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[ "How do I stop watching and reading motivation videos/posts and practice JUST DOING IT? I suffer from depression and anxiety. Lately I have been extremely overwhelmed. I can't seem to get into a proper routine or habit. I used to be better than this. Back then, I was extremely organized, had a schedule, and wrote in my agenda with color-coding. That was 8 years ago, before depression hit. I am not the same person anymore. I am easily overwhelmed now.\n\n\nBut my mindset is not giving up. I am constantly asking for help online, googling skills, watching videos of people cleaning, hearing others stories or TedTalks... but that still isnt helping.\n\nLately I did stick to a small morning routine (yay): wake up, pee, brush teeth and invisalign as my baby roams around on the floor, change baby's diaper, feed cats upstairs. Successfully, I have been doing this consistently for the past month EVEN IF I AM LATE TO WORK, I make sure I still do all the above.\n\nAnd then I go downstairs and nothing is done because all I do is feed baby breakfast as we watch baby shows as I multitask working remotely. 8 hours pass with just lunch again, tv still on, and cuddle with baby on couch for naps as I type with one hand.\n\nIt's dinner time and I have not done dishes. Or cooked. Or had time to grocery shop. So I order out. Watch tv with dinner. Go upstairs and sleep. The end.\n\n(Sometimes when I go to work in the office, I try to pump myself up by treating myself to starbucks. This worked the first few times to work efficiently at my desk, but now I am getting starbucks all the time and i dont think it energizes me anymore and I am just wasting money. I still work the same pace without a drink lately too).\n\n\nIdk what to do. Nothing else is getting done. I have Atomic Habits on audiobook and finished listening to The 5 Second Rule. Everything about JUST DOING IT. But I still can't.\n\nAdvice? Can someone lay out baby steps or step-by-step guide to hype me up? Tips to make me feel good again since starbucks is losing its effects?", "How do I stop watching and reading motivation videos/posts and practice JUST DOING IT? I suffer from depression and anxiety. Lately I have been extremely overwhelmed. I can't seem to get into a proper routine or habit. I used to be better than this. Back then, I was extremely organized, had a schedule, and wrote in my agenda with color-coding. That was 8 years ago, before depression hit. I am not the same person anymore. I am easily overwhelmed now.\n\n\nBut my mindset is not giving up. I am constantly asking for help online, googling skills, watching videos of people cleaning, hearing others stories or TedTalks... but that still isnt helping.\n\nLately I did stick to a small morning routine (yay): wake up, pee, brush teeth and invisalign as my baby roams around on the floor, change baby's diaper, feed cats upstairs. Successfully, I have been doing this consistently for the past month EVEN IF I AM LATE TO WORK, I make sure I still do all the above.\n\nAnd then I go downstairs and nothing is done because all I do is feed baby breakfast as we watch baby shows as I multitask working remotely. 8 hours pass with just lunch again, tv still on, and cuddle with baby on couch for naps as I type with one hand.\n\nIt's dinner time and I have not done dishes. Or cooked. Or had time to grocery shop. So I order out. Watch tv with dinner. Go upstairs and sleep. The end.\n\n(Sometimes when I go to work in the office, I try to pump myself up by treating myself to starbucks. This worked the first few times to work efficiently at my desk, but now I am getting starbucks all the time and i dont think it energizes me anymore and I am just wasting money. I still work the same pace without a drink lately too).\n\n\nIdk what to do. Nothing else is getting done. I have Atomic Habits on audiobook and finished listening to The 5 Second Rule. Everything about JUST DOING IT. But I still can't.\n\nAdvice? Can someone lay out baby steps or step-by-step guide to hype me up? Tips to make me feel good again since starbucks is losing its effects?", "How do I stop watching and reading motivation videos/posts and practice JUST DOING IT? I suffer from depression and anxiety. Lately I have been extremely overwhelmed. I can't seem to get into a proper routine or habit. I used to be better than this. Back then, I was extremely organized, had a schedule, and wrote in my agenda with color-coding. That was 8 years ago, before depression hit. I am not the same person anymore. I am easily overwhelmed now.\n\n\nBut my mindset is not giving up. I am constantly asking for help online, googling skills, watching videos of people cleaning, hearing others stories or TedTalks... but that still isnt helping.\n\nLately I did stick to a small morning routine (yay): wake up, pee, brush teeth and invisalign as my baby roams around on the floor, change baby's diaper, feed cats upstairs. Successfully, I have been doing this consistently for the past month EVEN IF I AM LATE TO WORK, I make sure I still do all the above.\n\nAnd then I go downstairs and nothing is done because all I do is feed baby breakfast as we watch baby shows as I multitask working remotely. 8 hours pass with just lunch again, tv still on, and cuddle with baby on couch for naps as I type with one hand.\n\nIt's dinner time and I have not done dishes. Or cooked. Or had time to grocery shop. So I order out. Watch tv with dinner. Go upstairs and sleep. The end.\n\n(Sometimes when I go to work in the office, I try to pump myself up by treating myself to starbucks. This worked the first few times to work efficiently at my desk, but now I am getting starbucks all the time and i dont think it energizes me anymore and I am just wasting money. I still work the same pace without a drink lately too).\n\n\nIdk what to do. Nothing else is getting done. I have Atomic Habits on audiobook and finished listening to The 5 Second Rule. Everything about JUST DOING IT. But I still can't.\n\nAdvice? Can someone lay out baby steps or step-by-step guide to hype me up? Tips to make me feel good again since starbucks is losing its effects?", "How do I stop watching and reading motivation videos/posts and practice JUST DOING IT? I suffer from depression and anxiety. Lately I have been extremely overwhelmed. I can't seem to get into a proper routine or habit. I used to be better than this. Back then, I was extremely organized, had a schedule, and wrote in my agenda with color-coding. That was 8 years ago, before depression hit. I am not the same person anymore. I am easily overwhelmed now.\n\n\nBut my mindset is not giving up. I am constantly asking for help online, googling skills, watching videos of people cleaning, hearing others stories or TedTalks... but that still isnt helping.\n\nLately I did stick to a small morning routine (yay): wake up, pee, brush teeth and invisalign as my baby roams around on the floor, change baby's diaper, feed cats upstairs. Successfully, I have been doing this consistently for the past month EVEN IF I AM LATE TO WORK, I make sure I still do all the above.\n\nAnd then I go downstairs and nothing is done because all I do is feed baby breakfast as we watch baby shows as I multitask working remotely. 8 hours pass with just lunch again, tv still on, and cuddle with baby on couch for naps as I type with one hand.\n\nIt's dinner time and I have not done dishes. Or cooked. Or had time to grocery shop. So I order out. Watch tv with dinner. Go upstairs and sleep. The end.\n\n(Sometimes when I go to work in the office, I try to pump myself up by treating myself to starbucks. This worked the first few times to work efficiently at my desk, but now I am getting starbucks all the time and i dont think it energizes me anymore and I am just wasting money. I still work the same pace without a drink lately too).\n\n\nIdk what to do. Nothing else is getting done. I have Atomic Habits on audiobook and finished listening to The 5 Second Rule. Everything about JUST DOING IT. But I still can't.\n\nAdvice? Can someone lay out baby steps or step-by-step guide to hype me up? Tips to make me feel good again since starbucks is losing its effects?", "How do I stop watching and reading motivation videos/posts and practice JUST DOING IT? I suffer from depression and anxiety. Lately I have been extremely overwhelmed. I can't seem to get into a proper routine or habit. I used to be better than this. Back then, I was extremely organized, had a schedule, and wrote in my agenda with color-coding. That was 8 years ago, before depression hit. I am not the same person anymore. I am easily overwhelmed now.\n\n\nBut my mindset is not giving up. I am constantly asking for help online, googling skills, watching videos of people cleaning, hearing others stories or TedTalks... but that still isnt helping.\n\nLately I did stick to a small morning routine (yay): wake up, pee, brush teeth and invisalign as my baby roams around on the floor, change baby's diaper, feed cats upstairs. Successfully, I have been doing this consistently for the past month EVEN IF I AM LATE TO WORK, I make sure I still do all the above.\n\nAnd then I go downstairs and nothing is done because all I do is feed baby breakfast as we watch baby shows as I multitask working remotely. 8 hours pass with just lunch again, tv still on, and cuddle with baby on couch for naps as I type with one hand.\n\nIt's dinner time and I have not done dishes. Or cooked. Or had time to grocery shop. So I order out. Watch tv with dinner. Go upstairs and sleep. The end.\n\n(Sometimes when I go to work in the office, I try to pump myself up by treating myself to starbucks. This worked the first few times to work efficiently at my desk, but now I am getting starbucks all the time and i dont think it energizes me anymore and I am just wasting money. I still work the same pace without a drink lately too).\n\n\nIdk what to do. Nothing else is getting done. I have Atomic Habits on audiobook and finished listening to The 5 Second Rule. Everything about JUST DOING IT. But I still can't.\n\nAdvice? Can someone lay out baby steps or step-by-step guide to hype me up? Tips to make me feel good again since starbucks is losing its effects?", "How do I stop watching and reading motivation videos/posts and practice JUST DOING IT? I suffer from depression and anxiety. Lately I have been extremely overwhelmed. I can't seem to get into a proper routine or habit. I used to be better than this. Back then, I was extremely organized, had a schedule, and wrote in my agenda with color-coding. That was 8 years ago, before depression hit. I am not the same person anymore. I am easily overwhelmed now.\n\n\nBut my mindset is not giving up. I am constantly asking for help online, googling skills, watching videos of people cleaning, hearing others stories or TedTalks... but that still isnt helping.\n\nLately I did stick to a small morning routine (yay): wake up, pee, brush teeth and invisalign as my baby roams around on the floor, change baby's diaper, feed cats upstairs. Successfully, I have been doing this consistently for the past month EVEN IF I AM LATE TO WORK, I make sure I still do all the above.\n\nAnd then I go downstairs and nothing is done because all I do is feed baby breakfast as we watch baby shows as I multitask working remotely. 8 hours pass with just lunch again, tv still on, and cuddle with baby on couch for naps as I type with one hand.\n\nIt's dinner time and I have not done dishes. Or cooked. Or had time to grocery shop. So I order out. Watch tv with dinner. Go upstairs and sleep. The end.\n\n(Sometimes when I go to work in the office, I try to pump myself up by treating myself to starbucks. This worked the first few times to work efficiently at my desk, but now I am getting starbucks all the time and i dont think it energizes me anymore and I am just wasting money. I still work the same pace without a drink lately too).\n\n\nIdk what to do. Nothing else is getting done. I have Atomic Habits on audiobook and finished listening to The 5 Second Rule. Everything about JUST DOING IT. But I still can't.\n\nAdvice? Can someone lay out baby steps or step-by-step guide to hype me up? Tips to make me feel good again since starbucks is losing its effects?", "How do I stop watching and reading motivation videos/posts and practice JUST DOING IT? I suffer from depression and anxiety. Lately I have been extremely overwhelmed. I can't seem to get into a proper routine or habit. I used to be better than this. Back then, I was extremely organized, had a schedule, and wrote in my agenda with color-coding. That was 8 years ago, before depression hit. I am not the same person anymore. I am easily overwhelmed now.\n\n\nBut my mindset is not giving up. I am constantly asking for help online, googling skills, watching videos of people cleaning, hearing others stories or TedTalks... but that still isnt helping.\n\nLately I did stick to a small morning routine (yay): wake up, pee, brush teeth and invisalign as my baby roams around on the floor, change baby's diaper, feed cats upstairs. Successfully, I have been doing this consistently for the past month EVEN IF I AM LATE TO WORK, I make sure I still do all the above.\n\nAnd then I go downstairs and nothing is done because all I do is feed baby breakfast as we watch baby shows as I multitask working remotely. 8 hours pass with just lunch again, tv still on, and cuddle with baby on couch for naps as I type with one hand.\n\nIt's dinner time and I have not done dishes. Or cooked. Or had time to grocery shop. So I order out. Watch tv with dinner. Go upstairs and sleep. The end.\n\n(Sometimes when I go to work in the office, I try to pump myself up by treating myself to starbucks. This worked the first few times to work efficiently at my desk, but now I am getting starbucks all the time and i dont think it energizes me anymore and I am just wasting money. I still work the same pace without a drink lately too).\n\n\nIdk what to do. Nothing else is getting done. I have Atomic Habits on audiobook and finished listening to The 5 Second Rule. Everything about JUST DOING IT. But I still can't.\n\nAdvice? Can someone lay out baby steps or step-by-step guide to hype me up? Tips to make me feel good again since starbucks is losing its effects?", "How do I stop watching and reading motivation videos/posts and practice JUST DOING IT? I suffer from depression and anxiety. Lately I have been extremely overwhelmed. I can't seem to get into a proper routine or habit. I used to be better than this. Back then, I was extremely organized, had a schedule, and wrote in my agenda with color-coding. That was 8 years ago, before depression hit. I am not the same person anymore. I am easily overwhelmed now.\n\n\nBut my mindset is not giving up. I am constantly asking for help online, googling skills, watching videos of people cleaning, hearing others stories or TedTalks... but that still isnt helping.\n\nLately I did stick to a small morning routine (yay): wake up, pee, brush teeth and invisalign as my baby roams around on the floor, change baby's diaper, feed cats upstairs. Successfully, I have been doing this consistently for the past month EVEN IF I AM LATE TO WORK, I make sure I still do all the above.\n\nAnd then I go downstairs and nothing is done because all I do is feed baby breakfast as we watch baby shows as I multitask working remotely. 8 hours pass with just lunch again, tv still on, and cuddle with baby on couch for naps as I type with one hand.\n\nIt's dinner time and I have not done dishes. Or cooked. Or had time to grocery shop. So I order out. Watch tv with dinner. Go upstairs and sleep. The end.\n\n(Sometimes when I go to work in the office, I try to pump myself up by treating myself to starbucks. This worked the first few times to work efficiently at my desk, but now I am getting starbucks all the time and i dont think it energizes me anymore and I am just wasting money. I still work the same pace without a drink lately too).\n\n\nIdk what to do. Nothing else is getting done. I have Atomic Habits on audiobook and finished listening to The 5 Second Rule. Everything about JUST DOING IT. But I still can't.\n\nAdvice? Can someone lay out baby steps or step-by-step guide to hype me up? Tips to make me feel good again since starbucks is losing its effects?", "How do I stop watching and reading motivation videos/posts and practice JUST DOING IT? I suffer from depression and anxiety. Lately I have been extremely overwhelmed. I can't seem to get into a proper routine or habit. I used to be better than this. Back then, I was extremely organized, had a schedule, and wrote in my agenda with color-coding. That was 8 years ago, before depression hit. I am not the same person anymore. I am easily overwhelmed now.\n\n\nBut my mindset is not giving up. I am constantly asking for help online, googling skills, watching videos of people cleaning, hearing others stories or TedTalks... but that still isnt helping.\n\nLately I did stick to a small morning routine (yay): wake up, pee, brush teeth and invisalign as my baby roams around on the floor, change baby's diaper, feed cats upstairs. Successfully, I have been doing this consistently for the past month EVEN IF I AM LATE TO WORK, I make sure I still do all the above.\n\nAnd then I go downstairs and nothing is done because all I do is feed baby breakfast as we watch baby shows as I multitask working remotely. 8 hours pass with just lunch again, tv still on, and cuddle with baby on couch for naps as I type with one hand.\n\nIt's dinner time and I have not done dishes. Or cooked. Or had time to grocery shop. So I order out. Watch tv with dinner. Go upstairs and sleep. The end.\n\n(Sometimes when I go to work in the office, I try to pump myself up by treating myself to starbucks. This worked the first few times to work efficiently at my desk, but now I am getting starbucks all the time and i dont think it energizes me anymore and I am just wasting money. I still work the same pace without a drink lately too).\n\n\nIdk what to do. Nothing else is getting done. I have Atomic Habits on audiobook and finished listening to The 5 Second Rule. Everything about JUST DOING IT. But I still can't.\n\nAdvice? Can someone lay out baby steps or step-by-step guide to hype me up? Tips to make me feel good again since starbucks is losing its effects?", "How do I stop watching and reading motivation videos/posts and practice JUST DOING IT? I suffer from depression and anxiety. Lately I have been extremely overwhelmed. I can't seem to get into a proper routine or habit. I used to be better than this. Back then, I was extremely organized, had a schedule, and wrote in my agenda with color-coding. That was 8 years ago, before depression hit. I am not the same person anymore. I am easily overwhelmed now.\n\n\nBut my mindset is not giving up. I am constantly asking for help online, googling skills, watching videos of people cleaning, hearing others stories or TedTalks... but that still isnt helping.\n\nLately I did stick to a small morning routine (yay): wake up, pee, brush teeth and invisalign as my baby roams around on the floor, change baby's diaper, feed cats upstairs. Successfully, I have been doing this consistently for the past month EVEN IF I AM LATE TO WORK, I make sure I still do all the above.\n\nAnd then I go downstairs and nothing is done because all I do is feed baby breakfast as we watch baby shows as I multitask working remotely. 8 hours pass with just lunch again, tv still on, and cuddle with baby on couch for naps as I type with one hand.\n\nIt's dinner time and I have not done dishes. Or cooked. Or had time to grocery shop. So I order out. Watch tv with dinner. Go upstairs and sleep. The end.\n\n(Sometimes when I go to work in the office, I try to pump myself up by treating myself to starbucks. This worked the first few times to work efficiently at my desk, but now I am getting starbucks all the time and i dont think it energizes me anymore and I am just wasting money. I still work the same pace without a drink lately too).\n\n\nIdk what to do. Nothing else is getting done. I have Atomic Habits on audiobook and finished listening to The 5 Second Rule. Everything about JUST DOING IT. But I still can't.\n\nAdvice? Can someone lay out baby steps or step-by-step guide to hype me up? Tips to make me feel good again since starbucks is losing its effects?" ]

[ "You should read up on ADHD in adults- esp if you’re a female. A lot of women are misdiagnosed with having depression when it’s really ADHD and everything surrounding (symptoms) caused the depression. I say this bc a lot of what you say sounds like me. We (inc drs) said it’s depression esp since mental illness runs in the family— I just turned 40 and am newly diagnosed ADHD. SO MUCH makes sense now. Good Luck!", "How old is your baby? Maybe you’re having post pregnancy depression? \n\nEither way, you should get professional help with this. You need to talk to a therapist. \n\nAlso if it’s just to be more organized you need to start writing down what you need to do on a list. Start with baby steps and slowly increase over time. Like:\n-dishes\n-shopping\n-dinner\n\nThis alone won’t work. You need to learn new habits and do them daily. That will take time. Which is why you should talk to a professional. Best of luck.", "You should realize that you are not lazy. You just have too many responsibilities on your shoulder right now. Do a full time job and taking care of the baby and the house at the same time? That sounds like 3 jobs to me. \n\nYou keep watching the videos and still can’t do it because you are freaking tired. \n\nFirst, try to get help with the baby as much as you can. Ask your parents to help taking of kids, babysitter. \n\nSecond, you need a network of support, who are friends that live nearby so you can hang out together at the park with the children. You can make friends by attending the neighbor’s exercise class. Go talk to everyone in the class if they want to be friends with you. Then ask them to walk around the neighborhood with the kids. Once you have a list of these friends in the neighborhood, you guys can support each other by asking your friends to buy grocery for you if you don’t have time, etc.", "Positive changes are synergistic, the more you have the easier it is to make another\n\nSo start with one thing, be kind on yourself while you do that, then when that’s stable move to the next\n\nAnything related to diet and sleep is especially synergistic with other improvements", "Sometimes diet and exercise changes are insufficient on their own to address the complexity and gravity of depressive and anxiety disorders. \n\nBest to get your psychiatric reccomendations from people who are qualified to diagnose and treat mental health concerns.", "I think you're doing great and need to cut yourself slack. \nIf you can afford takeaway, do that for a minute and breath.\nThen work up to making a grocery list, shopping, etc.\nYou have a baby. Enjoy that baby. Most people regret the intimate moments they didn't have when their children were little. Enjoy all the snuggles and naps.\nIf your work performance isn't drastically declined then forgive yourself and reward yourself, mamma.", "Did you give birth? If so, please, please, PLEASE contact your OB/gyn or PCP.\n\nThis post reads like postnatal depression to me. It is insidious and isn't just the newborn phase.\n\nYou don't need motivation. You don't need life hacks.\n\nYou need help from a qualified physician, and I hope you get it.", "for when you're overwhelmed: recognise what the actual tasks are you have to do (as simple as possible), then take ONE task and do it without thinking of the others, only when you're done, start the next. it will make your mind calmer", "One thing I learned after reading Atomic Habits is that self-improvement isn’t about having more willpower, but about setting myself up for success. \n\n\nInstead of expecting myself to make major lifestyle changes overnight, make small incremental changes and build upon them. \n\n\nIn the book, one of the first things James Clear tells us to do is to list your existing habits so you’re aware of what you’re doing and what you shouldn’t be doing. The morning routine you listed is actually a great start. It might also help if you also create a routine for other times of the day. \n\n\nYou can also try creating a reward system that fits your lifestyle. Get yourself a small treat when you finish a few tasks on your to-do list. Maybe that’ll work for you. \n\n\nAnother idea is to build momentum by starting with accomplishing smaller, easier tasks and then “habit stacking” harder tasks right after the easier ones. \n\n\nMost importantly, don’t pressure yourself to change overnight. ([i wrote about everything I learned here)](https://www.prasidpathak.com/writing/how-i-implemented-atomic-habits). Be kind to yourself and move at your own pace. Good luck, and I hope these suggestions help!", "Exercise and diet. You will naturally find yourself to do things a little more inpulsively. Even if its just a tiny 5 min workout and a salad" ]

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[ "How can I get answers in an online forum? How do you guys usually go about asking something on a forum, especially when you need help with something? \n\nUsually, when I start a thread, I either get irrelevant answers or no replies at all, so I feel I must be doing something wrong. \n\nSo, anybody has a LPT for getting answers online?", "How can I get answers in an online forum? How do you guys usually go about asking something on a forum, especially when you need help with something? \n\nUsually, when I start a thread, I either get irrelevant answers or no replies at all, so I feel I must be doing something wrong. \n\nSo, anybody has a LPT for getting answers online?", "How can I get answers in an online forum? How do you guys usually go about asking something on a forum, especially when you need help with something? \n\nUsually, when I start a thread, I either get irrelevant answers or no replies at all, so I feel I must be doing something wrong. \n\nSo, anybody has a LPT for getting answers online?", "How can I get answers in an online forum? How do you guys usually go about asking something on a forum, especially when you need help with something? \n\nUsually, when I start a thread, I either get irrelevant answers or no replies at all, so I feel I must be doing something wrong. \n\nSo, anybody has a LPT for getting answers online?", "How can I get answers in an online forum? How do you guys usually go about asking something on a forum, especially when you need help with something? \n\nUsually, when I start a thread, I either get irrelevant answers or no replies at all, so I feel I must be doing something wrong. \n\nSo, anybody has a LPT for getting answers online?", "How can I get answers in an online forum? How do you guys usually go about asking something on a forum, especially when you need help with something? \n\nUsually, when I start a thread, I either get irrelevant answers or no replies at all, so I feel I must be doing something wrong. \n\nSo, anybody has a LPT for getting answers online?", "How can I get answers in an online forum? How do you guys usually go about asking something on a forum, especially when you need help with something? \n\nUsually, when I start a thread, I either get irrelevant answers or no replies at all, so I feel I must be doing something wrong. \n\nSo, anybody has a LPT for getting answers online?", "How can I get answers in an online forum? How do you guys usually go about asking something on a forum, especially when you need help with something? \n\nUsually, when I start a thread, I either get irrelevant answers or no replies at all, so I feel I must be doing something wrong. \n\nSo, anybody has a LPT for getting answers online?", "How can I get answers in an online forum? How do you guys usually go about asking something on a forum, especially when you need help with something? \n\nUsually, when I start a thread, I either get irrelevant answers or no replies at all, so I feel I must be doing something wrong. \n\nSo, anybody has a LPT for getting answers online?", "How can I get answers in an online forum? How do you guys usually go about asking something on a forum, especially when you need help with something? \n\nUsually, when I start a thread, I either get irrelevant answers or no replies at all, so I feel I must be doing something wrong. \n\nSo, anybody has a LPT for getting answers online?", "How can I get answers in an online forum? How do you guys usually go about asking something on a forum, especially when you need help with something? \n\nUsually, when I start a thread, I either get irrelevant answers or no replies at all, so I feel I must be doing something wrong. \n\nSo, anybody has a LPT for getting answers online?", "How can I get answers in an online forum? How do you guys usually go about asking something on a forum, especially when you need help with something? \n\nUsually, when I start a thread, I either get irrelevant answers or no replies at all, so I feel I must be doing something wrong. \n\nSo, anybody has a LPT for getting answers online?" ]

[ "post the wrong answer, someone will notice, and tell u in no uncertain terms why u r wrong. works every time ~ cunninghams law", "Frame it as a statement rather than a question and give a bullshit answer. Peoples' egos will goad them to correct you, thus answering your question. It's called Moore's Law.", "If it it's a tech forum, be sure to explain what you have already tried. Also, make sure you've already searched for the answer. Many there are ignored because they (the people in the forum) have answered the question a million times prior.\n\n...and do the above without typing a novel.", "First, **you search the forum and Internet for people asking the same question**.\n\nSecond, you provide **relevant details** necessary to answer the question. The more work you make others do, the fewer people will consider answering. \n\nThird, make sure the question is asked in a relevant place. ", "if you are pestering people with technical stuff, this classic is still relevant.\n\nhttp://www.catb.org/esr/faqs/smart-questions.html", "The best way to get the actual answer is to post the incorrect answer. It's amazing how many people will correct you.\n\nhttp://meta.wikimedia.org/wiki/Cunningham%27s_Law\n\nhttp://www.reddit.com/r/todayilearned/comments/1zv60v/til_of_cunninghams_law_the_best_way_to_get_the/\n\nhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ward_Cunningham#Ideas_and_inventions\n\n>Cunningham advised him in the early 1980s, \"The best way to get the right answer on the Internet is not to ask a question, it's to post the wrong answer.\"", "Serious tag is a good place to start, then the request tag, and then make sure you are posting in a relevant forum. No matter what website you are on, it wouldn't hurt to message the mods and ask them for assistance too. Most importantly, read the rules first. Some places have strict rules for posting.", "I just come to Reddit. Someone will usually answer me, that or link a picture of a cat. I'm fine with both", "Be simple, direct, and clear in what you're asking. Don't say too much, because if people have to read your question more than once they probably won't bother, and if you confuse people they cant help you. If your question has multiple parts, just start with the first part to see if you'll get a response. Make the title interesting as you can without confusing things. Clarity is more important than style. Make sure you're not asking biased questions (for example, why are women stupid? is an example of a biased question), and make sure that you're not just being lazy and have researched the topic on your own before asking for help. (I'm not saying any of these things have been an issue for you, I'm just running down the reasons why I personally might choose to not answer a question in an online forum). \n\nIn general, if you're polite, clear and informed people will want to help you. If you're not getting help, its probably an issue in one of those areas. ", "Keep it well structured and easy to read (unlike this post), the more people that reads it the more likely it will be that someone responds\n\nAlso if its something complicated you may want to dumb things down as much as possible, if its aimed for a rather immature audience such as most of the reddit user base\n\nBe as kind and thankful as possible too, because you rely on people helping and getting nothing at all in return\n\nThats about it mate", "If it's a non-serious forum. The way to get the answer is to not ask a question, but to post the wrong answer.", "If it is a vehicle forum (ie Jeep Forum), PLEASE list the specs of your vehicle ('99 TJ, 4.0, 5 Speed, 4.56 Gears etc), things you've tried, and actually before any of that see if anyone posted a Sticky (permanent thread) with your question already answered. " ]

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[ "getting a dog with a full time job. I live alone in an apartment. I've been thinking about getting a dog to keep me company and keep me active. The problem is that I'm at work all day. I can go back at noon to let it out for a little bit. I have no social life to speak of except for Tuesday nights, so I'll be able to spend a lot of time with it after work. I'd like to get a German shepherd, but I know those require a lot of work and a lot of room. Maybe a corgi?", "getting a dog with a full time job. I live alone in an apartment. I've been thinking about getting a dog to keep me company and keep me active. The problem is that I'm at work all day. I can go back at noon to let it out for a little bit. I have no social life to speak of except for Tuesday nights, so I'll be able to spend a lot of time with it after work. I'd like to get a German shepherd, but I know those require a lot of work and a lot of room. Maybe a corgi?", "getting a dog with a full time job. I live alone in an apartment. I've been thinking about getting a dog to keep me company and keep me active. The problem is that I'm at work all day. I can go back at noon to let it out for a little bit. I have no social life to speak of except for Tuesday nights, so I'll be able to spend a lot of time with it after work. I'd like to get a German shepherd, but I know those require a lot of work and a lot of room. Maybe a corgi?", "getting a dog with a full time job. I live alone in an apartment. I've been thinking about getting a dog to keep me company and keep me active. The problem is that I'm at work all day. I can go back at noon to let it out for a little bit. I have no social life to speak of except for Tuesday nights, so I'll be able to spend a lot of time with it after work. I'd like to get a German shepherd, but I know those require a lot of work and a lot of room. Maybe a corgi?", "getting a dog with a full time job. I live alone in an apartment. I've been thinking about getting a dog to keep me company and keep me active. The problem is that I'm at work all day. I can go back at noon to let it out for a little bit. I have no social life to speak of except for Tuesday nights, so I'll be able to spend a lot of time with it after work. I'd like to get a German shepherd, but I know those require a lot of work and a lot of room. Maybe a corgi?", "getting a dog with a full time job. I live alone in an apartment. I've been thinking about getting a dog to keep me company and keep me active. The problem is that I'm at work all day. I can go back at noon to let it out for a little bit. I have no social life to speak of except for Tuesday nights, so I'll be able to spend a lot of time with it after work. I'd like to get a German shepherd, but I know those require a lot of work and a lot of room. Maybe a corgi?", "getting a dog with a full time job. I live alone in an apartment. I've been thinking about getting a dog to keep me company and keep me active. The problem is that I'm at work all day. I can go back at noon to let it out for a little bit. I have no social life to speak of except for Tuesday nights, so I'll be able to spend a lot of time with it after work. I'd like to get a German shepherd, but I know those require a lot of work and a lot of room. Maybe a corgi?", "getting a dog with a full time job. I live alone in an apartment. I've been thinking about getting a dog to keep me company and keep me active. The problem is that I'm at work all day. I can go back at noon to let it out for a little bit. I have no social life to speak of except for Tuesday nights, so I'll be able to spend a lot of time with it after work. I'd like to get a German shepherd, but I know those require a lot of work and a lot of room. Maybe a corgi?", "getting a dog with a full time job. I live alone in an apartment. I've been thinking about getting a dog to keep me company and keep me active. The problem is that I'm at work all day. I can go back at noon to let it out for a little bit. I have no social life to speak of except for Tuesday nights, so I'll be able to spend a lot of time with it after work. I'd like to get a German shepherd, but I know those require a lot of work and a lot of room. Maybe a corgi?", "getting a dog with a full time job. I live alone in an apartment. I've been thinking about getting a dog to keep me company and keep me active. The problem is that I'm at work all day. I can go back at noon to let it out for a little bit. I have no social life to speak of except for Tuesday nights, so I'll be able to spend a lot of time with it after work. I'd like to get a German shepherd, but I know those require a lot of work and a lot of room. Maybe a corgi?", "getting a dog with a full time job. I live alone in an apartment. I've been thinking about getting a dog to keep me company and keep me active. The problem is that I'm at work all day. I can go back at noon to let it out for a little bit. I have no social life to speak of except for Tuesday nights, so I'll be able to spend a lot of time with it after work. I'd like to get a German shepherd, but I know those require a lot of work and a lot of room. Maybe a corgi?", "getting a dog with a full time job. I live alone in an apartment. I've been thinking about getting a dog to keep me company and keep me active. The problem is that I'm at work all day. I can go back at noon to let it out for a little bit. I have no social life to speak of except for Tuesday nights, so I'll be able to spend a lot of time with it after work. I'd like to get a German shepherd, but I know those require a lot of work and a lot of room. Maybe a corgi?", "getting a dog with a full time job. I live alone in an apartment. I've been thinking about getting a dog to keep me company and keep me active. The problem is that I'm at work all day. I can go back at noon to let it out for a little bit. I have no social life to speak of except for Tuesday nights, so I'll be able to spend a lot of time with it after work. I'd like to get a German shepherd, but I know those require a lot of work and a lot of room. Maybe a corgi?" ]

[ "Get an older low energy dog who doesnt need constant interaction. A Shepard or a husky or anything remotely intelligent or high energy will get bored and destroy everything you own, and yes they can escape from crates. ", "Get a cat. Takes a lot less responsibility as far as having to take it out to use the bathroom. They are fine a couple days by themselves ", "PLEASE PLEASE ... go to a rescue. There are so many dogs that need a home. Not all of them are mean, aggressive, or big. The workers there will help you with what would be a good fit. They are not interested in \"selling\" you anything. They want to find good homes for the dogs or they end up back in the system.", "My roommate has a husky he does not spend a lot of time with, please don't get a young dog if you're going to leave it alone for hours at a time. And don't rely on an animal to get you moving, if you can't find a way to be active without a pet then having one won't make that much of a difference.", "I would definitely recommend a cat. Not quite the company of a dog, but still nice to have around. Much cheaper, and much much lower maintenance. ", "talk to your local shelter about fostering. they might supply you with some of the things you need and it’s not permanent if you find a dog does not fit your lifestyle", "I'd research it heavily I've had dogs both as an apartment dweller\nand homeowner w/fenced yard .\nI'd say smaller breed dog that isn't too yappy' pug or shih tzu\nI've had both of those and are fine w/smaller living space however a shih tzu needs a monthly grooming/haircut and thats about 60$ a month. I've not had large dogs but from what I see in suburbs where we live the bigger dogs are walked a lot more than my little dog and seem very high energy, the shih tzu just wants to snuggle on the couch not be all over the house.", "I agree with everyone that is saying to go to the shelter. If you tell the shelter your situation most will help you find a dog that will meet your needs. A lot of shelters foster their dogs out so the foster families will be able to give you feedback about the behavior of the dog. ", "Would love to get a dog too, but Im working at a law firm and they wont allow any pets in the building and I cant go home in my brake to let the dog out for a view minutes because my home is like 1h away form work.\nCant bring myself to get a dog if I cant commit like 80% of my time to him .(", "I'm not sure why you think a Corgi would be better. I wouldn't try to keep a Corgi cooped up in an apartment all day. In any case, I think you should try fostering some older dogs. Shelters and rescues are always looking for foster homes.", "I wouldn’t get a little puppy because they can’t be alone that long. I work full time and got both my dogs at about 4-5 months old. Both came from rescues and happened to be potty trained. At that age, they were fine to stay in a crate for 4-5 hours at a time. If you can really commit to coming home at lunch to let a dog out and giving it a good walk/run when you get home in the evening, I think you’d be just fine. Having a dog is the best! Mine are both golden retriever mixes, and I highly recommend the breed if you don’t mind some shedding. ", "I hear that retired greyhounds are pretty good dogs in that they burst off their energy in about 10 seconds flat and then are happy to sleep for 20 hours a day.\n\nThe wife and I got a border collie mix. He's definitely keeping us active. I walk about 1500km a year with him (1 hour walk every evening), and the wife walks him in the morning. He's fine with being left from 8pm until 5pm outside (he mainly sleeps - I watch him through a camera from time to time). He's also pretty dozy in the evenings once he's had his walk and dinner.", "Hire a kid from your building to walk it after school, you'll come home to a calmer dog and have time to decompress after work before night time walkies. " ]

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[ "How to end a story On numerous occasions I've ended something with \"And uh, yea.\" Is there a better alternative to this?", "How to end a story On numerous occasions I've ended something with \"And uh, yea.\" Is there a better alternative to this?", "How to end a story On numerous occasions I've ended something with \"And uh, yea.\" Is there a better alternative to this?", "How to end a story On numerous occasions I've ended something with \"And uh, yea.\" Is there a better alternative to this?", "How to end a story On numerous occasions I've ended something with \"And uh, yea.\" Is there a better alternative to this?", "How to end a story On numerous occasions I've ended something with \"And uh, yea.\" Is there a better alternative to this?", "How to end a story On numerous occasions I've ended something with \"And uh, yea.\" Is there a better alternative to this?", "How to end a story On numerous occasions I've ended something with \"And uh, yea.\" Is there a better alternative to this?", "How to end a story On numerous occasions I've ended something with \"And uh, yea.\" Is there a better alternative to this?", "How to end a story On numerous occasions I've ended something with \"And uh, yea.\" Is there a better alternative to this?", "How to end a story On numerous occasions I've ended something with \"And uh, yea.\" Is there a better alternative to this?" ]

[ "I feel like this totally depends on the story you're telling and why you're telling it! Possible alternatives, depending on context:\n\n-and that's why ___\n\n-because of that, ___\n\n-isn't that crazy?\n\n-has this ever happened to you?\n\n-what would you have done?\n\n-it was a ____ experience!\n\nlol hopefully this kiiinda helps! ", "The first and last sentences of a story are the most important. I suggest starting with \"It was a dark and stormy night\" and ending with \"Then he woke and realized it had all been just a dream.\"", "Make it obvious that it's the last sentence: \"And here's the kicker right - xyz!\" or, \"after all that, we never xyz again\".", "If it's a story you tell often enough to be prepared for, circle back to the beginning. It provides a sense of closure and justifies the seemingly random bits about the dog you saw in the window of the pet store that you opened with.", "I end most of my stories by saying, \"and that's the end of that story.\". If it's an awkward, out of place story.. It makes it so much worse. I love it. \n", "Make sure there's a point to the story. I'm assuming you mean like talking about your experiences with other people. In that case, say something like \"and guess what happened next?\" (or a less-cheesy variant) to make it clear where the climax is. After you say the actual \"point\", try asking an open-ended question like \"have you ever done X?\" or something related to said story, so that you'll stir discussion.", "\"It was a magical summer. We lived and loved, and the things we learned about ourselves meant we would never be the same.\"", "\"I ran over a pigeon today. I saw it walking on the road as I was driving towards it, and figured that like most birds it would take off as I drew nearer. Instead it just hobbled along, walking faster ad faster down the road as I approached. It never did take off, but instead was brought to an early demise by my tire. I looked in the mirror, hoping that perhaps by some stroke of luck my tire missed it, but no, instead of a walking bird I saw twitching wing and destroyed feathers. I regret looking in the mirror.\" \n\nWho says stories need to end with a summary, or anything other than the last few important details of said story? I've also found that the more stories I tell, the less excess verbiage I use to tell the story. Simpler is better. ", "Maybe something like, \"and that's how I found out why people don't do ballet productions in the middle of the interstate during rush hour.\" ", "If it's a good enough story you won't need to finish with anything... the next line will be \"wow\" from them. ", "Thats only a Problem when your story had no point to it in which case you shouldnt have told it. Think it through before you speak." ]

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[ "How to be a good storyteller I'm not very good at telling stories, real or fictitious, yet I am often asked to tell a story. So how do you do it? Even with something that has actually happened, I try and tell it like it is, but I never quite seem to be able to captivate the listener. And I don't even know how to begin on telling a fictitious story, do I just go in whatever direction I think of next and embellish it, or what? ", "How to be a good storyteller I'm not very good at telling stories, real or fictitious, yet I am often asked to tell a story. So how do you do it? Even with something that has actually happened, I try and tell it like it is, but I never quite seem to be able to captivate the listener. And I don't even know how to begin on telling a fictitious story, do I just go in whatever direction I think of next and embellish it, or what? ", "How to be a good storyteller I'm not very good at telling stories, real or fictitious, yet I am often asked to tell a story. So how do you do it? Even with something that has actually happened, I try and tell it like it is, but I never quite seem to be able to captivate the listener. And I don't even know how to begin on telling a fictitious story, do I just go in whatever direction I think of next and embellish it, or what? ", "How to be a good storyteller I'm not very good at telling stories, real or fictitious, yet I am often asked to tell a story. So how do you do it? Even with something that has actually happened, I try and tell it like it is, but I never quite seem to be able to captivate the listener. And I don't even know how to begin on telling a fictitious story, do I just go in whatever direction I think of next and embellish it, or what? " ]

[ "Action in pursuit of an objective, overcoming an obstacle.\nThis is the basic for a story.\n\nThere's a dude who wrote a book, a hero with a thousand faces. \nThis book explains that most stories follow the premise of a person who finds themselves with a call to action. Often they require training, whereby they meet a mentor who performs this role. This person will eventually solve this problem, and return to their old life only they will take with them something they gained from their quest.\n\n\nAs for compelling stories, two great principles are suspense and foreshadowing - an example of this being, say, us hearing about a door that wasn't locked, and then later finding that someone has entered the building.\n\nFinally, telling any story in real life always goes well if you tell it with charisma and a good voice with lots of range of pitch.\n\n--\n\n", "If you physically act out parts of it, or at least simulate it to some degree, it pulls people's eyes to you instead of whatever they were about to think about.\n\nBe bombastic, be over the top. Talk quieter during the back story, get loud when it's the action parts. Use colourful and different adjectives, don't use the same word to describe something over and over.\n", "Practice a lot. /r/askreddit likes short emotional stories from everyday life, i.e. you can get authentic feedback.", "I like to fancy myself a good story teller and the difference between what I do and people that aren't good storytellers is that I think i'm focused on plot points as opposed to the ending like they are. Meander on your way to plot points without overdoing it, then when you get there hang out and be descriptive before moving on. Better to err on the side of being too descriptive than to be dry and short. \n\nTry to use the element of surprise a lot with varying degrees (they shouldn't all be big bomb, sometimes just an eyebrow raiser perks up interest), people seem to love this about story telling. It adds both humor or induces fear depending on how you use it. Don't be afraid to exaggerate, the best storytellers are masters at this. Similes are great for this. The more obscure the reference, the more of an impact you will have but if you use similes the audience doesn't get, you will lose them." ]

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[ "How to wake up on time when alarm can't wake you up? Every time I set an alarm I sleep through it and when I try to sleep early I just can't fall asleep. ", "How to wake up on time when alarm can't wake you up? Every time I set an alarm I sleep through it and when I try to sleep early I just can't fall asleep. ", "How to wake up on time when alarm can't wake you up? Every time I set an alarm I sleep through it and when I try to sleep early I just can't fall asleep. ", "How to wake up on time when alarm can't wake you up? Every time I set an alarm I sleep through it and when I try to sleep early I just can't fall asleep. ", "How to wake up on time when alarm can't wake you up? Every time I set an alarm I sleep through it and when I try to sleep early I just can't fall asleep. " ]

[ "[Super loud and vibrates the bed](https://www.amazon.com/Sonic-Alert-SBB500SS-Alarm-Shaker/dp/B000OOWZUK?th=1)", "Put the alarm clock, phone, or whatever you're using across the room so you actually have to get out of bed to turn it off", "I own an app where the alarm dosen't turn off untill I solve 3 math problems. I'm a heavy sleeper and this wakes me right up. Its called Alarm Clock Xtreme ", "Put a bright reading lamp on your nightstand, pointed directly at your pillow. Plug this lamp into a timer set for the exact same time as your regular alarm. So when your usual alarm goes off, you also get an obnoxious light in your face.\n\nI personally don't respond to sounds to wake me like \"normal\" people do. So I have a pillow-vibrating alarm like someone mentioned above. Between the vibration and the light, I can actually wake up on time.\n\nAlso, I just heard about the Pavlok Shock Clock. It's worn like a watch, and will vibrate.... then beep... then shock the shit out of you if you don't get out of bed. Sounds like it could be fun ;)\n\nGood luck, my friend. I know the struggle. ", "I had this issue for a while, and have found it helps if you set alarms to coincide with your REM cycles.\n\nTo do this, I would use the [sleepyti.me](http://sleepyti.me/) REM cycle calculator." ]

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[ "How to train yourself to think before you speak? I have a problem of speaking without thinking, it's almost instinctive. It's probably a mix of my personality and the idea of a conversation needing a quick response so I might be unknowingly pressured to respond quickly. \n\nFor example, \nFriend: Hey do you know Kevin White? \nMe: Yeah he's such an asshole. Last time he did this and this to me and I hated him since. \n\nA simple yes would have sufficed but it's in my personality to continue on.\nIs there a way to train myself to avoid this situation where I say way too much information?\n", "How to train yourself to think before you speak? I have a problem of speaking without thinking, it's almost instinctive. It's probably a mix of my personality and the idea of a conversation needing a quick response so I might be unknowingly pressured to respond quickly. \n\nFor example, \nFriend: Hey do you know Kevin White? \nMe: Yeah he's such an asshole. Last time he did this and this to me and I hated him since. \n\nA simple yes would have sufficed but it's in my personality to continue on.\nIs there a way to train myself to avoid this situation where I say way too much information?\n" ]

[ "Practice with someone you're close with that will be able to call you out on it and help you correct it. ", "I had a teacher who would always say,\n\"turn your tongue around your mouth 5 times before speaking\"\nYou could take that advice literally. " ]

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[ "What are the most efficient ways to retain information from a text book? I am currently in a decently fast paced accounting class where we have to read between 40 and 70 pages every week. This week I finished 74 pages, granted some of them where diagrams, etc. However it took me many more hours than it should have to absorb all the info. I still don't feel confident about it.\n\nThe exams we have will be based on information in the text book. My professor expects us to read the chapter before we come to class because we can only fit so much into a single class period. (He goes over the main concepts but expects us to know the fine print essentially)\n\nWhat is the best way to learn and retain information from a textbook?", "What are the most efficient ways to retain information from a text book? I am currently in a decently fast paced accounting class where we have to read between 40 and 70 pages every week. This week I finished 74 pages, granted some of them where diagrams, etc. However it took me many more hours than it should have to absorb all the info. I still don't feel confident about it.\n\nThe exams we have will be based on information in the text book. My professor expects us to read the chapter before we come to class because we can only fit so much into a single class period. (He goes over the main concepts but expects us to know the fine print essentially)\n\nWhat is the best way to learn and retain information from a textbook?", "What are the most efficient ways to retain information from a text book? I am currently in a decently fast paced accounting class where we have to read between 40 and 70 pages every week. This week I finished 74 pages, granted some of them where diagrams, etc. However it took me many more hours than it should have to absorb all the info. I still don't feel confident about it.\n\nThe exams we have will be based on information in the text book. My professor expects us to read the chapter before we come to class because we can only fit so much into a single class period. (He goes over the main concepts but expects us to know the fine print essentially)\n\nWhat is the best way to learn and retain information from a textbook?", "What are the most efficient ways to retain information from a text book? I am currently in a decently fast paced accounting class where we have to read between 40 and 70 pages every week. This week I finished 74 pages, granted some of them where diagrams, etc. However it took me many more hours than it should have to absorb all the info. I still don't feel confident about it.\n\nThe exams we have will be based on information in the text book. My professor expects us to read the chapter before we come to class because we can only fit so much into a single class period. (He goes over the main concepts but expects us to know the fine print essentially)\n\nWhat is the best way to learn and retain information from a textbook?" ]

[ "Make an outline of the high level topics in the chapter. \n\nIn that outline make notes of what any bolded words are or words that are highlighted somehow. Those words will show up in the discussion somehow or in the exam. Put the definitions of those words. \n\nTake the notes you have made and during the lecture add to those notes what you may have not caught. If a term doesn't make sense look it up in google and get a better explanation on it so that you can understand what it means. \n\nMost of my education was quick compressed classes and that process worked for me. ", "If you want to have a good understanding of the main concepts, create an outline that condenses the information in the book and incorporates your class notes. Read the outline over and over, refining and condensing it further as you do.\n\nIf there are details that you need to commit to memory, break them down into discrete, individual facts and make flash cards.", "Use the SQ3R method. Education psychologist came up with this one.\n\nSurvey: look at the overall chapter. Look at the chapter headings in bold. Look at learning objectives if they're provided at the beginning of the chapter. And look at how the subtopics are linked to one another. This helps give you a framework of how the information in the chapter is organised. \n\nQuestion: pre form questions about the chapter based on what you've gleaned from surveying it. By forming questions you personalise the text and utilise active learning. \n\nRead: now read the text and keep the questions you pre formed in mind. Note down where the answer to the questions are. As you're reading the text, if the text answers another questions you haven't thought of before, note it down and note the location of the answer.\n\nRetrieve: when you found the answer to you question, mentally revise the answer. Then write in your own words, the answer to the question. This helps you see where the gaps in your understand are.\n\nExtra- use spaced repetition programs like Anki or Mnemosyne which use flashcards and help with the retrieval process. Remember memory degenerates over time so you need to constantly refresh it. Flashcards are a god send. \n\nReview: read over your questions and answer. Write a brief summary about the chapter. Perhaps create a quick mind map of the overview of the chapter. \n\nExtra- in psychology there's this phenomenon known as the overconfidence bias (?) Where you feel more assured of material than you actually are. When you test yourself you realise you weren't so prepared...so constant testing yourself is important. Again use flashcards.\n\nThat's it.\n\nSource: psych student whatsuppp. Also belong to an Indian board of examination where textbooks are the teachers.", "Study in short bursts. You don't retain as much information after 30 minutes of reading.\n\nWrite down important facts in your own words. This helps you remember things in multiple ways.\n\nHighlight your book if you own it so you know the important parts on future study sessions. This shortens the time needed for you to pick out key facts.\n\nIf your textbook has exercises, do them." ]

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[ "How do you search for the first edition of something, when the second edition is more popular? Like if I wanted to Google the Pixel 1 (which is simply called Pixel), and not get results for Pixel 2. ", "How do you search for the first edition of something, when the second edition is more popular? Like if I wanted to Google the Pixel 1 (which is simply called Pixel), and not get results for Pixel 2. " ]

[ "This may not work in this particular case, but I did find this.\n\n> You can exclude words from your search by using the - operator; any word in your query preceded by the - sign is automatically excluded from the search results.\n", "Search by year or by type. To use your example, \"Pixel 2016\" or \"Pixel movie\" should do the trick.\n\nFor books and comics, use \"first " ]

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[ "How do I speak more clearly and rid myself of my foreign accent? I grew up in the United States to immigrant parents, and we speak a different language at home. I've also lived overseas for much of my childhood, and then all over the place here in the US. As a result, my accent is quite a mix, and I often have people asking me to repeat what I had just said. How can I get a more \"standard\" American accent and speak in a way that is easily understood by everyone?\n\nThanks for any tips!\n\ntl;dr: foreign accent, people don't understand me, how can I fix?", "How do I speak more clearly and rid myself of my foreign accent? I grew up in the United States to immigrant parents, and we speak a different language at home. I've also lived overseas for much of my childhood, and then all over the place here in the US. As a result, my accent is quite a mix, and I often have people asking me to repeat what I had just said. How can I get a more \"standard\" American accent and speak in a way that is easily understood by everyone?\n\nThanks for any tips!\n\ntl;dr: foreign accent, people don't understand me, how can I fix?", "How do I speak more clearly and rid myself of my foreign accent? I grew up in the United States to immigrant parents, and we speak a different language at home. I've also lived overseas for much of my childhood, and then all over the place here in the US. As a result, my accent is quite a mix, and I often have people asking me to repeat what I had just said. How can I get a more \"standard\" American accent and speak in a way that is easily understood by everyone?\n\nThanks for any tips!\n\ntl;dr: foreign accent, people don't understand me, how can I fix?", "How do I speak more clearly and rid myself of my foreign accent? I grew up in the United States to immigrant parents, and we speak a different language at home. I've also lived overseas for much of my childhood, and then all over the place here in the US. As a result, my accent is quite a mix, and I often have people asking me to repeat what I had just said. How can I get a more \"standard\" American accent and speak in a way that is easily understood by everyone?\n\nThanks for any tips!\n\ntl;dr: foreign accent, people don't understand me, how can I fix?", "How do I speak more clearly and rid myself of my foreign accent? I grew up in the United States to immigrant parents, and we speak a different language at home. I've also lived overseas for much of my childhood, and then all over the place here in the US. As a result, my accent is quite a mix, and I often have people asking me to repeat what I had just said. How can I get a more \"standard\" American accent and speak in a way that is easily understood by everyone?\n\nThanks for any tips!\n\ntl;dr: foreign accent, people don't understand me, how can I fix?" ]

[ "Read a lot, watch common tv shows and mouth the words along or try to say the characters lines, and practice with someone who doesn't have an accent. Practice makes perfect ", "I'm not a native speaker, but a few years ago, I had to change my accent for a english school play. \n\n\nIt may sound wierd but a mirror was my best friend back then. I would practice in front of the mirror. I don't know why, but it made feel more confident. I watched tons of youtube videos of people talking. Downloaded tracks of people talking and tried to copy them, every single day. \n\nIt worked like a charm. \n", "I work in the community college system, and almost all will have a free ESL program. Most of these programs have advanced courses (sometimes called ERV or Expanded Reading and Vocabulary) that would be helpful for you. This kind of program should include classes that focus solely on accent reduction, but also offer courses on improving industry specific vocabulary - for example, ESL Vocab & Conversation for Healthcare/Biopharma or for Automotive Technology, etc.\n\nOnce you're feeling more comfortable, I would definitely recommend checking out Toastmasters - a club that focuses on improving public speaking. Their meetings are fairly informal and relaxed. It will give you a chance to work on pronunciation and accent reduction, but also on things like pacing and intonation, when delivering a speech or reading out loud. A lot of our ESL students go on to join Toastmasters after completing our program, and have found it to be very beneficial. \n\nMy last tip would be to practice with language learning apps like DuoLingo that require you to speak into the microphone to asses your pronunciation. I've not looked at the English version but have been learning French for the past year and my pronunciation has improved tremendously. I also find it useful to practice with \"talk to text\" and talking to Siri on my iphone after changing the language settings to French. I find that my pronunciation has to be pretty spot on for Siri to understand, more so than with DuoLingo. Others have already mentioned YouTube which I will definitely second! It has been a fantastic resource for me with French. I don't know any English specific channels but for any fellow French learners the Unit Lessons on Learn French with Vincent (Imagiers is the channel name) are fantastic!\n\nGood luck to you! Just remember that these things take time. Practice & patience are the most important things here :) \n\nTL;DR\n1. Check out the ESL or ERV program at your local community college \n2. Join Toastmasters to practice speaking \n3. Use smartphone apps like Duolingo that check pronunciation & try swaping languages on your phone to see if Siri can understand you. \n* And, as others have mentioned, YouTube is a goldmine. You'll certainly find help there.\n\n ", "Where do you live? Your best bet is to listen to conversations and speak with people there.\nOtherwise, try to copy people's speech that you see on TV. I say it's better to do so local to where you live, otherwise you might end up with a mixed bag of dialects.", "If you're willing to spend some money on this, work with a vocal couch. Pronunciation is a big deal for signers and they spend a lot of time studying how to form different vowel and consonant sounds. A vocal couch will help you figure out what you're physically doing different when you form words that makes your voice harder to understand." ]

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[ "How can I reinforce the power cord for a Macbook to reduce the chance of fraying/\"cable strain\"? I've been using the same Macbook Air for three years and it's still running great. The problem is that I'm on my third power adaptor due to \"cable strain\". \n\nI wrapped several layers of Duck Tape brand duct tape around the cable ends of my second adaptor, thinking that would help keep the cord from excessive bending, but it didn't work. \n\nMy third cable is relatively new and I'd like to prevent cable strain. Any suggestions? ", "How can I reinforce the power cord for a Macbook to reduce the chance of fraying/\"cable strain\"? I've been using the same Macbook Air for three years and it's still running great. The problem is that I'm on my third power adaptor due to \"cable strain\". \n\nI wrapped several layers of Duck Tape brand duct tape around the cable ends of my second adaptor, thinking that would help keep the cord from excessive bending, but it didn't work. \n\nMy third cable is relatively new and I'd like to prevent cable strain. Any suggestions? ", "How can I reinforce the power cord for a Macbook to reduce the chance of fraying/\"cable strain\"? I've been using the same Macbook Air for three years and it's still running great. The problem is that I'm on my third power adaptor due to \"cable strain\". \n\nI wrapped several layers of Duck Tape brand duct tape around the cable ends of my second adaptor, thinking that would help keep the cord from excessive bending, but it didn't work. \n\nMy third cable is relatively new and I'd like to prevent cable strain. Any suggestions? ", "How can I reinforce the power cord for a Macbook to reduce the chance of fraying/\"cable strain\"? I've been using the same Macbook Air for three years and it's still running great. The problem is that I'm on my third power adaptor due to \"cable strain\". \n\nI wrapped several layers of Duck Tape brand duct tape around the cable ends of my second adaptor, thinking that would help keep the cord from excessive bending, but it didn't work. \n\nMy third cable is relatively new and I'd like to prevent cable strain. Any suggestions? ", "How can I reinforce the power cord for a Macbook to reduce the chance of fraying/\"cable strain\"? I've been using the same Macbook Air for three years and it's still running great. The problem is that I'm on my third power adaptor due to \"cable strain\". \n\nI wrapped several layers of Duck Tape brand duct tape around the cable ends of my second adaptor, thinking that would help keep the cord from excessive bending, but it didn't work. \n\nMy third cable is relatively new and I'd like to prevent cable strain. Any suggestions? " ]

[ "You inspired me to look into this. I do electronics for a living, mostly audio and video, but, well, in many ways I've been there and done that.\n\nIt will really help to have a starting place for this, and google was kind in delivering me to a nearly perfect solution at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zu1n-bI2cPo.\n\nLet me add to it if Alex is attacking the problem you're having. (You don't mention whether the strain problem is on the big wire, the small wire, or both.)\n\nThe ribbon cable is used not because it's wire, but because it has the right flexibility and stiffness property to protect the weak spot in the small cable's strain relief. But beware: this solution strengthens the existing joint but provides almost as bad of a lack of strain relief about an inch out from the power supply.\n\nI'd do two things differently. I'd use some Goop glue to help hold all those wire parts in place inside the first wrap of the ribbon cable. This is not easy and you need to practice some to be familiar with, say, using a toothpick to put glue exactly where you want it. Goop is pretty viscous, so it's not going to drip onto the floor, but still, it's liquid. And glue.\n\nThen, for the second thing, you have to realize that every time you pull on that wire, you will weaken the wire at the point where its support ends. There is nothing you can do to the wire breakproof! So you have to do something to your behavior. \n\nYou have to pretend that the power supply might die when it's crucial to a job, or your grade in a class, and you simply will not let that happen. You will not let the wire be pulled on. If you adopt that mindset, every time it gets pulled on harmlessly less than fatally, you will remember that and you will be more vigilant, eventually automatically keeping the wire from being damaged.", "if you are good with soldering they sell replacement ends on ebay. they are about $5 is so easy to fix too", "I store it in the original box every time I need to put it in my bag, and put a spring on the weak spot.\n\nhttp://i.imgur.com/IfMDD35.jpg\n\nThe thing with MacBook chargers is that the wire is already pre-bent the way it comes out of the box, and if you bend/rotate it any other way, it starts twisting it; twist anything too many times and eventually it's break. So naturally, the solution would be to prevent twisting and store it ~exactly the same way you first bought it.", "Don't let the cable bend at 90 degrees. When wrapping the cable leave some slack before you start wrapping it around the power adapter. ", "\nThis thread has been linked to from another place on reddit.\n\n- [/r/knowyourshit] [LPT Request: How can I reinforce the power cord for a Macbook to reduce the chance of fraying/\"cable strain\"? - LifeProTips](http://np.reddit.com/r/knowyourshit/comments/2xm9y8/lpt_request_how_can_i_reinforce_the_power_cord/)\n\n\n- [/r/knowyourshit] [LPT Request: How can I reinforce the power cord for a Macbook to reduce the chance of fraying/\"cable strain\"? - LifeProTips](http://np.reddit.com/r/knowyourshit/comments/2xm9y8/lpt_request_how_can_i_reinforce_the_power_cord/)\n\n\n\n ^Do ^not ^vote ^or ^comment ^in ^linked ^threads. ^\\([Info](/r/TotesMessenger/wiki/) ^| ^[Contact](/message/compose/?to=\\/r\\/TMTest))" ]

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[ "How to fix shoes that are digging into your ankles I just bought some really cute shoes from Kohl's, but the front part is digging into the front of my ankles. I already took the tags off so returning them is out of the question. Plus, I'd really like to wear them! Does anyone have any tips on how to stretch them out/put in padding to make them more comfortable?\n\nThank you in advance!\n\n", "How to fix shoes that are digging into your ankles I just bought some really cute shoes from Kohl's, but the front part is digging into the front of my ankles. I already took the tags off so returning them is out of the question. Plus, I'd really like to wear them! Does anyone have any tips on how to stretch them out/put in padding to make them more comfortable?\n\nThank you in advance!\n\n", "How to fix shoes that are digging into your ankles I just bought some really cute shoes from Kohl's, but the front part is digging into the front of my ankles. I already took the tags off so returning them is out of the question. Plus, I'd really like to wear them! Does anyone have any tips on how to stretch them out/put in padding to make them more comfortable?\n\nThank you in advance!\n\n" ]

