrances/exits. \n\nThis is what finally worked for us, better than any professional treatments. 100% eliminated roaches from our apartment 30 years ago and they've never been back. The key was the sheer number of of Combat squares. \n\nEventually you'll clean all the dead bodies. They will be inside the hiding spaces, not many out on the floors, etc.", "My husband and I used this. Put it down all over and leave for a long weekend. While YES their bodies will be there, other roaches will EAT THEIR DEAD FRIENDS then go back home to die and eat those friends and so on. If you're gone long enough, like 4 days, you won't even see the bodies. They will all be eaten. \n\nAlthough I have to say we got a really interesting, yet disgusting pleasure when we woke up to literally hundreds of dead bodies (we had only seen like 10 before that...) I liken it to pimple popping. Disgusting, yet satisfying. \n https://www.walgreens.com/store/c/combat-roach-killing-gel/ID=prod6375414-product?ext=gooHousehold+-+SSCHousehold___online&gclsrc=aw.ds&&gclid=CjwKCAjwqauVBhBGEiwAXOepkfzUu2oioc7GTmsp1MvJoyDV3b-0QTkquN5U_ar2V3UIF6f7An2GzxoCKtcQAvD_BwE", "We got raid which killed on contact so at least we didn't have hidden roach bodies. We also probably got some neurological damage. Moved to Colorado and everything got better.", "Think you might need to accept dead ones in the boxes and get gloves to pick up. A broom and dust pan. Think dead ones better than crawling ones. But your call.", "Their corpses gotta fall somewhere. Here's my DIY tip: Get Ortho Home Defense from Home Depot. Find out where they're nesting if possible. Mine were in the coil housing under the fridge. Pulled out the fridge and omg how gross. Sprayed all under there. It was Roachpocalypse. Will probably need to repeat soon. Lots of corpses. More to come.", "I've had good luck with boric acid powder. I spread in under the garbage, in the back of appliances, outside of doorways. They pick the stuff up on their underbellies, and die wherever their hive is." ]

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[ "I have a kitty that had a runny nose which in turn dripped into my brand new sofa, leaving a hard crusty spot in the middle of the cushion, any tips on how to get it out without having it professionally cleaned? I told the kitty, I'm holding her responsible for it, and i expect her to clean her mess up, but she just meowed at me and made me give her some food.", "I have a kitty that had a runny nose which in turn dripped into my brand new sofa, leaving a hard crusty spot in the middle of the cushion, any tips on how to get it out without having it professionally cleaned? I told the kitty, I'm holding her responsible for it, and i expect her to clean her mess up, but she just meowed at me and made me give her some food." ]

[ "Is it a microfiber or microsuede sofa? If so, get rid of the crusty stuff and saturate the stain with rubbing alcohol, preferably by spraying it. Rub with a like-colored sponge (not the yellow or green ones because the color can bleed). Put some elbow grease into it too and keep rubbing until you see the spot is gone and let dry. It doesn't leave water marks as alcohol evaporates quicker than water. I've done this for my microfiber couch and it works wonders every time!!", "Also if you want to be save about what you use for cleaning it, check by rubbing it on a spot that is not visible. Wait 5 or so minutes and check to make sure there is no damage before you try it on a main cushion." ]

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[ "Surefire way to deny money from a friend for a kind gesture Always a bad feeling when friends/family insist you take cash for something you did to help them, even though you explicitly tell them you don't want their money.", "Surefire way to deny money from a friend for a kind gesture Always a bad feeling when friends/family insist you take cash for something you did to help them, even though you explicitly tell them you don't want their money.", "Surefire way to deny money from a friend for a kind gesture Always a bad feeling when friends/family insist you take cash for something you did to help them, even though you explicitly tell them you don't want their money.", "Surefire way to deny money from a friend for a kind gesture Always a bad feeling when friends/family insist you take cash for something you did to help them, even though you explicitly tell them you don't want their money.", "Surefire way to deny money from a friend for a kind gesture Always a bad feeling when friends/family insist you take cash for something you did to help them, even though you explicitly tell them you don't want their money.", "Surefire way to deny money from a friend for a kind gesture Always a bad feeling when friends/family insist you take cash for something you did to help them, even though you explicitly tell them you don't want their money." ]

[ "I always explain why what I did was no big deal. I recently walked to my Aunts house to help her with something. She wanted to compensate me for my troubles. I explained(lied) to her that I had just ate a huge meal and she was doing me a favor by giving me a reason to take a walk and feel less full and sluggish.", "If you are faster than them: run. \n\nIf you are slower than them but you are stronger: kill them. \n\nIf you are slower and weaker than them: accept the money and learn the hard way that nature favours the strong. ", "Take the money and use it to help somebody else. Pay for someone's gas or meal at a restaurant, give it to a favorite charity. Something along those lines. ", "I always insist to friends 'No debts among friends' and if they feel the need to return a favor try suggesting they treat you to lunch. That way they don't feel guilty plus you get to share a meal together which is always great among people you enjoy being around.", "I have said \"I did this out of friendship, if you pay me, I am merely an employee.\"\n\nA little harsher: \"If our role were reversed, would you expect money?\"", "First you can just tell them that they don't need to give you any money, that you're glad to help them, etc. If they don't accept that the first time, you can go on with \"no, really, thank you, but please keep it\" blah blah, but after your second rejection if they still insist, I think it's okay to accept the money as long as it's not an extreme amount for whatever you did. If you'd still rather not keep the money, instead of rejecting them a third time (because it will most likely just make them feel bad), maybe you could suggest that they use the money to go out to dinner (or coffee, whatever, depending on the amount) with you instead? That way they still get to feel like they're \"paying you back\" for your help, and you get to spend some more time with them without feeling like you took their money." ]

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[ "How to get rid of an accent, and trade it for a more desirable one. I've been told by several that I have a very southern accent. I would like to get rid of it for a more eloquent one. How can I get rid of the twang?", "How to get rid of an accent, and trade it for a more desirable one. I've been told by several that I have a very southern accent. I would like to get rid of it for a more eloquent one. How can I get rid of the twang?" ]

[ "Watch several YouTube videos, listen to several radio programmes, or watch different television programmes with the desired accent. Then, practice a lot. I myself can do accents from all around the world and this is a great technique. ", "I can switch between standard middle American and British English at will. I had to practice the British, but it comes naturally now. It's simple: Actively listen to yourself speak. Then practice with the desired accent. Figure out what the differences are, work out the kinks, LISTEN TO YOURSELF. Then after that, make people think you're from \"Neewcah-stle\" for shits n' gigs." ]

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[ "How can I be more positive and friendly? I have a depression/social anxiety issue, and although I've improved greatly over the years, I still have some minor issues, mainly regarding my mood and personality. \n\nI'd like to feel happy most of the time, and to just have a more positive and friendly attitude.\n\nI don't know if anyone else here watched Parks and Recreation, but I would love to be like Rob Lowe's character, Chris Traeger. ", "How can I be more positive and friendly? I have a depression/social anxiety issue, and although I've improved greatly over the years, I still have some minor issues, mainly regarding my mood and personality. \n\nI'd like to feel happy most of the time, and to just have a more positive and friendly attitude.\n\nI don't know if anyone else here watched Parks and Recreation, but I would love to be like Rob Lowe's character, Chris Traeger. ", "How can I be more positive and friendly? I have a depression/social anxiety issue, and although I've improved greatly over the years, I still have some minor issues, mainly regarding my mood and personality. \n\nI'd like to feel happy most of the time, and to just have a more positive and friendly attitude.\n\nI don't know if anyone else here watched Parks and Recreation, but I would love to be like Rob Lowe's character, Chris Traeger. ", "How can I be more positive and friendly? I have a depression/social anxiety issue, and although I've improved greatly over the years, I still have some minor issues, mainly regarding my mood and personality. \n\nI'd like to feel happy most of the time, and to just have a more positive and friendly attitude.\n\nI don't know if anyone else here watched Parks and Recreation, but I would love to be like Rob Lowe's character, Chris Traeger. ", "How can I be more positive and friendly? I have a depression/social anxiety issue, and although I've improved greatly over the years, I still have some minor issues, mainly regarding my mood and personality. \n\nI'd like to feel happy most of the time, and to just have a more positive and friendly attitude.\n\nI don't know if anyone else here watched Parks and Recreation, but I would love to be like Rob Lowe's character, Chris Traeger. ", "How can I be more positive and friendly? I have a depression/social anxiety issue, and although I've improved greatly over the years, I still have some minor issues, mainly regarding my mood and personality. \n\nI'd like to feel happy most of the time, and to just have a more positive and friendly attitude.\n\nI don't know if anyone else here watched Parks and Recreation, but I would love to be like Rob Lowe's character, Chris Traeger. ", "How can I be more positive and friendly? I have a depression/social anxiety issue, and although I've improved greatly over the years, I still have some minor issues, mainly regarding my mood and personality. \n\nI'd like to feel happy most of the time, and to just have a more positive and friendly attitude.\n\nI don't know if anyone else here watched Parks and Recreation, but I would love to be like Rob Lowe's character, Chris Traeger. ", "How can I be more positive and friendly? I have a depression/social anxiety issue, and although I've improved greatly over the years, I still have some minor issues, mainly regarding my mood and personality. \n\nI'd like to feel happy most of the time, and to just have a more positive and friendly attitude.\n\nI don't know if anyone else here watched Parks and Recreation, but I would love to be like Rob Lowe's character, Chris Traeger. " ]

[ "Do you do regular gratitude lists? If not, start and end every day making a list of 5-10 things you're grateful for. The more specific to that day/week the better this works. Writing 'I'm grateful for my mom' every day isn't as impactful as 'I'm grateful my mom baked me a delicious pie', etc. Try this for a week and I bet you'll see a dramatic improvement in your general mood and level of positivity. It's hard to feel sad or negative when your outlook is focused on feeling grateful.", "One thing that has really helped me to be a better person is to commit random acts of kindness. Whether it be holding the door open for someone, letting someone go in front of you at the store or in traffic, or just a simple friendly conversation; doing something little every day helps me feel much happier and fulfilled at the end of the day. ", "I was a bit of an asshole when I was younger. While I considered myself to be a good guy, I was often unnecessarily critical of others, and just didn't always show others the respect they deserved. I spent a lot of time being moody and not very fun to be around.\n\nIt wasn't until my mid thirties when I finally understood who I really was. Once I identified my genuine self. my core values, motivations and goals for life became so clear, it seems like it happened overnight. Like putting on HD glasses and seeing life in a whole new way. \n\nI made the decisionforgive myself for being a jackass in the past, and to be true to that new person. When I make mistakes, or fall short of my expectations, I don't beat myself up. I learn from the experience, chalk it up to not being perfect , and look forward to the next experience life has to offer me.\n\nFor the past 15 years I have enjoyed true happiness, and with that change of perspective, I have developed a deep respect for my fellow man. It's amazing how easy it is to be genuinely kind and considerate to others once you start being kind, considerate and accepting of yourself.\n\nOnce you start genuinely being kind and respectful to others they tend to treat you with more kindness and respect, which creates a sort of positive feedback loop\n\nSo, the short version is, learn who you really are, love and accept your self and you will act accordingly.", "I hope I can help you, because I have muuuch experience in the fields of anxiety and depression. I will try to make a list, ok?\n.\n\na) Smile. Fake it until you make it. Smile if you see a cute dog, a hot girl, an act of kindness, smile when you get a few more crisps than the bag says, smile ANYTIME. \n.\n\nb) Help others. This one helped me so much, since I always try to help out whereever and whenever I can my life really got better. A honest \"Thank you\" can change your day.\n.\n\nc) Accept your faults. Trying to hard on being happy and positive can go horribly wrong. Just take a day or two off from time to time and get confortable at home with some hot chocolate and TV.\n.\nd) Write in a diary. Every evening, get a pen and write down 2 negative and 5 positive things, even when these are things like \"Today I managed it to get up, take a shower and eat something\" [It's something ;) ]. The two neatives are there for comparison. \n.\n\nHope I could help you :)", "This is a simple trick but I use it a lot and it works for me. Just smile. Even if theres nothing in particular to smile about, if you smile for about 30 seconds, your brain will begin to believe you are smiling for a reason. I find if I get in the habit of doing this, I'll find myself smiling with nothing prompting it, and I just simply feel happier. Theres a HowStuffWorks podcast about it if you are interested. ", "The thing is that Chris Traeger is kind of a parody of someone who is \"up\" all the time, emotionally, or self-deluding himself into believing it. It's not at all natural or an ideal emotional state.\n\nThe first part of being positive and friendly is recognizing that as a person you do not have to be positive and friendly all the time, at least on the inside, and that is okay. It will help you marshall more effort to the attempts you do make during your day outside the house.\n\nWhat I would say is keep in mind that strangers and acquaintances deserve these moments of positive emotions, because if you dedicate a split second to one, you will usually have it reciprocated and it is infectious.\n\nYou need to get outside your own head a bit and put yourself in these other peoples' shoes. How do they perceive how you are carrying yourself?\n\nMaybe a small bit of that can be of some help.", "It a cliche. But you can always talk about the weather to keep a conversation going. Almost every room has a window. So its always closeby", "I've learned that we become like the people we spend the most time with. Are your friends positive, friendly people or negative, discouraging people? \n\nI have depression and generalized anxiety disorder, also. My outlook improved greatly when I started spending time with people who: genuinely cared and were interested, didn't turn around and say negative things with another person walked away, could laugh and joke - but not at others' expense (not mean!). \n " ]

