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[ "someone mentioned an app that lets you get audiobooks from your local library. I can’t find the app. Someone mentioned this app a couple weeks back as a way to save money from services such as audible. I thought I saved the post but I can’t seem to find it now. I tried looking through the Apple App Store and cant seem to find it. \n\nCan someone help me out here? \n\nThank you <3", "someone mentioned an app that lets you get audiobooks from your local library. I can’t find the app. Someone mentioned this app a couple weeks back as a way to save money from services such as audible. I thought I saved the post but I can’t seem to find it now. I tried looking through the Apple App Store and cant seem to find it. \n\nCan someone help me out here? \n\nThank you <3" ]

[ "The app I use is called Hoopla, just search for it and it should pop up, then it'll ask for your zip or city (to locate your library). Then enter in your lib card and password. The password might be default 1234, or it could be the last 4 digits of your phone number. If you don't remember then just call your local library and they'll be happy to help you.", "I work with e-readers all day, the most popular one is Overdrive. All you need is a library card, which serves as your log in." ]

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[ "How to remove the bad habit of 'regressing' while reading (i.e. re-reading over and over again what you have just read) Regression while reading: not really a big deal while browsing the web, but I realised that it's an issue in everyday life because you don't always have the luxury of time (e.g. while in a written test, in an emergency). I believe I've developed a bad habit of 'regressing' due to the development of my mental laziness from spending much time on the internet. \n\nPlease could someone provide a simple, yet effective psychological solution to stop yourself regressing. I am aware of speed-reading techniques such as tracing words with your finger, removing sub-vocalisation, etc, which improve comprehension and reading speed, but the problem of regression seems more difficult to fix for me.\n", "How to remove the bad habit of 'regressing' while reading (i.e. re-reading over and over again what you have just read) Regression while reading: not really a big deal while browsing the web, but I realised that it's an issue in everyday life because you don't always have the luxury of time (e.g. while in a written test, in an emergency). I believe I've developed a bad habit of 'regressing' due to the development of my mental laziness from spending much time on the internet. \n\nPlease could someone provide a simple, yet effective psychological solution to stop yourself regressing. I am aware of speed-reading techniques such as tracing words with your finger, removing sub-vocalisation, etc, which improve comprehension and reading speed, but the problem of regression seems more difficult to fix for me.\n", "How to remove the bad habit of 'regressing' while reading (i.e. re-reading over and over again what you have just read) Regression while reading: not really a big deal while browsing the web, but I realised that it's an issue in everyday life because you don't always have the luxury of time (e.g. while in a written test, in an emergency). I believe I've developed a bad habit of 'regressing' due to the development of my mental laziness from spending much time on the internet. \n\nPlease could someone provide a simple, yet effective psychological solution to stop yourself regressing. I am aware of speed-reading techniques such as tracing words with your finger, removing sub-vocalisation, etc, which improve comprehension and reading speed, but the problem of regression seems more difficult to fix for me.\n", "How to remove the bad habit of 'regressing' while reading (i.e. re-reading over and over again what you have just read) Regression while reading: not really a big deal while browsing the web, but I realised that it's an issue in everyday life because you don't always have the luxury of time (e.g. while in a written test, in an emergency). I believe I've developed a bad habit of 'regressing' due to the development of my mental laziness from spending much time on the internet. \n\nPlease could someone provide a simple, yet effective psychological solution to stop yourself regressing. I am aware of speed-reading techniques such as tracing words with your finger, removing sub-vocalisation, etc, which improve comprehension and reading speed, but the problem of regression seems more difficult to fix for me.\n" ]

[ "I usually read with the bookmark above or below the line I'm reading and move it once I'm done the line. Never had a problem since I started doing that. On a computer I just highlight the lines I'm reading. \n\nAfter awhile of doing this you can end up getting so used to it that you no longer need the bookmark", "This is probably caused by thinking of other things or doing light daydreaming and only reading the book on autopilot. It helps if I just read slowly word by word for me, as I found out that I would skip lines and have to backtrack to understand the next paragraph or line. ", "If there's no one around to think you're crazy, read aloud. I have to do that with books with smaller print, especially novels. ", "Is the problem one of attention span? If so, consider factors like diet, exercise, stress, anxieties, etc. Does whether or not you have had caffeine lately make a difference? " ]

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[ "Getting smoke smell out of leather. Over the past week, I've stunk up my leather jacket first by having a bonfire and 2nd by visiting a smoky bar. Now not only does my coat smell, but it's also starting to stink up my closet, or anywhere else I leave the coat. Any good ways to clear up the seemingly ingrained smell?", "Getting smoke smell out of leather. Over the past week, I've stunk up my leather jacket first by having a bonfire and 2nd by visiting a smoky bar. Now not only does my coat smell, but it's also starting to stink up my closet, or anywhere else I leave the coat. Any good ways to clear up the seemingly ingrained smell?", "Getting smoke smell out of leather. Over the past week, I've stunk up my leather jacket first by having a bonfire and 2nd by visiting a smoky bar. Now not only does my coat smell, but it's also starting to stink up my closet, or anywhere else I leave the coat. Any good ways to clear up the seemingly ingrained smell?", "Getting smoke smell out of leather. Over the past week, I've stunk up my leather jacket first by having a bonfire and 2nd by visiting a smoky bar. Now not only does my coat smell, but it's also starting to stink up my closet, or anywhere else I leave the coat. Any good ways to clear up the seemingly ingrained smell?" ]

[ "A man in a leather coat that smells of smoke?\n\nDid you ever consider that you might just be *hella cool*?", "Quick Google search came up with mix of water and vodka 2:1\n\nask.metafilter.com/4113/Removing-smoke-smell-from-a-leather-jacket", "a lot of these tricks may help you a little bit, but may not really have much of an effect. The only way to 100% remove a smell like that is to buy/rent/find yourself an [ozone machine](http://www.amazon.com/s?ie=UTF8&keywords=ozone%20generator&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Aozone%20generator&page=1#/ref=sr_kk_3?rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Aozone+machine&keywords=ozone+machine&ie=UTF8&qid=1322971081).\n\nTrust me. You can rent them, I believe. There are companies that purchase smoke and flood damaged items really cheap from insurance companies, use an ozone machine, get the items cleaned and sell them for huge mark ups. Make sure if you use the machine you look up how to use it safely first, it's not very wise to inhale much of it.", "Leave it outside in a place that protects it from any rain but allows breezes to reach the leather. Should take about a week." ]

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[ "How do you keep eye glasses clean while on the go? I have been wearing glasses for about 20 years, and it seems to be a constant struggle to keep them clean. I have tried various lens wipes from Amazon, which all seem to smear, but aside from that, I would like to know if you guys have found a quick, on-the-go way to keep your glasses clean without constantly pulling out a cloth to wipe them.", "How do you keep eye glasses clean while on the go? I have been wearing glasses for about 20 years, and it seems to be a constant struggle to keep them clean. I have tried various lens wipes from Amazon, which all seem to smear, but aside from that, I would like to know if you guys have found a quick, on-the-go way to keep your glasses clean without constantly pulling out a cloth to wipe them.", "How do you keep eye glasses clean while on the go? I have been wearing glasses for about 20 years, and it seems to be a constant struggle to keep them clean. I have tried various lens wipes from Amazon, which all seem to smear, but aside from that, I would like to know if you guys have found a quick, on-the-go way to keep your glasses clean without constantly pulling out a cloth to wipe them.", "How do you keep eye glasses clean while on the go? I have been wearing glasses for about 20 years, and it seems to be a constant struggle to keep them clean. I have tried various lens wipes from Amazon, which all seem to smear, but aside from that, I would like to know if you guys have found a quick, on-the-go way to keep your glasses clean without constantly pulling out a cloth to wipe them.", "How do you keep eye glasses clean while on the go? I have been wearing glasses for about 20 years, and it seems to be a constant struggle to keep them clean. I have tried various lens wipes from Amazon, which all seem to smear, but aside from that, I would like to know if you guys have found a quick, on-the-go way to keep your glasses clean without constantly pulling out a cloth to wipe them." ]

[ "*A quick, on-the-go way to keep your glasses clean without constantly pulling out a cloth to wipe them* - This literally, physically, scientifically not possible. If you're on the go, you will get shit onto your glasses. \n\nWhat has helped me: Buy a decent wiping-cloth (you know what I mean, I cannot recall the exact word), does not have to be high-end, just not your grandma's rag either. Then you wash it when you feel it is ineffective. Grease from your fingers makes *it* smear. ", "This is a bummer. I've been wearing glasses for less than a year and I was hoping it would get better with time. ", "If there's a magic bullet for this, I haven't found it yet. \n\nHowever, I have two best practices that help:\n\n1) \"In the case or on your face.\" Carry your glasses case around with you. If you take off your glasses, they go in the case. Helps keep them from getting dirty or lost or damaged.\n\n2) Keep a microfiber cloth in the glasses case. The cloths stay a lot cleaner in the case than in your pocket. Use that cloth to wipe your glasses as needed during the day. You can put most of those microfiber cloths through a washing machine, though they usually need to air dry. Get a couple of spares so you can cycle them as they get dirty. ", "I'm not going to lie, this is a big part of the reason I'm considering contacts. That, and the fact that I wouldn't have to constantly push the glasses back onto my face.", "I often just use soap and water. To avoid water streaks, never touch the lens to dry it. Blow on the water droplets to push them toward the edge of the glasses, where you can wipe the plastic or metal edge with a towel. " ]

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[ "How to control sad emotions Ok, this one is a bit embarrassing: but I am a big softie. I cry or get choked up over just about anything and it's getting worse. I randomly watched the Parks and Rec finale, and cried like four damn times for no reason, and I barely like that show. I get choked up at the end of vacations, the last day of school...just about anything where a normal person would think \"aww how sweet\" I'm bawling like a baby. I've presented awards for a youth soccer team that I coached, and I could barely talk when saying one nice thing about each kid. \n\nIs there a trick to keep these emotions in check? My daughter is graduating from the school where I work and I don't want to be an embarrassing mess the whole time. I'm envious of people who can just turn off their emotions and enjoy the moment. Any tips would be appreciated.\n\n(Be gentle) ", "How to control sad emotions Ok, this one is a bit embarrassing: but I am a big softie. I cry or get choked up over just about anything and it's getting worse. I randomly watched the Parks and Rec finale, and cried like four damn times for no reason, and I barely like that show. I get choked up at the end of vacations, the last day of school...just about anything where a normal person would think \"aww how sweet\" I'm bawling like a baby. I've presented awards for a youth soccer team that I coached, and I could barely talk when saying one nice thing about each kid. \n\nIs there a trick to keep these emotions in check? My daughter is graduating from the school where I work and I don't want to be an embarrassing mess the whole time. I'm envious of people who can just turn off their emotions and enjoy the moment. Any tips would be appreciated.\n\n(Be gentle) ", "How to control sad emotions Ok, this one is a bit embarrassing: but I am a big softie. I cry or get choked up over just about anything and it's getting worse. I randomly watched the Parks and Rec finale, and cried like four damn times for no reason, and I barely like that show. I get choked up at the end of vacations, the last day of school...just about anything where a normal person would think \"aww how sweet\" I'm bawling like a baby. I've presented awards for a youth soccer team that I coached, and I could barely talk when saying one nice thing about each kid. \n\nIs there a trick to keep these emotions in check? My daughter is graduating from the school where I work and I don't want to be an embarrassing mess the whole time. I'm envious of people who can just turn off their emotions and enjoy the moment. Any tips would be appreciated.\n\n(Be gentle) ", "How to control sad emotions Ok, this one is a bit embarrassing: but I am a big softie. I cry or get choked up over just about anything and it's getting worse. I randomly watched the Parks and Rec finale, and cried like four damn times for no reason, and I barely like that show. I get choked up at the end of vacations, the last day of school...just about anything where a normal person would think \"aww how sweet\" I'm bawling like a baby. I've presented awards for a youth soccer team that I coached, and I could barely talk when saying one nice thing about each kid. \n\nIs there a trick to keep these emotions in check? My daughter is graduating from the school where I work and I don't want to be an embarrassing mess the whole time. I'm envious of people who can just turn off their emotions and enjoy the moment. Any tips would be appreciated.\n\n(Be gentle) ", "How to control sad emotions Ok, this one is a bit embarrassing: but I am a big softie. I cry or get choked up over just about anything and it's getting worse. I randomly watched the Parks and Rec finale, and cried like four damn times for no reason, and I barely like that show. I get choked up at the end of vacations, the last day of school...just about anything where a normal person would think \"aww how sweet\" I'm bawling like a baby. I've presented awards for a youth soccer team that I coached, and I could barely talk when saying one nice thing about each kid. \n\nIs there a trick to keep these emotions in check? My daughter is graduating from the school where I work and I don't want to be an embarrassing mess the whole time. I'm envious of people who can just turn off their emotions and enjoy the moment. Any tips would be appreciated.\n\n(Be gentle) " ]

[ "Anxiety is often associated with crying for no reason. You become hyper sensitive to emotions and can't handle even the most trivial of things. I had this for years and was eventually treated for Anxiety, and am going through the process still. My crying randomly has significantly dropped and I can get through r/awww without sniffling. :D\n\nSo less of a trick, but more of finding out what is bugging you. I would seek out a good therapist who can help you through the underlying issues. From experience I can say therapy + yoga has been a complete 180 in my life. Good luck!\n", "Im the opposite end of the scale, ive learnt to disassociate myself from things and i quickly forget and move on.. To be honest this isnt a good thing we need to have emotions to build relationships and things like that something i struggle to do, i say if your a big softy keep being like that the world needs more of it, its not good to learn to switch off because once you do its very hard to go back ", "When you are getting emotional, take a deep breath, hold it for a few seconds, then let it out slowly. This might calm you down a bit. It will also give your brain a break from considering the emotional subject matter as it concentrates on why you aren't breathing. Silly, but it works.\n", "Never turn off your emotions, just channel them with actions like hugging, patting , and sharing your emotions with other people even strangers it goes a long way for everyone", "Whenever I am in a place that I don't want to cry and I feel the need I pinch the skin between my index finger and thumb super hard. It always works for me!" ]

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[ "how to stop eating after 8pm I am constantly getting extra hungry after 8pm and It leaves me bloated and feeling bad all night, but I can't make myself stop, short of locking myself in my room at least.", "how to stop eating after 8pm I am constantly getting extra hungry after 8pm and It leaves me bloated and feeling bad all night, but I can't make myself stop, short of locking myself in my room at least.", "how to stop eating after 8pm I am constantly getting extra hungry after 8pm and It leaves me bloated and feeling bad all night, but I can't make myself stop, short of locking myself in my room at least.", "how to stop eating after 8pm I am constantly getting extra hungry after 8pm and It leaves me bloated and feeling bad all night, but I can't make myself stop, short of locking myself in my room at least.", "how to stop eating after 8pm I am constantly getting extra hungry after 8pm and It leaves me bloated and feeling bad all night, but I can't make myself stop, short of locking myself in my room at least.", "how to stop eating after 8pm I am constantly getting extra hungry after 8pm and It leaves me bloated and feeling bad all night, but I can't make myself stop, short of locking myself in my room at least." ]

[ "Brush your teeth at 8pm sharp. It helps your body realise that you are done eating for the day. Plus a lot of food tastes like crap after brushing teeth. ", "Why not eat healthier foods after 8 then? The reason you feel bad and bloated is more likely what you eat then that you eat.", "Have something protein heavy with a bit of fat around like 7/7:30 (my recommendation would be a yogurt but something else like an apple with peanut butter would also do it). The fat helps turn off the \n\"hungry\" drive and the protein keeps you feeling full", "Download a calorie counting app. Strive to eat healthy calories all day. If you have filled your body with the nutrition and calories it needs, you should feel less hunger in the evening.", "Distract yourself from eating after 8 - read a book, do a puzzle, talk to a friend. \n\nThe brushing your teeth tip is good too. \n\nMaybe try a combination of ideas. ", "2 suggestions. \n1. Find a hobby like crocheting or rubik's cubes that keeps your hands busy. I find if my hands are preoccupied it's really inconvenient to eat. Activities like knitting require a level of commitment so it's hard to put it down without messing up. \n2. Try switching out food for beverages after 8 first. If you're really hungry a cup of chocolate milk/hot chocolate or decaf Chai tea latte should satisfy you. Work your way down from dairy based drinks to something with less calories like tea. If you're getting bloated from fruits I would probably avoid fruit juices. " ]

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[ "Best way to get something off your mind? I know time is the best remedy for forgetting about something, but what are some ways to quicken the process?", "Best way to get something off your mind? I know time is the best remedy for forgetting about something, but what are some ways to quicken the process?", "Best way to get something off your mind? I know time is the best remedy for forgetting about something, but what are some ways to quicken the process?", "Best way to get something off your mind? I know time is the best remedy for forgetting about something, but what are some ways to quicken the process?", "Best way to get something off your mind? I know time is the best remedy for forgetting about something, but what are some ways to quicken the process?", "Best way to get something off your mind? I know time is the best remedy for forgetting about something, but what are some ways to quicken the process?", "Best way to get something off your mind? I know time is the best remedy for forgetting about something, but what are some ways to quicken the process?", "Best way to get something off your mind? I know time is the best remedy for forgetting about something, but what are some ways to quicken the process?", "Best way to get something off your mind? I know time is the best remedy for forgetting about something, but what are some ways to quicken the process?" ]

[ "Don't think about [penguins](https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/51/72/7f/51727f17407fcfba7cfcea1c63c2aab1.jpg) instead!", "Try not to think about it too much. Keep yourself busy, when the offensive thought comes, don't ponder it, distract yourself. Concentrate on something, work harder, learn a new skill, meet new people. The more you occupy your brain with other things, the faster you forget the thing.", "Suppress it for a few days and then sit down and write about it. Then suppress it a few more days. Then write about it again. Repeat until you can tolerate going long periods without needing to write about it. ", "here's something /u/GimmeCat told me when I asked him about putting off my fear of the lack of an afterlife: \n\n> I can't tell you anything to stop thinking about it entirely, but I did have some limited success recently with a new coping technique I call 'acknowledgement'. When a bad thought bubbles up, stop whatever you're doing and pay attention to it. Don't start exploring the dark questions, just say to yourself \"ok, that thought happened\". Give it 5 seconds of acknowledgement. Then, go back to what you were doing before. Once those 5 seconds are up, you're not allowed to think about the thought anymore.\n> > > It's difficult to do at first, but you can train yourself to 'drop the subject' this way, instead of having it float around your head for the next hour/day.\n\nI've been using that ever since.", "If its something you have to take care of but cant? Put it in a to do list and put it somewhere conspicuous. Go back to it when you can handle it. If it's time sensitive, put a reminder on your phone or Google Keep.\n\nIf it's something you can't do anything about, then keeping your mind busy is your best option. Choose a project to work on, or pick annoyances in your daily life and try to address those. \n\nTrying to forget something altogether? Take items that give you visual cues to that memory and get rid of or put them away. Try changing up your environment then work on *anything* you've been putting off.", "What I like to do is take a typing test that measures my speed and accuracy. It's engaging enough for your brain to focus on that and because you're racing against a clock you do not have time to lose focus. ", "M", "I find that when i play pick up basketball the only thing i think about is basketball. guess its hard to run around and think of other things haha", "After I witnessed some particularly gruesome and fatal trauma involving an immediate family member, my therapist helped me train my brain to associate imagery/memories with different emotions than what I typically would experience, through a practice called EMDR. \nI don't know what severity you're dealing with, but if it's necessary, therapy is never a waste of time IMO. " ]

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[ "How to minimize blister formation with shoes? I'm not talking about breaking in shoes.\n\nWhen shopping for shoes I generally get shoes a size bigger than \"these shoes feel so tight they're constricting bloodflow\", if you think that's my issue go ahead and post that.\n\nMore to the point, I regularly get blisters/irritation either across my heel or along the sides of the front tips of my feet. It's currently winter here, I wear boots and double layering socks greatly minimizes the problem, but I'm still left with angry red marks at the end of the day, decent amount of walking needs to be done each day. This has been a constant problem my whole life.\n\nSo please help me lifeprotip people. Should I get tighter shoes? Are there products that can help? (Sweat prevents bandaids and similar items from staying at the front of my feet and bandaids on my heels slowly shred away). Are my feet and ankles just horribly shaped that this has been a constant problem? Honestly the only shoes that don't cause me much in the way of problems are flipflops, though the underside of my foot does get friction burns, and fuzzy slippers. If I could walk everywhere barefoot, I'd definitely do that.\n\nTeach me the mystic ways of blister prevention.\n\nThanks everyone. ", "How to minimize blister formation with shoes? I'm not talking about breaking in shoes.\n\nWhen shopping for shoes I generally get shoes a size bigger than \"these shoes feel so tight they're constricting bloodflow\", if you think that's my issue go ahead and post that.\n\nMore to the point, I regularly get blisters/irritation either across my heel or along the sides of the front tips of my feet. It's currently winter here, I wear boots and double layering socks greatly minimizes the problem, but I'm still left with angry red marks at the end of the day, decent amount of walking needs to be done each day. This has been a constant problem my whole life.\n\nSo please help me lifeprotip people. Should I get tighter shoes? Are there products that can help? (Sweat prevents bandaids and similar items from staying at the front of my feet and bandaids on my heels slowly shred away). Are my feet and ankles just horribly shaped that this has been a constant problem? Honestly the only shoes that don't cause me much in the way of problems are flipflops, though the underside of my foot does get friction burns, and fuzzy slippers. If I could walk everywhere barefoot, I'd definitely do that.\n\nTeach me the mystic ways of blister prevention.\n\nThanks everyone. ", "How to minimize blister formation with shoes? I'm not talking about breaking in shoes.\n\nWhen shopping for shoes I generally get shoes a size bigger than \"these shoes feel so tight they're constricting bloodflow\", if you think that's my issue go ahead and post that.\n\nMore to the point, I regularly get blisters/irritation either across my heel or along the sides of the front tips of my feet. It's currently winter here, I wear boots and double layering socks greatly minimizes the problem, but I'm still left with angry red marks at the end of the day, decent amount of walking needs to be done each day. This has been a constant problem my whole life.\n\nSo please help me lifeprotip people. Should I get tighter shoes? Are there products that can help? (Sweat prevents bandaids and similar items from staying at the front of my feet and bandaids on my heels slowly shred away). Are my feet and ankles just horribly shaped that this has been a constant problem? Honestly the only shoes that don't cause me much in the way of problems are flipflops, though the underside of my foot does get friction burns, and fuzzy slippers. If I could walk everywhere barefoot, I'd definitely do that.\n\nTeach me the mystic ways of blister prevention.\n\nThanks everyone. " ]

[ "Put sports tape on blister risk areas when your feet are dry. The adhesive will stick well and will stay stuck even if you start sweating later on. I used to put a strip on my heels before hiking or mountaineering. Then the friction is on the tape and not your skin. No blisters.", "One thing I can suggest from my years of hiking and use of heavy boots at work, is double sock. I usually wear a pair of thick wool socks and a lighter pair of socks. Avoid cotton if you can because that will work against you in most cases. Another trick I've learned is using baby powder to keep your feet dry. Not sure how often you get breaks but if you can find the time to apply some to your bare feet it will help with moisture and help prevent blisters and sores. ", "I have this problem and no amount of double socking works. So if I know I'm going to wear shoes that give blisters I tape my heels up with vet wrap. It's a material that only sticks to itself and not skin. I can find it in the supermarket (although in there it's only called a bandage of some sort). Google vet wrap to understand what I mean. \nYou can add thickness to your heels without adding thickness to other areas of the foot which can make shoes feel uncomfortable.\nSide note: A farmer once told me he used to soak cloth in methylated spirits and strap it to his heels, it really dries out the skin and hardens it (although I probs wouldn't do this myself). " ]

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[ "Removing deep, long-ingrained blackheads Hey LPT, I have an issue with a few pesky blackheads. Most blackheads I get are easy to remove with the classic \"press the skin with one's fingers\" method, but I have some deep blackheads that are persistent in their residence in the skin of my forehead for a year or so. I don't get blackheads much anymore because I drink a ton of water now, but there's three to four left I can't seem to remove.\n\nI've tried a close-pin needle, carefully sliding it inside the head to loosen them up, but all that ends up doing is creating a small red bump around the blackhead and some slight bleeding.\n\nAnyone have any tips?", "Removing deep, long-ingrained blackheads Hey LPT, I have an issue with a few pesky blackheads. Most blackheads I get are easy to remove with the classic \"press the skin with one's fingers\" method, but I have some deep blackheads that are persistent in their residence in the skin of my forehead for a year or so. I don't get blackheads much anymore because I drink a ton of water now, but there's three to four left I can't seem to remove.\n\nI've tried a close-pin needle, carefully sliding it inside the head to loosen them up, but all that ends up doing is creating a small red bump around the blackhead and some slight bleeding.\n\nAnyone have any tips?", "Removing deep, long-ingrained blackheads Hey LPT, I have an issue with a few pesky blackheads. Most blackheads I get are easy to remove with the classic \"press the skin with one's fingers\" method, but I have some deep blackheads that are persistent in their residence in the skin of my forehead for a year or so. I don't get blackheads much anymore because I drink a ton of water now, but there's three to four left I can't seem to remove.\n\nI've tried a close-pin needle, carefully sliding it inside the head to loosen them up, but all that ends up doing is creating a small red bump around the blackhead and some slight bleeding.\n\nAnyone have any tips?" ]

[ "From what I've read over and over again, deeply ingrained black heads are impossible to completely get rid of. Not because you can't actually get the sebum and stuff out, but because the pore is permanently stretched and will always look a little black. However...\n\nYou can use an extractor tool which will get tons of ooey gooey goodness out of your pores. They sell them at any drug store with a makeup section. This is what I do and I've had a much cleaner, more even toned face ever since.\n\nGet an extractor and get a mirror you can put in the shower. I have s suction cup kind of mirror. Get in your nice hot shower and wash, maybe exfoliate your face. Give yourself about 10 minutes in the shower before you start using the tool. Plenty of time for your pores to open and skin to soften. Then go to town with that extractor. Be sure to wash your face again when you are done to clear away what you've squeezed out, but make sure you're using something gentle and non drying. Hope this helped a little.\n\nQuick ", "Sure, you can clean the pores out completely, but blackheads will usually reappear since sebum buildup is an *internal* issue. Consider using some benzoyl peroxide and/or salicylic acid. [If you can procure them, I'd alternatively recommend tea tree oil, manuka honey masks, or azelaic acid.] You should also check out Inequilibrium's excellent [guide](http://www.reddit.com/r/acne/comments/nrkg2/the_redditors_guide_to_acne_version_2/). Good luck!", "I got myself one of those Olay face brush thingamajiggers at Sams club. Works pretty well. I have gigantic pores on my nose. I rarely get pimples there though. It has shrunk my pores somewhat since it cleans deeper." ]

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[ "What to do when you just do not get what you are studying for no matter how hard you try? 2nd year college student here. I'm currently taking a Physiology class and it is the hardest class I have ever taken in my life. I have a midterm this coming Monday and I'm trying so hard to grasp the information I'm getting from the book but I just can't do it. Do you guys have any tips to overcome this type of situation? Any help is appreciated.", "What to do when you just do not get what you are studying for no matter how hard you try? 2nd year college student here. I'm currently taking a Physiology class and it is the hardest class I have ever taken in my life. I have a midterm this coming Monday and I'm trying so hard to grasp the information I'm getting from the book but I just can't do it. Do you guys have any tips to overcome this type of situation? Any help is appreciated.", "What to do when you just do not get what you are studying for no matter how hard you try? 2nd year college student here. I'm currently taking a Physiology class and it is the hardest class I have ever taken in my life. I have a midterm this coming Monday and I'm trying so hard to grasp the information I'm getting from the book but I just can't do it. Do you guys have any tips to overcome this type of situation? Any help is appreciated.", "What to do when you just do not get what you are studying for no matter how hard you try? 2nd year college student here. I'm currently taking a Physiology class and it is the hardest class I have ever taken in my life. I have a midterm this coming Monday and I'm trying so hard to grasp the information I'm getting from the book but I just can't do it. Do you guys have any tips to overcome this type of situation? Any help is appreciated.", "What to do when you just do not get what you are studying for no matter how hard you try? 2nd year college student here. I'm currently taking a Physiology class and it is the hardest class I have ever taken in my life. I have a midterm this coming Monday and I'm trying so hard to grasp the information I'm getting from the book but I just can't do it. Do you guys have any tips to overcome this type of situation? Any help is appreciated.", "What to do when you just do not get what you are studying for no matter how hard you try? 2nd year college student here. I'm currently taking a Physiology class and it is the hardest class I have ever taken in my life. I have a midterm this coming Monday and I'm trying so hard to grasp the information I'm getting from the book but I just can't do it. Do you guys have any tips to overcome this type of situation? Any help is appreciated.", "What to do when you just do not get what you are studying for no matter how hard you try? 2nd year college student here. I'm currently taking a Physiology class and it is the hardest class I have ever taken in my life. I have a midterm this coming Monday and I'm trying so hard to grasp the information I'm getting from the book but I just can't do it. Do you guys have any tips to overcome this type of situation? Any help is appreciated." ]

[ "Go back and review the material that segued into the material you're not getting then try again. Also do your own research online for relevant material ", "Can you get access to Sample/Previous years' test papers? Read the questions thoroughly. Attempt to answer them. \n\nIf not, try framing questions yourself, like \"What is an embolism?\" This is much less efficient than questions framed by experts but will get our job done\n\n\nThis will give you a idea of what is actually expected for you to know. Your study will remain focused once your goal is set in stone.\n\nRudyard Kipling has suggested something similar in his advise of remembering the 6 sisters as being the key to comprehension:\n\nWhat\n\nWhen\n\nWhere\n\nWhom\n\nWhy\n\nHow \n\nThis will also give you a nice overview, that'll help you piece together the information into one meaningful chunk. \n\nPerform a study session after this exercise and then repeat the Q/A session to gauge progress. ", "First off, follow u/smy10in 's advice. IF you only care about the result of the test, try to get previous versions to study from so you can pass.\nOtherwise, you don't have to rely on the textbook for physiology. If there are powerpoint slides or some other professor approved lecture notes, study those and if/when you have questions THEN return to the book. Try to get in the professor's head- think like them.\nAlso, check out Khan Academy to explain some basic principles, (https://www.khanacademy.org/test-prep/mcat/organ-systems). The link is organized by the people who make the medical school entrance exam and will likely be the level of depth you'll be tested on. Plus they kinda make the material more interesting!\nGood luck!\nSigned a Masters student in physiology", "Find an alternative explanation - sometimes it takes lecture, reading the book, and some random Youtube video before I finally understand something.", "Email the teacher. Teachers like when students are engaged and care about learning. They will be happy to help. ", "You don't want to take the class over again, wasting time and money. \n\nJust focus on the material, \"jump through the hoops\" and keep moving forward. Keep graduation in two years as your end goal. You've got this. ", "It sounds counter intuitive, but try writing a summary of the topic as though you were preparing to teach someone else about it. This will shift your mindset. You probably didn't get the topic because you were getting lost in the details.\n\nOn that note, there is another thing that can work for more difficult topics. I did really well on most topics in college but for some reason \nCalculus was killing me and it was required for science majors. So after having a hard time with the intro section of the Calc class for science majors, I took the \"bonehead\" version of Calculus that was for non science majors. It was dumbed down and you couldn't get cr" ]

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[ "How to get rid of really REALLY dry skin? So it's getting colder outside, and my face is so dry, I can barely open my mouth to talk. I take one shower in the morning, and I wash my face every hour with lukewarm water, but after around 5 minutes after I was my face, my skin is back to what it was. Dry and peeling and painful. Any tips to get rid of this? I've tried multiple lotions, and they stop working just as fast as washing my face does.", "How to get rid of really REALLY dry skin? So it's getting colder outside, and my face is so dry, I can barely open my mouth to talk. I take one shower in the morning, and I wash my face every hour with lukewarm water, but after around 5 minutes after I was my face, my skin is back to what it was. Dry and peeling and painful. Any tips to get rid of this? I've tried multiple lotions, and they stop working just as fast as washing my face does.", "How to get rid of really REALLY dry skin? So it's getting colder outside, and my face is so dry, I can barely open my mouth to talk. I take one shower in the morning, and I wash my face every hour with lukewarm water, but after around 5 minutes after I was my face, my skin is back to what it was. Dry and peeling and painful. Any tips to get rid of this? I've tried multiple lotions, and they stop working just as fast as washing my face does.", "How to get rid of really REALLY dry skin? So it's getting colder outside, and my face is so dry, I can barely open my mouth to talk. I take one shower in the morning, and I wash my face every hour with lukewarm water, but after around 5 minutes after I was my face, my skin is back to what it was. Dry and peeling and painful. Any tips to get rid of this? I've tried multiple lotions, and they stop working just as fast as washing my face does.", "How to get rid of really REALLY dry skin? So it's getting colder outside, and my face is so dry, I can barely open my mouth to talk. I take one shower in the morning, and I wash my face every hour with lukewarm water, but after around 5 minutes after I was my face, my skin is back to what it was. Dry and peeling and painful. Any tips to get rid of this? I've tried multiple lotions, and they stop working just as fast as washing my face does.", "How to get rid of really REALLY dry skin? So it's getting colder outside, and my face is so dry, I can barely open my mouth to talk. I take one shower in the morning, and I wash my face every hour with lukewarm water, but after around 5 minutes after I was my face, my skin is back to what it was. Dry and peeling and painful. Any tips to get rid of this? I've tried multiple lotions, and they stop working just as fast as washing my face does.", "How to get rid of really REALLY dry skin? So it's getting colder outside, and my face is so dry, I can barely open my mouth to talk. I take one shower in the morning, and I wash my face every hour with lukewarm water, but after around 5 minutes after I was my face, my skin is back to what it was. Dry and peeling and painful. Any tips to get rid of this? I've tried multiple lotions, and they stop working just as fast as washing my face does.", "How to get rid of really REALLY dry skin? So it's getting colder outside, and my face is so dry, I can barely open my mouth to talk. I take one shower in the morning, and I wash my face every hour with lukewarm water, but after around 5 minutes after I was my face, my skin is back to what it was. Dry and peeling and painful. Any tips to get rid of this? I've tried multiple lotions, and they stop working just as fast as washing my face does.", "How to get rid of really REALLY dry skin? So it's getting colder outside, and my face is so dry, I can barely open my mouth to talk. I take one shower in the morning, and I wash my face every hour with lukewarm water, but after around 5 minutes after I was my face, my skin is back to what it was. Dry and peeling and painful. Any tips to get rid of this? I've tried multiple lotions, and they stop working just as fast as washing my face does.", "How to get rid of really REALLY dry skin? So it's getting colder outside, and my face is so dry, I can barely open my mouth to talk. I take one shower in the morning, and I wash my face every hour with lukewarm water, but after around 5 minutes after I was my face, my skin is back to what it was. Dry and peeling and painful. Any tips to get rid of this? I've tried multiple lotions, and they stop working just as fast as washing my face does.", "How to get rid of really REALLY dry skin? So it's getting colder outside, and my face is so dry, I can barely open my mouth to talk. I take one shower in the morning, and I wash my face every hour with lukewarm water, but after around 5 minutes after I was my face, my skin is back to what it was. Dry and peeling and painful. Any tips to get rid of this? I've tried multiple lotions, and they stop working just as fast as washing my face does.", "How to get rid of really REALLY dry skin? So it's getting colder outside, and my face is so dry, I can barely open my mouth to talk. I take one shower in the morning, and I wash my face every hour with lukewarm water, but after around 5 minutes after I was my face, my skin is back to what it was. Dry and peeling and painful. Any tips to get rid of this? I've tried multiple lotions, and they stop working just as fast as washing my face does.", "How to get rid of really REALLY dry skin? So it's getting colder outside, and my face is so dry, I can barely open my mouth to talk. I take one shower in the morning, and I wash my face every hour with lukewarm water, but after around 5 minutes after I was my face, my skin is back to what it was. Dry and peeling and painful. Any tips to get rid of this? I've tried multiple lotions, and they stop working just as fast as washing my face does.", "How to get rid of really REALLY dry skin? So it's getting colder outside, and my face is so dry, I can barely open my mouth to talk. I take one shower in the morning, and I wash my face every hour with lukewarm water, but after around 5 minutes after I was my face, my skin is back to what it was. Dry and peeling and painful. Any tips to get rid of this? I've tried multiple lotions, and they stop working just as fast as washing my face does.", "How to get rid of really REALLY dry skin? So it's getting colder outside, and my face is so dry, I can barely open my mouth to talk. I take one shower in the morning, and I wash my face every hour with lukewarm water, but after around 5 minutes after I was my face, my skin is back to what it was. Dry and peeling and painful. Any tips to get rid of this? I've tried multiple lotions, and they stop working just as fast as washing my face does.", "How to get rid of really REALLY dry skin? So it's getting colder outside, and my face is so dry, I can barely open my mouth to talk. I take one shower in the morning, and I wash my face every hour with lukewarm water, but after around 5 minutes after I was my face, my skin is back to what it was. Dry and peeling and painful. Any tips to get rid of this? I've tried multiple lotions, and they stop working just as fast as washing my face does.", "How to get rid of really REALLY dry skin? So it's getting colder outside, and my face is so dry, I can barely open my mouth to talk. I take one shower in the morning, and I wash my face every hour with lukewarm water, but after around 5 minutes after I was my face, my skin is back to what it was. Dry and peeling and painful. Any tips to get rid of this? I've tried multiple lotions, and they stop working just as fast as washing my face does." ]

[ "Stop washing your face so much. The water will dry out your skin. Use a moisturiser like Aveeno cream. ", "Why on earth are you washing your face like that? I have horrendously dry skin and the only way to fight it is to let the natural oils in your skin hydrate it the way they're supposed to. I NEVER wash my face, ever. I let the warm water from my shower sluice over it, but other than that unless you're a line cook or a coal miner you should NOT need to wash your face. \nHere is what I bet has happened. If you've been washing your face like that for a while you've probably gotten your skin's oil production all out of whack. So this weekend, starting on Friday morning, stop washing your face. Pound water, seriously drink like a gallon per day for the next several days. When your skin feels dry or irritable put a thin layer or Aveda face therapy (I think it's the best) on and let it sit. Don't rub it around. Also make sure you don't have heaters or fans blowing at your face, especially in the car. And then drink more water. And then more water. More things you can do would include getting a humidifier for your bedroom, taking vitamins (I take a vitamin E supplement). Your face will probably feel super weird, since this will be so different from your normal routine, which is why I said to do it on the weekend. After this weekend wash your face once per day if you really feel you must, but really it's rarely needed. \n \nWhat makes your skin feel comfortable and hydrated is the oils that occur naturally in the dermis, not water. Water removes the oils and then evaporates, giving you that \"oh god I'm wearing a mask that's too tight\" feeling. So as long as you let the skin hydrate itself with oil, you'll be fine. If you still feel dry and tight, try the Aveeno shower oil products. They're wonderful and you smell like oatmeal all day!", "1. Make sure to drink lots of water every day. This has really helped me.\n\n2. Pat your skin with a towel rather than rubbing it after a shower. Avoid extremely hot showers and soaking in a tub. If you can stand to do it, don't shower every day and when you do shower, end with a cool rinse.\n\n3. If you have a CVS near you, get their fragrance free Dry Skin Therapy, and slather it onto your damp skin after a shower. Stuff works wonders.\n", "Use coconut oil on your face before bed. It's a great moisturizer and it's not a chemical. You might be having an adverse reaction to the chemicals in off-the-counter lotions. Only wash your face at night, then apply a lot of coconut oil. You could also do spot treatments throughout the day.", "Apart from thick face creams, not washing your face that often, avoiding hot showers and drinking lots of water, try adding foods with natural oils to your diet, like nuts and avocados. Also, when I had really dry skin, I would use body oils (I think it was avocado oil) right after a shower while still wet and air dry if possible. After that you can still use a lotion or moisturiser, but you'll notice that you don't need that much for the skin to feel better.", "Look into waking your face with oil (castor oil + safflower oil for me). It works feat, my skin has never been clearer and I no longer have a big issue with dry skin.\n", "try moisturizing your face with a dab of petroleum jelly on your palm. wet your other hand. rub palms together. touch face lightly to spread a tiny amount of petroleum jelly all over. make sure to use an oil based lip balm not a wax based one. but first try moisturizing after you shower with an alcohol free lotion.\n", "moisturize, exfoliate, moisturize. \ndrink lots of water, get your 3-6-9's. \nand maybe a humidifier in your house. \nAlso, [Bio-Oil](http://www.bio-oil.com/en-us/application/dehydrated-skin) is worth every penny.", "Water is actually drying out your face. Try the [Oil Cleansing Method.](http://www.reddit.com/r/SkincareAddiction/comments/1a1cj3/everything_you_wanted_to_know_about_ocm_the_oil/) Also read the /r/SkincareAddiction page on [Dehydrated Skin.](http://www.reddit.com/r/SkincareAddiction/comments/1akqed/dehydrated_skin_what_is_it_what_it_looks_like_and/)\nThis should most definitely help, though it will take some time and some figuring out what works best for your own face. ", "Try only washing your face once a day. Then moisturize with something like carave or cetaphil because if it is something related to eczema, it will make it go away. ", "Stop washing your face every hour and go check out r/SkinCareAddiction. It will change your life (face).", "Right after you step out of the shower, try rubbing in a bit of petroleum jelly. Your skin will absorb it on the surface and it will act as a barrier to lock in the hydration from the shower inside your skin and drastically reduce dryness. ", "Only wash your face once a day. Others have mentioned glycerin, which is a wonderful idea. When you wash your face, preferably at night, use a soap that has glycerin in it. Unfortunately, soaps that you buy at the store actually have no glycerin in it. Glycerin is a natural by-product of the soap making process that name brand soap manufacturers remove from the compound in order to sell as a seperate product. Look for a local soap maker or small skin care business that is eco-friendly and that keeps the glycerin in the soap. I say eco-friendly because they are more likely to be safest for sensitive skin. Also, its also a good idea to support local businesses because then you are directly investing in your local economy. My skin is very dry, so after I wash my face, I massage a generous amount of Avon Extreme Moisture Therapy cream into my face from ear to ear, hairline to neck. It costs about $12 (I think..) and it's worked wonders for me. Glycerin soap and the Avon cream are great for other areas as well (such as hands, feet, arms, etc.). My neighbor makes wonderful glycerin soap and takes orders. PM me if you are interested in checking her out.", "In winter I ride my bike a lot or ski, and I find that a thin layer of vaseline does wonders. But as has been mentioned before, stop washing your face so much and use warm water, not hot.", "I stopped using soap completely.\n\nAfter about three weeks of adjustment, my skin became soft and supple. And I live in a desert.\n\nYou'll still need to scrub. Simply take a washcloth, soak with plain water, and scrub-a-dub-dub.", "Drink lots of water and use a moisturizer with hyaluronic acid, which holds 1000x its weight in water. Put it on while your face is still wet. CeraVe in the tub is a good one. \n\nI have chronically dehydrated skin on my right hand and these things help a bit.", "[this](http://cadmiumyellowskies.files.wordpress.com/2010/08/cheese-shredder.gif) gets rid of all dry skin every time, though never intentionally I've done it many times." ]

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[ "How to stop being lazy How do I stop being lazy? It's something I've seriously struggled with all my life. I can have things I urgently require to do and will sit there on my phone.\n\nThe very act of starting to overcome lazyness is overcoming it. I just can't take that step.\n\nEven if it's for things that I know are important like revising for am exam that I have in 24 hours I still push it off.\n\nPlease help me. I feel my life falling apart.\n\nI'm an intelligent person but I can't seem do overcome this hurdle.\n\nPlease, I'm begging for advice!", "How to stop being lazy How do I stop being lazy? It's something I've seriously struggled with all my life. I can have things I urgently require to do and will sit there on my phone.\n\nThe very act of starting to overcome lazyness is overcoming it. I just can't take that step.\n\nEven if it's for things that I know are important like revising for am exam that I have in 24 hours I still push it off.\n\nPlease help me. I feel my life falling apart.\n\nI'm an intelligent person but I can't seem do overcome this hurdle.\n\nPlease, I'm begging for advice!", "How to stop being lazy How do I stop being lazy? It's something I've seriously struggled with all my life. I can have things I urgently require to do and will sit there on my phone.\n\nThe very act of starting to overcome lazyness is overcoming it. I just can't take that step.\n\nEven if it's for things that I know are important like revising for am exam that I have in 24 hours I still push it off.\n\nPlease help me. I feel my life falling apart.\n\nI'm an intelligent person but I can't seem do overcome this hurdle.\n\nPlease, I'm begging for advice!", "How to stop being lazy How do I stop being lazy? It's something I've seriously struggled with all my life. I can have things I urgently require to do and will sit there on my phone.\n\nThe very act of starting to overcome lazyness is overcoming it. I just can't take that step.\n\nEven if it's for things that I know are important like revising for am exam that I have in 24 hours I still push it off.\n\nPlease help me. I feel my life falling apart.\n\nI'm an intelligent person but I can't seem do overcome this hurdle.\n\nPlease, I'm begging for advice!", "How to stop being lazy How do I stop being lazy? It's something I've seriously struggled with all my life. I can have things I urgently require to do and will sit there on my phone.\n\nThe very act of starting to overcome lazyness is overcoming it. I just can't take that step.\n\nEven if it's for things that I know are important like revising for am exam that I have in 24 hours I still push it off.\n\nPlease help me. I feel my life falling apart.\n\nI'm an intelligent person but I can't seem do overcome this hurdle.\n\nPlease, I'm begging for advice!", "How to stop being lazy How do I stop being lazy? It's something I've seriously struggled with all my life. I can have things I urgently require to do and will sit there on my phone.\n\nThe very act of starting to overcome lazyness is overcoming it. I just can't take that step.\n\nEven if it's for things that I know are important like revising for am exam that I have in 24 hours I still push it off.\n\nPlease help me. I feel my life falling apart.\n\nI'm an intelligent person but I can't seem do overcome this hurdle.\n\nPlease, I'm begging for advice!", "How to stop being lazy How do I stop being lazy? It's something I've seriously struggled with all my life. I can have things I urgently require to do and will sit there on my phone.\n\nThe very act of starting to overcome lazyness is overcoming it. I just can't take that step.\n\nEven if it's for things that I know are important like revising for am exam that I have in 24 hours I still push it off.\n\nPlease help me. I feel my life falling apart.\n\nI'm an intelligent person but I can't seem do overcome this hurdle.\n\nPlease, I'm begging for advice!", "How to stop being lazy How do I stop being lazy? It's something I've seriously struggled with all my life. I can have things I urgently require to do and will sit there on my phone.\n\nThe very act of starting to overcome lazyness is overcoming it. I just can't take that step.\n\nEven if it's for things that I know are important like revising for am exam that I have in 24 hours I still push it off.\n\nPlease help me. I feel my life falling apart.\n\nI'm an intelligent person but I can't seem do overcome this hurdle.\n\nPlease, I'm begging for advice!" ]

[ "You are probably overwhelmed by decisions and opportunity. Pick one thing and get progressively better at it.", "You may be like me and need to be on a deadline to perform well. Of that's the case you need to pile on responsibility.\n\nYou may be awesome but only in the clutch..... It's good", "There are three ways people generally respond to stress - fight, flight or freeze. Possibly you are in \"freeze\" at these moments that you are calling laziness.\n\nYou wanted to know what a counselor might do for you. Here are two things a professional psychologist might be able to help you with. What I am writing is based on experiences of people I know who went as adults for therapy for the first time.\n\nA psychologist might:\n\n1. Coach you into analyzing which situations make you freeze and why. I.e. he or she would ask you leading questions until a pattern emerges. The psychologist will probably try to get you to discover the pattern as opposed to the psychologist just making guesses. \n\n\n2. Coach you into developing some strategies. Your solution will be unique to you and serve your values and goals.\n\nPsychologists don't lecture you; they are usually pleasant empathetic people who lead you along to discover your own patterns of thought. You then spot your own little glitches in your thinking and you both laugh together at them. Often the patterns are ways of thinking that served you well years ago but don't fit your new situation, duh. In other words, they are often not exactly \"crazy\" or \"stupid\" just glitchy or outdated, though in a subtle way.\n\nPsychologists aren't MDs and don't prescribe drugs. If your patterns of thinking are very stubborn or extreme and fit into a pattern of a mental illness that is often helped by medication, and they cause you great difficulty in life, then you might be referred to a psychiatrist to discuss the possibility of using medication. That's a whole other discussion so I will stop here . . .\n\n\n\n", "The last time I was *actually* productive in my life, I got rid of my smartphone.\n\nThen my nan got an iPhone, hated it, and begged me to take over the contract. Commence laziness. ", "Don't think too much about it, just do it. Sounds like a cliche, but don't overthink it. Or do it so you can do whatever you do when you're finished with the task, like playing videogames or hanging out with friends", "Do these things that you are lazy about get done? To me, it's one thing to not want to do something, lack motivation, and procrastinate but still get it done. It's another thing to not do the assignment or task at all eventhough, as you mentioned, it's important stuff. \n\nIn my opinion once laziness/procrastination starts to seriously affect our lives (make it feel like it's falling apart), it's time to talk with a professional. Best of luck!", "This isn't entirely helpful, but a good motivation is the following:\n\nRealize that you'll have a life of nothing accomplished and will inevitably suffer the results\n\nOR\n\nGet to the point where you're living in the consequences of your laziness. You'll realize that you need to make a change.... but then have to decide if you will.\n\n...In life there are choices. No one can force you to make them. Just know if you ignore making them, then you'll most likely live a shitty life. So on that note, your choosing failure and a shitty life if you do not make other/wiser choices. Good luck.", "Be lazy. Lazy is good. But be lazy in a smart way. Don't spend time on the net. Don't watch tv. Don't drink. Do what is good for you. Take a walk. Read a book. Sit in silence. Do some sport. Then, when it's really time to get to work, just do it as fast and efficient as possible. Then be lazy again. This is how I do it. While being lazy I play ukulele, I draw, I have fun. I work 1-2 days a week and manage to do everything I used to do in full time, sit on my ass, dull computer job. Try it. :) Good luck my friend.\n\nOh! " ]

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[ "How to get someone to talk at length about themselves? I have a really strong tendency to stoke conversation by just sharing random personal anecdotes. It gets conversation going, but it's always focused on me, and it feels weird.\n\nAsking someone random questions about themselves (like \"what do you do for a living\") without knowing what they care about tends to just lead to small talk. How do I figure out what to ask someone to start a real conversation that focuses on them?", "How to get someone to talk at length about themselves? I have a really strong tendency to stoke conversation by just sharing random personal anecdotes. It gets conversation going, but it's always focused on me, and it feels weird.\n\nAsking someone random questions about themselves (like \"what do you do for a living\") without knowing what they care about tends to just lead to small talk. How do I figure out what to ask someone to start a real conversation that focuses on them?", "How to get someone to talk at length about themselves? I have a really strong tendency to stoke conversation by just sharing random personal anecdotes. It gets conversation going, but it's always focused on me, and it feels weird.\n\nAsking someone random questions about themselves (like \"what do you do for a living\") without knowing what they care about tends to just lead to small talk. How do I figure out what to ask someone to start a real conversation that focuses on them?", "How to get someone to talk at length about themselves? I have a really strong tendency to stoke conversation by just sharing random personal anecdotes. It gets conversation going, but it's always focused on me, and it feels weird.\n\nAsking someone random questions about themselves (like \"what do you do for a living\") without knowing what they care about tends to just lead to small talk. How do I figure out what to ask someone to start a real conversation that focuses on them?", "How to get someone to talk at length about themselves? I have a really strong tendency to stoke conversation by just sharing random personal anecdotes. It gets conversation going, but it's always focused on me, and it feels weird.\n\nAsking someone random questions about themselves (like \"what do you do for a living\") without knowing what they care about tends to just lead to small talk. How do I figure out what to ask someone to start a real conversation that focuses on them?", "How to get someone to talk at length about themselves? I have a really strong tendency to stoke conversation by just sharing random personal anecdotes. It gets conversation going, but it's always focused on me, and it feels weird.\n\nAsking someone random questions about themselves (like \"what do you do for a living\") without knowing what they care about tends to just lead to small talk. How do I figure out what to ask someone to start a real conversation that focuses on them?", "How to get someone to talk at length about themselves? I have a really strong tendency to stoke conversation by just sharing random personal anecdotes. It gets conversation going, but it's always focused on me, and it feels weird.\n\nAsking someone random questions about themselves (like \"what do you do for a living\") without knowing what they care about tends to just lead to small talk. How do I figure out what to ask someone to start a real conversation that focuses on them?", "How to get someone to talk at length about themselves? I have a really strong tendency to stoke conversation by just sharing random personal anecdotes. It gets conversation going, but it's always focused on me, and it feels weird.\n\nAsking someone random questions about themselves (like \"what do you do for a living\") without knowing what they care about tends to just lead to small talk. How do I figure out what to ask someone to start a real conversation that focuses on them?", "How to get someone to talk at length about themselves? I have a really strong tendency to stoke conversation by just sharing random personal anecdotes. It gets conversation going, but it's always focused on me, and it feels weird.\n\nAsking someone random questions about themselves (like \"what do you do for a living\") without knowing what they care about tends to just lead to small talk. How do I figure out what to ask someone to start a real conversation that focuses on them?" ]

