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[ "Remove Laundry Scent While traveling, my SO's clothes got washed with a detergent he is allergic to. Is there anything I can do besides run them through the washer again with our soap?", "Remove Laundry Scent While traveling, my SO's clothes got washed with a detergent he is allergic to. Is there anything I can do besides run them through the washer again with our soap?" ]

[ "Try washing them with no soap but use white vinegar, about 2-3 cups depending on the load size. This also works if you forget clothes in the washer and they go sour.\n", "You’re basically removing chemical from fabric. Wash them again, or one can try a rinse cycle to see if it’s sufficient." ]

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[ "Getting the f*** up in the morning I'm sure I'm not alone in this, but I am a completely different human being in the morning. Needing to get to work on time among many other responsibilities is *barely* enough to get me motivated to get my head up. I have a serious mental condition to the point where I have justified being LATE for the past 3-4 weeks to work because I am just so effin terrible at convincing myself to get up.\n\nI've tried alarm clocks in different rooms. Doesn't work, I just handle the noise and go back to sleep.\n\nI've tried getting up to go to the bathroom. Still doesn't work, just go right back to the covers after I piss.\n\nI'm even so bad that I don't get up to walk my dog until an unreasonable hour sometimes.\n\nPlease, help me! It is a terrible problem that I feel unbelievable ashamed of but nothing like that matters when I am in the mental state of morningness. It's like there just isn't enough motivation to pull me away from my ultra-comfy super-dreamy head-space and I really want to find a way to be *excited* to get up in the morning.", "Getting the f*** up in the morning I'm sure I'm not alone in this, but I am a completely different human being in the morning. Needing to get to work on time among many other responsibilities is *barely* enough to get me motivated to get my head up. I have a serious mental condition to the point where I have justified being LATE for the past 3-4 weeks to work because I am just so effin terrible at convincing myself to get up.\n\nI've tried alarm clocks in different rooms. Doesn't work, I just handle the noise and go back to sleep.\n\nI've tried getting up to go to the bathroom. Still doesn't work, just go right back to the covers after I piss.\n\nI'm even so bad that I don't get up to walk my dog until an unreasonable hour sometimes.\n\nPlease, help me! It is a terrible problem that I feel unbelievable ashamed of but nothing like that matters when I am in the mental state of morningness. It's like there just isn't enough motivation to pull me away from my ultra-comfy super-dreamy head-space and I really want to find a way to be *excited* to get up in the morning.", "Getting the f*** up in the morning I'm sure I'm not alone in this, but I am a completely different human being in the morning. Needing to get to work on time among many other responsibilities is *barely* enough to get me motivated to get my head up. I have a serious mental condition to the point where I have justified being LATE for the past 3-4 weeks to work because I am just so effin terrible at convincing myself to get up.\n\nI've tried alarm clocks in different rooms. Doesn't work, I just handle the noise and go back to sleep.\n\nI've tried getting up to go to the bathroom. Still doesn't work, just go right back to the covers after I piss.\n\nI'm even so bad that I don't get up to walk my dog until an unreasonable hour sometimes.\n\nPlease, help me! It is a terrible problem that I feel unbelievable ashamed of but nothing like that matters when I am in the mental state of morningness. It's like there just isn't enough motivation to pull me away from my ultra-comfy super-dreamy head-space and I really want to find a way to be *excited* to get up in the morning.", "Getting the f*** up in the morning I'm sure I'm not alone in this, but I am a completely different human being in the morning. Needing to get to work on time among many other responsibilities is *barely* enough to get me motivated to get my head up. I have a serious mental condition to the point where I have justified being LATE for the past 3-4 weeks to work because I am just so effin terrible at convincing myself to get up.\n\nI've tried alarm clocks in different rooms. Doesn't work, I just handle the noise and go back to sleep.\n\nI've tried getting up to go to the bathroom. Still doesn't work, just go right back to the covers after I piss.\n\nI'm even so bad that I don't get up to walk my dog until an unreasonable hour sometimes.\n\nPlease, help me! It is a terrible problem that I feel unbelievable ashamed of but nothing like that matters when I am in the mental state of morningness. It's like there just isn't enough motivation to pull me away from my ultra-comfy super-dreamy head-space and I really want to find a way to be *excited* to get up in the morning.", "Getting the f*** up in the morning I'm sure I'm not alone in this, but I am a completely different human being in the morning. Needing to get to work on time among many other responsibilities is *barely* enough to get me motivated to get my head up. I have a serious mental condition to the point where I have justified being LATE for the past 3-4 weeks to work because I am just so effin terrible at convincing myself to get up.\n\nI've tried alarm clocks in different rooms. Doesn't work, I just handle the noise and go back to sleep.\n\nI've tried getting up to go to the bathroom. Still doesn't work, just go right back to the covers after I piss.\n\nI'm even so bad that I don't get up to walk my dog until an unreasonable hour sometimes.\n\nPlease, help me! It is a terrible problem that I feel unbelievable ashamed of but nothing like that matters when I am in the mental state of morningness. It's like there just isn't enough motivation to pull me away from my ultra-comfy super-dreamy head-space and I really want to find a way to be *excited* to get up in the morning.", "Getting the f*** up in the morning I'm sure I'm not alone in this, but I am a completely different human being in the morning. Needing to get to work on time among many other responsibilities is *barely* enough to get me motivated to get my head up. I have a serious mental condition to the point where I have justified being LATE for the past 3-4 weeks to work because I am just so effin terrible at convincing myself to get up.\n\nI've tried alarm clocks in different rooms. Doesn't work, I just handle the noise and go back to sleep.\n\nI've tried getting up to go to the bathroom. Still doesn't work, just go right back to the covers after I piss.\n\nI'm even so bad that I don't get up to walk my dog until an unreasonable hour sometimes.\n\nPlease, help me! It is a terrible problem that I feel unbelievable ashamed of but nothing like that matters when I am in the mental state of morningness. It's like there just isn't enough motivation to pull me away from my ultra-comfy super-dreamy head-space and I really want to find a way to be *excited* to get up in the morning.", "Getting the f*** up in the morning I'm sure I'm not alone in this, but I am a completely different human being in the morning. Needing to get to work on time among many other responsibilities is *barely* enough to get me motivated to get my head up. I have a serious mental condition to the point where I have justified being LATE for the past 3-4 weeks to work because I am just so effin terrible at convincing myself to get up.\n\nI've tried alarm clocks in different rooms. Doesn't work, I just handle the noise and go back to sleep.\n\nI've tried getting up to go to the bathroom. Still doesn't work, just go right back to the covers after I piss.\n\nI'm even so bad that I don't get up to walk my dog until an unreasonable hour sometimes.\n\nPlease, help me! It is a terrible problem that I feel unbelievable ashamed of but nothing like that matters when I am in the mental state of morningness. It's like there just isn't enough motivation to pull me away from my ultra-comfy super-dreamy head-space and I really want to find a way to be *excited* to get up in the morning.", "Getting the f*** up in the morning I'm sure I'm not alone in this, but I am a completely different human being in the morning. Needing to get to work on time among many other responsibilities is *barely* enough to get me motivated to get my head up. I have a serious mental condition to the point where I have justified being LATE for the past 3-4 weeks to work because I am just so effin terrible at convincing myself to get up.\n\nI've tried alarm clocks in different rooms. Doesn't work, I just handle the noise and go back to sleep.\n\nI've tried getting up to go to the bathroom. Still doesn't work, just go right back to the covers after I piss.\n\nI'm even so bad that I don't get up to walk my dog until an unreasonable hour sometimes.\n\nPlease, help me! It is a terrible problem that I feel unbelievable ashamed of but nothing like that matters when I am in the mental state of morningness. It's like there just isn't enough motivation to pull me away from my ultra-comfy super-dreamy head-space and I really want to find a way to be *excited* to get up in the morning." ]

[ "Just some random hints:\n\nMake coffee before you go to sleep and pour it in a thermos bottle, and keep it next to your bed with a cup. When your alarm goes off, sit on the side of your bed and drink your first coffee(s) of the day.\n\nOr an energy drink if you don't like coffee.\n\nThrow the window open and get deeeeeep breaths of fresh air, so that you get enough oxygen in your system. \n\nFrom the bathroom, go straight to the sink and wash your face with luke-coldish water. Rub your face firmly. Then stamp your feet, jump up and down, do a few squats. \n\n ", "Your morning starts the night before. What time are you going to bed at night? It should probably be an hour or two earlier.", "There is actually a medical term for what you describe as \"the mental state of morningness.\" If you get up to go to the bathroom THEN go back and get under the covers, that is known as laziness. Instead, try getting out of the bed and then staying out of the bed.\n\ntl;dr: Everyone has that. Don't get back in bed once you're out of bed. That is just poor decision making.", "It is not easy. I have had some success telling myself \"You can do your sleeping in the shower.\" I doze in the shower, but I eventually wake up, especially if I run out of hot water.", "[This link](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/2tun4j/lpt_request_how_do_i_get_myself_up_after_my_alarm/) seems similar. Some of the comments there may help. Also apparently [/r/GetOutOfBed](http://www.reddit.com/r/GetOutOfBed) is a thing.", "Please disregard the jackass telling you you're lazy. \nIf this is a serious issue, which it sounds like it might be, I'd advise talking to your doctor. Clinical depression often presents with extreme lack of motivation and lethargy. It can be quite insidious and often overlooked. A simple check with your doctor will quickly sort this out and if this is the case antidepressants have a lot of potential benefit. If it is a tiredness issue then other medical disorders are possible too such as obstructive sleep apnoea or even your standard iron deficiency anaemia. \nBest to get a medical opinion. You'd be annoyed if for ages you just thought you sucked at getting up, but in reality it could have been fixed with a simple tablet. ", "I used to have this problem. There's no miracle cure and you won't get up unless you just do it. Get more sleep at night and maybe getting dressed literally the first thing you do. Other than that you just have to make yourself do it. That's all there is to it", "I have had trouble getting up in the morning for years. I was late starting in Jr. High, continuing through High School, College, and into the job market. I have lost jobs because I could not be on time in the morning. When in college I was diagnosed as depressed and started on antidepressants. That was in the late 90's, 98-99 time period. That may not seem to relate but it does. I've bounced around to different medications as new ones come out and old ones just aren't accomplishing what I think they should. Recently (within the last year) I started on a new medication and what a change. I am now able to get up and out of bed when my alarm goes off! Reading what you posted and understanding that I was in the same place you can understand why this is so life-changing.\n\nI used to joke that if you told me that I had to be somewhere every morning at 8 am or I would be shot, you might as well just shoot me now. It only seemed a joke. Now I'm pretty sure I'd live a long time. Probably shot in the long run, but I'd be alive for a while :)" ]

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[ "Job interviews Do any of you have any elite level tips for job interviews? I already know all the obvious things such as eye contact, smiling, firm handshake, etc. I'm also aware of all the advanced stuff - hitting key points, showing emotion in the right way, being charismatic, asking questions, demonstrating the skills IN the interview, etc.\n\nI'm looking for the information that 1% of people know. Just a few little tips and tricks or little things I can say to give me the edge over other candidates in a memorable way and change the way an employer might think about my value. There must be some out there. Also, if any readers have interviewed people, what makes the best candidates lose to the 'very very best'?\n\nThank you in advance for any replies!\n\n\n", "Job interviews Do any of you have any elite level tips for job interviews? I already know all the obvious things such as eye contact, smiling, firm handshake, etc. I'm also aware of all the advanced stuff - hitting key points, showing emotion in the right way, being charismatic, asking questions, demonstrating the skills IN the interview, etc.\n\nI'm looking for the information that 1% of people know. Just a few little tips and tricks or little things I can say to give me the edge over other candidates in a memorable way and change the way an employer might think about my value. There must be some out there. Also, if any readers have interviewed people, what makes the best candidates lose to the 'very very best'?\n\nThank you in advance for any replies!\n\n\n", "Job interviews Do any of you have any elite level tips for job interviews? I already know all the obvious things such as eye contact, smiling, firm handshake, etc. I'm also aware of all the advanced stuff - hitting key points, showing emotion in the right way, being charismatic, asking questions, demonstrating the skills IN the interview, etc.\n\nI'm looking for the information that 1% of people know. Just a few little tips and tricks or little things I can say to give me the edge over other candidates in a memorable way and change the way an employer might think about my value. There must be some out there. Also, if any readers have interviewed people, what makes the best candidates lose to the 'very very best'?\n\nThank you in advance for any replies!\n\n\n", "Job interviews Do any of you have any elite level tips for job interviews? I already know all the obvious things such as eye contact, smiling, firm handshake, etc. I'm also aware of all the advanced stuff - hitting key points, showing emotion in the right way, being charismatic, asking questions, demonstrating the skills IN the interview, etc.\n\nI'm looking for the information that 1% of people know. Just a few little tips and tricks or little things I can say to give me the edge over other candidates in a memorable way and change the way an employer might think about my value. There must be some out there. Also, if any readers have interviewed people, what makes the best candidates lose to the 'very very best'?\n\nThank you in advance for any replies!\n\n\n", "Job interviews Do any of you have any elite level tips for job interviews? I already know all the obvious things such as eye contact, smiling, firm handshake, etc. I'm also aware of all the advanced stuff - hitting key points, showing emotion in the right way, being charismatic, asking questions, demonstrating the skills IN the interview, etc.\n\nI'm looking for the information that 1% of people know. Just a few little tips and tricks or little things I can say to give me the edge over other candidates in a memorable way and change the way an employer might think about my value. There must be some out there. Also, if any readers have interviewed people, what makes the best candidates lose to the 'very very best'?\n\nThank you in advance for any replies!\n\n\n", "Job interviews Do any of you have any elite level tips for job interviews? I already know all the obvious things such as eye contact, smiling, firm handshake, etc. I'm also aware of all the advanced stuff - hitting key points, showing emotion in the right way, being charismatic, asking questions, demonstrating the skills IN the interview, etc.\n\nI'm looking for the information that 1% of people know. Just a few little tips and tricks or little things I can say to give me the edge over other candidates in a memorable way and change the way an employer might think about my value. There must be some out there. Also, if any readers have interviewed people, what makes the best candidates lose to the 'very very best'?\n\nThank you in advance for any replies!\n\n\n", "Job interviews Do any of you have any elite level tips for job interviews? I already know all the obvious things such as eye contact, smiling, firm handshake, etc. I'm also aware of all the advanced stuff - hitting key points, showing emotion in the right way, being charismatic, asking questions, demonstrating the skills IN the interview, etc.\n\nI'm looking for the information that 1% of people know. Just a few little tips and tricks or little things I can say to give me the edge over other candidates in a memorable way and change the way an employer might think about my value. There must be some out there. Also, if any readers have interviewed people, what makes the best candidates lose to the 'very very best'?\n\nThank you in advance for any replies!\n\n\n" ]

[ "One of my most successful hints is going in thinking you are not getting the job. Do your homework and all, but go in thinking it's just a practice interview. Doing so allows you to be calm and this really shines in an interview. I once got a job over a candidate with a master degree just because my interview went more smoothly. I attribute this solely to my not give a fuck attitude. Don't get me wrong, you aren't going for ignorance or arrogance using this approach. It's just a calm demeanor that comes from calming yourself down; whatever gets ya there.", "I'm a headhunter:\n\nClose: find out next steps and make sure you find out definitively how you did. If it's with one person and they tell you they need to talk to the higher ups they're full of shit. Especially if it's the hiring manager\n\nDon't talk about money especially on first conversations \"I appreciate you asking but I'm sure if I'm qualified you'll make me a fair and competitive offer. If they press you just state where you currently are on salary. Stating acceptable rates can lead to bad miscommunications. Tread lightly\n\nNever answer just using yes or no: expand\n\nOpen by asking them to tell you more about the position of possible . It eliminates the awkward transition and shows your outgoingness\n\nIf they say something that turns you off early on don't make a big deal of it. Often times people sleep on these things and decide they aren't a deal breaker .\n\nAsk if they mind if you take notes during. ALWAYS TAKE NOTES. Had a shoe in candidate get turned down because she didn't and they said \"didn't she think we had anything important to say?\"\n\nBring extra copies of resume, you never know if the CEO might walk last and decide to jump in! I've had it happen\n\nNo opened toed shoes if you're a female. Had a woman get kicked out after 15 minutes on a. Third interview\n\nHope some of this helps. I recruit real estate executives for positions $100k salary and up. I take them through this same prep. Might be a few more I can't think of from the couch. More questions message me I'll send you the type up of this\n\n", "Someone once told me, and it really helped with confidence, to think like you're seeing if the job is worth your time. I tried it and felt a lot better in interviews", "Most of what you communicate is nonverbal. Some say it's a 70-30 split. Identify the top three qualities you'd like to exhibit - i.e. confidence, adaptability, agility, etc. - whatever you think plays to your strengths and addresses the company's challenges. From there, plan ahead on how you can use body language to best portray those qualities. And don't be a robot about it (duh). ", "I just got employed today, so I've been thinking about what I did in the interview that made me stand out. \n\nThe main thing that came to mind is being comfortable. Remember that you're not talking *to* a company, you're having a conversation *with* a person. If you're relaxed, and speaking with them like you would while having a discussion with a friend, you'll likely have better chemistry with the interviewer. If the interviewer in turn finds you to be pleasant company as well, then you'll probably be a lot more memorable to them, and a worthwhile candidate. \n\nSecond thing is nothing unusual, but still always very relevant, especially in regards to memorability. \nTwo weeks after the interview, I called them back and asked about my status in the process, to which I was answered that I was still under review. The answer doesn't matter though, because the fact that I called them again meant that I was fresh in their memory. Three days later I got the job.\n\nYou have to keep in mind that they might not even have time to go through everyone they interviewed, and if your name happens to be at the bottom of that list, you need to move it to the top. You should still give them some time though, and respect the system they have in place, so I feel like two weeks is adequate. \nBest of luck to you!", "Have your strength and weaknesses answer prepared in accordance to the job you're applying to. Or just in general. When I interview people this is almost always the deal breaker question. \n \nMake your weakness answer be what another person would call a strength, or offer an explanation on what you're doing on the daily to make this weakness a positive attribute in your life. \n\nFor example, if applying for a customer service job, you can say you're great at assuming other points of views and understanding others. \nThen have your weakness be something like, I find to be too detail oriented at times, but at this point I'm pretty self aware about how to pull away from over analysis and not spending extra time on basic details. \n\nBeing self aware is of outmost importance. \n", "Do something that makes you stand out from the crowd... Something you're sure no other candidates have the balls to do. Make a joke. Tell a story. Go into detail with each question, backing it up with personal experience. Pick a bunch of good stories from your past employment and work them into the answers. Example: A customer came in one time frantic because she forgot to buy her neice a Christmas present on the 25th, 2 mins before your shift was up, so you stayed 15 mins later to pick out the perfect gift, only for her to remember she had something at home. Work this into a question about commitment, going above and beyond, why you'd be a good fit for the role, etc. Personal stories make you relatable and rememberable. " ]

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[ "I found keys in the door of a parked car and am worried it will be stolen. This is in a apartment complex at night. The keys are sitting in the door next to a major walkway for the area and are very obvious. It looks like there are keys to that car, another car, a recently purchased from a dealership tag, and a coach symbol key chain.\nIt also looks like there is a lot of personal stuff in the car. \n\nI saw a LPT for finding keys on the sidewalk that had no real solutions, but maybe having the car there will help figure out what to do. \n\n", "I found keys in the door of a parked car and am worried it will be stolen. This is in a apartment complex at night. The keys are sitting in the door next to a major walkway for the area and are very obvious. It looks like there are keys to that car, another car, a recently purchased from a dealership tag, and a coach symbol key chain.\nIt also looks like there is a lot of personal stuff in the car. \n\nI saw a LPT for finding keys on the sidewalk that had no real solutions, but maybe having the car there will help figure out what to do. \n\n", "I found keys in the door of a parked car and am worried it will be stolen. This is in a apartment complex at night. The keys are sitting in the door next to a major walkway for the area and are very obvious. It looks like there are keys to that car, another car, a recently purchased from a dealership tag, and a coach symbol key chain.\nIt also looks like there is a lot of personal stuff in the car. \n\nI saw a LPT for finding keys on the sidewalk that had no real solutions, but maybe having the car there will help figure out what to do. \n\n" ]

[ "Leave a note for them to call you if you're just going to be upstairs. \n\nOtherwise unlock the car and put it on the floor in front of the seat and then lock it. ", "Open door, put note on driver's seat flipped over that says: \"These keys were sitting in your doorlock, I put them under your floormat. Please be careful....I thought a $50 locksmith is cheaper than your $1000+ car\", then lock the doors", "put the keys on the seat of the car and lock it in if you can. having to pay for a locksmith is cheaper then having to pay for/deal with a stolen car." ]

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[ "How to stop music/videos that suddenly start playing on a website in Google Chrome (after you click on the tab with music icon what should you do) (like hotkeys or something)", "How to stop music/videos that suddenly start playing on a website in Google Chrome (after you click on the tab with music icon what should you do) (like hotkeys or something)" ]

[ "You can paste this into your adress bar to go to the hidden option.\nchrome://flags/#enable-tab-audio-muting\nYou can now click the audio icon on the tab to mute it.", "Click the mute button on your keyboard, I suppose? There's no hotkey to exclusively close tabs that produce sounds, as far as I know." ]

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[ "How do I know when it's time to transfer colleges? I'm a freshman in my first semester at a small private school just outside of New York City. I'm from Missouri and chose this school because I wanted to get out of Missouri, and I dream of living in NYC. I'm starting to regret coming to this school however, because the campus life is horrible. \n\nI understand that college is mainly about the education, and that's the only thing this school does good, but I honestly think I'd be better off at a larger school with more people. I could write a book about all the bullshit things about living here, from the horrible dining halls to the even worse dorms, but that will only make me even more mad. \n\nI guess what I'm asking is should I just stick it out in the name of a good education and good connections in the city, or should I transfer to a larger school where I can find more people who I really like and relate to. There are so few people here that it feels like a high school, and there aren't a lot of 'my' people here. ", "How do I know when it's time to transfer colleges? I'm a freshman in my first semester at a small private school just outside of New York City. I'm from Missouri and chose this school because I wanted to get out of Missouri, and I dream of living in NYC. I'm starting to regret coming to this school however, because the campus life is horrible. \n\nI understand that college is mainly about the education, and that's the only thing this school does good, but I honestly think I'd be better off at a larger school with more people. I could write a book about all the bullshit things about living here, from the horrible dining halls to the even worse dorms, but that will only make me even more mad. \n\nI guess what I'm asking is should I just stick it out in the name of a good education and good connections in the city, or should I transfer to a larger school where I can find more people who I really like and relate to. There are so few people here that it feels like a high school, and there aren't a lot of 'my' people here. ", "How do I know when it's time to transfer colleges? I'm a freshman in my first semester at a small private school just outside of New York City. I'm from Missouri and chose this school because I wanted to get out of Missouri, and I dream of living in NYC. I'm starting to regret coming to this school however, because the campus life is horrible. \n\nI understand that college is mainly about the education, and that's the only thing this school does good, but I honestly think I'd be better off at a larger school with more people. I could write a book about all the bullshit things about living here, from the horrible dining halls to the even worse dorms, but that will only make me even more mad. \n\nI guess what I'm asking is should I just stick it out in the name of a good education and good connections in the city, or should I transfer to a larger school where I can find more people who I really like and relate to. There are so few people here that it feels like a high school, and there aren't a lot of 'my' people here. ", "How do I know when it's time to transfer colleges? I'm a freshman in my first semester at a small private school just outside of New York City. I'm from Missouri and chose this school because I wanted to get out of Missouri, and I dream of living in NYC. I'm starting to regret coming to this school however, because the campus life is horrible. \n\nI understand that college is mainly about the education, and that's the only thing this school does good, but I honestly think I'd be better off at a larger school with more people. I could write a book about all the bullshit things about living here, from the horrible dining halls to the even worse dorms, but that will only make me even more mad. \n\nI guess what I'm asking is should I just stick it out in the name of a good education and good connections in the city, or should I transfer to a larger school where I can find more people who I really like and relate to. There are so few people here that it feels like a high school, and there aren't a lot of 'my' people here. ", "How do I know when it's time to transfer colleges? I'm a freshman in my first semester at a small private school just outside of New York City. I'm from Missouri and chose this school because I wanted to get out of Missouri, and I dream of living in NYC. I'm starting to regret coming to this school however, because the campus life is horrible. \n\nI understand that college is mainly about the education, and that's the only thing this school does good, but I honestly think I'd be better off at a larger school with more people. I could write a book about all the bullshit things about living here, from the horrible dining halls to the even worse dorms, but that will only make me even more mad. \n\nI guess what I'm asking is should I just stick it out in the name of a good education and good connections in the city, or should I transfer to a larger school where I can find more people who I really like and relate to. There are so few people here that it feels like a high school, and there aren't a lot of 'my' people here. " ]

[ "I transferred from Baylor to Oklahoma State and it was the best decision I've made in my adult life. It really comes to happiness and all that comes with it. If you don't have the living situation/social life you desire and you have tried EVERYTHING to jump start it, it's time to move colleges. Also, the cost of the present college to the transfer college can improve happiness if the cost is less. Baylor was 2x as expensive in-state than OSU out of state for me, and that took a bunch of pressure off me to perform to a T. Just make sure the education at the institution is what you are looking for and ensure that the city the university is located in has the night life and environment that you desire.", "I have been at three colleges now (one university and two California community colleges) and plan on transferring back to a real university next semester. Personally, since you are still young, I would stick it out for the rest of the year before transferring. It has only been a few months this semester and a lot of people have bad first semesters (both my brother and I have had the same issue as well as countless others). Talk to your friends, talk to your family, and do some research on colleges that fit your niche while you're still attending your current school. The worst thing you can do is to make an impulsive decision to transfer and then hate the school (happened to me). Also, talk to your current counselor. They may work for your current school but their job is to help you, not screw you over, so they might help you make the right decision. But in the mean time, I would personally try and wait out the year, focus on your grades and try and have some fun in New York. \n\n", "If you're paying a buttload of money and you're unhappy transfer. I went to 3 different universities and a couple of different summer sessions at different schools. I thought it was the best way to experience different places. I was doing a liberal arts degree, might be different if you are going for something else.", "I would transfer. If you aren't happy you aren't going to be getting the most out of your education. Also, there are plenty of large schools that offer good educations. A lot of times the education in college is what you make of it.", "Damn I'm from New York and I wanna get out and see *other* places for college.\n\nThe grass is always greener" ]

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[ "How to Avoid Feeling for Others? Title says it all. I find that I get too attached to people and always end up getting burnt in the long run. How to avoid these connections?", "How to Avoid Feeling for Others? Title says it all. I find that I get too attached to people and always end up getting burnt in the long run. How to avoid these connections?", "How to Avoid Feeling for Others? Title says it all. I find that I get too attached to people and always end up getting burnt in the long run. How to avoid these connections?", "How to Avoid Feeling for Others? Title says it all. I find that I get too attached to people and always end up getting burnt in the long run. How to avoid these connections?", "How to Avoid Feeling for Others? Title says it all. I find that I get too attached to people and always end up getting burnt in the long run. How to avoid these connections?", "How to Avoid Feeling for Others? Title says it all. I find that I get too attached to people and always end up getting burnt in the long run. How to avoid these connections?", "How to Avoid Feeling for Others? Title says it all. I find that I get too attached to people and always end up getting burnt in the long run. How to avoid these connections?" ]

[ "If you get burned enough eventually you start to harden. I use to be a nice guy, now I'm a cynical asshole. So there's hope for you just keep getting walked on and you'll snap one day. ", "Worry about yourself and getting yourself so financially stable that even if you are being too nice it didn't matter cuz you're rich as fuck! ", "It's just something that comes with being burnt enough times. I myself have learned it recently since my best friend of 7 years tried to kill me because I liked different things than he did (that's a story for a different day). Since then, my girlfriend has said that I'm not as courteous towards strangers as I used to be. I wonder why? Seriously though, you'll learn who your real friends are and who isn't. If someone doesn't make you feel like you're wanted, push them out of your life. If they don't respond to messages for a couple of weeks, push them out of your life. I've learned that you can't waste your time on people who don't make you feel like a friend. That's just my $0.02. Good luck.", "Try to feel compassion for people. Most of your personality is due to factors outside your control, like genetics and the circumstances of your childhood. I know it doesn't *feel* that way - we *feel* like the captain of the ship - but the more you closely you examine yourself, the more you'll find this is true. And it's true of everyone else, too. \n\nExample: let's say you were raised by parents who taught you that lying is bad, and you grow up valuing honesty. Well, not everyone was raised that way. Some people were raised in families where everyone lied to everyone else, so it's no surprise that they would have a different perspective on the whole idea of truth and honesty than you. When that person lies to you, you become angry; they've broken the rules! But really, their rules (the ones they were raised with) are just *different* than yours. That doesn't mean you should let it happen, or be ok with it, but being aware of this can help keep you from being angry about it. It's just a fact of life; everyone is different.\n\nAnd eventually, you just minimize the number of situations where you *can* be hurt. I have a friend who is NEVER on time. So, rather than sitting around waiting for him and getting angry, I just don't make plans with just him. I'll invite him to things, but I never let myself end up waiting on him. Similarly, I don't tell people things that I wouldn't want told to others, so I never set myself up for betrayal. You get the idea.\n\ntl;dr: Everyone has different values, and everyone's values are different than yours. That doesn't necessarily make them bad people. In fact, your personality is mostly outside of your control anyways. Just accept it as a fact of life, and adjust your life accordingly.", "OP, you have a gift. Empathy, that strong feeling for others is actually extremely important. Yes, people will take advantage of you, but that is simply because they don't have the same kindness in there heart that you do in yours. That's on them, not you. Do not, under any circumstances, give up that ability to understand and feel for the plight of others. Someday, you will meet someone who deserves to be treated fairly, and you will want to know what to do.", "I want to give you advice yet at the same time I feel as though it may not be wise. Have you ever thought about just being careful with who it is you open up your feelings for? I faced this challenge a lot, but at one point I realised something...how many of the hundreds of people I had in my life did I actually need, could I actually say cared for me? That would be there for me? My number shot down to...3, that's right, 3. Any people that prove otherwise from the original 3 picked out, they will pop back into your life and you'll see it so don't worry about that (they force their way in and it's pretty awesome and touching to see :') ). It hurts to let go of people but sometimes you have to do it for your own safety and well-being. If you really want to understand who you can turn to for some sort of comfort or to open feelings for, I suggest you try something I do. Anyone I ever meet and talk to, I am never the first to start the conversation, nor am I the one that tries to keep the conversation going. If these people really care for you they will always return, whether it's been a day, week or even months. Hell maybe years. The ones that actually care for you, it'll be pretty obvious, the fact they care about you will be obvious. Surround yourself with these people, however little the number may be. I'd rather 1 true friend than 100 backstabbers, right? When you can grasp this the rest becomes easy, it will come to you like a charm. You'll be used to being nice to people, but at the same time know how to maintain a good distance. Take your time with things and people. Others have mentioned the point of getting burnt enough to the point you harden. But that isn't always a good thing, and I guess some of us were just made to not be that 'hard' sort of person. It's okay to be nice, don't ever take your feelings for a weakness, it isn't. As long as you learn how to deal with it properly and use it properly, I promise you things will always be better. Distance yourself from people, but not too much to isolate yourself and...well become crazy lol. The right people will slowly enough pull you in to them :) Good luck broski!", "Always remember you're number one responsibility is to yourself first. I don't mean being selfish just that you cannot compromise you're own sanity by helping others. Think of the safety instructions in airlines, they always say put your own mask on before helping others, this way you are more capable of helping those in need because you yourself have the oxygen required to do so. In life, your own self value and sanity is your oxygen that you can use to help others, but if those people are trying to snatch your oxygen mask then stop helping them and make sure your mask is on properly before doing anything else. \n\nHaving gone through a heavy relationship with a mentally unstable alcoholic this was my biggest takeaway.\n\nI sorry for a pretty convoluted/confusing analogy." ]

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[ "Getting rid of dog fur on clothes in the wash. What can I do to get rid of (or cut down on the amount of) dog fur while washing and drying my clothes. I have 3 light colored dogs that shed alot, even with brushing. I should already own stock in 3m lint rollers, and unfortunately... most of my clothing consists of dark colors.\n\nI've tried using hot water for the wash, and running the clothes on an extra fluff cycle, but the fur stays on. Any tips would be appreciated.", "Getting rid of dog fur on clothes in the wash. What can I do to get rid of (or cut down on the amount of) dog fur while washing and drying my clothes. I have 3 light colored dogs that shed alot, even with brushing. I should already own stock in 3m lint rollers, and unfortunately... most of my clothing consists of dark colors.\n\nI've tried using hot water for the wash, and running the clothes on an extra fluff cycle, but the fur stays on. Any tips would be appreciated." ]

[ "Get a Magic Lint Brush Pet Hair Remover (yes, that is its name.) Costs about $5 and is really good at removing the fur from everything. Way cheaper than 3M rollers, because you rarely have to replace it.\n\nAlso, fabric softener or dryer sheets, and extra rinse cycles.\n\nSource: I have many dogs, including a white one, and wear a lot of black and have a black couch. \n\n", "Temperature of the wash has no bearing on the situation. The fewest garments. at the highest water level, the most optional number of rinses is the only solution. Any pre-removal of the hair prior to washing helps substantially. " ]

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[ "how not to sound harsh online I’ve received a few remarks from my higher management that i’m very harsh when sending emails, texts and other written form of communication. Apparently it looks like i’m always angry..\n\ni’ve tried mixing up and add smilies .. but that makes it unproffesional. So: anyone have some pro tips for me?", "how not to sound harsh online I’ve received a few remarks from my higher management that i’m very harsh when sending emails, texts and other written form of communication. Apparently it looks like i’m always angry..\n\ni’ve tried mixing up and add smilies .. but that makes it unproffesional. So: anyone have some pro tips for me?", "how not to sound harsh online I’ve received a few remarks from my higher management that i’m very harsh when sending emails, texts and other written form of communication. Apparently it looks like i’m always angry..\n\ni’ve tried mixing up and add smilies .. but that makes it unproffesional. So: anyone have some pro tips for me?", "how not to sound harsh online I’ve received a few remarks from my higher management that i’m very harsh when sending emails, texts and other written form of communication. Apparently it looks like i’m always angry..\n\ni’ve tried mixing up and add smilies .. but that makes it unproffesional. So: anyone have some pro tips for me?" ]

[ "I always acknowledge the other person’s efforts and thank them. \nFor example, I sent one recently where I said “Hey so-and-so, I know you’re super busy this time of the year making sure everything goes smoothly for all our teams, sorry to add another task to your plate! But we are looking to get this thing done. Thank you for all your help!”\n", "Without a sample of your writing it is difficult to critique. However, your wordage may be an easy way to lighten your tone. Find a thesaurus and use it sparingly. And remember “please and thank you”. ", "It's quite possible you're just saying the things like they are instead of making it cost enough for someone to not get butthurt.\nJust sugar coat what you say and you can even be sarcastic with not too many hints.", "It is sometimes difficult to get the tone right when putting stuff into print, it's often much easier to say things over the phone because you can set the tone of voice and also get an instant conversation going. Try doing the same within your emails etc.\n\nIf you're replying to somebody then thank them for their email and reply to the points you need to. Imagine reading the email out loud, or speaking over the phone, to that person.\n\nNot many people are impressed with smilies in business conversations, so dump those straight away." ]

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[ "removing lint from a load of laundry I had a fuzzy blanket in with a load of laundry that went through the washer and dryer. Now everything is covered in fuzz. I used a lint roller on some items, but does anyone know of a faster/easier way to get rid of all the fuzz?", "removing lint from a load of laundry I had a fuzzy blanket in with a load of laundry that went through the washer and dryer. Now everything is covered in fuzz. I used a lint roller on some items, but does anyone know of a faster/easier way to get rid of all the fuzz?", "removing lint from a load of laundry I had a fuzzy blanket in with a load of laundry that went through the washer and dryer. Now everything is covered in fuzz. I used a lint roller on some items, but does anyone know of a faster/easier way to get rid of all the fuzz?" ]

[ "Faster? Easier? No.\n\nLess frustrating? Yes. Put on the clothes and have someone other than yourself give you a brush down with a lint brush (usually red and velvety in feeling). In my experience it works a bunch better than a sticky-tape lint roller and gravity (due to you wearing the clothes) helps a bunch, too. Plus, the lint brush is infinitely reusable.\n\nAside: Depending on the situation, though, I'd most likely wear the linty clothes and go about my day, having already created a \"how many people are going to mention the lint\" pool with my roommates. Price is Right rules. Someone's going to be winning money, and the data gathering aspect of the whole thing makes the mentions not as embarrassing or awkward as they would otherwise be. Plus, I'd ask the people who mention that I am linty what their advice would be to remove the lint.", "[Lint Shaver!](http://www.amazon.com/Sunbeam-S15-Lint-Shaver-Medium/dp/B00475A4KK)\n\nIt'll also get rid of the little balls of cotton that end up on the toes of your socks.", "Yes, wrap packing tape sticky side out around your hand then roll your palm back and forth over the fuzzy area. Shortens delinting time drastically. I can do a pair of slacks in under two min." ]

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[ "How to gauge time, as in be able to know when it's been a minute, etc. Trying to time myself talking and waiting so I can have a better sense of time with how long 60 seconds but I am having trouble.", "How to gauge time, as in be able to know when it's been a minute, etc. Trying to time myself talking and waiting so I can have a better sense of time with how long 60 seconds but I am having trouble." ]

[ "Search up a metronome and set it to 60bpm (1 beat per second). Continue tapping your foot to this beat for 5 minutes or until you get the beat down. Then, to gauge a minute, tap your foot 60 times.", "I don't understand. If you are timing yourself, why do you have to gauge how long a minute is? If you're counting your respirations, you aren't concentrating on what you are saying. \n\nHere's the thing, think about your electric toothbrush that gives you 2 minutes to brush your teeth. Sometimes it feels like *forever!* I know I hit every surface of every tooth, surely it's been 2 minutes, but nope, it just keeps running. Same for making something \"quickly\" in the microwave, it's a long time. Compare that to forgetting to set your alarm clock and you have to leave in 15 minutes or you'll be really late. The time just flies by.\n\nSo, do you want to talk for a few minutes, or are you being asked to do a presentation and talk for a few minutes. If you dread every moment in front of the group, time will go very slowly. If you are excited and want to make sure you don't monopolize the conversation, you should probably take lots of breaks. \n\nSorry, none of this may even make sense, let alone be helpful. " ]

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[ "What can we change to organize our life? Hi.\n \nThe problem we have (me, my wife and a 1 year old baby) is organizing our life.\nLet me give more details of our current life.\nI fell like I don't have time for nothing. We both work full time jobs, 8 - 5 and 9 to 6. We live in Miami, the commute is crazy here.\nMy wife leave home around 7 AM and get back 6 PM.\nI leave around 7:30 and get back at 7:30 PM\nI try to go to the gym at 5:30 AM\nMy wife takes care of the baby, who goes to bed at 9 - 9:30 PM\nI takes care of the cooking.\nMost of the time, we eat after baby is sleeping, close to 10 PM.\nWe finish thing in the kitchen, my wife wash some dishes and baby bottle and we watch some television and go to sleep. Usually close to 12PM.\nOn weekend, we have to clean the house, prepare baby food for the week, shopping groceries, do laundry.\nCooking is what is more time consuming and stressful.\n\nI need your help organizing our life.\nI want to have the weekend to go out, enjoy free time with the family, read a book, We feel tired.\n\nHow do you organize your time? Do you do house stuff on the week to have free time on weekend? Do you cook daily?\nI want to add we are a latin family, we are not used to eat sandwiches and salad very often.\nThank you\n", "What can we change to organize our life? Hi.\n \nThe problem we have (me, my wife and a 1 year old baby) is organizing our life.\nLet me give more details of our current life.\nI fell like I don't have time for nothing. We both work full time jobs, 8 - 5 and 9 to 6. We live in Miami, the commute is crazy here.\nMy wife leave home around 7 AM and get back 6 PM.\nI leave around 7:30 and get back at 7:30 PM\nI try to go to the gym at 5:30 AM\nMy wife takes care of the baby, who goes to bed at 9 - 9:30 PM\nI takes care of the cooking.\nMost of the time, we eat after baby is sleeping, close to 10 PM.\nWe finish thing in the kitchen, my wife wash some dishes and baby bottle and we watch some television and go to sleep. Usually close to 12PM.\nOn weekend, we have to clean the house, prepare baby food for the week, shopping groceries, do laundry.\nCooking is what is more time consuming and stressful.\n\nI need your help organizing our life.\nI want to have the weekend to go out, enjoy free time with the family, read a book, We feel tired.\n\nHow do you organize your time? Do you do house stuff on the week to have free time on weekend? Do you cook daily?\nI want to add we are a latin family, we are not used to eat sandwiches and salad very often.\nThank you\n", "What can we change to organize our life? Hi.\n \nThe problem we have (me, my wife and a 1 year old baby) is organizing our life.\nLet me give more details of our current life.\nI fell like I don't have time for nothing. We both work full time jobs, 8 - 5 and 9 to 6. We live in Miami, the commute is crazy here.\nMy wife leave home around 7 AM and get back 6 PM.\nI leave around 7:30 and get back at 7:30 PM\nI try to go to the gym at 5:30 AM\nMy wife takes care of the baby, who goes to bed at 9 - 9:30 PM\nI takes care of the cooking.\nMost of the time, we eat after baby is sleeping, close to 10 PM.\nWe finish thing in the kitchen, my wife wash some dishes and baby bottle and we watch some television and go to sleep. Usually close to 12PM.\nOn weekend, we have to clean the house, prepare baby food for the week, shopping groceries, do laundry.\nCooking is what is more time consuming and stressful.\n\nI need your help organizing our life.\nI want to have the weekend to go out, enjoy free time with the family, read a book, We feel tired.\n\nHow do you organize your time? Do you do house stuff on the week to have free time on weekend? Do you cook daily?\nI want to add we are a latin family, we are not used to eat sandwiches and salad very often.\nThank you\n", "What can we change to organize our life? Hi.\n \nThe problem we have (me, my wife and a 1 year old baby) is organizing our life.\nLet me give more details of our current life.\nI fell like I don't have time for nothing. We both work full time jobs, 8 - 5 and 9 to 6. We live in Miami, the commute is crazy here.\nMy wife leave home around 7 AM and get back 6 PM.\nI leave around 7:30 and get back at 7:30 PM\nI try to go to the gym at 5:30 AM\nMy wife takes care of the baby, who goes to bed at 9 - 9:30 PM\nI takes care of the cooking.\nMost of the time, we eat after baby is sleeping, close to 10 PM.\nWe finish thing in the kitchen, my wife wash some dishes and baby bottle and we watch some television and go to sleep. Usually close to 12PM.\nOn weekend, we have to clean the house, prepare baby food for the week, shopping groceries, do laundry.\nCooking is what is more time consuming and stressful.\n\nI need your help organizing our life.\nI want to have the weekend to go out, enjoy free time with the family, read a book, We feel tired.\n\nHow do you organize your time? Do you do house stuff on the week to have free time on weekend? Do you cook daily?\nI want to add we are a latin family, we are not used to eat sandwiches and salad very often.\nThank you\n", "What can we change to organize our life? Hi.\n \nThe problem we have (me, my wife and a 1 year old baby) is organizing our life.\nLet me give more details of our current life.\nI fell like I don't have time for nothing. We both work full time jobs, 8 - 5 and 9 to 6. We live in Miami, the commute is crazy here.\nMy wife leave home around 7 AM and get back 6 PM.\nI leave around 7:30 and get back at 7:30 PM\nI try to go to the gym at 5:30 AM\nMy wife takes care of the baby, who goes to bed at 9 - 9:30 PM\nI takes care of the cooking.\nMost of the time, we eat after baby is sleeping, close to 10 PM.\nWe finish thing in the kitchen, my wife wash some dishes and baby bottle and we watch some television and go to sleep. Usually close to 12PM.\nOn weekend, we have to clean the house, prepare baby food for the week, shopping groceries, do laundry.\nCooking is what is more time consuming and stressful.\n\nI need your help organizing our life.\nI want to have the weekend to go out, enjoy free time with the family, read a book, We feel tired.\n\nHow do you organize your time? Do you do house stuff on the week to have free time on weekend? Do you cook daily?\nI want to add we are a latin family, we are not used to eat sandwiches and salad very often.\nThank you\n" ]

[ "While I can't offer a ton of advice, I can tell you that little things can make a big difference. For example, when you grocery shop, plan your meals ahead of time and try to come up with meals that will link together somehow, as in share ingredients. That way you can get bigger batches of say, veggies to chop (I assume you sautee a lot for fajitas and the like since you are Latin. Forgive me if that isn't one of your primary meal choices) and chop a whole week's worth at once. That way you can just throw it in the skillet. If you do prep ahead of time it will help. \n\nAlso, consider getting together with a few families and see if you can do a service or cooking trade with them. (For example you make dinner for them and they watch the baby for you to go out, etc.) The possibilities are endless. I don't know how many friends you have but by helping each other out you can save yourselves some time and possibly even money. Good luck!", "For a week, try to track what you spend your time doing (how much time commuting, cooking, laundry, etc). \n\nFigure out what takes the most time or energy or you hate the most. Experiment with tweaks. If you leave work ten minutes earlier or later, how much does it affect traffic/commute time? Are there alternate routes that may save time? Would it make it easier if you listened to a book on tape or carpooled one day a week?\n\nSee if you can divide chores a bit. Spending time doing chores can be slightly less annoying if you get to pick. If you don't mind laundry, and your wife doesn't mind cooking, it can be a little easier to get things done. \n\nIs there a possibility of getting a smaller place that may be closer to work? It might be worth it with stress saved. ", "Firstly, congrats on a special time in your lives (and making it through the sleep deprived weeks!!)\n\nBeing organised usually means you need to be intentional on making small efforts consistently opposed to big efforts infrequently. Having a weekly planner or excel spreadsheet with each day and what needs to be done can help in spreading it out so it is not a big load on the weekends. Being organised is not easy and I sympathize with you and your wife - life is busy hey! So here are some of my personal tips... feel free to use them or tell me I am useless :)\n\nLAUNDRY: You can try a couple of different ways to spread this out and minmise the time on weekends you spend washing and folding. ~ You can have days that are for specific members of the household eg. Mondays are for your wife's washing, Tuesdays are for yours and Wednesdays are for baby - the way it works is as your washing comes out fold it as soon as you can and pop it straight away, even if you fold while watching some tv on week nights and save yourself sometime for the weekends. Or you can (depending on your washer settings) pop a load in as you or your wife leaves for work and have a timer set so it goes on an hour or two before you come home and then pop it in the dryer when you arrive home. Or you can just pop it in when you arrive home and straight into the dryer. Washing can be stressful when it piles up and I find that doing a little bit each day and leaving the weekends free as much as you can makes it easier! (Hope this makes sense, sorry if I am rambling!)\n~Another way is just separating colours and doing the washing the same as above and aiming to wash, dry and fold a load a day can help in minimizing build up which can suck all the time and fun of the weekends.\n\nFOOD: There is a couple of different ways you can manage food. I am going to put my favourite solution although it is expensive and I am waiting a few years to buy one but a ~thermomix can save a lot of cooking time in regards to chopping food up etc. You can make risottos that you can leave to auto cook instead of standing there stirring for half an hour or so and do other things! I am not going to say that a thermomix is the most amazing thing you could ever hope for because it is rather expensive and is essentially a robot that buys you time and hands :) you can always set up a demo and see if you like it.... as you can tell I am a fan ha! ~~~ OTHERWISE it is a smart idea to start meal planning - you can set up an excel spreadsheet for the month and pop in meals you want (think simple and things that can be made into double batches and froze for later in the week/month... It can be helpful to have a reserve of frozen meals tucked away in case of a busy day and you just leave it in the sink to defrost) and then have that as your monthly planner... you can obviously make changes and decide nope going to have something else/have takeaway but having a guideline to what you're going to have can make life a little easier. ~ Now part two of the meal planning is having your groceries delivered if you can - it can make life a lot easier jumping online a week before and ordering everything you need, pick a time and day that suits for delivery and then you cut out the need for going grocery shopping. (Sometimes you'll need to run out for milk etc but having the bulk of it done can take a load off!) \n\nCLEANING: Now for cleaning the house it can help to have someone if you can afford it come and give it a proper clean weekly/fortnightly or make an effort as much as you can to clean during the week when say dinner is being made or you are watching a show. If you are unable to get the bulk done during the week (most people don't, households are hard to run) set aside an hour block or two on the weekend that is designated to cleaning and then whatever is left over after that just leave it! Life with a one year old is messy and sometimes you need to give yourself a well deserved break... So go out and enjoy the time together and have a sleep :)\n\nHope some of that helps! Biggest thing I have learned about being organised is it usually come down to routine and creating habits. Not always easy in the start but once you get into the swing of things it can make a big difference!\n\nGood luck OP, all the best to you, your wife and little one!\n\n\n\n", "While I can't offer a ton of advice, I can tell you that little things can make a big difference. For example, when you grocery shop, plan your meals ahead of time and try to come up with meals that will link together somehow, as in share ingredients. That way you can get bigger batches of say, veggies to chop (I assume you sautee a lot for fajitas and the like since you are Latin. Forgive me if that isn't one of your primary meal choices) and chop a whole week's worth at once. That way you can just throw it in the skillet. If you do prep ahead of time it will help. \n\nAlso, consider getting together with a few families and see if you can do a service or cooking trade with them. (For example you make dinner for them and they watch the baby for you to go out, etc.) The possibilities are endless. I don't know how many friends you have but by helping each other out you can save yourselves some time and possibly even money. Good luck!", "Don't feel bad about making big batches of whatever you're making when you decide to cook so you can have leftovers during the weekend. Also, don't be ashamed of ordering takeout or delivery sometimes.\n\nGet a Roomba and a Scooba and set them to run a couple of times a week. Which is my way of saying, don't freak out if you don't have time to get the house spotless every week." ]

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[ "How to train yourself to Think before you Speak? I have a problem of speaking without thinking, it's almost instinctive. It's probably a mix of my personality and the idea of a conversation needing a quick response so I might be unknowingly pressured to respond quickly. \n\nFor example, \nFriend: Hey do you know Kevin White? \nMe: Yeah he's such an asshole. Last time he did this and this to me and I hated him since. \n\nA simple yes would have sufficed but it's in my personality to continue on.\nIs there a way to train myself to avoid this situation where I say way too much information?\n", "How to train yourself to Think before you Speak? I have a problem of speaking without thinking, it's almost instinctive. It's probably a mix of my personality and the idea of a conversation needing a quick response so I might be unknowingly pressured to respond quickly. \n\nFor example, \nFriend: Hey do you know Kevin White? \nMe: Yeah he's such an asshole. Last time he did this and this to me and I hated him since. \n\nA simple yes would have sufficed but it's in my personality to continue on.\nIs there a way to train myself to avoid this situation where I say way too much information?\n", "How to train yourself to Think before you Speak? I have a problem of speaking without thinking, it's almost instinctive. It's probably a mix of my personality and the idea of a conversation needing a quick response so I might be unknowingly pressured to respond quickly. \n\nFor example, \nFriend: Hey do you know Kevin White? \nMe: Yeah he's such an asshole. Last time he did this and this to me and I hated him since. \n\nA simple yes would have sufficed but it's in my personality to continue on.\nIs there a way to train myself to avoid this situation where I say way too much information?\n", "How to train yourself to Think before you Speak? I have a problem of speaking without thinking, it's almost instinctive. It's probably a mix of my personality and the idea of a conversation needing a quick response so I might be unknowingly pressured to respond quickly. \n\nFor example, \nFriend: Hey do you know Kevin White? \nMe: Yeah he's such an asshole. Last time he did this and this to me and I hated him since. \n\nA simple yes would have sufficed but it's in my personality to continue on.\nIs there a way to train myself to avoid this situation where I say way too much information?\n" ]