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[ "Establish a daily routine that you can keep doing during your stressful time. Drink water as soon as you wake up. Go on a walk or yoga or whatever excercise you enjoy. Do small things, everyday, at the time you'll need to do them when you are on the stressful schedule. Build the habit and it will serve you.", "Change of scenery. If you're able to then go on holiday, or go and stay somewhere new in whatever country you're in.\n\nRelaxing is all in your mind. A change of scenery and routine helps your mind separate from your normal routine and the stresses that come with it.", "Nothing.\n\nAnd by that I mean give yourself permission to do nothing, \"waste time\", hang around. No pressure on \"must be as relaxt as possible\", no deadlines, no targets. Freedom from having to accomplish anything at all. \n\n(Including freedom from the goal of being \"completely refreshed\". Putting a lot of hard work and effort into it is most likely counterproductive and could lead to frustration. Relaxation may happen, it might not. You can't force it either way.).\n\nThen, at some point you might feel you want to do something (not because you must, but because you're in the mood for it). Then go do that. Especially if it's fun.", "Connect with Nature as much as possible. See your love ones, excercise and rest, eat well, stay away from drugs, and alcohol, it will give you some instant reward but you'll start your stressful period with negative points. You could try (if you are not doing it already) some m", "Deep clean your space and take the chance to organize. Think more function less comfort. You're going to be uncomfortable anyway, make your space work for you. If you knock it out early then take your remaining time for some active rest, try and unplug and work on establishing a good sleep cycle if it's possible. Familiarity in space and schedule has made all the difference for me during stressful and unfamiliar times.", "Inspire yourself that no matter how stressful upcoming week going to be, you will always remain honest to yourself and love yourself. No stress induced drinking, overeating, etc.", "Spend time in nature away from social media and digital entertainment. Work out while there and have good food and drinks. Masturbrate, preferably outdoors. You will return a changed person", "In my free time, I try to get rid of electronic devices and just contemplate life. It doesn't need to be about doing extravagant stuff, such as travelling to another country or going to expensive restaurants.\n\nSometimes I just take long walks around town. Other times I just watch the sky and look at my plants. I often pet my dogs. \n\nAlmost every free day I get, I end up reading a book, looking out my window and trying new cooking recipes. That completely refreshes me.", "Make some changes to your home. Move furniture around, get new drapes, turn your bed to a different position. I think it's really important to renew your living space when you have a break/vacation. It'll give you a subconscious push to have a more fresh outlook on everything.", "Consider finding a therapist so you’ll be prepared if you need one. It sucks ti try to find one when you’re already stressed", "Wake up early, go to bed early. Waking up at 6:00 is easier than at 7:00.\n\nWalk as much as possible. Walking in a forest is very good for your brain.", "Try some leisurely audio books while hiking or something walking in new areas. Nice way to reset your brainwaves and get some exercise in", "If the weather is nice, definitely spend some time outside and relax. Feel the sun on your face and all that jazz", "Get hella wasted on your first night. Wake up severely hung over, possibly for 2 days. Enjoy the next 4 not feeling like shit!", "ah man this is a hard question, the answer can vary from \"make the most of it and relax\" to \"plan ahead to reduce stress during that time\"\npersonally id do a few things, id set a day midweek to see what you can do to reduce stress during that busy time, from simple ideas like meal planning/prepping, to more personal things like \"i will do 30 mins excercise after work every day\" for example. i am often in this situation you are in, i prioritize family time, mental health (do relaxing things even play a fun video game) excercise (i find this important for myself) also, what are you doing when you come out of this period? give yourself something to look forward to, a day at the beach or forest for example. also, is there anyone who can take some responsabilities away from you to help? dont be afraid to ask for help if it will save you mentally/physically.\n\nif you need to chat to a stranger, hit me up.", "Why would you set yourself up for stress? Is there a way of getting out of it? Find some time for exercise an hour a day. Lifting weights is a great way to relieve stress and set yourself up for the day.", "The simplest and most effective thing I did for myself was setting my 8 hour of sleep cycle straight. I did it the \"easy\" way, with melatonin.", "The awareness to ask this question and then read through the advice given is a giant step in a helpful direction. Take the advice that resonates and that is healthy. \n\nSet up auto payments for bills that come around regularly or if you still write and mail checks make sure you have stamps and checks. Anything that you can do ahead of time to make the future run within a lot of thought could help you get through the stress. Also, make time for yourself to get out in fresh air (spring and summer are coming), eat healthy, meet up with friends, by setting it up on a calendar for the little time you will have off. Write it down so it is as important as your work.", "Tent camping is always a good reset.\n \nBut it's fuckin cold out.\n \nSo DEEP cleaning. Not just picking up but also making sure some of the stuff is better organized and packed away", "Take it from me, a week of whatever will not refresh you. Someone one else on here said do your future stressed self some favors and I have to go with that one", "Take good care of your health (both mental and physical). And walks in nature where you find 1 thing to taste, 2 to smell, 3 to touch 4 to recognise, m", "Spa day. \n\nI paid $40 bucks for a Korean spa day \n\nThey were open from 9Am to 9pm \n\nCold pool \nHot pool\nDry sauna \nDifferent types of sweat rooms\nMassage chairs \n02 room", "Sounds silly but clean your place and your vehicle, get your house in order, get your routine ready (shopping, clothes, etc). For me this is a bit of stress, but helps that I won’t have time/energy to focus on in later and will be better prepared to take it on. \n\nOther than that, my go-tos are lots of naps, massage, some light cardio to feel nice but not tired, m", "Sleep, eat right, hydrate, exercise, m", "Put the screens away. Get out into the neighborhood, the city, or Nature. Half an hour or half a day. Connect with things you've lost sight of...hobbies, books, friends or family. Even if it's only a call to catch up or make future plans. TREAT YO'SELF!! Bath, food, new cozy pants, playlist...you deserve a token of appreciation for just being you!", "Physical activity. Nature. M", "My approach is load of the car and drive, last time I did this ended up at the Grand Canyon. Car camp, eat whatever I feel like roadside, stop and take photos of whatever takes my breath away. Download an audiobook or jam out to your favorite music. Living in the moment for a few days on the road is the best", "Meal prep. Make good, easy, cheap recipes. prep and freeze what you can. \n\nA surprising amount of adult stress is choosing what and when to eat. Make those decisions now. Being too tired to make a meal and reaching for easy junk is a vicious and unhealthy cycle.", "Make freezer meals and hire someone to spring clean your house. You start off with a fresh clean house and you’ll have meals in the freezer for those rough evenings.", "M", "Lot already being said, but remove stressors by completing them today. Get your oil changed or any car maintenance, prepare food and freeze it, clean and do any simple house maintenance, do your taxes.", "Look up the seven types of rest, physical resting is only one type, there’s also, social, emotional, sensory, mental, spiritual, and creative rest as well\n\nUsually resting one costs another, so you have to balance them out. Physical rest to watch a movie costs sensory energy, going for a walk in nature for sensory rest costs physical energy. If you do both at the right amount you’ll end up with a net win. \n\nBut more so it’s about balancing the rest with your energy expenditure. If you have a lot of activities/work that make you feel isolated or without meaning/purpose, you need spiritual rest and find a way to connect to a purpose beyond yourself for example (can be filled by religion but doesn’t have to be).\n\nLook up the concept to see if you can get some ideas on how to rest well for yourself", "Look around for a spa that offers float therapy or isolation tank baths. A good hour in a body temperature bath with loads of epsom salts makes me decompress quickly and it feels like you are floating in space. The one I go to has music that you can play while floating.", "Leave your electronic devices at home if possible and go outside. Detach yourself a bit from the electronical stuff. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nstudying stuff with VR headsets and such and a weekend hiking once or twice a month is pure relaxation and a very welcome change to a daily 10hr screentime", "LAUGH!!!!\n\nGOOD PERSONAL INTERACTIONS\n\nPET A DOG\n\nFLOAT TANK (Sensory Deprivation), Psilocybin Micro Dose/CBD, Ashwagandha, Sauna, Massage, M", "I’d do 2 things\n\nDo future you a favor and do some things you know will help you later on\n\nBe selfish and do things that you know you love doing and do things you know refresh you. You know what energizes you so do those things.", "If you have access to a bath and/or shower, definitely give yourself a nice relaxing private time in the hot bath. Maybe get a massage. Do anything you really like. Don't think of it as wasting time. If you're having fun, you aren't wasting your time.", "If you can afford it I highly recommend going on a cruise. Surround and let people wait on you while you soak in the sunshine and read a book or listen to music, anything wonderful.", "If weather is warm enough, go for a 20 mile bike ride. All trails app is good for finding bike/hike routes close by. Wear clothes that you can swim in in case of a break at a river. I used to do this a lot, always felt so refreshed after that. Got some really good sleep too. 👍", "I would say get off your phone/computer and go live in the moment. Do what you want, visit a coffee shop, walk through a park or mall and just exist in the world for a bit.", "I would prepare myself for this work. I would create situations in my head how i would solve it or task i will need to do.", "I would also look at m", "I took up yoga recently, and would love the time to set the habit. Ashtanga yoga. I got turned off by all of the hippie woo years ago but found some resources that come from a more practical standpoint.", "I recommend organizing your bedroom/closet. Being able to truly rest and being able to find clothing quickly will benefit your future self.", "I find having a clean living space/work environment is very helpful and goes a long way towards your mental health. My suggestion would be to make your your place is as clean as can be. Then once you start your couple months of stress, make sure to constantly be cleaning. Now ai dont mean mop and bucket cleaning everyday, but just little things. If you take something out, put it away. Every night before bed I find it's good to sort of rest my room by putting everything away. This way it looks clean, plus I'm not stressed when I cant find something because I know where it is. Just do a little bit of cleaning each day and I think that could help.", "Hard to say. For my part I would get laid as much as humanly possible. Whatever you like that won't stress you out. Maybe you'll feel better if you prepare. Maybe you'll feel better if you exercise. Maybe you'll feel better if you play video games. It's all about you.", "Go to a cabin in the woods and completely unplug for the week. No socials. No texting. No calls. Just a total reset. Go hike. Take long ass baths. Walk around naked ffs. Be one with nature.", "Go places...even if it's just to the park to watch ducks. Going places makes the time off feel longer. Staying at home the time flies right by", "Go for a multiday backpacking trip. Idk where you live, some countries call this tramping, bushwalking, etc. Just get out of town, into nature, bring food and water, and peace out for a few days. You'll be recharged and ready to tackle the stressful months.", "Get plenty of sleep. Eat and drink well. Interact socially. Buy and read a book you've wanted to for some time. Just sit and relax your mind by allowing it to think without want or desire. Take a day to try and prepare for the week by learning to cook a fast/large dish and freeze it for a quick and delicious meal later (make sure it is freezeable). Change the scenery to the woods or mountains or the beach. Go shopping for new clothes or bed sheets or pillows. By new shoes and insoles to go with them.\n\nHonestly anything that ypu won't be doing but will either be rememberable or help you in your stressful times.\n\nBest of luck to you.", "Get a massage. 1 hour of massage is like 8 hours of sleep. I'm a LMT so I know. And if you can, keep with the same LMT as they will get to know your body and help you. Something to do throughout the next few stressful months too, like once a month can do wonders for your stress levels especially if you work well with your massage therapist. Support a local or check out a franchise place, as long as they are board licensed in your state. Good vibes for your next few months!", "Eat healthy, exercise, get plenty of sleep. Be the healthiest you, and keep it going through the rest of your life.", "Don’t be lazy, but don’t overbook yourself. You’ll regret it if all you do is lay on the couch for a week. Go for a hike, make plans with friends (in advance), or devote time towards a hobby. Enjoy the time, don’t waste it.", "Do what you want to do. You know that thing you always wanted to do but never had time to do (exercise, read book, kearn to code, cook, etc) just do them. You will get excited in doing what you like and feeling of accomplishment", "Do something creative that requires your mind to be engaged but not any part of your brain that you’ll need coming up. So draw? Paint? \n\nAlso, when you do think about the weeks coming up only let yourself visualize positive outcomes…. Even if the positive outcome you’re thinking is of yourself relaxing after it’s done. And take deep breaths and stand tall through these thoughts..", "Do all the things you daydream about getting home to do in your free time. Just binge it up. Gets you back to work with the feeling of I’ve done what I wanted", "Depends on what you’re doing. If you can spend this week making that next few months less stressful, you should. \n\nIf you cannot do that, spend this week doing what you love, and plan out what you’ll do after those few months to decompress when it’s all said and done.", "Clean your house. You will get a deep sense of satisfaction from it, and it is proactive in that you won’t have as much time and energy to dedicate to daily upkeep in the next couple months.", "Clean your house well, including donating things you no longer need. Splurge on a really good professional massage at a spa, either preceded or followed by a whirlpool bath. Get a really good haircut. Treat yourself to a day in nature or a botanical garden. If you're American, file your taxes so you have that taken care of. Buy some MyPillows - they're the best - and high thread count cotton sheets so you sleep well during these rough months.", "As it’s coming up to half term I feel like this was written by a teacher 😂 love all the advice though", "A deep tissue massage. I had no idea how much stress my body was carrying! I felt recharged. Also, figure out the time you'll need to wake up to start your day and start sleeping at the appropriate time. It'll be easier to wake up during the stress months if your body is already used to waking up at that time.", "3 days of camping, with a book and planned activities. I saw mushroom trip, that is also nice at low dosage", "I would highly reccomend a massage, as well as the other excellent ideas of meal prep and general making the stressful period less hectic.", "I have a stressful job where I work very long days for blocks at a time and then have several days off. This is what works for me:\n\n1. Go to bed and wake up on a regular schedule.\n2. Spend 20 minutes first thing in the morning and 20 minutes last thing before going to bed knocking out tasks like straightening up, replying to random emails, paperwork, etc. You'll be surprised by how much this 40 min a day adds up and you'll thank yourself later\n3. Make sure you are fully stocked on groceries. Buy a little more than you normally would, especially stuff like frozen meals that can be prepared quickly. You'll also feel better if you cook most meals at home this week than eat out. \n4. I see some people suggesting a vacation or change of scenery, but for me, going on vacation right before a stressful period can make the anticipatory stress worse. Instead of this I'd try just spending a little time a day in a new outdoor spot where you live, like a new park or outdoor cafe. Not spending all day inside will do wonders for how you feel. \n5. Find at least one day to hang out with a friend. It helps me to get some social interaction in before I have a stressful period of time where I won't be able to see people for the most part.", "Clean and organize your house top to bottom. Fill your kitchen cupboards and develop a meal prep strategy/meal plan. Spend a day out in nature, hike, swim, kayak, whatever. Spend a day on self care, whatever that looks like for you. Spend an afternoon just laying on the couch reading, listening to music, watch a TV series. Journal your goals and intentions for your tough months ahead and list things to focus on when your stress level is high." ]

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[ "Armpit stains Does anyone have a good way to remove stains besides bleach?\n\nI hate the summers for this reason :( ruins all my nice shirts.", "Armpit stains Does anyone have a good way to remove stains besides bleach?\n\nI hate the summers for this reason :( ruins all my nice shirts.", "Armpit stains Does anyone have a good way to remove stains besides bleach?\n\nI hate the summers for this reason :( ruins all my nice shirts.", "Armpit stains Does anyone have a good way to remove stains besides bleach?\n\nI hate the summers for this reason :( ruins all my nice shirts.", "Armpit stains Does anyone have a good way to remove stains besides bleach?\n\nI hate the summers for this reason :( ruins all my nice shirts." ]

[ "Once they're stained, they're done for. \n\nBuy some new undershirts, when you get home from work/school/whatever take them off immediately and throw them in the washer. Don't let them sit. Wash in cool water with Oxyclean and line dry (in the sun if that's feasible.) Dryer heat sets the stains and turns them yellow. \n\n", "Not once it is stained, no. But you could try maxim antiperspirant. You use it at night and you pretty much won't sweat the next day. A bit strong and will itch if you use too much though.", "My sister's sweat stains whereas mine does not. We tried to figure out the difference and learned that it's actually a bacteria growing in your pits that produces the stain when you sweat.\n\nTry using a heavy duty anti-bacterial soap under your arms, and using some rubbing alcohol to kill off the bacteria.\n\nFor the stains that are already there, I think an enzyme cleaner would take care of it. Not to be gross or insulting, but maybe try spraying the area with a pet-stain rug cleaner before it goes in the wash. Plain vinegar might be enough though.", "Hydrogen peroxide or vinegar and some water. Bleach is the worst thing you can use because it reacts withe the proteins in sweat and makes them darken. Hydrogen peroxide and vinegar do the opposite and break them down, then they will rinse away with a regular washing. HP works great on blood too.", "Oxyclean. overnight. put in more than you think you need. Seriously, if you think there's enough, put more in. Then throw it in with a regular white load of laundry. This has saved tons of my white shirts. \n\nAlso, the doctor can prescribe you a nice little $5 bottle of super-strength anti-perspirant if you just ask. :]" ]

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[ "Tricks to reduce ringing in ears? I went shooting yesterday and apparently my ear plugs weren't doing their job this time (or I wasn't giving them enough time to fill my ears). Any tips out there for reducing the ringing or do I just have to suffer through it for a few days? Should I not use headphones for a day or two and let my ears rest or anything (I usually have headphones in for most of the workday)?", "Tricks to reduce ringing in ears? I went shooting yesterday and apparently my ear plugs weren't doing their job this time (or I wasn't giving them enough time to fill my ears). Any tips out there for reducing the ringing or do I just have to suffer through it for a few days? Should I not use headphones for a day or two and let my ears rest or anything (I usually have headphones in for most of the workday)?" ]

[ "Part of it will be temporary, part wont. Might have to sleep with a fan from now on.\n\n\nAlso, you should really REALLY lay off of earbuds in general. They are insanely dangerous for your hearing and no one seems to care.\n\n\nDo not run them at over half volume if you can help it, and use the one hour rule (one hour of listening, one hour of no headphones) or you can seriously mess up your ears. ", "I've also had ringing in my eats for about a week or so nothing seems to be working for me, doctor gave me eardrops but they didn't work." ]

