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[ "how to stop extremely smelly feet. I've tried some of the tips given on previous LPT posts concerning smelly feet, but none worked really well. I sweat from my feet a lot and when I take my shoes off (or sometimes I don't even have to!) it smells almost like cheese it's very embarrassing please help :(.", "how to stop extremely smelly feet. I've tried some of the tips given on previous LPT posts concerning smelly feet, but none worked really well. I sweat from my feet a lot and when I take my shoes off (or sometimes I don't even have to!) it smells almost like cheese it's very embarrassing please help :(.", "how to stop extremely smelly feet. I've tried some of the tips given on previous LPT posts concerning smelly feet, but none worked really well. I sweat from my feet a lot and when I take my shoes off (or sometimes I don't even have to!) it smells almost like cheese it's very embarrassing please help :(.", "how to stop extremely smelly feet. I've tried some of the tips given on previous LPT posts concerning smelly feet, but none worked really well. I sweat from my feet a lot and when I take my shoes off (or sometimes I don't even have to!) it smells almost like cheese it's very embarrassing please help :(.", "how to stop extremely smelly feet. I've tried some of the tips given on previous LPT posts concerning smelly feet, but none worked really well. I sweat from my feet a lot and when I take my shoes off (or sometimes I don't even have to!) it smells almost like cheese it's very embarrassing please help :(.", "how to stop extremely smelly feet. I've tried some of the tips given on previous LPT posts concerning smelly feet, but none worked really well. I sweat from my feet a lot and when I take my shoes off (or sometimes I don't even have to!) it smells almost like cheese it's very embarrassing please help :(.", "how to stop extremely smelly feet. I've tried some of the tips given on previous LPT posts concerning smelly feet, but none worked really well. I sweat from my feet a lot and when I take my shoes off (or sometimes I don't even have to!) it smells almost like cheese it's very embarrassing please help :(.", "how to stop extremely smelly feet. I've tried some of the tips given on previous LPT posts concerning smelly feet, but none worked really well. I sweat from my feet a lot and when I take my shoes off (or sometimes I don't even have to!) it smells almost like cheese it's very embarrassing please help :(.", "how to stop extremely smelly feet. I've tried some of the tips given on previous LPT posts concerning smelly feet, but none worked really well. I sweat from my feet a lot and when I take my shoes off (or sometimes I don't even have to!) it smells almost like cheese it's very embarrassing please help :(.", "how to stop extremely smelly feet. I've tried some of the tips given on previous LPT posts concerning smelly feet, but none worked really well. I sweat from my feet a lot and when I take my shoes off (or sometimes I don't even have to!) it smells almost like cheese it's very embarrassing please help :(.", "how to stop extremely smelly feet. I've tried some of the tips given on previous LPT posts concerning smelly feet, but none worked really well. I sweat from my feet a lot and when I take my shoes off (or sometimes I don't even have to!) it smells almost like cheese it's very embarrassing please help :(.", "how to stop extremely smelly feet. I've tried some of the tips given on previous LPT posts concerning smelly feet, but none worked really well. I sweat from my feet a lot and when I take my shoes off (or sometimes I don't even have to!) it smells almost like cheese it's very embarrassing please help :(.", "how to stop extremely smelly feet. I've tried some of the tips given on previous LPT posts concerning smelly feet, but none worked really well. I sweat from my feet a lot and when I take my shoes off (or sometimes I don't even have to!) it smells almost like cheese it's very embarrassing please help :(.", "how to stop extremely smelly feet. I've tried some of the tips given on previous LPT posts concerning smelly feet, but none worked really well. I sweat from my feet a lot and when I take my shoes off (or sometimes I don't even have to!) it smells almost like cheese it's very embarrassing please help :(.", "how to stop extremely smelly feet. I've tried some of the tips given on previous LPT posts concerning smelly feet, but none worked really well. I sweat from my feet a lot and when I take my shoes off (or sometimes I don't even have to!) it smells almost like cheese it's very embarrassing please help :(.", "how to stop extremely smelly feet. I've tried some of the tips given on previous LPT posts concerning smelly feet, but none worked really well. I sweat from my feet a lot and when I take my shoes off (or sometimes I don't even have to!) it smells almost like cheese it's very embarrassing please help :(.", "how to stop extremely smelly feet. I've tried some of the tips given on previous LPT posts concerning smelly feet, but none worked really well. I sweat from my feet a lot and when I take my shoes off (or sometimes I don't even have to!) it smells almost like cheese it's very embarrassing please help :(.", "how to stop extremely smelly feet. I've tried some of the tips given on previous LPT posts concerning smelly feet, but none worked really well. I sweat from my feet a lot and when I take my shoes off (or sometimes I don't even have to!) it smells almost like cheese it's very embarrassing please help :(.", "how to stop extremely smelly feet. I've tried some of the tips given on previous LPT posts concerning smelly feet, but none worked really well. I sweat from my feet a lot and when I take my shoes off (or sometimes I don't even have to!) it smells almost like cheese it's very embarrassing please help :(.", "how to stop extremely smelly feet. I've tried some of the tips given on previous LPT posts concerning smelly feet, but none worked really well. I sweat from my feet a lot and when I take my shoes off (or sometimes I don't even have to!) it smells almost like cheese it's very embarrassing please help :(.", "how to stop extremely smelly feet. I've tried some of the tips given on previous LPT posts concerning smelly feet, but none worked really well. I sweat from my feet a lot and when I take my shoes off (or sometimes I don't even have to!) it smells almost like cheese it's very embarrassing please help :(.", "how to stop extremely smelly feet. I've tried some of the tips given on previous LPT posts concerning smelly feet, but none worked really well. I sweat from my feet a lot and when I take my shoes off (or sometimes I don't even have to!) it smells almost like cheese it's very embarrassing please help :(.", "how to stop extremely smelly feet. I've tried some of the tips given on previous LPT posts concerning smelly feet, but none worked really well. I sweat from my feet a lot and when I take my shoes off (or sometimes I don't even have to!) it smells almost like cheese it's very embarrassing please help :(.", "how to stop extremely smelly feet. I've tried some of the tips given on previous LPT posts concerning smelly feet, but none worked really well. I sweat from my feet a lot and when I take my shoes off (or sometimes I don't even have to!) it smells almost like cheese it's very embarrassing please help :(." ]

[ "Best way so far (46 now and feet smell like roses for the last 10 years) is to use Arm and Hammer baking soda deodorant on your feet.\n\nThe baking soda in the deodorant neutralizes the PH of your sweat and decreases the bacteria that create that funky smell.\n\nUsing baking soda alone only works temporarily and cakes up in your shoes/sneakers. Using the deodorant only gets it on the inside of your socks so it's preferable.\n\nGood luck and say good bye to the swamp feet.\n\n\n", "I used to have this problem and ruined a few pairs of shoes doing this.\n\nWhat I realised was that I wasn't actually washing my feet - I was assuming being on the floor in the soapy runoff body water was enough. Once I actually started washing my feet with soap and a loofah in the shower the smell is almost completely gone, and I haven't ruined any shoes. On top of that, the skin by my big toenails has stopped going all red and puffy.\n\nI tried putting them in the freezer, using special deoderising foot powder, etc, and none of it worked until I started washing my feet. \n\nAnd yeah, I felt really stupid when I realised what was causing the problem.", "Merino wool socks. Smartwools are expensive, but look for sales. Also the Kirkland brand at Costco are cheaper and durable. I'm a guy and wear them everyday-even in the summer. My girlfriend will attest that my feet don't stink at all and I have pretty sweaty feet!\n\nThey're much more comfortable than cotton or synthetic socks and I don't develop calluses like I would with cotton. The wool fibers don't absorb moisture--they just wick it away from your feet where it can evaporate. \n\nIf you've already eliminated any possibility of fungus, I would say buy some merino wool socks of appropriate thickness for your climate, and try them out in new(er) non-stinky well-breathing shoes. It's an investment that's totally worth it. I'm not rich --just a simple tradesman--but I never buy cheap socks.", "I used to have a problem and here are some tips that cured me:\n\nPumice stone (or otherwise exfoliate) your feet every week to get rid of dead skin.\n\nWash feet everyday even if you don't shower everyday. \n\nPut lotion on your feet before you put your socks and shoes on. \n\nHave two pairs of shoes you switch off with every other day. This makes sure you shoes can very thoroughly dry out before you wear them again. \n\nDon't tie your shoes super tight. \n\nHope these help!\n\n", "When you wash your feet, also wash all your shoes and socks so that you're not picking up the same bacteria again. Once, I found the floor in my dorm was contributing as well and after I washed it as well, things were fine.", "When I was in the Marines, I was told to piss on my feet in the shower. \"Gross!\", right? Well, it cured a case or two of swamp foot. I also noticed it took away the stink in my feet. Didn't replace the smell with New Orleans Bourbon Street, either.\n\nBy the way, I've since learned that the urea in that golden flow is what kills the bacteria in your feet. That bacteria being the cause of both athletes foot and nasty odor alike.", "Soak your feet in a 50/50 vinegar water mix every night for about a week, and take your shoes off when you're at home so they can dry out.", "buy anhydrol forte....as former smelly feet suffer myself i had tried lots of options until i stumbled upon this magical formula....available in your local chemist/pharmacy/drug store....recommended it to two others and worked a treat for them too...only cost me €10 euro so its definitely worth a go\n\n", "This probably isn't the best solution but often times using a bit of deodorant can work temporarily. Hope it helps!", "Related: Stuffing your shoes with newspaper can help get rid of feet smell. Doesn't help the problem at the source, but I've used this to save shoes before.", "In addition to treating his feet with the tea treatment, I bought a boot dryer for my husband's shoes. He used it for all his shoes, tennis shoes to boots. He would sweat all day into his shoes and the odor-causing bacteria would accumulate. I think it was about $20 from Walmart, but you can find them anywhere. That worked in a couple of days versus never quite fixing the problem with all the sprays and powders he used for years. ", "I hope you'll consider seeing a podiatrist before taking any of these suggestions. I had a very close friend with the same problem. He went to see a local podiatrist and came back with the news that he had a fungal infection. A lot of these home remedies seem harmless (and helpful), but if you have an infection you may need some prescription treatment. Plus, a good podiatrist can make great recommendations on the type of footwear you should be using. Best of luck!", "Get a bottle of hand disinfectant. Kills everything that stinks.\n\nAnd drop some black tea bags in your shoes over night.", "You can use tea bags to absorb the smell. I've done this with my gym bag and its worked great so far.", "Throw your shoes in a ziploc bag and leave em in the freezer for a few days.\n\nBlowdry your feet right after you take a shower in order to kill some bacteria that can cause athletes foot, etc.", "Talcum powder. Apply liberally before wearing socks.\n\nOh, and change socks daily, also, wash (and *dry*!) feet daily.", "Seriously, my feet were the stinkiest feet on the planet for most of my life.....what I found to eliminate the problem forever was to use a stick \"antiperspirant\" and saturate my feet with the stuff. Been 2 years and I haven't had a problem since the discovery. The only problem is that your feet become very soft as a result of the lotion-like substance left by the antiperspirant stick. If you don't mind your feet being soft like a girls foot. Doesn't bother me at all. My wife like the soft touch, I guess. I use \"Speed Stick\" only because that was the only thing available to me at the time of the discovery. It works so, I haven't tried anything else myself, but my wife & teen-age daughters use a women's antiperspirant \"spray\" and it seems to work well enough for them. Guess it's the perspiration that causes the bad smell. Stop the perspiration, stop the smell.......it works for us....hope this helps.", "If your shoes start to smell, don't wash them in the washing machine. You'll ruin them.\n\nInstead. Put them in the freezer for 24 hours. The cold will also kill the bacteria but since there is no water your shoes won't fall apart.\n\nI go backpacking often and my feet end up stinking after 2 weeks. When I come home my shoes are rotten so I throw them in the freezer and they're about 99% back to normal.", "I started using mostly cotton gym socks and haven't had a problem since. \nhttp://www.amazon.com/Hanes-Classics-6-Pack-Cushion-Socks/dp/B000L9X6Y2/ref=pd_sbs_a_1", "Hi everybody, I have heard about a product named Graalu that could treat this problem. Has anyone tried it? Thanks", "Bamboo (rayon) dress socks 100% of the time. Never wear anything else (especially cotton) and your feet will be dry, cool and have no smell. I was plagued for my entire life with sweaty/stinky feet until a year ago when I made the switch. Throw out all your other socks!", "Apply anti-perspirant all over them to stop the sweating. However here is a little maybe about excessive alumininium getting absorbed which may be bad for you.", "If your shoes are smelling put them in a freezer overnight to kill the bacteria which cause some of the smell!\n", "Pee directly on them in the shower. Yeah it's kinda gross but it works! The stream needs to hit your foot before it hits the ground. Get some good coverage." ]

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[ "Ideas for this bathroom floor, currently has carpet. I moved into a new house and the bathroom has this really dirty, nasty shag carpet. When I pull it up, you can see its a very uneven floor, there is some old tile, wood, cement, etc.\n\nhttp://imgur.com/59PPr\n\nhttp://imgur.com/JxSgq\n\nright now, I dont have the money or expertise to completely re-do the floor with a proper underlay, ceramic tile etc. I need some ideas for something temporary (6-12 months) aside from more carpet. I was thinking sticky tile, but obviously, the floor as it is, is not ready for sticky tile. Is there an easier/cheaper way to prep the floor for sticky tile, aside from the usual cement board/plywood? I don't have the tools for that yet, and I want to wait until I will be replacing the sink and toilet too. How about a sheet of linoleum? Would that go right ontop of this type of floor? Any other suggestions?", "Ideas for this bathroom floor, currently has carpet. I moved into a new house and the bathroom has this really dirty, nasty shag carpet. When I pull it up, you can see its a very uneven floor, there is some old tile, wood, cement, etc.\n\nhttp://imgur.com/59PPr\n\nhttp://imgur.com/JxSgq\n\nright now, I dont have the money or expertise to completely re-do the floor with a proper underlay, ceramic tile etc. I need some ideas for something temporary (6-12 months) aside from more carpet. I was thinking sticky tile, but obviously, the floor as it is, is not ready for sticky tile. Is there an easier/cheaper way to prep the floor for sticky tile, aside from the usual cement board/plywood? I don't have the tools for that yet, and I want to wait until I will be replacing the sink and toilet too. How about a sheet of linoleum? Would that go right ontop of this type of floor? Any other suggestions?", "Ideas for this bathroom floor, currently has carpet. I moved into a new house and the bathroom has this really dirty, nasty shag carpet. When I pull it up, you can see its a very uneven floor, there is some old tile, wood, cement, etc.\n\nhttp://imgur.com/59PPr\n\nhttp://imgur.com/JxSgq\n\nright now, I dont have the money or expertise to completely re-do the floor with a proper underlay, ceramic tile etc. I need some ideas for something temporary (6-12 months) aside from more carpet. I was thinking sticky tile, but obviously, the floor as it is, is not ready for sticky tile. Is there an easier/cheaper way to prep the floor for sticky tile, aside from the usual cement board/plywood? I don't have the tools for that yet, and I want to wait until I will be replacing the sink and toilet too. How about a sheet of linoleum? Would that go right ontop of this type of floor? Any other suggestions?", "Ideas for this bathroom floor, currently has carpet. I moved into a new house and the bathroom has this really dirty, nasty shag carpet. When I pull it up, you can see its a very uneven floor, there is some old tile, wood, cement, etc.\n\nhttp://imgur.com/59PPr\n\nhttp://imgur.com/JxSgq\n\nright now, I dont have the money or expertise to completely re-do the floor with a proper underlay, ceramic tile etc. I need some ideas for something temporary (6-12 months) aside from more carpet. I was thinking sticky tile, but obviously, the floor as it is, is not ready for sticky tile. Is there an easier/cheaper way to prep the floor for sticky tile, aside from the usual cement board/plywood? I don't have the tools for that yet, and I want to wait until I will be replacing the sink and toilet too. How about a sheet of linoleum? Would that go right ontop of this type of floor? Any other suggestions?", "Ideas for this bathroom floor, currently has carpet. I moved into a new house and the bathroom has this really dirty, nasty shag carpet. When I pull it up, you can see its a very uneven floor, there is some old tile, wood, cement, etc.\n\nhttp://imgur.com/59PPr\n\nhttp://imgur.com/JxSgq\n\nright now, I dont have the money or expertise to completely re-do the floor with a proper underlay, ceramic tile etc. I need some ideas for something temporary (6-12 months) aside from more carpet. I was thinking sticky tile, but obviously, the floor as it is, is not ready for sticky tile. Is there an easier/cheaper way to prep the floor for sticky tile, aside from the usual cement board/plywood? I don't have the tools for that yet, and I want to wait until I will be replacing the sink and toilet too. How about a sheet of linoleum? Would that go right ontop of this type of floor? Any other suggestions?" ]

[ "Idea: buy a cheap rolly-chair desk mat. You know, one of the plastic ones with the spikes on the bottom. Chances are, you can cut around it a shape that fits around your toilet and against the tub. \n\nThen, just work on drying off before you're out of the shower.", "i have no idea how much anything costs, but last thing you want is something that will seal in moisture, like linoleum, especially if you dont have proper cement board. \n\nso im recommending some unorthodox stuff:\n\nhttp://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/20165486/ \n", "Pull it up, scrape it clean/level and buy some cheap linoleum to put down. Buy the kind that staples/glues at the edges. Put it down, staple/glue the edges and put shoe molding over the edge to make it look good. Any DIY store like Lowes or Home Depot can advise you. you may find cheaper linoleum at some liquidation store like Big Lots, though.", "Not really the right sub for this, /DIY would be better.\n\nBut yeah, just rip it up. Do what you can to level it, and put in linoleum.", "Just take up the carpet, throw a bit of soapy water down on the tile, use some floor tools to take the old tile up, you should be down to either concrete or maybe sheet vinyl (can't tell from the pic), if concrete just throw a bath mat down. If sheet vinyl, use a hand tool to take it up, again use soapy water, then you should be down to concrete. This way you can save for when you replace the rest of the bathroom stuff. Hope this helps. " ]

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[ "How do you get rid of dandruff? I have extremely oily hair and seem to get dandruff at the same time? I have tried to not wash it as often which only seems to make it worse. Does anyone have any advice for this? I imagine people with dry hair w/dandruff and oily hair w/dandruff must have different solutions? ( I use Loreal Professional for my shampoo & conditioner)", "How do you get rid of dandruff? I have extremely oily hair and seem to get dandruff at the same time? I have tried to not wash it as often which only seems to make it worse. Does anyone have any advice for this? I imagine people with dry hair w/dandruff and oily hair w/dandruff must have different solutions? ( I use Loreal Professional for my shampoo & conditioner)", "How do you get rid of dandruff? I have extremely oily hair and seem to get dandruff at the same time? I have tried to not wash it as often which only seems to make it worse. Does anyone have any advice for this? I imagine people with dry hair w/dandruff and oily hair w/dandruff must have different solutions? ( I use Loreal Professional for my shampoo & conditioner)", "How do you get rid of dandruff? I have extremely oily hair and seem to get dandruff at the same time? I have tried to not wash it as often which only seems to make it worse. Does anyone have any advice for this? I imagine people with dry hair w/dandruff and oily hair w/dandruff must have different solutions? ( I use Loreal Professional for my shampoo & conditioner)", "How do you get rid of dandruff? I have extremely oily hair and seem to get dandruff at the same time? I have tried to not wash it as often which only seems to make it worse. Does anyone have any advice for this? I imagine people with dry hair w/dandruff and oily hair w/dandruff must have different solutions? ( I use Loreal Professional for my shampoo & conditioner)", "How do you get rid of dandruff? I have extremely oily hair and seem to get dandruff at the same time? I have tried to not wash it as often which only seems to make it worse. Does anyone have any advice for this? I imagine people with dry hair w/dandruff and oily hair w/dandruff must have different solutions? ( I use Loreal Professional for my shampoo & conditioner)" ]

[ "Try a scalp brush you can get on Amazon. It works amazing and great to get the shampoo rubbed right on the scalp.", "Have you looked into other shampoos? That’s quite often the case. I was told by a doctor that you still need to wash your scalp often (not necessarily the hair, but definitely the scalp). It’s skin just like any other part of your skin and if you don’t wash it, it gets oily and gross. So like you said, not washing it makes it worse.\n\nI don’t know if it’s accessible to you but I am using Rausch shampoos and conditioners, and they have fixed all my issues. (This is not a paid advertisement, I’m just genuinely very happy with how they’ve handled my hair.) Other cheaper option is Body Shop’s Ginger Shampoo that was amazing.", "Try different shampoo. Use shampoo for oily hair, give your hair a good through massage and maybe give it a thorough rinse through with water also try to not use too hot water.\n\nIf it still an issue maybe consult with a specialist", "Put about 6 drops of Tea Tree oil in your regular shampoo. My son had a bad case for years & nothing worked but this.", "Persistent dandruff that doesn't respond well to dandruff shampoo can sometimes indicate that you need to change your diet.\n\nPersonally, sugar is my Achilles heel. I have a very sweet tooth - but when I indulge i, I get awful dandruff. If I have a little self control for a few days, it goes away...", "I used to have dandruff, only solved it after using anti dandruff shampoo, but on top of that you have to scrub your hair using your fingers (instead of just rubbing your hands flat all over your head) Dont be afraid to use a bit more force while doing so. You may have to repeat this process for over a week or so, but it did solve my problems." ]

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[ "Any tips involving traveling internationally via plane I will be traveling from Asia to America to visit back home, and then return to Asia. I am looking for any tips to save $, time, or energy. Any tips are appreciated! Thanks.", "Any tips involving traveling internationally via plane I will be traveling from Asia to America to visit back home, and then return to Asia. I am looking for any tips to save $, time, or energy. Any tips are appreciated! Thanks.", "Any tips involving traveling internationally via plane I will be traveling from Asia to America to visit back home, and then return to Asia. I am looking for any tips to save $, time, or energy. Any tips are appreciated! Thanks.", "Any tips involving traveling internationally via plane I will be traveling from Asia to America to visit back home, and then return to Asia. I am looking for any tips to save $, time, or energy. Any tips are appreciated! Thanks." ]

[ "bring some cash in the local denominations, not all places will take a cr", "Do a search on /r/travel and you'll get tons of responses.\n\nNote, I say **search** ... don't just post a vague question.", "To combat jet lag, try to operate on the eating and sleeping schedule of the country you are traveling to. For example, if you land in Asia in the morning and all you want to do is sleep, fight the urge and go and have some breakfast instead!", "Find out about your bank and the country you are visiting bank policies before exchanging cash. Most banks charge around 10% to exchange currency and the currency exchange places in airports are closer to 20%.\n\nIn Europe, most bank at ATMs charge 1% and the. Whatever your bank charges (my bank charges me $1).\n\nOne caveat to this is that my bank immediately puts a security hold on my card until I call and confirm it was me in Europe. Either take enough out to last you or inform Your bank that you will be in a different country.\n\n\nAlso, I try to take a very long walk, around a mile if possible before boarding international flights, and it seems to help with general stiffness in my legs. \n\nAs for making phone calls, I have google voice that is set up to call back and it calls back to a free text messaging app number (pinger allows for free incoming calls). That way you can call home for free anytime you have internet access. It also turns my iPad into a free phone as well...\n\n" ]

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[ "How do you end a conversation without being rude when the other person won't stop talking. My dad does this all the time. I ask him a slightly open-ended question like, \"Why'd you get that model of computer?\" He begins answering, never pausing long enough for me to say a single word. He starts sort of on topic, then, five minutes later, he's taking about why you should never lend your friend an automobile. As he drones on, I do my best to tell him with body language that this isn't productive. I stare blankly at him. I look away. I stare at the ceiling and tap my foot. I have even slowly inched out of the room while he was talking. \n\nAnd in the end, he never even answered the question. Then he sort of wraps up, and turns his attention away with a \"nailed it\" look on his face, and I'm left dazed and alarmed, knowing nothing new related to my question.\n\nI need to be able to end these lectures before they kill me.\n\n", "How do you end a conversation without being rude when the other person won't stop talking. My dad does this all the time. I ask him a slightly open-ended question like, \"Why'd you get that model of computer?\" He begins answering, never pausing long enough for me to say a single word. He starts sort of on topic, then, five minutes later, he's taking about why you should never lend your friend an automobile. As he drones on, I do my best to tell him with body language that this isn't productive. I stare blankly at him. I look away. I stare at the ceiling and tap my foot. I have even slowly inched out of the room while he was talking. \n\nAnd in the end, he never even answered the question. Then he sort of wraps up, and turns his attention away with a \"nailed it\" look on his face, and I'm left dazed and alarmed, knowing nothing new related to my question.\n\nI need to be able to end these lectures before they kill me.\n\n", "How do you end a conversation without being rude when the other person won't stop talking. My dad does this all the time. I ask him a slightly open-ended question like, \"Why'd you get that model of computer?\" He begins answering, never pausing long enough for me to say a single word. He starts sort of on topic, then, five minutes later, he's taking about why you should never lend your friend an automobile. As he drones on, I do my best to tell him with body language that this isn't productive. I stare blankly at him. I look away. I stare at the ceiling and tap my foot. I have even slowly inched out of the room while he was talking. \n\nAnd in the end, he never even answered the question. Then he sort of wraps up, and turns his attention away with a \"nailed it\" look on his face, and I'm left dazed and alarmed, knowing nothing new related to my question.\n\nI need to be able to end these lectures before they kill me.\n\n", "How do you end a conversation without being rude when the other person won't stop talking. My dad does this all the time. I ask him a slightly open-ended question like, \"Why'd you get that model of computer?\" He begins answering, never pausing long enough for me to say a single word. He starts sort of on topic, then, five minutes later, he's taking about why you should never lend your friend an automobile. As he drones on, I do my best to tell him with body language that this isn't productive. I stare blankly at him. I look away. I stare at the ceiling and tap my foot. I have even slowly inched out of the room while he was talking. \n\nAnd in the end, he never even answered the question. Then he sort of wraps up, and turns his attention away with a \"nailed it\" look on his face, and I'm left dazed and alarmed, knowing nothing new related to my question.\n\nI need to be able to end these lectures before they kill me.\n\n", "How do you end a conversation without being rude when the other person won't stop talking. My dad does this all the time. I ask him a slightly open-ended question like, \"Why'd you get that model of computer?\" He begins answering, never pausing long enough for me to say a single word. He starts sort of on topic, then, five minutes later, he's taking about why you should never lend your friend an automobile. As he drones on, I do my best to tell him with body language that this isn't productive. I stare blankly at him. I look away. I stare at the ceiling and tap my foot. I have even slowly inched out of the room while he was talking. \n\nAnd in the end, he never even answered the question. Then he sort of wraps up, and turns his attention away with a \"nailed it\" look on his face, and I'm left dazed and alarmed, knowing nothing new related to my question.\n\nI need to be able to end these lectures before they kill me.\n\n", "How do you end a conversation without being rude when the other person won't stop talking. My dad does this all the time. I ask him a slightly open-ended question like, \"Why'd you get that model of computer?\" He begins answering, never pausing long enough for me to say a single word. He starts sort of on topic, then, five minutes later, he's taking about why you should never lend your friend an automobile. As he drones on, I do my best to tell him with body language that this isn't productive. I stare blankly at him. I look away. I stare at the ceiling and tap my foot. I have even slowly inched out of the room while he was talking. \n\nAnd in the end, he never even answered the question. 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Then he sort of wraps up, and turns his attention away with a \"nailed it\" look on his face, and I'm left dazed and alarmed, knowing nothing new related to my question.\n\nI need to be able to end these lectures before they kill me.\n\n", "How do you end a conversation without being rude when the other person won't stop talking. My dad does this all the time. I ask him a slightly open-ended question like, \"Why'd you get that model of computer?\" He begins answering, never pausing long enough for me to say a single word. He starts sort of on topic, then, five minutes later, he's taking about why you should never lend your friend an automobile. As he drones on, I do my best to tell him with body language that this isn't productive. I stare blankly at him. I look away. I stare at the ceiling and tap my foot. I have even slowly inched out of the room while he was talking. \n\nAnd in the end, he never even answered the question. Then he sort of wraps up, and turns his attention away with a \"nailed it\" look on his face, and I'm left dazed and alarmed, knowing nothing new related to my question.\n\nI need to be able to end these lectures before they kill me.\n\n", "How do you end a conversation without being rude when the other person won't stop talking. My dad does this all the time. I ask him a slightly open-ended question like, \"Why'd you get that model of computer?\" He begins answering, never pausing long enough for me to say a single word. He starts sort of on topic, then, five minutes later, he's taking about why you should never lend your friend an automobile. As he drones on, I do my best to tell him with body language that this isn't productive. I stare blankly at him. I look away. I stare at the ceiling and tap my foot. I have even slowly inched out of the room while he was talking. \n\nAnd in the end, he never even answered the question. Then he sort of wraps up, and turns his attention away with a \"nailed it\" look on his face, and I'm left dazed and alarmed, knowing nothing new related to my question.\n\nI need to be able to end these lectures before they kill me.\n\n", "How do you end a conversation without being rude when the other person won't stop talking. My dad does this all the time. I ask him a slightly open-ended question like, \"Why'd you get that model of computer?\" He begins answering, never pausing long enough for me to say a single word. He starts sort of on topic, then, five minutes later, he's taking about why you should never lend your friend an automobile. As he drones on, I do my best to tell him with body language that this isn't productive. I stare blankly at him. I look away. I stare at the ceiling and tap my foot. I have even slowly inched out of the room while he was talking. \n\nAnd in the end, he never even answered the question. Then he sort of wraps up, and turns his attention away with a \"nailed it\" look on his face, and I'm left dazed and alarmed, knowing nothing new related to my question.\n\nI need to be able to end these lectures before they kill me.\n\n", "How do you end a conversation without being rude when the other person won't stop talking. My dad does this all the time. I ask him a slightly open-ended question like, \"Why'd you get that model of computer?\" He begins answering, never pausing long enough for me to say a single word. He starts sort of on topic, then, five minutes later, he's taking about why you should never lend your friend an automobile. As he drones on, I do my best to tell him with body language that this isn't productive. I stare blankly at him. I look away. I stare at the ceiling and tap my foot. I have even slowly inched out of the room while he was talking. \n\nAnd in the end, he never even answered the question. Then he sort of wraps up, and turns his attention away with a \"nailed it\" look on his face, and I'm left dazed and alarmed, knowing nothing new related to my question.\n\nI need to be able to end these lectures before they kill me.\n\n", "How do you end a conversation without being rude when the other person won't stop talking. My dad does this all the time. I ask him a slightly open-ended question like, \"Why'd you get that model of computer?\" He begins answering, never pausing long enough for me to say a single word. He starts sort of on topic, then, five minutes later, he's taking about why you should never lend your friend an automobile. As he drones on, I do my best to tell him with body language that this isn't productive. I stare blankly at him. I look away. I stare at the ceiling and tap my foot. I have even slowly inched out of the room while he was talking. \n\nAnd in the end, he never even answered the question. Then he sort of wraps up, and turns his attention away with a \"nailed it\" look on his face, and I'm left dazed and alarmed, knowing nothing new related to my question.\n\nI need to be able to end these lectures before they kill me.\n\n", "How do you end a conversation without being rude when the other person won't stop talking. My dad does this all the time. I ask him a slightly open-ended question like, \"Why'd you get that model of computer?\" He begins answering, never pausing long enough for me to say a single word. He starts sort of on topic, then, five minutes later, he's taking about why you should never lend your friend an automobile. As he drones on, I do my best to tell him with body language that this isn't productive. I stare blankly at him. I look away. I stare at the ceiling and tap my foot. I have even slowly inched out of the room while he was talking. \n\nAnd in the end, he never even answered the question. Then he sort of wraps up, and turns his attention away with a \"nailed it\" look on his face, and I'm left dazed and alarmed, knowing nothing new related to my question.\n\nI need to be able to end these lectures before they kill me.\n\n", "How do you end a conversation without being rude when the other person won't stop talking. My dad does this all the time. I ask him a slightly open-ended question like, \"Why'd you get that model of computer?\" He begins answering, never pausing long enough for me to say a single word. He starts sort of on topic, then, five minutes later, he's taking about why you should never lend your friend an automobile. As he drones on, I do my best to tell him with body language that this isn't productive. I stare blankly at him. I look away. I stare at the ceiling and tap my foot. I have even slowly inched out of the room while he was talking. \n\nAnd in the end, he never even answered the question. Then he sort of wraps up, and turns his attention away with a \"nailed it\" look on his face, and I'm left dazed and alarmed, knowing nothing new related to my question.\n\nI need to be able to end these lectures before they kill me.\n\n", "How do you end a conversation without being rude when the other person won't stop talking. My dad does this all the time. I ask him a slightly open-ended question like, \"Why'd you get that model of computer?\" He begins answering, never pausing long enough for me to say a single word. He starts sort of on topic, then, five minutes later, he's taking about why you should never lend your friend an automobile. As he drones on, I do my best to tell him with body language that this isn't productive. I stare blankly at him. I look away. I stare at the ceiling and tap my foot. I have even slowly inched out of the room while he was talking. \n\nAnd in the end, he never even answered the question. Then he sort of wraps up, and turns his attention away with a \"nailed it\" look on his face, and I'm left dazed and alarmed, knowing nothing new related to my question.\n\nI need to be able to end these lectures before they kill me.\n\n", "How do you end a conversation without being rude when the other person won't stop talking. My dad does this all the time. I ask him a slightly open-ended question like, \"Why'd you get that model of computer?\" He begins answering, never pausing long enough for me to say a single word. He starts sort of on topic, then, five minutes later, he's taking about why you should never lend your friend an automobile. As he drones on, I do my best to tell him with body language that this isn't productive. I stare blankly at him. I look away. I stare at the ceiling and tap my foot. I have even slowly inched out of the room while he was talking. \n\nAnd in the end, he never even answered the question. Then he sort of wraps up, and turns his attention away with a \"nailed it\" look on his face, and I'm left dazed and alarmed, knowing nothing new related to my question.\n\nI need to be able to end these lectures before they kill me.\n\n", "How do you end a conversation without being rude when the other person won't stop talking. My dad does this all the time. I ask him a slightly open-ended question like, \"Why'd you get that model of computer?\" He begins answering, never pausing long enough for me to say a single word. He starts sort of on topic, then, five minutes later, he's taking about why you should never lend your friend an automobile. As he drones on, I do my best to tell him with body language that this isn't productive. I stare blankly at him. I look away. I stare at the ceiling and tap my foot. I have even slowly inched out of the room while he was talking. \n\nAnd in the end, he never even answered the question. Then he sort of wraps up, and turns his attention away with a \"nailed it\" look on his face, and I'm left dazed and alarmed, knowing nothing new related to my question.\n\nI need to be able to end these lectures before they kill me.\n\n", "How do you end a conversation without being rude when the other person won't stop talking. My dad does this all the time. I ask him a slightly open-ended question like, \"Why'd you get that model of computer?\" He begins answering, never pausing long enough for me to say a single word. He starts sort of on topic, then, five minutes later, he's taking about why you should never lend your friend an automobile. As he drones on, I do my best to tell him with body language that this isn't productive. I stare blankly at him. I look away. I stare at the ceiling and tap my foot. I have even slowly inched out of the room while he was talking. \n\nAnd in the end, he never even answered the question. Then he sort of wraps up, and turns his attention away with a \"nailed it\" look on his face, and I'm left dazed and alarmed, knowing nothing new related to my question.\n\nI need to be able to end these lectures before they kill me.\n\n", "How do you end a conversation without being rude when the other person won't stop talking. My dad does this all the time. I ask him a slightly open-ended question like, \"Why'd you get that model of computer?\" He begins answering, never pausing long enough for me to say a single word. He starts sort of on topic, then, five minutes later, he's taking about why you should never lend your friend an automobile. As he drones on, I do my best to tell him with body language that this isn't productive. I stare blankly at him. I look away. I stare at the ceiling and tap my foot. I have even slowly inched out of the room while he was talking. \n\nAnd in the end, he never even answered the question. Then he sort of wraps up, and turns his attention away with a \"nailed it\" look on his face, and I'm left dazed and alarmed, knowing nothing new related to my question.\n\nI need to be able to end these lectures before they kill me.\n\n" ]

[ "I'm a serial droner.\nMy wife holds up her hand and says \"I'm sorry, none of this is very interesting to me.\"\nMy younger co-workers start looking at their phones, become absorbed and then glance up with a sort of \"I'm sorry, were you saying something?\" expression.\nOne of my kids will blurt out \"Oh! My! GOD! Are you still talking?\" and walk away.\nAll of these approaches are extremely effective and I don't take them too badly.\n", "I always use what my dad says all the time. \"I'm gonna let you get back to what you were doing\". That way it seems like you are being nice to them and not just trying to get away", "\"I dont mean to be rude, but I have to go. We'll catch up later.\"\n\nDo not say second part if they are a stranger you'll never see again.", "It baffles me sometimes that people can be so oblivious to body language and social cues, even when you're trying to make it painfully obvious. This is a tough one to walk, but you just need to become comfortable with cutting in, and dominating the conversation. Not too aggressively or rudely, just to assert that you are *also* part of this conversation, and that this is not simply an opportunity to let you hear yourself speak.", "Perhaps the open ended question should be: \"Dad, I notice that a lot of times when we talk, you seem to get in a zone and it's hard for me to be able to interact with you. I don't want to be rude, but I'd love to be able to participate. How can I do that without being rude? \"\n\nThen, you have his permission to do what he suggests. \n\n", "It's rude to babble endlessly and waste someone's time. It is **not** rude to blurt out \"Hold up a sec, I really didn't need all that info and I can't chat right now. We'll talk more later.\"", "You say in a rushed voice \"I gotta go, my fridge is running\" and you turn and leave the room without looking back.", "I have to do this all the time at work. I'm a stage manager and actors, but especially directors drone on off topic all the time.\n\nMy approach depends if I need an answer from them or if they are waxing philosophical. \n\nIf I need an answer, I'll interject with a polite \"Excuse me ________ but we were first talking about X and I need an answer because Y (the costumer has to leave by 5, or we must start rehearsal so we leave on time.) I find giving a reason or deadline tends to get the most succinct answer. Usually they don't realize that they've been talking for so long. \n\nIf they're rambling, I may sheepdog them a little by asking questions. Just enough to be engaged but keep them from randomly switching from unrelated topics. ", "\"Hey man I'm not trying to cut you off but. ..\" can you answer my question? I gotta get ready for work. Call on the other line. Gotta poo. ", "My uncle once told me it's always important to have a wrist watch in business dealings as you can always glance at it and have an excuse to leave", "Sneak a fake blood capsule into your mouth. Start drooling blood and rolling your eyes back into your head when you want to leave.", "Could someone follow up on what to do when your coworker does this and they are the only resource available to you? :) Thanks!", "A good laugh is a good exit strategy. Whether you crack the joke or they do, it's the perfect interruption to turn around, start your exit, or even segue into some other topic, etc. It ends the conversation at a good place too.", "When I visit my parents my step father starts talking to me the moment I arrive, often a very 1 sided conversation due to its topic being completely ridiculous and opinionated on his part.\n\nHe will talk, non-stop, for the ENTIRE time that he is awake regardless whether or not I'm participating in the conversation. \n\nIt's tiring and I don't understand why he can't stop.\n\nThe worst part is that I've heard all of it before, multiple times, so all I can do is smile and nod and try not to hurt his feelings. ", "seriously: i go like that:\n\nyou have been talking for the last 5 min straight, now it is my turn.\n\nif we have a conversation it will be 50 50 , otherwise it is no fun for me...\n\nafter I say this 2 times, i shrug and say, i told ya, bye", "I have to do this on a daily bases.... being a manager i have to show interest in what ever subject is exiting my employees face holes. so i have a method that i have coined the talk and walk. This requires that you show the same level of interest in what that person is talking about as they do. Then you force a comment into the conversation could be something like \"so what you mean is\" or \" that's exactly what im talking about.\" after that first comment it is important that you keep talking do not pause even if they start talking again, just keep talking. as you do this for the next 10 to 30 seconds to start walking away but still dont leave room for the other person to interject. The last piece takes some practice but you end there conversation. by the time you end it you are out of the room and around the corner... 60% of the time it works every time. PS If they follow you, ask them why they are following you. Say im going to the bathroom stop following me unless you want to hold it.... yes.... im not a very good manager....", "Just be honest and tell them you want to leave, no matter how badly it hurts their feelings, and then leave no matter what they say. If they want to cry, let them cry.", "Don't be afraid to interject. You're having a conversation, not asking to hear a monologue. When they go off topic, politely but firmly mention that they're doing so, and restate the question in a simpler way if you have to. Mentioning why you need to know what you're asking and providing an example of the kind of answer you're expecting to hear usually helps people take that hint. Once you get your answer, thank them and leave the conversation. Even if you can't physically leave, make it clear with both words and body language that the conversation is over. But again, be polite about it. A simple \"thanks, I get it now\" or something along those lines should do the trick.", "Any excuse. Usually getting a drink, bathroom, you just saw someone you know, you have to tell someone something. Anything really that requires some type of ", "\"Too many details!\"\n\nDon't be afraid to cut people off, wasting your time is no less rude than interrupting", "\"Oooo I need to refill my drink, BRB.\"\n\nThis might be slightly awkward if you *don't have* a drink in your hand, but whatever. Just try it.\n\nAlso, Jack Donaghy from 30 Rock had a hand gesture that could immediately stop any person from talking. I'm trying to find an image of that on Google, but no luck so far!", "Tell them you'll continue on the conversation in a bit, then excuse yourself, my mother in law has a motor mouth and no ears, I suspect she's just thinking out loud and confirming with others", "Sometimes you just have to use a small excuse like getting a drink. If you can't get away immediately, walk off. Or take out your phone and set an alarm and pretend it's a phone call.\n\nIf you're visiting someone who likes to talk, tell them you have to leave earlier than you should, that way if they continue talking then you still have extra time. If not, then you have a lot time before you need to do whatever. ", "Sometimes I say \"I'm really sorry, but I have *got* to go to the bathroom.\" Then I go. It's a little crass, but people rarely stop you, and don't get as offended since you're admitting something embarrassing.\n", "Quoted George Carlin once today, might as well make it two!\n\n(mild context: George on dealing with parents showing off photos of their kids)\n\n\"[Hmm.. okay.. boy.. girl ...older boy... older girl.] Listen I gotta go wash my crotch, I'll see ya' later.\"", "Oh man this happens to me with a guy I work with. I once told him that my wife (who is ill) and baby boy (who was ill at the time also) were not doing great and needed a lot of attention. He then joined the conversation saying how once, when on holiday a family member had hurt his leg and he had to help him walk around etc, 40 or so minutes later, after dropping in and out of listening to his drivel, he is talking about a video game that's coming out that he is looking forward to playing. I don't know how he got to this topic as he had been talking in one seamless link. I ended it by saying 'so yeah I'm sure my family will be fine' and walking away.\n\nThis is common occurrence with this man. I can't have a conversation with him and it's just me and him at work most if the time:-/ ", "I have this problem with a guy at work with terrible breath and body odor. The best way to avoid this problem is to avoid him one on one. It's much harder for him to dominate a conversation when there are three of us. Failing that (no one wants to talk with a stinky serial yakker any more than I do), I say \"How about that. Well, I'm up to my ass in alligators, catch you later.\" ", "I have this happen on a daily basis. Working in a shop I get every kind of person from old people to loners who have no one to talk to. Nice friendly engaging people are good, but anyone else just seems to think giving you their life story as to why they are purchasing a certain cable is the best use of their time. I wish I could have a sure fire exit strategy for every person.", "Hehehe what a topper. Boy do I know my fair share of wafflers. In fact just yesterday I was speaking to my buddy Dave about a guy called Kevin who I work with. Once he starts you won't stop him. Sometimes he'll be telling us all a story about his weekend and Janet (our boss) will come in and say something like \"shut up, Kevin, you've got work to do\". But like I say, once Kevin's on a roll there's nothing you can do until he runs out of steam.I don't mind so much though. Breaks up my day a little. See I work at a desk all day and it's difficult to fight boredom sometimes, so I'm totally fine with Kevin telling me about that one time he thought he was late for a dinner party but he was actually 2 days early. Don't get me wrong, Kevin's a great worker but he's easily distracted. Plus Janet doesn't really get the best out of him. I think she's just bored with her job though. I mean she's been here 14 years. And it's not as if there's any room for her to be promoted - she's kind of at her peak now. Gee I reckon I'd struggle to carry it on with enthusiasm for as long as she has. I mean I've only been here 5 years and like I say, I get so bored sometimes I need to listen to kevin.\n\nAnyway hope this helps.", "First off, you need to be decisive. You can't sit their feeling increasingly uncomfortable waiting for them to finish. You have to say in your head \"I'm not enjoying this. I barely even know this person and/or don't care about this subject and/or don't have time. I'm going to end this NOW.\" I've wasted too many minutes in my life thinking \"Well, this is terrible but...they'll probably finish soon. Okay they haven't finished and its been 2 minutes, but that must mean they're going to finish soon right?\" and so on ad nauseum.\n\nSo yeah. Be decisive. For me that's the easy part. Beyond that, I find that you HAVE TO BE WILLING TO INTERRUPT THEM. And not just....say something and hope they stop talking. TALK OVER THEM. They're being assholes dominating the conversation so you have to assert YOUR conversational dominance by saying something and refusing to shut up. If they don't stop talking to listen, that's their prob.\n\nAnd then finally, just leave. I will just be like \"hey, sorry to cut you off, but I have to go - have a great day\" WHILE starting to walk away. And nothing they say will cause me to stop walking. Even if they're like \"wait, what about....\" I'm like \"ANOTHER TIME SORRY BYE\" and never stop moving. Don't give them any hope of continuing to talk. If they follow you, break into a run, hopefully taking cover in a nearby alleyway to ditch them. (I'm only half-joking about the last line).", "Alright, here's how you do it.\n\n\n1. Take a step back. \n2. Then half a step back. \n3. Slowly begin to crouch.\n4. Stop halfway.\n5. Swing like mad and FALCON KICK.\n6. In the face.", "\"Sorry to interrupt but I have an appointment, we'll have to finish this conversation another time. Good to see you!\"", "it's kinda common in my country to be involved in this situation (I'm a south east asian) and here's a trick I use to politely end a conversation:\n\nWhen you think they've talk enough, just say \"Ehm, I have to go now\" but don't immediately go! Talk about something, like for example why you have to go (\"I think I wanna grab some turkey. It's been a while since I ate one. The last time was when I went to Aunt Lily's party, you remember it right?\". This is a way to show that you actually love to talk with them, but you just have really to go (even for mundane things).\n\nThey will talk again, but won't as long as the first talk as they know you need to go. Soon after they stop, you should say something like \"Ok Pa, love to talk to you\" and go.", "When it comes to your dad, I'd probably just interrupt him mid-lecture and ask \"So why'd you get that model of computer again?\" Or, \"Back to the computer...\" I don't think your dad is intentionally lecturing you, he probably thinks he's giving you some sound advice. Your dad may be offended at first, but he's your dad. He'll get over it. He probably doesn't even realize he's doing the rambling so help steer him back on track. \n\nWhen it comes to visiting your relatives for Thanksgiving, nod, smile and tune them out, Office Space style. ", "There's a guy I know that does this. I just start going 'uh huh,..... yeah,.... yeah..... OK......\" and just walk away while doing that. He never really seems to notice. ", "There is no way without physically leaving. With a guy in work I have tried going from nodding, to just a blank look, even to just reading a paper - doesn't work. I have tried saying I need to go and even being half way out of the door and they continue. So I just leave.", "The only safe way of doing this is limiting your responses.\n\nStop answering questions and slowly become **totally** quiet, this works surprisingly well.", "Some people have the inability to read emotions or body language from other people as a form of communication.\n\nBut regardless of who you are talking to, it is never inappropriate to politely but confidently raise your hand up and say, \"Excuse me, but I am going to interrupt you here...I missed the actual reason you bought this model computer.\" \n\nAnd keep doing it every time they get off track. I have done this in several conversations over the years, and I have never had anyone take noticeable offense to being interrupted and redirected.", "Say \"ok then, talk to you later\" and start to walk away. That should prompt them to take the hint and say goodbye too.", "On the less confrontational approach download some software on your phone that brings in a fake call when you press your power button a few times. It will ring and even have a prerecorded \"Hello\". Google fake call apps.", "My wife and I are both prone to this when we are over tired or stressed. We have learned to put up a hand and say: \"I am not actually taking in any more of this\"\n\nI learned it from this Far Side Cartoon\n\nhttps://www.google.com.au/url?sa=i&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=images&cd=&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=0CAcQjRw&url=http%3A%2F%2Fircamera.as.arizona.edu%2FNatSci102%2FNatSci102%2Fimages%2Fextbrainfull.htm&ei=ZEJTVKGxKqPCmwWuvILYDw&psig=AFQjCNFLrLYiDLuA1ebv4lfZLqWmyaOEAg&ust=1414829039266102 ", "My husbands family has issues with repeating the same long stories we've heard a million times. When that happens we just hold up fingers for how many times we've heard the story, like 7 fingers and stand there until they notice. Then everyone ends up laughing about it and we move on to a different topic. ", "I'm a banker and this is the worst thing clients do. After they have completed their transaction, certain clients begin telling stories that I have Zero interest in. I politely smile, get up from the chair and extend my hand for a handshake, and say \"It was a pleaseure meeting you, give me a call if you have any questions.\" Sometimes works, but there are clients that actually go \"but I haven't even finished telling you this....\"", "I feel your pain. My husband is like this. I just tune him out and ignore him. He probably knows I am ignoring him, he just loves listening to the sound of his own voice.", "Depends on the person....but sometimes if you touch them, like on the shoulder, it resets their brain and buys you that opening you need to say \"Let me stop you there, I have to get going now\". Obviously you don't want to be touching people at work or total stranger, but it works fine for friends and family who are usually the worst offenders.", "Body language. I dont rember where I learned it, may have even been from a thread on Reddit.\n\nCross your arms. This subtly lets the other person know you are no longer interested in interacting with them.\n\nPoint your feet away from them, slowly rotating yourself away more and more until you are essentially showing them the side of your hip.\n\nBegin to break eye contact, perhaps even raise your eyebrows or purse your lips ever so slightly.\n\nShuffle away from them, the more distance you put between you and the \"droner\" the more all of these things should start to register.\n\nAnd if they still dont get the hint after all this, you might just have to grow a pair and be a little more direct about your disinterest in continuing the conversation.", "1)Ask what time it is\n\n2)Freak out and repeat the time\n\n3)Run away.\n\nExample:\n\n\"What time is it?\"\n\n\"3:45\"\n\n\"3:45?!\"\n\nThen you leave urgently", "always have a skateboard or one of those furniture moving dolleys maybe even roller skates and just casually push yourself away from them without breaking eye contact they wont notice as you are getting really small. and still keep talking then you make your escape and walk away.", "Look at the time! Sorry, I need to jet, I have an appointment. Great to see you, I always enjoy out time together so much. Until next time, tata!" ]

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[ "How to \"train\" yourself or \"learn\" to stop drooling when you sleep. Hey LPT, \nI know this may sound odd, but recently I find myself waking up to me having drooled in my sleep, specifically in my beard/goatee. Normally I don't have a problem with a little spittle, its natural right?, but for a while it's been an everyday occurrence.\nI'm just wondering if anyone else has had this \"problem\" and if so, have you corrected it? Many thanks.", "How to \"train\" yourself or \"learn\" to stop drooling when you sleep. Hey LPT, \nI know this may sound odd, but recently I find myself waking up to me having drooled in my sleep, specifically in my beard/goatee. Normally I don't have a problem with a little spittle, its natural right?, but for a while it's been an everyday occurrence.\nI'm just wondering if anyone else has had this \"problem\" and if so, have you corrected it? Many thanks.", "How to \"train\" yourself or \"learn\" to stop drooling when you sleep. Hey LPT, \nI know this may sound odd, but recently I find myself waking up to me having drooled in my sleep, specifically in my beard/goatee. Normally I don't have a problem with a little spittle, its natural right?, but for a while it's been an everyday occurrence.\nI'm just wondering if anyone else has had this \"problem\" and if so, have you corrected it? Many thanks.", "How to \"train\" yourself or \"learn\" to stop drooling when you sleep. Hey LPT, \nI know this may sound odd, but recently I find myself waking up to me having drooled in my sleep, specifically in my beard/goatee. Normally I don't have a problem with a little spittle, its natural right?, but for a while it's been an everyday occurrence.\nI'm just wondering if anyone else has had this \"problem\" and if so, have you corrected it? Many thanks.", "How to \"train\" yourself or \"learn\" to stop drooling when you sleep. Hey LPT, \nI know this may sound odd, but recently I find myself waking up to me having drooled in my sleep, specifically in my beard/goatee. Normally I don't have a problem with a little spittle, its natural right?, but for a while it's been an everyday occurrence.\nI'm just wondering if anyone else has had this \"problem\" and if so, have you corrected it? Many thanks.", "How to \"train\" yourself or \"learn\" to stop drooling when you sleep. Hey LPT, \nI know this may sound odd, but recently I find myself waking up to me having drooled in my sleep, specifically in my beard/goatee. Normally I don't have a problem with a little spittle, its natural right?, but for a while it's been an everyday occurrence.\nI'm just wondering if anyone else has had this \"problem\" and if so, have you corrected it? Many thanks.", "How to \"train\" yourself or \"learn\" to stop drooling when you sleep. Hey LPT, \nI know this may sound odd, but recently I find myself waking up to me having drooled in my sleep, specifically in my beard/goatee. Normally I don't have a problem with a little spittle, its natural right?, but for a while it's been an everyday occurrence.\nI'm just wondering if anyone else has had this \"problem\" and if so, have you corrected it? Many thanks.", "How to \"train\" yourself or \"learn\" to stop drooling when you sleep. Hey LPT, \nI know this may sound odd, but recently I find myself waking up to me having drooled in my sleep, specifically in my beard/goatee. Normally I don't have a problem with a little spittle, its natural right?, but for a while it's been an everyday occurrence.\nI'm just wondering if anyone else has had this \"problem\" and if so, have you corrected it? Many thanks." ]

[ "Please remember, trying to do this sort of thing can cause a sort of muscular TMJ. Your jaw should hang loose in a relaxed position, clenching your teeth can lead to grinding in your sleep and cause other issues. Please be careful with this. (Spittle vs TMJ pain, I would take the spittle anyday.) ", "I sleep with a cpap machine at night, the mask only covers my nose so I have to have my mouth closed when I sleep. One of the tricks I used to help train me is to stick my tongue to the roof of my mouth. Do this and suck all the air out of your mouth and it can help keep your mouth shut at night. If all else fails you can buy a chin strap for cpap users and keep it closed that way.", "I would love to know this too. Since that became a problem to me, I sleep hugging a soft towel, or sleep on my back. It's awful when I wake up all drooled over, I feel ashamed, dirty, and with desire of waking up my husband to show him my stupidity.\n\nSeems like I have a breathing problem, something in my nose.", "It can be done! I was a drooler, but I've stopped. I placed my teeth together, not clenching, and created some mild suction. Similar to mundanenoodle but I made a point to maintain a slight negative pressure. After a few months you might wish to retrain yourself to separate your teeth and stop sucking, because stagnant saliva will give you morning breath from hell.", "I like to roll up a small blanket or towel and place it under my chin, and this keeps my jaw gently closed. ", "I have always had the problem that if breathing through my nose makes any kind of noise, I end up opening my mouth and breathing that way. I've been trying to make adjustments but it's hard - making sure my nose doesn't whistle is key. Sometimes it helps to put the bottom sheet across my mouth - I can still breathe through it, but my body prefers to shift to nasal breathing. ", "I also want to know this because of tooth decay (if you sleep with your open mouth you will have tooth decay).\n\nWhat I have done for the last 2-3 nights, is right before my sleep, I tell myself \"do not open your mouth, your teeth will thank you and remember dentist aren't cheap and it's painful\" very firm, I don't know if it has worked, but at least I \"feel\" like it is.\n\nIf you try this, please let me know the results.", "Oh and I just remembered, I don't know if this is truth but my mom thinks that when you drool at night it's because you have stomach parasites (sorry if this doesn't make sense, I don't know how to say it in English) so you may want to deworm (?) yourself... ask your doctor." ]

[ 6, 5, 2, 1, 1, 1, -3, -4 ]

[ "Dealing with a craving for intimacy. I used to say \"loneliness,\" but that's not it. I'm not lonely, I have plenty of friends, and I talk with my family regularly. But sometimes, it really hurts not to have someone that I can be physically and emotionally intimate with. How do I cope? What do I do to deal with that healthily?", "Dealing with a craving for intimacy. I used to say \"loneliness,\" but that's not it. I'm not lonely, I have plenty of friends, and I talk with my family regularly. But sometimes, it really hurts not to have someone that I can be physically and emotionally intimate with. How do I cope? What do I do to deal with that healthily?" ]

[ "It's normal and human to crave physical/emotional intimacy. It's something that almost everybody wants.\n\nThe goal shouldn't be to stop wanting it, but to stop NEEDING it. You shouldn't stop being happy when you have it; You should just focus on not being sad when you don't have it.\n\nI think the best way to eliminate this \"Need\" is to work on your own self-love and confidence. This is a topic larger than I could detail in a single post but I'd be happy to point you towards some resources or give some general tips.", "This might be harder for men, but become closer with your friends. Physically and emotionally, hug them if you want, tell them that you love them, etc. Show them that you really care about them and having them say/do those things back.\n\n\nThat won't replace sex and romantic intimacy but it will help with some of the cravings" ]

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[ "How to stop people (kindly) from interrupting you during conversation. I am a pretty well rounded guy with a loud voice, however this does not stop people randomly from interrupting me during conversations throughout the day. Besides from untucking my penis and letting my balls drop, what is a good way to not be interrupted?", "How to stop people (kindly) from interrupting you during conversation. I am a pretty well rounded guy with a loud voice, however this does not stop people randomly from interrupting me during conversations throughout the day. Besides from untucking my penis and letting my balls drop, what is a good way to not be interrupted?", "How to stop people (kindly) from interrupting you during conversation. I am a pretty well rounded guy with a loud voice, however this does not stop people randomly from interrupting me during conversations throughout the day. Besides from untucking my penis and letting my balls drop, what is a good way to not be interrupted?", "How to stop people (kindly) from interrupting you during conversation. I am a pretty well rounded guy with a loud voice, however this does not stop people randomly from interrupting me during conversations throughout the day. Besides from untucking my penis and letting my balls drop, what is a good way to not be interrupted?", "How to stop people (kindly) from interrupting you during conversation. I am a pretty well rounded guy with a loud voice, however this does not stop people randomly from interrupting me during conversations throughout the day. Besides from untucking my penis and letting my balls drop, what is a good way to not be interrupted?", "How to stop people (kindly) from interrupting you during conversation. I am a pretty well rounded guy with a loud voice, however this does not stop people randomly from interrupting me during conversations throughout the day. Besides from untucking my penis and letting my balls drop, what is a good way to not be interrupted?", "How to stop people (kindly) from interrupting you during conversation. I am a pretty well rounded guy with a loud voice, however this does not stop people randomly from interrupting me during conversations throughout the day. Besides from untucking my penis and letting my balls drop, what is a good way to not be interrupted?", "How to stop people (kindly) from interrupting you during conversation. I am a pretty well rounded guy with a loud voice, however this does not stop people randomly from interrupting me during conversations throughout the day. Besides from untucking my penis and letting my balls drop, what is a good way to not be interrupted?", "How to stop people (kindly) from interrupting you during conversation. I am a pretty well rounded guy with a loud voice, however this does not stop people randomly from interrupting me during conversations throughout the day. Besides from untucking my penis and letting my balls drop, what is a good way to not be interrupted?", "How to stop people (kindly) from interrupting you during conversation. I am a pretty well rounded guy with a loud voice, however this does not stop people randomly from interrupting me during conversations throughout the day. Besides from untucking my penis and letting my balls drop, what is a good way to not be interrupted?", "How to stop people (kindly) from interrupting you during conversation. I am a pretty well rounded guy with a loud voice, however this does not stop people randomly from interrupting me during conversations throughout the day. Besides from untucking my penis and letting my balls drop, what is a good way to not be interrupted?", "How to stop people (kindly) from interrupting you during conversation. I am a pretty well rounded guy with a loud voice, however this does not stop people randomly from interrupting me during conversations throughout the day. Besides from untucking my penis and letting my balls drop, what is a good way to not be interrupted?", "How to stop people (kindly) from interrupting you during conversation. I am a pretty well rounded guy with a loud voice, however this does not stop people randomly from interrupting me during conversations throughout the day. Besides from untucking my penis and letting my balls drop, what is a good way to not be interrupted?" ]

[ "First you should ask yourself if you have been the only person talking for the last few minutes. Sometimes the only way for someone to get a word in edgewise is for them to interrupt someone who won't yield the floor. \n\nEspecially if you claim to already be loud and being interrupted is a regular occurrence you should pay attention to how long you're talking or if you're speaking in a way that doesn't allow the free flow of conversation. ", "I've learned to generally just keep talking as they interrupt you. Once both of you finish a sentence just stare at them because neither one of you heard what the other was saying.", "I'm one of those people who barely ever says anything in group conversations, but when I do I tend to get interrupted anyway. Nothing kills your confidence like being interrupted when you find it hard mustering up the courage to speak. Like if you felt as thought what you'd have to say would be stupid/boring before, it basically feels confirmed now. This is like 90% of the reason I just don't talk in groups now.\n\nSo alt LPT: Don't interrupt quiet people when they talk, if you do, apologise and stop talking. ", "Interrupt the interrupter and proclaim loudly that you are gonna let them finish, but Kanye West was the best interrupter of all time. Did this once, and was never interrupted again by a certain individual.", "Honestly? I don't think there's a nice way to put it. Sometimes I'll say something like \"let me finish and then you can tell your story\" or I just deal with it. ", "The look.\n\nTell them once, while giving a look the moment they realize what they're doing.\n\nIn the future, that look will become a trigger.\n\nI don't recommend crossing your eyes and sticking your tongue out; be clear.", "Truly pisses me off when people interrupt other people. I usually wait until the interrupter has finished whatever they said, then say something like \"Bob, let's talk about that; but first, John, do you mind finishing what you were saying a minute ago?\"\n\nWhen you're the interruptee, this also works, but you have to concentrate crazy hard on remembering what you were saying, because the natural tendency is for your train of thought to get derailed. You can make a quick note on a pad if you're in a meeting. \"Bob, I want to address what you just said, but do you mind if I finish what I was saying first?\"\n\nMost people aren't aware that they interrupt and I've found that people will often apologize when I address it this way.", "I do this in a lot of ways, including using humor. If I'm interrupted, I'll wait a few seconds and interrupt the person who interrupted and say, \"Go ahead, you explain it.\" ", "1) Make you are saying very brief and very interesting. \n\n2) Spend more time listening than talking. ", "The solution depends on why you are being interrupted. Which of the following is the situation:\n\n- The person thinks you have a great idea and chimes in with a \"yes and\"? (option a)\n\n- The person thinks you have a terrible idea and chimes in with a list of reasons why it won't work? (option b)\n\n- The person is trying to connect with you and chimes in with a \"how I can relate to that\"? (option c)\n\n- The person thinks you are taking too long to get to your point and interrupts you with instructions to hurry yourself along? (option d)\n\n- The person changes the topic entirely? (option e)\n\n---\n\n**Option A:** You may not be out of words you'd planned to say, but honey give yourself a pat on the back, because you are such an excellent communicator that your idea jumped from your mind to the interrupter's mind and they know exactly where you are going with it and are excited and can even see an improvement you haven't considered. Aside from the issue of rudeness, ask yourself how practical it is in that situation that you finish your pre-prepared words since you know that your audience is already at the end of your pre-prepared speech, vs just moving ahead with the plans. Basically: ego vs expediency.\n\n**Option B:** You may not be out of words you'd planned to say, but honey give yourself a pat on the back, because you are such an excellent communicator that your idea jumped from your mind to the interrupter's mind and they know exactly where you are going with it and have already had the time to find faults with your plans as described. Aside from the issue of rudeness, ask yourself how practical it is in that situation that you finish your pre-prepared words since you know that your audience is already at the end of your pre-prepared speech, vs discussing how to solve those issues. Basically: ego vs expediency.\n\n**Option C:** Someone cares about you! Aside from the issue of rudeness, ask yourself how practical it is in that situation that you finish your pre-prepared words vs gaining a new friend or strengthen a friendship. Ego vs human connection.\n\n**Option D:** You probably are being a bit long winded/bombastic, especially if no one else in your listening audience is chiding the interrupter. Get to the point or find more patient people to talk with.\n\n**Option E:** Either you are beating a dead horse or the interrupter is narcissistic (if they've changed the topic to talk about them). Either way, excusing yourself from the conversation is the best call as you can either not read the social cues or are stuck talking with a Trump. Neither are a good place for you to be and neither will validate you. Don't put yourself in a negative energy space.", "I had a teacher back in high school who said something to me that always stuck: \"People aren't only listening to what you're saying, they're thinking of what they want to say back and are waiting for their chance to talk.\"", ">Besides from untucking my penis and letting my balls drop\n\n---\nyou know with that kind of attitude, no wonder you get mad when other people have things to say. just lighten up and don't take everything personally.", "Wait for your own opportunity to interrupt them....they will quickly understand ..this is about as polit e as it gets " ]

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[ "How to not sweat like a pig when out on the dance floor I have some pretty sick moves, but when I step off the dance floor to buy drinks and make connections, I have a face full of water. Any tips to be more attractive after cutting some shapes?", "How to not sweat like a pig when out on the dance floor I have some pretty sick moves, but when I step off the dance floor to buy drinks and make connections, I have a face full of water. Any tips to be more attractive after cutting some shapes?", "How to not sweat like a pig when out on the dance floor I have some pretty sick moves, but when I step off the dance floor to buy drinks and make connections, I have a face full of water. Any tips to be more attractive after cutting some shapes?" ]

[ "I don't have much to recommend for your face (other than a handkerchief and a short haircut that won't show sweat) but wearing a long sleeved shirt and an undershirt can really cut down on the perceived sweat level.\n\nAlso, consuming less salt helps some people not to produce as much sweat.", "I don't have any recommendations for your face, but I do have a tip for avoiding embarrassing rings of sweat under your armpits if that is a problem. Try using an antiperspirant called CertainDri. You put it on at night before you go to sleep and apparently it shrinks the sweat glands in your armpits, which keeps you from sweating (or sweating *as much*). Hope that helps!", "Baby powder. on every sweaty place thats covered in stuff. no pit stains or mudbutt or schwedde balls" ]

[ 3, 3, 1 ]

[ "Good Software to fully use the potential of your PC Recently, I bought an Humble Bundle and got DeskScapes, Fences and Directory Opus for 1$. I really like them, they're awesome and give a little touch to my everyday use of my pc. I want more!\n\n**What i currently got:**\n\n* Swap Screen (in RTS block my mouse from going to my other monitors)\n* SoundSwitch (change from speaker to heaphones with a macro)\n* RainMeter (custom desktop)\n* Wallpaper Changer (change my wallpaper depending on the time of the day)\n* Notepad++ (", "Good Software to fully use the potential of your PC Recently, I bought an Humble Bundle and got DeskScapes, Fences and Directory Opus for 1$. I really like them, they're awesome and give a little touch to my everyday use of my pc. I want more!\n\n**What i currently got:**\n\n* Swap Screen (in RTS block my mouse from going to my other monitors)\n* SoundSwitch (change from speaker to heaphones with a macro)\n* RainMeter (custom desktop)\n* Wallpaper Changer (change my wallpaper depending on the time of the day)\n* Notepad++ (", "Good Software to fully use the potential of your PC Recently, I bought an Humble Bundle and got DeskScapes, Fences and Directory Opus for 1$. I really like them, they're awesome and give a little touch to my everyday use of my pc. I want more!\n\n**What i currently got:**\n\n* Swap Screen (in RTS block my mouse from going to my other monitors)\n* SoundSwitch (change from speaker to heaphones with a macro)\n* RainMeter (custom desktop)\n* Wallpaper Changer (change my wallpaper depending on the time of the day)\n* Notepad++ (", "Good Software to fully use the potential of your PC Recently, I bought an Humble Bundle and got DeskScapes, Fences and Directory Opus for 1$. I really like them, they're awesome and give a little touch to my everyday use of my pc. I want more!\n\n**What i currently got:**\n\n* Swap Screen (in RTS block my mouse from going to my other monitors)\n* SoundSwitch (change from speaker to heaphones with a macro)\n* RainMeter (custom desktop)\n* Wallpaper Changer (change my wallpaper depending on the time of the day)\n* Notepad++ (", "Good Software to fully use the potential of your PC Recently, I bought an Humble Bundle and got DeskScapes, Fences and Directory Opus for 1$. I really like them, they're awesome and give a little touch to my everyday use of my pc. I want more!\n\n**What i currently got:**\n\n* Swap Screen (in RTS block my mouse from going to my other monitors)\n* SoundSwitch (change from speaker to heaphones with a macro)\n* RainMeter (custom desktop)\n* Wallpaper Changer (change my wallpaper depending on the time of the day)\n* Notepad++ (", "Good Software to fully use the potential of your PC Recently, I bought an Humble Bundle and got DeskScapes, Fences and Directory Opus for 1$. I really like them, they're awesome and give a little touch to my everyday use of my pc. I want more!\n\n**What i currently got:**\n\n* Swap Screen (in RTS block my mouse from going to my other monitors)\n* SoundSwitch (change from speaker to heaphones with a macro)\n* RainMeter (custom desktop)\n* Wallpaper Changer (change my wallpaper depending on the time of the day)\n* Notepad++ (" ]

[ "WinDirStat for managing hard drives. It uses a really great gui to display how much space things are taking up. Each file is given a box relative to how big its size is and then everything is put on a browsable map. It's a very simple utility but I really like it.", "For deactivating background software, I've gamebooster before, but I'm not 100% percent sure if it's as good as it was a couple of years ago ", "What is the wallpaper changer? I've looked it up but can't find it. Maybe a name change? Do you have a link? I've been looking for one that changes depending on the time, not depending on time intervals. ", "As an ", "Your computer should not be using that much CPU power on idle. I'd suggest uninstalling whatever \"bloatware\" it may have come with if it was store-bought. It looks like you have a lot of unneeded programs that just hog resources if your comp is using that much of its CPU on idle. You should be looking to remove, not add. Also, get Malwarebytes and do a scan for malware.", "Im searching for a software to detect/search for memory leaks (this might be useful for OP aswel)\nIm pretty sure my pc has a leak somewhere but i cant pin it down" ]