[ "I used to do this a lot. I am definitely inproving, though. \n\nWhat I've been doing to put a filter on the stuff I say, is think \"Hey, is this gonna be positive? Am I going to be uplifting, or am I gonna bring them, or someone else down?\" It takes a while, but you've gotta *actively* talk, not reactively talk. Don't just spout out what's on your mind. I started out by taking a few seconds to reply. Sure, it was awkward the first few times, cuz I just paused the conversation to think for awhile.\n\nAfter the first couple of times, you should be getting better at actively thinking before you speak. I dunno, you might need to test it out for a while. Once you actively take the reigns of your thoughts, you can move on to projecting the appropriate tone, verbiage, and meter to match the situation. Remember, people react you your tone almost as much as they react to your words. Do those things, and I hope you'll find that you are being more considerate, as well as held in a higher regard by your peers (you might seem more mature[??!])\n\n", "Just try to notice and be aware of it when it happens. Don't beat yourself up about it, but be aware. You'll start noticing it sooner, like in the middle of what you're saying (which might let you change the end of the statement, or even just stop if it's that bad) and eventually you'll start thinking before you speak. It'll take time, and a lot of self awareness, but it'll help. ", "What you're looking for is patience.\n\nMoreover, try to shift to optimism. It means you'll have to train your brain into seeing the positive stuff.\n\nFor your example, instead of saying that Kevin is an asshole, try to say something nice.\n\nMake a list of nice stuff to look for at people and, instead of saying the negative, say the positive.\n\nThere's always positive. You'll have to search for it.\n\nPS: Don't expect it to be easy. Also, don't expect this to happen mentally. Take right now a pencil and a piece of paper and write down what you want to change at yourself.", "I'd just try to get in the habit of making verbal pauses like saying ummm for a couple seconds to give you thinking time" ]

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[ "How to make friends with acquaintances without spending money going out for lunch (or spending money at all)? I definitely want to expand my college network of friends, but I feel the only easy way to do that in my college town is to dine out or grab drinks, sincere it seems that it is all that there actually is to do here. Sometimes I just don't have the money to dine out and try and try to get closer with people that way.", "How to make friends with acquaintances without spending money going out for lunch (or spending money at all)? I definitely want to expand my college network of friends, but I feel the only easy way to do that in my college town is to dine out or grab drinks, sincere it seems that it is all that there actually is to do here. Sometimes I just don't have the money to dine out and try and try to get closer with people that way.", "How to make friends with acquaintances without spending money going out for lunch (or spending money at all)? I definitely want to expand my college network of friends, but I feel the only easy way to do that in my college town is to dine out or grab drinks, sincere it seems that it is all that there actually is to do here. Sometimes I just don't have the money to dine out and try and try to get closer with people that way.", "How to make friends with acquaintances without spending money going out for lunch (or spending money at all)? I definitely want to expand my college network of friends, but I feel the only easy way to do that in my college town is to dine out or grab drinks, sincere it seems that it is all that there actually is to do here. Sometimes I just don't have the money to dine out and try and try to get closer with people that way.", "How to make friends with acquaintances without spending money going out for lunch (or spending money at all)? I definitely want to expand my college network of friends, but I feel the only easy way to do that in my college town is to dine out or grab drinks, sincere it seems that it is all that there actually is to do here. Sometimes I just don't have the money to dine out and try and try to get closer with people that way.", "How to make friends with acquaintances without spending money going out for lunch (or spending money at all)? I definitely want to expand my college network of friends, but I feel the only easy way to do that in my college town is to dine out or grab drinks, sincere it seems that it is all that there actually is to do here. Sometimes I just don't have the money to dine out and try and try to get closer with people that way." ]

[ "Play games with them! Monopoly or risk, while expensive at first if you do not own them, can quickly allow you to spend a few hours with people you are trying to get to know better. You can talk about whatever, but the game also ensures that you have at least something in common.", "College towns usually have loads of free or low-cost cultural things -- museums, plays, dances, concerts, etc. Invite some folks to go along.", "Are you into any sports? Or music? Or gardening? Pickup basketball game or frisbee golf? All ways to get together with no money involved.\n\nYou might also consider volunteering your time someplace. That's a great way to meet people who share your same interest and get some good real life karma.", "Talk. A lot. Usually people think the person they're talking to, is friendly if they feel that he/she is having the same tastes and opinion as them. So talk about the things that 'they' are involved in, show interests, ask questions and suggestions and crack jokes. If you are just passing by, do take a minute or two out to have a small talk. But do remember, not many people like to waste more than a couple of minutes in such a case. \n", "it costs very little to have a cup of coffee or tea in a local indy coffee shop.. if you live on campus it's easier. When I was in college I would just drift through different dorms at night and strike up conversations with people I ran into. There are lots of people just hanging out and bored on Friday and Saturday nights who don't go to parties and are pretty cool to talk with", "Is there a nice park nearby? Just ask if you wanna go for a walk or a jog, and then cool down after. I think people usually dine out or grab drinks because they're either doing it during their lunch period or after classes/work, so it's easy to do both at the same time, but it's not required." ]

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[ "a way to wake yourself up without waking up someone next to you. My girlfriend cannot fall back asleep once she is up. I like to wake up before her to start making coffee/getting breakfast/ workout if I'm feeling up to it. I'd really like a way to wake up without waking her up too. ", "a way to wake yourself up without waking up someone next to you. My girlfriend cannot fall back asleep once she is up. I like to wake up before her to start making coffee/getting breakfast/ workout if I'm feeling up to it. I'd really like a way to wake up without waking her up too. ", "a way to wake yourself up without waking up someone next to you. My girlfriend cannot fall back asleep once she is up. I like to wake up before her to start making coffee/getting breakfast/ workout if I'm feeling up to it. I'd really like a way to wake up without waking her up too. " ]

[ "The FitBit alarm works well for me. I wear it on my wrist and when the alarm goes off it vibrates, waking me but not my wife.\n\nBefore I got that (and had a kid), getting enough sleep usually made sure that I would get up before the alarm went off naturally which worked pretty well too.", "Set your alarm to vibrate, and put the phone between your buttcrack, alternatively, get light alarm apps and put the phone in a position in which shines the flash at you when you need to wake up.", "Learn how to wake up without an alarm. I taught myself about 6 years ago- here's a [wikihow](http://m.wikihow.com/Wake-Up-Without-an-Alarm-Clock) that basically uses the same method I did. " ]

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[ "I’ve got a bad back due to having a scoliosis in my lower backbone (just between the hipbone and ribcage) any tips on how to ease my suffering? ", "I’ve got a bad back due to having a scoliosis in my lower backbone (just between the hipbone and ribcage) any tips on how to ease my suffering? ", "I’ve got a bad back due to having a scoliosis in my lower backbone (just between the hipbone and ribcage) any tips on how to ease my suffering? ", "I’ve got a bad back due to having a scoliosis in my lower backbone (just between the hipbone and ribcage) any tips on how to ease my suffering? " ]

[ "This sounds like a chronic pain problem. A lot of doctors will just give you prescriptions for it. If you want a holistic approach, you may benefit from seeing a chronic pain doctor. There are different types of chronic pain doctors, and not all understand pain from the same perspective. I recommend seeing someone who has a background in anesthesia (chronic pain is a subspecialty of anesthesia) and would be able to do procedures if indicated. It may not be a bone problem but actually a problem with the surrounding muscles or nerves. Either way, they can do steroid injections between the bones that are grinding on each other or find the true source of your pain.", "I forgot some details to add about my condition, I'd like to add some in order for me (and you guys) to narrow down possible solutions. \n\n\n* When I was first diagnosed, doctor told my parents that I've already had my scoliosis since childhood (I think when I was around 3-5 years old) and also said it had developed ever since.\n* My mom pointed out that she might have an idea what might've caused my scoliosis, she said when I was young I fell off from a bed and landed on my right side on some toys.\n* I do regular stretches when I'm off the computer.\n* We don't own any ergonomically fitted seats to help me with my postures.", "I broke the growth plate in my ankle when I was younger so one leg is a little bit shorter then the other and sometimes I would tweak my back so bad that I couldn’t walk for a few days without screaming in pain, the only things that worked were the heating pads, ice packs, pain killers of any kind, not moving (obviously) and then once it didn’t hurt to much doing a lot of lower back stretches", "Hello, fellow scoliosis sufferer here, diagnosed at age 12, more than 30 years ago, with an actual twist at the base of my spine. Caused a lot of tailbone pain, numbness, lower back pain and even inability to walk at times. Here is what has helped me:\n - Physical therapy to learn which exercises will help the best. If you can't get to a PT session right now, investigate basic exercises to reduce tailbone or lower back pain. Start now, you might not notice any improvement for weeks, but stick with it. \n - Commit to a daily yoga practice, even if it is just 10 min a day. You don't need a class or equipment. I do my yoga poses on the carpet while I watch TV. You can find free yoga courses online too. All of my physical therapy exercises were actually yoga or pilates poses. \n - Stay within a healthy weight range.\n- Keep active throughout the day. I've noticed if I keep my muscles \"warm\" that I have less pain and stiffness. \n- Watch your posture, be sure your desk/seating is ergonomically set up for your needs. \n - If you are female, be aware that back pain can be impacted by hormonal shifts, such as menstruation, pregnancy and perimenopause. \n\nFinally, be serious about staying committed. I was told if I didn't stick with it I'd be in a wheelchair by age 60. That was a pretty big motivator for me to stick with the PT plan. I hope this is helpful to you. Best of luck." ]

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[ "How to stop the cat scratching the couch. We have a new couch and the cat is using it as his own personal scratching pole. We bought some kind of double sided sticky stuff that looked like it would have worked well, but the fabric is too densely woven and smooth for it to stick. I've been using no scratch spray, which is good, but it wears out after a few hours. Right now I'm just covering the couch with towels, which isn't ideal. Anyone have a good tip for me to help keep his stupid little paws off the nice new couch?", "How to stop the cat scratching the couch. We have a new couch and the cat is using it as his own personal scratching pole. We bought some kind of double sided sticky stuff that looked like it would have worked well, but the fabric is too densely woven and smooth for it to stick. I've been using no scratch spray, which is good, but it wears out after a few hours. Right now I'm just covering the couch with towels, which isn't ideal. Anyone have a good tip for me to help keep his stupid little paws off the nice new couch?", "How to stop the cat scratching the couch. We have a new couch and the cat is using it as his own personal scratching pole. We bought some kind of double sided sticky stuff that looked like it would have worked well, but the fabric is too densely woven and smooth for it to stick. I've been using no scratch spray, which is good, but it wears out after a few hours. Right now I'm just covering the couch with towels, which isn't ideal. Anyone have a good tip for me to help keep his stupid little paws off the nice new couch?", "How to stop the cat scratching the couch. We have a new couch and the cat is using it as his own personal scratching pole. We bought some kind of double sided sticky stuff that looked like it would have worked well, but the fabric is too densely woven and smooth for it to stick. I've been using no scratch spray, which is good, but it wears out after a few hours. Right now I'm just covering the couch with towels, which isn't ideal. Anyone have a good tip for me to help keep his stupid little paws off the nice new couch?" ]

[ "Yes to the scratching post and also get a squirt bottle with water. After one time, you just pick up the bottle and he will stop. ", "In our household we have 2 cats. One of them monopolizes the scratching posts and doesn't let the other use them. \n\nSince we had no way of preventing scratching aside from making a shrill sound each time it happens and we catch it, we made \"covers\" for the ends of our couch since they like the sides.\n\nThe fabric covers are in a dark fabric and were sewn to fit around the arms of the couches. They are replaced when they get too scratched up. If you're going for aesthetic, you can try the same thing, but find some fabric in the same or similar colour(s) as the couch.\n\n", "We spray them with vinegar. They remember. After awhile, you just have to show them the spray bottle, and they get instantly in line lol", "Try the cheap corrugated cardboard scratchers, preferably more than one. My cats also don't really care for an actual scratching post but they are all about those crappy corrugated scratchers. They prefer it just flat on the ground, they use it a lot less if it's on an incline. Chuck it on the ground near where they normally scratch. Location is literally everything to cats. So if the cat likes scratching your couch, the corrugated scratching post must be very close to the couch for a bit. Put another one near another area that the cat enjoys. There's little spray bottles of concentrated catnip you can spray onto the cardboard scratcher to attract them (if they like catnip). I used to leave treats on top of them so they'd be sure to investigate it. \n\nBe careful not to discipline the cat too much for this behaviour - if the kitty doesn't get enough attention (in it's mind), it may enjoy the attention it gets once you scold it for touching the couch. You can try spraying the cat with water but make sure you do it when it's touching the couch only and not a minute later. When the cat does use the scratching board properly, give it a treat if you can. Again, right at that moment, not a few minutes later, they're not going to figure it out. And don't try to teach the cat how to scratch it by placing it in front of the post and forcing it's paws on the scratcher, because they usually don't appreciate it and any little negative experience can throw you way back. \n\nAn alternative is to get soft paws (little caps on your cat's claws) if they're an indoor cat. I do not have the courage to try this but some people swear by it. " ]

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[ "How to Cut Off a Toxic Friend After reading the recent LPT about cutting off toxic friends, I realized I have one. Now I, and I suppose many others, need help cutting that person out of my life. Any help would be appreciated by many.", "How to Cut Off a Toxic Friend After reading the recent LPT about cutting off toxic friends, I realized I have one. Now I, and I suppose many others, need help cutting that person out of my life. Any help would be appreciated by many.", "How to Cut Off a Toxic Friend After reading the recent LPT about cutting off toxic friends, I realized I have one. Now I, and I suppose many others, need help cutting that person out of my life. Any help would be appreciated by many.", "How to Cut Off a Toxic Friend After reading the recent LPT about cutting off toxic friends, I realized I have one. Now I, and I suppose many others, need help cutting that person out of my life. Any help would be appreciated by many.", "How to Cut Off a Toxic Friend After reading the recent LPT about cutting off toxic friends, I realized I have one. Now I, and I suppose many others, need help cutting that person out of my life. Any help would be appreciated by many.", "How to Cut Off a Toxic Friend After reading the recent LPT about cutting off toxic friends, I realized I have one. Now I, and I suppose many others, need help cutting that person out of my life. Any help would be appreciated by many.", "How to Cut Off a Toxic Friend After reading the recent LPT about cutting off toxic friends, I realized I have one. Now I, and I suppose many others, need help cutting that person out of my life. Any help would be appreciated by many.", "How to Cut Off a Toxic Friend After reading the recent LPT about cutting off toxic friends, I realized I have one. Now I, and I suppose many others, need help cutting that person out of my life. Any help would be appreciated by many." ]

[ "Don't talk to them anymore? Are you serious man?\n\nIf they call you don't answer. If they show up at your house, keep the door locked. Not rocket science, you just gotta grow a proverbial sexual organ and man/woman up.", "Talk to them or if that is too difficult write an email. Let them know what behavior is causing the split and the negative effects it's having on your life. If appropriate let then know you appreciate the time you spent together but you can't become the person you want to be while surrounded by their behavior. \n\nFor example: Bob, we've had some good times but your constant negativity is getting me down and making it very hard to enjoy anything. I'm working hard to stay positive and your just mess with my mind. I feel it's best for us to go our separate ways. Good luck man.\n\n\nIf appropriate you could give then a condition when you would be willing to try again. If you stop smoking/drinking/etc... then we could possibly meet for coffee and see where we are at. Until that time this us goodbye. \n\n\nJust remember they are people too. It's not going to help to just have everyone in their life disappear without knowing the reason. As obvious as the reason may be for you sometimes people need the proverbial kick in the pants to get their lives together. \n\nAfter that stick to your guns. Don't answer calls, don't hangout with mutual friends if they will be there. Remember you are removing them for a reason. If you forget having that letter you sent will be a great way to remind yourself what caused it. You need to take care of you. ", "A toxic person isn't going to change long term for you. Only when they want to better their own life will the change. Best to just be busy and save the energy involved with explaining to them they are toxic.", "Become busy any time they ask you to do anything with them. If they come over unannounced, sorry, but you're on our way out to an important event or meeting. You don't have to be mean, but they should get the hint after a while. If they ask why you're dissing them, you can be truthful, or you can just say that you don't enjoy your friendship with the person as much as you once did and you're trying to focus on the positives in your life. You've come to the conclusion that this person is not a positive influence, and the only way you can stay positive in your life is avoiding this person. Maybe someday you'll be able to be friends again.", "I'd be all \"Bro/Sistah, I'm a bit peeved about a thing. This is the thing. (explain the thing). If you keep doing this man/lady, I dunno what I'll do.\"\n\nThen, if they persist, let em know that you're peeved, and eventualy you can start ditching em by not hanging out with em. If they do fix themselves up, then feel free to stay hangin with em.\n\nYou gave that person the benefit of the doubt before, but now that you're sure they're toxic, be sure to give em the lowdown to give em a chance. If they blow that chance don't feel bad about avoidin em", "Be sure it's something you really want. A few years ago my best friend became an incredibly toxic person, and eventually I decided Id rather have no friends, than be around that any longer. Be certain that this friend is toxic and it's not you just hearing your other friends tell you they are toxic. Have reasons and feelings that validate this. \n\n\nPersonally I'm more comfortable with text/email vs in person confrontation ( and less swayed by the other persons emotions) so send them a text to let them know what they do that is hurting you, make sure they are aware of their actions. They might not believe you or tell you they will change, but that's BS. If you are really cutting out this toxic friend you have to do just that. Hide their posts on facebook, unfollow them on Twitter/Instagram, delete their number from your phone etc. Don't go to social gatherings where you know they will be. Don't bad mouth them to your other friends - they are the toxic friend, not you. Social circles will gossip so you can state facts about how they made you feel and how you ended your friendship, but don't convince your other friends to cut the person off, or be the first to bring it up. For me breaking up with my toxic friend this was key. I was very careful not to put any of our friends that were close to both of us in the middle. They knew how she made me feel, but that was the extent of it. \n\n\nKeep your distance. Old habits die hard and your friend might reach out and want to hang out. Go ahead and hang out but at the first sight of toxic behaviour call them out on it and let them know that once chance is all they have. \n\n\nCutting out my best friend of 5 years who turned toxic was the scariest and best thing I ever did. \n", "This thread has been linked to from another place on reddit.\n\n\n- [/r/knowyourshit] [LPT Request: How to Cut Off a Toxic Friend - LifeProTips](http://np.reddit.com/r/knowyourshit/comments/2y9iky/lpt_request_how_to_cut_off_a_toxic_friend/)\n\n\n*^If ^you ^follow ^any ^of ^the ^above ^links, ^respect ^the ^rules ^of ^reddit ^and ^don't ^vote. ^\\([Info](/r/TotesMessenger/wiki/) ^/ ^[Contact](/message/compose/?to=\\/r\\/TotesMessenger))* [](#bot)", "Been there as I'm sure many have. Just start moving in a different direction. Be deliberate. Over time the friendship will fade away. " ]

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[ " *Not asking for tech support-I know how to hook up an external monitor =)*\n\nI have a Windows 8 laptop with a nice touchscreen. But I also have a nice 21.5 inch flatscreen monitor that is larger and has full HD resolution that is just gathering dust. It seems like a shame not to utilize it somehow. One thing I know I could do is to watch movies on the HD monitor while working on the computer. What other good ideas do you guys have for using an external monitor with a laptop?", " *Not asking for tech support-I know how to hook up an external monitor =)*\n\nI have a Windows 8 laptop with a nice touchscreen. But I also have a nice 21.5 inch flatscreen monitor that is larger and has full HD resolution that is just gathering dust. It seems like a shame not to utilize it somehow. One thing I know I could do is to watch movies on the HD monitor while working on the computer. What other good ideas do you guys have for using an external monitor with a laptop?", " *Not asking for tech support-I know how to hook up an external monitor =)*\n\nI have a Windows 8 laptop with a nice touchscreen. But I also have a nice 21.5 inch flatscreen monitor that is larger and has full HD resolution that is just gathering dust. It seems like a shame not to utilize it somehow. One thing I know I could do is to watch movies on the HD monitor while working on the computer. What other good ideas do you guys have for using an external monitor with a laptop?" ]

[ "Depends on your set-up, do you have a desk where you can put the monitor? When I was using multiple screens, I placed the larger external screen directly in front of me and put the laptop on a stand next to it. On the laptop screen to the side, I put secondary things I needed less frequent access to such as an email client or my music player.", "I have 2 lcd's hooked up to my laptop (honestly I should have just gotten a desktop, but it was for university, total times taken to university...0).\n\nMy setup left to right:\n\n1. portrait widescreen on an arm\n2. laptop screen\n3. landscape screen\n\nBoth external monitors are 16.5 inch I think. Laptop is 15.5 I think.\n\nPortrait screen is great for documents, it can fit a full a4 sized document at 100% zoom with enough space for menu bars etc. Also useful for surfing, especially reddit. It's also a lot closer so I can reduce text size.\n\nMiddle (laptop) screen, mostly gaming, reference between screens or wildcard.\n\nI find spreadsheets to be too small on the laptop screen and a bit odd to work with in portrait, so they're on the right screen which is a bit closer and wider. I also put videos on it when it's not important.", "when it comes to multiple displays, it really comes down to what you do with your computer. Multiple displays really shine when multitasking or doing things like programming/design. Also very useful for multiboxing MMOs." ]

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[ "How to find out who I am as a person. I came to a sudden realisation recently that I don't know anything about myself. I have the life that I've lived, and I use that to define who I am. But when looking to the future, I realised I have no values or passions that are steering me down a particular path. I just sort of exist. I am studying to get a career in a field I'm passionate about, but outside of that I feel as though I have no idea who I am, and it's recently started to make me feel very uncomfortable. \n\nIf someone were to ask me to describe who I am, all I could list is *what I do*, i.e. my job, education, living circumstances. I feel hollow and like I have nothing to distinguish me from other people.\n\nWhat are some good ways to learn more about who I am as a person without bias or influence from others? ", "How to find out who I am as a person. I came to a sudden realisation recently that I don't know anything about myself. I have the life that I've lived, and I use that to define who I am. But when looking to the future, I realised I have no values or passions that are steering me down a particular path. I just sort of exist. I am studying to get a career in a field I'm passionate about, but outside of that I feel as though I have no idea who I am, and it's recently started to make me feel very uncomfortable. \n\nIf someone were to ask me to describe who I am, all I could list is *what I do*, i.e. my job, education, living circumstances. I feel hollow and like I have nothing to distinguish me from other people.\n\nWhat are some good ways to learn more about who I am as a person without bias or influence from others? ", "How to find out who I am as a person. I came to a sudden realisation recently that I don't know anything about myself. I have the life that I've lived, and I use that to define who I am. But when looking to the future, I realised I have no values or passions that are steering me down a particular path. I just sort of exist. I am studying to get a career in a field I'm passionate about, but outside of that I feel as though I have no idea who I am, and it's recently started to make me feel very uncomfortable. \n\nIf someone were to ask me to describe who I am, all I could list is *what I do*, i.e. my job, education, living circumstances. I feel hollow and like I have nothing to distinguish me from other people.\n\nWhat are some good ways to learn more about who I am as a person without bias or influence from others? ", "How to find out who I am as a person. I came to a sudden realisation recently that I don't know anything about myself. I have the life that I've lived, and I use that to define who I am. But when looking to the future, I realised I have no values or passions that are steering me down a particular path. I just sort of exist. I am studying to get a career in a field I'm passionate about, but outside of that I feel as though I have no idea who I am, and it's recently started to make me feel very uncomfortable. \n\nIf someone were to ask me to describe who I am, all I could list is *what I do*, i.e. my job, education, living circumstances. I feel hollow and like I have nothing to distinguish me from other people.\n\nWhat are some good ways to learn more about who I am as a person without bias or influence from others? ", "How to find out who I am as a person. I came to a sudden realisation recently that I don't know anything about myself. I have the life that I've lived, and I use that to define who I am. But when looking to the future, I realised I have no values or passions that are steering me down a particular path. I just sort of exist. I am studying to get a career in a field I'm passionate about, but outside of that I feel as though I have no idea who I am, and it's recently started to make me feel very uncomfortable. \n\nIf someone were to ask me to describe who I am, all I could list is *what I do*, i.e. my job, education, living circumstances. I feel hollow and like I have nothing to distinguish me from other people.\n\nWhat are some good ways to learn more about who I am as a person without bias or influence from others? ", "How to find out who I am as a person. I came to a sudden realisation recently that I don't know anything about myself. I have the life that I've lived, and I use that to define who I am. But when looking to the future, I realised I have no values or passions that are steering me down a particular path. I just sort of exist. I am studying to get a career in a field I'm passionate about, but outside of that I feel as though I have no idea who I am, and it's recently started to make me feel very uncomfortable. \n\nIf someone were to ask me to describe who I am, all I could list is *what I do*, i.e. my job, education, living circumstances. I feel hollow and like I have nothing to distinguish me from other people.\n\nWhat are some good ways to learn more about who I am as a person without bias or influence from others? ", "How to find out who I am as a person. I came to a sudden realisation recently that I don't know anything about myself. I have the life that I've lived, and I use that to define who I am. But when looking to the future, I realised I have no values or passions that are steering me down a particular path. I just sort of exist. I am studying to get a career in a field I'm passionate about, but outside of that I feel as though I have no idea who I am, and it's recently started to make me feel very uncomfortable. \n\nIf someone were to ask me to describe who I am, all I could list is *what I do*, i.e. my job, education, living circumstances. I feel hollow and like I have nothing to distinguish me from other people.\n\nWhat are some good ways to learn more about who I am as a person without bias or influence from others? " ]

[ "Well the purpose of your life is finding the purpose, but you have to go outside your comfort zone and experience life. You already took the first step of self realization, but you now want to know what makes you tick. Go volunteer , intern, keep a journal, set some goals. Some big, some small and multiple ones, so if you don't succeed at one, you won't feel as if you're a failure and give up. But you need to take the good with the bad, because when you lose, you don't lose the lesson. ", "You're doing the right thing. \"I just exist.\" That's the point, there is no purpose of a human life other than to keep existing. Read some Alan watts and Eckhart tolle, it helped me a lot", "Take that certain passion or whatever it is you like i.e: I love European History and Music and take it up a level. If people ask you, \"Who are you?\", be proud and say I am (in my case) a musician, a historian, a friend, a brother, and a son. Be proud of what you do. Nobody \"just exists\" all we can do is help each other and when others help us be appreciative. Be proud! Also what is very good is to just keep a journal, or think to yourself; so later you can reflect on what you have done.", "You are what you believe that you are. Whatever you want to be, if you put forth effort and if you are blessed with the cooperation of others, you can be it. You need focus. Start college as soon as you can. Have conversations with people. Try new things. Travel. Take reasonable risks. Document your experiences in photographic form, or write them in a journal. Be adventurous. Somewhere along the way, you will bump into yourself and you will then know just exactly who you are.", "Put yourself in a position where you have no choices. Like living abroad or joining the military or peace corps. You'll learn what your real motivations are.\n\nBonus: You will about other cultures and other people.", "Mushrooms or LSD are your best bet to kickstart it. It's safer than alcohol, and if you do it properly, (that means research and effort) it can have a profound effect on who you are, what the universe is, and how you fit into it.", "First of all, realize what you're not. You're not your job, you're not your car keys, you're not the money on your bank account, you're not your status, you're not your friends and family, you're not your culture, you're not your ego. \n\nYou can experiment with psychedelic drugs like LSD or DMT or dissociatives like ketamine, these substances will dissolve your ego and let all the hidden information of your subconscious float into your consciousness and let you communicate with parts if yourself you have never communicated before. Stay safe tho." ]

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[ "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. 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At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. 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At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. 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At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him.", "How do you deal with someone who speaks over you in a conversation? I sometimes have to interact with someone who has zero communication skills and always talks over people. He would listen for 1 second and jump in and starts speaking even before I'm done. If I point out that I'm done speaking, he'll complain that I'm not letting him speak. \n\nI wish the solution was just to not interact with him, but I can't do that. At least for another couple months, I have to deal with him." ]

[ "It's so hard to interact with people who relentlessly interrupt. One thing that may help is to begin your sentence by stating how many points/questions you have. Eg \"I have two updates for you\" or \"I need to ask three questions\". They will inevitably cut you off & derail the conversation but when you do get the chance to speak again, you can bring them back on track by saying \".. and the second thing is...\". It's a reasonable way to pull the conversation back in track. Hope this helps, good luck", "I watched a really good YouTube video that used Russell Brand as an example of how to deal with rude or inappropriate conversations. For this type of interaction, they say that if someone talks over you, make sure you finish what you were saying. If you trail off they are reinforced to keep doing, and the only person that feels awkward is you. If you keep talking, they’re not able to dominate the conversation and they look like a jerk.", "Practice not feeling badly about being 100% direct to rude people. You seem like a courteous person, so asserting boundaries that might offend a person may feel rude to you. It's not. It's necessary. Assert yourself; don't get steamrolled, or you'll end up resenting the person and resenting yourself.", "This happens to me all the time in retail. I just maintain eye contact and keep talking until I finish my sentence", "If you know the person has the habit preface the conversation with “please let me say my piece before you jump in. If you have to take a note of something please write it down instead of interrupting. Once I’m done I’ll show you the same courtesy.”", "If he’s a jerk about it, then when he does it from now on just go silent and stare at him until he stops talking, don’t give any more inputs. This will cause him to be uncomfortable and naturally stop talking. Then ask “are you done?” And continue where you left off, don’t a knowledge anything he said. If he acts like a child then treat him like a child, and don’t support his behavior.", "Hey GBT,\n\nI find when dealing with these individuals that they're most likely unaware of the habit so I gently bring it to their attention.\n\nNo need for anything dramatic but a calm 'May I finish?' should do the trick. It will interrupt their line of thinking because you are overtly requesting permission, which will override their need to be heard. \n\nFeel free to use this as often as required and let me know how you go!", "We have a relative who does this. He seriously gives you a headache as will talk none stop for hours and never let anyone else speak. \nHe may say “How’s your job” and as soon as you halfway through sentence, will cut you off and tell you a long story about his 🙄", "I catch myself doing this sometimes, but I am aghast by it and am trying not to do it. If someone told me \"dude, do you know you talk over people?\" I would be embarrassed and would try even harder to not do that", "I very literally downloaded an app that was the buzzer and dinger noises from The Price is Right and would hold my phone when we spoke and buzzed her every time she tried to.", "“Let me finish, I promise to give you a chance to speak”\n\nThen when he speaks complement his speaking “that’s a great way to put it” or “I hear what you’re saying” or even better repeat the core points back at him. He might not be feeling heard.", "Just keep talking, maybe even a little louder. Most people recognize they’ve overstepped and self-adjust. Obviously don’t do this in situations when your point (albeit justified) isn’t the point. Like if the guy’s your boss or something.", "The absolutely most effective method I've ever experienced only works if you've got the presence to pull it off. \nI was an inspector. During one report, I attempted to interrupt the local boss to clarify a point. There was not a single change in his monotone delivery. He made eye contact and slightly leaned towards me, but otherwise continued his sentence without any indication that I was speaking. No change to volume, tempo, tone. \n\nI don't think I've ever felt so rude and insignificant. It's one of those memories that still hits and makes me shudder years later.", "I sadly do this sometimes because I get excited when a thought gets brought up . And I interrupt sometimes and then have to apologize because the conversation really peaked my adhd. People like me who do this dont mean to be rude , at least in my case . I am forgetful and get excited.", "I just start ignoring people who do that. There's no conversation anyways. They get the point after a while.", "Wait for them to stop talking.\nPause poiniantly for a few seconds.\nThen say 'as I was saying' and continue from exactly where they interrupted. \nRinse and repeat.", "My response depends on who I'm talking to. If I'm out socializing with people and see nobody's listening to me or waiting for me to continue, I just shut up, stop trying to contribute and wonder why I bothered leaving the house to socialize with people again in the first place.\n\nBut my Dad also talks over me and I will stop talking and glare at him until he stops talking so I can take him to task for talking over me AGAIN. Not that my irritation bothers him or anything.", "I work where the majority of the people do this. They get together in meetings and everyone is talking all at once. My favorite is the rapid fire question guy, he asks a question and as your answering he’s asking another question and so on or the person who is trying to guess what you’re going to say while you’re saying it, constantly ruining your train of thought. I’ve gotten to the point in life where I just don’t talk to them unless I absolutely have to.", "If he isn't a jerk he might not intend to do it and feel terrible when he realises \nComing from someone who has ADHD and doesn't mean it at all, if someone told me they noticed a pattern where I had interrupted them in conversations we had, I would feel like a bin sock although would be really wary in future not to", "I say \"hang on a sec - I'd like to finish this point if I could.\" I say it kindly and matter-of-factly and WAIT to be sure that s/he complies. If they do - it's great. If they don't, I still remain calm and, depending on how long they speak tell them I must, unfortunately, depart and we can revisit the conversation later or I then repeat that I will finish my point from earlier.\n\nDepending on what they say, I may let myself be interrupted TBH. Some cultures consider interruptions to be a sign that they're actively participating in the conversation...", "At the moment he starts talking over you, loudly say 'HEY' repeatedly until he stops talking. It might not work, but it should disrupt him. If he pauses, resume speaking right where you left off.\n\nHe has ADHD and can't help himself, BTW.", "Ugh, I have a neighbor like this. I usually just don't respond to her, or will say sorry gotta go. I hope this isn't a work person cuz that is in the unavoidable territory", "Love to cut em off with, \"oh, I'm sorry to be speaking/talking while your interrupting! \" gets em every time 🤣🤣🤣", "What if you were to just continue speaking over him? I personally find that way hard myself, but I've seen other people use that effectively", "Just stop talking to them.. if you have to interact just ignore them when suitable and be aloof.. you will find that people who talk over you just crave attention and deserve little.\n\nDon't dwell on assholes, Ive had several in my circle over the years and you'd be surprised how butthurt they get because they think you don't like them. Some of them are innocently gob shites but some are just pricks. Find your audience and talk to them, someone speaks over just make your point to whoever is listening and ignore the gob shite.", "People with ADHd are notorious for that, they don't do it on purpose, it's the way their brain is wired.", "“Excuse me, im not done talking.” Then continue. Some folks are oblivious and need that kind of verbal cue to shut up and wait.", "Stop talking. Just stop right in the middle until he is done. Then wait. People like that can't stand silence. Then start over from the beginning. If he starts again just stop talking. Let him burn himself out and start again. It usually only takes a few times before he understands that interrupting you will not deter you or get you off topic and that you will eventually say your but without getting upset or engaging in anything he says until you do.", "Sounds like you’re working with my old boss. I honestly just started going silent and then when he’d demand a response I’d let him know I was already talking before he spoke over me so I thought I’d let him finish. The only time I heard him apologise for it was when a client would tell him Kamala style “I’m speaking” which sadly happened frequently.", "Just get up and walk away without saying a word. This person will then be confusing and follows you. Simply say, until you're ready to listen, we won't have a conversation. Keep repeating this step until it sinks in.", "I see you know my brother 😂. He tried but his latest move is to let whoever finish speaking and then immediately change the subject without acknowledging what was just said.", "I like the top comment. I have three things to say. Id also plan for conversations to take about 5-10x longer than you think they should (if you need to be polite) and listen for that period of time. Be polite but don’t be afraid once their point has been made to politely and concisely guide conversation in your direction again. Listen again while they object but come along and then steer again.\n\n\nMost people who talk like this have tangential thinking and you just need to guide that into the direction you need. Once again don’t be rude or judgmental, it’s just the way their Brain works and you need to get some shit done around or with them :)\n\nNot saying he’s not a pric but even smart pric can be unaware of their tangents", "Honestly just keep talking untill you finish your point, and then stop. When they ask what you said, say \"You should have listened\" and walk away. But thats just me.. maybe not the best way", "Good question.\n\nI simply stop speaking,wait, then resume what I was saying when they have finished interrupting, ignoring whatever it was they said.\n\nIt will take several times but,ultimately, smart people will catch on to the pattern and adjust their behavior.", "Use psychology - when that person speaks over you, do one of two things:\n\n1. Call them out - \"Excuse me, I want to hear what you have to say, but first let me finish my thought.\" (Say it just like that - you're telling their ego I want to hear you, but you're also silently addressing and making them aware of their unacceptable behavior.)\n\n2. Keep talking as if you don't hear them. They'll see what they're doing and self correct out of personal embarrassment.\n\nMost people aren't doing it on purpose; it's a communication style that hasn't been corrected. By using psychology, you have the upper hand because it plays into human nature and forces that person to become aware of their behavior without you being viewed as an asshole or losing your temper.", "Stop speaking. Wait until they're finished talking and continue to remain silent. If they seem to be waiting for you to say something, ask if they're finished talking. Continue.", "I'd just be rude to him. People act like that's not an acceptable option. If they don't let you speak, and then complain about you doing that to them while they're in the middle of doing that to you, then fuck em. The world is full of people that only act the way they do because polite society says we have to let them be assholes. If I gotta deal with them, I'm gonna make sure they know how that feels.", "I used to talk over people and was completely oblivious. I reckon it was a self confidence thing.\nI got bluntly called out on it at work by my boss and I was mortified. But it meant I was aware and could check myself. I still sometimes start to do it but manage to hold it back and apologise.", "I tend to visibly not pay attention and then resume my last sentence exactly where it ended. If what I was saying wasn't important enough to not get interrupted then whatever they're saying isn't important either. \n\nEither that or I just keep talking as if they never started. Did this to a coworker once who had this amazing habit of putting his hand up and then speak over you. The more I kept going the more he kept trying to butt in. So I just rambled. It gives them the choice to either let you finish, or get frustrated they couldn't get \"their turn\" and at that point anything they say you can uno reverse card and turn back on them", "Happened to me all the time at work. Sometimes when actual important work things were being discussed, sometimes in just regular conversation. One day I was cut off and something in me snapped. I just disengaged and decided not to talk anymore. Obviously they don’t care what I have to say, so I don’t say anything. I will answer direct questions as succinctly as possible and that’s it. It’s strangely liberating. Sometimes I am tempted to relate something that happened to me or give advice or an opinion on something, but I don’t.", "Ask them to stop. Ask a second time. Third time just walk away, I haven't got time to talk to people who are a waste of my breath.", "After years of enduring this from an acquaintance in social situations, I took them aside and gently told them that it bothered me. They were mortified.", "“That has NOTHING to do with what I was saying. What I WAS saying is….” This works wonders on my wife and on my best friend who cannot help themselves.", "learn to go quiet as soon as he starts speaking, and every time he finishes, start your statement over again.", "When they interrupt, say \"Please let me finish\". You can be more direct by saying \"You're interrupting when it's my time to speak. Please let me finish\". It will depend on your overall relationship with that person. Other than that, I would limit my contact with them as much as possible.", "Try to interact with him via email. SMS, Discord, whatever is available. Use the word \"workflow\" when explaining that you need to do it this way. Some people are great by email or chat that are terrible in person.\n\nMake sure you have a specific reason to talk to him. Explain at the outset that you need to get back to your task (or whatever) and just need the one piece of information, etc. If he talks over you interrupt and explain you only have time for the one piece of information.\n\nYou can also try \"whoa, hang on, that's not what I was asking\".\n\nDoes he do this with everyone, or just you? Does he act this way if there are three people in the conversation? Five or six? Maybe you need help talking to him. \n\nSee if you can go around him. \n\nThis could be a mental health problem, too. Not enough info in your answer, of course, but something to keep in mind. \n\nHope any of this helps.", "This is one of my biggest pet peeves. I'm not sure why people do this. I even have good friends who do this. As long as it's not my boss or someone whom I greatly respect, I usually just keep talking even while they they talk on top of me. So, for a short moment, both of us are talking simultaneously. I will admit that it is incredibly hard to do this because I can't concentrate on what I'm saying, but I usually keep going and they stop talking.", "The sad thing about this is these people aren't listening to what's being said, only thinking of what to say. \n\nI have had to work so hard to stop interrupting people and the best way was to force myself to think about what the other person has said.", "Talking over might be symptom of adhd when you have a problem with hyperactivity which shows as an impulse control problem. This is especially bad when you add memory issues and tendency to get distracted. Then people want to say things before they forget. Ask them to write down idea to say when you finish", "Refuse to acknowledge that they have started speaking. Right now they're in the habit that if they start talking, you'll shut up and listen. Instead, keep talking as if they don't exist. They'll usually find this rude, which is hilarious.", "People with ADHD tend to do this. I know because I have ADHD and I'm prone to this because my mind is moving so fast. We don't do it to be rude, at least I don't. It's possible they could have ADHD.", "One of the best ways to deal with this I learned from a female former publishing executive.\n\nShe dealt with egotistical men throughout her career.\n\nHer trick was simply to interrupt HIM and say “May I please finish???”\n\nIt both puts the guy on the spot—literally calling him out for interrupting you—while also making it clear that he will have an opportunity to speak. \n\nAFTER you are finished speaking.", "My favorite: “Oh I’m sorry, did the middle of my sentence interrupt the beginning of yours?” \n\nDoes nothing to make the situation better, but that’s not really my intention anyway.", "My father is like this. At this point I honestly just stare blankly at him and when he finally stops talking I ask if he's finished and then continue what I was saying. If he interrupts a second time after I wait patiently I just walk away and then he chases after me apologizes and then asks me what I was saying before he inevitably interrupts me again and we repeat the process until I'm finished or give up", "Let them interrupt you, but don't say anything back and let them stew in uncomfortable silence and when they prompt you to speak say \"were you done speaking?\" speak slowly and deliberately if they cut you off again do an even longer pause...repeat this until they learn the proper mechanics of a dialogue.", "Instantly cut them off by saying \"don't interrupt me\" every time they interrupt. And if they continue say \"we are done here until you can hear me out\" and walk away", "If they cut you off, just stop speaking. If they ask why you aren't talking, you tell them, \"every time I try to speak you interrupt and talk over me so it's just less frustrating this way\".", "If it's a one on one conversation, I leave. The other party wasn't interested in a discussion, and I have better things to do with my time, like headbutting a bandsaw.\n\nIf it's a group setting, I calmly point out that I had yet to finish my point, finish my point, and then leave. These people were disinterested in my participation in the conversation, so I remove myself from it.", "I work with people going through likely the most difficult time in their lives and in these circumstances I immediately cease talking when talked over and the client generally finishes speaking, apologizes for speaking over me, and sometimes asks to hear what I had to say. Some immediately stop also excuse themselves and I carry on with a mental note to unequivocally show interest in what they were going to say when I finish my line of speech. And, of course, plenty don’t miss a beat and were never really interested in what I had to say in the first place. \n\nStrangely enough, I quite often ‘respond over’ others as a way of reflecting that I am listening and understand what the ‘clients’ are trying to convey. This is helpful if someone is struggling to effectively convey what they mean to and you can bridge a gap for them but with the faster speaking cadence of someone who is confidently able to convey what they intend to, it ends up coming off as rude or impatient. Or at least I feel like I was.\n\nThen there is an issue I’ve worked on for years now where I used to mentally lock and load a great contribution to the subject matter that I am being spoken to about and would just uncontrollably spew those sound waves into the air; I had no idea why. Later I conclude that, as this human, my attentional resources are low enough that I will forget about my Humpty Dumpty thought and it will fall off the wall to be forgotten, leaving me explaining that I forgot what I was going to say and feeling dumb for it. Now I just listen and allow the thought to fade. Sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn’t. But if I commit to simply understanding what they mean to convey I will be able to formulate a contributive response in the small time of (nowadays) comfortable silence after they finish.", "I will let it slide a few times but, eventually, they cut me off and I say something like, \"Oh, please, whatever you have to say is way more important than the sentence I was in the middle of. Can you just handle both sides of this conversation so I can go do something more enjoyable than being talked over?\"", "I used to work in an office where people talked over each other. A previous colleague of mine used to handle this brilliantly. \n\nTechnique 1: Immediately say: \"Excuse me {insert name of person interrupting} but I hadn't finished what I was saying. Can you let me finish?\" Then carry on with your point until finished. \n\nTechnique 2: Let person interrupt then immediately interject with: \"sorry, I was about to say {then make your point}\".\n\nIn a group setting, if I hear someone one else getting spoken over I will actually encourage them to finish their point.\n\nIf this is happening a lot, make sure you begin your comments by making eye contact with the chair person/boss/manager/whatever. They are more likely to realise that you had something to contribute and ask to hear your point of view.", "I kinda treat them like my kids. “I’m sorry, I’m still speaking. Could I finish what I was saying?” \n\n“That was rather rude, I wasn’t finish. If you wouldn’t mind I was still talking and haven’t finished what I was saying”\n\nOr in some instances (and I do this with my kids)\n\nI ignore them, continue to talk. Then when I’m done with my points I say “I wasn’t done speaking. I am now. What did you have to say?”", "I have three techniques. One or more may work for you, but they are obviously situationally dependent, and I should note that I am a large man with a voice that can be quite loud.\n\n1. Halt the conversation immediately. Say, loudly and forcefully enough that it stops the conversation like a gunshot, \"excuse me, I don't appreciate you interrupting me. Please show some courtesy.\" This is said in a tone that clearly indicates my displeasure. This only works with people whom you can literally shout down; not bosses, etc.\n\n2. Turn and walk away. As soon as I'm interrupted, I turn on my heels and walk in the opposite direction. The interrupter can keep talking, but it's going to be awkward.\n\n3. Simply continue talking and refuse to be dissuaded from your point. Act as though the interrupter isn't even speaking. \n\nIt is also helpful, IMO, to step in for those who have been interrupted. If someone interrupts another speaker, I will look the interrupter dead in the eye and say something like, \"hang on a minute, garlic_bread_thief was making a point and I was really trying to follow.\" I then turn to the speaker and say, \"Sorry, garlic_bread_thief. What were you saying about <topic>?\"", "I have a cousin that does this. She doesn’t even hear you when you say I am talking. I start yelling at her. It’s lack of situational awareness.", "I do a few different things. I’ve restarted the same sentence over and over and over and they then realize it’s odd and shut up. I’ve talked right over them. Getting louder is my immediate reaction but I try not to that one. Going silent and completely disengaging with the conversation can work too. Especially if they ask if something is wrong then I can say it like it is.", "Different things will work with different people. I usually start by telling them I was speaking and they interrupted me. If they look like they don't care I'll just speak over them while they speak over me. I don't think there's much else you can do", "Depends how aware they are, but you can make other people super aware by immediately shutting up the second he starts talking and not responding when he’s done. \n\nOtherwise, do not stop talking when he starts. My nature is to always stop, but this does work", "As someone with ADHD this is my worst trait. I constantly replay convos where I did this and realise how much a knob I am. Shame I cannot notice it at the time.", "Always go straight back to the person they interrupted. It’s a subtle hint for them, and validation for the person interrupted so they know people were listening to them. I’ll usually say “sorry *person* what we’re you saying?”", "“Bro you gotta stop interrupting me and let me finish.” And if they get all mad about it just say “Im not the only one that feels this way, you need to work on it.”", "ok now how do you deal with the person who never stops talking and you have no choice but to interrupt and talk over them?", "You can try the 'broken record technique' - Say what you feel and just keep repeating it until they either give up or acknowledge what you have to say. Keep it short and succinct. Make it your only response until you see a change in his behaviour.\n\nExample, \"You don't listen, there is no point having a discussion with you\". (Say it with a smile).", "With your phone, start a timer: hit the 'lap' every time he starts to speak, and again when somebody else starts, and again when he interrupts. I've done this with my in-laws: I pointed out the seven seconds of speaking that they permitted me one day and thanked them for letting me speak long enough to point this out.", "With those types sometimes it doesn't matter what you say. They're already thinking about the next thing they want to say instead of listening to what you're actually saying. If I'm truly annoyed I just pick back up midsentence and finish talking. That's passive-aggressive though and isn't always helpful", "When they start over talking, take a step back, raise your hand to mouth level. When they stop, turn a shoulder to them and resume", "When they interrupt just don't say anything, when they finish talking and start staring at you, let them know you are waiting for them to stop talking. Say \n\"I'm waiting for you to finish talking.\" \nThen ask them if they are done. \n\"Are you done talking?\" \nEvery time they interrupt again, just stop talking. Wait until they are done, ask them if they are done, then repeat what you were going to say. Take 30 minutes if you need to at first until they learn that interrupting you is too frustrating, and they are best served by shutting up and listening.", "Used to work with a guy like that, in addition he was very loud. Big fella too, like 6'6 - 6'8. Another coworker had the single best solution to his interuptions, she just kept talking without even missing a beat or acknowledging him. Its hard to maintain momentum like that when someone interupts, but the confused look on his face when a 5'4 woman in her 60's would run him over was priceless. Just keep talking.", "This is just for getting out of the conversation: if you can't get a word in edgewise, try nonverbal cues. If you are leaving soon (or can pretend you are), put on your coat or pick up your keys/bag (or just pretend you have to run to the restroom). Then talk with your feet: walk slowly to the door while otherwise appearing to listen. Some people won't stop talking until you do something physical like this.", "They might be completely unaware of the fact that you find them rude…\n\nhttps://learningenglish.voanews.com/a/what-is-your-conversational-style-bowling-rugby-or-basketball--100908359/112844.html", "There was a person I worked with who would speak over me mid sentence to repeat exactly what I was saying as though he had come up with it and could explain it better. I just kept talking as though he wasn't there and sometimes I would say, \"Excuse me, ______ but I was still speaking and you just interrupted me.\"", "There are 2 kinds of people that talk over other people. Those that know they do it, and those that don't know that they are doing it and they imagine that everyone is talking over them.\n\nThe second kind sucks because they are defensive. The first kind, you can just tell to just stop talking and listen and they will because they are aware.\n\nFor the second kind, there is an off chance you can take them aside and just explain how their interrupting you makes you feel and you would appreciate it if they could give you the time to express your thoughts fully before they provide their input.\n\nSometimes that works. They probably don't even know that they are doing it. Maybe they had a rough childhood. Maybe their SO talks down to them all the time and they're taking it out on others.\n\nIt never hurts to be nice.", "The reason I dislike it is that they are not listening. How can you disagree if you don’t know what I didn’t say yet?", "The person was a very impulsive talker, and on occasion would ask me a question, but go off on a tangent before I could finish my response. \n\nI would just wait for them to take a pause, and ask something along the lines of \"Earlier, you asked me a question. Do you still wish to hear the answer?\".\n\nOver time, being made aware of when they were interrupting helped them to do it less I think.", "Tell ‘em to STFU. ( the genteel way)\nAt work if that happened in a meeting g and I was talking I would stop talking and stare at them until they quit. Pretty effective", "Tell him you're not done talking as soon as he cuts you off and keep repeating yourself until he stops talking. Pause a second and continue what you were saying. If he cuts you off again do the same thing. If it happens a third time, cut them off and ask them why they are cutting you off and if there is anything that can be done about it. Stay very focused on the fact that they are cutting you off and don't change the subject until you've come to a resolution for the cutting off problem. Once a resolution has been agreed upon, go back to your original conversation. You have to be stoic here and not let your emotions get the best of you. If you lose your cool and get upset or fumble words, they won't listen to you. Just be firm in taking these steps and see if that helps.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nEverything is a game in communication, and we all have to play fair. This person doesn't know how to play fair and they need to learn that it's important for you.", "Talk over them as loud as is necessary until they stop, or until you get your message out.\n\nOr put your finger to their lips, smush it around a little and whisper \"shhhhhh, im still talking\"", "Take the hint and come up for air. Natural pauses allow the conversation to flow more comfortably and others to interject as appropriate. Sometimes it's important to allow for an actual dialog on your current point before moving on to something else entirely.", "Stop responding. Only say what you have too when you can. Ask him to repeat himself 3 times. Very important you ask him the 3rd time to annoy him. Than talk over him. Explain this is how you feel and he needs to communicate better", "Stare him the fuck down until he finishes talking and then pick up where you left off regardless of what he's just said", "Sounds like a certain defective college instructor that I had. In fact BOTH of them would start blabbering on a tangent before you could get out a whole sentence. I took it as a form of brush-off.", "Sometimes when I am excited I tend to do that to my friends lol \n\nAnd one of them has found an ingenious way to stop me, they basically interrupt me to ask a question that makes me to stop, and then immediately after they say what they want to, if I interrupt them again, they will ask me to stop to say again", "Some people like to Peacock. Either put them in their place by calling them out, or ignore them and walk away at each conversation.", "Some people have different communication styles so it's usually best to not assume malintention. For example, some people grow up in family systems where they're the youngest person in the group and the only way they learned to communicate is by interrupting. A good way to test this is to interrupt them and see how they handle it. You cam also gently point out to them that they're interrupting and usually that will do the trick.", "Say, excuse me but I wasn't finished speaking. If you must feel the need to interrupt someone while they are still talking, I suggest you leave this conversation.", "Say their name as soon as they interrupt enough times for them to stop , then continue. Best way I've found so far, they are just really excited to talk most times .", "Ooooo wow, I had a few of these people in my work life. \n\nI have a couple of tips: the first tip is to directly address your concern if possible. It's always best to be honest and direct if that's a route you can take. You can say something like, \"I was hoping to share a concern I have with you. It seems like during conversations, you seem to jump in and cut me off before I'm done speaking. It makes it difficult to have a conversation with you.\" \n\nIf that doesn't work, be an exaggerated example of what you want. When that person cuts you off, move your body to face them, stop speaking, and give full attention. When they are done, face where you were facing and continue what you were saying. Some people are visual learners and might require those exaggerated social cues to understand that what they are doing is not cool or acceptable.\n\nLastly, if none of those things work, it's not your job to teach a person typical acceptable communication manners, so limit your interaction with them as much as possible (I know you said you can't avoid them completely). When people stop talking to you, you tend to do some self reflection and wonder if something is going on. \n\nIdk I hope this helps. I'm sorry if it doesn't. I apologize for anything that didn't make sense, was not helpful or not good advice. Good luck!", "One more assertive phrase to respond to this (and hopefully push back on the “but you won’t let me talk!” bit): the next time they interrupt you, you can ask “I’m sorry, did the middle of my sentence interrupt the beginning of yours?” And if they try to argue, you can point out how it seems like they’re the one not letting you finish making any points before interrupting. \n\nI’m sorry you’re dealing with this & I hope you’re able to get free of this person soon!!", "On the flip side, people who must dominate the conversation and give no openings for you to contribute.", "OMG I do that. I have little social skills. I would like to take this moment to apologize from us to you all.", "Note: this isn’t much of a tip for situations where you have to be polite (such as with a coworker). \n\nIf I’m cut off by a rude entitled person like that, I don’t even try to finish my point. Instead I just pull out my cell phone, stare at my screen, and start scrolling.", "My step dad does this every single time we talk. I’m the only connection he has to my family since my mom passed in 2019. They were together 7 years, all of which time I was an adult. Sometimes I just want to quit talking to him all together, but he basically has no one. He also has stage 3 liver cancer and isn’t going to go through the suggested systemic chemo, so I guess either way it won’t be too long before I don’t hear about it anymore. Did I mention he just got out of prison for getting his 7th DUI after my mom passed? He hadn’t had one in over 20 years.", "My previous boss was bad about this. One day, I got really annoyed, and asked if they were done so I could continue speaking. They asked if I was all right because I seemed angry. 🤦🏻‍♀️", "My mother is this person. I just let her say the thing and then pretend I didn’t hear it and pick up where she interrupted…", "Met someone once who told me their go-to line is \"Actually, I wasn't done speaking.\" It seemed effective.", "Keep talking. I only really deal with this at work but fuck those people. I'm speaking and that fact didn't change just because you got bored and wanted a turn", "Just keep on talking, or say hold on I'm almost finished and keep on talking. \n\nDon't raise your voice.\n\nSomeone once told me, the louder someone gets, the quieter you should get because it makes them be quiet because it's harder to hear you. It actually works!\n\nI wish I could take this advice!", "Just keep interrupting them during their rant and then when they finally stop talking, you say \"as I was trying to say before I was rudely interrupted\". This works very well, as a former disgruntled call center employee I've had to use it many times on different people, some of them get offended and try to argue and some get the point right away. But either way it works and they won't interrupt you again (for this conversation at least)", "I’ve been in a situation like this at work. The SECOND the person interrupted me I stopped talking and held my hand up. The second the person stopped talking (if someone else chimed in I would interrupt them) I would make hard eye contact and ask them, “are you finished?” And resume at the exact same point where I was when they interrupted me. This worked for me. Good luck!", "I’m a person that can’t really control myself and I tend to interrupt people when I get excited. To be honest in my friend group we all just talk over each other and whoever’s the loudest is normally the one that gets to talk. But we all think it’s really funny. \n\nGenerally if I’m interrupted I just wait for an opening and say what I want to say", "It's very context-dependent. Some people have an emotional need to talk about certain things. Sometimes when it's habitual it's because of ADHD or other conditions.\n\nOtherwise, assuming it is a social interaction, there is a polite four-step process:\n\nStep 1. Allow them to interrupt and stop talking immediately. Allow 2 or 3 interruptions like this.\n\nStep 2. Just keep talking for 3 seconds when they start. Then if they continue, stop talking immediately. If they have any social skills they will understand and stop interrupting at this point. Allow 2 or 3 interruptions like this.\n\nStep 3. As soon as they interrupt, use their name and say, \"\\[Name\\], let me finish\" as politely, courteously, and calmly as possible, and continue immediately with what you were saying.\n\nStep 4. Disengage and don't bother. They don't want conversation, they want an audience. They are the protagonist engaging in a monologue. Your only purpose in the conversation is to act as an NPC prompting them for the next thing they want to talk **at** you about.\n\nI am a very good listener, professionally and personally. But as I have moved into middle-age, I have much much less tolerance for people like this in social settings.", "It sucks because my family life has been nothing but interrupting since I was old enough to remember and I catch myself doing it ALL THE TIME. Have to actively work on it to stop. \n\nBut if they don't realize it's a problem or don't try to be better then call them out. If they claim you don't let them speak, claim they don't let you finish speaking.", "It depends on context, but:\n- continue talking and finish your point\n- don't be afraid to interrupt them", "Is this a professional setting where you have to communicate, pass, information? Shut it down \"I need to get through this information, and we'll have open comments at the end.\" Is this a personal setting? If so, is your info more important? Then same as above. Is it conversational? Then its open space.", "Interrupt them every time they interrupt you. A simple \"I was speaking. Please allow me to fonish.\" And then continue.\n\nEventually they will either learn to wait or they will stop talking to you.", "Interject that you're not finished speaking. It'll (hopefully) embarrass him, but that's ok. He SHOULD be embarrassed. If he whines about not being allowed to speak, you can point out that he's now wasting time he could have used when his turn to speak happens. His tactic is to play victim when he gets called out for his rude behavior. Don't allow that to stand uncontested.", "If you start a sentence, finish it, regardless of when they attempt to interrupt. Then, calmly await their response. Basically, you lead the conversation the way you feel it should be taken and give them the respect they haven’t been willing to give you — that is to say that letting them walk over you is not being respectful, it’s just being a pushover.", "If they are someone important to you... \n\nDo the I statements.....\n\n\nI feel unappreciated when you interrupt...\n\nI will greatly appreciate it if you would let me finish...\n\n\nIf You have no need for them (other than whatever reason you're talking to them) let them know they are doing that... If they continue \nThen write it /print it .... Send it on email /text...\n\nObviously they are confident in their talking.... Take that away from them.... If they talk to you reply with an email /print /text... Until they confront you about it.... Then remind them...", "If talking to the person on the side about the interaction does not work. I find the best way to deal with this is to pause and let them talk. Let them finish. Then, without acknowledging anything they have said, start over at the beginning of what you were saying. This will make it apparent to them and others around.", "If it’s something I’ve addressed with them before, I typically either just walk away after the second time I’m interrupted this way, or I look as disinterested as humanly possible (yawn, adjust things on my desk, check my watch) until they pause and then continue as though they had not spoken.", "If it's this persistent, I would just disengage. Do you have to interact with this person?\n\nHave you seen what happens if you just keep talking? If you're already speaking to others, does this person recognize that you are still speaking and stop talking? It sounds strange but I've found this works for some.\n\nBeyond that, I'd make a point of, the next time they interrupt, interrupt them as well and say 'I wasn't finished talking, can I please finish?' and if they say no, then I guess at least you've made this person aware of every time they interrupt you, and if it gets annoying enough you could just walk away and anyone else listening into this conversation can see how unreasonable they are being.\n\nDealing with people like this is hard. Good luck.", "I've heard people recommend to stop what you're saying and let them speak it out. Then, restart your sentence From the Beginning. Restart at the beginning of your sentence Every Time they finish interrupting you.\n\nI personally don't do that, but I'm a push over...", "I tend to find making uncomfortable silences as a great power move. If they talk over you, once they finish, wait maybe three or four seconds - enough so it’s awkward - then say “as I was saying before…” then go back as if their comments didn’t happen. If you do this a few times, they’ll get uncomfortable and it’ll reinforce that you’re pissed until they stop doing it. You gotta be comfortable with doing it, but it’ll really get that point across. People *really* learn fast in uncomfortable silences. They learn doubly fast if you explain why it happened.", "I sometimes haven’t to interact with a woman at work who does the same thing. Since I work from home though, all of our interactions are through Teams (audio only) so I can’t show frustration physically. I usually try to be polite and just stop talking when she starts. I’ve tried abruptly stopping and saying ‘ohh sorry’ when she starts as well, but that doesn’t do anything. I’ve also tried just finishing my thought, but that doesn’t deter her; once she’s started she’s not stopping until she’s done. When her manager is on the call, she’ll apologize for her and ask whoever she was talking over to finish their thought. I know I should find a respectful way to say something, but I’m really adverse to confrontation.", "I say “let me finish real quick” or “hold on man, I’m not finished yet” in a calm tone and repeat it until I get to finish my statement, if it’s needed. Usually I get an “I’m sorry” or an “oh okay” after that, and the communication between both parties gets much better. I doubt you’ll get that from this person, but it’s honestly worth a shot! \n\nI’d say don’t focus on telling the person that you’re done talking, I’d focus on telling the person that you’re *not* done talking. I hope this helps!", "I maintain eye contact with who im speaking to, and hold up a \"wait a sec\" finger to whomever apparently has such a valid thing to contribute that they cant wait.\n\n Eye contact reaffirms i am communicating to my intended conversation partner, and continuing to talk while holding up a finger or palm tells the interrupter that i will not yield and they can wait their turn. As stated above; when you let them interrupt or talk over you, it just reinforces their behaviour. \n\nOccasionally if theyre determined to just get louder ill outdo them by literally breaking mid sentence to glare and yell WAIT YOUR TURN before returning to my point. if they want to play the volume game, i will beat them at it. And swiftly.", "I loudly gasp and say, \"I'm so sorry! The middle of my sentence interrupted the beginning of yours! Anyway-\" But I'm getting more rude the older I get, so.", "I know I'm guilty of saying, \"I guess I'm done.\" Usually stops them from talking and they have the puzzled look on their faces.", "I just say “ let me complete…”, “let me speak”. I once had this person speaking over me repeatedly and cutting me off constantly in a group meeting- so I said “ am I not audible”? All these shut them up immediately.", "I just keep talking till I finish My sentence. sometimes I will say, sorry I was talking while you were interrupting Bad habit, I know.", "I just have when we get the same idea to speak at the same time but they are quicker dl we just wait or wot", "I just give them lots of time after they are done talking to let them have silence in the air so they can realize their turn to talk is over.", "I have a friend of 20 years who gets drunk with myself and the says the very things the OP mentioned but really he’s the one who doesn’t listen to anyone, unless it’s a topic that interests him. It’s frustrating and I no longer to speak him or him in my life, as because as soon as it’s a subject of of his knowledge or interests he’s dismissive of it. He’s even said that he’s not interested in the conversation but my other friend was but he decided the loudest person in the room, is the most heard.", "I have a buddy that has the same pause time as me. So one of us says something, pauses, and then both of us try to speak. This always results in one of us interrupting the other person rather unintentionally. If this is the case, shorten your pause time when you are talking so you don't get interrupted. Also, if this is the case, lengthen your pause time when the other person is talking.\n\nAnother advantage of altering your pause times, is that you give the other person the opportunity to work harder and look ruder while trying to interrupt you. Also, I agree with some of the given advice that you finish your thoughts and make the points that you need to make without repeating yourself. I have friends that handled interrupters well using these techniques in group settings.\n\nOne friend tolerated his interrupting co-worker while giving that co-worker every opportunity to make himself look foolish. Within the next 6 months, multiple employees (including my friend) refused to work with that rude, interrupting co-worker on future projects. The company terminated The Interrupter not because he was repeatedly rude but because he couldn't perform his job.", "I hate this too and it happens so much that I get to practice my, \"Muscle through the interruption. Keep talking and finish your point regardless of two voices.\" technique.\n\nSeriously, finish your end of the discussion. Don't cede any verbal ground. Don't eat your words for the sake of making it civil or less awkward. \n\nMake it obvious that you weren't done. If it's just the two of you finish your point and walk off. If it's more than one person then continue your sentence directly to the other people. They'll view them as rude, because I'm sure they interrupt others as well", "I had a co-worker that would do this over the phone. It was exhausting.\n\nOne time I just didn't stop talking. I was impressed at how long she continued to try to talk over me. It was probably close to 10 seconds that she was trying to verbally over power me, but I just kept saying what I had to say. I'm sure she didn't hear me and I sure didn't catch anything she was saying. \n\nShe didn't like me much after that, but I don't care. It wasn't a relationship that we with fostering.", "I find it useful to just stop, stare and not say anything for a few moments after they finished speaking. Ideally, the serial interrupter will realize what they’re doing and make an effort to rein in their rudeness. Otherwise, slapping can sometimes be effective.", "I deal with this with my dad, he's knows it's bad and he tries hard not to do it but it happens haha\n\nThe way I deal with it is that I keep talking, don't stop talking when they start. Just keep talking as if they're not talking. It's reeeeally effective, you'll probably only have to do it once. It's embarassing when they have to stop talking because you haven't stopped. How can they complain about you finishing your sentence? Know what I mean? They cut you off and you keep talking, they'll shut up 100% of the time AND you weren't rude.", "How odd. If you point out you're done speaking, then that means you're giving him a chance to speak. There's no logic in the argument.", "Have a notecard that says \"you just interrupted me\" and hold it up every time he does so. The worse he does it, the closer to his face you bring it.", "Happens a lot with a dude I work with. Usually I just emd up getting louder and louder till the point where I'm screaming if I have to.", "Fight arrogance with arrogance.\n\nSmile, and then ask them if they like it?\n\nThen find a new friend, job, spouse etc", "Either keep talking til they get annoyed or just stop talking and stare until there is an awkward amount of silence. If they start, rinse and repeat. They will get the hint. If they don’t. Just stop talking all together and end the conversation.", "Dealt with this many times over 25 years in a combo of retail and healthcare. Couple of things I do, I'll let the first one slide then pointedly ignore the interrupter and pick up where I left off before the interruption. Second time I look at the interrupter and say, \"I'm not done talking. Stop interrupting me.\" Usually embarrasses them enough to shut up. If they do it again I get loud and tell the interrupter directly, \"You think you are more important than everyone else, you're not. This meeting is over. I will continue discussing with xyz and you won't be there.\"\n\nI understand people are not confrontational. My stomach twists on itself when these situations occur, but direct calling it out is the way to go. Pretty sure the company Stryker has me on a list because I've gone off on so many of their pushy interrupting sales reps over the years.", "Change the subject with a hard cut again. If the person doesn't realize his mistake then, it's time to stop spending time with them.", "Calmlyand without raising your voice, just finish your sentence. \n\nIts an affective way of assertive dominance without aggression and is a proven technique to get people to respect what you say.\n\nYour words have a level of importance and respect attached so don't let the interruption happen. :)", "Call them out on it in the moment, and call it what it is - an interruption. You can be polite and professional while still drawing attention to the unwanted behavior and the impact it is having on you and others: \"Please don't interrupt me, John, I find it very disrespectful and it makes it difficult for me to engage with what you have to say.\"\n\nHe needs to know that his actions have consequences. He's ticked off people he works with, and unfortunately if no one is telling him that he might be unaware.", "Bring other people into the conversation. They might agree with you that they are overspeaking every time.", "Best way is to straight up call it out in front of everybody, be loud and confrontational about it, this has always worked for me.\n\n“HEY! David, stop interrupting me, you can talk once I am done.”\n\nThey’ll be reluctant to be called out again, and trust me, everybody else can see they are talking over you.", "As a person which ADHD, I tend to do this a lot. I’m always paying attention to my behaviour in business meetings and when I realize I’m doing it, I apologize and say “I’m going to shut my mouth and let everyone else speak” and sometimes I literally have to hold my lips together with my fingers. It always makes people laugh and they usually understand me.\n\nThat being said, the person you are interacting may be facing something similar. I suggest you politely mention this to them in a separate conversation and let them know that you would make a signal to them the next time they are doing it. If they are not an asshole they might understand and may try to do something to avoid it.", "1. Let them finish.\n2. Act like they didn’t say a damn thing.\n3. Finish what you were saying.\n4. Repeat as necessary.", "\"please listen\" and \"let me finish\" has always been my go to. It really shows everyone (including the person) that they can't hold a proper conversation with a proper back and forth as opposed to just talking as much as they can.", "\"I'm sorry that the middle of my sentence interrupted the start of yours\"\n\nUsually I just stop talking and give them THE LOOK making sure that if there are other people around us, they notice it at least. Then when there's a gap in the other person's speech I say 'I wasn't finished talking' or 'I was talking'", "This may be a neurodivergence on his part. Please try not to take it personally. If it is a neurodivergence, clear and direct feedback is the way to go. “Hey, do you mind if I finish my thought?” Is much more freeing than you holding onto dread and resentment for months. Good luck!", "Respect my authoritah!\nIn other words you let them know they are not being considerate of others...\nBut if it's your old father, cherish everything he does cuz you're gonna miss even those irritating conversations.\nHappy new year!", "My girlfriend is the loudest speaker on the planet lol. She's partially deaf and does not hesitate to do just this. \n\nI've learned to live with it as it's not really her fault. She does work on it, but easily forgets im right next to her. But let me tell you.. one little arguement you'd think I'd forget our kid at school or something. I've learned to just shut up. \n\nFun story: We went to see the Christmas tree in Rockefeller, our son fell asleep so we took a cab. Of course got stuck in traffic so I was adamant we take the subway home.. My girlfiend was clearly not, because some dick cheese took this as \"he needed to intervene.\" Not knowing she's partially deaf. \n\nHe stepped in between me and my son and I could literally smell the alcohol on his breath. I beat the breaks off of him. Hate that it had to be that way, and this wasnt before we calmy explained shes nearly deaf and a sceam-talker; But I guess the moral of the story is, if youre aware you're doing this & or talk loud consider the uncomfortable situations you're putting others in.. \n\nIt was infact not a fun story, but hopefully a lesson in there lol.", "Let them throw the fit and don’t stop talking until you’re done. People wait for others to stop talking. I’ll keep going pretending they don’t exists lol. \n\nLearn some respect or I’ll shove some down your throat.", "If the information isn't important, I would just let them go on and pretend to care bout what they're saying but not give them my thoughts all that much since they seem to not care in taking the time to listen.", "Understand interrupting can be a sign of adhd and difficulty controlling impulses so they can’t wait. Be understanding of it if that’s the case….", "As someone who's guilty of this to an EXTREME degree, just get your elbows in there, metaphorically.\n\nI talk way too much, I know this, when people make a point to get me to stop or make a point that I've interrupted them, I become aware of my non-shutting-the-fuck-up-iosity and try to pipe down.\n\nI also want to change, if he doesn't, this isn't your problem and you can just ignore it. Why does this person not having communication skills affect your emotions? It should not.", "I do that more often than I would like to admit. Sorry! I'm very impulsive. If I don't say something immediately, I either end up forgetting what I was going to say or not paying attention to the conversation because my thoughts are racing in my head. I know it is a horrible habit, but honestly, I can't help it. Fortunately, everyone who knows me expects interruptions from me, and I love them for tolerating me for having that fault! 🥴" ]