[ "While it may still seem like questioning, asking certain open ended questions typically will get people to open up. Asking someone about what they are passionate about is a great place to start. If they are truly passionate about, they should be able to talk for hours. \nThe biggest thing in getting someone to talk about themselves is to engage them in something they are knowledgeable about. It makes it easier to talk if they are sure of what they are talking about.", "Read Dale Carnegie's epic work, \"How to win friends and influence people.\" Your life will never be the same. Enjoy!", "\"I'm looking for a good book to read. Any recommendations?\"\n\n\"Have any trips/plans for the weekend/summer/coming up?\"\n\n\"So, what's the craziest thing that's happened at your work?\"\n\n\"What do you like to do for fun? Tell me more...\"", "For people who are shy, share some food. The focus can be the food, but the conversation goes as you lead it.", "It's a sort of different direction than I think you're going for, but there's a trick with psychology where if you just repeat the last three or the most important three words in the last sentence they said it makes them continue to talk endlessly. If you pay attention you'll notice reporters do it and so do cops who are trying to get someone to slip up and say too much, I've also heard that hostage negotiators do it", "Geez Pletch I have the opposite problem. Soo many people I encounter want to tell me all about themselves. I couldn't care less.", "Ask about their career and family. Then take it a step further and ask a level deeper. Things like, \"Your siblings are all in the medical field and you're in a business career. What helped you make that decision?\" Or hypothetical questions, \"What would you do in X situation?\"", "I always ask \"what exites you? What moves you so much, you get out of bed each morning\". \n\nworks 90% and I like all the talks I got through this...\n\nThe only ones that aren#t satisfied are the kind of persons, that tell \"I play pokemon and watch series... and work... there isn't anything else\".\nI can#t believe in those lives... but it seems they do things they don't know of themselves or... I wish I could be happy that easy!", "Some people just won't, period. Figure maybe 40% of people are introverted and don't want to talk about themselves. You should find one of those twice in every 5 people you talk to. Just leave them to their privacy and move on.\n\nAlternately, bring up non-personal subjects...sports teams and the like. Maybe the introverts wouldn't feel so threatened talking about things like that?\n" ]

[ 11, 7, 6, 5, 3, 2, 2, 1, -2 ]

[ "how to keep yourself from falling asleep when your eyes forcefully close and you forget what you were doing ", "how to keep yourself from falling asleep when your eyes forcefully close and you forget what you were doing ", "how to keep yourself from falling asleep when your eyes forcefully close and you forget what you were doing ", "how to keep yourself from falling asleep when your eyes forcefully close and you forget what you were doing ", "how to keep yourself from falling asleep when your eyes forcefully close and you forget what you were doing ", "how to keep yourself from falling asleep when your eyes forcefully close and you forget what you were doing ", "how to keep yourself from falling asleep when your eyes forcefully close and you forget what you were doing ", "how to keep yourself from falling asleep when your eyes forcefully close and you forget what you were doing ", "how to keep yourself from falling asleep when your eyes forcefully close and you forget what you were doing " ]

[ "a 15-20 minute nap usually keeps you from involuntarily dozing off. I used to sneak into a (mostly unused) conference room at office and take a 15-20 minute nap (with an alarm to not exceed that duration) and after that I wasn't nodding off to sleep at my desk.", "Sit straight up if you are laying down, or stand up if sitting. A few quick heavy breath to pump extra oxygen around to help wake you up. Focus on something, a clear thought. To help bring your mind out of the pre-coma doze state your looking to avoid. Dont over do the breathing, you will get a head rush and maybe dizzy. The breathing is just to snap you out of the state of comfort long enough to muster the motivation to do the rest. Move around a little and just avoid getting overly comfortable. Maintaining good posture makes it hard to nod off. \n\nThe main thing is willpower tho. You have to be motivated to stay awake as cheesy as that sounds. If you catch yourself nodding you just have to make sure you cant get relaxed enough or in a position to sleep. no matter how amazing it would feel. Some other things that can help are pain, (slapping rubber band into wrist) cold, (open car windows in chilly weather) and upbeat loud music.(avoid anything that could be too much like white noise) If all else fails and you do fall asleep, do not fret. When in a dream,once you know its a dream you can wake up at any time. Just open your eyes hard enough in the dream and you will in real life. it takes some practice, but it works. The only downside is possibly dieing of something ridiculous while trying really hard to blink one day. ", "Pull over to the side of the road, open the window for some fresh air, play speed metal in the ICE rather than sleepytime stories. ", "Hold a sharpened pencil directly in front of your eyeball. That way, when your face falls forward due to a snap nod-off, you will quickly learn your lesson. I guarantee that this works. \n\n-sent from my Dragonspeech (c) LMO Braille 3.4 converter!", "Make yourself tea. After gently squeezing most of the water out of the warm tea bag, put it on your eyes and right under. This sounds crazy, but just hear me out. It will feel really good, tighten up the skin around your eyes a teensy bit, and make you much more alert. I think it's because of the caffeine that goes straight to the surface blood vessels right around and on your eyes, but it legitimately helps. I'm not joking, don't knock it til you try it.", "I know this sounds odd, but my job training was 4 straight months of mind-numbing PowerPoint presentations...\n\n1. Be Hydrated\n\n2. Carry hand sanitizer. A strong sniff when you apply it to your hands helps - a lot.", "I can help with this one. I do sleep deprivation like a pro.\n\n1. Mint. The taste of mint, (particularly peppermint) will wake you up to do work. But it doesn't have to just be tasting the mint. Smelling works too. Also, you know how that icy-hot stuff has that tingly feel? That works too. Rub little dabs of it on your temples, under your nose, or at the base of your skull (be careful not to overdo it and not to get any in your eyes or anything).\n\n2. Cold showers. Yeah, it might suck, but you can always get in with the water warm and turn it down incrementally. When you get out, you'll fell refreshed and wide awake, I'm sure of it.\n\n3. Short naps. Allow yourself a break. Even if you have a lot to do, it isn't always the best idea to try to work through it because your level of productivity won't be as good. If you can afford to nap for 1.5 hours, that's optimal. Otherwise, try for a quicker one (anything from 15-30 minutes). One way to do the 15 minute nap is to have caffeine, then sleep. The caffeine will kick in right when you wake up.", "Actually, I just dealt with this recently. I rubbed my face. Then some guys cut me off, got an adrenaline boost, flipped home off, and rubbed my face again, I was wide awake after. ", "You mean you nod off? I'd start with stop using opiates, /u/opiatesrus. They're bad for you and are likely the reason for your nods." ]

[ 8, 6, 6, 6, 3, 3, 3, 0, -1 ]

[ "Opening Hard to Open Plastic Packages This has bothered me ever since I was young. There must be an easier way to open [these](http://i.imgur.com/fb3fK.jpg)\n", "Opening Hard to Open Plastic Packages This has bothered me ever since I was young. There must be an easier way to open [these](http://i.imgur.com/fb3fK.jpg)\n", "Opening Hard to Open Plastic Packages This has bothered me ever since I was young. There must be an easier way to open [these](http://i.imgur.com/fb3fK.jpg)\n" ]

[ "Just use a knife. Either cut around the thing where the plastic is thin, or on one side inside the seam.", "Use kitchen shears. They will cut chicken bones and the like and the ones I have (marked kuhn rikon) do a great job on plastic packages. You do need to be careful where you cut.", "My mom got me [one of these for](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=avRBqkMN76U) Christmas. It's changed my life.\n\nI needed it a few months ago and my SO confessed that he had lost it in the basement somewhere. When I tried opening a package without my zip snip, I realized how much easy it made that annoying facet of life! (We found it and he's not allowed to use it anymore. ) " ]

[ 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to quickly pop ears after a flight Got back off a flight last night and still having a little trouble with my ears! Hoping for some unusual solutions that may help!!\n\ninb4 yawn, chew gum, pull on earlobes or blowing through while holding shut! I've done all of these without much luck!!", "How to quickly pop ears after a flight Got back off a flight last night and still having a little trouble with my ears! Hoping for some unusual solutions that may help!!\n\ninb4 yawn, chew gum, pull on earlobes or blowing through while holding shut! I've done all of these without much luck!!", "How to quickly pop ears after a flight Got back off a flight last night and still having a little trouble with my ears! Hoping for some unusual solutions that may help!!\n\ninb4 yawn, chew gum, pull on earlobes or blowing through while holding shut! I've done all of these without much luck!!", "How to quickly pop ears after a flight Got back off a flight last night and still having a little trouble with my ears! Hoping for some unusual solutions that may help!!\n\ninb4 yawn, chew gum, pull on earlobes or blowing through while holding shut! I've done all of these without much luck!!", "How to quickly pop ears after a flight Got back off a flight last night and still having a little trouble with my ears! Hoping for some unusual solutions that may help!!\n\ninb4 yawn, chew gum, pull on earlobes or blowing through while holding shut! I've done all of these without much luck!!", "How to quickly pop ears after a flight Got back off a flight last night and still having a little trouble with my ears! Hoping for some unusual solutions that may help!!\n\ninb4 yawn, chew gum, pull on earlobes or blowing through while holding shut! I've done all of these without much luck!!" ]

[ "I'm going to suggest yawning again, but in a specific way. Do you know how to force a yawn? If not, just imagine yourself yawning while opening your jaw, squinting or closing your eyes, open your mouth wide (but not tall) as if smiling, sticking your jaw out straight, and wiggling your jaw from side to side.\n\nOnce the yawn begins, open your mouth as tall as you can and stretch your jaw and neck muscles to sort of \"get the most out of the yawn\". Keep doing this and odds are good it will un-pop your ears. It might also be worth cleaning them out with Q-tips if you can do so carefully - sometimes buildup keeps ears from popping.\n\nNote: this technique also works well to equalize your ears when diving.", "My dad (Former Submariner, they get the same problem) always gives me the tip to pinch my nose shut, then to swallow with my mouth closed, always helps.\n", "Equalization works in two different ways depending if the pressure around you increases or decreases.\n\nIf you enter an area with increased pressure (e.g. descending airplane) you actively need to equalize. (Blowing and holding your nose shut). It is much easier if you do it constantly during descend rather than wait until you landed. If your probalems persist there are medications that ease clearing the pressure.\n\nIn the other direction (ascending) your ears equalize automatically (eased by yawning and swallowing).\n\nFor me equalizing has become a lot easier since I started scuba diving. Apparently practice also helps in this case.", "Listen to scuba divers. They deal with basically the exact same thing when rising or descending from a dive, super important when I did a diving mini-course and experience on holiday [Here](http://www.scubadiving.com/11-tips-easy-equalizing) is a link but below is some TL;DR tips\n\n* Avoid milk, tobacco, alcohol, and maybe Energy Drinks\n\n* With your nostrils pinched or blocked against your mask skirt, swallow. Swallowing pulls open your eustachian tubes while the movement of your tongue, with your nose closed, compresses air against them.\n\n* A combination of Valsalva and Toynbee: while closing your nostrils, blow and swallow at the same time.\n\n* While tensing the soft palate and throat muscles and pushing the jaw forward and down, do a Valsalva Maneuver.\n\n* Close your nostrils, and close the back of your throat as if straining to lift a weight. Then make the sound of the letter \"K.\" This forces the back of your tongue upwards, compressing air against the openings of your eustachian tubes.\n\n* Tense the muscles of the soft palate and the throat while pushing the jaw forward and down as if starting to yawn. These muscles pull the eustachian tubes open. This requires a lot of practice, but some divers can learn to control those muscles and hold their tubes open for continuous equalization.\n\nIt is best to do this during the ascent and descent of the flight as opposed to after it has already landed. ", "Chew bubblegum! Momma bear told me that trick as a kid and it works every time. Use during takeoff and landing!", "Sucking on a sweet as you descend I find can help stop the ears needing to pop as they are slightly popping as you go." ]

[ 12, 7, 6, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after 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last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n", "How to stop nervousness in the bedroom from getting the best of you This may or may not be common, I don't know, but after its been a while since the last time I had sex, I get nervous about it with new girls and... well my nervousness causes me to go flaccid.\n\n" ]

[ "I used to have this problem. My first solution was to start masturbating a hell of a lot less. The second was to try and shut off your inner monologue (about what I'm doing or she's doing or whether or not she's enjoying it at all) during sex. \n\nYou gotta realize that sex is us at our most animal, and having complex brains is what gets in the way of arousal sometimes. Focus on your senses, don't *think* about the experience, just *have* the experience. Pretend you're an animal, because you are!\n\nIncidentally, I got much better in bed and sex became much more satisfying after I started doing this.", "It's normal. Some people need to get to know people and feel comfortable first. Take it off the table for the first couple weeks/months, and let the girl know, and just make out without the pressure. \n\nOr learn how to eat pussy.\n\n\n\n", "Sex isn't about performance. That's modern social bullshit. It's fun. You're playing with your partner. You aren't there to impress them. Sex isn't about your dick or to simply achieve an orgasm. You're there to have fun with ALL parts of the body. Use and touch every bit that you can. Your whole body should be sore when you're done. ", "It's easy. I suggest that you do the same thing they tell you to get over the fear of public speaking. Just imagine that the other person is naked. Problem solved!", "The same thing sometimes happens to me with new girls. This may sound stupid, but being drunk (but not wasted) the first time helps immensely. Afterwards, once you've already done it and she knows what you're capable of, the next time is very comfortable.\n\n", "Just remember that you are doing the silliest thing on the planet. And that folks have been squirting fluids at each other for billions of years and the planet hasn't imploded yet because of it. That usually lightens up the mood a bit.", "I remember my first time i couldnt get up because there was so much pressure for me to fuck her. The next girl after we made out first alot and i kissed her up and down and found she really liked what i could do with my tounge on her nipples so i just went at it. Her arousal got me up. Years later it seems to me cycles of soft and hard are completely natural when having sex.", "Learning how to breathe properly will likely help on multiple fronts. Nervousness almost always causes individuals to breathe in a shallow fashion, and this causes a biological fear response in all people. Your body most likely won't want to have sex if it's fearing for your safety. Also, if you're masturbating regularly reduce the frequency, and if using porn, stop using it if you think it could be desensitizing you. Best of luck :) ", "It mostly comes down to self confidence. It's perfectly natural to be nervous when you're with a new woman (unless youre a manwhore). But, you gotta have the confidence to take it in stride. Also, if it's that bad for you, you may want to talk to your doc or a head shrinker. Maybe they can help.", "The important thing to realize is that if someone is sleeping with you, they PROBABLY find you attractive in some way. You earned this. Are you nervous when your boss promotes you? No. You deserve this. Own it.", "Uggh I feel ya there OP. I went years without having sex because I was anxious about being anxious. I just kept assuming I'd get laughed right out of the bedroom. That's the image I had of women: that they only want bodybuilding tattooed porn stars as lovers and I knew I couldn't live up to that, and thus figured there was no point in ever trying.\n\nLuckily for me I found someone who simply want to be with me for me and was clear that I wasn't just some piece of meat to use and throw away, so the point was really driven home that our relationship wouldn't be about sex. I was so happy and into her (no pun intended) and could really feel that she felt the same about me that being with her just very naturally got me excited. I was actually shocked after going so long without sex at how natural and easy it was to be aroused.\n\nThat said I will say that, despite what social media and even some rather uncool women led me to believe, it's never expected that you'll always be instantly \"ready to go\". Touch, warmth, smiles, laughter, affection, and general happiness all contribute to you \"letting your guard down\". You'd probably be just as amazed as I was at how being in that zone can cause you to get turned on really easily.\n\noh, and here's a LPT: if you're fooling around, suggest something like cuddling naked, because, take it from me, dealing with distracting things like taking clothes off (though it can be sexy) can be real boner killers. Unfortunately for me, dealing with condoms is also a definite boner killer too so I fortunate to be with someone who's also disease free and on the pill. Speaking of which that really is the ultimate aide: if you can manage to be with a woman who's on the pill or other form of birth control (I know I'll get flak for this) and you can have sex without a condom, and she's a \"good fit\" (like it or not it physiologically impossible to always end up with a woman whose vagina seems to be perfectly sized for your penis), the feeling of intercourse is just so magical you'll never ever have a boner problem again.", "Just imagine her in her underwear. Or if she already is in underwear then naked. Or if naked then skinless. \n\nIf skinless already then why are you trying to have sex with her?! You disgust me. ", "I know you might be here looking for a quick response but there is a deep underlying problem, a natural and arguably popular one, but a problem nonetheless.\n\nAnd it takes a lot of time an effort to overcome a problem like that, there is no magic trick.\n\nBe confident, fake confidence, forget about the world and what it thinks about you, in fact, forget about yourself for just a moment.\n\nBe an actor, even though you are just improvising, make it convincing.\n\nConfidence can come from many sources, preparation being one of them, read and educate yourself in the beautiful art that is sex, know that it's not just about physical stimulation but about eroticism too, if you think you could ejaculate prematurely, try to fix that, there are plenty of treatments and even condoms with benzocaine if nothing else works.\n\nKnow the person, sex is an act about trust too, maybe your partner likes to be dominated, have her hair pulled from the root, maybe she likes dominating you, roleplay is a very important part of a great sexual experience and often gets ignored.\n\nMost important. Foreplay.\nForeplay is the thing that allows you to break the awkward barrier with a new partner, maybe you are flaccid now but you can get more comfortable and eventually achieve an erection if you play with her before the act itself, use your mouth, fingers, caress her, use your voice.\n\nBut first you must adress your confidence, whatever your fears may be, being \"bad in bed\", ejaculating too soon, pregnancy, disease, shame, guilt whatever.\n\nThen you can have a better sexual experience.", "Dick pills my man. The ones at the gas station work or you can get prescription from Dr. Had this problem early on, I grew out of it but I'd still may be a virgin if it wasn't for the dick pills.", "I will never ever forgive that friend who told me to not worry about that when I was about to have my first sexual experience. Until then I had not even considered that a possible problem. 20 years on I still struggle to not worry about it. ", "Scrolled through this quickly and it's just generic sex advice that may or may not work on specific ladies. \n\nMy advice is, tell her! An unexplained flaccid dick can too easily be translated to, \"He's not interested\" or \"I guess he doesn't find me attractive\"\n\nBut if you just say, \"I'm a little nervous because I like you and it might take some time for me to get there. What do you like?\", almost every woman who's worthwhile is going to help you get over the hump. She might even be flattered that you mean so much to her it's hard to shut off your brain.\n\nIt's all in the phrasing. Tell her what's going on, but don't apologize for it. Also, be happy to just get her off for a few times -- and tell her how great she looks while you're doing it. You'll get a lot of points for not making your time together about the dick -- whether that's 'about your dick' for your pleasure or 'about your flaccid dick' for your pity.\n\ntl;dr: be honest, chill out", "Forget about 'doing it'. Just enjoy the moment(s), and focus on making her feel good (by which I mean, emotionally as well as physically). Keep doing that, and you'll have no problem.", "Confidence is key, buddy! You'll hear it from just about any woman with a pulse - regardless of what type of guy you're into, confidence is sexy. If you believe in yourself and your ability she'll notice and relay it positively back to you. Her positive vibes give you more confidence and... you get where I'm going with this. Fake it 'til you make it.\n\nFurther, you have to remember that plenty of great sex is had by people just moving in and out in missionary. You don't have to be a porn stud to impress. If you can bring yourself to face it, good communication is also really important. If you can express that you're nervous, as horrible as that might sound, there's a really good chance that she's going to settle your nerves for you. If she doesn't, there's a really good chance that you don't wanna be sticking it in...", "Listen to Dan Savage's Savage Love podcast, he regularly talks about this. Don't worry about it, eat her out like a champ. Your dick isn't the only thing that feels good for her, and it's not really the only thing that you want to do. Focusing on what's not working just makes it worse. So be an incredible lover that is sometimes using his dick.", "Men have 2 brains. It's been medically proven. \n\nHead Brain\n-Never forget about the Brain/Weiner relationship (brain#1). \n*Don't overthink about performing well because you will get nervous and go soft.\n\nWeiner Brain\n-The Weiner's Brain has a mind of its own but you can train the Weiner.\n#1. Stop watching (so much) porn! \nYour Weiner's Brain (brain#2) will become desensitized and won't get turned on without a lot of help.\n#2. Stop jerking off so good! \nWe all know that fucking the crack between couch cushions lined with a fleece blanket while a feather duster tickles your balls and/or asshole feels damn good - but real pussy don't feel like that.\n*Dryrub for a while - that way, no matter how ugly or loose she is, it SHOULD still feel better than jerking off.", "Humans have evolved for generations because of sex. We are literally built for it, and it drives much of our society. Bust your dick out and make your ancestors proud. ", "If you're nervous, you're also excited. Since you know what you want, focus on the excitement.\n\nRoller coasters work because you commit to the excitement", "The most important part to remember is that it is actually completely normal for some men to experience it and there's nothing to be ashamed of, it's just fucking frustrating sometimes. Work out for yourself if you need to say before you start that it may happen or explain when it actually happens. There is nothing wrong with stopping penetration and doing other things at all either. \n\nIf the person you're having sex with makes a big deal about it then they're not worth your time anyway. Even though at the time it may not be the best feeling in the world.\n\nAs others mentioned you can try a cock ring to keep the blood in there, you can focus a lot on foreplay and get really turned on which is good for the other person(s) anyway or speak to someone about the anxiety. \n\nOne simple thought that has worked for friends of mine is \"what's the worst that could happen?\". ", "Accept your natural reaction and if a girl can't deal with a little hiccup the first night of banging then forget about her. It doesn't matter how well you do in a one night stand since you'll never see them or their circle of friends again anyways and if one initial bad night of sex is enough for them to lose interest in you then they weren't meant for the long haul anyways. \n\nBesides, a good woman shouldn't be too bothered by you being bad the first time since that usually means your not out 'practicing' every weekend at the bar and she won't just feel like she's another number to you.", "Watch some tutorials and learn how to use your tongue and fingers. Your dick will go up like a Saturn 5 when the girl's panties start looking like Niagara Falls and she starts shaking from continuous orgasms. ", "Totally normal. I used to have the same issue. Part of it was nerves, but another part of it was just me chasing the wrong girls. I hadn't found the right one who knew how to turn me on. Once I found the right woman, I married her, and I've had no issues since.\n\nGenerally speaking in relationships, you want someone similar to you. \"Opposites attract\" only holds true in the short term. In sex, though, you want someone complimentary to you rather than just like you. If you're into giving something, you want someone who's into receiving it, and vice versa. If two people both want to pee on each other, but neither wants to be peed on, they'll never have a good time, right?\n\nSo I guess what I'm really trying to say here is try peeing on her.", "This is probably why I'm still a virgin (29m). I'm nervous about the disclosure of it at my age, nervous about the what ifs (both sides of the coin, good or bad) if it's not an issue, and it's very shameful", "Tbh, nervousness can be substituted for selfishness. You are worried about yourself and your ego. Worry about her and you'll have her screaming 'sledgehammer'. ", "Overconfidence. Seriously.\n\nFuck your humility; act like the douchy guys on the football team in high school. They're good with women for precisely this reason.\n\nWhen they're on their game, charming guys are both confident as well as humble/respectful. If you have to choose between the two however, always go for confident. Most women prefer it, albeit not obsessively or it is obviously fake. It's a fine balance.", "Still feeling nervous? Hmmm, time for more foreplay.\n\nGone soft? Hmmm, time for more foreplay.\n\nShe'll think you the world's most patient and attentive lover.", "Seeing a lot of 'It's normal', and while I don't disagree, I think its generally a sign of not being completely healthy or ready. Before everyone gets their pitchforks, a brief and humble explanation. \n\nFirst, the question you should be asking yourself is 'am I comfortable with myself?' This is a really good place to start. It's absolutely mind boggling that today, in 2016, so many people are ashamed of masturbating (note: Reddit is not a good sample size of this). A lot of people, unfortunately, have to hide masturbating from their parents growing up. This creates can create feeling ashamed and nervous about sex generally later in life. Obviously OP I don't know you at all, but a good place to start is with masturbation. Masturbate at home, without porn, loudly, and with the lights on, if you don't already. Become comfortable with yourself, with yourself, if that makes sense. It will completely change the way you interact with yourself and others. It's all based on how you fire different sections of your brain and what areas you allow to interact with one another while you're aroused. \n\nSecond, is your partner comfortable? I can't count how many times I have had the fortune of bringing women home to find out they will only fool around with the lights off. The internet will not believe me on this, but when this happens, I talk myself out of the situation and try my best to have a discussion with them as to why that is. This is just one example, but if they are uncomfortable engaging in sex with the lights on, it's a safe bet they aren't really comfortable at all. In other words, they aren't having sex for the purpose of having and enjoying sex, they're having sex to fill some other need, likely insecurity and simply not spending the night alone. They're just too afraid to ask for that upfront so they think sex is what they have to 'give up' in order to not be alone.\n\nThird, accept that sex is an experience that will not ALWAYS be mind blowing or flawless. You don't need to be Peter North or Ron Jeremy, and no one expects it, and if they do, I wouldn't recommend sleeping with them. It's a great spot to add discussing with your partner what they like and hope to achieve and what you like and hope to achieve. It's healthy. Talking about sex should be no different than talking about what's for dinner tomorrow night.\n\nNot very brief at all. Sorry about that. Best of luck OP.", "Okay so this is a pretty old thread which means this will get buried, but I think it's very important for you to read this, more important than the top voted comments.\n\nThe top comments all suggest that you should basically change your psychology. That you should not fear. This is not easy, and I venture to say that the top commenters never dealt with problems of the sort.\n\nMy solution: buy a medicine called Kamagra. It is similar to Viagra but cheaper and more accessible. You might say, \"pff I don't need it\" but the truth is, in the heat of the moment it's really hard to concentrate and let go of your fear. At least using this method after a couple of encounters you naturally become more confident and don't have to worry the first few times because the pill will be there for you even if your wiener won't :) \n\nI hope this helps! (Sorry this is the only thing that helped me, not just simply \"manning up\" etc.)", "Offer to take care of her first! I find it amazing how turned on I get by a woman getting turned on. Ask her to try and describe what it feels like as she gets turned on.\nTake it slow, slow, slow. ", "Make her pleasure number 1, before sex just go to town with foreplay. Make her orgasm before sex even starts and you will care less. Especially if you get distracted by focusing on her maybe it will get you going again. \n\nGirls cant say it was bad if they already came. ", "I used to have an issue with not being able to get erect/cum because of a drug addiction that my SO didn't know about. The comments about learning to eat pussy are correct, just satisfy her, you will either get hard and bang her or not, she won't care as long as you get her off.", "Choose a partner and a time that make you very comfortable. \n\nRemember, you're not at a baseball game, alone at bat. \nYou're at a buffet with a good friend. There are no goals, and no hurry.", "Bruh, never think about getting your dick hard. The more you do, the softer you get. Just think about her and pleasing her, the rest will come. ", "Abstaining from jacking off is the first solution and usually fixes this problem. If it doesn't, get therapy or use Viagra.", ">", "\nwomen have the same internal monologue issues men do. I imagine we would benefit from this convo as well. \n\nIf only I had someone to try all this out with!\n\n", "keep yourself busy kissing her neck and putting your tongue in her ear, the less you focus on that shit the better\n\n", "https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/comments/4rytk1/tifu_by_losing_my_virginity_to_a_foreign_escort/\n\nThis guy could use some advice.", "[Your answer](https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/comments/4rytk1/tifu_by_losing_my_virginity_to_a_foreign_escort/)", "Went to therapy and got a really supportive girlfriend. Problem solved. Seriously, therapy works. It's like personal training for your brain.", "Well, a lot of people here talked about fingering and tongue (will make you seem insecure and look like having an erection problem imo even though you have not), confidence boosting and all that. \n\nLook, I'm the same as you are and its only the first sex that i feel anxious about, because i approach girls with a lot of confidence and i'm kinda good looking, so i think that puts a little bit of a chip on my shoulders to leave my partner satisfied about the whole process because i wanna complete that image. \n\nTo get to the point, I use ed medication (not something hardcore like viagra, something a bit lighter) at first date to make me not worry about it at all cuz I know rest of the bed stories will be alright anyway. \n\nSo you can take that road if you'd like to. Works for me.\n\nOh and take it easy with masturbating.", "This is probably the most common male complaint (along with \"am I big enough for her\") that I have seen in a number of subreddits (primarily /r/sex). \n\n**Tl;Dr: It's going to take time.**\n\nThere is no fool-proof answer or really a life pro-tip because everyone handles being nervous in different ways. So, the most important thing you need to do is be comfortable. If you are doing mainly hook-ups, then this will take time for you to understand yourself and get used to changing partners / situations. If it's with a steady partner, then it's a little different because you then get used to that one person and as both of you get more comfortable with each other, the less nervous you should be.", "This has happened with almost every guy I've slept with, at some point or another. Not a big deal. We made out and cuddled. I was still happy. ", "This happens to me a lot with a new person (especially if we've had a few drinks). I just accept it and go back to foreplay, and within 10 mins I'm good to go. The key is to not feel ashamed or self-conscious about yourself, if you do that it won't get better. (However, some the other comments about waiting to get to know them better are great options too).", "The important thing is that you must look sure of what you're doing. If you get to that point, just stay calmed :D", "Thank whoever you believe in for this wonderful moment and enjoy the simple fact of being there as hard as you can. ", "Tell the girl you are nervous and that it's been a while. She'll be chill with it. and if she's not chill with it, don't sleep with her. \n\nAfter you have sex more you'll realize it's a lot less of a big deal it is. It's just sex.\n\nThat and masturbate less / watch less porn. Makes everything waaaaaay easier.\n\n", "Stop caring basically, recognize she's nervous too and has the same fears. Be honest and open, take solace in her trust, and just do your best to enjoy.", "Slow down. Calm down. Breathe. We've all been there . . .too anxious . . .too ready . . . your mind racing. Slow kissing and touching are your best friend. The phrase \"...you're so beautiful you got me so anxious\" Why? when you are not \"ready\" lots of women will think they do not turn you on or find them attractive. You stating this will let them know, it's you not them. You'll be surprise how understanding and uh . . maybe \"helpful\" they will be. Again, it's happened to me plenty of times. Nothing to be ashamed about.", "One thing I noticed is that lots if foreplay doesn't always help. In multiple situation I started with a girl. Kissing, fingering, licking. All that caused me to get an errection. But then she didn't want to go all after she came. So my dick went to sleep. Same thing happened 3 times. So 4th time we started, penetration happened. All that up-down-up-down-up-down-up caused me to jizz so fast she still makes fun of me till this day :D pace yourself and be confident. Don't squeeze your cock too often to push more blood and make it harder. It will cause you to jizz faster. ", "Not really for nervousness, but for lasting longer I like to picture a giant Kevin Spacey staring at me. Like Frank Underwood Kevin Spacey.\n\nI last forever.", "My best advice is just go for it what do you have to lose. Good foreplay and what I like to call \"midplay\" because even if the first time doesn't last that long you can keep things going until something comes up again. It doesn't have to be over just because one of you finished once.", "If you're nervous in the bedroom wait till it feels right, there's a moment when both parties just know and then it's time ;) you may not even be in the bedroom ", "I'd suggest checking out /r/sex - most asked question. There are a few things worth reading about your problem", "I use S&M. I'm pretty self conscious and would rather put as many miles, countries, and preferably oceans between me and intimacy. So, I let myself get tied up so I literally cannot run away", "I just think about the upcoming football season or replay baseball games in my head.\n\nThat's the real secret.\n\nGentleman.", "I don't know if this is what your looking for, but I found that using tribulus supplements for a week made me feel \"Aggressive\" rather than nervous in the leadup to a new partner.\n\nOther than that, be bold enough to ask the girl to give you head. It'll fix a semi in a hurry.", "Hopefully you see this.\n\nSo I used to have this problem along with premature ej, I put so much pressure on myself thinking \"She'll never want to sleep with me again\", I was thinking that before sleeping with her! Yes I've also had the flaccid penis thing happen a bunch of times.\n\nI didn't stop to think \"am I going to enjoy this?\" \"Is she gonna rock my world?\"\n\nWhat I learned was thinking in general has no place naked in the bedroom. Let it happen naturally, if you cum quickly, thank her since she probably did something that turned you on to that point.\n\nIf you're having trouble getting hard, be honest, tell her you're nervous, try using your tongue on her, maybe sucking on her feet if you like that. Ask her for a blowjob if you need it. Like I said before, if you cum quickly, it's ok, you'll generally have room for seconds.\n\nDo your best for a round 2 if that happens, if not, laugh it off and go down on her until she cums in your mouth. \n\nThe reason I love sex so much is because I feel like I can be completely myself, the animal, the addict, the exhibitionist. I find freedom in both talking to women and loving them, maybe you will too.", "Holy shit man this describes me exactly. \"missed\" a couple hook ups because I knew I wouldn't be able to perform in the bedroom because I get so nervous and anxious. I have to sort of ease into it. I was just kind of upfront with girls, and told them basically I get too nervous and I have to get to know them a bit first before anything. It weeded out the 1 night stands and I think I'm better for it. Married now, and I am so happy to never have to deal with that awkwardness again to be quiet honest. ", "Embrace the nervousness. The best partners can learn to play with each other and enjoy their sexy time together regardless of awkward situations that inevitably arise. Nobody's body is perfect and nobody will perform perfectly every time.", "Don't apologize to her, don't make excuses, just work with it. If you need a few minutes to psych yourself up, say you have to go get ready before you start. Also, I'd recommend you continue jerking off, but stop watching porn. Use your mind. Sounds stupid but porn conditions you to get hard through visually seeing another couple having sex. Using your mind to fantasize will help you with being able to arouse yourself without the need of a visual aid. If I go a few days without yanking it, it's actually more difficult for me to get an erection because I've had to focus on suppressing feelings of arousal to not give in, again it's conditioning a bad behavior that is opposite of the goal you want to achieve. \n\nI also have found this motto to be true for me personally, \"pushing rope? Smoke some dope!\"", "All of what said before helps too, get to know the person, fore play, less jerking, eat pussy.\n\nWhat I have to add, is Kiss, when I get nervous I start to kiss the person, the kissing get you relaxed and more involved, makes wonders and changed for better", "All men suffer with this at some time...try this...be Tony Curtis and tell your girlfriend that no one has ever been able to excite you!!..and chill..[Some like it hot](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yD3r8xx3iX8)" ]

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[ "I think I'm depressed and if I am I may have inherited it. Let me start of by stating that I have been to therapy with 3 psychologist. Currently I can't afford a private session and been trying to book a session with the college Counselors from January with no success.\n\nI don't know if it's depression or what but I often feel like I live in another planet/universe, out of touch with reality. Majority of the days/weeks I don't know what I did. I don't eat, drink water, bath or even think. It's feels like my body is here and my mind in somewhere doing god knows what. \n\nOnce after a week and a half somehow I do manage to study and actually prepare a meal. Reply to messages on WhatsApp, reach out to people, take walks etc... I usually take notes tracking what I did trying to find the thing that allowed me to do all the activities. But after that day I subsequently go back to the state of living I hate and after few days I will \"wake\" to the reality and usually by that time the food I had prepared that day, would be rotten with a bad smell and I would eat it. \n\nI currently live 2 hours from my home and the last time I was home my cousin told me his birthday is on the 25th of March. I promised to come. When the week started I was clear that I'm going home for a weekend Friday I will be with my family celebrating a birthday, Saturday I will see my girlfriend and go meet few of the friends I had not seen in a while but the biggest part was being with family and I had planned to give my parents some money. On Wednesday I confirm that indeed I will be home for the weekend, I text my friends that I will be home for the weekend. from Thursday to Sunday I don't know what happened. And I didn't go home as I had planned. I only woke up to the reality on Sunday night. Took a shower and went to dispose rotten food and prepaid new meal and worked on the assignment. I'm supposed to submit this week, then went to sleep.\n \nDuring the festive season I had an opportunity to talk with my grandfather and asked him a lot of questions. Which made me realise what could be the potential cause of the way I live. Therapy wasn't working because we couldn't figure out the root course of the problem. My grandfather never worked, has no friends no interest. He spends his time inside the house (want to live alone) and occasionally if it's too hot sit outside. This is a life I see myself leaning towards. At least he does this consciously. My sister is like this also. I don't know if they enjoy their lives because I don't and I don't see myself living like this my whole life. I'm in college, being in college from where I'm from is a blessing and I have seen my capabilities and things I could achieve. My goal and dreams are possible but the only thing stoping me is these days that are unaccounted for. \n\nWhat I'm asking for with this are tips you think might help me. Live everyday.\nI'm in a endless circle I'd really appreciate your help, in breaking out. If things continue like this I'm scared because I either will commit suicide or be hooked on drugs. I hope you can make sense out of this post and Feel free to ask me questions.", "I think I'm depressed and if I am I may have inherited it. Let me start of by stating that I have been to therapy with 3 psychologist. Currently I can't afford a private session and been trying to book a session with the college Counselors from January with no success.\n\nI don't know if it's depression or what but I often feel like I live in another planet/universe, out of touch with reality. Majority of the days/weeks I don't know what I did. I don't eat, drink water, bath or even think. It's feels like my body is here and my mind in somewhere doing god knows what. \n\nOnce after a week and a half somehow I do manage to study and actually prepare a meal. Reply to messages on WhatsApp, reach out to people, take walks etc... I usually take notes tracking what I did trying to find the thing that allowed me to do all the activities. But after that day I subsequently go back to the state of living I hate and after few days I will \"wake\" to the reality and usually by that time the food I had prepared that day, would be rotten with a bad smell and I would eat it. \n\nI currently live 2 hours from my home and the last time I was home my cousin told me his birthday is on the 25th of March. I promised to come. When the week started I was clear that I'm going home for a weekend Friday I will be with my family celebrating a birthday, Saturday I will see my girlfriend and go meet few of the friends I had not seen in a while but the biggest part was being with family and I had planned to give my parents some money. On Wednesday I confirm that indeed I will be home for the weekend, I text my friends that I will be home for the weekend. from Thursday to Sunday I don't know what happened. And I didn't go home as I had planned. I only woke up to the reality on Sunday night. Took a shower and went to dispose rotten food and prepaid new meal and worked on the assignment. I'm supposed to submit this week, then went to sleep.\n \nDuring the festive season I had an opportunity to talk with my grandfather and asked him a lot of questions. Which made me realise what could be the potential cause of the way I live. Therapy wasn't working because we couldn't figure out the root course of the problem. My grandfather never worked, has no friends no interest. He spends his time inside the house (want to live alone) and occasionally if it's too hot sit outside. This is a life I see myself leaning towards. At least he does this consciously. My sister is like this also. I don't know if they enjoy their lives because I don't and I don't see myself living like this my whole life. I'm in college, being in college from where I'm from is a blessing and I have seen my capabilities and things I could achieve. My goal and dreams are possible but the only thing stoping me is these days that are unaccounted for. \n\nWhat I'm asking for with this are tips you think might help me. Live everyday.\nI'm in a endless circle I'd really appreciate your help, in breaking out. If things continue like this I'm scared because I either will commit suicide or be hooked on drugs. I hope you can make sense out of this post and Feel free to ask me questions." ]

[ "Hi there. This sounds so tough. I’m sorry you are going through this. \n\nHonestly, this sounds like a medical issue and something you should see a psychiatrist about. Psychiatrists are medical doctors who got special additional training on medications that treat brain issues that cause things like depression. They won’t sit and listen to you like a psychologist…they will ask you questions and see if maybe you need a medication. And you might…and that’s ok! \n\nFor example, I have inflammation in my brain that causes severe depression. I see a psychiatrist to prescribe a medication to help relieve the depression (because of my brain inflammation the depression will never go away on it’s own). I ALSO see a psychologist who helps me keep track of how I am feeling and helps me stay on track if I am feeling badly. \n\nSo here is my LPT: there is ALWAYS a solution. Do not give up and assume you won’t get better. It can take many, many tries before you find the right medication. Just remember that it is worth it. You WILL get there if you keep trying. \n\nSecond LPT: when you do see a doctor, write down everything they tell you and go research it online. Don’t just follow blindly. Take the medication but also read up about the symptoms of your diagnosis and learn about other peoples’ experiences. Make sure you think your doctor has given you a good opinion and make sure that the doctor is giving you the right medication at the right dosage. Also, learn about similar medications you can try if your first medication fails. Treat it like a research project for class. My first doctor gave me the wrong prescription AND a dose that was way too high. I wish that I had taken the time to google the medication and learn what dosage I should have been on. I wish I had said to him: hey, I read about xyz medication…can I try that instead? I wish I had been proactive with realizing my health is up to me…the doctor is only there to provide expert guidance and opinions…s/he is not a mechanic where you drop off your car and trust they did the right thing. Doctors want to help, but they aren’t perfect. They make mistakes too. \n\nGood luck OP.", "Hey I’m not a clinician, but I have been through what you describe, have relatives who have gone/are going through it, and am now a med student. I’m going to try to compress a lot here… please forgive the inevitable length of this comment.\n\nThe number one thing that helps me is that I have some relatives who handled their disorders well and were able to have happy lives and loved ones and children and a lot of joy and love in their lives. My grandmother had bipolar disorder. Watching her move from severely mentally ill to mostly stable and full of joy really helped me years later. I had hope because I have seen in done. Please have hope because it is absolutely possible to life a happy, wonderful, joyful life. \n\nOne of my biggest regrets is not getting help earlier. I missed years were I could have been so much happier. With meds, lifestyle changes, therapy, and time, I’m doing really well. I have a wonderful girlfriend, I’m going through med school (even if it’s later than most), my life is not perfect but it’s very good. I take meds, I go to the doctor occasionally, it’s now a small but very important part of my life.\n\nSo, it does sound like you’re dealing with depression. Sometimes that can be mainly biological in origin, sometimes environmental. There’s usually an aspect of both. In either case, there are both physical effects and cognitive effects. It does sound like you may need some medication. That’s nothing to be ashamed of. We know in medicine that there are physical changes in depression that we can see with imaging. \n\nIn terms of practical advice:\n\n1) Go to a psychiatrist, be completely honest with them (they’re there to help you, not judge you), and do what they advise. Take your meds regularly. They often take time to work. Sometimes you have to try several. But, if you broke your arm you would have to wear a cast for a while. Your meds need time to help your brain heal. Let the meds work. Just be honest with your psychiatrist and take your meds.\n\n2) Take care of your body. What might make others a little unwell could really effect your mental health. Get up at the same time every day, eat healthy food, 3 meals a day. Get some light exercise, even if it’s just walking around the block. Get some sunshine. It really does help. To the point that bright light therapy is sometimes prescribed my physicians. Your circadian rhythm is a real thing and it really helps. Also, recreational drugs and/or alcohol might lead to a hangover for others, but might really effect your mental health. Sometimes caffeine can be an issue for some people. So it makes sense that you would use medications to help the neurotransmitters in your brain.\n\n3) Day to day advice that works for me: \n\nIf I’m really depressed, if I try to get 100% of what I wanted to do done I often fail and get very little if anything done. However, I found that if I try to get less done, I often build momentum and get more done than I thought I would. So, for example, if I try to get 30% of my goals done, I often find that after that I can get 50% done. Which is better than nothing. Sometimes it even ends up being 90% of what I wanted to do. Which might not be 100%, but it’s way better than almost nothing. Over time that makes a big difference.\n\nAnother thing I do when I’m really depressed is make to do lists. Then, if I can’t get it together to start I break the first task down until it’s small enough that I can do it. For example “go to school” becomes “get up”, “dress”, “make coffee”. If that’s too much, “sit up”, “stand up”, “put on pants”… It’s easier to do something that small. Plus checking things off helps me feel like I at least accomplished something. That small sense of accomplishment really helps me.\n\nUse a written calendar to organize things. You mentioned doing that, but break it down more. Journal and keep track of things.\n\nThese approaches help compensate for that lack of attention. Keeping things together both helps the short term, but keeping things together helps longterm.\n\nAlso clean and organize your home. For two reasons. First, having a clean home helps your room. Second, it can be a big victory and an accomplishment. That victory can help you gain the confidence and momentum to tackle other things.\n\nSo, in summary, depression has physical and cognitive components. If you approach each aspect of it you can get through this. Utilize everything you can." ]

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[ "If you could build your home from scratch or redesign your home so it is smart, efficient and filled with less regret, what features what it have? It can be as minor as paint color to major as room layouts etc.", "If you could build your home from scratch or redesign your home so it is smart, efficient and filled with less regret, what features what it have? It can be as minor as paint color to major as room layouts etc.", "If you could build your home from scratch or redesign your home so it is smart, efficient and filled with less regret, what features what it have? It can be as minor as paint color to major as room layouts etc." ]

[ "There would be a PC(Really just a touch screen monitor) embedded into a wall in every room. Every room would have a dedicated Mic with speakers for smart functionality. All devices would be tied back to a server closet that would be deploying the OS to all of those monitors. ", "More storage cupboards. I'm surprised at the lack of storage for less commonly used items in our house. Also, an attic with pre installed (but easily lifted) floorboards", "Not as bad as you would think, all it is is a touchscreen monitor, mic, two speakers and a case to hold it all in the wall. The most expensive thing would be cable. The major cost would be the server." ]

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[ "How to stop our cat from waking us up in the morning? He starts with the meowing at the first sign of sunrise (which is 4:30 this time of year). ", "How to stop our cat from waking us up in the morning? He starts with the meowing at the first sign of sunrise (which is 4:30 this time of year). ", "How to stop our cat from waking us up in the morning? He starts with the meowing at the first sign of sunrise (which is 4:30 this time of year). ", "How to stop our cat from waking us up in the morning? He starts with the meowing at the first sign of sunrise (which is 4:30 this time of year). ", "How to stop our cat from waking us up in the morning? He starts with the meowing at the first sign of sunrise (which is 4:30 this time of year). ", "How to stop our cat from waking us up in the morning? He starts with the meowing at the first sign of sunrise (which is 4:30 this time of year). ", "How to stop our cat from waking us up in the morning? He starts with the meowing at the first sign of sunrise (which is 4:30 this time of year). ", "How to stop our cat from waking us up in the morning? He starts with the meowing at the first sign of sunrise (which is 4:30 this time of year). " ]

[ "Ignore cat. Any attention reinforces the behavior.\n\nLeave out a bowl of dry food when you go to bed.\n\nGet a feeder with a timer that feeds him at 4:30 AM.", "Slowly move his feeding time from first thing in the morning to 5pm. He's bugging you 'cause he's hungry.", "keep a glass of water or one of those spray-things next to your bed. They hate that shit, but it's not like you're actually hurting him", "The only answer is ignore him. Ignore, ignore, ignore. If he gets in your face, roll over and ignore. He will give up in about a week.", "Honestly, you probably wont. You could try leaving some dry food out for the kitty, and hopefully he will choose to eat that instead of waking you up.\n\nWhen you cat does wake you up. Is he doing it from the door or jumping on your bed in your face? If it is the latter, you might try shutting him up with cuddles. Give him some scratches on the head, maybe try hugging him like a teady bear. \n\nIf the cat is hanging out by the door.. One thing you could do, and it may seem cruel to reddit's standards, but get a water spray bottle and squirt him when he tries to wake you up at 430 am. You wouldn't even have to leave bed. After a bit he will just learn not to wake you up. But will probably go back to the behavior every once in awhile. \n", "We adopted a 4 month old kitten last year. She used to wake us up around 4-5am. So what I did was: when she first starts making a ruckus, I immediately take her outside the bedroom and shut the door. After a week of this, she got the picture and stopped waking us up. ", "If your cat is older it will be significantly more difficult to train him out of it if you'd already been getting up to feed him when this happens. We trained my cat that she gets fed when one of us is ready to get up and no earlier. We started by \"not waking up\" when she tried to get our attention. Then it eventually became the \"'l'll just lay bere till one of them moves.\" And then, \"okay, mommy is awake now. I just have to sit here and get petted till she gets up.\" She had tried all sorts of methods to get us out of the bed. She would pick one of us for a while and walk on us, Pat our faces, etc. Any time she did this when it was not time to get up she would get knocked off the bed and would not be rewarded with food. She eventually figured out the alarm meant it was time to wake up so she would wait for that and go see whosever alarm was going off. It took months of not rewarding her behavior to make it stop. For a short stint she was pouncing and gouging my feet to try and get me out of bed but I never did and she stopped when she figured out it wasn't getting her what she wanted. So just do not reward your cat and he should stop eventually. Do not give him any kind of attention when he does this. I also agree with setting some dry food out for him at night. Good luck!", "Cats are crepuscular hunters (active most at dusk and dawn) and this timing would tie in with when your cats wants to be up and about. \n\nThe hunting requirement for most cats has gone as they are well fed when living with humans so they typically replace this with play activities. \n\nYou can try making sure there your cat has adequate food and water before you go to bed....the water squirting techniques as outlined by others....letting your cat go outdoor if this is an option...getting another cat to alleviate boredom.....or locking your bedroom door and banishing them while you sleep (though this can just lead to scratched door syndrome).\n\nThe other thing that can lead to this is him wanting to get jiggy wif it...have you had him at the vet to get his meat and two veg seen to? That can certainly help with behavioural issues." ]

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[ "What to do when your car breaks down with nowhere to park legally? This just happened to me. Car broke down in a residential area, I had to put it on double yellows. I put a piece of paper on the windshield (which stayed there), stating \"Car broke down. Will remove ASAP.\" I had to find a buddy with jumper cables since it was night time.\nIt took me 2 hours to get back to my car and I already have a ticket. What else can I do next time? (Other than keeping jumper cables in my trunk..)", "What to do when your car breaks down with nowhere to park legally? This just happened to me. Car broke down in a residential area, I had to put it on double yellows. I put a piece of paper on the windshield (which stayed there), stating \"Car broke down. Will remove ASAP.\" I had to find a buddy with jumper cables since it was night time.\nIt took me 2 hours to get back to my car and I already have a ticket. What else can I do next time? (Other than keeping jumper cables in my trunk..)" ]

[ "Push it to a place where it can be legally parked, or leave someone with the vehicle. If you have the money you can get AAA or call a tow truck so they can jump you.", "For 2.99 a month you can get road side assistance through your mobile provider, or at least i can. AAA is another possibility. I broke down on an exit ramp once. i called 911 to let them know and they sent a wrecker to pull me off to a legal spot to wait for AAA to get there. " ]

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[ "teeth whitening Are there any good products or weird combinations of normal household items that are effective? Are the $500 worth it? ", "teeth whitening Are there any good products or weird combinations of normal household items that are effective? Are the $500 worth it? ", "teeth whitening Are there any good products or weird combinations of normal household items that are effective? Are the $500 worth it? ", "teeth whitening Are there any good products or weird combinations of normal household items that are effective? Are the $500 worth it? " ]

[ "IANA Dentist, always contact your dentist before starting anything that might screw up your teeth, etc etc\n\nHydrogen peroxide is the primary ingredient in whitestrips. It's mixed with a gel-type agent so it's slimy and sticks in those strips. Save yourself $20 and instead go get a bottle of over the counter hydrogen peroxide (maybe $1?), the cheap stuff works just as well as the name brand, as long as its still fizzy.\n\nBrush your teeth daily, and take a swig of HP and swish it around like mouthwash, spit. DO NOT DRINK IT. Your teeth will feel...foamy? Bubbly? Let that do its thing for awhile and then follow up with mouthwash or a plain water to rinse it out. You'll notice your teeth whitening in about a week or so. ", "The quickest, cheapest way to whiten your teeth is with baking soda. Wet your finger, dip it in some baking soda, and rub it directly on your teeth. Do each one individually; don't act like you're brushing them.", "IANA dentist but do work in the dental field. Always always go to your dentist before trying something new such as using peroxide or else baking soda. If you use baking soda on your teeth which is gritty and \"scrubs\" the surface taking off enamel (which you cannot get back btw) can do more harm than good to your teeth. Getting regular cleanings with your dentist will keep your teeth white and I do recommend white strips on your teeth but they can make your teeth somewhat sensitive (as they did to mine) so with every product use with caution and stop them if they hurt you. ", "Baking soda works well. Doesn't taste great, but it works over time. \n\nOr crest whiteststips. They work and are often on sale for like $10." ]

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[ "how to eliminate that sensation of having food or a pill stuck in your throat. Have you ever eaten dryish food or swallowed a pill only to have it get stuck in your throat? I don't know if it is actually stuck or if it just feels like it, but swallowing any amount of water doesn't seem to help. The feeling is very uncomfortable and can last for hours. It feels like you have to burp, but the burp never comes. Any ideas for how to get it to go down, or get rid of the sensation? Happens to me a lot (like right now), and I hate it!", "how to eliminate that sensation of having food or a pill stuck in your throat. Have you ever eaten dryish food or swallowed a pill only to have it get stuck in your throat? I don't know if it is actually stuck or if it just feels like it, but swallowing any amount of water doesn't seem to help. The feeling is very uncomfortable and can last for hours. It feels like you have to burp, but the burp never comes. Any ideas for how to get it to go down, or get rid of the sensation? Happens to me a lot (like right now), and I hate it!", "how to eliminate that sensation of having food or a pill stuck in your throat. Have you ever eaten dryish food or swallowed a pill only to have it get stuck in your throat? I don't know if it is actually stuck or if it just feels like it, but swallowing any amount of water doesn't seem to help. The feeling is very uncomfortable and can last for hours. It feels like you have to burp, but the burp never comes. Any ideas for how to get it to go down, or get rid of the sensation? Happens to me a lot (like right now), and I hate it!", "how to eliminate that sensation of having food or a pill stuck in your throat. Have you ever eaten dryish food or swallowed a pill only to have it get stuck in your throat? I don't know if it is actually stuck or if it just feels like it, but swallowing any amount of water doesn't seem to help. The feeling is very uncomfortable and can last for hours. It feels like you have to burp, but the burp never comes. Any ideas for how to get it to go down, or get rid of the sensation? Happens to me a lot (like right now), and I hate it!" ]

[ "It makes pills go down a lot easier if you take a few swallows of water BEFORE you swallow the pill. Since I started doing that, I've never had a pill feel like it's gotten stuck.\n", "The problem most people have with taking pills is simply that they're doing it wrong. A lot of people will tip their head back to swallow the pill - which actually forces the esophagus smaller.\n\nLPT: When taking a pill, look straight ahead as you swallow it, not up.", "Swallowing pills with soda or anything else carbonated helps. The bubbles help \"carry\" the pill along, so the chances of having that icky feeling decrease (worst feeling ever)! ", "Kind of along the same lines as TWFM already suggested, but I actually have a hard time with pills. So I take 1 drink of water, then another normal amount of a drink in my mouth, tilt my head back and put the pills in my mouth. If it's one of the ones that pull apart then do 1/2 the amount of water, as it will float.\n" ]