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[ "How to just be friends with someone you're in love with? I'm completely and totally in love with my closest friend, and she knows I am, but doesn't feel the same way about me. I can't just cut her off, because she's still the best friend I have, and the same for her, she's told me before that she needs me in her life, just not in that way.\n\nI want to stay friends with her, I need her in my life, whether or not were together, but it's physically painful for me to see her with her boyfriend, or to see her post about how much she loves him and everything.\n\nWhat do I do to keep her as my best friend without always feeling upset and jealous?", "How to just be friends with someone you're in love with? I'm completely and totally in love with my closest friend, and she knows I am, but doesn't feel the same way about me. I can't just cut her off, because she's still the best friend I have, and the same for her, she's told me before that she needs me in her life, just not in that way.\n\nI want to stay friends with her, I need her in my life, whether or not were together, but it's physically painful for me to see her with her boyfriend, or to see her post about how much she loves him and everything.\n\nWhat do I do to keep her as my best friend without always feeling upset and jealous?", "How to just be friends with someone you're in love with? I'm completely and totally in love with my closest friend, and she knows I am, but doesn't feel the same way about me. I can't just cut her off, because she's still the best friend I have, and the same for her, she's told me before that she needs me in her life, just not in that way.\n\nI want to stay friends with her, I need her in my life, whether or not were together, but it's physically painful for me to see her with her boyfriend, or to see her post about how much she loves him and everything.\n\nWhat do I do to keep her as my best friend without always feeling upset and jealous?", "How to just be friends with someone you're in love with? I'm completely and totally in love with my closest friend, and she knows I am, but doesn't feel the same way about me. I can't just cut her off, because she's still the best friend I have, and the same for her, she's told me before that she needs me in her life, just not in that way.\n\nI want to stay friends with her, I need her in my life, whether or not were together, but it's physically painful for me to see her with her boyfriend, or to see her post about how much she loves him and everything.\n\nWhat do I do to keep her as my best friend without always feeling upset and jealous?", "How to just be friends with someone you're in love with? I'm completely and totally in love with my closest friend, and she knows I am, but doesn't feel the same way about me. I can't just cut her off, because she's still the best friend I have, and the same for her, she's told me before that she needs me in her life, just not in that way.\n\nI want to stay friends with her, I need her in my life, whether or not were together, but it's physically painful for me to see her with her boyfriend, or to see her post about how much she loves him and everything.\n\nWhat do I do to keep her as my best friend without always feeling upset and jealous?", "How to just be friends with someone you're in love with? I'm completely and totally in love with my closest friend, and she knows I am, but doesn't feel the same way about me. I can't just cut her off, because she's still the best friend I have, and the same for her, she's told me before that she needs me in her life, just not in that way.\n\nI want to stay friends with her, I need her in my life, whether or not were together, but it's physically painful for me to see her with her boyfriend, or to see her post about how much she loves him and everything.\n\nWhat do I do to keep her as my best friend without always feeling upset and jealous?", "How to just be friends with someone you're in love with? I'm completely and totally in love with my closest friend, and she knows I am, but doesn't feel the same way about me. I can't just cut her off, because she's still the best friend I have, and the same for her, she's told me before that she needs me in her life, just not in that way.\n\nI want to stay friends with her, I need her in my life, whether or not were together, but it's physically painful for me to see her with her boyfriend, or to see her post about how much she loves him and everything.\n\nWhat do I do to keep her as my best friend without always feeling upset and jealous?", "How to just be friends with someone you're in love with? I'm completely and totally in love with my closest friend, and she knows I am, but doesn't feel the same way about me. I can't just cut her off, because she's still the best friend I have, and the same for her, she's told me before that she needs me in her life, just not in that way.\n\nI want to stay friends with her, I need her in my life, whether or not were together, but it's physically painful for me to see her with her boyfriend, or to see her post about how much she loves him and everything.\n\nWhat do I do to keep her as my best friend without always feeling upset and jealous?", "How to just be friends with someone you're in love with? I'm completely and totally in love with my closest friend, and she knows I am, but doesn't feel the same way about me. I can't just cut her off, because she's still the best friend I have, and the same for her, she's told me before that she needs me in her life, just not in that way.\n\nI want to stay friends with her, I need her in my life, whether or not were together, but it's physically painful for me to see her with her boyfriend, or to see her post about how much she loves him and everything.\n\nWhat do I do to keep her as my best friend without always feeling upset and jealous?", "How to just be friends with someone you're in love with? I'm completely and totally in love with my closest friend, and she knows I am, but doesn't feel the same way about me. I can't just cut her off, because she's still the best friend I have, and the same for her, she's told me before that she needs me in her life, just not in that way.\n\nI want to stay friends with her, I need her in my life, whether or not were together, but it's physically painful for me to see her with her boyfriend, or to see her post about how much she loves him and everything.\n\nWhat do I do to keep her as my best friend without always feeling upset and jealous?", "How to just be friends with someone you're in love with? I'm completely and totally in love with my closest friend, and she knows I am, but doesn't feel the same way about me. I can't just cut her off, because she's still the best friend I have, and the same for her, she's told me before that she needs me in her life, just not in that way.\n\nI want to stay friends with her, I need her in my life, whether or not were together, but it's physically painful for me to see her with her boyfriend, or to see her post about how much she loves him and everything.\n\nWhat do I do to keep her as my best friend without always feeling upset and jealous?", "How to just be friends with someone you're in love with? I'm completely and totally in love with my closest friend, and she knows I am, but doesn't feel the same way about me. I can't just cut her off, because she's still the best friend I have, and the same for her, she's told me before that she needs me in her life, just not in that way.\n\nI want to stay friends with her, I need her in my life, whether or not were together, but it's physically painful for me to see her with her boyfriend, or to see her post about how much she loves him and everything.\n\nWhat do I do to keep her as my best friend without always feeling upset and jealous?", "How to just be friends with someone you're in love with? I'm completely and totally in love with my closest friend, and she knows I am, but doesn't feel the same way about me. I can't just cut her off, because she's still the best friend I have, and the same for her, she's told me before that she needs me in her life, just not in that way.\n\nI want to stay friends with her, I need her in my life, whether or not were together, but it's physically painful for me to see her with her boyfriend, or to see her post about how much she loves him and everything.\n\nWhat do I do to keep her as my best friend without always feeling upset and jealous?" ]

[ "Use your frustration, anger and jealousy to drive you toward your goals. Maybe your goals overlap with what she is looking for. For example, you could have a goal to become more self-confident. This could lead you into a gym to begin lifting weights if you are unhappy with how you look. You become muscular/fit/lose fat and eventually feel more confident about yourself. Since you are now more confident and have changed, this may change your relationship with said girl. You could become more attractive in her eyes.\n\nIf she's the one, start figuring out who she's dating, why, how they act, etc. Then, ask yourself if you would be okay with being this way yourself. If not, then I would move away from this friendship. \n\nThere will always be more people on this Earth, and even better friends... like the person you marry. :)\n\n", "Honestly the best LPT is get over it. Its not gonna happen, and you are hanging on to the shred of hope that something might. Its harsh but true, mostly because of the movies and shows we have seen where the unassuming average joe ends up with the girl of his dreams.\n\nJust tell yourself that it wont happen and be firm, then try to find someone else, either casual or serious you need to let yourself know there are other options.", "the only practical advice is always: find another girl to focus on. literally see a girl you like and think \"im gonna make it my goal for the next week to get her number\"", "You need to develop a lot of other friendships, to begin with, so you don't feel as if your emotional needs are dependent on the person who is causing you the most emotional pain. If you have other good friends, you can step back from this and get some perspective rather than always be watching jealously as she has fun with him. Choose some hobbies that seem interesting so you have a new focus for your mind AND a new peer group with whom to socialize.\n\nThe other thing you need to do is start dating so you can possibly fall in love with someone else. That will help you move on emotionally while giving you a good in to reconnect in a healthier way with your friend (because you can now talk about relationship stuff and your feelings for your respective partners; plus, you can double date). ", "You can't. Move on. Don't waste your life, I like did in the past... \n\n\"The hottest girl is the one who likes you\"\n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5GAgrBMYAXI", "Yeah, I'm sorry, but you can't. You can spend the next year, 2 years, 5 years, 20 years convincing yourself that you can, but one day you'll wake up and realize that you just can't. You'll always feel that pang of jealousy, which honestly means that you really won't ever be able to truly feel happy for her. Plus, it keeps you from being able to find someone that will give you the love and devotion that you deserve. \n\nJust rip the Band-Aid off, my friend. Keeping it on is just preventing the wound from healing. It'll SUUUUUUCK for like 4 months, and then it won't anymore. Some fucking super-fly honey will catch your eye, she'll actually love you back, and you'll spend some time wondering why you waited so long to get over what's her face. ", "Stay friends with her. Be the best friend she could ask for. You'll outlast the boyfriend and one day emerge victorious.", "My advice is a culmination of a lot of these. \n\nYou have to focus on something else and force yourself to not hang out/text/call her as much. If she asks why, tell her you're letting her focus on her relationship because it's not healthy for her to be in a relationship and be talking to a guy that's emotionally invested in her like that. Then stop and focus on another girl.\n\nIf she \"needs\" you as she says she does and you're her \"best friend\" as she says then she'll realize that you're no long focusing on her and realize that she made a mistake and come back to you. This will almost force her to have feelings for you, seeing that you're now investing your time/energy/feelings to someone else instead of her. Then you can either decide to be with her or not, if she means that much to you.", "Moving on is big. Most people who crush on someone tend to hold they person up on a pedestal as doing no wrong, which tends to be realized as false when they see all the cons of that person. Continuing to pursue her will likely drive her further away, and creep her out. Talk to other people and try to get her out of your mind and find someone else. It might make her feel guilty for rejecting you because you are such good friends, and a relationship built on guilt tends not to last.", "I know this may hear/read this a lot and you will probably be like \"no, she's the one!\" but just try your best and find someone else. Go to wherever people around your age usually chill whether it's your local pool hall / bowling alley or clubs maybe if you're around that age, enjoy playing around and you will move on faster than you expect and you might even find a new girl. Avoid anything romantic with her and just treat her like your other friends. ", "> she's told me before that she needs me in her life, just not in that way.\n\nIf it helps, this is a REALLY REALLY REALLY bad sign, and from a third party perspective, enough to make a lot of people think less of her. \n\nShe might not realize it, and may even be doing it out of kindness, but that sort of kindness is selfishness.\n\nShe's seriously holding you back and crippling you from doing other things with other girls. And you're letting her do that.", "1) Ask yourself if you were a girl like your best friend, would you date yourself?\n\n2) If no, why?\n\n3) Work towards removing all the whys in point 2. \n\nBest case scenario, whatever was putting her off is removed and she agrees to go into r/s with you.\n\nWorst case scenario, she still wants to friendzone you, but then at least you'll be a way better/more attractive person and it'll be easier to get another girl.", ">she's still the best friend I have, and the same for her\n\nThis is false. She has a boyfriend she loves. That's a whole different order of magnitude. 'Best friends' is a childhood construction. As you get older you don't have best friends, you have lovers, close friends, and acquaintances. \n\nShe has entered the world of adult relationships. You are still hoping 'best friends' has some kind of meaning other than 'close friends' but it does not.\n\nThere's really only one possible answer to this, and you already know it. If you want a lover, find somebody else.\n\n" ]

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[ "Time Management I'm the sort of person who likes to have plenty of time to themselves, but I've somehow completely overbooked myself for the next few weeks. In one week I have 27 hours of class, 23 volunteer hours, 3 hours (at least) spent in transit each day, 6 papers to write (which involve interviewing a number of different subjects), homework, an interview, a lecture at another university, and a number of other commitments.\n\nHow do I make sure I don't forget anything and have enough time to get everything done? \n\nTL;DR: Crazy busy, need help to manage without going (more) crazy.", "Time Management I'm the sort of person who likes to have plenty of time to themselves, but I've somehow completely overbooked myself for the next few weeks. In one week I have 27 hours of class, 23 volunteer hours, 3 hours (at least) spent in transit each day, 6 papers to write (which involve interviewing a number of different subjects), homework, an interview, a lecture at another university, and a number of other commitments.\n\nHow do I make sure I don't forget anything and have enough time to get everything done? \n\nTL;DR: Crazy busy, need help to manage without going (more) crazy.", "Time Management I'm the sort of person who likes to have plenty of time to themselves, but I've somehow completely overbooked myself for the next few weeks. In one week I have 27 hours of class, 23 volunteer hours, 3 hours (at least) spent in transit each day, 6 papers to write (which involve interviewing a number of different subjects), homework, an interview, a lecture at another university, and a number of other commitments.\n\nHow do I make sure I don't forget anything and have enough time to get everything done? \n\nTL;DR: Crazy busy, need help to manage without going (more) crazy.", "Time Management I'm the sort of person who likes to have plenty of time to themselves, but I've somehow completely overbooked myself for the next few weeks. In one week I have 27 hours of class, 23 volunteer hours, 3 hours (at least) spent in transit each day, 6 papers to write (which involve interviewing a number of different subjects), homework, an interview, a lecture at another university, and a number of other commitments.\n\nHow do I make sure I don't forget anything and have enough time to get everything done? \n\nTL;DR: Crazy busy, need help to manage without going (more) crazy.", "Time Management I'm the sort of person who likes to have plenty of time to themselves, but I've somehow completely overbooked myself for the next few weeks. In one week I have 27 hours of class, 23 volunteer hours, 3 hours (at least) spent in transit each day, 6 papers to write (which involve interviewing a number of different subjects), homework, an interview, a lecture at another university, and a number of other commitments.\n\nHow do I make sure I don't forget anything and have enough time to get everything done? \n\nTL;DR: Crazy busy, need help to manage without going (more) crazy.", "Time Management I'm the sort of person who likes to have plenty of time to themselves, but I've somehow completely overbooked myself for the next few weeks. In one week I have 27 hours of class, 23 volunteer hours, 3 hours (at least) spent in transit each day, 6 papers to write (which involve interviewing a number of different subjects), homework, an interview, a lecture at another university, and a number of other commitments.\n\nHow do I make sure I don't forget anything and have enough time to get everything done? \n\nTL;DR: Crazy busy, need help to manage without going (more) crazy.", "Time Management I'm the sort of person who likes to have plenty of time to themselves, but I've somehow completely overbooked myself for the next few weeks. In one week I have 27 hours of class, 23 volunteer hours, 3 hours (at least) spent in transit each day, 6 papers to write (which involve interviewing a number of different subjects), homework, an interview, a lecture at another university, and a number of other commitments.\n\nHow do I make sure I don't forget anything and have enough time to get everything done? \n\nTL;DR: Crazy busy, need help to manage without going (more) crazy.", "Time Management I'm the sort of person who likes to have plenty of time to themselves, but I've somehow completely overbooked myself for the next few weeks. In one week I have 27 hours of class, 23 volunteer hours, 3 hours (at least) spent in transit each day, 6 papers to write (which involve interviewing a number of different subjects), homework, an interview, a lecture at another university, and a number of other commitments.\n\nHow do I make sure I don't forget anything and have enough time to get everything done? \n\nTL;DR: Crazy busy, need help to manage without going (more) crazy." ]

[ "create a time chart with all 168 hours of the week. its the only way you lose your illusions of how you spend your time. and trust me, you have illusions.", "Stop overextending yourself!!\n\nI have a service where i give people advice in 5 words or less.\nthat'll be $10 please.", "Keep a calendar and keep it with you! Mark off things as you complete them, it will give you a sense of a accomplishment and help you feel a little less overwhelmed. Also mentally note the date that you will be less occupied, it always helps to remember that there is an end to stressful times. I am the kind of person that thrives on being busy. I would be lost without my long term, short term and daily to-do lists. ", "if something has comes up and it takes less than 5 minutes to finish, do it then, while you are thinking about it.", "You need to cut yourself some slack. Working that many hours in one week will lead to a lot of stress and fatigue causing you to work less efficiently. ", "There is one method I am using now, the Backward Planning method. It allows you to keep track with all the steps towards a specific goal, not the \"Graduate college.\" goal, but more like the \"Finish this assignment.\" goal. I went through the trouble of finding you more information and a template to help you out even more. [More Information Here.](http://www.careervision.org/About/Backwards_Planning_Strategy.htm)\n[Example template.](http://docs.google.com/viewer?a=v&q=cache:JiOG5G1tIxMJ:qub.ac.uk/schools/SchoolofLaw/Education/Undergraduates/PersonalDevelopmentPortfolio/pdpfilestore/Filetoupload,210267,en.doc+working+backwards+from+a+deadline&hl=en&pid=bl&srcid=ADGEESjKf7uOItx9NosltuoFqTYwbYn4BAbXv81VkMENx3QP7k1_fOChFpSznM1yayIsuvpzCBS-UB6rB1Fm8dFHU6as-W0bL-VEl8JDQQvcT1cFDDBUS5wabywWkBwhGh2EbQ-gn3Zz&sig=AHIEtbQ2glw5TfeRNSyVQcd9sM5_MaVcIw)", "* Sleep while on the road\n* Try the [Pomodoro technique](http://www.pomodorotechnique.com/)\n* Drop the \"other commitments\"\n", "You might also want to take a look at the [Eisenhower Method](http://www.time-management-training.info/time-management-tip-eisenhower-method/)." ]