[ 6, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How do you organize your groceries so stuff doesn't expire? I just threw away hundreds of dollars worth of food. Some as old as 2008. What tricks are there to organize your stuff so you use the oldest first and keep track of what you have so you don't buy new stuff?", "How do you organize your groceries so stuff doesn't expire? I just threw away hundreds of dollars worth of food. Some as old as 2008. What tricks are there to organize your stuff so you use the oldest first and keep track of what you have so you don't buy new stuff?", "How do you organize your groceries so stuff doesn't expire? I just threw away hundreds of dollars worth of food. Some as old as 2008. What tricks are there to organize your stuff so you use the oldest first and keep track of what you have so you don't buy new stuff?", "How do you organize your groceries so stuff doesn't expire? I just threw away hundreds of dollars worth of food. Some as old as 2008. What tricks are there to organize your stuff so you use the oldest first and keep track of what you have so you don't buy new stuff?", "How do you organize your groceries so stuff doesn't expire? I just threw away hundreds of dollars worth of food. Some as old as 2008. What tricks are there to organize your stuff so you use the oldest first and keep track of what you have so you don't buy new stuff?", "How do you organize your groceries so stuff doesn't expire? I just threw away hundreds of dollars worth of food. Some as old as 2008. What tricks are there to organize your stuff so you use the oldest first and keep track of what you have so you don't buy new stuff?", "How do you organize your groceries so stuff doesn't expire? I just threw away hundreds of dollars worth of food. Some as old as 2008. What tricks are there to organize your stuff so you use the oldest first and keep track of what you have so you don't buy new stuff?" ]

[ "FIFO. First in first out. Learned it a couple years ago in culinary class. Make sure everything is organized like they are on shelves at the store. When you buy new items put them behind the ones you already have so you use the old ones first.", "We tend to do more shorter, smaller trips to the store instead of weekly cart fillers since there are only two of us in my house. It saves on waste and also allows for last minute changes if either of us are craving something. ", "I buy stuff that I am I going to eat right then, and generally plan my meals around what I see on sale/TPR/clearance.\n\nGranted I work grocery and find myself in a grocery store 6 out of 7 days a week, but if you only buy food that you plan on eating right then, you don't waste near as much.\n\nAlso, when you find yourself with a bunch of random bits of vegetables/fruit it is stir-fry, salad, or smoothie time. You can put anything in those and enjoy it.", "Organize!! Also only buy what you will use. To many times people buy more of something to get a better unit price, but if you throw away the extra it was worthless. ", "For tinned goods, I write the month and year of purchase on the top with a felt-tip marker, use the oldest ones first and throw them out if they're more than a couple of years old.\n\nFor salad dressing and mayonnaise in the fridge, I write the day and month I first opened them and throw them out if they're more than two months old.\n\nFor jam in the fridge, I write the month and year I first opened it and throw it out if it's more than a year old.\n", "I simply make a list and buy for the week, and that week only. I think making a list/menu is the biggest thing. My mother just threw out a lot of food as well, and a lot of it was duplicated. She will buy a can of grewn beans every time she goes to the store, yet already has 3 in the pantry. If she would make a list and menu each week and actually checked what she had already, it wouldn't end up being wasted.", "I keep a desk calendar (the big kind that have lots of space in the days) in my kitchen and write down the expiry date for everything as it goes into the fridge. And for fruits and vegetables and other things that don't come with a date, I just guess-timate. That way, I can look at the calendar every day and decide my menu before I even go into the fridge. I started this about 4 years ago in college and RARELY throw things out anymore" ]

[ 11, 5, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How do you choose a good watermelon I can never figure out which watermelon i choose is going to be good and solid and which isn't. ", "How do you choose a good watermelon I can never figure out which watermelon i choose is going to be good and solid and which isn't. ", "How do you choose a good watermelon I can never figure out which watermelon i choose is going to be good and solid and which isn't. ", "How do you choose a good watermelon I can never figure out which watermelon i choose is going to be good and solid and which isn't. ", "How do you choose a good watermelon I can never figure out which watermelon i choose is going to be good and solid and which isn't. " ]

[ "My dad always told me that, and in my experience it's worked every time, the best way to pick a good watermelon is to thump it: if it sounds hollow (i.e. it kinda reverberates, has a deeper sound) it's good to go, if it doesn't it may need some more time.", "I like mangoes- if you want to make sure a mango is ripe, simply smell it.\n\nIf you're then like, \"I want to eat the fuck outta this mango\", then that's a ripe ass mango.", "The most reliable way I have found is to look at the bottom discoloration. White or green means it is not ripe. Yellow or cream colored is best. ", "Buy it at Walmart and return it if it's not right, or get one with a green stem... that is no guarantee but at least it means that it was picked lately.", "Tap it lightly. You are looking for a low hollow sound. A very high sound is not quite ripe (not sweet) and a dull sound is overripe (mushy & gross).\n\nCheck the light spot (the underside of the melon when it was growing). It should be light yellow on a ripe watermelon. White, underripe. Too yellow, overripe.\n" ]

[ 11, 7, 3, 2, 1 ]

[ "how to politely exit a conversation? When I meet someone new, I’d like to improve my ability to know how to politely leave/end the conversation if I want to talk to other people (like at parties or networking events). Any advice?", "how to politely exit a conversation? When I meet someone new, I’d like to improve my ability to know how to politely leave/end the conversation if I want to talk to other people (like at parties or networking events). Any advice?", "how to politely exit a conversation? When I meet someone new, I’d like to improve my ability to know how to politely leave/end the conversation if I want to talk to other people (like at parties or networking events). Any advice?", "how to politely exit a conversation? When I meet someone new, I’d like to improve my ability to know how to politely leave/end the conversation if I want to talk to other people (like at parties or networking events). Any advice?" ]

[ "Shake their hand while saying, “It was a pleasure speaking with you and I hope to see you later.” \n\nThis is both obvious and respectful. ", "Currently my go to is “please excuse me, i have to use the restroom,” but would love fresher ones than that. If it’s a particularly boring get togrther I appear to have a drug problem always going to the privy.\n\n(Of course my other go to is “stay home”.)", "\"I have to return some videocassettes\" \nBut really, people are usually a lot more easy going about this than you'd expect. My usual is \"I need to grab another drink.\" But even something as blunt as \"It was good chatting with you, I'm going to keep milling\" usually goes over pretty well. They are probably feeling just as socially awkward as you are and aren't going to judge you as much as you think they might.", "Say something like \"well it was nice meeting you. I hope you enjoy the rest of the party\" usually people will get the idea that you don't want to talk anymore if you're overly polite lol some people don't take hints easily fyi" ]

[ 15, 5, 5, 4 ]

[ "How to stop waking up in the middle of the night Historically, I've usually been able to sleep through the night. Now, it seems that I will always wake up 1-3 times during the night, and I really feel it is impacting my restfulness.\n\nSome context: I just graduated from college and am now working a full time job. What this means is that I went from a mostly nocturnal and entirely erratic sleep schedule to a reasonable consistent one.\n\nI'm going to sleep at 12-1 and waking up 7-8. So I get anywhere from 6-8 hours of sleep a night.\n\nAny help would be very much appreciated!", "How to stop waking up in the middle of the night Historically, I've usually been able to sleep through the night. Now, it seems that I will always wake up 1-3 times during the night, and I really feel it is impacting my restfulness.\n\nSome context: I just graduated from college and am now working a full time job. What this means is that I went from a mostly nocturnal and entirely erratic sleep schedule to a reasonable consistent one.\n\nI'm going to sleep at 12-1 and waking up 7-8. So I get anywhere from 6-8 hours of sleep a night.\n\nAny help would be very much appreciated!", "How to stop waking up in the middle of the night Historically, I've usually been able to sleep through the night. Now, it seems that I will always wake up 1-3 times during the night, and I really feel it is impacting my restfulness.\n\nSome context: I just graduated from college and am now working a full time job. What this means is that I went from a mostly nocturnal and entirely erratic sleep schedule to a reasonable consistent one.\n\nI'm going to sleep at 12-1 and waking up 7-8. So I get anywhere from 6-8 hours of sleep a night.\n\nAny help would be very much appreciated!", "How to stop waking up in the middle of the night Historically, I've usually been able to sleep through the night. Now, it seems that I will always wake up 1-3 times during the night, and I really feel it is impacting my restfulness.\n\nSome context: I just graduated from college and am now working a full time job. What this means is that I went from a mostly nocturnal and entirely erratic sleep schedule to a reasonable consistent one.\n\nI'm going to sleep at 12-1 and waking up 7-8. So I get anywhere from 6-8 hours of sleep a night.\n\nAny help would be very much appreciated!", "How to stop waking up in the middle of the night Historically, I've usually been able to sleep through the night. Now, it seems that I will always wake up 1-3 times during the night, and I really feel it is impacting my restfulness.\n\nSome context: I just graduated from college and am now working a full time job. What this means is that I went from a mostly nocturnal and entirely erratic sleep schedule to a reasonable consistent one.\n\nI'm going to sleep at 12-1 and waking up 7-8. So I get anywhere from 6-8 hours of sleep a night.\n\nAny help would be very much appreciated!", "How to stop waking up in the middle of the night Historically, I've usually been able to sleep through the night. Now, it seems that I will always wake up 1-3 times during the night, and I really feel it is impacting my restfulness.\n\nSome context: I just graduated from college and am now working a full time job. What this means is that I went from a mostly nocturnal and entirely erratic sleep schedule to a reasonable consistent one.\n\nI'm going to sleep at 12-1 and waking up 7-8. So I get anywhere from 6-8 hours of sleep a night.\n\nAny help would be very much appreciated!" ]

[ "My son fits that description, as well. We got him a 18 lb weighted blanket about a week, ago, and he reports much better sleep. They can be a little expensive, but not compared to a good night rest. ", "Wear socks to bed (very loose ones as any constriction at all is bad, which is why there are specifically made bed socks). More often than not, we awake in the middle of the night because our feet are cold. Don't have so many bed linens on your bed that you end up too warm all over, though; the drop in body temperature is one of our biological cues to fall asleep.", "Stop eating early, have only very few calories after dinner. Make sure you're getting enough calcium and D3. Make some white noise happen if you think that may help.", "Make your body tired and you shall sleep. Try to cut down on sugar and coffee. Physical activity also helps. Eat a b3 niacin pill to get relaxed. Breathe through your nose and use your tummy. Put a little bit of surgeon tape on your lips to keep mouth closed - no snoring and waking yourself.", "Do you snore? Even if you don't you could have sleep apnea. You stop breathing and gasp for air, causing you to wake up. You wouldn't notice it but others around you would. ", "Alcohol will cause that; a nightcap helps you drift off, but for some reason you are more apt to wake up later. \n\nAlso be sure the room is actually dark, have good shades if light bleeds in from outside, and shut down electronics so there's not a bunch of small lights glowing." ]

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[ "How do I stop trying to \"fix\" everything? People don't always tell you their problems because they want you to suggest a solution. This is something I'm terrible at. How do I get better at listening, and figuring out what people need, rather than just trying to fix everything?", "How do I stop trying to \"fix\" everything? People don't always tell you their problems because they want you to suggest a solution. This is something I'm terrible at. How do I get better at listening, and figuring out what people need, rather than just trying to fix everything?", "How do I stop trying to \"fix\" everything? People don't always tell you their problems because they want you to suggest a solution. This is something I'm terrible at. How do I get better at listening, and figuring out what people need, rather than just trying to fix everything?", "How do I stop trying to \"fix\" everything? People don't always tell you their problems because they want you to suggest a solution. This is something I'm terrible at. How do I get better at listening, and figuring out what people need, rather than just trying to fix everything?", "How do I stop trying to \"fix\" everything? People don't always tell you their problems because they want you to suggest a solution. This is something I'm terrible at. How do I get better at listening, and figuring out what people need, rather than just trying to fix everything?" ]

[ "You could ask what they would find most helpful: a solution, or just someone to listen.\n\n", "Think instead, there must be a reason why your solution isn't applicable to them at this time. Whether it be a lack of will power stemming from something... or a lack of knowledge about something....or a fear of something. Instead of thinking they just won't follow your perfect solution because they haven't heard it yet, think about some times in your life where you knew the correct solution, but chose otherwise anyway. Only then will you understand truly WHY they have arrived at this problem, not just the problem that is there, in doing so appearing more empathetic to their journey.", "The first thing you should think is this: accept it.\n\nIt is a fact (at that precise moment), so accept it. Then think, CAN it be fixed? If not, can it be made slightly better, perhaps? Most things can, so this might be the best route to pursue rather than an all-out solution.", "You could try channeling that \"need to help\" feeling into encouragement- that's usually more helpful than advice anyway. If encouragement would seem out of place, try commiseration. Hell, combine them. A simple, \"oh man, that's really rough, but I know you can handle it!\" will ultimately be way more helpful than advice. Keep it sincere though- and if possible be specific.", "By not knowing what to \"fix\". It may sound naive and selfish but as they say, \"ignorance is bliss\". The only to getting around the compelling need to fix something or someone is to try and just do nothing. It's often our actions that are the cause of our misery. So, inaction and indifference would my concoction." ]

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[ "how to build a relationship, despite a language barrier I've recently befriended a Chinese fellow who has only been in the US in for several months and can only speak broken English. Any tips on how I can continue to expand and progress our relationship, despite our issues with clear communication?", "how to build a relationship, despite a language barrier I've recently befriended a Chinese fellow who has only been in the US in for several months and can only speak broken English. Any tips on how I can continue to expand and progress our relationship, despite our issues with clear communication?" ]

[ "Try learning Chinese as well? Learning from each other. Shows you're willing to be in his/her shoes and overcome the language barrier together. ", "Make a genuine effort to learn some chinese. it'll show that you are thinking enough about him that you want to share in his language and culture, and will be a basis for growing your relationship.\n\nALSO, help him to improve his english. don't be afraid to correct his mispronunciations, because he might appreciate your earnestness in helping him learn.\n\nmore practically, when you and him are hanging out, ask him what some of his favorite chinese movies are, and watch them with english subtitles if possible." ]

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[ "Hidden Cultural differences/odd things between U.S. and Germany to help with hosting an exchange student. I'm hosting an exchange student and would like to know if there is anything I wouldn't think of to tell him about U.S. culture that they wouldnt know. Things like tipping differences are fairly well known but I'm sure some things arent. For example: I went to Costa Rica my junior year and was surprised to find out you throw out toilet paper instead of flushing.", "Hidden Cultural differences/odd things between U.S. and Germany to help with hosting an exchange student. I'm hosting an exchange student and would like to know if there is anything I wouldn't think of to tell him about U.S. culture that they wouldnt know. Things like tipping differences are fairly well known but I'm sure some things arent. For example: I went to Costa Rica my junior year and was surprised to find out you throw out toilet paper instead of flushing.", "Hidden Cultural differences/odd things between U.S. and Germany to help with hosting an exchange student. I'm hosting an exchange student and would like to know if there is anything I wouldn't think of to tell him about U.S. culture that they wouldnt know. Things like tipping differences are fairly well known but I'm sure some things arent. For example: I went to Costa Rica my junior year and was surprised to find out you throw out toilet paper instead of flushing.", "Hidden Cultural differences/odd things between U.S. and Germany to help with hosting an exchange student. I'm hosting an exchange student and would like to know if there is anything I wouldn't think of to tell him about U.S. culture that they wouldnt know. Things like tipping differences are fairly well known but I'm sure some things arent. For example: I went to Costa Rica my junior year and was surprised to find out you throw out toilet paper instead of flushing.", "Hidden Cultural differences/odd things between U.S. and Germany to help with hosting an exchange student. I'm hosting an exchange student and would like to know if there is anything I wouldn't think of to tell him about U.S. culture that they wouldnt know. Things like tipping differences are fairly well known but I'm sure some things arent. For example: I went to Costa Rica my junior year and was surprised to find out you throw out toilet paper instead of flushing.", "Hidden Cultural differences/odd things between U.S. and Germany to help with hosting an exchange student. I'm hosting an exchange student and would like to know if there is anything I wouldn't think of to tell him about U.S. culture that they wouldnt know. Things like tipping differences are fairly well known but I'm sure some things arent. For example: I went to Costa Rica my junior year and was surprised to find out you throw out toilet paper instead of flushing.", "Hidden Cultural differences/odd things between U.S. and Germany to help with hosting an exchange student. I'm hosting an exchange student and would like to know if there is anything I wouldn't think of to tell him about U.S. culture that they wouldnt know. Things like tipping differences are fairly well known but I'm sure some things arent. For example: I went to Costa Rica my junior year and was surprised to find out you throw out toilet paper instead of flushing." ]

[ "Also give them hints for the conversion to metric systems. I always had to look up how to convert oz to kg, or Fahrenheit to Celsius, feet to meters etc. \n\nSo when asked about the weather the degrees of Fahrenheit didn't help me that much, but telling me wether I would need a jacket would have been sufficient. ", "Just tell him/her your family rules - eg no girls, alcohol in the house etc. Germany is more liberal in such things. I've heard, US windows are different from the German ones! You could watch Donna's channel \"Wanted adventure\" on YouTube to get a grasp on some cultural differences that aren't obvious.", "The US and Germany are very similar culturally wise. Drinking is another obvious difference. Almost every german I’ve met has been very liberal and supported Hillary in the election, so much that I’m pretty sure their coverage of the election was equivalent to Twitter. ", "IN most European countries, it is standard practice to remove your shoes at the door, when you enter a house. It is a sign of respect to the homeowner. \n\nIt is also usual to line up to get onto a bus, and to enter a cinema. By line up I mean standing in a orderly line and not barging in ahead of others.\n\nJim b. ", "A lot of Europeans I’ve met are jarred by the small talk conventions in the U.S., such as cashiers saying “Have a nice day!” when you leave the store. Also, when I went to Germany, I was surprised that you have to pay to use many public restrooms! They may not know that they are free here. Healthcare is also very different here, so you should make sure he or she knows what to expect at a doctor’s office or hospital in terms of ID, paperwork, and insurance/payment.\n\nLanguage-wise, explain anything unique to your area or dialect that they may not learn about in a traditional language course. I teach English to adult immigrants from all over, and they always enjoy learning about local slang & pronunciations. (For example, here in Philly, we say “wooder” for “water” which is very confusing for non-native speakers!) \n\nYou can also mention different names for things across regions (soda vs. pop, sneakers vs. tennis shoes). Some visitors and immigrants are surprised to find out that there are so many different accents and language variations, and we don’t all sound like we’re from New York, LA, or Texas!", "I'm an exchange student in Germany and the first few things I can tell you are:\n\nThey are used to more liberal things in society. \nSmall talk doesn't exist in the same way. \nIn general are pretty shy/ are very kind.\nDepending on their level in English they might be worried about making grammatical mistakes.\n\nMight add more if they pop up. \n", "He'll be fine. Encourage him to ask. Answer questions as they come up, that will most likely be enough :) but also don't expect too many questions." ]

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[ "How do you show someone that you appreciate them? As we have been approaching Thanksgiving I have been thinking a lot of what I am thankful for. I really have such a great support system of family and friends. But I've started to wonder if they know how much they mean to me. I've never been good at telling people these kinds of things. \n\nSo how would you tell someone that you appreciate them?", "How do you show someone that you appreciate them? As we have been approaching Thanksgiving I have been thinking a lot of what I am thankful for. I really have such a great support system of family and friends. But I've started to wonder if they know how much they mean to me. I've never been good at telling people these kinds of things. \n\nSo how would you tell someone that you appreciate them?", "How do you show someone that you appreciate them? As we have been approaching Thanksgiving I have been thinking a lot of what I am thankful for. I really have such a great support system of family and friends. But I've started to wonder if they know how much they mean to me. I've never been good at telling people these kinds of things. \n\nSo how would you tell someone that you appreciate them?", "How do you show someone that you appreciate them? As we have been approaching Thanksgiving I have been thinking a lot of what I am thankful for. I really have such a great support system of family and friends. But I've started to wonder if they know how much they mean to me. I've never been good at telling people these kinds of things. \n\nSo how would you tell someone that you appreciate them?", "How do you show someone that you appreciate them? As we have been approaching Thanksgiving I have been thinking a lot of what I am thankful for. I really have such a great support system of family and friends. But I've started to wonder if they know how much they mean to me. I've never been good at telling people these kinds of things. \n\nSo how would you tell someone that you appreciate them?" ]

[ "People do for you, what they want done for themselves.\n\nWhatever each person does to show they appreciate/care about you, then you can do the same for them. For example, my mom is always giving people greeting cards, that would be a good way to show her. Someone else might just like a spontaneous hug (because that’s what they do for others). Another person will do the dishes if you invite them for a meal at your house. \n\nTake your cue from them and you will be speaking their language.", "Say something like \"I appreciate all you do for me.\" and then mention a few instances where each person has helped you.", "A handwritten letter is a precious thing. You can compose your thoughts beforehand and then copy it in your best handwriting. It shows your appreciation by both the words on the page as well as the effort to write it out. The letter likely will be tucked away in a special place to be returned to again and again. \n\nThink about how you appreciate that person. Instead of “you’ve been so kind to me,” say, “I still remember how loved I felt that day you listened to me crying for four hours about everything and then called the next day to check in on me. And that time Katie started cursing me out and you stood up for me even though she’s your best friend. I know I am so fortunate to have somebody like you in my life that I can trust with my heart. Just wanted to let you know how much I value and appreciate you!”", "Tell them what they mean to you. Don’t let anyone die with anything left unsaid. The people in my life know what they mean to me and that makes me happy.", "I would be straight up and just tell them you appreciate them and tell them exactly how you feel. Don't overthink it. I also recommend that you tell them 1 on 1. I think it will be more special and meaningful to them that way." ]

[ 11, 7, 3, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to deal with a roommate that is overly friendly I currently have a new roommate who is extremely polite and friendly. With my previous roommates, they understood that the apartment was just for living together and we weren't really interested in becoming friends since we all have our own lives/work/friends/boyfriends. I also like to come home to a space where I don't have to talk to anyone since I have a job that requires a lot of social interaction.\n\nAnyways, so the past few times I've bumped into my roommate at home, I've been in the middle of something and she's trying to make conversation with me. She's British and I understand some of it is cultural politeness but it drives me up a wall that I can't do what I need to do without needing to stop and be polite to someone, especially in my own home, and I didn't grow up in a household where family members acted this way to each other.\n\nFor instance in the mornings when I'm cooking breakfast, she'll come and say good morning, I'll say good morning, how are you? Etc. Then I'll go back to cooking breakfast because I need to eat and get ready for work. But she's standing there awkwardly at the kitchen door looking at me, seemingly expecting conversation but I'm not really sure what else to say after greeting each other (and to be honest I'm not talkative in the mornings anyway).\n\nOr I'm cooking dinner for me and my boyfriend and very clearly busy running around the kitchen preparing the meal, she does the same thing (we greet each other, how was your day, etc) then she stands awkwardly waiting for me to talk to her. I'm just not really sure what to say because I'm busy.\n\nI feel like this is a cultural difference, to me it's rude to try to get someone's attention if they're clearly busy unless you need something, and to her it's rude not to make small talk if you see each other. I'm also someone that can't talk when I'm doing something anyway, so it probably bothers a lot more that she's trying to make conversation when I'm busy.\n\nI don't really want to confront her because it's a bit immature on my part, but what are some things I can say when she's standing there expecting conversation? Should I just ignore her after greeting her and hope she understands I'm busy? Advice, please.", "How to deal with a roommate that is overly friendly I currently have a new roommate who is extremely polite and friendly. With my previous roommates, they understood that the apartment was just for living together and we weren't really interested in becoming friends since we all have our own lives/work/friends/boyfriends. I also like to come home to a space where I don't have to talk to anyone since I have a job that requires a lot of social interaction.\n\nAnyways, so the past few times I've bumped into my roommate at home, I've been in the middle of something and she's trying to make conversation with me. She's British and I understand some of it is cultural politeness but it drives me up a wall that I can't do what I need to do without needing to stop and be polite to someone, especially in my own home, and I didn't grow up in a household where family members acted this way to each other.\n\nFor instance in the mornings when I'm cooking breakfast, she'll come and say good morning, I'll say good morning, how are you? Etc. Then I'll go back to cooking breakfast because I need to eat and get ready for work. But she's standing there awkwardly at the kitchen door looking at me, seemingly expecting conversation but I'm not really sure what else to say after greeting each other (and to be honest I'm not talkative in the mornings anyway).\n\nOr I'm cooking dinner for me and my boyfriend and very clearly busy running around the kitchen preparing the meal, she does the same thing (we greet each other, how was your day, etc) then she stands awkwardly waiting for me to talk to her. I'm just not really sure what to say because I'm busy.\n\nI feel like this is a cultural difference, to me it's rude to try to get someone's attention if they're clearly busy unless you need something, and to her it's rude not to make small talk if you see each other. I'm also someone that can't talk when I'm doing something anyway, so it probably bothers a lot more that she's trying to make conversation when I'm busy.\n\nI don't really want to confront her because it's a bit immature on my part, but what are some things I can say when she's standing there expecting conversation? Should I just ignore her after greeting her and hope she understands I'm busy? Advice, please.", "How to deal with a roommate that is overly friendly I currently have a new roommate who is extremely polite and friendly. With my previous roommates, they understood that the apartment was just for living together and we weren't really interested in becoming friends since we all have our own lives/work/friends/boyfriends. I also like to come home to a space where I don't have to talk to anyone since I have a job that requires a lot of social interaction.\n\nAnyways, so the past few times I've bumped into my roommate at home, I've been in the middle of something and she's trying to make conversation with me. She's British and I understand some of it is cultural politeness but it drives me up a wall that I can't do what I need to do without needing to stop and be polite to someone, especially in my own home, and I didn't grow up in a household where family members acted this way to each other.\n\nFor instance in the mornings when I'm cooking breakfast, she'll come and say good morning, I'll say good morning, how are you? Etc. Then I'll go back to cooking breakfast because I need to eat and get ready for work. But she's standing there awkwardly at the kitchen door looking at me, seemingly expecting conversation but I'm not really sure what else to say after greeting each other (and to be honest I'm not talkative in the mornings anyway).\n\nOr I'm cooking dinner for me and my boyfriend and very clearly busy running around the kitchen preparing the meal, she does the same thing (we greet each other, how was your day, etc) then she stands awkwardly waiting for me to talk to her. I'm just not really sure what to say because I'm busy.\n\nI feel like this is a cultural difference, to me it's rude to try to get someone's attention if they're clearly busy unless you need something, and to her it's rude not to make small talk if you see each other. I'm also someone that can't talk when I'm doing something anyway, so it probably bothers a lot more that she's trying to make conversation when I'm busy.\n\nI don't really want to confront her because it's a bit immature on my part, but what are some things I can say when she's standing there expecting conversation? Should I just ignore her after greeting her and hope she understands I'm busy? Advice, please.", "How to deal with a roommate that is overly friendly I currently have a new roommate who is extremely polite and friendly. With my previous roommates, they understood that the apartment was just for living together and we weren't really interested in becoming friends since we all have our own lives/work/friends/boyfriends. I also like to come home to a space where I don't have to talk to anyone since I have a job that requires a lot of social interaction.\n\nAnyways, so the past few times I've bumped into my roommate at home, I've been in the middle of something and she's trying to make conversation with me. She's British and I understand some of it is cultural politeness but it drives me up a wall that I can't do what I need to do without needing to stop and be polite to someone, especially in my own home, and I didn't grow up in a household where family members acted this way to each other.\n\nFor instance in the mornings when I'm cooking breakfast, she'll come and say good morning, I'll say good morning, how are you? Etc. Then I'll go back to cooking breakfast because I need to eat and get ready for work. But she's standing there awkwardly at the kitchen door looking at me, seemingly expecting conversation but I'm not really sure what else to say after greeting each other (and to be honest I'm not talkative in the mornings anyway).\n\nOr I'm cooking dinner for me and my boyfriend and very clearly busy running around the kitchen preparing the meal, she does the same thing (we greet each other, how was your day, etc) then she stands awkwardly waiting for me to talk to her. I'm just not really sure what to say because I'm busy.\n\nI feel like this is a cultural difference, to me it's rude to try to get someone's attention if they're clearly busy unless you need something, and to her it's rude not to make small talk if you see each other. I'm also someone that can't talk when I'm doing something anyway, so it probably bothers a lot more that she's trying to make conversation when I'm busy.\n\nI don't really want to confront her because it's a bit immature on my part, but what are some things I can say when she's standing there expecting conversation? Should I just ignore her after greeting her and hope she understands I'm busy? Advice, please." ]

[ "> I don't want to confront her because it's a bit immature on my part...\n\nI wouldn't judge that at all. At least, you laid out the situation in a very mature fashion here.\n\nI would say instead that you and your roommates have conflicting viewpoints and expectations. \n\nAnd if that's the case, you need to communicate what yours are to her, gently and on a case by case basis if you don't want to play the heavy.\n\nMaybe try something like these, but only in circumstances where they are fully and absolutely authentic comments..\n\n\"Look, I'm sorry. I REALLY have to get ready for work right now. Maybe we can talk later?\"\n\n\"Is there something I can help you with? Because my boyfriend's coming over and I still have to finish preparing this meal. No, great, thanks and I gotta get back to it here.\"\n\n\"Hold on a sec. Gotta finish this while it's fresh in my mind\" (then work on whatever you were doing until it's done, then) \"K, what's up?\"\n\nYour mild error is that you're leaving these little conversation opportunities open and hanging, and you really require at closure to each event, or at minimum control over it to transform it from uncertainty to certainty, which gets her to either mentally move on or firm up what she wants out of that interaction. \n\nIf you can't be the sympathetic person or friend that helps her resolve her need for conversation, that needs to be made clear through a little controlled repetition.\n\nGood luck.", "I don't think it's a cultural difference. I think she may just be lonely and not have a lot of friends. ", "personally, i would just ignore her after making greetings, and return to the task at hand. it is not your responsibility to cater to her or make her comfortable. if this feels awkward to you, you could always play a podcast to make it clear you are not in the mood to talk. if you are worried she will try to engage you about the podcast, listen on your headphones. if listening while you work is not something you enjoy, don't actually play anything, you can just put your headphones in as a barrier. that is what i did when i had room mates, i kept my headphones in constantly. or i would listen to a podcast or audiobook in my native language so that they could not ask me about it!\n\nif you are feeling awkward my best advice is just to power through by focusing on your task at hand. if you don't feel awkward but are simply worried that you are somehow being rude, you are not, so feel free to ignore her after greetings. if she presses you on the matter, a simple, \"you will have to excuse me please, i am not in the mood to talk,\" will suffice.", "Just say \"Don't mean to be rude, but I'm late for work. I'll catch you later\" or something like that. Just let her know you are not ignoring her and are not trying to be rude. \nThen you really either need to chat with her later, or just keep using the same line on her. \nIf it's the former, she'll eventually learn when it's a good time to chat, and if it's the latter she'll eventually give up and write you off as a rude idiot. \nEither way, you'll get what you wanted." ]

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[ "How to throttle speeds of devices connected to my router So Where I live we don't get the best of connections. It's an 8Mbps line, which is limited to 35GB Per month. It is honestly very hard to stick to this limit. \n\nWhen you have friends and family over it would be rude not to give them the WiFi password, so I want to be able to keep the speeds of my PC, and maybe another laptop at full speeds, and any other connected devices to lower the speeds to a 512 Kbps connection. \n\nIs this possible?", "How to throttle speeds of devices connected to my router So Where I live we don't get the best of connections. It's an 8Mbps line, which is limited to 35GB Per month. It is honestly very hard to stick to this limit. \n\nWhen you have friends and family over it would be rude not to give them the WiFi password, so I want to be able to keep the speeds of my PC, and maybe another laptop at full speeds, and any other connected devices to lower the speeds to a 512 Kbps connection. \n\nIs this possible?", "How to throttle speeds of devices connected to my router So Where I live we don't get the best of connections. It's an 8Mbps line, which is limited to 35GB Per month. It is honestly very hard to stick to this limit. \n\nWhen you have friends and family over it would be rude not to give them the WiFi password, so I want to be able to keep the speeds of my PC, and maybe another laptop at full speeds, and any other connected devices to lower the speeds to a 512 Kbps connection. \n\nIs this possible?", "How to throttle speeds of devices connected to my router So Where I live we don't get the best of connections. It's an 8Mbps line, which is limited to 35GB Per month. It is honestly very hard to stick to this limit. \n\nWhen you have friends and family over it would be rude not to give them the WiFi password, so I want to be able to keep the speeds of my PC, and maybe another laptop at full speeds, and any other connected devices to lower the speeds to a 512 Kbps connection. \n\nIs this possible?", "How to throttle speeds of devices connected to my router So Where I live we don't get the best of connections. It's an 8Mbps line, which is limited to 35GB Per month. It is honestly very hard to stick to this limit. \n\nWhen you have friends and family over it would be rude not to give them the WiFi password, so I want to be able to keep the speeds of my PC, and maybe another laptop at full speeds, and any other connected devices to lower the speeds to a 512 Kbps connection. \n\nIs this possible?", "How to throttle speeds of devices connected to my router So Where I live we don't get the best of connections. It's an 8Mbps line, which is limited to 35GB Per month. It is honestly very hard to stick to this limit. \n\nWhen you have friends and family over it would be rude not to give them the WiFi password, so I want to be able to keep the speeds of my PC, and maybe another laptop at full speeds, and any other connected devices to lower the speeds to a 512 Kbps connection. \n\nIs this possible?" ]

[ "In some routers, there is something called QOS (quality of service) which is a setting that is used for giving higher/lower priority to devices which are connected and it can be used to limit their bandwidth. It's a setting in your router address.\n\nhttp://m.wikihow.com/Access-a-Router (Check the method 2 in the link of you don't know how to access your router).", "What would do this is something that supports application control. QOS will NOT do this. That requires setting diff serve code points on an per application for prioritizing traffic when a link is congested. A NGFW will do this but they are expensive.", "If the router doesn't have QOS settings, you should at least have MAC filtering in the router settings. Just approve all the devices you own plus perhaps a couple of other people's devices too. That way a bunch of devices will get internet and the rest won't even if you give them the password. It'll just look like their devices are not fit to run on your router, at least until I come to your house and expose your miser ass.", "Spend $50* on a [TP-LINK TL-WR1043ND V2](http://www.amazon.com/TP-LINK-TL-WR1043ND-Wireless-Detachable-Antennas/dp/B002YLAUU8) and install the [Gargoyle Router Management Utility](http://www.gargoyle-router.com/index.php). That will get you the functionality you want. \n\n*Or better yet, spend [$85](http://www.gargoyle-router.com/shop) and support the developers.", "Maybe something like [NetBalancer](https://netbalancer.com/download)? But the free version is limited: \n>The unregistered version is limited to a maximum of 3 process priorities/limits and 3 rules at a time. Since version 6.0 all other limits have been removed. ", "Do this (turn your laptop into a wireless access point): \n\nhttp://www.7tutorials.com/how-turn-your-windows-81-laptop-wifi-access-point\n\nThen use netbalancer or some other program to do QoS" ]

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[ "How to tour an apartment showing and what to ask. I've never rented an apartment before, and I don't really know what to do or ask, (I don't have anyone to go with). I always feel rushed so I generally take a quick look, take pictures of everything, and ask whatever wasn't listed online.. so about 10 minutes tops. Needless to say I'm not finding anything I really like.\n\nHow does a typical apartment viewing routine go? What are the important questions I should be asking, and what should I be absolutely checking or doing? Should I bring anything with me? \n\nI appreciate your help!", "How to tour an apartment showing and what to ask. I've never rented an apartment before, and I don't really know what to do or ask, (I don't have anyone to go with). I always feel rushed so I generally take a quick look, take pictures of everything, and ask whatever wasn't listed online.. so about 10 minutes tops. Needless to say I'm not finding anything I really like.\n\nHow does a typical apartment viewing routine go? What are the important questions I should be asking, and what should I be absolutely checking or doing? Should I bring anything with me? \n\nI appreciate your help!", "How to tour an apartment showing and what to ask. I've never rented an apartment before, and I don't really know what to do or ask, (I don't have anyone to go with). I always feel rushed so I generally take a quick look, take pictures of everything, and ask whatever wasn't listed online.. so about 10 minutes tops. Needless to say I'm not finding anything I really like.\n\nHow does a typical apartment viewing routine go? What are the important questions I should be asking, and what should I be absolutely checking or doing? Should I bring anything with me? \n\nI appreciate your help!", "How to tour an apartment showing and what to ask. I've never rented an apartment before, and I don't really know what to do or ask, (I don't have anyone to go with). I always feel rushed so I generally take a quick look, take pictures of everything, and ask whatever wasn't listed online.. so about 10 minutes tops. Needless to say I'm not finding anything I really like.\n\nHow does a typical apartment viewing routine go? What are the important questions I should be asking, and what should I be absolutely checking or doing? Should I bring anything with me? \n\nI appreciate your help!" ]

[ "not an expert or anything but I have rented a couple of houses/apartments before in my life.\na. window panes/ and window sills- are they insulated?/look new? one pane of glass or two? are there any holes directly to the outside? and can you feel a large temperature change when standing near them? This will give you a good estimate of quality of upkeep of the apartment, also think of the heating/cooling bills associated with this.", "Various questions:\n* Rental period options (1 year, 6 months, etc)\n* Storage availability (your extra stuff, or a bike)\n* Parking options (if you have a car)\n* Any all fees above rent (like security deposit, electricity, wireless)\n* If heat is not included, what type of heat is it? (electricity is most expensive)\n* Air conditioning?\n* Pet policy (you may not have one now, but...)\n* If you have to cover Internet, what service providers are available.\n* Can you hang things from the wall? \n* How do you get service if there's a problem (this is pretty important)\n", "Gas heat is much cheaper than electric heat. I would ask about the heat (or just glance at the furnace if it was in the utility room).\n\nObviously people in the south don't care too much about heat, and in remote areas natural gas is not available (but a propane tank could be easy to spot)", "Ask about the utilities, if they're paid for or will be billed to you.\nAsk about any previous water damage or mold.\nCheck the faucets and such.\nAsk if it was recently renovated.\n\nThese are the only ones off the top of my head." ]

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[ "Stopping humidity from destroying my food in basement apartment. Anything powdered will form into a hard block, Salt, sugar, you name it. Bread goes moldy in days unless we eat it out of the freezer. We have 2 dehumidifiers going and empty twice a day.", "Stopping humidity from destroying my food in basement apartment. Anything powdered will form into a hard block, Salt, sugar, you name it. Bread goes moldy in days unless we eat it out of the freezer. We have 2 dehumidifiers going and empty twice a day.", "Stopping humidity from destroying my food in basement apartment. Anything powdered will form into a hard block, Salt, sugar, you name it. Bread goes moldy in days unless we eat it out of the freezer. We have 2 dehumidifiers going and empty twice a day." ]

[ "Important thing is to know what is a cause of high humidity in your basement. It may be weather, ground water or broken pipe.", "Flea troubles and a damp basement? I'd move and start over. Anyway, have your landlord address this. How long have you lived there? You might end up with mold on your clothes, linens, documents, etc. With two dehumidifiers running, unless they're set wrong, I don't think there's much else you can do without an expert coming in to look for leaks and resealing the walls/floors.", "Basement dweller here. I put all my powder items in the freezer ziplock bags. It's kind of a pain to use so many bags, but it beats replacing food constantly. Also I would reccomend DampRid. It removes moisture from the air. I use it in closets so there isn't a funky smell on my clothes, or the kiddos clothes either. " ]

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[ "How do I stop biting my nails? Been doing it since I can remember, a horrible habit I picked up from my father, I've tried alot of different methods, turps, foul tasting nail polish, tape, super glue, and STILL I can't shake the habit. \n\nBut it's now at the point that it's causing me terrible pain if I tap my fingertips on anything, or use them in any unusual way, I really need to stop, can you help?\n", "How do I stop biting my nails? Been doing it since I can remember, a horrible habit I picked up from my father, I've tried alot of different methods, turps, foul tasting nail polish, tape, super glue, and STILL I can't shake the habit. \n\nBut it's now at the point that it's causing me terrible pain if I tap my fingertips on anything, or use them in any unusual way, I really need to stop, can you help?\n", "How do I stop biting my nails? Been doing it since I can remember, a horrible habit I picked up from my father, I've tried alot of different methods, turps, foul tasting nail polish, tape, super glue, and STILL I can't shake the habit. \n\nBut it's now at the point that it's causing me terrible pain if I tap my fingertips on anything, or use them in any unusual way, I really need to stop, can you help?\n", "How do I stop biting my nails? Been doing it since I can remember, a horrible habit I picked up from my father, I've tried alot of different methods, turps, foul tasting nail polish, tape, super glue, and STILL I can't shake the habit. \n\nBut it's now at the point that it's causing me terrible pain if I tap my fingertips on anything, or use them in any unusual way, I really need to stop, can you help?\n", "How do I stop biting my nails? Been doing it since I can remember, a horrible habit I picked up from my father, I've tried alot of different methods, turps, foul tasting nail polish, tape, super glue, and STILL I can't shake the habit. \n\nBut it's now at the point that it's causing me terrible pain if I tap my fingertips on anything, or use them in any unusual way, I really need to stop, can you help?\n", "How do I stop biting my nails? Been doing it since I can remember, a horrible habit I picked up from my father, I've tried alot of different methods, turps, foul tasting nail polish, tape, super glue, and STILL I can't shake the habit. \n\nBut it's now at the point that it's causing me terrible pain if I tap my fingertips on anything, or use them in any unusual way, I really need to stop, can you help?\n", "How do I stop biting my nails? Been doing it since I can remember, a horrible habit I picked up from my father, I've tried alot of different methods, turps, foul tasting nail polish, tape, super glue, and STILL I can't shake the habit. \n\nBut it's now at the point that it's causing me terrible pain if I tap my fingertips on anything, or use them in any unusual way, I really need to stop, can you help?\n", "How do I stop biting my nails? Been doing it since I can remember, a horrible habit I picked up from my father, I've tried alot of different methods, turps, foul tasting nail polish, tape, super glue, and STILL I can't shake the habit. \n\nBut it's now at the point that it's causing me terrible pain if I tap my fingertips on anything, or use them in any unusual way, I really need to stop, can you help?\n" ]

[ "When do you bite your nails? First identify the cause. For me i did it because they werent clipped. Easy enough solution. But i know other people do it out of boredom or anxiety. If it's boredom you need to stop yourself when you start to bite and focus on something else. If it's anxiety then you need to change something else. Just know you are in control of your body. You aren't helpless. You don't have to bite your nails. We all have will power when we want something bad enough.", "If nail biting is a habit, chances are you do it at specific times, for example when you're nervous. Probably the easiest way to get rid of a habit is by replacing it with a more productive one when that behavior occurs. ", "This worked for me:\nAlways wear clippers with you.\nWhenever you start biting, or feel the urge to: clip your nails. For me this made the urge to pop up less frequently and eventually my nails got longer and longer.", "I've always been nail biter, but after last birthday I decided to stop the habit. Oh boy it's been hard.\n\nI first tried just think everyday \"Today, I don't bite nails.\" And I made penalties to myself if I do it. Exercising, like every time when I notice biting nails I have to do 10 push-ups or put 1€ to charity box. 1€ doesn't sound much, but wait a month and think how much you have gave away money because nail biting, you will see. You just to have little bit self control and if you are really that motivated to stop it, you can do it. \n\nHow I am doing atm? Fine, I give like 5€ to charity in a week. First weeks it was about 20€, so I think it's going well. Step by a step, focus everyday like it's first one. ", "I had a girlfriend who had very similar behavior, including a compulsion to pull hairs out of her head during sleep - she said it was a stress management mechanism and I found that I sometimes do this by picking beard hairs (especially if I take my daily ADHD med, which is a stimulant). It could very well be a manifestation of trichotillomania or some other skin picking condition.\n\nFor what it's worth, we found that starting her on N-Acetylcysteine (recommended online for trich) alleviated a lot of her nail picking and hair pulling. It has something to do with mediating a glutamate response that triggers the behavior.", "Get an expensive manicure, it worked for me. Or if you're not fond of nail polish, find something else on your body to pick at", "Acrylic overlays, done in a nail salon. Hear me out! \nEven if you are a man, you can have them glue fake nails over your stumps, and cut them waaay down so that they are a little below the tip of your finger. They can sand it down so it will look natural enough. The acrylic they use is too hard to bit through. Every 3 weeks you will get what is called a \"fill\" where they will just brush the acrylic powder paste over the areas that have grown in, and eventually you will just have the acrylic over real nails, you won't need fakes on top.\n\nI'm a woman, so I get that its different for me. I *hate* fakery - fake tan, fake nails, lots of makeup, etc. But I also will bite my nails to nothing if they are bare or polished. Acrylic overlays is the only thing that's helped, going on 20 years now. \n\nI had them done a few days ago, [here is how they look](http://i.imgur.com/uEiwGja.jpg). \n", "Remove your hands at the wrist for a guaranteed effective treatment or try some ghost pepper powder on your finger tips for a less drastic approach. The first should only be done as a last resort. " ]

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[ "No work/school/etc.. weighing me down I don't have school for the next 4-5 weeks is their anything I should be doing to try and change up my life?", "No work/school/etc.. weighing me down I don't have school for the next 4-5 weeks is their anything I should be doing to try and change up my life?", "No work/school/etc.. weighing me down I don't have school for the next 4-5 weeks is their anything I should be doing to try and change up my life?", "No work/school/etc.. weighing me down I don't have school for the next 4-5 weeks is their anything I should be doing to try and change up my life?", "No work/school/etc.. weighing me down I don't have school for the next 4-5 weeks is their anything I should be doing to try and change up my life?", "No work/school/etc.. weighing me down I don't have school for the next 4-5 weeks is their anything I should be doing to try and change up my life?", "No work/school/etc.. weighing me down I don't have school for the next 4-5 weeks is their anything I should be doing to try and change up my life?" ]

[ "Learn a new skill or hobby. Don't know how to make a proper budget? Learn. Want to know how to fish? Figure it out. Have no idea how to cook? Work on that. Want to build a cabinet? What's stopping you?\n\nIt can be anything for either personal growth or potential career growth in the future. You'd be surprised what can be helpful. Just learning how to learn and teach yourself will be incredibly valuable. The number of people who can't or won't teach themselves is astounding. If something seems too complicated or you're not understanding it, start on a simpler level. Ask questions.", "Take up a new hobby. Learn to play guitar. Go to the library and check out some good books. Ride a bike. Fall in love. Start a war. Volunteer someplace. Learn to draw, or paint.\n\nThat, or stay home, play a lot of Fallout 4, and masturbate a lot. That gets old after a while, though.", "\nNot mine but super useful:\n------------------------------------------------------------------------------\n\nI’d like to share my experiences on this, because there was a simple technique that helped me get through it all, and it might help others trapped in this state of limbo.\n\nI realized it all when I turned 22, that I’ve wasted a great deal of my time, doing nothing what I love. So I quit college and going to travel around, learn what I can, and work on the road. Because that’s what I want to do. That simple.\n\nMight seems strange, but just sit down, let the distractions go and talk with yourself for a bit. Think about how you were, when you were a child. What did you want to become, what did you want to do, what is the thing that really defines you? Write it down, if there are more than one, write it all down.\n\nDetermine your goals. Even if they don’t match with the above stuff, it’s OK. Write each one down, and give them a date, on which you’ll reach that goal, and make it clear how much time do you have to achieve each one.\n\nStart, today. Not “tomorrow”. It’ll never come, and you die by the minute.\n\nHere’s an example:\n\nUntil you’re 30:\n\n1, Learn Japanese (Exam in Dec. 8 months)\n2, Chinese (Exam next year Dec. 1 year)\n3, Charleston, dance (1 year)\n(There’s a lot more but you get it)\n\nGoals to achieve before turning 25.\n\n1, Japanese fluency (above date)\n2, Speed reading (1h/day)\n3, M", "I understand that you want to do something productive, but you should really be playing fallout or black ops 3 right now.", "I have a job and I can knit. Find those things to do, possibly? I'll be spending most of my time off knitting, most likely. You could always contemplate life, and why you're doing what you're doing, but that's always a downer.", "Clean your desk clutter and properly unpack and sort all your shit. Seriously I have a desk covered in filth and old papers and subway transfers and receipts and a closet crammed full of boxes I haven't unpacked from my move a year and a half ago. Whenever I make a dent in it I feel on top of the world. When you have free time make use of it. You'll thank yourself and feel more put together which projects well into other areas of your life..", "A man must alway be building himself wether it involves a career a hobby or a relationship you must never stop ." ]

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[ "How to cook bacon like a pro. My bacon is never as good as bacon that i get from other places. Is there a trick?", "How to cook bacon like a pro. My bacon is never as good as bacon that i get from other places. Is there a trick?", "How to cook bacon like a pro. My bacon is never as good as bacon that i get from other places. Is there a trick?", "How to cook bacon like a pro. My bacon is never as good as bacon that i get from other places. Is there a trick?", "How to cook bacon like a pro. My bacon is never as good as bacon that i get from other places. Is there a trick?" ]

[ "Put in oven @ 350deg for 15 minutes, then glaze with maple syrup and cook for additional 2-3 minutes.", "If you pan-fry it, put down some oil and it won't get all tiny and crispy (am I the only one who doesn't like that?)", "If you like pan/griddle frying, always put the bacon in a cold pan. Cook it slowly, medium heat at most. Flip the bacon after it curls up a bit. Bacon tends to kink up, and you always end up with chunks of uncooked fat. I tend to flip my bacon, and rotate it so that the fatty uncooked parts are near the hotter spots of my pan. When the edges are brown and the top of the bacon is covered in little frothy bubbles, take it out ASAP and drain on paper towels.\n\nBaking in an oven is great too but doesn't taste quite the same as panfried (in my opinion). Best for BLTs and other applications where you eat the bacon as part of something rather than just as bacon.\n\nEnjoy your meat candy!\n\n\n", "I have ONLY baked my bacon in the last 3 years or so since I discovered it. Easy, flat, perfectly cooked. Grease drains right off aluminum foil and into 'grease can' that I keep in the fridge.", "Bake it in the oven.\n\nWe do this when we make BLTs, and need a bunch of bacon. Lay it on a cookie sheet and bake @ 400F for 15-20 minutes. My oven can hold 4 cookie sheets, so we can make a good amount of bacon ready all at once.\n\nAdditional protip: for easy cleanup, line the pan w/ foil first." ]

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[ "How to get over a tough break up Broke up with my SO recently. We dated for a little over two years and her reason was because everything was too perfect and she was afraid it was going to go on forever. It's a tough pill to swallow after putting a lot in to it. It has been difficult to not just text/call her and to not think about it throughout the day since we were extremely close. I was just wondering what advice anyone has to make it easier to move on.", "How to get over a tough break up Broke up with my SO recently. We dated for a little over two years and her reason was because everything was too perfect and she was afraid it was going to go on forever. It's a tough pill to swallow after putting a lot in to it. It has been difficult to not just text/call her and to not think about it throughout the day since we were extremely close. I was just wondering what advice anyone has to make it easier to move on.", "How to get over a tough break up Broke up with my SO recently. We dated for a little over two years and her reason was because everything was too perfect and she was afraid it was going to go on forever. It's a tough pill to swallow after putting a lot in to it. It has been difficult to not just text/call her and to not think about it throughout the day since we were extremely close. I was just wondering what advice anyone has to make it easier to move on.", "How to get over a tough break up Broke up with my SO recently. We dated for a little over two years and her reason was because everything was too perfect and she was afraid it was going to go on forever. It's a tough pill to swallow after putting a lot in to it. It has been difficult to not just text/call her and to not think about it throughout the day since we were extremely close. I was just wondering what advice anyone has to make it easier to move on.", "How to get over a tough break up Broke up with my SO recently. We dated for a little over two years and her reason was because everything was too perfect and she was afraid it was going to go on forever. It's a tough pill to swallow after putting a lot in to it. It has been difficult to not just text/call her and to not think about it throughout the day since we were extremely close. I was just wondering what advice anyone has to make it easier to move on.", "How to get over a tough break up Broke up with my SO recently. We dated for a little over two years and her reason was because everything was too perfect and she was afraid it was going to go on forever. It's a tough pill to swallow after putting a lot in to it. It has been difficult to not just text/call her and to not think about it throughout the day since we were extremely close. I was just wondering what advice anyone has to make it easier to move on.", "How to get over a tough break up Broke up with my SO recently. We dated for a little over two years and her reason was because everything was too perfect and she was afraid it was going to go on forever. It's a tough pill to swallow after putting a lot in to it. It has been difficult to not just text/call her and to not think about it throughout the day since we were extremely close. I was just wondering what advice anyone has to make it easier to move on.", "How to get over a tough break up Broke up with my SO recently. We dated for a little over two years and her reason was because everything was too perfect and she was afraid it was going to go on forever. It's a tough pill to swallow after putting a lot in to it. It has been difficult to not just text/call her and to not think about it throughout the day since we were extremely close. I was just wondering what advice anyone has to make it easier to move on.", "How to get over a tough break up Broke up with my SO recently. We dated for a little over two years and her reason was because everything was too perfect and she was afraid it was going to go on forever. It's a tough pill to swallow after putting a lot in to it. It has been difficult to not just text/call her and to not think about it throughout the day since we were extremely close. I was just wondering what advice anyone has to make it easier to move on." ]

[ "Keep yourself busy. Make plans often with friends, do things that you're all interested in. Sometimes when people are in committed, long-term relationships, they lose touch with close friends. If this is you, use this an opportunity to reconnect. Keep busy in your alone time- workout, read, catch up on your list of movies or shows to watch, etc. \n\nThe worst you can do is mope around, dwell on the past, and think about what you could've done differently. That doesn't matter now, it's all in the past. Look ahead to your future and prepare for the next chapter of your life. ", "I'm still stuck on the fact that everything was \"too perfect.\" There's someone out there who would love to be in a great relationship. Keep your chin up, Champ! ", "I like Aziz Ansari's suggestion to take all the pics of you and your ex, and photoshop someone else's head onto hers. Hey, remember that amazing beach vacation you took with Beyonce? It was magical! ", "Use that angry and let it out in the gym. After a month or two, you will have awesome abs and your favorite rap lyric will be \"back then, you didn't want me. Now I'm hot, you are all on me.\"", "Time is the only healer. However no matter how difficult or shitty you feel do not call or text her. Its also a great time to improve yourself. Keep motivated, learn a new skill. ", "The best advice I can give you is be active and keep your mind busy. I wasted 2 years of my life figuring out how to get over my ex and I finally figured it out a couple months ago. The mistake I made was that I was always depressed and I sat down just constantly asking myself what was wrong with me. In reality, I was perfectly fine but I didn't want to accept it. Then I started talking to different people in my school and I ended up being a pretty popular kid. Bike around, skateboard, play some tennis, jog, work out (great one), or just call some people up. Now I tell my friends stories of me and my ex and how crazy our relationship was and everyone finds them interesting. Just occupy yourself and you'll be set for life.", "I see a lot of comments about moving on to someone else. I think the main thing is to just stop pursuing her. You don't need to jump right in to a relationship. Just let things settle down for yourself. And for God's sake, delete her from facebook.", "I moped around for a few months until I got my shit together. You cannot do all of these at the same time, prioritize a few and become reasonably good at them, \n \n \nLearn a musical instrument, specially guitar. (YouTube has some good beginner lessons) \n \nJoin the gym or find some people to workout with outdoors(freeletics is quite famous these days, if you live in a big city you can find people). \n \nJoin a dance class like salsa or tango. Trust me on this one, you get to meet and dance with new girls every session. It's great to build some confidence. \n \nJoin language exchange groups. Again a great way to keep yourself busy and learn something valuable. \n \nTravel if possible with your friends or go with a tour group. Don't travel alone at least in the early days.\n \nWith all these you remove the dependence on your friends to lift you up, specially if most of your friends are busy or have gf's or bf's, their personal life is not disturbed. \n \nAfter a few months even if your are still hurting, when you look back..you have gained new skills, expanded your social circle and become physically fit. You will be more confident about things that lie ahead for you. \n", "**Don't** do anything drastic to your hair. The guy that dumped me came back after a month, but I was stuck with bangs for half a year.\n\n**Don't** contact your ex. It's hard, I know, but don't do it.\n\n**Don't** Obsess over her FB page. Research has shown that people who follow their exes on social media take longer to get over the relationship.\n\n**Do** find something you like to do. [Edx](https://www.edx.org) offers really cool online classes.\n\n**Do** listen to [this](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wRP6egIEABk) song.\n\nGood luck, it will get better!" ]

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[ "How to deal with painfully earnest friends I'm in need of tips on how to deal with a situation I sometimes find myself in. I'll give a quick example of why I'm asking now, but this problem is universal enough that I hope tips will be applicable to everyone, potentially.\n\nAn old friend is coming to visit for almost a week. This time she's bringing her partner, who is a friendly but *painfully* earnest person. Perhaps you know the type: sensitive, into prolonged eye contact, heartfelt comments (\"thank you for being such good friends to [our friend] over the years\"), \"deep\" personal questions, etc. \n\nI'm a friendly person, but I don't like these forced-intimate conversations with someone I don't feel close to. I don't like feeling like I either have to (a) come to every conversation with an \"open heart\" or (b) be a crusty and dismissive asshole to someone who is a guest.\n\nTips?", "How to deal with painfully earnest friends I'm in need of tips on how to deal with a situation I sometimes find myself in. I'll give a quick example of why I'm asking now, but this problem is universal enough that I hope tips will be applicable to everyone, potentially.\n\nAn old friend is coming to visit for almost a week. This time she's bringing her partner, who is a friendly but *painfully* earnest person. Perhaps you know the type: sensitive, into prolonged eye contact, heartfelt comments (\"thank you for being such good friends to [our friend] over the years\"), \"deep\" personal questions, etc. \n\nI'm a friendly person, but I don't like these forced-intimate conversations with someone I don't feel close to. I don't like feeling like I either have to (a) come to every conversation with an \"open heart\" or (b) be a crusty and dismissive asshole to someone who is a guest.\n\nTips?", "How to deal with painfully earnest friends I'm in need of tips on how to deal with a situation I sometimes find myself in. I'll give a quick example of why I'm asking now, but this problem is universal enough that I hope tips will be applicable to everyone, potentially.\n\nAn old friend is coming to visit for almost a week. This time she's bringing her partner, who is a friendly but *painfully* earnest person. Perhaps you know the type: sensitive, into prolonged eye contact, heartfelt comments (\"thank you for being such good friends to [our friend] over the years\"), \"deep\" personal questions, etc. \n\nI'm a friendly person, but I don't like these forced-intimate conversations with someone I don't feel close to. I don't like feeling like I either have to (a) come to every conversation with an \"open heart\" or (b) be a crusty and dismissive asshole to someone who is a guest.\n\nTips?", "How to deal with painfully earnest friends I'm in need of tips on how to deal with a situation I sometimes find myself in. I'll give a quick example of why I'm asking now, but this problem is universal enough that I hope tips will be applicable to everyone, potentially.\n\nAn old friend is coming to visit for almost a week. This time she's bringing her partner, who is a friendly but *painfully* earnest person. Perhaps you know the type: sensitive, into prolonged eye contact, heartfelt comments (\"thank you for being such good friends to [our friend] over the years\"), \"deep\" personal questions, etc. \n\nI'm a friendly person, but I don't like these forced-intimate conversations with someone I don't feel close to. I don't like feeling like I either have to (a) come to every conversation with an \"open heart\" or (b) be a crusty and dismissive asshole to someone who is a guest.\n\nTips?", "How to deal with painfully earnest friends I'm in need of tips on how to deal with a situation I sometimes find myself in. I'll give a quick example of why I'm asking now, but this problem is universal enough that I hope tips will be applicable to everyone, potentially.\n\nAn old friend is coming to visit for almost a week. This time she's bringing her partner, who is a friendly but *painfully* earnest person. Perhaps you know the type: sensitive, into prolonged eye contact, heartfelt comments (\"thank you for being such good friends to [our friend] over the years\"), \"deep\" personal questions, etc. \n\nI'm a friendly person, but I don't like these forced-intimate conversations with someone I don't feel close to. I don't like feeling like I either have to (a) come to every conversation with an \"open heart\" or (b) be a crusty and dismissive asshole to someone who is a guest.\n\nTips?", "How to deal with painfully earnest friends I'm in need of tips on how to deal with a situation I sometimes find myself in. I'll give a quick example of why I'm asking now, but this problem is universal enough that I hope tips will be applicable to everyone, potentially.\n\nAn old friend is coming to visit for almost a week. This time she's bringing her partner, who is a friendly but *painfully* earnest person. Perhaps you know the type: sensitive, into prolonged eye contact, heartfelt comments (\"thank you for being such good friends to [our friend] over the years\"), \"deep\" personal questions, etc. \n\nI'm a friendly person, but I don't like these forced-intimate conversations with someone I don't feel close to. I don't like feeling like I either have to (a) come to every conversation with an \"open heart\" or (b) be a crusty and dismissive asshole to someone who is a guest.\n\nTips?", "How to deal with painfully earnest friends I'm in need of tips on how to deal with a situation I sometimes find myself in. I'll give a quick example of why I'm asking now, but this problem is universal enough that I hope tips will be applicable to everyone, potentially.\n\nAn old friend is coming to visit for almost a week. This time she's bringing her partner, who is a friendly but *painfully* earnest person. Perhaps you know the type: sensitive, into prolonged eye contact, heartfelt comments (\"thank you for being such good friends to [our friend] over the years\"), \"deep\" personal questions, etc. \n\nI'm a friendly person, but I don't like these forced-intimate conversations with someone I don't feel close to. I don't like feeling like I either have to (a) come to every conversation with an \"open heart\" or (b) be a crusty and dismissive asshole to someone who is a guest.\n\nTips?" ]

[ "I don't like it either - I just deflect politely and maybe with a little humor if I feel someone is asking questions that I consider too personal. Deflect, and redirect the conversation toward a topic that you are more comfortable with. And don't be afraid to politely say something to the effect that you feel whatever they asked is a little personal since you don't know each other that well yet...no one is required to reveal information that they are not comfortable revealing, when it is a simple social occasion.", "Why does this bother you? Be yourself. Two things will happen: 1) Mr Earnest gets annoyed and avoids your cynical hospitality in the future; or 2) he doesn't mind and you were stressed for no reason. \n\nBesides, any effort you make to meet this guy on his own terms will just come off as disingenuous, which wil make him really hate you. ", "I also find these types of conversations uncomfortable, and frankly contrived. I have always relied on brevity. Not only is it the soul of wit, but probing, personal questions get harder and harder to ask, if the subject keeps their answers brief and concise. ", "Fight earnestness with earnestness - you can say things to these people that you can't say to others because they value honesty: say you're not comfortable having these sorts of conversations and you feel like you can't be honest with him because he wants you to be a type of person that you're not.\nIf he asks why you're closed off/cold/cynical or whatever, you can be shocked, SHOCKED that he would override your consent when you opened up to him like that, and try and force the conversation on you\n\nUgh its super annoying though", "Just be honest and tell them you don't feel comfortable talking about that with someone you barely know. ", "my way of dealing with such situations is to answer their question very shortly/avoidingly and then change the topic to something different, something i'm ok talking about. as long as i slide into a different conversation quickly and smoothly they usually don't even notice what happened", "My advice would be to keep it short. A sincere person like the one you described would like to keep a conversation going for a long time, all you can do is answer without interest, not in a 'I'm not interested', but in a 'rationale, straightforward way'. Such a person might mistake you trying to put anything on (like trying to empathize with him ) as your interest in him, which clearly you don't have by what you've said. \n\nAny questions too personal... I don't know. If they are personal in the sense that he is genuinely interested in something, just try and learn from the experience to be a more open person. But of course if you are not comfortable with it, then immediately and openly (yes, this will be awkward but still) tell him you're not comfortable with such personal questions." ]

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[ "How to ask someone give back the money I lent them There is this girl that I know (not very good anymore actually) for 5 years. Back in the time I have given her many times small amounts of money (say 20, 50 bucks) but never asked it back. So now after high school we happened to go to colleges in the same city. About two months ago out of nowhere she asked me to lend her $50 as she promised to pay me back in two to three weeks. As you see it's been a long time and it was only once (probably a month ago) that she messaged me on Facebook that she will have my money in a week and that she has not forgotten about it. Although I have not heard of her anymore since then.\n\nNow I am a strange person I guess, I rearly say no to others (that is a different issue I will be trying to change in me) and to be honest I actually feel ashamed to ask anyone to pay me back especially when it's not a big amount of money. BUT inside me I am starting to feel this anger that I think this way and I couldn't fall asleep because of it. I know there is nothing to be ashamed of, this is my money and I have the right to ask it back but I don't know how to deal with this situation. \n\nIt is not about the $50, it is that I am starting to hate myself for being the person who always gets screwed and has not the guts to deal with others. I also think that dealing with this will make me more comfortable when going for my interests and if I can't deal with something how am I supposed to give a lesson to my kids to deal with it one day?\n\nAny help from you kind Redditors will be MUCH appreciated!", "How to ask someone give back the money I lent them There is this girl that I know (not very good anymore actually) for 5 years. Back in the time I have given her many times small amounts of money (say 20, 50 bucks) but never asked it back. So now after high school we happened to go to colleges in the same city. About two months ago out of nowhere she asked me to lend her $50 as she promised to pay me back in two to three weeks. As you see it's been a long time and it was only once (probably a month ago) that she messaged me on Facebook that she will have my money in a week and that she has not forgotten about it. Although I have not heard of her anymore since then.\n\nNow I am a strange person I guess, I rearly say no to others (that is a different issue I will be trying to change in me) and to be honest I actually feel ashamed to ask anyone to pay me back especially when it's not a big amount of money. BUT inside me I am starting to feel this anger that I think this way and I couldn't fall asleep because of it. I know there is nothing to be ashamed of, this is my money and I have the right to ask it back but I don't know how to deal with this situation. \n\nIt is not about the $50, it is that I am starting to hate myself for being the person who always gets screwed and has not the guts to deal with others. I also think that dealing with this will make me more comfortable when going for my interests and if I can't deal with something how am I supposed to give a lesson to my kids to deal with it one day?\n\nAny help from you kind Redditors will be MUCH appreciated!", "How to ask someone give back the money I lent them There is this girl that I know (not very good anymore actually) for 5 years. Back in the time I have given her many times small amounts of money (say 20, 50 bucks) but never asked it back. So now after high school we happened to go to colleges in the same city. About two months ago out of nowhere she asked me to lend her $50 as she promised to pay me back in two to three weeks. As you see it's been a long time and it was only once (probably a month ago) that she messaged me on Facebook that she will have my money in a week and that she has not forgotten about it. Although I have not heard of her anymore since then.\n\nNow I am a strange person I guess, I rearly say no to others (that is a different issue I will be trying to change in me) and to be honest I actually feel ashamed to ask anyone to pay me back especially when it's not a big amount of money. BUT inside me I am starting to feel this anger that I think this way and I couldn't fall asleep because of it. I know there is nothing to be ashamed of, this is my money and I have the right to ask it back but I don't know how to deal with this situation. \n\nIt is not about the $50, it is that I am starting to hate myself for being the person who always gets screwed and has not the guts to deal with others. I also think that dealing with this will make me more comfortable when going for my interests and if I can't deal with something how am I supposed to give a lesson to my kids to deal with it one day?\n\nAny help from you kind Redditors will be MUCH appreciated!", "How to ask someone give back the money I lent them There is this girl that I know (not very good anymore actually) for 5 years. Back in the time I have given her many times small amounts of money (say 20, 50 bucks) but never asked it back. So now after high school we happened to go to colleges in the same city. About two months ago out of nowhere she asked me to lend her $50 as she promised to pay me back in two to three weeks. As you see it's been a long time and it was only once (probably a month ago) that she messaged me on Facebook that she will have my money in a week and that she has not forgotten about it. Although I have not heard of her anymore since then.\n\nNow I am a strange person I guess, I rearly say no to others (that is a different issue I will be trying to change in me) and to be honest I actually feel ashamed to ask anyone to pay me back especially when it's not a big amount of money. BUT inside me I am starting to feel this anger that I think this way and I couldn't fall asleep because of it. I know there is nothing to be ashamed of, this is my money and I have the right to ask it back but I don't know how to deal with this situation. \n\nIt is not about the $50, it is that I am starting to hate myself for being the person who always gets screwed and has not the guts to deal with others. I also think that dealing with this will make me more comfortable when going for my interests and if I can't deal with something how am I supposed to give a lesson to my kids to deal with it one day?\n\nAny help from you kind Redditors will be MUCH appreciated!", "How to ask someone give back the money I lent them There is this girl that I know (not very good anymore actually) for 5 years. Back in the time I have given her many times small amounts of money (say 20, 50 bucks) but never asked it back. So now after high school we happened to go to colleges in the same city. About two months ago out of nowhere she asked me to lend her $50 as she promised to pay me back in two to three weeks. As you see it's been a long time and it was only once (probably a month ago) that she messaged me on Facebook that she will have my money in a week and that she has not forgotten about it. Although I have not heard of her anymore since then.\n\nNow I am a strange person I guess, I rearly say no to others (that is a different issue I will be trying to change in me) and to be honest I actually feel ashamed to ask anyone to pay me back especially when it's not a big amount of money. BUT inside me I am starting to feel this anger that I think this way and I couldn't fall asleep because of it. I know there is nothing to be ashamed of, this is my money and I have the right to ask it back but I don't know how to deal with this situation. \n\nIt is not about the $50, it is that I am starting to hate myself for being the person who always gets screwed and has not the guts to deal with others. I also think that dealing with this will make me more comfortable when going for my interests and if I can't deal with something how am I supposed to give a lesson to my kids to deal with it one day?\n\nAny help from you kind Redditors will be MUCH appreciated!", "How to ask someone give back the money I lent them There is this girl that I know (not very good anymore actually) for 5 years. Back in the time I have given her many times small amounts of money (say 20, 50 bucks) but never asked it back. So now after high school we happened to go to colleges in the same city. About two months ago out of nowhere she asked me to lend her $50 as she promised to pay me back in two to three weeks. As you see it's been a long time and it was only once (probably a month ago) that she messaged me on Facebook that she will have my money in a week and that she has not forgotten about it. Although I have not heard of her anymore since then.\n\nNow I am a strange person I guess, I rearly say no to others (that is a different issue I will be trying to change in me) and to be honest I actually feel ashamed to ask anyone to pay me back especially when it's not a big amount of money. BUT inside me I am starting to feel this anger that I think this way and I couldn't fall asleep because of it. I know there is nothing to be ashamed of, this is my money and I have the right to ask it back but I don't know how to deal with this situation. \n\nIt is not about the $50, it is that I am starting to hate myself for being the person who always gets screwed and has not the guts to deal with others. I also think that dealing with this will make me more comfortable when going for my interests and if I can't deal with something how am I supposed to give a lesson to my kids to deal with it one day?\n\nAny help from you kind Redditors will be MUCH appreciated!", "How to ask someone give back the money I lent them There is this girl that I know (not very good anymore actually) for 5 years. Back in the time I have given her many times small amounts of money (say 20, 50 bucks) but never asked it back. So now after high school we happened to go to colleges in the same city. About two months ago out of nowhere she asked me to lend her $50 as she promised to pay me back in two to three weeks. As you see it's been a long time and it was only once (probably a month ago) that she messaged me on Facebook that she will have my money in a week and that she has not forgotten about it. Although I have not heard of her anymore since then.\n\nNow I am a strange person I guess, I rearly say no to others (that is a different issue I will be trying to change in me) and to be honest I actually feel ashamed to ask anyone to pay me back especially when it's not a big amount of money. BUT inside me I am starting to feel this anger that I think this way and I couldn't fall asleep because of it. I know there is nothing to be ashamed of, this is my money and I have the right to ask it back but I don't know how to deal with this situation. \n\nIt is not about the $50, it is that I am starting to hate myself for being the person who always gets screwed and has not the guts to deal with others. I also think that dealing with this will make me more comfortable when going for my interests and if I can't deal with something how am I supposed to give a lesson to my kids to deal with it one day?\n\nAny help from you kind Redditors will be MUCH appreciated!", "How to ask someone give back the money I lent them There is this girl that I know (not very good anymore actually) for 5 years. Back in the time I have given her many times small amounts of money (say 20, 50 bucks) but never asked it back. So now after high school we happened to go to colleges in the same city. About two months ago out of nowhere she asked me to lend her $50 as she promised to pay me back in two to three weeks. As you see it's been a long time and it was only once (probably a month ago) that she messaged me on Facebook that she will have my money in a week and that she has not forgotten about it. Although I have not heard of her anymore since then.\n\nNow I am a strange person I guess, I rearly say no to others (that is a different issue I will be trying to change in me) and to be honest I actually feel ashamed to ask anyone to pay me back especially when it's not a big amount of money. BUT inside me I am starting to feel this anger that I think this way and I couldn't fall asleep because of it. I know there is nothing to be ashamed of, this is my money and I have the right to ask it back but I don't know how to deal with this situation. \n\nIt is not about the $50, it is that I am starting to hate myself for being the person who always gets screwed and has not the guts to deal with others. I also think that dealing with this will make me more comfortable when going for my interests and if I can't deal with something how am I supposed to give a lesson to my kids to deal with it one day?\n\nAny help from you kind Redditors will be MUCH appreciated!", "How to ask someone give back the money I lent them There is this girl that I know (not very good anymore actually) for 5 years. Back in the time I have given her many times small amounts of money (say 20, 50 bucks) but never asked it back. So now after high school we happened to go to colleges in the same city. About two months ago out of nowhere she asked me to lend her $50 as she promised to pay me back in two to three weeks. As you see it's been a long time and it was only once (probably a month ago) that she messaged me on Facebook that she will have my money in a week and that she has not forgotten about it. Although I have not heard of her anymore since then.\n\nNow I am a strange person I guess, I rearly say no to others (that is a different issue I will be trying to change in me) and to be honest I actually feel ashamed to ask anyone to pay me back especially when it's not a big amount of money. BUT inside me I am starting to feel this anger that I think this way and I couldn't fall asleep because of it. I know there is nothing to be ashamed of, this is my money and I have the right to ask it back but I don't know how to deal with this situation. \n\nIt is not about the $50, it is that I am starting to hate myself for being the person who always gets screwed and has not the guts to deal with others. I also think that dealing with this will make me more comfortable when going for my interests and if I can't deal with something how am I supposed to give a lesson to my kids to deal with it one day?\n\nAny help from you kind Redditors will be MUCH appreciated!" ]