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[ "Bed Head Anyone know any really good tips for getting rid of Bed Head in the morning? \n\nI take my showers at night and don't have enough time in the morning to take a shower. Any things you've come across to help?", "Bed Head Anyone know any really good tips for getting rid of Bed Head in the morning? \n\nI take my showers at night and don't have enough time in the morning to take a shower. Any things you've come across to help?", "Bed Head Anyone know any really good tips for getting rid of Bed Head in the morning? \n\nI take my showers at night and don't have enough time in the morning to take a shower. Any things you've come across to help?", "Bed Head Anyone know any really good tips for getting rid of Bed Head in the morning? \n\nI take my showers at night and don't have enough time in the morning to take a shower. Any things you've come across to help?", "Bed Head Anyone know any really good tips for getting rid of Bed Head in the morning? \n\nI take my showers at night and don't have enough time in the morning to take a shower. Any things you've come across to help?", "Bed Head Anyone know any really good tips for getting rid of Bed Head in the morning? \n\nI take my showers at night and don't have enough time in the morning to take a shower. Any things you've come across to help?", "Bed Head Anyone know any really good tips for getting rid of Bed Head in the morning? \n\nI take my showers at night and don't have enough time in the morning to take a shower. Any things you've come across to help?", "Bed Head Anyone know any really good tips for getting rid of Bed Head in the morning? \n\nI take my showers at night and don't have enough time in the morning to take a shower. Any things you've come across to help?", "Bed Head Anyone know any really good tips for getting rid of Bed Head in the morning? \n\nI take my showers at night and don't have enough time in the morning to take a shower. Any things you've come across to help?", "Bed Head Anyone know any really good tips for getting rid of Bed Head in the morning? \n\nI take my showers at night and don't have enough time in the morning to take a shower. Any things you've come across to help?" ]

[ "[Morning Head](http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/830719214/morning-head-be-ready-in-5-seconds?ref=category)", "I just run my head under the shower and get the hair wet again, dry it with a towel and WA-LA\n\nBut this wouldnt work for everyone...", "Hair straightening iron. It takes about 20 seconds to warm up, then you give it a few strokes on problem areas -- problem solved!", "shower at night, wet hair with a couple of handfulls of water (2 or 3 oughta do it, depending on length). towel dry, then blow dry. looks perfect. i have fairly short to med length hair, parted in middle. not a buzz cut. \n\ntakes about 10 seconds, seriously.", "I do this every morning:\nGo in bathroom, take off shirt, turn on shower, point the shower head towards the wall (if you can), lean in and dunk your head on the water. 10 seconds later, turn off the water, dry yourself off, and there... bed hair cured in -10 seconds.", "Depends on the hair type. To avoid bed head I brush my hair when it's still wet- I have waist length \"straight\" ish hair that can get really messy if I leave it to dry on its own. If I brush it straight out and leave it to dry when it's unknotted, ponytailing it and going to bed is usually enough.", "When I have longer hair and I wake up with a mess I usually toss on a beanie and wear it until I leave. Works wonders.", "Take off your shirt and bend over the bath tube. Then use the showerhead and wet your head really well. Then dry with a towel. It should take no more than a minute or two.\n\nI usually wash my head with shampoo just to feel like I've taken a shower without having to take a shower while I'm at it. ", "Make sure your hair is dry before you go to sleep, and get a silk/satin pillowcase. You hair will slide more easily over it and not tangle as much. If you hair is long enough, you could braid it before you went to bed.", ">don't have enough time in the morning\n\nYou could wake up 15 minutes earlier, and if you don't think you can do that, go to bed 30 minutes earlier the night before." ]

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[ "How to not cry during emotional stuff? Have to say some goodbyes tomorrow and don't wanna cry like a little girl", "How to not cry during emotional stuff? Have to say some goodbyes tomorrow and don't wanna cry like a little girl", "How to not cry during emotional stuff? Have to say some goodbyes tomorrow and don't wanna cry like a little girl", "How to not cry during emotional stuff? Have to say some goodbyes tomorrow and don't wanna cry like a little girl" ]

[ "When I was a little kid I trained myself to hold back tears, but let me tell you, it's sorta shitty. I can still cry when something is emotional, but I wish it would come out more powerfully sometimes. Crying to me is an indication of a moment in life that is important, transformative, meaningful, and indicates an emotional state that transcends our own consciousness. It is beautiful to be so enthralled in a moment that you can't help but sob and cry. Maybe these moments come from sadness, but sadness is part of life, and accepting it rather than fighting it is more healthy I think. Crying is a completely natural thing to do, and you'll probably feel better after you do it too. Embrace the moment and let it all out. ", "Well one, its normal to cry Its a human emotion. Secondly goodbyes are never easy so tears will be shed", "Take some farewell photos of the group right about then, it will distract you and they will be nice to have years from now. ", "Blink lots. When I went to go see Toy Story 3, I wanted to cry so bad but I really didn't want to cry in a kids film. No tears ran down my face, even though they were trying real hard. " ]

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[ "Methods to break myself down (army style) in order to be able to focus better on tasks / be more motivated to work I lack a lot of motivation to study, workout harder than usual etc... I have lost my motivation.\n\nOne thing I did years ago that really got me started in terms of motivation was set annoying alarms at early times, taking only freezing showers and rewarding myself with warm showers if I got PRs or made a big advancement.\n\nI would run until I felt like I'd faint etc... Withhold food for up to 3 days and more in order to gain better control over my body. It worked really well.\n\nI am wondering what other techniques I can use to \"break\" myself in order to be better at spending hours on studying, pushing harder at the gym and basically ignoring my instincts which tell me to sleep 16 hrs a day watching TV shows.", "Methods to break myself down (army style) in order to be able to focus better on tasks / be more motivated to work I lack a lot of motivation to study, workout harder than usual etc... I have lost my motivation.\n\nOne thing I did years ago that really got me started in terms of motivation was set annoying alarms at early times, taking only freezing showers and rewarding myself with warm showers if I got PRs or made a big advancement.\n\nI would run until I felt like I'd faint etc... Withhold food for up to 3 days and more in order to gain better control over my body. It worked really well.\n\nI am wondering what other techniques I can use to \"break\" myself in order to be better at spending hours on studying, pushing harder at the gym and basically ignoring my instincts which tell me to sleep 16 hrs a day watching TV shows." ]

[ "Withholding food until you go to sleep isn't necessarily the best idea. Then you have a slower metabolism during the day and it probably contributes to not wanting to do anything. I'm not a nutritionist, but maybe look into that. \n\nDo you have access to a pool? Swimming is a great way to burn calories, especially if the water is cool. Even if you're metabolism is slow you'll burn a ton of calories just keeping your body warm. Plus you get the aerobic exercise without stress on your joints. I always find swimming a more pleasant type of exercise to get into than running/biking, but it's personal preference. \n\nAs for actual motivation, how about shorter-goals with more small rewards? Like wake up, go walk around the block, then have some sugar-free yogurt and coffee (there are no calories in black coffee), watch an episode of some show while you eat, then onto your next thing. ", "Many people would suggest that being a little kinder to yourself might make you WANT the life you have chosen. The best motivation is to know you are doing the rightest thing you can for yourself and others. \n\nI would never recommend that anyone BREAK themselves. Life is hard enough. It will break you without your help.\n\n" ]

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[ "Some advice for sleeping on a long and uncomfortable bus trip? The thing is that I have a hard time sleeping unless it is at night and it is a quiet environment, for work reasons I will have to travel by bus for 13 hours, which is not much but I am looking for options that have helped them to fall asleep in similar situations. Thanks !", "Some advice for sleeping on a long and uncomfortable bus trip? The thing is that I have a hard time sleeping unless it is at night and it is a quiet environment, for work reasons I will have to travel by bus for 13 hours, which is not much but I am looking for options that have helped them to fall asleep in similar situations. Thanks !", "Some advice for sleeping on a long and uncomfortable bus trip? The thing is that I have a hard time sleeping unless it is at night and it is a quiet environment, for work reasons I will have to travel by bus for 13 hours, which is not much but I am looking for options that have helped them to fall asleep in similar situations. Thanks !", "Some advice for sleeping on a long and uncomfortable bus trip? The thing is that I have a hard time sleeping unless it is at night and it is a quiet environment, for work reasons I will have to travel by bus for 13 hours, which is not much but I am looking for options that have helped them to fall asleep in similar situations. Thanks !", "Some advice for sleeping on a long and uncomfortable bus trip? The thing is that I have a hard time sleeping unless it is at night and it is a quiet environment, for work reasons I will have to travel by bus for 13 hours, which is not much but I am looking for options that have helped them to fall asleep in similar situations. Thanks !" ]

[ "also the regular dramamine formula (not non-drowsy) if you don’t mind being groggy and don’t have anything important to do right when you get off", "There is a jacket with a hood, built into the collar is an inflatable neck pillow and the hood has a pull-down eye mask. It has lots of hidden pockets for your phone, mp3 player or whatever. If interested let me know and I will try to find it, I almost bought one but my trip was canceled. They also make a hoodie version. They were around $100-150 I think.", "Take some small pillows to rest your arms on. Makes a huge difference in comfort. Rolled up blankets or clothes can work too.", "Perhaps an audiobook on a topic that totally doesn’t interest you, with a narrator who talks really calm and slow…", "Make sure you get a window seat so no one will wake you up to go to the loo or pump into you on the way to somewhere or other." ]

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[ "My current employer is probably going to counter. Should I tell my potential new employer? Disclaimer: There are a few hypotheticals. I’m sorry.\n\nAfter 4 gruelling interviews, an assessment and a presentation, this multinational has told me they’re keen to hire me and they’ve started preparing an offer. I should receive it tomorrow as per their recruiter.\n\nChances are they’ll offer something that I’ll probably accept but I also believe my current employer will definitely counter. Context: I’m a massive asset to this team. My HOD, a lateral colleague and I built this new department from the ground up. We started with 3 team members and 40 food delivery drivers. A year later, our team has 24 people and we have over 900 food delivery drivers. More context: I’ve been at the company for 4 years. I started in sales - I was there for 3 years - and then moved to ops, where i was tasked to build this new business unit.\n\nQuestion 1, should I tell my current employer about the new offer? I’ve been rather transparent with my current employer/the HOD about wanting more money after my dismal yearly increase in April. I work hard guys, and I am definitely underpaid. I’ve also been transparent about my family planning (I got engaged 3 months ago) and recruiters have been on my case at least once month for the last year. My HOD couldn’t handle the money discussion so he literally sent me to the now CEO, the person who I negotiated with when I joined this new department. Question 2, if my current employer counters, should I take that counter to my potential new employer?\n\n", "My current employer is probably going to counter. Should I tell my potential new employer? Disclaimer: There are a few hypotheticals. I’m sorry.\n\nAfter 4 gruelling interviews, an assessment and a presentation, this multinational has told me they’re keen to hire me and they’ve started preparing an offer. I should receive it tomorrow as per their recruiter.\n\nChances are they’ll offer something that I’ll probably accept but I also believe my current employer will definitely counter. Context: I’m a massive asset to this team. My HOD, a lateral colleague and I built this new department from the ground up. We started with 3 team members and 40 food delivery drivers. A year later, our team has 24 people and we have over 900 food delivery drivers. More context: I’ve been at the company for 4 years. I started in sales - I was there for 3 years - and then moved to ops, where i was tasked to build this new business unit.\n\nQuestion 1, should I tell my current employer about the new offer? I’ve been rather transparent with my current employer/the HOD about wanting more money after my dismal yearly increase in April. I work hard guys, and I am definitely underpaid. I’ve also been transparent about my family planning (I got engaged 3 months ago) and recruiters have been on my case at least once month for the last year. My HOD couldn’t handle the money discussion so he literally sent me to the now CEO, the person who I negotiated with when I joined this new department. Question 2, if my current employer counters, should I take that counter to my potential new employer?\n\n", "My current employer is probably going to counter. Should I tell my potential new employer? Disclaimer: There are a few hypotheticals. I’m sorry.\n\nAfter 4 gruelling interviews, an assessment and a presentation, this multinational has told me they’re keen to hire me and they’ve started preparing an offer. I should receive it tomorrow as per their recruiter.\n\nChances are they’ll offer something that I’ll probably accept but I also believe my current employer will definitely counter. Context: I’m a massive asset to this team. My HOD, a lateral colleague and I built this new department from the ground up. We started with 3 team members and 40 food delivery drivers. A year later, our team has 24 people and we have over 900 food delivery drivers. More context: I’ve been at the company for 4 years. I started in sales - I was there for 3 years - and then moved to ops, where i was tasked to build this new business unit.\n\nQuestion 1, should I tell my current employer about the new offer? I’ve been rather transparent with my current employer/the HOD about wanting more money after my dismal yearly increase in April. I work hard guys, and I am definitely underpaid. I’ve also been transparent about my family planning (I got engaged 3 months ago) and recruiters have been on my case at least once month for the last year. My HOD couldn’t handle the money discussion so he literally sent me to the now CEO, the person who I negotiated with when I joined this new department. Question 2, if my current employer counters, should I take that counter to my potential new employer?\n\n", "My current employer is probably going to counter. Should I tell my potential new employer? Disclaimer: There are a few hypotheticals. I’m sorry.\n\nAfter 4 gruelling interviews, an assessment and a presentation, this multinational has told me they’re keen to hire me and they’ve started preparing an offer. I should receive it tomorrow as per their recruiter.\n\nChances are they’ll offer something that I’ll probably accept but I also believe my current employer will definitely counter. Context: I’m a massive asset to this team. My HOD, a lateral colleague and I built this new department from the ground up. We started with 3 team members and 40 food delivery drivers. A year later, our team has 24 people and we have over 900 food delivery drivers. More context: I’ve been at the company for 4 years. I started in sales - I was there for 3 years - and then moved to ops, where i was tasked to build this new business unit.\n\nQuestion 1, should I tell my current employer about the new offer? I’ve been rather transparent with my current employer/the HOD about wanting more money after my dismal yearly increase in April. I work hard guys, and I am definitely underpaid. I’ve also been transparent about my family planning (I got engaged 3 months ago) and recruiters have been on my case at least once month for the last year. My HOD couldn’t handle the money discussion so he literally sent me to the now CEO, the person who I negotiated with when I joined this new department. Question 2, if my current employer counters, should I take that counter to my potential new employer?\n\n", "My current employer is probably going to counter. Should I tell my potential new employer? Disclaimer: There are a few hypotheticals. I’m sorry.\n\nAfter 4 gruelling interviews, an assessment and a presentation, this multinational has told me they’re keen to hire me and they’ve started preparing an offer. I should receive it tomorrow as per their recruiter.\n\nChances are they’ll offer something that I’ll probably accept but I also believe my current employer will definitely counter. Context: I’m a massive asset to this team. My HOD, a lateral colleague and I built this new department from the ground up. We started with 3 team members and 40 food delivery drivers. A year later, our team has 24 people and we have over 900 food delivery drivers. More context: I’ve been at the company for 4 years. I started in sales - I was there for 3 years - and then moved to ops, where i was tasked to build this new business unit.\n\nQuestion 1, should I tell my current employer about the new offer? I’ve been rather transparent with my current employer/the HOD about wanting more money after my dismal yearly increase in April. I work hard guys, and I am definitely underpaid. I’ve also been transparent about my family planning (I got engaged 3 months ago) and recruiters have been on my case at least once month for the last year. My HOD couldn’t handle the money discussion so he literally sent me to the now CEO, the person who I negotiated with when I joined this new department. Question 2, if my current employer counters, should I take that counter to my potential new employer?\n\n", "My current employer is probably going to counter. Should I tell my potential new employer? Disclaimer: There are a few hypotheticals. I’m sorry.\n\nAfter 4 gruelling interviews, an assessment and a presentation, this multinational has told me they’re keen to hire me and they’ve started preparing an offer. I should receive it tomorrow as per their recruiter.\n\nChances are they’ll offer something that I’ll probably accept but I also believe my current employer will definitely counter. Context: I’m a massive asset to this team. My HOD, a lateral colleague and I built this new department from the ground up. We started with 3 team members and 40 food delivery drivers. A year later, our team has 24 people and we have over 900 food delivery drivers. More context: I’ve been at the company for 4 years. I started in sales - I was there for 3 years - and then moved to ops, where i was tasked to build this new business unit.\n\nQuestion 1, should I tell my current employer about the new offer? I’ve been rather transparent with my current employer/the HOD about wanting more money after my dismal yearly increase in April. I work hard guys, and I am definitely underpaid. I’ve also been transparent about my family planning (I got engaged 3 months ago) and recruiters have been on my case at least once month for the last year. My HOD couldn’t handle the money discussion so he literally sent me to the now CEO, the person who I negotiated with when I joined this new department. Question 2, if my current employer counters, should I take that counter to my potential new employer?\n\n", "My current employer is probably going to counter. Should I tell my potential new employer? Disclaimer: There are a few hypotheticals. I’m sorry.\n\nAfter 4 gruelling interviews, an assessment and a presentation, this multinational has told me they’re keen to hire me and they’ve started preparing an offer. I should receive it tomorrow as per their recruiter.\n\nChances are they’ll offer something that I’ll probably accept but I also believe my current employer will definitely counter. Context: I’m a massive asset to this team. My HOD, a lateral colleague and I built this new department from the ground up. We started with 3 team members and 40 food delivery drivers. A year later, our team has 24 people and we have over 900 food delivery drivers. More context: I’ve been at the company for 4 years. I started in sales - I was there for 3 years - and then moved to ops, where i was tasked to build this new business unit.\n\nQuestion 1, should I tell my current employer about the new offer? I’ve been rather transparent with my current employer/the HOD about wanting more money after my dismal yearly increase in April. I work hard guys, and I am definitely underpaid. I’ve also been transparent about my family planning (I got engaged 3 months ago) and recruiters have been on my case at least once month for the last year. My HOD couldn’t handle the money discussion so he literally sent me to the now CEO, the person who I negotiated with when I joined this new department. Question 2, if my current employer counters, should I take that counter to my potential new employer?\n\n" ]

[ "Do you want the new job? If yes, then don’t bother telling your current manager until you have accepted a done deal—at that point simply tell him you are leaving and thank him for the opportunities he has given you.\n\nIf you want to use the new offer as leverage to get a better deal in your current job and stay, then tell him once the offer is in hand—but be prepared that he might say “see ya.”", "I think you should go with the new job. You should not have to get a job offer for your current employer to pay you what you’re worth. If they do make an offer to keep you and you accept it, it rarely works out in the long run.\n[Why you should never accept a counter offer](https://youtu.be/HqnMQOZnl6E)", "It is up to you. If the offer is the only reason you choose one company over the other then yes, find the highest bidder. If you will not continue to work for the current company no mater what you risk for no real gain. Playing one against the other can be read multiple ways. \n\nIf I am managing you it tells me you have no loyalty and are ready to go to the highest bidder at any time. I might decide you are worth that but it certainly changes how I utilize you. If you really are the best at what you do in your price range then I will just have to live with it. If you are replaceable for a reasonable cost I may be looking to phase you out for someone I can trust long term. \n\nSo actual advice what you should do would require far more information. As part of my consulting company I help people make these decisions. It takes evaluating the strength of you position, the risk involved, and the potential reward to analyze if the risk is worth it or not. You are in a strong market for employees at the moment with a general labor shortage.", "I presume your new employer has asked what your compensation expectations are. If they met your ask, you risk frustrating the hiring manager by appearing like you've moved the goalposts or are non committal. Consider how you answered the 'why are you moving jobs' question so that you are consistent with your rationale (e.g I'm leaving for more money)\n\nGood luck!", "I certainly would do this (and have seen it done in my industry). I would 100% let your employer know that you intend to take a new job and see what number they come back with, and if the number is higher than what the new employer is offering, I would (kindly) let them know, and see if they'll match\n\nAt the end of the day, you're going to take the new job and the new employer wants you. Asking for a raise with evidence in hand that you can get it elsewhere is only smart business. This also shows the new employer that you're street smart, and if they try to play games with your salary, you are a hot commodity and are willing to go elsewhere", "Always be ready to leave. I would suggest that if family planning is on the way it’s sometimes ‘better the devil you know’.", " As long as you are upfront and honest with everyone as you go, sure. (It's slightly grey area honest if you know where you want to go, but you are working for you in this negotiation... would you price out vendors to get your employer a better deal?)\n\nSeems like hopefully which ever way the chips fall you'll do better, negotiate hard now it'll pay you for years" ]

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[ "How to stop your head from \"Spinning\" when your fight or flight reflexes trigger. Hey, so for pretty much all of my life, when I get flustered to the point that my fight or flight reflexes kick in, my head starts spinning like crazy, throwing off my balance, and essentially making it very difficult to react to situations in any meaningful way. If I were to get in a fight with someone, or even get into a heated argument with them, on comes the spinning. Other than calming down, is there anything I can do to combat the annoying spinning or \"Swimming\" visual disorientation I get? Any help would be appreciated.", "How to stop your head from \"Spinning\" when your fight or flight reflexes trigger. Hey, so for pretty much all of my life, when I get flustered to the point that my fight or flight reflexes kick in, my head starts spinning like crazy, throwing off my balance, and essentially making it very difficult to react to situations in any meaningful way. If I were to get in a fight with someone, or even get into a heated argument with them, on comes the spinning. Other than calming down, is there anything I can do to combat the annoying spinning or \"Swimming\" visual disorientation I get? Any help would be appreciated.", "How to stop your head from \"Spinning\" when your fight or flight reflexes trigger. Hey, so for pretty much all of my life, when I get flustered to the point that my fight or flight reflexes kick in, my head starts spinning like crazy, throwing off my balance, and essentially making it very difficult to react to situations in any meaningful way. If I were to get in a fight with someone, or even get into a heated argument with them, on comes the spinning. Other than calming down, is there anything I can do to combat the annoying spinning or \"Swimming\" visual disorientation I get? Any help would be appreciated.", "How to stop your head from \"Spinning\" when your fight or flight reflexes trigger. Hey, so for pretty much all of my life, when I get flustered to the point that my fight or flight reflexes kick in, my head starts spinning like crazy, throwing off my balance, and essentially making it very difficult to react to situations in any meaningful way. If I were to get in a fight with someone, or even get into a heated argument with them, on comes the spinning. Other than calming down, is there anything I can do to combat the annoying spinning or \"Swimming\" visual disorientation I get? Any help would be appreciated." ]

[ "Identify your triggers. Figure out what gets you to that point. It's not the effect you need to address, it's the cause. Then acknowledge panic for what it is: harmless. It sucks but you need to let it happen. The harder you fight it the worse it is. For me, it comes in waves. I ride them out because there's nothing I can do about it. And somehow, that helps.", "The easiest Physiological trick in this case would be to bear down.\n\nIf you've ever had a moment of dizziness, or darkness around the edges of your vision after standing up, you're probably familiar with Orthostatic Hypotension. This happens because your blood pressure hasn't accounted for your sudden shift from being horizontal to vertical, so your heart hasn't kicked it up a gear to force your blood, against gravity, blood an extra foot into your skull.\n\nTry this next time you feel it happening: Breathe in, close your airways, and squeeze down with your chest muscles, like you're trying to blow out real hard. This creates pressure on the diaphragm, which conveniently enough has a hole passing through it for your descending Aorta, supplying blood to the lower half of your body. By squeezing, you lock out your lower-half's blood supply, which forces all that pressure to carry lots of fresh, oxygenated blood straight into your head. It helps to remember that you're not damaging yourself by doing this; your heart and brain need a constant supply of oxygenated blood at all times to function, whereas your other internal organs are less time-sensitive, and can have it off for minutes without irreversible damage.", "If you see stars when you are spinning too then you are hyperventilating. Slow down your breathing.\n\nIf that is not the case then maybe try regular m", "Hmm. I am slightly familiar with panic attacks and adrenaline responses, but I can't say I've heard of vertigo or visual disorientation as being a very common one. Usually by the time that happens people are in full on screaming money mode.\n\nI'm going to say you might be best off consulting a doctor, it could potentially be an inner ear issue. Maybe a blood vessel is interfering with something when your blood pressure gets up.\n\nOne idea I've got, because I have seen it happen to a handful of people, are you remembering to breathe? I've seen people who would hold their breath when they get stressed, so by the time anything actually happened they had already been holding their breath for 30 seconds or more. It also made them horrible at actually speaking while stressed, because they'd have to gasp for a breath.\n\nTry some breathing exercises. There are multiple different types of breathing exercises, and they are not all for the same purpose. Some help lower blood pressure, others help raise blood pressure. Every so often you'll see someone on the internet complaining that breath exercises are useless pseudoscience because he can never fall asleep after doing a tactical breathing exercise intended to get heartrate and blood pressure up, but he's trying to use it to fall asleep.\n\n\nOn the whole, the best way to get a handle on adrenaline responses is to provoke them in a safe environment. I do martial arts, it's great for that. Or you could go around introducing yourself to attractive strangers, or riding rollercoasters or whatever." ]

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[ "Ways to make money as a teen So im turning 13 soon and I want to start earning money. What are some methods I could use? BTW I'm from the UK in case that's important. Thanks.", "Ways to make money as a teen So im turning 13 soon and I want to start earning money. What are some methods I could use? BTW I'm from the UK in case that's important. Thanks.", "Ways to make money as a teen So im turning 13 soon and I want to start earning money. What are some methods I could use? BTW I'm from the UK in case that's important. Thanks.", "Ways to make money as a teen So im turning 13 soon and I want to start earning money. What are some methods I could use? BTW I'm from the UK in case that's important. Thanks.", "Ways to make money as a teen So im turning 13 soon and I want to start earning money. What are some methods I could use? BTW I'm from the UK in case that's important. Thanks.", "Ways to make money as a teen So im turning 13 soon and I want to start earning money. What are some methods I could use? BTW I'm from the UK in case that's important. Thanks.", "Ways to make money as a teen So im turning 13 soon and I want to start earning money. What are some methods I could use? BTW I'm from the UK in case that's important. Thanks." ]

[ "I don't know much about it myself, but many of my friends who enjoy coding found ways to monetize their passion. They developed websites for local businesses and friends and families.", "Fix stuff, thats what I did.\n\n\nAnd you are 12 on reddit? Please tell me you haven't been on /r/circlejerk or a subreddit like that.", "I started paper rounds at 13. I got around £16 a week. If you have a local post office, ask if they have any available paper rounds. It's good exercise, walking or cycling, and it gets you up in the morning. Good luck!", "When I was your age I delivered newspapers and once I was a little older I started babysitting (you can probably find a babysitting course to take now if you like). \n\nI'm not sure if paper routes are much of a thing anymore, but I remember waking up super early and going around the neighbourhood delivering the newspaper. If newspaper routes are hard to come by, see about flyers (I don't think the pay is as good).\n\nGood luck! ", "I was building websites at that age and the internet was new for %90 of the people back then. Made serious amount of money. Used that money for buying online stuff for people who dont have a cr", "I was a babysitter. Earned good money nannying during the summer. Parents need people to take care of their kids when schools are closed.", "I started by mowing one neighbors lawn per week when I was 13 for about $20 using all of their stuff (lawn mower, trimmer, broom). The next summer I went around my neighborhood with flyers offering to mow other people's lawns...and made enough money to buy my own equipment. By the time I was 17 I started a landscaping company with a friend and we only grew from there. \n\nWe finally quit with it at 21 but made enough money to pay for all of our expenses (rent, food, some of college tuition, etc...even bought a car). If you do a good job and take pride in your work, people will hire you regardless of your age. Like this you can also get the benefit of having your own business, setting your own schedule, and charging whatever price you would like (assuming the customer accepts). Good luck either way! Mowing a couple people's lawns doesn't take very long and you can make much more than your friends working for minimum wage :)" ]

[ 9, 4, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Clean up when shaving your chest and body. When shaving your body \"neck down\" where is the best place to do it for best clean up, or whats the best way to clean up the body hair?", "Clean up when shaving your chest and body. When shaving your body \"neck down\" where is the best place to do it for best clean up, or whats the best way to clean up the body hair?", "Clean up when shaving your chest and body. When shaving your body \"neck down\" where is the best place to do it for best clean up, or whats the best way to clean up the body hair?", "Clean up when shaving your chest and body. When shaving your body \"neck down\" where is the best place to do it for best clean up, or whats the best way to clean up the body hair?", "Clean up when shaving your chest and body. When shaving your body \"neck down\" where is the best place to do it for best clean up, or whats the best way to clean up the body hair?", "Clean up when shaving your chest and body. When shaving your body \"neck down\" where is the best place to do it for best clean up, or whats the best way to clean up the body hair?" ]

[ "I shave regularly enough in the shower that it isn't an issue. Stubble doesn't clog anything. If you're shaving longer hair, trim it and vacuum it up before you get in the shower.", "I always just do it in the shower but then you run the risk of clogging your drain. Could just get a big throwaway cup and fill it up with water to clear your razor but i found that too time-consuming. ", "shave on the carpet and then vacuum.. i went to my buddies house and he was cutting his hair like that..i thought it was genius and simple.. he had it all cleaned up in seconds", "get your self a shower strainer or you can use a washcloth as well. ( the older the better or cheaper the better ) I have a shower/tub that has a drain plug built in so i can not use a strainer i use an old thin wash cloth it lets water out but collects the hair. if you are really hairy it may take sometime for the water to drain but when done you will be left with all the hair or most of it on top of the wash cloth. ", "Ya when ever i do it in the shower it clog's up, and its hell doing it over the sink and covering the counter with hairs. Some times ill do it over a towel but then i have no place to shake the towel.", "* Step 1: Place dirty/used towel on bathroom floor\n* Step 2: Stand on towel\n* Step 3: Grounds keeping\n* Step 4: Fold up towel, shake out in dumpster\n* Step 5: Profit\n\nAlso, don't use a straight razor. Just trim with a clipper." ]

[ 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2 ]

[ "How do you establish a platonic relationship and signal to others that the relationship is purely platonic? ", "How do you establish a platonic relationship and signal to others that the relationship is purely platonic? ", "How do you establish a platonic relationship and signal to others that the relationship is purely platonic? ", "How do you establish a platonic relationship and signal to others that the relationship is purely platonic? ", "How do you establish a platonic relationship and signal to others that the relationship is purely platonic? ", "How do you establish a platonic relationship and signal to others that the relationship is purely platonic? ", "How do you establish a platonic relationship and signal to others that the relationship is purely platonic? ", "How do you establish a platonic relationship and signal to others that the relationship is purely platonic? ", "How do you establish a platonic relationship and signal to others that the relationship is purely platonic? ", "How do you establish a platonic relationship and signal to others that the relationship is purely platonic? " ]

[ "When you're in public with your \"platonic\", announce with a loud and positive voice whilst shaking their hand, \"I'm so glad you're my friend\"\n\nhttps://imgur.com/gallery/jpNZjRp", "Why do you need to signal to *others* that the friendship is platonic? Is your platonic friend killing your chances of being in a relationship?", "Within one week of meeting a person, I tell them that I'm not interested in anything beyond a mutual acquaintance or friendship. It really puts up that wall that prevents people from even trying to move forward. ", "If you're a girl, and he's a boy, and you think there's any chance at all that he's interested in being romantic with you, then you cannot be \"just friends.\" It won't work, sorry. He may say it's fine, but he'll simply be biding his time , hoping you come around to feeling the same way he does. If you don't, he will eventually become frustrated and move on. These things just don't work out in the vast majority of cases.", "you probably could start by saying 'I don't want you *like that*' \n\nactually it sounds like a thing to say at the end of a conversation, best of luck", "People who are interested in you will display certain body language. They'll tend to move closer to you, stand so they're facing you directly and make solid eye contact. Back up and turn slightly to the side. Break eye contact. Get distracted and move away from them.\n\nWhen they make ambiguous statements of interest, always respond on the side of the statement that says you're not interested. Example: They say: \"You're a runner? So am I! We should get together and you can show me one of your favorite running trails.\" Answer: \"Thanks, but running is really something I prefer to do alone to clear my head.\"\n\nSome people will the hint and others won't. If they keep pressing just say, \"I'm flattered but I'm not interested in more than friendship.\"\n\nIf they still don't get the hint, avoid them at all costs. ", "Manage your eye contact. Only ever look at the person's forehead, not directly in the eye. If you do look them directly in the eye, make it of very shorty duration. Other body language will follow. ", "I am very openly uninterested in heavy relationships I just tell people upfront. \n\n\"Sorry not for me\" **when it becomes a problem.**\n\nThe last thing you should do is assume everyone wants to though because its very vain.", "Hello [Astro2017](/u/Astro2017), thank you for your submission! Unfortunately, your submission has been removed for the following reason(s):\n\n* **Relationship tip.**\n\n\n\nIf you would like to appeal this decision [please feel free to contact the moderators here](http://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=/r/LifeProTips). Do not repost without explicit permission from the moderators. Make sure you [read the rules](/r/lifeprotips/about/sidebar) before submitting. Thank you!", "Don't make friends. Ever. Problem solved! Awkwardly walk away without saying goodbye to anyone you have to be in contact with works too." ]

[ 8, 7, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to tell a random hookup you have an incurable STD? [NSFW] I know HPV affects something like 80% of sexually active people, and most people never know they have it, but I do know. I don't have any visible signs, but the guilt of knowing and not telling someone is too much. On the flip side, I'm newly single after dumping the asshole who knowingly gave it to me, and don't want a new relationship anytime soon, so how the hell do I approach the topic with someone I barely know? (i.e. bar encounter)\n\n", "How to tell a random hookup you have an incurable STD? [NSFW] I know HPV affects something like 80% of sexually active people, and most people never know they have it, but I do know. I don't have any visible signs, but the guilt of knowing and not telling someone is too much. On the flip side, I'm newly single after dumping the asshole who knowingly gave it to me, and don't want a new relationship anytime soon, so how the hell do I approach the topic with someone I barely know? (i.e. bar encounter)\n\n", "How to tell a random hookup you have an incurable STD? [NSFW] I know HPV affects something like 80% of sexually active people, and most people never know they have it, but I do know. I don't have any visible signs, but the guilt of knowing and not telling someone is too much. On the flip side, I'm newly single after dumping the asshole who knowingly gave it to me, and don't want a new relationship anytime soon, so how the hell do I approach the topic with someone I barely know? (i.e. bar encounter)\n\n", "How to tell a random hookup you have an incurable STD? [NSFW] I know HPV affects something like 80% of sexually active people, and most people never know they have it, but I do know. I don't have any visible signs, but the guilt of knowing and not telling someone is too much. On the flip side, I'm newly single after dumping the asshole who knowingly gave it to me, and don't want a new relationship anytime soon, so how the hell do I approach the topic with someone I barely know? (i.e. bar encounter)\n\n", "How to tell a random hookup you have an incurable STD? [NSFW] I know HPV affects something like 80% of sexually active people, and most people never know they have it, but I do know. I don't have any visible signs, but the guilt of knowing and not telling someone is too much. On the flip side, I'm newly single after dumping the asshole who knowingly gave it to me, and don't want a new relationship anytime soon, so how the hell do I approach the topic with someone I barely know? (i.e. bar encounter)\n\n", "How to tell a random hookup you have an incurable STD? [NSFW] I know HPV affects something like 80% of sexually active people, and most people never know they have it, but I do know. I don't have any visible signs, but the guilt of knowing and not telling someone is too much. On the flip side, I'm newly single after dumping the asshole who knowingly gave it to me, and don't want a new relationship anytime soon, so how the hell do I approach the topic with someone I barely know? (i.e. bar encounter)\n\n", "How to tell a random hookup you have an incurable STD? [NSFW] I know HPV affects something like 80% of sexually active people, and most people never know they have it, but I do know. I don't have any visible signs, but the guilt of knowing and not telling someone is too much. On the flip side, I'm newly single after dumping the asshole who knowingly gave it to me, and don't want a new relationship anytime soon, so how the hell do I approach the topic with someone I barely know? (i.e. bar encounter)\n\n", "How to tell a random hookup you have an incurable STD? [NSFW] I know HPV affects something like 80% of sexually active people, and most people never know they have it, but I do know. I don't have any visible signs, but the guilt of knowing and not telling someone is too much. On the flip side, I'm newly single after dumping the asshole who knowingly gave it to me, and don't want a new relationship anytime soon, so how the hell do I approach the topic with someone I barely know? (i.e. bar encounter)\n\n", "How to tell a random hookup you have an incurable STD? [NSFW] I know HPV affects something like 80% of sexually active people, and most people never know they have it, but I do know. I don't have any visible signs, but the guilt of knowing and not telling someone is too much. On the flip side, I'm newly single after dumping the asshole who knowingly gave it to me, and don't want a new relationship anytime soon, so how the hell do I approach the topic with someone I barely know? (i.e. bar encounter)\n\n", "How to tell a random hookup you have an incurable STD? [NSFW] I know HPV affects something like 80% of sexually active people, and most people never know they have it, but I do know. I don't have any visible signs, but the guilt of knowing and not telling someone is too much. On the flip side, I'm newly single after dumping the asshole who knowingly gave it to me, and don't want a new relationship anytime soon, so how the hell do I approach the topic with someone I barely know? (i.e. bar encounter)\n\n", "How to tell a random hookup you have an incurable STD? [NSFW] I know HPV affects something like 80% of sexually active people, and most people never know they have it, but I do know. I don't have any visible signs, but the guilt of knowing and not telling someone is too much. On the flip side, I'm newly single after dumping the asshole who knowingly gave it to me, and don't want a new relationship anytime soon, so how the hell do I approach the topic with someone I barely know? (i.e. bar encounter)\n\n", "How to tell a random hookup you have an incurable STD? [NSFW] I know HPV affects something like 80% of sexually active people, and most people never know they have it, but I do know. I don't have any visible signs, but the guilt of knowing and not telling someone is too much. On the flip side, I'm newly single after dumping the asshole who knowingly gave it to me, and don't want a new relationship anytime soon, so how the hell do I approach the topic with someone I barely know? (i.e. bar encounter)\n\n" ]

[ "Just tell him as soon as you feel comfortable and before you have sex - let him make the decision with all the cards on the table. \n\nGood on you for trying to be open - I know it isn't easy, but you're doing the right thing.", "From: http://www.ashasexualhealth.org/stdsstis/hpv/what-men-should-know/\n\n\"Genital HPV is usually acquired by direct skin-to-skin contact during intimate sexual contact with someone who is infected. Most men and women are not aware that they have the virus. Condoms do not offer complete protection from HPV. Increasing numbers of partners increases the risk of getting HPV, but the virus is so common that having only a single lifetime partner does not assure protection. It is usually impossible to determine when or from whom HPV was caught. HPV may be detected fairly soon after exposure, or may not be found until many years later. For all these reasons, it is not helpful, nor fair, to blame your partner.\"", "Hey there, incurable STD here too, my ex gave me HSV2 about 2 years ago. The first year was the worst. I didn't want to get close to anyone and I pretty much accepted that hook ups were no longer an option. The first guy I started seeing after being diagnosed I would only kiss and have sleep overs with, never anything sexual. I finally became comfortable with him enough to know I wanted a relationship and wanted to take that step. I told him, he seemed understanding and sweet about it. The next week was radio silence from him. Not a word. I finally called him out and told him how difficult it was to share and be honest about something like that. He expressed gratitude for me being honest, but he just couldn't accept it or continue a relationship with me after that. It happens, and honestly being diagnosed is one of the best things to happen to me. You start to screen the people you are around and really think about what you want and need from someone in a relationship. My now boyfriend, and father of my unborn child was the complete opposite reaction. I knew I wanted to be with him and have a relationship with him, and I actually broke down crying the night I decided I was going to tell him. I fully expected him to leave and never talk to me again, just like the first guy. He didnt. He told me that something as small as that meant nothing to him if it meant being with me. We then had copious amounts of sex. Since I'm pregnant, he obviously didn't care about condoms and I haven't passed the virus on to him due to taking suppressant therapy and staying away from sex during an outbreak. So, I know this can be hard to go through, but stay strong. Some people won't be able to handle it, and that's their loss honestly. But you will find that it can be a helpful tool in weeding out the jerk that just wants sex, and the guy who is actually interested and caring about you as a person. ", "Tell them the truth. All u can do is be honest and assure them that you'll do everything you can to make sure not to pass it on to them. Tell the person when you're ready and tell them you like them. The option of them leaving is up to them. It'll hurt when they decide to not date you. But just know you're not undatable and there's nothing wrong you. It what it is and you're an amazing person. If anyone makes you feel less than that, then they really aren't worth your time. I do have an STD. And there's no cure and not one of my partners have ever contracted it from me. So there you go. You should tell them. I've told every partner and potential partner. Not all have stuck in for a relationship but most people are understandable. Just don't let the the ones who turn you down get you down. ", "Yeah homie, just be open and honest. The real problem you face is that people don't want the hook up, no matter the situation, its a deal breaker for me unless I'm 100% lifetime partners. \n\nSadly that kind of thing really needs to take a hiatus. \n\nFuck that other guy though. You may be able to pursue legal action if he knowingly transmitted it to you. ", "Ouch. Been there. Listen, the good news is that most people process through HPV just like they do any other virus. It's pretty damn likely that it isn't forever. If you're in the group that didn't qualify or did sexy time before HPV vaccines, some estimates placed infection rates in the 80-90% range for sexually active adults. There's something like over 100 strains of it? The rates have dropped significantly since the vaccine, but that's only the four most common forms. That's 4/100+ strains.\n\nViruses like herpes simplex a and b and HPV are complicated. We don't entirely understand the immune response and/or when the viral load is low enough you're done with it (which basically means they just can't find it anymore the load is so low) -- or if you ever really are. Consider chicken pox, cold sores, and shingles. They impact everyone differently, it's not the same as bacterial infections that just clear or the more readily understood STDs. Go ask some OBs about HPV - your risk of transmission, recurrence, and/or prevalence in the population. I promise you you'll get a different answer from nearly every one. \n\nNot to diminish your pain here, but a shit ton of people are running around with low and high risk HPV. Many never show symptoms, still more only do so briefly and their bodies move on. Others are unlucky enough to show symptoms like yourself, but I want to remind you that just because you got stuck with this shit doesn't make you different -- it just makes you AWARE. There's not even a test for men, and yes you ignorant man-sluts you sure CAN have it without ever showing a wart even if you carry an active infection. Also, many strains never show a wart, just give you cervical cancer and occasionally throat cancer. Most insurance won't cover the tests for the specific markers for women to ID the virus over the age of 30. Why? Ask your OB. Because meh, it's so common at that age it's not worth knowing or asking which you have. \n\nSo. Deep breath. Welcome to the world of being a woman. This is why Pap smears exist. This is why so many women over the age of 30 have had colposcopies. There's an unbelievable amount of misinformation about this family of viruses, so chalk the slut shaming up to laughable ignorance. This is the result of a generation that was inoculated against the most commonly occurring types, and therefore stupidly believes only sluts get it. While they probably have carried more than one during the course of their meager lives, provided they've had sex with more than two or three partners with same. Cue old woman voice \"in my day goddamnit, we all had HPV but none of us knew we had HPV!\" I still have a standing argument with a very smart friend who insists that she never had HPV but just got random bad paps. Spontaneous precancerous cells. Right. Three times. I've given up trying to explain low and high classifications of HPV and how they're all the same virus just different mutations, the precancerous cells are one class and it's pretty damn near impossible to have a bad pap without HPV, blah blah blah. \n\nAs the old saying goes, this too shall pass. You might never have to deal with an outbreak again. Don't stress too much cookie. Many a friend I know had one wart, never got another, and was testing negative again in a matter of months. You are not marked for life, and if you're a reasonably healthy person with a strong immune system you won't have to worry about this again.", "Hey there! Don't be ashamed and don't listen to people who act like you are wrong for wanting to know how to say this. There are a ton of reasons you may want to let someone know that you have HPV before you are at, like, marriage-level of seriousness or something. \n\nI once hooked up with a guy who had HPV. He was very respectful and chill about it - we were making out but not in complete privacy yet (so it was still not a pressured or extremely intimate situation) he said, \"Okay, time out, just setting some ground rules - my boxers stay on tonight, because I have HPV and that's a bigger decision than either of us is going to make tonight, but aside from that, anything you're up for is fair game, whether it's just making out or something more.\" I thought it was a very charming and not at all ashamed way to be honest, and it made me like him a whole lot. And also made me feel very safe with him. We had quite a bit of fun for a while and have been friends for years. And no, the reason we are \"just friends\" was not the HPV - I actually wanted to make it long-term and he wasn't really interested, lol. \n\nThat may not be the right approach in every situation, but for a casual acquaintanceship-turned-hookup, it was right on the nose as far as both the tone and the information it conveyed. It wasn't so early in things as to be awkward but it also wasn't so late as to be REALLY awkward; and it left things entirely in my court as far as what happened next, without putting any pressure on me whatsoever. ", "Just be open about it if you think the relationship is going to go sexual. You would be surprised how people react sometimes.\n\nAs someone who has HSV, I tell my partners before we become partners and **not once** have i been met with revulsion, anger, or disgust. Sure, some have said \"oh, no thanks then\" (and that doesnt feel good) but it was **always** \"but thank you for telling me. I appreciate that.\"\n\nHell, one or two times it was \"me too, thank god you said something.\"", "Are you a male or a female?\n\nHow do you know you have HPV? \n\nI have been curious to get tested but all my research says there are no recommended tests for males.", "Hey darling, men are hardly at risk for acquired HPV. If he is over 21, chances are he's had a few partners himseld and very well may carry some other strand of HPV. I wouldn't even bring it up. ", "I used to be just like most people when it comes to HPV but I sobered up. What is it with this cognitive dissonance? Can you maybe sit down for a moment and THINK rationally. First you say anybody can have it, which is true. And then you worry about infecting someone. Hello! THEY, too can infect YOU. Is the fog lifting?\n\n", "HPV is beyond counting as an STD in the modern world. There are vaccines for it. If people are unvaccinated, their own fault." ]

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[ "I got robbed and didn't try to stop it, what I'm feeling is a kind of sadness and regret I've never felt before. What do I do? So I got my phone robbed, it was S7 Edge and my mom worked very hard for it. It lasted 9 months in my care. \n\nLong story short, dude was following me and grabbed me from behind saying \"give me your phone or i'll shoot you\", didn't think twice about giving him my phone. I could have done something, a police car was just in front of me when he ordered me to cross the street and not even yell or he'd shoot. I didn't know what to do! I didn't want to get shot! I didn't think about doing anything either... I feel horrible now, thinking about all possible outcomes and things that could've changed, I feel horrible for doing nothing.\n\nBTW phone is untrackable now, it's on the police deparment's hand and I can't do anything, so I'm looking for a tip to overcome what I'm feeling rather than having my phone back.", "I got robbed and didn't try to stop it, what I'm feeling is a kind of sadness and regret I've never felt before. What do I do? So I got my phone robbed, it was S7 Edge and my mom worked very hard for it. It lasted 9 months in my care. \n\nLong story short, dude was following me and grabbed me from behind saying \"give me your phone or i'll shoot you\", didn't think twice about giving him my phone. I could have done something, a police car was just in front of me when he ordered me to cross the street and not even yell or he'd shoot. I didn't know what to do! I didn't want to get shot! I didn't think about doing anything either... I feel horrible now, thinking about all possible outcomes and things that could've changed, I feel horrible for doing nothing.\n\nBTW phone is untrackable now, it's on the police deparment's hand and I can't do anything, so I'm looking for a tip to overcome what I'm feeling rather than having my phone back.", "I got robbed and didn't try to stop it, what I'm feeling is a kind of sadness and regret I've never felt before. What do I do? So I got my phone robbed, it was S7 Edge and my mom worked very hard for it. It lasted 9 months in my care. \n\nLong story short, dude was following me and grabbed me from behind saying \"give me your phone or i'll shoot you\", didn't think twice about giving him my phone. I could have done something, a police car was just in front of me when he ordered me to cross the street and not even yell or he'd shoot. I didn't know what to do! I didn't want to get shot! I didn't think about doing anything either... I feel horrible now, thinking about all possible outcomes and things that could've changed, I feel horrible for doing nothing.\n\nBTW phone is untrackable now, it's on the police deparment's hand and I can't do anything, so I'm looking for a tip to overcome what I'm feeling rather than having my phone back.", "I got robbed and didn't try to stop it, what I'm feeling is a kind of sadness and regret I've never felt before. What do I do? So I got my phone robbed, it was S7 Edge and my mom worked very hard for it. It lasted 9 months in my care. \n\nLong story short, dude was following me and grabbed me from behind saying \"give me your phone or i'll shoot you\", didn't think twice about giving him my phone. I could have done something, a police car was just in front of me when he ordered me to cross the street and not even yell or he'd shoot. I didn't know what to do! I didn't want to get shot! I didn't think about doing anything either... I feel horrible now, thinking about all possible outcomes and things that could've changed, I feel horrible for doing nothing.\n\nBTW phone is untrackable now, it's on the police deparment's hand and I can't do anything, so I'm looking for a tip to overcome what I'm feeling rather than having my phone back.", "I got robbed and didn't try to stop it, what I'm feeling is a kind of sadness and regret I've never felt before. What do I do? So I got my phone robbed, it was S7 Edge and my mom worked very hard for it. It lasted 9 months in my care. \n\nLong story short, dude was following me and grabbed me from behind saying \"give me your phone or i'll shoot you\", didn't think twice about giving him my phone. I could have done something, a police car was just in front of me when he ordered me to cross the street and not even yell or he'd shoot. I didn't know what to do! I didn't want to get shot! I didn't think about doing anything either... I feel horrible now, thinking about all possible outcomes and things that could've changed, I feel horrible for doing nothing.\n\nBTW phone is untrackable now, it's on the police deparment's hand and I can't do anything, so I'm looking for a tip to overcome what I'm feeling rather than having my phone back.", "I got robbed and didn't try to stop it, what I'm feeling is a kind of sadness and regret I've never felt before. What do I do? So I got my phone robbed, it was S7 Edge and my mom worked very hard for it. It lasted 9 months in my care. \n\nLong story short, dude was following me and grabbed me from behind saying \"give me your phone or i'll shoot you\", didn't think twice about giving him my phone. I could have done something, a police car was just in front of me when he ordered me to cross the street and not even yell or he'd shoot. I didn't know what to do! I didn't want to get shot! I didn't think about doing anything either... I feel horrible now, thinking about all possible outcomes and things that could've changed, I feel horrible for doing nothing.\n\nBTW phone is untrackable now, it's on the police deparment's hand and I can't do anything, so I'm looking for a tip to overcome what I'm feeling rather than having my phone back.", "I got robbed and didn't try to stop it, what I'm feeling is a kind of sadness and regret I've never felt before. What do I do? So I got my phone robbed, it was S7 Edge and my mom worked very hard for it. It lasted 9 months in my care. \n\nLong story short, dude was following me and grabbed me from behind saying \"give me your phone or i'll shoot you\", didn't think twice about giving him my phone. I could have done something, a police car was just in front of me when he ordered me to cross the street and not even yell or he'd shoot. I didn't know what to do! I didn't want to get shot! I didn't think about doing anything either... I feel horrible now, thinking about all possible outcomes and things that could've changed, I feel horrible for doing nothing.\n\nBTW phone is untrackable now, it's on the police deparment's hand and I can't do anything, so I'm looking for a tip to overcome what I'm feeling rather than having my phone back." ]

[ "Devote your life to tracking him down. Then when you catch him, cut his balls off and tell him he'll be half a man for the rest of his life. ", "Don't feel bad about this. You don't know what desperate people can do. Sure, there is a possibility he didn't have a gun but there are other ways of hurting you. At least you came out unscathed and saved money on possible hospital bills", "You're like me - I stress over choices already made regardless of whether it was a sound decision at the time. \n\nIf this really had been a stupid decision you probably wouldn't be dwelling on it. You'd laugh off your stupidity & move on. I think you're upset about the entire experience, & having been victimized.\n\nWhen in an unexpected situation, you reacted instinctively, & your spontaneous response did NOT get you killed. I'd call that a smart response.\n\nI think filing a police report, regardless of the chances of anything coming from it, would help you feel less like a victim and more proactive in the entire event. You'll aggressively protect your financial interests in a calm, safe environment after the danger passed, & not *just letting it happen*. You'll be doing something, at the safest and smartest time to do something.", "You did the right thing, your life is worth more than a phone. Safety first, and now you learned not to be distracted walking and talking on a phone in public. ", "Well you lost a phone that would of probably broke in half a year, but you kept living for a while more. Worth ", "In my opinion, you did the right thing. It's better to lose a phone than lose your life. Your mom I'm sure is happier for that. Things can be replaced; people can't. \n\nIn terms of overcoming this feeling, maybe try taking a self defense course that teaches you how to overcome such situation? Personally, I recommend taking Krav Maga, which I take. I hope you'll feel better soon :) take care!", "Consider the cost of replacing the phone vs the cost of surgery (or a funeral).\n\nAnyway, you went with your instincts, and that's usually not a bad idea.\n\nYou might consider taking up martial arts lessons. Not in the hopes that you'd be able to disarm someone with a gun with your bare hands, but because it can help you train yourself to remain calm during and after violent encounters. I've spoken to various martial arts teachers — including 7th dan and above taekwondo masters all with 30+ years of training — and the consensus was that they'd rather comply than try to fight it out.\n\nI once read that a potential way to increase your chances of getting away unharmed is to throw whatever they want a short distance away, that way at least they're likely to let go of you to retrieve it. And then if you'd composed yourself quickly enough, once he let go, you could have screamed, or whatever — but that's for next time, if you're unlucky enough to have a next time." ]

[ 5, 4, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to keep body odor smells out of synthetic fiber clothing, permanently? I only have a temporary fix when I apply baby powder to my collar and armpit area of my (polyester) sports Jersey. I wear the thing for 10 minutes from it being freshly cleaned and the pits start selling like I cut onions.\n\nMy search of the web has come up with anecdotes and scent cover options. I understand why it occurs.\n\nIs there a permanent treatment option for synthetic cloth?", "How to keep body odor smells out of synthetic fiber clothing, permanently? I only have a temporary fix when I apply baby powder to my collar and armpit area of my (polyester) sports Jersey. I wear the thing for 10 minutes from it being freshly cleaned and the pits start selling like I cut onions.\n\nMy search of the web has come up with anecdotes and scent cover options. I understand why it occurs.\n\nIs there a permanent treatment option for synthetic cloth?" ]