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[ "How do i improve my body's motor function? I often have a hard time at doing simple tasks, simply because my body won't respond as I want it to. Like when pouring a glass of water, well damn I just spilled half a can. I just get shaky, or whatever, not excactly sure why. Or maybe im just half retarded. Got any tips?", "How do i improve my body's motor function? I often have a hard time at doing simple tasks, simply because my body won't respond as I want it to. Like when pouring a glass of water, well damn I just spilled half a can. I just get shaky, or whatever, not excactly sure why. Or maybe im just half retarded. Got any tips?" ]

[ "You have to be very deliberate with what you're doing as opposed to just going about yourself. One thing I've noticed to help is to do little things with your non-dominant hand, like brushing your teeth or eating, it helps with more complete motor control. ", "Focus on the task at hand. If you're also clumsy and stumble into things, learn yourself to carefully walk around obstacles or things you usually stumble into, take things into account before they happen. It will eventually become an automatic process." ]

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[ "How do you keep mosquitoes away in the summer? This summer especially im worried about the amount of mosquitoes that will be around, they apparently love me and i will get eaten alive in places where my friends have no trouble. Honestly, i don't have bad body odor or sweat more then usual. How could i prevent these dam insects from making me itch all summer!? \n\n", "How do you keep mosquitoes away in the summer? This summer especially im worried about the amount of mosquitoes that will be around, they apparently love me and i will get eaten alive in places where my friends have no trouble. Honestly, i don't have bad body odor or sweat more then usual. How could i prevent these dam insects from making me itch all summer!? \n\n", "How do you keep mosquitoes away in the summer? This summer especially im worried about the amount of mosquitoes that will be around, they apparently love me and i will get eaten alive in places where my friends have no trouble. Honestly, i don't have bad body odor or sweat more then usual. How could i prevent these dam insects from making me itch all summer!? \n\n", "How do you keep mosquitoes away in the summer? This summer especially im worried about the amount of mosquitoes that will be around, they apparently love me and i will get eaten alive in places where my friends have no trouble. Honestly, i don't have bad body odor or sweat more then usual. How could i prevent these dam insects from making me itch all summer!? \n\n", "How do you keep mosquitoes away in the summer? This summer especially im worried about the amount of mosquitoes that will be around, they apparently love me and i will get eaten alive in places where my friends have no trouble. Honestly, i don't have bad body odor or sweat more then usual. How could i prevent these dam insects from making me itch all summer!? \n\n", "How do you keep mosquitoes away in the summer? This summer especially im worried about the amount of mosquitoes that will be around, they apparently love me and i will get eaten alive in places where my friends have no trouble. Honestly, i don't have bad body odor or sweat more then usual. How could i prevent these dam insects from making me itch all summer!? \n\n", "How do you keep mosquitoes away in the summer? This summer especially im worried about the amount of mosquitoes that will be around, they apparently love me and i will get eaten alive in places where my friends have no trouble. Honestly, i don't have bad body odor or sweat more then usual. How could i prevent these dam insects from making me itch all summer!? \n\n", "How do you keep mosquitoes away in the summer? This summer especially im worried about the amount of mosquitoes that will be around, they apparently love me and i will get eaten alive in places where my friends have no trouble. Honestly, i don't have bad body odor or sweat more then usual. How could i prevent these dam insects from making me itch all summer!? \n\n", "How do you keep mosquitoes away in the summer? This summer especially im worried about the amount of mosquitoes that will be around, they apparently love me and i will get eaten alive in places where my friends have no trouble. Honestly, i don't have bad body odor or sweat more then usual. How could i prevent these dam insects from making me itch all summer!? \n\n", "How do you keep mosquitoes away in the summer? This summer especially im worried about the amount of mosquitoes that will be around, they apparently love me and i will get eaten alive in places where my friends have no trouble. Honestly, i don't have bad body odor or sweat more then usual. How could i prevent these dam insects from making me itch all summer!? \n\n", "How do you keep mosquitoes away in the summer? This summer especially im worried about the amount of mosquitoes that will be around, they apparently love me and i will get eaten alive in places where my friends have no trouble. Honestly, i don't have bad body odor or sweat more then usual. How could i prevent these dam insects from making me itch all summer!? \n\n", "How do you keep mosquitoes away in the summer? This summer especially im worried about the amount of mosquitoes that will be around, they apparently love me and i will get eaten alive in places where my friends have no trouble. Honestly, i don't have bad body odor or sweat more then usual. How could i prevent these dam insects from making me itch all summer!? \n\n", "How do you keep mosquitoes away in the summer? This summer especially im worried about the amount of mosquitoes that will be around, they apparently love me and i will get eaten alive in places where my friends have no trouble. Honestly, i don't have bad body odor or sweat more then usual. How could i prevent these dam insects from making me itch all summer!? \n\n" ]

[ "So my buddy worked at a golf course over the summer and at times he would be out there at night time and get bitten up by mosquitos. One of the older guys told him to come to work and put dryer sheets in his shorts and the mosquitos would leave him alone. He did it the rest of the summer and never was touched by another mosquito. Not sure how it works or if it's even plausible but it sounds interesting.", "The essential oil in cat nip repels mosquitoes better then most pesticides.\nhttp://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2001/08/010828075659.htm\n\n ", "Eat lots of garlic. This seriously works, as the garlic smell in your blood is unappetizing to them. I am one of those people who attracts mosquitoes like crazy, and when I have food with garlic for lunch, they leave me alone for the rest of the day. I suspect that this is where garlic/vampire lore originates, but I haven't researched it.", "Citronella products are cheap and you don't have to put them on, and they definitely work. Burn 3-4 coils and a pair of candles all evening right around where you're hanging out and it should keep them at bay for the most part. \n\nIf you're really desperate, I understand that vicks vapo rub is a very effective deterrent as the heavy scent of the medication is more than a mosquito can handle - but I can't imagine that's something most people want to do unless the problem is severe. ", "[This is what I use](http://www.amazon.com/Cutter-95917-Natural-Repellent-6-Ounce/dp/B004J1IS5U). Doesn't smell bad, just spray it on and rub it all over.\n\n", "This is the stuff http://www.rei.com/product/799529/sawyer-jungle-juice-100-insect-repellent-98-percent-deet-25-fl-oz", "Some friends of mine swear by Avon skin so soft.\n\nhttp://shop.avon.com/shop/search.aspx?find_spec=skin+so+soft&search.x=0&search.y=0&department=search\n\nThey go for a simple lotion with citronella\n", "I think I saw this on another LPT post (can't remember when, I'll link if I can find it), but they said rubbing dryer sheets on yourself will (help) repel them.", "The short answer is DEET applied to your clothing and uncovered skin will help mask your scent.\n\nAlmost any city/county/state website as well as the CDC website can answer this question pretty succinctly, but in the interest of keeping y'all on reddit:\n\n1. try to determine what type of mosquito is causing the problem in your area. \nAre you urban NY or suburban / rural? If you're the latter, outside of convincing your county to do spraying (either adult or the more environmentally conscience, larval), you are likely looking at reducing the ability of mosquitoes to find / bite you. \nIf you're urban, you are likely dealing with Aedes albopictus, aka the Asian tiger. They have discernible black and white striped legs and body, they're far more crafty at avoiding spray fogging techniques, they hold longer office hours (not just dusk and dawn) than most of the other breeds, and they easily lay thousands of eggs in the tiniest amount of water standing in an artificial container.\n\n2. If you live in an urban area and that damn Asian tiger seems to be the culprit, start now! Investigate your yard, neighborhood, etc for any places that water can accumulate and *stand for 5 or more days*. Plastic tarp, tires, birdbaths, hoses, gutters, garbage cans, plant dishes, and corrugated drainage pipes are some of the most common targets as they collect water that doesn't easily evaporate. Either get rid of these items, modify them (mosquito donuts in the bird bath, fine mesh coverings for the hoses), or check them every 5 days or so to empty them of standing water. Also, if you live in an urban area, it's going to take teamwork with your neighbors.\n\n3. Once they're here, fogging (insecticides) and the use of smoke devices (candles, campfires, etc) will discourage and disorient mosquitoes. They find you through body heat and odor. Perfume, cologne and eating food that causes your sweat to be pungent make you an easier target, but just breathing (they are attracted to CO2) is usually enough. Loose fitting clothing that covers as much body as possible (I know that's not going to be popular advice to the redditors) will make it difficult for mosquitoes to bite. Also, see the DEET advice. ", "Mosquito Patches. They contain Vitamin B1, they don't keep all of the mosquitoes away, but a good number of them. I am like you in my attractiveness to mosquitoes, but I find the patches bring my mosquito-attractive-level down to slightly below everyone around me. ", "I know there can be a lot of faulty ones/ineffective ones, but a really good ultrasonic device (like one that clips onto your belt) can keep them almost completely away. However, I don't recommend using this method once it gets dark- apparently the ultrasound mimics bats (which is what repels the mosquitoes), and this caused a bunch of them to swoop down on my grandma once. Hilarious for us, but not so much fun for her.", "A Mexican friend showed me this trick she had gotten from her grandmother and it works like a charm: Slice a couple of limes in half and sprinkle them well with ground cloves. Set these around your patio for cookouts and the bugs will scram. Something about the clove oils activated with the acid in the lime juice, I'd guess. All I know is we weren't bitten all night.", "Take a drug rug (if you've got one) and wear it to some bonfires. The smell of smoke trapped in the fabric keeps most insects at bay" ]

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[ "How can I think faster and more effectively? I notice myself actually saying each and every word in my mind while I'm deep in thought. So, if I try to multitask and I have 3-4 things to focus on at the same time, I lose all control. How can I change the way I think? \n\nThe actual question could also be - 'How can I multitask efficiently?' but whatever.\n\nThanks.\n\n", "How can I think faster and more effectively? I notice myself actually saying each and every word in my mind while I'm deep in thought. So, if I try to multitask and I have 3-4 things to focus on at the same time, I lose all control. How can I change the way I think? \n\nThe actual question could also be - 'How can I multitask efficiently?' but whatever.\n\nThanks.\n\n", "How can I think faster and more effectively? I notice myself actually saying each and every word in my mind while I'm deep in thought. So, if I try to multitask and I have 3-4 things to focus on at the same time, I lose all control. How can I change the way I think? \n\nThe actual question could also be - 'How can I multitask efficiently?' but whatever.\n\nThanks.\n\n", "How can I think faster and more effectively? I notice myself actually saying each and every word in my mind while I'm deep in thought. So, if I try to multitask and I have 3-4 things to focus on at the same time, I lose all control. How can I change the way I think? \n\nThe actual question could also be - 'How can I multitask efficiently?' but whatever.\n\nThanks.\n\n", "How can I think faster and more effectively? I notice myself actually saying each and every word in my mind while I'm deep in thought. So, if I try to multitask and I have 3-4 things to focus on at the same time, I lose all control. How can I change the way I think? \n\nThe actual question could also be - 'How can I multitask efficiently?' but whatever.\n\nThanks.\n\n", "How can I think faster and more effectively? I notice myself actually saying each and every word in my mind while I'm deep in thought. So, if I try to multitask and I have 3-4 things to focus on at the same time, I lose all control. How can I change the way I think? \n\nThe actual question could also be - 'How can I multitask efficiently?' but whatever.\n\nThanks.\n\n", "How can I think faster and more effectively? I notice myself actually saying each and every word in my mind while I'm deep in thought. So, if I try to multitask and I have 3-4 things to focus on at the same time, I lose all control. How can I change the way I think? \n\nThe actual question could also be - 'How can I multitask efficiently?' but whatever.\n\nThanks.\n\n", "How can I think faster and more effectively? I notice myself actually saying each and every word in my mind while I'm deep in thought. So, if I try to multitask and I have 3-4 things to focus on at the same time, I lose all control. How can I change the way I think? \n\nThe actual question could also be - 'How can I multitask efficiently?' but whatever.\n\nThanks.\n\n", "How can I think faster and more effectively? I notice myself actually saying each and every word in my mind while I'm deep in thought. So, if I try to multitask and I have 3-4 things to focus on at the same time, I lose all control. How can I change the way I think? \n\nThe actual question could also be - 'How can I multitask efficiently?' but whatever.\n\nThanks.\n\n", "How can I think faster and more effectively? I notice myself actually saying each and every word in my mind while I'm deep in thought. So, if I try to multitask and I have 3-4 things to focus on at the same time, I lose all control. How can I change the way I think? \n\nThe actual question could also be - 'How can I multitask efficiently?' but whatever.\n\nThanks.\n\n", "How can I think faster and more effectively? I notice myself actually saying each and every word in my mind while I'm deep in thought. So, if I try to multitask and I have 3-4 things to focus on at the same time, I lose all control. How can I change the way I think? \n\nThe actual question could also be - 'How can I multitask efficiently?' but whatever.\n\nThanks.\n\n", "How can I think faster and more effectively? I notice myself actually saying each and every word in my mind while I'm deep in thought. So, if I try to multitask and I have 3-4 things to focus on at the same time, I lose all control. How can I change the way I think? \n\nThe actual question could also be - 'How can I multitask efficiently?' but whatever.\n\nThanks.\n\n", "How can I think faster and more effectively? I notice myself actually saying each and every word in my mind while I'm deep in thought. So, if I try to multitask and I have 3-4 things to focus on at the same time, I lose all control. How can I change the way I think? \n\nThe actual question could also be - 'How can I multitask efficiently?' but whatever.\n\nThanks.\n\n", "How can I think faster and more effectively? I notice myself actually saying each and every word in my mind while I'm deep in thought. So, if I try to multitask and I have 3-4 things to focus on at the same time, I lose all control. How can I change the way I think? \n\nThe actual question could also be - 'How can I multitask efficiently?' but whatever.\n\nThanks.\n\n", "How can I think faster and more effectively? I notice myself actually saying each and every word in my mind while I'm deep in thought. So, if I try to multitask and I have 3-4 things to focus on at the same time, I lose all control. How can I change the way I think? \n\nThe actual question could also be - 'How can I multitask efficiently?' but whatever.\n\nThanks.\n\n", "How can I think faster and more effectively? I notice myself actually saying each and every word in my mind while I'm deep in thought. So, if I try to multitask and I have 3-4 things to focus on at the same time, I lose all control. How can I change the way I think? \n\nThe actual question could also be - 'How can I multitask efficiently?' but whatever.\n\nThanks.\n\n", "How can I think faster and more effectively? I notice myself actually saying each and every word in my mind while I'm deep in thought. So, if I try to multitask and I have 3-4 things to focus on at the same time, I lose all control. How can I change the way I think? \n\nThe actual question could also be - 'How can I multitask efficiently?' but whatever.\n\nThanks.\n\n", "How can I think faster and more effectively? I notice myself actually saying each and every word in my mind while I'm deep in thought. So, if I try to multitask and I have 3-4 things to focus on at the same time, I lose all control. How can I change the way I think? \n\nThe actual question could also be - 'How can I multitask efficiently?' but whatever.\n\nThanks.\n\n", "How can I think faster and more effectively? I notice myself actually saying each and every word in my mind while I'm deep in thought. So, if I try to multitask and I have 3-4 things to focus on at the same time, I lose all control. How can I change the way I think? \n\nThe actual question could also be - 'How can I multitask efficiently?' but whatever.\n\nThanks.\n\n" ]

[ "Eat well, exercise, learn continuously (read quality thought provoking writings. Only about 0.1% of Reddit qualifies as this). Other than this, you can't really go back in time and tell your mom she should probably not have that 3rd glass of wine or cigarette while prego. \n", "Make sure you're getting enough sleep. Without enough sleep people tend to struggle to think clearly which leads to jumbled thoughts. Caffeine helps motivate you to act on some of those thoughts but it doesn't help you focus. If anything it makes it worse. Also, Adderall. ", "Sleep often and enough, this cannot be overstated. Even though you may not feel like your work is suffering, it is.\n\nEat balanced and work out. There's a reason most top chess players are in shape and it's not because they burn that many calories by thinking. It allows you to concentrate for longer periods of time without getting tired or distracted.\n\nAs others have pointed out, multitasking isn't a real thing for humans. When you have multiple ideas floating through your head at once, clouding everything up (which happens to me at times, hope I'm not alone), try to write them down and go over the list one by one. It also helps calming you down which in turn increases productivity.\n\nWork systematic. While you don't need a system to work out how much change you're supposed to receive at your favourite grocery store, it can help tremendously for more difficult problems.\n\nThink before you act. I do feel like a hypocrite saying this as it is something I fail to do myself but not only does it make you come across as a more inteligent person, you'll enhance your productivity by missing out on a few headaches later on.\n\nKeep learning and being creative. Most good ideas aren't arrived at through determination but rather creativity. Brainstorm every once in a while and widen your horizon.\n\nI saw someone recommend caffeine. Personally this doesn't work at all for me. Sure, you're awake rather then asleep but it's the kind off awake where anything beyond counting to ten is too difficult. ", "As humans can't keep their concentration up for more than 1 hour, you should consider regular breaks. Not long, but try to relax a bit for 3 minutes. Walk to the kitchen and drink some water, look out the window and stretch yourself and those kind of things. It helps to keep you concentrated after. Also sit up straight, it suggest to your brain that you are seriously awake, even when your not really :-)", "I'd recommend reading Kahneman's Thinking fast and slow. It's a terrific text on thinking faster and with more efficiency. ", "1. As mentioned by others, don't multitask. Prioritize and focus on discrete tasks. Enough was said on this issue so I won't belabor it. \n\n2. \"Slow is smooth, and smooth is fast.\" People that screw up a task often do it because they rush through it, only to have to go back and do it right the second or third time. Same thing when attempting to \"think.\" When you're thinking, you're basically trying to solve a problem/puzzle. This usually requires that subsets of the problem be solved in order. First find out the order you need to go in. Then make sure you do each step correctly...do not rush and make baseless assumptions. After you do the step correctly, don't rethink it...you did it right the first time, remember? Then go through each step in order. \n\nDoing the above will save you time by allowing you to arrive at your solution quicker. Are you technically thinking quicker? No. But you are getting there FASTER. You can't think more quickly, that was already set when you were conceived , but you canpeople. more efficiently. \n\n", "Fasting\n\nhttp://observer.com/2016/02/the-number-one-secret-to-superhuman-willpower/\n\n>Superhuman Brain Functioning\n\n>Fasting actually increases your number of brain cells. Here is a short list of some of the scientifically backed cognitive benefits of fasting:\n\n>Short-term fasting induces profound neuronal autophagy (e.g., “self-eating,”), which is how cells recycle waste material, down-regulate wasteful processes, and repair themselves. Brain health is dependent on neuronal autophagy. Another study shows that interference of neuronal autophagy prompts neuro-degeneration. Simply put, without the process of autophagy, brains neither develop properly nor function optimally.\n\n>Fasting increases levels of brain-derived neurotrophic factor (BDNF), a protein that interacts with neurons in the hippocampus, cortex, and basal forebrain (the parts of the brain that regulate memory, learning, and higher cognitive function — uniquely human stuff). BDNF helps existing neurons survive while stimulating the growth of new neurons and the development of neuro-synaptic connectivity. Low levels of BDNF are linked to Alzheimer’s,memory loss, and cognitive impairment.\n\n>Evidence suggests that low BDNF is related to depression. Indeed, antidepressants increase BDNF levels. Thus, many doctors believe fasting can reduce depression.\n\n>Fasting reduces the likelihood of having a stroke.\n\n>Fasting reduces the oxidative stress, mitochondrial dysfunction, and cognitive decline that normally results from brain trauma. Research has found that a 24 hour (but not a 48 hour) fast was neuro-protective against trauma to the brain like a concussion.\n\n>Fasting reduces cognitive stressors that bring about aging, cognitive decline, and chronic diseases.\n\n>Fasting reduces your risk of cancer.\n\n>Fasting increases your longevity and lifespan.\n\n>Fasting enhances learning and memory.\n\n>Fasting elevates your ability to focus and concentrate.\nIf you’ve fasted before, you can attest to the radical mental benefits of fasting. If you haven’t, please start a regular practice of fasting. Over a period of time, you’ll be startled by the cognitive results.", "through study of cognitive psychology or neuroscience we've figured out that humans have a certain amount of *resources* they can use at any one time. This exact number has varied slightly from different sources, but the basic premise is **We can't add to our resource pool**.\n\nThe key here is that we can *Reduce* the amount of resources that certain actions take. The way we do this is through what cognitive psychologists refer to as *automaticity*, aka **Forming Habits**. The more time you spend actively processing something, like focusing on it, the more skilled you get at whatever you are doing, and over time you will develop reflexive habits based on your previous actions. If you focus on the skill and make sure you have a sound foundation, after time you will be able to do the skill without using almost any resources at all, allowing you to better do whatever it is. \n\n**Thinking is a skill, and it requires as much practice as any other**\n\nThe other thing when it comes to multi-tasking is understanding resource requirements as what they are. **Task-Specific**. If you are trying to read, don't listen to music with lyrics. Both make your brain run processing engines geared toward language skills, causing you to double up the load, where as for instance many people can sew, knit, or do other projects with their hands while carrying on a full conversation or watching a movie. This motor function of sending information rarely interacts at all with the sensory function of absorbing information.\n\nThat's the scientific side of it. Hope that helps mate.\nCheers.\n\n", "This is not an answer Reddit is going to like ... Stop smoking weed.\n\nSource: Smoked for 15 years, quit 6 months ago and I can clearly see how my brain is going faster, not to mention I am less neurotic now.", "Learn sudoku, including strategies. Play timed sukoku on a smartphone. I prefer the app '10,000 Sudokus'. Searching for patterns as fast as I can keeps my mind quick and sharp (though my wife would argue that it is not, nor ever has been, quick or sharp - but that's for another subreddit)", "Just relax. Calm down, play Bob Ross in the background and yet tune it out. Then sit and think, one at a time. This way, all is taken out systematically. If you have a tough problem, go for a stroll at the park and look at something that makes you feel joy (for me: clouds). Maybe play thought-provoking music, or just listen to the world, but don't rush. You have plenty of time to do what you need to do. Above all else, take the time to question everything, and regularly re-question as your wisdom grows.", "Practice is key- I used to suck at 1 minute chess after playing it daily for a while I'm actually now pretty good- and this is As a middle aged guy. The brAin responds if you practice the behavior of thoughts you want \n", "Play a lot of Tetris. I know it sounds goofy, but I used to play Tetris a few hours a day. And it really seemed to help the speed of my thought process.", "Join a fun, improv theatre group! It makes you more cleaver and helps you to practice thinking in your feet :) ", "I used to be addicted to playing online games like half life which gave me quicker thinking I realise now, quick thinking makes for short temper too, so you're probably better off living in the slow lane", "Diet and exercise. I've found that collegiate level writing improves dramatically on the days where I've have a rigorous work out and a healthy lunch. ", "A friend turned me onto something called Phenibut recently. No ill effects observed as of yet. It's a nootropic as well. I don't know too much about it unfortunately.", "\nDon't multitask and check your thyroid...(thyroid controls everything from metabolism to how fast you think)", "Don't take drugs. Coffee/cigarettes are fine if you have to. Read a bit. Look up words in the dictionary if you don't understand them. I liked another comment here that suggested playing Tetris. Try Chess. " ]

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[ "How do you not make silly mistakes (specifically on testing)? Hi everyone! Title mostly says it all. Often when I take tests I understand the material fairly well but exceedingly often make really stupid mistakes. Even though I repeatedly check over my work (e.g. for Math) during the test, something like this always pops up. What is an effective way to keep the frequency of preventable mistakes on any sort of test (e.g. comprehension, grammar, math, science) to a minimum? Any help would be greatly appreciated :D", "How do you not make silly mistakes (specifically on testing)? Hi everyone! Title mostly says it all. Often when I take tests I understand the material fairly well but exceedingly often make really stupid mistakes. Even though I repeatedly check over my work (e.g. for Math) during the test, something like this always pops up. What is an effective way to keep the frequency of preventable mistakes on any sort of test (e.g. comprehension, grammar, math, science) to a minimum? Any help would be greatly appreciated :D", "How do you not make silly mistakes (specifically on testing)? Hi everyone! Title mostly says it all. Often when I take tests I understand the material fairly well but exceedingly often make really stupid mistakes. Even though I repeatedly check over my work (e.g. for Math) during the test, something like this always pops up. What is an effective way to keep the frequency of preventable mistakes on any sort of test (e.g. comprehension, grammar, math, science) to a minimum? Any help would be greatly appreciated :D" ]

[ "Read the question twice. Also note if the question uses the work 'not' or similar word which would make the answer the opposite to the same question without such a word. Although 'not' is usually in bold in the exams I've taken before.", "Familiarize yourself with the material more, calm yourself before the exam in a regular way, work slower, and/or write notes at the top of your test as soon as possible if you make the same mistakes.\n\nThe important thing, for calming down, is to do it in a way you typically use. Maybe you have a special snack, or like to listen to a certain song beforehand, whatever it is, make sure it's something you're used to.", "Dyscalculia is dyslexia-of-numbers. In dyscalculia you can understand math concepts perfectly well but are plagued by trivial arithmetic errors, especially transpositions (writing 43 when you mean. 34). \n\nAn old proofreaders trick is to read the page upside-down when checking your work. \n\nIf you're able to, read your work out loud to yourself. \n\nFor things like papers you do at home, \"rest\" the document 24 hours before proof reading, then print the paper in a strange font or on colored paper. This \"wakes up your brain\" and prevents the \"see what you want to see\" phenomenon that occurs when you've reviewed a document many times. " ]

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[ "How do I save a program (and it's files) so if I get a new PC I can easily transfer it without reinstalling/doing th e setup again? ", "How do I save a program (and it's files) so if I get a new PC I can easily transfer it without reinstalling/doing th e setup again? ", "How do I save a program (and it's files) so if I get a new PC I can easily transfer it without reinstalling/doing th e setup again? ", "How do I save a program (and it's files) so if I get a new PC I can easily transfer it without reinstalling/doing th e setup again? ", "How do I save a program (and it's files) so if I get a new PC I can easily transfer it without reinstalling/doing th e setup again? ", "How do I save a program (and it's files) so if I get a new PC I can easily transfer it without reinstalling/doing th e setup again? " ]

[ "If you're talking about a Windows PC, there's also some data hiding in various other locations and the registry, for each installed app. If you were to note each change when it was first installed, and then mimic those changes after you move it, it MIGHT work. No promises there. What you're trying to do is terribly difficult.", "This is sort of like asking \"How do I pack my furniture so that it's easiest to get into place when I move?\" It depends on the furniture, where you're moving into, how you're moving the things.\n\nWell behaved applications have options/tools for exporting their configuration/data. Poorly behaved applications are probably best handled in the way they're intended to be used; not only are they poor by value of not having clearly defined \"installation\" versus \"user\" data, if they are poorly designed in this way you lose the ability to assume that trying to force the application to accept this transplanted data will work at all.", "There is a software but I cnat remember the name that downloads all your applications, programs and other software you want automaticaly but I don know if what you are exacly looking for exsists ouside of just transfering the hard drive. ", "In most cases, unless you buy the original install disks or it is software downloaded via an account, like Steam, the short answer is, you probably can't. What you are trying to do is to copy a program from one HD to another and, again, without the installer, it is not likely to work.\n\nThis sounds like a question from someone trying to pirate software.", "I use OneDrive with my Office subscription to automatically safe files there so I can access them anywhere, but I tend to just reinstall the programs on whatever device.", "Clone your hard drive. This is the most complete and sure fire way to have your operating system, programs and data be exactly like it was on your old computer. I suggest Macrium Reflect Free, it's the best cloning software I've used yet. It's for Windows, I can't recall if they have Mac or Linux versions. " ]

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[ "Tips for a transcontinental move from NYC to San Francisco Hi everyone, me and my husband are moving from a 1 BR in New York to a 3 BR in California in late September. We have both been in NYC all our lives and have no experience with big moves like these. What tips do you have for packing/ transporting the things? We are going to be shipping some things via checked bags (like clothes, I guess) and hiring a moving company with a big truck to drive some other things. What should we leave behind/is not worth shipping? What’s something I’m not thinking about or mistakes to avoid?\n\nUm, we will also be bringing along a 7 month old child, so any tips for airplane travel with a baby would be great too!", "Tips for a transcontinental move from NYC to San Francisco Hi everyone, me and my husband are moving from a 1 BR in New York to a 3 BR in California in late September. We have both been in NYC all our lives and have no experience with big moves like these. What tips do you have for packing/ transporting the things? We are going to be shipping some things via checked bags (like clothes, I guess) and hiring a moving company with a big truck to drive some other things. What should we leave behind/is not worth shipping? What’s something I’m not thinking about or mistakes to avoid?\n\nUm, we will also be bringing along a 7 month old child, so any tips for airplane travel with a baby would be great too!", "Tips for a transcontinental move from NYC to San Francisco Hi everyone, me and my husband are moving from a 1 BR in New York to a 3 BR in California in late September. We have both been in NYC all our lives and have no experience with big moves like these. What tips do you have for packing/ transporting the things? We are going to be shipping some things via checked bags (like clothes, I guess) and hiring a moving company with a big truck to drive some other things. What should we leave behind/is not worth shipping? What’s something I’m not thinking about or mistakes to avoid?\n\nUm, we will also be bringing along a 7 month old child, so any tips for airplane travel with a baby would be great too!", "Tips for a transcontinental move from NYC to San Francisco Hi everyone, me and my husband are moving from a 1 BR in New York to a 3 BR in California in late September. We have both been in NYC all our lives and have no experience with big moves like these. What tips do you have for packing/ transporting the things? We are going to be shipping some things via checked bags (like clothes, I guess) and hiring a moving company with a big truck to drive some other things. What should we leave behind/is not worth shipping? What’s something I’m not thinking about or mistakes to avoid?\n\nUm, we will also be bringing along a 7 month old child, so any tips for airplane travel with a baby would be great too!", "Tips for a transcontinental move from NYC to San Francisco Hi everyone, me and my husband are moving from a 1 BR in New York to a 3 BR in California in late September. We have both been in NYC all our lives and have no experience with big moves like these. What tips do you have for packing/ transporting the things? We are going to be shipping some things via checked bags (like clothes, I guess) and hiring a moving company with a big truck to drive some other things. What should we leave behind/is not worth shipping? What’s something I’m not thinking about or mistakes to avoid?\n\nUm, we will also be bringing along a 7 month old child, so any tips for airplane travel with a baby would be great too!" ]

[ "Pack boxes yourself to save money.\n\nTape the boxes with tape that can not be cut open without the cut being obvious. (I have personally witnessed movers cutting open boxes to look inside.)\nList the contents of the box on the box. Also put the name of the room on the box.\nNumber the boxes yourself. And let moving company number them too.\nAlso put your address on your boxes. \nYou can shop for furniture in consignment stores once you get to San Fran. \nPack everything well ahead. You will run out of time. It’s very hectic & it’s absolutely awful. \nBe well prepared. \nHire good movers.\nLook online for additional advice.\n\n", "This is not a moving tip but a California tip. If you can, get close enough to your work that you can bicycle. That is worth it’s weight in gold. Gas is expensive, and the scenery can be beautiful.", "Dont book your mover through a broker, book directly with a moving company and talk with a few to get various quotes. \n\nMovers charge by the square foot, so if you can then it's worth it to order a Pod and fill it to ship separately. Also dont fill random backpacks and bags, etc, for the movers - they just stack those into wardrobe boxes and charge you for the box. \n\nIt takes 7-21 days for the movers to arrive at your destination, so give them stuff you can live without and bring what you need daily with you.", "Don't bother with the small appliances, they will probably get broken anyway. Just drop them off at your local thrift store and get the receipt for the tax write off. You can buy new ones incredibly cheap at the thrift stores in Cali...they are amazing. But bring the coffee maker! And leave it on top of the pile or get one shipped and have it waiting for you. Don't forget the coffee, filters, and mugs. You're gonna wake up one morning with a pile of shit to go through and probably very little time to do it in. You're going to appreciate the quick access to caffeine. Also know everything is going to take twice as much time as you think it will.", "1. REALLY pare down. Then do some more. Then do it again. Keep a few things for sentimental value but buying new stuff can cost a similar amount to a big move plus you get new stuff.\n\n2. Not sure if this applies but if you are getting some of the relocation coved by work, this is TAXABLE income so budget for the big tax bill in April." ]

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[ "faster lip healing So whenever I bite my lip on accident, the sore seems to last anywhere from 2.5 weeks to 3.5 weeks. I brush twice daily and rinse several times a day. Some times I would just apply salt directly into the cut and that would sting like a bitch.\n\nIs there a faster way to heal bitten lips?", "faster lip healing So whenever I bite my lip on accident, the sore seems to last anywhere from 2.5 weeks to 3.5 weeks. I brush twice daily and rinse several times a day. Some times I would just apply salt directly into the cut and that would sting like a bitch.\n\nIs there a faster way to heal bitten lips?" ]

[ "Not 100% sure but this is what I do. LOTS of lip balm. If my lips are always moist and never dry out, they heal a lot quicker. I have really chapped lips sometimes with sores, and lip balm always heals it. I use Vaseline or blistex. ", "If a sore is lasting that long, there's a chance you have a vitamin deficiency. Is your diet good? Poor wound healing can result from Vitamin C or Zinc deficiencies. " ]