[ "If anyone in this position asks you for money again, just remind the person they already owe you money. The money I lost to a deadbeat kept him from asking me ever again. Call it a \"go away\" payment.\n\nNo need for guilt (for refusing), either.", "Don't make a request for needing to be paid back, tell them when you need to be paid by.\n\nInstead of 'Hey, do you happen to have that $50 I lent you?'\n\nSay 'Hey, just so you know, I will need that $50 by Friday of this week.'\n\nIf the person says they can't or makes excuses, stick firm to your deadline. Regardless of of they make or miss the deadline, don't lend money to them again. If they make it, say thank you, if they miss it, send a reminder at the same time every week saying you need the money by a certain date (Friday of that week for instance).\n\nFor the future when someone asks to borrow money you can either say 'I'm sorry, I don't lend money to friends.' or 'I'm sorry, I really can't spare any money right now.'\n\nDon't let someone else's excuses and 'need' become your own.", "Perhaps just ask and don't lend them any money anymore. If they don't pay if back then write it off as a life lesson. I would go further and say you probably shouldn't lend money to anybody if you have a problem getting it back. Simply say \"I can't afford to lend money at the moment, sorry\" and leave it at that. ", "Never try stop your strangeness but realise that some people are only out there to take advantage of any opportunity. Realistically you not gonna get that money back without lots of awkward confrontations. Cut your losses and use that anger to fuel a lesson about lending money - ie dont unless you're willing to write it off.", "I was always taught to not lend any money that i cant just say goodbye too for this reason, but that isnt your problem. You just need some confidence. There are a lot of ways to gain it. Just find something your good at and excel at it. There is also life coaching classes or other free videos with exercises you could try. Just dealing with people more will make you more comfortable doing it really.", "I encountered a situation twice that the person remembers all the things of movie, game, history, geography, kindergarten details. Though they would forget they have borrowed your money in just one to two days ago. When asking them, they would argue and speak loud to say I don't remember that money thing in public place to embarrass you.", "DO NOT EVER LOAN MONEY!!! write it off in your head as a gift. if that gift gets return good for you. if it doesn't and they dodge you it's even better. if they are loyal good people and can't pay you back simply offer to square up on one of their skills (ie cooking, crafts, legal advice, work handouts ect.)", "\"Hey, remember that 50 I loaned you back in August? I need paid back by Friday.\"\n\nAs for saying no, practice it in a mirror. Be sure to make eye contact when you tell someone \"No.\"\n\n*Do not* explain yourself or give excuses for saying no, and if pressed try \"You deaf? I said no. Hey, how about you loan me 50 bucks?\"\n\nPeople can only disadvantage you if you allow them.", "Don't lend money. If you do, consider it a gift and don't expect them to pay you back. If they do happen to pay you back, consider that a gift too." ]

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[ "How to be more confident when public speaking I've been doing public speaking for a while now such as debating and church readings and even though I've done them for 3+ years I still get a feeling of nervousness before I talk.\n\nMy heart will be beating rapidly before I go up to talk and I will get very hot, and when I read my leg sometimes unconsciously shakes.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice on how to be more confident before and during I talk?", "How to be more confident when public speaking I've been doing public speaking for a while now such as debating and church readings and even though I've done them for 3+ years I still get a feeling of nervousness before I talk.\n\nMy heart will be beating rapidly before I go up to talk and I will get very hot, and when I read my leg sometimes unconsciously shakes.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice on how to be more confident before and during I talk?", "How to be more confident when public speaking I've been doing public speaking for a while now such as debating and church readings and even though I've done them for 3+ years I still get a feeling of nervousness before I talk.\n\nMy heart will be beating rapidly before I go up to talk and I will get very hot, and when I read my leg sometimes unconsciously shakes.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice on how to be more confident before and during I talk?", "How to be more confident when public speaking I've been doing public speaking for a while now such as debating and church readings and even though I've done them for 3+ years I still get a feeling of nervousness before I talk.\n\nMy heart will be beating rapidly before I go up to talk and I will get very hot, and when I read my leg sometimes unconsciously shakes.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice on how to be more confident before and during I talk?", "How to be more confident when public speaking I've been doing public speaking for a while now such as debating and church readings and even though I've done them for 3+ years I still get a feeling of nervousness before I talk.\n\nMy heart will be beating rapidly before I go up to talk and I will get very hot, and when I read my leg sometimes unconsciously shakes.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice on how to be more confident before and during I talk?", "How to be more confident when public speaking I've been doing public speaking for a while now such as debating and church readings and even though I've done them for 3+ years I still get a feeling of nervousness before I talk.\n\nMy heart will be beating rapidly before I go up to talk and I will get very hot, and when I read my leg sometimes unconsciously shakes.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice on how to be more confident before and during I talk?", "How to be more confident when public speaking I've been doing public speaking for a while now such as debating and church readings and even though I've done them for 3+ years I still get a feeling of nervousness before I talk.\n\nMy heart will be beating rapidly before I go up to talk and I will get very hot, and when I read my leg sometimes unconsciously shakes.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice on how to be more confident before and during I talk?", "How to be more confident when public speaking I've been doing public speaking for a while now such as debating and church readings and even though I've done them for 3+ years I still get a feeling of nervousness before I talk.\n\nMy heart will be beating rapidly before I go up to talk and I will get very hot, and when I read my leg sometimes unconsciously shakes.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice on how to be more confident before and during I talk?", "How to be more confident when public speaking I've been doing public speaking for a while now such as debating and church readings and even though I've done them for 3+ years I still get a feeling of nervousness before I talk.\n\nMy heart will be beating rapidly before I go up to talk and I will get very hot, and when I read my leg sometimes unconsciously shakes.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice on how to be more confident before and during I talk?", "How to be more confident when public speaking I've been doing public speaking for a while now such as debating and church readings and even though I've done them for 3+ years I still get a feeling of nervousness before I talk.\n\nMy heart will be beating rapidly before I go up to talk and I will get very hot, and when I read my leg sometimes unconsciously shakes.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice on how to be more confident before and during I talk?", "How to be more confident when public speaking I've been doing public speaking for a while now such as debating and church readings and even though I've done them for 3+ years I still get a feeling of nervousness before I talk.\n\nMy heart will be beating rapidly before I go up to talk and I will get very hot, and when I read my leg sometimes unconsciously shakes.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice on how to be more confident before and during I talk?", "How to be more confident when public speaking I've been doing public speaking for a while now such as debating and church readings and even though I've done them for 3+ years I still get a feeling of nervousness before I talk.\n\nMy heart will be beating rapidly before I go up to talk and I will get very hot, and when I read my leg sometimes unconsciously shakes.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice on how to be more confident before and during I talk?", "How to be more confident when public speaking I've been doing public speaking for a while now such as debating and church readings and even though I've done them for 3+ years I still get a feeling of nervousness before I talk.\n\nMy heart will be beating rapidly before I go up to talk and I will get very hot, and when I read my leg sometimes unconsciously shakes.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice on how to be more confident before and during I talk?", "How to be more confident when public speaking I've been doing public speaking for a while now such as debating and church readings and even though I've done them for 3+ years I still get a feeling of nervousness before I talk.\n\nMy heart will be beating rapidly before I go up to talk and I will get very hot, and when I read my leg sometimes unconsciously shakes.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice on how to be more confident before and during I talk?", "How to be more confident when public speaking I've been doing public speaking for a while now such as debating and church readings and even though I've done them for 3+ years I still get a feeling of nervousness before I talk.\n\nMy heart will be beating rapidly before I go up to talk and I will get very hot, and when I read my leg sometimes unconsciously shakes.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice on how to be more confident before and during I talk?", "How to be more confident when public speaking I've been doing public speaking for a while now such as debating and church readings and even though I've done them for 3+ years I still get a feeling of nervousness before I talk.\n\nMy heart will be beating rapidly before I go up to talk and I will get very hot, and when I read my leg sometimes unconsciously shakes.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice on how to be more confident before and during I talk?", "How to be more confident when public speaking I've been doing public speaking for a while now such as debating and church readings and even though I've done them for 3+ years I still get a feeling of nervousness before I talk.\n\nMy heart will be beating rapidly before I go up to talk and I will get very hot, and when I read my leg sometimes unconsciously shakes.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice on how to be more confident before and during I talk?", "How to be more confident when public speaking I've been doing public speaking for a while now such as debating and church readings and even though I've done them for 3+ years I still get a feeling of nervousness before I talk.\n\nMy heart will be beating rapidly before I go up to talk and I will get very hot, and when I read my leg sometimes unconsciously shakes.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice on how to be more confident before and during I talk?", "How to be more confident when public speaking I've been doing public speaking for a while now such as debating and church readings and even though I've done them for 3+ years I still get a feeling of nervousness before I talk.\n\nMy heart will be beating rapidly before I go up to talk and I will get very hot, and when I read my leg sometimes unconsciously shakes.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice on how to be more confident before and during I talk?", "How to be more confident when public speaking I've been doing public speaking for a while now such as debating and church readings and even though I've done them for 3+ years I still get a feeling of nervousness before I talk.\n\nMy heart will be beating rapidly before I go up to talk and I will get very hot, and when I read my leg sometimes unconsciously shakes.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice on how to be more confident before and during I talk?", "How to be more confident when public speaking I've been doing public speaking for a while now such as debating and church readings and even though I've done them for 3+ years I still get a feeling of nervousness before I talk.\n\nMy heart will be beating rapidly before I go up to talk and I will get very hot, and when I read my leg sometimes unconsciously shakes.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice on how to be more confident before and during I talk?", "How to be more confident when public speaking I've been doing public speaking for a while now such as debating and church readings and even though I've done them for 3+ years I still get a feeling of nervousness before I talk.\n\nMy heart will be beating rapidly before I go up to talk and I will get very hot, and when I read my leg sometimes unconsciously shakes.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice on how to be more confident before and during I talk?", "How to be more confident when public speaking I've been doing public speaking for a while now such as debating and church readings and even though I've done them for 3+ years I still get a feeling of nervousness before I talk.\n\nMy heart will be beating rapidly before I go up to talk and I will get very hot, and when I read my leg sometimes unconsciously shakes.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice on how to be more confident before and during I talk?", "How to be more confident when public speaking I've been doing public speaking for a while now such as debating and church readings and even though I've done them for 3+ years I still get a feeling of nervousness before I talk.\n\nMy heart will be beating rapidly before I go up to talk and I will get very hot, and when I read my leg sometimes unconsciously shakes.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice on how to be more confident before and during I talk?", "How to be more confident when public speaking I've been doing public speaking for a while now such as debating and church readings and even though I've done them for 3+ years I still get a feeling of nervousness before I talk.\n\nMy heart will be beating rapidly before I go up to talk and I will get very hot, and when I read my leg sometimes unconsciously shakes.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice on how to be more confident before and during I talk?" ]

[ "this may sound really fked up but it works for me. pick out 5 of the ugliest/dumbest people looking people in front of you in different parts of the audience, and look at them as you speak.\n\nif you know people in the audience, speak to them -- it'll be like talking to a friend.", "Whenever I have assigned speeches for comm I get the worse anxiety ever. What I found helpful besides crying it out is going in front of a mirror, standing tall and sticking your chest out and giving yourself a pep talk.\nBasic stuff like \"There is no need to be nervous, you can do this. Do not let fear get in your way.\" This leaves me feeling very confident and self assured. \n", "Speak loudly and slowly, replace the word \"umm\" with silence. Push through. \n \nThe best piece if advice I have ever been given: If you're gonna be wrong, be FUCKING wrong.", "1. Maybe some Breathing-techniques will help to calm you down. Like 3 deep Breath in through the Nose and out through the Mouse. \n\n2. As yourself why are you nervous, sometimes it helps to think about it and argue logically with yourself. Since you have so much experience this could work on you\n \n3. Try to appreciate this feeling of nervousness and Adrenalin. I know it sounds weird but that way you may feel good instead of scared \n", "If you can mingle beforehand, try to get to know some of your audience or just general chitchat. That way you have some familiar faces to look at to help put you at ease when you are up there. ", "Is it just me or sometimes you are so scared of something that even a question about it (like the above) gives you a bump in the chest?", "I'll share a story told to me by a Navy Commander while I was at instructor school when someone brought up being nervous about public speaking:\n\nHe asked everyone in the room if they know what two things the average person was most afraid of. He said, \"On average, those two things are death and public speaking.\"\n\nHe explained that he'd beaten cancer three times, and the third time was the hardest. He went in for surgery and there was a complication. A complication so dire, in fact, that he was dead on the table for three minutes.\n\nHe finished the story by saying that \"you may think this is the most terrifying thing that you've ever done but, believe me, I've been dead, and public speaking is NOT that bad.\"\n\nThe resulting laugh sucked a great deal of the nervousness out of the room.\n\nAn old music teacher of mine had a tip for the jitters you're talking about:\n\nSit in a chair and grab the seat with both hands. Now pull. Pull like you're going to rip the seat off the chair and you with it. Keep pulling. Pull until you have to let go. The exertion will help to work the adrenaline out of your system. You may still feel like your nervous (which is completely natural!) but you likely won't be shaking as much.", "When your looking at a crowd don't look at individual faces. Make it a point to look at their foreheads. It worked for me.", "This probably won't help you but i get nervous before speaking. I've noticed once i start I'm completely fine though. In school i always tried to go third so that i didn't have time to get nervous. \n\nNever try to memorize the whole speech that's just taking up brain cells and if it's not perfect you'll flounder getting back on track. Memorize an outline of points you want to make and follow that. The improvising along the way to flesh out the outline makes the whole speech feel more alive and personal. Also, SLOW DOWN the slower you go the more time you have to think through your sentences the fewer ums you'll have and the more important and thought each you say will sound. ", "So this is gonna sound really stupid, but here's what worked for me... start by being confident about *what* you are going to say. Don't memorise a whole speech, but make sure you have some sort of bullet point list in your head of what you need to address. \n\nThen when you finally do have to speak, if possible ask a friend to sit in the audience and *only* talk to that friend. (if it is for an assignment this friend should sit close to the ones judging you)\n\nIt still doesn't stop me from being nervous but at least this feels more natural. ", "Look, you'll get a lot of responses like \"memorize your talk\" and \"do more speeches\" but if you're really terrified of public speaking, you take a propranolol before you get out there and that's what helps. Sorry. Sometimes there isn't a hard-work-will-fix-it solution. ", "Imagine that the audience is one entity and that you are having a one on one conversation with them. Rehearse ahead of time, but only memorize a broad outline of what you want to talk about - never read something word for word because every time you stumble you will get nervous and the whole thing will sound canned anyway. Be mindful and in the moment when you speak - just be in the present moment and get through those moments one at a time. Don't overthink it.", "If you have a small token, like a coin or a worry stone, put it in your pocket before you speak. Before you speak, feel it and think about it being a comfort to you. If you become agitated during your speech, touch it again. It's surprisingly focusing.", "I used to be really bad at public speaking until I started coaching children, and translated well to everyone else for some reason ", "I used the Lefkoe Method to eliminate limiting beliefs I developed in childhood which also eliminated my fear of public speaking entirely. http://www.mortylefkoe.com/proof-scientific-studies/", "I have pretty bad social anxiety but for some reason public speech is Cakewalk for me. Here are some of the tips I learned:\n\ndon't make eye contact, look over everyones heads as if you are looking at empty seats. \n\nMake an outline, write down major topics, then subtopics. This gives your speech structure and gives a logical path to follow.\n\nmake a personal connection to your topic. This increases your ambition to inform the audience.\n\nMove around. Mindless pacing is bad, you want to use your whole area for your speech. If you are at a podium then using your hands works.", "Have to give speeches to 500+ people at conventions. Try to get excited about the subject matter, it can be fun if you believe in it. Also, you have a responsibility to the audience. It's kind of selfish to waste everybody's time obsessing about yourself to the point that you can't speak.", "Debate and readings are two different forms of public speaking. But this applies to both forms:\n\nBefore you speak, set your body in a squared off posture. Have you feet just a little bit wider than your hips. Stand straight and tall, square off your shoulders. (Check height of microphone, adjust at this point if need be.) It's sort of like a subtle movement from bottom to top and will send a signal to your brain that your are focused. \n\nTo do a Scripture reading well, everyone, needs to practice, practice, practice. Read your piece at least 12 times out loud. Have the reading either printed or use a Pew Bible dedicated to the readings. Mark it up!! Circle letters that trip up the tongue, create a system of marks that show when to emphasis, when to string together, punctuation, etc. \n\nTrust me, old people will love you if you can enunciate. Be sure to vocalize the hard t, d, b's, etc., and be sure to make a full \"ing\" sound, so it is Telling, not tellin.\n\nMy pet peeves of mispronounced words in readings:\n\nAnything that starts with \"to\", such as tomorrow, today, tonight. It is pronounced 2morrow, 2day, 2night, not tamorrow, taday, tanight.\nBecause has \"cause\" in it, not cuz. For sounds like 4, unless you are in the South, not 'fur.'\n\n", "Check out the Dale Carnegie Institute.\n\nI read [Stand and Deliver](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/9100086-stand-and-deliver) recently and while it wasn't anything Earth shattering for me, I did like the attention to detail the book goes into and forces you to think about during your preparations. Little things like ensuring your version of Powerpoint is the same version as the computer you will be presenting from. \n\nThere's plenty of more advanced stuff like what's the best way for a speaker to introduce you as you come on stage. ", "1) breathe deep and slow for a few minutes before you go up to speak\n\n2) find one person (even someone you know well) in the audience that is paying you full attention and spend ~50% of your time maintaining eye contact with them, and the balance of the time scanning the room for other intent listeners. NEVER try to focus on someone not listening and try to win them over\n\n3) stand tall and use assertive body language. If you can, move back and forth across the stage. Love him or hate him, Tony Robbins does this extremely well. YouTube some videos of him speaking and copy his body language", "Whenever I feel nervous about such things I just pretend to be confident, in time you'll become more confident. At least it worked for me.", "Usually for me just knowing your shit helps. You don't have to have everything memorized, but if you can talk to someone casually about your subject, giving a presentation is a lot easier. ", "Remember that anyone who is in attendance is interested in what you have to say. They didn't come for their health and are looking forward to hearing from you!", "If you're nearsighted, take your glasses off before you speak. It's a lot less nerve wracking when you're giving a speech to a big blur than it is to a crowd. ", "I always start to think logically everytime I become nervous, like questioning myself what makes me nervous exactly? Is it because the audience? What makes me so afraid of the audience? It goes on, until I found the root cause and try to solve the problem, in the end, I would have had the feeling that I have done my best." ]

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[ "What to do with all these unused chunks of eraser? I do a ton of art, mostly charcoal but I do a ton of sketch work, with graphite, before going to charcoal. \n\nThis is where I work out mistakes... and I'm not a very good artist so I have to fix, and fix, and fix, until it's right. I don't just draw it all expert like as I see on Youtube. \n\nSo that leaves me with all these bits and chunks of erasers, that are each too small to use individually, but when piled together would make a very large eraser. \n\nI store them in a small paint can that I dump out when it gets full. \n\n\nHow do I stick these guys together? Can they be melted and remolded? If I can reclaim these erasers, I'll save at least $14.75 a month; which means I'll have enough to take my daughter to her favorite Hands-on Museum each weekend. ", "What to do with all these unused chunks of eraser? I do a ton of art, mostly charcoal but I do a ton of sketch work, with graphite, before going to charcoal. \n\nThis is where I work out mistakes... and I'm not a very good artist so I have to fix, and fix, and fix, until it's right. I don't just draw it all expert like as I see on Youtube. \n\nSo that leaves me with all these bits and chunks of erasers, that are each too small to use individually, but when piled together would make a very large eraser. \n\nI store them in a small paint can that I dump out when it gets full. \n\n\nHow do I stick these guys together? Can they be melted and remolded? If I can reclaim these erasers, I'll save at least $14.75 a month; which means I'll have enough to take my daughter to her favorite Hands-on Museum each weekend. ", "What to do with all these unused chunks of eraser? I do a ton of art, mostly charcoal but I do a ton of sketch work, with graphite, before going to charcoal. \n\nThis is where I work out mistakes... and I'm not a very good artist so I have to fix, and fix, and fix, until it's right. I don't just draw it all expert like as I see on Youtube. \n\nSo that leaves me with all these bits and chunks of erasers, that are each too small to use individually, but when piled together would make a very large eraser. \n\nI store them in a small paint can that I dump out when it gets full. \n\n\nHow do I stick these guys together? Can they be melted and remolded? If I can reclaim these erasers, I'll save at least $14.75 a month; which means I'll have enough to take my daughter to her favorite Hands-on Museum each weekend. " ]

[ "[This](http://www.wikihow.com/Make-Eraser-Putty) is how to use the eraser shavings into eraser putty, so maybe that can save money that way. I'm not sure if that could be used with the leftover eraser chunks. But I saw [this](http://www.wikihow.com/Make-Erasers) about how to *make* erasers so maybe you can throw in some of the chunks? I don't really know, but I hope this helps! ", "I don't know if this will work but my friend has a huge eraser clump that can be molded and folded on itself he calls a kneaded eraser. Would it be possible to stick your eraser chunks into the kneaded eraser and get used up as they surface?\n\nI have nothing saying this will work but can't think of why it wouldn't.", "If you spent some of your \"art time\" working at an actual job you would make more money AND not spend your daughter's museum money on those astronomical eraser bills." ]

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[ "How to relate/get to know people without asking so many questions? So I had a bad time during my teens and became somewhat of a social recluse. But in the last few years I came back out of my shell and I'm in a much better place. \n\nYet the one thing I still haven't managed to get better at is relating with people and how to get to know them well, without just making stale conversation and ask a load of dead end questions like I always do, even when I true am interested in what they have to say and genuinely want to know more. \n\nI ask because I'm going to university very soon, and although I'm not as socially inept as I used to be, I haven't met a whole lot of new people. The last 3-4 years I've had roughly the same friends and groups continuously, and have hardly met anyone new that I would continue on relations with. \n\nAnd I especially want to be more social because of what I want to do. After uni I want to start a company, so I'm really going to need better social skills than I do now. Also uni life itself is going to be a lot more than I'm used to socially, so I need to be ready for that. \n\n\n\nThanks for taking the time to listen to me whine, if you could give me some advice/tips I would very much appreciate it, thank you! ", "How to relate/get to know people without asking so many questions? So I had a bad time during my teens and became somewhat of a social recluse. But in the last few years I came back out of my shell and I'm in a much better place. \n\nYet the one thing I still haven't managed to get better at is relating with people and how to get to know them well, without just making stale conversation and ask a load of dead end questions like I always do, even when I true am interested in what they have to say and genuinely want to know more. \n\nI ask because I'm going to university very soon, and although I'm not as socially inept as I used to be, I haven't met a whole lot of new people. The last 3-4 years I've had roughly the same friends and groups continuously, and have hardly met anyone new that I would continue on relations with. \n\nAnd I especially want to be more social because of what I want to do. After uni I want to start a company, so I'm really going to need better social skills than I do now. Also uni life itself is going to be a lot more than I'm used to socially, so I need to be ready for that. \n\n\n\nThanks for taking the time to listen to me whine, if you could give me some advice/tips I would very much appreciate it, thank you! ", "How to relate/get to know people without asking so many questions? So I had a bad time during my teens and became somewhat of a social recluse. But in the last few years I came back out of my shell and I'm in a much better place. \n\nYet the one thing I still haven't managed to get better at is relating with people and how to get to know them well, without just making stale conversation and ask a load of dead end questions like I always do, even when I true am interested in what they have to say and genuinely want to know more. \n\nI ask because I'm going to university very soon, and although I'm not as socially inept as I used to be, I haven't met a whole lot of new people. The last 3-4 years I've had roughly the same friends and groups continuously, and have hardly met anyone new that I would continue on relations with. \n\nAnd I especially want to be more social because of what I want to do. After uni I want to start a company, so I'm really going to need better social skills than I do now. Also uni life itself is going to be a lot more than I'm used to socially, so I need to be ready for that. \n\n\n\nThanks for taking the time to listen to me whine, if you could give me some advice/tips I would very much appreciate it, thank you! " ]

[ "For starters, your not going to relate to everyone you meet. It's just the way it is. People come from all sorts of different backgrounds, and relate to people differently. \n\nThe only advice I can give is try to find common ground; this is especially easy at a university because, like you, they are also interested in coming out of their shell. Live in a dorm, talk to people in your classes, go out and put your self out there and you will be fine. ", "When you meet people there is the 3 general ideas:\n\nYou start yapping away about an interesting story talking like they are your old friend, continuously going on until they contribute. For extroverts this takes 0-2 minutes, for introverts it is 5-20 minutes.\n\nNext you want to bring them into the conversation by asking them a questions about what they said or what you said (when did you also do that?, have you heard of anything like that).\n\nThen you want to carry it on by asking follow up questions and being interested.\n\nYou never want to be rapid-firing questions that are *unrelated*. But asking many questions makes people like you. Asking them for help makes them like you more. Asking for their advice makes you into their friend.\n\n>...ask a load of dead end questions like I always do, even when I true am interested in what they have to say and genuinely want to know more. \n\nIt is really easy, don't ask yes/no questions, cut back a few words.\n\n>Them:\"I have been jet skiing in Hawaii\"\n\nDon't say \"Have you done it in Mississippi?\", Say \"jet skiing?\" or \"hawaii?\". If you ask a dead ended question, that is a lead on for you to tell one of your related stories. \"I say because I/friend/family went to Mississippi/is going there and always....\"\n\nIt is very easy in the start of university since everyone is trying to be extra open. as long as you show up, and keep your headphones out you should be able to make friends. I would recommend staying late every day for the first month. And if you live in a dorm, keep your door open.", "Don't make such a big deal about it. Everyone is usually scared of everybody they don't already know, so how do you get to know new people? Don't give a damn about how scared you are and just treat people kindly. Don't hold grudges. Ask questions you WANT to know the answer to, don't try to win friends with small talk. No one wants to be your ONLY friend. That's too much pressure. Don't talk about how hard it is to make friends, don't think about how hard it is to make friends, just BE a friend to anyone you want to be friends with. There is no ceremony." ]

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[ "How to get more guy time without affecting a serious relationship? I had been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years when we split up due to her clingyness and need for constant attention, including taking literally all of my free time. We broke up, and I spent nearly 6 months or the 7 we were apart by myself, completely alone. I loved the freedom, but I missed her. So I eventually reunited my relationship with said girlfriend.\n\nWe had a son our first year into our relationship, so I can understand her wanting to spend a lot of family time together, but I literally work, and spend time with her watching tv or helping with dinner or some other everyday thing. I have zero time to myself. We've been back together for almost a year now and her clingyness has renewed itself in full force. I can't even take a shower by myself without her having to constantly be around me or keep tabs on me.\n\nI just want a few hours to myself maybe outside on the porch, or in the shed, or even a night out fishing with some buddies, but all of these tasks as of now must include her. I feel like we suffer a lot of relationship problems due to the stress that is caused by us being around each other all the time. She even started working where I work 6 months ago, and so I have absolutely no time to myself unless I use the bathroom at work.\n\nHow can I get her to realize I need some time to myself without her thinking I don't love her?", "How to get more guy time without affecting a serious relationship? I had been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years when we split up due to her clingyness and need for constant attention, including taking literally all of my free time. We broke up, and I spent nearly 6 months or the 7 we were apart by myself, completely alone. I loved the freedom, but I missed her. So I eventually reunited my relationship with said girlfriend.\n\nWe had a son our first year into our relationship, so I can understand her wanting to spend a lot of family time together, but I literally work, and spend time with her watching tv or helping with dinner or some other everyday thing. I have zero time to myself. We've been back together for almost a year now and her clingyness has renewed itself in full force. I can't even take a shower by myself without her having to constantly be around me or keep tabs on me.\n\nI just want a few hours to myself maybe outside on the porch, or in the shed, or even a night out fishing with some buddies, but all of these tasks as of now must include her. I feel like we suffer a lot of relationship problems due to the stress that is caused by us being around each other all the time. She even started working where I work 6 months ago, and so I have absolutely no time to myself unless I use the bathroom at work.\n\nHow can I get her to realize I need some time to myself without her thinking I don't love her?", "How to get more guy time without affecting a serious relationship? I had been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years when we split up due to her clingyness and need for constant attention, including taking literally all of my free time. We broke up, and I spent nearly 6 months or the 7 we were apart by myself, completely alone. I loved the freedom, but I missed her. So I eventually reunited my relationship with said girlfriend.\n\nWe had a son our first year into our relationship, so I can understand her wanting to spend a lot of family time together, but I literally work, and spend time with her watching tv or helping with dinner or some other everyday thing. I have zero time to myself. We've been back together for almost a year now and her clingyness has renewed itself in full force. I can't even take a shower by myself without her having to constantly be around me or keep tabs on me.\n\nI just want a few hours to myself maybe outside on the porch, or in the shed, or even a night out fishing with some buddies, but all of these tasks as of now must include her. I feel like we suffer a lot of relationship problems due to the stress that is caused by us being around each other all the time. She even started working where I work 6 months ago, and so I have absolutely no time to myself unless I use the bathroom at work.\n\nHow can I get her to realize I need some time to myself without her thinking I don't love her?", "How to get more guy time without affecting a serious relationship? I had been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years when we split up due to her clingyness and need for constant attention, including taking literally all of my free time. We broke up, and I spent nearly 6 months or the 7 we were apart by myself, completely alone. I loved the freedom, but I missed her. So I eventually reunited my relationship with said girlfriend.\n\nWe had a son our first year into our relationship, so I can understand her wanting to spend a lot of family time together, but I literally work, and spend time with her watching tv or helping with dinner or some other everyday thing. I have zero time to myself. We've been back together for almost a year now and her clingyness has renewed itself in full force. I can't even take a shower by myself without her having to constantly be around me or keep tabs on me.\n\nI just want a few hours to myself maybe outside on the porch, or in the shed, or even a night out fishing with some buddies, but all of these tasks as of now must include her. I feel like we suffer a lot of relationship problems due to the stress that is caused by us being around each other all the time. She even started working where I work 6 months ago, and so I have absolutely no time to myself unless I use the bathroom at work.\n\nHow can I get her to realize I need some time to myself without her thinking I don't love her?", "How to get more guy time without affecting a serious relationship? I had been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years when we split up due to her clingyness and need for constant attention, including taking literally all of my free time. We broke up, and I spent nearly 6 months or the 7 we were apart by myself, completely alone. I loved the freedom, but I missed her. So I eventually reunited my relationship with said girlfriend.\n\nWe had a son our first year into our relationship, so I can understand her wanting to spend a lot of family time together, but I literally work, and spend time with her watching tv or helping with dinner or some other everyday thing. I have zero time to myself. We've been back together for almost a year now and her clingyness has renewed itself in full force. I can't even take a shower by myself without her having to constantly be around me or keep tabs on me.\n\nI just want a few hours to myself maybe outside on the porch, or in the shed, or even a night out fishing with some buddies, but all of these tasks as of now must include her. I feel like we suffer a lot of relationship problems due to the stress that is caused by us being around each other all the time. She even started working where I work 6 months ago, and so I have absolutely no time to myself unless I use the bathroom at work.\n\nHow can I get her to realize I need some time to myself without her thinking I don't love her?", "How to get more guy time without affecting a serious relationship? I had been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years when we split up due to her clingyness and need for constant attention, including taking literally all of my free time. We broke up, and I spent nearly 6 months or the 7 we were apart by myself, completely alone. I loved the freedom, but I missed her. So I eventually reunited my relationship with said girlfriend.\n\nWe had a son our first year into our relationship, so I can understand her wanting to spend a lot of family time together, but I literally work, and spend time with her watching tv or helping with dinner or some other everyday thing. I have zero time to myself. We've been back together for almost a year now and her clingyness has renewed itself in full force. I can't even take a shower by myself without her having to constantly be around me or keep tabs on me.\n\nI just want a few hours to myself maybe outside on the porch, or in the shed, or even a night out fishing with some buddies, but all of these tasks as of now must include her. I feel like we suffer a lot of relationship problems due to the stress that is caused by us being around each other all the time. She even started working where I work 6 months ago, and so I have absolutely no time to myself unless I use the bathroom at work.\n\nHow can I get her to realize I need some time to myself without her thinking I don't love her?", "How to get more guy time without affecting a serious relationship? I had been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years when we split up due to her clingyness and need for constant attention, including taking literally all of my free time. We broke up, and I spent nearly 6 months or the 7 we were apart by myself, completely alone. I loved the freedom, but I missed her. So I eventually reunited my relationship with said girlfriend.\n\nWe had a son our first year into our relationship, so I can understand her wanting to spend a lot of family time together, but I literally work, and spend time with her watching tv or helping with dinner or some other everyday thing. I have zero time to myself. We've been back together for almost a year now and her clingyness has renewed itself in full force. I can't even take a shower by myself without her having to constantly be around me or keep tabs on me.\n\nI just want a few hours to myself maybe outside on the porch, or in the shed, or even a night out fishing with some buddies, but all of these tasks as of now must include her. I feel like we suffer a lot of relationship problems due to the stress that is caused by us being around each other all the time. She even started working where I work 6 months ago, and so I have absolutely no time to myself unless I use the bathroom at work.\n\nHow can I get her to realize I need some time to myself without her thinking I don't love her?", "How to get more guy time without affecting a serious relationship? I had been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years when we split up due to her clingyness and need for constant attention, including taking literally all of my free time. We broke up, and I spent nearly 6 months or the 7 we were apart by myself, completely alone. I loved the freedom, but I missed her. So I eventually reunited my relationship with said girlfriend.\n\nWe had a son our first year into our relationship, so I can understand her wanting to spend a lot of family time together, but I literally work, and spend time with her watching tv or helping with dinner or some other everyday thing. I have zero time to myself. We've been back together for almost a year now and her clingyness has renewed itself in full force. I can't even take a shower by myself without her having to constantly be around me or keep tabs on me.\n\nI just want a few hours to myself maybe outside on the porch, or in the shed, or even a night out fishing with some buddies, but all of these tasks as of now must include her. I feel like we suffer a lot of relationship problems due to the stress that is caused by us being around each other all the time. She even started working where I work 6 months ago, and so I have absolutely no time to myself unless I use the bathroom at work.\n\nHow can I get her to realize I need some time to myself without her thinking I don't love her?", "How to get more guy time without affecting a serious relationship? I had been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years when we split up due to her clingyness and need for constant attention, including taking literally all of my free time. We broke up, and I spent nearly 6 months or the 7 we were apart by myself, completely alone. I loved the freedom, but I missed her. So I eventually reunited my relationship with said girlfriend.\n\nWe had a son our first year into our relationship, so I can understand her wanting to spend a lot of family time together, but I literally work, and spend time with her watching tv or helping with dinner or some other everyday thing. I have zero time to myself. We've been back together for almost a year now and her clingyness has renewed itself in full force. I can't even take a shower by myself without her having to constantly be around me or keep tabs on me.\n\nI just want a few hours to myself maybe outside on the porch, or in the shed, or even a night out fishing with some buddies, but all of these tasks as of now must include her. I feel like we suffer a lot of relationship problems due to the stress that is caused by us being around each other all the time. She even started working where I work 6 months ago, and so I have absolutely no time to myself unless I use the bathroom at work.\n\nHow can I get her to realize I need some time to myself without her thinking I don't love her?", "How to get more guy time without affecting a serious relationship? I had been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years when we split up due to her clingyness and need for constant attention, including taking literally all of my free time. We broke up, and I spent nearly 6 months or the 7 we were apart by myself, completely alone. I loved the freedom, but I missed her. So I eventually reunited my relationship with said girlfriend.\n\nWe had a son our first year into our relationship, so I can understand her wanting to spend a lot of family time together, but I literally work, and spend time with her watching tv or helping with dinner or some other everyday thing. I have zero time to myself. We've been back together for almost a year now and her clingyness has renewed itself in full force. I can't even take a shower by myself without her having to constantly be around me or keep tabs on me.\n\nI just want a few hours to myself maybe outside on the porch, or in the shed, or even a night out fishing with some buddies, but all of these tasks as of now must include her. I feel like we suffer a lot of relationship problems due to the stress that is caused by us being around each other all the time. She even started working where I work 6 months ago, and so I have absolutely no time to myself unless I use the bathroom at work.\n\nHow can I get her to realize I need some time to myself without her thinking I don't love her?", "How to get more guy time without affecting a serious relationship? I had been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years when we split up due to her clingyness and need for constant attention, including taking literally all of my free time. We broke up, and I spent nearly 6 months or the 7 we were apart by myself, completely alone. I loved the freedom, but I missed her. So I eventually reunited my relationship with said girlfriend.\n\nWe had a son our first year into our relationship, so I can understand her wanting to spend a lot of family time together, but I literally work, and spend time with her watching tv or helping with dinner or some other everyday thing. I have zero time to myself. We've been back together for almost a year now and her clingyness has renewed itself in full force. I can't even take a shower by myself without her having to constantly be around me or keep tabs on me.\n\nI just want a few hours to myself maybe outside on the porch, or in the shed, or even a night out fishing with some buddies, but all of these tasks as of now must include her. I feel like we suffer a lot of relationship problems due to the stress that is caused by us being around each other all the time. She even started working where I work 6 months ago, and so I have absolutely no time to myself unless I use the bathroom at work.\n\nHow can I get her to realize I need some time to myself without her thinking I don't love her?", "How to get more guy time without affecting a serious relationship? I had been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years when we split up due to her clingyness and need for constant attention, including taking literally all of my free time. We broke up, and I spent nearly 6 months or the 7 we were apart by myself, completely alone. I loved the freedom, but I missed her. So I eventually reunited my relationship with said girlfriend.\n\nWe had a son our first year into our relationship, so I can understand her wanting to spend a lot of family time together, but I literally work, and spend time with her watching tv or helping with dinner or some other everyday thing. I have zero time to myself. We've been back together for almost a year now and her clingyness has renewed itself in full force. I can't even take a shower by myself without her having to constantly be around me or keep tabs on me.\n\nI just want a few hours to myself maybe outside on the porch, or in the shed, or even a night out fishing with some buddies, but all of these tasks as of now must include her. I feel like we suffer a lot of relationship problems due to the stress that is caused by us being around each other all the time. She even started working where I work 6 months ago, and so I have absolutely no time to myself unless I use the bathroom at work.\n\nHow can I get her to realize I need some time to myself without her thinking I don't love her?", "How to get more guy time without affecting a serious relationship? I had been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years when we split up due to her clingyness and need for constant attention, including taking literally all of my free time. We broke up, and I spent nearly 6 months or the 7 we were apart by myself, completely alone. I loved the freedom, but I missed her. So I eventually reunited my relationship with said girlfriend.\n\nWe had a son our first year into our relationship, so I can understand her wanting to spend a lot of family time together, but I literally work, and spend time with her watching tv or helping with dinner or some other everyday thing. I have zero time to myself. We've been back together for almost a year now and her clingyness has renewed itself in full force. I can't even take a shower by myself without her having to constantly be around me or keep tabs on me.\n\nI just want a few hours to myself maybe outside on the porch, or in the shed, or even a night out fishing with some buddies, but all of these tasks as of now must include her. I feel like we suffer a lot of relationship problems due to the stress that is caused by us being around each other all the time. She even started working where I work 6 months ago, and so I have absolutely no time to myself unless I use the bathroom at work.\n\nHow can I get her to realize I need some time to myself without her thinking I don't love her?", "How to get more guy time without affecting a serious relationship? I had been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years when we split up due to her clingyness and need for constant attention, including taking literally all of my free time. We broke up, and I spent nearly 6 months or the 7 we were apart by myself, completely alone. I loved the freedom, but I missed her. So I eventually reunited my relationship with said girlfriend.\n\nWe had a son our first year into our relationship, so I can understand her wanting to spend a lot of family time together, but I literally work, and spend time with her watching tv or helping with dinner or some other everyday thing. I have zero time to myself. We've been back together for almost a year now and her clingyness has renewed itself in full force. I can't even take a shower by myself without her having to constantly be around me or keep tabs on me.\n\nI just want a few hours to myself maybe outside on the porch, or in the shed, or even a night out fishing with some buddies, but all of these tasks as of now must include her. I feel like we suffer a lot of relationship problems due to the stress that is caused by us being around each other all the time. She even started working where I work 6 months ago, and so I have absolutely no time to myself unless I use the bathroom at work.\n\nHow can I get her to realize I need some time to myself without her thinking I don't love her?" ]

[ "You need to have a serious talk with her. State very plainly that while you will continue to spend time with her, you also need some time to do your thing. Let her know that smothering you is bad for your relationship. Healthy relationships need space. \n\nShe needs to develop *her* own thing so she won't be so codependent on you. Take your kid out and let her have some me time. Then alternate.", "Talk with your SO? \n\nSeriously, if you can't talk to the person you're in a relationship with and say \"Hey, I wanna go hang out with the guys once in a while\" there's a huge problem. \n\n", "This is a bad situation made worse by apparent lack of communication. After so long and with a child so early, it can be very difficult to extricate yourselves from this rut.\n\nThis is really something that should be sorted out early in a relationship. But given where you are now, remember that hoping for the other person to *change* is fruitless, but working with the other person to *compromise* and adjust is way more likely to produce a mutually beneficial result. Think about the kinds of adjustments you are willing to make and have them ready to discuss before you ask her to change anything.\n\nEveryone in an adult relationship should be comfortable enough in their own skin to be able to spend time alone. Everyone should also have enough confidence in their partner to allow her or him that time alone. Any relationship without that self-awareness and trust is not going to be healthy long-term. And anyone so needy and so utterly dependent on the constant validation of another human being has issues that a peer-partner isn't able to resolve.\n\nHoping for the best for you and your family. Please let us know how the talk goes.", "Holy fuck dude, the shower and now she works at the same place?\nWell, silver lining, at least you're loved....lol. Sorry bro.", "Having time alone is an absolute MUST for any healthy relationship...\n\nIt seems like from what you wrote that your SO doesn't understand this, but it is a fairly well documented reality. I would suggest finding some studies in psychology if you need some 'hard facts' as to why. But there's no way through this without talking to your SO directly about this. \n\nI found this article that might help in that respect: \nhttp://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-16901/how-to-tell-your-partner-you-need-alone-time-without-getting-in-a-fight.html\n", "Seems as if she's insecure. But is she not sociable as well? Hire a baby sitter, you go out with the blokes and she goes out with her friends.", "I successfully made this transition by starting like this... \"I want to do X with my friends this week, what day works best for you?\" She'd pick the day (usually when she had something going on). After a few weeks, it became routine and as long as it was one day per week, I could more easily negotiate a more optimal day for me. just dont abuse it (especially at first) by staying to too late or doing something stupid\n", "I wonder if this is less about you, and more about her life when you're not around. What she's basically saying is that she doesn't really have a lot of fun things to do that doesn't involve you. Does she not have a social circle or friends of her own? Parents close by? Is there anything she likes doing - hobbies, etc - that she can also do alone or with a friend? I was in a similar situation, my wife and I do everything together - but I also really need some alone time to function well. So my wife goes to yoga once a week and then out with her yoga friends. I sit at home and play video games unmolested! It's great, we're both doing what we want. Or - when I go out with my friends, she has a romcom marathon at home where she catches up on all the movies that I would hate watching. ", "Find a way to compromise. \"I'll spend all Saturday with you and the kid if you give me X hours alone on Sunday\"", "> How can I get her to realize I need some time to myself without her thinking I don't love her?\n\n\nTell her?\n\nIf you broke up with her because of this the first time, why would you not have a serious discussion about what is obviously a very serious issue, before getting back together with her? Her behavior isn't healthy for either of you, it sounds like she has some serious codependency issues and could probably benefit from counseling, but it is also your job to communicate to her what you want out of your relationship, she can't read your mind. ", "Try and set up some \"me\" time every night for both of you. She gets her time, and you get yours. Make it about two hours at first, and then increase it later if you both want.\n\nYou can go to the garage for a couple of hours, and she can see a movie with friends, or read a novel or some magazines, etc. Whatever she likes to do. Maybe that would work?", "I get where you need your time, but with the baby, is she needing a break? Maybe she's clinging to you because she needs some time of her own and doesn't know how else to handle it. She probably needs that interaction with other adults and you're the closest one.", "get married and this will change. she's not sure you're fully in; getting married communicates this very clearly (that is unless you're not).", "Think about it.\n\nThe only reason to want to impulsively be around someone all the time is because you're afraid of losing them. (Source: all children)\n\n>Why would she be afraid of losing you?\n\nShe feels like she's not good enough for you.\n\n>Why would she feel not good enough for you.\n\nShe's insecure about herself. (source: all women)\n\nThe politically incorrect truth is, there's a reason men default to the position of power in the relationship. Women need a man who can give them an incentive structure within the relationship that will make them feel empowered, needed, and valued.\n\nI'm guessing you're a pretty independent person but when you're trying to have a relationship with someone there is such a thing as being too independent. You need to give her jobs. Delegate chores to her. From what you're describing, it sounds like she loves the shit out of you. It's not like she's gonna throw a bitch fit if you accidentally ask too much of her. cooking, shopping, laundry, finances. Whatever you think she can handle. Just make sure when she does it, you express your appreciation. This will communicate to her that your attention is not an inexhaustible resource. it is finite and it is earned.\n\nBTW, this should be in relationship sub. As I understand it, LPT is more about being able to tie your shoes with paperclips and shit." ]

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[ "How to stop procrastinating I am a student, approaching an important five months of my life. I procrastinate and waste a lot of time and often don't get any work done. I need to study a lot but can't do it due to my addictions to electronics.\n\nI've tried to stop wasting time, but failed everytime.\n\nI'm in serious trouble if I don't amend my ways, my grades are going down and I need to get back up. \n\nNeed advice, any tips will help.\n\nThanks!", "How to stop procrastinating I am a student, approaching an important five months of my life. I procrastinate and waste a lot of time and often don't get any work done. I need to study a lot but can't do it due to my addictions to electronics.\n\nI've tried to stop wasting time, but failed everytime.\n\nI'm in serious trouble if I don't amend my ways, my grades are going down and I need to get back up. \n\nNeed advice, any tips will help.\n\nThanks!", "How to stop procrastinating I am a student, approaching an important five months of my life. I procrastinate and waste a lot of time and often don't get any work done. I need to study a lot but can't do it due to my addictions to electronics.\n\nI've tried to stop wasting time, but failed everytime.\n\nI'm in serious trouble if I don't amend my ways, my grades are going down and I need to get back up. \n\nNeed advice, any tips will help.\n\nThanks!", "How to stop procrastinating I am a student, approaching an important five months of my life. I procrastinate and waste a lot of time and often don't get any work done. I need to study a lot but can't do it due to my addictions to electronics.\n\nI've tried to stop wasting time, but failed everytime.\n\nI'm in serious trouble if I don't amend my ways, my grades are going down and I need to get back up. \n\nNeed advice, any tips will help.\n\nThanks!", "How to stop procrastinating I am a student, approaching an important five months of my life. I procrastinate and waste a lot of time and often don't get any work done. I need to study a lot but can't do it due to my addictions to electronics.\n\nI've tried to stop wasting time, but failed everytime.\n\nI'm in serious trouble if I don't amend my ways, my grades are going down and I need to get back up. \n\nNeed advice, any tips will help.\n\nThanks!", "How to stop procrastinating I am a student, approaching an important five months of my life. I procrastinate and waste a lot of time and often don't get any work done. I need to study a lot but can't do it due to my addictions to electronics.\n\nI've tried to stop wasting time, but failed everytime.\n\nI'm in serious trouble if I don't amend my ways, my grades are going down and I need to get back up. \n\nNeed advice, any tips will help.\n\nThanks!", "How to stop procrastinating I am a student, approaching an important five months of my life. I procrastinate and waste a lot of time and often don't get any work done. I need to study a lot but can't do it due to my addictions to electronics.\n\nI've tried to stop wasting time, but failed everytime.\n\nI'm in serious trouble if I don't amend my ways, my grades are going down and I need to get back up. \n\nNeed advice, any tips will help.\n\nThanks!", "How to stop procrastinating I am a student, approaching an important five months of my life. I procrastinate and waste a lot of time and often don't get any work done. I need to study a lot but can't do it due to my addictions to electronics.\n\nI've tried to stop wasting time, but failed everytime.\n\nI'm in serious trouble if I don't amend my ways, my grades are going down and I need to get back up. \n\nNeed advice, any tips will help.\n\nThanks!", "How to stop procrastinating I am a student, approaching an important five months of my life. I procrastinate and waste a lot of time and often don't get any work done. I need to study a lot but can't do it due to my addictions to electronics.\n\nI've tried to stop wasting time, but failed everytime.\n\nI'm in serious trouble if I don't amend my ways, my grades are going down and I need to get back up. \n\nNeed advice, any tips will help.\n\nThanks!", "How to stop procrastinating I am a student, approaching an important five months of my life. I procrastinate and waste a lot of time and often don't get any work done. I need to study a lot but can't do it due to my addictions to electronics.\n\nI've tried to stop wasting time, but failed everytime.\n\nI'm in serious trouble if I don't amend my ways, my grades are going down and I need to get back up. \n\nNeed advice, any tips will help.\n\nThanks!", "How to stop procrastinating I am a student, approaching an important five months of my life. I procrastinate and waste a lot of time and often don't get any work done. I need to study a lot but can't do it due to my addictions to electronics.\n\nI've tried to stop wasting time, but failed everytime.\n\nI'm in serious trouble if I don't amend my ways, my grades are going down and I need to get back up. \n\nNeed advice, any tips will help.\n\nThanks!" ]

[ "Start with a timer for a small amount of time, say 20 minutes, and then allow a break. I’ve found that thinking about/looking at the mile long list keeps me from even starting, whereas saying that I just need to do 20 minutes, and just start, I tend to keep going after the timers up. ", "Procrastinating is often a sign of your subconscious mind being afraid of what the results of not procrastinating might mean. It’s basically a protection mechanism, even though it might not immediately seem like one.\n\nFor example, passing your exams might mean that you are no longer a student and have to go out in the big wide world and get a job and have financial responsibilities over what you’ve had before and all manner of other things it finds scary.\n\nFace up to them, make a few plans with how you might deal with that when it gets to it and you’ll usually find that the procrastination disappears by itself.", "1) Find someone, tough friend, respected academic advisor, that will hold you accountable and set up a work plan with dates, milestones and check ins \n2) Pay a coach to do above. \n3) Plan rewards or special incentives for yourself only if you make your milestones. \n4) work in small manageable chunks of time\n5)most importantly remember your work does not have to be perfect. Just lay down a draft\n6) m", "give yourself a small task to start, like \"make a plan or outline.\" The smaller the task, the better. then reward yourself with something at the end. rinse and repeat. ", "The way that works for me everytime is, Cut your task into a bunch of small simple and easy task and complete it separately. even the task itself seems too big, you can always find a way to turn it into smaller pieces, and you can make a circle of 'comlete, next task, complete, next task...'", "Something that helped me was telling myself that I absolutely could not use my phone or computer etc. until I had done a certain amount of work first. Once you start playing a game or whatever, you know you wont do anything, so do the important stuff first.", "Set SMART goals. Don't say \"I need to study\". That feels undoable. When will you be done for the day? Say something specific, measurable, attractive, realistic and terminated. So for example: \"Today (terminated) I will read chapter 5 and answer the corresponding practice questions and check if they are correct (specific, measurable; realistic, assuming the questions are doable) and then reward myself for a job well done with 2 hours of gaming time (attractive)\"\n\n​\n\nAlso, use ColdTurkey on your PC to lock yourself out of websites or programs. It's free, I love it. There are apps for that too (I use Block Apps for Android).\n\n​\n\nDon't forget to be compassionate to yourself. I don't mean self-pity. Self-pity sucks balls. I mean recognizing that yes, studying might not be what you want to be doing right now and it is hard. You're not alone, students all over the WORLD are struggling and have been for centuries. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to want happiness, feel like you deserve it. Because you do, no matter how you study.\n\n​\n\nThen take responsibility for your studying, since you chose to do it, after all (I'm assuming there's no gun to your head) and experiment with strategies like ColdTurkey or SMART goals until you find a way that works for YOU.\n\n​\n\nSource: I'm an educational scientist and wrote my master's thesis about procrastination ;)", "Ok, for starters take your most addictive social media app off your phone. If you have more than one, take them all off, so you can only access thru a laptop etc. I had to do this to get myself broken from that addiction and get my length of concentration back to where it needed to be. Now I limit my time on Reddit, to twice a day", "I like the timer idea. When I was in undergrad and grad school, I was often overwhelmed with how much I felt I needed to get done. Then I got a bunch of post it notes. Weekly homework or online posts went on blue, small papers on another color, project on another, large papers on another and tests on yet another. I wrote the assignment and due date on each post it and put them on the wall next to my workspace. I had a column for each color and they were organized by due date. It helped calm my nerves to see a tangible representation of what had to be done and it was incredibly satisfying to take them off and crumple them up. It was motivating because there were days that I would want to keep working to see how many I could crumple up. Fair warning, post it notes are pricey. You’d think they contain rare earth metals or something. ", "Find a freind that you know well, but also don't know that well. Give him something of importance to you like your phone or your license. Give him a hundred dollars and tell him that no matter what, don't give back the item until you compete your work. And tell him that you need to physically show him the work complete before you can get the item back. This is where the knowing well/not knowing well part comes into play. Since you do know him, the chances of him stealing your item is low, but since you don't know him that well, the chances of him not breaking and returning your item are slimmer. And if you really want to make sure that you don't procrastinate, give yourself a time limit to finish your work, and if you don't finish it in that time, your freind goes to destroy/lose the item. If you feel as if you might pursue legal action if he doesn't return the item or he destroys it like planned, tell him to record you and him making the deal so you are unable to take him to court. Good Luck!", "Awareness of the changing needs for my different classes have made a big difference for me. Out of all my classes, math is taking up more and more time out-of-class compared to in-class hours. Thus, I've started to dedicate whole days to math instead of just the afternoon or evening.\n\n​\n\nPart of what keeps me from doing essay-type work is a lack of people to bounce ideas off of. Anything writing-related demands multiple sets of eyes to tell you what you're doing right/wrong. Group chats in your messenger of choice could really help you realize what are the good ideas versus ideas that are interesting, but not terribly substantial.\n\n​\n\nIf you're talking about literal \"bent over a book\" studying, I would offer a different approach: Learning by teaching. Again, this is where the group chat can come in handy. Rope a friend or family member into listening to you drone on as if you were a teacher, tell them about the thing you're studying, and have them ask questions as if they were a student. You teaching that person reinforces the information in your head. You'll be learning AND socializing at the same time!\n\nOn a related note: The internet is a vast, ponderous repository of human information, and at least some of it is available in an easily consumable form. Even if it's not precisely like studying, you can get a jump-start on the ideas you want to learn by looking up \"crash-course\" videos or articles." ]

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[ "How to properly take a compliment on life choices ...without sounding like a douche. For example, if someone compliments how healthy you eat, I feel like anything you say after \"thanks\" will either come off as conceited, self-reductive, or dismissive.", "How to properly take a compliment on life choices ...without sounding like a douche. For example, if someone compliments how healthy you eat, I feel like anything you say after \"thanks\" will either come off as conceited, self-reductive, or dismissive." ]

[ "You could throw in something like, \"That's kind of you to say,\" but for the most part, thank you won't come off conceited based on your voice tone. Just make it sound friendly. \n\n", "Yellow sticky notes are cheap and come in useful for situations like these. Keep a few in your pocket, when someone gives you such a compliment, whip it out and ask them to write down the compliment they just said, dated and signed. Promise to stick it on your bathroom mirror or fridge, it shows you're serious and appreciate their compliments." ]

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[ "How the hell do I stay focused when studying? This is legitimately my last chance at not ending up like a fucking loser with no future and I still can't bring myself to study appropriately to do so.\n\nI've changed programs a couple times, I'm two years behind. I finally got into the program of my choice (Computer Science) and now all I need to do is actually get it done.\n\nI have such a hard time staying focused on classes that don't interest me. I like coding, so when I take those classes I do well. The problem is, my program is obviously not only coding and therefore I need to get math, theoretical classes, electives and other things done.\n\nI'm currently taking Discrete Math which I have a difficult time with. My exam is next thursday. I sit my ass down in front of the computer and try to solve problems. I get stuck very often and every time I get stuck I take a break and just go to reddit/twitch/youtube. Then I'll go back and do it again. I can't stay focused for a long period of time.\n\nThis isn't the first time this has happened. Last year before my finals I barely studied because I couldn't bring myself to actually do it. I still ended up doing well but I could have done a lot better if I just manned the fuck up for once and got my shit done. I feel like a goddam child in this respect.\n\nI was thinking of maybe trying adderal or something because I honestly don't know what else to do. I don't know if I have ADHD or something. I just need to focus and I need some help on it.\n", "How the hell do I stay focused when studying? This is legitimately my last chance at not ending up like a fucking loser with no future and I still can't bring myself to study appropriately to do so.\n\nI've changed programs a couple times, I'm two years behind. I finally got into the program of my choice (Computer Science) and now all I need to do is actually get it done.\n\nI have such a hard time staying focused on classes that don't interest me. I like coding, so when I take those classes I do well. The problem is, my program is obviously not only coding and therefore I need to get math, theoretical classes, electives and other things done.\n\nI'm currently taking Discrete Math which I have a difficult time with. My exam is next thursday. I sit my ass down in front of the computer and try to solve problems. I get stuck very often and every time I get stuck I take a break and just go to reddit/twitch/youtube. Then I'll go back and do it again. I can't stay focused for a long period of time.\n\nThis isn't the first time this has happened. Last year before my finals I barely studied because I couldn't bring myself to actually do it. I still ended up doing well but I could have done a lot better if I just manned the fuck up for once and got my shit done. I feel like a goddam child in this respect.\n\nI was thinking of maybe trying adderal or something because I honestly don't know what else to do. I don't know if I have ADHD or something. I just need to focus and I need some help on it.\n", "How the hell do I stay focused when studying? This is legitimately my last chance at not ending up like a fucking loser with no future and I still can't bring myself to study appropriately to do so.\n\nI've changed programs a couple times, I'm two years behind. I finally got into the program of my choice (Computer Science) and now all I need to do is actually get it done.\n\nI have such a hard time staying focused on classes that don't interest me. I like coding, so when I take those classes I do well. The problem is, my program is obviously not only coding and therefore I need to get math, theoretical classes, electives and other things done.\n\nI'm currently taking Discrete Math which I have a difficult time with. My exam is next thursday. I sit my ass down in front of the computer and try to solve problems. I get stuck very often and every time I get stuck I take a break and just go to reddit/twitch/youtube. Then I'll go back and do it again. I can't stay focused for a long period of time.\n\nThis isn't the first time this has happened. Last year before my finals I barely studied because I couldn't bring myself to actually do it. I still ended up doing well but I could have done a lot better if I just manned the fuck up for once and got my shit done. I feel like a goddam child in this respect.\n\nI was thinking of maybe trying adderal or something because I honestly don't know what else to do. I don't know if I have ADHD or something. I just need to focus and I need some help on it.\n", "How the hell do I stay focused when studying? This is legitimately my last chance at not ending up like a fucking loser with no future and I still can't bring myself to study appropriately to do so.\n\nI've changed programs a couple times, I'm two years behind. I finally got into the program of my choice (Computer Science) and now all I need to do is actually get it done.\n\nI have such a hard time staying focused on classes that don't interest me. I like coding, so when I take those classes I do well. The problem is, my program is obviously not only coding and therefore I need to get math, theoretical classes, electives and other things done.\n\nI'm currently taking Discrete Math which I have a difficult time with. My exam is next thursday. I sit my ass down in front of the computer and try to solve problems. I get stuck very often and every time I get stuck I take a break and just go to reddit/twitch/youtube. Then I'll go back and do it again. I can't stay focused for a long period of time.\n\nThis isn't the first time this has happened. Last year before my finals I barely studied because I couldn't bring myself to actually do it. I still ended up doing well but I could have done a lot better if I just manned the fuck up for once and got my shit done. I feel like a goddam child in this respect.\n\nI was thinking of maybe trying adderal or something because I honestly don't know what else to do. I don't know if I have ADHD or something. I just need to focus and I need some help on it.\n", "How the hell do I stay focused when studying? This is legitimately my last chance at not ending up like a fucking loser with no future and I still can't bring myself to study appropriately to do so.\n\nI've changed programs a couple times, I'm two years behind. I finally got into the program of my choice (Computer Science) and now all I need to do is actually get it done.\n\nI have such a hard time staying focused on classes that don't interest me. I like coding, so when I take those classes I do well. The problem is, my program is obviously not only coding and therefore I need to get math, theoretical classes, electives and other things done.\n\nI'm currently taking Discrete Math which I have a difficult time with. My exam is next thursday. I sit my ass down in front of the computer and try to solve problems. I get stuck very often and every time I get stuck I take a break and just go to reddit/twitch/youtube. Then I'll go back and do it again. I can't stay focused for a long period of time.\n\nThis isn't the first time this has happened. Last year before my finals I barely studied because I couldn't bring myself to actually do it. I still ended up doing well but I could have done a lot better if I just manned the fuck up for once and got my shit done. I feel like a goddam child in this respect.\n\nI was thinking of maybe trying adderal or something because I honestly don't know what else to do. I don't know if I have ADHD or something. I just need to focus and I need some help on it.\n", "How the hell do I stay focused when studying? This is legitimately my last chance at not ending up like a fucking loser with no future and I still can't bring myself to study appropriately to do so.\n\nI've changed programs a couple times, I'm two years behind. I finally got into the program of my choice (Computer Science) and now all I need to do is actually get it done.\n\nI have such a hard time staying focused on classes that don't interest me. I like coding, so when I take those classes I do well. The problem is, my program is obviously not only coding and therefore I need to get math, theoretical classes, electives and other things done.\n\nI'm currently taking Discrete Math which I have a difficult time with. My exam is next thursday. I sit my ass down in front of the computer and try to solve problems. I get stuck very often and every time I get stuck I take a break and just go to reddit/twitch/youtube. Then I'll go back and do it again. I can't stay focused for a long period of time.\n\nThis isn't the first time this has happened. Last year before my finals I barely studied because I couldn't bring myself to actually do it. I still ended up doing well but I could have done a lot better if I just manned the fuck up for once and got my shit done. I feel like a goddam child in this respect.\n\nI was thinking of maybe trying adderal or something because I honestly don't know what else to do. I don't know if I have ADHD or something. I just need to focus and I need some help on it.\n", "How the hell do I stay focused when studying? This is legitimately my last chance at not ending up like a fucking loser with no future and I still can't bring myself to study appropriately to do so.\n\nI've changed programs a couple times, I'm two years behind. I finally got into the program of my choice (Computer Science) and now all I need to do is actually get it done.\n\nI have such a hard time staying focused on classes that don't interest me. I like coding, so when I take those classes I do well. The problem is, my program is obviously not only coding and therefore I need to get math, theoretical classes, electives and other things done.\n\nI'm currently taking Discrete Math which I have a difficult time with. My exam is next thursday. I sit my ass down in front of the computer and try to solve problems. I get stuck very often and every time I get stuck I take a break and just go to reddit/twitch/youtube. Then I'll go back and do it again. I can't stay focused for a long period of time.\n\nThis isn't the first time this has happened. Last year before my finals I barely studied because I couldn't bring myself to actually do it. I still ended up doing well but I could have done a lot better if I just manned the fuck up for once and got my shit done. I feel like a goddam child in this respect.\n\nI was thinking of maybe trying adderal or something because I honestly don't know what else to do. I don't know if I have ADHD or something. I just need to focus and I need some help on it.\n", "How the hell do I stay focused when studying? This is legitimately my last chance at not ending up like a fucking loser with no future and I still can't bring myself to study appropriately to do so.\n\nI've changed programs a couple times, I'm two years behind. I finally got into the program of my choice (Computer Science) and now all I need to do is actually get it done.\n\nI have such a hard time staying focused on classes that don't interest me. I like coding, so when I take those classes I do well. The problem is, my program is obviously not only coding and therefore I need to get math, theoretical classes, electives and other things done.\n\nI'm currently taking Discrete Math which I have a difficult time with. My exam is next thursday. I sit my ass down in front of the computer and try to solve problems. I get stuck very often and every time I get stuck I take a break and just go to reddit/twitch/youtube. Then I'll go back and do it again. I can't stay focused for a long period of time.\n\nThis isn't the first time this has happened. Last year before my finals I barely studied because I couldn't bring myself to actually do it. I still ended up doing well but I could have done a lot better if I just manned the fuck up for once and got my shit done. I feel like a goddam child in this respect.\n\nI was thinking of maybe trying adderal or something because I honestly don't know what else to do. I don't know if I have ADHD or something. I just need to focus and I need some help on it.\n", "How the hell do I stay focused when studying? This is legitimately my last chance at not ending up like a fucking loser with no future and I still can't bring myself to study appropriately to do so.\n\nI've changed programs a couple times, I'm two years behind. I finally got into the program of my choice (Computer Science) and now all I need to do is actually get it done.\n\nI have such a hard time staying focused on classes that don't interest me. I like coding, so when I take those classes I do well. The problem is, my program is obviously not only coding and therefore I need to get math, theoretical classes, electives and other things done.\n\nI'm currently taking Discrete Math which I have a difficult time with. My exam is next thursday. I sit my ass down in front of the computer and try to solve problems. I get stuck very often and every time I get stuck I take a break and just go to reddit/twitch/youtube. Then I'll go back and do it again. I can't stay focused for a long period of time.\n\nThis isn't the first time this has happened. Last year before my finals I barely studied because I couldn't bring myself to actually do it. I still ended up doing well but I could have done a lot better if I just manned the fuck up for once and got my shit done. I feel like a goddam child in this respect.\n\nI was thinking of maybe trying adderal or something because I honestly don't know what else to do. I don't know if I have ADHD or something. I just need to focus and I need some help on it.\n", "How the hell do I stay focused when studying? This is legitimately my last chance at not ending up like a fucking loser with no future and I still can't bring myself to study appropriately to do so.\n\nI've changed programs a couple times, I'm two years behind. I finally got into the program of my choice (Computer Science) and now all I need to do is actually get it done.\n\nI have such a hard time staying focused on classes that don't interest me. I like coding, so when I take those classes I do well. The problem is, my program is obviously not only coding and therefore I need to get math, theoretical classes, electives and other things done.\n\nI'm currently taking Discrete Math which I have a difficult time with. My exam is next thursday. I sit my ass down in front of the computer and try to solve problems. I get stuck very often and every time I get stuck I take a break and just go to reddit/twitch/youtube. Then I'll go back and do it again. I can't stay focused for a long period of time.\n\nThis isn't the first time this has happened. Last year before my finals I barely studied because I couldn't bring myself to actually do it. I still ended up doing well but I could have done a lot better if I just manned the fuck up for once and got my shit done. I feel like a goddam child in this respect.\n\nI was thinking of maybe trying adderal or something because I honestly don't know what else to do. I don't know if I have ADHD or something. I just need to focus and I need some help on it.\n" ]