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Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*", "People Who are Happy and Successful with their Career / Degree how Did you Choose Correctly? Like the title says, I'm a college student right now and I've been extremely stressed out about doing the right thing in college. \n\nI'm curious: how do people find a career that really clicks for them? \n\n\n*" ]

[ "Thinking only about what you currently enjoy doing can be a red herring, because what you enjoy as a hobby can be a shitty career. Love playing video games? Maybe you will hate being trapped behind a computer 8+ hours a day designing them. You need to think about what qualities of life and the job are most important to you. Is it lots of free time to go travel? Is it a flexible schedule working from home? Or being outside in nature? Or maybe just making boatloads of cash. Then depending on what is most important to you will help you figure out what you should be doing. For me, I realized I got the most satisfaction out of a job that was different every day, was exciting, didn't have me stuck behind a desk, and I felt good helping people. So now I work in emergency services, which is completely unrelated to my degree.", "Okay, this is tricky because what I'm doing now isn't what I went to school for but that experience is what led me here and I love my job. Like I said, tricky. My science education got me a job working in nuclear research, which required bleeding edge computer skills. That led to a programming/IT career where I pitched a lot of projects. That led to my writing career. \n\nWhere you start out and where you end up may not be the same thing at all. But I love my job now. ", "You need to try as much as possible, talk to as many people that work in areas that might interest you as possible, and take whatever the best opportunity that presents itself is.\n\nThere is so much you will never know about potential opportunities without talking to people. If you are in college and don't like your major, take a semester worth of classes in other departments to see how you'd like those. I did this when I was burning out a bit, it was great. No one cares if you take 5 years to graduate because you changed your mind.\n\nI advise college students as part of my job so feel free to PM me if you want more personalized advice.\n\n", "I delayed going to university until I was in my twenties. In this time I worked a broad range of jobs. I was a tennis coach for about 4 years, I was a bank cashier, I worked in retail and I was a manager in a museum. I also pursued any hobbies that took my interest. This time, about 7 and a half years, meant I could learn a lot about myself and the important things were these:\n\n1. I hated the general public (seriously...fuck those guys).\n2. I love movies, games and TV.\n3. I NEED to be constantly challenged by what I do. If I become bored I become a really bad employee.\n\nThese realisations meant I needed a non public facing career in and industry that was constantly developing and had some creativity.\n\nI did an undergrad and masters in Visual FX for TV and film and now work in the industry. I am given a constant mental challenge from my work and love it almost every day.\n", "I was always drawn to doing hair. As a kid I would braid and style my friend's hair. As a teenager, I didn't see it as a viable career so I went to college because what else was I supposed to do? It's drilled in our head that the only road to success involves a bachelors and $100k of student debt. It only took a semester to realize college wasn't where I was supposed to be. Puttered around for a bit and finally enrolled in cosmetology school. Fast forward some years and I'm now a salon owner. I spend my days being creative and connecting with some pretty rad people. I'm exhausted when I come home, but I still feel good knowing I spent the day doing what I'm passionate about. \n\nMy advice would be to simply follow whatever makes you happy. Forget about your family's or society's expectations and just do you. (I come from a family of successful business owners so going to beauty school was laughable to them.) It's better to live in a modest apartment with a fulfilled soul than to live in a mansion dreading the next day of work. ", "I stopped worrying if I was on the right path. Just started doing what I do like I'm playing a game, trying to be the best.\n\nI would have a good time in almost any job because I'm positive. ", "I was lucky enough to have realized as a child that I wanted to be attorney. But it wasn't easy to get there. I didn't do as well as I should have in college, mostly due to a wild and free attitude my freshman year. My law school prospects dwindled, even as my GPA slowly rose. About the time that I only got accepted into two second tier law schools, I also found out that my manipulative ex-girlfriend was pregnant with my child. I chose a school, and spent the first three years of my daughter's life two states away trying to achieve my dreams, better myself, and better the life that I could provide for her, all at a time when the bleakness of lawyering job prospects and the related discouragement were so prevalent that I often couldn't sleep at night. I graduated with $170k in debt, passed the bar, and worked at a pizza place and deli for a year because I couldn't find a job, all while being subjected to loops and hoops, and a year long custody battle, to see me daughter. Then it happened. I got a temp job doing contract law, and then a job at small firm practicing in nearly all areas of the law. I wasn't making enough to pay my rent, bills, and child support, let alone to repay my loans, but I was happy. A year later I got offered my dream job. I now make good money while still working for a small firm, and have a wonderful home for my little girl. I go up against attorneys that went to schools that are considered leagues \"better\" than mine, and who work miserably for \"pristine\" (large, corporate oriented) firms. It seemed like it took forever, but in reality those six years between starting law school and obtaining my dream job flew by.\n\nThis is a long-winded, story-oriented way of saying that if there's something that you are passionate about, follow it, choose it. People are always going to say you can't, you shouldn't; hell, even the world will say as much, over and over again. But it can work, and will if you work for it. Don't be afraid to pull the trigger on a passion, as opposed to a practicality. Don't be afraid to ignore pundits, from family to media, and to go against the grain. If your passion doesn't fit into a typical job mould, then create a mould for it. In this beautiful modern world, your career dreams are always possible.\n\nGood luck to you, my friend. Follow your own heart and persevere, and you will find your path.", "I found a mentor who knew my strengths and has been able to give me advice throughout my career changes. \n\nI spoke to my friends about their jobs and listened to what they liked and disliked. This helped me find a job which sounded interesting to me. \n\nFinally I took the leap. Quitting my job, taking a pay cut, and starting out at the bottom was a bold move, but it's working out so far. I'd rather be at the bottom of the ladder I want to climb.", "I got pretty lucky. When I was young, I was really good at drawing, painting, and everything thing else art related. I also loved computers and I was great at Math, which led be to be good with CAD. When I was 14, I figure \"hey, I should be an architect!\" Then I did some research and realized that you had to be pretty damn famous to really be creative with architecture the way I wanted to be. From there I moved on to Engineering. Felt the same way about creativity in engineering that I did with architecture. Finally, I landed on graphic design. I didn't have a very good understanding of what graphic design was. I thought it was basically digital art (it's not). At 15 I made that my career path. Went to college for graphic design. That's where I realized it was nothing like what I thought it would be, but I still ended up loving it. Graduated college with my degree and randomly ended up at an advertising agency. Once again, I had no idea what I got myself into. My design skills applied enough to advertising to keep my job and eventually I got really good at advertising holistically. Now, I'm a creative director in advertising and it's great. It's not always as creative as I'd like and I generally hate most of my clients, but I don't think there's a better job for me. Whenever I get pissed about my job, I have to think to myself how good my job really is. I make cool shit, drink beer at work whenever I want, and work with a ton of great creative people. Can't complain. ", "The biggest mistake many college students make is choosing a major before choosing a career. Think about what you want your life at work and outside of work to be like. How much money do you want to make? Are you okay sitting at a computer all day? Do you want to work with people? Do you want to avoid working with people? Do research (I loved using the BLS Occupational Outlook Handbook) on different careers to find out what the nature of the work is like, average salaries, how in demand the career is, and once you find something that you like, *THEN* choose the major that will get you there. Many people choose a major because it sounds cool or is interesting, and then they aren't prepared for what kind of jobs that major can get them. If you're passionate about something and know you want to pursue it no matter what, then great! But for many of us, we aren't that lucky.\n\nAlso, there's this narrative out there that everyone must find their passion, their dream, and pursue it. Some people have a clear cut passion and dream, and some don't. Sometimes it isn't feasible to pursue your passion, and that's okay. Like me, I love folklore and storytelling, but I wasn't okay with the poor job prospects in a field like that. Find a career path that interests you decently enough, one that will give you the kind of lifestyle you want to lead, and the ability to pursue your hobbies and interests on the side. A career isn't everything. Sometimes it's just the thing you do that lets you have the kind of life you want outside of work, and that's okay.", "List out all of the things you have fun doing, look up careers related to those, look at the median salaries and pick one that sounds fun but can pay the bills. For me, at that time, it was procrastinating on the internet, so I picked software engineer. Thankfully, I still like doing that and am quite good at it.\n\nAlso, have a backup plan. I married a doctor, though this was much harder and more expensive than college.\n\nAs long as what you do doesn't make you want to kill yourself and it pays the bills, that's what hobbies are for.", "I\"m probably too late and will be buried, but I'll say it in bold.\n\n**Know yourself**. There's no real right/wrong answer in life, except doing something you *don't* like. So try to get to know yourself as if you're a new friend. Figure out the kinds of things you like, and try to steer into doing more of those things. \n\n**Plan just a few years at a time**. Don't try to plan for your whole life, try to plan for the next few years. Think, \"What would I like to be doing next year, or the year after that?\". Then go do that. If you're good at it, you'll have other opportunities based on what you just did.\n\n**Try a bunch of new stuff**. In college, you need to poke around and try as many things as you can, to figure out what you like the most. Get into long bull-sessions with the philosophy guys, date the lit. students, audit classes outside your major (\"audit\" is a fancy word for dropping into a class -- nobody's going to throw you out of a classroom just for not being registered, unless the class is packed). Each year, register for at least 1-2 classes *because you want to*, not because they're required. Then take note of your decisions and use that to figure out if you're on the right track.\n\n**Stay open to opportunities**. In college, there are a ton of chances to try things out or to jump on various bandwagons. Don't be afraid to jump at things that come up -- even if you're short on sleep. Nature gave you intense stamina at this age. Use it to sample as much of life as you can. If you don't like a particular kind of thing, move on to the next thing. \n\n**Ask a ton of questions**. Don't be afraid to drop in on a professor and ask about their subject. As a professor myself, I can assert that professors *love* that. True students (who want to learn) are rare, even at most universities, and professors will often go to great lengths to encourage folks who show interest and industry. Also, professors very rarely bite. Almost never.\n\n**Do the damn homework**. In every class you take, *the homework* **is** *the reward*. If you're not reveling in the learning, sponging up everything you can, then you're not taking the best advantage of college.\n\n**Line up summer jobs early**. Not working at McDonalds or the local malt shop, things that might be relevant to your own interests. Try to line up lab work with that professor whose class you liked -- and if they don't have any, ask after other opportunities to help out (even for free). Check the job boards in your department. Talk to professors about possibilities. Try an REU (Research for Undergraduates) program. \n\n**Join clubs**. Colleges are full of enthusiast clubs. Take advantage of that by dabbling in as many as take your fancy.\n\nAt the end, **be prepared to shift directions**. When you finish up college, you're faced with almost the same problem you had going in: what now? Use the same technique -- plan just a couple of years ahead, stay open, and try as much as you can. When something \"clicks\", do it more intensely. If you start to feel burned out, start looking for the next thing. By the time you're in your late 20s you will most likely have found your life's work -- or at least something that you can enjoy for your life if it holds up.\n\n\n", "With rare exceptions, choosing the \"right\" career/degree is not what makes you happy and successful in your work. \n\nIt has been my experience that people who are happy and successful in one job are also happy and successful in a different job. Likewise, those who are miserable in one job are typically not happy for long with a different job when they change. \n\nYes, your career/degree can contribute to your happiness and success in your job, but it only a contributing factor, not the sole, defining factor.", "Separate financial motivation from passion. It will lead to disappointment. Not everyone is going to be a rockstar or best selling author. \n\nIf you happen to be passionate about something that will have a large financial reward for you career wise, then bonus points to you! \n\nI started off studying marketing in college because I always wanted to be a creative director. That never panned out. Thanks to my technical background/upbringing, years later I find my self as a project manager for an HVAC company. \n\nIt's a creative field in its own right, and I get to solve problems for people, but it's not something that I am 100% passionate about. Money is great though. ", "I went down the list of majors and picked out the ones I could actually make money in. From those, I picked out the ones I actually have some sort of interest in. Majored in computer science, am now doing very well as a software engineer. Committed myself 100% to it once I chose. Graduated magna cum laude, had 5 job offers before even graduating. I love my job. \n\nPrior to this I was 24 years old working at a shitty warehouse and had been a horrible student in high school with no college prospects. Did community college for first 2 years. Anyone can do it if they try.", "I started learning some HTML/CSS as a kid so I could make my shop on Neopets badass as shit. Now I'm a Web Developer. Dafuq???", "I'd say that what you're doing for a job is one of the least important things to consider. Think about all of the details of where you are working and who you are working for. Can you take vacation? Is you employer OK with you leaving early to get to the doctor? Can you work from home occasionally? Will you work by yourself or with lots of people? Do people in similar fields face a lot of burnout? Are there casual Fridays? Does working in a cubical bother you? Do you want to travel? If so, are their paths for you to travel less in the future (BC as people age and develop a life/family, they tend to want to travel less)\n\nI'm at a job that is unrelated to what I studied in college, but I like the job because of the atmosphere. My employer really cares about work/life balance and that makes me as happy as possible in a job. You can have a job at one software company and hate it because they treat you like crap. You could find a new job doing exactly the same thing at another company and absolutely love it because the atmosphere is better suited to your needs. ", "I'm a writer, make pretty decent money and more importantly, I love what I do. I want to make it clear - writing was always something I left in the \"maybe one day, if I'm lucky\" category. I genuinely didn't think I'd ever be able to do it and make money, but I was really broke one summer in between semesters and ended up taking a few short, article writing gigs for shitty pay and it took off from there.\n\nIt was luck, plain and simple, that set me on the path I'm on. I was going to college to become a teacher, and before that, I had dreams of being, I shit you not, a professional athlete.\n\nYou're going to bumble around a bit before you find the career that fits you best, if you end up finding it. Just go straight down the list of the jobs that you think you'd enjoy most and find a way to get a taste of each of them, even if it's through an entry level position, volunteering, or taking jobs on fiverr for peanuts.\n\nIf you want to find a job that you love, you have to get comfortable with not having a set path forward, at first. There's no straight trajectory. It's kind of like finding a good girlfriend. Some people luck out and stay with their high school sweetheart, others will have to keep dating for decades... and some people might not ever really put themselves out there and find who they're meant to be with.\n\nThe sad truth of it is that finding a career you can be passionate about is a job in itself that you will have to work in addition to a job that makes you money.", "I found something that was related to the skills involved with my hobbies and passions but something that WASN'T my hobby or passion. I loved video games and airplanes and I came out with air traffic control. I absolutely love my job, I get paid to talk. Everything I know and learn about my video games (like communication, multitasking, situational awareness, etc...) and airplane hobbies helps to compliment my career choice. \n\n If I had chosen to be a pilot, I could risk becoming bored with flying and could possibly start viewing it as mundane, trudging through the daily grind type stuff. I don't want that. I am passionate about ATC because I'm passionate about flight. Everything I learn about ATC helps me become a better pilot and vice versa. \n\nIt's still a job and sometimes I don't feel like going or getting out of bed... But that is just life. I still love my job and I'm excited about being there 99% of the time. \n\n\"If you do something you love, you never have to work a day in your life\" is how the old saying goes. I wouldn't agree exactly, I think you need to keep a firm distinction between hobbies and jobs.", "When I was a kid, I wanted to be a cop. More specifically, I wanted to be a Detective, or FBI Agent. Well, I never went to College. I had small jobs for minimum wage for a few years after High School. Then, after some bitching about my hard day at work, my Wife of 1 year asked me if I was doing what I wanted. She asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. She motivated me to start something in that direction. So, I got a job in a jail as a foot in the door. I have been here 12 years now and I love My job.", "Lifetime of being supported by people looking out for my best interests. Seriously. My parents got me into good schools, even moving when I was ~10 to get us into a better neighborhood and school district. Started cultivating an interest in computers and technology around the same time. Parents/cooldad continued to support my computer gaming interests and I built my first PC at 13. Got into a magnet program in 9th grade that exposed me to Java and C++. I thought those classes were going ok and enjoyed doing that stuff, often helping other classmates that weren't \"so good at computers\". One day in 11th grade, Java AP teacher pulls me aside and tells me I have a real knack for this stuff and have I considered where I want to go to college and what I want to major in. He encouraged me to consider some of the top engineering schools in the nation and I ended up going to one - thanks again and RIP Konrad :( \n \nGraduated with a computer engineering degree, got a job doing software engineering. Get identified by management as a more technically competent employee, quickly advance to Sr. ranks, continue getting supported by great managers that recognize my talents and help me pursue my interests and advance my skillset. Continue doing what I like to do ~80% of the time (there's always slow times). \n \nNot really sure if/how that translates to a LPT. I guess in the long run I just kept doing what I have a natural talent for and got lucky that it's a fairly lucrative field and I have always been surrounded by positive people.", "I tried a few different jobs. I have close to 200 cr", "I looked at what was important to me. For some people, that is to make money while not wanting to rip their hair out.\n\nFor me, I wanted to help people improve their lives by passing on knowledge that was given to me. I work in the mental health field and have been fortunate enough to watch many people learn, grow, and even flourish. ", "I got more serious about my faith and eventually learned that happiness is a state of mind -- it comes from within. Not from success or inherent interest on one's job.\n\nIt starts with a mindset of gratitude.", "I saw a talk by Ray Bradbury who said his formula for success and happiness was to find a job doing the stuff you did for fun as a kid. He and his friends made claymation movies in their garage and built fantasy cities. His greatest joy was getting to design the World's Fair. \n\nIn my case, I loved reading and hanging out on the nascent Internet. Little did I know that online community manager would become a job, so it took a few decades to get there. \n\nTL;DR - find a job that matches something you are intrinsically motivated to do.", "It sounds cliche, but by not worrying about whether i chose correctly or not. Now, I'm in IT so I have the benefit of having a lot of different disciplines and technologies I can work with so ymmv.\n\nI worry about two things: \n* am I content, more often than not, when I'm at work\n* am I working on some skill that will advance my career\n\nas long as those two things are true I feel I can relax and not worry much about 5 year plans and the like. If one of them isn't true my next move is to try and fix it. If I'm not content in the office then I start looking at how to address that, and if I cant, I start looking for my next rob. If I'm not working on skills, well that's easy to fix.", "In college, I tried out 2 internships which didn't help me find the right job but definitely helped me to know what I DIDN'T want to do. Ultimately, I'm in 34 and in my 5th \"career\" and who knows what I'll do 5 years from now? I love what I do now but I loved aspects of those jobs as well. (Biotech lab assistant, nurse, nurse practitioner, clinical informaticist, workflow/process consultant) Try things out, be open to change and new challenges. Sometimes the right things finds you.", "I'm in my mid thirties. I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up.\n\nI do IT work. I've done just about everything short of real programming. I've handled, in order of merit in my opinion, customer service on a helpdesk, depot service desktop support, field service deskop support, network cabling infrastructure, servers (Novell, Microsoft NT/AD), Internet services (ie, BIND, Sendmail, and Apache), Network services (DHCP etc), and now L2/L3 Networking. I've had times in my career where I've been incredibly happy and times where I've been incredibly miserable.\n\nMy happiness in my work is strongly predicated by my supervisor(s) and coworkers. When I've been unhappiest it's because supervisors enforced ridiculous policies that were designed to push everyone *down* to the level of the worst employee, or where their authority was threatened by someone with vastly more knowledge than they had. I've also been miserable when supervisors would not take responsibility at their level and merely acted as a passive cog in the organizational table, passing down stuff from above without actually making the decisions they were supposed to handle, using personal connections to maintain their station without any real ability.\n\nAt the moment I'm happy because my current supervisor gives me a lot of latitude, is knowledgeable and both makes decisions and goes to-bat for his subordinates, and *wants* us to use our greatest strengths to get the job done. He recognizes that we do not have all the same ability, so he attempts to use us to our strongest abilities instead of trying to play [Handicapper General](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Harrison_Bergeron) to push us down to the same lackluster level.\n\nI expect a lot of people will be the same, *who* they work for and with will dictate happiness in career almost more than what the career itself is. If you're surrounded by toxic people, you're probably going to hate it. If you have a lot of good, hard working people around you, you're probably going to have at least a decent time of it.", "I used to be super stressed about this. Back in college; I thought that all was done, that it was too late to change careers. there were some financial constrains for me, so there was a truth to that in college.\n\nThank god your college major doesn't have to determine your career. I did mechanical engineering and now applying business consulting firms. And I will try and see, if don't like it, f it, change it.\n\nI believe that the important parameter is that you keep applying, searching your interests and don't limit yourself believing that it's too late, no one will let me change careers etc. keep at it.\n", "I was thoroughly bored with school by 8th grade. I got a high school diploma equivalent but never finished high school dipped my toe in the water with a few college classes. Ultimately couldn't imagine anything that I wanted to do full time. And the classroom environment was just not something I was willing to put up with long term.\n\nI ended up moving abroad, having saved my money from a pizza delivery job and later some construction work. I spent a year in Eastern Europe not having to do anything but just be. I had a friend who was supporting himself doing kitchen exhaust cleaning in the States and living abroad in the same city as me. The work was done quarterly but then after a couple weeks he had enough money to live off for the rest of the quarter.\n\nThat's how I got into kitchen exhaust cleaning. You wouldn't think that blue collar work and getting filthy would be somebody's life calling. And I definitely wouldn't call it that. There was a time about five years in when I got into some business development books and self-help and this led to me getting a little dissatisfied with my job as I began wondering what my passion was. [I'm over that now](https://www.reddit.com/r/GetMotivated/comments/4wqbp5/story_havent_found_your_passion_yet_relax_here/) . When I really think back to why I chose this career it was simply to maximize my freedom and to make sure my needs were cared for with as little time invested as possible.\n\nWhat I really appreciate is not having to go to the boss when I want to take a vacation or putting up with co-workers or a work environment that I have little control over. People spend a lot of time worrying about the meaning of their job or finding that thing that allows them to express themselves or what not. I just wanted freedom, and a sense of control and to be well compensated for what I do.\n\nI definitely don't have any disrespect fot people who are looking for more passion from work. It's worth mentioning though that actually having enough money to care for yourself and the freedom to set your own schedule, means that if you do realize later that you're passionate about something it would be even easier to pursue that passion in your free time without the burden of having to try to monetize it immediately and survive on that alone.\n\nI guess what I would say is that if you're real clear on what you want to do then go for it. But if you're one of those people that are not real clear on wanting to do one particular thing maybe just try to figure out the best way to take care of yourself and maximize your free time and your freedom. Or take some time off and travel . If something strikes your fancy later in life you'll still be in a situation that allows you to pursue it.", "I feel this video hits the nail on the head of your topic \n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CVEuPmVAb8o&list=PLou9QNcIeX9ZTZKjXxEjWIjsretnBuk_c", "Do a lot of things and find out what you don't like.\n\nIt's easy to sit in your farm, apartment, or home and have an existential crisis about your job. It's hard to go out and try new and uncomfortable things.", "Be open minded, willing to change, and don't let money be a factor, unless that is what is the #1 thing you want out of a career.\n\nAfter that, trial and error. I spent 5 years in the Army and another at a desk job. Both were fine, but not fulfilling. I now teach middle school math, and I love it. \n\nBe honest with yourself and you'll do fine.", "When I picked a major I didn't give any consideration to what the job outlook was for the field, or what the typical pay was, or anything else. I just picked something that sounded interesting and went for it. Because I picked based on my interests my grades went way up, graduated, got a job quickly and have been reasonably successful.", "The key is to not go to college. I restore antique furniture for a living. I get to travel all over the state, everyday is a new adventure and challenge. I get to use my mind to problem solve so I never feel like my work is mindless. I really enjoy it. The best part is I don't have any debt. No student loans slows me to use my money to travel and do things I want. Not going to college was the best thing I could have ever done. ", "I would say try to picture the worse that could happen to you in your field of study and figure if you would be able to bare it. \n\nI think it's a mistake to look at successful people to decide if you want to do something, because people tend to see only the positive side of things without looking at the path overall (sometimes even the successful people themselves), which is where you're going to spend the most time. ", "I went to school for electrical engineering, focused on hardware, analog, and RF. I wanted to do something challenging; didn't really know specifically which role though. I was pretty set of hardware design and testing.\n\nI'm currently an industrial automation software engineer, programming robots that assemble the planes we fly in. \n\nI graduated 2 years ago.\n\nA lot can change throughout your career. It may be something as simple as going from one type of engineering to another, or changing fields completely.\n\nA friend of mine(engineer) decided to go to med school and is now a doctor. That's a huge change.\n\nEssentially, just get your degree and get the ball rolling, we don't know the terrain that lies ahead or which direction the ball will roll into.", "I chose one that made me a lot of money, 260,000 a year pre-tax, and it was math based (actuary) and I liked math.\n\nNow, I love that damn job. I figured I could work have fun after work and work just for cash, but it *worked* out well.", "I can't speak to career since I am a recent graduate from undergrad, though I do not regret one bit my History degree. \n\nI knew from when I took my AP European History class in High School that I wanted to study history. I didn't want to necessarily be a historian at that point, but I knew that I didn't want to study anything else in college. And that just stuck with me, I never changed my major in my four years.\n\nIt is a degree with a really low income range, especially out of college, however I appreciate the critical thinking skills I gained, the ability to write essays well, and how to read lots of information in short amounts of time. They all seemed like soft skills that I could translate well into a career I chose later. ", "Its a job... That's why they pay you for it and if it was great then someone would do it for them for free. There is a tiny percent of the population that love their jobs so you might as well try to be happy with what you got", "I didn't.\n\nThe fact of the matter is that I was confident what I wanted to do when I go to college. I wanted to do plastic surgery. Except my first week in class, I realized I couldn't. I had broken my fingers on both hands repeatedly during football in high school. But I had this hobby on the side, writing, which I did. So I switched to journalism. However, there's not a lot of money in journalism, nor job security. So I switched to the legal field. I did this for years, before realizing I didn't like working 60 hours a week to sit and fill out paperwork (paralegal), and I decided \"I'm not interested in law school\". But my hobby, writing, ultimately got me into video games. I have worked in this industry for 4 years now, and I love it.\n\nThe real LPT/lesson here is that, whatever you do, find ways to do it that won't put you in the hole. Your degree isn't worth starting out -$100,000 in debt. When I wanted to go to law school, I did paralegal work first. When I wanted to do journalism, I did freelance writing for side money. \n\nIt's important to always be learning, growing, developing, and course correcting. You'll make mistakes dozens of times over. But as long as you stay out of debt, no matter what you decide, you can rebound from it. Ultimately, these mistakes shape your end goal and give you perspective on what you actually want to do and would be happy doing.", "There is no \"right thing\".\n\nI went through a very similar experience, stressing for years about every career decision and whether it would get me where I wanted to be. But that stress was self-destructive, because that energy could have been aimed at becoming a badass at whatever I was currently working on. \n\nNo matter what you're doing, just focus on being the best at it. You'll get faster promotions, more opportunities, a better network, and more satisfaction. And if you have a track record of being a badass, people will be willing to take a bigger risk on you in the future. You will find it much easier to switch jobs or careers.\n\nFor example, I used to work as an architect, where the pay was shitty and the work wasn't all that satisfying, no matter which office I worked in. I spent a few years stressing about what I should be doing. Eventually I gave up worrying about it, and just focused on being the very best team member for my clients. It was only a short while later that a client offered me a job in real estate development. \n\nNow I manage large teams of people, make good money, and love every single day of my job. I get calls from recruiters all the time, I get opportunities to contribute to my community through charities and associations that I care about, and I play a meaningful part in the future of my city.\n\nTL;DR - Focus on being indispensable, rather than on an end goal for your career. If you're a total badass, opportunities will find you.\n\n", "The key to doing what you enjoy is progress. You don't have to purposefully begin a career in something you already enjoy, you only need to choose a career that you have unlimited potential at, and try to become as good at it as you possibly can.\n\nHumans love feeling progress. If you work extremely hard at becoming an absolute professional at what you do, you will be happy with it. Desk jobs, lower level management, secretaries, etc. These jobs have a roof of skill and progress. Jobs like Real Estate, Computer Science, Engineering, Researchers, Sports Players, Entrepreneurs, Politicians, etc. These have endless potential and will be very stressful but very fulfilling if you take it seriously.", "I'm happy. I'm married and have a good job and I finished college and although I don't work in the field I make enough to be comfortable. Here's my greatest tip: put in what you want back. Period. In community college, what you put in you got back. At a UC same thing. When you apply, take every offer, and quit jobs you don't like. Never give up. When you get the job you like, work harder than everyone else. Strive to be employee of the month. Don't listen to others around you ever when they are negative or say pessimistic stuff unless they mean to help you. This propelled me to get everything I have. I'm serious. Attitude goes far and hard work pays off. Even if you don't get exactly what you want all the time, you can succeed by taking a good outlook and working through it to get what you want. Someday, you can and will get good things if you work hard. Hope this helps. \n\n", "I fell into mine. I didn't know what I wanted to do, so I went to the college most of my friends were going to and chose to major in chemistry because the teacher of that subject at my high school was really the only person talking about students futures and was seemingly recruiting them to that field. I was very happy at the school and liked all my classes, but when I was thinking about what I wanted to do as a career I wasn't so certain. I considered getting a masters or phd in medicinal chemistry, but figured that was a lot of work, the pay didn't look that great and I didn't want to be in lab doing research forever. So I transferred and got into pharmacy school, better starting salary, seemed like an easy job, still dealt with chemistry, biology and medicine. I end up having a kid with a severe disability half way through pharmacy school, it takes an emotional toll on me and I end up failing out. I didn't want to go back to pharmacy school and looked into joining the Air Force, getting a biology degree or mechanical engineering. I decided to do mechanical engineering, that lasted a week and a half due to me not doing advanced math in quite few years and not knowing how to do any of my differential equations homework. Finally decided to go back to pharmacy school where I took a nuclear pharmacy elective because I heard it was a very easy A, really liked it did a rotation at a nuclear pharmacy while in school and liked it, graduated, fought hard for a job in that specialty because of my lack of experience in it, finally got something and am very happy.", "I consider myself very lucky. During high school a teacher gave me a book that ultimately changed my life. It was called An Edible History of Humanity, and it focused on the whole history of agriculture and how it shaped wars and nations. After reading it I thought that getting into agriculture would be a good play. I loved plants and people always need to eat right? So I chose to go to school in the Midwest for a degree in Agronomy. Never questioned my decision for a moment. And now I work on a farm in Washington as an Assistant Farm Manager 8 months out of college and I fucking love it. \n\nTl;dr - I got lucky and followed my passion. ", "Explore, and don't be afraid to follow \"wrong\" paths. I spent 6 years working in corporate America before I switched careers into therapy.", "1) Luck. I was always good in science and math\n\n2) So, I went into a field that uses my strengths, engineering. I started doing image processing by an accident of the job. I liked it. So, I kept on doing it. That gave me a niche expertise.\n\n3) I decided that working in an office sucks. So, I became a consultant out of my home.\n\nI'm not saying that it was the most profitable choice but then I see all these people who hate the daily grind, the office politics, just waiting to retire so they can live their own life when their old. Fuck that, I'll live my life the way I want to when I'm young. I could be dead by 70 for all I know.\n\n4) Oh yeah, I always fucking hated cold weather. I grew up in NY. I took a job in San Diego after school.", "You never going to be happy with your career and degree. There are exceptions to this rule but usually it is a combination of multiple complicated factors. Don't chose something that will make you happy. Chose something that will make your life less miserable. \n\nI used to love computers and programming, having to go through shitty code, deadlines and sit inside a room with no windows and little sun-light is killing it for me. But the money is great.", "Well, as many things in life, i've got lucky.\nMy Dad had a lot to do with personal, he was a salesman for tools and stuff (like for industry, hugh shipments, not like a hardware tools market or something). He just knew, how people tick, because he needed personal, that knew how to sale and be happy with this and all. \nI remember drive homes, where he phoned all the way with new colleagues and asked, how their first experience went, etc. \n\nAnyway, as i attended school, he asked me, what i want to do after and i didnt have any fkn clue. So, the best thing then was to get to the A-Levels (Abitur/Hochschulreife in Germany), because that where three more years to get an idea + better degree.\n\nAfter said three years, i still hadent a clue, so he gave me the following tip:\n\n**Ask yourself four questions: What do you like to do? What dont you like to do? What are yo good at and what are you bad at?**\n\nI liked playing video games and customising my pc/upgrading it manually. I really liked getting to know all the technical stuff inside my PC. I was sure as hell, that i cant sell stuff like him, because im cant people talk into stuff. \n\nI once had a Intership in a Home for Disabilities, which made clear, im not the type of Guy for social work (im getting tired of people real quick, which kinda defeats the purpose). So, all of this stuff helped me to answer this four questions. With these information, i checked the German Agentur für Arbeit (Work Agency) Website for a qualified Training, which gave me Fachinformatiker für Systemintegration - qualified IT specialist for System Integration.\n\nI wrote a lot of applications and got several offers, one in a chemical facility, where i really was looking forward for the PC repair departments, as fixing PCs and swapping hardware was basically the things, why i choose this job.\nAs trainee, i got through all the departments (Call support, On Site support, Repair department, Telephone/Wiring, Network, Servers, Security, Project Management).\n\nWell, as soon i hit Network, Server and Security, i was mind blown by all the background information, i gathered. It was interesting as fuck to understand, why and email got from Point A to B. How Virtual Network, Firewalls and Switching works. And also make it work myself.\n\nI really dropped the IT of being a Hardware Guy after my first looks inside Network and Systems. \nFast Forward 7 years later, i got my Degree als IT Specialist, changed workplace (because of intern troubles) and im now a happy System Admin, responsible for a lot of PCs, Network, Servers and all that stuff, with nice colleagues and and employer, that i can identify with.\n\nAs said, in the beginning, i got lucky. It could have worked completely in the opposite direction, but it didnt. \n**TL;DR: Ask yourself, what your good at and what you like to do and try to get something fitting as a job**", "Unless you are 100% sure about what you want to become, just get some sort of BS (Bachelors of Science) degree. It will open the door for the upper-tier jobs. If you ultimately decide that outside sales is the job for you, you won't have any issues getting in with a science(y) background.