[ "https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07C6YL8R8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_mSfgFbW7YXJZ1\n\nI got these to try for work because I work outside in the heat and wanted them for the thin moisture wicking properties. They are made for hiking so they have a weird little pouch on the rear of the ankle for preventing what you're talking about.", "Wooden shoetrees and a blowdryer. This is to help stretch out the shoe so it is not as tight. Works better on high quality shoes. Cheap glued together plastic may melt or tear. Try to use this technique on leather shoes. Also try to exchange for store cr", "When I had that problem I would wrap my feet with athletic tape on the rub points then wear the shoes for a while each day until they accommodated my feet. After a week of doing that after work each day, the shoes fit great and my feet never got hurt." ]

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[ "How does someone with a bad memory keep track of details about other people? When friends or family tell me that they're going on vacation somewhere, or they're excited about something they're working on, I wanna be able to ask them about it later on to make them feel good, as well as to ease into conversations.\n\nThe problem is, I can't remember anything worth a darn.\n\nI've tried a couple note-taking apps, but there's none that let you categorize specific notes to specific people, and I always forget to even check notes I've taken down anyways.\n\nIs there some kind of solution anyone has found to remember things about other people in order to help strengthen your relationship with them?", "How does someone with a bad memory keep track of details about other people? When friends or family tell me that they're going on vacation somewhere, or they're excited about something they're working on, I wanna be able to ask them about it later on to make them feel good, as well as to ease into conversations.\n\nThe problem is, I can't remember anything worth a darn.\n\nI've tried a couple note-taking apps, but there's none that let you categorize specific notes to specific people, and I always forget to even check notes I've taken down anyways.\n\nIs there some kind of solution anyone has found to remember things about other people in order to help strengthen your relationship with them?", "How does someone with a bad memory keep track of details about other people? When friends or family tell me that they're going on vacation somewhere, or they're excited about something they're working on, I wanna be able to ask them about it later on to make them feel good, as well as to ease into conversations.\n\nThe problem is, I can't remember anything worth a darn.\n\nI've tried a couple note-taking apps, but there's none that let you categorize specific notes to specific people, and I always forget to even check notes I've taken down anyways.\n\nIs there some kind of solution anyone has found to remember things about other people in order to help strengthen your relationship with them?", "How does someone with a bad memory keep track of details about other people? When friends or family tell me that they're going on vacation somewhere, or they're excited about something they're working on, I wanna be able to ask them about it later on to make them feel good, as well as to ease into conversations.\n\nThe problem is, I can't remember anything worth a darn.\n\nI've tried a couple note-taking apps, but there's none that let you categorize specific notes to specific people, and I always forget to even check notes I've taken down anyways.\n\nIs there some kind of solution anyone has found to remember things about other people in order to help strengthen your relationship with them?", "How does someone with a bad memory keep track of details about other people? When friends or family tell me that they're going on vacation somewhere, or they're excited about something they're working on, I wanna be able to ask them about it later on to make them feel good, as well as to ease into conversations.\n\nThe problem is, I can't remember anything worth a darn.\n\nI've tried a couple note-taking apps, but there's none that let you categorize specific notes to specific people, and I always forget to even check notes I've taken down anyways.\n\nIs there some kind of solution anyone has found to remember things about other people in order to help strengthen your relationship with them?", "How does someone with a bad memory keep track of details about other people? When friends or family tell me that they're going on vacation somewhere, or they're excited about something they're working on, I wanna be able to ask them about it later on to make them feel good, as well as to ease into conversations.\n\nThe problem is, I can't remember anything worth a darn.\n\nI've tried a couple note-taking apps, but there's none that let you categorize specific notes to specific people, and I always forget to even check notes I've taken down anyways.\n\nIs there some kind of solution anyone has found to remember things about other people in order to help strengthen your relationship with them?" ]

[ "Index cards. An aging colleague had a stack of them that he would run through every night on the commuter train going home. \n\nOn one side is the face. (an ID photo or some party shot)\n\nOn the other side of each card: That person's name, title, spouse and children/grandchildren. He also put other facts that he remembered. Added as he went. \n\nHe went over this from both sides. Face to name, and also tried to picture that person from the name only. \n\nIt worked. ", "I have a good one for you! I use my cell phone address book to put notes about people. For friends, in the Notes field, I put the names of their spouse & kids (and sometimes even their kids birthdays). For people I meet that are not friends, I put them in with their jobs as last name--like \"Lily Sitter\" where Lily is a babysitter--because months from now I might not remember who Lily was. \"Joe Plumber\" \"Mark Realtor\" etc.\n\nCel phone address books let you name custom fields--so you could create one for \"remember\" and then note in there \"going to Paris in April\" or whatever your friend is excited about. \n\nAnd the best part is that this app already exists and has all your friends in it already!\n\n", "Sometimes I'm just super vague in my conversation. \n\"Hey didn't you just get back from somewhere?\" \n\"Nope remodeling the house (or whatever).\" \" Oh I knew you had something going on.\"\nThey just reminded you themselves and then you can continue the conversation. ", "Sometimes after I meet someone I'll jot down a few notes about our conversation in an email to myself, including their full name and the date. Then I can just search their name in my email app and my notes pop up. ", "I just rely on them to remind me, if it was really meaningful to them then I'm sure that they will bring it up. Again. And again.\n\n", "I use a Google Sheets for this. Includes kids' names, birthdays, job status, interests, etc. and a photo if I have one" ]

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[ "How to stop snoring! Seems every Winter, even with running the humidifier, I become a snoring nightmare. Any tips to combat this? Thanks!", "How to stop snoring! Seems every Winter, even with running the humidifier, I become a snoring nightmare. Any tips to combat this? Thanks!", "How to stop snoring! Seems every Winter, even with running the humidifier, I become a snoring nightmare. Any tips to combat this? Thanks!", "How to stop snoring! Seems every Winter, even with running the humidifier, I become a snoring nightmare. Any tips to combat this? Thanks!" ]

[ "Lie on your side. If that doesn't help, go to a doctor and make a sleep analysis. There are a bajillion reasons for snoring, as you probably learned from googling.", "a Mandibular Advancement Device might work for you. this works on the principle of hyperextending your under-jaw bone forward. this changes the alignment of the soft tissues that vibrate (causing the snoring sound).\n\nIt takes a bit of discipline, because the natural reaction is to spit the doggone thing out in the middle of the night.\n\nI use the Snore Wizard. I like it because it has a vent hole in the front, and it doesn't completely enclose my teeth (which was causing me gum abrasion). Availability for the Snore Wizard seems scarce-- but I see a lot of snoring mouthpieces on ebay for reasonable price.\n\nThere was an extensive review on Lifehacker or similar site, and they said that only one device was 100% effective-- a tennis ball sewn to your pajama shirt between the shoulderblades. The idea being that you should not sleep flat on your back, where your mouth can fall open.", "What kind of humidifier do you have? The top end ones are commonly refered to as \"cool mist\". They have either an impeller an ultrasonic generator that makes extremely fine mist. Without one of these types of humidifiers, I have borderline sleep apnia. The bottom of the line humidifiers do jack all.\n\nI also make sure that humidifier is directly beside me on my nightstand and that the nozzle is pointed directly across my face. I only turn it on between 10 and 20% total power, but it makes a huge difference in my sleep quality.", "So, my father has a terrible snoring problem (like I'm across the house, up stairs, behind closed doors, and I can still hear it).\nWhat he did to fix it though was by take a teaspoon of olive oil before he went to sleep.\nNow, this isn't a permanent fix, but if you make it into a routine it shouldn't be a problem.\nYou may even just add the oil to a beverage and see if that works." ]

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[ "How to tell someone they are wrong? online and offline This usually happens when I talk to someone who believes they have \"power\" over me. That power can be in the form of actual power such as moderators of places, or people with assumed power, this is usually people who think they have one up on someone else or people who think they are always right. Such as telling people they're wrong about something that is their job to know the right answer.\n\n\nIf you want examples ask, kinda difficult to give non-specific examples that might be the same for everyone.\n", "How to tell someone they are wrong? online and offline This usually happens when I talk to someone who believes they have \"power\" over me. That power can be in the form of actual power such as moderators of places, or people with assumed power, this is usually people who think they have one up on someone else or people who think they are always right. Such as telling people they're wrong about something that is their job to know the right answer.\n\n\nIf you want examples ask, kinda difficult to give non-specific examples that might be the same for everyone.\n", "How to tell someone they are wrong? online and offline This usually happens when I talk to someone who believes they have \"power\" over me. That power can be in the form of actual power such as moderators of places, or people with assumed power, this is usually people who think they have one up on someone else or people who think they are always right. Such as telling people they're wrong about something that is their job to know the right answer.\n\n\nIf you want examples ask, kinda difficult to give non-specific examples that might be the same for everyone.\n", "How to tell someone they are wrong? online and offline This usually happens when I talk to someone who believes they have \"power\" over me. That power can be in the form of actual power such as moderators of places, or people with assumed power, this is usually people who think they have one up on someone else or people who think they are always right. Such as telling people they're wrong about something that is their job to know the right answer.\n\n\nIf you want examples ask, kinda difficult to give non-specific examples that might be the same for everyone.\n" ]

[ "Maybe I'm misunderstanding you, but I usually remain quiet and internally decide whether the consequences of them being wrong affects me. If it doesn't affect me then I usually just ignore them. By not reacting you give them no power over you. \n\n", "I'm military, so at work I say \"shut the fuck up\" or \"sounds great sir/ma'am \" and that's basically the end of it.", "Acknowledge their point and then come back with a counter point. \"I see where you are coming from but I think _____\" or \"That's actually a good idea but I think you could also benefit from _____\". In other words, don't disagree with them head on. Welcome their point and offer alternatives. ", "My go-to is to straight up say \"I'm not sure I agree with you/that\". And then phrase my perspective as a question that requires them to acknowledge the difference between the two perspectives.\n\nAlso, read \"How I raised myself from failure to success in selling\" by Frank Bettger. I'm not in sales, but it has helped my interpersonal skills a ton." ]

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[ "How to wake up without being full of snot and having a sore throat? How do I get rid of all this snot thats built up every night I sleep? I have the terrible honor of spitting it all out in the morning and there is A LOT. Does anyone else get this and also a note is that all of this snot causes some bad sore throat pain that quickly dissipates as the day carries on. I was sick a week or two ago but quickly recovered. I just don't want to deal with this as I have important tests coming up and being sick would piss me off so badly.\n\nThanks!\n", "How to wake up without being full of snot and having a sore throat? How do I get rid of all this snot thats built up every night I sleep? I have the terrible honor of spitting it all out in the morning and there is A LOT. Does anyone else get this and also a note is that all of this snot causes some bad sore throat pain that quickly dissipates as the day carries on. I was sick a week or two ago but quickly recovered. I just don't want to deal with this as I have important tests coming up and being sick would piss me off so badly.\n\nThanks!\n", "How to wake up without being full of snot and having a sore throat? How do I get rid of all this snot thats built up every night I sleep? I have the terrible honor of spitting it all out in the morning and there is A LOT. Does anyone else get this and also a note is that all of this snot causes some bad sore throat pain that quickly dissipates as the day carries on. I was sick a week or two ago but quickly recovered. I just don't want to deal with this as I have important tests coming up and being sick would piss me off so badly.\n\nThanks!\n", "How to wake up without being full of snot and having a sore throat? How do I get rid of all this snot thats built up every night I sleep? I have the terrible honor of spitting it all out in the morning and there is A LOT. Does anyone else get this and also a note is that all of this snot causes some bad sore throat pain that quickly dissipates as the day carries on. I was sick a week or two ago but quickly recovered. I just don't want to deal with this as I have important tests coming up and being sick would piss me off so badly.\n\nThanks!\n", "How to wake up without being full of snot and having a sore throat? How do I get rid of all this snot thats built up every night I sleep? I have the terrible honor of spitting it all out in the morning and there is A LOT. Does anyone else get this and also a note is that all of this snot causes some bad sore throat pain that quickly dissipates as the day carries on. I was sick a week or two ago but quickly recovered. I just don't want to deal with this as I have important tests coming up and being sick would piss me off so badly.\n\nThanks!\n", "How to wake up without being full of snot and having a sore throat? How do I get rid of all this snot thats built up every night I sleep? I have the terrible honor of spitting it all out in the morning and there is A LOT. Does anyone else get this and also a note is that all of this snot causes some bad sore throat pain that quickly dissipates as the day carries on. I was sick a week or two ago but quickly recovered. I just don't want to deal with this as I have important tests coming up and being sick would piss me off so badly.\n\nThanks!\n", "How to wake up without being full of snot and having a sore throat? How do I get rid of all this snot thats built up every night I sleep? I have the terrible honor of spitting it all out in the morning and there is A LOT. Does anyone else get this and also a note is that all of this snot causes some bad sore throat pain that quickly dissipates as the day carries on. I was sick a week or two ago but quickly recovered. I just don't want to deal with this as I have important tests coming up and being sick would piss me off so badly.\n\nThanks!\n", "How to wake up without being full of snot and having a sore throat? How do I get rid of all this snot thats built up every night I sleep? I have the terrible honor of spitting it all out in the morning and there is A LOT. Does anyone else get this and also a note is that all of this snot causes some bad sore throat pain that quickly dissipates as the day carries on. I was sick a week or two ago but quickly recovered. I just don't want to deal with this as I have important tests coming up and being sick would piss me off so badly.\n\nThanks!\n", "How to wake up without being full of snot and having a sore throat? How do I get rid of all this snot thats built up every night I sleep? I have the terrible honor of spitting it all out in the morning and there is A LOT. Does anyone else get this and also a note is that all of this snot causes some bad sore throat pain that quickly dissipates as the day carries on. I was sick a week or two ago but quickly recovered. I just don't want to deal with this as I have important tests coming up and being sick would piss me off so badly.\n\nThanks!\n", "How to wake up without being full of snot and having a sore throat? How do I get rid of all this snot thats built up every night I sleep? I have the terrible honor of spitting it all out in the morning and there is A LOT. Does anyone else get this and also a note is that all of this snot causes some bad sore throat pain that quickly dissipates as the day carries on. I was sick a week or two ago but quickly recovered. I just don't want to deal with this as I have important tests coming up and being sick would piss me off so badly.\n\nThanks!\n" ]

[ "I had something similar happen, and in my case the cause was the air quality of the place where I was sleeping. Make sure the air filters installed in your ac/heating system have been replaced recently. You may also want to use some hypo-allergenic filters in place of the normal kind.\n\nAlso, considering that you were sick somewhat recently, you may have a very slight sinus infection or something similar. ", "> I was sick a week or two ago but quickly recovered.\n\nAlthough you got over the acute phase of the illness, it sounds like you're still fighting off the rest of it.\n\nThat \"snot\" you're suffering from (otherwise known as \"phlegm\") is your body's attempt to rid itself of bacteria, irritants, and inflamed cells. When you spit it up, the infected cells are exposed to the air. That's why your throat gets sore afterward. As the day goes on, your body continues producing phlegm which coats the throat again, cutting off the air and reducing the pain.\n\nYour body may need a bit of help to rid itself of this infection. In other words, see a doctor. If it's a lingering bacterial infection (including strep), then you may need an antibiotic to kill off enough of the bugs for your immune system to get rid of the rest.\n\nIf it is strep or other lingering bacterial infection, you really don't want to play games with it for an extended period of time. The one thing they don't emphasis on the news is that extended infections can cause cause **kidney damage** over time. That's even less fun to deal with than...snot.\n", "Sinus rinse! I suffered from this for a long time. Now I sinus rinse before bed and I am fine in the morning!", "Also be sure to have clean sheets and pillowcases when you sleep. Breathing in dust mites and dead skin all night can effect your sinuses greatly.", "Sounds like allergies. Start taking a 12- or 24-hour allergy pill regularly.\n\nFor best results, you should start taking it the minute allergy season starts.\n", "If you continue to feel worse instead of improve, you MAY have a sinus infection. Best solution in that case is to see a doctor who may prescribe antibiotics if it is a sinus infection.", "If the mucus is yellow you probably have a sinus infection and should get antibiotics. If it's clear I would recommend a few things:\n\n1)Drink lots of water through out the day to thin the mucus. \n2)Drink a little apple cider vinegar diluted in water. This lessens mucus production. \n3)Avoid dairy products. (They thicken mucus)\n4)Get a humidifier and run it through the night. ", "I suffered from this everyday/all my life. Then I got some allergy nasal sprays from my doctor, and it totally changed my life. You should look into getting allergy tested.", "I don't know if this also works for a throat full of snot but you should gargle with warm water wherein you have desolved salt. And then cut an onion into pieces and put it next to your bed before you go to sleep.", "Do you eat a lot of dairy? It's possible that you have a slight resistance to dairy. Try cutting it out of your diet for a while and see if you get any results. Also, a humidifier with water and essential oils should help a bit. Good luck! " ]

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[ "What body language signs can you use or avoid towards your boss/superior? I didnt realize how much I slouched. I work in a factory where team leads and unit managers are watching us everywhere for the first few hours.\n\nI started working on my posture, and have noticed the last couple weeks that im getting extra attention from my leads, and in a good way. Ive been more approachable, with hopes that i can be considered for a leadership position myself in the future. ", "What body language signs can you use or avoid towards your boss/superior? I didnt realize how much I slouched. I work in a factory where team leads and unit managers are watching us everywhere for the first few hours.\n\nI started working on my posture, and have noticed the last couple weeks that im getting extra attention from my leads, and in a good way. Ive been more approachable, with hopes that i can be considered for a leadership position myself in the future. " ]

[ "Puff out your throat glands and flush them with blood. This will create a vibrant and colorful display.", "Walk with a purpose, keep your head up/dont look down, cross your arms if you need to look 'bigger', DO NOT put your hands in your pocket, dress for the job you want, avoid hot button topics (politics, personal issues), always smile/greet individuals in the morning, try to remeber convo topics for later use (eg. \"Have a good weekend in the snow Bill, drive safe\")" ]

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[ "Event Planning So just a little backstory, I graduated with a hospitality degree with an emphasis in event management. However, I felt like I did not learn much. I am interning for a company and I took on a project of planning a carnival. I am nervous that it will end up being a failure. \n\nAny advice on where to start, what I should be doing, and how to get through all of this?", "Event Planning So just a little backstory, I graduated with a hospitality degree with an emphasis in event management. However, I felt like I did not learn much. I am interning for a company and I took on a project of planning a carnival. I am nervous that it will end up being a failure. \n\nAny advice on where to start, what I should be doing, and how to get through all of this?", "Event Planning So just a little backstory, I graduated with a hospitality degree with an emphasis in event management. However, I felt like I did not learn much. I am interning for a company and I took on a project of planning a carnival. I am nervous that it will end up being a failure. \n\nAny advice on where to start, what I should be doing, and how to get through all of this?", "Event Planning So just a little backstory, I graduated with a hospitality degree with an emphasis in event management. However, I felt like I did not learn much. I am interning for a company and I took on a project of planning a carnival. I am nervous that it will end up being a failure. \n\nAny advice on where to start, what I should be doing, and how to get through all of this?", "Event Planning So just a little backstory, I graduated with a hospitality degree with an emphasis in event management. However, I felt like I did not learn much. I am interning for a company and I took on a project of planning a carnival. I am nervous that it will end up being a failure. \n\nAny advice on where to start, what I should be doing, and how to get through all of this?" ]

[ "Write everything down\nMake extensive notes\nUse email for communication as much as possible (week before the event you can read all of them to make sure you didn't miss any minor details)\nDelegate tasks to your team members (it's easy to try to do everything yourself but you don't want that stress end of the day) \nMake lists and deadlines \nGet yourself organized is a perfect first step (what do you need - food,vendors,staff,rental companies,dishwares,linens,entertainment) \n\n", "Okay I'm really tired and my phone is dying, but I have a good bit of experience - including a family carnival for a church during my own internship and lots in the wedding industry. Feel free to pm me if you'd like to talk more tomorrow.", "Maybe look up some project management templates. Google search carnival planning template might give you some ideas", "Hi there! Fellow grad with a hosp/tourism degree here. Currently working as an event coordinator at a corporate events agency.\n\nIt's important to stay organize and maintain good communication with the other departments (sponsorships, volunteer, marketing team, finance, etc). Setting a timeline that outlines the deadlines/milestones will definitely help keep things in track, you wouldn't want to rush through a task at last minute. Be prepared for the unexpected. Sometimes things don't always go as planned and you need to be ready with alternative solutions. Since you're planning a carnival, look into a couple of venues, games, food vendors in case they don't work out. \n\nI'd love to hear the turnout of the carnival. Feel free to PM me anytime! :)", "Give yourself a buffer of time for any deadlines when you are relying on other people (caterers, etc) to deliver a product. Use the event date and work backwards to find an ideal timeline. " ]

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[ "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.", "How to get over heartbreak My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again." ]

[ "This is what helps me - GET BUSY, dude. \n\n* If you have some hobbies/sports, work on them. If you don't, find something. Something you always wanted to do, try, etc. \n\n* Meet people - friends, friends of friends, just socialize. You never know, maybe tomorrow you will meet your TRUE soulmate :)\n\nThe goal is to get her out of your mind. There is nothing worse just to stay home and cry to the pillow. Of course, at the end of the day, you will think about her, about what you had. But that girl is not worth your time. The way she treated you was not fair.\n\nI will end my comment with a quote:\n\n*\"The opposite of love is not hate. It's apathy\"*", "I usually go on an exercise hinge. The endorphins are great wit the added bonus that's you look good for your future ex girlfriend.", "The steps I took, almost exactly:\n\n1. Grieve. Seriously, take some time (not too much though. You really don't want to get stuck in this phase) to yourself and sit back. Take some time to cry, let out all the emotions. Yell, scream, kick, throw a tantrum (preferably away from people). Once you are exhausted, move to step two.\n\n2. **SLEEP**. Seriously, it will suck for the first day or two but take the time to sleep - the only person it hurts to not sleep is you. Make sure you get your full 8.5 hours (or equivalent).\n\n3. Exercise. TONS OF EXERCISE. There is no downside to working out. You'll look and feel better. All those dopamine boosts will do wonders for your confidence. \n\n4. Move on. Don't forget what happened, but accept that it did, and let it go. ", "If you're going through hell, keep going. Time is the healer, be strong and you'll get through today.\n\nLots of great specific advice here. I'd recommend keeping busy, and trying new things. Visiting old haunts and places of routine will remind you of the time spent together. Now is the best time to try something new. Everything is fresh and exciting. Who knows, you might even run into the right one in a place you wouldn't have thought to check", "[Buy this book](http://www.amazon.com/Why-We-Love-Chemistry-Romantic/dp/0805077960/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1411854614&sr=8-1&keywords=why+we+love) and read it cover to cover. If you know what's happening to your biochemistry as you undergo this physical withdrawal, it's a lot easier to deal with. \n\nSecondly, buy an old Tetris Gameboy from ebay and keep it in the bathroom. Whenever your mind starts wandering back to those familiar (if painful) places, play a game. The intense concentration will not only distract you, it will actually help you to reprogram your neural pathways. The body releases oxytocin at *painful* memories too, reinforcing your distress. \n\nFinally, understand and accept that it will take you 18 months to get back to feeling \"normal\" after a traumatic breakup. I've no idea why, it simply does. Don't try to force yourself out of it, but by all means seek distraction. \n\nHere's a big hug, jman. Take care of yourself and don't forget to go out and walk in the sunshine whenever you get a chance. Hang in there.\n\n\n ", "LPT: go to r/exnocontact \nbegin strict no contact and start healing/\n\nmy 2 year relationship ended 4 months ago, r/exnocontact help me a great deal.", "It's been a little over seven months since this same thing happened to me. I agree with these other comments about forgetting about her.\n\nI stayed friends with my ex for a couple of months after the breakup, but in the end, it was a feeble, futile attempt to cling to the happiness she once brought me. One day, she told me she was going to drop off the grid for a while, so I didn't have a way to contact her anymore. That forced separation was just what I needed to get a grip again.\n\nI'll tell you what my dad told me: the pain doesn't stop until you find someone else to fill the void. However, even though I don't have another girlfriend at this time, just being away from anything to do with my ex has helped a lot. No more crying in bed. No more wasting time thinking about all the good moments.\n\nOnly time can heal this wound. Find (or re-find) your passion, and act on it to pass the time. I found mine in technology and music. I picked up my ocarina and got back into music, and I started talking to all of my friends (like you, I don't have that many) about [free software](http://gnu.org/philosophy/free-sw.html), and I'm teaching a friend of mine to program in Python.\n\nI'm talking to another girl now who may or may not become a thing, but I learned since my break-up that it's the non-romantic friends that really help you through it. Find a friend who you know relatively well and could never have romantic interests in (for me, it was one of my guy friends from high school who I still talk to), and do things together that you both like. That kind of bonding is a stronger foundation than a romantic relationship. It's the kind of thing that will keep you going as you go through more instances like this in your life.\n\nI've only been through this single break-up, so I don't know what it will be like in the future for sure, and everyone's story is different, but if you take one thing from all of this, let it be to make friends who share interests with you but aren't \"interested\" in you. You'll end up happier in the long run with more shoulders to cry on when bad things happen, and your good friend to shake you and tell you to get up and do something good for yourself.\n\nSorry for rambling. Have some doge. +/u/dogetipbot megaroll", "Delete or trash all your pictures of you together. Yes even the porn. I got this advice from 4 Chan back when I still went to 4chan so it's old as hell but it was the best advice I'd ever gotten. I was so hung up on a chick after 4 years it was fucking with my life. When I finally was able to delete the pictures and get rid of the rest it was so weird. That was what I needed to move on. It takes as much willpower to delete the (porn) pictures as it does to finally get over someone. Trust me, I thought it was crazy and made all kinds of excuses but as soon as I hit empty trash and knew I didn't have any back up copies - my life began anew.", "Ah dude. I know the pain, I remember the pain, and most importantly, I beat that pain. And you will too. TRUST ME. Sooner or later you're going to get over this, get your brain to accept that fact and it'll begin the healing process a bit faster.\n\nSome quick tips I'd give you: Get busy, throw yourself into your other passions, be with friends, go out, be sociable, workout, most of all.... Focus on improving yourself! \n\nIt might hurt man, but break ups happen so that the wrong person can exist your life, so that the right person can enter it.\n\nDo NOT go looking for someone to replace her.... That never works. Forget about love and it'll come find you at some random time. Trust me on this. By all means sleep around (if you can).\n\nFinally, if you're really hurting. And you're seriously looking for a cure. Get a book called How To Mend Your Broken Heart by Paul McKenna and Hugh Wilborn. It's a short book and you'll be through it in a day or two, and when you are through it, you'll wonder what made you post this on Reddit in the first place.\n\nBest of luck man and listen, if shit's getting you down PM me. I've been there, I know how bad it can hurt, but I also got out of it, and so will you.", "I am 15 months into my ongoing healing process from the greatest loss of my life, so I'd like to share some things I've learned:\n\nRushing into another relationship is unsound advice, and most likely to hurt you and the next person you prematurely involve yourself with.\n\nThe best thing I can tell you is that healing from a loss is not like getting a cut on your flesh, where there is consistent and predictable healing. If healing from a physical wound is a straight line, then healing from an emotional loss is a jagged, swirling journey, where you sometimes take one step forward and 10 steps back. Don't get frustrated by these setbacks--just understand that the timetable for healing is not set, and trust in the heart's ability to heal:\n\n\"When an emotional injury takes place, the body begins a process as natural as the healing of a physical wound. Let the process happen. Trust the process. Surrender to it.\" --from \"How to Survive the Loss of a Love\"\n\nDon't make any rash life-altering decisions, don't turn to drugs or alcohol (which only postpone or subvert healing), give to those who are less fortunate than you, and surround yourself with family and friends that love you unconditionally.\n\nHere is a link to the book quoted above, which I wholeheartedly recommend: \nhttp://www.amazon.com/Survive-Loss-Love-Peter-McWilliams/dp/0931580439\n\nAnd another I'm in the midst of reading, which, so far, is also exceptional: \nhttp://www.amazon.com/Getting-Past-Your-Breakup-Devastating/dp/0738213284\n\nThis is a beautiful recounting of the Buddha's journey to understanding suffering:\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Heart-Buddhas-Teaching-Transforming-Liberation/dp/0767903692/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1411858603&sr=8-1&keywords=heart+of+a+buddha\n\nAnd this is a pocket book available for free from the Amida Society:\nhttps://www.goodreads.com/book/show/2040437.Heart_of_A_Buddha?from_search=true\n\nFor me, feeling her \"fade away\" from my memory was so hurtful that I would hold on to the pain to keep the memories fresh. That is not conducive to healing. What helped me was creating a document (I used Google Docs so I could update from anywhere), and whenever a sweet memory surfaced of something she did, said, or was, I would write it down. It provided a catharsis--like a treasure chest of everything she was. I no longer compulsively read it, but it is comforting to know it's there, and has definitely helped my healing process.\n\nFor the first six months of my loss, I could barely leave the house. Since I love movies, I started trying to find ones that contained people being kind to one another (they are very rare). They helped me in reconnecting to and believing in kindness again, and I found myself watching some of my favorites just to get myself to sleep at night. I compiled a few into an IMDb list: \nhttp://www.imdb.com/list/ls056580941/\n\nTake care of yourself \n--D\n\n*Source: Losing my dear wife--the sweetest, kindest person I've ever known.*\n", "Have a drink! Cause the bitch is gone and its time to play!\nShe didn't stay! Its okay! Cause fuck the bitch anyway!", "Do activities. Rearrange your bedroom, change your ringtone and text tone, change your phone's wallpaper. Start exercising. ", "To add to what AmkSk said re:\n> But that girl is not worth your time. The way she treated you was not fair.\n\nIt is important to wrap your head around the fact that much of what you liked and grew attached to was projected from you on to her. You already have those qualities which you thought you needed from her. You created an illusion. Her Actions Prove that she is not the person you thought she was. Breaking illusions is never fun, but it stops them from being repeated.", "Time and distance. \n \nDistance as in removing pictures, connections, texts, cell number, Facebook, instagram, etc. Get out of your house. If you don't have many friends, then start going for walks in semi-crowded areas. \n \nStay off the computer, off Netflix, off video games, and get out of your house. \n \nSomeone else commented and said devote more time to your hobbies/find some new hobbies. \n \nIt's time to start filling your eyes and mind with new things. Fill them until she's pushed out. It sounds cold, but the longer you keep thoughts of her warm, the longer it will take to move on. ", "I wrote that for /r/relationship, but you might find it usefull.\n\nRules of break-up : \n\n1- **You are not going back to him/her.**\n\n2- **You are NOT going back to him/her !**\n\n3- **Suppress all traces.** Pack all pics, mail, number, infos... in a password protect archive, then send it to a friend that can keep it for you until you feel beter.\n\n4- **BLOCK HIM/HER ON EVERY SOCIAL MEDIA.** I can't manage to say how important it his. You'll want to go stalk him/her : worst idea ever. This just entertain the pain, and heals nothing.\n\n5- **Start a project** in which you can find a refuge. That means something that can occupy your mind. Keep your mind busy, do stuff. You want to be able to switch to something neutral everytime you start thinking of him/er.\n\n6- You feel **that pain in your chest ?** That pain only a huge breath can appease ? Yeah... Well **just ignore it**, and do your stuff. This pain is not gonna stay long, and it won't kill you. It's not cool to feel it, but eh, it's okay, right ? You still can talk, walk and smile !\n\n7- Force yourself to **start every day with a BIG SMILE**. To yourself. Just wake up, and force yourself a BIG BIG SMILE. It'll help you have a good day, promess. (And whenever you feel sad, just get that BIG BIG SMILE out of your pocket for 3 or 5 seconds. ;) )\n\n8- **Talk about your breakup** to your friends **ONCE**, then don't anymore. Your friends will always be there for you, but they are here to change your mind from him. Go to them, tell them you broke up, tell them why, and then go and do your stuffs. \n\n9- **YOU ARE NOT GOING BACK TO HIM/HER**.\n\n\nJust move on, plenty of fish in the sea, he/she wasn't the one for you...\nGood luck : )", "Get into rock climbing. That's what I did after 3 1/2 year break up. All year round hobby with indoor and outdoor aspects, you can choose to put a little or a lot of time into it. ", "Been there, so travel, if you can't travel ride a bike. Just keep moving and stay away from things you use to do together. The worlds a big place with lots of friends you haven't met yet. ", "love is worth fighting for and if she dosent fight for it then the relationship wasent worth fighting for im sure loosing you never put any fear in her heart so she was never truly the one just another girl to learn from >My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.\n\n>My girlfriend of 2 1/2 just broke up with me for another guy. This happened somewhat abruptly and without warning. Now she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She was not only my best friend, but one of my only friends. I'm just looking for some advice to help me start to feel normal again.\n\n", "You're not really ready yet and I know it's cliché, but the basic tenants of He's Just Not That Into You are both universal and really true. As hard as it is to understand and accept, she just wasn't into you. And you know what, that's ok. Because one day, that girl who is all about you and you're all about her is on the horizon. So be glad for the relationship and the lessons learned, wish her love and light, and look towards the future when you're ready. ", "This is going to sound cynical, but it's not. My advice is to get heartbroken as much as you can in your late teens and 20's so you can be an impenetrable fortress for the rest of your life. You can still find love and all that afterwards. But when it ends (which it will) you will have been through it so many times that you can pick up and move right along. Don't let anyone give you that \"you're going to be old and alone one day\" crap either. People are slowly coming to terms with the fact that most marriages are bullshit and with the ones that last you have a lot of unhappy people. Find true happiness elsewhere in life.", "Agreed that time+keeping busy is your best bet.. Just had my girlfriend of over a year break up with me 2 weeks ago for another guy presumably... The first week I literally went insane because she just deleted me from her life, no contact, no explanation, nothing.. \n\n2 weeks down the road it's still horrible and I'd probably still take her back if she asked, which is pathetic, but I can actually wake up and be functional now and if you change perspective it almost feels nice for awhile.. Something can hurt you this bad means there was something that made you feel equally as happy. Plenty of people out there and you'll feel the spark and love again. ", "The heart will heal when it is ready to heal. All you can do is distract yourself until that time. Find things to fill your time, put yourself out there and connect to people. Not romantically, but to stay in practice of how to relate to people. If you find stuff to do and stay open to connecting to people, eventually you will have moved on with your life and be recovered from this. If you stay home and isolate yourself, you will not be able to move on and the next thing you know time will have moved on without you. Good luck!", "Right in the feels. I've been there before. \n\nIn addition to all of the above: \n\nGo have good sex with someone else. \n\nMost of the sad feels will disappear. :-)", "Hey OP. I was just dumped recently as well. Sad to say it was not the first time where it stung greatly. It hurts to lose a best friend and companion after 2 1/2 years. How old are you? If you are younger I think it will be a little easier to bounce back because you may have school to focus on. Possibly job hunting. Career hunting. If you can just dive in to those. If you are passed that point then I suggest taking some time to be sad. Maybe cry...in the most manliest way possible of course. Then pick up some fun new activity. Hunting or fishing maybe. Reading. Planning your future. These are the things I am trying to do anyway. MOST IMPORTANTLY: delete her number, Facebook contact, any way of getting a hold of her. It's no good to find out what she is up to. This is your life now! Take charge! Nothing is holding you back. You WILL bounce back from this. ", "Go no contact. No FB, no Twitter, no text messages, no Kik, no email, nothing. If you can block her, do so. If you can't, delete anything she sends before you can read it. \n\nIf your friends are friendly with her, ask them not to talk about her. Wounds can only heal if you let them scab over and they won't if your friends keep picking at them. Also, the last thing you want to hear is about how great she's doing now. \n\nKeep busy. Try and find a hobby that gets you out of the house, into new environments and preferably meeting new people. Expand your social horizon. Take this as an opportunity to improve yourself and gain experience & knowledge rather than sitting at home moping about how you've lost something. You haven't. \n\nYou've got something most people with they had OP - a fresh start. Don't blow it. ", "Can definitely relate. I Haven't eaten in days because I'm so broken. It hasn't even been a week yet. I'm trying to constantly think that this feeling isn't going to be forever. Emotional rollercoaster will soon end. Chin up. ", "Become a monster. Black heart, dead inside. Be numb to everything but pain. Become a hitman, travel the world getting contract after contract, hide a bunch of money for your end game, and dissappear into Hong Kong, Taiwan, Africa, and work for a crime boss. Be his representative and surrogate son/daughter in the background and the darknet, and live happily ever after. \n\nThat's basicly turning a frown upside-down. ", "Replace her. You aren't going to suddenly get over her until someone or something fills the role she had in your life.", "I find that using the search bar for similar posts in this sub really helps me get over heartbreak. Added bonus: you spare your fellow redditors from seeing this exact same LPT request every week." ]

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[ "How to remove condensation from the inside of a watch face. For some reason, some condensation has appeared on the inside of my watch face and I am not sure how to get rid of it. I would prefer a way to get rid of it without taking the watch apart. If it matters, it is an Akribos XXIV. ", "How to remove condensation from the inside of a watch face. For some reason, some condensation has appeared on the inside of my watch face and I am not sure how to get rid of it. I would prefer a way to get rid of it without taking the watch apart. If it matters, it is an Akribos XXIV. ", "How to remove condensation from the inside of a watch face. For some reason, some condensation has appeared on the inside of my watch face and I am not sure how to get rid of it. I would prefer a way to get rid of it without taking the watch apart. If it matters, it is an Akribos XXIV. ", "How to remove condensation from the inside of a watch face. For some reason, some condensation has appeared on the inside of my watch face and I am not sure how to get rid of it. I would prefer a way to get rid of it without taking the watch apart. If it matters, it is an Akribos XXIV. " ]

[ "get a sealable container. put some uncooked rice in it, set the watch on top of the rice, and then seal the container. leave it overnight on the counter. check watch, if still has some condensation, leave it for another day and night.", "If you have a self defrosting refrigerator put it in there for a couple days in the freezer. It may help if you know how to take off the back so the moisture has a path out.", "If the rice doesn't work - try finding someone that has a dehumidifier. My Moto360 got water under the screen not that long ago, so I attached it to the vent on my dehumidifier and left it on overnight - come morning it was gone.", "I had this happen to a watch of mine (seal went bad). Storing it in rice wasn't doing anything for me, or maybe it just wasn't fast enough for anything noticeable to me after a couple weeks.\n\nI needed a battery replace on a different watch and just took it at the same time to one of those mall kiosks. They were nice enough to take it apart and clean it." ]

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[ "Stop snacking So my diet is about 80% fine, I cook my meals in advance and generally avoid eating junk. However if someone brings cakes into the office, I'll have one, or if my housemates leave a slice of Pizza, ill eat it, how do I stop myself from impulse eating in these situations?", "Stop snacking So my diet is about 80% fine, I cook my meals in advance and generally avoid eating junk. However if someone brings cakes into the office, I'll have one, or if my housemates leave a slice of Pizza, ill eat it, how do I stop myself from impulse eating in these situations?", "Stop snacking So my diet is about 80% fine, I cook my meals in advance and generally avoid eating junk. However if someone brings cakes into the office, I'll have one, or if my housemates leave a slice of Pizza, ill eat it, how do I stop myself from impulse eating in these situations?", "Stop snacking So my diet is about 80% fine, I cook my meals in advance and generally avoid eating junk. However if someone brings cakes into the office, I'll have one, or if my housemates leave a slice of Pizza, ill eat it, how do I stop myself from impulse eating in these situations?", "Stop snacking So my diet is about 80% fine, I cook my meals in advance and generally avoid eating junk. However if someone brings cakes into the office, I'll have one, or if my housemates leave a slice of Pizza, ill eat it, how do I stop myself from impulse eating in these situations?", "Stop snacking So my diet is about 80% fine, I cook my meals in advance and generally avoid eating junk. However if someone brings cakes into the office, I'll have one, or if my housemates leave a slice of Pizza, ill eat it, how do I stop myself from impulse eating in these situations?", "Stop snacking So my diet is about 80% fine, I cook my meals in advance and generally avoid eating junk. However if someone brings cakes into the office, I'll have one, or if my housemates leave a slice of Pizza, ill eat it, how do I stop myself from impulse eating in these situations?", "Stop snacking So my diet is about 80% fine, I cook my meals in advance and generally avoid eating junk. However if someone brings cakes into the office, I'll have one, or if my housemates leave a slice of Pizza, ill eat it, how do I stop myself from impulse eating in these situations?", "Stop snacking So my diet is about 80% fine, I cook my meals in advance and generally avoid eating junk. However if someone brings cakes into the office, I'll have one, or if my housemates leave a slice of Pizza, ill eat it, how do I stop myself from impulse eating in these situations?", "Stop snacking So my diet is about 80% fine, I cook my meals in advance and generally avoid eating junk. However if someone brings cakes into the office, I'll have one, or if my housemates leave a slice of Pizza, ill eat it, how do I stop myself from impulse eating in these situations?", "Stop snacking So my diet is about 80% fine, I cook my meals in advance and generally avoid eating junk. However if someone brings cakes into the office, I'll have one, or if my housemates leave a slice of Pizza, ill eat it, how do I stop myself from impulse eating in these situations?", "Stop snacking So my diet is about 80% fine, I cook my meals in advance and generally avoid eating junk. However if someone brings cakes into the office, I'll have one, or if my housemates leave a slice of Pizza, ill eat it, how do I stop myself from impulse eating in these situations?" ]

[ "It's normal to snack throughout the day. Bring baby carrots into work and snack on those instead of the pizza/cake. If that doesn't work buy mints, chew sugar-free gum or eat non-salted sunflower/pumpkin seeds.", "Drink water instead or have your own healthy snacks(for example raisins or nuts). This way you still are eating or drinking and are part of the group. It needs will power but it is much better for you. \n", "tell everyone how much of a vegan or athiest or P90Xer you are. They'll stop inviting you to fun times where the cake & pizza are.", "Use a fitness tracker. I do weightwatchers and have an app. You can also use Fitness Pal, which is free. By logging it, you are stopping to think about what you are doing.", "Unfortunately, it is mainly willpower and avoidance. Have a good breakfast, filling but healthy meals, have fruit on hand and drink lots of tea / water / coffee. With workmates bringing snacks in it was difficult to start with but I got in the habit of just not partaking. ", "Check that your main meals have a high glycemic index (GI). The nutrients should slowly release energy, so that you don't get a sugar rush followed by low blood sugar.\n\nSee that what you eat as a snack isn't unhealthy and low GI.\n\nFinally, why do have to react to a benign hunger by immediately eating? Hunger releases ghrelin hormones that are associated with happiness. I usually get most done just *before* lunch or when at work at night, postponing dinner for many hours.", "Nothing wrong with healthy snacking =), but if you ate looking to avoid it all together just drink two large glasses of water.", "I work out how long I'd have to run to work off that cake. Is it really worth running for 30 minutes to work off that cake? Sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't.\n\nAlso in the office, I let myself have any junk food only after having two bits of fruit. Often the impulse passes.", "I find that a lot of snacking has to do with boredom as well. By asking yourself if you are truly hungry or if you're just eating because you aren't sure what else to do can help. ", "Glass of ice water works great for me. If I really want an unhealthy snack, I immediately down a glass while heading towards my safe snacks.", "If you cut out gluten its very easy to avoid the \"bad\" snacks. Now when I'm itching for a snack, tortilla chips and salsa or some carrots seems equally appetizing as pizza or cookies. It will take a while for your taste preferences to realign but it will happen.", "Don't be so hard on yourself. You can have one slice of pizza once in awhile. If you're obsessing about calorie intake, skip dessert after dinner that night" ]

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[ "How to make a LONG term paper appear SHORTER. I know this sounds like an odd request, but my topic is pretty lengthy and I have a lot of information to pack into it, and I'm worried I won't be able to fit everything I want to say. My teacher has specific guidelines: no more than 12 pages, double-spaced, Times New Roman, 12 point font. I know plenty of tricks to stretch a paper and make it appear longer - can anyone recommend ways to compress this one into 12 pages while maintaining all of my teacher's guidelines?", "How to make a LONG term paper appear SHORTER. I know this sounds like an odd request, but my topic is pretty lengthy and I have a lot of information to pack into it, and I'm worried I won't be able to fit everything I want to say. My teacher has specific guidelines: no more than 12 pages, double-spaced, Times New Roman, 12 point font. I know plenty of tricks to stretch a paper and make it appear longer - can anyone recommend ways to compress this one into 12 pages while maintaining all of my teacher's guidelines?", "How to make a LONG term paper appear SHORTER. I know this sounds like an odd request, but my topic is pretty lengthy and I have a lot of information to pack into it, and I'm worried I won't be able to fit everything I want to say. My teacher has specific guidelines: no more than 12 pages, double-spaced, Times New Roman, 12 point font. I know plenty of tricks to stretch a paper and make it appear longer - can anyone recommend ways to compress this one into 12 pages while maintaining all of my teacher's guidelines?", "How to make a LONG term paper appear SHORTER. I know this sounds like an odd request, but my topic is pretty lengthy and I have a lot of information to pack into it, and I'm worried I won't be able to fit everything I want to say. My teacher has specific guidelines: no more than 12 pages, double-spaced, Times New Roman, 12 point font. I know plenty of tricks to stretch a paper and make it appear longer - can anyone recommend ways to compress this one into 12 pages while maintaining all of my teacher's guidelines?", "How to make a LONG term paper appear SHORTER. I know this sounds like an odd request, but my topic is pretty lengthy and I have a lot of information to pack into it, and I'm worried I won't be able to fit everything I want to say. My teacher has specific guidelines: no more than 12 pages, double-spaced, Times New Roman, 12 point font. I know plenty of tricks to stretch a paper and make it appear longer - can anyone recommend ways to compress this one into 12 pages while maintaining all of my teacher's guidelines?", "How to make a LONG term paper appear SHORTER. I know this sounds like an odd request, but my topic is pretty lengthy and I have a lot of information to pack into it, and I'm worried I won't be able to fit everything I want to say. My teacher has specific guidelines: no more than 12 pages, double-spaced, Times New Roman, 12 point font. I know plenty of tricks to stretch a paper and make it appear longer - can anyone recommend ways to compress this one into 12 pages while maintaining all of my teacher's guidelines?", "How to make a LONG term paper appear SHORTER. I know this sounds like an odd request, but my topic is pretty lengthy and I have a lot of information to pack into it, and I'm worried I won't be able to fit everything I want to say. My teacher has specific guidelines: no more than 12 pages, double-spaced, Times New Roman, 12 point font. I know plenty of tricks to stretch a paper and make it appear longer - can anyone recommend ways to compress this one into 12 pages while maintaining all of my teacher's guidelines?", "How to make a LONG term paper appear SHORTER. I know this sounds like an odd request, but my topic is pretty lengthy and I have a lot of information to pack into it, and I'm worried I won't be able to fit everything I want to say. My teacher has specific guidelines: no more than 12 pages, double-spaced, Times New Roman, 12 point font. I know plenty of tricks to stretch a paper and make it appear longer - can anyone recommend ways to compress this one into 12 pages while maintaining all of my teacher's guidelines?" ]

[ "Cut out unnecessary text. Remove it. \n\nA good paper should be like a skirt: Long enough to cover the subject, but short enough to keep it interesting. ", "Don't make it appear shorter - make it actually shorter. \n\nWrite your paper as long as you want, then revise it down to meet the criteria. It'll give you a better paper & avoid pissing off the person marking your work.\n\nSeriously, having been in academia, I hated getting work where someone had tried to be \"clever\" with the specified format because it meant I'd be stuck correcting it for that much longer (as well as getting eyestrain). If I've budgeted 15 minutes per script for 50 scripts (about a day and a half of marking), & yours took me 30 minutes, I'm not going to be lauding you. I'm going to be annoyed you stole 15 minutes of my life by not following the clear instructions.", "Take out the vowels.\n\nOK seriously, narrow the focus to cover the most important aspect of your paper.\n\n“I didn't have time to write a short letter, so I wrote a long one instead.” --attributed to various people", "You don't need a lifeprotip for this. You need some common sense. Go through your paper and examine all the information you have \"packed into it\". Determine which parts of this information provide the least support or are the most extraneous to what you are discussing. Cut them out. Analyze your sentence structure and remove unnecessary clutter. Look for similarly constructed sentences and combine them into one compound sentence. Rephrase things to be more concise. There's no trick here.", "Use plurals, not singular nouns. This decreases \"the\" and \"a\". \n\nUse gerunds, not infinitives. \"It is important to cut costs\" becomes \"Cutting costs is important.\"\n\n", "Print it out. Get a highlighter, sharpie marker and a fine point pen. First run highlighter for stuff that is correct and most important. Second run, sharpie for stuff that can go without effecting much. Third run is the pen. Combine sentences that have similar ideas. Reword and reorganize sentences, remove unneeded words. Combine paragraphs. \n\n", "If the teacher insists on double spacing, make it 1.9 instead. It's hard to notice, but it adds up.\n\nReduce the kerning (spacing between letters) a little. When each letter is closer to the one before it, the words take less room. Thus you get more words per line, more lines per page.\n\nReduce your margins a smidge.", "Do you have many direct quotes from other sources? If so - Summarize the ideas in your own words in a more succinct way. This takes more thinking but can reduce the word count.\n\nLook for where you repeat yourself. \n\nIf you're really over your limit, you might need to reframe your topic - reduce the scope of your paper in some way so you can omit an entire chunk or two." ]

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[ "How to find music that I like Spotify and Pandora seem to regurgitate the same old music and artists.", "How to find music that I like Spotify and Pandora seem to regurgitate the same old music and artists.", "How to find music that I like Spotify and Pandora seem to regurgitate the same old music and artists." ]

[ "u can use last.fm to find similar artists as what you are currently listening to. Also, Apple music has some good podcasts that i check, always some great new music somewhere. ", "I recommend the website rateyourmusic. There you can find charts to each music genre you're into and look up which albums or artist have a good rating, based upon the votings of thousands of users. Sort them by rating and start listening to the first ones in the list. Worked well for me several times already.\n\nAlso nice: the mobile app \"Flow Music\" by \"Drowning Zebra\" (for Android, I don't know if there are other versions). It will recommend new bands that are closely linked to the band name you type in and draw a nice visual network of the constellation. The algorithm is a bit obscure, but it delivers new possibilities to listen to.", "I've had good experiences with Spotify's weekly recommended list, but i guess it depends person to person.\n\nIf you enjoy some form of EDM. I'd recommend going on SoundCloud/mixcloud/mixesdb and listen to a DJ set by someone you already enjoy then Shazam/SoundHound anything you like the sound of. Effectively, this is the artist sharing their favourite stuff. This works for me but only really with EDM." ]

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[ "How to get up in the morning Besides literally forcing myself to get out of bed I'm wondering how people can hear their alarm and feel OK with getting right out of bed. I feel like I have to hit snooze for a minimum of a half hour before I feel ready to get up in the morning.", "How to get up in the morning Besides literally forcing myself to get out of bed I'm wondering how people can hear their alarm and feel OK with getting right out of bed. I feel like I have to hit snooze for a minimum of a half hour before I feel ready to get up in the morning.", "How to get up in the morning Besides literally forcing myself to get out of bed I'm wondering how people can hear their alarm and feel OK with getting right out of bed. I feel like I have to hit snooze for a minimum of a half hour before I feel ready to get up in the morning.", "How to get up in the morning Besides literally forcing myself to get out of bed I'm wondering how people can hear their alarm and feel OK with getting right out of bed. I feel like I have to hit snooze for a minimum of a half hour before I feel ready to get up in the morning.", "How to get up in the morning Besides literally forcing myself to get out of bed I'm wondering how people can hear their alarm and feel OK with getting right out of bed. I feel like I have to hit snooze for a minimum of a half hour before I feel ready to get up in the morning.", "How to get up in the morning Besides literally forcing myself to get out of bed I'm wondering how people can hear their alarm and feel OK with getting right out of bed. I feel like I have to hit snooze for a minimum of a half hour before I feel ready to get up in the morning.", "How to get up in the morning Besides literally forcing myself to get out of bed I'm wondering how people can hear their alarm and feel OK with getting right out of bed. I feel like I have to hit snooze for a minimum of a half hour before I feel ready to get up in the morning." ]

[ "This might sound odd but I used to have a really hard time getting up when my alarm went off I would snooze it for up to an hour sometimes but once I started drinking more water it's easier to get up now. Are you dehydrated at all? Also ensuring I get enough sleep has really helped. I go to bed with 10 hours until I need to get up, this way if I do snooze it's no harm but typically I will naturally wake up before my alarm. That didn't happen at first thought it took me about a month of 10 hour sleeping to start waking up by my body clock. ", "It sounds lame and obvious, but get up when you're alarm goes off the first time. Once you're up you'll feel better than if you had pressed snooze. All those 9/10 minute intervals do is get you comfy again it isn't enough time to get into another sleep cycle. As for motivation to actually get up... that's on you. ", "Spend a week getting drunk and forcing yourself to get up for work with a hangover. After that getting up when you've not been drinking the previous night is life on easy mode. ", "So i used to be a snoozer but that all changed when i wanted to get up and enjoy the day instead of sleep.\nI was getting into mountain biking and i was deciding on which bike i should get. A big decision because they are expensive. I didn't have enough time after work with kid and supper etc. So i decided to get up 30 minutes early to read and daydream.....oh yeah drink coffee!\nI also realized that i could read a lot better in the morning.\nwell that 30 minutes turned to an hour. \nI do go to bed at a decent hour but even when i stay up late i will still jump out of bed for my morning routine.\nwife thinks its unhealthy to get out of bed so quickly.\n\nSo get something you really want to do once you get out of bed.", "It's like any other \"bad\" habit, you have to just do it, make the change, until it becomes common place. \n\nI'm not saying this specifically is a bad habit, you just view it as one in your situation.", "I used to always hit snooze for about 30 min and I think that's perfectly fine. It helps me mentally prepare for the day. I just set my alarm 30 minutes earlier and that works.\n\nRecently, though, it started getting out of hands. I completely lost track of time and would end up hitting snooze for two hours or more, constantly being late. I now got a hold of that again: I'd set my alarm as usual, and additionally set an alarm on my phone 30 mins later. The phone is placed out of reach.\n\nWhen I hear the phone, I know that I've been snoozing for long enough and it's time to get up. That worked for me.\n\nI have also tried just placing my alarm clock out of reach, so to get up immediately, but that didn't work. Morning me would end up turning off the alarm and going back to sleep either way. One morning, I woke up hugging the alarm clock - I had no recollection of how it got in my bed.\n\nThat's why I still snooze. It gives me some time to wake up enough to realize that I can't just go back to sleep after getting up to turn off the phone.", "see, what I don't get is that you put your alarm 30 min before you need to get up, instead of sleeping 30 more. we all want to stay in bed, some just don't like to waste their time with a snooze. just stand up and start your day." ]

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[ "How to stay in touch with people? May sound a little dumb, but how do you keep track of people you need to reach out to, in order to keep in touch with them? Do it all in your head, or do you have a system (electronic?) which helps you?", "How to stay in touch with people? May sound a little dumb, but how do you keep track of people you need to reach out to, in order to keep in touch with them? Do it all in your head, or do you have a system (electronic?) which helps you?", "How to stay in touch with people? May sound a little dumb, but how do you keep track of people you need to reach out to, in order to keep in touch with them? Do it all in your head, or do you have a system (electronic?) which helps you?" ]

[ "I have a reminder set up to call my brother on Fridays, my dad on Saturdays, and my mom on Sundays. \n\nOne month reminders are set for anyone's birthday that I plan on sending a card to or getting a gift for. \n\nWhenever a close friend has a loss, I mark that on my calendar too, those can be rough anniversaries to go through alone. \n\nI also make it a point, when a loved one crosses my mind, I type out a quick email, text, or write a quick note. I try to do it as soon as I think about the person, so I wont forget.", "Dunno man... people just kinda float away after a time when they are away.. Get used to people leaving and call them once in a while. Get on with life", "This will be an unpopular answer here on reddit, but Facebook is pretty useful for this. Birthday reminders, chat features, keeping up with day to day happenings. You don't to get sucked into the negatives but it is a powerful tool if you use it correctly" ]

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[ "cold in the mornings? It's that time of the year again where it's freezing in the mornings; and getting out of bed is infinitely harder because of the cold weather. The same with getting out of the shower so is there anything I could possibly do?", "cold in the mornings? It's that time of the year again where it's freezing in the mornings; and getting out of bed is infinitely harder because of the cold weather. The same with getting out of the shower so is there anything I could possibly do?", "cold in the mornings? It's that time of the year again where it's freezing in the mornings; and getting out of bed is infinitely harder because of the cold weather. The same with getting out of the shower so is there anything I could possibly do?", "cold in the mornings? It's that time of the year again where it's freezing in the mornings; and getting out of bed is infinitely harder because of the cold weather. The same with getting out of the shower so is there anything I could possibly do?", "cold in the mornings? It's that time of the year again where it's freezing in the mornings; and getting out of bed is infinitely harder because of the cold weather. The same with getting out of the shower so is there anything I could possibly do?", "cold in the mornings? It's that time of the year again where it's freezing in the mornings; and getting out of bed is infinitely harder because of the cold weather. The same with getting out of the shower so is there anything I could possibly do?", "cold in the mornings? It's that time of the year again where it's freezing in the mornings; and getting out of bed is infinitely harder because of the cold weather. The same with getting out of the shower so is there anything I could possibly do?" ]

[ "If I know it's going to be a cold morning, the night before I leave a thermos with hot tea by the bed, so I can have a hot drink right after I wake up and even before getting out of bed. It also helps waking up and avoiding the temptation of going back to sleep. ", "If you have a digital thermostat, set it to start warming the home 30 minutes before you wake up, also I've left my dehumidifier in the bathroom with the door shut over night, it dries the air out and keeps it toasty warm in the mornings when i shower and then keeps condensation and humidity low after long hot showers. ", "What you're going to want to do is rip up all of your flooring and install in-floor heating. \n\nIt may cost a few thousand dollars, but it's so much more practical than setting your thermostat to start warming your house 30 minutes before you wake up ", "When Native Americans wanted to wake up early in the morning to attack another tribe they would all drink a lot of water before bed. (source: [The Simpsons](http://www.springfieldspringfield.co.uk/view_episode_scripts.php?episode=s09e10)) They would naturally wake up needing to pee and that would get them up early and out of bed. I always do that the night before I have an important early meeting.", "If you use a space heater, go buy an outlet timer. Have to set to turn the heater on an hour before you wake up. ", "I keep a sweatshirt near my bed that I throw on, and I start my day with a hot coffee or Yerba mate. Then again, I live in Florida...", "Depending on size of your bathroom I could seriously consider in-floor heating. Price I came up with is between $6-$16/sq ft. Now for a small bathroom like mines, that comes out to roughly $600 because I live in a tiny condo with a tiny bathroom. Also, the whole floor doesn't need to be heated. Just the small area where you will actually be stepping in.\n\nMy bathroom is lined with travertine tiles. I know, fancy, the previous owner put it in, not me. I just got lucky. It's set to a thermostat where I can make it as hot as I want. I can set it as high as 90F but I don't think it's a good idea to make it that warm. Usually, it's a toasty 75F.\n\nWhen I first moved in, I tested it to see how much energy it costed me. It was easy because for the first month I lived there I had no idea how to turn it on. I looked at my electricity bill. Then, the next month, I finally figured out how to turn it on, I looked at my bill. I used roughly the same electricity as the previous month and there was virtually no difference.\n\nSo I can tell you that my in-floor heating doesn't cost hardly nothing, pennies. I will also say that when I go in my bathroom at 11:00pm every night to brush my teeth, I take my socks off so I can walk in there bare toes and all because I'm going to enjoy the hell out of that warm tiled floor.\n\nYou know what's funny? During winter here in Seattle when it gets below 30F, that tiled floor is often the warmest thing in my entire condo. " ]

