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[ "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n", "How to handle a conversation where the other person is a \"talker\" You know what I mean. It's especially bad when that person is in a position of authority so you feel the need to make them like you but every time they open their mouth you know they're going to be speaking for a good five minutes, minimum. Bonus points if what they're talking about has no relation to you or the conversation you're trying to have with them. How do you respectfully and tactfully redirect the conversation?\n\n" ]

[ "As a talker, and raised by a pair of talkers, here is what my friends and family do to me to shut me up when I go off the rails.\n\n\n\"feetandhands, you're getting destracted\"\n\n\"feetandhands, its my turn to talk\"\n\n\"feetandhands, shewantsthe_layout_D wasn't finished\"\n\netc.\n\nTalkers know that we are talkers. We arent trying to be rude, and we care about what you're going to say. We just dont have that great a governor in our dumb brain to slow us down when we get going. Please forgive us. We also respect your confidence when you use those above tactics.\n\nIf that doesnt work, you might be talking to an \"asshole\", not a \"talker\".", "Try to summarize what they were saying, then respond or change the topic. I'll say something like, \"So, it sounds like you're saying ABC and XYZ. Here's what I was thinking...\" then move on. \n\n", "I have found if you preempt the long chat Eg: the daily catch up from the boss at 5pm when you are trying to leave, got to his office at 4:30 and ask him a question then you'll get the speech he was saving until 5pm and you might get out of the office at 5pm", "Related request: How to handle a roommate who traps you in a conversation whenever you walk by. And by conversation, I mean her venting to me about everything and not caring to hear anything I have to say.", "The phrase \"Let me stop you there\" springs to mind. Use that to transition to an acknowledgement of their knowledge and/or what they were going to say, and then either move to what you need to get across, or explain what you're needing to do instead of listening to them babble.", "While a lot of people are suggesting you smile and nod, and then try to interrupt them, there's actually a much more effective way of getting someone to stop talking. I forget the exact term for it, but it's something along the lines of 'inactively listening.' \n\nDo not smile. Do not nod. Do not move at all, or acknowledge what they are saying in any way, but maintain eye contact. Basically, be completely still. It's amazing how fast it will shut someone down when they aren't receiving any non-verbal cues to continue. \n\nThen you can redirect onto a new topic. \n\n", "Talkers: This also might be why some of us don't take your calls. I have a three-minute conversation that you will turn into forty. To voicemail with you.", "Try opening your mouth like you're going to talk, and hold said position until they stop and let you talk. \n\nIf it's not working, gradually increase mouth opening and eye widening until they stop, and then if that fails, start screaming or something I guess.", "Related Request: How do I stop being a talker?\n\n^^^^^My ^^^^^fingers ^^^^^want ^^^^^to ^^^^^keep ^^^^^typing, ^^^^^this ^^^^^comment ^^^^^seems ^^^^^too ^^^^^short... ^^^^^I ^^^^^need ^^^^^to ^^^^^tell ^^^^^a ^^^^^story...", "Interrupt to ask a question. They will be flattered that you asked. The interrupt again. Ask an easier question. Then interrupt again with a super easy question - just to clairfy. \"Wait , McDonalds or Burger King?\" \"Burger King,\" \n\nThen close it off - \"oh, cool, I love Burger King.\" Then walk fast. ", "If you're at work and meet the talker in a common area, begin to subtly lead them back to their desk/office while you're still talking. Once back at their office, they will subconsciously sit down at their desk - leaving you free to walk away. \n\nI do this almost every day...works amazingly well.", "As a NOT TALKER, I have lots of advice.\n\n1) Let's start by setting aside everything that goes into being a good listener, which is important and isn't the point.\n\n2) Your problem is not that they're a talker, your problem is not that they're in a position of authority, and your problem is not that they're babbling low-intention garbage at you because they can. Your problem is that your issues with authority (everyone has them) are preventing you from having a normal conversation with this person.\n\n**Authority issues makes social retards of us all.**\n\nMy best help is to tackle internal issues so that you can handle the conversation as one adult to another. Get used to the idea that if someone is \"bad at authority\" they will punish you for this (insubordination), and if they are \"good at authority\" they will reward you for this (being authentic).\n\n(Work for people that are good at authority, learn from them, and then become the authority yourself.)\n\n**All that aside**, somebody already gave you my *favorite* trick: say back what they were saying to you.\n\n*They say \"abc.\"\n*You say \"I heard 'bcd,' (whatever you actually heard), is that right?\"\n\nThis works in all situations with all people. If your reaction is \"Oh dear god, why am I here?\" then you need to intention check them STAT:\n\n*Why am I here? / What's your intent?\n\nRemember: they're just another person. This is just normal social stuff, and you're dealing with authority issues, which are just more normal social stuff.\n\n**tldr: Some useful tips. No magic trick. For best results, cleanse yourself of authority issues.**", "Specifically regarding people in a position of authority, (i.e. a project manager/boss/whatever) I've found it best to use my own responsibilities as a break to change the subject. I'll look back toward my workstation, ask them to excuse me for a second, deal with a simple but pressing task, and then restart the conversation and reframe it around the topic I'm trying to address. Basically, this just lets me get a bit of work done while also giving me an infinite number of 'conversation redirect' opportunities. For particularly pushy people it might not help though. ", "I have to deal with this pretty regularly working as an RN in an ER. You have to respond tactfully, being both polite but also straightforward. If you are timid, you will be there for 10 minutes and it won't be a genuine interaction. What I try to do is listen until they say something that you can tie up the conversation with in a positive way. For example, when people talk on and on about their past problems that are irrelevant, I try to say something like \"It sounds like you've really been through alot. You must be a strong person. I hope this experience makes you feel stronger too, even though it's stressful. Hang in there. You'll be fine. Is there anything I can get for you right now?\" TL;DR: Take hold of the conversation, spin it to be positive, and elude to the idea that you have somewhere to be, but you still care about them. ", "Make the \"Time-Out\" sign with your hands. When they stop it's a matter of circumstance but you could try: \"Listen I've got to stop you I'm expecting a critical call at my desk...\"", "Well I don't know what kind of position of authority you're dealing with but I work with 3 talkers, all slightly different.\n\nTalker 1 is an older guy who always has a relevant story about a place he worked, a friend he has, a vacation he was on, etc etc. No matter what the topic he can weigh in with personal experience, at length.\n\nTalker 2 is the manager of the location. Nice enough but everything relates back to her kids and every story requires a pre-story so I can understand the significance of the story itself.\n\nTalker 3 is the assistant manager, and actually a close personal friend, and he talks about things I really enjoy talking about, but he does it at inopportune moments. IE a customer will come in and he won't stop talking until the last moment, or I'm trying to go to lunch or the bathroom and he calls for my attention at the doorway.\n\nAnyway my main method is to start doing work, an actual job of that needs doing around the store. Restocking this, checking for orders that may have come in, basically something that subconsciously signals to them that I'm busy. People like interaction in their conversations and when you stop giving them as much their talking can dwindle. And if it's a boss or a higher up at work, they can't get mad at you for working. Even preface it with \"you can keep going but I have to finish this.\"\n\nBut sometimes there isn't anything to do and no customers coming in and they launch into a big huge talking point and you feel really trapped. \n\nTwo things that I've used successfully:\n\nInterrupt, apologize for it, and announce you *have* to use the bathroom, be clear that it's urgent. If you can cut their narrative a lot of the time when you come back out they'll ask you where they were. \"Sorry I can't remember\" gets you out of it. If they do remember their momentum may be gone and you can capitalize and turn the conversation your way.\n\nAnd then there's my trump card. I use it sparingly because it'd be obvious if I did it every time: \"I think you may have told me this one a while ago but I might be thinking of another story, what were key points again?\" (Or even better if they have told you the story you can recount it in point form.) If you have actually heard it problem solved. If you haven't heard it, getting them to cover the big salient points by themselves takes their joy. Now they've given away the story in a short time, and repeating it in long form seems pointless.\n\nSidebar: If you get stuck in these convos because you start a conversation and then they start dominating it interrupt at every possible second and say \"we can get back to what you're talking about in a sec but I was trying to say/ask/telll you blank.\"", "This is more about interruption than runaway talking, but it's what comes to mind for me...\n\n\nMy boyfriend's a manic talker and when he interrupts me I just smile a little and say, \"Hang on. I'm almost done with my bit. Then you go.\" I make it clear that I'm interested in what he has to say but also that he's doing that thing again.\n\n\nI can do something similar with strangers, where I tell* them to let me finish but make it clear I'm interested in their point and I'm happy they're eager to talk with me.\n\n\n*In my experience, it can be more easy-going to say, \"Let me wrap up my point.\" Than to ask. It just sounds offended: \"Can I finish talking?\" \"Would you let me make my point?\"", "There's some sort of autism with these type of people. If you just say you have to go, they don't understand these type of social graces and think you really just have to go instead of listening to a brain dump of jumbled thoughts.", "The worst are the people that tell you the thing same thing 5 different ways back to back to back to back to back and then will try to start it all over again dragging something that should take 2 minutes out to 20. ", "Tell them that listening to talkers makes you thirsty.\n\nAnd hungry.\n\nIf any more words come spilling out of their cunt mouths, you're going to have to eat every fucking chicken in this room.", "My name is likes_beer and I'm a talker. The more awkward a situation becomes the more I talk. I'm completely aware of it, I just can't stop. Someone said ask questions and it will throw is off our game, I think that's a great idea - then we have to formulate a whole to conversation.\n\nLPT Request: How to stop talking when I'm a talker", "If you are expected to just listen use three phrases: Oh yeah?, Oh really!, and What are you going to do about it?\n\nThis covers just about any statement they make. You still participate and you look/act engaged. \n\nIf it is a dialogue and you can't get a word in then politely say, \"But have you thought about...\" and don't take a breathe until you get your most important point out. ", "I've had this problem with bosses. The way to deal with them is to acknowledge it, and move on. So:\n\n\nME: Hey boss, the delivery is always late, I feel like we could be doing somethng to sort that.\n\nBOSS: Yeah I agree, it's especially frustrating because there's so much other work on, like [spends five minutes talking about something totally different].\n\nME: Yeah, exactly, that doesn't help. But that wasn't really what I wanted to focus on; I had some ideas to improve efficiency that I wanted to run past you.\n\n\nEasy peasy.", "I just forwarded this page, without any context, to one of the talkers at work. Lets see how it works out.", "I have a good friend whom I love dearly that fits into this category perfectly. While it may be a problem for me, her ignorance on the absorption can be bothersome...I've found that changing the topic entirely with no real lead-up works just fine. The change truly doesn't get noticed, the conversation continues as if it were fluid; while I know it not to be, her hesitation is non existent. The conversations still revolve around her, but at least I dictate the topic. ", "How about the other way around? How do you handle the other person when they never say anything and its just awkward silence all around", "Here's a trick I was taught, but have yet to use it. When someone keeps talking and talking and you need to move on, wait for a pause, put your hand on their shoulder and say something like \"Hey, it was really great talking to you, I gotta get going.\" then walk away. \n\nIt's polite, direct, and the psychical touch shows that you care (or pretend to care) about them. ", "You'd be surprised, a 'talker' is probably used to being interrupted or cut off by people- so you shouldn't hesitate so much in doing this yourself (within reason!)", "What do you want to achieve? Just survive the conversation or end up the conversation?\n\nIf you just want to survive it: It often seems to me like talkers are not able to realize whether their convo partner is actually paying attention or not. So just wait until he's finished. That's what I usually do.", "This describes my mother-in-law. Luckily I have a 5 year-old who is even more of a talker/interrupter. I just let him do his thing and then pay attention to him. ", "Step 1: Nod as if you are paying attention\nStep 2: Ocassionally say, \"Right. Oh really?\"\nStep 3: Look around the room.\nStep 4: Change the topic to something they don't know shit about.\nStep 4a: go to the bathroom\nStep 4b: Get them a drink of something...if they are drinking they aren't talking. Use their drinking time to talk about whatever\nStep 5: Pretend to not know anything about whatever they are talking about even if you do...throw in a \"I don't know anything about that.\"\nStep 6: Misdirection into on topic discussion. Ask them about something totally random like what they are doing this weekend or where they like to eat around here... then transition back to the topic at hand. ITS LIKE A COLD SLAP OF REALITY TO THE FACE.\nStep 7: Tell them, \"Dude, what the fuck are you talking about?\"", "One of my biggest pet peeves. At work it happens all the time. Tools in my hand walking backwards going \"ahh huh, yeah, ok, gotta go!\" Turn around and walk away", "Old roomate is in sales. He repeats any main point at least three times in different words. I have to interrupt him and remind him I am not the lowest common denominator and that he just told me the thing he is saying. \nThen he'll do it again a minute later. Fuck these people. They are selfish; conversations arent a healthy forum to exchange ideas but a platform for an ego boost and to hear the sound of their own voices. ", "My 5yr old nephew walked up to my dad and just put his hand over his mouth. He stopped talking. It's been 30+ yrs and I never thought of that.", "Just let them talk, they'll love you for it. \n\nIf you need to redirect for productivity's sake or you actually need information then ask them what their opinion on said matter is. ", "Intentionally misunderstand them. \"Roses smell nice\" \"you know, I think victory gardens were what won the war\"", "In my opinion, there is long-winded and then there is the psychologically ill people that just love to hear themselves talk. Some people really want to tell the whole story and leave out no details. Other people literally just find comfort in talking because it gives them attention and makes them feel important or special.\n\nI don't mind the long-winded people, although they can be annoying if you are around them for long periods of time. I despise the ones that just want to hear themselves talk because I find it petty.", "If they are a talker they'll talk about anything. Even shit they don't have any interest in. Find that thing that they don't have interest in and talk about it. In my experience they lose interest real quick or at least allow you to guide the conversation to a point where you can bail.\n\nGuy I work with is a talker, he's older, but has younger kids. He'll talk for days about mostly anything, but ask him what video games his kids are playing and all of a sudden the conversation is over real quick.", "I had a friend who was a talker on the phone. I couldn't get a word in for a good 15 minutes or more. sometimes I'd hold the phone away and quietly chat with my roommate while the phone talker just kept going.\n\nAs for steering the conversation in person, I try not to bring up topics that might get the other person excited about sharing their opinion. ", "in Trinidad we are not subtle at all.\n\nwe just straight up say \" you like talking don't you?\"\n\nthen when they give the flabbergasted look we usually go with \" listen, your entertaining and all but if you ask me something, let me answer the question before you bring up something else.. now you asked me what kind of drinks to get for the party\"\n\nthen just keep doing that whenever they get off rail.\n\npersonally I go with the\n\n \" wait wait wait.. hold up.. one second. let me get this straight XYZ ABC. well here is what\"\n\n*talker begins to interrupt*\n\n*counter interruption* \"wait one minute, you will get to talk again, don't worry, like I was saying-\"", "This is probably the most informative LPT thread I've read in the last 6 months! Thank you for asking! ", "There are two ways you can play it...begin everything you say with, \"hey real quick...\" Or just suck it up and listen to the guy. We aren't good listeners, generally speaking. Take a few minutes to practice. ", "Telemarketer here. The way that I deal with Talkers is by agreeing with them making a window and Interuptting them. \nExample:\n\"So *** I was thinking about the things I want to do and I just want to travel and spend time with my Family\" ME (Interrupt) \" Oh yeah, spending time with family is great, let me ask you where would you like to travel too?\"\n\nSo say something or repeat something that they are talking about that way they know you are listening and just trying to interact and you can change the subject or lead on to stopping the convo completely. \n\nHope this helps. ", "My wife is a tangent talker. Sometimes she goes off on so many tangents, she arrives back on the same subject but for a different reason.\n\nI just end up interjecting \"anyway...\" or restate the last point she made, when I think she's about take another left.\n", "My dad is a talker, but if I were to try to cut him off he would think I just didn't want to talk to him and get upset :(\n\nI'm a quiet guy but sometimes when I get going I won't stop, either. The difference is if someone tries to cut into the conversation I'll stop and listen usually. My dad isn't like that. The only way to get out of a conversation with him is to slowly walk away or start doing something else while listening, and he'll eventually let you go when he finally notices. \n\n", "Make a game of it. See how much personal information you can extract over the course of the conversation.\n\n", "Instead of blaming it on them talking too much, blame it on your poor memory. (Not sarcastic)\nExample: interrupt with \"oh gosh, before I forget again, I just remembered I needed to talk to you about ...\"\nOr\n\"Hey, right before we get to that, can I talk to you about this?\"\n\nHope that helps :)", "If the other person is a talker and your boss, you let them talk and talk and talk. It's your boss, the one that pays and promotes and has lots of money. \n\nWhen I was a contractor and worked in private industry, I'd let them all talk. I'd go in and just let them rail on. I'd find out what they were interested in and talk about that and get them going again. I'd become an expert in their interests. \n\nPromotions, reviews, and raises always came quick. ", "If its a person of power or authority, let them talk!\n\nThe thing is that talkers have to keep coming up with stuff to keep themselves busy. Steer the conversations to topics you are interested in. Upcoming promotions, challenging projects, what skills does the company needs, among other things. Learn from them. Use it to your advantage. People like talking about themselves.\n\nFor others, be blunt. I would love to stay and talk but can you text me, I have this meeting to get to. The trick here to make time for them once a week or so to allow them to vent and feel wanted. five-ten minutes a week is usually enough. If you don't think you can take out that much for them, connect with them through social media and texts (no phone). If that is not possible either, kick them out of your life or keep being blunt. They will remove themselves.", "I'm a big talker myself but here's what I've noticed I do: if they stray in the conversation too much, I phase out and people will notice and typically remember to get back on track. If they don't, if it's in the personal sphere you can just say \"hurry up\", if it's your boss or less cordial then just verbalize what you wanted to talk to them about to get them back on track.\n\nIt's about communicating clearly imo. If it's clear when you're engaging (because you respond to what they're saying) it'll also be clear when you don't. People do pick up on this. And don't be weird by overly showing displays of boredom that's just rude. But noone will fault you if you get a bit bored with what they are saying and don't pay that much attention anymore.", "I read somewhere on Reddit that if you stare at the space on the talker's forehead between their eyes (and don't lose focus or look anywhere else) they will stop talking. I haven't tried this, but I think I'll give it a go and see if it works. I keep wondering if the talker will stop mid sentence and say, \"do I have something on my face?\"", "I have this down to a science. I say I really need to go to the bathroom and leave Another one is if I am face to face with them, I turn my body away from them as THEY are talking and slowing inch away saying any number of things. I feel like I am being held hostage. When I was younger I did not know what to do, it was effing torture. I attracted them like bees to honey.", "I had a manager doing this while on the phone. The first 2 to 3 minutes contain useful information, then I tune out, mute the phone, carry on with my work and let him carry on the monologue. He'll continue talking for 15 to 30 minutes (timed), that's a half hour that you can focus on something else.", "I deal with this a lot, and found like many of you, the best thing to do is quickly summarize what they're saying so they don't repeat it for the fifth time. Otherwise, just walk away. We know a very strong constant talker, she simply won't shut up: so we all have to just walk away; and surprisingly she continues talking.", "Here's how we do it with our talker at work: We zone out, start surfing reddit on our mobiles until she starts loudly complaining that rude people are always on their mobiles when she's trying to have a discussion. \n\nThere really is no stopping her. Out of a hundred lunches in groups of 2 - 15 persons, she has dominated every one and she never shuts up and in 15 minutes, everyone zones out or starts talking amongst theirselves. \n\nShe's not an asshole (in other ways) though. She is kind and smart, but she just never ... shuts ... up.", "Fog horn app. Turn your phone on super loud or buy a real one. Every time you are annoyed just press it. Itll teach em. Good luck if its your boss.....\n\n\n\nU GONNA LEARN TODAY ", "Ask him/her what the time is. then, once they respond, act surprised and yell that time at them and run.", "As a talker who can interrupt, push back against me, interrupt me, correct me if I'm wrong. I agree with the other comments saying, we know we're talkers, we're not trying to be rude. My problem is I'm trying to be liked and not allow for awkward silences. Then later I reflect on my behavior and realize I was being a jerk. ", "As a non-talker, just listen. Unless you have something important to do, then politely ask to finish the convo later. Its not very hard to listen and care about what someone is saying. ", "I can be a bit of a talker too, but I have enough social awareness to see when people around me want to talk and I'll shut up and listen. At the same time, being in a room with another talker who has no fucking social awareness is utterly frustrating because they always seem to feel like we're in a contest, and need to out-talk me, while I'm trying to make room for the other six people in the room. Fucking hell." ]

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[ "I have to ship expensive ceramic art through UPS. What can I do to ensure it is handled with care so it does not break? Suggestions so far have been to mark and package it as live animals or to pay someone to travel back and forth to deliver.", "I have to ship expensive ceramic art through UPS. What can I do to ensure it is handled with care so it does not break? Suggestions so far have been to mark and package it as live animals or to pay someone to travel back and forth to deliver.", "I have to ship expensive ceramic art through UPS. What can I do to ensure it is handled with care so it does not break? Suggestions so far have been to mark and package it as live animals or to pay someone to travel back and forth to deliver.", "I have to ship expensive ceramic art through UPS. What can I do to ensure it is handled with care so it does not break? Suggestions so far have been to mark and package it as live animals or to pay someone to travel back and forth to deliver.", "I have to ship expensive ceramic art through UPS. What can I do to ensure it is handled with care so it does not break? Suggestions so far have been to mark and package it as live animals or to pay someone to travel back and forth to deliver." ]

[ "Self delivery is your best bet for handmade art. Otherwise you're trusting someone paid by the hour to care for your work.", "Tough one. If you need to ship it, you need to pack it like crazy, perhaps in a box that you then place in more bubble wrap inside a second, double wall box. Even then, it will take quite a beating in shipment, so get insurance and pray a lot.", "There is nothing you can put on the box, no sticker Saying handle with care or this side up that is going to protect it. Every box is mistreated the same. The best you can do is insure it but that won’t help it arrive safely. But I promise no body reads or cares what “fragile” sticker in on the box when it’s being thrown out the back of a truck into a conveyor belt or walked on-top of in the back of a truck. ( I have worked at ups and FedEx)", "Package it in a box about 3x the size necessary and pack it in the center with very tight packing material. I drive for 👆s", "Wrap it in aluminium foil. As soon as shit is scanned and people see a massive black spot in the package, they\\`ll handle it with mega care, and even call the fucking cops with special puppies to handle the thing with ultra care.\n\nOr you wrap it in a fuckton of bubble wrap with small bubbles, as small as possible, as many layers as possible.\n\nUse a 3-ply cardboard or even go for 5-ply. Or use a 3-ply with extra layers of box inside the main box. Use those corner pieces from furniture delivery packages, glue them in the box corners to prevent it being fucked up.\n\nWrite in big bold \n\n# YO MAMA GAY IF YOU DON`T HANDLE WITH CARE" ]

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[ "Non alcoholic, non sweet drinks to drink through the day while working/reading/etc Usually I drink tea or just plain water. I try to avoid sweet drinks such as juice and definitely don't drink soda. However, I got a little bored of my limited choice and would like to include something new in my daily routine.\n\nSo far, I have thought of:\n\n- tomato juice\n- non-alcoholic beer\n- water with dissolved citrin juice\n\n", "Non alcoholic, non sweet drinks to drink through the day while working/reading/etc Usually I drink tea or just plain water. I try to avoid sweet drinks such as juice and definitely don't drink soda. However, I got a little bored of my limited choice and would like to include something new in my daily routine.\n\nSo far, I have thought of:\n\n- tomato juice\n- non-alcoholic beer\n- water with dissolved citrin juice\n\n", "Non alcoholic, non sweet drinks to drink through the day while working/reading/etc Usually I drink tea or just plain water. I try to avoid sweet drinks such as juice and definitely don't drink soda. However, I got a little bored of my limited choice and would like to include something new in my daily routine.\n\nSo far, I have thought of:\n\n- tomato juice\n- non-alcoholic beer\n- water with dissolved citrin juice\n\n", "Non alcoholic, non sweet drinks to drink through the day while working/reading/etc Usually I drink tea or just plain water. I try to avoid sweet drinks such as juice and definitely don't drink soda. However, I got a little bored of my limited choice and would like to include something new in my daily routine.\n\nSo far, I have thought of:\n\n- tomato juice\n- non-alcoholic beer\n- water with dissolved citrin juice\n\n", "Non alcoholic, non sweet drinks to drink through the day while working/reading/etc Usually I drink tea or just plain water. I try to avoid sweet drinks such as juice and definitely don't drink soda. However, I got a little bored of my limited choice and would like to include something new in my daily routine.\n\nSo far, I have thought of:\n\n- tomato juice\n- non-alcoholic beer\n- water with dissolved citrin juice\n\n", "Non alcoholic, non sweet drinks to drink through the day while working/reading/etc Usually I drink tea or just plain water. I try to avoid sweet drinks such as juice and definitely don't drink soda. However, I got a little bored of my limited choice and would like to include something new in my daily routine.\n\nSo far, I have thought of:\n\n- tomato juice\n- non-alcoholic beer\n- water with dissolved citrin juice\n\n", "Non alcoholic, non sweet drinks to drink through the day while working/reading/etc Usually I drink tea or just plain water. I try to avoid sweet drinks such as juice and definitely don't drink soda. However, I got a little bored of my limited choice and would like to include something new in my daily routine.\n\nSo far, I have thought of:\n\n- tomato juice\n- non-alcoholic beer\n- water with dissolved citrin juice\n\n", "Non alcoholic, non sweet drinks to drink through the day while working/reading/etc Usually I drink tea or just plain water. I try to avoid sweet drinks such as juice and definitely don't drink soda. However, I got a little bored of my limited choice and would like to include something new in my daily routine.\n\nSo far, I have thought of:\n\n- tomato juice\n- non-alcoholic beer\n- water with dissolved citrin juice\n\n", "Non alcoholic, non sweet drinks to drink through the day while working/reading/etc Usually I drink tea or just plain water. I try to avoid sweet drinks such as juice and definitely don't drink soda. However, I got a little bored of my limited choice and would like to include something new in my daily routine.\n\nSo far, I have thought of:\n\n- tomato juice\n- non-alcoholic beer\n- water with dissolved citrin juice\n\n", "Non alcoholic, non sweet drinks to drink through the day while working/reading/etc Usually I drink tea or just plain water. I try to avoid sweet drinks such as juice and definitely don't drink soda. However, I got a little bored of my limited choice and would like to include something new in my daily routine.\n\nSo far, I have thought of:\n\n- tomato juice\n- non-alcoholic beer\n- water with dissolved citrin juice\n\n", "Non alcoholic, non sweet drinks to drink through the day while working/reading/etc Usually I drink tea or just plain water. I try to avoid sweet drinks such as juice and definitely don't drink soda. However, I got a little bored of my limited choice and would like to include something new in my daily routine.\n\nSo far, I have thought of:\n\n- tomato juice\n- non-alcoholic beer\n- water with dissolved citrin juice\n\n", "Non alcoholic, non sweet drinks to drink through the day while working/reading/etc Usually I drink tea or just plain water. I try to avoid sweet drinks such as juice and definitely don't drink soda. However, I got a little bored of my limited choice and would like to include something new in my daily routine.\n\nSo far, I have thought of:\n\n- tomato juice\n- non-alcoholic beer\n- water with dissolved citrin juice\n\n" ]

[ "Coconut water is very nice and not very sweet. I also have a water bottle with an infuser which I use to put lemon/mint/berries in to infuse the water. It’s very refreshing. ", "You mentioned tea. Sorry if this is a too obvious, but I really like experimenting with lots of different types of teas. Personal favorite is black and mint iced tea.", "Water with a slice of lemon and a couple fresh mint leaves tastes wonderful. make a pitcher or with one of those infuser bottles.", "Sparkling water is where it is at. Fizzy feeling with no calories. La Croix is my go-to, but there are new up-and-coming brands to try, like bubbly.", "Bissap ! It's infused hibiscus flowers, you can drink it hot or iced. It's naturally red, and sweet !\nMy personnal favourite.", "Water's my go-to. Maybe water with an infuser so you can add some light flavour (like lime, lemon, cucumber mint, berries, etc) so that it's not so plain.", "La Croix, or Soleil if you have a Safeway near you. No sugar or caffeine but they come in interesting flavors and are cheaper than soda or alcohol.", "I’m sure it’s unpopular, but I drink hot coffee all day. I work part time as a construction guy in the summer and drink hot coffee throughout the day then, too. Coffee and water and sometimes a treat in the evening. ", "I read that seltzer water was bad for your bones. I use to drink it daily but now, only once in awhile. I'm in my sixties with bone loss.", "I keep a Nalgene bottle with lemon water next to me all the time. I just use a packet of \"Real Lemon\" for flavoring which is super handy. Not the one with fake sugar, just the plain kind. You can buy them in bulk and lemon water never gets boring. It tastes just as good as making lemon water with a fresh lemon.\n\nIf you can find it, pomegranate tea is pretty good too for something to absent mindedly drink.", "Herbal tea will be your best bet as they come in plenty of different flavors. Will be hints of sweetness for some, but no sugar. \n\nOtherwise, green tea is amazing for you to drink! Start with something basic (from the grocery store) and if you get hooked, invest in loose-leaf green teas. You won’t be disappointed. ", "I go hard on flavored seltzer, and sometimes splash a little bit of juice in as well for extra flavor and a few calories." ]

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[ "how to easily manage your money I have no idea where my money goes each paycheque. I've tried keeping receipts of what I purchase, but I always end up losing them. Any simple tricks on how to save up?", "how to easily manage your money I have no idea where my money goes each paycheque. I've tried keeping receipts of what I purchase, but I always end up losing them. Any simple tricks on how to save up?", "how to easily manage your money I have no idea where my money goes each paycheque. I've tried keeping receipts of what I purchase, but I always end up losing them. Any simple tricks on how to save up?", "how to easily manage your money I have no idea where my money goes each paycheque. I've tried keeping receipts of what I purchase, but I always end up losing them. Any simple tricks on how to save up?", "how to easily manage your money I have no idea where my money goes each paycheque. I've tried keeping receipts of what I purchase, but I always end up losing them. Any simple tricks on how to save up?", "how to easily manage your money I have no idea where my money goes each paycheque. I've tried keeping receipts of what I purchase, but I always end up losing them. Any simple tricks on how to save up?", "how to easily manage your money I have no idea where my money goes each paycheque. I've tried keeping receipts of what I purchase, but I always end up losing them. Any simple tricks on how to save up?", "how to easily manage your money I have no idea where my money goes each paycheque. I've tried keeping receipts of what I purchase, but I always end up losing them. Any simple tricks on how to save up?", "how to easily manage your money I have no idea where my money goes each paycheque. I've tried keeping receipts of what I purchase, but I always end up losing them. Any simple tricks on how to save up?", "how to easily manage your money I have no idea where my money goes each paycheque. I've tried keeping receipts of what I purchase, but I always end up losing them. Any simple tricks on how to save up?", "how to easily manage your money I have no idea where my money goes each paycheque. I've tried keeping receipts of what I purchase, but I always end up losing them. Any simple tricks on how to save up?" ]

[ "spread sheets and discipline. When your starting out fresh and have no clue, make two spread sheets. One for regular outgoings such as rent/mortgage, local taxes, gas/elec, phones and any other regular bills. You might forget stuff so check your online banking and add anything that will occur often.\n\nthen have another one for your extra/variable spending to try and work it out. For the first month (at least!) when you go do your grocery shopping go and add the cost to the extra spend spreadsheet. Do this for pretty much everything to get an idea of what you are spending on other stuff such as gas/food/social.\n\nOnce you have done this for a while and have an idea what your average spend on say food/gas is you could add that to the constant spreadsheet. \n\nWhen you got your numbers in order you can then add your income to the sheet and subtract all your outgoings and get a rough idea how much (or if!) you should have anything left over.\n\nPlus this gives you a black and white view of your money and where you could potentially make savings. If you spend a lot on say food, well plan it better and use set menus. Mix and match so you buy some cheaper but lesser preferred meals but then have save 3 meals a week you do really like. \n\ntl;dr two spreadsheets, one for regular constant bills and another for variable spends. Add all your variable spend receipts to your second sheet when you get in from shops/bar/brothel etc so you tally up as you go and then can bin the paper", "Discipline.\nThe methods people stated here are all very good. Keep track of your spending on a smart phone, or ipod or tablet. After you've tracked your spending, and you have to be honest, setup a budget for yourself. Put money aside for your fixed payments (rent, car payment, student loans), put money aside for groceries, and other variable expenses. Put aside some for savings. Always put a few dollars aside for spending where you don't need to track it. Say you have $5/week for this. You could spend some on gum, or a pop. \n\nI think it helps to have cash and spend cash. It's too easy to go over your budget with plastic.\nEach money see where your money went. Make adjustments to your budget and continue on.\n\nIt's ok, if you slip up. Just get back at it. A slip up is going to a movie when you didn't have enough entertainment dollars. Not going on a weekend getaway because you want to go.\n\nGood luck", "[read the part about resource management](http://www.cracked.com/blog/5-real-skills-video-games-have-secretly-been-teaching-us_p2/)\n\n\"Every paycheck is a Megalixir, and somewhere out there is a boss so tough that you'll eventually need it, so you'd better hang on to it for now. And if you never end up using it, so what? You just proved you were too badass to ever require it in the first place. Congratulations: You just unlocked the Comfortable Retirement Achievement.\"", "This may not work for everyone, but I set up auto-pay on all my regular bills (utilities, cable, TiVo, etc.) on a cr", "Set a budget for yourself. I made a spread sheet that accounted for all of my regular bills then showed me what I have left over. Then decide how much you wish to save/invest or whatever. After that use envelopes. Besides my main bills that are all auto drafted I use envelopes and seperate my money into categories, food, fun, gas, etc....it sounds kinda dumb but really pull out all the money and put it in different envelopes and only allow yourself that much money on each category.", "Set a budget and stick to it. You will never manage your money if you don't care enough to set aside the time to work on it. I used an excel spreadsheet to keep track of everything and entered everything manually. Now, I use Mint.com as well since I can link up all of my accounts (checking, savings, loans, cr", "Put money in envelopes like \"pocket money\" \"Food\" \"Entertainment\" \"Rent\" \"Savings\" and so forth and so on. Create a budget using the larger numbers rather than all those small numbers.", "I always break down exactly how much I will allow myself to spend on each category: food/gas/bills/etc. And then to avoid just swiping my debit card and overspending I pull out a weekly stipend in cash that I can keep in my pocket. I think it seems more tangible. I can see exactly how much I have left. ", "Do this until money coming in >(greater than) money going out \nbegin \nIf money coming in > money going out \nthen ok !\nelse \nreduce money going out\ngo back to begin.\n\n\nlist all your expenses down to the dollar and all your income add them both up in a spreadsheet. \n\n", "Use either a cr", "You asked for \"Simple Tricks. I only wish to serve. I do apologize in advance for anything I say that seems to offend. It's just my naughty side coming out.\n\nWhat I hear in your plea is a plea. And in that plea you tell us some things: (I'll be your mirror. ^NICO) \n\nsentence 1. you dont pay attention and included you do not have an excellent memory. If you did you'd be able to think back now. And three, you are in a very British country, per your spelling.\n\nSentence two: you know what to do _> Stop, take some time out and write out your purchases to be aware of where the money goes and write that down every month so that you know where the money goes. <_, at least partly, and do not do it, and when you do the first bit, you sabotage yourself.\n\nMy simple trick is one of two:\n\n1. write yourself a check each month into another account in another banke as soon as you get your paycheck. You cannot use it to cover your cards or your withdrawals. -- You are such a \"case\" you'd better subtract automatic payments for utilities etc.\n\nOR, something even more simple,\n\nGrow up. \n-\n\n------------ \nSo pay attention. Be real. " ]

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[ "Teaching a technologically illiterate person how to avoid scam sites/ads My parents just got an iPad and they're having a great time browsing YouTube and whatnot. However, I've noticed that they fall for scam sites that are pretty obvious (\"4 foods to never eat!\" etc.).\n\nI tried to tell them \"if you wanted to see a news article, just read the article and get out without touching anything else,\" but I wish there was a golden rule that's easy for tech-illiterate people to remember and implement.\n\nAny tips?\n\nThanks in advance.", "Teaching a technologically illiterate person how to avoid scam sites/ads My parents just got an iPad and they're having a great time browsing YouTube and whatnot. However, I've noticed that they fall for scam sites that are pretty obvious (\"4 foods to never eat!\" etc.).\n\nI tried to tell them \"if you wanted to see a news article, just read the article and get out without touching anything else,\" but I wish there was a golden rule that's easy for tech-illiterate people to remember and implement.\n\nAny tips?\n\nThanks in advance.", "Teaching a technologically illiterate person how to avoid scam sites/ads My parents just got an iPad and they're having a great time browsing YouTube and whatnot. However, I've noticed that they fall for scam sites that are pretty obvious (\"4 foods to never eat!\" etc.).\n\nI tried to tell them \"if you wanted to see a news article, just read the article and get out without touching anything else,\" but I wish there was a golden rule that's easy for tech-illiterate people to remember and implement.\n\nAny tips?\n\nThanks in advance.", "Teaching a technologically illiterate person how to avoid scam sites/ads My parents just got an iPad and they're having a great time browsing YouTube and whatnot. However, I've noticed that they fall for scam sites that are pretty obvious (\"4 foods to never eat!\" etc.).\n\nI tried to tell them \"if you wanted to see a news article, just read the article and get out without touching anything else,\" but I wish there was a golden rule that's easy for tech-illiterate people to remember and implement.\n\nAny tips?\n\nThanks in advance.", "Teaching a technologically illiterate person how to avoid scam sites/ads My parents just got an iPad and they're having a great time browsing YouTube and whatnot. However, I've noticed that they fall for scam sites that are pretty obvious (\"4 foods to never eat!\" etc.).\n\nI tried to tell them \"if you wanted to see a news article, just read the article and get out without touching anything else,\" but I wish there was a golden rule that's easy for tech-illiterate people to remember and implement.\n\nAny tips?\n\nThanks in advance.", "Teaching a technologically illiterate person how to avoid scam sites/ads My parents just got an iPad and they're having a great time browsing YouTube and whatnot. However, I've noticed that they fall for scam sites that are pretty obvious (\"4 foods to never eat!\" etc.).\n\nI tried to tell them \"if you wanted to see a news article, just read the article and get out without touching anything else,\" but I wish there was a golden rule that's easy for tech-illiterate people to remember and implement.\n\nAny tips?\n\nThanks in advance." ]

[ "If it says \"one weird trick\" it's a scam.\nTypically something that claims you should change something about how you eat/drive/do something everybody does is a scam. Not always true, but typically.\nIf it says you've won something, it's a scam.\nLinks to lists (7 celebrity blanks, 6 foods to blank, ect) it's a scam or worse, a slideshow.", "Is there an adblock clone you can download for the iPad? It seems the best way to prevent them from clicking on scam ads is to get rid of the ads completely. ", "Not entirely sure I understand the problem, if they want to read trash (follow these 5 easy steps to a thinner you, number 3 will shock you!), is that really a problem? Make sure you tell them not to BUY anything, but if they just want to read garbage, isn't is like reading trashy romances or whatever?\n\nThat said, my \"golden rule\" for my parents w.r.t. internet (and computers in general) is don't do anything online that you wouldn't do in person (so, the shady websites you are concerned about could be compared to the tabloids at the grocery check-out). If you wouldn't spend your money at a store that looked like [website], why would you spend your money there online? It mostly works and my parents generally behave themselves online (I read them the riot act when I first started helping them...if they broke the ground rules I set out, they could go to the Geek Squad for future tech support).\n\nI haven't found an adblocker that works on my iPad, unfortunately, so can't help you there (but I'll watch this thread in case someone else is more diligent than I in searching one out).", "Reader Mode will hide everything but the article they're trying to read. Most News websites support it; look for a small paragraph icon next to the site's url. ", "If their web browser is telling them there's something wrong with their computer, it's a scam. Internet Explorer is not an antivirus; there's no way it would \"know\" you have malware on your computer.", "For those ads like \"4 foods to never eat\", the best solution is to install an ad blocker extension for the web browser.\n\nWhen my brothers were very young, they used to search Google for \"Free Super Mario Game\", and since the ads are on the top of the page and look exactly like the organic links, they would get viruses on the family computer all the time. I installed an ad blocker and the problem disappeared immediately." ]

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[ "How do I prevent the wrinkles on top of my new dress shoes? Whenever I get new leather dress shoes, I get wrinkles/creases on top of the shoes where my toes bend. Is there anything I can do to prevent this? ", "How do I prevent the wrinkles on top of my new dress shoes? Whenever I get new leather dress shoes, I get wrinkles/creases on top of the shoes where my toes bend. Is there anything I can do to prevent this? ", "How do I prevent the wrinkles on top of my new dress shoes? Whenever I get new leather dress shoes, I get wrinkles/creases on top of the shoes where my toes bend. Is there anything I can do to prevent this? " ]

[ "Try putting [shoe trees](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shoe_tree) in them when you take them off. They help preserve the shape. ", "Shoe trees and taking care of your leather (saddle soap, lots of leather conditioner, and shoe polish) regularly.\n\nNothing can avoid the wrinkles forever, but well conditioned, supple leather will have more gentle, less noticeable wrinkles.\n\nSource: don't have much experience with shoes, but I have a decent amount of leather of the sexy variety that I have been taught to take very good care of.", "Part if has to do with the thickness of the leather. If you get a more premium leather, the wrinkles will be less fine. I'm told that shell cordovan (way out of my price range, but it proves the point by example) doesn't create wrinkles so much as waves. Some degree of deformation is inevitable, though. It's what comes of using the shoes." ]

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[ "How to avoid the situation where everyone in a group is waiting on each other to commit to something. You want to go somewhere with friends. They are only going if lots of people are going. These \"lots of people\" are all waiting until \"lots of people\" are going. I can think of a remedy or two but I'm interested in hearing what tricks there are. This seems like a more easily solved version of the [Prisoner's Dilemma](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prisoner%27s_dilemma).", "How to avoid the situation where everyone in a group is waiting on each other to commit to something. You want to go somewhere with friends. They are only going if lots of people are going. These \"lots of people\" are all waiting until \"lots of people\" are going. I can think of a remedy or two but I'm interested in hearing what tricks there are. This seems like a more easily solved version of the [Prisoner's Dilemma](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prisoner%27s_dilemma).", "How to avoid the situation where everyone in a group is waiting on each other to commit to something. You want to go somewhere with friends. They are only going if lots of people are going. These \"lots of people\" are all waiting until \"lots of people\" are going. I can think of a remedy or two but I'm interested in hearing what tricks there are. This seems like a more easily solved version of the [Prisoner's Dilemma](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prisoner%27s_dilemma).", "How to avoid the situation where everyone in a group is waiting on each other to commit to something. You want to go somewhere with friends. They are only going if lots of people are going. These \"lots of people\" are all waiting until \"lots of people\" are going. I can think of a remedy or two but I'm interested in hearing what tricks there are. This seems like a more easily solved version of the [Prisoner's Dilemma](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prisoner%27s_dilemma).", "How to avoid the situation where everyone in a group is waiting on each other to commit to something. You want to go somewhere with friends. They are only going if lots of people are going. These \"lots of people\" are all waiting until \"lots of people\" are going. I can think of a remedy or two but I'm interested in hearing what tricks there are. This seems like a more easily solved version of the [Prisoner's Dilemma](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prisoner%27s_dilemma).", "How to avoid the situation where everyone in a group is waiting on each other to commit to something. You want to go somewhere with friends. They are only going if lots of people are going. These \"lots of people\" are all waiting until \"lots of people\" are going. I can think of a remedy or two but I'm interested in hearing what tricks there are. This seems like a more easily solved version of the [Prisoner's Dilemma](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prisoner%27s_dilemma).", "How to avoid the situation where everyone in a group is waiting on each other to commit to something. You want to go somewhere with friends. They are only going if lots of people are going. These \"lots of people\" are all waiting until \"lots of people\" are going. I can think of a remedy or two but I'm interested in hearing what tricks there are. This seems like a more easily solved version of the [Prisoner's Dilemma](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prisoner%27s_dilemma).", "How to avoid the situation where everyone in a group is waiting on each other to commit to something. You want to go somewhere with friends. They are only going if lots of people are going. These \"lots of people\" are all waiting until \"lots of people\" are going. I can think of a remedy or two but I'm interested in hearing what tricks there are. This seems like a more easily solved version of the [Prisoner's Dilemma](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prisoner%27s_dilemma).", "How to avoid the situation where everyone in a group is waiting on each other to commit to something. You want to go somewhere with friends. They are only going if lots of people are going. These \"lots of people\" are all waiting until \"lots of people\" are going. I can think of a remedy or two but I'm interested in hearing what tricks there are. This seems like a more easily solved version of the [Prisoner's Dilemma](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prisoner%27s_dilemma).", "How to avoid the situation where everyone in a group is waiting on each other to commit to something. You want to go somewhere with friends. They are only going if lots of people are going. These \"lots of people\" are all waiting until \"lots of people\" are going. I can think of a remedy or two but I'm interested in hearing what tricks there are. This seems like a more easily solved version of the [Prisoner's Dilemma](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prisoner%27s_dilemma).", "How to avoid the situation where everyone in a group is waiting on each other to commit to something. You want to go somewhere with friends. They are only going if lots of people are going. These \"lots of people\" are all waiting until \"lots of people\" are going. I can think of a remedy or two but I'm interested in hearing what tricks there are. This seems like a more easily solved version of the [Prisoner's Dilemma](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prisoner%27s_dilemma).", "How to avoid the situation where everyone in a group is waiting on each other to commit to something. You want to go somewhere with friends. They are only going if lots of people are going. These \"lots of people\" are all waiting until \"lots of people\" are going. I can think of a remedy or two but I'm interested in hearing what tricks there are. This seems like a more easily solved version of the [Prisoner's Dilemma](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prisoner%27s_dilemma).", "How to avoid the situation where everyone in a group is waiting on each other to commit to something. You want to go somewhere with friends. They are only going if lots of people are going. These \"lots of people\" are all waiting until \"lots of people\" are going. I can think of a remedy or two but I'm interested in hearing what tricks there are. This seems like a more easily solved version of the [Prisoner's Dilemma](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prisoner%27s_dilemma).", "How to avoid the situation where everyone in a group is waiting on each other to commit to something. You want to go somewhere with friends. They are only going if lots of people are going. These \"lots of people\" are all waiting until \"lots of people\" are going. I can think of a remedy or two but I'm interested in hearing what tricks there are. This seems like a more easily solved version of the [Prisoner's Dilemma](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prisoner%27s_dilemma).", "How to avoid the situation where everyone in a group is waiting on each other to commit to something. You want to go somewhere with friends. They are only going if lots of people are going. These \"lots of people\" are all waiting until \"lots of people\" are going. I can think of a remedy or two but I'm interested in hearing what tricks there are. This seems like a more easily solved version of the [Prisoner's Dilemma](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prisoner%27s_dilemma).", "How to avoid the situation where everyone in a group is waiting on each other to commit to something. You want to go somewhere with friends. They are only going if lots of people are going. These \"lots of people\" are all waiting until \"lots of people\" are going. I can think of a remedy or two but I'm interested in hearing what tricks there are. This seems like a more easily solved version of the [Prisoner's Dilemma](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prisoner%27s_dilemma)." ]

[ "That drives me bonkers. And if you think about it, it's super rude/insulting. If a friend invites me somewhere, I don't really care who else is going or how many other people there are or whatever - if I wanna hang out with that friend I'll just go. 2 of us, 20 of us, I don't give a shit.\n\nSo for the friends that you're comfortable doing this to - you just just tell them what I wrote. They're being pretty rude, because they're basically saying they don't really wanna hang out with you. Explain that if they invite you somewhere you'll just say \"yes\" because you wanna hang out with them and don't really give a shit about who else goes. This move really only works on your closer friends (though hopefully, your closer friends aren't pulling this crap in the first place).\n\nFor others, just tell them \"I need people to commit to this so other people commit\" and be really direct. If they ask \"who's going?\" just say \"No idea, everybody's waiting on everybody else to commit.\" If you get some wishy-washy response, ask \"So is that a yes or a no?\"\n\nProbably one of the best things you can do is give yourself a slight attitude adjustment. You're going to this place whether people wanna come with you or not! It actually makes a big difference in getting people to commit. I mean look at these two invites:\n\n* \"Hey, do you want to go to the club on Friday?\"\n\nvs\n\n* \"Hey, I'm going to the club on Friday. You wanna come?\"\n\nPeople are way more likely to say yes to / commit to that second one, since the decision has already been made. You're going some place, you're gonna have fun, and it's on them if they wanna hang out with you and have fun or not.", "The bottom line is people will go if the 'cool kid(s)' are going. If that's not you, figure out who it is. If you're a dude, it's probably the hot girls in your circle.", "Or you can also try to identify the sub-ring leaders and get them to go\n\nIn a group of say, 20 people, even if they are all friends, left to their own devices, they would probably fall loosely into smaller sub-groups, each of which has one or two more leader-like characters\n\nTry to discern the interest of those people, and if you believe they would follow, then simply got ahead and invite everyone en-masse. \n\nAt some point though, you just have to set out what's happening and hope people follow, as other on this thread have said", "I just lie.\n\n\"Hey Friend1, me and Friend2 and Friend3 are getting a pizza. Do you want some? Yes? Great.\"\n\n\"Hey Friend2, Friend1 and Friend3 and I want pizza...\" etc.\n\nIt's risky though. I only do this if I'm pretty sure that a lot of people will join in.", "If it's choosing a place to eat and no one will make a suggestion. Be the first and say \"alright let's go to Long John Silvers\", someone will always come up with something after hearing that. ", "Just commit to go and take a leadership role. I never wait until other people to commit, I just commit myself. When you do this, a lot of people will follow generally. ", "I find that happens far too often. I used to just say \"the usual\" - this led to everyone assuming everyone was going. Which then ended up happening. ", "Here's how I deal with the situation. I try to individually talk to my friends to discern what level of interest exists (this is not always easy). Then, I have to decide whether or not people really do want to go. If they do - and am positive that all they're waiting on is for other people to commit - then I send out some sort of mass invite or make a Facebook event group. That way everyone knows exactly who's invited, can message on another, and commit in their own time. If for some reason it doesn't work out and people don't seem to want to go, then I'll make sure to cancel the invite or remove the Facebook event page ASAP so that everyone is on the same page.", "\"Hey guys, here's the plan. I'm going to be at X place, on Y day, at Z time. Please let me know by [date] (at least a week to a week and a half in advance) if you can make it. It'll be more fun if we all go!\"", "This is a great request! First I'll say that all grown ups face this issue and it is especially pertinent in politics...\n\nThe movie Lincoln can give some help into how to deal with these situations as he overcame them and the book Team of Rivals will also give good insight though it's long.\n\nI personally find that people are often looking for that one leader to make the decision, so if you can get people alone before introducing the idea/plan to the proposed audience and you get them to think its good idea when you introduce it to the group you just say that the five people you already mentioned it to were for it and normally that's enough to carry the vote in favor of what you're proposing. \n\nNow if you can't mention it to anybody before hand... I tend to lie and say that a few people are already for it which again will carry the vote towards your objective.\n", "This happens all the time with my friends and it makes me want to pull my hair out.\n\nThere is only 1 solution. Make the plans (reservations) for yourself and give everyone else the tools/information to make the plans for them self if they are interested.\n\nWhat tends to happen is that everyone waits for the last minute and prices or availability is just lost except for those that are serious about the plans and commit early ", "Tell everyone a lot of people already committed, even if its not true. A white little lie that will actually get the ball rolling.", "Make your own decision. When I was in College and have girls in my circle, this happens a lot. So I'm fed up, and stood out for myself like I want this I don't like that and you'll be surprised that the others feel the same way too.", "Come up with an idea. Take the lead. Pitch it to your friends. Once you get a few to agree, it will often snowball. I have found that often these things will fall apart if you're not super enthusiastic about it when inviting people. Basically, I think large events are largely about charming people into going. Once you're there, make it fun for everyone that has come out and they are more likely to come again. That's my humble $0.02.", "If I'm fairly certain enough people actually do want to go if others are also going I just tell everyone that's shown enough interest that lot's of their friends are going. All the fence-sitters commit and nobody realises they were all sitting on the fence as they all turn up.\n", "I had this problem last week, we had some friends round for a takeaway. When asked what food everyone wanted it was just \"don't mind\". I would have taken charge but I genuinely didn't mind either and didn't want the responsibility being on me if I went for Indian food and it took ages and gave everyone gastroenteritis." ]

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[ "how to strategically set alarm clocks? Is there any way to strategically set alarm clocks so that you can get that last bit of sleep you want in the morning after you make up, but still wake up on time?", "how to strategically set alarm clocks? Is there any way to strategically set alarm clocks so that you can get that last bit of sleep you want in the morning after you make up, but still wake up on time?" ]

[ "Have to get up at 7? Set the alarm for seven, that's as simple as I'd gets, maybe even set it for 7:01 if you want to be crazy ", "http://sleepyti.me/\n\nThis has proven pretty effective for me. This helps you wake up feeling rested, it calculates the times you'll wake up at the end of a sleep cycle. Generally what you described is felt by people when they wake up in the middle of a sleep cycle." ]

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[ "How to actually stay focused on school, amidst an already chaotic schedule. Aplogies in advance for formatting and length:\n\nSo I'm working full time at night. 11pm-7:30am Sunday night through Friday morning. I have very little choice, so my work schedule can't really change. Among the already negative affects 3rd shift has on my over all health and energy levels, I will be taking 4 classes this semester. I had to drop out of school to work 3 jobs for a year to afford to go back. So now I'm back. But I'm afraid school will fall behind again. \n\nOf the 4 classes, one is fully online, and one is a hybrid course (online but we meet for a lab day). And then the other 2 are seated. I'll only be going to class 3 days a week, but it's in the middle of the work week. So here's what my typical week will look like:\n\n* Sunday 11pm- Monday 7:30am: Work\n* Monday 10pm- Tues 6:30am: Work\n* Tuesday 8am-9:45am School\n* Tuesday 11pm-Wednesday 7:30am: Work\n* Wednesday 1pm-2:45pm and 6pm-9pm: School\n* Wednesday 10pm-Thursday 6:30am: Work\n* Thursday 8am-9:45am: School\n* Thursday 11pm-Friday 7:30am Work\n* Friday &amp; Saturday are generally free, but often work Overtime.\n\nWith all that, there's also 1.5 online courses I will need to be devoting time to, am on a hockey team, am active in church, in a very committed long distance relationship (wasn't originally long distance but life happened), am a pretty avid gamer (which I will need to deprioritize for school), and need to sleep. This past year I've missed so much sleep and I get sick more often, am exhausted all the time, and just feel the effects of it. \n\nSo, with all that said and done, I will NEED to find a way to stay focused on school. I don't want to waste my time and my money again. \n\nSomeone, help? Lol. \n\nThanks in advance.", "How to actually stay focused on school, amidst an already chaotic schedule. Aplogies in advance for formatting and length:\n\nSo I'm working full time at night. 11pm-7:30am Sunday night through Friday morning. I have very little choice, so my work schedule can't really change. Among the already negative affects 3rd shift has on my over all health and energy levels, I will be taking 4 classes this semester. I had to drop out of school to work 3 jobs for a year to afford to go back. So now I'm back. But I'm afraid school will fall behind again. \n\nOf the 4 classes, one is fully online, and one is a hybrid course (online but we meet for a lab day). And then the other 2 are seated. I'll only be going to class 3 days a week, but it's in the middle of the work week. So here's what my typical week will look like:\n\n* Sunday 11pm- Monday 7:30am: Work\n* Monday 10pm- Tues 6:30am: Work\n* Tuesday 8am-9:45am School\n* Tuesday 11pm-Wednesday 7:30am: Work\n* Wednesday 1pm-2:45pm and 6pm-9pm: School\n* Wednesday 10pm-Thursday 6:30am: Work\n* Thursday 8am-9:45am: School\n* Thursday 11pm-Friday 7:30am Work\n* Friday &amp; Saturday are generally free, but often work Overtime.\n\nWith all that, there's also 1.5 online courses I will need to be devoting time to, am on a hockey team, am active in church, in a very committed long distance relationship (wasn't originally long distance but life happened), am a pretty avid gamer (which I will need to deprioritize for school), and need to sleep. This past year I've missed so much sleep and I get sick more often, am exhausted all the time, and just feel the effects of it. \n\nSo, with all that said and done, I will NEED to find a way to stay focused on school. I don't want to waste my time and my money again. \n\nSomeone, help? Lol. \n\nThanks in advance." ]

[ "Dude. I am the wrong person to offer advice because I know I would fail at this. But if I were in your position, I'd probably ditch the hockey team for this semester, as well as church. Basically your priorities should be work, then school, then sleep, then maybe ldr if you think it's worth it. Obviously gaming is out of the question.\n\nI would schedule in blocks of time away from everything else, maybe at the library, and be as efficient as possible in getting work done for classes during those blocks of time. Maybe Saturday morning or something. I would honestly consider finding a different job if your situation allows it, though it sounds like it doesn't.", "I'm getting to this thread almost a day late, but I figured I would comment anyway... Sorry ahead of time for the length! I write way too much. \n\nI went through a somewhat similar situation during college (though perhaps not quite as bad). I worked part-time (2 different jobs at a time, sometimes) to pay for school and a car, did research part-time, took 4-6 classes plus labs per semester, and also attempted to have a social life. I wasn't totally successful (didn't get a good enough GPA to get into med school), but I did come away having learned a thing or two about managing oneself during hectic and difficult times. This isn't professional advice, but it's helping me a lot while I'm working towards a grad degree. \n\nMotivation to actually do your schoolwork is hard to manufacture. Some people say \"fake it til you make it\", which in this case would I guess mean to pretend you're really into school and are super motivated for a while and hope it sticks. Not a bad strategy. However, you might be able to gain some motivation to focus on school from the fact that if you don't, the quality of your future will likely suffer. For example:\n\nYou want a family later? Gotta pay for that, so you should have a good job (those are slightly easier to find with college degrees!). \nWant to pay off your student debt and your car and still have money each month for a nice apartment/house? Takes monies. Requires a good job. \nWant to have the luxury of playing video games after you're done with school? Also gotta pay for those, and gotta have a job that is not so demanding of your time and energy that you aren't able or don't want to play them anymore. \n\nThinking about those kinds of things is pretty much where most of my motivation to stay focused came from. Juggling your responsibilities is ok for a while, but it's easy to spiral if you burn out or slip up or if you have an accident. That happened to me early in college, before I learned better. Therefore, I think what's important in situations like yours is to come to terms with the fact that you'll have to sacrifice fun things for a while and just concentrate on taking good care of yourself (which includes finishing school work and doing good work at your job) until you're done with school. That way you have a chance to actually stay on top of the important things in your life, rather than just barely managing. \n\nSo my advice is simply to take as good of care of yourself as possible. After this are some (long-winded) ways to do that that I think are helpful. It'll be hard, so good luck! Hope things work out for you! \n\ntips tl;dr: Sleep the right amount, establish a priority hierarchy, get a calendar and use it, don't drink too much caffeine, eat as well as you're able, and fit some exercise into your schedule (if you give up sport). Explanations & examples below. \n\nFirst and foremost: get enough sleep! (you know this already, but...) Adequate sleep will help you work quickly and without getting distracted as easily as you would if you were under-slept. Put up heavy drapes or newspaper or something on your windows to block out light if you have to sleep during the day, to make it easier to get used to it. I won't tell you you need to get 8 hours a night/day because that's pretty unrealistic in your position. However, everyone has a unique lower limit to the amount of sleep they can get before the quality of work begins to deteriorate. Mine's 6.5 hours. Find yours (if you don't already know), then try your damnedest to stick to it. Be as regular as possible. Especially if you have what seems like a grueling week ahead where you have extra assignments or reading to do. Those are the times when you really need to make sure you're getting sleep. Note that if you're just starting the 3rd shift, it may be a while before sleeping is easy. You may have to wait until then to figure out how much sleep you really need. Try not to oversleep on weekends. It may feel great when you do it, but it throws off your schedule and doesn't actually reclaim sleep debt. \n\nSecond, prioritize your shit. u/DatBuridansAss covered this already. It's important. \n\nThird (related to prioritizing, perhaps), get a good calendar, or use Google calendar. Use that calendar for everything. Log every assignment due date/time, every class period, every work shift, every skype date with your SO/fam/friends, every party you think you might want to go to. Put it all on there, add notifications if it won't get annoying to you. Organize the different aspects of your life by color on your calendar, if possible (by the type of activity, how highly you prioritize it, or whatever else makes sense to you). Check the calendar when you first wake up and try to judge how the day will relate to your average day. Will it be more hectic? If so, maybe you should plan to have slightly more food to keep you going, or try adjust some things so you have a break between engagements to collect yourself so you don't get overwhelmed. You might also try to keep track of how much time you're spending on thing (in excel or something). It only takes a few minutes a day. That way, if you feel like you're slipping on one of the non-work parts of your life, you have some empirical basis for deciding which other parts to trim (one of which might be logging your time...). \n\nFourth (this is kinda related to sleep I guess), don't overdo it on caffeine (or whatever substance/activity you do when you're tired, if anything). Uppers have kind of an upside down U curve when it comes to productivity. At some point, you can get so stimulated that you're distracted super easily, and are not able to think hard for a long period of time, as is often required by coursework. This is another area where I can't give specific advice though. Everyone has different thresholds. Too many uppers will also reduce the quality of your sleep, which is perhaps more important than quantity. \n\nFifth, make sure to eat decently. Take a multivitamin every day and eat some greens or something once in a while. You'll feel better, sleep better, and work better if your diet is on the healthier side. It doesn't need to be all healthy if you really like some other foods. I like to eat 3/4 healthy meals and 1/4 disgusting comfort food. The quality of food is, of course, limited by funds. Take a bit to try to research cheap healthy options. There are ways to make salads last a long ass time, and they can be pretty cheap. Find a blog or something that does a good job of coming up with cheap ways to eat healthy, or ways to make food last longer. \n\nAlso, if you give up Hockey, make sure to get some sort of exercise in its stead. Staying in relatively good shape is just as important as sleeping for being efficient and staying on top of things. I used to do push-ups or sit-ups between problems in a problem set, or between assignments, which worked out really nicely.. You can also read while jogging on a treadmill at the gym, if you have access to a gym, or mentally compose yourself to tackle the day ahead of you during a short jog outside." ]

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[ "how to stop being afraid of the dark? I'm 20 now, and have pretty well always been afraid of the dark, because I feel that it \"hides\" monsters. I'm foolishly afraid of zombies, humanoids with wrong features, that sort of thing. As I've gotten older, the dark also \"hides\" home invaders. \n\nHow can I become unafraid of the dark and what 'might' lurk in it?", "how to stop being afraid of the dark? I'm 20 now, and have pretty well always been afraid of the dark, because I feel that it \"hides\" monsters. I'm foolishly afraid of zombies, humanoids with wrong features, that sort of thing. As I've gotten older, the dark also \"hides\" home invaders. \n\nHow can I become unafraid of the dark and what 'might' lurk in it?", "how to stop being afraid of the dark? I'm 20 now, and have pretty well always been afraid of the dark, because I feel that it \"hides\" monsters. I'm foolishly afraid of zombies, humanoids with wrong features, that sort of thing. As I've gotten older, the dark also \"hides\" home invaders. \n\nHow can I become unafraid of the dark and what 'might' lurk in it?", "how to stop being afraid of the dark? I'm 20 now, and have pretty well always been afraid of the dark, because I feel that it \"hides\" monsters. I'm foolishly afraid of zombies, humanoids with wrong features, that sort of thing. As I've gotten older, the dark also \"hides\" home invaders. \n\nHow can I become unafraid of the dark and what 'might' lurk in it?", "how to stop being afraid of the dark? I'm 20 now, and have pretty well always been afraid of the dark, because I feel that it \"hides\" monsters. I'm foolishly afraid of zombies, humanoids with wrong features, that sort of thing. As I've gotten older, the dark also \"hides\" home invaders. \n\nHow can I become unafraid of the dark and what 'might' lurk in it?", "how to stop being afraid of the dark? I'm 20 now, and have pretty well always been afraid of the dark, because I feel that it \"hides\" monsters. I'm foolishly afraid of zombies, humanoids with wrong features, that sort of thing. As I've gotten older, the dark also \"hides\" home invaders. \n\nHow can I become unafraid of the dark and what 'might' lurk in it?", "how to stop being afraid of the dark? I'm 20 now, and have pretty well always been afraid of the dark, because I feel that it \"hides\" monsters. I'm foolishly afraid of zombies, humanoids with wrong features, that sort of thing. As I've gotten older, the dark also \"hides\" home invaders. \n\nHow can I become unafraid of the dark and what 'might' lurk in it?", "how to stop being afraid of the dark? I'm 20 now, and have pretty well always been afraid of the dark, because I feel that it \"hides\" monsters. I'm foolishly afraid of zombies, humanoids with wrong features, that sort of thing. As I've gotten older, the dark also \"hides\" home invaders. \n\nHow can I become unafraid of the dark and what 'might' lurk in it?" ]

[ "I am 29 and have only JUST stopped being scared of the dark.\n\nAfter some serious googling I read a whole bunch of stuff and watched some videos about what happens to your brain when you're scared and physiological effects of being scared.\n\nWhen I understood all of this (as much as I can without a medical degree...) I wasn't confused by fear any more and could rationally analyse and deconstruct the fear when it happened. Then I just talk myself down and it disappears because I understand WHY it's happening and the logical steps to reduce it.\n\nNo links because I visited about half of the internet finding info out. Wikipedia is a good place to start and follow the reference links from there. It will take time (mine took about a month before I saw a real, life impacting difference) and you'll have to sift through a LOT of pseudo-science and other bullshit, but it's worth it.\n\nTotally changed my life. Good luck and, if you can, let me know how you go.", "The dark is part of life. There are scary things in the dark. But have you ever biked around at 3am and sat in a park on a wed? Theres no one around it is incredibly peaceful funally evwryone has just shut the fuck up for a minute\n\n\nWhy do you imagine daylight dies not hide monsters", "I'm 27 and I have never been afraid of the dark except for when I was a young kid. It's weird. You can tell me to go out alone into a forest at night and I would have no trouble with that. The reason I'm not afraid of the dark is because I know there's nothing to be afraid of. You're the strong human others should be afraid of. Just remember that and go into the dark and you will come out stronger. ", "I know this might not be helpful, but I am 39 and only 3 years ago stopped being quite so afraid of the dark. \n\n\nI actually suffered with ADHD my whole life and finally got medical help for it. I stopped being so scared of the dark when my brain quit being so overactive. I always knew it was all in my head and my teenage daughter experienced the same relief from her attention issues and her fear of the dark. \n\nShe just said, I can't go to sleep with any light on anymore and before I wouldn't go to bed without a light. \n\n\nSo anyway, I am not saying to get medicated, but am trying to say that your mind may just be going into overdrive and when it is dark, it has nothing else to focus on but the unknown and unseen. \n\n\nI hated being so scared. It was a serious issue for me and not something to joke about. I hope you find the relief you need. \n\n", "Well once I was at a friends miles away and had to bike ride home for 2 miles in pitch black and ever since Im never scared. I am 15.", "Since your rational mind is overcome by those amphibian instincts which we all possess saying you can overcome your fear rationally is not sound advice. You must expose yourself to your fear which is simple in your case. Put yourself outside, perhaps around woods at dusk, that is when the witching hour casts its shadowed hands and like the name suggests, emotions are heightened to an unnerving degree. If you feel anxiety greatest indoors, then perhaps you have claustrophobia? ", "Imagine yourself at the age of 30, 2 months behind on rent, the power is about to be turned off, there's not much food left in the fridge, and you have nothing more than a high school diploma. ", "Do some research on human adrenal responses, and combative psychological mind sets. Study what happens when the 'freeze' and 'flight' reflexes give way to 'fight.' Keep telling yourself that those things apply to you, if you need/want them too.\n\nRegardless of who you are, you are strong enough, capable enough, and clever enough to be EXTREMELY dangerous to anyone and anything, especially in a dark place where you know the layout, and the intruder does not. You just need to realize it, and realize that the difference between being the predator and the prey is mostly in your head.\n\nI spent my childhood terrified of the dark. Now I kind of like it, since I have absolute confidence that anyone or anything that comes my way, in the dark, on my home turf, is in serious trouble.\n\nI tell myself, with confidence, that I am the thing the dark that other things need to be afraid of." ]