[ "Go to a \"studious\" place to study, like your university library or a public library study room. This will semi-jolt you into at least having half a go at studying.\n\nWhen you sit down at your study place, write a to-do list, and break down the boring subjects into bite-sized achievable tasks. \n\nie. \n- Read 1 page of subject x and write a one or two sentence summary of what it was about in your own words.\n- Repeat above 5 times, then change subjects unless you're suddenly in the vibe of that subject and are inspired to continue\n- Write terms next to their definitions, then chop them up, rearrange them and match them back together to test yourself.\n\nWrite a list of about 10 items and for every 3 you tick off, reward yourself with some time on your phone...set a 10 minute timer to remind you to put your phone down and get back to study.\n\nGood luck ", "[The pomodoro technique](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pomodoro_Technique) works for some people. You only commit to focusing for short periods of time instead of an indefinite period of time. It's a lot easier to focus when you know that you're only having to focus for 25 minutes before you take a break.\n\nYou can also try these free classes on coursera that talk about the pomodoro technique and learning techniques in general.\n\n1. [Learning How to Learn: Powerful mental tools to help you master tough subjects](https://www.coursera.org/learn/learning-how-to-learn)\n\n2. [Mindshift: Break Through Obstacles to Learning and Discover Your Hidden Potential](https://www.coursera.org/learn/mindshift)", "Try playing music your are very familiar with or a tv or movie you have seen many times in the background. The trick is that the background noise is not too loud, just enough to hear. I found that this would help keep my mind from wandering while I was concentrating on work or study tasks. ", "I would suggest getting a part-time job to motivate you.\n\nBefore I went to university, I worked at several retail outlets and call centers.\nAt uuniversity, that was my motivation. \n\nI did not want to go back to them dead end jobs, but that's what would have happened if I failed at university. \n\nSide note - stop trying to study at home. Study at university/library and put your phone in your bag. \nMake it a rule not to look at it, till you're done. ", "I too have the attention span of a gnat, so I do what I call 'structured procrastination'.\n\nI set an interval timer for 4 rounds of 10 minutes with 5 minutes in between. I work for the 10 minutes non-stop and can procrastinate during the 5 minute break. I do this when I'm writing report cards for my students and if I get stuck on what to write about a particular student I'll skip them and move on, as long as I'm working during the 10 minutes it doesn't matter what I'm doing. I find that 10 minutes is enough to keep me on-task and 5 minutes is enough to get a fix of whatever I need before I get back to work.", "Do not aim to perfectly know the subject. All you need is to pass it. So go from simple to complex. But cover ALL the simpler things first, do not leave any topic unattended. When you stuck - leave the task, move to the next.\n\nThen, I believe you need it and Discrete Math is fun and useful thing (and yep, happens to be hard as hell). I am SW developer. And really, this doesn't end if you fail. It ends only when you stop trying. So don't be paralyzed by the importance of this.\n\nYour animal part of the brain should understand you need that. It is damn hard to do, actually) Have a bit of brute force. Faith in God also helps. Deus Vult. For teh Emprah. Instill a sense of disregard for the enemy. All that stupid motivational memes, try reading them when you distract.", "You need to find a study technique that works best for you. \nFor me, making a summarized study page of all the main points you *know* you will need on the test, and learning those thoroughly, really helped - first, typing up/condensing the info, and then having a less overwhelming pile of materials. I would read through the rest a couple times to pick up on smaller things I'd missed. This method usually got me a solid 80% without frazzling my brain\n\nALSO: If you're more of an \"audio learner\" record yourself reading the condensed material and play it ona loop while doing other activities", "Try this website: https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/stayfocusd/laankejkbhbdhmipfmgcngdelahlfoji?hl=en - It will block sites of your choosing (Facebook, Reddit & Twitch) and you can do things like time how long you want them blocked, etc.. so you can focus harder on studying.", "If you don't need the internet while studying, find a spot to study where there is no internet available, and hence no distractions. \n\nAlso, try the Pomodoro technique. Look it up, it's especially useful when you need to cram. \n\nPractise as much as you can. Build on your strengths first, so that when you do get questions from the chapters you're good in, you don't mess up. Once you are certain, move to the things you are somewhat okay with, and then the things you're weakest in. If possible try to cover everything at least once. If not, prioritize. ", "I don't have ADD, but my attention span is crap. To combat this I would find out in advance what we were covering in the next class, skim the reading and highlight anything that stood out as \"this might be important\". Then during the lecture I would doodle while the teacher was rambling, anytime I heard something noteworthy I would jot down a note on the side of the paper I was drawing on. \n\nThis helped in a few ways. 1. By skimming ahead I already had a very basic knowledge of the subject matter, and highlighting the core points helped to cement the material later on. 2. By occupying my inability to stare at some guy standings still droning on and on with doodling, I was able to actually focus on what he was saying. 3. Sometimes my doodles pertained specifically to the subject matter (this really helped with anatomy and physiology!).\n\nThis actually decreased the amount of time I had to study, (I feel) gave me a better understanding of the subject matter, and offered a quicker \"brush-up\" before any exam. " ]

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[ "How do I match wall paint? Title says it all. I'm looking to do some patch work in my house and need to find matching paint. I've taken to sticking color samples all over my walls and finding which matches but so far no luck.\n\nAny tips?\n", "How do I match wall paint? Title says it all. I'm looking to do some patch work in my house and need to find matching paint. I've taken to sticking color samples all over my walls and finding which matches but so far no luck.\n\nAny tips?\n" ]

[ "Use an exacto knife to score out a thin square of paint (and inevitably a sliver of drywall) from the wall (behind a door near the baseboard/floor is a good spot) . Make sure it measures at least 2\" x 2\". Home Depot has a computerized piece of machinery that will pick up the colour and match it. \n\nAs for the finish, (eggshell, satin, etc.), that's tricky. If you're not sure, start with a small can of one or the other, do a patch test, let it dry, and see if the sheen matches. ", "Even if you do find the right color you don't know what brand or kind of paint was used. A new batch of paint alway comes out a little different so unless you have the same can that was used originally you won't have a perfect match. " ]

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[ "How do I stop spending money on micro-transactions in online gaming? The game I'm talking about is League of Legends and its wide variety of colorful skins. Being a player ever since it first came out 6 six years, I was a loyal and dedicated player and fell prey to the beautiful skins and have spent over thousands of dollars since.\n\nI'm 20 now and I have long come to realise how stupid I am to waste money on something that I'm going to quit in a few years due to working life, but I just can't stop.\n\nIt's a vicious cycle; new skin comes out, I told myself \"eh it's only $10, I'll earn it back\", rinse and repeat until thousand of dollars and absolute regret. Please send help.", "How do I stop spending money on micro-transactions in online gaming? The game I'm talking about is League of Legends and its wide variety of colorful skins. Being a player ever since it first came out 6 six years, I was a loyal and dedicated player and fell prey to the beautiful skins and have spent over thousands of dollars since.\n\nI'm 20 now and I have long come to realise how stupid I am to waste money on something that I'm going to quit in a few years due to working life, but I just can't stop.\n\nIt's a vicious cycle; new skin comes out, I told myself \"eh it's only $10, I'll earn it back\", rinse and repeat until thousand of dollars and absolute regret. Please send help.", "How do I stop spending money on micro-transactions in online gaming? The game I'm talking about is League of Legends and its wide variety of colorful skins. Being a player ever since it first came out 6 six years, I was a loyal and dedicated player and fell prey to the beautiful skins and have spent over thousands of dollars since.\n\nI'm 20 now and I have long come to realise how stupid I am to waste money on something that I'm going to quit in a few years due to working life, but I just can't stop.\n\nIt's a vicious cycle; new skin comes out, I told myself \"eh it's only $10, I'll earn it back\", rinse and repeat until thousand of dollars and absolute regret. Please send help.", "How do I stop spending money on micro-transactions in online gaming? The game I'm talking about is League of Legends and its wide variety of colorful skins. Being a player ever since it first came out 6 six years, I was a loyal and dedicated player and fell prey to the beautiful skins and have spent over thousands of dollars since.\n\nI'm 20 now and I have long come to realise how stupid I am to waste money on something that I'm going to quit in a few years due to working life, but I just can't stop.\n\nIt's a vicious cycle; new skin comes out, I told myself \"eh it's only $10, I'll earn it back\", rinse and repeat until thousand of dollars and absolute regret. Please send help.", "How do I stop spending money on micro-transactions in online gaming? The game I'm talking about is League of Legends and its wide variety of colorful skins. Being a player ever since it first came out 6 six years, I was a loyal and dedicated player and fell prey to the beautiful skins and have spent over thousands of dollars since.\n\nI'm 20 now and I have long come to realise how stupid I am to waste money on something that I'm going to quit in a few years due to working life, but I just can't stop.\n\nIt's a vicious cycle; new skin comes out, I told myself \"eh it's only $10, I'll earn it back\", rinse and repeat until thousand of dollars and absolute regret. Please send help.", "How do I stop spending money on micro-transactions in online gaming? The game I'm talking about is League of Legends and its wide variety of colorful skins. Being a player ever since it first came out 6 six years, I was a loyal and dedicated player and fell prey to the beautiful skins and have spent over thousands of dollars since.\n\nI'm 20 now and I have long come to realise how stupid I am to waste money on something that I'm going to quit in a few years due to working life, but I just can't stop.\n\nIt's a vicious cycle; new skin comes out, I told myself \"eh it's only $10, I'll earn it back\", rinse and repeat until thousand of dollars and absolute regret. Please send help.", "How do I stop spending money on micro-transactions in online gaming? The game I'm talking about is League of Legends and its wide variety of colorful skins. Being a player ever since it first came out 6 six years, I was a loyal and dedicated player and fell prey to the beautiful skins and have spent over thousands of dollars since.\n\nI'm 20 now and I have long come to realise how stupid I am to waste money on something that I'm going to quit in a few years due to working life, but I just can't stop.\n\nIt's a vicious cycle; new skin comes out, I told myself \"eh it's only $10, I'll earn it back\", rinse and repeat until thousand of dollars and absolute regret. Please send help.", "How do I stop spending money on micro-transactions in online gaming? The game I'm talking about is League of Legends and its wide variety of colorful skins. Being a player ever since it first came out 6 six years, I was a loyal and dedicated player and fell prey to the beautiful skins and have spent over thousands of dollars since.\n\nI'm 20 now and I have long come to realise how stupid I am to waste money on something that I'm going to quit in a few years due to working life, but I just can't stop.\n\nIt's a vicious cycle; new skin comes out, I told myself \"eh it's only $10, I'll earn it back\", rinse and repeat until thousand of dollars and absolute regret. Please send help.", "How do I stop spending money on micro-transactions in online gaming? The game I'm talking about is League of Legends and its wide variety of colorful skins. Being a player ever since it first came out 6 six years, I was a loyal and dedicated player and fell prey to the beautiful skins and have spent over thousands of dollars since.\n\nI'm 20 now and I have long come to realise how stupid I am to waste money on something that I'm going to quit in a few years due to working life, but I just can't stop.\n\nIt's a vicious cycle; new skin comes out, I told myself \"eh it's only $10, I'll earn it back\", rinse and repeat until thousand of dollars and absolute regret. Please send help.", "How do I stop spending money on micro-transactions in online gaming? The game I'm talking about is League of Legends and its wide variety of colorful skins. Being a player ever since it first came out 6 six years, I was a loyal and dedicated player and fell prey to the beautiful skins and have spent over thousands of dollars since.\n\nI'm 20 now and I have long come to realise how stupid I am to waste money on something that I'm going to quit in a few years due to working life, but I just can't stop.\n\nIt's a vicious cycle; new skin comes out, I told myself \"eh it's only $10, I'll earn it back\", rinse and repeat until thousand of dollars and absolute regret. Please send help.", "How do I stop spending money on micro-transactions in online gaming? The game I'm talking about is League of Legends and its wide variety of colorful skins. Being a player ever since it first came out 6 six years, I was a loyal and dedicated player and fell prey to the beautiful skins and have spent over thousands of dollars since.\n\nI'm 20 now and I have long come to realise how stupid I am to waste money on something that I'm going to quit in a few years due to working life, but I just can't stop.\n\nIt's a vicious cycle; new skin comes out, I told myself \"eh it's only $10, I'll earn it back\", rinse and repeat until thousand of dollars and absolute regret. Please send help." ]

[ "I too am an avid League player. Usually ~4 skins come out each patch, so about 8 skins a month on a slower month. At the end of the month look at all the skins that have been released and rank them in order of which you prefer. Limit yourself to 1 skin per month at first. Immediately eliminate any 1820 rp skins. \n\nThis will force you to critically evaluate the skins that you want from the ones you'll never use. Ask yourself questions about that skin and that champion. \"How often do I play this champion?\", \"Do I already have a skin for this champion?\", \"Do I need this skin now or should I wait for it to go on sale?\". Eventually move down to 1 skin every 2 months and keep going from there. ", "Practice self-control. This is a bad habit, like any bad habit. When you see the new skin come out, look at the price of $10. Think of better things that you could put that $10 toward. You can even set aside that $10 every so often to save towards a bigger purchase that will be more useful in your day to day life, something practical, that you can actually use instead of just something pretty to look at. Or, it could be something fun that takes you away from the video game, like a guitar, or tickets to a concert.", "If you're like me, just play tournaments to win RP and best of all: The tournaments are free and listed on the league of Legends website", "I'm an AVID League player and I've spent a staggering $0 in RP over the 3 years I've played (mostly because I realized my mistakes in previous mmos before I started league). First, I accept the fact that no skin is really worth getting because skins are just cosmetic, and have no impact on your game play (a skin won't help you get out of elo hell, sorry bud). But I mean hey, it's hard to quit cold turkey, so the best thing you can do it to slowly cut the amount of money you spend on RP, a good way to start is by, if you haven't already, only purchasing RP cards, and never buy it directly online because this would make it harder for you to access RP. Since you've been playing for around 6 years, I would assume you have copious amounts of ip, so buying new champions on release would be an easy task for you. First off, buy the champion for it's on-release price in ip, the champ+skin package deal is only good for those who don't have much ip (ie: newer players), and those who enjoy throwing money at rito. My rule of thumb is - If you hate the champ, don't buy a skin. If you like the champ, buy a skin with it is on sale. If you love the champ and see yourself potentially maining it, consider buying the skin. When you're considering buying a skin, ask yourself a few questions, \"Why do I like this skin?, do I have other skins for this champion?, Is this the best skin for this champion?, How often do/will I play this champ?, When is the next time this skin is going on sale (there are sale schedules you can find on google)?, and will I regret this purchase after 2-3 weeks?\" \nI always end up talking myself out of buying rp when I go through these questions, which is why I have yet to spend anything on the game. \n\nTL;DR \nIt's all cosmetic and it won't help you get out of elo hell. u wil stil be a scrub at leeg, scrub. ", "You can't avoid death by a thousand cuts unless you are on guard against the smallest blades.\n\nConsider that microtransactions - even the seemingly innocuous and ethical ones like Riot's - are designed, from the ground up, to do exactly what they are doing to you, to take all your money, a bit at a time. To nickel and dime you to death. They attack your wallet by ducking under your financial margin of error; the only response is to reduce your financial margin of error from an amount, to the act of a transaction, *no matter how small the amount*.\n\nSo stop viewing it as \"just ten dollars\". View each one as a separate purchase first, considering the cost vs. benefit later. And consider that you've already more than paid into the gaming industry for a lifetime at this point. You've no dues left and not even the most pathetic 'But our developers are starving!' should move you.", "Just look at the revenue from them. Then you'll be like holy shit, what the fuck, I'm wasting all my money.", "I used to play a mobile game that has plenty of IAPs (Dragonvale, if you were curious). Fortunately, I never bought into any, but I spent way more time than I should have. And the more time I spent on it, the more tempted I was to buy something, especially when they had \"sales\". One day, after playing the game for a while, it occurred to me that I was spending too much time on a game that I was only mildly enjoying. So I uninstalled it, cold turkey. It was hard for a few weeks. Pull out my phone out of habit to see if I had any updates just to remember that I deleted the game. I'm now mobile game free for several months now. It gets easier, just like any other habit. I'm not sure what my point was in this post. I guess that maybe go a month or two (or more) without purchases. At that point, evaluate your gameplay experience. Did you enjoy the game less because you didn't buy the things? If no, you have the justification to continue going without buying anything else. You might even consider quitting the game completely cold turkey. That may be drastic & difficult, but your wallet will thank you later.\n\nTL;DR: Try quitting cold-turkey. If the game's still fun without micro-transactions (or life is still good without the game), you can live without it.", "I play a game with myself called, \"Can I make it wait a couple days?\" Then I play that game as long as I can, if at the end of two weeks I still want the thing just as bad, I get the thing. ", "Find something you really like, such as a certain food or expensive item you want to buy. Start to put money towards that thing. Every time you get the urge to buy a micro transaction, ask yourself 'do I really want to wait long to get X so I can have a new skin?'.\n\nI also find it helpful to ask yourself 'have I enjoyed the game so far without this virtual item?' If you answer yes, then move on.", "Don't buy rp until you rank up. Rank up as in from bronze to silver, silver to gold, gold to play, etc. Even then, only buy $10 of rp. This will also teach you how to wisely spend rp and you will end up buying only the skins you really really want. And don't get skins for champions you don't even play. ", "stop playing bad games\n\nthen think about how each dollar you spend hammers another nail into the coffin of the gaming industy" ]

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[ "Anyone have any good tips for preparing the house and life while on a long trip overseas? I already have timers for the lights, and I have neighbors collecting mail.\n\nWhat else should I consider?", "Anyone have any good tips for preparing the house and life while on a long trip overseas? I already have timers for the lights, and I have neighbors collecting mail.\n\nWhat else should I consider?", "Anyone have any good tips for preparing the house and life while on a long trip overseas? I already have timers for the lights, and I have neighbors collecting mail.\n\nWhat else should I consider?", "Anyone have any good tips for preparing the house and life while on a long trip overseas? I already have timers for the lights, and I have neighbors collecting mail.\n\nWhat else should I consider?", "Anyone have any good tips for preparing the house and life while on a long trip overseas? I already have timers for the lights, and I have neighbors collecting mail.\n\nWhat else should I consider?", "Anyone have any good tips for preparing the house and life while on a long trip overseas? I already have timers for the lights, and I have neighbors collecting mail.\n\nWhat else should I consider?" ]

[ "If you're going away for more than a month, put sheets over everything that's hard to clean: furniture, TV & electronics, etc.\n\nOnce you get back, you just have to do a couple loads of laundry instead of spending time dusting everything.", "1. Unplug all your electronics -- some still draw electricity when plugged in. \n2. If you have houseplants, get some watering bulbs for them -- they can last for almost a month. \n3. If you have a big cable package, cell plan, newspaper delivery or membership (like gym) and will be gone for longer than a month, ask them if you can put it on hold. Some don't do holds but will give discounts. ", "Put your mail on hold and newspaper if you get one.\n\nIf you have neighbors you trust, ask them to remove any fliers that get stuck to your door. This is an obvious sign that nobody is home.\n\nClean out the fridge.\n\nThis is not something I do but lots of people leave a radio on in addition to lights because if someone breaks in it makes them think someone is home.", "* Turn off your water main and set your thermostat appropriately.\n* set up a light timer or two.\n* Empty all of your trash bins.\n* Empty your fridge of stuff you don't want to come home to\n* Hopefully you can trust your neighbors... tell them to keep an eye on things for you.\n\nif longer than a month:\n\n* cancel your cable and phone service.", "Consider having someone you trust drive your car around the block once a month. It keeps the wheels from becoming deformed when they don't move for long periods. ", "Disconnect yiur gas stove(if you have one).\n\nShut off the air system(a/c)\n\nTightly close water faucets and hose to ensure no leakage.\n\nShut evetything off on thr electric grid. In the garage usually.\n\nI think thats it." ]

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[ "Best method of handling Loose-Leaf Books I'm starting to see a lot of books in colleges becoming more Loose-Leaf books, rather than paperback or hardback. I found myself constantly going to PDFs because I cant stand Loose-Leaf books. Does anyone have any solutions other than the generic bulky binders? (I know there are the Rings, but then the pages get messed up over wear and tear)\n\nTL;DR: Need solution to Loose-Leaf Books", "Best method of handling Loose-Leaf Books I'm starting to see a lot of books in colleges becoming more Loose-Leaf books, rather than paperback or hardback. I found myself constantly going to PDFs because I cant stand Loose-Leaf books. Does anyone have any solutions other than the generic bulky binders? (I know there are the Rings, but then the pages get messed up over wear and tear)\n\nTL;DR: Need solution to Loose-Leaf Books" ]

[ "One good one I had I took to Kinkos and had it bound. Not cost effective, but worth it if you plan on using it a lot or keeping it.", "If it is three hole punched, as mine were, then three zip ties will do you. Instant soft cover book.\n\nTrim up the zip tie tails once they are all cranked down and whatnot." ]

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[ "What to do if stuck in traffic and running out of gas? LPT Request: What should I do if I find myself caught in unexpected traffic, and am running out of gas? Does turning the car on/off repeatedly use more gas than just idling? Does turning off the radio/fans/headlights have any impact on gas usage?", "What to do if stuck in traffic and running out of gas? LPT Request: What should I do if I find myself caught in unexpected traffic, and am running out of gas? Does turning the car on/off repeatedly use more gas than just idling? Does turning off the radio/fans/headlights have any impact on gas usage?", "What to do if stuck in traffic and running out of gas? LPT Request: What should I do if I find myself caught in unexpected traffic, and am running out of gas? Does turning the car on/off repeatedly use more gas than just idling? Does turning off the radio/fans/headlights have any impact on gas usage?" ]

[ "While it may damage your car in the long run, try using higher gears when accelerating from 0. gear 2 or 3 is best, and keep your revs as low as possible (around 1000 is the best). \n\nIf you are stuck for up to 20 minutes, turning off is great. If you start every 5 minutes then you'll be wasting more than you save. \n\nTurn as many vehicle electrics off (air con, radio, seat warmers, etc) and don't feel the need to stick as close to the person in front as you can. If they jump forward a meter, let that meter go and just wait until they move at least a car's length", "Another option if you know that the traffic will last a while, is to pull over where it is safe, shut the car off and wait till traffic is clear enough you can get straight to a gas station.\nSource: been there done that.", "Essentially, if you're not going anywhere, turn the car off. You will save fuel by not idling, and modern cars don't suck a unreasonable amount of fuel to start up again. \n\nAlso, if you ARE so low on gas that the minute increase in fuel consumption for .03 of a second at startup is a problem, you might as well call AAA as you aren't making it out of the traffic jam." ]

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[ "Keep your snow brush in your trunk so you can brush off your driver's side and then a bunch of snow won't fall on to your seat. ", "Keep your snow brush in your trunk so you can brush off your driver's side and then a bunch of snow won't fall on to your seat. ", "Keep your snow brush in your trunk so you can brush off your driver's side and then a bunch of snow won't fall on to your seat. ", "Keep your snow brush in your trunk so you can brush off your driver's side and then a bunch of snow won't fall on to your seat. ", "Keep your snow brush in your trunk so you can brush off your driver's side and then a bunch of snow won't fall on to your seat. ", "Keep your snow brush in your trunk so you can brush off your driver's side and then a bunch of snow won't fall on to your seat. ", "Keep your snow brush in your trunk so you can brush off your driver's side and then a bunch of snow won't fall on to your seat. ", "Keep your snow brush in your trunk so you can brush off your driver's side and then a bunch of snow won't fall on to your seat. ", "Keep your snow brush in your trunk so you can brush off your driver's side and then a bunch of snow won't fall on to your seat. ", "Keep your snow brush in your trunk so you can brush off your driver's side and then a bunch of snow won't fall on to your seat. ", "Keep your snow brush in your trunk so you can brush off your driver's side and then a bunch of snow won't fall on to your seat. ", "Keep your snow brush in your trunk so you can brush off your driver's side and then a bunch of snow won't fall on to your seat. " ]

[ "Or you could use your hand/arm to wipe the snow off the border of the door before you open it to get your brush. If I was to open the trunk on my car with snow on top, it would fall back onto the rear window, and then into my trunk.", "Alternatively, crack your door open and then slam it shut a couple times. This will knock most of not all the loose snow off the door without much if any inside. \n\nBesides, keeping it in your trunk just means that you’ll get snow in your trunk when you open it to get the brush out. At least with my trunk it will.", "Clearly you don’t live somewhere that gets much snow. As I Minnesotan, I know that it is far more difficult to clear snow and ice from a trunk than it is to clear the same from the near vertical surface of a car door.", "Color me ignorant, but as opposed to what other option? Why is your door open while you’re scraping off snow? Just trying to understand. I live in the south so granted I don’t have to do this often, but I’ve always kept my ice scraper/brush in the trunk.", "When I know I'm going to come back to a snowy car, I carry my brush/scraper with me when I leave - even in restaurants and stores no one has looked twice at my short brush/scraper combo. I just keep it with my handbag and don't swing it around like a sword.", "Careful keeping your snow brush in your trunk. Pop it open, and all the snow from the back glass slides gracefully into the trunk area.", "This totally depends on the car. Opening my truck would result in snow falling off the window into the trunk.", "Except for the time the ice coating my car laughed at my feeble attempts to pop the trunk\n\nBetter tip: buy a second snow brush and keep it in the house", "When I know it's going to snow I usually leave my brush resting on the area at the bottom of my windshield although I know this wouldn't be an option in all scenarios.", "Or you could pour fresh-off-the-stove chocolate pudding all over your windshield to melt away the snow. I do this after big ice storms and it really works, ya’ll", "Much better to bring in your brush the night before an expected snowfall. Or even bring it in every night during the snow season and set it by the door.", "I live in Michigan. This happened to me about an hour ago. \n\nI hope I remember this at the end of the day so I move the damned thing. \n\nThank you." ]

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[ "How to stop credit card companies from sending you (paper) mail trying to get you to open an account with them It wastes so much paper! It fills up my mailbox daily! How do I make it end?? ", "How to stop credit card companies from sending you (paper) mail trying to get you to open an account with them It wastes so much paper! It fills up my mailbox daily! How do I make it end?? ", "How to stop credit card companies from sending you (paper) mail trying to get you to open an account with them It wastes so much paper! It fills up my mailbox daily! How do I make it end?? ", "How to stop credit card companies from sending you (paper) mail trying to get you to open an account with them It wastes so much paper! It fills up my mailbox daily! How do I make it end?? ", "How to stop credit card companies from sending you (paper) mail trying to get you to open an account with them It wastes so much paper! It fills up my mailbox daily! How do I make it end?? 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[ "These types of solicitations often include pre-paid return postage. Tape the envelope to a brick and drop it in a mailbox. The company will have to pay for the postage fees. Problem solved.", "https://www.optoutprescreen.com/?rf=t\n\nPretty sure this is what you're looking for. This is a site that will allow you to opt out from the ~~preacher~~ mail-in cr", "I get enough junk mail/adds, I take the prepaid postage envelope out and stuff it full of adverts and other junk, hopefully enough where it weighs over regular postage. Once I get a pile of them, I drop them into a mailbox. This will not stop them from coming but it is a tiny bit strangely satisfying. CC companies have tried to curb this by putting a \"barcode\" on the return envelopes with a statement implying that its traceable to you but its total BS, no matter the company its the same barcode etc. Just make sure that the stuff you stuff into the envelope doesn't have any thing with your name on it. ", "apparently the only way to make it stop is to have shitty cr", "all cr", "For those in the EU who don't know how this works. Basically, the US has no data privacy laws. Employers, schools, and banks buy and sell personal information all the time. There are 3 main \"regulated\" clearing houses, which also determine a person's cr", "Fill them out, send them all back, wait for cr", "You can call the CC companies directly and ask to get off their marketing lists. It works best if you have an account with them, but it's not necessary.", "You can also unsubscribe from them via cr", "Step one: unfold the form\nStep two: in the middle crease, pour as much glitter you can get away with without making it obvious it's there\nStep three: fold it back into the envelope and post\nStep four: sit and wait. ", "Put some junk in the prepaid envelopes and send them back. \n\nOr if you actually want to stop it, https://www.optoutprescreen.com", "Place a cr", "I take time out of my day to fill in horse shit information and send it back. I once wiped my ass with a discovery card request and sent it back to them. It was unbelievably satisfying.", "I managed to get around this by freezing my cr", "1. Open cr", "There's an opt-out option online, where you do a print out and mail it in I believe.\n\nLooks like it's been mentioned already.", "It's funny how when you do have a job, those offers come by so often. However, when you don't have a job, those offers suddenly don't come in the mail anymore (or few in far between). I'm not suggesting that anyone quit their job or anything, but I've been in both situations and that's what I've experienced.", "If there's a website to be put on the do not call list, is there a phone number to get on the do not mail list?", "I've just called them and asked them to take me off. It usually takes 90 days for your name and address to cycle off their lists. But I've never had a problem just asking. ", "I'm more annoyed about mail from the cr", "I recently learned that when they do these soft pulls for preapproved offers, they are placed in the part of your cr", "I kept receiving some from a company trying to get me to sign up. They should have a letter with all the terms and stuff. Hidden away is information on who to call, or who to send a letter to unsubscribe from getting more offers (yes they make it inconvenient on purpose). It Didn't mention a way to do it online, but if others say you can then try it out.", "I just take the prepaid postage stamp and shove as much ripped up paper into it so it costs them money, might not stop it. But it costs them", "I got sick and tired of the same thing. So I just started using their 'pre-paid' return envelopes to send them junk mail. I would put whatever catalogues were also in the mail into their return envelopes and send them back.\n\nThe other one I did was send the wrong companies return mail back. i.e. If HSBC and CITI both sent me stuff at the same time I would post the HSBC stuff back to CITI and vice versa. With a note to kindly 'FUCK OFF SENDING ME YOUR SHIT'.\n\nI haven't received anything from either in a long time now.", "Do what I did, just tank your cr", "After many attempts to get the mailed offers to stop, we took drastic measures. My wife filled up a box with rocks, adhered the returned-postage-guaranteed envelope to the box, and took it to the post office where a grinning postal clerk was happy to help. We've never heard from Capital One again.", "When ever I get spam mail with a pre-paid return envelope inside, I shred everything they sent me and mail them back their trash. They pay for the spam twice and get to throw away the trash. They stop sending stuff after a couple times... ", "Use the pre-paid envelopes they send with the application to send them junk mail in return. The cr", "Uh... I had good results by asking them to stop. Honestly. This was... maybe a decade ago now? I haven't got them since.\n\nI can't remember if it's explicitly stated in the offers they send you, or if you just have to send a letter saying \"stop sending me stuff\" to a particular address, but it did work. Maybe five letters total, one for each of the major companies that was bothering me. Didn't even think of it until I saw this post, but yeah, it actually worked.", "This won't stop it but it feels good. Open the mail and get the return envelope that they send you and then stuff all that crap they just sent you into that envelope and mail it back to them. They pay for return of that garbage and the US Postal Service gets a little more change in their pockets.", "They send postage paid envelopes? Fill them up with your other junk mail, pennies and cans, make it as heavy as possible. They pay by weight.", "There's lots of nice answers here, but the only real answer is to vote in some decent politicians, and lobby them to create a law.\n\nI live in Denmark, and I just have to register to put a sticker on my mailbox, and I get virtually ***zero*** adverts, \"newspapers\" and other stupid mail.\n\nCompanies that ignore the mail opt-out list can get big fines.", "The envelopes usually come with a postage prepaid envelope. I jam everything in there and mail it back. Everyone should do this. EVERYONE!", "Take the card that you mail back that says business prepaid no postage necessary and tape it to an old fridge or microwave oven. Send that. ", "Take all your other junk mail and send it back with the postage paid application envelope. \n\nCosts them a little money in both postage and processing costs. Might not bankrupt them but it will be a tiny insult.", "Take all of the other junk mail you get, and put it into the cr", "Support your local postal service, and the employees jobs employed with them. Take out the return envelope and fill it with what ever you can. Then mail it all back to them. Wastes their time and money, and supports the post office.", "OptOut Prescreen will definitely get rid of most of the mail, but you also need to call all of the places you currently do business with and instruct them to \"Do Not Call, Do Not Mail, Do Not Solicit\" and if it is a cr", "Man, I remember back in the 80s and 90s you used to be able to get back at the junk mailers by taking the pre-paid envelopes from snail mail spammers and stuffing them with junk mail. That way you could send junk mail right back at the junk mailers for free! Not sure if they still send out postage paid envelopes still though. ", "Is there anything that should legally prevent me from, or would there be ramifications if I were to tape one of their postage-paid return envelopes to a brick and send it back to them in the mail?", "In my opinion, the most gratifying way to do this is by costing them as much money as possible. \n\nThose return envelopes they give you, in hopes you'll send them back the soul of a decent person, are, essentially, prepaid envelopes. They agree to pay for it upon arrival. \n\nNow here's where you fuck 'em. Stuff that envelope with as much scrap paper as possible and send that bastard back to them. The heavier it is, the more they pay. The more they pay, the more they leave you the hell alone.", "If they mailed you a \"Postage Paid\" envelope, stuff it all back in there and send it back to them. Or better yet, fill it with rocks. They'll definitely stop after that. Might take a couple returns.", "IIRC, you can freeze your cr", "I usually just take their app, tear it up and put it in the prepaid envelope, drop in a few pennies and mail it back to them", "I usually just send back the return envelope empty. After a bit they don't want to pay postage and stop.", "I stuff the self addressed, stamped envelopes with junk-mail from other companies and mail it back to them. ", "I started sending Apple cores back in the return envelope. Stopped getting them.\n\n", "I send them back as \"return to sender\". I figure they'll have to pay extra postage that way. Sometimes I fill the envelopes with bolts as screws for extra weight.", "I read a funny article that said you might have luck by sending them back their prepaid letters full of your other junkmail coupons.\n\nThis is totally legal and wastes their money. They might eventually stop wasting their money sending you letters.", "I opted-out some years ago and it really does work. The only company that continues to send offers is Capital One for some reason. But the myriad of other cr", "I just fold up the whole thing, put it back in the prepaid envelope and send it back to them. Maybe they'll take a hint.", "I just drop the paper into the recycle bin. If they want to take advantage of dumb consumers they can waste hundreds/thousands in printing trying to get me onboard as well.", "Honestly, if you keep good track of your finances then some of those can be pretty good deals. I use a 2% cash back card from Citi myself. Just set it to auto pay and use it for everything.", "Better yet, use the prepaid envelope that comes inside to reply that your not interested. If everyone does this, we could stop the cr", "Are they offers? Are they giving you returnable envelopes? \n\nI had fun putting all my recent junk mail that could fit into any prestamped envelope and sending it off to the company. At least make it cost something for them to send me offers. ", "And just for fun and spite: put all their shit, maybe some additional paper, lawn clippings, poems, etc. in their paid upon arrival stamped envelope. \n\n\nTake that!\n\n", "I'm not sure if it'll stop, but what you can do is gather all of your junk mail, all of it, as well as any other paper waste you have, old magazines, newspapers, packaging from merchandise, an old yellow pages, even throw in some scrap metal to add some weight, gather it all, put it in a big cardboard box, and then take the envelope with the prepaid postage that comes with the cr", "I was actually thinking about getting a cr", "I just write on the application \"do not want card, take my name off your mailing list\" and mail it back in the sase that is sent along with the application. Works for me", "I imagine you could successfully end the junk mail by having terrible cr", "Completely rewrite the terms of service for the card. I'd even have a notary send it on your behalf.\n\n Things like : Zero interest and no payments for the first five years. A half million dollar cr", "Mail them a box of bricks.\n\nFill a box with bricks/heavy ass rocks. Seal it, stick their envelope on the outside. They will be charged an arm and a leg for the postage and will leave you alone to prevent further brick mail.", "If it's a prepaid return envelope, fill a cloth bag with dirt and put it in a box. Seal it and tape the return envelope on the box and post it.\n\nMake sure you have your details inside the envelope.", "How to stop cr" ]

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[ "Pro tips for those of us dealing with extreme cold that are not used to it. Reddit members that live in climates where extreme cold is normal, give the rest of us some tips for dealing with it. For example, I did not know that in extreme cold my car's doors will freeze shut. ", "Pro tips for those of us dealing with extreme cold that are not used to it. Reddit members that live in climates where extreme cold is normal, give the rest of us some tips for dealing with it. For example, I did not know that in extreme cold my car's doors will freeze shut. ", "Pro tips for those of us dealing with extreme cold that are not used to it. Reddit members that live in climates where extreme cold is normal, give the rest of us some tips for dealing with it. For example, I did not know that in extreme cold my car's doors will freeze shut. ", "Pro tips for those of us dealing with extreme cold that are not used to it. Reddit members that live in climates where extreme cold is normal, give the rest of us some tips for dealing with it. For example, I did not know that in extreme cold my car's doors will freeze shut. ", "Pro tips for those of us dealing with extreme cold that are not used to it. Reddit members that live in climates where extreme cold is normal, give the rest of us some tips for dealing with it. For example, I did not know that in extreme cold my car's doors will freeze shut. ", "Pro tips for those of us dealing with extreme cold that are not used to it. Reddit members that live in climates where extreme cold is normal, give the rest of us some tips for dealing with it. For example, I did not know that in extreme cold my car's doors will freeze shut. ", "Pro tips for those of us dealing with extreme cold that are not used to it. Reddit members that live in climates where extreme cold is normal, give the rest of us some tips for dealing with it. For example, I did not know that in extreme cold my car's doors will freeze shut. ", "Pro tips for those of us dealing with extreme cold that are not used to it. Reddit members that live in climates where extreme cold is normal, give the rest of us some tips for dealing with it. For example, I did not know that in extreme cold my car's doors will freeze shut. ", "Pro tips for those of us dealing with extreme cold that are not used to it. Reddit members that live in climates where extreme cold is normal, give the rest of us some tips for dealing with it. For example, I did not know that in extreme cold my car's doors will freeze shut. ", "Pro tips for those of us dealing with extreme cold that are not used to it. Reddit members that live in climates where extreme cold is normal, give the rest of us some tips for dealing with it. For example, I did not know that in extreme cold my car's doors will freeze shut. " ]

[ "Clothing:\n\n- Use separate clothing for layers, while there are many clothes that offer multiple layers they have one major disadvantage: very small optimal temperature range due to preset layers. There are fancy winter clothes that offer customizable layering, but I find it cheaper to buy 3 separate pieces.\n\n- Top layer: Wind protection. **Very important** - this is usually what defines whether said clothing is good or bad for winter.\n\n- Middle layer: Air insulation. Important, but use in moderation. Wool sweaters go here. **Moderation** is important to prevent overheating.\n\n- Bottom layer: Sweat removal. Important if you are still new to winter and don't have enough experience dressing precisely for specific weather. **Do not use cotton** - opt out for synthetic materials - they wont retain sweat and stick to you as much. Underarmour and likes go here.\n\n- **Moderation is key**: The point for the clothing isnt to protect you from gusts of -150C winds. It is there to **minimize energy loss**. Loosing energy due to sweating is **as bad** as loosing energy due to temperature. This is why getting optimal clothing is so important. This is what makes multi-part clothes better compared to universal winter all-in-one gear. If you manage to find setup that keeps you moderately warm without breaking sweat you will be surprised how little clothing you actually need. This is why you see these \"Canadian\" or \"Siberian\" stereotypes, where its -50C and they walk around in autumn clothing.\n\n- Wind barrier is key. **Plug the holes first**. Scarves, gloves, fur hats are all designed for that - use them.\n\n- Do not forget about legs! 2-3 layer method doesn't apply just for the top of the body. Hint: a set of thermal long underwear + jeans on top = comfortable for up to -20C-ish (-40C-ish windchill).\n\nSource: Siberian-born Canadian that still works outside in a hoodie.", "Some tips for getting your car unstuck. \n\nFirst of all, if you have traction control on your car, turn it off. If you are stopped and your wheels are spinning, easy on the gas, you do not want to dig yourself in deeper. If you already have, or are stuck in snow, straighten your wheels and rock your car back and forth. Do this by putting it alternately in drive and reverse. When your car starts to move forward, give it more gas and don't stop until you are completely free or you will get stuck again. If you are really stuck get passengers to push you forward when you put it in drive and get out of the way when you are in reverse.", "Bring your ice scraper/snow brush inside with you. \n\nsource: someone who left their ice scraper inside their car and the doors froze. ", "Your doors freeze because the seals were wet before it got cold. Wipe them down with silicon lube.\n\nYour washer fluid will freeze if it's straight water or water and fluid mixed. Run straight fluid when it could be cold.\n\nWhen temperatures are expected to change with rain/freezing rain/sleet/snow, lift your wiper blades away from the windshield so they don't freeze to the glass.\n\nDon't put loose heavy things in the vehicle to help with traction. If you start to spin, they will be thrown to the back and make it harder to stop spinning.", "This is a tough one: gradually reduce the house temperature. Over time get it as low as possible. The cooler your place is, the better you will be at dealing with the cold outside.", "Move around a lot. Keep your core warm. Layers. Wool clothing can make a difference, can also make you sweat. Make sure your body can breath, otherwise when you stop it's gonna get cold.\n\nFor cars: Always make sure you are topped up on fluids. If you have a hatch back you might be able to climb in through the back if the doors are frozen (had this happen in college) or if you have fold down back \nseats. ", "If you plan to be traveling, even across town, when severe weather could strike, bring plenty of snacks and a thermos of water. Just ask the people in Atlanta how handy that would have been....\n\nAlso, hand warmers / toe warmers / body warmers are a good way to prevent frostbite if you're stranded. Find them in sporting goods sections, where hunters get their gear.", "Car tips. Get a good l penetrating lubricating fluid and lube up your door seals/ locks. Gas line antifreeze is your friend ( only for -20~C). Let your car idle for 2~ mins to let it warm it. DO NOT REV YOUR ENGINE TO WARM IT UP!. Keep a winter kit in a milk crate/bag in your trunk. I personally have an MRE( in case you get stuck in a ditch/highway for the night), bottle of water, survival blanket and wool blanket, toque, gloves, minor first aid kit, heat treat hand warmers. If you do get \"cold\" weather randomly run all season windshield washer fluid (its like a buck extra, worth it when you need it). If it gets cold and you have summer blend fluid in just add the all season stuff it will mix. Check your coolant with an antifreeze tester, if you run cause some people run straight water (happened to a buddy, buy a car in the south and have the engine block freeze and grenade on you). Learn skid control, it can save your life. Go to an empty parking lot and learn to lose control and how to regain it. Make sure your tires have good tred, test your brakes to make sure they arnt frozen stuck and to burn rust/ debris from disk.", "Add a bottle of HEET to a full tank of gas. Let your car idle for a minute or two before you drive, then drive it gently until the engine starts to warm up.", "* Dressing in layers is important to keep you warm and should be obvious.\n* Spraying WD-40 in your car locks will prevent them from freezing.\n* In temperatures below 5F (-15C) you should let your care idle until the temperature gauge comes off the bottom line.\n* Drink warm tea/coffee when you get home as it will raise your core temperature and let you warm up faster.\n* Keep your feet, hands, ears, head, and groin covered as it is where you lose the majority of your body heat.\n* When sliding on ice put your car in neutral and ease onto the breaks to stop faster then just slamming on your breaks.\n* Drive slower on ice, if it was cold always try stepping on the gas quickly before you get going to see if there is whats called \"black ice\", where the road is slippery but does not appear to be so. Start going really slow and ease into going faster, most of you will not have winter tires and will not be able to control your vehicle like people who come from a snowy environment.\n* If there are puddles and you put plastic bags inside your shoes it will prevent cold water from soaking your feet. Put your shoes on a furnace vent when you get home will dry them out and keep them warm.\n* If you have a heated garage, the inside of your windows on the vehicle will likely fog up when you leave. Crack your window when storing it in the garage to help prevent this and make sure your car is warm enough to blow warm air before leaving.\n* Leave your windshield wipers up over night. The next morning let your car run for a few minutes before putting them down so they don't freeze. As an added bonus, if you have good windshield washer fluid (some goes to -40) you can spray it on the window to clear frost off without standing in the cold (although the windows will fog up until defrost warms up)\n* Avoid spicy food, it raises your core temperature and makes you feel cold worse.\n* Shovel your driveway before you drive on it, packed snow quickly becomes ice.\n* If you can, wear something wind/water resistant on the top layer as it to protect from wind/rain/snow/freezing rain/sleet or whatever else.\n* When you are walking on ice adjust your center of gravity forward so you don't slip as bad. Try and avoid heels.\n* Put your underclothing in the dryer for a few minutes before going out, the top layers will trap heat in and you will adjust to the cold slower and let you feel warm longer.\n* Wool and synthetic material are far better then cotton/denim when it is cold outside." ]

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[ "How do I become less gullible? Context: Yesterday I fell for the [\"I accidentally reported you\" scam](https://blog.malwarebytes.com/scams/2021/03/steam-users-dont-fall-for-the-i-accidentally-reported-you-scam/). I've lost access to my steam account, and I've most likely lost some of my money as well. (I'm going to see if I can contact steam and call my bank later. I've locked my card.) I'm not as upset about losing my steam account as I am for falling for it. I feel like I should have known better and would have just recognized the red flags before losing my email and phone access to it. I just feel like an idiot and can't shake this feeling off me. \n\nSo yeah, any advice on how to recognize more stuff like this or even reassurance would be nice. Just don't send any mean or condescending comments.", "How do I become less gullible? Context: Yesterday I fell for the [\"I accidentally reported you\" scam](https://blog.malwarebytes.com/scams/2021/03/steam-users-dont-fall-for-the-i-accidentally-reported-you-scam/). I've lost access to my steam account, and I've most likely lost some of my money as well. (I'm going to see if I can contact steam and call my bank later. I've locked my card.) I'm not as upset about losing my steam account as I am for falling for it. I feel like I should have known better and would have just recognized the red flags before losing my email and phone access to it. I just feel like an idiot and can't shake this feeling off me. \n\nSo yeah, any advice on how to recognize more stuff like this or even reassurance would be nice. Just don't send any mean or condescending comments.", "How do I become less gullible? Context: Yesterday I fell for the [\"I accidentally reported you\" scam](https://blog.malwarebytes.com/scams/2021/03/steam-users-dont-fall-for-the-i-accidentally-reported-you-scam/). I've lost access to my steam account, and I've most likely lost some of my money as well. (I'm going to see if I can contact steam and call my bank later. I've locked my card.) I'm not as upset about losing my steam account as I am for falling for it. I feel like I should have known better and would have just recognized the red flags before losing my email and phone access to it. I just feel like an idiot and can't shake this feeling off me. \n\nSo yeah, any advice on how to recognize more stuff like this or even reassurance would be nice. Just don't send any mean or condescending comments.", "How do I become less gullible? Context: Yesterday I fell for the [\"I accidentally reported you\" scam](https://blog.malwarebytes.com/scams/2021/03/steam-users-dont-fall-for-the-i-accidentally-reported-you-scam/). I've lost access to my steam account, and I've most likely lost some of my money as well. (I'm going to see if I can contact steam and call my bank later. I've locked my card.) I'm not as upset about losing my steam account as I am for falling for it. I feel like I should have known better and would have just recognized the red flags before losing my email and phone access to it. I just feel like an idiot and can't shake this feeling off me. \n\nSo yeah, any advice on how to recognize more stuff like this or even reassurance would be nice. Just don't send any mean or condescending comments.", "How do I become less gullible? Context: Yesterday I fell for the [\"I accidentally reported you\" scam](https://blog.malwarebytes.com/scams/2021/03/steam-users-dont-fall-for-the-i-accidentally-reported-you-scam/). I've lost access to my steam account, and I've most likely lost some of my money as well. (I'm going to see if I can contact steam and call my bank later. I've locked my card.) I'm not as upset about losing my steam account as I am for falling for it. I feel like I should have known better and would have just recognized the red flags before losing my email and phone access to it. I just feel like an idiot and can't shake this feeling off me. \n\nSo yeah, any advice on how to recognize more stuff like this or even reassurance would be nice. Just don't send any mean or condescending comments.", "How do I become less gullible? Context: Yesterday I fell for the [\"I accidentally reported you\" scam](https://blog.malwarebytes.com/scams/2021/03/steam-users-dont-fall-for-the-i-accidentally-reported-you-scam/). I've lost access to my steam account, and I've most likely lost some of my money as well. (I'm going to see if I can contact steam and call my bank later. I've locked my card.) I'm not as upset about losing my steam account as I am for falling for it. I feel like I should have known better and would have just recognized the red flags before losing my email and phone access to it. I just feel like an idiot and can't shake this feeling off me. \n\nSo yeah, any advice on how to recognize more stuff like this or even reassurance would be nice. Just don't send any mean or condescending comments.", "How do I become less gullible? Context: Yesterday I fell for the [\"I accidentally reported you\" scam](https://blog.malwarebytes.com/scams/2021/03/steam-users-dont-fall-for-the-i-accidentally-reported-you-scam/). I've lost access to my steam account, and I've most likely lost some of my money as well. (I'm going to see if I can contact steam and call my bank later. I've locked my card.) I'm not as upset about losing my steam account as I am for falling for it. I feel like I should have known better and would have just recognized the red flags before losing my email and phone access to it. I just feel like an idiot and can't shake this feeling off me. \n\nSo yeah, any advice on how to recognize more stuff like this or even reassurance would be nice. Just don't send any mean or condescending comments.", "How do I become less gullible? Context: Yesterday I fell for the [\"I accidentally reported you\" scam](https://blog.malwarebytes.com/scams/2021/03/steam-users-dont-fall-for-the-i-accidentally-reported-you-scam/). I've lost access to my steam account, and I've most likely lost some of my money as well. (I'm going to see if I can contact steam and call my bank later. I've locked my card.) I'm not as upset about losing my steam account as I am for falling for it. I feel like I should have known better and would have just recognized the red flags before losing my email and phone access to it. I just feel like an idiot and can't shake this feeling off me. \n\nSo yeah, any advice on how to recognize more stuff like this or even reassurance would be nice. Just don't send any mean or condescending comments.", "How do I become less gullible? Context: Yesterday I fell for the [\"I accidentally reported you\" scam](https://blog.malwarebytes.com/scams/2021/03/steam-users-dont-fall-for-the-i-accidentally-reported-you-scam/). I've lost access to my steam account, and I've most likely lost some of my money as well. (I'm going to see if I can contact steam and call my bank later. I've locked my card.) I'm not as upset about losing my steam account as I am for falling for it. I feel like I should have known better and would have just recognized the red flags before losing my email and phone access to it. I just feel like an idiot and can't shake this feeling off me. \n\nSo yeah, any advice on how to recognize more stuff like this or even reassurance would be nice. Just don't send any mean or condescending comments.", "How do I become less gullible? Context: Yesterday I fell for the [\"I accidentally reported you\" scam](https://blog.malwarebytes.com/scams/2021/03/steam-users-dont-fall-for-the-i-accidentally-reported-you-scam/). I've lost access to my steam account, and I've most likely lost some of my money as well. (I'm going to see if I can contact steam and call my bank later. I've locked my card.) I'm not as upset about losing my steam account as I am for falling for it. I feel like I should have known better and would have just recognized the red flags before losing my email and phone access to it. I just feel like an idiot and can't shake this feeling off me. \n\nSo yeah, any advice on how to recognize more stuff like this or even reassurance would be nice. Just don't send any mean or condescending comments." ]

[ "Pay attention to the wording. If you have to and you're able to read it out loud. Most scams seem to use broken English, misspellings, and run on sentences. An official email/chat/etc from a major company will most likely be written professionally with proper pronunciation and be sent from something like [email protected]. Anything you receive from [email protected], @yahoo, etc is most likely fake as companies don't tend to use personal emails for business.\n\nFor debit/cr", "my fiance is very similar and this is what i always say to him: over-communicate with yourself.\n\none of our friends posted a status update that was like \"wow does anyone know if (our state) is allowed to have legal sports betting yet?\" not one reply. not one acknowledgement. bro, google is just .2 seconds away from you. spend five minutes on your own research to fin your own information you can trust.\n\nsame advice to you. instead of reacting, take a moment and reprocess what it is that is suspicious or making you feel uncomfortable. a lot of scams are very search-and-citable. there is literally no such thing as bad communication or acknowledgement. there is no time you waste when you are looking into how legitimate this thing is vs. throwing things at it and hope it's real. same for any statement on fb. same for literally almost anything you read or hear in circulation. there is a lot of power that comes from being accountable for your own understanding and knowledgable of these things that easily fool others.", "Lots of long answers. Here's a short one:\n\n1. Never give your passwords, card numbers, pins, or anything like that to anyone who initiates contact with you and requests them.\n\n2. To verify the validity of this kind of request, look up the contact information online and YOU call THEM and do it that way. If it's reputable, there will be zero problems.", "Remind yourself nothing changes in an hour. Give yourself that time to think. It won't take you that long to figure it out. It's not a matter of gullible. It's a matter of taking yourself out of the reactionary mode the false urgency is designed to push you into so your brain has the space to put the pieces together.", "Sorry this happened, it must feel very frustrating. Basically, if I am not expecting someone to contact me then I question it every. single. time.\n\nIf anybody contacts me about any personal account that I have, I don't click anything or take any advised actions other than immediately contacting the company (in the same way you would contact them for any problem) and saying \"this happened, is this legitimate?\" \n\nI also check social media platforms before contacting them to see if there is any risk that the company themselves have been hacked etc\n\nHope you get your account and money back, try not to beat yourself up about it too much. It's happened now so just learn from it and don't let it happen again is all you can do 😁", "Anytime anyone calls me whether I think it's legitimate or not, I say \"sorry I'm hanging up now.\" And then I either call the number on my card or I google the agency to call them. One time I spent like an hour on hold for my bank and it turned out it really was them calling me but I'd rather waste my time than potentially lose a lot of money.", "Don't think of looking for red flags, you just end up paranoid and anxious as you build a list of flags that may or may not actually be useful or valid. (If you must, then consider this: Don't talk to strangers, especially when they contacted you first. The red flag is that someone you don't know (or know well) contacted you out of the blue. A second red flag is such a stranger asked you to do something).\n\nInstead, keep your information and communication habits consistent and as simple as possible.\n\nIn this case, you would have minimized your risk if you contacted Steam via their official web URL or app (and double checked that the URL is typed in correctly) and described the situation you were presented.\n\nWhen anyone contacts you about a third party you are involved with, you contact the third party directly in the manner the third party has announced. Even if the contact is someone you believe you know, never use their methods or links to contact the third party.\n\nTo address a common related scenario, you also need to watch for any attempts to play on your emotions or rush you into quick/rash thinking. You will also need to be able to gather \\*good\\* information from \\*reliable\\* sources using \\*reliable\\* means of contacting those sources.\n\nThere's also a couple wider terms for what you're looking for:\n\ncritical thinking and healthy skepticism\n\n...and as borked as it has become, \"trust but verify\". Don't believe anything you hear unless you've given it some thought or at least ran it by some trusted sources, using trusted means of communication.\n\nYou can't expect to be perfectly capable of critical thinking, but you can develop it as a skill and maybe learn it well enough to make scammers look for an easier mark.\n\n\\*There aren't that many useful red flags to watch for, just watch out for the unusual. If you pay enough attention to details (it helps to have a calm rested mental state, mindful and present), you get a sense for when something's weird and you need to focus on good information safety behaviors.\n\n\\*\\*Unfortunately, if your usual is you're interacting with strangers, well, you just have to learn to trust but verify if you have to maintain a non-confrontational attitude (like working anywhere service-related, or posting in online forums like reddit), and prep yourself so you're protecting your information and access by simply not having them if you don't need them in that unsafe zone.", "dont be giveing pass word sir. even bill Gate not needing youre pass word. no giveing too any persons exception mother maybe", "With my 10 step method you can become less gullible!\n\nCritical thinking? A lie created by the jew!\n\nJust roll with me and you will be less gullible in no time!\n\n\n\n2000 dollars in advance and a montly subscription to multivitamins will be deducted from you accounts*", "Always ask yourself why, and what? \n\n​\n\nWhy did they say that?\n\nWhy would they do that?\n\nWhat's in it for them?\n\nWhat's the possible outcomes?\n\nWhy are they acting this way?\n\n​\n\nAnd keep the options in your head when moving forward, don't immediately act on them, but it will help prepare you for the end results." ]

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[ "Tips to easily know what direction you are heading (N,S,E,W) besides carrying a compass When you are in an unfamiliar area, are there any tricks that you use to know what direction you are heading? Something besides the sun, since that's not always available or position is not helpful.\n", "Tips to easily know what direction you are heading (N,S,E,W) besides carrying a compass When you are in an unfamiliar area, are there any tricks that you use to know what direction you are heading? Something besides the sun, since that's not always available or position is not helpful.\n", "Tips to easily know what direction you are heading (N,S,E,W) besides carrying a compass When you are in an unfamiliar area, are there any tricks that you use to know what direction you are heading? Something besides the sun, since that's not always available or position is not helpful.\n", "Tips to easily know what direction you are heading (N,S,E,W) besides carrying a compass When you are in an unfamiliar area, are there any tricks that you use to know what direction you are heading? Something besides the sun, since that's not always available or position is not helpful.\n", "Tips to easily know what direction you are heading (N,S,E,W) besides carrying a compass When you are in an unfamiliar area, are there any tricks that you use to know what direction you are heading? Something besides the sun, since that's not always available or position is not helpful.\n", "Tips to easily know what direction you are heading (N,S,E,W) besides carrying a compass When you are in an unfamiliar area, are there any tricks that you use to know what direction you are heading? Something besides the sun, since that's not always available or position is not helpful.\n", "Tips to easily know what direction you are heading (N,S,E,W) besides carrying a compass When you are in an unfamiliar area, are there any tricks that you use to know what direction you are heading? Something besides the sun, since that's not always available or position is not helpful.\n", "Tips to easily know what direction you are heading (N,S,E,W) besides carrying a compass When you are in an unfamiliar area, are there any tricks that you use to know what direction you are heading? Something besides the sun, since that's not always available or position is not helpful.\n", "Tips to easily know what direction you are heading (N,S,E,W) besides carrying a compass When you are in an unfamiliar area, are there any tricks that you use to know what direction you are heading? Something besides the sun, since that's not always available or position is not helpful.\n", "Tips to easily know what direction you are heading (N,S,E,W) besides carrying a compass When you are in an unfamiliar area, are there any tricks that you use to know what direction you are heading? Something besides the sun, since that's not always available or position is not helpful.\n", "Tips to easily know what direction you are heading (N,S,E,W) besides carrying a compass When you are in an unfamiliar area, are there any tricks that you use to know what direction you are heading? Something besides the sun, since that's not always available or position is not helpful.\n", "Tips to easily know what direction you are heading (N,S,E,W) besides carrying a compass When you are in an unfamiliar area, are there any tricks that you use to know what direction you are heading? Something besides the sun, since that's not always available or position is not helpful.\n", "Tips to easily know what direction you are heading (N,S,E,W) besides carrying a compass When you are in an unfamiliar area, are there any tricks that you use to know what direction you are heading? Something besides the sun, since that's not always available or position is not helpful.\n", "Tips to easily know what direction you are heading (N,S,E,W) besides carrying a compass When you are in an unfamiliar area, are there any tricks that you use to know what direction you are heading? Something besides the sun, since that's not always available or position is not helpful.\n", "Tips to easily know what direction you are heading (N,S,E,W) besides carrying a compass When you are in an unfamiliar area, are there any tricks that you use to know what direction you are heading? Something besides the sun, since that's not always available or position is not helpful.\n" ]

[ "If you have an analogue watch [it's pretty easy](http://www.wikihow.com/Use-an-Analog-Watch-as-a-Compass).", "[This](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interstate_Highway_System#Mile_markers_and_exit_numbers) has proven helpful to me. \n\nIn the U.S., 2 digit interstates are numbered according their Direction. Odd number Interstates are North/South and Even numbered are East/West. Most of the Interstate mile markers increase going South-to-North or West-to-East.", "I usually use freeways to near my direction, it's something I've always used, and I can keep bearing on my direction even inside buildings", "The sun rises in the east and sets in the west. Assuming you know roughly the time of day you can use the way the sun is heading as a cardinal direction. If its high noon wait a few minutes ", "Even on overcast days, long objects can still cast a slight shadow in the opposite direction of the sun.\n\nOn clear evenings, you can tell roughly which way is west by looking at which part of the moon is illuminated. The bright side will be the side that the sun shines from, and since the moon and the sun move in a roughly east-west plane, that direction is roughly west. In the case of a new moon, often you can make out its outline using gegenschein. In this case, the far side of the moon is west.", "In many cities, there's a convention like \"Boulevards are east/west, Streets are North/South. All numbered from downtown.\" This requires you to do a little research before hand.\n\nWhich leads me to an interesting point: when in a strange city, learn a few major points -- a University, stadium, or whatever. If you get lost, look for signs routing you to a major point. You're now properly oriented!", "The sun always travels through the Southern part of the sky if you are in the Northern Hemisphere. I'm assuming the inverse is true if you are in the Southern Hemisphere, but I've never been there so I can't say for sure. Not an exact measurement, but it gets the job done.", "Moss grow on the sides of trees which don't have sun shinning upon them during the day. So you can use the sun reference even at night.", "Look at which way the trees are growing (which direction most branches are growing towards). In the southern hemisphere they grow towards north because that is where the sun is for most of the day. In the US it will be south. Its subtle until you're told, but then it cannot be unseen! Check it out. I learnt this planting trees for charity. Double win. ", "It doesn't always hold true but the majority of cities give houses on the east and north sides of the street even numbers. Odd to the west and south. A trick to remember it is even starts with E and ends with-east and north. ", "If the city or countryside is oriented on a grid (most common in North America), keep track of your turns and know the balance between the rights and lefts (and remember roads can curve even when you're not at an intersection). If you know your original direction of travel, a quick calculation will determine where you are going now.", "An easy way for me to tell the direction is to look at the where the sun is. In the morning, Sun is in the east. Going on night, sun is in west. When it's totally dark out, look for the Big Dipper if possible and around that area should be the North Star. \n\nHope this helped!", "An artist in NYC painted compass roses on the ground in front of subway stations for a while. It was great because it oriented you right after stepping out from underground. \n\nHe's stopped and they're all worn away now. Obviously not generally helpful but it makes me think we need some of these installed as a matter of course; it was damn helpful for that little while. ", "How about the old saying:\n\"The Sun rises in the East, and sets in the West\"\n\nThat can give you a clue.", "the sun/moon will tell you. I was a nerd not a boy scout so i can't give any more info than that, but im sure a simple google will supply it.. :)" ]

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[ "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n", "How to think critically and ask the right questions. I am currently a junior in college, and while I get good grades, I think I lack necessary skills that I may need for research/grad school. I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop. Any advice?\n\n" ]