[ 10, 4, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to reduce noise from nosy neighbors? This problem didn’t start until after I turned off my window unit and the fans on my apartment. The walls in my apartment complex are THIN. Thin enough that I share a shower wall with my next door neighbor and I can literally hear him singing in the shower. That’s not the problem though. My neighbors across the hall from me play their music pretty loud, and I can hear it in perfect detail from my place. I’m pretty over it at this point, but I’m terrified of conflict and I don’t want them to ask them to turn it down. The walls are so thin that I can hear them opening their cupboards, so their music is probably not even that loud it’s just the walls. Would acoustic tiles work to keep out the noise?\n\nPlease no advice to go talk to them, I don’t resent them for the music and I’d like to go about this without confrontation.", "How to reduce noise from nosy neighbors? This problem didn’t start until after I turned off my window unit and the fans on my apartment. The walls in my apartment complex are THIN. Thin enough that I share a shower wall with my next door neighbor and I can literally hear him singing in the shower. That’s not the problem though. My neighbors across the hall from me play their music pretty loud, and I can hear it in perfect detail from my place. I’m pretty over it at this point, but I’m terrified of conflict and I don’t want them to ask them to turn it down. The walls are so thin that I can hear them opening their cupboards, so their music is probably not even that loud it’s just the walls. Would acoustic tiles work to keep out the noise?\n\nPlease no advice to go talk to them, I don’t resent them for the music and I’d like to go about this without confrontation.", "How to reduce noise from nosy neighbors? This problem didn’t start until after I turned off my window unit and the fans on my apartment. The walls in my apartment complex are THIN. Thin enough that I share a shower wall with my next door neighbor and I can literally hear him singing in the shower. That’s not the problem though. My neighbors across the hall from me play their music pretty loud, and I can hear it in perfect detail from my place. I’m pretty over it at this point, but I’m terrified of conflict and I don’t want them to ask them to turn it down. The walls are so thin that I can hear them opening their cupboards, so their music is probably not even that loud it’s just the walls. Would acoustic tiles work to keep out the noise?\n\nPlease no advice to go talk to them, I don’t resent them for the music and I’d like to go about this without confrontation.", "How to reduce noise from nosy neighbors? This problem didn’t start until after I turned off my window unit and the fans on my apartment. The walls in my apartment complex are THIN. Thin enough that I share a shower wall with my next door neighbor and I can literally hear him singing in the shower. That’s not the problem though. My neighbors across the hall from me play their music pretty loud, and I can hear it in perfect detail from my place. I’m pretty over it at this point, but I’m terrified of conflict and I don’t want them to ask them to turn it down. The walls are so thin that I can hear them opening their cupboards, so their music is probably not even that loud it’s just the walls. Would acoustic tiles work to keep out the noise?\n\nPlease no advice to go talk to them, I don’t resent them for the music and I’d like to go about this without confrontation.", "How to reduce noise from nosy neighbors? This problem didn’t start until after I turned off my window unit and the fans on my apartment. The walls in my apartment complex are THIN. Thin enough that I share a shower wall with my next door neighbor and I can literally hear him singing in the shower. That’s not the problem though. My neighbors across the hall from me play their music pretty loud, and I can hear it in perfect detail from my place. I’m pretty over it at this point, but I’m terrified of conflict and I don’t want them to ask them to turn it down. The walls are so thin that I can hear them opening their cupboards, so their music is probably not even that loud it’s just the walls. Would acoustic tiles work to keep out the noise?\n\nPlease no advice to go talk to them, I don’t resent them for the music and I’d like to go about this without confrontation.", "How to reduce noise from nosy neighbors? This problem didn’t start until after I turned off my window unit and the fans on my apartment. The walls in my apartment complex are THIN. Thin enough that I share a shower wall with my next door neighbor and I can literally hear him singing in the shower. That’s not the problem though. My neighbors across the hall from me play their music pretty loud, and I can hear it in perfect detail from my place. I’m pretty over it at this point, but I’m terrified of conflict and I don’t want them to ask them to turn it down. The walls are so thin that I can hear them opening their cupboards, so their music is probably not even that loud it’s just the walls. Would acoustic tiles work to keep out the noise?\n\nPlease no advice to go talk to them, I don’t resent them for the music and I’d like to go about this without confrontation.", "How to reduce noise from nosy neighbors? This problem didn’t start until after I turned off my window unit and the fans on my apartment. The walls in my apartment complex are THIN. Thin enough that I share a shower wall with my next door neighbor and I can literally hear him singing in the shower. That’s not the problem though. My neighbors across the hall from me play their music pretty loud, and I can hear it in perfect detail from my place. I’m pretty over it at this point, but I’m terrified of conflict and I don’t want them to ask them to turn it down. The walls are so thin that I can hear them opening their cupboards, so their music is probably not even that loud it’s just the walls. Would acoustic tiles work to keep out the noise?\n\nPlease no advice to go talk to them, I don’t resent them for the music and I’d like to go about this without confrontation.", "How to reduce noise from nosy neighbors? This problem didn’t start until after I turned off my window unit and the fans on my apartment. The walls in my apartment complex are THIN. Thin enough that I share a shower wall with my next door neighbor and I can literally hear him singing in the shower. That’s not the problem though. My neighbors across the hall from me play their music pretty loud, and I can hear it in perfect detail from my place. I’m pretty over it at this point, but I’m terrified of conflict and I don’t want them to ask them to turn it down. The walls are so thin that I can hear them opening their cupboards, so their music is probably not even that loud it’s just the walls. Would acoustic tiles work to keep out the noise?\n\nPlease no advice to go talk to them, I don’t resent them for the music and I’d like to go about this without confrontation.", "How to reduce noise from nosy neighbors? This problem didn’t start until after I turned off my window unit and the fans on my apartment. The walls in my apartment complex are THIN. Thin enough that I share a shower wall with my next door neighbor and I can literally hear him singing in the shower. That’s not the problem though. My neighbors across the hall from me play their music pretty loud, and I can hear it in perfect detail from my place. I’m pretty over it at this point, but I’m terrified of conflict and I don’t want them to ask them to turn it down. The walls are so thin that I can hear them opening their cupboards, so their music is probably not even that loud it’s just the walls. Would acoustic tiles work to keep out the noise?\n\nPlease no advice to go talk to them, I don’t resent them for the music and I’d like to go about this without confrontation.", "How to reduce noise from nosy neighbors? This problem didn’t start until after I turned off my window unit and the fans on my apartment. The walls in my apartment complex are THIN. Thin enough that I share a shower wall with my next door neighbor and I can literally hear him singing in the shower. That’s not the problem though. My neighbors across the hall from me play their music pretty loud, and I can hear it in perfect detail from my place. I’m pretty over it at this point, but I’m terrified of conflict and I don’t want them to ask them to turn it down. The walls are so thin that I can hear them opening their cupboards, so their music is probably not even that loud it’s just the walls. Would acoustic tiles work to keep out the noise?\n\nPlease no advice to go talk to them, I don’t resent them for the music and I’d like to go about this without confrontation." ]

[ "Look into soundproofing. Obviously you can't tear the wall apart but you can buy a soundproofing blanket or curtain and hang it against the common wall (decoratively if you are lucky). \n\nYou can also place furniture on that wall, like a bookcase or TV. That'll do something.\n\nI'd also guess that those foam things could help but I don't know anything about them.\n\nAlso, based on the window unit & fans being a positive helper, a white noise machine might work for canceling out their noise?", "I had to buy really good noise canceling headphones to stop yelling and playing my music very loud so I didn't hear then so much.\n\nIt's the banging and l pounding that really drive me nuts because it's quiet or relatively quiet and then BANG BANG BANG. Makes me jump out of my skin every time!\n\nThe regular noises aren't their fault, crappy walls with no insulting. 😔", "Nope. Tiles are for \"tuning\" the sound *within* your room. That is, adjusting the reverberation time, tone quality, etc.\n\nUnfortunately, effective soundproofing is expensive. It consists of sealing all air leaks, beefing up the thin walls with extra layers of drywall etc. Save up for a better apartment or a detached home. 😞", "is it possible to speak with the landlord or manager without giving specific details of who the problem tenants are? perhaps management could step in and enforce some rules. you are entitled to peaceable enjoyment of your apartment.", "Honestly I just wear cheap earplugs at night to kinda dampen most of the neighbor-noise.\n\nHowever you could potentially play music LOUDER than your neighbor if it's during the day, directed at that shared wall, and hope they catch the hint that they're being obnoxious. I've had some success with that in the past.", "Get someone with commonsense (rare) to assess the level of noise to see if its them or you are the problem. If it's you, then you may need to leave for a place with much better noise insulation.", "The best way is to slip a note and be polite if you don't want to confront them. The best thing is just having a chat about how easy it is to hear through the walls. \n\nI just had the worst neighbors move out, thank god. They were so fucking stupid, like actually stupid, they had no idea how their presence affected the rest of the building. \n\nChances are your dudes have no clue.", "One option if you don't want to move is you could look into installing a serious sound masking -white noise system- for yourself / neighbors. They are really simple to install.", "I'd just report their asses. They don't care to disturb others, so don't stress over getting them in trouble.", "If you know how, dry wall is not that expensive. take down the old pack it into the wall put in sound deadening and put up new dry wall." ]

[ 27, 14, 13, 6, 3, 3, 1, 1, -1, -2 ]

[ "Passing Big Trucks When passing big rigs on the interstate in hilly country, it's often better to pass them going uphill, not downhill. Big trucks need to speed up going downhill to keep momentum for the next uphill climb, and if you try to pass them in those situations, you sometimes have to go *really* fast to get around them. Maybe faster than you are comfortable with. Instead, bide your time, wait for the hill, and make your move.", "Passing Big Trucks When passing big rigs on the interstate in hilly country, it's often better to pass them going uphill, not downhill. Big trucks need to speed up going downhill to keep momentum for the next uphill climb, and if you try to pass them in those situations, you sometimes have to go *really* fast to get around them. Maybe faster than you are comfortable with. Instead, bide your time, wait for the hill, and make your move.", "Passing Big Trucks When passing big rigs on the interstate in hilly country, it's often better to pass them going uphill, not downhill. Big trucks need to speed up going downhill to keep momentum for the next uphill climb, and if you try to pass them in those situations, you sometimes have to go *really* fast to get around them. Maybe faster than you are comfortable with. Instead, bide your time, wait for the hill, and make your move.", "Passing Big Trucks When passing big rigs on the interstate in hilly country, it's often better to pass them going uphill, not downhill. Big trucks need to speed up going downhill to keep momentum for the next uphill climb, and if you try to pass them in those situations, you sometimes have to go *really* fast to get around them. Maybe faster than you are comfortable with. Instead, bide your time, wait for the hill, and make your move.", "Passing Big Trucks When passing big rigs on the interstate in hilly country, it's often better to pass them going uphill, not downhill. Big trucks need to speed up going downhill to keep momentum for the next uphill climb, and if you try to pass them in those situations, you sometimes have to go *really* fast to get around them. Maybe faster than you are comfortable with. Instead, bide your time, wait for the hill, and make your move." ]

[ "And leave some room in front before moving back over. I wait till I can see both headlights in my rear view mirror.", "Only pass on straight aways, stay far ahead or behind so you're not in their blind spots, and don't be one of those idiots who slows down in front of them.", "And overtake from the correct side (Driver side). Trying to overtake a big vehicle from wrong side is suicidal if the driver in front chooses to turn it towards you for some reason.", "Also, keep an eye on the front left wheel of the truck as you pass. Where that wheel goes the rest of the truck will soon follow. \n\nAnd, try not to pass trucks as you approach onramps. Often times a truck in the outside lane will try to move over to accommodate merging traffic from an onramp, weigh stations, rest areas, etc.", "Pass all trucks on the left, if you pass a truck on the right there is a huge blind spot. Also if you cant see his mirrors he cant see you." ]

[ 5, 3, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "What makes for an excellent \"mental health day\"? How do you spend a free day resetting and recuperating? How do you effectively rejuvenate after an exhausting few months?", "What makes for an excellent \"mental health day\"? How do you spend a free day resetting and recuperating? How do you effectively rejuvenate after an exhausting few months?", "What makes for an excellent \"mental health day\"? How do you spend a free day resetting and recuperating? How do you effectively rejuvenate after an exhausting few months?", "What makes for an excellent \"mental health day\"? How do you spend a free day resetting and recuperating? How do you effectively rejuvenate after an exhausting few months?", "What makes for an excellent \"mental health day\"? How do you spend a free day resetting and recuperating? How do you effectively rejuvenate after an exhausting few months?", "What makes for an excellent \"mental health day\"? How do you spend a free day resetting and recuperating? How do you effectively rejuvenate after an exhausting few months?", "What makes for an excellent \"mental health day\"? How do you spend a free day resetting and recuperating? How do you effectively rejuvenate after an exhausting few months?", "What makes for an excellent \"mental health day\"? How do you spend a free day resetting and recuperating? How do you effectively rejuvenate after an exhausting few months?", "What makes for an excellent \"mental health day\"? How do you spend a free day resetting and recuperating? How do you effectively rejuvenate after an exhausting few months?", "What makes for an excellent \"mental health day\"? How do you spend a free day resetting and recuperating? How do you effectively rejuvenate after an exhausting few months?" ]

[ "When in therapy I had to make lists of things that cost energy and things that give me energy. I do things from the gives energy list. For me that is usually attending to my plants and or garden, playing the harp, go for a walk in nature or paint my nails. The list is long, but those are the things I choose most often.\n\n\nAlso I try to make it so that at the end of the day I finish with energy instead of only doing things that cost energy. I had to change my entire life, but I practically never need a mental health day anymore, because my life isn't toxic to me, it gives me energy.", "I find just looking back and seeing everything that you've done is very relaxing and makes you proud of yourself, like damn I really did that.", "Hot shower,chill music. Eat some nice food.\n\nMaybe go to the cinema or do something else that you like.\n\nIf you want Hang out with friends.\n\nJust do stuff that makes you feel good.", "Clean your pad the day before. \n\nStart the morning with a fat joint. \n\nWatch movies in bed until noon. \n\nAnother joint and a long hot shower. \n\nPlay video games for a few hours, nap. \n\nPlay video games or movies until dinner. \n\nOrder a pizza. Smoke a joint. \n\nEat the pizza. Smoke a joint. \n\nMore video games and movies. Possibly a pint of ice cream. \n\nSmoke a joint, sleep.", "Lego is really good. Just some straight mindful practice. Non-competitive, constructive videogames; going to the movies; preparing a nice meal. Swimming in the ocean if you have access, or going for a long walk in a novel environment - natural or urban. \n\nEven just pottering around the house with music on and a slow aim to get it organised and tidy is very good.", "Spent an entire Friday with a girlfriend in bed just absolutely tearing a hotel room apart having sex. Showered, went and grabbed a light and healthy lunch, and went back and wrecked it out again all afternoon. Just exploring each other like teenagers. Another shower, big dinner, went home and crashed. Slept like a baby until about noon on Saturday.\n\nBest day off ever. Endorphins and adrenaline.", "Spend the day doing one if your favorite hobbies, get outside and soak up some sun and nature. Binge Netflix all day. Spend the day with a friend or kid doing something fun. Just do something that prevents you from thinking/worrying about work or responsibilities and makes you smile.", "My favorite coffee shop and a pastry, a nature walk or bike ride along the river, and a visit to the plant nursery without my kids so I can look at everything they sell and spend a ridiculous amount of time there. Lunch is an extravagant salad eaten outside, then a nap.", "Depends what you enjoy personally I suppose, I would probably spend the day making nice food for myself and watching movies or reading or playing video games, maybe drawing or writing or something creative. Get a nice walk in there and maybe a relaxing bath and a glass of wine. That would be an ideal relaxation day for me", "Cold showers. They're not for everybody but they really are. It's like getting a massive burst of energy and starting your morning right. For a LPT start out warm and keep adjusting it to cold. Once you get it to the point where you naturally start breathing fast that's where it kicks in. Putting on warm clothes after feels amazing. Driving to work and not feeling all puffy faced and groggy really changes how your day goes.\n\nIn another LPT thread, some things I do to this day:\n\nWhen you get home or finish a task, don't put it down, put it away. This keeps things organized and cuts down any mess or clutter from building around your place.\n\nMake a to-do list with check boxes and check them off as you go.\n\nCall someone you've haven't talked to in a while and catch up.\n\nIf you're in a public setting, instead of doing the ole passerby smirk n nod, actually smile. Think of something funny or warming maybe. It might be a half second but it's awesome to watch people light up from what is normally a dry and useless interaction.\n\nTo second the previous one, at any checkout counter or exchange, instead of saying \"How's it goin?\" really ask \"How's YOUR day going?\" That almost always turns into a good or fun interaction. And if they snap out of autopilot and feel better, I feel better. \n\nYour day is always filled with opportunities to be brighter and in the case of this post, give you energy." ]

[ 12, 6, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

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How do people keep their eyes open with flash? Is there a trick where to look, i.e. not directly at the camera lens?\n\nAll advice would be appreciated. As someone who isn't disfigured but looks so in 90% of photos, social or otherwise, I hope there's a simple trick I've just not yet been taught!", "How to not look retarded in photos How can one not look retarded in photos? Is there a certain face photogenic people pull? How do people keep their eyes open with flash? Is there a trick where to look, i.e. not directly at the camera lens?\n\nAll advice would be appreciated. As someone who isn't disfigured but looks so in 90% of photos, social or otherwise, I hope there's a simple trick I've just not yet been taught!", "How to not look retarded in photos How can one not look retarded in photos? Is there a certain face photogenic people pull? How do people keep their eyes open with flash? Is there a trick where to look, i.e. not directly at the camera lens?\n\nAll advice would be appreciated. As someone who isn't disfigured but looks so in 90% of photos, social or otherwise, I hope there's a simple trick I've just not yet been taught!", "How to not look retarded in photos How can one not look retarded in photos? Is there a certain face photogenic people pull? How do people keep their eyes open with flash? Is there a trick where to look, i.e. not directly at the camera lens?\n\nAll advice would be appreciated. As someone who isn't disfigured but looks so in 90% of photos, social or otherwise, I hope there's a simple trick I've just not yet been taught!", "How to not look retarded in photos How can one not look retarded in photos? Is there a certain face photogenic people pull? How do people keep their eyes open with flash? Is there a trick where to look, i.e. not directly at the camera lens?\n\nAll advice would be appreciated. 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As someone who isn't disfigured but looks so in 90% of photos, social or otherwise, I hope there's a simple trick I've just not yet been taught!", "How to not look retarded in photos How can one not look retarded in photos? Is there a certain face photogenic people pull? How do people keep their eyes open with flash? Is there a trick where to look, i.e. not directly at the camera lens?\n\nAll advice would be appreciated. As someone who isn't disfigured but looks so in 90% of photos, social or otherwise, I hope there's a simple trick I've just not yet been taught!", "How to not look retarded in photos How can one not look retarded in photos? Is there a certain face photogenic people pull? How do people keep their eyes open with flash? Is there a trick where to look, i.e. not directly at the camera lens?\n\nAll advice would be appreciated. As someone who isn't disfigured but looks so in 90% of photos, social or otherwise, I hope there's a simple trick I've just not yet been taught!", "How to not look retarded in photos How can one not look retarded in photos? Is there a certain face photogenic people pull? How do people keep their eyes open with flash? Is there a trick where to look, i.e. not directly at the camera lens?\n\nAll advice would be appreciated. As someone who isn't disfigured but looks so in 90% of photos, social or otherwise, I hope there's a simple trick I've just not yet been taught!" ]

[ "Something photogenic people like to masturbate about is how there's no such thing as being photogenic, which is bullshit. One of the biggest reasons some people are just naturally good photographees is because pictures, at least for the time being, are 2D. All your features get flattened onto the same plane. That's why someone who's quite attractive in real life can look horrible in pictures as well as the opposite. What you see isn't what real life looks like.", "For females, tilt your head down slightly and look upwards. The best models (I mean Monroe etc, not Moss etc) would do this because it looks \"submissive\" which is apparently attractive.\n\nClose your eyes until just before the shot to avoid blinking.\n\nStick your tongue to the roof of your mouth to reduce/remove a double chin.", "Stop caring what you look like in photos. My best photos are ones where I'm having a good time. My worst are ones where I have to pose and look like an idiot.", "i read a study recently that shows most people like their face on photos less than their face in the mirror, the reason: they are just used to seeing their face mirrored.\n\nwhen shown to friends, they preferred the photo-face to the mirror-face. so relax, on the photo, you only look weird to yourself, everyone else thinks you look normal.", "One trick is to \"push\" your forehead foward. It's not the most comfortable position, but it can help with awkward neck flab. If someone can offer some advice on the eyes, though, that'd be great. I either look completely apathetic, or high in every picture.", "Close your eyes up until the final count, if it's not a portrait I try to look just past the photographer, smile with comfort or laugh. Good luck. ", "The Oatmeal just posted something about this today... ;D\n\nhttp://theoatmeal.com/comics/incredible_photos", "Look down until the last minute, then say the word \"Wednesday\" and bring your head up to look at the camera. Saying Wednesday creates a far more natural smile than something like \"Cheese\" which gives one a horrible grimace. ", "If you are smiling in the photograph squint your eyes ever so slightly, it makes the smile a bit more genuine", "There are so many page-long articles or videos about jawline and bullshit like that. Don't listen to those, otherwise you'll look like an idiot who's posing.\n\nStand up straight. Head up high as possible with shoulders behind your ears. If you don't feel like smiling, don't smile. The important thing is to look confident.", "Smile more. Read as: Get someone who has a damn good camera and takes pictures at the right time. [Like so](http://m4.licdn.com/media/p/4/000/166/2c4/23faff8.jpg)", "One thing my model friend taught me is take a deep breath before the photo is being taken, then exhale as it's snapped. Apparently it gives you a more natural smile, and you look thinner. " ]

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[ "What to do when you are feeling lonely? What is the best thing to do when you get the urge to hug someone tight or to simply cuddle, but don't have anyone near you to do so?", "What to do when you are feeling lonely? What is the best thing to do when you get the urge to hug someone tight or to simply cuddle, but don't have anyone near you to do so?", "What to do when you are feeling lonely? What is the best thing to do when you get the urge to hug someone tight or to simply cuddle, but don't have anyone near you to do so?", "What to do when you are feeling lonely? What is the best thing to do when you get the urge to hug someone tight or to simply cuddle, but don't have anyone near you to do so?", "What to do when you are feeling lonely? What is the best thing to do when you get the urge to hug someone tight or to simply cuddle, but don't have anyone near you to do so?", "What to do when you are feeling lonely? What is the best thing to do when you get the urge to hug someone tight or to simply cuddle, but don't have anyone near you to do so?", "What to do when you are feeling lonely? What is the best thing to do when you get the urge to hug someone tight or to simply cuddle, but don't have anyone near you to do so?", "What to do when you are feeling lonely? What is the best thing to do when you get the urge to hug someone tight or to simply cuddle, but don't have anyone near you to do so?", "What to do when you are feeling lonely? What is the best thing to do when you get the urge to hug someone tight or to simply cuddle, but don't have anyone near you to do so?" ]

[ "My wife recently left me and I am a emotional roller coaster. It does get better. I need to keep busy, working out helps me or find local Meetup.com groups and make some friends. \n\nI'm 40, I know full well what it is like to be alone no. In my whole 40+ years, I have NEVER lived alone until now. She and I were together every day. \n\nHang in there. ", "Pets, gym (any kind of work out you enjoy), video games, books, friends, and reddit. Find somethin you enjoy and just do it. Try hiking or bicycling with friends", "Chatting to people on reddit's a good start. Feel for you mate. Remember, you are not alone. Throw all social convention out the door and do some random things you ordinarily wouldn't. Behave differently for a short while and you'll see different responses from people. ", "Walk around a mall, park, downtown, etc. I always prefer somewhere with people I don't know. I've found talking to new people (even if it's just a barista while ordering coffee) is one of the best cures for loneliness. ", "Immediate fix: Do something else. Find something funny or inspirational to watch to change your mood.", "go to a busy place with lots of people. i like to sit on the beach by my house. sometimes i even go out for dinner on my own just to people watch and talk to the waiter/waitress. i also enjoy hiking by myself, saying hi to others on the same path\n", "This is me all of the time, even around people I know. So I usually go somewhere with water for the tranquility, or I go somewhere that I know no one.", "A dog, preferably big and hyper active are the best killers of loneliness. Take them out every day. It also helps you meet other people.", "Get on with other things. Play a game. Watch a film. Phone a friend. \n\nIf you're feeling like shit, dwelling on it ain't exactly gonna make it go away. " ]

[ 14, 5, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, -1 ]

[ "Working a part-time job and a full-time job without losing my mind. Basically, I can kiss days off goodbye and will have some days where I have maybe a half hour between jobs. How do I pull this off without going insane? (This is only temporary, btw)", "Working a part-time job and a full-time job without losing my mind. Basically, I can kiss days off goodbye and will have some days where I have maybe a half hour between jobs. How do I pull this off without going insane? (This is only temporary, btw)", "Working a part-time job and a full-time job without losing my mind. Basically, I can kiss days off goodbye and will have some days where I have maybe a half hour between jobs. How do I pull this off without going insane? (This is only temporary, btw)", "Working a part-time job and a full-time job without losing my mind. Basically, I can kiss days off goodbye and will have some days where I have maybe a half hour between jobs. How do I pull this off without going insane? (This is only temporary, btw)", "Working a part-time job and a full-time job without losing my mind. Basically, I can kiss days off goodbye and will have some days where I have maybe a half hour between jobs. How do I pull this off without going insane? (This is only temporary, btw)" ]

[ "I have terrible ADHD and I work a demanding full time job, and teach dance classes at night. My commute is an hour to my full time job and sometimes up to 2 hours to get from my full time job to my teaching job at night in rush hour. I have a giant list of things I do so I can manage all this. These are the most important:\n\n* Take whatever extra time off you have to prepare your meals in advance so you are able to eat properly while very busy. If I don't do this then I just put off eating because going to buy food takes too long. Make sure they're all things you can eat while you're traveling between jobs - taking into consideration your mode of transport (car commute means things you have to eat with one hand, PT commute means things that aren't stinky, etc) \n\n* Set your travel time up to be your \"me-time\" by downloading podcasts or audio books. If you travel by car, make your car your sanctuary, and use the time to call your friends/family handsfree while you drive. Or just enjoy the quiet. If you take PT then take up a hobby you can carry with you (knitting, writing poetry etc etc)\n\n* Learn to m", "Try to have set schedules at both places. Become hyper organized, if it's not on my calendar, color coded, it's not happening. I work 2 jobs 1st,2nd and 3rd shift (not all the same day, but that has happened). Make time for friends and family. ", "I moved to Washington to work at the best paying job I've had. Wanted more money, so I found another job as a weekend wedding DJ. You give up your weekends, but so what? That's what retirement is for. It's hard, but scheduling is helpful and some times you get a day off. ", "Look at the money you're putting into the bank/towards debt/whatever and it should help you realize it's totally worth it. Depending where the part-time place is, they would probably be understanding if you needed a day off every other week, if it does become too much. Just let them know ahead of time so they can set things up accordingly.", "I work 2 PT jobs (one is seasonal) and travel everywhere by bus. (Meaning an hour or more each way every day.) I'm also in the middle of moving to the next city over. The last two weeks I've worked ~54 hours/wk, and I recently restructured my schedule so that I now get one day off and work 43 hours.\n\nBut I haven't had a day off in three weeks so far and this is what I can share:\n\n1) Remind yourself it is a temporary situation. Like finals week or boot camp. It's so hard for me to keep track of the passage of time when it's the same routine so I use a calendar system to keep myself in the present. It stays on my phone and on my calendar at home.\n\n2) Stay hydrated during the day and get plenty of sleep. I go to bed at roughly the same time each night and it pays off. Taking care of you takes priority. I find ways to relax that don't involve alcohol because the last thing I want to do is go to work the next day feeling awful or start a trend. \nI maximize my awake time at night: for example, by doing laundry while I am making a big batch of food that lasts me more than one meal so lunches don't require purchasing (recently it's been veggie-laden quiche and spaghetti). I'm doing it again with smoothies. Less stress during the morning to get going. \n\n3) If possible, don't isolate yourself from people you know. Skype dates, going out for coffee, having someone over during dinner if you're home are all good ways to feel connected without being lured into social media.\n\n4) Treat yourself on occasion! Nothing too fancy, but recognize your hard work and reward it, either with a planned day off at the end of your boot camp that you can look forward to, or something small at the end of each week - the money I save by making those extra meals at home keeps me from feeling anxiety about purchasing something nice for myself that boosts happiness but isn't an absolute necessity." ]

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[ "How to make witty comebacks to someone who's harmlessly teasing you I'm a generally polite person who's a bit quiet, sensitive and self-conscious, so I tend to attract men who like to tease me to \"come out of my shell,\" but I don't know how to come up with a witty reply. I usually just smile and laugh (because I don't usually take offense) but then there's an awkward moment where they think I'm offended because I didn't say anything back. How can I react in a way that's appropriate? ", "How to make witty comebacks to someone who's harmlessly teasing you I'm a generally polite person who's a bit quiet, sensitive and self-conscious, so I tend to attract men who like to tease me to \"come out of my shell,\" but I don't know how to come up with a witty reply. I usually just smile and laugh (because I don't usually take offense) but then there's an awkward moment where they think I'm offended because I didn't say anything back. How can I react in a way that's appropriate? ", "How to make witty comebacks to someone who's harmlessly teasing you I'm a generally polite person who's a bit quiet, sensitive and self-conscious, so I tend to attract men who like to tease me to \"come out of my shell,\" but I don't know how to come up with a witty reply. I usually just smile and laugh (because I don't usually take offense) but then there's an awkward moment where they think I'm offended because I didn't say anything back. How can I react in a way that's appropriate? ", "How to make witty comebacks to someone who's harmlessly teasing you I'm a generally polite person who's a bit quiet, sensitive and self-conscious, so I tend to attract men who like to tease me to \"come out of my shell,\" but I don't know how to come up with a witty reply. I usually just smile and laugh (because I don't usually take offense) but then there's an awkward moment where they think I'm offended because I didn't say anything back. How can I react in a way that's appropriate? ", "How to make witty comebacks to someone who's harmlessly teasing you I'm a generally polite person who's a bit quiet, sensitive and self-conscious, so I tend to attract men who like to tease me to \"come out of my shell,\" but I don't know how to come up with a witty reply. I usually just smile and laugh (because I don't usually take offense) but then there's an awkward moment where they think I'm offended because I didn't say anything back. How can I react in a way that's appropriate? ", "How to make witty comebacks to someone who's harmlessly teasing you I'm a generally polite person who's a bit quiet, sensitive and self-conscious, so I tend to attract men who like to tease me to \"come out of my shell,\" but I don't know how to come up with a witty reply. I usually just smile and laugh (because I don't usually take offense) but then there's an awkward moment where they think I'm offended because I didn't say anything back. How can I react in a way that's appropriate? ", "How to make witty comebacks to someone who's harmlessly teasing you I'm a generally polite person who's a bit quiet, sensitive and self-conscious, so I tend to attract men who like to tease me to \"come out of my shell,\" but I don't know how to come up with a witty reply. I usually just smile and laugh (because I don't usually take offense) but then there's an awkward moment where they think I'm offended because I didn't say anything back. How can I react in a way that's appropriate? " ]

[ "Agree and amplify. It's a term used in improv comedy. When doing improv comedy, the idea is to agree with whatever reality they create and then add to it. You take what he said, accept it as truth and add to it. Make it even more absurd. \n\nFor example, he sees you eating a salad. He says, \"Hey bunny rabbit, how is the salad?\" (Implying only rabbits eat salad). \n\nYou respond to what he says, adding to it as if you really are a rabbit. \"Great. I had to take a rest from hopping around all day.\"\n\nMy example isn't that funny. But in this situation, it's not as much about being funny but being willing to play along. ", "Glad to see you're \"coming out of your shell\" to try and stop them. I was in your shoes once and it'll take a long time before you can creatively come back with a one size fits all comment or one liner for their teases. My go to technique is to constantly question what they mean, while making 'I'm trying to understand what this guy is saying' facial expressions that might make them feel a little insecure about their jokes. \n\nBest of luck to you :) ", "Stick \"Your mom\" in front of what they called you.\n\nIf they call you gay or something say \"Just like you?\" or \"So are you\".", "Prior to dates, you could put this on the table and let people know that you are not good at banter. ", "Honestly, the true secret to wit is relentless practice. There's no shame in asking your friends to help.\n\nWatch comedy shows and movies to build a mental library of funny. And unless you're taking your act to the stage, there's no shame in ripping jokes from your favorite sitcom or comedian if it fits the situation. A guy might even recognize it and go \"OMG YOU LIKE THAT [purveyor of comedy], TOO!?!\"\n\nAnd don't worry of you don't raise a laugh out of anyone. The important part of banter is just participating.", "Dont smile, they'll say- \"Im just joking blah\" then say \"jokes are supposed to be funny and smile. easy, and doesn't take any thought. tone is key with this, or else you can come off as not-approachable.", "man \"youre so quiet you must be thinking about me huh?\"\n\nyou\"no i was thinking about that sexy businessmen behind you...how do you feel about three ways?\"" ]

[ 59, 3, 1, 1, 1, 1, -3 ]

[ "How to memorize lots of info quickly. I have just been hired at a new job, and part of the requirements is to memorize how to build everything on the menu in a very short time. Memorization has always been my Achilles Heel, so any tips are much appreciated.", "How to memorize lots of info quickly. I have just been hired at a new job, and part of the requirements is to memorize how to build everything on the menu in a very short time. Memorization has always been my Achilles Heel, so any tips are much appreciated." ]

[ "I learned this memorizing bible verses for awana as a child. (don't shoot me reddit). I memorized like 10x more than the next best back then, and got really good grades in college with little studying using this method. \nThe biggest problem with memorizing is that it is boring. You won't realize your mind wandering but 30 seconds of studying and you are thinking about that tv show you just watched or something, not even reading. You need to stay focused. \nDo this. Take a separate sheet of paper and cover all but a single line on the Page. Memorize that line. Say it out loud repeatedly (alone is best, or look weird). Say it until you could never forget it (actually doesn't take that long for a single line, it all fits in short term memory so the conversion seems to work quickly for some reason.) \nNow go to the next line and do the same thing. And here is the important part: do both together. You should be able to remember the first line (maybe a bit shakily, maybe not). Once you can confidently remember both lines, work on the third line, ignoring the first two until you have it down. Once you have it, get all 3 in a row. \nWhat this is doing is providing constant tests that you are paying attention. It will give pretty fast results, so the positive reinforcement is good. \n\nI usually start over each handwritten Page. Basically when it gets annoying to repeat yourself, go back to a single line, and do another chunk. Each time you get another chunk memorized, repeat all of the chunks from memory. ", "my UNI mate gave me this advice for studying and my grades shot up\nsummarise- go over all the information once and write it in your own words, shortening it and using more efficient means of expressing it, then you summarise again, use smaller words, get rid of unnecessary info etc and repeat until you just get a few lines, then when you need to call upon that info, you remember the bite size chunk and the opposite happens as you remember all the information you processed" ]

[ 8, 4 ]

[ "Any advice on long distance relationships? I just started a long distance relationship. We both love each other and are up to the task but that does not change the fact that it will be a difficult experience, at least until we are actually abre to move in together in the future. \n\n\nany tips, dos and don'ts or tricks to make the distance a little less unbearable? we will probably be able to see each other once or twice a year.", "Any advice on long distance relationships? I just started a long distance relationship. We both love each other and are up to the task but that does not change the fact that it will be a difficult experience, at least until we are actually abre to move in together in the future. \n\n\nany tips, dos and don'ts or tricks to make the distance a little less unbearable? we will probably be able to see each other once or twice a year.", "Any advice on long distance relationships? I just started a long distance relationship. We both love each other and are up to the task but that does not change the fact that it will be a difficult experience, at least until we are actually abre to move in together in the future. \n\n\nany tips, dos and don'ts or tricks to make the distance a little less unbearable? we will probably be able to see each other once or twice a year.", "Any advice on long distance relationships? I just started a long distance relationship. We both love each other and are up to the task but that does not change the fact that it will be a difficult experience, at least until we are actually abre to move in together in the future. \n\n\nany tips, dos and don'ts or tricks to make the distance a little less unbearable? we will probably be able to see each other once or twice a year.", "Any advice on long distance relationships? I just started a long distance relationship. We both love each other and are up to the task but that does not change the fact that it will be a difficult experience, at least until we are actually abre to move in together in the future. \n\n\nany tips, dos and don'ts or tricks to make the distance a little less unbearable? we will probably be able to see each other once or twice a year.", "Any advice on long distance relationships? I just started a long distance relationship. We both love each other and are up to the task but that does not change the fact that it will be a difficult experience, at least until we are actually abre to move in together in the future. \n\n\nany tips, dos and don'ts or tricks to make the distance a little less unbearable? we will probably be able to see each other once or twice a year.", "Any advice on long distance relationships? I just started a long distance relationship. We both love each other and are up to the task but that does not change the fact that it will be a difficult experience, at least until we are actually abre to move in together in the future. \n\n\nany tips, dos and don'ts or tricks to make the distance a little less unbearable? we will probably be able to see each other once or twice a year.", "Any advice on long distance relationships? I just started a long distance relationship. We both love each other and are up to the task but that does not change the fact that it will be a difficult experience, at least until we are actually abre to move in together in the future. \n\n\nany tips, dos and don'ts or tricks to make the distance a little less unbearable? we will probably be able to see each other once or twice a year.", "Any advice on long distance relationships? I just started a long distance relationship. We both love each other and are up to the task but that does not change the fact that it will be a difficult experience, at least until we are actually abre to move in together in the future. \n\n\nany tips, dos and don'ts or tricks to make the distance a little less unbearable? we will probably be able to see each other once or twice a year.", "Any advice on long distance relationships? I just started a long distance relationship. We both love each other and are up to the task but that does not change the fact that it will be a difficult experience, at least until we are actually abre to move in together in the future. \n\n\nany tips, dos and don'ts or tricks to make the distance a little less unbearable? we will probably be able to see each other once or twice a year." ]

[ "Communication. Even if it feels like you are over explaining, or over emoting, because context online/ over the phone is hard. \n\nSet expectations of how much time you will put aside for each other. Life still marches on and there are times when you will both have to march with it. \n\nHave dates. Prep a special meal together and eat it together online. Watch a movie together online. \n\nStart saving money together. Decide how much you both can set aside per month and do that. You didn't say what how far the distance was, but eventually you will need a place to live and other expenses that are tied to moving.\n\nMy husband and I did five years of long distance. I am in Canada he was in India. If you have any questions let me know.", "Get a little notebook that you write letters in (or drawings, if that's your art) and mail it back and forth every few weeks. Or trade it when you can see each other. It's exciting to get in the mailbox, it's a little more intimate than emails and texts, it's a good record of your relationship, and it lets you capture the little stuff that you might forget between visits or talks.", "Have dreams. Plan the future. Discuss small thinks like how you will furnish your future home together. What would you name cat/dog etc \nI had 2 years long distance relationship with my future husband. On two different continents. Happily married >20 years now.", "Don’t have them. Seeing each other once or twice a year won’t cut it. Sorry to be pessimistic but it’s just human nature. We’re I in your situation I would look hard at the reasons it has to be long distance. Maybe there’s a valid reason - I don’t know.", "Let the person know you are thinking about them even when they aren’t able to talk or respond at that point in time. However, texts and voicemails can be overwhelming, so try emails or sending memes through social media. One app that I really enjoyed is Marco Polo. It lets you leave a video message and the other person can view it and respond on their own time.", "Just communicate and stay up to date with what you’re doing. Video call, send photos and videos, just be present. I’ve done it and I live far from almost everyone I know so I’m long distance with everyone including the girl I’m talking to from my hometown", "I don’t know your particular situation but try and fly her out to see you over a weekend (or vice-versa). Planning ahead will save you some money if you are flying. Best wishes to you.", "A thing that really helped for me is daily video calls, though you've probably already thought of that (currently 2+ years into a long distance relationship)", "We did a couple stints of distance relationships. We spoke daily and took advantage of opportunities to be together (ie really tried to do a lot when together).\n\nOne was approx 10 months the other was close to 2 years. Otherwise we've been together for 15 years and lived together (now with kids) for 9 of those. It can be done! \n\nGood luck!", "Have your next trip scheduled and planned out, if you think it will be monthly, plan a month or 2 ahead(or whatever intervals) It will give you something to look forward to, something to talk about and add to the commitment." ]

[ 19, 5, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "Any advice on shopping for a cell phone carrier? I’m looking to get a cell phone plan for me and my wife. We are relatively young, so we’d be leaving our respective parents’ family plans.\nI’ve gone to several carriers, but it feels like every place is trying their hardest to screw me with their prices and the whole process is pretty overwhelming.\nAny and all advice will be greatly appreciated.", "Any advice on shopping for a cell phone carrier? I’m looking to get a cell phone plan for me and my wife. We are relatively young, so we’d be leaving our respective parents’ family plans.\nI’ve gone to several carriers, but it feels like every place is trying their hardest to screw me with their prices and the whole process is pretty overwhelming.\nAny and all advice will be greatly appreciated.", "Any advice on shopping for a cell phone carrier? I’m looking to get a cell phone plan for me and my wife. We are relatively young, so we’d be leaving our respective parents’ family plans.\nI’ve gone to several carriers, but it feels like every place is trying their hardest to screw me with their prices and the whole process is pretty overwhelming.\nAny and all advice will be greatly appreciated.", "Any advice on shopping for a cell phone carrier? I’m looking to get a cell phone plan for me and my wife. We are relatively young, so we’d be leaving our respective parents’ family plans.\nI’ve gone to several carriers, but it feels like every place is trying their hardest to screw me with their prices and the whole process is pretty overwhelming.\nAny and all advice will be greatly appreciated.", "Any advice on shopping for a cell phone carrier? I’m looking to get a cell phone plan for me and my wife. We are relatively young, so we’d be leaving our respective parents’ family plans.\nI’ve gone to several carriers, but it feels like every place is trying their hardest to screw me with their prices and the whole process is pretty overwhelming.\nAny and all advice will be greatly appreciated.", "Any advice on shopping for a cell phone carrier? I’m looking to get a cell phone plan for me and my wife. We are relatively young, so we’d be leaving our respective parents’ family plans.\nI’ve gone to several carriers, but it feels like every place is trying their hardest to screw me with their prices and the whole process is pretty overwhelming.\nAny and all advice will be greatly appreciated.", "Any advice on shopping for a cell phone carrier? I’m looking to get a cell phone plan for me and my wife. We are relatively young, so we’d be leaving our respective parents’ family plans.\nI’ve gone to several carriers, but it feels like every place is trying their hardest to screw me with their prices and the whole process is pretty overwhelming.\nAny and all advice will be greatly appreciated." ]

[ "Let me guess: the carriers that you're going to want you to get new phones along with the service and they want to charge you around $200 a month?", "my family uses prepaid at&t with unlimited talk and text and 6 gigs per PERSON every month. whatever you don’t use in one month will roll over to the next month (but the rollover expires after one month). the main account owner will pay $50, and the rest of the family gets $5 dropped each person. for example, my dad is $50, my mom is $45, my sister is $40, and i am $35. 6 gb per person plus occasional rollover is more than enough for our needs, and it’s pretty decent service in my opinion", "If you have xfinity cable, I recommend xfinity mobile. most likely you don’t have to buy new phones, you can BYOD. they run on verizon’s network. data is cheap, depending on how much you use. and the unique thing is you use the app or website to change your data plan at anytime you want: basically you look at your data usage the day before your billing cycle and make sure you’re paying the cheapest amount possible based on your data usage.", "First check their coverage maps to see if you’ll have good signal. Then just make a comparison spreadsheet based on the plans you’d choose. Also remember most carriers will let you cancel in the first 30 days if your coverage isn’t good. \n\nI’d start with AT&T and Verizon; a lot of virtual carriers use their towers, but you might not have international roaming and they can change your phone number if you go inactive for 30 days.", "Take a look at the ting website. Their plans probably work with the phones you already own. I paid $21 for voice/data/sms service to two smartphones this month.", "I use Boost Mobile. Never had a problem with them. I live in Idaho, lots of mountains and its's not exactly saturated with cell towers but I've never had an issue with call clarity or dropped calls. Also, I've done all my business with them online, never been to a physical store even though we have one in town. You can get everything you need from their website.\n\nMy kids have been using Mint mobile for about a year or so. No issues with them either.\n\nBoth plans are cheap. Boost offers payments plans for their phones and have wide variety of brands, new and used.", "Do a lot of googling and wait. Wait. Wait. Black Friday, Christmas, and random times during the year the phone companies will run promos to attract new customers - often times away from other carriers. I often join say Verizon for a month on a pre paid plan so that I can port my number back to say sprint and take advantage of this. I’ve done this so many times and it’s the best hack I know. You’ll have to own a newer and factory unlocked phone. Look at your cr" ]

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[ "Tips for Moving Across the US I am moving about 15 hours away. What are some useful tips and tricks for moving to another state?", "Tips for Moving Across the US I am moving about 15 hours away. What are some useful tips and tricks for moving to another state?", "Tips for Moving Across the US I am moving about 15 hours away. What are some useful tips and tricks for moving to another state?", "Tips for Moving Across the US I am moving about 15 hours away. What are some useful tips and tricks for moving to another state?", "Tips for Moving Across the US I am moving about 15 hours away. What are some useful tips and tricks for moving to another state?", "Tips for Moving Across the US I am moving about 15 hours away. What are some useful tips and tricks for moving to another state?" ]

[ "If you can afford for a company to do the move for you, do it. If you are doing it yourself and time is on your side, try to not drive more than 10 hours or so each day. Otherwise, when you arrive and need to unpack in order to return truck/trailer on time you will be beat and severly under motivated.\n\nAlso, unless it is an heirloom or something you are attached to, sell it where you are and buy a replacement when you get settled. I moved a full kitchen in 2012 and between boxes and the table/chairs it ate up a big chunk of the truck. In 2018, my kitchen move was a cast iron skillet, set of chef knives, and some commerative beer glasses. Sold everything else and had a field day at Bed Bath and Beyond once I got settled.\n\n*Source: Moved from DFW to Seattle in 2012 and moved from Seattle to Phoenix in 2018.", "Unless moving everything yourself, get maybe 3 quotes for movers. Insure goods, take photos of anything valuable before the move, and check everything on arrival within limitation period.\n\n", "Pack an overnight bag/box with the things you will need when you first arrive: toiletries, change of clothes, toilet paper, bedding, medications. Set up your bed first, including putting linens on the bed. \n\n\nLabel your boxes well. I always numbered my boxes and had a list of what was in each box, but I am sort of a nut when it comes to organization. :) \n\n\nFind out what documents you will need to change your driver's license & car registration. Make sure you have those before moving in case you need to get copies. Put all important documents in big envelope and put that some place safe. If you are changing jobs, find out what paperwork they will require. If possible, fill out those forms ahead of time. \n\n\nFind out what you need to do to get utilities set up before you move. Make a list of phone numbers for utilities. \n\nRuthlessly declutter your belongings before packing. Don't drag things to another state just to throw them away. \n\nIf possible, set up a bank account before you move. (some banks allow you to set up accounts online) If not, find out where you will want to bank. \n\n\nUse Google maps to find a place to order take out for your first day. But also find out where the nearest grocery store is so you can pick up some essentials. \n\n\nIf you know someone in the new city, make plans to get together within your first 2 weeks to help beat the loneliness.", "I moved across the country, and I got rid of everything I didn't need first.\n\n I then filled my car with everything that wasn't needed immediately, and had it shipped out on a truck. Didn't have to pay a moving company, just a car carrier.\n\nI also moved in with my girlfriend, so your mileage may vary.", "**Reduce/Reuse/Recycle**\n\n* Don't move something you can throw away\n* Anything cheap and bulky should be sold and replaced later\n* Digitize your life, simplify your library of stuff\n* Sell,donate, redundant items around the house\n* Most stores provide free boxes, just ask\n* Ask around for ramps, dollies, etc. Usually find a good deal, or free, for the day tools.\n\n**General Tips**\n\n* Always pack a travel bag and roadside kit with snacks/charger packs/blankets.\n* Make a Top Priority Essentials load for Sleeping and 1st day of work.\n* Label each box with a the room it came from, and a general idea of what's in it.\n* Try to use mostly similar boxes for easy load/unload into the vehicle.\n* For any delicate or fragile pieces, give them extra padding with old newspapers, bubble wrap or peanut foam. TShirts can work in a pinch.\n* Time the drive for non-peak hours going through major cities, reduces stress and early fatigue.\n* When going long distances, refill sooner than later!! Emergency gas isn't a bad idea for certain routes.\n* Calculate the Distance and compare multiple trips with your car vs a box van rental (Might be worth it).\n* Driving Plan, Print driving directions, write down address, gate codes, who has the keys, etc.\n* Contact Utilities for services on the first day\n* Schedule appointments for Registration, Drivers License, etc\n* If it goes wrong... have a backup plan, contacts, emergency cash, Road Side Assistance number, extra cash for food, tow or taxi rides, toll or parking fees, weather, and road closures.\n* Trucks and trailers, buy a set of bungees or a few tie down straps with a tarp to keep everything dry inside and tied down.\n* Know the towing limits and laws before traveling, it can change state to state.\n\n**Have help**\n\n* Photo everything with a gps/timestamp before packing and in the box. Helpful for any claims and to find later\n* Try to have everything truck ready, avoids paying extra for movers to toss things in a box or friends having to guess how or what to pack in each box.\n* Keep everyone happy and on track by providing clear direction, food breaks, Upbeat music, fun atmosphere with jokes or stories to break up the monetany and pain points for everyone. A happy crew gets happy results!\n\n**Delayed Moving**\n\nA storage spot for everything you don't need right away is an alternative strategy. It works better for places that you plan on coming back to anyways... parents house, best friends, or work related reasons. This can allow you to do a sample move to the new place with a new job usually, and if it doesn't work out. It's not a big deal to move back. However, you are at risk for paying on storage for a while and by the time you deal with it. Realizing it would have been smarter to just sell or dump most of it, and replace it later.", "Lots of good advice here. Here are my insights:\n\n* Seriously, sell or donate *everything* you can! I thought we cleared out all the non-essentials before we moved but in reality we brought *WAY* too much stuff with us.\n* If you have to move a fair amount then you could definitely U-Haul and drive but if you'd rather fly or not haul the stuff yourself then you can look into [U-Pack](https://www.upack.com/). It ain't cheap but it's a really good value for door-to-door delivery of your stuff.\n* We packed our stuff ourselves gradually over the course of a week and then hired movers to unpack for us. In my experience the excitement of moving helped us pack but after the trip we were too wiped to deal with unpacking.\n* Pack your personal bags like you're going on a month-long vacation and either take those bags on the plane or make them the last on/first off if you use a U-Haul (or similar)\n* If you fly and you manage to eliminate all the larger stuff but still have a lot to move you can consider checking as many extra bags as you need to get it done. In certain circumstances it *can* be cheaper to check 8 bags and fly vs renting a small U-Haul and driving. Especially true if you have status and get extra bags for free.\n* Not sure if it'll apply to you but trying to coordinate with your future landlord or neighbors to arrange for help accepting deliveries can be beneficial. Having some of your appliances or furniture get to your future home ahead of you is awesome! Especially the fridge and washer/dryer.\n* If you think of something you'll need once you're in your new home but don't need it yet order it right before you leave your current home and have it delivered to an amazon locker near your new home and pick it up once you get there.\n* Plan out your first week after arriving. Figure out what, when and where you'll be eating, shopping, cleaning, unpacking, etc. You can always change your plans as needed but not having to figure out which pizza place to go to on Night 1 and where the closest pharmacy is can greatly reduce your stress.\n* Treat yourself if possible. Have a big dinner at your favorite restaurant right before you leave and schedule a massage for yourself at your new location. That'll leave you with fond memories of your old home and give you something to look forward to once you get where you're going. Plus you'll probably need a massage after all the stress and manual labor!" ]

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[ "Is it possible to spider proof a bed room? Just found a spider in my room before and it made me wonder- is there any way to actually spider proof a room?\n\nThanks", "Is it possible to spider proof a bed room? Just found a spider in my room before and it made me wonder- is there any way to actually spider proof a room?\n\nThanks", "Is it possible to spider proof a bed room? Just found a spider in my room before and it made me wonder- is there any way to actually spider proof a room?\n\nThanks", "Is it possible to spider proof a bed room? Just found a spider in my room before and it made me wonder- is there any way to actually spider proof a room?\n\nThanks", "Is it possible to spider proof a bed room? Just found a spider in my room before and it made me wonder- is there any way to actually spider proof a room?\n\nThanks", "Is it possible to spider proof a bed room? Just found a spider in my room before and it made me wonder- is there any way to actually spider proof a room?\n\nThanks", "Is it possible to spider proof a bed room? Just found a spider in my room before and it made me wonder- is there any way to actually spider proof a room?\n\nThanks" ]

[ "Well. I have a feeling you won’t like this. But. How do you feel about letting a lizard or toad roam free in your room?", "It’s not foolproof, but I would caulk your baseboards, check for gaps in your foundation, and put outlet covers in empty outlets. They could still get in through vents and light fixtures, but it will help overall.", "Supposedly, spiders hate conkers (horse chestnuts), so if you have any such trees in your area, start gathering and place them in around your window etc", "Spray the baseboards of your room with spider killer (I have brown recluse in my apartment and ortho home defense does the job. Bug bomb the house if it’s really bad). Don’t get one of those net canopy things to put over your bed because they’re typically made out of synthetic/plastic fabrics and can act as an accelerant or melt on and burn you in the event of a fire.", "You want spiders. He is living there because there are other bugs to eat and he is eating them for you.\n\nThink of it like a cat catching mice.", "Peppermint oil can help. Also diatomaceous earth sprinkled at any entry point including along baseboards.", "I have decided that spiders bring luck in life and love. Not disappointed at all to see that it mostly works." ]

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[ "How to 'wake' yourself up without caffeine? I read on the /r/fitness subreddit that caffeine doesn't really help with anxiety and stress(Which I am going through a lot of lately), I recently stopped drinking coffee and soft drinks which took near to all of it out of my diet and I see a massive difference but around 2pm i get a tired spell and really cant seem to find a way to wake me up. any tips?", "How to 'wake' yourself up without caffeine? I read on the /r/fitness subreddit that caffeine doesn't really help with anxiety and stress(Which I am going through a lot of lately), I recently stopped drinking coffee and soft drinks which took near to all of it out of my diet and I see a massive difference but around 2pm i get a tired spell and really cant seem to find a way to wake me up. any tips?", "How to 'wake' yourself up without caffeine? I read on the /r/fitness subreddit that caffeine doesn't really help with anxiety and stress(Which I am going through a lot of lately), I recently stopped drinking coffee and soft drinks which took near to all of it out of my diet and I see a massive difference but around 2pm i get a tired spell and really cant seem to find a way to wake me up. any tips?", "How to 'wake' yourself up without caffeine? I read on the /r/fitness subreddit that caffeine doesn't really help with anxiety and stress(Which I am going through a lot of lately), I recently stopped drinking coffee and soft drinks which took near to all of it out of my diet and I see a massive difference but around 2pm i get a tired spell and really cant seem to find a way to wake me up. any tips?", "How to 'wake' yourself up without caffeine? I read on the /r/fitness subreddit that caffeine doesn't really help with anxiety and stress(Which I am going through a lot of lately), I recently stopped drinking coffee and soft drinks which took near to all of it out of my diet and I see a massive difference but around 2pm i get a tired spell and really cant seem to find a way to wake me up. any tips?", "How to 'wake' yourself up without caffeine? I read on the /r/fitness subreddit that caffeine doesn't really help with anxiety and stress(Which I am going through a lot of lately), I recently stopped drinking coffee and soft drinks which took near to all of it out of my diet and I see a massive difference but around 2pm i get a tired spell and really cant seem to find a way to wake me up. any tips?", "How to 'wake' yourself up without caffeine? I read on the /r/fitness subreddit that caffeine doesn't really help with anxiety and stress(Which I am going through a lot of lately), I recently stopped drinking coffee and soft drinks which took near to all of it out of my diet and I see a massive difference but around 2pm i get a tired spell and really cant seem to find a way to wake me up. any tips?", "How to 'wake' yourself up without caffeine? I read on the /r/fitness subreddit that caffeine doesn't really help with anxiety and stress(Which I am going through a lot of lately), I recently stopped drinking coffee and soft drinks which took near to all of it out of my diet and I see a massive difference but around 2pm i get a tired spell and really cant seem to find a way to wake me up. any tips?", "How to 'wake' yourself up without caffeine? I read on the /r/fitness subreddit that caffeine doesn't really help with anxiety and stress(Which I am going through a lot of lately), I recently stopped drinking coffee and soft drinks which took near to all of it out of my diet and I see a massive difference but around 2pm i get a tired spell and really cant seem to find a way to wake me up. any tips?", "How to 'wake' yourself up without caffeine? I read on the /r/fitness subreddit that caffeine doesn't really help with anxiety and stress(Which I am going through a lot of lately), I recently stopped drinking coffee and soft drinks which took near to all of it out of my diet and I see a massive difference but around 2pm i get a tired spell and really cant seem to find a way to wake me up. any tips?", "How to 'wake' yourself up without caffeine? I read on the /r/fitness subreddit that caffeine doesn't really help with anxiety and stress(Which I am going through a lot of lately), I recently stopped drinking coffee and soft drinks which took near to all of it out of my diet and I see a massive difference but around 2pm i get a tired spell and really cant seem to find a way to wake me up. any tips?", "How to 'wake' yourself up without caffeine? I read on the /r/fitness subreddit that caffeine doesn't really help with anxiety and stress(Which I am going through a lot of lately), I recently stopped drinking coffee and soft drinks which took near to all of it out of my diet and I see a massive difference but around 2pm i get a tired spell and really cant seem to find a way to wake me up. any tips?", "How to 'wake' yourself up without caffeine? I read on the /r/fitness subreddit that caffeine doesn't really help with anxiety and stress(Which I am going through a lot of lately), I recently stopped drinking coffee and soft drinks which took near to all of it out of my diet and I see a massive difference but around 2pm i get a tired spell and really cant seem to find a way to wake me up. any tips?", "How to 'wake' yourself up without caffeine? I read on the /r/fitness subreddit that caffeine doesn't really help with anxiety and stress(Which I am going through a lot of lately), I recently stopped drinking coffee and soft drinks which took near to all of it out of my diet and I see a massive difference but around 2pm i get a tired spell and really cant seem to find a way to wake me up. any tips?", "How to 'wake' yourself up without caffeine? I read on the /r/fitness subreddit that caffeine doesn't really help with anxiety and stress(Which I am going through a lot of lately), I recently stopped drinking coffee and soft drinks which took near to all of it out of my diet and I see a massive difference but around 2pm i get a tired spell and really cant seem to find a way to wake me up. any tips?", "How to 'wake' yourself up without caffeine? I read on the /r/fitness subreddit that caffeine doesn't really help with anxiety and stress(Which I am going through a lot of lately), I recently stopped drinking coffee and soft drinks which took near to all of it out of my diet and I see a massive difference but around 2pm i get a tired spell and really cant seem to find a way to wake me up. any tips?", "How to 'wake' yourself up without caffeine? I read on the /r/fitness subreddit that caffeine doesn't really help with anxiety and stress(Which I am going through a lot of lately), I recently stopped drinking coffee and soft drinks which took near to all of it out of my diet and I see a massive difference but around 2pm i get a tired spell and really cant seem to find a way to wake me up. any tips?", "How to 'wake' yourself up without caffeine? I read on the /r/fitness subreddit that caffeine doesn't really help with anxiety and stress(Which I am going through a lot of lately), I recently stopped drinking coffee and soft drinks which took near to all of it out of my diet and I see a massive difference but around 2pm i get a tired spell and really cant seem to find a way to wake me up. any tips?" ]