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[ "How to effectively manage lots of small ever-changing work tasks A big part of my job is project management. Aside from the big main tasks, there are always dozens of small things that I need to do and keep track of, and new things crop up hourly. I've tried making task lists in Excel, but I end up spending too much time adjusting it throughout the day. Anybody have any tools/techniques that they've found effective for managing ever-shifting workloads?", "How to effectively manage lots of small ever-changing work tasks A big part of my job is project management. Aside from the big main tasks, there are always dozens of small things that I need to do and keep track of, and new things crop up hourly. I've tried making task lists in Excel, but I end up spending too much time adjusting it throughout the day. Anybody have any tools/techniques that they've found effective for managing ever-shifting workloads?", "How to effectively manage lots of small ever-changing work tasks A big part of my job is project management. Aside from the big main tasks, there are always dozens of small things that I need to do and keep track of, and new things crop up hourly. I've tried making task lists in Excel, but I end up spending too much time adjusting it throughout the day. Anybody have any tools/techniques that they've found effective for managing ever-shifting workloads?", "How to effectively manage lots of small ever-changing work tasks A big part of my job is project management. Aside from the big main tasks, there are always dozens of small things that I need to do and keep track of, and new things crop up hourly. I've tried making task lists in Excel, but I end up spending too much time adjusting it throughout the day. Anybody have any tools/techniques that they've found effective for managing ever-shifting workloads?", "How to effectively manage lots of small ever-changing work tasks A big part of my job is project management. Aside from the big main tasks, there are always dozens of small things that I need to do and keep track of, and new things crop up hourly. I've tried making task lists in Excel, but I end up spending too much time adjusting it throughout the day. Anybody have any tools/techniques that they've found effective for managing ever-shifting workloads?", "How to effectively manage lots of small ever-changing work tasks A big part of my job is project management. Aside from the big main tasks, there are always dozens of small things that I need to do and keep track of, and new things crop up hourly. I've tried making task lists in Excel, but I end up spending too much time adjusting it throughout the day. Anybody have any tools/techniques that they've found effective for managing ever-shifting workloads?", "How to effectively manage lots of small ever-changing work tasks A big part of my job is project management. Aside from the big main tasks, there are always dozens of small things that I need to do and keep track of, and new things crop up hourly. I've tried making task lists in Excel, but I end up spending too much time adjusting it throughout the day. Anybody have any tools/techniques that they've found effective for managing ever-shifting workloads?", "How to effectively manage lots of small ever-changing work tasks A big part of my job is project management. Aside from the big main tasks, there are always dozens of small things that I need to do and keep track of, and new things crop up hourly. I've tried making task lists in Excel, but I end up spending too much time adjusting it throughout the day. Anybody have any tools/techniques that they've found effective for managing ever-shifting workloads?", "How to effectively manage lots of small ever-changing work tasks A big part of my job is project management. Aside from the big main tasks, there are always dozens of small things that I need to do and keep track of, and new things crop up hourly. I've tried making task lists in Excel, but I end up spending too much time adjusting it throughout the day. Anybody have any tools/techniques that they've found effective for managing ever-shifting workloads?", "How to effectively manage lots of small ever-changing work tasks A big part of my job is project management. Aside from the big main tasks, there are always dozens of small things that I need to do and keep track of, and new things crop up hourly. I've tried making task lists in Excel, but I end up spending too much time adjusting it throughout the day. Anybody have any tools/techniques that they've found effective for managing ever-shifting workloads?", "How to effectively manage lots of small ever-changing work tasks A big part of my job is project management. Aside from the big main tasks, there are always dozens of small things that I need to do and keep track of, and new things crop up hourly. I've tried making task lists in Excel, but I end up spending too much time adjusting it throughout the day. Anybody have any tools/techniques that they've found effective for managing ever-shifting workloads?" ]

[ "Tried and true, hand write a to-do list and cross the tasks off when they are done. It's much faster than excel, and satisfying to cross them off as you go! Rewrite the list at the end of the day so you have direction in the morning. Good luck! ", "This is also the basis of my job and I find that having a physical list to actually scratch things off of works best. However I just started using Wunderlist which you can download for free. I can type a lot faster than I write so typing things into a list and then checking them off has been working great.", "I use Outlook and the built in 'tasks' feature. You can set those with a due date which is helpful as a reminder if you send an email out and need to give a few days before follow up.\n\nOneNote also integrates well with Outlook, you can create 'tasks' from within OneNote and the task will provide you with a link back to the original document. BUT... make sure you put enough verbiage in the OneNote item that your task will make sense to you. \n\nYou can arrange your Outlook workspace so that your tasks are always visible too.\n", "colorful post-its around my computer monitor, attention-grabbing lists pinned to the cubicle wall, main checklist next to the mouse. \n\n", "You might want to try google keep if you have an android phone. You can just rattle off lists and it'll turn them into lists, that way you can be doing something else during that time.", "Trello, JIRA and a whole long list of Agile management tools. Look up Kanban boards also. \n\nUsed hugely in software development which has to be very respondent to change. ", "One note is my choice. I just dump stuff during the day any tasks that come up and then sort them around the page as they are completed. You can take voice recordings, notes, screen shots, and file attachments. Drag an email into it. Make a recording for a voice memo. Screen cap a website. Or just type straight into it. I have one note folders where I update projects at the end of the day and can shift priorities around as need be. I spend maybe 5 minutes organizing it first thing and 5 minutes before I head home.", "It seems most people are giving you list advice, which is really useful, but here are a couple other tips that have helped me.\n\nIf you need to remember a bunch of things it can help to remember the number of things first and the list second. (ie know you need to tell 4 people something instead of just trying to remember names, it helps make sure you don't forget one of them)\n\nAlso know your time to importance ratio on tasks. Just because one thing is the most important doesn't mean it should always be done first. If you can cross 2 or 3 small things off your list in 10 minutes do that right away instead of spending the nest hour on a big project first. This will help keep your mind clearer and focused.\n\nHave a routine. Things like always check your e-mail on the hour. Or any time you go to get a drink of water check in with your secretary (or boss, or co-worker, or whoever) for anything new. Find a couple things you can do reliably like this to keep you from over looking something.\n\nPretend your work day ends 1/2 hr before it really does when budgeting time. Use that extra time to either take care of the stuff that absolutely can't wait or write down anything that could be forgotten by tomorrow.", "I am using the app \"due\" on ios - but I am sure there is an equal thing on android. It is basicly an todo list with an alarmclock feature. You can setup timers very fast. And you can setup reminders up to every minute. \n\nBefore I found this app - I used to sent me emails with an \"#todo\" in the subject. Those emails are automatically moved by a rule in my todo folder... sometimes very helpful. \nI hope I helped you", "Google calendar if they are time based. You can also stick a large whiteboard behind you and write things down there. (Get the superfine markers.) If you need to leave your workstation and still remember things, take a photo of the board with your phone.", "A lot of people love Trello.\n\nI prefer Google Keep (found at keep.google.com or your device's app store). It's a simple note app - make notes like paper post-its, checklists and set reminders for them if you like. I prioritize accessibility, and you can access it quickly on any device regardless of operating system or form factor. Particularly handy when you need to make a note of something but you're not in front of a computer." ]

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[ "How to wash and dry pillows? Do I need to do anything special to them, such as position them in a certain way? Do I need to put a pair of sneakers or a tennis ball in with them? Will I need to manage the tendency for the stuffing to bunch up, and if so, what would I do?\nAlso how do I dry them?", "How to wash and dry pillows? Do I need to do anything special to them, such as position them in a certain way? Do I need to put a pair of sneakers or a tennis ball in with them? Will I need to manage the tendency for the stuffing to bunch up, and if so, what would I do?\nAlso how do I dry them?", "How to wash and dry pillows? Do I need to do anything special to them, such as position them in a certain way? Do I need to put a pair of sneakers or a tennis ball in with them? Will I need to manage the tendency for the stuffing to bunch up, and if so, what would I do?\nAlso how do I dry them?" ]

[ "My mother always just stuffed them in the washer on high heat with an extra spin, and tossed them one at a time in the dryer with tennis balls. They weren’t like-new but they turned out fine. \n\nOr you could just go buy more, unless you’re spending $$$ on your pillows. You can get decent ones that last 6+ months for <$10 at target or Kohl’s ", "Just washed 3 pillows a few days ago. I took them to a laundromat & used the big front loading machine & then dried them for an hour, which wasn't actually long enough, so I set them in the sun for a while. They all came out nice.", "I washed a pillow once and it ripped and got tangled up in my washing machine and cut through hoses. Fucked my shit up. " ]

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[ "How to manage feelings of insecurity and inadequacy when with friends who are well off? I am probably not the only one to feel like this, and don’t want to feel like this. But how do you combat those feelings? \n\nThough my friends don’t seem to care (or perhaps they don’t know the extent of it), I can’t help but feel the need to keep up - or at least try to, when in fact, I have trouble managing my money and also don’t make much of it. \n\nI love to see my friends do well for themselves, they work so hard to get to where they are. I work hard too and I try to give myself cr", "How to manage feelings of insecurity and inadequacy when with friends who are well off? I am probably not the only one to feel like this, and don’t want to feel like this. But how do you combat those feelings? \n\nThough my friends don’t seem to care (or perhaps they don’t know the extent of it), I can’t help but feel the need to keep up - or at least try to, when in fact, I have trouble managing my money and also don’t make much of it. \n\nI love to see my friends do well for themselves, they work so hard to get to where they are. I work hard too and I try to give myself cr", "How to manage feelings of insecurity and inadequacy when with friends who are well off? I am probably not the only one to feel like this, and don’t want to feel like this. But how do you combat those feelings? \n\nThough my friends don’t seem to care (or perhaps they don’t know the extent of it), I can’t help but feel the need to keep up - or at least try to, when in fact, I have trouble managing my money and also don’t make much of it. \n\nI love to see my friends do well for themselves, they work so hard to get to where they are. I work hard too and I try to give myself cr", "How to manage feelings of insecurity and inadequacy when with friends who are well off? I am probably not the only one to feel like this, and don’t want to feel like this. But how do you combat those feelings? \n\nThough my friends don’t seem to care (or perhaps they don’t know the extent of it), I can’t help but feel the need to keep up - or at least try to, when in fact, I have trouble managing my money and also don’t make much of it. \n\nI love to see my friends do well for themselves, they work so hard to get to where they are. I work hard too and I try to give myself cr", "How to manage feelings of insecurity and inadequacy when with friends who are well off? I am probably not the only one to feel like this, and don’t want to feel like this. 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I work hard too and I try to give myself cr", "How to manage feelings of insecurity and inadequacy when with friends who are well off? I am probably not the only one to feel like this, and don’t want to feel like this. But how do you combat those feelings? \n\nThough my friends don’t seem to care (or perhaps they don’t know the extent of it), I can’t help but feel the need to keep up - or at least try to, when in fact, I have trouble managing my money and also don’t make much of it. \n\nI love to see my friends do well for themselves, they work so hard to get to where they are. I work hard too and I try to give myself cr", "How to manage feelings of insecurity and inadequacy when with friends who are well off? I am probably not the only one to feel like this, and don’t want to feel like this. But how do you combat those feelings? \n\nThough my friends don’t seem to care (or perhaps they don’t know the extent of it), I can’t help but feel the need to keep up - or at least try to, when in fact, I have trouble managing my money and also don’t make much of it. \n\nI love to see my friends do well for themselves, they work so hard to get to where they are. I work hard too and I try to give myself cr", "How to manage feelings of insecurity and inadequacy when with friends who are well off? I am probably not the only one to feel like this, and don’t want to feel like this. But how do you combat those feelings? \n\nThough my friends don’t seem to care (or perhaps they don’t know the extent of it), I can’t help but feel the need to keep up - or at least try to, when in fact, I have trouble managing my money and also don’t make much of it. \n\nI love to see my friends do well for themselves, they work so hard to get to where they are. I work hard too and I try to give myself cr", "How to manage feelings of insecurity and inadequacy when with friends who are well off? I am probably not the only one to feel like this, and don’t want to feel like this. But how do you combat those feelings? \n\nThough my friends don’t seem to care (or perhaps they don’t know the extent of it), I can’t help but feel the need to keep up - or at least try to, when in fact, I have trouble managing my money and also don’t make much of it. \n\nI love to see my friends do well for themselves, they work so hard to get to where they are. I work hard too and I try to give myself cr", "How to manage feelings of insecurity and inadequacy when with friends who are well off? I am probably not the only one to feel like this, and don’t want to feel like this. But how do you combat those feelings? \n\nThough my friends don’t seem to care (or perhaps they don’t know the extent of it), I can’t help but feel the need to keep up - or at least try to, when in fact, I have trouble managing my money and also don’t make much of it. \n\nI love to see my friends do well for themselves, they work so hard to get to where they are. I work hard too and I try to give myself cr", "How to manage feelings of insecurity and inadequacy when with friends who are well off? I am probably not the only one to feel like this, and don’t want to feel like this. But how do you combat those feelings? \n\nThough my friends don’t seem to care (or perhaps they don’t know the extent of it), I can’t help but feel the need to keep up - or at least try to, when in fact, I have trouble managing my money and also don’t make much of it. \n\nI love to see my friends do well for themselves, they work so hard to get to where they are. I work hard too and I try to give myself cr", "How to manage feelings of insecurity and inadequacy when with friends who are well off? I am probably not the only one to feel like this, and don’t want to feel like this. But how do you combat those feelings? \n\nThough my friends don’t seem to care (or perhaps they don’t know the extent of it), I can’t help but feel the need to keep up - or at least try to, when in fact, I have trouble managing my money and also don’t make much of it. \n\nI love to see my friends do well for themselves, they work so hard to get to where they are. I work hard too and I try to give myself cr", "How to manage feelings of insecurity and inadequacy when with friends who are well off? I am probably not the only one to feel like this, and don’t want to feel like this. But how do you combat those feelings? \n\nThough my friends don’t seem to care (or perhaps they don’t know the extent of it), I can’t help but feel the need to keep up - or at least try to, when in fact, I have trouble managing my money and also don’t make much of it. \n\nI love to see my friends do well for themselves, they work so hard to get to where they are. I work hard too and I try to give myself cr" ]

[ "This is an ego problem and not a financial one. \n\nNo one thinks more about you than you do, so make it positive. When comparing their new item and your older item appreciate the comfort, and worn in areas of life. Did they buy an expensive drink? Water is free and healthy, chug that double win down! When you are stuck in comparison your choice is up or down…so choose gratitude over greed. Enjoy the life you have rather than being miserable desiring someone else’s. Life is best lived.", "They clearly know about your money issues whether you realize it or not. They like you for you. Also, I’m not rich but comfortable. I have many internal issues and struggles that you don’t see. Main point is everyone has their issues, your friends like you for you.", "Some random thoughts I have are: \n\nSome of the best pass times are free or cheap. It requires more work than finding a deal, but that’s half the fun. \n\nThere’s always someone wealthier than you. There are many poorer. Trying to truly understand some of the poverty in the world can help humble a person and make them truly grateful. \n\nGood friends will not look down on you. I think it’s a great idea to ask them advice on the things you see them doing well that you’re struggling with. \n\nLearn to cook better. It’s so much easier to be content eating at home when you can make great food easily. Eating out at a nicer restaurant is only satisfying to me if I know I couldn’t have made it better at home or if I understand the level of work and chose to have someone else cook a difficult dish. \n\nLast thing is you are doing great. If you aspire for more, we’ll, everyone does. Don’t ignore that feeling. Think about what you want your life to be like in 1, 2, and 5 from now. Start with 5 years and use that as motivation to make changes now to work towards it. Goals don’t mean you’re a failure for where you are, it means you are investing in yourself and your future.", "Learn to see the value of life beyond the dollars. For example, understand the meaning of work beyond the paycheck. Understand that being a consumer or being focused in consumerism is a pretty unsophisticated take on life, etc, etc", "Don't try to keep up with the Joneses. Use them as inspiration to manage your money better, and make more of it. (and not spend it)", "I have some experience in this arena. What I’ve come to find is most of those people may look well off but are in debt up to their eyeballs. Most of the time they are a flat tire or a dental visit away from collapse. If you can somehow ignore the the status queue of nice cars, nice clothes, expensive eating out and saving where you can you would be amazed at how fast it adds up. Save for the future and have fun later. If you have fun now and sacrifice your future it will be devastating. Imagine being 55 and your body is starting to get tired and how terrifying it will be to realize you have to keep working no matter what because you never saved anything. What I’m saying is please don’t try and keep up with their spending.", "For me it's not a financial thing: it's relationships. In the last two years or so, approximately six coworkers within my group of less than two dozen have gotten engaged or married, and one more might be getting married soon. \n\nAs someone perpetually alone, it's a struggle to feel happy for them. I don't want their people: I want someone of my own, and that is too much to ask for.", "Consider that money is not the only way to measure success. Education can be a measure of success. Experience can also be a measure of success. Public service can be a measure of success. Even failure can be a measure of achievement, if you consider that you will learn more from your failures than you will from your successes and that you've successfully found several things that do not work. \n\n\nInstead of measuring yourself with someone else's ruler, consider that the only person you're competing with is past-you, to be a better person today than you were. If you don't compare yourself to others, no one can compare to you.", "Trouble managing money — get personal financial help on budgeting. Many cr", "Learn to accept you for you, that is the one you know. I had friends who always had new cars, clothes, gaming consoles and I felt a little inadequate. It was only years later I found out he never owned the cars and everything else was on high interest store cr", "I have enough money, yet i dont spend more, rather less than my friends who arent really well off. Yes it is nice to have it as a backup, but id does absolutely not buy you happiness, i can assure you of that. Appreciate what you have, and if you ever have more money, dont (over)spend it. Put it aside for when you need it.", "Get over yourself. As long as they take out out on their boat that is. \n\nIf they’re rich and they don’t have a boat then fuck ‘em.", "“Comparison is the thief of happiness”—its normal sometimes to feel a little envy towards those you perceive as being better off, and it can sting even more when those people you perceive are people you care for or are close to.\n\nAs long as you don’t let the feeling consume you, you can, bit by bit, make efforts to change your mental state/mindset on how you react/think/feel about your friends who are “doing better” than you as a form of inspiration to inspire you to keep pursuing your best life.\n\nSharing that positive feeling with them may even (most likely) garner you not only appreciation, but help from them (as good friends will usually want to help their friends) on bettering your self development.", "Remember that possessions have trade offs. Maybe they have a boat/swimming pool/condo but that also means they have to spend time, money and emotional labor to manage these things. If you're comfortable and they're letting you in on these perks, you're winning (as long as you aren't just being friends with them to mooch).", "Just because they have good jobs and salaries doesn't mean their happy or content with their lives or with who they are as a person!! Trust me seen it sooo many times in my life. Money doesn't buy happiness or self love!! You do you don't worry bout them", "I bet you’re doing really well if you don’t compare yourself to them. We all have different advantages and different baggage. You can’t compare your story to theirs.", "1) Remember that people’s public lives are often very different from their private lives. What you see (their affluence) may not be the reality. They may be broke AF trying to present themselves as people with cash money when in reality they are up to their eyeballs in debt.\n\n2) Even if they do have loads of money, that doesn’t mean they are happy. I used to work in a corporate job making a very good living, especially for a SF with no kids. I could afford almost any normal good (not luxury stuff). And I cried in the car on my way home from work three days a week because I absolutely hated every moment of being at my job. I ended up quitting the entire industry. Now I make absolute shit for pay, but I like what I do and I’m good at it. \n\n3) If your friends are actually your friends, they don’t care about your finances one bit. They like you for who you are, broke ass and all. Maybe you won’t be able to spend as much on going out as they can, but if they’re bros they’ll get that and help you out so you can be a part of the pack. I’ve done this for my girlfriends and they have done it for me. \n\nI know your feeling. It’s ok. Use this as a way to motivate and propel yourself towards something bigger and better. 🙂", "honestly nobody is prouder of your accomplishments than your friends. You may think they are thinking about how much money you make, but they don't. They will be as excited when you buy a $200 car as they would be if another friend in the group buys a lamborghini. (at least if you have true good friends) they just want to see you happy and healthy. And so does everybody in the comments on this post my friend.", "Yk it sounds really dumb but I used to have these envious and insecure feelings with one of my friends who seemed to have a perfect charmed life. Then one day, I had a dream where I appeared to be in a heaven like place and before anyone could go any further, every single person had to remove all their belongings and put them into this big locker area. Nobody can take their things into heaven except their own body. I saw this friend among the faces there and I realized some things doesn't mean as much as I think they do. So now whenever I feel insecure about certain things, I think back about this silly little dream and be amused instead :/", "Whenever I feel down about my situation (for whatever reason, could be jealousy w we’ll to do friends, or anything), I focus on being great fun for my problems. I think about others who might have a real hard struggle in life and would wish for the problems I have. \n\nGratitude doesn’t just have to be about the “good” things you have in life. All people struggle. Enjoy everything you have.", "What would your life look like if you let go of comparison? I let go of it and a whole new world emerged for me. Instead of focusing on scarcity, I started appreciating my unique gifts. I started being true to myself and did what I wanted to do instead of what I thought I “should” do. \n\nMy sibling has a tendency to focus a lot on other people and I see how damaging it is to his self-esteem. It’s like he has some form of resent towards other people and sees himself as a victim. He’s so externally focus to “impress” other people that I don’t think he’s truly happy. Funny enough, he tells me I should care more about how I come off to people, I just say “no thanks”.", "What does pews say Buddhism states that following a pathway to materialism is a type of moral wrong. This is because — it will never be able to give us personal happiness or a lifestyle that is sustainable.", "Wealth is relative. I promise you that at times your wealthy friends find themselves in company that makes them feel inadequate. Choose to measure your achievements against people less fortunate.", "Understand that the more some one has doesn’t mean that they are worth that.\n\nUnderstand that the more someone has, the less there is for others.\n\nUnderstand that when someone has more power, it truly equals more responsibility and most people are irresponsible AF.\n\nEasy.", "Try to focus on yourself more than others. Too much comparison happens when focusing on others. It’s human nature. \n\nYou can’t help how you feel. But you can choose what to focus on.", "They’re financially successful.\n\nI do not think that should be the primary metric. Making enough money to live comfortably is of course a major factor.\n\nPast that it becomes less and less important (but it can still help a little).. Think of all the billionaires who have multiple divorces and strained relationships with loved ones.\n\nHaving enough money can remove some major stressors. A good bit of money can buy you a hella nice vacation or evening.\n\nBut your overall happiness comes down to your disposition and quality of your closest relationships.\n\nCheck out the below and citations:\n\nhttps://amp.cnn.com/cnn/2022/05/28/health/money-happiness-wellness/index.html", "The problem with comparison is there will always be someone richer, better looking, smarter. Then what? Be forever jealous and miserable?when your self worth is tied to what other people think, it's not a happy life. I'd rather be doing something I enjoy with what little I have. I suspect those who flaunts what they have crave the jealousy and admiration of others because they're shallow inside.", "The answer is to divorce yourself from the idea that material possessions make for better humans. Separated from all of that, we all eat, sleep, piss and shit--and when they fart, it stanks too.", "Remember that they feel the same way about someone who is equally richer than themselves.\n\nIf you believe that “more” is “always better”, then you can *never* have “enough”.", "Quit social media cold turkey. Social media is an outlet for ostentacious displays of only the best parts of who we want to be. It is mostly a false representation of who we really are and the struggles we face. Nobody advertises hardship, except as its own manipulation. It can be easy to forget this when looking at everything your friends seem to have.", "Providing perspective from the other side- now that I’m doing well for myself financially, I see it as an opportunity to treat my friends. I don’t look down on them for making less money than me, and they certainly shouldn’t look up to me for making more money than them. I only invite them to expensive restaurants with the understanding that I pay for them. If they insist on paying when we go out, I’ll recommend a less expensive place. So far haven’t had any issues", "Oof. Never compare yourself to others, it will absolutely rob you of any joy in life. We all have different paths in life. Just stay focused on your path and try to not worry about where your friends are going", "Not specifically what you asked- but I used to have some friends who would plan an activity- say going to a play. Then day of, they would ask if we wanted to grab food before. I always agreed thinking it would be typical Applebee's level stuff only to find out it was a super high end meal that I didn't budget for. I brought this up to one friend and she said I should check the menu before committing. It wasn't the answer I wanted, but it was sound advice. \n\nIf you can conquer your FOMO, being informed can help you be choosy about what you commit to, and if you just don't know how to say no, you can always claim to be saving up for something specific. That generally goes over well.\n\nI used to be so envious of people I thought were better off than me and now I am well off and I can't stop thinking about how incredibly lucky I am. So much of success is pure, dumb luck and if more people acknowledged that, we would all be happier.", "Life is like a game of golf. Imagine you play a weekly game of golf with a pro - you'll never win. But \"winning\" isn't the point. Golf isn't a game of offense and defense, you aren't really competing with anyone. It's just a game against yourself. Do you improve every week? Do you have fun?\n\nLook at your life in the same way. Celebrate the improvements in your life and ensure you're having fun.", "I’m in a similar situation, not sure how old you are but I’m about to hit 40 and I remember being in my 20’s and thinking “I can’t wait to be older, I won’t have to worry about being so poor and not being able to do/go anywhere, having a nice home and a nice new car, etc.” fast forward and, while I was at that point for a brief moment, my circumstances have changed and I’m dealing with probably one of the most prominent moments of financial struggle. I also basically only have friends and even younger siblings who are very wealthy. Fortunately we’re all close enough that I know what struggles they go through themselves and several are ones in which I feel fortunate to not be going through myself. I try to reframe (this is happening for me not to me) and do what another commenter said about gratitude. My spouse and I chose this course so that he could be home more (we have 2 young kids) and be less stressed and have a more consistent schedule. Yes, we find ourselves in debt for the 1st time, but I still wouldn’t go back to our previous arrangement. This too shall pass. Also I never say I’m poor, I say I’m broke. That sets the tone of fluctuation and a momentary phase vs how poor is more of a self defining permanent setting.", "Its not a race. As long as you have goals and you are working towards them you have nothing to worry about.\n\nMost people who are successful early had a lot help from parents and others. You can compare yourself to others when everyone has different opportunities", "It's a fair question to ask yourself if you're happy with where you financially stand. If not, there may be steps to take that will take that part of your life in another direction. Your well off friends might even have some good advice. However, how you value yourself and others is also something to take a look at. Is it really financial succes you want to value yourself by? It can be quite freeing to just value your own existence at base level. Just being here is a very good start and all the little or big things you do are nice added bonuses. Culturally this might be a little strange in a lot of places, but I like to invite you to train yourself to think like this. You're okay, no matter what.", "If you didn't know them would you be happy with what you have? If so dont worry too much also dont try to keep up with them. If they are your friends its because they like you not what you have. Be present with them but dont spend beyond the minimum they should understand. They also may not realise you feel this maybe a short one on one conversation with some of them will help.", "I've found many people aren't as wealthy as they appear. The friend driving the latest EV? It's a lease, he's just renting it long-term. The address in a swanky neighborhood? Most of the rooms are empty and unused. And never assume their lives are in order or joyful. There's often a tradeoff or sacrifice when it comes to a bigger paycheck.", "I'd say this - hard work and success aren't really defined by money (as much as society makes us feel they should be). Consider this, are you happier in your professional progression than they are? Are you content with your job, as in you actually enjoy it? Do you wake up dreading work every day? I know money is huge, but there is a lot of sacrifice that often comes with making more money than peers - you stay for money, not cause you love your job, but because you are constantly chasing the next thing - title, promotion, etc. That tends to be a recipe for not actually being happy - you are constantly self conscious at work, you constantly compare yourself to your work peers, you wake up not wanting to do it, but deal with it because it's a paycheck you need to keep receiving not to live but to maintain a status.\n\nLong story, short, making more $$ isn't what defines success or a career - yes, money helps, but it often comes with strings most people don't want to be tied to. And in the end, it's your life satisfaction that matters, not how much you made in your life. And your day to day is much more valuable if you're content than if you're rich.", "I live by the creed that \"comparison is the thief of contentment.\" Practice gratitude every time you feel envious. 🙏", "I know this might sound stupid, but the lyric by Robert Hunter, sung by the Grateful Dead….\n\n“The grass ain’t greener, the wine ain’t sweeter, either side of the hill” \n\nreally puts things in perspective for me whenever it think like this.", "I have some friends who I think can afford much less than my family and I. But the problem is - I don’t know for sure and I don’t want to assume. Some might just be careful with money. Some might have lower income. Often I wish they would share with me. What I would do with that information? Probably when with them plan for their budget and not my. That is without making them feel small. But I don’t know…. So, if that is an option, maybe once in the group of your friends open up and tell them.", "I have never made a lot of money, and I probably never will. We are talking in the very low five figures. I am friends with some people who made decent money. Easily 10x what I do. \n\nBut we all have similar hobbies. We are all gamers. My friend might make 100k a year, but that doesn't make his Gloomhaven character any better than mine. \n\nIts NOT a competition. If you don't make a lot of money, who cares? Money only matters if you have enough for what YOU want. \n\nOne of my friends is going to fly from Michigan to Colorado to get a specialty tattoo done. That will probably cost him something like 3-5k. I could never afford something like that. But I think its great he's getting something he really, really wants. \n\nI have spent a fair amount of board games. I ran into an old high school friend and he found out I paid $100 for Level 7 Omega Protocol. He thought it was outrageous whereas for me it was a bit on the higher end, but still perfectly reasonable. \n\nAs long as you are supporting yourself, and you feel fulfilled, you shouldn't worry about what anybody else has. Why? Because they're not you.", "I have both been way more well off than my friends, and struggled 1000 times harder than my friends. \n\nNothing changed between us and that's how I know they are friends for life. We talk here and there about each other's jobs but really don't discuss our financial situations, although I think it's obvious if someone in the group is struggling or really well off at the moment. \n\nPoint is, we focus more on maintaining a close friendship with each other and connecting through the things that really matter. If someone came to me with an issue then you know it's a problem and the boys would be there to help however they can.", "I have been here! I had to remind myself that I am where I am because of the choices I made, and while I may not make as much as they do,I LOVE my career and find it to be especially fulfilling. I also acknowledged that there are things I could do to make/save more money but am not ambitious/disciplined enough to do so. \n\nAsk them for help with money management. Understand that your paycheck does not equal your worth. And if you REALLY want to make more money, takes steps to do so. YOU HAVE THE POWER", "I don’t know where you started..but I have friends that had much different upbringings than me and I have hustled yet am still behind. I remind myself they started on third base I started at first - unfair to compare. \nGreat quote - “born on third base and thought he hit a triple .”\nNot to discount everyone’s hard work it’s just different when you have different starting lines", "I always try to be grateful to the situation that I'm given. \n\nIt's hard not to compare, but maybe you can compare further, sometimes you might also see that behind the scene their work are more stressful or taxing. Following that, I'm grateful that the stress in my current job is at the level that I can manage.\n\nIf they inspire you, maybe you can ask them about their job too (That is if they're willing to answer of course):\n\n* How did they get there?\n* How is the work-life balance?\n* How's the stress level and how do they cope?\n* Are their industries different than yours? if you would like to enter the industry, what does it take?\n* etc\n\nOn the side of managing money, there are many resources to learn from, you can definitely find ways to improve this, this is one of the points that you can viably start aiming for. (If your friends are good with managing money, you can try to ask them too maybe)\n\nI also have few friends that are definitely more well off than me. More often than not, they're busy with work, but they invite me to chill together sometimes, whether at my place or theirs. They do like the nice fancy stuff but thankfully they don't flaunt around or shove it in other people's faces, they understand that not everyone are as well off as they are. I'm grateful for having them in my life.", "Hey dude. I grew up poor - at least in my view. Very little extra anything (eating out, buying name brand anything, deserts, cable tv, nice clothes, all things I didn’t have regular access too) so I grew up wanting more and with the mindset that I’d never be poor again. Having money or time for nice things is a fortunate circumstance and one that’s mostly controllable. If you want more from life you must demand it from yourself, plan, and make it happen. I don’t give a fuck what anyone else here thinks but you can do it. Put the time in. Start today and little by little you build. A year from now will come and you will look back on the last 365 24 hour days and say here’s what I did to build my future:", "From our group of six friends who've known each other since we were 16, most have average incomes. I'm above average because I'm lucky enough to love doing a job that pays well. One friend earns much below average because her field of conservation is massively undervalued. We're all so proud of her- she makes sure building development doesn't cause havoc on local species, she's previously worked to improve the population of endangers animals and has appeared in a BBC documentary showcasing some previously unseen animal behaviours. It sucks that she isn't financially compensated better for the intelligence, passion, and hard work she brings to the table. We're fully aware the salary didn't reflect her worth.\n\nIn addition to this, she's an all round badass. Great with cars, DIY, and camping. Equally looks at home in looks and manners at black tie events. My friends' kids love her humour and near limitless energy. She's fiercely loyal and I know if things ever went badly for me she'd do anything to get me right. I'm sure your friends feel the same about you. \n\nAs a group, our usual hangs are low key - casual dinner at each others houses, country walks, going to a cafe. I've never once felt \"held back\". Being surrounded by warmth and support is so much more important than what we do together. If I want to go on a high end holiday or eat at an expensive restaurant I do so with my husband - I would be a dick to force people out of their financial comfort zone to do this with me. I also appreciate when friends let me treat them. It's more fun for me to go to a spa on alternate months with a friend than to go every month on my own for example. I wouldn't offer if I didn't sincerely feel their company was worth it and I hope they realise that.", "Envy is tough.\n\nSometimes you have to remind yourself that while these friends have more money, there is probably something you have yourself they might be envious of.\n\nEveryone has problems, and money helps, but doesn't always solve them.\n\nRemember that what other people have is not a good measuring stick of who you are - you are on your own path to success. Maybe those friends had a better start with parents money, or got lucky with a job, or had a favor done that got them ahead. Also dont forget that wherever you are right now, its a better position that a lot of people in the world, so its about perspective. Your struggle could be another persons easy street.\n\nAt the end of the day, keep putting in the work, and there will be a pay off. They key to success is persistence and consistency.", "Comparison is the death of joy.\n\nInspiration is a much more positive force than disdain.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nIn my case, I have to internally kill the parts of me that rise from corrupted thoughts and it is an active effort. Oh, how desperately I naturally want to be spiteful and self loathing. The abyss is the easiest place wallow. The part of us that wants to be their must die if we want to see people the way they truly are.", "Change the focus. Compare yourself to your previous self, not to others. It’s the only hair comparison you can make.", "Be proud and inspired because you’re able to see what’s possible not jealous and bitter that they figured it out first.\n\nEvery rich person gets there because they have connections. Don’t lose some because your ego is fragile.", "As someone who once had a lot, and now don’t have as much? Accumulation of stuff and outward appearances of “success” has little to do with real happiness and well-being. Having enough of course is important, and aspiring to more is always something I embrace. \n\nBe grateful for what you have. And for the love of God, don’t project or “success shame” those with more than you by being overly self-deprecating voicing personal frustrations of where you are and/or overly voicing admiration of the successful people you associate with. Just be happy for them. And love yourself and be inspired.", "\"Money can't buy happiness\" means that sometimes rich people are miserable. It doesn't mean poor people should be happy.", "\"I have trouble managing my money and also don’t make much of it.\"\n\nThe first more than the latter but both of these are under your control.", "Would you teach your own child that if they didn’t make as much as their friends then they are inadequate as a human being? \n\nBecause that is what you are telling yourself.", "Is it really that hard to just be happy for your friends and stop comparing yourselves to them? Realize that we’re all on our own paths and appreciate what you currently have. Also, I hate to use a cliche, but the grass isn’t always greener." ]

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[ "How to learn to speed-read Anyone have any books/websites/methods/tips they'd recommend for learning how to speed-read?\n\nThanks!", "How to learn to speed-read Anyone have any books/websites/methods/tips they'd recommend for learning how to speed-read?\n\nThanks!", "How to learn to speed-read Anyone have any books/websites/methods/tips they'd recommend for learning how to speed-read?\n\nThanks!", "How to learn to speed-read Anyone have any books/websites/methods/tips they'd recommend for learning how to speed-read?\n\nThanks!", "How to learn to speed-read Anyone have any books/websites/methods/tips they'd recommend for learning how to speed-read?\n\nThanks!", "How to learn to speed-read Anyone have any books/websites/methods/tips they'd recommend for learning how to speed-read?\n\nThanks!" ]

[ "I've heard that as most people read, they're actually pronouncing all the words they read, just without actually saying them out loud. In other words, your throat and mouth are instinctively moving to pronounce the word to yourself, and this is commonly the limit to how fast you can read. To break this, practice saying something out loud as you read. For example, count to 10 over and over while you read a passage. You'll find that with a little practice, you can read much faster now that your mouth is preoccupied with counting to 10. ", "I have been using this for a while now, allows you to choose how fast you want it to 'read', how many words you want to see at the same time etc. www.spreeder.com/ The only 'issue' is that if you change the settings it will start from the the beginning, so be aware of that", "I'm not personally a speed-reader, but using one of the apps referenced [here](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rapid_serial_visual_presentation) might help you read words faster if you train enough.", "I took a class at ucla to help me read faster. It has helped me immensely with all the reading I do. Not only do I read faster but my comprehension has enhanced as well. Which was also a problem when I tried to read fast. \n\nWhat they taught at first was to take a passage or a book. Pick a section you want to read like 1 or 3 pages and jut skim through it. Run your finger across the page and time your self. So for a minute or two see how far you go by skimming through the page. Don't go too fast. You want your brain to get use to it. When the times up write down any words you remember. \n\nContinue doing this and then increase the number of pages. But don't increase the time too much keep it under 5 minutes. \n\nAfter a couple of practices try reading a passage. While reading you want to read with your finger going across the page( or pen whatever, I use my pen). Time yourself for 5 minutes or so, depending in the length of the passage. This time remember ideas of the passage. Ex. What is it about? Who is the character? Or the setting, whatever? Use he notes to answer your question. Use these passages scroll down to 12 grade. http://www.englishforeveryone.org/Topics/Reading%20Comprehension.htm\n\nKeep practicing this and you will increase the words per minute you read and also increase your comprehension. ", "I guess it depends on what you want to read and/or accomplish. \n\nThere are generally standard formulas for different things and getting to know those formulas will go a long ways towards helping you pull relevant information quickly.\n\nAcademic articles and monographs for example have pretty standard structures. For articles generally the first paragraph and last will give you all the information you need and outline the arguments being made.\n\nThe same holds true for monographs, forewords and introductions provide the road map for what will be in the reading. Chapter titles should generally give you some indication of the evidence being presented. The conclusions and epilogues sum up and affirm what's been accomplished in the body of the text. \n\nIt's not really speed reading per se but it definitely helps you pull out what's relevant, because we all know that after we read a book 85% fades from memory almost immediately and we only take what we needed or what was interesting. \n", "Serious question: people have to learn this?\n\nMaybe its just me, but I've always been able to speed read, I just read faster... (probably helps that I already read faster than most)" ]

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[ "How to stop the foam top of your mattress from sliding around. I have a memory foam top for my bed and it constantly slides down the mattress and causes my pillow to go too low and leave my neck sore in the morning.", "How to stop the foam top of your mattress from sliding around. I have a memory foam top for my bed and it constantly slides down the mattress and causes my pillow to go too low and leave my neck sore in the morning.", "How to stop the foam top of your mattress from sliding around. I have a memory foam top for my bed and it constantly slides down the mattress and causes my pillow to go too low and leave my neck sore in the morning." ]

[ "http://www.amazon.com/Ultra-Stop-Non-Slip-Indoor-Size/dp/B003TDQQIA/ref=sr_1_8?ie=UTF8&qid=1367074281&sr=8-8&keywords=anti+slip+mat\nThese things work for just about anything.", "Have you considered gluing one part of velcro to the bottom of the foam and stitching the other part to the top of the mattress. 4 sets (one near each corner) should suffice.", "Glad to hear someone else suffers from this as well. I have taken to folding 2 edges under to cause a bump in the pad and hten tucking in my sheets *really* tight. It lasts about a week.\n\n...hope someone has a better idea." ]

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[ "Getting sap off of a car I have done some searching online and have seen various solutions including rubbing alcohol, WD-40, nail polish remover and even mayonaise. I want to minimize damage to my paint job of course. Anyone had any luck with a particular way of getting dried on sap off a car?", "Getting sap off of a car I have done some searching online and have seen various solutions including rubbing alcohol, WD-40, nail polish remover and even mayonaise. I want to minimize damage to my paint job of course. Anyone had any luck with a particular way of getting dried on sap off a car?", "Getting sap off of a car I have done some searching online and have seen various solutions including rubbing alcohol, WD-40, nail polish remover and even mayonaise. I want to minimize damage to my paint job of course. Anyone had any luck with a particular way of getting dried on sap off a car?" ]

[ "Vegetable oil. tree sap gets in the cat paws all the time and rub some oil an it comes right out. I doubt it will harm paint. ", "There this spray that does wonders.. My old man has a few bottles laying around. I believe it's called bug-n-tarnation.. It got fresh tar off of my car after a few sprays and elbow grease..", "Ball up a piece of paper towel and place it on the sap. Pour rubbing alcohol over the paper towel so as to soak it in the rubbing alcohol. Make sure the sap is fully covered. Let it sit for 10-15 minutes. Take off the paper towel and just wipe the sap right off. Works every time!" ]

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[ "How to increase WiFi signal range. Baring in mind I can't move my router further than a metre from its current position, anyone know of any little tricks or tips?", "How to increase WiFi signal range. Baring in mind I can't move my router further than a metre from its current position, anyone know of any little tricks or tips?", "How to increase WiFi signal range. Baring in mind I can't move my router further than a metre from its current position, anyone know of any little tricks or tips?", "How to increase WiFi signal range. Baring in mind I can't move my router further than a metre from its current position, anyone know of any little tricks or tips?", "How to increase WiFi signal range. Baring in mind I can't move my router further than a metre from its current position, anyone know of any little tricks or tips?", "How to increase WiFi signal range. Baring in mind I can't move my router further than a metre from its current position, anyone know of any little tricks or tips?", "How to increase WiFi signal range. Baring in mind I can't move my router further than a metre from its current position, anyone know of any little tricks or tips?" ]

[ "If you're in a relatively high-density area, consider doing a scan of the wireless signal channels. Many routers broadcast on a default of channel 6, potentially causing a lot of interference. Generally, your average consumer doesn't know that you can change the broadcast channel so channel 1 or 11 generally receive less traffic and thus less interference.\n\nSwitching to channel 1 or 11 could improve your wireless signal.", "You should include the brand and model of your router. Also, why can't you move your router? You should be able to get a longer cable of what ever type is holding you in place (ie a longer ethernet cable).\n\nIf your router can use them, try a third-party firmware (such as www.dd-wrt.com). These firmware upgrades can allow you to tweak many hidden settings of your router, including transmit power. (Make sure you read and follow all instructions to the letter while upgrading.)\n\nSome routers have a place to plug in an external antenna. These external antennas have increased gain and can really extend your range. Especially since they can have several feet of wire so you can better position the antenna.\n\nMove away other sources of interference. Wireless phones, cell phones on charge, microwaves, televisions, and many other electronics (but especially the phones) can affect your signal. Try to locate your wireless router away from other electronics when possible. Also keep in mind wireless signal does not travel through walls well. Especially metal or concrete/brick.\n\nIf these don't work, you may need to buy a new router. If you do, keep the above in mind. Make sure you new one can use external upgraded antennas and firmware. If you have a large area to cover, you can use both routers, the second as a repeater of the first.", "Use a program like [inSSIDer](http://www.metageek.net/products/inssider/) to detect interference and find the best channel for your router. Also, the 2.4GHz frequency of routers tends to bounce off of walls and doors more than lower frequencies, so adjusting the angles of open doors in your house might bounce the signal around better.", "Since your router doesn't have any external antennae, there isn't a whole lot you can do. One simple thing to try: Put aluminum foil on the wall BEHIND your router and it will reflect more signal outward (instead of into/through the wall).\n\nAlso, put the router up higher (where there's generally less obstructions (couches, shelves, filing cabinets, etc))", "You should look into high powered WIFI adapters (not routers). \n\nGenerally, the range of the routers is not the problem... your card, being battery powered in most devices, has a lower transmit power than the router.\n\nSo, you could be well within range of the router, but the router might be out of range of you, if you catch my drift.", "What is the brand/model of your router? I use a Linksys wrt320n / e2000, while it has only built-in antennas - you can add external ones to them which is what I have done. There's a guy on eBay that sells [kits](http://www.ebay.com/itm/9dBi-Antenna-Mod-Kit-for-Linksys-E2000-WRT320N-No-soldering-required-/110967953921?pt=US_Directional_Network_Antennas&hash=item19d6349a01) to do it, and it's not hard at all.\n\nHere's a [picture](https://www.dropbox.com/s/qdez4g32bt7vit3/2012-08-12%20at%2019.48.41.jpg) of one of mine with the same kit.\n\nThat setup alone (with the power on the default level) I get wireless coverage across a half acre of property. A guys got the right to [twitter while he's mowing](https://www.dropbox.com/s/3cyd69te7xev9y2/2012-09-09%20at%2011.31.12.jpg), right? That's right, I took this picture & uploaded it to twitter at that location.\n\nAnother good alternative is to purchase another router and configure it as a repeater or WAP (Wireless Access Point). This is actually what I've done at my home using 2 of these routers as WAPs and 1 as the actual router. For instructions on how to do this, I recommend you visit the DD-WRT [forums](http://www.dd-wrt.com/phpBB2/) / [wiki](http://www.dd-wrt.com/wiki/index.php/Main_Page). They contain a wealth of information that can help you do it, even if you don't have DD-WRT installed on your router.\n\nIf you need something that gives you more distance than what I've recommended, you might need something more enterprise/business than consumer grade.\n\n", "Just put a curved piece of al-foil behind the antennae. I did this to mine and it increased the signal from two bars to 5." ]

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[ "How to take good photos. I'm taking a course called media arts and it involves a lot of photography and i'm very bad at taking pictures.", "How to take good photos. I'm taking a course called media arts and it involves a lot of photography and i'm very bad at taking pictures.", "How to take good photos. I'm taking a course called media arts and it involves a lot of photography and i'm very bad at taking pictures.", "How to take good photos. I'm taking a course called media arts and it involves a lot of photography and i'm very bad at taking pictures.", "How to take good photos. I'm taking a course called media arts and it involves a lot of photography and i'm very bad at taking pictures.", "How to take good photos. I'm taking a course called media arts and it involves a lot of photography and i'm very bad at taking pictures.", "How to take good photos. I'm taking a course called media arts and it involves a lot of photography and i'm very bad at taking pictures.", "How to take good photos. I'm taking a course called media arts and it involves a lot of photography and i'm very bad at taking pictures.", "How to take good photos. I'm taking a course called media arts and it involves a lot of photography and i'm very bad at taking pictures.", "How to take good photos. I'm taking a course called media arts and it involves a lot of photography and i'm very bad at taking pictures.", "How to take good photos. I'm taking a course called media arts and it involves a lot of photography and i'm very bad at taking pictures." ]

[ "It's all about light.\n\nHow much light is allowed in, and for how long.\n\nThe aperture (you'll see stuff like \"fstop\" or f1.8 thrown around) is going to be controlling how much light is allowed in. It's the size of the opening in your lens.\n\nThe shutter speed is how long the light is allowed in. You'll usually see this broken into 1/1000th of a second and so on.\n\nI suggest playing around with this simulator\nhttp://camerasim.com/apps/original-camerasim/web/ \n\nLearning how the manual settings work will dramatically help you understand what's going on in the camera itself.\n\nLet me know if you have any other questions. I love photography =)", "Funny, this was literally just covered in r/videos. [Here you go!](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kfD47gHnflE)", "Taking good photos requires some knowledge and experience. You have to look at a lot of images and you have to make a lot of images.\n\nYou can have 'the eye' like people want to say all the time, but if you don't know how to operate a camera you won't be able to make the image you see in your mind's eye.\n\nThere are three main prerequisites for understanding the technical end of a camera...\n\nISO, Shutter Speed and Aperture.\n\nEach of the three are a give and take with the others, regarding proper exposure... meaning getting the right amount of light to the film or more oft' today the sensor in the camera.\n\nAperture has a double function of also controlling Depth of Field. Loosely put, what is in focus and what is not.\n\nStart with those three things. Get a grip on what each does, how they interact with each other, and you'll be set on the right path for what I think of as the tech end of photography.\n\nThe rest of it is art... esoteric, ethereal, individual, so on and so forth. It's up to YOU to make the art part in the long run. \n\nIn the short run there are some guidelines... Composition technique like the rule of thirds, dirty frames, flow etc... it goes on and on.\n\nStart with the tech end, and IMO the art part will come mostly naturally if you feel inspired to make photos.\n\nGood luck.", "Wow that is a large question. I think it wastly depends 1 on the composition and the equipment you have. Which type of photography is another important question i think.", "Three things, \n\nImprove your eye, learn to look for patterns, lines, composition, color\n\nImprove your skill using your gear, learn how to use aperture, shutter, iso to get a good exposure.\n\nThe one that gets forgotten - shoot something/somewhere visually interesting. No one wants to see your lunch. Go walk out the door and find a cool place to shoot.", "Step 1. Learn to frame. Simply, don't cut people's heads off and try putting the subject in the center. \n\n2. Turn the automatic setting off.\n3. learn what ISO is. lower numbers do very vibrant colors but require more light -- so 200 is great for an outdoor portrait where nobody's moving, but to capture high speed, you need 400-600 to capture a clear image. So, low numbers are high quality, but require a LOT of light to work and thus can be blurry or dark if not in the right light (or shutterspeed / aprature setting -- more on that later)\n4. Shutter speed is similar-- so ISO is basically the \"light amplification\" that's required to keep from having too dark of an image. The shutter speed keeps the shutter open longer to let more light in-- which will make the image blurry if there's much motion.\n5. Aperture: Basically this is an opening in the camera (like your eyes pupil).. the wider open it is, the more light gets in, however, the more blurry the \"background\" of the image is. This is useful to both control light. AND for effect -- This is one of the more subtle settings as compared to ISO and Shutter Speed.\n6. Focus. Pretty self explanatory, auto-focus can be just fine.\n\nNow, just take that knowledge, knowing that the more light that gets in, the better quality of colors you get, and know that higher ISO settings kill color, but can be used in lower light conditions or higher speed conditions.. sacrificing some quality for a more crisp image (and more bright).\n", "Rule of thirds, proper exposure, the magic of photo ", "Like a friend of mine said a long time ago, you expect for me to convey years of knowledge, experience and training into a single comment. It isn't going to happen. You can read all you want about capturing light, composing photos and all of the other things that go into photography but until you start pressing the shutter, making mistakes and going through the paces you'll never know how to take a good picture.", "Here's an easy to do one that many people don't know. When photographing a person, usually they put the person's face right in the middle of the frame. But that leave a bunch of empty space above. Move the frame so that the top of the person's head is near the top of the frame.\n\nFor far away, when you can get the entire body, put the feet at the bottom of the frame.", "Cut the clutter! Very often you will take a picture. It was an AMAZING shot - so you thought at the time - But when you look at it later, you see a fire hydrant, telephone poles and lines, that dirty piece of dog poo... You get the idea.\n\nWhen composing your picture, make your subject IT. MOVE your ass around, usually the best thing is to GET CLOSER.\n\nAsk yourself, 'What do I want to paint with the light I have, at this time, at this place?'. then zoom in, focus in and SEE it. Hit the shutter release button and GRAB IT.", "I follow my own rule for photography.... I call it \"the rule of thirds\".\n\n-have a subject occupy 1/3rd of the frame.\n \n-take photo of the top third of a person. \n\n-take a photo about 1/3rd offset of the total distance away from the subject for perspective.\n\nif it's living, make it come to life. incorporate movement (blur, motion etc.) if it's static but in an environment that moves like a building in a busy street....show the staticness unmoving feature of the building, but also the movement of the things around it. (the people, the cars, trains etc.)\n\nuse light and shadow to your advantage. take outdoor pictures early morning or late evening and use the colors to your advantage." ]

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[ "How to ask an individual to write a \"Letter of Recommendation\" and how to set him or her up for success. As I am beginning to apply for scholarships, the need for recommendation letters is growing rapidly. I've switched careers recently, and most importantly, industries. Few, if none, of my previous mentors have no relation to my new career and education goals, so how can I ask the handful of new, not-quite-mentors, to write a letter of recommendation? Do I write a template for them, include things to say...Help Please!", "How to ask an individual to write a \"Letter of Recommendation\" and how to set him or her up for success. As I am beginning to apply for scholarships, the need for recommendation letters is growing rapidly. I've switched careers recently, and most importantly, industries. Few, if none, of my previous mentors have no relation to my new career and education goals, so how can I ask the handful of new, not-quite-mentors, to write a letter of recommendation? Do I write a template for them, include things to say...Help Please!" ]

[ "What \"new not-quite mentors\" are you referring to? If you're graduating highschool and you need a letter of recommendation, I'm sure your old mentors could still help you out. Now if we were talking about resumes, I would see why having reputable/relevant references can be important; but when it comes to college recommendation letters what they wanna see is \"Student displayed leadership skills, did community service, sports, exceptional grades etc\" they're not as much worried about what field the \"mentor\" may teach. Unless you're looking to go to a specialized school or perhaps a private school, you should be fine.", "If someone asked me to write a letter of recommendation and they include a template and what to say .. I wouldn't be writing them a letter of recommendation." ]

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[ "Removing dust from fabric My clothes (especially socks) and bed sheets are full of dust. Even when they are fresh out of the washing machine and dried, they constantly shed dust.\n\nIs there any way to get rid of this? I suppose a dry cleaning would help, but I was wondering if there is some cheap home remedy I could try first.", "Removing dust from fabric My clothes (especially socks) and bed sheets are full of dust. Even when they are fresh out of the washing machine and dried, they constantly shed dust.\n\nIs there any way to get rid of this? I suppose a dry cleaning would help, but I was wondering if there is some cheap home remedy I could try first." ]

[ "Clean out the lint filter in your dryer. Also clean out the dryer hose. If it's clogged that could be the reason that your clothes still have dust after washing. ", "Beat it. Hang it on a balcony, fence, park bench, whatever is tall enough and outside. \nCut open a trashbag or plastic sheeting to cover the area needed, drape sheets, beat.\n\nBeating sticks for best results, but you can use whatever is accessible. Something blunt, flat, preferably with holes. If you bundle a couple of plastic clotheshangers together with tape it'll work nicely." ]

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[ "How to fix an echoey room? I have a room with a mostly low ceiling and then 1/5th of the room has a ceiling about 2 stories high. It echoes a lot and then everyone gets progressively louder to be heard, which is a vicious cycle.", "How to fix an echoey room? I have a room with a mostly low ceiling and then 1/5th of the room has a ceiling about 2 stories high. It echoes a lot and then everyone gets progressively louder to be heard, which is a vicious cycle.", "How to fix an echoey room? I have a room with a mostly low ceiling and then 1/5th of the room has a ceiling about 2 stories high. It echoes a lot and then everyone gets progressively louder to be heard, which is a vicious cycle." ]

[ "Buy a bookcase and fill it with books. This will give you 1. Books, and 2. Less echoing due to sound dampening.\n\nRooms generally echo more when they are parallelograms (e.g. squares, rectangles). So if you can break up the parallelity you should see a reduction in echo.", "Sound deadening foam tiles. Like in a music studio. They look cool and aren't that expensive. Check www.musiciansfriend.com", "It all comes down to smaller parallel surfaces and more absorbent materials. \nFurtniture (bookshelfs etc)\nRugs, curtains, hanging things.\n\nIn your specific situation, since you probably cant hang things that high up, i would concentrate theses items under the high part of the ceiling, so the sound cant get up there to bounce around and cause the echo.\n\nAlthough, and I dont know what your decorating style is like, but hanging an ornate Persian rug up that high would look awesome i reckon." ]

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[ "How to tell if you will look good bald? Hair is such a pain tbh, I get too hot in summer and I don't want my hair. But I don't want to look like some unnatural bald.", "How to tell if you will look good bald? Hair is such a pain tbh, I get too hot in summer and I don't want my hair. But I don't want to look like some unnatural bald." ]

[ "Take a picture of your face, then use gimp or photoshop to remove your hair. Estimate where your skin ends and copy existing skin over that hair, and then the background over the hair that doesn't have your scalp behind it.\n\nIt doesn't require a lot of skill, just a few minutes with the clone tool.\n\nIt won't be perfect, but it should give you an idea.\n\nAnd if that's too much work ... I've seen phone apps that will do it all for you.", "Hair grows back pretty quickly. I'd just give it a try and get comfortable with wearing hats for a little while if it doesn't look good. But seriously, my husband shaves his head and it doesn't take that long for it to just look like a short buzz cut. \n\nI've always thought the majority of people look good with bald heads or very short hair, but there are definitely some people out there who don't pull it off as well as others. " ]

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[ "How to get rid of pigeons Chilling on my roof, on my window sill, air conditioning unit, on the tree next to my window.. \n\nWoken me up every day this week and it's only Tuesday - so I've declared war. Help?", "How to get rid of pigeons Chilling on my roof, on my window sill, air conditioning unit, on the tree next to my window.. \n\nWoken me up every day this week and it's only Tuesday - so I've declared war. Help?", "How to get rid of pigeons Chilling on my roof, on my window sill, air conditioning unit, on the tree next to my window.. \n\nWoken me up every day this week and it's only Tuesday - so I've declared war. Help?" ]

[ "Mirrors could be quite effective. At least on the window still & A/C unit. I've had a lot of success mirrors stuck up in the eaves where they like to nest. Birds are dumb and think another bird is already there when they see their reflection. \n\nIn the tree & roof, maybe stick a decoy owl on one or both of those areas depending on the surface.", "Google for pigeon/bird proofing spikes - they're made of wire. Pretty easy to install and they work.\n\nIf you want to make them yourself, you can. I've used a wire coat hanger, binding wire - the kind they use for paper flowers.\n", "Do a Google search. There is a product out there that is basically very sticky gel that keeps birds away." ]

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[ "How to discipline someone older than you. I work at a grocery store, and I recently was promoted from a grocery clerk to an assistant grocery manager. One of the responsibilitys is making sure the night stockers are doing they're job, because I'm the one who sees them before I leave. \n\nMy assistant night manager is 20 years older than I am, makes more than me, and has been at the store longer. He has recently not been getting certain things done, and talking slander. My position is above his, yet I am too afraid to point out certain actions simply because he's older and has been through much more than I have.\n\n", "How to discipline someone older than you. I work at a grocery store, and I recently was promoted from a grocery clerk to an assistant grocery manager. One of the responsibilitys is making sure the night stockers are doing they're job, because I'm the one who sees them before I leave. \n\nMy assistant night manager is 20 years older than I am, makes more than me, and has been at the store longer. He has recently not been getting certain things done, and talking slander. My position is above his, yet I am too afraid to point out certain actions simply because he's older and has been through much more than I have.\n\n", "How to discipline someone older than you. I work at a grocery store, and I recently was promoted from a grocery clerk to an assistant grocery manager. One of the responsibilitys is making sure the night stockers are doing they're job, because I'm the one who sees them before I leave. \n\nMy assistant night manager is 20 years older than I am, makes more than me, and has been at the store longer. He has recently not been getting certain things done, and talking slander. My position is above his, yet I am too afraid to point out certain actions simply because he's older and has been through much more than I have.\n\n" ]

[ "You salute the rank, not the man. If your management has put you in charge of him and he isn't doing his job, you aren't doing your job if you let it continue. The number one thing to remember is to always treat those under you with respect. If he doesn't respond to you, then you get your manager involved, but you cannot ignore it or it will only get worse. ", "He's probably pissed off that you got the promotion and he didn't so he's acting passive aggressive. You need to talk to him to let him say his opinion.", "Also, pertaining to your specific situation, I used to be a night shift clerk. We had 8 hours to restock the entire grocery store, and the ordering was often very bad (way too much of some stuff we still had a lot of and none of what we needed). The job is stressful, and we never finish on time, not to mention the fact we are EXTREMELY understaffed. Like, 5 guys did the job of 7. So just keep your calm with him. That being said, if his situation and mine are different, and he's an asshole, put him in his place." ]

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[ "How to display more confidence in a fight/hostile situation. Pretty much just what the title says. Every once in a while, you will run into someone who is just looking for a fight and sees you as prey. I am confident in my fighting ability after years of practicing martial arts and boxing but until it is already too late and the first punch is thrown, I can't demonstrate that confidence. \n\nI ask because recently I was pulled into a fight which got one of my friends and four of his involved. I am convinced that if I had been more confident, this guy would have decided to fuck with someone else instead. Luckily a guy named Johnny found us. Johnny stood down the five guys by himself while we were calling a taxi and then when the taxi got there, he refused to get in. We left Johnny standing in front of five guys who could easily have punched his head in but wouldn't because they were obviously intimidated by this guy who acted bulletproof.", "How to display more confidence in a fight/hostile situation. Pretty much just what the title says. Every once in a while, you will run into someone who is just looking for a fight and sees you as prey. I am confident in my fighting ability after years of practicing martial arts and boxing but until it is already too late and the first punch is thrown, I can't demonstrate that confidence. \n\nI ask because recently I was pulled into a fight which got one of my friends and four of his involved. I am convinced that if I had been more confident, this guy would have decided to fuck with someone else instead. Luckily a guy named Johnny found us. Johnny stood down the five guys by himself while we were calling a taxi and then when the taxi got there, he refused to get in. We left Johnny standing in front of five guys who could easily have punched his head in but wouldn't because they were obviously intimidated by this guy who acted bulletproof.", "How to display more confidence in a fight/hostile situation. Pretty much just what the title says. Every once in a while, you will run into someone who is just looking for a fight and sees you as prey. I am confident in my fighting ability after years of practicing martial arts and boxing but until it is already too late and the first punch is thrown, I can't demonstrate that confidence. \n\nI ask because recently I was pulled into a fight which got one of my friends and four of his involved. I am convinced that if I had been more confident, this guy would have decided to fuck with someone else instead. Luckily a guy named Johnny found us. Johnny stood down the five guys by himself while we were calling a taxi and then when the taxi got there, he refused to get in. We left Johnny standing in front of five guys who could easily have punched his head in but wouldn't because they were obviously intimidated by this guy who acted bulletproof.", "How to display more confidence in a fight/hostile situation. Pretty much just what the title says. Every once in a while, you will run into someone who is just looking for a fight and sees you as prey. I am confident in my fighting ability after years of practicing martial arts and boxing but until it is already too late and the first punch is thrown, I can't demonstrate that confidence. \n\nI ask because recently I was pulled into a fight which got one of my friends and four of his involved. I am convinced that if I had been more confident, this guy would have decided to fuck with someone else instead. Luckily a guy named Johnny found us. Johnny stood down the five guys by himself while we were calling a taxi and then when the taxi got there, he refused to get in. We left Johnny standing in front of five guys who could easily have punched his head in but wouldn't because they were obviously intimidated by this guy who acted bulletproof." ]

[ "This is a tough one but I can tell you from personal experience what happened to me. Before joining the military in early 2001 I was a big guy who was strong but terrified of conflict. I worked out a bunch, did no cardiovascular exercise (big mistake,) and hoped that my size would always deter conflict. Then I joined the military and after a tour in Iraq things changed. I became very cardiovascularly fit and continued to stay big. I also had to fight almost daily in the pit where all the infantrymen would work out their frustrations or handle grievances. I became a good fighter after about 2 years of this. After Iraq in 2003 the change was noticeable about 2 weeks after getting home. The secret to knowing how badass I was for that point in my life was my dreams. Before the military I had the facade but nothing to back it up. I would always be the victim or the pursued in my dreams. Monsters, bullies, and even weaklings would best me in my dreams. I'd equate those dreams to the dreams John Voight's character has in urban cowboy. They terrified me, haunted my waking life, and reminded me every day that I was a punk. After everything I did in the military and in Iraq those dreams changed after I fell into a normal sleep cycle where I felt safe enough to sleep deep enough to dream. I was the pursuer and the dominant party in all my dreams. They were scary and awful too but in a different way. I was feared in my dreams which made me feel good but the dreams exhibited the beginning stages of PTSD as well. I remember waking up crying tears of sadness after dreaming of emerging from under a mud hut like a psycho army zombie shooting everyone with a pistol. Women and children included. I remember feeling like a terrible person for an hour or so after that dream. That's when I knew though. Not only were fights no longer a problem for me but I became extremely level headed in my handling of altercations and delivering a good scrap to someone. Most people never fuck with me now even after a decade of bad eating, slight overweightness, a family, and a cush job. A lot of people say I have the look and confidence spotted a mile away. \n\nSo in conclusion I hate to tell you but lots of training, real life fighting on a daily basis, a year in the shit, and the scars the come with it will transform you. Warriors are not born, they are bred. With the right training and experience anyone could become a badass bit there will be costs higher than you may be willing to pay. ", "Meh. In my experience getting into a verbal exchange like that is a waste of time and makes you look like an idiot. If they are gonna do something, they are gonna *do it* and not stand around flapping their dicksuckers. Guys like that I look at in the eye, smirk and go on about my business as if they don't exist. If it comes to 'lefts and rights' I get to crush them in self defense.\n\n\nTL:DR The best way to intimidate jackasses is to not be intimidated by them.", "\"Who acted bulletproof\"\n\nI think that this is mostly what it is. I've noticed that men that get into a lot of fights/arguments tend to become more animalistic in those situations.\nSo 9/10 its all about acting like the alpha.", "You're either born with it or you're not. You cant fake intimidation. Get a .45 and a concealed carry permit. " ]

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[ "how to tell a person \"job well done.\" I was working a job this summer and my two supervisors have different demeanors. One was task oriented, one was people oriented. The people oriented one made me feel warm and fuzzy inside when he'd tell me I did a good job. The task oriented one's praise would kind of go in one ear and out the other.\n\nWhat could it have been in his complementary words that made me feel better and valued than with my other supervisor?", "how to tell a person \"job well done.\" I was working a job this summer and my two supervisors have different demeanors. One was task oriented, one was people oriented. The people oriented one made me feel warm and fuzzy inside when he'd tell me I did a good job. The task oriented one's praise would kind of go in one ear and out the other.\n\nWhat could it have been in his complementary words that made me feel better and valued than with my other supervisor?", "how to tell a person \"job well done.\" I was working a job this summer and my two supervisors have different demeanors. One was task oriented, one was people oriented. The people oriented one made me feel warm and fuzzy inside when he'd tell me I did a good job. The task oriented one's praise would kind of go in one ear and out the other.\n\nWhat could it have been in his complementary words that made me feel better and valued than with my other supervisor?" ]

[ "It's probably just because you feel that the people person actually means it, while the task oriented person might just praise someone so they continue to be productive", "Probably sincerity, or the appearance of it. \n\n'Good work' recognises the work you did. 'Well done' recognises that you did the work. Subtle but it feels like you're getting recognition.", "Both sound great\n\nI have the other type boss. Micro-managing, constantly finding fault, ignorant and stupid!" ]