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[ "how to keep impostor syndrome at bay? [Impostor syndrome wiki](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impostor_syndrome)", "how to keep impostor syndrome at bay? [Impostor syndrome wiki](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impostor_syndrome)", "how to keep impostor syndrome at bay? [Impostor syndrome wiki](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impostor_syndrome)", "how to keep impostor syndrome at bay? [Impostor syndrome wiki](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impostor_syndrome)", "how to keep impostor syndrome at bay? [Impostor syndrome wiki](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impostor_syndrome)", "how to keep impostor syndrome at bay? [Impostor syndrome wiki](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impostor_syndrome)" ]

[ "I really struggle with this but [this TED talk](https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are?language=en) (the posture stuff is great, but she overcame imposter syndrome) had a profound effect on me. Highly recommend watching. ", "I have had bouts with that as well. I don't have any professional insight, but some hopefully helpful personal experience.\n\nFirst of all, fake stuff as little as you can. Little white lies is the lubrication of many relationships (friends, workplace, family). People lie every day without getting exposed. For you, that will likely lead to guilt and worries, so try to lie as little as you can about yourself. That way, there is less stuff that can actually be exposed as fraud. \n\nSecond, accomplish stuff. It doesn't have to be anything big when you start off. Set up realistic goals for exercise or reading books or learning how to cook or anything you enjoy. Reward yourself when you meet your goals. That way you build self confidence. \n\nThen casually tell someone (a friend or co-worker perhaps) about a goal that you achieved. That person will most likely congratulate you on achieving your goal. That is actual praise for something that you achieved. You have earned it in an honest way. That is the feeling you should be looking for. Do the same thing again sometime later with some other goal you have reached. \n\nAlso, you should remember that must people have ended up where they are in part due to circumstances outside of their control. Being born to the right parents, meeting the right people and being in the right place at the right time is what success is all about. Luck, if you will. Don't be ashamed of the stuff you have earned through luck, because that's how a lot of people have earned what they have. \n", "Remember that pretty much everyone else is \"faking it\" too. Also, the ability to be charming *is* a legitimate job skill - it means you can communicate with others clearly and put them at ease. So unless your job is tinkering alone in a cave with no human contact you have an honest talent that you should own. I've met smart people without charm, they aren't getting success anytime soon and a lot of that is because they're too arrogant to lower themselves by learning to adapt to other people's communication profiles. \n\n\nFinally: Taking pride in things you had no control over leads to bad things like white supremacy. Taking pride in things you've worked towards (even if some of it was luck) leads to awesome things like antibiotics and cures to polio. - Just because someone was born with \"it\" doesn't mean you don't do it better with Maybelline.", "Question why you feel that way.\n\nLook at what it is you're being praised for, examine what it is you believe you shouldn't be praised for, and learn how to do a job that is sufficient to satisfy you.\n\nIf you don't think you know enough information about something, study it.", "I'm not an expert- take with a pinch of salt- but it sounds like this is very similar or at least related to anxiety. One of the most important things in dealing with anxiety is breaking the feedback loops (\"I messed that up, oh god I'm so worthless, no wonder I can't do this, everyone is going to hate me \" etc). \n\nYou are obviously at least partially aware that you are causing yourself distress, otherwise you wouldn't be asking. Whenever you notice yourself getting stuck in that echo chamber, (if it is safe to do so) close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and say to yourself (actually say it, even if its just a whisper) \"Stop it. This is not helpful.\" or another similar phrase, and try to relax yourself and find a quiet place in your head. There are a lot of free apps for guided m", "Find out who you are, your passions and your values. You are plagued by it, maybe because your social self is so strong it has shadowed your true self." ]

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[ "how to properly use a food vacuum sealer I own a food vacuum sealer but I hardly use it because of one big problem. All food has water. The liquid/water getting sucked out of the food climbs up the bag and prevents a proper seal from occurring. This usually results in the hot sealer that is designed to melt the plastic bag together to form a seal to instead melt a hole clear through the bag, ruining the bag and destroying the seal line. This results in a completely unsealed bag. Are there any tips to prevent this?", "how to properly use a food vacuum sealer I own a food vacuum sealer but I hardly use it because of one big problem. All food has water. The liquid/water getting sucked out of the food climbs up the bag and prevents a proper seal from occurring. This usually results in the hot sealer that is designed to melt the plastic bag together to form a seal to instead melt a hole clear through the bag, ruining the bag and destroying the seal line. This results in a completely unsealed bag. Are there any tips to prevent this?" ]

[ "my sealer has a setting to differentiate between moist and dry food\n\nalso this: https://youtu.be/kkUyEqlnjbg?t=33\n\nhow to seal liquids - freeze them first\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tNBxuCAcP4g", "I don't know if this will help or not, but when I had to use one, I had to smush the meat flat and try and fill the bag. " ]

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[ "How do I talk to someone who has just lost a family member? My best mate (19M) has just found out his father has 4 day's left to live. \nHe's asked me to come over after work and stay the night with him because he doesn't want to be alone. \nI'm gutted and can't even imagine how he feels. What can I do? What don't I say? What do I say?", "How do I talk to someone who has just lost a family member? My best mate (19M) has just found out his father has 4 day's left to live. \nHe's asked me to come over after work and stay the night with him because he doesn't want to be alone. \nI'm gutted and can't even imagine how he feels. What can I do? What don't I say? What do I say?", "How do I talk to someone who has just lost a family member? My best mate (19M) has just found out his father has 4 day's left to live. \nHe's asked me to come over after work and stay the night with him because he doesn't want to be alone. \nI'm gutted and can't even imagine how he feels. What can I do? What don't I say? What do I say?", "How do I talk to someone who has just lost a family member? My best mate (19M) has just found out his father has 4 day's left to live. \nHe's asked me to come over after work and stay the night with him because he doesn't want to be alone. \nI'm gutted and can't even imagine how he feels. What can I do? What don't I say? What do I say?", "How do I talk to someone who has just lost a family member? My best mate (19M) has just found out his father has 4 day's left to live. \nHe's asked me to come over after work and stay the night with him because he doesn't want to be alone. \nI'm gutted and can't even imagine how he feels. What can I do? What don't I say? What do I say?" ]

[ "Just being there with your friend, your willingness to listen, your bringing up good memories or good aspects of his father's personality, will help. If your friend feels guilty about fights with his father, you can always say that his dad is beyond caring about those squabbles and wants only the best for his son. And as a father, he will wants his son to be happy, to mourn him briefly, but to go on with his life and find happiness in it. Again, your presence alone will be a comfort, but being there to both listen and remind him of good times will help him over those hurdles. That's being a true friend, and he will never forget that about you, and you will always be glad you did this for him.", "When one of my friends loved one passes and they want to talk about it I always try to guide the conversation to positive memories of that person and things they have done in the past with that person. If I remember something positive about that person I will make sure to bring it up when fitting. I keep away from the converstions about what they will be missing out on in the future as much as possible and try to keep the alcohol limited.", "The important thing is just to be there. You don't need to advise or help him sort out feelings. Definitely don't look for silver linings - \"At least you won't have to fight with him anymore...\" (Pretty much anything that starts with an At Least is best avoided).\n\nA lot of well meaning people avoid those suffering any kind of loss just because they are afraid of saying the wrong thing. It is better to be there and say the wrong thing than avoid the possibility of being awkward. Grief is awkward and there is no way around it. ", "Let him know that you will be there for him. I would day try and the spend the night doing something fun to take his mind off things, maybe some movies, pizza, all that comfort stuff. If you want to go the extra mile, cook up a weeks worth of food for him and put it in to microwave containers. When I lost someone very close to me, that last thing I wanted to do was to prep and cook a meal. Hope this helps Op.", "Everyone deals with this differently. Let him know you're there for him and ask him what he needs.\n\nWhatever emotions he may show, let him know it's okay and that you won't freak out about it." ]

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[ "How to build persistence? Hello Reddit!\n\nLack of persistence is a serious problem for me; and has held me back from learning a lot of things that require just practice.\n\nThis is the reason I could never learn a musical instrument. The reason I never got good at drawing. The reason for anything that just simply: needs practice.\n\nIf I am doing something where I just have to do the same thing over and over again (say, drawing or learning the guitar), it gets so frustrating that I rage quit every time. I psychologically cannot make myself continue!\n\nI plead: how can I build persistence?", "How to build persistence? Hello Reddit!\n\nLack of persistence is a serious problem for me; and has held me back from learning a lot of things that require just practice.\n\nThis is the reason I could never learn a musical instrument. The reason I never got good at drawing. The reason for anything that just simply: needs practice.\n\nIf I am doing something where I just have to do the same thing over and over again (say, drawing or learning the guitar), it gets so frustrating that I rage quit every time. I psychologically cannot make myself continue!\n\nI plead: how can I build persistence?" ]

[ "I say stop before you get overwhelmed. 5 or 10 minutes everyday will make a difference and hopefully won't wear you out as much. ", "You need to have strong reasons for why you're doing something or it will be challenging to endure difficult times. \n\nWhy do you want to learn a musical instrument? For the personal satisfaction that comes with mastering something? The admiration you would receive from others? Fame and fortune? Stress relief? Whatever your reason is, it should be strong. If you sit down and actually think about your motivations, sometimes you may find that it may not be a worthwhile pursuit and you save yourself from wasting time.\n\nIf you do decide your reasons why are strong enough, you should focus most of your attention on that task. Ive had the experience where I want to try to learn a bunch of different things but end up diverting my attention in all different directions. You should focus most of your energy on the pursuits you want to master and block out other distractions. There's a saying that goes \"jack of all trades, master of none\" and there's definitely some truth in that. \n\nJust my 2 cents. Hope it helps!" ]

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[ "How to make positive change in your life For someone who has all the tips and advice to make themself happier and more successful and every other \"key to life\". How do you make the steps to actually make a change?", "How to make positive change in your life For someone who has all the tips and advice to make themself happier and more successful and every other \"key to life\". How do you make the steps to actually make a change?", "How to make positive change in your life For someone who has all the tips and advice to make themself happier and more successful and every other \"key to life\". How do you make the steps to actually make a change?", "How to make positive change in your life For someone who has all the tips and advice to make themself happier and more successful and every other \"key to life\". How do you make the steps to actually make a change?" ]

[ "This comes before than anything else. Start with basics. Build the foundation. Diet, exercise, sleep. Make sure you aren't deficient in any vitamins, minerals essential fatty acids. Get those in order and work on organizing, improving your mind. Always remember to go to basics when you are lost.", "Three things to make lasting change:\n\n1) Understand what you want to change. Is it a relationship? Health? Career? Create a focus on answering that question. You can't change until you know what you want to change.\n\n2) Understand your underlying beliefs that support who you are and challenge them. Where did you get those beliefs from? Are they accurate? Or even real? Why do you still believe them?\n\n3) Create a plan to get what you want. List everything down, even the seemingly impossible and TRY. The smallest change will snowball and give you more confidence to make progress.\n\nRemember that there are days when you fall but, as long as you pick yourself up and try again, you are consciously trying to make a change in your life.\n\nEach day is another gift to make things better than yesterday. Read as much as you can each day. Keep motivating yourself by reading/watching/talking about positive change.\n", "I have a list that I keep above my desk that says \n\"I'm so happy because..\"\nAnd then it lists all the happy stuff I have in my life right now. Like \n• family\n• boyfriend \n•medical school plan \n..blah blah.\n\nI think it's nice to see from time to time, and it helps me stay positive and happy when I get stressed.\n\nAlso I keep a lot of \"happy\" stuff in my room- aka bright colors (yellow blankets, yellow decorations) to keep a positive and up beat feel ", "Focus on simplicity and don't beat yourself up. \nMeasure what you do.\n\nFor example, walking 30min a day. I have a paper and a pen on my desk, and every day that I walk 30 min I write the date and what I did.\n\nMay 27 | 1h walk\n\nThen draw a line under it, and do it again the next day where I take a walk. Sometimes you'll stop doing it for a few days, but you see your pen and paper. So it reminds you \"Hey, do you want to take a walk today?\"\n\nMax I've been without walking since April 1st is about 5-7 days in a row, happened only twice." ]

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[ "What should a first-time car owner know? Car upkeep/day to day stuff/etc I've driven for a while, but this is the first time I've been the sole owner, and therefore only person responsible for a car. What do I need to know? I know that's a vague question, but I have a vague understanding right now.", "What should a first-time car owner know? Car upkeep/day to day stuff/etc I've driven for a while, but this is the first time I've been the sole owner, and therefore only person responsible for a car. What do I need to know? I know that's a vague question, but I have a vague understanding right now.", "What should a first-time car owner know? Car upkeep/day to day stuff/etc I've driven for a while, but this is the first time I've been the sole owner, and therefore only person responsible for a car. What do I need to know? I know that's a vague question, but I have a vague understanding right now.", "What should a first-time car owner know? Car upkeep/day to day stuff/etc I've driven for a while, but this is the first time I've been the sole owner, and therefore only person responsible for a car. What do I need to know? I know that's a vague question, but I have a vague understanding right now.", "What should a first-time car owner know? Car upkeep/day to day stuff/etc I've driven for a while, but this is the first time I've been the sole owner, and therefore only person responsible for a car. What do I need to know? I know that's a vague question, but I have a vague understanding right now.", "What should a first-time car owner know? Car upkeep/day to day stuff/etc I've driven for a while, but this is the first time I've been the sole owner, and therefore only person responsible for a car. What do I need to know? I know that's a vague question, but I have a vague understanding right now." ]

[ "Have a proper service once a year, check oil once every few months, check washer fluid once a month, check tyres when you remember. That's all I've done for the past 28 years, seems to work.\n\nOh, and keep a bottle of oil and a large bottle of water in the car, plus a good pump. And learn how to change a wheel before you need to do it the dark/rain on the side of a busy road.", "If you live in an area with lots of snow and therefore salted roads in winter get the car undercoated so it doesn't rust as quickly.", "-Be consistent about basic maintenance (oil changes, tire rotation and pressure, wiper blades, spare tire upkeep, etc).\n\n-Get an emergency kit for your car, and keep a blanket and some shop rags in there in case you need to get on the ground and/or get your hands dirty. \n\n-Don’t ignore things that seems small to avoid the cost of repairs because they will usually wind up costing you a lot more down the line. Address any problems ASAP.\n\n-Talk to people you trust and ask around to find a trustworthy mechanic for any services you need. \n\nI’m sure there are more thoughts on this but these are the first that come to mind for me.", "Your local community college likely has a basic course on car maintenance/ knowledge, that would be helpful. Check your owners manual for how frequently you need to change the oil (rotate your tires then also) and for other maintenance. The big ones are the 30/60k miles services, you'll need more expensive things done then. \nAt least once a month make sure you take a few minutes to examine your tires (look for uneven wear or damages) check your wiper blades to see if they need to be replaced, lift the hood and check your fluids (oil, break, washer, even your radiator levels) and look to see if anything looks weird or different. Get familiar with your car and the sounds it makes. Ride occasionally with the radio off and just notice the normal sounds. Often weird sounds can be your first indication of a problem. \nCongratulations!", "Read your owner's manual. It should have a maintenance section with recommended service intervals and specifications for fluids used in the vehicle. I'm shocked at the number of people who have never opened theirs. \n\nCheck your tire/tyre pressure regularly and especially when seasons change and it gets colder. \n\nIf you care about your car, wash it no less than four times a year and wax it at least twice a year. The old expression \"wax it now or paint it later\" exists for a reason. Depending on where you live and whether your car is covered or in a garage, you may need to wax it more often. There are ceramic coatings that make waxing more or less unnecessary, but I'm assuming you are a fairly young person who doesn't have an extra $1,000+ for that.\n\nPractice putting on the spare tire/tyre. You don't want to be figuring out how to do it for the first time on the side of the road at night.", "Check tire pressures (with your own gauge) at least once a month.\n\nGet the front end alignment checked at least once a year.\n\nKeep up with oil, and FILTER changes - if the car has conditional oil changes it will tell you when they're needed: If not every 6,000 miles.\n\nWatch some Youtube vids on how to check oil, coolant (when cold), other fluids, battery cable security.\n\nYoutube is an incredible asset to learn how to do minor (or major) repairs. Most are not as complex as you might think!" ]

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[ "How to get dandruff out of hair. Hey guys, I'm a 23 male, curly dark hair, I have always had a bad scalp and the skin sorta flakes off with oils, but it sits on the scalp and doesn't go anywhere really, so you can't notice easily. Well I decided to try and do something so I got one of those anti-dandruff shampoos (selsun blue) And I gave my scalp a good rub down, and it started to lift the dandruff from my scalp, but now it's all tangled in my hair and even more noticeable! \n\nI have tomorrow off work so I might try to shampoo it out again, but I was hoping someone has a good idea. \n\n", "How to get dandruff out of hair. Hey guys, I'm a 23 male, curly dark hair, I have always had a bad scalp and the skin sorta flakes off with oils, but it sits on the scalp and doesn't go anywhere really, so you can't notice easily. Well I decided to try and do something so I got one of those anti-dandruff shampoos (selsun blue) And I gave my scalp a good rub down, and it started to lift the dandruff from my scalp, but now it's all tangled in my hair and even more noticeable! \n\nI have tomorrow off work so I might try to shampoo it out again, but I was hoping someone has a good idea. \n\n", "How to get dandruff out of hair. Hey guys, I'm a 23 male, curly dark hair, I have always had a bad scalp and the skin sorta flakes off with oils, but it sits on the scalp and doesn't go anywhere really, so you can't notice easily. Well I decided to try and do something so I got one of those anti-dandruff shampoos (selsun blue) And I gave my scalp a good rub down, and it started to lift the dandruff from my scalp, but now it's all tangled in my hair and even more noticeable! \n\nI have tomorrow off work so I might try to shampoo it out again, but I was hoping someone has a good idea. \n\n", "How to get dandruff out of hair. Hey guys, I'm a 23 male, curly dark hair, I have always had a bad scalp and the skin sorta flakes off with oils, but it sits on the scalp and doesn't go anywhere really, so you can't notice easily. Well I decided to try and do something so I got one of those anti-dandruff shampoos (selsun blue) And I gave my scalp a good rub down, and it started to lift the dandruff from my scalp, but now it's all tangled in my hair and even more noticeable! \n\nI have tomorrow off work so I might try to shampoo it out again, but I was hoping someone has a good idea. \n\n", "How to get dandruff out of hair. Hey guys, I'm a 23 male, curly dark hair, I have always had a bad scalp and the skin sorta flakes off with oils, but it sits on the scalp and doesn't go anywhere really, so you can't notice easily. Well I decided to try and do something so I got one of those anti-dandruff shampoos (selsun blue) And I gave my scalp a good rub down, and it started to lift the dandruff from my scalp, but now it's all tangled in my hair and even more noticeable! \n\nI have tomorrow off work so I might try to shampoo it out again, but I was hoping someone has a good idea. \n\n", "How to get dandruff out of hair. Hey guys, I'm a 23 male, curly dark hair, I have always had a bad scalp and the skin sorta flakes off with oils, but it sits on the scalp and doesn't go anywhere really, so you can't notice easily. Well I decided to try and do something so I got one of those anti-dandruff shampoos (selsun blue) And I gave my scalp a good rub down, and it started to lift the dandruff from my scalp, but now it's all tangled in my hair and even more noticeable! \n\nI have tomorrow off work so I might try to shampoo it out again, but I was hoping someone has a good idea. \n\n", "How to get dandruff out of hair. Hey guys, I'm a 23 male, curly dark hair, I have always had a bad scalp and the skin sorta flakes off with oils, but it sits on the scalp and doesn't go anywhere really, so you can't notice easily. Well I decided to try and do something so I got one of those anti-dandruff shampoos (selsun blue) And I gave my scalp a good rub down, and it started to lift the dandruff from my scalp, but now it's all tangled in my hair and even more noticeable! \n\nI have tomorrow off work so I might try to shampoo it out again, but I was hoping someone has a good idea. \n\n", "How to get dandruff out of hair. Hey guys, I'm a 23 male, curly dark hair, I have always had a bad scalp and the skin sorta flakes off with oils, but it sits on the scalp and doesn't go anywhere really, so you can't notice easily. Well I decided to try and do something so I got one of those anti-dandruff shampoos (selsun blue) And I gave my scalp a good rub down, and it started to lift the dandruff from my scalp, but now it's all tangled in my hair and even more noticeable! \n\nI have tomorrow off work so I might try to shampoo it out again, but I was hoping someone has a good idea. \n\n", "How to get dandruff out of hair. Hey guys, I'm a 23 male, curly dark hair, I have always had a bad scalp and the skin sorta flakes off with oils, but it sits on the scalp and doesn't go anywhere really, so you can't notice easily. Well I decided to try and do something so I got one of those anti-dandruff shampoos (selsun blue) And I gave my scalp a good rub down, and it started to lift the dandruff from my scalp, but now it's all tangled in my hair and even more noticeable! \n\nI have tomorrow off work so I might try to shampoo it out again, but I was hoping someone has a good idea. \n\n", "How to get dandruff out of hair. Hey guys, I'm a 23 male, curly dark hair, I have always had a bad scalp and the skin sorta flakes off with oils, but it sits on the scalp and doesn't go anywhere really, so you can't notice easily. Well I decided to try and do something so I got one of those anti-dandruff shampoos (selsun blue) And I gave my scalp a good rub down, and it started to lift the dandruff from my scalp, but now it's all tangled in my hair and even more noticeable! \n\nI have tomorrow off work so I might try to shampoo it out again, but I was hoping someone has a good idea. \n\n" ]

[ "Ok basically ignore everyone else. I have had this shot since I was 10. Selsun blue and head and shoulders are crap. If they don't work after 2 washes then the won't work after 20. Look for extra strength T-gel. This stuff comes in a box, and is a godsend for us, thank me later.", "Nizoral. Dermatologist told me to use it as I have a skin condition that causes dandruff more often. Nizoral works well enough. ", "We had a couple of guys in my Army unit that struggled with this. One of our doctors had them leave straight Selsun Blue on their scalp for about 30 minutes before washing it out. Afterward one guy had to have his hair buzzed short so he could wash away all of the dead skin. The other used a scrub brush (the kind we used on the bathroom floor) to break up the scales enough to wash it all out.", "I have not. Tgel was recommended by a friend and it's literally changed my life from a self esteem and confidence level.", "Use Listerine. It was originally marketed as an anti-dandruff product. I have tried it and it works. Obviously, you want to use the \"original\" and not mint flavored. Keep a bottle in the shower, put a capful on your head while you hair is still dry. Give it a few seconds then rinse and shampoo.", "I'd be interested in this, I was always known as wire wool head, I've got really thick unruly hair. \n\nI've tried everything, I can get rid of it with T-gel but as soon as I stop washing with it the dandruff comes back! I've shampooed with T-gel for 6 months and thought I'd sorted it, it was back within a month.", "Head & shoulders and a brush for baby's with cradle cap. Use the shampoo for 2 weeks everyday. Then as needed for maintenance. ", "First and most important step is to make sure you're not suffering from a dry scalp, the flakes are very similar and a dandruff treatment won't help.\n\nSkip anything you can find in the supermarket like H&S! Get dandruff shampoo from the pharmacy instead. Look for the active ingredient ketoconazole. I use it every 3rd to 4th wash and let it sit for 3-5 minutes. In the US I think it is called Nizoral. It made wonders for me!", "Add a little bit of tea tree oil to your shampoo. wallah, fresh, nice tingly feeling on the scalp, good for your scalp (if you put only a few drops) & gets rid of that dandruff!", " I dont put anything in my hair. Just rinse vigorously - Got a little bit of dandruff still but way less than if I used shampoo (anti dandruff or otherwise)" ]

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[ "How to win an eating contest hey ya'll,\n\ni'm looking to eat a 52 oz ribeye steak soon to win a bet. i've never tried competitive eating before. i plan on eating the steak rare with cajun seasonings. i'm not a super fat guy, about average size but i think i can really pound food down. i also need to eat two sides with the steak to win. i can choose the sides. the options for the sides are garlic mashed/baked potato/sweet potato/steamed broccoli/spinach/green beans/soup/salad/steak fries.\n\nany tips on how i can get an edge and win?!", "How to win an eating contest hey ya'll,\n\ni'm looking to eat a 52 oz ribeye steak soon to win a bet. i've never tried competitive eating before. i plan on eating the steak rare with cajun seasonings. i'm not a super fat guy, about average size but i think i can really pound food down. i also need to eat two sides with the steak to win. i can choose the sides. the options for the sides are garlic mashed/baked potato/sweet potato/steamed broccoli/spinach/green beans/soup/salad/steak fries.\n\nany tips on how i can get an edge and win?!", "How to win an eating contest hey ya'll,\n\ni'm looking to eat a 52 oz ribeye steak soon to win a bet. i've never tried competitive eating before. i plan on eating the steak rare with cajun seasonings. i'm not a super fat guy, about average size but i think i can really pound food down. i also need to eat two sides with the steak to win. i can choose the sides. the options for the sides are garlic mashed/baked potato/sweet potato/steamed broccoli/spinach/green beans/soup/salad/steak fries.\n\nany tips on how i can get an edge and win?!", "How to win an eating contest hey ya'll,\n\ni'm looking to eat a 52 oz ribeye steak soon to win a bet. i've never tried competitive eating before. i plan on eating the steak rare with cajun seasonings. i'm not a super fat guy, about average size but i think i can really pound food down. i also need to eat two sides with the steak to win. i can choose the sides. the options for the sides are garlic mashed/baked potato/sweet potato/steamed broccoli/spinach/green beans/soup/salad/steak fries.\n\nany tips on how i can get an edge and win?!", "How to win an eating contest hey ya'll,\n\ni'm looking to eat a 52 oz ribeye steak soon to win a bet. i've never tried competitive eating before. i plan on eating the steak rare with cajun seasonings. i'm not a super fat guy, about average size but i think i can really pound food down. i also need to eat two sides with the steak to win. i can choose the sides. the options for the sides are garlic mashed/baked potato/sweet potato/steamed broccoli/spinach/green beans/soup/salad/steak fries.\n\nany tips on how i can get an edge and win?!" ]

[ "I would opt for broccoli and green beans. They are much less dense than a potato and, in my experience, are smaller than a salad. \n\nMaybe the soup. ", "night before (and morning of if the challenge is post 5pm) drink a TON of water. 1) stomach expansion, this will stretch your stomach out a bit and make more room for the food. 2) it won't stay in your stomach and you should be ready to go within 2 hours after drinking the water.\n\nmeal time: cut up food before starting to eat. bite size pieces that will allow you to eat quickly. sides of spinach and soup probably would work best. if it is a hearty soup, opt for green beans.\n\nOnce you have everything ready to roll...eat as fast as you can while at the same time chewing your food to an appropriate level. this will make it fit better in your stomach (think marbles vs sand in a jar). you probably have 15 minutes before your stomach starts telling the rest of your body no mas so you have to come out of the blocks hot.\n\nwater only if you feel the need to wash something down. only sips, maybe a gulp if absolutely necessary. \n\nother than that, just hope you finish before your body quits.\n", "Don't drink water, it'll fill you up. If you suspect you'll need some liquid to wash everything down or typically drink a lot of water with meals, opt for the soup as one of your sides (it might not be the best choice of the sides, but soup is better than drinking water plus eating another side)\n\nThe things that make you feel \"full\" are: Protein, fat, and fiber. Carbohydrates don't make you feel as full, typically. Mashed potatoes will contain a lot of fat (butter) so it'll be quite filling, but if the baked potato has no toppings that would be a good choice. \n\nHonestly given how big the steak is, the sides you pick won't have that big of an impact, relatively speaking. Pick things you like because it'll be easier to force those down if you're feeling full already. But probably pick between brocolli/spinach/green beans/baked potato (if plain)/soup.\n\nAssuming you're going for completion- Eat slowly. Are you allowed to take breaks? Part of this is going to be physically feeling full, another is going to be getting sick of eating so much of the same thing. Breaks will help alleviate the psychological part.\n\nSince you disproportionately have more steak- Keep eating steak until you feel like you can't, then eat a bit of one of the sides to cleanse your palate, then back to steak. ", "No water especially before you go. Eat as quickly and comfortably as you can (don't stuff your face, alternatively don't talk between bites) 52 oz doesn't seem too bad but the sides might be tough. Get the highest sides you can. Soups are good but save them to last (literally just tasty water here). A salad will also not fill you at all.\n\n", "Are you looking for tips to be able to just finish the meal, or do you want to know tips on how to finish the steak+sides as quickly as possible ? " ]

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[ "How to get ready for a night shift job. I just got a job and it's going to be a night shift from 11pm-7:30am stocking shelves. A friend of mine does a night shift as an nurse and sleeps after the shift to then be up during most of the day. I'm wondering if that is that a better schedule to keep for a night shift instead of sleeping before going to work as a general 9-5 shift would. Are there any other things that I should be aware of before doing this? I might have a week or less to be prepared.", "How to get ready for a night shift job. I just got a job and it's going to be a night shift from 11pm-7:30am stocking shelves. A friend of mine does a night shift as an nurse and sleeps after the shift to then be up during most of the day. I'm wondering if that is that a better schedule to keep for a night shift instead of sleeping before going to work as a general 9-5 shift would. Are there any other things that I should be aware of before doing this? I might have a week or less to be prepared.", "How to get ready for a night shift job. I just got a job and it's going to be a night shift from 11pm-7:30am stocking shelves. A friend of mine does a night shift as an nurse and sleeps after the shift to then be up during most of the day. I'm wondering if that is that a better schedule to keep for a night shift instead of sleeping before going to work as a general 9-5 shift would. Are there any other things that I should be aware of before doing this? I might have a week or less to be prepared.", "How to get ready for a night shift job. I just got a job and it's going to be a night shift from 11pm-7:30am stocking shelves. A friend of mine does a night shift as an nurse and sleeps after the shift to then be up during most of the day. I'm wondering if that is that a better schedule to keep for a night shift instead of sleeping before going to work as a general 9-5 shift would. Are there any other things that I should be aware of before doing this? I might have a week or less to be prepared.", "How to get ready for a night shift job. I just got a job and it's going to be a night shift from 11pm-7:30am stocking shelves. A friend of mine does a night shift as an nurse and sleeps after the shift to then be up during most of the day. I'm wondering if that is that a better schedule to keep for a night shift instead of sleeping before going to work as a general 9-5 shift would. Are there any other things that I should be aware of before doing this? I might have a week or less to be prepared.", "How to get ready for a night shift job. I just got a job and it's going to be a night shift from 11pm-7:30am stocking shelves. A friend of mine does a night shift as an nurse and sleeps after the shift to then be up during most of the day. I'm wondering if that is that a better schedule to keep for a night shift instead of sleeping before going to work as a general 9-5 shift would. Are there any other things that I should be aware of before doing this? I might have a week or less to be prepared." ]

[ "You're going to want to munch on vending machine food. You'll get fat. Plus night shift workers die sooner and have lots of health problems.", "There are a couple of sleeping methods that have worked over the years for me. Normally I stay up after the shift because the stress of my job requires a wind down. If you are lucky enough to be doing a physical gig that leaves you exhausted, sleep when you get home. Maintain a reasonable diet and eat every few hours. Try to plan activities that allow you to stay connected with your daywalker friends if at all possible. It will likely take about 6 weeks to adjust to the roll.", "I work the same hours. If I go to sleep after work, I can only sleep for 5-6 hours. If I stay up til 1 or 2, I have no problem sleeping until 10. It will be hard when you first start, but force yourself to stay awake until at least noon and you'll sleep really well.", "I could never be remotely useful in life if I were awake a full 8 hours before work time, and then tried to crash immediately afterward like your friend. Brain still buzzing, so have to give it some time to wind down. I sleep during the day, and wake up before work time like a 9-5er would.\n\nWhichever sleepy time you choose, the sun will be a bothersome enemy.\n\nI have an older version of [this product](http://www.sears.com/sleep-master-revolutionary-sleep-mask-smblu01/p-SPM7405874022?hlSellerId=7483&sid=IDx20110310x00001i&kpid=SPM7405874022&kispla=SPM7405874022&gclid=CJ6RtZe76M0CFQ-oaQod9-kD2A).\n\nIt blocks out light, and also muffles the sounds of the annoying daywalker humans skittering about in the streets outside. Seems pricey I know, but I've had mine for over 3 years and it's showing no signs of falling apart. \nI've tried about every version of an eye mask, including the cheap ones, and some in between. This thing is the only one I've used that you don't wake up with it off your face, around your neck, or twisted around sideways half covering your mouth, with the sun in your eyes. \n\nIf this is to be long term, you either need one of these, or $100 curtains. Both are ideal, but the mask is a huge help.\n\nAvoid caffeine for sure, until you are reprogrammed. Good luck with it.", "What kind of job is it? I'm in the military so our shifts change all the time depending on manning. When I'm on night shift, I have to be doing something. When we don't have work I get super sleepy. So make sure you stay active if possible Caffeine definitely helps. Also, I would workout before work. I'm really awake after exercising so that was a huge thing for me. \nFor sleeping during the day, eat a big ish meal before you're supposed to go to bed. Buy a black sheet to cover the windows in your room. Also I may or may not have drank a glass of wine before bed to help me pass out lol. \n\nHope these helped! ", "If you're working 5 or more days a week it's much easier to just be nocturnal and not trying to adjust to a regular schedule. " ]

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[ "How to Prevent Razor Bumps after Shaving I ALWAYS get razor bumps after shaving my mustache. After they go away I get unsightly skin drying and darkening. What should I do to prevent this from happening?", "How to Prevent Razor Bumps after Shaving I ALWAYS get razor bumps after shaving my mustache. After they go away I get unsightly skin drying and darkening. What should I do to prevent this from happening?", "How to Prevent Razor Bumps after Shaving I ALWAYS get razor bumps after shaving my mustache. After they go away I get unsightly skin drying and darkening. What should I do to prevent this from happening?", "How to Prevent Razor Bumps after Shaving I ALWAYS get razor bumps after shaving my mustache. After they go away I get unsightly skin drying and darkening. What should I do to prevent this from happening?" ]

[ "Check out [r/wicked_edge](http://www.reddit.com/r/wicked_edge/).\n\nThey've got tons of tips and insight into how to get a great shave. Be warned, there isn't some magic solution; a good shave takes time and practice, but is certainly worthwhile. ", "I've heard two tips that could help with this:\n\n1. Shave with the grain of your hair growth, not against it.\n2. Apply Witch Hazel or Witch Hazel with aloe on your skin after you shave to avoid shaving bumps. This [one](http://www.drugstore.com/thayers-alcohol-free-lavender-witch-hazel-with-organic-aloe-vera-formula-toner/qxp227052) happens to be my favorite and is only $8 online. ", "I have the same problem and have discovered the answer. Use a razor with only 2 blades. I always thought the more expensive the better it must be for the bumps but no. With 4 or 5 blade razors your skin is twice as irritated. You don't get quite as close as a shave but a decent one with no irritation.", "I always use vagisil after I shave. Prevents the swelling of the roughed up follicle that can cause ingrown hairs. \n\nHowever, I'm a girl and I don't use it on my face. Your call. " ]

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[ "Fixing zippers that unzip from the bottom when zipped up. My favorite jacket is doing this and now my girlfriend's is too. Basically you zip the jacket up to put it on, and then it starts unzipping from the bottom within a minute or two (basically with any movement). \n\nAnybody know a LPT for this?", "Fixing zippers that unzip from the bottom when zipped up. My favorite jacket is doing this and now my girlfriend's is too. Basically you zip the jacket up to put it on, and then it starts unzipping from the bottom within a minute or two (basically with any movement). \n\nAnybody know a LPT for this?" ]

[ "This always means that the slider is too 'open' on one side. Pinch it with a wrench AFTER placing the plastic zipper teeth back on the opening.", "I'd need a picture to be sure, but it sounds like your zipper is broken. Is the little piece that slides into the bottom bit gone? 'Cuz that's what usually happens. \n \nBy the way, there's no way to fix that short of putting in a new zipper." ]

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[ "How to wake up earlier than my SO without waking her up? I get up for work about an hour before my partner, and she's one of those people who seriously values their sleep. Currently I use keep my iPhone (on the quietest setting with vibrate on) under my pillow to wake up, and this sometimes this partially wakes her too. She sleeps with ear plugs in, and it seems more to be the vibrate than it does the alarm. I can't imagine this problem is unique to me, does anyone have a solution?", "How to wake up earlier than my SO without waking her up? I get up for work about an hour before my partner, and she's one of those people who seriously values their sleep. Currently I use keep my iPhone (on the quietest setting with vibrate on) under my pillow to wake up, and this sometimes this partially wakes her too. She sleeps with ear plugs in, and it seems more to be the vibrate than it does the alarm. I can't imagine this problem is unique to me, does anyone have a solution?", "How to wake up earlier than my SO without waking her up? I get up for work about an hour before my partner, and she's one of those people who seriously values their sleep. Currently I use keep my iPhone (on the quietest setting with vibrate on) under my pillow to wake up, and this sometimes this partially wakes her too. She sleeps with ear plugs in, and it seems more to be the vibrate than it does the alarm. I can't imagine this problem is unique to me, does anyone have a solution?", "How to wake up earlier than my SO without waking her up? I get up for work about an hour before my partner, and she's one of those people who seriously values their sleep. Currently I use keep my iPhone (on the quietest setting with vibrate on) under my pillow to wake up, and this sometimes this partially wakes her too. She sleeps with ear plugs in, and it seems more to be the vibrate than it does the alarm. I can't imagine this problem is unique to me, does anyone have a solution?", "How to wake up earlier than my SO without waking her up? I get up for work about an hour before my partner, and she's one of those people who seriously values their sleep. Currently I use keep my iPhone (on the quietest setting with vibrate on) under my pillow to wake up, and this sometimes this partially wakes her too. She sleeps with ear plugs in, and it seems more to be the vibrate than it does the alarm. I can't imagine this problem is unique to me, does anyone have a solution?", "How to wake up earlier than my SO without waking her up? I get up for work about an hour before my partner, and she's one of those people who seriously values their sleep. Currently I use keep my iPhone (on the quietest setting with vibrate on) under my pillow to wake up, and this sometimes this partially wakes her too. She sleeps with ear plugs in, and it seems more to be the vibrate than it does the alarm. I can't imagine this problem is unique to me, does anyone have a solution?" ]

[ "You can't avoid products when it comes to effective alarm tools. I personally use the \"Shake-N-Wake\" (http://www.amazon.com/Silent-Vibrating-Personal-Alarm-Shake-N-Wake/dp/B0027A573Q) and it is very effective for me. You have an iPhone so if you want to get fancy and study your sleep patterns and wake silently, then get the Lark (http://www.lark.com/)", "It may sound silly but drink water before bed. If your on a good sleep schedule you body will wake you up around the same time every morning to pee. It's been working for me for a while now. My SO also values her sleep and well... I value my life, so I don't want to feel the wrath. ", "I'm a serious valuer of sleep and I just got used to my SO getting up earlier. Give it at least a month. It got to the point where I knew he'd get up and wouldn't even affect my sleeping.", "From college: I put in ear buds and set my music to wake me up. If you're a tossy-turny sort of sleeper, this won't work.\n\nSecond option: wake up earlier so she can go back to sleep after you wake her up.", "[Use this with your phone's alarm.](http://www.amazon.com/Bluetooth-Bracelet-Wristband-Vibration-wristwatch/dp/B0054WVPUI)", "Get a memory foam pillow for both of you. This will keep the vibration to only your pillow and not hers. Her pillow will also nullify any vibration that spreads across the bed." ]

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[ "How to use a perfume when the sprayer is lost. I have lost the sprayer of my loved perfume. There is just a pipe coming out now. I tried fixing a different one from another bottle but it does not fit. ", "How to use a perfume when the sprayer is lost. I have lost the sprayer of my loved perfume. There is just a pipe coming out now. I tried fixing a different one from another bottle but it does not fit. " ]

[ "Open the lid, hold your finger over the opening and hold the bottle upside down. A reasonable amount is now on your finger which you can apply where you want. ", "Get a refillable travel atomiser. There's 2 types: 1 where you fill it using the pump action, and the other where you pour it in." ]

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[ "Public speaking I have a group presentation coming up in front of about 60 people, and I usually get really nervous and shaky presenting in front of a few people. Any serious advice to try get it to go as smooth as possible", "Public speaking I have a group presentation coming up in front of about 60 people, and I usually get really nervous and shaky presenting in front of a few people. Any serious advice to try get it to go as smooth as possible", "Public speaking I have a group presentation coming up in front of about 60 people, and I usually get really nervous and shaky presenting in front of a few people. Any serious advice to try get it to go as smooth as possible", "Public speaking I have a group presentation coming up in front of about 60 people, and I usually get really nervous and shaky presenting in front of a few people. Any serious advice to try get it to go as smooth as possible", "Public speaking I have a group presentation coming up in front of about 60 people, and I usually get really nervous and shaky presenting in front of a few people. Any serious advice to try get it to go as smooth as possible", "Public speaking I have a group presentation coming up in front of about 60 people, and I usually get really nervous and shaky presenting in front of a few people. Any serious advice to try get it to go as smooth as possible", "Public speaking I have a group presentation coming up in front of about 60 people, and I usually get really nervous and shaky presenting in front of a few people. Any serious advice to try get it to go as smooth as possible", "Public speaking I have a group presentation coming up in front of about 60 people, and I usually get really nervous and shaky presenting in front of a few people. Any serious advice to try get it to go as smooth as possible", "Public speaking I have a group presentation coming up in front of about 60 people, and I usually get really nervous and shaky presenting in front of a few people. Any serious advice to try get it to go as smooth as possible" ]

[ "I give a LOT of presentations, so I hope this helps.\n\nPrepare, but don't feel the need to have it all memorized. \n\nYou may feel your voice is shaky and you're sweating, etc, but these things are MUCH more noticeable to you than the audience. \n\nThe audience wants you to do well, they are on your side. But they aren't expecting you to be some great, inspirational speaker. So, lower the bar for yourself. \n\nTry and have fun with it, if you can. I do little trivia questions in the presentation with silly prizes. ", "Practice your content, or at least be well versed in whatever you're presenting. Taking short video clips on your phone is super helpful while preparing\n\n1\nPeople are generally thinking about themselves. They won't really notice or remember what you say or do. \n\n2\nRemember point 1.you have to fight for their attention. Use the volume and speed of your speech to trigger their attention\n\n3\nDon't use dense or complex slides. Use visuals if you can. The slides are your notes, not the thing the audience should focus on\n\n4\nButterflies are your body's way of preparing you for a stressful situation. Embrace the feeling once you start to get it. Realize your body is trying to help you. Use that energy as a source of power. They will go away faster than you think once you embrace them \n\n5\nBefore you go on stand in a superman pose. Hands on hips, elbows out, chest out. Breathe. Hold for 2 minutes. \n\n6\nChoose your words carefully. Avoid um, ah, uh, well...any word that doesn't advance your presentation is distracting and weak\n\n7\nGive the audience time to listen. Your high points need to land. Use pauses of 3 seconds. It's a really long time when you are the sole speaker. \n\n", "I've taught several classes and I love public speaking. \n\nMy single biggest tip is to go through your presentation very slowly and fully enunciating everything. After you do that 1-3 times repeat it as fast as you can the same number of times. I would do this before I presented my poem in a poetry slam and it helps to loosen up your face and mouth muscles. It also helps you get used to the words and by exaggerating the way you speak it's easier to stay in the middle and speak with clarity and a good pace.\n\nMake sure to bring a bottle of water up with you. If you ever forget what you were going to say or are about to stumble, stop. Grab a drink of water, and use that time to recollect your thoughts. I do it frequently when students interrupt my lecture Gio ask questions and I forget where I left off.\n\nLastly, pace around a little bit. You don't want to be constantly moving, but you also don't want to be a statue. So move around the floor a little bit. It'll help to calm your nerves and it makes you look more lively.\n\nI hope you break a leg! (But not really :D)", "Make sure that you know the content of your presentation front and back. Practice it in front of a friend and have them ask you questions about your topic. You can then use those questions to make your presentation better. ", "I've been a trainer and speaker for over 25 years and here are some tips, (some may already have been mentioned) :\n\n- bottle of water to keep your mouth moist as dryness of mouth throws most people. Also gives you time to respond to questions, or to look natural when you need to move around the room. \n- talking of moving, it's not good to constantly be pacing up and down or moving back and forth on the spot, but it's also not good to just stay in the same place the whole presentation \n- to create the impression you are speaking to everyone, use the idea of the M movement to scan your audience. Obviously as some have said, if making eye contact will throw you off then stare at the back wall, but if you can manage eye contact don't get trapped talking to one person who nods at you (a common problem) thus alienating the rest. Move your gaze as you talk in an M shape, front row left to back left then front middle to back right then front right etc or something like that. Means everyone feels included. Will look unnatural if done often but now and then it helps to include all. \n- if using slides, consider using a cheap clicker device with a laser pen so you can casually advance the presentation without having to return to the podium each time and having a pointer to highlight points is good. \n- get used to using a flipchart or whiteboard to build your points even with just words as this engages the audience and is superior and more warmly received than death by PowerPoint. \nLots of other tips but many have been said already. Above all, best of luck and you WILL become better the more you do it :) ", "Find your champions! Find a small amount of people in the audience that are obviously listening more actively than the others, spread out in different directions, that you lock eyes with some times and \"speak to\". This will help you gauge of you are speaking too slowly, too fast, are making sense, etc. And since they are spread out, more of the audience will have the feeling that you are speaking to them.", "Every time I need to do something that scares me, as soon as I've done it I wonder why I was so scared. It will not be as bad as you think, and the second time will be always be easier than the first. To that end, I suggest getting some smaller experience before the presentation so you are not going in cold.", "Don't make eye contact. Look over their heads slightly, that way you don't get distracted or distraught by people's expressions or lack of one. That always helped me.", "60 people is impressive! I've only presented to 30 at a time tops. \n\nPersonally, I like to:\nmake notecards to stay on topic \n\nchew gum before your presentation \n\ndo not make eye contact with anyone (stare at back wall/ people's foreheads) \n\ntry to act like you know what you're talking about, doesn't matter if you do or don't " ]

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[ "I can't relax on my vacations. Any help? I work a very high stress job. I don't get to take a lot of vacation time as it is and I can't actually enjoy my time off because I worry about the work that I know is piling up while I'm away. Any tips from people who also struggle with this?", "I can't relax on my vacations. Any help? I work a very high stress job. I don't get to take a lot of vacation time as it is and I can't actually enjoy my time off because I worry about the work that I know is piling up while I'm away. Any tips from people who also struggle with this?", "I can't relax on my vacations. Any help? I work a very high stress job. I don't get to take a lot of vacation time as it is and I can't actually enjoy my time off because I worry about the work that I know is piling up while I'm away. Any tips from people who also struggle with this?", "I can't relax on my vacations. Any help? I work a very high stress job. I don't get to take a lot of vacation time as it is and I can't actually enjoy my time off because I worry about the work that I know is piling up while I'm away. Any tips from people who also struggle with this?" ]

[ "Get a new job.\n\nNo, seriously. I know it seems like an extreme reaction, but if your job has you so wound up you can't even relax when you're on vacation, it's time to reevaluate your position. Is your job really worth your happiness? Or your health? If you have a family, your stress levels are probably affecting them, too.\n\nSource: took a 30k/year (USD) pay cut to leave an extremely stressful job and start working for a non-profit. Haven't regretted it yet, and that was almost 3 years ago.", "This may sound counter-intuitive, but maybe a class, or workshop with something to focus on can help clear your mind. Nothing crazy, but maybe a wine tasting class, something artistic or agricultural.", "u prob arent going to right place. popular tourist attractions just stress me out and i dont enjoy it at all. last year went to virginia beach and i was too tired and anxious . loud noisy .. ppl . but i went to museums and i loved it. i prefer quiet locals like a park . what do u do to unwind then think what ud like to do", "My dad had this. Turn off your freaking phone. Honestly it just helps so much. Other than that go somewhere you actually enjoy. Do something fun like skiing or diving or whatever you may enjoy. Something that relaxed you before your job maybe? " ]

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[ "Tips on looking for an apartment? So this is my first time looking for an apartment and I have no clue what im doing lol. What do I need to know before and after looking for an apartment. How much is typically needed when you rent an apartment. Also this might be a dumb question but water, gas and electricity bills, do I need to call DWP so that they can turn it on and send me the bill or will that be automatic and sent to me and I just have to deal with the payments. Any other advice would be appreciated. I live in CA if that matters", "Tips on looking for an apartment? So this is my first time looking for an apartment and I have no clue what im doing lol. What do I need to know before and after looking for an apartment. How much is typically needed when you rent an apartment. Also this might be a dumb question but water, gas and electricity bills, do I need to call DWP so that they can turn it on and send me the bill or will that be automatic and sent to me and I just have to deal with the payments. Any other advice would be appreciated. I live in CA if that matters", "Tips on looking for an apartment? So this is my first time looking for an apartment and I have no clue what im doing lol. What do I need to know before and after looking for an apartment. How much is typically needed when you rent an apartment. Also this might be a dumb question but water, gas and electricity bills, do I need to call DWP so that they can turn it on and send me the bill or will that be automatic and sent to me and I just have to deal with the payments. Any other advice would be appreciated. I live in CA if that matters", "Tips on looking for an apartment? So this is my first time looking for an apartment and I have no clue what im doing lol. What do I need to know before and after looking for an apartment. How much is typically needed when you rent an apartment. Also this might be a dumb question but water, gas and electricity bills, do I need to call DWP so that they can turn it on and send me the bill or will that be automatic and sent to me and I just have to deal with the payments. Any other advice would be appreciated. I live in CA if that matters", "Tips on looking for an apartment? So this is my first time looking for an apartment and I have no clue what im doing lol. What do I need to know before and after looking for an apartment. How much is typically needed when you rent an apartment. Also this might be a dumb question but water, gas and electricity bills, do I need to call DWP so that they can turn it on and send me the bill or will that be automatic and sent to me and I just have to deal with the payments. Any other advice would be appreciated. I live in CA if that matters", "Tips on looking for an apartment? So this is my first time looking for an apartment and I have no clue what im doing lol. What do I need to know before and after looking for an apartment. How much is typically needed when you rent an apartment. Also this might be a dumb question but water, gas and electricity bills, do I need to call DWP so that they can turn it on and send me the bill or will that be automatic and sent to me and I just have to deal with the payments. Any other advice would be appreciated. I live in CA if that matters" ]

[ "Get a lease. Do not go month to month, bad landlords can really put you in a bind. \n\nMost property management companies require you to make 3x the rent. Some will take a little less but you have to pay a month ahead. \n\nSome PM companies require first month and last month paid up front, plus the deposit. \n\nWhen you are viewing an apartment, listen for neighbor noises. If the walls are too thin, it can make you miserable. \n\nMany PM companies will have you do a walk through and write down any problems. Take pictures of every room, sink, appliance, toilet, boiler, A/C, etc., and store those photos on your computer or a drive/cloud.\n\nLearn renter's rights for your state and county. Learn landlord's rights, too. It's knowledge worth having.", "I rented in CA. Get renters insurance. It's worth it. \n\nYou're going to have to make 3X what your rent is. It's kinda crazy the way they do it now. \n\nSing a lease, don't go month to month. Month to month allows them to raise your rent every month if they want. 12 Months is the best bet for you. \n\nWhen you sign the lease, they'll give you everything you need to turn on all utilities. You won't have to worry about that. \n\nVisit the area around your building at different times during the day, and weekend, to see what others are doing and if it's busy/active. \n\nMake sure you get a parking space that is your own and that your guests will have access to one if they visit. You may need a parking sticker for your car. \n\nWhen you move in, photograph/video everything with the date so you can prove what it looked like when you moved in. You should do a walk through with the leasing agent - BE PICKY. If there is a scratch on the wall, point it out because if you don't they'll do it after you're gone and not feel bad charging you for it. \n\nWhen something breaks, don't fix it yourself. Call for maintenance, it's part of your rent so let them pay to fix it. \n\nRent on the top floor if you can. There is nothing worse than having tap dancers living above you and you never know who will move in/out. It sucks to move in and out but is worth it while you live there.", "If you’re giving an application fee, ask if this reserves it or if you’re competing with others. If you’re competing, odds are you won’t get the place. \n\nThere’s a scam going on where they show the unit, get people interested, they apply, and weren’t selected. For two hours worth of work, you can make a few hundred dollars. Hell, you don’t even need to own the place, just find one you can get access to. \n\nHow do I know this? I was scammed. If your money doesn’t reserve the unit while they run your cr", "I work as a housing coordinator in CA and I help people in my county locate housing and navigate the leasing process. Maybe check to see if your county has a similar service. They may be able to help you pay app fees and depending on your situation they can help with deposits and some rental costs. \n\nAlso I recommend looking on your local housing authority's website for the fair market rates for rentals per zip code in your county. Generally due to our housing shortage most rentals are going to be above this cost, but this is usually a good value to know to get a better grasp on the market depending on the area. \n\nWhen searching for rentals, I like to look through property management websites the most more than zilliow or truila since don't have to risk them being a scam. However usually a private landlord is often easier to deal with and is more forgiving than a property management company, but know that seeking out private landlords is often more risky. \n\n\n I believe you should always ask to tour the rental first, if they wont let you inside, cant meet in person or request any fees outside of an app/cr", "I left CA a few years ago so my information may be outdated/Missouri specific.\n\nThings you'll need to be prepared for are the application fees, the damage deposit, 1st & possibly last months rent, a cr", "Go back and see it at night if your initial viewing was during the day. Presumably you’ll be spending more time there in the evenings than during the daytime and this will give you an idea of how noisy the area is…" ]