[ "Pay a kid to run into your room in the morning with an AK-47 and scream I'm the captain now. Works wonders.", "An apple is actually supposed to work better as well as ice water to shock your body light stretching to increase blood flow and mint for mental awarness", "Things that help me: splashing cold water in my face, excersizing, taking a powernap (60 min or less), taking a short walk outside to clear my mind and to breath in fresh air, eating regulary and healthy. I dont know if this was helpful or not but I wish you the best :)", "Cold glass of water when you first get up. Aim for at least 500ml. You can also give some greens a shot. Wheatgrass works too.", "What are you doing at 2pm? That's important for a good answer. Reading and browsing on a phone makes me sleepy so I stretch and take a 5 minute walk. It helps a lot. ", "Have you tried taking a quick walk? Even if it's just outside around your building or something. It helps me most days.", "As in most cases, look at sorting out the problem at its rootーwhat's causing your anxiety? That may actually be making you sleepy. Certainly depression can be [among the causes](http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Excessive_daytime_sleepiness) of lethargy. At the very least, stress takes its toll in other ways besides depriving us of comfortably drinking caffeine.\n\nYou don't have to respond here. But going straight to the issue might help you longterm while in the interim you're snorting coke, splashing your face with cold water and eating apples and mint.\n\nJust a thought. I've had my share of stress and I hope you get through yours. And though dropping the sodas should [do wonders](http://www.hsph.harvard.edu/nutritionsource/healthy-drinks/soft-drinks-and-disease/) for your health, coffee isn't so bad and [might even be good for you.](http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-living/nutrition-and-healthy-eating/expert-answers/coffee-and-health/faq-20058339)\n\nNo I don't work for Juan Valdez.", "You feel groggy and sleepy because you're sleeping wrong. Coffee will never help you feel more awake. Start sleeping in sleep cycles exclusively (1.5 hours is one cycle, so get either 7.5 or 9 hours of sleep per night) AS WELL AS going to bed and waking up at the same time every night. your coffee solution only works temporarily on the grand scheme of things but doing sleep cycles and a regular schedule will work every time (once you get used to it, should take a week or so)", "Eat a better high-protein lunch, don't whipsaw your blood sugar around with carbs and sugar. Also get out for a walk midday, get some oxygen, don't sit all day and don't eat at your desk.", "Eat a banana. It has potassium in it that will help give you a boost of energy. \n\nA little caffeine isn't bad for you. You could even drink herbal teas that give you an energy boost. My SO drinks Horny Goat Weed which gives him a steady boost of energy throughout the day. ", "Taking a 10-20 minute nap (or, if you can't fall asleep, simply laying in a quiet, preferably dark area), talking to people, taking a walk, and splashing cold water all tend to help me when I get sleepy.", "Science shows that splashing water on your faces rushes blood to the heart. It is an awesome way to easily get a jolt whenever you have a sink nearby.", "Keep a glass of water next to your bed at least 16 oz. but the more the better. First thing in the morning before you wash your face or pee or anything is chug down that glass of water with a teaspoon of coconut oil. ", "I read something along these lines on an ask reddit thread a while back that stood out to me. \n\nWhen you cant get out of bed, think to yourself, Im a fucking adult. I can do this. \n\nIf your not an adult, or this doesnt work, just put your alarm across the room", "I find the best for me is colder temperature. This might be a cold shower, opening a window during cold months or just an ice cold beverage...", "How long ago did you stop drinking caffeine? If it was less than a month, you're still experiencing withdrawal. You pretty much just have to wait it out.\n\nThe other option is modafanil, a non-addictive, non-stimulant wakefulness promoter prescribed for narcoleptics but widely used off-label.\nhttp://www.reddit.com/r/nootropics/wiki/beginners#wiki_modafinil\n(more for the days when you really can't afford to be sleepy than an every day solution)", "Drink water, I cut energy drinks and soda from my life and being hydrated always makes me feel more alert and awake.", "Do some star jumps or any kind of jumping exercise to get oxygen to the brain which will make you feel awake" ]

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[ "How to create balance in your life? I've been lagging and slacking in a few areas of my life. My priorities and goals are messed up and i don't really know where to start in fixing them...\n\nAs a senior in high-school heading off to college and wanting to better, what are some small steps i can take to get myself moving?", "How to create balance in your life? I've been lagging and slacking in a few areas of my life. My priorities and goals are messed up and i don't really know where to start in fixing them...\n\nAs a senior in high-school heading off to college and wanting to better, what are some small steps i can take to get myself moving?", "How to create balance in your life? I've been lagging and slacking in a few areas of my life. My priorities and goals are messed up and i don't really know where to start in fixing them...\n\nAs a senior in high-school heading off to college and wanting to better, what are some small steps i can take to get myself moving?" ]

[ "* make a list measurable things that you feel you might be able to accomplish in 5 years - don't think about how you will get there - just focus on what you really think you want.\n* examine the motivation behind each of these things and use that to determine the priority of each thing\n* for each thing assess where you are now in relation to that thing and try to sketch out a series of steps you might take to get there. Look at people who may have traversed the same path. \n* figure out on this list what will have the highest payoff and what might be easy things to do. Work on the easy things when you are feeling low and work on the harder stuff when you feel undefeatable.\n* revisit this process and feel free to adjust priorities and timelines. This is your life. \n* just making such a list is a huge motivator. ", "Take time to get your thoughts written on paper. Don't think too hard, just write down all your thoughts. Take time everyday for a week. Don't think, just write. \n\nAfter a few days, take those thoughts and create an organized list. Pick out the goals that you've written down, weed through your thoughts, your dreams, the little details. This is a great way to really find out what's in your stream of consciousness! \n\nIt's okay if you don't have big goals. You don't always have to. But it's good to really take the swirling thoughts in your head and making them \"real\" by writing them down. It's okay to feel the way you're way feeling. Adulting can be difficult and a true period of adjustment. Good luck!", "Most of us had messed up priorities at that age. Read some GOOD biography about some very successful people. You will find most influential people had messed up lives. It gave them the drive to change it. Lots of people just ride through live with no drive. Your on the right track because your asking how to drive your life now." ]

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[ "assemble the furniture and let the movers move it. Or leave it in the box? Moving to top floor of am apartment and no elevator. Box and packaging weighs 120lb.", "assemble the furniture and let the movers move it. Or leave it in the box? Moving to top floor of am apartment and no elevator. Box and packaging weighs 120lb." ]

[ "Former mover here, leave it in the box. We have equipment and the box will fit on that equipment way better than it would assembled", "FWIW we had movers disassemble and reassemble an Ikea bed when we moved, and it a) added a lot of time to the process (important when they're paid by the hours) and b) ended up being reassembled slightly incorrectly. If it's an option, I'd just have them move the box and assemble it yourself at the new place." ]

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[ "Ideas for a professional-sounding email address name for those who have a common name? Hey guys, I recently graduated and am looking for a job. The email I'm using right now sounds unprofessional, made it as a kid. I'm having trouble thinking of ideas that include my name, but it's pretty common (both first and last name) and everything I can think of is taken.\n\n", "Ideas for a professional-sounding email address name for those who have a common name? Hey guys, I recently graduated and am looking for a job. The email I'm using right now sounds unprofessional, made it as a kid. I'm having trouble thinking of ideas that include my name, but it's pretty common (both first and last name) and everything I can think of is taken.\n\n", "Ideas for a professional-sounding email address name for those who have a common name? Hey guys, I recently graduated and am looking for a job. The email I'm using right now sounds unprofessional, made it as a kid. I'm having trouble thinking of ideas that include my name, but it's pretty common (both first and last name) and everything I can think of is taken.\n\n", "Ideas for a professional-sounding email address name for those who have a common name? Hey guys, I recently graduated and am looking for a job. The email I'm using right now sounds unprofessional, made it as a kid. I'm having trouble thinking of ideas that include my name, but it's pretty common (both first and last name) and everything I can think of is taken.\n\n", "Ideas for a professional-sounding email address name for those who have a common name? Hey guys, I recently graduated and am looking for a job. The email I'm using right now sounds unprofessional, made it as a kid. I'm having trouble thinking of ideas that include my name, but it's pretty common (both first and last name) and everything I can think of is taken.\n\n", "Ideas for a professional-sounding email address name for those who have a common name? Hey guys, I recently graduated and am looking for a job. The email I'm using right now sounds unprofessional, made it as a kid. I'm having trouble thinking of ideas that include my name, but it's pretty common (both first and last name) and everything I can think of is taken.\n\n", "Ideas for a professional-sounding email address name for those who have a common name? Hey guys, I recently graduated and am looking for a job. The email I'm using right now sounds unprofessional, made it as a kid. I'm having trouble thinking of ideas that include my name, but it's pretty common (both first and last name) and everything I can think of is taken.\n\n", "Ideas for a professional-sounding email address name for those who have a common name? Hey guys, I recently graduated and am looking for a job. The email I'm using right now sounds unprofessional, made it as a kid. I'm having trouble thinking of ideas that include my name, but it's pretty common (both first and last name) and everything I can think of is taken.\n\n", "Ideas for a professional-sounding email address name for those who have a common name? Hey guys, I recently graduated and am looking for a job. The email I'm using right now sounds unprofessional, made it as a kid. I'm having trouble thinking of ideas that include my name, but it's pretty common (both first and last name) and everything I can think of is taken.\n\n", "Ideas for a professional-sounding email address name for those who have a common name? Hey guys, I recently graduated and am looking for a job. The email I'm using right now sounds unprofessional, made it as a kid. I'm having trouble thinking of ideas that include my name, but it's pretty common (both first and last name) and everything I can think of is taken.\n\n" ]

[ "While having a memorable email is nice to have, nobody in the hiring process cares what your email is so long as it’s benign and not childish - everyone copy/pastes anyway 99 times out of 100. Spend 5 minutes and find something suitable and move on to more value-added items.", "Use your career or the town you were born in as a suffix. JohnDoeWriter@gmail,. JohnDoeFreecity@gmail, etc.\n\nYou could also use your mother's maiden name as a suffix", "You could try using a less well known email service such as proton mail. More chance of getting your name that way.", "You could also pay a tiny amount and get your own domain so you could be [email protected]\n\nhttps://themeisle.com/blog/use-gmail-with-your-own-domain-name/", "You can try adding your middle initial or middle name, field (ex: engineer), school, special characters...but you don't want anything too long. This is a tough one!", "I have a friend with a very common name who added our university name to the end of his email. Other ideas could be your field (JohnDoeWriting) or location (JohnDoeNYC).", "Adding to a few of the mentioned above, you can also use multiple letters from each name like John R Smith as jorsmith@gmail. om etc until you get one that works. A few random numbers are fine too as long as it isn't something like 42069.", "I don't have the most common name like at all but as I was choosing my name I would use usernames like TisBe(name) or TisBeTheGreat(name) which like aren't the worst Id think for professionalism. \nI also have a set of numbers I like to choose from for usernames but they're not like super common number combos on purpose like 710, 7 and 13 are my 3. \nZ's,Z's and I think Y's are less commonly used in amounts more than 2 or 3 or sometimes just in general.", "Google allows you to set up a business email thingy, so you can be [email protected]\n\nYou should get an LLC at some point, tis very useful, and you can get a business email through that name.\n\nFull name, if not too long JohnRonaldSmith@gmail.\n\nRandom double digits as long as they don't make you sound either too young or old.\n\nJohnSmith75 but not JohnSmith99", "These are all great! One thing I haven't seen is using a . or a _ between your names/initials. That's how I've gotten mine set up, I've got a medium level common name and I didn't need any numbers or anything with the \".\" Between my names." ]

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[ "How can I force myself to take action ? Hey guys been a frequent visitor of this sub but this will be my first post and question here.\n\nI'm in need of tips/help on how to force myself to take action. It's to the point even getting out of bed in the morning is a problem, I wake up and stay in the bed for like 30 mins.\n\nAlso I'm not working out at all like I used to ( which is weird since sports has been very big in my life , I played probably 3 different sports in a season until I stuck with basketball.) I always used to push myself in everything I did. Now working out and playing basketball seems so daunting , just driving to the gym alone.\n\nIs there any mental tricks I can do to get back into it ? Like even something to help me get out of bed ( an alarm isn't working because I just turn it off and then start browsing on my phone). I feel I lack that push I had where mentally I reminded myself what I needed to get done.\n\n​\n\n", "How can I force myself to take action ? Hey guys been a frequent visitor of this sub but this will be my first post and question here.\n\nI'm in need of tips/help on how to force myself to take action. It's to the point even getting out of bed in the morning is a problem, I wake up and stay in the bed for like 30 mins.\n\nAlso I'm not working out at all like I used to ( which is weird since sports has been very big in my life , I played probably 3 different sports in a season until I stuck with basketball.) I always used to push myself in everything I did. Now working out and playing basketball seems so daunting , just driving to the gym alone.\n\nIs there any mental tricks I can do to get back into it ? Like even something to help me get out of bed ( an alarm isn't working because I just turn it off and then start browsing on my phone). I feel I lack that push I had where mentally I reminded myself what I needed to get done.\n\n​\n\n", "How can I force myself to take action ? Hey guys been a frequent visitor of this sub but this will be my first post and question here.\n\nI'm in need of tips/help on how to force myself to take action. It's to the point even getting out of bed in the morning is a problem, I wake up and stay in the bed for like 30 mins.\n\nAlso I'm not working out at all like I used to ( which is weird since sports has been very big in my life , I played probably 3 different sports in a season until I stuck with basketball.) I always used to push myself in everything I did. Now working out and playing basketball seems so daunting , just driving to the gym alone.\n\nIs there any mental tricks I can do to get back into it ? Like even something to help me get out of bed ( an alarm isn't working because I just turn it off and then start browsing on my phone). I feel I lack that push I had where mentally I reminded myself what I needed to get done.\n\n​\n\n", "How can I force myself to take action ? Hey guys been a frequent visitor of this sub but this will be my first post and question here.\n\nI'm in need of tips/help on how to force myself to take action. It's to the point even getting out of bed in the morning is a problem, I wake up and stay in the bed for like 30 mins.\n\nAlso I'm not working out at all like I used to ( which is weird since sports has been very big in my life , I played probably 3 different sports in a season until I stuck with basketball.) I always used to push myself in everything I did. Now working out and playing basketball seems so daunting , just driving to the gym alone.\n\nIs there any mental tricks I can do to get back into it ? Like even something to help me get out of bed ( an alarm isn't working because I just turn it off and then start browsing on my phone). I feel I lack that push I had where mentally I reminded myself what I needed to get done.\n\n​\n\n", "How can I force myself to take action ? Hey guys been a frequent visitor of this sub but this will be my first post and question here.\n\nI'm in need of tips/help on how to force myself to take action. It's to the point even getting out of bed in the morning is a problem, I wake up and stay in the bed for like 30 mins.\n\nAlso I'm not working out at all like I used to ( which is weird since sports has been very big in my life , I played probably 3 different sports in a season until I stuck with basketball.) I always used to push myself in everything I did. Now working out and playing basketball seems so daunting , just driving to the gym alone.\n\nIs there any mental tricks I can do to get back into it ? Like even something to help me get out of bed ( an alarm isn't working because I just turn it off and then start browsing on my phone). I feel I lack that push I had where mentally I reminded myself what I needed to get done.\n\n​\n\n" ]

[ "I get a terrible lack of motivation at times. I have to promise myself a treat if I get a thing done sometimes. Long term depression suffer.", "Put your phone away?\n\nI never had issues with this, but for practical reasons my phone is not anywhere near my bed. Perhaps this would help? You'd be forced to stand up at least.", "I frequently go to the gym and I sometimes have the days where I dont really wanna go but I just tell myself: \"Fuck it!\"\n\nI often dont have motivation for anything so I just have to find it in something.\n\nFor example:\n\nDont want to go to school?\n\nIll meet my friends and without education I wont get a good job.", "I forget if it was in another LPT or a comment but imagine yourself when you’re 100 years old. You will wish you could do everyday things you can do now. When you’re 100, you can’t go to the gym.", "Break things down into small steps where possible. Then just worry about one little step...\n\nAlso, classic symptom of depression..." ]

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[ "How to get rid of gnats. I have a serious gnat problem in my kitchen, right now. I've searched online and tried several things (vinegar in a jar with a lid, pouring vegetable oil down the drain) but nothing has worked. What are you best tips for ridding my kitchen of these pests?", "How to get rid of gnats. I have a serious gnat problem in my kitchen, right now. I've searched online and tried several things (vinegar in a jar with a lid, pouring vegetable oil down the drain) but nothing has worked. What are you best tips for ridding my kitchen of these pests?", "How to get rid of gnats. I have a serious gnat problem in my kitchen, right now. I've searched online and tried several things (vinegar in a jar with a lid, pouring vegetable oil down the drain) but nothing has worked. What are you best tips for ridding my kitchen of these pests?", "How to get rid of gnats. I have a serious gnat problem in my kitchen, right now. I've searched online and tried several things (vinegar in a jar with a lid, pouring vegetable oil down the drain) but nothing has worked. What are you best tips for ridding my kitchen of these pests?" ]

[ "So I live in Southern CA with a door that is open 24/7 and being summer we have a endless supply of gnats/fruit flies. I searched google and found the best way was to pour apple cider vinegar in a cup, cover with Saran Wrap and poke holes so the flies would go in but couldn't fly out. I tested the theory and made three cups with the following: apple cider vin, white zin wine, and a water/fruit combo. Left them together for ~3 weeks and the white zin KILLED it. There were about 3x as many flys in the wine compared to everything else. \n\nTL;DR: Use white zin covered in Saran Wrap with holes poked in it.", "I've been there! \n\nPrevention is **key**. First of all, take away their food. Ensure garbage cans have lids, The kind that flip are ok but the ones that actually \"seal\" work best. \n\nEnsure any dishes are scraped and rinsed when you put them in the sink.\n\nClean your drains every 2 or 3 months- Dump 1/4 cup baking soda down there, stir a bit to get it down in the hole, and then add 1/2 cup vinegar. Plug that drain! Let it sit 10 minutes, then pour about 6 cups boiling water down the drain. Do this to every drain, including bathroom tubs and sinks, you may notice a decrease in house odors when you do!\n\nWhen you actually do have flies, I prefer long, tall glasses and balsamic vinegar and a drop of dish soap (to break the miniscus and keep the flies from just standing on the top). Now stretch some saranwrap tight and rubber band in place. Poke holes in the center with a toothpick, you will probably have to experiment a little bit to find a size that is big enough for them to crawl in, but not fly back out. Watch to see if it's working! (If you're really impatient and you see a bunch of flies in there, cover it with a flat heavy and throw 'em in the freezer. After a few minutes, give it a shake and they'll all fall into the vinegar and down more quickly). The key is to being patient, it's probably going to take a few days. \n\nI keep 2 or 3 of these jars around my plants and sink at all times, again with the preventative thing. ", "Be sure to use cider vinegar? Fill jar to half inch, add a drop of dish soap, tightly cover the jar with Saran wrap, then poke holes in it with a toothpick. Also don't leave fruit on the counter, put a lid on your trash bin and do not, I repeat, do not pour oil down the drain. ", "Are they gnats or fruit flies? The vinegar think worked well for me with fruit flies. When you say \"jar with a lid\" what do you mean exactly?\n\nWhat we used was basically a cruet (like this one, but not this one: http://www.amazon.com/Glass-Vinegar-Dispenser-Cruet-bottles/dp/B002PXB4SC/ref=sr_1_6?s=kitchen&ie=UTF8&qid=1372700111&sr=1-6) without the stopper on. The flies would crawl down the tube, and get trapped.\n\nAlso, relatedly, if you have a red wine vinegar cruet, and don't have a stopper on it, check for flies before you use it!" ]

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[ "Managing cooking smell in a studio apartment Recently, moved into a decently sized studio that I like a lot but the smell of whatever I just cooked always lingers. \n\nI always do dishes immediately after I finish eating and open a window to let the place air out but that won't be an option once winter rolls in. I often cook with garlic and onions and I'm worried that my clothes and bed are gonna pick up a permanent odor. \n\nAny tips?", "Managing cooking smell in a studio apartment Recently, moved into a decently sized studio that I like a lot but the smell of whatever I just cooked always lingers. \n\nI always do dishes immediately after I finish eating and open a window to let the place air out but that won't be an option once winter rolls in. I often cook with garlic and onions and I'm worried that my clothes and bed are gonna pick up a permanent odor. \n\nAny tips?", "Managing cooking smell in a studio apartment Recently, moved into a decently sized studio that I like a lot but the smell of whatever I just cooked always lingers. \n\nI always do dishes immediately after I finish eating and open a window to let the place air out but that won't be an option once winter rolls in. I often cook with garlic and onions and I'm worried that my clothes and bed are gonna pick up a permanent odor. \n\nAny tips?" ]

[ "Buy fried garlic and fried onions. I buy it from the Asian market by the bag/tub and use that in cooking alot. It is quicker, but the flavor is still there.\n\nSeriously, I use it in everything that requires those ingredients. ", "I lived in a small place in Seattle for a long time with big windows, but even though I opened them, the smell from cooking lingered. At times, I'd cook in the kitchen, then go to my bedroom a few hours later and it'd smell like sausage or whatever I'd cooked earlier. Definitely weird to have a lot of food smell so close to the place where you sleep. \n\nMany studios have a problem with stagnant air since you have a large, vertical space and usually no ceiling fans. Just opening the windows probably won't help enough, you need to move the air around. Circulation = key. \n\nI bought a box fan and a personal fan and used them to move the air around, blowing towards open windows - that certainly seemed to help.", "Cook in pots that you can cover with lids. Make stews, soups etc. and wash pottery immediately after use (not after dinner) using hot water. Half of the solution is preventing the smell from being there in the first place!" ]

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[ "How do I get rid of this stubborn mildew smell on my clothes? I have a front loading washing machine that I did clean several times prior to washing (there's no bad smell coming from it).\n\nI then washed my laundry once with liquid detergent + baking soda in a cold wash. I then did a second cold wash with distilled white vinegar only.\n\nI'm still getting the same mildew smell.. I'm thinking I may need to use less detergent, or a different detergent. Or do I need to use hot water instead of cold? But I don't want to ruin my clothes. Or I think I may be putting in too much load into the laundry machine which isn't getting it clean all the way.\n\nCan anyone give me some advice on what I can do? Would it help if I soaked my clothes in vinegar with water for a few hours then doing another cycle in the washing machine with baking soda? What would be the appropriate ratio to use for a vinegar soak? Any help would be greatly appreciated..", "How do I get rid of this stubborn mildew smell on my clothes? I have a front loading washing machine that I did clean several times prior to washing (there's no bad smell coming from it).\n\nI then washed my laundry once with liquid detergent + baking soda in a cold wash. I then did a second cold wash with distilled white vinegar only.\n\nI'm still getting the same mildew smell.. I'm thinking I may need to use less detergent, or a different detergent. Or do I need to use hot water instead of cold? But I don't want to ruin my clothes. Or I think I may be putting in too much load into the laundry machine which isn't getting it clean all the way.\n\nCan anyone give me some advice on what I can do? Would it help if I soaked my clothes in vinegar with water for a few hours then doing another cycle in the washing machine with baking soda? What would be the appropriate ratio to use for a vinegar soak? Any help would be greatly appreciated..", "How do I get rid of this stubborn mildew smell on my clothes? I have a front loading washing machine that I did clean several times prior to washing (there's no bad smell coming from it).\n\nI then washed my laundry once with liquid detergent + baking soda in a cold wash. I then did a second cold wash with distilled white vinegar only.\n\nI'm still getting the same mildew smell.. I'm thinking I may need to use less detergent, or a different detergent. Or do I need to use hot water instead of cold? But I don't want to ruin my clothes. Or I think I may be putting in too much load into the laundry machine which isn't getting it clean all the way.\n\nCan anyone give me some advice on what I can do? Would it help if I soaked my clothes in vinegar with water for a few hours then doing another cycle in the washing machine with baking soda? What would be the appropriate ratio to use for a vinegar soak? Any help would be greatly appreciated..", "How do I get rid of this stubborn mildew smell on my clothes? I have a front loading washing machine that I did clean several times prior to washing (there's no bad smell coming from it).\n\nI then washed my laundry once with liquid detergent + baking soda in a cold wash. I then did a second cold wash with distilled white vinegar only.\n\nI'm still getting the same mildew smell.. I'm thinking I may need to use less detergent, or a different detergent. Or do I need to use hot water instead of cold? But I don't want to ruin my clothes. Or I think I may be putting in too much load into the laundry machine which isn't getting it clean all the way.\n\nCan anyone give me some advice on what I can do? Would it help if I soaked my clothes in vinegar with water for a few hours then doing another cycle in the washing machine with baking soda? What would be the appropriate ratio to use for a vinegar soak? Any help would be greatly appreciated..", "How do I get rid of this stubborn mildew smell on my clothes? I have a front loading washing machine that I did clean several times prior to washing (there's no bad smell coming from it).\n\nI then washed my laundry once with liquid detergent + baking soda in a cold wash. I then did a second cold wash with distilled white vinegar only.\n\nI'm still getting the same mildew smell.. I'm thinking I may need to use less detergent, or a different detergent. Or do I need to use hot water instead of cold? But I don't want to ruin my clothes. Or I think I may be putting in too much load into the laundry machine which isn't getting it clean all the way.\n\nCan anyone give me some advice on what I can do? Would it help if I soaked my clothes in vinegar with water for a few hours then doing another cycle in the washing machine with baking soda? What would be the appropriate ratio to use for a vinegar soak? Any help would be greatly appreciated..", "How do I get rid of this stubborn mildew smell on my clothes? I have a front loading washing machine that I did clean several times prior to washing (there's no bad smell coming from it).\n\nI then washed my laundry once with liquid detergent + baking soda in a cold wash. I then did a second cold wash with distilled white vinegar only.\n\nI'm still getting the same mildew smell.. I'm thinking I may need to use less detergent, or a different detergent. Or do I need to use hot water instead of cold? But I don't want to ruin my clothes. Or I think I may be putting in too much load into the laundry machine which isn't getting it clean all the way.\n\nCan anyone give me some advice on what I can do? Would it help if I soaked my clothes in vinegar with water for a few hours then doing another cycle in the washing machine with baking soda? What would be the appropriate ratio to use for a vinegar soak? Any help would be greatly appreciated.." ]

[ "It is widely known that you have to leave the door open when not in use on a front loader to keep it from getting that stank.", "The problem is your washing machine. It may look clean and smell ok, but there's hidden mildew in it.\n\nGet a rag and bleach mixed with equal parts warm water, and thoroughly clean all the rubber seals, inside all the creases and everywhere. Then run the machine *empty* on the hottest wash. Then, put a bottle (500ml/16oz) of white vinegar into the detergent dispenser, and run it again on the hottest cycle (NOTE: DO NOT MIX THE BLEACH AND VINEGAR - IT'S DANGEROUS. Run them on two different cycles). That should destroy the mildew.", "Go and get an old blanket or a bunch of old towels that you don't mind getting ruined. You need it for weight and to move the water around. Put them In with a large load setting on hot water and add powdered bleach. Do this at least once month. Also, wipe down the inside lip of the door seal to remove any accumulated grime", "Like a good little Millennial, I've done extensive research on household tips forums and my life was forever changed. \n \nI see in the comments that you've already done the empty/rag cycles with baking soda and vinegar, which is great, as it cleans the interior. There was some great advice about cleaning the drawer, too. Let me share some more general advice I've accumulated throughout the years: \n \na) use less fabric softener, use it only with certain fabrics, or forgo it altogether - it's chock-full of fat that sticks to any surface (both washing machine and clothes), accumulates, and moulds; \n \nb) consider liquid detergents or at least switch it up - powder tends to clump and accumulate in places where you can't see or reach;\n \nc) no matter what it seems, the detergent drawer IS removable. Don't force it, there should be a way to wiggle it out completely. Check your washing machine model online if you have to; \n \nd) instead of fabric softener, add some (~half a cup?) vinegar into your laundry load - it will soften the fabric, get rid of old softener in the clothes, kill bacteria, and will not damage or stain your fabrics (but try to use it sparsely on delicate loads); it will NOT leave a vinegar smell. \n \ne) use baking soda for a crisp clean feel but ONLY on whites - it has got a mild bleaching effect. \n \nf) hang your clothes properly - grab clothes by hems and seams, give them a little shake or two, make sure all sleeves and legs are straight, then hang them so that clothes touch as little as possible. If you wash a lot in one go, fold clothes in half to dry, no more. Leave the room you hang out clothes to dry open. \n \ng) if you have a dryer (I don't), consider that it also might need cleaning and that clothes might end up still a bit damp after a drying cycle. If you then keep them in a pile, they will smell of mildew. \n \nGood luck!", "Buy this cleaner, it worked for me like a charm. Was having the same issues.\n\nhttps://duckduckgo.com/?q=tide%20washer%20cleaner&iax=images&ia=images&iai=https://images.homedepot-static.com/productImages/9eb9c9bc-d1b6-4e9d-93d5-4ce2ba4048b5/svn/tide-appliance-cleaners-003700085059-64_1000.jpg", "All of the above tips are great but to get the mushy smell out of your clothes is to thoroughly dry them outside in warm sunshine. Leave them out for the whole day or two initially weather permitting.\n\nMusty odors are caused by mould which is dangerous to your health. It flourishes in cold damp dark conditions. Change these conditions and the mould dies. Sunshine UV is also fatal to mould. Hanging clothes outside in the sun completely changes the molds environment in every way. The fresh air also gets rid of the smell.\n\nAnother tip, hang your washing outside as soon as it has finished getting clean. Leaving it sitting in the machine and you have ideal conditions for mould and smells." ]

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[ "Computer eye strain solutions **Backstory**\n\nI've used computers basically my entire life, for 30+ years, my eyesight is normal. Most days I sit in front of a screen for almost all of the day, for work, and for fun.\n\nBack some 5 years ago or so I started noticing eye strain with constant computer use and started to pay attention to things like \"eye care\" features in monitors, flicker-free and sufficient lighting in the room, blue-light filtering glasses, and overall tuning all kinds of things to reduce eye strain. I don't have glare issues.\n\nI know all the basics, and that you should take breaks and look at other things regularly, but I've found it challenging to adopt in practice.\n\nIn the past couple of months it has gotten much worse again, some days I've basically felt like I have been welding without a mask, and a few days I was really unable to look at a monitor without instantly feeling pain in my eyes.\n\nI tried some eye drops as well, but they didn't really do anything to me, but I dunno if some eye drops are better suited for the job than others.\n\n​\n\n**Request**\n\nI've been trying to look into options I have, but would appreciate additional ideas and feedback.\n\nThe 25\" e-ink monitors from DASUNG and BOOX are interesting - I tried to hack something together with my reMarkable 2 using a remote desktop viewer to see if I could use e-ink but it was so much worse with all the hacks that like that I could not use it. However I still remain hopeful about these.\n\nI also found some color e-ink Android tablets, which might work as a more general-purpose small device that I might at least be able to use for chatting, watching Youtube, etc. when I can't do anything else.\n\nThere's also some U.S. based (I'm in EU) company with \"RLCD\" monitors - apparently somewhat similar to e-ink for viewing properties, only Full-HD resolution for a 32\" monitor, but 60Hz and full color. If these could save me from the eye pain this might be the best option I can invest in.\n\nAre there other things that would for sure help? Is there something a doctor could do other than just take a look at my otherwise fine vision?", "Computer eye strain solutions **Backstory**\n\nI've used computers basically my entire life, for 30+ years, my eyesight is normal. Most days I sit in front of a screen for almost all of the day, for work, and for fun.\n\nBack some 5 years ago or so I started noticing eye strain with constant computer use and started to pay attention to things like \"eye care\" features in monitors, flicker-free and sufficient lighting in the room, blue-light filtering glasses, and overall tuning all kinds of things to reduce eye strain. I don't have glare issues.\n\nI know all the basics, and that you should take breaks and look at other things regularly, but I've found it challenging to adopt in practice.\n\nIn the past couple of months it has gotten much worse again, some days I've basically felt like I have been welding without a mask, and a few days I was really unable to look at a monitor without instantly feeling pain in my eyes.\n\nI tried some eye drops as well, but they didn't really do anything to me, but I dunno if some eye drops are better suited for the job than others.\n\n​\n\n**Request**\n\nI've been trying to look into options I have, but would appreciate additional ideas and feedback.\n\nThe 25\" e-ink monitors from DASUNG and BOOX are interesting - I tried to hack something together with my reMarkable 2 using a remote desktop viewer to see if I could use e-ink but it was so much worse with all the hacks that like that I could not use it. However I still remain hopeful about these.\n\nI also found some color e-ink Android tablets, which might work as a more general-purpose small device that I might at least be able to use for chatting, watching Youtube, etc. when I can't do anything else.\n\nThere's also some U.S. based (I'm in EU) company with \"RLCD\" monitors - apparently somewhat similar to e-ink for viewing properties, only Full-HD resolution for a 32\" monitor, but 60Hz and full color. If these could save me from the eye pain this might be the best option I can invest in.\n\nAre there other things that would for sure help? Is there something a doctor could do other than just take a look at my otherwise fine vision?", "Computer eye strain solutions **Backstory**\n\nI've used computers basically my entire life, for 30+ years, my eyesight is normal. Most days I sit in front of a screen for almost all of the day, for work, and for fun.\n\nBack some 5 years ago or so I started noticing eye strain with constant computer use and started to pay attention to things like \"eye care\" features in monitors, flicker-free and sufficient lighting in the room, blue-light filtering glasses, and overall tuning all kinds of things to reduce eye strain. I don't have glare issues.\n\nI know all the basics, and that you should take breaks and look at other things regularly, but I've found it challenging to adopt in practice.\n\nIn the past couple of months it has gotten much worse again, some days I've basically felt like I have been welding without a mask, and a few days I was really unable to look at a monitor without instantly feeling pain in my eyes.\n\nI tried some eye drops as well, but they didn't really do anything to me, but I dunno if some eye drops are better suited for the job than others.\n\n​\n\n**Request**\n\nI've been trying to look into options I have, but would appreciate additional ideas and feedback.\n\nThe 25\" e-ink monitors from DASUNG and BOOX are interesting - I tried to hack something together with my reMarkable 2 using a remote desktop viewer to see if I could use e-ink but it was so much worse with all the hacks that like that I could not use it. However I still remain hopeful about these.\n\nI also found some color e-ink Android tablets, which might work as a more general-purpose small device that I might at least be able to use for chatting, watching Youtube, etc. when I can't do anything else.\n\nThere's also some U.S. based (I'm in EU) company with \"RLCD\" monitors - apparently somewhat similar to e-ink for viewing properties, only Full-HD resolution for a 32\" monitor, but 60Hz and full color. If these could save me from the eye pain this might be the best option I can invest in.\n\nAre there other things that would for sure help? Is there something a doctor could do other than just take a look at my otherwise fine vision?", "Computer eye strain solutions **Backstory**\n\nI've used computers basically my entire life, for 30+ years, my eyesight is normal. Most days I sit in front of a screen for almost all of the day, for work, and for fun.\n\nBack some 5 years ago or so I started noticing eye strain with constant computer use and started to pay attention to things like \"eye care\" features in monitors, flicker-free and sufficient lighting in the room, blue-light filtering glasses, and overall tuning all kinds of things to reduce eye strain. I don't have glare issues.\n\nI know all the basics, and that you should take breaks and look at other things regularly, but I've found it challenging to adopt in practice.\n\nIn the past couple of months it has gotten much worse again, some days I've basically felt like I have been welding without a mask, and a few days I was really unable to look at a monitor without instantly feeling pain in my eyes.\n\nI tried some eye drops as well, but they didn't really do anything to me, but I dunno if some eye drops are better suited for the job than others.\n\n​\n\n**Request**\n\nI've been trying to look into options I have, but would appreciate additional ideas and feedback.\n\nThe 25\" e-ink monitors from DASUNG and BOOX are interesting - I tried to hack something together with my reMarkable 2 using a remote desktop viewer to see if I could use e-ink but it was so much worse with all the hacks that like that I could not use it. However I still remain hopeful about these.\n\nI also found some color e-ink Android tablets, which might work as a more general-purpose small device that I might at least be able to use for chatting, watching Youtube, etc. when I can't do anything else.\n\nThere's also some U.S. based (I'm in EU) company with \"RLCD\" monitors - apparently somewhat similar to e-ink for viewing properties, only Full-HD resolution for a 32\" monitor, but 60Hz and full color. If these could save me from the eye pain this might be the best option I can invest in.\n\nAre there other things that would for sure help? Is there something a doctor could do other than just take a look at my otherwise fine vision?", "Computer eye strain solutions **Backstory**\n\nI've used computers basically my entire life, for 30+ years, my eyesight is normal. Most days I sit in front of a screen for almost all of the day, for work, and for fun.\n\nBack some 5 years ago or so I started noticing eye strain with constant computer use and started to pay attention to things like \"eye care\" features in monitors, flicker-free and sufficient lighting in the room, blue-light filtering glasses, and overall tuning all kinds of things to reduce eye strain. I don't have glare issues.\n\nI know all the basics, and that you should take breaks and look at other things regularly, but I've found it challenging to adopt in practice.\n\nIn the past couple of months it has gotten much worse again, some days I've basically felt like I have been welding without a mask, and a few days I was really unable to look at a monitor without instantly feeling pain in my eyes.\n\nI tried some eye drops as well, but they didn't really do anything to me, but I dunno if some eye drops are better suited for the job than others.\n\n​\n\n**Request**\n\nI've been trying to look into options I have, but would appreciate additional ideas and feedback.\n\nThe 25\" e-ink monitors from DASUNG and BOOX are interesting - I tried to hack something together with my reMarkable 2 using a remote desktop viewer to see if I could use e-ink but it was so much worse with all the hacks that like that I could not use it. However I still remain hopeful about these.\n\nI also found some color e-ink Android tablets, which might work as a more general-purpose small device that I might at least be able to use for chatting, watching Youtube, etc. when I can't do anything else.\n\nThere's also some U.S. based (I'm in EU) company with \"RLCD\" monitors - apparently somewhat similar to e-ink for viewing properties, only Full-HD resolution for a 32\" monitor, but 60Hz and full color. If these could save me from the eye pain this might be the best option I can invest in.\n\nAre there other things that would for sure help? Is there something a doctor could do other than just take a look at my otherwise fine vision?", "Computer eye strain solutions **Backstory**\n\nI've used computers basically my entire life, for 30+ years, my eyesight is normal. Most days I sit in front of a screen for almost all of the day, for work, and for fun.\n\nBack some 5 years ago or so I started noticing eye strain with constant computer use and started to pay attention to things like \"eye care\" features in monitors, flicker-free and sufficient lighting in the room, blue-light filtering glasses, and overall tuning all kinds of things to reduce eye strain. I don't have glare issues.\n\nI know all the basics, and that you should take breaks and look at other things regularly, but I've found it challenging to adopt in practice.\n\nIn the past couple of months it has gotten much worse again, some days I've basically felt like I have been welding without a mask, and a few days I was really unable to look at a monitor without instantly feeling pain in my eyes.\n\nI tried some eye drops as well, but they didn't really do anything to me, but I dunno if some eye drops are better suited for the job than others.\n\n​\n\n**Request**\n\nI've been trying to look into options I have, but would appreciate additional ideas and feedback.\n\nThe 25\" e-ink monitors from DASUNG and BOOX are interesting - I tried to hack something together with my reMarkable 2 using a remote desktop viewer to see if I could use e-ink but it was so much worse with all the hacks that like that I could not use it. However I still remain hopeful about these.\n\nI also found some color e-ink Android tablets, which might work as a more general-purpose small device that I might at least be able to use for chatting, watching Youtube, etc. when I can't do anything else.\n\nThere's also some U.S. based (I'm in EU) company with \"RLCD\" monitors - apparently somewhat similar to e-ink for viewing properties, only Full-HD resolution for a 32\" monitor, but 60Hz and full color. If these could save me from the eye pain this might be the best option I can invest in.\n\nAre there other things that would for sure help? Is there something a doctor could do other than just take a look at my otherwise fine vision?", "Computer eye strain solutions **Backstory**\n\nI've used computers basically my entire life, for 30+ years, my eyesight is normal. Most days I sit in front of a screen for almost all of the day, for work, and for fun.\n\nBack some 5 years ago or so I started noticing eye strain with constant computer use and started to pay attention to things like \"eye care\" features in monitors, flicker-free and sufficient lighting in the room, blue-light filtering glasses, and overall tuning all kinds of things to reduce eye strain. I don't have glare issues.\n\nI know all the basics, and that you should take breaks and look at other things regularly, but I've found it challenging to adopt in practice.\n\nIn the past couple of months it has gotten much worse again, some days I've basically felt like I have been welding without a mask, and a few days I was really unable to look at a monitor without instantly feeling pain in my eyes.\n\nI tried some eye drops as well, but they didn't really do anything to me, but I dunno if some eye drops are better suited for the job than others.\n\n​\n\n**Request**\n\nI've been trying to look into options I have, but would appreciate additional ideas and feedback.\n\nThe 25\" e-ink monitors from DASUNG and BOOX are interesting - I tried to hack something together with my reMarkable 2 using a remote desktop viewer to see if I could use e-ink but it was so much worse with all the hacks that like that I could not use it. However I still remain hopeful about these.\n\nI also found some color e-ink Android tablets, which might work as a more general-purpose small device that I might at least be able to use for chatting, watching Youtube, etc. when I can't do anything else.\n\nThere's also some U.S. based (I'm in EU) company with \"RLCD\" monitors - apparently somewhat similar to e-ink for viewing properties, only Full-HD resolution for a 32\" monitor, but 60Hz and full color. If these could save me from the eye pain this might be the best option I can invest in.\n\nAre there other things that would for sure help? Is there something a doctor could do other than just take a look at my otherwise fine vision?", "Computer eye strain solutions **Backstory**\n\nI've used computers basically my entire life, for 30+ years, my eyesight is normal. Most days I sit in front of a screen for almost all of the day, for work, and for fun.\n\nBack some 5 years ago or so I started noticing eye strain with constant computer use and started to pay attention to things like \"eye care\" features in monitors, flicker-free and sufficient lighting in the room, blue-light filtering glasses, and overall tuning all kinds of things to reduce eye strain. I don't have glare issues.\n\nI know all the basics, and that you should take breaks and look at other things regularly, but I've found it challenging to adopt in practice.\n\nIn the past couple of months it has gotten much worse again, some days I've basically felt like I have been welding without a mask, and a few days I was really unable to look at a monitor without instantly feeling pain in my eyes.\n\nI tried some eye drops as well, but they didn't really do anything to me, but I dunno if some eye drops are better suited for the job than others.\n\n​\n\n**Request**\n\nI've been trying to look into options I have, but would appreciate additional ideas and feedback.\n\nThe 25\" e-ink monitors from DASUNG and BOOX are interesting - I tried to hack something together with my reMarkable 2 using a remote desktop viewer to see if I could use e-ink but it was so much worse with all the hacks that like that I could not use it. However I still remain hopeful about these.\n\nI also found some color e-ink Android tablets, which might work as a more general-purpose small device that I might at least be able to use for chatting, watching Youtube, etc. when I can't do anything else.\n\nThere's also some U.S. based (I'm in EU) company with \"RLCD\" monitors - apparently somewhat similar to e-ink for viewing properties, only Full-HD resolution for a 32\" monitor, but 60Hz and full color. If these could save me from the eye pain this might be the best option I can invest in.\n\nAre there other things that would for sure help? Is there something a doctor could do other than just take a look at my otherwise fine vision?", "Computer eye strain solutions **Backstory**\n\nI've used computers basically my entire life, for 30+ years, my eyesight is normal. Most days I sit in front of a screen for almost all of the day, for work, and for fun.\n\nBack some 5 years ago or so I started noticing eye strain with constant computer use and started to pay attention to things like \"eye care\" features in monitors, flicker-free and sufficient lighting in the room, blue-light filtering glasses, and overall tuning all kinds of things to reduce eye strain. I don't have glare issues.\n\nI know all the basics, and that you should take breaks and look at other things regularly, but I've found it challenging to adopt in practice.\n\nIn the past couple of months it has gotten much worse again, some days I've basically felt like I have been welding without a mask, and a few days I was really unable to look at a monitor without instantly feeling pain in my eyes.\n\nI tried some eye drops as well, but they didn't really do anything to me, but I dunno if some eye drops are better suited for the job than others.\n\n​\n\n**Request**\n\nI've been trying to look into options I have, but would appreciate additional ideas and feedback.\n\nThe 25\" e-ink monitors from DASUNG and BOOX are interesting - I tried to hack something together with my reMarkable 2 using a remote desktop viewer to see if I could use e-ink but it was so much worse with all the hacks that like that I could not use it. However I still remain hopeful about these.\n\nI also found some color e-ink Android tablets, which might work as a more general-purpose small device that I might at least be able to use for chatting, watching Youtube, etc. when I can't do anything else.\n\nThere's also some U.S. based (I'm in EU) company with \"RLCD\" monitors - apparently somewhat similar to e-ink for viewing properties, only Full-HD resolution for a 32\" monitor, but 60Hz and full color. If these could save me from the eye pain this might be the best option I can invest in.\n\nAre there other things that would for sure help? Is there something a doctor could do other than just take a look at my otherwise fine vision?", "Computer eye strain solutions **Backstory**\n\nI've used computers basically my entire life, for 30+ years, my eyesight is normal. Most days I sit in front of a screen for almost all of the day, for work, and for fun.\n\nBack some 5 years ago or so I started noticing eye strain with constant computer use and started to pay attention to things like \"eye care\" features in monitors, flicker-free and sufficient lighting in the room, blue-light filtering glasses, and overall tuning all kinds of things to reduce eye strain. I don't have glare issues.\n\nI know all the basics, and that you should take breaks and look at other things regularly, but I've found it challenging to adopt in practice.\n\nIn the past couple of months it has gotten much worse again, some days I've basically felt like I have been welding without a mask, and a few days I was really unable to look at a monitor without instantly feeling pain in my eyes.\n\nI tried some eye drops as well, but they didn't really do anything to me, but I dunno if some eye drops are better suited for the job than others.\n\n​\n\n**Request**\n\nI've been trying to look into options I have, but would appreciate additional ideas and feedback.\n\nThe 25\" e-ink monitors from DASUNG and BOOX are interesting - I tried to hack something together with my reMarkable 2 using a remote desktop viewer to see if I could use e-ink but it was so much worse with all the hacks that like that I could not use it. However I still remain hopeful about these.\n\nI also found some color e-ink Android tablets, which might work as a more general-purpose small device that I might at least be able to use for chatting, watching Youtube, etc. when I can't do anything else.\n\nThere's also some U.S. based (I'm in EU) company with \"RLCD\" monitors - apparently somewhat similar to e-ink for viewing properties, only Full-HD resolution for a 32\" monitor, but 60Hz and full color. If these could save me from the eye pain this might be the best option I can invest in.\n\nAre there other things that would for sure help? Is there something a doctor could do other than just take a look at my otherwise fine vision?" ]

[ "Yeah, it guy here. They make eye drops specifically for your problem. They're called digi-rohto. Purple liquid with a black cap. One drop in each eye and you'll be fine!", "the blue filter on my glasses have been indispensable in combating eye fatigue. Also an amber hue app like fliqlo so long as your work isn’t color sensitive helps", "Wear reading glasses. They won't really help with dry eyes, but they'll help with the muscle strain of focusing up close.\n\nEven better would be glasses that make a seal with your face. Reading goggles, if you will.", "I have good vision, but have found reading glasses help. \n\nBest thing I've done is increase the font size / mouse cursor size. Your eyes muscles don't have to work as hard to focus.\n\nTake a look at most websites you visit. If they are mostly displayed in a strip down the middle with lots of space on either side, you can increase your font size quite a bit.", "There is plug ins you can download to remove the blue light. Your screen will look yellow and ugly as hell but damn it works. I have no problems anymore", "There are eye exercises you can do. And also breaks. You can't just say you read the advice in breaks and ignored it lol", "The blue light blocking glasses did me wonders. I dont wear pres glasses, and was hesitant to try them. After months and months of hearing me complain (computer usage doubled after pandemic onset), she bought me a pair.\n\nTotal game changer. I experience minimal eye fatigue or headaches- up to 10 hours screen time a day.", "Doctor will give you Fish Oil pills for you dry eyes and that’s about it, the reason you”re getting eye strain is because you don’t blink enough when staring at a device….fish oil helps with dry eye/tear production it’s a common over the counter supplement available anywhere", "Blue light blocking glasses (the kind that are orange, not transparent) are your best bet. Blue light exposure will really mess up your circadian rhythm and cause all kinds of minor issues in your body.", "The solution is to not play the game at all \n\nAlso don't use your computer for anything else than watching your monitor like a clock\n\nAnd also don't use the windows search bar to change anything in a game" ]

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[ "How do you take notes from textbooks in a faster way? I take way too long taking notes from textbooks. The reason why I have to take notes is because the material from the textbooks will appear on my exams otherwise I wouldn't be taking them. Sometimes one chapter (22 pages) will take me 2 hours to take notes. \n\nHow do you take effective notes without taking too long? ", "How do you take notes from textbooks in a faster way? I take way too long taking notes from textbooks. The reason why I have to take notes is because the material from the textbooks will appear on my exams otherwise I wouldn't be taking them. Sometimes one chapter (22 pages) will take me 2 hours to take notes. \n\nHow do you take effective notes without taking too long? ", "How do you take notes from textbooks in a faster way? I take way too long taking notes from textbooks. The reason why I have to take notes is because the material from the textbooks will appear on my exams otherwise I wouldn't be taking them. Sometimes one chapter (22 pages) will take me 2 hours to take notes. \n\nHow do you take effective notes without taking too long? ", "How do you take notes from textbooks in a faster way? I take way too long taking notes from textbooks. The reason why I have to take notes is because the material from the textbooks will appear on my exams otherwise I wouldn't be taking them. Sometimes one chapter (22 pages) will take me 2 hours to take notes. \n\nHow do you take effective notes without taking too long? ", "How do you take notes from textbooks in a faster way? I take way too long taking notes from textbooks. The reason why I have to take notes is because the material from the textbooks will appear on my exams otherwise I wouldn't be taking them. Sometimes one chapter (22 pages) will take me 2 hours to take notes. \n\nHow do you take effective notes without taking too long? ", "How do you take notes from textbooks in a faster way? I take way too long taking notes from textbooks. The reason why I have to take notes is because the material from the textbooks will appear on my exams otherwise I wouldn't be taking them. Sometimes one chapter (22 pages) will take me 2 hours to take notes. \n\nHow do you take effective notes without taking too long? ", "How do you take notes from textbooks in a faster way? I take way too long taking notes from textbooks. The reason why I have to take notes is because the material from the textbooks will appear on my exams otherwise I wouldn't be taking them. Sometimes one chapter (22 pages) will take me 2 hours to take notes. \n\nHow do you take effective notes without taking too long? ", "How do you take notes from textbooks in a faster way? I take way too long taking notes from textbooks. The reason why I have to take notes is because the material from the textbooks will appear on my exams otherwise I wouldn't be taking them. Sometimes one chapter (22 pages) will take me 2 hours to take notes. \n\nHow do you take effective notes without taking too long? " ]

[ "Surprised nobody has mentioned that you can view textbooks as a long term investment and simply highlight the pages. Sticky notes with simple words can guide your references when studying and force you to understand in your own words the concepts you're interpreting in your work. Keep textbooks your whole life and simply buy new versions when you're forced to and more easily guide future learning.", "Leave out unnecessary words such as the, a, an, and words that don't contribute to the overall meaning. ", "I think this depends a lot on the subject matter - the way I take notes on my stats textbook is very different than my approach to a history book. Can you clarify?\n\nIn general, read the chapter through without taking notes once, then the second time through you'll have a much better sense of what are the most important parts. \n\nAlso, I break it down by heading and subheading, writing down 2-3 main ideas for each heading/subheading. NEVER write in complete sentences.", "I don't go to school anymore but I use Evernote. It's software on my phone and computer that I use to organize notes. I particularly like how you can take pictures of charts/graphs/text and all the content is instantly searchable. There's a subreddit for it. ", "Don't worry about speed, I literally take every fact that, maybe the ones I deem irrelevant I leave out, and turn them into questions which will then be added to a relevant [anki](http://ankisrs.net/) deck. Sorry but that's just life.", "Back when I took psychology, a lot of the text in textbooks was there to explain processes, mechanisms, etc. and you don't need to write those down, since if you understood it once, you'll most likely understand it again during the test. So I only wrote down in notes definitions of words/concepts I've never seen before such as:\n\n- Structuralism: based on the notion that the task of psychology is to analyze consciousness into its basic elements and investigate how these elements are related.\n\n- Functionalism: based on the belief that psychology should investigate the function or purpose of consciousness, rather than its structure.\n\nSo my notes were in essence a list of definitions that I could go over quickly to memorize. I'd sometimes also add in a few comments about things to watch out for.", "I am not much of a note-taker, but I have to read a lot and have learned a few things about the structure of most texts. \nIn text-books each pharagraph starts with the essence. If you dont understand it you can read the pharagraph for an explanation, or just the last sentence for summary/conclusion. Otherwise you can simply skip it and read the next section :)", "Adding to this, how do any of you study for Biology? I read my text book and write notes but still manage 50's to 60's." ]

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[ "Weddings! All you married redditors out there must have some awesome tips from your wedding experience... \n\nAny LPTs on planning or the event itself? \n\n", "Weddings! All you married redditors out there must have some awesome tips from your wedding experience... \n\nAny LPTs on planning or the event itself? \n\n", "Weddings! All you married redditors out there must have some awesome tips from your wedding experience... \n\nAny LPTs on planning or the event itself? \n\n", "Weddings! All you married redditors out there must have some awesome tips from your wedding experience... \n\nAny LPTs on planning or the event itself? \n\n", "Weddings! All you married redditors out there must have some awesome tips from your wedding experience... \n\nAny LPTs on planning or the event itself? \n\n", "Weddings! All you married redditors out there must have some awesome tips from your wedding experience... \n\nAny LPTs on planning or the event itself? \n\n", "Weddings! All you married redditors out there must have some awesome tips from your wedding experience... \n\nAny LPTs on planning or the event itself? \n\n" ]

[ "Unless your friends are pro photographers, hiring a real one is worth it. You want to capture those beautiful memories. ", "When ordering a cake, tell the baker it's for a birthday, not a wedding. Learned this from an askreddit today. ", "Don't skimp on the photographer. Pictures are the only thing from your wedding day that you will have to remember it by. Spend a little extra and make sure your get a good photographer who knows and likes what they're doing. \n\nAlso, if you are feeding your guests, get good food you like instead of what you think will impress people. My wife and I had our wedding catered by a local bbq caterer. It was way better than any prime rib or fancy chicken or fish would have been, and everybody told me how much they loved it.\n\nAnd last, make it fun! We've all been to a ton of boring weddings that are all the same, and they're all forgettable. Make yours fit your personality and have a good time with it. ", "My wife and I did our whole wedding on 5,000, for about 125 people. We had a friend in a band, but not a band you would want to play at a wedding so we used the sound equipment and hooked up an iPod for all the music so we didn't need a dj or a band. Had the reception and ceremony in a friends amazing backyard, we rented all the tables and chairs and the guys just had to set 'em up. Had a restaurant cater it buffet style. And bought a couple kegs and cases of champagne and wine direct from the winery. The part that I figure would be hardest for most people, is my wife bought her dress from a shop on ebay. We had a seamstress friend alter it for her as needed. But we were able to keep all the costs to a minimum. Then went nuts on a honeymoon.", "A good MC is worth their weight in gold.\n\nMake sure the MC knows how you want the reception to go, keep in close contact with them leading up to the day.\n\nA good MC will act as a buffer between you and the wedding guests. They should organise the group photos, get everyone hushed and ready for the speaches, and stop you from being pestered by friends and relatives during the reception just to name a few things.\n\nFurthermore, a good MC can organise something for the wedding guests to do whilst you and your bridal party are having the post ceremony photographs taken. It doesn't have to be much, but it should be in the same place, or very near where the reception is being held.\n\nBring an esky with a few drinks for you and your bridal party to drink whilst having the post ceremony photos.\n\nDon't be afraid to ask your friends and/or relatives for help. Some friends of our baked some lovely cup cakes for our wedding cake, people slept on other people's couches when accomodation wasn't available. Friends that are in bands may be able to provide music for cheap or even free (that can be their wedding gift).\n\nAnother friend of ours organised some lapel flowers for both mine and my wife's parents. This is something special for the parents, shows that you think of them as special, and is something they can keep after the wedding.\n\nDrink enough to keep you happy, but not so much you are totally pissed.\n\nAsk for money as your wedding gift. Some people will still give you something, but if you get cash, you can then go and buy what you really want or need. My wife and I have a lovely queen size bed from our wedding.\n\nMost importantly, however, this is YOUR day. Not your parents, not your friends and relatives... **YOURS**. Don't let a nagging mother or mother in law dictate what should and should not be in the ceremony.", "1) Don't spend too much. Create a budget, and stick with it. You want a great party, but you don't want to be in debt to start our your lives together. Find a balance.\n\n2) Don't worry too much about what people think you should do. Don't like dancing? Don't do dancing. Don't like pomp and circumstance? Forego all that nonsense. Aren't too big on flowers? Ease up on the dying plant matter. There will be people who will find things you do to be tacky, or undignified, or not enough, or too much. These are the people who will find something to complain about / criticize no matter what you do. Ignore them.\n\n3) Still, try and accommodate as much as possible for your guests. The party, in my opinion, is about them as much as it is about you guys. If it wasn't at least a little bit about them, then why invite them? Food is an easy way to make people feel included. Have a vegetarian main dish and keep all the sides (mostly) vegetarian if you are even going to have one vegetarian there. \n\n4) Accept help, delegate things, and make lists. Even up to and including the day of, make lists. Make them in such a way that you can hand someone the list (say, catering stuff) and tell them to take care of it and they won't be lost. This is particularly true on the day of - you'll have a ton of stuff to do to get ready for your wedding (get dressed, makeup, last minute errands, etc) and it will make life a million times easier if you can tell (for example) your mother in law to greet the caterer and feel confident that she'll be able to handle it (since you gave her a list of stuff for her to check up on). People will want to help, and you should let them. It's an honor to be allowed to help with someone's wedding. Still, don't assign people things that will require them to be working the whole night. Some people will really want to (say, be the live entertainment for the whole evening), but still make a backup playlist for your iPod in case they get tipsy and start chatting more, want to linger a little over dinner, or whatever. Give them an out if they want one.\n\n5) Things will go wrong. They just will. Plan for things going wrong as much as possible so that you won't freak out when something happens. \n\n6) Open bar.\n\n7) Keep things simple. If you're overwhelmed in details, see where you can maybe combine tasks / simplify things. \n\n8) Don't over think it. If you go to a caterer and you really, really like them and they're available, just go for it. Sure, you may find someone else whose food is a smidge better than what that guy's is. But you'll spend 6 months shopping for that other guy, and it will not be worth the stress.\n\n9) Don't invite people you don't want there unless it's *completely* unavoidable or inappropriate. Blame money constraints when all else fails. Some people will bitch and moan no matter what you do. Send these people favors anyway if you feel bad about it later.\n\n10) Elope. :D\n\nMy husband and I got married a few months ago up in northern New Hampshire. We planned everything from start to finish. We paid cash for everything. It was a low-frills, relatively casual, relatively structure-less event. We both dislike being the center of attention, and we both dislike the pomp and circumstance and super-organized lockstep arrangement of a traditional wedding. We had a JP preside over the ceremony - which took like, 10 minutes. Our guests took photos and uploaded them to a flickr page we set up for the event. We had a cocktail hour and catered barbecue. And a delightful lemon-raspberry cake. People seated themselves (we didn't create a seating arrangement) and floated wherever they wanted to go anyway. The rest of the evening was mingling and enjoying one another's company. No bouquet toss, no first dance, no DJ (though we did get a solo guitarist to play during the ceremony through dinner). All outdoors (and under a tent for dinner). It was a *blast* and a couple friends who were there who are now engaged are planning their weddings to be more like ours. ", "Just did an LPT post about wedding planning on a budget. I'm pretty surprised there isn't more wedding stuff in this subreddit, although I think some people post to askreddit about that sort of thing.\n\nhttp://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/1dwyyn/lpt_for_a_budget_wedding_look_at_white_bridesmaid/\n\nGeneral advice: it's your day. Don't be a jerk about it, but don't let people bully you into something you don't want. If you want to be nontraditional, go for it. If you don't want to invite all your third cousins, you don't have to. Someone giving you financial help may express a *preference,* but they do not get to be manipulative about it.\n\nTheknot.com has a pretty comprehensive checklist that I found helpful (and there are others elsewhere on the internet). You don't have to do everything on the list, but it's good to have a guideline so you know what to prioritize when.\n\nAlso, September and October are the new June, so plan accordingly!" ]

[ 4, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "Make honey/syrup come out faster Honey/Syrup always takes so long to pour and squeeze out when there's barely any of it left. \n\nAny Pro Tips on keeping honey/syrup at the top of the bottle or just getting it to a different consistency so it comes out faster?", "Make honey/syrup come out faster Honey/Syrup always takes so long to pour and squeeze out when there's barely any of it left. \n\nAny Pro Tips on keeping honey/syrup at the top of the bottle or just getting it to a different consistency so it comes out faster?" ]

[ "When it's getting low, store it upside down (especially syrup), and then right when you open it, it'll be like new. Except not nearly as much, of course. ", "Heat it up or store it at room temperature. There's a certain syrup brand I used to love growing up, you microwave it until the indicator on the side changes colors and you have molten syrupy goodness. Good luck!\n\n" ]

[ 1, 1 ]