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[ "How to make decisions? I am an indecisive person and can spend a week to a month until I decide on a new mouse/keyboard/laptop. And even after that I wonder if I made the right one. ", "How to make decisions? I am an indecisive person and can spend a week to a month until I decide on a new mouse/keyboard/laptop. And even after that I wonder if I made the right one. ", "How to make decisions? I am an indecisive person and can spend a week to a month until I decide on a new mouse/keyboard/laptop. And even after that I wonder if I made the right one. ", "How to make decisions? I am an indecisive person and can spend a week to a month until I decide on a new mouse/keyboard/laptop. And even after that I wonder if I made the right one. ", "How to make decisions? I am an indecisive person and can spend a week to a month until I decide on a new mouse/keyboard/laptop. And even after that I wonder if I made the right one. " ]

[ "I have a lot of anxiety, so I know what you're dealing with. One thing I try to ask myself is \"Will this matter in five years?\". If it doesn't, I make the best decision with the information I have at the time and move on. ", "1. Make a pros/cons list. If that doesn't decide it for you...\n2. Flip a coin. Either you truly don't know what to do, or that moment before you know it's heads vs tails will tell you what you really want. ", "Number the items and get someone else (without telling them the order) to pick a number, if you don't like their choice, whatever number you thought of after is the one you want. ", "I used to not be able to decide on which hamburger to order because of anxiety like this. Any small choice was excrutiating. For most things (including tech) I set a budget of the I want to spend, decided on the features I need from it, and find something that meets both criteria then order it. Just acknowledge that there will always be a better deal somewhere else, but this one meets your needs, and your time has value as well.", "Decision making is a skill, not a personality trait. The more you do it, the easier it gets. The more you allow yourself the luxury of confusion, the harder decisions will be.\n\nI agree with a previous post. Ask yourself if it will matter in 5-10 years. If not, go with the gut, and afterwards remind yourself that it's already been made and there's not time machine to change it. Yet.\n\nYou need to manage your mind, rather than your decisions." ]

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[ "Stopping people from asking me to pass along messages I get multiple requests a week to pass messages along for other people (my mom to a sibling, community person trying to reach my husband, etc...). I don't feel comfortable pressuring people to respond more quickly to other people, and I don't like that people expect me to be a secretary for people they can't get ahold of. What are some ways I could respond to these requests?", "Stopping people from asking me to pass along messages I get multiple requests a week to pass messages along for other people (my mom to a sibling, community person trying to reach my husband, etc...). I don't feel comfortable pressuring people to respond more quickly to other people, and I don't like that people expect me to be a secretary for people they can't get ahold of. What are some ways I could respond to these requests?", "Stopping people from asking me to pass along messages I get multiple requests a week to pass messages along for other people (my mom to a sibling, community person trying to reach my husband, etc...). I don't feel comfortable pressuring people to respond more quickly to other people, and I don't like that people expect me to be a secretary for people they can't get ahold of. What are some ways I could respond to these requests?" ]

[ "Maybe say you've got a bad memory?\n\nI have a bad memory so no one ever asks me to pass along any messages.", "If you are ok as being seen as a little bit of a bitch and know the person has their phone number sarcastically say \"call them yourself\"", "If it's not family, give out the email address or mobile number and ask them to contact the other person directly \"so they get the right message\".\n\nFor family, I'd be frank and say you've got enough to do without adding another job to your to do list and could they contact the person directly. Say you're feeling overwhelmed with everything you've got on and it would mean a lot if they could do it themselves.\n\nIf it continues, I'd laugh and say \"no thanks, I'll leave you to do it, I've got enough on!\"" ]

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[ "What’s the best approach to seeking a summer part time job as an incoming undergrad, especially as a computer science major? ", "What’s the best approach to seeking a summer part time job as an incoming undergrad, especially as a computer science major? ", "What’s the best approach to seeking a summer part time job as an incoming undergrad, especially as a computer science major? " ]

[ "IMO it's less beneficial to go into the big city looking for a big opportunity, you might get a great opportunity focusing on a specific area, but instead I spent 2 years at a medium size (60ish people) company in the suburbs. They had one helpdesk engineer and one sysadmin/cto. Which meant there was a lot to do in a variety of different fields. I learned a ton and had some skills on my resume I know I wouldn't have gotten at a big shop (like Lotus Notes, and IBM AS400). Proving I had the capacity to learn unique skills like that eventually helped me get a full time job after school.", "Unless you need the money you’re better off shipping some personal projects and helping out / contributing to open source than getting a few months of repetitive or specialized work in with $localsoftwareco.\n\nIf you do need the money try to find a job where your skills can have meaningful impact— likely NOT a tech company but somewhere you can see opportunities for tech and where you can have the influence to implement them. Possibly in small scale retail or a local small business.", "I often think about this from Mike Rowe and found it helpful in life maybe others will appreciate:\n https://www-m.cnn.com/2014/10/15/opinion/rowe-right-career/index.html?r=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com%2F" ]

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[ "making a hard decision between two great options How can one decide between two very good options with ease? How to feel safe of that decision and not regret discarding the other one?", "making a hard decision between two great options How can one decide between two very good options with ease? How to feel safe of that decision and not regret discarding the other one?", "making a hard decision between two great options How can one decide between two very good options with ease? How to feel safe of that decision and not regret discarding the other one?", "making a hard decision between two great options How can one decide between two very good options with ease? How to feel safe of that decision and not regret discarding the other one?" ]

[ "On the philosophical side of the question, accept that in life you can have anything you want[1], but you can't have everything you want. Make the best decision you can today ... When you look back on past decisions, you'll know you made the best decision at that time so can live without regret or guilt.\n\nAlso remember that just about every choice has positive *and* negative outcomes. Often when something goes wrong in our lives we wish we made a different choice - but we're comparing a real problem with an ideal situation, not a real problem with the likely problems that the other choice would have created.\n\nCase in point: We're struggling to have kids right now, and debating the merits of investing in more IVF - after all, we've tried, and there's something to be said about a life without kids, travelling the world, spoiling the niblings etc. Our coach did an awesome thing that really helped - instead of focusing on why we might want either option (kids / no kids), she had us talk about the downside of each. Once we acknowledged that either choice would, at some point, leave us annoyed we made that choice (sleepless nights / lonely old age) we were free to make a decision without worrying about regrets. Because EVERY option has possible regrets. You just make the best decision you can at this point in time.\n\n[1] You know what I mean: LPT - don't be a literal asshat.", "Don't spend too much time over thinking it. Just pick one and get it done with / live with it. Have a short memory", "List the pros and cons of each option. To go even further with it rate each pro and con. The choice with the best score is your best choice!", "Consider the cons and pros of both. If that fails then figure out which will get you closest to ANY goals you have. " ]

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[ "How to have a cat without its litter ruining an entire room of the house Have had a cat for two years.\n\nWe have the biggest fanciest litter house. Cat gets litter everywhere. \n\nPut the litter box in a kids pool in an alternate room. Cat still tracks litter around the whole room.\n\nI literally want to build a wall around the kiddy pool out of cardboard with only a narrow exit/a stairway my cat must walk up to get out, because he seems to CHARGE out of the damn box.\n\nWife won't let me.\n\nHow do other people own a cat without literally wasting an entire room for their cat to take shits?", "How to have a cat without its litter ruining an entire room of the house Have had a cat for two years.\n\nWe have the biggest fanciest litter house. Cat gets litter everywhere. \n\nPut the litter box in a kids pool in an alternate room. Cat still tracks litter around the whole room.\n\nI literally want to build a wall around the kiddy pool out of cardboard with only a narrow exit/a stairway my cat must walk up to get out, because he seems to CHARGE out of the damn box.\n\nWife won't let me.\n\nHow do other people own a cat without literally wasting an entire room for their cat to take shits?", "How to have a cat without its litter ruining an entire room of the house Have had a cat for two years.\n\nWe have the biggest fanciest litter house. Cat gets litter everywhere. \n\nPut the litter box in a kids pool in an alternate room. Cat still tracks litter around the whole room.\n\nI literally want to build a wall around the kiddy pool out of cardboard with only a narrow exit/a stairway my cat must walk up to get out, because he seems to CHARGE out of the damn box.\n\nWife won't let me.\n\nHow do other people own a cat without literally wasting an entire room for their cat to take shits?", "How to have a cat without its litter ruining an entire room of the house Have had a cat for two years.\n\nWe have the biggest fanciest litter house. Cat gets litter everywhere. \n\nPut the litter box in a kids pool in an alternate room. Cat still tracks litter around the whole room.\n\nI literally want to build a wall around the kiddy pool out of cardboard with only a narrow exit/a stairway my cat must walk up to get out, because he seems to CHARGE out of the damn box.\n\nWife won't let me.\n\nHow do other people own a cat without literally wasting an entire room for their cat to take shits?", "How to have a cat without its litter ruining an entire room of the house Have had a cat for two years.\n\nWe have the biggest fanciest litter house. Cat gets litter everywhere. \n\nPut the litter box in a kids pool in an alternate room. Cat still tracks litter around the whole room.\n\nI literally want to build a wall around the kiddy pool out of cardboard with only a narrow exit/a stairway my cat must walk up to get out, because he seems to CHARGE out of the damn box.\n\nWife won't let me.\n\nHow do other people own a cat without literally wasting an entire room for their cat to take shits?", "How to have a cat without its litter ruining an entire room of the house Have had a cat for two years.\n\nWe have the biggest fanciest litter house. Cat gets litter everywhere. \n\nPut the litter box in a kids pool in an alternate room. Cat still tracks litter around the whole room.\n\nI literally want to build a wall around the kiddy pool out of cardboard with only a narrow exit/a stairway my cat must walk up to get out, because he seems to CHARGE out of the damn box.\n\nWife won't let me.\n\nHow do other people own a cat without literally wasting an entire room for their cat to take shits?" ]

[ "Try using wood pellets. Same type used for pellet stoves. They are much larger and so tracking is almost nonexistent. Also easier to pick up any stray bits (although they can hurt when you step on one...). Cheap, safe, and available at most hardware stores.\n\nFor bonus points, your room smells of wood and not pee or perfume.", "If you only have one cat you can train them to use the toilet in a couple of weeks. \n\nI had an apartment and a cat that could clear the room with one trip to the box. \n\nYou start by putting the litter box up on a phone book so they get used to jumping up to go in, then gradually start raising it higher and higher till it's level with the toilet. \nThen put the box on top of the toilet. \nThen you put a plastic bowl under the seat with litter in it. \nNext, make a small hole in the bowl so the cat gets used to hearing a sound when they go. Then gradually start making the hole larger and larger until you no longer need it. \nTaadaa! Cat using a toilet. \nI'd like to tell you that I have a super smart cat, but he's not and he totally got the hang of it. ", "We put our litter box in the laundry room and have a hooded litterbox\nWe change it every day.\nWe add a little baking soda to each box. \nAs far as tracking litter, perhaps try a different litter thats larger bits or they have pellets.\nThey also have mats, we have one. Thats supposed to get it off the kitties paws before he leaves the area.. Ill leave a link.. They have many different types. [kitty mat](https://www.chewy.com/petlinks-purrfect-paws-gray-cat/dp/130160?utm_source=google-product&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=hg&utm_content=Petlinks&utm_term=&gclid=CObwsoXHnNICFZiPswodsmoDzQ&gclsrc=aw.ds) \n\nDoesnt completely keep them from bringing litter with them but.. Cuts down some. ", "Our cat used to charge out of the litter box too. We moved the entry of the box close to a wall and moved some other stuff (bathroom) close to the litter box as obstacles. She can't charge out with full speed and most of the litter stays there. \nWe also use \"litter\" rugs like a red carpet, that catches most of the litter when she gets out.\n\nOh and wodden pellets are the best! You might need to try a few befor you find a good one.\nWe have two brands ATM which I mix. The cheaper one spreads more then the other brand. \n\nGet a good hand vacuum cleaner. Helps a lot. ", "Do you have an extra bathroom in your house? Either try the litter kwitter or connect a cat box to the plumbing to get rid of the litter everywhere", "I have an extra bath mat i put in front of the box. It helps a lot to act as a door mat and keep the litter there. Then I just vacuum it once in a while. " ]

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[ "How should I store phone numbers of businesses and non-person contacts on my phone? What's the best way to save phone numbers of non-person contacts on the phone? I've just been only using the first name field for them, but they still get sorted and mixed in with all my normal contacts. I figured I could make a group for them (using the iPhone) and then exclude that group to make them disappear, but I'm wondering if there's a better way.", "How should I store phone numbers of businesses and non-person contacts on my phone? What's the best way to save phone numbers of non-person contacts on the phone? I've just been only using the first name field for them, but they still get sorted and mixed in with all my normal contacts. I figured I could make a group for them (using the iPhone) and then exclude that group to make them disappear, but I'm wondering if there's a better way.", "How should I store phone numbers of businesses and non-person contacts on my phone? What's the best way to save phone numbers of non-person contacts on the phone? I've just been only using the first name field for them, but they still get sorted and mixed in with all my normal contacts. I figured I could make a group for them (using the iPhone) and then exclude that group to make them disappear, but I'm wondering if there's a better way.", "How should I store phone numbers of businesses and non-person contacts on my phone? What's the best way to save phone numbers of non-person contacts on the phone? I've just been only using the first name field for them, but they still get sorted and mixed in with all my normal contacts. I figured I could make a group for them (using the iPhone) and then exclude that group to make them disappear, but I'm wondering if there's a better way.", "How should I store phone numbers of businesses and non-person contacts on my phone? What's the best way to save phone numbers of non-person contacts on the phone? I've just been only using the first name field for them, but they still get sorted and mixed in with all my normal contacts. I figured I could make a group for them (using the iPhone) and then exclude that group to make them disappear, but I'm wondering if there's a better way." ]

[ "If you want them sorted together, why not add a letter or character Before the business name? The | character sorts after letter generally, or you could add a z.\n\nSo for example 'Apple Store' Would become '|Apple Store' or 'zApple Store'\n\n", "I think on the iPhone you can add more field to the contact and one of them is company. I don't know if that'll work for you.", "Two of my co-workers are named Steve and Andy. Now I made all my work names start with a W, such as Wsteve and Wandy.\n\nIf I ever get a friend that starts with W (William?), I'll figure out something different for him.", "I always never just put their name - if they're important.\nSince I move a lot - most of my contacts are named things like:\n\nBob AA MT Brunette\n\nMom AR Home\n\nSean Mechanic WA\n\nTodd Cactus Raver CA\n\nWayne Coworker Brunette CA\n\n\n", "Groups could work, you can also just make a note with the numbers, then they will be clickable links. " ]

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[ "How do I make conversation and form connections with people I don't agree with? Too many lost relations with family and long-standing friends. Tired of the ideological silos. But I have no idea how to talk to people without it quickly drifting into contested ideological territory. They say that we all have more in common than are different, but it sure doesn't feel that way anymore. \n\nAny tips/tricks for keeping friendly engagement going with people when you don't actually agree about anything? ", "How do I make conversation and form connections with people I don't agree with? Too many lost relations with family and long-standing friends. Tired of the ideological silos. But I have no idea how to talk to people without it quickly drifting into contested ideological territory. They say that we all have more in common than are different, but it sure doesn't feel that way anymore. \n\nAny tips/tricks for keeping friendly engagement going with people when you don't actually agree about anything? ", "How do I make conversation and form connections with people I don't agree with? Too many lost relations with family and long-standing friends. Tired of the ideological silos. But I have no idea how to talk to people without it quickly drifting into contested ideological territory. They say that we all have more in common than are different, but it sure doesn't feel that way anymore. \n\nAny tips/tricks for keeping friendly engagement going with people when you don't actually agree about anything? ", "How do I make conversation and form connections with people I don't agree with? Too many lost relations with family and long-standing friends. Tired of the ideological silos. But I have no idea how to talk to people without it quickly drifting into contested ideological territory. They say that we all have more in common than are different, but it sure doesn't feel that way anymore. \n\nAny tips/tricks for keeping friendly engagement going with people when you don't actually agree about anything? ", "How do I make conversation and form connections with people I don't agree with? Too many lost relations with family and long-standing friends. Tired of the ideological silos. But I have no idea how to talk to people without it quickly drifting into contested ideological territory. They say that we all have more in common than are different, but it sure doesn't feel that way anymore. \n\nAny tips/tricks for keeping friendly engagement going with people when you don't actually agree about anything? " ]

[ "There will always be common ground. If you can find something that both of you are familiar with, you will be surprised at how long you can stay on topic. I would also suggest putting in effort on your part to keep it a conversation instead of a monolog. Ask questions and avoid one upping.", "Just understand that just because you don’t agree with them, that doesn’t make them wrong. Just like you’re not wrong. I forget who this quote is attributed to, but it goes “it is the trademark of an intelligent man who can entertain another’s ideas without accepting them as their own.” That’s probably not it exactly but the concept holds true. Even if they try to argue with you, listen and move on to a different topic. That’s my not so expert opinion at least haha. ", "I agree with other posts about finding common ground, but the ground doesn't *have* to be common. Talk about things that are interesting to you (a recent movie you liked, the last vacation you took, tell a story about your last failed attempt at a new hobby), or even better, things that are interesting to them (ask them about work/school, ask about kids, hobbies, work, etc.). All of these things can start interesting conversations that don't have to get political. And, you may get to know them even better.\n\nExample: Sure, you know she's an accountant, but do you know what that actually means? What are her workdays like? Who are her favorite clients and why? Does her office have any weird cultural quirks? What are some of the crazy or funny things she's encountered? Genuine curiosity will always lead to you learning something new, and to your conversation partner feeling appreciated. And focusing on them as a fellow human should enable you to keep politics out of it. (Note, the above example should feel like a conversational flow, not an interview! The questions I listed were examples of different paths you can take.)", "Find some common ground. There isn't a person alive that you can't have anything to agree with, unless you don't want to agree with them. Then that becomes a different problem all together. Ask questions, nod, and say \"tell me about it\". Not everything has to be a debate either. If the people around you do nothing but argue about topics they refuse to budge or expand any thought on, then you shouldn't be around them in the first place.", "As mentioned before, common ground can always be found, but there are other ways to engage someone you have little in common with. I would suggest making a connection through eye contact, good open body language, and asking questions. \n\nAlso, when the conversation turns to disagreement, just remember to listen to their side and don't speak over them. Share your opinion and if it is still at odds, simply say, \"I respectfully disagree\", or \"that's a different perspective, I'll look into that\". Engage them, listen, ask questions and be open. The tone of a conversation can be set by many things beyond words. " ]

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[ "What to say at a funeral I went to a funeral yesterday, and after I offered condolences to the family, they said \"Thank you for coming\". I didn't really know how to respond to that. I mean, I know you can't say \"My pleasure\", so I was wondering what to say. If anything.", "What to say at a funeral I went to a funeral yesterday, and after I offered condolences to the family, they said \"Thank you for coming\". I didn't really know how to respond to that. I mean, I know you can't say \"My pleasure\", so I was wondering what to say. If anything.", "What to say at a funeral I went to a funeral yesterday, and after I offered condolences to the family, they said \"Thank you for coming\". I didn't really know how to respond to that. I mean, I know you can't say \"My pleasure\", so I was wondering what to say. If anything.", "What to say at a funeral I went to a funeral yesterday, and after I offered condolences to the family, they said \"Thank you for coming\". I didn't really know how to respond to that. I mean, I know you can't say \"My pleasure\", so I was wondering what to say. If anything.", "What to say at a funeral I went to a funeral yesterday, and after I offered condolences to the family, they said \"Thank you for coming\". I didn't really know how to respond to that. I mean, I know you can't say \"My pleasure\", so I was wondering what to say. If anything." ]

[ "If you knew the deceased, you could say something about what they meant to you; for example \"He was a good friend to me\" or \"She helped me out when I was down\"\n\nOtherwise, if you didn't know them very well, you could say something like \"I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts (or prayers) are with you.\"", "I'm here to support you? \n\nSometimes it's not always important what you say in that moment. Be available to listen, call them in a few days to make sure they're eating if you can't bring them a dish. It's stuff like this that let me know people really cared. ", "Anything is fine. Even clichés, since the grieving family won't remember what you said. \"I'm so sorry for your loss\" is a classic for a reason, but it's no less sincere for that. And... I'm sorry for your loss.", "Don't say anything. Dress up as Keanu Reeves. Stand near the back with a small, smug look and occasionally when someone else is in earshot roll your eyes, sigh and say \"Bloody mortals eh?\" under your breath.", "When a family expresses thanks for seeing you at the funeral they are (most likely) thanking you for honoring the dead and supporting them by taking the time to attend. Especially if you are not family. I personally say that I am glad I could be there, as I am glad that I can do both those things. I don't feel the sentiment is misconstrued." ]

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[ "What to talk about with someone who was just released from prison? So my half-brother was just released from prison and is coming to Thanksgiving dinner. He is a non-violent offender who has been in trouble his whole life, mostly for petty crimes related to drug addiction. We have exchanged a few letters over the past fifteen years since that he has been incarcerated but this will be my first time seeing him or really having a conversation (he was held out of state and my parents strongly discouraged visiting him.)\n\nAnyway, I am worried that the conversation will be extremely awkward. Asking questions about what prison was like seems like it would be bad form, but I have no idea what the hell else there will be to talk about with him. He might know enough about sports to hold a conversation, but nobody in my family is into sports. I am considering reading enough about our home state's college football team to have a cursory conversation but sports don't interest me in the slightest.\n\nIs there anyone here who has been in a similar situation who has some tips to share?", "What to talk about with someone who was just released from prison? So my half-brother was just released from prison and is coming to Thanksgiving dinner. He is a non-violent offender who has been in trouble his whole life, mostly for petty crimes related to drug addiction. We have exchanged a few letters over the past fifteen years since that he has been incarcerated but this will be my first time seeing him or really having a conversation (he was held out of state and my parents strongly discouraged visiting him.)\n\nAnyway, I am worried that the conversation will be extremely awkward. Asking questions about what prison was like seems like it would be bad form, but I have no idea what the hell else there will be to talk about with him. He might know enough about sports to hold a conversation, but nobody in my family is into sports. I am considering reading enough about our home state's college football team to have a cursory conversation but sports don't interest me in the slightest.\n\nIs there anyone here who has been in a similar situation who has some tips to share?", "What to talk about with someone who was just released from prison? So my half-brother was just released from prison and is coming to Thanksgiving dinner. He is a non-violent offender who has been in trouble his whole life, mostly for petty crimes related to drug addiction. We have exchanged a few letters over the past fifteen years since that he has been incarcerated but this will be my first time seeing him or really having a conversation (he was held out of state and my parents strongly discouraged visiting him.)\n\nAnyway, I am worried that the conversation will be extremely awkward. Asking questions about what prison was like seems like it would be bad form, but I have no idea what the hell else there will be to talk about with him. He might know enough about sports to hold a conversation, but nobody in my family is into sports. I am considering reading enough about our home state's college football team to have a cursory conversation but sports don't interest me in the slightest.\n\nIs there anyone here who has been in a similar situation who has some tips to share?", "What to talk about with someone who was just released from prison? So my half-brother was just released from prison and is coming to Thanksgiving dinner. He is a non-violent offender who has been in trouble his whole life, mostly for petty crimes related to drug addiction. We have exchanged a few letters over the past fifteen years since that he has been incarcerated but this will be my first time seeing him or really having a conversation (he was held out of state and my parents strongly discouraged visiting him.)\n\nAnyway, I am worried that the conversation will be extremely awkward. Asking questions about what prison was like seems like it would be bad form, but I have no idea what the hell else there will be to talk about with him. He might know enough about sports to hold a conversation, but nobody in my family is into sports. I am considering reading enough about our home state's college football team to have a cursory conversation but sports don't interest me in the slightest.\n\nIs there anyone here who has been in a similar situation who has some tips to share?", "What to talk about with someone who was just released from prison? So my half-brother was just released from prison and is coming to Thanksgiving dinner. He is a non-violent offender who has been in trouble his whole life, mostly for petty crimes related to drug addiction. We have exchanged a few letters over the past fifteen years since that he has been incarcerated but this will be my first time seeing him or really having a conversation (he was held out of state and my parents strongly discouraged visiting him.)\n\nAnyway, I am worried that the conversation will be extremely awkward. Asking questions about what prison was like seems like it would be bad form, but I have no idea what the hell else there will be to talk about with him. He might know enough about sports to hold a conversation, but nobody in my family is into sports. I am considering reading enough about our home state's college football team to have a cursory conversation but sports don't interest me in the slightest.\n\nIs there anyone here who has been in a similar situation who has some tips to share?" ]

[ "In my experience the best thing to talk about is the future or what's happening right now. I know a lot of ex cons and even have a few in my family. Talking about their time in prison serves no good purpose.", "- his plans for the immediate future. what kind of work does he think he can get? what kind of work does he WANT to get? in general, immediate future plans. what kind of fun stuff does he have in mind that he'd like to do, now that he's out?\n\n- his plans for the not-so-immediate future. what's he thinking? people have a lot of time to think when they're locked up, and they don't spend it thinking about the present. although he will have spent plenty of time thinking about it, he won't want to talk about the events that lead up to his incarceration; however, he'll likely have shining plans for staying out of trouble and succeeding in the future. business plans, travel plans, education plans, whatever - he'll have a lot of them, and he'll almost certainly want to talk about them, because they'll be intimately connected with his desire to change his ways and become the person that society wants him to be.\n\n- books he's read that have made an impression on him. book series he enjoys that he's anticipating further volumes from.\n\n- has he been playing sports? lifting? running? he might have a newfound interest in physical fitness that he'd like to discuss and to compare experiences regarding.\n\nexpect him to be very, very uncomfortable being the center of attention. don't ask these questions around the dinner table. the best thing you can do for him is to make him feel at home, but without smothering him or making a point of making him feel welcome. right now he feels very \"different\" from you and the rest of the unincarcerated public. anything that reminds him of that perceived difference - especially the awareness on his part that other people are actively thinking about it and taking it into account in their interactions with him - that's going to make him really, horribly uncomfortable. \n\nright now he just wants to put some chronological distance between release from prison and himself, and to \"get back to normal\". treat him like you'd treat any other family member. he'll probably be fairly agoraphobic, depending on how long he was in for. be sensitive to those concerns, don't push things, and you'll do fine. good luck!", "Its sounds like you are concerned as to not upset him so you are already headed in the right direction", "My humble opinion is to NOT try to analyse him, just treat him like a normal person ffs, like nothing happened. Make him laugh, so he have a good time for once with all the people doing what the previous comments says.", "Just say what you are thinking. Something like, \"So, I bet it's nice to not be nervous in the shower anymore, huh?\"\n\nIf they've been in the pen, they'll likely appreciate your not being condescending or patronizing toward them. I think that's how I want to be treated if I were an ex-con." ]

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[ "Getting tree sap off of car windows. Half of my driveway is covered by a pine tree and when I have to park on that half my passenger side windows gets sap all over it. I have yet to find any good way to remove it without just letting it go away over time or scratching the hell out of the window. Anyone know of a good way to get this stuff off?", "Getting tree sap off of car windows. Half of my driveway is covered by a pine tree and when I have to park on that half my passenger side windows gets sap all over it. I have yet to find any good way to remove it without just letting it go away over time or scratching the hell out of the window. Anyone know of a good way to get this stuff off?", "Getting tree sap off of car windows. Half of my driveway is covered by a pine tree and when I have to park on that half my passenger side windows gets sap all over it. I have yet to find any good way to remove it without just letting it go away over time or scratching the hell out of the window. Anyone know of a good way to get this stuff off?", "Getting tree sap off of car windows. Half of my driveway is covered by a pine tree and when I have to park on that half my passenger side windows gets sap all over it. I have yet to find any good way to remove it without just letting it go away over time or scratching the hell out of the window. Anyone know of a good way to get this stuff off?", "Getting tree sap off of car windows. Half of my driveway is covered by a pine tree and when I have to park on that half my passenger side windows gets sap all over it. I have yet to find any good way to remove it without just letting it go away over time or scratching the hell out of the window. Anyone know of a good way to get this stuff off?", "Getting tree sap off of car windows. Half of my driveway is covered by a pine tree and when I have to park on that half my passenger side windows gets sap all over it. I have yet to find any good way to remove it without just letting it go away over time or scratching the hell out of the window. Anyone know of a good way to get this stuff off?", "Getting tree sap off of car windows. Half of my driveway is covered by a pine tree and when I have to park on that half my passenger side windows gets sap all over it. I have yet to find any good way to remove it without just letting it go away over time or scratching the hell out of the window. Anyone know of a good way to get this stuff off?", "Getting tree sap off of car windows. Half of my driveway is covered by a pine tree and when I have to park on that half my passenger side windows gets sap all over it. I have yet to find any good way to remove it without just letting it go away over time or scratching the hell out of the window. Anyone know of a good way to get this stuff off?", "Getting tree sap off of car windows. Half of my driveway is covered by a pine tree and when I have to park on that half my passenger side windows gets sap all over it. I have yet to find any good way to remove it without just letting it go away over time or scratching the hell out of the window. Anyone know of a good way to get this stuff off?", "Getting tree sap off of car windows. Half of my driveway is covered by a pine tree and when I have to park on that half my passenger side windows gets sap all over it. I have yet to find any good way to remove it without just letting it go away over time or scratching the hell out of the window. Anyone know of a good way to get this stuff off?", "Getting tree sap off of car windows. Half of my driveway is covered by a pine tree and when I have to park on that half my passenger side windows gets sap all over it. I have yet to find any good way to remove it without just letting it go away over time or scratching the hell out of the window. Anyone know of a good way to get this stuff off?", "Getting tree sap off of car windows. Half of my driveway is covered by a pine tree and when I have to park on that half my passenger side windows gets sap all over it. I have yet to find any good way to remove it without just letting it go away over time or scratching the hell out of the window. Anyone know of a good way to get this stuff off?", "Getting tree sap off of car windows. Half of my driveway is covered by a pine tree and when I have to park on that half my passenger side windows gets sap all over it. I have yet to find any good way to remove it without just letting it go away over time or scratching the hell out of the window. Anyone know of a good way to get this stuff off?" ]

[ "So i'm guessing \"pine sap\" is actually pine resin? I'm a gardener so we get resin stuck on our tools sometimes. This is the process we use to get the resin off:\n\nFirst rub down the resinous areas with cooking oil, olive oil works best but veg or sunflower oil should work too. Let this soak into the resin for a while. The fat in the oil will bind to the resin. \n\nOnce it's soaked in for a while use normal soap or washing up liquid to wash the resin off. Try to get a really good lather going. Soap works by binding to the fat which is now in turn binded to the resin. So it should come off without needing to use too much friction that might damage your paintwork.\n\nHope that helps, it's always worked for me :)", "Very hot water and soap (Dawn has worked best for me). If it's still stubborn you can use rubbing alcohol (or hand sanitizer) and a cloth, but depending on your paint/clear coat it may discolor or damage your finish. \n\nA friend of mine says WD-40 works well, but I haven't tried it. \n\n", "If you have access to a wood shop try using laquer thinner or alcohol. My car is always getting dripped on with tree sap and it always works like a charm!\n\n\n", "Bug spray. 20 years in backcountry Alaska, and it works awesome. If you happen to have a can of mosquito repellent around, a little squirt will take tree sap off no problemo.", "White gas, it does the same thing as WD-40, but you can buy it by the gallon. Pour some on a rag, then scrub whatever you want off of your window with it and BAM it's gone. Just be sure to not get it on any painted surface.", "Try using a clay bar. It's like putty that you rub over the surface after spraying some \"lubricating liquid\" - should do the trick. ", "Ronson lighter fluid and a rag. I've yet to see anything sticky that it won't remove. That doesn't work, try Goof-off. N.B. do not get Goof-off on paint, or anything acrylic. Ever.", "I've detailed cars professionally for many years in my past, and THE best thing for sap on car paint is fabric/upholstery cleaner foam. Spray the foam directly on the sap, let it sit for a few minutes, and then take a sturdy plastic razor blade and scrape. It should chip right off, and you might need to do this process once more to remove it completely. 100% scratch free! You don't have to worry about eating the clearcoat either.", "I would suggest using 91% or higher isopropyl alcohol and apply it with cotton balls, it eats away at the sap really well. Just make sure to rinse off the cloudy residue it leaves behind and you're good.", "Detailer here. Scrape with a razor blade to remove the majority, then use rubbing alcohol or lacquer thinner on a microfiber towel to remove the reside. There is a possibility the sap has etched into the glass and will leave a small ring shaped mark.", "Clay bar or goop, just be sure to test goop on paint first. If it doesn't discolor or cloud, it should be okay, just make site to wash your car immediately after to remove any residue.\n\nIf it's on glass, use a morale kit.", "A little bit of mayo dabbed on the sap for a few minutes, then wiped off with a little elbow grease. I wouldn't let the mayo dry. This worked great for tree sap that got on my car, very little effort actually needed. ", "WD-40 will work. Also, Mineral Spirits (often used as paint thinner) but be sure it does not touch the paint of your car. Both products perfectly safe and easy to use on glass. " ]

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[ "How to make up a story on the spot and read it to your little brother? I have this little brother and he absolutely loves action packed anime. Some times during the night he sometimes likes me to read him a story and on other nights he wants me to make one up. Usually I can but they're really badly set up and organized but he still loves them.\n\n\nBasically I'm trying to find ways to improve my story telling tricks to tell better stories to my brother. How do?", "How to make up a story on the spot and read it to your little brother? I have this little brother and he absolutely loves action packed anime. Some times during the night he sometimes likes me to read him a story and on other nights he wants me to make one up. Usually I can but they're really badly set up and organized but he still loves them.\n\n\nBasically I'm trying to find ways to improve my story telling tricks to tell better stories to my brother. How do?", "How to make up a story on the spot and read it to your little brother? I have this little brother and he absolutely loves action packed anime. Some times during the night he sometimes likes me to read him a story and on other nights he wants me to make one up. Usually I can but they're really badly set up and organized but he still loves them.\n\n\nBasically I'm trying to find ways to improve my story telling tricks to tell better stories to my brother. How do?" ]

[ "For my little cousin I started with a story I knew (like a favorite movie) but made the main character her and made it kid friendly. Involve him in the process...have him name the characters as you go along. Her favorite was my retelling of \"Scarface\" featuring Taylor the Doughnut Dealer who took over Sugar City and died in a pool of melted chocolate when the Dentist Department came to shut her down.", "I use the Dora the Explorer formula with my son (now 6). Protagonist must overcome three challenges to find mcguffin to vanquish antagonist. Keeps me from running down a rat hole and keeps stories fairly short. ", "I copy [this formula](https://youtu.be/Hhk4N9A0oCA). Good luck! You sound like a great older sibling :)" ]

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[ "Quitting Smoking I want to quit. I wanted to know if there were some tips on how to do it.\n\nBeen smoking for about 7 years.", "Quitting Smoking I want to quit. I wanted to know if there were some tips on how to do it.\n\nBeen smoking for about 7 years.", "Quitting Smoking I want to quit. I wanted to know if there were some tips on how to do it.\n\nBeen smoking for about 7 years.", "Quitting Smoking I want to quit. I wanted to know if there were some tips on how to do it.\n\nBeen smoking for about 7 years.", "Quitting Smoking I want to quit. I wanted to know if there were some tips on how to do it.\n\nBeen smoking for about 7 years.", "Quitting Smoking I want to quit. I wanted to know if there were some tips on how to do it.\n\nBeen smoking for about 7 years.", "Quitting Smoking I want to quit. I wanted to know if there were some tips on how to do it.\n\nBeen smoking for about 7 years.", "Quitting Smoking I want to quit. I wanted to know if there were some tips on how to do it.\n\nBeen smoking for about 7 years.", "Quitting Smoking I want to quit. I wanted to know if there were some tips on how to do it.\n\nBeen smoking for about 7 years.", "Quitting Smoking I want to quit. I wanted to know if there were some tips on how to do it.\n\nBeen smoking for about 7 years.", "Quitting Smoking I want to quit. I wanted to know if there were some tips on how to do it.\n\nBeen smoking for about 7 years.", "Quitting Smoking I want to quit. I wanted to know if there were some tips on how to do it.\n\nBeen smoking for about 7 years.", "Quitting Smoking I want to quit. I wanted to know if there were some tips on how to do it.\n\nBeen smoking for about 7 years." ]

[ "Probably the easiest would be vaping. Gum and patches, then drugs like Chantix probably in that order. I would suggest going to a brick and mortar shop and ask then questions", "Don't get suckered into \"replacing\" the habit, that just passes the addiction off to something else. Just think of the endgame. ", "As other people have said vaping is a good way to go, I have been off cigs for 4 years thanks to ecigs. I found it helpful when you hit 0mg get a really weird shaped ecig then it breaks the habit of \"smoking a cig\" you look a bit daft huffing on a a big kazoo but I found it helpful. All the best a take it a day at a time !!", "I smoked for about 10 years, What ultimately got me off it was vaping. \nHere in holland i bought a e-sig and i started using it full time because the transition from E-sig to normal sigarets was pretty rough on my throat. \n\nWhat really helped me quit was that i could lower the amount of nicotine that went into the e-sig without lowering the amount i used it. \nI went from 18MG nicotine to 12MG - 9MG - 6MG And zero.\nAnd once i hit zero i realised, \"what the hell am i still doing with this\"\n\nI started smoking for a few weeks twice since i stopped and the last time i quit smoking it took me less then a week. ", "Cold turkey. It's easy to quit. It is hard to stay quit. Keep trying. Identify and argue against your triggers.", "Start by try going one day without a cigarette. Don't try using replacements, just pick an easy day, make sure you have lots of things to do, ideally using your hands to keep them occupied, maybe chew ordinary gum if you need something for your mouth, and then just go one full day without a cigarette.\n\nIf you have a bad day and smoke a cigarette, don't think you haven't managed and give up, just start again tomorrow. \n\nKeep doing it, and eventually, one day, it won't be so hard. You'll still have bad days. I haven't had a cigarette in over 9 years, and the minute an anti-smoking ad comes on telly, I have to fight the urge to spark up. Its getting rarer though.", "I've been vaping for a while and have to say that it works the greatest when it comes to getting yourself off of your addiction to nicotine. \nI highly suggest purchasing a vape and tapering the nicotine levels on the juices you purchase until you inevitably reach 0mg -- if you continue to vape, it will just be satisfying the oral fixation aspect of smoking, which isn't bad. \n\nPlus, there are a ton of the juices available and they generally taste awesome!\n\n", "Start vaping, gradually lower the nicotine content until you get to 0mg and then you can make the choice whether or not to carry on vaping without nicotine, which is a much easier choice to make than going cold turkey.", "No you don't.\n\nIf you really want to quit smoking you have to do it by yourself.\nDont ask anyone to help you; We cant.\nIt's a thing you can only fight with your mind. Not with your body.", "I quit smoking 10 months ago. I tried the cold turkey way. The headache was horrible. I read drinking lots of water help s keep the headache at bay. That does help. Some. But still I needed some nicotine. I started vaping. 24 mg was to high for me. The taste was so nasty. So I had to go with the 7mg. I'm at 1.5 now. I probably could have been at 0 nicotine by now. But was having lots of general anxiety. I do feel much better . My lungs have cleared I smell things better and food is delicious. Lol \nBuying from online is much cheaper. Go to a local store test the flavors see what you want. Go online to buy. My favorite for juice is www.mittenvapors.com . Good luck ", "I quit several times. The best way was to toss out any remaining smokes and tell myself I would go buy more tomorrow, but for today I would not smoke. When tomorrow came, I would think about it and decide if I really wanted to smoke or not. The craving was there, but I eventually decided I would wait one more day. After about 5 days of this, the cravings were gone. ", "I highly recommend the cold turkey.\n\nYou've already climbed (at least) your first step, you want to stop.\nFrom this point it gets more difficult yet not at all complicated, stop smoking. You came back? nothing happened, get your determination back and the next time you'll triple your break from smoking, if you're a strong person you'd be able to get to a point where you would stop smoking indefinitely within a few months, maybe weeks.\n\nThis is a game of determination, are you strong enough to endure the \"difficulty\" (Of not wasting money and health) in favor of a better lifestyle? How long will you last? Would you be depended on others' approval? (I recommend that you praise yourself, for you are doing it for yourself, not for others).\n\nThis isn't an easy route, for some it's easier and others find it a real challenge, how ever you may feel towards this you must stay committed, even if you break, shake it off and start again.\n\nIt took me more than a year and a half to stop smoking, at first I stopped only for a few days, then weeks, then months, then it was half a year and now I haven't smoked for three years, it feels good.\n\nGood will.", "Billy55 green tea cigarettes really helped me. They have no tobacco and no nicotine, its literally just green tea rolled into a cig. Drags and burns almost identical to a cigarette and gives you the satisfaction of smoking something til it's done. When I tried vaping/e-cigs it bothered me that I never got that feeling of being \"done\" with a smoke. Get 4 packs on amazon for $10, 2 day shipping I think" ]

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[ "what's a discreet mirror I can use for my computer at work? So my boss rearranges seats in our open office floorplan several times a year (for seemingly no reason), and for the next rotation I get the seat with my back to the door. What a good way to have a mirror at my desk so I can see people coming up behind, without making it obvious I have a mirror?", "what's a discreet mirror I can use for my computer at work? So my boss rearranges seats in our open office floorplan several times a year (for seemingly no reason), and for the next rotation I get the seat with my back to the door. What a good way to have a mirror at my desk so I can see people coming up behind, without making it obvious I have a mirror?", "what's a discreet mirror I can use for my computer at work? So my boss rearranges seats in our open office floorplan several times a year (for seemingly no reason), and for the next rotation I get the seat with my back to the door. What a good way to have a mirror at my desk so I can see people coming up behind, without making it obvious I have a mirror?", "what's a discreet mirror I can use for my computer at work? So my boss rearranges seats in our open office floorplan several times a year (for seemingly no reason), and for the next rotation I get the seat with my back to the door. What a good way to have a mirror at my desk so I can see people coming up behind, without making it obvious I have a mirror?" ]

[ "Use a picture framed with a glass piece in front of it. Put a picture with dark colors or lots of black to increase mirror like qualities. ", "A mirror is going to be obvious no matter what you do. \n\nJust own it. Grab a side mirror from a car and prop it up on your desk. Bonus points if it still says \"objects in mirror may be closer than they appear.\"", "glad to have found this post. It's an automatic year round situation where my back is to the entrance of my cube and everyone can see what I'm doing all the time. ", "A pair of [Aviator sunglasses like these](https://dtpmhvbsmffsz.cloudfront.net/posts/2014/10/10/54380c0cdd7b7f727d076c9b/s_54380c11dd7b7f727d076ca1.jpg) have worked well for me in the past.\n\nUnlike a picture frame, they're convex and will give you a wider view. Also look into getting a set of privacy filter for your monitor. If anyone says anything, say it's for glare reduction." ]

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[ "How to make eye contact with someone or at least make it look like you're making eye contact with someone. ", "How to make eye contact with someone or at least make it look like you're making eye contact with someone. ", "How to make eye contact with someone or at least make it look like you're making eye contact with someone. ", "How to make eye contact with someone or at least make it look like you're making eye contact with someone. ", "How to make eye contact with someone or at least make it look like you're making eye contact with someone. ", "How to make eye contact with someone or at least make it look like you're making eye contact with someone. " ]

[ "If you can't make actual eye contact, look at the bridge of their nose. It will look like eye contact.", "I have the same problem. I usually force myself to stare at them and then make it an awkward and creepy situation", "Just suck it up and look at their eyes. If you try looking anywhere else and you're anywhere near them they'll be able to tell and you'll come across as a weirdo", "My aunt stares at my shoulder when she talks to me but it's super obvious and weird. I much rather have someone look me in the eyes, it let's you know they are actually listening to what you are saying. ", "If you're looking directly at a point less than 6\" from either of their eyes, it'll seem like you're looking them in the eye.", "I've found that looking at the nose (like others have suggested) works well, or you can try shifting your focus from one of their eyes to the other, then to their mouth, then back again, especially if they're talking to you." ]

[ 7, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to become (as much as possible) one of those people who are always laughing/smiling and seem to be in a good mood? I know no one is always happy and perfect, but recently I've met some people at work who always seem to be in a good mood. They smile and laugh easily (it's hard to describe but it's almost part of their vocabulary in a way) and they just generally seem happy. I feel like there's a stereotype of these people as ditzy but these folks genuinely seem happy and I want to be more like them. I feel like I'm too serious and too much of a pessimist.\n\nI've also been reading Team of Rivals (about Lincoln and his presidency) and one of the things that's struck me about the book is how frequently even in serious situations Lincoln seemed \"happy\" or made jokes etc., despite obviously being an incredibly serious individual. The way he dealt with slights and how often he used humorous stories. I want to learn some of these things and I feel like with intense practice and focus it should be achievable I'm just not sure where to start at all\n\nI understand maybe some aspects of your personality are immutable but I feel like there are certain things I could do to at least \"fake it\" and I'm hoping some of you can help out there\n\nI\n", "How to become (as much as possible) one of those people who are always laughing/smiling and seem to be in a good mood? I know no one is always happy and perfect, but recently I've met some people at work who always seem to be in a good mood. They smile and laugh easily (it's hard to describe but it's almost part of their vocabulary in a way) and they just generally seem happy. I feel like there's a stereotype of these people as ditzy but these folks genuinely seem happy and I want to be more like them. I feel like I'm too serious and too much of a pessimist.\n\nI've also been reading Team of Rivals (about Lincoln and his presidency) and one of the things that's struck me about the book is how frequently even in serious situations Lincoln seemed \"happy\" or made jokes etc., despite obviously being an incredibly serious individual. The way he dealt with slights and how often he used humorous stories. I want to learn some of these things and I feel like with intense practice and focus it should be achievable I'm just not sure where to start at all\n\nI understand maybe some aspects of your personality are immutable but I feel like there are certain things I could do to at least \"fake it\" and I'm hoping some of you can help out there\n\nI\n", "How to become (as much as possible) one of those people who are always laughing/smiling and seem to be in a good mood? I know no one is always happy and perfect, but recently I've met some people at work who always seem to be in a good mood. They smile and laugh easily (it's hard to describe but it's almost part of their vocabulary in a way) and they just generally seem happy. I feel like there's a stereotype of these people as ditzy but these folks genuinely seem happy and I want to be more like them. I feel like I'm too serious and too much of a pessimist.\n\nI've also been reading Team of Rivals (about Lincoln and his presidency) and one of the things that's struck me about the book is how frequently even in serious situations Lincoln seemed \"happy\" or made jokes etc., despite obviously being an incredibly serious individual. The way he dealt with slights and how often he used humorous stories. I want to learn some of these things and I feel like with intense practice and focus it should be achievable I'm just not sure where to start at all\n\nI understand maybe some aspects of your personality are immutable but I feel like there are certain things I could do to at least \"fake it\" and I'm hoping some of you can help out there\n\nI\n", "How to become (as much as possible) one of those people who are always laughing/smiling and seem to be in a good mood? I know no one is always happy and perfect, but recently I've met some people at work who always seem to be in a good mood. They smile and laugh easily (it's hard to describe but it's almost part of their vocabulary in a way) and they just generally seem happy. I feel like there's a stereotype of these people as ditzy but these folks genuinely seem happy and I want to be more like them. I feel like I'm too serious and too much of a pessimist.\n\nI've also been reading Team of Rivals (about Lincoln and his presidency) and one of the things that's struck me about the book is how frequently even in serious situations Lincoln seemed \"happy\" or made jokes etc., despite obviously being an incredibly serious individual. The way he dealt with slights and how often he used humorous stories. I want to learn some of these things and I feel like with intense practice and focus it should be achievable I'm just not sure where to start at all\n\nI understand maybe some aspects of your personality are immutable but I feel like there are certain things I could do to at least \"fake it\" and I'm hoping some of you can help out there\n\nI\n", "How to become (as much as possible) one of those people who are always laughing/smiling and seem to be in a good mood? I know no one is always happy and perfect, but recently I've met some people at work who always seem to be in a good mood. They smile and laugh easily (it's hard to describe but it's almost part of their vocabulary in a way) and they just generally seem happy. I feel like there's a stereotype of these people as ditzy but these folks genuinely seem happy and I want to be more like them. I feel like I'm too serious and too much of a pessimist.\n\nI've also been reading Team of Rivals (about Lincoln and his presidency) and one of the things that's struck me about the book is how frequently even in serious situations Lincoln seemed \"happy\" or made jokes etc., despite obviously being an incredibly serious individual. The way he dealt with slights and how often he used humorous stories. I want to learn some of these things and I feel like with intense practice and focus it should be achievable I'm just not sure where to start at all\n\nI understand maybe some aspects of your personality are immutable but I feel like there are certain things I could do to at least \"fake it\" and I'm hoping some of you can help out there\n\nI\n", "How to become (as much as possible) one of those people who are always laughing/smiling and seem to be in a good mood? I know no one is always happy and perfect, but recently I've met some people at work who always seem to be in a good mood. They smile and laugh easily (it's hard to describe but it's almost part of their vocabulary in a way) and they just generally seem happy. I feel like there's a stereotype of these people as ditzy but these folks genuinely seem happy and I want to be more like them. I feel like I'm too serious and too much of a pessimist.\n\nI've also been reading Team of Rivals (about Lincoln and his presidency) and one of the things that's struck me about the book is how frequently even in serious situations Lincoln seemed \"happy\" or made jokes etc., despite obviously being an incredibly serious individual. The way he dealt with slights and how often he used humorous stories. I want to learn some of these things and I feel like with intense practice and focus it should be achievable I'm just not sure where to start at all\n\nI understand maybe some aspects of your personality are immutable but I feel like there are certain things I could do to at least \"fake it\" and I'm hoping some of you can help out there\n\nI\n" ]

[ "This is also something that I’ve struggled with throughout my adult life (seemed to come more naturally when I was younger and in school).\n\nAt some point I decided that I was overall unhappy and everything from office interactions to having to do a daily household chores made me even more unhappy. In order to combat this, I tried to think of my life as more of a video game but with real life consequences: sort of like a modern day Skyrim or some shit.\n\nEssentially everything I did would build a “skill” or develop a relationship with an “NPC”. It really helped me to slow everything down and even bring a little fun and excitement to bad situations. It didn’t feel like it was beyond my control anymore, it felt like a challenge with an opportunity to advance my story.\n\nSince then, I’ve been substantially happier, gotten out of the apartment, met a lot of new people and made a lot of new friends. It’s amazing what you can do when you change the lens through how you see the world. ", "Practice Gratitude: write down a the things you are grateful for each day before bed and read them when you wake up the following day. Doing this daily will help keep the positive aspects of your life top of mind and help you feel happier.\n\nPositive self talk: Be mindful of how you talk to and about yourself. Most people tend to be harsh on themselves a lot of the time, spend a bit of time each morning to talk to yourself about how amazing you are, tell yourself you're a happy person and you will start to feel that way all the time.\n\nSmile and Laugh: Even if you have to fake it at first. Smiling will make you feel happy and will make other people smile back, that positive energy will make you start to feel happier and your smile will become natural. Laugh often, dont be shy to laugh at humorous situations, and when you're alone laugh outloud for fun, fake laughter often turns to real laughter and boosts your happy energy.\n\nWork at making other people happy: Pay people compliments, do nice things for people, tell jokes. Making people around you happy will reflect happiness back into your own life.\n\nBe openly enthusiastic: Adults tend to suppress their enthusiasm which tends to mute how we feel. When something excites you get openly excited, when you find something funny laugh out loud instead of chuckle. Observe how young children and dogs express joy and excitement and strive to mimic that level of enthusiasm, it might feel unnatural at first but other people tend to love it and it will make you feel happier.\n\nSpeak positively: if someone asks how you're doing dont say \"im ok\" \"not bad\" \"Cant Complain\" etc. instead say \"Im doing amazing\" \"I'm doing wonderfully\" \"Things are great\". The words you speak create your mood, and in a world that generally concentrates on the negatives you need to break the pattern and be positive.\n\nDont Complain: Every one has problems, everyone loves to complain. DONT DO IT! complaining gets you into a negative mindset and gets in the way of being happy, focus on the things that you are happy about, the things that excite you, the blessings you have in life.\n\nSurround yourself with happy people: you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with, spend your time with positive and up beat people and you will become one, but spend too much time with negative people and you will become of of them.", "“PHILOSOPHY WORKS\n\nJobs come and go, physical beauty fades, markets rise and fall. Even close relationships can end. But the benefits of philosophy last a lifetime. This 10-session course, PHILOSOPHY WORKS, offers time-tested principles that lead to freedom and sustainable happiness.”\n\nwww.philosophyworks.org\n\nI’ve seen this billboard on my miserable commute to work for years. This time, I’m going to give it a shot and try something new.", "Life is fleeting. Make jokes, have fun, don't take anything personal. What will you accomplish with a negative outlook? Are you benefiting from pessimism?", "I grew up with a bunch of pessimistic, judgmental, people hating people. Seriously, my family is always being shitty about something. It took me a really long time to learn to be happy and let things roll off my back. I like to think of a few options (some examples) when things get stressful or I’m feeling like being a soulless grump:\n• Can I find any humor in the situation, if so, laugh it off \n•Is this situation or decision really that big of a deal? Stop stressing.\n• Am I doing what makes me actually happy and not trying to please those around me?\n• Find some good in every situation. \n\nI’ve seriously changed my whole outlook on life by following these things. For example, as a woman I used to be instinctively judgmental of other women’s clothing options. Instead of thinking, “Omg what is she WEARING?” I might think, “You go girl, rock that style.” And just making these small changes in thinking patterns will evolve into better habits of just being positive about life. Sounds crazy but trust me. ", "Fake it 'till you make it if you're just worried about appearances. Kind of part of the job for customer service.\n\nBut otherwise, what you're asking is how to be happy. This requires the mindset to be at peace even in adverse situations. I think I do a good job, but it's a lifelong quest.\n\nGood luck finding a way to be jolly. :)" ]

[ 6, 3, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to stop telemarketing calls/robocalls that are coming from real people's private numbers? I get about 5-8 calls a day from telemarketers, and it's DRIVING ME CRAZY. At first, they were from real people, so I could ask them to take me off the list and that I'm registered on the Do Not Call List. Or they'd hang up as soon as I said I wasn't interested, so I didn't have the chance to ask but at least they knew I wasn't interested and they'd stop calling (I think). However, the past few months I've been getting more calls that have the same area code, and same first 3 digits as my own number. Normally they'll come up as \"Scam Likely\" on caller ID so I know not to answer, but these new calls seem like legit numbers. I pick up and there's no one on the other end and they hang up after 2-3 seconds. I'll call back and it's either a non-working number or a real person who insists they didn't just call me. I got 3 missed calls from a number just a few minutes ago, and when I called the guy was legitimately confused and insisted he hasn't called anyone within the last hour. What can I do to stop these calls? I'm hesitant to get a new number but I'm at a loss. Like I said, I'm already registered on the do not call list but I don't want to report these calls b/c I'm sure the scammers are bouncing off real working numbers of innocent people.", "How to stop telemarketing calls/robocalls that are coming from real people's private numbers? I get about 5-8 calls a day from telemarketers, and it's DRIVING ME CRAZY. At first, they were from real people, so I could ask them to take me off the list and that I'm registered on the Do Not Call List. Or they'd hang up as soon as I said I wasn't interested, so I didn't have the chance to ask but at least they knew I wasn't interested and they'd stop calling (I think). However, the past few months I've been getting more calls that have the same area code, and same first 3 digits as my own number. Normally they'll come up as \"Scam Likely\" on caller ID so I know not to answer, but these new calls seem like legit numbers. I pick up and there's no one on the other end and they hang up after 2-3 seconds. I'll call back and it's either a non-working number or a real person who insists they didn't just call me. I got 3 missed calls from a number just a few minutes ago, and when I called the guy was legitimately confused and insisted he hasn't called anyone within the last hour. What can I do to stop these calls? I'm hesitant to get a new number but I'm at a loss. Like I said, I'm already registered on the do not call list but I don't want to report these calls b/c I'm sure the scammers are bouncing off real working numbers of innocent people.", "How to stop telemarketing calls/robocalls that are coming from real people's private numbers? I get about 5-8 calls a day from telemarketers, and it's DRIVING ME CRAZY. At first, they were from real people, so I could ask them to take me off the list and that I'm registered on the Do Not Call List. Or they'd hang up as soon as I said I wasn't interested, so I didn't have the chance to ask but at least they knew I wasn't interested and they'd stop calling (I think). However, the past few months I've been getting more calls that have the same area code, and same first 3 digits as my own number. Normally they'll come up as \"Scam Likely\" on caller ID so I know not to answer, but these new calls seem like legit numbers. I pick up and there's no one on the other end and they hang up after 2-3 seconds. I'll call back and it's either a non-working number or a real person who insists they didn't just call me. I got 3 missed calls from a number just a few minutes ago, and when I called the guy was legitimately confused and insisted he hasn't called anyone within the last hour. What can I do to stop these calls? I'm hesitant to get a new number but I'm at a loss. Like I said, I'm already registered on the do not call list but I don't want to report these calls b/c I'm sure the scammers are bouncing off real working numbers of innocent people.", "How to stop telemarketing calls/robocalls that are coming from real people's private numbers? I get about 5-8 calls a day from telemarketers, and it's DRIVING ME CRAZY. At first, they were from real people, so I could ask them to take me off the list and that I'm registered on the Do Not Call List. Or they'd hang up as soon as I said I wasn't interested, so I didn't have the chance to ask but at least they knew I wasn't interested and they'd stop calling (I think). However, the past few months I've been getting more calls that have the same area code, and same first 3 digits as my own number. Normally they'll come up as \"Scam Likely\" on caller ID so I know not to answer, but these new calls seem like legit numbers. I pick up and there's no one on the other end and they hang up after 2-3 seconds. I'll call back and it's either a non-working number or a real person who insists they didn't just call me. I got 3 missed calls from a number just a few minutes ago, and when I called the guy was legitimately confused and insisted he hasn't called anyone within the last hour. What can I do to stop these calls? I'm hesitant to get a new number but I'm at a loss. Like I said, I'm already registered on the do not call list but I don't want to report these calls b/c I'm sure the scammers are bouncing off real working numbers of innocent people.", "How to stop telemarketing calls/robocalls that are coming from real people's private numbers? I get about 5-8 calls a day from telemarketers, and it's DRIVING ME CRAZY. At first, they were from real people, so I could ask them to take me off the list and that I'm registered on the Do Not Call List. Or they'd hang up as soon as I said I wasn't interested, so I didn't have the chance to ask but at least they knew I wasn't interested and they'd stop calling (I think). However, the past few months I've been getting more calls that have the same area code, and same first 3 digits as my own number. Normally they'll come up as \"Scam Likely\" on caller ID so I know not to answer, but these new calls seem like legit numbers. I pick up and there's no one on the other end and they hang up after 2-3 seconds. I'll call back and it's either a non-working number or a real person who insists they didn't just call me. I got 3 missed calls from a number just a few minutes ago, and when I called the guy was legitimately confused and insisted he hasn't called anyone within the last hour. What can I do to stop these calls? I'm hesitant to get a new number but I'm at a loss. Like I said, I'm already registered on the do not call list but I don't want to report these calls b/c I'm sure the scammers are bouncing off real working numbers of innocent people." ]

[ "Block them and try not to get upset when a new one crops up. Hiya is also a good app for advanced caller ID.", "Someone called me last night claiming she had a missed call from my number but I hadn't called anyone since my mom that morning. She was rather rude about it. I didn't realize what the issue was, I thought she misdialed or something. Is there any way to stop my phone number from being used in this manner? Or does anyone know how they obtained my number?", "It's been bad here too. What I've done is to auto reject any call not in my contacts and if it's someone unexpected then my vm says I'll call them back.\n\nI used to get 3-5 a day so I had no choice either ", "I use a blacklist program. If it's unknown or 800 it automatically declines. If it's important I'll check the voice mail. ", "I have this offer to reduce my interest rate and I asked the guy how to get off the list and he told me \" I can jump off a bridge\" I wish I was joking. The numbers keep changing and it reverts to a call center in India it seems. " ]

[ 4, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Organizing makeup, perfume, lotion bottles, etc? I have a ton of makeup, etc. taking up my entire desk in my dorm room. If I put it away in a drawer, I'll take it out again and it'll become a cluttered mess in no time! How can I consolidate stuff in a way that prevents me from creating clutter?", "Organizing makeup, perfume, lotion bottles, etc? I have a ton of makeup, etc. taking up my entire desk in my dorm room. If I put it away in a drawer, I'll take it out again and it'll become a cluttered mess in no time! How can I consolidate stuff in a way that prevents me from creating clutter?", "Organizing makeup, perfume, lotion bottles, etc? I have a ton of makeup, etc. taking up my entire desk in my dorm room. If I put it away in a drawer, I'll take it out again and it'll become a cluttered mess in no time! How can I consolidate stuff in a way that prevents me from creating clutter?", "Organizing makeup, perfume, lotion bottles, etc? I have a ton of makeup, etc. taking up my entire desk in my dorm room. If I put it away in a drawer, I'll take it out again and it'll become a cluttered mess in no time! How can I consolidate stuff in a way that prevents me from creating clutter?" ]

[ "Invest in a makeup case for your makeup. For perfume, why would you have multiple perfume bottles...? For lotion, remember to combine bottles of the same kind of lotion (when one bottle has very little left but you also have a three-quarters full bottle, too)", "something i found on pinterest is to use a cakestand that way you can see all your products, stack them efficiently and its cute decor as well.\n\nhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/10138908@N04/6556654017/", "how much makeup do you have? would it all be able to fit in something like [this?](http://www.acrylichomedesign.com/shop/media/AHD-HUA-H-1702-zoom.jpg) I know Target carries similar things!\n", "I don't know if you've ever seen them but you can buy sock organizers for your drawer- they're a really good size for organizing your makeup. For your perfume, you can buy a mini lazy susan for the top of your desk. It keeps everything contained in one place and easily accessible.\n\nOr you can buy mini plastic drawers and divide up your makeup by how you use it. So one drawer would be for what you use every day, one for weekend makeup, and one for things you have but don't use all that often. And remember that any kind of gel or liquid makeup will have an expiration date so don't keep mascara, concealer, foundation etc. past that time because it can collect bacteria that you don't want to keep putting all over your face. " ]