[ "I always add a 1/4 cup of vinegar to the washer when doing my gym / workout clothes. It breaks down the oils and kills the bacteria, and a 1/4 isn't enough to impart a vinegary smell to the clothes \n\nUse 1/2 cup - 1 cup for big full loads.\n\nYou can also soak your dirty clothes in a salt water solution for a few hours before you wash them to kill the bacteria.\n\nI'm paranoid about shrinking my stuff so I always run the washer at tap temperature. So I have to use vinegar or the salt soak to kill the bacteria.", "Use the pre-soak cycle on your synthetics with the hot water wash. Use half the amount of soap you would typically use (so if normally a half cup, do a quarter cup). Then add about 1/2 cup of washing soda (available at just about any grocery store) to the mix and run the cycle.\n\nThen do the same thing again on the regular wash cycle, but add 1/2-1 cup of white distilled vinegar to the fabric softener dispenser, which will come out in the rinse cycle. Your clothes will not smell like vinegar, don't worry. \n\nI do this with all of my gym clothes and it really seems to help.\n\n" ]

[ 5, 2 ]

[ "Fixing the prong on a pair of headphones The prongs on my headphones are constantly out of whack. After I plug them in, I have to twist the headphone this way and that to make sure that all of the sound - not just a portion, like I'm currently getting - is being translated over the headphones. It generally takes about 2 months to become this way. Needless to say, I'm spending a ton of money on headphones.\n\nHelp?", "Fixing the prong on a pair of headphones The prongs on my headphones are constantly out of whack. After I plug them in, I have to twist the headphone this way and that to make sure that all of the sound - not just a portion, like I'm currently getting - is being translated over the headphones. It generally takes about 2 months to become this way. Needless to say, I'm spending a ton of money on headphones.\n\nHelp?", "Fixing the prong on a pair of headphones The prongs on my headphones are constantly out of whack. After I plug them in, I have to twist the headphone this way and that to make sure that all of the sound - not just a portion, like I'm currently getting - is being translated over the headphones. It generally takes about 2 months to become this way. Needless to say, I'm spending a ton of money on headphones.\n\nHelp?", "Fixing the prong on a pair of headphones The prongs on my headphones are constantly out of whack. After I plug them in, I have to twist the headphone this way and that to make sure that all of the sound - not just a portion, like I'm currently getting - is being translated over the headphones. It generally takes about 2 months to become this way. Needless to say, I'm spending a ton of money on headphones.\n\nHelp?", "Fixing the prong on a pair of headphones The prongs on my headphones are constantly out of whack. After I plug them in, I have to twist the headphone this way and that to make sure that all of the sound - not just a portion, like I'm currently getting - is being translated over the headphones. It generally takes about 2 months to become this way. Needless to say, I'm spending a ton of money on headphones.\n\nHelp?" ]

[ "Sounds like you are breaking a wire in the headphones near the jack, by twisting it you are connecting one end of the wire back to the other end.", "I read on here before that if you take the spring from a retractable pen and put it on the end of the jack, it'll make that part more flexible and make it less likely that you'll wear out those wires. ", "http://www.radioshack.com/product/index.jsp?productId=2103990#\n\nRead the comments for tips on doing the replacement. You might also consider some heat shrink tubing to use as strain relief to help prevent this from happening again.", "Its not called a prong, its called a jack. Also ther isnt really anything you can do other than cutting the wire out then soldering them back together.\n\nOr tape the wire in a working position, and thats only a temporary fix", "I used to have the same problem. Wrap the headphones around the ipod when you're done listening, but UNPLUGGED. If you leave them plugged in when you're not listening it puts extra stress on the cable. " ]

[ 4, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "What are you supposed to do with issues from your past? Do you forgive and forget, or do you confront them? Maybe you do both. I'm not sure if talking your issues out with other people helps make them go away, or if it just makes them a more tangible part of your life.\n\nBy contrast, does leaving the issue untouched help you move past it, or does bottling it up make it worse over time?", "What are you supposed to do with issues from your past? Do you forgive and forget, or do you confront them? Maybe you do both. I'm not sure if talking your issues out with other people helps make them go away, or if it just makes them a more tangible part of your life.\n\nBy contrast, does leaving the issue untouched help you move past it, or does bottling it up make it worse over time?", "What are you supposed to do with issues from your past? Do you forgive and forget, or do you confront them? Maybe you do both. I'm not sure if talking your issues out with other people helps make them go away, or if it just makes them a more tangible part of your life.\n\nBy contrast, does leaving the issue untouched help you move past it, or does bottling it up make it worse over time?" ]

[ "I have left my issues with people in the past. People I have issues with are also people I never contact so win-win. ", "Depends on the issue and the level of control it has in your life. Some issues can not be moved past by trying to forget, you have to learn to deal with them through therapy.", "Nothing is wrong with therapy, but if you feel you aren't getting any help, change therapists. The object is to deal with your past and find out what makes you tick, to give you tools on how to deal with any issues going forward. " ]

[ 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How do I deal with a complaining neighbor? I've recently moved into an apartment on the 2nd floor, and my downstairs neighbor has been complaining on me. Let's call him Bob to make the explanation easier.\n \n* On the day I moved in, Bob came upstairs and knocked on my door to see what all the noise was. I explained how I just moved in and that any extra noise shouldn't be a regular occurrence. \n\n* A few weeks ago, I watered some plants that I have outside and the water dripped below to Bob's balcony. Bob called the management office on me, and the management office asked me to change the plants over to pots with a drip tray. I obliged.\n\n* A week later I re-potted my plants over to pots with a drip tray, and in doing so some of the soil fell in between the cracks of my balcony onto Bob's balcony. Again, Bob called the management office on me, and I apologized to them and said that I would be extremely careful with my patio, and won't re-pot or purchase any more plants..\n\n* Yesterday I had some standing water on the furniture on my balcony, and it was collecting bugs. It had been raining for three days prior, and yesterday was the first clear day. I went outside and tried my best to rid the water off the side of the balcony (so that it wouldn't drip on to Bob's), but inevitably some fell through the cracks and down onto Bob's balcony below. 30 minutes later, I get a knock on my door from the local police and had to chat with them and explain my situation.\n\n* This morning before I left for work, I overheard Bob talking to the neighbor above me. He was badmouthing my wife and I for the \"fiasco from the night before\".\n\nWhat should I do? How do you handle bad neighbors? Should I ignore Bob? Should I confront Bob? Should I go directly to the management office and explain my situation?", "How do I deal with a complaining neighbor? I've recently moved into an apartment on the 2nd floor, and my downstairs neighbor has been complaining on me. Let's call him Bob to make the explanation easier.\n \n* On the day I moved in, Bob came upstairs and knocked on my door to see what all the noise was. I explained how I just moved in and that any extra noise shouldn't be a regular occurrence. \n\n* A few weeks ago, I watered some plants that I have outside and the water dripped below to Bob's balcony. Bob called the management office on me, and the management office asked me to change the plants over to pots with a drip tray. I obliged.\n\n* A week later I re-potted my plants over to pots with a drip tray, and in doing so some of the soil fell in between the cracks of my balcony onto Bob's balcony. Again, Bob called the management office on me, and I apologized to them and said that I would be extremely careful with my patio, and won't re-pot or purchase any more plants..\n\n* Yesterday I had some standing water on the furniture on my balcony, and it was collecting bugs. It had been raining for three days prior, and yesterday was the first clear day. I went outside and tried my best to rid the water off the side of the balcony (so that it wouldn't drip on to Bob's), but inevitably some fell through the cracks and down onto Bob's balcony below. 30 minutes later, I get a knock on my door from the local police and had to chat with them and explain my situation.\n\n* This morning before I left for work, I overheard Bob talking to the neighbor above me. He was badmouthing my wife and I for the \"fiasco from the night before\".\n\nWhat should I do? How do you handle bad neighbors? Should I ignore Bob? Should I confront Bob? Should I go directly to the management office and explain my situation?", "How do I deal with a complaining neighbor? I've recently moved into an apartment on the 2nd floor, and my downstairs neighbor has been complaining on me. Let's call him Bob to make the explanation easier.\n \n* On the day I moved in, Bob came upstairs and knocked on my door to see what all the noise was. I explained how I just moved in and that any extra noise shouldn't be a regular occurrence. \n\n* A few weeks ago, I watered some plants that I have outside and the water dripped below to Bob's balcony. Bob called the management office on me, and the management office asked me to change the plants over to pots with a drip tray. I obliged.\n\n* A week later I re-potted my plants over to pots with a drip tray, and in doing so some of the soil fell in between the cracks of my balcony onto Bob's balcony. Again, Bob called the management office on me, and I apologized to them and said that I would be extremely careful with my patio, and won't re-pot or purchase any more plants..\n\n* Yesterday I had some standing water on the furniture on my balcony, and it was collecting bugs. It had been raining for three days prior, and yesterday was the first clear day. I went outside and tried my best to rid the water off the side of the balcony (so that it wouldn't drip on to Bob's), but inevitably some fell through the cracks and down onto Bob's balcony below. 30 minutes later, I get a knock on my door from the local police and had to chat with them and explain my situation.\n\n* This morning before I left for work, I overheard Bob talking to the neighbor above me. He was badmouthing my wife and I for the \"fiasco from the night before\".\n\nWhat should I do? How do you handle bad neighbors? Should I ignore Bob? Should I confront Bob? Should I go directly to the management office and explain my situation?", "How do I deal with a complaining neighbor? I've recently moved into an apartment on the 2nd floor, and my downstairs neighbor has been complaining on me. Let's call him Bob to make the explanation easier.\n \n* On the day I moved in, Bob came upstairs and knocked on my door to see what all the noise was. I explained how I just moved in and that any extra noise shouldn't be a regular occurrence. \n\n* A few weeks ago, I watered some plants that I have outside and the water dripped below to Bob's balcony. Bob called the management office on me, and the management office asked me to change the plants over to pots with a drip tray. I obliged.\n\n* A week later I re-potted my plants over to pots with a drip tray, and in doing so some of the soil fell in between the cracks of my balcony onto Bob's balcony. Again, Bob called the management office on me, and I apologized to them and said that I would be extremely careful with my patio, and won't re-pot or purchase any more plants..\n\n* Yesterday I had some standing water on the furniture on my balcony, and it was collecting bugs. It had been raining for three days prior, and yesterday was the first clear day. I went outside and tried my best to rid the water off the side of the balcony (so that it wouldn't drip on to Bob's), but inevitably some fell through the cracks and down onto Bob's balcony below. 30 minutes later, I get a knock on my door from the local police and had to chat with them and explain my situation.\n\n* This morning before I left for work, I overheard Bob talking to the neighbor above me. He was badmouthing my wife and I for the \"fiasco from the night before\".\n\nWhat should I do? How do you handle bad neighbors? Should I ignore Bob? Should I confront Bob? Should I go directly to the management office and explain my situation?", "How do I deal with a complaining neighbor? I've recently moved into an apartment on the 2nd floor, and my downstairs neighbor has been complaining on me. Let's call him Bob to make the explanation easier.\n \n* On the day I moved in, Bob came upstairs and knocked on my door to see what all the noise was. I explained how I just moved in and that any extra noise shouldn't be a regular occurrence. \n\n* A few weeks ago, I watered some plants that I have outside and the water dripped below to Bob's balcony. Bob called the management office on me, and the management office asked me to change the plants over to pots with a drip tray. I obliged.\n\n* A week later I re-potted my plants over to pots with a drip tray, and in doing so some of the soil fell in between the cracks of my balcony onto Bob's balcony. Again, Bob called the management office on me, and I apologized to them and said that I would be extremely careful with my patio, and won't re-pot or purchase any more plants..\n\n* Yesterday I had some standing water on the furniture on my balcony, and it was collecting bugs. It had been raining for three days prior, and yesterday was the first clear day. I went outside and tried my best to rid the water off the side of the balcony (so that it wouldn't drip on to Bob's), but inevitably some fell through the cracks and down onto Bob's balcony below. 30 minutes later, I get a knock on my door from the local police and had to chat with them and explain my situation.\n\n* This morning before I left for work, I overheard Bob talking to the neighbor above me. He was badmouthing my wife and I for the \"fiasco from the night before\".\n\nWhat should I do? How do you handle bad neighbors? Should I ignore Bob? Should I confront Bob? Should I go directly to the management office and explain my situation?", "How do I deal with a complaining neighbor? I've recently moved into an apartment on the 2nd floor, and my downstairs neighbor has been complaining on me. Let's call him Bob to make the explanation easier.\n \n* On the day I moved in, Bob came upstairs and knocked on my door to see what all the noise was. I explained how I just moved in and that any extra noise shouldn't be a regular occurrence. \n\n* A few weeks ago, I watered some plants that I have outside and the water dripped below to Bob's balcony. Bob called the management office on me, and the management office asked me to change the plants over to pots with a drip tray. I obliged.\n\n* A week later I re-potted my plants over to pots with a drip tray, and in doing so some of the soil fell in between the cracks of my balcony onto Bob's balcony. Again, Bob called the management office on me, and I apologized to them and said that I would be extremely careful with my patio, and won't re-pot or purchase any more plants..\n\n* Yesterday I had some standing water on the furniture on my balcony, and it was collecting bugs. It had been raining for three days prior, and yesterday was the first clear day. I went outside and tried my best to rid the water off the side of the balcony (so that it wouldn't drip on to Bob's), but inevitably some fell through the cracks and down onto Bob's balcony below. 30 minutes later, I get a knock on my door from the local police and had to chat with them and explain my situation.\n\n* This morning before I left for work, I overheard Bob talking to the neighbor above me. He was badmouthing my wife and I for the \"fiasco from the night before\".\n\nWhat should I do? How do you handle bad neighbors? Should I ignore Bob? Should I confront Bob? Should I go directly to the management office and explain my situation?", "How do I deal with a complaining neighbor? I've recently moved into an apartment on the 2nd floor, and my downstairs neighbor has been complaining on me. Let's call him Bob to make the explanation easier.\n \n* On the day I moved in, Bob came upstairs and knocked on my door to see what all the noise was. I explained how I just moved in and that any extra noise shouldn't be a regular occurrence. \n\n* A few weeks ago, I watered some plants that I have outside and the water dripped below to Bob's balcony. Bob called the management office on me, and the management office asked me to change the plants over to pots with a drip tray. I obliged.\n\n* A week later I re-potted my plants over to pots with a drip tray, and in doing so some of the soil fell in between the cracks of my balcony onto Bob's balcony. Again, Bob called the management office on me, and I apologized to them and said that I would be extremely careful with my patio, and won't re-pot or purchase any more plants..\n\n* Yesterday I had some standing water on the furniture on my balcony, and it was collecting bugs. It had been raining for three days prior, and yesterday was the first clear day. I went outside and tried my best to rid the water off the side of the balcony (so that it wouldn't drip on to Bob's), but inevitably some fell through the cracks and down onto Bob's balcony below. 30 minutes later, I get a knock on my door from the local police and had to chat with them and explain my situation.\n\n* This morning before I left for work, I overheard Bob talking to the neighbor above me. He was badmouthing my wife and I for the \"fiasco from the night before\".\n\nWhat should I do? How do you handle bad neighbors? Should I ignore Bob? Should I confront Bob? Should I go directly to the management office and explain my situation?" ]

[ "I eat Bobs for breakfast.\n\nPot plants. Water plants. Ignore Bob. Ignore cops. Ignore the management so long as you're following everything you agreed to follow.\n\nWhen Bob has some tantrum push Bob's buttons. Stare at Bob. Assassinate his soul. Make Bob dream about you. Most of all, live your life and forget Bob, you're on top of him not the other way around.", "First of all, contact Management just to see if this is a \"trend\" with Bob and did he harras the prior resident just as badly? Maybe even suggest to the Management that their first response should be, to knock on YOUR door instead and deal with it face to face (like an ADULT).\n\nYou could also try to \"kill him with kindness\" by bringing him fresh-baked cookies, or beautiful fruit you may have found at a farmer's market, etc. on a pretty frequent basis (like weekly). Just say, \"Hi Bob! I could never eat all these cookies, so I'd like you to have some too!\" and leave it at that.\n", "Does he complain to God every time it rains? \n\nI actually knew a guy like this. Extremely manipulative and no matter how kind his neighbor was he could not stand her. In retrospect I think it was because she was a single mother and he had a lot of prejudices. He wanted to make her life unpleasant to the point of seeing her evicted. It is possible Bob never harassed the prior neighbor and just doesn't like you for some nebulous reason. \n\nAccidentally dripping water on the balcony is not a breach of the lease and you have the right to enjoy your patio. Bob should get an umbrella if he doesn't like it. Your apartment manager really needs to be the ones to reason with him. They need to tell him you are not breaking the lease and he needs to be more tolerant of the fact he lives in a multi unit apartment building. \n\nIt sounds like your apartment manager is just trying to oil the squeaky wheel. Explain to them you feel harassed by your neighbor and that management is contributing to the harassment. If he continues calling the police you could take legal action. \n\nAlso, knock on his door and let him know the next time you are dumping standing water. ", "I'll probably get downvoted to hell, but here is what I would do. Make frequent complaints to management about Bob, over pretty much anything that irks you. Make it obvious that you're only doing this because Bob is being such a nuisance. I would also keep a written record of dates and times of all these incidents, both his complaints and yours, with a full description of the actions and words of everyone. \n\nLater, if it comes to legal remedy, believe me, the court will see a dated list like this as the official time line. Fuck this Bob guy. I would also re-read the lease carefully to figure out what is and is not a breach of contract.... And then I would act as annoyingly as possible within the confines of the lease, and smile & wave at Bob every chance I get. ", "Don't feed the trolls, which inBob. People like him seek out conflict. Don't respond to provocations unless he really goes over the line and whatever you do, don't escalate.\n\nThis is one of those things where you're going to lose big even if you win.", "I would not put up with that shit! It is completely out of line you MUST talk with the management and police immediately. Tell him to fill the Fucking cracks on the porch if that's what he wants or get a house and move out of a busy area. My neighbors do the same thing but not to the same extreme extent you are experiencing. I back myself up to the landlords and they have come to an understanding to ignore them ( as long add I am not breaking any association rules) ", "Hire a hottie to come over and humiliate Bob publicly about his physical shortcomings and overall lack of drive and ambition before asking him \"Who the hell would ever want to mate with you, Bob?\". Bob will stop. Bad Bob. " ]

[ 34, 7, 6, 5, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "wife with a flirty colleague. How do I confront her? Hello\n\nMy wife has recently started work after 6 years being a stay at home mum. Whilst I'm on Christmas leave, she is working all the hours under the sun to try and help get the money together to buy our dream home early next year whilst I look after our 3 children. I work most of the time over 500 miles away from home for up to a month at a time, so a lot of trust is implicit in our relationship. \n\nAnyways whilst at home one of my children was on my wife's iPad and accidentally opened up her FB messenger. On it I noticed a conversation with a guy at work with whom she has been talking, quite a lot, about recently. In the interest of inquiry I read the messages. \n\nThe conversation started quite innocently but very quickly turned to innuendo and suggestive messages on his part. In my wife's defence she has mostly replied with 'lol' and other innocent nothings. She does enjoy the guys company, however, as she has talked about him more than any of her other colleagues. \n\nMy problem is, if my wife had found messages on my phone of the same ilk I know I would be getting ultimatums up the ying yang. How am I supposed to subjectively and sensibly confront my wife with my concerns? Is he flirting with her? Do I need to be worried? Am I looking too much into this?\n\nThis is going round and round in my head. Please if you have any advice I would greatly appreciate it.\n\nApologies about format. This was sent from my phone.", "wife with a flirty colleague. How do I confront her? Hello\n\nMy wife has recently started work after 6 years being a stay at home mum. Whilst I'm on Christmas leave, she is working all the hours under the sun to try and help get the money together to buy our dream home early next year whilst I look after our 3 children. I work most of the time over 500 miles away from home for up to a month at a time, so a lot of trust is implicit in our relationship. \n\nAnyways whilst at home one of my children was on my wife's iPad and accidentally opened up her FB messenger. On it I noticed a conversation with a guy at work with whom she has been talking, quite a lot, about recently. In the interest of inquiry I read the messages. \n\nThe conversation started quite innocently but very quickly turned to innuendo and suggestive messages on his part. In my wife's defence she has mostly replied with 'lol' and other innocent nothings. She does enjoy the guys company, however, as she has talked about him more than any of her other colleagues. \n\nMy problem is, if my wife had found messages on my phone of the same ilk I know I would be getting ultimatums up the ying yang. How am I supposed to subjectively and sensibly confront my wife with my concerns? Is he flirting with her? Do I need to be worried? Am I looking too much into this?\n\nThis is going round and round in my head. Please if you have any advice I would greatly appreciate it.\n\nApologies about format. This was sent from my phone.", "wife with a flirty colleague. How do I confront her? Hello\n\nMy wife has recently started work after 6 years being a stay at home mum. Whilst I'm on Christmas leave, she is working all the hours under the sun to try and help get the money together to buy our dream home early next year whilst I look after our 3 children. I work most of the time over 500 miles away from home for up to a month at a time, so a lot of trust is implicit in our relationship. \n\nAnyways whilst at home one of my children was on my wife's iPad and accidentally opened up her FB messenger. On it I noticed a conversation with a guy at work with whom she has been talking, quite a lot, about recently. In the interest of inquiry I read the messages. \n\nThe conversation started quite innocently but very quickly turned to innuendo and suggestive messages on his part. In my wife's defence she has mostly replied with 'lol' and other innocent nothings. She does enjoy the guys company, however, as she has talked about him more than any of her other colleagues. \n\nMy problem is, if my wife had found messages on my phone of the same ilk I know I would be getting ultimatums up the ying yang. How am I supposed to subjectively and sensibly confront my wife with my concerns? Is he flirting with her? Do I need to be worried? Am I looking too much into this?\n\nThis is going round and round in my head. Please if you have any advice I would greatly appreciate it.\n\nApologies about format. This was sent from my phone.", "wife with a flirty colleague. How do I confront her? Hello\n\nMy wife has recently started work after 6 years being a stay at home mum. Whilst I'm on Christmas leave, she is working all the hours under the sun to try and help get the money together to buy our dream home early next year whilst I look after our 3 children. I work most of the time over 500 miles away from home for up to a month at a time, so a lot of trust is implicit in our relationship. \n\nAnyways whilst at home one of my children was on my wife's iPad and accidentally opened up her FB messenger. On it I noticed a conversation with a guy at work with whom she has been talking, quite a lot, about recently. In the interest of inquiry I read the messages. \n\nThe conversation started quite innocently but very quickly turned to innuendo and suggestive messages on his part. In my wife's defence she has mostly replied with 'lol' and other innocent nothings. She does enjoy the guys company, however, as she has talked about him more than any of her other colleagues. \n\nMy problem is, if my wife had found messages on my phone of the same ilk I know I would be getting ultimatums up the ying yang. How am I supposed to subjectively and sensibly confront my wife with my concerns? Is he flirting with her? Do I need to be worried? Am I looking too much into this?\n\nThis is going round and round in my head. Please if you have any advice I would greatly appreciate it.\n\nApologies about format. This was sent from my phone.", "wife with a flirty colleague. How do I confront her? Hello\n\nMy wife has recently started work after 6 years being a stay at home mum. Whilst I'm on Christmas leave, she is working all the hours under the sun to try and help get the money together to buy our dream home early next year whilst I look after our 3 children. I work most of the time over 500 miles away from home for up to a month at a time, so a lot of trust is implicit in our relationship. \n\nAnyways whilst at home one of my children was on my wife's iPad and accidentally opened up her FB messenger. On it I noticed a conversation with a guy at work with whom she has been talking, quite a lot, about recently. In the interest of inquiry I read the messages. \n\nThe conversation started quite innocently but very quickly turned to innuendo and suggestive messages on his part. In my wife's defence she has mostly replied with 'lol' and other innocent nothings. She does enjoy the guys company, however, as she has talked about him more than any of her other colleagues. \n\nMy problem is, if my wife had found messages on my phone of the same ilk I know I would be getting ultimatums up the ying yang. How am I supposed to subjectively and sensibly confront my wife with my concerns? Is he flirting with her? Do I need to be worried? Am I looking too much into this?\n\nThis is going round and round in my head. Please if you have any advice I would greatly appreciate it.\n\nApologies about format. This was sent from my phone.", "wife with a flirty colleague. How do I confront her? Hello\n\nMy wife has recently started work after 6 years being a stay at home mum. Whilst I'm on Christmas leave, she is working all the hours under the sun to try and help get the money together to buy our dream home early next year whilst I look after our 3 children. I work most of the time over 500 miles away from home for up to a month at a time, so a lot of trust is implicit in our relationship. \n\nAnyways whilst at home one of my children was on my wife's iPad and accidentally opened up her FB messenger. On it I noticed a conversation with a guy at work with whom she has been talking, quite a lot, about recently. In the interest of inquiry I read the messages. \n\nThe conversation started quite innocently but very quickly turned to innuendo and suggestive messages on his part. In my wife's defence she has mostly replied with 'lol' and other innocent nothings. She does enjoy the guys company, however, as she has talked about him more than any of her other colleagues. \n\nMy problem is, if my wife had found messages on my phone of the same ilk I know I would be getting ultimatums up the ying yang. How am I supposed to subjectively and sensibly confront my wife with my concerns? Is he flirting with her? Do I need to be worried? Am I looking too much into this?\n\nThis is going round and round in my head. Please if you have any advice I would greatly appreciate it.\n\nApologies about format. This was sent from my phone.", "wife with a flirty colleague. How do I confront her? Hello\n\nMy wife has recently started work after 6 years being a stay at home mum. Whilst I'm on Christmas leave, she is working all the hours under the sun to try and help get the money together to buy our dream home early next year whilst I look after our 3 children. I work most of the time over 500 miles away from home for up to a month at a time, so a lot of trust is implicit in our relationship. \n\nAnyways whilst at home one of my children was on my wife's iPad and accidentally opened up her FB messenger. On it I noticed a conversation with a guy at work with whom she has been talking, quite a lot, about recently. In the interest of inquiry I read the messages. \n\nThe conversation started quite innocently but very quickly turned to innuendo and suggestive messages on his part. In my wife's defence she has mostly replied with 'lol' and other innocent nothings. She does enjoy the guys company, however, as she has talked about him more than any of her other colleagues. \n\nMy problem is, if my wife had found messages on my phone of the same ilk I know I would be getting ultimatums up the ying yang. How am I supposed to subjectively and sensibly confront my wife with my concerns? Is he flirting with her? Do I need to be worried? Am I looking too much into this?\n\nThis is going round and round in my head. Please if you have any advice I would greatly appreciate it.\n\nApologies about format. This was sent from my phone.", "wife with a flirty colleague. How do I confront her? Hello\n\nMy wife has recently started work after 6 years being a stay at home mum. Whilst I'm on Christmas leave, she is working all the hours under the sun to try and help get the money together to buy our dream home early next year whilst I look after our 3 children. I work most of the time over 500 miles away from home for up to a month at a time, so a lot of trust is implicit in our relationship. \n\nAnyways whilst at home one of my children was on my wife's iPad and accidentally opened up her FB messenger. On it I noticed a conversation with a guy at work with whom she has been talking, quite a lot, about recently. In the interest of inquiry I read the messages. \n\nThe conversation started quite innocently but very quickly turned to innuendo and suggestive messages on his part. In my wife's defence she has mostly replied with 'lol' and other innocent nothings. She does enjoy the guys company, however, as she has talked about him more than any of her other colleagues. \n\nMy problem is, if my wife had found messages on my phone of the same ilk I know I would be getting ultimatums up the ying yang. How am I supposed to subjectively and sensibly confront my wife with my concerns? Is he flirting with her? Do I need to be worried? Am I looking too much into this?\n\nThis is going round and round in my head. Please if you have any advice I would greatly appreciate it.\n\nApologies about format. This was sent from my phone.", "wife with a flirty colleague. How do I confront her? Hello\n\nMy wife has recently started work after 6 years being a stay at home mum. Whilst I'm on Christmas leave, she is working all the hours under the sun to try and help get the money together to buy our dream home early next year whilst I look after our 3 children. I work most of the time over 500 miles away from home for up to a month at a time, so a lot of trust is implicit in our relationship. \n\nAnyways whilst at home one of my children was on my wife's iPad and accidentally opened up her FB messenger. On it I noticed a conversation with a guy at work with whom she has been talking, quite a lot, about recently. In the interest of inquiry I read the messages. \n\nThe conversation started quite innocently but very quickly turned to innuendo and suggestive messages on his part. In my wife's defence she has mostly replied with 'lol' and other innocent nothings. She does enjoy the guys company, however, as she has talked about him more than any of her other colleagues. \n\nMy problem is, if my wife had found messages on my phone of the same ilk I know I would be getting ultimatums up the ying yang. How am I supposed to subjectively and sensibly confront my wife with my concerns? Is he flirting with her? Do I need to be worried? Am I looking too much into this?\n\nThis is going round and round in my head. Please if you have any advice I would greatly appreciate it.\n\nApologies about format. This was sent from my phone.", "wife with a flirty colleague. How do I confront her? Hello\n\nMy wife has recently started work after 6 years being a stay at home mum. Whilst I'm on Christmas leave, she is working all the hours under the sun to try and help get the money together to buy our dream home early next year whilst I look after our 3 children. I work most of the time over 500 miles away from home for up to a month at a time, so a lot of trust is implicit in our relationship. \n\nAnyways whilst at home one of my children was on my wife's iPad and accidentally opened up her FB messenger. On it I noticed a conversation with a guy at work with whom she has been talking, quite a lot, about recently. In the interest of inquiry I read the messages. \n\nThe conversation started quite innocently but very quickly turned to innuendo and suggestive messages on his part. In my wife's defence she has mostly replied with 'lol' and other innocent nothings. She does enjoy the guys company, however, as she has talked about him more than any of her other colleagues. \n\nMy problem is, if my wife had found messages on my phone of the same ilk I know I would be getting ultimatums up the ying yang. How am I supposed to subjectively and sensibly confront my wife with my concerns? Is he flirting with her? Do I need to be worried? Am I looking too much into this?\n\nThis is going round and round in my head. Please if you have any advice I would greatly appreciate it.\n\nApologies about format. This was sent from my phone.", "wife with a flirty colleague. How do I confront her? Hello\n\nMy wife has recently started work after 6 years being a stay at home mum. Whilst I'm on Christmas leave, she is working all the hours under the sun to try and help get the money together to buy our dream home early next year whilst I look after our 3 children. I work most of the time over 500 miles away from home for up to a month at a time, so a lot of trust is implicit in our relationship. \n\nAnyways whilst at home one of my children was on my wife's iPad and accidentally opened up her FB messenger. On it I noticed a conversation with a guy at work with whom she has been talking, quite a lot, about recently. In the interest of inquiry I read the messages. \n\nThe conversation started quite innocently but very quickly turned to innuendo and suggestive messages on his part. In my wife's defence she has mostly replied with 'lol' and other innocent nothings. She does enjoy the guys company, however, as she has talked about him more than any of her other colleagues. \n\nMy problem is, if my wife had found messages on my phone of the same ilk I know I would be getting ultimatums up the ying yang. How am I supposed to subjectively and sensibly confront my wife with my concerns? Is he flirting with her? Do I need to be worried? Am I looking too much into this?\n\nThis is going round and round in my head. Please if you have any advice I would greatly appreciate it.\n\nApologies about format. This was sent from my phone.", "wife with a flirty colleague. How do I confront her? Hello\n\nMy wife has recently started work after 6 years being a stay at home mum. Whilst I'm on Christmas leave, she is working all the hours under the sun to try and help get the money together to buy our dream home early next year whilst I look after our 3 children. I work most of the time over 500 miles away from home for up to a month at a time, so a lot of trust is implicit in our relationship. \n\nAnyways whilst at home one of my children was on my wife's iPad and accidentally opened up her FB messenger. On it I noticed a conversation with a guy at work with whom she has been talking, quite a lot, about recently. In the interest of inquiry I read the messages. \n\nThe conversation started quite innocently but very quickly turned to innuendo and suggestive messages on his part. In my wife's defence she has mostly replied with 'lol' and other innocent nothings. She does enjoy the guys company, however, as she has talked about him more than any of her other colleagues. \n\nMy problem is, if my wife had found messages on my phone of the same ilk I know I would be getting ultimatums up the ying yang. How am I supposed to subjectively and sensibly confront my wife with my concerns? Is he flirting with her? Do I need to be worried? Am I looking too much into this?\n\nThis is going round and round in my head. Please if you have any advice I would greatly appreciate it.\n\nApologies about format. This was sent from my phone.", "wife with a flirty colleague. How do I confront her? Hello\n\nMy wife has recently started work after 6 years being a stay at home mum. Whilst I'm on Christmas leave, she is working all the hours under the sun to try and help get the money together to buy our dream home early next year whilst I look after our 3 children. I work most of the time over 500 miles away from home for up to a month at a time, so a lot of trust is implicit in our relationship. \n\nAnyways whilst at home one of my children was on my wife's iPad and accidentally opened up her FB messenger. On it I noticed a conversation with a guy at work with whom she has been talking, quite a lot, about recently. In the interest of inquiry I read the messages. \n\nThe conversation started quite innocently but very quickly turned to innuendo and suggestive messages on his part. In my wife's defence she has mostly replied with 'lol' and other innocent nothings. She does enjoy the guys company, however, as she has talked about him more than any of her other colleagues. \n\nMy problem is, if my wife had found messages on my phone of the same ilk I know I would be getting ultimatums up the ying yang. How am I supposed to subjectively and sensibly confront my wife with my concerns? Is he flirting with her? Do I need to be worried? Am I looking too much into this?\n\nThis is going round and round in my head. Please if you have any advice I would greatly appreciate it.\n\nApologies about format. This was sent from my phone.", "wife with a flirty colleague. How do I confront her? Hello\n\nMy wife has recently started work after 6 years being a stay at home mum. Whilst I'm on Christmas leave, she is working all the hours under the sun to try and help get the money together to buy our dream home early next year whilst I look after our 3 children. I work most of the time over 500 miles away from home for up to a month at a time, so a lot of trust is implicit in our relationship. \n\nAnyways whilst at home one of my children was on my wife's iPad and accidentally opened up her FB messenger. On it I noticed a conversation with a guy at work with whom she has been talking, quite a lot, about recently. In the interest of inquiry I read the messages. \n\nThe conversation started quite innocently but very quickly turned to innuendo and suggestive messages on his part. In my wife's defence she has mostly replied with 'lol' and other innocent nothings. She does enjoy the guys company, however, as she has talked about him more than any of her other colleagues. \n\nMy problem is, if my wife had found messages on my phone of the same ilk I know I would be getting ultimatums up the ying yang. How am I supposed to subjectively and sensibly confront my wife with my concerns? Is he flirting with her? Do I need to be worried? Am I looking too much into this?\n\nThis is going round and round in my head. Please if you have any advice I would greatly appreciate it.\n\nApologies about format. This was sent from my phone.", "wife with a flirty colleague. How do I confront her? Hello\n\nMy wife has recently started work after 6 years being a stay at home mum. Whilst I'm on Christmas leave, she is working all the hours under the sun to try and help get the money together to buy our dream home early next year whilst I look after our 3 children. I work most of the time over 500 miles away from home for up to a month at a time, so a lot of trust is implicit in our relationship. \n\nAnyways whilst at home one of my children was on my wife's iPad and accidentally opened up her FB messenger. On it I noticed a conversation with a guy at work with whom she has been talking, quite a lot, about recently. In the interest of inquiry I read the messages. \n\nThe conversation started quite innocently but very quickly turned to innuendo and suggestive messages on his part. In my wife's defence she has mostly replied with 'lol' and other innocent nothings. She does enjoy the guys company, however, as she has talked about him more than any of her other colleagues. \n\nMy problem is, if my wife had found messages on my phone of the same ilk I know I would be getting ultimatums up the ying yang. How am I supposed to subjectively and sensibly confront my wife with my concerns? Is he flirting with her? Do I need to be worried? Am I looking too much into this?\n\nThis is going round and round in my head. Please if you have any advice I would greatly appreciate it.\n\nApologies about format. This was sent from my phone." ]

[ "\"lol\" to innuendo (in yo end dough) is more trouble than you think. A woman with a strong sense of boundaries ends it right then and there.\n\nYou need to tell her you read those messages and that alone should put an end to it because she will feel guilt. If she doesn't you are in trouble.", "I'd calm down first, sounds like this is a symptom of \"work away from home\" stress. \n\nI'd spend more energy trying to figure out how to fix that, that's the real risk.", "This will lead to sex if not confronted. I know from experience. How to confront her, I don't know. Depends on your relationship. I'd say something along the lines of \"everyone knows it feels good to be hit on, but...\"\n\nGood luck.", "If I were you, which I'm not.\n\nI would flat out ask. I'd just say, \"I feel like you've been acting strange. I felt the need to check facebook (which youre both obviously open enough to have access to) and saw this and this. Do you think this is appropriate? Do you know how it makes me feel?\"\n\nShe should have stopped it. Period. My GF would have blocked him immediately, and we aren't in a good place right now. She still, would have told me about it or taken matters into her own hands.\n\nIf shes saying \"lol\" to advances on the internet. Its not a no. Its not a yes. How do you think he acts in person? Its got to be worse, if he feels confident enough to message someone elses fucking wife and be a pervert.\n\nHell. Message that guy yourself. Tell him who the fuck you are. Tell him he's encroaching on your marriage and to back the fuck off.", "\"Honey, [kid] stumbled upon the Facebook chat you had with [colleague] and showed it to me. I can tell he's flirting. Do you have this under control, or could you use some help on it? I know I don't need to be worried because you'd never hurt me this way, but I just want to make sure he's not putting you in an uncomfortable position and that you feel that you have support in dealing with his unwanted flirtations.\"\n\nor\n\n\"Honey, [kid] stumbled upon the Facebook chat you had with [colleague] and showed it to me. I can tell he's flirting. Do I need to be worried?\"", "You can talk wrong, you can act wrong but, you don't feel wrong! If you are feeling what you saw, is upsetting you, let her know that in very honest and direct way. If she cares about she should fix it.", "Someone wrote up a pretty good LPT about this last week along the lines of \"Your partner has a crush\" or some nonsense. \n\nLet me try to find it. ", "The reason why you're thinking about this constantly is because you became aware of this. However, now that you are aware doesn't mean you have to act. In fact, you being aware of this gives you the upper hand because now you know of this man and he has no idea that you know. Another thing, relationships are about trust. You saw and have proof that your wife didn't flirt back with this guy which indirectly means that she loves you very much and chose to not flirt back with him. Love your wife as completely as you can and if there is anything you can do on your part to make your marriage better, do your best. There are no rules that are general because every relationship is unique. You would know best what to do because you know the nature of your marriage best! I hope you find a path and that you may have peace! :)", "Hey OP, \n\nAs a woman, I think I would advise not to tell her you saw the messages. The problem is, although you stumbled across them innocently, it will sound like you went snooping and no-one likes that.. \n\nIt will have been hard enough for her to go back into the workplace as it is, and I bet she was worrying about making new friends, etc. So to then feel like being at work means her husband is getting jealous and checking up on her might cause a lot of stress. \n\nYou say she already talks about this guy more than her other colleagues.. how about using that as a springboard to find out more about him? Just ask about him as you would any other friend she's made, like what they do together, what she likes about him, etc. Maybe even try to engineer a meeting together or attend a social event. That way you'll see if he does seem to be acting shady and can then bring it up with her. And crucially, you can see how they are together and how he is with other women. \n\nMaybe the guy is just the office flirt, you know? Maybe he's like that with everyone? ", "Dread game. Confronting her about it will almost always fuck up your relationship. The best thing to do is to show her that you are attractive (through working on your body and personality).\n\nWomen **can't** love you unless you are **able** (but not necessarily willing) to seduce women of her caliber. This is why you should never tell her that she is the best you can do/you are lucky to be with her. She would rather want to feel that *she* is lucky to be with you.", "So you snooped. And, you found something upsetting. A guy is texting your wife suggestive messages.\n\nYour wife was a stay at home mom for 6 years. Let her enjoy a little attention. \n\n**Right now, she is fully committed to you**- she is working a lot of hours at a job so you guys can afford a dream home for you and your 3 kids (during Christmas, when I am sure she'd like to be with her kids, or relaxing, or doing anything but ). That is insanely committed to a life with someone. \n\nShe's in a position where she can go back to seeing a lot of adult people. Some guy is flirting with her, and she isn't dissuading the attention.\n\nThink on when she was staying home for those 6 years. If some girl was flirting with you would your wife have gotten mad? If you did have a fight about it, how did you feel? Was it just you enjoying the attention and nothing was wrong until she somehow overheard/saw something, and then there was frisson in your relationship? \n\nYou say: \"if my wife had found messages on my phone of the same ilk I know I would be getting ultimatums up the ying yang\". We know what she would do, what would you rather her do? In that situation, would it probably mean little to nothing that this girl had the hots for you? Especially a coworker? \n\nThat's my feel- she's been cooped up, and now you are home with the kids and worried that your prized wife might want to run off. She's enjoying feeling sexy, and that is scary for you- because at any time in the relationship she could up and leave you and there is nothing you can do about it.\n\nBut is she the type of person to do that? Would it be in her character to run off with someone new and exciting... especially if you use this situation to your advantage?\n\nUse this time to make her want you more. I know it is hard with kids, but it's worth it. Sex her up good- the way she likes it. Do something a little romantic. Show her that you think she is hotter than this guy ever could, and you can do it better. \n\nDon't challenge her about this, challenge yourself to be so awesome and loving and whatever she wants so that \"dude from work\" will always just be watching from the sidelines.\n\nI'm not saying to become her slave, but do treat her like you would if it was you wooing her. If you were a dude trying to get into your wife's panties what would you be saying or doing? **You** know her. You've been with her a while- you know the things that make her toes curl and make her face light up- he's stumbling around looking for the light switch in the dark.\n\nDon't worry about this- it means you have an attractive partner. It's actually kind of awesome that some guy wants your wife- she's awesome. Which means you must be awesome if she is with you.... and maybe if she seems to have forgotten that, help her remember. Tell her how hot she is, text her dirty stuff while she is at work and other dude is around, fulfill an easy fantasy off her list, make her a romantic dinner at home, sit in the bathroom while she takes a candlelit bubble bath that you drew for her and just talk and listen to music while you scrub that spot on her back that she never can reach.\n\nShow her how you are the best for her, show her that other dude might be offering, but she won't want anyone but you, show that you love her. But don't talk about what you saw. When you see how she responds to this tactic, you'll know. She is committed to you.", "Damn bro, you got kids too.\n\n\n\nLawyer the fuck up save the messages you got damage control 24/7 to run now.\n\n\n\nDon't freak out but you have to be prepared. \n\n\n\nI mean your wife is cool and all but you have been away for A while ", ">My problem is, if my wife had found messages on my phone of the same ilk I know I would be getting ultimatums up the ying yang.\n\nJust wondering, would your wife snoop through your phone the same way you read her messages?", "Well if you trust her you don't need to do anything... HArmless flirting is healthy.. But if you don't trust her, which I suspect since you went thru her phone, just say hey.. What's with so and so? you two seem to be close... and concentrate on her reaction as opposed to what she says", "Talk to the guy, first ask him to stop because the next time you will not ask this nicely, most of these cockroaches get scared, and if not, then you know what to do." ]

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[ "We're having a baby, and we're graduate students living in a tiny townhouse with almost no storage areas. What are your best storage or organization products/tips to help us get ready? Finals are over, baby is due mid-January, and we realized we have all this baby stuff and nowhere to put it! Tips for organizing closets/bathrooms/kitchens/bedrooms are needed. I spent an hour on pintrest and just got overwhelmed - we need help and advice! ", "We're having a baby, and we're graduate students living in a tiny townhouse with almost no storage areas. What are your best storage or organization products/tips to help us get ready? Finals are over, baby is due mid-January, and we realized we have all this baby stuff and nowhere to put it! Tips for organizing closets/bathrooms/kitchens/bedrooms are needed. I spent an hour on pintrest and just got overwhelmed - we need help and advice! ", "We're having a baby, and we're graduate students living in a tiny townhouse with almost no storage areas. What are your best storage or organization products/tips to help us get ready? Finals are over, baby is due mid-January, and we realized we have all this baby stuff and nowhere to put it! Tips for organizing closets/bathrooms/kitchens/bedrooms are needed. I spent an hour on pintrest and just got overwhelmed - we need help and advice! ", "We're having a baby, and we're graduate students living in a tiny townhouse with almost no storage areas. What are your best storage or organization products/tips to help us get ready? Finals are over, baby is due mid-January, and we realized we have all this baby stuff and nowhere to put it! Tips for organizing closets/bathrooms/kitchens/bedrooms are needed. I spent an hour on pintrest and just got overwhelmed - we need help and advice! " ]

[ "Babies don't need anything at all except Mom's boob every few hours, some diapers and a couple of onesies. Pinterest is your enemy.", "Hooks everywhere. Fewer large containers rather than many small ones (they look cute in catalogs but they just become more stuff you have to manage).\n ", "I recently bought shallow storage bins that slide under the bed. The new ones have small wheels, but years ago when I was poor, I just cut wide and thin cardboard boxes to make them.\n\nImagine a box in the trash from a large-screen TV, You can cut the two ends to make open-top boxes that are one foot wide, as tall as you cut them, and about four feet long. One TV package makes two of the long and thin boxes. Slide em under the bed...http://www.containerstore.com/catalogimages/170918/UnderbedShoeOrganizer_x.jpg\n\nAnother thing, buy the thing that hangs behind the door, and has many pockets for shoes, load the pockets with baby supplies. I prefer clear plastic, but get whatever is cheap. http://www.inspiremecrafts.com/.a/6a00e54fbe10d78834015390982cee970b-pi", "College student with a hoarder parent here. I live for well-organized small spaces, and I'm accustomed to organizing on a budget. A few of my favorite things and techniques:\n\n1) [Closet rod doubler](http://www.amazon.com/Organize-It-All-Doubler-1346W/dp/B000KFZE7Y/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1386547059&sr=8-1&keywords=closet+rod+extender). Turns one closet rod into two. You could easily make your own with a sturdy wooden dowel and some good string.\n\n2) If you have any small boxes or containers lying around that you aren't sure what to do with, use them to organize drawers. You might need to cut them so that they're shallow enough to fit. If you're willing to pay for a longer-lasting and more aesthetically pleasing version, [Ikea Skubb boxes](http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/60192633/) are nice and about $8 a set.\n\n3) If you need extra shelving of some kind in the baby's room that's durable and easily modified to fit your needs, milk crates are a good option--stack them up with the open side facing towards you, and secure them together with plastic cable ties. Mine are \"borrowed\" from behind my campus's grocery store (I don't recommend that, I'm like 98% sure it's illegal), but I think you can get them for relatively little at Walmart and places like that. \n\n4) As another poster mentioned, wall space is your friend, and anything that can be put on a hook, should be put on a hook. [3M Command hooks](http://www.amazon.com/Command-Medium-Hooks-White-6-Hook/dp/B000FSORW4) are the best--you can get them in all sizes and several different finishes. \n\nCongratulations on the baby!" ]

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[ "How can an introvert be more outgoing at work? So I have a job that I absolutely adore that a lot of people fresh out of college would kill for -- I'm in advertising, one of the top agency's, great work/life balance, awesome benefits, awesome pay, etc. No qualms there.\n\nNow, I've been there for some time, but the feedback I keep getting (feedback doesn't come directly from bosses) from them is I seem to be too quiet or stand-offish or sometimes I seem downright miserable! This kind of hurts my feelings cuz I thought I'd come in entry level and do as the boss says. I'm by no means an asshole or super extroverted (tho I do consider myself more of an introverted extrovert). But aside from all that, it kinda sucks that the perception of my personality is being seen as a negative that's kind of fucking up the kind of work I get.\n\nSo I guess I'm asking how to become more comfortable in the workplace. Should I sit down and explain to my bosses who or how I am? Is it just a matter of showing it? How do I do so without losing my real personality (I'm an observer, I have manners, again, not an asshole)? How do I get 'in' with people that have been doing this forever or have more time working together? \n\nThe ad industry seems to reward those who are the most vocal (whether positively or negatively) -- how do I become more comfortable being vocal? What to do?", "How can an introvert be more outgoing at work? So I have a job that I absolutely adore that a lot of people fresh out of college would kill for -- I'm in advertising, one of the top agency's, great work/life balance, awesome benefits, awesome pay, etc. No qualms there.\n\nNow, I've been there for some time, but the feedback I keep getting (feedback doesn't come directly from bosses) from them is I seem to be too quiet or stand-offish or sometimes I seem downright miserable! This kind of hurts my feelings cuz I thought I'd come in entry level and do as the boss says. I'm by no means an asshole or super extroverted (tho I do consider myself more of an introverted extrovert). But aside from all that, it kinda sucks that the perception of my personality is being seen as a negative that's kind of fucking up the kind of work I get.\n\nSo I guess I'm asking how to become more comfortable in the workplace. Should I sit down and explain to my bosses who or how I am? Is it just a matter of showing it? How do I do so without losing my real personality (I'm an observer, I have manners, again, not an asshole)? How do I get 'in' with people that have been doing this forever or have more time working together? \n\nThe ad industry seems to reward those who are the most vocal (whether positively or negatively) -- how do I become more comfortable being vocal? What to do?", "How can an introvert be more outgoing at work? So I have a job that I absolutely adore that a lot of people fresh out of college would kill for -- I'm in advertising, one of the top agency's, great work/life balance, awesome benefits, awesome pay, etc. No qualms there.\n\nNow, I've been there for some time, but the feedback I keep getting (feedback doesn't come directly from bosses) from them is I seem to be too quiet or stand-offish or sometimes I seem downright miserable! This kind of hurts my feelings cuz I thought I'd come in entry level and do as the boss says. I'm by no means an asshole or super extroverted (tho I do consider myself more of an introverted extrovert). But aside from all that, it kinda sucks that the perception of my personality is being seen as a negative that's kind of fucking up the kind of work I get.\n\nSo I guess I'm asking how to become more comfortable in the workplace. Should I sit down and explain to my bosses who or how I am? Is it just a matter of showing it? How do I do so without losing my real personality (I'm an observer, I have manners, again, not an asshole)? How do I get 'in' with people that have been doing this forever or have more time working together? \n\nThe ad industry seems to reward those who are the most vocal (whether positively or negatively) -- how do I become more comfortable being vocal? What to do?", "How can an introvert be more outgoing at work? So I have a job that I absolutely adore that a lot of people fresh out of college would kill for -- I'm in advertising, one of the top agency's, great work/life balance, awesome benefits, awesome pay, etc. No qualms there.\n\nNow, I've been there for some time, but the feedback I keep getting (feedback doesn't come directly from bosses) from them is I seem to be too quiet or stand-offish or sometimes I seem downright miserable! This kind of hurts my feelings cuz I thought I'd come in entry level and do as the boss says. I'm by no means an asshole or super extroverted (tho I do consider myself more of an introverted extrovert). But aside from all that, it kinda sucks that the perception of my personality is being seen as a negative that's kind of fucking up the kind of work I get.\n\nSo I guess I'm asking how to become more comfortable in the workplace. Should I sit down and explain to my bosses who or how I am? Is it just a matter of showing it? How do I do so without losing my real personality (I'm an observer, I have manners, again, not an asshole)? How do I get 'in' with people that have been doing this forever or have more time working together? \n\nThe ad industry seems to reward those who are the most vocal (whether positively or negatively) -- how do I become more comfortable being vocal? What to do?" ]

[ "I'm an introverted extrovert and my job is focused around single serving interactions with people, like 30-60 minute intervals, and now a lot of my business is interacting outside of work to keep up the same image outside of work. I try to stick to the basic rule of 'if you have nothing nice to say then don't say anything'. So when I'm talking to people, I try to really focus on the positive parts of the conversation, topic, or that particular person. I'm not fake nice, it's genuine positivity and I've noticed that if you lead with that, then you'll get it back. \nAlong with that, yeah I come across people who don't jive with me, and I've still gotten positive responses and feedback by simply stating that just because we don't agree doesn't mean that I respect them any less and that I expect the same. \nI joke a lot too. Puns, dad jokes, lame jokes, and good ones too, they're always a crowd pleaser. And if not there is always that awkward interaction to joke about. \nJust don't expect anyone at your work place to change to accommodate your personality, that's just setting yourself up for a huge headache. ", "Here is how I first read your question: How can I make them accept me without changing, despite feedback that I need to improve, which I view as a direct threat to my core self, especially because I look down on others that I perceive as different from me? \n\nMy answer to that version of your question: You can't, and you really should reign in your me vs. them mentality. It is probably part of why you were described as \"miserable\". That may seem starkly written, but the example you gave of someone not like you was \"asshole or extroverted\". And then you followed that up with a second snark about you not being an asshole (compared to who) and your industry rewarding the most vocal, even if they are negative. So... are all extroverts assholes, or just the ones you work with? In order to \"explain\" to your bosses and coworkers \"how you are\" you will have to 1) subtly or unsubtly point out they are stupid for not understanding you yet, 2) subtly or unsubtly point out they you are superior as you are and shouldn't be expected to change, 3) subtly or unsubtly point out that you think extroverts are assholes and you don't appreciate them trying to turn you into an asshole, and 4) despite your lack of willingness to change, expect all of them to change their interaction and opinion of you.\n\nThat all sounds really terrible and destined for failure.\n\nHere is the question you should have asked: I have received feedback about being standoffish and I want to improve. Any suggestions?\n\nMy answer to that version of your question: First, GREAT QUESTION! :) Often times people like to phrase this as an introvert vs extrovert problem, but that is rarely the issue. Plenty of introverts are successful in all sorts of industries without being seen as standoffish or miserable. Introverts and extroverts solve this the same way: they focus on building relationships, one on one, with coworkers and clients. Changing people's perspective of your ability to connect simply requires you to connect with the people around you. Ask people questions, listen to the answers, and remember the info and ask follow up questions later on. After that, share information about your life to get them to connect with you. Ask about their weekend/family /vacation/project/school/ alma mater/sports team, etc. Tell them about your weekend/family /vacation/project/school/ alma mater/sports team. Learn about people until you care for them, and then act like you care for them. Seriously... it is so simple, and yet, so hard.\n\nI do understand that what I am recommending is difficult if it doesn't come naturally. But just because it is hard does NOT mean it is complicated. I say this from personal experience; I was a very task-focused person and struggled to get others to meet my expectations. Through great managers and mentors I shifted to become a people-focused person and suddenly, I accomplish SOO much more. It is a night and day difference, though it took several years to accomplish a true shift. \n\nBonus Advice: None of this involves altering your personality, or trying to change some Myers-Brigg type test result. Phrasing problems as threats to your \"core personality\" is a defeatist attitude in the first place and completely subjective. If someone asked you to send them an email by the end of the day, do you see that as a threat to your \"personality\"? Probably not. But you could if you phrased it differently, such as \"stifling your creativity by over-valuing administrative tasks.\" So take the personal insult out of the feedback you receive by thinking about it in terms of actions and behaviors, rather than \"personality\". You are being asked to make more of an effort to connect with coworkers and clients. Period. No more or less traumatic than sending an email or taking better meeting minutes or learning new MS Excel skills. \n\nTL;DR: Stop whining, view the feedback as a request for new behaviors and NOT an insult to your personality, and make more of an effort to genuinely connect and build relationships with people. It is hard, but doable. \n\nGood Luck!", "Walk around the office and randomly say \"Nice job David\" or whoever you randomly pick while you're walking. Do it loud too. It's funny ", "Asking people about themselves is a great way to start.\n\nWe all love it when others take an interest in us.\n\n\n" ]