\n\nI've been in the workforce for almost 2 years now and the one thing I've noticed is that college is seen as more of a stupid test. Unless you're applying for a very specialized position, most entry-level recruiters just want to see the degree to make sure you're smart enough to handle the job. Prior experience is where the money's at.", "Trial and error my friend. I went to burkely school of music for a whole 2 days and realized I didn't want a degree in something I wasn't happy with doing. It took me almost 6 years to realize that. After taking a year off and just doing odd jobs in the music industry I realized I wanted to work on cars. So now I'm a full time mechanic and I'm loving every second.", "Trial and error and luck. Study a subject you find interesting and hone your people skills too, because in the end they are what matter most. When you get out of school be a little picky with your first job if possible, learn as much as you can from that job, and use that knowledge to find a new job that closer matches your desires. I went through three jobsbefore I landed where I am today, in a very good job.\n\nDon't worry too much about the future. If you're reasonably bright and sensible, it'll sort itself out along the way.", "There's a distinction between a career and a job. A job is what you do for a living and how you make your money. A career is your contribution to society and/or what you believe in and value. Going by this guideline should help you find a fulfilling career. Also, don't forget that there's a distinction between work and work environment. ", "There are so many jobs out there that you don't even know about yet, it is impossible to pick the right one.\n\nHowever you do know yourself, so be brutally honest and describe your ideal job; is it high stress or laid back, flexible hours or shift work, autonomous or micromanaged, salary or commission? What is important is that you don't pick things that just sound good. Many people like the idea of autonomous commission work, but hate making cold calls and get stressed out about irregular paycheques, so that's the kind of headspace you should try and get into.\n\nAfter that you need to meet as many people as you can who work in industries that interest you. For me that meant I talked to bankers, investors, Realtors, commercial agents, managing directors, etc to determine what types of jobs in finance or real estate might be right for me.\n\nAs a result I now work as a fee appraiser. Highly autonomous and commission based, but requires education and is not pure sales like a brokerage role (I'm not a very salesy guy). My skills are valued and I have a good income that I am in control of.\n\n\nFull disclosure, this process took YEARS, and involved working some shitty awful jobs that I hated. So don't get discouraged if the right one doesn't come along right away.", "The job I had that made me the happiest, I quite literally got by accident. I got a job interview at one place, got the address wrong, walked into a different business, and they were hiring to, so applied there for the hell of it (I was really, really desperate for work).\n\nLife is like a box of chocolates.....", "The first question is figuring out the lifestyle you want to live. How hard do you want to work, how much does the deeper meaning of your work matter versus the money you make, do you want the flexibility to travel, do you hate sitting at a desk, do you need to stay in one place for family, etc? How long can you realistically stay in school without losing your mind? Be real with yourself. No judgments if money is the priority for example, if you want to work to live well that's what you want, and that's what's important. \n\nSecond question is what jobs let people live the lifestyle you want. You might have seen or known people in jobs like that. Ask around. Look into common job areas generally. Brainstorm. Make a big huge list. \n\nThird question is whether you have the natural talent required for certain jobs. If you're terrible at math, you will never be an engineer. If you have poor social skills, you're going to have trouble as a psychotherapist. If you're super disorganized, teaching is going to present a challenge. Know thyself. Cross out jobs that just will not work. \n\nSee what's left on your list. Talk to people who have those jobs. Ask them what you need to do to get their job in today's climate.\n\nProsper. ", "The best advice I can give you is to recognize that there are many twists and turns in life and you can't ever truly know if you're doing the right thing. You have to listen to your instincts and be ready to work hard. I have a teaching degree, secondary education to be exact. I went to college a little late and already was married with a child. I left my low paying office job to go to school full time while my husband worked. Since life never works out the way it is supposed to we soon ran into huge financial problems and I really needed to get a job. My class schedule coupled with my practicums made it impossible to get a day job. Getting a second shift night job that would generate enough income to be worth sacrificing all of my time with my family also seemed impossible. I ended up taking a risk and buying a kit to start selling sex toys at ladies toy parties. It was a crazy and desperate move and I was definitely sucked into the \"create your own schedule\" vibe of this \"opportunity\". \n\nThis is the weird part, it turns out that I was really fucking good at selling dildos. Like I sold close to $40,000 worth of dildos in my first 10 months. The corporate office of the company I sold for sent me a cookie basket and the VP personally called me and was like \"who are you and where did you come from?\". I got totally swept up in this and started booking more parties than I could keep up with, 17-19 per month, two a day on the weekends. It was crazy. Before I knew it, college graduation was weeks away and I knew that I didn't want to be a teacher anymore. The fast money and high speed sales world has sucked me right in. To the great dismay of my professors I declined to complete my final practicum and never tested for my license. I ran off with my liberal arts degree and immediately started applying for sales jobs. I got one and started working 12 days after graduation. The first two years sucked ass and I didn't make much money but then I gained enough experience to break into executive level sales. Started there in 2013 and made $39,000 my first year. Fast forward to today, as of September 2016 I have brought home $92,000 so far.\n\nSales fulfills me in every way. I'm able to channel my passion for education by teaching my customers about my products and the different ways they can be used to enhance their businesses. I get to set my own schedule which more than makes up for the summers off I desperately wanted to have with my kids. Now I can spend a day with them any time I want regardless of season. I love my manager, I love my co workers, I love my customers, I couldn't be happier.\n\nSo that was the happy ending but the path was long and discouraging at times. When I first graduated and didn't pursue teaching my friends and family were aghast. No one could understand why I had spent 4 years of my life working toward something and then immediately \"throwing it away\" for a $25k a year entry level sales job. People assumed I couldn't pass my licensure exams or I chickened out or something. I didn't care. The sex toy sales had given me a taste of the sales buzz and I knew it was my future.\n\nTravel your path, just don't be afraid to follow it if it veers \"off course\".\n\nBest of luck!\n", "So long as it's not outlandish, employers don't really care what your degree is in after you have 5+ years of work experience. You're not going to spin a roulette wheel and get your degree to land on a job you enjoy when you've never been in the full-time working world. \n \nTangentially related: People tell you to follow your passion. That's bullshit. For one thing, you don't have one passion; you have several. For another thing, you haven't finished discovering your passions; most people never do. Just get really fucking good at something you're somewhat interested in and the passion follows.", "Same as some others here, I'm not exactly doing what I went to school for which was already quite different than what I envisioned when I started. But I just looked at what topics I enjoy in school, things I cared about and enjoyed reading/doing/studying outside if school and my hobbies and sort of found a middle ground (i.e. I enjoyed biology, loved the outdoors nature/natural processes and found a hobby in Photography so landed in a biomedical imaging degree)\n\nOther than that though internships might be just as useful because they give you a taste of what things will be like on the outside. They were more useful for me in finding what I didn't want to do. I definitely realized I didn't enjoy sitting in a lab following protocols and pipetting and just wanted to do imaging so I was able to shift my focuses to those areas of my study. It's was nice to be in a school and degree that allowed me to be pretty flexible and o know not everyone has that opportunity later in there degree. But also don't be afraid to stay in school longer than you planned if you're able to because it will be worth it in the long run if you find you want to do something else I'm your second or 3rd year. Especially if you want continue your education later. I should have and now I'm kind of screwed if I want to go for a master's relevant to what I do now.\n", "Only by finding different positions/experience. Enjoyed the study of Political Science but found I wasn't a fan of the structure I'd need to work through to get the job I eventually wanted- never was huge into active campaigning and after internships I knew I'd have to do my time there if I wanted to eventually end up as an aid, policy advisor, what have you. \n\nI found instead that I really enjoyed some of the organizations I was a part of and thought some of my bosses/advisors were awesome. So I ended up going into student affairs which I never otherwise would have known was a thing. Got my Master's degree in the area, found a job, and been working in the field since. Applying to a PhD program in the area in the next couple months!", "Not much of a student, I never really liked to put in the effort so I picked the easiest major I could. When I got hard I found an easier one. Got a 4 year degree and decided that I liked to argue and might be able to bullshit my way through law school like I did through college. So I found a low level law school and graduated. Now I own a firm, work 30 hours a week and support a family. All I ever wanted was a nice house, kids and a wife to share my life with. I love running a business and couldn't care less about the law. Moral is that you have to balance doing what your good at and figuring out how to be successful, however you define that. ", "No matter what major you choose you can't predict life. With that being said I suggest you do whatever makes you happy regardless of job prospects. For example I completed a degree that I loved, worked for years in that field that was meaningful to me and I now do a job a dislike for security/salary and I am grateful I had those years I was happy with my choices. \n\nBasically do what you want whatever that is and you will always be proud and happy. ", "My favorite thing in life is not having a boss. That's my main career. Combining that with doing my hobbies that involve actual creation and not just consumption has worked out well for me.", "My degree is in economics/stats, which is essentially seen as a degree in critical thinking. I'm a data analyst, so I used large datasets back in school, but that's really the only overlap. And you can only be a 'real economist' with a PhD, so an analyst is basically the name of a guy using his undergrad econ degree.\n\n\nI chose correctly because I actually have two other majors that made me super happy at the time (psych and history) but were never going to get me a job. My recommendation is to take as many of your core curriculum courses as early as possible to let you try out as much as possible. Then, rank what majors interested you most and compare it to their earnings potential. Econ was my third favorite, but earnings for psych/hist would have been like the 30th best earning potential..", "My answer is not going to be helpful at all, for me it was sheer dumb luck. When I was 16 I had a neurological disease that left me paralyzed and relearning how to walk. I had a physical therapist who came to my house and I thought what she did was pretty cool. I spent the rest of my high school career planning how I would become that thing. I first went to massage school then to Community College then University and finally got my Doctorate of physical therapy. I have been working for more than 2 years and I absolutely love it. Enjoy going to my job and sometimes I will even take extra days of work because it's not that stressful to me and I get money but it's extra. The only thing that I wish that I knew beforehand was that physical therapy assistants or PTA do pretty much the same work except they do much less paperwork, and they really only make about $10 less per hour.", "Mike Rowe made a video i think you'll like. It really resonated with me.\n\nhttps://youtu.be/CVEuPmVAb8o", "Like Ben Franklin did, make a list of every aspect of a future profession, rank each 1-10 on how much it matters, multiply by how much given decision offer that attribute, and add them all together. \nSubconsciously you may be leaning one direction, and you may skew your answers that way. You kinda answered your own question if you do. \n\nAlso, if considering medicine: go for MD or DDS. Don't do podiatry or another 'allied health profession' unless you really like it. MDs rule that realm and make more money and have more options. \nDon't go into more debt than you expect to make your first year out of school, for ANY reason.", "Joined a productive student organization the first month of college. Dropped out 2.5 years later due to not being a good student, perhaps due in part to time involvement with the club.\n\nTurns out, I found my way into a job 3 years later that directly resulted from my experience lessons with that club.\n\nMy degree work got me my first two jobs, the club got me the career job. In it 12+ years now.\n\n(Video production, btw)", "Joined USAF to get the F outta a shithole with imprisoned friends. Tested high enough to go to electronics school and work on radar equipment. Obtained BSEE going to school part-time while in service. Lucked into HP r&d position, got head-hunted for my electro-mechanical wizardry...then for my ability to also market what I make...now consulting! :)", "Incoming wall of text.\nTl;dr \nDon't follow the money, try out everything you can, and do what you enjoy.\n\nWall of Text:\n\nI dropped out of high school at 16, got a GED, and joined the Army. But I loved computers and video games. Always loved the hardware, ever changing industry, etc. Over years of playing video games on PC, I learned my way around a machine, the registry, basic and some advanced troubleshooting, even a little bit of networking. \n\nI had no idea what I wanted to do, but I knew I needed to do something with my life. So when I looked into joining the US Army, I looked at EVERY career path there was (Went to the Processing Station with a guy who only wanted to play the bass guitar, and that was his job in the Army) and decided to get into IT. Specifically as an IT Specialist.\n\nI loved the challenge of figuring out people's issues, solving things, and being the sole reason productivity could continue. In the meantime, I also learned a bit of basic scripting, dealt with network hardening and penetration testing, and learned about the offensive and defensive capabilities of IT Security. Now THAT was cool. I looked at it as being a modern day Mage. Pretty cool!\n\nI served a total of 8 years, with a deployment to Iraq, and loved my entire time in service. I gained tons of experience and knowledge that people at 25 don't have in the civilian world. I was able to use that experience to land a job IMMEDIATELY as an IT Project Manager. Not even going to go into detail, but that shit SUCKED. I missed the challenge, the problem solving, the freedom, etc. \n\nAfter about a year of working in the project management field (I only did it because $$$) I decided to go back to the IT Specialist environment. Landed a job at a fairly new but expanding company with a GREAT team, and I'm looking at becoming the Director of Information Security. \n\nI am 26 years old, married, one child, and making more with a GED than most people make with a degree. And I love my job. I'm not here to bash school, but I am saying there are so many opportunities that you have in life to do what you want to do, and many places to experience it. Don't chase after the money, realize you are young still. Ask yourself \"I'm am 25 years old. How many more times will I live to be 25?\". Take risks, but always have a goal. You can do anything you want to do, and it is never too late.\n\nI also love helping people too, so if you ever (or anyone here) ever wants advice or help on something related to my experiences, do not hesitate to ask me or PM me. We are all on Earth to help.", "In my 30 years of life I've realized that if you see someone that jas something you'd like (job, money, car, vacation, family etc.) Do what they do. Me. Personally. I had no clue what I wanted to do after high school. I wanted to be a optometrist. The ones I knew seemed not stressed, got home from work early and had good family life...then someone was like, \"I bet you'd be really good at that...but would YOU get bored say 'one or...two...one or two' the rest of you're life.\" So i took onventory of what I liked and the skills I was above average. I liled math. I liked science. And i loved legos and simcity growing up. So i thought about urban planning...didnt really like the sound of dealing with all the red tape. Then a chemical engineer I knew (Friends dad) mentiomed civil engineering. I had'nt really heard of it. But after looking into it, i realized it would be perfect for me. Math, science and big projects. I spoke to a few professors and other old adults. Got some input (be careful with people that have self interest. Example, ive never met a professor that said I shouldnt do a masters). Then I never looked back. About to start my 2nd job. Its hard work, but I get to think and problem solve. I probably couldve been successful and make more money at a few other careers but I really like this one. ", "If your in school now don't get to overwhelmed. Try to get involved with different groups and network with people. I personally feel that's the best part of college. But here are some tips:\n\n-Don't choose your major based on what you enjoy learning. Think of the job you want and then pick a major that will give you the best opportunity. \n\n-Don't get tunnel vision. Just because you're set on something now does not mean it will be what you want later in life. When most people get to college they will have very little experience in how many different jobs exists (I did anyways). \n\n-When you graduate try to get a job ASAP, even if it's not really what you want. Work experience makes you more marketable. Someone who waits on their degree will be less valuable then a person with experience. \n\n-Keep learning and networking while you work. Then progress in what ever direction you want.\n\n-We got like 30 years of work ahead of us. There will be different jobs and our degree won't be our most defining trait. \n\nSource: \n-BS Marine Transportation \n-Merchant Marine Officer\n-24 years old\n-High wage\n-Originally wanted to be a cop.......\n\n\n", "I've ruled out a large number of options for myself. As some others have said below 'follow your passion' can be tough advice. I think it's better to have a lot of experiences and then figure out which aspects of the job you like.\n\nFind easy ways to experience a new career path. For example I considered law school (to the point of taking the LSAT). I visited a law school while it was in session, looked at the books they read and asked myself if it clicked and if I wanted to spend time with law students.\n\nSome of my worst choices gave me useful skills that I've been able to apply elsewhere. In college I learned a lot more that applies to my career now from extracurricular activites and side jobs than classes. Look to cultivate [weak ties] (https://sociology.stanford.edu/sites/default/files/publications/the_strength_of_weak_ties_and_exch_w-gans.pdf) with a variety of people and groups and see which people and activites resonate with you.\n\nAnother tips is to audit classes (even one or two, not the whole course) to see what might interest you and probably more importantly if you'd want to spend time with people who like that subject for the next 40 to 50 years. A lot of intro classes and textbooks are dry and not an accurate representation of the field (e.g. I hate most Computer Science textbooks, so stayed away from that major, yet work as a programmer).", "I'm still going to university but I'm certain I chose the right degree for me. Basically, I have always known that I love animals and want to work with them, I can't imagine anything else I'd rather do than work with animals. So throughout high school, I took as many different work experience and volunteering placements with animals as I possibly could. I became certain that I wanted to be a veterinarian so I volunteered with my vet for 6 months after school. I became absolutely 100% certain that this is what I want to do so I decided to study veterinary science.\n\nSo you're already in college. Do you already know roughly what field you want to go into? If you do, look at as many different careers working in that field as you possibly can and do short placements with them. Your college will cover the insurance for you, do as much as you can in as many fields as you can until you find one that you feel is right for you. Then ask the employer and also your student advisor what you should be studying to get a career in that field.\n\nI don't know if this will work for everyone but I know it worked for me. Good luck! And have fun, you'll know when you have found the thing for you and you will love it.", "I went through my universities entire list of classes and made note of all the ones that interested me. And then I cross-referenced that with whichever degree I could get with those classes. It ended up being a program I had never even heard of before, but I love it now. ", "I waited until I was well out of my teens to make any permanent life decisions. I went to community college and built interests and didn't freak out about making a drastic life choice before I could legally rent a car in some places. There are always external pressures telling you to rush (i had teachers saying taking a semester off of college meant I'd never go??? But I've managed two associates degrees with minimal debt and a decent job so), but the fact is that the notion that you have to pick the rest of your life by age 22 is nonsense and all it does is hurt people.", "I turned my childhood hobby into career. I was messing with computers since young age. Thankfully in my home country they teach Informatics to everyone, that's when I really found out I liked it. But before being 100% certain with it, I thought about how future proof this choice would be, specifically in your area. So before moving to the US I looked up the demand for Computer Science, of course after that I was set. Never doubted once during college. Love it now. There is just so much to computers, they are everywhere, never gets boring.\n\nSo I guess to summarize:\n\n1. Think of what you love to do as a hobby.\n2. Check if it's future proof.\n3. Go for it.", "I threw a dart. Yes, really.\n\nSaid to myself, \"mister_newbie, you'll be graduating in 10 months with a psych degree. Your options are teaching, doing something h/r related, or do the grad school grind.\" Was kinda burned out from the undergrad thesis, and wasn't really feeling *more* research crap, but had the marks.\n\nAnyhow, took 3 playing cards, assigned them a value, stuck them on my corkboard, put a blindfold on and threw a dart I stole from the student quad.\n\nCould've been a good TIFU, but thankfully, am happy. Met the wife the following year in teacher training.\n\nTLDR; Threw a dart, let fate decide.\n\n", "I played with my first computer when I was like 5 or something, since that point in time I was hooked. Pretty much knew I had to do something IT related. Majored in Computer and Information Technology at Uni and have a job in the IT field. ", "I loved my degree. I hated my first job. I loved my second job. Hated my third, loved my fourth, should have loved my fifth but hated it and wanted to change careers. Didn't. Bounced around a few jobs I didn't care for. Landed now in a job I love.\n\nPoint being, I don't think you can plan. A huge part id finding what you are interested in and doing that, but this doesn't mean \"oh, I love drawing, I should do this\", it means more like setting up dominos for 3 weeks just for the 30 second at the end with the chance they could fall at any moment and ruin everything. You may never love the mundane parts, but the end product is with the time. And even if you think you are in the right field, the wrong environment or coworkers can ruin everything.\n\n\nDo what you enjoy and in the end just stay on the lookout for opportunities. And learn the difference between miserable and everything being simply 'fine\". The former means get out immediately, the latter is bearable. In the end, it's a matter of being ready to grab that opportunity when it shows up and accept that the mean time might just be fine.", "I loved music as a teen. Played in bands and all that jazz. I now work as a audiovisual technician in a government town. Been at it for over 10 years and it's the only job I've had that I don't wake up feeling like calling in sick just cause I don't want to go. \n\nAt first I wanted to be a session musician while playing in a band at nights. Took a year off after highschool and did open mics while considering my options. Ended up going to a local broadcast program and paid out of my own pocket over a loan... best thing I ever did. Found out collage and school just didn't fit me so I walked out after the first year and moved to the city. Worked part time jobs while playing in a band and doing the starving musician thing and working as production staff in theater and festivals for free to build up experience. Got tired of the starving part of my life and pulled up and moved halfway across the country with 200 dollars to my name and reset my life. Worked some call centre jobs and eventually fell into a job doing audiovisual for banquets and conferences, along with doing so production work in the local arena when bands came to town. After 5 years moved to the capital and used my contacts to find work there and did the freelancer thing. 8 years here now and still doing the freelancer thing and pretty much having a over all good time in my work life.\n\n\nHope that gives some perspective from a our of the norm.", "I love my field, though I am still working to find my exact niche. I could imagine myself doing other things, and may be I will. However, I will never regret doing what I am doing.\n\nI work in Higher Education. I am a Student Affairs Professional. I received my masters degree in Higher Education: Student Development and use it to help others.\n\nThe object of my field is to create and foster growth in our student populations. We're in the business of helping people to become the best human beings that they can. We are leaders on a mission to create more leaders.\n\nThere are those of us who are bad at our jobs. This field is cut out for a select few. I, routinely, work almost double what I am salaried for and that is the industry standard. I am over worked, underpaid, and under appreciated. When people talk about cutting funding for 'non-essential' parts of a universities most of the time they mean me and my colleagues. \n\nWe meet with students and police when there is an accident. We get calls at all hours of the night and come to help. I help you pick up the pieces of your life and keep going. I also talk to you about when it's time to try a new route. I have stopped suicides and I have helped people to graduate.\n\nMy job is invaluable and I will never regret it. It's not called academic affairs, university affairs, or anything else. We're Student Affairs because it is the students who always come first in our thinking. I will go to my grave advocating for my students and I know so many others who feel the same.\n\nStudent Affairs Professionals.", "I learned early on that it doesn't matter how much I love something if the pay is shit and the job security isn't there. Working a career that I liked a little less but paid enough to make up for it where I could do the other things I liked more ended up being the key.\n\nAlso don't listen to the pretentious assholes who try and tell you money isn't everything. They already have money and have long forgotten how miserable life is without it. That isn't to say you have to work a job you are miserable at, just that the balance is somewhere in between. But in general if the answer to the question if a career pays well is No, then look to do something else. This is especially true for anything that requires a college degree. If it maxes out at 50k a year and wants a 4 year degree, Move on. You are just going to end up strapping yourself with stupid amounts of debt for a low paying job. There is no job on the planet that should require a 4 year degree that justifies less than 75k a year. If you choose one that does, well you chose poorly. ", "I have two degrees (photo and graphic design), and I work as a photographer and graphic designer at my job. \n\nI originally chose a biology degree because I wanted something practical and I thought art wasn't a real career. After one semester, I realized I was miserable not doing something I loved since I was 3 years old. It's been a rough road getting here, but I finally made it. I'm very stubborn and hard headed, which is why it worked out in the end. \n\nI've always wondered about those without a passion or hobby, or those whose hobbies don't lend well to a career that interests them. I feel fortunate to have art.", "I had no idea what to do. Majored in history, got a teaching credential. Couldn't find a job for two years in teaching because there were too many applicants, so I became a secretary. Finally got a job teaching language arts and history and didn't like it. But on the side, I was tutoring in math through Sylvan, so I got my math credential and was able to switch to math the following year. Taught for almost ten years and was getting burned out. Loved it for a long time... Until I started to resent my students. During that time I also was writing grants to get free materials. And most importantly, I had started an after school business for elementary students. So when we moved to another state with my husband and toddler aged child, and I realized I was burning out, I decided to create a preschool. My son's child care center was terrible. Ten years later, I now have 8 classrooms and 23 employees. I am currently saving up to buy another preschool sometime in the next couple years. My teaching, part time business, and grant writing all came together. Could I have ever foreseen this? Hell no. I surprised my family to no end. Did it on my own with savings and cr", "I had a dream about a cool car at the age of 11. I tried to look up what it was but I couldnt really find a car that looked like it so I decided i want to design cars. Looked it up and found out about mechanical engineering. Wanted to be one ever since. More than 10 years later, I am one. Not designing cars, but designing robots. Couldn't be happier.", "I figured out what I was happy doing AND that made a lot of money. I got good at it. And then I majored in it. So now the degree is the fall back plan if I wanted to work for someone else. If anything it just honed my skills. ", "I currently work for the largest cultivation center for marijuana in my state. I started out in trimming and now i'm one of the growers in charge of a few very large rooms. I don't smoke weed. I can't even stand weed culture. But I fucking love getting up every morning and going to work. I went to film school in New York City for 2 years. I went to school for computer science but didn't end up finishing my degree. I'm not sure how or why I ended up where I did-- but I love it. \n\n", "I always wanted to do \"computer stuff\" since middle school. From average lower mid class family. Parents bought me a computer in 7th grade but did not give me money to buy any games or apps. This is like 1992 I think. I had to figure out how to pkzip/extract and copy games and brut force figure out how to get them working absorbing any piece of knowledge I could gain access to to get my games to work. That help me develop advanced troubleshooting skills which I used as an admin assistant to become the defacto IT guy at a small office. After that approached by a recruiter after posting resume at monster.com and fell head first into an actual Sys admin position. Totally underwater/unqualified but I think I was reverse descriminated by the employer since I was Asian. I BS'd and powered through it for a few years and learned a lot advancing to where I am now. Never finished getting any sort of degree since in got my GF pregnant right out of HS. He's 18 now and I'm very comfortable. Life is good.", "For me, I imagine it coming down to hitting the center of a Venn diagram with these factors\n\n1. What do I like/want to do\n\n2. What am I good at or can get good at\n\n3. What pays well\n\n\nWhen people go to college they find majors that aren't right for them or they suck at which eliminates #1 and 2. Hitting only #1 and 2 should just be considered a hobby. Or they pick an undesirable major with difficult placement and miss #3. I think it takes a lot of soul searching for each person. They should weigh their abilities, their passions, and creative way to monetize them\n\nI was fascinated by my current career in middle school and worked towards that early. Then I developed some talent. It happens to afford a comfortable lifestyle after a while.", "For me it was a matter of shutting out all the people telling me I shouldn't do something I really wanted to do. Listen to my gut and don't follow the money follow something that makes you happy. \nAlso, people tell you to do what you love. I completely disagree with that. Do what you like and you will always have an escape.", "Don't stress. It will happen naturally.\n\nI went to school for finance. I got a job working for Sir Stelios Haji-Ioannou's EasyGroup in Monaco as his personal financial analyst. I didn't like the job, but I persevered. I left the job for a real estate private equity fund in Berlin, again in finance as a financial associate. I didn't like the job, but I liked the money and I liked the lifestyle. However ultimately I was unhappy with my life.\n\nWhen I got back to the U.S., I had a former contact who owned a dog food factory. I decided I would try my hand at starting a dog food distribution company. \n\nMy family and friends thought I was crazy. It seemed like a large departure from finance. And it was. \n\nBut I loved it.\n\nWhich is good. Because it's taken every waking second of my life to build it. Now we're in 120 stores, coast to coast, money flows in like crazy, and I spend my working hours hanging out with dogs. Awesome.\n\nDon't worry. Even if you pick something that's wrong for you in college, you'll find what's right for you later. To paraphrase Alice in Wonderland, It doesn't much matter which way you travel if you don't know where you are trying to go. As long as you keep travelling long enough in one direction, you'll get somewhere soon enough.", "Didn't go to school or chose, hated the job I was doing , my boss at the time noticed how miserable I was and started talking to me about it. Told me she knew someone that needed help with their business , now I have a job doing design work and building stuff all day making more money than I need. \nSo in the end don't work hard , just bitch a lot and maybe someone will take notice and help you chose .", "Being an introvert, I sort of stumbled into quality assurance because my cousin worked at this 3D printing company and I needed a career change from sales. I used to have to be on the phone all day and now I might pick up the phone twice a month.", "All I can say is good luck.\n\nYou might pick the right thing, you might not; you won't know until you are too far (senior status).\n\nJust never take anything that you aren't really crazy about for a reason like scholarship money, etc. (ask me how I know)", "We had a course in grade 9 or 10 where we researched careers, studied job responsibilities, and wrote about various jobs we might do. That helped me think and pick my education from 11 into university.\n\nIn university my requirements were so steep with little electives, so I just grinded through it.", "Was a Sr. systems engineer doing Linux stuff. Realized that while the pay was good, that new work bothered me. (Think putting out fires or customer requests.) \n\nIt hit me that whenever I wrote code that new work always seemed positive to me. So I switched to writing java / JavaScript and building applications on a development team. I now look at new work in a positive light and go home energized and happy.\n\nFind what work actually makes you happy. ", "I'm going to guess and say 90% of people here who are happy are not doing the job they thought their degree would lead to. \n\nThe point is happiness is constantly referred to with words that suggest it is somewhere you have to get to - \"a place of happiness\" or \"a state of mind\". And to get there you must be successful or work hard or pay your dues.\n\nThe reality is that as you get older you realize that happiness is something that you are constantly redefining. You might not always consider yourself happy, but that's more to do with what you consider to be happiness rather than achieving some abstract idea(l) as a badge of being a successful human being. ", "I went to school and got a math degree. Didn't hold a job for longer than a year for the next decade. Traveled the world. Got in trouble. Found out what I didn't like to do. \n\nNow I own a food truck and I LOVE my job. Find what you're passionate about. Do that. ", "I waited quite a few years to go back to college after graduating high school. I took the time off to travel the country and explore my interests before I finally realized what I wanted to study.", "I studied engineering (at age 30) and am now working as a reasonably well paid project engineer for an industrial automation company. I wouldn't say that I am always happy with my job as there are some real assholes that work there but for the most part it is good.\n\nI chose engineering because when I was in my 20s I liked going to raves which led me into an interest in loudspeakers/electronics etc which led me to wanting to build my own speakers which led me to putting on dj nights etc etc. Through this experience I found out that I had an aptitude for problem solving therefore engineering seemed like a perfect fit.", "I know this is probably going to go against the norm, but I followed the money. I started out in art, then I went into music engineering. When I realized there wasn't much money to be made in music engineering, I started to focus on film and television. After freelancing for a while I got a morning show studio gig in NYC and I'm very happy even though it's nothing like what I wanted to do originally. ", "I found out that I could turn my hobby and love for gadgets into a career, and did. Been doing it for 6 years and love it. ", "I failed/gave up a few times on my original dreams. Eventually, I found myself working a fabrication job thinking, \"I can engineer these things way better than these morons I work for.\" That, combined with a set goal to have an actual career by 30, I decided to go back to school, got a degree in Electro-Mechanical Engineering. My senior year, I did an internship at a process controls company. I absolutely loved it.", "I dropped out of college, took care of my own personal issues, then started working because I had to.\n\nSoon enough, I took a good long look at what I was good at and what I could do, what I would enjoy doing. I didn't have a degree so it's not like I was tied down to any one field. I started at an ISP helpdesk and worked my way up. Still am, but I'm immensely happy with my work. Life finds a way. Don't worry so much.", "I didn't find it out of the gate. It took some trial and error but I would always self-assess when I was getting tired at my current position on what was frustrating me or that I didn't like about the job. This is what helped shift me on each new job to something I found more interesting. At times I got it completely wrong and I would have to go backwards a little bit to get back on pace.\n\nOne key thing to keep in mind is that your priorities will change as you move on in your career. Most of your initial career decisions will be about financial security. Once you get that then you start worrying about what it takes to make you happy or give you purpose. This is all predicated on [Maslow's hierarchy of needs](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs) and is fairly accurate when you look back on things after 15-20 years in your career.\n\nMy overall thing to keep in mind is that it is OK to back up to the fork in the road to get on the right path. Even if you just went 20 miles down the wrong way.\n\n", "Good question!!, My answer is \"you will find out\".\n\nI Chose a career and after 3 years of struggling I change my mind and quit that degree, I then enrolled in a more technical career. Choose something you like and then work in something that makes money, the ideal scenario is that both intersect.\n ", "For me it was picking a major I was passionate in, making sure I had a plan for how I could earn a living with the skills I got from it, then did my best to outwork everyone else to make sure I got to do the job I wanted to do.", "Don't worry about it... You'll more likely than not change your career at least once. My dad changed five times before he retired. I'm mid-30s and I've changed twice already\n\nJust pick a major that has a high starting salary and a high placement rate ", "Don't stress out too much about picking the right thing right away. Very few people do that and it's much more common to learn what works for you from experience. I went to college for music production and now I'm a bioinformatician. I got here by slowly learning tech skills during my day job in healthcare while going back to college at night for biology. I have no doubt I'm in the right place now but it took many years to get here.", "Always wanted to own my very own business (not sure of what). So seeing that I was a business oriented person I decided to go to school for Business administration. Well I was a late bloomer to say the least, as in not taking my studies serious at first so I was far behind most of my friends that were on the 4 year college track. I then saw how some of them were getting out of school with business degrees and not making shit as in less than $40,000 a year starting. Well, accounting classes are required in the business field. I was nervous at first because accounting has this stigma that it is incredibly difficult, and I suppose to some it is. Well I graduated with my associates in business from community college and was transferring to a 4 year school to get my bachelors. The best way I can describe accounting is more or less like understanding a different language. It is the language of business in its own respect. I switched to accounting. I was far from your top tier student as my cumulative GPA was only a 3.2 upon graduation (that is the lower end of the spectrum at the school I went to). Graduated with purely my undergrad. Started working in industry as opposed to public accounting. I now work 4 day work weeks, make well over $50,000 a year and I have my own office looking out into the city in which I live (only 1.5 years out of school). As a senior in high school I would have never thought accounting. Basically you find the things you like and could see yourself doing and sometimes something else jumps right out in your face. I will advise if you cant figure out what it is that you want to do, for the love of God do not go for some general degree if making money is a goal you have. I have several friends who went for sports management, business management, etc. that cannot find work. Not saying that is the case for everyone, but you have to think about it. You want to gain a specialized skill, not general knowledge. Then again, im some stranger from the internet. Good luck, kid. " ]