[ 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "I want to move out of my parents house as soon as possible, but have no Idea how? I'm not being abused or mistreated I just feel I'm supposed to have made 'progress' In my life and moving out is the first box I need to check. I there are any questions shoot away, I've got time.\n\nI realise I should include some basic information for better responses, here I go:\n\nI'm 19.\n\nI do have both parents in my life but their relationship is strained.\n\nI don't have friends. (I was never the most social guy, and the friends I did make I don't have their numbers.)\n\nI am lazy. (I recognise this is a problem I have and need to fix)\n\nI live Georgia. (close to the atl)\n\nI don't have a job/broke. (i've made an application on indeed although I'm not familiar with the site and haven't gotten any recommendations that I qualify to take.)\n\nI've had thoughts joining the military. (I've talked with my dad about it over the past two years about it but I've always left the conversation not sure wether to join or not.)\n\nI'm unsure about college. (I have thought about the degree I would like to take I'm just unsure wether or not to take the first step, plus I never really enjoyed the school although I always did enjoy science, until I took chemistry.)", "I want to move out of my parents house as soon as possible, but have no Idea how? I'm not being abused or mistreated I just feel I'm supposed to have made 'progress' In my life and moving out is the first box I need to check. I there are any questions shoot away, I've got time.\n\nI realise I should include some basic information for better responses, here I go:\n\nI'm 19.\n\nI do have both parents in my life but their relationship is strained.\n\nI don't have friends. (I was never the most social guy, and the friends I did make I don't have their numbers.)\n\nI am lazy. (I recognise this is a problem I have and need to fix)\n\nI live Georgia. (close to the atl)\n\nI don't have a job/broke. (i've made an application on indeed although I'm not familiar with the site and haven't gotten any recommendations that I qualify to take.)\n\nI've had thoughts joining the military. (I've talked with my dad about it over the past two years about it but I've always left the conversation not sure wether to join or not.)\n\nI'm unsure about college. (I have thought about the degree I would like to take I'm just unsure wether or not to take the first step, plus I never really enjoyed the school although I always did enjoy science, until I took chemistry.)", "I want to move out of my parents house as soon as possible, but have no Idea how? I'm not being abused or mistreated I just feel I'm supposed to have made 'progress' In my life and moving out is the first box I need to check. I there are any questions shoot away, I've got time.\n\nI realise I should include some basic information for better responses, here I go:\n\nI'm 19.\n\nI do have both parents in my life but their relationship is strained.\n\nI don't have friends. (I was never the most social guy, and the friends I did make I don't have their numbers.)\n\nI am lazy. (I recognise this is a problem I have and need to fix)\n\nI live Georgia. (close to the atl)\n\nI don't have a job/broke. (i've made an application on indeed although I'm not familiar with the site and haven't gotten any recommendations that I qualify to take.)\n\nI've had thoughts joining the military. (I've talked with my dad about it over the past two years about it but I've always left the conversation not sure wether to join or not.)\n\nI'm unsure about college. (I have thought about the degree I would like to take I'm just unsure wether or not to take the first step, plus I never really enjoyed the school although I always did enjoy science, until I took chemistry.)", "I want to move out of my parents house as soon as possible, but have no Idea how? I'm not being abused or mistreated I just feel I'm supposed to have made 'progress' In my life and moving out is the first box I need to check. I there are any questions shoot away, I've got time.\n\nI realise I should include some basic information for better responses, here I go:\n\nI'm 19.\n\nI do have both parents in my life but their relationship is strained.\n\nI don't have friends. (I was never the most social guy, and the friends I did make I don't have their numbers.)\n\nI am lazy. (I recognise this is a problem I have and need to fix)\n\nI live Georgia. (close to the atl)\n\nI don't have a job/broke. (i've made an application on indeed although I'm not familiar with the site and haven't gotten any recommendations that I qualify to take.)\n\nI've had thoughts joining the military. (I've talked with my dad about it over the past two years about it but I've always left the conversation not sure wether to join or not.)\n\nI'm unsure about college. (I have thought about the degree I would like to take I'm just unsure wether or not to take the first step, plus I never really enjoyed the school although I always did enjoy science, until I took chemistry.)", "I want to move out of my parents house as soon as possible, but have no Idea how? I'm not being abused or mistreated I just feel I'm supposed to have made 'progress' In my life and moving out is the first box I need to check. I there are any questions shoot away, I've got time.\n\nI realise I should include some basic information for better responses, here I go:\n\nI'm 19.\n\nI do have both parents in my life but their relationship is strained.\n\nI don't have friends. (I was never the most social guy, and the friends I did make I don't have their numbers.)\n\nI am lazy. (I recognise this is a problem I have and need to fix)\n\nI live Georgia. (close to the atl)\n\nI don't have a job/broke. (i've made an application on indeed although I'm not familiar with the site and haven't gotten any recommendations that I qualify to take.)\n\nI've had thoughts joining the military. (I've talked with my dad about it over the past two years about it but I've always left the conversation not sure wether to join or not.)\n\nI'm unsure about college. (I have thought about the degree I would like to take I'm just unsure wether or not to take the first step, plus I never really enjoyed the school although I always did enjoy science, until I took chemistry.)", "I want to move out of my parents house as soon as possible, but have no Idea how? I'm not being abused or mistreated I just feel I'm supposed to have made 'progress' In my life and moving out is the first box I need to check. I there are any questions shoot away, I've got time.\n\nI realise I should include some basic information for better responses, here I go:\n\nI'm 19.\n\nI do have both parents in my life but their relationship is strained.\n\nI don't have friends. (I was never the most social guy, and the friends I did make I don't have their numbers.)\n\nI am lazy. (I recognise this is a problem I have and need to fix)\n\nI live Georgia. (close to the atl)\n\nI don't have a job/broke. (i've made an application on indeed although I'm not familiar with the site and haven't gotten any recommendations that I qualify to take.)\n\nI've had thoughts joining the military. (I've talked with my dad about it over the past two years about it but I've always left the conversation not sure wether to join or not.)\n\nI'm unsure about college. (I have thought about the degree I would like to take I'm just unsure wether or not to take the first step, plus I never really enjoyed the school although I always did enjoy science, until I took chemistry.)", "I want to move out of my parents house as soon as possible, but have no Idea how? I'm not being abused or mistreated I just feel I'm supposed to have made 'progress' In my life and moving out is the first box I need to check. I there are any questions shoot away, I've got time.\n\nI realise I should include some basic information for better responses, here I go:\n\nI'm 19.\n\nI do have both parents in my life but their relationship is strained.\n\nI don't have friends. (I was never the most social guy, and the friends I did make I don't have their numbers.)\n\nI am lazy. (I recognise this is a problem I have and need to fix)\n\nI live Georgia. (close to the atl)\n\nI don't have a job/broke. (i've made an application on indeed although I'm not familiar with the site and haven't gotten any recommendations that I qualify to take.)\n\nI've had thoughts joining the military. (I've talked with my dad about it over the past two years about it but I've always left the conversation not sure wether to join or not.)\n\nI'm unsure about college. (I have thought about the degree I would like to take I'm just unsure wether or not to take the first step, plus I never really enjoyed the school although I always did enjoy science, until I took chemistry.)", "I want to move out of my parents house as soon as possible, but have no Idea how? I'm not being abused or mistreated I just feel I'm supposed to have made 'progress' In my life and moving out is the first box I need to check. I there are any questions shoot away, I've got time.\n\nI realise I should include some basic information for better responses, here I go:\n\nI'm 19.\n\nI do have both parents in my life but their relationship is strained.\n\nI don't have friends. (I was never the most social guy, and the friends I did make I don't have their numbers.)\n\nI am lazy. (I recognise this is a problem I have and need to fix)\n\nI live Georgia. (close to the atl)\n\nI don't have a job/broke. (i've made an application on indeed although I'm not familiar with the site and haven't gotten any recommendations that I qualify to take.)\n\nI've had thoughts joining the military. (I've talked with my dad about it over the past two years about it but I've always left the conversation not sure wether to join or not.)\n\nI'm unsure about college. (I have thought about the degree I would like to take I'm just unsure wether or not to take the first step, plus I never really enjoyed the school although I always did enjoy science, until I took chemistry.)", "I want to move out of my parents house as soon as possible, but have no Idea how? I'm not being abused or mistreated I just feel I'm supposed to have made 'progress' In my life and moving out is the first box I need to check. I there are any questions shoot away, I've got time.\n\nI realise I should include some basic information for better responses, here I go:\n\nI'm 19.\n\nI do have both parents in my life but their relationship is strained.\n\nI don't have friends. (I was never the most social guy, and the friends I did make I don't have their numbers.)\n\nI am lazy. (I recognise this is a problem I have and need to fix)\n\nI live Georgia. (close to the atl)\n\nI don't have a job/broke. (i've made an application on indeed although I'm not familiar with the site and haven't gotten any recommendations that I qualify to take.)\n\nI've had thoughts joining the military. (I've talked with my dad about it over the past two years about it but I've always left the conversation not sure wether to join or not.)\n\nI'm unsure about college. (I have thought about the degree I would like to take I'm just unsure wether or not to take the first step, plus I never really enjoyed the school although I always did enjoy science, until I took chemistry.)", "I want to move out of my parents house as soon as possible, but have no Idea how? I'm not being abused or mistreated I just feel I'm supposed to have made 'progress' In my life and moving out is the first box I need to check. I there are any questions shoot away, I've got time.\n\nI realise I should include some basic information for better responses, here I go:\n\nI'm 19.\n\nI do have both parents in my life but their relationship is strained.\n\nI don't have friends. (I was never the most social guy, and the friends I did make I don't have their numbers.)\n\nI am lazy. (I recognise this is a problem I have and need to fix)\n\nI live Georgia. (close to the atl)\n\nI don't have a job/broke. (i've made an application on indeed although I'm not familiar with the site and haven't gotten any recommendations that I qualify to take.)\n\nI've had thoughts joining the military. (I've talked with my dad about it over the past two years about it but I've always left the conversation not sure wether to join or not.)\n\nI'm unsure about college. (I have thought about the degree I would like to take I'm just unsure wether or not to take the first step, plus I never really enjoyed the school although I always did enjoy science, until I took chemistry.)", "I want to move out of my parents house as soon as possible, but have no Idea how? I'm not being abused or mistreated I just feel I'm supposed to have made 'progress' In my life and moving out is the first box I need to check. I there are any questions shoot away, I've got time.\n\nI realise I should include some basic information for better responses, here I go:\n\nI'm 19.\n\nI do have both parents in my life but their relationship is strained.\n\nI don't have friends. (I was never the most social guy, and the friends I did make I don't have their numbers.)\n\nI am lazy. (I recognise this is a problem I have and need to fix)\n\nI live Georgia. (close to the atl)\n\nI don't have a job/broke. (i've made an application on indeed although I'm not familiar with the site and haven't gotten any recommendations that I qualify to take.)\n\nI've had thoughts joining the military. (I've talked with my dad about it over the past two years about it but I've always left the conversation not sure wether to join or not.)\n\nI'm unsure about college. (I have thought about the degree I would like to take I'm just unsure wether or not to take the first step, plus I never really enjoyed the school although I always did enjoy science, until I took chemistry.)", "I want to move out of my parents house as soon as possible, but have no Idea how? I'm not being abused or mistreated I just feel I'm supposed to have made 'progress' In my life and moving out is the first box I need to check. I there are any questions shoot away, I've got time.\n\nI realise I should include some basic information for better responses, here I go:\n\nI'm 19.\n\nI do have both parents in my life but their relationship is strained.\n\nI don't have friends. (I was never the most social guy, and the friends I did make I don't have their numbers.)\n\nI am lazy. (I recognise this is a problem I have and need to fix)\n\nI live Georgia. (close to the atl)\n\nI don't have a job/broke. (i've made an application on indeed although I'm not familiar with the site and haven't gotten any recommendations that I qualify to take.)\n\nI've had thoughts joining the military. (I've talked with my dad about it over the past two years about it but I've always left the conversation not sure wether to join or not.)\n\nI'm unsure about college. (I have thought about the degree I would like to take I'm just unsure wether or not to take the first step, plus I never really enjoyed the school although I always did enjoy science, until I took chemistry.)", "I want to move out of my parents house as soon as possible, but have no Idea how? I'm not being abused or mistreated I just feel I'm supposed to have made 'progress' In my life and moving out is the first box I need to check. I there are any questions shoot away, I've got time.\n\nI realise I should include some basic information for better responses, here I go:\n\nI'm 19.\n\nI do have both parents in my life but their relationship is strained.\n\nI don't have friends. (I was never the most social guy, and the friends I did make I don't have their numbers.)\n\nI am lazy. (I recognise this is a problem I have and need to fix)\n\nI live Georgia. (close to the atl)\n\nI don't have a job/broke. (i've made an application on indeed although I'm not familiar with the site and haven't gotten any recommendations that I qualify to take.)\n\nI've had thoughts joining the military. (I've talked with my dad about it over the past two years about it but I've always left the conversation not sure wether to join or not.)\n\nI'm unsure about college. (I have thought about the degree I would like to take I'm just unsure wether or not to take the first step, plus I never really enjoyed the school although I always did enjoy science, until I took chemistry.)", "I want to move out of my parents house as soon as possible, but have no Idea how? I'm not being abused or mistreated I just feel I'm supposed to have made 'progress' In my life and moving out is the first box I need to check. I there are any questions shoot away, I've got time.\n\nI realise I should include some basic information for better responses, here I go:\n\nI'm 19.\n\nI do have both parents in my life but their relationship is strained.\n\nI don't have friends. (I was never the most social guy, and the friends I did make I don't have their numbers.)\n\nI am lazy. (I recognise this is a problem I have and need to fix)\n\nI live Georgia. (close to the atl)\n\nI don't have a job/broke. (i've made an application on indeed although I'm not familiar with the site and haven't gotten any recommendations that I qualify to take.)\n\nI've had thoughts joining the military. (I've talked with my dad about it over the past two years about it but I've always left the conversation not sure wether to join or not.)\n\nI'm unsure about college. (I have thought about the degree I would like to take I'm just unsure wether or not to take the first step, plus I never really enjoyed the school although I always did enjoy science, until I took chemistry.)", "I want to move out of my parents house as soon as possible, but have no Idea how? I'm not being abused or mistreated I just feel I'm supposed to have made 'progress' In my life and moving out is the first box I need to check. I there are any questions shoot away, I've got time.\n\nI realise I should include some basic information for better responses, here I go:\n\nI'm 19.\n\nI do have both parents in my life but their relationship is strained.\n\nI don't have friends. (I was never the most social guy, and the friends I did make I don't have their numbers.)\n\nI am lazy. (I recognise this is a problem I have and need to fix)\n\nI live Georgia. (close to the atl)\n\nI don't have a job/broke. (i've made an application on indeed although I'm not familiar with the site and haven't gotten any recommendations that I qualify to take.)\n\nI've had thoughts joining the military. (I've talked with my dad about it over the past two years about it but I've always left the conversation not sure wether to join or not.)\n\nI'm unsure about college. (I have thought about the degree I would like to take I'm just unsure wether or not to take the first step, plus I never really enjoyed the school although I always did enjoy science, until I took chemistry.)", "I want to move out of my parents house as soon as possible, but have no Idea how? I'm not being abused or mistreated I just feel I'm supposed to have made 'progress' In my life and moving out is the first box I need to check. I there are any questions shoot away, I've got time.\n\nI realise I should include some basic information for better responses, here I go:\n\nI'm 19.\n\nI do have both parents in my life but their relationship is strained.\n\nI don't have friends. (I was never the most social guy, and the friends I did make I don't have their numbers.)\n\nI am lazy. (I recognise this is a problem I have and need to fix)\n\nI live Georgia. (close to the atl)\n\nI don't have a job/broke. (i've made an application on indeed although I'm not familiar with the site and haven't gotten any recommendations that I qualify to take.)\n\nI've had thoughts joining the military. (I've talked with my dad about it over the past two years about it but I've always left the conversation not sure wether to join or not.)\n\nI'm unsure about college. (I have thought about the degree I would like to take I'm just unsure wether or not to take the first step, plus I never really enjoyed the school although I always did enjoy science, until I took chemistry.)", "I want to move out of my parents house as soon as possible, but have no Idea how? I'm not being abused or mistreated I just feel I'm supposed to have made 'progress' In my life and moving out is the first box I need to check. I there are any questions shoot away, I've got time.\n\nI realise I should include some basic information for better responses, here I go:\n\nI'm 19.\n\nI do have both parents in my life but their relationship is strained.\n\nI don't have friends. (I was never the most social guy, and the friends I did make I don't have their numbers.)\n\nI am lazy. (I recognise this is a problem I have and need to fix)\n\nI live Georgia. (close to the atl)\n\nI don't have a job/broke. (i've made an application on indeed although I'm not familiar with the site and haven't gotten any recommendations that I qualify to take.)\n\nI've had thoughts joining the military. (I've talked with my dad about it over the past two years about it but I've always left the conversation not sure wether to join or not.)\n\nI'm unsure about college. (I have thought about the degree I would like to take I'm just unsure wether or not to take the first step, plus I never really enjoyed the school although I always did enjoy science, until I took chemistry.)" ]

[ "You will need a steady income and some savings. Moving in with roommates is a great first step. Buy anything you need for your place second hand. Try to leave on good terms with your parents.", "First step is to save money. The more the better. Not only for bond, furniture and stuff but you want a few thousand in an emergency fund to fix the unexpected problem you will inevitably face. Once you have $10 or $20 thousand then go look for places. Since you have no rental history be prepared to rent the worst place you can imagine. Then after the lease is signed run out and buy your furniture and stuff.\n\nThen come home after a week to visit your mum and dad. They won’t say but they probably miss you. Maybe think up some problem they can help you solve if you don’t have any real issues for them to help you with.....it will make them feel needed.\n\n\nAlso, while your at home, get ya mum to teach you how to cook. Your dad can teach you a few home maintenance stuff you might need.\n\n\nOh, just to add, on your first night alone in your crappy old house don’t watch a horror movie about a haunted old crappy house......I did that and it was not a pleasant night😳", "1. Do you have a job?\n2. How much do you have in your savings?\n3. How old are you?\n4. Do you have friends in a similar position?", "As an Army vet, if you’re going to join the military, DO YOUR RESEARCH. The lifestyle isn’t for everyone and once you join, you can’t get out until your contract is up. I’d also join the Air Force over any other branch, they have the best quality of life. You also don’t have to go Active Duty, look into the Air Force reserves or guard. The reserves and guard are basically like being in the military part time and you can stay living in your home state. \n\nApart from the military, you’re definitely going to need some type of job before moving out and probably roommates.", "Save. Your. Money. \n\nLife is expensive. If you have a fairly good set up with your folks, don't waste money on rent", "Join the post office. They’ll take anyone. Good benefits and pension. Also you can transfer anywhere you’d like to live.", "Budget.\nWrite one out in a ledger if you don't like spreadsheet programs, but keep track of your income and expenses. Know going into a month how much you need to pay out so you don't overspend, and make sure savings is a line even of it is only one dollar you need to save intentionally, plan it out. \n\nApps are fine if they are free, but I think taking time once a week to focus on where you are and where you want to be is helpful in reaching any goal. Just don't get discouraged, it's about progress, not perfection; celebrate any milestones you can to keep your spirits and momentum up. \n\nGood luck.", "Whatever you end up doing: ask your parents in case you have to boomerang back home at some time n the future, even as a grow up with family...would they allow it?", "To make progress in your life, moving out is definitely NOT the first box you need to check. You need to come up with a plan and go through with it. The first step to making the progress should be get a job, start saving money, start working on your cr", "Stop what you're doing and listen to [this](https://youtu.be/JXeJANDKwDc), you'll change your mind in minutes.", "If one ignores any personal situations, then moving out should not be the 1st box to check, absolutely not, because it is a tough world in 2021 and flying solo especially at a young age certainly requires boxes checked or a plan to check them.\n\nI left my home at 23 to move to a new country to start my career and fly solo, I can give my advice at how I approached my priorities in my late teens.\n\n1: Sort out your plan to finish your education, if that means your college/university qualifications or apprenticeship qualifications but have that sorted as the tuitions are extremely expensive and even if this is the enabler for you to leave home still requires planning and budgeting.\n\n2: Education or further skill development is extremely helpful to get you a foot up the ladder if you plan to fly solo, better salary, higher salary career path, etc,etc, it should always value imo.\n\n3. My dad told me and I will tell my son: nothing in this life is handed to you, majority of people have to work hard and sacrifice to achieve their goals and get the nice things in life. But that makes the results and achievements so much sweet and life can be still be enjoyed when having this mindset.\n\n4. I also put it in my head that I am not the most talented or intelligent person so that means I have to work harder than the person next to me to keep up to the same level, this has been so helpful in my career as It meant I dedicated more time to a particular study or project than maybe was needed or required and simply putting the time and attention in, in most cases results in high quality and is noticed by employers/professors.\n\n5. Once you have the career/ future employment clearly laid out then I would consider location and best place to live and enjoy that next step in my life, of course the budgeting and cost of living calculations go along with that but the first steps secure you will have a strong income to support your lifestyle.\n\nGood luck friend!", "I wanted to come back with a more complete answer. Pick a job you want to do and try to get close to that in the military. The army, air force and coast guard have everything. You can be a veteranarian, cybersecurity specialist, anything. If you really really have no idea and just want money in a career go diesel mechanic. My pick would be boat engine mechanic in the coast guard.\nThe new gi bill is insanely good value. I got paid 2k a month plus free tuition to go to college for 3 years. My dude, tell me how you would regret just joining up.\nGood luck", "I can help with the whole moving out part, but making smaller progress like good habits while you work on bigger things is helpful and might clear your mind (making steps towards cleaning more and maintaining better hygiene and such). Other than that, maybe ask friends and extended family for help on what to do", "How old are you? If you’re under 20/21 then live at home and save money. Every penny, the world is different now and like 50k is the minimum base for what you’re worried about. If you’re over 22 then yea get a job and get your own spot. Work from there.", "Getting a place to live can be hard, and pretty costly, while staying with your parents start working on being a better roommate, it will relieve stress on the relation with your parents, if they see you doing your part they will be less on your back. \nIt will help you get over your \"being lazy\" situation.. and give you a nicer situation when you get your own roommates. \nwhat i mean by being a \"better roomate\": \n\\-Help with practical stuff like, dishes, cooking, cleaning, cloth washing (good to be used to doo anyway) \n\\-Make sure you are self running, you you need help, ask for it, plan it out with them. \n\\-Keep your appointments, get up i time, be ready on time, be quite during night..", "From personal experience, stay at your parents for as long as you can, if you can do so without affecting your mental health. I have a strained relationship with my mom at the best of times and I left when I was 19, i never fully realised how much it really cost to live alone.", "... LPT. Enjoy it. Save. Spend time with them. Help fix and keep their house. Instead of spending all the extra money.. travel... learn... sound like good parents from what you said... fortify the nest.. the world is crazy, you can travel cheaper than scrape by on your own and still contribute to the home." ]

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[ "How to get the \"funk\" out of a skiing helmet? I've had the same lid for a few years now, and its a little, um, funky... It has a polystyrene liner, hard outer shell, nylon straps and some fleece padding. What is a good way to get rid of that funk, or is this gear done?", "How to get the \"funk\" out of a skiing helmet? I've had the same lid for a few years now, and its a little, um, funky... It has a polystyrene liner, hard outer shell, nylon straps and some fleece padding. What is a good way to get rid of that funk, or is this gear done?", "How to get the \"funk\" out of a skiing helmet? I've had the same lid for a few years now, and its a little, um, funky... It has a polystyrene liner, hard outer shell, nylon straps and some fleece padding. What is a good way to get rid of that funk, or is this gear done?", "How to get the \"funk\" out of a skiing helmet? I've had the same lid for a few years now, and its a little, um, funky... It has a polystyrene liner, hard outer shell, nylon straps and some fleece padding. What is a good way to get rid of that funk, or is this gear done?" ]

[ "Throw it in the freezer in a few plastic bags over night. This is what I do with my sneakers. The cold kills the bacteria that is causing your gear to smell. ", "Submerge in hot water + laundry detergent, soak, rub with hands, rinse, let air dry. Legit detergent makes all the difference (patented enzymes?). ", "I was given a motorcycle helmet that was kept in the garage and smelled like cigarette smoke (ew). What I ended up doing was keeping a dryer sheet in it for a few days. Once the perfume smell of the dryer sheet was aired out, so was the cigarette smoke smell. The perfume was a littler overwhelming at first but more preferred over the cigarette smell. ", "I was all my helmets with body wash, they can get wet so just lather them up and rinse then let air dry. The plus side you can smell like an axe wearing douchebag when wearing your sick rockstar helmet. Well maybe not you but I do" ]

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[ "When applying for jobs, should a White person identify his or her race? Many employers advertise themselves as equal opportunity/affirmative action employers. It makes sense that it would benefit African-American, Hispanic, etc. applicants to identify their race since they are in the minority, so does it hurt Whites to identify or are we better off choosing an \"I choose not to identify\" option?", "When applying for jobs, should a White person identify his or her race? Many employers advertise themselves as equal opportunity/affirmative action employers. It makes sense that it would benefit African-American, Hispanic, etc. applicants to identify their race since they are in the minority, so does it hurt Whites to identify or are we better off choosing an \"I choose not to identify\" option?", "When applying for jobs, should a White person identify his or her race? Many employers advertise themselves as equal opportunity/affirmative action employers. It makes sense that it would benefit African-American, Hispanic, etc. applicants to identify their race since they are in the minority, so does it hurt Whites to identify or are we better off choosing an \"I choose not to identify\" option?", "When applying for jobs, should a White person identify his or her race? Many employers advertise themselves as equal opportunity/affirmative action employers. It makes sense that it would benefit African-American, Hispanic, etc. applicants to identify their race since they are in the minority, so does it hurt Whites to identify or are we better off choosing an \"I choose not to identify\" option?" ]

[ "HR person here, but please don't take my advice as a LPT. Generally, the only people who don't note their race on an application or check the \"refuse to answer\" box are Caucasian -- and depending on the reader of the application, you can piss an HR person off and effectively disqualify yourself before getting a chance to interview by not answering. If your resume is good enough, we will call you regardless for an interview and then guess at your race by looking at you, and may even fill in the blank on your behalf after the fact. \n\nTL;DR: just answer the question; don't overthink it. ", "No. Affirmative action is not what most people think it is. They will absolutely not throw away your application because you're white. ", "I think checking that box sends a negative reaction to the potential employer. If your not willing to answer a simple question on an application, they have to wonder if you'll not do what your told if hired.", "most employers still only meet the bare minimum for diversity in their workforce unless the manager is of non-anglo descent and probably inclined to want diversity. still better off noting that you're white seeing implicit unconscious preference & all. probably will still get an interview." ]

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[ "My office has a large fridge at 1C but no freezer. Is there something I can do to make one section of the freezer 0C or below? ", "My office has a large fridge at 1C but no freezer. Is there something I can do to make one section of the freezer 0C or below? ", "My office has a large fridge at 1C but no freezer. Is there something I can do to make one section of the freezer 0C or below? " ]

[ "You could try putting whatever you need frozen in a sealed bag, then putting it in a container of salty water. That might work.", "Sometimes, if you put it allllll the way in the back near where the cold air comes out, it's colder than 1C. It happens when I sometimes shove my milk back in the fridge and I take it out 2 days later and there's ice chunks.", "Probably not, if it's just a refrigerator. \n\nWhy would someone need a freezer at work? (Not being snarky. This is a serious question. Are you planning to bring ice cream to work?)\n" ]

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[ "How to become more decisive? Many a time I spend too much time making a decision because I don't want to hurt either party on each side. Or I have no idea which option will make me happier. Any tips?", "How to become more decisive? Many a time I spend too much time making a decision because I don't want to hurt either party on each side. Or I have no idea which option will make me happier. Any tips?", "How to become more decisive? Many a time I spend too much time making a decision because I don't want to hurt either party on each side. Or I have no idea which option will make me happier. Any tips?", "How to become more decisive? Many a time I spend too much time making a decision because I don't want to hurt either party on each side. Or I have no idea which option will make me happier. Any tips?" ]

[ "Flip a coin. After it lands, you may feel that you hoped for the other outcome, go with that. If you are still split, just go with the coins decision.", "...\"People have a great deal of anxiety about making decisions, 'Did I think this over long enough? Did I take enough data into consideration?' And if you think it through you find you never could take enough data into consideration, the data for a decision in any given situation is infinite. So what you do is you go through the motions of thinking about out what you will do about this, but worriers are people who think of all the variables beyond their control, and what might happen!...Choice is the act of hesitation that we make before making a decision, it is a mental wobbling, and so we are always in a dither of doubt as to whether we are behaving the right way, doing the right thing, and so on and so forth, and lack a certain kind of self confidence. And if you see you lack self confidence, you will make mistakes through sheer fumbling. If you do have self confidence you may get carried away doing the entirely the wrong thing. You have to regard yourself as a cloud, in the flesh, because you see clouds never makes mistakes. Did you ever see a cloud that was misshapen? Did you ever see a badly designed wave? Heh, no they always do the right thing! But if will treat yourself for awhile as a cloud, a wave, and realize that you can't make a mistake, whatever you do. Because even if you do something that seems to be totally disastrous, it all come out in the wash somehow or other. Then through this capacity you will develop a kind of confidence, and through confidence you will be able to trust your own intuition.\" ~Alan Watts", "If you think about, this is very similar to \"How to live without regret\".\n\nI mean, if you're having a lot of trouble deciding between two things, the trick really is to be able to pick one (even at random) without regretting that decision.\n\nConsider that being indecisive is the thing that makes you the most unhappy. So any decision would be a step up.\n\n\n", "I need these tips, too. I am very indifferent towards a lot of things so that I don't have to make decisions. And if someone wants me to help them with a decision, I'm useless. I just list pros and cons of all options, without giving an answer.\n\nLately, I've been trying the \"rash decision\" method. I go with the first thing that pops in my head, and if it's something minor, that's what I stick with. If it's a more significant decision, I give myself five minutes to ponder and that's that." ]

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[ "How to handle then really sad time after having to break up with a much loved and long term girlfriend, even if it was the right decision. I had to break up with my girlfriend of a very long time- we had become different people and starting different points in our life. It was the first time I'd ever had to break up with someone and she basically loved me more than anything. However, we weren't making each other as happy anymore and it was just tough. But now that it's all over, I feel like a mess and miss her a lot. Even though it was the right decision for sure, how the hell does one handle this really shitty feeling?", "How to handle then really sad time after having to break up with a much loved and long term girlfriend, even if it was the right decision. I had to break up with my girlfriend of a very long time- we had become different people and starting different points in our life. It was the first time I'd ever had to break up with someone and she basically loved me more than anything. However, we weren't making each other as happy anymore and it was just tough. But now that it's all over, I feel like a mess and miss her a lot. Even though it was the right decision for sure, how the hell does one handle this really shitty feeling?", "How to handle then really sad time after having to break up with a much loved and long term girlfriend, even if it was the right decision. I had to break up with my girlfriend of a very long time- we had become different people and starting different points in our life. It was the first time I'd ever had to break up with someone and she basically loved me more than anything. However, we weren't making each other as happy anymore and it was just tough. But now that it's all over, I feel like a mess and miss her a lot. Even though it was the right decision for sure, how the hell does one handle this really shitty feeling?" ]

[ "As shitty as it sounds, time is really the only way. First hand experience after a 5 year relationship.", "I'm going through the same thing. I can't offer you much advice, but finding something, or someone, to occupy your mind and time wouldn't be a bad idea. Too bad I can't just go to bed for a few months. ", "I haven't experienced this myself, but I think picking up a hobby, preferably one you can do with other people, will help you, as it will keep your mind busy." ]

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[ "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? " ]

[ "1. Accept that it is not possible to avoid pain in your life.\n2. Now you have to choose. Either suffer the pain of disciplin or suffer the pain of regret.", "I think for me, the fear is a reminder that I need to do it. That if I don't, the joy that could be in place of that fear will never be realized. That in itself is the tragedy. To have lived but never failed is to never fought and won.\n\nI know I still I am struggling still with my own self confidence to face some of those fears but if I look at it with cold logic, it just doesn't make sense to hold myself back like that. For example, I am in my late 30s and feel like I need to start getting paid for what I love and not what I hate. I am sure I am not alone in that either.", "Failure is part of the experience and is how you learn to build resilience, reliance on yourself, learn to trust yourself by doing what you say, seeing what happens, trying again and again until you have the results you’re looking for. All emotions start with a thought - including fear. What is the absolute worst thing that could happen if you failed? Brains love to catastrophize and you can manage your brain by telling it what you actually want to do at your higher level. Don’t let your toddler brain that wants to Netflix and chill all day win because it’s a temporary pleasure. The true satisfaction comes in being bosssy with yourself and just telling the toddler that yes, it might be difficult and we can still take one step towards our desire each day.", "Accept failure. Its fine to do poorly and its even fine to entirely fail. Instead of fearing failure just accept it as a potentiality and fight on regardless. Failure is usually a part of the process of doing something new anyway and sometimes that failure is not your fault and that's ok. Life is filled with randomness. A lot of people try to convince themselves they will succeed before they do but all that does is lead to poor decisions. Instead, recognizing and accepting failure as an option is much healthier and will keep you making smarter decisions, even if that decision is giving up or cutting your losses.", "> Thus conscience does make cowards of us all,\\\n \\\nAnd thus the native hue of resolution\\\n \\\nIs sicklied o'er with a pale cast of thought,\\\n \\\nAnd enterprises or great pitch and moment\\\n \\\nWith this regard their currents turn awry\\\n \\\nAnd lose the name of action.", "Fear is the mind-killer. \n\nSometimes you just got to say that I am going to do this. Then figure out the first step.", "Being paralyzed by a fear of failure is itself a failure. You can't succeed at a goal without attempting that goal. So go out and fail as often as possible. Failure is the best teacher I've ever had. As a wise man once said: Sucking at something is the first step towards being sorta good at something.\n\nEveryone you're comparing yourself against failed when they started out. They probably still fail from time to time. You just don't hear about their failures because it's rare for people to advertise that. The trick is in reframing the failure as a step towards learning how to succeed.\n\nFor example, I'm a decently fast runner. New people will join the run club I go to, and be embarrassed that they're running half the distance I am in the same amount of time. I tell them I'm not a naturally gifted athlete, I have a five year head start on them. I'd argue that's better than natural talent, because it's given me more opportunities to fail. This time in 2018 I couldn't run a full mile without stopping. But I was stubborn enough to keep failing at it until I was failing better. Eventually, I started succeeding." ]

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[ "How to make friends in a small town? So I’m a 19 year old male and I moved 45 minutes away from my home town for work, the town has 5,000 people. I just don’t know where to go or how to meet people, everyone I work with is in their late 20s so there’s not a big connection there, there’s not many activities, volunteer work, clubs, stuff like that around that I can join, and since I’m only 19 I don’t really have the option of going to the bars and meeting people there.", "How to make friends in a small town? So I’m a 19 year old male and I moved 45 minutes away from my home town for work, the town has 5,000 people. I just don’t know where to go or how to meet people, everyone I work with is in their late 20s so there’s not a big connection there, there’s not many activities, volunteer work, clubs, stuff like that around that I can join, and since I’m only 19 I don’t really have the option of going to the bars and meeting people there.", "How to make friends in a small town? So I’m a 19 year old male and I moved 45 minutes away from my home town for work, the town has 5,000 people. I just don’t know where to go or how to meet people, everyone I work with is in their late 20s so there’s not a big connection there, there’s not many activities, volunteer work, clubs, stuff like that around that I can join, and since I’m only 19 I don’t really have the option of going to the bars and meeting people there.", "How to make friends in a small town? So I’m a 19 year old male and I moved 45 minutes away from my home town for work, the town has 5,000 people. I just don’t know where to go or how to meet people, everyone I work with is in their late 20s so there’s not a big connection there, there’s not many activities, volunteer work, clubs, stuff like that around that I can join, and since I’m only 19 I don’t really have the option of going to the bars and meeting people there.", "How to make friends in a small town? So I’m a 19 year old male and I moved 45 minutes away from my home town for work, the town has 5,000 people. I just don’t know where to go or how to meet people, everyone I work with is in their late 20s so there’s not a big connection there, there’s not many activities, volunteer work, clubs, stuff like that around that I can join, and since I’m only 19 I don’t really have the option of going to the bars and meeting people there.", "How to make friends in a small town? So I’m a 19 year old male and I moved 45 minutes away from my home town for work, the town has 5,000 people. I just don’t know where to go or how to meet people, everyone I work with is in their late 20s so there’s not a big connection there, there’s not many activities, volunteer work, clubs, stuff like that around that I can join, and since I’m only 19 I don’t really have the option of going to the bars and meeting people there." ]

[ "Hey, Ch3dd!\n\nMy LPT was going to be to volunteer at the library. 5000 pop. is definitely in the small town category, but should have some sort of public library, right?\n\nWell, COVID strikes again, eh? \n\nNow, I''m thinking you could join the sub-reddit for your local town. Don't find one? Great. Make one!!! Then head on over to the sub-reddit for your State and/or your county. Start conversations about your town; any questions or topics could work. \n\nJust remember that there are good people to meet and know in a town the size of 5000.", "You can start with just a hi to the store workers at the places you do your shoppings. A smile here, a hello there. Just to start people to get comfortable wto your presence.", "Just a thought but offer to do yard work to help elderly people or people that have a lot of kids. Might be hard for them to do especially during covid. Of course this requires tools from you or them. If from them wash them well. Could also parlay into a nice side business but check if someone else in town is already doing it so you don't step on their turf.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nAlso if outdoor stuff to do like hiking wait at the head of the trail or at a choke point and \"take a break\" and then start talking to people that pass by and ask them questions. Would ask questions first about the trail and then say you are new in town and ask about town.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nOnce you get to know them you can ask them where the fun people in town are at.", "You could ask your co-workers what they do for fun that doesn’t involve alcohol since you’re underage. Other good places to meet people are the movies, comic/book shop, etc. You can also ask employees at any shops you go to for paraphernalia related to your hobbies for assistance.", "Small town?\n\nOutdoor activities. There's all but certain to be some sort of activities that are popular, AND most of them will still be going on in the midst of our current global pandemic. \n\nMountain biking, hiking, something. Talk to the people you work with and they will know.", "See if there are any local amateur sports groups. Some places have astro pitches where they play soccer or tag rugby. Even if your not big into sports it can be good fun." ]

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[ "prevent chafing/acne from collared shirt? I work at a grocery store, and part of my uniform requires that I wear a shirt and tie under my store smock. The collar ends up chafing terribly and causing acne on my neck, which I've struggled with for a long time. Any tips to prevent this?", "prevent chafing/acne from collared shirt? I work at a grocery store, and part of my uniform requires that I wear a shirt and tie under my store smock. The collar ends up chafing terribly and causing acne on my neck, which I've struggled with for a long time. Any tips to prevent this?" ]

[ "Try a little baby powder. Always does the trick for me. You could also try [glide](https://www.rei.com/product/745878/bodyglide-anti-chafe-formula-045-oz?cm_mmc=cse_PLA_GOOG-_-7458780017&CAWELAID=120217890000816639&CAGPSPN=pla&CAAGID=15877490680&CATCI=pla-126976847320&lsft=cm_mmc:cse_PLA_GOOG&gclid=CjwKEAjw8da8BRDssvyH8uPEgnoSJABJmwYoQmnQsznTxI0kE8mTz8uCyAsEnnJKdTGgU0rirvh4ixoCphHw_wcB), but it may aggravate your acne.", "If the shirt is too tight, get a bigger shirt. Or get that little clip that connects the button to the hole. " ]

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[ "How to get over a fear of dogs after being attacked by one When I was really young (about 3 or 4) I was attacked by a dog quite viciously, even now 15 years later I have two small scars on my forehead and under my left eye. I have a near paralyzing fear of dogs now, no matter how small or friendly, I freeze up near them and freak out if they touch me at all. I actually really like dogs (or at least the concept of them) but when near a real dog my body refuses to act rationally. This is something I want to overcome, does anyone know how I can?", "How to get over a fear of dogs after being attacked by one When I was really young (about 3 or 4) I was attacked by a dog quite viciously, even now 15 years later I have two small scars on my forehead and under my left eye. I have a near paralyzing fear of dogs now, no matter how small or friendly, I freeze up near them and freak out if they touch me at all. I actually really like dogs (or at least the concept of them) but when near a real dog my body refuses to act rationally. This is something I want to overcome, does anyone know how I can?", "How to get over a fear of dogs after being attacked by one When I was really young (about 3 or 4) I was attacked by a dog quite viciously, even now 15 years later I have two small scars on my forehead and under my left eye. I have a near paralyzing fear of dogs now, no matter how small or friendly, I freeze up near them and freak out if they touch me at all. I actually really like dogs (or at least the concept of them) but when near a real dog my body refuses to act rationally. This is something I want to overcome, does anyone know how I can?", "How to get over a fear of dogs after being attacked by one When I was really young (about 3 or 4) I was attacked by a dog quite viciously, even now 15 years later I have two small scars on my forehead and under my left eye. I have a near paralyzing fear of dogs now, no matter how small or friendly, I freeze up near them and freak out if they touch me at all. I actually really like dogs (or at least the concept of them) but when near a real dog my body refuses to act rationally. This is something I want to overcome, does anyone know how I can?", "How to get over a fear of dogs after being attacked by one When I was really young (about 3 or 4) I was attacked by a dog quite viciously, even now 15 years later I have two small scars on my forehead and under my left eye. I have a near paralyzing fear of dogs now, no matter how small or friendly, I freeze up near them and freak out if they touch me at all. I actually really like dogs (or at least the concept of them) but when near a real dog my body refuses to act rationally. This is something I want to overcome, does anyone know how I can?", "How to get over a fear of dogs after being attacked by one When I was really young (about 3 or 4) I was attacked by a dog quite viciously, even now 15 years later I have two small scars on my forehead and under my left eye. I have a near paralyzing fear of dogs now, no matter how small or friendly, I freeze up near them and freak out if they touch me at all. I actually really like dogs (or at least the concept of them) but when near a real dog my body refuses to act rationally. This is something I want to overcome, does anyone know how I can?", "How to get over a fear of dogs after being attacked by one When I was really young (about 3 or 4) I was attacked by a dog quite viciously, even now 15 years later I have two small scars on my forehead and under my left eye. I have a near paralyzing fear of dogs now, no matter how small or friendly, I freeze up near them and freak out if they touch me at all. I actually really like dogs (or at least the concept of them) but when near a real dog my body refuses to act rationally. This is something I want to overcome, does anyone know how I can?", "How to get over a fear of dogs after being attacked by one When I was really young (about 3 or 4) I was attacked by a dog quite viciously, even now 15 years later I have two small scars on my forehead and under my left eye. I have a near paralyzing fear of dogs now, no matter how small or friendly, I freeze up near them and freak out if they touch me at all. I actually really like dogs (or at least the concept of them) but when near a real dog my body refuses to act rationally. This is something I want to overcome, does anyone know how I can?", "How to get over a fear of dogs after being attacked by one When I was really young (about 3 or 4) I was attacked by a dog quite viciously, even now 15 years later I have two small scars on my forehead and under my left eye. I have a near paralyzing fear of dogs now, no matter how small or friendly, I freeze up near them and freak out if they touch me at all. I actually really like dogs (or at least the concept of them) but when near a real dog my body refuses to act rationally. This is something I want to overcome, does anyone know how I can?", "How to get over a fear of dogs after being attacked by one When I was really young (about 3 or 4) I was attacked by a dog quite viciously, even now 15 years later I have two small scars on my forehead and under my left eye. I have a near paralyzing fear of dogs now, no matter how small or friendly, I freeze up near them and freak out if they touch me at all. I actually really like dogs (or at least the concept of them) but when near a real dog my body refuses to act rationally. This is something I want to overcome, does anyone know how I can?" ]

[ "Find a good dog trainer and ask him if he will help you. \n\nUnfortunately the majority of dog trainers out there are absolute garbage and it will be hard to find someone that actually knows what they are doing.\n\nIf you are in the UK I can definitely put you in touch with somebody. ", "Golden retrievers. Seriously.\n\nThey are a breed that absolutely loves humans and the only type of dog I've ever owned. They are playful, obedient, loyal, and love you unconditionally. \n\nI will say this about goldens though....they are a lot of work. They shed quite a bit and I definitely recommend a long hair pet vacuum. Other than that, they are amazing. \n\n", "Get therapy. Seriously. A good therapist can walk you through systematic desensitization, and slowly ease your fears. ", "I've been attacked by a few dogs in my lifetime, I was 6 years old and it pulled me off the merry-go-round and scratched/bit my back until an older kid came and snapped its neck. \n\nI started with smaller dogs (my cousin always had hers with her) and eventually got comfortable around it. ", "I just got over a fear of frogs (more like a phobia) I had my whole life, so I might be able to help you. \nYour body reacts to learned behavior (dog+me=scare). Are you afraid of pictures of dogs or videos? Or is it just when they are physically near you?", "Simply avoid the obviously dangerous breeds like pit bull, Shepard etc and only go near the pug, Pom types.", "Think and talk about your fear. Also write about this.\n\nLearn how to calm down when your fear occurs then slowly expose yourself to dogs.", "Find someone you know with a very well trained dog. Walk it. Go for a long walk, that'll help you and the dog bond. Then when it's tired, go inside and sit down and pet it. It'll be less bouncy that way.", "A really good dog... I pulled a rottweiler off a girl about 6 years ago. It then turned on me and fucked me up pretty good. I recently started working on a home with a police trained German Shepard that could rip me in half and she's my best friend now. I was incredibly uneasy after having a dog I knew turn for no reason. This new dog is great but it still taught me anything is possible. That rotty I knew for years and it attacked a friend for 0 reason as we all stood in the yard talking.", "truth is dogs are fluffballs that love playing and are always friendly but they can fuck you up pretty badly if they want to. " ]

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[ "How to stop procrastinating Here I am, procrastinating while writing this post. I have a serious problem with a subconscious attitude of \"I can do it tomorrow\". Here I am, writing this post 2 days before a due date.", "How to stop procrastinating Here I am, procrastinating while writing this post. I have a serious problem with a subconscious attitude of \"I can do it tomorrow\". Here I am, writing this post 2 days before a due date.", "How to stop procrastinating Here I am, procrastinating while writing this post. I have a serious problem with a subconscious attitude of \"I can do it tomorrow\". Here I am, writing this post 2 days before a due date.", "How to stop procrastinating Here I am, procrastinating while writing this post. I have a serious problem with a subconscious attitude of \"I can do it tomorrow\". Here I am, writing this post 2 days before a due date.", "How to stop procrastinating Here I am, procrastinating while writing this post. I have a serious problem with a subconscious attitude of \"I can do it tomorrow\". Here I am, writing this post 2 days before a due date." ]

[ "Forget these complicated and joke answers. Here's how:\n\n**Set a timer for 10 minutes** and begin to do what you need to do. When the timer is up, take a break. Often times, you'll be on a roll with whatever you're doing and surpass the 10 minutes.\n\nExample: Write a paragraph for your paper in 10 minutes. Fill out job application in 10 minutes. You get the idea.", "download an extension. I use an extension called StayFocusd for Google Chrome and its perfect. You'll need to configure your own settings etc etc but for me, if im on reddit for more than 5 minutes the extension will automatically block this site. for 24 hours. Of course you can change the 24 hour rule or the 5 minute rule to anything else you like. You can find it on the Google Chrome App Store I believe. Hope this helps!", "Just do it.\nStop procrastination by taking action.\nThe real thing is why are you talking about taking action rather than taking action...\nSit down, or stand up, what ever is required... get moving.\nPlan and do! \nRead the 7 Habits of Highly Effective people.\nBe Proactive \nFirst Things First\nBegin with the end in mind \nEtc...\n\n\n\n", "I've had some success by counting to 20 in my head and telling myself that when I get to 20, I'll do the thing (whatever it might be). This sort of gives my mind time to adjust to the idea of actually doing the thing, but it still sort of lets me believe that I don't have to do it \"now\". You have to make sure you actually follow through, though; if you end up hitting 20 and still doing nothing, it just feels really awful and disappointing.", "I know this sounds useless but it works. Every time you relise you are procrastinating, close your eyes, focus for 4 or 5 seconds and the second you open your eyes go do your thing in berserk mode. Run, jump over the couch hit all the walls until you get to the place you want to go to, like when you came back from school as a kid a wanted to go play Zedla OoT on that nintendo 64. Just don't do this when waking up, it can really mess up your day.\nThis is no magic, i'll do it myself but right now I'm on reddit while I should be writing an essay. " ]

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[ "getting over a porn addiction Let me start off by saying that I know porn addiction can be taken as a joke in American society. There are usually those who think it is just porn and nothing is wrong with watching porn, and those who think that it is not possible to become addicted to something such as porn. To make a long story short, I have been watching porn since I was 11 and I would say on average it has been daily since then. I also have an attraction to older (35ish +), bbw women. This attraction very well may be porn induced, but I have been unable to give up porn long enough to tell. While I have watched porn daily on average, I have not sought out more and more novel porn, and if I have, it has been miniscule. I just have this attraction to older, bbw women and anytime I want to give up porn, I think to myself, \"I will just go out and meet a woman\" but then it spirals into me telling myself that I have a strange attraction and that I can't have anything serious with an age gap relationship like that, and it ends in me watching porn. I have had maybe three 30 day streaks where I gave up porn but I always resort back to it. It has been a constant battle with wanting to give it up only to end up watching it. I would really appreciate any kind of advice on this.\n\n\n", "getting over a porn addiction Let me start off by saying that I know porn addiction can be taken as a joke in American society. There are usually those who think it is just porn and nothing is wrong with watching porn, and those who think that it is not possible to become addicted to something such as porn. To make a long story short, I have been watching porn since I was 11 and I would say on average it has been daily since then. I also have an attraction to older (35ish +), bbw women. This attraction very well may be porn induced, but I have been unable to give up porn long enough to tell. While I have watched porn daily on average, I have not sought out more and more novel porn, and if I have, it has been miniscule. I just have this attraction to older, bbw women and anytime I want to give up porn, I think to myself, \"I will just go out and meet a woman\" but then it spirals into me telling myself that I have a strange attraction and that I can't have anything serious with an age gap relationship like that, and it ends in me watching porn. I have had maybe three 30 day streaks where I gave up porn but I always resort back to it. It has been a constant battle with wanting to give it up only to end up watching it. I would really appreciate any kind of advice on this.\n\n\n", "getting over a porn addiction Let me start off by saying that I know porn addiction can be taken as a joke in American society. There are usually those who think it is just porn and nothing is wrong with watching porn, and those who think that it is not possible to become addicted to something such as porn. To make a long story short, I have been watching porn since I was 11 and I would say on average it has been daily since then. I also have an attraction to older (35ish +), bbw women. This attraction very well may be porn induced, but I have been unable to give up porn long enough to tell. While I have watched porn daily on average, I have not sought out more and more novel porn, and if I have, it has been miniscule. I just have this attraction to older, bbw women and anytime I want to give up porn, I think to myself, \"I will just go out and meet a woman\" but then it spirals into me telling myself that I have a strange attraction and that I can't have anything serious with an age gap relationship like that, and it ends in me watching porn. I have had maybe three 30 day streaks where I gave up porn but I always resort back to it. It has been a constant battle with wanting to give it up only to end up watching it. I would really appreciate any kind of advice on this.\n\n\n", "getting over a porn addiction Let me start off by saying that I know porn addiction can be taken as a joke in American society. There are usually those who think it is just porn and nothing is wrong with watching porn, and those who think that it is not possible to become addicted to something such as porn. To make a long story short, I have been watching porn since I was 11 and I would say on average it has been daily since then. I also have an attraction to older (35ish +), bbw women. This attraction very well may be porn induced, but I have been unable to give up porn long enough to tell. While I have watched porn daily on average, I have not sought out more and more novel porn, and if I have, it has been miniscule. I just have this attraction to older, bbw women and anytime I want to give up porn, I think to myself, \"I will just go out and meet a woman\" but then it spirals into me telling myself that I have a strange attraction and that I can't have anything serious with an age gap relationship like that, and it ends in me watching porn. I have had maybe three 30 day streaks where I gave up porn but I always resort back to it. It has been a constant battle with wanting to give it up only to end up watching it. I would really appreciate any kind of advice on this.\n\n\n", "getting over a porn addiction Let me start off by saying that I know porn addiction can be taken as a joke in American society. There are usually those who think it is just porn and nothing is wrong with watching porn, and those who think that it is not possible to become addicted to something such as porn. To make a long story short, I have been watching porn since I was 11 and I would say on average it has been daily since then. I also have an attraction to older (35ish +), bbw women. This attraction very well may be porn induced, but I have been unable to give up porn long enough to tell. While I have watched porn daily on average, I have not sought out more and more novel porn, and if I have, it has been miniscule. I just have this attraction to older, bbw women and anytime I want to give up porn, I think to myself, \"I will just go out and meet a woman\" but then it spirals into me telling myself that I have a strange attraction and that I can't have anything serious with an age gap relationship like that, and it ends in me watching porn. I have had maybe three 30 day streaks where I gave up porn but I always resort back to it. It has been a constant battle with wanting to give it up only to end up watching it. I would really appreciate any kind of advice on this.\n\n\n", "getting over a porn addiction Let me start off by saying that I know porn addiction can be taken as a joke in American society. There are usually those who think it is just porn and nothing is wrong with watching porn, and those who think that it is not possible to become addicted to something such as porn. To make a long story short, I have been watching porn since I was 11 and I would say on average it has been daily since then. I also have an attraction to older (35ish +), bbw women. This attraction very well may be porn induced, but I have been unable to give up porn long enough to tell. While I have watched porn daily on average, I have not sought out more and more novel porn, and if I have, it has been miniscule. I just have this attraction to older, bbw women and anytime I want to give up porn, I think to myself, \"I will just go out and meet a woman\" but then it spirals into me telling myself that I have a strange attraction and that I can't have anything serious with an age gap relationship like that, and it ends in me watching porn. I have had maybe three 30 day streaks where I gave up porn but I always resort back to it. It has been a constant battle with wanting to give it up only to end up watching it. I would really appreciate any kind of advice on this.\n\n\n", "getting over a porn addiction Let me start off by saying that I know porn addiction can be taken as a joke in American society. There are usually those who think it is just porn and nothing is wrong with watching porn, and those who think that it is not possible to become addicted to something such as porn. To make a long story short, I have been watching porn since I was 11 and I would say on average it has been daily since then. I also have an attraction to older (35ish +), bbw women. This attraction very well may be porn induced, but I have been unable to give up porn long enough to tell. While I have watched porn daily on average, I have not sought out more and more novel porn, and if I have, it has been miniscule. I just have this attraction to older, bbw women and anytime I want to give up porn, I think to myself, \"I will just go out and meet a woman\" but then it spirals into me telling myself that I have a strange attraction and that I can't have anything serious with an age gap relationship like that, and it ends in me watching porn. I have had maybe three 30 day streaks where I gave up porn but I always resort back to it. It has been a constant battle with wanting to give it up only to end up watching it. I would really appreciate any kind of advice on this.\n\n\n", "getting over a porn addiction Let me start off by saying that I know porn addiction can be taken as a joke in American society. There are usually those who think it is just porn and nothing is wrong with watching porn, and those who think that it is not possible to become addicted to something such as porn. To make a long story short, I have been watching porn since I was 11 and I would say on average it has been daily since then. I also have an attraction to older (35ish +), bbw women. This attraction very well may be porn induced, but I have been unable to give up porn long enough to tell. While I have watched porn daily on average, I have not sought out more and more novel porn, and if I have, it has been miniscule. I just have this attraction to older, bbw women and anytime I want to give up porn, I think to myself, \"I will just go out and meet a woman\" but then it spirals into me telling myself that I have a strange attraction and that I can't have anything serious with an age gap relationship like that, and it ends in me watching porn. I have had maybe three 30 day streaks where I gave up porn but I always resort back to it. It has been a constant battle with wanting to give it up only to end up watching it. I would really appreciate any kind of advice on this.\n\n\n", "getting over a porn addiction Let me start off by saying that I know porn addiction can be taken as a joke in American society. There are usually those who think it is just porn and nothing is wrong with watching porn, and those who think that it is not possible to become addicted to something such as porn. To make a long story short, I have been watching porn since I was 11 and I would say on average it has been daily since then. I also have an attraction to older (35ish +), bbw women. This attraction very well may be porn induced, but I have been unable to give up porn long enough to tell. While I have watched porn daily on average, I have not sought out more and more novel porn, and if I have, it has been miniscule. I just have this attraction to older, bbw women and anytime I want to give up porn, I think to myself, \"I will just go out and meet a woman\" but then it spirals into me telling myself that I have a strange attraction and that I can't have anything serious with an age gap relationship like that, and it ends in me watching porn. I have had maybe three 30 day streaks where I gave up porn but I always resort back to it. It has been a constant battle with wanting to give it up only to end up watching it. I would really appreciate any kind of advice on this.\n\n\n", "getting over a porn addiction Let me start off by saying that I know porn addiction can be taken as a joke in American society. There are usually those who think it is just porn and nothing is wrong with watching porn, and those who think that it is not possible to become addicted to something such as porn. To make a long story short, I have been watching porn since I was 11 and I would say on average it has been daily since then. I also have an attraction to older (35ish +), bbw women. This attraction very well may be porn induced, but I have been unable to give up porn long enough to tell. While I have watched porn daily on average, I have not sought out more and more novel porn, and if I have, it has been miniscule. I just have this attraction to older, bbw women and anytime I want to give up porn, I think to myself, \"I will just go out and meet a woman\" but then it spirals into me telling myself that I have a strange attraction and that I can't have anything serious with an age gap relationship like that, and it ends in me watching porn. I have had maybe three 30 day streaks where I gave up porn but I always resort back to it. It has been a constant battle with wanting to give it up only to end up watching it. I would really appreciate any kind of advice on this.\n\n\n", "getting over a porn addiction Let me start off by saying that I know porn addiction can be taken as a joke in American society. There are usually those who think it is just porn and nothing is wrong with watching porn, and those who think that it is not possible to become addicted to something such as porn. To make a long story short, I have been watching porn since I was 11 and I would say on average it has been daily since then. I also have an attraction to older (35ish +), bbw women. This attraction very well may be porn induced, but I have been unable to give up porn long enough to tell. While I have watched porn daily on average, I have not sought out more and more novel porn, and if I have, it has been miniscule. I just have this attraction to older, bbw women and anytime I want to give up porn, I think to myself, \"I will just go out and meet a woman\" but then it spirals into me telling myself that I have a strange attraction and that I can't have anything serious with an age gap relationship like that, and it ends in me watching porn. I have had maybe three 30 day streaks where I gave up porn but I always resort back to it. It has been a constant battle with wanting to give it up only to end up watching it. I would really appreciate any kind of advice on this.\n\n\n", "getting over a porn addiction Let me start off by saying that I know porn addiction can be taken as a joke in American society. There are usually those who think it is just porn and nothing is wrong with watching porn, and those who think that it is not possible to become addicted to something such as porn. To make a long story short, I have been watching porn since I was 11 and I would say on average it has been daily since then. I also have an attraction to older (35ish +), bbw women. This attraction very well may be porn induced, but I have been unable to give up porn long enough to tell. While I have watched porn daily on average, I have not sought out more and more novel porn, and if I have, it has been miniscule. I just have this attraction to older, bbw women and anytime I want to give up porn, I think to myself, \"I will just go out and meet a woman\" but then it spirals into me telling myself that I have a strange attraction and that I can't have anything serious with an age gap relationship like that, and it ends in me watching porn. I have had maybe three 30 day streaks where I gave up porn but I always resort back to it. It has been a constant battle with wanting to give it up only to end up watching it. I would really appreciate any kind of advice on this.\n\n\n", "getting over a porn addiction Let me start off by saying that I know porn addiction can be taken as a joke in American society. There are usually those who think it is just porn and nothing is wrong with watching porn, and those who think that it is not possible to become addicted to something such as porn. To make a long story short, I have been watching porn since I was 11 and I would say on average it has been daily since then. I also have an attraction to older (35ish +), bbw women. This attraction very well may be porn induced, but I have been unable to give up porn long enough to tell. While I have watched porn daily on average, I have not sought out more and more novel porn, and if I have, it has been miniscule. I just have this attraction to older, bbw women and anytime I want to give up porn, I think to myself, \"I will just go out and meet a woman\" but then it spirals into me telling myself that I have a strange attraction and that I can't have anything serious with an age gap relationship like that, and it ends in me watching porn. I have had maybe three 30 day streaks where I gave up porn but I always resort back to it. It has been a constant battle with wanting to give it up only to end up watching it. I would really appreciate any kind of advice on this.\n\n\n" ]

[ "Group meetings or addiction recovery programs like alcoholics anonymous (or based on the AA model) I've heard can work well. Try googling something along those lines. Maybe there's something in your area that suits your needs?", "Why do you think the age gap is a problem? I have several female friends ~35-45 who are getting out of a marriage and have a huge sexual appetite and who date younger men because they can have more sex than a man their age.\n\nIn addition to sex, you'd get a friend who can help you make life decisions and could help you to become more refined.\n\nIt doesn't sound like you have an addiction. It just seems like you are afraid to go after the type of woman you are attracted to and are using porn as a crutch. \n\nGive it a shot irl. It'd be very easy with all the apps available. Just put on your profile what you're looking for and you will at least have a few opportunities.", "I've dealt with porn addiction in the past. It is a rough thing to fight against when the world around you doesn't see it as a problem. Its a subject more appropriate for DMs", "Seek the help of a professional. It’s good you recognize that you might be addicted to porn. However, your specific attraction might be linked to other issues you’re not dealing with appropriately. \nBut that’s what a doctor could determine.", "In my opinion, getting rid of a porn addiction doesn't necessarily mean you abstain entirely. It just means making a healthy relationship with it instead. In your own words, it hasn't gotten worse, just constant and in place of the idea that you can't have an older BBW.\n\nI don't know how old you are, but that doesn't sound unrealistic, at least eventually. And are you watching porn to the detriment of other things in life? If not, you may just really like it, and that's fine. And in personal experience, you can have tastes that range outside of your relationship as long as you truly love the one you're with. Even better if you can trust them with that fact about yourself so they may help you manage it.\n\nSo yeah. Porn isn't nearly as destructive to most as cigarettes, etc. so maybe just find a balance with it? Having too much causes you stress, and having none is just denying yourself a simple pleasure. It's all about moderation and keeping it in perspective.", "r/pornfree helped me out a lot. It just takes a lot of discipline and its not easy. Theres no silver bullet unfortunately. Hope you find a solution soon!\n\n", "How much porn are you watching a day? From your comments and OP, it doesn't sound like porn addiction. It sounds like you want porn to be the issue, so you can blame it for what you're attracted to. \n\nSadly (?) I suspect cutting out porn will do zero to change your attraction to over 35 bbw. You should just embrace it and maybe try dating other types of women to see if something develops.\n\nBut I suspect one of the reasons you've failed in the past is that you're treating it like a serious addiction whereas you should try treating it more like a lesser addiction, i.e. caffeine. Try weaning yourself off porn, instead of watching videos, spend a week only using photos for your alone time. Then the next week stories without photos. Then every other day alternative between stories and just your imagination. Then stories once every 3 days. Then once a week, then none at all. It'll do nothing to affect what you're attracted to, but at least you'll have achieved your goal of quitting porn. If you find yourself wanting to slip, get up and brush your teeth.\n\nStay away from that nofap nonsense. The reason porn is addictive is that it's instant gratification. So taking away that instant endorphin rush as well as the release from getting off is just making it many times more difficult for absolutely no real gain.", "Best of luck, man, any addiction is a challenge to overcome, but the freedom that comes with getting rid of it will save you.", "You can try this: https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home\n\nWorth reading. You have nothing to lose.", "So being able to recognize that watching porn is a problem is a great step. So for about 250ish, you can enroll yourself in a behavioral care facility/mental health. Typically they're for suicide, alcohol detox, or drug detox, if you live in Arkansas I can tell you about a great facility. If that doesn't appeal to you, you can try m", "I've gotten the death grip a few times and take breaks from it and try to do it in moderation. Some guys are just abstinent from masturbating but I can't do it. But I can alleviate the urge if I want to. I run a lot and just exercise in general. I just keep myself occupied with something. It's very general but it's why guys can be so focused and intense on one thing (be it cars, woodworking, exercising, playing music, video games) that it becomes their hobby and their life. \n\nYou have to find what defines you and makes you happy outside of porn. Like any unhealthy addiction, you have other things in your life you haven't discovered yet because you haven't tried it. I get that all people are different but from my experience with my other friends, guys tend to be very focused when they find their thing. For me it's been exercising and playing piano. Once I found something I enjoyed doing, I stuck with it and now it's all I think about when I'm at work and when I get home as opposed to flipping on porn the minute I get to my bedroom. \n\nOn the other hand, my gf does not like my obsessions with whatever I'm doing and I just tell her it's how guys are wired. They find their hobby and they stick with it. If she doesn't want me drinking or masturbating (something she has continuously been against) she will find me running or practicing music to perfection. It's not just her, it's been every woman I have been with so I figured it's just normal for a gf to find whatever flaw and complain about it. \n\nTL;DR find your hobby or passion and your tribe outside of porn and you will find a better quality of life. Porn will not define your life and only you can change that. Don't let it control you and say no to yourself when you need to.", "First off your going to need to unsubscribe from all the provocative and NSFW sub-reddits. Not seeing it every time you check your phone will help your brain start to re adjust to reality. Also try to find other hobbies that keep you active. Believe it or not the \"high\" from intense physical activity is something your body can get addicted to aswell. Even if it's just sprinting to the mailbox now and agin, it helps.", "Get a life, find a good woman to love, who will equally love you back - >>problem solved <<\nYou’re certainly not going to find that through your monitor/tv screen..💁🏽‍♂️" ]