[ "How do i handle sexual scenes in media when watching with someone? Im gonna start a game later that will have some suggestive themes, and my brother will be watching, we're both mature but its always an awkward moment whenever something like that comes up. We've never really talked about these kinds of things so i dont know about his views and what he thinks about it and whenever it happens i just stay silent and its very awkward and BAD.", "How do i handle sexual scenes in media when watching with someone? Im gonna start a game later that will have some suggestive themes, and my brother will be watching, we're both mature but its always an awkward moment whenever something like that comes up. We've never really talked about these kinds of things so i dont know about his views and what he thinks about it and whenever it happens i just stay silent and its very awkward and BAD.", "How do i handle sexual scenes in media when watching with someone? Im gonna start a game later that will have some suggestive themes, and my brother will be watching, we're both mature but its always an awkward moment whenever something like that comes up. We've never really talked about these kinds of things so i dont know about his views and what he thinks about it and whenever it happens i just stay silent and its very awkward and BAD.", "How do i handle sexual scenes in media when watching with someone? Im gonna start a game later that will have some suggestive themes, and my brother will be watching, we're both mature but its always an awkward moment whenever something like that comes up. We've never really talked about these kinds of things so i dont know about his views and what he thinks about it and whenever it happens i just stay silent and its very awkward and BAD.", "How do i handle sexual scenes in media when watching with someone? Im gonna start a game later that will have some suggestive themes, and my brother will be watching, we're both mature but its always an awkward moment whenever something like that comes up. We've never really talked about these kinds of things so i dont know about his views and what he thinks about it and whenever it happens i just stay silent and its very awkward and BAD.", "How do i handle sexual scenes in media when watching with someone? Im gonna start a game later that will have some suggestive themes, and my brother will be watching, we're both mature but its always an awkward moment whenever something like that comes up. We've never really talked about these kinds of things so i dont know about his views and what he thinks about it and whenever it happens i just stay silent and its very awkward and BAD.", "How do i handle sexual scenes in media when watching with someone? Im gonna start a game later that will have some suggestive themes, and my brother will be watching, we're both mature but its always an awkward moment whenever something like that comes up. We've never really talked about these kinds of things so i dont know about his views and what he thinks about it and whenever it happens i just stay silent and its very awkward and BAD.", "How do i handle sexual scenes in media when watching with someone? Im gonna start a game later that will have some suggestive themes, and my brother will be watching, we're both mature but its always an awkward moment whenever something like that comes up. We've never really talked about these kinds of things so i dont know about his views and what he thinks about it and whenever it happens i just stay silent and its very awkward and BAD.", "How do i handle sexual scenes in media when watching with someone? Im gonna start a game later that will have some suggestive themes, and my brother will be watching, we're both mature but its always an awkward moment whenever something like that comes up. We've never really talked about these kinds of things so i dont know about his views and what he thinks about it and whenever it happens i just stay silent and its very awkward and BAD." ]

[ "Right in the middle of it you just look over at them and try to make direct eye Co tact and simply say \"this is super hot\"", "Joke about it.\n\nI watch a lot of movies with my cute female roommate (no possibility of romance between us). I will often comment that the movie sucked, but at least I got to see boobs. It’s become sort of a joke between us. I’ve even done that when it was muscled man boobs, just to mix it up.", "Isn't it odd how society has made seeing people nude has become so taboo and seeing acts of extreme violence has become normalized? I just look at it for what it is - people behaving naturally. Of course there are limits, seeing pornography should be reserved for times when all parties involved are consenting.", "Talk about it. Address the awkward feeling and be open. You said you're mature. In time, it'll be casual and normal. Sex is in movies, it's normal. You're not watching porn together. You got this 👍", "Ok, there are 3 simple steps. \n\n1. Make eye contact\n\n2. DO NOT break eye contact\n\n3. DO NOT blink \n\n\nMost likely you will both end up laughing, and it might start a decent conversation. In my experience, awkward situations are best delt with by leaning all the way in. \n\n\n(I am in no way liable if this backfires)", "Just wait for the video to end? You don’t have to say or do anything, it shouldn’t be awkward unless one of you is making it weird.", "How old is he? Normalise talking about sex with him.\n\nEspecially contraception & how porn isn't real sex", "Honestly, after reading this and your responses- Don’t play the game. Wait until your mature enough to handle the topic. \n\nThere are plenty of great non suggestive games out there.", "If you see something you like a YEeeeeeeeeAH!!\nShould break the tension.\n\nI assume you're (f) as I can't imagine two dudes being shy making stupid comments." ]

[ 7, 4, 3, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "College student working a part-time job here. What can I do to start saving money for my future? I am currently a 19 year old student attending community college while also working a part-time job. I've been looking for ways to put away some of my salary to go into my future for big purchases like a car or if I am going to have to live in an apartment for further schooling. The only thing I am doing right now is putting in 10% of each paycheck into this App called Acorns that automatically does micro-investments. What else can I do? ", "College student working a part-time job here. What can I do to start saving money for my future? I am currently a 19 year old student attending community college while also working a part-time job. I've been looking for ways to put away some of my salary to go into my future for big purchases like a car or if I am going to have to live in an apartment for further schooling. The only thing I am doing right now is putting in 10% of each paycheck into this App called Acorns that automatically does micro-investments. What else can I do? ", "College student working a part-time job here. What can I do to start saving money for my future? I am currently a 19 year old student attending community college while also working a part-time job. I've been looking for ways to put away some of my salary to go into my future for big purchases like a car or if I am going to have to live in an apartment for further schooling. The only thing I am doing right now is putting in 10% of each paycheck into this App called Acorns that automatically does micro-investments. What else can I do? ", "College student working a part-time job here. What can I do to start saving money for my future? I am currently a 19 year old student attending community college while also working a part-time job. I've been looking for ways to put away some of my salary to go into my future for big purchases like a car or if I am going to have to live in an apartment for further schooling. The only thing I am doing right now is putting in 10% of each paycheck into this App called Acorns that automatically does micro-investments. What else can I do? ", "College student working a part-time job here. What can I do to start saving money for my future? I am currently a 19 year old student attending community college while also working a part-time job. I've been looking for ways to put away some of my salary to go into my future for big purchases like a car or if I am going to have to live in an apartment for further schooling. The only thing I am doing right now is putting in 10% of each paycheck into this App called Acorns that automatically does micro-investments. What else can I do? ", "College student working a part-time job here. What can I do to start saving money for my future? I am currently a 19 year old student attending community college while also working a part-time job. I've been looking for ways to put away some of my salary to go into my future for big purchases like a car or if I am going to have to live in an apartment for further schooling. The only thing I am doing right now is putting in 10% of each paycheck into this App called Acorns that automatically does micro-investments. What else can I do? ", "College student working a part-time job here. What can I do to start saving money for my future? I am currently a 19 year old student attending community college while also working a part-time job. I've been looking for ways to put away some of my salary to go into my future for big purchases like a car or if I am going to have to live in an apartment for further schooling. The only thing I am doing right now is putting in 10% of each paycheck into this App called Acorns that automatically does micro-investments. What else can I do? ", "College student working a part-time job here. What can I do to start saving money for my future? I am currently a 19 year old student attending community college while also working a part-time job. I've been looking for ways to put away some of my salary to go into my future for big purchases like a car or if I am going to have to live in an apartment for further schooling. The only thing I am doing right now is putting in 10% of each paycheck into this App called Acorns that automatically does micro-investments. What else can I do? ", "College student working a part-time job here. What can I do to start saving money for my future? I am currently a 19 year old student attending community college while also working a part-time job. I've been looking for ways to put away some of my salary to go into my future for big purchases like a car or if I am going to have to live in an apartment for further schooling. The only thing I am doing right now is putting in 10% of each paycheck into this App called Acorns that automatically does micro-investments. What else can I do? ", "College student working a part-time job here. What can I do to start saving money for my future? I am currently a 19 year old student attending community college while also working a part-time job. I've been looking for ways to put away some of my salary to go into my future for big purchases like a car or if I am going to have to live in an apartment for further schooling. The only thing I am doing right now is putting in 10% of each paycheck into this App called Acorns that automatically does micro-investments. What else can I do? " ]

[ "Make a budget, don’t spend more that you make. \nSaving isn’t that complicated, you just have to combat your urge to have things _now_. \nBe cheap. Take advantage of whatever you can. \nLive at home for as long as you can. \nBuy a cash car, don’t put spinner rims or a 14” screen stereo...\nThe financial decisions you make now can/will continue to help/hurt you long into your 20s-30s. Ask me how I know :-/", "Look into selling plasma. You can make about 300 a month doing it. I do it here in Austin and it's all tax free.", "I'm assuming at 19, you have lots of expenses and not a lot of income. The obvious is putting away more in savings, but maybe the focus can also be spending less.\n\nFocus on the little things that you're spending money on. A lot of people don't think much of spending $4 on Starbucks drinks or $8 on lunches but they add up over time. Bring lunches (meal prep, plan ahead), bring your own water in reusable bottles, consider wants vs. needs when making impulse buys. \n\nWhatever money you have should be working for you. It should not just be sitting there not earning money. Put in some kind of account earning interest that also let's you write checks, pay bills, access ATMs. You might get very little interest but it's something and it will add up. Who wouldn't want free money even if it's $10 a month? That's $110 a year. If someone hands you that, would you say no?\n\nYour savings account needs to work even harder. If it's not in a mutual fund, it should be in a laddered CD at the very least (this is where you split your savings into 4 to 5 parts and invest first part in 6 months to 1 year cd, second in 2 year cd, etc). ", "I highly recommend reading Dave Ramsey's Total Money Makeover. It focuses on getting out of debt, but his \"Baby Steps\" can be applied to any situation. For bonus points, get it free from the library instead of purchasing it. ", "1. Try not to use debit cards if you can. They don't earn you anything. For some people, it helps with their spending because they can see the money leave their Bank account so they don't go over what is in their account. But cr", "HI! I am a student as well that work part-time. What I do is make all my meals and eat out 0-1 times/month. If there is something that I want to buy I generally wait a couple of days (unless there is something I desperately need). The urge to buy the item go away 99 % of the time. \nI also like to set up goals such as hitting 5000 dollar saved. After I hit it, I think of it as having 0 dollars on my account and I am allowed one pricier item as a reward, that does not put me under my set goal.\n", "Put $10 in your savings account every week. It might not seem like a lot at first but it adds up later. Just think of it as like 2 purchases that you would normally make that you don’t now because you put $10 in. ", "Many may disagree, but if you have the discipline (or negligence) to keep your hands off of it for several years, cryptocurrencies may be a good way to try your luck and expand your fortune.\n\nThere are some decent projects out there that try to solve real world problems, generate real cash-flows (and therefore represent a certain value) and have government backing. Look into VeChain for example, an enterprise that encorporates blockchain in combination with RFID's to tackle the problem of counterfeit in China.\n\n", "From my experience, I’ve been able to afford everything that I wanted by working at a bar 20 hours a week. \nTips are a huge bonus for students, and make a big difference.\nPlus, your social life is not really affected since you get to meet a lot of people. \n", "Acorns is pretty terrible\n\nThe fees are too high\n\nJust pick an amount you want to save per month and automatically move it to a savings account, until you have 1000$ saved, which then you can pick up a vangaurd target date retirement fund" ]

[ 12, 4, 4, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to deal with Korean/Asian hair? Hello, I have the standard Korean hair, straight hair that sticks out on the sides and I'd like to stop shaving my head every few weeks and grow it out. I've been growing it for like a month now, and I don't really know what to do with it. Can anyone help me out?", "How to deal with Korean/Asian hair? Hello, I have the standard Korean hair, straight hair that sticks out on the sides and I'd like to stop shaving my head every few weeks and grow it out. I've been growing it for like a month now, and I don't really know what to do with it. Can anyone help me out?", "How to deal with Korean/Asian hair? Hello, I have the standard Korean hair, straight hair that sticks out on the sides and I'd like to stop shaving my head every few weeks and grow it out. I've been growing it for like a month now, and I don't really know what to do with it. Can anyone help me out?", "How to deal with Korean/Asian hair? Hello, I have the standard Korean hair, straight hair that sticks out on the sides and I'd like to stop shaving my head every few weeks and grow it out. I've been growing it for like a month now, and I don't really know what to do with it. Can anyone help me out?", "How to deal with Korean/Asian hair? Hello, I have the standard Korean hair, straight hair that sticks out on the sides and I'd like to stop shaving my head every few weeks and grow it out. I've been growing it for like a month now, and I don't really know what to do with it. Can anyone help me out?", "How to deal with Korean/Asian hair? Hello, I have the standard Korean hair, straight hair that sticks out on the sides and I'd like to stop shaving my head every few weeks and grow it out. I've been growing it for like a month now, and I don't really know what to do with it. Can anyone help me out?" ]

[ "use a hair drier to flatten the sides, your hairdresser can teach you how. If you want to take it one step further buy a hair straightener and curl your sides down", "use conditioner every day, shampoo twice a week, and then apply coconut oil to your hair everyday it will help with the frizz and make the hair overall softer, im a male too btw \n\nwhen growing it out too its ok to get it trimmed otherwise it might look like a hot mess lol", "[Check this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/malefashionadvice/comments/42fkuk/fashion_advice_for_a_very_thin_asian/) for some relevant advice.", "You gotta let your hair get long enough. Wait through that weird time when it sticks out the sides and after that you will be Mr. SEXY HAIR", "Find a good stylist who can give it some direction and give it a cut that will grow out properly. My husband has asian hair and once he finds a good stylist he won't leave them because his hair does weird things", "Is grow it out and get a conditioner that makes your hair soft and stay down. Unfortunately your sides will always stick out until its long enough to be fall down from its weight\nOr... \nFind a under cut or shaved sides longer top hairstyle" ]

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[ "I don’t know what to do after high school and the shocking realization just hit me I’m a 18 year old senior in high school. I’m not quite sure what I want to do after high school. I just know two things for certain. I don’t want to slave my life away work 40-60hours at week. And I enjoy the satisfaction of selling or making money own money doing what I enjoy.\n\nBut another thing is that no longer feel the need to be filthy rich. I just want to have a decent amount of money. And still be able to enjoy my life traveling and just exploring the world. Without having to slave my life alway\n\nI never consider college until. I was later told that college had business and financial. So I figured hmm...why not go to a community college for business and financial. And if I like it I’ll go to a four year at a university. \n\nOh another thing is I plan on going to the national guard. Before heading off to college because the benefits. But also because I really will enjoy it in a self improvement perspective type of way.", "I don’t know what to do after high school and the shocking realization just hit me I’m a 18 year old senior in high school. I’m not quite sure what I want to do after high school. I just know two things for certain. I don’t want to slave my life away work 40-60hours at week. And I enjoy the satisfaction of selling or making money own money doing what I enjoy.\n\nBut another thing is that no longer feel the need to be filthy rich. I just want to have a decent amount of money. And still be able to enjoy my life traveling and just exploring the world. Without having to slave my life alway\n\nI never consider college until. I was later told that college had business and financial. So I figured hmm...why not go to a community college for business and financial. And if I like it I’ll go to a four year at a university. \n\nOh another thing is I plan on going to the national guard. Before heading off to college because the benefits. But also because I really will enjoy it in a self improvement perspective type of way.", "I don’t know what to do after high school and the shocking realization just hit me I’m a 18 year old senior in high school. I’m not quite sure what I want to do after high school. I just know two things for certain. I don’t want to slave my life away work 40-60hours at week. And I enjoy the satisfaction of selling or making money own money doing what I enjoy.\n\nBut another thing is that no longer feel the need to be filthy rich. I just want to have a decent amount of money. And still be able to enjoy my life traveling and just exploring the world. Without having to slave my life alway\n\nI never consider college until. I was later told that college had business and financial. So I figured hmm...why not go to a community college for business and financial. And if I like it I’ll go to a four year at a university. \n\nOh another thing is I plan on going to the national guard. Before heading off to college because the benefits. But also because I really will enjoy it in a self improvement perspective type of way.", "I don’t know what to do after high school and the shocking realization just hit me I’m a 18 year old senior in high school. I’m not quite sure what I want to do after high school. I just know two things for certain. I don’t want to slave my life away work 40-60hours at week. And I enjoy the satisfaction of selling or making money own money doing what I enjoy.\n\nBut another thing is that no longer feel the need to be filthy rich. I just want to have a decent amount of money. And still be able to enjoy my life traveling and just exploring the world. Without having to slave my life alway\n\nI never consider college until. I was later told that college had business and financial. So I figured hmm...why not go to a community college for business and financial. And if I like it I’ll go to a four year at a university. \n\nOh another thing is I plan on going to the national guard. Before heading off to college because the benefits. But also because I really will enjoy it in a self improvement perspective type of way.", "I don’t know what to do after high school and the shocking realization just hit me I’m a 18 year old senior in high school. I’m not quite sure what I want to do after high school. I just know two things for certain. I don’t want to slave my life away work 40-60hours at week. And I enjoy the satisfaction of selling or making money own money doing what I enjoy.\n\nBut another thing is that no longer feel the need to be filthy rich. I just want to have a decent amount of money. And still be able to enjoy my life traveling and just exploring the world. Without having to slave my life alway\n\nI never consider college until. I was later told that college had business and financial. So I figured hmm...why not go to a community college for business and financial. And if I like it I’ll go to a four year at a university. \n\nOh another thing is I plan on going to the national guard. Before heading off to college because the benefits. But also because I really will enjoy it in a self improvement perspective type of way.", "I don’t know what to do after high school and the shocking realization just hit me I’m a 18 year old senior in high school. I’m not quite sure what I want to do after high school. I just know two things for certain. I don’t want to slave my life away work 40-60hours at week. And I enjoy the satisfaction of selling or making money own money doing what I enjoy.\n\nBut another thing is that no longer feel the need to be filthy rich. I just want to have a decent amount of money. And still be able to enjoy my life traveling and just exploring the world. Without having to slave my life alway\n\nI never consider college until. I was later told that college had business and financial. So I figured hmm...why not go to a community college for business and financial. And if I like it I’ll go to a four year at a university. \n\nOh another thing is I plan on going to the national guard. Before heading off to college because the benefits. But also because I really will enjoy it in a self improvement perspective type of way.", "I don’t know what to do after high school and the shocking realization just hit me I’m a 18 year old senior in high school. I’m not quite sure what I want to do after high school. I just know two things for certain. I don’t want to slave my life away work 40-60hours at week. And I enjoy the satisfaction of selling or making money own money doing what I enjoy.\n\nBut another thing is that no longer feel the need to be filthy rich. I just want to have a decent amount of money. And still be able to enjoy my life traveling and just exploring the world. Without having to slave my life alway\n\nI never consider college until. I was later told that college had business and financial. So I figured hmm...why not go to a community college for business and financial. And if I like it I’ll go to a four year at a university. \n\nOh another thing is I plan on going to the national guard. Before heading off to college because the benefits. But also because I really will enjoy it in a self improvement perspective type of way.", "I don’t know what to do after high school and the shocking realization just hit me I’m a 18 year old senior in high school. I’m not quite sure what I want to do after high school. I just know two things for certain. I don’t want to slave my life away work 40-60hours at week. And I enjoy the satisfaction of selling or making money own money doing what I enjoy.\n\nBut another thing is that no longer feel the need to be filthy rich. I just want to have a decent amount of money. And still be able to enjoy my life traveling and just exploring the world. Without having to slave my life alway\n\nI never consider college until. I was later told that college had business and financial. So I figured hmm...why not go to a community college for business and financial. And if I like it I’ll go to a four year at a university. \n\nOh another thing is I plan on going to the national guard. Before heading off to college because the benefits. But also because I really will enjoy it in a self improvement perspective type of way.", "I don’t know what to do after high school and the shocking realization just hit me I’m a 18 year old senior in high school. I’m not quite sure what I want to do after high school. I just know two things for certain. I don’t want to slave my life away work 40-60hours at week. And I enjoy the satisfaction of selling or making money own money doing what I enjoy.\n\nBut another thing is that no longer feel the need to be filthy rich. I just want to have a decent amount of money. And still be able to enjoy my life traveling and just exploring the world. Without having to slave my life alway\n\nI never consider college until. I was later told that college had business and financial. So I figured hmm...why not go to a community college for business and financial. And if I like it I’ll go to a four year at a university. \n\nOh another thing is I plan on going to the national guard. Before heading off to college because the benefits. But also because I really will enjoy it in a self improvement perspective type of way.", "I don’t know what to do after high school and the shocking realization just hit me I’m a 18 year old senior in high school. I’m not quite sure what I want to do after high school. I just know two things for certain. I don’t want to slave my life away work 40-60hours at week. And I enjoy the satisfaction of selling or making money own money doing what I enjoy.\n\nBut another thing is that no longer feel the need to be filthy rich. I just want to have a decent amount of money. And still be able to enjoy my life traveling and just exploring the world. Without having to slave my life alway\n\nI never consider college until. I was later told that college had business and financial. So I figured hmm...why not go to a community college for business and financial. And if I like it I’ll go to a four year at a university. \n\nOh another thing is I plan on going to the national guard. Before heading off to college because the benefits. But also because I really will enjoy it in a self improvement perspective type of way.", "I don’t know what to do after high school and the shocking realization just hit me I’m a 18 year old senior in high school. I’m not quite sure what I want to do after high school. I just know two things for certain. I don’t want to slave my life away work 40-60hours at week. And I enjoy the satisfaction of selling or making money own money doing what I enjoy.\n\nBut another thing is that no longer feel the need to be filthy rich. I just want to have a decent amount of money. And still be able to enjoy my life traveling and just exploring the world. Without having to slave my life alway\n\nI never consider college until. I was later told that college had business and financial. So I figured hmm...why not go to a community college for business and financial. And if I like it I’ll go to a four year at a university. \n\nOh another thing is I plan on going to the national guard. Before heading off to college because the benefits. But also because I really will enjoy it in a self improvement perspective type of way.", "I don’t know what to do after high school and the shocking realization just hit me I’m a 18 year old senior in high school. I’m not quite sure what I want to do after high school. I just know two things for certain. I don’t want to slave my life away work 40-60hours at week. And I enjoy the satisfaction of selling or making money own money doing what I enjoy.\n\nBut another thing is that no longer feel the need to be filthy rich. I just want to have a decent amount of money. And still be able to enjoy my life traveling and just exploring the world. Without having to slave my life alway\n\nI never consider college until. I was later told that college had business and financial. So I figured hmm...why not go to a community college for business and financial. And if I like it I’ll go to a four year at a university. \n\nOh another thing is I plan on going to the national guard. Before heading off to college because the benefits. But also because I really will enjoy it in a self improvement perspective type of way.", "I don’t know what to do after high school and the shocking realization just hit me I’m a 18 year old senior in high school. I’m not quite sure what I want to do after high school. I just know two things for certain. I don’t want to slave my life away work 40-60hours at week. And I enjoy the satisfaction of selling or making money own money doing what I enjoy.\n\nBut another thing is that no longer feel the need to be filthy rich. I just want to have a decent amount of money. And still be able to enjoy my life traveling and just exploring the world. Without having to slave my life alway\n\nI never consider college until. I was later told that college had business and financial. So I figured hmm...why not go to a community college for business and financial. And if I like it I’ll go to a four year at a university. \n\nOh another thing is I plan on going to the national guard. Before heading off to college because the benefits. But also because I really will enjoy it in a self improvement perspective type of way." ]

[ "I recommend going to community college first in general for college. You can get a lot of pre-requisite cr", "It sounds like you have it figured to be honest. I'm a veteran, i would have never been able to have the discipline to do anything without the army. That's just me. But decide what you like to do, and go forward and make it happen, the money will come. Some business and marketing classes are always beneficial. Also if you have to take a 9-5 doing something shitty, don't get sucked in, save as much as possible and get out, but don't ever feel like you're a failure for having to make some solid money for a year or so. Best of luck to you.", "Question ... if you don’t want to “slave your life away” why consider the National Guard? It may not be “full military” but it’s just as much commitment.", "Take a trade. \n\nYou get paid the whole time you are an apprentice. If you happen to not like it nothing lost. But there’s lots of work and lots of money. \n\nPlus, you get a skill that can be used anywhere in the world and will always be needed.", "Since the pandemic more and more people are thinking about career moves that are “essential,” just something else to keep in mind.", "If you have spare cash, I would strongly suggest getting professional career counseling. I went through a chain called Pathfinders Career Counseling. They give you a battery of standardized tests to test your relative strengths and weaknesses. It’s unusual things like spatial skills, ability to find mistakes, and number memory. Afterward, you have a consultation with a counselor to talk it over. You come away with a list of careers to research. There may be more budget friendly options out there.", "I don’t want to try advise someone I don’t know on what they should do with their life, but I do have advice for you. Pay close attention to what you like and don’t like about whatever you’re doing, even keep notes if you want, and use that information to move yourself loser to what is ideal for you. This applies to things outside of your career choices too, but with regard to that, ask yourself regularly what it is that you like and don’t like about what you’re doing and, more important, why? For example, it took me a long time to realize that I don’t like spending a lot of time planning things, I just want to start doing it. I though maybe a career as a product manager might be something to work towards, but after a lot of thought I realized it just wouldn’t suit my personality. \n\nAlso, if you think you want to do something but aren’t sure, try to talk to people that have done it. As many as you can. Ask them what it’s really like day to day. What they like and don’t like. And compare that to what you think works for you.", "Appreciate all the help and advice you guys have provides for me. I’ve decided that I’m going to go into national guard and community college and maybe a four year depending on if like it. But after community college if I don’t like it. I’m going to continue national guard because I get a genuine feeling that I will like the Guard", "You mention travel being your passion. Why not apply for a major airline with routes to cities you are interested in visiting? Free airfare, union protection, decent pay, health insurance, and matching 401K are just some of the major benefits. You can get hired right out of high school for entry level positions.", "You may not want to hear this and that is totally fine but the military is honestly ideal for people who have no idea what they want to do. I recommend the reserves over active duty. You get a taste of it to see if you truly like it and alot less commitment. Yes you serve more years but going one weekend a month is hardly bad. You do run the risk of being deployed but unless you are combat arms you are unlikely to see any actual combat. As a reservist you can sign up for upcoming deployments under your job in the military which is called mobcop. While deployed you can make 40k as a specialist which is the lower enlisted but highest rank before becoming any kind of sgt. The army has a shit ton of jobs. Each branch has different jobs. You will get a taste of something as far as a job goes. Your training also gives you college cr", "Well 1st off college isn't for everyone but if you don't know what you want then it can help you choose a good direction even if you don't finish. I found that most people don't finish college due to one reason or another but college students are more ambitious than just about anyone else, and you might get inspired or directed to something you want. Also understand that you should want to be \"filthy rich\" because in all likelihood you will have to put in the same effort just to accomplish your goals and from my experience you never know when an emergency will come up. If you want any easier time later put in more effort now. But at the same time it's okay to spend a year or 2 to explore your options and find what drives you.\n\nOn a personal level, my biggest regret was not taking a step back and realizing that what I was doing was just what I had been told to me by others was the right path.\n\nJust know everyone else is making it as they go and you don't need to have all the answers.\n\nHope that helps.", "Watch Meet Kevin on youtube. Follow his plan to start a real estate empire. He started at 19 with a few thousand dollars and is like 30 with 20million.", "I’m 31 and I just got it figured out... and I mean barely. But I am happy. I Am happily married and we have 3 kids. He is a soldier I am in medical / child care fields. \n\nYou should try the military they can give you a good foundation for adulthood. Husband joined in reserves, been in 10 years, switched to active duty. He works from a desk. He takes home like $6000/month." ]

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[ "How to lead a group discussion? A conference asked me (I am keen on movies and TV shows) to host a \"movie-hour\" and I chose the 'Fifteen Million Merits' episode of Black Mirror (The conference's theme is 'Salt of the Earth') which is about what is a human life worth and other serious questions. Probably there will be 10-50 people. \n\nIs there any good advice to lead a discussion after the episode? What to look for? How to divide them into a group? These kinda advices.", "How to lead a group discussion? A conference asked me (I am keen on movies and TV shows) to host a \"movie-hour\" and I chose the 'Fifteen Million Merits' episode of Black Mirror (The conference's theme is 'Salt of the Earth') which is about what is a human life worth and other serious questions. Probably there will be 10-50 people. \n\nIs there any good advice to lead a discussion after the episode? What to look for? How to divide them into a group? These kinda advices.", "How to lead a group discussion? A conference asked me (I am keen on movies and TV shows) to host a \"movie-hour\" and I chose the 'Fifteen Million Merits' episode of Black Mirror (The conference's theme is 'Salt of the Earth') which is about what is a human life worth and other serious questions. Probably there will be 10-50 people. \n\nIs there any good advice to lead a discussion after the episode? What to look for? How to divide them into a group? These kinda advices." ]

[ "The trick is to know your subject and know what you want to get out of it. After that, it's about managing large groups.\n\nMy local NPR station does a show called \"Political insider\" and it's always this one guy leading a group discussion on the weeks politics. He's amazing - he knows exactly what the point of his line of questioning is, he knows how to avoid circular discussions and when to leave a topic. It all comes down to the fact that he knows his subject extremely well, and knows what point he wants to make (or extract from his guests). \n\nThe problem with groups of 10+ people is that you can't have a single discussion. One person's thought or statement might spawn a new thought from 10 different people. Those people either get left behind or the conversation takes ages to continue.\n\nManaging that is a new problem - with that many people you're best off creating random groups and allowing them to direct themselves, popping in and out as needed. Maybe once they've had time you can get delegates from each group to present their thoughts and respond to others. ", "Manager here: These are some of the lesser known but important ones. \n\n1) Know your audience. Don't call on too many confident people in a row and don't call on two or three shy people in a row. Calling on too many confident people will encourage groupthink and the quiet ones will shut down. Creating an awkward moment by calling on too many shy people in a row will really shut the shy people down.\n\n2) Talk to them as if they are your friends. You are not supirior because you are the leader. You know this. They know this. If you try to create that persona, it will fall apart and could destroy your confidence for the rest of the conversation.\n\n3) If someone looks like they have an idea but don't say it, call on them.\n\n4) You could have a debate style back-forth if you want but you're gonna have to know how to mediate it. ", "Congratulations!\n\nPeople like to be asked what they think a lot more than being told.\n\nSo you might have a bit of success with just that.\n\nAsk them what their opinions are.\n\nAbout dividing them up? Not sure. But you could ask them about that too.\n\nThinking that the very best way to get them truly involved is to empower them right from the start.\n\nWishing you the best!" ]

[ 9, 2, 1 ]

[ "Cheap effective storage ideas for rental apartment? My boyfriend and I are moving in together, or rather he is moving into my rather small apartment. I haven't enough storage for me let alone him. I can't change the house itself, not even picture hooks, so I am unsure how to maximize my available space. Add to that, that I don't make a lot of money, and I am not sure how to proceed. Any tips would be great. Thanks! ", "Cheap effective storage ideas for rental apartment? My boyfriend and I are moving in together, or rather he is moving into my rather small apartment. I haven't enough storage for me let alone him. I can't change the house itself, not even picture hooks, so I am unsure how to maximize my available space. Add to that, that I don't make a lot of money, and I am not sure how to proceed. Any tips would be great. Thanks! ", "Cheap effective storage ideas for rental apartment? My boyfriend and I are moving in together, or rather he is moving into my rather small apartment. I haven't enough storage for me let alone him. I can't change the house itself, not even picture hooks, so I am unsure how to maximize my available space. Add to that, that I don't make a lot of money, and I am not sure how to proceed. Any tips would be great. Thanks! ", "Cheap effective storage ideas for rental apartment? My boyfriend and I are moving in together, or rather he is moving into my rather small apartment. I haven't enough storage for me let alone him. I can't change the house itself, not even picture hooks, so I am unsure how to maximize my available space. Add to that, that I don't make a lot of money, and I am not sure how to proceed. Any tips would be great. Thanks! ", "Cheap effective storage ideas for rental apartment? My boyfriend and I are moving in together, or rather he is moving into my rather small apartment. I haven't enough storage for me let alone him. I can't change the house itself, not even picture hooks, so I am unsure how to maximize my available space. Add to that, that I don't make a lot of money, and I am not sure how to proceed. Any tips would be great. Thanks! ", "Cheap effective storage ideas for rental apartment? My boyfriend and I are moving in together, or rather he is moving into my rather small apartment. I haven't enough storage for me let alone him. I can't change the house itself, not even picture hooks, so I am unsure how to maximize my available space. Add to that, that I don't make a lot of money, and I am not sure how to proceed. Any tips would be great. Thanks! " ]

[ "I'll try!\n\nExtra dresser in the closet.\n\nExtendable laundry rods in your under-sink areas, hang tools and spray bottles.\n\nCloth-wrapped boxes under the bed, pull out like drawers. This works in other dead space like on top of the fridge or under stairs.\n\nKeep pantry or toiletry items in shoe-boxes or something similar that you can stack and organize.\n\nGet some of those vacuum-able bags to store out of season clothes and bedding without all the air.\n\nIf all else fails, [build a loft](http://www.designwagen.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/06/Contemporary-Bedroom-Design-Small-Space-Loft-Bed-Couple.jpg) together.\n\nTry to get rid of furniture you don't need or that doesn't have storage advantages. It will make your available space feel larger and cleaner. Do you really need that dining room table? Maybe a small [kotatsu and floor cushions](http://image.rakuten.co.jp/e-rento/cabinet/tsu-han5/40107025-top.jpg) would be enough for a year or two. Especially if you can flip it up on its side against a wall when you aren't using it.\n\nGood luck! :)\n", "Instead of large pieces of furniture, invest in [ottomans](http://www.target.com/p/small-square-ottoman-black/-/A-13704447?reco=Rec|pdp|13704447|ClickCP|item_page.adjacency&lnk=Rec|pdp|ClickCP|item_page.adjacency) that have storage space inside. That link is just one type for 40 bucks. Have a small couch for you and your boyfriend to hang out and relax, but for friends coming over and such, they just need something to sit on.\n\nAlso, invest in a bed frame that has drawers underneath. You can go cheap and get bins and slide them under, but you'll get lazy and 'lose' stuff behind them after awhile. ", "you can buy (for 8 or 9 bucks) an organizer that hangs on the back of doors at walmart. It's great for scarves, hats, mittens, and shoes.", "It depends on how attached you are to some things. When I moved across country (twice) me and my gf were forced to sell some things we didn't NEED. Craigslist made us a ton of cash. Just make sure your bf is around when selling... Some people can be real creepers. \nPlus for clothes use those space bags that vacuum the air out. My gf introduced me to them and they help ALOT with clothes. An they are pretty cheap too. \n\nAs for the hooks in the walls. Any apartment should allow that. Small screw size holes\nAre hard to see anyway. When you move out just fill it in with painters putty. Cheap and really easy to use. Thats what I used on larger holes in the wall. \n\nHope this helps a little at least. Good luck on moving in! And don't quit on each other", "You can buy stick-on hooks at any diy store, just don't stick them on the door, because they can eventually leave bubbles in the paint when you take them off ", "For cheap shelving units, try these [wire cubes](http://www.target.com/p/closetmaid-wire-6-cube-organizer-silver/-/A-13680755?ref=tgt_adv_XSG10001&AFID=Google_PLA_df&LNM=|13680755&CPNG=home%20decor&ci_sku=13680755&ci_gpa=pla&ci_kw=) or [a metal shelf](http://www.target.com/p/room-essentials-3-tier-chrome-wire-shelving/-/A-13892314#?lnk=sc_qi_detaillink). I had these both in college. The 2nd one is much stronger, more durable, and less tacky. If you had to choose, go with this one. Both are worth the money. " ]

[ 7, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How do I remove the weird taste/smell from a bottle? I bought a bottle of sweet & sour sauce and I liked the design of the bottle so I removed the label and now have a nice bottle. I have cleaned it multiple times but there still is a very faint smell coming from it. Is there a way to remove this?", "How do I remove the weird taste/smell from a bottle? I bought a bottle of sweet & sour sauce and I liked the design of the bottle so I removed the label and now have a nice bottle. I have cleaned it multiple times but there still is a very faint smell coming from it. Is there a way to remove this?", "How do I remove the weird taste/smell from a bottle? I bought a bottle of sweet & sour sauce and I liked the design of the bottle so I removed the label and now have a nice bottle. I have cleaned it multiple times but there still is a very faint smell coming from it. Is there a way to remove this?", "How do I remove the weird taste/smell from a bottle? I bought a bottle of sweet & sour sauce and I liked the design of the bottle so I removed the label and now have a nice bottle. I have cleaned it multiple times but there still is a very faint smell coming from it. Is there a way to remove this?" ]

[ "Try using isopropyl alcohol to remove any oil residue.\nThen rinse it with vinegar.\nThen hit soapy water.\nAir dry.", "What is the bottle made of?\n\nIf glass, you've already gotten some great tips in other comments.\n\nIf plastic, well, I hate to tell you, but...you can't unring a bell. Plastic absorbs things. The source of the smell is part of the plastic now.", "If baking soda doesn't work try a few drops of tea tree oil, afterwards try baking soda again and rinse.", "Baking soda and vinegar (pour slowly to avoid a volcano). Fill with vinegar and soak overnight. Can add lemon juice if wanted. \nUsing one of those wire scrubbing brushes would help too. \n\nEmpty and leave outside for a day to air out. This has worked for me." ]

[ 19, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to avoid talking about myself so much during a conversation Even when it comes to talking about something that doesn't concern me, I tend to add to a conversation by talking about my experience regarding the person, event or thing we are talking about, and I feel like I may come off as some sort of narcissist.\n\ni.e. \"Yeah, last time I talked to her she said something like that\", \"I've been to that bar, it's kind of a seedy place\", \"this summer I did the same thing, it was an exhilarating experience\", etc.", "How to avoid talking about myself so much during a conversation Even when it comes to talking about something that doesn't concern me, I tend to add to a conversation by talking about my experience regarding the person, event or thing we are talking about, and I feel like I may come off as some sort of narcissist.\n\ni.e. \"Yeah, last time I talked to her she said something like that\", \"I've been to that bar, it's kind of a seedy place\", \"this summer I did the same thing, it was an exhilarating experience\", etc.", "How to avoid talking about myself so much during a conversation Even when it comes to talking about something that doesn't concern me, I tend to add to a conversation by talking about my experience regarding the person, event or thing we are talking about, and I feel like I may come off as some sort of narcissist.\n\ni.e. \"Yeah, last time I talked to her she said something like that\", \"I've been to that bar, it's kind of a seedy place\", \"this summer I did the same thing, it was an exhilarating experience\", etc." ]

[ "It's the golden rule of talking to women. What you need to do to make most women feel comfortable is to let them speak. About anything. Too many guys (as in almost all) talk to impress. \"look at me! look at me!\"\n\nIt helps to be genuinely curious of someone elses experiences. When you do it more, you'll start to recognize that. Stop putting yourself in their shoes. Make an active effort of removing 'I' from your vocabulary. \"What did you like about it?\" \"How did that make you feel?\" \"When was that?\" \"Sounds nice\"\n\nHell. You might learn something.", "Instead of saying \"I've been there\", ask if the other person has ever been. They'll likely say, \"yes/no, have you?\"\nInstead of saying \"I did x\" try saying \"x was a really cool experience\"\nInstead of \"I talked to her\" try saying \"She mentioned...\" ", "Let them talk and you'll learn two things... you'll learn about them and you'll also learn if they are self centered if they don't occasionally pause and ask you about yourself in return.\n\nSomeone who rambles and never wants to hear about you isn't a fun person to be around.\n\nSo someone should start with a prompt:\n\n- So what did you do this past summer?\n\n- The flow should then be that the person answers this prompt and either asks for input during the answer, or passes the same question or a similar question back to the first person when they are done (it depends on their conversation style).\n\n- If they should include something in the middle of their answer, such as \"I went to [blank] have you been?\" You should answer but be succinct, and let them continue on. Maybe a \"Oh, no, I've never been, how was it!\" or \"Yes! I enjoyed it, how was your experience?\" or whatever similar turn of phrase that fits.\n\n... for my friends (like myself) who are not as savvy for various reasons, I usually just favor openness, such as \"I tend to ramble if no one stops me, please do interrupt me if slip up and get in the zone lol, I don't want to be the clod that dominates the conversation\" ... if they can't handle the honesty and some awkwardness then maybe the friendship or relationship is not meant to be.\n\nIf they tell you you're rambling, stop and thank them for letting you know and then try to hand them a prompt if they need one." ]

[ 5, 3, 2 ]

[ "How to move a parking sticker to a new car? School starts tomorrow and if I can save the $5 for a daily pass before I get a new one it would help out a college student.", "How to move a parking sticker to a new car? School starts tomorrow and if I can save the $5 for a daily pass before I get a new one it would help out a college student.", "How to move a parking sticker to a new car? School starts tomorrow and if I can save the $5 for a daily pass before I get a new one it would help out a college student." ]

[ "Spray it with WD40 and use a razor blade to get it off. Then use scotch tape or something to put it back on.", "I used to change company cars once a month and had the same issue. I used the clear plastic sheets from an over head projecter to stick the parking pass on. You can find these at staples. Swapping is a breeze. I have automatic car washes that have monthly subscriptions with a bar code. I use the plastic sheet and swap it out for every car to be washed at one fee.", "First, apply clear packing tape over it to maintain it's integrity if it's dry/cracked.\n\nSecond doesn't apply for you today but for others reading, if you have no products, order Bestine (rubber cement thinner), it's a solvent that will totally break down the adhesive, apply it where it will be able to soak through the adhesive. If you don't want to order something special, Ammonia, WD-40, or other similar cleansers can be used, just won't be as effective and will leave adhesive behind.\n\nThird, heat. Yes, these types of stickers are designed to survive ridiculous heat in direct sun on metal/glass exposure, but heat will soften any remaining adhesive.\n\nFourth, don't rip, carefully peel, stopping if there's tearing to approach from another angle, rolling up with a pencil or rod tends to be most effective to distribute the tension evenly.\n\nFinally, be careful how you adhere it to the new car, temporary affixing often is not permitted, and the new adhesive you use you want to be able to remove in the future. Did your license plate/tag get transferred to the new car so it's the same? You'll want to update make/model/color with whomever issued the sticker or might get ticketed regardless as stolen. \n" ]

[ 14, 7, 5 ]

[ "Sweeping my floors I always have trouble getting my floors completely swept. Stuff gets stuck to my feet, and then I feel like I end up tracking it all over the place as I sweep, resulting in floors that aren't really clean. How can I get a more complete sweep, that results in no dust or food particles anywhere?", "Sweeping my floors I always have trouble getting my floors completely swept. Stuff gets stuck to my feet, and then I feel like I end up tracking it all over the place as I sweep, resulting in floors that aren't really clean. How can I get a more complete sweep, that results in no dust or food particles anywhere?", "Sweeping my floors I always have trouble getting my floors completely swept. Stuff gets stuck to my feet, and then I feel like I end up tracking it all over the place as I sweep, resulting in floors that aren't really clean. How can I get a more complete sweep, that results in no dust or food particles anywhere?" ]

[ "Sweep toward the center of the room, away from yourself. I like to wear socks when I sweep, then toss them in the dirty clothes afterwards. You can also finish up with a damp mop to make it feel extra clean.", "Use a spray bottle (water and vinegar) to spray where you want to sweep. A light mist of water will keep the dust down and allow you to sweep efficiently. Dont spray too much or you'll end up mopping.", "I usually clean with bare feet - that way it's easier to feel if something gets stuck under them... \n\nCorners gets an extra sweep with a smaller broom... \n\n" ]

[ 3, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to find out what to get someone as a gift With Christmas coming up, what is a good way to find out what to get for someone?", "How to find out what to get someone as a gift With Christmas coming up, what is a good way to find out what to get for someone?", "How to find out what to get someone as a gift With Christmas coming up, what is a good way to find out what to get for someone?", "How to find out what to get someone as a gift With Christmas coming up, what is a good way to find out what to get for someone?", "How to find out what to get someone as a gift With Christmas coming up, what is a good way to find out what to get for someone?" ]

[ "Try asking them to guess what gift you got them. If it works their guesses will be a pretty good list of what they actually want. \n\n", "I always try to give gifts that give JOY, and I never give a gift that the person would have gotten on their own. If they would have gotten it on their own, then I'm just saving them some cash. If I can find something that will give them JOY, many times or just once, then they'll think of me each time they enjoy the gift! Some ideas:\n\n- Things they want but would never justify purchasing for themselves\n- Experiences like massages, spas, bungie jumping, etc.\n- A menu of super delicious meals that you will cook for them\n- A day trip they'll really love that you've planned\n- Art! Posters, music, sculptures, whatever they're really into.", "You can search for amazon wishlists by email and/or name. I know that I use mine as a holding cart for things I want but can't justify buying right now, and if I keep looking at it (i.e. still want it a lot in a couple months) I'll start saving for it specifically. ", "Pay attention for any clues they might leave you or comments they might slip. I always make a comment to my dad about how much I love the socks he gives me every year and he always comments on how he's smoking the last cigar I gave him.", "My mom always told me, \"When in doubt, buy a more upscale food item\". Yeah it's a little impersonal, but who says no to a nice bottle of wine or fancy cheese? Everyone likes food" ]

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[ "How to improve messy chicken scratch writing into something neat and legible. Having sloppy writing has caused me to be the butt of a few jokes but more importantly, it's cost me a few jobs as well. Despite how intelligent and hard working you may be, if you fill out an application with the writing of a two year old then thats how they are going to view you.", "How to improve messy chicken scratch writing into something neat and legible. Having sloppy writing has caused me to be the butt of a few jokes but more importantly, it's cost me a few jobs as well. Despite how intelligent and hard working you may be, if you fill out an application with the writing of a two year old then thats how they are going to view you.", "How to improve messy chicken scratch writing into something neat and legible. Having sloppy writing has caused me to be the butt of a few jokes but more importantly, it's cost me a few jobs as well. Despite how intelligent and hard working you may be, if you fill out an application with the writing of a two year old then thats how they are going to view you." ]

[ "As someone with chronic chicken-scratch who has worked hard over the last six months to improve my handwriting, I'm so much better now I sometimes write and enjoy my handwriting rather than watch Netflix or play games when I'm relaxing. \n\nWhat helps is practice, plain and simple. The more you practice writing, the better you'll get. \n\nI could stop here, but I'm passionate, so I'll keep going!\n\nYou don't need a fancy pen to practice your penmanship, but a good pen WILL help. It won't fix your handwriting, but it'll help you to understand what you're doing wrong. Just write, and practice letters. Think about how they're coming together, and get to learn what the shapes should be; when you get down to it, letters are composed of a few different movements put together that are fairly common between letters. A 'b', 'd' or 'l' will all come down from the top of the page in a similar way, for example -- you begin to notice these patterns when you practice lots, and it'll help your writing. A pen that'll make writing painless will help a bunch, and picking out a pen and learning how to write with it makes the process of writing feel personal. That's surprisingly nice. \n\nWhat helped me was actually calligraphy. If you're willing to invest $20, get a fountain pen with a 'stub' nib -- something like a Pilot Parallel would work well, and it's fairly inexpensive, or a Lamy Safari with a 'stub' nib. When I learned calligraphy, I realised that the spacing between my letters was all wrong when I wasn't concentrating on each letter. Also, my handwriting had lots of discrepancies between letter heights; you can't tolerate that when you're doing calligraphy! So that helped. I think, really, calligraphy improved my handwriting because it got me practicing the shapes of my letters and thinking about what I was writing, but you could do that just as well when you're writing with a Bic ballpoint. It was after a couple of months of calligraphy and coming back to practicing my writing that I found I thought about the way I formed my letters and words in a very different way. \n\nAnything that gets you practicing writing will help. Anything that gets you thinking about your letters will be a huge boost. \n\nSBREBrown has a great youtube video on this, and his handwriting was something I focused on when I was learning! You can find it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=moSY5FAs6Wc his advice is pretty excellent. \n\nI don't want to push fountain pens (because, ultimately, a writing instrument will never fix your writing), but they don't have to be particularly expensive and they'll certainly change the way you write. It's worth a consideration -- but lots of people aren't keen, and you should choose something you're comfortable with to write! ", "Besides always using a computer for everything you could just really focus while filling out forms. [Wiki Article.](http://www.wikihow.com/Improve-Your-Handwriting)", "I have this problem. My handwriting is really inconsistent. Not that messy, but my hand shakes when I write for some reason and all my letters end up looking totally different. It's as if I never learned how to write.." ]

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[ "How to stop using my phone at night while in bed I've been using my phone a lot at night, catching up on news and social media before I go to sleep. Goes on for like 20 mins and then I go to sleep but my minds still thinking about stuff on the internet and I go back and the cycle repeats itself. It seems really simple but I can't stop and I just end up being in bed for hours wasting time I could be awake and productive during the next day (18 years old and have winter break off). I keep my phone in my room because I need it for my alarm. Ive tried reading as well, but it ends up being a similar thing to using social media, and I can't seem to just get in bed and go to sleep. ", "How to stop using my phone at night while in bed I've been using my phone a lot at night, catching up on news and social media before I go to sleep. Goes on for like 20 mins and then I go to sleep but my minds still thinking about stuff on the internet and I go back and the cycle repeats itself. It seems really simple but I can't stop and I just end up being in bed for hours wasting time I could be awake and productive during the next day (18 years old and have winter break off). I keep my phone in my room because I need it for my alarm. Ive tried reading as well, but it ends up being a similar thing to using social media, and I can't seem to just get in bed and go to sleep. " ]

[ "Buy a computer and only view social media on the computer. That's what I did with Facebook. It helped a lot. Now to deal with Reddit 😭", "I used to do the same thing until I got an activity tracker (you know, like a Fitbit). Most of them have an alarm that gently vibrates on your wrist waking you up without the need for your phone and for a loud noisy alarm. \n\nI haven't taken my phone to bed with me for over a year and haven't heard an infuriating sound alarm for that time too. \n\nThe vibrating alarm really works better too and good ones can keep vibrating every 10 minutes until it detects you've got up out of bed.\n\n" ]

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[ "How do I quickly make decisions that won't affect my life in general but will affect some aspect of my life for the next few months or weeks? ", "How do I quickly make decisions that won't affect my life in general but will affect some aspect of my life for the next few months or weeks? ", "How do I quickly make decisions that won't affect my life in general but will affect some aspect of my life for the next few months or weeks? " ]

[ "Flip a coin, I used to do this a lot but don't need to now, the coin toss thing helped me get really good at snap decisions.\n\nNote, you don't have to abide by the decision, sometimes when the coin lands you just know that's the wrong decision so it has still helped.", "Do a quick cost-benefit analysis. What will your decision cost you? Any way to minimize? How will your decision benefit you? Any way to maximize?\n\nIf both of your answers are, \"doesn't really matter to me,\" then quickly assess who the decision matters to, and find out how your decision affects them, and decide accordingly.", "Flip a coin and see if you are hoping for a certain outcome. If so pick that one. If not, go with the coin." ]

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[ "How to get old people smell out of furniture? I recently bought a second hand fully loaded Herman Miller Aeron, in perfect condition for a bargain (30% of RRP) \n\nHowever, I didn't notice it until I got home but it reeks of old people smell - and it made my clothes smell strongly of old people smell aswell after sitting on it for just an hour.\n\nIt's a mesh chair, so bicarb won't help (it'll go right through and make an even bigger mess of things. Paste won't come off either) I'm not keen to use deozoring spray as they leave behind chemical residue and mask the smell rather than eradicating it but am willing to if that's my last resort.\n\nHow do I get rid of the smell? ", "How to get old people smell out of furniture? I recently bought a second hand fully loaded Herman Miller Aeron, in perfect condition for a bargain (30% of RRP) \n\nHowever, I didn't notice it until I got home but it reeks of old people smell - and it made my clothes smell strongly of old people smell aswell after sitting on it for just an hour.\n\nIt's a mesh chair, so bicarb won't help (it'll go right through and make an even bigger mess of things. Paste won't come off either) I'm not keen to use deozoring spray as they leave behind chemical residue and mask the smell rather than eradicating it but am willing to if that's my last resort.\n\nHow do I get rid of the smell? ", "How to get old people smell out of furniture? I recently bought a second hand fully loaded Herman Miller Aeron, in perfect condition for a bargain (30% of RRP) \n\nHowever, I didn't notice it until I got home but it reeks of old people smell - and it made my clothes smell strongly of old people smell aswell after sitting on it for just an hour.\n\nIt's a mesh chair, so bicarb won't help (it'll go right through and make an even bigger mess of things. Paste won't come off either) I'm not keen to use deozoring spray as they leave behind chemical residue and mask the smell rather than eradicating it but am willing to if that's my last resort.\n\nHow do I get rid of the smell? ", "How to get old people smell out of furniture? I recently bought a second hand fully loaded Herman Miller Aeron, in perfect condition for a bargain (30% of RRP) \n\nHowever, I didn't notice it until I got home but it reeks of old people smell - and it made my clothes smell strongly of old people smell aswell after sitting on it for just an hour.\n\nIt's a mesh chair, so bicarb won't help (it'll go right through and make an even bigger mess of things. Paste won't come off either) I'm not keen to use deozoring spray as they leave behind chemical residue and mask the smell rather than eradicating it but am willing to if that's my last resort.\n\nHow do I get rid of the smell? ", "How to get old people smell out of furniture? I recently bought a second hand fully loaded Herman Miller Aeron, in perfect condition for a bargain (30% of RRP) \n\nHowever, I didn't notice it until I got home but it reeks of old people smell - and it made my clothes smell strongly of old people smell aswell after sitting on it for just an hour.\n\nIt's a mesh chair, so bicarb won't help (it'll go right through and make an even bigger mess of things. Paste won't come off either) I'm not keen to use deozoring spray as they leave behind chemical residue and mask the smell rather than eradicating it but am willing to if that's my last resort.\n\nHow do I get rid of the smell? ", "How to get old people smell out of furniture? I recently bought a second hand fully loaded Herman Miller Aeron, in perfect condition for a bargain (30% of RRP) \n\nHowever, I didn't notice it until I got home but it reeks of old people smell - and it made my clothes smell strongly of old people smell aswell after sitting on it for just an hour.\n\nIt's a mesh chair, so bicarb won't help (it'll go right through and make an even bigger mess of things. Paste won't come off either) I'm not keen to use deozoring spray as they leave behind chemical residue and mask the smell rather than eradicating it but am willing to if that's my last resort.\n\nHow do I get rid of the smell? ", "How to get old people smell out of furniture? I recently bought a second hand fully loaded Herman Miller Aeron, in perfect condition for a bargain (30% of RRP) \n\nHowever, I didn't notice it until I got home but it reeks of old people smell - and it made my clothes smell strongly of old people smell aswell after sitting on it for just an hour.\n\nIt's a mesh chair, so bicarb won't help (it'll go right through and make an even bigger mess of things. Paste won't come off either) I'm not keen to use deozoring spray as they leave behind chemical residue and mask the smell rather than eradicating it but am willing to if that's my last resort.\n\nHow do I get rid of the smell? ", "How to get old people smell out of furniture? I recently bought a second hand fully loaded Herman Miller Aeron, in perfect condition for a bargain (30% of RRP) \n\nHowever, I didn't notice it until I got home but it reeks of old people smell - and it made my clothes smell strongly of old people smell aswell after sitting on it for just an hour.\n\nIt's a mesh chair, so bicarb won't help (it'll go right through and make an even bigger mess of things. Paste won't come off either) I'm not keen to use deozoring spray as they leave behind chemical residue and mask the smell rather than eradicating it but am willing to if that's my last resort.\n\nHow do I get rid of the smell? ", "How to get old people smell out of furniture? I recently bought a second hand fully loaded Herman Miller Aeron, in perfect condition for a bargain (30% of RRP) \n\nHowever, I didn't notice it until I got home but it reeks of old people smell - and it made my clothes smell strongly of old people smell aswell after sitting on it for just an hour.\n\nIt's a mesh chair, so bicarb won't help (it'll go right through and make an even bigger mess of things. Paste won't come off either) I'm not keen to use deozoring spray as they leave behind chemical residue and mask the smell rather than eradicating it but am willing to if that's my last resort.\n\nHow do I get rid of the smell? ", "How to get old people smell out of furniture? I recently bought a second hand fully loaded Herman Miller Aeron, in perfect condition for a bargain (30% of RRP) \n\nHowever, I didn't notice it until I got home but it reeks of old people smell - and it made my clothes smell strongly of old people smell aswell after sitting on it for just an hour.\n\nIt's a mesh chair, so bicarb won't help (it'll go right through and make an even bigger mess of things. Paste won't come off either) I'm not keen to use deozoring spray as they leave behind chemical residue and mask the smell rather than eradicating it but am willing to if that's my last resort.\n\nHow do I get rid of the smell? ", "How to get old people smell out of furniture? I recently bought a second hand fully loaded Herman Miller Aeron, in perfect condition for a bargain (30% of RRP) \n\nHowever, I didn't notice it until I got home but it reeks of old people smell - and it made my clothes smell strongly of old people smell aswell after sitting on it for just an hour.\n\nIt's a mesh chair, so bicarb won't help (it'll go right through and make an even bigger mess of things. Paste won't come off either) I'm not keen to use deozoring spray as they leave behind chemical residue and mask the smell rather than eradicating it but am willing to if that's my last resort.\n\nHow do I get rid of the smell? ", "How to get old people smell out of furniture? I recently bought a second hand fully loaded Herman Miller Aeron, in perfect condition for a bargain (30% of RRP) \n\nHowever, I didn't notice it until I got home but it reeks of old people smell - and it made my clothes smell strongly of old people smell aswell after sitting on it for just an hour.\n\nIt's a mesh chair, so bicarb won't help (it'll go right through and make an even bigger mess of things. Paste won't come off either) I'm not keen to use deozoring spray as they leave behind chemical residue and mask the smell rather than eradicating it but am willing to if that's my last resort.\n\nHow do I get rid of the smell? ", "How to get old people smell out of furniture? I recently bought a second hand fully loaded Herman Miller Aeron, in perfect condition for a bargain (30% of RRP) \n\nHowever, I didn't notice it until I got home but it reeks of old people smell - and it made my clothes smell strongly of old people smell aswell after sitting on it for just an hour.\n\nIt's a mesh chair, so bicarb won't help (it'll go right through and make an even bigger mess of things. Paste won't come off either) I'm not keen to use deozoring spray as they leave behind chemical residue and mask the smell rather than eradicating it but am willing to if that's my last resort.\n\nHow do I get rid of the smell? ", "How to get old people smell out of furniture? I recently bought a second hand fully loaded Herman Miller Aeron, in perfect condition for a bargain (30% of RRP) \n\nHowever, I didn't notice it until I got home but it reeks of old people smell - and it made my clothes smell strongly of old people smell aswell after sitting on it for just an hour.\n\nIt's a mesh chair, so bicarb won't help (it'll go right through and make an even bigger mess of things. Paste won't come off either) I'm not keen to use deozoring spray as they leave behind chemical residue and mask the smell rather than eradicating it but am willing to if that's my last resort.\n\nHow do I get rid of the smell? ", "How to get old people smell out of furniture? I recently bought a second hand fully loaded Herman Miller Aeron, in perfect condition for a bargain (30% of RRP) \n\nHowever, I didn't notice it until I got home but it reeks of old people smell - and it made my clothes smell strongly of old people smell aswell after sitting on it for just an hour.\n\nIt's a mesh chair, so bicarb won't help (it'll go right through and make an even bigger mess of things. Paste won't come off either) I'm not keen to use deozoring spray as they leave behind chemical residue and mask the smell rather than eradicating it but am willing to if that's my last resort.\n\nHow do I get rid of the smell? " ]