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[ "Websites that aid in language translation [tips, lessons, translators] Hey there, I take a class translating texts to and from another language and while I am pretty fluent orally, I usually have trouble translating to/from the other language or finding the right way to phrase sentences or find similar words. I'm pretty confident in what I know but it'd be good to have resources to check up on myself just in case. Google translate is okay but sometimes what it translates makes no sense whatsoever. \n\nAny help would be greatly appreciated, thanks!", "Websites that aid in language translation [tips, lessons, translators] Hey there, I take a class translating texts to and from another language and while I am pretty fluent orally, I usually have trouble translating to/from the other language or finding the right way to phrase sentences or find similar words. I'm pretty confident in what I know but it'd be good to have resources to check up on myself just in case. Google translate is okay but sometimes what it translates makes no sense whatsoever. \n\nAny help would be greatly appreciated, thanks!" ]

[ "[Duolingo.](http://reddit.com)\nIt's free language learning and translation. Helped me a ton when learning spanish. It also has an app.", "you might want to try reading written text a lot, to help you become familiar with how concepts and thoughts elaborated in written form.\nalso google Grammar Girl, it's important to know the rules.\n\n" ]

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[ "how to answer family/friends when they ask you how much you spent on something and you don't wanna share or be rude ", "how to answer family/friends when they ask you how much you spent on something and you don't wanna share or be rude ", "how to answer family/friends when they ask you how much you spent on something and you don't wanna share or be rude ", "how to answer family/friends when they ask you how much you spent on something and you don't wanna share or be rude ", "how to answer family/friends when they ask you how much you spent on something and you don't wanna share or be rude ", "how to answer family/friends when they ask you how much you spent on something and you don't wanna share or be rude ", "how to answer family/friends when they ask you how much you spent on something and you don't wanna share or be rude ", "how to answer family/friends when they ask you how much you spent on something and you don't wanna share or be rude " ]

[ "\"I've been saving up for some time\". I also hate when this happens. Bought a new car this week and haven't told my family yet. My sister and her husband is going through a difficult time financially which makes me want to hide it even more for some reason.", "\"I don't even want to think about it.\" followed by a chuckle, hopefully the humour will deflect them from any further probing.", "Last year we were able to buy a car and pay it in full (nothing fancy, it's a Toyota Camry, but we had been saving up to not have to finance it). Someone asked what kind of interest rate we got and I said oh we paid with a check, and the response was \"Welll EXCUUUUSEE ME!\" \n\nNext person that asked me that question I just said 0%. It's very hard for people to grasp that we managed to save enough money to pay for a whole car. \n\nETA I meant to put this under a different comment, the one with \"I've been saving for some time\". I don't always reddit correctly lol", "This happened to me recently with a coworker who thinks it's polite to ask about finances. I bought a new car recently and when she started asking me specifics on money I said, \"Are you in the market for one?\" And when she said no I replied, \"Oh I just assumed from the detailed questions.\" And left it at that. ", "\"I got an amazing deal on it. 20% off wholesale\". \n\nThat's meaningless, and doesnt give away any specific price. ", "If it's really for your grandparents:\n\"A pretty penny and a shiny nickel, pops...\"\n\"What'd that new hip cost ya?\"\n^^^ Deflection", "Respond with another question and answer that one. \n\nEx: \"How much did it cost? \"\n - well why did it cost this much anyway? \n - then ramble on about inflation for a few seconds and change subject. \n\n", "If you mean a gift you gave them, I usually respond with \"don't worry about it\" or sometimes just \"enough...\"" ]

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[ "how add skills I learned through hands on and Google on a resume? I'm a kinesthetic learner, so I don't learn the traditional way. Instead, I learn best by doing. As such, while building websites, I Google everything I don't know and apply it to the current project I'm working on. Most of my knowledge of HTML and CSS came from Google. How do I word that in a way that will impress employers and sound more professional? \n\nI'm trying to get a job as a junior web developer.", "how add skills I learned through hands on and Google on a resume? I'm a kinesthetic learner, so I don't learn the traditional way. Instead, I learn best by doing. As such, while building websites, I Google everything I don't know and apply it to the current project I'm working on. Most of my knowledge of HTML and CSS came from Google. How do I word that in a way that will impress employers and sound more professional? \n\nI'm trying to get a job as a junior web developer.", "how add skills I learned through hands on and Google on a resume? I'm a kinesthetic learner, so I don't learn the traditional way. Instead, I learn best by doing. As such, while building websites, I Google everything I don't know and apply it to the current project I'm working on. Most of my knowledge of HTML and CSS came from Google. How do I word that in a way that will impress employers and sound more professional? \n\nI'm trying to get a job as a junior web developer." ]

[ "You don't need to say where you got your skills. Build several examples of your work, create a portfolio. Link your portfolio on linked in and other jobsites. Do charity work - they usually need the extra hands, and you can do something for the community as well as have a good reference site for your work. If there is professional certification for your set of skills you can look into that (e.g. Certified CSS Specialist).", "Ultimately an employer is going to be far more interested in your skills than your qualifications. If you can demonstrate those skills by showing them examples of your work and positive references from clients, they will be happy to hire you.", "Contribute to open source software. Publish repos on github or gitlab. Answer stackoverflow questions.\n\n\nThen you can list these in your resume" ]

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[ "If you could automate all your tasks in a job, should you tell them how you do it or keep it as a secret? ", "If you could automate all your tasks in a job, should you tell them how you do it or keep it as a secret? " ]

[ "Being in software, its one of the first things i do. \"How can I automate this?\" This allows me to spend more time on the things that interest me, than the day to day boring tasks. This also opens up the doors for new opportunities, as you are showing your commitment to the company of saving them money by having a task automated.", "Management may not be as dumb as you think. If your job is really that automateable, eventually it will be done with or without your help, or it will be outsourced. \n" ]

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[ "What are some ways to get more enjoyment out of your meal? Do you ever eat something and end up not enjoying it as much as you used to? Or it just doesn't taste as good anymore?\n\n*I think there are often psychological or even physiological reasons for this.* What are some good ways to overcome it, and make almost any meal into an enjoyable experience?", "What are some ways to get more enjoyment out of your meal? Do you ever eat something and end up not enjoying it as much as you used to? Or it just doesn't taste as good anymore?\n\n*I think there are often psychological or even physiological reasons for this.* What are some good ways to overcome it, and make almost any meal into an enjoyable experience?", "What are some ways to get more enjoyment out of your meal? Do you ever eat something and end up not enjoying it as much as you used to? Or it just doesn't taste as good anymore?\n\n*I think there are often psychological or even physiological reasons for this.* What are some good ways to overcome it, and make almost any meal into an enjoyable experience?" ]

[ "More than likely you are under seasoning or not quite nailing your techniques.\n\nRice can be kind of boring, but if you wash it twice, saute some onions and garlic in your pot then add your water and rice its way better.", "Here are a few:\n\n1) Chew your food more (if not doing this already) -- gives you more of a chance to enjoy the food\n\n2) Eat in a new setting -- maybe outside in a pleasant place or a sunny part of your living space\n\n3) Simple seasoning upgrades can help -- like using sea salt or himalayan salt vs. normal processed salt can add flavor. Same with grassfed butter like Kerrygold (makes homemade popcorn taste amazing).", "Think if there are any ingredients you can add to kick it up a notch.\n\nExamples of things I do:\n\n- french bread pizza: add more cheese \n\n- lunchmeat sandwich: add my favorite pickles, and some really good pico de gallo because I'm too lazy to slice tomatoes \n\n- ramen: chopped mixed veggies from Trader Joes (found in salad section), sliced hard boiled egg, cheese" ]

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[ "simple rules of thumb for in which cases it's ok to accept/request money from your friends for certain expenses I've been playing the life game for 26 years now, and this particular thing still seems very arbitrary for me. \n\nI like to be generous (or to think that I am), yet with a job change with drop in income I notice that I can't always afford to say no to people that want to help to pay something. \n\nYet it's not so clear for me when it's a good idea to accept or when they are offering out of politeness and actually don't want you to accept. \n\nThis goes for a very wide range of friends, relatives and colleagues, for all kinds of things among others\n\n- paying for gas after a ride\n\n- paying for ingredients cost after a dinner \n\n- offering to pay you back at the end of the night when they realised you paid most of the drinks. \n\nEtc. \n\nAny general rules of thumb that are good to live by? When to accept or when to ask and when not to?", "simple rules of thumb for in which cases it's ok to accept/request money from your friends for certain expenses I've been playing the life game for 26 years now, and this particular thing still seems very arbitrary for me. \n\nI like to be generous (or to think that I am), yet with a job change with drop in income I notice that I can't always afford to say no to people that want to help to pay something. \n\nYet it's not so clear for me when it's a good idea to accept or when they are offering out of politeness and actually don't want you to accept. \n\nThis goes for a very wide range of friends, relatives and colleagues, for all kinds of things among others\n\n- paying for gas after a ride\n\n- paying for ingredients cost after a dinner \n\n- offering to pay you back at the end of the night when they realised you paid most of the drinks. \n\nEtc. \n\nAny general rules of thumb that are good to live by? When to accept or when to ask and when not to?", "simple rules of thumb for in which cases it's ok to accept/request money from your friends for certain expenses I've been playing the life game for 26 years now, and this particular thing still seems very arbitrary for me. \n\nI like to be generous (or to think that I am), yet with a job change with drop in income I notice that I can't always afford to say no to people that want to help to pay something. \n\nYet it's not so clear for me when it's a good idea to accept or when they are offering out of politeness and actually don't want you to accept. \n\nThis goes for a very wide range of friends, relatives and colleagues, for all kinds of things among others\n\n- paying for gas after a ride\n\n- paying for ingredients cost after a dinner \n\n- offering to pay you back at the end of the night when they realised you paid most of the drinks. \n\nEtc. \n\nAny general rules of thumb that are good to live by? When to accept or when to ask and when not to?", "simple rules of thumb for in which cases it's ok to accept/request money from your friends for certain expenses I've been playing the life game for 26 years now, and this particular thing still seems very arbitrary for me. \n\nI like to be generous (or to think that I am), yet with a job change with drop in income I notice that I can't always afford to say no to people that want to help to pay something. \n\nYet it's not so clear for me when it's a good idea to accept or when they are offering out of politeness and actually don't want you to accept. \n\nThis goes for a very wide range of friends, relatives and colleagues, for all kinds of things among others\n\n- paying for gas after a ride\n\n- paying for ingredients cost after a dinner \n\n- offering to pay you back at the end of the night when they realised you paid most of the drinks. \n\nEtc. \n\nAny general rules of thumb that are good to live by? When to accept or when to ask and when not to?" ]

[ "Pay your share. Expect others to do the same. \n\n* Paying for gas: I don't usually offer, unless the person is driving on a regular basis. I tend to drive myself, though. I suggest using common sense and common courtesy. If you are the passenger more often than not, offer to fill up the tank every so often, or agree on a set cost per mile. \n\n* Paying ingredient cost after dinner: If you've been invited for dinner, then graciously accept and don't offer money. If you are a regular attendee and can't reciprocate as host, offer to buy the main ingredients for the next meal. But, really, you should try to reciprocate.\n\n* Paying you back for drinks: Absolutely. And there's nothing wrong with saying \"I'll get this round, you get the next.\" Or just opening separate tabs. \n\n", "It's never rude to accept money, gifts, etc. that are offered. If the other person doesn't want you to accept, they shouldn't offer! If you have the kind of friends who would offer to pay for something and then begrudge you for accepting, you need new friends. \n\nAs someone who spent the better part of a decade wavering between \"slightly broke\" and \"totally effing broke and in debt,\" let me assure you that there is absolutely nothing shameful, weird, or even uncommon about being broke. It is totally normal and acceptable to say stuff like \"hey, I'm kinda broke right now - would you mind driving, or chipping in for gas?\"\n\nFor other situations - \n\n- if someone invites you over for dinner and doesn't ask you to bring something or tell you it's a potluck, then there is no need for you to pay. If you wish to host a meal that you don't pay for entirely yourself, do it potluck or set a price - \"having spaghetti night, no need to bring food but please bring $5 to cover costs.\" (Personally I think potluck is a better option, though. If I wanted to pay to eat, I'd go to a restaurant.)\n- drinking - just pay cash for your own drinks. No tab to worry about, and if someone asks you to pick up a drink for them, just explain you only brought $20 or whatever so either they need to come with you and use their tab or they need to pony up cash before you go. If someone offers to buy you a drink and you suspect they might expect you to buy the next round, just say \"hey I appreciate the offer, but I'm pretty broke so I wouldn't be able to return the favor tonight. Is that cool?\" Although FRANKLY I have to tell you, the smartest thing to do when you're broke is stay out of the bar. It's so easy to go \"just for one drink,\" get a few gift drinks, and forget that you're only supposed to spending $20 that night. \n\nGenerally speaking, you shouldn't pay for things that you need repayment for. Drinks, gas, etc.... those are small enough expenses that if you pay for them, people likely assume you're just paying for them! You will seem cheap and weird if you offer to drive your friend to the bar, offer to buy them a drink, and then ask them for $10 for the gas and drink. If you will need repayment, state it up front and people might prefer to drive themselves, buy their own drink, etc. \n\nThere are some things that you might pay for that obviously you'd be reimbursed for (like say you bought everyone's concert tickets so you could get seats together) but for the day-to-day stuff, just don't pay for it/offer to pay for it in the first place. ", "The best rule of thumb is to see what others in your friend circle are doing. When your friend gives another friend a ride, does he accept gas money? Pay attention and then follow the standard. \n\nIf in doubt, offer to pay and refuse to accept. ", "Firstly, don't pay for others if you can't afford it. For things like drinks, suggest they cover the next night. It should work out over time." ]

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[ "Promotions vs Salary Hi all, I wasn't sure what to put in the subject line, but I'd love to hear some of your insights.\n\nNow, my short explanation of the situation:\n\nI am an extremely valued employee in my company, I'm an upper mid level manager with roots down both with the team I'm working with, as well as in the customer relations with the people we offer services to. Other same level managers only deal with the internal management, but are not burdened with the customer relations, customer meetings, etc. \n\nI'm not saying this as a delusional or shortsighted person, cause most of this was my choice and its doing a lot for the company, but I'm basically doing double the work of other same position employees.\n\nNow, recently, the company has been expanding to another building, which is relatively close, and they required a couple of new high level managers and an internal ad was posted for it. I've applied, even though that position is not exactly something I want to do, but is a higher paid one and I could remain in the same circles where I am now and relatively enjoy doing it.\n\nWhen the interviews ended, I was informed that I am more needed where I am currently and need to finish the whole project down, as nobody will do it as good. Ultimately, a couple of other employees got promoted.\n\n​\n\nI do not want to be a douche and threaten with quitting or look for another job, as I'm pretty happy here, but I really feel like I deserve more than plain taps on the back.\n\nI'd like to hear what do you think are the correct next steps?", "Promotions vs Salary Hi all, I wasn't sure what to put in the subject line, but I'd love to hear some of your insights.\n\nNow, my short explanation of the situation:\n\nI am an extremely valued employee in my company, I'm an upper mid level manager with roots down both with the team I'm working with, as well as in the customer relations with the people we offer services to. Other same level managers only deal with the internal management, but are not burdened with the customer relations, customer meetings, etc. \n\nI'm not saying this as a delusional or shortsighted person, cause most of this was my choice and its doing a lot for the company, but I'm basically doing double the work of other same position employees.\n\nNow, recently, the company has been expanding to another building, which is relatively close, and they required a couple of new high level managers and an internal ad was posted for it. I've applied, even though that position is not exactly something I want to do, but is a higher paid one and I could remain in the same circles where I am now and relatively enjoy doing it.\n\nWhen the interviews ended, I was informed that I am more needed where I am currently and need to finish the whole project down, as nobody will do it as good. Ultimately, a couple of other employees got promoted.\n\n​\n\nI do not want to be a douche and threaten with quitting or look for another job, as I'm pretty happy here, but I really feel like I deserve more than plain taps on the back.\n\nI'd like to hear what do you think are the correct next steps?", "Promotions vs Salary Hi all, I wasn't sure what to put in the subject line, but I'd love to hear some of your insights.\n\nNow, my short explanation of the situation:\n\nI am an extremely valued employee in my company, I'm an upper mid level manager with roots down both with the team I'm working with, as well as in the customer relations with the people we offer services to. Other same level managers only deal with the internal management, but are not burdened with the customer relations, customer meetings, etc. \n\nI'm not saying this as a delusional or shortsighted person, cause most of this was my choice and its doing a lot for the company, but I'm basically doing double the work of other same position employees.\n\nNow, recently, the company has been expanding to another building, which is relatively close, and they required a couple of new high level managers and an internal ad was posted for it. I've applied, even though that position is not exactly something I want to do, but is a higher paid one and I could remain in the same circles where I am now and relatively enjoy doing it.\n\nWhen the interviews ended, I was informed that I am more needed where I am currently and need to finish the whole project down, as nobody will do it as good. Ultimately, a couple of other employees got promoted.\n\n​\n\nI do not want to be a douche and threaten with quitting or look for another job, as I'm pretty happy here, but I really feel like I deserve more than plain taps on the back.\n\nI'd like to hear what do you think are the correct next steps?", "Promotions vs Salary Hi all, I wasn't sure what to put in the subject line, but I'd love to hear some of your insights.\n\nNow, my short explanation of the situation:\n\nI am an extremely valued employee in my company, I'm an upper mid level manager with roots down both with the team I'm working with, as well as in the customer relations with the people we offer services to. Other same level managers only deal with the internal management, but are not burdened with the customer relations, customer meetings, etc. \n\nI'm not saying this as a delusional or shortsighted person, cause most of this was my choice and its doing a lot for the company, but I'm basically doing double the work of other same position employees.\n\nNow, recently, the company has been expanding to another building, which is relatively close, and they required a couple of new high level managers and an internal ad was posted for it. I've applied, even though that position is not exactly something I want to do, but is a higher paid one and I could remain in the same circles where I am now and relatively enjoy doing it.\n\nWhen the interviews ended, I was informed that I am more needed where I am currently and need to finish the whole project down, as nobody will do it as good. Ultimately, a couple of other employees got promoted.\n\n​\n\nI do not want to be a douche and threaten with quitting or look for another job, as I'm pretty happy here, but I really feel like I deserve more than plain taps on the back.\n\nI'd like to hear what do you think are the correct next steps?", "Promotions vs Salary Hi all, I wasn't sure what to put in the subject line, but I'd love to hear some of your insights.\n\nNow, my short explanation of the situation:\n\nI am an extremely valued employee in my company, I'm an upper mid level manager with roots down both with the team I'm working with, as well as in the customer relations with the people we offer services to. Other same level managers only deal with the internal management, but are not burdened with the customer relations, customer meetings, etc. \n\nI'm not saying this as a delusional or shortsighted person, cause most of this was my choice and its doing a lot for the company, but I'm basically doing double the work of other same position employees.\n\nNow, recently, the company has been expanding to another building, which is relatively close, and they required a couple of new high level managers and an internal ad was posted for it. I've applied, even though that position is not exactly something I want to do, but is a higher paid one and I could remain in the same circles where I am now and relatively enjoy doing it.\n\nWhen the interviews ended, I was informed that I am more needed where I am currently and need to finish the whole project down, as nobody will do it as good. Ultimately, a couple of other employees got promoted.\n\n​\n\nI do not want to be a douche and threaten with quitting or look for another job, as I'm pretty happy here, but I really feel like I deserve more than plain taps on the back.\n\nI'd like to hear what do you think are the correct next steps?" ]

[ "Honestly? Loyalty to a company that you do not own does not do you any favours. Now if you really love your current job i can see the dilemma. Otherwise i'd try applying for other jobs and at least get offers to use as leverage or actually change jobs. If pay is the most important, changing jobs usually leads to a higher increase than an internal raise. But you could at least try to get a salary bump by using the \"you're too important to move up\" message you got. Well if i'm unreplaceable, then pay me more..", "Here's your script : I appreciate having had the opportunity to interview for one of the new roles. While I was a little disappointed to not be chosen I definitely understand the reasoning and respect the decision. One of the reason I applied is that I feel like I've been stagnating a little. I know that the company values the work my team does and I do enjoy managing it. That being said, I would like to discuss an increase in compensation so that I can ensure that I can continue to progress here. I get that may take some prep on your end, but I would be hoping to see something sooner rather than later, so wanted to open the conversation.", "If they are saying you are “more valuable” than the upper management position, they should be paying you more than the upper management position. \nShould you threaten to quit? Not if you’re not willing to follow-through. \n\nYou should have a sit-down with your supervisor and HR and plot out a plan for title and/or salary advancement that you feel comfortable with. If you’re with a good company, they should be excited to see your grow and advance. I can see they maybe weren’t expecting you to apply for something new at this time, and they were too concerned with how to fill your current position. But if everyone comes to the table with the same game plan, the can have preparation in place to fill your current role and find something new that better fits your talent and personal objectives.", "If being good at your job means you no longer have chances for pay (or career to be more polite) advancement then it's time for a new job. Be honest with your higher-ups about how this round of hiring went- are they aware that they implied you'll never get promoted because they want you where you are?", "Before you approach them again, apply for some other jobs and secure an offer or two. Then when you approach them, you have leverage for negotiation.\n\nIf you ask for a raise without another offer in your pocket, you are just asking, not negotiating. And you will most likely not be happy with the result." ]

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[ "Taking into consideration the fact that almost the entire continental u.s. is in a deep freeze right now, where are some locations that are unaffected by extreme weather fluctuations and remain mild year-round? ", "Taking into consideration the fact that almost the entire continental u.s. is in a deep freeze right now, where are some locations that are unaffected by extreme weather fluctuations and remain mild year-round? ", "Taking into consideration the fact that almost the entire continental u.s. is in a deep freeze right now, where are some locations that are unaffected by extreme weather fluctuations and remain mild year-round? " ]

[ "South Florida.\n\nIt's been in the 80's for the past month\n\nYou said 'Mild' year round, so I have to warn you summer here is so humid going outside is like walking through hot soup.", "If mild includes about 10 degrees C, then most of England, Scotland and the north gets a bit chilly but most of the south is mild ", "Victoria, BC, Canada. It's above freezing right now, no snow. And never gets much above 26C / 78F in the summer." ]

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[ "How to relax about work? I am a student going into my third week of a part-time job. I need this job and am very grateful for it, but so far I am not doing very well and it is putting me under serious stress. (Without giving away too much personal information, although it is a part-time job it is performance based and requires a level of skill that I haven't yet developed.)\n\nAlthough I am trying very hard to improve myself, how can I learn to relax in the meantime? It's nearly all I think about. Any and all advice is appreciated.\n\n", "How to relax about work? I am a student going into my third week of a part-time job. I need this job and am very grateful for it, but so far I am not doing very well and it is putting me under serious stress. (Without giving away too much personal information, although it is a part-time job it is performance based and requires a level of skill that I haven't yet developed.)\n\nAlthough I am trying very hard to improve myself, how can I learn to relax in the meantime? It's nearly all I think about. Any and all advice is appreciated.\n\n", "How to relax about work? I am a student going into my third week of a part-time job. I need this job and am very grateful for it, but so far I am not doing very well and it is putting me under serious stress. (Without giving away too much personal information, although it is a part-time job it is performance based and requires a level of skill that I haven't yet developed.)\n\nAlthough I am trying very hard to improve myself, how can I learn to relax in the meantime? It's nearly all I think about. Any and all advice is appreciated.\n\n", "How to relax about work? I am a student going into my third week of a part-time job. I need this job and am very grateful for it, but so far I am not doing very well and it is putting me under serious stress. (Without giving away too much personal information, although it is a part-time job it is performance based and requires a level of skill that I haven't yet developed.)\n\nAlthough I am trying very hard to improve myself, how can I learn to relax in the meantime? It's nearly all I think about. Any and all advice is appreciated.\n\n", "How to relax about work? I am a student going into my third week of a part-time job. I need this job and am very grateful for it, but so far I am not doing very well and it is putting me under serious stress. (Without giving away too much personal information, although it is a part-time job it is performance based and requires a level of skill that I haven't yet developed.)\n\nAlthough I am trying very hard to improve myself, how can I learn to relax in the meantime? It's nearly all I think about. Any and all advice is appreciated.\n\n", "How to relax about work? I am a student going into my third week of a part-time job. I need this job and am very grateful for it, but so far I am not doing very well and it is putting me under serious stress. (Without giving away too much personal information, although it is a part-time job it is performance based and requires a level of skill that I haven't yet developed.)\n\nAlthough I am trying very hard to improve myself, how can I learn to relax in the meantime? It's nearly all I think about. Any and all advice is appreciated.\n\n", "How to relax about work? I am a student going into my third week of a part-time job. I need this job and am very grateful for it, but so far I am not doing very well and it is putting me under serious stress. (Without giving away too much personal information, although it is a part-time job it is performance based and requires a level of skill that I haven't yet developed.)\n\nAlthough I am trying very hard to improve myself, how can I learn to relax in the meantime? It's nearly all I think about. Any and all advice is appreciated.\n\n", "How to relax about work? I am a student going into my third week of a part-time job. I need this job and am very grateful for it, but so far I am not doing very well and it is putting me under serious stress. (Without giving away too much personal information, although it is a part-time job it is performance based and requires a level of skill that I haven't yet developed.)\n\nAlthough I am trying very hard to improve myself, how can I learn to relax in the meantime? It's nearly all I think about. Any and all advice is appreciated.\n\n", "How to relax about work? I am a student going into my third week of a part-time job. I need this job and am very grateful for it, but so far I am not doing very well and it is putting me under serious stress. (Without giving away too much personal information, although it is a part-time job it is performance based and requires a level of skill that I haven't yet developed.)\n\nAlthough I am trying very hard to improve myself, how can I learn to relax in the meantime? It's nearly all I think about. Any and all advice is appreciated.\n\n", "How to relax about work? I am a student going into my third week of a part-time job. I need this job and am very grateful for it, but so far I am not doing very well and it is putting me under serious stress. (Without giving away too much personal information, although it is a part-time job it is performance based and requires a level of skill that I haven't yet developed.)\n\nAlthough I am trying very hard to improve myself, how can I learn to relax in the meantime? It's nearly all I think about. Any and all advice is appreciated.\n\n" ]

[ "Hm well I recently started a seasonal job since I also have to worry about college, and some advice I can give you I guess is make friends with your coworkers if you're able to. Chat a bit while doing your job, and keep yourself occupied. Also, try to learn more about the job. Ask questions and improve. If you keep yourself active during the job and make friends with your coworkers you'll not only pass the time quicker but also get more comfortable with the job as you go. One thing is for sure: getting comfortable at a job takes time. You just gotta get more experienced, learn and improve everyday. ", "I'm a type-A person and often think WAAAAY too much about work. I've often worked a series of various jobs, so I can say what helps me most at least:\n\n1. **Get yourself educated and as skilled as possible.** Keep in mind, you're new and you're gonna suck ass. But ask your co-workers for tips and tricks, advice, etc. And set reasonable goals so you can measure your success as time goes on. Knowledge of a situation can make it a lot less scary and stressful. If the company has resources, maybe check them out, but a lot of company material sucks. The experts are the people who've been doing the same job for years, so ask them first.\n\n2. **Leave work at work.** It's actually pretty ok to be stressed out while you're at work. As long as it isn't debilitating, it just means you're trying hard. But when you clock out, don't take it with you. Be around people who are positive distractions, or listen to music, or drink, or anything that makes you feel calmed. You can't sit there all night thinking about what went wrong earlier in the day.\n\n3. **Remember to waste some money.** It doesn't have to be a lot. As a student, you probably don't have a lot of money as it is. But make sure that you take a tiny amount every paycheck to reward yourself with that movie ticket, pack of cigarettes, or video game. You've definitely earned a break. I'm not saying don't save your money or don't pay bills, but getting burnt out will hurt you in the long run.\n\nGood luck friend! And get the hell over your failure. Everyone fails. You'll be fine. :)", "Disconnect. Change out of your \"work uniform\" when you get home. Shower. Put your phone on its charger, out of sight.", "*Acquire skills*: Tell your manager you want to improve but that you need more information on [topic.name]. Any manager worth their salt will recognise that you're trying to improve and are seeking advice. A real manager will respond to that. If you get berated for asking the question that's your cue that you should let go of any stress because these people are not going to look after you. \n\n*Work is work*: Make sure to get there on time. Leave on time. Tomorrow is another day. They don't pay you to worry about work outside of work. Don't spend any energy on that.\n\n*Own up to your mistakes*: You'll make mistakes. Depending what job you do you will learn to either correct them yourself before it becomes an issue. If you can't but you're aware that it's going to be an issue, own up to it first. If your manager is worth their salt they will appreciate that you came forward. Don't expect congratulations, you fucked up. At least you owned your mistake. If it's a bad enough mistake and they have to find out afterwards and you did not own up to it, that's going to look very bad. On top of having fucked up you're also untrustworthy and likely a liar to boot. That kind of personality is a problem in any organisation.\n\n*Don't join the bandstand*: If other workers drag their feet and do stupid shit and invite you to do the same, don't fall for it. Be your own person. You're going to start working and a good work ethic will serve you all your life. A good work ethic leads to success. A bad work ethic will have you wake up 25 years down the line and asking yourself: how the fuck did I end up in this shit? And the answer is: you did it yourself. Own your life, don't be eager to copy other people's mistakes.\n\n*Don't work for free*: Money is the be all and end all for your manager. If they want something you have to get paid for it. Don't accept pie-in-the-sky. Life is not free for you, it should not be free for them. If they don't want to pay for it, that means it's not important enough to them. If it's not important enough to them, it's definitely not important enough to you. Get paid. You have to do an honest day's work but you must get paid for it.\n\n*Fail often, fail fast*: You cannot go through life and not make mistakes. The point is: try not to make the same mistake twice. Learn from your mistakes but don't feel too bad about making mistakes [unless your mistake caused you to burn down half a city, then yes, do feel bad about it], but learn from them and learn fast. And, going back to higher up: own up to your mistake.\n\n", "Remember that everyone that works there was once the \"newbie\" and that often, in anything new, there is a steep learning curve. They may well be expecting you to find it initially challenging. The key thing to managing stress is to identify what you can control and what you can't control. E.g. You can't control the fact that the server is down so you can't log on, its more than likely someone else's remit to be dealing with that. Focus instead on the things you can control, are you smiling at customers and completing your tasks. If so then mentally praise yourself. I don't know how old you are but sometimes young adults find the transition from school/college to a workplace hard to handle because in a school the teachers are paid to make sure you are praised regularly for the things you do well. In a workplace that just isn't the case, and everyone is always busy! So if no one is saying anything to suggest they think you are doing badly then you are probably doing good! ", "I didn't read the other advice you were given, but here goes: it's hard enough being a student and having a job, so workload management is really important. Having a visual representation of tasks helps sort out your thoughts. Calendars and to do lists. You can include the skills and abilities you're trying to achieve in the new job on a list. \nAsking questions about your tasks is more honourable than guessing, so double checking is OK. \nAnother thing is to stretch and do some breathing exercises. Sounds cheesy but it really will help to destress and calm you down. \nGood luck! \n", "Hey there!\n\nI myself started at my first real work place as a youth leader substitute at a youth house. I was a little stressed beforehand of the long work hours (I'm away from home for 10 hours, 1h commute there + 8 hours + 1 h back) and I still have some lessons at uni and I have a little bit of stress regarding my degree as I'm supposed to graduate in december.\n\nJust want to share my two cents:\n\nDon't be afraid to ask questions. I know how it can be a burden being embarrassed of a question but honestly, it won't even be a biggie and it'll make you feel more relaxed and comfortable having asked it.\n\nDo whatever you do to unwind - For me, it's playing video games and spending time with my GF (Even though usually we spend the weekend together and during the week apart as we both have work).\n\nRemember to treat yourself. I'm waiting for my first paycheck (My boss has been sick for 3 weeks now so we'll get into it when he's back) but will put most of it into savings, some into a backup stash for surprise bills and the rest into treats - Taking my gf out, buying a new monitor, buying a game or two, you get the idea. \n\nTry to make yourself relaxed! It'll naturally take time especially if you are under serious stress. You could always tell your coworkers that you are feeling stressed; maybe they can offer advice of their own. \n\nBest of luck buddy! \n\n", "Do the best you can and ask questions of your co workers to help you understand what can/needs to be done. Also when you leave work, try to put your focus elsewhere so it doesn't consume every waking minute when you're not at work.\n\nChanging out of your work uniform is a good piece of advice. Also making time to do things you always enjoy after work is a good way to unwind from the job. :)", "All the advice given is good. I have a slightly different take.\n\nHow much worry energy does the poor performance take up?\nHow much worry energy does the prospect of getting fired take up?\n\nBe clear about both, or maybe there's a third thing. The point being is the mind tends to blow these things up much bigger if they are not well defined.\n\nTBH both performing poorly and getting fired are both good once or twice IF you are an introspective person that is honest with yourself.", "Is this your first job? You should try to embrace the challenge. If you're not confident, fake it till you make it. If you're under qualified for a job, you'll grow into it if you push yourself. It's much better than being over qualified and feeling like you aren't getting what you deserve. Prove it to yourself that you can do it and the next time you face a difficult challenge you'll know what you're capable of. Most importantly though, leave work at work and focus on your free time when you have it. Don't make a part time job into an 80 hour a week stress session. When you find yourself starting to get stressed, realize it and distract yourself from thinking about work " ]

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[ "How do I deal with my incompetent boss in media? Hello, everyone.\n\nVeteran media writer for the past 8 years. In 2017, I began working for a media company, received a raise and more hours within the first year, got good praise, and was then assigned to a new ", "How do I deal with my incompetent boss in media? Hello, everyone.\n\nVeteran media writer for the past 8 years. In 2017, I began working for a media company, received a raise and more hours within the first year, got good praise, and was then assigned to a new " ]

[ "If you can't comfortably go over his head then you're just going to have to grin and bear it until you can find another job...\n\nIt sucks. I've been there.", "Yeah, I also don't believe you actually have much of a chance here. Unless you workplace has a very strong \"conflict of interest\" policy, where you could go at HR with solid evidence that what he's doing is absolute BS. Another problem would be how this might affect a new job. If they call your boss and he starts talking sh1t about you, you might get fucked.\nThe only good tip I can give you is that the \"good\" firms don't advertise their jobs, because they don't need to. Just suck it up and find a new job from trustworthy ppl, a.k.a where they work." ]

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[ "what do you do if a pedestrian damages your car? If a car rear ends you, you could easily get the license plate number, but if it's a pedestrian on foot or on a bike, are you allowed to physically stop them from running away before police arrive? Before you ask how the hell something like this could happen, I saw someone pull out a screwdriver and dent someone else's car. Weird things like that happen outside of the West, but I'm in America now, so American laws apply.", "what do you do if a pedestrian damages your car? If a car rear ends you, you could easily get the license plate number, but if it's a pedestrian on foot or on a bike, are you allowed to physically stop them from running away before police arrive? Before you ask how the hell something like this could happen, I saw someone pull out a screwdriver and dent someone else's car. Weird things like that happen outside of the West, but I'm in America now, so American laws apply.", "what do you do if a pedestrian damages your car? If a car rear ends you, you could easily get the license plate number, but if it's a pedestrian on foot or on a bike, are you allowed to physically stop them from running away before police arrive? Before you ask how the hell something like this could happen, I saw someone pull out a screwdriver and dent someone else's car. Weird things like that happen outside of the West, but I'm in America now, so American laws apply.", "what do you do if a pedestrian damages your car? If a car rear ends you, you could easily get the license plate number, but if it's a pedestrian on foot or on a bike, are you allowed to physically stop them from running away before police arrive? Before you ask how the hell something like this could happen, I saw someone pull out a screwdriver and dent someone else's car. Weird things like that happen outside of the West, but I'm in America now, so American laws apply." ]

[ "Dash cam. When the fucker tries to run you got it on camera. And if he's behind your car, you can grab the camera and film him faster then it would be to pull out your phone and take a picture.", "You treat it just like any other accident: \n\n1. Do not admit fault. \n2. Exchange identification and insurance information. If the other party does not cooperate with this exchange, take their photo and that of their vehicle, if any, before they flee the scene. \n3. Contact your auto insurance company with all the relevant details. If you carry full coverage for your vehicle, it is the insurance company that will pursue a case; you would only pursue a case for the deductible. \n4. Contact the police if necessary, particularly if the other party flees the scene. A hit and run is still a criminal charge in most states. \n\nIf someone damages someone else's property they are still liable; if they are a homeowner, many times a homeowners policy covers accidental damage to property that is not covered by vehicular insurance. Rental insurance can sometimes carry the same protection, weirdly. Depends on the policy. ", "I have no idea, but if it were me I'd try to get a picture of them or note any defining features of theirs so I can report it and have some details to help them catch the person. It's still damage to personal property and they obviously can still get in trouble ", "its vandalism not assault. you cant do anything that could harm them. just get video/pics and note any tattoos or scars then tell the police." ]

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[ "Just started work experience today and found it really boring...How can I enjoy it more? Ok for the record it seemed like a cool job at first: local so its easy to get to and I get to do my own work without interference of randoms\n\nHowever, the concept of stacking shelves in my own world lost its magic within 5 minutes and then the entire day felt like drawing blood from a stone and I have to do this all week, any reccomendations to what I can do to make it more enjoyable?", "Just started work experience today and found it really boring...How can I enjoy it more? Ok for the record it seemed like a cool job at first: local so its easy to get to and I get to do my own work without interference of randoms\n\nHowever, the concept of stacking shelves in my own world lost its magic within 5 minutes and then the entire day felt like drawing blood from a stone and I have to do this all week, any reccomendations to what I can do to make it more enjoyable?", "Just started work experience today and found it really boring...How can I enjoy it more? Ok for the record it seemed like a cool job at first: local so its easy to get to and I get to do my own work without interference of randoms\n\nHowever, the concept of stacking shelves in my own world lost its magic within 5 minutes and then the entire day felt like drawing blood from a stone and I have to do this all week, any reccomendations to what I can do to make it more enjoyable?", "Just started work experience today and found it really boring...How can I enjoy it more? Ok for the record it seemed like a cool job at first: local so its easy to get to and I get to do my own work without interference of randoms\n\nHowever, the concept of stacking shelves in my own world lost its magic within 5 minutes and then the entire day felt like drawing blood from a stone and I have to do this all week, any reccomendations to what I can do to make it more enjoyable?", "Just started work experience today and found it really boring...How can I enjoy it more? Ok for the record it seemed like a cool job at first: local so its easy to get to and I get to do my own work without interference of randoms\n\nHowever, the concept of stacking shelves in my own world lost its magic within 5 minutes and then the entire day felt like drawing blood from a stone and I have to do this all week, any reccomendations to what I can do to make it more enjoyable?" ]

[ "Welcome to adult life, kid. I had your job from I was 12 till i was 19.\n\nHave a good time with your colleagues, that's the only way it'll be slightly enjoyable.", "my friend, you are in for a shitty 50 years if you don't realize that work is not supposed to be fun. Yes sometimes it may be more enjoyable than other times, but it does not owe you anything other than a paycheck.\n\nI put myself through two college degrees working retail. Now I found a job that pays well, that I love. It has fun moments, but a lot of the time it is hard work.\n\nAs I sit in the lunch room with my staff, one of them pointed out that one of the highlights of my job is \"telling kids to get back to work and get off of Reddit\"\n", "Some good advice and bad advice in here. 90% of people have crappy boring jobs in high school and college, and millions of people have crappy jobs they hate when they’re adults.\n\nTry to find a job that is more enjoyable. I don’t know you, but there are jobs that you can enjoy and still get paid like reffing sporting games, working in a promotions department at a radio station, and so many more. They aren’t as plentiful as retail jobs so you have to hustle to get them, but it’s worth the effort.\n\nJust my two cents. Spend some time on the Internet researching jobs in your area tonight.", "Not really, work never gets better. Work really hard and advance your skills to get a job that you enjoy better so you can eventually hate that too. ", "If you just started today, I wouldn't worry too much about it for a couple reasons a) your probably a bit overwhelmed and your brain may be freaking yourself out unnecessarily and b) they probably started you off easy, I don't know the job but it seems likely that your job will eventually entail more than this one task. \n\nI'd give yourself a couple months to get used to everything before I started to freak out." ]

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[ "Hiding perky nipples as a male No i'm not obese, actually quite fit. But my nipples always show through t-shirts, any tips?", "Hiding perky nipples as a male No i'm not obese, actually quite fit. But my nipples always show through t-shirts, any tips?", "Hiding perky nipples as a male No i'm not obese, actually quite fit. But my nipples always show through t-shirts, any tips?", "Hiding perky nipples as a male No i'm not obese, actually quite fit. But my nipples always show through t-shirts, any tips?", "Hiding perky nipples as a male No i'm not obese, actually quite fit. But my nipples always show through t-shirts, any tips?" ]

[ "[Nipple guards](http://www.amazon.com/Nipguards-Runners-Nipple-Protectors/dp/B00473REDW/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top?ie=UTF8)", "Wear gray sleeveless undershirts. You'll have to experiment to find your favorite fabric, but for office work I like cotton just fine. Get them nice and snug, so your undershirt doesn't twist up under your main layer. Also make sure it's nice and long, so the undershirt doesn't blob up at your waistline. Get gray and not white, because white shows through under thin shirts but gray just kind of blends in with your flesh tone, unless you have a really dark complexion.\n\nSucks that you can find a 4 pack of white undeshirts in about 10 seconds, but you have to buy gray undershirts individually. Get gray anyway. ", "Thicker shirts or undershirts? Can slightly relate. I wear bras without padding because I don't need it, so I've had to start either layering or wearing thicker clothes.", "Maybe you can tape them down? I don't know, I feel like it's the same with moobs, some people just naturally have them whether or not they're fat.", "Leather jacket. I could probably hide a machinegun under mine...\n\nWhen that's not an option, drop the T-shirt and go for an ordinary button shirt with a slightly loose fit instead. Even better if it has pockets (which also is a great place to keep the phone). Not only will it hide the nipples, it will also make you look snappier." ]

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[ "How to clean a smudge off of a laptop screen Somethings splashed against my screen and managed to stick around after I wiped it off. Any ideas how to safely clean the screen? If it helps, I have a Macbook Pro.", "How to clean a smudge off of a laptop screen Somethings splashed against my screen and managed to stick around after I wiped it off. Any ideas how to safely clean the screen? If it helps, I have a Macbook Pro." ]

[ "Silk cloths are the best for cleaning smudges of glass. If the smudge doesn't go away you'll have to use something else", "I bought iKlear from the Apple store online and it works the best. Also the bottle has lasted for years. " ]

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[ "Complete list of alternative uses for dryer sheets I don't know about you guys, but nearly every day I check LPT I see another use for dryer sheets. These things are incredible! I doubt there is a database anywhere that has most of these uses listed anywhere, but maybe there is? Or maybe we could make one? I think it could be really useful.", "Complete list of alternative uses for dryer sheets I don't know about you guys, but nearly every day I check LPT I see another use for dryer sheets. These things are incredible! I doubt there is a database anywhere that has most of these uses listed anywhere, but maybe there is? Or maybe we could make one? I think it could be really useful.", "Complete list of alternative uses for dryer sheets I don't know about you guys, but nearly every day I check LPT I see another use for dryer sheets. These things are incredible! I doubt there is a database anywhere that has most of these uses listed anywhere, but maybe there is? Or maybe we could make one? I think it could be really useful." ]

[ "As a Scoutmaster, I teach the young Scouts that dryer lint and used dryer sheets are great for kindling to start a camp fire. It works like a charm.", "I used to be a projectionist at a movie theater. When a movie came in, we would splice all the reels together in to one giant film. The bane of our existence was static, as this could cause the film to pull another layer through the various pulleys, essentially knotting the film which would stretch it out of shape, lock everything up, and melt the film. Have you ever been watching a movie and suddenly the image melts and you just see a white screen? Yup.\n\nAnyway, to make a long story longer, we would rub dryer sheets on top of the film (not the face of it) to reduce static so that would be less likely to happen.", "I wouldn't keep that stuff in the house. Free-floating micro chemical irritants are never a good idea.\n\nThere are much safer and cheaper ways of getting things done without dryer sheets." ]

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[ "How to be a good friend? Judging only by the title, this may be an weird request, but I don't know how to be a good friend.\n\nQuick backstory: I didn't have any friends during my childhood, when I was in high school my classmates were dickheads and I didn't even consider them as friends. I don't like people a lot, I have trusting issues, and I don't know how to demonstrate my emotions at all (people have a hard time guessing if I'm happy or not).\n\nNow, I'm in college. I've met some people that are really nice to me, and they seem to like me a lot. I'm starting to like them as well, and I want to pay back all the appreciation they have for me. This is my first time having friends; since I'm seeing that having friends is actually making me happy, I just want to be a good friend to them.", "How to be a good friend? Judging only by the title, this may be an weird request, but I don't know how to be a good friend.\n\nQuick backstory: I didn't have any friends during my childhood, when I was in high school my classmates were dickheads and I didn't even consider them as friends. I don't like people a lot, I have trusting issues, and I don't know how to demonstrate my emotions at all (people have a hard time guessing if I'm happy or not).\n\nNow, I'm in college. I've met some people that are really nice to me, and they seem to like me a lot. I'm starting to like them as well, and I want to pay back all the appreciation they have for me. This is my first time having friends; since I'm seeing that having friends is actually making me happy, I just want to be a good friend to them.", "How to be a good friend? Judging only by the title, this may be an weird request, but I don't know how to be a good friend.\n\nQuick backstory: I didn't have any friends during my childhood, when I was in high school my classmates were dickheads and I didn't even consider them as friends. I don't like people a lot, I have trusting issues, and I don't know how to demonstrate my emotions at all (people have a hard time guessing if I'm happy or not).\n\nNow, I'm in college. I've met some people that are really nice to me, and they seem to like me a lot. I'm starting to like them as well, and I want to pay back all the appreciation they have for me. This is my first time having friends; since I'm seeing that having friends is actually making me happy, I just want to be a good friend to them.", "How to be a good friend? Judging only by the title, this may be an weird request, but I don't know how to be a good friend.\n\nQuick backstory: I didn't have any friends during my childhood, when I was in high school my classmates were dickheads and I didn't even consider them as friends. I don't like people a lot, I have trusting issues, and I don't know how to demonstrate my emotions at all (people have a hard time guessing if I'm happy or not).\n\nNow, I'm in college. I've met some people that are really nice to me, and they seem to like me a lot. I'm starting to like them as well, and I want to pay back all the appreciation they have for me. This is my first time having friends; since I'm seeing that having friends is actually making me happy, I just want to be a good friend to them.", "How to be a good friend? Judging only by the title, this may be an weird request, but I don't know how to be a good friend.\n\nQuick backstory: I didn't have any friends during my childhood, when I was in high school my classmates were dickheads and I didn't even consider them as friends. I don't like people a lot, I have trusting issues, and I don't know how to demonstrate my emotions at all (people have a hard time guessing if I'm happy or not).\n\nNow, I'm in college. I've met some people that are really nice to me, and they seem to like me a lot. I'm starting to like them as well, and I want to pay back all the appreciation they have for me. This is my first time having friends; since I'm seeing that having friends is actually making me happy, I just want to be a good friend to them.", "How to be a good friend? Judging only by the title, this may be an weird request, but I don't know how to be a good friend.\n\nQuick backstory: I didn't have any friends during my childhood, when I was in high school my classmates were dickheads and I didn't even consider them as friends. I don't like people a lot, I have trusting issues, and I don't know how to demonstrate my emotions at all (people have a hard time guessing if I'm happy or not).\n\nNow, I'm in college. I've met some people that are really nice to me, and they seem to like me a lot. I'm starting to like them as well, and I want to pay back all the appreciation they have for me. This is my first time having friends; since I'm seeing that having friends is actually making me happy, I just want to be a good friend to them." ]

[ "• I don't want to say learn to trust them, in case it doesn't work out. But that is a starting point.\n\n• Don't lie. TO anyone, but especially your friends, if you don't want to say something, just say so.\n\n• Be yourself, and learn to like them for who they are. If you don't like \"true\" them (or they don't like your true self), then who cares. Plenty of potential friends out there.\n\n• Listen to them. \n\n• Hang out with them. But also give them space. This ones hard, I know. Hang out with them, if they don't want to, don't worry. People have things to be doing. \n\n• Treat all you friends the same. Also, don't do this thing I see guys do sometimes:\n I'll ask a group \"Hey ya'll want lunch\", and the guy says no. A girl says yes, the guy goes \"I might come if I finish this up real quick\". The point I'm making is, treat everyone the same.\n\n• If people don't like you, don't be a dick to them. Still treat them nicely. You don't have to be friends or even like everyone. But be nice.\n\n• You seem like you care now, and in high school, you didn't. You should be fine. Don't stress.\n\n• Learn to call people friends. A lot of people say \"classmates\" to people they hang out with all the time. Sure, that may be true, but the more close you believe you are, the closer you become.\n\n• Say yes to events and stuff. The more you hang out, the more people feel they can hang out with you more, and more, until you become best buds :D\n\nSUMMARY: Be nice. Don't be creepy. Don't lie. Don't treat different people differently (sexes, races, etc. I've even seen this done with \"classes\" of friends (people that are \"cooler\" and what not)) \n\nSTORY: In high school, I hanged out with dicks for quite a while. And I'm not really in contact with many of them. Last year of high school I met some cool people, and now I see them every time I'm back home. So, time doesn't matter (it does kinda). But don't be worry if you late to join the social group or something. \n\n", "The basis of a good relationship (imho) is that you always consider their side of things whenever you make decisions that could be relevant to them. \nImagine you have to make a decision, maybe you want to get a new haircut. Very simple. Now, instead of just asking yourself how particular haircuts would look on you, start considering what it would mean for them. It's a small thing, but they have a different perspective on you and your life. So go ask them what they think would suit you best. They feel much more valued and you get another source of input. This strenghtens friendships. \nTo take this to another level, imagine you want to go abroad for a semester. You know that it influences them, obviously, as you're probably absent. Now think about what that'd mean for them. Maybe they could apply for a semester in the same country? Maybe even same college. Maybe they would be happy for you and don't have a problem at all. Ask for their input and value their opinion. \nI think, always considering what impact your actions have on your friend(s), of course only when relevant, makes a good friend. This would work for few and very close friends only, of course you have to weigh their impact on your decisions depending on how close you are. \nI think that would be the most important point for me.", "In general, just try to care about them. Be willing to go a little more out of your way to help them than you may be used to. If you have trouble finding the appropriate/inappropriate line, steer clear for a while until you have consciously observed some brushes with it. Friendship should be mostly natural, with effort supplied when it's important to support them.", "Invite them to play games or to eat. Just giving stuff or paying for the food won't make them real friends. Just doing things with friends and being on their side is how to be a friend.", "Don't pry but be ready to listen to them. Show them what you like and try doing the things they like. Mirror their body language. ", "When you eat together help out with stuff. Take a few plates back. \nAlways visit when they are in hospital. They will very likely remember that, bring a game or something. Find out something about them that's actually interesting to you and let them talk about it. Don't be afraid to ask personal questions. Very personal ones you can ask. \"Can I ask a personal question, I'll respect it if you don't want to talk about it now.\" that's how you get comfortable with that. And volunteer a bit of yourself in return. NEVER tell someone else something that was told in confidence. That will damage the trust \n" ]

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[ "moving related tips? I'm in the middle of moving apartments. Can you guys think of any ways to take advantage of this time when all my things are packed in boxes and put away?", "moving related tips? I'm in the middle of moving apartments. Can you guys think of any ways to take advantage of this time when all my things are packed in boxes and put away?", "moving related tips? I'm in the middle of moving apartments. Can you guys think of any ways to take advantage of this time when all my things are packed in boxes and put away?", "moving related tips? I'm in the middle of moving apartments. Can you guys think of any ways to take advantage of this time when all my things are packed in boxes and put away?", "moving related tips? I'm in the middle of moving apartments. Can you guys think of any ways to take advantage of this time when all my things are packed in boxes and put away?" ]