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[ "How to sleep on an airplane. I'll start by explaining that I'm 6'3'' and space is an issue. My knees hit the chair in front of me, stretching my legs out straight is usually not possible, and my face hits the chair in front of me if I bend forward more than 45 degrees. however, it's not really the lack of space that makes it so hard for me to fall asleep, it's the stupid \"head-rest.\" I put it in quotes because **I can't actually rest my head against it**. The seat-back and head-rest are so vertically aligned that I literally can not tilt my head back far enough for the seat to actually bear any of the weight. My only options are to let my head droop down straight forward or off to one side - neither position is comfortable for more than a minute. If I get lucky enough to get a window seat, sometimes I can find some solace by resting my head against the side of the plane, but the vibrations from that are usually enough to keep me awake. Resting my head on the tray table is also not an option because my torso is too long. Neck Pillows may be the way to go, but they don't really seem like they provide support in the right areas, and they also are quite bulky at the back of the neck which would cause my whole body to be even more up-right.\n\nI've thought about bringing a large belt and strapping my head to the seat, immobilizing it, but I think that might garner some strange looks from the other passengers and crew.\n\nHas anyone cracked this conundrum? Am I not giving neck pillows a fair shake? Any recommendations on good OTC sleep aids?", "How to sleep on an airplane. I'll start by explaining that I'm 6'3'' and space is an issue. My knees hit the chair in front of me, stretching my legs out straight is usually not possible, and my face hits the chair in front of me if I bend forward more than 45 degrees. however, it's not really the lack of space that makes it so hard for me to fall asleep, it's the stupid \"head-rest.\" I put it in quotes because **I can't actually rest my head against it**. The seat-back and head-rest are so vertically aligned that I literally can not tilt my head back far enough for the seat to actually bear any of the weight. My only options are to let my head droop down straight forward or off to one side - neither position is comfortable for more than a minute. If I get lucky enough to get a window seat, sometimes I can find some solace by resting my head against the side of the plane, but the vibrations from that are usually enough to keep me awake. Resting my head on the tray table is also not an option because my torso is too long. Neck Pillows may be the way to go, but they don't really seem like they provide support in the right areas, and they also are quite bulky at the back of the neck which would cause my whole body to be even more up-right.\n\nI've thought about bringing a large belt and strapping my head to the seat, immobilizing it, but I think that might garner some strange looks from the other passengers and crew.\n\nHas anyone cracked this conundrum? Am I not giving neck pillows a fair shake? Any recommendations on good OTC sleep aids?", "How to sleep on an airplane. I'll start by explaining that I'm 6'3'' and space is an issue. My knees hit the chair in front of me, stretching my legs out straight is usually not possible, and my face hits the chair in front of me if I bend forward more than 45 degrees. however, it's not really the lack of space that makes it so hard for me to fall asleep, it's the stupid \"head-rest.\" I put it in quotes because **I can't actually rest my head against it**. The seat-back and head-rest are so vertically aligned that I literally can not tilt my head back far enough for the seat to actually bear any of the weight. My only options are to let my head droop down straight forward or off to one side - neither position is comfortable for more than a minute. If I get lucky enough to get a window seat, sometimes I can find some solace by resting my head against the side of the plane, but the vibrations from that are usually enough to keep me awake. Resting my head on the tray table is also not an option because my torso is too long. Neck Pillows may be the way to go, but they don't really seem like they provide support in the right areas, and they also are quite bulky at the back of the neck which would cause my whole body to be even more up-right.\n\nI've thought about bringing a large belt and strapping my head to the seat, immobilizing it, but I think that might garner some strange looks from the other passengers and crew.\n\nHas anyone cracked this conundrum? Am I not giving neck pillows a fair shake? Any recommendations on good OTC sleep aids?", "How to sleep on an airplane. I'll start by explaining that I'm 6'3'' and space is an issue. My knees hit the chair in front of me, stretching my legs out straight is usually not possible, and my face hits the chair in front of me if I bend forward more than 45 degrees. however, it's not really the lack of space that makes it so hard for me to fall asleep, it's the stupid \"head-rest.\" I put it in quotes because **I can't actually rest my head against it**. The seat-back and head-rest are so vertically aligned that I literally can not tilt my head back far enough for the seat to actually bear any of the weight. My only options are to let my head droop down straight forward or off to one side - neither position is comfortable for more than a minute. If I get lucky enough to get a window seat, sometimes I can find some solace by resting my head against the side of the plane, but the vibrations from that are usually enough to keep me awake. Resting my head on the tray table is also not an option because my torso is too long. Neck Pillows may be the way to go, but they don't really seem like they provide support in the right areas, and they also are quite bulky at the back of the neck which would cause my whole body to be even more up-right.\n\nI've thought about bringing a large belt and strapping my head to the seat, immobilizing it, but I think that might garner some strange looks from the other passengers and crew.\n\nHas anyone cracked this conundrum? Am I not giving neck pillows a fair shake? Any recommendations on good OTC sleep aids?", "How to sleep on an airplane. I'll start by explaining that I'm 6'3'' and space is an issue. My knees hit the chair in front of me, stretching my legs out straight is usually not possible, and my face hits the chair in front of me if I bend forward more than 45 degrees. however, it's not really the lack of space that makes it so hard for me to fall asleep, it's the stupid \"head-rest.\" I put it in quotes because **I can't actually rest my head against it**. The seat-back and head-rest are so vertically aligned that I literally can not tilt my head back far enough for the seat to actually bear any of the weight. My only options are to let my head droop down straight forward or off to one side - neither position is comfortable for more than a minute. If I get lucky enough to get a window seat, sometimes I can find some solace by resting my head against the side of the plane, but the vibrations from that are usually enough to keep me awake. Resting my head on the tray table is also not an option because my torso is too long. Neck Pillows may be the way to go, but they don't really seem like they provide support in the right areas, and they also are quite bulky at the back of the neck which would cause my whole body to be even more up-right.\n\nI've thought about bringing a large belt and strapping my head to the seat, immobilizing it, but I think that might garner some strange looks from the other passengers and crew.\n\nHas anyone cracked this conundrum? Am I not giving neck pillows a fair shake? Any recommendations on good OTC sleep aids?", "How to sleep on an airplane. I'll start by explaining that I'm 6'3'' and space is an issue. My knees hit the chair in front of me, stretching my legs out straight is usually not possible, and my face hits the chair in front of me if I bend forward more than 45 degrees. however, it's not really the lack of space that makes it so hard for me to fall asleep, it's the stupid \"head-rest.\" I put it in quotes because **I can't actually rest my head against it**. The seat-back and head-rest are so vertically aligned that I literally can not tilt my head back far enough for the seat to actually bear any of the weight. My only options are to let my head droop down straight forward or off to one side - neither position is comfortable for more than a minute. If I get lucky enough to get a window seat, sometimes I can find some solace by resting my head against the side of the plane, but the vibrations from that are usually enough to keep me awake. Resting my head on the tray table is also not an option because my torso is too long. Neck Pillows may be the way to go, but they don't really seem like they provide support in the right areas, and they also are quite bulky at the back of the neck which would cause my whole body to be even more up-right.\n\nI've thought about bringing a large belt and strapping my head to the seat, immobilizing it, but I think that might garner some strange looks from the other passengers and crew.\n\nHas anyone cracked this conundrum? Am I not giving neck pillows a fair shake? Any recommendations on good OTC sleep aids?", "How to sleep on an airplane. I'll start by explaining that I'm 6'3'' and space is an issue. My knees hit the chair in front of me, stretching my legs out straight is usually not possible, and my face hits the chair in front of me if I bend forward more than 45 degrees. however, it's not really the lack of space that makes it so hard for me to fall asleep, it's the stupid \"head-rest.\" I put it in quotes because **I can't actually rest my head against it**. The seat-back and head-rest are so vertically aligned that I literally can not tilt my head back far enough for the seat to actually bear any of the weight. My only options are to let my head droop down straight forward or off to one side - neither position is comfortable for more than a minute. If I get lucky enough to get a window seat, sometimes I can find some solace by resting my head against the side of the plane, but the vibrations from that are usually enough to keep me awake. Resting my head on the tray table is also not an option because my torso is too long. Neck Pillows may be the way to go, but they don't really seem like they provide support in the right areas, and they also are quite bulky at the back of the neck which would cause my whole body to be even more up-right.\n\nI've thought about bringing a large belt and strapping my head to the seat, immobilizing it, but I think that might garner some strange looks from the other passengers and crew.\n\nHas anyone cracked this conundrum? Am I not giving neck pillows a fair shake? Any recommendations on good OTC sleep aids?", "How to sleep on an airplane. I'll start by explaining that I'm 6'3'' and space is an issue. My knees hit the chair in front of me, stretching my legs out straight is usually not possible, and my face hits the chair in front of me if I bend forward more than 45 degrees. however, it's not really the lack of space that makes it so hard for me to fall asleep, it's the stupid \"head-rest.\" I put it in quotes because **I can't actually rest my head against it**. The seat-back and head-rest are so vertically aligned that I literally can not tilt my head back far enough for the seat to actually bear any of the weight. My only options are to let my head droop down straight forward or off to one side - neither position is comfortable for more than a minute. If I get lucky enough to get a window seat, sometimes I can find some solace by resting my head against the side of the plane, but the vibrations from that are usually enough to keep me awake. Resting my head on the tray table is also not an option because my torso is too long. Neck Pillows may be the way to go, but they don't really seem like they provide support in the right areas, and they also are quite bulky at the back of the neck which would cause my whole body to be even more up-right.\n\nI've thought about bringing a large belt and strapping my head to the seat, immobilizing it, but I think that might garner some strange looks from the other passengers and crew.\n\nHas anyone cracked this conundrum? Am I not giving neck pillows a fair shake? Any recommendations on good OTC sleep aids?", "How to sleep on an airplane. I'll start by explaining that I'm 6'3'' and space is an issue. My knees hit the chair in front of me, stretching my legs out straight is usually not possible, and my face hits the chair in front of me if I bend forward more than 45 degrees. however, it's not really the lack of space that makes it so hard for me to fall asleep, it's the stupid \"head-rest.\" I put it in quotes because **I can't actually rest my head against it**. The seat-back and head-rest are so vertically aligned that I literally can not tilt my head back far enough for the seat to actually bear any of the weight. My only options are to let my head droop down straight forward or off to one side - neither position is comfortable for more than a minute. If I get lucky enough to get a window seat, sometimes I can find some solace by resting my head against the side of the plane, but the vibrations from that are usually enough to keep me awake. Resting my head on the tray table is also not an option because my torso is too long. Neck Pillows may be the way to go, but they don't really seem like they provide support in the right areas, and they also are quite bulky at the back of the neck which would cause my whole body to be even more up-right.\n\nI've thought about bringing a large belt and strapping my head to the seat, immobilizing it, but I think that might garner some strange looks from the other passengers and crew.\n\nHas anyone cracked this conundrum? Am I not giving neck pillows a fair shake? Any recommendations on good OTC sleep aids?", "How to sleep on an airplane. I'll start by explaining that I'm 6'3'' and space is an issue. My knees hit the chair in front of me, stretching my legs out straight is usually not possible, and my face hits the chair in front of me if I bend forward more than 45 degrees. however, it's not really the lack of space that makes it so hard for me to fall asleep, it's the stupid \"head-rest.\" I put it in quotes because **I can't actually rest my head against it**. The seat-back and head-rest are so vertically aligned that I literally can not tilt my head back far enough for the seat to actually bear any of the weight. My only options are to let my head droop down straight forward or off to one side - neither position is comfortable for more than a minute. If I get lucky enough to get a window seat, sometimes I can find some solace by resting my head against the side of the plane, but the vibrations from that are usually enough to keep me awake. Resting my head on the tray table is also not an option because my torso is too long. Neck Pillows may be the way to go, but they don't really seem like they provide support in the right areas, and they also are quite bulky at the back of the neck which would cause my whole body to be even more up-right.\n\nI've thought about bringing a large belt and strapping my head to the seat, immobilizing it, but I think that might garner some strange looks from the other passengers and crew.\n\nHas anyone cracked this conundrum? Am I not giving neck pillows a fair shake? Any recommendations on good OTC sleep aids?", "How to sleep on an airplane. I'll start by explaining that I'm 6'3'' and space is an issue. My knees hit the chair in front of me, stretching my legs out straight is usually not possible, and my face hits the chair in front of me if I bend forward more than 45 degrees. however, it's not really the lack of space that makes it so hard for me to fall asleep, it's the stupid \"head-rest.\" I put it in quotes because **I can't actually rest my head against it**. The seat-back and head-rest are so vertically aligned that I literally can not tilt my head back far enough for the seat to actually bear any of the weight. My only options are to let my head droop down straight forward or off to one side - neither position is comfortable for more than a minute. If I get lucky enough to get a window seat, sometimes I can find some solace by resting my head against the side of the plane, but the vibrations from that are usually enough to keep me awake. Resting my head on the tray table is also not an option because my torso is too long. Neck Pillows may be the way to go, but they don't really seem like they provide support in the right areas, and they also are quite bulky at the back of the neck which would cause my whole body to be even more up-right.\n\nI've thought about bringing a large belt and strapping my head to the seat, immobilizing it, but I think that might garner some strange looks from the other passengers and crew.\n\nHas anyone cracked this conundrum? Am I not giving neck pillows a fair shake? Any recommendations on good OTC sleep aids?", "How to sleep on an airplane. I'll start by explaining that I'm 6'3'' and space is an issue. My knees hit the chair in front of me, stretching my legs out straight is usually not possible, and my face hits the chair in front of me if I bend forward more than 45 degrees. however, it's not really the lack of space that makes it so hard for me to fall asleep, it's the stupid \"head-rest.\" I put it in quotes because **I can't actually rest my head against it**. The seat-back and head-rest are so vertically aligned that I literally can not tilt my head back far enough for the seat to actually bear any of the weight. My only options are to let my head droop down straight forward or off to one side - neither position is comfortable for more than a minute. If I get lucky enough to get a window seat, sometimes I can find some solace by resting my head against the side of the plane, but the vibrations from that are usually enough to keep me awake. Resting my head on the tray table is also not an option because my torso is too long. Neck Pillows may be the way to go, but they don't really seem like they provide support in the right areas, and they also are quite bulky at the back of the neck which would cause my whole body to be even more up-right.\n\nI've thought about bringing a large belt and strapping my head to the seat, immobilizing it, but I think that might garner some strange looks from the other passengers and crew.\n\nHas anyone cracked this conundrum? Am I not giving neck pillows a fair shake? Any recommendations on good OTC sleep aids?", "How to sleep on an airplane. I'll start by explaining that I'm 6'3'' and space is an issue. My knees hit the chair in front of me, stretching my legs out straight is usually not possible, and my face hits the chair in front of me if I bend forward more than 45 degrees. however, it's not really the lack of space that makes it so hard for me to fall asleep, it's the stupid \"head-rest.\" I put it in quotes because **I can't actually rest my head against it**. The seat-back and head-rest are so vertically aligned that I literally can not tilt my head back far enough for the seat to actually bear any of the weight. My only options are to let my head droop down straight forward or off to one side - neither position is comfortable for more than a minute. If I get lucky enough to get a window seat, sometimes I can find some solace by resting my head against the side of the plane, but the vibrations from that are usually enough to keep me awake. Resting my head on the tray table is also not an option because my torso is too long. Neck Pillows may be the way to go, but they don't really seem like they provide support in the right areas, and they also are quite bulky at the back of the neck which would cause my whole body to be even more up-right.\n\nI've thought about bringing a large belt and strapping my head to the seat, immobilizing it, but I think that might garner some strange looks from the other passengers and crew.\n\nHas anyone cracked this conundrum? Am I not giving neck pillows a fair shake? Any recommendations on good OTC sleep aids?", "How to sleep on an airplane. I'll start by explaining that I'm 6'3'' and space is an issue. My knees hit the chair in front of me, stretching my legs out straight is usually not possible, and my face hits the chair in front of me if I bend forward more than 45 degrees. however, it's not really the lack of space that makes it so hard for me to fall asleep, it's the stupid \"head-rest.\" I put it in quotes because **I can't actually rest my head against it**. The seat-back and head-rest are so vertically aligned that I literally can not tilt my head back far enough for the seat to actually bear any of the weight. My only options are to let my head droop down straight forward or off to one side - neither position is comfortable for more than a minute. If I get lucky enough to get a window seat, sometimes I can find some solace by resting my head against the side of the plane, but the vibrations from that are usually enough to keep me awake. Resting my head on the tray table is also not an option because my torso is too long. Neck Pillows may be the way to go, but they don't really seem like they provide support in the right areas, and they also are quite bulky at the back of the neck which would cause my whole body to be even more up-right.\n\nI've thought about bringing a large belt and strapping my head to the seat, immobilizing it, but I think that might garner some strange looks from the other passengers and crew.\n\nHas anyone cracked this conundrum? Am I not giving neck pillows a fair shake? Any recommendations on good OTC sleep aids?", "How to sleep on an airplane. I'll start by explaining that I'm 6'3'' and space is an issue. My knees hit the chair in front of me, stretching my legs out straight is usually not possible, and my face hits the chair in front of me if I bend forward more than 45 degrees. however, it's not really the lack of space that makes it so hard for me to fall asleep, it's the stupid \"head-rest.\" I put it in quotes because **I can't actually rest my head against it**. The seat-back and head-rest are so vertically aligned that I literally can not tilt my head back far enough for the seat to actually bear any of the weight. My only options are to let my head droop down straight forward or off to one side - neither position is comfortable for more than a minute. If I get lucky enough to get a window seat, sometimes I can find some solace by resting my head against the side of the plane, but the vibrations from that are usually enough to keep me awake. Resting my head on the tray table is also not an option because my torso is too long. Neck Pillows may be the way to go, but they don't really seem like they provide support in the right areas, and they also are quite bulky at the back of the neck which would cause my whole body to be even more up-right.\n\nI've thought about bringing a large belt and strapping my head to the seat, immobilizing it, but I think that might garner some strange looks from the other passengers and crew.\n\nHas anyone cracked this conundrum? Am I not giving neck pillows a fair shake? Any recommendations on good OTC sleep aids?", "How to sleep on an airplane. I'll start by explaining that I'm 6'3'' and space is an issue. My knees hit the chair in front of me, stretching my legs out straight is usually not possible, and my face hits the chair in front of me if I bend forward more than 45 degrees. however, it's not really the lack of space that makes it so hard for me to fall asleep, it's the stupid \"head-rest.\" I put it in quotes because **I can't actually rest my head against it**. The seat-back and head-rest are so vertically aligned that I literally can not tilt my head back far enough for the seat to actually bear any of the weight. My only options are to let my head droop down straight forward or off to one side - neither position is comfortable for more than a minute. If I get lucky enough to get a window seat, sometimes I can find some solace by resting my head against the side of the plane, but the vibrations from that are usually enough to keep me awake. Resting my head on the tray table is also not an option because my torso is too long. Neck Pillows may be the way to go, but they don't really seem like they provide support in the right areas, and they also are quite bulky at the back of the neck which would cause my whole body to be even more up-right.\n\nI've thought about bringing a large belt and strapping my head to the seat, immobilizing it, but I think that might garner some strange looks from the other passengers and crew.\n\nHas anyone cracked this conundrum? Am I not giving neck pillows a fair shake? Any recommendations on good OTC sleep aids?", "How to sleep on an airplane. I'll start by explaining that I'm 6'3'' and space is an issue. My knees hit the chair in front of me, stretching my legs out straight is usually not possible, and my face hits the chair in front of me if I bend forward more than 45 degrees. however, it's not really the lack of space that makes it so hard for me to fall asleep, it's the stupid \"head-rest.\" I put it in quotes because **I can't actually rest my head against it**. The seat-back and head-rest are so vertically aligned that I literally can not tilt my head back far enough for the seat to actually bear any of the weight. My only options are to let my head droop down straight forward or off to one side - neither position is comfortable for more than a minute. If I get lucky enough to get a window seat, sometimes I can find some solace by resting my head against the side of the plane, but the vibrations from that are usually enough to keep me awake. Resting my head on the tray table is also not an option because my torso is too long. Neck Pillows may be the way to go, but they don't really seem like they provide support in the right areas, and they also are quite bulky at the back of the neck which would cause my whole body to be even more up-right.\n\nI've thought about bringing a large belt and strapping my head to the seat, immobilizing it, but I think that might garner some strange looks from the other passengers and crew.\n\nHas anyone cracked this conundrum? Am I not giving neck pillows a fair shake? Any recommendations on good OTC sleep aids?", "How to sleep on an airplane. I'll start by explaining that I'm 6'3'' and space is an issue. My knees hit the chair in front of me, stretching my legs out straight is usually not possible, and my face hits the chair in front of me if I bend forward more than 45 degrees. however, it's not really the lack of space that makes it so hard for me to fall asleep, it's the stupid \"head-rest.\" I put it in quotes because **I can't actually rest my head against it**. The seat-back and head-rest are so vertically aligned that I literally can not tilt my head back far enough for the seat to actually bear any of the weight. My only options are to let my head droop down straight forward or off to one side - neither position is comfortable for more than a minute. If I get lucky enough to get a window seat, sometimes I can find some solace by resting my head against the side of the plane, but the vibrations from that are usually enough to keep me awake. Resting my head on the tray table is also not an option because my torso is too long. Neck Pillows may be the way to go, but they don't really seem like they provide support in the right areas, and they also are quite bulky at the back of the neck which would cause my whole body to be even more up-right.\n\nI've thought about bringing a large belt and strapping my head to the seat, immobilizing it, but I think that might garner some strange looks from the other passengers and crew.\n\nHas anyone cracked this conundrum? Am I not giving neck pillows a fair shake? Any recommendations on good OTC sleep aids?", "How to sleep on an airplane. I'll start by explaining that I'm 6'3'' and space is an issue. My knees hit the chair in front of me, stretching my legs out straight is usually not possible, and my face hits the chair in front of me if I bend forward more than 45 degrees. however, it's not really the lack of space that makes it so hard for me to fall asleep, it's the stupid \"head-rest.\" I put it in quotes because **I can't actually rest my head against it**. The seat-back and head-rest are so vertically aligned that I literally can not tilt my head back far enough for the seat to actually bear any of the weight. My only options are to let my head droop down straight forward or off to one side - neither position is comfortable for more than a minute. If I get lucky enough to get a window seat, sometimes I can find some solace by resting my head against the side of the plane, but the vibrations from that are usually enough to keep me awake. Resting my head on the tray table is also not an option because my torso is too long. Neck Pillows may be the way to go, but they don't really seem like they provide support in the right areas, and they also are quite bulky at the back of the neck which would cause my whole body to be even more up-right.\n\nI've thought about bringing a large belt and strapping my head to the seat, immobilizing it, but I think that might garner some strange looks from the other passengers and crew.\n\nHas anyone cracked this conundrum? Am I not giving neck pillows a fair shake? Any recommendations on good OTC sleep aids?", "How to sleep on an airplane. I'll start by explaining that I'm 6'3'' and space is an issue. My knees hit the chair in front of me, stretching my legs out straight is usually not possible, and my face hits the chair in front of me if I bend forward more than 45 degrees. however, it's not really the lack of space that makes it so hard for me to fall asleep, it's the stupid \"head-rest.\" I put it in quotes because **I can't actually rest my head against it**. The seat-back and head-rest are so vertically aligned that I literally can not tilt my head back far enough for the seat to actually bear any of the weight. My only options are to let my head droop down straight forward or off to one side - neither position is comfortable for more than a minute. If I get lucky enough to get a window seat, sometimes I can find some solace by resting my head against the side of the plane, but the vibrations from that are usually enough to keep me awake. Resting my head on the tray table is also not an option because my torso is too long. Neck Pillows may be the way to go, but they don't really seem like they provide support in the right areas, and they also are quite bulky at the back of the neck which would cause my whole body to be even more up-right.\n\nI've thought about bringing a large belt and strapping my head to the seat, immobilizing it, but I think that might garner some strange looks from the other passengers and crew.\n\nHas anyone cracked this conundrum? Am I not giving neck pillows a fair shake? Any recommendations on good OTC sleep aids?" ]

[ "Drugs, neck pillow, eyeshades, earplugs, warm clothing, water. I'm 6'4\" and this is as close as one can get to sleep on an airplane. Be thankful you don't weigh a ton. It turns airplane seats into torture devices.", "I'm 6'2\" and fly on average 75,000 miles a year. \n\n90% of flights i'm asleep before takeoff. It's a matter of mind over matter, preparation, and some luck.\n\nIf its a longish flight, sleep deprive yourself before flight. if you're crossing more than a few timezones, a couple nights of sleep deprivation work wonders (2 nights at 3-4 hours of sleep) it gives you time to pack and do laundry and all that other shit while everyone else is sleeping.\n\nshort flight? just sleep less the night before, it makes it much easier to sleep on the plane.\n\nDont turn on the entertainment, dont stay up for the drink/meal. put some quiet music on and lean back. (soon as the plane takes off, or on the runway, that is if you're still awake, lean your chair back and close your eyes)\n\ni dont use a neck pillow or anything, on long flights 8+ hours i may take some antihistamine and booze to help pass the time.\n\nmy PR. 12 hour flight, woke up to the flight attendant saying \"sir raise your seat we're about to land\" \n", "You have to physically strap your head to the head rest. Trust me. This works. I discovered this on a road trip", "Take an inflatable beach ball. Blow it up part way so that is firm, yet has some cushion and shove it between your body and the seat in front of you. Instead of resting against the back of your seat, lay a blanket/sweatshirt over the beach ball and sleep on it instead. \n\nBecause your legs will be supporting it and your body will be leaning forward, you won't need to stretch your legs out as much. \n\nBeach balls are cheap and you can pick one up almost anywhere (even in the airport depending on location). You can also just deflate it at the end of your flight and shove it in your carry-on. Takes up no space.", "I'm 6'6 and I get absolutely everything you're saying about flights, the only tricks I've worked out so far that weren't mentioned - \n- turn your neck pillow around so the bulky part is under your chin (rest your head forward if your neck isn't too long)\n- if you're flexible enough, cross your legs against the back of the seat in front of you, it can be tricky getting into position and can mean turning your body left and right a few times but once in position you can slide your butt forward like you were sitting upon the tray table and rest your head on your legs or the headrest.\n\nBut yeah both of these aren't perfect, I tend to just wire myself up with coffee and watch the shit out of every in-flight movie.", "First, I am your size. Second, I have to travel around a lot, both domestic and international. \n\n* Get yourself a set of noise cancelling headphones.\n* Get one of those neck pillows.\n* Get a window seat when possible to lean against.\n* Learn how to m", "Xanex and a compressible camping pillow. 9/10 Dr's that you tell you have anxiety fear of flying and a complete inability to rest or sleep on the plane will give you 5-15 pills for your trip. 3 of the itty bitty pills knocked me out cold recently for nine of the 16 hours in my flight NY->Shanghai last week.", "On my most recent trans-continental flight, I managed to sleep through about 6 of the 9 hours with the combination of a neck pillow, a seat with little flip-down side headrests, a warm jacket, earplugs, and a couple of those little mini-bottles of red wine that they hand out freely on the long-haul flights. First time in my life I've actually slept through any appreciable portion of a flight, and before this, I had been on about 40 flights and probably only managed to catch about 3 hours of sleep in total across all of them.", "NyQuil gel caps and getting used to sleeping sitting up. I find that to be a great skill although I find myself also nodding off much more easily in boring meetings.", "If I have to sleep on a plane, I buy a sleep aid from a pharmacy with antihistamines. I tried taking one tablet, which put me to sleep but I had trouble waking up when I landed (to the point I ended up sleeping on the hard airport floor while waiting for my connecting flight). I took half a tablet instead and it worked better.\n\nI weigh 70kg so depending on your weight a full tablet might be a go. \n\nI find the sleeping tablet helps you be so drowsy that you can't help but fall asleep despite how uncomfortable you are.", "I can't believe no-one has mentioned this.\n\nHow much do you value sleeping on a plane in monetary terms? If it is enough to pay for a lie down bed in first/business class then go for this option.\n\nOtherwise drugs.", "Benadryl 25 mg take 1 when you get on the plane. takes 45 min to work, lasts about 6 hours. nice and drowsy,.,,,", "As someone who is both tall and a light sleeper, I feel your pain. The only thing I've found to work is self-medication. Valium is a Godsend, if you can hold of some.", "Anybody else waiting eagerly for Google's self drive cars, so that I can sit and sleep in relative comfort in my own car while it drives me overnight to my destination? With the trip to the airport, the need to arrive early, security and layovers, it will probably be just as fast for short and medium-range flights, and you can stop and get out for breaks whenever you want.", "1. earplugs 2. eyemask 3. sweatpants and hoodie. 4. Benadryl or anything that makes you sleep. Benadryl knocks me out.", "When you can reserve a seat on the plane, get the seat next to the emergency exit. It's the seat with the most leg space!", "Try listening to an audiobook, preferably of a book you've already read. I find it usually provides enough stimulus to block out most other things, but not enough to keep you awake.", "I either wedge my knees on the seat in front or lay my head on the tray or seat on front - looks uncomfortable but works well enough extra good to have a hoodie as a pillow or whatnot then you have a jacket and not a lame pillow to carry around", "Being tall sucks.\n\nYou can research which planes have a lot of space in which rows. I've seen some first rows of coach have enough space for average height people to lock their knees by propping their feet up on the bulkhead! If you got one of those rows, you could slump down in your seat and rest your head on something. Good luck!", "If you're travelling with a friend or family member book two seats on the two ends in the middle section. If you're lucky enough you'll get the two seats in betweem empty, mainly because, most people prefer the aisle seats. This way you can get the two seats in between to rest on!" ]

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[ "How do I get deep masculine voice ? People think I am shy and soft speaking. I am not easily heard. I always wanted a deep voice.", "How do I get deep masculine voice ? People think I am shy and soft speaking. I am not easily heard. I always wanted a deep voice.", "How do I get deep masculine voice ? People think I am shy and soft speaking. I am not easily heard. I always wanted a deep voice.", "How do I get deep masculine voice ? People think I am shy and soft speaking. I am not easily heard. I always wanted a deep voice.", "How do I get deep masculine voice ? People think I am shy and soft speaking. I am not easily heard. I always wanted a deep voice." ]

[ "I think whiskey and cigarettes are the classic way. My voice seems to get lower when I get some kinds of upper respiratory infections. ", "According to Morgan Freeman, whom i trust because of his melodic baritones, yawn a lot. if you do not know how to yawn a lot, learn to sing, because as a singer i picked that up very quickly as a breathing exercise. Basically, yawning relaxes your vocal chords, and over time can lead to them being less tense, giving you a naturally lower speaking voice. This method also gives you a deep voice without straining to and causing undue stress and damage to your vocal chords.", "You can do a lot of different things that mask your less than deep voice. But when you get excited or drop your guard your natural voice will come out and people will be like, wtf?", "I would go the other way. No one makes fun of Aaron Neville. \nCould be the tattoos on his face though. ", "From experience, get bronchitis. I lost my voice and when it came back I sounded like Micheal Clarke Duncan for 3 weeks." ]

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[ "How to not Smile whenever someone is talking to you? I'm a happy person who always smiles which may appear good at first but I smile at everything...\n\nA friend was sad and talking to me about the loss of their grandparent, I was unaware that I was smiling the whole time and she called me out on it. Saying \"what's so funny about this?!?!?!?\" The tone hurt, and I would like to know if there's a way to work on this habit. ", "How to not Smile whenever someone is talking to you? I'm a happy person who always smiles which may appear good at first but I smile at everything...\n\nA friend was sad and talking to me about the loss of their grandparent, I was unaware that I was smiling the whole time and she called me out on it. Saying \"what's so funny about this?!?!?!?\" The tone hurt, and I would like to know if there's a way to work on this habit. ", "How to not Smile whenever someone is talking to you? I'm a happy person who always smiles which may appear good at first but I smile at everything...\n\nA friend was sad and talking to me about the loss of their grandparent, I was unaware that I was smiling the whole time and she called me out on it. Saying \"what's so funny about this?!?!?!?\" The tone hurt, and I would like to know if there's a way to work on this habit. " ]

[ "Open your eyes a lil wider. Not to where you look creepy but maybe sliiiightly more intense. Sliiiiiightly purse your lips, just to have control not to look any different. Nod to acknowledge, not laugh. ", "mimic their facial expression but do this subtly if you can. people feel more comfortable and trust you more if you mimic their actions/poses. also if the smiling thing happens again, just simply apologize and explain that you can't help it. I'm sure they would understand. ", "I do this as well. I find not looking at the person in the eyes can help. If anyone asks why I'm not looking at them i tell them i have a hard time hearing so I'm really trying to listen hard.\n\nFocusing on another spot in the room has let me not smile at things so much. " ]

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[ "How do I find out my girlfriend's ring size for an engagement ring? Adding in info based on the comments I'm already getting. \n She doesn't already wear rings so I can't use that for comparison. \n She doesn't have any friends close enough to know her ring size.", "How do I find out my girlfriend's ring size for an engagement ring? Adding in info based on the comments I'm already getting. \n She doesn't already wear rings so I can't use that for comparison. \n She doesn't have any friends close enough to know her ring size.", "How do I find out my girlfriend's ring size for an engagement ring? Adding in info based on the comments I'm already getting. \n She doesn't already wear rings so I can't use that for comparison. \n She doesn't have any friends close enough to know her ring size.", "How do I find out my girlfriend's ring size for an engagement ring? 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Adding in info based on the comments I'm already getting. \n She doesn't already wear rings so I can't use that for comparison. \n She doesn't have any friends close enough to know her ring size.", "How do I find out my girlfriend's ring size for an engagement ring? Adding in info based on the comments I'm already getting. \n She doesn't already wear rings so I can't use that for comparison. \n She doesn't have any friends close enough to know her ring size.", "How do I find out my girlfriend's ring size for an engagement ring? Adding in info based on the comments I'm already getting. \n She doesn't already wear rings so I can't use that for comparison. \n She doesn't have any friends close enough to know her ring size.", "How do I find out my girlfriend's ring size for an engagement ring? Adding in info based on the comments I'm already getting. \n She doesn't already wear rings so I can't use that for comparison. \n She doesn't have any friends close enough to know her ring size." ]

[ "You ask her. \n\nIf she doesn't already know that you'll be proposing, then you're making a mistake. This should be discussed before you go asking. So the only thing that's a surprise is when it happens.", "Take her to a jeweler and get her sized for a ring.\n\nShe will love it.\n\nThis is 100% guaranteed to work perfectly.", "I asked my now in laws to get her ring size after I asked them for their blessing. My wife’s mom told her that an aunt wanted to give her a ring but needed to know if it was her size or not. So trickery 😉", "When she's sleeping take a string and wrap it on her finger, mark the size with a marker. Does not work for light sleepers. You can also try with a bandaid", "get her to finger your ass...now clench and hold it until you can get to the jewellers in the morning.", "awww. i just remembered how my dad did this (1952). he said he wanted to look closer at her school ring and then he slid it onto his pinky when she wasnt paying attention. it went to his first knuckle and that was what he showed the jeweler when he went to buy her ring.", "i like the idea of buying a cheap ring in an average size and then after you ask you can get the real ring :)", "You do not need the ring to purpose. The moment is about the question not the ring. After you get your answer be honest with them. Tell them you could not decide which ring to get, and show them 3 different rings at the store. One they will pick the ring they like best. Two bring up wedding bands and you will make the moment more important.", "Don’t propose to someone you can’t communicate with. Surprises are only cute in movies. Ask her what her ring size is.", "Most people get the ring resized after they give it to them. Most places will do it within 24 hours and that way you get it perfect.", "Getting engaged is something to discuss seriously and picking out a ring together is much better than springing a surprise. You can still have all the fun of the surprise if the only thing you don't plan together is the day you propose.", "Find a reasonably cheap but cute ring on etsy or in a store that doesn't look like an engagement ring but matches her aesthetic. Say you want to get it for her because it made you think of her and measure her for the ring under that pretense. \n\nSave the ring size.", "Buy it oversized. When you put it on her finger it'll go right on and she won't care about having a loose ring on her finger that night. Then you can bring it and have it sized", "Buy an inexpensive ring and use that one to propose. Something obviously NOT an engagement ring, no tiny faux stones, no big faux stones. Something like this:\nhttps://www.kohls.com/product/prd-4266950/love-this-life-journey-wrap-ring.jsp?pfm=bdrecs-WebStore-PDP-Horizontal3-b1275-279&bdrecsId=d00cd04e-efa9-4f7d-899c-33e6c47422ef\n\nThen you tell her that you want her to help you choose her engagement ring. And don't go crazy, set a budget. My husband bought me a big ol diamond ring that is very nice, but I really would have preferred a different shape stone, and something other than a diamond (to be honest). And something less expensive, I cringed when I found out what he paid for it... 😬 The salesperson at the jewelry store persuaded him into buying something more than he should have, because it's their business to SELL. When you and your fiancée go out shopping, go to several stores (and don't forget vintage jewelry stores, too) and take your time making this very important purchase.", "This is one reason the promise ring is useful. If you get it wrong the cost is low, and then you learn the right size.", "Take a(thin, the thinnest you can find) glove she owns and fill it with sand. Take it to the jeweler, and he'll measure the diameter and subtract the width of the glove wall. You'll be left with a measurement in cm, which will match up with a size the jeweler will have on hand.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nGood luck!", "Jewelry stores tend to only have a few common sizes. The ring will most likely need to be sized regardless. Also, use some creativity and try to figure out what she would like. People are starting to use alternative stones to diamonds for engagement rings. I showed my fiance what I wanted, white saphire, round stone, square body. I loved it. Qe ordered it. Behind my back he cancelled it and ordered the same style but an actual diamond. We ended up returning it for the sapphire. I cannot justify spending thousands on 1 ring when there are so many good quality beautiful alternatives.", "If I were her, I'd want you to ask. \"hey, I'm really serious about you...what's your ring size?\" Or whatever. You can downplay it so that it's not a big deal, but I'd want you to get the size right (coming from a size 6 who was proposed to with a size 5 😂)\nAlso, this is exciting!! Do you know much about rings? Where are you looking?", "You’re walking a dangerous path. The penalties for picking too large or too small may be equally terrifying. Godspeed and good luck." ]

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[ "What's the best way to move out of town without a job? I'm currently in the IT field, but don't have a degree. Ive tried looking through Monster for jobs out of state, but recruiters that i have spoken to pretty said theres no chance to get a job out of state(for someone with as much credentials as me at least). Don't know anyone in other states either.", "What's the best way to move out of town without a job? I'm currently in the IT field, but don't have a degree. Ive tried looking through Monster for jobs out of state, but recruiters that i have spoken to pretty said theres no chance to get a job out of state(for someone with as much credentials as me at least). Don't know anyone in other states either.", "What's the best way to move out of town without a job? I'm currently in the IT field, but don't have a degree. Ive tried looking through Monster for jobs out of state, but recruiters that i have spoken to pretty said theres no chance to get a job out of state(for someone with as much credentials as me at least). Don't know anyone in other states either.", "What's the best way to move out of town without a job? I'm currently in the IT field, but don't have a degree. Ive tried looking through Monster for jobs out of state, but recruiters that i have spoken to pretty said theres no chance to get a job out of state(for someone with as much credentials as me at least). Don't know anyone in other states either." ]

[ "Work with a contract-placement firm, like Robert Half Technology, that is in both your area and the area you want to move to. Work with them here, and then see if they can place you through another branch.", "I honestly just left one day. I moved from upstate NY to LA, CA and I did so having decided on Feb 23rd and leaving on the 27th. I got out here and started looking for jobs. I set up apartment ahead of time and had a few thousand dollars saved to get me through. It took me about 2 months to find a job that I would stick with.\n\nDo it. Just do it!!! Life is best lived by the living...or something like that.", "Don't be afraid to hit the streets, literally, with your resume. I've had great luck printing out different resumes with different categories of jobs and experiences and handing them out to the appropriate companies and/or establishments. Any job is a good job when new to a new place. ", "Search USA Jobs. Get a job as a Gs 02 or Gs 01, make a resume and put all experience you have on there; if you've hiked, backpacked, worked in the yard, you name it. I'm taking a job as biological technician and am going out of state to do the job. Gs 01, 02 don't need school other than high school. Although, summer jobs are closing soon." ]

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[ "Getting daily nutrients in university? I'm finding it tremendously hard to get in all my vitamins, minerals, proteins, calories ..etc.. in university. Any advice? ", "Getting daily nutrients in university? I'm finding it tremendously hard to get in all my vitamins, minerals, proteins, calories ..etc.. in university. Any advice? " ]

[ "Do you have access to a kitchen with a stove top, refrigerator, and pantry? Balanced meals can be planned in advance, same with grocery shopping.", "Protein/weightgaining shakes are easy to carry around campus, and can give an ekstra boost on a busy day. Also fruits, nuts and vegestables like carrots and cucumber can help maintaining a stable bloodsugar troughout the day. " ]

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[ "How best to keep awake/alert with no sleep Obvious solutions like \"drink coffee\" aside, what tips do you have on keeping alert and awake after a poor night of sleeping or no sleep at all? Does exercise help? Certain foods to eat or avoid? Do short naps help or are they just a stopgap measure? ", "How best to keep awake/alert with no sleep Obvious solutions like \"drink coffee\" aside, what tips do you have on keeping alert and awake after a poor night of sleeping or no sleep at all? Does exercise help? Certain foods to eat or avoid? Do short naps help or are they just a stopgap measure? ", "How best to keep awake/alert with no sleep Obvious solutions like \"drink coffee\" aside, what tips do you have on keeping alert and awake after a poor night of sleeping or no sleep at all? Does exercise help? Certain foods to eat or avoid? Do short naps help or are they just a stopgap measure? ", "How best to keep awake/alert with no sleep Obvious solutions like \"drink coffee\" aside, what tips do you have on keeping alert and awake after a poor night of sleeping or no sleep at all? Does exercise help? Certain foods to eat or avoid? Do short naps help or are they just a stopgap measure? ", "How best to keep awake/alert with no sleep Obvious solutions like \"drink coffee\" aside, what tips do you have on keeping alert and awake after a poor night of sleeping or no sleep at all? Does exercise help? Certain foods to eat or avoid? Do short naps help or are they just a stopgap measure? ", "How best to keep awake/alert with no sleep Obvious solutions like \"drink coffee\" aside, what tips do you have on keeping alert and awake after a poor night of sleeping or no sleep at all? Does exercise help? Certain foods to eat or avoid? Do short naps help or are they just a stopgap measure? ", "How best to keep awake/alert with no sleep Obvious solutions like \"drink coffee\" aside, what tips do you have on keeping alert and awake after a poor night of sleeping or no sleep at all? Does exercise help? Certain foods to eat or avoid? Do short naps help or are they just a stopgap measure? ", "How best to keep awake/alert with no sleep Obvious solutions like \"drink coffee\" aside, what tips do you have on keeping alert and awake after a poor night of sleeping or no sleep at all? Does exercise help? Certain foods to eat or avoid? Do short naps help or are they just a stopgap measure? " ]

[ "Keep your mind engaged. As soon as you lose focus, or get bored, you are going to get tired. Walking around, listening to music, talking with people, and staying involved will keep you awake and attentive.\n\nAvoid junk food and go for the high protein stuff. Peanut butter toast always worked well for me. I found several small meals work a lot better than two or three big meals. Being full makes you sleepy.\n\nShort naps don't really work. If you are taking them inadvertently/accidentally, then go to bed because you have already lost. I've read several places that if you can't get three hours of sleep in, it isn't even worth going to sleep. Other people contend that an hour is enough, but I always felt worse after naps that short.\n\nAnd obviously, coffee.", "You need energy, oxygen, light, focus, pain and cold.\n\n* eat enough to have energy, but don't stuff yourself with a full meal because your stomach will drain all your energy to process the food.\n* breath. A lot. Don't yawn.\n* Turn on the lights. The more the better. Darkness tells your body that it's time to sleep.\n* Do something interesting\n* Slap yourself on the thigh, pinch yourself in the tip of your nose (CAREFULLY! This REALLY HURTS!) or similar for a small adrenaline rush\n* being warm and cozy makes you sleepy. Open a window, turn down the heater, etc. If you are uncomfortable...GOOD!\n\nSleeping for 30 minutes helps me most of the times. Don't make it too comfortable (don't go to bed) so sleep while sitting and stuff. Set an alarm!", "Ive spent countless upon countless days with no sleep so I can at least give me own input here. Doing something even if its just with your hands is better than just sitting watching a movie or tv. Putting yourself in a restful situation will never help. likewise just laying down 'for a minute' cause it feels good will never help. Eating helps but not large amounts of food. Things that are cold also work really well; think Popsicles or cold drinks, snacks like peanuts and fruits; protein is also really important. Taking a shower always helps if your really fading, it can give you a bit of relief to relax without much worry of falling asleep aswell as give you a good way to waste some time (be warned though if you are cold when you get out of the shower dont sit down with a blanket to warm up). Its sometimes hard to force yourself to do something active when your so tired so you need to find things that are equally intriguing to you. If you like computer games that keep you engaged like call of duty of something of the like thats a good way to keep your mind off sleeping. This could be personal but masturbating is also a good way to waste time and get some blood flowing but that might not be your thing. If you ever get the the point where you find yourself nodding off and fiddling around, tapping your foot, shaking your head to stay awake; get the fuck up get a glass of water, go to the bathroom, do something, you absolutely are going to fall asleep no matter what you keep telling yourself. Its a lot about mind over matter. Also even though i dont condone driving when your extremly tired, going out to the store, or out to eat can help. I've never been in a public place and thought to myself, I think ill just lay down for a minute. And lastly being around other people is probably one of the best things, just talking to people, being constantly engaged will keep you awake as well as any amount of caffeine, because even if caffeine helps for awhile you will inevitable become more tired and it will be even harder on you to stay awake 4 hours after drinking 3 redbulls ", "I pull all nighters a few times a month. I tend to poop a lot when I get tired. I don't know why, but it wakes me up.", "As far as proven methods (not anecdotal), Caffeine and exercise can both work short term, but a 40-min nap would be better than either. \n\nShort naps *do* work ( http://www.sleepfoundation.org/article/sleep-topics/napping ), though longer naps (several hours) can cause later insomnia and perpetuate your problem.\n\nYour hardest times will depend on your normal sleep schedule, but for most your \"circadian low\" will be early afternoon, later if you normally wake later.\n\nBright light is also your friend. Specifically light that contains the blue spectrum, like sunlight, signals your brain that it is not time to sleep and breaks down endogenous melatonin.", "When I joined the military I thought...this is gonna be cool. Then I learned that I would be sleep deprived most of my career.\nYou get used to it and learn ways to keep yourself going.\nCoffee is good, but too much coffee leads to gut rot. Same can be said about sugar.\nDrinking rediculous amount of water and holding your pee as long as you can works....but eventually you just gotta piss.\nDrugs are good. I can only get away with certain types. Ephidren is a favorite but it can be pricy. \nThe cold keeps you awake and alert. Blood circulation, and deep breathing to keep your blood oxygenated.\nLOUD music works well, I often just resort to singing to myself or whistling. Also conversation with the fellow next to you works too. \nMost of conversation topics are desperate (because the guy beside me has exhausted all topics). Usually conversations start like this \"If you had to fuck an animal what would it be and why?\"\n\nThat's all I got for you.", "This is something I picked up from a defensive driving class. If you're tired while driving, quickly look at each one of your mirrors without turning your head.", "These little guys: http://www.amazon.com/Rip-It-Energy-Shot-Strawberry/dp/B004SHK7X6 (although not at that price, that's absurd. I've seen them for as cheap at $0.35 for a two pack)." ]

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[ "How to keep basketball shoes dry and un-stinky. Ive just got some new Curry Twos and I love them, so I want to keep them fresh and stink free, as my last pair stunk like something had died inside them. Is there anything I can do to prevent them from stinking? Or at least slow it down? I used to put talcum powder in them but it didn't seem to work that good. ", "How to keep basketball shoes dry and un-stinky. Ive just got some new Curry Twos and I love them, so I want to keep them fresh and stink free, as my last pair stunk like something had died inside them. Is there anything I can do to prevent them from stinking? Or at least slow it down? I used to put talcum powder in them but it didn't seem to work that good. ", "How to keep basketball shoes dry and un-stinky. Ive just got some new Curry Twos and I love them, so I want to keep them fresh and stink free, as my last pair stunk like something had died inside them. Is there anything I can do to prevent them from stinking? Or at least slow it down? I used to put talcum powder in them but it didn't seem to work that good. ", "How to keep basketball shoes dry and un-stinky. Ive just got some new Curry Twos and I love them, so I want to keep them fresh and stink free, as my last pair stunk like something had died inside them. Is there anything I can do to prevent them from stinking? Or at least slow it down? I used to put talcum powder in them but it didn't seem to work that good. ", "How to keep basketball shoes dry and un-stinky. Ive just got some new Curry Twos and I love them, so I want to keep them fresh and stink free, as my last pair stunk like something had died inside them. Is there anything I can do to prevent them from stinking? Or at least slow it down? I used to put talcum powder in them but it didn't seem to work that good. " ]

[ "I keep those [\"do not eat\" packets](http://s.hswstatic.com/gif/ate-silica.jpg) with silica gel in them and put them in my gym shoes after I've used them, which works great as they absorb moisture. ", "Do you have forced air heating or central air? Put them upside down over the vents. Newspaper and dryer sheets work ok, but nothing like circulating air. For the ventless ,about $30-$40 you can buy a winter boot/ glove dryer which is like a twin piped low speed hairdryer on its end. ", "[Use something like this](http://www.walmart.com/ip/Dr.-Scholl-s-Odor-Destroyers-Spray-4.7-oz/11965062), it will kill the bacteria that is causing the stank.\n\nI use it every other day or so, just spray it in the shoes at night. And just get the store brand, works the same way and costs less.", "They make these little balls you can put in your shoes when you aren't using them. Google \"sneaker balls,\" I think there are multiple brands. Alternatively you could try sprinkling them with baking soda. ", "Gold Bond or similar medicated body powder. I either dust the insert sole of my shoe (if I'm not wearing socks), or dump it in my socks and shake them to disperse the powder. Inside the sock is effective because then you're closer to the source of the moisture and stink (sorry, it's the foot). This is also really useful when hiking/running, keeps your feet cool and helps prevent blisters." ]

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[ "Does anyone know of a 'cure' for 'Stuck Song Syndrome'? Same song for a week now!!! I watched 'The Sound of Music' with Carrie Underwood last Saturday. Since then, I have had the song **\"Do-Re-Mi\" stuck in my head from the time I wake up until I go to bed!** I'm going nuts!! This is worse than the Disney song \"It's a Small World After All\"! I need help!! Thanks!", "Does anyone know of a 'cure' for 'Stuck Song Syndrome'? Same song for a week now!!! I watched 'The Sound of Music' with Carrie Underwood last Saturday. Since then, I have had the song **\"Do-Re-Mi\" stuck in my head from the time I wake up until I go to bed!** I'm going nuts!! This is worse than the Disney song \"It's a Small World After All\"! I need help!! Thanks!", "Does anyone know of a 'cure' for 'Stuck Song Syndrome'? Same song for a week now!!! I watched 'The Sound of Music' with Carrie Underwood last Saturday. Since then, I have had the song **\"Do-Re-Mi\" stuck in my head from the time I wake up until I go to bed!** I'm going nuts!! This is worse than the Disney song \"It's a Small World After All\"! I need help!! Thanks!", "Does anyone know of a 'cure' for 'Stuck Song Syndrome'? Same song for a week now!!! I watched 'The Sound of Music' with Carrie Underwood last Saturday. Since then, I have had the song **\"Do-Re-Mi\" stuck in my head from the time I wake up until I go to bed!** I'm going nuts!! This is worse than the Disney song \"It's a Small World After All\"! I need help!! Thanks!", "Does anyone know of a 'cure' for 'Stuck Song Syndrome'? Same song for a week now!!! I watched 'The Sound of Music' with Carrie Underwood last Saturday. Since then, I have had the song **\"Do-Re-Mi\" stuck in my head from the time I wake up until I go to bed!** I'm going nuts!! This is worse than the Disney song \"It's a Small World After All\"! I need help!! Thanks!", "Does anyone know of a 'cure' for 'Stuck Song Syndrome'? Same song for a week now!!! I watched 'The Sound of Music' with Carrie Underwood last Saturday. Since then, I have had the song **\"Do-Re-Mi\" stuck in my head from the time I wake up until I go to bed!** I'm going nuts!! This is worse than the Disney song \"It's a Small World After All\"! I need help!! Thanks!", "Does anyone know of a 'cure' for 'Stuck Song Syndrome'? Same song for a week now!!! I watched 'The Sound of Music' with Carrie Underwood last Saturday. Since then, I have had the song **\"Do-Re-Mi\" stuck in my head from the time I wake up until I go to bed!** I'm going nuts!! This is worse than the Disney song \"It's a Small World After All\"! I need help!! Thanks!", "Does anyone know of a 'cure' for 'Stuck Song Syndrome'? Same song for a week now!!! I watched 'The Sound of Music' with Carrie Underwood last Saturday. Since then, I have had the song **\"Do-Re-Mi\" stuck in my head from the time I wake up until I go to bed!** I'm going nuts!! This is worse than the Disney song \"It's a Small World After All\"! I need help!! Thanks!", "Does anyone know of a 'cure' for 'Stuck Song Syndrome'? Same song for a week now!!! I watched 'The Sound of Music' with Carrie Underwood last Saturday. Since then, I have had the song **\"Do-Re-Mi\" stuck in my head from the time I wake up until I go to bed!** I'm going nuts!! This is worse than the Disney song \"It's a Small World After All\"! I need help!! Thanks!", "Does anyone know of a 'cure' for 'Stuck Song Syndrome'? Same song for a week now!!! I watched 'The Sound of Music' with Carrie Underwood last Saturday. Since then, I have had the song **\"Do-Re-Mi\" stuck in my head from the time I wake up until I go to bed!** I'm going nuts!! This is worse than the Disney song \"It's a Small World After All\"! I need help!! Thanks!", "Does anyone know of a 'cure' for 'Stuck Song Syndrome'? Same song for a week now!!! I watched 'The Sound of Music' with Carrie Underwood last Saturday. Since then, I have had the song **\"Do-Re-Mi\" stuck in my head from the time I wake up until I go to bed!** I'm going nuts!! This is worse than the Disney song \"It's a Small World After All\"! I need help!! Thanks!", "Does anyone know of a 'cure' for 'Stuck Song Syndrome'? Same song for a week now!!! I watched 'The Sound of Music' with Carrie Underwood last Saturday. Since then, I have had the song **\"Do-Re-Mi\" stuck in my head from the time I wake up until I go to bed!** I'm going nuts!! This is worse than the Disney song \"It's a Small World After All\"! I need help!! Thanks!" ]

[ "I have read that the part of your brain that handles musical stuff is different from the part that handles discrete, mathematical stuff. Sounds odd, but try doing some reasonably complex math. Do some long division on a big honkin' number or try to find the square root of some random number without using a calculator.\n\nAfter about 5-10 minutes, your brain will be sufficiently \"distracted\" by the mathematics that the stuck song will go away.\n\nOf course, the rub is that you have to do this in such a way that you don't finish the math problem and immediately think, \"hmm...is the song gone yet?\" Because that will inevitably bring it right back. Maybe do the math with some music playing in the background, so that as your brain is distracted, it picks up on some other music so you don't end up thinking about the \"stuck\" song accidentally.", "SO swears that listening to the Muppets singing \"Mahna Mahna\" will drive any other song straight out of your head.\n", "What I learned to do is to corrupt the lyrics and tune when your head goes to \"play\" it. So when \"Do, a deer\" pops into your head change it to \"Do fish algebra eight four two\" or something while hitting completely wrong notes.", "[This](http://unhearit.com/#) Is the best website I use ! \nIt basically plays loads of different songs", "YMMV, but I found that listening to a more annoying song usually works for me. That usually ends up being \"The Internet is for Porn.\"", "Trying to suppress it makes it worse. Also there is research that an uncompleted thought stays on the mind longer so if for example you have a section of a song repeating itself then try listening to the entire song (several times) to 'complete the thought'. ", "Try saying the words to the song, as though you were talking to someone and expressing meaning to them. Connecting the words to a conversational spontaneous intonation and not the melody, brings their association into language processes, which are separate from their association with the automaticity of music. This is a variation of the technique that makes people who stutter more fluent when they sing.", "Sing or listen to Sheena Easton's Morning Train. It has no hook to speak of and will remove any ear worms from your brain and won't leave any remnants. \n\nhttp://youtu.be/huNejF17gzg", "Since it's impossible to have two songs stuck in your head at the same time, you should listen to this:\nhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6WTdTwcmxyo\n\nThen you'll have that phone number stuck in your head.", "Listen to Julian Smith's song for getting a song unstuck from your head! \n\n\"When a song is stuck inside your head, sing this song, just sing this song instead\"", "Have you tried listening to it again?\n\nI know that seems like the last thing you would want to do but I've heard (albeit, simply a word of mouth source) that listening again all the way through on a song helps get it out of your head.\n\nIt seems to have worked for me before but that could've been entirely a placebo effect. If you do give it a try, feel free to let me know how it went. Thanks! :)", "Bach's prelude and fugues. He wrote several, but they tend to be a good combination of repetitive and catchy. Listening to one and them humming it for a while often works for me. \n\nThe classic answer, of course, is the alphabet song. But Bach works better IMO." ]

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[ "How to accurately tell what the gender of an androgynous-looking person is I've had plenty of encounters with people whose gender I couldn't for the life of me identify, and I was lucky I never had to interact with them but just not being able to tell a fellow human being's gender is oddly unsettling. \n\nI'd love it if someone could share some fool-proof tips on how to tell someone's gender when it isn't easily recognizable. ", "How to accurately tell what the gender of an androgynous-looking person is I've had plenty of encounters with people whose gender I couldn't for the life of me identify, and I was lucky I never had to interact with them but just not being able to tell a fellow human being's gender is oddly unsettling. \n\nI'd love it if someone could share some fool-proof tips on how to tell someone's gender when it isn't easily recognizable. ", "How to accurately tell what the gender of an androgynous-looking person is I've had plenty of encounters with people whose gender I couldn't for the life of me identify, and I was lucky I never had to interact with them but just not being able to tell a fellow human being's gender is oddly unsettling. \n\nI'd love it if someone could share some fool-proof tips on how to tell someone's gender when it isn't easily recognizable. ", "How to accurately tell what the gender of an androgynous-looking person is I've had plenty of encounters with people whose gender I couldn't for the life of me identify, and I was lucky I never had to interact with them but just not being able to tell a fellow human being's gender is oddly unsettling. \n\nI'd love it if someone could share some fool-proof tips on how to tell someone's gender when it isn't easily recognizable. ", "How to accurately tell what the gender of an androgynous-looking person is I've had plenty of encounters with people whose gender I couldn't for the life of me identify, and I was lucky I never had to interact with them but just not being able to tell a fellow human being's gender is oddly unsettling. \n\nI'd love it if someone could share some fool-proof tips on how to tell someone's gender when it isn't easily recognizable. ", "How to accurately tell what the gender of an androgynous-looking person is I've had plenty of encounters with people whose gender I couldn't for the life of me identify, and I was lucky I never had to interact with them but just not being able to tell a fellow human being's gender is oddly unsettling. \n\nI'd love it if someone could share some fool-proof tips on how to tell someone's gender when it isn't easily recognizable. ", "How to accurately tell what the gender of an androgynous-looking person is I've had plenty of encounters with people whose gender I couldn't for the life of me identify, and I was lucky I never had to interact with them but just not being able to tell a fellow human being's gender is oddly unsettling. \n\nI'd love it if someone could share some fool-proof tips on how to tell someone's gender when it isn't easily recognizable. ", "How to accurately tell what the gender of an androgynous-looking person is I've had plenty of encounters with people whose gender I couldn't for the life of me identify, and I was lucky I never had to interact with them but just not being able to tell a fellow human being's gender is oddly unsettling. \n\nI'd love it if someone could share some fool-proof tips on how to tell someone's gender when it isn't easily recognizable. " ]

[ "If you are out in public and can't identify someones gender follow these easy steps.\n\nStep One: Don't worry about it. ", "As someone who is very androgynous... I'd like to know what's so unsettling about it?\nAlso, there is pretty much just asking, being stared on by people because they try to see if you have a buldge in your pants or small boobs or whatever is kind of aggrevating. ", "carry around an emergency petition with you. And in the header they have to check male, female or other.", "If someone isn't very deliberately displaying themselves as male or female and a pronoun is necessary in what you're saying, simply use \"they.\"\n", "> I was lucky I never had to interact with them\n\nWhy? Does how you interact with someone depend on their gender? Just treat them like you would anyone.", "If it's not critical to whatever you're doing, just stop worrying about it. Don't be an asshole and make someone else uncomfortable just because you find gender ambiguity \"oddly unsettling.\"\n\nYou were \"lucky [you] never had to interact with them\"? I'd say they're the lucky ones. You've clearly got enough of your own shit to deal with without stressing over someone's gender identity. ", "If the hips are wider than the shoulders, it's a woman. If the shoulders are wider than the hips, it's a man. If there's enough fat to hide either or both of these features, it doesn't work. \n\nIf the gender is still unknown, the grammatically correct way to refer to them is with a male pronoun.", "Ask! If unsure just ask them. They might get upset if they have never been asked before, but it is better than using the wrong pronouns. \nYou can always take cues and listen to how their friends address them and go from there, but as awkward as it might feel to ask its better to clear the air right away." ]

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[ "How to Find Work and Move Overseas An American looking for good resources to find work, moving, and living overseas. ", "How to Find Work and Move Overseas An American looking for good resources to find work, moving, and living overseas. ", "How to Find Work and Move Overseas An American looking for good resources to find work, moving, and living overseas. " ]

[ "The first step is to make sure you have a skill that is in demand in the country or countries you wish to move to. Most countries don't want to bring foreigners in to take the jobs of locals unless the foreigners can demonstrate that they can fill a gap, or provide exceptional value.\n\nFor example, if you wanted to move to Portugal and get a job at a museum, you'd probably be out of luck unless you could demonstrate that you have a very strong background in history/anthropology/whatever and a good command of the Portuguese language. There are more than likely a bunch of local graduates who are qualified to do that job, and you need to be better than them.\n\nInstead, meeting a need that the locals can't provide will give you an advantage. Few Portuguese people have the experience or skill to teach a foreign language, for example. \n\nOnce you have your foot in the door of the desired country, however you do it, make contacts. Meet other expats as well as local professionals in your desired field. Keep your eyes and ears open for opportunities. It's probably fair to estimate that the majority of people working successfully in their desired field overseas were able to acquire their position because of who they came to know. You may have to do a year of teaching, but it might be just the thing to let you meet someone who knows someone, or for you to spot an ad in a local paper.\n\nAnd lastly, don't give up. People will tell you that you can't succeed, and be quick to offer up laundry lists of reasons why. Just be careful that you don't mistake optimism for being prepared.", "You should find some way to work for the US Government -- teaching is usually a good route. Research working for DoDDs. My girlfriend's mother works overseas for DoDDs and has been a teacher in Turkey at an American High School for about five years now. You might also want to learn a language. \n\nCurious, since I'm also pursuing museum work, why do you want to go overseas? I've thought about working for UNESCO...", "I'm a well educated Librarian/Museum Professional and I find it hard to find decent resources to finding work/moving to the EU/UK areas. Anyone have any useful resources to finding good professional work?" ]

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[ "How to get rust off of a BBQ grill. Just moved into a new place and the BBQ that came with it is rusted to shit, but it's a really good BBQ and I don't want to buy a new one. Any tips for making that grill like new?", "How to get rust off of a BBQ grill. Just moved into a new place and the BBQ that came with it is rusted to shit, but it's a really good BBQ and I don't want to buy a new one. Any tips for making that grill like new?", "How to get rust off of a BBQ grill. Just moved into a new place and the BBQ that came with it is rusted to shit, but it's a really good BBQ and I don't want to buy a new one. Any tips for making that grill like new?", "How to get rust off of a BBQ grill. Just moved into a new place and the BBQ that came with it is rusted to shit, but it's a really good BBQ and I don't want to buy a new one. Any tips for making that grill like new?" ]

[ "If badly rusted, go to the local auto parts store and get a spray can/bottle of rust remover solution. Works like a charm in combination with a wire brush for the heavy stuff. ", "Steel wool and WD:40 will quickly remove the rust. Next use oven cleaner (or dish soap) to remove the WD:40 residue. Finally light the BBQ, set the temp to MAX and bake the grill until sterile and food-safe.", "If the rust is real thick, use a wire brush to scrub it away. They are also available in circular versions which attach to a drill for more high-powered projects. Sandpaper and steel wool are also good options. \n\nWear gloves if you do the drill method, as it loves to skip around and you have your off-hand on the device to stabilize it. This leads to nasty high speed scratches.", "I've used aluminium foil just bunched up. If it were my grill, first I'd make a comet paste (that powdery stuff you can find in your cleaning section of the local supermarket) and spread that stuff on. Let it sit for about a minute or two. It really cuts through the grease. Then use the aluminum foil ball or you can buy one of those special grill brushes that pretty much do the same thing. Scrub it really well, then rinse. You're going to go through a few balls of aluminum foil though. Still it's not like it's uber expensive or anything. I'm unsure about rust. I'm thinking it might help either way. I've also heard about using oil to get it out. Not sure exactly what they said, but something about using oil and scraping the rust away. " ]

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[ "how to stop crying when your mad I almost always cry when im really mad, even though i dont want to or i dont need to. How can i stop this?", "how to stop crying when your mad I almost always cry when im really mad, even though i dont want to or i dont need to. How can i stop this?" ]

[ "What do you want to stop? Crying when you are really mad or getting really mad?\n\nI think the anger issues might be the first thing to address.\n\nNot to say that anger isn't warranted when appropriate but what is the source and how can you change it should be your focus.\n\nThis may be something within yourself or it may be something external. Either way you need to identify it and correct it.\n", "Focus on your breathing, move your eyes to control your tears, distract yourself with a physical movement and relax your facial expression." ]

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[ "Washing Dishes I can't seem to get my dishes in my house clean enough. I wash them with a sponge and antibacterial soap, but they're still stained and have stuff stuck to them that I have to scratch off with my fingernails, then wash again.\n\nI grew up with a dishwasher in the house. Now, I don't have that luxury in my apartment. How does Reddit wash dishes? It's something I should know how to do effectively, but I'm having trouble. \n\nWhat do I need to do to wash dishes like a boss? What kind of soap should I use? What about brushes? Do I need bleach?", "Washing Dishes I can't seem to get my dishes in my house clean enough. I wash them with a sponge and antibacterial soap, but they're still stained and have stuff stuck to them that I have to scratch off with my fingernails, then wash again.\n\nI grew up with a dishwasher in the house. Now, I don't have that luxury in my apartment. How does Reddit wash dishes? It's something I should know how to do effectively, but I'm having trouble. \n\nWhat do I need to do to wash dishes like a boss? What kind of soap should I use? What about brushes? Do I need bleach?", "Washing Dishes I can't seem to get my dishes in my house clean enough. I wash them with a sponge and antibacterial soap, but they're still stained and have stuff stuck to them that I have to scratch off with my fingernails, then wash again.\n\nI grew up with a dishwasher in the house. Now, I don't have that luxury in my apartment. How does Reddit wash dishes? It's something I should know how to do effectively, but I'm having trouble. \n\nWhat do I need to do to wash dishes like a boss? What kind of soap should I use? What about brushes? Do I need bleach?", "Washing Dishes I can't seem to get my dishes in my house clean enough. I wash them with a sponge and antibacterial soap, but they're still stained and have stuff stuck to them that I have to scratch off with my fingernails, then wash again.\n\nI grew up with a dishwasher in the house. Now, I don't have that luxury in my apartment. How does Reddit wash dishes? It's something I should know how to do effectively, but I'm having trouble. \n\nWhat do I need to do to wash dishes like a boss? What kind of soap should I use? What about brushes? Do I need bleach?", "Washing Dishes I can't seem to get my dishes in my house clean enough. I wash them with a sponge and antibacterial soap, but they're still stained and have stuff stuck to them that I have to scratch off with my fingernails, then wash again.\n\nI grew up with a dishwasher in the house. Now, I don't have that luxury in my apartment. How does Reddit wash dishes? It's something I should know how to do effectively, but I'm having trouble. \n\nWhat do I need to do to wash dishes like a boss? What kind of soap should I use? What about brushes? Do I need bleach?", "Washing Dishes I can't seem to get my dishes in my house clean enough. I wash them with a sponge and antibacterial soap, but they're still stained and have stuff stuck to them that I have to scratch off with my fingernails, then wash again.\n\nI grew up with a dishwasher in the house. Now, I don't have that luxury in my apartment. How does Reddit wash dishes? It's something I should know how to do effectively, but I'm having trouble. \n\nWhat do I need to do to wash dishes like a boss? What kind of soap should I use? What about brushes? Do I need bleach?", "Washing Dishes I can't seem to get my dishes in my house clean enough. I wash them with a sponge and antibacterial soap, but they're still stained and have stuff stuck to them that I have to scratch off with my fingernails, then wash again.\n\nI grew up with a dishwasher in the house. Now, I don't have that luxury in my apartment. How does Reddit wash dishes? It's something I should know how to do effectively, but I'm having trouble. \n\nWhat do I need to do to wash dishes like a boss? What kind of soap should I use? What about brushes? Do I need bleach?", "Washing Dishes I can't seem to get my dishes in my house clean enough. I wash them with a sponge and antibacterial soap, but they're still stained and have stuff stuck to them that I have to scratch off with my fingernails, then wash again.\n\nI grew up with a dishwasher in the house. Now, I don't have that luxury in my apartment. How does Reddit wash dishes? It's something I should know how to do effectively, but I'm having trouble. \n\nWhat do I need to do to wash dishes like a boss? What kind of soap should I use? What about brushes? Do I need bleach?", "Washing Dishes I can't seem to get my dishes in my house clean enough. I wash them with a sponge and antibacterial soap, but they're still stained and have stuff stuck to them that I have to scratch off with my fingernails, then wash again.\n\nI grew up with a dishwasher in the house. Now, I don't have that luxury in my apartment. How does Reddit wash dishes? It's something I should know how to do effectively, but I'm having trouble. \n\nWhat do I need to do to wash dishes like a boss? What kind of soap should I use? What about brushes? Do I need bleach?", "Washing Dishes I can't seem to get my dishes in my house clean enough. I wash them with a sponge and antibacterial soap, but they're still stained and have stuff stuck to them that I have to scratch off with my fingernails, then wash again.\n\nI grew up with a dishwasher in the house. Now, I don't have that luxury in my apartment. How does Reddit wash dishes? It's something I should know how to do effectively, but I'm having trouble. \n\nWhat do I need to do to wash dishes like a boss? What kind of soap should I use? What about brushes? Do I need bleach?", "Washing Dishes I can't seem to get my dishes in my house clean enough. I wash them with a sponge and antibacterial soap, but they're still stained and have stuff stuck to them that I have to scratch off with my fingernails, then wash again.\n\nI grew up with a dishwasher in the house. Now, I don't have that luxury in my apartment. How does Reddit wash dishes? It's something I should know how to do effectively, but I'm having trouble. \n\nWhat do I need to do to wash dishes like a boss? What kind of soap should I use? What about brushes? Do I need bleach?", "Washing Dishes I can't seem to get my dishes in my house clean enough. I wash them with a sponge and antibacterial soap, but they're still stained and have stuff stuck to them that I have to scratch off with my fingernails, then wash again.\n\nI grew up with a dishwasher in the house. Now, I don't have that luxury in my apartment. How does Reddit wash dishes? It's something I should know how to do effectively, but I'm having trouble. \n\nWhat do I need to do to wash dishes like a boss? What kind of soap should I use? What about brushes? Do I need bleach?" ]

[ "Antibacterial soap is unnecessary since the mechanical action of washing the dishes gets the bacteria off to begin with. Non antibac soap is cheaper. Save your pennies.\n\nI wash dishes with a three step process. Step 1 is food removal. For that I use a scrubbie. Since I'm not worried about the hygiene of the scrubbie, I've got a several years old nylon thing that probably started out as a ball and has degenerated into a mass of scrubbie spaghetti. I use this and some serious elbow grease and a dishpan filled with a few inches of just water (from the previous washing) to remove obvious food chunks. Then I dump the water + food chunks.\n\nI put a squirt (I put my dish soap into a hand soap pump dispenser) of dish soap - any kind will do - into the dish pan and once again fill it with a few inches of the hottest water I can stand. This time I use a sponge and really work that soapy water over all the possible exposed surfaces of my dishes. I start with silverware and glasses to avoid any possible film that may come from greasier plates and bowls in the event that the soap is insufficient.\n\nLastly I once again empty the dishpan and reload with a few inches of water and 1/4 cup bleach. This is my rinse pan. I use the sponge (to disinfect it as well) and work the bleach water all over my dishes. Again, I start with silverware and glasses.\n\nThen it all goes onto the dish drainer, including the sponge (wet sponge = nasty sponge). I leave the disinfecting water in the dish pan and put all the new dirty dishes into the pan. When I go to repeat the process, I use the old water to help with basic chunk food removal.\n\nMy dishes come out sparkling.\n\nHope this helps.", "One tip I have:\n\nDesinfect your washclothes and sponges by putting them in the Microwave on highest setting for 2 Minutes or more. The water inside them will heat up to desinfecting temperatures. Open the Microwave afterwards and let them cool down. Besides very resilient spores you can kill almost anything that way.", "Along with these fine other comments, do your dishes *before* you eat, and if you're cooking with a lot of pans, do them as you cook. This not only makes them go away faster, but also avoids post-meal procrastination; you know, that \"I just ate\" feeling where you don't want to do anything but sit and relax.", "1) Hot water. Very hot, as hot as you can stand (and keep in mind that you will get used to the temperature within a few minutes). Soak pesky dishes for about an hour (overnight is sometimes better) in hot soapy water.\n\n2) Soap: Dawn. Don't use the cheap shit (it's mostly water anyway). Dawn isn't that expensive, and you really only need a few drops for most normal loads. It's also handy to have around the house for removing set-in grease stains in clothes and making milk do [cool shit](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=27F1TH2Rvgs). You don't need bleach for dishes, however it doesn't hurt to have them for your washcloths (see below).\n\n3) Tools: Washcloths (get the textured ones from your local dollar store or whatever.) Sponges (if you must... I don't like them personally but they work for some people). Scrub brush [(my favorite)](http://www.amazon.com/Wooden-Handled-Dish-Scrub-Brush/dp/B0025V75WI): Good for getting really tough crap off, and is also useful for cleaning potatoes and under your fingernails. Drying rack (also can be purchased from the dollar store, but don't do that... get it from Target or something and it will last longer and won't rust up on you). If you don't have a drying rack, you can always use a large dishtowel [(try these)](http://www.amazon.com/s?ie=UTF8&keywords=flour%20sack%20towels&rh=n%3A1055398%2Ck%3Aflour%20sack%20towels&page=1) and just lay out the dishes on it, or dry them by hand.\n\nThe trick I use to keep my washcloths clean is to soak them nightly in hot water with a few drops of bleach (you can use a large bowl for this). In case of smells accumulating, just add a bit of white vinegar to the wash when you launder them. Sponges should be rung out and kept dry, but I suppose soaking them in the bleach water for a bit before hand should help (maybe get advice on the sponge bit from someone else).\n\n4) Maintaining! The best way to keep up on your dishes is to do them ASAP (duh). If you can't get to washing them right away, make sure you rinse them out, or at least fill them up with soapy (hot) water. Also, try to set aside some time each day to do them (you'd be surprised at how little time it takes to do) and they won't pile up.\n\nHope this helps! ", "This is going to seem stupid, but you'll be surprised at the difference it makes...\n\nSORT the dishes, first! Big plates, small plates, big bowls, small bowls, plastic cups, glasses, mugs, silverware, and other utensils! Silverware should all go into one container (aka bowl or mug or whatever) and filled with hot soapy water. point the 'business ends' down, into the water. set this glass aside. This soaks the cup *and* the utensils! :D\n\nNow clean one group at a time! i start with mugs and cups/glasses, then bowls, then plates (or whatever I have more of), and end with the random utensils and silverware. \n\nAlso, do the dish once you make it! Or, after cooking a meal, wash all the dishes you made. You'll thank me.\n\n(", "I used to live at commune with 50+ people, that is where I learned how to clean dishes and kill germs.\n\n3 step process basically. First is pre-wash: this is where you get everything off the dish. They use a small plastic basin for each step.\n\nSecondly you have an actual wash, with different water. The water should be clean because you already cleaned every dish before it made it to this wash station. Again this would be another small plastic tub.\n\nThirdly the last station would be a rinse station that had a few drops of bleach in it. And we would let the dishes sit in the rinse station for a few minutes.\n\nWe also used hot water in each station.", "Assuming you're washing more than one set at a time, stack your dishes at the bottom of your sink after your done washing them so the running water keeps them wet. So start with the plates, then move up to bowls, etc.. You can put the silverware in there too beside the plates if there's room. Do the glasses last because they generally don't have food caked all over them. By the time you finish washing glasses and cleaning up everything else your dishes should have sufficiently soaked for long enough that those little lumps of food come off very easily.", "besides soap, regular sponge and long brush for glasses, I just use scourers, and they work great for me. only I have to use the plastic ones vs the metal scourers. I found that somehow they work better, plus they don't rust. can't wash a sink of dishes w/o one.", "Soaking is my best friend. I always empty the sink, and then organize it by plates/cutting boards at the bottom, and then bowls and then cups where they fit. Then just throw the silverware in. Fill the sink with water as hot as you can, and while it's pouring in put the dishsoap in the stream so it bubbles. Leave the sink for like 15-20 minutes while it soaks. Then come back and the stuff should come off easily. This works assuming you don't leave stuff crusted for weeks...\n", "One thing you can add to your water or cleaning is OxiClean FREE. The free version is food safe, whereas the \"versatile\" version has perfumes and othershit in it. I use this for getting dried krausen off of my beer making gear. It is also great for cleaning stuff for tea.", "I'm the same way. used to have a dishwasher, now I don't. Here's what I do. Might need to fiddle with the mixture, but this works.\n\n1. Clean all of your dishes from cleanest to dirtiest [A no brainer maybe, but it's surprising how many people forget to do this.]\n2. Let all your dishes soak for a bit in this: 1 part white distilled vinegar, 2 parts dish soap, enough hot water to fill your sink 3/4 of the way full.\n3. Get a sponge with a very scratchy side. I find that loofahs also make great dish washing tools, but you'll obviously need to get a new one. not the one from your shower. Unless you're into that sort of thing.\n4. Dish rack, dish rack, dish rack!\n5. Dish towels! Clean ones! And as many as you think you'll need in advance.\n\nHope this helps!!!!", "Assuming you live alone, just clean the dishes after you finish eating so the leftovers don't have time to set in and you only have a couple things to clean at any given time." ]