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[ "How to buy everyone you know a present without going broke? I don't make a lot of money, mainly just enough to put gas in my car and food in my stomach. I thankfully don't have many people to shop for this Christmas, but I have a good little number: My parent's family of 5, my dad's parents, my boyfriend and his parents, and my 3 friends. Not a whole bunch of people, but if I spend $20 on each of them that's nearly $250, which I definitely can't afford. What are some good, cheap presents that you fall back on? Do you do cheap DIY presents instead? ", "How to buy everyone you know a present without going broke? I don't make a lot of money, mainly just enough to put gas in my car and food in my stomach. I thankfully don't have many people to shop for this Christmas, but I have a good little number: My parent's family of 5, my dad's parents, my boyfriend and his parents, and my 3 friends. Not a whole bunch of people, but if I spend $20 on each of them that's nearly $250, which I definitely can't afford. What are some good, cheap presents that you fall back on? Do you do cheap DIY presents instead? ", "How to buy everyone you know a present without going broke? I don't make a lot of money, mainly just enough to put gas in my car and food in my stomach. I thankfully don't have many people to shop for this Christmas, but I have a good little number: My parent's family of 5, my dad's parents, my boyfriend and his parents, and my 3 friends. Not a whole bunch of people, but if I spend $20 on each of them that's nearly $250, which I definitely can't afford. What are some good, cheap presents that you fall back on? Do you do cheap DIY presents instead? ", "How to buy everyone you know a present without going broke? I don't make a lot of money, mainly just enough to put gas in my car and food in my stomach. I thankfully don't have many people to shop for this Christmas, but I have a good little number: My parent's family of 5, my dad's parents, my boyfriend and his parents, and my 3 friends. Not a whole bunch of people, but if I spend $20 on each of them that's nearly $250, which I definitely can't afford. What are some good, cheap presents that you fall back on? Do you do cheap DIY presents instead? ", "How to buy everyone you know a present without going broke? I don't make a lot of money, mainly just enough to put gas in my car and food in my stomach. I thankfully don't have many people to shop for this Christmas, but I have a good little number: My parent's family of 5, my dad's parents, my boyfriend and his parents, and my 3 friends. Not a whole bunch of people, but if I spend $20 on each of them that's nearly $250, which I definitely can't afford. What are some good, cheap presents that you fall back on? Do you do cheap DIY presents instead? ", "How to buy everyone you know a present without going broke? I don't make a lot of money, mainly just enough to put gas in my car and food in my stomach. I thankfully don't have many people to shop for this Christmas, but I have a good little number: My parent's family of 5, my dad's parents, my boyfriend and his parents, and my 3 friends. Not a whole bunch of people, but if I spend $20 on each of them that's nearly $250, which I definitely can't afford. What are some good, cheap presents that you fall back on? Do you do cheap DIY presents instead? ", "How to buy everyone you know a present without going broke? I don't make a lot of money, mainly just enough to put gas in my car and food in my stomach. I thankfully don't have many people to shop for this Christmas, but I have a good little number: My parent's family of 5, my dad's parents, my boyfriend and his parents, and my 3 friends. Not a whole bunch of people, but if I spend $20 on each of them that's nearly $250, which I definitely can't afford. What are some good, cheap presents that you fall back on? Do you do cheap DIY presents instead? " ]