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[ "How to deal with racism in school? Sooo im in high school And at school they make pretty racist remarks to me because of my father's ethnicity and the teachers dont gave a shit to. \nAny tips?", "How to deal with racism in school? Sooo im in high school And at school they make pretty racist remarks to me because of my father's ethnicity and the teachers dont gave a shit to. \nAny tips?", "How to deal with racism in school? Sooo im in high school And at school they make pretty racist remarks to me because of my father's ethnicity and the teachers dont gave a shit to. \nAny tips?", "How to deal with racism in school? Sooo im in high school And at school they make pretty racist remarks to me because of my father's ethnicity and the teachers dont gave a shit to. \nAny tips?", "How to deal with racism in school? Sooo im in high school And at school they make pretty racist remarks to me because of my father's ethnicity and the teachers dont gave a shit to. \nAny tips?", "How to deal with racism in school? Sooo im in high school And at school they make pretty racist remarks to me because of my father's ethnicity and the teachers dont gave a shit to. \nAny tips?" ]

[ "The best thing you can probably do is gather audio/video evidence. With concrete evidence you can do a lot like:\n\n* Show it to someone higher up and demand them to do something. Even if they don't you can record your meeting and use this against them later.\n* Send the videos to a local (more progressive) news station that has helped people speak out about things like this in the past.\n* Use the videos to rile up a local community that will actively oppose the school.\n* Attempt to make the videos viral on social media and let cancel culture work its magic (no guarrantee of success)\n* Threaten to use the above methods to essentially blackmail the school (only works if the school cares about its reputation)\n* Worst comes to worst (and depending on your country) you may be able to sue the perpetrators. For example here in South Africa a woman was convicted of Crimen Injuria (a type of hate crime) for calling another woman a \"stupid bitch\" on Twitter.", "I learned long ago in high school, if you don’t respond to bullies / tormentors they will escalate. If you report them, many times they will exact revenge in a place or time of their choosing. But if you a don’t let them know it really bothers you but at the same time dish it back often they will back down because it takes their fun away. But when you dish it back, don’t escalate. Keep it in balance with their behaviors. Good luck.", "I'm not you and I'm sorry this is happening.\n\nMake noise. *Lots of it*. Speak directly to the principal and don't pull any punches. Detail to them exactly what's happening. If they don't take immediate action, contact the superintendent of schools. Same deal. No action? Speak with the chair of the school board.\n\nAnd, contact your local office of the NAACP.\n\nAnd, contact the police chief or sheriff. No, this isn't a law enforcement deal but they'll have good information on who else to contact.\n\nYou're being discriminated against and that is wrong on every level.", "So, it makes a difference what country you're in and if the US, what state. Start establishing a paper trail. Make complaints via email with specific quotes and statements. Request responses in writing. If you are responded to in person, send a follow-up email to that person summarizing what they told you. Keep doing that, especially if you are getting backlash. Document everything. Try to be as factual/bland as possible in those emails, ie, don't put your emotions into it (Despite how rightfully painful and difficult this is.) If things do not improve, print the history of emails to pdf, attach and forward them to the superintendent. If you still fail to get intervention and protection against this, contact a civil rights attorney or local legal aid and ask for help.", "It would be more helpful to kno the kinds of things they are saying but I’m with the others saying to dish it back. \n\nHowever if they threaten you I’d consider ratting on them.", "File HIBS. Normal happy people don’t treat people this way. I’m sorry. My son went through this last year and I pulled him out. I know all too well that teachers do not care. If the principal doesn’t go to the superintendent. I’m sorry you are enduring this. Hugs your way." ]

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[ "Any tips for severe motion sickness? I've had motion sickness my entire life. As a kid it was so bad that I couldn't take a car ride without getting sick and would basically be done for the day. Now as an adult it has gotten better to where I can at least ride most public transport (subways, trams and shorter bus and car rides).\n\nI'm currently however working towards getting my driver's license and will get sick after an hour of driving. I'm nearing my practical exam but am quite bummed out by getting sick to the point of severe nausea (and sometimes eventually even vomiting) every time I drive.\n\nI have tried:\n\n\\- Seabands \n\\- Several meds but they make me very drowsy which means I can't use them while driving or if I have to be active after traveling \n\\- Making sure I look far ahead \n\\- Tilting my head \n\\- I also always make sure to not eat right before driving, have a bottle of water next to me, that I'm not too warm and have the window cracked for fresh air\n\n\\*\\*", "Any tips for severe motion sickness? I've had motion sickness my entire life. As a kid it was so bad that I couldn't take a car ride without getting sick and would basically be done for the day. Now as an adult it has gotten better to where I can at least ride most public transport (subways, trams and shorter bus and car rides).\n\nI'm currently however working towards getting my driver's license and will get sick after an hour of driving. I'm nearing my practical exam but am quite bummed out by getting sick to the point of severe nausea (and sometimes eventually even vomiting) every time I drive.\n\nI have tried:\n\n\\- Seabands \n\\- Several meds but they make me very drowsy which means I can't use them while driving or if I have to be active after traveling \n\\- Making sure I look far ahead \n\\- Tilting my head \n\\- I also always make sure to not eat right before driving, have a bottle of water next to me, that I'm not too warm and have the window cracked for fresh air\n\n\\*\\*", "Any tips for severe motion sickness? I've had motion sickness my entire life. As a kid it was so bad that I couldn't take a car ride without getting sick and would basically be done for the day. Now as an adult it has gotten better to where I can at least ride most public transport (subways, trams and shorter bus and car rides).\n\nI'm currently however working towards getting my driver's license and will get sick after an hour of driving. I'm nearing my practical exam but am quite bummed out by getting sick to the point of severe nausea (and sometimes eventually even vomiting) every time I drive.\n\nI have tried:\n\n\\- Seabands \n\\- Several meds but they make me very drowsy which means I can't use them while driving or if I have to be active after traveling \n\\- Making sure I look far ahead \n\\- Tilting my head \n\\- I also always make sure to not eat right before driving, have a bottle of water next to me, that I'm not too warm and have the window cracked for fresh air\n\n\\*\\*", "Any tips for severe motion sickness? I've had motion sickness my entire life. As a kid it was so bad that I couldn't take a car ride without getting sick and would basically be done for the day. Now as an adult it has gotten better to where I can at least ride most public transport (subways, trams and shorter bus and car rides).\n\nI'm currently however working towards getting my driver's license and will get sick after an hour of driving. I'm nearing my practical exam but am quite bummed out by getting sick to the point of severe nausea (and sometimes eventually even vomiting) every time I drive.\n\nI have tried:\n\n\\- Seabands \n\\- Several meds but they make me very drowsy which means I can't use them while driving or if I have to be active after traveling \n\\- Making sure I look far ahead \n\\- Tilting my head \n\\- I also always make sure to not eat right before driving, have a bottle of water next to me, that I'm not too warm and have the window cracked for fresh air\n\n\\*\\*", "Any tips for severe motion sickness? I've had motion sickness my entire life. As a kid it was so bad that I couldn't take a car ride without getting sick and would basically be done for the day. Now as an adult it has gotten better to where I can at least ride most public transport (subways, trams and shorter bus and car rides).\n\nI'm currently however working towards getting my driver's license and will get sick after an hour of driving. I'm nearing my practical exam but am quite bummed out by getting sick to the point of severe nausea (and sometimes eventually even vomiting) every time I drive.\n\nI have tried:\n\n\\- Seabands \n\\- Several meds but they make me very drowsy which means I can't use them while driving or if I have to be active after traveling \n\\- Making sure I look far ahead \n\\- Tilting my head \n\\- I also always make sure to not eat right before driving, have a bottle of water next to me, that I'm not too warm and have the window cracked for fresh air\n\n\\*\\*", "Any tips for severe motion sickness? I've had motion sickness my entire life. As a kid it was so bad that I couldn't take a car ride without getting sick and would basically be done for the day. Now as an adult it has gotten better to where I can at least ride most public transport (subways, trams and shorter bus and car rides).\n\nI'm currently however working towards getting my driver's license and will get sick after an hour of driving. I'm nearing my practical exam but am quite bummed out by getting sick to the point of severe nausea (and sometimes eventually even vomiting) every time I drive.\n\nI have tried:\n\n\\- Seabands \n\\- Several meds but they make me very drowsy which means I can't use them while driving or if I have to be active after traveling \n\\- Making sure I look far ahead \n\\- Tilting my head \n\\- I also always make sure to not eat right before driving, have a bottle of water next to me, that I'm not too warm and have the window cracked for fresh air\n\n\\*\\*", "Any tips for severe motion sickness? I've had motion sickness my entire life. As a kid it was so bad that I couldn't take a car ride without getting sick and would basically be done for the day. Now as an adult it has gotten better to where I can at least ride most public transport (subways, trams and shorter bus and car rides).\n\nI'm currently however working towards getting my driver's license and will get sick after an hour of driving. I'm nearing my practical exam but am quite bummed out by getting sick to the point of severe nausea (and sometimes eventually even vomiting) every time I drive.\n\nI have tried:\n\n\\- Seabands \n\\- Several meds but they make me very drowsy which means I can't use them while driving or if I have to be active after traveling \n\\- Making sure I look far ahead \n\\- Tilting my head \n\\- I also always make sure to not eat right before driving, have a bottle of water next to me, that I'm not too warm and have the window cracked for fresh air\n\n\\*\\*" ]

[ "I used to have really bad motion sickness as a child. For some reason, tomato juice always helped relieve the nausea. V8 worked miracles for me. To this day I still drink tomato juice on airplanes or whenever I’m feeling a little nauseous. I’m not sure if this will work for you but it’s worth a try!", "What about general prescription nausea meds like Zofran dissolvable tablets? They're not drowsiness-inducing.", "The Sea Bands concept is based on pressure points in the hand and wrist. Different points work for different people. Firmly press your thumb into different places on your wrist.\nI see people wearing the pressure point on the Sea Band in the dead center of their wrist. This point does not work for me at all.\nI found that if I press very hard into the line/fold that distinguishes the thumb from the wrist that it works within three seconds.", "Maybe see a doctor.\n\nMotion sickness is usually caused by a disagreement between the motion you see (eyes) and the motion you feel (ears). For me watching the horizon (in a boat) or making sure I've got an unobstructed view out the window (in a car) helps prevent it. I very, very rarely get motion sick while driving (car or boat) because I need to focus outside the vehicle.\n\nIn your case, if you get motion sick while you are in control of the vehicle, there's something funny going on...possibly an inner ear or eyesight issue.", "I take Non Drowsy Dramamine or this one I found on Amazon. Completely worth the price and amount they give you:\n\nRugby Travel Sickness, Tablets, 100 Ea https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B004FJFF2A/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_13J7EM7MHDP0F1DY4E63\n\nI get very, very car sick when I’m not the driver. I don’t get it in airplanes or boats just vehicles 🤢", "I get motion sickness during certain situations, always have. Like someone else mentioned motion sickness is caused when your eyes see differently from what your body is experiencing (I.e. looking down, or being in the very very back of a vehicle like say a van or a limo). Looking straight ahead always works for me. I’ve never heard of someone getting it while driving, I’m at a loss as to what to do for that.", "Ginger beer. The Jamaican one, but let it go flat. Not sure why, this always settles me when I get sea sick and perks me right up" ]

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[ "how to make time for friends when I'm completely stressed out by my uni workload? My assignments + homework for uni is overwhelming at this point for me. I'm not in a good position to drop a unit (nor do I want to), but it's at the point where I'm so stressed that if I take time off, I'm constantly worrying over this time I'm 'wasting' that I could be using to get my academic shit together.\n\nI think I'm pushing away my friends too, by refusing to meet up/not wanting to go out, etc.\n\nAre there any good LPTs for managing this stress so it isn't so consuming? I don't want to keep on being such an ass to people.\n\nI'll delete if this doesn't belong here; just please let me know", "how to make time for friends when I'm completely stressed out by my uni workload? My assignments + homework for uni is overwhelming at this point for me. I'm not in a good position to drop a unit (nor do I want to), but it's at the point where I'm so stressed that if I take time off, I'm constantly worrying over this time I'm 'wasting' that I could be using to get my academic shit together.\n\nI think I'm pushing away my friends too, by refusing to meet up/not wanting to go out, etc.\n\nAre there any good LPTs for managing this stress so it isn't so consuming? I don't want to keep on being such an ass to people.\n\nI'll delete if this doesn't belong here; just please let me know", "how to make time for friends when I'm completely stressed out by my uni workload? My assignments + homework for uni is overwhelming at this point for me. I'm not in a good position to drop a unit (nor do I want to), but it's at the point where I'm so stressed that if I take time off, I'm constantly worrying over this time I'm 'wasting' that I could be using to get my academic shit together.\n\nI think I'm pushing away my friends too, by refusing to meet up/not wanting to go out, etc.\n\nAre there any good LPTs for managing this stress so it isn't so consuming? I don't want to keep on being such an ass to people.\n\nI'll delete if this doesn't belong here; just please let me know", "how to make time for friends when I'm completely stressed out by my uni workload? My assignments + homework for uni is overwhelming at this point for me. I'm not in a good position to drop a unit (nor do I want to), but it's at the point where I'm so stressed that if I take time off, I'm constantly worrying over this time I'm 'wasting' that I could be using to get my academic shit together.\n\nI think I'm pushing away my friends too, by refusing to meet up/not wanting to go out, etc.\n\nAre there any good LPTs for managing this stress so it isn't so consuming? I don't want to keep on being such an ass to people.\n\nI'll delete if this doesn't belong here; just please let me know", "how to make time for friends when I'm completely stressed out by my uni workload? My assignments + homework for uni is overwhelming at this point for me. I'm not in a good position to drop a unit (nor do I want to), but it's at the point where I'm so stressed that if I take time off, I'm constantly worrying over this time I'm 'wasting' that I could be using to get my academic shit together.\n\nI think I'm pushing away my friends too, by refusing to meet up/not wanting to go out, etc.\n\nAre there any good LPTs for managing this stress so it isn't so consuming? I don't want to keep on being such an ass to people.\n\nI'll delete if this doesn't belong here; just please let me know" ]

[ "You need to make a schedule. Schedule working time, and stick to it, so when you reach your scheduled relax or social time, you know it's okay to take it because you got your working portion done.\n\nIt's important for your health and sanity that you take some breaks. Also, your friends *will* leave you after long enough of you ignoring them. Some will stick around longer than others, but they'll eventually stop calling. Would you continue being friends with someone who didn't want to spend time with you for several years?", "What I did was train my body to depend on a very short amount of sleep each night. When you've got a routine going it's great. There is honestly not enough hours in a day. ", "Basically, you don't. Someone remarked once that going through Uni, you pick two of the following three things to do properly: schoolwork, sleep, and social life. Pick two and commit fully. (Personally, I would recommend putting your social life on hold. It will still be there when uni is over)", "Doesn't really answer your question but this may help, \" sleep more than you study, study more then you party, party as much as possible\"", "You just remember that college grades actually don't matter almost ever in real life outside of very specific jobs. " ]

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[ "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?", "How to enjoy time alone? I am a very social person, and when I am forced to spend time alone I find myself feeling very depressed and unmotivated. Any tips to help me enjoy myself?" ]

[ "It really makes you think when you see somebody with the exact opposite problem. I am so sick of enjoying time alone and just want some damn friends... Wanna switch bodies for a week?", "Read. I only get a few hours a week when I'm off work that my girlfriend is still at her job and every second of it is spent reading. Plus it's rewarding when you finish a book even if you didn't like it you still accomplished something. ", "Well this is hard for me to answer, because I love being alone. So here is what I do: Woodworking, riding my motorcycle, running (before my knees got tore up), walking in the woods with my dog, cross country skiing, and art. Is there a skill you've always wanted? Use your alone time to work on that. Learn a language with Rosetta Stone (it works pretty good!). Make a website or Facebook page for a band you like but isn't popular yet. Read. Listen to podcasts. Listen to 'This American Life'. Write a book (I did, it was great fun). Build stuff. Go to freerice.com and earn some food for the hungry. Do you have a tablet? Go to /r/redditgetsdrawn and draw somebody. I do that sometimes. Learn an instrument. Christ, you can learn anything on Youtube.", "Step 1) convert to introvertism\nStep 2) profit!\n\nSorry, in candor I have no advice. As an introvert, almost anything done alone can be awesome so long as it's a thing I don't hate.", "I used to be like that. I always needed some sort of social stimulation. I think to keep me distracted, from what really matters. Whatever that is, you'll find out for yourself.\n\nI went on a long backpacking trip, like 2 months, and forgot about \"life\" for a while. I wasn't being fulfilled. I learned how to be alone during that time, and am so, so, so thankful for that experience. It has brought me closer to myself, nature, Spirit and I would rather spend time alone now than anything else. I also have a dog and some other farm animals, so they are good company. I go out when I want, maybe once a week, but after work I'm chilling just me and the pup.", "I had a friend that had and most likely still has this exact same problem. It's not healthy to be solely reliant on being a around other people. My former friend was so socially reliant he became pretty annoying to be around most of the time. He'd always want to come over, contact me and others at all hours of the day asking \"Where you at/What you up to\". \n\nDon't turn into that or you will find yourself being alone more than you care to be. Find a hobby that you can do by yourself, work out, read a book, improve your life! You will never be comfortable with yourself until you can be by yourself.", "Smoke weed, listen to pink floyd, play hearthstone, have a beer, smoke weed, watch a dope movie like American Psycho, smoke weed, build a bong, draw a bong, buy a longboard, walk your dog, walk my dog, smoke weed.", "Researching something.\nAssembling something for a hobby.\nPainting or drawing, sculpting.\nHunting for food.\nCooking. Masturbating.\n", "I think its about finding a hobby, your interests. \n\nDo you enjoy escapism or stories? Books, tv shows, movies etc are great to soften the experience that you are alone. If these arent your hobbies normally it can be tough to start. Especially with reading you have to train yourself not to lose focus. I have read voraciously for years and can read for hours on end but my sister for example is more casual and reads for 30 min at a time tops. If you are looking where to start with any of these three let me know and i may be able to help or hit up the subs and make a request for what kind of escapism you may feel like. \n\nThere are also more passive hobbies like enjoying podcasts ot audio books or listening to music. Im not very good at doing just these and usually use them to accompany other hobbies like doodling, origami, crafts, baking etc.. \n\nThere are also more skill based passions, some more insular than others and may help if you are trying to be comfortable in your own space. Doodling or colouring in are very zen like activities. Baking or cooking is also rewarding. DIY and crafts too. These are all very rewarding if you take the time to learn may prevent you from getting into a slump at the end of it. \n\nThere are many hobbies out there to help you focus and keep you interested on your own. Many of them are portable too. Its about what you want to get our of being on your own. Do u want escapism? to make something? to focus? We all use out alone time for different reason. So what do u want out of it? ", "For me, I smoke weed when I'm home alone. Then I pick a task that needs to be done and zone out for a while. ", "Focus on bettering yourself somehow. \n\nI have always hated being alone. It's brought me to depression several times. But the moment I just accepted that I was alone rather than dwelling on it, I actually found myself finding hobbies. I picked up a book or started cleaning. \n\nThat's if I have free time with my two jobs now.... \n\nGet a second job! ", "Sounds like you need to invest in a decent pair of headphones and maybe a Spotify subscription. Never a dull moment when you've got a concert going on in your head. ", "Solutions: \n1. Read - plenty of great books, if you don't want to read, listen to books. Great way to spend time, learn new facts and make your dummy friends feel like a bunch of bozos, just kidding! \n2. Video Games (Although it is fun, it is counter productive) \n3. Hobby (Coding for example) \n4. Start going to the gym, getting in shape \n5. Masturbate + Naps", "Slowly pick up a solo hobby where you take pride in it.\n\nFor me, same boat? After a few years, I'm a pretty damn good woodworker.", "Play golf early in the morning, try to be the first one out on the course. You might get paired up with someone, but hey they are 99% of the time someone new to you. There is nothing like teeing off at 7 in the morning with the sun rising, cool air from the night, and knowing you have the whole course to yourself. Pure bliss.", "I realize you might not like this idea, but hear me out. \n\nGo to bed at 10-10:30 when you do get done with stuff, wake up an hour earlier than usual, and go for a walk/run with your music somewhere. I never liked to run till my mid twenties. I always wanted to be texting someone, talking, playing online games, socializing every minute I could.\n\nThen I found peace in running. I could listen to myself think, mull over thoughts and decisions, without asking someone else's opinion just to make conversation. I'm now in the best mental, not to mention physical, shape in my life and I feel much more at peace by myself and with people. \n\nTry it for a week. See how you feel. Best of luck finding what's best for you!", "I don't really know if I can help you but i'll try my best. Try finding a new hobby, I know you said that you feel unmotivated when you are alone but, give it a shot. It doesn't have to be something traditional, simple, or grand, it just has to be something you want to do. It could be something like hiking, reading, watching a movie, or riding a bike around town. If you don't find an interest in activities you consider to be monotonous, then find a new activity; I don't mean switching from riding a bike to hiking, but more along the lines of \"I don't know how to ride a skateboard, so today I'm going to learn how to skateboard,\" or \"I've always had an interest in learning Japanese, so today I'm going to learn Japanese.\" What do you do when your with your friends? If you are active when with friends, try finding an active solo hobby like mountain biking; If you do something more relaxed when with friends, try finding a relaxed hobby like drawing.", "You mentioned you enjoy listening to music, perfect. Get a book like this http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B01BOFRF8O/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?qid=1463542953&amp;sr=8-3&amp;pi=SY200_QL40&amp;keywords=journal+rough+cut&amp;dpPl=1&amp;dpID=41voqa%2BlrvL&amp;ref=plSrch and put your thoughts on paper while listening to your favorite tunes. \n\nI used to sit and write until the sun came up. Sometimes I would make a masterpiece and other times it was just random crap that was on my mind. Not good at writing? Don't know what to write about? Doesn't matter. Just start out writing the words, \"I don't know what to write about, the pen feels funny on this paper\" and so on and eventually your random thoughts will just end up on the paper. \n\nThere is something about writing that has helped in hard times or times of depression that is difficult to explain. For me anyways, it helped me organize my thoughts, work through my problems, and look at them from another perspective. Ever been in the middle of explaining something to someone and all of the sudden you realize you were wrong or understand it in a new way? It's like that but by yourself. ", "When I get home from work and can close the door and enjoy silence, is literally the only I believe in God. ", "Smoke weed and find the coolest apps. ", "Listen to actual ambient sounds. Learn how to enjoy the silence. Listen to your fridge running. Or the hum of your neighbors AC. Or someone doing yard work. Night animals. Truth is found in silence. Monks burn themselves Alive to teach you this. The gaps between can really help. I mean go to a concert now and then. Listen to the life around you that you ignore everyday. ", "Learn to m", "It's not easy being alone when you're an extrovert, but experiment, experiment, experiment.\n\nBe it learning new skills, find something you always thought about doing but never have the time or think it would be impossible, and look up videos on it.\n\n", "Introvert here! Time alone is blissful for me. I suggest remembering all your fanciful ideas and jotting them down, then when alone you can do one as a project. Redesign your garden, go to a pool, go to a library, visit somewhere new. This is a time to soothe yourself, expand your interests, indulge your curiosities. ", "Immerse yourself in something that works best alone. A story rich single player RPG, a deep and complex movie, a really good book.\n\nOne of the best things about alone time is that you have no distractions and you can immerse yourself more deeply in forms of media than ever before.\\\n\nAlternatively, you can do things by yourself that you enjoy but your friends no not.", "I'm kind of like you. But, only when the sun is out. Once it's dark outside, I love being alone. Idk why. But since this happens to you at night, like you said, maybe you should do something productive. That's what I do. Learning HTML and CSS from codeacademy. Try to learn something you've been wanting to learn to distract yourself.", "I have only recently begun to learn the art of enjoying time alone. As an extreme extrovert I have avoided it whenever possible for years, so I can fully empathize with you. \nOne thing that has begun changing my perspective is the idea that it's not really that you are alone, you just get to hang out with yourself! If you are constantly around others, you don't get the chance to enjoy your own presence very much.", "I have a wife and three kids. Last year I spent almost two weeks riding my motorcycle alone in the mountains of Colorado. I need a little time to myself each year just to decompress. But I know I would be horribly lonely if it was just me.\n\nI want to bring the boys back to Ouray to go off-roading, but the 14yo said he wouldn't be interested. I think he's the one who could live as a hermit. His 4yo brother is the opposite - always wants someone to play with.\n\nBack to the question at hand - those two weeks were soul-moving - especially in early June when the mountain passes are open - but the mountains are still covered in snow - having someone else there wouldn't have moved me as much.", "Go back and be born as an introvert instead. \n\nI know, that's a shit answer, but life is what it is on the introversion/extroversion scale. I'm on the exact opposite end of that scale. I've literally gone 15 days without having a conversation with anyone deeper than, \"Would you like fries with that?\" and felt completely happy at the end of it.\n\nAnd I have a social job. Every day I'm on the phone with customers or shaking babies and kissing hands with various people who are in the middle of freak out mode because of problems. \n\nSo I can offer some advice from the exact opposite end of the spectrum that might help you. \n\nMost people on the ends of the introvert/extrovert spectrum talk about it as an energy tank. As they get out of their element it gets depleted. The further out of their element they are the faster it gets depleted. I like to think of it as a muscle. \n\nAnd like most muscles, you can work it out. Like all work outs, explore your limits before you stress it too hard. Figure out what you can actually do (it's probably a lot more than you think) and then bring yourself close to the limit repeatedly with good recharge opportunities in between. \n\nSo, starting out, a good workout for your introversion might be to stay in for a night and read a book. An even milder one would be to read that book in a coffee shop. \n\nLater on, go for a hike alone. A few days should be enough. \n\nFinally, you can do things like travel to a foreign country where you don't speak the language and have no friends. Once you can spend a few weeks surrounded by strangers that you're completely isolated from, you'll be fully acclimated to introversion. You still won't like it, but you'll be an extroversion camel. ", "Get a journal and write to your imaginary best friend in the whole world. Write about everything you experienced while you were out being social. Then after a year or so go back and read what you've written. Its really interesting!", "Define \"when I am forced\", please.\n\nDo you mean when you find yourself having time alone? Do you mean a regularly scheduled time period (say the end of a work day)? Do you mean that every day after work you try to find friends to do something with and sometimes no one wants to hang out?\n\nIf it occurs with any regularity: volunteer!\n\n(a) You won't be alone.\n\n(b) You won't be an emotional drain on your friends while also not being alone.\n\n(c) You will be doing good for others.\n\nYes, you do have to occasionally spend time with just you, but you do that already and without incident. Examples: Going to the bathroom, sleeping, being the only one in your car while commuting, etc. Just think of these moments as more of the same (more bathroom going, just with less toilet).\n\nAlso, I've found that the more scheduled you make yourself with your volunteering, the less you feel abandoned by friends not wanting to hang, because you won't even be asking them, because you'll not need to, because you are volunteering. Then your friends will start trying to schedule things *with you* instead. And nothing could be more validating to someone with abandonment issues than having friends *ask you* to hang.", "Concentrate on your breathing. Find your own form of m", "Being alone can be really hard when. You're really used to being social. I have 5 days off a week from work every week so I know how you feel. Something that helped me was just learning to just take a few minutes and relax. Even if it's just for 5 minutes just let your mind wander. If you can do this then just go with the thoughts that you think of. I can't count the amount of times I would just be laying in bed and a random question would come in my head and then I'd want to figure it out. It's brought me to researching about a lot of random topics that I can't explain how I even got there. \n\nOr as others have probably said reading is great. Just trying to find a story you'll get interested in can be a tad bit difficult at times. Maybe just try to read some classic books that you hear being referenced about all your life and give them a chance.", "After a very crappy and boring long term relationship I thought I would hate being alone. I dreaded it. Turns out that after really letting myself have the time to process everything I prefer it. Put on some headphones, blast some music and go for a run/ walk. Ride a bikle, go sit in the park and read a book....anything.", "imaginary friends heheheh\n\nSeriously tho, find a good (video) game to play, one that is challenging...", "That's a very unfortunate thing. You have to spend the most time with yourself, you should enjoy it. This could be because you have no interests and you get joy from other people presenting them to you or showing/explaining them. You should develop a hobby. When I'm alone all I want to do is a hobby that I've been working on. " ]

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[ "How to make proper eye-contact with strangers in most situations. Whether passing someone in the hallway, sitting down at a table where people already are sitting. I think i'm just over thinking it, so diagnose me doctors.", "How to make proper eye-contact with strangers in most situations. Whether passing someone in the hallway, sitting down at a table where people already are sitting. I think i'm just over thinking it, so diagnose me doctors." ]

[ "Just focus on the bridge of their nose. It's more comfortable for you, and they can't tell the difference.", "\"Natural\" eye contact is usually strong w/ interruptions. Like if you are sitting across from someone you are making eye contact 95% of the time. Passing down the hall you make eye contact when you are close enough to greet. Talking at a table w/ multiple speakers you make contact w/ the person speaking even if they are looking at the group. Contact and speaking go hand and hand. " ]

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[ "How to make a musty old attic livable. For the next 4 months, I'm living in a very old attic. Does anyone have any tips on how to make it:\n-less welcoming to rodents (I'm going to see how peppermint oil does)\n-less musty\n-how to get ancient smelly odours out of it (decades of mouse poop)\n-how to clean the floor without damaging it (I'm pretty sure it's untreated wood that hasn't ever been washed, so far I've only swept)\n\nIf I can handle these few problems, I think it will be a pretty sweet place to live (I've already got a wicked laser light show going on!)", "How to make a musty old attic livable. For the next 4 months, I'm living in a very old attic. Does anyone have any tips on how to make it:\n-less welcoming to rodents (I'm going to see how peppermint oil does)\n-less musty\n-how to get ancient smelly odours out of it (decades of mouse poop)\n-how to clean the floor without damaging it (I'm pretty sure it's untreated wood that hasn't ever been washed, so far I've only swept)\n\nIf I can handle these few problems, I think it will be a pretty sweet place to live (I've already got a wicked laser light show going on!)" ]

[ "I hope you used a face mask while sweeping. Don't want to [catch anything](http://www.cdc.gov/rodents/diseases/direct.html) from those droppings. Certainly do that from now for future sweeps and vacuums. \n\nAny chance to open it up to fresh air and some sunshine short of actually tearing a hole in it? That would help. Otherwise Febreze is one of the few products out there that does actually neutralize odours, not just cover them up, so use a lot of that to get rid of the musty smell. \n\nOnce you get rid of the poop, I'd get a fan up there, just to move the air around some to help freshen it up. \n\nIf you think rodents are still a problem, any chance of getting or borrowing a cat that's a mouser? Otherwise, traps of one sort or another. \n\nKeep the door to the attic open to help reduce the mustiness. Change your bedsheets regularly. ", "Spray the wood floor with a bleach/water mix before moving in. Vinegar/water will get rid of the musty smell. Also I've always used real vanilla extract instead of peppermint.... I found it works better, at least in my basement. " ]

[ 4, 2 ]

[ "How to find the balance between naively thinking people are better than they are and cynically thinking people are worse than they are. ", "How to find the balance between naively thinking people are better than they are and cynically thinking people are worse than they are. ", "How to find the balance between naively thinking people are better than they are and cynically thinking people are worse than they are. ", "How to find the balance between naively thinking people are better than they are and cynically thinking people are worse than they are. ", "How to find the balance between naively thinking people are better than they are and cynically thinking people are worse than they are. ", "How to find the balance between naively thinking people are better than they are and cynically thinking people are worse than they are. ", "How to find the balance between naively thinking people are better than they are and cynically thinking people are worse than they are. ", "How to find the balance between naively thinking people are better than they are and cynically thinking people are worse than they are. " ]

[ "I guess the middle ground of those is 'people act in their own best interest, and do what is the easiest, most convenient thing to do regardless of how it impacts their lives or other people/animals/the environment etc' \n\n\nI'll give an example: Recycling. We all know it's better for the planet and probably the right thing to do. Lots of places here in the US charge people for recycling pick up, make sorting different items really hard and there's hardly ever a recycle bin anywhere out in public. So, people acting in their desire for convenience and desire to use their money for things they find more beneficial are not going to pay for recycling services and they're not going to hunt around for a recycling bin for miles when they can just put their trash in a trash can. That person didn't think \"Hey I'm gonna F up the Earth today by not recycling!\" They just thought something like \"Hey I have this trash and there's a trash can.\" Very few people *try* to be bad people on purpose, that person almost certainly wasn't thinking \"I'm going to deliberately ignore the trash can and throw this in the street instead, just because I'm an A-hole\" ", "I think my outlook on people was really improved by realizing everyone has different goals than you do. So they function in a way to achieve those goals. Sometimes those goals may seem stupid, but not everyone is going through life with a clearly outlined five year plan, and that's OK. I think it's good to generally assume that everyone is trying to do their best in the best way they know how, and that a good number of people think, privately, that they're the only person here who isn't a sheeple.", "I try to assume positive intent, always. I feel like the term \"naively\" here is used mostly by cynics who never assume positive intent. I don't feel naive, I feel empathetic. ", "I struggle with this a lot. A few things that help me are first of all trying to be the best I can be, helping others, sticking up for myself when I need to, etc. Just always try to be the best and hope others meet your standards, but dont expect them to.\n\nI find that reading helps too, studying why we are the way we are, how society formed, how individuals formed, psychology and sociology, history. It puts things in perspective to study these things.\n\nIf someone in particular is giving you trouble, try to understand them. This doesnt mean excusing their behavior or not holding them accountable, but it helps to relieve the anger and stress you feel and will help to find a solution that works for both of you.\n\nPeople are selfish. This can lead to horrible things. But at the core of it, they are probably just trying to get along like you are. They may not be thoughtful or conscious of people other than themselves. They may be downright ignorant. Awful as it is you will never change it. So understand it if you can and hold yourself to a high standard.", "Easy. Just assume everyone is trash. \n\nThen if they do something above garbage level, you'll be pleasantly surprised. ", "There's so much diversity among us that putting any Blanket statements on everyone is likely to be unfair. I think it's more a question of what you personally focus on. Do you look for beauty and love or see evil and disgust?\n\nAlso, many of the most beautiful aspects of humanity aren't newsworthy. A mother's love for her child, random acts of kindness and generosity. These things occur constantly, it just depends what you're looking at", "I'm not sure what the context is here, but I don't think that's something you should think about at all.\n\nThink about how much you like them, or how compatible they are for your purposes\n\nI don't know how good a person my neighbor is. I don't even not exactly what that means or why it should matter. But he doesn't annoy me, and can be quite helpful. So he's a good neighbor, and that's all that matters to me.\n\nLet's say 90% of all drivers thinks they are better than average. I think they are all correct. How is that possible?\n\nHere the speed limit is generally 80, but most people drive 90.\n\n* Some people drive exactly 80, and think they are better than most people, because of the speed limit.\n\n* Some people go 90 because that's what's most people do. If you go slower you are annoying and the cause of risky overtakings.\n\n* Some poeple go 100, and they are the best drivers because they are most efficient.\n\nThe tricky think is, that they all have a point. There are good and bad parts about all of them. There are many ways to figure which speed is best, and it's up to every person to prioritize them. (And please don't make this into a discussion about how dangerous speeding is. I agree, and it's not the point.)\n\nAnd that was just speed. When to use the turn signal? When to use fog lights? How much distance should you keep at different speeds? So many variables I cannot list them all. And that's just driving, a small aspect of life.", "I'm a very \"middle ground\" (not to be confused with a fence sitter) type of person. It's just my outlook, not really sure how to give people tips on how to hold this sort of temperament, I think your brain chemistry/past experiences/people/events that've influenced you have a lot to do with it..." ]

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[ "A safer way to open pistachios without damaging your fingers. I really like eating [Pistachios](https://duckduckgo.com/?q=Pistachios&amp;iax=1&amp;ia=images)* but more often than not [I get my fingers damaged](http://imgur.com/gallery/E9Zjm) while opening them. \n\nI 've tried using my nails instead of bare (skin) fingers but after a while it starts to hurt.", "A safer way to open pistachios without damaging your fingers. I really like eating [Pistachios](https://duckduckgo.com/?q=Pistachios&amp;iax=1&amp;ia=images)* but more often than not [I get my fingers damaged](http://imgur.com/gallery/E9Zjm) while opening them. \n\nI 've tried using my nails instead of bare (skin) fingers but after a while it starts to hurt.", "A safer way to open pistachios without damaging your fingers. I really like eating [Pistachios](https://duckduckgo.com/?q=Pistachios&amp;iax=1&amp;ia=images)* but more often than not [I get my fingers damaged](http://imgur.com/gallery/E9Zjm) while opening them. \n\nI 've tried using my nails instead of bare (skin) fingers but after a while it starts to hurt." ]

[ "Select one that can be opened easily. Use half of the shell to pry open the rest of the nuts.\n\nThe ones that can't be opened this way? I leave those for my wife.", "I use my teeth. But mostly I eat the easy ones first and see if I want to bother with the closed ones later.", "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, show those shells who is boss!! Or try marshmallows or peas (maybe skip fresh ones and go for pre-podded though)\n\nHow do you go opening the Pistachio packets? Is that an ordeal?" ]

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[ "Dealing with water/motion sickness I have recently started surfing, however I get very seasick after about 30 mins to an hour. I would like to get over this, and was wondering if anyone has any tips on how to conquer this nuisance? ", "Dealing with water/motion sickness I have recently started surfing, however I get very seasick after about 30 mins to an hour. I would like to get over this, and was wondering if anyone has any tips on how to conquer this nuisance? ", "Dealing with water/motion sickness I have recently started surfing, however I get very seasick after about 30 mins to an hour. I would like to get over this, and was wondering if anyone has any tips on how to conquer this nuisance? ", "Dealing with water/motion sickness I have recently started surfing, however I get very seasick after about 30 mins to an hour. I would like to get over this, and was wondering if anyone has any tips on how to conquer this nuisance? ", "Dealing with water/motion sickness I have recently started surfing, however I get very seasick after about 30 mins to an hour. I would like to get over this, and was wondering if anyone has any tips on how to conquer this nuisance? ", "Dealing with water/motion sickness I have recently started surfing, however I get very seasick after about 30 mins to an hour. I would like to get over this, and was wondering if anyone has any tips on how to conquer this nuisance? ", "Dealing with water/motion sickness I have recently started surfing, however I get very seasick after about 30 mins to an hour. I would like to get over this, and was wondering if anyone has any tips on how to conquer this nuisance? " ]

[ "Candied (or crystallized) ginger. You should be able to find it at the grocery store with the other spices. Eat a few morsels about 15 minutes before you get in the water and it should help prevent motion sickness. ", "I also recommend ginger! It's amazing. And if you can't get a travelband, use a quite tight (not too tight) hairband, or apply pressure to the palm at the base of one thumb.", "Aside from all of the home remedies like ginger and such, I tend to just stick with Dramamine. It tastes god-awful but it works like a charm.", "keep your eyes on the horizon to stop from feeling sick. I've been on boats in rough water and as long as I keep my eyes on the horizon I'm good.", "Travel-Eze Wristbands can be purchased at most pharmacies and is a drug free prevention against travel sickness. I get sea-sick, car-sick, and air-sick and they've always worked for me. ", "I find it odd that you're getting seasick in the water. many people suggest getting *in* the water as a quick cure for seasickness. \n\nI've had success with sea-bands, but i don't they they would handle surf.", "Sleep on a boat. It may not work but my gf got seasick for awhile on my boat (we now live on said boat) and she is great now. " ]

[ 4, 2, 2, 1, 1, 0, -1 ]

[ "What's cheaper for warming an apartment, turning up the thermostat or using a space heater? I live in a 1 bedroom 1 bathroom apartment with two other girls and it's ridiculously cold here, so we're trying to figure out what's cheaper: turning up the thermostat that comes with the apartment or using a space heater? I've read that gas is cheaper than electricity, which would mean the thermostat is cheaper, but I've also read that space heaters are better. Help! We're broke!", "What's cheaper for warming an apartment, turning up the thermostat or using a space heater? I live in a 1 bedroom 1 bathroom apartment with two other girls and it's ridiculously cold here, so we're trying to figure out what's cheaper: turning up the thermostat that comes with the apartment or using a space heater? I've read that gas is cheaper than electricity, which would mean the thermostat is cheaper, but I've also read that space heaters are better. Help! We're broke!", "What's cheaper for warming an apartment, turning up the thermostat or using a space heater? I live in a 1 bedroom 1 bathroom apartment with two other girls and it's ridiculously cold here, so we're trying to figure out what's cheaper: turning up the thermostat that comes with the apartment or using a space heater? I've read that gas is cheaper than electricity, which would mean the thermostat is cheaper, but I've also read that space heaters are better. Help! We're broke!", "What's cheaper for warming an apartment, turning up the thermostat or using a space heater? I live in a 1 bedroom 1 bathroom apartment with two other girls and it's ridiculously cold here, so we're trying to figure out what's cheaper: turning up the thermostat that comes with the apartment or using a space heater? I've read that gas is cheaper than electricity, which would mean the thermostat is cheaper, but I've also read that space heaters are better. Help! We're broke!", "What's cheaper for warming an apartment, turning up the thermostat or using a space heater? I live in a 1 bedroom 1 bathroom apartment with two other girls and it's ridiculously cold here, so we're trying to figure out what's cheaper: turning up the thermostat that comes with the apartment or using a space heater? I've read that gas is cheaper than electricity, which would mean the thermostat is cheaper, but I've also read that space heaters are better. Help! We're broke!" ]

[ "Gas is cheaper. \n\nI ran electric heater for my dog cause her room gets chilly and it was outrageously expensive.\n\n", "If it's a classic thermostat without scheduling functions, it would probably be best to get a space heater for use while you are back from work, then buy extra blankets and shut off the heat for the night. Go to Salvation Army or goodwill and ask for blankets (they might keep some behind the counter for those in need as well, so be sure to ask)", "I if you have drafty windows, it might be worth the money to get some window insulation kits. They are plastic that you cut to size to put over your window. First. You out some two-sided tape around the window frame and then you stick the plastic sheet on, then carefully blast it with a handheld dryer (careful not to get too close or you'll melt a hole in the plastic). In the spring when warm weather returns, pull the tape and plastic off. Here's one but there are lots out there..\nDuck Brand 281506 Indoor 10-Window Shrink Film Insulator Kit, 62-Inch x 420-Inch https://www.amazon.com/dp/B002GKC2GW/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_tai_qW1HybQG6R7HM", "Does the owner of the apartment pay for gas and do you have a gas stove? If so, turn on the stove and leave the door open. \n\nI've had to do this a few times. ", "Cheaper than either is to fold over a heating blanket and lay it on a sofa. By heating just the seat, instead of the whole room, you waste less heat.\n\nIf you have a cat or dog, the bonus is they'll want to sleep on the sofa beside you, instead of need to sleep ON you for warmth... so you can enjoy petting them without having them in your way. (Pets dog by his side)" ]

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[ "How do you make it up to someone after hurting their feelings? I messed up bad by hurting a friend I really care about. I feel horrible and I want to make it up to them and rekindle the friendship. I do not know how to.", "How do you make it up to someone after hurting their feelings? I messed up bad by hurting a friend I really care about. I feel horrible and I want to make it up to them and rekindle the friendship. I do not know how to." ]

[ "My buddy tried tripping me once and accidentally kicked me in the shin. I thought he was just kicking me, and having done Muay Thai at the time I turned around and nailed him back in the shin. He limped for 2 days and hated me. \n\nI took him for a lamb burger and a beer at a gastro pub and things were good as ever after that. He knew I was sorry to invite him out like that. Just show you care.", "Give them a card saying what you’ve done and how you will change. Don’t just give them the cards though. Read out what the card says and then give it to the person. You can also do this in any scenario, wether it be a birthday or a get well soon card." ]

[ 2, 1 ]

[ "Where to aim in the urinal to reduce backfire I've been experimenting with various angles. I can't seem to find a sweet spot. Low and away? High and center? Always seem to get some ricochet on the shoes. ", "Where to aim in the urinal to reduce backfire I've been experimenting with various angles. I can't seem to find a sweet spot. Low and away? High and center? Always seem to get some ricochet on the shoes. ", "Where to aim in the urinal to reduce backfire I've been experimenting with various angles. I can't seem to find a sweet spot. Low and away? High and center? Always seem to get some ricochet on the shoes. ", "Where to aim in the urinal to reduce backfire I've been experimenting with various angles. I can't seem to find a sweet spot. Low and away? High and center? Always seem to get some ricochet on the shoes. ", "Where to aim in the urinal to reduce backfire I've been experimenting with various angles. I can't seem to find a sweet spot. Low and away? High and center? Always seem to get some ricochet on the shoes. ", "Where to aim in the urinal to reduce backfire I've been experimenting with various angles. I can't seem to find a sweet spot. Low and away? High and center? Always seem to get some ricochet on the shoes. ", "Where to aim in the urinal to reduce backfire I've been experimenting with various angles. I can't seem to find a sweet spot. Low and away? High and center? Always seem to get some ricochet on the shoes. ", "Where to aim in the urinal to reduce backfire I've been experimenting with various angles. I can't seem to find a sweet spot. Low and away? High and center? Always seem to get some ricochet on the shoes. " ]

[ "Pee on the floor under the urinal. No splashback.\n\nsource: the people that are the reason for the lakes of urine seen in bathrooms everywhere.", "I'm 6'7\" but I don't think it effects my technique.\n\nScootch over to one side, get closer and aim down, make your stream flow with the ceramic.", "[Aim for the bee, it works for me.](https://softsolder.files.wordpress.com/2009/12/cimg4136-waterless-urinal-target.jpg)", "Today on LPT Request:\n\nTeach me how to piss.\n\nTomorrow on LPT:\n\nI'm slowly losing consciousness , can any one help me out with this breathing in and breathing out thigfrgf gf bvfdsvf asdvjefiwovjfiewjviefopwj'[fiopwbjgiw'[gigt'[gik'gosdfobsdfob'sdfobkpsdf.", "I try to aim the steam parallel with respect to the outer walls of the urinal. \n\nI think that less of an angle you create between the piss steam and the urinal wall, the less backsplash you will have. ", "I remember reading somewhere that a company put a little logo on that exact point which caused men to pee on the little logo. (if i remember correctly, it was a little cartoon bee) This point caused the least backspash and was basically at the apex of the curve between the bottom of the urinal and the back wall. I'll look into this \"bee urinal\" more because im probably remembering incorrectly.\n\n", "I literally came to this sub just to post this, my trick is to aim so that the stream lands as parallel to the wall as possible.\n\nThe Urinals at work are some what curved in the corners (which is ideal), so standing just half a foot to the left or right and peeing almost parallel to the wall will get the stream to \"glide\" with the wall and curve down the corner minimizing splash", "I either stand as close to the wall/urinal as possible (depending on the type) or I crouch a little so as to be closer to it. The closer you are the less splash" ]

[ 4, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How can I read more books? I dont read as much as I want to. I only read when I go to the beach but when I am at home I am distracted by shitty youtube videos and reddit. How can I concentrate while reading? \r\n", "How can I read more books? I dont read as much as I want to. I only read when I go to the beach but when I am at home I am distracted by shitty youtube videos and reddit. How can I concentrate while reading? \r\n", "How can I read more books? I dont read as much as I want to. I only read when I go to the beach but when I am at home I am distracted by shitty youtube videos and reddit. How can I concentrate while reading? \r\n", "How can I read more books? I dont read as much as I want to. I only read when I go to the beach but when I am at home I am distracted by shitty youtube videos and reddit. How can I concentrate while reading? \r\n", "How can I read more books? I dont read as much as I want to. I only read when I go to the beach but when I am at home I am distracted by shitty youtube videos and reddit. How can I concentrate while reading? \r\n", "How can I read more books? I dont read as much as I want to. I only read when I go to the beach but when I am at home I am distracted by shitty youtube videos and reddit. How can I concentrate while reading? \r\n", "How can I read more books? I dont read as much as I want to. I only read when I go to the beach but when I am at home I am distracted by shitty youtube videos and reddit. How can I concentrate while reading? \r\n", "How can I read more books? I dont read as much as I want to. I only read when I go to the beach but when I am at home I am distracted by shitty youtube videos and reddit. How can I concentrate while reading? \r\n", "How can I read more books? I dont read as much as I want to. I only read when I go to the beach but when I am at home I am distracted by shitty youtube videos and reddit. How can I concentrate while reading? \r\n" ]

[ "Turn off wifi and/or phone, get cozy, start reading.\n\nThere's no real fix, read or do not read. It's down to your own discipline. Maybe make sure it's a book you *really* want to read rather than reading for the sake of it?", "Surround yourself with books - either physically (through second-hand stores/libraries etc) or metaphorically (by downloading thousands onto your phone/tablet/kindle). \n\nThen follow the pattern you've already established by \"channel-surfing\" through them until you find something you really enjoy. Now you have a touchstone for further reading - either another book on the same topic, another book by the same author or one of the books in the bibliography. Before you know it, TV and youtube will lose their appeal and you'll be the owlish librarian type you've always dreamed of.", "Start by reading for at least 30 minutes a day. This way you'll build a habit and finish more books quickly. ", "I commute via train, so I give myself strict policy of books only on the train, no internet. Same goes for the bathroom. I finish a novel a month this way.", "Try to give your books a fair chance to get and keep your interest. Read in good light, avoid eye strain and distractions as much as you can. I try not to read in bed because I don't retain enough from night to night to keep a good pace.", "Try Audible - not really reading, but consuming book-type material. Then you can multi-task: listen to a book while driving, gardening, doing chores, etc.", "Make a plan. Have a set time each day when you will sit and read. Choose the duration and make a list of books. Make a goal for a certain minimum number of pages per day (start with 10 or 15 pages per day to start) and just keep that up. You may end up reading more than that, but never less. Make rules too, like if you miss a day, you'll add pages when you have more time. If you get overwhelmed just go back to step one. ", "Get a Kindle and you can sync it with your phone with reading the most important thing is reading what you like. If only read bios or fantasy books. \n\nAlso show some willpower and just read rather than very on reddit", "Find something you really want to read, if you can't motivate yourself you probably don't want to read it" ]

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[ "How to eat a grapefruit without making a mess Even with a serrated grapefruit spoon I somehow always end up sending grapefruit juice flying as soon as the spoon goes in. I can cut it in wedges but since I have a grapefruit spoon I might as well learn to properly use it. Any tricks?", "How to eat a grapefruit without making a mess Even with a serrated grapefruit spoon I somehow always end up sending grapefruit juice flying as soon as the spoon goes in. I can cut it in wedges but since I have a grapefruit spoon I might as well learn to properly use it. Any tricks?" ]

[ "Take a knife, make few cuts,peel grapefruit with your fingers.\nThen scrape of the white skin using finger and knife.\nThen eat like an orange", "My wife and I halve the grapefruit at the \"equator\" and then with a sharp knife or this https://www.amazon.com/Norpro-1271-Nonstick-Squirtless-Grapefruit/dp/B00A0JZH86/ref=sr_1_5?s=kitchen&ie=UTF8&qid=1515417078&sr=1-5&keywords=grapefruit+knife cut each section before then using a spoon (a serrated spoon is not required) to each each section. At the end we squeeze the half grapefruit to capture the remaining juice." ]