[ "Unpack things as you need them. Apart from seasonal things, if it's still packed away after a few months, sell or donate it. ", "Take time to plan how you will load your truck (assuming).\n\nSpace utilization is crucial, treat it like tetris.\n\nThe furniture should rarely stack, but instead, stay on the 'ground' level. \n\nEverything should support one another, mind you, sudden acceleration/stops have a much greater affect in the back of these trucks. If you stack high, make sure it can't fall.\n\nLeave your clothes in your dresser, take the drawers out before loading it onto the truck, then load them back in - this produces stability (weight) and saves space.\n\nLet your bed be one of the last things you load in, either standing on it's side against the wall or laying across the top of everything - sometimes it's nice to just get to your new home, unload the bed and take a load off for a little (maybe the night).\n\nBefore you bring anything into your new home, if you're renting, make a thorough inventory of everything that is 'wrong' with your new home. This can save you thousands when you move out.\n\n", "Put aside things you'll need right away plus your identification (bathroom, kitchen, bedroom, kids toys) and if possible, don't put on the moving truck, keep it with you. \n\nPack room by room and make sure to make a list of the contents of each box and tape that to the side of the box. That way you don't need to unpack 12 kitchen boxes to find the utensils.\n\nUse your linens and towels to wrap breakables. You save on the cost of wrapping paper or bubble wrap and pack two things at once.\n\nAs you pack keep a box or bag very close by for donate and/or sell.... You'll be amazed how much is just collecting dust that could go to a new home.\n\nIf you are moving far, consider the price of shipping vs buying something in your new town. So many people spends hundreds to move items you can buy at Walmart for a quarter of the shipping costs.\n\n\n\n", "An essentials box: pack your things as usual, and then pack one box of basic kitchen things like a plate, some cups, cutlery, a pan ,easy to make (dry) food like pasta and teabags or coffee! Also add to that some toilet roll, your toothbrush and toothpaste and shower things. Finally add any chargers you will need, maybe your laptop, anything you use daily that would otherwise get packed up into a box and lost for a few days. ", "Make sure everything is labeled and have a bag of essentials like a change of clothes, toiletries and your phone cables ect think of it like if you were going away for a weekend. \n\nThat way while you get everything else together youre set for a couple days without having to rummage for things or unload an entire box" ]

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[ "How to get a roommate to clean up after themselves more often? I have a roommate that never cleans up after himself. How can I ask him to clean up more and contribute to keeping our apartment clean and trash free?", "How to get a roommate to clean up after themselves more often? I have a roommate that never cleans up after himself. How can I ask him to clean up more and contribute to keeping our apartment clean and trash free?", "How to get a roommate to clean up after themselves more often? I have a roommate that never cleans up after himself. How can I ask him to clean up more and contribute to keeping our apartment clean and trash free?", "How to get a roommate to clean up after themselves more often? I have a roommate that never cleans up after himself. How can I ask him to clean up more and contribute to keeping our apartment clean and trash free?" ]

[ "Just talk to him man to man. The hell is wrong with people these days they have to ask how to talk to someone ", "dont clean his stuff.\n\npeople like him count on beeing less disgusted by dirt than their roommates so the roommates are the ones bothered by it first and thus the roommates clean it up\n\nsource: i am one of those", "If you can't just tell him, then I'm afraid you'll have to move. Some people are not bothered by filth and clutter, and if his mum couldn't get him to clean up after himself, then you certainly won't. Sorry.", "Give this a whack, start trashing (or hiding, if you aren't a dick like me) some of his belongings. You want stuff he uses often but not daily, continue this every couple days until he goes insane and corrects himself to avoid misplacing everything. Make sure you take shit from his room too so he truly thinks it's all his brain fucking up. " ]

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[ "What are some good icebreakers I feel really awkward while starting a conversation with people. Most of the time I end up talking about studies and it always feels embarrassing in hindsight. I'm more of a geek so I'm more into online stuff and don't go out a lot. That's why I have very less common things to talk about with the people around me. I've tried a few of the classic icebreakers like the weather, but nowadays it just makes me sound desperate. Could Reddit please suggest me some good icebreakers? Thanks in advance :D", "What are some good icebreakers I feel really awkward while starting a conversation with people. Most of the time I end up talking about studies and it always feels embarrassing in hindsight. I'm more of a geek so I'm more into online stuff and don't go out a lot. That's why I have very less common things to talk about with the people around me. I've tried a few of the classic icebreakers like the weather, but nowadays it just makes me sound desperate. Could Reddit please suggest me some good icebreakers? Thanks in advance :D", "What are some good icebreakers I feel really awkward while starting a conversation with people. Most of the time I end up talking about studies and it always feels embarrassing in hindsight. I'm more of a geek so I'm more into online stuff and don't go out a lot. That's why I have very less common things to talk about with the people around me. I've tried a few of the classic icebreakers like the weather, but nowadays it just makes me sound desperate. Could Reddit please suggest me some good icebreakers? Thanks in advance :D", "What are some good icebreakers I feel really awkward while starting a conversation with people. Most of the time I end up talking about studies and it always feels embarrassing in hindsight. I'm more of a geek so I'm more into online stuff and don't go out a lot. That's why I have very less common things to talk about with the people around me. I've tried a few of the classic icebreakers like the weather, but nowadays it just makes me sound desperate. Could Reddit please suggest me some good icebreakers? Thanks in advance :D", "What are some good icebreakers I feel really awkward while starting a conversation with people. Most of the time I end up talking about studies and it always feels embarrassing in hindsight. I'm more of a geek so I'm more into online stuff and don't go out a lot. That's why I have very less common things to talk about with the people around me. I've tried a few of the classic icebreakers like the weather, but nowadays it just makes me sound desperate. Could Reddit please suggest me some good icebreakers? Thanks in advance :D", "What are some good icebreakers I feel really awkward while starting a conversation with people. Most of the time I end up talking about studies and it always feels embarrassing in hindsight. I'm more of a geek so I'm more into online stuff and don't go out a lot. That's why I have very less common things to talk about with the people around me. I've tried a few of the classic icebreakers like the weather, but nowadays it just makes me sound desperate. Could Reddit please suggest me some good icebreakers? Thanks in advance :D" ]

[ "Depends on the situation.\n\n\nIf there's somebody that I want to get to know, I usually look for something about their attire or what they're doing. Better if I end with an open-ended question about it.\n\nE.g. Cool set of earrings, graphic T-shirt, or if they're drinking an odd-colored drink at a bar. Never something that would be considered sexually charged.\n\n\"Wow, that' drink is really bright green. What's it called?\" ... \"Oh? What do they put in it?\" (You can get the bartender to help in that one, which makes it a three way conversation, which is less threatening all around)\n\n\nYou can point out something that you're both watching - fireworks, the band, people dancing... Whatever. If you're looking to start a connection (and you are), then an already shared experience is a good foundation.", "Find out what they look like they're into. Every single person has something they are passionate about or something they do on their free time. Examples are watching sports, watching tv shows, playing games, reading, traveling or whatever. Once you find that hobby, it'll open them up to talking about themselves. \n\nUsually if the convo goes cold, I'll just straight up ask them \"So what do you like to do on your free time?\" \n\nEven if they reply on a subject where you cannot relate to like make up or cars, you can ask them to tell you about it and what makes them so passionate about it. There, we just created a 15 min conversation. \n\nAlso, conversations and replies should come natural but when we are in a nervous situation, sometimes it's hard for us to think clearly so I would honestly just ask open ended questions and think of replies or other open ended questions that I can follow with. But that's just me and it might be overthinking the situation.", " Did you know that the original name for Pac-Man was Puck-Man? You’d think it was because he looks like a hockey puck but it actually comes from the Japanese phrase ‘Paku-Paku,’ which means to flap one’s mouth open and closed. They changed it because they thought Puck-Man would be too easy to vandalize, you know, like people could just scratch off the P and turn it into an F or whatever.", "Jokes are best... stupid ones are better. \n---\nQ: How much does a polar bear weight?\n---\nA: Just enough to break the ice...", "A couple years I had a class and there was something like a conversation tower. It starts with names, then I think talk about where both of you are from, asking about siblings, pets, then to work, travel, hobbies, sports. Also try and find there passion and stick to it. ", "\"I am extremely nervous in this situation and have no idea what to say. I even looked up icebreakers, but it never helps. So yeah. This is awkward to me\"" ]

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[ "How to stop eating out of boredom? A recent trending LPT gave me a good advice on how to figure out if I am hungry or it is just that I am bored at the moment. But how can I prevent myself from eating once I figure out I'm craving because of boredom when I hear an inner voice saying \"no, you actually are soooo hungry\"? How can I create habits that I don't eat on autopilot when I'm bored?", "How to stop eating out of boredom? A recent trending LPT gave me a good advice on how to figure out if I am hungry or it is just that I am bored at the moment. But how can I prevent myself from eating once I figure out I'm craving because of boredom when I hear an inner voice saying \"no, you actually are soooo hungry\"? How can I create habits that I don't eat on autopilot when I'm bored?", "How to stop eating out of boredom? A recent trending LPT gave me a good advice on how to figure out if I am hungry or it is just that I am bored at the moment. But how can I prevent myself from eating once I figure out I'm craving because of boredom when I hear an inner voice saying \"no, you actually are soooo hungry\"? How can I create habits that I don't eat on autopilot when I'm bored?", "How to stop eating out of boredom? A recent trending LPT gave me a good advice on how to figure out if I am hungry or it is just that I am bored at the moment. But how can I prevent myself from eating once I figure out I'm craving because of boredom when I hear an inner voice saying \"no, you actually are soooo hungry\"? How can I create habits that I don't eat on autopilot when I'm bored?", "How to stop eating out of boredom? A recent trending LPT gave me a good advice on how to figure out if I am hungry or it is just that I am bored at the moment. But how can I prevent myself from eating once I figure out I'm craving because of boredom when I hear an inner voice saying \"no, you actually are soooo hungry\"? How can I create habits that I don't eat on autopilot when I'm bored?", "How to stop eating out of boredom? A recent trending LPT gave me a good advice on how to figure out if I am hungry or it is just that I am bored at the moment. But how can I prevent myself from eating once I figure out I'm craving because of boredom when I hear an inner voice saying \"no, you actually are soooo hungry\"? How can I create habits that I don't eat on autopilot when I'm bored?", "How to stop eating out of boredom? A recent trending LPT gave me a good advice on how to figure out if I am hungry or it is just that I am bored at the moment. But how can I prevent myself from eating once I figure out I'm craving because of boredom when I hear an inner voice saying \"no, you actually are soooo hungry\"? How can I create habits that I don't eat on autopilot when I'm bored?" ]

[ "Activities, hobbies, chores, work, excercise etc.\n\nYou remember your parents response to \"I'm bored\"... It's actually not crazy. You need to physically engage yourself in something. When you *do* get hungry it'll be legit.", "I have the same problem. Best thing I've found is to keep your hands occupied. I know it sounds lame, but I recently picked up embroidery (kind of like cross stitch) as a hobby since it's a mindless activity that keeps me busy, plus I get a cool piece of art when I'm finished. I do it while I'm watching tv or netflix, since these are the times I would normally be snacking on chips or something.", "1) if you're not home, pack yourself a little snack. If you're really hungry, you will eat it. If it doesn't sound good to you, you're just bored.\n\n2) if you happen to be at home, and you crave food, find something else to take your mind off of it. Get away from the TV or the PC, go outside, or find something productive to do for at least a short period of time.", " Counting calories is a good way to shock yourself with how much you actually eat when you boredom graze. Once I realize how much I was eating that I didn't need to be eating, it was easier to stop.", "I made a goal to use all of my gear. I owned a ton of toys and hardly ever used them. Mtn Bike, Kayak, hiking gear, etc. I set out to use all of my gear this summer. It is keeping me busy and putting all this stuff to use. ", "I've noticed when I start off right with breakfast I'm alot less likely to eat junk through out the day. I'd recommend starting the day off with Quaker instant oatmeal and something else small like whole grain toast. Also, like others have said drink more water. Get a gallon jug and keep it with you.", "I just don't eat unless I genuinely feel hungry, like my stomach is growling or something. If I'm unsure I'll drink a glass of water or milk." ]

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[ "How to save money Every time I get my paycheck I feel like I need to spend it all. I'm currently 20 and realize I need to start saving money but can't ever save more and a couple hundred bucks before I end up taking it out and spending it. ", "How to save money Every time I get my paycheck I feel like I need to spend it all. I'm currently 20 and realize I need to start saving money but can't ever save more and a couple hundred bucks before I end up taking it out and spending it. ", "How to save money Every time I get my paycheck I feel like I need to spend it all. I'm currently 20 and realize I need to start saving money but can't ever save more and a couple hundred bucks before I end up taking it out and spending it. ", "How to save money Every time I get my paycheck I feel like I need to spend it all. I'm currently 20 and realize I need to start saving money but can't ever save more and a couple hundred bucks before I end up taking it out and spending it. ", "How to save money Every time I get my paycheck I feel like I need to spend it all. I'm currently 20 and realize I need to start saving money but can't ever save more and a couple hundred bucks before I end up taking it out and spending it. ", "How to save money Every time I get my paycheck I feel like I need to spend it all. I'm currently 20 and realize I need to start saving money but can't ever save more and a couple hundred bucks before I end up taking it out and spending it. ", "How to save money Every time I get my paycheck I feel like I need to spend it all. I'm currently 20 and realize I need to start saving money but can't ever save more and a couple hundred bucks before I end up taking it out and spending it. ", "How to save money Every time I get my paycheck I feel like I need to spend it all. I'm currently 20 and realize I need to start saving money but can't ever save more and a couple hundred bucks before I end up taking it out and spending it. ", "How to save money Every time I get my paycheck I feel like I need to spend it all. I'm currently 20 and realize I need to start saving money but can't ever save more and a couple hundred bucks before I end up taking it out and spending it. ", "How to save money Every time I get my paycheck I feel like I need to spend it all. I'm currently 20 and realize I need to start saving money but can't ever save more and a couple hundred bucks before I end up taking it out and spending it. ", "How to save money Every time I get my paycheck I feel like I need to spend it all. I'm currently 20 and realize I need to start saving money but can't ever save more and a couple hundred bucks before I end up taking it out and spending it. ", "How to save money Every time I get my paycheck I feel like I need to spend it all. I'm currently 20 and realize I need to start saving money but can't ever save more and a couple hundred bucks before I end up taking it out and spending it. ", "How to save money Every time I get my paycheck I feel like I need to spend it all. I'm currently 20 and realize I need to start saving money but can't ever save more and a couple hundred bucks before I end up taking it out and spending it. ", "How to save money Every time I get my paycheck I feel like I need to spend it all. I'm currently 20 and realize I need to start saving money but can't ever save more and a couple hundred bucks before I end up taking it out and spending it. ", "How to save money Every time I get my paycheck I feel like I need to spend it all. I'm currently 20 and realize I need to start saving money but can't ever save more and a couple hundred bucks before I end up taking it out and spending it. ", "How to save money Every time I get my paycheck I feel like I need to spend it all. I'm currently 20 and realize I need to start saving money but can't ever save more and a couple hundred bucks before I end up taking it out and spending it. " ]

[ "Decide how much to save and set up a recurring deposit account that withdraws that money into it when your salary comes.\n\nBasically save at the start of the month, not the end.\n\nAlso, think of your savings as an expense. That the money is gone... and you don't have access to it, just cos you saw something pretty that you want.", "I live in the UK, so not sure if this is something you guys can do in the states. \n\nI started saving up about 4 years ago to put a down payment on a house. The way I did it was quite simple.\n\nI opened up two bank accounts (A and B for discussion), with different banks. It was important for me to open with two different banks because it wouldn't give me the flexibility to transfer monies between accounts easily. This was important, because if it was too difficult to transfer money, I wouldn't bother spending so much. \n\nWhen I got paid every month into account A, the first thing I would do is estimate how much I needed to spend in the next 4 weeks. This exercise usually took all of 5 minutes with a handy calculator. Take into account any birthdays or parties you need attend, how much you need for fuel every week, how much you estimate you will spend on groceries, are you buying anything out of the ordinary in the next four weeks etc. etc.\n\nI would then transfer how much ever I could save and spend 2 minutes transferring this amount to account B - religiously. \n\nNow, I never had any cheque books or bank cards on me for account B. This was stored in a drawer at home and was never used. I would only check the account once a week to make sure there weren't any unusual activities. This was important, not having access to the cards reduced the chances of me accessing the account.\n\nI would use the account A for my day to days: bills, groceries, fuel, lunches, socialising and anything else that needed to be paid for. I also used this account to withdraw money if needed. But usually I never carried cash around. \n\nI also automated all my bill payments from Account A, that way, I wasn't spending time writing out cheques or physically going into offices to pay bills. \n\nHope this helps.\n\n", "www.mint.com can help you set up a budget - I went by the rule of thirds (third of your income on rent/mortgage, third on other living expenses, third to savings/debt payment).", "Learn to budget. Plus always pay in cash for everything. When you see the money leaving it's harder to spen than if you use a card and never see the actual money disappearing. Another thing to do is figure out what you actually make an hour after taxes and when you buy stuff see if the amount of time put in to earn that money is worth what your spending it on. ", "I've set up automatic bill payments for all my things; phone, car, water, electricity, etc. \n\nInstead of paying the amount they ask for, I started paying 5-15 dollars extra every time. It's not enough that I notice it, but it's enough that now every company owes me 3-5 hundred dollars.\n\nThis plan sounds dumb to a lot of people, but I work at a place where I *will* get laid off, possibly this week, maybe in a couple of years. It'll happen though, and when it does, I won't have to worry about paying bills for a good chunk of time.\n\nMy tip isn't great, but it works well for me because I actually cannot get the money out to spend somewhere on non-essentials, which is what I used to do. I have another savings in case shit hits the fan, but sometimes multiple shits hit the fan in a month, and at least I don't have to worry about my water getting shut off.", "I have been using [Digit](https://digit.co/home) for more than a year now. \n\nThe deal is it analyses your spending from your checking account or whatever and automatically withdraws money when it sees that you have extra money that you wouldn't normally spend. They promise they won't overdraft your account and you can make a withdrawal at any time (although it does take a few days). \n\nI signed up for it on a whim thinking I didn't have any extra money to save. But in the past year, they have helped me save over 1000$. It's been an interesting experience because you can see what they have chosen to take and sometimes I was like \"NO! I DON'T HAVE AN EXTRA 20$\" but I let it ride knowing I could get it out if I needed to, but I actually didn't need to.\n\nI think it works for me because it isn't tied to my bank account, so I tend to forget it's there. Also, you can't just get the money at a moment's notice so the temptation to spend it impulsively isn't there either. BUT if I know I need the money to pay an upcoming bill or whatever, I can still get at it.\n\nYMMV, but it's been super cool for me because I am like you, when I have money I just spend it til it's gone.\n\n \n\nI'm happy to answer more in-depth questions if you have them. I don't work for them or anything, but I do love the service.", "What worked for me was to set up recurring weekly deposits of small amounts - I'm talking $5-$20, depending on how much total you want to save a month. For example, every Monday $10 is transferred to savings. Tuesdays and Thursdays $5 is transferred. Every other Wednesday $20 is transferred. Something like that. The small amounts make it easier to do than transferring one lump sum in one go. They're also harder to notice when they're transferred out of your primary account so you're unlikely to stress over it.", "Try to find something to use as a savings goal like a trip or high price item that requires deposits from more than one pay check. Having a goal can motivate you towards adding money towards that goal.", "There's no simple tip you can use to fix your behavioural issues. Being able to withhold short term pleasure for long term gain is vital to prospering as a human. It's been a great evolutionary decider throughout human history. ", "Rule of 4.\n\n- **EXPENSES** - Identify your monthly expenses, get 1 month ahead and prepare to stay that way, by keeping an average of your recurring expenses, phone , regular food, internet, rent, electric , gas are more or less stuff that should stay more or less the same. TRY hard to keep this number about 35%-50% of your income or less - because you're just starting out - this might be pretty close to 60% or more but as you get better jobs - this number should relatively go down.\n\n- **SAVINGS** - get two accounts or , one savings split two ways, one checking, Your checking account is just where your paycheck lands, and you make payments from. Try to keep this about 30% of your income but not less than 15% if possible.\n\nYour savings account has two (and later three) chunks in it . \n\n - Permanent savings - this is the cash you want to save for doing big things, buying a house, getting married, paying for big future stuff - never touch this - as it's your reserve if you find yourself all the way up the creek and unemployed. \n *Investment* - When Permanent savings get's bouncing along and somewhat fleshed out break it up into an investment and savings account. Ultimately whether it's an index fund or a IRA or something, you should be putting cash into a retirement instrument of some kind.\n\n - **Oh shit fund** - Your 'oh shit fund' is not your emergency fund for when you are unemployed, THIS is where you bank some amount of money - it's entirely up to you how much - but I recommend at least a couple of thousand dollars eventually, so you are covered in an emergency.\n\nIt's there to cover some big expense or at least soften the blow of some bigger expense. It get's filled back first - when you deplete it , and you stop paying into it when you get to your safety level. It keeps you from bumming cash from family and friends, and keeps your cr", "Pay yourself first. \n\nMeaning, when you get your paycheck, put $100 in your savings account before you do anything. You can start at $50 or even $25, but making it a habit of putting money away each month will definitely help in the long run.\n\nBefore you know it, you'll have a couple thousand in your savings for emergencies, etc.\n\nGood luck!", "Just stop buying non-essentials. Do you really need that $7 Starbucks coffee, or that random item off Amazon, or the Day 1 Collectors ", "This tip is assuming that you currently use debit/cr", "Open a second savins account at you bank but ask the tell to oit a lock on it so you debit card can't pull money out of it. You can call the account whatever but o call mine the emergency fund. As for how much you put in I normally do fifty in it when I put my check in the bank and I put the rest into my normal account. Then two weeks later whenecet I cash my next check I put what ever I have left in the account into my emergency fund. You may have to wiggle with the numbers depending on income and bills. I started saving like this during my senior year of high school and I had over a $1,000 in my account before the year was over.", "Not quite what you're asking, but I feel everyone needs to know: Put 15% of your monthly pay into a savings account for when you're old and retired.", "Food is expensive, top ramen. Cup o noodles and a keurig. Disposable forks. Or save even more money and just wash forks" ]

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[ "How to find where bees are entering your house I have killed about twelve bees in the past two days and I believe its because its getting colder out and they are trying to find a place for the winter. ", "How to find where bees are entering your house I have killed about twelve bees in the past two days and I believe its because its getting colder out and they are trying to find a place for the winter. ", "How to find where bees are entering your house I have killed about twelve bees in the past two days and I believe its because its getting colder out and they are trying to find a place for the winter. ", "How to find where bees are entering your house I have killed about twelve bees in the past two days and I believe its because its getting colder out and they are trying to find a place for the winter. " ]

[ "Quit killing bees. Call a bee keeper, bee service, they will usually locate and relocate the hive for you at no cost (if they're honey bees).", "Hang out wherever you have seen them during the hours before sundown, when they 'come home' for the night. In other words, a stakeout. \n\nWhy do you have to kill them, are you allergic? Cause they are kind of endangered right now. \n\nI've seen several in my yard lately too, I think it's because the flower supply is shutting down for the year and I've still got some stuff blooming.", "A) look for a pile of dead bees. The workers just shove the bodies out the door. Find the pile and the hive is above it.\n\nB) call a bee keeper AKA an apiarist. They would bee happy for a free, fully formed colony. Ask nicely and you may get some honey at end of season ;)", "Please don't kill the bees. Just use a drinking cup and flat envelope to capture them and free them outside. " ]

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[ "Best ways to repel or stop mosquitos from biting. Its that time of year again, what alternatives are the best/ what bug sprays work the best?", "Best ways to repel or stop mosquitos from biting. Its that time of year again, what alternatives are the best/ what bug sprays work the best?", "Best ways to repel or stop mosquitos from biting. Its that time of year again, what alternatives are the best/ what bug sprays work the best?", "Best ways to repel or stop mosquitos from biting. Its that time of year again, what alternatives are the best/ what bug sprays work the best?", "Best ways to repel or stop mosquitos from biting. Its that time of year again, what alternatives are the best/ what bug sprays work the best?", "Best ways to repel or stop mosquitos from biting. Its that time of year again, what alternatives are the best/ what bug sprays work the best?", "Best ways to repel or stop mosquitos from biting. Its that time of year again, what alternatives are the best/ what bug sprays work the best?", "Best ways to repel or stop mosquitos from biting. Its that time of year again, what alternatives are the best/ what bug sprays work the best?" ]

[ "Drinking less sugary drinks helps. Cigarette smoke will keep a lot creatures at bay (cancer vs bites?). The best way of dealing is don't scratch. ", "If you are stationary ( like hanging out on the back deck on a summer evening) put a fan or two out there with you. They aren't strong flyers, so most of them will be blown away from the area you are hanging out in.", "I've heard that keeping a few dryer sheets in you pocket keeps them away but I've never actually tried it. ", "My 1SG in Iraq used to say that eating match heads works as a bug repellent... but he never was completly right in the head. never saw any bugs near him though...", "mosquitos love being in the dark. Don't dress in black or dark. In Buddhist way, if you avoid killing or harming mosquitos then your mercy seem to make them less try to bite you.\n", "i use rosmarin. i press it against several areas of my body including hair. works pretty good. smeels great and it is natural. also i put it on the cloths which also saves some laundry. ", "[Catnip.](http://www.ehow.com/how_2312448_make-catnip-mosquito-repellent.html) And if that doesn't work, the best stuff to put on the bites is tea tree oil. It's cheap, and stops the itching fast. I got eaten alive as a child, and I kept a vial of this stuff everywhere I went.", "This will sound funny but it really works they even use this in the Florida Everglades. There is a body oil called Skin So Soft made by AVON and last I checked it is carried in Wal Mart. There is a lotion as well but the oil works much better. This works better than any insect repellant do a search on Google to verify what I am saying." ]

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[ "How to keep shoe tounge from going to the side. Does'nt matter what kind of shoe I wear, the tongue always goes to the out side by the middle of the day. I usually where converse high tops. Tips?", "How to keep shoe tounge from going to the side. Does'nt matter what kind of shoe I wear, the tongue always goes to the out side by the middle of the day. I usually where converse high tops. Tips?", "How to keep shoe tounge from going to the side. Does'nt matter what kind of shoe I wear, the tongue always goes to the out side by the middle of the day. I usually where converse high tops. Tips?", "How to keep shoe tounge from going to the side. Does'nt matter what kind of shoe I wear, the tongue always goes to the out side by the middle of the day. I usually where converse high tops. Tips?" ]

[ "I feel you bro. Except this problem is only with my right shoe, my left shoe is completely unaffected :|", "just cut a double slit in the tongue and slip your laces through it.. i doubt anyone would notice.. most athletic shoes have something like this.", "I used to spell it tounge too until someone kept saying TOWNJE to me.\n\nNow I always say ton-goo to remember how to spell it. Like Feb Roo Airy.", "How do I even explain this...\n\nA while back I decided I wanted to do the laces where they're straight across from loop to loop instead of crisscrossing (hopefully that makes sense). I've only done it to one pair of shoes but the side effect was that it kept the tongue up straight.\n\nBasically instead of using even amounts of lace on both sides you keep one really long side and use that to lace up both sides of the shoe. At the end you'll need to run the shorter side of the laces you didn't use up to the top loop from the very bottom (" ]

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[ "How to get to smell of urine out of carpet My drunken roommate decided he couldn't make it to the bathroom last night (not an April fools prank), so it's not like a small child or pet spill", "How to get to smell of urine out of carpet My drunken roommate decided he couldn't make it to the bathroom last night (not an April fools prank), so it's not like a small child or pet spill", "How to get to smell of urine out of carpet My drunken roommate decided he couldn't make it to the bathroom last night (not an April fools prank), so it's not like a small child or pet spill", "How to get to smell of urine out of carpet My drunken roommate decided he couldn't make it to the bathroom last night (not an April fools prank), so it's not like a small child or pet spill", "How to get to smell of urine out of carpet My drunken roommate decided he couldn't make it to the bathroom last night (not an April fools prank), so it's not like a small child or pet spill", "How to get to smell of urine out of carpet My drunken roommate decided he couldn't make it to the bathroom last night (not an April fools prank), so it's not like a small child or pet spill", "How to get to smell of urine out of carpet My drunken roommate decided he couldn't make it to the bathroom last night (not an April fools prank), so it's not like a small child or pet spill" ]

[ "I really hope that didn't soak through to the subfloor, because it's going to be hard to get out. If you haven't already, put a towel over it, and put something heavy on top, soak up as much as you can, discard towel.\n\nYou can still use sprays or cleaning products designed for pet urine -- they will work on human urine as well. ", "This worked for me: http://ths.gardenweb.com/discussions/2488573/formula-to-get-cat-urine-out-permanently", "This is geared towards pet urine, but should work the same:\n\nhttp://www.geeksonhome.com/how_5617105_remove-carpet-stains-vinegar-peroxide.html", "That can be a big job if it's a decent sized room. Not just for the logistics of moving the carpet in and out, and for drying it, but especially for getting it stretched back down right.\n\nBut I agree that, if it's feasible, it's a better solution. Much easier to get at the padding and floor underneath.", "More like how to get the smell of carpet out of urine\n\nActually though, use Oxi Clean, works really well, take it outside and hose it down and scrub it with oxi clean and let it sit for a few hours then rinse it out thoroughly", "If it's damp, put dry towels down and stand on them to soak as much up as possible. Then use an enzyme-based cleaner. We use Nature's Miracle (Did in pet stores) for cat pee. Soak it pretty well - at least as saturated as it was with pee. Follow instructions on the jug.", "I have a foster dog who can't make it out. There's this stuff called Eco-88. It's expensive for a cleaner ($26 a bottle or so), but it's basically the most amazing cleaner ever. It's an enzyme cleaner specifically created for bio-matter, and has worked for me on urine, vomit, blood, and severe explosive diarrhea--most of it was a dog's, but still. " ]

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[ "How do I completely change the kind of person I am inside and out? I was raised by helicopter parents. This in turn has negatively impacted my personality and who I am as a person. While it's been many years since I moved out I have failed at my long term relationship (yes, singular), barely making it as a mom, and just barely living as an adult. The only thing I can do really well is my job. I have never lived on my own and only ever lived with partner. Everything was done for me until a certain point in the relationship. Other than that I'm a low value woman. I need to completely change myself 100% and I'm really confused where to start.", "How do I completely change the kind of person I am inside and out? I was raised by helicopter parents. This in turn has negatively impacted my personality and who I am as a person. While it's been many years since I moved out I have failed at my long term relationship (yes, singular), barely making it as a mom, and just barely living as an adult. The only thing I can do really well is my job. I have never lived on my own and only ever lived with partner. Everything was done for me until a certain point in the relationship. Other than that I'm a low value woman. I need to completely change myself 100% and I'm really confused where to start.", "How do I completely change the kind of person I am inside and out? I was raised by helicopter parents. This in turn has negatively impacted my personality and who I am as a person. While it's been many years since I moved out I have failed at my long term relationship (yes, singular), barely making it as a mom, and just barely living as an adult. The only thing I can do really well is my job. I have never lived on my own and only ever lived with partner. Everything was done for me until a certain point in the relationship. Other than that I'm a low value woman. I need to completely change myself 100% and I'm really confused where to start.", "How do I completely change the kind of person I am inside and out? I was raised by helicopter parents. This in turn has negatively impacted my personality and who I am as a person. While it's been many years since I moved out I have failed at my long term relationship (yes, singular), barely making it as a mom, and just barely living as an adult. The only thing I can do really well is my job. I have never lived on my own and only ever lived with partner. Everything was done for me until a certain point in the relationship. Other than that I'm a low value woman. I need to completely change myself 100% and I'm really confused where to start.", "How do I completely change the kind of person I am inside and out? I was raised by helicopter parents. This in turn has negatively impacted my personality and who I am as a person. While it's been many years since I moved out I have failed at my long term relationship (yes, singular), barely making it as a mom, and just barely living as an adult. The only thing I can do really well is my job. I have never lived on my own and only ever lived with partner. Everything was done for me until a certain point in the relationship. Other than that I'm a low value woman. I need to completely change myself 100% and I'm really confused where to start.", "How do I completely change the kind of person I am inside and out? I was raised by helicopter parents. This in turn has negatively impacted my personality and who I am as a person. While it's been many years since I moved out I have failed at my long term relationship (yes, singular), barely making it as a mom, and just barely living as an adult. The only thing I can do really well is my job. I have never lived on my own and only ever lived with partner. Everything was done for me until a certain point in the relationship. Other than that I'm a low value woman. I need to completely change myself 100% and I'm really confused where to start.", "How do I completely change the kind of person I am inside and out? I was raised by helicopter parents. This in turn has negatively impacted my personality and who I am as a person. While it's been many years since I moved out I have failed at my long term relationship (yes, singular), barely making it as a mom, and just barely living as an adult. The only thing I can do really well is my job. I have never lived on my own and only ever lived with partner. Everything was done for me until a certain point in the relationship. Other than that I'm a low value woman. I need to completely change myself 100% and I'm really confused where to start.", "How do I completely change the kind of person I am inside and out? I was raised by helicopter parents. This in turn has negatively impacted my personality and who I am as a person. While it's been many years since I moved out I have failed at my long term relationship (yes, singular), barely making it as a mom, and just barely living as an adult. The only thing I can do really well is my job. I have never lived on my own and only ever lived with partner. Everything was done for me until a certain point in the relationship. Other than that I'm a low value woman. I need to completely change myself 100% and I'm really confused where to start.", "How do I completely change the kind of person I am inside and out? I was raised by helicopter parents. This in turn has negatively impacted my personality and who I am as a person. While it's been many years since I moved out I have failed at my long term relationship (yes, singular), barely making it as a mom, and just barely living as an adult. The only thing I can do really well is my job. I have never lived on my own and only ever lived with partner. Everything was done for me until a certain point in the relationship. Other than that I'm a low value woman. I need to completely change myself 100% and I'm really confused where to start.", "How do I completely change the kind of person I am inside and out? I was raised by helicopter parents. This in turn has negatively impacted my personality and who I am as a person. While it's been many years since I moved out I have failed at my long term relationship (yes, singular), barely making it as a mom, and just barely living as an adult. The only thing I can do really well is my job. I have never lived on my own and only ever lived with partner. Everything was done for me until a certain point in the relationship. Other than that I'm a low value woman. I need to completely change myself 100% and I'm really confused where to start." ]

[ "To change who you are you need to accept you're going to have to do a lot of things that make you uncomfortable. Think of your personality like a muscle - to build it requires discomfort. You will be sore. You will be tired. Your entire body will tell you to just sit on the couch and be who you've always been.\n\nPush through. Keep at it. Celebrate small victories.", "Read the book Atomic Habits by James Clear. \n\n\"People think when you want to change your life, you need to think big. But world-renowned habits expert James Clear has discovered another way. He knows that real change comes from the compound effect of hundreds of small decisions - doing 2 push-ups a day, waking up 5 minutes earlier or reading just one more page. He calls him atomic habits.\"", "Fake it till you make it.\n\nIt's a cliche but it actually works, it is just slow.\n\nBasically, if you act like you already are the kind of person you want to be eventually you will trick yourself into being that person, inside and out.\n\n", "Its important that you realize there are things you want to work on. Pick one or two personality aspects - maybe an easy one, and a tough one, and start to work on them. For example, I had a bad habit of giving bad drivers the finger. Seems like a simple fix, but was pure reaction on my part. But slowly I stopped- had a lot of failures, but once I was able to anticipate the anger that preceded the act, I fixed the problem. \n\nGood luck, and maybe start with not being so hard on yourself. Everyone should want to change negative things about themselves, but not everything about you needs to change.", "Take classes. Cooking classes. Dancing classes. Handyman classes. Mechanic classes. Or ask friends with skills to teach you things. Research personal finance so that all that's in order. (I like r/personalfinance and they have lots of resources in their About section.) Set up a cleaning calendar with daily/weekly/monthly tasks to get you in good habits of maintaining your space. There are good examples for this online just a Google away in case you're not sure where to start. Research attachment theory and nonviolent communication for the relationships part of things (not just romantic ones) and don't be afraid to fail. Your parents failed you, so you have to stumble now instead of in your teens and early 20s. So get to stumbling, because you've gotta learn to walk before you can run.", "I'd start by just doing new things. Take a class that you don't think you'll be interested in. Volunteer someplace doing something you've never done. Just get experiences.", "Personally, I have a list of \"Things I'll never regret having spent time on\" and then that is what I spend my free time doing or reading about or learning about. This has allowed me to acquire several languages conversationally, my cooking skills have become pretty awesome, I understand the basics for a huge variety of things such as first aid, building things, tool work, physiology, finance, dance. Lol, I don't know if this applies but it has caused me to have huge confidence in myself in almost every area of life. Basically, I just know I can figure it out, no matter what it is. People call me :superhuman\" all the time (Which I hate - it makes me feel like I should small myself - but I try to resist that because I love my confidence), so I think it works.... LOL! Good luck with your **metanoia!** <<< 1 of my favorite words, although it was stolen by religion (ugh), originally it means a total transformation of self! You rock!\n\n", "Seek out a therapist, they can help you best. If you cannot afford one (and really look don't just assume you can't. Many offer reduced rates if you are low socio-economic status) work on your thoughts.\n\nThe normal cycle is Event - Thought - Feelings - Action.\n\nLook at what you are doing (Action) that you dislike. Identify your Feelings and Thoughts that lead you to take this action and then begin evaluating the Thoughts. \n\nAre they true, are they accurate, is there something you are missing?\n\nIf you find your Thoughts are not true or accurate, or if you are missing a piece of information, reframe the Thought. This will drive you to feel differently and eventually take a different Action.\n\nExample:\n\nYou do not answer the phone when someone calls. You identify you are feeling anxious when it rings and you're thinking that \"It's probably bad news\" so you avoid it.\n\nYou begin thinking about how all the times someone has called you, it's very rarely been bad news. You tell yourself that the next time the phone rings you will tell yourself it's unlikely to be bad news and you will answer.\n\nIt takes weeks of doing this but as you consistently do it, you find yourself answering the phone automatically.", "I did this 7 years ago. Read read read self-help, practice them (even though many things sound like feel-good crap), and trust the process. Life is a continuous consequence of your actions, which come from your mind. Control your thoughts, control your outcome.\n\nThe “regime changing” books were:\nSuccess Principles by Jack Canfield, the Speed of Trust by Covey Jr, and How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.", "Find a hobby, something you can do by yourself and *occasionally* involve your child in for fun.\n\nClasses are fine, but teaching yourself something is a great way to build confidence and independence. Try to become an expert, so you can teach others.\n\nWhen people seek out your knowledge or creations, it is the ultimate confidence boost." ]

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[ "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n", "How do I convince my mom that you don't need a college degree to get a job? I get that some jobs totally do require a degree, but in my case I'm trying to find a programming job (game development specifically), which usually does not require a degree. I'm a highschooler who's about to graduate this year and I absolutely do not want to waste 4 years in college for something that does not guarantee me a job and I've been self-teaching myself programming for quite some time now.\n\n" ]

[ "Getting a Bachelors degree in computer science will absolutely help you become a software developer. Might not be required but it’ll definitely help", "Breaking into the game design community is incredibly challenging. Who said that you don't need a degree? It also comes with crazy hours, and just okay pay.", "As a computer science major you could do sooo much networking in college to start your own software company or something. If that doesn’t work you’ll still have made so many connections just by being in the same program your odds of getting a great job go way up", "This is a competitive field even for people with degrees in CS. Now, going back to your question, like others said, go and get a job, but like you experienced, it’s a bit hard. \n\nBeing self taught is good. I can’t speak for the level of knowledge that you have, but without a degree in CS you will need to show what you know by creating an app, website, mini game that can show a little more than just basic knowledge. \n\nYou have a few options:\n\n1) keep applying like you’re doing right now.\n2) like above, develop something to show your skills\n3) sign up for a bootcamp that interests you (you still have to pay and study but for a few weeks instead of 4 years)\n4) go to college (of course not what you want)", "To get a job as a programmer out of highschool you really need to show something significant in how you've spent your last 5 years - nerd level stuff - hacking, building tools, charging neighbors for IT help, etc. \n\nAs for education, there is always a chance to waste those 4 years, but that depends on the school you choose, and your own behaviour. Don't blame degree in that. Yes, you might not fully get the training required to succeed, but college is way more than just the actual topic you're studying. I know few people in their late 30s who wish they would have gone to university, but they can't right now...and it impacts their current career. You never know what your future looks like, or who you might meet in the college that will shape your life in crazy good ways. It's truly up to you, not the college.", "Prove her wrong.\n\nI suggest releasing a mobile game on your own. Even if it's not successful it will be good experience and help you demonstrate to employers your skillet.\n\n", "See if there’s a community college near you that offers courses on computer science and programming. If nothing else, the professors you meet may have advice, or colleagues they could put you in touch with. Good luck in your endeavors!", "tell her the kids in the 90s all got told mechanics was the big thing at college,then 00s kids was told ICT and now its X,every gen gets lied too saddled with a ton of debt and cant find work cause every other kid was lied too thinking they will walk into a decent job the day they leave college.\n\ndo what you want anon,never do what others tell you\n\nyou want a programming job? make stuff at home and build a portfolio", "You get a job without the degree. Thats how i convinced mine. She cant make you go to college or force you into a job you dont want. Look for programming jobs and apply to as many as possible until one takes you on. Then do your job and let her stew on the fact that she was so obviously wrong. She might not admit it but shell know.", "Over your lifetime, you’ll be more financially secure more if you get a degree. And it’s not just about more salary, a solid compensation package will be even more important for you than for generations before you. That means decent health insurance, even life insurance, and retirement. \n\nI agree with going to community college. They will also have Career Services to help you be successful in interviews. They can offer financial aid and student employment on campus (maybe even workstudy, depending on your income).\n\nThe thing is, you need to START. It goes by quicker than you think and you’ll be glad you did it. Suck it up and do it.", "I've got a bachelor in CS and let me tell you, the amount of places that require a masters is enormous. If you like CS take your degree, if you are good and you already know how to program you can work part-time while doing the degree. College will not teach you programming per se but some stuff is incredibly useful and quite difficult to learn as a self-taught.", "By getting into a trade. A good one that is always needed. Go to a trade school or join a local trade union. Some unions like The International Brotherhood of Electrical Workers (IBEW) will train you and get you job placement with contractors. There are also pipefitting unions and others that do the same thing.", "This is a conservative viewpoint and the only way to counter a conservative viewpoint is to prove it wrong. It is emotional and fear based. Not logical or reasonable. Get a job. Just get a job. The other way is to walk away from the conversation. Move out. Use the money that you've been saving for moving out to...actually move out.\n\nI've seen several comments about what your mom wants. You can do whatever you like. You're an adult now. All of the words that you ignored...the ones like \"you have to have a plan for when you get out of hs\" are coming true. You wrote this because you didn't make a plan and still have a master because you didn't plan to move out. You are comfortable at home with mommy and it is meant to be that way. She controls you because you don't want to leave.\n\nHave a little empathy. She wants to take care of your welfare, but she doesn't want you to take advantage of it and ruin your life by being lazy. Not sure why she'd think that. You did every assignment that came your way in HS, didn't you? A gap year is a year not in any school...it doesn't mean you are playing video games at mommy's house. It means you are traveling in exploring or interning or something that will enrich your life. At the very least you should NOT be at your mom's house.\n\nStart by using that language. It's not your home. It's your mom's house.\n\nGet a job. Move out. (not in that order) Keep an open mind about going to college later. Let it be a decision, not a political position.\n\nBottom line is you'll be fine either way. You and your mom both have to have more trust and confidence in yourselves and each other. But you'll never counter a conservative idea with logic and reason.", "If you have the option to do it, coming from someone who didn't go to college, go. You will miss out on many life experiences and it will guarantee you a place in the workforce for as long as you are alive. Without a degree, you are going to lose out on jobs to the ones who did go to college, regardless of your skills and knowledge.", "Find middle ground. Agree that it helps, but there are exceptions where people get great jobs without degrees. In addition, there are some degrees that you absolutely need to get jobs, such as many healthcare careers, engineering, law, etc.", "Ask her why so many college graduates are jobless. \n\nNo but really, programming is a highly competitive industry, and to my knowledge, a degree in a computer science field will pay off in the long term. Sometimes jobs want to see that you had the patience and work ethic to pursue a degree, more than they are concerned about whether you know what you're doing. You could also learn things you don't yet know from people who probably also were self-teaching programming. If nothing else, you could network with like-minded individuals, not get the degree and start your own business/get entry into someone else's. \n\nThe value of a college degree is disproportionately driven by STEM majors, meaning that when people talk about the benefit of getting a higher education, your preferred pathway is the one that is offsetting the cost of the useless degrees like Art history and Gender studies. \n\nOtherwise, she probably won't agree until you show her. Good luck in the years to come and congratulations on your upcoming graduation.", "> which usually does not require a degree.\n\nthis is incorrect. it usually does require one. not for the knowledge necessarily, but because companies by and large don't even give you an interview without it, unless you already have some experience.\n\nin your boat, you are almost going to have to look for startups with crap pay, to get a foot in the door and get some experience on the resume.\n\nalso, build a portfolio. not a bunch of hello world apps, nobody cares about that.\ngames you have developed and built to completion. don't have to be COD level games, just a functioning game that shows the dedication, and knowledge of code etc to make it all work. \n\nthings of that nature.\n\neven then after some years of grunt work at nobody companies, the big boys, still will not even give you an interview without that piece of paper.", "You don’t necessarily need a degree but it’s definitely nice to have and you meet a lot of people that will become your friends and will later work in the same field as you, which is very helpful to find a job and everyone besides you will have this advantage. Unfortunately I don’t know if it’s worth 4 years of your life in your nieche but it’s something to consider.", "While you apply, do things on the side like developing things on your own. But even in that field, they might require a degree. Maybe look into getting at least an associates while doing private work on the side to build a portfolio.", "While a degree is not required for many things, often different training will help greatly.\n\nAs for game design, learn from as many different courses and classes as you can. Different ones teach different things. The object is to learn information and processes that you can apply, not necessarily the piece of paper at the end. And not just programming, but board game, card game, sports games, etc. courses.\n\nThat'll all help you do the actual job better, but to get you in, certain pieces of paper will make you look more attractive to certain employers.\n\n", "When you graduate take a gap year and then while taking this gap year apply for every job in the field you want to enter. Get a job offer? Perfect. Don't get a job offer? You can easily go to university the year after.", "Trades pay well but need certifications and apprenticeships. Car salesmen get hire VERY easy, and if your well mannered, you can easily make 80-160k a year, but they work a lot of hours", "The piece of paper proves that your not a dummy. There are other ways to prove your not a dummy, but it’s harder. These days, employers justify salary based on education too, in some circumstances. \n\nYour mom isn’t right but she’s not wrong. \n\nDo you have anything finished yet? Anything like a portfolio? How are you going to prove you can keep pace with (company’s) needs? “I really want this” doesn’t work with someone else’s money.", "Show her.\n\n Do you have a portfolio of little project? Are you active in some programming community? Are you planning to get some Certifications? (3/6 months)\n\nIt's normal for her (and potential employers) to think you just want to take the \"easy\" way in the gaming industry. \nEven if you have very good programming skills, doesn't mean you don't have to show you can take a \"job\" and finish it. Or you can be part of a team. \n\nBest of luck", "Keep advancing your skill set and don’t stop applying. \n\nGet your foot in the door and then work your way up from there. You don’t have to say anything to your mom, actions speak for themselves. Just keep working at it.", "Just go and get a job, if you find one that makes decent money you literally don't need to care about what people tell you. Obviously don't go for some minimum wage job but waitress or really any service job works for the short term. Just research some out of the box jobs, my current gig didn't need a degree and I'm very well off.", "I would look into certificates on Coursera and others and have a plan to finish them and get a job after. Show her its well thought out and ur not just giving up and youll be fine", "I dropped out of college. College is more than a degree to get a job its also a social thing. Give you great advantage in life socially that you don’t understand yet. I’d say go to college tbh.\n\nBut i don’t know for sure. Each individual has unique situation", "I don't have a degree and have a job, but it can help you improve your earnings and opportunities. But in your case, a degree would certainly help, even if you are already good in what you are doing, in my country there is this entrepeneur who is one of the most rich people here, he doesn't have a degree, and he was a homeless man in his Young age.", "Get a degree, it is a better use of your early 20s. If you're the type of person that doesn't need a degree you wouldn't need to convince your mom, you'd need to convince employers.\n\nI have no degree but I got here by spending the equivalent time of a degree on working for free (free overtime completing projects that were beyond my reach and not expected of me, because I wanted to learn) or underpaid because I had to get my foot in the door somehow. I also have huge gaps in my knowledge compared to someone with a degree (I'm almost 40) because all of my time spent learning was focused on whatever my employer needed at the time.\n\nAlso when you have no degree the imposter syndrome never goes away.", "Essentially your degree is a slip of paper that “proves” you can do your job, and without it that assurance is not guaranteed. So the way I see it you go one of two ways; you suck it up and crush out four years of college and hope you land a job, or you go entrepreneurial and start creating games as a side hustle while you work at any job that keeps you close to technology. Best of luck OP!", "College gives you a good network and different perspectives/opportunities. Although I don’t think it’s required it certainly does help in more ways than just a degree. A structured learning path is exponentially helpful in any field especially when your able to ask the tutor questions and pick their brain and your fellow acquaintances.\n\nWho knows you could meet people there that you create a startup with and make millions. But also maybe you work your ass off and improve the right people and get an opportunity to work for someone before schooling is finished. Then again you might be able to be successful right off the rip, but I would say make projects right now. As many as you can and as creative as possible. If your not going to go the route of further education then make something to show your future employers and your mom your passion, desire to learn, and potential.", "40% of the people who start college don't finish it within 8 years according to Forbes in 2021, and also only 42% of the people in the US working have a degree. So clearly it's not necessary. But parents worry about their children, and the only thing that will stop it is you getting a well paying job, and time.", "Had to leave my bachelors off my cv to get a job.\n\nNow I'm ineligible for any apprenticeships or training as I have an qualification that is 'technically' greater than them." ]

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[ "Camping Pro Tips Are their any cool tips you guys can give for people going camping this summer?\n\nThanks", "Camping Pro Tips Are their any cool tips you guys can give for people going camping this summer?\n\nThanks", "Camping Pro Tips Are their any cool tips you guys can give for people going camping this summer?\n\nThanks", "Camping Pro Tips Are their any cool tips you guys can give for people going camping this summer?\n\nThanks", "Camping Pro Tips Are their any cool tips you guys can give for people going camping this summer?\n\nThanks", "Camping Pro Tips Are their any cool tips you guys can give for people going camping this summer?\n\nThanks", "Camping Pro Tips Are their any cool tips you guys can give for people going camping this summer?\n\nThanks", "Camping Pro Tips Are their any cool tips you guys can give for people going camping this summer?\n\nThanks", "Camping Pro Tips Are their any cool tips you guys can give for people going camping this summer?\n\nThanks", "Camping Pro Tips Are their any cool tips you guys can give for people going camping this summer?\n\nThanks", "Camping Pro Tips Are their any cool tips you guys can give for people going camping this summer?\n\nThanks" ]

[ " * ditch the tent instead of a hammock ... see /r/hammocks .. you will NEVER go back\n\n * read /r/campingandhiking\n\n * Go ultralight. \n\n * ditch your boots for trail runners with a plate in the sole. Half the weight... shaving a pound off your shoes is like shaving 10 lbs off your pack weight.\n\n * Consider an ultralight alcohol tea light stove. \n\n * go with a down sleeping bag - just keep it dry\n\n * don't bring two version of your clothes. Instead ... when they get dirty... take a 'shower' at about 1pm when it's super hot. Then wear your wet clothes... they will dry in an hour or two if they are ultralight. They'll also keep you hella cool on the trail when its 90F.\n\n * make sure to use multi-use gear... trek poles make a great stand for a tarp if you want to build an ultralight tent.\n\n * get ultralight pants that allow you to remove them underneath the knees. Now you don't' need to pack in a pair of shorts.\n\n * Do you REALLY need that lantern? Just don't stay awake when it is dark out... go to sleep. You've just shaved a significant amount of weight. Don't go TOO light though.. it's important to have SOME light in case there is an emergency (bear in camp).", "a GOOD knife: necessary for many many simple tasks. you'll use it more than you think\n\nGOOD hiking boots: don't compromise on cheap hiking boots: get something waterproof (gore-tex) and with a vibram sole\n\nwool socks: wool keeps warm even when wet, dries relatively quickly, and is relatively resistant to foot odor\n\nthin light layers: use multiple layers of non-cotton clothing. it is easy to shed or gain layers when it is too hot/cold. You also don't need to buy an expensive heavy coat if you layer. \n\nremember: \"cotton is rotten\"--cotton is heavy, highly absorbant of water, doesn't dry quickly, and usually not very durable", "[Learn some useful knots.](http://www.animatedknots.com/) Being able to tie a few good knots can make both setting up and breaking down your camping gear a lot easier.", "What kind of camping are you planning on doing? Are you looking to go rugged and/or minimalist? Or trying to make yourself completely comfortable in the outdoors? Planning on hiking? What's the location/environment?", "If it gets cold at night and you have a camp fire, put a medium/large stone near the fire to warm it up. When you go to bed wrap it in a shirt and snuggle it! I do this with two stones, one by my chest and one by my feet. \n\nalso, don't go to bed wearing the same socks you were in all day. you may not realize it at the time but your sweat will keep your feet cold and moist all night. ", "Bring a giant jug of water for brushing & washing. Bring a second giant jug for drinking. Bring more towels than you think you'll need, and burn all of your paper waste. Bring only paper cups, plates etc unless you want to do a lot of dishes or leave a lot of trash. Bring a couple pairs of sneakers and flip flops. Assume it will be both hotter and colder when you're there. Bring metal skewers for roasting. Stick them in the fire afterwards and rub off the soot with a thick rag. If you can find a metal sandwich container get bread, pie filling, butter & powdered sugar. Make a grilled cheese with pie filling instead of cheese, put it in the container, and drop it in the coals. Pull it out 5-10 minutes later, sprinkle some powdered sugar & you have fresh cheap pie. ", "1. bring a cheap paint drop cloth as a ground cloth under your tent - just roll it out and put your tent stakes right through it. It keeps moisture from sticking to the bottom of your tens and seeping though.\n\n2. pre-make any food you can. Form hamburger patties, meatballs, etc before you leave and stick them in a baggie.\n\n3. Never use teflon pans on an open fire. Get a set of stainless steel pans from Goodwill/Criagslist. Aluminum's hard to cook on over an open fire.\n\n4. put a thin coat of dish soap on the outside of your cooking pans before you put them over the fire. It washes right off and keeps the metal from discoloring.\n\n5. If you're planning on grilling meat like burgers or steaks, bring a grill grate off of your patio grill.\n\n6. always bring your own TP.\n\n7. Hand a tarp over your tent. You can keep the rain fly off so it doesn't get too hot without worrying about getting wet.\n\n8. Bring canned beer, a lot of places don't allow glass bottles.", "Take some cotton balls and roll them in your hands to make a thick ropey thing. Then dip it in melted wax (rest it on a fork). This will work great for starting fires.\n\nWear two pairs of socks at night, one wool.\n\nBring one of those little whisk brooms for getting dirt out of the tent.\n\nIf you'll have your car with you, don't forget a tub or big pot for washing dishes in.\n\nBring marshmallows. That never gets old.", "If you use a large water jug, drop a bar of soap into a nylon stocking and tie it to the handle of the jug. It will lather right through the stocking and you can wash your hands without having to worry about dropping the soap in the mud!", "Folding saws /bow saws are more useful than a hatchet/axe for the average camper. That being said the two most important things a real woodsmen would miss the most........a metal pot and an axe.", "If your clothes get wet, all you need to do is to put them into the bottom of your sleeping bag! Your body heat will dry them out!\n\nBring at least two pairs of shoes, if one pair gets wet, that's them gone for a few days\n\nBags, plastic and black bin bags. You will thank me later for the time you can save by putting the dirty stuff in them, instead of loose in your main bag." ]