[ "* mug with packet of hot chocolate and a candy cane\n* small plant in a mini Mason jar\n* homemade cookies and/or candy in a tin\n* fluffy socks or gloves and nail polish or lip gloss \n* a blank journal with a cute pen\n* mini cocktail kit (drink + small bottle of alcohol ex: coke/jack daniels, pineapple/Malibu rum, redbull/vodka)", "Many years ago, I was super poor (wait, I'm still super poor, whateverz). For Christmas, I gave everyone a jar of honey in a nice bag. It looked like it cost about ten times what it cost me and everyone seemed to like it. \n\nI bought some glass mason jars and some canvas. I took the mason jars to my local bee keeper who filled them up with honey. Since honey directly from a bee keeper is A LOT cheaper than the store, it looked fairly expensive. I then used my sewing machine to turn the canvas into nice bags, which held the honey jar. The whole thing weighed a few pounds too, so that helped it look more expensive.\n\nIf you can't find a local bee keeper or cheap source of honey, search for things that typically have a big markup in stores and then buy a lot of that from a wholesale dealer, split it up, and present it nicely.\n\n", "I think DIY presents are the way to go, especially if you have time to spend on them - that's one thing a lot of people (non maliciously) forget, not having disposable income usually goes hand in hand with not having disposable time.\n\nIf you don't have a lot of time or talent to lean on, then the thought really does count for those you love.\n\nAnd finally - since you did mention some family groups - then maybe spend a little more than you would on a single person but less than if you bought individually for each member of the group (kitchen gadget for parents/families). This would save some money in the wider scheme of things.\n\nGood luck!\n\n", "Photo prints are fairly inexpensive these days. (CVS.com is running a holiday 50% off sale right now with code JOY50). Then you can DIY picture frames.", "Maybe make a bunch of candy? There are some candies that are pretty inexpensive to make. Buttermints, pralines, etc... \n\nIf you package candy in a cute way it makes a great gift.", "Donate some money to a charity and gine each person a card stating you made a donation in their name. ", "Three years ago I was broke and I made everyone in my family ghost pepper infused tequila. Got a bunch of swing-top bottles on the cheap, filled them with tequila and a slice of ghost pepper (which I got from a friend for free). Made labels for the bottles. \n\nCost me maybe forty bucks total for like a dozen classy gifts. And everyone liked it." ]