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[ "How to be an interesting and fun person to be around? You know the kind of people who are always excited, have great stories to tell and also always have funny or witty replies in even a boring conversations. I wanna be that person. I feel like once I get close to a person, I am really funny and make them laugh. But this does not happen till I break my shell of shyness. \n\n\n\nSome people are not at all shy. They cheer up and make people laugh even if they just met them. I wanna be like that. Is that a skill which naturally comes to some chosen people, or it can be gained? How can I gain it?", "How to be an interesting and fun person to be around? You know the kind of people who are always excited, have great stories to tell and also always have funny or witty replies in even a boring conversations. I wanna be that person. I feel like once I get close to a person, I am really funny and make them laugh. But this does not happen till I break my shell of shyness. \n\n\n\nSome people are not at all shy. They cheer up and make people laugh even if they just met them. I wanna be like that. Is that a skill which naturally comes to some chosen people, or it can be gained? How can I gain it?", "How to be an interesting and fun person to be around? You know the kind of people who are always excited, have great stories to tell and also always have funny or witty replies in even a boring conversations. I wanna be that person. I feel like once I get close to a person, I am really funny and make them laugh. But this does not happen till I break my shell of shyness. \n\n\n\nSome people are not at all shy. They cheer up and make people laugh even if they just met them. I wanna be like that. Is that a skill which naturally comes to some chosen people, or it can be gained? How can I gain it?", "How to be an interesting and fun person to be around? You know the kind of people who are always excited, have great stories to tell and also always have funny or witty replies in even a boring conversations. I wanna be that person. I feel like once I get close to a person, I am really funny and make them laugh. But this does not happen till I break my shell of shyness. \n\n\n\nSome people are not at all shy. They cheer up and make people laugh even if they just met them. I wanna be like that. Is that a skill which naturally comes to some chosen people, or it can be gained? How can I gain it?" ]

[ "[Be less focused on yourself](https://www.psypost.org/2022/06/shyness-linked-to-reduced-behavioral-mimicry-during-conversation-via-heightened-self-focused-attention-63400). Ask lots of questions without being interrogating and engage with the responses. People like to talk about themselves, their experiences and they’ll likely enjoy the engagement.", "I am that person. From an elevator ride to making coffee in the office kitchen, I entertain those around me. \n\nI have a few, innocuous stories in my arsenal - practiced and mentally timed for how much time I can expect to have the floor. Let me stress innocuous. No politics and nothing gruesome or gross - in the beginning or in-between times of conversation. \n\nI’m also up on weird news stories - AP news has a file for that - so I can talk about funny things that many don’t yet know about. Good News Network is a treasure trove too. \n\nAll that said, it’s practice. Get some good stories - practice them - but also prepare yourself for being cut off or ignored. Practice it all and it will start to come naturally. \n\nHave fun!", "Try following these rules - \n\nBe First \n\nBe positive \n\nBe patient\n\nBe the **First** person to show appreciation or comment on a situation or a personal attribute- “Hey that was a great speech” or “Hey I like your nails”\n\nMake sure what you say is **Positive**! \n\n“Those shoes are fantastic” or “That diner was really fun”\n\nBe **Patien**t -Wait for the response - wait for it. \n\nRemember for every action there is an opposite and equal reaction. \n\nIf you are first and positive, that energy will come back to you. Try it..Good luck", "You already have “it” with the people that believe you do. “always excited”, “have great stories to tell”, having “funny or witty replies” and even your “shell of shyness” are all subjective so not everyone will have the same standards for those descriptors. I might not find the replies you find funny humorous to me. i might not agree with you that the stories you think are great are in fact great. And, even right now, you describe yourself as shy but i guarantee you someone out there died internally thinking about the courage it even took you to write those post." ]

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[ "its 3 days till xmas and Ive just woken up with that \"getting sick/a sore throat\" feeling. How can I stop or delay getting sick? ", "its 3 days till xmas and Ive just woken up with that \"getting sick/a sore throat\" feeling. How can I stop or delay getting sick? ", "its 3 days till xmas and Ive just woken up with that \"getting sick/a sore throat\" feeling. How can I stop or delay getting sick? ", "its 3 days till xmas and Ive just woken up with that \"getting sick/a sore throat\" feeling. How can I stop or delay getting sick? ", "its 3 days till xmas and Ive just woken up with that \"getting sick/a sore throat\" feeling. How can I stop or delay getting sick? ", "its 3 days till xmas and Ive just woken up with that \"getting sick/a sore throat\" feeling. How can I stop or delay getting sick? ", "its 3 days till xmas and Ive just woken up with that \"getting sick/a sore throat\" feeling. How can I stop or delay getting sick? ", "its 3 days till xmas and Ive just woken up with that \"getting sick/a sore throat\" feeling. How can I stop or delay getting sick? ", "its 3 days till xmas and Ive just woken up with that \"getting sick/a sore throat\" feeling. How can I stop or delay getting sick? ", "its 3 days till xmas and Ive just woken up with that \"getting sick/a sore throat\" feeling. How can I stop or delay getting sick? ", "its 3 days till xmas and Ive just woken up with that \"getting sick/a sore throat\" feeling. How can I stop or delay getting sick? ", "its 3 days till xmas and Ive just woken up with that \"getting sick/a sore throat\" feeling. How can I stop or delay getting sick? ", "its 3 days till xmas and Ive just woken up with that \"getting sick/a sore throat\" feeling. How can I stop or delay getting sick? ", "its 3 days till xmas and Ive just woken up with that \"getting sick/a sore throat\" feeling. How can I stop or delay getting sick? ", "its 3 days till xmas and Ive just woken up with that \"getting sick/a sore throat\" feeling. How can I stop or delay getting sick? ", "its 3 days till xmas and Ive just woken up with that \"getting sick/a sore throat\" feeling. How can I stop or delay getting sick? ", "its 3 days till xmas and Ive just woken up with that \"getting sick/a sore throat\" feeling. How can I stop or delay getting sick? ", "its 3 days till xmas and Ive just woken up with that \"getting sick/a sore throat\" feeling. How can I stop or delay getting sick? ", "its 3 days till xmas and Ive just woken up with that \"getting sick/a sore throat\" feeling. How can I stop or delay getting sick? ", "its 3 days till xmas and Ive just woken up with that \"getting sick/a sore throat\" feeling. How can I stop or delay getting sick? ", "its 3 days till xmas and Ive just woken up with that \"getting sick/a sore throat\" feeling. How can I stop or delay getting sick? " ]

[ "I've never seen a thread filled with so much bollocks. \n\nPick up some over the counter meds, get plenty of rest and keep drinking plenty of fluids. Take care of yourself, basically. ", "Good Gravy people, will you listen to yourselves? \n\nFirst off, obligatory READ THE SIDEBAR. There's a good reason for \"no medical advice.\" \n\nAnd what advice it is. Is it salt, vinegar, or mouthwash that I put in my ears? Can I take zink, vitamin C, dayquil, nyquil, tamaflu, Tylenol and Hydrogen Peroxide all in one smoothy? Do I take my water pic into the sauna?\n\nFolks, some of you might even have good advice here. But some of this is at best ill-considered and at worst dangerous. Let's stop trying to improve this compost pile by putting more manure on. ", "Stop consuming sugar -- at least until you feel better -- it [suppresses](http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/feeding-eating/family-nutrition/sugar/harmful-effects-excess-sugar) your immune system. \"Eating or drinking too much sugar curbs immune system cells that attack bacteria. This effect lasts for at least a few hours after downing a couple of sugary drinks.\" according to [WebMD](http://www.webmd.com/cold-and-flu/10-immune-system-busters-boosters).", "Nothing works at beating a cold as this: Pour 1 capful from a large bottle of Crest Pro Health mouthwash into the reservoir of a WaterPik and fill it up the rest of the way with the hottest water from your tap. It has to be Crest Pro Health. Other mouthwashes foam too much.\n\nUse the large WaterPik fitting and set the WaterPik at setting 4. Now begin to spray the inside of your mouth deep to your tonsils, under your tongue, and especially the roof of your mouth deep to your throat. Get under your tongue, the space next to your teeth and every where you can reach.\n\nAt first nothing much happens. The water/mouthwash solution pretty much is clear. Then as you continue to hit the adenoids and the roof of your mouth way back, small hard white pockets of mucus will be dislodged. This will start to release a huge amount of white mucus from your sinuses and throat and mouth. It will continue and you won't believe how much is released from yourself. Fill the reservoir again and it will continue. The little hard white plugs will diminish and the large globs will continue. Usually two reservoir will clean you out just right. When you finish you will blow your nose and breathe as if you don't have a cold or flu at all. Go to bed and breathe normally without any medication. Next morning do it again and breathe normally all day. Except for being a little run down from your cold you will feel almost normal.\n\nIf you snore this will fix it also. Also, if you have a sore throat a tiny amount of blood may be mixed in the mucus but this is from the infected tissue that you cleaned out. Your sore throat will be healed in a day or two and you will feel immediately better.\n\nI had people tell me when they re sick that they may have to take a week off. I tell them about this and they show up for work the next day looking fine. What have I discovered here.\n", "Keep warm, drink plenty of fluids, take some Tylenol so you can get a good rest. I guess all those things that you do when you have a cold. And wash your hands and stay home if you can. You never know who you will pass your cold on to. There are some vulnerable people out there. ", "gargle salt water, take some cold fx, and pound some orange juice. i hate being sick and this always beast the piss out of any cold or flu", "Zicam can work wonders at the onset of symptoms. It's a preventative medication, and can cut the length of a cold short.", "There are some Anti-Viral prescriptions that will not provide a cure but may shorten the symptoms by a day or two.\n\nOr you can go with Dr Dean Edele's plan that if you aggressively treat it with Over The Counter drugs it will last only 14 days but if you do nothing it will take two weeks to get over it.", "The time I got really sick the night before a project was due, I took dayquil regularly as I finished the project over the next 12 hours and made it through the day without consequence, despite not sleeping. I also have a reputation for getting through sickness quickly though, so there's that.", "Normally I take some over the counter meds as soon as I start feeling the symptoms. I find it slows the progress and or helps in the long run so I dont feel as down and out when it finally hits.", "Look at the back of your throat and see if you see what looks like strep. http://www.healthline.com/health/strep-throat#Overview1 Strep is going around and only antibiotics will kill it. You can get the shot and clear it in 8 hours. Don't wait on it.", "If it is the flu, get tamiflu within the first 24 hours. That is supposed to shorten the duration. Sore throat is a flu symptom.", "Gargle some H202. I usually do it whenever my throat starts getting sore and I think I might be sick. It's not the best taste but it can help if you catch it early. ", "Airborne. I mean it was invented by a schoolteacher and I'm sure she must of been in the top of her field. ", "Zinc lozenges. Every two hours. Just do it. I haven't had a cold in over two years because of it. \n\nI recommend getting them from a health food store but you can also get them from a regular grocery store.", "This could be bullshit, but whenever I get that feeling in my throat I take nyquil and slam a beer before bed. I know it sounds dumb but it has worked for me, or at least seemed to, a few times now.", "My go to remedy for colds is a product called Umcka cold care. The alcohol free drops work and taste amazing. The trick is to try to get the drops to coat our throat since they have kind of a numbing effect that gives immediate relief on top of making your cold go away faster. Obligatory disclaimer that if symptoms don't go away with a week or get worse, are accompanied by nausea, hallucinations, or the like, you're taking prescription medications or you're pregnant or nursing, consult your doctor.", "learn to properly sauna.\n\ndo it regularly.. you will reduce colds by 90%\n\n\nalso if you feel a cold go to the sauna.. will stop it.\n\nIMPORTANT: if you *already* got the cold DONT go to the sauna.", "Vitamin C, 4 times a day, zinc 2 times a day, lots of water or hot liquids, adequate sleep. \n\n", "Take a salt shaker and sprinkle salt as far back into your throat as possible and as much as you can stand. Let it sit back there for as long as you can stand and then spit it out. It draws moisture out making the bacteria or virus have a harder time. This will also give your immune system a hand in fighting the infection. And as an added bonus it relieves the sore throat pain for a while. I do this about one an hour or when ever the pain comes back. Also keep a salt shaker by your bed so if you wake up in the middle of the night you can salt it.", "Drip hydrogen peroxide in your ears for a few minutes each ear\n\n" ]

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[ "how to create security questions and password so that I won't forget it. In some cases, I need to choose security questions. \n\n", "how to create security questions and password so that I won't forget it. In some cases, I need to choose security questions. \n\n", "how to create security questions and password so that I won't forget it. In some cases, I need to choose security questions. \n\n", "how to create security questions and password so that I won't forget it. In some cases, I need to choose security questions. \n\n", "how to create security questions and password so that I won't forget it. In some cases, I need to choose security questions. \n\n", "how to create security questions and password so that I won't forget it. In some cases, I need to choose security questions. \n\n", "how to create security questions and password so that I won't forget it. In some cases, I need to choose security questions. \n\n", "how to create security questions and password so that I won't forget it. In some cases, I need to choose security questions. \n\n" ]

[ "I don't know about the question, but for my password I use my 1st home phone # with area code. It's been 30 years since I lived there ", "LastPass or Keypass. If you'd rather not, use a sentence - dmeskin is bae. Use punctuation, and make it funny or memorable. Don't use your birthday, ssn, or any other identifyable info.", "try to use something you will never forget...like your favorite cartoon character as a kid and use that for every question even tho its not the actual real answer\n\nIE:\n\nq: What street did you grow up on?\n\n\na: daffyduck1\n\n", "The question doesn’t matter, pick a word or phrase and type it as the answer for every security question. You only have to remember the one word/phrase no matter what security question pops up.", "The important part is that it's very long and has at least some numbers and symbols. I've heard to use a sentence that is important somehow that also involves numbers. Like:\n\n>On 11/25 I am 16.\n\nor something. 17 characters, symbols, and it's very easy to remember. Just don't use your birthday or something personal.", "I have a several memorable places in my life and intermix the addresses.\n\n1234 Main St, Palm Springs, AK 31415 and \n9876 Penny Ln, New York, AZ 27183 can become \n\n4321niaMtS&6789ynnePnL@mlaPsgnirpS&weNkroY$KAZA#51413+38172\n\nAddresses I know so well, forward and backward, that I can mirror in my head.\n\nBonus points are when I add a password for my user name and fake answers for security questions ie: Dad's middle name is Sawdust.\n\nAdding dates are my highest level passwords. Then I can keep some core parts of a password, but alter it on a regular basis.", "Have a base password and then just add what it's for at the end. So my Reddit password is Wordpass4reddit for example", "Get a reliable password manager that synchronizes across both mobile devices and desktop. For the number of accounts and passwords required now a days, you cannot generate passwords that are unique, complex, and memorizable. \n\nI tried for along time before admitting it was needed. If you want to keep trying, you need more than a single word. Try blending a word with a number: burrito and 1970 becomes bur19rit70o. Now substitute numbers symbols, and add capitalization to get the next level, minimum. \n\nDon't use the same password for everything. If you need lots of passwords or frequent updates try using a theme. Mexican food, classic cars...\n\nBetter still use a phrase, saying, movie quote that is meaningful to you. Then use the steps above to add complexity using capitalization and substitution. Then instead, get a password manager that does all that for you." ]

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[ "How to stop cracking my knuckles I have always done this, but a coworker recently pointed out I do it all the time. (I guess some people don't like that, lol.) So apparently I do it without even noticing myself, so if I'm thinking, if I'm bored, whatever... heck, I was just re-reading this and caught myself doing it.\n\nI'm trying to pay better attention and catch/stop myself, but are there any other tips for stopping it when I'm not actively aware I'm doing it?", "How to stop cracking my knuckles I have always done this, but a coworker recently pointed out I do it all the time. (I guess some people don't like that, lol.) So apparently I do it without even noticing myself, so if I'm thinking, if I'm bored, whatever... heck, I was just re-reading this and caught myself doing it.\n\nI'm trying to pay better attention and catch/stop myself, but are there any other tips for stopping it when I'm not actively aware I'm doing it?" ]

[ "I dont have that problem but you can condition yourself not to do that.\n\nIf you ever catch yourself cracking your knuckles just give your hand a hard spank.\nOver time you will associate it and you'll learn not to do it.\n\nI did this because i used to misplace my guitar pick all the time and so i would hit the hand that misplaced it really hard, over the span of 3 to 4 days i stopped and learnt to put it where it belongs.", "Come up with a consequence for yourself. When I have a bad play in a sport I force myself to do push-ups or sprints." ]

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[ "How to document the work i do from home effectively. I am interning with a nonprofit and i am doing so from home. They know that i work very hard, but i want to create a templet of sorts to keep track of the work that i do (research done, projects completed, emails sent etc..)\n\nDoes anyone have any tips on how i can do this effectively and efficiently? My goal is to be more organized myself, allow them a look into my work week that highlights the substantial amount of time that i contribute to the organization. \n\nThanks in advance", "How to document the work i do from home effectively. I am interning with a nonprofit and i am doing so from home. They know that i work very hard, but i want to create a templet of sorts to keep track of the work that i do (research done, projects completed, emails sent etc..)\n\nDoes anyone have any tips on how i can do this effectively and efficiently? My goal is to be more organized myself, allow them a look into my work week that highlights the substantial amount of time that i contribute to the organization. \n\nThanks in advance" ]

[ "I use toggl to track my time at work. As long as you get in the habit it works great, it's free, and the reporting features are good enough. \n\nI also use Trello for my small business. It's a scrum style project management tool (also free) that allows you to create tasks and track your progress.", "Set your phone to beep every hour, then when it goes off stop what you're doing and make a note of what you are currently working on." ]

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[ "System/app to track daily routine I have at least 20 different things I try to do on a daily basis, and I tend to forget at least one of them. I'm looking for something that will not just remind me once, but keep bugging me periodically until I actually do it. I'm a huge sucker for gamification and \"maintaining a streak\" on things like codeacademy and duolingo, so an app that did something like that would be a big plus.\n\n", "System/app to track daily routine I have at least 20 different things I try to do on a daily basis, and I tend to forget at least one of them. I'm looking for something that will not just remind me once, but keep bugging me periodically until I actually do it. I'm a huge sucker for gamification and \"maintaining a streak\" on things like codeacademy and duolingo, so an app that did something like that would be a big plus.\n\n", "System/app to track daily routine I have at least 20 different things I try to do on a daily basis, and I tend to forget at least one of them. I'm looking for something that will not just remind me once, but keep bugging me periodically until I actually do it. I'm a huge sucker for gamification and \"maintaining a streak\" on things like codeacademy and duolingo, so an app that did something like that would be a big plus.\n\n", "System/app to track daily routine I have at least 20 different things I try to do on a daily basis, and I tend to forget at least one of them. I'm looking for something that will not just remind me once, but keep bugging me periodically until I actually do it. I'm a huge sucker for gamification and \"maintaining a streak\" on things like codeacademy and duolingo, so an app that did something like that would be a big plus.\n\n" ]

[ "Look up coach.me, I think it does what you're looking for. If course, if you're looking for serious gamification, there's habitRPG. ", "Try this\n[Just A Sec: Repeated Reminders](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.tednewman.justasec&hl=en)\n", "I use this one https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.lvl.xpbar\n\nyou can set up a reminder every hour", "I have not personally delved into this app but it got high praise. Might want to take a look. I got it for free at one point so I'm not sure if they have a price on it again.\n\n[2Do](http://www.2doapp.com/)" ]

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[ "How to deal with multiple job offers When you're applying for jobs I've often found that not all recruiters will contact you at the same time. If they did, it would be easy enough to just pick and choose. I feel like It would be easy to accept a position, then maybe a week or two later, get an offer for another position. How would I deal with accepting and starting a position and then having to leave it for something else within a relatively short amount of time?", "How to deal with multiple job offers When you're applying for jobs I've often found that not all recruiters will contact you at the same time. If they did, it would be easy enough to just pick and choose. I feel like It would be easy to accept a position, then maybe a week or two later, get an offer for another position. How would I deal with accepting and starting a position and then having to leave it for something else within a relatively short amount of time?" ]

[ "The first 90 days or so at a job is both them evaluating you and you evaluating them. If you are at an at-will state just cut your losses after the first week by sending an an apology to your boss and thanking them for their time, and that's that, though you may damage your reputation if you do it more than once or twice as word gets around. ", "Your best bet is to stretch out the recruiting process for the first job as long as possible with interview dates, accepting offer, start date. If you get lucky you can have multiple offers to compare and work before accepting one. If you work in a profession where everyone knows everyone, then walking out of a new position could hurt you later. Personally, if I found out you took another role I'd stop the recruitment process. If you were a current employee and I found out you're planning to leave or still looking around, I'll just start planning for your departure start working you out of processes or never get you involved in anything beyond day to day busy work. " ]

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[ "What are the best ways to maximize the space in a small-ish dorm room / studio room? [This is the kind of room I'm talking about.](https://www.chapter-living.com/media/2172/woodland_bronze-plus-studio-b12_alt2_rtc.jpg?anchor=center&amp;mode=crop&amp;quality=50&amp;width=1200&amp;height=800&amp;format=jpg&amp;rnd=131351746200000000)\n\n\nMy biggest concern is probably the closet space (that closet is tiny!) So what are tricks where I can maximize that limited space? And other than just closet, what else can someone do to make a small room feel big / fit a lot without getting messy?", "What are the best ways to maximize the space in a small-ish dorm room / studio room? [This is the kind of room I'm talking about.](https://www.chapter-living.com/media/2172/woodland_bronze-plus-studio-b12_alt2_rtc.jpg?anchor=center&amp;mode=crop&amp;quality=50&amp;width=1200&amp;height=800&amp;format=jpg&amp;rnd=131351746200000000)\n\n\nMy biggest concern is probably the closet space (that closet is tiny!) So what are tricks where I can maximize that limited space? And other than just closet, what else can someone do to make a small room feel big / fit a lot without getting messy?", "What are the best ways to maximize the space in a small-ish dorm room / studio room? [This is the kind of room I'm talking about.](https://www.chapter-living.com/media/2172/woodland_bronze-plus-studio-b12_alt2_rtc.jpg?anchor=center&amp;mode=crop&amp;quality=50&amp;width=1200&amp;height=800&amp;format=jpg&amp;rnd=131351746200000000)\n\n\nMy biggest concern is probably the closet space (that closet is tiny!) So what are tricks where I can maximize that limited space? And other than just closet, what else can someone do to make a small room feel big / fit a lot without getting messy?", "What are the best ways to maximize the space in a small-ish dorm room / studio room? [This is the kind of room I'm talking about.](https://www.chapter-living.com/media/2172/woodland_bronze-plus-studio-b12_alt2_rtc.jpg?anchor=center&amp;mode=crop&amp;quality=50&amp;width=1200&amp;height=800&amp;format=jpg&amp;rnd=131351746200000000)\n\n\nMy biggest concern is probably the closet space (that closet is tiny!) So what are tricks where I can maximize that limited space? And other than just closet, what else can someone do to make a small room feel big / fit a lot without getting messy?", "What are the best ways to maximize the space in a small-ish dorm room / studio room? [This is the kind of room I'm talking about.](https://www.chapter-living.com/media/2172/woodland_bronze-plus-studio-b12_alt2_rtc.jpg?anchor=center&amp;mode=crop&amp;quality=50&amp;width=1200&amp;height=800&amp;format=jpg&amp;rnd=131351746200000000)\n\n\nMy biggest concern is probably the closet space (that closet is tiny!) So what are tricks where I can maximize that limited space? And other than just closet, what else can someone do to make a small room feel big / fit a lot without getting messy?", "What are the best ways to maximize the space in a small-ish dorm room / studio room? [This is the kind of room I'm talking about.](https://www.chapter-living.com/media/2172/woodland_bronze-plus-studio-b12_alt2_rtc.jpg?anchor=center&amp;mode=crop&amp;quality=50&amp;width=1200&amp;height=800&amp;format=jpg&amp;rnd=131351746200000000)\n\n\nMy biggest concern is probably the closet space (that closet is tiny!) So what are tricks where I can maximize that limited space? And other than just closet, what else can someone do to make a small room feel big / fit a lot without getting messy?", "What are the best ways to maximize the space in a small-ish dorm room / studio room? [This is the kind of room I'm talking about.](https://www.chapter-living.com/media/2172/woodland_bronze-plus-studio-b12_alt2_rtc.jpg?anchor=center&amp;mode=crop&amp;quality=50&amp;width=1200&amp;height=800&amp;format=jpg&amp;rnd=131351746200000000)\n\n\nMy biggest concern is probably the closet space (that closet is tiny!) So what are tricks where I can maximize that limited space? And other than just closet, what else can someone do to make a small room feel big / fit a lot without getting messy?", "What are the best ways to maximize the space in a small-ish dorm room / studio room? [This is the kind of room I'm talking about.](https://www.chapter-living.com/media/2172/woodland_bronze-plus-studio-b12_alt2_rtc.jpg?anchor=center&amp;mode=crop&amp;quality=50&amp;width=1200&amp;height=800&amp;format=jpg&amp;rnd=131351746200000000)\n\n\nMy biggest concern is probably the closet space (that closet is tiny!) So what are tricks where I can maximize that limited space? And other than just closet, what else can someone do to make a small room feel big / fit a lot without getting messy?" ]

[ "While it might make logical sense to stack things on top of the fridge, closet, etc, it might make your room feel smaller. It would allow you to put more stuff in the room but it can make you feel claustrophobic to have so much stuff all around you. If you decide to go that route, though, get some storage bins. There are plenty nice looking ones. Also, they have large clothes storage bags that you can slip under your bed for those clothes that you don't wear every day (winter clothes, etc) that can save some room in your closet.\n\nAlternately, and I know this isn't what you were looking for, but I wanted to suggest it anyway - you can use this opportunity to really scale back your possessions. Giving away, selling, or tossing stuff that isn't vital is therapeutic and you may find it easier to keep your place clean. Being weighted down by your possessions is a real thing. Every time I've moved I've downsized and it feels like I'm making a fresh start in each new place. \n\nBest of luck to you! Despite the smallness of the room, it looks pretty nice. ", "Find someplace that sells RV's. Go tell the salesman that you inherited a bunch of money and have him show you the latest top of the line RV's. Tell him you want the one with the most storage space. \n They have amazing ways to maximize space on RV's for storage, you'll get a lot of good ideas.\n\nThe most basic one is to buy lots of plastic storage containers, even ones that will fit under your bed. Find out if there is a Container Store near you, they have thousands of good ideas you can steal.", "Don't bring unnecessary things. \n\nAll your books and school supplies should be contained in some corner of your room. These should be the focal point. You don't need anything besides pens, pencils, notebooks.\n\nA few pairs of pants. A diverse range of shirts. Two solid sweaters. A versatile jacket. One warm coat. A weeks worth of socks and underwear (expendable). Shoes? 2 pairs, and 1 boots. 1 sandals. This should all fit in a larger-than-carry-on suit case. Only bring the clothes you feel most comfortable wearing. By the end of your dorm room life, theses clothes should be getting worn out, so be prepared to grow attached.\n\nKeep toiletries together. Don't use baskets. Use bags and pouches for everything, because you can throw it all in one big duffel bag. When showering, carry your toiletries in your hands. If you need more things in the shower than you can carry in your hands (shampoo and soap), use a carrying thing that you wont feel bad throwing away. \n\nTry to keep miscellaneous items contained in as small a duffel bag as possible. \n\n2 pillows\n\n1 mattress sheet\n\n1 sheet sheet\n\n1 blanket\n\nIf it gets freezing cold, sleep in clothes.\n\nDon't bring a video game console.\n\ndon't bring a tv\n\ndon't bring a fridge\n\ndon't bring guitar/bass amps. (unless you're music student)\n\nDon't bring an iron.\n\nIf you're worried about looking ragged, immediately hang or fold your clothes after they come out of the dryer. Don't be lazy on this part.\n\nDorms are like extended stay hotels. They're essentially bunks, a place to sleep.\n\nIt's not about the space, it's about the stuff you bring. The less stuff you bring, the better off you'll be. You'll develop discipline, resourcefulness, and pride.", "Utilize space above the cabinets and fridge with decorative bins, under that counter there could be space for organized drawers, utilize the side of that pantry with a hanging organizer, and utilize risers in the cabinets for further organization", "I'm a new lurker to this sub, I'll be moving into a studio apartment (slightly bigger then this) in about a week or two. I really found some of these responses helpful!! ", "Go 3D! Get one of those bunk-beds that is a bed up top, and a desk underneath. Maximise your use of vertical space, rather than wasting it all.\n\nSearch on Google for \"tiny houses\", they are popular in Japan and the USA (tiny apartments, converted motor homes, etc) and they're full of great ideas.", "Find or add storage space where there currently is unused square footage. Ottomans with hidden compartments, tables with cabinets, bed risers, storage bins on top of cabinets, mounted shelves (if allowed in your lease), over-the-door or inside-cabinet storage... IKEA has tons of examples of how to organize small spaces (and lots of inexpensive but versatile options for furnishing and storing items).", "Allow some space for open storage (preferably as far away from the cooking area as possible). This will not maximize storage space, but will make the room seem a bit bigger. Also, consider getting more light sources, like a couple of shades, and not use ceiling lights - light and dark contrast will make your space seem \"deeper\". \nIf at all possible, \"rotate\" your things - ship back home whatever's not in season anymore and have warm/light clothes shipped back to you. \nStore pots and pans in the oven. Store things you only use occasionally on top of kitchen cabinets. Reuse vertical space (hooks, mirrors, baskets on the inside of all doors). Although actually there seems to be quite enough space for storing one's possessions, so don't worry much. \nThe biggest issue I see is lack of small storage. Consider installing some pull-out trays and wire baskets inside that narrow closet to keep smaller stuff on display and handy. This not only saves time when you need to find something, but prevents making a mess when you're looking for it. " ]

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[ "Cheap soundproof (or dampening) material. Something that I can get (or already have!) That could be used to cover loud things or separate spaces to reduce noise.", "Cheap soundproof (or dampening) material. Something that I can get (or already have!) That could be used to cover loud things or separate spaces to reduce noise.", "Cheap soundproof (or dampening) material. Something that I can get (or already have!) That could be used to cover loud things or separate spaces to reduce noise." ]

[ "If you can get egg crate foam cheaply, get that. Even better is to pair it up with heavy-duty bubble-wrap, which is cheap and can be had at Walmart. The bubble-wrap absorbs sound and the egg crate foam disperses it.", "Hang cheap sleeping bags or heavy blankets on the walls, it helps absorb the sound at least some. My old Recording Arts teacher told us this. ", "If you are really nice to your local Macca's, they will collect bulk egg cartons for you. We have done this, and don't charge for it. They are about 30cm x 30 cm (1 ft x 1 ft), and will probably only take a weeks supply to cover a decent size room (depending on store size, we go through about 250 a week, minimum)." ]

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[ "How to not let someone with an overpowering personality get to you I have a mother in law who has a very overpowering and loud personality. I'm more of an introvert and she gets on my nerves when I'm around her. I can't really figure out why she bothers so much, so I'm seeking advice on how introverted people deal with extremely extroverted people. ", "How to not let someone with an overpowering personality get to you I have a mother in law who has a very overpowering and loud personality. I'm more of an introvert and she gets on my nerves when I'm around her. I can't really figure out why she bothers so much, so I'm seeking advice on how introverted people deal with extremely extroverted people. " ]

[ "Basically it will be about working on your boundaries and figuring out your personal needs (like harmony or respect). Then you will be able to figure out how you're able to work to fulfill those needs yourself, or how to ask for her help. \n\nI'm reading a book called Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and I've loved learning about non violent communication as well. \n\nHope that helps! ", "Use sarcasm to insult them and they'll think you're joking. It actually works to help vent any frustration. :)))" ]

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[ "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?" ]

[ "Habit from my military time is standing with my hands loosely folded behind my back, and a relaxed posture.\nWorks for me.\nAT EASE!", "Upvoting because this is something I would like to know more about myself, but personally I default to folding my hands behind my back or behind my head/neck myself. It's not a perfect solution, but at least I would think it doesn't give off the same 'closed off' or negative vibe that crossing your arms does.", "Oh my god, how many other people read this and realized they have no idea what they do with their hands while standing? Things are about to get real awkward for me...\n\nBest of luck figuring this out, OP. ", "Instead of putting your hands in your pocket just hook your thumbs in pocket. I do this with my back pockets and sometimes belt loops when standing for an extended period of time. The behind your back thing isn't bad but comes across a little standoffish to some at least in my experience.", "I feel as long as you keep your back straight and manage your posture, you can do whatever you want with your hands. I think there's a huge difference in having both hands in your pockets when you're slouching, and when you're standing up properly.", "Make your body look larger by placing your hands on your hips or otherwise taking up space in a \"power pose.\" I'm serious, this TED Talk video can explain the science behind how holding these poses can change your life. http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are", "I'm not sure if you mean while talking or just while standing around in a group listening to other people talk... but here's my LPTs:\n\nWhile on speech team I was taught several gestures / positions to use when standing in front of an audience and giving a formal speech. I have found these very helpful when I have to get in front of any group of people whom I am less comfortable around...\n\n* palm up (as if you were feeling for rain in front of you)\n\n* palm down (sorta like you're saying \"whoa, whoa, whoa\")\n\n* moving 1 hand (palm up or down) from one side of your body across to the other side (as if saying \"allllllll of this place...\") \n\n* hand in pocket / hooked on pocker or belt loop (never for a formal speech though)\n\n* and Seriously - arms hanging directly down at your sides is PERFECTLY fine! No one is going to think of thing of it - - unless your shoulders are slumped over like Lurch. If anyone notices anything it will be \"wow they are so comfortable standing still up there and not fidgeting!\"\n\n* In casual settings I find myself holding my hands down in front of me (like hands clasped hanging straight down in front of my belly) This is fine, but I catch myself doing it all the time as a security thing. \n\nAll in all, just make sure you are giving the right impression in the situation you're in. Are you at work talking to your boss? Stand up straight and act respectable. Are you talking with a girl you like and want to make a good impression on? Unlock your knee(s) and put 1 hand in your pocket to give the \"I'm calm, collected, and casual\" vibe. Body language can say so much more than words! ", "Carry a small item if you're expecting an extended upright conversation: a book or folder, documents, a tablet computer, BNC cables or a multimeter, anything that's ordinary or related to your work for you to put your hand(s) on and abt natural.", "This is the answer, op: put them behind your back. With wrists facing outward hold one wrist and just let your arms hang. \n\nThis works for me and I have the same concern as you. ", "In all seriousness,\n\nHold your hands low; at or below your hips -- wherever they hang naturally. With hands gently holding each other in front, when not speaking. Imagine your holding someones hand, but in reality its your own. When speaking you have great liberty to move your hands, at least in US culture.\n\n[This picture] (https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcTzkibQ3LehbRDxghstz7VzFli3GIfO6FtnecQRd_yJ6sMwJkVpYw) is close to what I'm talking about, but this exact stance is a bit too stoic and serious for most occasions.\n\n\n\n", "it depends on the situation. i think that hands in pockets and folded (or crossed) are both great hand positions, provided you're not being questioned by the police.\n\nmy suggestion, observe what the other person is doing and mimic it. you've heard it before, mirroring....makes people like you subconsciously because you are doing the same thing as them", "Watch a batch of TED talks and pay attention to what those speakers are doing with their hands - TED tends to have great speakers who are very practiced with their body language.\n\nWhat works for me is to hang my arms at my side and lightly hold my own hands in front of me or press my finger tips together - it anchors my hands to prevent me from waving them around (something I'm prone to) and it still looks relaxed and comfortable. This type of posture is one that a lot of public speakers use.", "Try to emulate an Italian talking. After a while your hands and arms will be so tired you won't be able to lift them.", "Put them on your hips. Amy Cuddy reckons it will give you dominance. http://youtu.be/Ks-_Mh1QhMc ", "I use them to gesticulate while I'm talking. Otherwise, I just make sure not to think about them. Then they just do what they're supposed to. :)", "Hands in your pockets are completely fine. Heres what you do tho. First cut holes in your pockets. This way you can slide your lil digits down and get an arousing game of juggle-the-peanuts going. Next step, especially when taking a picture, is to give a sly smile... Own the fact that your hands are caressing your giblets.", "Everyone refers to their pockets as an easy solution. As a female...we can't do that. Our bottoms have fake pockets. Anything else but pockets? ", "Be a robot, chicks dig robots. It's actually only hard until you get in the habit of leaving them at your sides.", "A cup of coffee is perfect. Hold it with one hand. Boom! One of those buggers is taken care of. Use the other to gesture as you talk. Watch a video of somebody you like talking to get some ideas.\n\nOr use it to hand another cup of coffee to the other person. ", "Put them in your pockets. If youre in the company of people who dont approve of such things, keep a pair of brass knuckles in there and fuck their face up for being such a twat. \n\nIf thats not possible because you need to keep a professional look, carry an empty clipboard or folder. When it comes to people that dont like hands in pockets, we're not talking about the brightest people, so you could probably write 'book' on a cement block and just carry that around. Seriously these people are fucking idiots, is anyone even going to admit to being one?" ]

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[ "How to form opinions I'm not exactly a super smart person and am very easily swayed by whatever argument I've been most currently exposed to. I've tried to do research on various topics over the years but find that I can either never understand the subject material and have to take certain findings on faith, or I just generally can't tell when one source is honest and another is lying, leaving me incapable of settling on anything as real.\n\nI often find myself in the middle of political or religious debates because of this and whenever anyone asks my opinion on just about any subject I shrug my shoulders and say, \"I don't fucking know\", because I honestly don't know how to settle on any opinion.", "How to form opinions I'm not exactly a super smart person and am very easily swayed by whatever argument I've been most currently exposed to. I've tried to do research on various topics over the years but find that I can either never understand the subject material and have to take certain findings on faith, or I just generally can't tell when one source is honest and another is lying, leaving me incapable of settling on anything as real.\n\nI often find myself in the middle of political or religious debates because of this and whenever anyone asks my opinion on just about any subject I shrug my shoulders and say, \"I don't fucking know\", because I honestly don't know how to settle on any opinion.", "How to form opinions I'm not exactly a super smart person and am very easily swayed by whatever argument I've been most currently exposed to. I've tried to do research on various topics over the years but find that I can either never understand the subject material and have to take certain findings on faith, or I just generally can't tell when one source is honest and another is lying, leaving me incapable of settling on anything as real.\n\nI often find myself in the middle of political or religious debates because of this and whenever anyone asks my opinion on just about any subject I shrug my shoulders and say, \"I don't fucking know\", because I honestly don't know how to settle on any opinion.", "How to form opinions I'm not exactly a super smart person and am very easily swayed by whatever argument I've been most currently exposed to. I've tried to do research on various topics over the years but find that I can either never understand the subject material and have to take certain findings on faith, or I just generally can't tell when one source is honest and another is lying, leaving me incapable of settling on anything as real.\n\nI often find myself in the middle of political or religious debates because of this and whenever anyone asks my opinion on just about any subject I shrug my shoulders and say, \"I don't fucking know\", because I honestly don't know how to settle on any opinion." ]

[ "I think the first step to forming your own opinion is to absorb other, well-thought-out opinions from both sides. Be a sponge. Read articles by smart people with opposing viewpoints. And then see how it all sits with you. Sometimes it takes time to figure out how you feel about an issue, and over the years your opinions may change due to your life experience. You're doing fine just by wanting to examine this concept! ", "You don't have to have an opinion. If someone presents a viewpoint, you can say, \"That's interesting. How did you come to believe that?\" And you can listen without judgment. Listening to people explain their beliefs will tell you a lot about them as a person. \n\nIf they turn it back to you, you can say, \"I don't know very much about this issue, so I haven't formed an opinion yet.\" Unless it specifically relates to your life, work, or ethics, you don't need an opinion. ", "Take in as much info on the topic as possible. Listen to as many different views as you can. Then ask yourself, how does this affect me personally? ", "I try to think in probabilities, not truths. \"Truth\" seems too absolute to me. I think questioning things has value." ]

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[ "How to find a cat that escaped the house. My cat got out while I was pre-spring cleaning yesterday and hasn't come home. Any tips?", "How to find a cat that escaped the house. My cat got out while I was pre-spring cleaning yesterday and hasn't come home. Any tips?", "How to find a cat that escaped the house. My cat got out while I was pre-spring cleaning yesterday and hasn't come home. Any tips?", "How to find a cat that escaped the house. My cat got out while I was pre-spring cleaning yesterday and hasn't come home. Any tips?", "How to find a cat that escaped the house. My cat got out while I was pre-spring cleaning yesterday and hasn't come home. Any tips?" ]

[ "When my cat was lost I found this great site http://www.catsinthebag.org/. (I found my cat after he had been gone a week).\n\nAlthough cats often come home on their own, sometimes they need help. The sooner you get started searching the better.", "walk around your neighborhood with an open can of tuna.\n\none of the dozens of cats who start to follow you is sure to be yours.", "Try shaking a bag of treats while calling his/her name awhile walking around the neighborhood. Good luck!", "One thing you want to do is call the local \"Humane Society\" so they don't kill your cat for you. Otherwise, hope the weather it OK, put his/her favorite food in a bowel outside and hope. I've had a few come back, and one not.", "Live in a subdivision with a HOA. Email head of HOA notifying them so they can tell everyone\n\nYour cat knows it's way back. Its lived there awhile" ]

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[ "Maintaining well-fitting jeans after repeated wears I read somewhere that jeans aren't meant to be washed after every use so I usually wash them about once a week. However, they tend to get looser and baggier each time I wear them to the point where they start to fall off my butt because they're so loose. Is there some way I can keep them well-fitted between washes? ", "Maintaining well-fitting jeans after repeated wears I read somewhere that jeans aren't meant to be washed after every use so I usually wash them about once a week. However, they tend to get looser and baggier each time I wear them to the point where they start to fall off my butt because they're so loose. Is there some way I can keep them well-fitted between washes? ", "Maintaining well-fitting jeans after repeated wears I read somewhere that jeans aren't meant to be washed after every use so I usually wash them about once a week. However, they tend to get looser and baggier each time I wear them to the point where they start to fall off my butt because they're so loose. Is there some way I can keep them well-fitted between washes? ", "Maintaining well-fitting jeans after repeated wears I read somewhere that jeans aren't meant to be washed after every use so I usually wash them about once a week. However, they tend to get looser and baggier each time I wear them to the point where they start to fall off my butt because they're so loose. Is there some way I can keep them well-fitted between washes? ", "Maintaining well-fitting jeans after repeated wears I read somewhere that jeans aren't meant to be washed after every use so I usually wash them about once a week. However, they tend to get looser and baggier each time I wear them to the point where they start to fall off my butt because they're so loose. Is there some way I can keep them well-fitted between washes? ", "Maintaining well-fitting jeans after repeated wears I read somewhere that jeans aren't meant to be washed after every use so I usually wash them about once a week. However, they tend to get looser and baggier each time I wear them to the point where they start to fall off my butt because they're so loose. Is there some way I can keep them well-fitted between washes? ", "Maintaining well-fitting jeans after repeated wears I read somewhere that jeans aren't meant to be washed after every use so I usually wash them about once a week. However, they tend to get looser and baggier each time I wear them to the point where they start to fall off my butt because they're so loose. Is there some way I can keep them well-fitted between washes? " ]

[ "You wash your jeans every week? And without readin the warning you'd have washed them every time?\n\nSeriously what the fuck", "Oh my. I don't wash my jeans for months unless they start to smell. At the very most, once every 2 weeks is fine. Hanging them up by the waist between wears allows them to breathe and maintain shape. ", "I have noticed this with stretchy jeans too. Check the label and take note of the % of spandex. Next time you buy jeans buy firmer ones with less spandex.", "Fold them up and put them in the freezer for about an hour. Works every single time for mine and I wash mine once a month usually.", "DONT PUT THEM IN THE DRYER\n\nThe dryer a) pulls fabric out of your garment and b) ruins the elastic so that they bag out and stay bagged out. \n\nThe spandex in jeans should naturally allow them to retain their shape, that is unless you put them in the dryer. ", "They stretch out with wear. The way to get them shrunk back up is to wash and dry them. Maybe you should get a smaller size the next time you buy a pair of jeans.", "I have to inject this here, sorry, but there should be no \"spandex\" in 100% cotton jeans. Try hitting the manufacture's web site for more information on care. With that said, when you do wash them, use cold water, and take note on how much detergent you use!" ]

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[ "how to declutter / only keep the bare minimum \nI have a hard time getting rid of stuff so they pile up. I tell myself it's in case I might need them some day. Or I feel bad for throwing them away when it's a non donatable item. I would like to become more of a minimalist and be less attached to things. If someone has any tips please do share! ", "how to declutter / only keep the bare minimum \nI have a hard time getting rid of stuff so they pile up. I tell myself it's in case I might need them some day. Or I feel bad for throwing them away when it's a non donatable item. I would like to become more of a minimalist and be less attached to things. If someone has any tips please do share! ", "how to declutter / only keep the bare minimum \nI have a hard time getting rid of stuff so they pile up. I tell myself it's in case I might need them some day. Or I feel bad for throwing them away when it's a non donatable item. I would like to become more of a minimalist and be less attached to things. If someone has any tips please do share! " ]

[ "You need Kim Kondo in your life; Im doing it and its pretty much amazing...\n\nhttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/chanel-parks/konmari-decluttering-method_b_6533574.html ", "I've written a LOT of advice on this in the hoarders sub.\n\nMy most important advice is to put it away for some time, and if you don't need it within a certain time frame, discard. For me, since I've got some hoarding issues, setting a time limit is a little too anxiety inducing but this makes it easier to part naturally or to realize I don't want it anymore. \n\n\nMy other tip is to instead of choosing what to throw away, pretend the upcoming month is a trip. Take out what you'll need right now, and store the rest where it isn't cluttering your space. (If you've got a closet with two doors for an example you might want to keep what you're currently using in one, and things like fancy shirts or the one with the clever print in the other)", "Home Decor/Organization freak here.\nShort answer; look at some minimalist blogs, they are descriptive and have inspiration photos.\nLong answer; Most people have an issue of keeping things for sentimental value. Pick the most important things, put them in a box (I call mine the **memory box**) and snap pictures of the rest. \nBesides that, learn to distinguish what is necessary and what isn't. Anything that has no *real* use to you, throw it away/donate/up-cycle.\nAs far as home decor goes; pick a **theme**. Anything that doesn't match your theme should go. Getting rid of little knick-knacks and just \"stuff\" helps more than you think.\nLast note; **keep surfaces clear**. That means make use of all the storage you have, keep things in reasonable\n places but not on top of counters and desks without some kind of container to hold it. Ex; something to file away papers and mail, or little baskets under your sink to organize your toiletries.\n" ]

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[ "The proper way to eat Apparently if you eat at inappropriate times or do certain activities after eating then it causes stomach problems. What is the exact proper way to eat, down to things like portions and proper eating posture?", "The proper way to eat Apparently if you eat at inappropriate times or do certain activities after eating then it causes stomach problems. What is the exact proper way to eat, down to things like portions and proper eating posture?" ]

[ "Chew thoroughly, it helps you digest food and prevents choking. \n\nEat a small portion of food and wait 15 minutes, if you don't feel full then keep eating. \n\nTo find out when you shit what you ate, and if it's \"regular\", eat some beets and keep track of the hours until you shit, beets turn your poo red.\n\nSome folks say that if you eat at night, it increases your body fat, but I don't know. \n\nPay attention to what you eat, read ingredients and see if there's a trend in things making you feel sick.", "Try not to eat while surfing the net/reading/etc: when you eat, just eat without any distractions, don't rush, enjoy your meal and chew your food throughly -- this way you will feel when you are full already without overeating.\n\nDrink something before eating, but no more than a glass. Sometimes feeling of hunger is just thirstiness. \n\nAnd always ask yourself if you really are hungry or just bored/sad/whatever. " ]

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[ "Using Keyboard shortcuts to save time typing repetitive information...but on a computer instead of a phone. Hey all, this might be a dumb one but I used search and didn't see anything about this. Occasionally I see really good advice, and one tip I learned was to do an autocorrect/keyboard shortcut. So like typing '@@' will change into '[email protected]' to save time typing your email address into blank fields. Brilliant, I love it. How do I do it on a PC? All the threads I find are about using this tip on the phone (and I couldn't find anything in Keyboard or Language Settings), but I would need this shortcut for work stuff. Anyone know an easy way to do this without having Admin privileges? It would save me a massive amount of time at my job. Thank you!\n\n\n", "Using Keyboard shortcuts to save time typing repetitive information...but on a computer instead of a phone. Hey all, this might be a dumb one but I used search and didn't see anything about this. Occasionally I see really good advice, and one tip I learned was to do an autocorrect/keyboard shortcut. So like typing '@@' will change into '[email protected]' to save time typing your email address into blank fields. Brilliant, I love it. How do I do it on a PC? All the threads I find are about using this tip on the phone (and I couldn't find anything in Keyboard or Language Settings), but I would need this shortcut for work stuff. Anyone know an easy way to do this without having Admin privileges? It would save me a massive amount of time at my job. Thank you!\n\n\n" ]

[ "I don't like the idea of any program tracking everything I type, like passwords... I once searched for the exact same thing and found so many security issues I decided to not do it. Sorry for the bad answer", "I’m a transcriptionist, and I use a program called Breevy. It costs $35 and it’s worth every penny. You can create text expander shortcuts for anything, and they’ll work in anything you’re doing on that computer — in Word, in email, in notes, anywhere. I’ve heard of another similar program called Phrase Expander, but haven’t tried it. It saves me an incredible amount of time." ]

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[ "How do I say, \"I told you so.\" In a way which doesn't piss anyone off? I was just talking to a friend, and somehow I always find myself in a situation where I say, \"I bet you this guy is gonna do THIS.\" Turns out I'm right, and then I say, \"I told you.\" Which makes me feel like a dick, and it does eventually piss my friends off if there is a situation where I say, \"I told you.\" More than twice. So help me out and help others. If you know another way.", "How do I say, \"I told you so.\" In a way which doesn't piss anyone off? I was just talking to a friend, and somehow I always find myself in a situation where I say, \"I bet you this guy is gonna do THIS.\" Turns out I'm right, and then I say, \"I told you.\" Which makes me feel like a dick, and it does eventually piss my friends off if there is a situation where I say, \"I told you.\" More than twice. So help me out and help others. If you know another way." ]

[ "You don't. You keep it to yourself. They know you were right. This is a case where saying nothing at all is best. You come off like more of a badass if you don't say anything at all.", "I might rephrase it to: \"I was afraid this would happen and I'm sorry it did\" or something a little less crowing over the situation, expressing more empathy in the process. " ]

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[ "renting movies online (at the lowest price or free) Hi, when I want to watch a specific movie on line, I have to hop from my netflix account, amazon, iTunes, google play, maybe check hulu, in order to see if the movie is available and at what cost. Is there a service that tells me if the movie is free anywhere, and the lowest price if not? \nAs a side, it happens with music as well, I have to check iTunes, Amazon, google play, sometimes check last.fm... it would be great to have something that gathers all this information and presents it in a compact way.\n\n", "renting movies online (at the lowest price or free) Hi, when I want to watch a specific movie on line, I have to hop from my netflix account, amazon, iTunes, google play, maybe check hulu, in order to see if the movie is available and at what cost. Is there a service that tells me if the movie is free anywhere, and the lowest price if not? \nAs a side, it happens with music as well, I have to check iTunes, Amazon, google play, sometimes check last.fm... it would be great to have something that gathers all this information and presents it in a compact way.\n\n" ]

[ "There are many sites that have free movies. But im not sure how legal they are. Google is your friend. ", "Hmmm maybe there was a misunderstanding. I have amazon prime, and many movies are free for streaming. I want to stress out the fact that I want only legal streaming." ]

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[ "The inside of my car is very dirty and full of food stains. How do I clean this? Basically, how can i clean the things that cant be vacuum like seat food stains and dirty dashboard? Also, my air conditioner seems to blow stinky air into my car. I do use the Air Re circulation function on my car but the smell persists ", "The inside of my car is very dirty and full of food stains. How do I clean this? Basically, how can i clean the things that cant be vacuum like seat food stains and dirty dashboard? Also, my air conditioner seems to blow stinky air into my car. I do use the Air Re circulation function on my car but the smell persists " ]