[ "There's a website/forum called *Less Wrong* that is all about critically examining things like rationality and sociology -- essentially, *what do we think we know, and why do we think we know it?* There are a lot of good resources there, but here are a few books that are commonly referenced:\n\n- *Thinking Fast and Slow*\n\n- *Godel, Escher, Bach*\n\n- *Predictably Irrational*\n\nAll have solid academic grounding but are meant to be broadly accessible. \n\nIf you happen to be a huge Harry Potter nerd like me, there's also the Less Wrong fanfiction *Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality,* which is a surprisingly good story that includes a lot of good lessons about critical thinking. ", ">I'm good at memorizing things like anatomy and terms, but when there's a class that encourages questions and critical thinking I feel dumb and out of the loop.\n\nThat's your problem right there. You're good at memorizing things, but what you need to be good at is *understanding things*. There's a big difference. If you're only good at memorizing things, then you can give a correct answer but you probably can't explain why the answer is what it is. It's just what you were taught.\n\nYou need to focus on **understanding** the things you learn. Don't just accept that \"it works\" or \"that's how its done\". Figure out WHY it works, and WHY that's how it's done. Then when you learn something new, take a second to integrate the new info into everything else you know. Does it change your fundamental understanding of any of the concepts? Does it contradict any of the concepts you know? Does it suggest any new possibilities?\n\nThis doesn't just work in academia, it works in all areas of life.", "Philosophy major here. Just ask questions. Forget about everyone else they can fuck themselves if they think your dumb. Not asking questions is what's dumb. And I'm not talking about deep questions or questioning life or anything. Literally the second I loose step with the teacher's logic or where we're at in class my hand goes up. If I don't understand anything I immediately ask a questions. Usually someone else in the class will be wondering too, and even if they're not - all that matters is that you get it. I follow everything the teacher says and when I don't follow or miss I step I ask. Do not settle for \"I kind of get it\" and you'll be good. ", "Slow down, don't try to answer anything right away, and if the conversation moves on before you say your piece, don't sweat it.\n\nBeing in a rush is what'll get in the way of thinking critically.", "I did a unit at university on just this topic. 13 weeks of study. Effectively boiled down to: familiarise yourself with logical forms (both valid and invalid), and practice determining the form of any random article or Facebook post.\n\nIt's actually really surprising how much you learn about a good or bad argument just by figuring out if it's a modus ponens or affirming the consequent or whatever.\n\nI'm on mobile so apologies for the formatting, but this wiki link should be a simple enough place to start. :)\n\nhttps://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Logical_form", "Look at a philosophy elective. I know where I am the unis offer at least one critical reasoning course. Something like that will help, and get you closer to graduation. ", "For me, it's a matter of asking whether a claim that someone makes is supported by evidence. Some things sound good at first because they may be presented as coming from a reliable authority or because they have a certain common sense appeal or because they seem to be accepted wisdom. \n\nThinking critically is like putting the claim on trial. And for me it's a two step process. \n\nFirst, I look at the evidence and try to assess its value. Is there a lot of evidence? Is there reason to believe the evidence is reliable? Is there a possibility that the evidence we have is only part of the story -- in other words, could there be some facts that we're unaware of? A deficiency in these areas might mean that the claim is weak.\n\nSecond, I ask whether the evidence actually supports the claim. So, even if we have a bunch of great, reliable evidence, is the claim a proper interpretation of the evidence? (Maybe the claim assumes more than the evidence supports or maybe the claim isn't a reasonable interpretation.) Or, even if the claim makes sense based on the evidence, can I think of other ways to interpret the evidence that would lead to other reasonable claims?\n\nYou don't have to prove the initial claim wrong, you only have to test the claim. You might end up agreeing with it. \n\n\n", "Thinking critically takes a lot of practice. It's hard. If you aren't already involved in research, start NOW. Thinking critically takes repeated exposure to a topic. You can't start criticizing things without understanding, so just begin with that and then continue.\n\nPresumably you're in biology, so a lot of your criticism could be about whether or not an experiment has proper statistics and statistical analysis. Take statements to logical extremes. If there's an equation, what happens if I plug in zero, or infinity. If you see an explanation you must immediately look for where it breaks down. \n\nIn science the absolute most important thing is, nobody is completely right. In fact, you will regularly find mistakes in papers. They are there and common. Even your class lectures don't have the whole picture by the time you're a junior in college, they can't possibly have it. \n\nThis takes so much practice and you're an undergrad so frankly you don't have much yet, but that's not your fault. Practicing things like this requires an environment that really pushes you into the deep end. \n\nKey points: Take statements to logical extremes and find where explanations and theories break down. Where they break down often tells you how they actually work.", "IMHO, if I could boil down the advice I got, I would rephrase it like this - \n\n1. Don't be afraid to ask questions. There is no suck thing as a stupid question - there might be silly questions, questions who's answers are blatantly obvious, questions to which there might not be any answers or have multiple answers, but there are *no* stupid questions. *Especially* if you're in a place of learning. IF you're scared of asking a question in public (as many of us are), go find the speaker / professor / person in private and ask them. Still scared? email. But for the love of life, do not fail to ask questions. 'Why?\" and \"how?\" are your best friends.\n\n2. Listen and absorb information. You might forget 90% of it (for me it's closer to 95, but I digress). But if you listen enough, certain core concepts will make themselves evident over and over and over again, till they stick in your mind no problem. Takes time, like a crystal forming from a seed, but this is essential for development of critical thinking on any subject, because you have to have atleast a basic understanding of the subject before you can make a claim at a higher level understanding. Till then, keep asking questions. After a while, you'll see that the questions are no longer silly.\n\n3. Don't be dogmatic in your views - ie - it's find if you subscribe to one opinion based on the evidence you've gathered, but that doesn't mean any other contrary opinion is outright invalid. Ask for the evidence supporting the opinion. Evaluate for yourself, and then accept or dismiss the opinion. ", "Read Plato. All I've really done. Its challenging as shit. But damn does it help you see through bullshit. ", "Podcast series called \"Philosophize This.\" Episodes 73 and 75, \"How to win an argument\" (parts 1 and 2). Great primer on identifying a multitude of logical fallacies.", "I'm honestly a little impressed that you have identified a problem in your thinking and are open to working on it. I'm a non traditional college student and it seems that a lot of my classmates struggle with critical thinking. Worse, they often respond to classes that attempt to push them towards critical thinking with resentment and, at least so far as I can see, zero recognition that maybe they are missing a key capability. So you've already taken a big step towards improving.", "I recommend taking a logic and critical thinking course in the philosophy department. Honestly, I think everyone should. In fact, I think it should be a basic requirement in high school.\n\n/scientist who dabbled in philosophy", "Don't discourage yourself! Everybody starts somewhere, and you could also be feeling a little bit of imposter syndrome too (which is very normal, especially in academic environments).\n\nIf there's an instructor you especially like, you could always ask if you could get involved in anything they're working on, or for any of their suggestions. You could also go talk to them about particular discussions you felt a little like that about.\n\nBut really, critical thinking is best when you have a solid base. I know plenty of people who take to thinking like that easily, but because they didn't study as much will miss important information. Interpretation will follow. If you feel out of your depth though it just means you recognize room for improvement, which is a pretty solid step. Keep working at it - absorb information, thinking about how information is connected (rather than just memorizing) and you'll get there. Some things also just take a while to click.\n\nOh and you could also try concept mapping, that helps with connections and critical thinking. There are a bunch of good sites that come up with a quick Google :) good luck!", "To think critically could be said as \"know how to criticize effectively\". \nStrive to use correct word definitions, dont just be lazy and get it \"close enough\". \nAvoid assumptions. \nNever use \"blind faith\" as a means to decide or determine anything. \nAsk for proof. \nVerify that proof. \nLearn about [Logical Fallacies](https://yourlogicalfallacyis.com/). \nDetermine if the context of the situation allows the fallacy pattern you have detected, to be correctly applied. (just because you see a fallacy pattern, does not mean it is always a fallacy) \nSeek to be proven wrong, it increases your knowledge. \nAccept that making mistakes is vital to growth and that in no way is an error a bad thing. \nEveryone is an idiot (makes bad choices sometimes), and its okay. \nEveryone is ignorant (no one knows everything), we are all in the process of learning. \nDont get emotional about how you feel or think about something, just express yourself and take in other people's perspectives as potential new truths. \nDont assume other people have something valid to contribute just because they have something they want to say, some people dont have anything to contribute beyond, \"well this is how i feel and its right because i think it is\". ", "Thinking critically can be easy, but it's tricky because you don't want to come off as being argumentative. Take for example someone in a meeting suggests that you try a new marketing scheme and the plan involves a commercial with an all-Caucasian actor lineup. \"Thinking critically\" in this case would be bring up the fact that an all-Caucasian may not reach to all demographics thus reducing the amount of income your company can make. Instead suggest a diverse group of actors.\n\nThinking critically doesn't have to be difficult but as I stated above, you do have to know appropriate times to bring up \"outside the box\" scenarios. For instance bringing it up with your known-to-be-bigot boss more than you have to could land you in hot water. ", "The minute you start to think critically, you get labeled a conspiracy theorist. Stop now, and follow the herd.", "Reading every comment has left me with an undeniable realization of how completely uneducated I am. To read so many opinions and not have any clue what they're actually saying. I'm surrounded by successful, college educated people and I wonder if I sound like a moron when I participate in conversations. I'm buying every book listed.....WOW", "Read \"What the best college students do\". It is really good, exactly about what you are dealing with. Essentially external vs intrinsic motivation, why grades dont mean much, and how to go beyond the confining constructs of our society that encourage extrinsic motivation. Helps you gain a new curiosity that will invariably help you with this problem. ", "Pro tip: your parents are wrong. And your teachers are wrong. As are your friends. Everyone is wrong to some degree or another. Even you. And you being wrong is most harmful. So never take anything at face value - always ask the \"why?\" question *and* use Occam's razor - if you come up with aliens or moon hoax, you know you took a wrong turn.", "Practice. If you can, try to take more thought provoking classes. While it may be more work initially, you'll thank yourself that you took the time to learn how to think if you plan on going into research/graduate school.", "Only Connect. This was written by one of my favorite professors at UW, Bill Cronon. This really resonated with me and I found myself returning to it often, well after graduation. When I first read it, it was a 2 page essay. \n\nhttp://www.williamcronon.net/writing/Cronon_Only_Connect.pdf", "One way to do this is imagine you're explaining a concept to someone else, or teaching them. This immediately forces you to address gaps in your knowledge of something. It helps you be more rounded on a concept and in so doing, you start to realize the true importance and application of the concept.\n\nIn terms of critical thinking, it's important to analyze things at face value. Disregard what you \"know\" to be true, and your emotions regarding the subject. This is especially important in high-emotion subject areas like racism, gender, gun control...\n\nExample: Would owning a firearm increase your level of home safety? Of course, most owners believe this to be true and gun control advocates claim it's false and leads to more accidents. I've never seen either side present detailed statistics to support their very passionate opinions on the subject. At most I hear a poorly applied statistic pulled from a propaganda piece. Ironically, the more passionate/emotional people are about a moral topic, the more ignorant they tend to be, and the more hostile they are toward the application of critical thinking to it.\n\n", "Not to sound sarcastic but the clue is in the name really. Think about the source critically. Be hyper critical.\n\nWhat reason could they have to be voicing that view?\n\nAre they sponsored? \nPersonal bias?\nUninformed?\n\nThere's so many reasons. Even if the answer is 'well it's an unbiased source BUT the research method is flawed because x' or even 'oh that's just over simplified' that's fine.\n\nEssentially, assume everyone's wrong for 1 reason or another", "No.1 question all information, every word. Is it from a primary source (or the originator of the information) or secondary, tertiary. ..etc. Primary is generally most reliable however then motive needs to be ascertained. Most of the time it's a sell, they want to sell you something or just sell you on their opinion. I would say 90% (completely made up anecdotal stat) of the information I come across, both media and interpersonal, is based on emotional appeal. Emotion and reason are not mutually exclusive but one must be aware of how their emotions are being manipulated before being able to decide if it is reasonable. ...and now I'm kind of rambling. I suppose the best way is to read some philosophy (enjoyed Plato, Kierkegaard, Kant, Locke, Emerson, and Thoreau when I was younger) and seek out info in the fields of psychology, marketing, and advertising. The former to see some ideas on how your brain takes shortcuts and thus can be exploited (quick example: primacy effect) and the latter two fit in well bc they use the former with the specific intent to manipulate. Those are kinda like beginners critical thinking bc it's generally easy to see the relationship BTW what they are trying to do (convince you to change your opinion and/or sell you something) and how they do it. Once you start seeing how every detail is designed for specific purpose (attractive models to imply \"use our product it will make you prettier/more attractive to the opposite sex\" to specific wording to lead your thinking in a specific direction (much like magic is all about trying to see the trick, and this becomes easier when we realize we are much more susceptible to manipulation than we like to admit) you can begin to extrapolate this to personal interaction; where is this person's information coming from? Is it a reliable source? Why is that source reliable? Is this person's opinion/assertion based in fact or feeling? Is it really relevant? Is it scientific or anecdotal? \n \nI'm still waking up and heads not too organized yet, but tl;dr always ask yourself what is the person/article/author 's stake in this information? Is the information sourced reliably? Is an assertion based in fact? Is it statistical or anecdotal? Your best friend is the question why.\n \nAnd remember that critical thinking is a skill that needs to be developed. No one just picks up a guitar and starts playing. Start by learning notes and chords (methods of manipulation, logical fallacies, the weaknesses in one's own a ways of thinking) and then you can begin to apply them to your symphony of critical thought.", "Most people use their minds as a giant filing cabinet where they store facts and recall them when needed. Critical thinkers have their mind organized as a giant map in their head where things fit together and some things overlap. This has several advantages over the first form. 1 it is much more efficient and requiers much less \"space\" as things that are similar are grouped together and replaced by a single general instance of the idea that can be adapted to the particular circumstance. \n\nThink about files and folders in your office, that metaphore translates to your computer and then to websites you use... but it can also translate to finding where a pair of shoes is stored in a warehouse or how to classify people in an organization. Once you know how one works you know how they all work. \n\nThe second advantage of the map is knowing what you don't know... or more precisely being able to extrapolate from what you do know and filling in gaps with nothing more than information you already have. For example: What came first, the chicken or the egg? Well if you understand evolution you can extrapolate that something that wasn't quite a chicken laid an egg and inside that egg was the very first chicken. So the answer is the chicken came first from the egg of a not quite chicken egg but a proto-chicken egg. \n\nWith the map you will also be able to determine when something is wrong based on what you already know. Example, viruses and bacteria are different and viruses are prevented by vaccines and bacteria are killed by antibiotics. Many people believe that you can take antibiotics to cure a flu infection, but looking at our map we can extrapolate that this isn't true. The examples are endless and the energy you will save when thinking this way tremendous. The goal is to remember that being wrong is a wonderful thing and it becomes an opportunity to expand or correct your map and make even better predictions of the future. ", "Listen, it's that simple. Why do we, as humans, always try to make things like this out to be things to be learned (as in taught by books, and manuals and this and that)? Your brain automatically picks up on intricacies, asks when it doesn't know the answer, ignore when it finds info irrelevant, etc. The only way to get in tune with that is to listen. ", "Just as something I find important: When you hear something new, or read something new, stop and take a second to ask yourself why you feel a certain way. Do you feel anything? Why or why not? \n\nFor example, you hear about a woman moving to Oregon for Death with dignity. Are you mad? Why? You hear about the lead water in Flint. Do you feel anything? Why? Assad overthrown (we can hope). Are you happy? Why? \n\nThinking critically is about understanding the ramifications of what is happening to see what they *mean*. \n\nI hope that helps.", "If your school offers a theory of knowledge seminar.. definitely hit that up.\n\n\nThinking critically is the central component of my education. Personally I write a lot, which helps me come up with questions and form links between subject matter. It allows me to become \"part of the conversation\" and to see myself as a source from which knowledge may come. Sometimes I write notes in the margins of what I read and often times I write personal exploratory essays. The process allows me to evaluate subject matter more deeply while providing a time to evaluate my own ideas about it. Along the way my ability to ask critical questions has improved.\n\n\nSomething I've begun recently is a new form of note taking called flow note taking. It involves creating a mind map in class that allows me to restructure what the professor's lecture. I then transpose the flow notes into out line format after class. This is especially useful for identifying key concepts and visualizing connections. I've read that notes shouldn't take the structure of the lecture but should align more with how the note taker understands the subject.. hopefully avoiding rote memorization.\n\n\nA key component to all of this is understanding the nature of truth and knowledge itself and the limitations/assumptions implicit in any version of the truth.\n", "I'm glad you asked this question cause this is one of the common things that separates good scientists from okay ones. Anyway, its something that you must practice every day. Instead of memorizing stuff, you really have to try to logically think it out. For example, one of the reasons why people fail at organic chemistry is because they tend to memorize the reaction steps. While some memorization is necessary as baseline knowledge, most problems can be critically thought out and rationalized step by step. It may seem like you are pulling shit out of your ass, but as long as the process makes sense, then you may be correct.\n\nThis easily applies to any field where you can normally \"think out\" and rationalize what is going on. \n\nIn reference to myself, I am a 5th year graduate student in chemistry and am one of guys who often asks questions in my colleagues research/seminar talks quite often. It may be something like: why did you choose these specific cell lines, why did you use this reaction pathway, can you tell me a little more about the instrument you used, etc... As basic as it seems, it forces you to critically think to ask questions in an effort to understand their topic while also forcing them to critically think about their own knowledge.\n\nDon't be afraid to ask questions regardless of how simple it may seem. Remember that you're asking questions to gain knowledge and insight - not just hard facts. As you practice asking questions you start to get better at it, picking out greater and greater detail.", "I'm a physics-math double major. Both of those degrees explicitly train you to think critically.\n\nSome of the best advice I got was from an upper year when I was in first year. Every Friday (change this to Sunday or whatever fits your needs) he would just sit with his notes in a quiet setting and think. He would think of how what one class said and how it connected to another class. \n\nYou just need to practice it. Think of questions during class and see if they ever get answered. Maybe ask the person beside you if they know. If you never get your answer approach the professor after class (if you are allowed to).\n\nMaybe sit in on a first year physics class. Just think about what they are saying critically and logically. Check to see if it makes sense. Can you think of a reason that the formula they are teaching you would be wrong or incomplete.\n\nThere is normally a philosophy class called formal logic. That may be worth looking in to.", "I don't feel like pretending that I should be giving this advice, or that I do this [critical thinking] all the time. What I can add is that you have to be constantly aware that you are unaware of whatever you perceive as the opposite of your opinion/personality/whatever. \n\nFor instance; yesterday I used the same reference (distance between two locations) for two opposite arguments. I first said \"ah it's super close man, 12 min away if you walk\", about 2-3 hours later I said \"I mean we walked all the way here\" (as an argument to why it took us a long time to get home). Trivial really. But extrapolate to more important issues (politics, etc) and you got yourself a big blind spot in discussions. One which you are (mostly) unaware of.", "I am currently a Business Analyst for a software company and am often praised on my critical thinking skills in solving issues presented in the software. My one big tip/secret to being good at this is actually pretty simple: Do your own homework. By this I mean if a problem presents itself, even one you have absolutely no knowledge of, do not get help from anyone (permitting that time/danger isn't a major issue (if a fire starts in your house definitely get help)). Instead try to solve the problem yourself without any outside resources at first. \n\nAs odd as this sounds, this is what has made me good at my job and earned me a lot of respect as a problem solver around the office.", "Do you play any puzzle games? Start using the creative side of your mind more. Doodle ideas in your head (it doesn't matter if it looks good). Try writing a fictional short story. Take mechanical things apart put them back together again and try to figure out why they were designed the way they are. Look for problems or inefficiencies around you and daydream about ways to fix them. Find something you know nothing about and try to figure out how it works by using your already existing knowledge. You want to teach your brain to examine all possibilities in front of you and look for creative solutions. Don't ever think \"I have no idea\" if you ask yourself a question. That's quitting. Come up with at least one possible answer even if there is no way it's right. \n\nCritical thinking is combing creativity, intellectual curiosity, and logic to solve a problem. \n\nBe like an introvert. Spend more time inside your own head. \n\nYou might suck at first but just practice every day. \n\nA lack of confidence in your decision making skills can also hinder critical thinking. You have to learn not to be afraid to fail, or ask silly questions, or make mistakes. ", "As a teacher, I use Bloom's Taxonomy to design my lessons. \nhttps://juliaec.files.wordpress.com/2011/04/blooms_taxonomy.jpg\nIt describes the different kinds of thinking. For example with analysis, I have my students observe details, notice patterns, and draw conclusions from those patterns. We do evaluation all the time like when we explain why we liked a movie or not. The one I find most difficult is synthesis. Try the different kinds of thinking.", "A simple thing i do to help me think critically is to rephrase the question, \"Why?\" into the more helpful, \"Who Benefits?\". Asking why is usually thought of as a hall mark of the critical thinker, but i think asking why a complex social problem exists is less than helpful. \n\nTake, for example, the war on drugs. Asking why this is happening, or even more focused, why people think it is a good/bad idea gets very complicated. We get into morality, legality, and the health on a national level and it is hard to square the circle. \n\nWhat helps break it down is asking who benefits and who doesn't. Then there are real human faces instead of nebulous ideas. It makes empathy easier on both sides, but it also takes the agency away from abstractions like, \"addiction\" and \"rule of law\" and lets one see things from a human perspective. \n\nThis isn't a regiment, but it has helped me greatly ask the right questions and lead me closer to satisfying answers. ", "Intentionally read things you disagree with, and try to make convincing arguments for that point of view. Read up on logical fallacies then try to identify an opinion of your own that lines up with them. Read up on zen koans, pick one and m", "If you can't *completely* understand something, or if something just doesn't quite make sense to you...question it! Keep probing for details, no matter how basic they may seem, until it all adds up in your mind.\n\nAs Judge Judy says, \"if something doesn't make sense, it's usually not true.\"", "I recommend taking some philosophy classes as an elective. Will force you away from memorization for exams/ papers and into the realm of more critical analysis. ", "Both sides. Take time to think about whatever it is you're dealing with, and look at it from both sides. Then, as you realize what the other side's arguments may be, prepare as though you are arguing for that side as well. When you start analyzing things from both sides, and taking the time to understand the arguments each side can make, you will be in a much better position to make your own wise choices. It will also help you develop empathy and compassion. " ]

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[ "Buying a new car Specifically one - there was someone who never set foot in the dealership until it was time to sign the paperwork. He emailed several dealers and pit them against each other in order to get the best price. Can someone please link this? I searched in and out of LPT but it was only -2-3 months ago and I cant seem to find it \n\nThanks! ", "Buying a new car Specifically one - there was someone who never set foot in the dealership until it was time to sign the paperwork. He emailed several dealers and pit them against each other in order to get the best price. Can someone please link this? I searched in and out of LPT but it was only -2-3 months ago and I cant seem to find it \n\nThanks! ", "Buying a new car Specifically one - there was someone who never set foot in the dealership until it was time to sign the paperwork. He emailed several dealers and pit them against each other in order to get the best price. Can someone please link this? I searched in and out of LPT but it was only -2-3 months ago and I cant seem to find it \n\nThanks! ", "Buying a new car Specifically one - there was someone who never set foot in the dealership until it was time to sign the paperwork. He emailed several dealers and pit them against each other in order to get the best price. Can someone please link this? I searched in and out of LPT but it was only -2-3 months ago and I cant seem to find it \n\nThanks! ", "Buying a new car Specifically one - there was someone who never set foot in the dealership until it was time to sign the paperwork. He emailed several dealers and pit them against each other in order to get the best price. Can someone please link this? I searched in and out of LPT but it was only -2-3 months ago and I cant seem to find it \n\nThanks! ", "Buying a new car Specifically one - there was someone who never set foot in the dealership until it was time to sign the paperwork. He emailed several dealers and pit them against each other in order to get the best price. Can someone please link this? I searched in and out of LPT but it was only -2-3 months ago and I cant seem to find it \n\nThanks! ", "Buying a new car Specifically one - there was someone who never set foot in the dealership until it was time to sign the paperwork. He emailed several dealers and pit them against each other in order to get the best price. Can someone please link this? I searched in and out of LPT but it was only -2-3 months ago and I cant seem to find it \n\nThanks! ", "Buying a new car Specifically one - there was someone who never set foot in the dealership until it was time to sign the paperwork. He emailed several dealers and pit them against each other in order to get the best price. Can someone please link this? I searched in and out of LPT but it was only -2-3 months ago and I cant seem to find it \n\nThanks! ", "Buying a new car Specifically one - there was someone who never set foot in the dealership until it was time to sign the paperwork. He emailed several dealers and pit them against each other in order to get the best price. Can someone please link this? I searched in and out of LPT but it was only -2-3 months ago and I cant seem to find it \n\nThanks! " ]

[ "At the risk of the Mods thinking I'm spamming (I'm not), you can do this yourself via this service: http://www.automall.com/new-cars/\n\nPick the year (2012 or 2013), Make, Model and your zip code and you will be presented with a list of dealerships. You will be able to shop them (i.e., pit them against one another) anonymously.\n\nHope that helps.", "As a car salesman, I can tell you what to do. The biggest thing is have money down if you are financing. This will help with the depreciation. 48% of cost of ownership is depreciation. Look at the previous model year. See what the MSRP was, and compare it to what the value you is now. Shop around. If you completed all of your research, shop at two or three dealerships, of the same manufacturer. Pay attention to not only price, but customer service. If you are treated right, it may be worth the $100 difference. While shopping prices, get the numbers for a cash deal. This way, your cr", "My mom recently did this:\n\nShe researched and found the car she wanted, called a few dealerships and asked how much they would charge for the car, then told them what the other competitors would give her and asked if she could get a better deal at whatever dealership she currently had on the phone, and then went with the lowest price. ", "I think you're specifically referring to this:\nhttp://www.reddit.com/r/MINI/comments/11r1vw/mini_countryman_thoughts/c6ouucr\nAlso, there's a sub for when you can't re-find a post. Try /r/yester", "Unless you absolutely must have a new car (maybe it just came out or something like that) buying one that's a couple years old will save a lot of cash\n\nOf course then you can't lease it which may be an issue", "If you are a member of a Cr", "If it's a used car you're looking to buy this article has some pointers. http://www.cracked.com/blog/6-things-every-sucker-should-know-before-buying-used-car/", "Go to the auto center at your local Wal Mart. They usually have copies of Consumer Report car mag. It lists the worst and best buys in body styles and prices ranges. Edmonds.com also has good information. ", "Ugh... I currently sell cars; there are tons of methods but it all depends on cr" ]

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[ "How to clean concentrated spill? My spouse spilled a jar of really concentrated body wash — think green, toxic sludge. Using water just makes it soapy and impossible to clean, dry wiping is only getting up so much. Any advice?\n\n", "How to clean concentrated spill? My spouse spilled a jar of really concentrated body wash — think green, toxic sludge. Using water just makes it soapy and impossible to clean, dry wiping is only getting up so much. Any advice?\n\n", "How to clean concentrated spill? My spouse spilled a jar of really concentrated body wash — think green, toxic sludge. Using water just makes it soapy and impossible to clean, dry wiping is only getting up so much. Any advice?\n\n" ]

[ "Whatever you do, don't try cleaning it up with bare feet. You'll end up pulling a Marv from Home Alone 2. (Ask me how I know 😑 )\n\nI ended up using a couple of big bath sheets, rinsed them out and then kept going back until it was done, then threw them all in the washing machine. (And I never kept a large spouted laundry detergent on top of the front loading washing machine again...)", "My washer once shook off a giant, half-full tub of detergent onto the concrete basement floor where it busted open. I ripped a couple flaps off an Amazon box and scraped it up. I actually put it back in another container and was able to use most of it. Could maybe use a dustpan, too.", "Extract it out.\n\nIn a pinch if you don't have access to a carpet or upholstry extractor, you can use a shop vac. Get the area nice and wet, vacuum it up, repeat as necessary." ]

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[ "How to stop worn out shoes from squeaking on linoleum floors? I've been searching for an answer to this question but all the answers seem to be for shoes that are brand new. I have some thrift store sneakers that are pretty worn out. The bottom of the shoe is not brand new rubber, yet it still squeaks on linoleum floors. I want to wear these shoes to school but my entire school has linoleum floors. What can I do to fix this problem?", "How to stop worn out shoes from squeaking on linoleum floors? I've been searching for an answer to this question but all the answers seem to be for shoes that are brand new. I have some thrift store sneakers that are pretty worn out. The bottom of the shoe is not brand new rubber, yet it still squeaks on linoleum floors. I want to wear these shoes to school but my entire school has linoleum floors. What can I do to fix this problem?" ]

[ "I recall that when my shoes squeaked, it had some crack or hole in an air pocket in the sole. So the squeak was coming from the rubber in the sole collapsing on itself and rubbing to the cell next to it. \n\nDo you want assistance with a new pair of shoes?", "A lot of times the noise is from inside. Pull the insole out, sprinkle body powder in the shoe and place the insole back in." ]

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[ "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n", "Dealing with the feeling that \"I should have not wasted my youth\" I am 24 years old, and just filled with regret. \n\nI wish I decided to take up sports in my childhood. I wish I studied harder in school and college. I wish I hit the gyms and ate healthy in my life. I wish I worked had harder to maintain the only relationship I ever had in my life; I let down the only girl that said I love you to me. I wish I worked hard to improve my skill set. I wish I wasn't such a dick to my parents. I wish I did not get addicted to porn in my childhood; The things that I have seen would disgust most(Nothing illegal just really weird). \n\nEveryday I try to be better but there is something in me that reminds me of all these things I never did right. I wish I could go back in time and beat my kid self and force him to do the right things in life. \n\n" ]

[ "You keep that attitude and you're gonna be saying \"I wish I didn't waste my entire life\" on your death bead.\n\nSet some goals with actual target dates and dont wait until tomorrow. ", "I wish I was little bit taller, I wish I was a baller,\nI wish I had a girl who looked good I would call her \nI wish I had a rabbit in a hat with a bat and a six four Impala", "Past is the past. Learn from mistakes. You still have some youth left. Gyms are still open, people are still looking for other halves. Only way to cut off your past mistakes is to be the version of yourself not sculpted by them. Organize your life and take control. Make sure not to fall for any trap that is obvious to you now. Remember improvement is not a pivot point. It's continued effort ", "24? still plenty of youth left. Join a city sports team, take single classes from a local college, go to the gym, r/fitness. I am 28 and only started about 2 or 3 years ago realizing there is no reason to stop living because I feel like I missed my chance. Lots of opportunities to keep dong these things as you get older.", "\"You'll keep crashing if you wont take your eyes off the rearview\"\n-a sticky note on my desk \n\nIt's necessary to purge our negative feelings - so keep it up with a friend, family, a therapist, even Reddit. Get out what you need, we all need our worries validated. Keep talking, but keep walking.\n\nThe past does not equal the future. \n", "\"Every day I try to be better...\"\n\nAs long as you keep that attitude, things will be better. Everyone always regrets things in the past, use those regrets as motivation to make your present and future something to be proud of. Then you'll be able to look back and see how far you've come. ", "Shake things up, move somewhere, ask out some random girls, take a class, go on a trip (like a month or more go explore somewhere), go back to school (possibly somewhere new). Everyone has regrets but the past is past, life is short and age doesnt really matter do what ever you want man. BUT DO SOMETHING! Make up a plan and run with it, indecision is a killer. Its worked for me! God Speed!", "Kid, you're only 24. If you're trying to make yourself better, just keep on keeping on. You can eat healthier, exercise, and find another girl to love. You're really still young. Skip the regrets until you turn 50, then still skip them. ", "Hi there, trying to help you out.\n\nYou cannot change negative feelings into positive ones. The only thing what you can do is change your attitude towards them. Accept the negativity. Embrace the fact that your life is shit. Only then, you can change it. \n\nBe happy; that you even realised that this is not the life you wanted, and that you can change everything from the ground up. Some people never realise why they are unhappy. You do. Now go out there, and take your life back into your own hands. :-)\nIf you are smart enough to realise why you are unhappy, I am confident that you can change it.\n\nRex", "Start now. You have a list of things you wish you had done, start them now. You don't have to do them all right now, but start now. Call someone you have lost touch with, go for a walk, get involved. I started fifteen years later than you on these things, all I can say is start now.", "My advice: FFS dude, YOU ARE STILL IN THE MIDDLE OF YOUR YOUTH. It's great that you feel some regret but you have years, DECADES left to do something with your youth. I'm 41 and in the last 5 years I have ran my first marathon, had kids, and learned to play drums. I still get called \"young man\", sometimes by people I'm pretty sure are younger than me. Live and enjoy it, at your own pace!", "Don't let your future self say that about your present self; use the regret you feel now to motivate​ yourself to be better than you were.\n\n\nUnfortunately we can't change the past, but we can use it to shape the future.", "turn it around today. i'm almost 40. SO MANY things i wish i would've done when i was 24. GO DO IT TODAY.\n\nyou will never regret the things you do.\n\nyou will always regret the things you didn't do. that's life.", "Its never to late to do anything. It is good to look back, but don't stay in the past! You will be fine and find something you be proud of. In 5/10 years you look back and think, that was the moment i changed my life !", "I have very similar story to OP, and reading such positive comments here really helps and motivated me. Thankyou Reddit\n\nHope u also got the energy OP. Good Luck", "Forgive yourself for your past. Accept the present. And plan for the future. \n\nAlso, see that you're not alone. So many others have commented on your post because they've felt exactly the same way. Life gets hard, but you're never alone. \n\nFind hope and purpose and use those to motivate youself towards obtainable goals. Personally, I obtain hope through religion, which in result makes religion my life's purpose. When living your life to glorify the creator of the universe, age become very insignificant. ", "Dude, the old adage about \"the first step of getting out of a hole is to stop digging\" is so true. Just literally stop doing the shit you are sick of. We all struggle with it, but force yourself to be different for a week, even in a little way at first, and things will start to fall into place. Fuck grand gestures, they intimidate and fade quickly into memory, just start doing little things a little different.\n\nIf you think you say \"no\" to experiences and new things too often, just say yes next time and follow through. Someone asks you to come to the DMV with them for company, Yes. Your mom wants you to move whatever piece of furniture because dad threw his back out, Yes. You happen upon a flyer for a fucking bowling league, Sure, why not.\n\nI'm literally in the same boat as you, dude. 27, didn't go to college, missed tons of chances with girls, or even just chances to do more social, life-affirming things because I wanted to sit on my ass all day and play guitar or video games or whatever. A lot of people our age are in the same boat. Get a gym membership, a new hobby, and start picking away at it. You'll get it.\n\n", "Dude your 24 you're still in your youth. All those thing you wish you did, start them now. Set reasonable goals with easly identifiable goals to get the ball rolling. Start running 1mi twice a week or cut out the refinded sugar in your diet or find a skill you think is cool and binge watch youtube tutorials. ", "Do it now, no point being stuck in the past if it's not going to help you move forward now.\n\nUnderstand you made those choices for a reason at the time, understand that reason and learn from it and grow.\n\nYou can't change the past but you can change right now and every day after it. If you wish. If your not happy with how things played out, make amends, or make a change to prevent it from repeating. Hold onto it and you'll never be free from it.\n\nCounselling is a much healthier and smarter thing than many realize, I highly recommend looking into it.", "Buckle up buttercup. \nThis is me 6 months prior.\nI'm not sure how much of this will resonate with you but I hope it helps a little. \n\nFor background info I'm 22, recently failed college, wasted essentially 2 out of the last 4 years all on my parents dime. I'm not terribly athletic although I used to be before Highschool. I've moved so much and burned so many friendships that I could call every single person in my contact list and not a single one would come help me. \n\n6 months ago I was on depression medication. Wallowing in my own room for days on end. I loathed social Interaction and anything requiring effort seemed insurmountable.\n\nI felt like a waste.\n\nLooking back, I think I felt wasteful because I was living a lie. The lie was me. \n\nI grew up in a south Baptist home.\nAlways fearing repercussions from my heavily religious parents I got used to being \"good boy Christian me\". \n\nToday I don't believe in god. I talk to my parents much less and I've never been happier. \n\nI moved on out on my own after taking a job I never would have applied for if I didn't take the mentality of \"fuck it, I'm gonna find out who I am.\" \n\nThe first step for me was coming clean. Realizing that I cant please everyone and that's fine. I'll please myself and at the end of the god damn day that's all that matters right now. \n\nYesterday I did 3 push-ups and a couple of sit ups. And you Know what. It felt good. I may or may not do it again today. \n\nI've applied for community college to get an associates. I can afford it on my own. \n\nI guess my point, albeit a bit rambling and incoherent because that's kinda how my life goes, is just be you. But be you for YOU. Improve you for YOU. \n\nLife doesn't owe you shit. \n\nYou don't owe anyone shit. \n\nSo saddle up and ride this long strange road we call existence because in the end none of us asked to be born into our own situations. But I'll be damned if I choose to live unhappily for others. I'd rather be okay with where I'm at and looking to where I want to be not concerning myself with others. \n\nI'll improve formatting when I'm home. \n\nHopes this helps a little. \n\nTL;DR\nLive for life for you. Without a foundation for yourself it's difficult to build stability. \n\n", "you had the power of choice all the time on your way. dont be sorry for yourself everybody literally everyone has this struggle in a modern city. just do it ", "Your only 24 like me and it's not to late to reinvent yourself. That what I did starting 6 months ago. Quit my engineering job, became a yoga instructor,and working on my personal training cert. I regretted so many things about my life. My student Dept, working a job I hated, wasting opportunities. I felt locked into my life, that I was helpless to change it, and that it was too late because I couldn't change the past. In other words, I felt like I missed the boat and I would never get another chance.\n\nOnce I realized that most of my regrets we're based off of what other people said were the right way to live, I grew happier, and I began to realize I was measuring my life using other people's standards. \n\n\" I have a great paying job, a college degree and a decent car... Why am I so fucking unhappy? I realized that all those things had nothing to do with what makes me happy personally and I regretted all the wasted time and money I spent making my parents proud I stead of myself. \n\nIt also helped that I made a friend in college 8 years older than me. He fucked up college the first time around and threw away a full ride. He was 30 years old taking hard engineering courses after not being in School for 9 years versus me who came fresh from school with my classes still fresh in mind. \n\nHe became living inspiration and proof to me that you can always change the tide of your life if you work at it. He went from a 27 year old with a GED to magna cum laude engineering physics degree in 5 years and netted a 80k job before graduation. Not because he had to, but because \n\n\"There's always time to work toward your dream. The only thing there isn't time for is regret. It simply takes over your life and leaves you feeling hollow. You have plenty of time for regret when your dead\" My friend gave me this quote and it helps me. \n\nAlso, to make these changes in your life you need help. Coaches, friends, mentors ect. I recommend going over to the Tim ferriss podcast. Tim is a master at creating your own life on your terms and his podcast host hundreds of professionals in every field there is. There is a lot of great lessons, inspirations, and tools you can start using immediately to steer your life the way you want. Above all, it's a lot of help to learn from these people because they've done exactly what your looking for already and can help you avoid a lot of common mistakes. \n\nYour far from the first person to be in the position your in. Take comfort that there's tons of help and direction to get you moving the right direction and your not alone. And also you have the luxury of time. \n\nAnd if it's any comfort at all, tons, if not most, highly successful people found success later in life. It's a rarity that people find their way at our age, so cut yourself the slack. One of the common traits of successful people is being able to reinvent themselves and go into new territory. \n\nCommit yourself to being a lifelong student, and evolving one day at a time. It's never to late to change. In fact, change is the only constant in life. \n\nGood luck my friend.", "You're only 24. Reinvent yourself. Don't be 35 wanting to beat up the 24 year old you for not making significant changes. \n\nNothing wrong with legal porn, it can be a quick, small mercy in a life that can be a drag. Especially when reinventing yourself.. because during this time you really need you all to yourself.\n\n", "You're 24 dude, congrats! You're still young for about another 16 years and as many more after that if you always have the wonder and love for the earth and all inside it you'll be forever young. I'm 30 yr old schizophrenic who's been through alot of shit and I still act like a lil cheeky shit almost every day. You're past does not exist, you are born again everyday just be wary to exclude unhealthy reminders of things that make you feel shame and not the actual actions, the shame part. With the Internet and all of it's constant reminders one must construct a healthy and quick way to overcome negative things, thoughts, and emotion. Allow yourself to feel the pain (GET FAST FAST FAST, DO IT FAST. INSTANTANEOUSLY FASTLY AWESOME GOODY FAST. DOESN'T MEAN SHIT, UNINPORTANT I GOT BETTER THINGS TO DO AND AM REALISTIC THAT NOT EVERYTHING IS MY RESPONSIBILITY AND WE ALL CLIMB THE MOUNTAIN, WE DONT CARRY IT ON OUR BACKS ITS YOUUU, I FUCKING LOVE THAT GUY, YOU LOVE THAT GUY, YOU KNOW YOU DO NO REASON NOT TO; WERE ALL SINNERS TILL WERE NOT) that you may cast it aside. You are, that is all. Be great even in the little things and make your action benefit yourself as much as benefiting everyone else, because it is wise to like yourself just a little bit more than everyone else but at what point is that percentage healthy? The answer to this is unimportant. You know right and wrong, good and evil; it is ingrained in all of us . It is only through our will and determination that we find suffering and we do sin against ourselves and others. When you simply BE, when you be here now, when you and I deny the fact that there is no greater people than yourself that \"I'm not superior to them, but they are not superior to me\" - Plato, you will find your freedom and with a heart of solid gold (malliable, strong, thick, shiny, pleasant, beautiful, worthy, and bish what make you think you gonna take me for a ride) inB4 someone says gold is heavy u take the good, the beauty and negate and chisle out the bad its a metaphor and this is a path that never ends there you will find yourself. You get up and you do it every day and it get easier, you just have to do it every day DO IT DO IT....DO ITTT! DON'T LET YOUR DREAMS BE DREAMS! The wonder of the world and how you might etch out and compete (it's a rough world, can't get run over until it aint that anymore) and LOVE and LOVE and LOVE and LOVE and remind yourself to LOVE and LOVE, you will simply be. Don't ever be afraid to say your sorry, the hurt will subside when you simply ask for forgiveness, forgive others, Forgive Yourself. I love you <333", "You might want to visit a therapist and just talk through it. A good therapist will help you deal and put it in perspective. You might even be depressed, and a therapist will help you with that too.\n", "You cannot create memories, you can only follow trails and discover moments along the way.\n\nSo decide who you want to be because you are becoming someone else right now by what you do every day and more than likely you wont like that person.", "You can do nothing about the past, but accept it. You can do anything and everything you want with your present, and future. You make the choices. At 24 you can still take up sports, hit the gym, and find a new love. Looking backwards won't do anything but make feel more of what you're feeling. Take this life that has been given to you, and make it everything you want. Look for positive things in your life, and be grateful that you have this time. \n\nThe future is a blank canvas, and you can paint anything you want on it. ", "There's no time like the present. All the things you wish you could have done, are still very doable. You can still get into sports and be healthy. You can still be a better son to your parents. You can still find a good person to be in a beautiful, loving relationship with. You can still learn new things and pick up your life.\n\nDon't feel bad because you feel like you've wasted time, because all that does is waste more time. People's lives can change in a matter of seconds, imagine what you could do with a year.\n\nStart making progress; that's the only way you'll be able to actually get anywhere. You have to start somewhere and you can't start in the past. So begin life now. Make up with your family, apologize for wrongs and try to reestablish yourself in their lives. Get back into dating at your own pace, and watch your expectations so they don't skyrocket. Start hitting the gym and eating healthier; you can make immense gains in just a year. Get into casual sports with some bros and start a local league that will evolve into something cool, like a Dad League.\n\nYour life is a race, and you're the one with the starter pistol.", "Past is the past. Learn from mistakes. You still have some youth left. Gyms are still open, people are still looking for other halves. Only way to cut off your past mistakes is to be the version of yourself not sculpted by them. Organize your life and take control. Make sure not to fall for any trap that is obvious to you now. Remember improvement is not a pivot point. It's continued effort ", "Lol. The future is yours to make it what you want it to be.\n\nSo make it what you want it to be.\n\nAnd get over that stupid woman. Where there is 1 there are many.\n\nQuit crying about your life. Life is easy in a first world country.\n\nAnd always remember: you are probably still the same fuck up now you were then. Get used to it.", "It's easy to look at your past self and say \"I should have done X more/better\". But you're thinking as if your past self had all the knowledge and skills that your current self has, and that's simply not the case. Past you couldn't do any better than past you actually did.\n\nAnother way to look at it: If you could go back in time knowing what you know now, you would do so much better. But if you went back knowing only what you knew then, you'd do things the same.", "I wished these things until I was 36. Went back to school, got my degree, started a new career at 40.\n\nNow, if I were the type to coddle, I would tell you that you are still young. That you've only wasted a few years. That, a decade from now, no one will know the difference - if you start working on your goals today.\n\nBut I think I'll let you beat up on yourself instead. It's so much more productive, don't you think?", "Future you is watching you right now through memories. Don't fuck it up. You know what you did wrong, use it as an advantage.", "Drop the regrets. You got yourself this far, you can take yourself even further. You just hit a wall where you perceive your past as wasted. This is just a psychological mindset that is available to you because you have been born in a time where you perceive more control and options within society. It's all good. \n\nJust keep the best parts of your past and leave the unwanted parts in a reminder bin in your brain box. \n\nWho's in control now ? \n\nA lot of those studies that advocating things are easier to learn when you're younger , stem from psychological theories of states. When you're younger the mind is more malleable and can take on whatever states it wants. What they don't tell you is that you can re-program your mind to mirror those states at almost any age. It's just more difficult to imprint new psych into old psych, because your psych has successfully kept you alive for 24 years, why drastically change that state? \n(Incoming psychology pseudo-science flaming) \n\nBreak the cycle , embrace the change. ", "Ask yourself this: in 2027 do I want to be regretting what I am doing *now*? \n\nThere is nothing you can do about the past. Regret and nostalgia are wasted energy. The only thing you control is the present and how it affects the future.\n\nI am a few years older than you and have had serious back problems that caused chronic nerve pain that has lasted for over 2 years. For months I played the \"woe is me\" game and surrounded myself in pity. \n\nThen I realized that things would never get better unless I *made* them better. I'm now going to the gym 4+ days a week and couldn't be happier.\n\nTLDR: it is up to you to make a better future for yourself. Ask yourself \"will I be proud of my actions 5 years from now?\" ", "As a 24 year old too, believe me I understand, 24 seems very much like the cut-off where you no longer get to have young before your adult. \n\nBut you've still got a lot of time, and opportunity to improve. You can turn everything around.\n\nRight now I feel like there is a lot of things I've missed out on, but the only way to fix that is to do them now. ", "Additionally, how do you older folk deal with your past mistakes? I'm 20 and I still get worked up over remembering things I did when I was 16. I made so many mistakes, hanged out with the wrong people... I just feel like I hate myself and everything I did to become who I am now, so I'm trying to better myself and improve who I will become. So far I haven't had a \"I'm going to regret this\" moment in a couple years, but to be fair I didn't thought about those moments that now make me feel uneasy but didn't back then.\n\nI just get really anxious at things I terribly regret." ]

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[ "How to train my cat to go through a flap? We got one recently, and my mom made the cat scared of the flap by throwing her through it. \n\nHow can we get her to not be scared of it and go through?", "How to train my cat to go through a flap? We got one recently, and my mom made the cat scared of the flap by throwing her through it. \n\nHow can we get her to not be scared of it and go through?", "How to train my cat to go through a flap? We got one recently, and my mom made the cat scared of the flap by throwing her through it. \n\nHow can we get her to not be scared of it and go through?", "How to train my cat to go through a flap? We got one recently, and my mom made the cat scared of the flap by throwing her through it. \n\nHow can we get her to not be scared of it and go through?", "How to train my cat to go through a flap? We got one recently, and my mom made the cat scared of the flap by throwing her through it. \n\nHow can we get her to not be scared of it and go through?", "How to train my cat to go through a flap? We got one recently, and my mom made the cat scared of the flap by throwing her through it. \n\nHow can we get her to not be scared of it and go through?" ]

[ "Look into Positive reinforcement training techniques. \n\nYou basically give her a treat anytime she comes near the flap closer and closer until she actually equates going through the flap with a treat and no longer with being thrown through it. ", "Something I saw on the BBC said that if you have a cat that won't go through it's flap, try putting some foliage around the exit side. The cat will feel hidden as it leaves and that helps provide it with confidence as it leaves.", "Show the cat you empathize with her dear. Randomly grab your mother and toss her through holes. The shower curtain and doorways at first. If that doesn't seem to help your cat, it doubts your sincerity. \n\nGraduate to flinging your mom out of the window of a moving car or train. Now that the threat has been removed & your cat trusts you, it is time to start with the positive tips below.\n\nSeriously though, you may just need to give up on the cat flap idea for a few months. It has been traumatized. If that isn't feasible, get your mom out of the house for a few hours, open the flap and fill the other side with treats.\n\nCatnip, wet food, whatever she wants to play with indoors but isn't allowed to (for my cat it's rolls of Scotch tape). Then just back off and ignore it.", "Put the cat outside and put tuna fish on the other side. She'll learn quickly.\n\nP.S. Only a little bit. Tuna contains lots of mercury and can be dangerous for cats.", "Prop it open for a bit? \n\nTie a dryer sheet to a string. Use it as a lure. Get the cat to chase it. Pull it through the door. ", "I opened the flap up while she was on the other side, held a treat in my hand and she went through it." ]

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[ "What should I do to back up my IDs, health insurance cards, etc. in my wallet in case I'm robbed? I'm always concerned that I'll get my wallet stolen. I'm street smart, but I'm not always around the best areas My life takes me to some sketchy areas. I'm always paranoid I'll get robbed. I'm not dumb, but I realized I'd be piled high and deep if my wallet was stolen. I have a federal ID that I use and I can only replace it once every 5-10 years, for example. How do I make sure my IDs, health insurance cards, and other important info in my wallet is backed up? It's not like muggers are nice enough to just take your cash and leave your IDs.", "What should I do to back up my IDs, health insurance cards, etc. in my wallet in case I'm robbed? I'm always concerned that I'll get my wallet stolen. I'm street smart, but I'm not always around the best areas My life takes me to some sketchy areas. I'm always paranoid I'll get robbed. I'm not dumb, but I realized I'd be piled high and deep if my wallet was stolen. I have a federal ID that I use and I can only replace it once every 5-10 years, for example. How do I make sure my IDs, health insurance cards, and other important info in my wallet is backed up? It's not like muggers are nice enough to just take your cash and leave your IDs.", "What should I do to back up my IDs, health insurance cards, etc. in my wallet in case I'm robbed? I'm always concerned that I'll get my wallet stolen. I'm street smart, but I'm not always around the best areas My life takes me to some sketchy areas. I'm always paranoid I'll get robbed. I'm not dumb, but I realized I'd be piled high and deep if my wallet was stolen. I have a federal ID that I use and I can only replace it once every 5-10 years, for example. How do I make sure my IDs, health insurance cards, and other important info in my wallet is backed up? It's not like muggers are nice enough to just take your cash and leave your IDs.", "What should I do to back up my IDs, health insurance cards, etc. in my wallet in case I'm robbed? I'm always concerned that I'll get my wallet stolen. I'm street smart, but I'm not always around the best areas My life takes me to some sketchy areas. I'm always paranoid I'll get robbed. I'm not dumb, but I realized I'd be piled high and deep if my wallet was stolen. I have a federal ID that I use and I can only replace it once every 5-10 years, for example. How do I make sure my IDs, health insurance cards, and other important info in my wallet is backed up? It's not like muggers are nice enough to just take your cash and leave your IDs.", "What should I do to back up my IDs, health insurance cards, etc. in my wallet in case I'm robbed? I'm always concerned that I'll get my wallet stolen. I'm street smart, but I'm not always around the best areas My life takes me to some sketchy areas. I'm always paranoid I'll get robbed. I'm not dumb, but I realized I'd be piled high and deep if my wallet was stolen. I have a federal ID that I use and I can only replace it once every 5-10 years, for example. How do I make sure my IDs, health insurance cards, and other important info in my wallet is backed up? It's not like muggers are nice enough to just take your cash and leave your IDs.", "What should I do to back up my IDs, health insurance cards, etc. in my wallet in case I'm robbed? I'm always concerned that I'll get my wallet stolen. I'm street smart, but I'm not always around the best areas My life takes me to some sketchy areas. I'm always paranoid I'll get robbed. I'm not dumb, but I realized I'd be piled high and deep if my wallet was stolen. I have a federal ID that I use and I can only replace it once every 5-10 years, for example. How do I make sure my IDs, health insurance cards, and other important info in my wallet is backed up? It's not like muggers are nice enough to just take your cash and leave your IDs.", "What should I do to back up my IDs, health insurance cards, etc. in my wallet in case I'm robbed? I'm always concerned that I'll get my wallet stolen. I'm street smart, but I'm not always around the best areas My life takes me to some sketchy areas. I'm always paranoid I'll get robbed. I'm not dumb, but I realized I'd be piled high and deep if my wallet was stolen. I have a federal ID that I use and I can only replace it once every 5-10 years, for example. How do I make sure my IDs, health insurance cards, and other important info in my wallet is backed up? It's not like muggers are nice enough to just take your cash and leave your IDs.", "What should I do to back up my IDs, health insurance cards, etc. in my wallet in case I'm robbed? I'm always concerned that I'll get my wallet stolen. I'm street smart, but I'm not always around the best areas My life takes me to some sketchy areas. I'm always paranoid I'll get robbed. I'm not dumb, but I realized I'd be piled high and deep if my wallet was stolen. I have a federal ID that I use and I can only replace it once every 5-10 years, for example. How do I make sure my IDs, health insurance cards, and other important info in my wallet is backed up? It's not like muggers are nice enough to just take your cash and leave your IDs.", "What should I do to back up my IDs, health insurance cards, etc. in my wallet in case I'm robbed? I'm always concerned that I'll get my wallet stolen. I'm street smart, but I'm not always around the best areas My life takes me to some sketchy areas. I'm always paranoid I'll get robbed. I'm not dumb, but I realized I'd be piled high and deep if my wallet was stolen. I have a federal ID that I use and I can only replace it once every 5-10 years, for example. How do I make sure my IDs, health insurance cards, and other important info in my wallet is backed up? It's not like muggers are nice enough to just take your cash and leave your IDs.", "What should I do to back up my IDs, health insurance cards, etc. in my wallet in case I'm robbed? I'm always concerned that I'll get my wallet stolen. I'm street smart, but I'm not always around the best areas My life takes me to some sketchy areas. I'm always paranoid I'll get robbed. I'm not dumb, but I realized I'd be piled high and deep if my wallet was stolen. I have a federal ID that I use and I can only replace it once every 5-10 years, for example. How do I make sure my IDs, health insurance cards, and other important info in my wallet is backed up? It's not like muggers are nice enough to just take your cash and leave your IDs.", "What should I do to back up my IDs, health insurance cards, etc. in my wallet in case I'm robbed? I'm always concerned that I'll get my wallet stolen. I'm street smart, but I'm not always around the best areas My life takes me to some sketchy areas. I'm always paranoid I'll get robbed. I'm not dumb, but I realized I'd be piled high and deep if my wallet was stolen. I have a federal ID that I use and I can only replace it once every 5-10 years, for example. How do I make sure my IDs, health insurance cards, and other important info in my wallet is backed up? It's not like muggers are nice enough to just take your cash and leave your IDs." ]

[ "1 only carry ids you’ll anticipate using that day. 2 NEVER, EVER, carry your wallet in a back pocket, or jacket or shirt. Always just front pants. \n\nAlso consider buying a wallet that has a chain you can attach to your belt.", "Carry a second wallet with some old cards and a little cash in it. \n\nIf you get robbed give up the fake one and move on with your life. \n\nThe robbers most likely aren’t going to pat you down or check the wallet.", "Just in case, I always scan driver and other cards so I can request a new one if something happens. Never carry your social security card or anything with the number on it.", "A lot of these things can be easily replaced, and should be because the old documents need to be invalidated/canceled to curtail identity theft.\n\nSome of this might be different depending on your country... I live in the U.S. so that is what I'm familiar with.\n\nRequesting replacement insurance cards, like cr", "Carry photocopies of everything except your driver’s license or state ID. You can also scan these documents and store them on your phone. In fact, you could just carry a copy of your driver’s license because if you get stopped or whatever, as King as you can produce evidence that you had a valid license at the time of the infraction, you’ll be okay.\n\nNever carry your social security card anywhere: you’re not going to suddenly have to apply for benefits or talk to an HR department for the first time.", "Carry a decoy wallet with business cards, a whole bunch of small denomination bills, and fake cards. Carry real wallet in hidden pocket, decoy in back or side pocket.", "You can carry a photocopy and leave everything at home safe. \n\nIf you need to show your driver's license and only have the photocopy you will be given the chance to produce the real document before you get fined. Same with health cards etc. and most places will accept the copy without issue.\n\nBTW, what card can only be replaced every 5-10 years? All federally issued cards that I know of (immigration, federal id, ) can be replaced if lost or stolen.", "Take pictures of your IDs. You can store them at home, on a thumb drive or email them to yourself. You could encrypt them for security.", "Take pictures of all documents using a document scanner for your phone. Save these to Google drive or apple cloud - you can download the app on whatever device you have.\n\nIf youre ID has some sort of holographic aspect then take a video of it too moving the phone camera to capture it. It might not work for things like buying alcohol but if you ever need to prove your identity to the police or something like that it can keep you out of a jam.", "Take photos - upload to cloud in a folder most places don’t need the Acutal card just the information on it", "Maybe try to not use a wallet? If all you really need on you is your id, keep that physically maybe on a lanyard and rely on your phone for the rest. Apple and google pay are accepted most places and you can always keep a little cash on you if need be." ]

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[ "How to tie earbuds without getting them tangled. I saw a series of instructional pictures a couple years ago, but can't find it anywhere online. It was the perfect way to wrap earbuds.", "How to tie earbuds without getting them tangled. I saw a series of instructional pictures a couple years ago, but can't find it anywhere online. It was the perfect way to wrap earbuds.", "How to tie earbuds without getting them tangled. I saw a series of instructional pictures a couple years ago, but can't find it anywhere online. It was the perfect way to wrap earbuds.", "How to tie earbuds without getting them tangled. I saw a series of instructional pictures a couple years ago, but can't find it anywhere online. It was the perfect way to wrap earbuds.", "How to tie earbuds without getting them tangled. I saw a series of instructional pictures a couple years ago, but can't find it anywhere online. It was the perfect way to wrap earbuds.", "How to tie earbuds without getting them tangled. I saw a series of instructional pictures a couple years ago, but can't find it anywhere online. It was the perfect way to wrap earbuds.", "How to tie earbuds without getting them tangled. I saw a series of instructional pictures a couple years ago, but can't find it anywhere online. It was the perfect way to wrap earbuds.", "How to tie earbuds without getting them tangled. I saw a series of instructional pictures a couple years ago, but can't find it anywhere online. It was the perfect way to wrap earbuds.", "How to tie earbuds without getting them tangled. I saw a series of instructional pictures a couple years ago, but can't find it anywhere online. It was the perfect way to wrap earbuds." ]

[ "I think it involves making one of you hands like this \\m/ and then wrapping them between your index and pinkie finger?", "i found that what works for me best is having a box cutter and splitting the wires down the middle to expose the intestines", "i found that what works for me best is having a box cutter and splitting the wires down the middle to expose the intestines", "i found that what works for me best is having a box cutter and splitting the wires down the middle to expose the intestines", "i found that what works for me best is having a box cutter and splitting the wires down the middle to expose the intestines", "i found that what works for me best is having a box cutter and splitting the wires down the middle to expose the intestines", "i found that what works for me best is having a box cutter and splitting the wires down the middle to expose the intestines", "i found that what works for me best is having a box cutter and splitting the wires down the middle to expose the intestines", "I've always wrapped them around a champagne cork like so: http://www.pinterest.com/pin/249386898089827582/" ]

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[ "Quick fix to repair car that got keyed Car got keyed (plus has other minor scratches). What can I use to fix it?", "Quick fix to repair car that got keyed Car got keyed (plus has other minor scratches). What can I use to fix it?", "Quick fix to repair car that got keyed Car got keyed (plus has other minor scratches). What can I use to fix it?", "Quick fix to repair car that got keyed Car got keyed (plus has other minor scratches). What can I use to fix it?" ]

[ "Key the car in the exact same spot on the other side, people will think they're really cool racing stripes.", "Look at the sticker on the inside of your driver door. The code that describes the paint color should be there. Take that code to an auto parts store or dealer. They can sell you a tube or two of touch up paint and primer. Its pretty affordable...I think I paid about 20 bucks for my last touch up\n\nIt's not perfect but better than a huge unsightly line", "I don't think this will work for a deep scratch, but for minor scratches I've used [Mr.Clean magic erasers](http://i.imgur.com/9My1e.jpg) to buff them out. For deep scratches touch up painting is really your only option.", "If you have full coverage... Key the whole car. Tell them it was keyed, and pay a deductible. \"free\" paint job... " ]

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[ "How to talk with professors in office hours and build relationships with them So as a junior in college studying economics, I'm finally taking major-specific electives and would really like to develop some solid relationships with professors in the department. I've been going to office hours every week to ask questions about the readings and get feedback on papers, but it doesn't feel very effective: mostly my profs just answer my questions in 10-15 min and...that's it. I'm kind of bummed because lots of people on reddit seem to have done the same thing in college and gotten to have great conversations with their professors. \n\nReddit, how do you bring up questions/topics during office hours to get to know your profs better? \n\ntl;dr - learned that apparently I'm more awkward than I thought when talking with professors; would appreciate specific advice on what to do/how to improve.", "How to talk with professors in office hours and build relationships with them So as a junior in college studying economics, I'm finally taking major-specific electives and would really like to develop some solid relationships with professors in the department. I've been going to office hours every week to ask questions about the readings and get feedback on papers, but it doesn't feel very effective: mostly my profs just answer my questions in 10-15 min and...that's it. I'm kind of bummed because lots of people on reddit seem to have done the same thing in college and gotten to have great conversations with their professors. \n\nReddit, how do you bring up questions/topics during office hours to get to know your profs better? \n\ntl;dr - learned that apparently I'm more awkward than I thought when talking with professors; would appreciate specific advice on what to do/how to improve.", "How to talk with professors in office hours and build relationships with them So as a junior in college studying economics, I'm finally taking major-specific electives and would really like to develop some solid relationships with professors in the department. I've been going to office hours every week to ask questions about the readings and get feedback on papers, but it doesn't feel very effective: mostly my profs just answer my questions in 10-15 min and...that's it. I'm kind of bummed because lots of people on reddit seem to have done the same thing in college and gotten to have great conversations with their professors. \n\nReddit, how do you bring up questions/topics during office hours to get to know your profs better? \n\ntl;dr - learned that apparently I'm more awkward than I thought when talking with professors; would appreciate specific advice on what to do/how to improve." ]

[ "They're people doing a job. Going in and asking questions is great, as long as you're honestly not understanding the material and trying to figure it out yourself first. If you just go in and ask questions that would be easy to figure out on your own, you'll just annoy them.\n\nOtherwise, like with anyone, be polite, have a good attitude, have a sense of humor, be respectful of their time, and all the other things that make a person likable.", "Music composition graduate here:\n\nWhile I was in school our private lesson professors also took on the role of advisor and mentor, so as a default we always fostered a pretty close relationship with them so I may not be much help.\n\nI would suggest maybe finding out what those specific professors' research interests are and going from there( at my university they are listed on the faculty page). Maybe you share similar interests. Even if you don't just bringing up something that the professor is interested in can open up a flood door of information. For example my composition professor mainly focused in contemporary and new music practice, but once you got to know him he was very interested in baroque and early music performance; two opposite ends of the spectrum. ", "hey, i'm also an economics student who loves talking to professors. \nGet to know their specific field of study an ask questions about it, they'll love it and chances are they'll be very enthusiastic about it. \nAnother thing I do is to bring up current news about economics and politics, to the conversation like \"what do you think about the current GDP groth rate?\"; \"is this policy the most efective in this case?\" things like this will definitely improve the conversation and EASILY make it over 40min (if they have the time)." ]

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room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer.", "College apartment room hacks Moving into a new apartment in a couple months and wondering if you guys had any hacks for your room, whether they're for aesthetic purposes, productivity, or otherwise.\n\nI already plan on building a desk with a white board as the main surface (engineering student, going to save a lot of scratch paper) and installing a light dimmer." ]

[ "I assume you get to pick your own bedroom?\n\nIf so, when choosing, pay attention to the windows.\n\nEast Windows - Morning Sunlight - Good if you have early classes or are a morning person.\n\nSouth Windows - Usually most ideal. Will get winter sunlight all day.\n\nWest Windows - Afternoon/evening sunlight. Bad for tv glare & rooms where everyone hangs out. It will be the hottest room in warmer climates.\n\nNorth Windows - Gets no sun ever. Good for daytime sleepers, tv watchers and people who like it cold.\n\nFlip north & south if you live in the southern hemisphere.\n\nIf you want to take it a step further, find a place east of your school or job. That way you have the sun at your back during both commutes.", "Having a place for everything will make it far easier to keep it clean. Even shelves made of milk crates or cinder blocks can look nice if everything on them is organized. Similarly, even the nicest decor is no help if there's chaos, garbage, and dirty laundry lying everywhere. \n\n\n", "Through my 7 years of engineering, I've learned to not have a desk in my room. It separates work from home, which makes life much more pleasant for me. I also can never say, \"oh ill just go home and finish this assignment.\" which nearly always leads to multiple hours of distractions. This way I have to finish my work at school. Quality of life went up after implementing this.\n\nI think it's important for an engineering student because of the long hours and stress that you're about to go through.", "If you're a dude and are going to have dude room mates there are going to be done interesting smells in there every morning. \n\nTake laundry dryer sheets and put one on the back side of a fan in your room to instantly get your dorm room smelling fresh for the ladies (best of luck, don't get chlamydia).", "A place to record bills/payments. When I was in college, my roommates and I always had a whiteboard with the bill breakdown on the fridge. If you have a lot of people over, put it in the laundry room. It's also helpful to set up a time once a month for you and your roommates to sit down like adults and discuss issues and cleaning responsibilities.\n\nHave a monthly fund for cleaning supplies, if you're in a surplus after a few months, go buy a few cases of beer or have a big barbecue. \n\nMinimize the amount of cookware you have. Having 15 glasses for three people is just asking for them to be left around the house more often. \n\nBuild a frame for your bed. Just enough for milk crates to slid under. No need for much higher than that. \n\nIf you move in when a ton of people are leaving campus, furniture will be plentiful. Always have a buddy with a truck, but be sure to reward his services with beer and a few bucks for gas. ", "I don't know if a whiteboard desk is necessarily the most convenient thing. Unless it's really high quality they stain over time (our library had them and they turned to shit fast) and the dust gets everywhere. And usually markers are too broad to be able to fit too much content into a reasonable area around other things. Maybe put it on the wall instead? Unless you're thinking of a draft table that isn't your primary desk? ", "Productivity really doesn't happen in an apartment. Get a pair of earphones and go on-campus. Not the library, but a student lounge for one of your engineering societies. Make it a place where you work and do nothing else besides work -- they usually have computers, tables, and desks provided. You will condition yourself to be productive there and have access to other students in your major. Often, the older students who hang out in lounges are the TAs or tutors for the classes you will take. Become friends with those people (and your own classmates). That leads to being friends with your professor. Invest yourself in liking the *engineers*, because the *engineering* sure won't be likable.\n\nThat's my attitude so my own room is very sparse since I don't use it for much else besides sleeping and/or reddit. \n\nOh, try not to skimp on scratch paper. Having something physical to read from and write to is so much better than working off of a limited white board, especially for dry engineering topics. Or worse, reading notes from a screen!!! For all the aesthetics/furniture/et cetera the other comments have that sufficiently covered.\n", "Careful of the whitebaord desk. While you think you might save money on paper, I bet you'll spend more on the markers. Also, you're engineering problems will be too long to solve on a whiteboard, stick with pen(cil) and paper!!!\n\nLot's of great desk ideas on [/r/diy](http://www.reddit.com/r/diy) if you want to check it out.\n\nOther tips:\n\n* Buy stuff WAY before you need it, particularly trash bags. Once you've opened up a new box, add it to your list to get another, so you always have a full spare box.\n* Buy a good dust buster, it makes it easier/faster to clean up small messes.\n* Depending on your personality, have a space or surface in your room designated to just throw stuff (backpack, jacket, etc.) that isn't the bed. Otherwise you just drop stuff on your bed, or in the middle of the floor and it gets in the way.\n\nSource: Mechanical Engineer - Graduated Spring 2013", "Rice cooker with a steamer tray. On the top put some sausages and veggies. On the bottom put rice and water. Turn on the rice cooker, come back in 30 minutes and you have a meal.", "If you're planning on hanging posters go to a craft store and buy some cheap frames. Makes them look 1000 times nicer.\n\nThe best thing I've found for hanging things on walls is the adhesive 3M velcro strips. They don't leave any marks when you remove them and the velcro let's you reposition what you're hanging very easily.", "2 suggestions: \n\n\n-Get a magic bullet. You can beat eggs, make smoothies, make guacamole and everything the infomercials show, but you can also make daiquiris, margaritas, piña coladas, frozen vodka lemonade, mudslides... just throw ice, juice and alcohol in there. Bam, you're the most popular kid on the planet. \n\n\n-PLACE YOUR FURNITURE WHERE THE OUTLETS ARE. We set up our room super cool this year, only to realize that I had no outlet near my desk and my roomie had no outlet near her bed. We switched the desk and bought some extension cords, but it's good to think about that before. 3-foot extension cords are your best friend. \n\n\nOne more tip: there is no such thing as too much febreeze. Make sure to open the door & windows every day if you can to get fresh air in, and spray it all up. \n", "I found putting hooks that hung over the back of my door hugely handy, as it gave me somewhere to hang coats and stuff that were bulky so they wouldn't take up room in the wardrobe. Also handy for hanging your laundry bag on or stuff you need to remember next time you leave the room. ", "[Wire Cubes](http://www.walmart.com/ip/Safco-Products-Wire-Cube-Shelving-System-15w-x-15d-x-15h-Black/14626491) Are your absolute best friends. You can do so much with them, and they can be strengthened with zipties or hose clamps to make shelves stronger then any wooden bookshelf. They can also be hung from the ceiling/wall with J-hooks, or strapped to things for segmentation.\n\nI invested about $150 into these a few years back, and have never been happier in a furniture purchase.", "If you're allowed microwaves: http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/man-a-can-a-microwave-david-joachim/1006195731?ean=9781579548926\n\nWork out a code with your roommate for private time. Not just sex, but alone time, too.\n\nThe real hack to college apartment living is to get out of your room as much as possible! Do not study in your room. Hang out at the gym, the library, and the student life center.\n\nBuy higher quality items for things you'll use regularly, and buy two sets of almost everything (sheets, towels, dishes). This way you can use one while you wash the other, and you'll have items for guests. Plus, significant others like high quality items. No one wants to sleep on scratchy sheets, or use a stinky towel.\n\nGet a small set of tools. It makes a world of difference.\n\nI don't think you'll like the whiteboard desk. No one I know liked theirs. Most teachers require you to turn in your work, and you'll want to look at how you solved the problems when you are studying.\n\nHIRE A MAID. Look, you're busy, you're changing your routine, but this doesn't mean you need to be a slob. You can typically hire a maid for around $40/month. Either hire a maid or actually do your chores.", "I lived in a closet in college. Literally. And not a big one either. But the rent was cheap. The key was having a shelf up high for everything and owning almost nothing, sleeping in the floor. I kinda miss it now. Big houses intimidate me.", "Pick up some light blocking thermal curtains, they make all the difference in the world.\n\nA heated mattress pad is a good investment, especially if you don't have heat in your bedroom. \n\nBUY A PLUGER BEFORE YOU NEED ONE!", "Got a big test tomorrow but everyone and their grandmother is partying? Invest in a box fan, the more powerful the better. It is impossible to hear ANYTHING outside the room through its white noise.", "A cool decoration me and my friends did was to refill our old bottles with water and drop a highlighter in them. Put a blacklight next to them and they actually illuminate the room", "Ignore this. Thought you lived in the dorms. \n\nGo to the dining hall? Take peanut butter jelly, a loaf of bread, and milk and sell it at midnight outside your door to the drunk kids for a dollar. Free money. If you have a George Forman and a fridge you can do grill cheeses too. \n\nTupper ware is a great way to take an extra meal to go so you don't order pizza at 1 am. Or if you will be stuck in the lab all night. Thermos is good too. If you do this, you must also have dish washing soap and a scrub brushes because you will be washing it by hand. \n\n", "white board markers are probably more expensive than a ream of paper and pencil. fine tip dry erase are probably more expensive.\n\ncollege room hacks... wait till about 5 days after the first of the month, or when ever you apartment evicts people. Then keep a good eye on the dumpster. Then woot, free furniture, and possibly notebooks for classes you may take, an other useful items.", "Right, I'm about to move out of my university accommodation and need a way to get rid of blu-tac marks off the walls from posters, anyone got any ideas?", "If you can't drill or hammer into the walls, get a two by four cut to the height of your room. Wedge it in there and drill/screw/pound away. A roommate of mine in undergrad mounted his bike above his desk this way. It looked pretty boss and made up for otherwise empty walls.", "At the beginning of the year in your dorm, call the isp for you dorm and tell them you use applications on your computer for school that require you to be on a public ip. They usually have a small pool of addresses available that completely bypass all the isp bullshit. No traffic monitoring, no ports blocked, and no throttling. Yes, you can torrent on this. The pool is small, so it often fills quick, that's why you need to ask at the beginning of the year. I had road runner two years back (live at home now), and I emailed them about opening all the ports at once. This guy that I was emailing was super chill and openly admitted all of this info to me. I wish I could've bought him a cigar or something. I put a router on it and it made my dorm the most hopping place around. Everyone wanted safe torrents. Definitely the best part of a dorm. I seriously boosted my ratio like crazy back then. Unfortunately, Demonoid went down so it was all in vain... But still, great fun.", "Buy earplugs. Use earplugs. Sleep in earplugs. You can buy like 60 earplugs for 10 bucks or so and you can reuse them for about a week a pair. You will thank me.", "hey thought i'd log in to give my opinion on a couple things. i was a chem major, so if you're like me your desk/computer work area is basically going to be your sanctuary whenever you're not at school. because of this, keep it well lit and clean. the white board material sounds like a fun plan but i think in reality you won't like the surface of your desk being so slick, and you won't be able to use it as a whiteboard because you'll need to put stuff on it. also whenever you did try to use it as a whiteboard, that dry erase stuff is going to get on all your papers and everything. don't get me wrong- white boards are key, especially when studying with groups, i just don't think you'll like having it as the material for your desk.", "As other people have said whiteboard desk probably not the best way to go. Engineering student here too I've been looking into whiteboard paint that they sell (both it white or clear to put over colored paint) it's a tad expensive but no more so than a regular whiteboard. I can't provide the link right now but a quick google search and you'll find it", "Buy 3-4 extension cords and phone chargers, and keep one in each room (don't pay more than $5-10 for each item). They're the most convenient thing in the world, and everyone will use them.\n\nAlso, if you have a basket or bucket or bowl or whatever near the door for your keys and wallet you won't have to waste time looking for them. \n\nYou need a full length mirror. If you put it in the living room it'll make the place seem bigger, and if you have a strategic enough place for it you could potentially see everything in the room from a certain seat. I had one that gave me a nice view of whatever tits were sitting in the chair next to the couch lol.\n\nDon't put up posters or liquor bottles, they're really not cool to anyone. I promise. Also try to avoid any mass produced art, it's just trashy really. If you want to put up art then put up actual art lol. Flags are the best though: easy to handle, unthreatening, cover lots of the wall, durable, and look awesome to everyone that visits. \n\n", "- If you can loft your bed to a bunk, do so and then put a sofa under it and have a little sitting area, then if you have guests over they don't have to touch your roommates bed.\n\n- Use command hooks for hanging up light folding chairs on the wall so they don't take up space. \n\n- MiniFridges are LIFE. If your roommate sucks, put a lock on it.\n\n- A drop bar for your closet and a shoe rack- SO MUCH EXTRA SPACE! \n\n- Ikea makes great laundry bag/bins, mine's made of something crazy durable, it's been the only one that's really held up and I've tried pretty much everything. \n\n- Don't be an asshole and use a microwave in your room. That's not cool. Your room will smell like burnt microwave popcorn for weeks. \n\n- Duct tape is your friend. \n\n- Rugs are great. \n\n- Put up some posters, doesn't matter of what or from where, but decorate with at least a little something. \n\n- Get something green growing in there. Cactus even. Doesn't matter. Get a small plant and grow it. The life in there will help your spirits, and there's times when college is depressing. \n\n- A small file box to sort your papers. \n\n- Ikea. \n\n- ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT EVERYTHING YOU TAKE YOU HAVE TO MOVE SO IT NEEDS TO BE PORTABLE, NON DAMAGING TO THE INTERIOR, LIGHTWEIGHT, AND CHEAP BECAUSE DRUNK COLLEGE KIDS HAPPEN. \n", "dont be cheap buying the office chair, those suckers can feel good in the store but in 10 minutes you will be sore, oh what a chore, you stay wondering if you should have spent more", "No one thinks about moving out when they move in, but that's when it should begin. \n\nYou need to research your state, city and whatever's rules and laws to protect renters from evil apartments. You need to research the apartments and see what their rules are. Also, get renter's insurance if you have anything that you can't stand to lose. If your apartments have guest parking or guest passes, have that planned out in advance so your guests don't get towed. If you have pets, be extremely cautious about letting them roam free and the damage they can do in a relatively short amount of time. And don't spend too much on furniture; you're in a college town, there's free and cheap stuff everywhere. ", "Keep your areas separated so you do not subconsciously associate things in a nonproductive manner. For example, only do work at a desk rather than in your bed. You will sleep better. I also had a 'work' chair and a 'relaxing' chair. My brain, and yours will too, subconsciously associate with the items in your room for their specific purpose. That way, when you sit in your work chair, your brain knows its time for work. When you sit in a 'relaxing' chair, you will actually feel more relaxed. And when you lay in bed, you will fall asleep faster. (I hope this makes sense. Sorry. )", "If you need things to hang on your walls try taking shirts that don't fit, putting a piece of cardboard inside, and wrapping the sleeves and bottom around. They can be secured to the back with regular staples or paper clips. These will also help damped then sound of the room if you care about that at all. ", "I don't know if this is you, but I use my smart phone and tablet for all kinds of things... Alarm clock, watching movies when I'm washing dishes, looking at recipes when I'm cooking, listening to music when I'm getting ready in the morning. Official mounting hardware for these devices is very expensive and you have to buy it for each location that you want to hang it from. **Use Velcro.** You can get about 16 feet of velcro tape in Walmart for $3.69 and if applied properly, the industrial velcro will hold up to 20 lbs. Put velcro on one side of your device and then everywhere else in your living space where you would want to hang the device. Simples!", "Have two hampers for dirty clothes: one for whites, one for coloureds. Saves effort on sorting for washing.", "Hang up stuff on your walls! When you're first moving in, it makes things a lot more like home if you throw up some posters or art that help to make the room your own.", "you're going to lean on your desk and erase an entire nights worth of work..\n\n\njust sayin' watch out.", "Wallpaper the walls with white butcher block paper and when you have guests/parties pass out crayons = Free art. Plus when you move, you rip the paper off and get all your deposit back.", "Tortillas are great! I would buy a half loaf of bread, but even then it would mold before I could use it all. Tortillas were cheaper where I am from and they were a great substitute (for me anyway.)", "Take the internet wire in the room and buy yourself a WiFi router. You'll have damn good signal all the time and you should put a password on it so other people can't use it. You can look into VPNs if you want to protect yourself from the overwatching internet securities that lots of colleges have. ", "Take a plastic bag and put it over your fire alarm, then take a plastic coat hanger and stretch the opening over the fire alarm to hold the bag in place. Toke up. ", "If your desk will be in your bedroom:\n\n* As tempting as it sounds, a desk placed near the window is a call for distraction. If you welcome distractions and procrastination while you work, have at it. If you really want to get shit done, place it against a wall. Similarly, if possible, make sure the door isn't visible while you are sitting because people walking by will also distract you. \n\n* Someone mentioned it already, but put the desk near the outlets! Stringing wires all across the room can work, but it's also a pain. \n\nOther tips: \n\nOver the door shoe racks on your closet and room door are your best friend. They hold wayyyy more than shoes. Tape, tools, hats, shoes, gloves, etc. It's much easier to find things here than in drawers, especially if you get the clear plastic kind. \n", "If you're talking about an actual apartment and not a dorm room then I would suggest not getting a cable connection. You can livestream most things, and if you can't then you can usually find a friend or who has cable to watch with. Most things you can watch online for free and then you save some money. \n\nThen it's a good idea to go driving around the area when people are moving out of their apartments this summer when leases end so that you can grab some free furniture, or go to a thrift shop for some. \n\nAlso I'd recommend buying some mason jars. They're cheap, and they can be used for drinking or carrying food around, you can also grab food from the dining commons on campus for home and carry them in the jars. ", "If you are living on-campus this isn't a big deal but if you are finding a place on your own, with roommates, keep documentation of what you pay. This means rent, electric, water/heating, garbage, internet, or just the rent if all that is included. On top of that, anything YOU buy (Maybe you spring for a TV, or a set of speakers, or an extra controller for the ps4) needs to have a receipt saved and filed away. \n\nSadly, I've had a handful of experiences where my roommates have been very irresponsible with their money, and that has burned me in the long-run. Hopefully you never have to deal with it!", "I had my bed on risers so I could store things in tupperware containers. It was great cause my dorm room had VERY limited storage and I used it as my non refrigerated snacks and my linen closet. I also got a nice over the bed storage shelf/headboard thing. Extra shelves and if you are like me and will just turn off an alarm if you can reach it, you can put it on the top shelf making you get up to reach it.", "Get high-quality coat hangers.\n\nA couple of those tape-based hooks work really nicely. The 3M Command Strips ones are real strong but are expensive. I've a couple from a random store that holds a coat pretty well. Try and see, and fall back to the 3M Command strips if you need to. Doesn't leave a mark when you take it off, either. \n\nA extender pole thingy to hang between the door frame. I usually hang my towels here to dry after washing and they serve as a nice rack to hang the towels from (I've a shower in my room). In the hallway area where your door is, you can easily build something sturdy that fits between two walls that should allow you to hang a couple favourite jackets. I use it all the time and since I only have one roommate, we store 3 articles of clothing each (max) and lay out our pants, shirt, and jacket for the next day. Keeps us organized and things off the bed.", "Check out thrift stores and Consignment shops for art. Do this instead of buying posters. It's so puerile to stick posters on your wall. You can buy better looking art in a frame from a second hand shop for the same price or maybe a trivial few dollars more. \n\nAlong the same lines, try and match motifs when decorating. Make sure that every piece you have works with other pieces in the room. Match colors, size, and geometry. ", "Bedframes are strong. If you have a tall one - mine was a lofted one last year - mattress on the floor and storage on the frame. Looks better overall cause it clears a lot of crap off the floor.", "whiteboard as a main surface is the most genius shit in the world. \n\ni think your set for life man.\njust start a whiteboard desk company. RICH. \n\non the real though. these arent lifehacks, but just simple stuff you forget.\ndont forget your toiletpaper, a plunger, general medicine for common illnesses and ailments. pans/cooking eating utensils, nail clippers and other personal hygiene products including soap and such. dishwashing soap is a big one. usually the stuff you dont remember about until you need it. just go about your day making notes of the stuff you use on a daily basis.\nonce your ready to move out, compile your notes and see the stuff youll need. this will help out tons. \n\nbut for real for real, id buy a whiteboard desk. ", "sorry i got too lazy to scroll down, so it might be covered already. get something close to the dining halls. it will cut your commute time significantly. ", "You will most likely feel you have more stuff than you have room for. Take a top from big cities with little land space and build up. If you can get book shelves, shelves on the walls, stacking bins, a dresser that's tall instead of wide, and a loft bed with a desk slid underneath it, you'll greatly enhance both your account of storage space and the open area of square footage in your room.", "White boards or dry erase paint is expensive. Save yourself the money and go to Home Depot and pick up a piece of sheet steel for ~$1.60/sq ft. (They have a 3x2 sheet in the hvac dept. for $10 or a 3x4 sheet in the building materials dept for $20. Then buy a roll of decorative duct tape and use that to cover the edge. This creates a nice decorative border and protects you from any potentially sharp edges. Plus, you'll be the only one with a super cool silver dry erase board.", "Use coasters !!! Or use a glass top for your desk. That way you don't need to use coasters and you could write on the top.", "Use an Ethernet cable to connect to the internet if there is an outlet in the wall. This is something my roommate didn't understand and he ended up complaining about the shoddy Wi-Fi the whole semester.", "My best advice is find ways to doe stuff vertically. My nightstand with my alarm clock, phone charger, etc, was also the stand for my air conditioner. That same nightstand had storage.", "Milk crate bookshelf/storage with a plywood top. They stack easy, can be rearranged, and when you move at the end of every year they break apart and are able to be thrown into the car to go to the next place without any formal packing. ", "Maximize floor space, and keep the desk clear of anything but a keyboard and monitor. This has a dramatic effect on the quality of living in a small room. I suspended as many things as possible from the ceiling or walls, including my stereo speakers, a roll of toilet paper, and a plant. Also, find a nice lamp or two and do not use the overhead light; this is the easiest way to dramatically improve any room. Also, if possible, use a bed that's off the floor so you can put stuff under it. ", "Make arrangements for common household items like toilet paper early on. Each time you're out of TP it's the next person's turn to by a two-four of the white stuff.", "Loft your bed. It's amazing how much room that gives you back, in a small space. Could put the desk under there, for instance. Also, idk if you're sharing with a roommate, but you can hang curtains from the underside (or the ceiling) which is nice for canceling out distractions or just when you need a little time not being social.", "Light dimmers don't always work out well with fluorescents that typically light dorm rooms. Opt instead for lamps with dimmer control. Huge improvement from fluorescent lighting!", "Invest in a sleeping mask. Trust me it'll be worth it. Your roommate may stay up later than usual and keep the light on. Also, you can nap during the day without turning off the lights/closing the blinds. ", "Ikea has hanging glass to be used with with dry erase markers. I used these on my work surface instead of mounting them on a wall. They're light and easy to move and don't stank like dry erase boards. ", "If you're talking about using whiteboards, I'd recommend grabbing a couple of these, They are 4x8 ft for under $15 a piece. I put them up against my walls and they were amazing to keep notes on. They might be a little more convenient that the desk. [Home Depot Link: Panel Board](http://www.homedepot.com/p/Unbranded-Thrifty-White-32-sq-ft-Hardboard-Panel-Board-709106/202090193)\n\nAlso, pick up some [Changing light strips](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00APD571O/ref=oh_details_o09_s00_i00?ie=UTF8&psc=1) for parties / having people over, I've received tons of complements on these. \n\nBring lighting, and lots of it. College apartments are notorious for being poorly lit, I had 2 desk lamps and a standing lamp in my room.\n\nFind a seat cushion or comfortable chair, you're not going to be provided anything comfortable. \n\nGet a mini-fridge, it's a good way to separate any food you're not willing to have stolen from roommates.\n\n", "If you want to have a desk in your bedroom, get a nice L shape but don't put it in the corner; have one edge against the wall and the other coming out into the room beside your bed. It doubles as a great night stand.", "If you want any hope of getting your security deposit back at the end of your lease, when you first move in, before you move any boxes in, take pictures of every single room. Make sure all defects/stains/whatever are documented. \n\nYou still probably won't get it back, but it raises the chances. ", "If you have a bunk bed and you sleep on the top bunk, don't put your desk directly next to your bed. \n\nSource: Cracked a rib in my junior year. :(", "If you are in an area with a first rate art store - you might be able to find huge pieces of foam core 6-7 feet tall.\n\nIF its big enough it will stand up on its own, and you can use push pins to attach all sorts of crap (including notes for a homework project) to it, Its much easier to attach things to then the average wall and won't mess it up. you could always pick it up and turn it around to look 'nicer' if people come over or you just get sick of looking at it (of course you might end up attaching stuff to the other side too ;)", "I'm a huge fan of my Roomba. Make picking shit up off the floor much easier knowing a robot will do the vacuuming for me. ", "I'd suggest checking out a [Loft Bed, Desk, Dresser Combo] (http://www.bunkloft.com/loft%20beds%2041%20-%20fr%20full%20loft%20desk%20dresser%20shelves.JPG) or a [Loft Bed, Desk, Couch, Trundle Combo](http://media-cache-ec0.pinimg.com/736x/b2/82/13/b28213c422f1ecc803193def88b4ea83.jpg).", "I put a stand i got at walmart for like 10 bucks on top of my mini fridge and it is perfect for my gaming system and tv and saves a lot of room. Also for a desk they have those 4 foot party type tables that are perfect for a desk and are totally empty underneath so you can put drawers wherever (the support bars are kind of annoying though, Just a suggestion!) ", "I lived somewhere cold and having a heated mattress pad was amazing. I also had to buy a [closet at my first place for about $40 off amazon](http://www.amazon.com/Whitmor-6822-167-B-60-Inch-Polypro-Clothes/dp/B002TRK2DW/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1401037548&sr=8-3&keywords=closet), which was a good decision. Learning ideas for big meals to make over the weekend and eat during the week was great, along with lots of little to no-cook meals such as nachos, eggs, hummus, salsa, sandwiches, salads etc.", "I know you mentioned building a desk with a white board, but shower paneling works amazing for massive cheap white boards.", "I had friends that travelled super far from home and didn't want the hassle of owning and moving their own bed frame and mattress. They ended up buying a high quality air mattress and put a memory foam mattress cover on top. Not believing them when they said it was comfortable, i tried it myself and was blown away. Less than $450 and it lasted 2 semesters. ", "I had a pretty small room with a really narrow bed. Built my desk to cover one wall, with an alcove so I could push the head of my bed under the desk overhang in one corner of the room. I then bought/reclaimed some large tube cushions and sofa back cushions, and voila my partially hidden bed became a sofa for the room.\n\nAn office chair (reclaimed) and an inflatable chair finished the room off and allowed me to make it into a sitting room by day, and bedroom by night in about 30 seconds.\n\nAlthough the inflatable chair leaked after a while.", "Here's a simple idea: dry erase works best on glass! If you're not allowed to mount things to your wall, a smaller glass square will work great. Also your desk could be a simpler $89 desk from amazon. \n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00166HC9E/ref=mp_s_a_1_2?qid=1401032787&sr=8-2\n\nI can vouch for that one. It's awesome. \n\nBUT as an engineering student you need more room than a table to work stuff out. Paper and pencil are best. Math stuff man. Paper and pencil are cheaper. \n\nCan afford paper for some reason? You get a printing allowance at the library. Print some blank pages. ", "Get yourself a plate, a bowl, a set of silverware, a pot and a pan. Keep them in a box in your room. Wash after each use.\n\nReason: In college, people are disgusting and it is more than likely if you have communal wares, they will all be dirty in the sink all the time. ", "Christmas lights along the ceiling add a mellow, full room lighting. Great for late nights gaming, and it produces less heat than traditional light bulbs", "Bed orientation, most rooms will come with the bed and desk and everything else already lay out, before you move all your shit in, try moving things around to see which layout you like best", "Another tip that my sister gave me: Buy art from grad students. It looks good and (if you diversify your artist selection) will be a great long term investment.", "Always have some sort of doormat. It suggests to your guests to wipe their feet on it before entering, allowing you to keep your floors and carpets cleaner.", "A shoe rack on the back of a door/closet doors can hold more than just shoes. I have a folding rack that I cut in half like ([this](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0019FOUQ0/)) and it holds shoes, and i have belts and scarves hanging from it. My closet also has a set of squares with folded clothes or cloth baskets in them, to save space from having a set of drawers.", "If there isn't a ceiling fan in the room and you would like one you can get a cheap one from Lowes or Walmart and a swag kit. Should run around $40 or so", "When you move out, Colgate makes a good emergency Spackle, filling nail / tack holes from posters, etc. \n\nAssuming you have white walls" ]