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[ "How can I stop being bored I go to college quite a lot, and I tend to spend a lot of my time working. During times that I am not working or at college, I get very bored very quickly. \n\nI go out with my friends whenever possible, but for the most part they don't have any money (even though we can just go for a walk, they like to use this excuse). \n\nI'm looking for some things that I can do, for free, without friends, when I'm not busy. I find that most things I want to do would require friends or I'd look like a total loner.", "How can I stop being bored I go to college quite a lot, and I tend to spend a lot of my time working. During times that I am not working or at college, I get very bored very quickly. \n\nI go out with my friends whenever possible, but for the most part they don't have any money (even though we can just go for a walk, they like to use this excuse). \n\nI'm looking for some things that I can do, for free, without friends, when I'm not busy. I find that most things I want to do would require friends or I'd look like a total loner.", "How can I stop being bored I go to college quite a lot, and I tend to spend a lot of my time working. During times that I am not working or at college, I get very bored very quickly. \n\nI go out with my friends whenever possible, but for the most part they don't have any money (even though we can just go for a walk, they like to use this excuse). \n\nI'm looking for some things that I can do, for free, without friends, when I'm not busy. I find that most things I want to do would require friends or I'd look like a total loner.", "How can I stop being bored I go to college quite a lot, and I tend to spend a lot of my time working. During times that I am not working or at college, I get very bored very quickly. \n\nI go out with my friends whenever possible, but for the most part they don't have any money (even though we can just go for a walk, they like to use this excuse). \n\nI'm looking for some things that I can do, for free, without friends, when I'm not busy. I find that most things I want to do would require friends or I'd look like a total loner.", "How can I stop being bored I go to college quite a lot, and I tend to spend a lot of my time working. During times that I am not working or at college, I get very bored very quickly. \n\nI go out with my friends whenever possible, but for the most part they don't have any money (even though we can just go for a walk, they like to use this excuse). \n\nI'm looking for some things that I can do, for free, without friends, when I'm not busy. I find that most things I want to do would require friends or I'd look like a total loner.", "How can I stop being bored I go to college quite a lot, and I tend to spend a lot of my time working. During times that I am not working or at college, I get very bored very quickly. \n\nI go out with my friends whenever possible, but for the most part they don't have any money (even though we can just go for a walk, they like to use this excuse). \n\nI'm looking for some things that I can do, for free, without friends, when I'm not busy. I find that most things I want to do would require friends or I'd look like a total loner.", "How can I stop being bored I go to college quite a lot, and I tend to spend a lot of my time working. During times that I am not working or at college, I get very bored very quickly. \n\nI go out with my friends whenever possible, but for the most part they don't have any money (even though we can just go for a walk, they like to use this excuse). \n\nI'm looking for some things that I can do, for free, without friends, when I'm not busy. I find that most things I want to do would require friends or I'd look like a total loner." ]

[ "Volunteer. Look around for where your skills match up with a need and help out. This could be an animal shelter or reading to kids at the local library or showing seniors how to use computers. It is a great way to meet people and grow yourself too. ", "Have a kid, you will instantaneously lose any free time you ever had and will yearn for the days were you were bored. ", "Whatever you do end up picking, make sure not to get too into it.\n\nAbout 7 years ago I had nothing at all to do, and I really got into TV shows. Over time I became known for being the TV guy and people would constantly ask for recommendations and stuff. It became sort of an addiction to watch any marginally good TV show and constantly seek out new ones to check out.\n\nThen I discovered TV show episode discussions on reddit and that took away even more of my time. I'd spend as much time discussing an episode on reddit as actually watching it. Sometimes even more. Part of it was because I didn't know people in real life who liked the same things I did so interacting with other people who shared the same feelings about something was nice. But because of the sheer number of TV shows I watched, it used to be that an entire day would go just watching and discussing these shows, and I'd often still have shows left to watch the next day. Like 95% of my karma on reddit is solely made up of comments and posts about TV shows, none of the content is actually good, I just happen to post on so many TV subreddits. I don't even visit the homepage, I only found this one to look for a way to fix it.\n\nI'm supposed to be trying to apply for jobs, but I'm unable to because I feel I'm not ready yet and need to to do a few small projects before I feel confident enough to apply, but because these projects aren't big enough, they take a backseat to the shows.\n\nLike when I start a day, I first have to finish watching the shows and then do whatever else there is to do, especially because if I don't watch as soon as possible, there's a chance a spoiler will ruin it.\n\nI've been trying to cut down on shows, and I have, but there are just so many that it hasn't even made a dent. I don't have time to pick up any other hobbies because this single one has consumed my life and despite realizing that, I really do enjoy all the shows I watch. They legitimately give me joy. Even if I lost internet, I still have enough TV shows and movies accumulated, both new and old to last a few years. I cannot be bored, and that's terrible for me.\n\nIt's an addiction and I'm fully aware of how bad it is, but I have no clue how to stop.\n\nTL;DR: Whatever you pick, do it in moderation or it will consume and/or ruin your life.", "What are your hobbies? What do you find enjoyment in doing? It's very easy for me to say as a huge fan of video games, but time sinking hobbies completely eradicate boredom as you can easily spend many hours absorbed in something you enjoy doing, whether it be games, learning a new skill/ability, or something artistic", "Some ideas I have: \n\n* Can you volunteer anywhere i.e walk dogs at a pound, help people with literacy or to get their GED, a community co-op or clothing bank. \n* Do an internship will help you in your field to get a job after you graduate. \n* Go for a walk at a park but talk to people you come across. \n* See if your college has any clubs, or if they don't found your own.\n* Learn a language, duolingo.com your college, some people like to still write pen-pals in other countries.\n* Audit a class or two in something your interested in. \n*Help out in the library, you could shelve books or audit the shelves.\n* See if you could be a note taker. \n* Do meals on wheels, or volunteer at a soup kitchen or food bank.\n* Join meetup and see what your area has going on.", "Podcasts. Theres something for everyone to enjoy. Funny ones, intellectual ones, just people talking, anything really. I recommend \"Dan Carlins hardcore history\", \"the joe rogan experience\", or \"Doug loves movies\". There are obviously infinitely more, but those 3 all have different feelings to them. Youll learn some interesting histroy from Dan Carlin, Joe Rogan talks with prominent figures in many different fields, and Doug plays a trivia game about movies with comedians. Good luck filling the void, that's exactly what podcasts did for me about 4 years ago.", "I'm a huge fan of going to movies or out to restaurants by myself. If I'm eating, I'll usually take a book and read it while enjoying having someone else prepare and serve my food. It's pretty awesome.\n\nYou could also try taking up an art of some kind. Photography is a great excuse to get out on your own. Or, sitting home and painting, drawing, coloring, can be fun. Start doing furniture or craft renovations - go to thrift stores & look for something random, then see what you can make out of it. It's a neat game." ]

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[ "Getting Rid of Warts on Fingers It's not particularly gross. Just annoying and it swells when I do dishes, shower, etc. Been there for about six months. Identical one on my thumb. Tried cryogenic treatment to no avail.\n\nhttp://imgur.com/UYHtYBM.jpg", "Getting Rid of Warts on Fingers It's not particularly gross. Just annoying and it swells when I do dishes, shower, etc. Been there for about six months. Identical one on my thumb. Tried cryogenic treatment to no avail.\n\nhttp://imgur.com/UYHtYBM.jpg", "Getting Rid of Warts on Fingers It's not particularly gross. Just annoying and it swells when I do dishes, shower, etc. Been there for about six months. Identical one on my thumb. Tried cryogenic treatment to no avail.\n\nhttp://imgur.com/UYHtYBM.jpg", "Getting Rid of Warts on Fingers It's not particularly gross. Just annoying and it swells when I do dishes, shower, etc. Been there for about six months. Identical one on my thumb. Tried cryogenic treatment to no avail.\n\nhttp://imgur.com/UYHtYBM.jpg", "Getting Rid of Warts on Fingers It's not particularly gross. Just annoying and it swells when I do dishes, shower, etc. Been there for about six months. Identical one on my thumb. Tried cryogenic treatment to no avail.\n\nhttp://imgur.com/UYHtYBM.jpg", "Getting Rid of Warts on Fingers It's not particularly gross. Just annoying and it swells when I do dishes, shower, etc. Been there for about six months. Identical one on my thumb. Tried cryogenic treatment to no avail.\n\nhttp://imgur.com/UYHtYBM.jpg", "Getting Rid of Warts on Fingers It's not particularly gross. Just annoying and it swells when I do dishes, shower, etc. Been there for about six months. Identical one on my thumb. Tried cryogenic treatment to no avail.\n\nhttp://imgur.com/UYHtYBM.jpg", "Getting Rid of Warts on Fingers It's not particularly gross. Just annoying and it swells when I do dishes, shower, etc. Been there for about six months. Identical one on my thumb. Tried cryogenic treatment to no avail.\n\nhttp://imgur.com/UYHtYBM.jpg", "Getting Rid of Warts on Fingers It's not particularly gross. Just annoying and it swells when I do dishes, shower, etc. Been there for about six months. Identical one on my thumb. Tried cryogenic treatment to no avail.\n\nhttp://imgur.com/UYHtYBM.jpg", "Getting Rid of Warts on Fingers It's not particularly gross. Just annoying and it swells when I do dishes, shower, etc. Been there for about six months. Identical one on my thumb. Tried cryogenic treatment to no avail.\n\nhttp://imgur.com/UYHtYBM.jpg", "Getting Rid of Warts on Fingers It's not particularly gross. Just annoying and it swells when I do dishes, shower, etc. Been there for about six months. Identical one on my thumb. Tried cryogenic treatment to no avail.\n\nhttp://imgur.com/UYHtYBM.jpg", "Getting Rid of Warts on Fingers It's not particularly gross. Just annoying and it swells when I do dishes, shower, etc. Been there for about six months. Identical one on my thumb. Tried cryogenic treatment to no avail.\n\nhttp://imgur.com/UYHtYBM.jpg", "Getting Rid of Warts on Fingers It's not particularly gross. Just annoying and it swells when I do dishes, shower, etc. Been there for about six months. Identical one on my thumb. Tried cryogenic treatment to no avail.\n\nhttp://imgur.com/UYHtYBM.jpg" ]

[ "I once accidentally killed warts by getting shocked with 120 AC current... I had three warts on my hand at the time.\n\nI was working on an old computer where the power supply had a physical switch. The sheathing for the switch had fallen off or been removed and the electrical contacts for the wires were exposed... grabbed the whole switch in my hand and got a hell of a shock, had to flail my arm to get my hand to release. Afterwards there was just three bloody holes where the warts had been!", "I once had a wart on the knuckle of my index finger. One day I got in the shower with a pair of swiss army knife scissors and cut the fuck out of it.\n\nNever had a wart since :)", "my brother used to get them really bad when he was a dishwasher. he used duct tape and it worked really well", "Coat them with Krazy glue. Works like duct tape but stays on better and looks less conspicuous. If it peels off before the wart is gone just reapply.", "I have had success with pharmacy brought stuff, but you have to be so careful and persistent, it took me 3 months+ to loose mine. Stick in there! ", "I had warts on my fingertips when I was in elementary school. Tried liquid nitrogen, but the pain was more than I could take. What finally worked was putting vitamin E on them every night before bed under a pair of thin gloves. Don't remember how long it took, probably a couple of weeks. ", "Use compound w gel wart remover. Its much easier then the brush on kind and worked for all my warts. ", "This looks like a periungual (sp?) wart. I had 3 removed from my hands at the dermatologist's office. They injected anesthetic directly, then tried liquid nitrogen and digging/scooping the warty tissue out. Five hours later I was shooting blood from my fingertips and had to go to the emergency clinic to get them cauterized. One of the warts has grown back.\n\nWelp, good luck!", "I had a huge wart on my hand that it became a really big problem psychologically. I used compound W, and froze it off. \n\nOne kit isn't going to be enough, you're going to have to treat it many times over the course of weeks in order to get the thing off but it was worth it.", "I wouldn't recommend this method but it worked for me. I cut them out. I grab a needle and rip at it until I get to the roots and then I rip those out. It worked for the small warts that I had (much like yours) but for a big plantar wart on the bottom of my foot I used salicyclic acid before starting to cut it out.\n\nI use rubbing alcohol, a needle, and paper towels. I've tried OTC freezing, duct tape, and salicylic acid but cutting it out is the quickest way for me. ", "I had mine frozen off by a OTC freezer. Took a few tries to get them off of my pointer and middle finger, but it took four months of healing frostbite on my pinkie. Still, my pinkie is there and the wart isn't. ", "Go to a clinic and have them freeze it off. The do-it-yourself kits are OK, but a stubborn wart needs liquid nitrogen and a trained eye. ESPECIALLY plantar's warts, which you may have.", "How exactly did you try to freeze it off? Those things you can buy in a pharmacy to do it seem like BS to me, I've always done it with dry ice. Look into that duct tape thing drexlspivy mentioned, I've never tried it but I've seen lots of people say it works." ]

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[ "How to keep couch cushions from creeping forward. I'm sure a large majority of people experience this problem. I'm not even sure how this happens, but without fail, every time I get up, the cushions are hanging over the edge about a foot.", "How to keep couch cushions from creeping forward. I'm sure a large majority of people experience this problem. I'm not even sure how this happens, but without fail, every time I get up, the cushions are hanging over the edge about a foot." ]

[ "How about that stuff you put under rugs to make it non-slip?\nhttp://www.target.com/p/non-slip-rug-pad-cream/-/A-11168418#prodSlot=medium_1_1&term=non skid rug", "Same thing happens to me with my wife's recliner; the thing starts reclining while I get up.\n\nDon't scoot forward while getting up." ]

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[ "Increase/sustain energy levels Aside from the obvious (coffee, good night's sleep, etc.), does anyone have any good tips or self-proven methods to sustain energy levels throughout the day? I find myself so bogged down every day.", "Increase/sustain energy levels Aside from the obvious (coffee, good night's sleep, etc.), does anyone have any good tips or self-proven methods to sustain energy levels throughout the day? I find myself so bogged down every day.", "Increase/sustain energy levels Aside from the obvious (coffee, good night's sleep, etc.), does anyone have any good tips or self-proven methods to sustain energy levels throughout the day? I find myself so bogged down every day.", "Increase/sustain energy levels Aside from the obvious (coffee, good night's sleep, etc.), does anyone have any good tips or self-proven methods to sustain energy levels throughout the day? I find myself so bogged down every day.", "Increase/sustain energy levels Aside from the obvious (coffee, good night's sleep, etc.), does anyone have any good tips or self-proven methods to sustain energy levels throughout the day? I find myself so bogged down every day.", "Increase/sustain energy levels Aside from the obvious (coffee, good night's sleep, etc.), does anyone have any good tips or self-proven methods to sustain energy levels throughout the day? I find myself so bogged down every day.", "Increase/sustain energy levels Aside from the obvious (coffee, good night's sleep, etc.), does anyone have any good tips or self-proven methods to sustain energy levels throughout the day? I find myself so bogged down every day.", "Increase/sustain energy levels Aside from the obvious (coffee, good night's sleep, etc.), does anyone have any good tips or self-proven methods to sustain energy levels throughout the day? I find myself so bogged down every day.", "Increase/sustain energy levels Aside from the obvious (coffee, good night's sleep, etc.), does anyone have any good tips or self-proven methods to sustain energy levels throughout the day? I find myself so bogged down every day." ]

[ "Drink more water.\n\nTraining in the desert, I was always tired. Our unit stood us in formation, and made us drink a canteen (one quart) of water in the morning and told us to drink another on our own later in the day. After that I was never tired.", "Work out. It may sound counter productive, but if you have a consistent workout routine during the week, then your body will naturally produce more energy to keep up with the demand. ", "Eat bananas. I don't know the specific science, but I learned from a nutritionist they have some kind of magic that boosts energy. Here's a quick google result:\n\n\nIf you want a quick energy booster, there's no better snack than a banana. Bananas have three natural sugars; sucrose, fructose and glucose-combined with a fiber, a banana gives an instant and sustained boost of energy. Research has proven that just two bananas provide enough energy for a strenuous 90 minute work out.\n\n\n\nArticle Source: http://EzineArticles.com/118017", "Listening to some music may help. I know that on ipods you can set up the alarm to play a song when you wake up, so it may help. Exercise/water/light stretching can all help too.", "Fasting can help. \n\nI had low energy and did a one-day fast on fruit juice and had much greater energy levels after that. \n\nI did it once a week for the next few weeks and kept getting minor improvements, but I got the biggest gains the first time and then the law of diminishing returns kicked in. \n\nBasically crappy eating and lots of restaurant food will diminish your vitality, so this gives your body a chance to clean out the crap free of the demands of continually digesting food. \n\nWorking out a lot might give you the same effect, but this was a big boost for me. ", "[water](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/1dm03b/lpt_when_you_feel_like_you_need_something_but_you/)", "Two things:\n\n1.) Figure out how long your REM cycle is (so many apps for this) and stick to your sleep schedule.\n\n2.) Get tested for food allergies, in addition to vitamin deficiencies and hormone levels. Recently found out I have a mild allergy to gluten and didn't realize how much it was weighing me down until I went a couple weeks without beer or bread. :)", "Go to the doctor and make sure you don't have any vitamin deficiencies or whatnot. I recently got a smattering of blood tests and found out I have very low vitamin D, which was creating fatigue. ", "Non-Concentrated Orange juice and the Vitamin C works like coffee but will release energy for you throughout your day as you need it. As opposed to coffee or candy which will hit you all at once and has that 'crash' effect.\n\nBesides that? ...I don't know... Iron? Do you get enough Iron?" ]

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[ "Fixing deteriorating headphones? Hey LPT, I've noticed my headphones are now failing to play some parts of audio depending on the position of the wire closest to the auxiliary plug. Anyone have any tips on how to remedy this? I don't believe my warranty is still in effect and a new pair costs more than I can afford.\nThanks!", "Fixing deteriorating headphones? Hey LPT, I've noticed my headphones are now failing to play some parts of audio depending on the position of the wire closest to the auxiliary plug. Anyone have any tips on how to remedy this? I don't believe my warranty is still in effect and a new pair costs more than I can afford.\nThanks!" ]

[ "This indicates the wires inside are broken. The two ends of the broken wire are being pushed together in some positions. This sort of break usually occurs just outside of the plug jacket. The only thing you can do to fix it (short of new headphones) is to cut the cord off above the break and replace the plug. The internal wires are usually just epoxy coated instead of having removable insulation so you will have to burn it off; tinning usually takes care of that.", "You can get a replacement plug at radio shack. It'll cost about $4 or so.\nBeware, though, the wires used in most headphones are REALLY shitty, so they're cheap, enamel-coated, and easy to break.\n" ]

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[ "How to split home energy bill with 2 other housemates with different expenditures? Hi, \nI live with two other housemates, I'll call them V and F.\n\nF has an air conditioner and an electric heating showerhead, V and I share the same bathroom without an electric heating showerhead.\n\nWe're splitting the energy bill 3/7 for F, me and V 2/7 each.\n\nThe energy bill is around R$120\n\nNow I'm thinking on getting an AC unit in my bedroom, how will we fairly split the bill?\n\n", "How to split home energy bill with 2 other housemates with different expenditures? Hi, \nI live with two other housemates, I'll call them V and F.\n\nF has an air conditioner and an electric heating showerhead, V and I share the same bathroom without an electric heating showerhead.\n\nWe're splitting the energy bill 3/7 for F, me and V 2/7 each.\n\nThe energy bill is around R$120\n\nNow I'm thinking on getting an AC unit in my bedroom, how will we fairly split the bill?\n\n", "How to split home energy bill with 2 other housemates with different expenditures? Hi, \nI live with two other housemates, I'll call them V and F.\n\nF has an air conditioner and an electric heating showerhead, V and I share the same bathroom without an electric heating showerhead.\n\nWe're splitting the energy bill 3/7 for F, me and V 2/7 each.\n\nThe energy bill is around R$120\n\nNow I'm thinking on getting an AC unit in my bedroom, how will we fairly split the bill?\n\n", "How to split home energy bill with 2 other housemates with different expenditures? Hi, \nI live with two other housemates, I'll call them V and F.\n\nF has an air conditioner and an electric heating showerhead, V and I share the same bathroom without an electric heating showerhead.\n\nWe're splitting the energy bill 3/7 for F, me and V 2/7 each.\n\nThe energy bill is around R$120\n\nNow I'm thinking on getting an AC unit in my bedroom, how will we fairly split the bill?\n\n", "How to split home energy bill with 2 other housemates with different expenditures? Hi, \nI live with two other housemates, I'll call them V and F.\n\nF has an air conditioner and an electric heating showerhead, V and I share the same bathroom without an electric heating showerhead.\n\nWe're splitting the energy bill 3/7 for F, me and V 2/7 each.\n\nThe energy bill is around R$120\n\nNow I'm thinking on getting an AC unit in my bedroom, how will we fairly split the bill?\n\n" ]

[ "Deduct the yearly cost that the unit Comes with based on an energy star rating. Divide the remainder between all of you.", "[Get some energy meters](https://www.amazon.com/P3-P4400-Electricity-Usage-Monitor/dp/B00009MDBU) and take weekly logs of consumption. Multiply kWh consumed by $/kWh in your area, and split the bill accordingly each month", "I've learned that unless you are great friends and/or SO, it's best to kiss those extra, uncertain dollars goodbye and just try to make the situation agreeable for everyone. I tried for my first year with roommates to make it 'fair' for me, more work than it's worth for maybe 20 bucks a month or something. ", "Every electrical appliance will have a label on it that lists how much electricity it consumes in either watts or amps or horsepower. \nJust figure out how many hours you use the appliance per month and multiply by the watts used. \nExample: You have a 50 watt light bulb and you use it 6 hours a day, 20 days per month. 50x6x20=6000 watts per month. \nDo that for each person in the household, and that will give you a pretty accurate breakdown of who is using what electricity.\n\nYour electrical bill probably bills you on kilowatt hours, which is basically 1000 watt blocks. You'll have to look at the bill to make sure. \n\nYou just calculate how much each person is using and divide up the bill appropriately. Just simple math. You can make a spreadsheet on Google Drive if you need to make it easier or keep track from month to month.", "Compare usage the period before and after installation to get a ballpark of how much the AC is costing and work that into the bill split." ]

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[ "How to make a paperback book stay closed Just bought my first book in ages because I wanted to get back into reading (Harry Potter and the Philosophers Stone) but it just won't stay closed, I'm not sure if this is because I bent it too far or something, because it made a weird creaking noise when I bent it back too far, but it won't stay closed", "How to make a paperback book stay closed Just bought my first book in ages because I wanted to get back into reading (Harry Potter and the Philosophers Stone) but it just won't stay closed, I'm not sure if this is because I bent it too far or something, because it made a weird creaking noise when I bent it back too far, but it won't stay closed" ]

[ "If you put something heavy on top of the book for a few days it should stay closed. And remember to not open it too wide, or to put the book opened and facing down on a table or something", "Try to avoid breaking the spine of the book. The cracking noise you heard is the adhesive between the very edges of the pages (where they're bound together) slipping apart, and once that's broken it'll never close the same again. Open it just enough to see the words (90 degree angle works)." ]

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[ "removing acne scars Has anyone discovered a good way to get rid of acne scars/large pores? Or any other scars while we're on the subject. Any input would be greatly appreciated.", "removing acne scars Has anyone discovered a good way to get rid of acne scars/large pores? Or any other scars while we're on the subject. Any input would be greatly appreciated.", "removing acne scars Has anyone discovered a good way to get rid of acne scars/large pores? Or any other scars while we're on the subject. Any input would be greatly appreciated.", "removing acne scars Has anyone discovered a good way to get rid of acne scars/large pores? Or any other scars while we're on the subject. Any input would be greatly appreciated.", "removing acne scars Has anyone discovered a good way to get rid of acne scars/large pores? Or any other scars while we're on the subject. Any input would be greatly appreciated.", "removing acne scars Has anyone discovered a good way to get rid of acne scars/large pores? Or any other scars while we're on the subject. Any input would be greatly appreciated." ]

[ "Three steps to lightening acne scars:\n\n1. Exfoliation - manual or chemical. Manual exfoliation means using things like a Clarisonic brush, a face scrub, buf puf, etc. Chemical exfoliation involves products that include ingredients like salicylic acid, glycolic acid, lactic acid, retinoids. Basically, you're trying to speed up the rate of turnover of your skin surface. Acne scars aren't just on the surface of your skin, but go down many layers. You have to bring those layers up in order to get rid of the scars. The kind of exfoliation you choose depends on your individual needs and preferences. Some people prefer gentle, daily exfoliation, while others prefer intense, one-time exfoliation like chemical peels. Whatever you do, be sure to moisturize regularly. Over drying your skin can make acne worse.\n\n2. Lightening products. You're looking for the following ingredients: kojic acid, alpha arbutin, licorice extract, vitamin C, niacinamide. Azelaic acid both exfoliates and lightens, so it can be a good product for people looking to lighten acne scars specifically. A dermatologist can prescribe something like Azelex for you.\n\n3. Sunscreen. If you're exfoliating your skin on a regular basis, it's more vulnerable to sun damage. Sunlight can also darken acne scars. You need to wear at least SPF15 (higher if you're outside for more of the day) and use something with UVA/UVB protection. You should wear it everyday, rain or shine. Your skin is still getting exposed to UV rays even on cloudy days! \n\nYou have to stick to a consistent routine of exfoliating, applying lightening products, and wearing sunscreen in order to speed up healing acne scars. A few more tips:\n\n* In my experience, putting a dab of Neosporin and/or vitamin E oil on healing zits helps minimize scarring\n\n* I've also had really good results with a turmeric+(plain, non-low fat) yogurt+honey mask. Only use a pinch of turmeric, a few spoonfuls of yogurt, and a dollop of honey. Apply and leave on for 30 minutes (or as long as possible). Turmeric stains and the mask can be drippy, so it's best to stay still in one location and keep a towel or rag handy. If you have light skin, the turmeric might have stained it slightly. Just use a plain yogurt mask to lift the stain.\n\n* Don't ever pick at zits. You are more likely to get scars that way. In fact, try to avoid touching your face altogether. Your hands are a lot dirtier than you might think!", "cut a lemon in half and sprinkle sugar on top. then rub on your face but be careful . wash off in five minutes and your skin should look better that same day. repeat utill your scars are gone. ", "In honesty, the best way to deal with acne scars is going to your dermatologist. Two compound work well with acne scars--benzoyl gel and chemical peels. If you work with your dermatologist they will fade away. But depending on your severity will determine what method your doctor will choose, because there are more than one method to handle acne scars.", "I'm afraid you're really going to have to see a dermatologist. \"Home remedies\" for things like this just flat-out don't work, despite the testimony of some people who swear on it.\n\nThink about it- if the home remedies really worked, why would anybody ever spend the time and money on a dermatologist? The whole world would know about these miracle home cures that can be purchased at your local grocery store.", "I read somewhere that using the gel from Vitamin E gelcaps would work. It reduced the visibility of my scarring, but never got them to go away completely. I would just put it on at night. ", "Hydroquinone is the best ingredient to look for. It is in a fair amount of \"ethnic\" products and a good, cheap, readily-available brand is Ambi. Don't use it all over, just on the spots. " ]

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[ "Quick ways to stretch / stay active throughout the work day I find I get a lot of lower back pain when sitting for long periods of time, so wondering what advice you have for alleviating this during the work day?", "Quick ways to stretch / stay active throughout the work day I find I get a lot of lower back pain when sitting for long periods of time, so wondering what advice you have for alleviating this during the work day?", "Quick ways to stretch / stay active throughout the work day I find I get a lot of lower back pain when sitting for long periods of time, so wondering what advice you have for alleviating this during the work day?" ]

[ "There are plenty of [simple stretches](http://www.yogajournal.com/article/practice-section/six-stretches-to-do-at-work/) and [modified yoga poses](http://www.wealthywebwriter.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/Yoga_poses_at_desk.jpg) that you can do at your desk.\n\nAlso -- get up! If you have an hour for lunch, and can bring your lunch in advance/order in, spend some of that time taking a walk around the block. ", "I try once an hour to get up and away from my desk. Typically, I'll save up all of my \"mobile\" work (ie:papers I need to take down the hall to the copier or deliver to others in the office, my empty coffee cup, a restroom key), so that when my alarm goes off reminding me to move, I have some productive work to do, and I also take a quick coffee or restroom break.\n\nI'm not getting NEARLY enough steps in for the day, but it's nice to get up consistently and break away from the same old daily grind.", "One thing you could do is force yourself to stand up every time you drink water. Not only is this not socially deviate, it is also something you will do regularly. If the pain sticks, you can only do one thing. \nOne answer only - Workout. Don't care how light it is, but do it. When you are sitting on a chair for a long time, the back isn't the only part strained, it's your legs, neck, hands, eyes, everything. Do yoga, pilates, goddamn Brazilian Jiu Jiutsu for all I care. Just do it, it will work wonders with not just your body, but working out automatically builds posture, muscle, etc. \nAnd eat plant-based. Lower cholesterol means less blood vessel congestion (atherosclerosis), which causes irregular breathing and chest pains, which builds up to a lot of other problems. " ]

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[ "How to stop my eyelid from twitching! I don't have any twitchy mannerisms or ticks, but lately my eyelid will twitch for HOURS at a time. It's probably the most annoying thing I've ever experienced. Please help.", "How to stop my eyelid from twitching! I don't have any twitchy mannerisms or ticks, but lately my eyelid will twitch for HOURS at a time. It's probably the most annoying thing I've ever experienced. Please help.", "How to stop my eyelid from twitching! I don't have any twitchy mannerisms or ticks, but lately my eyelid will twitch for HOURS at a time. It's probably the most annoying thing I've ever experienced. Please help.", "How to stop my eyelid from twitching! I don't have any twitchy mannerisms or ticks, but lately my eyelid will twitch for HOURS at a time. It's probably the most annoying thing I've ever experienced. Please help.", "How to stop my eyelid from twitching! I don't have any twitchy mannerisms or ticks, but lately my eyelid will twitch for HOURS at a time. It's probably the most annoying thing I've ever experienced. Please help.", "How to stop my eyelid from twitching! I don't have any twitchy mannerisms or ticks, but lately my eyelid will twitch for HOURS at a time. It's probably the most annoying thing I've ever experienced. Please help.", "How to stop my eyelid from twitching! I don't have any twitchy mannerisms or ticks, but lately my eyelid will twitch for HOURS at a time. It's probably the most annoying thing I've ever experienced. Please help.", "How to stop my eyelid from twitching! I don't have any twitchy mannerisms or ticks, but lately my eyelid will twitch for HOURS at a time. It's probably the most annoying thing I've ever experienced. Please help." ]

[ "try one or more of the following:\n\n- more potassium-rich fruits and veggies... and/or sodium-free salt substitute (which is pretty much just potassium)\n\n- less caffeine\n\n- more sleep\n\n- less stress\n", "Magnesium supplements are also supposed to help. Magnesium helps to maintain normal nerve and muscle function and can help to relax muscles (therefore helping the twitch)", "This happened to me for a long time. Started drinking more water and it went away. I don't know if they were related, but either way, rest assured it will go away eventually.", "It's probably a stress thing; I had an awful eye twitch earlier this year, and I'm sure getting more sleep/cutting caffeine/reducing my stress levels would have helped, but I was desperate for a quicker fix (my eye was twitching ALL THE TIME), so I attempted acupuncture. I only went for one treatment, but it definitely helped. The eye twitching was greatly reduced, and I was able to manage my stress level better after, since I wasn't so upset about my twitching eye, to the point my eye hasn't twitched in months. Just a suggestion, and good luck! ", "I concur, it's stress! I am yet to resolve mine though. I admire the guy who said he quit his job but I thank that would make my eyelids twitch until they fell off", "As a sufferer of this, I suggest reduce your stress! I suffered this more months on end, thought something was really wrong, I quit my job and spent 3 weeks unemployed to spend time with my girlfriend who was leaving the country for a few years and it instantly went away!", "I thought mine was stress, it was actually a meningioma. (Lemon sized brain tumor.). If the other things don't work, get your head checked. I hope that's not it, and it's highly unlikely, but I was completely caught off guard by the diagnosis.", "- Get more sleep\n- Stop staring at a computer for hours on end\n- Drink less caffeine\n- Don't stress so much. Take time to relax. " ]

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[ "How to meet a new person? How can someone meet with a new person that has no ties? Not in the same friend group, not a common friend etc. Lets say that one of them is a girl and other is a boy? What would you do in your life?", "How to meet a new person? How can someone meet with a new person that has no ties? Not in the same friend group, not a common friend etc. Lets say that one of them is a girl and other is a boy? What would you do in your life?", "How to meet a new person? How can someone meet with a new person that has no ties? Not in the same friend group, not a common friend etc. Lets say that one of them is a girl and other is a boy? What would you do in your life?", "How to meet a new person? How can someone meet with a new person that has no ties? Not in the same friend group, not a common friend etc. Lets say that one of them is a girl and other is a boy? What would you do in your life?", "How to meet a new person? How can someone meet with a new person that has no ties? Not in the same friend group, not a common friend etc. Lets say that one of them is a girl and other is a boy? What would you do in your life?" ]

[ "Ask for a small favor in a public but relaxed place. (Borrow a pen, directions, adjust collar. When people do favors for you, they take a special interest because they have invested thier time into you. Great way to start a relationship.", "Let me get this straight, you want to meet a girl, but don't have any mutual friends. You also don't have mutual activities in common, like you don't go to the same school. \n\nBasically, you need to be in the same place as her and then go talk to her. Don't be a creepy stalker, please. Don't send her a message over the internet either. Seriously, just walk up to her, say she's cute, and ask her for her instagram. \n\n", "Join a dance class. Guaranteed social interaction, exercise, and you learn a skill that could impress others at parties, weddings, and company parties, especially if you're a guy.\n\n", "Take up photography...take camera out to eat or random locations...grow nuts...stand up and ask crowded room if anyone minds if you randomly take their pictures. take pics...talk while doing it...smile while talking...profit", "I'm gonna go out on a limb and say that you think this girl is pretty cute and maybe you'd like to potentially date her. If that's the case, here's what I'd do.\n\nIf you're a pretty good looking guy, you could just walk up to her and start talking to her. Just say \"Hi, my name is _____. What's yours?\" Imagine if a cute girl did that to you. That'd be pretty exciting eh? A random cute girl just starts talking to you. Same with her. However, this is VERY high risk high reward. There could be the possibility that she thinks its a bit weird. But if she doesn't, you roll the right dice and play your cards right, you could be set. \n\nIf you'd rather try something a little safer, then I'd suggest thinking about possible ways you could **make** a tie. Maybe you share a class together or something. \n\nIt's sounding like your best bet, however, is to shoot for the stars. Take a chance! \n\nAlso, make sure you do not start obsessing over this girl. You'd be seen as really creepy and overbearing. Have realistic expectations. " ]

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[ "How to manage texting and reply in a timely, stress-free manner Does anyone have advice for how to manage text messages (on whatsapp/telegram/imessage)?\n\nI have ADHD/anxiety. When I'm trying to focus on something important, I find an incoming flood of notifications from texts highly distracting/stressful. So, I turn my phone to flight mode/do not disturb mode. Other times, I just avoid my phone because I feel socially exhausted and want time alone (though I don't rly mind people IRL). I usually try to be thoughtful about my text messages and don't always have the social capacity for this.\n\nThis results in:\n\n1) a terrifying backlog of text messages which are usually overwhelming and terrifying to return to\n2) missed text messages from other people\n\nI will probably forget about all these texts (which have potentially important information) or be too overwhelmed/anxious to reply.\n\nThe most spammy chats are ones with coworkers who happen to use the work chats for things like memes/social things as well, so I cannot exit/mute the chat.\n\nDoes anyone have suggestions on how to cope????\nI sincerely would like to learn how to solve this problem because my current texting habits are quite inconsiderate to others!", "How to manage texting and reply in a timely, stress-free manner Does anyone have advice for how to manage text messages (on whatsapp/telegram/imessage)?\n\nI have ADHD/anxiety. When I'm trying to focus on something important, I find an incoming flood of notifications from texts highly distracting/stressful. So, I turn my phone to flight mode/do not disturb mode. Other times, I just avoid my phone because I feel socially exhausted and want time alone (though I don't rly mind people IRL). I usually try to be thoughtful about my text messages and don't always have the social capacity for this.\n\nThis results in:\n\n1) a terrifying backlog of text messages which are usually overwhelming and terrifying to return to\n2) missed text messages from other people\n\nI will probably forget about all these texts (which have potentially important information) or be too overwhelmed/anxious to reply.\n\nThe most spammy chats are ones with coworkers who happen to use the work chats for things like memes/social things as well, so I cannot exit/mute the chat.\n\nDoes anyone have suggestions on how to cope????\nI sincerely would like to learn how to solve this problem because my current texting habits are quite inconsiderate to others!", "How to manage texting and reply in a timely, stress-free manner Does anyone have advice for how to manage text messages (on whatsapp/telegram/imessage)?\n\nI have ADHD/anxiety. When I'm trying to focus on something important, I find an incoming flood of notifications from texts highly distracting/stressful. So, I turn my phone to flight mode/do not disturb mode. Other times, I just avoid my phone because I feel socially exhausted and want time alone (though I don't rly mind people IRL). I usually try to be thoughtful about my text messages and don't always have the social capacity for this.\n\nThis results in:\n\n1) a terrifying backlog of text messages which are usually overwhelming and terrifying to return to\n2) missed text messages from other people\n\nI will probably forget about all these texts (which have potentially important information) or be too overwhelmed/anxious to reply.\n\nThe most spammy chats are ones with coworkers who happen to use the work chats for things like memes/social things as well, so I cannot exit/mute the chat.\n\nDoes anyone have suggestions on how to cope????\nI sincerely would like to learn how to solve this problem because my current texting habits are quite inconsiderate to others!", "How to manage texting and reply in a timely, stress-free manner Does anyone have advice for how to manage text messages (on whatsapp/telegram/imessage)?\n\nI have ADHD/anxiety. When I'm trying to focus on something important, I find an incoming flood of notifications from texts highly distracting/stressful. So, I turn my phone to flight mode/do not disturb mode. Other times, I just avoid my phone because I feel socially exhausted and want time alone (though I don't rly mind people IRL). I usually try to be thoughtful about my text messages and don't always have the social capacity for this.\n\nThis results in:\n\n1) a terrifying backlog of text messages which are usually overwhelming and terrifying to return to\n2) missed text messages from other people\n\nI will probably forget about all these texts (which have potentially important information) or be too overwhelmed/anxious to reply.\n\nThe most spammy chats are ones with coworkers who happen to use the work chats for things like memes/social things as well, so I cannot exit/mute the chat.\n\nDoes anyone have suggestions on how to cope????\nI sincerely would like to learn how to solve this problem because my current texting habits are quite inconsiderate to others!", "How to manage texting and reply in a timely, stress-free manner Does anyone have advice for how to manage text messages (on whatsapp/telegram/imessage)?\n\nI have ADHD/anxiety. When I'm trying to focus on something important, I find an incoming flood of notifications from texts highly distracting/stressful. So, I turn my phone to flight mode/do not disturb mode. Other times, I just avoid my phone because I feel socially exhausted and want time alone (though I don't rly mind people IRL). I usually try to be thoughtful about my text messages and don't always have the social capacity for this.\n\nThis results in:\n\n1) a terrifying backlog of text messages which are usually overwhelming and terrifying to return to\n2) missed text messages from other people\n\nI will probably forget about all these texts (which have potentially important information) or be too overwhelmed/anxious to reply.\n\nThe most spammy chats are ones with coworkers who happen to use the work chats for things like memes/social things as well, so I cannot exit/mute the chat.\n\nDoes anyone have suggestions on how to cope????\nI sincerely would like to learn how to solve this problem because my current texting habits are quite inconsiderate to others!", "How to manage texting and reply in a timely, stress-free manner Does anyone have advice for how to manage text messages (on whatsapp/telegram/imessage)?\n\nI have ADHD/anxiety. When I'm trying to focus on something important, I find an incoming flood of notifications from texts highly distracting/stressful. So, I turn my phone to flight mode/do not disturb mode. Other times, I just avoid my phone because I feel socially exhausted and want time alone (though I don't rly mind people IRL). I usually try to be thoughtful about my text messages and don't always have the social capacity for this.\n\nThis results in:\n\n1) a terrifying backlog of text messages which are usually overwhelming and terrifying to return to\n2) missed text messages from other people\n\nI will probably forget about all these texts (which have potentially important information) or be too overwhelmed/anxious to reply.\n\nThe most spammy chats are ones with coworkers who happen to use the work chats for things like memes/social things as well, so I cannot exit/mute the chat.\n\nDoes anyone have suggestions on how to cope????\nI sincerely would like to learn how to solve this problem because my current texting habits are quite inconsiderate to others!", "How to manage texting and reply in a timely, stress-free manner Does anyone have advice for how to manage text messages (on whatsapp/telegram/imessage)?\n\nI have ADHD/anxiety. When I'm trying to focus on something important, I find an incoming flood of notifications from texts highly distracting/stressful. So, I turn my phone to flight mode/do not disturb mode. Other times, I just avoid my phone because I feel socially exhausted and want time alone (though I don't rly mind people IRL). I usually try to be thoughtful about my text messages and don't always have the social capacity for this.\n\nThis results in:\n\n1) a terrifying backlog of text messages which are usually overwhelming and terrifying to return to\n2) missed text messages from other people\n\nI will probably forget about all these texts (which have potentially important information) or be too overwhelmed/anxious to reply.\n\nThe most spammy chats are ones with coworkers who happen to use the work chats for things like memes/social things as well, so I cannot exit/mute the chat.\n\nDoes anyone have suggestions on how to cope????\nI sincerely would like to learn how to solve this problem because my current texting habits are quite inconsiderate to others!", "How to manage texting and reply in a timely, stress-free manner Does anyone have advice for how to manage text messages (on whatsapp/telegram/imessage)?\n\nI have ADHD/anxiety. When I'm trying to focus on something important, I find an incoming flood of notifications from texts highly distracting/stressful. So, I turn my phone to flight mode/do not disturb mode. Other times, I just avoid my phone because I feel socially exhausted and want time alone (though I don't rly mind people IRL). I usually try to be thoughtful about my text messages and don't always have the social capacity for this.\n\nThis results in:\n\n1) a terrifying backlog of text messages which are usually overwhelming and terrifying to return to\n2) missed text messages from other people\n\nI will probably forget about all these texts (which have potentially important information) or be too overwhelmed/anxious to reply.\n\nThe most spammy chats are ones with coworkers who happen to use the work chats for things like memes/social things as well, so I cannot exit/mute the chat.\n\nDoes anyone have suggestions on how to cope????\nI sincerely would like to learn how to solve this problem because my current texting habits are quite inconsiderate to others!", "How to manage texting and reply in a timely, stress-free manner Does anyone have advice for how to manage text messages (on whatsapp/telegram/imessage)?\n\nI have ADHD/anxiety. When I'm trying to focus on something important, I find an incoming flood of notifications from texts highly distracting/stressful. So, I turn my phone to flight mode/do not disturb mode. Other times, I just avoid my phone because I feel socially exhausted and want time alone (though I don't rly mind people IRL). I usually try to be thoughtful about my text messages and don't always have the social capacity for this.\n\nThis results in:\n\n1) a terrifying backlog of text messages which are usually overwhelming and terrifying to return to\n2) missed text messages from other people\n\nI will probably forget about all these texts (which have potentially important information) or be too overwhelmed/anxious to reply.\n\nThe most spammy chats are ones with coworkers who happen to use the work chats for things like memes/social things as well, so I cannot exit/mute the chat.\n\nDoes anyone have suggestions on how to cope????\nI sincerely would like to learn how to solve this problem because my current texting habits are quite inconsiderate to others!" ]

[ "Treat your phone as something *you* own, rather than it owning you. You have no obligation to respond to anyone for any reason from *your* phone. I refuse to allow people to try to guilt trip me for not answering or responding on their schedule. The second time they attempt to guilt trip me, I give them a lecture on how childish they are acting. The third time I ghost them. Work phones are a different story, though.", "Your work \"groupchats\" are optional. You can exit/mute/delete. If anyone **needs** you, they can go to your manager/supervisor/email.\n\nSet a do-not-disturb message. Most people will stop texting if they receive an \"I'm not available right now, but I'll get back to you when I can.\" auto-text.\n\n", "Turn off all notifications. \n\n_All._\n\nOnce you’ve untrained your brain to react to *buzz* *buzz* *tone* (remember _before_ you owned a phone?) you’ll lead a more peaceful life. ", "I tend to quickly leave group chats and occasionally blanket delete message threads if they’re consistently not relevant to me, but for the most part my texts and notifications are pretty manageable. \n\nI think it’s worth spending a whole day and really toning down social media notifications, trawling through privacy and spam settings, all that. I’d also recommend a spam email address versus using your personal email, and I also have a third for business (and a fourth for company-specific). I don’t receive a lot of emails on the ones I check daily, and the others recieve hundreds a day but I’m not anxious about them. \n\nMy best advice once your intake is at the lowest it can be is to then set time aside during the day to respond. I read everything as I get it, but anything not time sensitive gets a response in the next few days. I generally plan responses during a 40 min period I have set aside each night before I get ready for bed. I’ll occasionally do 20 minutes early morning too, but I try not to text people too early. That hour of alotted time is just a guideline tho. I don’t spend nearly that long actually talking to people every day, but I know I have it set aside when I get something in the moment but don’t want to or can’t respond immediately. \n\nIf I miss someone day-of because I ran out of time, I roll my response into the next alloted segment. People get used to delayed responses and know to call me with anything urgent and, frankly, this system generally means I respond more reliably than half my friends, even tho it seems like I’d be slower or more flakey.\n\nI have an OCD diagnosis, not ADD, so I’m not sure how this factors in. ", "You can always reply fast \"I'll reply to you later right now I'm a little busy, thanks for understanding!\" ", "My advice would be to disable sound for the groups so you can check them later, my be tell them to call/write private to you if they need something. I would also set different sounds/vibration patterns to different people. That way if you have a bad day you could ignore eg. all short vibrations and only check long ones", "I don’t know what kind of phone you have, but I have an iPhone. I can go into Settings and change how I am alerted to new messages. Sometimes I turn the sound part of the notification off and rely on the text-based alert. Or I look at the messages at set times during the day and completely turn off the alerts. I use my phone often enough that I can see there are new messages - I don’t need to be nagged about it. \n\nThe other thing I do is reply with something like “I’m in the middle of something, I will respond in a few hours.” That enforces my being in control and helps me deal with feeling like I’m being forced into human interaction.\n\nAnxiety is rough. But you can use technology to improve your quality of life.", "Just make it very clear to them just like you did right here and say something like \"hey I may not read the chat much but would still like to stay. If it's urgent, just tag or call me\"", "I use a pomodoro timer app when I'm working (25 minute sessions of work with 5 minute breaks in between, 20 minute break every 4 sessions) and try to only respond to texts during the breaks so they don't take over my time. It's not too much of a delay to seem rude but enough that the other person can tell that you're busy and can't have a long conversation right then.\n\nMuting group texts can also help but it sounds like you still want to stay in the loop. Maybe you could mute them when you need to really focus, then turn them back on once you have time to check in. I feel like most people get how hard it can be to follow a massive group text when you're busy with other things and won't fault you if you miss something! They'll reach out directly if it's really important." ]

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[ "When I was in transition between jobs. I decided this would be next best skill to acquire. It took me 2-4 days. I can't remember. I link this person's video because he helped me. This exact video.\n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=viKTznXnT6k\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hb7QzKM2oAw", "Dry your fingers and lips to begin with. Fold your tongue back on it's self, press any two fingers, I use index and third finger, against the bottom side of your tongue. Seal your ~~leaps~~ ~~leps~~ schleaps around your fingers, leaving only the gap between your fingers as a route for air to get out; alter the size of the gap for air to escape using your upper lip\n(your bottom lip should stay sealed). Practice, practice, perfect, get money.\n\nhttp://www.artofmanliness.com/2012/04/08/how-to-whistle-with-your-fingers/", "Oh man, saw a thread like this a couple months ago with infographic included. Spit all over my monitor, got finger taste in my mouth, no sound came out. 3/10 would not try again.", "Oh god, I just made the weirdest noise when I tried. I'm in the bathroom and now the dog is barking and scratching at the door and my boyfriend is doing that \"heyyyyyyyy, you ok!?!\" \nSo now I either admit to redditing in the bathroom or just making random saliva filled semi whistle noises. ", "I began to make progress (real progress) last year with one insight and I want to share this point which no one else has yet addressed.\n\nWhat is actually making the noise?\n\nTo make a sound you need to have a rapidly vibrating stretch of flesh which will act like a reed does on a clarinet. This is what you're attempting to form when you push your fingers against your tongue. You want to stretch the tip of your tongue into a thin fold that will vibrate more quickly the more taut it is. The more quickly it vibrates the higher the pitch of the whistle.\n\nThe blow is the energy that causes the tongue to vibrate and carries the sound out into the world. The more force you exert the louder (and more piercing) the whistle.", "Put the tips of your thumb and index (or middle, or ring) finger together so they make an O shape. Press against the tip/underside of your tongue (near the piece of skin that connects it to your jaw). Push backwards (don't Overdo it, stick to comfortable positions). Hold your lips like you're saying the letter O (see a pattern emerging?), then blow.\n\nIt might not work reliably at first (or at all). Just practice, move your fingers/tongue around to find your sweet spot.\n\nI wasn't able to do this until is was 20+ years old, this is pretty much how I managed to 'learn it'.", "[The Dad Whistle](http://www.cc.com/video-clips/pjqz3a/stand-up-steve-rannazzisi--extended---uncensored---dad-whistle)", "[Not sure if this video was already posted,](https://www.youtube.com/watch?t=180&v=mYpmyE1fliE) but I was able to learn from it, where I did not have success using the instructions in the top comment.", "Similarly, how can I whistle really loudly without using my fingers? Like dr. Cox in scrubs? I can whistle decently and melodically through my mouth, but it's not very loud. Anybody know?", "I learned to whistle without fingers and it actually is a lot louder and I'm able to work it to different pitches. I learned it one night at work when I was in high school and once you start to make a sound, it develops pretty quickly. \n\nThe way you do it is to put the sides of your tongue against the inside of your top teeth and shape your tongue in a slight \"u\" shape (very slight). Behind your two front teeth, drop the middle of the U down until you have small pinhole under your front teeth. \n\nThe way it works is your tongue is keeping all air exhaled in a small space above (seals it off from area below tongue). This allows you to push the air really fast to the hole you've made. Just keep blowing through the small hole and very slightly move your tongue hole forward and back until you hear a weak low tone. When you hear that, tighten up the hole and you will begin to hear the whistle get stronger and louder. Hope that helps.\n\nSide note, it is priceless when you are trying to find your kid or get his attention in a crowd. Whistle and here they come. Of course, you get some other kids but it's catch and release on those. ", "You can read all you want about proper placement, but you will have to experiment and it takes lots of time. \n\nThe top poster said to make sure no air gets out your bottom lip, but I can do it with air passing through, so I don't think lip *shape* is too important. You must make sure your lips wrap over your teeth though. \n\nTry out different fingers, your thumb and all your other ones, first two fingers of each hand, both pinkys etc. Place them so one of the knuckles is just outside your lips. Also try changing the angle between the fingers. I find as close to 180 as possible works best (as in the fingertips point straight at each other). You can also change the angle between your hand and your mouth (somewhere between your fingers pointing straight up, down your throat, or pointing straight down). Once i figured it out with one pair of fingers I could do it with the rest. \n\nFinally, what took me the longest to figure out was where your fingers touch your tongue. This is very important and I think it changes based on the shape of your mouth. For me I had to place my fingertips right where the frenulum began (that web that holds your tongue to the bottom of your mouth) I pull my tongue all the way back, then I try and point the tip toward the roof of my mouth, and then slide the whole tongue forward until it touches my fingertips. \n\nIt took me a year or two of practicing whenever I was in the car, but once I got it then I could do it any time. Don't blow too hard, if you have the right shape you should be able to whistle without pushing air too much. You still have to give it a good huff though, so try a position then blow a puff of air to see if you have it. Don't do it so much you end up getting lightheaded while driving", "There are a lot of good suggestions here. I would also suggest alternating between 2 fingers on one hand (like the \"OK\" sign), and one (or 2) finger from each hand.\nWhen I learned it was easier to get the technique using both hands. Once I understood, I could do it either way pretty easily.\n\n*also it seems like it requires less air to whistle using both hands than it does with one hand making the OK sign.", "People have given good suggestions on the technique. I would recommend practicing in the shower. It's cleaner for when you drool and spit everywhere.\n\nI also find the two hand technique easier than one hand. I can consistently get two hands but only about 70% of the time one handed. I taught myself how when I was coaching soccer.", "what I do is put two fingernails together with one nail slightly overlapping the other so that they form a strait line. I like to use fingers that arent the thumbs so that it gets the angle right. Put them on the end of your tongue and hold your fingers at a 90 degree angle 'pointing' towards the back of your mouth. lift your tounge up slightly so that the 'nail line' is in the middle of your mouth and close your mouth around them . Then blow really hard. Damn this was a lot harder to explain then I thought it would be lol. Watch the video someone else posted if you still have trouble, its a lot easier to explain if I can show someone, especially for how your mouth closes around your fingers ", "This is something I never understood. WHEN do people practice this?! \n\nFor a while, I always practiced it while walking home late at night. Until I realised it probably scares the shit out of whoever is also out walking. Some random guy walking around outside loudly whistling over and over past midnight. Totally sane behaviour. \n\nThen how about in my apartment? Nah, people would probably think I broke a leg or something, and need someone to come help me. The shower? Yeah, that would probably drain out most of the sound. I need to practice MORE though, but how?! \n\nNo but really, where do you guys practice? This thing (though with no hands) is taking me ages to master. ", "They covered this in [The Art of Manliness](http://www.artofmanliness.com/2012/04/08/how-to-whistle-with-your-fingers/)", "On the same note, does anyone know any good tutorials of learning how to whistle without your fingers please?", "My mom swears she learned how from big bird on sesame street. The only video I can find is him reciting a poem though.", "I've wanted to do this for years, never even thought of it again until this. \n\nWatched both videos, had it with both pinky's and thumb and forefinger by the end of the second video. \n\nChildhood level up!", "I'm on my way to your place to show you how to use your fingers in your mouth to make a whistle sound, I'll bring along everyone in this sub...they're all invited. Together we will solve your finger-mouth-noise making problem.", "I can whistle so loud doing this it makes my ears ring for hours afterwards. My friends have forbidden me from whistling ever again after he asked me to demonstrate.", "How do you do it without your fingers? Like how a badass Cowboys whistles for his horse. Not the regular whistle. The the loud one. ", "As someone who learned this and how to whistle loudly without I highly recommend the latter. My mom always called us with a very loud shrill whistle which she taught me and it has come I'm handy more times than I can count. Can be used to get attention, as a distress signal or at concerts/sporting events. It's louder, doesn't give you the taste of fingers and you don't have to put dirty hands in your mouth. \n\nYou form a channel behind your upper two front teeth by cupping your tongue upward behind them. The long edge of the rest of your tongue should be resting along your other top teeth. Blow air down through this channel and adjust until you get a sound. \n\nBest to use a hand mirror, and prepare to be light headed. 10/10 useful skill I would highly recommend. ", "1-roll you lips around your theeth like he says on the video /u/stigmatas linked \n2-roll your tongue downward to leave only a small space between your tongue and your upper lip \n3-blow \n4-use your fingers and the rest of your hand to wave at a taxi while still being able to carry whatever you're carrying in your other hand.", "make sure your fingers are dry.\n\npinch your thumb and pointer together then try to spread your knuckles as far apart as they can go.\n\nnow you're fingers are in a pincer-like shape. now put them between your lips and touch your tongue to where your fingers meet. press our tongue with some pressure against your fingers\n\nwhile blowing out (at the same speed you'd normally whistle), pull your pointer and thumb away from each other slightly, you'll hear a bit of a whistle at a certain spot/blowing speed. \n\ntook me like an hour to learn this way.", "i'm with deanykg, i still suck at this after 5 minutes and now the tips of those fingers hurt and I have dribble on my chin..not cool\n", "god damnit i am light headed now..i keep trying and upon each try i can hear a FAINT whistle..and then it goes away..", "You dont have to put your nasty fingers in your mouth to whistle loud! \n\nCreate a spoonshape with your tongue and press it against the back of your upper teeth. Adjust until you can keep a tone, then steadily increase pressure.", "You don't need to use fingers to make a loud whistle: there is a method wherein you use only your tongue and lips.", "Wow, I just tried to do this after reading this post's title and I was able to do it. I just tried to whistle normally, but with two fingers in my mouth separated by about a centimeter.", "When you work on a farm you get shit on your fingers but you still need to call the dogs in. So you can do the exact same whistle without your fingers in your mouth.\n\nI just made you a video of the whistle. \nhttps://youtu.be/mvHmep9D93Y", "Well I'll be danged, that's my video. I'm glad to hear it helped some folks. To those trying in vain, I'll look for you tonight with the pitchforks and the torches.", "The folding of the tongue is key. People have various methods. making the circle \"ok\" with your thumb and pointer finger is my proffered, others like two pointers or two pinkies into corners of mouth. Both are folding their tongue and blowing up through the sounds. ", "Thanks, I can now whistle with my fingers both ways. I watched the Art of Manliness video that /u/davidmirkin posted.", "Thank you all! Been a crappy few weeks and you all had me laughing so hard I almost wet myself. Still can't frighin whistle though", "THANKYOU!!!!! I'm a 33y old man and can only occasionally put out a good hard whistle; but only after 3-7 attempts. I feel like a lesser man because of it. Thank you magic whistle genie, I shall practice ", "Practice practice practice. \nI was 10 or 11 bored from my homework. I practiced and suddenly I managed it to big dismay of my mother.\nAsk someone who can do it and try to copy their technique. ", "Omg I'm ridiculously good at doing this, I go def in my ear for a little bit because of how loud I do it. It's hard to explain how to typing, I'd need to show in person. But I use my index finger and middle finger on both hands and connect both of my middle fingers together to make an A kinda, then fold the front of my tongue back a little and let loose\n\n", "Nah, what you really want to do is whistle without your fingers. People will be far more impressed, plus, bitchez love that shit. ", "My grandfather who fought in the Solomons in WW2 showed me how to whistle using a shell you find on the beach.\n\nBugger I just checked YouTube and can't find an example. Its a small clam looking shell that comfortably fits your thumb. I thought it was well known", "My dog only responds to my finger whistle now ... goodness what would happen if I lost my hands :o :o .... I must get them insured for poor Booja. ", "Just put two fingers at an angle to your mouth, and practice blowing out of your lips using different shapes with your tongue. Just move it all around little by little, while you keep blowing, and take notice of how the air flowing changes when you push it out. All you need is to become aware of how the air flow changes (how it sounds) when you change the finger position, air strength and tongue position. It's all about *feeling*, so it could help to close your eyes while you practice.\n\nAt first you'll just hear whooshing and have no clue. But as your awareness of the small changes increase, you'll be able to \"tune\" your tongue and fingers to sharpen the whooshing. Move things around in very small increments and evaluate if it sounds *closer* to a sharp sound than a hollow sound.\n\nYou may need to exert a good amount of pressure when you blow. I'm unable to do it if I don't use enough POOF.", "It's exactly like people tell you. Take your index and middle fingers on each hand, make a V with the tips of your fingers touching, use the tip of the V to fold the front of your tongue back over on top of its self, and blow. Just fiddle about with the angle of your fingers, how much tongue your fold over etc. Once you hear any form of a whistle starting to emerge, persevere with it and you'll find a full blown whistle. ", "If you blow hard and long enough, you're able to whistle under water. It's one of my favorite talents.", "I've tried this a few times and never got it but gave it another go with some of the instructions below. It worked by far the easiest for me with my thumb and ring finger pressed against the gum line of my bottom front teeth", "I've been trying it for the last few minutes. My husband is sitting next to me watching a video on his laptop and giving me dirty looks. I haven't gotten it yet. It sounds like I'm blowing up an invisible balloon.", "I've been practicing semi-consistently since January and I still haven't mastered it. It took three months of trying every day while driving (I don't drive a manual) to even get a sound out. I can get it really loud now but not always on the first try. Basically you just have to keep trying.", "I'm not going to post the exact details of how I learned because other people have already linked accurate guides and I'm just far too lazy, so I'll just share my story of being able to finger-whistle really, really fucking loud. \n\nI really wanted to learn how to whistle. Really bad. I spent my summers growing up in the Italian Alps and we had this dog that was blind in one eye and we would walk it and it would just run up the trails in the mountains and my mom would whistle and he would come back. No matter what, she would whistle and he would come back, sometimes running up over a ridge or swimming through a shallow river. I thought it was the coolest thing ever. \n\nAnyway, I dabbled for years but could never get anything. One day I guess I just decided to actually commit and I would try it when walking, spittle flying from my mouth, sometimes to the point of dizziness from lack of oxygen. I'd say it probably took me between two and three m to master. \n\nAnd by master I mean I could create a shrill screech that would instantaneously quiet a high school lunch or pierce through the yells of a music festival. I mean it could scare people shitless. My friends would get mad at me for doing it. I eventually learned restraint. \n\nJesus that story was longer than it needed to be for typing it out on a cellphone. \n\nTLDR: took me like three months; louder than a banshee's wail. ", "I'm convinced that some people just can never learn to do it. Much like wiggling you ears. I wanted to be able to whistle and control the pitch so I could call my dog. Tried everyday for about a month to whistle with my fingers then eventually bought one of [these.](https://www.google.com/search?q=scottish+herding+whistle&espv=2&biw=1234&bih=679&site=webhp&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0CAYQ_AUoAWoVChMIh-XVspj1xwIV0FCICh2saQCl#tbm=isch&q=sheep+dog+whistle)\n\nIt pretty much does the same thing with the added bonus that you don't have to stick your nasty fingers in your mouth.\n", "I wouldn't really consider whistling with your fingers a lifepro tip. I think this subreddit was about tips for life that the user would typically overlook. This just seems to be a skill/talent that you can learn about looking it up on youtube...", "I was a lifeguard when I was 16 years old and they would make the rookies sit in the chair alone in the early morning on cloudy days when very few people were at the beach while the rest of the older guards stayed in the shack and played cards and ate breakfast. The senior guard of my beach told me that no self respecting lifeguard cannot whistle through his fingers. Blowing the actual whistle was for important matters while using your fingers as a whistle was for simple stuff like when you see someone approaching the water outside of the swimming area, a quick whistle with your fingers would get there attention and you could easily point out the swimming area flags. You don't wanna blow a loud professional sounding whistle for simple bullshit like that. So the senior guard of my beach told me as a rookie that I would sit in the chair alone ALL day on a cloudy day until I could summon him with my mouth whistle, as soon as I figured it out he would switch spots with me and he'd sit in the chair and I could sit in the shack and play cards. He gave me a couple of pointers and showed me some techniques and left. I sat in the chair all day long trying to figure it out. Eventually I figured it out and I let out a loud whistle and he came out of the shack applauding but instead just sent out a 3rd year guard to switch spots with me. Ha! TLDR: The only way to figure it out is time and persistence.", "I used to be able to do this as a kid very well. But I was sad because I wanted musical whistling and I couldn't do it. So I practised very hard at using just my lips, and now I can whistle like Rodger Whitaker... but somehow I've completely lost how to do it this way. So, I'm gonna go spit all over my car for a few days.", "I think not everyone's mouth and fingers are the same, so even after trying all the methods you still can't do it, then that's it, you can't do it. It's your body.", "I taught myself to do it without my fingers about 11 years ago. I just kept trying while cooking dinner, doing chores, etc. I call it my dad whistle. It's been so handy since then.", "I taught myself in middle school. Can also tweet with my teeth. Want to learn how to whistle loudly without any fingers thought. ", "I taught myself how to do this when I was little. For me it was really just trial and error. I just kept trying with my fingers in my mouth in different positions. When I do it with finger in an okay position I put my finger just on the tip on my tongue and push my tongue against my finger and blow. Sometimes I have to move my hand or mouth around to find the correct positions. I also do it with my index and middle fingers on both hands by putting my middle fingers in the middle of my tongue right on the tip and my index fingers right next to them and slightly push my tongue against them when I blow. I find this way to be easier and has a nicer whistle sound. ", "I see people whistle with their fingers and it confuses me. I can Whistle louder with just my mouth by inhaling than most people can with their fingers.", "I posted this in an Askreddit thread a while back. I guess it helped a lot of people, so maybe it will help you too.\n\nSome people don't know that you need to curl your tongue upwards like [this](http://thecreativejunkie.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/08/helena-tongue-4.jpg) . It doesn't need to be that exaggerated, but when you curl your tongue like that, put your fingers on top, and whistle like normal but with more air. If you don't get a whistle, adjust the tightness of your mouth and which fingers you use. I tried the index finger and thumb combination forever to no avail. When I finally tried using my index finger from each hand I got a whistle right away. If you're a girl with small fingers, use both index and middle fingers (Phrasing!)\nMake sure to do this by yourself, because when you don't get the whistle right away, and proceed to spit all over yourself, that won't look attractive. Good luck! \n", "I literally only just learned this over the past couple of weeks. \n\nTook me a whole week to consistently get it first go every time. \nWhat I had read lead me a bit astray since nearly every video told me to fold my tongue back which isn't what works for me. \n\nWhat I do is point the tip of my tongue towards the back of my teeth (Don't touch your teeth). I then put my index finger and middle finger together on both hands and push the corner of my middle fingers together. \n\nWhen I put them in my mouth, I make my mouth look like I'm an old person with no teeth (Tuck your top lip under your top teeth and tuck your bottom lip over your bottom teeth). \n\nI push slightly against the bottom of my tongue with both fingers on each hand and push against my fingers slightly with my tongue. (Your tongue should feel rigid). \n\nAt this point when you blow, no air should escape from anywhere other than the hole between your fingers in your lips. \n\nIf air is escaping around your fingers, than the seal isn't tight enough. \n\nYou will need to blow surprisingly hard to make a noise, so be sure not to do it around family to avoid annoying the shit out of them like I did. \n\nOnce you've got it down, don't go around whistling like a madman like I also did and piss off absolutely everyone in your life.\n", "I learned this about 6 months ago. Used it at a concert and instantly went to it! Fellow whistle in sued. My kid had a football game and the team won. I spit sunflower seeds everywhere. Use with caution!", "I learned how to do this from nice step-by-step guide in \"The Encyclopedia of Immaturity\". Can't find it right now (might be on the toilet in my week-end house), but you get a used copy of this book for a few cents on Amazon.", "I learned from watching some YouTube videos. I like wolf whistle better, where you don't use your fingers.", "I know you're all struggling with this, but I just wanted you to know... I can whistle using every combination of 2 fingers using either hand.", "I just can't do it. I'm an incredibly good whistler, but I've never managed to whistle with my finger, tried again, doesn't work. I think my tongue is too small for this shit.", "I have a dog and needed to learn it. Took this Video and around 10 tries: http://youtu.be/IlXgdAujzaY\n\nThe key for the start is taking index and middle finger together, it is much easier. \n\n", "I first leant using the first two fingers of each hand, the sides of the two middle fingers pressed together and then pushed onto my folder tongue. It's not the loudest or clearest whistle, but it works easily and was useful for refining my technique. \n\nMy go to whistle (causes shock, awe and profanity within a 5 m radius) is to press the ends of my thumb and middle finger together. I have used this whistle to stop a truck that had driven off with its rear cargo door open.\n\nFor a quieter, clearer tone, I use thumb to press my index and little fingers together, the middle two first being folded down.\n\n", "I could never whistle. Ever. I tried some. But then I got an overnight stocking job. In a few weeks of practicing the whole shift, I finally self taught myself. I'm still below average, but I CAN whistle.", "I can't do it using my fingers either, but I can get just as loud using only tongue and teeth.\n\nCurl lower lip over lower teeth, then curl tongue and press against upper teeth. Blow through channel created by tongue and teeth. It took me a week of repeated attempts before I could do it consistently and strongly.", "I can tell you right now regardless what method you try: this is something you're going to do wrong 10,000 times before you do it right once, then you're gonna do it wrong 10,000 more times before you do it right every time. \n\nYou'll be spitting on yourself and blowing air for what seems like forever, but it'll come to you eventually. ", "I can do it too different ways with fingers.. Extremely loud too. And I can do a loud quail call too lol", "I can do a godly loud whistle if I use the two straight fingers on each hand under the tongue technique. It's the loudest technique but less cool and more messy than the OK handed whistle. \n\nOnce you learn it it's like snapping your fingers, it's hard to do the motion without making a sound there after", "I am saving this for later.\n\nSitting in an open office probably wouldn't be the best place to hyperventilate myself and pass out.", "How did early humans figure this out, and pass it down through the generations until the dawn of the internet?", "Honestly you're better of learning how to do it without your fingers. No need to put dirty hands in your mouth and its also alot more impressive without fingers IMO", "Haha! After like 30 minutes I am getting the tiniest bit of high pitched sound. I think I just need to figure out the perfect amount of air, and the right angle with my fingers!\n\nYeehaw!", "Haha I've never managed to do this before. Just reading the title I decided to try and Wtf I'm suddenly a natural! So.. no point in even checking the links provided for me hah!!", "Fold your tongue in half and up against the roof of your mouth so if looking into your mouth you'll see the bottom of your tongue. Make sure your mouth is dry, or you'll spit out saliva. Make a circle with your finger and thumb, I get the loudest sound and best fit with my middle finger and thumb. Put this circle into your mouth so it rests on your bottom lip between your teeth. Blow air over your fingers, slightly downward. If you don't get it at first, mess with the angle your blowing the air and the amount of open space. You'll eventually find the sweet spot that creates a vibration when the air passes through your lips. The faster and more air the louder the whistle. The smaller the space, the higher the pitch. I can whistle very loudly this way. Best used for getting someone's attention from a quarter mile away. Lol", "Fold your tongue in half (in on itself), push up against the two fingers, and play with spacing/pressure against your fingers until you get the whistle.\n\nThe hard part is keeping your tongue consistently pressed up against your fingers.\n\nI kind of got it before, but I'm still working on it. Same as playing a wind instrument I presume.", "Don't use your fingers at all. I literally just started blowing air out, trying to make the sound. Now I can whistle pretty loud (give you an earache) without my fingers.\n\nBest part, my hands are usually dirty, or I need to whistle while using both hands so it's sweet.\n\nJust practice until you get it. Literally just make sounds until something clicks and you can do it. Well worth the time!", "Damn! All my life I wanted to do this, and boom!! Did it!!! This makes me feel so good! Not so depressed now. Seriously. *whistles", "As a kid I learned to make the farting noise with my armpits while taking a bath. Perhaps during my next shower I'll try whistling.", "All i learnt was how to make my cheeks sore and achieve a sense of complete failure. Although, i learnt that second one years ago.\n\n", "1. Thoroughly wet (lick) both lips and your thumb and pointer fingers a least to the first knuckle\n2. Touch your wet pointer finger tip to your wet thumb tip, making and O shape with your fingies\n3. Open your mouth a little and bring your fingertips to the tip of your tongue, keeping your fingers in this circle shape\n4. Curl your lips over your teeth\n5. Close your mouth/bite down/gum your fingers, keep sides of your mouth pulled back a little so air can escape in between your fingers and on the sides of them. \n6. Blow" ]