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[ "How can I pour the last bits of cereal out of the bag without that \"sand\" and without using my fingers? Title pretty much says it all, but I was wondering if anyone has any good ideas for getting out the last few Cheerios or whatever out of the bag without dumping all that sandy stuff into the bowl? Also, I hate sticking my fingers in the bag, and that doesn't even work well.", "How can I pour the last bits of cereal out of the bag without that \"sand\" and without using my fingers? Title pretty much says it all, but I was wondering if anyone has any good ideas for getting out the last few Cheerios or whatever out of the bag without dumping all that sandy stuff into the bowl? Also, I hate sticking my fingers in the bag, and that doesn't even work well." ]

[ "If you shake the bag lightly, all of the cereal kief would settle to the bottom leaving the cereal sitting on top. Hold the cereal kief down by pinching the bag between the cereal and the kief. Holding the bottom part closed. Then pour the cereal out.", "It's quite a lot of effort, but you could pour the \"sand\" through a colander-type-thing into the bin, and then eat what the colander has caught. Or you could just throw the bits away, or man up and eat the lot :P" ]

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[ "Tips for rejoining the workforce after years away from it I was hoping someone could direct me to resources for stay-at-home moms looking to rejoin the full-time workforce after several years of not working.\n\nI don't believe I have any reliable references from my past as most of my job history consisted of minimum wage part-time jobs where I didn't make much of an impact; they were usually positions that had a high turnover rate. And since I didn't go (or rather, finish) the college route, I'm pretty much starting from scratch with career options. \n\nAny and all advice would be appreciated.", "Tips for rejoining the workforce after years away from it I was hoping someone could direct me to resources for stay-at-home moms looking to rejoin the full-time workforce after several years of not working.\n\nI don't believe I have any reliable references from my past as most of my job history consisted of minimum wage part-time jobs where I didn't make much of an impact; they were usually positions that had a high turnover rate. And since I didn't go (or rather, finish) the college route, I'm pretty much starting from scratch with career options. \n\nAny and all advice would be appreciated.", "Tips for rejoining the workforce after years away from it I was hoping someone could direct me to resources for stay-at-home moms looking to rejoin the full-time workforce after several years of not working.\n\nI don't believe I have any reliable references from my past as most of my job history consisted of minimum wage part-time jobs where I didn't make much of an impact; they were usually positions that had a high turnover rate. And since I didn't go (or rather, finish) the college route, I'm pretty much starting from scratch with career options. \n\nAny and all advice would be appreciated.", "Tips for rejoining the workforce after years away from it I was hoping someone could direct me to resources for stay-at-home moms looking to rejoin the full-time workforce after several years of not working.\n\nI don't believe I have any reliable references from my past as most of my job history consisted of minimum wage part-time jobs where I didn't make much of an impact; they were usually positions that had a high turnover rate. And since I didn't go (or rather, finish) the college route, I'm pretty much starting from scratch with career options. \n\nAny and all advice would be appreciated.", "Tips for rejoining the workforce after years away from it I was hoping someone could direct me to resources for stay-at-home moms looking to rejoin the full-time workforce after several years of not working.\n\nI don't believe I have any reliable references from my past as most of my job history consisted of minimum wage part-time jobs where I didn't make much of an impact; they were usually positions that had a high turnover rate. And since I didn't go (or rather, finish) the college route, I'm pretty much starting from scratch with career options. \n\nAny and all advice would be appreciated.", "Tips for rejoining the workforce after years away from it I was hoping someone could direct me to resources for stay-at-home moms looking to rejoin the full-time workforce after several years of not working.\n\nI don't believe I have any reliable references from my past as most of my job history consisted of minimum wage part-time jobs where I didn't make much of an impact; they were usually positions that had a high turnover rate. And since I didn't go (or rather, finish) the college route, I'm pretty much starting from scratch with career options. \n\nAny and all advice would be appreciated." ]

[ "Current stay at home mom, former college advisor here. If you have a general idea of what environment you would like to work in or what your strengths are, community college is a great option. You could do anything from take one class, a small series of related classes to get a certificate, or go all in by starting your framework for a full on degree/transfer to a 4 year college. Lots of options and lots of in between that will refresh you for the workforce now. Also since you haven't finished a degree, something tells me you have some possible Pell Grant waiting.", "I rejoined the workforce 2 years ago after being a SAHM for 10ish years.\n\nI still wanted to have time off with my kids in the summer and have the same school days off. So I looked into become a paraprofessional with the school. I started as a substitute para and was able to get hired on full time not too much later.\n\nETA school always need sub paras and sub teachers.", "A nice way to get the ball rolling is using a temp agency. I've had two large gaps in my employment and there are two things I noticed: \n\n1) Getting used to working on a schedule again sucks and takes some adjustment\n\n2) When you haven't worked in a while, you lose your skill. This includes \"catching onto\" what and how you're supposed to your job. The longer you're out of work, the slower you are at getting accustomed to your new job.\n\nIt's good to get some practice and adjustment out of the way at a temporary place. If you suck as a temp, nobody cares. There's less pressure than at a place you're trying to stay permanently.\n\nAlternatively, you can volunteer. It's not as structured as working for a temp agency, but it keeps your body and mind sharp and it looks damn good on your resume.", "Use a temp agency, they’re designed to help connect you with potential jobs from companies in the area", "I would start with creating a profile on LinkedIn and connect with other people you know from all aspects of your life, past and present. You can do all that with a free account. Click around and observe, both people and corporations/companies, and build a front-facing profile that represents who you are and what you want to do. From there, you can upgrade your account and reach out to potential employers.", "Customer service job. Yes being on the phone sucks but in every company I’ve worked it’s a “feeder” position meaning they are preferred candidates for other jobs in the company. Min to no education or work experience requirements. Just come up with a few good examples of how you were able to professionally communicate over the phone for interview and you’re in." ]

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[ "How do I deal with my uncontrollable 14-year-old sister who's making horrible choices, associating with the wrong people, and ultimately hurting her future? ", "How do I deal with my uncontrollable 14-year-old sister who's making horrible choices, associating with the wrong people, and ultimately hurting her future? " ]

[ "Consequences for her actions would be a start. Cut off money, take her phone, call the cops when she commits crimes.", "Keep throwing love at her. Sit down non judgemental and listen. Ask if she is OK at her father's place. I've been on my own since the age of 14. If I didn't have friends I wouldn't have been able to deal with the drama of my parents divorce. Therapy is good, she needs an outlet and to learn how to cope with change. Let her keep doing softball, the back and forth between to griping parents isn't helping. They need therapy as well to deal with the loss of their marriage and how they move on and not stay in the past. Family therapy as well if possible for all of you. If she has a guidance counselor at school seek their assistance as well. " ]

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[ "Roommates are having a party while I'm out of town. I have a gaming pc, ps4, and an Xbox one. I'm taking my Xbox and ps4. I also hid my pc. What else can I do to prepare?", "Roommates are having a party while I'm out of town. I have a gaming pc, ps4, and an Xbox one. I'm taking my Xbox and ps4. I also hid my pc. What else can I do to prepare?", "Roommates are having a party while I'm out of town. I have a gaming pc, ps4, and an Xbox one. I'm taking my Xbox and ps4. I also hid my pc. What else can I do to prepare?", "Roommates are having a party while I'm out of town. I have a gaming pc, ps4, and an Xbox one. I'm taking my Xbox and ps4. I also hid my pc. What else can I do to prepare?" ]

[ "Take the gaming pc hard drive with you. Are you willing to risk them finding out about you *gaming* pc? :)", "Buy a lock that locks from the outside, take your old one off, put new one on and keep the keys with you. Also agree with buying like a 24 pack of cheap beer and leaving it on the counter to deter curiosity about your room. Room mates are just the worst kind of people, especially if you are the most responsible of them. ", "Put thumbtacks on the ground. Put itching powder on your bed. Get a bottle of liquid ass and rig it so it sprays when your door opens.", "Put it in your closet. Box up the gpu, cpu and hdd. Remove all coolers in it. Hide it if possible under the bed or up high is a secret place." ]

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[ "How get the most out of your efficiency apartment? Moving into my first efficiency with my girlfriend next week and it's just a huge room. The bathroom, kitchen and a 12x12 windowless basement room are all separated but how do I get the most out of my living space?", "How get the most out of your efficiency apartment? Moving into my first efficiency with my girlfriend next week and it's just a huge room. The bathroom, kitchen and a 12x12 windowless basement room are all separated but how do I get the most out of my living space?", "How get the most out of your efficiency apartment? Moving into my first efficiency with my girlfriend next week and it's just a huge room. The bathroom, kitchen and a 12x12 windowless basement room are all separated but how do I get the most out of my living space?", "How get the most out of your efficiency apartment? Moving into my first efficiency with my girlfriend next week and it's just a huge room. The bathroom, kitchen and a 12x12 windowless basement room are all separated but how do I get the most out of my living space?", "How get the most out of your efficiency apartment? Moving into my first efficiency with my girlfriend next week and it's just a huge room. The bathroom, kitchen and a 12x12 windowless basement room are all separated but how do I get the most out of my living space?", "How get the most out of your efficiency apartment? Moving into my first efficiency with my girlfriend next week and it's just a huge room. The bathroom, kitchen and a 12x12 windowless basement room are all separated but how do I get the most out of my living space?" ]

[ "When I split a small 2 bedroom on bathroom apartment with another person I realized how much vertical storage can help and how little I used it. I had a larger desk so I built a bookshelf/storage piece that sat on top of the desk. We got a shelf system designed to go over a toilet so that both our stuff had room in the bathroom. I got some bed risers and was able to double stack the under the bed storage containers under it. We got end tables and a coffee table that had storage underneath them.\n\nThis type of stuff allowed access to a lot more floor space than I thought was possible in that apartment.", "find pieces that can play more than one role in your life. in my studio, my desk is set up during the day, but at night, i move my seating around and the desk becomes the dinner table. keep things organized - especially the kitchen. do invest in some organizational tools at the container store to help keep things orderly. also, smart shelving like floating wall shelves, and decor like large leaning mirrors, can really improve the space.", "Double function furniture. Couch w/storage under the seat (IKEA has tons of these) or ottomans with storage (quick seating, good for hiding crap), and get rid of crap you honestly don't need.\n\nSeriously. Less clutter = space looks bigger. Oh, also, a loft bed if you can; visually & practically frees up floor space, and you could put your desk or TV or whatnot underneath it (if your ceilings are high enough).\n\nhttp://www.apartmenttherapy.com has TONS and TONS of ideas for this type of situation. Check out the Tours section under \"small space living\". ", "Make sure everything has a place and remains there. In a space that small, a dirty shirt on the floor will make your whole home look like a pigsty.\n\nLive simply and own as little as possible. Most people \"need\" less than 1/10 of items they own. ", "the less wallspace a piece of furniture takes up the better. Why not position your desk out so that the side of the desk is hugging the wall? Keep that in mind--less wall space.", "Try to keep some empty space in the middle of the room with corners occupied by furniture. It makes the room look spacious as well as easier to move around in." ]

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[ "Disney World vacation. I'm taking my children (3 and 5) to Walt Disney World in Orlando.\n\nDates are from sept 12 to sept 16 (dates are movable by a couple of days if better deals are known)\n\nI plan to stay in Orlando for 4 to 5 days, I want to take them to Disney, Sea World, Hollywood studios and such.\n\nI need advice on staying in a Disney property and purchasing a tickets in advance to save $$$.\n\nI'll bring my car with me.\n\nTnx in advance", "Disney World vacation. I'm taking my children (3 and 5) to Walt Disney World in Orlando.\n\nDates are from sept 12 to sept 16 (dates are movable by a couple of days if better deals are known)\n\nI plan to stay in Orlando for 4 to 5 days, I want to take them to Disney, Sea World, Hollywood studios and such.\n\nI need advice on staying in a Disney property and purchasing a tickets in advance to save $$$.\n\nI'll bring my car with me.\n\nTnx in advance", "Disney World vacation. I'm taking my children (3 and 5) to Walt Disney World in Orlando.\n\nDates are from sept 12 to sept 16 (dates are movable by a couple of days if better deals are known)\n\nI plan to stay in Orlando for 4 to 5 days, I want to take them to Disney, Sea World, Hollywood studios and such.\n\nI need advice on staying in a Disney property and purchasing a tickets in advance to save $$$.\n\nI'll bring my car with me.\n\nTnx in advance", "Disney World vacation. I'm taking my children (3 and 5) to Walt Disney World in Orlando.\n\nDates are from sept 12 to sept 16 (dates are movable by a couple of days if better deals are known)\n\nI plan to stay in Orlando for 4 to 5 days, I want to take them to Disney, Sea World, Hollywood studios and such.\n\nI need advice on staying in a Disney property and purchasing a tickets in advance to save $$$.\n\nI'll bring my car with me.\n\nTnx in advance", "Disney World vacation. I'm taking my children (3 and 5) to Walt Disney World in Orlando.\n\nDates are from sept 12 to sept 16 (dates are movable by a couple of days if better deals are known)\n\nI plan to stay in Orlando for 4 to 5 days, I want to take them to Disney, Sea World, Hollywood studios and such.\n\nI need advice on staying in a Disney property and purchasing a tickets in advance to save $$$.\n\nI'll bring my car with me.\n\nTnx in advance" ]

[ "Try going to /r/orlando if there is one. There might be some employees willing to sell you passes for cheaper than you would pay at the gate?", "Stayed at animal kingdom last sept. eat breakfast and really any meal in your room so splurgenanlittle for a kitchenette. If we ate off property and not in a park we loved Waffle House. Seriously cheap and good food. Food is your biggest cost. We went to Walmart when we first got there. Stocked up. Also Walmart has huge selection of disnetbtshirts and other souvenirs for a fraction of cost in parks. ", "I work for Disney and when my family come to visit the get a room at the all star resort, and I recommend that.", "Get Park Hopper tickets if you can. We would start out the day at the place that opened early and spend the night at Magic Kingdom, which stays open much later and has great evening events. The second night we were there the big park remained open until 1am. We were running from the end of rides to the front of the line over and over on the Scream Machine and Splash Mountain a few of the nights. ", "Definitely stay at any value resort. \n \nBuy bread for sandwiches and little snacks and drinks. Bring a cooler with you (if the hotel doesn't have a fridge.) Eat outside of disney as much as you can" ]

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[ "How to deal with people who always try to rile you. Usually by reminding you of your past failures or your flaws", "How to deal with people who always try to rile you. Usually by reminding you of your past failures or your flaws" ]

[ "Just remember that others are probably on your side, even if they aren't saying anything.\nIf you overreact, they won't take your side, even if you're right.", "Be overly nice to them, almost (but not quite) to the point of condescending. It's the opposite of what they are trying to achieve and they'll soon stop. " ]

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[ "How to keep mouth closed when sleeping at night? I wake up every morning with a mouth that feels like sand (when I touch my tongue there seems to be no moisture whatsoever). I've tried lying on my back, either side, using lots of pillows, using no pillows. I don't know what else to do. I even tried using a sleep mask on the top of my head and using the elastic bit to hold my jaw together, but it kept falling off.\n", "How to keep mouth closed when sleeping at night? I wake up every morning with a mouth that feels like sand (when I touch my tongue there seems to be no moisture whatsoever). I've tried lying on my back, either side, using lots of pillows, using no pillows. I don't know what else to do. I even tried using a sleep mask on the top of my head and using the elastic bit to hold my jaw together, but it kept falling off.\n", "How to keep mouth closed when sleeping at night? I wake up every morning with a mouth that feels like sand (when I touch my tongue there seems to be no moisture whatsoever). I've tried lying on my back, either side, using lots of pillows, using no pillows. I don't know what else to do. I even tried using a sleep mask on the top of my head and using the elastic bit to hold my jaw together, but it kept falling off.\n", "How to keep mouth closed when sleeping at night? I wake up every morning with a mouth that feels like sand (when I touch my tongue there seems to be no moisture whatsoever). I've tried lying on my back, either side, using lots of pillows, using no pillows. I don't know what else to do. I even tried using a sleep mask on the top of my head and using the elastic bit to hold my jaw together, but it kept falling off.\n", "How to keep mouth closed when sleeping at night? I wake up every morning with a mouth that feels like sand (when I touch my tongue there seems to be no moisture whatsoever). I've tried lying on my back, either side, using lots of pillows, using no pillows. I don't know what else to do. I even tried using a sleep mask on the top of my head and using the elastic bit to hold my jaw together, but it kept falling off.\n", "How to keep mouth closed when sleeping at night? I wake up every morning with a mouth that feels like sand (when I touch my tongue there seems to be no moisture whatsoever). I've tried lying on my back, either side, using lots of pillows, using no pillows. I don't know what else to do. I even tried using a sleep mask on the top of my head and using the elastic bit to hold my jaw together, but it kept falling off.\n", "How to keep mouth closed when sleeping at night? I wake up every morning with a mouth that feels like sand (when I touch my tongue there seems to be no moisture whatsoever). I've tried lying on my back, either side, using lots of pillows, using no pillows. I don't know what else to do. I even tried using a sleep mask on the top of my head and using the elastic bit to hold my jaw together, but it kept falling off.\n" ]

[ "I have very narrow nasal passages and so I've had the habit for years to breathe through my mouth when sleeping. Checking that you get enough air through your nose while sleeping can be the first thing - there are a sort of strip you can place over your nose that opens it up a bit. It's supposed to help for snoring, but can possibly help you too.\nKeep a bottle of water by the bed (or glass) and if you wake up in the night take a sip.\nTry tucking something under your chin while you sleep to keep your jaw closed, like a small pillow.\nNowadays if my nose is clear I will breathe through my nose but if it is at all constricted, I will revert to breathing through my mouth.\n\nIf nothing else helps, try a humidifier, your mouth might not feel quite so dry then.", "Have you seen a doctor about it? There's probably a reason why you are breathing through your mouth at night, and it might be treatable. \n\nI was a snorer and I woke up with a sore throat often. Turns out my nose was blocked due to allergies, which was causing me to breathe through my mouth when I was asleep. So now I have to wash my nasal passages with salt/bicarb and warm water every night to clear them before I go to bed.", "Sleep apnea sufferers can buy what's called a 'chin strap' for use with their CPAP treatment. \n\nIt's a stretchy piece of material designed to hold the jaw closed and has velcro to ensure a proper fit. \n\n", "I partially cover my mouth with my blanket. Not tightly or anything, just a fold or a corner lightly next to my face covering a small area of my mouth. Lets in just enough air to not give me a sore throat in the morning or feel out of breath trying to fall asleep. I've been doing this for years now.\n\n", "What do you drink during the day? I had this problem when I drank soda. It would keep me from feeling thirsty, but after switching to drinking mostly water I realized it was just suppressing thirst, not hydrating me. My morning dry-mouth went away when I stopped dehydrating myself.", "Amazon sells these nose plug things. Search for sleep apnea, you plug them into your nose to help them open the air passage. Makes a noticeable difference", "The reason you breathe through your mouth while sleeping is because your nose breathing is inhibited. (Could also be from snoring.)\n\n(It’s normal that one side is a bit more closed though. Especially if you ate unhealthy food like lots of short carbohydrates and heated [even just pasteurized] dairy products. So it’s pointless to attempt to keep both sides free at all times.)\n\nLie down for half an hour, and check how well you can breathe through your nose. Try it on your back, and on each side, waiting at least 15 min per position before checking. This should give you a clear cause." ]

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[ "painting a kitchen Anything from colors schemes you feel don't work, accenting colors, preparation before painting, how to reduce the mess, how to ensure an even coat, saving time and money, literally any tips would be awesome! ", "painting a kitchen Anything from colors schemes you feel don't work, accenting colors, preparation before painting, how to reduce the mess, how to ensure an even coat, saving time and money, literally any tips would be awesome! ", "painting a kitchen Anything from colors schemes you feel don't work, accenting colors, preparation before painting, how to reduce the mess, how to ensure an even coat, saving time and money, literally any tips would be awesome! ", "painting a kitchen Anything from colors schemes you feel don't work, accenting colors, preparation before painting, how to reduce the mess, how to ensure an even coat, saving time and money, literally any tips would be awesome! ", "painting a kitchen Anything from colors schemes you feel don't work, accenting colors, preparation before painting, how to reduce the mess, how to ensure an even coat, saving time and money, literally any tips would be awesome! " ]

[ "I paint for people.\n\nBuy good paint. Where I live that means the top of the range Benjamin Moore.\n\nBuy a decent $14+ brush. \n\nBuy new rollers. Don't reuse the roller refill. Buy a microfibre one.\n\nWash the existing walls quickly with a wet cloth.\n\nFill any holes with dry dex and sand them.\n\nEdge it all (cut it all) first. Maybe twice. This will be the most time consuming part.\n\nDo the rollering. Don't overload the roller. WAtch a video on youtube on how to roller.", "[Here](http://m.imgur.com/a/ora1k) is the kitchen I am looking to paint. Yes, that is orange and blue you are looking at. The previous owner had a \"Mexican Restaurant\" theme going.", "I poured a little of the leftover paint from painting my cabinets into a pint sized mason jar with a plastic lid and keep it under the sink for quick touch-ups when there's a chip in the paint. Don't have to use it often and it keeps things looking fresher.", "Don't buy all the \"special\" painting stuff. You'll see all kinds of things designed to paint corners and edges. They don't work well, as /u/chris_m_h said, get a good brush. In no time you'll figure out how to get a good bead going and edging will be simple, time consuming, but simple.", "Buy a decent portable flood light. It sounds simple, but most people don't use one. It will come in handy for other projects too. " ]

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[ "Any tips for traveling out of the country? I'm heading to Mexico here in a few days, but I really don't remember what I've previously seen from this great community. Could anybody share any tips? I'd greatly appreciate them!", "Any tips for traveling out of the country? I'm heading to Mexico here in a few days, but I really don't remember what I've previously seen from this great community. Could anybody share any tips? I'd greatly appreciate them!", "Any tips for traveling out of the country? I'm heading to Mexico here in a few days, but I really don't remember what I've previously seen from this great community. Could anybody share any tips? I'd greatly appreciate them!" ]

[ "Check to make sure you are allowed to go (COVID travel restrictions) and what the quarantine rules are if you do go. It would suck to spend your entire time there in quarantine.", "When you get there, they are going to give you a little tab of paper (from the visa form I think) when they stamp your passport. \n\nDo not lose that paper and bring it with you when you return. \n\nAdditionally, don’t drink the tap water.", "I have one, I'd say to avoid it because rn COVID is really fermented in Mexico, plus the cartels are more shitty, please don't go this is life saving advice" ]

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[ "Wall mounting without damaging the wall So I'll be off to Uni this September and I've heard that hanging things on the wall is a big no-no because it can leave markings on the walls such as nail holes or flaking paint.\n \n\nAny advice on a (cheap) way to mount things onto a wall without leaving any visible traces?\n \nI don't think I'll need to hang anything too heavy (although I'd love to use my large whiteboard, which is much more weight than posters/pictures)\n \nAdditionally, is their anyway to mount shelves without nails, or is that too much?\n", "Wall mounting without damaging the wall So I'll be off to Uni this September and I've heard that hanging things on the wall is a big no-no because it can leave markings on the walls such as nail holes or flaking paint.\n \n\nAny advice on a (cheap) way to mount things onto a wall without leaving any visible traces?\n \nI don't think I'll need to hang anything too heavy (although I'd love to use my large whiteboard, which is much more weight than posters/pictures)\n \nAdditionally, is their anyway to mount shelves without nails, or is that too much?\n", "Wall mounting without damaging the wall So I'll be off to Uni this September and I've heard that hanging things on the wall is a big no-no because it can leave markings on the walls such as nail holes or flaking paint.\n \n\nAny advice on a (cheap) way to mount things onto a wall without leaving any visible traces?\n \nI don't think I'll need to hang anything too heavy (although I'd love to use my large whiteboard, which is much more weight than posters/pictures)\n \nAdditionally, is their anyway to mount shelves without nails, or is that too much?\n", "Wall mounting without damaging the wall So I'll be off to Uni this September and I've heard that hanging things on the wall is a big no-no because it can leave markings on the walls such as nail holes or flaking paint.\n \n\nAny advice on a (cheap) way to mount things onto a wall without leaving any visible traces?\n \nI don't think I'll need to hang anything too heavy (although I'd love to use my large whiteboard, which is much more weight than posters/pictures)\n \nAdditionally, is their anyway to mount shelves without nails, or is that too much?\n", "Wall mounting without damaging the wall So I'll be off to Uni this September and I've heard that hanging things on the wall is a big no-no because it can leave markings on the walls such as nail holes or flaking paint.\n \n\nAny advice on a (cheap) way to mount things onto a wall without leaving any visible traces?\n \nI don't think I'll need to hang anything too heavy (although I'd love to use my large whiteboard, which is much more weight than posters/pictures)\n \nAdditionally, is their anyway to mount shelves without nails, or is that too much?\n", "Wall mounting without damaging the wall So I'll be off to Uni this September and I've heard that hanging things on the wall is a big no-no because it can leave markings on the walls such as nail holes or flaking paint.\n \n\nAny advice on a (cheap) way to mount things onto a wall without leaving any visible traces?\n \nI don't think I'll need to hang anything too heavy (although I'd love to use my large whiteboard, which is much more weight than posters/pictures)\n \nAdditionally, is their anyway to mount shelves without nails, or is that too much?\n", "Wall mounting without damaging the wall So I'll be off to Uni this September and I've heard that hanging things on the wall is a big no-no because it can leave markings on the walls such as nail holes or flaking paint.\n \n\nAny advice on a (cheap) way to mount things onto a wall without leaving any visible traces?\n \nI don't think I'll need to hang anything too heavy (although I'd love to use my large whiteboard, which is much more weight than posters/pictures)\n \nAdditionally, is their anyway to mount shelves without nails, or is that too much?\n" ]

[ "The high-load 3m strips will handle most things like white boards and as long as you're careful will remove without damage. ", "[IKEA STOLMEN](http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/categories/departments/bedroom/19087/) telescopic pole furniture system.", "I was going to say the same thing. I have a rental property, and it is easier for me to leave a few boxes for my tenants to use than it is to find all the holes in the wall. Make sure you leave your self some room to remove them. They do not like to be pulled off at an angle.", "[Fun-tak](http://www.walmart.com/ip/Dap-01201-Fun-Tak-Reusable-Adhesive/19862869) for your posters and such, and the 3M strips as others have recommended for heavier items.", "The [Command](http://www.command.com/wps/portal/3M/en_US/NACommand/Command/Products/Catalog/) line of products has a bunch of things. I've used the hooks many times and next I'm buying the velcro strips for hanging picture frames.", "I read in a previous comment that you are in the UK. I recommend the Command line from 3M. There are hooks or just plain mounting strips. They will all remove cleanly at the end of your use.\n\nBut - and here is the important thing - they are rare to find in stores in the UK. (They are super common in the US.) You can and will have to order them through Amazon.\n\nSource: Just did this in a London suburb to mount a router a week ago. Good old Amazon.", "I have these all over the house, hanging everything from a small mirror to keys and framed prints. Absolutely no wall damage or stickiness whatsoever. http://jimmyhook.com" ]

[ 15, 8, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2 ]

[ "How to connect with people on a personal level in an office? I just started a job three weeks ago at a large corporate office, a mellow, sleepy office with a lot of people that's been there for years. Now, as someone who is not a natural extrovert (but LOVE meeting and talking to people on a personal level), I'm trying to find a way to break-in. I've worked at smaller, more energetic, more welcoming companies before and that's the environment I'm used to. I don't need to have best friends at work, but at least I'd like to get to know people personally and find out if we have a few things in common outside of work topics. Maybe go to lunch. Any suggestions for breaking \"the ice\" gently and encouraging other people to step out would be helpful!", "How to connect with people on a personal level in an office? I just started a job three weeks ago at a large corporate office, a mellow, sleepy office with a lot of people that's been there for years. Now, as someone who is not a natural extrovert (but LOVE meeting and talking to people on a personal level), I'm trying to find a way to break-in. I've worked at smaller, more energetic, more welcoming companies before and that's the environment I'm used to. I don't need to have best friends at work, but at least I'd like to get to know people personally and find out if we have a few things in common outside of work topics. Maybe go to lunch. Any suggestions for breaking \"the ice\" gently and encouraging other people to step out would be helpful!" ]

[ "Just start conversations with people in the kitchen or at the printer and go from there. I also work in an office and a couple of colleagues and I go for walks during our lunch break. Since we're seated and stationary for so much of the day, it's nice to stretch the legs and chit chat. You could try to find a colleague or two to establish something like that if your break allows.", "Bring in cookies or donuts (something simple)...people love food and you'll make a very positive impression. Include a one line email to your department so they know they're from you." ]

[ 2, 2 ]

[ "I will soon be moving into residence in university and have a space issue. LPT Request: I will soon be moving into residence in university, and I have problems with over packing, because if I feel I'll need it once, I bring it. So any ideas on how to save space or break my habit?", "I will soon be moving into residence in university and have a space issue. LPT Request: I will soon be moving into residence in university, and I have problems with over packing, because if I feel I'll need it once, I bring it. So any ideas on how to save space or break my habit?", "I will soon be moving into residence in university and have a space issue. LPT Request: I will soon be moving into residence in university, and I have problems with over packing, because if I feel I'll need it once, I bring it. So any ideas on how to save space or break my habit?", "I will soon be moving into residence in university and have a space issue. LPT Request: I will soon be moving into residence in university, and I have problems with over packing, because if I feel I'll need it once, I bring it. So any ideas on how to save space or break my habit?", "I will soon be moving into residence in university and have a space issue. LPT Request: I will soon be moving into residence in university, and I have problems with over packing, because if I feel I'll need it once, I bring it. So any ideas on how to save space or break my habit?", "I will soon be moving into residence in university and have a space issue. LPT Request: I will soon be moving into residence in university, and I have problems with over packing, because if I feel I'll need it once, I bring it. So any ideas on how to save space or break my habit?" ]

[ "Make a short list of your essentials: laptop, *these* clothes, toiletries. These are the things you would probably travel anywhere with.\n\nCreate a secondary list with things that are relative to your studies, or are crucial to your comfort/convenience. I.E. a clamping book light, your [domokun plush](http://i.imgur.com/lJmWc.jpg) you can't sleep without, etc.\n\nIf you've slimmed down your packing enough, you'll have room for a few [personal effects](http://i.imgur.com/w5Soh.jpg) and things you may or may not use. If you don't have room or feel overpacked, you may have to revise the secondary list. \n\nIf you move/travel under similar circumstances, you only have to revise the secondary list of things related to the situation. Modular moving.", "Milk crates make awesome makeshift storage.\n\nYou can stack them on their sides to create cubby-hole like shelves that are perfect for shoes, skates, food, cds&dvds, etc...\n\nUse wire ties to zip-tie the sides together and keep them sturdy.\nWe stacked them floor to ceiling on one wall of the room and had more storage space than we knew what to do with.\n\nI know this is pretty much the opposite of what you need to hear, but it worked really well for me. My freshman year we managed to fit three 27\" tv's, two minifridges, two microwaves, a couch, a van bench seat, three desks, two wardrobes, a ladder, and a ridiculous shitton of other things we probably could have done without.\n\nOh yeah all three of us were also crammed into a 2 person room. Fuck you university housing.\n\nMove-in day I had my dodge caravan crammed full, floor to ceiling, no seats, and I managed to make it work without pissing anyone off.", "I live on a ship half of the year and have VERY limited space. A military style fold up cot mattress thing with storage underneath and a 1/2 high school style locker is literally all I get...for 6-7 months worth of stuff.\n\nGet yourself a garment bag or some other sort of protective bag and use it to store clothes under your mattress, it works best of rarely worn items like suits or something, I use it for my dress uniforms. it creates a bit of a lump but nothing that'll interrupt sleep.\n\nThey sell Velcro tape or these plastic quasi velcro tabs for hanging pictures but they're good for 10-15 pounds so if you're really serious you can use them to attach a small dvd player, alarm clock, netbook etc to the wall...plus it looks kind of cool. Also if that's not an issue you can still use them to attach an external hard drive to the screen of a laptop, eliminating the \"Oh crap i need to let this dangle or set it on my lap\" first world problem. \n\nIf you get a deep closet or go for the under the bed option, remember to store your most needed and commonly used items in the most accessible areas, so your shoes should be first and foremost but that screw driver set you use once a month can be pushed aside\n\nThat reminds me, get yourself a good multitool, I carry the Leatherman SuperTool and use it everyday, SOG is also a very good brand. you can do all the basic set up/repairs of anything from your desk to car with something that fits in your pocket.\n\nAny Walmart will have hooks that hang on the tops of doors for coats etc.\n\nI know some really creative ways to fold clothes so they take up minimal space, It's hard to describe but I can show you over skype or something so hit me up if you'd like to learn.", "Go through your stuff. If you haven't used it in more than six months or so, chuck/donate it. You haven't needed it for that long, you probably won't need it again. ", "Even if you've got a regular single bed, store stuff you don't need often *under* the bed. I've got a small tent, sleeping bag, hiking pack and all my winter clothes under my bed, out of sight.", "Yes, have someone else involved. Get a team of friends / family to advise your decisions.\n\nAnd do what THEY say." ]

[ 7, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to Clean Cloth Snickers I made a search at google and reddit but couldn't find any information really accurate about this type of snickers. Maybe because i am portuguese and i don't know the name of the cloth material used. In the store they warned me to don't clean with water, now i don't know how to clean them.\n\n[Images of the snickers](http://imgur.com/a/3Nc3d)\n\nThe spots are dust, sweat and provably alcohol (ughhh) help please?", "How to Clean Cloth Snickers I made a search at google and reddit but couldn't find any information really accurate about this type of snickers. Maybe because i am portuguese and i don't know the name of the cloth material used. In the store they warned me to don't clean with water, now i don't know how to clean them.\n\n[Images of the snickers](http://imgur.com/a/3Nc3d)\n\nThe spots are dust, sweat and provably alcohol (ughhh) help please?" ]

[ "BTW, it's \"sneakers.\" Snickers is a candy bar, unless you're wearing shoes made by the [Snickers Workwear Company] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Snickers_(workwear\\))", "I would just clean them with water and regular laundry detergent. Don't know what can possibly go wrong." ]

[ 6, 2 ]

[ "How do I cure my clammy hands? I've looked up many ways to prevent clammy/sweaty hands. All I've really seen is to wash them frequently which I do. \nI've seen a few uncanny methods like letting your hands sit in a green tea bath...but are there any particulars techniques you guys used that seemed to help??", "How do I cure my clammy hands? I've looked up many ways to prevent clammy/sweaty hands. All I've really seen is to wash them frequently which I do. \nI've seen a few uncanny methods like letting your hands sit in a green tea bath...but are there any particulars techniques you guys used that seemed to help??", "How do I cure my clammy hands? I've looked up many ways to prevent clammy/sweaty hands. All I've really seen is to wash them frequently which I do. \nI've seen a few uncanny methods like letting your hands sit in a green tea bath...but are there any particulars techniques you guys used that seemed to help??", "How do I cure my clammy hands? I've looked up many ways to prevent clammy/sweaty hands. All I've really seen is to wash them frequently which I do. \nI've seen a few uncanny methods like letting your hands sit in a green tea bath...but are there any particulars techniques you guys used that seemed to help??" ]

[ "There is a surgery that I have learned about. I'll try and find a reliable link. BUT, basically they open up your armpits and tweak a ligament or gland (or something) and it prevents your hands from sweating. \n\nIt's actually covered by most insurance as well. \n", "I'll share what I know with you, but I can't get you sources on all of this (on the phone).\n\n1. A lot of people have sweaty hands. And a group of people who needs to deal with this are pro gamers. Many of the pro league of legends players are seen with either small towels or bags of some sort before their games. This is probably one of the easiest ways to get rid of hand sweat.\n\n2. This other tip i have is only a rumor though. People have told me that you can get a surgeon to cut a nerve in your arm to stop the sweating completely. I don't have any sources on this though.", "I have this problem.\nFor the cheapest solution, i would recommend 'drysol', its for hyperhydrosis, aka excessive sweating, and you apply it at night, and it works pretty well, but your hands feel chalky all the time.\nThe other option, while more expensive, but less invasive than surgery are botox injections around the sweat glands in your hands. This is done by a dermatologist usually in about 10 mins. Worked for me, lasted 6 months, however i haven't had them for awhile because I don't care/plan on holding hands anytime soon", "My palms sweat from time to time as well, but usually from watching crazy Russians climbing skyscrapers, or standing in front of an audience. What I'm trying to say is that sweaty palms is a result of stress, so try to relaxed and be completely comfortable in any given situation. Also stay hydrated. Sorry if this isn't much help but remember, warm dry relax, cold sweaty stressed. Take it easy." ]

[ 3, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "how do i respond to someone busting my balls? Not come off as defensive or hurt I have trouble not coming off as defensive when people fuck with me, what do i do", "how do i respond to someone busting my balls? Not come off as defensive or hurt I have trouble not coming off as defensive when people fuck with me, what do i do", "how do i respond to someone busting my balls? Not come off as defensive or hurt I have trouble not coming off as defensive when people fuck with me, what do i do", "how do i respond to someone busting my balls? Not come off as defensive or hurt I have trouble not coming off as defensive when people fuck with me, what do i do", "how do i respond to someone busting my balls? Not come off as defensive or hurt I have trouble not coming off as defensive when people fuck with me, what do i do", "how do i respond to someone busting my balls? Not come off as defensive or hurt I have trouble not coming off as defensive when people fuck with me, what do i do", "how do i respond to someone busting my balls? Not come off as defensive or hurt I have trouble not coming off as defensive when people fuck with me, what do i do", "how do i respond to someone busting my balls? Not come off as defensive or hurt I have trouble not coming off as defensive when people fuck with me, what do i do", "how do i respond to someone busting my balls? Not come off as defensive or hurt I have trouble not coming off as defensive when people fuck with me, what do i do", "how do i respond to someone busting my balls? Not come off as defensive or hurt I have trouble not coming off as defensive when people fuck with me, what do i do", "how do i respond to someone busting my balls? Not come off as defensive or hurt I have trouble not coming off as defensive when people fuck with me, what do i do", "how do i respond to someone busting my balls? Not come off as defensive or hurt I have trouble not coming off as defensive when people fuck with me, what do i do" ]

[ "I find that laughing and adding to the joke at your expense is a reasonable way to go. A lot of the time you'll get the other person to stop because it's not as fun to 'bust the balls' of someone who can roll with it.\n\nIt will always come in handy to be able to laugh at yourself. ", "Bust theirs!\n\nIt's a skill. You get better with time. I'm assuming you didn't have a brother growing up, so your ball-busting skills are emaciated and weak, like the whiny little girly man you are. Maybe write down some zingers and keep them in your huge flapping vagina, that you have in between your legs in lieu of a penis.", "Self depreciating humor disarms all ball busting. \nLaughing at yourself shows you are human, you can make mistakes, you are imperfect, and you are okay with it. \nOnly you are allowed to punish yourself for your decisions and experiences. Don't let someone's sense of humor or opinion ruin your day or your self perception.", "I have the same problem. Trying to be quick witted is your best bet. Act like you don't care and take similar jab at them. If all else fails, insult their mother. ", "Be polite, depersonalise and then take on board what they’re saying as constructively as possible. \n\nFeedback should be for the benefit of the receiver not a punishment or to cement power.\n\nAt the same time do not take shit for the sake of it. Being a doormat is probably not your aim. ", "Treat them like internet trolls. Smile, and don't react negatively. Trolls are seeking a reaction from you, regardless of what if is. Don't bust their balls back. If someone is being a big jerk, deprive them of attention and pretend they don't exist. Talk about things you want to talk about to other people and be rude to the troll by not acknowledging them until they start to act nice.\n\nif you don't like how a specific person iso acting, don't get dragged into a back and forth with them.\n\nThe look on your face also matters when you're trying to play it cool. Act as though somebody you like just said a funny joke, and you're smiling residually after having had a good laugh. This makes you look like you're in a good mood. People are more likely to mess with you if you appear to be easily annoyed and walk around with a serious face all the time.", "The person busting your balls is looking to engage. Why? To make you laugh..? To impress an onlooker? To shame or scare you (assert dominance)?\n\nIf you try to insult them \"better\" it becomes a contest you've engaged in. You can do that if you want to, but realize it's what you're doing, and know your reason why. If it's a fight or flight response and you're just responding at that level, you've potentially just entered a long running war of attrition. That can be not fun.\n \nIf it's a sun tsu art of war response, and you are going to completely destroy them so they never other you again (response to bully), that has at least a known effectiveness, but you have to basically be willing to destroy them and disavow them from your life.\n\nThe third option is to deny the effectiveness of their action. If their intent is to hurt or humiliate you, show that it didn't \"I was more embarressed when...\". If their intent is to impress someone (person X), say \" Showing off for (person X)? If I were person X, I'd be the opposite of impressed by that.\" Are they trying to assert dominance (bully)? They likely feel weak themselves and want to feel more powerful. Show them if it continues they will lose even more (the power to be heard. \"Busting my balls doesn't really make we want to keep listening to you\" \n\nThey are trying to be clever perhaps, and you are showing how not clever they are, as opposed to recognizing that what they said was clever and competing to be more clever.", "If somebody is giving you shit it's because there's something wrong with them, not with you. Just laugh at em.", "I usually look at other people with just my eyes, while leaving a blank stare at the ball buster (think that little girl \"could you not\" meme) and make like the joke they are making is not that funny. Usually when I do that others follow my lead and the person feels like an idiot.\n\nOutside of that... I just do a \"ha ha\" fake laugh and walk away. Seems the hardest thing people can do in the face of bullies is to simply walk away.. its effective :) good luck! its never easy", "You know, it's okay to be defensive about stuff like this. But honestly if you can 1 up them by either making fun of them or yourself that's probs the way to go.", "If it's serious: Think to yourself \"Thank you for the information that you aren't safe for my feelings to be around.\" Then find find other people to be around.\n\nIf there is a CHANCE that it's truly just teasing and not meant to be malicious: Go through a flowchart in your head. My stepson uses this strategy because he is on the spectrum and doesn't always understand jokes and can get upset when people laugh at him:\n\nDoes this person make an effort to do kind things for me / show friendship? Yes or No\n\nIf yes... Is this person and others smiling at me when they laugh? Yes or No \n\nIf yes... Is this about something that I actually do?\n\nIf yes...etc\n\nThis helps him to avoid inappropriate outbursts.", "Depends on how they're fucking with you. Is it good-natured fun or are they actually bullying you?\n\nIf it's the former, go along with the joke and join in. Find something to throw back at them. If it's the latter, you're best just ignoring it." ]

[ 51, 37, 7, 5, 3, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0, 0 ]

[ "Smells in Cars I buy a one or two year old used car every other year or so. Even though some of them have 40k miles on them, they always smell brand new. Even if the previous owner was a smoker, can't smell it.\n\nAnd the \"new car smell\" lasts a lot longer than anything I've ever tried from an auto parts store or wherever. So how to dealers deodorize used cars so thoroughly, and how can I do it? I do smoke but I don't want my car to smell like it.\n\nThanks", "Smells in Cars I buy a one or two year old used car every other year or so. Even though some of them have 40k miles on them, they always smell brand new. Even if the previous owner was a smoker, can't smell it.\n\nAnd the \"new car smell\" lasts a lot longer than anything I've ever tried from an auto parts store or wherever. So how to dealers deodorize used cars so thoroughly, and how can I do it? I do smoke but I don't want my car to smell like it.\n\nThanks", "Smells in Cars I buy a one or two year old used car every other year or so. Even though some of them have 40k miles on them, they always smell brand new. Even if the previous owner was a smoker, can't smell it.\n\nAnd the \"new car smell\" lasts a lot longer than anything I've ever tried from an auto parts store or wherever. So how to dealers deodorize used cars so thoroughly, and how can I do it? I do smoke but I don't want my car to smell like it.\n\nThanks", "Smells in Cars I buy a one or two year old used car every other year or so. Even though some of them have 40k miles on them, they always smell brand new. Even if the previous owner was a smoker, can't smell it.\n\nAnd the \"new car smell\" lasts a lot longer than anything I've ever tried from an auto parts store or wherever. So how to dealers deodorize used cars so thoroughly, and how can I do it? I do smoke but I don't want my car to smell like it.\n\nThanks", "Smells in Cars I buy a one or two year old used car every other year or so. Even though some of them have 40k miles on them, they always smell brand new. Even if the previous owner was a smoker, can't smell it.\n\nAnd the \"new car smell\" lasts a lot longer than anything I've ever tried from an auto parts store or wherever. So how to dealers deodorize used cars so thoroughly, and how can I do it? I do smoke but I don't want my car to smell like it.\n\nThanks" ]

[ "[This](http://www.amazon.com/Glycol-Ized-Professional-Sanitizer-Freshener-Original/dp/B000FEPW40) shit works wonders. Also, an open package or can of coffee grounds will leave your car smelling like a cup of joe without any of that dank smell. Courtesy of r/trees.", "I went to a lumber store and got a about 5-6 board feet of Spanish Cedar. It's a great smelling wood and incredibly cheap. Leave it in your car on a warm day for however long you can, or just drive around with it. Your car will smell mind blowing.", "When i starts to smell take a bowl whit concenentrated vineagaer(spelling?) and put the bowl in the car over night.", "I have tried hard to cope with that... like air freshner etc ... but it doesn't help in the long run... put some flowers that might help. I guess they are cheap there like here.", "I had my friend shit himself while sitting in the passenger seat during a 30 minute car ride.\n\nTook care of it pretty well. Would not recommend." ]

[ 5, 2, 0, -1, -1 ]

[ "For those that carry a wallet in their back pocket, How do you keep your wallet from ruining your credit cards? What do you do to keep the chip and magnetic strip in good condition? It doesn't take long before my cards are in poor condition and no longer work from them being stacked together and the abrasion of sitting on them.", "For those that carry a wallet in their back pocket, How do you keep your wallet from ruining your credit cards? What do you do to keep the chip and magnetic strip in good condition? It doesn't take long before my cards are in poor condition and no longer work from them being stacked together and the abrasion of sitting on them.", "For those that carry a wallet in their back pocket, How do you keep your wallet from ruining your credit cards? What do you do to keep the chip and magnetic strip in good condition? It doesn't take long before my cards are in poor condition and no longer work from them being stacked together and the abrasion of sitting on them.", "For those that carry a wallet in their back pocket, How do you keep your wallet from ruining your credit cards? What do you do to keep the chip and magnetic strip in good condition? It doesn't take long before my cards are in poor condition and no longer work from them being stacked together and the abrasion of sitting on them.", "For those that carry a wallet in their back pocket, How do you keep your wallet from ruining your credit cards? What do you do to keep the chip and magnetic strip in good condition? It doesn't take long before my cards are in poor condition and no longer work from them being stacked together and the abrasion of sitting on them.", "For those that carry a wallet in their back pocket, How do you keep your wallet from ruining your credit cards? What do you do to keep the chip and magnetic strip in good condition? It doesn't take long before my cards are in poor condition and no longer work from them being stacked together and the abrasion of sitting on them.", "For those that carry a wallet in their back pocket, How do you keep your wallet from ruining your credit cards? What do you do to keep the chip and magnetic strip in good condition? It doesn't take long before my cards are in poor condition and no longer work from them being stacked together and the abrasion of sitting on them." ]

[ "You can always request a new card from your bank or CC company. I tend to go though cards well before they expire and have generally requested new ones at least once a year.", "I carry four cr", "Had the same problem, so I changed to a money clip style wallet and reduced the cards I carry. Far smaller so either keep it in my shirt pocket, or side pocket in pants.", "Nothing special. As long as cards fit snug there shouldn't be any issues. Also, it helps to only carry the card(s) you use on a regular basis. Doing so eliminate the need to pull all of them out to find the one you want.", "I wonder how well it would work if I put a clear protective film over the cards, sort of like laminating or something with adhesive, or just the portion of it with the chip and strip.", "I keep mine in individual pockets in the wallet and put a business card between the strip and the wallet to protect it.", "I have never had my cards stop working or in poor condition. Upon reading your post I guess that's because I don't have a rolodex of 95% outdated, useless cards in my wallet. I think the answer here is pretty clear but I suspect you were hoping for something else lol." ]

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[ "Life advice for a 22 years old (I'll be 23 next September) I'm currently working a common job as a cashier, I'm saving money and looking for hobbies that could guide me into what is going to be my profession, currently I'm trying learning languages and I wanna get into maybe teaching my mother language, English and transmit some of the cool stuff I learn to others. I'm working on my habits and developing a good character.\n\nAnything that comes to your mind, any idea or question I should know about to enhance my journey is greatly appreciated", "Life advice for a 22 years old (I'll be 23 next September) I'm currently working a common job as a cashier, I'm saving money and looking for hobbies that could guide me into what is going to be my profession, currently I'm trying learning languages and I wanna get into maybe teaching my mother language, English and transmit some of the cool stuff I learn to others. I'm working on my habits and developing a good character.\n\nAnything that comes to your mind, any idea or question I should know about to enhance my journey is greatly appreciated", "Life advice for a 22 years old (I'll be 23 next September) I'm currently working a common job as a cashier, I'm saving money and looking for hobbies that could guide me into what is going to be my profession, currently I'm trying learning languages and I wanna get into maybe teaching my mother language, English and transmit some of the cool stuff I learn to others. I'm working on my habits and developing a good character.\n\nAnything that comes to your mind, any idea or question I should know about to enhance my journey is greatly appreciated", "Life advice for a 22 years old (I'll be 23 next September) I'm currently working a common job as a cashier, I'm saving money and looking for hobbies that could guide me into what is going to be my profession, currently I'm trying learning languages and I wanna get into maybe teaching my mother language, English and transmit some of the cool stuff I learn to others. I'm working on my habits and developing a good character.\n\nAnything that comes to your mind, any idea or question I should know about to enhance my journey is greatly appreciated", "Life advice for a 22 years old (I'll be 23 next September) I'm currently working a common job as a cashier, I'm saving money and looking for hobbies that could guide me into what is going to be my profession, currently I'm trying learning languages and I wanna get into maybe teaching my mother language, English and transmit some of the cool stuff I learn to others. I'm working on my habits and developing a good character.\n\nAnything that comes to your mind, any idea or question I should know about to enhance my journey is greatly appreciated", "Life advice for a 22 years old (I'll be 23 next September) I'm currently working a common job as a cashier, I'm saving money and looking for hobbies that could guide me into what is going to be my profession, currently I'm trying learning languages and I wanna get into maybe teaching my mother language, English and transmit some of the cool stuff I learn to others. I'm working on my habits and developing a good character.\n\nAnything that comes to your mind, any idea or question I should know about to enhance my journey is greatly appreciated", "Life advice for a 22 years old (I'll be 23 next September) I'm currently working a common job as a cashier, I'm saving money and looking for hobbies that could guide me into what is going to be my profession, currently I'm trying learning languages and I wanna get into maybe teaching my mother language, English and transmit some of the cool stuff I learn to others. I'm working on my habits and developing a good character.\n\nAnything that comes to your mind, any idea or question I should know about to enhance my journey is greatly appreciated", "Life advice for a 22 years old (I'll be 23 next September) I'm currently working a common job as a cashier, I'm saving money and looking for hobbies that could guide me into what is going to be my profession, currently I'm trying learning languages and I wanna get into maybe teaching my mother language, English and transmit some of the cool stuff I learn to others. I'm working on my habits and developing a good character.\n\nAnything that comes to your mind, any idea or question I should know about to enhance my journey is greatly appreciated", "Life advice for a 22 years old (I'll be 23 next September) I'm currently working a common job as a cashier, I'm saving money and looking for hobbies that could guide me into what is going to be my profession, currently I'm trying learning languages and I wanna get into maybe teaching my mother language, English and transmit some of the cool stuff I learn to others. I'm working on my habits and developing a good character.\n\nAnything that comes to your mind, any idea or question I should know about to enhance my journey is greatly appreciated", "Life advice for a 22 years old (I'll be 23 next September) I'm currently working a common job as a cashier, I'm saving money and looking for hobbies that could guide me into what is going to be my profession, currently I'm trying learning languages and I wanna get into maybe teaching my mother language, English and transmit some of the cool stuff I learn to others. I'm working on my habits and developing a good character.\n\nAnything that comes to your mind, any idea or question I should know about to enhance my journey is greatly appreciated", "Life advice for a 22 years old (I'll be 23 next September) I'm currently working a common job as a cashier, I'm saving money and looking for hobbies that could guide me into what is going to be my profession, currently I'm trying learning languages and I wanna get into maybe teaching my mother language, English and transmit some of the cool stuff I learn to others. I'm working on my habits and developing a good character.\n\nAnything that comes to your mind, any idea or question I should know about to enhance my journey is greatly appreciated", "Life advice for a 22 years old (I'll be 23 next September) I'm currently working a common job as a cashier, I'm saving money and looking for hobbies that could guide me into what is going to be my profession, currently I'm trying learning languages and I wanna get into maybe teaching my mother language, English and transmit some of the cool stuff I learn to others. I'm working on my habits and developing a good character.\n\nAnything that comes to your mind, any idea or question I should know about to enhance my journey is greatly appreciated" ]