[ "There's an old trick used by radio enthusiasts and auto detailers to remove cigarette odor: Wipe it down with fabric softener sheets! You may even wish to lay a few sheets atop the surfaces and leave them there for a few hours.", "Stage 1: Spray on a mild vinegar solution, which is good for breaking down a lot of organic scent-producing substances; wipe it off with a white towel (preferably one you're not going to use for anything else later); wash the towel and leave the chair to dry; repeat until the towel stops coming away stained.\n\nStage 2: Take a bucket of water. If the chair is a cloth mesh, stir in some stain-removal washing-machine powder. If the chair is a wire mesh, use dishwashing liquid instead. Rub the chair down fairly vigorously using a washcloth or sponge - the friction will assist to remove organic substances as much as the chemicals. Dry it off with a towel - again, with fairly vigorous application. Let it sit to air-dry. Drying in direct sunlight will help to break things down further, and shouldn't affect the chair color over this relatively short period. Repeat a few times to make sure that the mesh holes and any chair joints and moving parts have been cleaned.", "Ozone would do the trick. Getting that done may be difficult, depending on where you live. You could try talking to companies that specialize in fire/smoke damage restoration. They would be the best candidate to get this done. Ozone is the only real way of removing odors completely I know of. Everything else is more like masking it", "Get some upholstery shampoo. Test it on the underside to see if it causes any damage. \n\nAlso check online with herman Miller, see if they recommend any particular cleaner. There is a bio-active microfiber cleaner that's pretty amazing, but I don't know if it would apply in your situation. \n", "Spray Febreze all over.\n\nAllow to dry.\n\nVacuum.\n\nRepeat until no longer smelly.\n\n\nAdditionally, allow it to sit outside on a nice breezy day to let it air out.\n\n\nThe nice thing about febreze is that it doesn't just mask odor. The active ingredient is cyclodextrin which traps the odor molecule. You can vacuum it up after it dries.\n\nAlso works well if you've just cooked something really smelly in the kitchen and don't want the odor on your fabrics.", "Allow it to sit outside in the sun. That always helps.\n\nI once bought a used but in really good cosmetic condition couch for peanuts for our first house (many moons ago).\n\nUnfortunately it was hideously tainted with cigarette smoke.\n\nSo I hired a carpet cleaner with the hand attachment (they are not much to hire and you can do your carpets and car interior at the same time if you plan it right).\n\nUsing the hand tool I completely soaked it in carpet cleaner and then vacuum cleaned it off into the carpet cleaner - tobacco coloured water - it took 2 rounds of spraying to get it clear. The results were pretty stunning. Might be an option or not depending on what the chair can handle.", "best option imo is warm water with a capful of woolite in it, spray until damp, scrub lightly with a soft brush and blot with paper towels , repeat a few times then let it dry .", "Wtf is \"old people smell\"??\n\nIf you could identify the **actual** odor (smoke, urine, mold, mildew, whatever) then we could give you some advice. ", "I use this stuff for cleanup with stinky fabrics and carpets\n\n[Arm and Hammer Deodorizer](http://www.armandhammer.com/deodorization/household-deodorizers/landing.aspx)\n\nIt is basically just baking soda with some deodorizers or something like that (so regular baking soda will probably work). Just toss it on there and vacuum it off a few hours later.", "I didn't realize old people had a special smell. They do however have the ability to nicotine up stuff from years of careless smoking. \nI moved I to an old house with \"old people smell\" from 30 years of cigarettes. I took a big bucket of 2/3 boiling water and 1/3 white vinegar with a half teaspoon of Dawn. \nUsed a roller mop and wiped down all the walls and ceilings. Next I went over it all again with just hot water. It got all the smell out. \nNew carpet helped also. You could try using a this in a squirt bottle and soak it down pretty good, let it sit about 30 mins and use slightly damp towels to scrub it up. \nNext treat with an odor killer called [Zero Odor](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001J0C3OQ/ref=cm_sw_r_other_awd_HWsmwbA0KQMAT) \nIt's expensive but leaves no fragrance. ", "If I were you I'd get a carpet cleaner. It is one of the best ways to deep-clean upholstered furnuiture and carpets and can not only remove the bad odor but also stains and other dirt. Perhaps there's a local business in your area, which rents them out, so you don't have to buy one.\n\nI have provided some links below so you can see what one might look like:\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Rug-Doctor-Mighty-Pro-Pack/dp/B008O6Y1H0/ref=lp_1063922_1_23?s=vacuums&ie=UTF8&qid=1446064392&sr=1-23\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Hoover-Deluxe-Carpet-Washer-FH50150/dp/B009ZJ2M7G/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1446064341&sr=8-1&keywords=washing+vacuum", "I've had a lot of luck with the natural version of Fabreze, which is essentially, just lemongrass oil in an alcohol suspension. I don't know why it works, but it does. \n\nI also got the ashtray smell out of some awesome leather shoes by bagging it with activated charcoal (the kind in water filters) and just letting it sit. ", "Goo Gone. It's likely oils that are making it stinky. Goo Gone and a scrub brush should pull most of the stank off. Then use regular cleaner to get the goo gone off. \n\nGrats on your find btw. I love my Aeron.\n\n", "Molecule 100 from North Woods gets out smells that I haven't been able to get out with any other cleaner or strategy.", "I oce got a couch from an old man who smoked. I had to get rid of it. The smell permeated the entire house in days and nothing I did would remove it fro the couch." ]

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[ "Insulating basement against cold drafts There are probably at least a half-dozen places in my basement where cold air is coming in. Windows, maybe tiny cracks in the walls, etc. Any advice?\n\nI live by myself in a two-story, two-bedroom house, and neither of the bedrooms are furnished, so I can't just sleep upstairs (unless I really wanted to take everything, bed and all, up two flights of stairs, which would be beyond pointless).", "Insulating basement against cold drafts There are probably at least a half-dozen places in my basement where cold air is coming in. Windows, maybe tiny cracks in the walls, etc. Any advice?\n\nI live by myself in a two-story, two-bedroom house, and neither of the bedrooms are furnished, so I can't just sleep upstairs (unless I really wanted to take everything, bed and all, up two flights of stairs, which would be beyond pointless).", "Insulating basement against cold drafts There are probably at least a half-dozen places in my basement where cold air is coming in. Windows, maybe tiny cracks in the walls, etc. Any advice?\n\nI live by myself in a two-story, two-bedroom house, and neither of the bedrooms are furnished, so I can't just sleep upstairs (unless I really wanted to take everything, bed and all, up two flights of stairs, which would be beyond pointless).", "Insulating basement against cold drafts There are probably at least a half-dozen places in my basement where cold air is coming in. Windows, maybe tiny cracks in the walls, etc. Any advice?\n\nI live by myself in a two-story, two-bedroom house, and neither of the bedrooms are furnished, so I can't just sleep upstairs (unless I really wanted to take everything, bed and all, up two flights of stairs, which would be beyond pointless).", "Insulating basement against cold drafts There are probably at least a half-dozen places in my basement where cold air is coming in. Windows, maybe tiny cracks in the walls, etc. Any advice?\n\nI live by myself in a two-story, two-bedroom house, and neither of the bedrooms are furnished, so I can't just sleep upstairs (unless I really wanted to take everything, bed and all, up two flights of stairs, which would be beyond pointless).", "Insulating basement against cold drafts There are probably at least a half-dozen places in my basement where cold air is coming in. Windows, maybe tiny cracks in the walls, etc. Any advice?\n\nI live by myself in a two-story, two-bedroom house, and neither of the bedrooms are furnished, so I can't just sleep upstairs (unless I really wanted to take everything, bed and all, up two flights of stairs, which would be beyond pointless).", "Insulating basement against cold drafts There are probably at least a half-dozen places in my basement where cold air is coming in. Windows, maybe tiny cracks in the walls, etc. Any advice?\n\nI live by myself in a two-story, two-bedroom house, and neither of the bedrooms are furnished, so I can't just sleep upstairs (unless I really wanted to take everything, bed and all, up two flights of stairs, which would be beyond pointless).", "Insulating basement against cold drafts There are probably at least a half-dozen places in my basement where cold air is coming in. Windows, maybe tiny cracks in the walls, etc. Any advice?\n\nI live by myself in a two-story, two-bedroom house, and neither of the bedrooms are furnished, so I can't just sleep upstairs (unless I really wanted to take everything, bed and all, up two flights of stairs, which would be beyond pointless).", "Insulating basement against cold drafts There are probably at least a half-dozen places in my basement where cold air is coming in. Windows, maybe tiny cracks in the walls, etc. Any advice?\n\nI live by myself in a two-story, two-bedroom house, and neither of the bedrooms are furnished, so I can't just sleep upstairs (unless I really wanted to take everything, bed and all, up two flights of stairs, which would be beyond pointless).", "Insulating basement against cold drafts There are probably at least a half-dozen places in my basement where cold air is coming in. Windows, maybe tiny cracks in the walls, etc. Any advice?\n\nI live by myself in a two-story, two-bedroom house, and neither of the bedrooms are furnished, so I can't just sleep upstairs (unless I really wanted to take everything, bed and all, up two flights of stairs, which would be beyond pointless).", "Insulating basement against cold drafts There are probably at least a half-dozen places in my basement where cold air is coming in. Windows, maybe tiny cracks in the walls, etc. Any advice?\n\nI live by myself in a two-story, two-bedroom house, and neither of the bedrooms are furnished, so I can't just sleep upstairs (unless I really wanted to take everything, bed and all, up two flights of stairs, which would be beyond pointless).", "Insulating basement against cold drafts There are probably at least a half-dozen places in my basement where cold air is coming in. Windows, maybe tiny cracks in the walls, etc. Any advice?\n\nI live by myself in a two-story, two-bedroom house, and neither of the bedrooms are furnished, so I can't just sleep upstairs (unless I really wanted to take everything, bed and all, up two flights of stairs, which would be beyond pointless)." ]

[ "I'd like to hear the logic that led you to the conclusion that putting your bed in a bedroom (instead of a drafty basement) is \"beyond pointless\".", "Spray insulation worked best for me. It's like $3-4 a can and expands after being sprayed. Fill up the cracks and then trim the excess with a razor blade. It worked wonders on a house I used to live in that was built back in the 1930's. Good luck!", "Check your power bill. There may be information available from your energy provider (gas or electric) and they may do an energy audit along with winterization. You'd be surprised how much heat can escape through a little crack.", "get one of [these things](http://www.amazon.com/Black-Decker-TLD100-Thermal-Detector/dp/B0044R87BE/) from amazon. you set a temperature and pass it over areas. it will shine a blue or red light based on the set temperature. should help you find where you need to fix. there are also thermal imaging cameras but they will be much more expensive.", "When you insulate the basement, get a hygrometer and monitor so that you don't get a too high humidity level. Insulated basements can easily create rotting and mold problems. The worst part is that you usually don't find the problem until it's gone far, because it starts inside the walls and floors.\n\nIf you constantly have a relative humidity >70% you should get a dehumidifier.\n\nSource: have rotting basement", "Theres the use of painters tape on a painted wall so you don't damage it and proceed to use packing tape on top of it if you need to reinforce it. I'm a hazmat worker, controling airflow is a big part of what i do, so the ideas i share are certainly temporary to support inexpensive choices. unless you want me to get into renovation advice which i can also cover somewhat.", "Find the drafts. Light a cigarette or some incense and run it along your wall, and watch the smoke trails. That will indicate where the drafts are coming from. Next, fill the gaps, the spray foam works great. You can also just shove a bunch of newspaper or old rags in the voids to stop the drafts. There are tons of insulation kits for different applications that you can find all in one section at a home improvement store. Long term, look into a drop ceiling, these are quite a bit of work, but really are not hard to install, and will lesson the square footage you are trying to heat. This will save you money in the long run, and keep you're basement warmer in the winters.", "Buy the plastic, draft stop, window covering from any hardware store.Its like cling wrap for windows. Everybody in my town uses it.\n", "WOOOOOO. FINALLY. I'M USEFUL! \nhello, I am boomboom907. I actually do exactly what your wondering about four a living in alaska! I insulate houses, rim joists, windows, etc. I do energy effeciency tests (blower door test)\n\nI do weatherization for the state of alaska! \nAsk me any questions you have and I'll tell you how we fix them in our state! \n\nFor rim joists take rigid foam insulation (we use r tech) and cut block to fit in the joist and foam it in. \n\nGo buy a caulk gun in a clearance bin and buy white liquid nails caulk. Any crack you see in you're house lay a bead (thin) and run your finger over it. \n\nAsk me some questions! ", "It is hard to really make suggestions. So much depends on the exact layout and style of your basement. Your best bet is to call your local power company and ask if they will do a free energy audit. Many power companies will come to your house, free of charge, and look for potential problems that cause air leakage / drafts. They will make recommendations for you. ", "I work as an engineer for the French Government, part of my job is to carry out the deployment of building regulations in Normandy.\n\nInsulation is very dependant on the building itself. In Normandy we have old houses that cannot be insulated using conventionnal materials because it just destroys the walls over time.\n\nHowever, if your house is a conventional one, built using modern techniques and materials, you're looking at a few options depending on how much you are willing to spend.\n\nBest thing to do is to insulate the whole house from the outside. It's the most efficient way to insulate a building but it's costly. You could always have the walls of the basement insulated from the inside which would eat out some of the space and cost a bit but would work absolutely fine. You can also work on all the cracks that you have in the walls and the windows but the results will only take you so far. Thermal comfort is the result of the fine tuning of a number of very specific parameters and it is highly likely that your basement was not made with those in mind. \n\nIf you decide to use any of those techniques, it is very important to note that what you're going to do is basically kill off any \"natural ventilation\" and you will need the room to be properly heated and ventilated using a dedicated system unless you want the room to turn into a swimming pool filled with mushrooms. This is the most common mistake people make when insulating their houses. I can't tell you how many times it happens, it's just ridiculous.\n\nAnyway, if you have other questions, regarding for example Thermal confort and why it's not only about air temperature and such I'd be happy to answer them. ", "I use the transparent packing tape from Walmart. You could visit a big-box hardware store and wait for a salesperson to be free. Hopefully he will explain options, rather than just push a single product he needs to 'move'. " ]

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[ "I always know what to say in my essays but I'm terrible at expressing it on paper. I usually stare at a blank sheet for 1-2 hours until I decide to write \"something\" ", "I always know what to say in my essays but I'm terrible at expressing it on paper. I usually stare at a blank sheet for 1-2 hours until I decide to write \"something\" ", "I always know what to say in my essays but I'm terrible at expressing it on paper. I usually stare at a blank sheet for 1-2 hours until I decide to write \"something\" ", "I always know what to say in my essays but I'm terrible at expressing it on paper. I usually stare at a blank sheet for 1-2 hours until I decide to write \"something\" ", "I always know what to say in my essays but I'm terrible at expressing it on paper. I usually stare at a blank sheet for 1-2 hours until I decide to write \"something\" ", "I always know what to say in my essays but I'm terrible at expressing it on paper. I usually stare at a blank sheet for 1-2 hours until I decide to write \"something\" ", "I always know what to say in my essays but I'm terrible at expressing it on paper. I usually stare at a blank sheet for 1-2 hours until I decide to write \"something\" ", "I always know what to say in my essays but I'm terrible at expressing it on paper. I usually stare at a blank sheet for 1-2 hours until I decide to write \"something\" ", "I always know what to say in my essays but I'm terrible at expressing it on paper. I usually stare at a blank sheet for 1-2 hours until I decide to write \"something\" ", "I always know what to say in my essays but I'm terrible at expressing it on paper. I usually stare at a blank sheet for 1-2 hours until I decide to write \"something\" ", "I always know what to say in my essays but I'm terrible at expressing it on paper. I usually stare at a blank sheet for 1-2 hours until I decide to write \"something\" ", "I always know what to say in my essays but I'm terrible at expressing it on paper. I usually stare at a blank sheet for 1-2 hours until I decide to write \"something\" ", "I always know what to say in my essays but I'm terrible at expressing it on paper. I usually stare at a blank sheet for 1-2 hours until I decide to write \"something\" ", "I always know what to say in my essays but I'm terrible at expressing it on paper. I usually stare at a blank sheet for 1-2 hours until I decide to write \"something\" ", "I always know what to say in my essays but I'm terrible at expressing it on paper. I usually stare at a blank sheet for 1-2 hours until I decide to write \"something\" ", "I always know what to say in my essays but I'm terrible at expressing it on paper. I usually stare at a blank sheet for 1-2 hours until I decide to write \"something\" ", "I always know what to say in my essays but I'm terrible at expressing it on paper. I usually stare at a blank sheet for 1-2 hours until I decide to write \"something\" ", "I always know what to say in my essays but I'm terrible at expressing it on paper. I usually stare at a blank sheet for 1-2 hours until I decide to write \"something\" " ]

[ "There was a book we read way back in college called \"Write to the Limit\" that I will never forget. It said to just start writing. Start with anything like \"I'm sitting here for two hours staring at this blank paper about this topic I not care much about. I don't care because it's trivial to sit here and discuss the pros and cons of blah blah.....\" just start babbling. Eventually in this diary-like paragraph an introduction will emerge or a middle paragraph or anything to use as a seed for the idea. \n\nI was surprised how well it actually got me started on papers I dreaded. ", "Try using an app such as Dragon Diction, for iOS (not sure of one for the PC? Anybody?) \n\nYou speak, it \"types.\" It's not perfect, but you can tweak the writing after you get your thoughts out :) ", "I used to have that problem because I always started with an introduction. Intros are so hard to write. Just skip to something you do know how to write and get to the intro later.", "write your conclusion first, then the body, then rewrite the conclusion and then write the introduction. \n\n", "When I have a looming deadline, and no motivation to write the blasted paper, I write a number of one-page paragraphs on various aspects of the subject and then find a way to weave them together. It doesn't often make for the most cohesive paper (especially if time is tight,) BUT, it gets the job done - and if you use headers rather than simple paragraph breaks, it can suit the paper even better. ", "The trick I was taught in high school was to just start writing. Don't just sit there and think, just write. Then you can ", "The reason you write a first-draft for most things is because it gives you an opportunity to be disorganized and unfocused. The reason you're terrible at writing essays is because you're afraid of not getting it right the first time. Break that habit by writing one that says exactly what you're thinking. Include cuss words and insults. When you're done, go in with a red pen, or a highlighter, and start marking up your writing to figure out what the best parts were, and what needs to be removed.\n\nThe actual essay will then just be clever ", "Stand up and talk to yourself about the ideas in your essay. It's okay if what you say is incoherent at first; pick out the most reasonably complete ideas you have and put those on your paper. Repeat as necessary, focusing your ideas more at each stage.", "One word: OUTLINE!\n\nSeriously. Once you have a good outline for a paper, you're more than half done.\n\nStart super basic:\n\nINTRO\n\nSUPPORT 1\n\nSUPPORT 2\n\nSUPPORT 3\n\nCONCLUSION\n\nLeave space in between for more bullet points or whatever. Once you have a concise and relative thought by each bullet point, you just need to expand it to a sentence or three and you're pretty much done aside from ", "Imagine you're writing an email to your friend who asks you what your essay is about. Or... alternatively, get a friend to actually do so on chat, and they'll prompt you with appropriate questions and you'll blather on about what you will fill your essay with.", "If you continue thinking about the topic as soon as you're given it, then by the time you sit down, you'll have things to say.", "I usually start out by making a dot point list of everthing I want to say at some point in the document, that usually gives a good base to come up with how you want to start and finish. Then it's more a case of fleshing out the points to say something. \n\nIt also makes it easier to finish as it always seems like the next step is just 'finish one more point' than writing a few pages, even if it ends up taking that long.", "I use something called he Pomodoro technique. It's awesome and I love it.\n\nhttp://www.pomodorotechnique.com/", "I just put down anything I know or think I might want to say. After that it is just a matter of ", "Here's a trick I use when writing essays. \n\nI usually have three sections. \n\n1) What I'm trying to say (and why is it important)\n2) What are my assumptions / facts that I started from \n3) How do you get from 2 -> 1. \n\nI find that having these three sections helps you organize your thoughts coherently. ", "Don't compose literature. Instead write a few sentences. For example:\n\n-------\n\nHere is a method for responding to error messages when programming. First you copy the error message to your clipboard. Then you paste it into google. Put quotes around it to match the exact phrase. Open promising results in new tabs. The promising ones are the ones that are discussion forums.\n\nYou don't want to read the entire discussion thread. Many will be dead ends. Instead scroll to the bottom of the thread looking for comments like \"thanks! that worked for me!\". When you find this, go backwards until you come to the post where someone posted a solution.\n\nWhen you find a page with a solution that works for you, remember to bookmark that page. This is because any given error message you come across while programming is something you will encounter again.\n\nThe philosophy of this is simple. A program has a very limited range of error messages it can output. They will be the same (mostly) for everybody. Therefore, somebody else has seen that error message before.\n\n-------\n\nThe idea is zero fluff. If your prof has asked for a 5-page paper, start by writing a three sentence paper. Expand if necessary. However, if those three sentences got the point across and handled any questions people might have, then you need to tell your prof to stop encouraging extra verbiage.", "1) write out all the points you want to make in short form, short as possible.\n\n2)organize them in a way that you would explain them to someone who doesnt know what you are talking about, chunk them into paragraphs\n\n3) look at your page of point form, and explain what each point is (type out what you are explaining). Intro is a quick summary of the main points, conclusion is a summation of everything you have said.\n\navoid quotation as much as possible, paraphrase and ID your soucre, makes it look like you read all the books!", "" ]

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[ "How to tie a necktie the correct length the FIRST time Is there any surefire way to estimate or measure where the end of your necktie will lie BEFORE you tie it?\n\n", "How to tie a necktie the correct length the FIRST time Is there any surefire way to estimate or measure where the end of your necktie will lie BEFORE you tie it?\n\n", "How to tie a necktie the correct length the FIRST time Is there any surefire way to estimate or measure where the end of your necktie will lie BEFORE you tie it?\n\n", "How to tie a necktie the correct length the FIRST time Is there any surefire way to estimate or measure where the end of your necktie will lie BEFORE you tie it?\n\n", "How to tie a necktie the correct length the FIRST time Is there any surefire way to estimate or measure where the end of your necktie will lie BEFORE you tie it?\n\n", "How to tie a necktie the correct length the FIRST time Is there any surefire way to estimate or measure where the end of your necktie will lie BEFORE you tie it?\n\n", "How to tie a necktie the correct length the FIRST time Is there any surefire way to estimate or measure where the end of your necktie will lie BEFORE you tie it?\n\n" ]

[ "If you don't wear a tie every day, it's really just about estimation. I wear a tie every day (sans weekends) and I know each of my ties well. Usually the thin end of the tie starts at my 2^nd button for a windsor, but some ties are longer and some are shorter.\n\nThere's no real secret to ties as far as I know, it just takes practice.", "When you look at a tie, you'll notice two seams that run diagonally across the tie where they've joined two pieces of silk (or wool, or whatever your tie happens to be made of). At least one of those seams will sit near my collar on the tail-end of the tie, and I make note of where it sits (with the tie untied, draped around my neck)when I manage to get the right length. I find that the tie-seams are in roughly the same place on my ties, and it tends to get it right the first time round. YMMV, since I don't think there's an international standard of \"seam location\" or anything, so check where they are, and see if they match up.\n\nAlso, random tie-stuff. Ties with thicker, more textured fabric tend to give me better looking knots than the thinner/softer/more flimsy ones. I tend to use a full windsor to knot the flimsies, and a half windsor for the thicker ones.", "Put the fat end of the tie right below ur penis. This way the size of the tie doesnt matter, it puts the tie around ur beltline", "I put the back of the tie even with the shirt button not immediately over the belt line but the next one right above that. Works for me but may not for you if you are shorter or fatter or something. So the key is find what works for YOU relative to the shirt buttons and remember it. It could be even with a certain button or between two buttons.", "I lose about six inches off the wide end of a tie when I tie a four-in-hand knot and twice that for a double Windsor knot, so I just put the wide end that much lower than where I want the tip to end up.\n\nOr wear a bow tie. Bow ties are less sexually suggestive/aggressive than an arrow that points from your face to your crotch and so are probably more appropriate business attire anyway.", "I had to wear a tie every day for school, and the guide I used was:\nIf it's a windsor knot (or a complicated knot) - two hand lengths down from belt buckle\nIf it's a half windsor (or semi complicated) - one and a half hand lengths from belt buckle\nFor the basic knot - one hand length below belt buckle\nHope this helps :)", "For standard length ties, the short side should be aligned with the top of your belly when you start (full windsor knot).\n\nOther knots, no idea." ]

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[ "Dealing with coffee withdrawel headaches. (Just started drinking coffee again, but dreading the day I stop.. again.) ", "Dealing with coffee withdrawel headaches. (Just started drinking coffee again, but dreading the day I stop.. again.) " ]

[ "Pretend coffee is a powerful drug and do like the pharmacists; taper off gradually. Drink a little bit less every day until you can stop completely without withdraw symptoms. \n\n(Caffeine is a drug, you know.)", "Try drinking hot water when you would normally drink coffee. My grandfather used to drink around twenty cups of coffee every day working night shifts on an aircraft carrier in the Pacific. When he got out, he seriously needed to cutback his coffee intake for fear of serious heart problems, and he would drink hot water every morning and he told me it really helped a lot. A lot of the withdrawal is related to the comfort from having a hot drink at certain times and intervals throughout the day." ]

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[ "How to not get road rage. Just as title suggests. When I drive I cannot help but sometimes get furious at drivers for breaking road principles. While I'm not a perfect driver, I find myself getting caught up in the emotion of the situation and immediately get rage inside. While most of the anger is just beeping my horn or yelling (no actual violence), I really want to be calm and just let it pass and avoid the situation, but it's really hard to just 'let it go'\n\nHow to do I avoid the rage inside and just let the situation pass?", "How to not get road rage. Just as title suggests. When I drive I cannot help but sometimes get furious at drivers for breaking road principles. While I'm not a perfect driver, I find myself getting caught up in the emotion of the situation and immediately get rage inside. While most of the anger is just beeping my horn or yelling (no actual violence), I really want to be calm and just let it pass and avoid the situation, but it's really hard to just 'let it go'\n\nHow to do I avoid the rage inside and just let the situation pass?", "How to not get road rage. Just as title suggests. When I drive I cannot help but sometimes get furious at drivers for breaking road principles. While I'm not a perfect driver, I find myself getting caught up in the emotion of the situation and immediately get rage inside. While most of the anger is just beeping my horn or yelling (no actual violence), I really want to be calm and just let it pass and avoid the situation, but it's really hard to just 'let it go'\n\nHow to do I avoid the rage inside and just let the situation pass?", "How to not get road rage. Just as title suggests. When I drive I cannot help but sometimes get furious at drivers for breaking road principles. While I'm not a perfect driver, I find myself getting caught up in the emotion of the situation and immediately get rage inside. While most of the anger is just beeping my horn or yelling (no actual violence), I really want to be calm and just let it pass and avoid the situation, but it's really hard to just 'let it go'\n\nHow to do I avoid the rage inside and just let the situation pass?", "How to not get road rage. Just as title suggests. When I drive I cannot help but sometimes get furious at drivers for breaking road principles. While I'm not a perfect driver, I find myself getting caught up in the emotion of the situation and immediately get rage inside. While most of the anger is just beeping my horn or yelling (no actual violence), I really want to be calm and just let it pass and avoid the situation, but it's really hard to just 'let it go'\n\nHow to do I avoid the rage inside and just let the situation pass?", "How to not get road rage. Just as title suggests. When I drive I cannot help but sometimes get furious at drivers for breaking road principles. While I'm not a perfect driver, I find myself getting caught up in the emotion of the situation and immediately get rage inside. While most of the anger is just beeping my horn or yelling (no actual violence), I really want to be calm and just let it pass and avoid the situation, but it's really hard to just 'let it go'\n\nHow to do I avoid the rage inside and just let the situation pass?", "How to not get road rage. Just as title suggests. When I drive I cannot help but sometimes get furious at drivers for breaking road principles. While I'm not a perfect driver, I find myself getting caught up in the emotion of the situation and immediately get rage inside. While most of the anger is just beeping my horn or yelling (no actual violence), I really want to be calm and just let it pass and avoid the situation, but it's really hard to just 'let it go'\n\nHow to do I avoid the rage inside and just let the situation pass?" ]

[ "Try squaring up with a random stranger one day. When you get your ass kicked I guarantee you'll calm the fuck down. ", "Definitely comes with practice. I used to focus on how I shitty I would feel after a confrontation and that would help me contain my rage. Also, this probably sounds dumb to you but I kept telling myself how trivial this incident was in the larger scheme of things, Humanity itself being such a tiny tiny component of the universe - and so on.. anything to distract myself from the rage building up if stationary, or while driving away from the scene! Also reward urself with a pat on the back and/or a treat, every time you 'let it go'. You definitely were the bigger person in the situation. ", "First, buy a dashcam. Having video evidence of asshattery calms me down. \n\nNext, stop yelling and honking. They know what they're doing. That's like feeding a troll. Smile and wave instead, or do nothing. \n\nFinally, any time you get stressed, ask yourself, \"Will this matter a year from now?\" It usually doesn't and that mental exercise puts things back in perspective.\n\nRemember: letting all the aggressive drivers go in front of you only adds a couple of minutes to your commute. No biggie. It's not actually a race.", "Play a song you like and force yourself to sing it out loud. You'll feel better after the first chorus. ", "Music can definitely dictate my mood on the road. Find some tasty jams and make your drives you time.", "It sounds like you don't have the personal rule, \"Get physically away from crazy people.\" (and the sooner the better so the negative attractive force does not have time to grow) That personal rule has helped me immensely - The very moment I decide someone is acting irrational/crazy/aggressive/etc., I literally get away from them. Most of the time I am not slamming on the breaks; I just increase the distance between us as if that person smells like a fart and I would like to get away without causing a scene or attracting attention. Sometimes my passengers hear me say in a calm, conversational tone, \"That guy's crazy, let's get away from him.\" I'm not viewed as a coward, I'm just a guy that stays away from crazy people so I can enjoy my life. Remember; where you tend a rose, a thistle cannot grow. <- you know...that old saying", "Consider that drivers (including you and me) are very territorial. You are angry because other drivers are invading your territory (by cutting you off or changing lanes in front of you) or are disrespecting your status, (by not signalling, not letting you in etc). \n\nConsider that you are a thinking human being. You are not an animal so its ridiculous to think in terms of territory or social status. All the other drivers are human beings. They have their own concerns, goals etc and are just trying to get through their day the same way you are. So let it all go. Give them a break (chances are they need it as much as you) and think beyond animal emotion. " ]

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[ "Move across country without a point of contact Hey guys. My wife and I have just under 20k to move. \nHer mother passed recently and our dream has been to move across country to the west coast or surrounding area. \nWe work, but not in any field that has super high demand for relocation. \nI'm wracking my mind trying to figure this all out. \nWe can't seem to find a rental without a job, but can't seem to get call backs living out of state. \nWe're not sure how to get this dream to become a reality.", "Move across country without a point of contact Hey guys. My wife and I have just under 20k to move. \nHer mother passed recently and our dream has been to move across country to the west coast or surrounding area. \nWe work, but not in any field that has super high demand for relocation. \nI'm wracking my mind trying to figure this all out. \nWe can't seem to find a rental without a job, but can't seem to get call backs living out of state. \nWe're not sure how to get this dream to become a reality.", "Move across country without a point of contact Hey guys. My wife and I have just under 20k to move. \nHer mother passed recently and our dream has been to move across country to the west coast or surrounding area. \nWe work, but not in any field that has super high demand for relocation. \nI'm wracking my mind trying to figure this all out. \nWe can't seem to find a rental without a job, but can't seem to get call backs living out of state. \nWe're not sure how to get this dream to become a reality." ]

[ "I’d say that one of you moves, finds a cheap short term rental and finds a job. Then once that’s happened the other moves as well. Once you both are stable, you can find a place, in the right neighborhood, that you can afford. Keep 90% of your stuff in storage until then. \n\n", "West Coast with $20k? Tip: Don't move to the Bay Area, California. It's really expensive. \n\nWest Coast in general is kind of expensive.", "Keep applying to jobs, reach out to the hiring managers/company on LinkedIn etc. Once you get the job then consider the move. There is no sense in moving for the sake of moving without some glimmer of future income. If, for some reason, neither of you find a job you'll be high in debt without a safety net." ]

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[ "How to ask for someone's birthday discreetly in case you've forgotten it? Thank you! All this helped a lot!", "How to ask for someone's birthday discreetly in case you've forgotten it? Thank you! All this helped a lot!", "How to ask for someone's birthday discreetly in case you've forgotten it? Thank you! All this helped a lot!", "How to ask for someone's birthday discreetly in case you've forgotten it? Thank you! All this helped a lot!" ]

[ "\"Hey did you know I share the same birthday with Robert Englund, the guy that plays Freddy Krueger? Who do you share a birthday with?\". Then later look up that celebrities birthday.", "Just ask.\n\nHey, I’m making sure that I know when people’s birthdays are—when is yours again?\n\nAnd then write it down. Add it to the person’s contact info in your phone, and also add it as a recurring event on your calendar.", "Ask them if they've ever wondered if they were conceived on a special occasion or holiday. They will usually say their birthday when trying to count back 9 months. I was a Valentine's Day conception 💘", "Add them as a friend on facebook. Problem solved.\n\nAlternatively, you can find public records online." ]

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[ "How to train yourself in lucid dreaming Hey folks, \n\nfor anyone who doesn't know - lucid dreams are the type of dreams you're aware of, the ones you can consciously manipulate, i.e. to dream, experience, feel what you like... Literally, you're only limited by your imagination!\n\nSo, does anyone have recommendations on how to improve this skill? My approach is to set a sequence of snooze alarms on my phone, usually at 20 min. intervals before the actual time I have to wake up for work and to hope for a particularly messed up/lively dream to continue/manipulate in lucid state. I've tried mobile phone apps, recording my movements at night to determine sleep states (kinda like a poor man's polysomnograph) and thus the best time for the snooze alarm, but this doesn't work consistently. I've tried the anchoring technique, but that doesn't work very well either. The lucid dreams tend to be very short, I drift off quickly and at best, I get about one solid lucid dream every month or so.\n\nWhen I worked in a sleep-lab, I used their apparatus to wake me in the middle of REM-sleep close to wake-up time. That was golden, quality lucid dreams about every time I used the gear, but this is obviously not a practical every day solution...", "How to train yourself in lucid dreaming Hey folks, \n\nfor anyone who doesn't know - lucid dreams are the type of dreams you're aware of, the ones you can consciously manipulate, i.e. to dream, experience, feel what you like... Literally, you're only limited by your imagination!\n\nSo, does anyone have recommendations on how to improve this skill? My approach is to set a sequence of snooze alarms on my phone, usually at 20 min. intervals before the actual time I have to wake up for work and to hope for a particularly messed up/lively dream to continue/manipulate in lucid state. I've tried mobile phone apps, recording my movements at night to determine sleep states (kinda like a poor man's polysomnograph) and thus the best time for the snooze alarm, but this doesn't work consistently. I've tried the anchoring technique, but that doesn't work very well either. The lucid dreams tend to be very short, I drift off quickly and at best, I get about one solid lucid dream every month or so.\n\nWhen I worked in a sleep-lab, I used their apparatus to wake me in the middle of REM-sleep close to wake-up time. That was golden, quality lucid dreams about every time I used the gear, but this is obviously not a practical every day solution...", "How to train yourself in lucid dreaming Hey folks, \n\nfor anyone who doesn't know - lucid dreams are the type of dreams you're aware of, the ones you can consciously manipulate, i.e. to dream, experience, feel what you like... Literally, you're only limited by your imagination!\n\nSo, does anyone have recommendations on how to improve this skill? My approach is to set a sequence of snooze alarms on my phone, usually at 20 min. intervals before the actual time I have to wake up for work and to hope for a particularly messed up/lively dream to continue/manipulate in lucid state. I've tried mobile phone apps, recording my movements at night to determine sleep states (kinda like a poor man's polysomnograph) and thus the best time for the snooze alarm, but this doesn't work consistently. I've tried the anchoring technique, but that doesn't work very well either. The lucid dreams tend to be very short, I drift off quickly and at best, I get about one solid lucid dream every month or so.\n\nWhen I worked in a sleep-lab, I used their apparatus to wake me in the middle of REM-sleep close to wake-up time. That was golden, quality lucid dreams about every time I used the gear, but this is obviously not a practical every day solution...", "How to train yourself in lucid dreaming Hey folks, \n\nfor anyone who doesn't know - lucid dreams are the type of dreams you're aware of, the ones you can consciously manipulate, i.e. to dream, experience, feel what you like... Literally, you're only limited by your imagination!\n\nSo, does anyone have recommendations on how to improve this skill? My approach is to set a sequence of snooze alarms on my phone, usually at 20 min. intervals before the actual time I have to wake up for work and to hope for a particularly messed up/lively dream to continue/manipulate in lucid state. I've tried mobile phone apps, recording my movements at night to determine sleep states (kinda like a poor man's polysomnograph) and thus the best time for the snooze alarm, but this doesn't work consistently. I've tried the anchoring technique, but that doesn't work very well either. The lucid dreams tend to be very short, I drift off quickly and at best, I get about one solid lucid dream every month or so.\n\nWhen I worked in a sleep-lab, I used their apparatus to wake me in the middle of REM-sleep close to wake-up time. That was golden, quality lucid dreams about every time I used the gear, but this is obviously not a practical every day solution...", "How to train yourself in lucid dreaming Hey folks, \n\nfor anyone who doesn't know - lucid dreams are the type of dreams you're aware of, the ones you can consciously manipulate, i.e. to dream, experience, feel what you like... Literally, you're only limited by your imagination!\n\nSo, does anyone have recommendations on how to improve this skill? My approach is to set a sequence of snooze alarms on my phone, usually at 20 min. intervals before the actual time I have to wake up for work and to hope for a particularly messed up/lively dream to continue/manipulate in lucid state. I've tried mobile phone apps, recording my movements at night to determine sleep states (kinda like a poor man's polysomnograph) and thus the best time for the snooze alarm, but this doesn't work consistently. I've tried the anchoring technique, but that doesn't work very well either. The lucid dreams tend to be very short, I drift off quickly and at best, I get about one solid lucid dream every month or so.\n\nWhen I worked in a sleep-lab, I used their apparatus to wake me in the middle of REM-sleep close to wake-up time. That was golden, quality lucid dreams about every time I used the gear, but this is obviously not a practical every day solution...", "How to train yourself in lucid dreaming Hey folks, \n\nfor anyone who doesn't know - lucid dreams are the type of dreams you're aware of, the ones you can consciously manipulate, i.e. to dream, experience, feel what you like... Literally, you're only limited by your imagination!\n\nSo, does anyone have recommendations on how to improve this skill? My approach is to set a sequence of snooze alarms on my phone, usually at 20 min. intervals before the actual time I have to wake up for work and to hope for a particularly messed up/lively dream to continue/manipulate in lucid state. I've tried mobile phone apps, recording my movements at night to determine sleep states (kinda like a poor man's polysomnograph) and thus the best time for the snooze alarm, but this doesn't work consistently. I've tried the anchoring technique, but that doesn't work very well either. The lucid dreams tend to be very short, I drift off quickly and at best, I get about one solid lucid dream every month or so.\n\nWhen I worked in a sleep-lab, I used their apparatus to wake me in the middle of REM-sleep close to wake-up time. That was golden, quality lucid dreams about every time I used the gear, but this is obviously not a practical every day solution..." ]

[ "I'm pretty sure waking up in the middle of a dream will only help you to remember it, not become lucid...? \nLucid dreaming is about being able to realise you are dreaming and let your conscious take over your subconscious. To be able to make this realisation, you have to get into the habit of \"testing reality\" while you're awake. For example, trying to walk through a wall, switching light switches on and off (in a dream, nothing will happen) looking at a digital clock or mirror (in a dream you won't be able to see clock numbers or your facial features properly). You do this so frequently that it becomes a habit, and eventually you'll do it while you're asleep, then realise you are dreaming and take control. \nI've only managed to do this once and it was weird, I could have control for a little bit, then it was like I was falling asleep again within my sleep and my sub-conscious would take over again and I'd be dreaming like normal. It's also very hard to not physically wake up when you realise you are dreaming when you first start trying to become lucid. \n\nBut anyway, there is a whole subreddit dedicated to this. You're probably better off asking there. ", "Hey! Used to have a night-terror problem when I was little and I have some tips I can share from that. I taught myself some things to m", "I've been lucid dreaming since childhood but not on purpose. When I realized what the phenomenon was, I trained myself to do it on purpose by using \"reality checks\", as another user mentioned. My favorite technique: during waking hours I look at both of my hands. Just noticing them. I flip them palm up and palm down. I do this a few times a day. And then when I dream, I remind myself (or it happens by habit) to look at my hands in the same manner. Usually, my hands look strange in some way. Too big or too many fingers or else just the act of performing a reality check makes me realize that something is off in my surroundings or in how I feel. Then I think, \"Hm. My reality check has failed. I'm probably dreaming.\" Boom, I become lucid. Try it! ", "I unfortunately didn't get tremendously into Lucid dreaming , a few years ago, some techniques used around LD helped to mitigate some fairly regular awful nightmares generated from the stress of my job for the most part. \n\nBut this not withstanding, it seems to me that dreams and whatever lies within my unconscious has *value*, and so imposing conscious control , while initially alluring is perhaps counterproductive. \n\nIn that way, now when I lucid dream it's pretty minimalist in a way, only if the train in my dream of the fall or whatever is about to hit, what they called \"the kick\" in Inception, I have a point where I close my eyes, and the reality of the dream changes to a peaceful [zen garden](http://www.hotelsjgarden.com/backyard-zen-garden/backyard-zen-garden-amazing-ideas-with-zen-garden-in-your-backyard/) and I wake up after a brief period. ", "I actually make videos on things like this my youtube is \"TheLakeHD\". Anyways when you want to lucid dream you need to be able to remember your dream. I recommend a dream journal and practice dream recall. Then you need to make reality checks during your waking hours frequently and check reality. Because in your brain while your sleeping the part of the brain the controls \"normality and common sense\" also falls asleep so everything may seem normal even if it's a dinsosaour. But if you question it, it wont. So do a reality check when you see your friend or just at certain things. Then once you get into a habit you should do a reality check in a dream and boom. Next step when you find out your dreaming and lucid done get excited you'll wake yourself up. Just rub your hands together in the dream. Keep yourself busy. Don't have lucid dream sex you'll wake up die to excitement. Ant more questions ask:)\n", "The only way I've really learned is kinda referenced in inception, most my dreams generally have relevance to places I know pretty well so when I'm dreaming I can sometimes tell when things aren't exactly right such as something missing in a room or something else. I think y trick would just be noticing things that are slightly off in the dreams you have." ]

[ 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to get rid of ants. I have never had a single ant in the house,but due to a neighbour constructing an extension there has been a huge influx of ants. Is there any quick and cheap fix? Much appreciated.", "How to get rid of ants. I have never had a single ant in the house,but due to a neighbour constructing an extension there has been a huge influx of ants. Is there any quick and cheap fix? Much appreciated.", "How to get rid of ants. I have never had a single ant in the house,but due to a neighbour constructing an extension there has been a huge influx of ants. Is there any quick and cheap fix? Much appreciated.", "How to get rid of ants. I have never had a single ant in the house,but due to a neighbour constructing an extension there has been a huge influx of ants. Is there any quick and cheap fix? Much appreciated." ]

[ "My GF is chemical phobic and when we had ants she didn't want me to use any chemicals... so a quick search online found that orange peels cut up and placed around the perimeter of the house would keep them out... worked like a charm... you could also try some of that orange oil cleaner...\n\nnow, if those ants are fire ants, Amdro is the stuff you want to use, get it at your local megalomart... it's the only thing that will effectively get rid of fire ants permanently...", "Thanks for all the suggestion's i am trying the Orange peel method. Hopefully should prove promising. ", "I've always found fabric refresher (like febreeze) works to get rid of the ant trail...and is wonderful for getting rid of ants in your car. It kills them on contact, and erases the scent they leave behind for others to follow. Plus it smells good :)", "Somebody posted on here yesterday that simmering some cinnamon would work. I haven't verified but thought I would pass it along in case. " ]

[ 7, 2, 1, 0 ]

[ "How does one share a video that can be uploaded to the web right away? Like the one that the woman used in the MN shooting? A video recording would be nice, but it's possible that some \"people\" might destroy it to prevent from circulating on the web.", "How does one share a video that can be uploaded to the web right away? Like the one that the woman used in the MN shooting? A video recording would be nice, but it's possible that some \"people\" might destroy it to prevent from circulating on the web.", "How does one share a video that can be uploaded to the web right away? Like the one that the woman used in the MN shooting? A video recording would be nice, but it's possible that some \"people\" might destroy it to prevent from circulating on the web." ]

[ "[The ACLU released an app for literally this exact purpose.](https://www.aclu.org/feature/aclu-apps-record-police-conduct)", "Bambuser is great too since the phone keeps broadcasting/uploading even after you lock the screen. Not sure if that is an exclusive feature to the paid version, though.", "Is nobody really going ask this person's motive for wanting to know this information? OP seems pretty keen on finding out how to accomplish this. " ]

[ 60, 13, -7 ]

[ "I'm trying to get my foot in the door for a new career. I have experience and a few certificates. What are some other things I can do to boost my chances to get hired? For the Interview? To negotiate better pay (rather than accepting minimum wage right off the bat)? ", "I'm trying to get my foot in the door for a new career. I have experience and a few certificates. What are some other things I can do to boost my chances to get hired? For the Interview? To negotiate better pay (rather than accepting minimum wage right off the bat)? ", "I'm trying to get my foot in the door for a new career. I have experience and a few certificates. What are some other things I can do to boost my chances to get hired? For the Interview? To negotiate better pay (rather than accepting minimum wage right off the bat)? ", "I'm trying to get my foot in the door for a new career. I have experience and a few certificates. What are some other things I can do to boost my chances to get hired? For the Interview? To negotiate better pay (rather than accepting minimum wage right off the bat)? ", "I'm trying to get my foot in the door for a new career. I have experience and a few certificates. What are some other things I can do to boost my chances to get hired? For the Interview? To negotiate better pay (rather than accepting minimum wage right off the bat)? ", "I'm trying to get my foot in the door for a new career. I have experience and a few certificates. What are some other things I can do to boost my chances to get hired? For the Interview? To negotiate better pay (rather than accepting minimum wage right off the bat)? " ]

[ "Research the company/locations you're applying for. If you dress up closer to how other people there dress for the interview, this could actually help you get hired.", "What industry are you trying to get into, and what positions are you applying to in that industry? This can change how you should dress and tailor your resume which will help.\n\nAlso, recognize the HR rep or recruiter you are talking to when applying is likely not the person who signs off on the budget for the position or approves the salary. They are trying to fill the role for as low in the budget as possible while getting the best talent possible.\n\nDon’t sell yourself short and always ask for the salary range that they’ve budgeted for the position. I’ve been told recruiters can’t ask what your previous salary was, but that might be state specific rather than federal, they should instead be asking what your desired compensation is.\n\nAlso thoroughly review the company website, look for a mission or vision statement, thing they are doing in your community etc. when they ask what excites you about the company and position regurgitate as needed.", "Recruiter here, if you’re applying to PetSmart you probably don’t need to overthink it. I’d dress in something on the more casual side that still would be considered professional (ie. polo and nice pants). And since you’re looking to get into dog training, a tie or jacket definitely aren’t necessary. Negotiating pay can be tricky, especially when it’s an entry level position. In my experience, those positions are not negotiable, but it doesn’t hurt to ask. But I would go over compensation in your first interview if there are multiple steps. Just some general interview tips would be to do plenty of research on the company, make sure your resume is updated and formatted so it’s easy to read, and come prepared with questions - even if it’s something you don’t really need to know, it’s better to ask something as long as it wasn’t already covered by the interviewer. Taking notes is also a good way to express interest in the job without putting in much extra work. Best of luck!", "My family friend who worked in HR suggested a follow up thank you letter or email after the interview.", "Just want to chime in. I personally have been trying to switch careers for over four years now. I:be gotten some of the profession's certs and background projects in a portfolio, but can't even manage to make it past one or two interviews to a job offer. I'd be in a completely different field than what you are looking towards, but I just want to say try not to give up. My current company is closing down in June and then all employees will need to move on. but, despite my being out looking for so many years, I just hope something will turn up. I also wish you a speedy entry and much success!", "I’ve learned that everything is negotiable. If they are paying minimum wage however, then I’m not sure how negotiable they are. If they ask what kind of pay you’re looking for be ready to tell them something like 3-5% higher than what you’ll settle for. If it’s full time with benefits make sure they don’t bone you on PTO or health plan (assuming you’re in the US) you can negotiate paid time off just like salary and start date of health plan, 401k etc. \n\nI’ve lost a few offers for trying to ask for too much but I was in a position where I was already employed and wasn’t going to leave for less than XX% more pay. I eventually got what I wanted with a better title. I don’t know shit about fuck though so I’m just out here winging it." ]

[ 8, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2 ]

[ "What is a good way to spice up Oatmeal and/or Grits? Winter is coming and I dont want to eat cold cereal in the morning, so what are some good ways to make warm cereal better?", "What is a good way to spice up Oatmeal and/or Grits? Winter is coming and I dont want to eat cold cereal in the morning, so what are some good ways to make warm cereal better?", "What is a good way to spice up Oatmeal and/or Grits? Winter is coming and I dont want to eat cold cereal in the morning, so what are some good ways to make warm cereal better?", "What is a good way to spice up Oatmeal and/or Grits? Winter is coming and I dont want to eat cold cereal in the morning, so what are some good ways to make warm cereal better?", "What is a good way to spice up Oatmeal and/or Grits? Winter is coming and I dont want to eat cold cereal in the morning, so what are some good ways to make warm cereal better?", "What is a good way to spice up Oatmeal and/or Grits? Winter is coming and I dont want to eat cold cereal in the morning, so what are some good ways to make warm cereal better?", "What is a good way to spice up Oatmeal and/or Grits? Winter is coming and I dont want to eat cold cereal in the morning, so what are some good ways to make warm cereal better?", "What is a good way to spice up Oatmeal and/or Grits? Winter is coming and I dont want to eat cold cereal in the morning, so what are some good ways to make warm cereal better?", "What is a good way to spice up Oatmeal and/or Grits? Winter is coming and I dont want to eat cold cereal in the morning, so what are some good ways to make warm cereal better?" ]

[ "I make oatmeal with all milk versus water. I add sugar, cinnamon, and nuts afterwards. Sometimes I add peanut butter. My wife adds dried cranberries.", "I love both of these, for the grits I like some butter and salt and some crumbled bacon. For the oatmeal, just a splash of milk and a teaspoon of jelly. ", "Cinnamon, raisins, sugar. Otherwise maple syrup and brown sugar. Otherwise, honey and granola.\n\nSource: I make my own oatmeal every day in my office for breakfast.", "I don't know what grits are, but oatmeal is awesome with raisins, dried cranberries, currents, chopped dates, pumpkin seeds, sunflower seeds, honey, cinnamon, bananas, peaches, dried apricots, etc. etc. Obviously not all at the same time....", "Nutritional yeast, olive oil and some hot sauce. Good on both items.\n\nYou can cook grits with vegetable broth, added to sauteed garlic with some jalapenos. \n\nYou can guess our house is big on savory and we don't like sweet breakfasts.", "If you have time with the grits: salt, pepper, butter, cheese, and little bits of bacon. Ooooh hits back home because my mom used to make it on special occasions. ", "I like a hearty bowl of steel cut oatmeal with 2 tbsp pumpkin puree, a little dark brown sugar, pumpkin pie spice, and cinnamon. (To make this easier after you make it the first time, you can take the rest of the can of pumpkin puree and put 2 tbsp scoops on wax paper on a cookie sheet. Freeze them and then store them in a Ziploc bag in the freezer. They're ready to go and you don't have to worry about wasting whatever you don't initially use.)", "Honey, sultanas, sugar, nuts, peanut butter, cinnamon, crushed or dried apple, berries, banana. All make some nice additions", "Fried egg over easy, 2 strips of crispy bacon, one slice of cheese. Add all to buttery grits and mix together. It makes for a very delicious breakfast bowl." ]

[ 7, 5, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Finding a first job at 16 Im 16, and I want a job. I applied for Guitar Center but later realized I have to be 18, probably not gonna call me back. Thanks", "Finding a first job at 16 Im 16, and I want a job. I applied for Guitar Center but later realized I have to be 18, probably not gonna call me back. Thanks", "Finding a first job at 16 Im 16, and I want a job. I applied for Guitar Center but later realized I have to be 18, probably not gonna call me back. Thanks", "Finding a first job at 16 Im 16, and I want a job. I applied for Guitar Center but later realized I have to be 18, probably not gonna call me back. Thanks", "Finding a first job at 16 Im 16, and I want a job. I applied for Guitar Center but later realized I have to be 18, probably not gonna call me back. Thanks", "Finding a first job at 16 Im 16, and I want a job. I applied for Guitar Center but later realized I have to be 18, probably not gonna call me back. Thanks", "Finding a first job at 16 Im 16, and I want a job. I applied for Guitar Center but later realized I have to be 18, probably not gonna call me back. Thanks", "Finding a first job at 16 Im 16, and I want a job. I applied for Guitar Center but later realized I have to be 18, probably not gonna call me back. Thanks", "Finding a first job at 16 Im 16, and I want a job. I applied for Guitar Center but later realized I have to be 18, probably not gonna call me back. Thanks", "Finding a first job at 16 Im 16, and I want a job. I applied for Guitar Center but later realized I have to be 18, probably not gonna call me back. Thanks" ]

[ "Look at restaurants. Apply as a busser. They need people for evenings and weekends which is perfect if you're in school. And shifts are only a couple hours long so you won't get too stressed out and will have time for school work. ", "I tried to get a job at 16 and it was very disheartening. The places I applied at (a couple of restaurants and grocery stores) generally didn't accept me and didnt tell me why, and I would say I'm decently social and not an ugly person so I doubt that was the reason.\n\nA few of my friends that got jobs at the same age had some sort of connection with the company or had little commitments to study (which is something I always mentioned to the interviewer so I wouldn't be 'over-shifted'). I eventually found a job at a small corner store as the owner had just bought the place and needed some new employees and I just happened to be asking. \n\nSorry for the long reply with not much immediate advice. I feel, unless you have a connection with the company such as a friend who can recommend you or a family member in a management position, getting a job at 16 is mostly up to luck.\n\nNonetheless I wish you well in your search :)", "Whatever you find, while you're getting experience you're going to have to work hard until you can work smart.\n\nIf there are other people doing similar jobs, watch what they're doing and as soon as you are confident, ask if you can take over that job so they can do something else. Do that job well. Rinse repeat until you know all the jobs. Then start working smart..\n\nBest of luck!\n", "Try applying at a local theater or grocery store. They hire people under 18 and you can get some work experience. ", "Soccer referee, baseball umpire, elementary school after school program assistant (this was my high school job), grocery store cashier, cashier anywhere, pizza delivery driver, fast food employee, etc.\n\nReally just start applying to places until you find something.", "Try to land a school job like an after school program or an office job that doesn't require experience. These can help you in the long run! You don't want to waste your time at a job that won't offer the experience you need. \n\nInternships are great too. There are paid internships. ", "My advice is craigslist. A lot of small businesses will post on there hoping to land a new hire because of the minimal upfront cost to post. I've found 2 of my past jobs on Craigslist. ", "Is there a cafe you frequently hang out at or basically any place that you are familiar with and the staff, possibly the owners, know you? If so, ask if they have any jobs available or ask if you can help out in any way and hopefully that will lead to something. Try local, non-chain shops since the people are usually more friendly and are more relaxed with taking young inexperienced folks.\n\nI live in a small city and I've been going to my favourite independent cafe for 6 years now and I needed a job but had no experience whatsoever. Since the owners and staff have known me throughout the years they were more than happy to have me on board. :-)", "I worked at CVS at 16. Was pretty easy job. Even eventually got trained on photo development. Was pretty interesting.\n\nFor when your 17 though, I suggest checking out NCCC Americorps.", "Cashiers for restaurants work pretty well, lifeguarding, office supply stores like staples or tj max. I heard best buy is pretty good for a first job." ]

[ 9, 4, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to prevent your mind from wandering, when you need to focus. I do acknowledge that an wandering mind can be good at times, since it let's you be more imaginative and it helps you realize new things. But it can be troublesome at work or at school.\n\nI have trouble focusing at times. If I have work, I tend to think about it for a few minutes, then my mind wanders and think about something else, thus wasting time and doing nothing productive. \n\nAny tips to stop my mind from wandering during work; and how should I focus more.", "How to prevent your mind from wandering, when you need to focus. I do acknowledge that an wandering mind can be good at times, since it let's you be more imaginative and it helps you realize new things. But it can be troublesome at work or at school.\n\nI have trouble focusing at times. If I have work, I tend to think about it for a few minutes, then my mind wanders and think about something else, thus wasting time and doing nothing productive. \n\nAny tips to stop my mind from wandering during work; and how should I focus more.", "How to prevent your mind from wandering, when you need to focus. I do acknowledge that an wandering mind can be good at times, since it let's you be more imaginative and it helps you realize new things. But it can be troublesome at work or at school.\n\nI have trouble focusing at times. If I have work, I tend to think about it for a few minutes, then my mind wanders and think about something else, thus wasting time and doing nothing productive. \n\nAny tips to stop my mind from wandering during work; and how should I focus more.", "How to prevent your mind from wandering, when you need to focus. I do acknowledge that an wandering mind can be good at times, since it let's you be more imaginative and it helps you realize new things. But it can be troublesome at work or at school.\n\nI have trouble focusing at times. If I have work, I tend to think about it for a few minutes, then my mind wanders and think about something else, thus wasting time and doing nothing productive. \n\nAny tips to stop my mind from wandering during work; and how should I focus more." ]

[ "I try to listen to music I like. But don't know the words to. Or music that has no lyrics at all. I feel like it keeps my brain busy with something different going on in the back ground. ", "Try writing things down in to a list that is very detailed. It should include what needs to be done, current status and the next step. You might need one for work/school and one for personal life. This will help organize your thoughts and help you focus on what's at hand. ", "A lot of it is your work environment. If you work in a clean and organized environment it is much easier to concentrate and stay focused.", "Unfortunately there's no immediate solution to this. What I recommend is practicing m" ]

[ 3, 2, 1, 0 ]

[ "Confused In Life I have Been currently a student of grade 12th in India, and the fact is I like all subjects and acc. to our education system we can only choose science, commerce and humanities. I am pursuing Physics, Chemistry, Maths with Biology and doing great by getting above 90% but I also love computer science, History, Geography and commerce. I want to know is there any career option where I can have all this. You can call me as **Jack of all trades.** Everyday I feel sorry for myself for not having my fav subjects but at same time I have half of my fav subjects.", "Confused In Life I have Been currently a student of grade 12th in India, and the fact is I like all subjects and acc. to our education system we can only choose science, commerce and humanities. I am pursuing Physics, Chemistry, Maths with Biology and doing great by getting above 90% but I also love computer science, History, Geography and commerce. I want to know is there any career option where I can have all this. You can call me as **Jack of all trades.** Everyday I feel sorry for myself for not having my fav subjects but at same time I have half of my fav subjects.", "Confused In Life I have Been currently a student of grade 12th in India, and the fact is I like all subjects and acc. to our education system we can only choose science, commerce and humanities. I am pursuing Physics, Chemistry, Maths with Biology and doing great by getting above 90% but I also love computer science, History, Geography and commerce. I want to know is there any career option where I can have all this. You can call me as **Jack of all trades.** Everyday I feel sorry for myself for not having my fav subjects but at same time I have half of my fav subjects." ]

[ "Idk become an astronaut\n\nIm not even kidding, if you are this good in most subjects go for it, its the most jack of all trades \"job\" i can think of", "Bioscience or agricultural research would be a good option for the courses you’re pursuing, there are so many job options that fall under those umbrellas that you can make a career out of jumping around to different roles and keep learning new things. The more experience you gain the more you realize all things are connected, so there are big roles for commerce and humanities topics in there as you advance", "Do you have a major and a minor when you attend university in India? You could major in one of the sciences and minor in history. Then get an MBA. An engineering degree with an MBA is a good thing to have. Best of luck!" ]