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[ "How do you remove stickers without leaving the gooey stuff behind? I've tried soaking in warm water with dawn but I still have to Goo-Gone it off and it's very annoying.", "How do you remove stickers without leaving the gooey stuff behind? I've tried soaking in warm water with dawn but I still have to Goo-Gone it off and it's very annoying.", "How do you remove stickers without leaving the gooey stuff behind? I've tried soaking in warm water with dawn but I still have to Goo-Gone it off and it's very annoying.", "How do you remove stickers without leaving the gooey stuff behind? I've tried soaking in warm water with dawn but I still have to Goo-Gone it off and it's very annoying.", "How do you remove stickers without leaving the gooey stuff behind? I've tried soaking in warm water with dawn but I still have to Goo-Gone it off and it's very annoying.", "How do you remove stickers without leaving the gooey stuff behind? I've tried soaking in warm water with dawn but I still have to Goo-Gone it off and it's very annoying.", "How do you remove stickers without leaving the gooey stuff behind? I've tried soaking in warm water with dawn but I still have to Goo-Gone it off and it's very annoying.", "How do you remove stickers without leaving the gooey stuff behind? I've tried soaking in warm water with dawn but I still have to Goo-Gone it off and it's very annoying.", "How do you remove stickers without leaving the gooey stuff behind? I've tried soaking in warm water with dawn but I still have to Goo-Gone it off and it's very annoying." ]

[ "Cooking oil, like vegetable oil or olive oil, and rub circles with a dry rag or paper towel. \nIf you don’t have those handy, rub your nose with one finger from bridge to tip and maybe that will be enough oil.\nIf it works, maybe wet a corner of a paper towel to remove any oil “tracks”.", "Pasta made of bicarbonate and a bit of water. Scrub with the green side of a sponge if you whant to do it quickly. Prefer alcohol (the one at 70%, can be found in pharmacie in my country) a cloth or cotton ball if the surface is fragile or if you whant to avoid scratchs", "Fabric softener !!! I just did a round of empty salsa jars. Take off as much of the wrapper as you can, put it in a batch of hot water and fabric softener, leave for about 30 min. Comes right off or use a scoring pad! \n\nNow for other things, friction is key. If you still have stiff leftover from goo-gone, use an eraser!!", "You can use perfumes or body sprays as they contain alcohol, they also work with removing permanent markers", "Rubbing alcohol, especially for something on your shoulder. We use it in chemo all the time to help remove IV patches, blood draw tape, etc.", "I worked at a hardware store and we would sometimes have to change price tags. So when removing old ones, we would use a lighter running it over the top of it heating up the glue and quite often they would slide off(best case scenario) or youd be able to peel it off once the glue had heated. Should work a majority of the time.", "Depending on the surface if it’s glass you can soak it and if you still have that gummy residue rubbing alcohol typically takes it off if it’s a painted surface or plastic surface and you don’t want to scratch it sometimes heating up with a hairdryer you can pull it off", "Couple of methods: \n\nOven spray or olive oil (oil cancels out the sticky) and use a good scrubber, then wash with dish detergent to get the oil off\n\nWindex\n\nJust plain dish detergent sometimes works as well, but seems to take longer", "Sticking a stronger tape over it and quickly ripping it off always works for me.. duct tape works best because they’re strongest and they don’t leave glue behind" ]

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[ "how to get rid of squeaky shoes. So I just bought a new pair of shoes and the second day of use I noticed they were starting to squeak. Now a week after having them they are squeaky as mice fucking. Does anybody have a way to mend this? ", "how to get rid of squeaky shoes. So I just bought a new pair of shoes and the second day of use I noticed they were starting to squeak. Now a week after having them they are squeaky as mice fucking. Does anybody have a way to mend this? ", "how to get rid of squeaky shoes. So I just bought a new pair of shoes and the second day of use I noticed they were starting to squeak. Now a week after having them they are squeaky as mice fucking. Does anybody have a way to mend this? " ]

[ "Lotion. The inner liner near the heel would squeak with every step until I smeared a bit of lotion down in there.", "I recently bought a pair of Nikes that squeaked...\nBut after I got them wet a few times, it stopped...\nIf that helps?", "I had family who were shoe makers and they always used to tell me to apply rubbing alcohol on the *inside* of the shoe (sides and top only) to help it stretch the leather and break in the shoe...could help with the squeaking also." ]

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[ "How to keep hands warm? I don't smoke, never have, but my hands are always cold. No matter how much I'm wearing. Any tips?", "How to keep hands warm? I don't smoke, never have, but my hands are always cold. No matter how much I'm wearing. Any tips?" ]

[ "You can take ginger and cayanne in supplement/food form, they both act as vaso-dilators and should increase your blood-flow and vascular system health.", "Are your fingers white usually? You may have Raynaud's phenomenon. Its a hypersympathetic state that constricts your peripheral blood vessels, causing poor blood flow and coldness" ]

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[ "Should I give my landlord post-dated cheques AFTER my lease is up? So when I moved into this apartment, I gave my landlord first/last and 10 post-dated cheques, that's pretty standard and I was cool with that. But now that my lease is up (will be ending August 1st), he is asking for more post-dated cheques, even though I don't know how much longer I will be staying. I personally don't think he should be asking for this, since I am now month to month. I would obviously prefer to send my rent electronically, but apparently e-transfers can't be for more than $1000 per day (I'm with RBC in Canada) and my rent is $1700.\n\nI would feel bad if I asked my landlord to come and grab a cheque from me every month, but I guess what I'm asking is whether or not it is reasonable for him to expect more post-dated cheques now that I'm month to month, or if I should stick to my guns and give it to him one month at a time? It isn't possible for me to deliver the rent to him, he doesn't live anywhere close to here and I don't drive.\n\n\n", "Should I give my landlord post-dated cheques AFTER my lease is up? So when I moved into this apartment, I gave my landlord first/last and 10 post-dated cheques, that's pretty standard and I was cool with that. But now that my lease is up (will be ending August 1st), he is asking for more post-dated cheques, even though I don't know how much longer I will be staying. I personally don't think he should be asking for this, since I am now month to month. I would obviously prefer to send my rent electronically, but apparently e-transfers can't be for more than $1000 per day (I'm with RBC in Canada) and my rent is $1700.\n\nI would feel bad if I asked my landlord to come and grab a cheque from me every month, but I guess what I'm asking is whether or not it is reasonable for him to expect more post-dated cheques now that I'm month to month, or if I should stick to my guns and give it to him one month at a time? It isn't possible for me to deliver the rent to him, he doesn't live anywhere close to here and I don't drive.\n\n\n", "Should I give my landlord post-dated cheques AFTER my lease is up? So when I moved into this apartment, I gave my landlord first/last and 10 post-dated cheques, that's pretty standard and I was cool with that. But now that my lease is up (will be ending August 1st), he is asking for more post-dated cheques, even though I don't know how much longer I will be staying. I personally don't think he should be asking for this, since I am now month to month. I would obviously prefer to send my rent electronically, but apparently e-transfers can't be for more than $1000 per day (I'm with RBC in Canada) and my rent is $1700.\n\nI would feel bad if I asked my landlord to come and grab a cheque from me every month, but I guess what I'm asking is whether or not it is reasonable for him to expect more post-dated cheques now that I'm month to month, or if I should stick to my guns and give it to him one month at a time? It isn't possible for me to deliver the rent to him, he doesn't live anywhere close to here and I don't drive.\n\n\n" ]

[ "LPT: Use the mail service. Is the post dated check thing a Canadian thing? Never had to give a Land lord post dated checks just wrote and mailed them a check every month", "This is standard? Maybe this is a Canada thing?\n\nI would never write a cheque with a future date on it. Ever.\n\nIf you don't know how much longer you will be staying, then no. Send him a cheque once every month.", ">I would obviously prefer to send my rent electronically, but apparently e-transfers can't be for more than $1000 per day (I'm with RBC in Canada) and my rent is $1700.\n\nWhy can't you send it in two separate payments before the due date? Send $1,000 on the 29th and $700 on the 30th (assuming rent is due on the 1st.)" ]

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[ "How to decide what should I study in university and how to choose a career? I am 16 but I still get asked by a lot of people (friends, family etc.) what do I want to study or work when I grow up. I just don't know yet but I feel like I haven't put any thought to this. At what age did you decide and how did you do it?", "How to decide what should I study in university and how to choose a career? I am 16 but I still get asked by a lot of people (friends, family etc.) what do I want to study or work when I grow up. I just don't know yet but I feel like I haven't put any thought to this. At what age did you decide and how did you do it?", "How to decide what should I study in university and how to choose a career? I am 16 but I still get asked by a lot of people (friends, family etc.) what do I want to study or work when I grow up. I just don't know yet but I feel like I haven't put any thought to this. At what age did you decide and how did you do it?", "How to decide what should I study in university and how to choose a career? I am 16 but I still get asked by a lot of people (friends, family etc.) what do I want to study or work when I grow up. I just don't know yet but I feel like I haven't put any thought to this. At what age did you decide and how did you do it?", "How to decide what should I study in university and how to choose a career? I am 16 but I still get asked by a lot of people (friends, family etc.) what do I want to study or work when I grow up. I just don't know yet but I feel like I haven't put any thought to this. At what age did you decide and how did you do it?", "How to decide what should I study in university and how to choose a career? I am 16 but I still get asked by a lot of people (friends, family etc.) what do I want to study or work when I grow up. I just don't know yet but I feel like I haven't put any thought to this. At what age did you decide and how did you do it?", "How to decide what should I study in university and how to choose a career? I am 16 but I still get asked by a lot of people (friends, family etc.) what do I want to study or work when I grow up. I just don't know yet but I feel like I haven't put any thought to this. At what age did you decide and how did you do it?", "How to decide what should I study in university and how to choose a career? I am 16 but I still get asked by a lot of people (friends, family etc.) what do I want to study or work when I grow up. I just don't know yet but I feel like I haven't put any thought to this. At what age did you decide and how did you do it?", "How to decide what should I study in university and how to choose a career? I am 16 but I still get asked by a lot of people (friends, family etc.) what do I want to study or work when I grow up. I just don't know yet but I feel like I haven't put any thought to this. At what age did you decide and how did you do it?", "How to decide what should I study in university and how to choose a career? I am 16 but I still get asked by a lot of people (friends, family etc.) what do I want to study or work when I grow up. I just don't know yet but I feel like I haven't put any thought to this. At what age did you decide and how did you do it?", "How to decide what should I study in university and how to choose a career? I am 16 but I still get asked by a lot of people (friends, family etc.) what do I want to study or work when I grow up. I just don't know yet but I feel like I haven't put any thought to this. At what age did you decide and how did you do it?", "How to decide what should I study in university and how to choose a career? I am 16 but I still get asked by a lot of people (friends, family etc.) what do I want to study or work when I grow up. I just don't know yet but I feel like I haven't put any thought to this. At what age did you decide and how did you do it?", "How to decide what should I study in university and how to choose a career? I am 16 but I still get asked by a lot of people (friends, family etc.) what do I want to study or work when I grow up. I just don't know yet but I feel like I haven't put any thought to this. At what age did you decide and how did you do it?", "How to decide what should I study in university and how to choose a career? I am 16 but I still get asked by a lot of people (friends, family etc.) what do I want to study or work when I grow up. I just don't know yet but I feel like I haven't put any thought to this. At what age did you decide and how did you do it?", "How to decide what should I study in university and how to choose a career? I am 16 but I still get asked by a lot of people (friends, family etc.) what do I want to study or work when I grow up. I just don't know yet but I feel like I haven't put any thought to this. At what age did you decide and how did you do it?", "How to decide what should I study in university and how to choose a career? I am 16 but I still get asked by a lot of people (friends, family etc.) what do I want to study or work when I grow up. I just don't know yet but I feel like I haven't put any thought to this. At what age did you decide and how did you do it?", "How to decide what should I study in university and how to choose a career? I am 16 but I still get asked by a lot of people (friends, family etc.) what do I want to study or work when I grow up. I just don't know yet but I feel like I haven't put any thought to this. At what age did you decide and how did you do it?", "How to decide what should I study in university and how to choose a career? I am 16 but I still get asked by a lot of people (friends, family etc.) what do I want to study or work when I grow up. I just don't know yet but I feel like I haven't put any thought to this. At what age did you decide and how did you do it?", "How to decide what should I study in university and how to choose a career? I am 16 but I still get asked by a lot of people (friends, family etc.) what do I want to study or work when I grow up. I just don't know yet but I feel like I haven't put any thought to this. At what age did you decide and how did you do it?", "How to decide what should I study in university and how to choose a career? I am 16 but I still get asked by a lot of people (friends, family etc.) what do I want to study or work when I grow up. I just don't know yet but I feel like I haven't put any thought to this. At what age did you decide and how did you do it?", "How to decide what should I study in university and how to choose a career? I am 16 but I still get asked by a lot of people (friends, family etc.) what do I want to study or work when I grow up. I just don't know yet but I feel like I haven't put any thought to this. At what age did you decide and how did you do it?" ]

[ "Research what different jobs are like. \n\nThinking a surgeon is cool, then watch some surgeries online and see if you can keep your lunch down. \n\nThink being a teacher is cool, then volunteer at sunday school or something with kids. Also check the pay, see what lifestyle that affords.\n\nThinking a lawyer is cool, then read some legal documents and see if you can stay awake or even pronounce the words.\n\nThinking a programmer is cool, then do some programming tutorials online and give it a go.\n\n\nFor me, I did not pick a career until I was in the final year of my undergrad in college.\n I do not like to sweat, so that removed all outside jobs. I cannot handle gross stuff, so no doctor for me. I do not have a great memory for proper nouns, so lawyer is not a great idea for me. I do like to build things, solve problems and I love computers, so programming was a perfect fit for me. \n\nFigure out your non-starters to help reduce the list.", "Go for a course that will train you to do something not just train you to get a qualification. For example getting a degree in maths is fine but getting a degree in accountancy is better because it will lead you straight into a job. Like wise English ok, teaching better. If you are qualified to do something you will be ahead of an awful lot of others", "I'm gonna let you in on a little secret...about more than half of the college-educated workforce still don't know what they want to do. And mind you, most of them right now have pretty good careers. \n\nI'm about to graduate from college and i still don't have any idea what i want to work in. So don't worry, you'll figure it out. Many people don't end up doing what they majored in school for anyways.\n\nImportant right now, get into a college that offers a variety of majors that may interest you. And take as many different elective courses as you can; it could spark an interest in that field that you probably would have never imagined. \n\n...and if they keep asking with you, mess with their heads and have fun making up lies about what you want to do. For example, i say that \"i'm gonna be a doctor!\" or \"I'm gonna be a marine biologist!\" or something else outrageous. This is my way of telling those people to f-off and leave me alone, and eventually they do haha. ", "This may sound corny, but don't ignore your interests when deciding on a career path. If you've always had a passion for sports, maybe look into careers that revolve around sports. Maybe it's journalism, maybe it's trying to be a sports agent, or even something to do with stadium operations. The point is that there's a career dealing with just about all possible interests. Also you're 16, not 20; there's no societal rule for when you have to know what it is you want to do with the next 40-60 years of your life. It's almost unfair to ask what you want to do with the next 3/4 of your life, when you're not done with your first quarter. ", "i decided on what i wanted to do with my life halfway through my college career. Switched my undeclared major to Computer Science. I'm now an Android Developer. Like the Joker says, \"If you're good at something, don't do it for free\". Just decide on what you really enjoy doing and stick to it. ", "Try to Holland occupation quiz - it's a career counseling type test that identifies what you like, what you're good at, and then tells you what jobs fit your results.", "Go to a local college bookstore (any school will do) and walk around the textbook area. Which books appeal to you? Which ones don't? This also allows you to see a good progression of the courses, from introduction to upper level to see if something you may be slightly curious in still appeals to you at an advanced level.\n\nYou still have a couple of years, so I would recommend then going to your local library and checking out some books in that area meant for a general audience. For example, interested in economics, try Freakonomics or Moneyball. Interested in physics, try something by Neil Degrasse Tyson or Brian Greene. If everything works out, something will click and you'll have a passion for a subject you can now pursue.\n\nIf all else fails, remember that college is best meant for learning a skill. You have the rest of your life to learn about things (art, history, etc.) but you'll be best learning something that will translate to a employable skill. You can always pursue a graduate degree in another subject if you find your passion later in life.", "General tip: don't over-specialise. Even if you have correctly identified your dream career, there will probably turn out to be a couple of dozen jobs closely related that you haven't thought about, and as many left-field jobs which you've never heard of which use similar skills. By keeping your main subject reasonably broad, you end up with a lot more options than if you narrow down too much on something. \n\nThere will also exist new jobs in ten years time that do not exist today; by focussing too hard on today's possibilities, you might accidentally exclude some future role that you might have really liked.\n\nSo I'd say think in terms of a skills portfolio, rather than going for the skills needed to do some specific job X. Over time you should keep the portfolio up to date and broadly in sync with your interests, and then if some new job that suits you appears that doesn't exist today, you should already have more or less the right skills to do it.\n\nFinally, nothing in life goes quite to plan. Whatever you're thinking about, ask yourself what you will do if it goes wrong, turns out to suck or whatever. Have alternatives in mind. Never put yourself into a situation where you only have one way out. Always try to set things up so that if X fails, you can switch to Y or Z; and if Y fails you can switch to Z or A, and if Z fails you can switch to B. Your safety net should have at a minimum two layers, and for peace of mind, three or four. But that does mean, while you're working on X, you have to be careful not to accidentally exclude Y and Z until you're sure they're not needed. Even then try to replace them with some new, better fallback C rather than shutting off all your alternatives.\n\nKeep an eye out for ways to expand your safety net even when things are going well. I had a three layer safety net at one stage; needed two of 'em. At present it's only one layer and I'm trying to get it back to two.\n\n\n", "At 16, your response to all of those asking (and trust me, they'll just keep asking), is \"I want to be happy. Are you happy doing what you're doing?\" Ask sincerely and then follow up on their response (both the affirmative and the negative). Get the questions off of you and start gathering information about different career paths.\n\nDo NOT force yourself to pick something just because you think you need to know what you want to do with the rest of your life right now. I got on the conveyor-belt of knowing exactly what (I thought) I wanted to do, so I never looked at any other options. Now, in my 30's, I'm questioning everything and re-structuring my entire career after the fact.\n\nFocus on the the things that interest you and that you're good at - but more importantly, the things you're willing to WORK HARD at in order to get good at it. \n\nDo not let anyone force you into going to college right after high school. If you really don't know what you want to do, take a year off and support yourself - work your ass off at minimum-wage jobs - or better yet, spend a year following/interning/apprenticing people doing what you think you might like to do.\n\nYou don't need to know right now. You don't even need to know in a few years. What you do need to do is keep your options open - do as well as you can in school (while still having a balance in your life), have hobbies that you enjoy, and don't get yourself into deep debt for college before you know you need it to do what you want. Keep your eyes and ears open for things that interest you. Never doubt that you can have a career that you enjoy. And you don't have to justify your answer to anyone - now or ever.", "At 16 it's time for you to decide it, because you should start focusing on the subjects for your future job, getting full \"A\"s is really hard for everything and it also takes up a lot of time. Choose a job based on what are you good at, if you are good at math, focus on that and physics, so you can be an electrical engineer. ", "look on sites like salary.com for jobs that pay well at entry level and cross reference that with sector experiencing growth and in demand jobs.\n\nalso don't be fickle, put your time in and earn earn earn. if you stick it out you can make capital for your own business, but if you bounce through careers you aren't helping yourself.", "I'm a career counselor at a college, and while there are tons of things you can do to help with this, the single best thing you can do is talk to people in a variety of fields and find out what they like and don't like about their jobs. Job titles don't let you know the ins and outs of what you'll be doing every day - people do. \n\nTo anticipate a follow up question: it's shockingly easy to get people to talk about what they do. Ask family, friends of family, parents of friends, and anyone else if they know people in the various fields you're interested in. In years of being a recruiter, I learned that people LOVE talking about themselves... ask if you can give them a call for 5-10 minutes and just ask what they like, what they don't like, and what a day in the life of a ______ is like... you'll learn a ton. Good luck!", "By chance really, but in retrospect it made a lot of sense. I decided when i was 19 and went to a few open house events at the local collage. I was always interested in cars, also the technical bits, so i thought mechanical engineering made sense, and so far it has been exactly right for me even though working with cars is not realistically on the horizon.\nLooking at what interests you and what you are good at is a good place to start, and just try new things and read up on job descripions. On youtube Engineered thruth has a lot of videos with advice for career/education choice that you can use for inspiration if you are into a job in that direction.", "Also, be sure to think long term. You don't want a job that's going to disappear in the short run due to changes in technology. \"Computer\" used to be a job title. Now it's a machine. Someone mentioned accounting, teaching, etc...these are jobs that will always be there as you will always need people to do them. It's also good to think about jobs where your physical presence may be frequently requires as those jobs are unlikely to be outsourced.\n\nOn a personal note, my hunch is that if you are 16 and actively seeking advice on how to start your career, you'll be fine regardless of what you choose to do.", "You've gotten a lot of good advice. I'd also consider this. If you don't have any focus or direction as High School is ending, consider taking a year off and learning some sort of trade you can fall back on if you need to. Painting houses, fixing small electronics, carpentry, basic auto mechanics, .. whatever floats your boat. The work is hard, but there are low barriers to entry in many trades if you need to fight off unemployment at some point in your future. While you're doing this for a year it may help you figure out what really does interest you. It's great you're asking these questions, but the answer is not always as easy as just reading a book, or taking a test. I love the response about turning the tables when asked what you want to be/study and asking \"what do you do\"? I wish I'd have thought of that, and I'm stealing it for future reference. ", "That is not my field so I will bow to your superior knowledge on the subject BUT science is great application is surly better? (Not wanting an argument just offering a view)", "Most people I know have fallen into different careers almost by accident. I know someone who did English and ended up doing sign language support. Others studied chemistry but went onto a graduate scheme in banking. It makes sense to do something you genuinely enjoy then work out the finer details of a career as you go along if you are unsure. I remember in school the careers advisor putting me off studying physics because apparently the number of research jobs post-University is very small. Nice way of scuppering a kid's dreams. \n\nDoing volunteer work or work experience can help find a field you actually enjoy, then you want to get a qualification to help further your career. ", "In addition to what everyone else is saying, look at all the different trades. Including those that don't require degrees. You can become a plumber or a mechanic without college, you just need certs and an apprenticeship. You don't *need* university to be successful. I mainly say this because k-12 schooling will drive it into your skull that college is the only way, you'll make a million bucks more, etc.\n\nAlso, don't ignore your interests picking a career path, but don't assume you have to work for your passion. It's fine to get an agreeable job that lets you work toward your actual passions in your downtime. I'm not passionate about computers, but an IT job pays well, I'm patient with people, and I can pick up computer skills naturally, so I study for IT.\n\nAlso, go onto sites like indeed.com and such, and make note of what your options are as: A fresh graduate with the degree you want.\n\nA graduate with 2 years experience\n\nA graduate with 5 years experience\n\nA graduate with a degree 1 step higher than what you want (if possible), and that 5 years experience.", "I would do so things differently than other people are suggesting.\n\nFirst of all, look at the things you actually DO, not what you think you'd like. If you're really a writer, you'll actually be writing things, not talking about it, doing it. Same with business. If you're not interested in reading the business pages NOW, chances are good that you're not going to get into it much more in college or after. Scientists geeked out on science as kids, engineers and mechanics tended to build things. \n\nSecond, if possible get a related job in high school. If you're thinking about culinary arts, work at least a few months in a restaurant. You'll find out more being a line cook because it gives you a sense of the hours and the pace/work in a kitchen. If you want an office job, see if you can deal with that pace or the politics or the sitting all day. Or if it's teaching, can you even stand being around kids. The trouble with asking in my experience is that you're seeing only what the person you ask highlights. If they love the job, you'll only hear the good, if they don't, you'll hear the bad. \n\nIf you live near a library, get a book or two on the topics you're looking at. If possible a textbook. If you find the problems in the book impossible, or boring, or fun, that's an important clue. Physics is fun if you like solving problems. It's boring to an artist. Art would seem arbitrary to the mechanic. ", "I always respond to that question by saying \"psychology, so that I can learn how to avoid cliched and personal questions from people who I don't want to share with.\" Works every damn time", "Almost no one knows at 16. Almost everyone changes when they get to University (if they go), and many people change several more times in their life. Stay open to various possibilities." ]

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[ "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n", "How do I mentally keep myself in check to stop \"one up-ing\" people or unnecessarily \"adding\" to a conversation. I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking. I do this because am excited to add to the conversation when I feel like I have something to say.\n\nThis can come in the form of someone telling a story and I want to, or do share a similar experience even if the flow of the conversation will be broken up by my interjection. This can make the conversation about me and not the other person.\n\nI recognize that I do this but only after I'm a sentence in and it would be even worse, in my own head, to stop talking and try to move back to the original speaker.\n\nI hate that I do this and to make it worse I feel weird talking about myself doing things so I try to distance myself from a story by saying that it happened to a friend. This now makes it seem as if nothing has ever happened in my life and I am a person who only has second-hand stories. I know why I do this but it doesn't make things better.\n\n----\n\nDo you have anything that I can keep in my mind or a trick to slow my mouth down so that I take that extra moment or two to consider if I want to talk before actually saying something?\n\n\n----\n\n" ]

[ "I struggled with this, so I practised listening more and interjecting when there was a lull. If i caught myself stepping in, I'd just laugh, admit it and urge them to continue.... Eventually I got to the point where people would tell me I'm a good listener, which was better than having great stories AND, I still get heard when I need or want to... Hope that is helpful!", "Focus on trying to come up with questions to ask. It's harder than remembering something of your own that is related, but it will simultaneously slow you down, and keep you from dominating.", "Active listening.\n\nIt's impossible to interrupt someone with your own story if you're listening instead of waiting to talk.\n\nI'll tell you the difference between someone that has narcissistic tendencies and an actual narcissist. Someone with narcissistic tendencies recognizes their self-centered behavior and is shamed by it. Narcissists think if other people don't like it, it's their problem.\n\nYou have identified a narcissistic tendency and you're self correcting. This is what good people do. This is what likable people do. However down on yourself you feel right now, you are very nearly a likable person.\n\nSo how do you actively listen? There's lots of stuff written about it, but honestly it's not that complicated. When you're talking to someone, from the very moment that person starts telling you something, you should proactively assume that they are setting up some kind of point: a punchline to a joke, painting the background for an entertaining story, something. Ask yourself: Where are they trying to get from here? How can I enable this person's story to be the best possible, and how can I make them feel like I heard them and got the point, even if they're having trouble themselves nailing down what's great and interesting about this story?\n\nThat's the point of active listening. It's to figure out what the other person is *really* trying to say, the eloquent, elegant thing they're carrying around but cannot express in quite the right way. If you make them feel like they've buried it so deep and under so many warts it's unidentifiable, you sap their self esteem. If you cut them off with your own story, that's what you're doing.\n\nOn the other hand, if you throw them conversational assists to help them deliver the goods in a way that makes them look good, talking to you will be a whole different experience.", "Definitely asking questions. The better you get at asking questions, the more interesting the response you get to listen to which helps you to listen and enjoy what the person's saying.\n\nThe upside to asking questions is that often the person you're talking to will ask you the same question, allowing you to add your own input.\n\n", "Short term tip: It's actually not worse to go back and re-make it about them rather than you\n\nE.g. \n\n\"Well actually I went there before you and the dude was even louder than that with me...\n\n*moment of realisation*\n\n\"... But even if he'd whispered I would have felt awkward in your situation, woah, so then what happened?\" \n\nAnd mean it\n", "I used to do this.\n\nThe best thing for me to start with was to just shut up. Don't relate to them by sharing about yourself. Don't add anything that you know.\n\nI've had a hard time with it, but I've made progress. Just go uh huh and oh wow. It sounds dumb, but it works.\n\nMy trick at first was literally biting my tongue or the insides of my cheeks just to be aware of it.\n\n\nGood practice is just asking friends/coworkers about their days. Just listen. If they ask about yours(they usually do), then you can talk, but keep it brief.", "I'll straight off the bat tell you there's no easy answer to this. It's all about nuance and you'll have to try different things and gauge people's reactions to find out what works for you. If you ask too many questions like many people suggest here, you could come off as an interrogator. No one likes people who asks endless questions without interjecting their own things into the conversation. You'll also find it incredibly tiring to do so. Socializing shouldn't be a self-sacrifice to win people over. That's stupid.\n\nI won't say I have it all figured out myself, but the focus should be on having good principles to stand on. Don't bother with rules that tell you to do x and y. It'll come off as fake and forced. \n\nThe problem when interjecting your story or one upping could be that you're doing so *because you simply want to add something into the conversation* or *you're trying to seek approval*. These justifications can feel unnatural or make you insufferable. However, if you wanted to interject and add to the conversation because you wanted to *bring value to other people*, in these cases, it's more likely to be more natural and appreciated. \n\nSimilarly for asking questions, if you ask questions simply because you want to win people over, you'll give off a needy/plastic vibe and you'll put people off. But if you ask questions because you believe others have unique perspectives and experiences that could be interesting, then the conversation will flow much more naturally. \n\nThe trick is finding the principles that you resonate with that makes interacting with people more meaningful. \n\n", "Every conversation is different, but you need to notice the energy of everyone involved. If someone is telling an interesting story, take a look around. Are people mesmerized? Did someone gasp? Are they asking questions? If people are genuinely engaged in this person's story, you wouldn't want to kill the energy by introducing your own story for the sake of one-upping the previous story. Think about the value your story adds to the energy of the conversation. Will people be just as shocked or entertained by your story? Will they ask questions? Are you prepared to elaborate? I noticed that most one-uppers usually can't hold the conversation for very long once they have everyone's attention, they usually say something like, \"Yeah, crazy right?\" then get quiet and wait for someone else to change the topic so they can think of another one-up story.\n\nWhat's the purpose of a conversation? The purpose is to engage with people, make someone laugh, share the moment, relate to one another - nobody leaves a conversation saying, \"Wow, Bill's story was good but Brian's story was waaay better.\" Nobody is taking inventory of how well you can one-up somebody else. You might steal the spotlight for a moment, but at the end of the day if you aren't in the conversation for the sake of the conversation, people will notice. So either add to the conversation and keep the energy rolling, or just sit and listen for a while. If you have an interesting story, tell it. But if you're just waiting for your moment to one-up Bill's story, what's the point?", "This AskAbbey response should help you: \n\nQ: Is there any bad way to start a conversation?\n\nA: Like this: \"I have this wonderful fact/story that I just have to tell you.\"\n\n^ basically you shouldn't ever start a conversation about something that only you know about. Want to talk about your shitty day at work? Ask someone \"how was your day at work?\" instead. Want to talk about your new cellphone? Ask someone if their phone is treating them well. Suddenly you have info to add to the conversation that's relevant to what's on the other person's mind. \n\n.\n\nAs far as one-upping goes:\n\n1. Instead of one-upping, just say \"I *really* know what you mean!\". If the person says \"oh really? How so?\" then explain your story. If they don't take that bait, they're probably not interested in hearing about your experience. \n\n2. Write-down the point that you want to make, then keep listening, and engaging, and asking the other person about their story. So often I see people who stop listening b/c they're waiting to chime in with their own factoid. Instead, make a mental note, make a sign with your hand, forget it, and become the very listener you want them to be. Let the conversation flow.\n\n3. Don't try to substitute \"my friend once did..\" with \"i once did..\". Those phrases both make people tune out immediately. Instead talk about the actual thing. Say \"fishing trips are boring\". Don't say \"my friend went on a fishing trip, and it was boring.\" It's about the subject on the table, not about how you felt during some story. If the other person doesn't believe you, then chime in with your self-story to back it up!", "let other people have the best/worst whatever *ever*. use whatever experience you might have to ask questions instead of sharing your story directly. people love talking about themselves and will love you for asking the best questions for them to answer. people hate hearing about some tangentially related thing that's happened in a random person's past.\n\nwhen in doubt, shut the fuck up. that quiet kid in the back of the class is cool once you get to know him, nobody will want to know the loudmouth at the front of the class. be like the quiet kid. show them that you are interested in them, and they will appreciate the shared interest (themselves) and will reflect that back towards you.\n\n**example**:\nan acquaintance shows up wearing a cast\n\n**DON'T**: \"*Oh wow you broke your arm? i broke my arm once, i was riding my bike and fell and i scraped my knee and all kinds of other boring stuff you don't care about...*\"\n\n**DO**: *\"Oh wow what happened to your arm?\"* \n(Their response)\n*\"that sounds fun do you ___ often?\"*\n(Their response)\n*\"was this your first time wiping out?\"*\n(Their response)\n*\"with my luck, if i tried that i'd end up (something worse)\"*", "Just ask questions, people want to talk about themselves. If they are polite they will ask about you. If they aren't then they will walk away from the interaction thinking you are so cool (because you let them talk about themselves). Win win.", "honestly, when YOU are not your number one priority, you are actually interested in what others have to say, instead of relating every single thing to yourself. that sounds mean lol but I know it to be true", "Reading \"How to Win Friends and Influence People\" will really help you with this. Read it frequently, as it asks you to, and its practices will become natural to you with time. ", "One-upping is sometimes insecurity, sometimes an attempt at bonding. Focus on the second part and just ask questions about them, and they'll do the same and it'll just take that tone moving forward.", "I do this A LOT! I was the youngest of six kids growing up, so interrupting my siblings to ensure that I was heard was of the norm for me. It wasn't until I started dating an only child, that she was able to point this out to me. She'd do it in horrible ways like \"why the hell are you interrupting my story to share a similar story?\" I still do it. I don't even know how to stop. Did I just do what you do too? Shit.", "I disagree with most of what people are saying here, not because they are bad ideas, but purely because they don't address the root cause of why YOU are choosing to one-up people, even when you know it's against your better judgment. You need to rewire your approach to conversations, so your mindset is different by the time you should respond. \n\nTry this: next time someone is telling you or the group a story, challenge yourself to read between the lines of what they're saying. Ask yourself \"Why are they telling me this?\" Do they want me to think they're funny? Do they want to sound smart? Are they trying to make me empathize with them?\n\nThen, when you have figured out what their subtext is, try to respond in a way that amplifies that subtext. See if you can say/do something to take their emotions from a 6 to an 8, or an 8 to a 9. Challenge yourself to up the emotions, rather than one-upping the story itself.", "I think the fact you know you're doing it is great! Most people wouldn't have as much insight into their own behaviour so that's amazing stuff. I find I do this occasionally and it's not to 'one up' it's just to show I'm engaging in the conversation and that I'm listening. I've found that the old age 'think before you speak' works well. not just thinking 'oh I have a similar story' and start to talk I mean, really think about what words you are about to say. You'll start to almost play the scenario in your head and predict the reaction you will receive if you start to talk. You'll train yourself that saying what you were going to talk about is not going to go down well or is not appropriate as someone else is already telling a story. ", "I tend to interject/interrupt/monopolize a lot in conversation. A rule I have used is the \"every third thing\" rule. Basically, once I've said something and identify this as a situation where I might overreach, any thing I would say I let go by, at least two things and then give myself permission to say the third. No mater how important or hilarious any of them are... every third thing. ", "This sounds patronizing, but I don't mean it that way. You might try listening more. I had a similar problem and it was affecting my work. An older guy at my company told me to slow down and listen to people. It makes a huge difference and I'm better at finding the right times to jump into a conversation.\n\nMissing a window to get a word in isn't the end of the world. Also, you'll find out pretty quickly who wants to hear your thoughts and who would rather listen to themselves talk. ", "Realize your not as interesting as you think you are. Or stop hanging out overly sensitive twats that think conversation is an attention competition. Or both.", "Look, there's a way that you can include your personal anecdotes in a way that shows your listening and simply attempting to identify with the person, without making it seem like you're trying to redirect or hijack the convo. \n\nFor example: The person might be telling a story about how their trip to the dentist was awful. While theyre telling the story you're remembering your own similar experience. So, instead of simply launching into your entire story immediately after theirs (which could cause them to think that you're trying to one up), first acknowledge the novelty of their experience (\"That sounds unbearable! What a nightmare, haha\"), then add anew in abbreviated version of your own tale in a way that is concise and demonstrates your attempt to identify (\"Gosh, I had to deal with that once and I bearly survived\"). Next, and this is important, put the convo back into their realm by following up your statement with a question that shows them that you're still focused on their experience (\"now, did the dentist give you the gas or the novicane?\"). Now that you've mentioned your own experience, you've identified in a thoughtful way while also giving them the chance to ask you some questions about what happened to you, if they choose. If they don't even ask and ignore what you told them about your own experience then they are probably self-centered. That's their problem, and doesn't mean your uninteresting. \n\nThere's also something thats tough to swallow but ultimately true about interpersonal communication. Thst is, a lot of the time the flow of the conversation won't allow you to say everything that you'd like to. But, if you listen selflessly and just accept it as a fact of life, you'll become a better listener. And being a listener will earn you more people that enjoy making conversation, because everyone likes to talk about themselves. But by being a selfless listener you'll learn what kind of person you're dealing with. If someone tries to ask you questions about yourself then you'll know that they are genuinely interested and are probably the kind of folks you'll want to continue building a relationship with. As for all the people who only want to talk about themselves, you will learn more quickly who they are by listening, and this invaluable knowledge because you can choose to devote less energy. No one wants to be an object another person uses as an excuse to hear their own voice.", "Keep a rubber band on your arm, switch it to the other arm when you \"one up\" someone. See how long you can keep it on the same arm.", "JFK always responded with a question. You'd be amazed at how much compelling conversation this leads to. ", "consider that you can really hear what someone is trying to say; when you are not thinking about what you would like to say next, And that maybe by interjecting you are actually taking away from the conversation instead of adding to it. You can show you are involved by using your body language. not crossing your arms, nodding your head and dont look at your fucking phone. hah so bad. i know that i try to relate my experiences to others, then i just hear myself talking about me and that is lame.\nSo maybe ill just try my own advise. ", "You can start off by first acknowledging the other person's story, comment on it in a way that displays appreciation for them sharing. Then say your point. You can preface your point with, \"I'm not trying to one up you\" or something for that matter.\n\nTldr: Think of other people first.\n\n", "There was someone, let's call him Max, who used to do this constantly. He was a horrible, boring, egotistical person and I couldn't stand him. No matter what the conversation topic, Max would try to \"one up\" it with something that usually drove people away. Now when I feel that inkling to interject my own story or insight I try to think \"Don't be Max.\" \n\nIt helps. \n", "Socrates: is it true, is it necessary, is it useful. If not, don't say anything. What's wrong with \"lulls\"? It's not your jib to fill in all the blanks.", "I've heard someone say concentrate on being interested rather than interesting when trying to make friends/meet people. Seemed relevant here.", "I watched a Ted talk once that explained how to be a better listener and how to engage in conversations without talking about yourself. I would advise trying to find it, I'll try to find it for you if I can. Try asking more questions and focus more on trying to get to know the other person or learn new things about them rather than just trying so hard to add something to the conversation", "I think it's great for people to add their own stories. Why should we have to cater to people who care about imaginary social points? If people want to pretend everything is a social competition or read into things like that, that is their problem. These are the same people who say \"oh so you think you're better than me\" because they're obsessed with social rank. We need to evolve beyond that kind of thinking.\n\n", "I don't know if you'll see this OP, but I really appreciate this post. One of the things that annoys me the most is when people one-up me in a conversation. I feel like they're trying to make the conversation about them and it's really selfish. What you said acknowledges that that's not what you're trying to do and you're trying to get better at that. So even though this might seem weird, your post means a lot to a random stranger on the internet.\n\nI can't give advice that hasn't been said 100 times, but the main things are practicing listening and trying to think of questions to ask THEM to learn more. It helps keep an others-centered mindset.", "I actually handled this mostly by hanging out with people who are comfortable taking the floor right back if they want it. I enjoy a high-energy conversation where we're bouncing quickly back and forth between different people's stories.", "Ask a question about what the person just told you. This not only keeps you from one-upping, but the other person will feel like you're actually listening to and appreciating them. If you absolutely must interject with your own story, wait until the other person has stopped speaking, or if in a group, let one more person speak before you say your piece. You'll be forced to really contemplate what you want to say and by the time you \"allow\" yourself to talk, it may no longer be relevant.", "Active listening is the key to helping you here. Wait till they are finished and ask what I call an \"extension question\" which delves farther into the topic at hand and keeps the speaker happy because they get the sense that you are genuinely interested. This is great because if you want to share something similar, you can then follow up with it.\n\nI like to think of having conversations as a game. You earn points when you ask questions and pay close attention to certain details, make eye contact enough throughout the conversation to make sure they know you're listening and occasionally make a comment that reaffirms you're listening like \"mmhmm\" or \"oh wow\"(if it's genuine, if not this can backfire). You can then spend your earned points by sharing what you want to say. If you try to be the speaker without earning enough points, you will feel awkward because you're trying to take the spotlight without having earned it yet which people don't like. Unfortunately not everyone is a great listener so even if you earn a bunch of points, they may not reciprocate the behavior but don't get mad, they might not know they're doing it or they're lost in their head. It happens but it doesn't have to be awkward if you acknowledge when you step out of bounds. The important thing is to just be aware of when you're doing it and you can continue to work on it.", "when speaking, avoid using the word 'I' so much...\n\nit takes practice, but it's actually pretty interesting as it deflects the whole 'me me me' persona... it shifts the dynamic of a conversation whenever you're actively avoiding talking about yourself so much. also, it makes you come off as less confrontational, which better allows for a dialogue that gives the other person a feeling of safety where they're free from being judged. when you start sensing that the conversation begins to shift towards a 'me vs. you' thing- stop and refocus on actively listening to what the other person is saying. a common problem is that people are only listening to respond, and not actually listening to learn. instead of getting drawn into a back and forth, listen, learn, observe, and ask questions. even if you dont feel you're getting much out of a conversation, allow your 'intuition' to guide the conversation... if you feel someone is having a bad day, or are just kind of looking for a confrontational conversation- pick up on those cue's and avoid those things by using your intuition. \n\n", "You seem pretty self-aware abt it so it should improve with a little bit of time. Otherwise, this degree of impulse control difficulty is characteristic of adhd. Maybe play with these exercises: \nhttps://www.amazon.com/Mindfulness-Prescription-Adult-ADHD-Strengthening/dp/1590308476", "When listening to someone talk, do not perform any mental evaluation of what is being said. Simply hear the voice.\n\nWhen they stop talking, and your mind is still quiet, start talking when it feels natural and effortless to speak.\n\nDon't prepare a response while the other person is talking.", "This is a form of social anxiety, albeit low-grade. Just relax and remind yourself that you have nothing to gain or lose from having a conversation, you're just enjoying the other persons' company. As silly as it sounds, social situations can feel like danger, particularly if they had bad outcomes when you were a kid. But you're an adult now. People are nicer and more forgiving, and there aren't high stakes for any given conversation.\n\nFor practical tips, purposely lower your shoulders (they're probably tense and you don't know it), take a deep breath, and smile at the other person. Don't speak for a little bit, and small silences are not the end of the world.\n\nFor social theory advice, the best conversations are when you place the emphasis on the other person. When you're trying to understand them and hear what they have to say, you slow down and pay better attention. It also makes your responses more meaningful to them.\n\nSo that's it: you're not in danger, relax your stance, and try to truly understand the other person. Then, when you have something meaningful to say, say it.", "This comment has been overwritten by an open source script to protect this user&apos;s privacy. 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It's more therapy than anything else, and you get to laugh a lot while you do it--instead of sitting in some stuff chair spewing your guts to an undoubtedly overworked therapist you just met. \n\n", "Some people spend their time waiting for their turn to talk. Others only speak when they have something important to share. ", "Reverse psychology is a more effective tactic in day to day disagreements. This is something you learn in sales very early on. If your prospect is at 7 as to whether they will buy, you want to be at 5 or 6. If you come off at 9, they repel you. If you come off at 3, they think you are manipulating them. I just gave you a secret of the universe. This msg will self destruct soooon. ", "Late to the party, but I had some serious issues with this - interjecting my own personal story with the (incorrect) thought that saying so keeps me \"in\" the conversation. Example: someone has a cool story about one of their cousins... and here's a story about one of my cousins. This method of conversing is fundamentally incorrect and should be shifted to \"listening\" from \"contributing\".\n\nSome call it \"active listening\", others call it \"mindfulness\". Either way, the point is to focus on specifics of exactly what the other person is saying, then build your \"foundation\" of interest. Be the dumbest person in the room and ask questions, elaborate on their stories as if you're trying to live vicariously through their experience. This keeps you engaged in their story, and leaves no room in your brain to jump in to tell a one-up or random interjection.", "Just listen to what the other person is saying, \n\nTheir story is just as unique as yours, \n\nComments and anecdotes will flow freely when you are actively listening to the content of the speaker.", "Just learned it. Its called Active Constructive Reaction. One upping is Passive Destructive Reaction. Basically you get really interested in their story and ask them about it genuinely. Dont say your story. ", "Just learn to be okay with not telling your story. Every once in a while I'll find myself in a conversation where I could one-up just about every story a person tells. After one or two, you start to feel like you're belittling them or making them seem uninteresting. When you feel that, chill. Let the person tell their story - listen, laugh and let it be best story told that day. It actually feels really good to just swallow your pride and let someone else have the satisfaction of owning the spotlight. ", "It's okay to interrupt. It happens to all of us, really. It just takes being conscientious of the situation. If I have THE BEST story but it's not my turn I apologize and invite the speaker to continue. If I forget the story fuck it. \n\nThere's a balance between remembering your own story to tell and listening to others'.\n\nBasically just remember that every fucking thing is transient. Your story, their story, whatever. Who gives a shit? If somebody is excessively domimating conversation you should have a plethora of nonverbal mechanisms at hand to let the others know you'd like to speak too.\n\nIt won't get you that prized joke but you will come off as less of a fuck.", "It's all about compassion and selflessness\n\nIf you really care about what they say, you can appreciate it without carring about what you have to say about it", "It helps to genuinely listen and be interested in what the other person is saying. Instead it may come across as you are just waiting for your turn to talk. But if you are interested and want to hear more about what they are saying you can interject by asking details about their story to show you are actually in fact listening. Most people in this situation if they are decent human beings will treat you in the same way and be more willing to hear you when you do speak. Conversations are like a ball being thrown back and forth. You say something about yourself and then ask about them, they talk about themselves and throw it back to you. TL;DR Shut up and listen to the other person. ", "I'm guilty of this too. When I realize I'm doing it I try and follow some advice someone gave me, and that is \"to listen to understand, not listen so you can respond.\" Basically stop thinking of how you can respond to what they are saying and listen to them instead to understand and learn their story.", "I used to do this too, and it was very hard to break the habit. In my mind I was adding to their story to help emphasize whatever point they were making, but I think it came off as trying to top them.\n\nWhat fixed it for me (not overnight) was accepting that I didn't need to add to anyone else's story to help them out. That stopped me from interrupting with a \"me too\", and then during the pause at the end of their story I asked myself \"does my story actually enhance theirs, or is it another way of saying 'me too'\". If it was the latter, I had the time to decide to not say anything, and if I thought I actually could add anything I would put in the effort to specifically state what I was enhancing before telling my story, or compliment them on theirs, so it sounded more like I was trying to help or at least not top them. Frankly, the latter situation doesn't come up very often, though.", "I tried listening more and then...here is the key...asking questions about their story/situation/etc or re-verifying a fact they stated. It shows them you are listening and engaged.\n\nExample:\nSo where was so-and-so during this?\nor\nSo she thought that 're-state fact incredulously'?\n\nP.S. Make sure the interest is genuine and authentic and that the story/situation warrants 'restate fact incredulously'...humorous stories generally do. A serious question generally warrants a question... ", "I think something that works is making sure you hear somebody's story out to the end. Then, leave a pause, then tell your story. It makes it appear as if you just thought of something after they finished, rather than looking like you've just been waiting for them to stop talking so you can talk.", "I have this! What helped me first off was realising where that convo hijacking comes from - I used to have reeeeally bad social anxiety in high school where I just found it impossible to talk to people to the extent that if there was a lull in the convo and I had something relevant/interesting to add I would just end up saying it in my head.\n\nAnyway luckily I tried hard and eventually got past that but I went to far and stopped listening to people I'd just doing what your doing and one upping them/adding in too much info about myself rather than asking them about themselves beyond being polite. \n\nNow I'm trying to get the balance right and it's still a case of reminding myself it's ok not to have a tight control over the conversation. It's not the same as not contributing/being awkward it's actually a good thing! ", "I have this problem too. A super simple trick is to take a deep, slow inhale before speaking. If the person telling the original story starts talking during this breath, then keep listening. If there is no speaking, go ahead and contribute. ", "I have this 'problem', used to think I could fix it by doing what everybody says, but after a while the magic wears off and you realise that you only notice this with people who misunderstand you, and they will still misunderstand you, even after you 'change' because you just need to talk to people who understand you.", "I do the same thing. I just want to be part of the conversation or even show the other person that I understand or relate. What has helped me is to acknowledge when I interrupt someone. Simply saying \"sorry I cut you off\" makes me recognize when I'm doing it and I naturally become more self aware. ", "I did this constantly. For years! Honestly all it took was for me to be a little more self aware. In our culture today, most people find it really hard to just sit and listen during a conversation. We are always just thinking about what to say next. What I found was that if you just process what the person is saying instead of thinking about your own story, you can more genuinely respond to what they are saying. And most of the time you end up being able to tell your story once that person has finished theirs. ", "Have a goal in mind of keeping the conversation going. Is was you're adding going to stop the conversation and make it hard for the other to continue? Don't say it then. \n\nAs an example: I was chatting with a girl that was telling me about some sports she does. I'm French and she's American. She does snowboarding and was quite passionate about it and talked to me like I had never skied or whatever, just assuming and then moved on with another subject. Rather than go back to it and say \"actually i started skiing at 3 years old\", I moved on with the new subject. \n\nA couple weeks later, she was reading my linkedIN where I list skiing and snowboarding and she called me up realising that she may have been monopolising the conversation and this happens quite often.\n\nAfter some time, you'll realise that you don't have to cram your entire life into a single conversation and who you are and what you do will appear naturally to people with casual conversation. Dissociate yourself from having to prove yourself to others, enjoy your own life and the moments you live rather than through bragging and social media and people will realise you're doing cool stuff and not just showing off.\n\nIf you systematically keep saying \"i do that too\" then people will not want to ask about you. If you let them come to you, they will be much more interested.", "when i'm harping on something or non-stop thinking about my uncomfortable situation i just had at work/gym/home, my therapist said to do a body check. like think about PHYSICALLY where is your body. are you ok? all that. thinking about something like that stops your brains pattern of being a fucking dipshit. \n\nit doesn't have to be the body check, because that feels weird (i've done it a few times since she taught me) but something else that is consistent & mind changing. sometimes i still fuck up and say rude things, but i'm learning to continue the body check, because i'd rather stay silent and feel better later than interject and say dumb shit.", "the question I tend to ask when I OBSERVE this behavior, is what the person is trying to accomplish by saying so... perhaps it IS just adding to the story, but more often than not it's trying to prove something.\n\nnot necessarily advise on the topic (I could probably listen a bit more often myself), but maybe being self conscious of how others receive it, would help? Also, I tend to think that introspection is always a good practice - know thy self and whatnot.", "lol. I herre u bro. weird stuff cuz there aint no 1+ like me. must behard to feel. I know I am better than all of you because you may be able to post on reddit faster than me, but I have this underlying knowledge of the human condition. Hard to achieve. I hear u.", "i have no idea why but i am that guy that joins the conversation but is never heard. i am not talking softly, people can hear me but the conversation flows around me like a stream as though i had remained silent. i will often repeat myself several times and still have no one take note of what i said. i am fine one on one but put me in a group and i will never be heard.", "You're reminded of something similar that happened to you/ that you did? Say, \"That's cool!\" and keep it to yourself. Maybe ask a question about the experience, even if you know the answer. Don't use this opportunity to allude to your own story.\n\n\nSeriously. Just keep it to yourself.", "You're half-way there by being self aware. They say we could all be fit from \"mindfulness m", "You can have the urge to do something and not do it. Get a bag of chips, eat one, and then don't eat any more, but keep the bag open next to you. Just because some part of your body has a particular feeling doesn't mean you *must* behave a certain way. \n\nI mean, you've held in a shit before, right? ", "Wrt asking questions as an active listening technique: FFS don't overdo it. It becomes painfully obvious very quickly if you're just asking questions for the sake of being conversational as opposed to being interested in what they have to say. Especially if the answers to the questions were already mentioned by the speaker.\n\nSource: I know quite a few quizzers.", "Well hear them out until they are finished with their story and then if you still remember what you wanted to say than go ahead. I always try and relate, but not end each of their monologues with my own story. Instead, ill ask them a question here and there so that they know that i was listening. This makes them feel wanted and heard.", "Used to do this and kinda still do. I just taught myself to be patient. If it seems like you never get a chance to speak and you want to add to the conversation, just wait until whoever is done talking. If the moment is right, then add in what you want to say. Be mindful of what everyone else is saying and things will work out.", "Use your brain as a waiting room for thoughts. When something pops in, don't say it immediately. Take the time to analyze it and see if it actually adds to the conversation or if it's just a way for you insert a \"cool story\" that focuses attention on you. The older I get the better I get at it, but I'm still guilty of being an asshole who dominates conversations sometimes. Especially if I've been drinking, I will revert to my old ways a lot faster.", "Two pieces of advice that changed my life. First, it sounds like you almost certainly have ADD. Get checked for it, and if you have it, by all means treat it! Life changing when I began taking Adderall at age 38. Income and career skyrocketed because I developed much better impulse control. Secondly, take a Dale Carnegie class. It is by far the most effective course to help one get to a point where they can talk with anyone and more importantly, listen effectively.", "Try and find someone else who does it and hang out with them. Once you see how annoying it is, you will be less likely to do it yourself. ", "This may sound strange but it helped me.\n\nJust imagine how you feel, or perceive a person who 'one ups' and realize that everyone feels the same way about your interjections. ", "This may be because I'm a total Hufflepuff, but here's the way I see it. I am totally fine being perceived as the regular, boring one in the group. Because that means everyone else I know is extraordinary and interesting! I don't have to be better or smarter or have the more epic story. I think life would be very boring if I were smarter and more accomplished than anyone else I met. \n\nIt seems like your interjections come more from a place of being excited and involved in the conversation than a combative one-upmanship stance. You could try channeling your enthusiasm into asking followup questions instead of going on a tangent. And then later when you're alone, you can write down all the cool things you wanted to say but didn't.\n\nProps to you for being aware of this quirk in your social skills. Being aware of a thing that you would like to change is the first step in improving yourself.", "This is completely normal. Many people try to show acceptance and understanding by sharing similar stories in their experience. Just be sure to let them finish before you tell your experience. If you get excited and interrupt be sure to have them continue their story by asking a question about their experience where they left off. ", "This is a really good TED talk that summarizes and adds to a lot of ideas on this thread. \n\nhttps://www.ted.com/talks/celeste_headlee_10_ways_to_have_a_better_conversation", "Think really hard about how you don't want to be a self-centered prick, realize that when you do this you are definitely being a self-centered prick, and then when you're about to tell a story shut your goddamned prick mouth and just listen to the other person tell their story. \n\nSimple ", "There's a decent book that might help you out with tips tricks and lessons. The Art of Verbal Judo. It is geared toward educating police officers on communication tactics, but can be applied to all talking things between the humans. I've found it helps me not be a dick by accident when talking. Prevents foot in mouth incidents by up to 90%.", "The trick is to make a conscious effort to talk less about yourself and more about the other person. It's not bad to talk about yourself so long as you balance that out with actively engaging other people. \n\nAlso when you make that mistake don't be afraid to apologize, \"Whoops, here I am talking about myself when I haven't asked about you very much about yourself.\" You can work that or some variation of it into the conversation without appearing out of place at all. \n\nYou can practice that without having to have made a mistake as well. When the conversation is on you, just practice moving it the other person without a real reason except to practice moving the topic of conversation away from yourself more often. \n\nBalance is the key here, don't demonize your efforts to talk about yourself, just balance it out with other people talking about themselves. It can't and won't ever be a perfect balance but mostly people will recognize that you are making an effort and that is enough. \n\nSo what if you have some selfish behaviors that you are working on and willing to apologize for, welcome to the human race...in other words you aren't alone, we are all struggling with you. It's sometimes hard to see that because you aren't them but we all have various degrees of that struggle. ", "The top comment sounded good, but just be quiet for a couple nights when hanging out and just listen. You'll see the way conversations lead and end, and then you'll know proper times to add to a story. \n\nAt least just don't interrupt anyone, it's annoying as hell.", "The thing that I do that has really helped me is to allow yourself to relate to the person's story without interjecting your own version of the story. Then - and this is important - leave it open for them to continue their story. Like, if my friend is talking about a dumb fight he had with his wife, I'll say, \"yeah, I completely understand. My and I have dumb fights all the time. What'd you end up doing?\"", "The parts of the story that remind you of something, pause and judo flip it and ask them more about that detail.", "The key thing the top posters are missing seems to be:\n\nOther people are more important than you.\n\nIf you can really understand this, it will change your world. You'll no longer feel any need to interject anything, it will all be about sitting back and celebrating the beautiful things coming from others. An incredibly powerful silent confidence will arise, knowing that it matters absolutely not at all what anyone else thinks of you, because it's not about you to begin with, is all about celebrating the other person.\n\nThis is the kind of person people want to be around, the kind that is so secure in your own skin and person that they can actually provide others a space to be themselves without any judgement or competition.\n\nI really wish I had had more people in my life that had figured this out; they're really rare. Best of luck.", "The key is to learn to stop talking about yourself at all except to your good friends that you actually hang out with on a frequent basis.\n\nYou know everything about you. You're boring. You got nothing to teach yourself. Go learn from other people. Let them talk and let them be right. Let them learn you a thing or two, and most important, let them be interesting. ", "Thank you so much for asking this question. \nI've been struggling with the same problem and only recently started realizing it. \nI don't mean to hijack the conversation or one up the speaker but I seem unable to stop ", "Stopping when you realize you've hijacked the conversation and apologizing is actually a great step. It also opens other people up to commenting on it if they think your story is interesting, and it lets them know you're aware of the problem so they're more forgiving if you do it in the future. \n\nPersonally, I have yet to find a good way to tell the difference between contributing to a conversation and just hogging the spotlight. I'm now of the belief that a good conversation is always a little of both, giving everyone their time to shine. ", "Stop talking. Don't engage socially. Stay inside. Collect collectibles. Grow old alone. Dissolve into the void.", "Stop getting excited basically. Sometimes you may never be able to say what you want on the topic if the timing isn't right and you should be ready to accept that. Wait for your opportunities to speak and people will always regard you as well spoken. If you wait for opportunities instead of forcing them you will normally have something better thought out ", "Sorry to say, I don't know if there is a cure. I do it without noticing, but I'm never really lying about anything. ", "Sometimes that issue stems from over thinking while listening and trying to remain pertinent to the discussion once you feel it is your turn. Try constantly thinking about how awesome what they are saying is instead of how you can add something of parallel relevance. ", "Something that helped me in the short term that a friend recommended is when you have a burning comment or something you want to add, make one of your hands into the first letter of the phrase you want to say in the ASL alphabet so that you have a physical reminder. \nWhen they reach a break in their speech, you can decide whether or not it's a good time to say it or reconsider if it's not relevant or would throw off the vibe. I guess this technique does require that you know the ASL letters, but hey it's a good thing to know anyway!", "Some people have mentioned Active Listening. I disagree. I'd attempt to use a strategy of Reflective Listening. Concentrate on the speaker; embrace their perspective; empathise. In therapy, or conflict resolution, you'd repeat or paraphrase what they said to show you understand. You don't have to explicitly go that far in everyday conversations, but that thought process lets you focus on the other person, and your responses to the person will likely follow suit.", "Simply get into the habit of reminding yourself that you are not as interesting or exciting as you think you are and that every time you open your mouth, people are around you are liking you less and less to the point where they're probably all talking behind your back and making jokes about you.\n\nBecause that's what happens to people like you who live life as 'one-uppers', people talk behind their backs. So the shame you feel when you remind yourself this should hopefully be enough to help keep you quiet.\n\nHope this helps!", "Shut your mouth. If you find yourself talking, SHUT YOUR MOUTH. Keep that in your head all day every day.", "Second request: how to do the opposite. I feel like I'm butting in, or bragging in a conversation, so I don't add stuff most of the time unless it's a question or a comment. I guess I mostly leave out personal experiences, but that's the entire point of a conversation, right? \n\nAnd sometimes, other people do this, and I'm wondering how much it actually bothers people. Because, ironically, I'm ok with other people slightly bragging or stuff like that.", "Practicing mindfulness can help. Being self aware enough to realise you do it when you're exited is a good start.\n\nWe are all in the same boat when it comes to interacting with others, we all feel awkward and insecure sometimes. You have all the time in the world, relax. \n\nOccasional interruption is fine as long as you point out you've done it. A great way to save when you've interrupted without thinking is \"blah blah, but you were telling us about [subject], please continue\", this is **fantastic** because it shows to everyone around that you are actually *listening* to the conversation and you've taken control to guide it back to the rightful speaker (even if it was you who took it away in the first place). \"Oh but I'll tell you about it later if you like, go on\" is another good one if you've found you've accidentally interrupted, being a sentence or two in is no barrier.\n\nI can understand not wanting to talk about yourself, but saying \"it happened to a friend\" is really not effective, for reasons that may not be apparent. When you change a story like this you are not being 100% genuine and some people pick up on stuff like that, even if they are not conscious of it. This can make it harder for them to trust you. \n\nMost importantly, you are the most amazing person you know, and you need to believe that! So own your stories! We all need to have a healthy ego, especially in a social environment. For example, when I go out, my first goal when meeting new people is to make them laugh, I have a wicked sense of humor so I use that as a tool. Humor is very subjective and I have to gauge my audience, something I have practiced through years of trial and error. This is a great tool for me but perhaps not for others, so ask yourself \"What is *my* best tool? Am I a film buff? Am I really smart? Can I always think of a comeback?\" and *practice* that. Build on your strengths **but also** work on what you *want* to be strengths. Want to learn to dance? sign up for classes, same goes for socialising though you can do that for free! Every day, every interaction, is a lesson. You can teach yourself anything if you have the drive.\n\nWithout knowing more about your particular social structures (work, home, school etc) it's hard to say much more. I'm sure I'll post if I think of anything but I'll leave you with these questions\n\n“What am I best at? What do I want to be?”", "People do this to relate the person they are talking with.\n\n\"I spent all night studying and pulled off a C+\"\n\n\"I know what you mean, I once...\"\n\nInstead of trying to relate to them, try to understand the meaning or reasoning of it. Do they want you to feel proud of them, sad, empathic, etc...?\n\nA lot of times, people just want someone to hear them out and aren't looking for answers. If your friend mentions failing an exam, don't tell them to study earlier or to sleep with the prof.", "Okay, so I worked with a guy for almost a decade who was a king of this. He was a bullshit artist, which is important. Because he enjoyed one upping people. If you happen to unintentionally do it. Sometimes, that's okay. \n\nBecause of my experience with it, I avoid doing it like the plague. If someone has a story or a claim. They did X. Cool. Let them have their moment. Be almost a wing man to a situation. Talk around it, like you fill in the scenery. for example \"That's awesome you ran a whole marathon. Do your feet hurt much after? Cause when I've done some distance stuff it's always day 2 that's the worst.\" You're sorting pitching softballs for a dialogue between you 2. Then if they get excited and say yeah, or even say \"Oh do you do that too?\" Then it allows you to put the spotlight on yourself. \n\nThat's how I've done it any way. ", "Oh my goodness it's so good to see someone bring this up. This is me 100%. I'm so excitable that I step on others during conversations and feel so badly afterward. \n\nI think it has to do with the fact that I used to have horrible social anxiety and now that I've worked through a lot of that, I spew all the things all over all the conversations. Over-compensation ftw!", "Oh god I do this all the damn time. It's like a reflex or something! My problem is that I've slowly become more and more introverted, so I get anxious in nearly any conversation (even with close friends). I've been trying to do the thing someone mentioned earlier about letting someone be the expert, but I still have to really consciously stop myself from rambling. I feel like I'm always trying to impress people because I'm afraid they won't like me, but then I end up getting awkward and talking for waaaaay too long ", "Occasionally I'll do the one-under. Seems to go over better than the one-up as a way of empathizing with and complimenting that person. I'll mention a similar experience I've had to the one that the speaker had, but make sure it's one that isn't as impressive. \n\nAs for not interrupting, become the speaker's interviewer. Ask them questions about their topic of conversation while directing them to interesting points. If done well it can show your interest and make the speaker more interesting in the eyes of others. \n\nFor either of these it helps to have sufficient confidence in yourself that you're not worried about having to appear better than the speaker or other listeners. ", "Not only do I do all of what OP says but I truly can relate to what people tell me and even sometimes makes me feel fake but I'm not. I'm just really excitable, love to share and emphatic.\n\nThis is a great post, by the way! There's a lot of good advice! I'm gonna have to try some of them. Thanks for posting OP!", "No offense but this isn't a result of being awkward. This seems like an overly confident or superiority issue. \n\nJust remember that nobody likes it when you do that. It would hopefully make you only say things that people would find useful. ", "My ex is like this and has yet to reach your insightfullnes. He denies he does this a LOT and he is seen luke a jerk by many because of this bad habit. Good on you for recognising you do this and trying to change.", "Make it a point to remind yourself to listen and try to understand hat the person is talking about, ask yourself clarifying questions etc. rather than reply to the speaker.", "Make fun of yourself. Seriously...the issue of one-upping is socially awkward because you are saying you're better. If you are making fun of yourself, one-upping becomes nothing but a funny story, and it's 100% socially acceptable. For example, I drive a Supercharged Jaguar XF...it's really nice. When people stop to gawk at it, I have to go into detail about how it totally kicks ass...when it friggin' works.", "Make a habit of asking questions, not making statements. Ask a question about what the person just said. This forces you to listen, not just wait until the other person stops talking.", "Listen to them and ask them questions. Don't talk until the moment is right, or if they ask you something. Offer input when they give you an opportunity. This will be different for every single conversation and your intuition will be your best resource. You really should be learning about them, and not spewing information about yourself. Knowing who they are is more valuable than them knowing who you are. ", "Listen to jazz. Think of conversation as that kind of music. The soloists take turns, play off each other, call and respond, put in little stabs when there's space, but they never play over each other.\n\nGood conversation is not a drum circle. It's a classy jam where all the players respect each other. It's form and balance. Play your thoughts like an instrument, as though you were part of the band, making improvisational jazz that others would want to hear.", "Listen intently and pause for a few moments before adding to the conversation. \n\nAlso, try to keep your contribution to the conversation brief; as in to avoid rambling.", "Listen instead of waiting for your turn to speak. \n\nOften you will forget about what you want to say as you continue to listen.\n\nIf it was really that important you can always tag it on at the end of the conversation. ", "Listen actively, then think about what the other person has said and if you have anything of value to add to the conversation, respond appropriately. \n\nDon't listen with the intent of responding - only if a response is needed. \n\nHave you ever gotten down to the core cause of why you have a hard time listening and feel the need to 'one-up' or derail the conversation? ", "Lift your focus from the subject of the conversation to the conversation itself. Who is talking, and why?", "Keep your thoughts on them, not yourself. Different people respond best to different approaches.\n\nIe. An extroverted thinker needs you to give them the relevant info then go away. They have shit to do. But an introverted feeler needs your patient attention and eye contact with a low pressure approach. Phrase things in terms of feelings.\n\nBasically if you're thinking about what they need and adjusting your approach, you'll be focused and won't fall back into that nervous, knee-jerk brain space that makes you one-up people all the time. The best part: you'll *AUTOMATICALLY* do all the things the rest of these nice people told you to do (clam up, listen actively, ask the right questions, etc.) without even trying.\n\nEnjoy your new people skills.", "Just want to add that your self-recognition of this habit is something that many people cannot recognize about themselves their whole life. It's a major sign of maturity:) Dad inspirational lecture finished.", "Just remember that the people who listen are the focus of the story, not those telling the story. Watch in a group as everyone always talks to the one person. That person is the leader and carries the respect.", "Just learn and tell yourself to shut up. I've always had problem with failing to think before I speak. I regret a lot if things right after I say them. If you can just start today, by not talking and just listen, you'll do fine. Most people forget what you said 5 minutes later unless it was hurtful or annoying. If you don't feed the fire anymore it can't get any worse ", "Just keep your mouth shut.\n\nIf you have to open it. Open it to ask another question about the conversation.\n\nInstead of saying that you took a bigger shit than they did today, ask them how big their shit was in comparison to a banana, for scale.", "It's all about strategy. (Women get it), socializing is a strategy game. You have to think about every sentence, every phrase, every word, as a play on an incredibly complex chess board. For a long time, this will probably mean saying nothing at all and learning to recognize when other people make moves. Watch, or rather, listen to how they talk, how their voice changes when they say things, and how their face and body changes with their message. Also, pay attention to how you feel about what they said, and how the others feel. You can often get people to feel a certain way by saying the thing that made you feel that way.\n\n\nDon't just goof off or enjoy yourself. One-upping is a habit you do when you're not thinking.", "It's a great question. I'm glad you asked it. I'm late so there are likely a lot of good answers, but I'll add that if you are trying to become a better listener and you catch yourself doing this and want to stop, then just stop and explain. I'd ubderatand and appreciate it if I were in the conversation with you. Maybe you have friends who would too.", "It might have been said already OR be a bit simple, but the words that have kept me from adding to a conversation for a year or two now are those of Rooster Teeth co-founder Burnie Burns:\n\n\"Participation is not mandatory\"", "Is it just me or is it hilarious that none of the top comments have been upvoted, considering the sentiment of not one-upping people", "Instead of always adding your experience, try asking questions. A few good questions and decent listening skills will make people think you're a great conversationalist. Also, if you're asking questions here and there, adding your own experience in won't seem like you're uninterested or trying to pull focus because you've asked for elaboration.", "Instead of \"adding to the conversation\" with your usual approach, try asking the person for more information about parts of their story you found interesting. Let *them* add to the conversation while you continue to listen.", "Instead of \"Adding to\", \"One Upping\" them ask them questions about there story instead of telling part of yours try to get more of theres... THen if you slip and do accidently \"One Up\" them at least theyll me much more ingauged..", "In order to keep from making a conversation selfish, just always stay self aware and recognize when you mistakingly lead a conversation towards yourself. It'll take a little time to fix, but keep in on your mind and m", "If you notice yourself doing it, cut off the story as soon as possible, then say something to the affect of, \"sorry for derailing the conversation, please continue.\" There is other good advice in this thread for not doing that in the first place, but it is really easy to mend in casual conversation by simply edging the original storyteller/talker to continue their thought.", "If you need help remembering to use any of the strategies or tips people give you, get like a wristband or tie something around your arm. If you do it with the intention of reminding you, every time you notice it you'll think about not interjecting.", "If you feel you have trouble controlling your excitement try mindfulness or even just try focusing on your breathing to the exclusion of all else for as long as you can whenever you remember. \nWalking to the mail box? Getting groceries? Driving in super slow traffic? On the bus?\n\nBreath. \n\nEventually you'll develop the skills to calm yourself down and you'll be more capable of the discipline you're looking for. ", "I've worked hard on this over the last few years. So before I jump in I ask if I really need to make this about me. Sometimes it works to give personal experience but most of the time I've learned to just let go and enjoy the company of others. ", "I'm usually painfully shy, and have recently been coming out of my shell a bit more; unfortunately, this exact scenario keeps happening. Seems I'm either too quiet or too loud. :P \n\nI don't have anything to add; there's a lot of fantastic advice here!", "I'm still guilty of this but always strive to \"be interested, not interesting\". But I'll give you and example from last night. I was out with my child for Halloween night and ran into a colleague. I learned that they had just had foot surgery. I had a relevant story but also did not want to be dominant. I asked a few questions and then to the best of my ability interjected with my story, but consciously applied it to their situation. It was still slightly co-opting the conversation with my story (which I try not to do), but I used it as a way to empathize and offer my own perspective on recovery times. I hope it was a reasonable way to manage the conversation. ", "I'm not trying to be a dick, but I would say that MOST people (at least in my experience) don't really know how to have a conversation. I find that the majority of people I interact with, even my \"friends\" and family, aren't really interested in hearing what other people have to say. It really is about one-upping and adding their two-cents. It's more like they're talking AT you than talking with you. Maybe this is human nature? Frankly it's something that bums me out a lot. There aren't a lot of positive things I have to say about myself, but I will say that I have excellent interpersonal skills. People love talking to me because I listen to them and make them feel important. And that's really the name of the game. Be an \"active listener\": say things that show the person you're listening. Let them talk. Make general statements about the subject, avoid making it about you.\n\n", "I'm a mostly manic individual who prides themselves on their knowledge and experiences. I talk. A lot. I don't shut up. I love good conversations that involve people who can keep up with me. Usually I'm just an interupting dick tho. I try really hard not to be, as the way I was taugh in being an active listener ivoted responding and conversing actively. Regardless, because of this trait, I tend to be the domaneering force in the room. In school it worked great for academic politics, and in the work force, I'm the guy with the answers. Not all heroes wear capes right? Those of us who talk love talking, a lot of people hate talking. We become the shields to the public, the salesmen, the generals... as I have gotten older, I've slowed down a bit. I've bettered my timing, I less pick apart what people say as they say it. \n\nIt's cool to try and fix it if it creates problems for you, but, if it's not, make it work for you.", "I worked for a super VIP once.\nWe had a meeting with a CEO who was going on and on about how he got to meet _____ (lets pretend it was Brad Pitt only someone even more famous). \nMy VIP boss sat there smiling and said \"Wow that's great!\"\nThe CEO left and my boss had never once mentioned that he was good friends and on a board with the celebrity.", "I used to do this more when I was younger. If it is a group that you are comfortable with, I often just address it with people honestly. State that you know you do this and you are sorry if it is annoying. I have done this many times with different freinds and colleagues, and it has always been positive. ", "I used to be really bad about this, too. But, instead I just focus on asking questions about the story, instead. It keeps me centered on the fact that this human being in front of me is telling me a story, and they have as much right to be listened to as I do. \n\nAs far as the telling a story part, I just wait till they're done. But I try not to do it right afterwards. ", "I used do this all the time without noticing it. Sadly the way I stopped was the people who i used to tell the stories to didn't like me very much so they would have no problem telling me \"no one cares\" or \"that was stupid \" right after I tell the story. So now instinctively right before I want to tell a story in the back my of mind \"no one cares\" pops up. , that being said if I think the story is cool or has relevance I will tell it anyway. But that has definitely caused me to talk a lot less. \n", "I suggest reading \"How to Win Friends and Influence People\" by Dale Carnegie. It is a great book full of interesting pointers and tips.", "I struggled with something similar. Everything I said sounded like bragging and I spent more time waiting to tell my story than actually listening to theirs. Some things that helped me were to stay off of social media, or at the very least look but don't engage. Facebook is swarming with people looking to brag and not a single one of them wants to have a conversation. To me, Facebook encourages terrible social tactics. The next thing is to imagine a conversation as a game of tennis. If one person talks and doesn't give anything back, the game ends. You (and the other participants) should constantly be hitting the ball back and forth to each other in the form of questions, stories and comments. I read that last part in a max gladwell book and it's helped so much. Hope these helped, best of luck! ", "I still struggle with this. If you think about it, you already know what you're sharing, but the other person has a new perspective for you to hear. As I like to remind my daughter, you have two ears and one mouth.", "I never had this problem, but i notice it happens with a lot of people. My only advice is only add up to the conversation when its withering and people feel unconfortable with the short silence, and then give your input. This way people wont feel that you are making the conversation about you but rather \"saving\" the conversation and keeping it alive. Do this even if you have to backtrack to the point where you felt you should give an input. So just wait and hold your tongue to the very end.", "I make a habit out of admitting and correcting bad habits that I have. It shows others that you value them and it also works as a good bandaid for our many social fuck ups. ", "I just want to congratulate you for 1. noticing that you do this, and 2. asking for advice to stop. That is a major accomplishment in and of itself. Even if you try some of this advice and it only works half the time -- hey, that's half the time! \n\nA few recommendations:\n\n- Tell one (or two, or three) of your friends about wanting to reduce this behavior, and ask them to give you feedback about your strategies. Try something and ask them if it came off as insincere. Have a conversation and at the end ask them if they think you talked too much. Real life feedback from others is awesome. \n- You can also turn the conversation back to the other person. Some other answers here have suggested various methods of doing this. The one that I personally use when I get excited and interrupt someone else is to acknowledge it. Depending on the flow of the conversation I might finish my story and then apologize for making it about me, and then ask them a follow up question about what they were talking about (or just ask the follow up question if you don't want to apologize). Or I might stop after a sentence and ask them to continue with their story.\n\nNote: The whole \"it happened to a friend\" thing is worse. I'm not sure why, but it is. You're not imagining it.", "I just try and remember that people like to talk about themselves more than they like to listen. So if I want to be liked I have to be a good listener.", "I just straight stop talking and say \"sorry, please continue\" in a non awkward way. And ask questions instead of taking over the conversation.", "I have this problem, and what may be worse is sometimes I try to finish people's thoughts. Usually it is not a problem, but ai imagine it annoys people.", "I have the same problem.\n\nWays I've dealt with it:\n\n- knowing I have the problem. I listen to the voice inside my head that tells me I'm being overbearing.\n\n- remembering it's not a competition. You have friends and are presumably friends with these people already, so you don't need to prove things to them.\n\n- frame it in a different way. Tell your story too, but involve the initial person, it's a shared experience, right? Angle it in a way that you're not better, but had a similar, but different experience. Also let them finish. ", "I have the same exact problem. It's fascinating to see that these seemingly specific problems actually occur on a much larger scale.", "I have had the same issue and i actually have to remind myself, mentally, while engaged the conversation. I find the best solution is to smile a lot more or if its serious, then look very concerned and sound intrigued or impressed and adding \"wow, thats great\" or \"incredible\" or seeking more information about what they are telling you. Then dont add anything of your own and if you feel you must, for the purpose of context then add first that \"im not sure if this will help but i had a similar thing happen and I _________ but not sure if that is helpful.\" When all else fails, simply look interested, entertained and let them have their story. Walk away with \"thanks\" \"great chat\" or \"fantastic\".\n", "I have always struggled with the same thing. The short term fix I found was eye contact. If I kept my gaze fixed with theirs I've found it's easier to focus in and absorb their story.\n\nThe long term fix was just admitting that I very seldom have something more interesting to say, and that just waiting for my turn to talk kills a conversation. Listening with all your senses builds humility and makes you a better person.", "I have a similar issue, I'll randomly hop into someone's conversation even though i'm not involved. Especially if they're talking about something i'm interested in. I just can't help myself. I have a bad habit of eavesdropping and sometimes I just get so involved in someone elses' conversation that I lose control of myself and butt in. ", "I have (had) the same problem. There's nothing wrong with throwing in 1 sentence and saying, \"anyway, sorry to interject.. you were saying?\"", "I have (had) a similar problem. I considered it impolite to intrude upon someone's privacy by asking them questions. I figured that if they want to share something with me, then they will. And to show them that I was comfortable with them talking about themselves, I would talk about *my*self.\n\nOf course this had the opposite to the desired effect, and it wasn't until I was 29 that I realized what was happening. It's been almost 3 years since then, and I've improved a lot just by realizing that people *like* others asking them questions and showing interest, and listening.\n\nI still catch myself droning on or interrupting sometimes, but usually I catch myself and casually apologize. It's very normal to do that within reason, and socially accepted, especially if you just admit it, say sorry, and move on.\n\nIt just takes practice. Realizing it is by far the biggest step. You'll get where you want to be quicker than you think, just by being aware of it now. ", "I had trouble with this I usually try and tell myself there are an finite number of appropriate times to retort or answer in a group session, save them for the best you come up with. Also keep points you want to say on your fingers.", "I found that by listening, not sharing any of my experiences, and asking questions designed to keep others talking helped.. This way, i keep people talking about themselves, which they love since most people nowadays are narcissists, and i get to be private.", "I feel bad for not talking enough. I love listening and share my opinion every so often but I feel lime I should be stepping in more. I dont know. Maybe not\n", "I do this. It gets easier with practice. My tactic is to decide that every time I have something to add to the conversation, I have to skip every other thing I want to say. I don't get to save the thing I want to say for later, I have to actually let it go and not say it. But then I get the next one. \n\nThis ends up meaning that I interject the conversation a much more normal amount, and once I have kept quite a few times, it becomes habit and is less difficult. \n\nI think that it's hard to let opportunities to say something go by, from a sense of fear of missing out. There is this anxiety that maybe I won't get another chance to contribute to the conversation. Which is, of course, ridiculous. \n\nAlso, if you are able to moderate interjecting, it will become less awkward to make yourself the protagonist in your stories. I'd definitely quit the habit of saying it happened to a friend, because it's a white lie but it could get you into some deep shit. If you can't tell the story without twisting the truth, then just don't tell it. ", "I do this too, but I never think anyone else is rude when they do it. I just see it as a conversation we are both excited about. Even though I feel bad when I do it.\n\nHowever, when people clearly want me to stop talking and they don't put any effort into the conversation themselves, that's when I feel super shitty. Then I feel too self-conscious to think of anything to talk with them about. ", "I do this too and have been recently trying to limit myself. I'd say try to listen more. And ask questions before adding your 2 cents or related story. ", "I do this and have been working on it as well.\n\nLike you, I would realize it right after I cut in. In my mind, I would much rather say \"I'm sorry, I didn't mean to interrupt you, please keep going\" (so, stopping the story I'm telling), than continue and be known as the guy who always interrupts to one-up the story.", "I definitely struggle with this. My nickname in college was story topper. Own it if you can't change it.", "I always ask them questions about the experience. How they felt or maybe what they were thinking about in the moment. Take them back to that place by asking them questions. It help with conversational flow as well. Most of the time it doesn't even have to be that in depth of a question. I've always noticed it makes me seem interested (even if I'm not) and helps me avoid talking about myself. If they're interested in me and my life they will ask. If not, then your interest hopefully will make them feel like they at least should have asked. ", "How old are you? I ask because part of this just comes with age, and you may be on the cusp of the transition.\n\nIt's not better or worse to be young or old; we simply have different priorities. When young, we need to establish our selves, to distinguish our selves from our family and our peers while also maintaining the comfort of family and community. Once you feel settled (and this happens biologically as well as socially) you will start to feel less need to stand out, and more of a need to connect with people and share in the experience of common human stories. It becomes fun to listen to other people's stories and goad them into telling more details so you have even more ways to connect. And this process naturally leads to you telling your own story as an extension of that need.\n\nThis is all to say don't worry about it too much. Just pay attention to what you really want, and what really makes you happy. Experiment with all the methods in these comments and see what works.", "Here's what you do: instead of replying like you normally do, ask a question about what the other person just said. \nIf they're telling you about the speeding ticket they just got, don't tell them about when you also got a ticket but you mouthed off and got your car searched. Instead, ask them open-ended questions like, \"What happened?\" \"How'd it go?\" \"Why were driving like a moron?\" Etc.\n\nResist the urge to share your own speeding ticket story until after you've asked a few questions. Then, tell your story in a self-deprecating manner, so as not to one up them, but to relate to them and show them that you know how they feel and you sympathize with them.\n\n", "Genuinely listen and care about what the other person is saying! It is going to come off as fake if you ask questions just to \"seem\" like you're listening. ", "For me, it came with age. Sometimes I would talk, and then realize that I didn't have a clue what I was talking about, and might even be (gasp!) wrong. So, I practice listening and biting my tongue. As I got older, I began to realize that I can relate to and have a story for almost everything. But, its not all about me. So....biting tongue and ending here.", "Focus on listening. Not just with the purpose of responding, but really try to understand what is being said.\n\nLet your curiosity about the idea or story pull out the response and questions naturally. The benefit is that you will actually learn quite a lot, both of the person and the subject.", "Focus on asking questions. \n\nEven if it does include your story \n\n\"Oh cool you went to the Grand Canyon? So did I! what route did you use?\" \n\n\" I understand how you feel, I've had a similar experience with my ex. do you want to talk about it more? I might be able to help \"", "Enjoying the company of the people around you = listening to what they say\n\nTrying to get people to like you = saying stuff to group\n\nTry to just relax and enjoy the interaction more, and not worry overmuch about advancing your position with the group.", "Don't you hate sitting in college class that you paid too much money for only to have to listen to some student tell a part of their life story e v e r y c l a s s. On the other hand, as a teacher of an adult class, I get grumpy having to politely listen to some ignorant nonsense after I've spent twenty hours preparing for my 1/2-hour lecture.", "Don't ever slow down to 2nd guess yourself. Never hesitate, but this situation sit back and listen/wait your turn.", "Don't be a dick. No one cares that you did something better or more extravagant. Listen to people. These days no one fucking listens to anyone. Listen to them, tell that that you are happy they enjoyed themselves. Be happy for that person/people. Ask questions about what they told you. Be interested in what they have to tell you. What they are sharing with you might be super important to them and anyone who stops them mid sentence to one up them needs to have their head bashed in. It's rude, obnoxious and I thank you for understanding that this is a problem you have.", "Don't ", "Discipline. You need to keep your mind under control, not just let your emotions and impulses steer your conversations. It comes more easily with experience or age (not sure which, but I have no trouble now, and was just like you when I was younger).", "Considering that you are worried about this shows that you're a thoughtful and likely kind person. I hope people recognize this even when you're doing your \"one up-ing\", and that they notice that you're not an annoying, braggy person. Probably people haven't even noticed your habit or don't think of it as negatively as you do. I was just told today that people judge others (me) a lot less than oneself (me) thinks, and that's probably true... So try not to worry so much about it. :) But I'm worrying about such things a lot, too, so I feel ya. ", "Consciously think \"I need to shut the fuck up and listen\" I'm a little too buzzed to give advice. BUT. I'm always afraid I'm the \"one upper\" so I sometimes have to think about shutting up and listening. ", "Check out [What Got You Here Won't Get You There](https://www.amazon.com/What-Got-Here-Wont-There/dp/1401301304). (Not an affiliate link) It's been some time since I read it, but roughly the advice in it was:\n\n1. Take a survey of your co-workers/people you interact with to determine what your biggest flaws are. You've already settled on one, perhaps based on feedback from others, but consider the possibility that it might not be the actual biggest thing that annoys people.\n2. Own it. Tell the people you've done this to that you're aware that you do it, that you know it's a problem, that you're sorry, that you intend to fix it, and (perhaps most important) that *you need their help to track your progress*.\n3. Take steps to fix it. This can take multiple forms. You could simply tell the people from step 2 that every time they catch you doing this and let you know (right then), you'll give them five dollars (or whatever amount will make it hurt). You could do something else. You can get ideas from the people in step 2 about how to fix it. But whatever you do: \n4. Follow up with the people from step 2 every week, or every other week, to track how much you've improved.\n\nDo this until the problem is solved, or until it's clear the strategy you've chosen in step 3 isn't working. If you agree with the people from step 2 that it isn't working, brainstorm a new plan with them and try again.\n\nThe book goes into much more detail, and is really informative. I highly recommend it.", "Can I just say that you might want to not worry too much. Becoming too self conscious can wreck havoc on your confidence as a person and make you start to dislike yourself. Just be yourself and ask your close friends or just comment to them that you realize you might always add to stuff or want to share a similar story but you're not trying to one up them. I think the Reddit one-up hate tends to suck in lots of other behaviors that aren't really that bad. So social people start thinking, \"shit man. I do that all the time.\" When actually you're just being social and sharing a similar story because that's what people do when they have conversation. \n\nBy chance do you get stoned? I went through the same feelings you are and they only came on when I would be stoned. Made me stop smoking. Just felt paranoid and questioned everything I said or did. ", "Better to stop talking once you realize you've interrupted them. A quick, \"Oh, sorry, go ahead.\" will do. ", "Before you start your story, make them feel like you enjoyed theirs. Saying something nice about theirs will make your story sound more like conversation than a competition. ", "Ask questions, people love talking about themselves when given the chance. It's the subject you know the most about. When you ask questions relevant to what someone is talking about (even if you know nothing about the subject), it shows interest and it'll help you make your comments, stories and brags seem more natural and less like a one-up contest.", "Ask questions and listen to the answers. Follow up with more questions and ask how the experience made the other person feel or what they got from it. Learn to see things from their perspectives. ", "Ask interesting questions and focus on the details of their story. This will help reduce the overwhelming urge to add to or comment. I have to do it. It's terrible, but I rarely am in the company of someone who is a better story teller or who has more interesting stories or anecdotes than me. I have learned to wait my turn and then let my better delivery and not pointless story speak on it's own merit.", "As someone who has only recently become more aware of this and is doing it less, I'd say focus on the core state of you being more than mentally trying to force it. Explanation: breathe more, focus on others more, be present. When you're doing these things you're relaxed, you're not neurotically self-aware, you're in the moment and less needy.\n\nAlso, as Dale Carnegie famously wrote, people are far more interested in themselves than you. So if they bring up a cool story ask them more about it, rather than adding your own details.", "As everyone else has said, just ask questions. I do this too, and as you said I'll usually realize it once I've already cut them off and started my story. The correction I've made (that I didn't see anyone directly mention) is to simply think of a question while briefly finishing the story in order to bring it back to them in the end. As long as you realize you're cutting them off early this works pretty well.", "Actually listen to the person. I keep reading comments that say \"think of questions to ask\" or how you mentioned getting excited when you realized you had something to contribute. If that's the case, then you're not listening to hear the person and acknowledge them, you're listening so you can reply and you're likely missing a lot of what they're telling you. Try to take the pressure off yourself and focus only on listening and once they are done, you can try to ask some thought provoking questions. Like, \"what did you love the most about your vacation?\", \"how did you feel when you accomplished that? \" if it's mostly casual conversation about what they are doing on the weekend then you can take the question down a notch obviously. My advice is to just listen honestly. Notice how the person gets excited or frustrated or sad. Ask them questions that are genuine and don't distract yourself with your own internal dialogue ", "A long time ago, a mentor gave me some great advice that will certainly help you. I once had the bad habit of interrupting and finishing people's sentences.\n\nIn the midst of a discussion, if you want to speak, think about what you want to say, count to 10 . . . when you're done counting, if you still want to say what you think you want to say, then say it.\n\nThis advice allows for others to speak and keeps you from saying tons of things you may not want to say. \n\nThis advice has worked wonders for me, in 1 on 1 situations, and large groups.", "A great way is to just listen. It's really hard to just stop thinking about what you want to say or should say or would be a better story. Instead, listen and reflect (content is easier to reflect, reflecting emotions is tougher but more personal). For example: \"I'm just so busy right now with work, I barely have time to do my hair!\" Instead of saying \"yeah I know! I have 3 jobs, and a kid imagine if you were me!\" (Probably not as exaggerated), try \" wow, it sounds like you're really overwhelmed and stressed out right now.\" This let's them know you've heard them and understand what they were trying to convey. You'd be amazed what that little comment would do for them. Also avoiding close ended questions (questions where the answer is yes or no) help spur conversation and makes the listener feel like you are more invested in what they have to say. For example: instead of \"So you just work every day?\" Try \"tell me about your work.\" Just a little counselor tip!", "A friend once told me \"when interacting with people, instead of worrying about what they think about you, worry about how they FEEL around you.\" Do you build them up? Do you genuinely believe you can learn something from them?\n\nYou don't have to treat everyone as though you're a saint, but if you can learn to cultivate genuine interest in other people you will go far in life.", "> I am a little awkward in conversations because I talk without thinking.\n\nIt seems like you know the problem.", "60% of the people I know are like this, except to a much more severe degree. None of them know they do it either. My life is unrelenting " ]