[ "There is a miracle product, not easy to find sometimes, called Spray Nine. I don't know what's in it but it destroys all life on earth and, as the bottle sometimes claims, it \"makes dirt cry.\"\n\nNot much more expensive than other household cleaners, Spray Nine can often be found hiding in hardware stores, sometimes in the automotive section, sometimes in the cleaner sections. I used it to detail car interiors and got reeeeochhh off of it... until I blew it all on booze.\n\nIt looks like this: \n\n* https://www.spraynine.com/", "Sell it, buy a new one with a bit of extra money. \n\nThe extra money would've been spend on time and items to clean the car anyway" ]

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[ "Not crashing in the afternoon after waking up at 4:30 AM As soon as 5 PM comes I am sleepy and cranky all the way until 9:30 when I pass out. I have a class tomorrow that runs until 9:30 PM and I really want to stay alert and focused. Afternoon coffee is out of the question as I am way too sensitive to caffeine. \n", "Not crashing in the afternoon after waking up at 4:30 AM As soon as 5 PM comes I am sleepy and cranky all the way until 9:30 when I pass out. I have a class tomorrow that runs until 9:30 PM and I really want to stay alert and focused. Afternoon coffee is out of the question as I am way too sensitive to caffeine. \n", "Not crashing in the afternoon after waking up at 4:30 AM As soon as 5 PM comes I am sleepy and cranky all the way until 9:30 when I pass out. I have a class tomorrow that runs until 9:30 PM and I really want to stay alert and focused. Afternoon coffee is out of the question as I am way too sensitive to caffeine. \n", "Not crashing in the afternoon after waking up at 4:30 AM As soon as 5 PM comes I am sleepy and cranky all the way until 9:30 when I pass out. I have a class tomorrow that runs until 9:30 PM and I really want to stay alert and focused. Afternoon coffee is out of the question as I am way too sensitive to caffeine. \n" ]

[ "I work from 7 AM to 1 AM most days. At job 1, I use a standing desk, and I recommend that you try standing in the back of the room instead of sitting at a desk/in a chair. You might still yawn a lot, but you shouldn't drift off.\n\nAlso, try closing your eyes and resting for 20 minutes at some point in the afternoon. Set an alarm in case you really fall asleep, but the point is just to rest. That usually helps me make it through my long days.\n\nI also snack on crunchy things like an apple or carrots, and I chew super minty gum. ", "I also wake up at 4:30, I get off work at 3 pm, but I never get tired after work. I go to bed around 8, latest 9, to make sure I wake up well rested, I'm sure that helps. Also I don't depend on coffee for alertness, I see a lot of people too dependable on it, and crashing in the afternoon. ", "Drink more water, especially when you're crashing; cut down on foods with a lot of glucose (i.e. eat more fruits and veggies,) and stand up if you feel like you're going to crash. Try doing a few pushups before class.", "Eat lunches that are high in protein and try to include complex carbohydrates like whole grains. Limit simple carbohydrates like soda, candy, items containing white sugar, syrups, or white rice. For example, you could eat a chicken breast and a side of green beans. After lunch, take a vitamin B complex supplement to help your body process the energy efficiently.\n\nAbout an hour or two after lunch, get up and move. Take a lap around the building, and make sure you drink plenty of water. Dehydration can make you feel drowsy.\n\nCut out any sugary drinks from your diet. When your body finishes processing the quick energy, you'll be in a worse situation than before the drink.\n\nThis one is obvious, and others mentioned it to, but make sure you get enough sleep at night. If you can wake up without an alarm (use it as a backup), then you're probably rested enough." ]

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[ "How to stick to one idea/goal My mind goes all over the place and changes constantly, I go through ideas in days, sometimes hours. Which obviously means I have trouble sticking to them.\n\nI had an idea I deem good for a personal web-series project, yet I'm already thinking about different things. How do I keep focused?", "How to stick to one idea/goal My mind goes all over the place and changes constantly, I go through ideas in days, sometimes hours. Which obviously means I have trouble sticking to them.\n\nI had an idea I deem good for a personal web-series project, yet I'm already thinking about different things. How do I keep focused?", "How to stick to one idea/goal My mind goes all over the place and changes constantly, I go through ideas in days, sometimes hours. Which obviously means I have trouble sticking to them.\n\nI had an idea I deem good for a personal web-series project, yet I'm already thinking about different things. How do I keep focused?" ]

[ "I found what works is finding 2-3 projects that affect that top level idea. For the web series you mentioned - some projects might be to create content, create the website, research, etc. This way if you get stuck on one part, you can move to another.\n\nOther thing is start on it NOW. Once you have invested some time/effort/money, it's no longer an idea, it's now a project. Makes it a bit easier to focus on.", "Some things that have worked for me:\n\n* Financial commitment. I was debating two different career paths that each required examinations. I could have studied for either exam on my own, but instead I plunked down some of my own cash on a course for one. Spending money now forces you to make up your mind now, and because spending is pretty much always a one-way proposition, it forces you to stick with it.\n\n* Build a social circle around the chosen activity. It's easy to throw away your own investment of hope and time, but it's harder to throw away someone else's.\n\n* Make it \"real\" as early as possible. It's a good idea to set intermediate steps, but if your ultimate goal is to use your web series to achieve yyy, then physically take whatever steps are necessary to make yyy happen.", "I met a serial entrepreneur, and he has this little notebook that he writes good ideas down in. There are over 300 business ideas in his notebook. He does this *all* the time, and has for decades. When his last venture ended he looked through all of those notes, did some serious research and then picked up what his new venture was going to be. As new ideas come he writes them down in his notebook. \n\nSo if you want to stay focused have a place to keep your mental clutter. And when you think about pursuing one do your research to make sure the idea is truly sound. Not just on worth, but also interest and plausibility of completion. Once you get started on that project continue to put new ideas down to keep track of them and ditch your mental clutter.\n\nMy personal way is to break things down and give myself a series of small goals that keep me moving along. And if I lose interest I evaluate why and then the next time such a project comes up I can add it to the \"cool, but probably not\" list." ]

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[ "how to continue a conversation if I call someone by the wrong gender Like if I'm behind someone and they're in Neutral clothing, and a short haircut and I have absolutely NO FUCKING IDEA and just say \"excuse me sir\" and then they turn around and oh shit it's someone's grandma, how do I continue that conversation?\n\nPS it happens to me all the damn time ", "how to continue a conversation if I call someone by the wrong gender Like if I'm behind someone and they're in Neutral clothing, and a short haircut and I have absolutely NO FUCKING IDEA and just say \"excuse me sir\" and then they turn around and oh shit it's someone's grandma, how do I continue that conversation?\n\nPS it happens to me all the damn time ", "how to continue a conversation if I call someone by the wrong gender Like if I'm behind someone and they're in Neutral clothing, and a short haircut and I have absolutely NO FUCKING IDEA and just say \"excuse me sir\" and then they turn around and oh shit it's someone's grandma, how do I continue that conversation?\n\nPS it happens to me all the damn time ", "how to continue a conversation if I call someone by the wrong gender Like if I'm behind someone and they're in Neutral clothing, and a short haircut and I have absolutely NO FUCKING IDEA and just say \"excuse me sir\" and then they turn around and oh shit it's someone's grandma, how do I continue that conversation?\n\nPS it happens to me all the damn time ", "how to continue a conversation if I call someone by the wrong gender Like if I'm behind someone and they're in Neutral clothing, and a short haircut and I have absolutely NO FUCKING IDEA and just say \"excuse me sir\" and then they turn around and oh shit it's someone's grandma, how do I continue that conversation?\n\nPS it happens to me all the damn time ", "how to continue a conversation if I call someone by the wrong gender Like if I'm behind someone and they're in Neutral clothing, and a short haircut and I have absolutely NO FUCKING IDEA and just say \"excuse me sir\" and then they turn around and oh shit it's someone's grandma, how do I continue that conversation?\n\nPS it happens to me all the damn time ", "how to continue a conversation if I call someone by the wrong gender Like if I'm behind someone and they're in Neutral clothing, and a short haircut and I have absolutely NO FUCKING IDEA and just say \"excuse me sir\" and then they turn around and oh shit it's someone's grandma, how do I continue that conversation?\n\nPS it happens to me all the damn time " ]

[ "its not a big deal. nothing happened so just move on. unless they were naked you didn't have all the info, so it's not your fault, just move on. i want to say 'move on like nothing happened' but nothing happened, so ya, whatever. \n\njust don't say sir or miss when addressing people you don't know i guess. especially if it is Neutral clothing.\n\nLPT request: how do i start a conversation with someone who i just said 'excuse me' to? :P\n", "Use gender neutral terms like \"boss\", \"ol' hoss\" or \"chief.\"\n\nExample: \"Hey ol' Hoss there's a teller open at the end.\"", "This happened to me, conversation: \n\nMe: Yes, right this way Ma'am...\n\n\"_What did you just call me?_ \"\n\nMan. I said right this way... _Man_.\n\n ", "If they just turn around and its clearly a grandma, a simple \"Oh, I'm sorry maam\" and move on.\n\nIf its an androgynous person in a lumberjack shirt, you're already too far down the \"DID YOU JUST ASSUME MY GENDER?\" rabbit hole to back out, so your only real option is to double down with a Crocodile Dundee/Donald Trump style crotch grab.", "If it's somebody in uniform, don't stress it. Happens to women in uniform all the time, they're over it. If you call a man in uniform \"ma'am\" it's probably time for a haircut anyway.\n\nIf they're not in uniform a \"Sorry! I'm blind without my glasses!\" should do the trick.", "Maybe like: 'Oh, excuse me! I didn't look close enough'. This phrase takes the 'fault' on you and doesn't make them questioning their appearance that much.", "\"Sorry about that ma'am,\" and move on. If possible, use gender neutral terms when addressing someone, or omit the honorific entirely. \"Pardon me\" would be more polite than \"Excuse me sir/ma'am/oops/fuck/my bad,\" ya know?" ]

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[ "How does an overwhelmed anxious college freshman get organized I feel really overwhelmed because it feels like I've attempted to get organized so many times, that it's just created an even bigger mess of a life I just can't figure out how to fix. Pls help thx :)", "How does an overwhelmed anxious college freshman get organized I feel really overwhelmed because it feels like I've attempted to get organized so many times, that it's just created an even bigger mess of a life I just can't figure out how to fix. Pls help thx :)" ]

[ "Keep a journal and scribble down whatever's in your head and what you need/want to do. \n\nTo make tasks seem less overwhelming break them down into smaller parts and do those tasks\n\nThings are easier to do if you start earlier rather than later \n\nGo easy on yourself, you won't run at 100 everyday", "Try out this app called Notion. ([Notion.so](https://Notion.so)) Its a great app for organising stuff. It's a mix of tasks, reminders, calendars, notes, timeline planner, organisers and much more. It was really helpful for me in college." ]

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[ "Stain marks on cards (credit, debit, etc.) So I came to realised that most of my plastic cards have this sticky glue like stains on them which makes them all look absolutely terrible. I have been using this particular wallet of mine for more than 5 years now, and I felt that it was time to change it, so I just ordered a new one online.\n\nMy question is, are these stains caused by the quality of my wallet or my way of handling the wallet? I put my wallet at my back and often sit on it.", "Stain marks on cards (credit, debit, etc.) So I came to realised that most of my plastic cards have this sticky glue like stains on them which makes them all look absolutely terrible. I have been using this particular wallet of mine for more than 5 years now, and I felt that it was time to change it, so I just ordered a new one online.\n\nMy question is, are these stains caused by the quality of my wallet or my way of handling the wallet? I put my wallet at my back and often sit on it.", "Stain marks on cards (credit, debit, etc.) So I came to realised that most of my plastic cards have this sticky glue like stains on them which makes them all look absolutely terrible. I have been using this particular wallet of mine for more than 5 years now, and I felt that it was time to change it, so I just ordered a new one online.\n\nMy question is, are these stains caused by the quality of my wallet or my way of handling the wallet? I put my wallet at my back and often sit on it.", "Stain marks on cards (credit, debit, etc.) So I came to realised that most of my plastic cards have this sticky glue like stains on them which makes them all look absolutely terrible. I have been using this particular wallet of mine for more than 5 years now, and I felt that it was time to change it, so I just ordered a new one online.\n\nMy question is, are these stains caused by the quality of my wallet or my way of handling the wallet? I put my wallet at my back and often sit on it." ]

[ "Don't sit on your wallet. It's easier to be pick pocketed, it's bad for your posture, and it will stretch the back pockets of your pants.\n\nAsk for replacement cards from your banks and don't ruin them by putting them in a low quality wallet. ", "You are seriously asking how to make your cr", "Maybe don't sit your ass on it? And maybe while you're at it get a new wallet. I have cards that are 7+ years old without any stains (only scratches from swiping them).", "It's possible this residue is not from your wallet, rather it's from the card reader when used at point of purchase. Not all card 'dip' readers are clean and new. Gas station pumps and outdoor parking lots are the biggest offenders. " ]

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[ "waking up with back pain - ways to make the pain go away. I've been to the chiropractor. It's not every morning I wake up with back pain - it's dependent on what I do the night before or how I lay until I go to sleep (I think). For example, I was laying in bed on reddit on my side. Bad. So I woke up this morning with a pain I seem to not be able to get rid of. I've been stretching and such but not to my avail. \n\nDo you know of any proper technique to cease pain? ", "waking up with back pain - ways to make the pain go away. I've been to the chiropractor. It's not every morning I wake up with back pain - it's dependent on what I do the night before or how I lay until I go to sleep (I think). For example, I was laying in bed on reddit on my side. Bad. So I woke up this morning with a pain I seem to not be able to get rid of. I've been stretching and such but not to my avail. \n\nDo you know of any proper technique to cease pain? ", "waking up with back pain - ways to make the pain go away. I've been to the chiropractor. It's not every morning I wake up with back pain - it's dependent on what I do the night before or how I lay until I go to sleep (I think). For example, I was laying in bed on reddit on my side. Bad. So I woke up this morning with a pain I seem to not be able to get rid of. I've been stretching and such but not to my avail. \n\nDo you know of any proper technique to cease pain? ", "waking up with back pain - ways to make the pain go away. I've been to the chiropractor. It's not every morning I wake up with back pain - it's dependent on what I do the night before or how I lay until I go to sleep (I think). For example, I was laying in bed on reddit on my side. Bad. So I woke up this morning with a pain I seem to not be able to get rid of. I've been stretching and such but not to my avail. \n\nDo you know of any proper technique to cease pain? ", "waking up with back pain - ways to make the pain go away. I've been to the chiropractor. It's not every morning I wake up with back pain - it's dependent on what I do the night before or how I lay until I go to sleep (I think). For example, I was laying in bed on reddit on my side. Bad. So I woke up this morning with a pain I seem to not be able to get rid of. I've been stretching and such but not to my avail. \n\nDo you know of any proper technique to cease pain? ", "waking up with back pain - ways to make the pain go away. I've been to the chiropractor. It's not every morning I wake up with back pain - it's dependent on what I do the night before or how I lay until I go to sleep (I think). For example, I was laying in bed on reddit on my side. Bad. So I woke up this morning with a pain I seem to not be able to get rid of. I've been stretching and such but not to my avail. \n\nDo you know of any proper technique to cease pain? ", "waking up with back pain - ways to make the pain go away. I've been to the chiropractor. It's not every morning I wake up with back pain - it's dependent on what I do the night before or how I lay until I go to sleep (I think). For example, I was laying in bed on reddit on my side. Bad. So I woke up this morning with a pain I seem to not be able to get rid of. I've been stretching and such but not to my avail. \n\nDo you know of any proper technique to cease pain? ", "waking up with back pain - ways to make the pain go away. I've been to the chiropractor. It's not every morning I wake up with back pain - it's dependent on what I do the night before or how I lay until I go to sleep (I think). For example, I was laying in bed on reddit on my side. Bad. So I woke up this morning with a pain I seem to not be able to get rid of. I've been stretching and such but not to my avail. \n\nDo you know of any proper technique to cease pain? ", "waking up with back pain - ways to make the pain go away. I've been to the chiropractor. It's not every morning I wake up with back pain - it's dependent on what I do the night before or how I lay until I go to sleep (I think). For example, I was laying in bed on reddit on my side. Bad. So I woke up this morning with a pain I seem to not be able to get rid of. I've been stretching and such but not to my avail. \n\nDo you know of any proper technique to cease pain? ", "waking up with back pain - ways to make the pain go away. I've been to the chiropractor. It's not every morning I wake up with back pain - it's dependent on what I do the night before or how I lay until I go to sleep (I think). For example, I was laying in bed on reddit on my side. Bad. So I woke up this morning with a pain I seem to not be able to get rid of. I've been stretching and such but not to my avail. \n\nDo you know of any proper technique to cease pain? " ]

[ "I suggest lift weights which will strengthen your back. I constantly had back pain especially in the morning but after only a few times at the gym these problems went away. I was surprised but it worked. Your back will be sore from lifting but that will go away also it feels much better to hurt from workout than from plain old work.\n", "I would try and learn a couple introductory poses in yoga. You may be surprised, I was. It was no instant fix but after a week or two a lot of my aches and pains were subsiding. I'm no new age health nut either my friend. Just took a class at community college once. It's more than just stretching. I used to be a bellman and my back was as messed up as any 24 year old's could've been.", "Two things that make a huge difference for me are:\n\n1) Sleeping with a pillow under my knees (when on my back) or between my legs (when on my side). If I don't do this or lose my pillow in the middle of the night, my back hurts a lot in the morning.\n\n2) Not sleeping on my front. This one is really hard for me because I love to sleep on my front, but if I do I wake up barely able to move.", "Try doing some hamstring stretches in the shower. It helps me. I also do quads and calf stretches too, but touching your toes while a hot jet of water blasts your aching back is one of the most glorious feelings ever.", "I used to have nagging back pain from sleeping on my stomach. Once I stopped that (by forcing myself to sleep on my back) it helped a lot.\n\nI also started hanging upside down which helps a lot too. A co-worker gave me his old set of inversion boots and a bar that I mounted in a doorway. Just 5 minutes (or less) brings pretty immediate relief. An inversion table would probably be a little nicer, but this setup is getting the job done.\n\nLastly, I started using a foam roller which seems to a) crack my back and b) massage the fatigued muscles.\n\nAll three seem to help, especially when I do them regularly. The nice thing is that between the hanging and foam roller, I can take care of it in <10 minutes before getting ready for work in the morning.", "Pilates helped me, I have an lumbar fusion. The thing that helps me most is rolling down off a wall.\n\nStand with your back against the wall, feet about a foot length away from the wall, or as far forward as they need to be to get your lumbar spine and sacrum flat against the wall.\n\nTouch your chin to your chest and slowly peel one vertebra at a time away from the wall, with your head and shoulders hanging down.\n\nStop when you reach the top of your pelvis, hang relaxed for a few seconds, then slowly roll back up. Make sure that once you reach standing again, your shoulder blades are down and flat against the wall.\n\nDoing a couple of these a day makes me practically pain free :)", "Marijuana helps with the pain in the short term (and if you don't have to work that day), but as Wicksk and others said you should start to work out. If you get into it, you will love it after the first two weeks if you didn't do so after the first try.", "I like curling up fetal position and laying on my side. \n\nAlso curling up like a ball and rolling on my back helps me too\n\nI've heard great things about yoga", "As everyone else has been saying, exercise helps a lot. If you don't want to go straight into deadlifts, I'd recommend getting a doorframe pull-up bar to do pull-ups, and for your lower back, I'd recommend the [P90X superman move.](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=evZILvDdQT4)", "1. New matress and slatted frame helped my mother immsensely. Not those cheap ass things. A pretty good one.\n\n2. Your chiropractor was obviously Alan Harper. If he has no good solutions, he is not good, better take another opinion from another one\n\n3. strengthen your back muscles. There are a lot of machines in the gym that improve different parts of your back muscles. Go once or twice a week and you might feel better.\n\nWhat is your job? Are you on the desk all day?" ]

[ 13, 7, 5, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How do I keep my earphone cords nice and straight? [I'm talking about these damned things](http://i.imgur.com/nBK1l.jpg).\n\nLooks great in the picture, n'est-ce pas? But these fuckers always end up with twists and curves in the wires.\n\nHow do I avoid that? Or, how can I fix it? I've tried rubbing the wires up and down for several minutes, with no success. Is there a trick to it? Maybe if I use a blow-dryer on them...", "How do I keep my earphone cords nice and straight? [I'm talking about these damned things](http://i.imgur.com/nBK1l.jpg).\n\nLooks great in the picture, n'est-ce pas? But these fuckers always end up with twists and curves in the wires.\n\nHow do I avoid that? Or, how can I fix it? I've tried rubbing the wires up and down for several minutes, with no success. Is there a trick to it? Maybe if I use a blow-dryer on them...", "How do I keep my earphone cords nice and straight? [I'm talking about these damned things](http://i.imgur.com/nBK1l.jpg).\n\nLooks great in the picture, n'est-ce pas? But these fuckers always end up with twists and curves in the wires.\n\nHow do I avoid that? Or, how can I fix it? I've tried rubbing the wires up and down for several minutes, with no success. Is there a trick to it? Maybe if I use a blow-dryer on them...", "How do I keep my earphone cords nice and straight? [I'm talking about these damned things](http://i.imgur.com/nBK1l.jpg).\n\nLooks great in the picture, n'est-ce pas? But these fuckers always end up with twists and curves in the wires.\n\nHow do I avoid that? Or, how can I fix it? I've tried rubbing the wires up and down for several minutes, with no success. Is there a trick to it? Maybe if I use a blow-dryer on them..." ]

[ "[I wrapped my headphone cords in embroidery floss](http://i-cdn.apartmenttherapy.com/uimages/unplggd/120511_embroideryheadphones.jpg) (like knotting a friendship bracelet). I originally did it because I wanted them to be pretty, but I've noticed that they don't get as tangled because the thread makes the cord a bit less bendy. I worked the knots all the way from the jack up the individual earbud cables after the split, and now I can just loosely coil them and they come out staight(er).", "What works without fail for me is to untwist the parts you can, then rub them with 2 fingers up and down. Straightens them fairly well, but it is hard to return a material to its original shape and/or size. \n", "Not sure about keeping them untangled, but I've noticed that many people try and untangle them one earpiece at a time instead of untwisting the jack first, which takes about five seconds and usually untangles the whole thing. ", "I highly suggest learning to sinnet chain your cables. \n\nI work with a lot of audio equipment/ various electronics and this is how we manage over-long cables and such. \n\nLike this, for example:\n\nhttp://i-cdn.apartmenttherapy.com/uimages/unplggd/070109_tf_chainsinnet2.jpg" ]

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[ "How to Smile I know its pretty basic and everyone should be able to naturally smile. But for 22 years I havent had the best of teeth and been very self conscious about my smile and would always hid it when eating or laughing. Now Ive finally got braces and smiling doesnt seem natural and was wondering if there was a way to learn to smile so it doesnt always look like im dead lifting a bus everytime I smile. ", "How to Smile I know its pretty basic and everyone should be able to naturally smile. But for 22 years I havent had the best of teeth and been very self conscious about my smile and would always hid it when eating or laughing. Now Ive finally got braces and smiling doesnt seem natural and was wondering if there was a way to learn to smile so it doesnt always look like im dead lifting a bus everytime I smile. " ]

[ "Squint a little bit when you smile and make sure there's some space in between your teeth and your smile should look natural. ", "Think of something that makes you smile or something funny (but not too funny because you don't want to laugh)" ]

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[ "how to handle my difficult boss TLDR at bottom. \n\nI started a job as a server about 6 months ago and everything about the job was wonderful up until around mid January. I make decent money and I get along with all of my co-workers but my boss has made my job very difficult and I dread coming to work now. I’m already looking for a job closer to the career I’m wanting (nursing) and putting in applications for hospitals and all but until then I need help figuring out how to ease the tension. \n\nI’ve have multiple co-workers coming to me with things he’s said to them about me. For starters I have hypothyroidism and I have to take medication every morning an hour before I eat and I open a lot at work and so every now and then I’ll end up taking my pill at work if I didn’t have time before. My boss has seen this and I explained the situation to him because he gave me an odd look. He’s been going around telling the entire staff that “what ever pills she’s taking she needs to stop because they’re making her stupid and it’s stupid that she takes them” he has also come to me telling me to quit taking my medication or he will have to cut my hours. \n\nAnother situation is my tables. For some insight he stops by tables a lot and talks to them for a bit for all of the servers and will occasionally up-sell for them but still let them handle everything. When I first started I needed some extra help serving tables because I was being trained in three different positions around the restaurant at the same time and wasn’t being scheduled at all as a server except 1-2 half shifts every other week and I only ever shadowed people for the first 3 weeks. I can handle several tables at a time now and everyone I wait on hasn’t had any complaints to me so far. They always thank me saying they enjoyed talking with me and hope they have me next time. My boss does not acknowledge this and has started to skip me multiple times in a row if he deems I’m too busy for another table. This is happening when I only have two tables and it’s slow. He also has a bad habit of seating me without saying it’s my table while I’m in the kitchen putting up dishes, taking their order immediately after seating them, and legitimately yelling at me for it saying this is why he is skipping me and that it proves I can’t handle more than two tables at a time. He will also stop by my tables while I’m getting the drinks and then rush off without telling me anything and put the order in under the manager number and won’t let me access it. If I ask him to transfer it to my number so I can put in their order he yells at me before he transfers it. \n\nI converted to Islam a little over a year ago and so I can only eat halal meat and no pork and it’s almost every other day that he belittles me for it and makes fun of me saying I need a drink and that the meat they have is “not good enough for the Princess”.\n\nOne of the three jobs I was trained to do is food runner. I’ve been training the new girl the past week and I’m working as food runner more often because we’re down two people and I’m the only other person that is trained as food runner and he will come in every single time regardless of if it’s busy or not screaming at me to the point that customers and the other staff can hear. One night in particular we got a little while I was working with the new girl and we had one mess up order because she mistook an order and made the wrong thing so we put it to the side until it slowed down. My boss came into the kitchen and picked up the tongs we use for the oven and threw them into the salad bad while he was screaming and then threw out everything we were currently working on saying I’m giving him extra work. Afterwards he went t another server and told them he wanted to fire me because of all the extra work he has to do for me. \n\nI need help figuring out how to talk to him about this because any time I try to bring it up he throws a fit and walks off while I’m talking. \n\nTLDR; I’m a server at a restaurant and my boss says the medication I am taking for my hypothyroidism makes me stupid and tells me to quit taking it or he will cut my hours, interrupts my working to yell and scream and then screams more when I fall behind trying to clean up after him, and consistently belittles me for my religion.", "how to handle my difficult boss TLDR at bottom. \n\nI started a job as a server about 6 months ago and everything about the job was wonderful up until around mid January. I make decent money and I get along with all of my co-workers but my boss has made my job very difficult and I dread coming to work now. I’m already looking for a job closer to the career I’m wanting (nursing) and putting in applications for hospitals and all but until then I need help figuring out how to ease the tension. \n\nI’ve have multiple co-workers coming to me with things he’s said to them about me. For starters I have hypothyroidism and I have to take medication every morning an hour before I eat and I open a lot at work and so every now and then I’ll end up taking my pill at work if I didn’t have time before. My boss has seen this and I explained the situation to him because he gave me an odd look. He’s been going around telling the entire staff that “what ever pills she’s taking she needs to stop because they’re making her stupid and it’s stupid that she takes them” he has also come to me telling me to quit taking my medication or he will have to cut my hours. \n\nAnother situation is my tables. For some insight he stops by tables a lot and talks to them for a bit for all of the servers and will occasionally up-sell for them but still let them handle everything. When I first started I needed some extra help serving tables because I was being trained in three different positions around the restaurant at the same time and wasn’t being scheduled at all as a server except 1-2 half shifts every other week and I only ever shadowed people for the first 3 weeks. I can handle several tables at a time now and everyone I wait on hasn’t had any complaints to me so far. They always thank me saying they enjoyed talking with me and hope they have me next time. My boss does not acknowledge this and has started to skip me multiple times in a row if he deems I’m too busy for another table. This is happening when I only have two tables and it’s slow. He also has a bad habit of seating me without saying it’s my table while I’m in the kitchen putting up dishes, taking their order immediately after seating them, and legitimately yelling at me for it saying this is why he is skipping me and that it proves I can’t handle more than two tables at a time. He will also stop by my tables while I’m getting the drinks and then rush off without telling me anything and put the order in under the manager number and won’t let me access it. If I ask him to transfer it to my number so I can put in their order he yells at me before he transfers it. \n\nI converted to Islam a little over a year ago and so I can only eat halal meat and no pork and it’s almost every other day that he belittles me for it and makes fun of me saying I need a drink and that the meat they have is “not good enough for the Princess”.\n\nOne of the three jobs I was trained to do is food runner. I’ve been training the new girl the past week and I’m working as food runner more often because we’re down two people and I’m the only other person that is trained as food runner and he will come in every single time regardless of if it’s busy or not screaming at me to the point that customers and the other staff can hear. One night in particular we got a little while I was working with the new girl and we had one mess up order because she mistook an order and made the wrong thing so we put it to the side until it slowed down. My boss came into the kitchen and picked up the tongs we use for the oven and threw them into the salad bad while he was screaming and then threw out everything we were currently working on saying I’m giving him extra work. Afterwards he went t another server and told them he wanted to fire me because of all the extra work he has to do for me. \n\nI need help figuring out how to talk to him about this because any time I try to bring it up he throws a fit and walks off while I’m talking. \n\nTLDR; I’m a server at a restaurant and my boss says the medication I am taking for my hypothyroidism makes me stupid and tells me to quit taking it or he will cut my hours, interrupts my working to yell and scream and then screams more when I fall behind trying to clean up after him, and consistently belittles me for my religion.", "how to handle my difficult boss TLDR at bottom. \n\nI started a job as a server about 6 months ago and everything about the job was wonderful up until around mid January. I make decent money and I get along with all of my co-workers but my boss has made my job very difficult and I dread coming to work now. I’m already looking for a job closer to the career I’m wanting (nursing) and putting in applications for hospitals and all but until then I need help figuring out how to ease the tension. \n\nI’ve have multiple co-workers coming to me with things he’s said to them about me. For starters I have hypothyroidism and I have to take medication every morning an hour before I eat and I open a lot at work and so every now and then I’ll end up taking my pill at work if I didn’t have time before. My boss has seen this and I explained the situation to him because he gave me an odd look. He’s been going around telling the entire staff that “what ever pills she’s taking she needs to stop because they’re making her stupid and it’s stupid that she takes them” he has also come to me telling me to quit taking my medication or he will have to cut my hours. \n\nAnother situation is my tables. For some insight he stops by tables a lot and talks to them for a bit for all of the servers and will occasionally up-sell for them but still let them handle everything. When I first started I needed some extra help serving tables because I was being trained in three different positions around the restaurant at the same time and wasn’t being scheduled at all as a server except 1-2 half shifts every other week and I only ever shadowed people for the first 3 weeks. I can handle several tables at a time now and everyone I wait on hasn’t had any complaints to me so far. They always thank me saying they enjoyed talking with me and hope they have me next time. My boss does not acknowledge this and has started to skip me multiple times in a row if he deems I’m too busy for another table. This is happening when I only have two tables and it’s slow. He also has a bad habit of seating me without saying it’s my table while I’m in the kitchen putting up dishes, taking their order immediately after seating them, and legitimately yelling at me for it saying this is why he is skipping me and that it proves I can’t handle more than two tables at a time. He will also stop by my tables while I’m getting the drinks and then rush off without telling me anything and put the order in under the manager number and won’t let me access it. If I ask him to transfer it to my number so I can put in their order he yells at me before he transfers it. \n\nI converted to Islam a little over a year ago and so I can only eat halal meat and no pork and it’s almost every other day that he belittles me for it and makes fun of me saying I need a drink and that the meat they have is “not good enough for the Princess”.\n\nOne of the three jobs I was trained to do is food runner. I’ve been training the new girl the past week and I’m working as food runner more often because we’re down two people and I’m the only other person that is trained as food runner and he will come in every single time regardless of if it’s busy or not screaming at me to the point that customers and the other staff can hear. One night in particular we got a little while I was working with the new girl and we had one mess up order because she mistook an order and made the wrong thing so we put it to the side until it slowed down. My boss came into the kitchen and picked up the tongs we use for the oven and threw them into the salad bad while he was screaming and then threw out everything we were currently working on saying I’m giving him extra work. Afterwards he went t another server and told them he wanted to fire me because of all the extra work he has to do for me. \n\nI need help figuring out how to talk to him about this because any time I try to bring it up he throws a fit and walks off while I’m talking. \n\nTLDR; I’m a server at a restaurant and my boss says the medication I am taking for my hypothyroidism makes me stupid and tells me to quit taking it or he will cut my hours, interrupts my working to yell and scream and then screams more when I fall behind trying to clean up after him, and consistently belittles me for my religion.", "how to handle my difficult boss TLDR at bottom. \n\nI started a job as a server about 6 months ago and everything about the job was wonderful up until around mid January. I make decent money and I get along with all of my co-workers but my boss has made my job very difficult and I dread coming to work now. I’m already looking for a job closer to the career I’m wanting (nursing) and putting in applications for hospitals and all but until then I need help figuring out how to ease the tension. \n\nI’ve have multiple co-workers coming to me with things he’s said to them about me. For starters I have hypothyroidism and I have to take medication every morning an hour before I eat and I open a lot at work and so every now and then I’ll end up taking my pill at work if I didn’t have time before. My boss has seen this and I explained the situation to him because he gave me an odd look. He’s been going around telling the entire staff that “what ever pills she’s taking she needs to stop because they’re making her stupid and it’s stupid that she takes them” he has also come to me telling me to quit taking my medication or he will have to cut my hours. \n\nAnother situation is my tables. For some insight he stops by tables a lot and talks to them for a bit for all of the servers and will occasionally up-sell for them but still let them handle everything. When I first started I needed some extra help serving tables because I was being trained in three different positions around the restaurant at the same time and wasn’t being scheduled at all as a server except 1-2 half shifts every other week and I only ever shadowed people for the first 3 weeks. I can handle several tables at a time now and everyone I wait on hasn’t had any complaints to me so far. They always thank me saying they enjoyed talking with me and hope they have me next time. My boss does not acknowledge this and has started to skip me multiple times in a row if he deems I’m too busy for another table. This is happening when I only have two tables and it’s slow. He also has a bad habit of seating me without saying it’s my table while I’m in the kitchen putting up dishes, taking their order immediately after seating them, and legitimately yelling at me for it saying this is why he is skipping me and that it proves I can’t handle more than two tables at a time. He will also stop by my tables while I’m getting the drinks and then rush off without telling me anything and put the order in under the manager number and won’t let me access it. If I ask him to transfer it to my number so I can put in their order he yells at me before he transfers it. \n\nI converted to Islam a little over a year ago and so I can only eat halal meat and no pork and it’s almost every other day that he belittles me for it and makes fun of me saying I need a drink and that the meat they have is “not good enough for the Princess”.\n\nOne of the three jobs I was trained to do is food runner. I’ve been training the new girl the past week and I’m working as food runner more often because we’re down two people and I’m the only other person that is trained as food runner and he will come in every single time regardless of if it’s busy or not screaming at me to the point that customers and the other staff can hear. One night in particular we got a little while I was working with the new girl and we had one mess up order because she mistook an order and made the wrong thing so we put it to the side until it slowed down. My boss came into the kitchen and picked up the tongs we use for the oven and threw them into the salad bad while he was screaming and then threw out everything we were currently working on saying I’m giving him extra work. Afterwards he went t another server and told them he wanted to fire me because of all the extra work he has to do for me. \n\nI need help figuring out how to talk to him about this because any time I try to bring it up he throws a fit and walks off while I’m talking. \n\nTLDR; I’m a server at a restaurant and my boss says the medication I am taking for my hypothyroidism makes me stupid and tells me to quit taking it or he will cut my hours, interrupts my working to yell and scream and then screams more when I fall behind trying to clean up after him, and consistently belittles me for my religion." ]

[ "Your boss has created a hostile work environment. I agree that you need to focus on your next goals, however, if you are an employee in the United States I would contact the ACLU with advice on how to proceed (the medication thing and his derogatory comments about your religion are absolutely not allowed u det US labor law). I’m so sorry you are having to deal with this.", "I have discussed this with my SO and my step father (a district attorney) and have found that it’s illegal for employers to discuss medications with employees and to cut hours or fire someone based on medications so I’m currently looking in to how I should go about that as well. Co-workers have come to me with concern on how he is treating me and are worried about my mental health because it seems to show that the past month has been taking a toll on me and I am less enthusiastic about working. My boss is also there every single day so this is a consistent issue and I rarely get a break from it. I also get guilt tripped if I try taking more than one day a week off regardless of the reasoning and often get scheduled anyways on days I’ve asked off for and have had to cancel appointments and put off responsibilities due to this.", "LPT: the only way you can fix this is to train the manager. He has no management skills, and I'm betting he has no training. Anything you try and do to \"fix\" this situation will simply not work and will be wasted, futile effort because, well, he has no training. It is not within your power to train him. You can attempt to go over his head to see if it's possible to have him trained. \n\nHere come the LPT: \nYou must accept that nothing you do will fix this situation and make it a good workplace for you, unless you luck out and he gets fired or quits. Save your energy, just stick it out as long as you can or quit today. Life is wasted the longer you stay waiting for or trying to make circumstances better at work.\n\nJust move on.", "Wow, ok my advise, by no means the best.... any job you get, consider it a runway. It's a place you landed, whats there is what's there.... focus on our next destination, plan, train, and get ready to take off to your next runway. If it takes 9 months to get Into nursing school, so be it that is the time it takes to sit on this runway, never loose focus on your destination." ]

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[ "How do I stop my \"box\" of spinach leaves from always wilting and turning to a soggy goo in the fridge? I buy a 1 lb. box of baby spinach leaves about every 2-3 weeks, and even though the box has small aeration holes on the bottom and the sides, they don't seem to help. The leaves in the bottom of the box (you know, the ones that always get crushed?), turn into a dark green, almost gelatinous form by the end, not only stinking up my fridge, but also ruining the other spinach on top, which usually stays perfectly fine and not rotted until the other spinach turns.\nAnybody have a few simple tricks to help me make the most of my **delicious** baby greens so they last longer and I don't waste my money?", "How do I stop my \"box\" of spinach leaves from always wilting and turning to a soggy goo in the fridge? I buy a 1 lb. box of baby spinach leaves about every 2-3 weeks, and even though the box has small aeration holes on the bottom and the sides, they don't seem to help. The leaves in the bottom of the box (you know, the ones that always get crushed?), turn into a dark green, almost gelatinous form by the end, not only stinking up my fridge, but also ruining the other spinach on top, which usually stays perfectly fine and not rotted until the other spinach turns.\nAnybody have a few simple tricks to help me make the most of my **delicious** baby greens so they last longer and I don't waste my money?", "How do I stop my \"box\" of spinach leaves from always wilting and turning to a soggy goo in the fridge? I buy a 1 lb. box of baby spinach leaves about every 2-3 weeks, and even though the box has small aeration holes on the bottom and the sides, they don't seem to help. The leaves in the bottom of the box (you know, the ones that always get crushed?), turn into a dark green, almost gelatinous form by the end, not only stinking up my fridge, but also ruining the other spinach on top, which usually stays perfectly fine and not rotted until the other spinach turns.\nAnybody have a few simple tricks to help me make the most of my **delicious** baby greens so they last longer and I don't waste my money?", "How do I stop my \"box\" of spinach leaves from always wilting and turning to a soggy goo in the fridge? I buy a 1 lb. box of baby spinach leaves about every 2-3 weeks, and even though the box has small aeration holes on the bottom and the sides, they don't seem to help. The leaves in the bottom of the box (you know, the ones that always get crushed?), turn into a dark green, almost gelatinous form by the end, not only stinking up my fridge, but also ruining the other spinach on top, which usually stays perfectly fine and not rotted until the other spinach turns.\nAnybody have a few simple tricks to help me make the most of my **delicious** baby greens so they last longer and I don't waste my money?", "How do I stop my \"box\" of spinach leaves from always wilting and turning to a soggy goo in the fridge? I buy a 1 lb. box of baby spinach leaves about every 2-3 weeks, and even though the box has small aeration holes on the bottom and the sides, they don't seem to help. The leaves in the bottom of the box (you know, the ones that always get crushed?), turn into a dark green, almost gelatinous form by the end, not only stinking up my fridge, but also ruining the other spinach on top, which usually stays perfectly fine and not rotted until the other spinach turns.\nAnybody have a few simple tricks to help me make the most of my **delicious** baby greens so they last longer and I don't waste my money?" ]

[ "Try putting a paper towel in the container with them. It helps absorb excess moisture and keeps grens from getting slimy.", "Put a couple of paper towels in there right when you get home from the grocery store. Change em out if they start to get green and soggy. Your spinach will last ~two weeks this way", "NEWSFLASH.\n\nYou have to eat that WAY more quickly than once every 2-3 weeks.\n\nFresh greens like spinach have a reasonable shelf life of 5-7 days.\n\nNo amount of cleaning, paper toweling, animal sacrifices, or praying will make them last longer than that.\n\nIf they're turning to goo, they are ROTTING. \n\n", "Just buy less spinach, however much you think you can go through in about a week or two. Most greens will go bad/start going bad after a couple weeks it seems.", "Blend 4 cups of spinach in smoothie daily. Very good for b you and won't go bad cause it won't sit in your fridge too long. " ]

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[ "How do I ask for a raise? Little history: I've been with this company almost 2 years now. They stared me at $14/h and I've got a little bump of $0.28 last year. We now have a new hiree who just started recently and his pay rate is $14.75/h. The guy knows nothing about our industry and basically I'm teaching him how to do his job and yet he banks more than me. I've been thinking to ask about a raise for a while now but I'm not sure how to do it. Do I just message/email my boss? Do I talk to him in person? Do I ask him strait up for a raise or ask him what can I do to earn it? What language (terminology) I should eventually use and what etiquette?", "How do I ask for a raise? Little history: I've been with this company almost 2 years now. They stared me at $14/h and I've got a little bump of $0.28 last year. We now have a new hiree who just started recently and his pay rate is $14.75/h. The guy knows nothing about our industry and basically I'm teaching him how to do his job and yet he banks more than me. I've been thinking to ask about a raise for a while now but I'm not sure how to do it. Do I just message/email my boss? Do I talk to him in person? Do I ask him strait up for a raise or ask him what can I do to earn it? What language (terminology) I should eventually use and what etiquette?", "How do I ask for a raise? Little history: I've been with this company almost 2 years now. They stared me at $14/h and I've got a little bump of $0.28 last year. We now have a new hiree who just started recently and his pay rate is $14.75/h. The guy knows nothing about our industry and basically I'm teaching him how to do his job and yet he banks more than me. I've been thinking to ask about a raise for a while now but I'm not sure how to do it. Do I just message/email my boss? Do I talk to him in person? Do I ask him strait up for a raise or ask him what can I do to earn it? What language (terminology) I should eventually use and what etiquette?", "How do I ask for a raise? Little history: I've been with this company almost 2 years now. They stared me at $14/h and I've got a little bump of $0.28 last year. We now have a new hiree who just started recently and his pay rate is $14.75/h. The guy knows nothing about our industry and basically I'm teaching him how to do his job and yet he banks more than me. I've been thinking to ask about a raise for a while now but I'm not sure how to do it. Do I just message/email my boss? Do I talk to him in person? Do I ask him strait up for a raise or ask him what can I do to earn it? What language (terminology) I should eventually use and what etiquette?", "How do I ask for a raise? Little history: I've been with this company almost 2 years now. They stared me at $14/h and I've got a little bump of $0.28 last year. We now have a new hiree who just started recently and his pay rate is $14.75/h. The guy knows nothing about our industry and basically I'm teaching him how to do his job and yet he banks more than me. I've been thinking to ask about a raise for a while now but I'm not sure how to do it. Do I just message/email my boss? Do I talk to him in person? Do I ask him strait up for a raise or ask him what can I do to earn it? What language (terminology) I should eventually use and what etiquette?" ]

[ "CEO of a tech company here. My advice is to talk directly to him. Do not bring up the salary of the new guy and do not imply you will walk out if you do not get a raise. Go prepared and the conversation I would suggest\n1. I have been here for x years and I think you will agree I have been an excellent employee\n2. Since I have been here I......list of positive achievements\n3. You even trust me with training the new employee\n4. I would be grateful if you could take some time to consider raising my hourly wage and believe $x.xx would be appropriate and that you would be happy to accept increased responsibility.\n\nYou should give him a number or expect to be disappointed by what he might offer. Ask for a little more than what you want to be happy and leave room for the boss to come back with an alternate offer. If you are a good employee he will offer you a raise. Be confident and polite. If he says no, its ok to tell him that you are disappointed but you will respect his decision. At this point you should leave the room and consider your future with this company.\n\nIf you are a good employee and valued by the boss you will not be fired simply for asking. Don't be nervous. In fact the more confidence you show the more likely he will agree.", "Can you provide examples of the increased value you've added over the last year? For instance, at this time last year, you were able to process 100 items, and now this year you're processing 200. Showing how you've added value, and in a quantifiable manner, to the company over the past year might help your argument to him.", "tell your boss's secretary that you would like to schedule a meeting for a \"salary review\" or a \"performance review\". I have found this is the polite way of letting you boss know that you think you deserve a raise without just walking into his/her office and saying I would like a raise. It will also give your boss time to talk to your supervisor or other employees about your work so you can have a meaningful discussion. \n\nYou should compile a list of specific reasons why you are valuable to your boss/company. I have done X projects which were worth X dollars. I noticed problem X and X is what I did to fix the problem/improve the situation. I have developed strong relationships with X client who will speak highly of me and my work. I have done X which was above and beyond what was asked. X is the comparable salary for people on other companies with my experience. \n\nYou should go into the meeting knowing what you want. Be willing to negotiate. If your boss counters and you really think you are worth X, be ready to tell them that and come back with something like I really think I was worth this, but what about as a comprise, we agree to slightly increase the rate my vacation accumulates to X or I get taken off X projects that I feel like I am best suited for etc. \n\nDon't get angry if you don't get what you want, but do be ready to leave. when I ask for a salary review I always update my resume before hand. This builds my confidence and you will be ready to leave if you feel you are treated unfairly. ", "Wow. I've been there. I was making 7.25 training a newbie to do my job for 10. I asked for a raise. Went straight to the boss to ask. He got mad at me for discussing wages with a coworker. I laughed at him in his face and left that shithole job. ", "Those are all pretty good advices. I'll be working with the big man for a day in couple of weeks so then I'll approach him and make sure I'm prepared. Thank you all. I'll update later." ]

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[ "How to stop people from manipulating you. Question is as title. I often feel that people are able to walk all over me and still get what they want. If just like some tips to work out when people are being manipulative, and what to do about it.\nThanks", "How to stop people from manipulating you. Question is as title. I often feel that people are able to walk all over me and still get what they want. If just like some tips to work out when people are being manipulative, and what to do about it.\nThanks", "How to stop people from manipulating you. Question is as title. I often feel that people are able to walk all over me and still get what they want. If just like some tips to work out when people are being manipulative, and what to do about it.\nThanks", "How to stop people from manipulating you. Question is as title. I often feel that people are able to walk all over me and still get what they want. If just like some tips to work out when people are being manipulative, and what to do about it.\nThanks", "How to stop people from manipulating you. Question is as title. I often feel that people are able to walk all over me and still get what they want. If just like some tips to work out when people are being manipulative, and what to do about it.\nThanks", "How to stop people from manipulating you. Question is as title. I often feel that people are able to walk all over me and still get what they want. If just like some tips to work out when people are being manipulative, and what to do about it.\nThanks", "How to stop people from manipulating you. Question is as title. I often feel that people are able to walk all over me and still get what they want. If just like some tips to work out when people are being manipulative, and what to do about it.\nThanks", "How to stop people from manipulating you. Question is as title. I often feel that people are able to walk all over me and still get what they want. If just like some tips to work out when people are being manipulative, and what to do about it.\nThanks", "How to stop people from manipulating you. Question is as title. I often feel that people are able to walk all over me and still get what they want. If just like some tips to work out when people are being manipulative, and what to do about it.\nThanks", "How to stop people from manipulating you. Question is as title. I often feel that people are able to walk all over me and still get what they want. If just like some tips to work out when people are being manipulative, and what to do about it.\nThanks" ]

[ "Learn the power of saying \"no\". \nYou know you are being manipulated, so when they ask something from you, you have every right to say \"sorry, can't do it\".", "What are the situations, I mean are you giving people money, taking the blame for things, or being talked into buying everything?\n\nThe best way is to just say no to someone. \"I can't do that right now, I'm too busy.\" \"I'd feel more comfortable paying dutch.\" \"No.\"\n\nIf you're not comfortable doing something as a favor for someone, then tell them straight up, you would rather not do it.", "Start setting things on fire whenever someone asks you to do something. They'll stop sooner or later. ", "Some small tricks that you can use:\n\nIf it is at work you can ask them to email you. It's useful in a discussion as well, since you'll have time to formulate a informed opinion with arguments backing it up instead of having to decide on the spot.\n\nWith shops and stuff, you can tell them that you'll consider it and that you'll come back when you've decided to buy it.\n\nWith family and friends you can tell them you've got something else already (works for both when planning something and for getting someone a present).", "Since you're already aware that you're being manipulated, you're ahead of the game. Soon you'll learn how to question people's motives in a tactful way. You'll find that the one's who are trying to manipulate you will sense your good judgement and back off. ", "It may not be that people are trying to manipulate you. It could be that some people just have a different point of view to you. Disagreeing with them won't make them dislike you (which is what I suspect you worry about). Your point of view is equally valid and if you say what you think in a straight forward, but not aggressive way, then you'll feel a lot less like you're being manipulated.", "If you feel someone is manipulating you, try to figure out what they want. Sometimes it's as easy as playing dumb until they have to spell out what they want. If they're trying to passive-aggressively get you to volunteer to do something, simply don't volunteer. The key with manipulators is a) don't take the bait, and b) don't give them what they want. Sometimes they just want drama. Don't give it to them. Be carefully neutral and disinterested, but not unfriendly. I guess the word is \"cordial\". Polite, accommodating up to a point, but not invested.", "There is a classic book on the subject. It's easy to read and easy to do. The book is called, \"When I Say No, I Feel Guilty\". \n\nHere's an amazon link to it. You can get it for virtually free. http://www.amazon.ca/When-Say-No-Feel-Guilty/dp/0553263900\n\n\n\n", "Say \"No\" and \"Do it yourself\" more. \n\nAlso, being an asshole also stops people dead in their tracks from trying to manipulate you. \n\nTo take things a step further, and this isn't for everyone, is to threaten the manipulator with violence if they keep bugging you. ", "I came up with a key phrase that seems to work. I use it more in family situations.\n\nFirst, hear them out, let them explain everything, then pause and reflectively say: \"Sorry, but I believe everyone is responsible for their own decisions.\"\n\nThen leave it at that. If they continue asking or begging, just repeat. It gets the point across, and it's hard to argue the point that adults are ultimately responsible for themselves." ]