[ 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How do i become a morning person? I am a zombie before my first cup of coffee and usually start functioning properly around 10am, i stay in bed until the last possible moment i can in the morning daily, how can i become a morning person? so i can be up early, get prepared for the day and be ready to go.", "How do i become a morning person? I am a zombie before my first cup of coffee and usually start functioning properly around 10am, i stay in bed until the last possible moment i can in the morning daily, how can i become a morning person? so i can be up early, get prepared for the day and be ready to go.", "How do i become a morning person? I am a zombie before my first cup of coffee and usually start functioning properly around 10am, i stay in bed until the last possible moment i can in the morning daily, how can i become a morning person? so i can be up early, get prepared for the day and be ready to go.", "How do i become a morning person? I am a zombie before my first cup of coffee and usually start functioning properly around 10am, i stay in bed until the last possible moment i can in the morning daily, how can i become a morning person? so i can be up early, get prepared for the day and be ready to go.", "How do i become a morning person? I am a zombie before my first cup of coffee and usually start functioning properly around 10am, i stay in bed until the last possible moment i can in the morning daily, how can i become a morning person? so i can be up early, get prepared for the day and be ready to go.", "How do i become a morning person? I am a zombie before my first cup of coffee and usually start functioning properly around 10am, i stay in bed until the last possible moment i can in the morning daily, how can i become a morning person? so i can be up early, get prepared for the day and be ready to go.", "How do i become a morning person? I am a zombie before my first cup of coffee and usually start functioning properly around 10am, i stay in bed until the last possible moment i can in the morning daily, how can i become a morning person? so i can be up early, get prepared for the day and be ready to go.", "How do i become a morning person? I am a zombie before my first cup of coffee and usually start functioning properly around 10am, i stay in bed until the last possible moment i can in the morning daily, how can i become a morning person? so i can be up early, get prepared for the day and be ready to go.", "How do i become a morning person? I am a zombie before my first cup of coffee and usually start functioning properly around 10am, i stay in bed until the last possible moment i can in the morning daily, how can i become a morning person? so i can be up early, get prepared for the day and be ready to go.", "How do i become a morning person? I am a zombie before my first cup of coffee and usually start functioning properly around 10am, i stay in bed until the last possible moment i can in the morning daily, how can i become a morning person? so i can be up early, get prepared for the day and be ready to go.", "How do i become a morning person? I am a zombie before my first cup of coffee and usually start functioning properly around 10am, i stay in bed until the last possible moment i can in the morning daily, how can i become a morning person? so i can be up early, get prepared for the day and be ready to go.", "How do i become a morning person? I am a zombie before my first cup of coffee and usually start functioning properly around 10am, i stay in bed until the last possible moment i can in the morning daily, how can i become a morning person? so i can be up early, get prepared for the day and be ready to go.", "How do i become a morning person? I am a zombie before my first cup of coffee and usually start functioning properly around 10am, i stay in bed until the last possible moment i can in the morning daily, how can i become a morning person? so i can be up early, get prepared for the day and be ready to go.", "How do i become a morning person? I am a zombie before my first cup of coffee and usually start functioning properly around 10am, i stay in bed until the last possible moment i can in the morning daily, how can i become a morning person? so i can be up early, get prepared for the day and be ready to go.", "How do i become a morning person? I am a zombie before my first cup of coffee and usually start functioning properly around 10am, i stay in bed until the last possible moment i can in the morning daily, how can i become a morning person? so i can be up early, get prepared for the day and be ready to go.", "How do i become a morning person? I am a zombie before my first cup of coffee and usually start functioning properly around 10am, i stay in bed until the last possible moment i can in the morning daily, how can i become a morning person? so i can be up early, get prepared for the day and be ready to go.", "How do i become a morning person? I am a zombie before my first cup of coffee and usually start functioning properly around 10am, i stay in bed until the last possible moment i can in the morning daily, how can i become a morning person? so i can be up early, get prepared for the day and be ready to go.", "How do i become a morning person? I am a zombie before my first cup of coffee and usually start functioning properly around 10am, i stay in bed until the last possible moment i can in the morning daily, how can i become a morning person? so i can be up early, get prepared for the day and be ready to go." ]

[ "Routine is your friend. A good bed time routine can do wonders for sleep (no matter how old you are)! \n\nKeep the times and sequence of night time activities consistent.\n\nEg at 9pm I set the coffee maker and pack my lunch for tomorrow. I set my alarm, plug in my phone and get tomorrow's outfit and bag ready.At 9:30 I brush my teeth do my beauty routine. I lie down to sleep by 10. Before I fall asleep I visualize myself doing my morning routine (in detail) and feeling awake and happy.\n\nKeep your bed for sleep and intimacy nothing else!\n\nWake up at the same time every morning (try not to let yourself sleep in even if you have time). Do the same sequence of things everyday. \n\nEg Turn off alarm, put on socks, turn on coffee maker, have breaky, do makeup put on clothes, brush teeth, get coffee and lunch. Leave house.\n\nBy setting yourself up for a smooth running morning and having the image of yourself doing well in your head, you can change how you feel about mornings and hopefully be more productive.", "personally my strategy is entering college and having finals destroy my sleep schedule so much that I cycle it all the way around to the point where I'm sleeping every night at 6:00 PM. \n\nbut diet exercise light control and regulating your sleep patterns would probably work just as well", "As soon as your eyes open, get up, turn around and make the bed.\n\nThis will change your life! Its a simple thing, but it engages you into \"Ready for Action\" as you've already started the day with a productive, physical task. I had been off sick for a year and got into a bit of a funk, heard about this small thing decided to try it. Within a few months I was back at work, rapidly promoted, new girlfriend and a completely new outlook on life. I put it down to not leaving the bed a mess, and not being tempted to get back in for 5 more minutes! \n\nGive it a try for a week.", "I know its probably not what you're after, but I guarantee you that if you went to sleep at least 2 hours earlier you would wake up feeling refreshed. 8 or so hours might be enough to function but if you want to get ahead you have to pay the toll (more sleep hours). If your sleeping patterns are fucked, go see a doctor and get a prescription for some sleeping pills so you can ease yourself into a comfortable pattern. I've personally found that going to bed earlier as opposed to oversleeping is the way to feel fresh. Don't feel like you're losing time at night, because you will gain it in productivity.", "Have a baby. Alternately, have a dog. There's nothing quite like an insistent third party to help you push through that part of your lizard brain that prefers sleep to life.", "Going to bed early will help. I usually go through a \"wind down\" routine before bed. A routine to wake up might also help. Or do something in the morning that you like so that you have something to look forward to when you get up. \n\nSome people just operate better at different times of the day. These suggestions might help, but don't be too hard on yourself if it's not easy. Everyone's different! Variety is the spice of life. ", "Rewiring your internal alarm clock. Your probally gonna have to fight yourself to sleep if you are not used to going to bed early. My wife is not a morning person at all which eventually threw off my whole schedule. Catch her up before six am and you better be asking where she hid bodies at. Lol jk! But it took starting a job that i worked at in the morning to snap me back in to the habbit of gettong up with the sun", "It happened to me naturally as I aged. I used to be able to sleep all day, getting up at 1pm no problem. As I get older, I find I can't do that anymore. I wake up earlier and earlier every year and begin to feel guilty if I sleep too late. Man, getting old sucks. ", "You've gotten plenty decent tips. One more to make it pro. I had to force myself a morning person in the army (well, they kindly *support* you). After leaving the army I've went back and forth between being (and not) a morning person and it's easy for me to routine myself whenever needed. But: you can't fully change your \"natural\" circadian rhythm even if it usually shifts towards mornings over time. You can do a lot, but genetics play a big big role. It usually takes me just about 2 weeks of not having to get up and I'm back to owling and it always feels much more natural for me that way. ", "I'm 34 and I have tried several times to change. I've tried everything, sometimes sticking to the 6am wake up time and early bedtimes for years, and nothing worked. Tried different exercise regimens, different bedtimes, different breakfasts, different dinners the night before, tried coffee/no coffee... morning always feels bad.\n\nThe closest I ever came was: while doing regular exercise/early bedtime/healthy dinner combo, I also made a point of drinking a lot of water before bed and having a glass of water beside the bed at night as well. Being forced out of bed to go to the bathroom in the morning was actually less bad than all other things I've found so far.", "Eat breakfast! As soon as you get up, everyday. Make it something substantial. Your body will want to get up because it is hungry.\n", "Avoid your phone, laptop, tv, or other screen as much as possible an hour or two before bed. They emit blue light that has been shown to affect melatonin levels and sleep quality. This has improved the quality of my sleep immensely.\n\nhttp://www.scientificamerican.com/article/q-a-why-is-blue-light-before-bedtime-bad-for-sleep/\n\nAlso, iPhones and Androids have a setting to reduce the amount of blue light they emit.", "1 - Go to bed early, at least 6:30~8h before the time you're planning to wake up.\n\n2 - Leave your room as soon as you hit the stop button on your alarm. Wether if it's to wash your face or brush your teeth, the more you move the less you'll be tempted to go back to sleep.\n\n3 - Put some exercise on your morning routine, that helped me a lot.\n\n4 - Repeat until it become a routine. It will be tough on the first days, but once it becomes a routine you'll even get irritated when something prevents you from waking up early.", "Trade the coffee for tea? That works for me. And try to drink a lot of water in the night to not wake up feeling like death.", "These ten tips helped me change my life. I'm now routinely up by 4am, at the gym by 5am, six days a week.\n\nhttp://shankman.com/why-you-need-to-get-up-earlier-and-how-to-do-it/\n\nBest tip is the first one under \"how\" - Keep a huge glass of water by the bed, and chug it BEFORE YOU SHUT OFF YOUR ALARM.", "Take an ice cold shower every morning (you can start with hot water). You will be on the verge of screaming but I guarantee you will be a morning person for the day.", "Make routine when you going to sleep, like read book or maybe some push-ups something that your mind will recognize that you are going to sleep, and remember that bed is only for sleeping, don't sit on facebook there or as i said read book, when your brain will know that bed=sleep not bed=sleep, phone, tv, book you're good to go. That's only the first step and this will only help you to fall asleep very fast. \n\nThen you need to use sites like sleepyti.me and that's pretty much it. ", "I think the key things to do are (from personal experience, implemented after learning from various sources):\n\n1) Start going to bed early. Always hit the bed at the same time and wake up at the same time (give or take 10 minutes). Always go to bed ONLY to sleep, or to start your pre-sleep routine (see next). Black out ALL light in the room and make it as close to pitch dark as possible. Wear an eye mask if you find that comfortable (I don't).\n\n2) Establish a pre-sleep routine that you always follow before you hit the bed. Something like watching a movie/show, or reading a book, or having a short good-night conversation with someone (where nothing is likely to be said that will keep you awake!). Also, if you can, sleep in the nude. Other than all the awesome benefits of sleeping in the nude, hitting the bed in the nude on the regular will signal the mind to start shutting down for sleep (this works for me).\n\n3) As much as possible, avoid electronic devices with screens that you hold up to your face for at least an hour before you sleep.\n\n4) Have something interesting to do after you wake up: Something that you like, or enjoy doing very much. Ideally it should be so much fun that you will soon go to sleep looking forward to waking up for that.\n\n5) To add to the earlier point, do something with a group of people (something that you really enjoy) early in the morning after you wake up. Like a jog/walk or cycling or just having coffee together. The group thing generally adds an additional pressure to conform. (I'm a lone wolf by nature, but this still works for me, personally).\n\nI'm not at all a morning person, and I need about 8 hours of sleep to wake up naturally. I'd been sleeping at 11PM and getting up at 7AM regularly for years together. And then, I got into cycling. I needed to wake up super early if I needed to be able to ride safely and fast without traffic bothering me. And after solo rides for a while, I started riding with great group of 4 others who stay very near me. In just a week, I started going to bed at 9.30PM and started waking up at 4.30AM (yep, 1 hour less total, I guess I can't have everything), simply so I could be out of the door at 5AM (after a small meal) and ride. I get back home at 7.30 or 8.00AM, and start my routine day full of energy. Even if the group isn't riding, I get my morning ride in, rain or shine.\n\nI love the clear morning air, the sights I get to see (we ride 30-50 miles daily, though various terrain and routes), the great conversation, the coffee and the snacks we have at our mid-point break, and the really zen feeling I get while on the bike.\n\nI've had to compromise on day-end outings, regular nightly movies/bingewatching shows and a lot of other things for this, but all of it is worth it: Both for the fun in the morning, and for the energy that I have all day long. I sneak a 30 minute nap at work after lunch (I work for myself) during the day to make up for the lost hour (though it does not bother me on days I don't get to take the nap). I'm also single and live with myself, so a lot of these changes were easy enough to do." ]

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[ "How to focus completely on what a person is saying to me, instead of focusing on what I'm going to say in response. I have this problem a lot. Especially when I'm anxious.", "How to focus completely on what a person is saying to me, instead of focusing on what I'm going to say in response. I have this problem a lot. Especially when I'm anxious.", "How to focus completely on what a person is saying to me, instead of focusing on what I'm going to say in response. I have this problem a lot. Especially when I'm anxious.", "How to focus completely on what a person is saying to me, instead of focusing on what I'm going to say in response. I have this problem a lot. Especially when I'm anxious.", "How to focus completely on what a person is saying to me, instead of focusing on what I'm going to say in response. I have this problem a lot. Especially when I'm anxious.", "How to focus completely on what a person is saying to me, instead of focusing on what I'm going to say in response. I have this problem a lot. Especially when I'm anxious.", "How to focus completely on what a person is saying to me, instead of focusing on what I'm going to say in response. I have this problem a lot. Especially when I'm anxious.", "How to focus completely on what a person is saying to me, instead of focusing on what I'm going to say in response. I have this problem a lot. Especially when I'm anxious.", "How to focus completely on what a person is saying to me, instead of focusing on what I'm going to say in response. I have this problem a lot. Especially when I'm anxious.", "How to focus completely on what a person is saying to me, instead of focusing on what I'm going to say in response. I have this problem a lot. Especially when I'm anxious." ]

[ "Instead of thinking of a response try to think of a question to ask.\n\nThe best listeners I know are always asking the best questions.", "If you are focusing on what you will say in response to a statement, then you already assumed in your mind the point, or jist, of that person's reason to converse. Essentially you preemptively determined in your mind why the person is speaking about a particular topic due to information your mind gathered already. It happens a lot in job interviews. They key here is to acknowledge two things:\n\n* When we are anxious we are entering a fight or flight situation, so our brain will hang on to the first data it gets to spit out an answer (and get the situation over with quickly) rather than wait a bit to acquire more information then formulate a response. \n\n* When anxiousness occurs in a given situation it usually means that we have assigned great weight, or importance, to that situation, more often than not, illogically. \n\nIn order to bypass my brain and control my response to anxiety, I do two things when I am anxious to address those two previous points. \n\n* I try to understand why I am feeling anxious in any given situation. I realized that most of these situations don't really deserve this level of anxiousness but I end up still feeling anxious anyway. So I visualized the worst that can happen in that specific situation before that situation starts (job interview, speech..etc.). Usually I get visuals depicting ridiculous things that I know probably will never happen, or the worst that can happen is actually not all that bad, or that it is bad and therefore feeling anxious is warranted so I don't feel weird about being anxious! (Helpful Tip: If you are anxious in a people situation, try to imagine if you are the other party looking at yourself. How would you expect your reaction if you were them?)\n\n* Practice and prepare! Think about the questions/topics you expect to be asked/discussing and prepare before hand. If its for interviews or speeches, ask your friends for help in either case so you develop a rhythm and start to develop confidence. Once you start to have positive experiences, you actually will slowly start to enjoy doing interviews or converse with people. \n\nGood luck <3", "All these answers, so far from the truth. To be a good listener just ensure to don't give a shit. \n\nIf you have zero invested interest, you won't waste time thinking of questions, answers, discussions, etc. you just listen. \n\nThen when they finish talking you can say 'uh huh' and wait for them to resume. \n\nAnd listen to some more dribble. \n\nEnjoy!", "I'm confused, If you are formulating a response then you are listening to what they are saying, but if you are just waiting for your turn to talk then I can understand what you mean.\n\nIt all starts with acknowledging that you have a problem, which you have done. My friend has this weird habit of mouthing the words I am saying *slightly* while I am talking, this seemed weird at first, but then when I thought about it, it made me feel like he was very intently listening. Not sure if this helps but I can't really think of any other advice.", "When people do this to me I think. \"STOP, just stop for two seconds and think about what thoughts I am trying to convey. Not just what I mean but how I feel.\"\nThis will go a long way towards turning a pair of monologues into a dialogue.\n\nAdvanced move:\nFor situations where there could be misunderstanding some people will say: \"If I understand you correctly you're saying ...\" that tactic helps cement that you listed and understood (which means when thinking about what you're going to say you're actually thinking about what they just said.) After this you can pause and speak your response.", "What's your response time? Are you worried about the dead air that could happen if you do not respond quick enough? \n\nIf this is the case, I have the same problem. But I know that I, at least, appreciate when someone takes a moment to think after I've spoken; I'm even more willing to hear their response and I become more engaged in the conversation.\n\nIt feels awkward as heck making this pause. But I've noticed that if someone waits to respond after my comment that they are giving me their full attention and respect my comment with a moment of contemplation. \n\nIf this isn't your case, what do you think the anxiety could be stemming from?", "The easiest tip: Make yourself a rule to just reply to the last sentence. \nWhen someone is talking and you have already an answer in your head try to think \"this could but won't be my answer, because I'll wait for the last sentence\". This way the listening comes by itself, because you have to think about new answer anyway. ", "Mindfulness. I used to be a counsellor. Spent many years listening for a living. Practice daily and you can really improve where your mind is at when trying to listen. (Lots of other benefits too).", "I 100% understand what you mean. I work at a job where I'm often getting valuable info from people over the phone, so this was becoming a real issue for me. \n\nI found that it got a bit easier if I told myself that my main goal was to listen and retain the info, and that it's fine to not remember my response - if I listened the whole time, I often have an off-the-cuff response available after. I also am able to take notes usually, so if I really have to remember a response, I make a very brief note so I can return my focus on them. ", "Echo listen. \n\nSimply put. As they are speaking repeat the words they are saying in your head. \n\nIt will take your focus to so so and as a bonus will be far easier to recall later." ]

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[ "Tips, tricks, and hacks for glasses wearers I was just prescribed my first pair of glasses, and know that the collective hive mind that is reddit must have some interesting tips and tricks for people who wear glasses.", "Tips, tricks, and hacks for glasses wearers I was just prescribed my first pair of glasses, and know that the collective hive mind that is reddit must have some interesting tips and tricks for people who wear glasses.", "Tips, tricks, and hacks for glasses wearers I was just prescribed my first pair of glasses, and know that the collective hive mind that is reddit must have some interesting tips and tricks for people who wear glasses.", "Tips, tricks, and hacks for glasses wearers I was just prescribed my first pair of glasses, and know that the collective hive mind that is reddit must have some interesting tips and tricks for people who wear glasses.", "Tips, tricks, and hacks for glasses wearers I was just prescribed my first pair of glasses, and know that the collective hive mind that is reddit must have some interesting tips and tricks for people who wear glasses.", "Tips, tricks, and hacks for glasses wearers I was just prescribed my first pair of glasses, and know that the collective hive mind that is reddit must have some interesting tips and tricks for people who wear glasses.", "Tips, tricks, and hacks for glasses wearers I was just prescribed my first pair of glasses, and know that the collective hive mind that is reddit must have some interesting tips and tricks for people who wear glasses.", "Tips, tricks, and hacks for glasses wearers I was just prescribed my first pair of glasses, and know that the collective hive mind that is reddit must have some interesting tips and tricks for people who wear glasses.", "Tips, tricks, and hacks for glasses wearers I was just prescribed my first pair of glasses, and know that the collective hive mind that is reddit must have some interesting tips and tricks for people who wear glasses.", "Tips, tricks, and hacks for glasses wearers I was just prescribed my first pair of glasses, and know that the collective hive mind that is reddit must have some interesting tips and tricks for people who wear glasses.", "Tips, tricks, and hacks for glasses wearers I was just prescribed my first pair of glasses, and know that the collective hive mind that is reddit must have some interesting tips and tricks for people who wear glasses." ]

[ "LPT: Don't touch the lenses of your glasses, as this can cause the oils from your fingers to get onto the lenses and smear them, which may cause for an unsatisfactory viewing experience. ", "Always rinse your glasses with water before cleaning them with the proper cloth. Even small pieces of dust, hairs etc. can damage the coating.", "Don't just clean them with w/e fabric is laying around - use the cloth they provided to you. \n\nIME, I've been able to go to LensCrafters and get my glasses adjusted for free even when I didn't get my classes from there. ", "It's surprisingly easy to set a pair of glasses down and forget where they are. My mom had a rule for us: \"Face or Case\", and she gave us each a brightly-colored case. Helps a lot for starting out when you don't really, REALLY need your glasses to function, so they come on and off more often.", "When you put them down, make sure they are facing up. If you put them down on the lens side, the antireflective coating will wear off faster.", "Need them for work? Keep a spare at work. \n\nNeed them to drive? Keep a spare in the car.\n\nlearn to clean them/maintain them properly.\n\n\nKeep a copy of your prescription as a photo on your phone when you travel so anywhere you are can have a spare prescription made up. ", "If your sight is bad enough that you can't find your glasses when not wearing them, and you are nearsighted, open the camera app on your phone to get a clearer view of your room to look around.", "Always bring your backup pair when travelling. \n\nKnow your Fit Number (Lens Width (Right Eye) + Bridge + Lens Width (Left Eye)) when shopping for new glasses. \n\nIf you have transitions lenses they may not active in your car because windshields in today's vehicles block most of the UV rays that cause transitions lenses to darken. Consider picking up a cheap pair of prescription sunglasses for driving. ", "Take them off to makeout unless you want a bunch of foggy spots on them. \nTake them off when it's raining until you get inside. \nNever use your shirt to clean them. Always use a glasses cloth.\nIf they have a glare on them, take them off while taking pictures as not doing so will make your eyes invisible in the photo.\nDon't get too close to hot boiling food until it's cooled down because your glasses will fog up.", "Get some rubber stoppers that go behind your ears so they don't fall off when exercising or bending over", "For the first little while of wearing glasses, set yourself a daily reminder to put them on/ bring them with you in the morning. It's very easy to forget to do something when you're not used to it being part of your routine yet.\nAlso never put your glasses down with the lenses touching the surface, as they scratch really easily.\nFor the first while of wearing glasses, it can also be useful to keep some headache medicine on hand. Your eyes have to adjust to seeing through the glasses, so you can and probably will end up getting quite a few headaches in the few week or two (especially if the glasses are for full time wear). This one works both for now and any time you change prescription, as the same adjustment period applies in both cases." ]

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[ "How to shave the back of your neck I've tried using a handheld mirror and razor and fail horribly. I can't get the angles down at all and just end up rotating my hand for five minutes in the wrong direction. Anyone have any surefire methods for a good neckline?", "How to shave the back of your neck I've tried using a handheld mirror and razor and fail horribly. I can't get the angles down at all and just end up rotating my hand for five minutes in the wrong direction. Anyone have any surefire methods for a good neckline?", "How to shave the back of your neck I've tried using a handheld mirror and razor and fail horribly. I can't get the angles down at all and just end up rotating my hand for five minutes in the wrong direction. Anyone have any surefire methods for a good neckline?" ]

[ "I use a leather belt as a guide. Easy to hold in place and gives you a straight line. I use clippers and not a razor but I don't see why it wouldn't work.", "You need one of those medicine cabinets with the three mirrors that swing out. Pull each of the side mirrors halfway out, then lean in and look to either side. You'll see the back of your head well enough to do it yourself. \n\nI've been doing this for years. ", "Grab the razor by the base and move in small bits back and forth. This only works if you can reach around with your arms. " ]

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[ "How to stand correctly for several hours without getting back pain! Been going to a festival the last two days and after about 30-60 min I get back pain and the more I stand the more pain I get. It gets better if I move around (read dance) but my back muscles are just cramping.\n\nI try to relax my ab muscles, posterior tilt my hip, squeeze my glutes, lean more forward but nothing works. Going to another festival next weekend and this just sucks. I'm also 6'7\" (2m) but usually don't have that much pain in my back. All help is appreciated. Thanks!\n\n", "How to stand correctly for several hours without getting back pain! Been going to a festival the last two days and after about 30-60 min I get back pain and the more I stand the more pain I get. It gets better if I move around (read dance) but my back muscles are just cramping.\n\nI try to relax my ab muscles, posterior tilt my hip, squeeze my glutes, lean more forward but nothing works. Going to another festival next weekend and this just sucks. I'm also 6'7\" (2m) but usually don't have that much pain in my back. All help is appreciated. Thanks!\n\n", "How to stand correctly for several hours without getting back pain! Been going to a festival the last two days and after about 30-60 min I get back pain and the more I stand the more pain I get. It gets better if I move around (read dance) but my back muscles are just cramping.\n\nI try to relax my ab muscles, posterior tilt my hip, squeeze my glutes, lean more forward but nothing works. Going to another festival next weekend and this just sucks. I'm also 6'7\" (2m) but usually don't have that much pain in my back. All help is appreciated. Thanks!\n\n", "How to stand correctly for several hours without getting back pain! Been going to a festival the last two days and after about 30-60 min I get back pain and the more I stand the more pain I get. It gets better if I move around (read dance) but my back muscles are just cramping.\n\nI try to relax my ab muscles, posterior tilt my hip, squeeze my glutes, lean more forward but nothing works. Going to another festival next weekend and this just sucks. I'm also 6'7\" (2m) but usually don't have that much pain in my back. All help is appreciated. Thanks!\n\n", "How to stand correctly for several hours without getting back pain! Been going to a festival the last two days and after about 30-60 min I get back pain and the more I stand the more pain I get. It gets better if I move around (read dance) but my back muscles are just cramping.\n\nI try to relax my ab muscles, posterior tilt my hip, squeeze my glutes, lean more forward but nothing works. Going to another festival next weekend and this just sucks. I'm also 6'7\" (2m) but usually don't have that much pain in my back. All help is appreciated. Thanks!\n\n", "How to stand correctly for several hours without getting back pain! Been going to a festival the last two days and after about 30-60 min I get back pain and the more I stand the more pain I get. It gets better if I move around (read dance) but my back muscles are just cramping.\n\nI try to relax my ab muscles, posterior tilt my hip, squeeze my glutes, lean more forward but nothing works. Going to another festival next weekend and this just sucks. I'm also 6'7\" (2m) but usually don't have that much pain in my back. All help is appreciated. Thanks!\n\n", "How to stand correctly for several hours without getting back pain! Been going to a festival the last two days and after about 30-60 min I get back pain and the more I stand the more pain I get. It gets better if I move around (read dance) but my back muscles are just cramping.\n\nI try to relax my ab muscles, posterior tilt my hip, squeeze my glutes, lean more forward but nothing works. Going to another festival next weekend and this just sucks. I'm also 6'7\" (2m) but usually don't have that much pain in my back. All help is appreciated. Thanks!\n\n", "How to stand correctly for several hours without getting back pain! Been going to a festival the last two days and after about 30-60 min I get back pain and the more I stand the more pain I get. It gets better if I move around (read dance) but my back muscles are just cramping.\n\nI try to relax my ab muscles, posterior tilt my hip, squeeze my glutes, lean more forward but nothing works. Going to another festival next weekend and this just sucks. I'm also 6'7\" (2m) but usually don't have that much pain in my back. All help is appreciated. Thanks!\n\n" ]

[ "[This](https://youtu.be/4BOTvaRaDjI) helped me with my lower back pain. Every morning do this routine and have had no problems since. But, mine was a persistent issue to do with posture and non-supportive office chair.\n\nHope it helps but hopefully your muscles healing between festivals will have made them stronger.\n\nDon't stand still. Always be shuffling from one foot to the other at least.", "Stand tall, suck belly in just slightly to engage your core, knees bent slightly. Shift weight, left to right leg, wear good shoes with gel inserts.\n\nIt sounds like you know what you are doing, but you get tired and want to overcome that. Take breaks, like sitting down or resting in a forward-fold. Pilates helps develop core strength but also helps you learn your comfort zone, and work from there instead of from your expectation of your capacity.", "I work in the food industry and therefor am usually on my feet for 8+ hours, I know the feels, what I do is take \"micro breaks\" lol its basically a series of small exercises I do to relax/stretch my muscles such as rolling your head/neck, stretching your foot as far as it will go then rotating your ankle and lifting my knees to about waste level a couple times this is what usually helps me anyways ", "I used to get lumbar and sacral back pain if I had to be still for while (sitting or standing) and I've found that increasing core strength has helped a lot. \n\nhttp://scoobysworkshop.com/rotisserie-core-workout/\n\nThis workout doesn't take long, isn't too onerous and builds noticeable muscle strength and bulk surprisingly quickly.", "Bring your wrists up to your chest (with your hands hanging down). Bend your legs slightly. Smoothly and quickly glance back and forth from left to right. Then yell \"RAWR I'M A T-REX\"!\n\nOr wait... was that how you t-rex? ", "Be conscious of what material or surface you're standing on too. If it's softer on your feet it will generally be easier on your joints. ", "buy a waist band from dollar store,you can also buy more expensive one from ross but you have to leave it open for few days to get rid of chemical smell,bring a foldable seat.exercise your back,watch what you sit on at home or work it cause bad backs,also change shoes form insoles create bad backs\n\nhttp://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/multimedia/back-pain/sls-20076265", "There's a few things I find to help.\n\n1. Keep moving and don't lock your knees. Even if you're just sort of shifting from side to side.\n\n2. Try to walk on the pads of your feet instead of the heels. \n\n3. Get some of those thick gel insoles.\n\n4. Try to walk in the grass if possible. Or something softer than concrete. \n\nI'm not sure if it'll help you, but I've had back problems all my life and those have helped me." ]

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[ "How can I be more critical, more aware and more careful so that I don't keep making stupid mistakes? ", "How can I be more critical, more aware and more careful so that I don't keep making stupid mistakes? ", "How can I be more critical, more aware and more careful so that I don't keep making stupid mistakes? ", "How can I be more critical, more aware and more careful so that I don't keep making stupid mistakes? ", "How can I be more critical, more aware and more careful so that I don't keep making stupid mistakes? " ]

[ "This usually comes from having a reactive mindset rather than a proactive mindset. Luckily for you this is something that occurs mainly from self conditioning. What reactive mindset means is that you possibly just grab the first idea that pops in to you head and implement it in a reactive sort of manner. \n\nIt could be that you are too inside your head which is racing with(irrelevant) ideas and not completely there at the present moment.\n\nSo you will need habits that will set your brain up for a proactive mindset.\n\n1) Ever tried mediation? It isn't just some hippy bullshit. Try training your brain to sit in silence and embrace the present moment. It is a tool to slow your reactive brain down a bit. It is the apex tool for raising your awareness levels.\n\n2) Do not have hobbies that make you brain dead. like watching TV or even playing some video games where you are zoned out from reality.\n\n3) Also practice pausing while communicating, think and speak. You will see great lecturers do this where they say a few words, pause, continue. It isn't just to build curiosity towards what they are saying but also to let them collectively think of effective words to communicate. This alone will help you profoundly to slow down thought & speech.\n\n4) Intense exercise. Working out hard will naturally slow you down and make you more present.", "Maintain daily Diary note down hourly where you can go keep the diary and don't forget to note down. Every Day you check and take caution for necessary events.", "I'm hyper-vigilant. I notice everything, pick up on stuff, first person to hear things. \n\nI can't explain it. I'm around this dude that loses his keys, wallet, lives his car ignition on. I can't explain it. I feel like he can't be helped. Other than for someone to slap the shit out of him and hold his hand like a kid. \n\nFind someone to be hard on you. Join the military. Get a personal trainer or a life coach. Pull your head out of wherever it is. Quit catching pokemon. \n\nHell I'm just rambling now because you gave no details. Dropping a folder could be a stupid mistake. Running over someone with a car could be a stupid mistake. Robbing a bank? Keeping a fish that is smaller than the legal limit? Giving a kid a hyphenated last name? \n\nHere's how to fix mistake number 1. Quite asking questions without providing enough information for people to help you. \n\nSorry, I'm an asshole, at work, and severely bored. Help me.", "1 - Take care of yourself. Have you slept and had a nice pint of water and good meal recently? \n\n2 - Keep a line item journal of what just didn't go the way you wanted. If you have a chance, note the context and what you'd like to try doing next time. \n\n3 - Make your routines work for you. Maybe it's not that you made a bad decision, but that you don't have a routine handling that thing yet. Especially in the morning, everyone will make some mistakes unless they have a routine preventing things from getting missed.\n\n4 - If this has been a long term problem, it's time to think about whether there are any symptoms of a learning disability or sleeping disorder bothering you. Diagnosing a problem accurately is a huge part of addressing the symptom.", "- Stay present. A wandering mind or automatic action is more likely to cause an error than a focused one. Stay mindful of the present and your task. M" ]

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[ "How can I improve my happiness with life? I'm not sure where I should post this, but this subreddit seemed like a good start. I'm basically looking for any advice that you use to brighten up your day. Something simple. I currently hate where I am in life; I wake up and think goddammit this shit again... I'm not suicidal and I'm sure once I am done with college life will get better, but for now I need some tips on how to cheer myself up on a daily basis.", "How can I improve my happiness with life? I'm not sure where I should post this, but this subreddit seemed like a good start. I'm basically looking for any advice that you use to brighten up your day. Something simple. I currently hate where I am in life; I wake up and think goddammit this shit again... I'm not suicidal and I'm sure once I am done with college life will get better, but for now I need some tips on how to cheer myself up on a daily basis.", "How can I improve my happiness with life? I'm not sure where I should post this, but this subreddit seemed like a good start. I'm basically looking for any advice that you use to brighten up your day. Something simple. I currently hate where I am in life; I wake up and think goddammit this shit again... I'm not suicidal and I'm sure once I am done with college life will get better, but for now I need some tips on how to cheer myself up on a daily basis.", "How can I improve my happiness with life? I'm not sure where I should post this, but this subreddit seemed like a good start. I'm basically looking for any advice that you use to brighten up your day. Something simple. I currently hate where I am in life; I wake up and think goddammit this shit again... I'm not suicidal and I'm sure once I am done with college life will get better, but for now I need some tips on how to cheer myself up on a daily basis.", "How can I improve my happiness with life? I'm not sure where I should post this, but this subreddit seemed like a good start. I'm basically looking for any advice that you use to brighten up your day. Something simple. I currently hate where I am in life; I wake up and think goddammit this shit again... I'm not suicidal and I'm sure once I am done with college life will get better, but for now I need some tips on how to cheer myself up on a daily basis.", "How can I improve my happiness with life? I'm not sure where I should post this, but this subreddit seemed like a good start. I'm basically looking for any advice that you use to brighten up your day. Something simple. I currently hate where I am in life; I wake up and think goddammit this shit again... I'm not suicidal and I'm sure once I am done with college life will get better, but for now I need some tips on how to cheer myself up on a daily basis.", "How can I improve my happiness with life? I'm not sure where I should post this, but this subreddit seemed like a good start. I'm basically looking for any advice that you use to brighten up your day. Something simple. I currently hate where I am in life; I wake up and think goddammit this shit again... I'm not suicidal and I'm sure once I am done with college life will get better, but for now I need some tips on how to cheer myself up on a daily basis.", "How can I improve my happiness with life? I'm not sure where I should post this, but this subreddit seemed like a good start. I'm basically looking for any advice that you use to brighten up your day. Something simple. I currently hate where I am in life; I wake up and think goddammit this shit again... I'm not suicidal and I'm sure once I am done with college life will get better, but for now I need some tips on how to cheer myself up on a daily basis.", "How can I improve my happiness with life? I'm not sure where I should post this, but this subreddit seemed like a good start. I'm basically looking for any advice that you use to brighten up your day. Something simple. I currently hate where I am in life; I wake up and think goddammit this shit again... I'm not suicidal and I'm sure once I am done with college life will get better, but for now I need some tips on how to cheer myself up on a daily basis.", "How can I improve my happiness with life? I'm not sure where I should post this, but this subreddit seemed like a good start. I'm basically looking for any advice that you use to brighten up your day. Something simple. I currently hate where I am in life; I wake up and think goddammit this shit again... I'm not suicidal and I'm sure once I am done with college life will get better, but for now I need some tips on how to cheer myself up on a daily basis.", "How can I improve my happiness with life? I'm not sure where I should post this, but this subreddit seemed like a good start. I'm basically looking for any advice that you use to brighten up your day. Something simple. I currently hate where I am in life; I wake up and think goddammit this shit again... I'm not suicidal and I'm sure once I am done with college life will get better, but for now I need some tips on how to cheer myself up on a daily basis.", "How can I improve my happiness with life? I'm not sure where I should post this, but this subreddit seemed like a good start. I'm basically looking for any advice that you use to brighten up your day. Something simple. I currently hate where I am in life; I wake up and think goddammit this shit again... I'm not suicidal and I'm sure once I am done with college life will get better, but for now I need some tips on how to cheer myself up on a daily basis.", "How can I improve my happiness with life? I'm not sure where I should post this, but this subreddit seemed like a good start. I'm basically looking for any advice that you use to brighten up your day. Something simple. I currently hate where I am in life; I wake up and think goddammit this shit again... I'm not suicidal and I'm sure once I am done with college life will get better, but for now I need some tips on how to cheer myself up on a daily basis.", "How can I improve my happiness with life? I'm not sure where I should post this, but this subreddit seemed like a good start. I'm basically looking for any advice that you use to brighten up your day. Something simple. I currently hate where I am in life; I wake up and think goddammit this shit again... I'm not suicidal and I'm sure once I am done with college life will get better, but for now I need some tips on how to cheer myself up on a daily basis.", "How can I improve my happiness with life? I'm not sure where I should post this, but this subreddit seemed like a good start. I'm basically looking for any advice that you use to brighten up your day. Something simple. I currently hate where I am in life; I wake up and think goddammit this shit again... I'm not suicidal and I'm sure once I am done with college life will get better, but for now I need some tips on how to cheer myself up on a daily basis.", "How can I improve my happiness with life? I'm not sure where I should post this, but this subreddit seemed like a good start. I'm basically looking for any advice that you use to brighten up your day. Something simple. I currently hate where I am in life; I wake up and think goddammit this shit again... I'm not suicidal and I'm sure once I am done with college life will get better, but for now I need some tips on how to cheer myself up on a daily basis.", "How can I improve my happiness with life? I'm not sure where I should post this, but this subreddit seemed like a good start. I'm basically looking for any advice that you use to brighten up your day. Something simple. I currently hate where I am in life; I wake up and think goddammit this shit again... I'm not suicidal and I'm sure once I am done with college life will get better, but for now I need some tips on how to cheer myself up on a daily basis.", "How can I improve my happiness with life? I'm not sure where I should post this, but this subreddit seemed like a good start. I'm basically looking for any advice that you use to brighten up your day. Something simple. I currently hate where I am in life; I wake up and think goddammit this shit again... I'm not suicidal and I'm sure once I am done with college life will get better, but for now I need some tips on how to cheer myself up on a daily basis." ]

[ "You have to experience \"flow\" on a daily basis. This means you have to do something daily that's difficult at first, but can be mastered over time. Tossing pizzas for example, harvesting veggies, playing an instrument, dancing, running...mostly physical stuff. When you do these things, you can lose yourself for a while and just think about the task at hand. If you've ever worked in a kitchen you know how cutting green peppers can become a Zen experience if you do it right, same goes with everything from cleaning bathrooms to running a 10k, you just have to give it 100% and totally commit to it. Ever watch a good grill cook? or an enthusiastic bar tender? what about an experienced garbage man? they all do their jobs with finesse, with a rhythm, with a passion, regardless of the job itself. this is where you can find happiness. \n\nnow it's still up to you to make yourself happy, it's a skill that you need to learn over time, anyone can be happy, humans are resilient and strong and all in all, fuckin' amazing. the very odds of even existing are total shit, so just be psyched to be here and just give 100% in whatever you're doing.\n\nmost of these ideas i got from \"Happy\" on Netflix, you might enjoy it, it'll definitely cheer you up.", "I think the idea that each day is improving your next day, rather than each day being middle ground or worse than the previous day, is what provides us with a sense of hope.. If every day is exactly the same, or subsequently worse, then why would we wish to continue living? Keeping tabs on what you're proud of doing each day and recognizing those things are crucial. Also, negative self talk can happen which can drag you down, for example saying Oh, I exercised for twenty minutes today, when I really wanted to exercise for an hour. Well if you didn't exercise for the past months/years, that twenty minutes could be viewed as an achievement! A gradual improvement, and something to build upon. However, many people will beat themselves up and say, I didn't do enough, or I *SHOULD* have done more (should is a dirty word in psychology, it implies judgment and frequently incurs shame) or yeah I did THIS well but I didn't do THAT well enough so it negates it and I might as well not bother. \n\nWatching your self talk whilst being realistic about your life circumstances will open the way to forward momentum, a momentum which can be built upon.\n\nHaving said all of this, some people cannot create the momentum without proper medications - I'm not one for medicating what can be solved through natural means such as diet, exercise, thought records, keeping a journal, m", "Article I came across a little while ago. These may not be the \"little things that brighten up your day\" kind of happy, but they will increase the overall level of happiness in your life. Things like exercising regularly and having a short commute to work - it's not something I take notice of all the time, but I know my life would be a little more miserable without them. http://www.fastcompany.com/3015486/how-to-be-a-success-at-everything/10-simple-science-backed-ways-to-be-happier-today", "A nice clean room with some lamps and a music player makes a huge difference. I finally got around to cleaning out my room of clutter, getting some books and records and plants this summer and it's boosted my mood big time.\n\nIt's simple but it helps. clean your fucking room.", "Learn to smile. Smile at everyone you see.\n\nIt makes you feel better, and makes other people like you more. I just learned how to do this and it has changed my life.", "Not sure if this is an option since you said you are still in school. But, I would get a pretty. Dog would be best in my opinion, amazing companions, fairly low maintenance, etc... having dogs definitely makes me happier and I'm sure I'm not the only one who has experienced this. ", "There's a TED talk and a book by Daniel Pink called Drive. Its about motivation and the need for a new system of motivation that relies on intrinsic rewards instead of extrinsic rewards. It's meant for organizations and the like to motivate their workers but his insights could be useful in your personal life. \r\rA previous commented talked about \"flow\" which is a topic in the book. It was interesting, you should give it a read sometime.", "I'm going though the same shit as we speak. Try keeping a fish tank (it really does help). Or pass the time with liquor, weed, and Xanax :/", "Forget most of what was said here...the very *first* thing you should do is recognize why you're feeling like shit. I'm pretty sure you have a good idea what it is, you just don't want to accept that that's really why you feel this way; perhaps the solution seems too far out of reach or requires too much emotional involvement. Maybe you just don't want to tell us, I don't know. Offering solutions to a poorly recognized problem is no guarantee of success.", "\"after the current state of research about 50% of a given human's happiness level is genetically determined. About 10% of happiness is affected by external living conditions, but 40% of happiness can be influenced by the mind of a person\"\nThat is from (linked to studies) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Philosophy_of_happiness#Positive_psychology_emphasizes_positive_values\n\nBasically it means that changing your external conditions is probably going to do nothing, if we're talking real happiness. Unless you're struggling to find food every day, you're not going to gain much. But you can change the way your mind works and how you see the world. This can do a lot.", "http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oHv6vTKD6lg\n\nhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4q1dgn_C0AU\n\nhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GXy__kBVq1M", "[Research shows people who use psychedelics have fewer mental health problems.](http://www.plosone.org/article/info%3Adoi%2F10.1371%2Fjournal.pone.0063972)\n\nProbably because it's hard to do something you consider meaningless; and meaning has a lot to do with happiness. \n\nIf you already have meaning they can add a sense of wonder and improve plasticity/openness to change. \n\nM", "Try gardening (this is my latest hobby, by the way), and create /r/IndoorGarden 's at your home.\n\n1. The hobby itself is relaxing. Taking care of plants can be rewarding.\n\n2. Indoor plants purify your home with fresh supply of oxygen. The plants also stimulate creativity.", "It may be small, but try /r/happy. Also, if you're looking for more existential answers, /r/psychonaut would be a great choice. \n \nAlso, smile!", "I will assume that you are an upperclassman who is simply burned out after four or five years of hard study. Find someplace to do volunteer work and stopping thinking about yourself all the damn time.", "I came up with this same problem 2 years ago. I guess I kind of came up with the same sort of answer that /u/pileofdeadninjas came up with. My solution was I got my class M license and then got a motorcycle. I ride it most days and it livens up my life, always a thrill on my way to work or school, something that I am constantly working at and trying to get better at. It also gives a nice side hobby, then you can get into the mechanics of the bike, do modifications on it. Maybe even get into the track bike scene and have a fun weekend activity. I do admit its a dangerous hobby, but I am glad I did it. Now I feel like I actually am living every day, at least the small part of the day when I am riding to work or school.", "Erm, ug. Man. I don't know what your situation is in college. I know that I basically had a free ride, so I didn't have to work to pay for it. I worked to get some extra pocket money, but I didn't have to worry about hours or anything like that. College was the best time in my life. I'd give almost anything to go back to those days where I had so little responsibility.\n\nNow, I'm in an 8-5 grind with few advancement opportunities. I spend my weekends recovering from the last week so that I can do it all over again next week.\n\nWhat I've found helps is to find something that I really like doing and force myself to make time for it. Try not to be passive (don't watch too much TV)--instead do something interactive, even if it's just interacting with a computer (playing a game, for example.) Have dinner with friends. You don't have to go out--if you're short on money, arrange a pot-luck where everyone brings something.\n\nRemember that your mood and attitude will affect your behavior, and vice versa. Seriously. If you can fake feeling good long enough, you will start to feel good. If you start out the day thinking it's going to be horrible, it's going to color the rest of your day regardless of what actually happens.\n\nSet small goals for yourself each day, like running for an extra 5 minutes or learning something new. Meeting goals helps your brain chemistry.\n\nFind something to look forward to at the end of every day, no matter how small.\n\nIf I think of anything else, I'll reply again.", "Based on the research Daniel Gilbert has presented, here are two things you can do that will have big effects. \n\n1. Surround yourself with happy people. Happiness and other mental states have been found to be just as viral as physical diseases. \n\n2. Measure your happiness estimation accuracy. People are horrible at predicting their happiness. When you start doing or thinking about something you think will make you happy, like needing a particular salary or buying something, write down how happy you think you'll be. Then after you get it, compare your actual happiness. " ]

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[ "How to get on top of a receding hairline? So... I just realized I MIGHT be developing a receding hairline.\n\nI wouldn't say I'm overly stressed but I hope that's the reason I have some hair lost above my forehead.\n\nI'm worried Lmao", "How to get on top of a receding hairline? So... I just realized I MIGHT be developing a receding hairline.\n\nI wouldn't say I'm overly stressed but I hope that's the reason I have some hair lost above my forehead.\n\nI'm worried Lmao", "How to get on top of a receding hairline? So... I just realized I MIGHT be developing a receding hairline.\n\nI wouldn't say I'm overly stressed but I hope that's the reason I have some hair lost above my forehead.\n\nI'm worried Lmao", "How to get on top of a receding hairline? So... I just realized I MIGHT be developing a receding hairline.\n\nI wouldn't say I'm overly stressed but I hope that's the reason I have some hair lost above my forehead.\n\nI'm worried Lmao" ]

[ "If / when you are clearly losing it, shave it. I cut my own hair and botched a couple years ago it so I just shaved it and got way more compliments than I ever have with a full head of hair. And I've got a buddy who was going bald and he started shaving his head and he told me that he got so much more attention from the ladies that for awhile he thought he was being punked.", "Accept the fact that you are genetically designed to be bald and wear that shit proud baby!\n\nWomen can wear wigs and tons of guys look good with less hair.", "Wash your hair less maybe once every other day. Biotin pills help hair grow faster, but I'd look into pills that do more then just make your hair grow fast. If you use gels make sure it isn't hard molding, I don't use gel I use an agar oil and lavender oil mix. Also wash your hair in cold water. ", "My husband takes Propecia for it and it helps. That said, it comes with terrible side effects...none of which effect him but they're there." ]

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[ "how to use free time This may sounds like a bizarre request, but this is something I seriously struggle with. To put it simply, I have no idea how to spend my free time.\n\nTo explain: I am just out of university, working a full time job. What I do with my time is go to work (which I do enjoy), then usually sit at home on the internet, or watching movies or TV. I go to the gym fairly often, and sometimes hang out with friends. That's really all I do, and it feels rubbish. I am ticking a lot of boxes: working hard, saving money, fit, friendly, blah blah. But I don't feel like I ever do anything new, interesting or exciting. \n\nPart of the problem is that I really don't know what to do with free time. If I have a day off work, I will sit there and think of something fun to do, and I come up blank. I cannot think of anything appealing that would occupy that time and enrich my life. It gets to the point where I feel like I'm just finding an excuse to kill time and it becomes a chore. And then I just end up back on reddit again.\n\nDo you guys have any tips for me to get some spice back into my life?", "how to use free time This may sounds like a bizarre request, but this is something I seriously struggle with. To put it simply, I have no idea how to spend my free time.\n\nTo explain: I am just out of university, working a full time job. What I do with my time is go to work (which I do enjoy), then usually sit at home on the internet, or watching movies or TV. I go to the gym fairly often, and sometimes hang out with friends. That's really all I do, and it feels rubbish. I am ticking a lot of boxes: working hard, saving money, fit, friendly, blah blah. But I don't feel like I ever do anything new, interesting or exciting. \n\nPart of the problem is that I really don't know what to do with free time. If I have a day off work, I will sit there and think of something fun to do, and I come up blank. I cannot think of anything appealing that would occupy that time and enrich my life. It gets to the point where I feel like I'm just finding an excuse to kill time and it becomes a chore. And then I just end up back on reddit again.\n\nDo you guys have any tips for me to get some spice back into my life?", "how to use free time This may sounds like a bizarre request, but this is something I seriously struggle with. To put it simply, I have no idea how to spend my free time.\n\nTo explain: I am just out of university, working a full time job. What I do with my time is go to work (which I do enjoy), then usually sit at home on the internet, or watching movies or TV. I go to the gym fairly often, and sometimes hang out with friends. That's really all I do, and it feels rubbish. I am ticking a lot of boxes: working hard, saving money, fit, friendly, blah blah. But I don't feel like I ever do anything new, interesting or exciting. \n\nPart of the problem is that I really don't know what to do with free time. If I have a day off work, I will sit there and think of something fun to do, and I come up blank. I cannot think of anything appealing that would occupy that time and enrich my life. It gets to the point where I feel like I'm just finding an excuse to kill time and it becomes a chore. And then I just end up back on reddit again.\n\nDo you guys have any tips for me to get some spice back into my life?", "how to use free time This may sounds like a bizarre request, but this is something I seriously struggle with. To put it simply, I have no idea how to spend my free time.\n\nTo explain: I am just out of university, working a full time job. What I do with my time is go to work (which I do enjoy), then usually sit at home on the internet, or watching movies or TV. I go to the gym fairly often, and sometimes hang out with friends. That's really all I do, and it feels rubbish. I am ticking a lot of boxes: working hard, saving money, fit, friendly, blah blah. But I don't feel like I ever do anything new, interesting or exciting. \n\nPart of the problem is that I really don't know what to do with free time. If I have a day off work, I will sit there and think of something fun to do, and I come up blank. I cannot think of anything appealing that would occupy that time and enrich my life. It gets to the point where I feel like I'm just finding an excuse to kill time and it becomes a chore. And then I just end up back on reddit again.\n\nDo you guys have any tips for me to get some spice back into my life?" ]

[ "When you aren't forcing yourself to come up with ideas they are more likely to come to you, when they do, jot them down (even on your phone) and pull up the list when you have free time and go from there.", "Learn how to play an instrument. Get a guitar, it doesn't have to be too expensive, but you shouldn't go for the cheapest models either, it should be easy to play. Learn the most basic major and minor chords, and practice changing between them. Go online, for instance to azchords.com and practice playing songs you like. Find lessons on youtube, (If only that was around when I was young and had lots of time). Look up different techniques, arpeggio, playing with a pick, etc. \n\nDevote some time to this EVERY day, and be strict about that\n\nDo things that are fun, but challenge yourself too.\n\nEvery now and then, try to learn something that is in a totally different genre than what you know and like already\n\nFind people to play with when you feel confident enough, but remember confidence comes with experience, so don't wait too long", "Try some new things. Have you ever skydived before, how about jetsking? Try building stuff, I build paper guns when I'm bored most if the time. Just think of what you always wanted to do but never got around to it.", "Take a free course from yale or another university offering certain online podcasts of courses free of charge." ]

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[ "How do I go about asking for a promotion at work? I got my performance review a couple days ago and 6 out of 8 categories were rated \"very good\" and one was rated \"exceptional\". My boss said that he could see me working his job one of these days. I've been thinking about it for awhile, so I was wondering how I could roll that into a promotion?\n\nAny advice is appreciated!", "How do I go about asking for a promotion at work? I got my performance review a couple days ago and 6 out of 8 categories were rated \"very good\" and one was rated \"exceptional\". My boss said that he could see me working his job one of these days. I've been thinking about it for awhile, so I was wondering how I could roll that into a promotion?\n\nAny advice is appreciated!", "How do I go about asking for a promotion at work? I got my performance review a couple days ago and 6 out of 8 categories were rated \"very good\" and one was rated \"exceptional\". My boss said that he could see me working his job one of these days. I've been thinking about it for awhile, so I was wondering how I could roll that into a promotion?\n\nAny advice is appreciated!", "How do I go about asking for a promotion at work? I got my performance review a couple days ago and 6 out of 8 categories were rated \"very good\" and one was rated \"exceptional\". My boss said that he could see me working his job one of these days. I've been thinking about it for awhile, so I was wondering how I could roll that into a promotion?\n\nAny advice is appreciated!" ]

[ "Speak to him. \"I wanted to thank you for the review the other day. I've thought about what you mentioned about potentially working towards having a job like yours, and wanted to ask what my next steps towards that type of advancement here would be\"", "I would look at what the responsibilities and requirements are for the role you want to be promoted for. Then try to identify how you’re already doing some of those things in your current role. \n\nIf you are already doing some of those things, congratulations — you could probably ask for a promotion or at least a raise. If you aren’t, try to take up some of those responsibilities (aka going above and beyond) and then point it out in about 3 - 6 months.", "There’s already a lot of good advice here but sometimes it helps to have multiple one liners/options\nOne that a friend helped me with (and it worked) is say that you’re at risk of burning out - not because of the work - you actually love the work - that’s the problem - it’s financial burnout. you’re pouring so much of yourself into your job as you become more skilled and passionate that you wonder whether or not you’re being fairly compensated anymore", "There's no secret, if you want one, ask. If he says no then you're in the same position you were before." ]

[ 10, 3, 1, 1 ]

[ "keeping roaches away from electronic devices Just moved into a new apartment and found a cockroach in the kitchen my first day there. The next year is going to be fun!\n\nAnyway, I've been reading up on what I can do to remedy the problem: caulk up any openings they can use to enter, sprinkle boric acid mixtures any place they're likely to be, all the available poisons, etc. But most importantly keep the apartment as clean as possible at all times.\n\nApparently they like to get inside electronic devices like TVs and game consoles because they are dark and get warm. Are there any extra preventative measures I can take to ensure they don't go inside there? I have a really expensive TV, Multiple consoles, PC , along with other stuff and it makes me anxious to know they could be setting up shop in there. I really don't wanna deal with those fuckers getting in my stuff.", "keeping roaches away from electronic devices Just moved into a new apartment and found a cockroach in the kitchen my first day there. The next year is going to be fun!\n\nAnyway, I've been reading up on what I can do to remedy the problem: caulk up any openings they can use to enter, sprinkle boric acid mixtures any place they're likely to be, all the available poisons, etc. But most importantly keep the apartment as clean as possible at all times.\n\nApparently they like to get inside electronic devices like TVs and game consoles because they are dark and get warm. Are there any extra preventative measures I can take to ensure they don't go inside there? I have a really expensive TV, Multiple consoles, PC , along with other stuff and it makes me anxious to know they could be setting up shop in there. I really don't wanna deal with those fuckers getting in my stuff." ]

[ "First of all tell the apartment management right away and send a picture of one so they can get an exterminator in ASAP, cockroaches multiply fast so you have to hit them hard quickly. They probably won't get into your electronics unless there are hundreds of them and hiding spaces are limited. Usually cockroaches will stay in the kitchen for the most part and hide by the fridge/dishwasher. Invest in a gel bait (this is what all the professional exterminators use) Advion syngenta is pretty much hailed as the gold standard. https://www.amazon.com/Advion-Syngenta-Cockroach-Bait-Tubes/dp/B002Y2GNVM/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1505269237&sr=8-3&keywords=cockroach+gel \n\nUse a tube in your apartment and give a tube to each of your neighbors to use. Use only tiny dots around cracks and crevices. It will take a week to see progress but the roaches will Share the gel with eachother and the female roaches(with eggsacks) and it will wipe the entire population out. The roaches will even feed on other dead roaches and the poison spreads that way too. The house i live in now had a cockroach infestation in the works and this stuff did wonders. Cockroach free within a month and haven't seen a single one in over a year.", "So you don't have to stay. Unless you are in Alabama there's implied habitability laws on the books, if you move in day one and there's a cockroach infestation that's uninhabitable. I'd call a lawyer for a consult and ask what the options are. You can most likely break your lease or have your stuff stored elsewhere while they fumigate the place. " ]