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[ "Jobs that don't require college? Hey ya'll, I'm trying to find jobs that pay a decent monthly wage and don't require college. I don't mind training school related jobs, or getting certificates or anything like that. I've googled extensively and pretty much only find HVAC, entrepreneur jobs, and electrician related things lol but I know there's gotta be more out there. \n\n\nI can't do anything mathematical-related (accountant crap, etc) because of a learning disability, and anything related to heights is a no. Any ideas are welcome, I know this is a very broad subject.", "Jobs that don't require college? Hey ya'll, I'm trying to find jobs that pay a decent monthly wage and don't require college. I don't mind training school related jobs, or getting certificates or anything like that. I've googled extensively and pretty much only find HVAC, entrepreneur jobs, and electrician related things lol but I know there's gotta be more out there. \n\n\nI can't do anything mathematical-related (accountant crap, etc) because of a learning disability, and anything related to heights is a no. Any ideas are welcome, I know this is a very broad subject.", "Jobs that don't require college? Hey ya'll, I'm trying to find jobs that pay a decent monthly wage and don't require college. I don't mind training school related jobs, or getting certificates or anything like that. I've googled extensively and pretty much only find HVAC, entrepreneur jobs, and electrician related things lol but I know there's gotta be more out there. \n\n\nI can't do anything mathematical-related (accountant crap, etc) because of a learning disability, and anything related to heights is a no. Any ideas are welcome, I know this is a very broad subject.", "Jobs that don't require college? Hey ya'll, I'm trying to find jobs that pay a decent monthly wage and don't require college. I don't mind training school related jobs, or getting certificates or anything like that. I've googled extensively and pretty much only find HVAC, entrepreneur jobs, and electrician related things lol but I know there's gotta be more out there. \n\n\nI can't do anything mathematical-related (accountant crap, etc) because of a learning disability, and anything related to heights is a no. Any ideas are welcome, I know this is a very broad subject.", "Jobs that don't require college? Hey ya'll, I'm trying to find jobs that pay a decent monthly wage and don't require college. I don't mind training school related jobs, or getting certificates or anything like that. I've googled extensively and pretty much only find HVAC, entrepreneur jobs, and electrician related things lol but I know there's gotta be more out there. \n\n\nI can't do anything mathematical-related (accountant crap, etc) because of a learning disability, and anything related to heights is a no. Any ideas are welcome, I know this is a very broad subject.", "Jobs that don't require college? Hey ya'll, I'm trying to find jobs that pay a decent monthly wage and don't require college. I don't mind training school related jobs, or getting certificates or anything like that. I've googled extensively and pretty much only find HVAC, entrepreneur jobs, and electrician related things lol but I know there's gotta be more out there. \n\n\nI can't do anything mathematical-related (accountant crap, etc) because of a learning disability, and anything related to heights is a no. Any ideas are welcome, I know this is a very broad subject.", "Jobs that don't require college? Hey ya'll, I'm trying to find jobs that pay a decent monthly wage and don't require college. I don't mind training school related jobs, or getting certificates or anything like that. I've googled extensively and pretty much only find HVAC, entrepreneur jobs, and electrician related things lol but I know there's gotta be more out there. \n\n\nI can't do anything mathematical-related (accountant crap, etc) because of a learning disability, and anything related to heights is a no. Any ideas are welcome, I know this is a very broad subject.", "Jobs that don't require college? Hey ya'll, I'm trying to find jobs that pay a decent monthly wage and don't require college. I don't mind training school related jobs, or getting certificates or anything like that. I've googled extensively and pretty much only find HVAC, entrepreneur jobs, and electrician related things lol but I know there's gotta be more out there. \n\n\nI can't do anything mathematical-related (accountant crap, etc) because of a learning disability, and anything related to heights is a no. Any ideas are welcome, I know this is a very broad subject.", "Jobs that don't require college? Hey ya'll, I'm trying to find jobs that pay a decent monthly wage and don't require college. I don't mind training school related jobs, or getting certificates or anything like that. I've googled extensively and pretty much only find HVAC, entrepreneur jobs, and electrician related things lol but I know there's gotta be more out there. \n\n\nI can't do anything mathematical-related (accountant crap, etc) because of a learning disability, and anything related to heights is a no. Any ideas are welcome, I know this is a very broad subject." ]

[ "Not sure how severe your no math requirement is. Pharmacy tech is a lot of counting, but not too much math. Math is the only subject I ever failed in school, but I loved being a tech. It’s mostly the same 30days x 2 a day = 60, 30days x 1.5 a day = 45, over and over all day. You memorize everything pretty quick. \n\nIf you have something like dyscalculia it might not be a great fit though. :/", "Sales. My bf had a HS diploma and makes 3x what I make in a technical field with 2 degrees. If you can be personable with people, find a company that sells a nice product (my bf is in home construction) and pays on commission. If you are not naturally good with people, you can practice on the job. Good luck!", "Welders and construction both pay relatively well, from what I've heard. There could be heights involved, but it'll probably depend on where you work and what you work on.", "Truck driving. It can take some time to get a commercial drivers license but earning potential is high and only getting higher.", "Sales always seems to pay well, working at a cell retail store, car dealerships, ECT. They definitely are not for everyone but commissions can be good. I also got a buddy who just started installing alarm systems and is doing well, but there is sales involved with that as well.", "Consider OR technician (the people who hand instruments to surgeons)—the pandemic has led to a HUGE shortage", "Luxury retail (in a big city). Lots of people making 6 figures to sell clothes. You just have to carry yourself well, know a little something about fashion or confidently convey that you do but don't. Get in as a temp somewhere good and look for ways to work your way to a high opportunity commissioned sales job", "You’ll fit right in with truck drivers. Not much math involved and with the right endorsements and experience you’ll pull six figures.", "UI/UX design. You can literally start from Youtube videos, download Figma or other software, spend some time learning, training, trying. Make some portfolio, and start applying. I did this during my Uni time, studying completely different matter but earned some cash doing designs" ]

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[ "How to Protect Your Privacy During Small Talk I recently moved and all the new people I meet seem to want to know everything about me right away. The exact neighborhood of the exact city I moved from, the exact job I had there and all the steps of what I have been doing on my job search out here and exactly where I am looking for my new home.\n\nI realize that (sadly) small talk is full of questions about work (at least in the U.S.) but I'd like to not let strangers know where I live/work or how my job hunting is going. Me attempting to give brief answers or change the subject or ask them polite questions only results in more detailed and nosy questions persistently asked from them. I am usually a guest of a friend when I'm meeting these new people, and it's difficult to gracefully extricate myself from these conversations without appearing standoffish and making my friend look bad for bringing such a paranoid introvert to the party.\n\nWhat are some of the best tactics for protecting privacy during small talk?", "How to Protect Your Privacy During Small Talk I recently moved and all the new people I meet seem to want to know everything about me right away. The exact neighborhood of the exact city I moved from, the exact job I had there and all the steps of what I have been doing on my job search out here and exactly where I am looking for my new home.\n\nI realize that (sadly) small talk is full of questions about work (at least in the U.S.) but I'd like to not let strangers know where I live/work or how my job hunting is going. Me attempting to give brief answers or change the subject or ask them polite questions only results in more detailed and nosy questions persistently asked from them. I am usually a guest of a friend when I'm meeting these new people, and it's difficult to gracefully extricate myself from these conversations without appearing standoffish and making my friend look bad for bringing such a paranoid introvert to the party.\n\nWhat are some of the best tactics for protecting privacy during small talk?", "How to Protect Your Privacy During Small Talk I recently moved and all the new people I meet seem to want to know everything about me right away. The exact neighborhood of the exact city I moved from, the exact job I had there and all the steps of what I have been doing on my job search out here and exactly where I am looking for my new home.\n\nI realize that (sadly) small talk is full of questions about work (at least in the U.S.) but I'd like to not let strangers know where I live/work or how my job hunting is going. Me attempting to give brief answers or change the subject or ask them polite questions only results in more detailed and nosy questions persistently asked from them. I am usually a guest of a friend when I'm meeting these new people, and it's difficult to gracefully extricate myself from these conversations without appearing standoffish and making my friend look bad for bringing such a paranoid introvert to the party.\n\nWhat are some of the best tactics for protecting privacy during small talk?", "How to Protect Your Privacy During Small Talk I recently moved and all the new people I meet seem to want to know everything about me right away. The exact neighborhood of the exact city I moved from, the exact job I had there and all the steps of what I have been doing on my job search out here and exactly where I am looking for my new home.\n\nI realize that (sadly) small talk is full of questions about work (at least in the U.S.) but I'd like to not let strangers know where I live/work or how my job hunting is going. Me attempting to give brief answers or change the subject or ask them polite questions only results in more detailed and nosy questions persistently asked from them. I am usually a guest of a friend when I'm meeting these new people, and it's difficult to gracefully extricate myself from these conversations without appearing standoffish and making my friend look bad for bringing such a paranoid introvert to the party.\n\nWhat are some of the best tactics for protecting privacy during small talk?" ]

[ "Make light of the questions. I found that younger people in their first jobs ask personal questions quite quickly. Just reply with something like \"this and that.\"\n\nDo it with a smile so they know you arent being rude but it would quickly get uncomfortable for them if they push it. ", "Answer the first question and then ask that person a question. Always try to ask 3 questions for every question you are asked. Not only will that cut down on the information you have to give out, people will think you're really friendly and a \"good listener\"\n", "Maybe since you're new, you can use that to your advantage? Reply with something like, \"I'm from $city, $state. One thing that I really love about $the_new_city is $anything_you're_interested_in. Have you ever been there/tried it/etc? Do you have any recommendations for $something_related_to_that_thing_you_just_brought_up?\" Turn it around, fast, and focus on the future. Don't just ask polite questions - be genuinely, enthusiastically, curious about this place that is new to you, but well-known to them. People love to give advice. I bet you could sidetrack them for hours! :)", "Honestly, asking such invasive questions of a stranger is rude behavior. Do not allow yourself to feel uncomfortable because you do not want to divulge personal information with a stranger. Answer generally, or make a joke and move on. If they continue pestering, shut it down. I wouldn't want those kinds of people in my life anyway personally. That level of nosyness is a huge red flag to me. It screams gossiper..and in my experience, those types of people only bring drama and problems to their social world. Another poster recommended asking multiple questions for every one of their questions. I think this is a great tactic, as you are now putting the focus on them, not you. It might also have the added benefit of making the other party recognize how invasive and uncomfortable their line of questioning is." ]

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[ "What are the best earplugs for staying in the ear Earplugs have always fallen out while asleep for me. Are they good ones that will definitely stay in?", "What are the best earplugs for staying in the ear Earplugs have always fallen out while asleep for me. Are they good ones that will definitely stay in?", "What are the best earplugs for staying in the ear Earplugs have always fallen out while asleep for me. Are they good ones that will definitely stay in?" ]

[ "Custom fit from an audiologist. Probably not cheap but they're worth it. Won't last forever because ears never stop growing. Audiologist can tell you how long they'll last.", "I've just found these LugGuards Custom Moulded Ear Plugs 3 Pair Pack with FREE cases, storage pouch & spatula. They're cheaper & you get three pairs!", "the little yellow cylinders that you roll up and expand when they get in the ear canal. never had any issues with them and they are super affordable. never slept in them, but they don't fall out when you jump out of an airplane." ]

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[ "How to tell a story well. Every time I tell and interesting story, I never say it the right way and everyone just stares at me awkwardly.", "How to tell a story well. Every time I tell and interesting story, I never say it the right way and everyone just stares at me awkwardly.", "How to tell a story well. Every time I tell and interesting story, I never say it the right way and everyone just stares at me awkwardly.", "How to tell a story well. Every time I tell and interesting story, I never say it the right way and everyone just stares at me awkwardly.", "How to tell a story well. Every time I tell and interesting story, I never say it the right way and everyone just stares at me awkwardly." ]

[ "**Study and practice**. Some resources might include story podcasts like This American Life, The Moth, or The Truth; comedians like Louis C.K. or Mike Birbiglia; and short stories by David Sedaris or Tucker Max.\n\nAlso, don't forget Aristotle's *Poetics* to figure out dramatic structure: your stories need a beginning, buildup to climax, and a resolution. Each part should proceed from the last in a non-random way. Try creating memorable patterns by repeating symbols/words/images.\n\nAnd don't forget to learn proper body language, gestures, and voice acting via youtube.", "[How to tell powerful stories in your speeches](http://publicwords.typepad.com/articles/2012/05/how-to-tell-powerful-stories-in-your-speeches.html)\n\n[Win By Telling Great Stories ](http://www.forbes.com/sites/nickmorgan/2011/04/11/win-by-telling-great-stories-with-peter-guber/)\n\n\n", "Don't use 'and' in the place of 'an'. \n\nMaybe you feel the interesting story is extremely interesting so you get too anxious to think of the words properly or you're just having trouble with details. Usually for me I have trouble with over explaining the situation and people start to lose interest. When I try and stop, I under-explain the situation and no one understands it. ", "Don't mention everything interesting right away but give them a kick-ass argument to hear your story in the very beginning.\nStop telling the story for a few seconds and thus offering time for the listeners to be creative and think of it for themselves works wonders as well.\n\nYou might want to check out the [wikiHow search for telling stories.](http://www.wikihow.com/Special:GoogSearch?cx=008953293426798287586%3Amr-gwotjmbs&cof=FORID%3A10&ie=UTF-8&q=tell+stories&siteurl=www.wikihow.com%2FMain-Page)", "When referring to a statement that I person makes, don't do this:\nJimmy is like, \"Fuck the English language.\"\nIt is preferred to do this:\nKathy tells me, or\nJohn says\nCthulu drops this bomb\nYou won't sound like an idiot. \nWhen people use 'like' in that way, a puppy somewhere dies. " ]

[ 3, 2, 2, 2, 0 ]

[ "Turn Google Maps off Hard Mode When I am driving with google maps, it usually thinks the smaller side streets are faster during rush hour. The problem is that I will be on some small residential street and come to an intersection with a major 4-lanes-in-each-direction type of street and google thinks I should just casually make a left. Sometimes that is just impossible (this is rush hour...the bigger street is full of cars). Is there a way to adjust the settings or something so google doesn't ask you to do things like that?", "Turn Google Maps off Hard Mode When I am driving with google maps, it usually thinks the smaller side streets are faster during rush hour. The problem is that I will be on some small residential street and come to an intersection with a major 4-lanes-in-each-direction type of street and google thinks I should just casually make a left. Sometimes that is just impossible (this is rush hour...the bigger street is full of cars). Is there a way to adjust the settings or something so google doesn't ask you to do things like that?" ]

[ "The route duration estimates by google are based on the actual trip durations of people who travelled that route at that time of day. ", "Sometimes it seems like you're waiting much longer than you are. Waiting 1 minute for a gap can seem like an eternity, even though the route is faster overall. But the \"long\" wait is still with it. And sometimes you'll get lucky and catch an early gap, saving you even more time. " ]

[ 2, 2 ]

[ "Tips on fixing up an apartment to get security deposit back. There is the obvious, paint walls and clean through. But does anyone know of things land lords like to be tricky about? ", "Tips on fixing up an apartment to get security deposit back. There is the obvious, paint walls and clean through. But does anyone know of things land lords like to be tricky about? ", "Tips on fixing up an apartment to get security deposit back. There is the obvious, paint walls and clean through. But does anyone know of things land lords like to be tricky about? ", "Tips on fixing up an apartment to get security deposit back. There is the obvious, paint walls and clean through. But does anyone know of things land lords like to be tricky about? " ]

[ "After you are done cleaning everything up, take pictures of it all.\n\nHave the manager of the property come through with you and make it clear that you expect the entire security deposit back. I made the mistake of not having the manager come through, and got my deposit back $250 lighter due to \"cleaning fees\"\n\nThere was a receipt attached for a cleaning service the property used, but there was no reason for a cleaning service to come through, and less reason for me to be charged for it.\n\nIt's a hassle, but stand your ground on this. I should have fought mine, but i was already in a new place and started traveling for work, so never had the time to show up face to face.", "Spackle is the easiest thing ever. Drywall patch isn't bad either. Easy things to learn how to do. \nOnce you spackle, take a sample (a chip) of the paint on the walls and bring it to a hardware store. Match the color, then paint. Not difficult. ", "getting your security deposit back is not something you can put off and worry about the day you move out. It's something you need to be aware of the entire time you live in a place. You need to remember that the deposit is basically insurance for the land lord that you will leave the apartment in as good, or better condition then when you moved in(with a few common wear and tear exceptions).\n\n 1. Take pictures the day you sign the lease before you move in. Make sure your camera has the date stamp turned on and is correct. make sure you note any existing damage no matter how small you might think. Trust me, if you notice something, the land lord sure would notice it too. Ask them to fix any issues, which should be no problem.\n\n 2. While you are living there, any time some minor maintenance issues comes up, immediately ask for the land lord to fix it. Those door knob dents in sheet rock, and broken stove top elements might seem small, but if you leave it to when you move out then they could charge you. Report it immediately and we would always fix it for free, but if you get charged, at least you can pay for it as it comes up and not all at once.\n\n 3. When you give notice that you are moving out, Ask the land lord for a move out check list. If they don't have one, at least ask them about what is expected regarding carpets and walls. We would ask them to wipe the walls down with windex and vacuum the carpets, but some places require you to pay for a professional carpet cleaning. Do your homework, how can you expect your deposit back if you don't even know what is expected from you?\n\n 4. If you think you can \"clean as you go\" when you are moving out, don't kid yourself. Get ALL of your stuff out of the entire house before you start cleaning. EVERY SINGLE SURFACE inside and out, except the ceiling will need to be cleaned, dusted, vacuumed, or scrubbed. Your goal is the same as the Land Lord's goal: make the apartment feel as if no one else has ever lived there before.\n\n 5. REPEAT: EVERY. SINGLE. SURFACE. inside and outside of all cabinets and appliances. Remove crisper drawers and tip up the range top and clean under that. The oven is always a battle, it needs to be SPOTLESS and look like it's never been used. Another quick tip that we always used is take off all the light switch and outlet covers and run them through the dishwasher without soap, it makes them clean as new.\n\n 6. pull out fridges and ovens and clean under and behind them. When I was inspecting apartments the very first thing i did was check behind the fridge and under the stove. If it wasn't clean, then my inspection stopped there because you were wasting my time. I would call you and give you a 2nd chance to come clean again, or hire a cleaning company, your choice.\n\n 7. Plan on making a second cleaning trip: If you can, move out a extra day early. This give you the time to clean everything once, when you think you are done, tell your land lord and ask that if there is something not 100% to his/her liking that you can come back and fix it. I guarantee that even if they don't mention it and don't charge for it, the oven could probably use another going over.\n\n\n\nA few things to look into because each state's laws and each lease can be different:\n\n A. Most states classify picture hanging and normal aging of carpets to be normal wear and tear and land lords can not charge to fix this.\n\n B. NEVER paint or do any repairs yourself without first talking to the land lord. Each land lord is going to have their own preferences as to how they want these situations handled.\n\n C. Carpets: some land lords put in the lease that tenants MUST pay for a commercial carpet cleaning company to do the carpets, sometimes it says $xxx dollars of the security deposit is non-refundable for carpets.\n\n D. I can't stress communication with the land lord enough! If you have a good relation ship with them, and you honestly try your hardest to meet their cleaning requirements, you will be rewarded and they will probably let a couple small things slide. If you have a bad relationship and don't communicate, well then you will have a bad time.\n\n E. If in the end the land lord still withholds money, ask for a itemized receipt. $250 to clean even a small apartment is not uncommon. I had to go to small claims court a couple times over mad tenants and never lost. I only saw 1 claim over thrown and that was a douche land lord who tried to charge $400 for a new stove because it was scratched. Don't bother with court unless there is a outrageous charge like the stove, or there is charges that go against the lease and/or state laws.\n\n REMEMBER: The security deposit isn't there to be money for the tenant to go have a night on the town or buy a big screen TV when they move out. It is there as insurance to the land lord that the apartment will be in as good of shapes as before you moved in, You are renting their property after all. \n\n Source: My many years of working as a land lord.", "Do your best to clean and remedy anything you can. If you can afford the time, sprinkle baking soda all over that carpets and leave overnight. Vacuum the place last thing before you leave. Show an obvious effort. Typical wear and tear cannot be deducted from your deposit. However, damage can be. There are laws about replacing carpet and paint after a place has been occupied X amount of time. Check into it. " ]

[ 6, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to effectively and easily block the little automatic drain thingy in a bath tub that prevents overflows. The little switch you flick to determine if the tub fills or drains houses an emergency drain that keeps the tub from overflowing.\n\nFor anyone who is not 80 pounds, it also keeps the tub water from being high enough to take a comfortable soothing fucking bath without running the water constantly or refilling it every 5 minutes.\n\nhow do block plz", "How to effectively and easily block the little automatic drain thingy in a bath tub that prevents overflows. The little switch you flick to determine if the tub fills or drains houses an emergency drain that keeps the tub from overflowing.\n\nFor anyone who is not 80 pounds, it also keeps the tub water from being high enough to take a comfortable soothing fucking bath without running the water constantly or refilling it every 5 minutes.\n\nhow do block plz", "How to effectively and easily block the little automatic drain thingy in a bath tub that prevents overflows. The little switch you flick to determine if the tub fills or drains houses an emergency drain that keeps the tub from overflowing.\n\nFor anyone who is not 80 pounds, it also keeps the tub water from being high enough to take a comfortable soothing fucking bath without running the water constantly or refilling it every 5 minutes.\n\nhow do block plz", "How to effectively and easily block the little automatic drain thingy in a bath tub that prevents overflows. The little switch you flick to determine if the tub fills or drains houses an emergency drain that keeps the tub from overflowing.\n\nFor anyone who is not 80 pounds, it also keeps the tub water from being high enough to take a comfortable soothing fucking bath without running the water constantly or refilling it every 5 minutes.\n\nhow do block plz", "How to effectively and easily block the little automatic drain thingy in a bath tub that prevents overflows. The little switch you flick to determine if the tub fills or drains houses an emergency drain that keeps the tub from overflowing.\n\nFor anyone who is not 80 pounds, it also keeps the tub water from being high enough to take a comfortable soothing fucking bath without running the water constantly or refilling it every 5 minutes.\n\nhow do block plz" ]

[ "Get your screwdriver and remove the overflow drain cover. Get a piece of plastic wrap and fold it over itself a few times to make a thicker piece of plastic. Take the plastic and cover the hole. Make a small hole for the screw and screw the drain cover back on. Cut off excess plastic as necessary. \n\nor you can just buy one of these: https://www.amazon.com/Bottomless-Bath-Overflow-Drain-Cover/dp/B00314WHW6/ref=as_sl_pc_ss_til?tag=retrorenov-20&linkCode=w00&linkId=HEN4FB5YU7ANYZ2H&creativeASIN=B00314WHW6", "Fill the tub up with a rag in it, fall asleep, the rag blocks the overflow hole, and the house floods. Worked great for my brother. Not so much for my parents, though.\n\nMe, I would use silly putty. And I would stay awake.", "I thought the exact same thing. It depends on how big the drain is. I use the cap of a shaving foam can. Place it over the drain and the suction and pressure from the water will keep it in place. Well aslong as the water is above the cap. Easy to remove and it works.", "Fun fact - it's actually not there to keep the tub from overflowing, it's a housing for the trip lever. ", "Wrap some non-hardening clay in plastic wrap. Stuff it in the opening when needed. \n\nIt's best if you use something like silly putty that won't dissolve in water so you don't have a mold problem." ]

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[ "What are the signs to look out for as to whether an ATM/cash machine is being skimmed/scammed? Something I've been thinking about after watching a YouTube video of a security expert discovering that an ATM has a skimmer attached. \n\nWhat are the signs to look out for?", "What are the signs to look out for as to whether an ATM/cash machine is being skimmed/scammed? Something I've been thinking about after watching a YouTube video of a security expert discovering that an ATM has a skimmer attached. \n\nWhat are the signs to look out for?" ]

[ "One thing to do is take a look at the card reader to see if it it looks like it has something extra attached to it, some skimmers are just attached to the reader. Also sometimes what skimmers will do is try to remove the sign that shows what cards are accepted, if the ATM doesn't have that sign then it would probably be best to avoid it.", "I haven't got an answer, but as something related, always try to take money out when you're in the company of a friend or relative etc. Someone is less likely to approach you when you're not alone." ]

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[ "Stop shoes from squeaking So I got these boots that get this extremely annoying squishy sound when I walk on polished floors. They have become unwearable at the office and school. When I’m on the street I don’t get the squishy sound at all, only on those type of floors. They look really nice, except for this problem. Things I have been suggested: sand or spray the soles with wd40 . Any recommendations? Thank you.", "Stop shoes from squeaking So I got these boots that get this extremely annoying squishy sound when I walk on polished floors. They have become unwearable at the office and school. When I’m on the street I don’t get the squishy sound at all, only on those type of floors. They look really nice, except for this problem. Things I have been suggested: sand or spray the soles with wd40 . Any recommendations? Thank you.", "Stop shoes from squeaking So I got these boots that get this extremely annoying squishy sound when I walk on polished floors. They have become unwearable at the office and school. When I’m on the street I don’t get the squishy sound at all, only on those type of floors. They look really nice, except for this problem. Things I have been suggested: sand or spray the soles with wd40 . Any recommendations? Thank you.", "Stop shoes from squeaking So I got these boots that get this extremely annoying squishy sound when I walk on polished floors. They have become unwearable at the office and school. When I’m on the street I don’t get the squishy sound at all, only on those type of floors. They look really nice, except for this problem. Things I have been suggested: sand or spray the soles with wd40 . Any recommendations? Thank you.", "Stop shoes from squeaking So I got these boots that get this extremely annoying squishy sound when I walk on polished floors. They have become unwearable at the office and school. When I’m on the street I don’t get the squishy sound at all, only on those type of floors. They look really nice, except for this problem. Things I have been suggested: sand or spray the soles with wd40 . Any recommendations? Thank you." ]

[ "Just rock it on polish floors make them squeak with rhythm, make them the instrument for your life's soundtrack", "You can use a bit of sand paper and roughen the surface of your sole. Also rubbing a bit of bar soap VERY LIGHTLY over the bottoms work without making you a slipper mess.", "Squeaking comes from two surfaces pushing or rubbing together. As they rub they vibrate and make noise. If it's sole to walking surface all you can do is change your gait/step to minimize. If it's sole to upper you need to either lubricate the slipping or secure the slipping. So talc/graphite or shoe goo (or e6000 flexible adhesive). You have to identify the squeak source.\n\nAnything you do to the sole is going to affect the grip of the shoe. On concrete the grip is great...on smooth floors it is not. Sanding MAY help but you'll just delay the problem until the sanded scratches flatten out again. Rubber on smooth surfaces just squeaks. Walk more slowly or take a flattened step. Don't put wd40 on your shoes as you've got no idea how it may impact the coloring or materials. And you're suggesting you 'walk on oil' - which would work but is very dangerous. Even if you wd40'd the walking surface it would very quickly be rubbed away.", "I don’t understand where the squeaking is coming from but if it is possible, put baby powder in if there’s a “sandwich”situation. I wear orthotics and get that squeaking sometimes inside my shoe, I use that.", "This happened to me. The way I fixed it, was to 1) spray WD40 on the sole, and 2) spray it inside the shoes, before each use.\n\n" ]

[ 10, 2, 2, 2, -3 ]

[ "How to make your voice sound normal when you're sick I have to give a presentation tomorrow and my voice is all stuffed up and raspy. Anything I can do?", "How to make your voice sound normal when you're sick I have to give a presentation tomorrow and my voice is all stuffed up and raspy. Anything I can do?" ]

[ "Voice expert here. I've been a classical vocalist for a decade now, so let's see if we can't help you speak better :)\n\nThe first step (if it applies to you) is to stop smoking or drinking alcohol. You may ask - smoking is a no-brainer, but why alcohol? Are you against drinking? Why no, good sir. I enjoy a tasty beverage as much as the next bloke, but the thing is, a lot of that alcohol evaporates right back up and out through your mouth - hence why breathalyzers exist and work so accurately.\n\nSecond step: drink some juice. I suggest apple, since it creates (somewhat) helpful phlegm, which will coat your throat and reduce irritation while you speak. Hot tea can relax the throat, but the tannins found in black varieties can actually irritate you more than help you. So be careful. Better yet to eat a spoonful of honey.\n\nThird step: get some rest, and don't talk for the rest of the night. Nothing like a good night's rest to heal the body, including those little vocal cords.\n\nFourth: Make sure that tomorrow, when you wake up, you do some light hums, which eases the vocal cords into the phonation they'll be doing during your presentation. Just go \"hmmmm...hmmmmm\" in a comfortable range for you. Up, down, up and down.\n\nFifth (and last): When you talk, get a good breath in before each sentence. It will seem labor intensive at first, but it becomes a habit. Plenty of air, and a little less myo-elastic (muscle) tension may clear up your voice.\n\nIt's hard to say if this is a perfect solution for you, since I can't hear your voice and whether you have any serious vocal problems, but these are good steps to take.\n\nHappy speaking!", "dunno, but I can tell you how to make your voice sound sick when you are normal. Say, if you had to call in to work to fake an ill day. What you do is make the call whilst lying on your back in bed with your head hanging down over the side of the bed. Dont try to put on a 'weak/ill' voice, just speak normally. The angle of your neck adds a tightness to your throat that sounds very convincing." ]

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[ "How do you fall asleep with difficult-to-ignore and stop noise? At a friend's place right now spending the night, as i imagine a lot of people will be real soon. There is a tick-tock clock on the wall of the room i'm in, and i can't disable it, as it is out of reach and my friend might not be able to sleep without it's noise. However, it is one of the few background noises i can't sleep with at all. Oh, and our alarm clock goes off in less than three hours. What works for you to sleep fast with random sounds like that? Feel free to add similar requests here. ", "How do you fall asleep with difficult-to-ignore and stop noise? At a friend's place right now spending the night, as i imagine a lot of people will be real soon. There is a tick-tock clock on the wall of the room i'm in, and i can't disable it, as it is out of reach and my friend might not be able to sleep without it's noise. However, it is one of the few background noises i can't sleep with at all. Oh, and our alarm clock goes off in less than three hours. What works for you to sleep fast with random sounds like that? Feel free to add similar requests here. ", "How do you fall asleep with difficult-to-ignore and stop noise? At a friend's place right now spending the night, as i imagine a lot of people will be real soon. There is a tick-tock clock on the wall of the room i'm in, and i can't disable it, as it is out of reach and my friend might not be able to sleep without it's noise. However, it is one of the few background noises i can't sleep with at all. Oh, and our alarm clock goes off in less than three hours. What works for you to sleep fast with random sounds like that? Feel free to add similar requests here. " ]

[ "Earbuds, your smart phone, and a 99-cent white noise / ambient relaxing background nice app.\n\nI use 'Ambiance' on iOS, but any one will do.", "Earplugs. The foam ones, like theinfamous said below. I think its the same foam they use to make those balls that you squeeze and they slowly return to their original shape. Other types of foam are not as comfortable. \n\nIf you live in a place where noise is often a problem, it is definitely worth getting used to wearing them (it does take some getting used to).", "What I do is pay close attention to the noise. I close my eyes and try to see if the tone is goin up or down, try and figure out what the parts of sound are (if it's loud music, try to isolate the base, or the drums, or the cymbals). " ]

[ 9, 3, 2 ]

[ "I have an idea, but I cannot get it out It happens in 2 ways, and quite often.\n\nNo.1: During group discussions, I have an idea which I think will add value to the group work, but I don't get to speak. It is flooded with ideas from whoever is the loudest. One idea gets attention, they elaborate on and on until times up. So my idea gets wash down the drain, and I don't even know if it was a good one or not because I didn't have the chance to speak.\n\nNo.2: In times when I get to speak, nobody understands me. I tried explaining, and used google to support my idea, the group tends to react: \"ok, thank you. We don't understand anything\".\n\nThis is in a university setting (business student), but it might very well translate to future work meetings.\n\nHow do I up my game? How do I speak up? Any books recommendations? Thank you guys in advance for the replies!", "I have an idea, but I cannot get it out It happens in 2 ways, and quite often.\n\nNo.1: During group discussions, I have an idea which I think will add value to the group work, but I don't get to speak. It is flooded with ideas from whoever is the loudest. One idea gets attention, they elaborate on and on until times up. So my idea gets wash down the drain, and I don't even know if it was a good one or not because I didn't have the chance to speak.\n\nNo.2: In times when I get to speak, nobody understands me. I tried explaining, and used google to support my idea, the group tends to react: \"ok, thank you. We don't understand anything\".\n\nThis is in a university setting (business student), but it might very well translate to future work meetings.\n\nHow do I up my game? How do I speak up? Any books recommendations? Thank you guys in advance for the replies!", "I have an idea, but I cannot get it out It happens in 2 ways, and quite often.\n\nNo.1: During group discussions, I have an idea which I think will add value to the group work, but I don't get to speak. It is flooded with ideas from whoever is the loudest. One idea gets attention, they elaborate on and on until times up. So my idea gets wash down the drain, and I don't even know if it was a good one or not because I didn't have the chance to speak.\n\nNo.2: In times when I get to speak, nobody understands me. I tried explaining, and used google to support my idea, the group tends to react: \"ok, thank you. We don't understand anything\".\n\nThis is in a university setting (business student), but it might very well translate to future work meetings.\n\nHow do I up my game? How do I speak up? Any books recommendations? Thank you guys in advance for the replies!", "I have an idea, but I cannot get it out It happens in 2 ways, and quite often.\n\nNo.1: During group discussions, I have an idea which I think will add value to the group work, but I don't get to speak. It is flooded with ideas from whoever is the loudest. One idea gets attention, they elaborate on and on until times up. So my idea gets wash down the drain, and I don't even know if it was a good one or not because I didn't have the chance to speak.\n\nNo.2: In times when I get to speak, nobody understands me. I tried explaining, and used google to support my idea, the group tends to react: \"ok, thank you. We don't understand anything\".\n\nThis is in a university setting (business student), but it might very well translate to future work meetings.\n\nHow do I up my game? How do I speak up? Any books recommendations? Thank you guys in advance for the replies!", "I have an idea, but I cannot get it out It happens in 2 ways, and quite often.\n\nNo.1: During group discussions, I have an idea which I think will add value to the group work, but I don't get to speak. It is flooded with ideas from whoever is the loudest. One idea gets attention, they elaborate on and on until times up. So my idea gets wash down the drain, and I don't even know if it was a good one or not because I didn't have the chance to speak.\n\nNo.2: In times when I get to speak, nobody understands me. I tried explaining, and used google to support my idea, the group tends to react: \"ok, thank you. We don't understand anything\".\n\nThis is in a university setting (business student), but it might very well translate to future work meetings.\n\nHow do I up my game? How do I speak up? Any books recommendations? Thank you guys in advance for the replies!", "I have an idea, but I cannot get it out It happens in 2 ways, and quite often.\n\nNo.1: During group discussions, I have an idea which I think will add value to the group work, but I don't get to speak. It is flooded with ideas from whoever is the loudest. One idea gets attention, they elaborate on and on until times up. So my idea gets wash down the drain, and I don't even know if it was a good one or not because I didn't have the chance to speak.\n\nNo.2: In times when I get to speak, nobody understands me. I tried explaining, and used google to support my idea, the group tends to react: \"ok, thank you. We don't understand anything\".\n\nThis is in a university setting (business student), but it might very well translate to future work meetings.\n\nHow do I up my game? How do I speak up? Any books recommendations? Thank you guys in advance for the replies!" ]

[ "Lift weights, practice a sport, get a nice haircut. Building confidence in whatever aspects you believe yourself to be lacking in your life. Sounds like you just don’t have the confidence to handle the nature of the setting. Will cause serious issues in that field later in your career. If you want a quick way to attack that issue head on, I can recommend finding a company in your area that does door-to-door sales. Its stressful at first but you will quickly learn how to deal with rejection, overcome objections, and assert yourself into conversations with people you don’t even know( added benefit that you will likely never see the people again so takes a bit of the edge off)", "Raise your hand. Humans are trained to respond. They will pause and look.\n\nThen phrase as a question \"have we tried/looked at it like this before\" this forces yes or no giving you back the floor to elaborate if no. If yes then they typically will state how and you can confirm that's what you meant.\n\nYou need to state things simple. Have we tried using gravity to lower items from the roof to the ground? No? I think a dumbwaiter pully system could work\"", "the quality control loop of Plan-Do-Check-Act or something like that.\n\nat home, record yourself making the pitch you made today. look at it the next day with a critical eye. pick one and only one thing to address. maybe you are saying 'aah', 'umm', 'you know', 'like' a lot. maybe you are staring at the floor. are you speaking too fast. if you were not aware of the what the person was saying, would you understand it.\n\nbe conscious of the thing you want to change and when speaking with people (one or one or in the group discussions), be conscious to make that one change.\n\nnow repeat again with a new video - maybe on a different idea.", "Understand your audience. If they don't understand your idea that's on you for presenting it in a way that they don't understand. Your idea needs to be presented in a simple concise way. If you're googling something while pitching your idea it shows you either don't have enough knowledge or preparation.", "Could you give an example of situation #2? It would be easier to give tips on other ways to explain things.", "I wonder if No 2 causes No 1. \n\nThey already anticipate that whatever you say will make no sense to them and they don’t want to waste their time. \n\nYou need to learn to sort your thoughts and to communicate clearly in a way that your audience understands." ]

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