[ "Read the Power of Habit, if you haven’t already. \n\nYou will find the synopsis on Wikipedia. \n\nhttps://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Power_of_Habit", "You can learn trades: plumbing, carpentry, electrical etc. those skills will service you all your life.", "Never say anything that is not true, kind, or necessary about another person. This will keep you from gossiping.", "Save your Money and wait for the next Stock Collapse... then Buy.\n\nFind Joy in what you do for a living.\n\nSomething i keep telling myself: you don't \"have\" to do a damn thing... everything you do is your choice.", "Maintain a regular exercise schedule and eat well. Learn how to maintain your car, can save you a lot down the line. Have good spending/budgeting habits", "Keep hobbies and work mostly separate. You can love what you do, but it will kill the joy it brings you when you're at home. Find what you are *good* at. Be proud of that. Do that for a living. Do your hobbies at home. If you really try, most trade jobs have paid apprenticeships that pay better than cashiers. And nobody will look down if you jump from one to another every year. Else, go get an education. Lots of schools are doing courses for free online, that give legitimate cr", "As I got older I spent more time with my grandparents. Asked my parents to tell me stories of their youth. So much knowledge there.", "You'll get pay rises at different points in your career, and the temptation to grow your lifestyle is so tempting. But save. At least a percentage or any raise. The more you save and put into pensions/investments, the happier you'll be when you get older.", "Find ways to have the money you make and save work for you. Time is your friend when it comes to compound interest.", "Work on losing your ego and ideas of invincibility before your ego/invincibility is crushed (through your own doings)\n\nDon’t make any relationship commitments until you can hold a roof over your own head and one other . Wrap it up; or hit a sperm bank and then snip it.", "I’ve been playing music my whole life and I find it incredibly rewarding. That could be something to try", "Don’t compare your self to anyone. Everyone has their own path. There will be people your age and younger then you doing better but that doesn’t matter. You time to shine is coming. And most importantly. Your life can completely change in 2 weeks!!!" ]

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[ "getting into the habit of brushing and flossing I've been terrible with this my whole life, I'm working on getting over some depression and this is the last thing I can't seem to brute force the habit for, do you guys have any tips?", "getting into the habit of brushing and flossing I've been terrible with this my whole life, I'm working on getting over some depression and this is the last thing I can't seem to brute force the habit for, do you guys have any tips?", "getting into the habit of brushing and flossing I've been terrible with this my whole life, I'm working on getting over some depression and this is the last thing I can't seem to brute force the habit for, do you guys have any tips?", "getting into the habit of brushing and flossing I've been terrible with this my whole life, I'm working on getting over some depression and this is the last thing I can't seem to brute force the habit for, do you guys have any tips?", "getting into the habit of brushing and flossing I've been terrible with this my whole life, I'm working on getting over some depression and this is the last thing I can't seem to brute force the habit for, do you guys have any tips?", "getting into the habit of brushing and flossing I've been terrible with this my whole life, I'm working on getting over some depression and this is the last thing I can't seem to brute force the habit for, do you guys have any tips?", "getting into the habit of brushing and flossing I've been terrible with this my whole life, I'm working on getting over some depression and this is the last thing I can't seem to brute force the habit for, do you guys have any tips?", "getting into the habit of brushing and flossing I've been terrible with this my whole life, I'm working on getting over some depression and this is the last thing I can't seem to brute force the habit for, do you guys have any tips?", "getting into the habit of brushing and flossing I've been terrible with this my whole life, I'm working on getting over some depression and this is the last thing I can't seem to brute force the habit for, do you guys have any tips?", "getting into the habit of brushing and flossing I've been terrible with this my whole life, I'm working on getting over some depression and this is the last thing I can't seem to brute force the habit for, do you guys have any tips?", "getting into the habit of brushing and flossing I've been terrible with this my whole life, I'm working on getting over some depression and this is the last thing I can't seem to brute force the habit for, do you guys have any tips?", "getting into the habit of brushing and flossing I've been terrible with this my whole life, I'm working on getting over some depression and this is the last thing I can't seem to brute force the habit for, do you guys have any tips?", "getting into the habit of brushing and flossing I've been terrible with this my whole life, I'm working on getting over some depression and this is the last thing I can't seem to brute force the habit for, do you guys have any tips?" ]

[ "Floss in the shower. Sounds weird, but this tip from my hygienist has me flossing more often. She also suggested flossing while watching tv, but that is not my thing.", "I deal with depression too. I have all kinds of alarms set that remind me to do daily habits, hygiene is one. Keeping a schedule as much as I can helps me get things done better.", "Incorporate it into an existing routine if you can. For me, it's much easier to build a new habit when it's grouped with an established one that I am less likely to sway from. \"well I'm already doing X, might as well do Y.\" In the mornings, I gotta go to the bathroom to pee so brushing is just another step in the routine while I'm there. It's more difficult for me to stick to it at night since I tend to go to bed at different times.", "I can see a lot of people said to set a reminder, I tried that. But days where I just didn't want to get out of bed, I just closed the reminder and lay there. \n\nThis worked for me and hopefully will help you out. I wrote it over my sink mirror with a white board marker. It's a list of things I need to do. So like flossing or brushing my hair, using that special soap once a day for my face etc. \n\nThen everytime I have to go to the bathroom to pee and wash my hands, I see the list and see which things I still haven't done that day. \n\nIt's nothing crazy, but it helped me. I hope you get through this and get into flossing just as a first step. Even if you just notice it, consider it a step in the right direction :)", "Get to the point where you need a couple route canals, a bunch of cavities fills, and a gingivectomy all at once costing you a couple grand out of pocket. Nothing corrects errant behavior like financial woes..\n\n&#x200B;\n\nMy dentist recommends flossing in the car on the way to or from work, and also a waterpik system for the shower. Flossing and brush at the same time.", "Try changing the time of day. I tried to be a pre-bed flosser for years, but was a shameful failure. I switched to doing it in the mornings when I brush my teeth. While I’m not perfect, I can say I get six days out of seven.", "Personal grooming is a huge issue for me as I also have depression, simple tasks seem like the biggest thing in the world. I keep loads of stuff in the shower, including a toothbrush case so can brush in the shower. Its not perfect but at least makes me brush every day.", "Perhaps it’s better to look at what’s preventing you from doing it? You could set a reminder for when it’s suppose to happen, so that a habit can be formed.", "Tell yourself that you're only going to brush (or floss) one tooth... and mean it.\n\nIt'll trick your mind into thinking it's an easy task.\n\nNow that you've already put on the toothpaste and brushed your one tooth, you might as well continue to the others.", "I hated flossing for years until my dentist laid it out flat for me and told me that my gums were getting bad. Started using a waterpick and it got me in the habit of the routine. Now I just use thin floss and I never go a day without flossing. The wretched smell that comes from skipping a day of flossing is worth it to me to do it every night.", "I had the same challenge. The key is to start by just showing up, no more. Set a goal to just floss *ONE* tooth. That's it. You get full cr", "I call bullshit on flossing every day. Once a week is fine for me and my teeth, or when there's something stuck in there. The biggest game changer for my dental health was getting an electric toothbrush. These pearly's have never been so clean since, verified by my dental 'professionals'. Admittedly, they also claim I have unusually hard teeth, so maybe flossing more often will produce positive results. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nDon't beat yourself up too much, IMO. Just stay healthy, the rest doesn't matter.", "Carry floss on you to work, and do it on company time after your lunch. This will help you get into the habit, and you don't have anything to lose since you're forced to be at work anyway." ]

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[ "How to stop all videos from automatically playing on web pages with video ads. My apologies if this has already been requested/posted. Its really annoying when videos automatically play. I use Chrome and have set the settings to not play but they still when I visit a new page. Any help is appreciated. Thank you all. ", "How to stop all videos from automatically playing on web pages with video ads. My apologies if this has already been requested/posted. Its really annoying when videos automatically play. I use Chrome and have set the settings to not play but they still when I visit a new page. Any help is appreciated. Thank you all. " ]

[ "Flashblock extension or Noscript (or both, which you should be running anyway, really).\n\nIf you're not using a browser that can make use of extensions, now would be a good time to start!", "I've gotten in the habit of requiring any video player to ask me before working: you can do this by going to your Add-ons tab, and setting them to \"ask to activate\".\n\nThis can be annoying when you're on a video site (YouTube), but the rest of the time, it saves a lot of annoyance." ]

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[ "How to follow up for a position after submitting a resume online. Not sure if this is the right place to ask, but it seems like a good starting point.\n\nI put in a resume online for a position at a hospital. I'm really interested in the job and would like to follow up because I feel like showing my interest may lead to better results. I have the information for the hospital, so the practical measures aren't an issue. It's the professional/social part of it I suppose. I don't know the proper/appropriate way to go about doing so.", "How to follow up for a position after submitting a resume online. Not sure if this is the right place to ask, but it seems like a good starting point.\n\nI put in a resume online for a position at a hospital. I'm really interested in the job and would like to follow up because I feel like showing my interest may lead to better results. I have the information for the hospital, so the practical measures aren't an issue. It's the professional/social part of it I suppose. I don't know the proper/appropriate way to go about doing so.", "How to follow up for a position after submitting a resume online. Not sure if this is the right place to ask, but it seems like a good starting point.\n\nI put in a resume online for a position at a hospital. I'm really interested in the job and would like to follow up because I feel like showing my interest may lead to better results. I have the information for the hospital, so the practical measures aren't an issue. It's the professional/social part of it I suppose. I don't know the proper/appropriate way to go about doing so." ]

[ "Use their preferred method of communication whether it be email, phone, whatever. Make sure to be friendly and reiterate your interested in their position. Make sure to genuinely thank them for taking time out of their busy schedule to interview with you. Also mention that you are looking forward to any future correspondence from them.\n\nYou're good to go!\n\nAnother Tip: The prefix 'Inter' actually means **between**. Don't think of an interview as a one way street where they just grill you about your qualifications. If you are genuinely interested in the position you should be asking all the questions you can think of (that are relevant), observing the facility, testing the general mood in the office, etc. An interview is a two way street where you can also evaluate your possible employer and determine if you are actually interested in the position. You should try to sell yourself, but you are *also the buyer*. It is a mutually beneficial arrangement you are looking for.", "After sending online applications I like to wait a few days and then call them. The best thing you could do is ask if they had any questions from your application or needed more information from you. Usually, they haven't even gotten around to looking at it yet. But, calling them lets them know you're interested and see you as more than name on a paper. \n\nIt's always worked for me - good luck!", "Back wheb U was getting jobs I woukd fubd iut where the ingervuewer wirjs and bake them something fgood to eat, that makes you look good and gives ou a good excuese to visit the place adnd submit a thabk you letter for considering your application, " ]

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[ "Make a food stock that doesn't (or takes a long time to) expire. I want to create a food stock in my house with a variety of food products that don't expire or that are at least good for another couple of years. I'm looking for food that provides a balanced diet, e.g. vegetables, meat, fish, etc. Any tips? Thanks Reddit :-)!", "Make a food stock that doesn't (or takes a long time to) expire. I want to create a food stock in my house with a variety of food products that don't expire or that are at least good for another couple of years. I'm looking for food that provides a balanced diet, e.g. vegetables, meat, fish, etc. Any tips? Thanks Reddit :-)!", "Make a food stock that doesn't (or takes a long time to) expire. I want to create a food stock in my house with a variety of food products that don't expire or that are at least good for another couple of years. I'm looking for food that provides a balanced diet, e.g. vegetables, meat, fish, etc. Any tips? Thanks Reddit :-)!", "Make a food stock that doesn't (or takes a long time to) expire. I want to create a food stock in my house with a variety of food products that don't expire or that are at least good for another couple of years. I'm looking for food that provides a balanced diet, e.g. vegetables, meat, fish, etc. Any tips? Thanks Reddit :-)!", "Make a food stock that doesn't (or takes a long time to) expire. I want to create a food stock in my house with a variety of food products that don't expire or that are at least good for another couple of years. I'm looking for food that provides a balanced diet, e.g. vegetables, meat, fish, etc. Any tips? Thanks Reddit :-)!", "Make a food stock that doesn't (or takes a long time to) expire. I want to create a food stock in my house with a variety of food products that don't expire or that are at least good for another couple of years. I'm looking for food that provides a balanced diet, e.g. vegetables, meat, fish, etc. Any tips? Thanks Reddit :-)!", "Make a food stock that doesn't (or takes a long time to) expire. I want to create a food stock in my house with a variety of food products that don't expire or that are at least good for another couple of years. I'm looking for food that provides a balanced diet, e.g. vegetables, meat, fish, etc. Any tips? Thanks Reddit :-)!" ]

[ "Stock up on dried rice and beans, keep them in dry containers with tight fitting lids. \n\nAs for other stuff that'd normally be perishable, just go for canned or frozen. Yes, many of these items with have expiration dates, but you might just have to deal with throwing away (or using up) and re-purchasing certain items over ", "I think the trick is shelf-stable pantry items that you usually use and can live on solely.\n\nFor us, I always keep a full costco case of canned diced tomatoes, tomato sauce, and tomato paste. I also buy beans and white rice in bulk(brown has a tendency to go rancid if left too long), nuts, and a certain level of stocking for meat in the freezer. A few pounds of dried pasta, plus general pantry stock like capers and olives will get you a puttanesca sauce. \n\nAs far as meat, I keep canned sardines, tuna, and chicken.\n\nThe trick with keeping things on hand is to have a minimum stocking level for many items (I keep a case of diced canned tomatoes, and when I open it, I add it to my costco list so I'm never out). \n\nI think the most important thing is buying stuff you actually eat. For us, rice, beans, hot sauce, canned tomatoes, and canned fish are all shelf stable (if we have no power to keep refrigerated things safe to eat, this is important), and all end up in our regular rotation of items that we cook with and eat regularly, so they are always being replenished.\n\nBonus points for keeping dried apples, several butternut squash, and stuff like garlic, onions, and lemons on hand.", "Honestly to get what you want you need to go with something like [this](https://practicalpreppers.com/online-shop/food-solutions/wise-food-storage-60-serving-entree-only-detail-view). I'm guessing this is over kill but really the only way to get a diet like what you want without an expiration. Like it was said meat is very hard to store but you don't need meat in a diet if you supplement with other sources of protein. There are a few beans that can do this and then obviously protein powders/bars.\n\nFinally a lot (almost all) foods are required to have a set expiration date even if the food could be viable after that date (in the USA at least) so doing a little digging on some foods they may store longer then printed. ", "Get a chest freezer. The [chart](http://www.almanac.com/sites/new.almanac.com/files/316_howlongkeep.pdf) reckons uncooked chicken and game meat would last about a year. My experience is that chicken gets freezer burn and I've had beef and mutton that seemed fine after a year. You can get frozen vegies and toss them in there too, also cook up some soup, pour into a container and freeze. Tinned foods has been suggested already, also vacuum sealed oatmeal can last some time. You're going to be a bit screwed on the dairy though. ", "What circumstances are you hoping to mitigate with this? Knowing what you are trying to achieve makes it easier to answer your question.", "Well, you won't find any meat that'll keep for over a year. The absolute ABSOLUTE longest I'd keep it in the freezer is 12 months... maybe... A lot of it is good for a couple months though, so if you can handle that... :)\n\nFrozen vegetables are good.\n\nFreezer > anywhere else, really. That's my tip I suppose.\n\nHmm... I guess my 2nd tip is Canned foods...\n\nAaaaaaaand 3rd tip is gummy bear vitamins!!! haha. Not really. But they're so good... and they make sure you're getting vitamins even with a limited diet... and they last a long time... so. yeah.\n\n3 tips >:)", "The best idea i can come up with is a vacation, from what you normally eat. Go to a local wilderness area with traps and look for bugs and squirrels ect. small berries and even some types of bushes and grass is edible. Try a clove salad topped with ants and a small bird. Learn to cook, and figure out how to make a meal for your self like our primitive ancestors did. Once people finish their conventional food they will no doubt die unless they can survive eating unconventional food. In a worse case scenario you can eat another person. First thing you need to do is shed your fear of food and learn about indigenous plants and herbs, squirrels love acorns and you can eat them both!" ]

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[ "My sister is 7 months pregnant and i want to send her some easy recipes. Hello! My sister isn't exactly a novice at cooking, and frankly, neither am I... my problem is, my meals often take 45 minutes to an hour or more when I'm cooking. With a newborn, she'll want/need 15-30 minute meals. I will put my hour long recipes in there (like my Chicken Parmesan) it's a family favorite and I figure she'd want it anyway. Also, she's cooking for 2, just her and her boyfriend, I think they're good with leftovers, but I don't think she wants massive amounts of food.", "My sister is 7 months pregnant and i want to send her some easy recipes. Hello! My sister isn't exactly a novice at cooking, and frankly, neither am I... my problem is, my meals often take 45 minutes to an hour or more when I'm cooking. With a newborn, she'll want/need 15-30 minute meals. I will put my hour long recipes in there (like my Chicken Parmesan) it's a family favorite and I figure she'd want it anyway. Also, she's cooking for 2, just her and her boyfriend, I think they're good with leftovers, but I don't think she wants massive amounts of food.", "My sister is 7 months pregnant and i want to send her some easy recipes. Hello! My sister isn't exactly a novice at cooking, and frankly, neither am I... my problem is, my meals often take 45 minutes to an hour or more when I'm cooking. With a newborn, she'll want/need 15-30 minute meals. I will put my hour long recipes in there (like my Chicken Parmesan) it's a family favorite and I figure she'd want it anyway. Also, she's cooking for 2, just her and her boyfriend, I think they're good with leftovers, but I don't think she wants massive amounts of food.", "My sister is 7 months pregnant and i want to send her some easy recipes. Hello! My sister isn't exactly a novice at cooking, and frankly, neither am I... my problem is, my meals often take 45 minutes to an hour or more when I'm cooking. With a newborn, she'll want/need 15-30 minute meals. I will put my hour long recipes in there (like my Chicken Parmesan) it's a family favorite and I figure she'd want it anyway. Also, she's cooking for 2, just her and her boyfriend, I think they're good with leftovers, but I don't think she wants massive amounts of food.", "My sister is 7 months pregnant and i want to send her some easy recipes. Hello! My sister isn't exactly a novice at cooking, and frankly, neither am I... my problem is, my meals often take 45 minutes to an hour or more when I'm cooking. With a newborn, she'll want/need 15-30 minute meals. I will put my hour long recipes in there (like my Chicken Parmesan) it's a family favorite and I figure she'd want it anyway. Also, she's cooking for 2, just her and her boyfriend, I think they're good with leftovers, but I don't think she wants massive amounts of food.", "My sister is 7 months pregnant and i want to send her some easy recipes. Hello! My sister isn't exactly a novice at cooking, and frankly, neither am I... my problem is, my meals often take 45 minutes to an hour or more when I'm cooking. With a newborn, she'll want/need 15-30 minute meals. I will put my hour long recipes in there (like my Chicken Parmesan) it's a family favorite and I figure she'd want it anyway. Also, she's cooking for 2, just her and her boyfriend, I think they're good with leftovers, but I don't think she wants massive amounts of food.", "My sister is 7 months pregnant and i want to send her some easy recipes. Hello! My sister isn't exactly a novice at cooking, and frankly, neither am I... my problem is, my meals often take 45 minutes to an hour or more when I'm cooking. With a newborn, she'll want/need 15-30 minute meals. I will put my hour long recipes in there (like my Chicken Parmesan) it's a family favorite and I figure she'd want it anyway. Also, she's cooking for 2, just her and her boyfriend, I think they're good with leftovers, but I don't think she wants massive amounts of food." ]

[ "If you want to do your sister a total solid, the perfect gift that will save her so much time\nIs an instapot. I’m a single mum of two and I do love to cook but since having two kids I don’t have as much time to cook. Instapot recipes are SO easy and SO quick and is a lifesaver to a new\nMama. ❤️", "Easy. Tell the baby's father to cook. She can sit and relax and give directions. It's cooking not rocket science. 😁", "It's technically not a quick meal, but have you considered crock pot recipes? Short and easy prep for a filling meal that doesn't require a lot of attention.", "Look at freezer instapot recipes.\n\nYou can premake and freeze a passel. Peel the bag, toss it in, and press the buttons, come back in 30-75 min.", "If she lives in the same town with a bunch of family, organize a pretend cooking service whereby each family member drops by with a dish. She can keep them in the freezer and thaw when she is ready to use.", "Congratulations to you all. 🙂\n\nI agree with the Instapot comment. It’s saved me a lot of time. \n\nOne tip that helped me when my children were newborns that we kept as they grew up is to either cook the night before for tomorrow or (if someone is home to do this) cook the day’s meals first thing in the morning. You won’t have to rush, stress, or be too hungry while you’re cooking. There’s peace of mind that the task is done as well. All the best.", "Congrats to your sister and her boyfriend! Kudos to you for trying to help her out from afar. 👍\n\n[Budget Bytes](https://www.budgetbytes.com/) is one of the best places to find *quick, healthy and budget conscious* recipes. There are excellent directions with pictures along with a breakdown of the cost of the dish. \n\nSome of my favorites are:\n\n[Chili Cheese Beef and Mac](https://www.budgetbytes.com/chili-cheese-beef-n-mac/) $7.81/recipe\n\n[Sweet and Spicy Glazed Chicken Thighs](https://www.budgetbytes.com/sweet-and-spicy-glazed-chicken-thighs/) $4.83/recipe\n\n[Pork & Peanut Dragon Noodles](https://www.budgetbytes.com/pork-peanut-dragon-noodles/) $3.75/recipe\n\n[Weeknight Bean and Cheese Enchiladas](https://www.budgetbytes.com/weeknight-enchiladas/) $6.70/recipe" ]

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[ "My wife and I just got bicycles for the purpose of exercise. Would love some help in terms of comfort / practicality. ", "My wife and I just got bicycles for the purpose of exercise. Would love some help in terms of comfort / practicality. ", "My wife and I just got bicycles for the purpose of exercise. Would love some help in terms of comfort / practicality. ", "My wife and I just got bicycles for the purpose of exercise. Would love some help in terms of comfort / practicality. " ]

[ "Set the seat to a comfortable position NOW, your gooch and your wife's privates will thank you for it. Make sure the bike is in the correct gears for the appropriate situations if they have them. Wear loose fitting clothes that won't make you sweat. If you are unsure on your bikes, use helmets and pads.", "If you have not rode in a while just expect yer ass to hurt at first, after a few weeks 20 miles on the bike won't feel like anything at all....just give it time and don't give up cuz your in pain on day 1 or 2 or 3...", "If you are biking for exercise you don't really sit on the seat. Its there more to guide where to put your ass. If you try to sit on it for long it won't be comfortable and you won't be getting much exercise. ", "Fight the urge to go out and purchase a cushy seat right away. Ride a bit first. Read \"Just Ride\" by Grant Petersen. While I don't agree with everything he says there's a lot of good advice and information. " ]

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[ "Dealing with unwanted people Sometimes I have trouble dealing with people I don't really want to talk to. In public, in a group, on the phone, it happens all the time. What are some good ways of getting out of a coversation without being rude or mean to that person?", "Dealing with unwanted people Sometimes I have trouble dealing with people I don't really want to talk to. In public, in a group, on the phone, it happens all the time. What are some good ways of getting out of a coversation without being rude or mean to that person?", "Dealing with unwanted people Sometimes I have trouble dealing with people I don't really want to talk to. In public, in a group, on the phone, it happens all the time. What are some good ways of getting out of a coversation without being rude or mean to that person?", "Dealing with unwanted people Sometimes I have trouble dealing with people I don't really want to talk to. In public, in a group, on the phone, it happens all the time. What are some good ways of getting out of a coversation without being rude or mean to that person?", "Dealing with unwanted people Sometimes I have trouble dealing with people I don't really want to talk to. In public, in a group, on the phone, it happens all the time. What are some good ways of getting out of a coversation without being rude or mean to that person?" ]

[ "As a New yorker, this comes out natural. Hey! How are you? Its good to see you. I will catch you another day got to go. And thats all ", "You greet them with an intense/busy \"Hello <name>, what can I do for you?\"\n\nThis puts them on the spot. If they have a point, they get to it. If they don't, it is clear they are wasting your time.\n\nYou can do this and still be cordial.\n", "You can always try the Minnesotan way: Well, I'm sure you're busy -- I should let you go. (then start to turn away, indicating that the conversation is over)", "Interrupt them and ask, \"do you have enough life insurance?\" Proceed to sell them the most expensive whole life plan you can find.", "\"Sorry! Can't talk, in a rush\", then walk away, yes you'll look like a complete dick at this point but in half an hour send them a text apologising and explain you were running late, ask them how they are and then kill any text conversation which comes up with simple replies. " ]

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[ "how to make friends in college I'm about to leave for college in a few months, and I'm worried about making new friends. I'm relatively outgoing, but mainly around people I know. Throw me in with strangers, and I'm super shy. I'd really like to be able to walk up to anyone and strike up a conversation and be all confident and stuff, but I'm not sure how to go about doing that. I'd like to befriend a lot of people in college, so any tips on how to make friends and just in general be an outgoing person? Thanks!", "how to make friends in college I'm about to leave for college in a few months, and I'm worried about making new friends. I'm relatively outgoing, but mainly around people I know. Throw me in with strangers, and I'm super shy. I'd really like to be able to walk up to anyone and strike up a conversation and be all confident and stuff, but I'm not sure how to go about doing that. I'd like to befriend a lot of people in college, so any tips on how to make friends and just in general be an outgoing person? Thanks!", "how to make friends in college I'm about to leave for college in a few months, and I'm worried about making new friends. I'm relatively outgoing, but mainly around people I know. Throw me in with strangers, and I'm super shy. I'd really like to be able to walk up to anyone and strike up a conversation and be all confident and stuff, but I'm not sure how to go about doing that. I'd like to befriend a lot of people in college, so any tips on how to make friends and just in general be an outgoing person? Thanks!", "how to make friends in college I'm about to leave for college in a few months, and I'm worried about making new friends. I'm relatively outgoing, but mainly around people I know. Throw me in with strangers, and I'm super shy. I'd really like to be able to walk up to anyone and strike up a conversation and be all confident and stuff, but I'm not sure how to go about doing that. I'd like to befriend a lot of people in college, so any tips on how to make friends and just in general be an outgoing person? Thanks!", "how to make friends in college I'm about to leave for college in a few months, and I'm worried about making new friends. I'm relatively outgoing, but mainly around people I know. Throw me in with strangers, and I'm super shy. I'd really like to be able to walk up to anyone and strike up a conversation and be all confident and stuff, but I'm not sure how to go about doing that. I'd like to befriend a lot of people in college, so any tips on how to make friends and just in general be an outgoing person? Thanks!", "how to make friends in college I'm about to leave for college in a few months, and I'm worried about making new friends. I'm relatively outgoing, but mainly around people I know. Throw me in with strangers, and I'm super shy. I'd really like to be able to walk up to anyone and strike up a conversation and be all confident and stuff, but I'm not sure how to go about doing that. I'd like to befriend a lot of people in college, so any tips on how to make friends and just in general be an outgoing person? Thanks!", "how to make friends in college I'm about to leave for college in a few months, and I'm worried about making new friends. I'm relatively outgoing, but mainly around people I know. Throw me in with strangers, and I'm super shy. I'd really like to be able to walk up to anyone and strike up a conversation and be all confident and stuff, but I'm not sure how to go about doing that. I'd like to befriend a lot of people in college, so any tips on how to make friends and just in general be an outgoing person? Thanks!", "how to make friends in college I'm about to leave for college in a few months, and I'm worried about making new friends. I'm relatively outgoing, but mainly around people I know. Throw me in with strangers, and I'm super shy. I'd really like to be able to walk up to anyone and strike up a conversation and be all confident and stuff, but I'm not sure how to go about doing that. I'd like to befriend a lot of people in college, so any tips on how to make friends and just in general be an outgoing person? Thanks!", "how to make friends in college I'm about to leave for college in a few months, and I'm worried about making new friends. I'm relatively outgoing, but mainly around people I know. Throw me in with strangers, and I'm super shy. I'd really like to be able to walk up to anyone and strike up a conversation and be all confident and stuff, but I'm not sure how to go about doing that. I'd like to befriend a lot of people in college, so any tips on how to make friends and just in general be an outgoing person? Thanks!", "how to make friends in college I'm about to leave for college in a few months, and I'm worried about making new friends. I'm relatively outgoing, but mainly around people I know. Throw me in with strangers, and I'm super shy. I'd really like to be able to walk up to anyone and strike up a conversation and be all confident and stuff, but I'm not sure how to go about doing that. I'd like to befriend a lot of people in college, so any tips on how to make friends and just in general be an outgoing person? Thanks!", "how to make friends in college I'm about to leave for college in a few months, and I'm worried about making new friends. I'm relatively outgoing, but mainly around people I know. Throw me in with strangers, and I'm super shy. I'd really like to be able to walk up to anyone and strike up a conversation and be all confident and stuff, but I'm not sure how to go about doing that. I'd like to befriend a lot of people in college, so any tips on how to make friends and just in general be an outgoing person? Thanks!", "how to make friends in college I'm about to leave for college in a few months, and I'm worried about making new friends. I'm relatively outgoing, but mainly around people I know. Throw me in with strangers, and I'm super shy. I'd really like to be able to walk up to anyone and strike up a conversation and be all confident and stuff, but I'm not sure how to go about doing that. I'd like to befriend a lot of people in college, so any tips on how to make friends and just in general be an outgoing person? Thanks!", "how to make friends in college I'm about to leave for college in a few months, and I'm worried about making new friends. I'm relatively outgoing, but mainly around people I know. Throw me in with strangers, and I'm super shy. I'd really like to be able to walk up to anyone and strike up a conversation and be all confident and stuff, but I'm not sure how to go about doing that. I'd like to befriend a lot of people in college, so any tips on how to make friends and just in general be an outgoing person? Thanks!", "how to make friends in college I'm about to leave for college in a few months, and I'm worried about making new friends. I'm relatively outgoing, but mainly around people I know. Throw me in with strangers, and I'm super shy. I'd really like to be able to walk up to anyone and strike up a conversation and be all confident and stuff, but I'm not sure how to go about doing that. I'd like to befriend a lot of people in college, so any tips on how to make friends and just in general be an outgoing person? Thanks!" ]

[ "Only use the internet for school and necessary things such as banking and email and I'm sure you will be off to a swell start. Getting off the computer and out with your peers is the only way to do it", "Just keep reminding yourself that everyone you meet is in the exact same position. You're all starting fresh, and so you're all eager to make new friends and find out about each other.\n\nWhen dorm mates are having social events, go. Talk with people before and after class. Say yes to group invitations if your lab group are hanging out at a party or whatever. Join a group or society that interests you. \n\nCollege feels different friend-wise because it's your first foray into making friends from scratch as an adult. But really, you've done this before and you'll do it again, over and over. You'll be surprised how well the college experience is designed to help the process of meeting new people. Have fun.", "Honestly, it is almost impossible to not make friends in college; especially if you live in a dorm. My group of friends included some of the most socially awkward people I've ever known (the type that hug themselves and rock in a corner while mumbling).\n\nEveryone is in the same boat as you. The cliques from HS no longer exist. You will do fine.", "Recent college grad here. Knowing that every student was in the same boat as me gave me the confidence to make all kinds of friends. I did whatever I could to meet as much people in the first few weeks, such as going to school events, club outreaches, classes, and dorm living. Always initiate and get to know everyone, including where they are from and their intrests; its fun getting to know different types of people", "Join a group on campus with a common interest such anime, chess, sports, etc. Check bulletin boards or the campus news paper to see what is available to you.", "I wouldn't worry about making friends in college. You get to know people very well that are in your study/ lab groups well and they will most likely become your friends. I started college 2 years ago (I'm studying Engineering) and I have a group of friends that I'm really close to because we were in the same lab groups in 1st year. I was working with them so much that we became friends and started going for lunch everyday and such. In my view, people in college are more accepting and open than people in school (they're probably just more mature) so everyone gets along very well, no matter what type of person you are. ", "I highly recommend going to class. That's where I met most of my friends (usually from being paired up as lab partners or project partners, etc.). I also decided I would move into dorm type housing which forced me to live with strangers and meet new people, I made a lot of friends that way as well. \n \nDon't be discouraged if it takes awhile... it just does sometimes. I used to be super shy and then one day I realized I was wasting my times. No one cares. No one cares if you're shy. If you just go for it, say something, introduce yourself... you'll never regret it. The worst case is that you don't end up being great friends but you have nothing to lose! You'll eventually meet awesome people though, just keep putting yourself out there! ", "I don't think you need to worry about making friends as it will come to you naturally thru group work and assignments. You will meet people that you will feel comfortable with, maybe not at first but you'll find people that will fit in with your personality as you get to know them and they get to know you. Then you get to meet their friends and that's how your network will start to grow. By the time you graduate college, you'll have a group that will hang out with you for the years to come...until you have kids. That's when they kind of leave you alone. :)", "On the first day of every new class, sit down next to people and say hi right away and introduce yourself. Ask them what they are studying and where they are from. It's not weird to say hi on the first day and it's nice to have friends in your classes! Follow up and say hi the next few days, ask to study or hangout outside of class. ", "Live in the freshman dorms, talk to the people around you in class, you will see those same people in the cafeteria. By the end of the year, you will know almost everyone!", "It's easy to make friends with people who have similar majors. You will be taking the same classes as these students for 4 years so try to reach out to a few early. ", "I made my best friends while being shy and reading in a tree. There are a lot of people like you. Do what you love and invite others to do it too.", "As an addition to some of the good advice in this thread, consider joining a club or team. I found it a lot easier to make friends on campus once I had made a few in a more comfortable club setting. Many clubs allow you to be extremely flexible with your commitment (unless you explicitly accept more responsibility) and it's a good way to meet people with similar interests from multiple years of study rather than just people in your program.", "1. Live in the dorms. \n\n2. Leave your dorm room door open when you are inside (unless you're sleeping or doing private stuff, duh). This will cause people to come by and talk to you. I cannot emphasize this one enough. Leave your door open. \n\n3. Talk to people in your dorm who have their doors open. Before going to the cafeteria to eat, ask if anyone with their door open wants to go eat. \n\n4. Join clubs, a social fraternity/sorority, and a fraternity related to your major.\n\n5. Get a job where other college students work." ]

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[ "How to Deal With Leg Cramps At my work, sometimes I'm required to stand for 7+ hours a day, and when I get home, my legs start cramping up and sometimes wake me up in the middle of the night. I end up taking a really hot bath to soothe them a bit, and usually that helps to a degree. Anyone else know of any better methods?", "How to Deal With Leg Cramps At my work, sometimes I'm required to stand for 7+ hours a day, and when I get home, my legs start cramping up and sometimes wake me up in the middle of the night. I end up taking a really hot bath to soothe them a bit, and usually that helps to a degree. Anyone else know of any better methods?", "How to Deal With Leg Cramps At my work, sometimes I'm required to stand for 7+ hours a day, and when I get home, my legs start cramping up and sometimes wake me up in the middle of the night. I end up taking a really hot bath to soothe them a bit, and usually that helps to a degree. Anyone else know of any better methods?", "How to Deal With Leg Cramps At my work, sometimes I'm required to stand for 7+ hours a day, and when I get home, my legs start cramping up and sometimes wake me up in the middle of the night. I end up taking a really hot bath to soothe them a bit, and usually that helps to a degree. Anyone else know of any better methods?" ]

[ "Prevention: Stretch once in a while. Avoid staying still for too long, that just makes it worse. Stretching helps loosen muscles.\n\nIf you do end up cramping, first thing you should do is breathe very deeply and slowly. It helps get oxygen into your bloodstream and to the muscles. Once you feel the pain begin to go away, start to move the cramped area a little, but only a little. The pain will still be there, but it won't feel as tight.\n\nSource: I've had cramps so many times in so many places that it's not even funny.\n\n", "lol i dont know if this works for anyone else.But stretch your toes upwards, it gets rid of mine instantly. ", "Bananas have potassium (sorry if repost) it well help prevent.also stand on stairs with just your tip toes and move yourself up and down to rid yourself of a cramp already there", "I play high school football and let me tell you, my legs starts cramping in the middle of 4th quarter and it is the worst pain ever, especially on the calves, before games my coach would give these pills called leg cramps, and it has all these vitamins to stop it and prevent it. And also this may sound weird but pickle juice, when I do cramp up I fall and can't stand up and my teammates would give me pickle juice(ready in the equipment bag) and i would be cramp free within 3 minutes. Also drink coconut water and banana, Hope that helps!!" ]

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[ "Can I reject after signing an offer letter? Intro: I'm based in South Africa (SA) and my fiancee recently moved to the UK through her job. Because of this, I've been looking for jobs in London and jobs for multinationals in SA to position myself so it's easier to transfer to the company's London offices. \n\nScene 1: After 2 months of searching, I got an SA offer from Company A, a multinational that just launched here and will be launching operations in Europe (starting in London) in Q4 2022. I signed the offer and I'm currently serving notice at my current company starting my new role in December. I was honest and transparent in the interview. I told them that my partner was moving to the UK and even asked for flexibility in the way of being allowed to WFH in London for 2 weeks at a time. I also told them that I was being interviewed by other companies, including Company B, another multinational but with a role based in London.\n\nScene 2: The first interview with Company B didn't go far (I didn't tell Company A's recruiter that, though) but they reached out for another role that fit my profile a better + quite a bit more money. Company B now wants me and as mentioned above, I've signed an offer letter with Company A. \n\nHow best can I navigate these unfamiliar waters? I was quite ecstatic with what Company A offered but Company B's offer is very attractive, I'll be commuting to their HO in New York and the role is based in the city where my fiancee is. The thing is, I don't want to burn any bridges with Company A because Company A and B are the biggest players in this industry. If I opt for Company B, I might never have an opportunity to work for Company A ever again.", "Can I reject after signing an offer letter? Intro: I'm based in South Africa (SA) and my fiancee recently moved to the UK through her job. Because of this, I've been looking for jobs in London and jobs for multinationals in SA to position myself so it's easier to transfer to the company's London offices. \n\nScene 1: After 2 months of searching, I got an SA offer from Company A, a multinational that just launched here and will be launching operations in Europe (starting in London) in Q4 2022. I signed the offer and I'm currently serving notice at my current company starting my new role in December. I was honest and transparent in the interview. I told them that my partner was moving to the UK and even asked for flexibility in the way of being allowed to WFH in London for 2 weeks at a time. I also told them that I was being interviewed by other companies, including Company B, another multinational but with a role based in London.\n\nScene 2: The first interview with Company B didn't go far (I didn't tell Company A's recruiter that, though) but they reached out for another role that fit my profile a better + quite a bit more money. Company B now wants me and as mentioned above, I've signed an offer letter with Company A. \n\nHow best can I navigate these unfamiliar waters? I was quite ecstatic with what Company A offered but Company B's offer is very attractive, I'll be commuting to their HO in New York and the role is based in the city where my fiancee is. The thing is, I don't want to burn any bridges with Company A because Company A and B are the biggest players in this industry. If I opt for Company B, I might never have an opportunity to work for Company A ever again.", "Can I reject after signing an offer letter? Intro: I'm based in South Africa (SA) and my fiancee recently moved to the UK through her job. Because of this, I've been looking for jobs in London and jobs for multinationals in SA to position myself so it's easier to transfer to the company's London offices. \n\nScene 1: After 2 months of searching, I got an SA offer from Company A, a multinational that just launched here and will be launching operations in Europe (starting in London) in Q4 2022. I signed the offer and I'm currently serving notice at my current company starting my new role in December. I was honest and transparent in the interview. I told them that my partner was moving to the UK and even asked for flexibility in the way of being allowed to WFH in London for 2 weeks at a time. I also told them that I was being interviewed by other companies, including Company B, another multinational but with a role based in London.\n\nScene 2: The first interview with Company B didn't go far (I didn't tell Company A's recruiter that, though) but they reached out for another role that fit my profile a better + quite a bit more money. Company B now wants me and as mentioned above, I've signed an offer letter with Company A. \n\nHow best can I navigate these unfamiliar waters? I was quite ecstatic with what Company A offered but Company B's offer is very attractive, I'll be commuting to their HO in New York and the role is based in the city where my fiancee is. The thing is, I don't want to burn any bridges with Company A because Company A and B are the biggest players in this industry. If I opt for Company B, I might never have an opportunity to work for Company A ever again.", "Can I reject after signing an offer letter? Intro: I'm based in South Africa (SA) and my fiancee recently moved to the UK through her job. Because of this, I've been looking for jobs in London and jobs for multinationals in SA to position myself so it's easier to transfer to the company's London offices. \n\nScene 1: After 2 months of searching, I got an SA offer from Company A, a multinational that just launched here and will be launching operations in Europe (starting in London) in Q4 2022. I signed the offer and I'm currently serving notice at my current company starting my new role in December. I was honest and transparent in the interview. I told them that my partner was moving to the UK and even asked for flexibility in the way of being allowed to WFH in London for 2 weeks at a time. I also told them that I was being interviewed by other companies, including Company B, another multinational but with a role based in London.\n\nScene 2: The first interview with Company B didn't go far (I didn't tell Company A's recruiter that, though) but they reached out for another role that fit my profile a better + quite a bit more money. Company B now wants me and as mentioned above, I've signed an offer letter with Company A. \n\nHow best can I navigate these unfamiliar waters? I was quite ecstatic with what Company A offered but Company B's offer is very attractive, I'll be commuting to their HO in New York and the role is based in the city where my fiancee is. The thing is, I don't want to burn any bridges with Company A because Company A and B are the biggest players in this industry. If I opt for Company B, I might never have an opportunity to work for Company A ever again.", "Can I reject after signing an offer letter? Intro: I'm based in South Africa (SA) and my fiancee recently moved to the UK through her job. Because of this, I've been looking for jobs in London and jobs for multinationals in SA to position myself so it's easier to transfer to the company's London offices. \n\nScene 1: After 2 months of searching, I got an SA offer from Company A, a multinational that just launched here and will be launching operations in Europe (starting in London) in Q4 2022. I signed the offer and I'm currently serving notice at my current company starting my new role in December. I was honest and transparent in the interview. I told them that my partner was moving to the UK and even asked for flexibility in the way of being allowed to WFH in London for 2 weeks at a time. I also told them that I was being interviewed by other companies, including Company B, another multinational but with a role based in London.\n\nScene 2: The first interview with Company B didn't go far (I didn't tell Company A's recruiter that, though) but they reached out for another role that fit my profile a better + quite a bit more money. Company B now wants me and as mentioned above, I've signed an offer letter with Company A. \n\nHow best can I navigate these unfamiliar waters? I was quite ecstatic with what Company A offered but Company B's offer is very attractive, I'll be commuting to their HO in New York and the role is based in the city where my fiancee is. The thing is, I don't want to burn any bridges with Company A because Company A and B are the biggest players in this industry. If I opt for Company B, I might never have an opportunity to work for Company A ever again." ]

[ "I’m not 100% sure how it works in England, but it is very common for employees to back out of job offers in America. It’s not a legally binding document, more just a good faith gesture of commitment signing the offer letter", "In the US it’s totally possible. SOURCE: Signed an offer letter last summer, ended up not working at the company I had signed the letter for.", "You can do whatever you want. Your not a slave. Just tell them you got a better offer. Its business, not personal. Any of them would do the same thing. Chances are down the road if you want to apply to them, they won’t even remember or care.", "Let's look at the facts:\n\nCompany A will keep you in SA but allow you to WFH in London for 2 weeks at a time. But how often? Every 2 weeks? Once a quarter? Twice a year? They also plan to launch operations in London in the near future, but what assurances do you have that there will be a position for you at the new operation? If there's no assurances, would you be content with maintaining the travel back and forth from SA to London over the long term?\n\nCompany B offered you a position that you believe is a much better fit for your particular skill set and is also offering more money. You said the job is based in London, but requires commuting to the home office in NY, but what is the frequency and duration of travel? \n\nImo, I think it comes down to which company you believe offers the best job security, advancement opportunities, and satisfies your long term needs, which is living/working in the same city as your fiancee.\n\nAs for burning bridges, I'd say you're more likely to burn a bridge with Co A since you've already accepted the offer. I won't speculate as to how much the company holds it against you since I have no idea who they are or what their culture is, so this is just straight up speculation. You can tell Co B that you appreciate the offer but you've already accepted another position and I doubt anyone would get seriously butthurt over that. \n\nI wish I could offer you very specific \"do this\" advice, but just not possible. All I can suggest is trying to look big picture and go with the offer that you believe offers you the most over the long term.\n\nGood luck.", "Can confirm it’s also very common to back out of offers in the UK and often without any lasting damage to your career. Sure it’s probably frustrating for them in the moment, but you won’t be the first or last person to take a better offer. Some sectors are competitive and it’s not uncommon for people to bounce back and forth between the big name companies in specific sectors. If company B ticks more of your boxes for your life right now then go for it." ]

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[ "How should one act if abducted? What are some techniques that have proven to save/extend someone's life that would be helpful to know in case of an abduction? Even further, what are some ways to avoid being kidnapped if someone is attempting?\n", "How should one act if abducted? What are some techniques that have proven to save/extend someone's life that would be helpful to know in case of an abduction? Even further, what are some ways to avoid being kidnapped if someone is attempting?\n", "How should one act if abducted? What are some techniques that have proven to save/extend someone's life that would be helpful to know in case of an abduction? Even further, what are some ways to avoid being kidnapped if someone is attempting?\n", "How should one act if abducted? What are some techniques that have proven to save/extend someone's life that would be helpful to know in case of an abduction? Even further, what are some ways to avoid being kidnapped if someone is attempting?\n", "How should one act if abducted? What are some techniques that have proven to save/extend someone's life that would be helpful to know in case of an abduction? Even further, what are some ways to avoid being kidnapped if someone is attempting?\n", "How should one act if abducted? What are some techniques that have proven to save/extend someone's life that would be helpful to know in case of an abduction? Even further, what are some ways to avoid being kidnapped if someone is attempting?\n" ]

[ "I was a bank teller for nearly a decade and have attended many training sessions about personal safety / mock robberies. Every one I ever attended basically told us that you better fight like hell to not be taken because most likely you won't escape alive. Fake a heart attack and drop to the ground, fake a seizure, kick and scram like never before or whatever you can do to avoid being taken at all. If all else fails, die trying to escape. ", "I've thought about this a lot and here is my advice. If you have anything on you ( like a bag with keys, phone wallet) throw them off you in different directions. This way you are leaving clues so are more likely to be found. Scratch the abducter on the face or somewhere visible...this way THEY have evidence on them that they can't hide. Leave traces of yourself on them like pieces of your hair, spit on their clothes... basically leave as much evidence of yourself on them as you possibly can to optimise your chances of being found ( or them being caught). If they are taking you, pinch the underside of their arm where the tricep muscle is as hard as you can ( trust me this hurts). Aim to disarm them in any way by either targeting their balls or putting your finger in their eyes. As soon as they have a moment of weakness proceed to run and throw your things everywhere. Scream as loud as you can at all times (even before they approach you) This will rattle them and they will probably leave you alone for someone easier. If you ever suspect someone is following you, immediately make yourself assertive. Look them in the eye and take out your phone and pretend to talk to someone. Establish details; where u are, what time it is, what they look like. Stand taller and wider and make it known that you will not go down without a fight. Anyway sorry its not in order I'm just saying it as I think it! Hope this helps! ", "Immediately vomit on yourself and shit your pants. Nobody, but nobody is taking you hostage.\n\nThis sounds like a joke, but it's human nature. nobody wants to touch or even be near someone who has lost control of bodily functions.", "If you've already been abducted, I read somewhere that familiarizing yourself with your abductor will actually help you far more than just panicking. It makes your abductor make you seem as a human being rather than an object they are stealing. Telling them your name, age, hobbies and etc and being cognizant of where you are will help I'm sure. being abducted is different from being kidnapped, they don't want you dead, they want you as a hostage.", "First off if you are not already get a conceal carry permit from a qualified instruction course and purchase a pistol suitable for yo specifically. Train with it constantly and get comfortable with it. If the situation arises if you have the opportunity run and scream as loud as possible but if you can not do this safely then be prepared to shoot your would be kidnapper or nappers. If they have a gun pointed at you look to see if it is a semi automatic pistol. If it is then you can disengage the firing pin by pressing on the barrel but be prepared to react quickly. If it's a revolver you may be able to swipe it away in time so the round goes off away from you. These are just suggestions and should be noted that no plan survives first contact. Train for the unkown.>What are some techniques that have proven to save/extend someone's life that would be helpful to know in case of an abduction? Even further, what are some ways to avoid being kidnapped if someone is attempting?\n", "The gun is a bad idea. You want the abductor to see you as a person who has a name, future plans and dreams, and people who care about you." ]

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[ "Reddit, what are your best techniques for hiding visible nervousness such as sweaty palms or blushing? I have a job interview in a few days that is incredibly important and just thinking about it makes me sweat! What tricks do you use to hide or eliminate sweaty palms/pits, flushed face, unsteady voice, etc during stressful situations? ", "Reddit, what are your best techniques for hiding visible nervousness such as sweaty palms or blushing? I have a job interview in a few days that is incredibly important and just thinking about it makes me sweat! What tricks do you use to hide or eliminate sweaty palms/pits, flushed face, unsteady voice, etc during stressful situations? ", "Reddit, what are your best techniques for hiding visible nervousness such as sweaty palms or blushing? I have a job interview in a few days that is incredibly important and just thinking about it makes me sweat! What tricks do you use to hide or eliminate sweaty palms/pits, flushed face, unsteady voice, etc during stressful situations? " ]

[ "Throw things. People forget about your sweaty hands if there's a stapler hurtling at them. \nThis could be a r/shittylifeprotip\n\nBut really. I'd say deep breaths help to calm your voice. Act natural. And one that I like: Make it seem like you're keeping eye contact with interviewer by looking right between his/her eyebrows. ", "* It sounds cheesy, but PRACTICE PRACTICE PRACTICE. Practice in front of a mirror. Practice with a friend. Call your family and practice over the phone. It's okay to feel silly because feeling a little silly means you're smiling. Use that to your advantage so that you remember to smile during the interview. Don't focus on what you think you're doing wrong while you're practicing. Focus on what you feel your strong points are, and build them up and outward.\n\n* Go over your list of job qualifications. Add to it as much as possible (even small things). Ask a friend or family member if they can think of anything to add....you'll see you've got a lot of good qualities and that can act as a confidence booster to help calm some of those nerves. You're ready. You're qualified.\n\n\n* Be honest. Job interviews are scary things, most employers are probably expecting you to be a little bit nervous. If you get a little jittery during the interview say \"Sorry, I'm really excited for this opportunity.\" DON'T say \"Sorry, I'm a little nervous\" or something negative, because then the interviewer is going to remember you as the person who is so nervous they can't contain it. Saying you're \"excited for an opportunity\" seems like a positive quality.\n\n* Imagine that you're already working there when you walk in. And make the interviewer imagine it too. Ask questions like, \"Where would I be sitting?\" You might be nervous, but the interviewer is now picturing you sitting somewhere in the building and working, and that's a good thing.\n\n* Use a good deodorant before you walk in.\n\n* If the interview is in the morning, make sure to have a good breakfast. If it's around lunch, eat before you go! Pop a breath mint right before you go in.\n\n* If you feel like you're going to be too nervous to talk or remember everything, it's okay to bring note cards. The employer can take it as great organization.\n\n* Pay attention to your body language and the interviewer's. You're nervous, so you're going to want to naturally close yourself off. Make sure you're sitting \"open\". Possibly mirror some of the positions the interviewer is in (not in an obsessive or creepy way though). \"Mimicry is the finest form of flattery\" is true with body language, seeing you as familiar is like sub-conscious bonus points.", "Walk and in boldly say, 'Good morning, sir, how are you?' in a loud, command voice.\n\nThe first impression will be stuck with them throughout the entire conversation, and as long as you don't make a drastic change in voice tone, i.e. 'HHHHHEEEELLLLLLLLLLOOOOOOOO SIR i am bob'.\n\nAct over confident. I'm a skinny, 100 pound shy twat who got in good with the principal and vice principal of the school I attend just because I wanted to fuck with the vice a bit, and I walked up to him while he was speaking to someone and went, 'Nice to meet you, sir, and that is a fine haircut, almost as good as mine'. And then I was like, '*What the fuck have I done?*'\n\nIt pays off, though. Me and him are now great friends, he excuses me out of my late classes by going, 'My boy, don't worry 'bout it. You tell 'im* I* had to see ya'." ]

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