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[ "Is there a way to help dry ointment faster? Disclaimer, I am trying to word this so I don't violate the no hygiene rule.\n\nI have ointment I need to use on my leg that needs to dry to be useful and it takes about 3-5 hours to dry (because of the high water content I think), however due to my life requiring me to be active this is kind of a big problem. I have tried using a fan on the ointment but that just makes the edge dry weirdly and makes me cold. I also can't expose it to sunlight or it won't work. The only things I haven't tried at this point are a hair dryer from a fair distance so it just gets heated up.\n\nDoes anyone have any experience with similar stuff and how to get ointment to dry quicker so I'm NOT doing shit for nearly half a day?", "Is there a way to help dry ointment faster? Disclaimer, I am trying to word this so I don't violate the no hygiene rule.\n\nI have ointment I need to use on my leg that needs to dry to be useful and it takes about 3-5 hours to dry (because of the high water content I think), however due to my life requiring me to be active this is kind of a big problem. I have tried using a fan on the ointment but that just makes the edge dry weirdly and makes me cold. I also can't expose it to sunlight or it won't work. The only things I haven't tried at this point are a hair dryer from a fair distance so it just gets heated up.\n\nDoes anyone have any experience with similar stuff and how to get ointment to dry quicker so I'm NOT doing shit for nearly half a day?" ]

[ "Pharmacist here—I would not advise you to mess with the ointment. Ointments are generally made to be oily, occlude the skin surface and slowly absorb. If you start trying to make it “dry faster,” you’re altering the rate at which the medication absorbs into your skin which could lead to reduced efficacy or side effects depending on whether you end up with more or less absorbed. \n\nYou’d be better off talking to your pharmacist or doctor about what you are trying to achieve. If adequate, they could look at changing your medication to a cream, lotion, or gel if it is also available in those forms. \n\nGels usually absorb the quickest, followed by lotions, then creams, and ointments last.", "Have you tried just constantly rubbing it in? I have an ointment I hace to use for eczema and it takes awhile to dry (15 to 20 minutes) and this helps it dry faster." ]

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[ "How to become better at articulating my thoughts? I think in visuals so a lot of the time I have trouble translating that into speaking what's on my mind and usually stumble over my words and look a bit inarticulate/stupid. I get a lot of confused looks when I try to explain things.\n\nWhat's a good way to help this?", "How to become better at articulating my thoughts? I think in visuals so a lot of the time I have trouble translating that into speaking what's on my mind and usually stumble over my words and look a bit inarticulate/stupid. I get a lot of confused looks when I try to explain things.\n\nWhat's a good way to help this?", "How to become better at articulating my thoughts? I think in visuals so a lot of the time I have trouble translating that into speaking what's on my mind and usually stumble over my words and look a bit inarticulate/stupid. I get a lot of confused looks when I try to explain things.\n\nWhat's a good way to help this?", "How to become better at articulating my thoughts? I think in visuals so a lot of the time I have trouble translating that into speaking what's on my mind and usually stumble over my words and look a bit inarticulate/stupid. I get a lot of confused looks when I try to explain things.\n\nWhat's a good way to help this?", "How to become better at articulating my thoughts? I think in visuals so a lot of the time I have trouble translating that into speaking what's on my mind and usually stumble over my words and look a bit inarticulate/stupid. I get a lot of confused looks when I try to explain things.\n\nWhat's a good way to help this?", "How to become better at articulating my thoughts? I think in visuals so a lot of the time I have trouble translating that into speaking what's on my mind and usually stumble over my words and look a bit inarticulate/stupid. I get a lot of confused looks when I try to explain things.\n\nWhat's a good way to help this?", "How to become better at articulating my thoughts? I think in visuals so a lot of the time I have trouble translating that into speaking what's on my mind and usually stumble over my words and look a bit inarticulate/stupid. I get a lot of confused looks when I try to explain things.\n\nWhat's a good way to help this?", "How to become better at articulating my thoughts? I think in visuals so a lot of the time I have trouble translating that into speaking what's on my mind and usually stumble over my words and look a bit inarticulate/stupid. I get a lot of confused looks when I try to explain things.\n\nWhat's a good way to help this?", "How to become better at articulating my thoughts? I think in visuals so a lot of the time I have trouble translating that into speaking what's on my mind and usually stumble over my words and look a bit inarticulate/stupid. I get a lot of confused looks when I try to explain things.\n\nWhat's a good way to help this?", "How to become better at articulating my thoughts? I think in visuals so a lot of the time I have trouble translating that into speaking what's on my mind and usually stumble over my words and look a bit inarticulate/stupid. I get a lot of confused looks when I try to explain things.\n\nWhat's a good way to help this?" ]

[ "Write them down and then speak them. The translation process will be more deliberate amd the end product will benefit from multiple drafts.", "There are some strategies to make yourself sound great even when you're stumbling.\n\nYou can use less \"um\" and \"uh...\", choosing pauses instead or extending words. For example, instead of \"The, uh... conundrum here is... uh, the reorganization.\" You would say, \"Theee... conundrum here is ... the reorganization.\" You'll want to try to pause on words that let you change the sentence if needed. \n\nThere is also the 'spartan approach' (my name for it) where you aim for the best signal to noise ratio possible. \"We need to reorganize.\" This one works because people who know what you're getting at will fill in the blanks for you and understand your reasoning.\n\nExtending your vocabulary is also a great way to make your pauses more impressive, but a large vocabulary can actually make transmitting your thoughts more difficult because you now have more options to choose from.\n\nGenerally the best way to articulate your thoughts is to 'think as if you were talking' to yourself before you speak; a test run in your head. This is especially useful if you know you have a *moment* to prepare. You don't have to speak within 0.5 seconds when the attention of the room is directed towards you. You're also able to buy some time with an intro statement. \"There are a few things I want to mention...\" \n\nYou can try to frame your thoughts into the shape of a bullet point list using \"key concepts\" instead of proto-sentences. You'll know you want to cover X, Y, Z. This helps many people because they're not holding themselves to a script. It lets them speak more naturally and ensure they don't miss the key of what they're trying to communicate. Instead of one sentence of, \"The problems we face are... reorganization strategies due to the sensitivity of the situation caused by high-level events in accounting.\" You might say, \"We have a few problems. It's a sensitive situation... High-level events in accounting. Reorganization strategies.\"\n\n", "With everything you suck at, to succeed you must practice. Try telling it to your dog first ... or some inanimate stuffed animal. There is an interesting thing programmers do called \"code monkey.\" They want to talk about their code with someone, but it becomes so convoluted that explaining it to another programmer would take a significant back story. So communicating with an inanimate object helps them debug their code. All programming is, is communicating with a machine.", "Takes a bit more time but make a conscious effort to learn new words and various synonyms for words you do know. Always review a 'Word of the Day' and never cross a word you don't know without looking it up. Over time your vernacular repertoire will become more robust and you will convey messages with more confidence and intelligence. ", "this tip would work in conjunction with other people's tips\n\nsince you know the image but not the word then play charades.\ntry and guess the words the more practice you get the better you are at it. this way if you can see the image you can guess the word.", "imagine your speaking in a court room. Lay out the evidence first, aka any background info, and important details. Then once all the info is out there, state your point or conclusion. Obviously in practice it would sound so formal and structured than this though", "You could join a local toastmasters group, they're non-judgmental folks who will help you become a better communicator. ", "What is your domain? Ever heared of UML? It is standard for different Diagrams. Thinking in pictures is a great thing, maybe when you could apply some rules to your pictures you can actually describe what you want even better? If you work with Engineers, they will love it!", "Read. When you read you get to see turns of phrase is that you would never see otherwise, and you expand your vocabulary immensely. And a lot of times articulating yourself can be difficult just because you don't know what words will express yourself the best. Reading helps with this a lot.", "As a fellow stumbler and mumbler I've found the main thing that has helped me most is preparation. I mean, sitting down the night before and like a schoolkid doing homework, doing some full on, pen and paper (or notebook app and finger) preparation. While I'm still far from the most dazzlingly articulate guy you'd ever want to meet, I have noticed some serious improvement in my articulation and ability to cope with social anxiety by doing this.\n\nThe actual specifics are up to you. Whether you want to anticipate some of the questions you're likely to be asked tomorrow and take the time to write out some articulate responses that you can memorise and pull out when needed. Or if you want to make a list of possible topics of conversation, ones you suspect may interest the people you are likely to be talking to. Maybe you even want to prearrange your sentence structure or tone of voice. It really is down to your own specific needs. The important thing is to never go into an encounter unprepared.\n\nIt seems silly and a little embarrassing I know, but then so does going to the gym for the first time. The first step on any path toward self-improvement always feels a little awkward. I also initially had trouble with feeling a little phony, working through checklists and canned responses like some kind of used car salesman, but hey, it's only slimy if it's used for slimy purposes. I feel justified using whatever tricks I can to just get along as well as most other folks seem to do naturally and take for granted.\n\nThis kind of preparation also has the added bonus of calming the constant anxious internal monologue that can be quite distracting when trying to articulate a specific point. By preparing ahead of time you have already decided the course of action you are going to follow and as such, have no need for all of those constant internal questions such as *\"How should I say this? Is this the right way to behave? What do I do?\"* freeing your mind up to actually take note of your surroundings, which helps you even more. \n\nJust remember to stick to the plan you have prepared the night before, for better or worse. If the day goes horribly, go back to the drawing board that night and prepare to do better tomorrow. Simply jumping into social interactions with no plan and constantly second guessing each decision as you make it is a bit like learning how to land a plane by simply grabbing the controls on final approach and deciding to figure it out as you go.\n\nSo remember, prepare ahead of time and decide to stick to the plan.\n" ]

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[ "What to keep in a desk at work? I'm about to graduate college and have only worked in an office for 2 months in my entire life. What sort of things/items should I keep in a desk while working?", "What to keep in a desk at work? I'm about to graduate college and have only worked in an office for 2 months in my entire life. What sort of things/items should I keep in a desk while working?", "What to keep in a desk at work? I'm about to graduate college and have only worked in an office for 2 months in my entire life. What sort of things/items should I keep in a desk while working?", "What to keep in a desk at work? I'm about to graduate college and have only worked in an office for 2 months in my entire life. What sort of things/items should I keep in a desk while working?" ]

[ "Besides your standard office supplies, I keep the following-\nNail clippers\nScrewdriver (Phillips and straight)\nLightweight hammer\nDeodorant\nToothbrush and paste\nHairbrush/comb\nExtra hair accessories if used\nDuct tape\nAspirin/Tylenol or similar\nAllergy drugs\nCough/cold medicine\nGranola bars/mini candies\nSpare chargers phone/iPad \nThese items allow me to deal with most unexpected things that can irritate a day.\n", "I move desks daily, but was assigned a small file case like [this](http://www.containerstore.com/shop/office/paperFileStorage/portable?productId=10027142) one to hold my stuff. It's made me more efficient in my use of space!\n\nIn the top bin, I keep stuff I access often: 1 pen, 1 highlighter, 1 [slim staple remover](http://www.ibuyofficesupply.com/stanley-bostitch-lever-staple-remover_BOS40000?ref=google&source=google&utm_medium=shopping_engine&utm_source=google), one permanent marker, business cards, earplugs, gum, and lip balm. I put a [bookend](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Black_metal_bookend.jpg) in the bottom of the box, so that I could keep a few files upright in the front and have the rest for bulky storage. I keep a [usb fan](http://www.amazon.com/USB-Mini-Desktop-Fan-Black/dp/B003FO0LG6/ref=zg_bs_3015416011_9) down there, a regular pencil holder with a variety of pens and highlighters, and just general stuff that I like to spread around: small toys and paperweights and whatnot.\n\nFor my office, the fan was a must. Easy to pull out when I get hot under the collar!", "I like to have spare ear buds, tea, some change, a compact mirror, ruler and some sort of topical pain reliever.. ", "Either a handful of change or a couple dollars for when you need vending machine supplies. Also gum and sticky-notes (never know when you need to remember something). " ]

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[ "How do I pull off this party that's blowing up? I hope this Sub is appropriate for this. Here's the deal - I've been renovating a house for the last year or so, and we're moving in soon. It's our first house, it's a reasonable size, it has a great garden - so I did the right thing and declared a House Warming Party / BBQ.\n\nBut, - it's blowing up! I've got family coming hundreds of miles to see us, friends from all over the country want to come and see what we've built and why we haven't done ANYTHING for a year. And, of course, all those wonderful people who helped create it are coming too. \n\nI'm blown away and it means a lot that people are so willing to come and celebrate with us, except now I'm scared - I've never put on a party, I've never hosted more than 5 people for dinner and I don't want this to suck. I don't expect any trouble with guests whatsoever - but I do want to ensure everyone enjoys themselves, has some good food and and a decent time.\n\nSo please, good people of Reddit, how do I put on an awesome event like this. It's going to run from Mid-Afternoon onwards, and I expect a lot of people will drop in and go as the day goes on (especially those with families) with a hardcore group staying until the wee hours.\n\nNumbers wise, I'm estimating somewhere in the region of 50 people I guess. Maybe a few more with unexpected kids and partners.", "How do I pull off this party that's blowing up? I hope this Sub is appropriate for this. Here's the deal - I've been renovating a house for the last year or so, and we're moving in soon. It's our first house, it's a reasonable size, it has a great garden - so I did the right thing and declared a House Warming Party / BBQ.\n\nBut, - it's blowing up! I've got family coming hundreds of miles to see us, friends from all over the country want to come and see what we've built and why we haven't done ANYTHING for a year. And, of course, all those wonderful people who helped create it are coming too. \n\nI'm blown away and it means a lot that people are so willing to come and celebrate with us, except now I'm scared - I've never put on a party, I've never hosted more than 5 people for dinner and I don't want this to suck. I don't expect any trouble with guests whatsoever - but I do want to ensure everyone enjoys themselves, has some good food and and a decent time.\n\nSo please, good people of Reddit, how do I put on an awesome event like this. It's going to run from Mid-Afternoon onwards, and I expect a lot of people will drop in and go as the day goes on (especially those with families) with a hardcore group staying until the wee hours.\n\nNumbers wise, I'm estimating somewhere in the region of 50 people I guess. Maybe a few more with unexpected kids and partners.", "How do I pull off this party that's blowing up? I hope this Sub is appropriate for this. Here's the deal - I've been renovating a house for the last year or so, and we're moving in soon. It's our first house, it's a reasonable size, it has a great garden - so I did the right thing and declared a House Warming Party / BBQ.\n\nBut, - it's blowing up! I've got family coming hundreds of miles to see us, friends from all over the country want to come and see what we've built and why we haven't done ANYTHING for a year. And, of course, all those wonderful people who helped create it are coming too. \n\nI'm blown away and it means a lot that people are so willing to come and celebrate with us, except now I'm scared - I've never put on a party, I've never hosted more than 5 people for dinner and I don't want this to suck. I don't expect any trouble with guests whatsoever - but I do want to ensure everyone enjoys themselves, has some good food and and a decent time.\n\nSo please, good people of Reddit, how do I put on an awesome event like this. It's going to run from Mid-Afternoon onwards, and I expect a lot of people will drop in and go as the day goes on (especially those with families) with a hardcore group staying until the wee hours.\n\nNumbers wise, I'm estimating somewhere in the region of 50 people I guess. Maybe a few more with unexpected kids and partners.", "How do I pull off this party that's blowing up? I hope this Sub is appropriate for this. Here's the deal - I've been renovating a house for the last year or so, and we're moving in soon. It's our first house, it's a reasonable size, it has a great garden - so I did the right thing and declared a House Warming Party / BBQ.\n\nBut, - it's blowing up! I've got family coming hundreds of miles to see us, friends from all over the country want to come and see what we've built and why we haven't done ANYTHING for a year. And, of course, all those wonderful people who helped create it are coming too. \n\nI'm blown away and it means a lot that people are so willing to come and celebrate with us, except now I'm scared - I've never put on a party, I've never hosted more than 5 people for dinner and I don't want this to suck. I don't expect any trouble with guests whatsoever - but I do want to ensure everyone enjoys themselves, has some good food and and a decent time.\n\nSo please, good people of Reddit, how do I put on an awesome event like this. It's going to run from Mid-Afternoon onwards, and I expect a lot of people will drop in and go as the day goes on (especially those with families) with a hardcore group staying until the wee hours.\n\nNumbers wise, I'm estimating somewhere in the region of 50 people I guess. Maybe a few more with unexpected kids and partners.", "How do I pull off this party that's blowing up? I hope this Sub is appropriate for this. Here's the deal - I've been renovating a house for the last year or so, and we're moving in soon. It's our first house, it's a reasonable size, it has a great garden - so I did the right thing and declared a House Warming Party / BBQ.\n\nBut, - it's blowing up! I've got family coming hundreds of miles to see us, friends from all over the country want to come and see what we've built and why we haven't done ANYTHING for a year. And, of course, all those wonderful people who helped create it are coming too. \n\nI'm blown away and it means a lot that people are so willing to come and celebrate with us, except now I'm scared - I've never put on a party, I've never hosted more than 5 people for dinner and I don't want this to suck. I don't expect any trouble with guests whatsoever - but I do want to ensure everyone enjoys themselves, has some good food and and a decent time.\n\nSo please, good people of Reddit, how do I put on an awesome event like this. It's going to run from Mid-Afternoon onwards, and I expect a lot of people will drop in and go as the day goes on (especially those with families) with a hardcore group staying until the wee hours.\n\nNumbers wise, I'm estimating somewhere in the region of 50 people I guess. Maybe a few more with unexpected kids and partners.", "How do I pull off this party that's blowing up? I hope this Sub is appropriate for this. Here's the deal - I've been renovating a house for the last year or so, and we're moving in soon. It's our first house, it's a reasonable size, it has a great garden - so I did the right thing and declared a House Warming Party / BBQ.\n\nBut, - it's blowing up! I've got family coming hundreds of miles to see us, friends from all over the country want to come and see what we've built and why we haven't done ANYTHING for a year. And, of course, all those wonderful people who helped create it are coming too. \n\nI'm blown away and it means a lot that people are so willing to come and celebrate with us, except now I'm scared - I've never put on a party, I've never hosted more than 5 people for dinner and I don't want this to suck. I don't expect any trouble with guests whatsoever - but I do want to ensure everyone enjoys themselves, has some good food and and a decent time.\n\nSo please, good people of Reddit, how do I put on an awesome event like this. It's going to run from Mid-Afternoon onwards, and I expect a lot of people will drop in and go as the day goes on (especially those with families) with a hardcore group staying until the wee hours.\n\nNumbers wise, I'm estimating somewhere in the region of 50 people I guess. Maybe a few more with unexpected kids and partners.", "How do I pull off this party that's blowing up? I hope this Sub is appropriate for this. Here's the deal - I've been renovating a house for the last year or so, and we're moving in soon. It's our first house, it's a reasonable size, it has a great garden - so I did the right thing and declared a House Warming Party / BBQ.\n\nBut, - it's blowing up! I've got family coming hundreds of miles to see us, friends from all over the country want to come and see what we've built and why we haven't done ANYTHING for a year. And, of course, all those wonderful people who helped create it are coming too. \n\nI'm blown away and it means a lot that people are so willing to come and celebrate with us, except now I'm scared - I've never put on a party, I've never hosted more than 5 people for dinner and I don't want this to suck. I don't expect any trouble with guests whatsoever - but I do want to ensure everyone enjoys themselves, has some good food and and a decent time.\n\nSo please, good people of Reddit, how do I put on an awesome event like this. It's going to run from Mid-Afternoon onwards, and I expect a lot of people will drop in and go as the day goes on (especially those with families) with a hardcore group staying until the wee hours.\n\nNumbers wise, I'm estimating somewhere in the region of 50 people I guess. Maybe a few more with unexpected kids and partners.", "How do I pull off this party that's blowing up? I hope this Sub is appropriate for this. Here's the deal - I've been renovating a house for the last year or so, and we're moving in soon. It's our first house, it's a reasonable size, it has a great garden - so I did the right thing and declared a House Warming Party / BBQ.\n\nBut, - it's blowing up! I've got family coming hundreds of miles to see us, friends from all over the country want to come and see what we've built and why we haven't done ANYTHING for a year. And, of course, all those wonderful people who helped create it are coming too. \n\nI'm blown away and it means a lot that people are so willing to come and celebrate with us, except now I'm scared - I've never put on a party, I've never hosted more than 5 people for dinner and I don't want this to suck. I don't expect any trouble with guests whatsoever - but I do want to ensure everyone enjoys themselves, has some good food and and a decent time.\n\nSo please, good people of Reddit, how do I put on an awesome event like this. It's going to run from Mid-Afternoon onwards, and I expect a lot of people will drop in and go as the day goes on (especially those with families) with a hardcore group staying until the wee hours.\n\nNumbers wise, I'm estimating somewhere in the region of 50 people I guess. Maybe a few more with unexpected kids and partners.", "How do I pull off this party that's blowing up? I hope this Sub is appropriate for this. Here's the deal - I've been renovating a house for the last year or so, and we're moving in soon. It's our first house, it's a reasonable size, it has a great garden - so I did the right thing and declared a House Warming Party / BBQ.\n\nBut, - it's blowing up! I've got family coming hundreds of miles to see us, friends from all over the country want to come and see what we've built and why we haven't done ANYTHING for a year. And, of course, all those wonderful people who helped create it are coming too. \n\nI'm blown away and it means a lot that people are so willing to come and celebrate with us, except now I'm scared - I've never put on a party, I've never hosted more than 5 people for dinner and I don't want this to suck. I don't expect any trouble with guests whatsoever - but I do want to ensure everyone enjoys themselves, has some good food and and a decent time.\n\nSo please, good people of Reddit, how do I put on an awesome event like this. It's going to run from Mid-Afternoon onwards, and I expect a lot of people will drop in and go as the day goes on (especially those with families) with a hardcore group staying until the wee hours.\n\nNumbers wise, I'm estimating somewhere in the region of 50 people I guess. Maybe a few more with unexpected kids and partners.", "How do I pull off this party that's blowing up? I hope this Sub is appropriate for this. Here's the deal - I've been renovating a house for the last year or so, and we're moving in soon. It's our first house, it's a reasonable size, it has a great garden - so I did the right thing and declared a House Warming Party / BBQ.\n\nBut, - it's blowing up! I've got family coming hundreds of miles to see us, friends from all over the country want to come and see what we've built and why we haven't done ANYTHING for a year. And, of course, all those wonderful people who helped create it are coming too. \n\nI'm blown away and it means a lot that people are so willing to come and celebrate with us, except now I'm scared - I've never put on a party, I've never hosted more than 5 people for dinner and I don't want this to suck. I don't expect any trouble with guests whatsoever - but I do want to ensure everyone enjoys themselves, has some good food and and a decent time.\n\nSo please, good people of Reddit, how do I put on an awesome event like this. It's going to run from Mid-Afternoon onwards, and I expect a lot of people will drop in and go as the day goes on (especially those with families) with a hardcore group staying until the wee hours.\n\nNumbers wise, I'm estimating somewhere in the region of 50 people I guess. Maybe a few more with unexpected kids and partners.", "How do I pull off this party that's blowing up? I hope this Sub is appropriate for this. Here's the deal - I've been renovating a house for the last year or so, and we're moving in soon. It's our first house, it's a reasonable size, it has a great garden - so I did the right thing and declared a House Warming Party / BBQ.\n\nBut, - it's blowing up! I've got family coming hundreds of miles to see us, friends from all over the country want to come and see what we've built and why we haven't done ANYTHING for a year. And, of course, all those wonderful people who helped create it are coming too. \n\nI'm blown away and it means a lot that people are so willing to come and celebrate with us, except now I'm scared - I've never put on a party, I've never hosted more than 5 people for dinner and I don't want this to suck. I don't expect any trouble with guests whatsoever - but I do want to ensure everyone enjoys themselves, has some good food and and a decent time.\n\nSo please, good people of Reddit, how do I put on an awesome event like this. It's going to run from Mid-Afternoon onwards, and I expect a lot of people will drop in and go as the day goes on (especially those with families) with a hardcore group staying until the wee hours.\n\nNumbers wise, I'm estimating somewhere in the region of 50 people I guess. Maybe a few more with unexpected kids and partners.", "How do I pull off this party that's blowing up? I hope this Sub is appropriate for this. Here's the deal - I've been renovating a house for the last year or so, and we're moving in soon. It's our first house, it's a reasonable size, it has a great garden - so I did the right thing and declared a House Warming Party / BBQ.\n\nBut, - it's blowing up! I've got family coming hundreds of miles to see us, friends from all over the country want to come and see what we've built and why we haven't done ANYTHING for a year. And, of course, all those wonderful people who helped create it are coming too. \n\nI'm blown away and it means a lot that people are so willing to come and celebrate with us, except now I'm scared - I've never put on a party, I've never hosted more than 5 people for dinner and I don't want this to suck. I don't expect any trouble with guests whatsoever - but I do want to ensure everyone enjoys themselves, has some good food and and a decent time.\n\nSo please, good people of Reddit, how do I put on an awesome event like this. It's going to run from Mid-Afternoon onwards, and I expect a lot of people will drop in and go as the day goes on (especially those with families) with a hardcore group staying until the wee hours.\n\nNumbers wise, I'm estimating somewhere in the region of 50 people I guess. Maybe a few more with unexpected kids and partners." ]

[ "Perhaps it's because I'm southern, but I'd never come to a party like this empty handed. \n\nIf people ask what they can do, tell them bring wine, beer, chips, dip, etc. Don't be afraid to politely delegate some things to your close friends and family too if needed. \n", "Food, drinks, music, games (cornhole, horseshoes etc..) chairs and tables. A good party has too much of everything.", "Coolers full of beer/soda/water. - this is the most important one.\n\nLarge crock pot full of some type of shredded meat with buns to put it in.\n\nAssorted chips, fruit bowls, pasta salad, veggie tray, condiments.\n\nPaper plates, plastic cups, plastic forks/knives.\n\nLawn games.\n\nLawn chairs.\n\nA cool looking T-shirt so you get sweet compliments.\n", "Find a friend who does throw parties to help, offer them several crates of beer if they oversee the planning and setup with you.", "I don't know how much you want to spend, but hiring a caterer could be worthwhile. You won't have to worry about food/plates/utensils/etc. Most caterers can provide tables and folding chairs too. Hiring someone to do a bunch of burgers and dogs or sandwiches or tacos or something like that really isn't that bad price wise. \n\nTo offset the price of that tell everyone to bring drinks (beer, wine and sodas) and ice, and any local friends to bring their cool chests so you have plenty. \n\nNext, get some lawn games and either set up your stereo outside or put your speakers up against an open window pointed outside. If you only have your little computer speakers ask your buddy with the big stereo (someone should have one) to bring it over and \"DJ\" for you. Also, buy a roll of big 30 gallon heavy duty trash bags for cleanup. \n\nYou should be able to put this thing on for a few hundred $ worth of catering. \n\nGood luck, and have fun. ", "How many bathrooms do you have? A portable bathroom is cheap insurance to make sure there isn't a line to use the bathroom, or even worse to find out that your plumbing system is not up to the task of serving 100 guests.\n\nIf you have a septic system definitely rent a portable bathroom.", "Just make sure you have plenty of food for everyone, plenty of drinks and a nice playlist of music playing plenty loud(but not so loud as to drown out conversations). There's not much too it really. Maybe seeing as there's a lot of people coming try have some extra seating so everyone's not standing the whole night. Other than that just have a good time. Once you meet the basic requirements, parties pretty much take care of themselves. Have a good time.", "I organize events like this for my job sometimes, and like many others said already, you have three main options.\n\na) Potluck: Ask your guests to each bring an item based on the first initial of their last name (e.g. A-G bring salad, H-N bring sides/apps, O-Z bring entrees). You still provide drinks, utensils, napkins, plates, ice and entertainment. This avoids you having thirty casseroles and nothing else and takes a lot of pressure off you, but I know some folks have issues with potlucks. *shrug*\n\nb) Catering: Could be cheap or expensive, depending on your area or choices. I'd recommend looking for something casual for a house party--just cause it's catered doesn't mean your party needs to be wedding level formal.\n\nc) Everything on You: Buy Costco portions of everything; you can generally Google to see how much watermelon or whatever it'll take to feed X number of people. It's cheaper than catering and doesn't involve asking your guests to help, but it means you, your partner and your 6 closest friends will be grilling cheap hot dogs or whatever all evening rather than socializing if your party is more than 30 people. This option can overwhelm you in terms of time/stress if you're not careful.\n\nAt least, all that has been my experience, so make of it what you will.", "Have a bunch of 12 packs of sodas on ice. Tell guests it's BYOB for alcohol. \n\nDo a taco bar for food. Make a bunch of meat up and it's pretty easy. Then have fixings set out that people can use. Have chips and it doubles as a nacho bar. \n\nBuy one of the yard game sets at Walmart. Set up cornhole, ladder golf, horseshoes, etc. \n\n", "Don't make it out to be something harder than it is. Just like most others said, get plenty of easy to make/eat food like sandwiches and finger foods, lots of beer, soda, and water, and put on some music. Add some washers and/or bags and you're golden. Set everything out and have a trashcan or two. Make it so that you're not busy working the entire time and you can spend time talking to your guests. Give people the setting and alcohol(if that's your thing), and they will figure out the party.\n\nI did this earlier this spring, fairly minimal effort, and everyone said they had a great time.", "Ask if people can bring foldup chairs. No one person has 25 fold up chairs. Failing that, some rugs/blankets. Don't forget music: stick some speakers outside, or a portable bluetooth thing (a good one though, or sound will be lost). Small gazebo(s) can be good for shade and cover for food. Lawn games. Maybe a treasure hunt for the kids? Or organise a waterfight? Beer. plenty of beer. Put that beer in a large gorilla tub with loads of water and ice. And get more ice too, for drinks.", "As far as food goes, either call a caterer or plan way ahead. You don't want to be short order cooking, so rely on stuff you can make ahead or stuff you can throw in the crockpot." ]

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[ "Standing effortlessly in the bus? I'm having trouble with this. I always feel that I look like a drunk monkey playing DDR when trying to balance on the bus. All the other people seem to do it so easily.", "Standing effortlessly in the bus? I'm having trouble with this. I always feel that I look like a drunk monkey playing DDR when trying to balance on the bus. All the other people seem to do it so easily.", "Standing effortlessly in the bus? I'm having trouble with this. I always feel that I look like a drunk monkey playing DDR when trying to balance on the bus. All the other people seem to do it so easily.", "Standing effortlessly in the bus? I'm having trouble with this. I always feel that I look like a drunk monkey playing DDR when trying to balance on the bus. All the other people seem to do it so easily.", "Standing effortlessly in the bus? I'm having trouble with this. I always feel that I look like a drunk monkey playing DDR when trying to balance on the bus. All the other people seem to do it so easily.", "Standing effortlessly in the bus? I'm having trouble with this. I always feel that I look like a drunk monkey playing DDR when trying to balance on the bus. All the other people seem to do it so easily.", "Standing effortlessly in the bus? I'm having trouble with this. I always feel that I look like a drunk monkey playing DDR when trying to balance on the bus. All the other people seem to do it so easily.", "Standing effortlessly in the bus? I'm having trouble with this. I always feel that I look like a drunk monkey playing DDR when trying to balance on the bus. All the other people seem to do it so easily.", "Standing effortlessly in the bus? I'm having trouble with this. I always feel that I look like a drunk monkey playing DDR when trying to balance on the bus. All the other people seem to do it so easily." ]

[ "Front foot faces the front of the bus, back foot points to the side. That gives you stability with stops and starts and swaying side to side. ", "- Keep 3 points of contact at all times (2 feet and at least 1 hand holding a bar)\n\n- Form a triangle with those 3 points.\n\n- Keep your feet wide.\n\n- I don't recommend holding those hand straps, they sway and move like hell. I swear, those things are intended to help you get up and out of your seat.\n\nLook like a *competent* monkey playing DDR.", "There is some good advice here, but I am surprised nobody mentioned: DO NOT LOCK YOUR KNEES. Keep you knees *just barely* bent, so that when there is a big bump, you can allow your body to \"dip\" in relation to the bus.", "Along with all the other tips, keep your knees a little \"loose\", like you're on a ship, so that you don't lose your balance. ", "Keep your legs apart, grip firmly with your hand and kind of grip with your feet if you need to. A bit like riding a skateboard. Don't be afraid to move a bit with the bus. ", "Stand with your feet making a 45 degree angle to the direction the bus travels. That way you can withstand starting and stopping, as well as side-to-side motion without having to re-adjust your feet. Pay attention to the direction and intention of the bus - if you are about to make a turn, lean into it. If you are about to stop, lean back etc.\n\nOr drizzle super glue on your shoes before entering the bus.", "Im a master at this, always bragged on the Chicago L trains(CTA) that I could stand in middle of train without holding anything. Which I did.\n\nI do a lot of squats at the gym, so you have to have strong leg muscles, and good balance technique.", "One possibility is to exercise balance at home, like standing on one leg. In the bus, it would help to concentrate on your balance then. Try to feel the bus accelerating.", "Lean a bit into the direction the bus is about to turn. That way you'll only \"fall\" back into the natural standing position rather than off-kilter; this gives you greater control.\n\nAlso, read what the other posters have said about front foot facing parallel to length of the bus and back foot facing perpendicular. Now put more pressure on the front foot when the bus brakes, and more pressure on the back foot when it accelerates.\n\nThese tips should help you kind of counter-act the forces that act on you during regular motion. I advise holding the rail/bar with both hands until you feel more comfortable, then one hand later. It takes some time and you'll need to make adjustments here and there till you get used to it." ]

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[ "What are some general or lesser known things everyone should keep in their vehicles? Anything from a cigar-lighter USB charger to a mylar blanket for warmth in the Winter months.\n\nThings I could think of:\n\nUSB charger and multiple compatible charging cable, quality aux cord, accident towels, GPS/Phone holder, ice scraper, roll of tape, emergency change of clothes in a suitcase, emergency water small form factor food (like granola, dried fruit, and beef jerky), polarized sunglasses, heatpacks, notebook and paper, emergency money and change, bluetooth transmitter (for older vehicles), pepper spray, wipes, emergency asprin or benadryl, etc.\n\nAlso some general vehicle accessories would be nice. Things like floormats, steering-wheel cover, seatcovers, mini-trashcan (or just a plastic bag), window tinting, sun-visor extensions, windshield cover for parking in the sun, deodorizer, seat cushion (looking at you, Corolla), windshield cleaning tools, etc.\n\nThere's also mechanical items like your car's manuals, a spare tire, lug wrench, quart of oil anf a funnel, wiper fluid, bulbs maybe, temporary LED's to tape to your hood and trunk in the event your light stop working at night, tire patch kit anf inflator, mini fire extinguisher, jumper cables, seatbelt cutter and window breaker, state maps, cardboard or carpet scraps for traction (or just traction mats), tire gauge, knife, leatherman, WD-40, Flare or bright flashing emergency lighting, flashlight, batteries, matches, lighter, paper copy of important phone numbers, rain poncho, umbrella, extra key, Gas can, bungee cords, etc.", "What are some general or lesser known things everyone should keep in their vehicles? Anything from a cigar-lighter USB charger to a mylar blanket for warmth in the Winter months.\n\nThings I could think of:\n\nUSB charger and multiple compatible charging cable, quality aux cord, accident towels, GPS/Phone holder, ice scraper, roll of tape, emergency change of clothes in a suitcase, emergency water small form factor food (like granola, dried fruit, and beef jerky), polarized sunglasses, heatpacks, notebook and paper, emergency money and change, bluetooth transmitter (for older vehicles), pepper spray, wipes, emergency asprin or benadryl, etc.\n\nAlso some general vehicle accessories would be nice. Things like floormats, steering-wheel cover, seatcovers, mini-trashcan (or just a plastic bag), window tinting, sun-visor extensions, windshield cover for parking in the sun, deodorizer, seat cushion (looking at you, Corolla), windshield cleaning tools, etc.\n\nThere's also mechanical items like your car's manuals, a spare tire, lug wrench, quart of oil anf a funnel, wiper fluid, bulbs maybe, temporary LED's to tape to your hood and trunk in the event your light stop working at night, tire patch kit anf inflator, mini fire extinguisher, jumper cables, seatbelt cutter and window breaker, state maps, cardboard or carpet scraps for traction (or just traction mats), tire gauge, knife, leatherman, WD-40, Flare or bright flashing emergency lighting, flashlight, batteries, matches, lighter, paper copy of important phone numbers, rain poncho, umbrella, extra key, Gas can, bungee cords, etc.", "What are some general or lesser known things everyone should keep in their vehicles? Anything from a cigar-lighter USB charger to a mylar blanket for warmth in the Winter months.\n\nThings I could think of:\n\nUSB charger and multiple compatible charging cable, quality aux cord, accident towels, GPS/Phone holder, ice scraper, roll of tape, emergency change of clothes in a suitcase, emergency water small form factor food (like granola, dried fruit, and beef jerky), polarized sunglasses, heatpacks, notebook and paper, emergency money and change, bluetooth transmitter (for older vehicles), pepper spray, wipes, emergency asprin or benadryl, etc.\n\nAlso some general vehicle accessories would be nice. Things like floormats, steering-wheel cover, seatcovers, mini-trashcan (or just a plastic bag), window tinting, sun-visor extensions, windshield cover for parking in the sun, deodorizer, seat cushion (looking at you, Corolla), windshield cleaning tools, etc.\n\nThere's also mechanical items like your car's manuals, a spare tire, lug wrench, quart of oil anf a funnel, wiper fluid, bulbs maybe, temporary LED's to tape to your hood and trunk in the event your light stop working at night, tire patch kit anf inflator, mini fire extinguisher, jumper cables, seatbelt cutter and window breaker, state maps, cardboard or carpet scraps for traction (or just traction mats), tire gauge, knife, leatherman, WD-40, Flare or bright flashing emergency lighting, flashlight, batteries, matches, lighter, paper copy of important phone numbers, rain poncho, umbrella, extra key, Gas can, bungee cords, etc.", "What are some general or lesser known things everyone should keep in their vehicles? Anything from a cigar-lighter USB charger to a mylar blanket for warmth in the Winter months.\n\nThings I could think of:\n\nUSB charger and multiple compatible charging cable, quality aux cord, accident towels, GPS/Phone holder, ice scraper, roll of tape, emergency change of clothes in a suitcase, emergency water small form factor food (like granola, dried fruit, and beef jerky), polarized sunglasses, heatpacks, notebook and paper, emergency money and change, bluetooth transmitter (for older vehicles), pepper spray, wipes, emergency asprin or benadryl, etc.\n\nAlso some general vehicle accessories would be nice. Things like floormats, steering-wheel cover, seatcovers, mini-trashcan (or just a plastic bag), window tinting, sun-visor extensions, windshield cover for parking in the sun, deodorizer, seat cushion (looking at you, Corolla), windshield cleaning tools, etc.\n\nThere's also mechanical items like your car's manuals, a spare tire, lug wrench, quart of oil anf a funnel, wiper fluid, bulbs maybe, temporary LED's to tape to your hood and trunk in the event your light stop working at night, tire patch kit anf inflator, mini fire extinguisher, jumper cables, seatbelt cutter and window breaker, state maps, cardboard or carpet scraps for traction (or just traction mats), tire gauge, knife, leatherman, WD-40, Flare or bright flashing emergency lighting, flashlight, batteries, matches, lighter, paper copy of important phone numbers, rain poncho, umbrella, extra key, Gas can, bungee cords, etc.", "What are some general or lesser known things everyone should keep in their vehicles? Anything from a cigar-lighter USB charger to a mylar blanket for warmth in the Winter months.\n\nThings I could think of:\n\nUSB charger and multiple compatible charging cable, quality aux cord, accident towels, GPS/Phone holder, ice scraper, roll of tape, emergency change of clothes in a suitcase, emergency water small form factor food (like granola, dried fruit, and beef jerky), polarized sunglasses, heatpacks, notebook and paper, emergency money and change, bluetooth transmitter (for older vehicles), pepper spray, wipes, emergency asprin or benadryl, etc.\n\nAlso some general vehicle accessories would be nice. Things like floormats, steering-wheel cover, seatcovers, mini-trashcan (or just a plastic bag), window tinting, sun-visor extensions, windshield cover for parking in the sun, deodorizer, seat cushion (looking at you, Corolla), windshield cleaning tools, etc.\n\nThere's also mechanical items like your car's manuals, a spare tire, lug wrench, quart of oil anf a funnel, wiper fluid, bulbs maybe, temporary LED's to tape to your hood and trunk in the event your light stop working at night, tire patch kit anf inflator, mini fire extinguisher, jumper cables, seatbelt cutter and window breaker, state maps, cardboard or carpet scraps for traction (or just traction mats), tire gauge, knife, leatherman, WD-40, Flare or bright flashing emergency lighting, flashlight, batteries, matches, lighter, paper copy of important phone numbers, rain poncho, umbrella, extra key, Gas can, bungee cords, etc.", "What are some general or lesser known things everyone should keep in their vehicles? Anything from a cigar-lighter USB charger to a mylar blanket for warmth in the Winter months.\n\nThings I could think of:\n\nUSB charger and multiple compatible charging cable, quality aux cord, accident towels, GPS/Phone holder, ice scraper, roll of tape, emergency change of clothes in a suitcase, emergency water small form factor food (like granola, dried fruit, and beef jerky), polarized sunglasses, heatpacks, notebook and paper, emergency money and change, bluetooth transmitter (for older vehicles), pepper spray, wipes, emergency asprin or benadryl, etc.\n\nAlso some general vehicle accessories would be nice. Things like floormats, steering-wheel cover, seatcovers, mini-trashcan (or just a plastic bag), window tinting, sun-visor extensions, windshield cover for parking in the sun, deodorizer, seat cushion (looking at you, Corolla), windshield cleaning tools, etc.\n\nThere's also mechanical items like your car's manuals, a spare tire, lug wrench, quart of oil anf a funnel, wiper fluid, bulbs maybe, temporary LED's to tape to your hood and trunk in the event your light stop working at night, tire patch kit anf inflator, mini fire extinguisher, jumper cables, seatbelt cutter and window breaker, state maps, cardboard or carpet scraps for traction (or just traction mats), tire gauge, knife, leatherman, WD-40, Flare or bright flashing emergency lighting, flashlight, batteries, matches, lighter, paper copy of important phone numbers, rain poncho, umbrella, extra key, Gas can, bungee cords, etc.", "What are some general or lesser known things everyone should keep in their vehicles? Anything from a cigar-lighter USB charger to a mylar blanket for warmth in the Winter months.\n\nThings I could think of:\n\nUSB charger and multiple compatible charging cable, quality aux cord, accident towels, GPS/Phone holder, ice scraper, roll of tape, emergency change of clothes in a suitcase, emergency water small form factor food (like granola, dried fruit, and beef jerky), polarized sunglasses, heatpacks, notebook and paper, emergency money and change, bluetooth transmitter (for older vehicles), pepper spray, wipes, emergency asprin or benadryl, etc.\n\nAlso some general vehicle accessories would be nice. Things like floormats, steering-wheel cover, seatcovers, mini-trashcan (or just a plastic bag), window tinting, sun-visor extensions, windshield cover for parking in the sun, deodorizer, seat cushion (looking at you, Corolla), windshield cleaning tools, etc.\n\nThere's also mechanical items like your car's manuals, a spare tire, lug wrench, quart of oil anf a funnel, wiper fluid, bulbs maybe, temporary LED's to tape to your hood and trunk in the event your light stop working at night, tire patch kit anf inflator, mini fire extinguisher, jumper cables, seatbelt cutter and window breaker, state maps, cardboard or carpet scraps for traction (or just traction mats), tire gauge, knife, leatherman, WD-40, Flare or bright flashing emergency lighting, flashlight, batteries, matches, lighter, paper copy of important phone numbers, rain poncho, umbrella, extra key, Gas can, bungee cords, etc.", "What are some general or lesser known things everyone should keep in their vehicles? Anything from a cigar-lighter USB charger to a mylar blanket for warmth in the Winter months.\n\nThings I could think of:\n\nUSB charger and multiple compatible charging cable, quality aux cord, accident towels, GPS/Phone holder, ice scraper, roll of tape, emergency change of clothes in a suitcase, emergency water small form factor food (like granola, dried fruit, and beef jerky), polarized sunglasses, heatpacks, notebook and paper, emergency money and change, bluetooth transmitter (for older vehicles), pepper spray, wipes, emergency asprin or benadryl, etc.\n\nAlso some general vehicle accessories would be nice. Things like floormats, steering-wheel cover, seatcovers, mini-trashcan (or just a plastic bag), window tinting, sun-visor extensions, windshield cover for parking in the sun, deodorizer, seat cushion (looking at you, Corolla), windshield cleaning tools, etc.\n\nThere's also mechanical items like your car's manuals, a spare tire, lug wrench, quart of oil anf a funnel, wiper fluid, bulbs maybe, temporary LED's to tape to your hood and trunk in the event your light stop working at night, tire patch kit anf inflator, mini fire extinguisher, jumper cables, seatbelt cutter and window breaker, state maps, cardboard or carpet scraps for traction (or just traction mats), tire gauge, knife, leatherman, WD-40, Flare or bright flashing emergency lighting, flashlight, batteries, matches, lighter, paper copy of important phone numbers, rain poncho, umbrella, extra key, Gas can, bungee cords, etc.", "What are some general or lesser known things everyone should keep in their vehicles? Anything from a cigar-lighter USB charger to a mylar blanket for warmth in the Winter months.\n\nThings I could think of:\n\nUSB charger and multiple compatible charging cable, quality aux cord, accident towels, GPS/Phone holder, ice scraper, roll of tape, emergency change of clothes in a suitcase, emergency water small form factor food (like granola, dried fruit, and beef jerky), polarized sunglasses, heatpacks, notebook and paper, emergency money and change, bluetooth transmitter (for older vehicles), pepper spray, wipes, emergency asprin or benadryl, etc.\n\nAlso some general vehicle accessories would be nice. Things like floormats, steering-wheel cover, seatcovers, mini-trashcan (or just a plastic bag), window tinting, sun-visor extensions, windshield cover for parking in the sun, deodorizer, seat cushion (looking at you, Corolla), windshield cleaning tools, etc.\n\nThere's also mechanical items like your car's manuals, a spare tire, lug wrench, quart of oil anf a funnel, wiper fluid, bulbs maybe, temporary LED's to tape to your hood and trunk in the event your light stop working at night, tire patch kit anf inflator, mini fire extinguisher, jumper cables, seatbelt cutter and window breaker, state maps, cardboard or carpet scraps for traction (or just traction mats), tire gauge, knife, leatherman, WD-40, Flare or bright flashing emergency lighting, flashlight, batteries, matches, lighter, paper copy of important phone numbers, rain poncho, umbrella, extra key, Gas can, bungee cords, etc.", "What are some general or lesser known things everyone should keep in their vehicles? Anything from a cigar-lighter USB charger to a mylar blanket for warmth in the Winter months.\n\nThings I could think of:\n\nUSB charger and multiple compatible charging cable, quality aux cord, accident towels, GPS/Phone holder, ice scraper, roll of tape, emergency change of clothes in a suitcase, emergency water small form factor food (like granola, dried fruit, and beef jerky), polarized sunglasses, heatpacks, notebook and paper, emergency money and change, bluetooth transmitter (for older vehicles), pepper spray, wipes, emergency asprin or benadryl, etc.\n\nAlso some general vehicle accessories would be nice. Things like floormats, steering-wheel cover, seatcovers, mini-trashcan (or just a plastic bag), window tinting, sun-visor extensions, windshield cover for parking in the sun, deodorizer, seat cushion (looking at you, Corolla), windshield cleaning tools, etc.\n\nThere's also mechanical items like your car's manuals, a spare tire, lug wrench, quart of oil anf a funnel, wiper fluid, bulbs maybe, temporary LED's to tape to your hood and trunk in the event your light stop working at night, tire patch kit anf inflator, mini fire extinguisher, jumper cables, seatbelt cutter and window breaker, state maps, cardboard or carpet scraps for traction (or just traction mats), tire gauge, knife, leatherman, WD-40, Flare or bright flashing emergency lighting, flashlight, batteries, matches, lighter, paper copy of important phone numbers, rain poncho, umbrella, extra key, Gas can, bungee cords, etc." ]

[ "Do you have any room for passengers?\n\nI have a couple of charger cords, spare glasses, bottle of water and a couple granola bars.", "I like to carry a jump pack to jump start my car. It has proven helpful a few times as well as my winch when going up into the mountains. And insulated coveralls in case I break down in the mountains. Again.", "Keep an old charged cell phone in glove box. Even with no service it will let you call 911 in an emergency.", "I accidentally left/forgot a pair of scissors in my car once, and if I don’t use those things more than anything else in my glove box...strange, I know! \n\nAlso very helpful I’ve found is a roll of paper towels. I wait till the one in the house is about 75% gone and then take that for the car, since space in my 2 seater is limited. \n\nI live in LA so I keep a swifter duster in there- yes, there really is *that* much traffic. They fold right in half and take up very little space! I keep it in a ziplock bag so I can reuse it a few times. \n\nA few bottles of water with granola bars rubber-banded to them for when I’m at a red light next to a homeless person. I also keep any small, sealed samples of dog food I receive , for when the homeless have a fur baby. \n\nContact lens wearers: an extra pair in the car & small bottle of saline!\n\nI have a convertible, so the car-bottle-of-sunscreen is a MUST\n\nThe inverse of this, car-things to definitely keep OUTSIDE of your car, is pretty helpful as well: I photocopy my registration - *before* I peel the sticker off for my plates, so that it gets copied \ntoo- and keep it with a copy of my license and insurance card, inside my house. \n\nAlso, a small list of what you keep/have in your car so that \n1) you can tell if anything’s been stolen (I accidentally didn’t lock once...facepalm)\n2) you have a handy reminder of things you may need to replace/replenish/scoop up if you see them on sale \n\nIf you have a dent, scratch or some blemish that you don’t mind/aren’t going to bother fixing, etc, keep a pic of it. It can’t hurt and it’s helpful to prove with a date/time stamp “dude, that’s always been there” if you have to. (I also always do this if I borrow a car)", "Be careful keeping pepper spray in your car, my ex had a canister detonate in her car when it got hot, hell of a mess!", "An extra set of dry clean clothes with a towel. You never want to sit in your cry drenched in water, it’s how you get sick.", "A table leg for self defense. Having a baseball bat in the car means you're looking for trouble, a table leg means you are moving.", "I usually keep a roll of toilet paper in my car, as its not uncommon to drive 100s of kilometres in my state with no toilet facilities.", "Crikey, I think you’ve listed everything! The only thing I would add is a hi vis reflective vest, in case you need to work on the vehicle or walk along a road. \nMesh vest for hot weather.\nApart from that, in winter don’t rely on a mylar blanket. They don’t reflect very much body heat at all in real world use, proper insulation like a snow suit or sleeping bag is way better. One thing they can do, though, is make shade in summer sunshine.", "A raincoat and reflective vest. I also keep a down sleeping bag . I backpack a lot and have extras It's nice to know I can pull over and sleep comfortably if I'm sleepy and have slept in my car after a night out That was before Ride sharing which is a real game changer" ]

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[ "Writing Faster I write somewhat slowly, and this is now becoming an issue because I'm consistently running out of time to finish questions on my exams, even though I know how to answer them.\n\nI'm willing to pick up cursive, but my cursive tends to be messy; what are some other tricks?", "Writing Faster I write somewhat slowly, and this is now becoming an issue because I'm consistently running out of time to finish questions on my exams, even though I know how to answer them.\n\nI'm willing to pick up cursive, but my cursive tends to be messy; what are some other tricks?", "Writing Faster I write somewhat slowly, and this is now becoming an issue because I'm consistently running out of time to finish questions on my exams, even though I know how to answer them.\n\nI'm willing to pick up cursive, but my cursive tends to be messy; what are some other tricks?" ]

[ "Alright. Here are my tips for writing eight pages for the ACT in thirty minutes.\n\n - Practice. Write a journal, and let the thoughts flow. The more you do this, the easier it will be for your mind to write as the thoughts pop into your head. In addition, it allows you to absentmindedly write, so you can think up other sentences and revise other things as you write down each sentence.\n\n - Read. The more you read, the more you know, and hat allows you to make factual claims quickly and easily without wondering if what you are writing is true or not.\n\n - Learn cursive. I've been writing in cursive since second grade, and I don't regret it. It is MUCH faster than print.\n\n - Revise as you go. As you write, think back on the things you have already written, and think up ways to improve said writing. When you are finished throwing all of your ideas down, go back and change what needs to be changed.\n\n - Skip the story web. If writing a book or a short story, go ahead. By all means, it is a fantastic tool. But for an essay, if you skip it entirely, you can save yourself an extra five minutes by *creating the story web in your thesis*. Plainly state your intentions for the essay, and refer back to the first paragraph if you forget what it is you need to write.\n\n - Write smaller. The less time you waste making each letter, the better.\n\n - Start with the longest paragraph first. By the end of writing the first paragraph, you should know which topic should take you the longest to write. (If not, you need more practice in that journal.) Write this one first. The initial adrenaline rush can help you write the story at a much faster rate when you are scrambling to get it done. Then, go in order from longest to shortest.\n\n - Make the ending paragraph short and sweet. Recap the themes you have already stated, and tie it together with a good ending thought.\n\n - Learn to type faster. If you are worried about exams, you probably have to take PARCC or something soon, where you have to complete the test online. Learning to type faster can greatly increase the speed of your writing. In fact, at the end of this sentence, I will be just about three minutes into writing this response.\n\nI hope this help, and best of luck in your exams!", "Try writing smaller and don't put as much space between words and letters. The best way would still be cursive though. Honestly switching to cursive was one of the best decisions I've ever made. It really helped me with exams!", "Cursive is fast if you are really good at it. I write faster in normal print but then again it's utter chickenscratch. \n\nI'm sure there are many cursive courses for free online, or you can pick up a workbook for one (if they still exist). " ]

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[ "how to easily catch up on school work when you have been away for a while I was sick and missed a few days of school. When I came back my teacher gave me what I missed and told me to get it done as soon as I can. I've been having a little trouble with starting it, and when I do getting it done. And now I can't understand the current lessons. Is there any way for me to get on top of the endless pile of work that is building up? ", "how to easily catch up on school work when you have been away for a while I was sick and missed a few days of school. When I came back my teacher gave me what I missed and told me to get it done as soon as I can. I've been having a little trouble with starting it, and when I do getting it done. And now I can't understand the current lessons. Is there any way for me to get on top of the endless pile of work that is building up? ", "how to easily catch up on school work when you have been away for a while I was sick and missed a few days of school. When I came back my teacher gave me what I missed and told me to get it done as soon as I can. I've been having a little trouble with starting it, and when I do getting it done. And now I can't understand the current lessons. Is there any way for me to get on top of the endless pile of work that is building up? " ]

[ "They best advice I can give you? Just talk to your teacher about it. Most teachers will be happy to help you if you are having trouble. I have also found in the past to try and set deadlines for yourself with the teachers help. Teachers are also there to help you. Not getting advice or help from them if you need it is practically ignoring a huge asset to your education.", "I would say always eat the toad first and cake second. Do the hardest things first and the easiest things last. That way you end on a good note. (If you eat the toad first, you end with good cake). It's cheesey, but true.", "I was in a similar situation when I started college and misread a syllabus, had 3 weeks to do a semester of math homework. \n\nI'm not so good at math and I dislike doing it, so I just watched videos of people getting inspired about why they love math and why they think it's the coolest thing, then I get sucked into their mindset and perform, I just went math crazy doing practice problems to understand concepts whenever I had spare time and when I had free time I would burn out doing close to a dozen hours of straight khan academy and working through hundreds of questions. \n\nWhenever I wanted to quit I would pretend really hard I was a guy who did math for fun watch some more videos and get to work. \n\nI think that was the only course I got everything right on the final exam and I had real fun living another person(s)'s starry-eyed motivations getting to that level of knowledge. " ]