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[ "How to tell someone they need better hygiene? I have a housemate in college that absolutely stinks of body odour and due to its intensity, it spreads throughout the whole house. I am not very close with this guy so what would be an appropriate way to help him out and tell him that he has to work on his hygiene?", "How to tell someone they need better hygiene? I have a housemate in college that absolutely stinks of body odour and due to its intensity, it spreads throughout the whole house. I am not very close with this guy so what would be an appropriate way to help him out and tell him that he has to work on his hygiene?", "How to tell someone they need better hygiene? I have a housemate in college that absolutely stinks of body odour and due to its intensity, it spreads throughout the whole house. I am not very close with this guy so what would be an appropriate way to help him out and tell him that he has to work on his hygiene?", "How to tell someone they need better hygiene? 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[ "Had a huge guy on my dorm floor that would stink up and down when he walked by, I knocked on his room and just asked if I could talked to him, he said yeah and I told him that he was making the place smell. I told him that I understand cuz I was a fat dude too, so I shared with him my hygienic techniques, mostly multiple showers a day and a couple of scrubbing brushes for those hard to reach places. Well, it was a private conversation and he appreciated the advice. Turns out he was away from home for the first time and he didn't really know how to take care of himself. He stopped having a problem that week.", "I knew a guy like this. Owner of his company, all around great guy, but the BO was really bad. \n\nNobody said anything. He'd asked a few people (all guys who worked for him) and they never gave him a straight answer. But it would be complained about behind his back, a lot. And it was also affecting his dating life; girls would ghost him a lot. \n\nThen a mutual friend (female) started working there and she knew his hygiene habits. He showered regularly and used deodorant, but she thought clinical-strength antiperspirant was needed. \n\nOne day he asked her about the BO and she gave him a straight answer. And also recommended the clinical-strength stuff, which he went out and bought immediately. \n\nIt fixed the BO and he doesn't stink anymore.\n\nNot saying this will fix your housemate. But he may appreciate an honest, straightforward, nonjudgemental talking-to. Not about what he SHOULD do, just about the body odor issue. Leave it to him to figure it out. BO can be caused by many things; poor hygiene is low hanging fruit, but it may be his diet, a gastrointestinal issue, or his natural odor.", "Also consider how to address if it's not BO but poor laundry habits. I had a room mate that was a shower-twice-a-day guy, but he would leave his clothes in the wash machine until one of us needed to use it, meaning the whole load would mildew and ferment. No amount of reminders helped and we all refused to do his laundry for him.", "I had to tell a friend the same thing. I approached it gently and kindly, and expressed that I was reaching out because I cared. I said that sometimes people's bodies become immune to deodorants and that I believe that may have happened with them. It caused no problems in our relationship.", "It’s ok to tell people they smell. If you don’t do it, they might never know. Look out for your people.", "I mean on one hand, he may just need some information. He may not know that it’s as bad as it is and that he has to manage it better. Basic hygiene should take care of it. \n\nOn the other hand, body odor and perspiration can change with things like medication. So he could also be dealing with a new situation and his old his routine no longer works. In that case, his doctor can help.\n\n", "This is so hard, but my husband smells too. I tried telling him, offering clean clothes daily, asked if he needed a different body wash, and a new deodorant. But he won’t and doesn’t use deodorant daily or bathe regularly. We’re both in our 70s and this is a new behavior, is it typical for elderly? I read the comments and can sure sympathize.", "I once had to tell my boss. He was the CEO, about 15 years younger than me, and I was the COO. I had several people complain to me that he stunk. And he did. So I sat him down in my office, and I just said basically ‘So, uh, this is kind of uncomfortable, and don’t kill the messenger, but a few people have approached me and said that you smell.’ And he said ‘Really, my girlfriend thinks I smell great.’ And I said, ‘Well, some people like the natural smell of body odor, but in business settings it’s not really acceptable.’ Then I asked if he showered daily and he said he did. But he said he only washed his clothes weekly and basically wore the same outfit everyday. Ding ding ding. Can’t do that if you want to smell good. After that he started washing his clothes more frequently, but unfortunately the damage was done. He had a reputation for smelling bad and it stayed with him. To this day, 10 years later, colleagues and I still laugh about it. I only lasted 2 years working for him, this happened after I’d been there maybe 6 months. Very awkward conversation.", "You can ask with empathy. There will be shame on their part. But you can ask if they are struggling with a health issue that is causing it. Let them know you still accept them. You just need to be able to enjoy your home.", "My friend doesn’t shower often or wear deodorant. She’s from another country, originally, and it occurred to me that it could be a cultural thing. \n\nIt’s also possible that her mood disorder interferes with her ability to perform personal hygiene activities—I understand that some people who live with mental health challenges are often neglectful of hygiene.\n\nI’ve also read that certain kinds of trauma (especially sexual) can interfere with a person’s ability to “be present in their body”, essentially dissociating from their body and many of its needs.\n\nAll this to say: be gentle and speak with empathy because there are a lot of unfortunate, complex reasons why a person might have a hygiene problem. Empathy & compassion always wins.", "You say it to his face and not beat around the bush.\n\nI've done it with a guy I work with, he didn't like me after that day but the smell of shit stopped.", "I had a housemate in college who would work in a sweaty plastic shop all night, and immediately go to bed when he got home. A lot of days he'd get up, and start playing video games until he had to go to work, and then leave for work with no shower.\n\nIt smelled pretty rancid, bad enough we gagged when walking past his closed door to go to the bathroom. It got to the point where when he was gone we would go into his room and open his windows. We ended up fighting over it way too many times during the 3 years I lived with him.\n\nI just had to accept it. I had the conversation, asking them to wash their sheets at least. They never really wanted to. They probably can't smell themselves, so they probably just think you're crazy. \n\nIf they have a significant other that can speak up, they might listen to them more.", "I had this problem with a college roommate as well. She had a medical condition, I think, and really did try, but it was horrible.\n\nSince then I have had my own problems with body odor, and learned a few things. Maybe some of them could help.\n\n1. Some people can't use regular deodorant for various reasons. I currently can't because the aluminum reacts with my sweat and creates horrible black stains on my clothes.\n\n2. Body odor is caused by bacteria! Sweat does have its own smell which can be stronger or weaker depending on many factors, but it's not nearly as powerful or unpleasant without the bacteria which live in it. So blame the germs, not the person.\n\n3. I hate to plug a particular brand, but Lume deodorant really is effective. It targets the bacteria, rather than the sweat or the smell, and it's the only aluminum-free deodorant that has really worked for me. It is expensive, but you only need a tiny bit.\n\n4. Even with good deodorant, frequent showering and laundering, bacteria and their smells can linger on clothes. Bleach, peroxide, alcohol, laundry sanitizer, or just hot water can help.", "I don’t know if this would work in every work place but it does for mine: I was an NCO in the service and a lot of the time we would have younger individuals join who had never lived on their own. I mention this because it’s important to note that when living at home with mom and dad, they are or are not frequently reminded to bathe. Well combine losing that resource with the hot sun out on the tarmac of an airport, you get stinky kids. I always try to correct the issue in the same way:\n\nI start by asking how things are at home in efforts to understand if there is underlying factor for the bad hygiene. I mention to them after discovering that, in most cases, it’s due to just laziness that it’s important we stay clean not only for our health but also for our’s and the folks that work around us comfort. Most of the time they aren’t aware of the stench due to living in it everyday. They become accustomed to it. So simply treating them like an adult who can understand how to correct issue when brought to their attention I find is the best way to approach it. \n\nObviously comparing military to most cases is a long shot but I hope this helps.", "I had to coach an employee. \n\nI bought numerous different soaps and deodorants. \n\nI sat him down and said mate we’re having a conversation that’s not going to be fun for either of us. \n\nI went through everything. \n\nHow often he showered, washed clothes, changed bedding and towels. \n\nWe discussed how to wash and dry correctly and apply the correct deodorant. \n\nIt was life changing for him and made the work environment much more pleasant. \n\nWin/win. \n\nHe also knew he smelt, and for years though people were ripping in him. Just took the correct advice to help him in the right direction.", "You'll get the point across better if you're direct. \n\nLeaving notes and being vague about it won't get it across that the cause is them, otherwise they may try to write it off as something else in their environment. \n\nIt won't get well. But it has to be done.", "this worked for someone in college: buy them a soap / deodorant that works with you and say \"sometimes our body get used to the soap we're using. try this out\" kid you not the dude started dating the girl considered the \"hottest\" in the program a couple of months later, so, you's welcome", "I was the recipient of one of these talks and I can attest that the person giving it handled it very well, because it's someone I generally couldn't fucking stand and to this day (20 years later) I appreciate the way they did it.\n\nIn my case it was laundry; I was putting off doing it and wearing stuff several times between washes. The coworker who told me was standing sort of beside me, not directly opposite, which felt less confrontational and more peer-to-peer. He was in my workspace on other business so it wasn't like a special trip just to confront me. And he just focused on what I could change and that maybe I wasn't aware of it. I think his phrasing was something like:\n\n>Just a heads up, you might not realize it but you're probably going too long between doing laundry; you have a bit of a smell. \n\nThat was it. No formal meeting, no \"and what are you gonna do about it\" just a very non-confrontational, private mention when he was in my office on other business.\n\nCarter, if you're out there, that one interaction makes up for so much else that I found unlikeable about you.", "Had a roommate once where this was a problem. And in general this is usually due to a financial issue, or a mental health issue, so being kind while approaching the person is paramount. We called a house meeting (it was just 3 of us) and asked if she was doing okay, that we were concerned because of an odor coming from her things. She shared she had been depressed recently and also struggling to afford shower gel and laundry detergent, which made her more depressed, and the cycle just got out of hand. We offered to let her use our soaps and cleaning products and that if she still needed some of her own the next time we went shopping we would happily pick her up some. We also talked about her seeing a therapist at a local low cost clinic. She eventually did, and while it didn't magically solve all the problems she was dealing with, it did help address her depression. \n\nSo basically, be direct but kind, try and have the convo neutrally, and be empathetic.", "Ugh I have met guys I’ve liked, but that smell and don’t floss and I wishhhh I could tell them, but I can’t", "I've always gone the direct route. If someone has shit stuck in their teeth, it's a disservice not to tell them. \n\nJust be direct - catch them alone so as to avoid any uneeded embarrassment---Hey, Dave. Serious note from a friend, I think you might need to revisit your hygiene habits or talk to the ol' doc body odor.\" They can't smell themselves more often than not. If they are like yeah I know, then explain the good intention and be done with it.\n\nMy wife has a good friend who is super adhd? Add? One of those. Apologies for my ignorance. And he often just forgets to shower. My wife just had the frank talk with him. Found out about the reason and she now just gently reminds him to shower before he comes to hang out. \n\nFeelings can get hurt, but it is majorly about how you say it.", "You politely explain that their body odor is offensive and that they should do something about it.. trying to do it in a subtle way could embarass or anger them more than actually just being straight with them. Its perfectly natural to stink.. but if you are the one who stinks, you may not realize it until someone says something.", "Walk into his room and say that you're trying to respect his boundaries, but the apartment is starting to smell. Ask him if he has a health issue he needs treatment for. Tell him he's got to keep the smell under control.", "I need this, but how to let a friend know they need to clean their home before I ever come back over lmfao", "I don't know a better way to tell them other than the ways its been said here but be prepared for the situation where its a mental health issue. I lived with someone like this and he was suffering from severe mental health issues. He couldn't afford to see a psychiatrist and he was old with no real ambition for life. Pretty sure he died smelling like that too. The other, other guy who we lived with said that it was because of just overall hygiene. He wasn't cleaning his bed sheets regularly and his pillows probably haven't been cleaned in ages, that and his mattress probably needed to be replaced. Like I said, he didn't have money to buy new ones. He didn't smell all the time and I'm pretty sure he was using the same clothes for days until he changed and he would hand wash his clothes in which I doubt he was getting them thoroughly cleaned and if he was, again, he was using them for days in a row before changing. The only hygienic thing he did was shower everyday and wash his hand frequently. I don't think he knew that he needed to change the sheets and wash his clothes more often. The other, other guy claims that he's never had to deal with that kind of stuff before until his wife died. We did confront him on several occasions but the smell never went away, not really. There would just be more days when he didn't smell than days that he did.", "theres no polite way to tell someone that they stink.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nJust tell them. \n\n\n\"hi so and so , I wanted to talk to you about something. You have BO. it is really making me uncomfortable. Can you please do something about it? I would appreciate if you would make sure to shower regularly , wash your clothes and wear an effective brand of deodorant\" \n\n\nthey will either say yes or no. \n\n\nno : ok move \n\n\nyes: good problem solved! \n\n\nor its a kind of yes: as in IM SMELLY AND UNAWARE . You might have to actually educate this person on buying and using deodorant and or washing their clothes.", "My adult son is like this. I just let him know. Usually light heartedly because I know it's due to depression, so I will pop in and say \"wash your ass, it's permeating\" and then follow that sentence with a non hygiene related convo. If I harp on it he gets embarrassed and doubles down. If I say it casually, it works.", "Had a kid in my elementary school who had the nickname of Stinky. I got a gift basket of deodorant, soap, etc and gave it to him one day. No it was not done as a nice gesture, I was just being an asshole, but I was only 8 or 9 years old.", "my favourite hobby is taking showers and using deodorant. Washing hands all the time is so satisfying to me. i love when people do the same", "If it’s college and you aren’t really friends, I would just say be blunt about it. From my experience in college, there were a lot of people on their own for the first time that didn’t understand the importance of washing clothes/body/sheets, brushing teeth, cleaning up old food, etc. If you aren’t close you don’t have to worry about ruining a relationship and realistically you are doing them a solid. Bad hygiene, like any habit, becomes harder to get over the longer you continue the process. It could easily lead to the person not getting dates or jobs in the future. \n\nThere’s a decent chance that the person’s parents took care of the laundry and cleaning when they lived at home and now they have fallen behind because of an unfamiliar workload. If you are more comfortable, you can always use another person as an excuse. Say something like “bro, (girl from school’s name) came over to work on that project the other day and commented about the smell coming from your room”. It might make things a little uncomfortable but you have a very high probability that they will do something to address it.", "I had to do this as a manager once. The most important facet is to not directly blame him and let him know it's just as uncomfortable to talk about for you as it is for him.\n\nIn my case the guy smelled like foot odor and pee non stop. Multiple complaints from other employees. I pulled him aside near the end of a shift away from everyone else and told him about the complaints and asked if I could help. He then told me he had a really bad foot fungus infection that he had been having a hard time getting rid of and that he had \"night time issues\" with his bladder.\n\nOut of total coincidence I have dealt with both of those so empathy came easy as did solutions.\n\nAdvice: know that it'll be awkward. State that it will be awkward. Have the conversation and offer to be a part of the solution. Just stating the problem will only hurt, offering helpful suggestions stiffens the blow and turns it from a complaint into a conversation.", "I had a coworker that once had a body odor issue. My boss at the time told him, when he showered tonight, he should get closer to a bar of soap.", "This is a long shot, but do you know if he has a problem w his sense of smell? I found out a friend does not and so gets body odor without realizing. You could ask them to smell something you are sure smells pretty strong . If so, it might be an opening. I feel bummed for both of you", "Tell him he smells. Be serious and tell him it is stinking up the house, that he shares with other people. There are people who just can't smell themselves. Be honest. It might be embarrassing at that time, but in the long run it's better he is aware of it.", "My armpits like to get real stinky sometimes. There was a point where it seemed no matter how much i washed/scrubbed, i would still sink... then my girlfriend introduced me to a new deodorant that has been extremely helpful getting rid of the smell.. these guys are not sponsoring me and i don't work for them. The deodorant is called Nakd, and it is basically a mineral rock that you lightly wet and rub in your armpits until everything is dry.. it performed miracles for me, essentially completely eliminating the smell.. but if i skip using it for a day or two then i start getting stinky again..", "If you’re that scared of direct confrontation, you can always just keep inviting loud mouths over. They will constantly ask what that smell is. You can either make it obvious you’re telling them the truth or hope roommate can put 2 and 2 together.", "I've had to deliver the bad news more times than I can count. When it's a co-worker, it's delicate, but I figured out the \"coming to you as a mother would her daughter/son\" approach worked well. You can always say: \"I don't believe in talking behind someone's back so I hope you hear what I have to say in the spirit it's intended - as a concerned (or \"caring\" - depending on what best suits you) coworker.\" Then I'd say:\n\n\"I've found an inexpensive home remedy that works *great* for controlling body odor, and I wrote it down for you.\" (You can copy and paste the instructions below into a WORD document, and hand it to them as you're talking). End by saying something like: \"I think you'll be happy with the results if you follow these steps.\"\n\nFor armpits, feet, genitals (back and front), and general body washing:\n\nApple Cider Vinegar and Dial Soap. \n\n1. Lather a washcloth with Dial Soap until extra soapy. Pour 4 or 5 capfuls of apple cider vinegar on the soapy cloth and wash all over. Pay special attention to any fat folds, behind the ears, between the buttocks, feet and toes, neck, genitals and underarms.\n2. Thoroughly rinse all soap & vinegar from the wash cloth and all body parts.\n3. Follow with fragrance of your choice (If allergic to spray colognes or perfumes use a scented body oil instead); body oils are easy on the sinuses and lasts longer than cologne or perfume.\n\nYou must also remove the odor from your clothes:\n\n1. Add 10-15 capfuls of apple cider vinegar and 4 tablespoons of baking soda to the wash when washing your pants, shirts, socks, tee-shirts, and underwear. \n\nFor smelly or athlete's feet:\n\n1. And 10-15 capfuls of apple cider vinegar to your detergent and wash your sneakers. (If shoes or sneakers cannot be placed in washer, soak a cloth in apple cider vinegar and wipe inside of shoes thoroughly. Then place them where they can easily air dry. \n2. You must wash your feet nightly or at least every other night with apple cider vinegar and Dial (or other anti-bacterial soap). Apply foot powder or a charcoal based deodorant to the sole of the feet and between toes. \n3. Once odor is under control, use this home treatment once or twice weekly.\n\nIf there is no underlying illness, body odor happens when pH levels (acid levels) in the body get out of balance. Apple Cider vinegar stinks to the high heavens, but it brings pH levels back into alignment. \n\nFor several co-workers, I bought the ingredients and gave them discreetly as a gift, along with the note.", "I had a coworker was and still is a really good friend, we legit just talked him. Told him his smell was noticeable and other people were starting to notice as well. In general he wasn’t clean, from what multiple roommates that were close with mentioned, but after that talk he started changing it up. Can’t say the same for everyone since all people have a different way of dealing with situations like this.", "Honestly any way that isn’t condescending is probably good. Especially if it’s really coming from a good place and not to shame him. \nPrivate, empathetic, understanding.", "Hey bro...look...u kinda stinkin.... and then make a scrunched up smiley face. But do this in private.", "He might not know what \"deodorant\" is.\n\nI dont mean that in a mean way.\n\nMy good buddy in Jr. High always had terrible BO.\n\nI mentioned it to him and he was aware. He would change his shirts throughout the day. He showered every morning. He also used \"deodorant\" every day.\n\nEventually I just said dude. Something is wrong. Let's figure it out.\n\nHe showed me his deodorant and how much he used.\n\nIt was axe body spray.\n\nHe didn't know about pit stick. He always thought deodorant was the spray kind.\n\nGot him some real pit stick and he never smelled again.\n\nSome people just arent taught by their parents...", "Go to Walmart get 10 of those scrubbing things. Get 10 boxes of soap and some duct tape. Staple the scrubbing thing to his bedroom door and duct tape the soap to the door the doorknob the wall", "For BO, could you buy a bunch of cheap deodorant and pretend you bought too much - they give it to them? For laundry, could you push some washing machine instructions - just super clear ones - by the washing machine? Incase they dont know how to use it?\n\nDo you guys share a bathroom and do you know if this person does currently use deodorant/soap?", "Fake a house break in and graffiti the walls “WTF MAN, THIS PLACE SMELLS LIKE SHIT”\n\n", "Don't make a big deal of it, just say \"hey you kinda smell, might want to wash up\". \n\nIf that doesn't do it ask if they're okay. Not keeping up hygene can be a sign if depression, and body odor that doesn't wash off can be a sign of sickness.\n\nThink of it like most embarassing problems. If you had something in your teeth, smeared makeup, or toilet paper stuck on your show, then you would want someone to tell you.", "Be empathetic, kind and offer advice. I’m sure he’s much rather hear it from a friend rather than an asshole who’s intention will be to embarrass him", "@op some people have hygiene issues for sure but some people just STINK, even after a shower due to their body odor- I have this issue with my feet and use Lume brand deodorant creams and soaps. The acidified soaps work WAY BETTER than your standard Irish spring. Applying deodorant & creams immediately after shower helps too.\n\n\n", "“Dude, you smell pretty bad a lot of the time. You should really try cleaning up a bit. Women (if he’s straight) want clean and fresh. It’ll help with the ladies”", "When I first realised i had an allergy to the chemicals in a lot of toiletries I was told by my doctor its something that affects about 1 in 10 people. Now Im told 1 in 3 or some even say 1 in 2 are affected by it. there are all sorts of toxins in perfumes and deodorants that most people just dont realise are there (google \"perfume chemicals\" for a quick overview). It may be he is allergic to most deodorants. On top of that the natural ones that dont contain these chemicals can be less effective. Then add to that, most people have a natural smell about them (general smell rather than BO) but because we live in the same culture rarely notice it unless meeting someone from a different culture who eats different foods, here in the UK I sometimes notice it with people who always eat a strong Asian or Afro-Caribbean diet. Its not BO but a smell from the foods they eat and we probably smell just as strong to them because of our diet but we're used to it so dont notice it. \n\nSo to summarize, is it because of a medical condition, are there solutions like natural deodorants he's not aware of or is it just you being racist?", "Oh oh this LPT is fantastic! I have a hypersensitive sense of smell, and that’s something I have to check before deciding if someone truly smells bad or not. It very well could just be me.", "I had an employee who worked in my warehouse that never showered. I pulled him into my office after numerous complaints from his coworkers and higher ups. I said “look… you stink. You’re a grown man. Shower. Deodorant.”\n\nHe never smelled again." ]

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[ "How to deal with rotten liquefied potatoes in my pantry I came back to my college apartment after three weeks of winter break to discover that one of my roomates had left a bag of potatoes in our pantry and they were so rotten they had turned to liquid. The smell is seriously horrible. I threw away the potatoes, some food that had gotten soaked with the liquid, and wiped down the shelf (all while gagging) and the smell still lingers and is awful. We have a four shelf stand in our pantry and all the food was in there with those rotten potatoes for three weeks with the door shut and I'm wondering if any of it is safe to eat. What do you think?", "How to deal with rotten liquefied potatoes in my pantry I came back to my college apartment after three weeks of winter break to discover that one of my roomates had left a bag of potatoes in our pantry and they were so rotten they had turned to liquid. The smell is seriously horrible. I threw away the potatoes, some food that had gotten soaked with the liquid, and wiped down the shelf (all while gagging) and the smell still lingers and is awful. We have a four shelf stand in our pantry and all the food was in there with those rotten potatoes for three weeks with the door shut and I'm wondering if any of it is safe to eat. What do you think?", "How to deal with rotten liquefied potatoes in my pantry I came back to my college apartment after three weeks of winter break to discover that one of my roomates had left a bag of potatoes in our pantry and they were so rotten they had turned to liquid. The smell is seriously horrible. I threw away the potatoes, some food that had gotten soaked with the liquid, and wiped down the shelf (all while gagging) and the smell still lingers and is awful. We have a four shelf stand in our pantry and all the food was in there with those rotten potatoes for three weeks with the door shut and I'm wondering if any of it is safe to eat. What do you think?" ]

[ "Take all the food out and dump a whole box of baking soda on the place where the rotten potatoes were. Put the food in open bags out in the open air (unless it's below freezing) for a few hours, and see if it smells when you bring it back in. sweep up the baking soda after 24 hours and put anything unstinky back in.", "White vinegar is great at absorbing smells. I would also use some diluted bleach to wipe down the cabinet and kill any pesky bacteria (just don't mix the vinegar and bleach!!!)", "Careful man. \n\nhttp://www.parentdish.co.uk/2013/09/04/girl-8-orphaned-after-gas-from-rotting-potatoes-kills-her-entire-family/" ]

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The new place has its own laundry area, I think, so I'm going to have to start hoarding quarters. Any other living alone tips?", "Living alone Due to circumstances beyond my control, I'm going from living with roommates to living completely by myself. The new place has its own laundry area, I think, so I'm going to have to start hoarding quarters. Any other living alone tips?", "Living alone Due to circumstances beyond my control, I'm going from living with roommates to living completely by myself. The new place has its own laundry area, I think, so I'm going to have to start hoarding quarters. Any other living alone tips?", "Living alone Due to circumstances beyond my control, I'm going from living with roommates to living completely by myself. The new place has its own laundry area, I think, so I'm going to have to start hoarding quarters. Any other living alone tips?", "Living alone Due to circumstances beyond my control, I'm going from living with roommates to living completely by myself. The new place has its own laundry area, I think, so I'm going to have to start hoarding quarters. Any other living alone tips?", "Living alone Due to circumstances beyond my control, I'm going from living with roommates to living completely by myself. The new place has its own laundry area, I think, so I'm going to have to start hoarding quarters. Any other living alone tips?", "Living alone Due to circumstances beyond my control, I'm going from living with roommates to living completely by myself. The new place has its own laundry area, I think, so I'm going to have to start hoarding quarters. Any other living alone tips?", "Living alone Due to circumstances beyond my control, I'm going from living with roommates to living completely by myself. The new place has its own laundry area, I think, so I'm going to have to start hoarding quarters. Any other living alone tips?", "Living alone Due to circumstances beyond my control, I'm going from living with roommates to living completely by myself. The new place has its own laundry area, I think, so I'm going to have to start hoarding quarters. Any other living alone tips?", "Living alone Due to circumstances beyond my control, I'm going from living with roommates to living completely by myself. The new place has its own laundry area, I think, so I'm going to have to start hoarding quarters. Any other living alone tips?", "Living alone Due to circumstances beyond my control, I'm going from living with roommates to living completely by myself. The new place has its own laundry area, I think, so I'm going to have to start hoarding quarters. Any other living alone tips?", "Living alone Due to circumstances beyond my control, I'm going from living with roommates to living completely by myself. The new place has its own laundry area, I think, so I'm going to have to start hoarding quarters. Any other living alone tips?", "Living alone Due to circumstances beyond my control, I'm going from living with roommates to living completely by myself. The new place has its own laundry area, I think, so I'm going to have to start hoarding quarters. Any other living alone tips?", "Living alone Due to circumstances beyond my control, I'm going from living with roommates to living completely by myself. The new place has its own laundry area, I think, so I'm going to have to start hoarding quarters. Any other living alone tips?", "Living alone Due to circumstances beyond my control, I'm going from living with roommates to living completely by myself. The new place has its own laundry area, I think, so I'm going to have to start hoarding quarters. Any other living alone tips?", "Living alone Due to circumstances beyond my control, I'm going from living with roommates to living completely by myself. The new place has its own laundry area, I think, so I'm going to have to start hoarding quarters. Any other living alone tips?", "Living alone Due to circumstances beyond my control, I'm going from living with roommates to living completely by myself. The new place has its own laundry area, I think, so I'm going to have to start hoarding quarters. Any other living alone tips?", "Living alone Due to circumstances beyond my control, I'm going from living with roommates to living completely by myself. The new place has its own laundry area, I think, so I'm going to have to start hoarding quarters. Any other living alone tips?", "Living alone Due to circumstances beyond my control, I'm going from living with roommates to living completely by myself. The new place has its own laundry area, I think, so I'm going to have to start hoarding quarters. Any other living alone tips?", "Living alone Due to circumstances beyond my control, I'm going from living with roommates to living completely by myself. The new place has its own laundry area, I think, so I'm going to have to start hoarding quarters. Any other living alone tips?", "Living alone Due to circumstances beyond my control, I'm going from living with roommates to living completely by myself. The new place has its own laundry area, I think, so I'm going to have to start hoarding quarters. Any other living alone tips?", "Living alone Due to circumstances beyond my control, I'm going from living with roommates to living completely by myself. The new place has its own laundry area, I think, so I'm going to have to start hoarding quarters. Any other living alone tips?", "Living alone Due to circumstances beyond my control, I'm going from living with roommates to living completely by myself. The new place has its own laundry area, I think, so I'm going to have to start hoarding quarters. Any other living alone tips?", "Living alone Due to circumstances beyond my control, I'm going from living with roommates to living completely by myself. The new place has its own laundry area, I think, so I'm going to have to start hoarding quarters. Any other living alone tips?" ]

[ "- Cook 2-3 times a week, a meal big enough to last for a few days. Cooking full meals just for yourself every day will get really old, really fast.\n- Meal planning: Plan what meals you want to eat, then buy only those ingredients. Don't just browse the grocery store. Your wallet and your gut will thank you.\n- Consider a regular exercise routine.\n- Clean as you go; don't let cruft accumulate.\n- Get up and walk around a little from time to time. It's really easy to lose track of the time.\n- Throw away all your socks and replace them with a dozen pairs of the exact same sock. When you lose one or it becomes unusable, it doesn't matter. Keep the other. Don't ball them up in the drawer; just pick any two.\n- You'll have lots and lots of free time you may not be expecting. Use it to improve yourself and learn as much as you can. Learn things that seem useful. Learn things that don't. Research papers. Read books. Watch the debates.\n- If you haven't yet, use this time to decide what you want to stand for; who you want to be. A man who stands for nothing is no man at all.\n- Learn to enjoy the solitude. The peace and quiet. Take quiet time to reflect, m", "Don't eat cereal for too many meals in a row. If you're feeling down, make sure you get ready in the morning (Showered and Dressed), it'll make you feel like a real person again.", "If you are a pet person now is the time to get a dog or cat. Companionship and someone to blame unexplained noises late at night on. ", "Enjoy it. It's glorious. \n\nNo worrying about roommates making noise, you can do whatever the hell you want whenever you want. \n\nDownside is that the bills are all yours and there isn't always someone around to split a twelve pack and a pizza. ", "* Budget hard.\n* Don't eat out too often.\n* Working out alleviates boredom and makes you feel better.\n* Clean or put away something every time you enter a room.\n* Get a pet, even if it's a fish.\n* Don't smoke weed too much.\n* No hard drugs while alone.\n* Maintain a separate work area.\n* Remember to see your friends once or twice a week, minimum.\n* Hobbies are important to your sanity.\n* Listen to music extremely loud and enjoy yourself before 10pm.\n* Wear clothes only when you have to. \n* Don't buy too much random crap. Buy stuff when you need it.\n* Leave a light/tv on, even when you're not home.\n* Don't post on facebook about being gone. Wait til you get back.\n* Vinegar cleans pretty much everything.\n* Buy a basic set of tools. A decent one can usually be had for < $50\n* Make sure you can fix any holes you put in the walls.\n* Personalize your home. Your first space is special.\n* Don't do stupid stuff like mess with electricity, stand on chairs to change lightbulbs, etc. while alone. \n\nLiving alone can be cold and lonely, but it's also where you can learn who you really are. Relative freedom to do or not do as you please is amazing.", "Make sure to have things to comfort you if you're feeling lonely, things that will turn the loneliness into pleasant alone time. When I lived alone (and god do I miss it!) I always made sure to keep things on hand like a new book, a new movie, a nice bottle of whiskey, stuff to make myself a nice meal, etc. \n\nAlso, if you're able to do so buy toilet paper and paper towels in bulk. They'll last forever.", "I too went from living with roomates to living by myself for 4 years straight. The best advice I can give you is to try not to spend too much time by yourself. Although it is definitely relaxing to have some alone time, you can tend to get used to it and become seriously introverted. I would have friends come over every so often, but I kept wanting to be alone. Also, don't become lazy. Just because there is noone around to see you be lazy, go out and get groceries, remember to pay your bills on time. It really sucks coming home from work and having the power/cable be off and having to wait til your next paycheck to turn them back on. ", "Living alone was one of the was times of my life. Clean up after every meal. Wash every dish immediately after you use it. Clean up why little mess you make in each room before you leave it. I always loved the feeling of coming home to a perfectly clean house because there was nobody else there to make a mess. \n\n", "Go visit people and have people come visit you.\n\nI'm at Uni and I don't/can't go home during holidays so I'm used to transitioning from hating living with people to hating living alone. Enjoy the space but don't let yourself be lonely, the worst thing you can do is get used to being lonely: as soon as you stop minding you've kind of lost.", "When describing your situation don't say you live alone. Makes you seem creepy. Instead say that you have your own place. ", "Do a deep/all-over clean of your place regularly once a month or so, then the normal day to day cleaning is nothing, because it's just you making minimal mess! I work 9+hours a day and am barely home, but when I am, I enjoy my immaculate house. \n\nCan't wait to kick the roommate out and turn his room into a home theater... :D", "I assume you are female, yeah?\n\nSo this is what we tell the girls, I have 2 of them, 18 & 20, all about being safe, living alone is scary sometimes, but no Man will ever understand the fears of being a Woman and living alone.\n\nI hope you thought of this but.. Lock all doors and windows, keep them locked. Do not answer the door to strange men. UPS or FedEx, only if you are expecting a package. Never for Police, only for people you know and are expecting, period, no exceptions what so ever.\n\nTry to keep some form of media on if you have a tendency to feel alone and spooked, I am a guy and I have to do this, I will downright get myself ready fora fistfight with no one around unless I keep something funny on TV or such. \n\nDo not use electrical devices while wet.\n\nAny time you are cooking, set timers, if you walk away, no one else is there to catch a grease fire engulfing your cupboards. I have done this before and walking in to 5 foot flames shooting off a frying pan can be kind of unnerving.\n\nEnjoy your freedom, but stay safe.\n\nStay on Reddit, submit good content for us, preferably containing your cats.", "Depending on how you handled this before, get ready to buy EVERYTHING!\n\nYou'll have to get the toilet roll, the washing up liquid, the kitchen towels, everything! \nYou won't have someone else picking this stuff up who you can sling some money at.", "Buy a Crock-Pot. \nAttempt to keep a plant alive. \nLearn to pee with the door open. \nRead instead of going on Reddit or watching TV (this one is hard.).\nDO. YOUR. LAUNDRY.\nDon't forget to wash your sheets/towels. The funk smell can only be blamed on you. \nAlso remember to take your trash out and do your dishes. Kitchen smells are the most prominent ones. ", "Watch your money, cook in large batches, and make yourself go to bed at a reasonable time. I found it so easy to spend too much cash, eat crap on a hand-to-mouth basis, and stay up way too late.", "Eggs are one of the most versatile foods there are to a guy that provisions little time to cooking. \n\nIt's an essential ingredient to many recipes as well as being great by itself or on bread. Easy to cook, easy to eat, little to no preparation, can many things with it, hard boil, soft boil, over easy, scrambled, fried, etc. \n\nI love eggs.", "Don't know your situation or how old you are, but living alone is an excellent time to begin taking responsibility for everything. You can't blame stuff on anyone any more. No one is keeping you from sleeping, no one is messing stuff up that you cleaned, no one forgot to buy the xyz, your parents aren't making you blah blah blah. Instead of blaming others or yourself, learn to just fix the problem. If the place is a wreck, just clean it, because you can't blame it on someone else and blaming your mess on circumstances or whatever is a lazy cop out. \nLearn to do things for yourself. Try fixing things before calling out for repairs. Learn to cook instead of eating fast food. \nAbove all, learn to be observant of your surroundings. It might save your life. ", "been doing the living alone thing for the past couple months after having roommates for the past 7 years. it's glorious. everything's exactly where i left it. if i clean up a mess, i know i'm cleaning up *my* mess. i can walk around butt naked and nobody can say a motherfucking word. it's awesome.\n\nbut as for what to do...make sure you've got a budget set that will let you pay off all your bills on time. make sure you've always got at least some food in the house, preferably good stuff since your roommates won't be eating it now. and make sure you get out and socialize. i fell in to a slump the second month i was on my own, didn't really go out at all or do much of anything, and it sucked. being able to be alone is great, but you do need to keep friends and family in your life, otherwise you'll be very unhapy.", "have a schedule and stick to it, without anyone around you can easily procrastinate and eat junk food all day. set times for eating cleaning exercise and internet.", "Living alone doesn't mean being alone. Go to class, do your extracirriculars (if you don't have any now is a great time to start), be around people so when you're home alone there's some justification for it. Between ROTC, class, and my fraternity, my weeks are fairly busy. Saturday rolls around and I don't feel bad not talking to folks for a day or so. \n\nDo your homework at the library. I cannot speak for your study habits (Or whether or not you're even going to school) but living alone tends to make your grades go to crap due to distractions. \n\nFor food, it is really easy to buy crap and eat out all the time. Don't. Buy a month's worth of something (chicken, spaghetti, whatever) and eat that. Next month comes around and you get to eat something else. Real food is a lot cheaper than snacks/takeout/pizza. Eat breakfast and clean yourself up in the mornings. \n\nBuy a plunger, toilet brush, oven mitts, meat thermometer, and anti-diarrhea medication. If you fuck up dinner (chances are you will at least once), you will pay for it.\n\nLiving alone is a grand experiment in domestication. Figure out how do shit when you're by yourself so when the day comes when you're married or whatever, you're the subject matter expert on \"living.\" \n", "I've been living on my own since I was 16 years old (24 now). If you have any specific just ask. As for tips, lets see.\n\nGet rolls of quarters from the bank if you can afford it. I never get around to going to the bank and sometimes laundry doesn't get done for over 2 weeks.\n\nLearn to love cleaning, no one is going to do if for you now. I went from not really caring to being a complete clean freak.\n\nGet a cat, or else you'll just end up talking to yourself. If you do end up talking to yourself, don't use different voices.\n\nI have more tips, but I'm an introvert without a car so they might not apply to you at all. But if you don't have a car, make a friend who does, because carrying groceries home SUCKS!\n\nMake your home YOURS! You dont have to deal with other peoples junk anymore! So go on ebay, and visit stores and buy cool shit to hang on your walls and put on your shelves. My whole house consists of weird antiques, cat stuff and my own drawings plastered up everywhere. When I got my first place, I hung up plastic bats from the ceiling for halloween. I never took them down and they kind of became a running joke with me and my friends. They stayed up until I moved 4 years later. Who cares! Its my damn apartment!", "If you guys we're used to eating together, start looking at what a single portion of pasta or rice looks like before you cook it or you'll end up cooking to much and throwing some away. Do not start easing off with frozen food, you're a bachelor (or not) but that doesn't mean you gotta be fbf. Avoid the building washer and dryer on week-ends, there are line-ups while they're usualy empty on week days. Don't be sloppy... You're gonna want to bring back a girl home sometime and can't blame the way the place looks on your rm.", "Buy a slow cooker, you can make a weeks worth of healthy, interesting one pot dishes with 20 mins of work and a couple hours of ignoring, then put the extras in your freezer for storage, filling your freezer (which can be hard to do) saving you money on food and freezer electricity.", "Think security, I guess. Check windows, doors, etc. Do some Google searching on how to secure your home/apartment. It's just you now. Take care of yourself.", "Put your keys and your wallet in the same place every time you come home.\n\nIf you're in a rush and can't find your wallet or your keys because you just \"lobbed them somewhere\", ain't nobody around to help you look for them.", "I did this for a while, but I actually bought my own mini washing machine - one of the ones which could be hooked up to faucet taps and drain via hoses into the bathtub. Couple it with a freestanding drying rack and working 9-5, and I never had to use the residents' laundry. Once I got home in the evening, my time was my own and my washing was staying in my apartment where it belonged.", "Don't let anyone know you are alone, especially if female. Buy a gun if you don't have one. Learn to use it. Safety first.\n\nAlso, I'm married with three children. Wouldn't trade them for anything, but there are times I'd give almost anything for solitude. Enjoy the peace and quiet--for me if not for you--please.", "Always keep your doorkeys at one place, like on a little hook beside your door (I had to learn it the hard way - spend hours looking for them and therefor coming late for work or meetups). Also, when you are such a lazy person as I am when it comes to cleaning up your mess, invite friends over! This always forces me to keep my space neat and clean (unless you don't care at all, in that case you could force your friends to do the work).\nAnother thing would be remebering to aerate periodically. Many young people really seem to underestimate this. Therefore their homes are smelling weird. Turn down the heater and open the windows competely for like 5-10 minutes.", "I live alone while my friends are living in dorms with 1 or 2 roommates. The worst part is, they don't have enough space in the room even though they're paying twice of what I pay.\n\nTips:\n* Use your weekends wisely. Do laundry, vacuum, buy grocery etc. Do not be a lazy ass on those 2 days. Trust me\n* Do not feel bad about living alone. Being independent is the best thing ever\n* Learn to cook (if you don't cook). You'll save tons of money staying healthy\n", "http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yv_uwzlpx4A\n\nI always watch this video when I'm doing extended housesitting alone. I love it.", "[Stuff you can do to make it not be so awful] (http://video.adultswim.com/tim-and-eric-awesome-show-great-job/living-with-dr-steve-brule.html)", "Watch out for drinking, seriously. Be really honest with yourself about why you're drinking when you do, and how much you're consuming. Loneliness + free time is the perfect equation for having that shit get out of control.\n\nI was in the same situation as you, and started finding it a lot easier to buy a six-pack at night and watch a movie, drink a couple by myself, and be isolated. Not only was it adding to my expenses pretty significantly, but it ramped up quickly before I even realized it, and it was having a negative impact on a lot of my friendships. \n\nI've made some rules for myself that are helping a lot. I only buy alcohol if I'm going to hang out with people, and I only have it in the house if someone brings it over. The rest of the time, if I have the urge to drink, I'll either call someone up to hang out, or I'll go find something productive to do (cleaning, working out, making music, etc.)\n\nIt's made a huge change, both in my overall mood, and in the amount of income I have leftover each month. \n\n", "Try out generic products to save money. You don't have to buy everything generic if you really have a strong preference, but a lot of stuff really does not make much of a difference what brand you buy and you'll save money. IE: dishwashing and laundry detergent, milk, bread, eggs, all your everyday staples basically. Also, get a pet and get a hobby (a real hobby that doesn't involve the internet or a tv).", "Make sure you keep your place clean. Living with roommates forces you to pick up after yourself, or fear the wrath of the passive aggressive roomie. Living by yourself, you tend to let stuff slide and it can pile up and become a mess real quick. Make a point of pickup up/putting away 5 things every time you enter a room, and you will be golden.", "Introduce yourself to neighbors and exchange numbers. That being said, if you become friends with a neighbor, call/ text before knocking, i.e. don't get too friendly - awkward! BUT - make sure that you know them and they know you well enough to know what is 'normal' for each of you. Neighbors can be lifelines! ", "I've lived alone for a couple of years now. \n\nThere are advantages and disadvantages. I love being able to do what I want, watch what I want on TV and generally act like a boss because there's no one around to worry about. \n\nLoneliness can be an issue, I have loads of friends but since living alone I have often enjoyed my own company too much. I have friends over at least 3 times a week to make sure I don't become a hermit.\n\nYou never realise how much food is produced for couples/families until you live alone. I used to have to throw out so much food because I couldn't physically eat it before it went out of date. Buy non-perishables in bulk. Go to the shop a couple of times a week for things that spoil quickly. \n\nKeep the house tidy. I clean one room a day. I don't spend too much time cleaning and my house is basically spotless. You can't blame the mess on anyone else and it's embarrassing to have a friend/family member/date over in a messy house. \n\nI've learned so much from living alone, I used to rely on people to do things around the house that I never learnt to do them myself. I can now cook and do basic DIY jobs when I need to, I feel good knowing that I can do it without help. If something needs repairing, watch videos on YouTube to work out how to do it yourself unless its a \"skilled\" job, like electrical work. The main downside to living alone is that if anything happens to you, no one's going to know straight away. So no risks. \n\nOn that note; get to know your neighbours. Talk to them regularly so that if something does happen to you, they will know enough about your routine to work it out pretty quickly. \n\nYou will love your cats more than ever. They really are great company. I have a cat and a dog, I think living alone would have driven me crazy if I didn't have them. \n\nAbove all else: enjoy it! Everything is yours, you don't have to answer to anyone and *that is your space*. ", "Find someone you can count on in case you lock yourself out or have car trouble. Someone willing to come over at odd hours.", "Close your damn blinds before you fap. I know you can do it where ever and whenever because no one else is around----but don't forget about your neighbors who are just minding their own business and happen to glance at your place when they are folding their laundry.", "As someone who is going to be finished moving into his own place for the first time tomorrow, this thread is gold.\n\nMany thanks!", "1.) spare keys ... OWN THEM, and have CLOSE FRIENDS that also own them for you! cannot tell you how many times i left my apt with the door locked only to close it home and realize my keys are not in my pocket! Then i get to realize that my keys not only open my door, but also start my car to get to work, or to get to my spare set of keys. So have spares, and have friends, if you don't have friends, find a way.\n\n2.) test the walls .. maybe ask a neighbor if he can listen to you yell and make noise and see where the sound threshhold is .. i found out via 2 notes taped to my door, with increasing rage.\n\n3.) learn to cook, do laundry, dishes, and clean cuz ur gonna have to do all that, and it doesn't get easier the more it piles up.\n\n4.) Have emergency numbers and contacts available.\n\n5.) Buy the good toilet paper.\n\n6.) Last but not least and this is VERY IMPORTANT ... the bubbles do NOT eat the grease! only scrubbing", "* always do the dishes as you use them. It only gets worse as they pile up.\n* always clean up after yourself, you may decide to bring a friend back to your place and that's usually the day you forgot to clean up.\n* living alone doesn't have to mean frozen pizza. Cook for yourself you can always take the left overs for lunch or freeze them.\n* buy the big pack of toilet paper, and keep more than one roll in the bathroom at all times. This not only saves money but who wants to be unprepared at such a time. \n* When you come into the house and before bed do a room check. Check doors, windows and locks. \n* always set an alarm when cooking this reminds you to turn off the stove, or oven...I have been called away in a rush and forgotten the stove...I'm more scared that the flame went out but the gas was still on.... \n* Keep a flashlight in every room and make sure the batteries are good. This has helped me a lot.\n* Don't clutter the place up in the dark this can be a big problem. \n* Have an emergency plan in case of natural disasters. Pack a bag with a few days worth of clothes, toiletries, water, and energy bars. This can double as an overnight bag if you keep it in your trunk. ", "don't collapse in on yourself. it is easy to lose sight of everything when you can completely encapsulate yourself in yourself. ", "[Here you go.](http://video.adultswim.com/tim-and-eric-awesome-show-great-job/living-with-dr-steve-brule.html)", "Put together a small tool box:\nScrew drivers, spanners, WD40, tape measure, hammer and blade are the absolute essentials. It's doesn't have to be fancy stuff - often people will donate you bits from their own extensive kits - and I only keep mine in a tupperware box.\n\nBuy fridge magnets and turn your fridge into your notice board. You forget a lot more stuff when you live alone... but you'll go to the fridge at least once a day.\n\nPut together a medicine box. Again, it doesn't need to be fancy and elaborate but this is super essential. I mean, who will be there to go out and get you medicine when you're sick?\n\nIntroduce yourself to your neighbours. You don't need to be friends. It's just a safety procaution. Your neighbour is 10 x more likely to come and check if you're okay after they hear a funny noise if they actually know who you are!\n\n", "Only keep about 2 plates,bowls,forks,spoons etc... (keeps you from piling nasty dishes in your sink and not cleaning them.) or use paper plates.\n\nInvite people over a lot so you dont get lonely.\n\n", "Marginally illegal, but you might be able to rip off the laundry machines using coffee stir sticks. http://www.tranceaddict.com/forums/showthread/t-469780.html ", "Keep fresh ingredients on hand and make the time to treat yourself to home-cooked meals. You can even make big dishes like lasagne or stew, and freeze portions for later. ", "Join your local freecycle network:\nhttp://www.freecycle.org/\n\nOffer something you can recycle every now and then, request something you need, get it for free. Its awesome.", "I dunno if this will work in place of quarters. But our washing machines take pound coins and if you pick the fluff off a cotton bud you can jam it in the coin slot and you don't have to pay", "I don't like living alone but I too had to after I had to transfer for work my girlfriend couldn't (yet). I got to take the dog so that helped a lot. Seriously, get a dog or a cat. I love the dog to no end, but if you value your freedom and flexibility, a cat may be better.\n\nI like cooking so I use that to take up a chunk of my time every night. And then I'll usually eat watching TV. I hate having the TV on when eating with someone else, but alone, it is nice.\n\nGood luck", "I didn't see this in comments but for $20 you can make laundry soap. Since Amynthis already told you to buy a cheese grater it can be used to grate 3 bars of fels-naptha. Mix with a box of borax, box of washing soda, box of baking soda and a can of oxy clean. I put it in a 3 gallon storage bin. It is so effective you only need use the cup that comes with the oxy clean, maybe 1 1/2. For a household of 4 that $2o lasts 6 months! When Ihave to go to a laundromat I put the scoops in little baggies. No risk of anyone stealing it, nor hauling around a big container.", "Get out of you place after work for a little bit. I've gotten in a routine where I just sit at home and don't do much sometimes. Even if I just get up to drive to Walmart, I feel better. Your own place can become your trap very quickly. ", "Get a dog. Or something to love on like a dog. Seriously. Without my dog, I'd be a wreck here alone. She keeps me sane.", "Enjoy doing things just for you. Things that noone else would enjoy aa much as you and savor them. When I lived alone, my favorite Friday night included a family-size order of breadsticks from Pizza Hut (no pizza), a movie from Blockbuster and a bottle of wine. I can't really do those kind of things now, so enjoy the little things. ", "Disposable everything. Except maybe cups. But there is nothing as wonderful as making food, then just throwing everything away.", "As someone who recently (6months ago) moved out to living alone (and single), I feel it is going to be really exciting since you would get to live exactly the way you want to, without being accountable to anyone. And some days could be really depressing as hell, for example, if you had a bad day, you would literally have to talk to the walls to unwind yourself. \n\nAfter dealing with this, I have learnt to keep myself occupied pretty much all the time, which (depending on the individual) could also naturally help you be organized. Hope this helps.", "A good way to combat loneliness (other than going outside) is to use your computer to its fullest! A computer and all its tools (skype, headset, webcam) can be an excellent portal to the outside world and all of your long distance friends. And if you feel like doing something with said friends, pick up some free multiplayer games. Hanging out with friends in a virtual world isn't too entirely different from hanging out with them in person. Just don't get too caught up in gaming and forget about the actual outside world!", "* Keep a small container in your car and put your quarters in it when you get change\n\n* Buy in bulk, things like rice and meat and canned foods. They don't go bad for a loooooong time.\n\n* play music while you cook\n\n* enjoy naked time\n\n* find a hobby that entertains you. When I first lived alone I had an RC helicopter that brought hours of enjoyment. $20\n\n* enjoy it. You'll likely live with a SO or roommate the rest of your life.", "I'd suggest this: in case you are prone to being lazy or just flat out hate doing housework/cleaning, do one small \"chore\" a day each week. Dusting one day, sweeping another day, etc. keeps you from being overwhelmed with cleaning everything at once, and your home will never be entirely messy or dirty. Although living alone sometimes is cleaner than living with roommates, haha! " ]

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[ "Staying Mad So, I can't stay mad or upset about anything for more than a day or two at a time. For instance, with friends or s/o whatever the topic is I tend to give in first simply because whatever the issue or argument was, I get over it. This may sound great but I get the feeling I look like a pushover or something at the end and it negatively effects relationships. So I'm wondering what, if anything, I can do to remember the feelings I had when I first got angry.", "Staying Mad So, I can't stay mad or upset about anything for more than a day or two at a time. For instance, with friends or s/o whatever the topic is I tend to give in first simply because whatever the issue or argument was, I get over it. This may sound great but I get the feeling I look like a pushover or something at the end and it negatively effects relationships. So I'm wondering what, if anything, I can do to remember the feelings I had when I first got angry." ]

[ "I don't understand the problem here.. You WANT to be angry? What...? \n\nIf your friends are making fun if you and calling you a pushover because you're not upset then you should probably stop talking to them because they're gigantic douchebags. ", "It may be a good idea to express yourself more completely without actually losing control. For example, you can say \"I'm really really angry about this\" without actually doing a lot of shouting. Or maybe give it a try by gritting your teeth and getting really mad. Sounds like you will stay in control so the experience might be healthy for you. " ]

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[ "How to get grease out of clothes. I have some work clothes that have grease on them. I have tried a few things but I can't seem to get it out. Any tricks I should know about?", "How to get grease out of clothes. I have some work clothes that have grease on them. I have tried a few things but I can't seem to get it out. Any tricks I should know about?", "How to get grease out of clothes. I have some work clothes that have grease on them. I have tried a few things but I can't seem to get it out. Any tricks I should know about?", "How to get grease out of clothes. I have some work clothes that have grease on them. I have tried a few things but I can't seem to get it out. Any tricks I should know about?", "How to get grease out of clothes. I have some work clothes that have grease on them. I have tried a few things but I can't seem to get it out. Any tricks I should know about?", "How to get grease out of clothes. I have some work clothes that have grease on them. I have tried a few things but I can't seem to get it out. Any tricks I should know about?", "How to get grease out of clothes. I have some work clothes that have grease on them. I have tried a few things but I can't seem to get it out. Any tricks I should know about?", "How to get grease out of clothes. I have some work clothes that have grease on them. I have tried a few things but I can't seem to get it out. Any tricks I should know about?" ]

[ "Dawn. Goo Gone. Lestoil. Oxyclean.\n\nyou could even go to WalMart and wander around the automotive department- there are countless commercial products that remove grease.", "Dawn, blue Dawn specifically, always works for me. Pour it on the grease stain, rub in in thoroughly until it is white and foamy, then throw it in the wash.", "Simple Green Max did wonders for grease stains in my white carpet (leaky bearing on a swivel chair). The stains were several years old and had persisted through multiple steam cleanings before I tried the Max. ", "Shampoo for oily hair, the cheap stuff. Also good for getting grease or oil off your hands after working on your car.", "I've had good results with using a pre-wash stain remover spray (just the generic kind at my supermarket), some repeated applications of spray and scrubbing and waiting, then soaking in pre-wash soaking stuff (again, supermarket generic white powder and water in a bucket), then maybe going another round of spray/scrub/soak for really stubborn stains, then when it's looking good, throw it in the usual washing machine cycle. It works for blood, grease, acrylic paint if you get to it fast enough, dirt, tomato/beetroot, etc.\n\nIt's best if you get onto it ASAP, especially with the dye-like substances that may actually stain the fabric rather than just coat it. Finding out my kid's school uniform shirt has a big motor oil stain on it a few days *after* it occurred is less than ideal, but the spray/scrub/soak method eventually yielded success. Scrub from both sides, if you can, and be careful on delicate fabrics in case you scuff the threads.", "I got a bunch of grease on a shirt, forgot about it for weeks then finally washed it. It didn't come out so I bought those little yellow things called stain Devils the one specifically for grease and oil, that Shit didn't work at all. So I put straight detergent on, let it soak and it came out. ", "Here's an alternative solution to dish soap if that doesn't cut it. Take talcum powder and really rub it into the stained area, and let it sit overnight before washing. \n\nThe fine powder will wick out oil from saturated fibers, and will then wash off later. It may take a few times through to work fully, but I've found it works very well. You can also find laundry sticks of very fine, white clay that work in the same fashion.", "I find that putting dirty clothing into a washing machine and adding about a scoop of powder will remove the dirt. " ]

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[ " Buying a new car So I am planning on getting a new car next weekend and I was wondering if anyone had suggestions on negotiating a good price/loan rate. Also, any general things to look out for when selecting a car would be much appreciated.", " Buying a new car So I am planning on getting a new car next weekend and I was wondering if anyone had suggestions on negotiating a good price/loan rate. Also, any general things to look out for when selecting a car would be much appreciated.", " Buying a new car So I am planning on getting a new car next weekend and I was wondering if anyone had suggestions on negotiating a good price/loan rate. Also, any general things to look out for when selecting a car would be much appreciated.", " Buying a new car So I am planning on getting a new car next weekend and I was wondering if anyone had suggestions on negotiating a good price/loan rate. Also, any general things to look out for when selecting a car would be much appreciated.", " Buying a new car So I am planning on getting a new car next weekend and I was wondering if anyone had suggestions on negotiating a good price/loan rate. Also, any general things to look out for when selecting a car would be much appreciated.", " Buying a new car So I am planning on getting a new car next weekend and I was wondering if anyone had suggestions on negotiating a good price/loan rate. Also, any general things to look out for when selecting a car would be much appreciated." ]

[ "Buy a two year old car and don't take the hit of the depreciation. Buying a new car is like throwing a hundred dollar bill out the window every couple of weeks for the first two years. Use consumer reports and facebook friends to pick the best model. Never negotiate on payment, negotiate on price, better yet, pay cash.", "This depends on several things. If you're in the US, these will apply:\n\nTake into account your cr", "I recently got a new car and the guy was nice and soft selling me while I was test driving. Once we hit the desk and started talking price, he started hard selling me saying, \"That's too low, we can't do that; you'll never get a better deal; we're the best dealer within 100 miles; what do you want to pay per month?; you're out of your mind if you think any dealer will do the deal at that price, they'll be taking a loss\". Don't get caught up in that, stay firm on your target price, but also make sure that it's reasonable (couple hundred above invoice). Know the invoice of the base model you want and also the one with additional features. Every place I went to that carried the car I was interested in had additional features. \n\nIf you're financing through them, know the interest rate you want. They'll try to get you to tell them how much you can afford to pay per month. Don't fall for that. Do a couple scenarios using car price calculators online beforehand to get a sense of what the monthly payment will be at a certain interest rate, price of the car, and length of the loan. The dealer hopes you trip up and throw out a number without knowing what the true present value price you'll end up paying. \n\nUse edmunds.com to find prices and dealers. Some places will negotiate through email. They will also say anything to get you in their doors. Make an alternative email for this because you'll be spammed. I also recommend using Google Voice for a number because you'll get spammed with phone calls as well. \n\nIf the dealer isn't budging, then leave. I left after the guy and his manager said they couldn't do it: \"it was nice meeting you, goodbye and good luck, you'll never get it at that price\". The sales manager called me 15 minutes later and said the general manager said they'll do it at that price. I didn't take it since it was the last car on their lot and it was the test drive car with over 160 miles. Ended up getting an equal price, but better trade-in price for my old car somewhere else. \n\ntl;dr 90% of salesman are trying to nickel and dime you", "Car Salesmen here.\n\nHere are some tips from my point of view that will make the whole process easier.\n\n1) Get pre-approved. As a car salesmen, we are required by Federal Law NOT to know your cr", "Try a site like CarWoo. They allow several dealers to make an offer with their best price for the car you want to buy. ", "I haven't tried this yet but my buddy at work sends emails to about five or ten different dealers with them all in regular copy. Then he watches the offers come in knowing the dealers are competing against each other. " ]

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[ "How to react/what to say when people show you baby/family pictures. I normally just say \"ohhh nice\" or \"that's a cute baby\" lol", "How to react/what to say when people show you baby/family pictures. I normally just say \"ohhh nice\" or \"that's a cute baby\" lol", "How to react/what to say when people show you baby/family pictures. I normally just say \"ohhh nice\" or \"that's a cute baby\" lol", "How to react/what to say when people show you baby/family pictures. I normally just say \"ohhh nice\" or \"that's a cute baby\" lol", "How to react/what to say when people show you baby/family pictures. I normally just say \"ohhh nice\" or \"that's a cute baby\" lol" ]

[ "I saw he/she/it is \"so sweet\"\n\nIt goes over much better than my gut reactions like yuck, are you sure it's done yet, or what type of tree frog is it?", "Loudly announce \"one day I'm gonna marry that\".\n\nPrevent people from punching you in the face by simply explaining you're a massive Woody Allen fan so being attracted to babies is OK as long as you wait until they're old enough to marry.\n", "Try - Have you assigned a gender role to it yet you monsters?\n\nNEVER get asked to judge someone elses baby ever again!\n", "i usually say “i don’t usually like babies but that one is CUTE” it usually makes them feel good, and it isn’t ALWAYA a lie lol", "Make reference to how much they look like their dad, mum or how you cant see either parent resemblance.\n\nThat can lead onto conversation about how they have mum's eyes etc.. " ]

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[ "How to stop eating out of boredom? When I am bored, I crave eating something even when I am not really hungry. This could make me pick on extra weight and I want to avoid that.\n\n\n\n", "How to stop eating out of boredom? When I am bored, I crave eating something even when I am not really hungry. This could make me pick on extra weight and I want to avoid that.\n\n\n\n", "How to stop eating out of boredom? When I am bored, I crave eating something even when I am not really hungry. This could make me pick on extra weight and I want to avoid that.\n\n\n\n", "How to stop eating out of boredom? When I am bored, I crave eating something even when I am not really hungry. This could make me pick on extra weight and I want to avoid that.\n\n\n\n", "How to stop eating out of boredom? When I am bored, I crave eating something even when I am not really hungry. This could make me pick on extra weight and I want to avoid that.\n\n\n\n", "How to stop eating out of boredom? When I am bored, I crave eating something even when I am not really hungry. This could make me pick on extra weight and I want to avoid that.\n\n\n\n", "How to stop eating out of boredom? When I am bored, I crave eating something even when I am not really hungry. This could make me pick on extra weight and I want to avoid that.\n\n\n\n", "How to stop eating out of boredom? When I am bored, I crave eating something even when I am not really hungry. This could make me pick on extra weight and I want to avoid that.\n\n\n\n", "How to stop eating out of boredom? When I am bored, I crave eating something even when I am not really hungry. This could make me pick on extra weight and I want to avoid that.\n\n\n\n", "How to stop eating out of boredom? When I am bored, I crave eating something even when I am not really hungry. This could make me pick on extra weight and I want to avoid that.\n\n\n\n" ]

[ "Make your laziness work *for* you instead of agianst. \n\nPersonally, I didn't have too much trouble just not buying snack foods. If I don't own anything that's unhealthy/really easy to snack on, then generally I'm just not bothered to eat them out of boredom. \n\nSo yeah, just dump anything that's very calorie dense, and just keep raw ingredients in your home. It's hard to overeat if you have to spend the better part of an hour preparing food every time you want to boredom eat. ", "I have been working on the same problem.\n\nI started by removing as many snack foods from my home as possible. If not possible I replaced them with healthy alternatives.\n\nI picked up hobbies that keep my hands busy. Drawing, reddit roulette, crochet & a game on my phone that I am addicted to. \n\nGood luck and keep it up!", "I got into specialty teas that have unique flavors. Tazo Passion tea is tart and flavorful, and available in most grocery stores. Republic of Tea has a lot of variety as does, of course, Teavana. If you can get to a Teavana store, you can order smaller amounts of loose leaf and try different things. Making tea is easy enough, but it's busywork nonetheless that occupies you when you're bored.", "Gum is great as others have pointed out already but i think it's best to just brush your teeth. You won't want to get rid of that freshness for a while after that.", "1. exercise every day (some days cardio, some days weight lifting, you will feel better automatically, have less time to eat)\n2. use this trick: Do not BUY unhealthy things. If you don't have them in the house, you can't eat them. You have to pull yourself together only for those minutes while you shop, not all the time while you are at home. \n3. get a meal plan from a nutritionist, including times and quantities, like bodybuilders do, and make sure the times and quantities fit in with your training schedule. Stick to it, regularly and long term. \n4. The first week is the hardest, after that your cravings for sweets will be almost gone! Try it. \n5. drink lots of water", "water\n\ni used to snack while gaming or working, but i have replaced it with water. does the same function as having to fill that need to consume something", "Just change your snack food. You can eat things like carrot sticks without any penalty, and carrots are mega cheap.", "I tend to chew on things when I get bored. It probably helps me not eat stuff but it's also probably destroying my teeth. It's mostly plastic bottle caps off of cheap water bottles. Nothing like Aquafina or Dasani bottle caps though. ", "I smoked and when I quit I started snacking and gained a bunch of weight. Switched to sugarless gum and worked pretty well", "From someone who works 7 days a week-- what's this thing you call \"boredom\"? I can't even imagine. Can you do some of my work so you won't be so bored and thus won't eat as much? Sounds like a win-win to me!" ]

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[ "Prevent the ends of t-shirts and shorts (post edging seam, normally) from getting all messed up after being in the dryer Self explanatory. Any help? I hate the curled edges, and I won't iron that often. Not sure if this happens to many people, might just be my dryer", "Prevent the ends of t-shirts and shorts (post edging seam, normally) from getting all messed up after being in the dryer Self explanatory. Any help? I hate the curled edges, and I won't iron that often. Not sure if this happens to many people, might just be my dryer", "Prevent the ends of t-shirts and shorts (post edging seam, normally) from getting all messed up after being in the dryer Self explanatory. Any help? I hate the curled edges, and I won't iron that often. Not sure if this happens to many people, might just be my dryer" ]

[ "It's not your dryer. Dryers wreck clothes. You know the lint you get in the trap? That's your clothes. They're being ripped apart, tiny bit by tiny bit.\n\nAnything I want to keep nice-looking, I don't put it in the dryer - at least not for the whole dry-time. For most things (jeans, gym clothes, etc.) I just hang them to dry. For others that need a bit of machine drying to keep the wrinkles at bay, I hang them up until they're mostly dry, then touch them up in the dryer. If they get a little too dry on the rack, I'll toss in a damp washcloth to add some steam.\n\nDoing this has allowed me to keep my basics looking great until I'm tired of them - not because they look like crap.", "I've found its the way you fold it also dry your clothes on low and they don't get those kinks so to speak", "I use my curling iron to flatten the hem real quick before I put the shirt on. Less hassle than getting the iron out.\n" ]

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