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[ "Should I put my money into my savings account straight away or at the end of my pay cycle? I get paid monthly, and I've budgeted up that I get to save around half of what I earn, sometimes a bit less depending on if something comes up like a doctor's appointment or a ticket/fine.\n\nAt the moment I put exactly half into savings straight away, then at the end of the month having less money in the account forces me to be a bit more frugal. But I find myself running out sometimes, and just transferring money over back from savings anyway, making it pointless.\n\nDo you put it into savings first, or do you stick to your budget and then put the surplus into savings at the end?", "Should I put my money into my savings account straight away or at the end of my pay cycle? I get paid monthly, and I've budgeted up that I get to save around half of what I earn, sometimes a bit less depending on if something comes up like a doctor's appointment or a ticket/fine.\n\nAt the moment I put exactly half into savings straight away, then at the end of the month having less money in the account forces me to be a bit more frugal. But I find myself running out sometimes, and just transferring money over back from savings anyway, making it pointless.\n\nDo you put it into savings first, or do you stick to your budget and then put the surplus into savings at the end?", "Should I put my money into my savings account straight away or at the end of my pay cycle? I get paid monthly, and I've budgeted up that I get to save around half of what I earn, sometimes a bit less depending on if something comes up like a doctor's appointment or a ticket/fine.\n\nAt the moment I put exactly half into savings straight away, then at the end of the month having less money in the account forces me to be a bit more frugal. But I find myself running out sometimes, and just transferring money over back from savings anyway, making it pointless.\n\nDo you put it into savings first, or do you stick to your budget and then put the surplus into savings at the end?", "Should I put my money into my savings account straight away or at the end of my pay cycle? I get paid monthly, and I've budgeted up that I get to save around half of what I earn, sometimes a bit less depending on if something comes up like a doctor's appointment or a ticket/fine.\n\nAt the moment I put exactly half into savings straight away, then at the end of the month having less money in the account forces me to be a bit more frugal. But I find myself running out sometimes, and just transferring money over back from savings anyway, making it pointless.\n\nDo you put it into savings first, or do you stick to your budget and then put the surplus into savings at the end?", "Should I put my money into my savings account straight away or at the end of my pay cycle? I get paid monthly, and I've budgeted up that I get to save around half of what I earn, sometimes a bit less depending on if something comes up like a doctor's appointment or a ticket/fine.\n\nAt the moment I put exactly half into savings straight away, then at the end of the month having less money in the account forces me to be a bit more frugal. But I find myself running out sometimes, and just transferring money over back from savings anyway, making it pointless.\n\nDo you put it into savings first, or do you stick to your budget and then put the surplus into savings at the end?" ]

[ "Transferring money into your savings account as soon as you get paid is the better idea. \"Out of sight, out of mind\".\n\nTo solve the budgeting problem: next time you get paid, save a bit less than normal (say, $200 less). Keep the extra money in your current account as a buffer against unexpected expenses. The following month you can go back to saving your normal amount. If you need to use some of the \"buffer\" amount in a given month, you can top it up by saving less the following month. That way, you won't need to withdraw from your savings account.", "one thing i do is deposit %10 of what's in my checking account into savings every monday. that way, it's not a relative amount to how much i have and i feel like i have more control on how much i'm saving. plus it gives me an incentive to spend less money, so that i can deposit more come monday. ", "consider diversifying your savings accounts based on the principles of liquidity and return on investment. for example, continue saving 50% straight away as you have been but put half in your savings account and half in an IRA. you can always access the savings account as a rainy day fund but the IRA forces you to hold out that share for the long run at a higher rate of growth.", "Stick with that, and I'd you need extra money at the end of the month, just withdraw a 20 bill from savings and go off that", "This could be a really bad move. However, if you have a reasonable ability to make extra money, just spend what you want. This theory comes from the book rich dad, poor dad. \n\nIt's called paying yourself first. Essentially the theory goes, if bills are due and you have the ability to make the money, you will come up with it. Who is gonna scream louder if funds are low? The bill collectors, or yourself? Since the bill collectors are going to scream louder you will be motivated to make the money (whereas you wouldn't if you just wanted extra cash to buy something for yourself). Like I said you have to have the ability to make extra money (work in commission, on tips, have side jobs, etc.) you also have to be incredibly motivated. \n\nKind of works for me since I have so many odd jobs that I can pick up. Then again, maybe this was the type of theory's that led to the financial collapse..." ]

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[ "How to properly call your co-workers out I seriously need to be able to call these people out for being lazy. And yes I get the irony of me calling them lazy while surfing Reddit. I just need to translate 'You suck and aren't worth a damn to this company' to something more appropriate.", "How to properly call your co-workers out I seriously need to be able to call these people out for being lazy. And yes I get the irony of me calling them lazy while surfing Reddit. I just need to translate 'You suck and aren't worth a damn to this company' to something more appropriate." ]

[ "Not your place, unless you're their supervisor. You can certainly report it to your supervisor or HR, but if you are not their superior, there is no reason for you to be calling anyone out. Do your job to the best of your ability. That's all that matters.", "If it affects the amount of work you have to do, then go to your supervisor/manager and solomnly talk to him/her about it. I've had this situation before and I say it's unfair. Yeah, sure, life is unfair. But only if you let it treat you unfairly. You have a voice and you're allowed to use it. By the way, I'm just a lowly cashier at Goodwill, still in high school, trying to get a foot in the door for life. I've talked to my manager a few times and they greatly appreciate it as a matter of fact. \n" ]

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[ "How to survive long days at work when it's ridiculously hot outside? Hey there.\nMe and a few coworkers *really* suffer from the heat outside at our office right now. The office itself is pretty cool, but the hallways and the climate are pretty tough by itself.\n\nAnyone got tips to reduce the sweat or making it more comfortable in general when it's hot a.f. outside? ", "How to survive long days at work when it's ridiculously hot outside? Hey there.\nMe and a few coworkers *really* suffer from the heat outside at our office right now. The office itself is pretty cool, but the hallways and the climate are pretty tough by itself.\n\nAnyone got tips to reduce the sweat or making it more comfortable in general when it's hot a.f. outside? " ]

[ "> The office itself is pretty cool\n\nWell, you know, d-uh.\n\nIsn't the answer to this just to stay in your office as much as you can? \n\n", "Drinking hot drinks, like coffee, keeps me cooler than when I drink ice cold drinks. Also, if you have access to a hot tap then run your wrists under warm water for a few seconds." ]

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