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[ "Waking up early/being efficient in the morning before college classes? During high school I woke up at 5... Now, I can barely wake up at 9 and regularly function even with the same hours of sleep I get compared to high school. I now need to wake up before 8:30 for a morning class and I am struggling to cope with this. I want to maximize the time I get for sleep and minimize the time I need to get ready. \n\nSo far this is my schedule: \n7:30 - 1st alarm, snooze\n7:35 - 2nd alarm, wake up and closes my eyes for 1-2 minutes (very dangerous... so far haven't fallen back asleep)\n7:38~7:40 - look at phone and goes to bathroom\n7:40~7:50 - brushing my teeth, face washing, shaving\n7:50 ~ 8:00 - toilet time\n8:00 ~ 8:15 - change clothes, feed fish, does bed\n8:15 ~ 8:30 - walk to class\n\nI have no idea how to minimize the time I spend in the bathroom. Also, during my changing period, time just goes by so fast that I am not sure how it takes me 15 minutes to do all those things. I feel like I need to sleep earlier to compensate, but that would force me to sleep before 12, and that isn't happening for a college student taking all STEM. \n\nAny tips? ", "Waking up early/being efficient in the morning before college classes? During high school I woke up at 5... Now, I can barely wake up at 9 and regularly function even with the same hours of sleep I get compared to high school. I now need to wake up before 8:30 for a morning class and I am struggling to cope with this. I want to maximize the time I get for sleep and minimize the time I need to get ready. \n\nSo far this is my schedule: \n7:30 - 1st alarm, snooze\n7:35 - 2nd alarm, wake up and closes my eyes for 1-2 minutes (very dangerous... so far haven't fallen back asleep)\n7:38~7:40 - look at phone and goes to bathroom\n7:40~7:50 - brushing my teeth, face washing, shaving\n7:50 ~ 8:00 - toilet time\n8:00 ~ 8:15 - change clothes, feed fish, does bed\n8:15 ~ 8:30 - walk to class\n\nI have no idea how to minimize the time I spend in the bathroom. Also, during my changing period, time just goes by so fast that I am not sure how it takes me 15 minutes to do all those things. I feel like I need to sleep earlier to compensate, but that would force me to sleep before 12, and that isn't happening for a college student taking all STEM. \n\nAny tips? ", "Waking up early/being efficient in the morning before college classes? During high school I woke up at 5... Now, I can barely wake up at 9 and regularly function even with the same hours of sleep I get compared to high school. I now need to wake up before 8:30 for a morning class and I am struggling to cope with this. I want to maximize the time I get for sleep and minimize the time I need to get ready. \n\nSo far this is my schedule: \n7:30 - 1st alarm, snooze\n7:35 - 2nd alarm, wake up and closes my eyes for 1-2 minutes (very dangerous... so far haven't fallen back asleep)\n7:38~7:40 - look at phone and goes to bathroom\n7:40~7:50 - brushing my teeth, face washing, shaving\n7:50 ~ 8:00 - toilet time\n8:00 ~ 8:15 - change clothes, feed fish, does bed\n8:15 ~ 8:30 - walk to class\n\nI have no idea how to minimize the time I spend in the bathroom. Also, during my changing period, time just goes by so fast that I am not sure how it takes me 15 minutes to do all those things. I feel like I need to sleep earlier to compensate, but that would force me to sleep before 12, and that isn't happening for a college student taking all STEM. \n\nAny tips? ", "Waking up early/being efficient in the morning before college classes? During high school I woke up at 5... Now, I can barely wake up at 9 and regularly function even with the same hours of sleep I get compared to high school. I now need to wake up before 8:30 for a morning class and I am struggling to cope with this. I want to maximize the time I get for sleep and minimize the time I need to get ready. \n\nSo far this is my schedule: \n7:30 - 1st alarm, snooze\n7:35 - 2nd alarm, wake up and closes my eyes for 1-2 minutes (very dangerous... so far haven't fallen back asleep)\n7:38~7:40 - look at phone and goes to bathroom\n7:40~7:50 - brushing my teeth, face washing, shaving\n7:50 ~ 8:00 - toilet time\n8:00 ~ 8:15 - change clothes, feed fish, does bed\n8:15 ~ 8:30 - walk to class\n\nI have no idea how to minimize the time I spend in the bathroom. Also, during my changing period, time just goes by so fast that I am not sure how it takes me 15 minutes to do all those things. I feel like I need to sleep earlier to compensate, but that would force me to sleep before 12, and that isn't happening for a college student taking all STEM. \n\nAny tips? ", "Waking up early/being efficient in the morning before college classes? During high school I woke up at 5... Now, I can barely wake up at 9 and regularly function even with the same hours of sleep I get compared to high school. I now need to wake up before 8:30 for a morning class and I am struggling to cope with this. I want to maximize the time I get for sleep and minimize the time I need to get ready. \n\nSo far this is my schedule: \n7:30 - 1st alarm, snooze\n7:35 - 2nd alarm, wake up and closes my eyes for 1-2 minutes (very dangerous... so far haven't fallen back asleep)\n7:38~7:40 - look at phone and goes to bathroom\n7:40~7:50 - brushing my teeth, face washing, shaving\n7:50 ~ 8:00 - toilet time\n8:00 ~ 8:15 - change clothes, feed fish, does bed\n8:15 ~ 8:30 - walk to class\n\nI have no idea how to minimize the time I spend in the bathroom. Also, during my changing period, time just goes by so fast that I am not sure how it takes me 15 minutes to do all those things. I feel like I need to sleep earlier to compensate, but that would force me to sleep before 12, and that isn't happening for a college student taking all STEM. \n\nAny tips? ", "Waking up early/being efficient in the morning before college classes? During high school I woke up at 5... Now, I can barely wake up at 9 and regularly function even with the same hours of sleep I get compared to high school. I now need to wake up before 8:30 for a morning class and I am struggling to cope with this. I want to maximize the time I get for sleep and minimize the time I need to get ready. \n\nSo far this is my schedule: \n7:30 - 1st alarm, snooze\n7:35 - 2nd alarm, wake up and closes my eyes for 1-2 minutes (very dangerous... so far haven't fallen back asleep)\n7:38~7:40 - look at phone and goes to bathroom\n7:40~7:50 - brushing my teeth, face washing, shaving\n7:50 ~ 8:00 - toilet time\n8:00 ~ 8:15 - change clothes, feed fish, does bed\n8:15 ~ 8:30 - walk to class\n\nI have no idea how to minimize the time I spend in the bathroom. Also, during my changing period, time just goes by so fast that I am not sure how it takes me 15 minutes to do all those things. I feel like I need to sleep earlier to compensate, but that would force me to sleep before 12, and that isn't happening for a college student taking all STEM. \n\nAny tips? " ]

[ "If you know that you gonna need some minutes sitting on the toilet, brush your teeth at the same time ", "Do something every morning that you actually like to do. Personally, I LOVE to read a chapter of my book before I get out of bed. My alarm goes off at 5:30 and instead of thinking \"ugh I have to get up\" I think \"yay I get to read my book!\"", "1) Go to sleep earlier.\n2) Put your alarm somewhere you can't reach it, so that you have to get out of bed to turn it off.\n3) Stop hitting snooze.\n4) ???\n5) Profit", "You spent 20 minutes on laying in bed after your alarms already gone off and only 10 minutes on brushing/shaving/etc. and I spend WAAAAY more time on the toilet. Bruh. Plz. I know good habits aren’t super easy to build but this whole semester I’ve stuck to “get out of bed IMMEDIATELY when my alarm goes off.” No matter how tired I am. No matter how much sleep I actually got. Your body is like a terrorist. You can’t negotiate with it like “5 more minutes.” Do something right EVERYDAY for 1 month and it becomes an ingrained habit. ", "I am halfway through my first semester and to tell you the truth I had the same problem. I stopped drinking energy drinks and coffee recently and it has made a world of a difference. Good luck, hope I could help. ", "Don't make your bed. It'll save hours. Who in the world wastes time making their bed? The only time I do that is when changing sheets. Clean sheets make you feel good. You sound pretty stressed over the mundane. Spark a jibby more. " ]

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[ "how to start convos with the opposite sex without coming off as weird, random, or creepy? I'm in my 2nd year at my university and I've been single for an entire year. I'm a male. I am having trouble meeting girls.. In high school I always had a ton of girls but since college I've had trouble. I'm an average to slightly above average looking guy who's in good shape. I see cute girls in class everyday and everyday at the gym but I don't even know what to say to start a convo or even ask them out. I hate rejection (I've actually never been rejected because I try to avoid it). These girls I see in the gym are my\nIdeal type - in shape and hard workers. How can I slowly start talking to them without coming off as creepy or weird! A lot of them have headphones in too but there's gotta be a way.. I'm outgoing and funny but I just feel like if I go up to someone randomly and talk it'll come off as weird. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips?", "how to start convos with the opposite sex without coming off as weird, random, or creepy? I'm in my 2nd year at my university and I've been single for an entire year. I'm a male. I am having trouble meeting girls.. In high school I always had a ton of girls but since college I've had trouble. I'm an average to slightly above average looking guy who's in good shape. I see cute girls in class everyday and everyday at the gym but I don't even know what to say to start a convo or even ask them out. I hate rejection (I've actually never been rejected because I try to avoid it). These girls I see in the gym are my\nIdeal type - in shape and hard workers. How can I slowly start talking to them without coming off as creepy or weird! A lot of them have headphones in too but there's gotta be a way.. I'm outgoing and funny but I just feel like if I go up to someone randomly and talk it'll come off as weird. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips?", "how to start convos with the opposite sex without coming off as weird, random, or creepy? I'm in my 2nd year at my university and I've been single for an entire year. I'm a male. I am having trouble meeting girls.. In high school I always had a ton of girls but since college I've had trouble. I'm an average to slightly above average looking guy who's in good shape. I see cute girls in class everyday and everyday at the gym but I don't even know what to say to start a convo or even ask them out. I hate rejection (I've actually never been rejected because I try to avoid it). These girls I see in the gym are my\nIdeal type - in shape and hard workers. How can I slowly start talking to them without coming off as creepy or weird! A lot of them have headphones in too but there's gotta be a way.. I'm outgoing and funny but I just feel like if I go up to someone randomly and talk it'll come off as weird. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips?", "how to start convos with the opposite sex without coming off as weird, random, or creepy? I'm in my 2nd year at my university and I've been single for an entire year. I'm a male. I am having trouble meeting girls.. In high school I always had a ton of girls but since college I've had trouble. I'm an average to slightly above average looking guy who's in good shape. I see cute girls in class everyday and everyday at the gym but I don't even know what to say to start a convo or even ask them out. I hate rejection (I've actually never been rejected because I try to avoid it). These girls I see in the gym are my\nIdeal type - in shape and hard workers. How can I slowly start talking to them without coming off as creepy or weird! A lot of them have headphones in too but there's gotta be a way.. I'm outgoing and funny but I just feel like if I go up to someone randomly and talk it'll come off as weird. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips?", "how to start convos with the opposite sex without coming off as weird, random, or creepy? I'm in my 2nd year at my university and I've been single for an entire year. I'm a male. I am having trouble meeting girls.. In high school I always had a ton of girls but since college I've had trouble. I'm an average to slightly above average looking guy who's in good shape. I see cute girls in class everyday and everyday at the gym but I don't even know what to say to start a convo or even ask them out. I hate rejection (I've actually never been rejected because I try to avoid it). These girls I see in the gym are my\nIdeal type - in shape and hard workers. How can I slowly start talking to them without coming off as creepy or weird! A lot of them have headphones in too but there's gotta be a way.. I'm outgoing and funny but I just feel like if I go up to someone randomly and talk it'll come off as weird. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips?", "how to start convos with the opposite sex without coming off as weird, random, or creepy? I'm in my 2nd year at my university and I've been single for an entire year. I'm a male. I am having trouble meeting girls.. In high school I always had a ton of girls but since college I've had trouble. I'm an average to slightly above average looking guy who's in good shape. I see cute girls in class everyday and everyday at the gym but I don't even know what to say to start a convo or even ask them out. I hate rejection (I've actually never been rejected because I try to avoid it). These girls I see in the gym are my\nIdeal type - in shape and hard workers. How can I slowly start talking to them without coming off as creepy or weird! A lot of them have headphones in too but there's gotta be a way.. I'm outgoing and funny but I just feel like if I go up to someone randomly and talk it'll come off as weird. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips?", "how to start convos with the opposite sex without coming off as weird, random, or creepy? I'm in my 2nd year at my university and I've been single for an entire year. I'm a male. I am having trouble meeting girls.. In high school I always had a ton of girls but since college I've had trouble. I'm an average to slightly above average looking guy who's in good shape. I see cute girls in class everyday and everyday at the gym but I don't even know what to say to start a convo or even ask them out. I hate rejection (I've actually never been rejected because I try to avoid it). These girls I see in the gym are my\nIdeal type - in shape and hard workers. How can I slowly start talking to them without coming off as creepy or weird! A lot of them have headphones in too but there's gotta be a way.. I'm outgoing and funny but I just feel like if I go up to someone randomly and talk it'll come off as weird. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips?", "how to start convos with the opposite sex without coming off as weird, random, or creepy? I'm in my 2nd year at my university and I've been single for an entire year. I'm a male. I am having trouble meeting girls.. In high school I always had a ton of girls but since college I've had trouble. I'm an average to slightly above average looking guy who's in good shape. I see cute girls in class everyday and everyday at the gym but I don't even know what to say to start a convo or even ask them out. I hate rejection (I've actually never been rejected because I try to avoid it). These girls I see in the gym are my\nIdeal type - in shape and hard workers. How can I slowly start talking to them without coming off as creepy or weird! A lot of them have headphones in too but there's gotta be a way.. I'm outgoing and funny but I just feel like if I go up to someone randomly and talk it'll come off as weird. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips?", "how to start convos with the opposite sex without coming off as weird, random, or creepy? I'm in my 2nd year at my university and I've been single for an entire year. I'm a male. I am having trouble meeting girls.. In high school I always had a ton of girls but since college I've had trouble. I'm an average to slightly above average looking guy who's in good shape. I see cute girls in class everyday and everyday at the gym but I don't even know what to say to start a convo or even ask them out. I hate rejection (I've actually never been rejected because I try to avoid it). These girls I see in the gym are my\nIdeal type - in shape and hard workers. How can I slowly start talking to them without coming off as creepy or weird! A lot of them have headphones in too but there's gotta be a way.. I'm outgoing and funny but I just feel like if I go up to someone randomly and talk it'll come off as weird. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips?", "how to start convos with the opposite sex without coming off as weird, random, or creepy? I'm in my 2nd year at my university and I've been single for an entire year. I'm a male. I am having trouble meeting girls.. In high school I always had a ton of girls but since college I've had trouble. I'm an average to slightly above average looking guy who's in good shape. I see cute girls in class everyday and everyday at the gym but I don't even know what to say to start a convo or even ask them out. I hate rejection (I've actually never been rejected because I try to avoid it). These girls I see in the gym are my\nIdeal type - in shape and hard workers. How can I slowly start talking to them without coming off as creepy or weird! A lot of them have headphones in too but there's gotta be a way.. I'm outgoing and funny but I just feel like if I go up to someone randomly and talk it'll come off as weird. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips?" ]

[ "The same way you would start a conversation with somebody the same gender as you. It's when you behave differently meeting somebody just because they are a different gender that you will automatically -always- come off as weird, random, or creepy. \n \nWhen you behave differently towards a woman than you would a man, it is instantly obvious that you want something from them that you wouldn't want from a man. So of course they will think you're creepy. Because that's what you're being. \n\nWhen you approach them as if you thought they were a fellow human being, you will seem less threatening, less creepy, and more normal. \n\nAnd you're going to be rejected. Who cares? Forget it and move on. ", "Talk to someone as if a relationship or sex isn't the goal at first. If you have hobbies or interests, consider downplaying how into them you are, until you figure out their interests. \n\nAlso realize that rejection happens for any reason and nobody has gone through life without rejection of some sort. Life is really a series of mistakes that you learn from with occasional lucky breaks.", "A simple did you notice. For example, you are in some class, did you notice X(try something new about the classroom, so they can comment.) Pick up the vibe if they want to continue talking. Start small and build up throughout the semester with open ended questions like how was your weekend? Most people are guarded.", "Start with \"hello\" and then just be your damn self. \n\nAlso, rejection happens. Laugh it off and keep going.", "Go take a look at r/seduction. The amount of solid advice for meeting women on that subreddit is astounding (and not only for a 'hook-up'). I've seen a lot of really grateful people post their experiences and how much that sub has helped. Give it a look!", "as a lady (a fat old lady. but I used to be fit and young) headphones is a signal that I'm just not into chitter chatter at the moment. I'm doing my thing, and don't want to be chatted up. I'd be put off, or defensive if approached while working out for a chat, unless it was a question about the machine or if you could have dibs. I would try approaching them in class or on campus rather then during a workout as in a \"hiya, I think I saw you in the gym? I'm Derek. How are you liking the class? What did you think of XYZ\" You're opening up the door for a conversation, but not while they are preoccupied or having down time/me time. Then maybe they'll recognize you in the gym and approach you for a chat if they are feeling it.", "Read body language. If the girl is at school and has headphones on its a pretty good sign that she is trying to be cut off and not there to socialize. Approaching is going to be a disadvantage and also add negative points to you. \n\n\nFocus on body language. Can't say this enough. If someone does present an open front, glancing at other people, smiling, and other socially open features then approach them. When you talk quickly pick up on how the talk is going. If they close themselves off, then their sides to you, or look away you may have overstepped and back off. If they engage you back, use simple topics that anyone can talk about to break the ice and allow them to get to know your personality. Save the life aspirations and family stories for a date. \n\n\nLastly, if you continually see them, pick up on a social queue such as a book or shared interest and take that route to get involved. If you love the gym and activities then join certain clubs around that to easily have a groundbreaking topic and excuse to engage them if you don't want to just walk up to someone randomly. ", "Good news: You're already 100% of the way there since you can actually say \"hello.\"\n\nFrom there, I personally like to move on to a commonly shared experience. For example, if you're at a bar and you see someone spill a drink on themselves, you could always say something like \"Well, that guy should be cut off.\" Ideally, that'll get a laugh and lead to something of more substance.\n\nI've also (and this requires some serious courage) gone with \"I have no idea where to go from here, but I'm interested in talking to you more.\" It's not nearly as effective, admittedly, but I've seen it work.", "For example: You see a girl you like...but wait! shes doing her exercise wrong (obv in the gym). So without being creepy you just go to her and explain in a POLITE way how to do it correctly. If possible get a smooth joke in there. Then just kinda try to continue talking to her since IF she likes you she WILL continue trying to talk to you too. I know it sounds simple but just dont see it as a challange. Shes just a human like you are she goes on the toilet too to take a shit. Or maybe if possible be like \"hey i saw you hear music do you might have some motivational songs? since pop and gym dont work out\" idk something like that just something normal to ask about so it wont be creepy. Good luck mate!\n\nPS: geting rejected isnt bad...everyone got rejected just dont give a fuck about it. Its a girl how you might just dont be the type shes interested to :)\n\nand sorry for my english (not my native language)", "'don't be ugly' tell that cunt to fu** off. \n\nThat is exactly the type of trash you are trying to avoid!\n\nI'm going to get philosophical on you. The answer to your question is in your question.\n\nYou are asking about the art of conversation. But you don't put the effort into spelling the entire word conversation. \n\nNow I can put this in crude terms. Why would a girl bring you to bed when you have already demonstrated that you are unwilling to finish what you have started?\n\nOr I can put it in more blatant terms. You aren't marriage material. Why should they bother?\n\nTwo years? And you haven't held a door? You haven't shared your notes? You haven't joined a study group? Why in the world would any one date you?\n\nHold a door! Share your notes! Help someone with home work!\n\nI will share 2 stories. My sophomore year at college I was an Adonis. I wasn't average looking. I was the thing that statues were made out of. But I only wanted to talk about math and physics. The issue was I too selfish. Only concerned about myself and my problems. \n\nOn the second time around at school for my Masters, I was covered in girls. It was because I was only concerned about them. What was their homework? How could I help them? Why wasn't anyone holding the door for them?\n\n" ]

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[ "How do I stop touching my face all day? I'm presuming that touching my face constantly is making my spots worse from spreading grease or whatever, any advice?", "How do I stop touching my face all day? I'm presuming that touching my face constantly is making my spots worse from spreading grease or whatever, any advice?", "How do I stop touching my face all day? I'm presuming that touching my face constantly is making my spots worse from spreading grease or whatever, any advice?", "How do I stop touching my face all day? I'm presuming that touching my face constantly is making my spots worse from spreading grease or whatever, any advice?", "How do I stop touching my face all day? I'm presuming that touching my face constantly is making my spots worse from spreading grease or whatever, any advice?", "How do I stop touching my face all day? I'm presuming that touching my face constantly is making my spots worse from spreading grease or whatever, any advice?", "How do I stop touching my face all day? I'm presuming that touching my face constantly is making my spots worse from spreading grease or whatever, any advice?", "How do I stop touching my face all day? I'm presuming that touching my face constantly is making my spots worse from spreading grease or whatever, any advice?", "How do I stop touching my face all day? I'm presuming that touching my face constantly is making my spots worse from spreading grease or whatever, any advice?", "How do I stop touching my face all day? I'm presuming that touching my face constantly is making my spots worse from spreading grease or whatever, any advice?", "How do I stop touching my face all day? I'm presuming that touching my face constantly is making my spots worse from spreading grease or whatever, any advice?", "How do I stop touching my face all day? I'm presuming that touching my face constantly is making my spots worse from spreading grease or whatever, any advice?", "How do I stop touching my face all day? I'm presuming that touching my face constantly is making my spots worse from spreading grease or whatever, any advice?", "How do I stop touching my face all day? I'm presuming that touching my face constantly is making my spots worse from spreading grease or whatever, any advice?", "How do I stop touching my face all day? I'm presuming that touching my face constantly is making my spots worse from spreading grease or whatever, any advice?", "How do I stop touching my face all day? I'm presuming that touching my face constantly is making my spots worse from spreading grease or whatever, any advice?", "How do I stop touching my face all day? I'm presuming that touching my face constantly is making my spots worse from spreading grease or whatever, any advice?" ]

[ "realize that your hands are gross and every time you touch your face you are sharing every surface, hand shake, sneeze, cough, and lord knows what else with your pores. Stop touching your face and you will get sick A LOT less often. Hand to mouth, eyes, ears are the number one vector for getting sick.\n\nIf something itches use the elbow of your shirt or a shoulder. It's a trick I learned from many many years as a scientist that I carry on in the world around me. ", "touch your penis instead\n\nnote: this is not legal advice and I am not a lawyer.\n\n\nNote note: I said YOUR penis", "Wear an elastic band as a bracelet. Every time you catch yourself touching your face pull back on the band and release it, snapping it against your inner wrist enough for it to sting. \n\n\n\nEventually you stop.", "Chop jalapeños every morning. There may be some bumps in the road, but you will stop touching your face,guaranteed. ", "My husband had a mole removed a while back and he'd catch himself subconsciously picking the stitches, and I was worried that it was going to stop it healing.\n\nFor general sitting-around the house we got him a pair of thin driving gloves - just having something on his hands kept him from touching his face. At work he set up a system with a chain of rubber bands hooked to his desk and looped around each wrist. It's hard to describe but it allowed him to easily reach his keyboard and mouse but in order to reach his forehead (where the scab was) he'd be met with resistance from the bands and would have to be more conscious of it.\n\nTry different things - maybe you'd respond to aversion cues like if you catch yourself touching your face you snap your wrist with a hair elastic or go wash your hands thoroughly. Maybe a balaclava is your best bet. (Kidding with that last. Mostly.)", "You should also try to limit your sugar intake (acne feeds off sugar) and moisturize after you shower (your skin dries out in the steam and produces more oil to compensate).", "Some version of [CBT](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_behavioral_therapy), or Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy could do the trick. I think there are some DIY approaches.", "Rip your face off and keep it in a pocket. Put your hand in the pocket and touch your face, they'll never know a thing.", "I noticed that I'm most likely to touch my face when I'm sitting at my desk and I'm tired. So getting in to bed earlier helps me prevent this.\n\nIf you catch yourself touching your face, try to notewhether there is some sort of pattern or reason you end up doing it.\n", "Get a marker and mark one of your fingertips. Your tendency will be to keep your hand away from your face to avoid \"staining\" it", "Easy. You can touch your face as much as you like as long as your hands are clean. So keep your hands clean. \n\nIf you are in public and that's impossible you must say out loud 'I'm a very naughty boy'. You'll soon stop doing it ", "the struggle is real. my ex-partner, every time I'd see her going for the face I'd grab her hand and move it away or if she was out of arms reach I'd \"get your hands away from your face!\"", "What worked for me was putting a note on my computer monitor. I would only pick my face in front of the computer, at work, and it was really messing up my face. I just cut out tiny pieces of post-its and put notes all over my monitor \"Stop picking!\" \"Drink Water!\" \"Stop eating at desk!\" Anyway, it worked for me! ", "This works for me: Everytime you touch your face, pinch yourself somewhere or flick your chin so you associate that pain/unpleasant sensation with touching your face. ", "It might be that you're suffering from Dermatillomania. In case this applies, have a look at [r/CompulsiveSkinPicking](https://www.reddit.com/r/CompulsiveSkinPicking).", "Devote a lot of mental energy to not doing it for a while. It'll be tough. Breaking habits like these are like breaking any other psychological addiction. If you mess up and touch your face again, don't get upset or frustrated. Just acknowledge that you did it, and make a point to remind yourself that you're going to try your best to not do it again.", "1. You know those net bags that onions, oranges, and avocados come in? Put one over your head/face. This will remind you not to touch your face. \n2. If you are just nervous, try chewing gum or sucking ice cubes during the time you usually touch your face. The motion of your mouth will make it awkward to touch your face, and will also remind you that you're not to do that." ]

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[ "How to not raise blood pressure or heart rate during and after confrontation with someone? Sometimes even after half hour my heart beats are elevated after a confrontational situation.", "How to not raise blood pressure or heart rate during and after confrontation with someone? Sometimes even after half hour my heart beats are elevated after a confrontational situation.", "How to not raise blood pressure or heart rate during and after confrontation with someone? Sometimes even after half hour my heart beats are elevated after a confrontational situation.", "How to not raise blood pressure or heart rate during and after confrontation with someone? Sometimes even after half hour my heart beats are elevated after a confrontational situation.", "How to not raise blood pressure or heart rate during and after confrontation with someone? Sometimes even after half hour my heart beats are elevated after a confrontational situation.", "How to not raise blood pressure or heart rate during and after confrontation with someone? Sometimes even after half hour my heart beats are elevated after a confrontational situation.", "How to not raise blood pressure or heart rate during and after confrontation with someone? Sometimes even after half hour my heart beats are elevated after a confrontational situation.", "How to not raise blood pressure or heart rate during and after confrontation with someone? Sometimes even after half hour my heart beats are elevated after a confrontational situation.", "How to not raise blood pressure or heart rate during and after confrontation with someone? Sometimes even after half hour my heart beats are elevated after a confrontational situation.", "How to not raise blood pressure or heart rate during and after confrontation with someone? Sometimes even after half hour my heart beats are elevated after a confrontational situation." ]

[ "Try some breathing techniques, it will surprise you how much a few deep inhales can change your mood.", "Seconding on the breathing techniques. Looking up distress tolerance and utilizing some techniques from there can help and actively trying to manage how you deal with stress on an everyday basis...whether that’s exercise or mediation...it’s all encompassing and can help one better deal with future confrontation.", "Breathing techniques will work.\n\nHonestly though an elevated heart rate and BP for short periods due to stress isn’t anything to worry about.", "Visualize the meeting before hand to induce the feeling on purpose, then it will subside by your actual meeting.", "Total shot in the dark here:\nI believe elevated blood pressure is because your body is simulating a fight or flight scenario, so it's preparing you for that. Maybe try understanding situations that get your heart rate increasing and realize why you labeled them as fight or flight. \n\nI believe once you understand that these situations aren't a life or death event, you'll approach these instances with a calmer head and body.", "Learn how to fight. Even if your heart rate rises it will be comfy for you since your training does the same. You will be able to stay calm and collected.", "I've found that confronting people more helps. Your body is freaking out because your mind thinks everything is not ok. I've started standing up for myself and I don't get so nervous anymore.", "During: take long pauses as you speak. Pace yourself if possible. Be aware of what your pitfalls are, and if you need to return to the conversation at a later time, do that.\n\nAfter: lay down completely and just listen to your breathing, if you’re having short panicked breathes don’t panic, just aim to slow it down. No judgments. No obsessive going over the exchange.\n\nThink of your feelings as just information. If it’s worked you up, just feel it and think, ok there’s something there I need to look at later but can’t right now. \n\nAllow yourself to let it be for the moment.\n\nGenerally: I would recommend reading The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck.", "Don’t let them effect the way you feel or you might not even be in control of yourself. Definitley easier said than done. If it’s leading to physical fight that’s different", "Breathe, count, know martial arts or self defense, also understand some behavior psychology. People can be under the influence, mentally ill. Or they are having a super bad day" ]

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[ "How to prevent hat hair while wearing a Beanie, not just a baseball hat Its winter now, so a lot of people are wearing Wool Beanies to keep warm. How do you keep your hair from sticking to it and looking like an idiot at the office when you take it off?", "How to prevent hat hair while wearing a Beanie, not just a baseball hat Its winter now, so a lot of people are wearing Wool Beanies to keep warm. How do you keep your hair from sticking to it and looking like an idiot at the office when you take it off?", "How to prevent hat hair while wearing a Beanie, not just a baseball hat Its winter now, so a lot of people are wearing Wool Beanies to keep warm. How do you keep your hair from sticking to it and looking like an idiot at the office when you take it off?", "How to prevent hat hair while wearing a Beanie, not just a baseball hat Its winter now, so a lot of people are wearing Wool Beanies to keep warm. How do you keep your hair from sticking to it and looking like an idiot at the office when you take it off?" ]

[ "Are you a Dapper Dan man? That's one way to keep your hair where it's supposed to be, not to mention smelling fresh for days on end.", "I find it's really dependent on how I put a toque on initially. If my hair's messed up with the hat on my head it's going to be messed up when the hat comes off.\n\n", "Dry, styled hair. It's imperative to avoiding hat or helmet head. To avoid static cling or fly-aways, use a serum or hairspray. I carry a travel-sized hairspray in my purse, and when I am ALMOST out of serum at home, I take the remainder to work, and buy a new one for home. Then I can fix any fly-aways if necessary.", "When you say hat hair I take it to mean 'hair which is standing up or sticking out making you look like you just got out of bed' as opposed to flat hair due to the result of wearing a hat for prolonged period if time. What I do when I wear a beanie, is place it on my head slowly,using two hands inside the hat to stretch it out over my head.\nONCE on your head/hair, DO NOT MOVE IT. Moving it puts your hair out of place. If your not happy with how it looks or how's it's fixed, take it off completely and repeat the process.\n" ]

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[ "I have a problem in holding a conversation with people over text messages. So yeah, I am 22 (M) who has problems in holding a conversation over text messages. I am perfectly fine with having a conversation in person. But people have always complained to me that I dont talk to them on Whatsapp and such. I just feel awkward about it and always end up finishing it abruptly.", "I have a problem in holding a conversation with people over text messages. So yeah, I am 22 (M) who has problems in holding a conversation over text messages. I am perfectly fine with having a conversation in person. But people have always complained to me that I dont talk to them on Whatsapp and such. I just feel awkward about it and always end up finishing it abruptly." ]

[ "Not being flippant, but the best thing is to just not do it. Texts should really be informational rather than conversational. It is the most inefficient form of communication after mailing letters or waving those colored flags in specific patterns. ", "It's not my preferred method of contact either. The key is to not care about how you \"sound\" - I used to get very worked up about punctuation and capitalization and I'd worry whether my meaning was being conveyed accurately by what I was typing. \n\nI gave up and my life is so much better. No punctuation in texts, no caps, nothing but words. It's made texting much less stressful." ]

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[ "Study Tips? Basically, got through high school and college without ever studying, so I never learned how. I want to do intense studying now, and am unsure how to proceed. I've heard mind maps, but not sure how you could map out terms where you need the definition (as opposed to concepts) ", "Study Tips? Basically, got through high school and college without ever studying, so I never learned how. I want to do intense studying now, and am unsure how to proceed. I've heard mind maps, but not sure how you could map out terms where you need the definition (as opposed to concepts) ", "Study Tips? Basically, got through high school and college without ever studying, so I never learned how. I want to do intense studying now, and am unsure how to proceed. I've heard mind maps, but not sure how you could map out terms where you need the definition (as opposed to concepts) ", "Study Tips? Basically, got through high school and college without ever studying, so I never learned how. I want to do intense studying now, and am unsure how to proceed. I've heard mind maps, but not sure how you could map out terms where you need the definition (as opposed to concepts) ", "Study Tips? Basically, got through high school and college without ever studying, so I never learned how. I want to do intense studying now, and am unsure how to proceed. I've heard mind maps, but not sure how you could map out terms where you need the definition (as opposed to concepts) " ]

[ "Here is how I do it:\nWhile reading something I imagine how I would explain it to a friend. That helps me for the basic understanding.\nI mark everything important in different colors (like red for definitions, green for examples etc).\nAfter that I write a summary about each topic, where I use the same color system. I always try to write it down in a way I could easily understand it, even if I read it some years later. With that method you will get a collection of good cheatsheets for every topic you have learned and where you can look up things, if cant remember something.", "this year in math class this kid i know barely speaks english. he asks me for help multiple times a period everyday. i always try to help him and make sure he understands fully. this year math has been very easy, even though im 2 years ahead in math. so basically, if you cant teach it to somebody who is clueless, you dont know the material", "I had the same issue - never had to study in HS, finally figured out how to study my junior year of college. Honestly, what worked best for me is making notecards and just going through them a bunch of times until I had them memorized. Now don't just use quizlet or some other computer-type system because the first part of the process is WRITING the cards, and that is huge. I hated that part and that's why I didn't do so well freshman and sophomore years, but you gotta do it! Then repeat them over and over, both ways (e.g. read the definition, give the word; read the word, give the definition) until you've got it perfect. I know it sounds crappy but it works. If you can have a friend quiz you, that makes the whole process more enjoyable than doing it on your own.\n\nThe other thing I did for big exams was type out all my notes super detailed. Then, I'd write out my notes by hand but cut out unimportant things/things that were so common sense I didn't need them. Finally, I'd make a really nice 1-page neat summary. The process of writing my notes multiple times really helped me. This type of studying was better when I had to have a lot of information for each topic, rather than just straight definitions. Here's some photos from 2015 that I took of my process - [https://imgur.com/a/IWAFhoH](https://imgur.com/a/IWAFhoH). You can see the typed page which is the most detailed, and then the second photo where I have more detail (we were learning about aquatic plants/algae, forgive the strange topic haha). I basically would just reiterate everything I knew about each topic as I moved through the notes, then look at what was written to make sure I didn't miss anything. It was a long process, but I aced that exam.", "Here is what I did, you might wanna try it:\n\n1. Intense study\n\nI study for about 30 minutes, then do nothing for 10. That means making tea, or just lying down. No scrolling Facebook or Reddit, no texting. During that 30 minute, don't stop unless you really have to. Mute phone, and put it on the other side of the room.\n\n2. Flashcards\n\nYou can use apps for this, but I prefer making them by hand. One side has a question, other the answer. I started using it for memorizing when learning a language, but it can be used for anything. I keep them in my jacket's pocket, and look through them on the train/tram. Double bonus if you use this to kill time instead of smoking, and get off of cigs in the meantime.\n\n3. Saying stuff aloud\n\nI borrowed this from a programmer meme, and I have a rubber duck. (Named Ferdinand) When I want to check what I studied, I explain the topic to it. It works a lot better then you might imagine. (The meme comes from using rubber ducks when you don't understand why your code doesn't work) For me it works better then explaining it to a friend, since a) I don't have friends and b) nobody can ask helping questions, so you are forced to learn to explain, and understand everything.", "Do you study for exams/university or in general? Cause I think one should adapt ones strategy depending on that. " ]

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[ "How to reduce amount of armpit sweat? So, I'm a young teenager in a uniformed school, in which one of the *required* items of clothing is a huge fucking woolen blazer. I wear anti-perspirant but my armpit sweat still shows through my blazer, and I believe that there is a slight smell that comes from it. \n\nWhat do? (ps summer is pretty hot here, atleast relative to what the temperature normally is here.)", "How to reduce amount of armpit sweat? So, I'm a young teenager in a uniformed school, in which one of the *required* items of clothing is a huge fucking woolen blazer. I wear anti-perspirant but my armpit sweat still shows through my blazer, and I believe that there is a slight smell that comes from it. \n\nWhat do? (ps summer is pretty hot here, atleast relative to what the temperature normally is here.)", "How to reduce amount of armpit sweat? So, I'm a young teenager in a uniformed school, in which one of the *required* items of clothing is a huge fucking woolen blazer. I wear anti-perspirant but my armpit sweat still shows through my blazer, and I believe that there is a slight smell that comes from it. \n\nWhat do? (ps summer is pretty hot here, atleast relative to what the temperature normally is here.)", "How to reduce amount of armpit sweat? So, I'm a young teenager in a uniformed school, in which one of the *required* items of clothing is a huge fucking woolen blazer. I wear anti-perspirant but my armpit sweat still shows through my blazer, and I believe that there is a slight smell that comes from it. \n\nWhat do? (ps summer is pretty hot here, atleast relative to what the temperature normally is here.)", "How to reduce amount of armpit sweat? So, I'm a young teenager in a uniformed school, in which one of the *required* items of clothing is a huge fucking woolen blazer. I wear anti-perspirant but my armpit sweat still shows through my blazer, and I believe that there is a slight smell that comes from it. \n\nWhat do? (ps summer is pretty hot here, atleast relative to what the temperature normally is here.)", "How to reduce amount of armpit sweat? So, I'm a young teenager in a uniformed school, in which one of the *required* items of clothing is a huge fucking woolen blazer. I wear anti-perspirant but my armpit sweat still shows through my blazer, and I believe that there is a slight smell that comes from it. \n\nWhat do? (ps summer is pretty hot here, atleast relative to what the temperature normally is here.)", "How to reduce amount of armpit sweat? So, I'm a young teenager in a uniformed school, in which one of the *required* items of clothing is a huge fucking woolen blazer. I wear anti-perspirant but my armpit sweat still shows through my blazer, and I believe that there is a slight smell that comes from it. \n\nWhat do? (ps summer is pretty hot here, atleast relative to what the temperature normally is here.)", "How to reduce amount of armpit sweat? So, I'm a young teenager in a uniformed school, in which one of the *required* items of clothing is a huge fucking woolen blazer. I wear anti-perspirant but my armpit sweat still shows through my blazer, and I believe that there is a slight smell that comes from it. \n\nWhat do? (ps summer is pretty hot here, atleast relative to what the temperature normally is here.)", "How to reduce amount of armpit sweat? So, I'm a young teenager in a uniformed school, in which one of the *required* items of clothing is a huge fucking woolen blazer. I wear anti-perspirant but my armpit sweat still shows through my blazer, and I believe that there is a slight smell that comes from it. \n\nWhat do? (ps summer is pretty hot here, atleast relative to what the temperature normally is here.)", "How to reduce amount of armpit sweat? So, I'm a young teenager in a uniformed school, in which one of the *required* items of clothing is a huge fucking woolen blazer. I wear anti-perspirant but my armpit sweat still shows through my blazer, and I believe that there is a slight smell that comes from it. \n\nWhat do? (ps summer is pretty hot here, atleast relative to what the temperature normally is here.)", "How to reduce amount of armpit sweat? So, I'm a young teenager in a uniformed school, in which one of the *required* items of clothing is a huge fucking woolen blazer. I wear anti-perspirant but my armpit sweat still shows through my blazer, and I believe that there is a slight smell that comes from it. \n\nWhat do? (ps summer is pretty hot here, atleast relative to what the temperature normally is here.)", "How to reduce amount of armpit sweat? So, I'm a young teenager in a uniformed school, in which one of the *required* items of clothing is a huge fucking woolen blazer. I wear anti-perspirant but my armpit sweat still shows through my blazer, and I believe that there is a slight smell that comes from it. \n\nWhat do? (ps summer is pretty hot here, atleast relative to what the temperature normally is here.)", "How to reduce amount of armpit sweat? So, I'm a young teenager in a uniformed school, in which one of the *required* items of clothing is a huge fucking woolen blazer. I wear anti-perspirant but my armpit sweat still shows through my blazer, and I believe that there is a slight smell that comes from it. \n\nWhat do? (ps summer is pretty hot here, atleast relative to what the temperature normally is here.)" ]

[ "I had exactly this problem. This is how I solved it: \n\n1. Shower at night if you wish, but shower again in the morning before school. Wash your armpits really well when you shower and maybe even wipe a cotton with rubbing alcool on your armpits after you shower to kill any remaining odor causing bacteria. Don't overdo it with the alcool though because it can make your skin dry.\n2. Shave, or at least trim, your armpit hair regularly. Anti-perspirant (AP) needs to be applied directly to your skin in order to work, so if there's a bunch of hair in the way you are directly reducing its efficiency.\n3. Use anti-perspirant (which helps prevent sweating) rather than deodorant (which is basically just perfume).\n4. If you use a stick AP, wipe it clean with a tissue every time time you use it, especially if you re-apply throughout the day and you haven't just showered. Sniff you AP to make sure it smells fresh because bacteria from your armpits may get transferred to it and every time you apply it, you might be making your problem worse. Ideally, use 48h spray AP which can't get contaminated by stinky bacteria. (I like the Dove brand a lot https://www.dove.com/us/en/deodorants/spray.html) \n5. Apply AP to a larger area than you think you need, in other words not just the center of your armpit. Get some a couple inches above and below.\n7. Bonus tip: You can use spray AP on your feet too, it helps keep feet dry and odor-free.\n", "Try also applying your antiperspirant before going to sleep at night. This is the ideal time to apply it. ", "Sounds like you might have hyperhydrosis or something similar - runs in my family. I transitioned off of big-brand deodorant/antiperspirant because the alumnium in it clogs your pores and over time can essentailly make your body \"sweat harder\" to be able to regulate temperature. I stopped wearing deodorant when it wasn't necessary and went with a natural alternative with no anti-perspirant properties (Burt's Bees brand) when I had to. Once I started seeing a significant improvement I moved to an all-natural, anti-perspirant deodorant (Primal Pit Paste sticks) and have never looked back. Good luck!", "I would recommend a [Thompson Tee](http://www.thompsontee.com). They're not perfect, but they reduced my sweat leakage significantly.", "Not sure if you have this in your country but I use a product called Driclor. It's basically an exceptionally strong anti perspirant. You roll it on before bed then wash it off on a morning and it lasts weeks. It can get quite itchy during the night (especially when you first start using it) but it's the only thing I've tried that actually works. I'm now down to applying it once a month and it keeps the sweating at bay. ", "If it is an option, where you have a heavier item of clothing on you can wear a stick on thin liner (woman's thin everyday panty liner) on the inside of your shirt pits. Nobody would be able to see them under your clothes and they would absorb the extra liquid. They are super thin and you wouldn't even notice them inside your shirt.", "Use Mitchum antiperspirant. Amazing. The roll on is my favourite. Put quite a lot on and let it completely dry before you get dressed. ", "Try and use antiperspirants without aluminium and other metals or other inhibitors - your body does everything for a good reason and it can be rather harmful for your cells. Try and disguise it with cologne, or confront the school with this issue saying you're getting hotter than 36/37 degrees C, which is less than optimal for your cell's wellbeing.\n\nSource - BSc in Biomedical Science", "It depends on a lot of factors\n\nADD medicine, such as Adderall, has a common side effect of increased perspiration. That is because amphetamine acts as a vasoconstrictor and increases the body heat, which then prompts the body to sweat. Caffeine drinks also contribute heavily to this.\n\nDrink lots of cool water to help cool your core temp. You can try new anti-perspirants, but if you don't address the root problem, it'll only be a temporary fix\n\n-MD-Dermatology", "I used to sweat a lot as teen. I have heard about schools who require a blazer, it seems amazing. They even have announcements when the blazers can be removed once it goes past a certain date or temperature, it seems like a basic human rights issue to be able to regulate your own heat levels! \n\nTry different anti-perspirant types. I found the dry sticks were the best, but even then it depended on brand. Let it soak right in, use your hand if needs be. Trim your armpit hair. I found sprays really irritated and made me sweat more if anything, rollons are OK but take a long time to dry. Use some the night before as well as in the morning. Also take some time in the toilet to wipe any excess sweat off with toilet paper if you need to during the day. If it gets really bad the doctor can prescribe things for it (some might be available over the counter) but I didn't go down this route. I have heard also they can cause other issues like irritation or excess sweating from elsewhere on the body to compensate. ", "I had exactly this problem! I couldn't wear wear colorful shirts but my friend recommended Driclor .\n\n I don't know if it's available in your country but look it up. It's basically really strong antiperspirant.\n During the first week you apply it every night and later reduce application. It's really itchy when you first aplly it but you can endure it.\nIn my case I stopped sweating almost completely after one week and i apply it once a month now. If you have any questions PM me it's really amazing and it saved my life", "Go to Walmart and get yourself some certaindry, that shit is a wonder. It gets up to 120 degree where I live and I don't sweat under my arms at all when wearing this stuff.", "Change to a better anti-perspirant.\nNot sure which one u are using but i receommend gillette pro-series cool wave antipersperant and deodorant.\n\nSmells good and significantly reduces actual sweat release" ]

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[ "Finals week. **Approaching this next couple of weeks I'd like to hear some life pro tips on how to manage to stay on top during finals week.**\n\nIt just seems like there's never enough time to get everything done. Every hour spent procrastinating seems spent well, and sleeping schedules become a thing of the past. This is my third semester in college so I'd like to know, what are some LPT's for staying sane and in good order, and doing well, during Finals week?", "Finals week. **Approaching this next couple of weeks I'd like to hear some life pro tips on how to manage to stay on top during finals week.**\n\nIt just seems like there's never enough time to get everything done. Every hour spent procrastinating seems spent well, and sleeping schedules become a thing of the past. This is my third semester in college so I'd like to know, what are some LPT's for staying sane and in good order, and doing well, during Finals week?", "Finals week. **Approaching this next couple of weeks I'd like to hear some life pro tips on how to manage to stay on top during finals week.**\n\nIt just seems like there's never enough time to get everything done. Every hour spent procrastinating seems spent well, and sleeping schedules become a thing of the past. This is my third semester in college so I'd like to know, what are some LPT's for staying sane and in good order, and doing well, during Finals week?", "Finals week. **Approaching this next couple of weeks I'd like to hear some life pro tips on how to manage to stay on top during finals week.**\n\nIt just seems like there's never enough time to get everything done. Every hour spent procrastinating seems spent well, and sleeping schedules become a thing of the past. This is my third semester in college so I'd like to know, what are some LPT's for staying sane and in good order, and doing well, during Finals week?", "Finals week. **Approaching this next couple of weeks I'd like to hear some life pro tips on how to manage to stay on top during finals week.**\n\nIt just seems like there's never enough time to get everything done. Every hour spent procrastinating seems spent well, and sleeping schedules become a thing of the past. This is my third semester in college so I'd like to know, what are some LPT's for staying sane and in good order, and doing well, during Finals week?", "Finals week. **Approaching this next couple of weeks I'd like to hear some life pro tips on how to manage to stay on top during finals week.**\n\nIt just seems like there's never enough time to get everything done. Every hour spent procrastinating seems spent well, and sleeping schedules become a thing of the past. This is my third semester in college so I'd like to know, what are some LPT's for staying sane and in good order, and doing well, during Finals week?", "Finals week. **Approaching this next couple of weeks I'd like to hear some life pro tips on how to manage to stay on top during finals week.**\n\nIt just seems like there's never enough time to get everything done. Every hour spent procrastinating seems spent well, and sleeping schedules become a thing of the past. This is my third semester in college so I'd like to know, what are some LPT's for staying sane and in good order, and doing well, during Finals week?", "Finals week. **Approaching this next couple of weeks I'd like to hear some life pro tips on how to manage to stay on top during finals week.**\n\nIt just seems like there's never enough time to get everything done. Every hour spent procrastinating seems spent well, and sleeping schedules become a thing of the past. This is my third semester in college so I'd like to know, what are some LPT's for staying sane and in good order, and doing well, during Finals week?" ]

[ "Schedule yourself, stick to it. Give yourself time for breaks and rewards. I also found post-it notes with things I have trouble remembering places around places I spend time (bathroom mirror,next to kitchen table) help stick those in my brain.", "Some things I recommend:\n\n* Make a list of what you need to do in each class to feel ready\n* Have a good friend change all of your passwords for facebook, reddit, etc\n* Get organized: Have a finals binder or divided notebook organized by each class with the list of what you need to do at the beginning of each section \n* Start thinking positive now, get used to the idea that finals are not bad, that they will help your grade, and how excited you are for them. By starting now, you train your brain to go that way when you are stressed.\n* Study group/area: Get a group of friends together, who are dedicated to studying and set up a room in one of your houses that is ONLY for studying\n\nThose things helped me a lot.", "Maybe a little late, but you'd be surprised at how much of college is just showing up, paying attention, and doing all the work. Do that all semester and finals should be a breeze. ", "It's all about discipline. That's the last thing you want to hear because it's the cause of your procrastination but it's true. Grudge through it this time while sticking 100% to a schedule and if it doesn't work then try something new but if it works then you know what to do next time.", "Go to sleep early so you'll wake up earlier. This means no people around to distract you, since they're all still sleeping. Also, coffee. Energy drinks screw up people's system. And eat healthy, that means learn to make veggies that haven't been frozen or canned. ", "Focus. Be an adult. Study. \n\nSit down, by yourself, turn everything off, and study. That's the only way it gets into your head. \n\nTurn your laptop off. Close the lid. Silence your phone and put it out of arms reach. Across the room or something. You don't need it. Seriously. \n\nIt's easy to think that you need note cards, printed notes, written notes, etc., but they all can only help you by categorizing the information for you to then \"study\" it. \n\nYou have to study. That's all. If you do it more often, it's easier. If you slack early in life, it's harder. \n\nMaking lists and using note-cards is a form of procrastination, if it isn't directly needed. the material is right there in the book, why transcribe it again somewhere else? Wasted time. \n\nWean yourself off of anything aside from your eyes, the book, and maybe pen/paper as much as possible, because if you're in a degree for say, a science like chemistry/biology, you know how much shit you have to remember. Think you're going to have enough time to do that in grad school? Med school? \n\nCoffee helps. Going to bed when your brain hits its limit helps, along with getting up early and studying early. \n\nYou don't need to leave your room; study in your room. So much time is wasted when you have to leave your house. \n\nCook a huge dinner early, use tub-a-ware, and microwave that ish. I don't go out, cook big meals, and microwave the hell out of things. \n\nOh, and have a coffee maker in your room. \n\nStudy different subjects back to back. \"reading\" stuff first, then math based stuff, then reading, then actual application or writing, etc. I can only stuff so much biochem at a time, then I go to something easier like anatomy, then maybe physics (no read, actual application), then back to biochem. \n\nStand up, stretch, and learn to realize when your mind is wandering. \n\nThe only way to get better at it is to actually do it, and focus on doing it for as long as possible. \n\nIf you take a long break like I did at 5 to go hang out with a friend, it'll be 5 hours later and your mind will still be wandering, and you'll still be on Reddit, like I am. \n\n", "As a student I have found the best way to keep stress levels low is to give your self a break. Once I get stressed, I have a hard time working. But I find going out for lunch, sans homework, helps more than anything. It gives your brain time to relax and also when you come back, you have new energy to get things going.\n\nAlso, lists are great for morale. Post-It notes have always been a favorite of mine. Write everything on a separate Post-It and throw them away as they get done. Such a fantastic feeling. :)", "A tip for studying:\n\nThink about what you will need to study. If you have a bunch of written notes, this works amazingly. Turn off your computer. Don't turn the monitor off, turn off the whole thing. I don't know if you are like me, but if I have the computer on while I'm studying I'll just be like \"oh let's take a quick look on reddit\" and soon you're off the studying track and you're wasting time." ]

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[ "How to not live in a mindless fog and be able to actually think in even slightly mentally taxing situations? I can't seem to be able to think in any situation that requires decision-making, like social situations or video games. So basically I immensely suck at everything and CANNOT improve because I am basically an unconscious autopilot that is unresponsive to thoughts.", "How to not live in a mindless fog and be able to actually think in even slightly mentally taxing situations? I can't seem to be able to think in any situation that requires decision-making, like social situations or video games. So basically I immensely suck at everything and CANNOT improve because I am basically an unconscious autopilot that is unresponsive to thoughts.", "How to not live in a mindless fog and be able to actually think in even slightly mentally taxing situations? I can't seem to be able to think in any situation that requires decision-making, like social situations or video games. So basically I immensely suck at everything and CANNOT improve because I am basically an unconscious autopilot that is unresponsive to thoughts.", "How to not live in a mindless fog and be able to actually think in even slightly mentally taxing situations? I can't seem to be able to think in any situation that requires decision-making, like social situations or video games. So basically I immensely suck at everything and CANNOT improve because I am basically an unconscious autopilot that is unresponsive to thoughts." ]

[ "Maybe try listening to binaural sounds on YouTube as they have been associated with higher brain wave stimulation. And m", "stop taking drugs/smoking weed \nstop eating junk food and coke \nstart eating healthy and join the gym \nhealthy body = healthy mind \nexcercise every day and you will feel the change in 2-3 weeks", "Try a change in diet, I did one recently and decided to stay on it permanently, also stopped caffeine entirely, felt like hell for a week but I'm so much more alert in general now, never going back.", "Find a therapist or psychologist to help you counter your negative self-talk. Usually, CBT is found to be effective. It's hard to think when you are busy thinking about how much you suck.\n" ]

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[ "How can someone who gets distracted and bored very easily pick up a hobby like reading books? I've always wanted to read novels, i hated it from a young age. The only book, that i remember, i've ever read is The Da Vinci Code when i was like 13. I've never read any books or novels for school or anything (sparknotes and such method were used). I'm 24 years old now and i would love to read great novels of our time period. I just get so bored of reading. Any tips on how to start reading?", "How can someone who gets distracted and bored very easily pick up a hobby like reading books? I've always wanted to read novels, i hated it from a young age. The only book, that i remember, i've ever read is The Da Vinci Code when i was like 13. I've never read any books or novels for school or anything (sparknotes and such method were used). I'm 24 years old now and i would love to read great novels of our time period. I just get so bored of reading. Any tips on how to start reading?", "How can someone who gets distracted and bored very easily pick up a hobby like reading books? I've always wanted to read novels, i hated it from a young age. The only book, that i remember, i've ever read is The Da Vinci Code when i was like 13. I've never read any books or novels for school or anything (sparknotes and such method were used). I'm 24 years old now and i would love to read great novels of our time period. I just get so bored of reading. Any tips on how to start reading?", "How can someone who gets distracted and bored very easily pick up a hobby like reading books? I've always wanted to read novels, i hated it from a young age. The only book, that i remember, i've ever read is The Da Vinci Code when i was like 13. I've never read any books or novels for school or anything (sparknotes and such method were used). I'm 24 years old now and i would love to read great novels of our time period. I just get so bored of reading. Any tips on how to start reading?", "How can someone who gets distracted and bored very easily pick up a hobby like reading books? I've always wanted to read novels, i hated it from a young age. The only book, that i remember, i've ever read is The Da Vinci Code when i was like 13. I've never read any books or novels for school or anything (sparknotes and such method were used). I'm 24 years old now and i would love to read great novels of our time period. I just get so bored of reading. Any tips on how to start reading?", "How can someone who gets distracted and bored very easily pick up a hobby like reading books? I've always wanted to read novels, i hated it from a young age. The only book, that i remember, i've ever read is The Da Vinci Code when i was like 13. I've never read any books or novels for school or anything (sparknotes and such method were used). I'm 24 years old now and i would love to read great novels of our time period. I just get so bored of reading. Any tips on how to start reading?", "How can someone who gets distracted and bored very easily pick up a hobby like reading books? I've always wanted to read novels, i hated it from a young age. The only book, that i remember, i've ever read is The Da Vinci Code when i was like 13. I've never read any books or novels for school or anything (sparknotes and such method were used). I'm 24 years old now and i would love to read great novels of our time period. I just get so bored of reading. Any tips on how to start reading?", "How can someone who gets distracted and bored very easily pick up a hobby like reading books? I've always wanted to read novels, i hated it from a young age. The only book, that i remember, i've ever read is The Da Vinci Code when i was like 13. I've never read any books or novels for school or anything (sparknotes and such method were used). I'm 24 years old now and i would love to read great novels of our time period. I just get so bored of reading. Any tips on how to start reading?" ]

[ "Audio books. If you have any type of commute it's a God send. I also listen when doing housework or exercising. ", "I'd start by sitting down and trying to read for like, ten, fifteen minutes at a time. See if you can do it and then put down the book and do something else. Do that for awhile then up the time period once fifteen minutes seems easy. eventually, especially if you have a book you enjoy, it'll become hard to put the book down.", "Graphic novels could work for you. There are as many different genres as there are for regular novels. Something for everyone.", "Attention Deficit???\n\nJudging by the answers, none of the respondents have the problem.\n\nProblem with ADD, is that your brain isn't going to be interested in anything you out in front of it, unless.... It finds it interesting.... \n\nYour challenge is figuring out what holds its attention.\n\nI weld, my brain loves that sharp little arc flash. I've found that if I grab one if those book clips with the led light on it, and turn it on, it it kinda acts like a substitute arc. At least for 40 mins.\n\nBut that's me...\n\nYou've got to figure out, what your idiosyncrasies are.", "It was said previously but audio books even if you have a short attention span put your ear phones in and tune out and let be back round noise and after time you will grow a passion for certain authors and types of books", "I'd recommend reading authors like Matthew Reilly or James Patterson. \n\nBoth are very fast paced authors (short chapters, twists to keep you reading) with a great selection of genres and plots. \n\nMatthew Reilly's 'Jack West' series is like the Da Vinci Code crossed with an action movie like the Expendables if you wanted more of that fun pseudo history though. \n\nHope that helps! ", "Get a good bookmark and read a little at a time. It's the only way I've found to be able to finish a physical book. If you have a decent sized tablet, look into ebooks and read them in bed when you wake up but aren't read to get out of bed (this is when I get 99% of my reading time in).", "As many have mentioned Audio books and graphic novels can be a great Segway but in my experience in order to really adapt these methods of reading you need to do what you need to do in any area you want to change your lifestyle: Practice\n\nI'm 28 and read regularly but didn't really start that until I was just out of college. It was 2010, couldn't find a job, lived with mom and dad, and needed a cheap way to kill time, so I started reading the novels I had accumulated and never read. \n\nI treated it like a game. I wanted to become well read (my late grandmother was better read than anyone I knew, literally anyone, even librarians and writers) so I used her as a barometer. I would find out noteworthy authors or titles, make sure they were loosely in line with my interests (your never going to open your mind if you ONLY read ONLY what deeply interests you) and I would time myself in my head.\n\nI have ADHD so sitting at any length of time and doing something that is surface-level-mundane is torture for me so I started out with books I knew I liked. I read the harry potter series like 5-7 times before moving on to great American and European authors. It helped me get the 'motions' of not moving for a while down because I enjoyed the story so much that I could force myself to focus on only the story and block out the restlessness. This is why practice is important. If you aren't naturally good at every facet of something you have to try and find a way to further engage yourself in the less exciting aspects.\n\nTL;DR - audiobooks and graphic novels are great 'gateway reads' imo, but you need to find a way to make practicing reading enjoyable so that its easier and more enjoyable on more lengthy, and adverse reads.\n\nGood Luck!" ]

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[ "How do you remove skunk spray/smell from your body? Got sprayed this morning, tomato soup shower didn't work.", "How do you remove skunk spray/smell from your body? Got sprayed this morning, tomato soup shower didn't work.", "How do you remove skunk spray/smell from your body? Got sprayed this morning, tomato soup shower didn't work.", "How do you remove skunk spray/smell from your body? Got sprayed this morning, tomato soup shower didn't work.", "How do you remove skunk spray/smell from your body? Got sprayed this morning, tomato soup shower didn't work.", "How do you remove skunk spray/smell from your body? Got sprayed this morning, tomato soup shower didn't work." ]

[ "Hydrogen peroxide, dish soap and baking soda. \n\nSource: Got zapped a few years ago - friend suggested it and it worked.", "[Relevant mythbusters episode when Jamie and Adam took a bullet for the team.](http://www.discovery.com/tv-shows/mythbusters/mythbusters-database/skunk-smell/)\n\nHydrogen Peroxide, Baking Soda and Dish Soap was their winning combination.\n\n", "Skunk spray is an oil. Dawn dish detergent is excellent for removing oils. You really don't need anything else. ", "Last time one of our dogs got sprayed, the vet said to wash him with feminine douches. It didn't matter the 'flavor.' It worked.", "Hydrogen Peroxide. It chemically reacts with the skunk spray (H2O2 is very reactive).\n\nTake a bottle of the 3% store stuff and soak the affected area liberally. It may change the hair color a bit, but it sure as heck better than the skunk smell.\n\nMy dog and I know from personal experience.", "Haha, you don't - that's why it's a good defense mechanism. You can try the peroxide stuff though, but there's no total remedy.\n\nWhat does it smell like up close? Always been curious" ]

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[ "What are your pro tips to get to \"the zone\" quickly and easily to start working, instead of procrastinating, on a difficult or boring task? ", "What are your pro tips to get to \"the zone\" quickly and easily to start working, instead of procrastinating, on a difficult or boring task? ", "What are your pro tips to get to \"the zone\" quickly and easily to start working, instead of procrastinating, on a difficult or boring task? ", "What are your pro tips to get to \"the zone\" quickly and easily to start working, instead of procrastinating, on a difficult or boring task? ", "What are your pro tips to get to \"the zone\" quickly and easily to start working, instead of procrastinating, on a difficult or boring task? ", "What are your pro tips to get to \"the zone\" quickly and easily to start working, instead of procrastinating, on a difficult or boring task? ", "What are your pro tips to get to \"the zone\" quickly and easily to start working, instead of procrastinating, on a difficult or boring task? ", "What are your pro tips to get to \"the zone\" quickly and easily to start working, instead of procrastinating, on a difficult or boring task? ", "What are your pro tips to get to \"the zone\" quickly and easily to start working, instead of procrastinating, on a difficult or boring task? ", "What are your pro tips to get to \"the zone\" quickly and easily to start working, instead of procrastinating, on a difficult or boring task? " ]

[ "Before writing papers in college, I would have a glass of wine for inspiration, then switch to coffee to get it done. In the background I would have strictly instrumental music, most likely from older video games because it is meant to be repetitive without being boring and keep the player on task. It was important to keep my background noise, to remind me what I had to get done. \n\nThis is just what I swear by, because I graduated early with honors (and I hate writing papers).", "Firstly, you need to know what causes the procastination. Dont look at what the procrastination appears as (facebook scrolling, others tasks, etc) but understand why youre doing it.\n\nWhatever the answer to the first question is where you need to work on with it. \n\nThink if you were the boss and you needed them to focus, what would you get them to do?", "Some will start the day with the same task, often something simple like cleaning your desk. Just gets the ball rolling.", "Use self care to get in the zone. Whatever that is for you - Exercise, m", "I suggest you tell your friend when the project will be done. Then you may have more motivation to work on it. Studies have found that no matter how much time people are given to finish a large task, they don't start working on it until about 2 weeks before the deadline. Maybe give yourself a goal to meet every 2 weeks? Good luck!", "Break the task down into parts and start doing the smaller parts and before you know it , you're in the zone with the bonus checkout list of smaller done tasks", "Also if you get stuck on how to do it, plan each next action step by step as you go along - sometimes it’s hard to start because you’re not sure the next thing to do and haven’t made it seem easy yet. Taking breaks to plan those steps can fix that.", "The vibe/ setting is crucial for me. I have an office in the house I'm in now, but in my apartment I just had a corner of my bedroom with a desk and some colored lights. Having a space where you only do that task, helps you get in that mindset when you sit down. I pick a color on my lights, put my phone away and go to work. Sometimes a couple hits of some greens help me get into laser focus for when I'm working on a song, but it's not great when I'm studying.", "Make a plan, and attack the easiest elements of it first. Even small successes are motivating, and get you invested in the process.", "Make list of the major things you need to do first thing in the morning.. \"daily goals\" if you will.\n\nIt's already productive and gets you thinking ahead." ]

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[ "How to manage rush hour traffic The drive to and from work is long, tedious and I spend too many hours of my day in my car. How does everyone cope with the drive?", "How to manage rush hour traffic The drive to and from work is long, tedious and I spend too many hours of my day in my car. How does everyone cope with the drive?", "How to manage rush hour traffic The drive to and from work is long, tedious and I spend too many hours of my day in my car. How does everyone cope with the drive?", "How to manage rush hour traffic The drive to and from work is long, tedious and I spend too many hours of my day in my car. How does everyone cope with the drive?", "How to manage rush hour traffic The drive to and from work is long, tedious and I spend too many hours of my day in my car. How does everyone cope with the drive?", "How to manage rush hour traffic The drive to and from work is long, tedious and I spend too many hours of my day in my car. How does everyone cope with the drive?", "How to manage rush hour traffic The drive to and from work is long, tedious and I spend too many hours of my day in my car. How does everyone cope with the drive?", "How to manage rush hour traffic The drive to and from work is long, tedious and I spend too many hours of my day in my car. How does everyone cope with the drive?" ]

[ "Get a gym membership near your job, workout for an hour then drive home. Chances are rush hour will dwindle down by then and you will be home around the same time.", "Changing my start and finish time at work. I've explained to multiple managers/bosses that if they want me at my best, most efficient and focused then I shouldn't be spending large chunks of my day sat in traffic. I like to start work as early as possible at 7-7:30am and finish around 4pm. In every case it's been beneficial to me and the company, generally means I can get in, get the labs set up (I'm a forensic scientist by trade), sort through any overnight issues before the other members of staff get in and get a headstart on overnight customer queries. You'll be amazed at how many companies would love to have that one person who can get in early but they don't ask.", "Audiobooks and podcasts. They keep your mind active on something other than being annoyed with traffic.", "Nobody can make you waste your life in a car. I started looking for apartments or houses near transit to my job to give myself options, and always consider the commute when considering a job offer. For me, I'd rather spend an hour on a train reading or doing work instead of 30+ minutes fighting the apocalyptic traffic around here.\n\nSince I live in a mild climate I started bicycling to work a few years back. I got a little commuter room 10 miles from work and bike in most days, then take the train to my girlfriend on weekends. I ended up saving my sanity and probably my life by figuring out a way to avoid the stress.", "I always have my playlist going and it helps me to stay calm even in traffic jams, additionally its helps to focus that i am alway on the right side of the lane for the \"rettungsgasse\" and i try to find funny number plates.", "Audiobooks. But get them for free by going to your library, getting a library card, downloading Hoopla on your phone and then listen to books.", "Live closer to work. I have a 1.1 mile commute because I hated being in the car for an hour 5/7 days of the week. Also I switched to a schedule where I work 3 12 hour days instead of 5 8 hour days and I can't tell you enough how much better it is.", "Do not drive in the fast lane. \n\nSimply put, everyone thinks that the fast lane is faster based on the name. However, people often get into the fast lane but get stuck there when they need to start merging for their exit. Remember, most freeway exits are on the right-hand side of the freeway.\n\nIf you count lanes from the inside (i.e. fast lane is lane #1) you generally will want to be in lanes 3 or 4. I often choose lane 3 because 4 is often where the on-ramp/off-ramp merges and is the lane with the highest deviation in speed. Lane 3 will often have a smoother flow and less people (primarily because those people are trying to get into the fast lane).\n\nAlso, stay in the lane that you pick to drive in, unless it is clear that you need to leave it. You will not go faster by changing lanes. In fact, unnecessary lane changing is one of the largest contributing factors to traffic congestion.\n\nIf you want to pass the time, find someone who is in an ostentatious car (like a black on black Cadillac Escalade) in the fast lane. Keep track of that person as they change between lanes and become more infuriated by traffic. Then realize traffic only adds a short amount of time to your commute that you can use for audio books, jamming out, or un-stressing from work; all while laughing at the Escalade that can't get ahead.\n\nTo qualify my advice, I live in Southern California and work about 20 miles away from my house. I drive during the 5 o'clock rush hour during the week. On average, driving in the 3 lane is faster by about 15 minutes. Results may vary from state to state but I've noticed it's mostly true everywhere." ]

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[ "Hanging Art in a house with 45° walls I live in an old house that dates back 100's of years and actually used to be a barn, the whole lower level is a garage, which leaves me with almost 100% of my walls a 45° angle. My wife and I have some art we'd like to hang up but can't figure out a good way.\n\nAlso if anybody knows how to put curtains on a triangular window that would be pretty cool too. They are oriented like this\n\n⊿◣", "Hanging Art in a house with 45° walls I live in an old house that dates back 100's of years and actually used to be a barn, the whole lower level is a garage, which leaves me with almost 100% of my walls a 45° angle. My wife and I have some art we'd like to hang up but can't figure out a good way.\n\nAlso if anybody knows how to put curtains on a triangular window that would be pretty cool too. They are oriented like this\n\n⊿◣" ]

[ "what about large images spread across in separate frames, like [this.](https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/e2/15/a1/e215a1e82a8f9ddec8b1e6043165fd64.jpg) And then have a tiny LED pointing at the images for light.\n\nOh, and you can start growing a [money plant](http://www.thehindu.com/multimedia/dynamic/01235/13PPMONEY_PLANT_1235477f.jpg). ", "Like [this](http://www.houzz.com/photos/1261236/2012-Showcase-House-Room-2low-resjpg-eclectic-home-office-san-francisco)? Comments say velcro for small pics and metal cleats (?) for larger ones.\nFor the curtains, you'll probably need specially mitre-cut curtains, like [this](https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/69/8d/3a/698d3aaad0392e14d4159e462c53c57c.jpg)" ]

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[ "Getting cell-phone and wallet \"fades\" out of jeans pockets Is there a way to remove the fades that develop in pockets of jeans over time? You know what I'm talking about - that outline of the cell phone or wallet, so you're left with this annoying square shape on your jeans. \n\nDo they make any kind of colored pens like a \"tide pen\" that could help?", "Getting cell-phone and wallet \"fades\" out of jeans pockets Is there a way to remove the fades that develop in pockets of jeans over time? You know what I'm talking about - that outline of the cell phone or wallet, so you're left with this annoying square shape on your jeans. \n\nDo they make any kind of colored pens like a \"tide pen\" that could help?", "Getting cell-phone and wallet \"fades\" out of jeans pockets Is there a way to remove the fades that develop in pockets of jeans over time? You know what I'm talking about - that outline of the cell phone or wallet, so you're left with this annoying square shape on your jeans. \n\nDo they make any kind of colored pens like a \"tide pen\" that could help?" ]

[ "Its a thinning of the fabric. You could find something to color match, but that part will still fade. Maybe try buying clothing dye and just dying the whole pair??", "The fading is on the front pockets, not back. And these aren't the kind of fades that look trendy - it's more like the way a \"condom ring\" looks in a wallet...an annoying shape. The dye idea seems to be the best bet, because obviously natural thinning from washing is different.", "I've known people who wait years to get the perfect dip circle in their back pocket and you insult them by calling it a problem. Just kidding, why are marks on jeans a problem?" ]