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[ "Dry cracked hands in winter So I have really bad dry, cracked, hands that sometimes bleed pretty bad during winter months. I know it’s because I wash my hands a lot, like I make sure my hands are clean and might wash them longer than most people whenever I feel I need to. It’s tough to use lotion because I wash my hands too much lol. My ideal solution would be to wear gloves all day, but without any lotion. Are there gloves that have a certain material to them that help prevent dry cracked hands?", "Dry cracked hands in winter So I have really bad dry, cracked, hands that sometimes bleed pretty bad during winter months. I know it’s because I wash my hands a lot, like I make sure my hands are clean and might wash them longer than most people whenever I feel I need to. It’s tough to use lotion because I wash my hands too much lol. My ideal solution would be to wear gloves all day, but without any lotion. Are there gloves that have a certain material to them that help prevent dry cracked hands?", "Dry cracked hands in winter So I have really bad dry, cracked, hands that sometimes bleed pretty bad during winter months. I know it’s because I wash my hands a lot, like I make sure my hands are clean and might wash them longer than most people whenever I feel I need to. It’s tough to use lotion because I wash my hands too much lol. My ideal solution would be to wear gloves all day, but without any lotion. Are there gloves that have a certain material to them that help prevent dry cracked hands?", "Dry cracked hands in winter So I have really bad dry, cracked, hands that sometimes bleed pretty bad during winter months. I know it’s because I wash my hands a lot, like I make sure my hands are clean and might wash them longer than most people whenever I feel I need to. It’s tough to use lotion because I wash my hands too much lol. My ideal solution would be to wear gloves all day, but without any lotion. Are there gloves that have a certain material to them that help prevent dry cracked hands?", "Dry cracked hands in winter So I have really bad dry, cracked, hands that sometimes bleed pretty bad during winter months. I know it’s because I wash my hands a lot, like I make sure my hands are clean and might wash them longer than most people whenever I feel I need to. It’s tough to use lotion because I wash my hands too much lol. My ideal solution would be to wear gloves all day, but without any lotion. Are there gloves that have a certain material to them that help prevent dry cracked hands?", "Dry cracked hands in winter So I have really bad dry, cracked, hands that sometimes bleed pretty bad during winter months. I know it’s because I wash my hands a lot, like I make sure my hands are clean and might wash them longer than most people whenever I feel I need to. It’s tough to use lotion because I wash my hands too much lol. My ideal solution would be to wear gloves all day, but without any lotion. Are there gloves that have a certain material to them that help prevent dry cracked hands?", "Dry cracked hands in winter So I have really bad dry, cracked, hands that sometimes bleed pretty bad during winter months. I know it’s because I wash my hands a lot, like I make sure my hands are clean and might wash them longer than most people whenever I feel I need to. It’s tough to use lotion because I wash my hands too much lol. My ideal solution would be to wear gloves all day, but without any lotion. Are there gloves that have a certain material to them that help prevent dry cracked hands?", "Dry cracked hands in winter So I have really bad dry, cracked, hands that sometimes bleed pretty bad during winter months. I know it’s because I wash my hands a lot, like I make sure my hands are clean and might wash them longer than most people whenever I feel I need to. It’s tough to use lotion because I wash my hands too much lol. My ideal solution would be to wear gloves all day, but without any lotion. Are there gloves that have a certain material to them that help prevent dry cracked hands?", "Dry cracked hands in winter So I have really bad dry, cracked, hands that sometimes bleed pretty bad during winter months. I know it’s because I wash my hands a lot, like I make sure my hands are clean and might wash them longer than most people whenever I feel I need to. It’s tough to use lotion because I wash my hands too much lol. My ideal solution would be to wear gloves all day, but without any lotion. Are there gloves that have a certain material to them that help prevent dry cracked hands?", "Dry cracked hands in winter So I have really bad dry, cracked, hands that sometimes bleed pretty bad during winter months. I know it’s because I wash my hands a lot, like I make sure my hands are clean and might wash them longer than most people whenever I feel I need to. It’s tough to use lotion because I wash my hands too much lol. My ideal solution would be to wear gloves all day, but without any lotion. Are there gloves that have a certain material to them that help prevent dry cracked hands?", "Dry cracked hands in winter So I have really bad dry, cracked, hands that sometimes bleed pretty bad during winter months. I know it’s because I wash my hands a lot, like I make sure my hands are clean and might wash them longer than most people whenever I feel I need to. It’s tough to use lotion because I wash my hands too much lol. My ideal solution would be to wear gloves all day, but without any lotion. Are there gloves that have a certain material to them that help prevent dry cracked hands?", "Dry cracked hands in winter So I have really bad dry, cracked, hands that sometimes bleed pretty bad during winter months. I know it’s because I wash my hands a lot, like I make sure my hands are clean and might wash them longer than most people whenever I feel I need to. It’s tough to use lotion because I wash my hands too much lol. My ideal solution would be to wear gloves all day, but without any lotion. Are there gloves that have a certain material to them that help prevent dry cracked hands?" ]

[ "Idk about a glove, but my grandpa swore by o'keeffes working hands hand cream. He was recommended it from a nurse that struggled with the same problem due to constantly washing their hands. May be worth a shot if you haven't tried it yet!", "I am sorry I can't really help with suggesting gloves.\nBut I had a very similar issue. I work outside a lot for my job and I have to wash my hands often. I couldn't find a lotion that would help. However I did finally find O'Keeffe's Working Hands. It helped a lot for me. Might be worth a try. I only use it once a day before I go to bed in the winter and it has made a huge difference.", "O'Keefe's Working Hands lotion. Best stuff out there. Wife has a dozen bottles of stuff but this works for me. Construction and drywall sucks all the moisture outta my hands every winter. This stuff works and ain't greasy. Once it soaks in I apply to bad areas again. On really bad weeks I'll lather it on and sleep with old socks on my hands.", "The biggest problem with cremes is that some stay greasey on your hands for a while afterwards. I use Aveeno Colloidal Oatmeal after every hand wash... works great and drys up as you rub it in.", "Google “lanolin gloves”. Lanolin comes from wool, and is awesome for dry skin!\n\nIf you think you may have eczema or psoriasis, ask a dermatologist because you may need medication.", "Get soap thats moisturizing and put on lotion before you go to bed (or before anything that you wont be washing your hands for)", "Beard oil. \n\nA couple drops on your hands and run them together. If your hands are still a bit oily, you can rub them on tattoos or other dry areas and it absorbs quickly. \n\n\nI have full sleeve tattoos so they get some love with jojoba oil, castor oil, and argan oil.", "Wash only with warm water, never cold, and dry thoroughly. I mean leave no moisture at all, even in the little grooves on the back of every finger joint. Do you experience much cold? If so, also soak your hands in really warm water at least once a day for about 5 min. Part of the issue you are experiencing is from the soap, but some of it is internally caused. When your hands get cold, they reduce circulation (via vasoconstriction), which in turn reduces the flow of nutrients and removal of cellular waste. This increases the damage to the tissues. Even a little moisture remaining on you hands will chill the surface (even if you don’t feel cold all over) and start the cycle. Evaporation is more rapid in winter due to the lower humidity, and that leads to the drop in temperature. The drying reduces that, and the warm soak gives them a boost of blood flow, helping to offset some of the damage.", "O’Keefs! That stuff is amazing. When my COVID hands start flaring up from all the hand sanitizer and hand washing, that’s my go to. I actually use it every time because it helps prevent the chafe!", "O'keefs is OK. Didn't help my cracks close up, but slowed their formation down, and felt greasy. Similar to the aveeno heel product.\n\nAtractain lotion works. Non greasy, helps slough off the dead skin, retain and even attract some moisture. I use a pea to toothpaste squeeze sized bit once or twice a day, and a decent normal lotion 2-3x and have minimal problems anymore.\n\nBefore that I needed prescription cortisones to not have cracked and bleeding hands,even with O'keefs", "I have dealt with severely dry skin my entire life. Right before bed moisten your skin thoroughly and then apply a heavy coat of Aquaphor. During the day stick to oatmeal and water based lotions, not oil.", "Drink more water. You said it yourself, your hands are dry. Lotion, moisturizing soap or anything else that treats dry skin is reactive. Drink more water and you're a lot less likely to get dry hands in the first place" ]

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[ "The best way to memorize words and their definitions without spending too much time on it I feel like my vocabulary is relatively limited and I always struggled with the vocabulary sections on standardized tests. I read a lot and usually when I see a word I don't know, I look it up. But then it feels like I never see that word again and if I do see it again I've already forgotten the definition. Is there an easy way to remember words and their definitions or do I literally have to read a dictionary?", "The best way to memorize words and their definitions without spending too much time on it I feel like my vocabulary is relatively limited and I always struggled with the vocabulary sections on standardized tests. I read a lot and usually when I see a word I don't know, I look it up. But then it feels like I never see that word again and if I do see it again I've already forgotten the definition. Is there an easy way to remember words and their definitions or do I literally have to read a dictionary?", "The best way to memorize words and their definitions without spending too much time on it I feel like my vocabulary is relatively limited and I always struggled with the vocabulary sections on standardized tests. I read a lot and usually when I see a word I don't know, I look it up. But then it feels like I never see that word again and if I do see it again I've already forgotten the definition. Is there an easy way to remember words and their definitions or do I literally have to read a dictionary?", "The best way to memorize words and their definitions without spending too much time on it I feel like my vocabulary is relatively limited and I always struggled with the vocabulary sections on standardized tests. I read a lot and usually when I see a word I don't know, I look it up. But then it feels like I never see that word again and if I do see it again I've already forgotten the definition. Is there an easy way to remember words and their definitions or do I literally have to read a dictionary?", "The best way to memorize words and their definitions without spending too much time on it I feel like my vocabulary is relatively limited and I always struggled with the vocabulary sections on standardized tests. I read a lot and usually when I see a word I don't know, I look it up. But then it feels like I never see that word again and if I do see it again I've already forgotten the definition. Is there an easy way to remember words and their definitions or do I literally have to read a dictionary?", "The best way to memorize words and their definitions without spending too much time on it I feel like my vocabulary is relatively limited and I always struggled with the vocabulary sections on standardized tests. I read a lot and usually when I see a word I don't know, I look it up. But then it feels like I never see that word again and if I do see it again I've already forgotten the definition. Is there an easy way to remember words and their definitions or do I literally have to read a dictionary?", "The best way to memorize words and their definitions without spending too much time on it I feel like my vocabulary is relatively limited and I always struggled with the vocabulary sections on standardized tests. I read a lot and usually when I see a word I don't know, I look it up. But then it feels like I never see that word again and if I do see it again I've already forgotten the definition. Is there an easy way to remember words and their definitions or do I literally have to read a dictionary?", "The best way to memorize words and their definitions without spending too much time on it I feel like my vocabulary is relatively limited and I always struggled with the vocabulary sections on standardized tests. I read a lot and usually when I see a word I don't know, I look it up. But then it feels like I never see that word again and if I do see it again I've already forgotten the definition. Is there an easy way to remember words and their definitions or do I literally have to read a dictionary?", "The best way to memorize words and their definitions without spending too much time on it I feel like my vocabulary is relatively limited and I always struggled with the vocabulary sections on standardized tests. I read a lot and usually when I see a word I don't know, I look it up. But then it feels like I never see that word again and if I do see it again I've already forgotten the definition. Is there an easy way to remember words and their definitions or do I literally have to read a dictionary?" ]

[ "Repeat the word a few times so you get used to pronunciation, then write it down a few times until you can write it off the top of your head, then just repeat the definition in your head explaining it differently each time, that's how it works for me", "You need to find a point of contact with the word . If you don't find anything then associate the word with some object of interest for you . Or indulge the word into a story and feed it into your head . It should work . Or just google search images of the word and whatever comes collect it so you could be like \"what was that word which gave out that weird google search \" oh , Donald trump . What ?", "A spaced repetition program like Anki is what I use to learn new words and actually remember them. Another tip is so include a phrase in which that word is used so you can easily remember what it means in context.", "When I was younger and came across a word I didn't know, I would write five sentences using that word.", "Look up the etymology at [etymonline](http://www.etymonline.com/), language is just stacked lego blocks, and learning the etymology of a word shows how that word has been constructed and/or deconstructed over time. \n\nAn awesome demonstration, is the etymology of the word [sycophant](http://www.etymonline.com/index.php?term=sycophant&allowed_in_frame=0). After reading that, try and forget what the word sycophant means. \n\nAnother demonstration, are the words (yes, pural) cleave and cleave. On the surface it looks like the word is its own antonym, but when examining the [etymology](http://www.etymonline.com/index.php?allowed_in_frame=0&search=cleave) you'll see that cleave was once upon a time 2 different, yet similar, words that slowly morphed together. \n\nThe next step I like to take, is to look up the definition on google (in case you didn't know, putting 'define sycophant' is a shortcut.) And then leaving this tab open on your browser. The tab title will be 'define sycophant' and so every time you see that tab, remind yourself what the definition of the word is, if you don't remember then the tab is right there so you can remind yourself. After a while you'll get the feeling that you know the word, and can safely close the tab. \n\n", "Just take a page out of the Michael Scott school of business:\nMichael: Yes, yes. Pat-tern. Patt-ern. My friend Pat took a turn. That's how I remember that. Could we pull over and put down the top? I'm feeling a little queasy.\nJan: Um, no, I want it up. My hair.\nMichael: Well-\nJan: Remember, it isn't just a pattern, It's a pattern of disrespect, and inappropriate behavior. \nMichael: Disray .My friend Disray got news specs. Disray spect. My friend Inappro drives a Prius with his behind neighbor.", "The best way to improve your vocabulary is to read a lot.\n\nRead for 30-45 minutes every day. \n\nIt can be fiction, nonfiction, online stuff, whatever. Make sure it's not too basic for you. \n\nWhen I was preparing for SATs in high school, I did this and within a year my vocabulary was much better. ", "If you can get a kindle, there's a feature called wordwise. Look it up and see if that might be a good solution?", "I remember something that worked very well for me was to use those words in sentences that were somewhat goofy. " ]

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[ "How to get the static OUT OF EVERY GOD DAMN THING I WEAR and how to stop getting SHOCKED WHEN I TOUCH ANYTHING METAL sorry, it's been a long winter of this. \n\nI asked my girlfriend to open the freezer door at the grocery store the other day. She got shocked. I win.\n\n**", "How to get the static OUT OF EVERY GOD DAMN THING I WEAR and how to stop getting SHOCKED WHEN I TOUCH ANYTHING METAL sorry, it's been a long winter of this. \n\nI asked my girlfriend to open the freezer door at the grocery store the other day. She got shocked. I win.\n\n**", "How to get the static OUT OF EVERY GOD DAMN THING I WEAR and how to stop getting SHOCKED WHEN I TOUCH ANYTHING METAL sorry, it's been a long winter of this. \n\nI asked my girlfriend to open the freezer door at the grocery store the other day. She got shocked. I win.\n\n**", "How to get the static OUT OF EVERY GOD DAMN THING I WEAR and how to stop getting SHOCKED WHEN I TOUCH ANYTHING METAL sorry, it's been a long winter of this. \n\nI asked my girlfriend to open the freezer door at the grocery store the other day. She got shocked. I win.\n\n**", "How to get the static OUT OF EVERY GOD DAMN THING I WEAR and how to stop getting SHOCKED WHEN I TOUCH ANYTHING METAL sorry, it's been a long winter of this. \n\nI asked my girlfriend to open the freezer door at the grocery store the other day. She got shocked. I win.\n\n**", "How to get the static OUT OF EVERY GOD DAMN THING I WEAR and how to stop getting SHOCKED WHEN I TOUCH ANYTHING METAL sorry, it's been a long winter of this. \n\nI asked my girlfriend to open the freezer door at the grocery store the other day. She got shocked. I win.\n\n**", "How to get the static OUT OF EVERY GOD DAMN THING I WEAR and how to stop getting SHOCKED WHEN I TOUCH ANYTHING METAL sorry, it's been a long winter of this. \n\nI asked my girlfriend to open the freezer door at the grocery store the other day. She got shocked. I win.\n\n**", "How to get the static OUT OF EVERY GOD DAMN THING I WEAR and how to stop getting SHOCKED WHEN I TOUCH ANYTHING METAL sorry, it's been a long winter of this. \n\nI asked my girlfriend to open the freezer door at the grocery store the other day. She got shocked. I win.\n\n**", "How to get the static OUT OF EVERY GOD DAMN THING I WEAR and how to stop getting SHOCKED WHEN I TOUCH ANYTHING METAL sorry, it's been a long winter of this. \n\nI asked my girlfriend to open the freezer door at the grocery store the other day. She got shocked. I win.\n\n**", "How to get the static OUT OF EVERY GOD DAMN THING I WEAR and how to stop getting SHOCKED WHEN I TOUCH ANYTHING METAL sorry, it's been a long winter of this. \n\nI asked my girlfriend to open the freezer door at the grocery store the other day. She got shocked. I win.\n\n**", "How to get the static OUT OF EVERY GOD DAMN THING I WEAR and how to stop getting SHOCKED WHEN I TOUCH ANYTHING METAL sorry, it's been a long winter of this. \n\nI asked my girlfriend to open the freezer door at the grocery store the other day. She got shocked. I win.\n\n**", "How to get the static OUT OF EVERY GOD DAMN THING I WEAR and how to stop getting SHOCKED WHEN I TOUCH ANYTHING METAL sorry, it's been a long winter of this. \n\nI asked my girlfriend to open the freezer door at the grocery store the other day. She got shocked. I win.\n\n**", "How to get the static OUT OF EVERY GOD DAMN THING I WEAR and how to stop getting SHOCKED WHEN I TOUCH ANYTHING METAL sorry, it's been a long winter of this. \n\nI asked my girlfriend to open the freezer door at the grocery store the other day. She got shocked. I win.\n\n**", "How to get the static OUT OF EVERY GOD DAMN THING I WEAR and how to stop getting SHOCKED WHEN I TOUCH ANYTHING METAL sorry, it's been a long winter of this. \n\nI asked my girlfriend to open the freezer door at the grocery store the other day. She got shocked. I win.\n\n**" ]

[ "They make wristlets for this that cost about $8 that you can get at Fry's. Their purpose is to prevent you from shorting out a computer or other electronics you may be working on...but the effect I experienced while wearing mine was that I wouldn't get shocked touching metal all the time as I walked around the house...so I just left mine on a lot during the winter.", "Pick up a key or any small metal object and lightly touch whatever you suspect will shock you.\n\nThe pain/shock you feel is the electricity jumping from a surface to your skin, by making it jump from the car door (example) to your key you make your and the car's charge the same and it won't shock you when you touch it. You of course have to hold the key with your bare hands and not in a glove.", "You can make a fist and touch things with the area of your hand between your pinky and your wrist. There are less nerve endings, so less pain when you ground yourself. ", "Same problem, getting out of a car is the worst! I've learned to brush anything metal with my elbow or back of my hand before reaching for it.", "Used to have this happen to me till I bought a male metal jewellery bracelet\n\nNot sure why, but the metal bracelet does the trick.\n\nIf I take off\n BAM! I am Zeus once more ", "Touch a smooth bit of metal will get rid of all the static electricity you have. As an example, a metal tap, or kitchen sink will work. ", "TOUCH WOOD!! Anything wooden. Bedpost, railing, dresser, whatever. Amazing trick I figured out in the mountains. Please try this.", "Really if you get weary of a static shock just de-charge yourself by touching a not-as-sensitive part of the hand (knuckles, back of hand, etc) to the metal. Great trick when getting out of cars and stuff. It just lets the electricity out through a wider surface area is all.", "Leather soles are great indoors, but terrible outdoors in any kind of snowy or icy weather. Use rubber soles outdoors in winter. I have issues with static, too - but I overcome them by using: wooden hair comb + a drop off body oil in my hair to keep away the frizzies and static; I keep 2 or 3 dryer sheets in my bag/wallet and run them on my tights or pant hems when static makes my clothes cling together (bonus: the dryers sheets make my bag smell nice). Moisturize my hands often, and use body oil after every shower. I use sheets whenever I run the dryer (I'll reuse one or two sheets for up to 3 loads of laundry). This keeps away the static charges. I find that now the only time I shock anyone is when I don't use body oil or dryer sheets.", "If I know I'm charged with static then when I go to touch something metal I lightly hit it first. The shock happens but you cant feel it compared to the impact from the hit.", "Believe it or not, you might try a different shampoo/conditioner. My wife started using Dove years ago and it made her hair feel and look like that of a goddess but she started getting shocked by EVERYTHING. I could hear the zaps from when she would touch shelves at the store and lightswitches. She noticed that her hair had an unusual amount of static all of the time and linked it to the switch to Dove shampoo. She switched to some other brand and it all went away besides the usual hot summer car door shocks.", "I always wear slippers at home during the winter and I get shocked touching pretty much anything. I made an habit of always trying to touch the metal (i.e. the fridge) with my knee first. The static goes through my jeans and I can hear the shock, but I never feel it. Of course, you need to be wearing pants for this to work...", "Definitely get a humidifier, this will help the most. Also, synthetic fibers (polyester, acrylic, rayon, etc.) trap and create a significantly larger amount of static than natural fibers such as cotton and wool. 99% of carpets are made from synthetic fibers too. In the dry winter months, try wearing natural fibers and don't shuffle feet on carpet... It creates friction which in turn causes static electricity. ", "Get some aluminium foil and tear off like a half dozen 1ft sheets. Scrunch the first sheet into a ball, then keep adding sheets to the ball until it becomes about the size of a grapefruit. \n\nAdd this ball to your dryer load and it might help reduce the static. The ball will shrink each time you use it and the effect is reduced after about 6 uses. " ]

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[ "SO and I are looking to get a place of our own in the future and move out of my parents’ place. What’s the best way to start budgeting for that? No judgement please. I’m finishing up my undergraduate degree and working part-time and he recently got hired at a new place and is starting work there this week. Not a great time for saving up income, but I want to think ahead for this summer, too, when I can work full-time.", "SO and I are looking to get a place of our own in the future and move out of my parents’ place. What’s the best way to start budgeting for that? No judgement please. I’m finishing up my undergraduate degree and working part-time and he recently got hired at a new place and is starting work there this week. Not a great time for saving up income, but I want to think ahead for this summer, too, when I can work full-time.", "SO and I are looking to get a place of our own in the future and move out of my parents’ place. What’s the best way to start budgeting for that? No judgement please. I’m finishing up my undergraduate degree and working part-time and he recently got hired at a new place and is starting work there this week. Not a great time for saving up income, but I want to think ahead for this summer, too, when I can work full-time.", "SO and I are looking to get a place of our own in the future and move out of my parents’ place. What’s the best way to start budgeting for that? No judgement please. I’m finishing up my undergraduate degree and working part-time and he recently got hired at a new place and is starting work there this week. Not a great time for saving up income, but I want to think ahead for this summer, too, when I can work full-time.", "SO and I are looking to get a place of our own in the future and move out of my parents’ place. What’s the best way to start budgeting for that? No judgement please. I’m finishing up my undergraduate degree and working part-time and he recently got hired at a new place and is starting work there this week. Not a great time for saving up income, but I want to think ahead for this summer, too, when I can work full-time.", "SO and I are looking to get a place of our own in the future and move out of my parents’ place. What’s the best way to start budgeting for that? No judgement please. I’m finishing up my undergraduate degree and working part-time and he recently got hired at a new place and is starting work there this week. Not a great time for saving up income, but I want to think ahead for this summer, too, when I can work full-time." ]

[ "With every bit of cash you spend on fancy coffee, drive thru lunch (or breakfast or dinner), date nights, dinners out, or what ever, remember that money could have put you that much closer to your dream of having your own place. It's not easy, it's not fun, but neither is living with the 'rents forever. But allow yourself a small splurge from time to time to help you remember why you're putting yourself through this torture. \n\nYou can do it... Stay committed to your dream and each other.", "List every expense.\n\nList all income.\n\nDetermine the difference. Hopefully > 0.\n\nIdentify places to change until the difference creates a cushion (emergency fund).\n\nFigure out the costs of your own place as you first target. Save that amount + 30% for a year.", "The best way is to start. \n\nWrite out your monthly expenses. Write out your monthly income. Compare these two numbers and see how much you should have as a surplus each month. \n\nThen look at your spending for the last 30 or 60 days. Identify things that you buy outside of your normal expenses. These are the things that are going to hold you back. Small daily expenses really add up. Identify problem areas and see what you can do to cut back on them.", "Making a list of all the things we needed for the new house, and then slowly checking things off when they go on sale, or find them at the dollar store! Made it a lot less stressful money wise!\n\nAlso a proper budgeting book/ spread sheet helped me a lot", "To buy a house you’ll need 3.5% down payment when using a first time home buyer loan. Closing costs are 3-5% of purchase price. Having good cr", "It might be too much nowadays to get a place of your own. You might consider an alternative for the first few years, something like vanlife, or just stay with the parents for years after you graduate contributing grocery money and chores. It's a cliche I know but you might also consider renovating your parents basement or attic. If they have extra land, you could get a camping trailer or build a tiny home. Also visit r/frugal often for lots of great tips." ]

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[ "Ex Manager Attempting to Contact Me Throwaway account to not have any future jobs penalise me. \n\nI quit my job a few months ago due to the manager's attitude about myself on how I wasn't doing the job good enough (bs by the way) and since then I thought that it was in the past. \n\nThey have since tried to add me on social media using my phone number and have sent me things of themselves on it. I can't actually prove now that they have done so because my immediate reaction was to instantly block them, however is there a way to contact HR to get them to stop and for them to get rid of my phone number because IIRC it's illegal to hold onto phone numbers of past employees and I really do not want to be contacted by the person.", "Ex Manager Attempting to Contact Me Throwaway account to not have any future jobs penalise me. \n\nI quit my job a few months ago due to the manager's attitude about myself on how I wasn't doing the job good enough (bs by the way) and since then I thought that it was in the past. \n\nThey have since tried to add me on social media using my phone number and have sent me things of themselves on it. I can't actually prove now that they have done so because my immediate reaction was to instantly block them, however is there a way to contact HR to get them to stop and for them to get rid of my phone number because IIRC it's illegal to hold onto phone numbers of past employees and I really do not want to be contacted by the person.", "Ex Manager Attempting to Contact Me Throwaway account to not have any future jobs penalise me. \n\nI quit my job a few months ago due to the manager's attitude about myself on how I wasn't doing the job good enough (bs by the way) and since then I thought that it was in the past. \n\nThey have since tried to add me on social media using my phone number and have sent me things of themselves on it. I can't actually prove now that they have done so because my immediate reaction was to instantly block them, however is there a way to contact HR to get them to stop and for them to get rid of my phone number because IIRC it's illegal to hold onto phone numbers of past employees and I really do not want to be contacted by the person.", "Ex Manager Attempting to Contact Me Throwaway account to not have any future jobs penalise me. \n\nI quit my job a few months ago due to the manager's attitude about myself on how I wasn't doing the job good enough (bs by the way) and since then I thought that it was in the past. \n\nThey have since tried to add me on social media using my phone number and have sent me things of themselves on it. I can't actually prove now that they have done so because my immediate reaction was to instantly block them, however is there a way to contact HR to get them to stop and for them to get rid of my phone number because IIRC it's illegal to hold onto phone numbers of past employees and I really do not want to be contacted by the person." ]

[ "What they are doing is not illegal but many larger companies have policies involving contact of terminated employees **for professional reasons**. You can contact their HR department and ask for a 'no contact' request in that case only.\n\nIf the reason they're contacting you on social media is **for social reasons**, then simply ignore and block them if you wish no further interaction. If the type of social media doesn't allow that sort of blocking, send them a personal message along the order of *\"Hi, sorry, but our history and relationship was solely of a work related nature and I would prefer to move on now that I am no longer working with your company. It would be appreciated if you would please not send me any further messages or requests.\"*\n\nAnd do it politely so you don't burn any bridges. *Never burn bridges for anything related to work* unless you're absolutely guaranteed that they can't possibly hurt you in the future (such as through a bad reference).", "ya they arent doing anything illegal, but just incredibly annoying, you can wither block all contact with them or go to hr and get them to stop both work fine", "It's not illegal for an employer to hold onto your personnel file. \n\nNothing negative is going to happen if you take their call. ", "Has blocking them not solved the problem? I don't think there is any value in spending any more energy on this if that is the case.\n\nIt might also be worth considering the possibility that the approach may have been made with good intentions, e.g. perhaps they could be reaching out to apologise (although of course I don't know the context)." ]

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[ "Removing musty smell from built-in linen cabinet in an old home. We recently moved into an old home that has a built-in linen cabinet in the hallway. It smells very strongly of an overwhelming musty old scent. I put towels in there for storage and they end up smelling terrible. I've tried baking soda boxes, wiping it down with Lysol wipes, leaving a Febreeze small space thing in there for days, left it open to air out, placed dryer sheets in there.. I've tried a lot. Still no luck. Does anyone have any idea how to get rid of this?\n\n", "Removing musty smell from built-in linen cabinet in an old home. We recently moved into an old home that has a built-in linen cabinet in the hallway. It smells very strongly of an overwhelming musty old scent. I put towels in there for storage and they end up smelling terrible. I've tried baking soda boxes, wiping it down with Lysol wipes, leaving a Febreeze small space thing in there for days, left it open to air out, placed dryer sheets in there.. I've tried a lot. Still no luck. Does anyone have any idea how to get rid of this?\n\n", "Removing musty smell from built-in linen cabinet in an old home. We recently moved into an old home that has a built-in linen cabinet in the hallway. It smells very strongly of an overwhelming musty old scent. I put towels in there for storage and they end up smelling terrible. I've tried baking soda boxes, wiping it down with Lysol wipes, leaving a Febreeze small space thing in there for days, left it open to air out, placed dryer sheets in there.. I've tried a lot. Still no luck. Does anyone have any idea how to get rid of this?\n\n", "Removing musty smell from built-in linen cabinet in an old home. We recently moved into an old home that has a built-in linen cabinet in the hallway. It smells very strongly of an overwhelming musty old scent. I put towels in there for storage and they end up smelling terrible. I've tried baking soda boxes, wiping it down with Lysol wipes, leaving a Febreeze small space thing in there for days, left it open to air out, placed dryer sheets in there.. I've tried a lot. Still no luck. Does anyone have any idea how to get rid of this?\n\n", "Removing musty smell from built-in linen cabinet in an old home. We recently moved into an old home that has a built-in linen cabinet in the hallway. It smells very strongly of an overwhelming musty old scent. I put towels in there for storage and they end up smelling terrible. I've tried baking soda boxes, wiping it down with Lysol wipes, leaving a Febreeze small space thing in there for days, left it open to air out, placed dryer sheets in there.. I've tried a lot. Still no luck. Does anyone have any idea how to get rid of this?\n\n", "Removing musty smell from built-in linen cabinet in an old home. We recently moved into an old home that has a built-in linen cabinet in the hallway. It smells very strongly of an overwhelming musty old scent. I put towels in there for storage and they end up smelling terrible. I've tried baking soda boxes, wiping it down with Lysol wipes, leaving a Febreeze small space thing in there for days, left it open to air out, placed dryer sheets in there.. I've tried a lot. Still no luck. Does anyone have any idea how to get rid of this?\n\n" ]

[ "There’s a product called DampRid that attracts moisture. It’s sold in refillable plastic buckets at places like Home Depot. We needed to sell a mobile home that had been unused for a long time and smelled funky, kind of like the crawl space below it. The realtor we were listing it with suggested putting some of those around because they remove smells as well as moisture. It worked amazingly well! After just a few days, the place perfectly fine. Might work in your cupboard. \n\nAlso, we live near the coast, where we have to guard against mildew at all times due to the humidity. When we moved into this house, the inside of the drawers in the bathroom vanity smelled horribly of mildew, though none was visible. I put little pieces of wood on the edges of the drawers so they couldn’t close completely but were left open just a fraction of an inch. It really helped that smell dissipate. Maybe you could use something like a chopstick to keep the cupboard open just a tiny bit for airflow.\n\n\n\n", "Put a bunch of crumpled newspapers in for a few days, then wash it out with some water with bleach added to kill mold, let dry throughly", "I would try leaving a cup of vinegar in there for a few days, and if that didn't do it, try 'painting' the insides with vinegar. If that fails, then bleach, and probably repaint with primer, then a bathroom-quality paint (made for high-humidity).", "I’d suggest a full assault :\n\nScented drawer liners for your drawers and shelves. Gives a protective layer between wood & your stuff plus it’s a nice smell. If you don’t want the scent, buy unscented or cut up some thick card or linoleum. \n\nTumble drier sheets, they seem to be great insect repellent (incase that’s part of the damp issue) and moisture retainers. \n\nDehumidifier tubs with those little Silca gel balls, they help suck up moisture from the air. \n\nAbout 10-15 drops of Olbas oil (or any eucalyptus based oil) onto sheets of tissue which you hang inside the cupboard. Watch that it doesn’t rest on painted wood or it may stain. \n\nDo all this after fully drying the cupboard out with the aid of a portable heater or by letting it sit wide open for a few days. \n\nHope that helps. ", "cedar chips used for animal bedding wrapped in some cheese cloth or something like that. Make a few of those and keep them in there.", "Tea tree oil does wonders. Smells minty and refreshing. I bought an old used dresser once. It was beautiful but smelled very musty, like it had some water damage... I slathered it down (at first by accidentally using too much) but it did the trick and smelled great. \n\nI know you said it's painted, but maybe try rubbing some throughout, or putting it on a cloth and leaving it in there... " ]

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[ "Surviving a haunted house Im going through a haunted house later today with my gf and some friends. I know im probably going to have to go first, and will be acting like a little girl. Is there anything I can do to make it not AS bad? Any tips? thanks", "Surviving a haunted house Im going through a haunted house later today with my gf and some friends. I know im probably going to have to go first, and will be acting like a little girl. Is there anything I can do to make it not AS bad? Any tips? thanks", "Surviving a haunted house Im going through a haunted house later today with my gf and some friends. I know im probably going to have to go first, and will be acting like a little girl. Is there anything I can do to make it not AS bad? Any tips? thanks", "Surviving a haunted house Im going through a haunted house later today with my gf and some friends. I know im probably going to have to go first, and will be acting like a little girl. Is there anything I can do to make it not AS bad? Any tips? thanks", "Surviving a haunted house Im going through a haunted house later today with my gf and some friends. I know im probably going to have to go first, and will be acting like a little girl. Is there anything I can do to make it not AS bad? Any tips? thanks", "Surviving a haunted house Im going through a haunted house later today with my gf and some friends. I know im probably going to have to go first, and will be acting like a little girl. Is there anything I can do to make it not AS bad? Any tips? thanks", "Surviving a haunted house Im going through a haunted house later today with my gf and some friends. I know im probably going to have to go first, and will be acting like a little girl. Is there anything I can do to make it not AS bad? Any tips? thanks" ]

[ "I feel like the whole point is to get a little scared. Like, what's the point in acting like a tough guy? We all know no one is going to get hurt. Immerse yourself in the experience, you'll have a lot more fun.", "Lmao the fear is what creates the experience! Why not embrace it? It’s like closing your eyes on a rollercoaster, kind of defeats half the point of even going 😋", "You will survive the haunted house, they literally cannot touch you or hurt you. Like you’d actively have to TRY to die to have any sort of chance of not surviving. Just remember it’s not real.", "If you’re afraid of the impression you’ll give as you walk through it with your girl and/or friends. Try substituting the screams and cries with nervous laughter.", "Try analyzing/critiquing as you go. Maybe imagine you're trying to create your own haunted house and so you're paying close attention to how they set it up and create the experience. \n\"Wow, that make-up is so realistic, I wonder how they got that texture...\" \n\"Ok that costume seems over the top, even for a haunted house\" \n\"Hm the lighting in here really transforms the space, but I think maybe a red tone would have made more sense\"", "Ghosts don't exist, stay away from the boiler and remember this is all in the mind. If that doesn't work then watch a thoughty 2 video on ghosts.", "I had to go one time with my in-laws. I HATE scary everything, while they enjoy it. Somehow, I ended up going first. I found that looking ahead, rather than to the sides/around me helped. Also, I sped up a little bit and was able to catch up to and walk behind the people ahead of us. Hiding behind one of them helped me to have a shirt to focus on rather than the scary stuff around me. Plus, anything scary popping out happened to the front of the group so I was more prepared. I'm a sissy, I know it, and I wasn't ashamed to do whatever I needed to make it out of there as emotionally unscathed as possible." ]

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[ "Apple earbuds are super tangly, how to straighten You know how Apple earbuds come in a package where the earbuds are wrapped around? Well, when I use my earbuds they keep trying to tangle back to original form. How to fix this?", "Apple earbuds are super tangly, how to straighten You know how Apple earbuds come in a package where the earbuds are wrapped around? Well, when I use my earbuds they keep trying to tangle back to original form. How to fix this?" ]

[ "Let them dangle and hang over something. Or invest in some wireless headphones. I can't tell you how many headphones I've gone through where the wire always breaks. ", "I honestly find that the older ones without the weird shape never really create knots. I think they have a smoother wire that doesn't get stuck and knotted. Otherwise, I just grab the wire and whip it up and down and it magically undoes it. Every once in a while there is the set which requires time to untangle. Good luck! You'll need it!" ]

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[ "Any ideas on how to clean motor oil off jeans and silk garments? Hey all,\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nSo a few days ago, our car broke down in the middle of nowhere. My BF thought it would be romantic to spend a weekend just the two of us away from civilization. The plan was good until our car stopped and no longer wanted to start again.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nMy BF decided he's a mechanic just because he drinks beer with the guys every weekend in one of his friend's garages. Anyway, he opened the hood to see what the problem was, and after rummaging there for half an hour, he took out some kind of iron twig, and since I held the lantern for him and standing near, he brushed it against my 100% silk blouse and my jeans, leaving oil stains.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI've washed it twice already, and no results. It still looks like a flock of birds flew over me, and my blouse was their main target. An urge to drown my BF in motor oil appears whenever I see what happened to my favorite things.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI tried using a degreaser, but it doesn't work. My genius of a BF said he saw how people remove grease stains with gasoline, but after spending three hours in the wild since he refused to call a tow truck because \"\"A few more minutes, babe, and the engine will start,\"\" I'm not that sure I want to follow his advice.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nYou may think I'm way too focused on clothing, but I don't have much of them, and given my budget, every purchase is carefully calculated. These were bought a couple of months ago when I was on a work trip in Egypt, and if it wasn't for the [namshi code](https://almowafir.com/en/store/namshi/) I found online, I doubt I could've afforded them. I really don't want to throw them away.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI'd really appreciate it if you could share any lifehacks that helped you in a similar situation. I'll be grateful for your advice, but please, don't share any tips you saw online, just those that helped you personally. Thanks in advance.", "Any ideas on how to clean motor oil off jeans and silk garments? Hey all,\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nSo a few days ago, our car broke down in the middle of nowhere. My BF thought it would be romantic to spend a weekend just the two of us away from civilization. The plan was good until our car stopped and no longer wanted to start again.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nMy BF decided he's a mechanic just because he drinks beer with the guys every weekend in one of his friend's garages. Anyway, he opened the hood to see what the problem was, and after rummaging there for half an hour, he took out some kind of iron twig, and since I held the lantern for him and standing near, he brushed it against my 100% silk blouse and my jeans, leaving oil stains.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI've washed it twice already, and no results. It still looks like a flock of birds flew over me, and my blouse was their main target. An urge to drown my BF in motor oil appears whenever I see what happened to my favorite things.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI tried using a degreaser, but it doesn't work. My genius of a BF said he saw how people remove grease stains with gasoline, but after spending three hours in the wild since he refused to call a tow truck because \"\"A few more minutes, babe, and the engine will start,\"\" I'm not that sure I want to follow his advice.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nYou may think I'm way too focused on clothing, but I don't have much of them, and given my budget, every purchase is carefully calculated. These were bought a couple of months ago when I was on a work trip in Egypt, and if it wasn't for the [namshi code](https://almowafir.com/en/store/namshi/) I found online, I doubt I could've afforded them. I really don't want to throw them away.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI'd really appreciate it if you could share any lifehacks that helped you in a similar situation. I'll be grateful for your advice, but please, don't share any tips you saw online, just those that helped you personally. Thanks in advance.", "Any ideas on how to clean motor oil off jeans and silk garments? Hey all,\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nSo a few days ago, our car broke down in the middle of nowhere. My BF thought it would be romantic to spend a weekend just the two of us away from civilization. The plan was good until our car stopped and no longer wanted to start again.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nMy BF decided he's a mechanic just because he drinks beer with the guys every weekend in one of his friend's garages. Anyway, he opened the hood to see what the problem was, and after rummaging there for half an hour, he took out some kind of iron twig, and since I held the lantern for him and standing near, he brushed it against my 100% silk blouse and my jeans, leaving oil stains.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI've washed it twice already, and no results. It still looks like a flock of birds flew over me, and my blouse was their main target. An urge to drown my BF in motor oil appears whenever I see what happened to my favorite things.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI tried using a degreaser, but it doesn't work. My genius of a BF said he saw how people remove grease stains with gasoline, but after spending three hours in the wild since he refused to call a tow truck because \"\"A few more minutes, babe, and the engine will start,\"\" I'm not that sure I want to follow his advice.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nYou may think I'm way too focused on clothing, but I don't have much of them, and given my budget, every purchase is carefully calculated. These were bought a couple of months ago when I was on a work trip in Egypt, and if it wasn't for the [namshi code](https://almowafir.com/en/store/namshi/) I found online, I doubt I could've afforded them. I really don't want to throw them away.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI'd really appreciate it if you could share any lifehacks that helped you in a similar situation. I'll be grateful for your advice, but please, don't share any tips you saw online, just those that helped you personally. Thanks in advance.", "Any ideas on how to clean motor oil off jeans and silk garments? Hey all,\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nSo a few days ago, our car broke down in the middle of nowhere. My BF thought it would be romantic to spend a weekend just the two of us away from civilization. The plan was good until our car stopped and no longer wanted to start again.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nMy BF decided he's a mechanic just because he drinks beer with the guys every weekend in one of his friend's garages. Anyway, he opened the hood to see what the problem was, and after rummaging there for half an hour, he took out some kind of iron twig, and since I held the lantern for him and standing near, he brushed it against my 100% silk blouse and my jeans, leaving oil stains.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI've washed it twice already, and no results. It still looks like a flock of birds flew over me, and my blouse was their main target. An urge to drown my BF in motor oil appears whenever I see what happened to my favorite things.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI tried using a degreaser, but it doesn't work. My genius of a BF said he saw how people remove grease stains with gasoline, but after spending three hours in the wild since he refused to call a tow truck because \"\"A few more minutes, babe, and the engine will start,\"\" I'm not that sure I want to follow his advice.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nYou may think I'm way too focused on clothing, but I don't have much of them, and given my budget, every purchase is carefully calculated. These were bought a couple of months ago when I was on a work trip in Egypt, and if it wasn't for the [namshi code](https://almowafir.com/en/store/namshi/) I found online, I doubt I could've afforded them. I really don't want to throw them away.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI'd really appreciate it if you could share any lifehacks that helped you in a similar situation. I'll be grateful for your advice, but please, don't share any tips you saw online, just those that helped you personally. Thanks in advance.", "Any ideas on how to clean motor oil off jeans and silk garments? Hey all,\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nSo a few days ago, our car broke down in the middle of nowhere. My BF thought it would be romantic to spend a weekend just the two of us away from civilization. The plan was good until our car stopped and no longer wanted to start again.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nMy BF decided he's a mechanic just because he drinks beer with the guys every weekend in one of his friend's garages. Anyway, he opened the hood to see what the problem was, and after rummaging there for half an hour, he took out some kind of iron twig, and since I held the lantern for him and standing near, he brushed it against my 100% silk blouse and my jeans, leaving oil stains.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI've washed it twice already, and no results. It still looks like a flock of birds flew over me, and my blouse was their main target. An urge to drown my BF in motor oil appears whenever I see what happened to my favorite things.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI tried using a degreaser, but it doesn't work. My genius of a BF said he saw how people remove grease stains with gasoline, but after spending three hours in the wild since he refused to call a tow truck because \"\"A few more minutes, babe, and the engine will start,\"\" I'm not that sure I want to follow his advice.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nYou may think I'm way too focused on clothing, but I don't have much of them, and given my budget, every purchase is carefully calculated. These were bought a couple of months ago when I was on a work trip in Egypt, and if it wasn't for the [namshi code](https://almowafir.com/en/store/namshi/) I found online, I doubt I could've afforded them. I really don't want to throw them away.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI'd really appreciate it if you could share any lifehacks that helped you in a similar situation. I'll be grateful for your advice, but please, don't share any tips you saw online, just those that helped you personally. Thanks in advance.", "Any ideas on how to clean motor oil off jeans and silk garments? Hey all,\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nSo a few days ago, our car broke down in the middle of nowhere. My BF thought it would be romantic to spend a weekend just the two of us away from civilization. The plan was good until our car stopped and no longer wanted to start again.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nMy BF decided he's a mechanic just because he drinks beer with the guys every weekend in one of his friend's garages. Anyway, he opened the hood to see what the problem was, and after rummaging there for half an hour, he took out some kind of iron twig, and since I held the lantern for him and standing near, he brushed it against my 100% silk blouse and my jeans, leaving oil stains.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI've washed it twice already, and no results. It still looks like a flock of birds flew over me, and my blouse was their main target. An urge to drown my BF in motor oil appears whenever I see what happened to my favorite things.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI tried using a degreaser, but it doesn't work. My genius of a BF said he saw how people remove grease stains with gasoline, but after spending three hours in the wild since he refused to call a tow truck because \"\"A few more minutes, babe, and the engine will start,\"\" I'm not that sure I want to follow his advice.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nYou may think I'm way too focused on clothing, but I don't have much of them, and given my budget, every purchase is carefully calculated. These were bought a couple of months ago when I was on a work trip in Egypt, and if it wasn't for the [namshi code](https://almowafir.com/en/store/namshi/) I found online, I doubt I could've afforded them. I really don't want to throw them away.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI'd really appreciate it if you could share any lifehacks that helped you in a similar situation. I'll be grateful for your advice, but please, don't share any tips you saw online, just those that helped you personally. Thanks in advance.", "Any ideas on how to clean motor oil off jeans and silk garments? Hey all,\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nSo a few days ago, our car broke down in the middle of nowhere. My BF thought it would be romantic to spend a weekend just the two of us away from civilization. The plan was good until our car stopped and no longer wanted to start again.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nMy BF decided he's a mechanic just because he drinks beer with the guys every weekend in one of his friend's garages. Anyway, he opened the hood to see what the problem was, and after rummaging there for half an hour, he took out some kind of iron twig, and since I held the lantern for him and standing near, he brushed it against my 100% silk blouse and my jeans, leaving oil stains.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI've washed it twice already, and no results. It still looks like a flock of birds flew over me, and my blouse was their main target. An urge to drown my BF in motor oil appears whenever I see what happened to my favorite things.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI tried using a degreaser, but it doesn't work. My genius of a BF said he saw how people remove grease stains with gasoline, but after spending three hours in the wild since he refused to call a tow truck because \"\"A few more minutes, babe, and the engine will start,\"\" I'm not that sure I want to follow his advice.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nYou may think I'm way too focused on clothing, but I don't have much of them, and given my budget, every purchase is carefully calculated. These were bought a couple of months ago when I was on a work trip in Egypt, and if it wasn't for the [namshi code](https://almowafir.com/en/store/namshi/) I found online, I doubt I could've afforded them. I really don't want to throw them away.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI'd really appreciate it if you could share any lifehacks that helped you in a similar situation. I'll be grateful for your advice, but please, don't share any tips you saw online, just those that helped you personally. Thanks in advance." ]

[ "Dawn dish soap is what they use to get oil off of animals when there's an oil spill. Treat each spot and let it soak in for a few hours before washing.", "Soak the stain with water, smear dish wash onto it, and rub gently, then place the garment in a sealed plastic bag to keep it moist for 24 hours, you then wash it normally. You may have to repeat this a few times.\n\nThis is how I get oil out of my jeans/chinos/shirts", "John Deere industrial machinery dealerships sell industrial hand cleaner that will remove motor oil from the jeans. Just rub in a generous amount on the oil stains, then wash normally. It may ruin the silk, however.", "White shaving cream. Not the cutsey stuff, cheap plain white. Let clothes soak in that.\n\nI'm tired but surfactant and surface area, blah blah", "Use Goop hand cleaner. Rub it in until it breaks up the oil and grease, rinse with hot water. Repeat if needed until stain is gone. \nLet it air dry complety to verify if stain is gone, you may need to do it again as any spots won't be visible while it's wet. \n\nBrake parts cleaner also works extremely well but should not be used on delicate fabrics or things that are not color fast. \nSpray the fabric from the backside, most of the stain will come right off. Brake parts cleaner works incredibly well to remove grease and oil stains from carpet- spray, rub with cloth and vacuum.", "Industrial handcleaner for denim and shampoo for silk . Either way, do not put the clothes in the dryer ad it will set the stain and it may take 2 or 3 washings to get the oil all out", "I have a pair of gloves I've been washing in dish soap once a week for six months hoping to get all the motor oil out of them. BUT THERE IS ALWAYS MORE OIL. Seriously - why do we even need to drill for it?" ]

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[ "Stress Relief Can I get creative recommendations on how to relieve stress without food or alcohol? Thank you", "Stress Relief Can I get creative recommendations on how to relieve stress without food or alcohol? Thank you", "Stress Relief Can I get creative recommendations on how to relieve stress without food or alcohol? Thank you", "Stress Relief Can I get creative recommendations on how to relieve stress without food or alcohol? Thank you", "Stress Relief Can I get creative recommendations on how to relieve stress without food or alcohol? Thank you", "Stress Relief Can I get creative recommendations on how to relieve stress without food or alcohol? Thank you", "Stress Relief Can I get creative recommendations on how to relieve stress without food or alcohol? Thank you", "Stress Relief Can I get creative recommendations on how to relieve stress without food or alcohol? Thank you", "Stress Relief Can I get creative recommendations on how to relieve stress without food or alcohol? Thank you", "Stress Relief Can I get creative recommendations on how to relieve stress without food or alcohol? Thank you", "Stress Relief Can I get creative recommendations on how to relieve stress without food or alcohol? Thank you" ]

[ "Exercise\n\nBeing outside\n\nDo something extremely well (perfectly make a bed, line up all the cans in the pantry)\n\nYoga/stretching", "I personally find cleaning therapeutic. Choose a manageable section of your living space and deep clean it when you’re feeling stressed. Putting your mind to something productive feels good, and at the end of it you have a measurable benefit. Organizing cluttered areas helps too.", "Yoga Nidra: 30 minutes or so and brilliantly clear headed/restful feeling afterwards. I was about to have a panic attack yesterday so I hurried and prepared the yoga mat and noise cancelling AirPods. Put on a 35 minute version from Spotify and felt significantly better afterwards. Give it a shot!", "If you need quick relief, your sense of smell is very effective. Anything mint/peppermint will be very effective. I use a roll on stick from Saje, and I've never been an essential oil guy, but it works wonders. Or you can invest in a diffuser.", "hangout with friends, talk to friends about your stress, journal your stress and figure out why your stress is stressful, go for a walk", "I am not going to follow along with what others are doing here. To start with, ask yourself if normal things bring you pleasure. Let me give you an example, a neurotypical person would most likely be getting satisfaction out of things such as 'cleaning' or 'm", "Few things that my therapist taught me (in no particular order):\n\n1. The square method for deep breathing. 4 seconds each of deep breath in, hold, slow breath out, and hold again. You can start this exercise with only 1 second and work your way up, but you want to end it with 4 seconds or more.\n\n2. Either slashing your face or submerging your forehead and eyes in cold water. This will shock your system into being calm. This method has the quickest emotional effect but the calm will only last about 10 minutes. It's a good first step for when you're upset, but you'll want to use one of the other methods in this list to extend the life of the calm you seek.\n\n3. A few minutes of intense exercise. The act of running tells your biology that you're getting away from whatever triggered your emotional episode, and also tells your body that you're about to be in a safe place. You don't need to do it for long, but it needs to be strenuous. \n\n4. Enjoy a hobby and/or make a thing. Doesn't need to look good, nor be useful, nor be kept after the thing is done. Just do a thing that makes you happy. Reading, watching TV, and single player video games don't count; those are winding down, about to go to sleep activities. The point of the hobby or craft is meant to replace the sadness/fear with joy. \n\nHope this helps!", "Which kind of stress? if you're burned out, one thing might help more than if you're anxious about medical or job stuff.", "Music. On my drive to work I listen to hard rock at full volume and scream my heart out. My current favorite song for this purpose is Godsmack's Something Different. I arrive relaxed and ready to deal with coworkers and customers.", "Laughing. Watch every stupid cat video and a few fail videos. \n\nAlso singing. Find the upbeat songs you remember from every era and have yourself a singalong. Just you, as loud as you want or need.", "Alot of the above are good ideas along with cold water therapy. I study neuroscience and the impact this has on your dopamine levels, your ability to cope with stress and your overall health and immunity is incredible.\n\nDon't get intimidated by all the hard-core people jumping in ice covered lakes. Start small, with cold showers or a bath filled with coldest tap water. The idea is to create an environment that is mentally and physically stressful/hard for YOU. There are many studies showing the temperature of the water really doesn't have to be that extreme.\n\nGoogle Wim Hof for popular resources.\n\nProud of you for seeking healthier coping mechanisms!" ]

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