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[ "How to care for friends who are deathly afraid around needles while they are getting their vaccine? I am taking my girlfriend and my roommate to get vaccinated soon and they have both fainted while getting shots in the past. Are there any techniques I can try to help them stay calm and/or distracted while getting the shot? Like just off the top of my head I would imagine trying to have us maintain eye contact with each other and avoid looking at the needle would help but beyond that I don't really know where to begin.\n\n", "How to care for friends who are deathly afraid around needles while they are getting their vaccine? I am taking my girlfriend and my roommate to get vaccinated soon and they have both fainted while getting shots in the past. Are there any techniques I can try to help them stay calm and/or distracted while getting the shot? Like just off the top of my head I would imagine trying to have us maintain eye contact with each other and avoid looking at the needle would help but beyond that I don't really know where to begin.\n\n", "How to care for friends who are deathly afraid around needles while they are getting their vaccine? I am taking my girlfriend and my roommate to get vaccinated soon and they have both fainted while getting shots in the past. Are there any techniques I can try to help them stay calm and/or distracted while getting the shot? Like just off the top of my head I would imagine trying to have us maintain eye contact with each other and avoid looking at the needle would help but beyond that I don't really know where to begin.\n\n", "How to care for friends who are deathly afraid around needles while they are getting their vaccine? I am taking my girlfriend and my roommate to get vaccinated soon and they have both fainted while getting shots in the past. Are there any techniques I can try to help them stay calm and/or distracted while getting the shot? Like just off the top of my head I would imagine trying to have us maintain eye contact with each other and avoid looking at the needle would help but beyond that I don't really know where to begin.\n\n", "How to care for friends who are deathly afraid around needles while they are getting their vaccine? I am taking my girlfriend and my roommate to get vaccinated soon and they have both fainted while getting shots in the past. Are there any techniques I can try to help them stay calm and/or distracted while getting the shot? Like just off the top of my head I would imagine trying to have us maintain eye contact with each other and avoid looking at the needle would help but beyond that I don't really know where to begin.\n\n", "How to care for friends who are deathly afraid around needles while they are getting their vaccine? I am taking my girlfriend and my roommate to get vaccinated soon and they have both fainted while getting shots in the past. Are there any techniques I can try to help them stay calm and/or distracted while getting the shot? Like just off the top of my head I would imagine trying to have us maintain eye contact with each other and avoid looking at the needle would help but beyond that I don't really know where to begin.\n\n", "How to care for friends who are deathly afraid around needles while they are getting their vaccine? I am taking my girlfriend and my roommate to get vaccinated soon and they have both fainted while getting shots in the past. Are there any techniques I can try to help them stay calm and/or distracted while getting the shot? Like just off the top of my head I would imagine trying to have us maintain eye contact with each other and avoid looking at the needle would help but beyond that I don't really know where to begin.\n\n", "How to care for friends who are deathly afraid around needles while they are getting their vaccine? I am taking my girlfriend and my roommate to get vaccinated soon and they have both fainted while getting shots in the past. Are there any techniques I can try to help them stay calm and/or distracted while getting the shot? Like just off the top of my head I would imagine trying to have us maintain eye contact with each other and avoid looking at the needle would help but beyond that I don't really know where to begin.\n\n" ]

[ "I went to a blood test and the lady who did my test gave me a photo with a forest and it said find 10 wolves. I found 8 wolves. The test was done.", "Give them something else to focus on. I *hate hate hate* needles, but I can do okay with a vaccination if I look the other way and don't think about or pay attention to what they are doing over there.\n\nOne technique is to relax your arms but concentrate on wiggling your toes inside your shoes.", "I'm not a fan of needles either. I have had both doses of Pfizer. I felt the bandaid being put on more than the needle. Have them start a conversation with the nurse. Before they know it, it will be all over.", "When I give shots, you get a small arm massage and a conversation that takes your mind off of what I am doing. I will take the toe-wiggling and marching in mind as more things to use to help people feel more comfortable!", "This is my experience, and I’ve spoken others who had the same: after my first dose, I honestly couldn’t believe they gave me the injection. I had a bandaid on my arm, but no other “evidence” until my arm got achy the next day. When I went for my second dose, I watched to see for myself! I didn’t feel either injection, even the one I watched. \n\nIf you distract them, they won’t even know.", "Play it up as if you're distracting them for real, but instead of the actual needle, just give them a little pinch on the arm with your fingernails. Then when they pass out, do the actual injection, should only be a few seconds. They come to, and all is done. \n\nOr have them looking away and say you're going to ice their arm for a couple minutes to numb it. When they're not looking, just do the injection. It's like the 3, 2, 1 trick where you do the thing on 3 instead of 1.", "I am deathly afraid of needles (similar episodes of fainting as well) and got my vaccine. The first woman that gave me the first dose saw how visibly freaked out I was and didn’t tell me when she was going to do it. She just did it and got it over with. Then she had me move my legs and feet - sort of like a marching motion. And then rolling my shoulders. It was nice to have something else to focus on! And it worked because I didn’t get faint at all, even when walking over to the rest area. Might not work for your peeps but it could be worth a shot! I was much more calm for the second one since I had a positive first dose and also didn’t pass out with the second dose. \n\nAlso, and this is very important, PLEASE tell them you don’t like needles and may faint!! They may have a private area for you to get your shot if you think you will pass out. They will know what to do to help you before, during, and after your shot. Best of luck!!!", "Given the distancing and protocols of vaccination sites... why do you think you're going to be allowed to accompany them for this?" ]

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Talking with my SO didn't help and the more I try to just stop thinking about it the more I seem to obsess. \n\nAre there any tips for shutting that monologue off or just forgetting about it till tomorrow so I can sleep?", "what is a good way to turn my internal monologue off after a stressful day? Ever since getting home I have been uselessly obsessing over something that happened at work. Talking with my SO didn't help and the more I try to just stop thinking about it the more I seem to obsess. \n\nAre there any tips for shutting that monologue off or just forgetting about it till tomorrow so I can sleep?", "what is a good way to turn my internal monologue off after a stressful day? Ever since getting home I have been uselessly obsessing over something that happened at work. Talking with my SO didn't help and the more I try to just stop thinking about it the more I seem to obsess. \n\nAre there any tips for shutting that monologue off or just forgetting about it till tomorrow so I can sleep?", "what is a good way to turn my internal monologue off after a stressful day? Ever since getting home I have been uselessly obsessing over something that happened at work. Talking with my SO didn't help and the more I try to just stop thinking about it the more I seem to obsess. \n\nAre there any tips for shutting that monologue off or just forgetting about it till tomorrow so I can sleep?", "what is a good way to turn my internal monologue off after a stressful day? Ever since getting home I have been uselessly obsessing over something that happened at work. Talking with my SO didn't help and the more I try to just stop thinking about it the more I seem to obsess. \n\nAre there any tips for shutting that monologue off or just forgetting about it till tomorrow so I can sleep?", "what is a good way to turn my internal monologue off after a stressful day? Ever since getting home I have been uselessly obsessing over something that happened at work. Talking with my SO didn't help and the more I try to just stop thinking about it the more I seem to obsess. \n\nAre there any tips for shutting that monologue off or just forgetting about it till tomorrow so I can sleep?" ]

[ "I do the *summary-being thankful-stupid pillow* routine.\n\nOne of the hosts of Good Mythical Moorning said this thing which really rang true with me, considering I was obsessing on things before bed. He said \"the moment my head hits the pillow I turn stupid, man\"\n\nIt's super easy to do.\nJust imagine that there's a secret switch in your brain and the moment your head touches the pillow, all thoughts are off. Keep guard for a bit so that no other thoughts creep in and after a while, you'll do it with ease.\n\nNow I did that, it worked a charm to turn off the thought fountain but I somehow woke up not well rested and confused.\nSo what I then found out is that **being thankful& routine** are the best things in the world at that time.\nI lay my head down and think about how the day went very shortly \"went to work - had that thing, then we fixed the other stuff, then came home, had that for dinner, played X game for a few hours, watched that show etc. It was a good day. Tomorrow I have this-that-and the other to do, etc.\" Then I say \"today was a good day\" again. At that moment, I raise my head and when it touches the stupid-pillow again, I rest.\n\nWorks every time, I sure hope you give it a try.\n\n", "There's this Buddhist technique I once encountered and I still use it. You can do this anywhere. Just close your eyes and imagine yourself sitting in a room, park bench, anywhere. Now bring whatever your object of thought is in front of yourself. If it's a thought without a figure, attach it to some related image or just write it on a sticky note in your imagination and bring it in front of you. \n\nThe key here is to m", "Smoke some weed when you're settled at home. It's the only thing that's worked for me or valium, but not as natural.", "I just did the headspace one and it was quite nice. I actually feel a bit calmer now than before. Though I think in future I'll try this in the morning as opposed to the evening just to start the day calm. Thank you for this.", "I've been reading (fiction novels, usually) in bed for a couple of hours before I go to sleep every night since I was a kid, and have never had the racing thoughts problem. By the time I'm tired enough to turn off the light, my brain is too tired to grief me.\n\n Just make sure you've got your jammies on, teeth brushed, water on the side table, cat put out, etc before you climb in to bed for reading time.", "I like to put on a familiar playlist (music, movies, podcast, audiobook, etc) at a very low volume. Something loud enough to understand the words but not loud enough to keep me awake. The familiarity helps to drown it out when I sleep, but being just loud enough to hear the words helps to drown out my own thoughts.\n\nAlso, knowing how long the playlist is helps to keep track of the time when I really can't sleep, so that if I lay awake for what feels like forever, I know it's actually only been twenty minutes without having to open my eyes to find the clock. And in the instance of a playlist over a few hours long, I can tell how long I've slept by what's playing (or not) when I wake up.", "I don't want to be crude, but masturbation. It's how I get to sleep most nights. It relieves stress and the hormones knock me out.", "1) take a moment to think about why you're stressing over whatever this. \"Bad day\" doesn't cover it. \"I hate that I made that mistake. It was dumb. It makes me feel dumb\" whatever. Admit that nasty thing. Don't dwell, just get to the bottom of the bad mood. Then go do some of the things below:\n\n- m", "Same problem here. My solution= drown those thoughts with other stuff (usually I keep videogames til I'm too tired to keep my eyes open. Then, as soon as I lay down, I fall asleep). Problem= i end up staying awake til 3,4 sometimes 6 in the morning... ", "Free associate. I call it, ADD-ing out.\n\nWhen I'm having trouble stopping my thoughts from going wild and want to go to sleep, I let my brain jump from topic to random topic indefinitely until I suddenly am asleep.\n\nWork today was hard->like office space->red stapler->I used to have a swing line in middle school->mythology test in 6th grade->cartoon movie hercules.....\n\nWorks incredibly well for me.", "This intrigues me. I have difficulty just stopping the thoughts maybe the being thankful step will help with that.", "Think of a favorite book and daydream about making a movie out of it. Cast the characters how you want. Imagine yourself in a role if you like. Write and rewrite the story however you wish. \n\nThe idea seems simple but it isn't always easy. You're focusing all of your thought away from the present and any factors that may induce anxiety and keep you awake. You're also placed into a calmer and happy state of mind. \n\nI used to hate going to bed and would take hours to fall asleep. Now I don't mind going to bed and I fall asleep in about 15 minutes. The only time I have trouble sleeping is if I don't actually get any exercise throughout the day. ", "Stop running and face it. Ask yourself why the things are so important to you that you can't stop thinking about it. The enemy you know and understand is much less frightening.", "I workout or run for about two hours. When i run i get the running high and makes me want to run even more. Sometimes i run two hours. Then when i get back home i sleep like a baby.", "I just try to keep myself distracted. I was the same way working with my last company. Thinking about little BS all day. What I started was taking competitive gaming a little bit more seriously then I did before. That's just how I distracted myself, everyone has their own way. ", "First get a fan or white noise generator. Second, make sure you have everything ready before you go to sleep. Glass of water by the bed, clothes laid out for the next morning, lunch made, etc. This cuts down on distractions and stress.\n\nFinally, once you're all comfortable in bed, rub one (or more) out. The trick here is to minimize cleanup time to a few seconds. Have a towel ready to go, so once you're satisfied you can roll right over and let the dopamine release carry you to sleep.", "swag out of control during the day, you will be so spent by the time you get to bed you will go straight to sleep", "Workout...hit the weights...those will make you too tired to even think of anything outside of \"water..tired..sleeep!\"\n\nDead serious...start hitting the gym and workout hard. No way a person will think of anything else when exhausted after a workout... ", "When I get like this, I will song a song to myself over and over in my head. I usually use Mary Had a Little Lamb because it has a ton of verses to it. Couple of times and I'm calm and able to fall asleep", "This kind of goes along with many other of comments but I dumpster my thoughts. I lay down or sit (sometimes if it's bad enough I'll sit somewhere to do this before laying in bed) and picture myself in an empty lot. It's a parking lot with nothing and nobody except me, my thoughts, and this dumpster. I then imagine that I'm running into these thoughts head on in a flow and that's problem number 1. So I imagine that I move to the side of the flow, allowing the thoughts to flow by without flooding me. From there I see what these thoughts and find the ones that are bugging me. I pick these thoughts out of the flow as they are the ones reoccurring and keep this flow going. I take these thoughts and then proceed to throw them in the dumpster. Once I have them inside, I lock it. The final step is that I push this big heavy dumpster to the edge of the lot and right down the side of this giant ass cliff. What's left is my empty mind observing my environment which is usually my dogs snoring, and I can drift off as the sound starts to sound more distant.\n\nI often have night terrors that live up to the name which sometimes make me fear sleep so for me this has taken alot of practice and I always take guard to make sure that the thoughts don't come back and if they do then I do it again until it works. Good luck out there!", "This is a m", "There's this great app called Calm, it's a bit like Headspace but with way more features and options. It's saved me from countless breakdowns and sleepless nights and I don't know what I'd do without it, can't recommend it enough. ", "Thank you everyone for all the support and help with my problem. You have all given me tools to help with any stress in the future. Thank you all very much.", "Sometimes weed helps, sometimes it sends me on a runaway train to crazytown. Your mileage will vary.", "Simply bringing awareness to it can help.\n\nWhen you catch yourself thinking about these things, acknowledge it, and say \"Okay, I'm not going to think of these things anymore\". This will probably give you some mental stillness for a while, and naturally your mind might wander back. If that happens, acknowledge this again and tell yourself again that you are going to not think about them. Eventually your mind will find it easier to be calm and still.\n\nAnother thing that helps could be to think about a list of things that you are grateful for instead of focusing on things that stress you out.", "Parties and drugs. But that's not a solution. What you want is called \"being at peace\" and for that you need to address all the shit that causes you internal monologue to not be at peace. Work, family, money. All of these things trouble your mind because even though they are integral in defining who you are and your place in this world they are fragile an ephemeral. \n\nM", "One thing that sank in for me is to not try and fight the thoughts or push them out of your head. Let them \"pass through\" don't focus on them. Let your mind be how it is, but try and let yourself take more of an observer role rather than a participant. Sometimes it takes a few minutes for your mind to calm, but when you don't dwell on the thoughts, they start to decrease. ", "My mom recommends this for turning it off while trying to go to sleep, but it could be a useful exercise generally. Mentally picture a chalk board that has all your concerns written on it, then visualize yourself wiping all those things off with an eraser. \n\nSounds silly, but I can actually feel a load lifted off my brain when I do that exercise. ", "Mindless tv. I like Star Trek series currently watching ds9. As soon as that slow intro music kicks in i can feel my brain resetting. This shuts off any internal monologue for me.", "If you are open to taking supplements, there is one that is available at most major Grocery stores.\n\n5-HTP. It helps promote a calm relaxed mind. I used to take it prior to work, since I worked at a high stress level job at the time. It helps stay level headed throughout the day. It makes a great sleep aid too.", "I'm not sure this will help, but it works for me with my art practice. Keep a work journal, and write in it every day after work. Write about what you did, what went wrong, what went right, and why. Make a list of things you need to do, and how you can accomplish them if they seem especially difficult or complicated. You can even take it a step further and SWOT it out (strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, threats). It takes a bit to get used to it, and you might feel at a loss for what to write, but the more you work it the more it works. ", "I use my drive home from work as a time to vent. I can rant and rave (if necessary) and as long as I drive safely it works well. I find it helpful to talk about it out loud. Sometimes a few minutes longer on the road is necessary. The good news is, you are doing the speed limit and you look like you are singing along to your favorite song. By the time I get home I'm all talked out. I don't want to deal with it any more and I don't! If it does come to mind any time during the evening or at bedtime, I remind myself that I will think about on the ride into work the next morning. Keep the promises you make to yourself, have a happy evening without being preoccupied with work, and still feel like you are dealing with the issue. Don't turn the key to the ignition off until you're ready to leave it there (in the car). Trust me, if it's a big issue it will be there in the morning. All the more reason for you to approach it refreshed the next day. ", "I use an app called headspace, which is a m", "I take up to 30 minutes to write about my day and the things I'm thinking about in a journal. The next morning I skim it to see if there is anything important, eg. buy toilet paper, and I will put it on my to do list. It helps clear my mind that night and remember things I need to do when I wake up the next morning. I would say the first few nights to give yourself more time to write since you have a kind of backlog of all of the things that are spinning around in your mind. A big thing though is to not give yourself too much time which would keep you up, but not too little time where your mind is still obsessing over something. While 30 minutes does it for me, other people might need a longer or shorter time. Also on really bad days I give my self a little more time since I need to write a lot more out. ", "I imagine a bubble expanding in my head, pushing all of the thoughts out. Inside the bubble there are no random or fleeting thoughts, just thoughts that I want. In other words, just thoughts with no internal monologue. It's pretty easy to do, but kind of hard to maintain for any length of time at first, but it gets easier quickly. You'll notice yourself losing concentration and letting things slip through. Once the things that slip through aren't important or bothersome, you can just let the bubble go and drift off ", "I find that, when my head won't stop spinning, studying Japanese calms me down. I keep my Japanese textbooks out on the desk all the time, just for this. It doesn't have to be studying Japanese, of course, but maybe having some other mind-occupying, readily available, productive hobby available could be a good outlet for you as well.", "I find reading helps when \nI can't seem to m", "I find doing a piece of intense exercise helps a hell of a lot whenever I get stressed. It doesn't matter if it's a 10 minute run, or a load of sit ups, it always gets rid of my internal monologue.\n\nThe side effect of this however is, you'll also be in a lot better shape if you get stressed a lot. ", "I designated an internal voice to tell me to cut that crap out and that it's not productive, and there's no good to he gained from it. That all it'll accomplish is to drag my blood pressure back up. Helpful for me is having it be a tv/movie character I'd Trust if they were real. ", "Give your brain time to process your thoughts OTHER THAN while you are getting ready for bed. Don't look at your phone while you're in the bathroom. Don't watch TV right before bed. Your brain needs to process stuff, and if you never give it free reign until bedtime, when else is it going to do its processing?", "Find something to focus on. Cooking. Sex. Music. Tv. Games. Sex.\n\nDive in headfirst for a bit, get out of work headspace, come up for air and have a lovely evening after.", "Find something that you enjoy doing and find time to do whatever that is after you get off work or finish what responsibilities you have. It's usually best if it is something you have to be physically or mentally active with little dead time.", "Do a quick mental routine. Think of 3 things you're grateful for. Don't just think about them. Try to feel them.\n\nThen think of your favorite recent memory with a family member.\n\nThen think about what you love most about your favorite book.\n\nThese are just examples. Think about things that will entirely redirect both your thoughts and your emotions.", "Buy a small bar of chocolate. Sit outside. Eat the chocolate and focus on how delicious it is. Smile and breath.", "Browse Reddit? /s\n\nI \"write\" stuff in my mind. The ABCs, numbers, the thing that's on my mind, whatever. Imagine a chalk board and slowly working each letter in your mind. No cheating by visualizing the whole word at once, you actually have to draw every letter, the shower the better. I guess this helps reduce the thoughts from ideas or words into a slow, tedious, repeatative action and turns the focus away. \n\nTo me it's the same concept as counting sheep. Don't just imagine sheep jumping a fence and thinking numbers as fast as you can. Slowly paint a picture in your mind and focus on every detail.", " I don't try to turn it off as much as separate myself from it. My m" ]

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[ " Recently I was involved in a rollover accident and I can't stand driving or basic day to day activities that would be normal for me. \nThis accident keeps me anxious 24/7 and I just want everything to be normal again can someone help?", " Recently I was involved in a rollover accident and I can't stand driving or basic day to day activities that would be normal for me. \nThis accident keeps me anxious 24/7 and I just want everything to be normal again can someone help?", " Recently I was involved in a rollover accident and I can't stand driving or basic day to day activities that would be normal for me. \nThis accident keeps me anxious 24/7 and I just want everything to be normal again can someone help?", " Recently I was involved in a rollover accident and I can't stand driving or basic day to day activities that would be normal for me. \nThis accident keeps me anxious 24/7 and I just want everything to be normal again can someone help?", " Recently I was involved in a rollover accident and I can't stand driving or basic day to day activities that would be normal for me. \nThis accident keeps me anxious 24/7 and I just want everything to be normal again can someone help?" ]

[ "Need to understand the rarity of the event you just experienced. Find a way to come to terms with the ordeal. If it was a mistake you made acknowledge it and think of ways to avoid it next time. I have been in a rollover and other traumatic events. Personally I do not dwell on past events. I am always confident things will work out. All you can do is learn from the past and move forward knowing your the better for it. Hope this helps in some way.", "Unfortunately it is a part of who you are now, and you likely will never forget it. Your best option is reframing it. Right now you think of it as a traumatic experience, so that is how you react to it every time it comes to mind. Can you write down the bare bone facts of what happened, then put them together in a story that maybe teaches a lesson, or is even a little funny? In doing so, you will stop being the victim of the event, and become the person who overcame it, or the person who laughed in the face of it.", "Journal about it. Literally get those thoughts out of your head and onto the paper. It works. I've been dealing with anxiety this way pretty much my entire life.", "Go see a doctor, you may have post traumatic stress disorder. My husband was diagnosed with this after he witnessed a horrific car accident ", "Basically you are going through is PTSD, with anxiety as the main effect. Anxiety is tricky, because it's completely a mind game. You don't want to fight what you are feeling, you want to take it in head on and process what happened. What you need to do is control your mind. I have a simple philosophy on this; being anxious has never had any effect on the outcome of any given situation, so why even be anxious at all? What you have to realize is that you aren't going to get in to an accident every time you drive. How may times have you driven or been in a car without getting into an accident? More times than you have been in an accident. Chances are slim that you'll ever expirience something like that again. Now that you have accepted that you aren't in any danger, you need to keep yourself relaxed. Deep breaths, in through your nose and out your mouth, while using your belly to breathe, tricks your mind in to thinking you're calm. You can actually feel a sensation of calmness when you do deep, slow breaths. Your mind will stop racing, and your heart will slow down too, and you'll feel normal again. A HUGE part of all of this is an open mind to that these tricks will actually work. Again, the mind is tricky, and if you don't think these tricks will work, they just won't. They work for me because I gave them a chance and kept giving them a try. Now when I do deep breaths, subconsciously I know it's time to relax. Another key is to do these tricks even when you aren't anxious, that way they become second nature and your mind already knows what to do. I hope this helps, and feel free to PM me if you'd like to talk more. Sorry for the wall of text lol\n\nTl;dr - Control your mind with deep breaths and rational thoughts, and practice relaxation until it's second nature. You will feel better soon enough!" ]

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[ "Blowing your nose How does one blow his or her nose completely into a tissue and not all over his or her upper lip? TIA. ", "Blowing your nose How does one blow his or her nose completely into a tissue and not all over his or her upper lip? TIA. " ]

[ "Hold the tissue against the bottom of the nose. I've noticed at work (hospital) a lot of people hold the tissue at the sides of their nose. Doing this leaves the bottom to just flail germs about as they blow into it, and doesn't catch everything. If it feels 'unnatural' for you to not hold it at the sides of the nostril use your middle finger to push the tissue against your lip/philtrum.", "Hold the tissue under and slightly pressed against your nostrils with your thumb and forefinger. With the other hand, close one nostril and blow out the other. Reverse and repeat. Repeat a third time if you're an alien." ]

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[ "How to deal with job/college burnout? Recently I had a burnout problem with college, the problem is that I was doing hospital internship and if I don't go the patients may not get treatment.\n\nI thought a lot if it was a problem with not liking the area, but I noticed that I felt similar with every other job I had. My first job where I did literally nothing, college where I have a busy job, and with a personal project I do during my free that, that is my \"perfect job\". \n\nThe difference with the project is that I only work on it 3 days a week and may take a day off whenever I want, but in college (and any future job) I'll need to work at least 5 times a week and can't take a day off just because \"I'm not feeling it\".\n\nI'll go back to college in one week and still wondering what I can do to avoid the burnout. It's just more 6 month until I graduate!\n\nI want to reinforce that it's not because I dislike my area, so \"look for another college/area\" is not an option.", "How to deal with job/college burnout? Recently I had a burnout problem with college, the problem is that I was doing hospital internship and if I don't go the patients may not get treatment.\n\nI thought a lot if it was a problem with not liking the area, but I noticed that I felt similar with every other job I had. My first job where I did literally nothing, college where I have a busy job, and with a personal project I do during my free that, that is my \"perfect job\". \n\nThe difference with the project is that I only work on it 3 days a week and may take a day off whenever I want, but in college (and any future job) I'll need to work at least 5 times a week and can't take a day off just because \"I'm not feeling it\".\n\nI'll go back to college in one week and still wondering what I can do to avoid the burnout. It's just more 6 month until I graduate!\n\nI want to reinforce that it's not because I dislike my area, so \"look for another college/area\" is not an option." ]

[ "Ok as unusual responses go … here’s my 2 cents …\n\nI ran into this feeling towards the end of uni/College and was suggested “The Tao of Pooh and the Te of Piglet” by Benjamin Hoff. \n\nI didn’t have a clue what Tao was but I read it on the bus to and fro (from school to prac etc)\n\nI found it was helpful as it provided me with a different perspective on HOW to think about difficulty and adversity in my life and how to accept that some things aren’t going to be the best (and that’s ok). Eg. I’d never run across the ancient story of the ‘vinegar tasters’ before but (and I won’t ruin it if you haven’t heard it) it did make a good point about life in general.\n\nI was able to change the way I thought… and it was the way I was thinking about what I was doing…. And not what I was doing (in an of itself) that was the problem.\n\nBest wishes for finding a suitable solution to your present problem.", "To explain better:\n\n-My first job was temporary, so I managed to work during an year (until the end of the contract)\n\n-I started college a few year after my job ended. It was easier to deal because I just had to \"do well during exams\", but now I need to deal with real patients so I need to ensure quality for them.\n\n-I started my project last year and it always has been fun, but I'm starting to feel the burnout on it too.\n\nI get worried about finding a good job in the future and leaving it when the burnout starts again..." ]

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[ "Best way to sharpen kitchen knives that will keep them sharp and prolong their lifespan? What have you learned about the best ways to sharpen knives? What shouldn't I do?", "Best way to sharpen kitchen knives that will keep them sharp and prolong their lifespan? What have you learned about the best ways to sharpen knives? What shouldn't I do?", "Best way to sharpen kitchen knives that will keep them sharp and prolong their lifespan? What have you learned about the best ways to sharpen knives? What shouldn't I do?", "Best way to sharpen kitchen knives that will keep them sharp and prolong their lifespan? What have you learned about the best ways to sharpen knives? What shouldn't I do?", "Best way to sharpen kitchen knives that will keep them sharp and prolong their lifespan? What have you learned about the best ways to sharpen knives? What shouldn't I do?", "Best way to sharpen kitchen knives that will keep them sharp and prolong their lifespan? What have you learned about the best ways to sharpen knives? What shouldn't I do?" ]

[ "Chef here: \n\n1. Buy the best quality knives that you can. I assume if you're in the interest of keeping them sharp you cook regularly if not every day so in the same way you'd invest in comfortable shoes/nice mattress, knives matter. Victorinox is a fantastic brand that is high quality but affordable. \n\n2. When buying knives, go to a kitchen/cookware shop and ask an assistant about choosing a sharpening steel for your knives. They can also show you the technique for it which I can't really describe in words? \n\n3. Love them like they are your children. Store them on a magnetic bar hung on the wall, not pointed tip down as that can blunt/bend the end.\n\nA sharp knife is a safe knife!", "Don't put them in the dishwasher. Dishwasher soap and the action is abrasive and will dull them. I handwash my knives immediately after using them. ", "I worked in a kitchen, we would flip over our porcelain bowls and run the blade along the lip of that, it shaves off some of the dull steel l. Then use a blade sharpener to finish it up. Gives it a bit of a sharper edge.", "Chose the knife's with better quality so: German , French or Japanese knifes would be my choice, French are the most affordable. Now if you take a look under microscope https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rc_T2jzmh4A you will see how actually the blade looks like and you can read a lot on the materials used and process of making the blade , just google it. The only proper way to sharp a blade is shaping it by removing some of the material and that is done with wet stones you have a lot of tutorials on wet stone sharpening https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t39rhQs6Hqc and to maintain them use sharpening steal, what that does its making the edges of the blade straight. :) ", "This thread has been linked to from another place on reddit.\n\n\n- [/r/knowyourshit] [LPT Request: Best way to sharpen kitchen knives that will keep them sharp and prolong their lifespan? - LifeProTips](http://np.reddit.com/r/knowyourshit/comments/2y7rmi/lpt_request_best_way_to_sharpen_kitchen_knives/)\n\n\n*^If ^you ^follow ^any ^of ^the ^above ^links, ^respect ^the ^rules ^of ^reddit ^and ^don't ^vote. ^\\([Info](/r/TotesMessenger/wiki/) ^/ ^[Contact](/message/compose/?to=\\/r\\/TotesMessenger))* [](#bot)", "From my understanding, you have a choice: Either you get a softer metal that is more flexible and durable (but won't hold an edge for long) or you get a harder grade metal that will be more brittle, but will hold an edge longer. I don't think your sharpening technique will dictate how long the blade holds an edge. " ]

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[ "Driving long distance \nMe and another person will be driving 36+ hours in just a few short days. Any advice on driving at least 10 hours in a day?", "Driving long distance \nMe and another person will be driving 36+ hours in just a few short days. Any advice on driving at least 10 hours in a day?", "Driving long distance \nMe and another person will be driving 36+ hours in just a few short days. Any advice on driving at least 10 hours in a day?", "Driving long distance \nMe and another person will be driving 36+ hours in just a few short days. Any advice on driving at least 10 hours in a day?", "Driving long distance \nMe and another person will be driving 36+ hours in just a few short days. Any advice on driving at least 10 hours in a day?", "Driving long distance \nMe and another person will be driving 36+ hours in just a few short days. Any advice on driving at least 10 hours in a day?", "Driving long distance \nMe and another person will be driving 36+ hours in just a few short days. Any advice on driving at least 10 hours in a day?", "Driving long distance \nMe and another person will be driving 36+ hours in just a few short days. Any advice on driving at least 10 hours in a day?", "Driving long distance \nMe and another person will be driving 36+ hours in just a few short days. Any advice on driving at least 10 hours in a day?", "Driving long distance \nMe and another person will be driving 36+ hours in just a few short days. Any advice on driving at least 10 hours in a day?", "Driving long distance \nMe and another person will be driving 36+ hours in just a few short days. Any advice on driving at least 10 hours in a day?", "Driving long distance \nMe and another person will be driving 36+ hours in just a few short days. Any advice on driving at least 10 hours in a day?", "Driving long distance \nMe and another person will be driving 36+ hours in just a few short days. Any advice on driving at least 10 hours in a day?" ]

[ "I've done this a few times. Audio books help pass the time. Stay hydrated. Stop often to stretch your legs, even if for only 5 minutes.", "On our honeymoon wife and I drove 9 hours to poconos. She would find sex shops on her maps app and any we came within 10 miles of on the drive we stopped at and got her a toy to play with on the ride. She didn’t have a license so I drove the entire trip she kept me awake!!", "I drive overnights for work, anywhere from 8 hours to 12 (those long shifts are rough)\nHere's some things I've picked up \n- caffeine may help you stay awake, but it's also a diuretic, and coffee will make you poop, so keep that in mind if you're trying to avoid too many bathroom breaks. I personally really like the V8 energy drinks (I get them from Walmart) because it's caffeine from tea and also fruit and veggies. \n- download a gas app like GasBuddy or get upside (the second one won't tell you every station but it can get you cash back)\n-use your Cruise control, especially if you're in an area with a lower speed limit and you're worried about getting pulled over. Plus it'll help keep your ankle from getting sore\n- I like to chew gum or eat a jawbreaker, I tend to snack like crazy and having something long lasting satisfies that without me eating a ton of random crap\n- podcasts or audio books, especially stories vs information, something that'll grab your attention. Download them if you can in case of poor signal. \n-google maps let's you download your maps in case of poor signal", "I am a religious long driver ( work , recreation, family etc ) I drive mostly in the evenings after a good amount of rest and cover as much distance possible during the night as possible. \n\nI find night driving is stress free and less variables to deal with. \n\nWhen I drive, I listen to audio books mostly and entire family sleeps. \n\nSometimes I chew gum or sip a cold coffee so I can take breaks every few hours. \n\nNo energy drinks ( leaned that a hard way ) it crashes you quickly ) \n\nI also have a habit of pretending that I am a truck driver ( had CDL when I was helping with farms) And I would make my presence known to everyone driving around me. \n\nI do not drive in the blind spot and I have never changed a lane without blinkers on. \n\nHope that helps - specially if you are driving nights . \n\nOttawa ontario - Knoxville TN - start 6:30 pm end 1:30 pm next day \n\nWindsor ON to Sydney NS x4 - start 5:30 pm and end 6:30 pm the Next day. \n\nOttawa ON - Crofton MD x 10 - start 8:00 PM end 5:00 am \n\nNight drive is the safest way to drive. \n\nUse SUV if you can. Smalls cars are not meant for driving on I-81 , I-95 , I-87 , penna turnpike , West Virginia or on TC-2e NB Canada .", "Stop when you're tired, don't speed in Ohio, if you're close to needing an oil change, get it before and ask them to check things over (they usually do anyway). If you're a member, Costco generally has clean bathrooms and the cheapest gas (and it's the higher quality gas).", "I take a stack of audiobooks or CDs with spoken word on them. Much more effective than music in warding off fatigue.", "Rotate drivers every two hours or so. Someone said don't speed in Ohio, everyone was when we went through two weeks ago. Start early and try to plan around rush hours.", "No matter how much you may want to crank up the heat and get comfortable, having the ac or a window open to allow cool air flow will keep you alert and not drowsy. Hot or warm air will make you drowsy and increase the likelihood of you nodding off", "If you're traveling for fun, I've used the roadtrippers app to find things to visit within a reasonable distance from our main route", "If possible, plan where you want to stop for the night and make a reservation at a hotel ahead of time. There is nothing worse than a long day of driving and finding all the hotels where you want to stop are full.\n\nETA: Don't be afraid to stop for the night earlier than planned, even if you don't make it to where your hotel reservation is. If you are too tired and need to stop, do it.", "I'd do 12hr drives unless you want to spend 6hrs driving on the 4th day as well. You can alternate between each other. Do 6hr a day each, if both of you have a license, and take a break every 2-4hrs. Music gets very dull after a while, so get some variety, or podcasts. I personally like the \"Let's Read\" or True Crime podcasts. But I'll avoid podcasts driving in the dark. They make me sleepy once the sun is gone. Hydrate well. Don't rush it. And take some advil or tylenol. You might develop headaches", "I don't know if it's a LPT or not ...but having a car with Adoptive cruise control and lane assist really helps you on long drives ..", "It’s great that you have another person. Get a very early start and a rule of thumb I’ve lived by: you should both stay awake and not allow the other person to nap. This way the driver is kept in check." ]

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[ "What are some ways to deal with a short temper? Maybe some ways you can practice increasing patience and keeping yourself resolved when angry.", "What are some ways to deal with a short temper? Maybe some ways you can practice increasing patience and keeping yourself resolved when angry.", "What are some ways to deal with a short temper? Maybe some ways you can practice increasing patience and keeping yourself resolved when angry." ]

[ "I REALLY hate apologizing. If I lose my cool, I usually have to apologize and thus give the other person the upper hand. That really bothers me. Consequently, I imagine groveling and having to say sorry to them afterwards. I almost always end up biting my tongue and looking cool and in control. This simple tip has honestly saved me jobs, got me promotions and left me looking dignified. I do get them back if it's important. I tell myself revenge is best served cold. Good luck!", "Relax more in your free time. Going for walks, sleeping more really help control my temper. If you want to, smoking weed occasionally really calms me down.", "M" ]

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[ "How can I make myself more employable? Planning to start law school next year and wanted to be a cop ultimately since childhood. I am from India, by the way. A few days ago I posted a similar question on r/advise but I got no reply and no upvotes. Reality feels very cold to me now; literally. This is a sort of long post but please remember a person's livelihood and life is influenced by your choice to answer or not to answer.\n\nSo, ever since I was I think 8 years old, I wanted to become a police officer. As I mentioned in title I am from India, and Indians in general aren't in a very good health. My dad is a lecturer at a junior college, that is, he teaches classes 11 &amp; 12. I am lucky when I get meals two times a day. I am ineligible for LASIK, not sure about PRK/other surgeries as the doctor who said I am ineligible for LASIK only performs LASIK. My eyesight isn't terribly low but unfortunstely I do not meet the Indian Armed Forces and paramilitary standards for vision which are about the same.\n\nI am a 20 year old BSc student and I believe I will graduate with a US 4.0 GPA-equivalent from the University of the city I live in. Now I had a plan \"B\" ever since I was 13 to 14 years of age and I also did my best to maintain physical fitness and medical fitness. I wanted to join medical school but I couldn't; so today I am applying to law school. Lawyers are very markeable here I think, our courts are understaffed. As I understand, generally (yes in India also), three things are important\n\n* Education\n* Volunteer experience\n* Prior work experience\n\nI will start looking for work in the first year of law school. I can get one year worth of volunteer experience second year of law school. I believe certificate for one year worth of volunteer experience (for example [NSS](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/National_Service_Scheme)) will be better than no volunteer experience. I've already written down some very useful Life Pro Tips such as \"Be prepared to leave your employer, because your employer is prepared to leave you.\" Currently my parents pay every single of my bills and it isn't only a bit shameful but also anxiety-inducing for me because my parents don't have a happy marriage, not even close and **I am not sure how can I settle down and become indepndent.**\n\nI've bookmarked Khan Academy which has useful videos on Life Skills , Mathematics, etc., I've several books for preparation of competitive examinations so I could hopefully work as a Police Sub-Inspector (equivalent to the American rank of Police Seargant) or above, I do my best to maintain my physical fitness and health BUT as I said earlier aside from finanical problems, I've got my parents fighting daily since childhood which makes me worried. I just want to become independent as soon as possible. To be honest I don't even want to go through law school, spending 3 years of my time just to complete the degree and become licensed as an advocate, **but I've heard time and time again people who succeed in becoming police officers and other civil servants, they consistently put efforts for 10-15 years.** One of my uncles finally became a police constable at the age of 27, I think he tried since the age 20 and *before that he worked in the paramilitary as an E-1 but he quit the training.*\n\nBefore Covid-19 lockdowns, I had confidence that I will work as a police officer one day or the another. To be honest, I think if I stay with my parents long enough I will die a slow and painful death as a homeless man. They don't care much about me and I don't want to explain.\n\nI've looked at the statistical data and according to that data most workers in the USA work as truck drivers. Ever since I was a kid less than 8 years old, my mother constantly insisted that I should work as a manager near the top or at the top of the game and while I think I would've been happier and healthier as a police constable or an E-1 in the Army, it would have come with its own drawbacks also. It's not possible for me to join the Armed Forces as an officer (the standards are quite high for vision) but things could have been different.\n\nWhile I am optimistic about working as a police officer eventually despite questionable health, if not that as a lawyer, I am still looking for advice that can increase my employability in general. As a law student I think I can and will work at internships, which aren't without their share of competition in the selection process.\n\nI can work in the bank as a manger, in the gig economy, as a cab driver with a Bachelor's, nothing wrong with that, but I want a stable job. I've a background in life sciences and so law school is inevitable for me to find a stable, good job I think outside the police. Thank you.", "How can I make myself more employable? Planning to start law school next year and wanted to be a cop ultimately since childhood. I am from India, by the way. A few days ago I posted a similar question on r/advise but I got no reply and no upvotes. Reality feels very cold to me now; literally. This is a sort of long post but please remember a person's livelihood and life is influenced by your choice to answer or not to answer.\n\nSo, ever since I was I think 8 years old, I wanted to become a police officer. As I mentioned in title I am from India, and Indians in general aren't in a very good health. My dad is a lecturer at a junior college, that is, he teaches classes 11 &amp; 12. I am lucky when I get meals two times a day. I am ineligible for LASIK, not sure about PRK/other surgeries as the doctor who said I am ineligible for LASIK only performs LASIK. My eyesight isn't terribly low but unfortunstely I do not meet the Indian Armed Forces and paramilitary standards for vision which are about the same.\n\nI am a 20 year old BSc student and I believe I will graduate with a US 4.0 GPA-equivalent from the University of the city I live in. Now I had a plan \"B\" ever since I was 13 to 14 years of age and I also did my best to maintain physical fitness and medical fitness. I wanted to join medical school but I couldn't; so today I am applying to law school. Lawyers are very markeable here I think, our courts are understaffed. As I understand, generally (yes in India also), three things are important\n\n* Education\n* Volunteer experience\n* Prior work experience\n\nI will start looking for work in the first year of law school. I can get one year worth of volunteer experience second year of law school. I believe certificate for one year worth of volunteer experience (for example [NSS](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/National_Service_Scheme)) will be better than no volunteer experience. I've already written down some very useful Life Pro Tips such as \"Be prepared to leave your employer, because your employer is prepared to leave you.\" Currently my parents pay every single of my bills and it isn't only a bit shameful but also anxiety-inducing for me because my parents don't have a happy marriage, not even close and **I am not sure how can I settle down and become indepndent.**\n\nI've bookmarked Khan Academy which has useful videos on Life Skills , Mathematics, etc., I've several books for preparation of competitive examinations so I could hopefully work as a Police Sub-Inspector (equivalent to the American rank of Police Seargant) or above, I do my best to maintain my physical fitness and health BUT as I said earlier aside from finanical problems, I've got my parents fighting daily since childhood which makes me worried. I just want to become independent as soon as possible. To be honest I don't even want to go through law school, spending 3 years of my time just to complete the degree and become licensed as an advocate, **but I've heard time and time again people who succeed in becoming police officers and other civil servants, they consistently put efforts for 10-15 years.** One of my uncles finally became a police constable at the age of 27, I think he tried since the age 20 and *before that he worked in the paramilitary as an E-1 but he quit the training.*\n\nBefore Covid-19 lockdowns, I had confidence that I will work as a police officer one day or the another. To be honest, I think if I stay with my parents long enough I will die a slow and painful death as a homeless man. They don't care much about me and I don't want to explain.\n\nI've looked at the statistical data and according to that data most workers in the USA work as truck drivers. Ever since I was a kid less than 8 years old, my mother constantly insisted that I should work as a manager near the top or at the top of the game and while I think I would've been happier and healthier as a police constable or an E-1 in the Army, it would have come with its own drawbacks also. It's not possible for me to join the Armed Forces as an officer (the standards are quite high for vision) but things could have been different.\n\nWhile I am optimistic about working as a police officer eventually despite questionable health, if not that as a lawyer, I am still looking for advice that can increase my employability in general. As a law student I think I can and will work at internships, which aren't without their share of competition in the selection process.\n\nI can work in the bank as a manger, in the gig economy, as a cab driver with a Bachelor's, nothing wrong with that, but I want a stable job. I've a background in life sciences and so law school is inevitable for me to find a stable, good job I think outside the police. Thank you." ]

[ "Hi. It sounds like you are doing all the right things to start with, so, great job! \n\nI am from the United States and unfortunately don't know anything about the employment situation or culture in India. Are relationships and connections relevant in India? Because, here in the US, having good relationship and connections with people in your desired industry, or even in related ones, can make a huge difference in one's employability. Here, you can develop those relationships and connections through internships, volunteer work, family connections, and even social life (clubs, groups, friends). In general, people hire people they like and who seem like a good fit for their company culture, their team, or their small business. I'm not sure how relevant that is for your culture, but if it is, then I would recommend focusing on building positive relationships in all areas of your life and in every job you take, as you never know how those connections might help you land a good job someday. \n\nBest of luck to you!", "> but I've heard time and time again people who succeed in becoming police officers and other civil servants, they consistently put efforts for 10-15 years\n\nin the usa, being a cop requires almost no effort,people who work in nail salons require more hours of training to get their license than somebody does to be a cop. also some places don't hire poeple with high intelligence. https://apnews.com/article/f2fd0f7e9ba854ffbed64fce63297fbc" ]

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[ "What to do when a joke falls flat What do you do when you say something you think is funny and then everyone just kinda looks at you awkwardly ", "What to do when a joke falls flat What do you do when you say something you think is funny and then everyone just kinda looks at you awkwardly ", "What to do when a joke falls flat What do you do when you say something you think is funny and then everyone just kinda looks at you awkwardly ", "What to do when a joke falls flat What do you do when you say something you think is funny and then everyone just kinda looks at you awkwardly ", "What to do when a joke falls flat What do you do when you say something you think is funny and then everyone just kinda looks at you awkwardly " ]

[ "Carry it with confidence. It's only awkward if it seems like it affected you negatively. Specifically, I stick to sarcasm or self-deprecating humor. I pause, laugh, and say \"I am a master comedian\", or \"Wow, literally nobody thought was funny.\" Those are a couple that have worked for me. If you're lucky, like I am, they will throw a pity laugh your way, and then \"forget\" to ever invite you to anything again.\n\nSource: Only I find myself amusing.", "Say \"screw you guys, I'm going home\" in a cartman voice. \n\nAlso proceed to force feed them chilli made from the meat of their parents. ", "Do the same thing you would do if it succeeded. Carry on. Most of my jokes work out, some are utter failures. Either way, the show must go on, we aren't going to sit and analyze afterwards. Unless it's real good... Then it might take a minute for everyone to regain composure", "\"and then the waiter says, that IS a good tip!\"\n\n*silence*\n\n\"whaat, you didn't think that was funny? you're crazy\"", "\"I have another one!\" Follow with one that you know is met with good reception right after. The previous one is instantly forgotten. " ]

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[ " How do I talk to the cable company on the phone to get a better deal on internet service? Long story short, my promo rate of $29.99/mo expires end of this month. I've heard many stories of people calling in and getting their low rate extended, but never attempted to do so. Has anyone done it, and if so, what should I say to seal the deal?", " How do I talk to the cable company on the phone to get a better deal on internet service? Long story short, my promo rate of $29.99/mo expires end of this month. I've heard many stories of people calling in and getting their low rate extended, but never attempted to do so. Has anyone done it, and if so, what should I say to seal the deal?", " How do I talk to the cable company on the phone to get a better deal on internet service? Long story short, my promo rate of $29.99/mo expires end of this month. I've heard many stories of people calling in and getting their low rate extended, but never attempted to do so. Has anyone done it, and if so, what should I say to seal the deal?" ]

[ "Okay lol, just found out about this part...do I have a leg to stand on if they're the only ones providing service to my apartment complex? Lol", "Call them up, inquire about when your contract is up and any early termination fees you may face if it isn't soon. Then explain that you don't think you can afford it and are considering leaving. They might give you a temporary lower rate then. My dad does this with Comcast all the time.", "\"My friend subscribes to your service and got \"Insert the kind of discount that you want HERE,\" and I would like the same package deal.\"\nThey won't look up your \"friend\" they'll ask some questions, be vague and say you don't know much, but he was showing you his bill. \"I don't want to be paying more for the same service, or I might as well switch to Rogers\"\nThat should do it.You have a comparison (wheather or not its real) and you have an incentive to leave. Just make sure that the discount that you're asking for is reasonable. " ]

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[ "How do I keep my phone secure in my pocket while riding my bike? Just like the title says. I'm looking for a good way to keep my phone in my pocket while I ride my bike to class. Something I can easily take on and off the phone or a good way to secure it. Thanks!", "How do I keep my phone secure in my pocket while riding my bike? Just like the title says. I'm looking for a good way to keep my phone in my pocket while I ride my bike to class. Something I can easily take on and off the phone or a good way to secure it. Thanks!", "How do I keep my phone secure in my pocket while riding my bike? Just like the title says. I'm looking for a good way to keep my phone in my pocket while I ride my bike to class. Something I can easily take on and off the phone or a good way to secure it. Thanks!", "How do I keep my phone secure in my pocket while riding my bike? Just like the title says. I'm looking for a good way to keep my phone in my pocket while I ride my bike to class. Something I can easily take on and off the phone or a good way to secure it. Thanks!", "How do I keep my phone secure in my pocket while riding my bike? Just like the title says. I'm looking for a good way to keep my phone in my pocket while I ride my bike to class. Something I can easily take on and off the phone or a good way to secure it. Thanks!", "How do I keep my phone secure in my pocket while riding my bike? Just like the title says. I'm looking for a good way to keep my phone in my pocket while I ride my bike to class. Something I can easily take on and off the phone or a good way to secure it. Thanks!" ]

[ "LL Bean makes khaki shorts and long pants with a hidden zippered pocket. I bought several of each for just this purpose.", "Try using a belt-clip holster for your phone, a pouch-style one that wraps completely around the phone like this: http://www.eforcity.com/81894.html?efprcggbadtf120902=sc+gb+81894&utm_source=google&utm_medium=product_search&utm_campaign=google_base&aid=1586&gclid=CJr44un2mbICFWXhQgod4FIAfg", "Look up Bento Box bike accessories. doesn't secure in your pocket, but they make great bike accessories to hold your \"stuff\".", "Idk what kinda phone you have, but they make bike mount for a variety of phones..\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=phone+mount+for+bike", "I've got a pretty wide watch pocket on my jeans that I can fit a bic lighter in (horizontally). This blocks the phone's path when it's in the pocket underneath the watch pocket. Smaller items should work with smaller watch pockets.", "I have an otterbox that is made of silicone (or some other material) so it has a lot of friction. Get one like that and it stays in your pocket. " ]

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[ "Wrapping headphone cords for more durability. I saw something similar here somewhere but I cant remember what it was.", "Wrapping headphone cords for more durability. I saw something similar here somewhere but I cant remember what it was.", "Wrapping headphone cords for more durability. I saw something similar here somewhere but I cant remember what it was.", "Wrapping headphone cords for more durability. I saw something similar here somewhere but I cant remember what it was." ]

[ "I like this method:\n\n1. make a rocker symbol with one hand, and underneath your middle and ring fingers put the earbuds, letting the cord dangle.\n2. wrap the cord about your index finger and pinky finger in a figure-8.\n3. when you've only 2-3inches of cord left, pull the now neat bundle of cord off of your index and pinky fingers, pinching at the vertex.\n4. wrap the dangling 2-3 inches about the vertex and slide the jack through one of the loops. Pull taught. \n\nI've been doing this for a few months now and haven't had a tangled mess with which to deal even once. Plus, my cord seems pretty healthy (no kinks and bends).\n\nhth!", "http://img.gawkerassets.com/img/17r75n1czz6zsjpg/original.jpg\n\nThis is how i carry my headphones around.\n\n^Sent ^from ^[R", "[Use this picture as reference, minus the clip](http://cf6.thefancy.com/commerce/original/20120712/8a532250c1484401935f100699c626f2.jpg)\n\nI've always done what the person in the picture did, and slipped the headphones under the wires so it sticks out on the other side. (Better chance of holding).", "As a sound guy, I can tell you that the best way to wrap any power-carrying cable is to \"over-under\" it. You essentially alternate coiling it conventionally, and then coiling it the \"opposite\" way, where the excess cable is sitting under the last coil, instead of always being on the top of the coil. \n\nI can clarify or look for detailed instructions online if anybody's interested" ]

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[ "How to keep interior windshield from fogging/freezing over in cold weather??? How can I keep my windshield from fogging and freezing up in cold weather? I have a diesel that won't heat/melt ice unless I'm driving... if I can't see I can't drive. \n\n", "How to keep interior windshield from fogging/freezing over in cold weather??? How can I keep my windshield from fogging and freezing up in cold weather? I have a diesel that won't heat/melt ice unless I'm driving... if I can't see I can't drive. \n\n", "How to keep interior windshield from fogging/freezing over in cold weather??? How can I keep my windshield from fogging and freezing up in cold weather? I have a diesel that won't heat/melt ice unless I'm driving... if I can't see I can't drive. \n\n", "How to keep interior windshield from fogging/freezing over in cold weather??? How can I keep my windshield from fogging and freezing up in cold weather? I have a diesel that won't heat/melt ice unless I'm driving... if I can't see I can't drive. \n\n" ]

[ "Never fog works great on glasses and motorcycle helmet shields.\n\nhttp://www.dultmeier.com/products/0.48.1025.2517.5362/9653\n\nPS: Also bathroom mirrors.\n", "Fogging is a result of humidity. The air-conditioner is a dehumidifier and should solve that portion of it. ", "You can drive with the window partially open until the engine heats up, or you can turn on the windshield defroster and let it blow cold air. Most cars will run the AC when the defrost is ON so it will eliminate any condensation on the interior.", "My defroster croaked ages ago and I have the same problem. Or - had it - I wipe down my inner windshield with Rain X anti fogger, keeps it dry and fog-free. (I also put this stuff on the bathroom mirror, no more fogged mirror after a shower)." ]

[ 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How would you approach someone you haven't texted in a long time? If they were mad that you've gone away, what would you say?", "How would you approach someone you haven't texted in a long time? If they were mad that you've gone away, what would you say?" ]

[ "Was just transferring numbers to my new phone and saw your name - realized we hadn't spoken in a long time. How are you? How's that ________ going for you?", "By candlelight, toppless and oiled up. A little Ray Coniff playing in the background. A few martinis at the ready. One of those old rolling carts from K-Mart with the flashing blue lights on them." ]

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[ "How to force yourself to start a task? I'm not a big procrastinator, but I can't get myself to start my work. When I start it, I use the pomodoro technique to stick to it and it works quite well, but before that it is really difficult for me to convince myself to start working on something. I just need the right mindset to begin and when I begin I can easily stick to it without further procrastination.", "How to force yourself to start a task? I'm not a big procrastinator, but I can't get myself to start my work. When I start it, I use the pomodoro technique to stick to it and it works quite well, but before that it is really difficult for me to convince myself to start working on something. I just need the right mindset to begin and when I begin I can easily stick to it without further procrastination.", "How to force yourself to start a task? I'm not a big procrastinator, but I can't get myself to start my work. When I start it, I use the pomodoro technique to stick to it and it works quite well, but before that it is really difficult for me to convince myself to start working on something. I just need the right mindset to begin and when I begin I can easily stick to it without further procrastination.", "How to force yourself to start a task? I'm not a big procrastinator, but I can't get myself to start my work. When I start it, I use the pomodoro technique to stick to it and it works quite well, but before that it is really difficult for me to convince myself to start working on something. I just need the right mindset to begin and when I begin I can easily stick to it without further procrastination." ]

[ "it helps to start doing just a small amount of it for me ... at least mentally. like, say i have to do the dishes but i don't want to do it. i'll think - ok, just do say, 3 plates and one cup. then once you've started it is easier to keep going. but if you really don't want to do it then you can take a break and do the same cycle again.", "Usually I have that problem as well. What I try to do is *lean* into doing it. For example, I don't want to go running in the morning, but I know I should keep it up. So I wake up convinced I'm not going to go, but I get in my running gear anyways. Then I go outside convinced I won't go too far. And when it's time to start I just walk a little bit faster until I'm at the point that if I were walking any faster I'd be running. Then I just lean forwards a little bit and before I know it I'm in a full run and feel great.", "Personally I don't like forcing myself to do things, because I'll just end up saying \"fuck you\" to the part of me that's forcing me to do stuff and then not do the things I should be doing. So maybe just slow down a bit, relax and then decide to start work. You went to the effort to make this post asking this question, which means you want to start work. Hope this helped :)", "Have someone you trust watch over you with a whip.\n\nSeriously, if you can get someone to check how you're progressing from time to time, it does help." ]

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[ "How to Stop Saying \"I'm sorry\" All the Time for Everything Yes, I'm one of those annoying people who apologizes for everything. I often feel like any unfortunate event is my fault, or that I should have been smart enough to prevent whatever. My boyfriend is getting annoyed with my constant apologies, and I'm sure everyone else is too.", "How to Stop Saying \"I'm sorry\" All the Time for Everything Yes, I'm one of those annoying people who apologizes for everything. I often feel like any unfortunate event is my fault, or that I should have been smart enough to prevent whatever. My boyfriend is getting annoyed with my constant apologies, and I'm sure everyone else is too.", "How to Stop Saying \"I'm sorry\" All the Time for Everything Yes, I'm one of those annoying people who apologizes for everything. I often feel like any unfortunate event is my fault, or that I should have been smart enough to prevent whatever. My boyfriend is getting annoyed with my constant apologies, and I'm sure everyone else is too.", "How to Stop Saying \"I'm sorry\" All the Time for Everything Yes, I'm one of those annoying people who apologizes for everything. I often feel like any unfortunate event is my fault, or that I should have been smart enough to prevent whatever. My boyfriend is getting annoyed with my constant apologies, and I'm sure everyone else is too.", "How to Stop Saying \"I'm sorry\" All the Time for Everything Yes, I'm one of those annoying people who apologizes for everything. I often feel like any unfortunate event is my fault, or that I should have been smart enough to prevent whatever. My boyfriend is getting annoyed with my constant apologies, and I'm sure everyone else is too.", "How to Stop Saying \"I'm sorry\" All the Time for Everything Yes, I'm one of those annoying people who apologizes for everything. I often feel like any unfortunate event is my fault, or that I should have been smart enough to prevent whatever. My boyfriend is getting annoyed with my constant apologies, and I'm sure everyone else is too.", "How to Stop Saying \"I'm sorry\" All the Time for Everything Yes, I'm one of those annoying people who apologizes for everything. I often feel like any unfortunate event is my fault, or that I should have been smart enough to prevent whatever. My boyfriend is getting annoyed with my constant apologies, and I'm sure everyone else is too.", "How to Stop Saying \"I'm sorry\" All the Time for Everything Yes, I'm one of those annoying people who apologizes for everything. I often feel like any unfortunate event is my fault, or that I should have been smart enough to prevent whatever. My boyfriend is getting annoyed with my constant apologies, and I'm sure everyone else is too.", "How to Stop Saying \"I'm sorry\" All the Time for Everything Yes, I'm one of those annoying people who apologizes for everything. I often feel like any unfortunate event is my fault, or that I should have been smart enough to prevent whatever. My boyfriend is getting annoyed with my constant apologies, and I'm sure everyone else is too." ]

[ "Stop saying sorry. Say thank you instead. When you say, “sorry for being a jerk” the other person is forced to either call you a jerk or say it wasnt a big deal. Instead, say “thank you for being so being so patient with me” so the other person has a reason to say they love you.\n\nFrom a great thread on Reddit. which I can't find anymore. Tried Googling it but I can't remember so I can't take any cr", "A homeless man once corrected me when I said sorry as I moved around him.\n\nHe said that it wasn't me that should be apologizing, I didn't do anything. Simply saying \"pardon me\" or \"excuse me\" is perfectly sufficient. The things you learn in a McDonald's bathroom.", "Try replacing \"I'm sorry\" with something else, like \"Uh oh\" or \"wow... okay\", or \"yikes\" then pause, and think, do I need to actually apologize, or am I saying sorry to pacify a tense situation? Using words like that let's you acknowledge your negative feelings towards the situation, without drawing the attention needlessly to yourself. Take solace in the fact that most things have very little to do you with you, it's a great feeling. Obviously apologize if it was something you really should be accountable for. ", "Dunno about how you can stop, but I can kind of try to explain the other side of it.\n\nI think excessive sorries bother people because they feel this need to constantly be reassuring you that it's okay, it's no big deal, you don't need to apologize, etc -- and that's frankly quite exhausting. It feels like you're burdened, in a way, with someone else's negativity and insecurities about things they don't need to be apologetic about.\n \nAt other times, it makes people who are close to you feel frustrated that you seem to be walking on eggshells around them and seem to be so uncomfortable that you feel the need to apologize for tiny things (like accidentally brushing someone's arm or dropping the remote and making a noise), especially when they keep telling you it's *fine* and that these things are no big deal but you keep leaping to apologize.\n\nPeople don't like feeling like they can't fix something or help someone, and eventually this gets expressed as irritation. They *want* to help; they don't want you to feel like everything is your fault and you can't relax, but nothing is changing and they don't know what to do any more -- so they start pushing it away because they can't keep internalizing it any more.", "Replace I'm sorry with \"excuse me\" when you accidentally bump into someone. Other than that, calm your thoughts and be more thoughtful before automatically saying I'm sorry. \n\nSaying it only when you really mean it is more powerful. ", "It's called being Canadian, if you don't live in Canada move here.\n\nAlso you boyfriend might be an asshole.", "I had a gf who was the same. All I can think of is just don't *feel* so sorry. It's an honest reaction, and not a bad thing, but you need to understand that very little is your fault. \n\nShit happens, awkward shit happens. Even if you happen to do something bad/wrong, don't take it so seriously. You can still apologize, just relax and say it with a smile and move on. What annoyed me most when my gf would always be apologizing was how flustered she would get, often interrupting a good time. And *never* say you're sorry for saying you're sorry. That shit is annoying. \n\nImagine you're at work and make an honest mistake. Owning up to it is good, but keep doing what you ought to be doing.", "Dont be sorry be strong! Be grateful, loving and present. Instead of saying sorry say thank you. When you bump into someone say pardon me or excuse me. Saying sorry a lot takes the power away from the words when you really do mean it. Only say it if you really mean it.", "Rubber band on wrist. Snap that sucker every time you find that you say sorry/apologize. This will help you become mindful of your behavior. Second step is when you begin to catch yourself before you say it. Concentrate on first step. Snap, ouch. Snap, ouch. " ]

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[ "How to make sure youre going to live with good neighbors before you move into an APT. Going to see a few apartments soon, and want to find out how I can effectively sniff out if the neighbors are good or not before I sign a lease. Especially when you have a limited amount of time during the apartment showing.", "How to make sure youre going to live with good neighbors before you move into an APT. Going to see a few apartments soon, and want to find out how I can effectively sniff out if the neighbors are good or not before I sign a lease. Especially when you have a limited amount of time during the apartment showing.", "How to make sure youre going to live with good neighbors before you move into an APT. Going to see a few apartments soon, and want to find out how I can effectively sniff out if the neighbors are good or not before I sign a lease. Especially when you have a limited amount of time during the apartment showing.", "How to make sure youre going to live with good neighbors before you move into an APT. Going to see a few apartments soon, and want to find out how I can effectively sniff out if the neighbors are good or not before I sign a lease. Especially when you have a limited amount of time during the apartment showing.", "How to make sure youre going to live with good neighbors before you move into an APT. Going to see a few apartments soon, and want to find out how I can effectively sniff out if the neighbors are good or not before I sign a lease. Especially when you have a limited amount of time during the apartment showing." ]

[ "Park across from the gate at the end of the work day and watch everyone come home. You can also generally see into peoples apartments when they open the blinds and start to cook dinner.\n\nThis is what I've always done before I decide on an apartment.", "Just keep driving and walking past. It's great if you can have a quick chat with someone at least a couple of properties away. With them not been a direct neighbor they are more likely to dish dirt. I didn't buy a house because of a chat just like that.", "Check the door edge near the frame for indentions, especially near handle. These are crowbar marks and a sign someone tried to break in. Normally only on first floor.", "Get a job delivering pizzas in the neighborhood. You will get a chance to interact with people from and look into many apartments. Also, the other drivers will tell you as well. Interesting tidbit, how nice an apartment complex is has nothing to do with how well they tip.", "i would say look at the trash bins. it is a good indicator of whether people are considerate of their neighbors... a shitty neighbor throws his trash IN the bin, not outside or near it." ]

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[ "House Hunting Essentials Hey guys, so my parents have been hous hunting for the pst few months and so far it hasn't gone well. They mainly use Trulia to search and I can't help but feel as if they could be doing more. I'd like some advice on finding the right home.", "House Hunting Essentials Hey guys, so my parents have been hous hunting for the pst few months and so far it hasn't gone well. They mainly use Trulia to search and I can't help but feel as if they could be doing more. I'd like some advice on finding the right home.", "House Hunting Essentials Hey guys, so my parents have been hous hunting for the pst few months and so far it hasn't gone well. They mainly use Trulia to search and I can't help but feel as if they could be doing more. I'd like some advice on finding the right home." ]

[ "Not sure where you are from, but you can try \n\neveryhome.com\n\nRealtor.com\n\nZillow.com \n\nredfin.com\n\nhomes.com\n\nhomefinder.com\n\nfsbo.com\n\nforsalebyowner.com\n\n", "They need to get a realtor ASAP that lives where they want to move to. They have their eyes and ears everywhere. I am not a realtor, but we weren't having much luck until we got one. They made it easy and fun.", "Get a buyer's agent. Homelight.com may be useful. It's data based on the agents sales. Also the agent will hopefully walk you through what you all need." ]

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[ "How to Stop Making Small Mistakes on Math Tests I'm not sure if anyone else has this problem, but no matter how long I study, I always make a silly mistake, like switching up the formulas or using the wrong number. I can double check problems, but at that point I won't have enough time to finish the test, and it never actually does anything in the end anyway. I know *how* to do the problem, but there's always a flaw in my execution, and it is severely affecting my grades. \n\nHalp.", "How to Stop Making Small Mistakes on Math Tests I'm not sure if anyone else has this problem, but no matter how long I study, I always make a silly mistake, like switching up the formulas or using the wrong number. I can double check problems, but at that point I won't have enough time to finish the test, and it never actually does anything in the end anyway. I know *how* to do the problem, but there's always a flaw in my execution, and it is severely affecting my grades. \n\nHalp.", "How to Stop Making Small Mistakes on Math Tests I'm not sure if anyone else has this problem, but no matter how long I study, I always make a silly mistake, like switching up the formulas or using the wrong number. I can double check problems, but at that point I won't have enough time to finish the test, and it never actually does anything in the end anyway. I know *how* to do the problem, but there's always a flaw in my execution, and it is severely affecting my grades. \n\nHalp.", "How to Stop Making Small Mistakes on Math Tests I'm not sure if anyone else has this problem, but no matter how long I study, I always make a silly mistake, like switching up the formulas or using the wrong number. I can double check problems, but at that point I won't have enough time to finish the test, and it never actually does anything in the end anyway. I know *how* to do the problem, but there's always a flaw in my execution, and it is severely affecting my grades. \n\nHalp.", "How to Stop Making Small Mistakes on Math Tests I'm not sure if anyone else has this problem, but no matter how long I study, I always make a silly mistake, like switching up the formulas or using the wrong number. I can double check problems, but at that point I won't have enough time to finish the test, and it never actually does anything in the end anyway. I know *how* to do the problem, but there's always a flaw in my execution, and it is severely affecting my grades. \n\nHalp.", "How to Stop Making Small Mistakes on Math Tests I'm not sure if anyone else has this problem, but no matter how long I study, I always make a silly mistake, like switching up the formulas or using the wrong number. I can double check problems, but at that point I won't have enough time to finish the test, and it never actually does anything in the end anyway. I know *how* to do the problem, but there's always a flaw in my execution, and it is severely affecting my grades. \n\nHalp." ]

[ "\"Checking\" is a word that gets used a lot in math, but it's a huge skill, and it can actually be pretty difficult to get good at it. For one thing, it's actually pretty hard psychologically to try to see that you're wrong, especially when you're stressed out. But that's what you're doing when you check. Really trying to give yourself bad news. You say that you make a lot of silly mistakes, but also that checking your work isn't doing anything. That means you're looking at wrong answers and saying \"yup, looks good.\"\n\nIf you study for a test by (for example) doing odd problems with the answers in the back of the book, and before you look at the solution REALLY try to see if you've made mistakes, then two things will happen.\n\n1. You'll get better at spotting your mistakes.\n2. You'll gain a better self-knowledge of the kinds of mistakes you make, and even what it \"feels\" like to be making certain kinds of errors.\n\nThat's my two cents, as a math educator. Master the skill of really checking yourself.\n\n'Fo you wreck yoself.", "Ironing out the flaws can be done through practice. Doing something and seeing how it works out in a problem before the test is what studying is all about.\n\n\nThere's a couple ways you can get your practice in, either via your classmates (IMO the most effective practice because it connects content with people you know), teacher (tutorials/office hours), or whatever resources you're comfortable with. Just do it.\n\n\nKhan Academy and IXL both have comprehensive practice for any maths up to the high school level if you just need to drill a certain topic.", "1. There might be a deeper learning challenge than just memorizing/drilling. If the school offers, they might be able to identify and compensate for the challenge. Some have problems with translating words to numbers, some need verbal assistance. There is no shame in identifying a spot where you learn differently.\n2. Math might not be your thing. It is ok. Find what you are good at and write down what you need to. If you need to know how to find the area of a triangle or length of a side knowing the angles write that stuff down. If you want to go into engineering/science based field, find the areas that interest you and associate the things you like to current knowledge and add from there. Chemical formulations/reactions are an extension of algebra. If you are wanting to go into a verbal field, learn what you need to balance a bank account, calculate taxes and move on. \n3. Music. Music is all math. Once you start feeling the divisions and harmonics, it opens up a new world of math. \n\nBest of luck.", "Remember: if you do the same thing, you'll get the same answer. Say the equation is \n\n 2x + 4 = 16\n\nSay you have convinced yourself that `x` is 7. If you \"check your work\" by solving the equation again, you are going to make the same mistake, whatever it is was.\n\nInstead, write down\n\n 2 × 7 + 4 = ?\nwait a few minutes and come back and answer your question. You'll see it's 18, and then notice that 18 does _not_ equal 16 and realize your mistake, whatever it was.\n\nThe two keys are \n\n* reformulate the question so it is slightly different, though equivalent\n* allow some time to pass", "It's probably already been said, but the key is discipline. Whenever you do problems, don't skip steps, however simple. Then you won't miss things because you'll only be focusing on one component at a time.", "I did this all through primary/secondary school (before college). \n\nTake your time. Do the homework, and develop a pattern. \nWrite out the details of your problem, including the appropriate formulas and/or graphs. \nWrite out every single detail. \n\nUse words when doing long multiplication problems.. \n 6.02X10^23 atoms/mole X 1 mole of oxygen/15.99 grams X 13 grams of oxygen .... \nWhen you multiply, you can cancel the upper and lower terms; as long as your solution has the correct word terms left, you should have the correct conversions. \n\nGet checked and if appropriate, treated for ADD/ADHD. \n" ]

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